Pastors on Porn: Recent Episodes
Vern Tompke
Pastors on Porn is a podcast providing hope, healing and help for those who know the call of God on their lives but also struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors
How do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people. James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern.
James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma. They can be found here:
https://fearlessresources.org/
James is the Author of the book Refuge: How hospital Church ministry can change your church forever. It can be accessed on Amazon
If you would like to contact James you can do so by the followin
1. email: jamesreeves68@gmail.com
2. phone: (817) 938 4562 (text first)
Sam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process for healing.
We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life. We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.
If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)
https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2
You can link up to some some of Covenant Eyes resources by going to
www.covenanteyes.com/church (tools for churches)
www.strive21.com (a 21 day porn detox plan)
www.covenanteyes.com/arise (for women struggling with porn)
Ephesians 5:3 Says this "but among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity"
Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards. Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity.
We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life. We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to start a "Married with Children" group. If you want more information on these groups email me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com. We can also arrange a free zoom call if you want to ask further questions.
If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my circle learning platform. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you started (although if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app - white circle on a blue background)
https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=5388d93418377c032a4cc121558868401484a4f3-39382185-b376-4e67-8d18-183f81064cc2
Today Vern explores how 2 words - delight and desire can go a long way in giving us immunity to the outside pull of porn and other distractions!
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care
This last Sunday Vern spoke on Sunday morning on how men can move from being an *ss to being good and safe men - something women, our churches and our communities desperately need more of.
If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't have a safe place to go to or someone to turn to.
To connect with Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
In this episode Vern answers the question - what is the hardest sermon you'll ever give? I truly believe this episode is crucial to both listen to and keep in your constant awareness as a pastor. If it helpful for you - pass it on!
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care
As I talk and work with pastors I have noticed that there are 3 seasons of vulnearabilitywhere patterns of sexual brokenness seem to emerge in our lives. In this episode I lay out those seasons and take the approach to be fore-warned is to be for-armed!
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the website
https://bandofbrothers.care
This last Sunday Vern spoke at church regarding the spiritual step of self examiniation and confession. As pastors struggling with our sexual brokenness - it provides a crucial "powerpoint" that is available to us as we see to walk toward a life of healing and wholeness.
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care
Most of us seek to deny, hide, run from or rail agains the sin which dogs our steps. In this episode Vern proposes a counter intuitive approach that he believes will actually result in better results - sitting in our sin!
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care
The theme of wide open spaces is one that Scriptural writers come back to over and over again. In this episode Vern puts on his bible teaching hat and relates to how this concept relates to our desire to walk away from porn and experience the best life that God has for us.
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more free resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care
It has become quite common for churches to dip their toes into the stream of recovery groups. In this episode Vern explores the difference between a church offering recovery programs and a church actually becoming a recovery church where people can acknowledge and grow out of their brokenness.
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care
Are Pastors Special when it comes to porn? Are there unique reasons why pastors are drawn to porn and are there unique reasons they stay there? In this episode Vern explores that question.
If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
If you are looking for more resources you can also check out the website bandofbrothers.care
Looking back over 30 years of being a Pastor - from being an associate, to church planting and being a lead pastor, I have come up with a few overall lessons that I have learned. I think some of these lessons may stand you in good stead as you live in the crucible of ministry
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.
If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
You can also see some more resources on my website
https://bandofbrothers.care
Have you ever been given simplistic spiritual advice that has proven to be ineffectual in your struggle with porn. Perhaps you have given simplistic advice. In this episode Vern talks about the proper way to approach (and give advice) about how to find a life of freedom from Porn.
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.
If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
You can also see some more resources on my website
https://bandofbrothers.care
One of the biggest challenges in working in the church is that there seems to be such a hesitation to talk about sexuality. In the absense of talk about healthy sexuality it seems that we are left with the idea that sexuality is somehow dirty or the "forbidden fruit".
In this episode I interview Kyle. He is one of a trio of Christian podcast hosts and ministry leaders from KingdomSexualityministry.comwho are seeking to bring talk of healthy sexuality into the open.
To connect with the ministry Kingdom Sexuality you can check them out on their website
https://www.kingdomsexualityministry.com
I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.
If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at
bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
You can also see some more resources on my website
https://bandofbrothers.care
This episode refers in part to the 80's movie the Mission. Fair warning the movie does have considerable nudity in it as it portrays the life in the tribes of the South American jungle. On the other hand, the book "all is grace" by Brennan Manning contains no nudity!
Is God angry with me or supremely disappointed because of my struggle with porn? Today's episode is all about God and our struggles, spiritual shame and the posture necessary to find healing in our relationship with God.
Why do some people stay mired in their addiction while others find the traction needed to gain momentum in their recovery journey? Episode 6 is all about finding traction in your journey