Love and Relationships with Debra Fileta: Recent Episodes
Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
Today on the podcast I’m introducing you to Leah from Arizona, an amazing single woman whose life has taken an unexpected turn as a health and wellness influencer over the past few years. Leah went on a health journey of losing over 200lbs naturally and started sharing about her health journey on social media – which quickly gained attention. She’s in a season of stepping into all the things God has for her - and hopes and prays that this journey will include a husband one day as well. We also spent some time talking through her “not my husband list” – the list of things that she considers a major turn off in the world of online dating…she wants to know if her list is reasonable, or unreasonable! It’s important for us to know our NEEDS vs our PREFERENCES when it comes to dating, and this conversation will challenge you to take a second look at your list as well. You’re going to love this conversation as well as Leah Mancuso, so reach out to her and make a connection! Email: leahhopehealth@gmail.com
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
The Singles Series continues with Malachi from Texas, who processes the journey of carrying past pain into relationships, and how it just bleeds into the next relationship, and the next one – if you don’t take the time to heal. In trying to run from his pain, he prolonged it and caused more pain along the way that led him down a path of addiction. But the past few years have ushered him into a season of intentional healing, facing the past, and healing from his past trauma as well as his past mistakes. He’s desiring to do relationships in a way that honors God, and he’s committed to staying faithful to the calling God has on his life for ministry. Not only that, but now he leads a freedom ministry, helping others get set free as well. He’s moved from heartbreak into healing, and he’s praying for a woman who can walk with him along that journey. Ladies, give Malachi a shout out and introduce yourself by contacting him at:
Email: Malachi.av.burden@gmail.com
or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/malachiburden_
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
The Singles Series continues with Lauren from Indiana, who is learning to make the most of singleness, while she trusts God with her hopes for marriage. She just finished her degree to become a counselor, and she has a deep love and compassion for people. Not only that, but she’s in a season of really enjoying her people – a strong community of friends that she’s built around herself to do life with. We talk about how she’s built community, and the importance role community, friendship, and intentional relationships has in her life. Then I process with her why a lack of community as a single person would actually be a red flag, as she’s looking for someone to date and match her life and values. This is a really inspiring conversation if you’re single, to encourage you to make sure you’re really making the most of life. Gentleman, reach out and connect with Lauren Creek by starting a conversation with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/llcreek or Email: laurenc0629@gmail.com
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
The Singles Series continues with Devon from Florida, who has learned the value of leaning into the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. Devon is pastor, coach, and single dad who has intentionally embarked on his personal healing journey, increasing in his emotional awareness, his conflict and communication, and his desire for authenticity. His past relationship history showed him his tendency to hide from hard conversations, and with the help of God and good counseling, he’s taking the opposite approach in this season of life, which is to embrace the hard conversations with the people he cares about. We talk about how conflict can lead to deeper intimacy, why it’s important to master relationship skills in dating, and what he’s looking for in a woman. Single ladies, if you love Jesus, dimples, and hoop earrings (you’ll have to listen to get that joke), send Devon Daniel a message and start a conversation:
Instagram: Instagram.com/Devon_Daniel
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devon.d.daniel/
Email: devon.daniel8282@gmail.com
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
The Summer Lovin’ Singles Series continues today with Amanda from Florida! Amanda is in a season of “learning herself”. Her relationship with Jesus has been the solid rock of her life, and now she’s learning to discover the intricacies of her personality and who God made her to be. Growing up in a family with eight siblings, she’s embracing the beauty of discovering her true identity in Christ as an independent adult. She’s balancing ministry, creativity, fitness, and fun in this beautiful season of life that she’s working hard to savor, until God brings the right man into her life. You will love getting to know Amanda as much as I did, and you’ll be inspired to discover yourself through our conversation. Single Christian guys, drop her a line and start a conversation with Amanda Gonzalez on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandapsalmist
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
It’s time for Summer Lovin’! I’m so excited for the conversations we’ll be having over the next few months with both singles and married couples about the realities of navigating relationships well. Today begins our Singles Series where I’ll be introducing you to a few Christian singles! Today I am talking to Pedro from Colorado, who is trying to navigate dating in a way that honors Christ. In this episode, Pedro shares his journey of faith, healing, and discovering healthy relationships rooted in God's love. We explore how different faith backgrounds influence our walk with God, the importance of boundaries, and the seasons of relationship growth. Give this conversation a listen, and ladies, connect with Pedro Lopez at:
Email: plopez5711@gmail.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lopez_805970
**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
Exhaustion. Fatigue. Lack of Motivation. Apathy. Overwhelm. How do you know if you’re burnt out – or if you’re just dealing with hormones? Because we know that sometimes the two can feel like the same thing! Today I’m joined by Gina, who is calling in to process whether she’s burnt out from a demanding career in full time ministry over many years without a break, or because she’s in the middle of menopause? Which one is it, and how do you know the difference? And then – what do you do about it? We process how to differentiate between the two, as well as some of the overlaps between the two – and then we end with some practical advice, suggestions, and next steps for her as she commits to getting her body back to baseline and learning to care for her soul. Listen to this entire episode, and share with someone you know who might be in the thick of it right now! And then pick up a copy of the life-changing message of Soul Care and learn what it means to bring your body back to baseline and care for your soul!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What do you do when you’re in a relationship with parents – who don’t seem to be interested in a relationship with you? What do you do if they seem avoidant, distant, or uninterested? Do you continue to engage and interact, or do you back away? Today on Talk To Me, I’m joined by Debra from Canada who is wondering how to best navigate a relationship with parents that comes with pain, hurt, disappointment, and frustration. This conversation is a meaningful one for anyone who seems to have a complicated or complex relationship with their parents or their in-laws – how do you “honor” your parents when they make it very difficult? Listen to the entire episode today, and then go deeper with how to interact and engage with people by learning 31 skills that will make all your relationships stronger, by grabbing a copy of People Skills – because your relationships are only as strong as your skills!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What do you do when you’re in the middle of a season of transition – but you have no idea what’s coming up next? When you feel like you’re in the middle of point A and point B, in the middle of the waiting, the unknown? What are some tangible things we can put into place in a season of transition, to keep ourselves from doubting and from fear? Today on the show, Ross calls in to Talk To Me about this time of transition, where he feels called to move forward from his current role in ministry – while not knowing for sure what’s next. If you are waiting right now – whether it’s waiting on a job, waiting on a spouse, waiting for healing, or waiting for next steps – this episode will encourage you and equip you with the mindset you need as you wait. Here’s what you need to know while you wait. Tune in to this entire conversation and then go deeper during your season of waiting by grabbing a copy of Soul Care, and learn what it means to care for your soul while you wait.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Where is God in the middle of our pain and brokenness? Where is God in our trauma and tragedy? That’s a real question that Jermaine Wilson had to face as a young man in his 20s – facing years in prison, and months in complete isolation. Jermaine’s avoidance of his pain, led him down a life of more pain – facing prison at the age of 15. He spent over seven years in prison, much of that in complete isolation – where he was FORCED to face his pain in a way many will never have to. Where is God in the middle of our pain? Where is God when we cry out to him in our lowest moments? Does He even hear us? Does He even care? Jermaine’s story of pain and wrestling with God will challenge you, and it will bring you to tears to see the hand of God in the middle of some serious and heart-wrenching pain. You will see God show up in ways you couldn’t have imagined – and it will give you hope in your own pain. Jermaine’s story is a reminder of the pain and brokenness that’s happening every day behind closed doors – and a powerful look at the church INSIDE and what God is doing even in the most darkest places.
Friends, this on-air counseling session is especially meaningful to my heart – because my family and I are spending the weekend serving with Prison Fellowship at their Angel Tree Sports Camp, and getting a front row seat into what God is doing in some of the most difficult pain people are enduring. Consider learning more about Prison Fellowship and supporting their incredible, life-changing ministry HERE.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today on the show I’m joined by Angie, who’s greiving the fact that her adult daughter went “no contact” recently, withdrawing from family activities and isolating her daughter from seeing her grandma. Angie is grieving both the loss of her relationship with her daughter as well as her granddaughter, and wondering if there is anything she can do to move toward reconciliation and connection. I talk her through the building blocks of a safe relationship,what she can and what she can’t do, and what it means for her to work on creating a space of safety and security for her adult daughter and their relationship with one another, even through their differences. According to Angie, their differing political views have kept her daughter away, so we spend some time talking about navigating the difficult territory when there is a stark contrast of views and perspectives between two people, whether politically, theologically, or otherwise. This episode is more important in this generation and culture than it ever has been before, so take the time to listen, process, and learn alongside Angie. To go deeper in your relationships with others, grab a copy of People Skills and learn the skills you need to strengthen your relationships.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today on the show I’m joined by Melissa who is calling in to get help dealing with her anger issues. She’s noticing that her anger outbursts are getting less controlled, and has noticed losing her temper in the car as well as in public – at the bank, for example. She’s not sure where these patterns of anger have come from, and she feels like she’s tried everything to try and break free from her anger with no success. We process what her anger means, what emotions it represents, and then we look for trigger patterns to trace what may be the underlying root of her anger issues. We make some serious progress in this session, as I help her track the underlying issue that’s been holding her back. If you struggle with anger, listen to this episode and start putting the pieces together in your own life so that you can respond to the signal of anger instead of simply reacting to it. Listen to this episode, and then go deeper on your own journey of healing by connecting with one of our faith-forward counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network!
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Sensitive Content Disclaimer: The following conversation includes sensitive information, covering themes of abuse.
Today on the show I am joined by my friend Tim Ross for an on-air counseling session as we process the concept of vulnerability in relationships. What does it mean to be vulnerable? I guide him through the analogy of seeing vulnerability like a pool – equipped with both a shallow end and a deep end. Vulnerability means to go first, to take that first jump, and to invite people to the deep end of your life, and share authentically. He opens up about the moment that changed everything for him, where he decided that he will never keep a secret again, and his journey toward being open and honest in every part of his life. We process through both the benefits and the risks of vulnerability, how to find friends who are willing to go there, and why being open and honest is not a gender thing – it’s an invitation to all. This episode is filled with lessons to learn and things to process about your own life, and what holds you back from sharing authentically. Don’t miss this on-air session, and then go deeper with your relationships by grabbing a copy of People Skills.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today on the show I am joined by Kirby Kelly for an on-air counseling session, as we process her past trauma of growing up with alcoholic parents. In this emotional conversation, Kirby opens up specifically about her complex relationship with her mother, who continued to relapse into addiction to alcohol until she passed away unexpectedly in 2023. Kirby is now expecting her first baby girl, and a new layer of trauma and mother wounds has made its way to the surface of her life. She is dealing with a layer of new emotions as she grieves for the mother she never had, and also grieves the fact that her mom will not be here with her during this vulnerable season of her life as she herself becomes a new mom. We process the concept of God showing up to her as a good father, but what it means to ask him to fill in the gaps of our mother wounds as well. This episode is SO powerful, vulnerable, and emotional – and is so necessary for anyone who can relate to experiencing the trauma of mother wounds. Go deeper in healing from the trauma of your past, with my book Are You Really OK?
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today I have an on-air session with Christian Bevere, as we processed some of the mistakes she made during her dating days, including dating from places of insecurity, as well as the unrealistic expectations she placed on what dating was “supposed to” look like or feel like in that season of life. We then talk through how unrealistic expectations continue to play out, if we’re not careful, even in marriage. We unpack how family dynamics and Christian culture can influence our perspectives on dating and relationships for both the good and bad, and how there can almost be a “desperation” for relationships, that lead us to looking for love in the wrong places. If this episode resonates with you, check out True Love Dates to learn more about becoming healthy standing alone, and attracting and engaging in healthy relationships.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
The stress of the sandwich generation is real, but extremely underestimated. People don’t talk about it enough. How do you navigate the burdens and blessings of caring for young children, as well as caring for your aging parents…all at once? How do you navigate that stress while you’re also trying to run a household, keep a marriage intact, provide for your family, keep your job, and manage your mental and emotional health all the while? Theologian Joel Muddamalle sits down with me to process the stress he’s dealing with in this season of life, caring for his aging parents and the many needs that come with that, all while managing a household and young children of his own. If you’re dealing with the blessings and burdens of being the sandwich generation – this episode will encourage you and give you some practical suggestions of how to manage this season well, set healthy boundaries, and care for yourself in the process – so that caring for others doesn’t end up destroying you. If you enjoyed this episode, you need to check out Soul Care and learn how to prevent burnout, and care for your own soul as you care for others.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today’s caller, Ron from California, is wondering what to do about cell phone addiction, especially as it relates to your marriage and relationships. How do you handle the issue of cell phone addiction before it has a negative impact on a marriage? What are some practical ways you can bring this area to the attention of your spouse, or other loved ones who struggle with being on their phone too much without getting into an argument? To help me answer this question, I’m joined by Larinda, one of the DFCN counselors, and together we unpack the neurological and relational impacts of cell phone addiction, as well as some really practical and gentle ways you can begin bringing up the conversation and making changes in your family and in your marriage with regard to screen time addiction. If you or someone you know is distracted by their screens more often than not (and let’s get real – we ALL need to work on this) this episode is for you! Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. Go deeper with the 60 minute RESET from screens and social media seminar HERE.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What do you do when a long-term friendship suddenly comes to an end? How do you deal with the pain of rejection, misunderstanding, and even abandonment in close relationships — especially when you didn’t see it coming. Today on the podcast, Pastor and Author Alex Seeley opens up about a recent rupture of a close friendship that left her feeling misunderstood and abandoned. In our on-air session, we talk about healthy ways vs unhealthy ways to deal with the sudden loss of a friendship, how to know what's yours to own vs. what’s not yours to own, and where to go from here. If you’ve dealt with the loss of a friendship, this episode will be life-giving and encouraging, and it will give you loads of practical next steps as you heal and decide whether or not you can move toward repair. Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What happens when you don’t fit into the social norms? What happens when the social skills that are “supposed to” feel “easy”, feel like an incredibly difficult challenge? This is a glimpse of what it’s like to live with neurodivergence, and a diagnosis that impacts your social skills, such as ADHD or Autism. Today on the show Kendall Mariah, Instagram influencer and content creator, opens up to me about the burden and struggles of living with social challenges in a relational world. She never felt like she was “normal” growing up, and she couldn’t figure out why friendships were so hard for her. It’s been a long journey for her, and one that’s not finished yet, but she’s learned how to steward her differences and see the blessings in her diagnosis – and you will too. If you or someone you know struggles with being “different” or having some type of neurodevergence, this episode is for you!
Learn more and go deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today I’m joined by my friend and co-author of one of my books, Gary Thomas. He’s opening up about many different times in his life when he’s either felt misunderstood, slandered, or dealt with toxic interactions (some even from childhood) – and how he’s learned to respond as a person who typically leans toward peace and repair. We talk about how to set proper boundaries in relationships with different people, depending on their level of safety and health. Dig deeper into dealing with difficult people and setting healthy boundaries, by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What do you do when you keep hitting a wall trying to go deeper in friendship? Today, I’m joined by Nicole who is feeling hurt by the cycle of trying to go deeper with friends, but finding herself at a dead end. She’s feeling discouraged and wondering if it’s even possible to connect with people on the level that she’s desiring for friendship. I challenge her to dig deeper into some of her personal fears and triggers that might lie underneath the surface, particularly regarding rejection wounds, and then I give her practical steps for what to do next when you want to go deeper in friendship. If you’re struggling to find the right fit in friendships, you have to listen to this episode! We cover this and more, in today’s episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper into going deeper in your friendships and connections by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today on the show, Kevin calls in to talk to me about dealing with church hurt and trauma. He’s a licensed counselor himself, and finds himself counseling people through church trauma issues on a regular basis. He wants to know how to best serve those who are struggling with this kind of trauma. He’s worked through his personal journey of church trauma, but as a counselor at a local church, he wants to find better tools to help those who are in the thick of it. If you find yourself walking through church trauma, this conversation will offer encouragement and next steps. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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Rachel calls in to the hotline today to Talk To Me about her struggles with feeling secure standing alone. After the loss of her husband, she realized she’d never really dealt with abandonment wounds from the past, and is having a really hard time feeling secure in her singleness. How can a person begin to develop that confidence, and even enjoy being alone? Is it wrong to have a desire for a relationship, and how do you know if your desire for connection is healthy or unhealthy? We cover this and more, in today’s episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Can friendship bring up old wounds? Today Royneka calls in to the hotline to chat about a friendship that seems to be triggering her. How can she tell if the triggers mean she should step away from this friendship, or if the triggers are revealing something in her that needs to be healed? We unpack friendship triggers, how to deal with them, and when to confront them or step away. Knowing your triggers is an important people skill, and we talk through it in this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Today I’m joined by Michelle, who has been on a journey of saying no to passivity. Being the oldest child in the family, she has had a tendency to become more accommodating than she should. This pattern has followed her into her adulthood and developed into passivity. We talk about 3 important mindset shifts that have to happen in order to see assertiveness as the best way to take care of yourself and others. In order for relationships to be healthy, they have to be balanced! Assertiveness is an important people skill, and we talk through it on this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
We are so excited to celebrate the official launch of my new book People Skills today! People Skills offers 31 transformational social skills that will strengthen your interpersonal relationships, increase your influence, and help you create meaningful interactions. Rooted in Scripture and informed by science and psychology, this roadmap offers practical lessons on empathy, clear communication, listening, body language, conflict resolution, attachment styles, and more.
As we continue this People Skills series on the show, I’m joined today by Anthony, who called in to Talk To Me About how to move past the hurt he experienced at his past church. Anthony talks through the church hurt he experienced after serving relentlessly at his last church, and after giving so much yet getting so little in return.
This episode takes an interesting turn when I start to notice this pattern of “giving too much” in Anthony’s life and history…and we start to make some really significant connections. Learning to own your role in a relationship is a really important people skill, and it’s one that we discuss in depth in this important episode of Talk To Me. If you’ve been hurt in relationships, again and again, it’s time to start looking for patterns. This episode will help you learn how. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
Will called in to Talk To Me about his journey through deep betrayal by his best friend – someone he never imagined would hurt him. How do you walk through this kind of betrayal, when you’ve been completely blindsided? Today, we talk through his story of pain and friendship betrayal, and the number one thing that helped him move into healing: forgiveness. Forgiveness is an important people skill, because it untethers you from the pain that others have caused you – so that you can be free to move forward and not stay stuck. We talk through how to do that, and why it’s necessary in this important episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by preordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
In one of the most vulnerable conversations of the year, I sat down with Pastor Shawn Johnson and processed the moment that literally almost took his life -- the moment he broke mentally and emotionally. After suffering from intense and continuous panic attacks behind the scenes for many years, one day he could take it no more. Thank God he chose vulnerability in that dark and desperate moment, and reached out for help, because it was vulnerability: letting people in on his darkest moments, that ultimately saved his life. We spend some time talking about the series of events leading up to this dark season in his life, what kept him from opening up before this moment, and how he's keeping track of his mental health and well being today. If you suffer from mental illness, panic attacks, depression or anxiety -- his journey will truly challenge and inspire you to continue moving toward healing, and to learn to let people in.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
What do you do when your people pleasing tendencies continue to come up again and again? How do you navigate the desire to please people, but ultimately continue to strive to please God? Today, I talk to Judah Smith about his tendencies to care too much about what people think, and the self-serving, self-protecting, selfish nature behind being a person who cares too much about what people think. We unpack the idea that ultimately, the root of people-pleasing is actually selfish -- because it's the desire to be wanted, loved, accepted, and validated -- is actually a desire to meet a deep, unquenchable need in us. If you struggle with people-pleasing, you need to tune in to this one.
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It's hard enough to deal with feeling offended by people, but what do you do when you feel offended by God? In this on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, we talk about healthy vs. unhealthy ways to handle offense from people who hurt us deeply, and then we move into healthy ways to deal with feeling offended by God. We talk about important mindset shifts that need to happen, in order for us to be able to deal with our real and significant hurts, disappointment, and pain. How can offense bring us closer to God, rather than push us away from Him? If you've ever felt disappointed by God or by people, this conversation is just what you need
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
We know God's heart is for a healthy marriage, but what happens when life has other plans? Today, I sit down with Lysa Terkeurst and unpack the series of events and discoveries leading up to the letting go of her marriage. She shares what she's learned along the way about boundaries, and her tendency to do more than her fair share of work in a relationship. We get to the root of the why, and what made her susceptible to this type of relational dynamic -- and ultimately, how she found healing in spite of it all.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
"I've always just wanted to be accepted". I think many of us can relate to that sentiment. Max Lucado certainly could. Much of his life was spent feeling "on the outside" and wanting to be accepted, which led to a series of unhealthy behaviors just to try and find acceptance. Today, he vulnerably unpacks where this belief system started in his childhood, how it led him down a very unhealthy path, and how it still creeps into his life, even though he's been walking with Jesus for so many years. This is one of my favorite on-air sessions, with one of my favorite people. I know it will challenge and change you.
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
We’re spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes!
Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries?
We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish — and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment’s notice.
But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships?
Today, we have an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling.
Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life…and followed her into adulthood.
If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way.
Find out how!
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We talk about the struggles of life working in the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years. Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn’t even realize. We talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many things that can get in the way of believing the truth about who we are. It’s a powerful conversation about letting go of shame, and dealing with the pain of the past. If there is anything in your past that still haunts you today, I know his counseling session will inspire and challenge you to deal with your past and be freed from your past. Tune in now!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.
We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes!We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us... but what about the positive ones?What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world... And then we have to lay it all down?Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the crown of Miss Universe... and realizing how much her identity was found in unreliable things.We trace this "self sufficiency" back to her childhood, and unpack some of the patterns that led her to that difficult place ... and the lessons she has learned and continues to learn in placing her identity in Christ alone.There is no label bad enough or great enough worth holding onto ... except what Jesus says.This conversation was so good, and I know you are going to love it as well.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes!It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians.Today's session is with Matt Chandler. Pastor Matt is the senior pastor of the Village Church, and his mental health came to a head recently as he faced a concerning emotional block in his life and feelings of burnout that started to impact everything. It took an intentional shift to face his childhood wounds to begin the process of healing.Pastor Matt Chandler shares is story with us today of facing his childhood wounds. I loved his honesty and no-filter demeanor in this conversation. It was truly one of my favorite conversations and I know it will inspire you as well.I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK?Order Are You Really Ok?Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes!Today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process.You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Trigger warning: This podcast discusses themes of abuse and suicidal ideation. Please use caution in considering those listening around you, as well as your own personal triggers.Cristina Baker joins me on the podcast today to share about her radical transformation from living in a world of pleasure and pain and darkness, to radically meeting Jesus. From abuse, to neglect, to living in chaos - her life was filled with significant and serious pain and suffering even from a young age. She talked about being "pulled toward the darkness" to deal with her pain, and how that darkness literally almost took her life. She was drawn to a dark lifestyle, and was headed down a path of destruction - until Jesus stepped in the most radical way. Her story will inspire and encourage you to keep praying for anyone in your life who is living in darkness. If God can do it in her life, He can do it for theirs. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Trigger warning: This podcast discusses themes of abuse and suicidal ideation. Please use caution in considering those listening around you, as well as your own personal triggers.Today on the podcast, I have a powerful conversation with Anne Beiler, who spent years of her life keeping secrets that were never meant to be kept. You may recognize her name from the famous Auntie Anne's pretzels (the best pretzels on earth, by the way!).We spent time unpacking her dark history of abuse, her struggle with secrecy, and the 7 years of struggling with a secret that she was too afraid to share. Even when she felt like she was at her lowest point, and contemplated taking her life, she got the strength to take the first steps toward healing, by using her voice to speak the truth - to shine a light on the darkness, and invite God into the broken places in her life.May God help us to continue shining truth in the darkest places in our lives, and allow His healing work to begin. Tune in to this important episode. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I'm joined by Lindsey, a caller who is wondering how to manage her oldest daughter, who seems to be a perfectionist. Lindsey says she's not unfamiliar with this dynamic, as she used to be a perfectionist herself, and parented that way for many, many years. She's feeling guilt that she's passed that down to her daughter, and wondering how to get her out of the exhausting cycle of perfectionism. Join us for this conversation as we wrap up our Family and Parenting series!You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What do you do when one parent isn't parenting well? Or is it that they're just not parenting the way you want them to? Is there a difference? Today I'm joined by Wenet, a caller who is struggling with her husband's parenting style, and feeling frustrated with their differences. We talk through this concept in detail, and I give her some key advice on how to manage their different parenting styles and personalities.You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How much is too much when it comes to screens and video games? Today I am joined by Nicole, a caller who wants to know if her son is playing too many video games, and if she needs to set some more rules and stricter boundaries with video games? We process her son's gaming habits, and then I give her some feedback and advice...which will probably surprise you. If you're a parent in this world navigating these topics...don't miss this episode of our Family and Parenting Series!You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I'm joined by Alexis, a caller who wants to know how to help her kids navigate through their many different emotions. Is there such a thing as "too much" emotional awareness? We talk through this, and I give her one of my most important questions to ask your kids when they're feeling all the feels. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I'm joined by a couple you know and love, Jeremy and Adrienne Camp. Not only do they sing incredibly, but they're incredible parents, and I was so glad to have my friends join me back on the podcast yet again for this Family and Parenting series. We dig into the conversation about how to raise kids who know and love Jesus, and what it looks like to help your kids cultivate a personal relationship with God without becoming legalistic, controlling, or rigid regarding their faith. Don't miss this important topic!You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras:Order Any Day Emotions Today!The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks how we can maintain friendships as an adult. In ...
Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We’ll discover that answer in today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”.
Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today’s hope-filled discussion!
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BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage?
Today’s caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you’re experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously?
Enjoying SinglenessWe’re talking through this important topic today….so if you feel like you’re having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!!
Tune in to today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!
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Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:
- Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
- Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
- Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
- Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It
FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY
Books:
Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for love ...
“Guard your heart”. That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian ...
Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn’t ...
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You don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single! It really ...
Today we’re talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do ...
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Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on ...
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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Today we talk to a couple with a remarkable story. After years of functioning in an unhealthy marriage, they reached the lowest point… and ultimately got a divorce. During that period of time, things begin to change and shift. And as God healed them on an individual level… They were eventually reunited again in marriage. Their story is powerful, and a testament to God can do when we trust him with our individual healing. If you are struggling in relationships today… The best thing you can do is get yourself healthy, standing alone. Take some time to listen to this incredible story… and be inspired to reset in your own life.
RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on ...
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe it’s your relationship with food.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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Insecurity is one of those things a lot of people battle, but it’s some thing we rarely discuss out loud. Today I am talking with Nanette, a woman who has struggled with deep insecurity for much of her life. In our conversation today we trace back the roots of where her insecurity began, why it’s continued into her adulthood, and then I give her practical suggestions to walk in freedom and confidence today. If you’ve ever struggled with insecurity or question your value and worth… This episode is for you.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In this weeks episode, I had an incredible conversation with my friend and mentor Christine Caine. We talk about the subtle influence of negative thinking, tracing it back to the roots of the past. Christine shares some of her story and her tendencies to struggle with negative thinking, as well as how she has learned to overcome those things and live in God’s truth. It’s a Powerful episode that will help you reset from negative thinking.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe it’s your relationship with food.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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Today I’m talking with Sabrina about resetting from grief… Sabrina and her husband have gone through loss after loss in the form of miscarriage, but through our conversation today she realized that the way she has been grieving, has actually brought more heartache into their lives. We can’t make grief go away, but how we respond to grief will make or break our lives. If you have ever felt stuck in grief, whether grief of things lost, dreams that have never come into fruition, or the loss of a loved one… This episode will challenge and encourage you.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe it’s your relationship with food.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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One of the most common things that people need to reset from is their negative thinking. Our thoughts impact the way we feel, which then impact the way we behave. Today I’m having a conversation with a man named Josh who is really struggling with his negative thinking. He is constantly feeling down and depressed about himself and his situation. I take the time to dig a little deeper, and help him identify that there may be some significant things going on underneath the surface that are impacting his thought life. Tune in to this important conversation about negative thinking.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is available anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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As a Professional Counselor, I spend a significant amount of time counseling men and women (porn is not just a “male” problem) who are struggling with the use of pornography and porn addiction. The use of pornography is having a detrimental impact on so many individuals and damaging many relationships.
It’s time to RESET!
In today’s episode, I’m having a conversation with Matt and Sathiya—two men who have found freedom from porn.
Tune into today’s important episode about how to RESET from porn, how to get to the roots of the underlying feelings and beliefs that keep you stuck to porn, and how to finally break free. Learn more about hitting the RESET button in this area of your life in my new book, Reset! Or check out my Porn No More Course and Workbook.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about something you probably haven’t thought about before. Did you know there’s such a thing as being TOO POSITIVE? It’s called toxic optimism. Toxic Optimism is when we use “positivity” or Christian platitudes to bypass difficult feelings rather than allow ourselves to face and feel the difficult things.
But what we’re actually doing is burying the trauma, the grief, and the pain — instead of dealing with it. And ironically, when we bury it, we end up prolonging the pain because the best way to preserve something is to bury it.
Today I’m talking with Courtney, who struggles with this very thing. Her whole life she’s tried to be “tough, and positive” and make all the right choices in hopes of pleasing God and the people around her…but she’s at a place where all that is on the backburner because she’s feeling really burnt out. We talk through this today, in a raw and honest conversation about her toxic optimism, where it began, and how she uses it to keep from actually dealing and healing. It’s an eye opening conversation with her, and I think it will be for you as well.
It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode about toxic optimism. And learn more about toxic optimism in my new book Reset!
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor’s wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions.
Whether it’s screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance…addiction is subtle until it’s serious.
It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today’s important episode!
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe it’s your relationship with food.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we’re talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years — but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today…and what a journey!!! It’s such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God — and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God — and WHY.
It’s time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
It’s BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I’m sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I’m talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the “inside-out”. This is an episode you’re going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!!
It’s not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day — so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you…and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message – in your life!!! We’re ready for a RESET!!!
(Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!)
RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
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In today’s episode, I’m having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after – and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix’s story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he’s been holding onto from childhood – that are coming up in his relationships today. You’re going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well.
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RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let’s begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing.
Maybe it’s your negative thinking that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression.
Maybe you’re struggling in your relationship with God.
Maybe you’re stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe it’s behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits.
It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift.
Whatever it is – in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out.
My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It’s a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last.
In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we’re diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET.
We’ll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We’re going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently!
As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life.
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RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you’ll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses!
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Today’s on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child — and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far.
It’s the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you’re going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways!
But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper.
You know what I’m going to say — it’s always deeper than what’s happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
Today we’re digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Today we’re digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present.
Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don’t take the time to heal.
Today we’re going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It’s a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn’t before.
We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you’ll listen and learn from this courageous couple.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST…Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations — and hadn’t talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture.
When they got into marriage and things didn’t match what they expected – they didn’t know what to do. Their wedding night didn’t go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they’ve avoided intimacy every since — physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today’s episode they reveal a big secret they’ve never shared with anyone…and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there’s a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret.
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up!
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Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.
The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before.
Today’s couple is Ben and Mary. Between the demands of his job, and the demands of family — this couple finds themselves feeling disconnected and looking for ways to connect again before it’s too late. We talk about barriers to their emotional connection — and it get’s DEEP. I can’t wait for you to hear this incredible and inspiring episode!!!
Tune in to today’s episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!!
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Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
We are on the fifth of a five-week series about CHECKING IN and asking…Are You Really OK?Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learning how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others.
This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it.
Today we’re talking about physical health – oftentimes can go to extremes in either fixating so much on our bodies/and our relationship with food and exercise — or neglecting it all together. Today we’re talking about a few different aspects of physical health and checking in to see how we’re doing in this area, because the body-mind connection is so real and so powerful.
Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!!
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The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
I think it’s so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we’re REALLY doing. We are on the fourth of a five-week of CHECKING IN…Are You Really OK?Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others.
This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it.
Today we’re talking about the importance of checking in with our mental health and the different components that impact our mental health, including our life, events and stressors, past trauma, and physical chemistry.
Just because you’re a Christian, doesn’t mean you are immune to the struggles of depression, anxiety, and mental health.
In this episode, we will talk about mental health, and the best ways to treat mental health struggles.
Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
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The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? ,Married Sex and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
I think it’s so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we’re REALLY doing. We are on the third of a five-week of CHECKING IN…Are You Really OK?Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others.
This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it.
Today we’re talking about spiritual health – oftentimes we transfer the hurts of our past onto our beliefs and expectations about God.
Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
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The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
I think it’s so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we’re REALLY doing. We are on the second of a five-week of CHECKING IN…Are You Really OK?
Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others.
This podcast series “Checking In” will help you come up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it.
Today we’re talking about emotional health and getting to the root of some of the pressure that is going on underneath the surface that ends up, impacting our lives. In this episode, I talk about the volcano analogy of how there is all this pressure and stress building underneath the surface that has to find a way out!
Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
It’s the beginning of a New Year! And at the start of every year, I think it’s so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we’re REALLY doing.
Are You Really OK?
Over the month of January, we’re taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health — and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can’t fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others.
Join us on this five-week journey of CHECKING IN…and coming up with a plan for how we’re going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven’t yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you’ll find out that you’re not as healthy as you think you are — and it’s time to do something about it.
Today we’re talking about the Better Than Average Effect, a social experiment that shows us we often have a tendency to think that we’re doing better than we actually are, and how to have a more accurate view of ourselves.
Tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
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The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
Have you ever found yourself in one-sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving – and getting little to nothing in return?
Why do you find yourself one-way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this:
You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!)
So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you’re worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you’re not capable, able, deserving, or worthy?
Why am I always in a one-sided relationship?On today’s episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return.
I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it’s time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship.
Friends – this episode is SO JAM PACKED WITH AMAZING INFORMATION!!!
Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it)
Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today’s show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in this podcast episode on the Love + Relationships Podcast.
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Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life
Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article!
Let go of the labels and cling to God’s truth about who you are in Christ.
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
These 10 relationships killers may seem small, but they’re deadly (if you ignore them). These things can slowly creep in and hurt our relationship.
Big marriage problems don’t start big.
They start with the little things that we neglect and ignore, that culminate into bigger things. That’s why it’s important for us to start recognizing these relationship killers – little things that can cause big damage – long before they start to impact your marriage.
Whether you’re single, dating, or marriage — there is something for you to take away from this episode because many of these things either impact you today, or will impact you in the future.
So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
We’re talking junk food relationships. Relationships that are easy to get, but end up hurting you more than helping you.
Q: Why do I always end up in relationships that are convenient but not good for me?
That’s essentially the question from today’s caller on the hotline. She finds herself in relationships with guys who live nearby, but aren’t good for her. She’s wanting to break the cycle of convenience and pursue something different.
Just because a relationship is convenient, doesn’t mean it’s healthy.
We talk about the concept of “junk food relationships” — and how some things are convenient and easy, but not necessarily healthy. We help get to the roots of some of the real reasons she’s going to these type of relationships, and how to do something different. It’s such a great conversation, and you might just be able to see a little of yourself in her story and situation.
So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
Do you have questions you’ve always wanted to ask the opposite sex? When it comes to dating in this generation, it’s inevitable to find yourself wondering what the opposite sex is thinking!
And you’re not alone. It can be really hard to read/understand the opposite sex at times, especially with all of the underlying assumptions we bring to the table about the opposite sex.
Today on the podcast, we give our singles a chance to ask the opposite sex questions they’ve always wondered, and never asked!
Our singles are back in Part 3 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We’re getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes.
Today we’re opening up the lines of communication, and giving the singles a chance to ask each other questions on their mind about the opposite sex, how they think, their underlying motivations, and everything in between. It’s a really fun conversation, addressing issues we may have otherwise not had the chance to address.
I can’t wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel!
So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast — because we have some great things coming up in 2023!!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL
Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN
@michaelszapkiw (Instagram)
@crownofstrength (Instagram)
https://CrownOfStrength.com
Michael Szapkiw says he’s just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it.
Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing.
Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey.
Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA
Instagram: @andrewtkelley
I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I’m passionate about seeing Jesus’ church built, and strengthened, and I’ve loved that He’s allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life.
Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio
Instagram: @joshua8646
I’m like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God.
When I’m not serving or developing my start-up, you’ll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house.
Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX
@breaunanichole
I’m excited about what’s to come! I’m putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others.
Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida
Instagram @color.bliss.designs
Sandra is enjoying one of the best stages of her life as a single mother. For Sandra, the trauma of an unwanted divorce in the hands of Jesus, has resulted in true surrender to God, healing of past wounds, restored hope, self awareness and new dreams for the future. She believes in actively partnering with God in the pursuit of all her dreams and hopes for the future, including a kingdom marriage. She is happy to offer an authentic perspective representing a group of singles who have unique experiences.
Stacey Szczepanski: Michigan
Instagram: @livelaughlove0206
Facebook: Stacey Szczepanski
Hi! I am a 37 year old elementary educator who loves traveling, journaling, being in nature, and spreading the Lord’s light and love to all I meet and encounter. We all have a story and I believe it’s through our experiences, mistakes, and learning that we continue to grow into our healthiest versions of ourselves. I’m excited to put myself back out into the dating world again!
Where on earth can you meet Christian singles these days?
Today we talk about great places — and not so great places — to meet Christian singles.
Our singles are back in Part 2 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We’re getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes.
Today we’re talking about practical places to meet Christian singles, what has worked, and what hasn’t worked. Our singles share their experiences of meeting people in today’s dating scene.
I can’t wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel!
So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below!
FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE
Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO
The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION.
DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!
Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more.
GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL
Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN
@michaelszapkiw (Instagram)
@crownofstrength (Instagram)
https://CrownOfStrength.com
Michael Szapkiw says he’s just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it.
Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing.
Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey.
Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA
Instagram: @andrewtkelley
I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I’m passionate about seeing Jesus’ church built, and strengthened, and I’ve loved that He’s allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life.
Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio
Instagram: @joshua8646
I’m like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God.
When I’m not serving or developing my start-up, you’ll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house.
Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX
@breaunanichole
I’m excited about what’s to come! I’m putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others.
Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida
Instagram @color.bliss.designs
Sandra is enjoying one of the best stages of her life as a single mother. For Sandra, the trauma of an unwanted divorce in the hands of Jesus, has resulted in true surrender to God, healing of past wounds, restored hope, self awareness and new dreams for the future. She believes in actively partnering with God in the pursuit of all her dreams and hopes for the future, including a kingdom marriage. She is happy to offer an authentic perspective representing a group of singles who have unique experiences.
Stacey Szczepanski: Michigan
Instagram: @livelaughlove0206
Facebook: Stacey Szczepanski
Hi! I am a 37 year old elementary educator who loves traveling, journaling, being in nature, and spreading the Lord’s light and love to all I meet and encounter. We all have a story and I believe it’s through our experiences, mistakes, and learning that we continue to grow into our healthiest versions of ourselves. I’m excited to put myself back out into the dating world again!
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Marriage should make you happy. That’s the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How ...
You’ll “just know” When You Meet The Right Person…that’s what they try and tell you. “You lock eyes, as you ...
When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common ...
We’re continuing our bad relationship advice series with the bad relationship advice that says, “A happy wife makes a happy ...
I’ve heard from so many singles over the past few weeks who are struggling and looking for some encouragement as ...
“You just need to wait on God to bring you a relationship.” If you’re single, there’s a good chance you’ve ...
Married couples need a weekly date night out…you’ve heard that advice before, but is it good advice? The answer might ...
There’s a higher potential for conflict in relationships when everyone is together all the time. Can I get an amen? ...
There are toxic people everywhere. In churches, schools, at work, and sometimes right in the middle of your own household. ...
There’s been a lot of talk about hand washing lately, as the CDC continually reminds us of the importance of ...
This week on the blog, I released an article called 10 Quarantine Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health, ...
While we’re all on Corona Quarantine right now, and since our world has come to a halt for a period ...
Are you thinking about taking a break in a relationship? Is it possible to take a break from a relationship ...
What do you do when you find yourself in an on again off again relationship? Do you end it, or ...
How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for ...
Are you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking – you must be. Because you’re ...
Do you ever wonder if your marriage needs help? If so, you’re not alone. The natural trajectory of marriage is ...
SURPRISE!!! Bonus Valentines Day podcast episode today!!! It’s Valentine’s Day, and I just had to release an extra Valentines Day ...
How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn’t go ...
Should I marry him? Today’s caller is having some doubts in the relationship she’s in. She’s not sure if she ...
We’re in the thick of Winter, here in Pennsylvania. And there’s a lot we can learn from this season when ...
Today we’re talking questions to ask your partner, because we often assume instead of ask…and end up with some major ...
Summer is the season of intimacy, and it’s when things get hot in a relationship. I can’t wait to share ...
We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today’s question ...
Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!! It’s time to do things better this coming ...
Q: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced? Dating someone who is divorced is a topic ...
Today on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage. If you’ve ever ...
Looking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you’re trying to get ...
Last week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she’s interested in him. Today ...
I’m always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious ...
Is it possible to fall in love with the wrong person, or is falling in love the ultimate goal? What ...
Today we’re talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do ...
Compatibility is key. Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re ...
Today’s question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks: Q: Hi Debra. I’m feeling conflicted that a woman ...
Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship? A: Today’s ...
Time is everything. In fact, it’s one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around ...
Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we’re comfortable talking about, but it’s a necessary conversation. It’s easy ...
How do you protect your marriage? What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What’s your ...
There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date ...
Spiritual warfare isn’t something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the ...
“Guard your heart”. That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian ...
Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say ...
Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or ...
Personality differences, age differences, cultural differences. We often come to relationships with a set of differences; things that set us ...
What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. Being a Christian who also ...
What happens when you think you’re ready to wed – but your parents want you to wait? That’s the dilemma ...
“I just want to have a Christ centered relationship.” In the Christian dating culture, the term “Christ centered relationship” is ...
Let’s talk about sex drive in marriage. Because there are a lot of false expectations out there about what sex ...
What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with ...
Oneness in marriage. What does it look like for two people to practically become one? When we talk about oneness ...
Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the ...
Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy ...
Q: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”. A: Are you the oldest ...
You just got out of a relationship that you thought was going somewhere – and you’re looking for some break ...
When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing ...
How do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust? ...
Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of ...
Dating rules and advice can change with the passing of time. (Hence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1990 vs True Love Dates ...
Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? This is a question that’s always on my radar, because ...
It’s not usually the big things that cause relationship problems…it’s the small things. It’s the little things that go unaddressed ...
Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I’m talking about those conversations ...
Is there such a thing as “the one”? Do you believe that there’s only one person out there for you to marry? ...
How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I’m sure you’re not shocked to hear that ...
You don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single! It ...
What are some fun date ideas and practical suggestions for a successful first date? On the other end of the ...
What do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single? I get that question a lot. But the ...
It’s easy to pretend we’ve got it all together. Especially in the Church. It’s easy to put our best face forward, ...
How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship? What if you know someone is really good for you, but ...
Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, “This is not what ...
Good communication isn’t something you’re born with. It’s not even a gender thing. It’s something you have to learn (CLICK ...
There’s a reason junk-food is so popular. It makes you feel good for a little while, it’s quick, and most ...
If you’re single, I know you’re looking for online dating tips. Because, ugh, online dating? It’s a love-hate relationship for sure…especially ...
Have you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, ...
Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can’t avoid conflict, but ...
How do you know if someone is just not that into you? “You should never have to convince someone that ...
We’ve all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do ...
Get ready to talk about love and relationships in a way you never have before…because the love and relationships podcast ...