Your Amazing Divorce: Recent Episodes
Doreen Yaffa
What if your divorce could end up being one of the best things that could ever happen to you? Of course divorce can be difficult; however, struggle is optional. If you’re recently divorced and feeling lost, confused or defeated, “Your Amazing Divorce” is for you. Hosted by Doreen Yaffa, marital and family lawyer and certified life coach who's been coaching and consulting women for over 26 years. Doreen is committed to empowering her clients and others, using her unique knowledge and experience to help them best move forward in a way that creates a sense of balance and sanity. DISCLAIMER: The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for educational purposes only. As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions. Email questions to DYaffa@lifebalancelawyer.com
The phrase "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results" is widely used as a cautionary statement about ineffective habits. In this episode Doreen and Jeff explore how the phrase is often used metaphorically to highlight irrational persistence without meaningful change. Want to explore how this idea applies to decision-making and behavior? This episode is for you.
Considering divorce or coping with a spouse’s decision to end your marriage? This episode explores the complex emotional landscape and practical realities of divorce, unpacking both its potential benefits and challenges. We delve into how divorce can bring freedom, personal growth, and relief from unhealthy relationships, while also addressing common struggles like financial difficulties, emotional stress, and the impact on children.
We discuss the pros of divorce such as gaining independence, escaping toxic relationships, and creating a healthier environment for children, alongside personal growth opportunities. At the same time, we examine the cons including loneliness, financial strain, emotional turmoil, social stigma, and the complexities of the legal process. Understanding these factors can help you prepare for the transition ahead.
Whether you're contemplating divorce or have already begun the process, this episode offers thoughtful insights and compassionate guidance. Remember, seeking professional support—through therapists, divorce coaches, or mediators—can make a significant difference in managing the challenges and rebuilding a fulfilling life after divorce.
In this heartfelt episode, we dive into those overwhelming days when getting out of bed feels impossible—especially during the emotional storm of divorce. Hosts Doreen and Jeff explore the delicate balance between honoring your feelings and taking small steps forward. They share practical strategies like gentle movement, self-compassion, and mindful separation of facts from fears to help navigate the emotional weight that divorce brings.
Jeff offers insights from his personal experience, highlighting the importance of distinguishing between physical and mental struggles and responding with kindness rather than judgment. Together, they emphasize how reaching out for support and breaking down challenges into manageable actions can prevent the spiral of isolation and anxiety. With relatable tips like organizing your space, planning ahead, and adopting flexible self-care routines, they remind listeners that healing is a process—and it’s okay to have “off” days.
Tune in for a supportive conversation filled with empathy and actionable advice designed to help anyone facing difficult transitions. Whether you’re in the thick of divorce or just battling a tough day, this episode encourages you to acknowledge your emotions, practice patience with yourself, and keep moving forward one small step at a time. You’re not alone, and strength grows from the moments you show up for yourself.
In this episode 182, Jeff and Doreen discuss a powerful tool that has been invaluable in everyone’s own life, exercise. It might seem like a simple solution to complex problems, but trust me, the benefits of regular physical activity during challenging times, including divorce, are profound and far-reaching. So, let's dive into why I call divorce and exercise "the perfect marriage".
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss the Fresh Start Effect. It’s that Intrinsic power of starting over and fresh. There are moments that promote this like a birthday, the New year and even a divorce. This is why so many people experience this start fresh mind set throughout even other milestones and other times, like a new semester in school, a new sports season (elaborate on…) , a new job, the birth of a child, a wedding, or even a death. These are all times when something ends and something new begins. Well divorce can also, and research shows does have this same intrinsic power to ignite this power inside that comes with something ending and something new beginning. The Fresh Start Effect is very alive and available to you from your divorce.
Divorce is often perceived as a culmination of failure, marked by heartache and loss. Yet, beneath the surface of this challenging experience lies a powerful journey of vulnerability and courage. Embracing vulnerability allows individuals to confront their deepest fears, express their emotions, and acknowledge their struggles. This raw openness can lead to profound personal growth and healing. At the same time, courage plays a crucial role in navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how vulnerability and courage go hand and hand and are important parts of the divorce process. It takes immense strength to make the difficult decision to end a marriage, to face the uncertainties of single life, and to rebuild oneself anew. This exploration of vulnerability and courage illuminates the resilience inherent in the divorce process, revealing that it is not merely an ending but also an opportunity for renewal and self-discovery.
Divorce can significantly impact children's well-being, affecting their emotional, social, and academic development. It is a difficult period for all family members, necessitating understanding and support to navigate the transition effectively. The effects vary depending on the child's age, temperament, and the support system available.
In this episode Jeff and Doreen explore the issues with parents and their children after divorce.
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In a divorce, the fate of the marital home can vary significantly depending on several factors, including state laws, the couple's financial circumstances, and the agreements made during the divorce process. In the episode Jeff and Doreen will talk about the ins and outs and the dos and don’ts of what happens to the family home during the divorce process.
In episode 177, Jeff and Doreen dive into the complexities of divorce proceedings, particularly highlighting the advantages of settling a divorce case prior to going to trial. They emphasize that while emotions can run high during this process, finding common ground and reaching an agreement can lead to a more favorable outcome for both parties.
Jeff and Doreen discuss “Learning to let go of the things that don’t matter”, being inspired by Mark Manson’s incredible book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**.
Divorce can leave you carrying a heavy load—expectations, regrets, and societal judgments—but today, we’re going to explore how to choose where to invest your energy and focus on what truly brings value to your life.
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In this episode Jeff and Doreen wishes you the best New Year ever and talk about new starts and the opportunities we have with a brand-new year ahead of us. The reality is, we can choose to have a new start whenever we want, not just at the beginning of the year. We have more control over our lives than we often realize.
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Divorce can feel like an emotional battlefield, but the key to surviving and thriving through it is understanding that not every fight is worth your energy. During this episode, we will dive into why and how you can make smarter decisions on what to fight or not fight over during one of the most challenging transitions in your life.
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The holidays are here once again and if you’re not feeling the warm and fuzzies we understand. The holidays can bring up some memories that can be both good and bad. TV commercials, social media or just people in general are telling you to be thankful, merry and joyful. Easier said than done! In episode 173 Jeff and Doreen discuss some tips to help you make it through the holidays.
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Remember the fairy tales we read as children? Snow White? Cinderella? Beauty and the Beast? Each ended with one version or another of “…and they lived happily ever after.”
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss how the idea of "They lived happily ever after" is not possible because life is 50/50. Imperfect and full of trials and disappointments. This story book phrase is a romantic illusion that can lead to disappointment when people expect life to be perfect.
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Can a Marriage Survive Adultery? Yes, many marriages do survive infidelity. For thousands of couples, working through the pain and betrayal, learning to forgive, and establishing firm boundaries to prevent future issues have all helped them to rebuild their relationships. With commitment, a renewed focus on growth, and the actions that make love deepen, some marriages even become stronger than they were before. It’s essential to recognize that it’s not the affair itself that strengthens the bond. Rather, it’s the wake-up call and the hard work that follows, allowing the couple to rebuild a solid, healthier relationship.
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During a divorce, you’re surrounded by a sea of information—but not all sources are equally reliable. With just a few taps on your phone, you can access an entire library of legal documents, guides, and more. Alongside what’s online, you’ll likely receive advice from friends, family, and acquaintances, many of whom may have their own experiences to share (or at least think they do). In this whirlwind of input, it can be challenging to separate helpful guidance from misguided advice. Should you trust your close friend’s perspective, or follow the advice of that well-meaning online blogger? When it comes to something as important as your divorce, knowing who to trust is essential. And, Boundaries is in Episode #8, #9 and #119.
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One of the lessons that we have teach often is how to recognize the 50-50 good/bad of the world. And a big part of that is learning how to accept pain and to develop the capacity to feel. In the episode Doreen and Jeff discuss the benefits of excepting your feelings and working through the emotions you will experience in marriage, during divorce and after divorce.
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Running away from emotions and the feelings you’re experiencing before, during and after divorce is often a coping mechanism that can make your problems harder to deal with in the long run. In this episode Doreen and Jeff talk about getting unstuck during your marriage, divorce and afterwards. They discuss that getting unstuck doesn’t mean that you will suddenly going to have clarity about what the rest of your journey will look like, however, baby steps will be the catalyst to get started. Often, getting unstuck means taking a few steps in the dark, and feeling our way through. And that’s OK.
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In this episode Doreen and Jeff give you more clarity on when it’s time to divorce. If you are in any stage of confusion, this episode is a must listen to. They discuss the warning signs that just might give you the ah ha you need to make the correct discussion in your best interest.
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In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss different ways to speed up the divorce process. They will give up ways to speed up the process and will not only save you time, but it may also save you money, emotion, and stress. The less confrontational the divorce, generally, the less time it will take.
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We are talking about the big things, little things. We are talking about daily things, talking about hourly things, and lifelong things. Today in episode 165, we are talking about honoring your own wants. We think it’s impossible to live the fullest expression of yourself if you don’t honor your own wants. There are a lot of people either accepting, “I don’t know” and not caring enough about what they want, or denying what they want for what someone else wants for them. Let’s discuss your wants.
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Regret is typically not a very useful emotion. It has us worrying and stressed. It’s usually over something that’s happened or been done. It’s like a missed opportunity or a failed event is kind of how I think about it. And the feeling is this intense disappointment over having made the “wrong” decision.
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how regret will not serve your wants or your goals.
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In this exciting episode you’ll find out how Doreen Yaffa, a high power Board Certified Family Attorney of almost 30 years and her husband, 4th degree Black Belt, Sensei Jeff Wilson both became Life Coaches and started their business Life After Divorce Coaching in Boca Raton, Florida.
This episode will also appear for the first time on YouTube. So, hear or see them explain their motivation and love for helping others before, during and after divorce.
About half of all American children will experience their parents’ divorce. While divorce is often stressful for families, a great deal of the stress gets thrusted onto the children trying to adjust to their new life. One important factor linked with child outcomes after divorce is the quality of the divorced couple’s co-parenting relationship.
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss some of the do’s and don’ts of coparenting and how to your children’s best interest first.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the impact of relying on hope and luck, and how these attitudes can actually hinder your future results. They explore the common mindset of saying "someday if I’m lucky enough" or "I hope so," and explain why these thoughts can keep you stuck in place rather than moving forward.
Learn how to shift your mindset from wishful thinking to setting powerful, intentional goals. Doreen and Jeff share strategies for making a commitment to your goals and taking massive, purposeful action to achieve them. Tune in to discover how you can transform your approach and start creating the future you truly desire.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the transformative effects of slowing down your mind. During the divorce process taking the time to calm our mind and body allows us to think more rationally and make better decisions. Deep breathing serves as a powerful tool to achieve this state of calmness, allowing us to think clearly and make choices that align with our wants.
By combining a calm, rational mind with intentional deep breathing, you not only enhance your decision-making abilities but also unlock the potential to create and accomplish anything you truly want.
Tune in to discover how calming your mind can lead to better decisions, greater creativity, and the ability to achieve your goals with clarity and confidence and create the life you want after divorce.
People are often taught to see the world in black and white, categorizing things as either good or bad. There are good guys and bad guys, and the goal is to eliminate the bad so that only the good remains. However, this binary thinking can lead to unrealistic expectations and an intolerance for anything less than perfection from yourself or others, ultimately making you miserable.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss the pitfalls of perfectionism and how it can negatively impact your relationships and personal well-being. They explore the importance of embracing imperfection and adopting a more compassionate and realistic mindset. By accepting that everyone has flaws and that not everything can be categorized so simply, you can foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships and a more contented life.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore how a cost-benefit analysis, commonly used in business, can be a powerful tool during a divorce. This method involves evaluating the worth of a relationship or action by subtracting the costs (such as time, money, and effort) from the benefits (such as friendship, companionship, and social support). This analysis can help you strategically approach the divorce process.
By conducting a thorough cost-benefit analysis, you can gain clarity on your priorities and make informed decisions that will guide you through the divorce process more effectively. Jeff and Doreen provide further insights on how to apply this analytical approach, helping you navigate the complexities of divorce with confidence and foresight.
Fitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.
Communication is the most important skill in marriage and in divorce. You spend years learning how to read, write, and speak. But what about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right?
During most divorces, spouses like most people, seek first to be understood to get their point across. In doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely.
In this episode Jeff and Doreen give you valuable tips and benefits on listening for comprehension which will definitely help you in marriage, during the divorce process and after divorce as well.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen provide a comprehensive guide on what to ask during a legal consultation with a divorce attorney. Navigating a divorce can be overwhelming, but knowing the right questions to ask can help you feel more prepared and confident. They cover essential topics to discuss, ensuring you get the most out of your consultation and lay a solid foundation for your case.
By asking these questions, you can gain a clearer understanding of the legal process, your attorney’s capabilities, and the best path forward for your situation. Jeff and Doreen provide further insights and tips to ensure you make the most informed decisions during your legal consult.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the legal aspects of divorce, discussing why it can be advantageous for a spouse to file for divorce first. Drawing on Doreen’s nearly 30 years of experience as a Family Attorney and over 20 years of being Board Certified in Family Law, they share invaluable insights into the divorce process and the strategic benefits of being the first to file. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how taking the initiative can influence your case and hear expert tips on navigating the complexities of divorce with confidence.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is an automatic, constant physical ability – it’s passive reception of sound waves from the environment, requiring no conscious effort. On the other hand, listening is an active process – it’s about paying attention, decoding, and understanding the messages being communicated.
When going through a divorce listening is key when it comes down to negotiations, communication with your lawyers, mediators and yes, even your soon to be ex-spouse. Differentiate listening and hearing, and you’ll become a better communicator, a more empathetic friend, and a more active participant in your own life.
When you distinguish between hearing, you will discover a crucial skill for personal and professional growth after divorce.
Acknowledging your worth and believing in it is indeed crucial during such a challenging time better known as divorce. Self-awareness and self-assurance can help you rebuild your life and set a positive foundation for the future. It's like renovating a house; you need to clear out the old, damaged parts and build something stronger and more resilient in their place.
In the episode Jeff and Doreen will give you tips on dismantling old beliefs and empowering you with a new version of yourself. This process can involve reflecting on past experiences, understanding what didn't work, and being open to new perspectives and possibilities, such as, finalizing your divorce sooner, confidence when in mediation and so on. Also, it’s important to surround yourself with supportive people who can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.
Remember, transformation is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, patience, and a lot of self-compassion. But with determination and the right mindset, you can navigate through this period and emerge stronger and more confident.
Finding your new self after a divorce can be challenging but also exhilarating. After years of being part of a couple, figuring out who you are on your own might seem daunting, but it’s also an opportunity to explore new possibilities and invigorate your life. The upside of divorce is that it provides a fantastic opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss ways to redefine your identity post-divorce, helping you move forward with confidence and build a life that truly reflects who you are. Join them as they share insights and strategies to embrace this new chapter and create a fulfilling and authentic future.
Summer is here and the heat is on! Who gets the kids and for how long? While most summer schedules are determined during the divorce process, it's essential to maintain flexibility, compassion, and understanding towards your ex. Prioritizing the kids' needs and ensuring they have a relaxing and enjoyable summer vacation is key. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss strategies for balancing summer custody arrangements and creating a positive experience for everyone involved.
Whether you are co-parenting or striving for a more civil relationship, effective communication with a clear purpose is crucial. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore strategies designed to help you navigate conversations with anyone, especially your ex. They share insights and practical tips to enhance your communication skills, fostering better understanding and cooperation. Join them to learn how purposeful communication can transform your interactions and lead to more harmonious relationships.
Divorce mediation is a viable option for couples considering divorce in Florida. This voluntary process allows couples to make decisions about various aspects of their divorce with the assistance of a mediator. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss the process itself and add in a few tips to make the process go smoother and allow for the process to be a success.
Guilt manifests in various forms during a divorce, often intertwined with feelings of regret and shame. It's common for at least one party to experience guilt to some degree. If left unaddressed, guilt can disrupt the divorce process, particularly during settlement negotiations, in two primary ways.
First, guilt can lead to one party making overly generous concessions, driven by a sense of remorse or a desire to compensate for perceived wrongs.
Second, guilt can also cause a party to become overly defensive or obstructive, attempting to justify their actions or resist compromise out of a need to mitigate their own feelings of culpability.
In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how recognizing and addressing guilt, individuals can navigate the divorce process more effectively, ensuring more equitable and amicable outcomes.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff delve into the delicate topic of introducing a new romantic partner to one's children. They explore the timing and approach that are essential for ensuring a smooth and positive transition for both the parent and the children. By discussing the right time and the appropriate manner in which to introduce a new partner, Doreen and Jeff aim to provide listeners with valuable insights and guidance on navigating this significant milestone in blended families. Through thoughtful consideration and open communication, they offer strategies for fostering understanding and acceptance among all parties involved, ultimately fostering healthy and harmonious relationships within the family unit.
Unchecked anger can exacerbate the challenges of divorce, fueling extensive and bitter litigation that inflicts unnecessary financial strain on families. Prolonged legal battles, lasting for months or even years, and can tear families apart and pose significant harm to children. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen offer guidance on effectively managing anger before, during, and after divorce. By addressing this powerful emotion head-on, they aim to mitigate the destructive impact it can have on individuals and families, fostering a more constructive and amicable resolution to the challenges of divorce.
Often, we're drawn to the allure of the "after" picture without fully embracing the journey it takes to get there. We yearn for the end result without wanting to endure the river of misery that flows in between. It's human nature to desire instant gratification and to shy away from the process, preferring immediate results over the daily steps required to reach our goals.
However, it's crucial to recognize that the true impact of a goal lies not in its achievement, but in the act of setting it. The moment we set a goal, we ignite a spark within ourselves—an aspiration that propels us forward and shapes our journey. It's in the pursuit of our goals, the daily grind, and the challenges we overcome that we truly grow and evolve as individuals.
So, let's embrace the process, the ups and downs, the victories and setbacks, knowing that each step we take brings us closer to our aspirations. And let's remember that the journey itself is where the magic happens—the transformation, the growth, and the fulfillment of our potential.
In today's episode, Jeff and Doreen delve into the concept of finding oneself, emphasizing that this journey is merely the starting point. Beyond discovering your true self, it's essential to identify your desires and goals, and then take proactive steps to manifest the life you envision. Taking action is the crucial key to transforming your aspirations into reality.
Rather than succumbing to feelings of embarrassment, guilt, or being immobilized by procrastination, consider the potential for something extraordinary. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into Procrastination and how it can serve as a catalyst for unleashing your creativity and productivity. By understanding your procrastination patterns, you can transform your thoughts ( The Model-Episode #120 ) into tools for identifying your top three priorities, paving the way for significant achievements each day.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff delve into a crucial aspect of navigating divorce: understanding your assets. Whether you're considering divorce or already in the midst of it, having a clear grasp of your financial landscape is essential. Join them as they discuss why knowledge truly is power in this situation.
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the theme of reclaiming your power. Discover strategies to embrace personal responsibility and move away from blame as part of the healing journey following a divorce.
While going through divorce there are many circumstances that we cannot control.
The one thing we always have control over, however, is ourselves. And taking responsibility for ourselves is incredibly empowering and a huge part of the healing process.
It isn’t about blaming yourself for the divorce.
It’s about seeing every situation in your life as if you own it and taking responsibility for your part of it.
When you learn to do this, you give yourself so much more power than staying in a victim mentality.
This week, Jeff and Doreen discuss how taking responsibility can be for your life after divorce and how to do it without beating yourself up.
In this episode, "It's Dad Time," podcast host and a pioneer chiropractor Dr Rocco along with Jeff delve into the journey of fathers and their children navigating through divorce. They explore strategies for crafting a fulfilling life post-divorce as a single parent, shedding light on effective ways for dads to excel as co-parents.
What would the You, that has already achieved, that has already become, that is already where you want to be, how would you act today and what decisions would you make differently if you made decisions as if you were already there?
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how living your present life future minded can be essential to creating an amazing life.
You truly have the capacity and capability to create the life you want and deserve after Divorce. In this episode Jeff and Doreen will discuss how the pieces explained in the last five episodes all work together in this recording of February’s webinar.
In the fifth installment of our series, Jeff and Doreen dive into the concluding segment titled "Results." They explore the current state of your life and the journey that brought you here, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in determining what your life will look like in your life after divorce.
This invaluable resource underscores the idea that the fulfilling and desirable life you seek is closer than you may realize, offering insights into how to attain it.
Sir Issac Newton said, “For every action there is a reaction.”
Meaning there is going to be an action created by a feeling. Another famous saying says “reaping what you sow” meanining you are going to get out of it what you put into it.
Welcome to episode 134 on Actions. Whether you do something or do nothing, there I always going to be some kind of result from it.
If you aren’t please with something in your life, change what you are doing OR what you’re not doing and see the results in desire.
Greetings and welcome to Episode 133 of our podcast! In today's installment, marked as Part 3 of our five-part series, we embark on a journey to unravel the profound connection between your thoughts and the outcomes they generate in your life. Delving into the intricate workings of emotions and exploring effective coping mechanisms, you'll gain insights into the notion that feelings are intricately tied to our thoughts.
As we navigate this exploration of understanding feelings' origins and how to manage them, a revelation awaits - the realization that feelings are born solely from our thoughts. This revelation is a potent catalyst in the healing process, illuminating the empowering truth that change is within your reach. Get ready for a transformative experience as we navigate this insightful episode.
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Welcome to Episode 132 of our podcast. This is Part 2 of 5 and where we uncover how powerful our thoughts can be and how they create different feelings and emotions. Doreen and Jeff discuss how you can have thoughts that serve your goals and dreams. It’s all about awareness and control of your thoughts.
Find out how this ability alone will make the biggest changes to your life after divorce and grace you with amazing empowerment.
Welcome to Episode 131 of our podcast, where we kick off a 5-part series on the Elements of the Model.
In this series, we explore the powerful tool known as “The Model” and how it can be used to customize your amazing life after divorce.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff take a deep dive into the elements that make up the model, starting with the first step: the Circumstance. They discuss why circumstances cannot be changed or denied, and provide insights on how to navigate them effectively.
Join us as we unravel the secrets of the model and discover how it can guide you towards the incredible life you deserve after divorce.
Today's guest is the incredible Brian Howie, the creator of the highly acclaimed podcast "The Great Love Debate," which is known as the world's number one dating and relationship podcast. Brian has earned the title of America's number one dating enthusiast through his extensive knowledge and expertise in the field.
For our listeners who are either going through or have gone through divorce, Brian has some valuable advice to offer. He understands the challenges and emotional turmoil that come with this life transition and provides guidance on how to navigate the dating world with confidence and resilience.
When it comes to loving again and rebuilding trust after divorce, Brian offers practical strategies and insights. He emphasizes the importance of self-love and healing, as well as taking the time to understand one's own needs and desires before entering into a new relationship.
Overall, Brian's expertise and passion for helping others find love and happiness make him the perfect guest for this episode. Tune in to gain valuable insights and inspiration on how to navigate the world of dating and relationships after divorce.
In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the misconception that success is a prerequisite for happiness. They explore the idea that happiness actually plays a crucial role in achieving success, especially in the context of life after divorce. Additionally, they delve into the distinction between happiness and success, questioning societal expectations and exploring the true meaning of both. Join us as we uncover the secrets to finding happiness and success in your own life!
Welcome to a motivational episode where Doreen and Jeff dive into the concept of self-love. Discover the significance of loving your past, present, and future self, and learn practical strategies to cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance and appreciation. Tune in to gain valuable insights on how to truly love yourself, regardless of your personal history, current circumstances, or future aspirations. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock the limitless potential of self-love.
If it’s your goal to change your life after divorce it’s important to guard the door to your mind. In this episode we are going to discuss how you might be influenced and by whom. How to protect yourself from unwanted influences and to invite inspiring influences into your life.
If you want to have the most amazing life after divorce, change who you're influenced by and change who you compare yourself to. And you can end up having a more inspired, more exciting, more amazing life after divorce.
We have with the brand-new gorgeous year ahead of us and the past completely behind us. We now have a fresh start and an amazing opportunity to make 2024 the best year ever.
In this episode Doreen and Jeff talk about the choices that we make when we have a new start. How to get past the tough times and focus on your successes.
Saying goodbye isn’t easy and most of us don’t do it enough. What we mean by that, it is beneficial to your future life after divorce to say goodbye to the things in your life that no longer serve you. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how and why to say goodbye to things in your life that don’t serve your future self.
Get ready for a sizzling episode that will leave you fired up and ready to take charge of your life! It's time to own up to your thoughts, actions, and results, and yes, even your role in that divorce. Brace yourself for a mind-blowing shift in perspective as we dive into the power of personal accountability. This episode is all about empowering yourself, learning valuable lessons, and embarking on a healing journey like never before.
But hold on tight, because it's not as easy as it sounds! Life throws obstacles our way, and that's where having an accountability partner becomes a game-changer. Join Doreen and Jeff as they spill the beans on how to embrace personal accountability for your divorce and discover the secret to finding an incredible partner who will keep you laser-focused on achieving your desired results.
Get ready to be blown away by this no-holds-barred, in-your-face conversation that will leave you craving more. Don't miss out on this electrifying episode that will ignite your passion for personal growth and transformation!
Divorce can be a challenging and transformative experience. As you navigate this new chapter in your life, it's important to find ways to rediscover your passions to create a fulfilling future. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss finding your passion and how to apply them to your post-divorce journey.
In the beginning stages of healing after divorce it’s normal to experience grief, sadness, and anger and other emotions can start you on an emotional rollercoaster. Emotions like these may cause you to pull away from others and isolate yourself, which can eventually lead to feelings of loneliness. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss loneliness and divorce and what you can do to about it.
In this episode Jeff interviews Board Certified Family Attorney Doreen Yaffa on some great tips to consider before you divorce.
The thoughts we have are very powerful to the results we have in our life, especially when you are moving past divorce and picking up the pieces to your next best life. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss a helpful tool called the Model that will clarify how this works.
In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss setting Boundaries. When you set a boundary with other people in your life, it can be very empowering and can really accelerate the healing process and your growth after divorce.
Often the people we have Manuals for aren’t even aware that these so-called “rule books” exist, yet we expect them to follow the rules in them and then we get upset with them when they don’t. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to shed your manuals and lead a more empowering life after divorce.
A very common and expected emotion that shows up before, during and after divorce is Anger. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to except your anger as a normal emotion. Once you are aware of your anger and what to do with it to serve your goals and your future.
There is so much you can learn about yourself from your divorce. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss turning your feelings into a commitment to improve yourself and empower yourself to heal, learn and create the best life ever after divorce.
In the episode, Jeff and Doreen explain how they believe and teach the concept of get happy before you leave. Don’t leave a situation in order to be happy. Find out when and how to leave.
In this episode Jeff and Doreen as they give you 10 concepts on life that are important elements of their coaching practice. Try these out for size. They might just blow your mind and affect your life in so many ways.
When worrying become excessive, persistent and uncontrollable it can affect your daily life and slow down the healing process after divorce. Well, don’t worry about it! In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to get a grip on worrying and give you 6 tips on how to take control back of your life.
One of the biggest issues after divorce is holding grudges. In this episode Doreen & Jeff discuss the benefits of letting grudges go no matter who you are holding a grudge against. Learn some tips on how to get rid of grudges that could possibly hold you back from the life you desire after divorce.
If you can figure out the reasons your last relationship broke up, you’ll be less likely to travel the same road again. Do you keep choosing the wrong type of partner? Do you sabotage your relationships by hiding your true thoughts and feelings? Reflection can be painful and time-consuming, but it’s the best way to gain insight. If you keep making the same relationship mistakes, it may be because you haven’t taken time to stop and think about your relationships. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss why this happens and how to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again in relationships after divorce.
In this episode Jeff interviews Doreen about prenups and postnups. Learn how these agreements can help before, during and after your marriage.
Are your “All or Nothing” thoughts slowing down your healing process after your divorce? In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss what a “All or Nothing” mindset is and how this one dimensional thinking can effect your future growth in your life.
Is procrastination holding you back from filing, getting through or getting over your divorce? Doreen and Jeff discuss how to turn your procrastinations into motivations. Don’t let procrastination paralyze your goals towards your amazing life after divorce.
Resentment can be that negative emotion that can hold you back from the future you deserve after divorce. In this week’s episode Jeff and Doreen discuss why it can hold you back and what to do if you’re stuck in resentment.
Goal setting after divorce keeps you grounded and focused on what you really want for your new life. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss why goal setting is important to launching and achieving that new life after divorce. Find out why your goals must be S.M.A.R.T. and how to stay focused on your desired life.
Are you visiting the “Self-Pity Party?” In this week’s episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how you compound your negative emotions by feeling sorry for yourself instead of doing something about it.
Do you want to feel like you’re on a permanent vacation? In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how to manage your time after divorce so you can enjoy your down time as if you were on vacation.
Success is sweet Revenge, especially after divorce. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how everyone must fail to succeed. It’s these failures that make success the best revenge on your own doubts and barriers that you put on yourself.
Thoughts are real. You can smell them, sell them, and even hear them. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss the power thoughts have in your life after divorce and how you can decide how to use your thoughts to shape your future.
While they might not understand the full extent of life after divorce, pets do experience sadness and depression when someone is no longer a part of their daily lives. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss tips on how you can help your pet deal with divorce, as well as, what to consider when you’re thinking about getting a pet after divorce.
As we celebrate our 100th episode and the 4th of July, we are discussing your new independence after divorce. We discuss your independence from your spouse and some things you may want to consider as you explore new relationships.
We all have “stories” that we tell ourselves and other about our divorce. What is the story you are telling? Is it focused on the negative? In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss seeing the positive of divorce, even if it is small to start so that you can move forward and find the evidence in your life that can fuel you to recover quicker and start to live in a happier and better place after divorce.
You may be thinking that you don’t deserve or can’t travel right now because you have so much to deal with basically recovering from the divorce. However, travel can be such an amazing opportunity to jump start your new life, explore somewhere you have always wanted to visit, or just set aside some much needed “you” time to regroup and recharge yourself. Come listen to Jeff and Doreen as they talk about their recent travel to Argentina that inspired them to talk to you about how travel can be just what you need.
Getting advice from trained professionals is always a good idea before telling your child about the decision to divorce. It all depends on the age of eth child and other factors and should be approach with love and understanding. Doreen and Jeff discuss their own experiences telling their children and also other tips and thoughts to consider.
Fitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us in as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.
Divorce can be challenging. How we face those challenges can be a catalyst to an amazing life after divorce. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss understanding how our brain provides us lots of reasons to shy away from doing hard things, which in turn keeps us stuck in a place we don’t want to be. Embracing challenges unlocks the key to strength and creating the life we dream of.
With divorce comes many changes. This week Doreen and Jeff discuss why we resist the changes, associated with divorce, and how to embrace these changes so you can transition sooner into your new life.
There is a difference between voicing a concern and whining or complaining. In this week’s episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss how to deal with the whinner in you or in those around you. Most importantly, if you are whining about your divorce, how to stop whining and start winning.
Divorce forces you to make changes in your life. However, divorce also provide you with an opportunity to reinvent yourself. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss rethinking who you are currently, and determining the “who” you dream of being in the future.
The Googles tell us that we have around 60,000 thoughts each day just to ourselves. These are the ongoing thoughts that fill our minds all the time. Some thoughts are obvious and some not so much. In this week’s episode, Doreen and Jeff, explore self-talk and how to improve your positive self-talk so you can feel better and work more efficiently towards the results you want after divorce and to a better life.
When you overindulge in alcohol, eating, shopping or anything to avoid a negative emotion, it’s called buffering. Listen to this episode as Doreen and Jeff discuss buffering and working past negatives emotions, especially as you heal from divorce. This way you can enjoy and live an authentic life.
There are so many ways to get through your divorce, There is collaborative, mediation, litigation and now there is even “do it yourself” divorce. However, on today’s episode we will discuss the emotional side of divorce and how to handle the emotions that come with divorce.
It’s vital to know them, expect them and what to do when you encounter these emotions.
Understanding them makes the divorce more manageable and it frees you up to move on with the next chapter of your life
Sometimes after divorce there are certain issues that may require the courts attention. However deciding to go back to court is a decision that requires real thought considering the cost both financially and emotionally. Come listen to this episode where we explore this further.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss what a manual is and how to think about them as to your coparenting relationship with your ex. However, recognizing where you may have unwritten manuals for anyone, in your life, is something worth considering especially as you move forward in healing from your divorce and designing a life on purpose.
Is it possible to throw away your TDL and get more done? The answer is yes. Come listen to this weeks episode where Doreen and Jeff discuss how being “busy,” after divorce especially, doesn’t have to be so stressful.
In this episode, Doreen talks about building relationships after divorce. A lot of people struggle with relationships during this time. Maybe you had certain friends when you were married. You knew how the relationship worked then, but now things are different. Or maybe you want to start making new relationships. Some clients say they “find out who their real friends are” after getting divorced. Come listen on how maintaining relationships takes thought, honest communication, and understanding what each person wants.
We all know that exercise is great for our physical and mental health. But did you know that exercise also has other great benefits when going through divorce? In episode 83, Doreen and Jeff discuss 6 ways that exercise can speed up feeling better during and after divorce and push you to a better and happier life.
Our brains are efficient and amazing machines. The brain processes continuous information all day long. However, it is efficient as well. In this episode we discuss how to gentle refocus thoughts to help our brains to focus on the positive so that we can start rebuilding and working towards moving past the divorce and on to creating a new and positive life.
In this episode we discuss reinventing yourself after divorce. To do a life audit as to the things that you want to keep in your life, the things to let go of, and the new goals and intentions that you want for the next chapter of your life.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss some general thoughts about children and divorce, children at different stages/ages, and co-parenting with your ex, keeping in mind your child’s best interest. Sharing common ground and having a game plan to discuss important child related coparenting issues is vital to assisting children to best deal with divorce.
Come join us as we discuss the art of saying “NO.” Learn about people pleasing or being people pleased, the reasons people do this or permit it. Set boundaries so you can focus on achieving the things you want and living your best life after divorce.
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff talk with Dave Moreno, the Badass Business Coach. Find out what a Badass Coach is and get some insight on how divorce can affect your business and how to circumvent issues.
When you first hear the words react and respond they seem to have similar meanings. Yet, through our coaching, we have come to understand that there is a difference in their meanings, particularly when communicating during challenging situations such as divorce. In this episode Doreen and Jeff explain the difference between the two words and how to effectively manage your thoughts, during a conversation to create the best results possible.
Candice Toone is a former Marriage and Family Therapist turned Master Certified Life Coach and the founder of the Defying Gravity Revolution. Her mission is to help women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy and start enoying the marriage they imagined when they said "I do". She's a podcaster, author, connoisseur of grapefruit juice and a Jazzercise enthusiast. She lives in Utah with her husband, 3 children and their dog.
We’ve all heard the expression “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side”. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive deep as to the meaning of this saying and how it can affect your present happiness and how you can choose when and how to feel. Living in the present with appreciation, even when your circumstance is divorce, can truly be a place you should be ok with. Let’s learn why.
In the episode Doreen and Jeff discuss a recent personal tragedy that lead them to the topic of grief. Learn the 5 stages of grief. Whether it’s divorce or a loss of a pet, it’s important to know these stages to get through the healing process.
In this episode we discuss knowing your “why” as to your goals. The “how” in reaching your goals is less important than the “why.” When we are on our journey to reaching our goals, after divorce, failures will occur. It is your “why” that helps you to stay focused and motivated.
In todays episode, we discuss how even after divorce we have much to be thankful for. Exercising gratitude though daily routine can help to create more joy in your life and encourage forward positive thinking.
In this episode Jeff interviews Doreen about how she got into coaching, her style of coaching, and her focus on helping women to create their best lives after divorce.
In this episode we discuss how to take the focus off your ex, and to instead focus your time and energy on healing and getting to the life you want after divorce.
In this episode we discuss how to take the focus off your ex, and to instead focus your time and energy on healing and getting to the life you want after divorce.
In this episode we discuss how to take the focus off your ex, and to instead focus your time and energy on healing and getting to the life you want after divorce.
In this episode we discuss why goals are important and what you might want to consider when setting them for yourself.
In this episode we discuss the business of divorce verses the emotions of divorce and how important it is to separate the two so you can get through the process, sooner than later, and save tons of dollars that you can use towards things like your child’s college education instead.
In this episode we talk about identifying negative self-talk and changing it into positive self-talk so you can start to create the results you want in your life.
In this episode, we provide some insight and tips about dating after divorce. From knowing what you want in a partner, to loving yourself and more, come have some fun with us while we dive into the subject of dating.
*We are aware of some technical issues with this recording. We appreciate your patience as we rectify the situation for future episodes.
In this episode, we provide some insight and tips about dating after divorce. From knowing what you want in a partner, to loving yourself and more, come have some fun with us while we dive into the subject of dating.
*We are aware of some technical issues with this recording. We appreciate your patience as we rectify the situation for future episodes.
In this episode, we provide some insight and tips about dating after divorce. From knowing what you want in a partner, to loving yourself and more, come have some fun with us while we dive into the subject of dating.
*We are aware of some technical issues with this recording. We appreciate your patience as we rectify the situation for future episodes.
Feeling bad comes with divorce and in fact is just a part of the negative emotions that we will encounter in life. In this episode, we discuss how to permit negative emotions so that we can move past them to create a better more fulfilling life.
The reality is that people will have differences and do argue. In this episode we discuss how to argue with purpose and in a way that promotes closer relationships.
Most of us have a hard time recognizing all the positive things we do and have accomplished. In this episode we discuss why we tend to focus on what is wrong with us and how to realize our greatness.
We generally quit something consciously or unconsciously. Learn more in this episode about what that looks like and how understanding your brain can help you to create a life after divorce that you want and can be proud of.
In this episode we discuss the difference between a therapist and life coach as well as the seven main feelings most often experienced with divorce.
In this episode we discuss picking your battles with your ex. Time has value, as does your emotional energy that could be used for other more important goals that you have for yourself and the life you want to create.
In this episode, we explore how important it is to be proud of our accomplishments, especially after divorce. Recognizing what you went through and all that you have already accomplished in your life is a great way to build self-love and awareness.
In this episode, we talk about what we do each and every week to create the life we want with intention and on purpose. Listen and try it for yourself!
In this episode get to know Jeff Wilson, our future coaching plans, and let's dive into understanding The Model and how it can change the results in your life.
Today lets discuss how to slow down and delay pleasure goals for the bigger picture to achieve better longstanding results.
My guest today is a mediator and divorce coach. She and I discuss how to feel empowered through and after your divorce as Jennifer explains some great tips of getting through the divorce and communicating with your ex.
Bio:
Jennifer Warren Medwin, MS is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, Supreme Court of Florida Family Mediator, and a Certified Marital Mediator. Her private practice in Pinecrest, Miami is called Seeking Empowerment: Clarity through Partnership. Jennifer specializes in working alongside individuals and couples who are contemplating divorce and are fearful of high conflict and with those who hope to save their marriages. She partners with clients to develop the clarity, confidence, courage, conflict management strategies, and communication skills they need to move through the process. Jennifer uses her knowledge of coaching and mediation to help her clients emotionally prepare for the dissolution of their marriages or the reconciliation of their relationships in the most organized, time efficient, and productive manner. Additionally, Jennifer is Collaboratively trained, a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP), a participant on the SupportPay Advisory Council, a member of the Amicable Divorce Network, a teacher in training at Family and Co-parenting Enrichment Services (F.A.C.E.S. ), a committee member of KidSide, and a contributing writer for Your Tango, Thrive Global, and OurFamilyWizard. She is also the author of Strategies & Tips from a Divorce Coach: A Roadmap to Move Forward. Jennifer's approach to divorce coaching and mediation is one that provides clients with guidance and compassion through a difficult time in their lives.
Jen@seekingempowerment.com
www.seekingempowerent.com
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In this episode, I discuss ten things that make up a good client, give some other tips of things to consider, and questions to ask so that you are better prepared going through the divorce or post-divorce process.
Sometimes life throws you a curve ball that you didn’t expect, like divorce. In this episode we discuss dealing with curve balls in a way that makes sense to make the blow a little easier and to see how even when life is unfair, there can be some good on the other side of it.
One good thing about divorce is it provides us an opportunity to rethink what we want for our lives moving forward. In this episode, I dive a little deeper into determining our purpose and wants for the life ahead.
I had the honor of being featured on the "Living Boca" at their recent live Pod-A-Palooza event featuring local podcasters and prominent personalities in Boca Raton. Enjoy!
In this episode, we explore co-parenting issues and some things to consider that can make for an easier transition for your child(ren).
Gaining self-confidence, especially after divorce, has it owns challenges. In this episode, I discuss the different types of self-confidence and what it looks like to propel you to the life and results you want.
During Divorce, and after, there can be a lot of anxiety. In this episode, I explore different options that you can consider to help with anxiety so you can take it from a place that controls you to a place where you control it; so you can move on with your life to your amazingness.
In this episode, I talk about how you can use the anger you may be feeling from your divorce, with your ex, or just the situation you are in to fuel you to create the results you want in your life after divorce and the next chapter of your life.
Reinventing yourself, after divorce or anytime, requires leaving your comfort zone to create the amazing life you want. In this episode I talk about how divorce can be the perfect time to move forward, leave the “ok” behind and propel to “amazing.”
Being an emotional adult is not something we generally are taught. In this episode, I explain how we have the ability to take responsibility for our feelings, actions, and the results we get in our lives and stop blaming others. Owning your own happiness and not relying on others to make you happy brings a level of power that can propel you to the next chapter of your amazing life and help you to create happier more satisfying relationships.
In this episode, I explain that when you aren’t feeling great, physically or mentally, it's okay to take some time to feel better and give the world less than what you usually do.
When is a good time to start dating after divorce? In this episode I share some quick tips, and thoughts, that you may want to consider before getting out there again in the dating world.
After divorcing you may feel beaten up. Having goals and taking small steps towards them daily can do wonders for building your self-esteem and creating the life you want. In this episode, I share 8 tips on how small steps can be a powerful tool in getting you where you want to be.
Being aware of your thoughts is a practice. Changing your thoughts from non-productive thoughts to productive thoughts takes practice. Today I discuss tips on the awareness needed to move you to thoughts that serve you, without judgment but instead with love and kindness.
Owning what we want for ourselves and going for it is the key to reaching your goals. This episode is about owning it and going for what you want despite what others may think.
How do you tell the story of your divorce? In this episode, we discuss how you recreate the story of your divorce to one that empowers you and moves you towards the future you want to create, instead of bringing you down.
There are times, during and after divorce, or in life in general, when we encounter uncomfortable conversations with the people in our lives. We often avoid these conversations, but when we do have them, they often end up being about who is right or wrong and then exploding and going nowhere.
In this episode I share a few tips on how to approach hard conversations in a way that may foster better relationships and help you to obtain better end results.
Today I speak with attorney, and Florida Supreme Court-appointed mediator, Hadas Stagman, about the mediation process and her thoughts on successfully moving towards conflict resolution.
In divorce, there are a lot of things going on that take our focus away from what is important. Realizing when you are wasting your time on things that do not serve you is key. In this episode I explore my own personal issues staying focused, the choices we make, and why it is important to work on being aware so we can achieve what we want after divorce and for our future.
Have you heard of the saying “Fight or Flight?”Most people have. However, what people don’t consider is staying in the state of “Frozen” as the third option.
In this episode, I discuss getting out of “Frozen” and into a decision so you can move forward with your life and reach your goals.
Substance abuse is unfortunately a real and concerning issue in many divorce. In this conversation with Mark Astor, drug and alcohol attorney, he provides insight on how to deal with these issues in a way that best helps the family.
Are you a people-pleaser? When we people please, we are not living an authentic life. In a marriage, or any relationship, when you want a closer and true relationship it is important to be honest with yourself and with the other person.
In this episode, I want to help you think about people-pleasing and where you might be doing this. Knowing why you are people pleasing and how you might be honest in a loving and kind way can open the door to a happier and more authentic life.
When we think we want to end our marriage, it is important to clearly identify why we want the divorce. Leaving a marriage with expectations that the divorce itself will make us happy without digging deeper is not productive to a better future. In this episode I want to open your mind to the possibility that leaving your marriage for the right reasons can be done with love and kindness for your spouse and yourself.
Email me at DYaffa@lifebalancelawyer.com with questions or if you have a topic you would like me to discuss.
When we are annoyed at something or someone, we can react from a place of anger or we can take a moment, slow down and think about how we are going to react so that it better serves us. The way we react when we are annoyed can either serve a greater purpose or cause us further announce. You have a choice. Awareness is key.
In this episode I discuss some simple techniques to help you slow down, work through your thoughts and the emotion of annoyance and take action from a better place that will make more sense.
If you are contemplating divorce, you will likely struggle with negative thoughts as to why divorcing is a bad idea. Sometimes marriages have run their course. Sometimes it is best to part ways. However, our brain takes us to all the reasons that this is a bad idea. Giving equal airtime to what might be better, if you divorced, is something worth exploring. Is there a possibility that things could work out for the best, that your life could be better? The answer is yes. In this episode I discuss giving equal airtime to not only the negative of divorce but also the positive. The reality is that things could work out for the best, and you could find the peace and happiness and a new chapter of your life with amazing possibilities. If you want to explore the possibility that life after divorce could be better than it is now, than listen to this episode.
Why do we tend to think about the negative of our circumstances more than the positive?
What would be different if we gave equal airtime to the positive possibilities or outcomes stemming from our divorce?
If you are stuck in the negative of things, you know that it doesn’t feel good, nor is it useful. In this episode, I explain an easy and powerful tool that helps you to look at the positive (along with the negative) possibilities of any circumstance or situation.
Our brains, many times, tend to automatically look at the negative. In divorce, it's easy to focus on the things that went poorly in the past, are going poorly now, and will go poorly in the future. It’s like an automatic default or negative bias that takes us there without us even realizing it. Giving equal airtime on the positive can make a huge different in your life and propel you to the results you want.
If you want to have a more positive outlook at life, listen to this episode and try it out yourself. Enjoy!
As a close family member of ours has recently passed on, I am inspired to talk about those relationships we have with our ex’s family members. You may not have a relationship with your extended family, but your children might and it’s important to support those relationships.
Why would you want to be stuck feeling horrible day in and day out? Don't you want to get past this sooner? No one wants to stay stuck in the negative emotions that come with divorce. First thing I want you to know is that time, my friend, has nothing to do with it.
There's nothing wrong with you, my friend. The reality is that sometimes relationships just end, things change, people change circumstances change, that doesn't reflect on you. When you are in a relationship and you are in a marriage, you lose some of your self-identity. This is your opportunity to get your power back. You see, the power now is yours to create your future, decide who you are and what you want.
Transformational Coach Andrea (Andi) Valley and I discuss how to be calm in a cluttered world and looking within for that inner peace. “Wisdom will always guide us into the direction of peace”.
Today is about the new year alternatives to resolutions, like an impossible dream, a 30-day habit, self-care, and your bucket list. Think about these things you deserve! If you've been through a lot or you're going through a lot, there's nothing wrong with taking note of what you want to make a priority.
As we start this new year, I thought it appropriate to discuss where you are after your divorce or breakup. What I will refer to as your mindset starting point, and the stages of your mindset. Keep in mind that this is yours, your starting point and the healing and growth process after divorce is unique to only you, the way you are affected by the divorce is yours and cannot, and should not be compared to that of any one else.
Today let's discuss knowing what we want and not just what we think we want and how we can find clarity on it, but how to get there. Knowing what we want as opposed to what we think we want or what we have, or don't have are very, very different.
Why are we so unkind to ourselves? Where are you in your line of priorities? I want you to reflect on this and let’s talk about self-love. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we cannot take care of those around us.
This is for all those mothers out there who struggle with parenting after divorce. Pam is a life coach who focuses on helping women gain control over themselves and their kids and parent without guilt. Listen to her lessons learned and how she has turned her personal experiences into a business of helping other moms. Go to LessDramaMoreMama.com to find out more about her coaching services!
What is your financial situation after divorce or what will it look like? What do you WANT it to look like? Let’s do an exercise together…I have some questions you need to ask yourself!
My husband, Jeff, joins me today to talk about our experience blending our families! It was not always easy, but I wanted to share with you our story as a positive example of how things can be if you go into it with the right mindset.
Let’s talk about the holidays and how to make it a little brighter this year! I share my tips and experiences in hopes that you embrace change and go into the holiday season with some fresh ideas and a peaceful mind.
What is buffering? Divorce stirs up so many emotions and often they linger. In this episode, we explore all the different ways we turn to outside pleasures to suppress emotions and get a dose of dopamine. This is a natural response to a grief but let’s talk about why and how we can change this behavior.
What role do your thoughts play when things don’t go your way? We talk about turning down the volume on your negative thoughts - and using your positive thoughts to rebuild something that has fallen apart.
In my practice, I work with so many women along their divorce journey. I want you to meet Valeria, hear her story and listen as we talk about her struggles and where she is now.
Today we talk about fear and why it holds us back from making decisions. No one goes into a marriage thinking they will get divorced but sometimes people grow apart or make choices the marriage can’t overcome. If we don’t change our thought patterns and let fear control our decisions, we can’t create the life we want. Join me as we dive into fear and explore those emotions deeper, understand them, and hopefully learn from them so we can keep moving towards happiness!
Today is all about getting back to the foundation using "The Model." Whether you're new to this process or just need a refresher, it's a powerful skill for when you notice your thoughts are not serving you.
You have the absolute ability to change your results by changing your thoughts - and I'm going to help you do just that. Disclaimer:Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives. The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship. As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.
In this episode, I will give you advice on how you can create a positive co-parenting relationship and why it is so important for your kids. For example, treat your relationship with your ex as you would a business partner- keep emotions out of it. I know my situation is unique, but a civil partnership CAN be accomplished if we just focus on the goal – children who know they are loved.
Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives. The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship. As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.
In the last episode, we talked internal boundaries, the ones we set for ourselves. Today, we're setting external boundaries, meaning boundaries with others. How many of us need help in this area? In this episode, I'll help you define your boundaries and teach you how to communicate them clearly.
When we learn how to set boundaries and how to enforce them: * We start to take care of ourselves on a whole new level * We start to love yourself more * We start to respect the time that you have, how you want to spend it and who and how you want to deal with people
Reminder: What I'm teaching you as a life coach can be applied, not only to circumstances surrounding your divorce, but they apply to other circumstances and other people in your life.
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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives. The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship. As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.
In the next two episodes, we're talking boundaries -- boundaries you set for yourself and for others. Today is all about you.
In this episode: * What are boundaries * How setting boundaries can help us to stop wasting time and energy * How boundaries can be the key to building strength within
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Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, employees, agents, or representatives. The content of Your Amazing Divorce is for entertainment and educational purposes. None of the content on Your Amazing Divorce should be considered legal advice, nor does anything herein create an attorney, client relationship. As always, consult a lawyer for your legal questions.
As women, we’re conditioned to unrealistically, in my opinion, believe that when we marry the person of our dreams or what we think the person of our dreams is, that we will live this make-believe story, which includes a handsome prince who will take care of us, a home with a white picket fence, perfect children and maybe one Golden Doodle. Oh and we'll look amazing and never age. We're taught that marriage is the perfect formula for our life ever-after of happiness and bliss. But I ask you, if life is a combination of good and bad, then how is it possible to have a happily ever after? In this episode, we talk about how to have an amazing life post divorce, even when it's not perfect.
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One of the things I tell all my clients is that it's a 50/50 life. The sooner we get it, the happier we'll be. Life is 50% good, 50% not so good and knowing that is the key to some amazing days ahead. How you feel today about your divorce is not how you will feel forever -- I promise. So let's dive in.
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After divorce, you're likely feeling a bit numb, sad, unmotivated. There is a time and a place to mourn this, to permit yourself the chance to grieve and to not be hard on yourself. It's important to your healing and then it's important to taking action to your best future self and life. So part of what I believe is important to becoming the best version of ourselves is to have goals.
In this episode, we talk: * Why we need goals as humans and how they help us on such a larger scale and with a bigger picture in mind to create a life you want. * How to set a defined goal that will motivate you to keep going * How to create a system that will help you achieve any goal * What you can do to fee more happy, healthy and balanced
If you don't have a purpose for the future, if you're not striving towards certain goals, then the present doesn't have any meaning. I'd love to hear more about your goals. Message me here and let's talk!
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Are you dealing with any feelings of regret stemming from the breakdown of your marriage? I bet the answer is yes. For some of you, it may be a lot of regret that you're thinking about on a more regular basis and for others, it might creep in every so often. I don't want you to get stuck in that regret mode. In this episode, we dive into the feeling of regret and how you can use regret to your advantage, to create a better life for yourself by avoiding the same mistakes and instead going for your dreams.
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**We're talking one of my favorite subjects, I hope that it rocks your world as much as it did mine.
I call this the manual.
Think about it: You know this very thick manual that you've written for your ex, have you ever let him see it or read it? Does he know what he's supposed to do in order to operate himself in your life post-divorce so that his relationship with you worked correctly? When I ask this of my clients, I get this perplexed look. The manual is like a playbook or rulebook on how the other person should behave, what he should and should not do and a manual is basically your instruction book that you have written for someone else.
While that, in and of itself, is not an issue, it's when we are all tied up in letting our emotional state be dependent on whether this person follows the rules and expectations you've set in this manual that he has never even seen.
Today, we let go of the manual. Let's do this together. Favorite or follow Your Amazing Divorce* on your fave podcast app. Click here to get updates, tips and expert advice and be one of the first to hear about Doreen’s new online community!***
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Could you be stuck in divorce victim mentality? It's quite possible. But you have the ability to change your thoughts and create an amazing life after divorce.
In this episode, I'll give you the tools that I've learned going through my own divorce, being a child from divorce and dealing with thousands of clients as a divorce attorney for over 26 years.
• How to identify victim mentality and get out of it.
• How to stop playing the blame game
• How to respond to comments that could fuel the flames
• How to surround yourself with others who don't feed the victim mentality
And most importantly, how to take back your own personal power.
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**I know you want to move on to your amazing life, and because I know that you have what it takes to get going, we're going to start making changes today.
You are likely searching for something to get you through your divorce and onto your best life. I have no doubt that if you stay with me on this journey, you will understand happiness and fulfillment and truly accomplish and have anything you want in your life.
In this episode:** * How to become accountable for yourself and not leave your happiness in the hands of your ex. * How you can have an even better life post-divorce * The four ways most people handle divorce * The key mistakes that can keep you stuck (and how to avoid them)
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What if your divorce could end up being one of the best things that could ever happen to you? Host Doreen Yaffa is a marital and family lawyer and certified life coach who's coached and consulted women for over 26 years -- she's seen it all. Now she's sharing her expertise and own personal experience to help you turn a difficult time into Your Amazing Divorce. Favorite or follow Your Amazing Divorce on your fave podcast app.
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