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On today's episode we welcome Bob Falconer back to the podcast. Bob is an IFS teacher, consultant, and author who has devoted decades to trauma healing and the study of mind and spirit. He co-authored Many Minds, One Self with Dick Schwartz and wrote The Others Within Us. His memoir, Self Unbroken, is out now.

It's hard to pick a favorite "Bob" episode, but this one might be my favorite so far. We talk about his daily practice of dialoguing with Spirit, the sewer path to wisdom, what skeptical parts need, and the monk who changed everything for him

Takeaways

• Self may be less like a particle and more like a field.
• The high road to wisdom is lined with people waving shiny objects. Bob suggests trudging through the sewer instead.
• Skeptical parts don't need to be shut down, they need to be invited in.
• Not knowing is the beginning of knowledge
• When a spirit dialogue starts making you feel superior to others, it's your clue the signal has been hijacked
• Understanding a past life isn't what heals it. Witnessing and unburdening the emotional charge is what changes things
• Use your client's language instead of imposing yours

Here's a link to The One Inside Audio Guides I mentioned in the intro.

About Robert Falconer:

For the early decades of his career, Bob focused on work with men who had histories of major sexual and physical abuse as Bob had. He used various forms of parts work (Ego State Therapy, Gestalt, and Pia Mellody's work among others) but some 16 years ago he discovered Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) and is now focused exclusively on IFS, which he finds to be the most respectful and powerful modality. His own recovery is the deep basis for all his work.

Bob has taught IFS extensively and internationally online and has led classes and trainings in Pakistan, China, South Korea, Mexico, Poland , Spain, Canada, the UK, and for the Fort Belknap reservation. He has also been on the staff of over 20 of the official IFS institute trainings. Bob has been actively involved with psychedelics since 1967 and continues to view them as a powerful pathway.

He is the author of six books related to IFS, spirituality and inner healing: Many Minds, One Self (2017), co-authored with Richard C. Schwartz, founder of IFS; The Others Within Us (2023); When Going Through Hell… Keep Going (2024); Opening the Inner World (2025), co-authored with two experts on Emanuel Swedenborg; Spirit (2025), a compilation drawn from journals of his daily dialogues with Spirit, and Self Unbroken a memoir of the beginnings of his recovery from childhood sexual abuse (2026).

Now at in his late seventies, Bob mostly teaches and leads supervision classes, only occasionally seeing individuals, often with their therapist.

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

The Others Within Us: A four-day online experiential workshop with Bob Falconer, March 2027. Learn more and register at Souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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This episode didn't go as planned, and I'm grateful it didn't.

I invited Liz Brenner on the podcast to talk about the Family Process article on the family systems roots of IFS she co-authored with Dick Schwartz and Carol Becker in 2023. Instead, we found ourselves talking about grief.

A month before we recorded, my dad died unexpectedly. Liz lost her partner, Dan, in 2018, just six weeks after his cancer diagnosis. We both came into the conversation still processing our losses, and grief was the conversation we needed to have.

Takeaways

• Grief can break you, and it can also heal you. Both can be true at once
• A felt connection to someone who has died can be a real and ongoing relationship
• When the spiritual dimension of Self gets left out, the Self-to-part relationship can feel smaller than it actually is
• Constraint release, an idea from family systems therapy, asks what pattern isn't working rather than what's broken
• Meaning-making is an often-overlooked stage of grief
• A part that's afraid of losing connection to someone you love can be asked to step back (Liz learned that during a session with Dick Schwartz)
• Family systems theory shaped IFS more than we realize

We'll have Liz back on to finish the conversation about the family systems article.

About Liz Brenner

Liz Brenner, LICSW, is the director of Therapy Training Boston, the continuing legacy of the Family Institute of Cambridge. She is the primary instructor of their Intensive Certification Program in Couples and Family Therapy and co-author, with Richard Schwartz and Carol Becker, of the 2023 Family Process article on the development of the IFS model (email Liz for access to the article). Follow Therapy Training Boston on Facebook or Instagram. Links: Therapy Training Boston Courses and Workshops

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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My guest on today's episode is Achara Tarfa. She is a certified IFS practitioner, co-founder of the Global Trauma Institute, and director of the PATH program. We talk about finding IFS, what trauma coaching offers that therapy often doesn't, and why she and her co-founders built GTI to create the spaces they needed but couldn't find.

Takeaways

• IFS gave Achara language for her own anger for the first time
• When the people you turn to for help fail you, the harm compounds. Achara experienced this firsthand and it shaped everything she built
• Trauma coaching isn't replacing therapy. It's reaching people the system has missed
• Healing isn't just individual. It's about dismantling the systems, cultural, institutional, hierarchical, that created the harm
• PATH meetings use IFS to address addiction and its underlying trauma together
• AA teaches you how to survive; PATH teaches you how to live.
• If you're in protection mode, there's no room to feel. That's not a flaw, it's survival

Catch my extended interview with Achara and our Audio Guides meditations over on Substack.

About Achara

Achara Tarfa is a certified IFS practitioner, co-founder of the Global Trauma Institute, and director of the PATH program. Connect with her on Substack and Instagram.

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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I didn't know frozen shoulder was a perimenopause symptom. Neither did Melissa Monahan, this week's podcast guest, and she's a therapist living through it herself.

This week Melissa joins me on the podcast to talk about the mental health side of perimenopause and menopause, and what IFS can offer women going through it. She's an IFS Level 2 therapist and host of Mindfully Meni, a podcast and Substack for women in this chapter of life -- and the people who love them.

In this episode we talk about the changes happening in our inner worlds during this transition, and how IFS can help us make sense of and befriend parts whose burdens we may be noticing for the first time.

Takeaways

• Perimenopause is as much an identity transition as a physical one.
• As estrogen drops, the manager parts lose their primary tool. Anger, anxiety, and old wounds may surface.
• Parts that were managed and exiled for years may now need additional care and compassion
• I share about my angry part around hot flashes, and what happened when I got curious instead of contemptuous.
• Anger in women going through this transition is often the first time they've allowed themselves to feel it.
• The polarization between shrinking completely and blowing everything up is a parts pattern, not a personality flaw.
• Melissa went to PT for weeks for a frozen shoulder that kept getting worse. A surgeon finally told her it was common in women her age. Nobody had connected it to perimenopause. That's the gap she's trying to close.
• Community is not optional. It is medicine.

Be sure to check out my extended interview with Melissa over on The One Inside on Substack About Melissa Melissa Monahan is a licensed mental health counselor and IFS Level 2 therapist specializing in perimenopause and menopause. She integrates IFS, EMDR, and Brainspotting to support women through the hormonal and emotional dimensions of this transition, with a focus on the mental health conversation perimenopause deserves. She hosts Mindfully Meni, a podcast and Substack community for women in this chapter and for the people who love them. Melissa also offers clinical consultation for therapists working with this population and is building resources for clinicians.

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Therapy Training Boston.

Therapy Training Boston offers live, in-person, and online workshops, plus consultation for therapists and other helping professionals, designed to support you as a whole person while satisfying your CE requirements. All of their offerings are taught with an eye toward context, power, and relational justice, and draw on the family systems theories and best practices that shaped the IFS model. They also offer an Intensive Certificate Program in Couples and Family Therapy to help you build confidence and capacity in community.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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On today's episode I welcome Jessica Tomich Sorci to the podcast. She's a therapist, perinatal mental health specialist, and creator of the Mom Parts Method. She's spent 15 years working with moms and noticed the same parts showing up, so she began naming them, then created a methodology and a new book.

Her Mom Parts Method is a five-step IFS-based process specifically for mothers. It starts with a meditation to connect with a triggering experience, then moves through naming which parts showed up, speaking truths on their behalf, noticing underlying shame or grief, and identifying what those parts actually need.

She identified 29 mom parts that kept appearing across 15 years of practice--things like anger, resentment, anxiety, destroyer, blame--and named them so moms could recognize themselves without feeling alone in it. Her Mom Parts cards are a physical tool to support the process.

Takeaways

• The parts that make us such attuned mothers are the same parts that make it hard to let go as kids grow
• Grief is a through line in motherhood, from the 12-month clothes replacing the 6-month ones all the way to high school graduation. We don't talk about it enough.
• The good mom/bad mom flip is parts thinking, not Self. It's black and white, and it's exhausting.
• Motherhood is as much your developmental journey as your child's.
• You have every right to grow, struggle, fail, and try again too
• Twenty percent of moms are diagnosed with a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder. Jessica's take: that's a cultural failure rate
• "I've never heard anyone say they're screwed up because their mom took such good care of herself"
• Team Kid and Team What About Mom are both in your system. Both are trying to help.

Catch my extended interview with Jessica over on Substack. And while you're there, be sure to try one of our new Audio Guides meditations.

About Jessica

Jessica Tomich Sorci, LMFT is a Level 3 Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional, and creator of the groundbreaking Mothercentered approach. She developed the innovative Mom Parts Method—a revolutionary application of IFS to motherhood that helps moms transform guilt, anxiety, and anger into self-compassion and confidence.

Jessica's book When Good Moms Feel Bad: An Empowering Guide for Transforming Guilt, Anxiety and Anger into Compassion, Confidence and Connectedness presents her paradigm-shifting vision that reframes maternal mental health struggles not as disorders, but as natural responses to the profound transformation of matrescence, in a world that provides insufficient support. Through her training programs, she empowers therapists to understand mothers through a non-pathologizing lens that normalizes the full spectrum of maternal experience while accessing every mom's own Inner Mom wisdom.

Connect with Jessica at momparts.com

She is also a singer-songwriter, and you can listen to her music here.

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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Today I welcome Dr. Audrey Davidheiser back to the podcast. Her latest book, Grieving Wholeheartedly: Bringing Healing for Every Part of Your Soul, is an IFS guide to loss that views grief as a collection of parts, each carrying something specific, each needing to be met.

Audrey is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, and founder of the Los Angeles Dream Center, where she specializes in trauma and religious trauma. She's also someone who lost her father suddenly seven years ago and rebuilt her practice and her inner life from the ground up.

Takeaways

• Grief doesn't disappear. Avoided, it piles up.
• You can negotiate with parts about how much grief feels manageable
• Every grief is different, and every system responds differently to the same loss
• Legacy burdens shape how we grieve
• Faith can support grief or be used to bypass it
• Parts that yearn for a person who's gone can be met by Self
• Avoiding grief work is felt as another abandonment for our parts

The Book Grieving Wholeheartedly: Bringing Healing for Every Part of Your Soul

Find Audrey Instagram & Facebook: @DrAudreyD, Substack and website

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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I'm excited to welcome Jenna Riemersma back on the podcast for the third time to talk about her new book. She's a certified IFS therapist, bestselling author, and someone committed to making IFS accessible to everyone. Her new book, Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You, gives you a simple way to work with parts in the real world, in real time.

In This Episode

• The three-step Move Toward tool: Notice, Know, Need
• How Self Energy can transform a room of people
• What Self-led action looks like when you're in a toxic relationship or a power-down position
• Parts-led activism vs. Self-led activism
• Why moving against our own parts, and other people's parts, makes suffering worse
• IFS and addiction: why fighting parts never works long term

"Every burdened part I take care of inside of me is no longer creating impact in the world around me." -- Jenna Riemersma

Takeaways

• Move Toward is not the same as anything goes.
• Unblending changes your energy even when nothing on the outside changes. People feel it
• Self-led action includes courage, clarity, and the ability to see danger clearly, not just softness and compassion
• Parts-led activism burns you out and widens division. Self-led activism keeps your humanity intact
• People in marginalized or power-down positions need safe spaces to fully express their parts before deciding how to engage

The Book Move Toward by Jenna Riemersma | jennariemersma.com

About Jenna

Jenna Riemersma is a Certified IFS therapist and IFS Clinical Consultant who specializes in making parts work accessible. She's the best-selling author of several IFS books including Altogether You, IFS Integration, and her newly-released book, Move Toward.

Free resources, worksheets, and guided meditations available on her website and Insight Timer

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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Today I welcome to the podcast Drs. Risa Adams, Robin Beardsley, and Elizabeth Parsons. They are family physicians turned psychotherapists who came together during the pandemic to write, find community, and speak for their parts. What they found in that process and wrote about in their new book, It Doesn't Have To Be This Way: A Physician's Guide To Radical Self Care (by three physicians who've been there), is something most caregivers, doctors, healthcare workers, therapists, parents, partners, anyone who finds their worth in being needed, will recognize.

In This Episode

• The parts that helped you survive by taking care of everyone else
• Why fear and shame rarely get spoken out loud in medicine, or anywhere caregiving happens
• What finally broke each of them, and what helped
• Writing as a way to let parts be witnessed for the first time
• Why belonging and helping got tangled together so early

Takeaways

• Helper parts learned that helping was the price of belonging
• The parts that make you good at caring for others are often the same parts driving burnout
• Burnout is a signal that the strategy has run out of space
• Being witnessed by people who get it can reach parts that have never been spoken out loud
• The culture around caregiving, in medicine and elsewhere, rewards the helper and punishes the one who needs

This episode is for anyone who has ever made themselves smaller so there would be room to help.

Links:

Book: It Doesn't Have to Be This Way: A Physician's Guide to Radical Self-Care

IFS Canadian Community Conference: A two-day online gathering for professionals using Internal Family Systems in their work, and for those exploring how IFS may support their professional practice. June 5-6, 2026, online.

About the guests:

Risa Adams, MD, CCFP, is a family physician with a focused practice in perinatal mental health and complex PTSD. She is a Certified IFS Therapist, Approved Clinical Consultant and Trainer with the IFS Institute. Through her own travels with mental health she has come to appreciate the complexity of being a human while being a physician, with a special interest in intergenerational trauma. Risa lives in Elora, Ontario, with her partner and two children, and hopes to help bring IFS to doctors, patients and her own communities.

Robin Beardsley, MD, FCFP, a Family Physician with over 35 years' experience of comprehensive family medicine practice and psychotherapy with a focus on care for the caregiver. She is a certified IFS-I Therapist, approved Clinical Consultant, with extensive training in the Satir Model and is a trained teacher of Mindful Self Compassion. She also works with learners, as a faculty member of the Department of Family Medicine at the University of Ottawa, and teaches Self Compassion for Health Care Communities. These experiences of working with and healing from empathic distress in medical communities with IFS and Self-Compassion, along with her own journey of being a caregiver, personally and professionally, has given her a greater understanding of the complexity and multiplicity of our systems. She lives in Ottawa, Ontario with her husband and adult children nearby. Elizabeth Parsons, MD, FCFP, has been a physician for over 25 years, practicing psychotherapy since 2007. She is a Certified IFS therapist and an Approved Clinical Consultant with the IFS Institute. In addition to IFS, Elizabeth is trained in trauma therapy and has been facilitating psychotherapy groups since 2010. Her interest in physician well being goes back to residency, when she surveyed medical residents on their coping strategies. She has been closely involved with the Medical Psychotherapy Association Canada since 2007, launching a self-care retreat for physicians that has run annually since 2012. Elizabeth lives in Ottawa, Ontario, with her husband and 3 children. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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Today I welcome Irina Diyankova back to the podcast. Her last episode, Is It Trauma or Neurodivergence? was one of our most popular.

This time we explore what happens when "going inside" during an IFS session becomes hard for clients. She finds this is especially true with neurodivergent and C-PTSD clients.

Irina shares why externalization can be so helpful in these cases. Instead of relying only on what's happening internally, bringing things outside, like mapping, speaking out loud, connecting visually or relationally, really help.

We also talk about how IFS isn't a cookie-cutter model. We all respond differently, and part of the work is noticing what helps you stay engaged and attuned to a particular client's system.

One of my favorite segments was hearing her talk about building community inside with part-to-part relationships. This is where we help parts notice each other, listen, and begin to relate differently. These part-to-part connections are just as important in the healing process as Self-to-part.

We also talk about slowing things down in session, and how that's a small-but-critical opportunity for healing. Saying, "what you just said is important," or "tell me more about that." For many people, that kind of attention wasn't there growing up. It can feel unfamiliar, and also really supportive.

Later in the conversation, Irina shares about her experience with cancer, being in remission, and what it's been like to be with her system in the process. She talks about holding different parts at the same time, and relating to cancer not as something to fight, but something to understand.

Don't miss my short extended interview with Irina over on Substack, where she shares what's giving her hope lately.

Takeaways from this episode: • Externalizing can make parts work more accessible when staying inside feels hard

• IFS isn't one-size-fits-all; adjust based on what you need

• Slowing down and naming something as important can help people feel seen

• "Community inside" means parts noticing and relating to each other

• When Self isn't available, part-to-part connection still helps

• Orienting parts to the present can reduce overwhelm

• What helps you stay engaged when going inside feels hard?

Links:

Medium article: Dancing With Cancer

Using IFS with Complex Trauma Clients workshop

About Irina Diyankova Irina Diyankova, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and a Co-Lead Trainer. She has private practice in Knoxville, TN, USA where she specializes in working with complex trauma in adults and adolescents and intersection of trauma and neurodifferences. Irina also maintains consultation practice where she offers individual and group consultation to the IFS therapists and those who are in the process of learning IFS. Being born and raised in Russia, Irina has a special interest in applying IFS across cultures, as well as working with cultural dynamics and burdens. Irina has completed all three levels of IFS training. SHe has also conducted multiple IFS workshops and consultation groups in the US and Russia. She is very passionate and excited about IFS Model and loves sharing it with other therapists and human services professionals. In her leisure time she loves practicing yoga, hiking, traveling, reading and writing. You can learn more about her work at dr-irina.com

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Therapy Training Boston.

Therapy Training Boston offers live, in-person, and online workshops, plus consultation for therapists and other helping professionals, designed to support you as a whole person while satisfying your CE requirements. All of their offerings are taught with an eye toward context, power, and relational justice, and draw on the family systems theories and best practices that shaped the IFS model. They also offer an Intensive Certificate Program in Couples and Family Therapy to help you build confidence and capacity in community.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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On today's episode, I talk with Joanna Curry-Sartori, founder of the Self-Leadership Collaborative and author of The Self-Led Educator. We explore this idea of how to bring IFS into everyday life, to invite more Self Energy into our conversations and interactions.

Joanna teaches us her PAUSE model, a five-step process to help you slow things down and notice what's happening inside before you respond. Sometimes it's in moments where you can feel yourself starting to react, or a conversation begins to shift. Instead of pushing through, you pause, get curious about your parts, and then return to the interaction.

In This Episode We Talk About: • How to bring IFS into everyday moments • PAUSE as a way to slow down and notice what's happening inside • Using IFS in relationships, parenting, and classrooms • How to stay with your parts instead of reacting • What do you notice in yourself right before you react? • What can change when you turn inward first

About Joanna Curry-Sartori Joanna Curry-Sartori, LMFT, is the Founder and President of the Self-Leadership Collaborative. She leads work focused on bringing Internal Family Systems into everyday life—at home, at work, in schools, and in communities. With over twenty years of experience working with young people, educators, parents, and community leaders, her work centers on helping people access and live from Self leadership together.

Joanna is the author of The Self-Led Educator: An IFS Guide to Create Calm, Compassionate, and Confident Learning Communities. Learn more at www.selfleadershipcollaborative.com

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology.

Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits.

Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve.

Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

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On today's episode I welcome Nitsan Joy Gordon, a dance movement therapist, IFS practitioner, and peacebuilder who lives in Israel.

Nitsan shares about growing up in Israel, living near the border, and what it's like to live in a place where war and trauma have been part of daily life for generations.

She also tells the story of how Internal Family Systems changed her own life. A powerful experience at Esalen with Dick Schwartz inspired her to use IFS in her work back home.

Nitsan leads Together Beyond Words, an organization bringing Israelis and Palestinians together to transform pain through deep listening and connection. Her work is guided by the belief that pain that is not transformed is transmitted.

After the attacks of October 7 and the immense grief and trauma that followed, Nitsan realized the need for healing had grown beyond what her organization had been doing. Today nearly 80 volunteers are offering ongoing support, and dozens of groups have been created where Israelis and Palestinians can process trauma, grief, and fear together.

As you listen, I invite you to notice your own parts. What comes up for you as you hear these stories? What do you feel in your body?

For me, this conversation was a reminder of the power of curiosity, one-on-one connection, and the courage it takes to stay present and open in our divided world.

In This Episode We Talk About: • What it's like living in Israel today.

• Nitsan's organization Together Beyond Words, which brings Israelis and Palestinians together to transform pain through shared healing.

• The idea that "pain that is not transformed is transmitted."

• A powerful IFS session she had with Dick Schwartz.

• How the events of October 7 changed her work.

• Why people need separate spaces to grieve before they can reunite.

• When she realized the level of trauma requires an "army of healers."

• How the Healing for Peace initiative grew from a handful of volunteers to nearly 80.

• Why facilitators working in conflict zones are learning IFS tools like unblending and working with polarizations.

About Nitsan Joy Gordon Nitsan Joy Gordon is a Dance/Movement Therapist, IFS therapist, and peacebuilder who has been working in Israel/Palestine for over three decades. Her work lives at the meeting point of movement, deep listening, and compassionate presence, creating spaces where pain shaped by conflict can be felt, witnessed, and transformed. She is the author of Together Beyond Words: Women on a Quest for Peace in the Middle East and the initiator of Army of Healers, an offering of safe spaces to feel and heal across deep divides. Learn more at: Together Beyond Words.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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On today's episode I welcome psychotherapist and author Meg Josephson to the podcast.

Her book Are You Mad at Me? names something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: Did I do something wrong? Are you mad at me?

Meg and I talk about the fawn response, people-pleasing, and the parts of us that learned early on to stay ahead of conflict. We explore how "being nice" can disconnect us from ourselves, why grief and anger are essential to healing, and how mindfulness helps us slow down enough to notice what's really happening inside.

If you've ever swallowed your needs to keep the peace, felt resentful after saying yes, or worried that one mistake could cost you connection, our conversation will resonate.

We Explore: • Why "Are you mad at me?" isn't really a question, but a feeling. • The difference between being nice and being compassionate. • How grief challenges the hope that if we try harder, we'll finally be seen. • Small corrective experiences that help our parts learn we're actually safe.

Here's a link to the workshop she mentioned in the episode.

About Meg Josephson Meg Josephson, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and the author of the New York Times bestselling book Are You Mad at Me?, which has been translated into over 20 languages. In her private practice, she specializes in trauma-informed care through a mindfulness-based, compassion-focused lens. She holds a Master of Social Work from Columbia University.

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About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

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In today's episode, I welcome my friend Marcella Cox back to the podcast.

Marcella is a certified IFS therapist, approved consultant, and somatic IFS assistant trainer. She's also a certified Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) and Rest and Restore provider, and the lead author of the new guidelines for integrating IFS with these listening therapies.

We talk about:

• The basics of polyvagal theory
• How our nervous system states impact our parts
• Why co-regulation is central to healing
• The difference between SSP (connection to others) and Rest and Restore (connection to Self)
• How listening therapies can support safety in the body and allow more Self Energy to emerge

I also share my own experience trying SSP with Marcella. I experienced some surprising physical shifts and insights that came up after a few short listening sessions.

If you're curious about nervous system regulation and how it can deepen your IFS work, I think you'll really appreciate this conversation.

About Marcella Cox Marcella Cox, LMFT, is a therapist, author, and presenter devoted to exploring the intersection of embodiment, trauma healing, and eating disorder recovery. She is a Level 3 Certified IFS Therapist, an Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and an Assistant Trainer for Somatic IFS, the model developed by Susan McConnell.

She provides consultation and leads workshops, trainings, and retreats for professionals on IFS for disordered eating, Somatic IFS, and integrating IFS with the Safe & Sound Protocol and is the lead author of the IFS and Listening Therapies (Safe and Sound Protocol and Rest and Restore Protocol) Combined Delivery Guidelines, published through Unyte in January 2026.

Marcella is the founder and executive director of Kindful Body, which provides online therapy and nutrition counseling for eating and body concerns in California. She is also the co-founder of the IFS Consultation Collective, offering weekly consultation with IFS lead trainers.

To learn more about combining IFS and Unyte's listening therapies: https://integratedlistening.com/resources/ifs-and-listening-therapies/

Marcella's SSP & IFS groups: https://www.kindfulbody.com/somatic-ifs-and-ssp-group/

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Kindful Body on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kindfulbody/

Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Therapy Training Boston.

Therapy Training Boston offers live, in-person, and online workshops, plus consultation for therapists and other helping professionals, designed to support you as a whole person while satisfying your CE requirements. All of their offerings are taught with an eye toward context, power, and relational justice, and draw on the family systems theories and best practices that shaped the IFS model. They also offer an Intensive Certificate Program in Couples and Family Therapy to help you build confidence and capacity in community.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

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On today's episode I chat with Keith and Courtney, cohosts of the podcast Tripping Over Love. Keith is licensed therapist and a Level 3 IFS Consultant, and Courtney is journalist and podcaster. They joined me to share their beautiful, messy love story.

We dive into the courage it takes to start over, the "trauma" of the dating apps, and how they've used Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychedelics to navigate the "breakups, breakdowns, and breakthroughs" of their relationship .

We discuss:

• Starting relationships with truth instead of performance.
• Radical transparency — "starting with the ending" — as a foundation for trust.
• Why telling the truth early can save a relationship later.
• Loving someone while still grieving a past life.
• Speaking for parts instead of from them in moments of conflict.
• Finding the courage to try again after loss and heartbreak.
• Dating is messy: Getting honest about the "thrift store shopping" energy of dating apps.
• The difference between loving someone and being "in love."
• IFS as "four-wheel drive": Turning toward the model when relationships get stuck.
• How psychedelic-assisted journeys helped unlock grief — and create space to love again.

Extended Interview

At the end of our chat, I asked them each for one piece of advice for couples. This extended interviews is available for paid subscribers over on The One Inside Substack.

Connect with Keith and Courtney: * Podcast: Tripping Over Love * Substack

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

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On today's episode I welcome my friend David Stern to the podcast. This conversation feels so perfect right now. It's full of the kind of hope we all need. David has this beautiful way of seeing the spiritual dimension in everything we do.

David calls us to remember our "Pure Soul"—the part of us that is already peaceful and cannot be destroyed. He talks about parts as "angels in disguise," the ones inside that have taken on difficult roles to protect that inner light. If you're looking for a way to stay connected to yourself in a chaotic world, this episode is a sacred reminder that your essence is always already okay.

We Explore: * Why David looks for the unbridled aliveness in every person he meets. * Reimagining our parts as refractions of a primal, divine intelligence. * How to hold the "horrors" of the world while still choosing to love our people and stay present. * Practicing "remembrance" to help shift out of the noise and back into your heart.

About David David Stern, Psy.D. is a licensed psycholgoist, certified IFS consultant, dedicated teacher, and the creator of the Thinking Heart IFS Intensive. He also co-founded IFS Healers, an online Community of Practice designed to foster connection, deepen learning, and build community among IFS practitioners. David has trained hundreds of students worldwide and has presented at the IFS International Conference and consults with practitioners globally.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

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In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Daphne Fatter for a timely and honest conversation about what so many of us are navigating right now, as therapists, as parents, and as humans living in a polarized and chaotic time. We talk about nervous system overwhelm, numb and checked-out parts, news consumption, activism, community connection, and how to stay grounded when things feel "too much." We also touch on Daphne's new book: Integrating Internal Family Systems Interventions into EMDR Therapy.

In this episode:

• Why so many of us feel numb, frozen, or checked out right now
• Normalizing survival responses and protectors during times of stress
• How polarization shows up both culturally and inside our own systems
• Staying curious about people with different political perspectives
• Finding ways to stay informed without burning out on the news
• Why connection, shared humanity, and community matter so much right now

I get blended a few times in this episode and say, "I can't believe I said that." This is such a great example of how quickly any of us can blend with passionate and opinionated parts when navigating stressful topics.

Be sure to check out my extended interview with Daphne over on Substack.

About Daphne Daphne Fatter, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, integrative trauma consultant, author, and international speaker specializing in integrative trauma-informed therapies. She is the author of Integrating Internal Family Systems Interventions into EMDR Therapy and is widely recognized for her expertise in blending parts work with evidence-based trauma modalities.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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Today I welcome David Polidi, Bruce Hersey, and Joanne Twombly on the podcast to talk about their new book, IFS-Informed EMDR: Creative and Collaborative Appraoches.

We talk about why this book is needed, what it took to bring together more than 20 contributors, and why integrating these models can create more options, more flexibility, and more hope for clients.

We talk about:

• Bringing together 21 contributors and creating a true community project
• Why integration can help when clients get stuck in one modality
• The idea that there is a natural, underlying healing process beyond any single model
• Coping skills, resourcing, and the diverging views on when and how to use them
• Joanne's "fire drill" and using IFS to work with therapist countertransference
• Why strong foundational training in both IFS and EMDR matters before integrating them
• The belief that there is no "perfect model," and that relationship and Self Energy matter most

There's a lot of heart here, a lot of theory, and a lot of love for clients, the field, and each other. I'm excited for you to listen, and be sure to catch my extended interview with them over on Substack.

About the Guests Bruce Hersey, LCSW is widely recognized for his work integrating EMDR and IFS. Together with Michelle Richardson, he created the Syzygy Institute, which offers training and certification in IIE. Bruce is an Approved Consultant in EMDR and an IFS Approved Clinical Consultant, providing individual and group IFS and IIE consultation. He has led numerous IFS workshops and presented at the IFS International Conference, as well as EMDRIA and international EMDR conferences. www.syzygyinstitute.com, www.brucehersey.com, and www.emdrifs.com.

David Polidi, LICSW, M.Ed. is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker and a Certified EMDR Consultant in Training, and has also been trained in IFS. He has worked with children and families since 2000 and has been in private practice for the past five years. David developed and facilitates the online couples workshop Deepen the Conversation, and hosts the podcast Empowered Through Compassion, where he speaks with innovators in psychology about integrating EMDR, IFS, and other trauma-healing approaches. www.empoweredthroughcompassion.com.

Joanne H. Twombly, LICSW is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker with over thirty years of experience working with Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. She is a Certified EMDR Consultant and an IFS Certified Therapist. Joanne is a Trauma and Recovery Humanitarian Assistance Program Facilitator and a Clinical Hypnosis Consultant. She is the past president of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and has received a Distinguished Achievement Award from the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, where she is also an ISSTD Fellow. Joanne recently published Trauma and Dissociation Informed Internal Family Systems: How to Successfully Treat Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. www.joannetwombly.net.

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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Today's episode is a little different, in a really wonderful way.

I sit down with Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro, President and Vice President of the IFS Institute, and partners in both leadership and life. This isn't a traditional interview; it's more like listening in on friends and colleagues talking about the things they care about, the serious, the personal, and the very human.

I've been feeling curious about what's happening inside IFS leadership right now. The model keeps growing, reaching more people, and carrying more responsibility with it. I wanted to hear directly from Dick and Jeanne about what that growth and momentum have been like for them, not just in terms of roles and plans, but personally and as partners.

In this candid conversation, we explore questions many of you have been holding. What happens as the Institute grows? Is Dick going to retire? What does transition even look like? We talk about all of that, but in a funny, sometimes ridiculous, and very real way.

What I hope you hear is the care, thoughtfulness, and humanity behind the scenes of both the IFS Institute and the IFS model.

We talk about:

• Jeanne stepping into leadership and visibility over time
• What it means to steward a model that's bigger than any one person
• Succession, responsibility, and caring for the future of IFS
• Collaboration and "sharing the stage"
• Knowing when to take a break from "parts talk"
• Bringing IFS beyond the therapy room and into the wider world
• Holding research, spirituality, and accessibility at the same time
• Finding balance between work, partnership, family, and rest
• Favorite shows, hobbies, and Firefighter behaviors

There's a lot of warmth here, some laughter, a little potty talk, and plenty of insight.

Links:

IFS Institute

Jeanne Catanzaro

Dick Schwartz

Word of the Year on Substack

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This episode is sponsored by the Unblend.me web app. You know those moments between sessions when something comes up and you need a gentle nudge to pause, slow down and go inside? The Unblend app helps you do just that. It's IFS informed, HIPAA compliant, and guides you through checking in with your parts to calm your nervous system. Learn more and try it for free at Unblend.me

About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.
• Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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We all feel numb sometimes. Our numbing parts protect us from stress, pain, and overwhelm. But what happens when numbness lingers?

As we kick off The One Inside's seventh season, Jeff and I share what we’ve learned about working with numbing parts. We led a workshop at the recent 2025 IFS Annual Conference called Why Check In When You Can Check Out: A Self-Led Approach to Numbing Parts.

In this episode we walk you through the highlights of our workshop and share a few of the insights we brought home from the conference.

We discuss:

• What I discovered about numbness, embodiment, and grief this past year
• Numb parts are “invisible protectors” and why simply naming the numb matters
• The compounding opportunity costs of numbing and what we miss when we spend too much time checked out
• The grief of emerging from numbness
• How numbness shows up across generations and cultures
• The NUMB framework we created for reconnecting with Self

I keep returning to this slide from our deck: Our protectors think they’re saving our lives, but sometimes they’re quietly stealing our vitality.

I share a lot about my numb season, and how naming the "nothing" became a game-changer. I hope as you listen you’ll notice your own ways of checking in and checking out and name the places where numbness shows up for you.

Episode Sponsors This week’s episode is sponsored by:

Pisgah Coaching Institute: Founded by IFS-trained master coach Brian Jaudon, a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching for more than two decades. Brian and his faculty teach a blended methodology for clarifying and living into a vision of any kind. pisgahcoaching.com

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About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that’s still at the heart of all we do.

• Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, live events, meditations, and extended interviews.
• Find merch at The One Inside store.
• Listen to episodes and watch select clips on YouTube.
• Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

I create The One Inside with my friend, Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner who loves helping helpers create with confidence and clarity.

Resources * New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. * Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get “Get to Know a Should Part” right away.

Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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In today's episode, I talk with Dr. Steve Chee, an integrative East-West physician and certified IFS therapist. Steve is offering an IFS continuity program through the IFS Institute this fall called "The Sacred Nervous System," which brings together neuroscience, mysticism, and relational medicine to help people who have been told they are "too much" or "too sensitive".

In our conversation Steve shares his personal story of being a sensitive child who felt he had to hide what he loved, and the journey of finding relational safety to heal this dynamic. We discuss the importance of love as the source of healing, and how therapeutic models and theories are simply tools to help us get there.

Key takeaways:

• The connection between our nervous system and protective parts
• How a relational safety is needed for healing and for parts to come forward
• The difference between "co-regulation" and "co-revelation" and the role of love in healing
• Why the therapeutic relationship, not the model, is what truly heals
• The importance of explicitly naming love and reclaiming the sacredness of every individual

Episode Sponsor: IFS Institute

This fall, join IFS thought leader Dr. Steve Chee for a powerful journey into The Sacred Nervous System in the IFS Continuity program through the IFS Institute. Designed for those who've completed the Online Circle or an IFS Level 1 Training, this program blends somatic awareness, spiritual insight, and IFS wisdom to help you stay grounded in Self energy—no matter what life brings.

With monthly teaching videos and live sessions September - December this is your space to deepen your healing and your capacity to support others.

Enrollment is open now at ifs-institute.com. Come as you are, stay as you grow with the IFS Continuity program.

About The One Inside:

Check out The One Inside Substack community to access episodes, exclusive extended interviews, meditations and exercises, and more.

Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store

Watch video clips from select episodes on The One Inside on YouTube

Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website

Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast.

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In today's episode, I chat with David Hoffman, a lawyer, mediator, and a founding member of Boston Law Collaborative. David was named "Lawyer of the Year" in Boston, and he even teaches at Harvard!

I love how he's using IFS to help people with conflict. We talk about how IFS has shifted his focus from getting people to settle, to helping them make Self-led choices.

We discuss:

• How does a lawyer and mediator bring the language of parts into a legal setting?
• What is the "reasonable reason" behind "unreasonable behavior" in conflict?
• How can we make decisions from a place of "Self-led" wisdom rather than from our "gladiator parts?"
• How can simply naming a part change the dynamic of a conversation? David shares an example of how saying "there's a greedy part" shifted a negotiation for the better.
• How does the IFS model help us understand ambivalence and the "negotiation within" that happens before we even enter a conflict?

"There's something we can do here to enable people to manage their conflicts more successfully and to be less fearful and less hateful in the world." —David Hoffman

I absolutely loved getting to know David and I'm so glad he's bringing the IFS model to a new audience. He's also offering a new six-week IFS training for lawyers and mediators this fall through the IFS Institute with guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mke Elkin, and Fatimah Finney.

Episode Sponsor:

This episode is sponsored by the Internal Family Systems institute. Join renowned attorney and mediator David Hoffman for a six-week live workshop starting this October. Explore how the IFS model can support lawyers, mediators, and conflict professionals to lead with more clarity, compassion, and Self — with special guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mike Elkin, and Fatimah Finney, this program offers practical tools for navigating client engagement, negotiation, and ethical decision-making. Space is limited and live attendance is required. Learn more and register now at ifs-institute.com.

About David Hoffman

David Hoffman, a mediator, arbitrator, and founding member of Boston Law Collaborative, has been a leading voice in bringing the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to the legal community since 2010. He holds Level One IFS training and has co-presented with IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz. A plenary speaker at the 2022 IFSI Conference, his work has been featured in the Harvard Negotiation Law Review, where he authored a seminal article on "Mediation, Multiple Minds, and Managing the Negotiation Within." In addition to his private practice, he serves as the John H. Watson, Jr. Lecturer on Law at Harvard Law School, where he integrates the IFS model into his courses.

About The One Inside:

Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, replays of live events, meditations, and more.

Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store

Watch video clips from select episodes on The One Inside on YouTube

Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website

Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast.

To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy

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On this week's episode, I welcome Bob Falconer, Chelsea Odhner, and Jonathan Rose, the co-authors of the new book, Opening the Inner World. We dive into what it means to be both spiritual and plural. If you've ever found yourself wondering how inner work and spiritual seeking overlap, this episode is for you.

We explore:

• What happens when we bring the language of parts into our spiritual lives?
• Can the concept of "Self Energy" connect with notions of divine presence?
• How does the idea of God resonate differently for various people and their inner parts?
• How can IFS be a deeply spiritual path without becoming dogmatic?
• What do we do when belief itself feels like a burden or triggers our inner system?

Favorite Quotes:

• “When people bring in a spiritual experience or a spiritual concept, I don’t want to assume that I know what that means for them.” —Bob Falconer
• “Sometimes in spiritual direction, a part is the one that's praying. And that prayer needs to be honored and held and heard.” —Chelsea Odhner

Find their book here: Opening the Inner World

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About the Guests:

Chelsea Rose Odhner is a lifelong student of Swedenborg’s teachings with extensive professional experience synthesizing his ideas. Combined with her work as a bodyworker, and an IFS practitioner and coach, Chelsea adds a unique and informed perspective to integrating IFS therapy with the system of the spiritual world that Swedenborg describes.

Robert Falconer is a dedicated therapist and teacher of the IFS model who has contributed significantly to the field through his research and writings. His work focuses on how our minds are not just multiple, but also porous. He brings this lens to IFS, especially in the context of trauma and spiritual experiences.

Jonathan Rose is a scholar of Emanuel Swedenborg and Neo-Latin translator who has published extensively on Swedenborg’s theological and philosophical ideas. He serves as the Series Editor for the New Century Edition of Emanuel Swedenborg’s Theological Works. His expertise brings a deep spiritual dimension to the book, offering readers insights into concepts in Swedenborg’s spirituality that resonate with IFS.

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In today's episode, I talk with Michael and Leela Hunter, the creators of UpSpiral Life — a year-long program and community that combines IFS, manifestation, and neurofeedback.

We explore what manifestation really means through an IFS lens, how subconscious parts shape our experience, and why “feeling good” is a nervous system state we can track and train.

Our conversation explores how IFS intersects with manifestation, nervous system states, and the beliefs our parts hold about what’s possible.

Key takeaways:

• How parts influence what we manifest
• Self Energy as a measurable frequency
• Why some protectors are allergic to “feeling good”
• How neurofeedback can support deeper IFS work
• Shifting vibration is getting curious about what’s happening inside

Michael is the founder of UpSpiral.Life, a program and community that helps people move from burnout and disconnection into greater flow, purpose, and alignment. With a background in acupuncture and the arts, Michael guides clients through personal transformation by challenging modern conditioning and helping them reconnect with what truly matters.

Leela is an IFS therapist, consultant, and the Clinical Director of UpSpiral.Life. She supports clients in exploring limiting beliefs and emotional burdens with compassion and curiosity. As an Afghan Muslim woman with over 15 years of experience, Leela brings cultural depth and personal insight to her healing work.

Don't miss my extended interview clip with Michael and Leela on The One Inside Substack.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

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In this week’s episode, I sit down with my friend Julie Honeycutt, a licensed professional counselor, certified IFS therapist, and approved clinical consultant. Julie has been integrating faith and counseling for over 20 years, and in this conversation, we explore how our attachment styles, parts, Enneagram, and developmental stages all shape our prayer life and spiritual connection.

Julie shares that our attachment patterns and spiritual experiences are deeply linked, and how IFS offers a pathway to spirituality and how our different parts, even those with doubts

We explore the idea that prayer doesn’t have to look a certain way. It can show up in movement, in gardening, in painting, or even in those “texting prayers” we send up throughout the day. As Julie says, “What would it be like if our prayer life could reflect the unique way that God made us?”

Julie also introduces the idea of the “levels of faith” and how parts of us may sit at different levels. Some of our parts may still hold early beliefs that we’ve outgrown, but they are still worthy of attention and care.

We talk about:

• How our parts have different attachment styles in prayer
• Why anxious parts often get exiled in spirituality
• The connection between the Enneagram, personality, and prayer
• How our developmental stage impacts how we experience faith
• Why meeting ourselves in our prayer life without shame changes everything
• How gardening and movement can be a spiritual practice

Julie reminds us that all parts are welcome: “Even that part is welcome.”

About Julie: Julie Honeycutt is a licensed professional counselor, certified IFS therapist for over 15 years and an Approved Clinical Consultant for the IFS Institute. She's been practicing the integration of faith and counseling for over 20 years in her private practice as well as in workshops and retreats. Through stillness-of-mind exercises (what the early Christians called hesychasm), she guides her clients in learning how to discern God over the crowd of voices inside all our parts! And, she has a myriad of free writings and resources on her website.

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On this week's episode I'm thrilled to have my friend and colleague, Dave Adamusko, join me to demystify "direct access"—a powerful technique that allows IFS practitioners to speak directly to a client's parts.

Dave and I dive deep into why direct access is so essential, especially for clients with trauma histories or deeply blended parts who might struggle with more traditional "insight" methods. Dave leads me in a brief session to demonstrate explicit direct access, engaging with a part of me that was feeling annoyed and ignored, and we trace its origins back to a childhood experience. It was such a profound experience!

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• What "direct access" truly means, both for clinicians and for those of us simply navigating our inner worlds.
• How direct access facilitates quick unblending, befriending, and the gathering of powerful insights.
• Why practicing direct access, even with "easier" clients, is crucial for mastery (and something I'm always working on myself!).
• The fascinating connection between direct access and other experiential techniques like Gestalt empty chair and psychodrama.
• The important distinction between explicit and implicit direct access.

And be sure to check out my extended interview with Dave exclusively on Substack.

About Dave Adamusko: Dave Adamusko, LMFT is a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, and approved IFS Consultant with a private practice in Mesa, AZ. He has been involved in the IFS community since 2015 and has had the privilege of being a Program Assistant for numerous Level 1 trainings as well as a frequent PA for Frank Anderson's L2 Trauma and Neuroscience training. In addition to his therapy private practice he also works as a Guide for Onsite Workshops where he combines his passion for IFS with experiential techniques to create dynamic personal growth workshops. Dave's variety of interests and ADHD have led him to create several passion projects that include (but not limited to): IFS leadership consulting, Experiential Couples Intensives, and recently added, IFS Based Post-Psychedelic Integration Groups.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

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What if the magic in parenting doesn’t happen in the moment you get it right, but in the moment you come back and repair?

This week, I talk with educator, children’s book author, and Self-led parent Anna Purpero, and I just loved this conversation so much. Anna has two little boys and a big heart, and she shares so honestly about what happens when our protectors take over in parenting and how IFS helped her find a new way forward.

We talk about:

• What happens in our bodies when our kids fight (and why we feel like we're in danger)
• Why repair — not perfection — is the real magic
• The power of separating “who I am” from “what I do” in parenting and beyond
• How Anna uses playful language like “my volcano’s bubbling up” to talk to her kids about parts
• Why naming a part doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility...it helps kids (and grownups) take more
• Why real apologies only come after shame has lifted
• How her creative work flowed from her own healing

Anna’s book My Friends Inside is just beautiful. It’s one of those books that speaks to kids and to the little ones inside us. The language is simple, the illustrations are gorgeous, and the heart behind it? So, so good.

Anna recorded a special reading of her book just for our community and Jeff added page spreads to create a whole little experience out of it. You can find that for free exclusively on Substack.

Come meet your parts and maybe a few new friends inside.

About Anna:

Anna Purpero is an educator and children’s book author based in Columbus, OH, where she lives with her partner, Jordan, and their two sons (ages 4 and 6). She draws inspiration from her former high school Language Arts students and the teens she mentored through Paper City Mentoring Project, a nonprofit she co-founded and led as Executive Director. She is currently building on her education, including SEL coursework from Fresno Pacific University and training through the Self-Leadership Collaborative. She hopes to continue to use art to facilitate experiential learning and inspire children to hold tight to their dignity and spark. Her debut picture book, My Friends Inside, is available now!

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Britt Frank escaped a cult, rebuilt her life after addiction, and is one of the most grounded, funny, and inspiring IFS speakers and educators around.

In this week’s episode, we talk about her new book Align Your Mind, and how parts work helped her move from chaos to clarity.

We get into all of it...motivation, procrastination, inner critics, cults, menopause, and what alignment looks like beyond the buzzwords.

Britt shares how she uses parts language in her own life, how she reframes procrastination as protection, and why your most extreme parts might actually be your best coaches.

She also opens up about what it’s like to come out of systems of control and begin to trust your own experience again. As Britt says, “Our parts don’t want us to feel better. They want us to feel safe.”

If you’ve ever felt stuck or like your parts are pulling you in opposite directions, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What alignment really means (hint: it’s not a vibe)
• How procrastination isn’t laziness; it’s a protective part trying to help
• Why “Self Energy is not codependency in a pretty dress”
• Reframing the inner critic as your best coach
• What it means to “coach your parts like a team”
• How parts work can reframe midlife and menopause as meaningful transitions
• Parts work as a way to “rewrite the script” with compassion and clarity

Favorite Quote:

“I want to talk to the parts of you that are doing weird things and say, ‘You're not crazy. You're a person with an activated nervous system, and there's a reason why this is happening.’” – Britt Frank

Be sure to catch my extended interview with Britt over on Substack, where she talks about her complicated relationship with "hope" -- and what she reaches for instead.

About Britt: Britt Frank, LCSWS, SEP, is an IFS Level 3 therapist, keynote speaker, and the author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind. She’s trained in Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing and is a contributing columnist to Psychology Today. Her work has been featured in Forbes, NPR, Fast Company, Psych Central, SELF, and Thrive Global.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

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In this week's episode I welcome three guests--Robin Barre, Ann-Katrin Bockmann, and Kasra Mirzaie--to talk about IFS and working with teenagers.

We explore how IFS often skips over this phase of life, both in how we work with clients and how we relate to our own inner adolescent parts. We tend to romanticize childhood or focus on early wounding, yet there’s a lot of cringing and avoiding when it comes to the teenage years. Adolescence is where so much transformation happens. It’s where meaning gets made. It’s when parts start to emerge with passion, intensity, and voice.

My guests are each doing beautiful work in the world to support teens. Our teens (and teen parts) need room to grow, roll their eyes, slam doors, and ask big existential questions. This episode makes space for and sense of it all.

We talk about normalizing rebellion, exploring identity, meaning making, and listening deeply to the parts of ourselves and our teens who are still figuring it all out. We also talk how IFS can overlook the developmental and cultural realities of adolescence.

This conversation left me feeling full of insight and hope. Speaking of hope, be sure to check out my extended interview with this trio over on The One Inside on Substack, where they each share what is giving them hope right now.

In this episode, we explore: * Why adolescence often gets skipped over in parts work * What we miss when we pathologize normal adolescent development and behavior * The meaning crisis and mental health crisis we are currently experiencing * The difference between burdens and suffering that transforms * Why validation is essential for connecting with teens * How Self-Led parenting looks different during the teen years

Questions to carry with you: * What would it be like to revisit your inner teenager with curiosity? * Which of your parts “woke up” during adolescence? * What did you need then, and how might you offer it now?

About my guests: Ann-Katrin Bockmann, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist and speech therapist, certified IFS and Somatic IFS therapist, IFS approved clinical consultant and Co Lead Trainer for the IFS Institute. She works at the Institute of Psychology at Hildesheim University (Germany) and in private practice.

Kasra Mirzaie is a licensed psychotherapist, research assistant, and teacher in Germany who works with people of all ages in diverse psychological, educational and medical contexts.

Robin Barre is a Level 3 trained IFS psychotherapist and approved consultant. She also is a professional consultant for those who provide services for adolescents.

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I’m so thrilled to welcome Dick Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), back to the podcast, as well as my friend Ocean, who brings her voice and lived experience to this important conversation.

Today, we explore the intersection between IFS and the plural community--those living with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) and OSDD (Other Specified Dissociative Disorders). What’s the difference between DI parts and the IFS parts many of us talk about? How can we bridge misunderstandings between the IFS community and those living with more distinct parts?

This conversation was deeply moving and healing. I’m so grateful to both Dick and Ocean for their honesty, wisdom, and compassion.

In this episode, we explore: * The differences and overlap between DI parts and IFS parts * Why the plural community has sometimes felt unseen and misunderstood by IFS * The harm in labeling parts as managers, firefightes and exiles * The complicated relationship many survivors have with Self Energy * Strategies for working with systems shaped by deep trauma * Why trust, patience, and honoring every part is a prerequisite to healing

Be sure to watch the extended video interview with Dick and Ocean over on our Substack.

Favorite Quotes: “IFS was never meant to pathologize people. It was meant to honor the fact that all of us are multiple, and that those parts aren’t what they seem.” — Dick Schwartz "There’s a huge difference between saying, 'Your parts are managers, firefighters, and exiles,' and saying, 'I’m noticing some of your parts seem to be taking on these roles to protect you.'" — Ocean About Tiffany "Ocean" Morgan Tiffany Morgan (Ocean) is a Certified IFS therapist, consultant, and educator with lived experience of OSDD (Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder). She specializes in eating disorders, complex PTSD, and dissociative disorders, and brings over 30 years of experience to her work supporting deep healing and system-wide trust.

She is passionate about destigmatizing DID, neurodivergence, and the multiplicity of mind. She creates compassionate, inclusive spaces where all parts are welcome and seen. She also shares resources and reflections through her platform, tidesoftransformation.com, and co-sponsors the podcast A Couple of Multiples.

About Richard "Dick" Schwartz Dr. Richard Schwartz is the founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy., He is the author of several books, including No Bad Parts and You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, and continues to lead workshops and trainings worldwide through the IFS Institute.

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On today's episode I chat with Susan Stiffelman, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, parenting coach, and host of the Parenting Without Power Struggles podcast. We talk about parts, of course. Parenting parts. Spiritual seeker parts. Inner children who hide behind locked doors. And how she gently helps people return to center.

Susan shares stories from her work and from her own life, including how she stayed connected to herself (and her child) during a divorce, and why she believes parenting is one of life's most profound trailheads.

Key takeaways from this episode: * What happens when we parent from our “hijacked” parts * The power of staying tethered to ourselves, even when our kids are dysregulated * How to move out of the “fixer” role and into the calm anchor our kids need * What’s underneath those big reactions? * Why she says: “We are a society of disembodied people”

• What parts of you get activated when your child is dysregulated or distressed?
• Can you be curious about the fear underneath your frustration?
• What would it mean to “sit in the fire” without jumping in to fix it?

Susan welcomed me on her podcast recently to talk all things parenting + IFS, which I hope you'll check out as well. Register for our live Self-Led Parenting Masterclass happening May 1, 2025 (replay available) Favorite quote: “This isn’t about parenting, it’s about the journey of coming home to our true nature.” -- Susan Stiffelman About Susan Stiffelman Susan Stiffelman is a licensed Marriage, Family, and Child Therapist and the author of Parenting Without Power Strugglesand Parenting With Presence (an Eckhart Tolle Edition). She helps parents become the calm, confident “Captain of the ship”. Susan hosts a popular podcast with over 1.5 million downloads and offers online classes and memberships with guest experts like Dan Siegel, Byron Katie, and Gabor Maté.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

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On today’s episode I meet Jessica Laurel Kane, a writer, illustrator, and storyteller whose new book, Once Upon an Upset: Illustrated Stories, Insights, and Reflections to Help Parent Our Children While Re-Parenting Ourselves, captures the spirit of Internal Family Systems in such an authentic and creative way.

Jessica isn’t formally trained in IFS, but she lives it and teaches it through her stories, illusrations, and books. She discovered IFS organically during a slient retreat and got to know her inner world by interviewing her parts--like characters in a story.

Her work shows how imagination can be a healing tool. She makes “being with your parts” feel accessible, visual, and real. This episode is about the power of healing through storytelling, and I think you’re going to love hearing Jessica tell hers.

Key Takeaways: * “I treated myself the way I was treated.” Jessica describes how growing up with neglect led to internal self-neglect and how getting to know her parts shifted that pattern. * How a 10-day silent retreat helped her meet the younger selves she’d been avoiding, and why she started interviewing them like characters in a story. * “Only you get to say when you’ll give birth to your creative self.” Jessica shares how parts of us often hold the key to our creativity and our stuckness. * Parenting as a mirror: how Jessica hears old internal voices while parenting her son, and how she learned to pause, check in, and choose a different path. * “The glue is compassion.” A conversation about looping thoughts, panic attacks, and what it takes to rewire old stories with new ones. * How her late mother planted the seeds for the parts work and self trust Jessica now uses to nurture herself and her son.

Favorite Quote: "Sometimes I search desperately outside of myself for a place to rest and be still, forgetting that this place is inside of me."—Jessica Laurel Kane

About Jessica Jessica Laurel Kane is the author of several books, most recently: Leaving Cleveland: A Memoir, The Boy with the Heavy Suitcase (a picture book) and Once Upon an Upset: Illustrated Stories, Insights and Reflections to Help Parent Our Children While Reparenting Ourselves. She lives in Upstate New York with her husband and son.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

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On today’s podcast, I chat with Dr. Irina Diyankova, certified IFS therapist, IFS clinical consultant, and Lead Trainer with the IFS Institute. We explore the fascinating intersection of IFS and neurodivergence, a topic she knows intimately from both her lived and professional experience.

We talk about time blindness, sensory sensitivities, what gets mistaken for trauma but might be hardwiring, and how IFS therapists can differentiate. We also get into self-accommodation, the limits of coping skills, and why healing through IFS is a lifelong journey.

I loved my conversation with Irina and felt uplifted and inspired by her beautiful Self Energy. I’m excited to bring this episode to you.

✨ Don’t miss my extended video interview with Irina on The One Inside Substack. You’ll also find a gentle, creative meditation Irina led designed especially for neurodiverse folks to connect with parts of their nervous system. Bring crayons and curiosity.

Key Takeaways: * “Healing doesn't always bring rainbows and butterflies.” Irina talks about the moment she realized her nervous system challenges weren’t just about unhealed trauma. * How do you tell the difference between parts and hardwiring? Irina walks us through how she listens for what’s left after unburdening and what that might mean. * “Coping skills that work for others might not work for you—and that’s not a failure.” * Why traditional therapeutic approaches (like exposure therapy) can be harmful for neurodivergent clients—and what to do instead. * “I have to accommodate myself.” Irina shares how self-acceptance and sensory regulation opened up a whole new window of tolerance. * We also talk about Irina’s upcoming book, Becoming an IFS Therapist: A Journey to One’s Self, which offers practices and reflections for IFS therapists.

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About Dr. Irina Diyankova Dr. Irina Diyankova is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, and Lead Trainer with the IFS Institute. She specializes in the treatment of psychological trauma and related conditions, including PTSD, Dissociative Disorders, and Anxiety and Mood Disorders. Based in Tennessee, Irina offers professional consultations, workshops, and trainings for mental health professionals interested in learning the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. She is also an IFS Approved Clinical Consultant, known for her thoughtful, neurodiversity-affirming approach to teaching and therapy.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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On today’s podcast, I chat with Ashley Booth, a psychedelic-assisted psychotherapist, trainer, researcher—and former oceanographer! Ashley’s new book, Quieting the Storm Within: A Simple, Intuitive Guide to Your Inner World, is beautifully written and illustrated, accessible, and deeply rooted in IFS.

We talk about why she chose to create a picture book for adults, how parts mapping can be playful and powerful, and how IFS and psychedelics both point us toward connection with our parts, with the natural world, and with something larger than ourselves.

Ashley shares her journey from marine science to healing work, the grief that led her there, and the awe and Self Energy that keep her grounded in the work today.

Key Takeaways: * “IFS is such a visual model.” Ashley talks about why she chose to make a picture book for adults and how dyslexia, digital art, and parts mapping all played a role. * What is the “parts unstack” exercise and how can it help externalize what’s happening inside? * “All parts are either the steward of a need or trying to get that need met.” Ashley walks us through her reframing of protectors as helpers and the importance of naming needs with compassion. * How her own psychedelic experiences influenced the metaphors in the book, and how IFS supports integration and meaning-making. * “Self is the conduit.” Ashley shares how visual reminders, art, and little moments of awe can help us reconnect to Self Energy in everyday life.

Favorite Quote: "We all need to be able to connect with the love and the compassion that's available to all of us that doesn't judge. And our parts need to be held by that, right? And our Self is the conduit for that to happen." – Ashley Booth

About Ashley Booth Ashley Booth, LCSW, is a psychedelic-assisted psychotherapist, IFS practitioner, researcher, and educator. She’s the author of Quieting the Storm Within: A Simple, Intuitive Guide to Your Inner World, releasing in March 2025. Ashley is also the founder of IFS and Beyond, where she offers consultation, integration, and teaching at the intersection of Internal Family Systems and psychedelic therapy.

A former oceanographer, Ashley brings deep curiosity and reverence for nature into her work, helping people reconnect with their inner and outer worlds. Learn more at ifsandbeyond.com or ashleybooth.net.

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Curious what Internal Family Systems looks like in action? Join IFS Demoz, a live demonstration series led by IFS pioneer Mike Elkin. Each week, Mike takes on real-world challenges through one-on-one role play, modeling IFS techniques in real time. Whether you're new to IFS or a seasoned practitioner, these sessions offer powerful insights into how the model truly works. Each demo includes an open, inclusive Q&A—so bring your curiosity. Live sessions happen weekly on Zoom, and recordings are available to all registrants.

Inner World Collective

A supportive community can change everything when you're learning and applying the IFS model. The Collective is an online space for IFS therapists and practitioners to connect with like-minded professionals, build confidence, refine their skills, and feel truly supported as they bring IFS into their clinical work. Inside, you'll find expert consultation, supervised and peer-led practice groups, monthly guest speakers, recorded demos and demo groups, and Self-led workshops—all designed to help you flourish as an IFS practitioner.

About The One Inside: Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, meditations and exercises, and more.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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On today’s podcast, I chat with Tanis Allen, a certified IFS therapist and longtime member of the IFS community. Tanis has been around since the earliest days of the model, and she just released a new book called The Self-Led IFS Workbook: Learn IFS Skills to Understand and Love All Your Parts published by Penguin Random House.

We talk about her early experiences learning IFS in the ‘90s, her work with clients struggling with suicidality and eating disorders, and what it was like to write a book that makes the model accessible to everyone. Tanis shares insights on how to begin IFS on your own, the challenge of translating an oral and experiential tradition into clear written steps, and her favorite exercise for working with stuck parts.

Key Takeaways: * “Your awareness is the beginning of Self.” Tanis explains how simply noticing what’s happening in your body or mind is the first step into the IFS process. * How do you know you’re in a part? Tanis breaks down how to begin this work, even if you’re doing it on your own. * “IFS is such a strong community… we sit in circles together and learn this together.” Tanis reflects on the power of shared learning and the influence of the “wise women” who helped shape the model. * Why she added her own transcripts of parts work to the book, and what she discovered about herself through writing them. * Her favorite exercise (the Four Drawing Exercise) and why it’s so transformational for working with stuck parts.

Favorite Quote: “Clients will often ask me, you know, does this make me like a multiple personality person or something? And, you know, the answer is no, we're all made this way, actually. And it does feel kind of weird sometimes. But the more we do it, the more we practice it, the less weird it feels." -- Tanis Allen

About Tanis Allen Tanis Allen, LMSW, ACSW, is the author of The Self-Led Internal Family Systems Workbook: Learn to Use IFS Skills to Understand and Love All Your Parts. A member of the IFS community for over 25 years, Tanis has spent her career practicing, teaching, and living the IFS model. She serves as a mentor and IFS clinical consultant for other therapists and is the founder and director of the IFS Great Lakes Retreat, a beloved annual gathering held each fall in northern Michigan.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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On today’s podcast, I chat with two brilliant IFS lead trainers, Pam Krause and Crystal Jones. We learn about their journeys to becoming IFS lead trainers, the evolution of the model's cultural awareness and inclusivity, and what it’s been like to co-lead the newly updated IFS Online Circle together. We also dip our toes into a little controversy—should we skip the 6Fs?

I loved hearing from them what it means to stay grounded in the core of the model while continuing to expand and evolve with care, community, and curiosity.

Key Takeaways: * “The core of the model has not changed at all.” Pam and Crystal reflect on how the IFS model has stayed steady while the perspectives, voices, and applications have continued to expand. * How do different cultures experience Self Energy? What happens when we listen for joy, dance, chi, and loyalty as expressions of Self? * How the model is evolving as more identities enter the space, adding richness and context. * The 6 F’s: should we still teach them? Pam and Crystal give context, clarity, and some new language around how and why the F’s are helpful—especially for beginners. * How the model teaches the steps to reach clients’ protectors. * We also explore mentoring, teaching, and the beautiful full-circle (pun intended!) relationship Pam and Crystal have developed through years of working together.

Favorite Quote: “People are saying how they want to see themselves in the model, right? They want to see how it applies to them. And if we are not aware of our clients' identities, then we might miss it if we're looking for the eight C’s.” – Crystal Jones

📺 Check out my extended video interview with Crystal and Pam over on Substack.

About the Guests:

Crystal R. Jones is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Lead IFS-I Trainer who passionately shares the healing essence of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model worldwide. She is known for her embodied compassion, relatability, and heart-led approach to this transformative work. Crystal is deeply dedicated to creating safe, affirming spaces for marginalized communities—particularly Black women and women of color—where they can feel connected, seen, heard, and valued as they embark on their healing journeys, both individually and collectively. With a fervent commitment to equity and accessibility, Crystal teaches the IFS model in a way that speaks to the global majority, ensuring its adaptability, inclusivity, and relevance across diverse populations.

Pamela Krause, MSW, LCSW, is a Certified IFS Therapist who began her journey with IFS in 1998. She is a Senior Lead Trainer for the Internal Family Systems Institute, where she created and ran two Leadership Training Programs in addition to teaching all three levels of trainings. Her sub-specialty is adapting the IFS model for adolescents and younger children, a topic which she developed a Level 2 training program in partnership with Carmen Jimenez-Pride.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.

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On today’s podcast we celebrate 200 episodes of The One Inside!

I take the guest’s seat as my podcasting partner and co-producer, Jeff Schrum, leads the interview. We reflect on six seasons of guests, the show's impact on my life and work with clients, and why unblending is the real magic of IFS. We also dive into creative projects on the horizon, including my new mini-book on numbness and launching The One Inside Substack community.

Key Takeaways: * Jeff and I talk about the fun behind the scenes of finding guests, editing interviews, creating show notes and graphics, and releasing an episode. * My favorite part of the IFS model, and how I use it in my daily life. * How six years of hosting this podcast has shaped not just my work, but my personal life and how I relate to my own parts. * “Unblending is the hard part.” We get into why unblending is the heart of the IFS model, and how simply creating space between parts can be transformational. * My controversial opinion on unburdenings. * “There are a million reasons not to do the thing.” We talk about parts that hold us back from starting creative projects—whether it’s a podcast, book, or blog—and how to work with them. * My likes and dislikes...like how I like unblending, and how I dislike when my parts won’t unblend. See also: maple syrup, apple cider, and movie theater popcorn. * "If I waited every other week to meet with my IFS therapist, IFS wouldn’t be in my bones. You have to be doing this every day. Even if it’s just small moments of awareness. That’s the work."

This episode is full of laughs, reflection, and some behind-the-scenes stories you haven’t heard before. I hope you enjoy it!

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 2 practitioner.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

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On today’s podcast, I chat with Ruth Culver, a Level 3 trained and certified IFS practitioner. We look at Ruth’s Survive and Thrive Spiral, a visual map that connects the nervous system and IFS in a way that just makes sense. We also talk about her work with IFS Constellations, a group process that brings parts work into a shared, somatic experience, and Drawing into Self, a creative way to explore and externalize parts through colors, lines, and shapes.

Key Takeaways: * “Parts all have stories, don’t they?” Ruth explains how mapping parts onto her Survive and Thrive Spiral can help people unblend and understand their nervous system responses. * How can we recognize if we’re in Flop, Fix, or Flow? Ruth introduces these simple but powerful words to track nervous system states and move toward Self Energy. * We can be in multiple nervous system states at the same time. * Ruth describes how different parts may be in fixing mode, collapsing mode, or Self Energy mode—all at once. * How does IFS Constellations allow for deeper healing? Ruth shares how this group process creates profound moments of witnessing, connection, and transformation. * What happens when we let parts express themselves through drawing? Ruth walks us through Drawing into Self, a process that invites parts to communicate beyond words.

Favorite Quote: "So, to me, the healing process is story-based, and it is imaginative. At the core of healing is a reimagining. And that’s what we can do with story." – Ruth Culver

About Ruth: Ruth Culver is a Level 3 trained & Certified IFS Practitioner based in Brighton UK, working with adolescents, adults and groups in private practice. After 25 years in charity event management, she burned out, re-trained as a hypnotherapist then found IFS in 2017. Her passion for embodiment and externalisation has led to 3 IFS integrations: 1. The Survive/Thrive Spiral: 2. IFS Constellations, and 3. Drawing into Self. Episode Sponsor: Pisgah Coaching Institute Check out The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store

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On today's episode I chat with Jodie Benveniste, an IFS-trained psychologist and author. Through her personal healing journey using IFS she discovered how fiction writing and storytelling can be a powerful path to self-understanding and emotional healing.

Jodie and I talk about her debut novel, Never, Not Ever, a YA romance that integrates IFS therapy into the story. We explore how fiction can serve as a safe space for transformation, why romance novels tap into Self Energy, and how the creative process mirrors the IFS journey. This conversation is all about the power of stories—both the ones we tell ourselves and the ones we read. I think you’re going to love it!

Key Takeaways: * “Parts all have stories, don’t they?” Jodie shares how working with her parts allowed her to embrace fiction writing and how characters in a novel are not so different from the inner characters we meet in IFS. * How does storytelling create a safe container for healing? * Story is a powerful adjunct to IFS therapy * “I had a teen part who made me watch a rom-com 20 times!” -- How reconnecting with her younger parts helped shape her writing process. * Teen fiction can support adult mental health, too! * Why romance is the world’s most popular genre—and how it invites readers to expand their hearts and tap into Self Energy. * What can we learn from the stories our parts tell us? Jodie and I reflect on how parts hold onto old narratives and how fiction can help us imagine new possibilities. * How fiction can invite teens to learn about and explore mental health topics, destigmatizing therapy and showing how healing happens.

Favorite Quote: "So, to me, the healing process is story-based, and it is imaginative. At the core of healing is a reimagining. And that’s what we can do with story." – Jodie Benveniste

About Jodie: Jodie Benveniste is an author and psychologist who writes heart-expanding young adult contemporary romance. She writes about love and friendships, family relationships, wellbeing, and mental health healing, introducing readers to their amazing inner world and its incredible depths. She’s been a psychologist in private practice, trusted parenting expert, organizational consultant, academic researcher, and Chair of the Board of an Independent School. But, at heart, she’s always been a writer. She now writes entertaining, unputdownable and heart-expanding fiction that has healing at its heart.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 2 practitioner.

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On today's episode, I'm joined by Lara Krawchuk, a grief expert and IFS certifed therapist, to explore how the Internal Family Systems model helps us understand and tend to grief. We discuss continuing bonds, meaning making, ambiguous loss, grief-worthy losses, and unbraiding current loss from exiled trauma. While I have parts that avoid thinking about and discussing grief, Lara offers such a hopeful perspective on the grieving process and I'm so excited to share this episode with you.

Key Takeaways:

• Grief is not about severing bonds, but shifting how we relate to them.
• Disenfranchised grief, like the end of a relationship or loss of health, is grief-worthy too.
• Grief invites us to explore the deeper meaning behind our losses and what they reveal about ourselves.
• Grief is both/and -- we are allowed to feel both grief and joy.
• Welcoming grief, rather than trying to "move on," is crucial for healing.
• Turn towards grieving parts and allow them the space to be heard and honored.
• The importance of "unbraiding" exiled pain from present losses: "Does the part know this is different from the original Exile is has always protected?"
• Continued bonds with those we've lost can be a profound source of comfort.

Favorite Quote: "Self is not freaked out by grief. Self is an exquisite witness to all pain." — Lara Krawchuk

About Lara: Lara Krawchuk is the owner and clinical director of Healing Concepts in West Chester, Pennsylvania, and the co-founder of Healing Perspectives, a continuing education resource for helping professionals looking to heal themselves, help their clients, and heal a broken-hearted world. She is an IFS certified therapist and consultant, a speaker, adjuct professor, and author with a passion for supporting those living with grief.

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.

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In this episode I chat with Ralph De La Rosa, a meditation teacher, therapist, and author of Outshining Trauma. Ralph shares his personal journey of healing from PTSD, depression, and addiction, and how IFS helped him access Self Energy beyond traditional meditation.

Key Takeaways:

• Self Energy and Buddhist concepts like Buddha-nature share striking similarities.
• Meditation can be a powerful tool for parts work, offering a structured way to access Self.
• What happens when Self meets our most burdened parts?
• Self Energy as a reparenting force
• Instead of rejecting painful emotions or defensive parts, he encourages holding them with warmth, like placing them in the sunlight of Self.
• Trauma constricts and healing expands
• Start with Self rather than diving directly into the pain.
• Parts are just like people
• Radical self-compassion as meeting every part of ourselves—including the ones that hold fear, addiction, or pain—with love, rather than trying to suppress or fix them.
• Reparenting happens naturally when we turn toward our parts with compassion.

Favorite Quote: "One thing I’ve learned from direct experience of Self is that it can expand to be bigger than any level of heartache, any sense of brokenness, any sense of wounding, no matter how deep, no matter how wide, no matter how big. Self-energy can expand to fill the entire room you’re sitting in. If you practice with it, if you practice with it and your parts, we could begin to trust that." – Ralph De La Rosa

About Ralph De La Rosa: Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and author of Outshining Trauma: A New Vision of Radical Self-Compassion. His work integrates IFS, neuroscience, and Buddhist wisdom to help people navigate healing and transformation.

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On today’s episode I chat with Rick Kahler, a pioneer in integrating financial planning and psychology and a certified IFS practitioner. We explore how Internal Family Systems can transform our relationship with money, uncovering hidden beliefs and legacy burdens that shape financial behaviors.

Rick shares his journey from financial planner to financial therapist, explaining how emotions—not logic—drive most financial decisions. He introduces key concepts like money scripts, financial protectors, and the internal financial system, showing how understanding these parts can help people move from financial stuckness to greater clarity and freedom.

Key Takeaways:

• Money isn’t just about numbers—it’s deeply tied to our emotions, beliefs, and childhood experiences.
• Many financial struggles come from polarized parts—a part that wants to save and a part that wants to spend.
• How do money scripts—unconscious beliefs about money—shape our financial decisions without us even realizing it?
• Financial shame is often greater than other types of shame, making finances one of the hardest topics to talk about.
• Legacy burdens around money are passed down through generations, influencing our financial behaviors in ways we may not recognize.

Favorite Quote: "Every part has a good intention. Every money script is put in place, every burden is put in place with a good intention…it just doesn’t know things are a little different now." – Rick Kahler​

About Rick Kahler: Rick Kahler is a certified financial planner, financial therapist, and IFS practitioner. He is a founding board member and past chair of the Financial Therapy Association and the creator of IFS-Informed Financial Therapy. Rick has authored seven books and hosts The Financial Therapy Podcast.

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On today’s episode I’m joined by John Palmer, a certified IFS practitioner and lead trainer in Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO). John brings 30 years of experience working with individuals and couples to explore how IFIO applies the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to intimate relationships.

We discuss relational dynamics, including the concept of tracking sequences, differentiation, and how past experiences influence present connections.

Key Takeaways:

• IFIO uses IFS principles to help individuals and partners explore relational dynamics and improve communication.
• Differentiation is the ability to stay connected to your own system while maintaining connection with your partner, even during conflict.
• How protectors and exiles show up in relational dances
• The importance of taking responsibility for one’s own parts in a relationship while remaining open to connection with a partner
• How practicing Self-Led communication can transform conflict into opportunities for healing and growth.
• How do past experiences shape the way we respond to our partners in the present?
• Tracking sequences in relationships reveals the protective cycles that keep partners stuck and highlights the underlying vulnerabilities driving conflict.

Favorite Quote: "There's actually some vulnerability under there that's driving this dance. And if we can learn how to help the protectors trust enough of Self to let that vulnerability emerge and be looked at and healed, then the protectors don't have to do what they do anymore." – John Palmer​

About John Palmer: John Palmer is a certified IFS practitioner, IFIO lead trainer, and couples therapist with three decades of experience. He integrates IFS with systemic relational approaches to help individuals and partners build stronger, more compassionate connections.

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Enjoy this bonus meditation led by Dr. Peter Malinoski. In this experiential he invites you to go inside and connect with your parts to understand their assumptions, experiences, and beliefs around love.

Be sure to check out my full interview (episode 190) with Peter here.

About Dr. Peter Malinoski: Dr. Peter Malinoski is a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, a platform dedicated to integrating the best of psychology and Catholicism. He also hosts the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast and leads the Resilient Catholics Community, helping others navigate faith and mental health with depth and compassion.

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On today’s episode I chat with Dr. Dan Siegel, renowned author and founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology, and my friend, Joan Ryan, Enneagram expert and educator. We explore the intersection of the Enneagram, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Dan’s Patterns of Developmental Pathways (PDP) model. Our conversation dives into the science behind personality, the pathways that shape our inner worlds, and the ongoing journey toward integration and wholeness.

Dan explains how his PDP model offers a scientific lens to understand personality dynamics, while the Enneagram and IFS provide tools for personal exploration and healing. They discuss how personality acts as a filter. Key Takeaways:

• Personality is a dynamic filter shaped by temperament, experience, and protective strategies.
• The PDP model identifies three core motivational vectors: agency, bonding, and certainty.
• How do the Enneagram and IFS complement each other in helping us explore and integrate our inner worlds?
• Protectors and exiles align with motivational pathways, and how integration allows us to move from survival strategies to thriving.
• Integration invites us to shift from limiting patterns into greater freedom and possibility.
• Wholeness is not about escaping personality but embracing all parts of who we are.
• "Your home base is wholeness. But personality is kind of just a filter that keeps you at times from experiencing that wholeness." – Dr. Dan Siegel

Episode sponsor: Sentur

About the Guests:

Dr. Dan Siegel is the Founder and Director of Education of the Mindsight Institute and founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA, where he was also Co-Principal Investigator of the Center for Culture, Brain and Development and Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the School of Medicine. An award-winning educator, Dan is the author of five New York Times bestsellers and over fifteen other books which have been translated into over forty languages. Learn more about Dr. Siegel at: www.drdansiegel.com | www.mindsightinstitute.com

Joan Ryan is an Enneagram educator and therapist specializing in integrating the Enneagram and IFS for deeper personal growth. https://creativecollaborations.net

Links: To register for the three week intro class: Connecting IFS with the Enneagram and PDP: new lenses to explore - Creative Collaborations IFS and The Enneagram Joan and Tammy's Enneagram Courses To find your type/patterns: Tools - Creative Collaborations Listen to other episodes from Joan and Tammy ___________________________________________

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On today’s episode I welcome Gabby Bernstein back to the podcast. Gabby is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and Level 2 trained IFS practitioner. We dive into her new book, Self Help, which introduces readers to IFS in an accessible and transformative way.

Gabby shares how working with managers in a safe and gentle way can help readers connect to Self Energy and begin their healing journey. We talk about manifesting through IFS, the importance of unblending from parts, and how small glimmers of Self can create lasting change.

Key Takeaways:

• Self Help is designed to make IFS accessible to readers unfamiliar with the model, offering a gentle introduction to working with protectors.
• Recognizing and respecting protectors can create a safe foundation for growth.
• Manifesting through IFS involves healing belief systems and adjusting your internal world, creating freedom and alignment with Self Energy.
• "Curiosity is contagious and has momentum—it’s enough to bring people back for more."
• How can small moments of connection with Self lead to lasting transformation?

About Gabby Bernstein: For more than eighteen years, Gabby Bernstein has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned ten books, including Self Help, The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and Happy Days. Gabby was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “new thought leader.” The New York Times identified Gabby as “a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers.” In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality. For more, visit https://gabbybernstein.com/events

Episode sponsors:

• IFS Telehealth Collective
• Pisgah Coaching Institute

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Episode Summary: On today's episode I welcome back to the podcast Dick Schwartz, founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. We had such an important conversation that I'm excited to share with you.

We begin remembering Derek Scott, who passed in February. Dick offers new details on the rupture and repair of their professional relationship over the years, and reflects on the moving final session they shared weeks before Derek's passing. (If you haven't watched the video yet, I highly recommend you do -- it's beautiful). Dick opened up about his concerns and the challenges of maintaining the integrity and safety of the IFS model while balancing the high demand for trainings. He also discussed his personal journey of integrating spirituality more into his writing and work. Dick shared his vision for the future of IFS, including continuing to expand its reach beyond traditional therapy and into leadership, education, politics, and articifical intelligence (AI). We ended on a fun and sweet note: he reminisced about meeting his wife, Jeanne, and the beginning of their relationship.

Key Takeaways:

• Derek Scott's passion for making IFS accessible left a lasting legacy.
• IFS continues expanding into non-clinical domains, including leadership training, educational systems, and AI-driven tools
• How to maintain the "do no harm" ethos of IFS as it grows and evolves
• The difficult decision to tighten IFS training admissions requirements
• Plans for brinigng IFS more into the public domain
• Dick discusses the potential of IFS to address legacy burdens collectively, envisioning a broader cultural impact.
• Spirituality in IFS: helping individuals connect to guides and Self Energy in deeper ways.
• Dick plans to be much more explicit about IFS in areas like spirituatlity and psychedlics
• The IFS model's potential to transform individuals and society--a ripple effect
• His version of the first meeting and long-distance courtship with his wife Jeanne (her version is here)

Favorite Quote: "How often do you get a chance to help somebody you care about transition like that?" – Dick Schwartz

About Dr. Richard "Dick" Schwartz: Dick Schwartz is the founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a groundbreaking therapeutic model. He continues to innovate and expand the reach of IFS, working with leaders, educators, and therapists to bring its healing potential to a broader audience.

Episode Sponsor: Michelle Glass and the Daily Part Meditation Practice®: a Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists

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On today's episode I speak with my friend and fellow podcaster Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Peter shares his journey of integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) with his Catholic faith, and building bridges between these two communities through his work with the Resilient Catholics Community and his Interior Integration for Catholics podcast channel on YouTube

We talk about understanding parts, healing attachment wounds, and embracing love. At around 26 minutes in Peter offers a wonderful experiential exercise/meditation where he invites you to go inside and connect with your parts to understand their assumptions, experiences, and beliefs around love.

Key Takeaways:

• IFS provides a powerful healing framework that integrates beautifully with Catholic spirituality.
• Why is it often so difficult for parts to feel safe being loved or offering love?
• Protectors can play critical roles in bridging internal and external relationships when approached with curiosity and respect.
• Healing relational wounds begins with internal harmony—inviting all parts to participate in Self-Led love.
• Self Energy serves as a secure base for engaging with exiles, protectors, and divine connection.

About Dr. Peter Malinoski: Dr. Peter Malinoski is a clinical psychologist, IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, a platform dedicated to integrating the best of psychology and Catholicism. He also hosts the Interior Integration for Catholics podcast and leads the Resilient Catholics Community, helping others navigate faith and mental health with depth and compassion.

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On today's episode I chat with Mel Galbraith, Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (Internal Family Systems Counselling Association), to discuss her journey of grief, leadership, and transformation following the passing of Derek Scott, founder of IFSCA. Mel shares deeply personal stories about her connection with Derek, the legacy he left behind, and how stepping into a leadership role has shaped her life and relationship with her parts.

Our conversation touches on the complexities of grief and the ways IFS has been instrumental in navigating Mel's professional and personal challenges. She also discusses exciting new initiatives at IFSCA, including advanced courses and community connection opportunities, ensuring Derek’s vision continues.

Key Takeaways:

• Grief often reveals deep attachment wounds, serving as a trailhead for healing and growth.
• Leadership through a Self-Led lens involves embracing imperfection, authenticity, and connection with all our parts.
• How can grief and loss act as a catalyst for personal transformation and deeper connection to Self?
• IFSCA’s new offerings like Stepping Deeper and Demo Days
• Authentic connection and shared passions can create profound bonds

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About Mel Galbraith: Mel Galbraith, MSW, RSW, is a Certified IFS Therapist and Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (IFS Counselling Association), a leadership role she inherited from the late Derek Scott. With a deep commitment to community and IFS education, Mel continues to build on Derek’s vision while navigating her own journey of grief and transformation.

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In this episode I chat with Jeanne Catanzaro, an IFS therapist, educator, and author of Unburdened Eating: Healing Relationships with Food and Body. We talk diet culture, internal critics, and the societal pressure to view our bodies as projects. Legacy burdens, cultural messaging, and our protectors shape our relationship with food and body image. Jeanne explains how healing these parts with IFS can lead to a more compassionate and Self-Led approach to eating and wellbeing.

Key Takeaways:

• Diet culture is deeply rooted in legacy burdens; how can we begin to unburden parts influenced by societal expectations?
• Many of us start the day with critical voices driving us—learning to identify and soothe these critics is a key first step.
• Healing our relationship with food begins with curiosity, not judgment.
• Self-led eating involves negotiating with parts and focusing on what your body needs in the present moment.
• Unburdened eating is not a diet—it’s about building trust with our parts and moving away from perfectionism.

About Jeanne Catanzaro: Jeanne Catanzaro is an IFS therapist, educator, and author specializing in helping individuals heal their relationships with food and body. Her new book, Unburdened Eating: Healing Relationships with Food and Body, offers a compassionate guide to transforming these dynamics through an Internal Family Systems lens. In addition to her role in helping to lead the IFS Institute, she offers workshops and retreats on Unburdened Eating and IFS. www.jeannecatanzaro.com

Thank you to Pisgah Coaching Institute for sponsoring this episode.

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In this episode I chat with Michelle Glass, a certified IFS practitioner, licensed psilocybin facilitator, and author of Daily Parts Meditation Practice®. We dive into the fascinating intersection of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychedelic-assisted therapy. Michelle shares her expertise in using IFS as a framework for understanding and navigating non-ordinary states of consciousness, both with and without psychedelics.

Key Takeaways:

• Non-ordinary states are accessible both through IFS and psychedelic therapy, providing deeper connections to our inner world.
• IFS creates a natural "roadmap" for working with protectors, exiles, and self-energy, making it an ideal companion for psychedelic journeys.
• Gaining permission from protectors is essential before engaging in psychedelic-assisted therapy.
• Psychedelics can act as a "key" to unlocking deeper Self Energy and facilitating healing.
• Grief and legacy burdens often emerge as trailheads in both IFS and psychedelic journeys, opening opportunities for healing.
• Integration is crucial after any journey—checking in with parts regularly helps sustain the benefits and deepen the healing process.

Favorite Quote: “IFS provides for natural healing, so it can provide that transformation of the wounds, of our exiles, the burdens, and the shifting of roles of protectors." – Michelle Glass​.

About Michelle Glass: Michelle Glass is a Level 3 IFS practitioner, licensed psilocybin facilitator, and author of Daily Parts Meditation Practice: A Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists®. She combines her expertise in IFS and psychedelics to help individuals navigate deep healing experiences safely and effectively. Find out more about Michelle here.

Thank you to Pisgah Coaching Institute for sponsoring this episode.

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Episode Summary: In this episode I chat with Cece Sykes, an IFS lead trainer and author, about an experience many of us share: compassion fatigue and burnout. More than just feeling tired, burnout shows up as depletion of energy, hope, and satisfaction, affecting our internal and external systems.

We explore how our protectors keep us going, while our firefighters might lead us to distractions that don’t truly nourish us. We also discuss how burnout builds up over time, the role of chronic stress, and why it’s so important to listen to the signals our parts are sending.

For a deeper dive on the topic of burnout and compassion fatigue, Cece is teaching a workshop through Life Architect December 5 and 6, 2024 called An IFS Lens on Therapist Burnout.

Key Takeaways:

• Burnout isn’t just about doing too much; it’s about the chronic depletion of our internal resources.
• Protectors often keep us in overdrive, while firefighters offer temporary relief that doesn’t actually restore us.
• How can we better support our parts before they reach the point of burnout?
• True self-care goes beyond surface-level practices; it’s about understanding where our energy is going and making choices aligned with our values.
• Creating boundaries and allowing ourselves to rest can help break the cycle of overwork and exhaustion.

Favorite Quote: "Burnout is depletion—it’s the depletion of energy, of hope, of peace of mind, and of satisfaction." – Cece Sykes

About Cece Sykes: Cece Sykes, LCSW, is an IFS Senior Trainer, therapist, speaker, and author known for her expertise in working with complex trauma and addiction. Her book: IFS Therapy for Addictions: Trauma Informed Compassion-Based Interventions for Substances, Eating, Gambling and More

Thank you to Life Architect for sponsoring this episode.

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Enjoy this bonus meditation by Natalie Thomas called Tree As Self. Be sure to check out the full episode (# 180) with Natalie, Ecotherapy: Finding Self in Nature.

Dr. Natalie Thomas is a psychotherapist and philosopher specializing in climate distress and ecological grief.

Learn more:

• Climate Cafes
• Natalie’s article in Parts & Self magazine
• Natalie's website

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.

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In this episode I chat with Kresta Dalrymple, a licensed marriage and family therapist, IFS Level 1 therapist, and certified brainspotting practitioner specializing in complex trauma and misophonia.

Misophonia, a strong aversion to specific sounds, can trigger intense fight-or-flight responses, including rage and physical pain. Kresta shares her personal journey with the misophonia and how it led her to create the Misophonia Freedom Lab, a space for exploring treatment and educating others on this often misunderstood condition.

She shares how Internal Family Systems (IFS) has been transformative in helping clients uncover the root of their misophonic triggers, often linked to legacy burdens or childhood trauma. We discuss the importance of attuning to protective parts, understanding the deep-seated pain behind triggers, and using IFS as a non-pathologizing framework for healing.

Key Takeaways:

• Misophonia isn’t just an aversion to sound; it’s a complex trauma response rooted in the nervous system.
• Using IFS as a trailhead can uncover deeper parts burdened by past trauma, leading to more effective healing.
• Rage responses in misophonia are often protective parts trying to guard against pain; understanding them can foster compassion and relief.
• "When we turn towards our triggers with curiosity rather than avoidance, we open up a path to healing."
• How can we view misophonia not as a disorder, but as an invitation to explore deeper, unprocessed trauma?
• Legacy burdens and inherited sensitivity can play a significant role in misophonia; IFS provides a framework for unpacking these connections.

Favorite Quote: "I like to think of misophonia as a really powerful trailhead. When we use it as a trailhead, we often find parts of us that have been forgotten, that are hurting, and that need attention. As we start to unburden those parts, the misophonia triggers get less and less."​ – Kresta Dalrymple

About Kresta Dalrymple: Kresta Dalrymple is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in complex trauma, brainspotting, and misophonia. She is the founder of the Misophonia Freedom Lab, dedicated to educating therapists and providing a trauma-informed approach to misophonia treatment. https://www.misophoniafreedomlab.com/

Links: -to "love letter to rage": https://www.misophoniafreedomlab.com/post/a-love-letter-to-rage-you-were-so-misunderstood-i-m-sorry - to an episode on Misophonia on "The Heart Centered Therapist" where she talk about parts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-free-from-misophonia-embracing-compassion/id1660648538?i=1000621744232

• to her episodes on "The Misophonnia Podcast": https://www.misophoniapodcast.com/episodes/s6e33-kresta-lmft-part-2 - on Misophonia and HSP Trait: https://www.misophoniapodcast.com/episodes/s7e29-kresta-lmft-2024-edition

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Episode Summary: On today’s episode I chat with Jory Agate, IFS trainer, Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and IFS Certified Therapist. We explore two of Jory’s favorite topics and areas of expertise: rupture and repair, and grief. She will be offering a two-day workshop on grief through Life Architect in November 15 and 16 called IFS is Grief Work: Healing Unattended Losses.

Key Takeaways:

• Rupture and repair are natural parts of all relationships
• IFS offers a path to engage with parts that arise during conflict
• Repair involves accountability and listening rather than just apologizing
• The importance of centering the impacted person’s needs in the repair process
• Grief work is a core component of IFS
• Self does not get overwhelmed; it can be with anything
• How can we hold space for our grief without feeling overwhelmed?
• "When we can acknowledge our exiles and help protectors relax, we open the door to real healing."
• Grieving unmet needs or past hurts allows us to unburden exiles and foster self-compassion.

My Favorite Quote: "Rupture is inevitable, but repair is a choice that builds stronger relationships. When we show up with self-energy, we’re more likely to meet others’ self-energy in return." – Jory Agate

About Jory Agate: Jory Agate is a certified IFS trainer and therapist based in Cambridge, Massachusetts. With a background in parish ministry, Jory brings her commitment to healing, relationships, and community into her IFS practice and teaching.

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Tamala Floyd leads us on a beautiful healing mediation to help us connect with an ancestor. It's a clip from episode 177, "Listening When Parts Speak with Tamala Floyd."

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Tamala Floyd is a psychotherapist, author, IFS lead trainer, consultant, and retreat leader with over 25 years of experience. Her latest book, "Listening When Parts Speak: A Practical Guide to Healing with Internal Family Systems Therapy and Ancestor Wisdom," focuses on healing personal and generational trauma.

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In this episode I chat with Chris Parrott and Susan Bauerfeld about parental anxiety and Self-led parenting. They offer practical advice for parents struggling to regulate their emotions and remain present with their kids, and for IFS practitioners working with parents and families.

Chris and Susan are co-presenting a session at next week's 2024 IFS Annual Conference titled, Get Your Shift Together: Self-Led Parenting in a Culture Shaped by Worried Parts, which I'm super excited about.

Key Takeaways: * Worry pulls attention inward, creating disconnection from the present moment. How can parents shift from worry to curiosity about what their children really need * IFS provides a pathway for parents to unblend from worry and engage with Self Energy to stay calm and compassionate * Is worrying really an act of love, or a protective part trying to manage discomfort? * Emotional discomfort is part of life—how can parents help their children develop resilience without removing all discomfort from their experiences? * "When you name it, you tame it"—learning to name parts reduces their intensity and fosters emotional regulation. * Self-regulation in parents sets a foundation for children to build their own coping skills. * How shifting parental focus from worry to connection creates better outcomes for children.

"Worry disconnects us from our parts, from our own Self Energy, and it disconnects us from our kids, and the greatest resource that our children have is the connection that they have with us" -- Chris Parrott

About Chris Parrott and Susan Bauerfeld: Chris Parrott studied in London earning her MSc and Post MSc degree to become a BPS Chartered Counseling Psychologist. Parrott co-founded Your Self Series, a teen identity development program, and YourChatMat, tools to engage families in meaningful conversation. She is a Level 1-trained and Board Certified Life Coach working with emerging adults and with parents of pre-teens.

Susan Bauerfeld, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, IFS Level II trained therapist, speaker, workshop leader, parent coach, and the proud mother of three wonderful, young adult sons. Recently retired from her private practice in Norwalk, CT, she has shifted her professional focus to giving presentations and workshops about parenting and managing anxiety at both national and international conferences and in her local community.

They are co-authors of the upcoming book Get Your Shift Together: How to Help Kids More by Worrying Less.

Mentioned in this episode: * 2024 IFS Annual Conference, October 24-25, 2024 * How to Talk So Kids Will Listen by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish * Dr. Eli Lebowitz, Yale School of Medicine

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In this week’s episode I chat with Audrey Davidheiser, licensed psychologist and Certified IFS therapist and IFSI-approved clinical consultant about working with grief and anger through the Internal Family Systems lens.

We discuss:

• How tenacious parts like grief and anger hold on, often because they feel they are protecting something important, like legacy or family loyalty. What can we learn by befriending these tenacious parts rather than fighting them?
• How your cultural background can influence your emotional experience, and how you can work with legacy burdens in your healing process
• Grief as a multi-dimensional experience – it's not just about sadness, but can include anger, regret, or even relief
• Religious Grief and Trauma – how religious trauma can exile parts of ourselves, such as those feeling grief or anger, and the need for compassionate acknowledgment of them
• All parts grieve differently and how to welcome all parts into the grieving process. How can understanding the different ways we grieve help us heal?
• Honoring angry parts – befriend anger by understanding its role in protecting something important
• IFS and Grief – how IFS uniquely holds space for grief

Favorite Quotes:

• “It's not just that everybody grieves differently, but every part of you grieves differently as well.”
• "Angry parts are there because they are protecting something valuable.”

About Audrey Davidheiser: Audrey Davenheiser is a licensed psychologist, certified IFS therapist, and the author of the forthcoming book, Wholehearted Grieving. She specializes in working with trauma survivors, with a focus on grief and spiritual abuse.

Audrey is leading a session at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, October 24-25, 2024, called Working With Grieving Parts.

• Audrey’s website: AimForBreakthrough.com
• Follow Audrey on Instagram: @DrAudreyD

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On today's episode I chat with Kylie Feller, a Canadian clinical counselor and Level 3 Certified IFS therapist specializing in complex trauma. We chat about two topics she's passionate about: parts journaling and dating. (Our dating convo begins at 15:50) First, Kylie shares tips on connecting to our parts through journaling. Her book, IFS Daily Parts Journal, offers a structured method which she first developed as her own self-care tool. We explore how journaling can be a valuable way to check in with our parts, unblend, and create inner openness, and why it isn't always as easy as it seems.

Then we switch gears to explore dating through an IFS lens. Sharing personal insights from her experience in the dating scene, she shares how dating presents opportunities to notice trailheads, meet new parts, and practice Self leadership.

We discuss:

• Journaling with our parts can be like having a self-led therapist, helping us track, check in, and create openness towards different parts of ourselves.
• Resistance to journaling or parts work is common, and it’s helpful to approach these resistances with curiosity and compassion.
• There is no one-size-fits-all approach to IFS practices; journaling, singing, art, and even walking can be ways to connect with parts.
• Dating offers a unique opportunity to explore our parts, activating trailheads that can lead to greater self-understanding and healing.
• Kylie’s approach to dating with IFS emphasizes self-love, curiosity, and the importance of building internal relationships before seeking external connections.
• The concept of trusting one's system and allowing for natural growth and change in relationships is key to healing through IFS.

Kylie will be presenting at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session titled: Parts Journaling: Develop The Habit of Checking in With Your Parts.

About Kylie Feller: Kylie is a Canadian clinical counselor, digital nomad, and Level 3 Certified IFS Therapist. She has personally experienced the healing power of IFS and is passionate about helping others on their self-healing journeys. Kylie is the author of the IFS Daily Parts Journal, designed to help individuals connect with their parts through thoughtfully formatted journal pages. She is currently working on her next book focused on dating through the lens of IFS.

Connect with Kylie:

• Website: kyliefeller.com
• Instagram: @kyliefellerifs
• Facebook: Kylie Feller Counseling

Mentioned in this episode:

• IFS Daily Parts Journal by Kylie Feller
• You Are the One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz
• 2024 IFS Annual Conference (online, Oct. 24-25)

One of my favorite quotes: "Dating is like an experiment. Every encounter becomes a mirror reflecting back my parts, allowing me to get curious, speak for them, and ultimately, love myself more deeply." – Kylie Feller

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In today’s episode I chat with Dr. Natalie Thomas, a psychotherapist and philosopher specializing in climate distress and ecological grief. Natalie, a presenter at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference, explains how nature influences our internal parts and the role of Self Energy in healing, both individually and globally. We explore the connection between humans, animals, and the planet, and how slowing down to engage with nature can shift how we relate to ourselves and the world around us.

We discuss:

• How can we reconnect with nature and access our self-energy for healing?
• The concept of ecotherapy, which includes "walk-and-talk" therapy, inter-species healing, and other outdoor- and nature-focused approaches
• How nature can be a third entity (triad) in the therapeutic process
• Simple practices for connecting with Self in nature, including forest bathing and engaging the senses
• Animals have parts too
• What is “inter-species” healing?
• Parts-driven vs. Self-led activism, and how inner healing can lead to more effective, compassionate, and sustainable actions
• Climate Cafes: hosting a safe space for eco-emotional healing

One of my favorite quotes from the episode:

"When we’re in nature, we can access our Self Energy and our parts in a different way—it’s like being part of a larger ecosystem, both inside and out." — Natalie Thomas

To learn more:

• Climate Cafes
• Natalie’s upcoming session on ecotherapy and climate distress at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference.
• Natalie’s article in Parts & Self magazine
• Natalie's website

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On today’s episode I chat with Sacha Mardou, a graphic novelist and artist, known in the IFS community for her IFS-inspired webcomics. In her new graphic memoir, Past Tense, Sacha brings readers along on her deeply personal, years-long journey to heal trauma, uncover legacy burdens, and connect to her true Self.

She began illustrating her IFS and therapy experience privately in her sketchbooks. Those evolved into webcomics vividly depicting her inner system and healing process which she shared with the world through social media, and now in her new graphic memoir.

We discuss:

• How her private therapy session sketches grew into webcomics and a book
• How IFS can shift our inner world and multi-generational family dynamics
• Breaking the chain of legacy burdens for her daughter
• Sharing her family members’ private details and stories in her comics
• Using comics to visually represent the complexity of therapy and inner healing, making the IFS therapy process more tangible, relatable, and approachable for many people

One of my favorite quotes from this episode:

"How many of us carry shame or trauma that isn't even ours to begin with? Legacy burdens, passed down through generations, shape who we are until we take the courageous step to face them." – Sacha Mardou

Sacha will join in a discussion hosted by Dick Schwartz and Jeanne Catanzaro at the 2024 IFS Annual Conference in a session called, Bringing IFS to Life, where they will discuss how Sacha's comics have helped demystify the IFS therapy process for clients.

You can connect with Sacha on her website, on Facebook and Instagram @Mardou_Draws

Learn more about her new book, Past Tense, here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714479/past-tense-by-sacha-mardou/

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Enjoy this lovely embodiment meditation led by IFS lead trainer Kay Gardner. And be sure to check out ep. 171: IFS and Legacy Burdens to listen to my full interview with Kay.

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My guest today is Mary Kruger, an IFS lead trainer and therapist specializing in addiction and eating disorders. Mary helped develop the IFS Level 2 training for addiction recovery and treatment. This episode is a re-release from Season 2.

Episode Summary: In this episode Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12-step model.

We explore:

• How can we shift the way we approach addiction, eating disorders, and shame?
• Have traditional approaches to addiction recovery, such as AA or 12-step programs, left us demonizing our behaviors rather than understanding them?
• What happens when we stop viewing addiction as a "moral failure" or "genetic defect" and instead see it as a system out of balance
• What role does shame play in maintaining cycles of addiction, and how can IFS help us unburden that shame?
• How can we learn to work with, not against, our addictive parts?
• Can group work enhance healing by reducing shame and helping us feel connected to others with similar struggles?

One of my favorite quotes from the episode:

"What if we stopped demonizing our addictive behaviors and instead asked, 'What are they trying to teach us?' When we befriend the parts of us that struggle, we unlock the door to true healing."

Mary will host a workshop on October 10 and 11, 2024 with Life Architect on working with polarized parts. Use this link to stay informed and let them know you heard about it on The One Inside: https://bit.ly/ifs-in-group-settings-workshop

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On today's podcast, I chat with Tamala Floyd, a psychotherapist, author, IFS lead trainer, consultant, and retreat leader with over 25 years of experience. Her latest book, "Listening When Parts Speak: A Practical Guide to Healing with Internal Family Systems Therapy and Ancestor Wisdom," focuses on healing personal and generational trauma.

We discuss:

• Ancestor wisdom in personal and generational healing
• Accessing the internal system with guided imagery meditation
• The importance of therapists and practitioners doing their own internal work
• Her love of travel and legacy burden work and combining the two

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IFS Institute 2024 IFS Annual Conference

Loch Kelly's Free 90 minute workshop

To find out ALL the amazing things Tamala is doing:

tamalafloyd.com Listening When Parts Speak (Amazon) Conversation with the Author LWPS BIPOC Consultation Group

LWPS BIPOC Retreat: Healing Legacy Burdens with Ancestor Wisdom

Healing the Wounded Child & Wounded Mother Empower You App -----

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This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Pisgah Coaching

On today's episode I chat with Certified IFS Therapist Joanne Twombly. This episode, which premiered in Season 3, is one of the most popular and most downloaded of the entire series.

We discuss:

• Why we still need coping skills
• The "Fire Drill" exercise to quickly unblend from parts
• Integrating IFS into Phase Oriented Treatment
• Why diagnosis is helpful - Burdens (and Self!) in Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles
• Safe spaces - Hypnosis and trance states

TW: We discuss trauma in this episode. There is discussion about 49 minutes into the episode that may be upsetting to some.

Get Joanna's book here: Trauma and Dissociation Informed Internal Family Systems: How to Successfully Treat C-PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders: https://a.co/d/icIF2ja

Joanne wrote a chapter entitled "Integrating Phase Oriented Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Disorders" in the IFS: New Dimensions book, found here: https://a.co/d/aMQWiMJ

Learn more about Joanne here: https://joannetwombly.net/

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This episode is a re-release from November 2020.

On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Her book, Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice is one of my all-time favorites.

In this episode we cover:

Reconnecting Mind and Body: what disconnects us?

Importance of Embodying for Self energy

Witnessing through the body

Body systems and what they may teach us

The elements' connection to the body

Susan also offered a somatic IFS embodying meditation to begin the episode, which you can find on The One Inside Youtube channel: Somatic IFS embodiment meditation with Susan McConnell (youtube.com)

You can visit Susan's website here : Home | embodiedself

Enjoy!

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This episode is a re-release from Season 2

On today's episode I chat with Chris Burris, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute.

Grab your notebook and pen and plan to hit the pause button because this epi is jammed packed.

Here is a little taste of what is inside:

• therapist burn out

• working with inner critics

• the critic, shame, and firefighter cycle

• attachment wounds, object constancy, and attempts to complete unfinished business from our past

• befriending our parts helps them feel seen, heard and valued

• parts are fluid, not static

It is so good. Enjoy!

To check out what Chris is up to go to Meet Chris | Burris Counseling | IFS Consultation

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On today's podcast I chat with Steffi Bednarek, climate psychologist and author of the new book "Climate, Psychology, and Change."

In this episode we discuss:

• Climate change as an unintended consequence of Western mindsets and culture
• Individual and collective denial, distraction, and trauma responses to climate change through an IFS lens
• The importance of acknowledging collective silence around climate change and our role in maintaining or addressing it
• Bringing more awareness to exiled parts of ourselves and considering what therapists and practiioners leave at the "office door"
• The challenges of action-oriented responses to climate anxiety and the need for holistic, systemic solutions are examined
• Steffi invites listeners to get involved by having uncomfortable climate conversations and experimenting with new approaches

With over 25 years of work experience in systemic change and trauma therapy, Steffi supports individuals, organisations and teams to address the urgent need for regenerative change in ways that go beyond the mere correction of what is visible on the surface. More about Steffi:

https://www.climatepsychologyandchange.com/

Steffi Bednarek - Climate Psychologist and Keynote Speaker

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On today's epsiode I chat with Ann Sinko about identifying and working with polarizations. We discuss:

• Polarizations occur when systems fall out of balance, leading to power struggles and a cycle of yes/no energy
• The importance of recognizing and working with polarizations in IFS and how they can lead to chronic stuckness
• Inherited polarizations as legacy burdens
• Polarization as a sign of movement and change

Ann will host a workshop on June 27, 2024 with Life Architect on working with polarized parts. Use this link to register so they know you heard about it on The One Inside:

Free webinar: How to work with Polarized Parts with Ann Sinko (lifearchitect.com)

Ann L. Sinko, LMFT is a senior IFS trainer, teacher and ceremonialist. She lives in the lovely Connecticut River Vally and is in Private practice in Portland, CT. Ann is passionate about experiential teaching and easily creates an inviting safe learning environment. She love being in nature, gardening, travel and her animals.

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EVERYONE is talking about the new movie Inside Out 2 and we wanted to share our take, too! I'm joined by fellow podcaster and IFS therapist, David Polidi, to study the movie from an IFS perspective, name our favorite parts (no pun!), and debate which characters and elements represent Self.

Learn about David here: Empowered Through Compassion | therapy

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching

On today's podcast I chat with Kay Gardner, lead trainer for the IFS Institue. Kay is a LCPC psychotherapist in Chicago Illinois and had been involved with IFS since the beginning of the trainings, and was around for the development of the trainings. Since she was a Hakomi therapist, she was partially responsible for bringing the body into IFS therapy.

We talk about:

• the importance of working with legacy burdens
• step by step how to work with legacy burdens
• how to bring in well and good ancestors
• practical steps to connect to your own spirit guide

As a bonus, Kay leads us through her own daily embodiment meditation which you can find here:

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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This episode is sponsored by Pisgah Coaching Institute founded by IFS-trained Master Coach, Brian Jaudon. Enrollment is now open for 2025 season! To learn more go to: Landing Page | Pisgah Coaching

On today's episode I chat with Cheryl Field, a nurse, author, and speaker who has worked in healthcare for over 35 years. She cared for seniors needing rehabilitation after hospitalization, and later applied that passion to clinical technology companies. International Best-selling author of Prepared! A Healthcare Guide for Aging Adults, Cheryl spends her empty nesting time speaking at grand rounds for clinical teams, local libraries, 55+ communities, and senior centers on a variety of topics related to senior care.

We talk about: * How she uses IFS in her nursing work to help heal trauma in healthcare professionals and promote self-care * Befriending parts with self-doubt and fear of embarrassment while training for a half marathon * Noticing and getting to know parts * Small, intentional acts of joy and self-care for caregivers' resilience * Prioritizing self-care to prevent burnout * Caregivers should identify what recharges them and prioritize it, even if it means saying no to other requests * Recognizing and addressing trauma in nursing * The importance of having a plan for managing health transitions, especially for those over 50

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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On today's episode I chat with Molly LaCroix about her new book! This is Molly's second appearance on the podcast. Hear her first episode here: IFS and Why Christians Talk So Much About Love But Often Fail to be Loving with Molly LaCroix - Tammy Sollenberger

Molly is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in treating the impact of trauma and adversity. She earned a master’s in marriage and family therapy from Bethel Seminary San Diego, where she returned as an adjunct professor. Molly is a Certified and Level Three-trained IFS therapist and clinical consultant.

We talk about:

• Integrating Christian spirituality with the IFS model for personal growth and healing
• Using Hagar's story to introduce Self, with emphasis on self-awareness and connection to the divine
• Understanding Self and sin in Christian context, using King David as an example
• Internal work impacting relationships, using Good Samaritan parable as example
• The importance of internal work for spiritual growth and loving others unconditionally
• Managers and Firefighters stories found in the Bible
• Spiritual abuse, Enneagram, and personal growth
• The power of sacred stories and the importance of diverse voices in theological discussions

Connect with Molly here: Home | Molly LaCroix - Author

Buy her new book here: Journey to Shalom: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Freedom In Sacred Stories - Kindle edition by LaCroix, Molly. Religion & Spirituality Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

Follow Molly on social media @MollyLacroixLMFT and subscribe to her upcoming Substack "Exiled and Embraced"

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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On this re-released episode, I talk with Carmen Jimenez-Pride about her chapter in the Altogether Us book on Play Therapy.

Carmen is an Lead Trainer with the IFS Insitute, the founder, and Executive Director of Outspoken Counseling and Consulting. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, Certified EMDR Therapist, Internal Family Systems Therapist, Registered Yoga Teacher, Registered Children Yoga Teacher and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. Carmen is also a LEGO® Serious Play® Facilitator.

Carmen is the developer of Diversity in Play Therapy Inc.; and creator/organizer of the Diversity in Play Therapy Summit.

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We talk about:

• Carmen's story
• Sand Tray
• Parts Mapping
• Engaging with Parents (unblending from our parts and helping them identify theirs)
• Challenges working with IFS and Kids
• I grow, you grow, we grow together
• Diversity in Play Therapy Summit
• Focus on Feelings curriculum

Carmen says, "What if we can prevent the impact of the Exile? ... We are able to soften the impact of the burdens parts carry using creative means in play therapy."

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This episode is brought to you by the IFS Institute, now enrolling for their Summer Continuity Program - IFS with Children and Adolescents featuring Carmen Jimenez-Pride. Learn more here:

https://discover.ifs-institute.com/summer-continuity/?utm_source=The+One+Inside&utm_medium=banner&utm_campaign=Summer_Continuity

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram

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The book "Altogether us" is available here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

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On today's episode I chat with David Eckel, an accredited mental health social worker and IFS Level 2 therapist in Australia. He is currently completing his Ph.D. focused on Internal Family Systems Therapy and Adult Attachment. As part of his Ph.D. thesis, he conducted qualitative research asking the question: “How might Internal Family Systems Therapy conceptualise and treat adults with attachment avoidance and attachment anxiety?” He shares some of his findings and insights.

In this episode we discuss:

• The significance of attachment patterns and how they can change across relationships and contexts
• Attachment defintion and history of the theory
• Understanding attachment patterns in repairing ruptures (repair is key)
• Intersections between attachment theory and IFS
• Can we call IFS an attachment-based therapy?
• "The Controversy" around internal vs. external attachment
• His research process
• Can parts have different attachment styles?
• The role of Self in healing attachment wounds
• Ruptures and negotiating separation and togetherness are normal and can be modeled in therapy
• Anxious attachment may involve reactivity, helplessness, and pulling others in
• Avoidant attachment may involve deactivation, caretaking, and self reliance
• How attachment relates to parts

Visit David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-eckel-46958232/

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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This is a re-release of Season 2 Ep. 65 with Paul Neustadt. To find the Free Webinar and register for the four-week workshop from Life Architect, go to:

Free webinar: Working with Therapist Parts to Access Self in IFS Therapy (lifearchitect.com)

IFS: Therapeutic Relationship and Power of Presence by Paul Neustadt (lifearchitect.com)

On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation.

Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention.

We discuss:

1. Creating our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self)

2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts

3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom

4. The Gifts of our Exiles

5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts

6. Degrees of Blending

7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are'

8. Relational Heart Based Activism

9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?"

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram

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On today's episode I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson about his new memoir, "To Be Loved." A beloved psychiatrist and leader in the IFS community, this is Frank's third appearance on the podcast.

We talk about:

Unexpected Impact of a vulnerable personal memoir vs his other clinical themed books (3:05)

Separation of Self from intelligence Parts- "I am not just my Smart part" (3:31)

Love and disconnection from self and others (5:33)

Childhood trauma memories and healing experience with mom (11:11)

Experience of love (12:19)

Forgiveness of father and himself (17:25)

Reconciliation vs. forgiveness (19:32)

Impact on and from his siblings (22:21)

Writing as healing - he encourages writing your "moments that made me" for healing (25:54)

Music and healing - how music helped his healing journey and influenced his chapter titles (32:01)

Bringing trauma healing to more people with new initiatives like the Trauma Institute (39:15)

• The full video of this episode is available on The One Inside Podcast - YouTube

Find out more about Frank here: Trauma Blocks Love. Love Heals Trauma. (frankandersonmd.com)

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.

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On today's episode I chat with Theresa Soltzberg, LMFT and IFS therapist. Theresa is an expressive arts therapist, mixed media artist, writer and instructor who offers her clients and students experiences that allow the intersection of their self-expression, soul healing and deep personal story. She has been guiding and instructing others in their creative process and life journey for many years.

We talk about: - Her story and how she came into the IFS world - "Free to Express Me" with mixed media art journaling (12:30) - Working with Soul pages and Rakefet Hador (14:34) - Trauma focused: "The embodied experience of art is itself healing" (18:09) - Setting intentions, Making Layers, Using Metaphor (20:00) - Integrating the Enneagram (21:00) - Creating Collage and one collective piece (22:00) - Working with 'Art' parts (I'm not an artist!) (27:00) - Examples of working with parts in art (30:00) - How to do our your own/get started (34:00) - Evolving Images of Self (38:00) - Use of the enneagram (39:00) AND! - Free Resources (42) For The One Inside Listeners! Found here- TOI (theresasoltzberg.com) ----- You can connect with Theresa here: Theresa Soltzberg (@theresa.soltzberg) • Instagram photos and videos

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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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On today's podcast I chat with Natalie Hoffman, author, podcast host and IFS enthusiast about her new memoir. One of the things I loved about this book is the IFS-y structure of it. In one section, she allows her younger parts to tell their story, their memories and she responds to each from Self. Another section is written like a play: Named parts responding and reacting to one another. Natalie Hoffman is the author of "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse" and "All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir" as well as the host of the Flying Free podcast. She is a mother, grandmother, educator, and passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood program, Natalie empowers Christian women to discover and use their God-given voices, gifts, and freedom to make their own adult choices for their spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. ------ "Scary little gods in our lives try to control and steal our true Essence, making us feel safe but trapping us in fear." These 'scary little gods' can be organizations, family culture, or our own inner parts. Natalie reflects on her religious, traumatic childhood experiences and how they relate to her identity and connection to her True Self and to the Creator.

We talk about her passion for helping women of faith, particularly Christian women, who are struggling with disillusionment and a lack of self-worth.

She shares about leaving toxic environments and abusive relationships and the importance of listening to our inner parts.

We talk about others 'bullying' parts and how seeing hurtful behavior through this lens helps our own systems.

We talk about ways to connect to our younger parts and how we all can live in Freedom and Choice.

It is a beautiful, rich conversation.

Find out more about Natalie and get her books here:

Flying Free Support for Women in Abusive Relationships (flyingfreenow.com)

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Jeff Schrum is Co-Producer of The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Online Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Derek Scott and I got to meet one last time here on the podcast. I want to share with you what I know because a lot of you have asked. You will find out a lot in this episode from Derek himself.

I was among a small group who knew he was sick and when he was passing. After we recorded the episode I got to read his book and watch a session between him and Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS.

My understanding is you will be able to see this incredible session when you buy the book. Sign up for the launch here: Dead (Spoiler Alert): a Psychotherapist's Journey With Cancer

If you haven't heard of Derek Scott, I invite you to go to YouTube and check out his channel. Many of us in the IFS community learned so much by watching his videos. He and I recorded a full IFS session on video three years ago. He would text me periodically and let me know how many people had watched it. I just looked -- it has 70,000 views! Derek ran an organization called IFSCA, based in Canada, which teach IFS courses. In all the years I’ve known Derek he is clear to honor Dick Schwartz, the founder of IFS. He makes it known that his courses are not IFS trainings. He was always careful to distinguish that and to be so respectful of Dick. If you go to the podcast page on my website and search for Derek Scott, you will see several episodes we did together. Over the years he would text me and say, "Hey do you wanna talk about such and such?" I’d always say yes.

Here are all the links:

Full episode between Derek as therapist and me as client:

Complete IFS Session (youtube.com)

Derek's youtube channel:

(14) Derek IFSCA - YouTube

Derek's organziation IFS in Canada:

Home - IFSCA

Other podcast episodes with Derek:

You searched for derek scott - Tammy Sollenberger

He was a friend, and I am so grateful for his presence in my life. The last text I received from him was a week before he died, and it was just this emoji … 🤸‍♀️

Sending you all so much warmth and compassion as you listen to this episode.

All my love,

Tammy

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Jeff Schrum is Co-Producer of The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Online Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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On today's episode I chat with Dr. François Le Doze, MD. He is a psychotherapist, an IFS therapist, and trainer and has been a neurologist for nearly thirty years in a teaching Hospital in Caen, France. He has always been interested in the relationship between the body and mind, and his knowledge of neuroscience allows him to integrate recent neuroscientific findings into his psychotherapy practice. He's actively developing a model of psychotherapy called Relational Intelligence® based on his clinical experience and expertise.

In this episode we chat about:

• How crisis caused him to reconsider his relationship with IFS and Psychotherapy
• The influence of Polyvagal Theory on his Relational Intelligence Model
• "This is not a Part, but a disruption in my nervous system."
• "This isn't You; but a State of you."
• A key clarification in the Relational Intelligence model: Self-regulation = what is happening in your body; Co-regulation = what is happening between us.
• Bubble Theory: using meta-cogniton to connect and calm the nervous system

Two a-ha moments for me:

1. "We need to DO something TO the system and not expect the system will be able to unblend from the Inside Out."
2. Self Energy must be the regulator the client's system. This Self Energy can originate from either the Self of the client or the Self of the therapist. The client's Self CANNOT lead if their nervous system is dysregulated. In such cases we must tend to the saftey within the therapeutic relationship before proceeding (just as children experience Self of their parents through attachment before their own Self).

His website: SELF THERAPY TRAINING - The Relational Intelligence® model (selftherapie.com)

To learn more about and register for the training he is offering through IFSCA on March 22, 2024 go to:

Relational Intelligence: The Emerging European Model for Trauma. A synthesis of IFS, Neuroscience, Polyvagal & attachment theory Tickets in Online, ON, Canada (ticketleap.com)

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Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

Jeff Schrum is Co-Producer of The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Online Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

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On this week’s episode I chat with Boo Trundle about her IFS-inspired novel, The Daughter Ship. Boo is a writer, artist, and performer whose work has appeared across various platforms and publications, including The Brooklyn Rail, McSweeney’s Internet Tendency, and NPR’s The Moth. She has released three albums of original music with Big Deal Records.

I absolutely loved this book and the way she blended years of inner child work and IFS therapy to create the unique Parts perspective she uses to write the novel. She shares her process of discovering and relating to different parts and learning how to tell their stories. We identify legacy burdens, ancestral guides, and which character in the novel represents her true Self.

We talk about:

• Using IFS to inform and transform her writing (3:00)
• The unique storytelling of the novel telling her Parts’ stories (7:00)
• Her journey discovering her Parts and learning their stories (12:00)
• Writing as a healing and spiritual experience (16:00)
• Connecting with Self and ancestral guides during a summer writing workshop (20:00)
• Identifying which character in the novel represents her true Self (33:00)

Connect with her here:

https://www.bootrundle.com

https://www.instagram.com/bootrundle

https://twitter.com/account/access

https://www.facebook.com/BooTrundle/

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On today's episode I chat with Julia Sullivan and Gregg Paisley, two of the authors of the Altogether Us book chapter on Embodying IFS with Native American Clients. They are members of The Council for Indigenous IFS, and this is the focus of this episode.

Julia Sullivan, MBA (she/her) is a social activist who integrates her Latina roots (Ralámuli descent), Indigenous spirituality, and all she gained from being one of the first Latinas to earn an MBA from the Stanford Graduate School of Business. After 30 years in executive leadership and organizational development, she now brings Self leadership to people using Internal Family Systems (IFS). She co-founded the Council for Indigenous IFS to create a forum for cross-tribal learning and resource sharing. Julia convenes Self Led Leaders, a global community of coaches and consultants bringing IFS-informed practices to business, as well as Cornsilk, which brings these practices to the general public. Julia relaxes with frequent walks around a lake with her IFS-trained husband, Chris, basking in the beauty of nature. Gregg Paisley, MBA (he/him) spent most of his career in the private sector, working as a senior executive in SMB, NASDAQ, and Fortune 500 enterprise software and hardware companies, as well as in professional audio/video/lighting. An enrolled Blackfeet (Amskapi Piikani band), he is one of the few American Indians fortunate enough to have walked that path. Late in life he came to the epiphany that the only possible reason the Creator would shower such undeserved blessings and resources on him is so he could help others find their own blessings. Since retiring from industry in 2003, he has focused on creating jobs, increasing tribal household incomes, and providing social services (especially for under-served tribal children) on a large Montana reservation. Gregg is a member of the Council for Indigenous IFS. In his spare time, Gregg relaxes as a musician on keyboards and guitar. He stays connected to the land in both the Pacific Northwest and northern Montana. We talk about:

• Introductions (0)
• Indigenous IFS Council history (5:00)
• Communal Collective Unburdening worshop at the 2023 IFS Annual Conference (9:00)
• Broad Impact of their work on and off Reservations (14:00)
• Greg's Intro to IFS and his experience (17:00)
• HumBle during difficult interactions and experiene at conference continued (24:00)
• Land Acknoweldgements (39:00)
• Greg's native and tribe Poetry and the Spread of IFS among indigenious (41:00)
• 8 C meetings (47:00)
• Final Thoughts (50:00)

Check out: American Indian Partnership

For more information check out: Cornsilk: Peer-Based Wellness for Indigenous People & Allies

Email 8Cmeeting@gmail.com to find out more about the 8 C meetings

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On today's episode I chat with two of the four authors of the Embodying IFS with Native American Clients chapter in the Altogether Us book, Suzan McVicker and Pete Patton. The other two authors, Julia Sullivan and Gregg Paisley will be on the show next week. Suzan McVicker, PhD, is a long-time certified IFS therapist, teacher, and former IFS trainer whose two recent publications, an IFS article and an IFS book chapter, are invitations to build a safe bridge between Indigenous Peoples and the global IFS community. She was one of the first IFS practitioners to voice her personal experience as a Cherokee descendant in the collective narrative about the healing contributions of Indigenous worldview precepts for IFS practitioners with an initial publication through APA (American Psychological Association) in 2010.

Pete Patton is Inuit, and currently exists on the land of the Clatsop-Nehalam Tribe in Astoria, Oregon. Pete is currently a Therapist for the local Mental Health Authority in Clatsop County. Pete is also actively involved in developing a community of faith (Great Spirit Gathering) whose purpose is to support, celebrate, and embody Native American Spirituality in all its ways of being expressed/embodied. We talk about: - Deer Medicine and Indigenous culture (1:00) - Indigenous perspectives on deer medicine as energy (2:00) - Experiential storytelling in culture and used in the Chapter (10:00) - Identity, adoption, and heritage (14:00) - Indigenous inspired IFS and the 7 B's (34:00) (HumBle; Right to Be, Belong, Become; Blessing; Balance; Embodied Learning; Ceremony as UnBurdening; Belly Laugh) -------

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On today's epsidoe I chat with Bob Falconer, author of the book, "The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession."

Bob has been involved in psychological healing and recovery for over half a century now. More and more he focuses on the spiritual dimensions of this process.

We talk about: - Our Minds are Porous. Acceptance of this idea is as impactful as accepting the multiplicty of the mind (until 16 minutes) - Emmanual Swendenborg's influence (16 min) - External Energies (Bob's preferred term to critters or unattached burdens) (20 min) - Spirit Guides (31 min) - Past Lives (think Legacy Burdens) (37) - His many upcoming book projects, and his heart to lessen Human Suffering (43) - Spiritual Writing and the work of Chico Xavier (45) - UBU and Non violent communication- upcoming workshops (52) ----

Check out Bob's website:

IFS Consultant - Teacher and Author - Robert Falconer

Sign up for the upcoming Master class with IFSCA on 2.16.24:

IFS and Past Lives Tickets in Online, ON, Canada (ticketleap.com)

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On today's episode I welcome back Altogether Us author, Daphne Fatter. Dr. Daphne Fatter is a licensed psychologist, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, and IFS clinical consultant. She is also a certified ancestral lineage healing practitioner using Dr. Daniel Foor’s method for ancestral healing. Dr. Fatter guides groups, workshops and trainings for therapists on trauma, IFS and ancestral healing worldwide. Her next IFS-informed ancestral healing course will be offered online in November. We cover: - What is ancestral lineage healing? - Why do ancestral lineage healing? When would the ancestral lineage healing be helpful to an IFS client? - A protocol for doing legacy unburdening by partnering with ancestral guides. - A protocol for a way of discerning a client has an unattached burden or unwell deceased attached to a part - and So much more! ------ Check out Daphne's website to sign up to hear about the next IFS-informed ancestral healing course: https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/ Check out this International directory of trained ancestral lineage healing practitioners: https://ancestralmedicine.org/practitioner-directory/ Check out Daphne's book chapter on integrating ALH and IFS: Fatter, Daphne (2023). "Ancestral lineage healing: Restoring Belonging and Reconnection with Ancestral Wisdom and Collective Self-Energy." In Riemersma, J. (Ed.), Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends. Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Riemersma, Jenna, Schwartz, Dr. Richard: 9781734958423: Amazon.com: Books --- Visual Clips of some podcast episodes are available on The One Inside's YouTube channel. Check it out: (2) The One Inside Podcast - YouTube

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On today's episode I chat with one of the Altogther Us authors, Marcella Cox.

Marcella Cox, LMFT, Certified IFS Therapist and Approved Clinical Consultant, Somatic IFS Therapist, Certified Body Trust Provider, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist - Supervisor specializes in treating disordered eating, body shame, and trauma.

Marcella contributed the chapter on IFS and Disordered Eating in Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends (2023). She offers professional supervision and consultation, as well as workshops and retreats to support those healing from disordered eating and body shame.

We talk about: (approximate time stamps for navigation)

• Window intro and Tammy's Big Birthday (00:55)
• Messages about "Good bodies" and New Years (07:00)
• Weight Bias and stigma, Diet culture, body image (11:00)
• "Health" and body focus (16:45)
• Family Burdens and how to have more CHOICE over how our parts protect us (23:00)
• Restored embodiment, biological responses to restriction, gratitude for body (26:00)
• Intuitive eating AND befriending and unburdening parts (35:00)
• Body comments are harmful (39:20)
• All of the closing things (43:00)

Marcella says, "What if you did not make your body a problem to be fixed."

Here is all the things you need to know!

• Kindful Body - www.kindfulbody.com
• IFS Telehealth Collective - www.ifstherapyonline.com
• Tri-State Eating Disorder Conference, Evansville, IN, April 12-13, 2024 - https://tri-state-eating-disorder.ce-go.com/tristate-eating-disorder-conference-2024
• Somatic IFS Retreat in Red Mountain Resort, Utah, May 15-19, 2024 - https://www.kindfulbody.com/somatic-ifs-retreat
• Retreat in Malta, March 2025 - https://www.souliology.com/
• IFS for Eating and Body Issues Google Group - is a group for practitioners (therapists, RDs, MDs, coaches, etc.) who help clients heal from food, eating and body issues using IFS Therapy. This listserv is a community to connect, collaborate, and share resources/referrals.

To join is a 2 part process: 1) Fill out the following form: https://forms.gle/jitVEGLDyoBbk16E8 2) After completing the form, request to join the group: https://groups.google.com/g/ifs-for-eating-and-body-issues ----

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On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, author of the new book "Self Led."

Seth is a certified, level 3, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner. He holds a PhD in Organization Management with a Specialization in Leadership and a Masters in Education. His specialties include Self-led Parenting, Parts Art, Spirituality, and creating spaces where people's parts feel safe and understood. "Self-Led walks you through the building of authentic relationships with yourself and with others. While reading Self-Led, you will gain a thorough understanding of what Internal Family Systems (IFS) refers to as your Self and your parts. You will learn how to form relationships with your parts by listening to and understanding them. You will also learn how to be Self-led in some of the most important aspects of your life: in intimate relationships, at work, while parenting, and in your own spirituality. By becoming Self-led, you will live a more harmonious life."

We talk about:

• How to be in relationship with your Parts in all areas of your life (parenting, communication with partners)
• Building trust between Self and parts
• The importance of parts feeling deeply understood with what Seth calls Exquisite Attunement (What does it mean to be Understood?)
• Being with our parts in a way that allows us to be Self-led in all aspects of life
• Living life with a non-shaming approach

Check out more about Seth:

Exploration Services: Seth Kopald

Seth Kopald (@selfled_by_seth) • Instagram photos and videos

All the Places to get the book: Amazon: https://a.co/d/h9dm8bX

Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/self-led-seth-kopald/1144403149

And signed cooies directly from Seth's website! https://www.sethkopald.com/book-store

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On today's episode, Joan Ryan and I talk about New Years resolutions that may be generated by the Parts of us found in our Enneagram Type. We know that Parts inside Type are our Major Players in our system. The Enneagram gives us a short cut to bring awareness to these parts, to help us unblend, and to bring more Self energy forward.

We have done lots of podcasts on this subject (and wrote a book chapter in Altogether Us). You can listen to those episodes here (there is a new search feature on my website!): Our podcasts episodes on tammysollenberger.com

Are you new to the enneagram and want to know more? We have an introduction to the Integration of IFS with the Enneagram coming in January 2023. Do you know a lot about both models? We will be running a group soon. Go to either of our websites to find out more!

Joan's website- Home - Creative Collaborations

Happy New Year!

Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I talk with fellow author- and now fellow podcaster! Emma Redfern.

Emma Redfern, BACP Snr-Accredited psychotherapist and supervisor is a certified Internal Family Systems therapist and approved IFS consultant working online from Devon in the Southwest of England. Emma has edited two multi-author books, one on IFS supervision/consultation, the other, Freeing Self: IFS Beyond the therapy room. She has authored a book for professionals about successfully transitioning to IFS therapy. We talk about:

• her story-trusting the inner Yes
• her writing journey
• Supervision- helping others create their own identity (we all can't be Dick Schwartz!)
• Not 'IFS-ing' away our parts
• "Self can Bare multiple realities"
• Current writing projects- cats and dogs and curiousity- so fun
• What is success? How showing up can also be success.

It's so good.

To learn more about Emma go to: https://emmaredfern.co.uk/

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On today's episode I chat with Beth Mullen-Houser. Beth is a clinical psychologist with a passion for working with providers new to IFS. Her IFS journey includes being an IFS-informed therapist for 4 years, an IFS researcher, speaker and consultant and currently PAing a L1 training. She has presented at the IFS 2023 Annual Conference and the Great Lakes IFS retreat and is a member of the Foundation for Self Leadership’s Research Development team including recent collaboration on a research article submitted to a peer-reviewed journal.

We talk about:

• Starting IFS after years of mindfulness practice
• Internal chaos- Where is SELF?!
• "My Breath is always me."
• I am With in, not In it
• Research around mindfulness related adverse events
• Parts of therapists, parts of Supervisiors
• Importance of Noticing in the moment when Blended
• Our (Tammy's!) activated Mom parts
• Talking about parts as a way to unblend
• Witness, Community, and validation
• We are wounded in relationship, we heal in relationship
• Unblending ideas
• Stages of Competence

Find out more about Beth here: Self-Leadership Journeys, LLC (selfleadershipjourneys.com)

Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I chat again with Ty Cutner. Ty did a demo with Dick that has become incredibly popular and he co-authored a chapter in the new "Freeing Self" book. Ty reached out and said he had some major updates, and we wanted to share them all with you!

Ty Cutner is a IFS Level 2 trained men’s personal development coach. His coaching programs help men with their image, relationships. He hosts workshops in schools for young men.

We talk about:

• His mom (and my mom parts) Update since the last podcast: unburdening that 15 year old part (demo available on his website Healing Journey (tycutner.com))
• Being trained in the model Level 1 (twice), Level 2 and being a part of the IFS Fellowship.
• Bringing IFS to the men he coaches.
• Projects: IFS book (Freeing Self), IFS informed Children's book (Adventures of Tyron and his Parts), Well Dressed Academy, Self Led Life an IFS Informed Lifestyle Training Series by Ty Cutner, “Personal Physics: Exploring Multiple Selves” Workshop he co-hosted with Dr. Philip Butler at the 2023 IFS conference.
• Find out more about Ty here: Home Page (welldressedacademy.com)

To hear Ty's first podcast episode go to:

IFS and Being with Exiles (and the Demo with Dick!) with Ty Cutner - Tammy Sollenberger

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On today's episode, I chat with Meg Martinez and Candice Christiansen who wrote a chapter in Altogether Us entitled, "Embodying IFS with Neurodivergent Clients: A Neuro-inclusive approach for therapists."

Candice Christiansen is an adult-diagnosed Autistic female and licensed clinician with 20 years experience specializing in working with Neurodivergent older teens and adults. As the Founder and Clinical Director of Namaste Center For Healing In Salt Lake City, Utah, Candice uses IFS along with her and Meg's Neuro-Inclusive Approach to IFS with all their clients. Meg Martinez-Dettamanti is a licensed clinician, IFS therapist, and Chief Program Officer at Namaste Center For Healing, where she has worked closely with Candice for nearly a decade. Meg has a Neurodifferent family and has been an advocate for Neurodifferent individuals and other marginalized populations throughout her career. Meg uses IFS along with her and Candice's Neuro-Inclusive Approach to IFS with all their clients. We talk about: - Candice and Meg's stories - What neuro- difference means (and why they do not use the term 'divergent') - Hardware- it is NOT PARTS - Asking about and being aware of Neuro- Culture - Goal 1: Use curiosity with Neurodifferent clients around their sensory, learning, and internal system needs. - Goal 2: Access Self-energy to navigate a client’s need for safety if microaggressions occur. - Goal 3: Explore therapist’s individual, legacy, and cultural burdens related to implicit bias, judgment, and stereotypes against Neurodifferent individuals. - Goal 4: Creatively implement IFS mapping exercises with Neurodifferent clients to flesh out Neurodifferent traits vs. client parts Find out more about Meg and Candice here: Namasté Center For Healing (namasteadvice.com)

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On today's episode I chat with Valerie Louis, SEP, PhD who is a level 3 trained certified IFS practitioner. Valerie is passionate about working with therapists, practitioners, healers, and educators for personal and professional development. We talk about: - Spirituality and IFS as a Soul Tending process - How practitioners can be 'better' and not get burned out - What leading from curiousity and compassion means - A possilbe 3rd element, not just the binary of Self and Part where personality and nervous system exist - IFS being in the realm of the Healer and in the spiritual world, not just an evidence based practice - How IFS is suited to root us out of compulsory culture and into living a life that is more in line with our desires and nature (here would be things like relationship structures, communication styles, neurodivergent, autistic, and the concept that continual self and regulation is not the goal.) --- I LOVED the spiritual focus and FEELING this conversation left me experiencing. Valerie talks about living, existing, and BEING as if there is no divide between our spiritual life, our spiritual practices, and our daily life. Because there really is not. But the focus really is on seeing IFS as a soul tending process, as something sacred and miraculous. Enjoy. ----- To connect with Valerie and get on her newsletter go to VALERIE LOUIS, PH.D. Spiritual Consultant and Energy Healer - Valerie Louis - Energy Healer, Spiritual Consultant, Educator ---

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.

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On today's episode I chat with Jen Kleiner, Certified Coach, Creative Consultant, & Level 3 IFS Practitioner @ IntuitiveArtists.org, Co-Founder & Director of IFSLA.org, Award-winning Filmmaker at ReframePictures.com

She shares her story of going from fashion to film to coaching to IFS and a lot before, in between and after. I wonder how many of our stories sound familiar? Jen says, "IFS is a way of life, living, and welcoming... of allowing differences and polarizations to exist." IFS Documentary coming out in 2024! To support the documentary go to Fundraiser by Jen Kleiner : Help Us Finish A Feature Doc About IFS Therapy (gofundme.com) Check out all Jen has to offer here: Coaching & Consulting (intuitiveartists.org)

Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy here Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger here The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.

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We like to talk about Addiction on the podcast!

I'm excited to talk to Mary Kruger (again!) and Cece Skyes who wrote a Chapter in the Altogether Us book entitled, "IFS and Addiction: Compassion for the Addictive Process."

We talk about:

• Alternatives to a manager led (client's or family or therapist's) "Plan"
• Working with your own parts (helper, rescue, fixer, advice giving) when working (or living) with others who have 'Extreme Firefighters'
• "Exiling firefighters is not working"- What if we welcomed their advice and wisdom?
• Bridges
  • how IFS can Bridge the polarization between the addiction world and the psychological world
  • creating them between ALL parts involved in the addictive process
  • bringing curiosity to the systematic interactions of the parts

Enjoy!

Find out more about Cece Skyes and her book:

Cece Sykes LCSW

Internal Family Systems Therapy for Addictions: Trauma-Informed, Compassion-Based Interventions for Substance Use, Eating, Gambling and More: Sykes, Cece, Sweezy, Martha, Schwartz, Richard C.: 9781683736028: Amazon.com: Books

Find out more about Mary Kruger here: Home Page (mpkruger.com)

Purchase "Altogether Us" here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Riemersma, Jenna, Schwartz, Dr. Richard: 9781734958423: Amazon.com: Books

Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy here Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger here The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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Welcome to Season 5 where we 'check in':

• I check in about Season 5 of the podcast
• Jenna checks in about the Altogether Us book release earlier this month
• We both share how we check in with our parts

We talk a whole lot about Self.

This episode is beautiful- I was going to edit out the last 10 minutes or so because I start crying but... I leave it ALL in there.

This one is really good..... THIS is why we do this.

Enjoy!

Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

Purchase "Altogether Us" here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Riemersma, Jenna, Schwartz, Dr. Richard: 9781734958423: Amazon.com: Books

Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy here Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger here The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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Hi!

This is a re-release of a meditation Dick did on an episode released 10/29/19 that was part of the full episode released 11/6/19.

I chat for about 2 minutes about why I decided to do this (One hint--- Tammy Sollenberger | Insight Timer) then Dick leads a 8-ish minute meditation.

I hope you enjoy it!

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We will take a break through the rest of June and July and return in August where we count down to the publication of the "Altogether Us" book on August 31, 2023!

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends – Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership’s Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

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You can follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. You can buy her book "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" here The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

You can sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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On today's episode I talk with Dr. Frank Anderson. Frank is a psychiatrist, lead Trainer with the IFS Institute, author of 'Transcending Trauma' and an author in the Altogether Us book.

We talk about:

• his upcoming memoir entitled "To Be Loved."
• some of his story (a type of conversion therapy starting at 6 yo)
• Coming out
  • with a trauma history
  • is a trauma in and of itself
  • The stages of Coming out
  • "Being Gay is a Trauma"
• The high rate of suicidality in LGBTQ teens
• "Orientation is a Dimension of Self Energy"
• Working out Gender
• "Orientation and Gender fall away in the Spiritual Realm"

and so much more!

You can contact Frank at Trauma Specialist, Author, Psychiatrist,… | Frank Anderson MD

We will take a break through the rest of June and July and return in August where we count down to the publication of the "Altogether Us" book on August 31, 2023!

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends – Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership’s Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

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You can follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. You can buy her book "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" here The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

You can sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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On today's podcast I talk with Dr. Sand Chang who wrote a chapter in the upcoming Altogether Us book. Dr. Sand Chang is a Chinese American nonbinary psychologist, DEI consultant, certified IFS therapist, consultant, and trainer. Their work is centered on body liberation, particularly in the realms of trans health, eating disorders, and trauma recovery. We talk about: - Trans-affirming IFS (that's what the chapter in Jenna's book is about) - Teaching an IFS foundations course to queer and trans therapists and the importance of affinity trainings (with Nic Wildes) - Body liberation, eating disorders, de-pathologizing parts that use disordered eating to help someone to survive in a white supremacist, fatphobic, transphobic culture - Creating affirming spaces - knowing that each person's liberation is tied to others' liberations - The 9th "C" of Self energy being community/collectivism and how this plays out not just in the world but specifically in IFS training spaces. As an Assistant Trainer Mentee and someone who is moving toward being an IFSI trainer, these are things which Sand feels very passionate. They desire to create the spaces that don't always exist and have often harmed trans and queer folks. Find out more about them here: SAND CHANG, PHD and IFS With Trans and/or Nonbinary Communities — Queer and Trans Internal Family Systems (qtifs.com) ---

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends – Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership’s Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

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You can follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. You can buy her book "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" here The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

You can sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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On today's episode, Jenna Riemersma is the GUEST HOST and interviews Tammy and Joan Ryan about their chapter on the Enneagram in the Altogether Us book.

We talk about:

• How Joan and I met
• How Enneagram Types show up at a Birthday party
• How Parts hold the Type Structure together
• Using Enneagram Type to Map parts
• Common Parts found in Type

Joan Ryan specializes in Organization Development and the Enneagram. She is a Senior Leadership Coach and has worked internationally in law firms, hospitals, corporations and nonprofit organizations including USAID. She is currently an Adjunct Professor at Boston College, teaching Inclusive Leadership. She previously worked as an attorney. She served 2 terms on the IEA Board in the early 2000s.

An internationally recognized Enneagram expert, Joan received certification as an Enneagram Teacher from the Palmer/Daniels Enneagram Professional Training Program in 1996 and is grounded firmly in Narrative Methods. She had the distinct honor of being mentored directly by both Helen Palmer and the late Dr. David Daniels.

Her current focus is exploring intersections between the Enneagram and Internal Family Systems (IFS-Institute.org). She has recently co-authored a chapter for the new reference work “Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Keyyy Modalities, Communities, and Trends”, editor, Jenna Riemersma to be published in August 2023. With her teaching partner, Tammy Sollenberger, she offers classes and consulting groups along with individual coaching.

For more information and contact see: https://www.creativecollaborations.net/about

Joan is presenting on IFS and Enneagram at this Enneagram Conference- check it out! IEA Global Conference 2023 (vfairs.com) ----- Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends – Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership’s Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

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You can follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. You can buy her book "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" here The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold.

You can sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website: Home - Tammy Sollenberger

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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On today's episode I chat with Regina Wei who wrote the chapter on Asian and Pacific Islander Clients for the Altogether Us book.

Regina Wei (she/they), LMFTA is an IFS Level 1 trained Couples and Family Therapist in Washington state who has a specialization in sex therapy. Her work centers folks who identify as BIPOC and/or LGBTQIA+ and focuses on helping clients heal racial, intergenerational, sexual, and other traumas. Regina has an MA in Couples and Family Therapy and an MA in Modern Chinese Literature and Culture. She has written a novel, set in China, that deals with the themes of trauma, healing, and cross-cultural connections and misses. www.ReginaWei.com

We talk about:

• Her Novel (Themes of Healing!)
• Collectivism and Authority
• Holding space for Tension
• Racialized bodies
• Intergenerational and historical trauma
• Heritage as a Protective Factor
• The role of Shame
• Recommendations for Therapists

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page here: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I talk with Carmen Jimenez-Pride about her chapter in the Altogether Us book on Play Therapy.

Carmen is an Assistant Trainer with the IFS Insitute, the founder, and Executive Director of Outspoken Counseling and Consulting. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, Certified EMDR Therapist, Internal Family Systems Therapist, Registered Yoga Teacher, Registered Children Yoga Teacher and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. Carmen is also a LEGO® Serious Play® Facilitator.

Carmen is the developer of Diversity in Play Therapy Inc.; and creator/organizer of the Diversity in Play Therapy Summit.

We talk about:

• Carmen's story
• Sand Tray
• Parts Mapping
• Engaging with Parents (unblending from our parts and helping them identify theirs)
• Challenges working with IFS and Kids
• I grow, you grow, we grow together
• Diversity in Play Therapy Summit
• Focus on Feelings curriculum

Carmen says, "What if we can prevent the impact of the Exile? ... We are able to soften the impact of the burdens parts carry using creative means in play therapy."

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page here: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich. This is her 2nd appearance on the podcast. The first was entitled Self-Led Sexuality and that is what we talk about today- which involves a whole lot more then you may think.

I appreciate Patty inviting us over and over again to check in with our parts as we talk, knowing we are covering sensitive topics. We also have a lot of laughter and distracted parts.

My favorite thing Patty says is towards the end where she talks about the 6 S's of sexuality (which she covers in the first episode in detail). She asks us to consider what is between us and certain S words.

I encourage you to consider this idea and be with all the parts who may come up as you listen.

Patty is a Certified IFS Therapist and Approved Consultant and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She has developed a unique integrative model for helping people to feel more ease, joy and confidence in the realm of sexuality and has originated IFS-informed concepts such as Internal Consent and The Six S’s of Sexual Self-Energy. Patty has presented at the IFS Annual Conference, taught a module for the IFS Institute Online Continuity program, and led workshops internationally.

She offers training and consultation to professionals and offers opportunities to BeHold and Lead your Internal Sexual Systems (BLISS). She lives in the Philadelphia area where she also has a private practice. You can learn more about her offerings at www.patriciarich.com and follow her on Instagram at @patriciarichconsulting.

Her website is here: Patricia Rich Consulting LLC

Pre-order the Ebook for Altogether us here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page here: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's podcast I talk with Dr. Nancy Morgan, Certified IFS Therapist. Nancy wrote the IFS and Psychedelic chapter in the new upcoming book, "Altogether Us" which will be released around August 2023.

I spoke with Nancy on episode 47 when we focused her role as Director of LifeMoves Behavioral Health and Training Programs, a California agency dedicated to breaking the cycle of homelessness. Nancy introduced IFS into the training curriculum during the 2015-2016 year.

Today, we have a much different discussion. You may be here because you love Nancy and want to know and hear how she is and what is going on with her as she was recently diagnosed with cancer. You may be here and you do not know Nancy personally or professionally, you want to know more about IFS or you want to know about psychedelics.

Whatever reason brought you to this episode I am glad you are here, and I feel incredibly honored that Nancy shares her heart and story with us.

The first half of this episode is heavier around the history of psychedelics and the integration with IFS. Nancy shares more of her story in the second half, although it is weaved throughout.

I start recording as soon as I meet with each guest, and most of that beginning matter is edited out. I decided to leave our entire conversation just as it is.

You can find out more about Nancy here:

Internal Family Systems | The Guide Inside | Dr. Nancy L. Morgan (the-guide-inside.com)

You can find the Go fund me link to support Nancy here:

Fundraiser for Nancy Morgan by Michele Lucas : Nancy L. Morgan (gofundme.com)

Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Altogether Us author Valerie Simon.

Valerie Simon is a Certified IFS Therapist, a Trainer, Educator and Practitioner of psychodrama, and a Certified Experiential Therapist. She is the Founder and Director of The Inner Stage®, a group private practice in NYC where she works with adults recovering from trauma, and she specializes in working with performers and other public figures. Valerie also runs groups and intensives, and supervises and trains other practitioners in her hybrid method of IFS and psychodrama called Play Your Parts. We discuss: - what is psychodrama? - what are externalizations? - psychodrama in a group setting - parallels and differences between IFS and psychodrama - healing power of integrating both modalities - unburdening, 'the redo' and connecting to Self using externalizations - Play Your Parts and The Inner Stage Check out Valerie here:

THE INNER STAGE – Cutting edge experiential therapy

Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Jenna Riemersma about her chapter in the upcoming book "Altogether Us."

We talk about:

• An IFS Shorthand: Notice, kNow and Need
• Moving Towards our own Parts
• Moving Towards our Parts in Relationship with others (as a therapists/helping professional, Friend, Parent, and Partner)
• Moving Towards before we Turn Towards, especially in difficult relationships

Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Richard Schwartz, founder of IFS and Jenna Riemersma, author of Altogether You and IFS Level 3 therapist.

Jenna is the editor of a new book coming out this year entitled "Altogether Us" which features 30 different authors in the IFS community.

We talk about:

• The importance of Access to IFS, the Demand for IFS, and concerns about Quality Control

• Dick shares about his persistent parts when starting the model

• Jenna shares the main sections of the book

• Dick talks about what he sees in the future of IFS and what he means by the "Paradigm Shift" of IFS

• We talk about how "IFS Changes Everything"

• Dick and Jenna talk about their personal Visions/Resolutions for the New Year

Pre-order the Ebook here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

Find out more about Jenna here: Jenna Riemersma

Learn more about IFS and upcoming trainings here: What is Internal Family Systems? | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

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My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I talk with Lucille Aaron-Wayne, a longtime Certified IFS Therapist, Jungian analyst-in-training and art therapist. She helps people who feel and think deeply learn how to do IFS on themselves and claim it as their own person self healing tool.

We talk about:

• The importance of 'doing IFS' on our own

• The different skill set needed to do Solo IFS

• 6 Common Self life parts

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I loved how practical this episode is, and I loved how Lucille talks about how doing our own work builds a bridge between our 'regular life' and our Self energy.

Connect with Lucille at seekdeeply.com: Seek Deeply: Online Jungian & IFS Therapy Sessions where you can get a FREE one hour guide to Solo IFS!

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Sarah Houy, a certified IFS therapist and the co-founder of Sentur, an IFS app!

Sarah is passionate about revolutionizing mental health care and has been a trauma therapist for over a decade.

We talk about her passion for making therapy and treatment accessible to all people, her first experiences with IFS and Sentur.

Find out more about the Sentur app here:

Internal Family Systems App | Sentur App

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Madeline Gibson, a Level 3 IFS practitioner and coach living in Lake Como, Italy.

Madeline owns and runs Lake Como Wellness, a wellness events and retreat business. She is soon to launch her podcast, "There’s a Part of Me", for the IFS curious, and in the new year will launch a range of free resources around ‘middle lane drinking’ through the IFS lens.

Middle Lane drinkers are those who haven't 'hit rock bottom' but feel curious about what life would be like without alcohol. Madeline is almost five years sober after going through that lifestyle transformation herself, shorting before meeting Dick Schwartz on retreat in northern Italy.

You can reach out to Madeline on Instagram @the.ifs.coach or email hello@theifs.coach

Madeline encourages us to be curious as we consider that our drinking parts are destined for greater, more Self led roles. She gives 4 reflective questions or journal prompts to deepen our own connection to our internal world.

She says that as long as parts are stuck in protective roles they are not living into their full potential.

Check out her website where you can download an ebook, "Middle Lane Drinking: An IFS Approach." Welcome to the IFS Coach - The World needs all of you

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books. Or on amazon here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Anna Vincentz, a Level 3 IFS therapist who resides in Denmark.

We talk about:

1. Attachment: the nervous system and inner and outer coregulation with parents, children, partners, clients and therapists

2. New Danish Parenting: Children always make sense, Relationships matter most, and conscious parenting.

Anna says- Parts don't want to settle for unconditional love and attachment from Self. When they actually get connection from Self they realize it is not settling at all.

And- We don't need to lean in to our partners from our young parts. Our parts need to lean in to Self and then our Self can lean out into our partners.

Check out Anna's podcast and articles here:

IFS therapy — IFS & Familieterapeut Anna Vincentz MPF

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books.

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Susann Suprenant, Ph.D. Susann is a Level 1 Internal Family Systems practitioner and Guild Certified Feldenkrais Practitioner working with coaching clients in their recovery from chronic pain and other mindbody symptoms. She holds a Ph.D. in Theatre Arts, is trained in Pain Reprocessing Therapy (Howard Shubiner, MD and Alan Gordon, LCSW) and facilitates mindbody support groups with Curable Health.

We talk about:

1. Benefits of getting curious about chronic symptoms as parts' protective strategies.

2. The Feldenkrais method

3. Polyvagal theory and 'Play as a Blended State'

I appreciated the experiential component Susann brings to the episode.

Susann introduced one of her mentors, Dr. Howard Shubiner to Dick which led them to co-author the following article entitled, "IFS and Chronic Pain: Listening to Parts who Hold the Hurt."

IFS and Chronic Pain (psychotherapynetworker.org)

You can connect with Susann at www.creativesomatics.com or info@creativesomatics.com.

You can sign up for her mailing list to be notified of her upcoming online class beginning in January 2023, “Your Resilient Self: Creative Recovery from Chronic Mindbody Symptoms,” which explores pain reprocessing through the 8 C’s. She refers to Curable- an app that can be found here:

Curable Groups: A 12-Week Healing Bootcamp for Chronic Pain Recovery (curablehealth.com)

And, a training site which can be found here:

OvidDx

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If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment, share with a friend- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books.

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

Transcripts of most episodes are found on tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's podcast I chat with Tara Vogel, a Level One IFS trained practitioner and a certified professional astrologer and coach who is passionate about helping people stay connected to themselves and their soul’s path via the cosmos.

We talk about:

1. The Natal Chart

2. The Moon

3. As above so below (what is happening in the sky today?)

4. Planets as Parts

5. Knowing your child's natal chart is the best parenting hack

6. The daily moon phases- walking through each Zodiac sign

Sprinkled throughout we talk about parts, Self, and parenting.

Tara mentions Seth and his work with IFS and parenting. Seth Kopald has been on the podcast several times. He leads a free Self led parenting Q and A the first Friday of the month on the Facebook Self led parenting page found here:

(8) IFS Self-Led Parenting Group | Facebook

Tara also mentions Derek Scott who heads the IFS Counseling Association and leads IFS trainings. Derek has also been on the podcast a few times. You can find more about Derek here: Home - IFSCA

Tara's website: Home - Luminary Parenting

The 'moon' of the day: https://www.instagram.com/luminaryparenting/

Free e-books: How To Parent Yourself and Your Kids As the Moon Moves Through the Zodiac Signs https://luminaryparenting.lpages.co/reparent-ebook/ What Does Your Sun Sign Reveal About Your Mothering? https://mailchi.mp/841710b7eeb1/ebook Tara loves to dive deeply with her clients and believes that understanding your astrological natal chart is one of the greatest tools we have for developing our consciousness while we’re here on planet earth. Tara reports daily on how to use the celestial bodies to support you in your everyday life in an easy to understand and practical way. She posts everyday on Instagram and gives further insights to her Astrology Community -The Luminary Parenting Community. Her passion is helping moms to understand how to be the best mom they can be for their kids and themselves through astrology. Tara believes in a holistic approach to living and weaves her knowledge of nutrition, herbal medicine and The Internal Family Systems method of psychotherapy into her work. Being a mom of three, living astrology daily and ecstatic dance have been her greatest avenues for healing and wholeness. ------ If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books.

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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Welcome to Season 4!

Today I chat with Dr. Alison Cook, psychologist and author of Boundaries for Your Soul and her new book, The Best of You.

We talk about:

• Psychology and Faith

• The parts that come up with the question, "What do I need?"

• What is 'Self', selfishness, and Self-hood?

• Alison's experience of hearing a part who feels betrayed by Self

• Productive parts and the Enneagram

• Codependency, Relationships, and Fawning

Alison says, "The Best of You is YOU leading all the parts of yourself."

Find out more about Alison at her website here:

Home - Dr. Alison Cook (dralisoncook.com)

If you like this episode subscribe, like, comment- all the things.

My book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self, is available wherever you get books.

You can visit my website Home - Tammy Sollenberger where you can download a free meditation on getting to know your "Should" parts. These are the parts who remind you of what you Should be doing. They may sound a bit harsh and critical at time. We all have them!

You can follow me at ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter and on The One Inside Facebook page.

I'm grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott's IFS Stepping Stones Program. Thanks, Jack for getting me. You can follow Jack on Instagram at bonzemusic.

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On today's podcast I chat with Brian Jaudon, an IFS-trained coach who works with a wide range of clients from executives and entrepreneurs to shamans and creatives.

Brian has led two highly successful IFS and Coaching courses and has been around the IFS world for a long time. We chatted a few times offline when I started the podcast a few years ago so I love that he is the last guest for season 3.

We have a sweet conversation- the best kind I think for the podcast- it has a lot of interesting information about IFS, Gift Development, asking good questions, Contracting, working with Parts.

But the best part is the authentic connection and the conversation that flows so naturally from that. I'm so grateful to him and to all the guests and listeners who make this so fun and rewarding.

Check out all the great things Brian has coming up here- especially his own coaching institute!

Brian Jaudon, Senior Team Development Coach, Greenville, SC

Home | Living Gift Consciousness

To connect with me, follow me @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or on The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com. You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on Amazon at the link below or wherever you get books! The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books ----

Brian says the right question at the right moment is a key that unlocks a lock. Then we give space to experience the ripple that comes from it.

We chatted afterwards about ALL the things and he did this for me- he asked the right question, in the right moment and let silence sit for a minute. The question and the curiosity I have about it continues to ripple.

I'll see you in the fall for season 4....

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On today's episode I chat with Payam, a Psychedelic Somatic Internal Family Systems Practitioner who interfaces with various traditional and non-traditional psychedelic compounds in the treatment of trauma and chronic pain.

He collaborates internationally with world-renowned doctors and therapists in the treatment of an underserved population. Additionally, he has presented his work at numerous medical conferences reporting on the nature of pain through the unitary Mind-Body paradigm while also demonstrating how to alleviate pain at the intersection of traditional shamanic psychedelic medicines and Western evidence-based practices.

His work factors in the biopsychosocial and spiritual elements of healing. By acknowledging and addressing the totality of the human experience, he has seen firsthand how it can have a dramatic effect on mitigating the patient’s affective experience of pain.

Check out Payam's website here: PAYAM and follow him on Instagram @payam_healing.

To connect with me, follow me @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or on The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com. You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on Amazon at the link below or wherever you get books! The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books ---- Enjoy!

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On today's episode I chat with Kim Smith. Kim created a journal to help you have conversations between yourSelf and your parts. This is such a valuable tool for the IFS community.

Kim is an author and publisher. Her late grandmother invited miraculous possibility with 3 words, “Enjoy Your Life.” The mission of Unbelievable Freedom Books is to pass these words on to freedom-seeking readers everywhere.

Kim is one of the most motivational and inspirational people I know. I invite you to listen for the parts of you who get in the way of your Enjoying Your Life. We know those parts have good reason to protect you in the way they do. See if you can bring some curiosity to them, so you can experience the Freedom you have with more access to Self energy.

Get the journal here:

Unblend & Befriend: Conversations with Your Authentic Self: Freedom, Unbelievable: 9781954248090: Books - Amazon

Check out Kim's website here:

Unbelievable Freedom LLC | Waterville, ME

To connect with me, follow me @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or on The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com. You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on amazon or wherever you get books! The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books ---- Enjoy!

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On today's episode I chat with Dr. Tanner Wallace, an IFS trained practitioner who is at the helm of the survivor-led trauma recovery revolution. She guides adults with complex trauma on relationship healing journeys so that they reclaim everything they lost along the way.

This episode is amazing for many reasons- what I especially love about it is I think it will be helpful for people new to the IFS model and for people who get overwhelmed and flooded when they go inside. Tanner offers practical, helpful tips about working with your system in her gently, loving, and warm way.

Check out her website: Relational Healing Lab | Energetic Evidence-based Exploration

Check out her podcast here: The Tanner Wallace Podcast (relationalhealingpodcast.com)

Follow her on Instagram @drtannerwallace

To connect with me, follow @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or at The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com. You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on amazon or wherever you get books! The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books ---- Enjoy!

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On today's episode, I talk with Melissa Mose, MA, LMFT, who is a Level 3 trained Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist and a graduate of the Advanced Behavioral Therapy Training Institute. She specializes in treating anxiety disorders and OCD and has had a private practice in southern California for nearly 30 years.

*Check out Melissa's website here:

Upcoming Workshops and Groups - Melissa Mose, LMFT (melissamosemft.com)

*Melissa will be speaking at this virtual conference:

OCDSoCal – An Affiliate of the International OCD Foundation

*Here is the information for Melissa's new consult group:

IFS Consultation Group: Treating OCD and Related Disorders Beginning May 13th 2022, second and fourth Friday of each month 12pm – 2pm Cost is $85 per consultation group Initial consultation required to be sure our group is right for you While obsessive compulsive disorder is extremely treatable, is a notoriously difficult diagnosis that many clinicians struggle to work with effectively. Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is considered the standard for treating OCD, but many clients and therapists seek a more compassionate approach to treatment. As a Level 3 trained and certified IFS clinician, and the President of OCD SoCal, I have developed an integrative method to treat OCD and related disorders within an IFS framework.

This bi-weekly IFS Consultation Group will:

• Increase your IFS skills and confidence when working with OCD
• Work with your own Therapist Parts to build more creativity, compassion, curiosity, and courage into your practice
• Build connections and gain feedback from other IFS clinicians and colleagues
• Improve competency in working with severe OCD and related disorders
• Experience and/or witness the model through role play practice with Melissa
• Get your IFS, OCD, and related questions answered by an expert in both domains

To connect with me, you can follow me @ ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or at The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com. You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on amazon or wherever you get books! The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I chat with Suzan McVicker and Julia Sullivan. They are part of the Indigenous Elder IFS Council who spoke at the 2021 IFS Annual Conference. Here is their entire workshop on Youtube! (Thank you Sara Oberg!): The Spirit of the Circle: Indigenous Worldview IFS Resonance - YouTube ----- Suzan McVicker became an IFS trainer in 1999 when two year basic IFS trainings--as they were called them back then--were first offered. After joining several IFS training teams and teaching IFS in higher education, local seminars, community classes, and case consultation groups, she turned her attention to collaborating with Native American communities for mutual sharing of what IFS has to offer to Indigenous Peoples and what Indigenous traditions have to offer to the IFS community. Julia Sullivan is a Level 2 trained IFS practitioner (and PA "groupie" for Mary Kruger) who integrates Self leadership and Parts healing into everything she does. Drawing upon her spiritual practice in an indigenous community, 25-years in recovery, and an MBA from Stanford, Julia Co-founded the Indigenous Elder IFS Council to bring peer-based IFS healing that is easily accessible to anyone. Julia also leads the IFS in Business group that meets monthly over Zoom to share best practices in bringing IFS to business. Julia and her Level 1 trained husband Chris take daily walks around a beautiful lake where they deepen their love by speaking for their Parts and Self while basking in the beauty around, between, and within them. -------- 7 Bs of Indigenous-Inspired IFS: * Blessing * Right to Be, Belong, Become * HumBle * Belly Laugh * EmBodied Learning * Balance * Ceremony as UnBurdening

**Dick's writing about Indigenous cultures and IFS:**  …it is becoming increasingly clear that the idea of the mind as unitary is a relatively recent invention of “civilized” society. Indigenous cultures throughout the world were familiar and comfortable not only with a spirit world, but also with an inner realm inhabited by many different voices and characters. It may be that the idea of the normal mind as multiple is less a radical departure from established knowledge than it is returning to an age-old wisdom from which “established knowledge” radically departed. (Schwartz, 2001, p. 85)

Schwartz, R. C. (2001). Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model. Trailheads Publications.

   ----------         Here are links to ALL the things we talk about: Little Wound School 7 B's of Indigenous IFS https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UcpUNiqXLhBvjAJzOP502tzJOIP\_sX2x/view?usp=sharing 8 C Wheel and Key Points https://drive.google.com/file/d/1\_JKDb-slhrB9\_7GEkNFx9AyfkYoxBlk2/view?usp=sharing 8 C Before After Self Assessment https://drive.google.com/file/d/1WVL-M5TYrt0gAFKybiG6XcY3EhT0fqZ9/view?usp=sharing Been Here Meta8c Meeting Flier https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JpQttCtiaOvB9Ian6iCcy8zNpVBdaI3E/view?usp=sharing Meta8c Meeting Framework https://drive.google.com/file/d/1MT4B739r6ZDVHDj9jVjlk51pF9uQ5HJc/view?usp=sharing  For more information about Meta8c meetings, email Meta8c@gmail.com To stay informed about the work of the Indigenous Elder IFS Council, email IndigenousIFS@gmail.com For more information about Julia’s work integrating IFS in executive coaching, corporate team building and large organizations, or to join the IFS in Business group that meets monthly, email IFSinBusiness@gmail.com ---- To connect with me, you can follow me @ ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or at The One Inside Facebook Page. Get a free 'Get to Know a Should part' and sign up for my 'sometimes' monthly newsletter at tammysollenberger.com.  You can buy my book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self" on amazon or wherever you get books!  The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books ---- Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I chat with Christopher Gray and Yaniv Rose. Chris and Yaniv run IFS and Authentic relating groups and courses that are wildly popular.

Chris is a leadership development consultant, helping teams move from protection to connection, candor with curiosity, and creativity. His 20 year career as a Product Leader in Silicon Valley informs his mission in life: to end corporate suffering. He's a certified Authentic Relating facilitator and the co-developer of "The ART of IFS", which combines the practices of Authentic Relating with IFS to deepen and expand our connection with ourselves and others.

Yaniv is a L2 Trained IFS practitioner and coach, he's also a trained Authentic Relating Facilitator, currently in the process of Certification with ART International. He is the co-creator of "The ART of IFS" and he's passionate about love-fertilizing people's valuable and unique self expression, so that they in turn can serve others transformation, as well as their own.

We talk about:

• The 5 practices of Authentic Relating

• As without, so within

• Our body is always Truthing

• Revealing as a tool for awareness, growth, and revelation of parts

• Loving attention as the single most powerful force in the universe

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Mostly we model this beautiful practice of Authentic Relating and IFS: speaking for parts, speaking for what is happening between us in the moment.

They say AR is a meditation for what is here.

The episode is a bit long but so worth it- the last 10 minutes we play an AR game and invite you to do the same.

To join their next course or find more information about Authentic IFS go to: SALES PAGE | The Art of IFS (authenticifs.com)

To get my new book The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self go to : Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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On today's podcast I chat with Derek Scott about the stuck points that occur when working with clients or in our own systems.

The video version of this episode is here: IFS Q&A #6 - YouTube

The session Derek and I did is here: Complete IFS Session - YouTube

For more info about Derek and ALL his offerings go here: Home - IFSCA

You can get the recording of the MasterClass he references with Liz Phillips here: IFS Masterclass - IFSCA

The One Inside: 30 days to your Authentic Self will be available on Amazon in April. You can pre-order it here: The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger Tammy M a: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books

I have a few copies left in my kitchen that I can mail to you! You can order those directly from me here: The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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*Information about the IFS and Enneagram Course starting in MARCH 2022 on both of our websites (see below)****

Joan Ryan and I spend 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of all the episodes:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website: Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

Here is the workshop Joan and I did at the IFS Annual Conference (up now January 2022- I don't know how long it will be up.): Exploring the Integration of IFS and the Enneagram - YouTube

You connect with me on Instagram and Twitter at ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also get a free parts meditation and sign up for my monthly newsletter here:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

You can PRE-ORDER my book which will be released April 1, 2022 on amazon here The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books.

Limited autograph copies available SOLD OUT on my website (more available March 2022!)

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Joan Ryan and I spend 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of all the episodes:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website: Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

Here is the workshop Joan and I did at the IFS Annual Conference (up now January 2022- I don't know how long it will be up.): Exploring the Integration of IFS and the Enneagram - YouTube

You connect with me on Instagram and Twitter at ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also get a free parts meditation and sign up for my monthly newsletter here:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

You can PRE-ORDER my book which will be released April 1, 2022 on amazon here The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books.

Limited autograph copies available NOW on my website.

Enjoy!

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Joan Ryan and I are spending the next 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of all the episodes:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website: Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

Here is the workshop Joan and I did at the IFS Annual Conference (up now January 2022- I don't know how long it will be up.): Exploring the Integration of IFS and the Enneagram - YouTube

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Joan Ryan and I are spending the next 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of all the episodes:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website:  Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

You connect with me on Instagram and Twitter at ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also get a free parts meditation and sign up for my monthly newsletter here:

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Joan Ryan and I are spending the next 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of all the episodes:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website:  Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

You connect with me on Instagram and Twitter at ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also get a free parts meditation and sign up for my monthly newsletter here:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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Joan Ryan and I are spending the next 6 episodes discussing IFS and the Enneagram. These will be weekly episodes that are around 30-minutes.

Here is an outline of the next 6 epis:

1. Introduction to the Integration

2. Centers of Intelligence

3. Heart Center Types and IFS

4. Head Center Types and IFS

5. Body Center Types and IFS

6. Higher Qualities as Access Points to Self Energy

We will be running a 6 week Course starting in March---- More details to come!

Here is the original podcast Joan did about the Enneagram: IFS and The Enneagram with Joan Ryan - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

Check out Joan's website:  Creative Collaborations

Purchase Joan's typing cards: Help Me Find My Enneagram Type — Creative Collaborations

You connect with me on Instagram and Twitter at ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also get a free parts meditation and sign up for my monthly newsletter here:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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On today's episode I chat with Gaby Satarino. Gaby presented the first Spanish speaking workshop at the 2021 IFS Annual Conference. Gaby is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor and Level 1 trained IFS psychotherapist with over 20 years of clinical experience. Her clinical focus is addressing how Latinx cultural values impact engagement and treatment outcomes in therapy. She currently has a private practice in Texas. We chat about: - What is Latinx? - Immigration, acculturative stress, discrimination - Cultural Protective Factors - Polarizations unique to the Latinx community - Cultural Factors and the Family system - What parts are not coming into therapy? - Role of please pleasing and power in therapy - Role of spirituality and building self to part relationships through prayer ------- Gaby is currently offering two workshops: 1) Value of including a culturally aligned contextual interview when working Latinx community 2) IFS and Latinx community Consultation group Check out her website: Gaby Satarino Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (gabysatarinocounseling.com) Her email: gsatarino@yahoo.com The video she mentions is here: Young Latinos: Born in the U.S.A., carving their own identity (nbcnews.com) ----- You can connect with me, get a free Meditation and receive a monthly little note about IFS on my website: Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I chat with Kim Schneiderman, MSW, LCSW. Kim is an "All but paperwork and a video" away from IFS Certification. She is a psychotherapist with the Psychotherapy and Spirituality Institute (PSI) in Manhattan. She is also the author of "Step Out of Your Story: Writing Exercises to Reframe and Transform Your Life" and the Novel Perspective blog on Psychology Today. She has taught self-discovery writing workshops at the New York Open Center, the 92nd Street Y, the JCC of Manhattan, Vassar College, Sivananda Yoga Ashram in the Bahamas, among other venues, and has lectured on the spirituality of crisis and conflict at NYU’s Post-Graduate certificate program in Social Work and Spiritual Care and PSI’s Summer Certificate Program in Spiritually Informed Psychotherapies. We chat about her self-paced online DailyOm course, Reframing Your Narrative About Challenging Relationships offers perspective-bending writing exercises including IFS-inspired dialogues with triggered parts. You can find this here: Reframing Your Narrative About Challenging Relationships | DailyOM Here are the three articles we talk about:

The Self, Lost and Found | Psychology Today

Your Anger Knows Your Worth | Psychology Today

Believe It or Not, Your Anxiety Loves You | Psychology Today

And her psych today page: The Novel Perspective | Psychology Today

Kim's website:

Kim Schneiderman: Psychotherapist, Author, Columnist, Writing Workshops (stepoutofyourstory.com)

My website:

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On today's episode I chat with Certified IFS Therapist Joanne Twombly. Joanne wrote a chapter entitled "Integrating Phase Oriented Treatment of Clients with Dissociative Disorders" in the IFS: New Dimensions book found here: Internal Family Systems Therapy: New Dimensions | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

Here are all the Controversial (in the IFS world!) topics we cover:

• Why we still need coping skills

• Firedrill exercise to quickly unblend from parts

• Integrating IFS into Phase Oriented Treatment

• Why Diagnosis is helpful

• Burdens (and Self!) in Managers, Firefighters and Exiles

• Safe Spaces

• Hypnosis and Trance States

Little warning: We talk about Trauma so there is a point (about 49 minutes) that is upsetting and can be triggering.

You can email Joanne at j.twombly@verizon.net

You can connect with me at The One Inside Podcast Facebook page and on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifstammy.

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I'm super excited to welcome back to the podcast my friend, Jenna Riemersma. Jenna and I were chatting about her concept of 'Moving Towards' and decided to do another episode together. Jenna is such an amazing teacher, and I am thrilled that she shares her wisdom with us. 

I felt so much Self energy and calmness in the middle of the podcast I forgot to ask about her 'Three Steps!'. Thankfully, she reminded my parts who got back online quickly.

Here is an outline:

• Burdened parts move against

• Move against in our culture (politics, covid)

• The Power of the Self and the IFS model

• The 8 C qualities of Self= What Love does and What Love looks like

• Move towards starts with me then moves to we

• Living a Move Toward kind of life - especially in our advocacy

• Betrayal Trauma (Jenna explains the role of parts for both parties)

• Psychological theories and Trauma

• Attachment (External and Internal) ---This is SO GOOD!

• Three Steps of Moving Towards

• All Together You - her book about Moving towards in Faith Communities

......

I took so many notes.

Check out her website for SO MANY free resources:

Jenna Riemersma - Jenna Riemersma

Sign up for my email list to see my book cover REVEAL in November and get a free 'get to know a should part of you':

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Jenna says, "We are way more than the Burden of One (or some) of our parts. We are the Self behind that."

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On today's episode I chat again with my first guest ever, Jim Abrams. Jim is a frequent program assistant at IFS trainings so he is well known by many. Jim emailed me checking in and sharing lessons he is learning, and we wanted to share them with you!

Outline:

1. When a problem becomes real.

2. Changing ones experience of the circumstances.

3. Holding and honoring parts who feel sad, grief, worry and joy simultaneously.

4. Sometimes we need someone else.

5. Polarities- Life is hard and life is joyful

6. It is scary to be hopeful.

7. Holding the parts who hold the pain.

Here is my favorite quote:

"We are not asking the part to be hopeful. We are asking the system to bring comfort and connection to that part so its experience of the circumstance changes."

You can email Jim at Jim.abrams.456@gmail.com

You can connect with me here: Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I LOVE hearing from you!

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On today's podcast I chat with Alessio Rizzo and Robert Fox about having hope when treating and living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

Alessio is a fully accredited Gestalt psychotherapist in the UK and a psychotherapy lecturer. He is a Level 3 IFS therapist and has been a PA for Derek Scott on the Stepping Out Program. He is working towards his IFS certification.

Rob is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who practices in Woburn, Massachusetts. He is a IFS level 3 trained and Certified and an EMDR Certified Therapist. He presented at the 2018 IFS Conference on the topic of treating OCD with IFS Therapy. He was a guest on the IFS Talks podcast about his own personal challenges with OCD and what helped him.

Listen to the episode here:

A Talk with Robert Fox on OCD type Parts | IFS (internalfamilysystems.pt)

Here is an outline of this episode- all times are ish:

• 11 - Their stories and their passion for OCD

-18 - Other tx modalities (ERP is Exposure Response Prevention)

• 24- Trauma and suffering as an invisible and consistent occurrence

• 26- Rob's personal story and Alessio's metaphor (Drop of water on a hard rock)

• 35- Frederick Penzel OCD workbook.

• 37- Recognizing patterns for OCD: repressed anger, a lot of shame, no witnessing adult, shame about OCD.

*OCD parts need to be a powerful enough distraction to keep you away from intense shame

39- Their upcoming workshop (link below- November 27, 2021)

45- Lack of availability of OCD therapists and treatment, Stigma of OCD

51- HOPE

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To sign up for the OCD workshop:

IFS & Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - Sistemas de la Familia Interna (institutoifs.com)

To connect with Alessio:

Therapy with Alessio

To connect with Robert:

Home: Family Therapy | Couples Therapy | Woburn, MA 01801 (jobstresssolutions.com)

To connect with me:

Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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On today's episode I chat with David Mederios, Level Two trained IFS therapist. David has been a program assistant for multiple level one and level two trainings. He has presented at several annual IFS conferences. He spent a year working with Dr. Richard Schwartz and co-presented their experience treating someone diagnosed with Schizophrenia at an annual IFS Conference. David collaborated on the production of Good Grief, which toured nationally.

David and I have a lot of a laughs throughout this '101' episode.

Here is a bit of an outline:

How we met and importance of Dance Parties

His presentation and experience with his patient with Schizophrenia

Drumming Lessons: asking for help and life lessons

His book. Civility and Responsibility. Working with Families struggling in Domestic Violence

His goal in writing his book- especially in light of the 2020 election, Capital Riots, and Covid.

The Foundation for Self Leadership Web series- He is co-leading the first one. STARTS 9/3/21

I tell a little bit about my upcoming book, "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self."

He plays the drums for us to close us out.

This is a 'funky' episode!

To find out more about the upcoming web series with the foundation:

https://foundationifs.org/bridge

To read a Great article about IFS where David is interviewed:

https://elemental.medium.com/inside-the-revolutionary-treatment-that-could-change-psychotherapy-forever-8be035d54770

To see a little bit about Good Grief (there performance was unforgettable!):

Good Grief Performances in Boston | IFS Institute (ifs-institute.com)

David's website:

http://www.davidmedeiroslicsw.com/

Connect with me and get a free parts meditation:

https://tammysollenberger.com/

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Here we are! - Together for the 100th episode with Dick Schwartz.

Dick has always been supportive and kind to me- from meeting him when I came out of a consultation group and he was standing in a hallway alone, to an unfortunate situation at a conference. He has been open and available for this podcast, and I am so grateful.

Dick has a new book out this week called "No Bad Parts," which we planned to talk about. And we do- a little bit.

What happened during our chat was we just started catching up. Then this transitioned to us both sharing some things 'off the record.'

And, of course, Dick does not want to just TALK about the model- he wants to do it. So he says to me, "We can do a little piece of work if you want ..." How could I not agree!?

So, that is what a big piece of this episode is- a demo of the model. You get to hear Dick doing the model and you get to hear me working with my parts.

My hope for you is that you are able to go down your own trailheads as you listen. My hope for you is you learn something about this model. My hope for you is you get to witness the founder of IFS facilitate a session.

Here is a bit of an outline:

• Checking in

• Trailheads

• Dick's 'obsessed with IFS' part

• Demonstration of the Model (from about 15 minutes until about 40 minutes)

• The book- No Bad Parts

• Bigger Plans for IFS

Check out the silly faces we made on my social media pages :)

Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifs.tammy and on The One Inside Facebook page.

Go to my website to get a free parts meditation Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger and get news about my new BOOK called "The One Inside: 30 Days to Connect to Your Authentic Self'- coming out late fall 2021!

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On today's episode I chat with Frank Anderson. His new book, "Transcending Trauma" has been out for a month or so now, and he has done a few podcasts. I wanted to talk to him about how he is doing and what is going on in his life. 

So! This is not just about trauma or his book. This is not about what is happening in the IFS world since Frank is an insider. This is not about Frank's workshops and IFS manuals and all those things.

This episode - the 99th episode- is about authenticity.

We talk about the book, of course. And, we talk about trauma. Mostly, we talk about family, love, and connection and their power to heal all of us.

Frank says, "Love Heals What Trauma Blocks."

You can connect with Frank on Instagram @frank_andersonmd, Twitter @frankandersonmd, and Clubhouse @frankandersonmd.

I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join The One Inside Facebook Page and you can get a free parts meditation when you go to tammysollenberger.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Norma Stevens who is an LCPC in private practice in the Baltimore/DC area. She is a Research Therapist for a Clinical Trial for Psilocybin Assisted Therapy for Depression in Cancer Patients and a Therapist for the MAPS Expanded Access Program for MDMA Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD at the William Richards Healing Center in the Aquilino Cancer Center in Rockville, MD. She is a Certified IFS therapist and an Approved IFS Supervisor for Certification. She has worked as a program assistant extensively for Level 1, 2, and 3 IFS trainings and was a presenter at the 2019 IFS Annual Conference. We talk about: - Processes and essential steps of this treatment - What brought her into psychedelic assisted therapy (such a great story!) and her current work at the Healing Center - Healing potential of psychedelic therapy and what is needed to administer it safely (all the S's- screening, set, setting, skill, and support) - IFS and Psychedelics: A powerful combination (self healing exiles) - Concerns: What about addiction? Don’t psychedelics bypass protectors (and how they do)? What if someone has a history of psychosis? What about “bad” trips? - Importance of Integration and follow up Norma calls this Sacred Work, and I loved hearing her story and her passion. To connect with Norma check out her Linkedin page: (25) Norma Stevens, MS, NCC, LCPC | LinkedIn and her email at norma.stevenslcpc@gmail.com. To connect with me, listen to a Parts Meditation, and hear past episodes: Get a Free Meditation - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I'd also love to connect over all the socials: at The One Inside Facebook page and ifs.tammy on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse. Enjoy!

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On today's podcast I talk with New York Times Best Selling Author, Speaker and lover of IFS Gabby Bernstein.

For over fifteen years, Gabby has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times bestselling author has penned eight books including ​The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor ​and​ the latest, her first Audible Original, ​You Are the Guru. In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby​, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk and conversations about personal growth and spirituality with unique and inspiring guests​. ​What started as hosting intimate conversations with twenty people in her New York City apartment, Gabby has grown into speaking to tens-of-thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world. Gabby was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader.” The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. ​The New York Times​ identified Gabby as “a new role model.” She co-hosted the Guinness World Records’ largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra, and appears regularly as an expert on ​Today and Good Morning Americ​a, among other publications. She connects with her community through her books, her podcast, her Miracle Membership, the Spirit Junkie app, social media, digital workshops and e-courses, and live events. I was thrilled when I found out about Gabby and heard her speak in such a clear, understandable way about IFS. I had to have her on the podcast and am so thankful that she was open to do it. And, that she turned out to be such a warm, kind, and lovely person. It is amazing when we find people talking our same language outside of the IFS community and that is what I thought about Gabby.

I highly recommend you check out her website which is full of free resources. On this episode I mention her TED talk and her Super Soul Session which can be found on YouTube.

Check out her Dear Gabby Podcast- it is so good.

We spoke about a meditation that I did for her miracle membership- you can join this group on Facebook and through her website.

Connect with Gabby here-

Gabby Bernstein - #1 NYT Best Selling Author, Speaker & Spirit Junkie

Connect with Me here-

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You can also find both of us on all the socials- Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

Gabby ends our chat with this description of IFS "... this life altering practice ... has the capacity to change you forever."

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On today's episode I chat with Liz Phillips. Liz comes to couples therapy after four decades of observing and experiencing couple disconnection, and one decade training in couples work to ensure she could be of service. She completed her Level 1 in IFS and Level 2 in IFIO and now runs IFIO-informed workshops to introduce the model to other couples therapists. IFIO stands for Intimacy from the Inside out, and it is the 'couples division' of IFS.

Currently based in Toronto, Liz is a self proclaimed coffee snob, a committed IFIO advocate, and a lover of rescue dogs.

Liz sent me a book in the mail after we recorded this podcast so she is my new best friend. I feel seen.

We talk about:

Emotional Focused Therapy

Neurobiology

Attachment

Parts in relationship

You turns (Liz gives detailed explanation- so good.)

Finding My Soul's Home (in IFIO and IFS)

Liz shares her own personal story of searching and finding her soul's home, and she is vulnerable about her parts and her relationships.

To find out more about Liz and her upcoming workshops go to:

Liz Phillips Therapy

To listen to my friends Naomi Rather and Deb Curtis' podcast that is ALL about EFT go to:

That Relationship Show

To get on my email list to get a free meditation (coming soon) and to keep in touch go to:

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On today's episode I chat with Leslie Petruk, Assistant trainer with the IFS Institute. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT and I am thrilled she took time out of her busy schedule to hang out.

This is Leslie's third time as a guest on the podcast and all my parenting parts are thrilled to have her on again.

Even though this is titled "mom guilt" this episode is for any parental/adult figure who is raising little ones.

We talk about:

• I am Bad. -Ways shame shows up in moms

• Importance of Repair (and learning to apologize well)

• "Not what you did but what you do after."

• Kids and Covid

• Kids and Technology

-You turn as a parent

• Setting up intentions

• The work-life balance myth

• What are managers need from us and importance of perspective

• You can't afford to NOT do self care

• Working from home

• Importance of judgment free community and having a tribe

• Kids have good intuition and bad interpretation (Mommy is crying ... I must have done something wrong).

Find out more about Leslie here:

Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (thestonecenternc.com)

Leslie H. Petruk | MA, LPC-S, NCC, BCC (selfleadership.org)

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On today's episode I chat with Justin Martin, an IFS therapist who lives in FL where he enjoys avoiding Disneyworld, taking advantage of the abundance of palm trees, and writing incredible poetry.

Justin has been IFS informed for a few years and is finishing his level one IFS training. 

We talk about all things MEN. I so appreciate Justin's openness and vulnerability during our conversation.

We cover:

• Men's competitive parts

• Messages men get throughout their life and the need to exile vulnerable parts to fit in with the system around them

• Dating

• 'Nice Guys'

• The term 'Toxic Masculinity'

• Authenticity and Attachment 

We end with Justin sharing several of his writings that are vulnerable and intimate.

Check out Justin's website here:

IFS Therapist in Winter Park, FL | Parts of Me Therapy

Follow Justin on Instagram @partsofmetherapy

As always, I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. And, on The One Inside Facebook Page. You can find past episodes and keep in touch with me at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger I love hearing from you!

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On today's episode I chat with Mary Kruger, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute and one of the developers of the Level Two Addiction training.

Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12 step model.

We talk SO MUCH about Shame.

We talk about the 12 steps as a Spiritual Path and working with parts who have difficulties with 12 step programs.

We talk about addiction as 'disease' and where this idea comes from. Disease is disharmony; IFS restores harmony.

We talk about family and trauma.

We talk about the connection and shame reducing power of group work.

Mary talks about looking inside, even though a part may fear the badness and shame that may be found there, and the healing when we take back in who we are truly intended to be.

She says that curiousity and compassion are our biggest healing agents.

Connect with Mary at Marykruger@sbcglobal. net or on her website: Home Page (mpkruger.com).

Connect with me @ifs. tammy on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse. Join The One Inside Facebook page to connect and chat. Join my email list at tammysollenberger.com. 

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On todays episode I chat with Kim Daniels, Level 2 IFS Therapist. Kim is a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Emotional Eating Coach who's on a mission: to create an army of women who never deny themselves the food they love, who treat themselves with the compassion and respect they deserve, and who value themselves and their bodies. And who never. Diet. Again.

Doesn't that sound A- MA- ZING?!

I so enjoyed our chat about all things Intuitive Eating and IFS.

We check in until about the 11 minute mark and then jump into all the good stuff:

diet culture

set point theory

health at every size

polarized parts (restrictive and overeating)

why diets do not work- biologically

legacy burdens and messages from culture and family

At about the 30 minutes mark we dive a bit more into Intuitive Eating:

body food congruence

moral meaning and shame around food

'play food'

And, a lot about working with all of our parts

Kim has a group coaching program called Food and Body Freedom that's starting in June--the link is https://www.subscribepage.com/foodfreedom_copy.

She has an email challenge called the Intentional Eating Challenge--the link is https://bit.ly/intentionallyeat.

And she has a free E-Course called Diets: Why They Don't Work and How to Quit Them for Good. That link is https://bit.ly/exitingdietculture.

Her website is yourweightisnotyourworth.com, and you can connect with her on Instagram @kimdanielspsyd.

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On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to start a podcast :)

Nic Wildes, LMHC (Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a group practice devoted to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is especially passionate about how IFS can be used to empower queer, transgender, nonbinary, and gender diverse people. Nic offers individual and group consultation. They have recently started IFS consultation groups for those wanting to connect and learn in LGBTQI+ affinity. SAYFTEE, their group practice, is also a great resource for LGBTQI+ people, families and clinicians wanting more connection. SAYFTEE is currently expanding their training capacity to support more folks providing gender affirming care and have a lot they are doing to create community locally. Nic is also looking to connect and build community with other trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive IFS therapists /practitioners. If this applies to you, they would love to hear from you. -------

We talk -Nic is wise and I ramble...- about:

Nic's story

All of our own experiences of gender

"Who can I be in what spaces"

Gender messages we ALL get as kids

Laws and Violence against Transgender women

Pronouns (The trauma of being misrecognized)

Trans Visibility (In History and Movies)

Camp for kids

Get curious about our own experience with gender

'There is something wrong with me.'

Nic can be reached at nicwildes@gmail.com.

To find out more about Nic and the meditation we discuss go to:

Resources | Nic Wildes, LMHC

The camp info:

Camp Aranu'tiq of Harbor Camps for Transgender Youth (camparanutiq.org)

The podcast we talk about:

‎The Laverne Cox Show: Moving Beyond the Gender Binary w/ ALOK on Apple Podcasts

The documentary, Disclosure:

THE FILM — DISCLOSURE: Documentary by Sam Feder and Amy Scholder (disclosurethemovie.com)

Their Group Practice:

SAYFTEE

Follow them on Instagram @sayftee Facebook: SAYFTEE Twitter: @SAYFTEEBoston --------

I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse. There are now 2 IFS inspired Clubs!

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On todays episode I chat with Spencer Thompson, a Level 2 IFS Practitioner. He practices what he calls 'Self-Leadership Coaching,' emphasizing how IFS and Self-Leadership can impact us daily. He is passionate about group dynamics and creating unique container spaces that invite people into situations to practice and share in Self-leadership with others. He also loves helping people communicate for their parts and listen for the parts of others.

We talk about 'What is NVC' and walk through OFNR (which is like the 6 F's in IFS).

We talk about Being IFS vs Doing IFS.

We talk about parts (a lot!).

And, we talk about lots of stuff in between.

To find out more about Spencer, check out: https://self-leadership-coach.com/

Spencer will have a video demonstrating the integration between IFS and NVC and other resources here: (12) Spencer Thompson, Self-Leadership Coach | Facebook

As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger

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On today's episode I talk with Molly Lacroix, a certified Level 3 IFS therapist, about her new book, "Restoring Relationship: Transforming Fear into Love Through Connection."

I love this title so much I keep repeating it throughout the show...

Outline:

1. Reasons she wrote the book

2. Her introduction and journey with IFS

3. IFS and Christian Spirituality

4.  Outline of the book:

• Judging, legalism and over reliance on cognitive parts

• Why are we so vulnerable? (development and attachment)

• The way forward (IFS)

• IFS with common causes of distress

• Her Breast Cancer journey

• Finding connection in the social media/publishing 'game'

• A New Spiritual Practice (loving ourselves, unblending)

• How IFS and Christianity Enhance one another

• New book project: How to Heal Our Divides. Her chapter is How IFS Helps Heal our Inner Divides.

Check it out here: https://howtohealourdivides.com/

Connect with Molly here: https://mollylacroix.com/ and on Facebook and Instagram.

As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at tammysollenberger.com - maybe I will send you an email one day soon.

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On today's episode I chat with Heidi Armstrong- IFS Informed super warrior, super star, and all around one of the most resilient human beings I have ever met.

Her story is tragic and hopeful and inspiring.

Here is a brief outline of the show:

Her story and lessons learned along the way (0-30 minutes)

Recipes for Success (30 minutes on- )

Steps people can do now (So practical)

For therapists and supports of injured athletes

Check out more of Heidi's story and her offerings here: https://injuredathletestoolbox.com/

Email her at Heidi@injuredathletestoolbox.com

I'd love to hear from you! Connect with me on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse @ifs.tammy and with the community on Facebook at The One Inside Podcast. 

Check out my website at tammysollenberger.com. More to come there soon!

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On today's episode I chat with Lois Ehrmann, a Level 3 IFS therapist and frequent staff member for Susan McConnell's Somatic IFS trainings.    Lois is a grandmother extraordinaire; I want to drop the boy off at her house for a week. Or, drop off all my exhausted, overwhelmed parenting parts.   Lois has integrated IFS and Attachment therapy with families struggling with trauma. She developed a narrative method to teach parents and children the concepts of IFS which has empowered children to use the method of Insight as well as Direct Access. She is now mostly doing training and consultation as she co parents her own 3 year old granddaughter.   I LOVED this conversation with Lois.   Update and FYI- We recorded this right after the Capital Shootings. I checked with Lois this week and she is vaccinated and back at home with her family. Email Lois at loisehrmann@gmail.com to get copies of her INCREDBILE Parenting and kids workbooks.

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On today's episode I chat with Gale West, MA, MFA. Gale is the author of the IFS- and Akashic Records-inspired bestselling book, Money Come Dance With Me.

A certified IFS practitioner, she has 30 years of experience in IFS, has presented at numerous conferences and was in a consult group with Dick for 15 years. The first training was in her apartment in 1996.

A former psychotherapist in private practice, for the past ten years Gale has been providing individual and group coaching to conscious entrepreneurs and creatives inspiring joy, purpose and financial expansion while transforming their relationship to money and success. Also an artist, she delights in beauty and grand adventures.

I ALMOST titled this with 'delight with money'- but honestly, the theme that runs throughout ALL we talk about is DELIGHT in our whole life. Here is a bit of an outline:

The Self of Money

The Self of Business

The Burden of Money

The Lessons from her Strokes

The Joy of finding higher meaning in our Jobs

The biggest ah ha- My Body is Housing my Soul

The Importance of being aware of your Transceiver

Gale asks, Is my heart desire, my head desire and my soul desire aligned?

To find out more about Gale and to purchase her book:

https://successwithsoul.com/about-gale/

Please share this episode with a friend who could use a bit of DELIGHT in their life! Don't forget to subscribe, like, leave a review- all the things.

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On today's episode I chat with Diana Richards, registered dietitian, Anusara yoga teacher, and who is certified in IFS. Diana offers workshops, consultation groups, and Intuitive Eating groups. She is a frequent staffer at IFS trainings and partnered with Jeanne Catanzaro in the IFS Continuity Program about Self Led eating and using IFS to heal food and body concerns.

On this episode we talk about:

• Diana's own personal story

• "It is not about the food at all." 

• A parts driven approach

• Impact of family, culture and society

• Self led Eating

• Manager, Firefighter and Exile roles in the eating cycle

Check out Diana's website here to find out about ALL of her amazing offerings:

https://namastenutrition.net/

Follow Diana's on Instagram @dianarichards and on Facebook @Dianaduganrichards

Also, this is the workshop in June I mention in the intro. Sign up here:

Blog Archives - Therapy Training Boston

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On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, IFS Practitioner. This is Seth's second appearance on the podcast!

He has a PhD in organizational leadership and has a long history in education. He is Level 3 trained in IFS and is well known for his presence on the IFS and Parenting and Arts Facebook pages. He also stars in the IFS Parenting webinar videos put out by the Foundation for Self Leadership.

On this podcast, we wanted to talk about Spirituality and Self. Of course, we talk about SO MANY things!

We chat about:

• Incorporating IFS into your spiritual practices

• Being aware of Spiritual Bypass

• Deepening our Understanding of Self Energy

• Connected with Guides

• When supernatural becomes common enough to be natural

• Moving from our Head to our Heart (this was beautiful!)

At the end, Seth stresses the importance of a daily practice- checking in with Self energy.

Check out many of Seth's offerings here:

https://www.sethkopald.com/

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On today's episode, I chat with Loch Kelly, an IFS trained psychotherapist, a well known meditation and awakening leader, author of 2 incredible books, and all around super amazing, warm and friendly person. 

Loch's approach to accessing Self is different then Dick's, and Loch suggests asking the F's, which we normally ask of parts, to  one's Self.

Loch teaches us to ask: Who is aware and Who is the one asking?

Loch explains and then leads us in a meditation around, "What is here when there is no problem to solve?" You will find a copy of this in its own podcast to listen to on repeat when necessary.

We talk about three common Self-like parts.

To find out about ALL the amazing things Loch has to offer go to https://lochkelly.org/

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Here is a copy of a meditation from the longer full episode with Loch.

For more of Loch's offerings check out:

https://lochkelly.org/

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On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Daphne Fatter, certified IFS therapist and a licensed psychologist in private practice in Dallas, Texas. She teaches workshops on white racial socialization for therapists, in addition to teaching on trauma treatment for TZK seminars. She is a trained facilitator by Challenging Racism to lead conversations on race and racism.

This is the last episode in the Heirloom Summit Series, and I'm excited to this with Daphne who walks through the Six Stage White Racial Developmental Model by Janet Helms.

We also discuss teaching kids about whiteness, privilege and racism. The book that she mentions is "Raising White Kids: Bringing up children in a racially unjust America" by Jennifer Harvey. Daphne has a ton of resources on raising kids to be anti-racist on her website.

We talk about trailheads to our protective parts around racism and the parts who try to separate, numb, and disconnect from racism and parts who engage in 'white saviorism.' A list of trailheads is on her website too.

Find out more about Daphne here:

https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/

Her email is: info@daphnefatterphd.com

Find out about the workshop she co-leads here:

https://www.daphnefatterphd.com/treating-racial-trauma-series.html

More Information about the White Racial Developmental Model by Jennifer Helms here:

https://libguides.du.edu/c.php?g=1046908&p=7596766

https://coatescbc.files.wordpress.com/2016/07/helms-white-racial-identity-development-model.pdf

She suggests this podcast on Whiteness that is 'too good not to share': https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

For more about 'Calling in' check out: https://www.learningforjustice.org/magazine/spring-2019/speaking-up-without-tearing-down

I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on Facebook at The One Inside Facebook page.

To register for the Heirloom Summit and receive a discount as a listener of TOI go to http://bit.ly/theoneinside

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On today's episode, I chat with Ty Cutner, an IFS Informed Relationship and Image Coach who has a passion for working with men. Ty will be hosting two panels with the Heirloom Summit.

You may know Ty from a Demo he did with Dick which is on the Continuity Program in the IFS Diversity and Inclusion workshop.

Link to the Demo HERE!

If that link does not work try this one :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al7jnW-Z08w&feature=youtu.be

I just want to note how HUGE it is that Dick (and Sara Oberg at the IFS Institute!) allowed us to have access to this link.

We talk about the polarizations from the demo and what has happened in his system since then. Ty is vulnerable and his story is painful and beautiful. It is full of hope and motivation.

Ty continues to talk about his younger exiles throughout this episode. And, I continue to ASK- I have STRONG mothering parts who WILL NOT UNBLEND. I still notice them as I interact with Ty even now.

Ty talks about his experience and lessons learned with an ice bath in Maine. Our internet connection is not the best during this story which is about the first 8 minutes of the episode.... it gets better.

Around the 30 minute mark Ty shares his thoughts about racism.

At the 40 minutes mark we talk about how Ty is coaching men on their image and shares his own discovery of why image is so important.

Ty talks about The Gentlemen's Factory, a social club for men of color where he's a founding member in Brooklyn, NY.

Connect with Ty on Instagram and Facebook or on Ty's Image Coach Website

I'd love to connect with you @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and on Facebook at The One Inside Facebook page.

To register for the Heirloom Summit and receive a discount as a listener of TOI go to http://bit.ly/theoneinside

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On today's episode, I talk with Francesca Maxime', an IFS informed powerhouse!

Her passion is contagious and my hope is that you will take one of the MANY resources and challenges she gives to 'accept your assignment' while giving ALL of your parts (including your racist parts) compassion and care.

One of my favorite quotes: "We are all breathing carbon monoxide which is racism and think we are breathing oxygen... it does sicken over time."

Check out her website here: https://www.maximeclarity.com/

Check out her podcast here: https://beherenownetwork.com/category/francesca-maxime/

Check out her upcoming talk on Active Mourning:

Active Mourning: Transforming Grief, Loss, Longing, and Resentment | InsightLA Meditation

To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:

http://bit.ly/theoneinside

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On today's episode I connect with Dr. Virginia Seewaldt.

Virginia and I talk about (in order):

• Living in NYC and coping with Covid

• Her experience with IFS and her passion for racial justice

• Whiteness as the 'norm'

• Pantsuit Nation Facebook Story and 'centering the voices of color'

• Listening and learning about our own Prejudices

• White Fragility

• Whiteness and Privilege

• Worry about 'saying it wrong' is still centering 'me'

• What we do from here and having compassion for all of our parts

It is a bit long, but it is good! It was a connected, warm and engaging conversation.

For more information about Virginia:

https://racialliteracygroups.com/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/virginia-seewaldt-new-york-ny/61162

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On today's episode, I chat with Steve Spitzer and Glenn Williams. Steve, Emeritus Professor of Sociology at Suffolk University in Boston, has taught, researched, and written on crime, justice and social control for three decades.

He is Level 2 IFS trained and has presented his use of the IFS model inside prisons at multiple IFS annual conferences and has written articles in the IFS newsletter, The Outlook.

In 2002, he founded the Jericho Circle Project, a non-profit organization that seeks to 'bring down the walls' by creating men's support groups in correctional facilities.

Since the project began, almost 1000 incarcerated men have sat in Jericho Circles in county, state, and federal correctional institutions in Massachusetts, Maine, and Rhode Island.

Glenn participated in the Jericho groups when he was incarcerated for 21 years and later met Steve in a different context. Glenn now 'pays it forward' with his organization, Our House Boston.

Glenn is Level One IFS trained and is passionate about spreading the word about our True Essence, especially to black men in urban settings.

Glenn is a reentry advocate and community investor who works with various individuals, families, organizations and businesses to raise awareness about and create solutions to the challenges of incarceration and prisoner reintegration. This conversation is AMAZING. I cannot convey this in words. Here are some themes:

'Self' Discovery

Masculinity

Men's work inside prisons, power of vulnerability, and speaking for parts

'Climbing out of the man box'/Taking off masks

The importance of power in manliness for Black Men

Glenn states, "Who I pretend to be (what my community and society says I need to be in order to survive) and my Essence are not the same thing."

And, "IFS offers the opportunity for Self Discovery and Self Exploration (inside and outside of prison). Discovering that my shame and guilt are parts of me and do not have to define who I am at my core."

To find more about Jericho circle go to https://jerichocircle.org/

Check out this 90 minute documentary on the nature of their group work that was filmed at California State Prison Sacramento. That film, produced by the group that initially mentored them in the work (Inside Circle), will give you a taste of the kind of work done (albeit at a somewhat higher level of intensity than is typical of Jericho Circle’s groups) on their weekends. Video is found here: https://www.topic.com/the-work To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:

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On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson, a superstar in the IFS and Trauma world. You may know him as a lead trainer at the IFS Institute, by his PESI workshops, or as the co-author of the IFS Skills Training Manual.

He is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, and I assumed we would talk about meds and neurotransmitters.

I was wrong.

Frank is personal, engaging, and hilarious. He shares a lot of his own story and is vulnerable and real.  I decided to leave in our entire conversation (instead of cutting out some of the beginning bits) because you get a feel for him right from the start.

We talk about Spirituality and the integration with Science and Research. We talk about LGBTQ plus, lots about complex trauma, and we touch on parenting and substance use. We talk about psychedelics, mediums, and ascended masters (I had to look that up afterwards).

It is a wild ride. 

Frank's website is here

To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:

https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx

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On today's episode I chat with Heidi Lindeman, a level 3 trained IFS therapist who is passionate about helping others transform their relationship with suicidal parts.

Heidi shares her own incredible story of suffering with suicidal thoughts, obsessions, and images for years and the healing transformation she made when she began to listen to these parts and relate to them differently.

Heidi's website is here

Heidi's YouTube channel is here

To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get a special discount as a listener of the podcast:

https://www.blacktherapistsrock.com/Products/Products.aspx

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Happy 2021! I thought it would be a good way to start the year by talking about IFS and the 12 steps as so. many. of. us. will make goals around changing behaviors we do not like (or PARTS of us do not like!).

I'm super excited to chat with my guest Nadine Lucas, Level 2 IFS trained, who has converted the 12 step program into IFS language called PATH- Program for Addiction and Trauma Healing.

We chat about her struggle with the God language in 12 Step programs and her pull to return again and again for the community and connection.

Nadine has begun a very popular 12 step and IFS program that is just in the beginning stages.

We talk a lot of OA (Overeaters Anonymous) and the Power of the Self (power seems to need a Capital letter here).

The first half is her story and the 2nd half is about reframing the first three steps. The 2nd half is rich with IFS concepts like Self, firefighters, burdens, exiles, and healing. We talk about 'Are parts addicted?'

Check out Nadine's Psych today page- here

Stay tuned for the Heirloom Summit link where you can receive a discount on your enrollment!

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On today's episode I chat with Jay Earley, a popular IFS teacher who authored the book, "Self Therapy" and who leads ongoing IFS courses and groups.

Our chat can be broken up into 3 sections-

1. His story, and similarities and differences between what he teaches and what Dick teaches. He shares his take on unblending and inner critics. He shares his 'GPS of the mind' program.

He states, "I am not competing with IFS."

2.  Capacity Development- What are the 'capacities of Self' to be developed and discovered?

1. "The Great Turning"--- "Inner work for the world"

Here is the website to ALL the things Jay offers:

https://personal-growth-programs.com/

This is the online tool we discussed:

https://selftherapyjourney.com/

I would love to hear what you think the 'Capacity' is for the word I am trying to find in the middle of the episode. The word was 'Scarcity,' and I MEANT to ask Jay what he thought the capacity was but got lost in trying to find the word! Let me know if you can help me out on this one @ifs.tammy on Instagram and Twitter and The One Inside Facebook Page. 

I will see you there.

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On today's episode, I chat with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander. Ingrid and Dorothea along with Tyler Haaren, Joya Lonsdale, Julia Sullivan, and Paula Shulman led a workshop on "Healing Racism From the Inside Out, Unburdening our Parts around Race and Racism", at the 2016 IFS Annual Conference, and were a part of the plenary session, along with Tyler, Joya and Donna Dellal-Ferme at the 2017 IFS Annual Conference titled Self-Led Activism. Releasing Your Inner Change Agent.

I encourage you to listen and observe your own parts' reactions. Use these as trailheads to do your own work and meet the younger parts of you who hold pain.

We talk about this book a lot-- check out this article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-author-speaks/201709/my-grandmother-s-hands

They share their own personal stories and their experiences working with their racist parts.

What is said over and over is the power of the model to heal, and the importance of following the trailheads of our own racism to get to our exiles and our own ancestors and legacy burdens.

We talk about so much- indigenous peoples, polyvagal theory, classism, capitalism, grief and shame. And, we laugh... I promise.

Read about The Dakota 38 here

Ingrid has an ebook/workbook that uses IFS and Polyvagel theory to help people with chronic worry. It is found at www.calmyourworries.com

She also will be offering a mastermind membership in 2021 to help people move from worry and self-doubt to calm self-confidence. For more information, sign up for her newsletter at Ingrid's website

Dorothea is available to work with you around Unburdening our Racists Parts or Parts Affected by Racism.

She also offers workshops on Working with Anxiety to Release Unconscious Limiting Thoughts, Working with Anger or Angry Parts as a Powerful Tool, Setting your Internal GPS... Your I-GPS, and Healing Parts around Boundaries. Find out more about Dorothea and her offerings at her website here

We talk about several handouts which you can get by contacting her. Email her to receive "The Concrete Work of Eliminating Your Racism" which is a list of trailheads at hrossowyc@gmail.com.

And, as always, come say Hi to me @ifstammy on Instagram and Twitter or at The One Inside Facebook page. I love hearing from you.

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On today's episode, I chat with Joan Ryan, an internationally recognized Enneagram expert and Leadership coach. Fortunately for our community, Joan is also Level One Trained in IFS. 

I have been looking for someone to talk to me about IFS and the Enneagram and was beyond thrilled when I found Joan. 

Joan is a type 9 and I am a type 3 so we talk about these types a lot. We also talk a bit about type 8s.

Whether you are new to the enneagram or not, I think you will find our conversation interesting and informative. Like me, you may walk away with a desire to know more!

Find out more about Joan and get her amazing "Help me find my enneagram type' card set on her website here

Email Joan at joanrryan@gmail.com

Join her Facebook page Enneagram Learning with Joan Ryan

I'd love to hear what your type is and chat with you about the enneagram and IFS- thoughts, ideas, wonderings, etc. on Instagram and Twitter @ifstammy and The One Inside Facebook Page.

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On today's episode I talk with Jenna Riemersma, author of the book, "Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy."

Jenna states, "IFS helps deliver what my faith tradition promises." 

I love the concept of the "Spiritualizing part" who uses God language but has a feeling of moving away and not moving towards.

We talk about Self being the God image inside us all, and the idea of thinking about sin as the burden of trauma.

Jenna talks about restoration; the restoration of our parts with our Self.

She talks directly to you, dear listener. If you come from a faith background and have parts who think IFS is a wacky cult. If you are here to talk IFS and have been wounded by the church. This episode- and her incredible book- are for you.

Jenna's website here 

Dick's interview with Jenna here (This is AMAZING!)

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On today's episode I share my experiences with my own system on a tough day.

You will hear from my parts who like to be dramatic and exaggerate. You will hear from the parts who respond to this with eye rolling and twitching. And, you will hear how sometimes just sitting in the middle of a sidewalk is the best choice.

You will hear my dog's squeaky toy in the background over and over again.

You don't want to miss this ;)

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On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Susan recently published a new book on Somatic IFS and it may be my new favorite IFS book.

Here is an outline (all of the times are 'ish')

Check in-

Meditation- 11-16:00

Reconnecting Mind and Body, what disconnects us? - 25:00 

Importance of Embodying Self- 33:00

Witnessing through the Body- 38:00

Body Systems- 43:00

The Elements- 55:00

At the end of each podcast I ask guests if there is anything else they want to cover. Typically, I cut this out but I LOVE how Susan processes this question so I left it in - 62:00

I start crying at the end too... oh boy.

I loved the meditation so much I made a separate podcast for that. Thinking you (and I!) can revisit that again and again.

Want more?

Get her book "Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice."

IFS Talks Podcast had Susan on twice. Check them out here

Susan's website here

UPCOMING IFS Masterclass hosted by Derek Scott with Susan on February 12 here

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Here is a little gift!

A meditation pulled from the full Somatic IFS episode which will be released in a few days.

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On today's episode I chat with IFS Practitioner Milena Worsham as she shares her incredible story of growing up biracial in Texas.

Milena is a master story teller and I was drawn in from the beginning. I had this sensation of leaning in close as she spoke.

She states, "I grew up believing I was white.... This is a protection for the family... White is a protection. It is safe."

The first half of the episode is her and her family's story. The second half is about her connection to feminism and the performing arts. We talk about the womb and the legacy burdens we take on in the womb. We talk about family loyalty and family secrets. We talk about what we are 'allowed' to be as women.

I am not going to be able to tell you or share with you here the power of her story and her voice!

I decided to sum it all up with the "Belonging."

Just listen! I think you will walk about feeling moved and empowered.

Check out Milena's website to learn more about her. You can email her at milenaworsham@gmail.com.

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On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation.

Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention.

Here is a bit of an outline:

1. Create our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self)

2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts

3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom

4. The Gifts of our Exiles

5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts

6. Degrees of Blending

7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are'

8. Relational Heart Based Activism

9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?"

You can email Paul at probneus@gmail.com for information about the Challenges of Applying IFS: Mastering the Basics Seminar which runs about 8 months once a year.

Please subscribe, like, comment- all the things to the podcast.

The podcast is now on YouTube!

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On today's episode I chat with Laura Schmidt who bravely shares her story of a "life changing event" with openness and vulnerability. It is heartbreaking and inspiring. It is a story of acceptance and hope, of yielding and the need for patience.

There are many parallels between the lessons she learned over the past decade and many of our own struggles with the Covid Pandemic.

Put your pens down on this one and notice your parts- your sensations, your feelings, and your thoughts. Notice and be with, letting those parts feel your presence and attention as you begin to befriend whatever comes up.

Laura has been a Certified IFS therapist for 10 years. She is a PESI Seminar Speaker, Approved Consultant for IFS Certification, and an AAMFT Supervisor. She loves teaching IFS and leading workshops, consultation, and process groups. She is committed to supporting healers doing their own work so they can be more Self-led, effective and energized.

Laura's website here Or check out https://lauraschmidtlmft.com/

Laura's Caring Bridge site here

Join Laura for Pause for Calm and Connection 1st Wed of each month at noon PT. Sign up on her website.

Email Laura at Laura@lauraschmidtlmft.com

Join Laura's Facebook page Laura Schmidt LMFT and on Instagram @ pausewithlaura.

Laura would love to hear from you after you listen to the podcast. Let her know which of your parts resonated with her story.

And, of course, join The One Inside Facebook group and follow me @ifstammy. I'll see you there.

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On today's episode, I chat with Derek Scott about "What is IFS?"

Do you want the people in your life to know what this 'IFS thing' is all about? Well, here you go!

I am THRILLED to give this to you, and hope it is a gift you give to your friends, family, co-workers, and strangers on the street.

Derek teaches with humor and wisdom and warmth. I interrupt a lot so that is fun.

We also talk about how perfectionism, need to try harder, need to get it right, need to never make a mistake, etc. parts may form and why.

We talk about being 'too' sensitive, loud, quiet, etc., and how we can get the message, "It is not safe to be me, I need to Dim My Light as a way of being in the world."

To find Derek's info and an abundance of videos, workshops, etc. go to:

Parenting tools

IFS counseling association

You Tube

Let me know what you think about this episode @ifstammy on Instagram or on The One Inside Facebook Page here.

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On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS.

I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle School part and my 'Don't say too much personal stuff!' part.

Patricia and I spend the first 30 minutes on process and connection and the last half on content. We talk a lot about 'internal consent' and the importance of knowing, hearing from and being with your own parts. You may find you also need to work with your own parts as you listen to the episode. I appreciate Patricia's gentle care and check in's with me and the listener throughout.

My favorite part of this episode is towards the end when Patricia pulls it all together with how the six S's of Sexual Self Energy help us assess for Self leadership. Then, she teaches how we can use the 6 F's of IFS to get to know the parts of us who get 'between' us and the S's. It will all make sense!

Patricia says when we do this work, the shift in ourselves is revolutionary and worth it.

Find out more about Patricia here

Email Patricia at prich@relatingwellcenter.com

Look forward to her upcoming Self Led Sexuality Facebook group!

Check out the IFS Institute's Continuity Program here

Come say HI to me @Ifstammy on Instagram and The One Inside Facebook page.

Enjoy!

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On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show! 

I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom.

I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered.

Let me know what your parenting intention is at The One Inside Facebook page or @IFSTammy on Instagram. I share mine in the intro.

Parenting revolution- Free Parenting Videos from Derek Scott's IFSCA (ifsca.ca). This is HOT off the presses- I can't wait to dive in. 

Email Leslie to find out more about upcoming workshops and keep abreast about her upcoming book, "Oh My God, I Sound Just Like My Mother" at leslie.petruk@gmail.com

Join the IN-Sight parenting: Compassionate Parenting from the Inside Out page on Facebook

Check out the Parenting course led by Leslie with the IFS Institute

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Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens).

Here is a bit of an outline of the show:

1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid)

2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid)

3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families

4. Adult children dealing with intense feelings of loss and avoidance parts (We pause to deal with my parts who are triggered... this is about 23-28 min mark. 

5. Guilty parts in 2nd marriages

6. 'Do you want to be right or do you want to experience closeness and love'

7. Using phrases "In my opinion"/"From my perspective"

8. Partners often ask us to stretch... we are better for it

9. Seeing pain (exile) behind partners 'a-hole' behaviors (protector)

10. How to stay when it is really hard? Or separate in a connected way.

11. Five practical tips on communication (about 50 min)

12. Embracing the Suck (the parts of my partner I don't like)

13. Be Curious, Not Furious

I share way too much personal information in this episode- about my family of origin (a blended family) and about my marriage. I took a long time editing this and checking with my parts about how comfortable they felt putting this out there. So, here it is. I may take it down immediately ;)

Marushka's website entitled Relationship Visions

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Welcome back! Here we are - season 2.

On today's episode, I chat with Leon Silvers, founder of Drag Therapy and STAR of Drag Heals (well, he is the star of epi 2, season 2).

I'm curious how your parts reacted to the title of this episode. I imagine some of your parts are like, 'What is that?' And some are like, 'Oh, gosh.' And some are like, 'How fun!'

I hope you can be with all those parts, those voices inside, and listen to this episode. I promise it is FULL of creativity and energy and fun.

I was surprised about what Drag therapy is and what it isn't. I was surprised by how open and creative I began to feel just talking to Leon.

Here are some of the gems inside the episode:

• Expansive play (how this helps me appreciate one of my critics)

• Freedom and creativity

• Opening up to all the parts inside

• Power of embodying parts and giving them voice

• Using fiction to allow 'managers' to loosen up (Meet my manager Tom the lawyer who is dressed in a suit- about 20 min mark)

• Wilderness therapy and playing with 'category' (about 40 min mark)

Check out:

Leon's website

Drag therapy website

Leon's episode of Drag Heals (season 2, epi 2), coming out in October

TED talk with Amy Cuddy about the Superman pose (part of me thinks there may have been some controversy around her after this?)

Need some help with your website? Check out a special deal for The One Inside listeners here

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On today's episode, I talk with Tom Holmes. He and his wife, Lauri wrote the book, "Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life." Sharon Eckstein created incredible illustrations which are in the book and the Inner Active cards.

The book and the Parts Work Inner Active cards are some of my favorite IFS tools. I can't express how much I love- and use- the parts cards!

Tom has been around the IFS community for a long time- Dick mentions him in the epi we did last fall. Tom tells us his journey with IFS and how his personal work helped him with burnout (we have heard that many times of this podcast).

He describes the origin of the book and cards and describes how he has seen over and over again the power of these very special cards across cultures.

Tom now travels the world teaching IFS or what he sometimes calls Parts Work, Internal Systems Therapy, or Integrated Internal Systems Therapy.

Tom is passionate about integrating Spirituality and IFS and is working on his next book exploring spiritual paths.

I wrote down so many quotes of Tom's such as:

"As a person gets centered in Self, their spiritual life awakens and deepens."

We can "water the seeds of Self" (through spiritual rituals, meditation, nature, etc).

"When we bring peace to our inner system, we bring peace to the world."

"If we can help people tap into and access Self/Spirit/Connected Energy- what else is more important?" (That is a loose quote!)

Email Tom at tomholmes42@gmail.com if you want to talk with him about teaching IFS at your organization.

Tom's website has many videos of him teaching and with a demonstration of the Parts Work Cards. My son and I love the video of Tom using the Inside Out Puppets!

If you want to connect with me, I am at #ifstammy on Instagram and at The One Inside Facebook page. I will see you for Season 2 in September!

Enjoy and take care!

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On today's episode, the final for honoring minority mental health month, I talk with Nydia Guity, an IFS therapist, podcaster, writer, and natural hair enthusiast.

I had no idea ("but didn't I?," says a part) the 'emotional baggage that comes with hair,' whatever your race, culture, or background.

Nydia shares her story- her parents are originally from Honduras and celebrate the Garifuna culture, she grew up in NYC speaking Spanish as her first language, went to college in Vermont, and currently lives in Atlanta.

I appreciate her vulnerability and openness as we connect. I ask a lot of dumb white girl questions. Parts of me are embarrassed and I wanted to erase them all.... but I did not.

We talk about moms and hair (do you have a mom and hair story? I do too!).

We talk about how personal development is a process that does not end and how working with our parts helps tolerate polarizations (all or nothing).

We talk about the question, 'What does it mean to be right?'

And we talk about hair and all the messages, stigma, and complexities that come along with it.

Check out Nydia's website where you can find her writings and podcast!

A new deal from brighter vision for The One Inside listeners here!

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On today's episode I speak with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young. Radha and Deran met at a level one IFS training in Harlem, NY.

Radha shares her story with us which is touching and courageous. I felt inspired by her and think you will too.

We talk about 'rules' which may come from our cultures and the legacy burdens we carry.

We talk about "code switching" as a person of color.

We talk about the impact of domestic violence and the power of coming out of this with "trauma residue" and with a strong voice.

And we talk about being in the Miss America pageant (I bet you didn't think I was going to say that!). 

This may be the last in the minority mental health series for this month! I hope you have been encouraged and challenged.

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On today's episode I speak with Requina and Deran who share their different stories and life experiences. Requina is the friend Deran mentions in our first podcast so I am excited she was able to join today.

Requina Barnes, LICSW specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Through her Boston, MA private practice, she works primarily with men, women, and couples of color. Requina is a member of the Foundation for Self Leadership Board of Directors. And she is the VP of the BTR Board of Directors.

She is available for IFS consultation and supervision- her email is strengthinc4@gmail.com

Deran Young, LCSW, is the Founder of Black Therapists Rock, an organization that includes over 20,000 professionals committed to reducing intergenerational trauma in marginalized communities. Earlier this year, she was personally recruited by Brene Brown to consult on the inclusiveness of her current Belonging Statement and to inspire other corporate leaders to operationalize diversity in their organizational practices and policies.

It is eye opening and interesting, and I definitely walked away with a trailhead or two.

To find out more about Black Therapists Rock click here

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On today's episode, I speak with Deran Young, President and CEO of Black Therapists Rock and the IFS Institute's Online Ambassador.

We met to record this at the beginning of May. We were still feeling the isolation and challenge of Covid-19 and George Floyd was still alive.

We had no idea what was to come.

I'm thrilled and honored to give you the first of four episodes devoted to Minority Mental Health Awareness.

Today is some of Deran's story- why she created BTR, her experience as a military psychotherapist, the challenge of dealing with divorce, health issues, and becoming a single mother, and her introduction to IFS. She talks about the origins of her younger 'self esteem' part and the freedom and power of unburdening and healing her.

And so much more.

She is funny and kind and fun and lovely. I'm glad we are going to get 3 more hours (at least!) with her this month.

Here is what Deran is reading:

You are a Badass at Making Money

A Framework for Understanding Poverty

Dare To Lead

To get more info about BTR:

Black Therapists Rock

Find the incredible work Deran did around her own legacy burden here: Deran and Dick Legacy Burden demo

New Deal for The One Inside Listeners from Brighter Vision here!

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Dr. Ed Yeats and I chat about IFS, Shamanism, and Tibetan Buddhism. Weaved into our conversation from beginning to end is attunement and synchronicity. We attune to our parts, to one another, to nature, to our own spiritual journey. Synchronicity is an interesting and fascinating part of our journey.

This is a long one so here is a bit of an outline:

1. Tuning in, like to stations of a radio

2. "I'm still an oak tree."

3. From spiritual seeker to finder: American Shamanism, Soul Retrieval, and Soul Loss

4. IFS is a form of Shamanism

5. Exposure to IFS- can't help loving it

6. Power animals

7. Self as the Shaman. Guides and Guidance.

8. God, Self, Parts or Guides?

9. Ed's information

Last 20 plus minutes:

1. Parallels between IFS and Tibetan Buddhism

2. Spiritual Bypassing

3. Our own beliefs systems impact on the work

4. What I said to Dick when we were alone in a hallway for about 10 seconds (this was a few years ago before he and I did our podcast)

Enjoy!

Listen to Ed on The Noble Mind Podcast here:

https://noblemindpodcast.com/14-ed-yeats/

Check out Derek Scott's Master Class list for Ed's upcoming workshop here:

https://ifsca.ca/workshops/

Get the full workshop with Dick Schwartz and Lama John Makransky here:

https://ifs-institute.com/store/205

and a little teaser of that event here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PMPjVOTknE

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I'm soooo excited about this episode where I chat with Dr. Angela Huebner, a triple threat therapist, writer, speaker. She is very smart and very warm, two attributes I greatly admire.

We talk about the 'why' behind all the weird questions we ask in IFS. My only regret is I didn't ask her more about this! We shift over to talk about Lifeforce Yoga and 'breathing to shift emotion' at about the 40 minute mark. As I was editing this I was like, "Oh no! That is it, I want more!"

Angela calls our ability to Focus our superpower and explains- in a way that makes sense I promise!- the quantum physics behind this important question (focus on where you feel that in your body, focus on that part, etc.).

Angela explains what is happening in our brains and bodies when we retrieve an exile (really! Isn't that interesting!?).

We talk about memory and the brain and longing and spirituality. It is so good.

To find out more about Bruce Ecker's memory reconsolidation go to:

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwiHio7F_IvqAhUxUt8KHR-nD-cQFjAGegQIBBAB&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coherencetherapy.org%2Ffiles%2FEcker-etal-NPT2013April-Primer.pdf&usg=AOvVaw17UnyTT2xgNvKIDVhS6xi1

To find out more about Lifeforce yoga:

https://yogafordepression.com/about-amy-weintraub/

To find out more about Siegel and Interpersonal Neurobiology:

https://www.drdansiegel.com/books/pocket_guide_to_interperOnsonal_neurobiology/

To find out more about Angela and her latest workshops: https://www.angelahuebner.com/

To connect with me with feedback, ideas, questions or just say Hi- drop me a note at The One Inside Facebook page or on Instagram at IFSTammy.

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On today's episode, I chat with Shelly Johnson, author of the fantastic book, "The Parts Inside of Me."

Shelly and I spend about half the episode talking about the power of Self and half walking through her book. Shelly shares her powerful story in between.

Shelly begins her book with these two meaningful quotes:

"If you love what's in your way, they will transform." - Dick Schwartz

"I believe that there is a divine spark in every human being, although it may be buried deeply."- Michi Rose

One of the things we talk about is how the experience of Self is like Falling into the Arms of Presence.

To learn more about Shelly go to:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/compassionate-hearts-therapy-ankeny-ia/443304

To get Shelly's book go to (or find at your local bookstore):

https://www.amazon.com/Parts-Inside-Shelly-Johnson-LMHC/dp/1480886254

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On today's episode- the 50th! episode - I get to chat with Anne Hallward founder and host of Safe Space Radio.

Anne is passionate about helping others who have suffered the "repetition of traumatic silence." Not only have they experienced a horrible trauma, they have to be silent about it for fear of backlash. Silence following a trauma perpetuates shame and blame. Anne refers to this as the "wounding of silence."

She shares her 7 step process which increases the possibility of having an exiled story welcomed back when it is finally told. We want our silent stories heard and this process helps us have the best chance.

Our protective parts are afraid our exiles (and their stories) will ruin everything. But the truth is when our exiles are received by our Self, they are truly welcomed home.

To watch Ann's Ted talk go to:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dMlsnrLN9U

To check out Safe Space Radio's "Talking to White Kids about Race and Racism:"

https://safespaceradio.com/talking-to-white-kids-about-race-racism/

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On today's episode, Marilyn and I chat about AM-IFS. Marilyn has held workshops for several years at the IFS annual conference and in her hometown of Sudbury, Massachusetts.

AM-IFS is based on the work of Janet Adler and Mary Stark Whitehouse which Marilyn has integrated with IFS. It is like a moving meditation where you connect with parts and feel witnessed by another.

One goal of AM is to help people "extend their aliveness by exploring their feelings and their experience of feeling themselves moving."- Mary Stark Whitehouse

I had the privilege of being with Marilyn a few times- It is a powerful experience!

I think the theme of this episode is WITNESSING- the power of being with your own inner parts as you move and having a safe, connected witness with you.

Find out more about Marilyn here:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/marilyn-unger-riepe-sudbury-ma/41464

Email Marilyn at muriepe@verizon.net to get on her mailing list so you don't miss out on future AM-IFS workshops.

And join her Facebook group Moving Into Self Compassion.

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On today's episode, Jennifer Farley and I chat about how the body can help us connect to parts and Self. We also talk about Shamanism and its connection to IFS. I found this conversation fascinating and I cannot wait to have Jenn on again!

Here are a few of the highlights:

• Use of movement as a psychological treatment intervention.

• How you move and hold yourself reflects how you feel about yourself, how you relate to others, and how you experience the world.

• You can get to know parts of yourself by being curious about how that part exists in your body when it is blended. How do you carry yourself when that part is present?

• What is that part trying to communicate to your through your body?

• Using movement to connect to qualities of Self.

• How parts use different developmental Soothing Rhythms (rocking, biting, sucking, wringing, swaying).

• Shamanism: The Essence of IFS is shamanic in its nature: guiding us into our internal world, helping us to navigate the energetic world inside, and shifting our energy during the unburdening ritual.

Jen offers individual shamanic healing virtually and integrated psychotherapy services to those in CA. She also regularly offers workshops and retreats. You can find all about her (and read her body speaks blog!) at:

https://www.shamanhealingmonterey.com/

She offers workshops in collaboration with the Monterey Bay Meditation Studio. Check them out here:

https://www.montereybaymeditation.com/

Enjoy!

Do not forget to subscribe to the podcast and write a review. Come say Hi on Instagram @Ifstammy and join our community at The One Inside Facebook group. I'd love to connect with you.

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On today's episode, I talk with Dr. Nancy Morgan and Travis Shubeck.

Nancy is the Director of LifeMoves Behavioral Health and Training Programs, a California agency dedicated to breaking the cycle of homelessness. Nancy introduced IFS into the training curriculum during the 2015-2016 year.

Travis Shubeck is one of the trainees and students who chose to complete his practicum at LifeMoves. Travis is working on an IFS manual for case managers who work with the homeless population. Travis states IFS,  "is an opportunity to get out of my head and into my heart."

Both Nancy and Travis speak about the power the IFS model in clinical supervision, in working with the homeless population who have been through trauma, and in preventing student/therapist burnout.

To find out more about Life Moves:

https://www.lifemoves.org/

To contact Nancy:

https://www.drnlmorgan.com/

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On this special episode, I chat with Leslie Petruck for a quick chat about her upcoming workshop which is for ALL parents- knowledge of IFS not necessary!

Spread the word to the parents you know because … yeah .... it. is. hard.

Here is what you can expect over the 4 weeks:

1. Intentional vs Reactive Parenting- How to be more 'Self' led

2. Befriending all of your parts and your child's parts

3. The 5 P's of Parenting

4. Connection- increases confidence and cooperation (yes, please!) 

Sign up here!

https://courses.selfleadership.org/item/ifs-parenting-lunch-learns-60316?utm_source=SilverpopMailing&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=050820_IFS_Parenting_Sales_2_9am&utm_content=

To find out more about Leslie go to:

https://www.thestonecenternc.com/

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On today's episode, I chat with Rebecca Ching who is certified in The Daring Way and IFS. I thought about calling this episode IFS meets Brene' Brown as Rebecca brings us her expertise in both.

Obviously, we talk about shame and trauma and vulnerability. How could we not!?

Rebecca introduces us to the unburdened leader who is 'trauma informed', compassionate, and resilient. And this leader leads from the 8C's of Self leadership (curiosity, calm, confident, clear minded, etc).

We touch on the enneagram, eating disorders, and parenting.

And, we talk about Taylor Swift.

Enjoy! 

To listen to Rebecca's podcast and to find out about all the amazing things she is up to go to:

https://www.rebeccaching.com/   

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In todays episode, Derek Scott and I discuss his Grief Corp initiative and how complicated grief and mourning is for those who have lost a loved one due to Covid-19.

We talk in detail about what makes the grief process so complex right now by talking about our own reactions to all that is happening.

Grief Corp groups are 6 weeks bereavement groups run by volunteers. Derek has done an incredible job setting up a structure for this for his community in Canada. If you are interesting in doing something similar for your community/region/country contact Derek at derek@ifsca.ca.

To watch Grief Corps videos on YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWd30owocXg

To sign up for Grief Corps (in Canada) or to see how Derek has set this up:

https://ifsca.ca/grief-corps/sign-up-for-facilitators/

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In this solo episode, I share my reactions and realizations while watching the grief portion of the IFS Institute's webinar released this past week.

My hope is your parts will resonate with mine, and you will slow down and be with your reactions (ie, parts) as we walk through the stages of grief together.

To watch the entire Grief and Polarization webinar:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=blDmCGAIt7E&t=23s

Register for Dick's workshop on Spirituality MAY 5:

https://ifsca.ca/workshops/

Check out Dick and latest info about IFS on IFS talks:

https://podtail.com/en/podcast/ifs-talks/

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In today's episode, I talk with Chris Burris, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Chris and I talk specifically about the current 'stressor' of Covid-19 and our fears around it. Chris states we can recognize our normal cast of (Internal) characters, system's constellation, patterns of parts during this pandemic.

And, this feels a bit comforting to me to know that what I am feeling and doing is quite typical during times of stress. Even though this current stress is anything but typical or normal or familiar, my systems response is.

Chris suggests we have the greatest impact on our entire system if we can identify our core fear by inquiring inside, "What are you afraid would happen if you weren't active in this way?" We can turn our part detector on and get curious when we get triggered, upset, or lit up.

Our parts work hard to keep us safe and our lives are often designed to not feel feelings. During this pandemic we are not able to engage in some of our protector activities that keep us away from our fears. Therefore, we may be feeling more vulnerable and more anxious overall.

Do you find yourself watching the news over and over? Chris wonders about parts who have confused commiserating with compassion and contributing.

Finally, we talk about loving on (befriending) our parts who hold core fears so they no longer feel alone and overwhelmed.

And we talk about Will Smith.

Enjoy and take care,

Tammy

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In an effort to offer "simple and bite sized" help, call it a hug from my Self to your Self, I put together a small portion of an episode with Joanna and I. The full episode will be published at the same time.

It is a gift to your overloaded and stressed parts. It is a quicker check in, a way to get reconnected to your center, to your Self.

I encourage you to share with your non IFS informed friends.

Much Love-

Tammy

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Today's episode is a 'take two' of one we recorded in February on the initiative sponsored by the IFS Institute to take IFS into the schools. We decided to re-visit this convo given the current situation with Covid-19 and all schools shifting to remote learning.

The result is this incredibly inspirational episode about the power of Self during this time of uncertainty and stress.

We start with a meditation because I was blended with doing/busy/hyper parts and needed to land in my body and into the present moment in order to tune in and be with Joanna.

We talk a bit about the 'IFS In Schools' initiative (the previous episode about this will be released at a later time) and how her group is bringing the wisdom of the IFS model into the schools.

But mostly we talk about the relevance of Self leadership in Schools at this time (and in homes as parents, and in our offices as therapists, and in our grocery stores as shoppers and workers, and ____ , and ____ etc. Fill in for your special circumstance because connecting to your true Self, to your Essence is vital.

As far as the 'current situation' (Covid-19 and all that is happening), Joanna says we are left with our own company and need to be our own best friend. This can be challenging.

She says our Self is a built in biological state just as our fight, flight, or freeze reactions. Amazing.

We access more by being intentional about building bridges and pathways to come back to Self.

This is so good - what a gift Joanna gives us.

Go listen- and enjoy!

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Happy 1st Birthday to The One Inside!

On this quick solo episode, I check in to offer Thanks to all the guests who said "Yes!" and to all the listeners who shared the podcast with clients, friends, family, and peers.

I read from my new fav book, "Soul Talk" and remind us all of this calming essence inside available to us all, at all times. Even in times of pandemic.

Put a candle in something and blow it out with me!

So much love and gratitude-

Tammy

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On today's episode, I chat with Chris Sullivan who has a strong passion for spreading the message of IFS through what he knows best, business.

One of the things I love about this episode is the idea that the gifts of IFS and the qualities of Self (the 8 Cs) is getting out of the therapy room and into business, HR, and sales meetings.

Chris uses the 8 C radar chart (we talk about in a previous episode with Julia S) to invite his team to do a 'you turn', to start their day with asking themselves, "How am I preparing myself to go out and help the customer?"

Chris calls IFS a "method of communication" and a "great template for business" that every business owner and employee would benefit from. He says we can apply the 8 Cs and the IFS process to find out who we are.

This episode is inspiring and hopeful. Even in the midst of Covid 19 and Sheltering in place.

And, of course we talk about a lot of other things like marriage, parenting and love languages.

Enjoy and Take care.

IFS in Business is an informal group of people, who have some or all of these qualities: knowledgeable about IFS from reading Dick’s books or attending public 2-day workshops, IFS trained Level 1-2-3, IFS certified, and/or serve as staff PA’s and Trainers.

We meet monthly in a Zoom call to best practice share and grow our relationships as a largely non-licensed group of executive coaches and organizational development consultants. We meet via Zoom the first Tuesday of every month at 8am Pacific for 60 - 90 minutes depending on the topic.

We are planning the first ever F2F Pre-Pre-Conference meeting in Denver, Wednesday, October 7th, the day before the IFS Pre-Conference sessions begin. (Assuming the Conference is a “go” since it is in October.) To join the group and receive notifications from us email Julia Sullivan at IFSinBusiness@gmail.com.

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Mike Elkin is sorta famous. Well, I think he is.

Mike is a lead trainer for the IFS Institute and, before meeting him and then working with him as a program assistant, I had heard him quoted time and again from other students and his fellow trainers.

So, I was thrilled to meet him and more thrilled how we hit it off. I adore him as I think you'll be able to tell. Mike is all over the place, as you'll be able to tell, which is good for us because we get to cover many topics and get lots of 'Mike-isms.'

Here are few:

Shame: my badness witnessed

Moral Meaning: my need to be a good person

Alcoholic belief system (whether you or family ever actually drink): A good person is a person without flaws or limitations

Addiction: We need relief from shame (especially if our family had an alcoholic belief system) and get attached to whatever gives us that relief. This 'parts' strategy' gets imitated over and over again as a way to help us feel relief.

Protectors don't protect. They energize and attract whatever they are trying to protect against.

Receptors: follow the activated part and heal it so there is no longer a receptor for it.

Couples fight about one thing: who is the better person. Each one has their 'innocent victim story.'

Migraines/physical pain/back pain: Talk to the part who generates the pain.

Panic attacks: almost all panic attacks are phobic reactions to unaware triggers. Mike has a 'phobia protocol' he uses that is a mixture of his history with hypnosis and IFS.

Despair: parts feel relief when they stop the try-fail-shame-give up cycle. They can see Hope as a threat, Despair as a resource.

Lastly, You will also hear how Dick and Mike met and how Mike finally was won over to IFS.

And, I assure you, if we are able to leave our houses this summer, I will be using his house to park so I can go to the beach.

Enjoy!

And, take care of all your sweet parts,

Tammy

To learn more about the Level two course, Anxiety, Depression and Shame: https://courses.selfleadership.org/item/internal-family-systems-ifs-anxiety-depression-shame-47315

Mike's book: https://www.amazon.com/Families-Under-Influence-Changing-Alcoholic/dp/0393306704

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On today's episode I speak with Karen Locke, author of "Self Compassion Day by Day: Daily Reflections with Internal Family Systems."

Even though this episode was recorded in late February, it is pertinent for our times as we are just beginning to feel the impact of COVID-19. Having a daily practice of checking in with our parts has become more and more important. I'm feeling a greater need to listen to the parts who feel disrupted, overwhelmed, afraid, and numb and letting them feel Self with them in whatever way they need.

Self is courageous. Self is clear minded. When Self is with them, they are not alone.

New to IFS? Karen suggests start by noticing feelings. I loved the idea that first drew her to IFS: If I am feeling jealous, ask who inside is feeling jealous?

We can do the same thing right now with fear- Who inside of me is feeling fear?

Karen's incredible readings are a reminder of the inner resource we all have and a reminder to listen inside and be with.

We talk about group connection, running with our wild and fun ideas, and workaholics anonymous. I don't know about you, but the change in what 'work' looks like right now has brought up a lot of 'workaholic' parts!

Karen sent me a handout with the WA tools and principles- I will put it up on The One Inside Facebook page. You can also email me at tammysollenberger@comcast.net for a copy.

If you want to connect and practice checking in and speaking for parts, Karen already has in place several Facebook groups and weekly online meetings. Check them out at Compassionate Self Leadership Community and IFS Daily Reflections.

Karen's website is https://www.emotionalhealingcoach.org/

Enjoy and take care-

Tammy

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Julia S. and I planned to meet to talk about IFS and Addiction but that is not what happened. A lot of our plans are getting changed these days and it is causing a lot of our parts to react.

Two days before our recorded podcast, Julia's County was ordered to 'Shelter in Place' due to the Coronavirus. This morning as I am writing this, two days after our meeting, all of California is now following the same order.

It sounds like this epi is doom and gloom but it is not! Julia offers us hope and laughter. As someone well connected to the recovery community, she offers us pertinent terms as "avoid the deliberate manufacture of misery" and "pick up spiritual tools laid at my feet and use them." This sounds like IFS to me: parts who feel afraid and go to what worked to calm us in the past and Self who says I am here with you.

She asks, "Am I listening to my Self as much as I'm listening to my Parts?" She walks through looking at her/our current situation through the lens of the 8 Cs: what does clarity say, what does compassion say, etc.

Julia created an incredible IFS resource where she expands on the definitions of the 8 C's of Self leadership and uses a radar image as an assessment tool. Email me at tammysollenberger@comcast.net if you want a copy!

Enjoy and take care-

Tammy

To join SF Bay Area recovery meetings go to:

https://sites.google.com/view/bayareazoomaameetings?fbclid=IwAR3YaDx133Y3sK3OGViH2uyC7ys7XACx2SshNSHnf8oxmvmluWQXdnfMwR0

To find online recovery meetings go to:

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1FotwE5g0AX0edZ29XyJfLF9U0WVn7_OYECfRtn1hV1U/edit#gid=0

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Derek Scott and I decided to meet to talk about how we can support our community during difficult time.

IFS brings many gifts to our bodies, minds, emotions, and to the world. Self leadership supports our parts feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, and then we can support the people we come in contact with in our families, our neighbors, our co-workers and clients.

By the way, an hour after we finished recording this my son's school sent a lovely, heartfelt emailing cancelling classes. I started shaking and crying which was actually a completely unexpected response. I took a minute to be with my frightened parts as we talk about in this episode and felt an immediate shift to calm.

I imagine I will return to being with this part over and over again in the next few weeks.

Go listen- Take good care of all of your parts and one another.

xoxo

Tammy

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On today's episode I speak with Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute about legacy burdens. Legacy burdens are the feelings, beliefs, perspectives, ways of being in the world, etc. which are passed on from generation to generation.

A part of me doesn't want to tell you all we talk about because it is so powerful I want you just to listen.

Another part of me who, probably like you, is picky about what I spend time listening to and will read this little blurb in a podcast episode before I commit.

So, to honor that part in me- and in you- I will go ahead and tell you.

Marushka's parents were Holocaust Survivors who were in Auschwitz. Her Dad was on Schindler's list. Not the movie, the actual list.

Do you need to know more? For those parts I'll give some bullet points of what is inside this episode:

• Importance of bearing witness

• Epigenetics

• Zen Peacemakers and Native Americans

• Children of Alcoholics and Alcoholic burdens

• Anxiety in legacy burdens

And, we talk about the trees at Auschwitz.

Go listen and enjoy!

To learn more about Marushka go to https://www.relationshipvisions.org/

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On today's episode I chat with Chris Burris who is a lead trainer with the IFS Institute.

Grab your notebook and pen and plan to hit the pause button because this epi is jammed packed.

Here is a little taste of what is inside:

• therapist burn out

• working with inner critics

• the critic, shame, and firefighter cycle

• attachment wounds, object constancy, and attempts to complete unfinished business from our past

• befriending our parts helps them feel seen, heard and valued

• parts are fluid, not static

It is so good- Enjoy!

To check out what Chris is up to visit: http://burriscounseling.com/

To learn more about IFS visit: https://ifs-institute.com/

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Today’s guest is Derek Scott... that is right! Derek of the famous IFS YouTube channel.

He and I act like we aren’t being recorded and won't have people listening to us chat away.

We talk about all the IFS things but parenting is the main thread which runs through from beginning to end.

We talk about our own exiles who affect our parenting and about those shaming firefighters who were around our own parents and now show up around us while we parent. Oh my.

Derek teaches the dynamic between power and apology and repair. We cry a bit about the grief of parenting as our children grow up and move through life transitions.

We discuss our own experiences with becoming parents which includes a bit of my own infertility journey. Derek wonders about a figure who is involved being a passenger, not a part.

Derek gives an example of how he teaches IFS using psychodrama. This opens up a conversation about firefighters and their important role.

He walks through how he helps heal suicidal parts.

Derek is warm and funny. This episode is packed full of information while at the same time being just a conversation between friends.

Enjoy!

*If you want more of Derek, and you will, my friends over at the IFS Talks podcast have had him on twice lately -- go check them out wherever you listen to podcasts.

*Derek's website: https://ifsca.ca/

Derek's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRw6sRKzEVdbgw32JEKO-0Q

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Tiffany Morgan is a well educated IFS therapist who has completed IFS levels one and two. She is well spoken and well known on social media.

And, Tiffany Morgan has an extensive eating disorder treatment history which she shares on today's show. Tiffany walks through her experiences and gives listeners a glimpse into her internal system. She is open and vulnerable. I feel honored she shares her story with us all.

One of the main points which stands out to me is the radical difference in IFS treatment and healing. In IFS, we look at troublesome, damaging, inappropriate, toxic behaviors and faulty, irrational, unhealthy, distorted thoughts as parts. Parts who have a very good reason for doing what they do. Parts who have an important function. Parts who may believe they are keeping you alive and away from harm.

Parts who want to be heard, validated, cared for, and valued- like Tiffany says of her anorexic part she calls 'Ann'.

Ann, who was seen by everyone as the bad guy, is Tiffany's fiercest protector.

The other point that stands out is the power of Self witnessing our younger part's stories. This can be done in a safe, non-flooding and overwhelming way. There is an importance of the impact of having the story witnessed.

Ann was protecting Annie who is young and afraid. When Ann felt compassion by Tiffany's Self she allowed Tiffany to meet who she was protecting all along. Then, Annie was able to tell her story to Tiffany and unburden her pain.

The witnessing of younger parts stories by Self is a powerful experience.

Above all else, Tiffany Morgan is compassionate. She is compassionate towards all of her parts and all of the parts of others. I had this experience with her when we met face to face last year at the annual IFS conference. Her compassion is her shining quality that you will hear and experience on today's episode.

To check out all she is up to go to https://tiffanycobbmorgan.com/ and follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

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I wish I could express how full and amazing this episode is with Natalia.

Here are just some of the gifts she offers and topics we cover:

• Parts are always in fight or flight; our protective system is engaged. Breath practices with Kundalini yoga help the manual activation of the parasympathetic nervous system. They help activate Self energy (calm, clear minded, confident, creative, etc.).

• Playing small.

• Expansion and Contraction.

• Importance of daily Three Minute practices.

• Fists of Anger- breath, movement, mantra. Allows the angry parts (or any intense emotion) to speak and have a voice. Bring this up (and other parts who wish to speak) intentionally and then clear them by bringing up Self energy, calming the nervous system and building internal connection.

• Age of Information to Age of Aquarius- this was fascinating! We are shifting from healing/answers coming from outside of us to inside. (Sound familiar my incredible IFS family?)

• Through Kundalini practices and technology we can get to a place quickly and effectively where we can heal and connect to ourselves. Natalia has seen quick transformation with sleep disruption, work difficulties, panic attacks, heartbreak and grief.

• We can activate the conscious mind. We can activate and command Self energy to be present.

We tell lots of stories. We laugh. It is fun and interesting. We end with a one minute Meditation using the mantra 'satnam.'

Check out all Natalia is doing here: https://www.aquariancounseling.com/

Follow/friend/subscribe to her on all the socials- Instagram, Facebook and YouTube.

Enjoy!

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Simon is the head honcho for IFS in Australia.

We met in 2018 when we both presented at the IFS annual conference. He is funny and kind and super supportive. When we first talked about doing a podcast I assumed it would be about his journey with IFS and his passion to bring it to Australia. I was also curious about how he integrates all the other models he loves with IFS.

But. You won't find that in this episode. (Well, you will a tiny bit.)

The fires destroying Australia are in the news and on our hearts and minds. Simon and I couldn't NOT talk about this. I think you will hear the pain and heartbreak in his tone. This episode's content is political, overwhelming, and upsetting.

And. There is hope.

Simon states, "Right next to the HURT, you have LOVE."

IFS gives us the Gift of Self which is more powerful then the parts in others who trigger fears and distress our world.

IFS reminds us our parts need an adult in the room and we have one inside- our Self.

IFS helps us make SENSE of our selves, others, and our world.

The two additional 'C' words of Self that Simon mentions to make a perfect 10 are Chairos (Kairos?) and Chiaroscuro. Google them.

Check out Simon and all the happenings with IFS Australia here: https://www.internalfamilysystemstrainingaustralia.com.au/

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Bruce Hersey is brilliant. And hilarious.

We talk about foods from Pennsylvania and the hippocampus. We talk about football and alternating bilateral stimulation. We talk about ego states and UFOs. We talk about gravity, energy and spirituality.

You will witness my shame over a scheduling error and how Bruce's accent helps my part feel connected and at home.

It is a fun ride.

Go listen.

And Enjoy.

His Website: https://www.brucehersey.com/

His Courses: https://emdrifs.com/

His YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/brucehersey/featured?disable_polymer=1

His Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/IFSEMDR/

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She's a seeker. She's a dancer.

She grew up in NYC in the midst of therapy culture with many "shoulds" and a bundle of grief and loss.

Real healing happened for her while dancing to Prince alone in her bedroom, the place she felt connected to her body, to feelings, to imagination and creativity, to who she was authentically. Meaning, dancing connected Adrienne to her Self.

She talks about her move from NYC to LA, a move from therapy to coaching.

She has such a heart for healers and believes a lot of healers are caretakers in their family who have an intuitive knowing of how to help. She finds the parts coming up with clients are the ones coming up in everyday life so consultation and therapy are intertwined- similar parts come up in all of our relationships!

She describes an ongoing parallel process of being a wounded healer, finding healing for herself and then bringing that to her clients. For healers who have strong striver, doing, go-go-go, scarcity parts (like me and her!), she reminds us that these parts have amazing gifts. If parts are here (even the 'bad' ones), they are here for a good reason.

Her work is about "Embodied Creativity" which is integrating creativity, spirituality, and purpose making into IFS work, in and out of the therapy space. In movement, we become friends with sensations in the body and protectors soften. Her passion is intertwining parts work, playfulness, and meditation. She has found a home with IFS as all of her passions come together.

She reminds us of the importance of REST and creating sacred spaces where creativity can flow through. Then motivation and productivity can come from a different place. She suggests we ask parts daily how they would like to rest, to move, and to be.

She encourages us to seek what it is like to embody Self. This felt sense memory is a powerful practice to keep coming back to and relying on.

Adrienne never stopped dancing alone in her room, she never stopped her first form of meditation practice.

To check out all the cool, fun stuff she is up to go to: https://adrienneglasser.com/

Join her facebook group entitled "The Healers Circle."

If you are a therapist and needs some help with your website (and some money off the help!) check out: https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

And, of course, to learn all the things about IFS check out: https://www.selfleadership.org/

Let me know what your word is for 2020 - to find out my word this year (and last!) you gotta listen.

Enjoy!

(and Happy New Year!)

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Today I chat with Barbara Holtzman, author of "Conscious Eating Conscious Living."

I took so many notes! I also overshared. My manager parts are thrilled with the notetaking, not so much with the oversharing.

Here are just a few of my notes, you'll have to listen for the oversharing:

-Food is the parts attempt to solve the problem.

-Food was/is accessible and quick.

-Parts use food as medicine, it was the only resource available.

-If the food is the only thing that will help, use it and feel it calming you- feel it calming your nervous system with no judgement or shame.

-2 minute pause

-Scale your desire for that treat.

-Is sugar addictive? Barbara says we can have a sugar sensitivity.

-Tapping as a coping skill- EFT (emotional freedom technique).

-How is this food trying to help?

-What part is eating (or ask Who is eating? Who has the craving and what may that part need from Me/Self?)

-Body image. How can I reconnect to my body and its wisdom?

-"Disconnection from our body was knowing we needed to do that in order to keep our connection with our parents because that was our safety."

-Eat for mouth satisfaction and to MATCH what my body wants.

-Importance of tracking what prompts eating and what my body feels like during and after.

-See tracking as experiments, all with curiosity and compassion.

Barbara is kind and brilliant. Many of my parts wanted to sit at her feet and learn. She is offering two of her articles to The One Inside Listeners!!! Email her at barbaralholtzman@gmail.com and let her know you heard her on TOI.

To find out more about Barbara and to receive her newsletters visit: https://barbaraholtzman.net/

To get help with your website and to receive $100 off of their services visit: https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

Enjoy!

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Dr. Dan Pollets is successful man, just check out his website. He also was diagnosed with colorectal cancer 6 months ago and has been receiving chemotherapy and radiation. On todays episode, you will hear his powerful story. You will hear details that will make some of your parts uncomfortable. You will be a witness to his pain- physical, emotional, and social. You will learn about his 6 yo younger part who was abandoned, who is protected by driven, caretaking and workaholic parts. You will hear about his special relationship to Richard Schwartz. You will hear about the 'gifts of cancer' and the choices he makes to strengthen his 'post traumatic growth.' You will hear about his struggle around how to tell his patients and the incredible impact his Self had on his psychotherapy group.

You will laugh because he is hilarious and he saves his best potty joke for the end.

Dr. Dan is bravely "translating victimhood into an opportunity to share with others," as he writes in one of his essays you can receive if you email him. He is also working on an article for the Outlook, a magazine which spreads great info about IFS. (You can listen to a past podcast episode of THI with Michelle Glass, who is the editor.)

Check out Outlook: Past issues of Outlook

Dr. Dan's article, "When the Therapist Gets Cancer."

Dr. Dan's website

Email Dr. Dan at drdanpollets@gmail.com

Enjoy!

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Heidi and I chat like long time girlfriends about body image, self approval, and eating disorders. Heidi has developed an incredible idea (and book!) she calls 'reclaiming beauty' which says we have disconnected from our original beauty (Self). And, we can reconnect, coming back into our bodies when safety, compassion, and curiosity are present.

Heidi defines self approval as allowing ourselves to have boundaries and space from what other people are reflecting... helping us know, and be and reflect our own authentic Self, our Original Beauty.

She blows my mind- which you can tell because I bring it back up a few times- with the idea that the part who obsesses about the body actually uses it as a distraction from an exile (a younger, vulnerable part). The body obsessed part can be a firefighter (what?!).

We talk a lot about eating disorders- common beliefs of exiles and common protector strategies. We both share personal stories of being called 'Sensitive' and wonder what would be different if we/others/society valued this as a superpower, a gift to be treasured.

Go right now and check out Heidi's website to get her book and the cards. I cannot speak highly enough of the cards- they are beautiful and can be used in many ways. Try using them as parts mapping or drawing one a day for inspiration and grounding.

https://www.reclaimingbeauty.com/

If you want help with website or social media promotion check these guys out!

https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

And, of course, follow me on Instagram at IFSTammy and on Facebook at the One Inside Podcast page where I allow my sarcastic, inspirational, and kid obsessed parts go wild.

Enjoy!

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I fangirl embarrassingly hard with Sacha Mardou, a brilliant comic who is using her gifts to show her own internal work in IFS. Plus, she has a lovely accent.

She hopes comics will demystify IFS, and she publishes a new IFS comic every week on Instagram at MsMardou. She suggests pictures and words give the reader a more immersive experience which I found to be true when I read Sky in Stereo.

She began drawing IFS comics as a way to process her own experience with her parts in therapy. Comics have helped her do 'parts work' and to "befriend the noise inside."

She gives a few recommendations (writer secrets!) to help us be more creative and disciplined. She describes art as "time spent in flow... and flow feels like Self."

Sacha's desire is to get IFS into the world. We are both in full agreement of that mission.

To get her books "Sky In Stereo, volume one and two":

https://www.amazon.com/Sky-Stereo-Sacha-Mardou/dp/1934460834/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=sky+in+stereo&qid=1573781174&sr=8-1

Follow her on Instagram and check out these comics! A brilliant way to show, teach, and begin to experience IFS. I think you may even discover some trailheads:

https://ifscomics.com/

AND! To get a $100 off your own brand new website OR to check out all their available therapist resources:

https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

Enjoy!

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Do you want the good news or the bad news first? The good news is here it is... my chat with Dick, the founder of IFS. Dick is personal and fun and funny. It is inspiring and enlightening. You will find out something new- about the beginnings of this model, about Dick's vision then and now, and about Dick himself.

I write long outlines of each podcast during the editing process. Some things on the outline for this episode are: what is the significance of the name 'IFS,' what he says Yes to, what weighs on his heart, what he does for fun, what he is proud of, and what he struggles with.

Of course, we cover aspects of the model: Self, parts, unburdening, polarity of parts, etc.

But that is not what will stand out to you.

Now, the bad news. Dick shares what he is watching on TV. Sadly, it is not on Netflix, it is on HBO. A part of me says I need to add that to Amazon. Thanks a lot, Dick.

You'll have to listen to this whole episode to find out the name of the show.

AND! To get a $100 off your own brand new website OR to check out all their available therapist resources:

https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

Enjoy!

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Richard Schwartz, developer of the Internal Family Systems model leads a 5 minute meditation during our full hour long episode coming up next week.

For you dear ones, I offer you this, an easily accessible meditation by Dick you can listen to over and over again.

I cannot WAIT to share our entire conversation next week.

Head over to Instagram (#ifstammy or #theoneinsidepodcast) or Facebook The One Inside Facebook page to see pictures of the silly faces we made together.

Enjoy!

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On today's episode, author, speaker, and long time assistant trainer with the IFS Institute, Mona Barbera and I chat about how to win a fight. We get very real and very personal as we share our favorite ways to win fights in our marriages.

Mona tells us ONE thing that is needed to win a fight and THREE practical, useful tools to improve any relationship.

We also talk about having clarity, confidence and calmness in toxic, hard situations. Mona refers to these aspects of our Authentic Self as Lifesavers and Gamechangers for those who are suffering in difficult relationships.

And, did I mention how personal we get? Also, my son comes in the room behind me holding an ax above his head... so you don't want to miss this one.

To get a $100 off your own brand new website OR to check out all their available therapist resources:

https://www.brightervision.com/inside/

To contact Mona:

http://www.monabarbera.com/

To get Mona's book:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1934787043?pf_rd_p=183f5289-9dc0-416f-942e-e8f213ef368b&pf_rd_r=HF0FB4FZFW4HTNA1B9XH

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On this week's episode, David and I talk about this incredible externalization tool which helps call up Self and bring compassion to your whole system.

This 'wheel' looks like a solar system with a 'sun' representing Self and colored 'planets' representing Parts.

His motto 'Bond with Satisfaction at Every Moment' is threaded throughout the whole episode.

He reads his children's book, 'The Big Bright Ball' and reminds us Self can always help out.

Check out David's site here and sign up for his newsletter... I recommend you take a look before you listen.

http://www.youniverse.net/index.html

Enjoy!

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Hey from the IFS annual conference in Denver! On this short episode, I talk through my new IFS elevator speech. Enjoy.

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On today's episode Julie and I chat about faith and her IFS journey. Julie states that IFS already has a spiritual component and IFS is compatible with Christianity. She explains how 100 percent of the population is made in God's image and has access to a Core Self. The burdens we pick up have marred that image; our mirror is now dirty with them. The IFS model helps to clean the mirror so we have more clarity, more access to the Holy Spirit and more abundant living.

Julie walks through an example of inviting God into a painful scene and memory. She talks about praying for parts and praying from parts and gives several examples of both. She prayers for our inner tasker and states, "Our spiritual walk manifests in our everyday life."

She states that Jesus had parts, he did not have burdens (interesting, right?!).

No matter what your spiritual path is, research shows prayer is good for our nervous systems. Praying FROM a part and FOR a part are ways to give parts voice. "Every part deserves to have a voice- in the world and with God."

Enjoy!

Check out Julie's site with a TON of helpful resources:

https://www.juliehoneycutt.com/index.html

Check out a short video clip of Julie:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpKbG_yzcEw&feature=youtu.be

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"Parts might be shortsighted from what Self can see."

In part two of our conversation, Seth and I talk about leadership in work and the organizations we find ourselves. Many of us are leaders in all sorts of ways in the office, in schools, in factories, in shops, and in the home.

Seth talks about the importance of having voice in organizations and the importance of relationship building and trust. We talk about curious leaders and shared vision, about how to be compassionate towards about our leaders' parts.

Seth finds several parallels between parenting and workplace leadership, such as power and responsibility.

And we talk a lot about the power, the freedom, the ease of Self leadership.

Find more about Seth at his site:

https://www.sethkopald.com/

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This is the perfect episode to lead us into the Fall season, into back to school schedules, and into daily routines.

The similarities and parallels between parenting and workplace leadership are remarkable and Seth shows us how unblending from parts and expanding Self with connection, warmth, and curiosity impacts both spheres of life.

Seth has extensive experience as a previous Head of School for an Independent Montessori school and a national consultant for Headstart. Oh, and he has a PhD in organizational management with a specialty in Leadership. He integrates this to help others live more at ease as an IFS practitioner.

In this first episode, we talk about parenting. We have an in depth conversation about 'external constraints' and how we are experiencing the feelings and thoughts of a part when we are blended. Seth gives practical advice for helping our parts and helping our kids with their parts.

Seth states, "In this routine is life... in the routine I can add in warmth to help connection." He also encourages parents to ask, "Am I creating shame or compassion?"

If you want to stop yelling at your kid, listen in.

Find out about Seth here:

https://www.sethkopald.com/

Find the book Seth mentioned:

https://www.alfiekohn.org/punished-rewards/

Find the tool Seth mentioned:

http://www.youniverse.net/index.html

Enjoy!