The Widowed Mom Podcast: Recent Episodes
Krista St-Germain
The Widowed Mom Podcast offers practical and empowering strategies for widowed moms who believe in the possibility of loving life again but sometimes worry their best days are behind them. If you want more than traditional therapy and grief groups can offer, if you’re stuck in an emotional pattern and feel like you can’t get free, if you want help navigating the unique challenges of being a widowed mom with support that is uplifting and honest, this is the podcast for you. In each episode, Certified Life Coach, widow and mom, Krista St-Germain, will teach you small, manageable steps and techniques to help uncover what’s holding you back and show you how to create a future you can actually look forward to. You may not believe it yet but you CAN move through your grief and live a life you love. If you want to learn more, head over to coachingwithkrista.com.
Are you dreading the holidays as a widow? Do certain sights, smells, or sounds trigger painful memories and emotions during this festive season?
The holidays can be an incredibly challenging time when you're grieving the loss of a loved one, but being prepared and having a plan can make the experience more manageable. I explore practical strategies for handling holiday triggers with more ease and grace, and share tips for creating your personalized holiday resilience plan.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/285
Do you ever feel pressured to find a romantic partner in order to be truly happy? What if being single was actually an opportunity to build a rich, fulfilling life on your own terms? I talk with Meghan Keane, founder of NPR's Life Kit podcast, about her new book Party of One: Be Your Own Best Life Partner.
Meghan shares her personal journey of losing her father at a young age and supporting her widowed mother, how societal expectations around marriage and partnership have evolved over time, and why it's important to prioritize all types of love and connection in our lives.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/284
Are you holding on to your late partner’s belongings, unsure of when or how to let them go? It’s a tricky balance isn’t it - the desire to keep their memory close while also wanting to move forward, or maybe you simply aren’t ready to begin thinking about the future yet.
Explore why releasing your partner's belongings after a loss can be so difficult. Hear a helpful reframe for this struggle that can guide you in determining whether you're honoring your loved one or simply holding on, along with a reminder that there is no right or wrong timeline for this process.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/283
From the Industrial Revolution to the modern-day superwoman ideal, women in grief especially have internalized the belief that our worth is tied to our output, but at what cost?
Learn how the pressure to be productive can be harmful during grief. You'll also explore questions to help you examine your current relationship with productivity, allowing you to redefine success and give yourself permission to rest and feel.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/282
Have you ever felt that deep ache or yearning after losing your person? While it’s a normal part of the grieving process, our minds often make the presence of this ache mean something negative about ourselves or our grief.
Hear why you feel this ache in the first place, why it’s not a problem to solve, and how to rethink the ache so you can begin moving towards the experience you want to have.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/281
Jenny Douglas is an amazing widow who has been through the trenches of grief and come out the other side. We discuss how Jenny rebuilt her life and rediscovered joy, even in the midst of sadness, and why investing in yourself is one of the best things you can do for your well-being.
Jenny shares her powerful story of love, loss, and finding herself again after her husband John passed away.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/280
Have you ever considered that widowhood could be a doorway to a more intentional life? It's not about loving that our person died, but about using this experience as an opportunity for growth and change, only if you want it.
Hear how the loss of your person can bring up both new and long-standing struggles, and how widowhood can serve as an invitation to rewire our brains and change patterns that no longer serve us.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/279
When empty nesting meets widowhood, you can expect to experience complex emotions. This unique combination of life transitions can feel like a double whammy, leaving you disoriented, lonely, and unsure of your identity.
Explore six key challenges that arise when empty nesting and widowhood collide, and learn what you can do about the compounded sense of loneliness and the struggle of rebuilding routines during this identity shift.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/278
Those automatic, habitual first thoughts you have in grief might not be particularly kind or useful, but the good news is that with awareness, you can choose subsequent thoughts that move you closer to the life you want.
Learn how to be on the lookout for unhelpful first thoughts, and to explore examples of choosing second or even third thoughts that will allow you to see different possibilities.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/277
18 months ago, Helen Tanner was widowed after her husband Philip died unexpectedly following a short illness. In this episode, Helen shares her raw experience of becoming a widow at 43 years old, and how she’s navigating her grief as a doctor and mother of two.
Hear how Helen’s medical training left her ill-equipped to handle her grief, how she has helped her young boys process their anger and sadness in healthy ways, and the unexpected gifts that have emerged since her husband passed.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/276
One of the most essential ingredients to loving life again, yet one of the least talked about, is your belief in your inherent worthiness. Even if it’s unconscious, if you don’t believe you’re worthy of loving life again, you will keep repelling it.
Learn how your long-held limiting beliefs may be blocking your path forward and how to cultivate a deep knowing that your worth is fully intact.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/275
Hugo’s death happened in such a way that, within a matter of hours, the rug had been ripped right out from underneath me, and he was gone. While you might not have the same story, I know that sense of powerlessness is a shared experience, no matter how your person died.
Learn why the desire for control and power is normal, examples of how this might be manifesting in your life, and how to make peace with the feeling of powerlessness.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/274
Losing a loved one leaves us feeling like we’re at the effect of circumstances in life we didn’t and would never ask for. While we can’t change the significant loss we experience in grief, we can intentionally choose our internal experience of how we respond to life.
Learn why choosing helpful thoughts in grief matters, how the intentional thoughts you choose can shape your grief experience, and a list of helpful thoughts I encourage you to borrow.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/273
How do you allow yourself space to grieve without fighting your feelings? This is something my Mom Goes On client, Berit Van Neste, had to learn when she lost her husband, Roy, to dementia and began slowly putting the pieces of her life back together.
Berit shares her journey through love, loss, and finding herself again, and the surprising lessons she’s learned about navigating grief.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/272
I get mad when people suggest false binaries in the dating experience of widows, especially when they haven’t been through this experience themselves. Wouldn’t it be nice if dating again as a widow was cut and dry, and not complicated, messy, or an emotional rollercoaster?
I give you permission to embrace the 'and' in dating and offer 20 examples of how the 'and' in dating again as a widow helps you make space for the human experience you're having.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/271
Every single day, I work with widows who are creating post-traumatic growth and don’t even realize it because the changes they’re undergoing don’t feel big enough.
It’s time to expand what we consider post-traumatic growth. Learn what post-traumatic growth in the small things could look like for you and how you might already be showing up with courage and bravery in the little things.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/270
I have coached widows who are struggling with their in-laws countless times. It’s an experience that’s extremely common, and while these situations are far from pleasant, there are also many opportunities here for you to cultivate more freedom, self-trust, and self-validation.
I give you 10 strategies that will help you maintain perspective as you navigate what might be a challenging relationship with your in-laws.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/269
My client, KC Morris, has accomplished a lot since her husband’s passing, but she felt there was more to life than just keeping her household together, staying on top of her career, and being a mom.
KC decided to take a leap of faith and push herself towards the full, rich, vibrant life that she knew was available to her, and she’s here today to share her experience of navigating early grief and wearing all the hats as a widowed mom.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/268
I love the possibilities that post-traumatic growth gives us in grief, but while growth is always available to us, it is far from a “should.”
Whether you’re explicitly telling yourself that you should be growing from your grief, or your “should” is showing up in disguise, join me this week as I show you why you shouldn’t grow from grief unless you want to, and alternative ways to start seeing your grief experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/267
Grief is intense and complicated and completely unique to each and every person, so if you’re seeking reassurance that your experience is normal, you’re not alone… but it’s also not serving you.
Tune in this week to learn why we want to know if what we’re facing in grief is normal, how this question is unhelpful, and what you can ask instead.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/266
When you’ve experienced so much sadness, it’s common to feel worn down by it. But sadness doesn’t exist to hold you back. It’s there to remind you that you’ve lost something you care about deeply. So, can we smile at our sadness, welcome it in a little more, and witness it?
In this episode, I'll show you the gifts sadness brings when we stop shoving it down by exploring themes of sadness from Disney's Inside Out movie.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/265
What do you do when you want to love life again after loss, but your happiness and joy left with your person? After the death of her husband Rob, my client Christy O’Neil knew she wanted to actively create an extraordinary life.
She knew coaching would help her make life beautiful again, but she didn’t realize just how much, and she’s here to share her insights with you on this episode.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/264
Among her many significant achievements, Elise Loehnen is the author of the NewYork Times bestseller, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, and she’s here today to help us make sense of our experience as women, especially in grief.
Elise gives us a masterclass on how we are socialized as women, the cataclysmic price we pay to be perceived as “good,” and how we can find a more honest way to express ourselves in the world.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/263
Taylor Swift is someone I have a lot of admiration and respect for. She’s a phenomenal artist and businesswoman with a list of accomplishments longer than most, but she missed the mark a few weeks ago and we have to talk about it.
Hear my thoughts on Taylor’s decision to categorize her songs using the five stages of grief, and why perpetuating a one-size-fits-all approach might be the antithesis of helpful.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/262
There are so many false binaries in grief that make the experience more painful than it already is. From forced gratitude to sweeping your sadness under the rug, none of it would be necessary if you started using the word ‘and’ more in your everyday life.
Learn why I believe ‘and’ is one of the most magical words we can use in grief, how ‘and’ makes room for everything you feel, and how you can begin embracing the power of ‘and.’
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/261
My Mom Goes On client Stephanie Hester-Rodriguez lost her husband in October 2021 after he contracted COVID. She went from living her happiest, best days to being thrown into the depths of grief.
Hear how her husband’s death ripped up the foundation of her life, shook her faith, and her process of rebuilding a life she loves.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/260
Early acute grief often brings with it a sense of chaos and so many questions about what’s normal or what to expect. This time tends to feel like a roller-coaster for new widows because what they’re really looking for is reassurance, and I believe having accurate information and tools makes it easier.
I’m sharing my answers to five of the most common new widow questions, and introducing you to Grief Essentials: my new pilot program for those of you navigating early grief.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/259
How are you doing? This is one of the most common questions widows are asked, and if you dread it, you’re most definitely not alone.
Hear why widows loathe being asked how we’re doing, and some different options for answering this question the next time you’re asked.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/258
Do you believe that there’s some sort of false binary where you’re either grieving or done with grief? This is just one of the myths so many people have bought into about grief, but we know that grief never ends.
Learn why you never have to worry about being done with grief, and how it’s possible to love your life and create post-traumatic growth, even if you grieve your loss forever.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/257
My client, Wendy Alcanter, is a mother of three who lost her husband to suicide three years ago. She joined Mom Goes On as a busy mom and ER doctor, discovered the tools that helped her create a life she truly loves, and she’s here to tell us about her grief journey.
Wendy shares her experience of early grief, how the tools she learned in Mom Goes On have supported her, and what her life is like now.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/256
Most people are walking around wondering if they’ve reached acceptance in grief, as though it’s a place. This feeds right into the narrative that grief ends. But we know that it doesn’t.
Learn why acceptance is not a place but rather a choice we make over and over, and how you can begin thinking about acceptance as a constant opportunity.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/255
Do you worry that if you no longer felt pain about your person’s loss you’d lose your connection to them?
Join me this week to hear why your pain has nothing to do with your connection to your person, the difference between thoughts that create pain and thoughts that create connection, and what happens when you confuse pain with connection.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/254
What is your relationship with pleasure? My guess is that you don’t truly believe your pleasure is a priority, but grief is a phenomenal opportunity for you to reassess where and how you can have a better quality of life.
Hear how most of us don’t prioritize pleasure, why pleasure is especially important in grief, and what you can do to create more pleasure and joy in your life.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/253
When do widows need a life coach? I’ll be honest, I struggle to answer this question, not only because I don’t know what you need, but also because I’m not in the business of telling people they need a coach.
Hear why asking this question is entirely unhelpful, and ask yourself questions instead about what you want next in life.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/252
There’s nothing like spousal or partner loss to make us reassess our priorities and get back in touch with what we truly want. But what do you do when you decide you no longer want to pursue something, and you’ve got that voice in your head saying, “Don’t be a quitter, you should or have to do this?”
Hear why you might be struggling to give up on something you no longer want, and discover four questions that will give you a renewed sense of clarity around your decision.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/251
So much of what we’re experiencing - from the roller-coaster of emotions and what we believe is or isn’t possible for us - feels so true, doesn’t it? However, just because it’s there as the content of your experience doesn’t mean it’s what you’re limited to.
That’s because you are the context, not the content, and this week, I’m sharing a new perspective on widowhood that might break your brain in the best way possible.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/250
The common widowhood experience often ranges from a lack of enthusiasm about life and going through the motions to apathy and waiting for the afterlife. What I haven’t observed very often in my world is what I see as the potential for an uncommon widowhood experience, and I’m walking you through it today.
If you want to start viewing grief as an opportunity to deeply connect with what you want and value, join me as I unlock the possibilities for your uncommon widowhood experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/249
I don’t know that we’ll ever reach the bottom of the list when it comes to myths about grief, but I have six more to share with you today.
Grief is a subjective experience that is unique to each of us, and it’s impossible to do it wrong. Hear six universal myths about grief that simply aren’t helpful and how to be the authority on your own grief experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/248
There are many ideas out there about what grief should look like and how we should handle it. Most of these ideas are myths, and believing them doesn’t help you on your grief journey at all.
I share six of these myths, explain why they aren’t true, and share insights on more helpful ways to look at your grieving experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/247
Over the last hundred years, there have been several different grief theories developed by experts to help people understand the bereavement experience. Some of them are strongly criticized and don’t speak to most widows’ experiences.
I’m detailing the main grief theories in recent history, the criticisms of them, and how having an understanding of them benefits you on your own grief journey.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/246
In a world where Valentine’s Day is shoved down our throats, let’s approach it consciously together this year. We get to be the boss of our experiences, so how are you going to take back Valentine’s Day for yourself?
Join me on this episode as I dig into the narratives we’ve been sold about Valentine’s Day and share my love letter to you as my way of acknowledging this day.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/245
Have you stopped taking action on something you said you wanted because you’re experiencing a lack of motivation? What if I told you there is no motivation required to create what you want?
Learn what happens when we believe we need motivation, why we don’t have to solve for a lack of motivation, and what becomes possible when you decide motivation isn’t required.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/244
No goal makes us more worthy as humans, but it is incredibly fun to let ourselves go after the thing we want most.
Learn the best way to create what you want as a widow, and how to truly believe that everything you want is possible and available to you.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/243
If self-care feels terrible, it’s probably a sign that you’re doing it right. Self-care is not a luxury, indulgent, all about spas and vacations, or a sign that you’re not grieving “right.”
Hear how self-care feeling terrible is a green light to keep going, not a sign that you should stop, and three strategies for improving your sense of self-care.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/242
Your life has taken an unexpected turn you didn’t ask for. You mastered game 1, and you’re now in uncharted territory in game 2, but you can definitely win at this game too.
I share the top seven ways we hold ourselves back from winning at game 2 so you can set yourself up for this next chapter of your life.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/241
Losing your person is a big deal, and it’s challenging to grapple with this new life you didn’t choose. How can we appreciate this seismic shift that’s happened in our lives, and is it even possible?
Learn what the metaphor of game 1 versus game 2 means, and why it’s a useful way to think about this next chapter of life you’re currently in.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/240
What would it be like if you never believed the “should” thoughts in your brain? What if, every time one appeared, you simply replied with, “No thank you”?
I’m no longer interested in entertaining “should” thoughts, and I believe we can intentionally choose what we want without them. Learn how to embark on a should-free year in 2024.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/239
Whether you have lost your spouse suddenly or lived in anticipatory grief for a long time, like my client Darlene Barnett Carter, there is no easy way to cope with the loss of someone you love. Darlene was desperate for support after her husband’s death, but she had some reservations about how coaching might affect her faith and the true benefits of group coaching.
Hear Darlene’s journey through widowhood, the revelations she experienced inside Mom Goes On, and how her life has shifted since.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/238
Most people have heard of the five stages of grief, but we need to stop talking about it. The idea of the five stages of grief was first suggested in 1969, but grief theory has come a long way since then.
Discover why the five stages of grief are not reflective of your experience as a widowed mom and why it’s okay that we never reach “acceptance” in grief.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/237
Widows are constantly being told that we’re supposed to be grateful and that we should count our blessings. We’re being sold the idea that gratitude is the “fix,” and I don’t buy it.
Hear why the gratitude trap is problematic, how it might be doing you more harm than good, and the difference between true gratitude and forced gratitude.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/236
Are you either a widowed mom wondering where the heck her self-confidence went or a coach (or aspiring coach) who’d like to feel confident coaching grief? If so, this week’s bonus episode is a quick must-listen. Tune in and learn about two time sensitive offerings you’ll probably want to be on the list for!
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You probably understand this intellectually, but there is no right or wrong Holiday experience. That includes your family’s traditions, what other people expect of you, and even how you think your spouse might have wanted you to spend the Holidays.
If any of it doesn’t feel aligned with you, this episode is your invitation to rewrite the rules of your Holiday experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/235
The loss of Paula’s husband left her deep widow fog, feeling like nothing was grounding her, only wishing she could be where he was. She was terrified of surrendering to her emotions in fear of falling into a downward spiral with no way out, but she found the support she needed.
Hear Paula’s experience of widow fog, the realizations she had about life after losing her husband, and the whirlwind adventure she went on with her children.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/234
When was the last time you worried about crying? On one hand, I get it. None of us wants to cry, especially in public. But on the other, I want us to stop using our tears against ourselves in ways that don’t help our grief.
Discover why we feel the need to apologize for our tears, how it doesn’t hurt anyone else but us, and how to be unapologetic about your tears.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/233
Have you ever caught yourself feeling happy and then immediately started to worry about it? What does it mean? Is it safe to feel good? Are you doing something wrong in grief?
Hear what’s going on, why it makes sense that happiness sometimes feels scary for widows, and what you can do about it.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/232
Dr. Lucy Kalanithi is a physician, storyteller, and widow of Paul Kalanithi, the author of the New York Times Bestseller, When Breath Becomes Air. She’s dedicated to helping others choose end-of-life experiences that best align with their values, but, more than anything, she’s a widowed mom.
Hear Dr. Lucy’s experience of losing her husband Paul, her insights on the surprising manifestations of grief, and what it means to live a life that includes pain and suffering.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/231
Does it feel like every other widow’s relationship was all roses… and yours wasn’t? The truth is there are all shapes and sizes of widowhood experiences.
I debunk the myth of perfect relationships, and show you how to start letting go of the emotional weight that is feeling like a widowhood outcast.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/230
When I let go of the story that I wasn’t supposed to be a widow, it helped me create the space to choose what I wanted to make of it. Listen in to hear why the same is possible for you.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/229
The fear of forgetting our person is one of the deepest natural fears we face in grief and as widows.
Hear why the fear of forgetting them isn’t a problem and my favorite strategies for preserving the memories you want to keep.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/228
Anna Sale is an interviewer and the host of the award-winning podcast, Death, Sex & Money, where she has mastered the art of listening and offering space for being listened to when we go through hard things.
She offers what she has learned from all the interviews she has conducted on tough topics that are hard to talk about, and how we can make these conversations easier.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/227
Creating more time is technically impossible, but we can use it in more intentional ways that add value to our lives.
You want to treat your minutes, hours, and days in ways that matter to you, so join me today to learn 5 ways you can create more time for yourself.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/226
Grief is individual, unique, and impossible to mess up or get wrong. Contrary to what we've been taught, it also doesn't come to an end. That’s why I love the dual process model.
Hear what the dual process model entails and how it provides a framework for avoiding grief on purpose.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/225
I love watching the clients who come into Mom Goes On not knowing what to expect. Alexis Cuthbert is one of those people.
Hear Alexis’s journey of navigating grief and widowhood, and the revelations that have transformed her life since being a part of Mom Goes On.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/224
“I don’t know” is a phrase I’ve taught many widows to avoid using in their lives.
Learn whether your “I don’t know” story is serving you or holding you back, and hear why it’s sometimes useful not to know, and how to make peace with not knowing.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/223
Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams are the founders of "What’s Your Grief" and professionals working in the field of grief and bereavement, supporting people through the sudden and unexpected death of a loved one.
After their own losses, their guiding principle has been to identify what is lacking in grief support and to fill those gaps. They are here this week to share nuggets of wisdom to assist you on your grief journey.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/222
One piece of advice that is often offered to widows is, “Don’t make big decisions in the first year.”
While I recognize that making decisions in grief is a nuanced issue, I’m not a fan of the notion that we can’t trust ourselves to do big things in grief. I address how to make decisions in the first year, or when big decisions have deadlines.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/221
As widows, we don’t want other widows to struggle in the way we have. I asked my community for any advice they have for other widows, and I received hundreds of responses.
If you’re feeling alone in widowhood, join me this week to hear how applicable these pieces of advice are to just about any experience of grief.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/220
Widowhood is undoubtedly a tragedy that can make us feel like our lives are over.
My Mom Goes On client Erica Lee felt totally unprepared for her husband’s passing. Her life shifted, and she’s here this week to tell us all about her journey of navigating widowhood without a template.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/219
You know that phrase, "Time heals all wounds," right?
While it's a phrase that has become commonplace, it's not that simple, and it has some unintended negative consequences. Tune in to find out what they are, and the real role of time in grief.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/218
If we polled all the widows in the world, most of us would agree that we’ve experienced regressing in grief. While it’s easy to believe you’re stuck or no longer doing as great as you once were, this thought is not helpful.
Hear why we get to this place in grief, how the notion of regressing in grief is a lie, and a better way to approach yourself when you feel this way.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/217
It is 100% unequivocally devastating to lose a loved one. That’s your primary loss in grief. However, you might have also noticed knock-on effects of things you would not have otherwise lost in addition to your loved one. These are called secondary losses.
Join me this week to understand why we need to normalize secondary losses in grief and learn three things you can do to support yourself when you notice one emerging for you.
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When so many things are changing in your life, trying to gain clarity about what you want can be extremely challenging.
Cindy Arcuri is a career and executive life coach who went through Mom Goes On. She went from being stuck to finding a sense of clarity about what she wants for the next chapter of her life, and she's here this week to shed light on what your future can hold.
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Are you good? Or are you stopping at good enough, rather than dreaming big and chasing the next chapter of life that you really want?
I invite you to consider what it would feel like to allow yourself to experience greatness, and explore my process for transitioning from good to great.
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My guest this week is Corinne Crabtree, a brilliant example of not only someone who is an expert at teaching weight loss but also a woman who has developed mastery in figuring out how to create everything she wants one step at a time.
Hear Corinne's journey of creating an eight-figure coaching business and how you, too, can begin making your dreams a reality.
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Getting everything that’s swirling around in your mind out on paper can be incredibly helpful. However, it can also be extremely problematic, specifically for widowed moms who are past acute grief.
If journaling is cementing stories in your brain that don’t feel good to you, it’s time for a different approach, and I’m teaching you the alternatives on this episode.
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Many widowed moms believe there’s an inherent right or wrong way to navigate challenging days like Father’s Day.
Hear my top three do’s and don’ts for navigating Father’s Day, and why it’s a beautiful opportunity for you to let what feels right grow and change year by year.
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Vulnerability is a term that’s thrown around a lot these days, but actually being willing to be vulnerable, authentic, and to ask for what you need especially in the midst of grief, is something to be commended.
Hear the realization Dani Nyman had that she needed support in widowhood, how she’s given herself permission to ask for help and be vulnerable, and what’s changed in how she takes care of herself now.
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Have you ever imagined alternative scenarios that could have prevented your person from dying? Going down the path in your mind of the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve things that have happened in the past is not logical, and yet, it’s extremely common in grief.
Hear what counterfactual thinking in grief looks like, why it’s a normal experience, and what you can do when you notice it happening for you.
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Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified coach and a powerhouse feminist confidence coach, and we recently had a conversation on grief, patriarchy, and post-traumatic growth over on her podcast.
Hear my insights on the various theories of grief and what I find most helpful, our socialization and the role of the patriarchy in shaping our experience of grief, as well as how post-traumatic growth plays a part in the grieving process.
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A few years ago, I would never have been able to give myself the opportunity to receive good things. Maybe like me, you have lots of “shoulds” and rules about investing in your own pleasure.
Hear why it’s essential for us to learn to receive while grieving, the reasons you might find this challenging, and strategies you can try to increase your ability to receive in grief.
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I have a unique vantage point as a coach. I get to see the entire transformation of my clients, and former Mom Goes On member Cindy’s was stark.
I watched Cindy go from the depths of despair to finding hope for her future. She’s sharing what her grief journey looks like, and how she challenged the tools inside Mom Goes On to get what she needed from the program.
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We have so many Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) in grief, and we can spiral downward in them very quickly. Whether it’s that you won’t ever be happy again, no one understands you, or you’re just not doing it right, we often don’t even see them as thoughts. We just believe them.
Hear why your grief ANTs matter, and how to begin acknowledging them for what they are.
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How often do you find yourself inclined to please other people? Valuing other people’s validation more than you trust your own inner wisdom is a miserable place to be.
To offer her wisdom on this topic and a process to stop people pleasing, I’m speaking to Master Certified coach and expert on people pleasing, Sara Bybee Fisk.
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So often, widows attribute anything good that they once felt to their person. Whether it’s your happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, joy, or confidence, I get it because I did it too.
I offer in the most loving way possible, that it wasn’t them. It was always you.
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As widowed moms at different stages of grief and widowhood, we never have enough stories that show us we aren’t alone in our experience. I’m so grateful for people like my Mom Goes On client, Jess Peurakoski, who is willing to invest in herself and do hard, uncomfortable, and scary things.
Hear Jess’s widowhood journey, her experience of being in our community, and what her life looks like now as she continues to navigate her grief.
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Are there any secrets you’ve found out or uncovered after your person passed? You have unanswered questions, and perhaps you feel betrayed or lied to.
I assure you that you are not alone in this experience, and you have the choices available to you to feel empowered regardless of what you’ve found out.
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In the four years that I’ve created episodes every single week and coached the women I have in this time, I’ve learned a whole lot.
Hear the top 10 things I’ve learned in 200 episodes, and why these are great reminders to keep in mind no matter what you’re pursuing right now.
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Have you ever felt like you want to make progress or solve something in your life but it feels impossible?
The great news is, feeling stuck isn’t as difficult of a fix as it seems right now. Discover why you feel stuck and what you can do to get yourself unstuck.
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It’s easy to hear how difficult and challenging it is to be a widow. It’s far less common that we get to hear stories of widows who have been through it and have come out the other side thriving.
My Mom Goes On client Cheri Metzler is one of those people, and she’s here to share her journey through widowhood and everything that’s on the horizon for her.
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Grief is not a disorder, we were built to grieve. However, if at a certain point, it is persistently interfering with the quality of your life, you might be experiencing prolonged grief disorder.
Hear what prolonged grief disorder entails so you can understand if this describes your experience and identify the support you need.
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Our brains only let data into our awareness that aligns with our thinking. If you think you’re incapable, if you’re looking for how someone in your life always screws something up, if you don't think of your kids in the highest regard, guess what you’ll find?
Expecting to see evidence that proves otherwise is like putting an orange in a juicer and anticipating something other than orange juice to come out. So, where are you limiting your experience of yourself and other people based on your thoughts? This is what we’re exploring today.
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If you’re in the habit of answering your urges, not doing so feels incredibly uncomfortable. The good news is you don’t need your urges to disappear for you to start pulling away from them, and this week, you’ll hear why, and what to do so your urges stop being a problem.
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Whether you’re excited about sex, or you’ve never had a great experience or made pleasure a priority for you, this is an opportunity to get to know yourself in a way you potentially never have before. Board-certified pediatric radiologist, trained sexual counselor, and Master Certified life coach, Dr. Sonia Wright is here to share her expert perspective on common concerns and questions we all have, so you can remove the shame from your experience and embrace your sexuality.
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Whether it’s a raise, getting better at saying no, starting a side hustle, or to date again, your goals matter. Hear how to keep your goals and dreams alive by deciding, instead of letting them die because you’re just trying.
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If you are experiencing reminders that take you back to your person’s passing, be it a CPR scene, an accident, the hospital, or anything else, tune in to hear how to be your own advocate and how to seek help without re-traumatizing yourself.
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Listen in this week as time management expert for women Megan Sumrell shows you how to find true peace and purpose, break out of overwhelm by building a system that helps you manage the mental madness of everything you’re juggling on a daily basis, and get in the driver’s seat of your calendar.
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What is it that you think is causing pressure in your life right now? Maybe you feel pressured to move to a different house or city, to date again, or go back to work. The great news is that no one and nothing outside of you can cause you to feel pressure. So, if you’re ready to start seeing yourself as the powerful creator of pressure when you feel it, listen in to hear why it’s not a problem, and how to start intentionally deciding your emotional experience of any given situation.
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When it comes to making big decisions, most of us are used to having our person to talk them through with and bounce ideas off of. So, if you’re now struggling with decision-making and experiencing fear, worry, or stress around big or small decisions, know that you are not alone and you don’t have to stay stuck in indecision drama. You can learn how to start making faster decisions with less anxiety, and I’m showing you how today.
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2023 is here, and it continues to fascinate me how scary it can sometimes feel to enter a blank slate where we’re creating from scratch and thinking about what we want in the next chapter of life. Our brains will offer us unconscious, unintentional fear-producing thoughts about the blank slate that is in front of us, but you don’t have to listen. Uncertainty will always be a part of our lives, so we have to learn to relate to it in ways that serve us, and you’re going to hear how on this episode.
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The emotional stagnation zone is where many of us find ourselves as widows. The very last thing we want to do in grief is handle or bring on more intense emotions. So, it’s no surprise then that while life doesn’t feel terrible, it doesn’t feel exciting either. How we end up here makes sense, but we don’t have to stay in this place. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start thriving, listen in to find out why we get stuck in the emotional stagnation zone and how to get out.
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Mom Goes On graduate Annette Warmoth is on the show today, and she is a stellar example of continuing to navigate challenges in life using the tools she learned. She’s had a lot happen since she graduated the program, and she’s here to share her story. Listen in as Annette shares her grief journey with us, and how she continues to use the coaching tools she learned from Mom Goes On and from her Life Coach School certification to support herself and others through life’s trials.
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Parenting expert, Master Certified Coach, and my dear friend Pam Howard is back on the show this week. Pam specializes in helping moms who are successful in many areas of their lives, but don’t feel successful as a mom. Most of us can relate to the parenting drama of getting reactive or feeling out of control, and Pam is here to share her expertise with us so you can handle anything that comes your way. Join us as Pam shares the parenting struggles she’s personally found most challenging to work through, and how to start seeing and believing that you are a damn good mama.
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When we first lose our person, most of us have an early acute grief experience that might look like struggling in our day-to-day. However, you might not be in that place after some time. You might be back to functioning, and everyone thinks you’re going great. You’re not in a pit of despair and life doesn’t feel terrible, but it also doesn’t feel amazing. If you like the idea of loving life again, but it feels so far away, tune in. You’ll hear what a grief plateau is and how it might be holding you back from what you’re truly capable of.
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A lot of you are walking around with dream stealers and you don’t even know it. Dream stealers affect all of us, whether you’re currently in acute grief or you’re further down the path of your grief journey. But if you’re ready to stop just surviving and instead live the life you want, you have to let your dream stealers go. Tune in this week to find out what dream stealers are, how to identify yours, and how to start seeing that they’re not necessary for where you want to go.
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There is a tipping point in grief that some widows reach quickly, while other widows never reach it. Most widows feel sad, lonely, or disheartened when they think about their life without their person. Those who reach the tipping point just aren’t okay with staying there. The life you want is worth fighting for. Don’t give up on that. This week, hear why crossing the tipping point matters.
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I received so many questions after our Happier Holidays for Widowed Moms online event last week, and I’m addressing some of the most commonly asked questions here this week. Your holiday season can be joyful, fun, and full of holiday spirit, even without your person. So listen in to hear what other widowed moms just like you are worried or anxious about for the holidays, and what you can do to make this time of year the experience you truly want.
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So many widows, including myself, struggle with money drama. Whether it’s because you have less money than you’ve ever had and are struggling to make ends meet, or because you have more money now and hate how you came into it, we need to talk about it. Master Certified life and business coach Molly Claire is here to share from her deep well of wisdom around money drama and how to free yourself from it. Find out what might be exacerbating your fear around money, and how to obliterate the fear.
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If you find yourself not trusting your own authority or constantly judging your emotional experience, the good news is it’s just science. The remedy? Getting out of your head and into your body’s wisdom. Functional medicine Nurse Practitioner and Master Certified life coach Victoria Albina is on the show this week to dive into the nervous system science behind your automatic reactions, and her favorite ways for coming back to and tuning into your body.
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Pam Baker came to coaching worried she no longer had a purpose in life, only to create meaning from her loss by starting a non-profit. We can all give ourselves the gift of going after a vision. You don’t have to be a special snowflake, or even do it the way Pam did. You just have to be committed to figuring it out, and I hope you feel encouraged and inspired by Pam’s story.
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Do you have a to-do list of grief-related items you’re procrastinating on? Maybe you haven’t ordered that headstone, closed an account belonging to your person, or completed the paperwork for the estate. Tune in this week to discover why you’re procrastinating in grief so that when you’re ready to get it done, you’ll have everything you need.
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Are you starting to dread the holidays, and it’s not even Halloween yet? No matter when you lost your person, this time of year can be especially hard. And if you’re feeling that impending holiday dread, I’ve got just the thing for you on this episode. Listen in to discover three ways we make the holidays harder in grief, and how we can make this time of year a little easier on ourselves and maybe even enjoy it.
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Widowhood is so often an extremely isolating experience. We think that we’re the only ones going through something that is actually very normal and common in grief. This week, I invite you to listen to the women inside Mom Goes On talk about their stories, and I hope you see yourself in their journeys. And if this is exactly what you needed to take the leap, I can’t wait to see you inside.
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So many widows have a difficult time loving life after their spouse dies because of all the ways they think they aren’t living up to a completely optional set of standards. But we need to put down the idea that we need to be different. We need to consider that who we are might actually be amazing and that being unapologetically you is the best way to be. So, let’s figure out how to be done apologizing, shall we?
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So much of what we struggle with in grief can be exactly what holds us back from the things we want to accomplish, including weight loss. This week, I’m sitting down with my dear friend, Master Certified Coach, and weight loss expert, Dr. Katrina Ubell to discuss how learning the skills of processing your emotions and working with your body instead of against it will transform your life.
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I can’t believe I’ve created a business where I get to work with and change the lives of people like my Widows Like Us guest today. Pam Demke is an OG Widowed Mom, and she's sharing her journey of widowhood, the wisdom she would offer her past self or new widows, and what has shifted in her life since she came to coaching.
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How often are you telling yourself that you shouldn’t feel the way you do? Are you supposed to feel some other way than you do right now? How exactly are you supposed to feel? Let’s talk about it in today’s episode.
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Whether you are on a grief journey that feels never-ending, or you’re trying to figure out how to support someone who’s currently grieving, you can benefit from hearing a variety of angles on grief. This week, author and leader in the field of complicated grief Mary-Frances O’Connor shares groundbreaking discoveries about what happens to our grieving brains.
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How much time and energy do you spend taking the things other people say and do personally? Tune in to discover why other people’s choices aren’t personal, the role of our primitive brain in making things personal, and how to truly stop being bothered by what other people say and do.
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Have you ever felt put off by the idea of experiencing growth after the death of your spouse? Maybe someone mentioned post-traumatic growth and it felt kind of icky and made you recoil, or maybe you’ve never even heard the term before. This week, I’m offering you a different way to think about post-traumatic growth that’s worked for me and my clients, and it might help you too.
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What is tapping? How does it work? Why is it even worth trying? I have tapping expert and facilitator Melanie Fay on the show today to break it all down. Melanie is the person I trust most when it comes to tapping, so I’ve brought her on to address everything you need to know about tapping for widows and to invite you to make tapping your go-to tool for feeling better.
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This episode is for the woman who has lost a loved one to suicide, the woman who might be experiencing perfectly hidden depression herself, or parents who don’t want to drop the ball on their kids. Dr. Margaret’s 30 years in clinical psychology has led her to this work, and she’s got an important message to share that might just save a life.
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If you set lots of goals, but find you’re only making small advances towards each one, or you feel yourself burning out quickly when you go all-in, this episode is for you. Discover why goal restraint is one of the best gifts you can give yourself, and how to start making progress in one primary area at a time to experience the ripple effects that will make working on your other goals easier and quicker.
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Jenna Kelley is a client who has truly done the work to get herself into a healthy, happy place. She’s here to share insights on her own journey of widowhood, how she navigated her fear of moving forward in a new relationship, and the key lessons from our work together that have made a lasting impression on her life.
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I know what it’s like to go through life feeling like things are going exactly the way they’re supposed to. And then, your spouse dies. All of a sudden, everything feels out of control. We start questioning everything, getting caught in loops of worrying, dwelling, and fretting about things we can’t control. But we don’t have to control everything to feel in control of our lives. Tune in this week to find out how.
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Being a mom is hard. Being a widowed mom is even harder. Master Certified Coach, author, and mom to a blended family of eight children, Molly Claire is on the show this week. She's here to offer her best nuggets of advice for struggling less as a mom, and to answer some of your personal questions from inside Mom Goes On.
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There is so much value in being in the same room as other widows who have many of the same questions you do. So, this week, I’m bringing you a recent Ask Krista Anything call to give you a taste of some of the most common questions other widows have on their minds, and my best tips, wherever you are on your widowhood journey.
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This week, Mom Goes On graduate Jane Grondin is on the show to share her story. From navigating the new uncharted waters of losing her husband and the early days of grief to showing up for what she wants and taking her future into her own hands, Jane is a serious inspiration. And on this episode, she’s sharing it all with us.
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Tapping has been an invaluable go-to resource not only in my life, but for my clients inside Mom Goes On too. This week, discover how tapping can support you through grief grenades and other intense emotional experiences, and what to expect as you start implementing this practice in your life.
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Have you ever wished you had a magic tool that could help you manage a grief grenade, lower your stress levels, and support you through not only the challenges of grief but literally all areas of life? I’m introducing you to that tool this week. And over the course of the next two episodes, you’ll learn the basics so you can start using it for yourself.
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Have you ever asked yourself what your purpose is now that your spouse has died? If you feel out of touch with what you want, you’re not alone. Discovering and exploring your purpose doesn’t have to induce anxiety and confusion, or even be a fixed endeavor. And this week, you'll learn why.
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It’s easy to assume that the work I do is only relevant to those whose relationships felt like rainbows and daisies. That is most certainly not true. If you’re having conflicting thoughts and feelings about grief, this week’s episode is dedicated to you. No matter how you feel about your loss, you’re not grieving wrongly, and I’m showing you why.
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Whether you’re crying too much or not crying enough, too happy or not happy at all, the reality is there is no right or wrong way to experience grief. In this episode, I’m inviting you to question, what if where you are right now is exactly where you’re supposed to be?
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Discover what Jack Canfield’s E+R=O formula means and how you can apply it in your life. You are the boss of your response, and once you become aware of this concept, you’ll see how this is true everywhere.
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We’re surrounded by so many widows who are intent on using widowhood as an excuse to not pursue their dreams, but you don't have to be one of them. So, tune in as I show you how you can chase whatever life satisfaction or dream you want.
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There are so many instances where we make grief harder on ourselves than necessary. So, join me this week as I share the top 15 reasons why we suck at grief, and how we can make the experience of grief easier on ourselves.
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You have a choice to either settle for what feels safe, the merry-go-round, or choose the highs and lows of the roller coaster. I’m sharing why neither the roller coaster or the merry-go-round is wrong, but that your conscious choice between the two is what matters. Learn how to make that choice for yourself today.
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Do you ever wonder who you are now that your spouse has died? We get so attached to our roles in life, and when one gets taken away, we feel lost. But you are so much more than just a mom, wife, or even a widow. So, if you’re ready to stop letting your roles cause you pain, I’m showing you how to hold your roles lightly.
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Julie McAdoo and Carrie Fajvan have recently graduated from Mom Goes On, and they’re here to share their experiences of losing their husbands, their journeys of healing, and the beautiful friendship they formed inside this container.
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Have you ever wondered why you’re so angry and you can’t seem to let it go? Maybe you worry that if you finally let the anger flow through you, you’ll fall into a dark place. This is one of the reasons widowed moms get stuck in a grief plateau. But when you change your relationship with your feelings, anger included, your life starts to transform, and I’m showing you how this week.
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There’s been a robin outside my house relentlessly attacking its reflection in the window. It sees its reflection as a threat and a problem, and seeing this spoke to me on a deep level. How are we the robin at the window? And how can we lovingly redirect ourselves to what really matters? Tune in to find out.
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What would it be like if you treated your emotions like a board of directors? Where everyone is valuable, but you are the president, and you get the final say. This week, I’m inviting you to intentionally create your emotional board of directors and I'm showing you how you can use this concept to see the value in all of your emotions.
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It seems like right at the beginning of our grief, our friends are right there with us. But then we reach a point where it feels like most of our friends disappear and we don’t know why. This week, I’m offering six reasons why I think our friends disappear and what you can do to feel better right now.
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There are two relationships in your life that create a domino effect for everything else you want to change. The rich, full life you’re dreaming of is waiting for you, and on this episode, you’re going to find out how to get there.
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Beliefs are much like the apps we use on our smartphones; some we absolutely love, but some go glitchy and don’t serve us anymore, and we have the ability to simply stop using them. I’m showing you how to diffuse yourself from your beliefs, and inviting you to see all the choices available to you when you start seeing beliefs as separate from who you are.
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While Ann’s husband Tom was battling early-onset Alzheimer’s, she was juggling his increasing need for care and her own wellbeing was taking a significant downturn. I’ve watched her not only make huge steps in her healing journey, but also start helping others in the same situation too, and she’s sharing it all with us on this episode.
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If I took a poll, I’d guess most of you don’t believe you’re 100% lovable as you are right now with all your human flaws. Think again. Discover why changing your flaws doesn’t make you a more lovable, worthwhile human, and why your lovability is completely non-negotiable.
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What’s that thing you keep telling yourself you would love to do, but don’t have time for or don’t know where to start? If you’ve spent a long time in this cycle, the truth is you might just be interested but not committed.
If being committed is what you want, tune in as I dispel the mystery of what’s going on and show you how to generate 100% commitment.
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As a human, worrying is an inevitable part of life. It can often make us feel like powerless victims, but it doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve developed a simple process that will help you navigate your worries in a new way, and I’m sharing the three steps with you today.
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This might be a hard pill to swallow, but know that I’m coming to you from a fierce belief that you can have the life you want, even if you haven’t given yourself permission to dream about it. And it starts right here, by not entertaining your unfair fantasies any longer.
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Whether you’re in those early acute days of grief or you’re further along on your journey, you want to listen in. Pam is sharing the struggles she experienced since her husband’s death, and the work she’s done to pursue a new career in coaching to help others in grief.
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So many of us go through our lives believing feelings just happen to us. We think we have to wait for the inspiration to strike us at the right moment, but did you know you can actually create it on demand? I'm showing you how to create feelings on purpose because when you can do this, you can start to create the life of your dreams on purpose.
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If you’re like most people, you likely feel inclined to “should” all over yourself in the name of New Year’s resolutions. We believe our “should” thoughts will make us more lovable, but those thoughts are blocking you more than you can see right now. So, I’ve declared 2022 a should-free year, and on this episode, I’m inviting you to join me.
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I hear so often from widows that they can’t move forward in their lives until they understand why or how their person died, and what exactly happened. But this is the closure myth, and I’m inviting you to see how you truly don’t need closure to live a life you love.
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The holidays are right around the corner, which often means spending more time with family members we might not love being around. But the best news is you can take back your power to choose exactly how you want to feel about them, and I’m sharing 10 practices you can use right now to begin making those shifts.
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While spinning in the numbing and buffering I think we can all relate to, Debbie experienced the destruction of her career and relationships along the way. But she’s since used her loss as an opportunity to work on loving herself, to redefine her life and her values, and she’s here to let us in on her journey.
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As we go into the holidays, many of us tend to get thrown into situations where we feel the need to justify whether or not our feelings are valid. But is validity a useful metric to go by? This week, I’m showing you how to use love as your compass instead of valid reasons, and why love will always get you closer to the life you really want.
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It’s quite likely that if we allow ourselves to figure out how to dream and live fully again, we’re going to feel heartbreak and sadness. This is why so many of us don’t. But what you’re really doing is trading the possibility of sadness for the certainty of regret. So, would you rather leave it all out on the court, knowing you didn’t hold back, or continue believing life can’t get any better?
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How often have you told yourself that you want to do something but you just don’t feel motivated? Wondering why you can’t seem to get yourself to do that thing can be frustrating and downright depressing. If this sounds familiar, listen in today for 7 things to consider when you don’t feel motivated.
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Do you wish you did things differently while you had the chance, or find yourself ruminating on ways you could have prevented your person’s death? Does this spark guilt in the pit of your stomach? I've been there. But you don’t need to act from this place of guilt, you can love your way through it, and I’m showing you how.
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My client Christina is sharing her journey of navigating widowhood, what helped her begin to deal with her grief differently, and how her progress has led to her becoming a certified life coach. Christina’s grief journey is filled with bravery, strong decisions, and so much belief progression and I think you’re going to find her story incredibly relatable and inspiring.
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There’s a huge focus on surviving the firsts in grief culture. However, in my experience, the lasts are so much harder than the firsts. Just because the lasts are hard doesn’t mean you can’t go on to love your life, and this week, I’m reminding you that you can still create a future that’s even better than you can imagine despite them.
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Whether we’re consciously aware of it or not, we’re always fighting for some version of ourselves. You might have resigned to a new normal you didn’t ask for, barely surviving. But you don’t have to stay here. On the other side, there’s an entirely different human experience filled with limitless possibilities where you could be truly thriving. The choice is yours, so who are you fighting for?
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What if you decided to believe that your future was your property? You can absolutely breathe your dreams into existence, but in order to do that, you need to believe you can. This is what I’m attempting to sell you on this week because I know it's 100% possible for you to have what you want.
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My former client and now mentor for widows, Kim Murray, lost her husband Mark in 2014 to glioblastoma, and she’s here to share her journey since becoming a widow and solo parent. If you ever feel like you’re trapped under an avalanche of overwhelm, convinced you’re never going to be okay again, Kim’s story will hopefully help you tackle each day with more grace for yourself.
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Why is it that when something great happens, we find ourselves instantly worrying about losing it? Can you relate to finding moments of finally feeling happy again, and not being able to bask in it without your mind spinning out?
Tune in to find out why this is an experience so many widows face and what you can do about it.
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Discover what you can do when you start to notice you’re having feelings about your feelings. I’m showing you how to identify when you’re feeling uncomfortable emotions because of a feeling you have, and if it’s a pattern that isn’t serving you, I’m sharing how you can change it so you can create feelings more intentionally.
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I break down the differences between self-pity and self-compassion in terms of how they sound, how they feel, and what they look like, so you can make the conscious decision to be honest with yourself and choose what feels most aligned with the next chapter of life you want to live into.
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Judith and I are discussing the misconceptions around what style means, and where you can get started on your journey to begin up-leveling your day-to-day experience. Judith is here to drop some truth bombs about style rules you might be holding on to, and how style is an amazing way to discover who you are again, to fully live and love the next chapter of your life.
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I'm showing you why there is no such thing as sliding backward in your grief, and why thinking this doesn’t serve us. I’m sharing the big misconceptions about grief that we have to let go of, and I’m offering some loving answers to be ready with when your brain wants to tell you that you’re sliding backward.
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We're diving into Linda's experience of grief and how art played a healing role on her journey. She’s sharing her biggest takeaways from the coaching work we’ve done together, and she’s also giving us her unique take on the differences between coaching and therapy as a clinical psychologist.
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If you feel stuck in not knowing what your purpose is, or you can’t figure out how to be happy again, I hear you. You’re going to discover how you might currently be thinking about accomplishing a goal in the wrong way, what imperfect action until means, and how it’s going to help you go after your calling.
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Whether you’ve decided to go back to work or you’re unsure whether you want to, we’re tackling it all on today’s podcast. I’m sharing the common pitfalls I often see, why making this choice with intention and concrete reasoning is so important, and my best tips and suggestions for supporting yourself through whatever decision you land on.
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If you have stories about your financial picture right now that are keeping you stuck or feeling resentful, listen in. Stacey is sharing her journey from debt to making multiple millions, her top tips for creating the kind of money you want, as well as the thought errors so many of us have about money that keep us from moving towards more of it.
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If you or someone you know is having an experience where you don’t feel like you have the right or capacity to grieve a loss, listen in. This is not a small or simple subject, but I hope that by sharing some examples, including one from my own life, you’ll discover a new way to support yourself better.
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I'm addressing some common questions that I know widows struggle with. Find out some of my favorite ways to process emotions, how to move through feelings of regret, what to ask yourself if you feel like a part of your soul will always be missing, and how to process feeling like you’ve been denied a life you envisioned.
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Whether you feel relief because your partner was suffering, or because you were in a caretaking role that was extremely hard on you, or even because your relationship wasn’t all roses while they were alive, listen in. Feeling relieved doesn’t have to necessitate guilt and shame, and this week, I’m showing you what I know it actually means about you.
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Even though I’ve always believed in the value of hope, it’s not always the fuel we need. My wish for you as you listen in today is to think about the role of hope in your life right now and decide how it serves you, when you want to use it, and when you don’t.
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The secret to getting back out into the real world after months of COVID hibernation. I’m sharing the concerns I hear from my clients around venturing out again, and how to put these fears and anxieties into perspective if you’re experiencing them too.
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If you’re currently telling yourself that you have to be both parents to compensate for the other person’s strengths, I want to let you know that this line of thinking is completely optional. We can put almost anything behind “the other parent was __ and I’m not,” but I’m offering you 4 alternative thoughts instead that hopefully show you that you get to choose how you want to see your role as a solo parent.
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I'm clearing some things up about coaching that might be stopping you from reaching out for support, or on the flip side, to help solidify your doubt and inkling that you might not be quite ready yet. I’m debunking 2 myths about coaching that people have, and showing you the power coaching can have if you’re in a place where it would be a good fit.
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Discover 3 ways believing you’re the third wheel is simply not useful, and 3 suggestions for how to deal with a situation like this. Widowhood is a hard enough experience as it is, without adding on thoughts that lead to us feeling more isolated and disconnected when all we truly want in that moment is to feel connected to those we love.
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Maybe it’s a song on the radio, or driving past the hospital, but suddenly, you’re caught off guard and you instantly feel a hit of grief in your body. I’m sharing 3 practical strategies to help you calm yourself and navigate your grief grenades with the utmost love and compassion for yourself in those moments.
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I’m sharing a simple but powerful tool that will help you put those moments where life falls short of our expectations into perspective, and allow you to move through them with more peace and less suffering. This technique has made a huge difference in my life, and I can’t wait for you to start using it in yours.
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None of us want to talk about the things that weren’t so amazing in our relationships, or the guilt or shame we may have felt, and this is exactly why I love Suzanne so much. She always shows up in our community ready to share the realness of what’s going on for her, and after listening to her journey so far, I think you’ll come out on the other side knowing you’re most definitely not alone.
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Are you ready to become the boss of your sex life? I’m breaking down how to do so by first addressing 3 of the top worries about the act of sex, 6 fears we have about what will happen during sex, and how to handle all of it with grace and compassion for yourself.
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I’m sharing and debunking 8 myths about sex in widowhood. My goal is to show you that these myths are all completely optional, and I’m inviting you to listen in, form your own opinions, and create your own timelines for when sex might be right for you. I’m also turning this subject into a mini-series to answer all of your questions and worries.
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Join me this week to discover how our whole human experience is determined by the thought-colored glasses we put on and leave on. I’m sharing the top 5 thoughts I see over and over again in my clients, so you can decide to take them off if you think doing so would allow you to actually start loving your life.
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Join me on the podcast this week where I invite you to see if you can find something in Leann’s story that resonates with you and what you’re going through. Leann is sharing how she has had to transform so much about her life since losing her husband, and how she has built a life she truly loves, learning to help the people in her life by helping herself first.
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Listen in this week as I show you how it’s possible for you to rewrite your money story. You don’t have to believe the stories and limits you’ve got running on autopilot right now, so I’m sharing the 3 things you need to know to turn your financial ship around and how you can intentionally curate a relationship with money that feels abundant and secure.
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Join me this week as I share and debunk 6 common myths about suicide that are extremely troublesome for the women I serve. I may not be able to take away your pain, but my deepest wish is to alleviate some of your suffering by letting you know that you are heard and you are not alone.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why your attempts to set boundaries seem to be falling on deaf ears. I’m sharing where I see my clients getting boundaries confused for something else, and what you can do to guarantee that this isn’t a problem in your relationships moving forward.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to use your widow card, if you want to, in a way that empowers you and allows you to make decisions in your own best interest. You never need an excuse after what you’ve been through, but I’m sharing how to get crystal clear on your reasons for playing the widow card, so you can start using it in a way that really serves you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover what’s going on in your brain when you tell yourself you don’t know how. I’m sharing my experiences in this area, where I see it coming up for my clients, and most importantly what you can do to create a situation where you already know the how-to every time.
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Join us this week to listen in as Bevin graciously shares her story with us and how she’s emulating what I know is possible for you: that you too can fully realize your dreams even after your person is gone, and that you don’t have to resign yourself to a life you don’t really want.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I discuss my thoughts on what you should do when you’re ready to date, but your kids don’t approve. I’m sharing how to make the decision that is right for you about whether or not you should start dating again, and walking you through how to make peace with the fact that there is no perfect way to approach this difficult topic.
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Tune in this week as Sherry and I discuss what holds so many people back from seeking help when they know they’re not happy about how much alcohol they are consuming. You’ll discover why some of the classic approaches to cutting back aren’t as helpful as you might think, and what your options are if you know it’s time to change your relationship with alcohol.
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Join me this week as I outline the three reasons you might be struggling to move on, through, or forward. The truth is that there is no end destination to grief, and it may well be with you forever, but that doesn’t have to be bad news. I’m showing you why the things that are holding you back now are not actually necessary like you might think, and how to start giving yourself permission to live the way you want.
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Join me on this week’s episode to discover why we naturally want to measure our progress based on the gap, and how to instead measure your success based only on the gain. I’m sharing where I have done this in my life, how to see it in your own thinking, and how this process will make every day that passes that little bit more rewarding.
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Listen in today to discover why so many of us believe the only solution to love our lives is to live differently or to be different. Believing your life didn’t turn out as expected and that it’s a problem will keep you trapped in a cycle of feeling terrible, but I guarantee there is another way, even if you’re skeptical, and I’m sharing it with you today.
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Tune in this week for a discussion with Jessica Ortner about what tapping is, and how it could change your life in the same way it has for both of us. We’re discussing Jessica’s own journey in using Emotional Freedom Technique to deal with her stress and her experience of sharing tapping with other people who need it.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover the three ways negativity bias impacts your experience of grief, and what you can do to start proactively combatting your brain’s tendency to do this. While this trait was extremely valuable to us at one point in time, bringing awareness to it and learning to retrain your brain is going to help you truly enjoy the next chapter of your life.
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This is the episode I wish I had when I was a new widow. As someone who knows what it’s like to be new to grief, and wanted to consume more information about it but simply didn’t have the capacity to, here is a list of a few things I wish I knew, from one widow to another, that I hope gives you resolve and hope.
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Tune in this week to discover the three biggest goal traps that I see people falling into, especially during a time like this when we feel some pressure to change things. I’m sharing what might be wrong with the goals you’ve chosen for yourself, and how you can decide what you want for your life from a place where you’re more likely to create real, lasting, positive moves in 2021.
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Join me on the podcast this week for a slightly different perspective on the Widowed Mom experience from one of my coaching clients. Suzanne is sharing her experience of getting coached on her grief several years after her husband’s passing, what she’s learned, and what she believes every widow should know about grief.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why, contrary to what your brain is telling you, you are not a failure. I’m sharing why this thought crosses our minds so often, how I see it show up for my clients, and how to take this false pressure of believing you are a failure off of yourself.
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Join us on the podcast this week as Sandy generously shares her insights on the differences between life coaching and therapy, and how to identify which one you might need. There aren’t necessarily any right or wrong answers here, but I hope that by sharing this conversation, this episode sheds some light on how to know what is best for you.
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Tune in this week to discover why your feelings are not problems, and how to handle your current feelings in a more productive way. We're sharing five common myths around feelings that often just pile on the uncomfortable experience, and we’re going into why all feelings matter, no matter whether they’re “positive” or “negative.”
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Join Brooke and I this week as she tells us all about tiny books and the process involved with creating one. Her deep insights and copious ideas around this topic have definitely got me thinking about writing one myself, and I hope you walk away from this conversation inspired to maybe create one of your own too.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why whether you experience drama or not is completely up to you. I’m sharing what you can do to reframe the ways people interact with you that you might have found upsetting in the past, and how you can actually look forward to this time of the year, regardless of how miserable it made you last time around.
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Join us this week as Brandy and I dig into her experience of grief and how she’s come to cope with it. It has been such an honor to work with her and so much fun to watch her complete transformation. I can’t wait for you to listen in and be inspired by all the work she’s done on herself and to know that it’s possible for you too.
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Tune in this week as I discuss the wasted energy that goes into proving that we’re right and they’re wrong, and that even if we could convince them through arguing, it wouldn’t bring us any peace. Instead, I have some tips that I use for letting go of my ego, seeing their opinion for what it is, and simply allowing them to be wrong. And trust me, it feels so liberating.
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Tune in this week to discover what actually happens in a coaching session and how the work I share on the podcast can be applied to literally any situation. I’m sharing two separate coaching conversations around the difficulties of being a widow and raising children while grappling with the regrets from the past and overwhelm in the present.
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Listen in today as I show you what it means for everything to simultaneously be okay and not okay. The contrast between joy and despair or happiness and sadness is what makes up the human experience, and I’m showing you how embracing this perspective will allow you to give yourself the space to believe that everything’s okay, while you’re not okay.
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Tune in this week as Meredith and I discuss why putting up with an uncomfortable workplace is never a good option. Meredith is sharing how your mental health is legally protected, just like your physical health, and what your options are during those times where grief strikes when you least expect it.
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Tune in this week where Pam and I are discussing why reactive parenting isn’t serving you or your children, and how you can be there for your kids in a way that meets their core emotional needs. Pam is sharing where she sees so many moms go wrong in changing their own behavior, and the importance of asking for and accepting help when you need it.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why curiosity is an essential part of loving life again and what life has in store if we do not get curious. I’m sharing how being curious about my thoughts and beliefs has helped me in so many different ways, and how you can do exactly the same for yourself.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover what is, by far, the most useful tool I have in my arsenal: the Self-Coaching Model. I’m sharing how this tool helps us analyze everything that contributes to our experience of life, and how we can move forward, no matter what tragedy or loss we’ve suffered, and build a life we really love.
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Tune in this week to discover some of the things you might have manuals for that you weren’t even aware of. I’m sharing how you can tell if a manual isn’t serving you and needs to be set aside, and how you can do this without becoming a doormat and instead, become a woman who simply loves her life, regardless of how things outside of her are going.
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Join me on the podcast this week where I’ll share some surprising statistics about loneliness, and explain why if it's not managed appropriately, it can have a detrimental effect on your life. I’ll share ways to view loneliness as an opportunity rather than an issue, and why you can be lonely, but not alone, and alone, but not lonely. Let’s take loneliness seriously and do something about it.
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Join me today as I answer four questions that I’ve received from podcast listeners, and I hope all of you find them useful. We’re going to dive into how the primitive brain responds to fear and why this is completely normal, numbing with social media, how to let emotions flow through you, and failure.
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Tune in this week to discover what Jamie has learned from her first year as a widow. Jamie is sharing what she wishes she would have known sooner, and what she believes every newly widowed mom would benefit from hearing. There is so much wisdom in this conversation for you to hear, even if you're passed the one-year mark.
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Join me on the podcast this week for a little pick-me-up. This journey is messy and complicated, whether you’re having a good or a bad day. But I know for sure that you can handle this and anything else life throws at you. So tune in today and re-listen any time you’re struggling. Because you’ve come way too far to give up now.
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Join me this week to discover what the two circles to loving life are, and how to expand the one that really matters. I’m sharing how we give our power away to thoughts that don’t serve us, and how we can center our focus and energy in order to create a life that we truly love.
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Listen in today as I show you the upside of dropping the story you might be holding onto about how your life was supposed to go. We fool ourselves when we argue and fight for that story, and we are the ones that suffer. I’ll be sharing a few questions you can consider to decide how you’re going to show up for the one life you have and how you’re going to choose to live on purpose.
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Tune in this week to discover why you don’t have to worry or avoid seeing people so that you don’t have to encounter awkward conversations. No one is powerful enough to choose your emotional state and I don’t want you to be a chameleon. You can be who you are and let other people be who they are, and I’m showing you how to show up powerfully for yourself.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I share the one tool that has helped me the most in creating a life I love and guides my clients every day in their lives. You’ll discover the three steps to tap into the version of you who knows exactly what you need to do, and not do, so you can move through the next phase of your journey with peace and certainty.
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Join Jana and I as we shed some light on the most common questions that come up around supporting grieving children. She is outlining the importance of taking the pressure off of yourself to best show up for your kids, the power of peer support, and why resiliency shouldn’t ever be the end goal.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why the choice of how you respond starts and ends with you, and nobody else. I’m sharing how our results are dictated by the way we choose to respond to situations, what you can do to consciously react in a way that serves you, no matter what life throws your way.
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Join me this week for a Q&A episode as I answer questions on the realities of new relationships, old habits, and why it’s totally fine if you feel like a hot mess right now. I’m also sharing some tips on how to ask yourself better questions about your life instead of getting caught up in a negative cycle of believing things should be different.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I discuss how this idea of a new normal can be helpful and liberating. I’m sharing how to get clear on what you’re thinking about your new normal, and where I see widows holding themselves back by trying to accept something they simply don’t like and is not serving them.
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Listen in on our conversation as I ask Dawne on how she was coping with her earlier days of grief and how that had evolved once we started working together. I think you’ll be able to relate to Dawne’s resistance to her painful emotions, and how processing them was vital to let them flow and ease up. Dawne had many "aha" moments along the way, and I hope you’ll find hope in her story for your own journey.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to be your own champion. I’m sharing how our ideas of perfection hold us back from being believing we are doing a great job, and 3 steps that you can take to become your own champion and show yourself some love and grace in every imperfect, human action you take.
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This week I'm sharing why there is nothing you should be doing or feeling this Father’s Day, and how to create an environment that allows you and your children to process any emotion that comes up, whatever they might be. What we think about, we bring about, so trust me, if you believe you can make this day work for you, that is the first step in making it happen.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why you probably need to forget everything you thought you knew about weight loss. I’m sharing how your reasons for trying for losing weight will impact your outcome, and the emotional disappointment waiting for you if you don’t get your mind right before you get started.
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Listen in this week on my interview with Jenny Lisk as we discuss how Jenny helps widowed parents through her podcast and her books that are in the works. Jenny has some incredible insights about resiliency, the importance of approaching our kids with honesty, and she shares a ton of resources to remind you that you’re not alone in this journey.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover where perfectionist thinking might be holding you back and how you can begin to overcome it, using failure as a tool. I’m sharing how perfectionism kept me from going after the life I really wanted to be living, and the incredible shifts that I have created since addressing my perfectionist tendencies.
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Tune in this week for a taste of live coaching as we discuss dating, societal pressures around the grieving process, and parenting your kids after the loss your family has experienced. Coaching is what I live for, and I’m genuinely excited to show you why I love it so much.
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Join me on the podcast this week to understand why all widows have such differing emotions around money. Once you understand where your feelings about money come from, you can do the work to start to see a future where you’ve worked through money purgatory and can view any newfound wealth through a lens that serves you, rather than beating yourself up about it.
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Tune in this week for my first ever interview on the podcast. Melissa is kindly sharing her journey through grief, from the days afterward, through the widow fog, through to how she found my coaching and how she has taken ownership of every aspect of her life and decided to embrace the grief instead of constantly fighting a battle she was never going to win.
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Join me this week for part two of Why We Numb and How to Stop, where I’m sharing my tips for creating a step-by-step plan to address your numbing behaviors that you will actually be able to stick to. You’ll discover why we find breaking the cycle of numbing behavior so difficult, how to understand the emotions we are trying to avoid, and how to have more control over your experience of them.
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Join me on the podcast this week for a little understanding as to why you engage in numbing activities, what’s going on in your brain, and how to check in with yourself to see whether you’re numbing in a problematic way for you. I can’t do this subject justice in just one episode, so be sure to tune in next week to discover how you can break the pattern of numbing behavior.
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I’ve been asking my clients and people in my community what they wished their loved ones knew about their experience as a widowed mom. And so, if somebody you love is a widowed mom and you have trouble communicating or empathizing fully with them because you don’t really understand what they’re going through, I invite you to listen in here.
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Join me this week as I share what I did with my wedding ring after my husband died, and how my thoughts about it changed over the following years, and why, just because I did it this way, doesn’t mean that it’s right for you.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why panicking right now is nothing to be ashamed of, and how you can move towards thoughts and emotions that will serve you and your family during this time. I’m sharing what I do when I sense myself starting to freak out, and how to approach the uncomfortable emotions that will inevitably surface as we work through this crisis as a community.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I discuss the five most important considerations to take into account, so you can know for sure if you’re ready to date again. You’re going to come up against a lot of opinions on this one, but there is only one person who truly knows whether now is the right time, and that’s you. You just have to ask yourself the right questions.
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Join me this week to discover how to choose your emotions on purpose. I’m showing you how you can take a look at your thoughts and the feelings that they produce, even if they’re negative, and what you can do to choose a different experience on purpose, without ignoring what you’re feeling.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I take your questions on feeling whole again, playing the role of both dad and mom now your husband has gone, and how to deal with the overwhelm that comes from having your world turned upside-down.
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I’ve talked on the podcast before about the stories we tell ourselves when it comes to the loss of our person. But I want to go a little deeper this week and show you how your brain is the only thing keeping you stuck in old pain, and how you can start choosing a new experience of the past right now without changing the facts of what happened in the past.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why the inner critic of ours doesn’t have to be something we ignore or fight against, how to see it for what it is, and how you can work on your thoughts around the inner critic so that it doesn’t end up taking over your life.
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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and, for many women like us who have lost our husbands, it’s not a day that we look forward to. In fact, I wouldn’t be exaggerating if I said that, for some of us, it’s our least favorite day of the year. So, I think it’s about time we did something about that. If you relate to this description, listen closely.
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It’s no secret that when you think anything long enough, you’re going to believe it’s true. What I want to discuss today is that you can choose not to buy into these thoughts for the simple reason that they don’t serve you and that having them at the forefront of your mind is never going to be helpful.
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Join me on the podcast this week and discover how to stop beating yourself up and start measuring your success as a mom in a healthy and loving way. I’m sharing three lessons for any parent who feels like they’re struggling right now that will provide some much-needed insight into how you’re really doing.
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Join me this week to see that you have the option to maintain a relationship with your husband if you choose to. You can feel separation or closeness; the choice is always yours to make. I don’t think there’s any downside to this, and I want you to take this time to think deeply about what kind of relationship you have with your person, to create an emotional experience that will serve you.
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Forgiveness can understandably be a sore subject for a lot of us. I get people asking me from time to time about when the right time to forgive someone is, or whether it’s right at all to forgive someone who has caused us so much pain. I hope I can shed a little light on this topic for you today because I know from personal experience how challenging it can be mentally to grapple with the decision to forgive.
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Tune in this week to discover why we believe that people are toxic, and how letting people occupy real estate in our brain in this way only serves to make our suffering worse. Embracing this concept might be tricky at first, but when we can stop thinking this way about others, we leave ourselves open to so much more of the good stuff that this life has to offer.
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Most people, that I’m aware of at least, have real difficulty following through with their New Year’s resolutions. There’s no shame in that. However, I see the problem in three specific areas of the goal-setting process, so I want to share those with you today to give you the best chance of sticking to your resolutions in 2020.
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Discover the truth about right and wrong decisions, and how to start deciding from a place of power, and why you only have yourself to answer to when making the choices that affect your life. You might think it can’t be that easy, but trust me, once you understand this, every decision you take will be from a pace of peace, and worry will be nowhere to be seen.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover where our sense of guilt or regret is coming from, what the difference between guilt and regret is, and what we can do to ease the burden. Trust me, we are not helpless in this situation, and a new perspective on this might just change your whole life.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover why the word widow carries such strong and differing emotion, depending on who you ask, and what labeling yourself as a widow really means about you and your journey after loss.
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Join me on the podcast this week and discover the ways people-pleasing might be showing up in your life, and how you can leave the cycle of putting everyone else’s needs first behind you. This work is a little uncomfortable at first, but you owe it to yourself to really look at why you’re doing it in the first place.
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Tune in today to discover how to process your thoughts in a way that alleviates the overwhelm that comes with the grieving process and how you can move towards a life that you love, without ignoring the negative emotions surrounding your loss.
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As human beings, we like comparison. Knowing that we are not alone gives us some comfort. But we don’t always compare in a helpful way. Join me on the podcast this week to discover the difference between healthy and unhealthy comparison, and how we can use comparison as a useful tool, instead of a way of pointing out everything we think we are doing wrong.
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Tune in this week to discover how to take proper care of yourself during the holidays, rather than acting out of obligation and leaving yourself feeling emotionally exhausted. Happier holidays after loss are possible, it’s just going to take a little work on recognizing your thoughts and focusing on them in a way that really serves you.
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I’m always excited to record the podcast for you guys, but this week is a special one because today’s topic is really the cornerstone of my work as a life coach for widowed moms: understanding why the motivational triad was useful at one stage but how it now holds you back, along with a new motivational triad to practice will reframe your life in the best way possible.
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Join me this week as I’m sharing some examples from my own life of how, once I embraced the thought-feeling-action connection, everything changed. Whether you’re struggling with parenting, getting back to work, or even reentering the dating scene (more on that on a later episode) then this episode is going to give you so much more power than you ever thought possible.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I discuss why nobody can ever comprehend exactly what you’re going through, even other widows. Instead, you’ll discover how you can reframe your own thoughts about their perception of you, allowing you a way of out the inevitable judgment cycle that awaits if you choose to believe that other people’s understanding of you is important.
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Tune in this week to discover how your cognitive bias could be holding you back. Whether you think you’re a bad mom, that you’ll never find love again, or even that you think someone you have to deal with regularly is a jerk, this episode should put things into perspective for you.
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Tune in this week to discover the difference between grief and mourning, where you’re at in your journey, and how to identify how much you have moved on, and what’s to come as you adjust to life without your person. It’s time to start defining your future and deciding, on purpose, how you want to see the world that you are living in.
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Join me this week as I discuss why we lack confidence during this time in our lives, the beliefs that we have about our confidence that prevent us from working on it, and how you can build your confidence and self-confidence (yes, there is a difference) without having to change the world around you.
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Ever wished for a customized program to help you move through the parts of grief that are keeping you stuck? Something to teach you the tools that grief support groups and therapy haven’t? An online way to learn from someone who has already helped hundreds of widowed moms create futures they love?
If this is you, visit https://www.CoachingWithKrista.com and click on “request a consultation” now.
Tune in this week and discover why grief is something we will never be able to leave behind, but also why that in itself is not a bad thing. This is a short and sweet episode, and the concept might be a little daunting to wrap your head around, but I wouldn’t be sharing it if I didn’t think it was 100% true.
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Tune in this week as I share some of the mental drama that occurs when deciding what to do with your person’s possessions. I’m also giving you my personal journey through handling my husband’s belongings, just in case there’s something that resonates with you in there. This process is different for everyone, but I’ve got some considerations for you that might make this process a little less daunting for you.
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Tune in this week as I discuss why we believe that we have lost our identity, what gets in the way of us really trying to define ourselves after loss, and how we can reframe our thoughts, allowing us to redefine our identity without having to look outside of ourselves. I’ve been there and, trust me, it isn’t easy, but it is possible.
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How to use your own grief experience to help your child get through theirs. It’s impossible for us to make them feel better, but that doesn’t mean we can’t help them get to a better place. I’m sharing some things to consider and thoughts you should keep an eye on, as well as some amazing resources so that you are truly never alone in this.
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This week we're discussing the "have-tos" and pressure that we pile on ourselves and why it doesn't have to be this way. We'll talk about why we disempower ourselves when we tell ourselves we "have to" do things and how to coach ourselves out of this mindset. I'll also share some client stories with you about choosing to do things rather than feeling obligated to do them, and why this can be such a positive mental shift.
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Trying to have a say in the actions of others or the events of our lives makes us feel like we’re doing something about our situation, but it’s actually taking focus off the things we can have a say over – the things that will help us grow from our trauma.
Tune into the podcast this week to discover how owning it in the right way will start benefitting you right now. There are four things you can own in this lifetime, and I want you to own them from a place of self-love and compassion.
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In this episode, we're talking about how to think about the anniversary of your husband's death in a way that honors your feelings and capacity on the day. Just like grief, there's no one way to approach this day. We'll dig into why people have expectations about how you "should" act, why you should leave those "shoulds" behind, and how to feel confident determining your own desires around this day. I also share some great ideas for remembering, celebrating, or just thinking quietly about your husband, both on your own and alongside your loved ones.
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I've learned so much since my husband died: about myself and what I'm capable of; about my children and how resilient they are; and about life and how to live it. Things have, of course, not always been easy without him. But there have been so many opportunities for learning and growth since he passed away, too.
I wanted to share some of these lessons with you today.
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We often don't recognize that there is a difference between pain and suffering. They're actually completely different in that one of them is part and parcel of the human experience by design, and the other is completely optional. Today, I want to clarify the difference to help you create a new story, to see that the suffering you might be experiencing is totally changeable.
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In this episode, I'm introducing you to the concept of post-traumatic growth. We'll talk about the definition of trauma and why it's a unique experience for everybody, why it's an inevitable part of life, and why trauma can be a springboard for growth. I'll also talk to you about why you don't have to have experienced PTSD in order to experience post-traumatic growth.
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Today I want to tell you the same story three times, each with a different interpretation. I want you to listen closely and notice the differences between these three versions of the same story. And then I want you to apply this concept to your own life. What stories are you telling yourself that no longer serve you? This isn't an easy task, but it's an incredibly valuable practice - and I hope it helps you as much as it's helped me.
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In today's episode, we'll talk about what widow fog is, some of its common symptoms, and why your brain protects yourself in this way. I share some of my own experiences with widow fog and talk about a bit of the science behind this phenomenon. And, most importantly, I offer some tips for how to handle widow fog and how to have compassion for yourself as your brain heals from its emotional loss.
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In this episode, I'm talking about powerful questions for widows and how to make the most of your brain's natural filter. We'll walk through some of the different questions that widows commonly ask themselves and why our questions so often reinforce our current beliefs. We'll cover how you can start asking neutral or even positive questions about the world that will serve you far more than negative questions ever could.
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This is a list of twenty-five things I hope you remember when people around you are questioning your grieving process, asking if you’re okay, or telling you that it’s time to move on. Many people are well-meaning but don’t have any real idea how to comfort someone who’s grieving; you are ultimately the only person that knows what's right for you. It’s important to remind yourself that you’re entitled to grieve however you want and need to – and this list might be exactly the reminder you need.
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Join me today as I break down the three most common ways of dealing with emotion and why they are not serving you. I'm also offering you a fourth way to process your emotions that will help you to start feeling better right now. This tremendously valuable skill is something that will serve you forever.
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In this episode, I’m sharing six myths of grief and walking through why each one is inaccurate. I talk about why grief is a normal, natural response to loss and why some common platitudes about grieving are so off-base. I also offer up some suggestions for moving through grief without forcing yourself to bury emotions or grieve in solitude.
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Welcome to the first episode of The Widowed Mom Podcast. I am pleased to be here with you and honored that you’re joining me in this new endeavor that I know will change many lives, including mine.
To begin our journey together, I want to tell you a little bit about me and how I got here, what you can expect from the podcast (and what you can be sure not to get), and a brief, inspirational story that I love. I will also be teaching you something that you can use right now to help you get unstuck.
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