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Erotic humiliation is a mystery to those that don’t “get it.” Listen to Mistress Olivia, Ms Erika and Humiliatrix Hunter talk about this special kink of Phone Humiliation and Sexual Humiliation.

Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot: kink conversation, BDsm advice, and insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. I’m Mistress Olivia here with Ms. Erika and our friend Ms. Hunter. Hunter, we are so glad that you’re here you are always a lot of fun!

Ms. Hunter: Well, thank you guys for having me. You guys are fun as well. Love it. I appreciate it.

The longest erotic humiliation phone call Ms. Olivia: I remember, and this was years ago, Hunter brought me into this wicked, erotic, humiliation call. Erika, were you here on that call? It was a multi-Mistress call.

Ms. Erika: I don’t think so, but I’m really excited to hear about it.

Ms. Hunter: It was not long after I started here and I’ve been here almost 12 years.

Ms. Erika: Way before my time.

Ms. Olivia: You brought me into that call and Hunter, I have not laughed that hard. My stomach hurt, I was laughing so hard. And how many Mistresses?

Ms. Hunter: Some came and went and it was a multi-hour multi-Mistress. I want to say over a period of probably six hours, there were probably 10 Mistresses with as many as six or eight on it at any given time.

I have to say, that was my first foray into humiliation. I was having so much fun. I was just like you, I never laughed so freaking hard. I’m just going to say, I had no idea how fun it could be.

Ms. Olivia: I think for me, I was really scared about humiliation and we’re all going to talk about that because it’s the kind of kink that other people who aren’t into it are like, “Wait a minute. What? That’s really weird.”

Is humiliation BDsm or kink Ms. Olivia: But first, multi-Mistress calls. I’ve done calls with you, Hunter. I’ve done calls with Erika. The three of us have done calls together. Bringing another Mistress in, it’s so much fun. Right, Erika?

Ms. Erika: It is so much fun and not only fun, but the energy is so different because you feed off the energy of your caller and feeding off each other’s energy just makes the call that much better. It’s mind blowing.

Ms. Olivia: Ooh and cock blowing. We alway say it’s therapy with a happy ending unless you are into orgasm denial, and chastity.

Ms. Erika: That’s the happy ending for them. They don’t want to cum, so we’re giving them what they need.

Ms. Olivia: They are happily unhappy.

Ms. Erika: They are happily horny.

Ms. Olivia: Which is similar to erotic humiliation. It’s thrilling and pleasure and pain all wrapped up in one.

Show our kink podcast some love Ms. Olivia: Before we get to BDsm humiliation 101, let me mention, we are really happy about this.

The Weekly Hot Spot is charting. I didn’t even know this was a thing. When I found out it was charting, I said to Erika, “Oh, this is bullshit. I mean, I don’t think this is real.” And she said, “I don’t know. It might be, let me research it.” She researched and we’re on the fucking charts! Who knew?

Ms. Erika: Front page.

Ms. Olivia: Exactly. So to all of our listeners, you can help us. Subscribe to The Weekly Hot Spot on Apple or wherever you listen to your podcasts. We want you to subscribe, like it, leave a review, and then you help us. Think of that as a Mistress order, fucking do it. Thank you.

Ms. Erika: You want an assignment? There’s your assignment.

Erotic Humiliation Ms. Olivia: So what is humiliation… erotic humiliation?

Hunter, you’ve actually got a humiliation blog and you focus on erotic humiliation and that multi-hour, multi-Mistress call was your foray into humiliation. Why don’t you start with the definition of erotic humiliation.

Ms. Hunter: The actual definition… and there is a textbook definition… but I believe the definition is anything that is embarrassing or humiliating that somehow also creates excitement.

People don’t always understand why they’re getting excited about things.

A lot of it has to do with our previous experiences, but also the way our brains are wired. If you get too intense a pleasure, it’s going to bleed over into the pain center. If you get too intense a pain, like erotic humiliation, it bleeds over then, into pleasure.

You think, “I don’t really like that, but, oh, I really do like that.” You know, that’s the way I look at it. I know that there is a textbook definition, but I don’t think anybody is really textbook.

Ms. Olivia: Yes, I agree with you. Erika, talk to us a little bit about the psychology of sexual humiliation.

Ms. Erika: Well, Hunter’s absolutely right. When I started researching, because when I enjoy something, I want to know how it works. Without being too textbook, because I don’t drink the Kool-Aid, you’re not going to hear big, gigantic 17 syllable words from me.

Embarrassment vs. Humiliation Ms. Erika: In layman’s terms, the important thing about humiliation is that it differs from embarrassment.

Embarrassment is when you do something, like you trip or you fall; you did that all yourself.

The humiliation comes when I stick my foot out and you trip over it then all the girls laugh. That’s something I did to you.

Can you feel humiliated when you embarrass yourself? Absolutely. But basically humiliation is pain to the brain, just like Hunter said.

What is our body’s reaction to pain, both physical and mental? It’s to dump a bunch of feel-good hormones into our body and at the same time you’re being humiliated. Those hormones are racing. If you’re sexually aroused while you are humiliation, it creates a connection in your brain.

Either it’s one very traumatic event, which I’m going to explain in a second or it’s a series of events.

So you guys out there watching porn, watch what you’re watching because you could actually instill a trigger in yourself for a certain type of fetish. We do this all the time, to you guys that want it.

So let’s say your first day of college, you’re nervous as all hell. There’s that girl that you saw in your hometown. You’ve had a crush on her forever. You think you’re a man now. She’s standing around talking to her girlfriends.

You come up to say hi to her, try to get her attention and she comes over, kisses you on the cheek and you orgasm in your pants because you have no control. And everybody laughs and maybe they call you names while you are aroused.

I’ve talked to several people where something similar has happened. It was such a lasting impression that your brain connects that pain in that place. Does that make sense?

Ms. Olivia: Absolutely, it does. And you mentioned something that embarrassment is something you do to yourself, but humiliation is done to you. I never thought of it that way. I think I’ve been using embarrassment and humiliation interchangeably.

Ms. Erika: They are very similar. Somebody can feel humiliated if they embarrass themselves. But when you’re talking erotic humiliation, often it’s something that’s done to you, to elicit that response.

Ms. Olivia: I think that’s brilliant. Humiliation is very personal.

We talk all the time about how we don’t work off scripts. We don’t have an “if you get a call like this, say this.” That’s bullshit. Someone asks me, “Do you have scripts that you do?” I say, “Do I fucking sound like I’m reading a script?” No.

Ms. Erika: “Please put your hand on your penis.

Ms. Olivia: Stroke it up and down, then up and down.” What the fuck?

Erotic humiliation is a tricky kink Ms. Olivia: Humiliation is one of these things that it’s intensely personal.

I’ll get a guy who calls up and says, “I want you to humiliate me.” I say, “Talk to me about what you’ve liked and why, what you’ve done that’s embarrassing that I can taunt you or tease you with.

And then there are more questiions:

• Do you like it rough?
• Is it mean?
• Is it degrading?
• Is it sweet?”

It’s so nuanced. He says, “I don’t know. Do anything.” And I say, “Yeah, you are not going to like that.”

It’s exactly the same as body sensations. The pleasure and pain mechanisms and body sensations.

For example, flogging. The people who love being flogged love it in a kink situation. If they’re in Singapore and they spit gum on the sidewalk and the punishment is being flogged, they are not probably going to get a boner during that.

It’s the exact same thing with humiliation, but everything else is different.

Some people get an erotic thrill out of one type of humiliation. Others, it can be jealousy. It can be shame, “Oh, you’re little penis is so small.” It can be fear, like, “I’m going to leave you cause you’re a quick shooter.”

So to both of you, when you got into doing distance domination and phone sex, did you think humiliation was weird, being aroused by humiliation? I did.

Is erotic humiliation weird? Ms. Hunter: I definitely did because for me, my whole life, I would have done anything to avoid humiliation. So when I found out people actually looked for it, I was like, what?

Ms. Olivia: How did you get your head around it?

Ms. Hunter: Like Erika said, I research the psychology behind everything I do in life or feel, and that was one of the things after that call that I did have so much fun on, I wondered what he got out of it? I didn’t get that. I had fun. The Mistresses had fun.

I started looking into it a little bit and then I realized how it all connected.

Of course, everybody’s different, like you said earlier, Sometimes it’s just an experience they had in the past. Sometimes they don’t even know they like it until they’re in the middle of a call and you hear their reaction to something that really wasn’t meant to be humiliating necessarily, but you say, “Oh, did you like that? Did you like being humiliated in front of this person?”

Once I wrapped my head around it, I thought, “I can do this.”

Does Mistress enjoy erotic humiliation? Ms Hunter: I’m a people pleaser in real life so I would never purposely humiliate somebody. I feel like this is my area where I know this is what they like and they enjoy and, by golly, I’m going to do it the best I can. So I love, love, love, humiliation calls.

Ms. Olivia: You know, I love that all three of us are geeks, all three of us are nerds. We’re sexy nerds like the librarians, librarians with enormous tits. All of us did the same thing.

I started researching it at first.

I’m a kind person, the two of you know, I care about people. I’m a nurturer. I do fucking animal rescue. I care about shit.

I was sitting there and thinking, “I’m going to call somebody a loser and tell them just how pathetic he is?”

Epic fail for first small penis humiliation call Ms. Olivia: The very first small penis humiliation call I did, I got on the phone and he said, “I have a tiny dick.” I said, “Oh, I’m sorry, but I’m sure it’ll be okay.” He said, “Oh, that’s not what I wanted at all,” and he hung up.I wondered what the fuck just happened!

So I got with Head Mistress Ms. Ally and asked her about his reaction. I said, “I don’t think I’m doing this call right.” She busted out laughing and said, “He does not want to hear that he’s okay. “

Ms. Erika: He doesn’t want to be nurtured.

Ms. Hunter: That’s one of the things too, though. Sometimes they want to hear that, but they want to hear it in a condescending way. “Awww, I’m sure your small penis will be okay. Really, it will.” I think a lot of them like that implied humiliation.

Not everybody loves that out and out overt, in your face humiliation. I just wanted to throw that in there too. Some of them do like that, but they like it in a condescending sort of tone, not like a really legitimate “It’ll be okay.” It’s important to know your limits with any humiliation kink.

Ms. Olivia: I was legitimately saying, “I’m sure it’ll be okay.” Erika, did you have trouble kind of wrapping your head around this?

Ms. Erika: Maybe it’s my inner Sadist, but no. I have absolutely no problem or qualms doing hardcore humiliation, but let me explain myself.

My only challenge is understanding the type of humiliation that you’re coming to me for or holding back from me. So, if somebody says they like harsh humiliation and I start hammering them, “They’re like, what?” So maybe you didn’t want harsh. I learned to step back, “Tell me what that looks like for you.”

I have freaked people out, come on too strong. They think that the fantasy that we’re doing, “I’m really going to be doing it.”

And I had to stop right in the middle of a session and say, “Honey, we’re in the middle of a role-play. It’s supposed to be intense, just roll with it.”

I wouldn’t say I’m necessarily a nurturer, I do care, but I am a champion of the underdog. So if there is somebody being bullied or treated unfairly, I’m the first to step in front of them. I have a hard time witnessing somebody else being humiliated.

I know you two and you both are wonderful and I trust you and I know you know what you’re doing. This isn’t to say anything about anybody else, but in general terms, I just feel more confident that I know what I’m doing. I know the buttons I’m pushing and I know I’m going to take very good care of you. So I’m more comfortable leading that charge.

It’s not to say that I won’t have a great time when you two humiliate someone. I trust that you have high standards for our clients and their well-being, too.

Ms. Olivia: You bring up something really important. And I want to put bells and whistles and asterisks around it.

There is a distinction with all of us between who we are and what we do in scene and who we are and what we do out of scene, as well as who we are as people.

I’ve gotten my head around humiliation and right now, I like it sensual and sweet. Then I throw in some mind-fuck fucking zingers that are like, “Whoa, did she really say that? Oh my God.” Then I’m back to sweet again.

I like taking him on an adult thrill ride. It’s a roller coaster and we are going up and up and up and it’s like, “Oh, this isn’t so bad.” Then you go up and over, whipping around and they say, “Oh, no!” This was actually a definition that somebody said… that humiliation is like an adult thrill ride.

You are scared to death and just flipped around all over the place while it’s happening. You say, “I am never doing this again.” And the minute it stops you say, “Oh, I want to get back in line. I would really like to do that again.”

For both of you, what is your favorite kind of humiliation style?

Humiliation Styles Ms. Erika: Favorite? That’s hard to pinpoint. Like you said, Olivia, and what Hunter said earlier, I tend to be very sensual and throw out those zingers.

Usually something very soft like butter, but then they sting like a bee. “Oh, darling. Oh my God. Just look at you. Well, yes, isn’t that remarkable?” And I’m staring at his penis. “It has got to be the cutest little thing I’ve ever seen.”

So you start pumping him up and he thinks, “Oh, she likes it. She likes it.” And then what man out there doesn’t want someone to say “That’s the cutest penis I ever did see.”

As I say that, I’ve been getting into a different, unusual kind of humiliation call that I’m really loving and it’s called ignore humiliation. Have you ever done that?

Ms. Olivia: That was very confusing to me at first.

Ever heard of an ignore call? Ms. Erika: Because you want to engage, you keep wanting to engage. Again, you have to know your client very well.

Recently I was paid for a day off and no, I don’t have any special vacation fund. Well, I do, but not in this case.

He paid for a long call for me to answer the phone, put him on speaker and carry him around for the day and do whatever I wanted. I was watching TikToks. I was in the pool. I was taking a bath.

The fun part was, every once in awhile, I’d say, “Now do such and such slave” or “Table slave. I want to put my feet up.” and he’d say, “Yes ma’am,” and then that’s the whole call.

Ms. Olivia: How long was the call?

Ms. Erika: 4 hours.

Ms. Olivia: I know for a fact that there’s somebody listening to this podcast and saying, “What the fuck is she talking about?”

Ms. Erika: “I’m paying money to be ignored? Talk about humiliation. You’re not even worthy of my attention… and you’re paying for it!”

Ms. Hunter: The funny thing is and that I love about these, though I have not had a four hour one, so that’s pretty awesome… is however long the call is, they still have to be listening because if you do give them an order, they have to respond. “Time to be my table for my feet,” they have to be actively listening the whole time.

Ms. Erika: Perfectly said. And he did hesitate for 20 seconds a couple of times before saying “Yes ma’am,” so I made him smash those gonads a couple of times to make sure he pays attention.

Ms. Olivia: I’ve done an ignore call and I’ve written a blog post while doing it. I get Farm to Table Community Supported Agriculture. So I had my fruit, vegetable, and flower box there so I said, “Okay, so I’m gonna wash my vegetables, chop ’em up and prepare dinner.” I made ratatouille. It was really good.

Ms. Erika: I like how you brought that up because I was working on one of the podcasts during an ignore call. I said, ”Oh wait, I could get paid to write on the podcast.” So I was preparing one of the podcasts for us and getting paid for my slave to listen to me.

Styles of Humiliation Ms. Olivia: There are different styles of humiliation, different types.

There are verbal and physical tasks. When you talk about types of scenes, we’re going to give a slight sense of how a session would actually go.

I want people listening to this to realize that sometimes it’s all role play in your mind, but just like Erika said, you might end up actually doing some of these things. Those are the tasks.

Laughter, humiliation and degrading tasks Ms. Olivia: Hunter, correct me if I’m wrong. That guy we had on that super-long humiliation call, wasn’t he running around on all fours with the feather duster stuck up as ass?

Ms. Hunter: Yeah, that was one of them.

Another one we had him go out into his backyard and sing If I Had a Hammer while he was naked.

We had him do I’m a Little Teapot, all sorts of things.

Ms. Olivia: I use a feather duster for dusting and every time I see it, I’m like, “Oh, my.” I think of him all the time.

Ms. Erika: We’re creating our own trauma ladies.

Ms. Olivia: That call was pretty task oriented. Sing, I’m a Little Teapot. Put the feather duster in your ass. Crawl around and snort like a pig. Bark like a dog. Get on all fours and be a table. Be an inanimate object. Stand with your nose holding a coin up against the wall with your hands spreading your ass cheeks open. All of those are fun tasks, right?

Those tasks can be used within a role-play, or just inside the theater of the mind. If we do role-play, we can add some humiliation at the end or sprinkled within the role-play itself.

Erika, give us an idea of what you would do with role-play humiliation.

Humiliation as part of kinky role-play Ms. Erika: One reason I like role-play humiliation is because it can really replicate actual events.

If you have a Sci-Fi role-play, there’s an octopus monster that invades earth and has its way with you. That’s total fantasy.

I’m loving when you mix fantasy and reality, when you can’t decipher the different threads. Which is fantasy and which is reality?

Example of humiliation Ms. Erika: Let’s say we’re doing a role-play of humiliation and we’re a couple getting ready to go out and I’m describing what I’m putting on, what we’re talking about.

Just as I’m putting on my earrings, I look at you and say, “You’re really going to try to be a man tonight, right darling? Last time we were out, Taylor really upstaged you. Talk about humiliating me. My husband can’t even change a damn tire? I bet they think you went to an all girls college. Did you?”

Then fast forward to I’m making him my little bitch in panties. That’s the buildup to it and that really could actually fucking happen. I love that mix of fantasy and reality.

Phone sex is perfect for really creative and unusual roleplays Ms. Olivia: I’ve got to ask, have you done an octopus-invading-from-space call?

Ms. Erika: There was a Sci-Fi couple’s session I did and he came up with some unique ideas and one of them was a tentacle-like appendage the space creature had as far as reproductive issues.

That’s why I keep going back to that; it was very traumatizing and I wanted to say, “No, I don’t want that near me. My body is a fucking temple.”

Ms. Olivia: It sounds like he took you on a mind fuck.

Ms. Erika: Right. Because I keep talking about it!

The art of the mindfuck Ms. Olivia: I’ve been on the call with you when you get into mind-fucking and just really tweaking someone in all kinds of ways: physical, mental, and emotional.

What do you love, both of you, about the mind-fuck style?

Ms. Hunter: That is my favorite.

I should say, if you call me for 10 minutes and say, “I want you to humiliate me about my small penis,” I can certainly do that. But my favorite is when you call, we talk about what you enjoy as far as humiliation and why.

A lot of people really can pinpoint, “Well, it was back when this happened and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.”

I don’t always find out everything at the beginning, but as you go, you find out. I like to find out actual experiences that happened to them that made them realize they enjoy this humiliation. Then I expand on that.

One of my callers really had some intense and not in a good way, humiliation when he was young. They were calling him names and telling him he was a loser and all of that.

As we were talking earlier, that can become something of a learned behavior because of the endorphins. He told me this at first and we were doing other things, task-related things, which he also enjoys. After a little while, I started incorporating some of the names he was called when he was younger and he said, “Oh, my God, that’s amazing!”

I really, really, really like, even if it starts out as just a regular role-play or as task-oriented call, I like learning enough about the person throughout the process that I can introduce the mind-fuck. Pretty much every kind of humiliation, if it’s possible, has some of that mind-fucking in it.

CFNM Ms. Olivia: Do you know what’s so much fun is a CFNM, Clothed Female, Naked Male mind-fuck call.

I’m surprised at the number of men who have been stripped and tormented by a group of women. Did you ever do this to a guy? I never did this to a guy.

In another podcast, we talked about putting a man in panties and talking to various guys, we asked, “When was the first time you got put in panties?” Several of them said, “I had a bet with a woman and I lost the bet and she put me in panties.”

What the fuck was I doing? I just wanted to look at your dick and fuck. I really missed out on the nuances of fun until I got older. I’m making up for lost time though. We all are. Erika., did you also love CFNM then?

Ms. Erika: Absolutely. I love the fact that even though we do long distance domination play, we can still mix that reality and fantasy together with CFNM… that’s Clothed Female, Nude Male… on Skype.

All three of us could be in a group Skype chat, watching somebody dancing to Dance Monkey while wearing panties.

Ms. Olivia: Or completely nude. That is so much fun. “Put your knees on the couch. Show me your ass. Now spread your thighs. A little bit more. A little bit more. Bend over a little bit and bounce your balls, get them bouncing.”

One of my favorite things is, “Okay, face the camera. Now do your hips so you get your dick swinging in a circle.”

CFNM and extreme humiliation Ms. Hunter: My most fun was a recent call that we had done and he loves CFNM, but also extreme humiliation.

It was quite a long call and every time I asked him a question, and I asked him a lot. He would sit there and face me, talking to me, completely nude, but anytime he had the answer, he had to turn around and he had to move his ass cheeks like they were talking when he was talking.

I never laughed so hard as I did on that call.

Ms. Erika: I am so stealing that.

Ms. Olivia: I am, too! Did his ass have different voices?

Ms. Hunter: I made him use different voices.

Ms. Olivia: Give us some examples of the different voices.

Ms. Hunter: I can’t even remember. One of them was a really high voice. Something he did made me think of the idea and I said, “Oh, so turn around.” I think one of them was talking like Scooby-Doo. So he had to do Scooby-Doo.

A few different things like that.

Gives new meaning to talking out your ass Ms. Hunter: It was fun for several reasons.

One, because it’s humiliating because he’s showing me that private part of himself, but also the fact that he turned around and we would have five minutes of a normal conversation.

And then I would say, “Okay, turn around.” And then I’d ask him something and he’d have to, quite literally, talk out of his ass.

Ms. Erika: I need an answer right now.

Ms. Olivia: And I want it in the Scooby-Doo voice, but. I want your ass to answer to me.

Ms. Erika: And Kermit! “Kermit the ass here.”

Ms. Hunter: We’ve got to get somebody to do a 3-Mistress call with us so we can enjoy this altogether.

Ms. Olivia: Yes, we have got to do that. I want to see this. I want to see these ass comments so badly, you know, I would pay money to see these ass comments.

Small penis humiliation Ms. Olivia: When I first started hearing about erotic humiliation, I thought, and I think a lot of people think it’s all small penis humiliation. “Oh, you’ve got a tiny dick. You’re a loser. You’re going to be pussy free for life.”

Whether it’s sweet or whether it’s mean, it’s true, small penis humiliation is a huge, huge part of it. We did an entire podcast called the Femdom Guide to Penis Size, but it’s more than that. It can be anything regarding sexual performance.

So that could be erectile dysfunction. Shooting too fast. Having funny shaped balls. “Oh, your balls are pretty droopy now.”

Ms. Erika: Do your balls hang low, do they wobble to and fro….”

Ms. Hunter: I think we had that guy sing that song that night, now that you mention that Erika. He was marching through the yard singing it.

When your dick really is too small Ms. Olivia: We get a lot of guys that call us who are under-endowed.

Ms. Erika: And what a fantastic time they are, too. Think about it. They could be angry little fuckers or they can embrace their diminutive size and figure out a way to please women. So they embrace their shortcomings and offer them up on a kinky little platter for us to enjoy.

I love playing games with little ones. “What’s bigger?” A I grab something around the house. “Oh look at the screw!” or “Look at this toothpick.”

Sometimes if it’s one-on-one on Skype, I have them take a picture of it next to their little cock and send me a picture.

You know who you are, little Tommy Small Cock. You know who I’m talking about though, too, Olivia. I have over a hundred pictures of him. Yes, peewee. You.

Ms. Olivia: peewee’s awesome.

Ms. Hunter: Even I know who peewee is.

Ms. Erika: We pass him around like some humiliated candy.

Ms. Olivia: I love bringing other Mistresses in for humiliation calls. This is a kind of Pass the Humiliation pet. It’s like stroking Pass the Penis. He’ll do an hour of calls, but in 10 minute chunks, so six Mistresses over an hour and he gets passed around to each Mistress. Each Mistress is very different and the guys lose their minds.

Cuckolding Humiliation Ms. Olivia: One thing about small penis stuff, it leads into the whole cuckold fantasies thing.

Cuckolding doesn’t have to be humiliating. It could be voyeuristic. It could be, “I want her to experience sexual pleasure.” It doesn’t have to be humiliating at all. Sometimes it’s merely being submissive, being dominated by a woman or another man.

Sometimes it’s being coerced to suck another man’s cock, but even that might not be humiliating. However, I love the zing of humiliation, being reminded that he is a beta male. “He is superior to me and with me, but not with me.”

Ms. Erika: That is very true with cuckolding, Olivia and with humiliation in general. You have to be humiliated by what you’re going through.

If you are open-minded sexually and you think, “Fuck everybody. Everything’s great,” and you like what you see, you’re not daunted by it. The humiliation there is little to none. So that could be a cuckolding scene, but I think that’s more of a threesome in my mind.

Cuckolding has to involve a little bit of humiliation because his partner will say, “You are the beta and I’m being served by a superior.”

Ms. Hunter: I feel like that too. I think not all the guys who like cuckolding realize that part of what they enjoy is that little bit of humiliation, even if it’s just implied.

They might not want to have that pointed out to them but I believe these types of fantasies and fetishes have humiliation inherent in them.

It depends on the guy if he realizes that or not. I’ve had guys say they don’t want any part of humiliation, but once things get going, they realize, “Oh, the humiliation is part of what turns me on.” It progresses over time as you become more self-aware.

Ms. Olivia: Hunter and Erika, both of you are really, really good at what you do.

One of the things we bring to the table as professionals is we know how to push limits in an artful way and when to back off.

We know how to read the person.

There’s an art to doing erotic humiliation. You have to really pay attention and when it’s too intense, you back off a little bit. It’s very much like pain play. It is pain play for the mind.

Submission and sucking cock for Mistress Ms. Olivia: I’ve noticed that a huge amount of people who like humiliation are either interested in or curious about cock sucking.. So humiliation can be a great entryway to coerced bi. We did a whole podcast called Mistress Made Me a Cocksucker.

That’s a combining of the verbal and the tasks, the role play and the mind-fuck. For some people, even the action of being told, “Okay, go suck a cock and then report back.” Yes, absolutely.

Ms. Erika: I did a blog on 4 Reasons Why Men Suck Cock and that’s one of them: humiliation.

It’s not that they’re gay. It’s not that they would ever seek out a penis on their own.

But one thing is for sure, when you suck a cock because that’s what I want you to do, it is humiliating.

When you think, “Fuck. I’m a hetero guy. My lips are wrapped around this fucking cock. What the hell am I doing? How did I get here? Why the fuck is my cock hard!”

Ms. Erika: You can get a guy conditioned to suck cock. “Start with my strapon. Suck my strapon. Suck my dick.” Then it’s just a hop, skip, and a jump to sucking a real cock.

Ms. Hunter: A guy says, “Well I want to suck cock for you because it’s the most humiliating thing I can think of,” and I respond, “Well, you’re not even good enough to suck a real cock for me. Instead, you get to suck this rubber cock and if you do a good enough job, then you can suck a real cock.”

I like to add that extra layer into it. Not always, but you can tell when the person needs that extra push.

If you’re reading them correctly, you know they need a little push sometimes.He loved it and moaned. I knew that was exactly what he needed.

Ms. Olivia: That’s the FUN-ishment instead of punishment. You aren’t going to get punished because you want to get punished. If I’m punishing you, I’m not going to punish you. It gets so convoluted! This is why we are artists.

Cum Eating Ms. Olivia: Yes. I’ve noticed it’s not just the cock sucking or coerced cock sucking, but also, whether it is in fantasy or in reality: cum eating.

While some people are cum junkies because they are bi or they legitimately love the taste of cum, and we’ve all talked to people like that. They just want to eat cum.

For other people that is really humiliating. We did a podcast about the Cum Fetish and all about cum eating.

Cum eating can be a humiliation task or a reward.

Ms. Erika: It’s a subtle form of humiliation for some, but who’s going to sit around the lodge or when you go play golf and say, “Hey, I just ate a big, old fucking load of my cum!”? Nobody’s going to say that. You don’t say that to your buddies.

It’s humiliating, but it’s also the creamy reward. They did their job well and now they are drinking someone’s seed. The want that reward. They need that affirmation that you did a good job and I call those people addicted to cum. It’s just another reason why men love to suck dickety-do.

Ms. Hunter: I have a cum eating blog, CumEatingFantasies.com. I agree there is a little bit of inherent humiliation, but some guys, even though it’s humiliating, they just crave the taste. They know it’s humiliating, but they just plain ol’ like it.

Ms. Olivia: I didn’t know that you had a cum eating blog. We should combine our talents. If you want to partner up on a blog, I would love that. I think cum eating is one of the most fabulous things ever. It runs the gamut from fun, frisky, sexy, naughty, taboo to really humiliating.

Eat that cum, submit to a Dominant Woman Ms. Hunter: I like the whole dominance and submission part of it too.

Some guys say they would never eat their cum and I tell them, “Never say never.” Then you get them to do it, but not only eat it, but beg you to eat it. Then it’s time to remind them, “Remember when you said you would never do that?”

Sissy Humiliation Ms. Olivia: We can’t leave out the ladies. Sissy humiliation. Let’s talk about that.

I don’t think of humiliation when I think of crossdressers. I think that is like gender play and not humiliation. Not humiliation for transwomen, although a crossdresser or a transwoman might enjoy humiliation, just like any other person. They could like humiliation or submission or any combination of kinks.

When I think of gender and humiliation, I think of sissy humiliation, bimbo affectations, sissification, coerced cock sucking, being a sissy slut to me or a dominant man or both of us.

What do you both think?

Ms. Erika: It’s a whole new element when we take a male and transform them into a sissy and not only a sissy, but one that sucks cock, whether it’s real, fantasy, or my strapon. Here, you are, all dolled up. What do girls do?

I wrote a fantastic, fun little post about a sissy sucking her first cock and why.

Listeners love to come to us for that kind of training. How much can you be humiliated if you’re dressed to impress, but fail that phallus.

Ms. Hunter: I have a few sissies who really don’t want anything to do with the cock, but they love humiliation. I point out that they’re not a real man and they’ll never be a real girl. They like to be humiliated because they don’t fit into either place.

Why does humiliation hurt so good? Ms. Olivia: The neuroscience of pleasure, the neuroscience of BDSM, is fascinating.

Ms. Erika: As we said earlier, the different hormones that are expressed with pleasure are similar to the ones expressed when you’re humiliated, if not the same ones. I don’t know all the technical terms other than the endorphins or the cortisol to lower your pain, your body wants to heal itself.

If anybody’s confused at this point regarding the humiliation response, guys, you’ve all gotten a nervous chubby because those hormones that are expressed dilate your blood vessels.

Where are there a heavy bundle of blood vessels? In your penis.

That’s what you’re experiencing, the flood of hormones, either through fight or flight, through humiliation, or just plain excitement.

It confuses your body because you start having sexual responses. It leaves you wondering why. It’s your body mind-fucking itself.

Ms. Olivia: That is a fantastic thing to point out because whether someone is being spanked, flogged, dominated, restrained, humiliated, whatever their need, when you, as a Mistress, find out what is so appealing to that person, you can incorporate that into your calls.

Later, you can point out to them, “I’m telling you what a loser you are and I see you on Skype… how rock hard you are. You are betrayed by your body.

Ms. Erika: Your truth detector.

Ms. Hunter: “Your mouth is saying one thing, but your dick is saying something else.”

Ms. Erika: “Your mind is saying, ‘No, no, no.’ But your penis is saying ‘Yes, yes, yes.

Ms. Olivia: We have a great assignment website called HumiliationBootcamp.com. It’s filled with sexy assignments. I did a small penis humiliation assignment on that site.

I tell the guy with the small dick to go to the drug store. “I want you to get Magnum extra, extra large condoms.

Go up and pay for them.”

Now, I never want someone to push their kink onto a civilian or in an inappropriate area, but he knows he’s buying extra, extra large and the fucking condoms slips off. He’s got a little nubby and the condom can’t even stay on.

Ms. Erika: What you said, Olivia, about not bringing civilians into your kink is important.

You’re not going to buy the condoms and say you have a tiny dick and you are not going to return them and say they are too big because you have a little penis. Nobody wants to hear that, darling.

However, if you go to the adult sex shop, they’re very used to talking to people about sex and sexuality.

So I think it was little peewee that I had go to the adult bookstore and ask for a chastity cage. Every one they showed him, he was to say, “No, I’m sorry. That’s still too big.”

Ms. Olivia: They’ve got a chastity cage called The Nub, which is basically like a button mushroom-shaped chastity cage. How funny to have him say, “No, that’s too big.”

Hunter, What about you?

Ms. Hunter: I have had them buy the condoms and also buy a zucchini, but not say anything about either one.

We don’t want anyone imparting their kink on someone else. You know that 9 times out of 10, the other people watching are thinking, “Hmmm. What do you think he’s going to do with that?”

I do enjoy the mind fuck and the psychology behind it. One of my favorite things is to take a period of time and create a humiliation calendar. Then, on the first day, write down something you don’t like about yourself and put it in a jar. Do this every day for the length of the calendar.

Then when that part of the assignment is completed, look at yourself in the mirror and read each one aloud. I also like if they read them to me because I really like to pull the mental part of it out.

Ms. Olivia: To our listeners, if you want some hilarious and very fun humiliation, you should do a call with one, two, or all three of us. Dial 1-800-356-616, and reach out and contact us.

Ms. Olivia: olivia@enchantrixempire.com / @MistressOlivia1

Blog: Experienced Mistress

Ms. Erika: erika@enchantrixempire.com / @ErikaEnchantrix

Blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Do not leave your humiliation needs to the amateurs. Come to the professionals.

Ms. Hunter: hunter@enchantrixempire.com / @EmpressHunter

Blog: Intelligent Fantasies and I Will Humiliate You

Ms. Olivia: We’ve come to the end of the podcast. Thank you all for listening.

You listeners can support the podcast wherever you listen to your podcast. Subscribe, like and leave a review.

We want you to know, all teasing and kidding and meanness aside, we really, really do appreciate you. Thank you.

Questions for kinky listeners Ms. Erika: If you’re someone who enjoys humiliation, what is your style? Do you know your style? Do you like it harsh or more sensual? I would love a few lines, not War and Peace. Send me an email and your thoughts.

Ms.Hunter: I have a couple of questions. Do you realize that you enjoy humiliation or do you think certain things are just exciting and you haven’t delved into it? I encourage you to look into that further. And, do you like implied humiliation, “Let’s hope you’re good with your tongue,” versus overt humiliation? I personally feel like I’m a mix of both. And depending on the person, I will be mean all the time and then give them a little bit of sensual or vice versa.

But I don’t know whether a lot of guys really know what they prefer. So, think about it.

Ms. Olivia: Both of you… thoughtful, intelligent, nuanced, really excellent questions. My only question is I want to hear from you if you got a chub thinking about crawling around on all fours with a feather duster in your ass.

Ms. Hunter: Somebody do that for us on cam, I’m just throwing that out there.

Ms. Olivia: Hunter, we’ve got to have you back. You are fabulous. You know what? We should do a cum fetish podcast and we’ll have you back for that. We’ll talk about cum eating.

Ms. Hunter: You guys are wonderful. Thank you both for having me.

Ms. Olivia: This was very fun. Thank you to our listeners.

You have fun with or without your feather duster.

Behave, or don’t, as the case may be.

We will see you next week. Thanks! Bye.

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It’s Masturbation May Princess Cassidy joins Ms Erika and Mistress Olivia for everything about self love: stroking, edging, delay and denial – tease and denial and even chastity as part of Masturbation May. Today, you’ll hear how the ladies celebrate and how they plan to tease you.

Listen to Masturbation May on Spotify – or anywhere you listen to your podcasts. A new episode posts every Monday at 1 pm eastern time on Cock Radio on Spreaker.

Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hotspot, kink conversation, BDsm advice, and insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. I’m Mistress Olivia here with Ms. Erika and our friend, Ms. Cassidy, Princess and boob-i-licious.

That’s what we’re going to start calling Cassidy, Princess Boob-i-liciousness.

Ms. Cassidy: That’s perfect. The boobs are nice. I like them.

Ms. Olivia: And you’re a beach bunny!

Ms. Cassidy: For sure. California girl.

Ms. Olivia: We are so glad that you’re here. Think about it, an entire empire created on masturbation. So it’s perfectly appropriate that we’re all here because it’s Masturbation May.

This is our time of the year. We celebrate it all 12 months. For the vanilla world, it is a month dedicated to wanking, edging, jerking off, jacking off, jilling off for the ladies. It is definitely our time of year. I love that there are a bunch of slang terms for masturbation.

Celebrate Masturbation Month Ms. Olivia: What do you both like and how do you celebrate Masturbation Month?

Ms. Erika: I love that there’s a month dedicated to promote healthy sex practices and masturbation is certainly one of them.

I love encouraging a positive outlook with your body, your sexuality, and that includes self-love.

In addition to positive messages and blogs and tweets that I’ll be doing throughout the month, I actually have a special running. Everyone who calls me will get one entry into winning your own free Jerk Off Instruction audio.

Check out my blog IntelligentPhoneFantasy.com, “Strokers Rewards” to get more details.

Ms. Olivia: Or call you at 1-800-356-6169 and ask for Ms. Erika and tell her you want to jack off for her.

Ms. Erika: There’s an assignment. You do have to do an assignment when you call in order to gain entry, but you’ll see it over at the blog. I love that idea, Miss Olivia.

Ms. Olivia: Cassidy, you’ve also got some news about Masturbation Month as well, right?

Ms. Cassidy: First of all, let me say you can go to our EnchantrixPerks.com website and see our Enchantrix Weekly every week that will also have this information in it with a direct link to Ms. Erika’s blog as well as any other promos going on. So you can check that out.

For me, because it’s Masturbation May and I love to celebrate, even though I’m pretty busy, finals are ending, so I’m going to be taking some calls this month.

If anyone wants to talk to me, you can always email me to see when I’ll be on or, fingers crossed, I will get something up on my blog with some details on that.

My blog is FirstClassPhoneSex.com. We also have a new Mistress of the Month for this month. It’s Miss Tia. We thought it was perfect because her blog is MasturbationMistress.com. She loves Masturbation May. So Ms.Tia is our Mistress of the Month for Masturbation May. It’s perfect.

Mistress meeting in Vegas, what could possibly go wrong? Ms. Olivia: I hope I’m not speaking out of turn, but I’m going to take us on a little excursion, which I do.

Several years ago we would have Mistress meetings and we would go to Vegas. A whole bunch of Mistresses would go and I remember one time we were celebrating a success that Tia was having.

We were in a strip club and Ally was there and she bought bottles at Patron for all of us. They were on the table with shot glasses.

Strippers were coming over and bumping and grinding and… strippers with women… oh, we got to touch, and they were touching our boobs, kissing us, and just bumping and grinding.

The poor strippers on the stage, all of the men gathered around us and we were in a little circle with a whole bunch of tables and a whole bunch of strippers.

And the guys just started throwing dollar bills, $5, $10, $20 bills. Money was just raining down. I’m not sure I’ve ever been that blind fucking drunk, but you know, I think of Tia and I’m like, “Tia, I love you, but you’ve ruined me for tequila.”

So Cinco de Mayo, I will not be celebrating with a margarita.

Ms. Cassidy: I think of tequila and Tia as well because the time that I was with her, I got so drunk, I literally sat down in the hallway of the hotel and dumped my purse out because I could not find my hotel key and I didn’t even have it.

I was staying in a room with someone and they had the key, but I was sure I had it. I dumped my purse out, sat down on the floor in the hallway, and was determined to find the key. Oh my goodness. And I always think of that. I think, oh my.

Ms. Olivia: Listen, Tia is really fun. We don’t want to give the impression that if they call they’ve got to get blind, fucking drunk.

Ms. Cassidy: Oh, God, no. She is fun. And you guys have to hear her voice. You have to go listen to her voice. She has the most amazing voice. Every time I hear it I think, “Why don’t I sound like that?”

Ms. Olivia: Seriously, I love your voice, Cassidy. You have like the quintessential Princess, college, bop around, sweetest girl-next-door voice.

I have heard you, when you’re on a call and you are humiliating someone. The juxtaposition of your sweet face and your sweet voice and then some of the stuff you say. It’s amazing!

Ms. Cassidy:That is always my favorite because it’s so much fun to sound sweet and be really mean.

Ms. Olivia: Or really naughty. I think both of you know Yvonne. We did an interview with Yvonne and about Acceptance as a Crossdresser.

Yvonne is a regular listener of the podcast. When she started listening to the podcast, this was when Ms. Delia and I were doing the podcast, Yvonne said, “Oh, I have to tell you ladies. You have potty mouths.” I said, “We fucking do!”

An assignment for our kinky podcast listeners Ms. Olivia: We are asking you to support us. So we want you to subscribe on Apple Podcast. We want you to Like the podcast and leave a review on Apple or any place where you listen to your podcasts.

We are moving up on the charts. The Weekly Hotspot has charted. It’s fucking amazing to get this kind of support. Thank you!

Ms. Cassidy: That is awesome. Oh my God.

Ms. Olivia: I was shocked. You know, I got this little email saying, “Hey, you charted.” I’m like, “Oh, thank you. I don’t know what that means.” Erika researched it. We are on the front page of sexuality podcasts and our podcast on strapon sex is number five in Qatar.

Ms. Cassidy: That is awesome. You guys are kicking ass. That is amazing.

Celebrate self-love with the best masturbation Ms. Olivia: Yup. It’s something to celebrate. And speaking of celebrations, celebrate Masturbation Month. This month is so much fun. It really is. Although, we have Masturbation on our minds pretty much all the time, right?

Ms. Erika: You’re not kidding. It’s a daily topic. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not complaining. I love it. Bring it on.

Ms. Cassidy: Masturbation? Safest sex! You can do it anytime. Anywhere. Don’t have to worry about social distancing. Perfect.

Ms. Olivia: I live in New York State and the New York State health department got in huge trouble because they put out a thing at the very beginning of COVID saying, “Okay, we want you to have safe sex and the best way to do it is masturbation.” People said, “Oh no. You shouldn’t say that.”

But it’s true. Everybody masturbates. I don’t care what people say. Everybody, guys, girls, everybody.

Ms. Cassidy: Well, I know out here in California, there was a whole thing on the news because they recently started encouraging teachers to incorporate into all their sex ed classes, information about masturbation and why people should not be ashamed to do it and how it’s not something dirty or bad. There’s a huge uproar about it, but it’s so cool.

Ms. Olivia: The history of Masturbation May is bringing masturbation to the mainstream by talking about it. Everybody does it, but not everybody talks about it. It started as Masturbation Day, May 7th. Then it ended up Masturbation Month, which is just fabulous.

Before coming to LDW Group did either of you know there was something called Masturbation Month? I didn’t.

Ms. Erika: Well, I’d heard of it, but I didn’t really pay much attention to it other than to say “Yes, please. I’m in.” Now I’m a little bit more involved outside of my own bedroom promoting healthy sexual habits.

Ms. Cassidy: I didn’t know about it at all. I had no idea until my second year here that it wasn’t something Ms. Ally made up. I just assumed she made it up and said, “We’re going to celebrate it.” Everyone said, “Absolutely! Let’s do it!”

More masturbation slang Ms. Olivia: I love the names for cum, for the penis, vagina, and for masturbation.

There are some very funny slang terms for masturbation!

• cuffing the carrot
• saucing the taco
• beating the Bishop? What the fuck is that about?
• burping the worm
• buffin’ the muffin.
• choking the chicken. Where did that come from? That is like, so not sexy.

Ms. Cassidy: No, it’s not. And it’s the one I’ve actually heard of so far out of these. I’ve heard people say that.

Ms. Olivia: Me, too. Painting the pickle. Have either of you ever heard painting the pickle for masturbation?

Ms. Cassidy and Ms. Erika: No, no.

Ms. Erika: Jerkin’ your gherkin, yes, but not painting the pickle.

Ms. Olivia: That’s especially if he has a small penis. Oh, and this one… flicking the bean.

Ms. Erika: Yeah, we’re not going to be flicking too many beans on this side of the keyboard.

Ms. Olivia: Now here’s the thing. This is a personal pet peeve of mine and Erika’s… Cassidy, feel free to weigh in. Don’t fucking flick my clit. Don’t use it like a light switch. And (fast flicking sound)… NO!

Ms. Cassidy: I completely agree. If you don’t know what to do with it, just keep your fucking hands off it.

Ms. Olivia: Or ask us. We’ll tell you.

Ms. Erika: Now with that said, there may be the woman out there that does enjoy it, but don’t go there first off guys. Don’t go there.

Ms. Olivia: Oh, at the very tail end, so to speak, maybe. Maybe. But at the very beginning, I know it’s popular in porn because it looks interesting, but oh, ow! Guys can call us and ask us how to make love to a woman.

Live help for a phone sex service? What? Ms. Olivia: Now, Cassidy, you are a Cock Concierge. I love that LDW Group has a help desk called Cock Concierge. What that hell is that?

Ms. Cassidy: It’s really cool. We started it by riffing off some of the bigger names, regular sites where you can go and you don’t know how to find something, you can click on a button and ask.

Usually it’s an automated question and answer, but for us, we thought “We don’t want to be automated. We want them to be able to talk to somebody.”

That’s where our Cock Concierge comes in and we’re there.

If you come to our site after hearing this podcast and you can’t figure out how the hell to find Ms.Olivia or Ms.Erika.

On every one of our sites, you can click on Live Help, or you can just go to EroticConcierge.com and just ask us, we can tell you how to find blogs, tell you the number to call, talk to you about pricing, anything like that.

Find the perfect erotic playmate for you Ms. Cassidy: If you come and think, “I really want to talk to somebody, but what I really love is for a woman to cover herself in balloons and fucking pop them until I cum.” We’ll find you just the right person who would absolutely love to talk to you about that.

Ms. Erika: I love that aspect of what you do, Cassidy, suggesting who to talk with because it’s daunting to try this and connect with someone. I mean, look at all these beautiful women, which one do you talk to?

You guys are really a great gateway of helping them feel more comfortable. “Oh yeah, Erika would love to do that!” Or “Olivia would love to do that! Go right ahead. Give them a call.”

Ms. Cassidy: Exactly. That’s exactly what we do. If someone comes in and says, “I really love cuckolding, but I looked at this blog and I don’t see a current post about cuckolding,” we can say, “You know what? Just because she hasn’t written something right away, check out our website and you can see that she loves cuckolding, or let me help you find something she’s written on her blog about it.”

There are search features on our blogs. It really isn’t that hard to find, but when you’re overwhelmed or you’ve got your cock in your hand, it’s really hard to think.

Ms. Erika: Cock brain equals no brain.

Ms. Olivia: It is so difficult to think when you’re rock hard. Speaking of rock hard, let’s talk about all the different types of Masturbation. Some of the different types, Erika, why don’t you start.

Different types of masturbation Ms. Erika: Any way to simulate yourself for an orgasm is what I’m interested in. I like all kinds of masturbation and I love showing men how they can stimulate themselves differently, that they might have never thought of, or where they were scared to try.

Orgasm is a learned response. The more ways you learn to cum, the happier I am. If you were interested in pleasing a Mistress, being diverse and being able to get to that point of no return and allowing me to say yes or no any way I wish, is fantastic.

Ms. Olivia: All of us actually know more about a penis than the owner of said, penis. We have played with more cocks.

He’s got way more history, but however you started masturbating (in a sock that’s lubed up, on a pair of panties that you stole, lubed up with lotion, or dry stroking)… whatever it is, that’s his go-to. “Oh, that felt amazing. I’m never going to do it any other way.”

And so if he’s been doing that for decades, well, fuck me running fellows, you need to call us.

Ms. Cassidy: You are in a rut.

Masturbation Games Ms. Olivia: We’ll spice it up with all kinds of things, including Cassidy. You like games.

Ms. Cassidy: Oh my gosh, I do. Masturbation games are one of my favorite things. I’ve used dice, a deck of cards, a metronome. Sometimes I just pick random numbers and that’s how much they have to stroke.

Whatever the tease and denial game feels like is going to work with who I’m talking to, is what I love to do.

It does the same thing you ladies both mentioned. It mixes it up for them. Then guys, believe us, your fucking head is going to blow the fuck off because what you think is working, there will be something and you’re going to think, “What the fuck? I never did that before. That was a blast.”

Ms. Erika: The best review is, after the grand finale, all you hear is, “Oh, fuck. Oh fuck. Oh fuck.” I said, “I take that as a good thing, honey?”

Ms. Olivia: Speaking of reviews. I got this quote from a stroke pet. We did this really intense and psychological role-play edging scene.

He said:

“I was a bit scared and still am, but the slave mentality towards this type of play suits me and I truly enjoy having my cock worked without regard for what is going on with the rest of me. I was dripping, leaking, convulsing, throbbing, and shaking.

“None of that mattered. The task was to keep working towards the next edge, no matter how fast the next one arrived, and not stop until a ruined orgasm was granted. It was a delicious torture scenario. I hope to enjoy it again with you again soon.”

Isn’t that the best? I love Tease and Denial. Tease and Denial or Tease and Delay, edging. We did a whole podcast episode about the paradox of arousal by sexual denial. And it is a paradox.

When people start masturbating, it’s jerk jerk jerk jerk jerk, right? So they get the quick jack off. I think that’s awesome with the 10-minute calls, some of which are three minutes.

Ms. Erika: (Talking fast) I’ve got places to go and people to see, let’s go!

Edging and stroking – how to have a big orgasm Ms. Olivia: But, it’s so much more fun when you do things like games, Jerk off Instructions, edging, stroking, stroking for hours.

Erika, you are brilliant at this. Having someone do a stroking session that can last all day or multiple days.

Ms. Erika: Oh, absolutely.

The paradox you speak about is true because if you understand what happens to your body during sexual arousal, when you have an orgasm, your body goes into full reverse mode. Like a jet when it lands, it reverses engines. That’s what happens to your chemistry.

You have all these feel good hormones pumping your body up. This is when you say, “Hey, sticking that in my ass sounds like a really good time. Let’s do it.” But as soon as you orgasm, it’s like, “Oh yeah, no, wait, fuck, what’s going on?”

It’s because your body naturally throws hormones into your body to reverse those effects. So without that orgasm, I’ve had some describe it as a sort of sexual high and they become addicted to it and they don’t want it to end. That is fascinating and fabulous.

How long can you stroke your cock? Ms. Olivia: What is the longest stroking session or the longest call that either of you had that was continuous stroking?

Ms. Cassidy: Okay. So mine is… oh, oh, that’s hard. I’m trying to think back.

Ms. Olivia: It is hard. Hard and slippery and wet and tight balls. Yes, Cassidy, it is hard.

Ms. Cassidy: I’m going to say probably right around an hour. It’s a little shorter than some people can keep them really going, but I tend to decide to entertain myself by ruining something for someone.

Ms. Erika: The continuous stroking is one thing. These past few months, it might have even been longer than that, but it’s so right there in the front of my mind. I did a two hour session and 43 edges in those two hours. Did we have a break or two to have some water, reposition? Yes. So, it’s not necessarily continuous.

The reason we got to 43… okay, I’m going to give away some of my secrets. Hopefully not everybody who calls me listens, so this is a little bit of how my mind works.

Leading up to the session, he contacted me. “I’d love to do a session. Here’s my toy list.” And he’s looking for instructions up to the session which was four days away.

I said, “Okay, great. I want you to wear your chastity cage and I want you to track how many hours you were in that chastity cage.”

He proudly came to sessions saying, “Mistress, I wore that for you for 43 hours this past week.” I said, “Great, we’re now going to do 43 edges before I will even consider an orgasm.” And he did it.

Ms. Olivia: I have some people in a chastity cage for six months! You both know Lexi is currently in chastity. I talked to her the other day and I want to say she is at a month and a half into her chastity experience.

Ms. Erika: That is fantastic Lexi, congratulations.

Ms. Olivia: And there’s no end in sight. So Lexi is not going to get 40 edges after 40 days. Lexi is locked the fuck up.

Tease and Denial – to the best orgasm ever Ms. Olivia: Masturbation May, you “may” or “may not” have an orgasm and Cassidy, you mentioned ruined orgasms.

Just like there’s this huge broad category of types of masturbation play, there’s also multiple types of orgasms.

Just the regular jerk jerk jerk-squirts orgasms, timed orgasms, stroke-stroke-stroke-stroke, with or without role-play.

Ruined orgasms Ms. Olivia: Then I’ll say, “Okay, if you can come in 20 seconds, you’re allowed to have an orgasm.” I’ll start and say, “20, 19, 18, 17, 16, 15, 14, 13, 12, 11, 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5-4-3-2-1,” and he’s had those 10 seconds at this slow pace and I’ve had guys yell, “NoNoNoNo!”

Isn’t that wicked?

Ms. Erika: It’s a great way to judge a true edge because a lot of guys think just because they got their cock hard, that’s an edge. No, no, no, no, no. That’s not an edge. If you’re truly on the edge, you’ll be able to come in 10 seconds.

Ms Olivia: That’s true. That’s why you pick 20 seconds and count the first 10 seconds slowly. Because he’s thinking, “Oh, I’m on the edge. This is awesome. I’ve got 20 seconds to just, I don’t have to worry. I’ll shoot my load. I’m going to paint the fucking ceiling with my semen.” And then it’s 10 seconds, not 20. Or, as Cassidy mentioned, a ruined orgasm.

Ms. Erika: Ruined orgasms are magical.

Ms. Olivia: Did you know about ruined orgasms? Had either of you ruined orgasms before you came here? I’ve got to admit, I never had.

Ms. Cassidy: I had, but it was more of an accident. I wasn’t purposely trying to, but like I said, I get bored and decided to entertain myself.

Ms. Erika: “Look! A kitty cat. Oh, I’m sorry. Weren’t you finished, honey? Well, I guess you are now. Okay, let’s move on.”

I think I’m in the same boat as Cassidy. I ruined an orgasm through bad timing, but I never really understood the power, the magic of a ruined orgasm until I started doing this regularly and coercing them.

There are many ways to do a ruined orgasm as well. Simply abandoning, a little pee hole pinch, and for those who like a little pain play, a little CBT. Just smack that fucker to orgasm.

Masturbation Hall of Fame Ms. Olivia: Putting a stroke pet through his paces is really the point of a huge stroking and edging session. It can be multiple times through a day, multiple times over a week, but there is at the end, some kind of orgasm, whether or not it’s ruined.

I think that qualifies as a Masturbation Marathon. I think that gets the caller into the Masturbation Hall of Fame. Erika, you’ve got some people that are in the Masturbation Hall of Fame.

Ms. Erika: Oh, absolutely. Between those edges, how many strokes between orgasms? You can go a week, two weeks. “No, you said you wanted to masturbate. You didn’t say you wanted to orgasm. So there’s a big difference.”

I mentioned earlier about having people masturbate in different ways.

One of my favorite guided masturbation sessions, and we’re going to include a little bit of humiliation here, is humping masturbation. Training that cock to cum while it’s humping. Not a little pocket pussy. Oh, no. That’s the easy way, putting the pocket pussy between two cushions or two pillows and humping away. No, no, no, no. I mean, riding that thing like a donkey and getting off.

Cock envy Ms. Olivia: I’m going to take us on a detour.

If I had one wish, I would probably go for world peace or something like that. But if all that was covered and I had one wish, I would want to have a cock for about one week.

I want all of my girl parts. I don’t want them going anywhere, but I would want a real, attached, male cock for a week and I would masturbate like a monkey for the entire fucking week.

I think the penis is just the most fun kind of thing.

Ms. Cassidy: There’s so much they can do with it. There’s so many places to stick it. Granted, some of them need a Penis Safety Announcement: Don’t put it there.

Ms. Erika: Do not masturbate with Soft Soap. You’ll be chafed for a week.

Ms. Cassidy: “That vacuum cleaner is not what you want, dude.” But, it’s so much fun. There’s so many things they can do.

Mistress, May I Cum? Ms. Olivia: Orgasm is not the goal, a lot of times. Orgasm control, orgasm delay or flat out orgasm denial. One of our most popular assignment sites is MayICum.com. Let’s talk about MayICum.com.

I love that site. It’s great for assignments like my posts: Masturbation Phone Sex with a Porn Chaser. It’s an assignment and he gets all worked up and then clicks on the audio and the audio answers: May I cum?

One of the most popular masturbation instructions ever. Ms. Olivia: I did 30 second little snippet audios. That is one of my most popular audio efforts. It was 30 seconds where I say, “No, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, no, no, no. Stop it. Put your hand down. No, no,” for 30 seconds or so.

Ms. Erika: I love that. I think I did one, but not that long, but it was just for a joke. I just said no in different ways. No! Ah said, “NO!”

Ms. Olivia: Isn’t that epic?

Ms. Cassidy: It’s one of the best things about our May I Cum site, because there are so many different things on there. You can have an assignment, a ruined orgasm, sometimes just some details about a specific way to masturbate.

I love, love the posts like what Olivia just said, where you can read it and then you have to listen to that audio to find out what happens. That is my favorite.

That’s what I used to do all the time. I would record an audio and I would just record what I wrote so they would start out thinking they were just listening to whatever I wrote. But the only way they would know if they got to cum was if they listened to the whole thing. Love it.

Ms. Olivia: Sometimes, I will say, “You have to cum, but you are only allowed to cum after doing this, this, and this.” It’s like sending them through a treasure hunt. Then I’ll get this email, “Mistress, I did everything you asked. Now may I cum?”

I’ll say, “Well, let’s see.” And I incorporate the tease and denial games like you were talking about, Cassidy. I’m going to go to Random.org and we’re going to do this with a dice game.

I’m going to roll one dice, we’re going to do over/under.

Ms. Erika: I’ve also done odds and evens. Pick one.

Ms. Olivia: Or flip a coin. I sit there and say, “I really was going to let you cum, but you chose tails and I chose heads.”

Ms. Erika: Your odds don’t look good.

Ms. Cassidy: Oh my gosh. I have to tell you, in case anyone doesn’t know, I also Dispatch.

There is a guy who has called in the middle of the night when Olivia’s not here. He’ll say, “I think I completed all my assignments and I don’t know what to do.”

Until you said that, I thought he was just trying to get Dispatch to tell him what to do, because I always tell him, “Well, if your assignments are from Olivia, then you’re just going to have to wait for Olivia.”

But he has called over the years, it’s been a couple of times and he’ll, they’ll, it’s usually the same guy, but it’s been a couple different ones that will say, “Okay, Miss Olivia, I did these assignments and I don’t know what to do.”

Ms. Olivia: “No, no, no, no, no. Absolutely not. No.” That’s what you tell him. You send him to my blog and I will repost the No audio. “No, you’re not allowed to cum. Not yet. Nope. Not yet.”

Ms.Cassidy: That would be perfect. I can’t speak for any other dispatchers, but, and not all of our dispatchers have taken calls, so some of them might not be quite as playful, but I always tell him, “Hey, you know what? Olivia’s not here. So guess what? That means. You have to wait even longer.” He just sounds like, “Oh, no! Oh, no!”

Ms. Olivia: Oh my God. Erika, what do you love about orgasm control? May I Cum, StrokeForMe.com.

Ms. Erika: The hotness factor of doing sessions and feeling that energy on the other side of the phone is fantastic. Anybody who knows me or knows any of you ladies or any of the ladies here, it’s the absolute hook to have that power, to have that control. “No, you will not come today. You will keep that cum in those balls, boy.” Fuck yes! I just got chills.

Chastity – the ultimate in orgasm control Ms. Olivia: Keeping the cum in the balls. Chastity is the ultimate form of control and submission and our Dominance.

Ms. Erika: I am a big proponent. If you consider yourself a submissive male, but you’ve never been interested in chastity, saying, “Oh, that’s not for me. I can keep my hands off my dick.” There is something that happens in your brain when you are locked that just explodes that submissive feeling.

Before I came to LDW, I played around with it, just on a personal basis. “Oh, you’re going to stay locked while I tease you,” and then the grand finale. But there are those out there that are addicted to that sexual high. They absolutely love it.

Some feel that masturbation should have a higher purpose. They shouldn’t just cum because they’re horny. There should be a purpose behind it. Chastity checks off all those boxes.

Ms. Olivia: I put one man in chastity so he would finish remodeling his bathroom. Perfect motivation. Seriously. He stopped fucking around with the bathroom. He got it. He got it done so fast and told me his wife said, “What gotten into you? You’re really working hard on this.” He answered, “Yes, I am.”

We did a podcast on it. The Femdom Guide to Male Chastity. I love chastity.

Ms. Cassidy: I have to admit that I did not know very much about chastity when I started LDW. It was one of those things that I had heard about, but I really didn’t know that much about it. But after I did a couple of 2 Mistress calls with Mistress Cassandra….

Ms. Olivia and Ms. Erika in unison: The DICKtator.

Choosing a Chastity Cage Ms. Cassidy: She knows everything about everything chastity, I swear. I thought chastity was amazing because it focuses them in a way that nothing else can.

I have to tell you, I hate picking out cock locks. Don’t come to me and ask me to pick one for you. I want you to choose. And then I’ll either: make you use it in a way that is going to make it so much worse for you, or I’ll laugh at you for picking the wrong one.

Ms. Erika: It’s an assignment. You want them to be in chastity or they want it all, so they want that experience. Part of your assignment is learning about different chastity devices, learning how to measure correctly and finding a device that suits your lifestyle. Why is that our job? That’s the submissive’s job to do the work.

Ms. Olivia: I’m a control freak and a nerd. So I’ve researched all of it. The crème de la crème is Mature Metal. My favorite one is the Queen’s Keep because I’m the Goddess and the Queen does keep her small minions, or her large minions, locked up.

We did an amazing podcast Chastity Interview with William from Mature Metal about how to choose the right chastity cage.

Now we’re going to measure. Measure flaccid.

Ms. Erika: “It’s hard to do when I’m talking to you, Miss Olivia.”

Ms. Olivia: It’s hard to do.

“Go and get some ice. We’re gonna put the ice in a bowl of water and get a washcloth wet. Now we’re going to wrap it around your cock and balls. I guarantee you will lose that hardon.”

“There you go. Now get the measuring tape. Okay. All right. We’ll keep working on it.” I love that.

Ms. Erika: I have my preferences. I love a metal cage for a cock. I just think it’s the sexiest thing.

Ms. Olivia: Or pink!

Ms. Erika: For a little added humiliation.

Ms. Olivia: Oh, absolutely for sissies, sissy in chastity. Oh, those little adorable… little chastity cages are just gorgeous. Sometimes they even come with sparkles.

Ms. Erika: (puff of air) Glitter bomb.

Ms. Olivia: I was talking with Lexi the other day and I mentioned that we were going to be doing this podcast in celebration of Masturbation Month.

She said, “Well, you know, you ladies always leave something out.” I said, “We do not. We talk about masturbation techniques. We give us assignments, we do this, that, and the other thing.”

Then she says, “Well in your blogs, you never tell him or her to think for herself or himself to see what happens.”

Now we do definitely talk about using sex toys for masturbation and anal pleasure, but Lexi has a good point.

I’ve never done a blog saying, “Stick your finger in and wiggle it around,” although I have done that on calls.

Ms. Cassidy: That’s a good point. I don’t think I have either. Like you said, I’ve done it on calls because it just sort of is part of it. I don’t think I’ve ever actually written anything about it at all

Ms. Erika: Inspiration.

Ms. Olivia: Lexi is inspiration for sure.

Jilling – masturbate and orgasm as a woman Ms. Olivia: So with Lexi, we talk about lady orgasms or jilling. That can be with a sissy, a crossdresser, a trans woman… or us.

Ladies, I’m gonna put you on the spot. I’ll go first. Sometimes I masturbate on calls. Sometimes I tell the guys, sometimes I don’t. How much do either of you want to say about your personal masturbation habits… on calls or just in your personal life.

Ms. Erika: Good question. In my personal life, I’m very well taken care of. So, alone time there is far and few between.

But when it comes to calls, not all calls lend to me having self-pleasure. I get very selfish, very distracted, and my focus is usually on the caller, not myself, even if I’m turned on.

Honestly, if I cum, it’s just like, “Okay, I’m done with you now. I don’t care what you want, go away.”

With that said, there are a few lucky callers that have been able to experience that side of me. So my question to you is “Are you feeling lucky?”

Ms. Cassidy: You know that all of them now are going to say, “Please let me be the one, please, let me be the one, please.”

Ms. Olivia: Sometimes I tell, and sometimes I don’t. Cassidy, what do you do with callers and your personal life?

Ms. Cassidy: With callers, it’s similar to what you guys have already said and to what Erika said about choosing. It completely depends on the caller.

I always imagine a new call with someone like I’m meeting them at the club. We start talking. If you ever do a call with me, you’ll see that I’m interested in you. I want to know about you. I want to talk to you because that’s how I imagine it.

We’re getting to know each other. You find out about them. They find out about you. You dance a little, it gets a little sexy, and then you decide just how far you’re going to go.

Mutual masturbation on a call is like that for me. I might, but I also might not. It just depends on if I’m feeling some kind of connection, even the smallest one, then I might go there. If not, you’re still going to have fun. You’re not gonna know, but it definitely depends.

Ms. Erika: And the type of session too.

Does a Domme have an orgasm? Ms. Erika: If you’re being called to be a strict Mistress, although that may be arousing to you, it’s very distracting and you need to focus on your pet and taking care of them. So I use that as motivation and energy to stay in the game.

Ms. Olivia: Domme space is the exact opposite of subspace. So Domme space, when I’m in that space, it’s not sexual in the sense of “I’m so aroused, I’m going to have an orgasm.” It’s an alter-space, but it’s not the same.

Oh no. I’ve got to tell you. I have masturbated thinking about a session after the fact.

Ms. Cassidy: Yes. You’re exactly right.

That Domme space is a specific feeling mentally because your doing it really is a power exchange.

Anyone who has never tried it, realize that if you’re in subspace, you are not completely powerless, it’s a power exchange. And if you are completely powerless, your Domme maybe isn’t doing what they should be doing.

In Domme space, you are focusing on letting the sub feel completely powerless and yet still making sure that they’re enjoying the session and you’re moving it along.

I can’t focus on masturbating when I’m making sure that all the pieces are working.

Masturbation even when you have regular sex Ms. Olivia: Do either of you ever masturbate, even when you’ve got a partner right there? I’m polyamorous, so I have a regular male partner, regular female partner. So I’ve got all the bases covered, but sometimes I just want to give myself a hand. Do either of you do that?

Ms. Erika: Like I said earlier, rarely do I do that because I have such an attentive partner myself. Orgasms are great, but having my male partner inside of me when I orgasm is the best orgasm. They just seem to go on forever. So, I prefer those.

So I think, “Okay, I can get off right now. Then I’m going to work all day. Am I going to really feel up to that later on?” So I may hold it. Most times I do, sometimes I don’t.

Ms. Olivia: Cassidy, what about you?

Ms. Cassidy: For me, my boyfriend, who I’ve been with forever and ever is amazing, I don’t often, just on my own, get off. Plus we have sex enough that I would totally run out of time to do homework, take finals. If I was also gonna masturbate, I would think, “I don’t have time for this,” because we do it enough that it uses up my time.

Mistress Olivia wants to know Ms. Olivia: Am I just the fucking freak?

I like watching porn. Lesbian porn is awesome. POV blowjob porn. I don’t really like Femdom porn so much. I also love reading erotic stories. You know, I got into phone sex because I love Literotica and I don’t know if they still have it, but they had private chat rooms.

I would get into the private chat rooms and I would hook up with somebody and I would say, “Okay, I’m going to call you.” I would be calling and talking to these random guys and doing phone sex. I was bitching to a friend of mine. I said, “The motherfucker came, I was still all amped up. He came and fucking hung up!? That’s just rude.”

She said to me, “You know, you can get paid for that.” I said, “Paid for what?” And she said, “Paid for phone sex. You’re doing it for free anyway. You need to get paid. Then if he hangs up, it’s not going to bother you.” Some guys do hang up. Well, I’ve got to tell you, a lot of times after a call, I finish it.

Ms. Cassidy: I am picturing all the dudes in the Literotica chat asking, “Where did the fucking hot woman go?” They’re still out there somewhere.

Ms. Olivia: Hopefully, they have found us here. If I talked to you on Literotica and you want to contact me again:

Olivia@enchantrixempire.com / @MistressOlivia1

My blog: Experienced Mistress.

Ms. Erika: erika@enchantrixempire.com / @ErikaEnchantrix

Ms Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy.

Ms. Olivia: And Cassidy, you’re taking calls this month. Yay!.

Ms. Cassidy: I am. And even if I’m not, you can always contact me. I always do appointments. So you can always email me Cassidy@EnchantrixEmpire.com.

If you want to check out my blog, it is FirstClassPhoneSex.com. My Twitter is @EmpressCassidy.

You can also find me on our Dispatch Twitter, which is @LDWDispatch.

I do most of the posting there and tend to interact just like I would interact in any other situation. Feel free to check us out there.

Ms. Erika: That’s a great idea, Cassidy. I love the Dispatch Twitter posts. They are really fun and there are even interesting things. I encourage everybody listening to go ahead and follow them on Twitter as well.

Magic Pussy Ms. Olivia: Dispatch Paula, @PaulaPimptress on Twitter, posted that she had this guy who called in and he was like,

“What the fuck is Olivia still doing on a call? Get her off the call. I want to talk to her. I talked to her a long time yesterday and I had a great time get her off the call. She needs to talk to me.”

Paula, who has a great sense of humor, says, “Olivia has a magic pussy. You’ll just have to wait.”

I did a series of blog posts about Olivia’s magic pussy after @PaulaPimptress tweeted about Olivia’s magic pussy. Because he called back the next day and said,” I’m looking for the magic pussy.”.

Ms. Cassidy: Oh my God. I have to give a huge shout out to Paula. She is amazing. And she’s amazing when you call into dispatch, she’s one of our dispatchers who has not done calls, but she is fun. She’s great on our Twitter, too.

Ms. Olivia: I keep trying to get her to do calls.”You need to do a call with me, you would be fantastic.” And she said, “No, no. I couldn’t possibly do that.” I say, “Oh, come on!”

Ms. Erika: She said she would just end up laughing. I said, “That’s what they want. Sometimes Paula, they want you to laugh.”

Ms. Olivia: Exactly. Oh, exactly.

So last year, because of COVID lockdown, there was a Worldwide Masturbation Session.

I’m going to research it and see if there’s going to be another Worldwide Masturbation Session. Maybe we should just have something like that here at LDW in honor of Masturbation May.

Ms. Erika: Fantastic, Ms. Olivia.

Ms. Cassidy: We absolutely should!

Masturbation questions for listeners Ms. Olivia: We always end the podcast with questions for our listeners. I want to know what is your favorite masturbation technique? And listen, if up-down-up-down is your favorite….

Ms. Erika: Expand your horizons.

Ms. Olivia: Expand your horizons! Extra points if you’ve got something other than the typical up-down.

What questions do the two of you have?

Ms. Erika: I want to know if you’ve ever engaged in mutual masturbation with a partner.

Ms. Cassidy: I want to know where the craziest place is where you have masturbated?

Ms. Olivia: I’ll answer that one. I took flying lessons and this was when I was a student pilot. I masturbated in the little Cessna. I’m not sure I should admit that.

Ms. Cassidy: Extra points if theirs is wilder than yours.

Ms. Olivia: I also gave my instructor a blow job while we were flying. He had the autopilot engaged.

Ms. Cassidy: Throttle up! Throttle up!

Ms. Olivia: Flaps down, baby. Flaps down.

We have come to the end of our conversation. Give yourself a hand. We’ve got a happy ending.

Ladies, it was awesome to be with both of you. Erika, it’s always fun. I love you to pieces and Cassidy, you have got to come back. You are a hoot!

Ms. Cassidy: Thank you so much for inviting me. I had so much fun. I’d love to come back anytime. Just let me know.

Ms. Olivia: Thank you to all of you for listening. Remember, move us up the charts! Subscribe, Like and leave a review wherever you listen to The Weekly Hot Spot. If you do this, we might let you cum. But …. maybe not.

All 3 Mistresses: Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Not going to happen. Not going to happen.

Mistress Olivia: Don’t cum until next week when you join us again for The Weekly Hot Spot. Bye, guys.

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Do you need to enroll in Sissy School? Are you a sissy? Are you the BEST version of your feminized self? If you don’t know or answer “hmmm, I don’t think so” then you should consider enrolling in Sissy School. Today, Mistress Olivia and Ms. Erika talk about how to best get the perfect femme girly girl. Listen to ideas for sissy assignments, how to practice being feminine, what to buy and wear and so much more!

Listen to the Feminization and Sissy School episode.

Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hotspot. Kink conversation, advice and insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. I’m Ms. Olivia and I’m here with Ms. Erika.

Last week, we talked about putting a man in panties and said wearing panties doesn’t automatically mean you’re a sissy, a crossdresser, or trans girl. We promised that this week we would talk about sissy training, which often starts with panties, right, Ms. Erika?

Feminization usually starts with panties Ms. Erika: Oh, absolutely. Most of our sissy girls will attest that their first attraction to exploring their sissy self happens with panties.

Panties are very sexual. If you think about it, they’re wrapped around our pretty pussies. So of course they’re interested in that and whether they want to be with a woman’s pussy or have a woman’s pussy, panties are the way to start.

Ms. Olivia: I love that. And remember folks anything to do with anything erotic, one size does not fit all.

So whether you say you’re a crossdresser or a sissy or trans girl, you don’t have to be one thing all the time. You can be a crossdresser most of the time and then a sissy at times for certain play.

Ms. Erika: I love how you put that. There is no one size.

Ms. Olivia: I’m not a fan of boxes and we human beings do not come with instruction manuals. Sometimes I wish we did.

Ms. Erika: It might make things easier with some people and their interests, but how much fun is it to learn about each person’s individual desires?

Each girly gurl is unique Ms. Olivia: It would be boring for it to be, “Oh, you’re a sissy. We’re going to do this, this and this.” Phone sex is not like a McDonald’s hamburger. It should not all be the same. And we probably don’t want to put onions and pickles on a phone sex call

Ms. Erika: But you can hold my pickle, if you know what I mean.

Ms. Olivia: Now, before you get hungry and certainly before we go shopping, we have your very first sissy training assignment.

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Encouraging your feminization Ms. Olivia: There are various things or actions we can do to feminize a man: encouraging or humiliating. Your Mistress will know what works for you and how to motivate you effectively.

Let’s talk about encouraging a sissy first because this episode is inspired by Yvonne. No, she doesn’t identify as a sissy. You know Yvonne, Erika.

Ms. Erika: Yes, she’s adorable. I love her Twitter too.

Ms. Olivia: Yvonne also does great Twitter. You should follow Yvonne on Twitter.

You can hear our conversation with Yvonne where she talks about self acceptance as a crossdresser.

It is one of my favorite episodes here on The Weekly Hotspot. You can hear me cry. I get all teared up about my relationship. I tell people, Mistress does not mean “bitch” no matter how rough we get in scene play.

Sharing your feminization journey Ms. Erika: I honestly don’t think some people get it or understand exactly how vested we are with some of our girls. It is a beautiful thing.

You almost brought me to tears. I could hear the energy in your voice because I felt it too, when you’re able to give that person that safe place to be who they are.

They often don’t have any place else to share. It is just sometimes overwhelming and completely sad, but you also feel pride as they bloom into their feminization.

Ms. Olivia: And Yvonne has bloomed!

We were talking and shopping and we got all distracted and there is only one thing wrong with Yvonne.

She is a Red Sox fan. I am a New York Mets fan. So we should not be friends. We should not be in love, but we are planning on having a mixed marriage. It will be a Red Sox and Mets marriage when we get married.

Ms. Erika: If you two can get along, it bodes well for Washington DC; you can lead the way, show them how it’s done, Olivia.

Ms. Olivia: I’m not going to be friends with anybody who’s a National’s fan. Oh, you mean politics!

Ms. Erika: Differences can get along and have a great relationship.

Feminization finishing school Ms. Olivia: Yvonne sent me this email and she said:

“After my wedding and honeymoon, Mistress decides to send me to a finishing school to eradicate any lingering maleness.”

Ms. Erika: I love that idea. Morning to night, encouraging her feminization. It’s really identifying the encouragement part.

Sometimes people take the word sissy and think it’s very emasculating. Others embrace it as a badge of honor and both are okay.

I love the idea of a finishing school where you are immersed in a feminine existence. You don’t have a chance to even look at your masculinity. I love that.

What type of things would be in that school?

What goes on in Sissy School? Ms. Olivia: That total immersion that you mentioned, that’s really about full socialization as a woman. It offers a mental transformation and getting rid of all of those little lingering male traits.

Yvonne says “Each week, there is a formal dance and I am escorted by a gentleman.” As an aside, Yvonne is a lesbian. She is not interested in men, but she is escorted by a gentleman.

Her reasoning is fascinating. She says:

“This part is to make sure I do not revert to being male. When in the company of men, it is imperative I remain a lady. If, at the end of the six weeks, I exhibit even the smallest of male traits, I stay another six weeks. This way I will be completely socialized as a woman. Then there is the graduation ceremony where I will be presented to you in my wedding dress.”

Male to female transformation Ms. Erika: I love how we still need the masculine energy to make sure Yvonne stays a lady. I love that idea.

Ms. Olivia: Isn’t that perfect?

There’s this great quote by D.H. Lawrence that says, “Men are the stars. Women are the spaces between the stars.”

Now I would flip it around. Of course, women are the stars and men are the spaces between the stars, but I think it points out that you need both. If you look up in the night sky and it’s only stars, you have a different experience than if you look up and see only blackness, right?

It’s a different experience than when you look up and see a variety where one kind of helps to define and further illuminate the other.

Ms. Erika: You’re absolutely right. We need that other energy. Whether or not we engage intimately with that energy is another thing. But we need that masculine energy in this situation to highlight Yvonne’s femininity.

Ms. Olivia: I think it’s really important to remember there are so many different ways that femininity can be expressed.

In this particular podcast, we’re going to be using the term “sissy training,” but it can also be called “feminization training.” It can be a transwoman who is looking to transform from male to female.

It can be a variety of things. Take what you can use in this podcast and just simply ignore the rest because we’re going to be concentrating on the term “sissy.”

What is a Sissy? Ms. Olivia: What exactly is the definition of a sissy?

Ms. Erika: I think the easiest definition of a sissy is a submissive male who enjoys dressing in women’s clothing, but how that expands from there is different for each person.

Some like the very frilly, girly look; the petticoats and ribbons and knee socks. Still other males who consider themselves sissies prefer more of a slutty look: the tight dresses, the thigh highs and the big, enormous breasts.

Advice for breast forms Ms. Erika: To go off the track for a moment, I know one little sissy slut who did not consult me before she bought her inserts and spent the next week complaining about how heavy they were. They were DDs, and silicone! They could have been DDDs.

Ms. Olivia: I’m a 34DD, welcome to my world, bitch.

Ms. Erika: And I said, well, that’s what you get for not consulting Mistress, knucklehead. So now you get to wear it for a week straight and I don’t want to hear about your shoulders.

Ms. Erika: She’s going from her male self to DDDs? How about we work up to it with some stretches and exercises. Do they think our breasts are filled with air and weigh nothing?

Difference between a crossdresser and a sissy Ms Erika: Usually the distinguishing characteristic between a sissy and a crossdresser is the submissive nature of the sissy. Sissies often seek guidance and training from a Mistress.

Crossdressers, in my experience, want an understanding, welcoming personally on the other end of the phone that understands them. They’re not necessarily looking for training or guidance. They already have that put together.

Ms. Olivia: Yvonne is one that already had it put together when I first met her. I asked her how old she was and she told me her age and I was looking at her on Skype, how beautiful her skin was. I said to her that she lives in Florida with all the sun! How does she keep her skin so beautiful?

We talked for a long time about her skincare regimen, which is very simple and she has gorgeous skin. So she didn’t need training. We have girl talk.

Conversations with Yvonne and other crossdressers tend to be like the ones between us, Erika. “What kind of bra do you like to wear? What one highlights your boobs the best?” That kind of girl talk. We share stuff, tips, all kinds of things. But there is not the level of a power exchange like there is with sissies.

When you have that power exchange with a sissy, you are not just in training, but you have a Mistress in charge of your sissy transformation. And we know here are difference between ways to define your gender.

Ms. Erika: What’s nice is sissy training is not one size fits all because sissies are not one size fits all. How they play or how we play is different with each girl.

Preparing for this podcast, I was searching for things regarding sissy and almost everything that came up in the searches brought up some sort of bi-curious or homosexual undercurrent. Although that is a common factor, it’s not true for every “sissy” who would identify as a sissy. I love to get to know the people that come to me for training and devise a program specifically for them.

Does every sissy want to be with men? Ms. Olivia: It is quite common that the sissy either likes men or likes to be told to be with a man. Being a sissy can be a fabulous way to experience cock-curious and bi-curious tendencies or even to totally immerse yourself into your feminine self as a heterosexual woman.

I think all people have gradations in their erotic pleasure and sexuality.

I identify as bisexual not on the gradation of “only heterosexual” to “only lesbian,” I would say I am in the middle, but slightly more heterosexual. For example, if I was trapped on a desert island and could have only one gender with me, I think I would take a man. But that is not a guarantee of who I would choose because it would depend on the mood of the day I was asked.

I don’t want to be monogamous and settle on just one male or one female. I’m bisexual and greedy. I don’t want only 50% of the population. I want the whole shebang.

You know, I think for a lot of women who get into sissy play for their partners, it’s a very common question, “Is my sissy boy actually gay.”

Dan Savage did a fabulous Savage Love column called “Is Her Sissy Boy Actually Gay?” What I loved about this article is he understands the nuances about all of this. A sissy might like boys or a sissy might like girls.

Yvonne is certainly one of those, although she is a crossdresser and not a sissy, she is lesbian and is serving a Mistress.

Ms. Erika: I know a trans girl and you probably know her, too, Olivia. I have not talked to her about sharing her name, so no names are mentioned. Discretion is very important to us. So if I did not get your permission to reference you, I won’t.

But this trans girl we know is at a stage of her exploration where she’s struggling with her identity as a woman. “Sometimes I feel like a sissy,” when she’s feeling particularly submissive and wants direction from Mistress. She thinks, “I don’t want to be with a man, but I want to have the experience of a woman as far as lovemaking is concerned.”

Gender identity and sexuality Ms. Erika: That is a common conversation we’re having nowadays. And it’s so important for people to understand that however you identify as your gender does not speak directly to your sexuality. Sometimes males enjoy sissy play because it gives them permission to be with men. But that’s not always the case. You don’t have to want to be with a man in order to be sissy-like or if you are serving Mistress.

Ms. Olivia: There’s gender play, and then there’s submission and dominance. Then there is BDSM, which is more of a kink and the sissy is tied up and often coerced into doing certain things.

Then there are all of these other layers that can be mixed and matched. Think of feminization and sexual pleasure as an erotic buffet. You don’t want to go to the buffet and only eat the garbanzo beans from the salad bar. You want the entire salad! Especially if you don’t like garbanzo beans.

Ms. Erika: I’ve talked in a previous podcast about how, when I go to a restaurant, I don’t order the same dinner because that is the one I liked before. I like variety.

Having someone who is able to be my submissive sissy girl or sissy boy or my sissy maid is fantastic because next time we may play in a different way. We might have a little more coercion, or a little less. We might just have girl talk.I like a variety. I think a lot of people like variety.

Humiliation Ms. Olivia: Part of that variety is when Mistress enjoys humiliating a sissy. Humiliation is not one size fits all.

When someone comes and says, “I want you to humiliate me,” I always ask, what do you consider humiliation? Because it might be a gentle, sweet humiliation. “Oh, honey, you look so pretty in that dress.” It can be petticoat discipline humiliation. “You naughty boy, you’re going to have to wear girls’ clothes,” and have them do certain tasks and jobs.

The variety of humiliation scenes is often a big part of sissy play, don’t you think?

Ms. Erika: Oh, yes. It is to emasculate, although everybody has their own tolerance for humiliation. I find the tolerance increases over time; the more you play with humiliation, the more you need in order to get the same result.

Each sissy humiliation task, each act that Mistress commands of you, is specifically meant to strip you, ounce by ounce, of that masculinity and transform you from your former male self to what we have now.

I also wanted to mention corset torment. They love to feel that tight corset around them. They have to breathe differently, hold themselves differently and cannot forget for one second what they are wearing.

Ms. Olivia: I think what you were talking about in terms of stripping the last vestiges of any sense of male self that is part and parcel of a sissification program. Submission can be to a dominant woman, and then maybe even presented to a dominant master. Domination can take place over a variety of ways of play.

Sissy cuckold husband Ms. Olivia: One of the scenes I love most is turning your husband into a cuckold, for whatever reason. Then turn the cuckold husband into the submissive for your lover. So he becomes the sissy cuckold husband.

Ms. Erika: And that falls right into that progression of humiliation. A cuckold getting those behaviors set in there, being submissive, being dominated. Then you don’t have a choice. “You’re going to be wearing your girly clothes and you’re going to be a little sissy now.” That just ramps up the humiliation and makes it very exciting.

Ms. Olivia: Emasculation, not only through feminization, with or without chastity, but the realization that you are no longer your wife’s lover. There are so many ways to be a cuckold. Maybe you are just pussy-free for life.

You’re “what-used-to-be-called-a-penis” is now completely out of the picture. Duties have changed. Maybe if she engages with you in any sense in the bedroom, that has dramatically changed, too.

Ms. Erika: Traditionally, conventionally, women are made to be penetrated and men are made to penetrate.

A dominating part of that sissy play, whether or not it includes a dominant male in this situation, is strapon play. I recently did a blog on Five Reasons Why Sissy Needs Strapon Play over at Sissyville. It is much more emasculating than even dressing you up or giving you tasks as a sissy.

Then, finally, you are the one taking my phallus deep inside. I just got chills!.

Ms. Olivia: Let me also point out that strapon play can also be an incredibly intimate, sweet, sensual bonding kind of gender play. It doesn’t have to be humiliating. But when you have a sissy slut or a who’s a submissive sissy, that strapon play is fun.

Ms. Erika: Come on, ride the pony.

Sissy Maids & Sissy Housewives Ms. Olivia: So let’s talk about a couple of other kinds of sissy themes, overarching sissy themes. Since we’re talking about sissy being very submissive and being trained, I think that goes part and parcel with the sissy maid training.

Ms. Erika: A sissy maid and sissy housewife are very closely related. It’s fantastic to dress up your sissy as the housewife or the maid and have her be given a honey-do list. Often, it could be very strict or very lenient depending on the play.

Ms. Olivia: I think of those two as different. The sissy maid training is more subservient, more submissive.

The sissy housewife can almost be on equal footing with the wife. When I think of sissy housewife play, I think of the traditional 1950s housewife. She is expected to always be beautiful, always put together, her makeup perfect. She does the vacuuming in high heels. She sleeps in curlers or pin curls. Then when I get home from work, my drink is ready. She is there with whatever I need or want.

Whereas with a sissy maid, I think of the serving girls, for example, at a play party. She’s dressed in that frilly sissy outfit. She might be used and abused by people at the party, by my Mistress friends, or even my male dominant friends and always wearing crotchless panties.

Ms. Erika: More objectification included. I like that distinction. I’m glad you brought that up.

Ms. Olivia: Plus you know, me, I love that 1940s, 1950s style. I love the fabrics. I love retro styles. I really think in another life I’m going to be reincarnated as Dita Von Teese.

Ms. Erika: I like the imagery. I like the idea. I like the sensuality.I like the eroticism. Have you ever seen The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel? The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel?

Ms. Olivia: Oh, the outfits.

Ms. Erika: The actual mindset, I would not be very good at.

Ms. Olivia: I don’t want it for me, but to be on the receiving end, having a 1950s housewife. I mean, no wonder men liked it.

Ms. Erika: “How to Be a Good Wife (1950s Style)” from the 1950s playbook, we’re going to include that link. For those who are thinking of being a sissy housewife or playing in that way, it is a really good guide. Memorize it.

Ms. Olivia: You know what? That’s going to be an assignment for your Yvonne. I’m going to send her the link to that playbook because she is very much my 1950s housewife. Now I’ve told her that she’s going to be in charge of the house, but I don’t want her ruining her hands by scrubbing things.

I actually play in the kink world, the fetish world. And I have had a sissy maid before. They suck as an actual maid.

Ms. Erika: They want all the fun and none of the work.

Ms. Olivia: And they’re so distracted. It is really hard to actually clean the floor if you are wearing six-inch, ankle strapped, locked, pink, platform high heels and a pink latex sissy maid dress. It’s just really hard.

So here’s what I do. I have an actual maid service. So these are actual people that come in and do the cleaning. And then the sissy maid is for playtime. I’ll say things like, “Okay, crawl around on the floor with your little crinolines under your sissy maid dress.” And if it’s humiliation play, I might put her in backless panties and then stick a feather duster in her ass.

Isn’t that wicked? Now, you don’t want to do that if you actually want your floor cleaned

Ms. Erika: Now dust everything with your ass, slut.

Ms. Olivia: Let me be very, very clear. I would not do that with Yvonne. I told her she will not be doing the actual cleaning, but I expect her to run the household.

Ms. Erika: That is fantastic. Just like The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.

Sissy Slut Ms. Olivia: We’ve talked about some of the different styles. You mentioned sissy slut. Oh my God. Isn’t a sissy slut absolutely the best?

Ms. Erika: You can just throw things at them and they love it. They absolutely love it. The sluttier the better. It’s amazing to me, sometimes. I love it.

Ms. Olivia: We’ve got a couple of sissy sluts that call us and we’ve seen the smudged lipstick right after either sucking a dildo or sucking a cock. And even the smudged eye makeup from tearing up after gagging. All that black mascara running down their faces.

Petticoat Sissies Ms. Olivia: You mentioned the mascara running down. That’s also a fabulous part of petticoat discipline.

Petticoat discipline is turning a man into a woman. It’s coercive. It’s disciplined. It’s saying various ways of, “You have to stay a girl for X amount of time. Once we turn you into your femme self, you will not be able to go back to your male self.”

Ms. Erika: No escape. No turning back.

Ms. Olivia: “You will have to stay this way.” The poor sissy is all dressed up and made up, looking almost perfect, looks at you and says, “No, Mistress. What do you mean? I have to stay this way forever?”

Ms. Erika: It’s also very hard to get to the naughty bits when you’re wearing all those petticoats.

Ms. Olivia: Petticoat sissy chastity.

Petticoat discipline is fascinating. I think it started in England, but was very popular during the Victorian Era.

Petticoat discipline has been employed all these years as well. “This is what happens to naughty boys. Naughty boys are turned into girls.” So if they display rowdy boy behavior, then he is dressed by their Governess and put into petticoats.

Ms. Erika: I see the image of the governess and those tight button down shirts and pencil skirts and the classic pumps. She has that stern look in her eyes, her arms folded and a scowl on her face saying, “You’re naughty and this is for your own good.”

One of the favorite scenes I like to do is when boys are being naughty and teasing girls. “Oh, you think it’s fun being a girl. You think it’s fun to chase girls? Well, this is what you’re going to get.” And all of a sudden, once they’re dressed, they understand the challenges that we girls have to go through to look as beautiful as we do, so they are going to stay that way forever.

Ms. Olivia: Once they are in their place as a sissy who’s been disciplined with petticoat training, they are ripe for the next level of sissy training tasks.

Sissy Training Tasks Ms.Olivia: I was talking to Christina Gizelle and she asked:

“Well, what would you have me do? Would you make me go into a salon and get a manicure and pedicure?”

I said, “Well, yes. I would send you into a salon, but I don’t want you to take off your nylon stockings.” She asked, “How would I do that? I would have to take them off for a pedicure.” There are nylon stockings that have a stirrup instead of covering the whole foot so you can wear them with sandals. It leaves your toes free. Send a sissy into a salon with stirrup stockings and she has to leave them on for the pedicure.

Ms. Erika: There’s no guessing about who the person is in front of you, no question who is sitting in that chair. The pedicurist knows exactly who you are, darling.

Ms. Olivia: She knows you’re a sissy!

Let’s talk about some specifics. Sissy training tasks. For sure, shopping. That’s the number one thing, right?

Ms. Erika: Absolutely. Shopping. Not only just going into a store and looking at things and considering them, but asking for help from the clerks. Now that may be advanced for the first time shopper. But, that’s where we’re going to go. “You want to be a sissy? You want to be feminized? I want you feminized. You will be doing this.” Asking for help is fantastic.

Public humiliation Ms. Olivia: Let me throw in a caveat. If somebody is interested in humiliation and erotic humiliation, I actually don’t send them into a store and try and get a vanilla store clerk to laugh at them and humiliate them while they get hard in their panties.

I am adamant about safe, sane, and consensual. I don’t want someone under my thumb or my guidance to force their kink onto someone who is not there for kink.

Ms. Erika: 100%. Olivia, I didn’t mean to insinuate otherwise. What I’m envisioning is something we’ve all done.

Professional makeup for feminized men Ms. Erika: There are specific stores like Victoria’s Secret that help crossdressers all the time. They’re very familiar with guys going in and asking for bra fittings. Also stores like Sephora or Ulta and Mac Cosmetics are all familiar with males who want to be feminized.

Ms. Olivia: Make sure to say Mac Cosmetics; not Apple computers. I had a guy I sent on assignment to Mac and ask what colors looked best on him. He went to the Mac Computer store and asked “What colors would look good on me?” and left with a pink cover for his iPhone.

That’s one interpretation. That’s not the one that I meant.

Ms. Erika: I don’t mean to bring these people into your kink. You’re not doing anything other than saying, “These are my measurements. What size do you recommend for me?” Just like any other girl talk.

Shopping for women’s clothes Ms Erika: I have a Canadian girly girl, miss peg, who has gone into a woman’s clothing store and bought gifts for their significant others and actually created a friendship with a couple of the clerks. Peg finally said, “I really like that dress. What size should I get?” and once she said that, just as girls do when they talk to each other, the salespeople knew. They were enthralled and so happy to help.

I’m not suggesting that anybody go into a store and yell, “Hey, I’m a sissy! Come humiliate me!” No, these are things and activities that women do all the time, going and asking for sizing help. Women also ask about the sales or getting color suggestions.” Just asking those questions can impact you greatly, but leaves that other person in their whole self as being a clerk in that store.

Ms. Olivia: You bring up a great point. As long as you are not skeevy and pervy in an uncomfortable way, the clerk will help you. Sometimes the clerk will play along. If it feels fun, then they’re into it. If it feels sexual, then they’re not.

I also have to tell you, Yvonne told me this. She was in a department store and she wore high heels. Now, Erika, you and I both know you don’t wear high heels to a department store because you’re walking on marble floors. It hurts. So she was limping along because her feet were hurting and a clerk just looked over at her and said, “Yeah,” pointing to Yvonne’s feet and said, “You’ll learn.”

Ms. Erika: Always be respectful to those people when you’re out and about. Pretend these ladies are your Mistress. You wouldn’t force something on your Mistress. You’d always be respectful to your Mistress. You would always ask your Mistress for permission, “Mistress, may I talk about strap-on play?” Not that you’re going to say this to the clerk, but say, “If you’re comfortable, could you help me pick out a signature color?” If the response is anything other than “Absolutely darling, let’s go take a look,” then maybe they’re not comfortable with it at all. And you have to respect that and move on. They’re not part of your kink. They’re just helping you become more feminine.

Feminizing power of color Ms. Olivia: I love that idea of asking for help for a signature color.

You and I were talking about how we wanted to design a wheel to help a sissy decide on tasks to work on or complete. That brings an element of chance into it.

One of the things you came up with, which was amazing, was go pick out a new signature lip color. I just loved that idea.

I have signature colors. I talk about my signature toe colors all the time. Christmas Red and Malaga Wine from OPI.

Why shouldn’t a sissy have a signature color or several signature colors? You mentioned pink and lavender as two ideas.

Ms. Erika: Your signature color can be just something that you really love. But on the other hand, one of the tasks that we can put on the wheel is to find out what colors go best with your skin tone. Are you warm? Are you cool? And that will help direct you to your signature color as well.

Again, the people at the Mac or Sephora cosmetic stores can help you figure out what your coloring is and what looks best on you.

Ms. Olivia: I also love bringing a sissy to various places online and say, “Let’s go virtual shopping.”

A virtual shopping trip can be so exciting as we go through different stores, looking at this or that style and asking, “What do you think about this? What do you think about that?” Then it goes right into complete girl talk.

If I called you and I said, “Erika, what do you think about this dress?” and it’s not obvious where I’m going, your first question is “Where are you going to wear the dress?” Right? So that’s the first question for the sissy.

If a sissy wanted to buy shorts, I might ask, “Where are you going to wear the shorts? What kind of reaction do you want? Do you want men to look at your pretty little bottom? Oh, aren’t you a naughty girl. I think you should get the shiny, hot pink, skin tight, booty shorts so that you could twerk your pretty little bottom.”

Ms. Erika: You brought up a good point. Where are you going to wear it? Because certainly we wouldn’t suggest they wear those pink booty shorts if they were going to a family gathering, a church social, or some place like that.

If sissies need help deciding what to wear to those events, we are here to help direct them.

The sissy slut Ms. Erika: You know, Olivia, our sissy sluts, they get out of their minds and they do some really silly things that they shouldn’t do sometimes. Reason number 407 why you need Mistress because we will help keep you safe, sane, and consensual for wherever you are going.

If you’re going to a fetish play party, let’s go, let’s dress you up and go for it.

But if you need something a little bit more subtle, maybe a pair of straight-leg jeans or pedal pushers with a little t-shirt would be more appropriate to go into the park.

Ms. Olivia: There was a news story a while ago about a man in bra and panties who flew somewhere and because it was not in the rule book, apparently, he got to stay on the plane, but a couple of days earlier, a man was asked to leave the plane for wearing pajama pants that kept falling down. It became this huge, huge, huge thing. We do not suggest you wear a bra and panty set on an airplane ever, however.

You can wear a bra and panties set underneath your clothes. That’s fine.

feminization training while traveling Ms. Olivia: That brings up something else. Sissy training while he’s traveling. This is a popular topic.

For the guy who is a businessman in panties, travel is the perfect opportunity to explore your feminine side or your sissy side. You can pack your feminine things.

If you travel to a city often, you can get a post office box. Get a storage locker. Have your sexy items sent to the post office box. You can get them when you arrive in the city, go back to the hotel room, play to your heart’s content with Mistress and then pack them back into the storage locker and then go back to your regular life.

It’s like what you say about feminization and sissy play being an erotic vacation.

Hiding your crossdresser clothes Ms. Erika: May I add another option? In the US, there is something called “General Delivery” with the United States Postal Service.

When you are buying or shipping something to your destination, you would put your name on the shipping label, underneath write “General Delivery,” then the city, state and zip code and the box will stay at that post office until you come to pick it up.

If you are in another country, you might want to see if something like that is available to you, too.

A second thing you can do also is ship your box to a local UPS store where you’re going, addressing the box with: “ship to a UPS Access Point” and it will stay there until you pick it up.

Always double check with the post office or UPS store. This has worked for many people that I know of, but I’m not an expert. So, call the post office and ask about General Delivery to that area.

You can say something like, “I’m sending something to my sister in Nebraska and I don’t want it to go to her house because it’s a present. May I send it to the post office and pick it up when I get there?”

You do have to use your name because, in order to claim the box, you will have to show identification. But the good thing is, nobody knows what’s inside.

Ms. Olivia: Even if you are picking up something from Victoria’s Secret, you can say, “I’m here to pick up a package.” People don’t care. They’re not going to be looking at the box and say, “Oh, are these panties for you? Did you get panties?” People have busy lives.

Ms. Erika: They have better things to think about than what’s in your box. Except when they come to us. Everybody’s wondering what’s in our boxes, Olivia.

Ms. Olivia: It’s true. I love that we both went there.

Sissy Lips Ms. Olivia: Speaking of makeup and being very discreet, I have a suggestion for any sissy: go to the Burt’s Bees section in the drugstore or the grocery store and get a flavored chapstick. You can put it on and every time you lick your lips, you taste that vanilla and it can get you grounded again in your femme self or your sissy self and it’s completely discreet.

Then when you want to go a little bit further, a perfect sissy task is go back to the same place and get a Burt’s Bees lip shimmer. It’s very sheer and it’s like a light lip gloss, but you’re still not buying lipstick, right?

We’ve got a whole podcast episode: “Crossdresser Makeup for Feminization and Sissy Looks,” and there are all kinds of suggestions and tips that help you with your sissy tasks.

Ms. Erika: I was going to suggest sissies can look for lip plumpers. You can get a matte gloss. When you put it on, it tingles so you’re reminded, for quite some time, that you’re being very feminine and nobody else needs to know.

It doesn’t make your lips go from Kim Kardashian 10 years ago compared to Kim Kardashian now. It’s not that dramatic of a difference. But it does plump your lips a little bit and it makes you feel very sexy and very naughty.

Ms. Olivia: That’s a great idea, especially if you’re a sissy that is either bi-curious or knows that she is a sissy slut or a cock slut, having your lips tingle can create that, “Oh, my lips want some cock. I want cock,” feeling. Then if you can bring dildo with you and we don’t recommend this during the board meeting, but at other times, you can just get dildo out and suck on it.

That could be a fabulous sissy training thing. We’ve got to put that on the sissy training wheel.

Ms. Erika: Even if you’re not bi-curious… yet…,because sucking a dildo does happen when serving Mistress and her strapon. That’s very important.

Ms. Olivia: It doesn’t have to be a male cock, it can be a Mistress cock.

Sissy training assignment Ms. Olivia: We have a sissy training task for you right now.

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Contact Mistress for feminization and sissy school classes You can also email us, and follow our blogs, and follow us on Twitter.

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Ms. Olivia: A reminder. folks can email and Skype us with questions. Email is best for me for questions because I generally use Skype for texting sessions and Skype sessions. Send me an email and I will send you Skype information.

Ms. Erika: I will do the same.

Questions for femme girls and sissy girls Ms. Olivia: Questions for all of these girly girls and sissies.

I’m always curious about the sissy name or femme name. Do you have a sissy or femme name? If you do, what is it? And tell us the story of your name.

Ms. Erika: It’s so fascinating to find out the origins of the names.

My question is, when it comes to feminization and emasculation, and they don’t always go together, of course, but what words do it for you? What are those trigger words? Being a sissy maid? A cuckold? A sissy husband? Everyone’s different. I want to know what terms get to you and get that feminine energy flowing.

Ms. Olivia: I will follow up on that. Your final question, sissies, is what item of clothing gets you into the sissy mindset? You can only pick one. Just one. Stockings? Panties? Bras? When you put that item on, you’re there.

Ms. Olivia: Thank you so much for joining us for The Weekly Hotspot. We want you to stay pretty, stay sexy, answer the questions, obey Mistress, all of these things and we will see you next week. Erika, always a pleasure to be with you.

Ms. Erika: Oh, you’re so much fun, Olivia. Thank you. And bye everyone.

Ms. Olivia: Bye.

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This week your hosts talk about how to choose a great Femdom Mistress. Mistress Erika did a twitter poll asking kinky men what they want in a Domme. The results surprised Mistress Olivia, who prides herself on being the Experienced Mistress. Miss Ruby has a funny story about a guy that ended up being shocked, shocked by her accent. Sexy, funny, informative and more – including a shout out to the WTF podcast!

Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot: kink conversation, advice, insight from the worlds of distance domination and phone sex. We are your hosts, Mistress Olivia, Ms. Erika, and we are joined today by the lovely, naughty, and talented Ms. Ruby.

What is a Femdom Mistress? Ms. Olivia: Quick definition, before we start ladies, how do you define a Femdom Mistress?

Ms. Erika: Controlling cocks and slapping asses. Woo hoo!

Ms. Olivia: That’s perfect and true. Ms. Ruby?

Ms. Ruby: One of my friends asked me this exact question and I said, it’s like being a therapist with sexy benefits. You’re doing everything a therapist would do, you’re listening to people, but you’re also giving them the sexy, naughty stuff that therapists don’t do.

Ms. Olivia: So, instead of a massage with a happy ending, it would be therapy with a happy ending. With some orgasm control. If you’re in chastity, there’s no happy ending. It will be a happily UNhappy-ending.

How would I define it? I think She Who Must Be Obeyed. I’ve looked up the origin of that phrase and a minimalist sculpture, 33 feet wide, 16 feet deep, made by Tony Smith in 1975 is named She Who Must Be Obeyed. It is astoundingly ugly.

Then I looked up the origin of “She Who Must Be Obeyed,” and it’s from Rumpole of the Bailey, which I haven’t seen. Horace Rumpole says to his wife, “Come into my Universe, She Who Must Be Obeyed.

I will forever be known as “Mistress of the Blue Horizon.”

“It’s coming, oh Master of the Blue Horizon!.” I’m already the Mistress of the Universe, so fuck it. Now I’m going for something creative: Blue Horizon. By the way, that minimalist sculpture, She Who Must Be Obeyed was also blue. So I do think that blue is apparently the color.

Meet Mistress Ruby Ms. Olivia: So Ruby, we are thrilled you’re here. I’m sure that people will notice that your accent is not American. First of all, before we do the big reveal, you obviously haven’t been called German. I would imagine people say, “Oh, are you from…?”, and then fill in one of several countries Where do people guess you’re from?

Ms. Ruby: Oh God, I’ve had everything from Scotland to, well usually people will say I’m from England. Actually, I’m from Wales. For some reason, not many people know where that is. It’s near England, but I don’t live near the Queen. I don’t live near Buckingham Palace like some of the guys think.

You’d swear I live next door to the Queen and just down the road from me, in my backyard, there’s the River Thames. I sit out on my balcony drinking tea.

Not Scottish, English, and I’ve even been asked if I had a South African accent, which I don’t see the connection there to be honest with you. I’ve even had “Oh, you are Australian?” And I say, “No.”

Ms. Olivia: If you were Australian, do you know what your name would be? It would be Sheila.

All Laughing

Ms. Olivia: We do the taping on Sunday morning, East Coast time because Erika and I are both East Coast U.S. time. So what time is it there at the moment?

Ms. Ruby: At the moment, it’s 10 past three in the afternoon.

Ms. Olivia: So you’re getting ready to go out. You’re probably in sexy stockings, short mini skirt?

I’m going to take us on a tangent. What do you podcast in? I know I’m putting you on the spot. I don’t care. I’ll start while you’re thinking.

I’m in yoga pants, no bra and a t-shirt. And socks. Oh, of course guys, I’m wearing socks. It’s upstate New York and it’s kind of cold. So I’ve got fuzzy socks on.

Ms. Erika: I’m wearing a little dress, a little summer dress. It’s a cotton dress with a v-neck and it has pockets in it. I love pockets in dresses. Nothing on underneath because it’s Sunday and it’s a nice casual day.

Like you, Miss Olivia, I have my fuzzy slippers on because I have tile floor and I can’t walk around barefoot.I have to put something on my pretty tootsies for later. They’re nice and pretty. They have little lambs on them. It was just Easter, so I put on my Easter slippers.

Ms. Ruby: I like to go a little bit casual, like you ladies, on a Sunday. I’m wearing a long shirt that actually belongs to my boyfriend. I love his clothes more than my own, actually. So he usually has to fight me for them. He asks, “Where the hell is my t-shirt?” I say,, “Oh, um, it’s uh, in the washing machine,” but actually it’s under the bed with my things. Underneath, I am wearing a little white lace thong and I have socks on too, because it’s bloody cold in the UK.

Ms. Olivia: I have to point out something. Both of you have your pussies open and accessible. I’m the only one wearing pants. I think at some point we’re going to pause this podcast and I’m going to take my yoga pants off.

Subscribe to on Apple podcasts Ms. Olivia: So now that we’re getting people all worked up with what we’re wearing, we have an assignment for you.

Go to Apple podcast, subscribe to The Weekly Hot Spot sexuality podcast. Like it, and leave a Review on iTunes.

Ladies, neither of you know this, but we have charted on the podcast charts.

I just got an email and I don’t know if was the scam “You are so great in your profession, you really need to be in our encyclopedia. Send us $600 and we’ll put you in our encyclopedia.” I can’t tell if it’s real,. but I’ve got to tell you that just made me feel like a million damn dollars.

I claim no credit. Delia’s the one who started The Weekly Hot Spot. I’m not even going to say how long ago, but a while ago. She was the one that started it. We absolutely love Delia. At some point she’ll pop back in, we’ll do some podcasts with her, and then she’ll pop back out.

Choosing a Femdom Mistress Ms. Olivia: But for this one, we’re talking about how to choose the perfect, absolutely awesome Femdom Mistress for you.

I don’t really know how to do Twitter polls, but Erika is fabulous about Twitter polls. We’re going to do Erika’s Twitter poll on that subject in just a second.

This episode was inspired by Lexi. She was in a conversation… Ruby, you were on the call with Lexi, when she said, “You need to do a podcast on what to look for in a Mistress.” And we both asked Lexi, “What do you look for in a Mistress?”

Here’s Lexi’s choices:

1. Intelligence
2. Sense of humor
3. Creativity
4. Truthful
5. Neutral perspective
6. Aftercare, a lost art in today’s world.

Don’t you both love Lexi?

Ms. Erika: She is fantastic. She is not only so advanced in her journey, but she’s such a generous soul. I just enjoy talking with her.

Ms. Ruby: She really sums up how I feel about Femdom as a whole.

If you’re listening to this, Lexi, I just want to thank you for all your feedback. I know it means so much to all of us at LDW, so thank you very much.

Ms. Olivia: For all of the people who said, “Mistress Olivia, you’re blogging again! Thank you. Where have you been?” You need to send a personal thank you, kudos, and flowers to Lexi because Lexi got on a call with me and said,”All right, you are not blogging. You are fucking up.”

I can’t argue with her. She’s right! I’ll argue with her when she’s wrong. We get into some baseball arguments, but she wasn’t wrong.

Ms. Ruby: That’s what I love about her. She cares so much that she will take the time to analyze everything and give you feedback and tell you, “You’re fucking up,” or, “You’re doing a great job.” And I love hearing that from people and from clients. It’s amazing.

Mistress Erika’s Poll Results Ms. Olivia: Let’s talk about a Femdom Mistress and kink terms, BDSM terms. I like the use of labels because it’s a handy place to start, but it’s important to remember that people are unique. It’s a variety.

There are different kinds of Dominants and submissives. Vive la différence!

Erika, talk us through your poll. Were you surprised by any of the results?

Ms. Erika: I was and I wasn’t.

We put that up on a Twitter poll, which are anonymous, so I don’t know who the voters are. If people think you know who they are, they’re more inhibited. That’s why I love them on Twitter because they’re anonymous, unless you choose to put a comment, I don’t know how you voted.

The Twitter poll shows that 13%, just a little over 13% of people think Experience is at the top of their list of most important attributes of a Mistress.

Ms. Olivia: That absolutely bites. My blog is Experienced Mistress. I lobbied for a SkankyAssSexyPictures.com and the Headmistress of LDW, Ally, said no.

So experience is 13%.

Ms. Erika: I think what’s really telling is the number one important attribute people look for in a Mistress is the Mistress Takes the Time to Get to Know You. That tells me that human connection is most important. I just got chill bumps. It is so freaking true.

Ms. Olivia: That was 53.3%, over half, more than all three of the other choices. Go through the last two choices and then we’re going to stop.We’re going to talk about each one individually, in order since “Experience” is not interesting, that will be first.

Ms. Erika: A lot of people put comments on there saying they’re all important. It’s like picking your favorite flavor of ice cream. You like them all. They’re all important to you. They’re all delicious. But if you only had to choose one.

The other two options, because Twitter only leaves you four options, is Creativity. 20% of people thought that was most important. Being Fun and having a Sense of Humor equaled Experience at a little over 13%.

Ms. Olivia: You can tell from my joking attitude, I’m fun. And I have a sense of humor and I have lots of experience. So don’t bother to call me. I will not make you happy. You will think, “Oh, it was only an experienced, silly call. Fuck this noise.”

Insight into the mind of Mistress Ms. Olivia: Since I am fun, we’re going to take just a short little detour here. What is your favorite kind of ice cream? Erika, I’m going to start with you. You’re in Florida. It’s hot. What’s your favorite kind of ice cream?

Ms. Erika: Chocolate! My favorite. Anything sweet is chocolate first, jelly beans second, and Peeps, third.

Ms. Olivia: Do you even know what Peeps are, Ruby?

Ms. Ruby: No, I don’t. It must be an American thing.

Mistress Erika loves peeps Ms. Erika: It’s this horrible, wicked marshmallow, shaped into a bunny or a chick and covered with 3000 pounds of sugar. That’s why I can’t keep it in the house because I will eat them.

Ms. Olivia: Ruby, this is a uniquely American candy. So is cotton candy. What is the Welsh equivalent of these horrible things that Americans eat?

Ms. Ruby: I don’t think we have an equivalent. I think you guys have set a new standard. I can’t tell if it’s a bunny. Can’t tell if it’s a chicken marshmallow coated sugar thing.

Ms. Olivia: We’re number one!

Ms. Erika: …of crappy foods to put in your mouth. Horrible. I realize it’s horrible, but I love it.

Ms. Olivia: Ruby, what is your favorite flavor?

Ms. Ruby: Well, I love mint choc chip. I just love it, especially when it’s melting as well. It’s almost like half ice cream, half milkshake.

Ms. Olivia: The flavor I love right now is coconut. I got a shaved ice machine summer before last. I like Italian ices made with fresh lemons. Both of you are welcome to come and have some.

Back on the Kink and BDSM Highway Ms. Olivia: Okay, back to the Twitter poll: Experience, Gets to know you, Creativity and Fun sense of humor.

So my blog is ExperiencedMistress.com. Only 13% of responses said that’s the most important thing. I’m going to change my blog GetsToKnowYou.com. You think I’m kidding, I might do that. Let’s ask Lexi what she thinks about the branding of Experienced Mistress versus Getting to Know You Mistress.

Experience is, I think, important in the sense of fetish and BDsm experience, kink experience and even phone sex experience.

Ms. Ruby: I agree, experience is important and it’s great to have it.

I will say that I agree with the ranking and the order they were voted for, because I wasn’t overly experienced when I got into this industry, but I do like to think outside the box.

It’s helped me massively when it’s come to making lasting impressions on callers. It’s about the subtle details that add up to that nice explosive finish.

Mistress Ruby: singer and musician Ms. Olivia: You’ve got your irons in a bunch of different fires, Ruby. How much do you want to say about what else you do?

Ms. Ruby: I’m a musician as well, on top of my kink stuff. I compose, write music and am a session musician as well, which is quite nice. It’s not too busy at the moment though, because I’ve locked down. I’m massively into fitness, yoga, and running.

Ms. Erika: Ms. Ruby. I think you left out one thing. You’re being a little modest. You have a fabulous singing voice as well.

You said you’re a musician, people are thinking of a cello between your legs, but you have a wonderful singing voice. Color me jelly, because I can’t sing worth anything and I just love your voice. Modest Mistress.

Ms. Ruby: That’s so adorable, Modest Mistress. I’ve been singing since I was really young, so it’s something that I count as part of me. I don’t see it as a thing that I do as a hobby. It’s just part of my life and it’s always been something I’ve loved.

Ms. Olivia: Ruby, I think what Erika is trying to say, and I agree, is we count singing as part of our lives as well. We just can’t do it.

Ms. Erika: I can sing, it just doesn’t sound very good.

Ms. Ruby writes kinky songs! Ms. Olivia: You wrote a song for LDW.

Ms. Ruby: Yes, I did.

Ms. Erika: Do you have it on your blog?

Ms. Ruby: I do. I have a whole page on my blog Cock Domme dedicated to my original kinky music.

Ms. Olivia: This is fabulous! I’m glad we’re getting to know a little bit about Ms. Ruby.

This is part of the second option of the poll – Getting to Know You. The Dominant and submissive in a relationship is in a real relationship and part of being in relationship is getting to know the other person.

Does Mistress care about her submissives? Ms Olivia: Someone sent this to me: “Gets to Know You” is more important than I would’ve thought, because it’s very important for a Mistress to get to know her slave.” This is from a friend of mine. “As a slave, I find that this makes me more comfortable being Owned.”

I think it’s really important for everybody to remember that we are people. Mistresses, Dominants and submissives, kink, fetish, and play, it is all still within a relationship. So the more each person knows about one another, the more intimacy, the more connection.

The scene play might be different; spanking versus flogging versus sounding versus erotic humiliation versus foot worship, etc. I always tell people the scene is just the actions that you’re taking, but outside of the scene, Mistress does not mean bitch.

Ms. Erika: Getting to know the person is important.

It also really helps to have context for what their kink is involved in… for example, erotic humiliation can go from one side of the spectrum to another, but also knowing the person behind the fetish or the kink or the interest when that intimacy and trust is built.

I just had a client say to me yesterday,” I don’t know why these sessions just keep getting better.”

I explained to him that we deal with a very heated subject, humiliation, and the more you trust I will always take care of you, the more you can sit back and relax and enjoy that humiliation and the more you can sink into the scene we’re exploring.

That’s why it makes it much more enjoyable. Our sessions keep getting better because not only do I know him now, I can push those buttons because he trusts that I won’t go somewhere we haven’t discussed.

How to talk to your Mistress Ms. Olivia: I had someone call me recently and he said, “I want you to humiliate me.” And I said,”Okay, let’s just pause for just a second. What kind of humiliation?” And he said, “Oh, anything.”

This is like the phone call that says, “I want you to Dominate me.” “How would you like me to Dominate you? What turns you on?” “Oh, anything you want.” And I’ll say “Okay, my ‘anything’ is long and deep. Your ‘anything’ is short and narrow.’”

I could hear this like a Scooby-Doo head tilt kind of thing going on. And I said, “So do you want to be turned into a sissy and suck cock?” He said, “Oh, no, not that.” I said, “That’s part of ‘anything’.”

So humor me and tell me, because there’s nothing worse than getting into a session and having the Mistress go off somewhere and not have it be sexy.

Ms. Erika: I want my callers to have a good time. Don’t you ladies?

Ms. Olivia: No, I’m experienced and funny. Therefore I don’t want them to have a good time when they call me. (Just kidding.). We did a podcast on How to Communicate with your Mistress.

Ms. Ruby: What you said Miss Olivia, resonates with the whole knowing what buttons to press and how hard or how soft to press them to get that desired reaction. And you can only know that if you know what the person is into.

So saying “I’m into anything,” is the worst thing that you could possibly say to a Mistress, because anything is vast and their “anything” could be “I want some jerk off instructions. I want to go to bed.”

They’ve called me up and said, “Hi, I want to be humiliated.” And then it’s turned into, “Well should we go down this route?” “Oh, no, I just want to stroke my cock and go to sleep.” “So you don’t want to be humiliated?”

Do you feel you have to be kinky or naughty? Ms. Ruby: I think they feel like they have to tell the dispatcher, “I want something really naughty,” when it’s just really “I have a big boner and I’ve got an important meeting at work and I just need a pretty voice on the other end of the phone while I jack off.”

That’s fine. Just be honest. We’re very open. We’re nonjudgmental. We just want to know what you want and how can we best give that to you?

Ms. Olivia: I have one caller who told me, he really kept saying, “Anything you want to do with me. Anything. Anything.” I said, “Okay, Mr. Anything.” I was a little bit naughty and did a whole series of stuff. I was sure, there’s no way. CFNM, sissy play, completely transforming his gender. I did chastity once. And you know what? He means it.

Ms. Erika: That’s a rarity though. “Anything” doesn’t usually mean ‘anything.’

Ms. Ruby: You saw that as a challenge as well, didn’t you? You loved that.

Ms. Olivia: I think about him between calls and think, “Oh, I need to remember this because this is going to be a fabulous scene for him.” And I make a note of it, put it on a post-it note, put it by my computer, send myself an email, because he’s the only person I’ve ever met that actually meant it.

In all fairness, submissives often have a really difficult time saying what they need or want. If anyone needs tips on How to Communicate with the Mistress, we have a Weekly Hotspot episode on that topic.

You can also listen to the episodes on Apple podcasts or click on The Weekly Hotspot on Cock Radio on Spreaker to listen to a previous episode.

Tips on how to communicate with a Mistress are hugely important.

Ms. Erika: Ms. Olivia, if I can mention, both LDW and I, and maybe so many of you guys do too, have a pre-call questionnaire.

Naughty Questions – Pre-call Questionnaire

We have “My Perfect Mistress,” where we prompt you with questions and answers to get to know you as well.

Those are great resources people can utilize, not only The Weekly Hotspot podcast, but the questionnaires on my blog and at MyPerfectMistress.com.

Ms. Olivia: Some of those questions are about kink. Do you like it rough? Do you like it tender? Remember, it’s a relationship. So if you’re a dick in all of your personal relationships and you’re a dick to Mistress, you’re probably not going to be having a relationship, or a good relationship. Don’t be a dick, just bring your dick.

Creativity in Kinky Play Ms. Olivia: Bring your creativity to experience sexual pleasure. Erika, tell us again, how creativity did on the poll.

Ms. Erika: It came in a second.

20% of the respondents thought creativity was most important to them. We have to be creative at times. It’s not only to have a great time with our caller, but also be creative and keep them safe.

If your thing is to run around WaWa in your tiny little g-string, we’re not going to have you do that because there’s a lot of people at Wawa that don’t want to see your stuff, and we’re not going to foist your kink onto them.

So we have to get creative. A lot of times that’s satisfied by a couple things and one of them is a multiple Mistress cam call where we watch you dance or do… whatever… for us.

Ms. Ruby: I love those. I’ve done that with Ms. Delia and it was so much fun to see somebody dressing up on cam.

Ms. Erika: I love the dancers. If you’re a dancer, come dance for me, boy.

Ms. Ruby: Put a smile on our faces.

With the creativity, that is definitely one of the main ingredients in what makes a good Femdom.

Every individual that’s going to call up has different parameters, different limits, different kinks, and different tastes. We have to improvise quite a lot right on the spot. When someone calls and they have something specific they want to discuss, it puts us in the hot seat for a second and we have to be quick on our feet.

That’s where the creative juices get flowing when you know somebody well. It ties into the first point as well; knowing your caller and knowing what they like. Then the creative juices can start flowing and you can really get into it. It makes for a memorable session.

Ms. Olivia: When the creative juices are flowing, the other juices are not far behind.

How do each of you stay creative?

Staying creative during covid Ms Olivia: For me, the challenge has been this last year in lockdown, not going to any in-person fetish play parties.

I went to an event in August last summer, and we’re still in the midst of lockdown in New York state.

This was outside around the pool. We didn’t use any equipment in the home and it ended up a swinger’s naked pool party.

For a lot of people, they would be, whoooo! But being able to watch other people as they play and do their kinks, that’s a huge part of my creativity and I’ve missed it.

So what I’ve been doing is I watch a lot more porn. I used to have live sex to look at at every single play party. Now it’s porn. But that’s okay because I like porn.

Ms. Ruby: Who doesn’t like porn? It’s great. There are so many varieties. You can access it straight away on your computer.

As nice as it is to go to these pool parties, you don’t have to go to see the amazing sort of inspiring scenarios you can utilize on different calls and in different situations.

Ms. Olivia: How do each of you stay creative? What do you do?

Ms. Erika: We get stuck in our own heads sometimes, we like our point of view porn or there’s cock sucking or whatever it is that we gravitate towards.

I find it’s helped me to stay creative and open my eyes and my boundaries by having some of my pets, especially the ones I have a relationship with, do assignments for me.

“Send me the sexiest chastity tease you can find. And if I like it, you might get a ruined orgasm.” So I’m getting input from them.

They might bring me something I’ve never thought of as far as the content. The subject was the same, but the actual activities in the video are different.

I also find when I’m stressed, I’m less creative.

I always try to take some time during the day to decompress. I do coloring and puzzles. That seems to calm my mind and once my mind is calm, then the ideas and the creativity flows.

Ms. Olivia: There’s an adult coloring book. I even found a BDsm coloring book for kinky adults!

Ms. Ruby and Ms. Erika: There is! There is!

Ms. Erika: I think Claire has it. And we’ll have to sit back, look around, ask around.

Ms. Ruby: There are also ones where you can get a coloring book that says FUCK on every page with different kinds of lettering surrounded by different flowers and things.

Ms. Olivia: I’ve got that one! It says FUCK, F-U-C-K, Fuck, fuck. How do you say “Fuck” in Welsh?

Ms. Ruby: I don’t actually speak Welsh, which is shocking, but we had a similar question from Lexi; she said, “How do you say ‘police’ where you’re from?” I’m like ”police.” We say “Fuck.”

Ms. Olivia: That’s exactly why I said it, Ruby, because I knew what you were going to say.

Having a Sense of Humor with sex Ms. Olivia: Surveys always show people are curious about kink. Partly because it’s something new and it’s fun. It is the adult equivalent of play time.

If you think of play, in the traditional sense of play, a great Femdom Mistress should be fun and have a sense of humor, but only 13% of people agree with me. Take my experienced ass right out of here.

Well, if my experienced ass is correct, not just experienced, loving ass because I tried anal and didn’t like it. Maybe that was a Freudian slip

So Erika, 13%?

Ms. Erika: Yes, 13%. Experience and Sense of Humor are the most important attributes, both at 13%. I think everybody today listening to this podcast can tell we’re very much a fun-loving group and out of session, I’m even more easygoing.

Life is too short to be micro-managing anything when you’re having fun. Some people enjoy that micromanagement. Some people enjoy that mean Mistress and I can bring that on as well, but it’s just such an enrichment to my human existence as I spend time in this world, just to have fun.

Very early on, when I first started with LDW, I had a client that didn’t know what ruined orgasms were and they were curious.

I had written about ruined orgasms. We went through the paces and on his first ruined orgasm, he yelled, “Ohhhhh fuckin’ bitch!,” and I fucking laughed for five minutes after.

At first he was scared to death that I was just going to freak out over him for calling me a fucking bitch, but in that context, it was fabulous because I knew without a doubt, the deed was done. I’ve converted him to an Erika addict. He just fuckin’ loves it.

If your emotions get away from you in session, I’m mature and experienced enough not to take it personally.

How does Mistress treat her submissive? Ms. Olivia: You bring up a really good point about in session versus out of session.

If you are a strict mistress or the woman in charge in a Female-Led Relationship, you’re still a human being. You’re still a person and turning the tables on a man is fun. And that’s at the heart of a Female-Led Relationship.

I remember one call with Lexi. She has interacted with me like this: fun, funny, fun-loving. We talk about stuff and we were on this call and she said, “Okay, bring it for pain play.” She was shocked at the level of very strict, very intense pain play. She said, “Oh, Miss Olivia, I had no idea you had that in you.” I said, “Honey, you have no idea of the depth and breadth of my passions.”

Oh, what did I call myself? The Mistress of the Blue Horizon? Lexi, you need to understand that the Mistress of the Blue Horizon sees all. She is She Who Must Be Obeyed and she has many facets. I could also be known as Durga, D-U-R-G-A, many of you will know… she is a really neat Indian Goddess; she’s a little bit scary.

Let’s talk a little bit about relationships between the Dominants and the submissives. We’ve talked about kink relationships and other relationships. You click with some people, you don’t with others.

Ruby, you’ve got some interesting stories about this, I know,.

Aspects of the Femdom Relationship Ms. Ruby: There’s one that really sticks out for me. A guy decided to call me up and try me out. When I answered the phone, I put on my little sultry voice as you do. Not that I put on too much of a voice, but I answered. And he said, “Oh, oh no, I don’t like, I don’t like British, I’m sorry.” And he just hung up on me. I thought, “What? What? How dare you.”

I’m sitting there thinking, as I look at my profiles, “I’ve got to check my website and all my profiles to make sure that there’s plenty for people to see and.” and I’m realizing every single bloody page, there’s a voice clip of some of some sort. I’m sitting there puzzled thinking, “You clicked on my profile. You saw my pictures, The voice samples are right there. Just click play and you can listen to it.”

If you’re listening to this, you really hurt my feelings. No, he didn’t really.

Ms. Olivia: Callers always ask us when they send us an email, “What is your Mistress style?”

Audios are a great way to check that out. Check the voice, check the tone, click on a sensual Mistress, you’ll get the sensual Mistress. Click on the mean Mistress, (harsh voice) “This is Mistress Olivia.” That was for the guy that doesn’t like British.

Ms. Ruby: They’ll be finding you next, Miss Olivia and saying, “Oh no, I don’t like an experienced Mistress.”

Ms. Olivia: “Oh no, I want an amateur!”

Ms. Ruby: And if you combine experienced with British, that guy’s going to get really pissed off.

Ms. Olivia: He’s not going to be able to laugh about it.

So Erika, making a connection.

Making a connection in BDsm and kink Ms. Erika: It’s okay if we don’t click, I have a stable of Erika addicts that enjoy my company, enjoy my sense of humor, enjoy my style of Mistressing which is exploring our human nature and finding those ways we can connect.

There are clients I don’t see eye to eye with on various different subjects like politics or other topics like that. We just agree not to talk about it because where we do connect is so intense and, listen to this, we’re mature and respectful. That is a rarity today to say, “You’re an entity. You’re allowed to feel that way.”

There are plenty of Enchantrix Mistresses. If my voice doesn’t do it for you, that’s fine. I have plenty of people for whom it does. You’re not going to hurt my feelings. Ask the dispatcher. Listen to audio clips. There will be one of us you will click with. It’s fantastic when that happens.

Ms. Olivia: Even if you click with a mistress, there’s a reason why you’re calling us. You like variety! So don’t feel like if you click with one Mistress that you only have to call her.

If you are looking for a Mistress and I know you, I can recommend a fabulous Mistress for you. Play with both of us in a two girl call. I talk up other Mistresses.

Ms. Erika: In many ways, Olivia and Ruby, we are here to help them with their submissiveness. So they come to us with a set of stimuli they know they like. Over time, that grows. The only way to round yourself off as a Mistress or submissive is to play with various people.

I love the idea that some of those who call me also call you, Olivia, or call Ruby. I’m not a jealous person at all. I think, for your best experience… I love sharing my candy. So go ahead.

Ms. Ruby: We don’t want that marshmallow thing though. You can keep your chicken bunny. I don’t want it.

Ms. Erika: I’m sending you a picture of Peeps, Ruby, later.

Ms. Ruby: Please do. Maybe you can stick it up, just hold it in front of a camera and make it dance for me. I need to see someone dance today. I have to.

Mutual Respect in BDsm Ms. Olivia: Speaking of not clicking, Mistresses can and do decline callers. Each of us has the option of putting someone on our Do Not Call list.

I don’t have very many people on my Do Not Call list, but I do have some. This is important. If Mistress needs to talk to you about something and it’s not a fun-fun thing, you need to listen to her because she’s trying to communicate something.

For example, if Mistress says, ”You went too far in that session. This will not happen again. In order for me to be in a relationship with you, I need to be able to trust you as much as you trust me. So don’t do that.” That’s in particular with pain play, which can get dangerous. It’s edge play. I need to be able to trust the submissive.

Trust in BDsm relationships Ms. Erika: Trust is a two way street. Understand too, if somebody brings a certain play to me I’m not comfortable with and I declined playing with you on that, that doesn’t mean I won’t play with you in different areas. The most important thing is I’m not upset with you. I’m not judging you. If you want to do something outside of my comfort zone, I don’t think you’re a jerk. It’s just differences.

If I don’t want to send you to Wawa in your g-string, that doesn’t mean I think you’re some sort of sick pervert and you need to go away and hide in a cave. Not at all. It’s just boundaries. Boundaries are pretty and beautiful and it is all about personal boundaries.

Ms. Olivia: It’s also LDW boundaries. Let me be blunt. Anything that’s going to get you arrested in the real world is outside of our boundaries, so don’t fuckin’ ask. Or you can ask, but respect us when we say “No, you’re not going to Wawa to flash your junk.”

For people who don’t know what WaWa is, like maybe Ruby, it’s a gas station.

Ms. Erika: It’s a convenience store.

Ms. Ruby: Like you guys said, the priority is always going to be giving the client the best session I can give them. If I, for any reason, feel like I’m not the right fit for you, then I’ll always be up front about it.

If I ever need to refuse the session, I’m always going to try and refer a suitable Mistress match. Like you said, Olivia, we do recommend other Mistresses. We’re not jealous. We’re not selfish with our clients. We always share. There’s always going to be someone suitable for you, even if I’m not.

Ms. Olivia: We have mutual respect for our callers. Our callers respect us for that..

Lexi mentioned, “The majority of Mistresses are amazing ladies and respect me as a human being first, then as a sub. As a sub, I feel comfortable that I can be who I am along with some very creative sessions.”

You are not weird if you like kink Ms. Erika: We’re all dynamic human beings. We’re not just one thing.

I just spoke to somebody else and they talked about their interests, they said, “I hope you don’t think I’m weird about this, or this is all I’m about, because it’s really hyper-focused on one subject.” I said, “Absolutely not. This is what you bring to me that you can’t bring to anybody else. I know you are a successful, dynamic man who plays sports and has a career and family. There are many facets to you. This is our connection. This is what you bring to me.”

Ms. Ruby: Regardless of the dynamic between myself and my clients, I always try to maintain a high level of mutual respect.

That applies even when they’re down on their knees worshiping my feet, or even when I’m cracking that whip. There are many mixed views about how Femdoms are supposed to act. Many of these views seem to think respect is only flowing in one direction and this is so completely not true.

Power Exchange Ms. Ruby: When someone’s being truly vulnerable and offering me power on a silver platter, I’ve got the intelligence to know what makes that sub weak without stripping away that essential foundation of mutual respect.

Ms. Olivia: Even if he wants his entire self-respect stripped away, there’s a way to do that in session; mean, degrading, just dehumanizing session that is the psychological equivalent of an extreme spanking or extreme CBT, Cock and Ball Torment.

After the scene,. it’s all about aftercare. The ability to deliver that, plus what’s needed after, is one of the things that makes a really great Femdom Mistress.

There was this quote on my blog when I did a post called, What makes a great Femdom Mistress.

A caller said, “I think, great Dommes also have this quality of understanding how men’s minds work on an intuitive level. I don’t think that’s really the word for it, but I’ve seen Dommes do it so often I think Dominant women might all have super powers. Dommes know what makes men tick even when the men themselves don’t.”

What does a Femdom look for in a submissive Ms. Olivia: What do each of you look for in a submissive? Just quick comments?

Ms. Ruby: For me, it would be someone that is adventurous in nature and with a deep desire to connect with me as a Domme as well as a person.

Ms. Erika: An open mind, allowing other things into our play, when you trust me and have a willing spirit, we can go a long way with that.

Ms. Olivia: We should do a whole podcast on this. We should do a whole episode on this.

Ruby, do you want to come back? We’re kind of nice. We’re fun. Right?

Ms. Ruby: Yes! You are.

Ms. Olivia: We’ll have you back. We’ll have a whole episode on What Does a Mistress look for in a submissive?

Because we know that all of the listeners do have a willing spirit, go to Apple Podcast, subscribe to The Weekly, Hotspot, like it, and leave a review.

Stay in touch with our blogs, Twitter, and email. My blog is Get2KnowYouLovelyMistress.com. That’s not my blog. My blog for the 13% of you that find this important is ExperiencedMistress.com.

Ms. Olivia: olivia@enchantrixempire.com / @MistressOlivia1 on twitter.

Ms. Ruby: My blog is: Cock Domme.

My Twitter is @EnchantrixRuby & email is: ruby@enchantrixempire.com

Ms. Erika: My blog is Intelligent Phone Fantasy.

You can find me on Twitter @Enchantrix Erika & my email is erika@enchantrixempire.com

Ms. Olivia: We’ve come to the end of the podcast. Thank you, both of you, for being here. This was tons of fun. What questions do you have for our listeners?

Mistress has a question for you Ms. Olivia: How do YOU choose your Mistress?

Ms. Ruby: What is the one personality trait you look for in a Mistress?

Ms. Olivia: And don’t say British. She’s not British. Wanker!

Ms. Erika: What is one thing you want Mistress to know about you? It could be kink related. It could be personal related. Whatever it is, what is it that you desire for me to know?

Ms. Olivia: Thank you to everyone for listening. Remember to answer the questions. You can always leave a comment here on our blog or via email or on twitter.

Hey, you can even do a call +1 800-356-6169. If you are very brave, ask for all 3 of us together.

For now, thanks for joining us. We’ll see you next time. Bye.

Ms. Ruby: Wanker!

Ms. Olivia: That’s like Mark Maron’s What the Fuck podcast. WTF podcast by Mark Maron, the comedian.

He always ends the podcast with “Boomer lives!” That’s his feral cat he adopted and brought inside that escaped. He hasn’t seen the cat since, so he always ends his podcast with “Boomer lives!”

So, here’s a shout out to Mark Maron, WTF and, of course, Boomer.

Boomer Lives!

Wanker!

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What is body worship? Why women like Mistress Olivia, Ms Erika and Ms Ruby love body worship. Hear what these Femdom Mistress Goddess ladies do NOT want you to do when you do pussy worship or ass worship. Tips, tricks, naughty fun and some delightful insight into the naughty world of Welsh Mistress Ruby.

Listen to: Bodyworship 101

Ms. Olivia: Welcome to The Weekly Hot Spot: kink conversation, advice, and insight from the worlds of distance domination, and phone sex.

We are your hosts Ms. Olivia, Ms. Erika, and we are joined today by the lovely, naughty, and oh-so-talented Mistress Ruby. Get out the lube, fellows, for this episode. It’s Body worship 101 and we are talking about worshiping our beautiful bodies.

Listen to the Body Worship 101 episode of The Weekly Hot Spot

If you need lube suggestions, check out the lube reviews on Ms. Constance’s blog, Intelligent Femdom.

Bacon lube sidetracks the ladies Ms. Olivia: There’s even a bacon flavored lube, which personally, I don’t want that anywhere near all of my pretty important bits, but if you’re that much of a fan of bacon, go to it.

Ms. Erika: Brings a whole new meaning to meat flaps.

Ms. Olivia: Ladies? Are you comfortable, Erika, Ruby, are you planning on touching yourselves during this recording?

Ms. Ruby: Not with bacon lube, that’s for sure. No, I’m actually really excited to be here. Thank you so much for having me. I’m pretty comfortable at the moment. I had a shower before we began, so you’ll have to excuse me if I appear a little distracted,

I’m just going to be applying a little bit of lotion to my smooth legs, but not bacon flavored lotion though. Yeah, some touching going on.

Ms. Erika: Oh God, talk about distraction with your lovely accent, Miss Ruby, and imagining your fingers glazing over those lovely gams of yours,

I’m going to be a little distracted, So pardon me if I zone out and just imagine that.

Body worship, BDsm and submission Ms. Olivia: So you both have touched, figuratively and literally, on what body worship is.

Ms. Erika: In our world, in the Femdom world, body worship is mainly a practice of revealing and revering another part of a person’s body it is a sensual and sexual experience.

And it’s done in a submissive context, meaning this is your service to me, I am in charge. Body worship is part of Dominance and submission.

Ms. Olivia: Body worship also allows a submissive to perform protocols or rituals of devotion.

When you put it in terms of a protocol or a ritual, it provides the submissive a framework and a feeling of total dedication. Religions certainly have tapped into the need to worship.

As a Dominant, you, too, can tap into this need by telling your submissive, especially the people that enjoy foot worship, get down on your knees, worship my feet.

In that way, the submissive will worship and dedicate themselves to a power greater than what they have internally in themselves, which is what they should be doing. They should worship the Mistress, Domme, or Femdom.

Ms. Ruby: And with body worship, it’s so incredibly sensual compared with other aspects of BDSM, which offers a really nice change of pace.

This is really where I personally see strength in submission, seeing a sub physically devoting themselves to my pleasure without the need for their own self gratification and all the while enjoying that opportunity to give instead of receive.

Using porn as sex ed Ms. Olivia: And this doesn’t have to be in an overtly BDSM kind of context, but it is unusual, I think, in vanilla sex when it’s kind of like, “Oh, I’ve kissed you three times. Okay. So suck my Dick.” Or, “I just used your clit for a light switch. Now I’m going to put my cock in you and jack off.”

Ms. Ruby: Oh my God, that is one reason why I absolutely hate watching vanilla porn and that’s all it is, all the time. No. We need some body worship guys. C’mon, sort yourselves out.

Ms. Olivia: Absolutely. And my pet peeve is the light switch clitoris. Hey, it’s not. You don’t turn me on by grabbing it and literally going flick flick flick with your fingers. I don’t care what you’ve seen in porn.

Women are doing that because they know you like watching it. But, do not get sex tips from porn.

Ms. Ruby: No, don’t please. That’s like flicking a bell and saying that that is stroking a cock. No, no.

Ms. Erika: The one word I cringe every time I hear it, or the two words put together, is flicking that clit. No, don’t flick it unless you’d like a swift kick in the balls, then go ahead and flick it.

Ms. Ruby: Nobody flicks the clits guys. That’s not how we do it. We get our wands out. We have a fucking good time. Okay. Don’t flick anything except you in the bollocks if you’re pissing us off. Kick you in the bloody bollocks, mate.

Ms. Erika: I keep hanging around you, Ruby, I’m going to start talking with an accent.

Ms. Olivia: And we should point out that you are not British.

Welsh Mistress and her minge Ms. Ruby: Hello. I’m Welsh.

Ms. Erika: No, it would be appropriate to say you’re from the United Kingdom, but you’re not British.

Ms. Ruby: I don’t associate with Queen Elizabeth and all them like everyone thinks I do. But I think there’s some sort of idealism around the idea of being British. Cups of tea, cups of tea all the time, all day.

Oh, and I don’t play with my pussy, I play with my fanny. I like to stick a willy in my fanny, I do. That’s such a common thing I get, oh my goodness. Do you call it fanny as well?

Ms. Olivia: No!

Ms. Ruby: Pussy is the most disgusting word you could use except minge. I don’t know if you guys use that over there.

Ms. Olivia: What’s minge?

Ms. Ruby: It’s another word for vagina.

Ms. Olivia: A minge?

Ms. Ruby: Yeah, you fucked me in the minge, you did. Well, I don’t like that, either.

Ms. Olivia: Well, cigarettes are called fags. “I had a fag in my mouth.” Yeah, so do sissies.

Ms. Erika: Not only did sissy have a fag, she is a fag! Now Ruby, what do you call the derriere and the little rosebud?

Ms. Ruby: I like to call it a bum. Most of the time is ass..Yeah, the rose buds, just call it the asshole. I don’t have a special name for it. I know there’s loads of different words for it, but I don’t. I’m not that sophisticated when it comes to….

Ms. Erika: The back door.

Ms. Ruby: Just stick it in there, guys, okay? In the asshole.

Support our sexuality podcast Ms. Olivia: We just call it like it is. So we’re going to call it like it is and tell everybody, hopefully you’re not completely lubed up yet, because if you are, we want you to wash off and get to your computer and go to Apple Podcasts.

We want you to subscribe to The Weekly Hot Spot podcasts, Like it and we want you to leave a review on iTunes.

You can also find us on Cock Radio on Spreaker, all kinds of ways to find us.

Ms. Olivia: If you’re listening to the podcast while driving in your car, don’t do that while jacking off. There are some people that will need to hear that little caveat. Don’t wank in the car while driving.

Ms. Erika: In the car traveling 80 miles an hour down the interstate, yeah don’t masturbate.

Goddess Worship Ms. Olivia: So ladies, what is your favorite thing about body worship? Ruby, why don’t you start.

Ms. Ruby: For me, I think with anything really, it’s the psychological state that you enter, and especially with body worship.

It’s such a wonderful feeling to be put on that pedestal, treated like this amazing Goddess. And I love seeing a sub enjoying that as much as I do. Compared with the vanilla porn guys, you need to give some time and attention to us ladies.

Concentrate on my pleasure. That’s what I want.

Ms. Olivia: That’s my favorite thing as well, being the center of attention. Erotic and sensual center of attention. I am, ahhhh.

By the way, I have taken off my yoga pants and I’ve stripped down to my t-shirt and panties for this podcast.

Ms. Ruby: You little minx.

Ms. Olivia: I am a minx!

Ms. Ruby: An experienced minx.

Ms. Olivia: Yes, an experienced minx… Experienced Minx dot com. That’s not a real website for me but it should be! Mine is Experienced Mistress.

Body Worship is Amazing Ms. Olivia: Erika, what do you love about this?

Ms. Erika: Well, you both hit the nails right on the head. It’s not only a physical thing, but the psychological state and creating that psychological state that we are the deity.

We are the Goddesses to be worshipped.

What you touched upon earlier about the rituals, I have a brand new profile coming out for Body Worship 101, and in there, I let you know a little bit about what you could expect with a body worship session with me.

And first of all, you just don’t grab, touch, and whatever.

You start worshiping with your eyes. You gaze. You appreciate it. You verbalize your feelings. Then, if you do a good job, I might allow you to then worship with your fingers.

And if you learn your lessons boy, I just might give you a nice little present one day.

Ms. Olivia: It sounds like you’re going for the lesbian crowd. You’re describing lesbian sex.

Sexually satisfy your partner Ms. Erika: Well, guys need to be slowed down. If they are really truly interested in pleasing us, they will listen.

I also see body worship as a gateway kink. I mean, what man out there, heterosexual, that is, if you say, “Can you just lick behind my ear right here?” will say, “Fuck no.” Of course they won’t.

If you ask them to massage your breasts or to tweak your nipples in a certain way, are they going to say no? No! So it’s a gateway of you directing them.

And for those actually, I just thought about this. For those who are looking to include kink into their bedroom: Sensual touch worship is a fantastic gateway to give her that permission, to tell you what to do, how to please her.

Ms. Olivia: This podcast was actually inspired by a really special caller.

He said, “I’m going to be on the floor, worshiping your feet and then moving up during the podcast,” which is why I took off my yoga pants, why I am only in panties.

I’m on my back right now, but soon I will roll over onto my stomach and present my beautiful rounded ass to him.

This is what he said on our last call and I wrote it down.

“That body has so many areas I want to experience, fondle and touch and lick and worship. Once I get through with one, I go on to another. Once I finished with all the ones that I want to worship. I’ll go back to the beginning.”

He continued, ”The beginning is always different. I start somewhere then see where the mood takes me.” He’s amazing! I always feel so good when I talk with him.

Do the ladies masturbate on calls? Ms Olivia: So I’ve got to ask you, do you ladies touch yourself when a special caller calls you and they’re doing a really spectacular body worship?

Ms. Ruby: I’d be lying if I said no. I like to touch myself in some specific calls.

If the guy is doing a really good job and sometimes if the caller’s really lucky, I might get out my Magic Wand and you’ll hear me playing, all those nice, slow, subtle breaths I take when I start building up to a nice climax and maybe you’ll get it and maybe you won’t.

But, that just depends on how nice I feel at the time, how generous I want to be. But yeah, they have to work for that.

Ms. Olivia: And being slow, gentle, light, firm and sensual buildup, that’s part of it, isn’t it?

Ms. Ruby: Yes. Focusing on just being as gentle and light as you can be, as detailed as you can be. And then, gradually increasing the intensity is the key to a really good worship experience.

Ms. Erika: Oh, absolutely. I would be lying, too, if I said no that I never touched myself during calls. However, I find that I get very distracted as well, so I kind of use it as my energy, so I stay highly aroused if I’m aroused. I think that lends to the energy

How to touch a Goddess Ms Erika: But when it comes to Goddess worship, you’re right. That slow, firm, and sensual touching is so bonding. And in particular, how to touch different body parts. Right?

So, I like a feathery touch down the back of my spine is perfect, but if you touch me like that on my inner thigh or my foot, you, it just might be over ‘cause you’ll tickle me.

I love tickling calls when that is expected, when that’s part of a play. If I’m not expecting to be tickled, you might pop me out of that space that I’m in and you don’t want that.

I’ve tickled myself on calls, but I learned you can’t tickle yourself with your fingers because the brain feels them on your skin and senses both on the tickled part and on your fingertips. So that tickling doesn’t happen. But if you take something else or your nails, you can actually tickle yourself.

Ms. Olivia: On a body adoration call, there’s a chemistry that happens..

Adore her beautiful body Ms. Ruby: Yeah, definitely. And with the physical reverence side of things, it’s not just about that pleasurable hit of dopamine that you get from most sexual experiences.

As you said Erika, the bonding between the sub and the Domme, and one of the best tips I’ve had from one of my callers who indulges his wife regularly in body worship is not to solely focus on the parts that drive you wild with less.

It’s important to pay attention to the small details, like the curve of her hips, the small of her back, not just the ass and the tits.

Ms. Olivia: Yes, absolutely. And this episode was inspired by someone who I adore. He listens to what I say and then acts on it.

I told him, “My hip bones are incredibly sensitive.” And you don’t normally think of worshiping, putting your lips, or running your fingers literally on the hip bones. I don’t think there’s any hip bone porn out there.

Ms. Ruby: You should make some.

Ms. Olivia loves ass worship Ms. Olivia: It drives me nuts. One of the ways that I knew this was going to be a really great and really special relationship is because he mentions that every single call, he will say something about paying special attention to my hip bones. Fuck me, I just fucking melt.

And part of it is going slow and all of him listened and he heard that unusual part that just makes me crazy.

Ms. Erika: I love that. Yeah.

Ms. Olivia: And then, when he kind of gently turns me over instead of flopping me like a fish, now you’re on your stomach and my tongue is shoved up your ass. No, he goes gentle, slowly. And he just begins. He doesn’t jam his tongue in all the way, he goes all around, gently over my ass cheeks. I need a moment.

Ms. Erika: I guess I’m calling Olivia after we record this podcast.

Ms. Ruby: You can just imagine us sitting her down in a seat with a fan, just fanning her face, she’s getting a bit flustered there.

Ms. Olivia: You know, I don’t need it fanning my face. I’m just telling you, if we’re going to finish the podcast, I’m going to fan the furnace, right down below… yeah, that basement furnace.

Ass worship, I’m crazy for it. I really am. Makes me so incredibly aroused.

Ms. Erika: The nerves from your spine, at the tip of your spine, right before they go down your legs, right there at the bundles, so a lot of attention at the end of the spine, down the ass cheeks and the crack. Oh, it’s just divine. I love it.

Ms. Olivia: Ruby, do you like ass play? Ass worship?

Ms. Ruby: I do, I must admit, I do enjoy a bit of bum fun. I love it. As we said before, take your time and really enjoy every square inch of that ass because if you don’t know where to start and it’s your first time you’re trying it out, then get some massage oil involved.

Have the intention just to pamper your partner and make it really luxurious and special. I think that really just tips it over the edge.

Ms. Erika: And getting inspiration from our callers like you did, Olivia, is fantastic and keeps things exciting and spicy.

Did you realize when it comes to female body parts that are delicious round bums, rank high, and sometimes higher, than breasts?

Ms. Ruby and Ms. Olivia: Really?

Popularity: Her ass or breasts? Ms. Erika: I was reading a Psychology Today article, unfortunately there’s not a lot of studies regarding sex and sexuality, but they said in the article, I thought it was interesting, these two neuroscientists, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, but they systematically examined what people do on the Internet.

And butts are almost as popular as breasts in sexual web searches. And there’s almost as many porn sites dedicated to the derriere as breasts, meaning that it suggests that many men also have an innate sensitivity to buttock cues as well.

I‘ve heard that the fascination with breasts is that the cleavage replicates the cleavage of the ass because if we think of our evolution, most likely we procreated like most other animals, not face-to-face. So that is fascinating. And we’ll put that link in the podcast as well. If you want to read it

Ms. Olivia: Those are the researchers that wrote the book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships. They studied what people were doing on the Internet. And they went through Internet searches and entertainment searches, keystrokes and porn searches, and that kind of thing.

As an aside, if either of you get a chance to go visit the Museum of Sex in New York City, they use A Billion Wicked Thoughts as part of their display about human sexuality.

If you read the book A Billion Wicked Thoughts, LDW group is in there. They mention Sissy School and that was so great.

Ms. Erika: I did not know that!

Ms. Olivia: Yes! How awesome is that?

Ms. Ruby: That buttocks thing doesn’t surprise me with all the yoga pants going ‘round at the moment. My goodness, I class myself as a straight female, but fuck, I see a woman in some yoga pants and I’m like, fuck, I can’t stop looking.

Ms. Erika: I’m in the same boat.

Ms. Ruby: You know when the fabric is kind of ruched in the cracks, love that.

Ms. Olivia: I love that we’re hearing a decidedly different side of Ruby. So Ruby, tell us how you really feel about those yoga pants.

Ms. Ruby: Yeah, when you said you were wearing yoga pants Miss Olivia,, I did wander a little bit and then you distracted me with bacon lube.

Back to bacon lube, so sorry! Ms. Olivia: I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry.

Ms. Ruby: It’s okay. I’m just scarred for life.

Ms. Olivia: Obviously, that’s the only thing that I remember about Miss Constance’s lube reviews. That is so terrible, right?

Ms. Ruby: I don’t want my asshole smelling like pork scratching, thank you very much.

Ms. Erika: What lovely humiliation. You could use that as humiliation. You don’t deserve a flowery fanny, you deserve a bacon fanny.

Ms. Olivia: A bacon fanny!

Ms. Ruby: Oh my goodness. That is hilarious.

Ms. Olivia: We do have Humiliation Bootcamp and I think that would be an absolutely hysterical humiliation assignment. Buy the bacon lube, buy a cantaloupe, cut a hole in the cantaloupe and then lube it up with bacon lube.

You know, we’re just ruining this for all of the people, I’m ruining it single-handedly. I’ve single handedly just destroyed this fucking podcast for everybody. I’m so sorry. No more talk about bacon lube.

Creative BDsm humiliation Ms. Erika: One more thing. Thinking about being creative and getting inspiration, you just inspired me. Think of this as a humiliation task. Lube is also a moisturizer, right? So you get your little slut to use the bacon lube as a “lotion,” for conditioning their skin and all day long, they go around and people go, “I smell bacon. What is that?”

Ms. Ruby: Guys, I’m seriously considering starting my own lube business and one of my premium brands is going to be the Porn Cock-tail. Oh my goodness. This needs to happen.

Ms. Olivia: Gwyneth Paltrow, didn’t she recently come out with the vagina candle and your whole room smells like pussy?

I don’t know who posed for the vagina candle. Whose pussy does it smells like, because I’m bisexual, so I’ve seen and smelled and tasted a lot of pussy and there’s a fair amount of different looks in there.

Is it going to be a porn star pussy? If so, which porn star? If you don’t have sex dolls, they have porn star sex dolls with porn star pussies.

Ms. Ruby: I can just imagine you with this candle. And you’re like, ”Hmm, smells familiar. Maybe I should lick it and make sure… I need to identify which kind of pussy this smells and tastes like.”

Ms. Erika: You know, Olivia, I can’t do candles that smell like food because then I get hungry. So if you like that pussy candle, you’re going to be running around looking for something to munch on, darling.

Ms. Olivia: I’ve got a female submissive, so I’ve got pussy-munching capabilities right here at any point in time. She’s adorable, and can I also tell you she’s a fabulous foot washer.

Toe Worship and pedicures Ms. Olivia: Pretty toes deserve love, and I think of all of the body worship areas of the body, ass and feet, are the top two, I would say.

Feet worship, foot worship… licking, stroking, touching, massaging, sucking on pretty toes… all of that foot worship is fabulous.

Ms. Erika: Absolutely. It’s fantastic. And not only is it the actual act, but the physicality of it, kneeling at your feet is a visual representation of the Power Exchange that’s happening in our minds, in our psyches. So, that’s why I like it. It really hammers home, your place and my place.

Starting at the toes pet, which is something I like to say, “Start at the toes, pet.”

Ms. Ruby: Yeah.we spend so much money on pedicures, why not take advantage of a sub at our feet, licking our toes, rubbing our arches. I absolutely love it.

Ms. Erika: Absolutely.

Ms. Olivia: The very first thing, as soon as salons open in New York state, I want a professional pedicure and I, normally, pre-pandemic, would get them every two weeks. And so my feet, I’ve been doing them, my sub has done them, but you know, it’s not the same. It really isn’t.

I want a professional pedicure with professional polish on my toes so badly. I want that even more than live music, although those are about the same.

And it was initially, post-pandemic, what do I want to do most? Fetish party, pedicure, and go to a live baseball game.

Out of those three, the Mets are really sucking right now. Yeah. I know it’s early in the season, but still they’ve done some bonehead fucking plays. So I’m kind of like, ”I don’t want to go see you just clench a loss out of certain victory, dingbats.”

So, fetish party or pedicure. The fetish parties are beginning to start back up, and so pedicure is now the absolute top of my list. When are both of you going to get pedicures?

Ms. Ruby: Oh God. I mean, I don’t even know when we’re all going to be able to go to salons over here. I do my own anyway and I think the results I get are pretty good. It was a pretty good standard, but like you say, it’s not the same. You don’t want to have to put the effort in,

I need my own live-in sub. Okay. So applications, guys, come on, get them in. Yes, I definitely need one of those.

Mistress and covid restrictions Ms. Olivia: Ruby, you reminded me, the other fourth thing: live music, I’m aching for live music, going to a live concert.

Ms. Ruby: I’m aching to get into a live concert and perform.

I know my neighbors must be sick of my voice singing in my lounge every day, trying to do all my recordings and my practice at home.

Usually I would have access to a studio. So it’s probably quite frustrating for them, hearing the same stuff over and over again.

Ms. Olivia: That has been one thing about the pandemic, all of the virtual concerts and stuff. T

here is one group, Low Cut Connie, and the singer is Adam Wiener and he often says the same thing. He has an apartment in Philly and he said his neighbors must be furious because they do concerts from his spare bedroom. And the concerts are loud.

Ms. Ruby: Are they like a full band type concert?

Ms. Olivia: He has a full band. He plays piano, sometimes guitar, and he’s got a guitar player who kind of plays drums with his foot or he plays tambourine with his foot.

Rolling Stone has called them a hidden gem of the pandemic. They are getting hugely, hugely popular. So I’ll post a link to Low Cut Connie because Low Cut Connie is one of my favorite groups.

Ms. Ruby: I’ll have to check that out.

Ms. Olivia: They’re wonderful. They’re wonderful. I wonder if they’re turned on by feet.

Ms. Ruby: Think he’s got a pedicure under those shoes when he’s tapping that tambourine?

Ms. Olivia: I also want a manicure. I want a Mani-Pedi. I desperately want that.

We have a full Hot Spot podcast for people who are turned on by feet. Foot Worship is one of our favorite things.

And worship of sexy feet and pretty toes goes along with legs, stockings, socks. We talk about that a lot!

Let me just mention if people want some smoking hot photos of legs, stockings, feet doing the shoe dangle, you really need to check out my Tumbler.

I have tons of stockings… seamed, sheer, nude, black, sexy, garter belts, amazing photos of shoes, feet, legs, and more, but especially legs and feet. Check out Experienced Mistress Olivia on Tumblr.

Who has a stocking fetish? Ms. Ruby: I love the anticipation that stockings add to foot and leg worship.

It’s really that muted sensation you get, isn’t it, when you’ve got that stocking on and somebody’s caressing or playing with your foot or leg. You can’t feel it as intensely as you would skin on skin, but it’s still just thin enough to feel the warmth of the hands or lips or tongue that’s making contact with the fabric.

I’ve got a few subs that actually love to be teased with stockings too. And you can easily evolve that kind of play into bondage. For example, Tease and Denial. There’s so many things you can do with stockings. I love stockings.

Ms. Erika: Absolutely! Those long, strong legs we have wrapped in that soft silk, even the leg stocking made from silk a long time ago.

It’s a very central term to use, to describe what they’re experiencing. I recently put a spotlight on pantyhose for those who love to worship pantyhose and the legs they’re in.

Having others understand some of the erotic elements of how we can use pantyhose and legs as a spotlight in sessions with worshiping, the tactile sensations.

I don’t know if you ladies have experienced this with panty hose, but not only worshiping them on us, but enjoying them on their own legs; the compression, the softness, the shininess, is really an attraction for those who’ve loved stockings and pantyhose. Have you found that shininess appeal?

Ms. Olivia: I absolutely have.

And let me just mention that it doesn’t have to be a pantyhose fetish or a stockings fetish to enjoy this. Slip on a pair of pantyhose. Just try it on a call. And if you don’t like it, no harm, no foul. Just simply say I tried it and I didn’t like it, but who knows?

I think this is one area where we can broaden a caller’s erotic pleasure horizons. We can deepen his palette, so to speak.

Ms. Erika: It doesn’t mean you want to be feminized. If you enjoy something like the sensation of pantyhose or stockings, it means that you have an open mind and a willingness, a willing spirit, to explore different sensations and different experiences.

Ms. Olivia: Ruby, that’s exactly like what you said that the stockings can evolve into all kinds of other play. Bondage when you take them off, Tease and Denial…. Oh! Take them off and wrap up his cock and balls in a stocking.

Ms. Ruby: I love to use them as a teasing element in my play, because when I get a guy to put some stockings or pantyhose on, the feeling, the muted feelings they get when they’re rubbing over the top of them in specific places.

The reactions I get, it’s such a buildup and you’re sitting there listening to their cadence of their breath and the way it changes dramatically. They’re not getting exactly what they want, but they’re getting just enough to make them frustrated and I love that because I’m evil.

Ms. Erika: I love that about you too. I love that delicious tease.

How to buy stockings and pantyhose Ms. Olivia: He can easily get a pair of stockings and then throw them away. It’s not like you spend 60 bucks on a really high quality toy and you’re worried about your partner finding it. Now, don’t be stupid and throw it in the top of the trash can. Or if you’re playing at work, lock your door. That’s a little PSA.

Get a pair of stockings from a department store. And trust me, nobody’s going to look twice at you and they’re not going to automatically think they’re for you. You could be buying them for somebody else.

Or if you’re completely mortified, go to a drug store and get pantyhose and then just take them out and feel the sensation.

Masturbating in pantyhose Ms Olivia: You don’t even have to tie up your cock and balls, but just stroke that fabric all over your cock and balls, then slip your cock inside the stocking, hold it tight, so the stocking becomes like a condom.

If you have a cock ring, you could slip it on over that. So it really is held in place like a condom and then start stroking that cock, the stocking held in place. Use your nails to scratch right across the tip of that cock.

Ms. Ruby: And it mutes the sensation, as I said. It’s not going to feel too aggressive or too harsh for the skin. Bear in mind, if you’re cumming in a stocking, guys, it’s going to be like a sieve. It will come out of all the holes. Just a tip for you.

Ms. Erika: Don’t go nuts for that kind of play. That’s not going to work, guys. Don’t get fish nets.

Send Fishnet Dick Pics to Ms. Ruby Ms. Ruby: If you do use a fishnet stocking, it will make your cock look like a kinky mole rat, wearing a bodystocking, which I find amusing. So if you do have fishnets, send us some pictures of your dick in a fishnet, because I want to see those.

Ms. Olivia: That’s actually a request. We don’t often ask for dick pics out of session, but on this one, we’ll take any dick pics in a fish net or wrapped in mesh.

I was talking about mesh panties with this one guy who was a caller and he said, “I have a picture of me in mesh panties.” So he sent me an email with the picture and he’s got a really beautiful cock, nice size.

Everything was sticking straight out of the tiny g-string mesh with just the mesh covering up his balls. I think, “This is nice.” We get to see a whole lot of stuff. Some of it we enjoy!

Ms. Ruby: Some stuff we’re not prepared for. We open an email. It’s like, holy shit. What on earth? It’s Monday morning. It’s 8:00 AM. I’ve got my coffee. I haven’t drank any of it yet. And what the hell am I looking at right now?

You know, I can say it’s the only job I’ve been to where I’m genuinely surprised by the stuff that comes into my inbox. You really don’t expect it. It’s crazy.

Ms. Erika: That little turtle is not what I want to see first thing on a Monday morning.

Ms. Ruby: I get a lot of those. “Tell me how small it is.” It’s like, oh, I don’t think you realize how small it is because you haven’t seen enough dick pics to know, but I have.

Ms. Olivia: For someone that has a small penis, you can be insanely useful and have a woman enjoy you. If you learn, really learn how to do revere her body; you can worship her ass, her pussy, her feet.

You know what? I’m just now realizing that in the outline of the show, I didn’t put pussy worship on there. Oh my gosh that’s bad. Such an omission!

Pussy Worship Time! Ms. Olivia: We’re going to do oral pleasure right now, before we go into breast worship.

So from feet to legs to pussy, he moves up an erotic ladder, nibbling and kissing and climbing up the insides of the thighs, hitting pay dirt as he’s sliding those silky wet panties over to one side and saying, “Hello,” and kissing the sweet spot.

What is your favorite way to have your pussy worshiped?

Ms. Erika: I think my favorite thing about pussy worship is that you are pleasing me in the manner that I wish. Many men who think they know how to please a pussy with their fingers or tongue are probably incorrect.

Either they are honed in on the clit… that is the goal… that is what they’re concentrating on. Or they want to penetrate and fuck something with their fingers or their tongue. Gentlemen, when I tell you the female body part down there, if you want to arouse the clit, rub and massage and lick those outer lips first.

I’m going to leave you the link for this podcast of the anatomy of a woman’s sex. It is really a demonstration of you worshiping, adoring, and paying homage to what makes us the stronger sex; our pussy.

Ms. Olivia: The physical way to worship a pussy is how you get the attention of a woman.

You start at the outer edges and then work your way in. I tell people all the time, if you push a Mistress, a woman, your partner, your wife… if you push her, she will automatically back off. Guys, that’s just how we are fucking made. We will automatically back off.

Now, a sex worker doesn’t automatically back off, which is why men pay for it. This is one of what you pay for when you pay a sex worker. They can basically do whatever they want (within agreed upon limits and boundaries).

But there are still people that pay for sex that they really want the woman to also have a great time. Thank you soooooo much – we LOVE YOU !!!!

When I’m having a good time on the call, like Ruby, I may or may not tell the other person when I have an orgasm, but if he knows me and I know him, he’ll say, “Yeah, you got a little quiet there. I noticed you stopped breathing there for some time,” because I tend to hold my breath when I have an orgasm. So you’ll hear a long pause and you’ll know.

Like Erika said, go from the outer edges and then go in. And the flat of the tongue lapping?

Ms. Ruby: Oh, I love that so much. I love it when they incorporate their lips as well. Almost like French kissing, but they’re doing it on the clit, very gently.

Tying back to a previous conversation we had, I really think that if you’re listening to this and you want to know how to please a woman down there, or maybe you think you’re really good but as Erika, so kindly put it, you probably aren’t.

Tantric sex Ms. Ruby: To be fair, I think stopping the constant stream of just vanilla porn that you play, when you’re getting off, and maybe having a little look at things like tantric sex porn because some of the stuff they have regarding massage, especially in that region, in the pussy area, is so nice.

And as a woman, I love watching that and I love getting off to that because I can see that that guy is really fucking enjoying what he’s doing to that woman. And it is so hot and that is a turn on, in itself.

If you’re looking down and you’re seeing a guy who’s like, “I want to get this over with so I can stick my dick in,” then you’re not going to respond to that. You are thinking, “I don’t even want you to stick your dick anywhere. You’re not putting in the effort.”

If I’m giving a nice blow job, I want a nice pussy licking session. And I pride myself on my blow jobs, if anyone’s lucky enough to receive. So, I want the same in return and every woman deserves that.

Stop the vanilla porn, watch some more erotic, sensual stuff and really pick up on some of the things they’re doing, because that is how you do it.

With sex, it’s not ALL about the orgasm Ms. Erika: You hit on something Ruby, with the tantric.The goal with body worship isn’t necessarily the orgasm at the end, right? I mean, we’ll get there. The main crux of any worshiping of pussies, breasts, whatever, is the journey, the experience. So I love that you put that in there.

Ms. Olivia: The tantric porn and the tantric massage porn, those are fabulous ideas for people to really get the sense of body worship and how to do it, what it means to go slow.

It doesn’t “just” mean to go slow. It means to be slowly connected. So that means you don’t dive in directly for the clit. You start at the outside. You don’t grab an ass and stick your finger right in. You at least lick it first.

You go slowly. You don’t just grab a boob and start sucking on it. You enjoy the heft and feel of the breast and pushing them together and massaging them. Not like you’re trying to bake sourdough bread, kneading the fuck out of it. Breasts are not bread.

Ms. Ruby: Unless you are allowed to fuck me really hard, then go for it. But as a general rule, no.

Body worship is about going slow. It’s about taking your time and it’s not about trying to get to the end of something really quickly. Like I’m trying to make this person happy so that I can get what I want. That’s not what body worship is.

When to fuck her hard Ms. Olivia: We’ve talked so much about not going slow. Let me just mention once she gets to where she’s about to cum, she says, “I’m fucking grabbing your dick. I am riding that mother fucker!” I do that, too!

The first time I did that I think the guy was really shocked. He was like, whoa! I said, “I’m in charge of your dick! I can do anything I want! I want your dick in my ass. Right. Fucking. Now.”

Let me tell you, once you get us to the part where we’re just crazed, you never know what’ll happen. But if she says, fuck me the fuck hard. Well, don’t say, “Oh no, I’m going to continue going slowly.”

Fuck her hard, fellas. Really hard.

Ms. Ruby: It can be a complete power switch with that.l I say that we’re always going to be in charge, but if we say, ”I want to be fucked,” then, you know that’s an order.

But getting us there first is the primary objective and that’s not going to happen bending her over, slapping her ass and saying, “Are you ready for my pork sword?” Doesn’t work like that fellas. Sorry.

Men love breasts Ms. Olivia: So the final body parts breasts, I don’t know why I saved it until last, but there you go. Men love breasts. Cleavage just drives men crazy, boobs and nipples showing.

And let me just mention for people need to follow Erika on Twitter, she posts the best fucking pictures. @ErikaEnchantrix

Ms. Ruby: You know what Erika, it’s the open shirt look that I really love in your photographs. It’s kind of conservative, but really not, that I’m wearing this for work, but, I’m just going to unbutton it so you can have a little look at what I’ve got into there. And the cleavage is amazing.

Ms. Erika: Oh, thank you. Well, it is all about the tease, right?

I know we talked about boobs and butts are really high up on the hard dick scale. So of course, the first rule of cock controls is to get their attention and what better way to get attention than to give the masses what they’re looking for. Boop gifs are fun. Come on. There’s a reason why titties are called fun bags. They’re fun, they jiggle… just like the guys’ little jiggly between their legs. They’re just fun.

Unusual request from Mistress Ruby Ms. Ruby: I love those fun bags. Well, fun-sized, fun bags. I want to, I want to see some jiggling, mini fun bags, guys. C’mon. Get on cam for us now. Get some fishnets out, put them on. We want to see that kinky mole rat dick and those little mini fun bags wiggling around inside those fishnets. Oh my goodness. I want to see that.

I’ve got an assignment for somebody. The first person to do this gets a free 10-minute call from me. Paint your dick yellow, put on some little sticky eyes, make it look like a little Peep and send it to Mistress Erika.. The first person to do this, gets a 10 minute call with me, free.

Ms. Olivia: Oh, my God, Ruby. You’re hilarious. I want to see that so bad, Erika. Erika’s email is going to be flooded with these pictures. I will never want to see or eat another Peep ever.

Ms. Erika: You’re getting those emails, right? I’m going to share them right with you.

Ms. Ruby: Please do. I don’t know what kind of paint you can use, but tumeric looks pretty yellow, so maybe an option. You’ll have to check that one out, guys. If you’re looking to do it, I want to see these pictures.

Most erotic part of the body? Ms. Olivia: This should really tell all of our listeners, if you worship our brains, we are yours for life. If you appreciate our minds, as much as our bodies, we are yours for life. My brain really IS my most intense erogenous zone.

The person that inspired this, we have had calls that haven’t been about sex at all. He called during the midst of the pandemic and some of the political unrest he called just to check up and say, “How are you? Are you okay?” We talk about baseball. We talk about all kinds of things.

If you have a way into my brain and appreciate my brain, That’s the best way, man. You tell me a good joke, make me laugh, and my legs just automatically spread.

Ms. Erika: Here’s one, guys. When we’re talking about worshiping our brains, our intelligence, our competence, statements like, “Oh my God, you’re not dumb.” It’s not a fucking compliment.

Ms. Olivia: If Erika needs to explain that it’s not a compliment, then really you need to pay for a call and get sorted out.

Ms. Erika: I will explain it to you.

Ms. Olivia: We’re not even going to give you a freebie of why that’s not a compliment.

Ms. Erika: Here’s another pro tip. When you’re out there trolling, as you do, why don’t you try complimenting her choices or what she says versus what she looks like or what she’s wearing. I’m guaranteeing you. She’s going to have more interest.

Ms. Olivia: When you have a very special turn of phrase and use your wordsmith ability on her… I got this from a submissive caller I call “naughty boy,” this wonderful submissive… he said, “If you cried, you’d be crying diamonds because they are synonymous with beauty. And you’re beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.” That was completely out of the blue. I said, “Woah, thank you!”

I was still tormenting him with Tease and Denial, the compliment idid not change the arc of what I wanted to do with him. His cock belongs to me.

Ms. Erika: That wouldn’t get him a cum?

Ms. Olivia: He didn’t. I did send him a pair of my panties.

Decorate your dick? What ?? Ms. Ruby: On the note of worshiping our brain, guys, If you want another way to get to me specifically, I cosplay dicks. I want to see them cosplay cocks.

I get so many dick pictures and if I line them all up in order of size, they look pretty similar as they go. I’m just thinking to myself. God, why doesn’t anyone dress the dicks up as the Hulk or Superman, Spider-Man.

Ms. Erika: A couple of Halloweens ago, Ms. Constance and I did a contest. It was a Decorate Your Dick contest. Oh, my God. The submissions were fan-fricking tastic. Maybe we could do that this year. What do you think?

Ms. Olivia: We should do an early Halloween because that is that decorate your dick. We actually, Ruby, you will have to come back. We will do a podcast on How-to Decorate Your Dick for Fun and Festivities.

Ms. Ruby: You do realize you’ve now condemned my partner to months of trial and testing, “Darling, can you just dip your dick in this pink glitter for me. I just want to see what the results look like. If there’s any itching or any adverse effects, let me know so I can advise against it.”

Ms. Erika: Pro Tip: Do not use gorilla glue. Spray it with hairspray, dip it real quick and it will stick.

Ms. Olivia: Wait, don’t get the hairspray in your pee hole.

Ms. Ruby: You will be on fire. Unless you are into cock pain. Then dip it in cayenne pepper!

Ms. Olivia: Don’t put hot peppers on your penis. Don’t try this at home. Even though we like CBT, unless you have a medical fetish. Don’t.

Ms. Ruby: We like safe CBT, but you know, I do like to joke so don’t take these too seriously.

Ms. Olivia: Dick pics are for Ruby, and all kinds of other things, stay in touch with us on our blogs, Twitter, and email.

Ms. Olivia: olivia@enchantrixempire.com / @MistressOlivia1 / Experienced Mistress is my blog.

Ms. Ruby: ruby@enchantrixempire.com / @EnchantrixRuby / Cock Domme is my blog.

I want to see my inbox full of dick pics, cosplay cock pics, thank you, Ruby@EnchantrixEmpire.com.

Ms. Erika: erika@enchantrixempire.com / @ErikaEnchantrix / Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Ms. Olivia: Questions for our listeners: Is there a particular part of a woman’s body that turns you on the most? What is it and why?

Ms. Erika: I want to know, have you ever experienced true body worship from head to toe? Was it part of your typical lovemaking or was it in a Domme/submissive-type scenario?

Ms. Ruby: And I would like to know, what do you love most about body worship and why? If you haven’t tried it guys, why not? Get on it!

Ms. Olivia: You can reach out to each of us individually, or you can post to this blog. TheWeeklyHotspot.com.

Speaking of hot, this podcast has been really hot. Be honest, who’s going to masturbate now.

Ms. Erika: I am!

Ms. Erika: We’re 10 minutes late, but you ladies are just so fucking sexy, I can’t stand myself.

Ms. Ruby: I’ll masturbate when I get that dick pic.

Ms. Erika: Sugar me, baby… sugar me.

Ms. Olivia: This was wonderful. We hope our listeners had a very good time. You can tell we obviously do. Until next time. Thanks for listening and have fun with your dick pics!