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In my 20 plus years as a life coach, I learned from my clients that most of us believe we are not enough, making it tough to purse our dreams . My goal is to encourage people to discover their purpose and make an impact, leave a legacy, even start a movement. Enough with Coach Laurie gives you action steps to making a difference not only in your life but of those around you. Are you ready to make an impact?
What are we missing when we are not curious? Did you know there are three types of questions? Yes or no is one and inside you will get the other two and a bonus. CoachLaurie
You may be telling yourself a story that is ruining your ACT 2. You have so much to give so much to share and you might be telling yourself you are too old, washed up. Missed it? NOT TRUE. Change your thoughts and change your brain, write that book, do that podcast, start that non profit. It's only too late if you believe it.
You know that voice that says "who are you too...?" It is a liar!!! Who are you to not do the thing, write the book, start the foundation create a podcast?
Will your stories outlive you? There is an easy way to remedy that. Push record. Video, audio, something, just share a story a week and leave it on your phone and in a year you will have 52 fun stories for your family!!! Leave your legacy with your voice.
Do you know someone who is full of self loathing? They can't take a compliment, they apologize for things that aren't their fault and they don't feel worthy of any attention. It is OK to love yourself! In fact if we love ourselves, we love others better.
If bad things are happening to me is it because I am manifesting them? Or do bad things happen and when we focus on them we invite more? Manifesting is tricky but when we focus on gratitude it makes those hard times a little easier to navigate.
Are you caring for a loved one? Are you also taking care of yourself? Often, usually, really most of the time we neglect ourselves. This makes us tired and resentful and maybe even mean? Take care of you so you can take care of others. That's an order!
Your story matters!! Have you ever had to write a bio? An edification, for being introduced? What is awesome about you? It is hard to do but man, once you do it and you realize how awesome you are, it could really improve your confidence!!
I can't is the death of a dream! How about ask a question? Invest in yourself? Be open to possibilities? Say YES!!!
I am seeing a theme among women who have re created their life after being interrupted!!! They found self love and then they found a life they love. Interrupted: Act 2 Reinventing Your Legacy
Some of us have zoom fatigue!!! Do you find yourself leaning out rather than in? Do you want to push END MEETING before it's over? Even if the content is awesome do you have a hard time paying attention? If you are a podcaster or lead zoom meetings this little tip could make all the difference.
Is selfish really a bad thing? In context of taking care of ourselves, putting our needs first in order to serve others better? Is it time to be first rather than last? Who will pay the price?
How long have you been saying "I'm going to write a book?" Maybe now is the time? If not now WHEN? If not you, WHO? Get'er done! Isn't it time? CoachLaurie.com
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Holidays can be hard, if you or someone you know is really struggling there is a hotline 988.Reaching out to others when you are sad or lonely can bring joy to you both.
Gaslighting is the 2022 word of the year. What does it mean? Listen for 10 signs you are being gaslit.https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/what_is_gaslighting_abuse/
Are you getting triggered? Feeling scared, panicked, anxious, or unsafe. Elevated heartbeat, sweating, and difficulty breathing. Feeling like you have no control over your emotions. Urge to run away, escape, or other avoidant behavior. Rumination or negative, automatic thoughts. Good news... There is help!!! Get some. Sponsored by Suthe https://www.tranont.com/coachlaurie
Holiday's are hard for some people, if you know someone who is struggling there is a hotline 988.
When we are paralyzed with fear, we can't take one step, break it down. Reduce it to the ridiculous, you can do this.
When things aren't going our way, here is a simple formula to help you face your fears!
I double dog dare you to take at least 5 minutes everyday to get connected to yourself, your source or just be quiet. See if it doesn't change your life.
When things don't go your way, rather than "NOTHING ever works out" try "And I love that".
How often do you think about what you think? Maybe our thoughts are old and need a reset?
To leave a legacy you have to live a legacy and how do we do that? Baby steps, tiny habits, self care.
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If we are curious and ask questions we might hear amazing stories like this one about a Leader named Dave.
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Are you curious? I hear people say all the time they don't know why people aren't curious. Ask one good question a day. Be curious, it's ok, really!! Curious about my liquid collagen? Glow https://www.tranont.com/coachlaurie
Shame says "I'm bad, guilt says "I did something bad". Are you suffering from shame, a family secret keeping you in pain? It's time. See a counselor, get free, you deserve a life free from shame.
Comparison is the thief of joy!! You know that thing you always wanted to do? It's not too late!!!
The GAS was SIPHONED out of my car!!! So much to say about this, including refusing to live in fear of loss!
While Lady Gaga is talking about mental health and giving us permission to be on mental health meds, I am actually getting off of them. And it is ALL GOOD. Radical Acceptance.
When we don't ask... we might "stew" and make things harder for ourselves. Even if it is hard, if it is something you want.. ask for it.
Being an entrepreneur is hard!!! But stay the course, keep on doing the things that help you grow and become the person you want to be and the business will follow!! Stay the course.
I do this activity every time I teach a Legacy Coaching/Publishing/Podcasting Class and last time someone added I come from Pimps, Preachers and Prostitutes!! This never gets old!! Listen and give it a try!
What are the mantra's in your head? Are they positive? Negative? What we tell ourselves, our brain believes and looks for more of what you tell it is your truth. Time to get a new mantra?
Daily Mode of Operation!! What are the daily habits you do to improve your life? Small things make a BIG difference in the long run
Molly DeFrank talks about Ticks, tik tok and teens. Spotlight Podcast: https://www.podcastone.com/Spotlight-with-Laurie-Hardie
You have a dream, something you want to do, but you don't! What is the cost? Who is NOT being inspired by you not telling your story? What lives are not being changed for lack of hearing/seeing your inspiring words?
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When we make excuses and don't say no when we mean it, we leave the door open for the asker to keep asking!!!
If not now, when? If not you, who? if not this what? Will you take a step? Take a risk?
Do we really need to give excuses? Can we just say YES or NO? New Legacy Class Starting soon. Coaching/Publishing/Podcasting http://www.coachlaurie.com/
Socrates was all about asking questions to help people figure things out. Rather than telling he used a question technique and it is still quite effective today!!
Are you praying for answers? Asking for solutions? Ignoring the boat being sent to rescue because it doesn't look the way you thought it would?
Saying YES to all good things, doesn't mean we can't say no, or that we say yes just to please people, but saying yes to kind gestures.
Who has made a difference in your life? Will you consider sending them a thank you card?
Can we suspend judgement long enough to see who people really are, rather than assigning them a label according to their belief system, party choices?
That feeling, not really depressed, but not flourishing.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html
I am not a big fan of new year resolutions!! I would rather look back and celebrate the wins from the previous year.
Not MRS but Misses, empathy connects with emotions. Holidays are a great time to listen well.
Failing Forward a book by John Maxwell shares stories about so many people that failed before they succeeded and we get to learn from their ability to keep trying.
Are you exhausted? Doing too much, trying to fulfill everyone's expectation? I get it but.....
This is your friendly reminder that failure will always feel better than regret. Period. Jess Eckstrom
Is my life a reflection of who I want to be or a reaction to those I don't want to upset?
Emotions are a signpost! What do they mean?
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We do more than we know, if we wrote our bio or resume we would see that we do so much more than we realize.
Write your legacy!! Our dating coach says he wants everyone to realize what a GREAT catch they are. And he gives you homework.
Confidence is far from arrogance. Excerpt from Dating coach "Dating Sucks You Don't" by Connell Barrett.
What is the difference between co-dependence and enabling? Can we love too much? Is enabling loving?
SSP when someone sends you a note or a thank you, put it in a file and when you have one of "those" days, get them out and read them.
Did Not See That Coming, my book, what it means to get side swiped, by divorce, death, a pandemic.
Isn't it crazy how often people use "should"? Once you start to recognize it you hear it all the time. So when others should on us, when we should on others and maybe the worst of all when we should on ourselves!!!
People start making habits and changing things, but then they give up, just before they hit gold!
"Develop success from failure discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success". Dale Carnegie
What is Coercive Control? Coercive control is a strategic form of ongoing oppression and terrorism used to instill fear. The abuser will use tactics, such as limiting access to money or monitoring all communication, as a controlling effort. It is a real thing. It's illegal in some countries. It's real and if someone is suffering you can help by calling the Domestic violence hotline 1 800 799 SAFE (7233) https://www.healthline.com/health/coercive-control Coachlaurie.com
Helping adults who were sexually abused as children, finding a place to tell their story and be believed. There is help. lacoach@comcast.net https://anchor.fm/kevin-bolger4
Start something!! You see a need and you fill it!! Don't let that "voice" "gremlin" talk you out of it? It is never to late to start or pick it back up?
Lets turn Post Traumatic Stress Disorder into Purpose Trust Success Discover. https://lizapavlakos.com/
Gino Gerussi made a decision to change his attitude and everything changed. https://www.ginogerussi.com/ Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvKVjPmVkTE News Story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJG1xvGRg2I
Brene Brown talks about how we miss opportunities when it comes to empathy. There are 6 classic misses.
I heard this on Brene Browns podcast, "Would you rather be a knower and be right or a learner and get it right?"
Great words from Harry Connick Jr. "Faith and Covid". You have to have something to edit.
Have you ever had a "blue day"? Not Seahawks or Mariner kind of blue, but one that makes Dr. Caroline Leafs formula very valuable.
Make an effort to compliment people and let them know you think good things about them.
Sometimes you feel like you are in the same place you were years ago! But the truth is healing is circular, so it looks like the same thing you already dealt with, but you are actually much farther along then you were back then. But it's different this time.
Has someone asked you for help and you were able to help out and you felt so GREAT? Remember that feeling when you ask for help, you are providing an opportunity to help someone feel GREAT.
What? How hard is it to listen? Seriously, hard things are tough to hear but maybe we can "fake" listen. Just be there and let them talk until we finally understand what is going on?
Your stories are important and they matter. If you are not interested in making a podcast, then record your stories. One at a time and save them on google drive. Then your kids and grandkids can always find a recording of your stories, because.... .they matter.
Not everybody can be famous but everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Mirroring is a technique to help people see that you are interested and it also helps others to trust you.
I don't believe in resolutions!! Let's look back on 2020 and pat ourselves on the back for how well we survived a pandemic.
The importance of gathering. And good questions, What can you do? What is the need? And what can I do?
Are we shoulding people? Some times our well intended shoulds might stop people from living their dreams.
It is easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than thinking your way into a new way of acting. Jerry Sternin: The Power of Positive Deviance.
Seth Godin says stress is the battle between two things we want to do at the same time that are incompatible.
It actually does!!! If you are looking over a fence from above, it does look greener!!!
Did not see that coming!!! What to do when you are caught off guard? http://www.didnotseethatcoming.com/
Is my life a reflection of who I want to be or a reaction to those I don't want to upset?
I hate being misunderstood! I hate when being misunderstood and the mis-understand- er jumps to conclusions!! Let's not be like that!!!
"Did Not See That Coming: Hope for the single Parent" Choose your battles. Let go of things that aren't important. Coaching Certification, Book Publishing, Podcasting. http://www.didnotseethatcoming.com/
Hey Ladies, You know what I am talking about!! We read the room. Who needs what? Is everyone comfortable?
A.J. shares how he has walked through a pandemic and getting laid off. Coaching Certification/Publishing/Hit Podcast Call for more info
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Sometimes what is making you mad is something that actually made your life better? Legacy Coaching Call https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20169923
Sometimes we need a reminder to "Just do it already." Whatever you are procrastinating on "Just do it already."
Turning 67 doesn't mean life is over, it doesn't mean you can't reinvent yourself! It just means you are 67!!
Johnny Ray with 5R Recovery is going to a family reunion and wants to know how to have a meaningful conversation with opinionated releatives?
We have messages we learned when we were little and they are still controlling us because they are a "mindset." Good news. We can change our mindsets.
Sometimes we only look at what we are qualified for what we can do rather than what we love and want to do.
Can we start a movement that will get the mean peoples attention to help them stop being mean? Well I tried.
I am making a commitment to only post kind things for one week. Even if a post ticks me off. I will hide it, scroll past or fry my brain trying to think of something kind or curious to say. Are you in?
So what if you are not qualified? Less qualified peps are doing more just because they believe in themselves.
You are enough, wait you are not enough! Stop learning and do it. Don't stop learning. Let's sort this out together.
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” “I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.” “The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age". Lucille Ball And a DARE!!!!
There are so many things to be grateful for. We don't have to pretend we are grateful for things that we aren't, find things that you are grateful for. See if it makes a different doing it 2 X a day for a week!!
Words matter, change should to will, need to want and sorry to I apologize. See what happens
It's time to do what you love, reach out, take a risk. Maybe you have tried before, it's never too late to try again.
How about like what the Governor of California says, physical distancing. Let's not social distance, just physical.
Coach Carol's favorite quote, "Say what you mean and mean what you say." How hard is this?
Are you going stir crazy? Want to connect with others going through this? Friday Mornings I will be hosting a Coaching Call. We will just check in and share ideas and talk about how we are coping. If you are interested email me at lacoach@comcast.net and I will send you the number and the pin. Looking forward to meeting you. It's all free! Quarantine Relif.
We would never talk to others the way we talk to ourselves when we are self criticizing. So let's change it, even if just a little for now. Baby Steps.
Keep looking, keep listening to the negative self talk so you can change it. No one benifits from your negative self talk. 63 day Challenge https://www.facebook.com/groups/2446313528831112/
"If your security blanket is smothering you, it's time to let go." Coach Elizabeth Lambert
What did you decide when you were a kid? How has it affected your life? Sometimes you can come from the best family but still make a decision that you don't matter or you aren't important. Until you veiw that decision with the eyes of your adult self it may be the reason you aren't moving forward.
Pay attention to who you envy. What is it that you are hoping for? It is different than jealousy, jealousy says I don't want you to have that. Envy says "I want that too."
Pay attention to what you are lying about. What is that about? Do you not tell the truth about weight? Eating? Drinking? Free time?
If things seem to be getting worse rather than better, take heart! That usally happens things get worse just before they get better.
Episode 36 Enough about Comparison, comparing ourselves to others is death to who we are.
Think, Feel, Choose: Our brain does this many times per minute so when we become mindful of what it is doing we take back control and this helps us "ACT" vs "RE-ACT."
Episode 34 Enough About A Promise It is easy to make meaningless promises over the holidays, we may forget them but the kids don't! No promise No problem.
We are always waiting for the other shoe to drop! But what if we live like it won’t fall?
I love working with addicts, because when they are doing well, they say "that's on me."
Be curious when you are talking with people, ask them to tell you more so you get the full story.
We easily throw out platitudes and sayings that are truly hurtful more that helpful. They may make us feel better but usually the person who is suffering is hurt even more by our carelessness.
Sometimes we are looking for our purpose when it is right in front of our face. It could be a just for now thing, taking you to the next purpose.
It’s so much harder to stay in a positive place than a negative place. It takes intentional living.
A good way to keep yourself in a positive state of mind is to start a gratitude journal.
With all the youtube sensations and facebook posts we often think we “should” be EXTRA ordinary, but ordinary is good. In fact ordinary is more like reality.
Just because we think something about ourselves, doesn’t mean that is what others think.
Just because we think something about ourselves, doesn’t mean that is what others think.
There are three types of questions, yes or no, either or, or open ended. What is an open-ended question and why do we want to use them?
I think “Should” is a nasty word. Whether we should on ourselves or on others it sets us up for failure. Anybody “shoulding” on you?
We all want to have an impact, leave a legacy maybe even start a movement. What does it take?
We all have behaviors or beliefs that come from a story in our head. How do we change that story and move forward?