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Traci Long DeForge
Real, Raw and Unfiltered Conversations exploring the Intersection between Personal and Business Growth with Women Entrepreneurs, Authors, Artists and more. Host, Traci DeForge, internationally recognized business development strategist, discuss details of her own personal journeys and talks about her obstacles, barriers and how she is growing through them.
Happy 8th Podversary to Journey to There! Life is a journey full of twists and turns, and this podcast is no exception. New adventures, new lessons, and even some life lessons from Finn! Catch up with Journey to There podcast host, Traci DeForge as she reflects on her journey through life's highs and lows and shares her musings on love, light, and joy
Before I officially titled this episode I asked myself… is this new iteration of the J2T podcast a reboot or a renaissance? I felt like it was the latter but honestly, I had to look up the definition to be certain!
Ren·ais·sance
/ˈrenəˌsäns/
a revival of or renewed interest in something.
noun: renaissance; plural noun: renaissances
Alas, it is a true renaissance!
Today is the 8th Podversary of Journey to There and with any anniversary comes reflection. Some of which are bittersweet. Why did I let some much time lapse? What if I had kept it moving forward? Is it worth bringing it back?
I need to reign in the negative self-talk that’s ramping up fast because I want to indulge in some good ole fashion flogging with thoughts like, “I own a damn full service production company. How could I let this happen?” The answer is I didn’t “let” anything happen. Life happened.
So, let’s catch up!
The pandemic impacted everyone individually and collectively. I’m still sorting through the whirlwind effect it had on our lives including the fact that I still don’t have my full ensemble of taste buds back but I digress.
My husband and I left the South Florida seaside life for the mountains of Taos, NM in 2020. This literal journey came with high expectations and ended with some bottomed out emotional disappointments.
My salve of course was to bury myself neck deep in Produce Your Podcast which resulted in 3X growth. Yay! But if you’ve listened to any previous episodes of this podcast then you know…building successful businesses has never been my challenge. Building a successful personal life is my never ending life lesson. Times haven’t changed that much.
We left Taos and made a pit stop in Tucson, Az for a year. I was so checked out of my life that I literally justified the decision to live in a town that held no interest for me and wasn’t remotely close to any of my friends and family. My brain told me none of that mattered because my focus needed to be on growing the business and that was all I was planning on doing anyway. Never underestimate the power of a work addicted brain.
And now, a new adventure has begun with an International move to Mexico. I’m reconnected to my seaside life which I affectionately refer to as my sea -soul life. Although, I’m still not remotely geographically close to friends and family- they are a lot more likely to visit me here. We also added a new addition to the family. His name is Finn and he is a 100lb Golden Doodle who everyone should take their life lessons from…
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Always be up for an adventure
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Every day brings a new chance to experience joy
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If you live for naps and snacks the rest will take care of itself.
It’s fair to say I’m still on my journey to there; thus the renaissance of the podcast. I’ve learned a few new lessons along the way and come through the other side of some stuff aka sh*t and ready to share my musings with you.
I’m looking forward to this next chapter of the pod. I want us to connect, hang out and learn from each other. I'm rebooting without putting any pressure on myself. I’m not setting any specific goals on how many episodes there will be and when they will be released. I’m giving myself grace. I’m giving myself permission to be creative in the medium I love the most without getting all caught up in (what I know first hand) it takes to build a successful podcast.
But really, isn’t the definition of success relative?
I look forward to reuniting with some old friends from the podcast audience. I’m beyond giddy with anticipation of meeting the new friends I’ll make along the way.
I’ll sign off with one of my fav quotes that is one of my own. The life we create is based on the choices we make. Let’s make choices that bring us love, light and joy and if we don’t- let’s ask for the courage to embrace the detours.
Cheers to what’s possible!
Traci
Did you know that keeping traumas unresolved can result in lowering expectations of how others should treat us? It is not an easy process to face our early childhood traumas. That’s why it’s important to create a safe space where you can share whatever it is that you need to share. And no matter how difficult the healing process is, feeling stuck in your own life is always worse. Tune in to this episode of Journey to There to hear the experiences and wisdom of Tambry Harris, a spiritual and life coach who went through the process of peeling the layers of trauma and now is helping others do the same thing and get to the other side where we feel loved and free. In This Episode: * [03:00] How childhood abuse influenced Tambry’s adult life. * [08:15] The importance of having someone to share your fears with. * [10:28] How does shame affect us in keeping secrets? * [13:30] Tambry had a sense of not being worthy for a long time. Here’s how she understood where this feeling came from. * [15:30] How keeping traumas unresolved can result in lowering expectations of how others should treat us? * [18:40] Where to start the healing process when we feel stuck? * [25:00] People pleasers tend to surround themselves with “predators” who will take advantage of them. * [28:10] The importance of slowing down and paying attention to what is happening inside of our bodies and minds.
Key Takeaways: * It’s really helpful to have someone you can be vulnerable with, no matter what it is that you need to share. * We need to talk about our traumas and what hurt us because it’s the only way we'll understand it and finally let it go. * You deserve to be loved. You need to claim it. * It takes a lot of courage to face your fears, but the freedom on the other side is always worth it.
Links Mentioned:
survivorstothrivers.com
Facebook: survivorstothriversofficial
Twitter: survivorstothrivers
Insta: survivorstothrivers
LinkedIn: Tambry Harris
Bio:
Tambry is a spiritual director as well as a leadership and life coach who helps others claim their best selves and lives. This involves clients looking objectively at their innate character and abilities and intentionally embracing their whole selves.
Her twenty years of coaching and seven years of spiritual direction translate into her work with survivors of abuse through the Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers organization. She has a Master’s in Applied Psychology and certifications in the areas of Leadership Coaching, Spiritual Direction, Change Management, and Diversity.
Tambry found her voice, named her truth, and created a vision to help others who have experienced the pain and shame of abuse find healing, strength, and freedom. Through her organization, Going Forward: Survivors to Thrivers, she provides individual guidance, retreats, and speaking engagements to bring awareness and light into the shame and silence of abuse and trauma.
Her calling is to inspire people to move beyond the initial awareness and therapy to a new level of wholeness that comes with claiming their Going-Forward Story and reveling in their unique gifts, abilities, and power to live a wholehearted, meaningful life-embracing mind, body, and spirit.
Her Book: Awakening the Light: A Survivors to Thrivers Going-Forward Story (A 2020 American Book Fest Best Book Finalist). As we make our wounds visible and available, they can be of service to the healing of others. This story of wounding, struggle, and healing encourages survivors to claim their going forward stories. Tambry’s experiences, concepts, and heart shine light into the darkness that surrounds sexual abuse and domestic violence.
Dr. Ginger Campbell talks about her journey with passion for neuroscience, her own podcast, Brain Science, and her book, “Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty,” in hopes to share her kno
Our guest today is Naz Beheshti. She is the author of Pause. Breathe. Choose: Become the CEO of Your Wellbeing. Naz opens the show by diving deep into her background. Previously, Naz went through many
Meet Janet McKee, the creator of the innovative and acclaimed Accelerated High Performance Program and emPower3 Leadership + Lifestyle Retreat designed to help others fuel their passion, positivity a
Meet Camille Martin, a registered dietitian, public health writer, and former chronic dieter. Her book, Love To Lose: Love Your Life and Watch the Weight Lose Itself, explores precisely why you haven'
Meet Kendra Adachi, founder of the Lazy Genius Collective. Kendra passionately shares how to stop doing it all for the sake of doing what matters. Her work includes hosting The Lazy Genius Podcast, bl
Highly sensitive people react to stimuli differently from other people, which may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on their mastery of their strengths. In the world of business, highly sensiti
Suzanne Evans went from secretary to a 7 million dollar business. Her company, Driven Inc, has been on the Inc 500/5000 list of fasting growing companies for 5 straight years. Her NY Times Best Sellin
Meet Eleni Theodorou, a celebrated children's author, bullying prevention educator, and keynote speaker. Eleni teaches students - online and in-person - the Art of Compassion through her multi-sensory
Meet Rebekah Bastian, a vice president at Zillow Group, CEO and co-founder of , and author of Blaze Your Own Trail: An Interactive Guide to Navigating Life with Confidence, Solidarity, and Compassion.
What does inclusion and diversity in the workplace look like to you? Dr. Tiffany Jana, CEO of TMI Portfolio, shares her views around diversity, equity, and inclusion. Hear Dr. Jana’s personal experien
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Have you heard of Enneagrams? Ever been curious about your Enneagram Number? Denee King, Host of the Love Thy Number Podcast tells us how the discovery of her number was a game changer for her personally & professionally. Bonus...She gives me the skinny on my number and how has significantly influenced my life choices!
An Invitation to Listen from my guest Denee...
When I was introduced to the Enneagram almost 10 years ago I began to find answers to some of my own questions and it was absolutely liberating! I learned I wasn’t broken or heartless but that I process thinking from a different perspective than many others. I realized my ability (see how I put a positive spin on that? :-) to move, with lightning speed, from one great idea to the next didn’t mean I had ADHD or was scatterbrained! All those revelations just meant I was hard-wired for excitement and variety and I could now learn how to grow into the healthiest form of myself. Awareness became my greatest gift.
I discovered the world of personality types and found a common thread with others who had my same fears and motivations. Learning the way other types process thoughts and emotions has helped me bridge the language barrier. That’s really what our ‘type’ is: it’s our native language. But trying to have relationship with those who speak a different language requires effort and a lot of love. This is the true beauty of the Enneagram. It’s a tool to help us know ourselves and, in doing so, we can know others…to love ourselves so we can share love with others.
I make a fantastic lemon raspberry cake and a banana pudding that is to die for! If you’re visiting our home that might be all you need to know about me. :-)
In this episode:
We're not taught about money. Whether male or female, where we're not taught in school. We're usually not taught at home so we don't have a foundation on which to really play some competence.
What we're getting taught about money is what we're told and what we're shown usually by our parents. We either do what our parents did, which could be good or bad, or we did the exact opposite.
Did you know 90 percent of women have a fear that they're going to end up homeless and be a bag lady? The time is now to change women’s perception around money and the idea of shame.
We can actually save too much. This can happen when we’re saving or we're not spending and the reason is coming from a place of fear or scarcity or that we don't feel secure.
We've got to figure out what our triggers are, what is that story that we're telling ourselves around money and change that, because just getting out of debt or figure out a budget isn't enough. That's why athletes go bankrupt. That's why millionaire winners lose all their money. And that's why the average American racks up all their debt, pays it off, and then racks it back up again is because we're only treating the symptoms. We're not treating the issue, which is our mindset in this story we tell ourselves.
Go out and try and find the best way to educate and inform yourself about money.
Takeaways:
What I find is, we really like to avoid looking at our money. It's there's shame around it. There's guilt. We are brilliant, smart women that have 15 million other things that we need to do. So looking at our numbers kind of as the last thing that we want to do. So what I encourage someone to do is sit down at the end of the day without distractions. Have a glass of wine or three. And then really think about what was a really tough money experience that you went through and just write it all out. Write down all the details. No. Why did you go through this? What did you learn from it and what can you do differently? And I think by just facing some of these things a little bit at a time, you'll start to release that guilt and shame around these different money experiences.
You need to really look at who you're taking money advice from. Like dating advice. You're not going to ask for dating advice from your friend that's been divorced seven times and has a string of first dates. So just like with your money, you don't want to ask somebody that you know is living paycheck to paycheck, drowning in debt and doesn't know how they're going to pay their next bill.
Note to Self: Forgive yourself for you money mistakes. The shame is not serving you.
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Jaquelyn is the Founder of Heartwood Healing, Heartwood Sanctuary and the Creator of the Heartwood Self Mastery program. A motivational speaker and writer of 14 books and Co-Founder of Healing Words television show. We know each other because we worked together on a really fun project for Weight Watchers International and we really developed a really nice intersection between personal and business growth.
What does healing from the heart mean to you?
Healing modalities that help learn how to master yourself from the inside out and heal yourself from the inside out
Mindlessness if effort. You want to it because it feels so good to do it
One of the things that is so critical to self care and to really understanding the heart is is looking at the science behind the fact we are not this separate thing. Scientists like to break us into two in the healthcare world. We're not a brain and a body. We're not a brain and emotions and a body. We are all one integrated human that evolved to this place in order to have emotions for a purpose and we have you know we our body tell it talks to us all of the time
Figure out the trigger that leads to bad behavior and then replace the behavior to a new and more positive behavior.
The Heartwood Sanctuary is an online membership and an online oasis for rest, restoration and rejuvenation.
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In this episode:
How to live your life free from toxic relationships and emotional abuse.
Jackson MacKenzie & Traci talk openly about their journey through toxic relationships in love and in business.
Ditch the fairy tale stories and be real in what is happening inside the relationship.
What is the difference between having your heartbroken and being in a relationship with a person with a personality disorder?
Relationships with toxic people can occur outside of an intimate relationship. They can appear out of nowhere and catch you off guard until you recognize the pattern.
How can you protect yourself from these predatorial type of people?
What is the difference between narcissism, borderline personality and a psychopath?
Are certain personality types vulnerable to these disorders?
Identify the most subtle and undermining characteristics of psychopath tendencies
What are “pink flags” and why do we ignore them?
Tips for how to leave these types of these relationships and how to avoid them all together.
If you feel like you like you lost yourself remember. You did not go away.
Takeaways:
Protect Yourself First
If you feel like you like you lost yourself remember. You did not go away.
Our hurt lasts for as long as we let it.
Note to Self:
Nobody wants to eat a half baked cake.
QUOTES:
The True Self doesn’t actually go anywhere.
~Jackson MacKenzie
It’s real but not true.
ABOUT JACKSON MACKENZIE
Jackson is a young gay guy who loves cats and Christmas. He works with a tech company in New England, and spends most of his free time hiking and taking bubble baths. He is writing a new book about trauma and the heart.
Resources:
https://psychopathfree.com/
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The moments of our lives are opportunities to learn something valuable about ourselves. Instead, we often take them for granted and waste them on negative, unproductive thoughts.
Mindfulness keeps us present and aware. It provides a pathway to experiencing an expansiveness that gives us a feeling of oneness with the world.
A daily Mindfulness practice allows us to show up and experience all the moments of our lives as present, as accepting, and as real as we can be.
Mindfulness is the gift that keeps on giving
Mindfulness is not a big mystery. It does not have to be complicated.
We think between 40,000 and 60,000 thoughts a day
Life Gazing - You take a moment and you sit with something. Take in what you’re seeing.
Daydreaming isn’t doing something wrong. It sparks creativity.
Present Moment Breaks - Mindfulness that you can do anytime - anywhere.
Get into beingness.
Are you a past dweller or a future chaser?
Do you get stuck in the glorification of the past? It can steal your joy.
Takeaways:
Mindfulness repair is the key to successful long term relationships
Make a commitment to be mindful with each other.
Notes to Self:
Hello Today! I’m so glad you’re here. I’m ready for you!
QUOTES:
It’s not what you look at...it’s what you see.
~Henry David Thoreau
Live True. Live You. Live Authentically.
~Ora Nadrich
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Brains on Fire with Guest Brandy AmidonThe brains behind the iconic launch of Hello Bello, A baby product line created Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard
In this episode:
Meet Brandy Amidon otherwise known to Traci as Ami-doness!
MId 30’s, City Council, Mayor, Co-President of Brains on Fire, Wife & Mom
Brandy’s business is responsible for the most Iconic launch in Walmart and in Retail History...Hello Bello, the new baby product launch created by Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. It hit Walmart on THE day of the interview!
Female. Southern. Business Woman. Benefit or Barrier to business growth?
Brains on Fire is a certified B-Corp. What does that mean for a business?
Powerhouse B-Corp Business and the Mayor? Yep
Find out Brandy's 3 tips for her success
Takeaways:
Ask for help. Willingness to ask for help can be the pivotal point in growing your career.
Identify the smartest person in the room and ask them questions. Learn from them
Create a safe place for failure to be ok.
QUOTES:
I can’t pretend to be anyone else. People know
when you’re full of crap.
~Brandy Amidon
Underestimate me. I dare you.
~Traci DeForge
Resources:
HUGE launch for Brandy's team at Brains on Fire:
https://wwd.com/beauty-industry-news/beauty-features/kristen-bell-and-dax-shepard-unveil-baby-brand-hello-bello-at-wal-mart-1203047087/
Brandy reflecting on her first year as Mayor of Travelers Rest:
https://www.greenvilleonline.com/story/news/2019/01/18/travelers-rest-mayor-brandy-amidon/2525427002/
https://hellobello.com/
Dax Shepard Podcast
Pretty Woman
Produce Your Podcast
MEET BRANDY AMIDON
It’s not every day that you meet a woman who was a CFO before the age of 30. A councilwoman by age 27. And the first female mayor of her hometown by age 35. And now? She's Co-President of the Company she CFO's.
An achiever by nature, Brandy earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Accounting from North Greenville University in two and a half years – with honors. After graduation, Brandy began a career in corporate banking and taxation, but soon found herself longing for more personal connection. She loved what she was doing, but wanted to find a way to integrate a human element into her work. Tapping her entrepreneurial spirit, Brandy began working with small businesses (including Brains On Fire), as a for-hire CFO. She helped alleviate the burdens of money management and financial planning for small business owners so they could focus their energy on what they were good at – leading a team, serving their clients and running a company.
If CFO-ing wasn’t enough, Brandy has always been passionate about paying it forward, giving back and improving the world around her – starting with her hometown. In 2009, she ran for City Council in Travelers Rest, South Carolina. Her win made her the youngest councilwoman in the city’s history. Brandy served three terms on City Council, during which time she advocated for local businesses, promoted the city’s sustainable growth, championed an environmental wellness program and provided budgetary guidance to ensure the city’s long-term viability. In 2018, Brandy was elected Mayor, becoming the first female mayor in Travelers Rest’s over 100 year history.
And did we mention she does all of this around her at-home roles of wife and mom?
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Sometimes you have to turn the tables on yourself to see yourself more clearly. I’ve been doing alot of soul searching lately. I had a moment of clarity which made me sad. It was time to admit I was back in my “spot’ again. All work. No Play. Self imposed isolation and living but lacking joy. How did I get here again? How to I get out of it again? Getting Raw.Unfiltered and Real with myself and others.
Relying on your friends to pull you out of a tough spot has always worked for me. This is why I had my longtime girlfriend, Kyle Young, interview me for this episode. I asked her to ask me the tough questions so you could get even deeper insight into my obstacles, my hurdles and what I’ve been doing to keep growing through them.
Here are just a few of the things she opens up for me...
Why are you reversing roles and having me interview you? Why the shift in the Journey to There podcast? Tell me why Raw. Unfiltered. Real is so important to you now? If you had super powers... what is the one thing about your life you do differently? How do you define success? Are you successful by that definition? What is next for you? Where are you going from here? Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!
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In this episode:
Oscar Trimboli, Author of Deep Listening & Breakthroughs, Professional Speaker, Mentor and Director Microsoft Office Division Australia shares impactful insights on the power of deep listening.
Listen even when you disagree.
Their pause is the most critical moment your listening.
The speaker is NOT the most important person in the conversation.
4 Habits that derail you from being a great listener
- Lost Listener
- Shrewd Listener
- Interrupting Listener
- Dramatic Listener
Understanding Power and the 125-400 listening rule
This is the first ingredient in the recipe of deep listening. The reason why it’s critical to pay attention and listen completely including the pauses, the silence and thoughtful moments in a discussion is because of the simple maths between speaking and hearing.
Although you can think at 400 words per minute, you can only speak at between 125-175 words per minute. (Carver, Johnson, & Friedman, 1970).
Words don’t matter when you deeply listen
RESOURCES:
Oscar Trimboli is a coach supervisor, speaker and author of Deep Listening: Impact beyond words, The 125/400 Rule: The Art and Science of Listening and Breakthroughs: How to confront your assumptions. He works with companies including Cisco, Google, HSBC, News Corp, PayPal, Qantas, and TripAdvisor.
Oscar lives in Sydney with his wife Jennie, where he helps first-time runners and ocean swimmers conquer their fears and contributes to the cure for cancer as part of Can Too, a cancer research charity.
Get his book!
Check out Oscar's Facebook Group
Twitter: @oscartrimboli
Instagram:@oscartrimboli
LinkedIn: @oscartrimboli
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Take some happiness + joy and then throw in a little work addiction and perfectionism and you have a journey within...
“So many of us crave meaning and joy in our lives we look for something larger than ourselves something outside our everyday existence that will deliver us to a higher consciousness filled with happiness.” LouAnne Ludwig
LouAnne’s storyline is so captivating! Hear what led her to write it this way.
Spoiler Alert: The main protagonist in this seeker story is a boy, not a woman. There’s a backstory on it!
Reflect on how the choices we make can create our path
Big change can bring skepticism. Buy in or Rise Above.
Traci shares how she thinks she might’ve gotten it right this time with bringing all her passions together
About LouAnne Ludwig:
LouAnne Ludwig, author of: A Journey Within, was previously a hard driven real estate agent who found she had spiritual gifts that led to her new work in a very different field. LouAnne is now devoted to a practice of empathic dream analyzing and life process readings.
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In this episode:
Alison Maloni shares her very personal story about how posting on social media about her life led to cyber stalking and her tips on how the every day person can prevent it from happening to them.
Do you know how to set up your privacy settings on your social media?
You do not have to be a Kardashian to be stalked on social media resulting in a real life assault.
Do you post your running routes? Do you tag locations with your selfies?
Did you know you can identify the people who are viewing your stories on social media?
Learn how to ghost yourself on social media.
Check your privacy settings for your photos on your phone. People can find where you are from the pictures you send them.
What do you do as a parent to keep up with your kids’ social media accounts?
Cyber Bullying can be proven if you take a screenshot.
The number way you can get hacked is by using public wi-fi.
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In this episode:
Laura Petersen, author & speaker shares her experiences of stepping outside her comfort zone to be a globally successful entrepreneur.
Find out why Laura’s favorite word is NERD as in Podcast Nerd, Travel Nerd, Book Nerd...
What is the one biggest thing that help Laura overcome her biggest fear...Public Speaking.
Raise Your Hand. Show Up. Take Action.
Laura speaks candidly about stepping outside of her comfort zone and getting outside the box that People will put you in.
Make Your own T-shirt. Why? Find out the inspiration behind her motto.
Takeaways:
Be inclusive. Look for the person who is not feeling a part of and make them a part of the experience wherever you are.
Show up...and when you have a leg up...Pull someone else up. ~ Traci DeForge
RESOURCES:
http://www.copythatpops.com/media has links to everything
http://www.copythatpops.com/supremacy
http://www.copythatpops.com/bookchecklist
Mean Girls Movie (hyperlink to https://amzn.to/2rjfV0i)
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In this episode: Stephanie Dalfonzo, author of Goodbye Anxiety. Hello Freedom shares tips & tricks to manage stress and anxiety and even insomnia.
3 radio people reunite to share where they are now and why some of it has to do with Anxiety being the catalyst!
Russ shares a story about latex and fruit???
Traci tells her story about her meltdown in front of FAO Schwartz in NYC.
Stephanie reveals the details behind her Cheetos incident.
Have you heard of the tapping technique for managing stress & insomnia?
35 techniques straight out of Stephanie’s book to help say goodby to anxiety
Do you have issues of feeling anxiety when you are walking into an unfamiliar place?
Have you ever had a meltdown that seemed like it would never end? What can you do???
How do you escape your negative voice when it gets into the judgement zone?
Try Afformations instead of Affirmations.
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In this episode:
The Power of Your Child's Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety into Joy and Success
Journey to other places to alleviate pain
You may not be able to change your circumstances but you can change the way you react to your circumstances
Once you have a vision for what is possible then start taking the steps to get there
How do you start working with kids? Help them tap into their imaginations
Mindful awareness techniques are useful to keep children more relaxed and help access their
Creativity on the inside
There is creativity on the outside but there is so much more creativity on the inside.
We have 3 brains - our heart, our brains and our belly. Every part of your body holds wisdom
What does your belly tell you? What does your heart tell you?
ABOUT CHARLOTTE REZNICK, PhD
Charlotte Reznick PhD is a foremost authority on how to engage with and develop mindfulness, meditation, and imagination in children, teens, and young adults. She is author of the Los Angeles Times bestselling book, "The Power of Your Child's Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety into Joy and Success" and contributing author of the chapter "Imagery as a Therapeutic Tool with Children" to "Transformative Imagery: Cultivating Imagination for Healing, Change and Growth." Dr. Reznick is a child educational psychologist, a former UCLA Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology, and was named Imagery International's Person of the Year in 2013 for the global impact of her work with children. Dr. Reznick has a 30 year plus meditation practice, and is the creator of Imagery For Kids: Breakthrough for Learning, Creativity, and Empowerment, a mindful, positive coping skills program. In addition to her private practice in Los Angeles, California, she creates therapeutic meditation CDs for children, teens, and parents, blogs for Psychology Today and Huffington Post, is a frequent media consultant, and teaches workshops internationally on the healing power of children’s imagination.
www.ImageryForKids.com
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Russ and Traci take a walk down down memory lane with best of clips and commentary on their Journey to 100 episodes.
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In this episode:
Sarah Cooper, comedian, will illustrate how women can achieve their dreams, succeed in their careers, and become leaders, without harming the fragile male ego
9 Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women
Choose Your Own Adventure: Do You Want to Be Likable or Successful?
How to Survive Harassment Without Hurting His Career
Chicken and Egg question. Did Sarah come up with the concept before or after the #metoo movement?
Traci's Takeaways:
If you to try to fake it or be a chameleon in situations and lose your authenticity by trying to become what someone else wants you to be then you forget who you were in the first place. ~Traci DeForge
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In this episode:
Relationship Magic; Waking Up Together
Guy reveals a BIG secret that is not in his “BIO” about his experiences in the music industry.
The most abundant resource on this planet is our relationships.
How patterns impact our relationships.
Relationships are the basis of the important revelations we have about ourselves.
Love is far more important than my past.
Love is present.
Love does not harm another human being.
Love does not bring back old issues to prove they exist.
When we fight with our significant others it is because we are both in pain.
It’s the pain that picks the fight.
You are not responsible for my feelings.
The real addiction is to the false sense of self.
When it comes to workaholism...We become slaves to the accolades. Our false sense of self is what turns us into the slaves and takes what we love and turn it into our own prisons.
Why do we feel alone?
Have you ever felt alone when you are inside a relationship?
Traci's Takeaways:
The story is the same the details are different...Until you recognize how to change the patterns.
~ Traci DeForge
Relationships get stale because we stop communicating with each other about the truth that has brought us together to begin with.
~ Guy Finley
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In this episode:
We speak with Kali Rogers founder of JustBlush.com about handling a quarter life crisis..or an anytime life crisis!
What is a quarter life crisis?
What is the Formula the Millennial generation is rebelling against when it comes to the typical job path?
How to extend the typical brick and mortar businesses beyond the geographic land lock?
Paradox of Choice is paralyzing at whatever stage of life or crossroads you might be experiencing.
The life we create is based on the choices that we make.
A crisis brings up the authentic drive to make the change and then you have to have the courage to make the choices to make that change.
Go from FOMO To JOMO: The fear of missing out to the Joy of Missing Out.
With age comes timelines which can lead to choices that make things challenging.
Pretend you are in a ageless world and see how much freedom that brings.
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In this episode:
Alexia Vernon shares her story of how she stepped into her moxie in a big way!
What is Moxie?
Urban Dictionary Definition - It Means A Person Full Of Energy, Pep, Courage Or Determination.
Google Definition - force of character, determination, or nerve.
"when you've got moxie, you need the clothes to match"
Who is Alexia Vernon
Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement for her unique and effective approach to empowering women’s professional success, Alexia is the author of Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice Visibility, and Influence in the World. A sought-after speaker, coach, consultant and media contributor, Alexia is the creator and leader of multiple speaker training programs and has delivered transformational keynotes and corporate trainings for Fortune 500 companies and professional associations, spoken at the United Nations, delivered a TEDx talk on the future of feminism, and been featured by media including CNN, NBC, CBS, ABC, the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Inc., and Women’s Health.
Think with Moxie
Reduce negative self talk in order to create clear, confident and compelling interpersonal communication
Connect with Moxie
Develop the muscles to use heart-centered, high-impact communication when stakes are high, emotions are strong and opinions differ.
Present with Moxie
Present dynamically - whether to staff, clients, funders, internal stakeholders and community partners or at conferences and industry events
Influence with Moxie
Set all parties up for success, using direct communication, responding both to anticipated and unforeseen resistance, and finding creative ways to get all parties on board with a proposal.
Traci's Takeaways
Pay attention to your words. Filler words and statements like “I feel like…” I just need a minute of your time” and “In my opinion…” can diminish the value of what you’re saying!
Don’t let negative self talk keep you from talking with confidence. There is a big difference between being humble and over apologizing.
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Meredith Rigdon shares her journey to the Ironman 70.3 World Championship while running her own business as a single mom of two kids! Powerhouse indeed!
Russ questions why Traci is wearing a Detox Mask
What is the Ironman 70.3 World Championship?
This...
- Swim 1.2 mile
- Bike Ride 56 miles
- Run 13.1 miles
Career + Single Mom + Community Participant = Iron Woman
Hear how she moves from “just a runner” to Ironman World Championship. Spoiler Alert it started with a dare!
Traci shares her one and done Half Marathon experience in relation to her stressful CEO position and how it saved her sanity!
What is the Ironman 70.3 World Championship?
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Adi Halevy Arezzini shares how she started multi-million dollar business.
Adi gets personal about how her body dictated the reason she created her Teami Tea business.
3 Marketing tips on how to build a lifestyle brand.
What is the defining moment from I need this product to I am going to launch this product?
Action is way more important than ideas.
Eliminate the fear and move forward.
Customers will understand you if you market yourself correctly.
Adi walks through the details of how she named her iconic brand Teami - Where there is “I” in team!
Takeaways:
“Not everyone can make a huge lifestyle change but a small step can make a big impact.”
~ Adi Halevy Arezzini
“Reach out. Look for resources to help you find the answer to the question you don’t know.”
~ Adi Halevy Arezzini
“Differentiate your company by increasing your customer care factor."
~ Adi Halevy Arezzini
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Traci’s favorite thing about Andrew Holecek? He teaches on the opportunities that exist in obstacles.
In this episode:
Find more about the thrill of waking up in your dreams and having the time of your life in the privacy of their own mind.
Tips on making better use of the combined 50 hours a week the average person spends in slumber and turn part of it into a life-transforming experience.
Drawn to the concept of Lucid Dreaming as a vehicle for awakening or spiritual expansion
You can add up to six years of your life by leveraging your lucid dreams.
Every human being on this planet sleeps and dreams.
Have you ever wondered what’s going on when you sleep and dream?
What are those shadowy states of consciousness we all share?
Are they mere rest that serves no other purpose than rejuvenating your physical body?
What if there was more to the story?
What if those were the greatest missed opportunities of humankind?
Takeaway:
Honor your dreamstate by starting to journal your dreams.
QUOTES:
We can add 6 years to our life by attaining awareness of our dream experience.
~Andrew Holecek
The unconscious mind dictates much of our conscious mind.
~Andrew Holecek
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Which came first the partnership or the friendship? What are the personal and professional impacts..either way? Our guest, Jessica Rhodes & Margy Feldhuhn, share how they co-create together in business and life.
In this episode:
- Advantages of having a business partner vs being a solo entrepreneur.
- What happens to your perspective when you shift from being someone’s employee to being someone’s business partner?
- Learn 3 reasons why having a business partner can make you a better business owner.
- Your best friends and business partners. What happens when the sh*t hits the fan at work?
- How can business partners utilize each others strengths to fill gaps in the weak areas?
- Why are venture capitalists afraid of partnerships and spouses that work together?
- Why you should sign a business pre-nup before official business partners?
Takeaway:
There is no better way to problem solve than to bounce ideas off someone else and get their perspective. If you don't have a business partner then seek out an accountability partner or find other business entrepreneurs in your same industry or of a similar age and exchanges ideas for creative business solutions.
How you feel is not a result of what other people are doing it's all about how you are processing what other people are doing and then internalizing it. Pay attention to you are saying in your head about yourself and about other people. Feelings are not always factual.
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There's nothing more rewarding than seeing other women break down the barriers of fear, and realizing that they are worthy of all their deepest desires. Our guest, Rachel Joy is a Lifestyle Designer, helping women create the life and biz of their dreams. It's her job to guide women how to manifest their dreams into reality.
In this episode:
~ How do essential oils work effectively in Holistic Health Healing?
~ There's nothing more rewarding to me than seeing other women break down the barriers of fear, and realizing that they are worthy of all their deepest desires.
~ Let’s talk hustle vs Align. Does exterior world reflected my inner world
~ How to tell your old stories to stop talking to you. Replace the language
~ Why are morning rituals so important to personal and business growth
~ The only way to effectively change your state is by changing your physiology. How do you change your physiology, you may ask?
Resources:
Rachel Joy is a Lifestyle Designer, helping women create the life and biz of their dreams. As a certified Health Coach, Personal Trainer, Addiction Counsellor, and lover of personal development and other "woo-woo" things, it's my job to guide to manifest their dreams into reality.
Rachel Joy - www.theracheljoy.com
Facebook: @healthybodyhappyheart1
Instagram: @theracheljoy1
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Everyone is looking for the magic pill but taking the long road leads to better results not only in weight loss but also in life. Our guest, Jessi Culyer, is a wife and a mom of 3 kids who is passionate about helping women figure out the missing link in their health.
In this episode:
~ Do your homework on nutrition and understand what it is that you're taking in.
~ Did you know sugar is 8x more addicting than cocaine?
~ Shop the perimeter of the grocery store not the internal aisles.
~ If you think of your entire life as a puzzle. There are different pieces of the puzzle that all have to be there in order for you to be healthy.
~ There is a lot of misinformation and confusion about the food industry and in the weight loss industry. This is mainly due to the fact they are large profit centers and the confusion is by design.
~You’ve got to do more than just sit in front of your computer and sniff lavender all day to be healthy
Takeaway:
Think about decisions that you make out of habit - At any point you're feeling resistant to change stop and pause in that moment and ask yourself “Am I doing this because it's what's best for me? Or “Am I doing this because it's something I've always done?
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Barrie Risman is widely regarded as one of Canada’s most highly skilled yoga educators, teacher–trainers and mentors. She conveys the essence of the wisdom teachings of yoga with exceptional clarity, insight, and relevance to students of all levels and from all walks of life.
Yoga classes can be intimidating. It is ok to admit it.
Barrie shares her experience of her immersion into the practice of yoga. From 1997-2003, Barrie served as a full-time staff member for the SYDA Foundation in India and the US, immersed in the study and practice of all the traditional yogic disciplines.
Can yoga increase your sex drive?
Spiritual Yoga practices vs Physical Yoga practices or can you do both?
How do you get past the physical challenges if that is what is blocking you?
What is the one important thing to do before you begin a yoga class?
The word YOGA refers to a state of union between body, breath and mind but it also refers to everything we do to connect to that state.
What exactly is HOT yoga?
The importance of teaching mindfulness in schools.
Progress in yoga is to respond to the same situation in a different way.
Everything we do in yoga is a microcosm for life. A field for experimenting for how we live our lives.
Takeaway:
~ You only need to have 2 things to start a yoga practice. A yoga mat and the willingness to learn
~ You don’t have to be interested in spirituality at all to get the benefits of yoga
~Before you start a yoga class give yourself an opportunity to check in with yourself. Allow yourself to be present
~ Breathe into your challenges. It builds the muscle to do that in all areas of your life
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Michelle Pippin, Founder of WOW (Women who WOW!) shares her powerful drive behind supporting women entrepreneurs while focused on building her own business.
In this episode:
Go big or go home - is more than just about the money. It is a mindset.
Exploring the myth of NOT selling in entrepreneurship.
WHY IN THE WORLD should we pay ourselves LESS than a company would pay us?
WHY wouldn’t we go into business determined to make FAR more than we’d ever make elsewhere? After all… we get to choose.
What factors to consider when setting your prices?
Just say no. Some business opportunities are not always a fit for your GROWTH.
You choose your industry. If it doesn’t work out. You have the choice to make a change.
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Traci returns after an unexpected podcast sabbatical and she has some explaining to do!
A candid conversation about aging parents, dominating personalities, shutting down and coming back.
What caused her to shut down? How are things now? She shares behind the scene personal circumstances which led to old behavior habits of avoidance, people pleasing, isolation and how getting to the other side was more challenging for this time than ever before.
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Journey to There is debuting it’s new series of Ladies Room episodes. These episodes are designed to dig deeper on issues you feel like you would want to talk about with your girlfriend. Those questions and topics you would only feel comfortable asking a really close friend.
Traci kicks off the premiere “Ladies Room” episode by hosting her long time best friend of 35 years. Tammy Jacobs and Traci met in high school and have shared life ever since.
Russ plays the best friend version of the newlywed game with Traci and Tammy to see how well they really do know each other!
Listen as they discuss how shared experiences boost bonding and why that is important.
Traci and Tammy successfully navigated working together in a highly competitive work environment. How did they do it and stay such close friends?
Traci and Tammy’s keys to success to long term friendships? Respect. Respect personally, professionally. Respect each others relationships and respect each others confidence.
Take time for each other. Challenges of technology give you an artificial sense of closeness. Make sure to keep close by spending time together that is real quality time.
“Lifelong friends not only know the person you are, but also the person you were,” explains Irene Levine, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of The Friendship Blog. “Having that shared history makes it easier to communicate in shorthand. They understand your roots and may have been witness to other important people and events in your life.”
Create a friendship memory milestone where you can always rely on each other to share it with you during good times and bad times.
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Living simply is not always easy. It is not a destination it is a journey. Before you even begin to simplify you will need to identify how you define simple, where your life is complicated and explore why you seek simplicity in the first place.
Humans have the tendency to over complicate the simple.
About 5% to 7% of adults in the U.S. are pursuing some form of voluntary simplicity, according to Gerald Celente, director of the Trends Research Institute in New York.
Simple is relative. Everyone’s definition is different.
You need to know where your life is complicated before you can simplify it.
How do you know when enough is enough?
What does embracing simplicity mean to you?
Why are you seeking simplicity?
What are some steps large or small you can take to live more simply?
How is your debt load? In a study published in 2000 in the journal Social Science & Medicine, researchers from Ohio State University and the University of Alabama found that people with a high ratio of credit card debt to income were in worse physical health than those with less debt.
Here’s a thought...
If you are willing to honor the four agreements as outlined by don Miguel Ruiz then your life is immediately more simple.
Takeaways:
Consolidate emails- Minimize multiple emails by using the Google Apps feature lets you use an alias feature so you can consolidate them.
Purse in a Purse - Ladies, Buy a small purse that holds your cash, credit cards, phone and a lipstick. You can switch purses quickly and make sure you have everything on the go.
Time block your days so all of your in=person or phone meetings are in all on the same day or half of a day and reserve the other day to focus on administrative or other focused work.
In a study published in 2000 in the journal Social Science & Medicine, researchers from Ohio State University and the University of Alabama found that people with a high ratio of credit card debt to income were in worse physical health than those with less debt.
If you don’t have the cash flow – it is a no go.
Resources:
Define simple. It means different things to different people
http://simplicitycollective.com/what-does-the-simple-life-mean-to-you
Identify areas in your life where you can simplify.
https://www.positivityblog.com/simplicity-habits/
https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/features/cut-stress-simplify-life#2
The Four Agreements
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005BRS8Z6/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
QUOTE
If you don’t have the cash flow – it is a no go.
@TraciDeForge #debtfree
You need to know the areas your life are complicated before you can simplify it.
@TraciDeForge #embracesimplicity
How do you know when enough is enough?
@TraciDeForge #itsnotaboutthemoney
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Can I ask you a question?
Traci sits down to do her morning journal and an episode is born! It starts with a conversation with herself and then evolves into a fun experiment for you! Listen as she reads out loud from her journal pages and then proposes...Can I ask you a question?
IN THIS EPISODE:
I have a thought provoking but fine experiment for you to try. How I came about this experiment was actually a happy accident. You may know that part of my new activities I put it into my schedule this year includes writing and journaling 3 pages every morning before I check my email
This morning when I went to do my page is something fascinating happened and I thought I would share it with you and see if you want to give it a try and see if you've found it to be as insightful as I did. When I do these pages I just sit down and the are completely blank. I just write the first thing that comes to my mind. This morning the first thing that came to my mind was... Can I ask you a question? which is feels a little odd when you're writing that and you're in THE ONLY ONE you're talking to! But I went with it because it was the first thing that came to my mind, right?
I thought I might read you my actual journal entry based on the fact that I prompted myself with...Can I ask you a question. Now, don't get scared about getting inside of my head. It's not as dangerous of a place as you might think! Here we go. I write,
Can I ask you a question? What would happen if you release the fear of any outcome?
And then did whatever you wanted to do with your time?
How would you spend it?
Would you still work as much as you do?
Or would you play more? What does play look like to you?
Do you know how to play?
Would you play creatively? like go to a studio and play? Would you make art? Would you paint? Would you make jewelry? Would you put beads on canvas? Would you write what would you write about your experiences?
What is the most profound experience that comes to mind? Is it painful? Has the pain fully healed? How could you heal it further? Can your pain help others avoid pain? Can it help them walk through it more swiftly more thoughtfully with a new perspective?
As pause here. I realize I can see the funnel of what's happening in this most unexpected experience.
My exercise of doing this first brought me back to dead center of an issue I struggle with constantly. How to play was the first thing that came up in the stream of consciousness. Yet as I kept asking myself the questions I expose the layers of what was really most important to me. Where I would spend my time and how I would spend it. What evolved out of the process was I would spend the time creating whether it is writing or art or even strategy in business.
I create with the sole purpose of healing my painful moments or so I can help someone else have a new perspective on their painful experiences or just even to give insight on how to avoid them altogether.
And then…. I realize I AM doing what my soul craves.
I am using my voice my stories my lessons on this show.
Sharing them on this show which is really what feels like play to me. Problem solved in three pages or less. There you have it!
How you spend your time is probably one of the most important questions you can ask yourself. Second only to... how would you spend it differently?
Taking a look at how you spend it differently presents an area where you could either feel disconnected void or seeking something soothing to heal an avoidance which opens up the question... Why don't you spend your time on this one area you crave so much? Is it based on fear? What is driving the fear? When you figure out the one thing that you need or want to do more of is also the one thing you do not know how to do. Literally, figuratively, physically, or emotionally dont know how to do.
Would you ask for help?
Have you already figured it out. When you think about this does an emotional connection rise up with you and with this new idea that so strong telling you what it is that you want for yourself could this feeling desire craving lead to helping others regardless of the answers that you get from this fine. And trust me and it's fun experience. The most important part of it all is to start asking yourself these questions.
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Well...That's Awkward.
Having those difficult conversations help take care of you, your finances and your friendships!
We teach people how to treat us whether it is in how we run our business, choose our relationships or maintain our boundaries.
There are choices in how we choose to react to other people’s comments and opinions.
A surefire tip on how not to take things personally.
Leave toxic relationships. Don’t try to change them. It won’t work. Period.
What is the one question that shuts down “scope creep”? How would you like to pay for that?
Have you ever considered using a an autoresponder email as a response to all of your emails instead of just using it when you are on vacation?
There are things in relationships that you have to discuss and if you don't discuss them you are opening up yourself to things happen like resentments and expectations which lead to you getting disappointed.
Traci teaches Russ the appropriate way to apologize. HINT: If you use the word ‘but’ after the “I’m Sorry” it negates the apology.
Takeaways:
Have the awkward conversation.
Don’t start a project without having the full scope of it.
Even if it is a small change to the scope. Charge the client so you set the precedent at the beginning of the relationship.
If you set specific office hours. Stick to them or other people will not respect them.
Resources:
Vladimir Writes
http://www.vladimirwrites.com/5-client-rules-need-set-starting-new-freelance-project/
Sarah Silverman
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2018/01/08/a-man-trolled-sarah-silverman-on-twitter-she-ended-up-helping-him-with-his-medical-problems/?utm_term=.6d4d018e7c2e
Melody Biringer
https://journeytothere.com/sidehustle-melody-biringer-episode-46/
Image Credit:
Photo by Jurica Koletić on Unsplash
QUOTES
Have the awkward conversation.
@TraciDeForge #SayWhatYouMean
Respond with kindness. It is your choice.
@TraciDeForge #KindWinsEverytime
#TeamElaine
@TraciDeForge #GirlPower
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Traci opens up raw, unedited and solo about how her reflections on last year led her to realize how joy matters. YOUR joy matters.
You'll hear true confessions, requests for accountability and how she plans to stay focused on her joy this year.
: [00:00:23] I guess I've been doing a lot of thinking. It's that time of year of course with the whole New Year's kicking off a new year often means reflection and sometimes even big commitments to change. I am not a fan so much of the resolutions but I do find that it is a great time to just take a look at what I can celebrate as accomplishments for the past year and also where I could tweak here and there for improvement. But you know this can be a slippery slope for me I need to be mindful that it's not all about what I can do better but more about recognizing what I did do well and recognizing also some areas where I can open up for more learning more play for sure and most importantly more joy. I think the message that I hear resonating with me in these last end of the year last year and first two weeks of this year so far is that joy matters because really Joy does matter.
: [00:01:37] And this is an awareness which hasn't always come easy for me for several reasons.
: [00:01:41] I think the primary one is I'm almost always focused on thinking about how much YOUR joy matters and it does... it really, really does in fact as you know I've built my business around working with people to help them find sustain and maintain joy in their lives and in their work. But I've also compromised areas of my life in regrettable ways by putting joy of others before my own. Ok… but here's the thing. This was not an act of martyrdom. Oh no. It usually occurred because I was never 100 percent sure where the source of my happiness and fulfillment was actually originating. I would confuse my happiness with feeling successful and most definitely derived fulfillment from the accomplishment that drove the successes. Of course I've had things in my life I've enjoyed. I mean, don't get me wrong but I could never remember exactly what those things were when it came time to actually go out and really enjoy them. The times I did take, as we've talked about a lot on the show, to do something joyful or fun were often tainted by my mind being located somewhere other than where my body was at the moment. But never fear… because my hands were always adept at knowing exactly where my phone was. Russ has often taunted me that if he wants to see a full meltdown then all he needs to do is just have my phone and I guess (True Confessions) he's right.
: [00:03:25] I want to proclaim that most of these challenges are behind me and I feel truthful, sincere and authentic in saying that today as I have reflected on 2017 I recognized real progress. In the past, it was more about the struggle than appreciating the experiences and thank goodness this year was definitely more about the experiences than the struggle to appreciate them. For me this is something to celebrate. It began by finally being able to identify what I liked to do for play. I always talk about, “You have to have awareness before you can have change. In order to have sustainable change you have to have action.” I had to really begin by identifying what it is I even really liked to do, how I like to create and most definitely identify the people I want to play with in creative ways. This meant I needed to show up in personal relationships and the key to that is they needed to be relationships that were not founded on work. That's hard for me because I love my work so much and I love the people I work with and we end up spending so much time together that friendships evolve.
: [00:04:55] In life we need to have friends outside of our jobs and our business. I had to put down the phone to check the e-mail. Then I had to pick it up to reach out which is a little bit of an oxymoron. But if you think about it …you can't reach out unless you reach out and these days phone and text is probably the best way to do that. I had to really manage the balance between using the phone as a technology tool for work but also using it as a lifeline to reach out not only just in terms of challenges or when I was feeling down or upset but also when things were good. You know someone once told me that it's always better to reach out when things are good because you get more comfortable doing that. So then, God forbid if there was anything wrong or that you needed somebody, then you would already be comfortable picking up that 100-pound cement phone. My challenge is if I have to ask for what I needed then I'd actually probably rather die than let you know I need something. But I’m making progress in that area as well.
: [00:06:09] Taking action in these areas has given me the ability to find out what was working for me and what wasn't. But more importantly, it gave me clarity to understand how vital it was, and has been, to keep doing the things that are working. So if you catch up to where I am now? I will say that I give myself a B plus on my 2017 reflection versus my 2018 identifying things for myself that are joyful and goals and things that I want. I say B plus because when I very first went to start the exercise over the New Year holiday, I began with the reflecting and all of a sudden I found myself in this yucky negative place. For example, last year I launched a new program offering in my business. I had a goal that I wanted to get ten new clients in this particular program and just as a reminder to myself more than anything, I just want to say that it was a brand new, never promoted, never executed, never worked on, brand new, stone cold launch of a program that was not my most inexpensive program. In my goal of getting 10 new people I thought it was attainable although I knew it was aggressive.
: [00:07:58] When I'm doing my reflecting I've realized I was actually beating myself up because I didn't get 10 and I did not get 10. I reviewed all the numbers and I realized I got eight.
: [00:08:15] Hello… eight out of ten. And also as a result of getting the new business and working so hard on the new program overall revenues were up seriously like 72 percent or more. I was actually excited and can celebrate the fact that I can access these numbers and calculate these performance increases and increase in the number of business clients because I had actually stayed true to my 2017 goal of having all of my financials, books and things like that all caught up and current as opposed to doing it all at once before taxes. I have to admit has been the case. So shout out to me! I had to celebrate these things. I got eight new clients, my revenue was up and I had all my financials at my fingertips to prove it. I have to say when I was looking at all of this and dove immediately to the negative and then pulled myself out by flipping it and looking at the positive, I could hear a dear friend and mentor’s voice in my head saying, “Hey Traci when you change the way you look at things; the things you look at change.”
: [00:09:37] They certainly did. I encourage you this year to really take a look at the way you look at things. If you're feeling that heavy drudge of I shoulda, woulda, coulda. I didn't but I was gonna then pause in that moment and say, “Hey wait! I did do this or I have done this or I made progress here.” Take a moment to really appreciate in that moment. I will say one of the things I think I took away from the experience that was so valuable was that I have a huge awareness now that in 2018, I don't want to wait until the end of the year to celebrate all that I have accomplished. I am making and taking time to touch base with myself on a weekly basis. I’m really going to take a look at what I have accomplished and celebrate it. I’m also going to adjust my course by reviewing and staying on track so that it's easier to course correct than it is to go back and have to do a U turn or realize you've jumped off a cliff but it's too late because you've already jumped! I'm going to share with you before we wrap up something you might find interesting and in even if you don't guess what you're going to hear it. J
: [00:11:14] Because I need to say some of the things that I want to be accountable to for myself this year.
: [00:11:23] And I can assure you that if I do these things for myself personally, I am going to show up way better for you this year. And I am so grateful and so appreciative of your support and your listening and your feedback and your comments and all kinds of fun stuff that you do with us when interacting with our show.
: [00:11:47] This year instead of talking about my business goals. I really wanted to take a few minutes and just hit the highlights of some of my personal goals this year and be really accountable for that. As we go throughout the year I can give you updates. Here we go. Probably my biggest and most exciting personal goal this year is that I have committed to training and running a half marathon. I’ve done one before but it's been almost eight years. This year I'm turning 50. March 31st. I'm not really freaked out about 50 but I felt like if I could do the half on April the 15th. Provided that I can sustain my physical well-being. I plan to do that for myself for my fiftieth birthday.
I discovered over the holidays that reading fiction at night was actually really good for me. It helped me decompress and check out and kept me from being on my phone or on Facebook. So I'm going to do more fiction reading at night. No business books, no tips and tricks of social media or how to grow your business. It's all going to be about fiction.
I am going to get all of my health checkups. Yes, I know. Don't judge me. I was very bad about that last year and maybe even the year before… but this year… I'm doing all of the mammograms, colonoscopies and physicals… all those things. Welcome to 50!
I proclaimed that I want to write more handwritten notes and not necessarily just thank you notes but just writing notes to people in general because I just love it so much.
I realized when I got all the holiday cards that is just so fun to get something in the mail that is not a bill. So, I'm going to send out more handwritten.
: [00:13:57] If you want one from me please e-mail us your address at Traci@journeytoThere.com. You can email me there and I will be more than happy to send you a handwritten note.
I want to and I hope this might resonate with you as something for you to do this year. I want to say thank you to myself. As odd as that may sound at first, just think about it. I really want to say thank you to myself because I push myself. I'm hard on myself. I exhaust myself.
: [00:14:38] I just really, really, really want to recognize and have gratitude for and thank myself for the things that I do for myself in order for me to even be able to do what it is that I do. I love what it is that I do. I'm always full of gratitude to thank others and appreciate others. But this year I'm going to say thank you to myself. It comes down to the fact that 2017 was the year I discovered my joy mattered. And it does. My joy matters and your joy matters. Think about how will you find joy this year.
Let us know! You can call us on speak pipe. Go to our website, www.JourneytoThere.com. You're going to see the super cool little microphone on the right hand side of the page and just click on it. You can leave us a voicemail and tell us how you are going to find your joy this year. And even some of your fun goals that you working on. You can send us an e-mail to traci@journeytothere.com. You can comment on our website or leave a comment on our Facebook page. Go to our Twitter. Whatever is the easiest way for you to communicate. I want to hear from you. And we want to have more engagement with you this year. That's another one of our goals. Thank you. Don't forget that your joy matters and start by saying thank you to yourself for all that you do, to take care of you. Have a great year!
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Technology addiction? Sugar habit? Trying to remove your own barriers to growth?
Identify the why and then you will know when the triggers happen so it is easier not to indulge.
Learn how to define the difference in will power and discipline.
Genetics vs Will Power. Hear the points and counterpoints of this age old debate.
Learn how to identify the triggers of the bad habits you are trying to change.
Discover one action to implement for successful big change for the long term.
Tips on a recruitment tool which will get your employees started out the right way. They key is that it ensures they avoid bad habits from beginning.
Gain insight on the value of community in effecting successful change
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Money is still the number one subject people don't talk about. It's the last topic in any relationship; whether it's with your husband, wives, significant other or even your friends and family, even your closest loved ones.
Get an education and learn tools so it makes that conversation more easy to have and so you feel more confident having it.
We're all human. We all have money. We all have to learn how to be with money. There's this misconception that if you're facing a money challenge or concern you're the only one going through it.
Financial planning is not an age specific situation. Even if you didn't do this planning from the start in your early 20s you can still rewrite your story.
There's a misconception that you only do financial planning when you have a certain amount of income or a certain amount of assets. It's not true.
Start to see your money as a relationship that you're going to have for the rest of your life. It takes a little pressure off and hopefully a lot of anxiety and stress off the table because you're just going to treat it like any relationship that goes through ups and downs. You're constantly working on it. How do you improve it? How do you make it better? We all need to remember it's not the destination it's the journey.
Takeaway:
Go on a weekly money date. Take time once a week to recap what’s coming in & what’s going out to stay on budget.
Hire somebody you like and trust that you feel can help you execute on your financial goals.
Get over yourself and ask for help if you need it.
QUOTES
It's your life. It's your money. It's your responsibility.
@Brittneycastro #CFPPro
Rewrite Your Money Story
@@Brittneycastro ##CFPPro
What do you want to change next year in your financial story?
@@Brittneycastro ##CFPPro
RESOURCES:
www.financiallywisewomen.com
Brittney’s Green Smoothie recipe
Kale
Spinach
Almond Milk
Vegan Protein Powder
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What do successful people have in common? What do they do differently? Do they know something we don’t?
Live your life unconditionally.
Build up your Emotional Fitness resilience.
Ruts occur when we lose our hunger.
Change your thinking and you change your life
The road to failure and the road to success is the same path; Success is only further along the way.
You’re either moving forward or you’re moving backward. Either way you are moving so make choices to move forward.
Just take 10 minutes at the end of your day and at the beginning of your day to relish in creativity.
Possibility Thinking.
Often it’s our thinking—not reality—that keeps us stuck where we are. Dwelling in possibility can also be one of the most exciting ways to spend your time. Creative Thinking Not all thinking needs to produce major results to better your life. Over time, creative thinking can make your days more experimental, fun—and a heck of a lot easier.
Reflective Thinking Allow your past learning and experiences to fuel positive, forward momentum.
Shared Thinking As the old saying goes, “Nothing changes if nothing changes”
Questioning Popular Thinking As the old saying goes, “Nothing changes if nothing changes.”
Good thinkers are always in demand: They’re problem-solvers.
Give 100% to your 20%.
Susie Moore is the author of What if it DOES Work Out? How a Side Hustle can change your life and creator of the online program Side Hustle Made Simple. Formerly a Sales Director at a Fortune 500 company, she's a business coach to CEOs and founders and an advisor to tech startups in New York City and Silicon Valley. Susie has been featured on the Today show, Forbes, Business Insider, Marie Claire, Time, Inc, Family Circle and many more.
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Your email is "everyone else's to-do list for you." And if you allow your inbox to set the tone for your day, you're guaranteed to spend a huge chunk of your time on other people's priorities….All I was doing was other people's work all day long, and I never actually got to the things that I wanted to accomplish." - Ashton Kutcher
One recent Pew survey found 80 percent of Millennials sleep with their phones. No wonder then that another poll showed 40 percent of Americans of all ages check their phones within five minutes of waking. By the time they've brushed their teeth, more than 80 percent of people have grabbed their gadgets. And this isn't just the addled and unsuccessful -- another survey found that half of top executives start their day with email.
Psychologist Benjamin P. Hardy suggests a small amount of writing not only in the morning but also before bed, to tap into your subconscious in order to answer some of your life's trickiest and most pressing questions. "This simple routine will help you crystallize where you want to go, and how you will get there.
Many of us confuse being busy with being efficient.
The seduction of busy work. It makes you feel productive.
Takeaway:
Write everything out on your to do list and pick three to accomplish that day.
The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
Stephen Covey
Ask yourself. Am I more comfortable staying the in the vision of this successful opportunity? Or am I scared the reality won’t happen?
Schedule time for the busy work. Adhere to it.
Resources:
https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/ashton-kutcher-uses-this-simple-morning-ritual-to-skyrocket-his-productivity.html?cid=sf01002&sr_share=facebook
https://www.fastcompany.com/40492781/this-is-what-happened-when-i-scheduled-time-to-procrastinate?partner=inc&cid=sf01002&sr_share=facebook
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Stephen_Covey
QUOTE
Doing everything is not an option.
@TraciDeForge #sayno
The seduction of busy work. It makes you feel productive.
@TraciDeForge #beproductive
Schedule time for the busy work. Stick to it.
@TraciDeForge #sticktoit
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The New media rules. There are no rules. And if you don't evolve with how things are changing you will get left behind.
Journey to There is throwing down a challenge! There should be a national authentic media day where all of the all of the anchors and all of the co-hosts all of the people on ABC NBC, Fox News and CNN wake up in the morning, brush their teeth, get in their car go on camera raw and unedited. No Makeup- No Stylists. We dare you to do that!
We are all walking around with too many expectations of people to meet us where we were versus just respecting where they are.
Truth vs Training is so important to break down because whether you're getting ready to be on CNN, do a Facebook video or just walk into a room of peers at church or a movie theater or whatever. We all have a tendency to want to put on this mask of what we think other people feel like we should be like, act like, walk like and talk like.
A revealing story on how Peter Shankman, founder of HARO (Help A Reporter Out) revealed a huge disappointment to social media and gained 10,000 new followers.
What is your truth vs your training when it comes to showing up for traditions?
How do you respond to those that have non traditional marriages, careers and/or lifestyles? Are those reactions about them or based on a struggle going on inside of you?
Stand in your truth. Question Everything.
Click here to watch my highly (self- critiqued) interview with Ashley Sanders!
Takeaway:
Break the traditions that no longer work for you.
Be willing to inspire change
Really pay attention to the energy of the environment that you're in. If you're going through the motions of something and feel that as a physical experience...Allow yourself to pause in the moment and identify the fact that is your truth. You do not want to be there or in that experience. Remember that feeling for the next time so the next time it happens you can make a different decision.
When you're going into any type of situation or redundancy of a tradition or anything that is occurring where you can literally feel the “life being sucked out of you” or that energy drain or just feeling like tired and exhausted. Pay attention to what your circumstances are and your environment is around when that feeling occurs and make a conscious decision not to recreate that scenario again.
RESOURCES:
http://jengroover.com/
https://www.amazon.com/What-If-Why-Not-Transform/dp/1935251678/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
https://www.brainshark.com/ideas-blog/2014/March/ten-video-marketing-statistics-and-what-they-mean-to-you
QUOTE
The New media rules. There are no rules
Stand in your truth. Question Everything.
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Traci DeForge is interviewed live on the Motivational Monday podcast with Abigale Otchere. Abigale poses many question to Traci around, What is the why behind the work you do?
What you consider to be your zone of genius? Bring Strategy and Execution together. Integrating both Strategy and Execution into the work I do with my clients. According to a research published in Harvard Business Review, only 8% of consultants can create strategy and execute the deployment of the strategy.
What is the one thing you wish you knew then that you know now?
How to say No. No is complete sentence. That it is ok to say no. That no can lead to yes in ways you never thought possible.
What is one of your darkest hours? Walk us through that story?
Traci shares the details of
What would you congratulate yourself for now? Really learning the benefit of putting things on the pause button. Putting a decision on hold until you get clear with your head, heart and gut.
Current passion projects you're working on? PODCASTING! It is clearly the next evolution of radio. I love the ability for podcasting to give you the opportunity to change the conversation.
How do you cultivate your champion mindset when you are faced with challenges? Trust the process. You are going to have detours and obstacles and most times these are put in your path lead to the place you need to going.
Hints and tips for harnessing more energy for busy executives and entrepreneurs?
You know your own truth. Allow yourself to practice your truth you can take advantage of the resources that are out there to help you make incremental steps for change.
Favorite personal development book? One Personal The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron seeing change thru creative exercises. Creativity gives you solutions for strategy. The second The 7 habits of highly successful people by Stephen Covey
Takeaway:
Be mindful of your energy getting depleted before you are on empty.
It is ok to say no. That no can lead to yes in ways you never thought possible.
You don’t have to wait to be great to start. But if you start you will be great.
When you learn to say no you know you have learned your boundaries.
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Meet our Guest Celinne Da Costa, Italian- Brazilian nomadic dreamer with infinitely more curiosity than time.
Traci wants to tell her 17 year old self to meet Celinne and travel the world. Celinne wants to introduce Traci and Celinne to her mom!!
Celinne pushes Russ Waaaaay outside of his comfort zone with stories from her teen years.
What is the difference between being responsible and the business badge of honor?
3 tips to become your own life architect starting today.
Traci DeForge Takeaway -
Redefine Responsibility. Your responsibility is to show up for yourself so you can show up for others.
Spend your time to find out what it is that you really want instead of checking off a list of things that aren’t even what we want to do.
Write down your fears and break them. Instead of saying I can’t afford ask yourself How can I do this?
Once you make the decision. Take action in incremental steps which open the possibilities for you so the opportunities come to you which enables you to stay on the journey you set out to be on.
Don’t get stuck in the fear. Start a conversation and watch the opportunities present themselves.
Show Quotes -
We are the architect and the world is the village helping you build your dream brick by brick.
Have a vision and hold to it.
Start a conversation and watch the opportunities present themselves.
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Live from Los Angeles, CA with Gina Delvac, producer of the podcast Call Your Girlfriend!
Gina and Traci discuss honoring the feminine way women do business and how Call Your Girlfriend started out as a fun podcast and turned into a “happy accident” yet successful small business.
How to prioritize valuing the financial piece of working with your girlfriends.
Gina shares how the “girlfriends” on the show settle conflict with their sound founding principle of not tearing anyone down.
Have you heard about the female founder who hired a fake male CEO while raising capital for their business?
Harvard Business school groups made up of friends prove to be the most unstable in founder turnover rates of nearly 30%.
Gina gives us the key to the success of the Call your Girlfriends partnership.
Traci DeForge Takeaway:
Own your strengths and seeking people that value that in you. That is the type of person you want to get into business
Be committed to the respect of the relationship is the core to the success of any friendship, marriage or business partnership
Flex your ego. Shout out what you’re good at!
Show Quotes:
I don't shine if you don't shine!
Extraordinary blazes new trails!
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I was recently in LA for two podcast conferences and spent time with some amazing entrepreneurial women. One of my favorites is Jan McCarthy, Artist & Host of the podcast Entrepreneurial Voice. It was a blast to visit her art studio where she records her shows live from LA. Enjoy!
Traci DeForge talks directly about workaholism. It is the only addiction where you get accolades instead of intervention.
Find out how an email address morphed into a successful business.
The combination of art and business are equally as important as the intersection of personal and business growth.
TAKEAWAY:
Find out your why. What would you be doing if money was no issue?
Can you describe yourself in 6 words? Mine is….Influencer for impactful and creative change.
QUOTES
“Work-alcoholism is the only addiction which brings accolades not intervention.” - Traci DeForge
“Light up and then shine your light out into the world.” - Traci DeForge
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You’re Killing Me! : An in depth review of businesses at risk of being extinct as a result of Millennial lifestyle trends.
This episode was inspired by an article written by Kate Taylor for Business Insider
Russ and Traci have a lively discussion on 19 businesses being “killed” by Millennials and the newer trends of our fast-paced convenience driven lifestyle.
Youthful generations have always made an impact on lifestyle trends which can make or break the success of an entire industry.
There is one grounding reality in the sea of business trend evolution.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Pay attention to what your customers need, not just what is trendy.
Good customer service wins over trendsetting every time.
Quotes:
"Good customer service wins over trendsetting anytime."
"Pay attention to what your customer's need, not just to what is trendy."
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Traci and Russ interview Mary Shores, entrepreneur and author of the book Conscious Communications; Your Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life.
In this episode:
Based on two decades of research, Mary Shores teaches how you can create new neural pathways by changing your words.
Gratitude is a state of mind that arises when you affirm good things in your life that come from outside yourself. When people in great numbers choose to practice gratitude, the cumulative force can help create the kind of world we all hope for.
Whether we realize it or not, the words we use dictate and control our lives. The persistent messages we repeat can frame our thoughts and trap us into a mind-set that is difficult to break. This mind-set often manifests itself with statements like “I can’t,” “I’m not good enough,” and “I’ll never find the [insert the blank] I want.” Many times, we don’t stop to consider the profound impact that these negative, limiting words have on our mentality, life choices, and the path of possibility that we manifest.
After gathering years of research and personal experience with how words affect individuals mentally and emotionally, business owner and communications specialist Mary Shores realized that there is a life-changing theme persistent throughout ancient traditions and spiritual foundations that is supported by scientific professionals. They all agree on one recurring truth: Words have the power to create and transform.
Mary took her discoveries and created easy-to-follow, step-by-step practices that can transform each area of your life. Based on two decades of research, Mary teaches how you can create new neural pathways simply by changing your words. You can align your words, thoughts, and actions to produce the results you want. Conscious Communications can show you how!
Conscious Communications is your guide to creating a life in alignment with your dreams and desires. With thoroughly tested exercises, research, advice, and personal stories, you will begin to experience the tremendous impact of words and how to utilize the right ones to unleash and unlock the power to create a new reality.
Traci DeForge Takeaway:
The Zen 10:
Yoga • Meditation • Relaxing Bath • Social Media Fast • Healing Body Work • Deep Breathing • Exercise • Laughter • Heart Hugs • Sleep For 8 Hours A Night
This is a list of ten ways to support your nervous system, and they all do essentially the same thing: each will reduce your stress, provide an overall increase in happiness and help with issues in the tissues, targeting the neurons and chemicals in your brain and getting them to work for you.
You’re going to pick three:
One that you will commit to doing every day,
One that you will commit to doing once a week
One that you will commit to doing once a month.
QUOTES:
“The life you create is based on the choices that you make.” - Traci DeForge
“Awareness of your choices is the key to the doors of freedom.” -Mary Shores
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Denial is powerful. It is even more powerful when your body is trying to speak to you about the state of your wellness.
Traci talks frankly about how blurry vision, migraines, forgetfulness… and other neurological symptoms led to an unlikely wake up call.
Are you guilty of fake relaxing?
Don’t be blindsided when it comes to your own health. Be your own advocate.
If you are not paying attention to your body it will keep reminding you until you do.
Traci DeForge Takeaway:
Don’t be blindsided by side effects of medication. List your medications and list the side effects. Cross check them and then check in on your wellness.
Be your own health advocate.
Wake up to your own state of well-being before your body gives you a wakeup call.
Quotes:
"You are only as good for your business are you are for yourself."
"If you're not paying attention to your body; It will keep reminding you until you do."
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Working together in your relationship is hard enough. Can your relationship withstand working together in your business?
Are these Pros or Cons when working with your significant other?
- Provides an opportunity to spend a lot of time together
- Provides an easier commute
- Ability to plan days off together
- Share similar Interests
- Creates greater dedication towards work
- Mutual respect exists
- Better understanding of the job and each other
Trust that when one of you says you will do something, it will get done.
Power Couples:
Bill and Melinda Gates travel separately
Eventbrite cofounders and entrepreneurs Kevin and Julia Hartz did quarterly reviews of their relationship when launching their business
Relationship Contracts are a new trend. They are being used to define the relationship. This all started out of cohabitation agreements before same sex marriage was legal.
Priscilla Chan famously detailed her requirements of Mark Zuckerberg in a relationship contract before moving to California to be with him. Notably, she requested 100 minutes of shared time (neither to be spent in his apartment or in the Facebook headquarters) per week. Additionally, she required one date night per week.
Re-defining power couples. Dual careers with high stress. Marriage between two doctors, or lawyers or similarly stressful jobs.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Manage EXPECTATIONS. It is important to define roles up front and to clearly communicate each other’s expectations upfront so silent resentments do not build up.
Make it a priority to keep your work time and family time separate.
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Ray Kroc, the founder of McDonald’s, seems to think so...
Persistence and Perseverance are sometimes the only two things that help an entrepreneur get through difficult times.
Find out the 3 key ingredients that made McDonald’s a worldwide phenomenon.
Do you have to choose between ethics and profits?
What does McDonald’s have to do with the success of NPR?
What really defines an overnight success?
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Focus on your 3. Narrow down your offerings, your pricing packaging or the choices of where to go on vacation to three choices. You will gain a lot of clarity and people will know how to respond to you in a clear way.
Show Quotes:
I was an overnight success 30 years in the making. -Ray Kroc - Founder of McDonald's
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To get momentum we must be motivated. To get motivated we need momentum. This is not a riddle. Find out why.
Motivation is REASON. Momentum is the ACTION you take.
According to the experts in the sciences of neurology and behavior – 95% of what drives our behavior as human beings is unconscious.
Is motivation or momentum the ultimate chicken and egg dilemma?
DEFINE THE WIN! You can’t get momentum until you define the win. Every little win is one step closer to more momentum.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Get an accountability partner. If you don’t have somebody that is on the same page with where you’re going then invest in a coach or consultant.
Lower the bar to raise the bar: Start out with a first draft or first sketch that is not your best. This helps minimize your fear.. It can only go up from there!
Quote:
"It is never the size of your problem that is the problem. It’s a lack of momentum." -John Maxwell
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Your Journey often involves hitting some walls along the way. Sometimes you keep doing the same things and getting the same results and don't even realize it is not working for you anymore.
This episode was inspired by an article written by an article written by Sam Horn, Intrigue expert and a mentor who impacted my life in a significant way.
Your Journey often involves hitting some walls along the way. Sometimes you keep doing the same things and getting the same results and don't realize it's not working for you anymore.
Business owners hit a wall. Business climates change. Your life changes while you are running your business. Re-directing your energy towards a new path is not a failure it is simply a new path.
Tips on top watering dead plants in your business and life and watch yourself blossom.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Write your own ending! Once you become aware you’ve hit a wall, take some time for yourself and write the outcome you wish you had instead of the one you are experiencing. Pay attention to how your feel when your read it. Feels right? Go DO it.
Quotes:
"Redirecting your energy towards a new path is not failure."
"If we don't love it, we don't do it. If it doesn't add personal and professional value, we drop it."
Resources:
Click here to listen to Episode 46 Side Hustle
Talk Story Bookstore
Sam Horn – Stop Watering Dead Plants
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Traci is in the studio while Russ in on vacation! She is all about the DONE IT list this week. It is way better than a to do list any day.
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We all love DIY. We love FREE DIY even more! Caution...they can be more expensive than buying them outright. When you think you have more time than money. Choose your time wisely.
In This Episode:
When you think you have more time than money. Choose your time wisely.
Why is getting a part-time job better than using a free app?
Find out if it is gender or income that can impact happiness.
Learn how your brain reacts to comparative price shopping. It is not what you think!
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Don’t be penny wise and dollar foolish when it comes to investing in resources for your business.
Shift your schedule to spend time investing in mentorship or your own friends and family and you will be happier and be more willing to stay focused.
Quote:
"When you think you have more time than money. Choose your time wisely."
Resources:
https://www.forbes.com/video/4093617632001/
http://news.stanford.edu/news/2006/january18/shiv-011806.html
https://www.inc.com/danny-iny/youre-better-off-working-at-mcdonalds-than-working-in-your-business.html
http://www.spsp.org/news-center/press-releases/valuing-your-time-more-than-money-linked-to-happiness
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According to the 2016 Nielsen Report, the average American spends approximately 65% of waking hours consuming media. This makes it virtually impossible to disconnect. Redefine Boring and start generating innovative solutions to that roadblock.
In This Episode:
It is not about finding something to do when you are bored it is about setting aside time to be bored.
According to the 2016 Nielsen Report, the Average American consumes 10 hours and 39 minutes of technology per day.
Boredom = Sparking Creative Thinking
Use the time when you are bored to reflect on the why you are bored. Opportunities can pass you if you are not aware of what is making you bored in the first place.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Redefine Productivity – Accept your limitations on productivity. Embrace what you get done in a day instead of beating yourself up on what you didn’t get done.
You can alter your brain chemistry by repeatedly doing the same sabotaging behaviors but you can create new patterns by starting to do things in a differently. Take a different route to work. Go in late instead of early. Work from a co-working space instead of from home. Try a library. They are free!
Quote:
"Boredom sparks creative thinking. Be bored!"
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Let's Celebrate! Melody Biringer, founder of the Crave Company has a birthday this week and what better way to honor her than showcasing her #SideHustle episode. Traci and Russ have a blast finding out all about her and the multiple side hustles she has started over the years.
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No matter how much experience you have doing something well... there is always something new for you to learn that can make it better.
In This Episode:
What does Alpha, Delta, Beta have to do with a-ha moments?
The facts: Your brain isn’t going to carve out new pathways when it isn’t being challenged to do so.
Find out the one thing you must do if you are looking for a breakthrough.
True or False? I think I need more productivity when I am feeling burnt out.
You will never know what works better until you change the way things get done.
You’ll hear where there are 3 situations when breaking a routine is not beneficial.
Traci DeForge Takeaways:
Creative Disruption: Add more de-stress activities to your daily routine in order to get innovative or problem-solving ideas.
R and R – Her is a new definition of R and R…if you remove it you must replace it. It is virtually impossible to be successful in breaking a routine if you do not replace it with another activity.
Resources:
http://lifehacker.com/the-science-of-inspiration-and-how-to-make-it-work-for-1467413542
Quote:
"You will never know what works better until you change the way things get done."
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Are you listening and engaging with the other person or are you only waiting for them to finish so you can start talking?
Find out why W.A.I.T can give you an advantage over a more qualified person when interviewing for a job.
Find how to use W.A.I.T as a pause button as a negotiating tool
Find out the motive behind the people behaving like a know it all.
Are you listening and engaging with the other person or are you only waiting for them to finish so you can start talking?
W.A.I.T is an acronym that will... keep you from sounding like a “know it all”, help you to win a negotiation or simply just allow you to be more engaged in a conversation. Try asking yourself, Why am I talking? Before you are talking.
Traci's Takeaways from this show:
The next time you feel like interrupting or finishing someone else’s sentence for them ask yourself, “Why am I talking?”
Resources:
What is the best way to handle a know it all?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-couch/201312/what-s-the-best-way-handle-know-it-all
Quote:
Try asking yourself "Why am I talking?" before you start talking.
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Definition of Willpower and Willingness
will·pow·er
ˈwilˌpou(ə)r/
noun
- control exerted to do something or restrain impulses.
- “most of our bad habits are due to laziness or lack of willpower
will·ing·ness
ˈwiliNGnəs/
noun
- the quality or state of being prepared to do something; readiness.
- “the ability and willingness of workers to migrate”
synonyms:
readiness, inclination, will, wish, desire, alacrity
“we appreciate your willingness to help”
Willpower vs Willingness: Can you have one without the other?
Is there an unlimited amount of willpower?
If willpower isn't limited why do we feel depleted and how can we tap into that potential endless supply of energy?
Choose your perspective: Research shows you may feel wiped out from a task you perceive as work but if the activity is shifted to a fun activity accomplishing the same goal your energy goes up!
Find out what dancing and willpower have in common.
Recent studies suggest it may be possible to choose how your willpower works for yourself. It is about shifting your idea around the concept in general.
Will I do it? Or I will do this. Which is your perspective?
Learn the key to creating more intrinsic motivation.
Setting your mind on a goal may be counterproductive. Instead, think of the future as an open question.
An interesting study by Ibrahim Senay of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign lends scientific support to the recovery concepts of surrender and openness. He found that people who kept their minds open (“Will I do this?”) were more goal-directed and more motivated than the people who firmly declared their objective (“I will do this”). Having the freedom of choice seemed to create more intrinsic motivation—
Why do you act differently when you believe willpower is unlimited? You procrastinate less and prepare more efficiently. You’re more likely to view solving a challenging problem as a motivating experience, instead of an exhausting one. If a task goes more smoothly because of better preparation, it’s probably easier to keep that good momentum going.
Michael Inzlicht, a researcher at the University of Toronto, explains that self-control crises happen when two of your goals conflict. Your emotional response determines your choice. It’s not that you’re completely unable to resist the pint of rocky road ice cream in the freezer. It’s more likely that losing 10 pounds by swimsuit season is a less valuable goal to you than a creamy treat right now.
Traci's Takeaways from this show:
Have the willingness to reach out and ask for help when struggling with any addiction. Willpower is not the solution.
Resources:
http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0109950
Infinite willpower?
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610384745
Choose your own self-control
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610384745
Quote:
"You must have willingness before you can exert willingness."
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In This Episode:
This is my Jam! Exchanging profile and profit in order to experience doing things a little differently.
Who is Traci’s secret celebrity crush? Tune in because he is the one that inspired the entire episode.
Find out what you’re good at and do it – even if it is 180 degrees different than what you are doing now.
Turn in your profile and profit and exchange it for positivity over profit.
Learn how to focus on the why and then the how of making a 180 degree shift in your life.
Find out the 3 top reasons people choose to make dramatic life shifts and the one thing that you don’t see coming when you do it.
What is the “plumber pay” philosophy?
Traci's Takeaways from this show:
Find another way to open a conversation! Instead of asking people what they do..ask them are you working on any fun projects? Have you traveled anywhere interesting lately?
Willie Nelson - Willie initially came to fame in the early 1960s as a songwriter rather than as a singer. However he had actually been recording since 1957, with no more than local success at best.
Steve Albani - Steven “Steve” Albini is an American singer-songwriter, musician, record producer, audio engineer and music journalist. He was a member of Big Black, Rapeman and Flour, and is a member of Shellac.
Resources:
Sonic Highways
http://www.hbo.com/foo-fighters-sonic-highways
Foo Fighters founder Dave Grohl directs the series, which taps into the musical heritage and cultural fabric of eight cities: Chicago, Austin, Nashville, Los Angeles, Seattle, New Orleans, Washington D.C. and New York. The band based themselves at a legendary recording studio integral to the unique history and character of each location.
Quote:
"Find people who think like you and stick with them. Make only music you are passionate about. Work only with people you like and trust."
"Exchange profile and profit for positivity over profit."
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In This Episode:
Welcome our guest Vanessa Lowry, marketing consultant, graphic designer, author and professional doodler.
We discuss the value of collaboration and how our collaboration has elevated both of our successes and created a wonderful friendship.
Hear behind the scenes stories on the development of our clients projects.
Gain Insight on the role collaboration plays when it comes to competition.
Learn the 2 essential things to look for when finding a collaborative partner.
Best way to get ahead of your competition? Collaboration!
Resources:
www.VanessaLowry.com
www.GrannyPearlsKitchen.com Vanessa’s award-winning package design for my client
www.ImagesFromHome.com Vanessa and I collaborated to produce this self published book, Christmas Birds, inspiration for the season and beyond. It won multiple state and national awards.
Quotes:
“Competition makes us faster collaboration makes us better”
– Fyrefly, London, UK
“No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helped you.”
– Althea Gibson
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The big buzzword ‘catch phrase’ is, “live your truth”. Traci tells her account of how she was presented with here own a-ha on facing your truth in the most uncomfortable way…..
You can’t live your truth if you are disillusioned by it.
Facing facts about yourself is tough but if you are open to hearing it you will be better for it.
When you hear the truth -as tough as it may be to hear- you know it is true. You feel the truth in your gut.
You are not what you do – You are defined by who you are not what you do.
There is the manager side of you and the creative worker side of you. Many have an unawakened manager and a very tired creative worker.
Redefine your definition of solitude and isolation.
Takeaways from this show:
Say it. Write it. Leave it – when things are stressing you out or stuck in a loop in your head… say it to someone outloud. Write it down and then… leave it ALONE.
Systems can be overwhelming take small steps first and a smoother transition will present itself as things settle out.
Resources:
About Warren Buffett
Quote:
"Habits lay on you lightly until they become so heavy you can't break them."
"You must get honest about what you need to improve before you can improve."
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If you buried a time capsule 10 years ago that contained items of who you were and what you wanted to become and then opened it ….What would it say about the person you are today.
A time capsule is a historic cache of goods or information, usually intended as a method of communication with future people and to help future archaeologists, anthropologists, or historians.
Today’s show layout a sequence of events ranging from Chipolte ads to Fortune Cookies!
The time is below so you can keep track of all the twists and turns!
Friday: Saw a video of Danielle LaPorte whom I met as she was just getting her start in the “guru space” in 2010, she being interviewed by a “new-gu”. My first response was envy shortly followed up by a flogging session since it was not me interviewing her.
Saturday: I was restless so I went to my Get Your Muse On warehouse to be around some creativity. Instead of painting, I cleaned out my desk drawer and found an article I wrote for a magazine in 2005… It felt like I opened a time capsule and yet it was validating at the same time.
Saturday Evening: I watched the documentary Losing site of the shore. The message from 4 ladies crossing the Pacific by rowing was “Everybody has their own Pacific to cross.”
Sunday: I got a fortune cookie that said “Your original ideas will bring well-deserved recognition…
Monday: I had a big a-ha…. 2005 wasn’t my time. How to create sustainable long-term change and valuing time is still my message but I had to cross my own ‘pacific’ of getting up and getting knocked down again to really have the message translate in my most authentic way.
Now is my time.
Takeaways from this show:
Create a reflection time capsule. Take a moment to sit and write about where you were ten years ago, five years ago, one year ago. Are you on your intended path? Are you staying true to your truth and person you wanted to become?
Willingness is the key to create change. The word yes does not always equate willingness. Say NO to the people, places and things blocking the path to becoming the you you’ve always wanted to be.
Resources:
Chipotle Ad that inspired this episode: https://youtu.be/S1zXGWK_knQ
Time Capsule Article from 1999
Eli Stone: ABC series from 2008-2009 created by Greg Berlanti
Quote:
"What if who you are isn't what you were meant to be."
"Maybe nothing is wrong with me. Maybe something is finally right."
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It’s not about the person; It’s about the solution: Negotiations can be tricky. You can fight the person or you can fight for the solution.
What were the most memorable details about your last negotiation? Maybe it was discussing a promotion with your boss, a big contract for your business or a chat with your 17-year-old about taking out the car.
Did you feel like it was a win-win?
According to Getting to Yes, by Roger Fisher, William Ury and Bruce Patton. Don’t fight the person; fight for the solution.
Negotiations often fail because things get personal. Make your goal to find a solution. If you let things get personal it can cause you to lose sight of your desired outcome.
Add in the personal bombshells like “You’re crazy” or using words like ‘never’ and ‘always’ will trigger emotional responses rather than helpful suggestions
Negotiate only with facts and come from a place of creating value and you will close the distance between you and your adversary.
Defeating the person “across the table” is not always winning.
Traci's Takeaways:
Negotiations often fail when personal feelings get involved. Stay focused on the solution.
Resources:
Getting to YesRoger Fisher, William Ury and Bruce Patton
Quote:
"Defeating the person "across the table" is not always winning."
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What would be possible if we put in 100% of or efforts and let go to any attachment of the outcome?
Imagine what would be possible if you moved forward with ideas, decisions, confrontations without any emotional attachment or fear around the outcome?
We are only responsible for our actions in any situations.
Outcomes are almost always out of our control.
No action? No chance of an outcome.
To truly let go of attachment you have to be willing to let go of the ideas of the outcome. attachments are ideas, not the thing itself.
Deepak Chopra explain the concept of letting go by using the metaphor of a gardener. The gardener plants the seed and gives the seed all it needs to survive but he doesn’t go and dig it up every day to see if it has grown. The gardener is clear about the outcome he desires, he does the work required but then he lets go or detaches himself from the outcome.
Takeaways From This Episode:
See every bump in your road as a learning experience. You will have good days and bad days. the bad days can end up being amazing gifts, if you learn from them.
Believe that every experience can make you stronger – Bad things can temporarily deflate you, but they don’t have to define you.
Resources:
Attachment Theory and Research: New Directions and Emerging Themes
edited by Jeffry A. Simpson, W. Steven Rholes
Study around infants being separated from their primary caregiver. Feels anxiety and despair and works vigorously to regain by clinging, crying and searching. “Protest” behavior to get them back to feeling safe and secure.
Quote:
“Your time is limited,” Steve Jobs has said, “so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
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Emotions vs. Logic...When it comes to making a decision which do use? You might be surprised to realize it is not what you think.
This episode was so fun to produce! Once you get through all the laughter you’ll find out 2 tips to break your cellphone addiction and several other easy wellness tips to integrate every day.
Do emotions drive your decisions? What happens when an opportunity to decide triggers your emotions?
Decision making is not logical, it is emotional according to the latest findings in neuroscience.
What do chickens, motorcycles and vacuum cleaners all have in common?
Are we rational human beings or are human being rationalizers?
Learn one survey tool that will save you thousands of dollars on focus group research studies.
Resources:
Song: Emotional Rescue
Lyrics
Song Facts
Psychology Today Article: Logic and Emotion
University of Texas Case study on Chickens
Max Diff
Fast Company Article: The End of Rational vs. Emotional
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The hardest three words to say aren’t I love you – they’re I don’t know. That’s the opinion of Stephen J. Dubner and Steven D. Levitt, authors of the behavioral economics bestseller Freakonomics.
Why is learning to say “I don’t know.” Important?
Some neuroscientists believe that our need to know is actually linked to our brain function. When we have an answer, we get a hit of dopamine so we feel compelled to try.
Find out why saying I don’t know in business is not a solution.
Find 3 alternative ways to say I don’t know without feeling uncomfortable.
Resources:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/work-in-progress/2015/05/04/six-ways-to-confidently-say-i-dont-know/#2ac1bbb62c66
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In This Episode:
Find out why being wealthy is not all about the zeros
Discover how accidental entrepreneurship led to two successful businesses at 27 years old.
Explore how a digital detox on a daily basis can change your emotional, spiritual and physical wellbeing.
Hear two tips to break your cellphone addiction.
Guest: Teliah Geinger
Teliah is the owner of Renu Hot Yoga, NUYU Juice Bar, and the host of The Balancing Act Podcast, where she interviews women entrepreneurs on balancing personal and business life. Aside from those three, she coaches personal clients on developing healthy habits and yoga practices. She loves every joy, opportunity, challenge and growth moment that comes along with being an entrepreneur and especially loves working alongside her husband, Kylon. She loves being outside with her family and looks forward to building their dream home in the mountains of beautiful Washington State so she can snowboard and work from home every day.
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Traci shares her story on how if you change the way you look at things, the things you are looking at change. It is not a riddle. Find out how it works!
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Traci accidentally deleted 8,956 archived files spanning 6 years of her business. Did she have a meltdown? Yes. Did it turn into an enlightening experience? Yes!
Delete and Restore: Deleting files archived in our brains and in our business can open space for big growth
Do You Ever Wish You Could Delete Your Feelings?
Resources:
How to control your feelings so they don’t control you.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anxiety-zen/201405/do-you-ever-wish-you-could-delete-your-feelings
Deleting memories, muscle memory scents and seasons
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3479457/How-erase-painful-memories-just-moving-eyes-increasingly-popular-type-therapy-diminish-negative-memories-help-wellbeing
TAKEAWAYS:
- Meditation
- 3 step priority list to reset your brain
- No is not a four-letter word.
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Happy Birthday Journey to There! We turn one today and want you to celebrate with us! In honor of this day we are re-releasing the Beauty is in the Beginning episode. If you've just joined us find out the inspiration behind the show. If you've been with us all along, we thank you. Your support means more than we can say!
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In This Episode:
Traci shares how her worrying over two unrelated incidents actually caused her to re-schedule the recording time of this show and put it off for two days!. Why do we worry about things we cannot control? How do you stop yourself from torturing yourself with anxiety? Listen in...
“Don’t Worry.” Everyone says it but everyone also does it!
Traci rescheduled the recording of this episode by two days because she was worried about two pending unrelated incidents.
See if it was all worth it….
Don’t Worry, Everyone says it but everyone also does it. Is it biological or is it a learned habit?
Worry about cash flow. Worry about turnover. Worry about reaching goals. Why do we worry? Is worrying about your business helping it grow faster? Learn a few tips on how to stop the worry loop in your head!
Try using measurements to help manage anxiety. Find out how an anxious financial advisor went from making $75,000 to $200,000
Resources:
http://jamesclear.com/evolution-of-anxiety
http://www.thegreatcourses.com/professors/mark-leary/
http://www.thegreatcourses.com/courses/understanding-the-mysteries-of-human-behavior.html
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Time Travel Episode Highlights! Traci and Russ showcase favorite moments from past episodes. This week we couldn't get enough of Katrina Ubell, MD talking with us about how here 50lb weight loss changed her career!
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Dr. Katrina Ubell shares her experience struggling with her weight while advancing her medical career. Doctor turned Weight Loss coach shares her success story of losing 50lbs and great tips for ways you can tackle a busy schedule and still maintain your ideal weight.
Find out how message your brain gets when you are repetitive eating.
Learn more about the direct correlation between weight gain and busy professional careers.
You’ll hear how tuning into the messages your brain gives you about food can actually be one of the most successful ways to lose weight and keep it off.
Figuring out your belief system about food issues, compulsive overeating and body issues will be the first step in conquering them.
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A five minute takeaway episode where Traci tells her experience with Energy Vampires and how she deals with them.
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Combating Toxic energy and How to protect yourself from people, places and things which rob you of your positive energy.
Enervate
[verb en-er-veyt; adjective ih-nur-vit]
verb (used with object), enervated, enervating.
1.
to deprive of force or strength; destroy the vigor of; weaken.
Synonyms: enfeeble, debilitate, sap, exhaust.
adjective
2.
Enervated.
“Enervate” comes from the Latin word enervare, which was formed from the prefix e-, meaning “out of,” and “-nervare” (from nervus, meaning “sinew or nerve”). So, etymologically at least, someone who is enervated is “out of nerve.”
Are you an Energy Vampire? Do you have any Energy Vampires in your life?
Find out Two common misperceptions about being too sensitive
Fire yourself from the job of taking on the pain of others
Emotions can come at you hard and fast. Learn actionable tips you can use when negativity spins you into a tizzy,
Resources:
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-ecstasy-surrender/201412/tips-sensitive-people-protect-their-energy
http://www.drjudithorloff.com/_blog/Dr_Judith_Orloff’s_Blog
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Traci spotlights the Make It Happen episode with Krisztina 'Z' Holly. Entrepreneurs are not short on ideas they are short on options to get their ideas into reality. There are steps you can take today to move things forward!
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Krisztina 'Z' Holly shares her insights on Make It In LA and how the work she is doing from California to the White House is making strides to help boost manufacturing opportunities for entrepreneurs. You have an idea? You can make it!
MEET KRISZTINA ‘Z’ HOLLY
MIT-trained engineer, tech entrepreneur and adventurer, Krisztina “Z” Holly is the host of The Art of Manufacturing podcast and Founder & Chief Instigator of LA Mayor Garcetti’s MAKE IT IN LA initiative. Z is best known for curating and hosting the first ever TEDx (TEDxUSC) in 2009 and founding two innovation centers at MIT and USC. She has an instinct for finding and amplifying undiscovered talent and ideas, whether it’s helping dozens of faculty spin out new venture-backed startups or curating dozens of speakers whose talks have garnered 12 million views online, ten of which have appeared on TED.com.
Early on, Z has played key roles at tech startups, such as Stylus innovation (acquired by Artisoft), Direct Hit Technologies (acquired by Ask Jeeves), and Jeeves Solutions (acquired by Kanisa). She has been advisor to nearly two dozen companies and organizations, including Good Growth Capital, the River LA, World Economic Forum, and the Obama administration. She is an avid traveler, backcountry skier and mountain biker. Z has two engineering degrees from MIT and currently lives and plays in Los Angeles.
On Twitter: @krisztinaholly and @wemakeitinla
On Instagram: @krisztinaholly and @wemakeitinla
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Traci takes her own advice and wears an elastic band on her wrist for a week to keep track of how many times she apologizes (Unnecessarily!). Find out what happened!
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In This Episode:
Traci takes her own advice and wears an elastic band on her wrist for a week to keep track of how many times she apologizes (Unnecessarily!). Find out what happened!
Sorry not Sorry: Do you have the apologize habit? Over apologizing for things, especially when they are not even your fault? This can lead to feelings of unnecessary guilt and create unwanted stress. Try getting rid of the “sorry syndrome” and create a more empowering and even healthier way to communicate.
Find out why over apologizing in the workplace can keep you from getting ahead.
Did you know by saying you are sorry when it is not your fault can lead to health issues?
There are 3 specific things you can do right away to stop the sorry syndrome.
6 questions you can ask yourself to gut check your apology meter
BE AWARE:
Ask yourself these questions when you say sorry:
Do you say sorry to preserve the peace?
Do you say sorry to stay out of the way and not get notice?
Are there certain people or situations that make you say sorry more than others?
Is there someone who makes you feel so intimidated that the only way you feel like you can respond is by saying, “I’m sorry?”
Are you so scared of conflict that you try to end it before it can start by saying sorry?
SORRY NOT SORRY SYNDROME:“Saying ‘I’m sorry’ too often, especially when we know that we’ve done the right thing, can be dangerous. … When others see us taking a submissive role too often, they may think they can take advantage of us,” she said.
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http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Apologizing
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Listen to a deeper dive into the #sidehustle. A trendy term for an old school behavior of starting a business on the side. Traci shares a success secret about one of her side side hustles and points out a few gotchas along the way!
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In This Episode:
Melody Biringer, Founder, The Crave Company talks to us on the benefits of starting a business on the side to enhance your life and even your other work endeavors.
- Find out why a side hustle is much more than a part-time job.
- Discover how hiring people operating side projects can make you a better business owner.
- Explore how Corporations are adapting to new ideas around enabling employees flexibility in order to increase retention and recruitment.
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Traci’s Takeaways: Re-Define Goal focuses on the importance of defining your intentions of setting the goal instead of only focusing on the outcome. She also includes 3 practical tips to get you to your goal. Two game changer apps + one old school favorite!
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In This Episode:
Examine the difference between your intentions and your goals.
Explore the pros and cons of goal setting.
Learn a 3 unconventional tips on how to achieve your goals while taking some of the pressure off of yourself.
Discuss how switching to important mindsets can ensure more success in attaining your goals.
Resources:
Dr. Simon Moss: “The planning fallacy is the tendency of individuals to underestimate the duration that is needed to complete most tasks.”http://www.sicotests.com/psyarticle.asp?id=385
The time it took participants to reach 95% of their asymptote of automaticity ranged from 18 to 254 days
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ejsp.674/abstract
George T. Doran
Doran, G. T. (1981). “There’s a S.M.A.R.T. Way to Write Management’s Goals and Objectives”, Management Review, Vol. 70, Issue 11, pp. 35-36.
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In This Episode:
Hitting the pause button is about more than taking a break. It is a multi purpose way to make a big impact in most things you do in your day to day world.
What does a pinata, a button and three days have to do with productivity and performance? This week’s episode will solve the riddle. It will also give you some pointers on how to use all three to see things more clearly so you can problem solve creatively.
Gain new perspective around the idea that stepping away from the challenges you are facing will give you more guidance to solve the problem.
Find out one of the most common reasons for burnout and how to avoid it.
Learn a proven formula for what to do in that moment when you have no idea what to actually do to move forward.
Competition heating up? It might not be all about the bottom line.
Resources:
http://www.creativitypost.com/arts/for_more_perfect_practice_try_longer_pauses
http://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/the-artists-way-a-spiritual-path-to-higher-creativity/
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In This Episode:
Traci reveals a simple math equation to show why 110% doesn’t always add up.
If 90% is an A what do you do with the other 10%?
Find out what a side business, finances and self- care all have in common.
Gain insight as a business owner or an employee why boundaries matter when you are giving all you’ve got.
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Everyone is weird in their own wonderful way. Use it to your advantage to grow your business and bring joy into your world!
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Glass Half Empty or Glass Half Full? Your perspective is your reality.
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Pride before Progress: How our egos get in the way of making good decisions.
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Face to Face: The lost art of connecting. Sarah Bray, digital strategist, author and founder of Gather, a digital co- working space joins Traci and Russ for a lively discussion around exiting social media and re-discovering the benefits of face to face connecting.
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Identifying the underlying performance barriers and how they hold you back from being the best you can be.
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Recovering from unexpected and sometimes shocking disruptions in our lives.
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We’ve all got a story we’ve told ourselves. Now ask yourself, Is it true?
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Putting the needs of others before your own is not the way to get ahead.
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Have you always thought a high IQ is the trait of the most successful people? Think again!
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You know your own truth but it is not always easy to speak it.
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Life throws us curve balls and opportunities. Flexibility will get you through and ahead.
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Collaboration is the key to quicker success and it is great fun too!
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Exploring the benefits of getting out of your comfort zone in your personal and business life.
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Business is Art. Make it your business to do art.
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Everyone at one time or the other has experienced seeing your dream come true in someone else’s life.
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You are responsible for the energy you bring into a space.
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Rejection in business and in our life is unavoidable. Our choice on how we look at it, address it and accept is of our own making. It feels like the worst thing that ever happened to you but what if it brings you the best gift you’ve ever received?
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There are often times we limit ourselves because we buy into myths about others successes. In this episode we’ll examine the biggest disruptors of our economy and de- mystify with some behind the scenes stories about how they did it.
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Bad habits. We all have them! Ever wonder why we hold on to them? How to break them? Consider the impact they have on your business? The answers are all here.
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Just do it? The value of time is always a hot topic. This episode focuses on how small increments of time can alter the course of our decisions and ultimately our paths. Time management is often focused on what actions to take to increase productivity. There are times when not doing anything can actually be more productive. We all get the same 24 hours. Choose wisely.
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Courage is not merely a word; it’s state of mind…Change is inevitable; it is how we choose to look at change that determines our success in business and in life.
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Paying it forward all starts with one act of kindness. That is the easy part. Listen to this episode and find out about the hard part!
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What does a pinata, a button and three days have to do with productivity and performance? This week’s episode will solve the riddle. It will also give you some pointers on how to use all three to see things more clearly so you can problem solve creatively.
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What if your biggest mistake led to your largest success? Traci walks listeners through a real life client story from conception to launch and all the twist and turns over three years which led to its successful launch. The only mistake you can really make is not to begin.
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Leadership is your responsibility even if you are not an executive, manager or and entrepreneur. Are you walking the walk and talking the talk?
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Where does the time go? We all have 24 hours in a day but somehow we all use them differently. Traci and Russ discuss the misperception of Time Wasters and Time Savers.
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Traci breaks down the real deal about happiness. It is not always what you think it is. It is always a factor in the success of your business, your relationships and even your day.
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Traci and Russ go into a deep dive on the second act of entrepreneurship, Traci discusses the benefits of starting a business later in life and what new entrepreneurs can learn from them.
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Traci and Russ dig into why being selfish is good for not only your well being but also your business. Traci talks about a time in her life where she was bouncing back from a place of total depletion of mind, body and spirit and what it was like to explore the idea of self care.
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Russ and Traci discuss the benefits of looking at the flipside of failure as a benefit. They get up close and personal about when failure has been a friend and a foe. Traci struggles to define the difference between acting with courage vs. being afraid of failure.
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Perfectionism takes over this episode! Traci has to get real about how perfectionism is no longer a friend to her in the way she lives her life or runs her business. Perfectionism; Friend or Foe? You decide.
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This is a very colorful episode talking about how creativity has evolved from a “nice to have” to a “must have” in our lives. Traci presents a checklist of all the creative outlets she explored before she found the one that works for her.
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The debate over first impressions and how they influence our lives and confidence heats up on this episode. Russ and Traci are not afraid to put it all out there as they share opposing views on the same topic. Who wins in the end? You be the judge!
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Enjoy this sequel to our last episode, The Secret to Having It All. Today Traci and Russ focus on the business side to having it all. Traci opens up around her gap of time between leaving her broadcast management career and starting her own business.
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Have you ever had the experience of being in one place while always planning where the next place was going to be? How about getting to the next place and having euphoric recall about the place you were before? This is not a riddle but a reality for those of us who chase the next shiny object to feel more important and never end up feeling anything at all.
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This episode is all about life lessons and how scenarios present themselves in new or elusive ways over and over until we learn the lesson we need to break free. Traci speaks candidly about how this was a constant theme in her life until she finally understood the root of the issue causing her patterns and how she made incremental changes to prevent them.
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This episode sparked an energetic conversation between Russ and Traci about how character influences your success or failure in business. Traci shares her recruitment tips for revealing a candidate’s true nature, as well as personal experiences of rising above when her own character was challenged.
If you find yourself continually working with people with poor character, today’s show will help you break that pattern. You’ll learn how to test a person’s true character before getting into a business relationship with them. You will also learn a simple solution for having the difficult conversations around establishing the value of pricing your services while keeping your integrity intact.
Please listen and share this episode with anyone who you believe may be encourage by this message on their journey.
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Were you Fearful or Fearless as a kid? Traci and Russ realize they are the exact opposite of how each of them would answer. Fear can accelerate you or inhibit you if you are hesitant to take leaps in life that are scary. You will not want to miss this episode.
Traci explains the meaning of the thought provoking question she is most known to repeat, Is it real fear or faux fear? Hear about how fear leads to decisions that detour your original path.
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This show will have you asking yourself, Just because they say it does that mean I have to listen to it? Traci and Russ have an animated conversation around the benefits of understanding it’s not what you hear, it is how you internalize what you hear that makes a difference in how you feel about where you are in your journey.
Traci uses a real life humiliating experience as an example of how our egos can play tricks on us at the most unexpected times. This episode translates some of the most well meaning yet diminishing comments entrepreneurs hear from those observing them as they operate their businesses.
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Welcome to the inaugural podcast for Journey to There, where we explore the intersection between personal and business growth.
Have you ever asked yourself the question, “How did I get here...again?” The answer is hidden in the decisions you’ve made at the most significant moments in your life. Today, we’re going to look to those moments to find repetitive patterns that keep us returning to the same stuck place emotionally, physically, and professionally.
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