Craft of Charisma: Recent Episodes
Craft of Charisma
Welcome to the Craft of Charisma Podcast!
Every week, we publish three new episodes (Monday, Wednesday, and Friday), where we interview some of the world’s top experts and thought leaders in the self-improvement arena. Our guests include dating and relationship coaches, health and wellness experts, fitness trainers, psychologists, best-selling authors, and everything in between.
Our podcast has one goal:
To help you develop the skills that you'll need to live a happier, healthier, and more meaningful life.
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Craft of Charisma is a New York-based self-improvement company that focuses on life, dating and relationship mentorship for men.
Guest Introduction:
Madisyn Taylor is the co-founder and chief editor for the meditation website DailyOM. She is the author of several books, including “Unmedicated: The Four Pillars of Natural Wellness.” Today, she’s going to teach us how to live a happier and healthier life.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Madisyn begins by talking about growing up in an abusive household, which led to years of anxiety and depression, self-medicating, and eventually severe illness. She explains how she came to recognize that these issues were tied to her childhood trauma. Madisyn then walks us through her journey of getting into meditation, journaling, and working with healers to rebuild her body and mind. She describes the many ups and downs, and what she learned about herself throughout this process. She also goes into more detail about her journaling practice and how it affected her.
Next, Madisyn talks about her relationship with her boyfriend at the time, who eventually became her husband. She discusses how they met, how their relationship evolved and grew, and how it helped her through the healing process. Madisyn also describes how she added more color into her life, connected with new people, and rebuilt her social life. She then outlines the four pillars of wellness from her book "Unmedicated," and expands on the benefits of deep relationships and spending time in nature. She shares some of her daily practices for maintaining optimal physical and mental health.
Madisyn explains how she continues to nurture her tribe, and talks about the importance of becoming a better listener. She also describes how becoming a better listener helped her gain more compassion and empathy. Madisyn then discusses her daily spiritual practice. We ask her how she developed the four pillars of wellness, and what her motivation was for the book. Finally, Madisyn talks more about DailyOM and her inspiration for creating it. She leaves us with some insights and advice for connecting with our intuition, discovering our needs, and developing our own wellness practice.
Find out more about Madisyn: http://www.madisyntaylor.com/wp/ https://www.dailyom.com
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Guest Introduction:
Kyle Ingham is the founder of The Distilled Man, a website that provides practical tips on social mastery, self-development, and the gentlemanly arts.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Kyle starts by discussing his background and what inspired him to create The Distilled Man. He gives examples of tactical skills associated with being a well-rounded man, and explains how they act as a social bridge. Kyle then talks about recognizing gaps in his manly confidence, and shares the biggest lessons that he learned through the process of becoming a more well-rounded man. He also offers advice for developing social mastery, including increasing social confidence, building positive friendships, and developing charisma.
Next, Kyle discusses some of the similarities and differences between making male friends and approaching women. He explains how false beliefs and self-judgement hold us back from developing friendships with other men. Chris shares his insights on how he sees these issues come up in his coaching and the men's groups that he's involved with. Kyle then offers advice for creating close friendships. Chris also talks about the process of developing deep connection and how rituals come into play. Kyle reinforces the importance of rituals in building and maintaining friendships.
Chris and Kyle provide a number of examples of rituals that they partake in, and Kyle offers advice for creating simple and sustainable rituals. He then talks about how to cultivate inner game, find more inspiration, and improve our mindsets. He emphasizes the importance of taking action even when we don't feel ready. Kyle also shares recommendations for building and refining good habits. Finally, he expands on what it means to be a gentleman, and goes into detail on the most important gentlemanly skills. He leaves us with practical tips for small talk and extracting ourselves from conversations.
Find out more about Kyle: http://www.thedistilledman.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Dawson Church is an award-winning health writer and researcher who has edited and authored a number of books in the fields of health, psychology, and spirituality. His best-selling book, “The Genie in Your Genes,” has been hailed as a breakthrough in our understanding of the link between emotions and genetics. His follow-up book, “Mind to Matter,” reviews the science of peak mental states. Dawson is also the founder of the National Institute for Integrative Healthcare. He shares how to apply the breakthroughs of energy psychology for health and athletic performance through EFT Universe, a site dedicated to alternative medicine.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dawson first talks about how he became interested in energy and healing from a young age. He touches on the different energy therapies and healing modalities that he's been researching over the past 20 years. Dawson then explains the 14 energy meridians in the body, and gives examples of how unblocking them can help with various issues. He also discusses how stress affects the brain, and how energy therapies significantly reduce stress.
Next, Dawson briefly describes some of the healing modalities, including Reiki, EFT, and acupuncture. He goes into the research about how energy flows in the body, and how it can be measured. He also talks about master manifestors and why their brain waves tend to be more highly coherent. Dawson then reveals some of the new research around consciousness, and discusses the importance of replicability and provability of scientific research. He expands on the replication crisis in modern medicine and its potential causes.
Dawson talks more about the process of how our brains and minds create reality, and shares a number of studies and examples from his latest book. He then offers suggestions for people who want to start doing energy work on themselves. He describes additional energy therapies, including movement, nature, EFT and acupressure, as well as meditation. Finally, Dawson discusses the motivation for writing "Genie in Your Genes," and expands on the correlation between energy work and epigenetics.
Find out more about Dr. Church: https://dawsonchurch.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Jeremy McCarthy has worked in the hospitality industry for over 20 years, opening and operating spas in luxury resort hotels. He is currently the director for spas and wellness at Mandarin Oriental Group. He began studying psychology early in his career, and 10 years ago, completed his Master’s degree in Applied Positive Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. Jeremy is the author of the book, “The Psychology of Spas and Wellbeing: A Guide to the Science of Holistic Healing.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jeremy begins by discussing the main principles of applied positive psychology. He goes into detail on the five key human wants/needs: positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning, and achievement. He also touches on the importance of vitality. Jeremy then explains how he applies psychology to his career in building experiences and spas. He describes how spas are one of the few places in modern society where we can disconnect from technology, have time in silence, and experience nurturing touch. He also talks about the key elements of well-being.
Next, Chris and Jeremy share their thoughts on the unhealthiness of the modern food supply, as well as the communal aspect of cooking and eating with other people. Jeremy describes the current epidemic of loneliness and how it negatively impacts our health. Chris and Jeremy also discuss the importance of human touch and why it can't be replaced by technology. They expand on the connection between relationships, wellness, and longevity. Jeremy then revisits the importance of spas and how they contribute to self-healing. We ask him how people can nurture well-being outside of the spa environment.
Finally, Jeremy discusses the importance of spiritual or communal gatherings and spending time outside in nature. He also expands on the holistic approach to wellness in Asian cultures, and goes into detail about mindfulness. He clarifies his views on technology, and then shares his experiences with digital wellness retreats and detoxes. Jeremy reveals some of changes that people experience when stepping away from technology. He then discusses how modern technology is affecting dating and relationships. He leaves us with advice for navigating the challenges of technology and using it to our benefit.
Find out more about Jeremy: psychologyofwellbeing.com
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. David J. Linden is a neuroscience professor at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. He is the author of several books, including “The Accidental Mind,” “The Compass of Pleasure,” “Touch,” and his latest book, “Think Tank.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, David first discusses how neuroscience and the understanding of the brain has changed over the past several decades. He then explains how our senses are influenced by context, expectation, and emotion, and gives some examples of this. David goes into detail about the logical and emotional parts of the brain, and describes how sensory information diverges to these two parts. He also talks about how damage to the logical or emotional side of the brain manifests.
David then explains how signals travel through the brain, as well as how electrical activity becomes unbalanced in certain brain disorders. He goes on to discuss where pleasure comes from, why we experience it, and how our reward circuitry works. David also explains how the neurotransmitter dopamine works, and gives some examples of how we constructively and destructively activate our reward system in everyday life. He talks about additional functions of dopamine and serotonin and how they affect our behavior.
Next, David discusses the social nature of humans, and how our brains attune to the nuances of social interaction, body language, and opinions of others. He also reveals the purpose of emotion, and explains how emotions affect brain function and memory. David then explains how pleasure is produced and experienced in the brain, mind, and body. He goes into more detail about how pleasure is produced during exercise. He also talks about how artificially activating our reward circuitry can lead to compulsion and addiction.
Finally, David expands on the connection between touch, heart, and mind. He discusses how touch activates different parts of the brain and affects our emotions. He then reveals the physical parameters of good touch and explains how we distinguish between positive and negative touch. David also talks about why physical touch is so important for human development, social interaction, and overall health. He closes with some insights and advice for maintaining mental function and having healthier relationships.
Find out more about Dr. Linden: http://davidlinden.org/
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Guest Introduction:
Alex Hutchinson is a National Magazine Award-winning journalist who writes about the science of endurance for Runner's World and Outside, and frequently contributes to other publications such as the New York Times and the New Yorker. He is the author of several books, including “Endure: Mind, Body and the Curiously Elastic Limits of Human Performance.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Alex starts by talking about his background and how he got interested in the science of fitness and endurance. He reveals some of the biggest things he's learned through the process of being a journalist and writing on these subjects. He also explains how the research in recent decades has shifted from the body to the brain to understand the mysteries of endurance. Chris and Alex share their insights on the gap between theory and application. Alex then discusses where he got the idea for his book Endure.
Next, Alex talks about the most surprising and important things he learned during the research and writing process, as well as where the knowledge is still emerging. He explains how people can use subliminal messages to alter their performance. He then goes into more detail on extreme feats such as free diving. Chris and Alex also share their thoughts on Wim Hof and his extreme cold tolerance. Alex expands on the ultimate limits of human performance, and discusses why human athletic records keep occurring.
Alex then expands on the connection between mind and muscle, and explains the difference between muscle fatigue and brain fatigue. He talks about how physical limits are often controlled or influenced by the brain, and reveals how to use motivational self-talk to change our performance. Alex also emphasizes the importance of differentiating between opinions and scientific facts, while also being open to new discoveries. He talks about where he comes across new knowledge through his research.
We ask Alex about some of the other physical limits of the human body that he discovered while writing his book. He dispels a common myth about lactic acid, and touches on the limits of hydration and heat. He clarifies the difference between warning signals and our actual physical limits. Alex also expands on the muscle repair process and explains how muscle memory works. Finally, he offers strategies for training our minds to increase endurance and performance levels. He ends by going into more detail on his research and writing process.
Find out more about Alex: http://www.alexhutchinson.net/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Ann Demarais holds a PhD in psychology from New York University. She is the founder of First Impressions Inc., and has more than 20 years of experience in leadership development, executive coaching, and communication training. She is also the co-author (along with Dr. Valerie White) of the book, “First Impressions: What You Don’t Know About How Others See You.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Ann starts by discussing her background and the work she does with her company. She reveals some common challenges that people face with first impressions. Ann then gives examples of open-ended and follow-up questions to ask in a conversation to show continued interest and take the pressure off. We ask her how to navigate a conversation when someone is talking too much and not giving us the opportunity to express ourselves. She also talks about the importance of making people feel good about themselves.
Next, Ann expands on the idea of social generosity, and describes the four universal social gifts: appreciation, connection, elevation, and enlightenment. She provides examples of how to be thoughtful and give compliments. Ann goes on to explain why first impressions, body language, and facial expressions are so important. She reveals what makes a great first impression, and discusses how to utilize feedback to become more self-aware of the vibes we give off. She also explains how we can train ourselves to make more eye contact and smile more.
Ann then talks more about what it means to be an effective listener, and dispels some common body language myths. She expands on the idea of presence and explains how to use mindfulness to improve the quality of our conversations. Chris discusses how charismatic people express curiosity and make the other person feel important. He also talks about the active process of connection, and how conversational flexibility is a reflection of our social and emotional health. Ann shares some additional insights and revisits the importance of feedback.
Finally, we ask Ann how to distinguish between genuine and unfounded negative feedback. She explains how to effectively handle harsh feedback and assess the validity of feedback that we receive. She also offers strategies for releasing unfounded negative feedback, as well as soliciting feedback from our peers. Ann then talks about the importance of practicing self-acceptance. She leaves us with some insights and practical suggestions for building deeper connection and making better first impressions.
Find out more about Ann: http://www.firstimpressionsconsulting.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Tom Cronin previously worked as a bonds and inflation swaps broker for 26 years. Highly stressed, he turned to meditation for help, and it ended up transforming his life. Tom left his successful career and founded The Stillness Project, which aims to transform and teach people the power of stillness and calm through deep meditation and coaching.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Tom begins by talking about his previous career in finance and living a wild and crazy lifestyle. He then discusses how he got into meditation after having a meltdown in his late 20s, and how it led to a rapid transformation in his life. He goes on to describe several different styles of meditation and their purposes. Tom also gives examples of mantras and explains how to use them in different types of meditation.
Next, Tom discusses brain wave frequencies, and how meditation helps lower our brain waves by reducing mental activity. He also talks about some of the different breathing approaches in meditation. He goes into more detail on the differences between zen meditation and deep transcending meditation. Tom then describes the deep sleep state that people experience when doing transcendental meditation, and how this carries over to everyday life. He offers practical guidelines for developing a consistent meditation practice.
Tom then talks more about contemplative meditation and what it means to set intentions. He also provides advice for setting good intentions, and describes the two main types of intentions: self-serving and spiritual. He goes into detail on using gratitude as a form of meditation, and shares his insights on how this practice might change our experience of life. Tom then touches on loving kindness meditation and similar types of practices. He walks us through the seven chakras and talks about clearing blocked energy.
Finally, Tom shares his insights on the ego, and discusses how different mindfulness practices approach the ego. Chris and Tom talk about different layers of connection and how the ego comes into play. Tom also explains what it means to be an aligned being, and gives examples of zen masters and yogis who fit this description. He closes with practical tips for reclaiming stillness in our day, calming the voice in our heads, and starting a meditation practice.
Find out more about Tom: https://www.tomcronin.com/ https://stillnessproject.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Owen Fitzpatrick is an international best selling author, globetrotting psychologist, trainer, and speaker who is regarded as a leading expert on Influence. He has authored and co-authored several books, including “How to Take Charge of Your Life: The User's Guide to NLP” and “The Charismatic Edge: The Art of Captivating and Compelling Communication.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Owen first describes NLP and how he uses it in his work. He explains how to use NLP to reprogram our visualizations and internal dialogue, as well as communicate with and impact others more effectively. He goes into detail on the various factors that affect the way we feel, including our thoughts, self-talk, physiology, and body budget. Owen talks about how we filter the world through our beliefs. He also offers strategies for becoming aware of and changing limiting beliefs and shifting into more of a growth mindset.
Owen then gives examples of questions we can ask ourselves to identify obstacles and poke holes in our limiting beliefs. He shares some additional insights on NLP and then talks about the other tools he uses in his work. Owen walks us through the process of restructuring our narratives in order to transition from a victim to a hero. He explains how we either change our reality to fit our beliefs or change our beliefs to fit our reality. Chris and Owen also share their thoughts on the relationship between our narratives and skill sets.
Next, Owen talks about positive psychology and the difference between happiness and meaning. He offers strategies for increasing happiness and finding more meaning in our lives. He also discusses the importance of having the ability to be cynical about life while also being optimistic about the future. Owen then expands on the idea of anti-fragility, and offers insights for walking ourselves out of a fragile state. Chris shares two stories of people who went through traumatic experiences, and Owen explains how he'd work through those issues.
Owen goes on to discuss the benefits of mindfulness practice. He describes the three main mindfulness techniques: observing our body, our thoughts, and our environment. He then talks about social awareness and explains how to recognize congruence and body language clusters. Owen also talks about relationship management, and gives examples of questions to ask to learn more about other people. He briefly discusses how he uses cognitive behavioral therapy in his work.
Finally, Owen reveals the essential elements of charisma. He expands on what it means to be more authentic and expressive. He offers strategies for becoming more expressive, and gives some examples. Owen then discusses how to master the art of persuasion and influence. He goes into detail on the three aspects of influence and persuasion: the source of the message, the audience, and the message itself. He leaves us with advice for increasing our influence, having a greater impact, and becoming more of a leader within our social circle.
Find out more about Owen: https://owenfitzpatrick.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Kristen Ulmer was recognized as the best female big mountain extreme skier in the world for 12 years. Since retiring as an athlete in 2003, she spent the next 15 years studying intently with a Zen Master. Kristen is now a thought leader, master facilitator, and fear specialist who radically challenges existing norms around this deeply misunderstood emotion. She is the author of the book, “The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won't Work and What to Do Instead.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Kristen starts by talking about her career as an extreme skier. She explains how repressing fear for many years led to PTSD and started causing problems in her life. She describes fear as the primary emotion beneath many other negative emotions. Kristen then goes into how PTSD manifested in her life, and reveals some of the near death experiences she faced during her skiing career. She also explains how we deal with emotions after trauma determines whether or not we develop PTSD.
Next, Kristen discusses how her repression of emotions showed up in other areas of her life. She reveals some common signs of emotional repression. Chris also talks about the anxieties and traumas he sees in his coaching clients. Kristen then contrasts the way animals and humans deal with fear. She explains how the amygdala triggers the fight or flight response, and gives examples of the consequences of repression. She goes on to emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence and feeling our emotions in an honest way.
Kristen then explains how to go from a repressive to inclusive relationship with fear by starting a fear practice. She walks us through an exercise where we imagine talking to our fear as if we're talking to a person. She discusses how to accept, feel, and become intimate with fear, and gives an example of this process from her own life. Kristen gives additional examples of how to change our language around how we talk about fear. She also shares her insights on dealing with emotion shaming and expressing emotions around others.
Finally, Kristen offers additional strategies for honoring our fear. She talks about some of her work with facilitating ski camps to improve athlete's relationships with fear. She also shares her thoughts on how we're using archaic models of repression in a modern world. Kristen then gives some examples of people who have an intimate relationship with fear. She goes into more detail on her personal journey of changing her relationship with fear and what she learned from this process.
Find out more about Kristen: https://www.kristenulmer.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Art Markman is a cognitive scientist, author, and blogger. He is a professor of Psychology and Marketing at the University of Texas at Austin, and is the Founding Director of the Human Dimensions of Organizations. Art is the co-host of the public radio podcast, “Two Guys on Your Head” for KUT Radio in Austin. He has also authored/co-authored several books, including "Smart Thinking," "Smart Change," and "Habits of Leadership."
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Art begins by talking about the two components of the motivational system. He explains why the go system is much more efficient than the stop system, and offers strategies to leverage the go system and increase our chances of achieving our goals. Art also describes how this process works in the brain, and how the functions of the outer and inner brain structures differ. He goes on to discuss why mindfulness helps us overcome rumination.
Next, Art walks us through the process of reprogramming our brains and developing new habits. Chris talks about how our habits become anchored to relationships. Art then discusses how our communication patterns are laid down early in life. He offers insights on how to break out of old communication patterns and become more open and honest in order to build new trusting relationships. Chris also gives some examples of how he's become more open and honest in recent relationships.
Art references his book "Smart Thinking," and expands on the connection between learning and creativity. Chris and Art share examples of new skills they've learned and how they've impacted other areas of their lives. Art also offers some quick insights for developing habits for long-term wellness and getting out of a rut. Chris describes how having a diverse set of experiences gives him greater diversity of thought. Art then discusses how this process works in the brain, and explains how we draw from our knowledge and our environment.
Finally, Art expands on the relationship between the mind and the body. He talks about how sleep, social interaction, and stress affect our brain health, and offers tips for optimizing these aspects of our lives. Chris describes how we end up dreaming about unresolved issues. Art then goes into more detail on what the brain does during the different stages of sleep. He leaves us with some insights and advice on using language to our advantage, living a life free of regret, and overcoming fear.
Find out more about Dr. Markman: http://www.smartthinkingbook.com/ http://www.kut.org/term/two-guys-your-head
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Guest Introduction:
Keith Mitchell is a former All-Pro NFL football player turned Yogi. As a motivational mindfulness coach and holistic health and fitness advocate, he is committed to providing purposeful holistic tools that help others achieve optimal health, peace, and aliveness to the fullest degree.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Keith first discusses his background, playing in the NFL, and then suffering a spinal injury that ended his career. He explains how learning conscious breathing and meditation helped him recover. He also talks about the importance of forgiving oneself and cultivating self-care and self-love. Keith then discusses why letting go of past trauma and improving our relationship with ourselves is key to finding meaningful connection. He walks us through the process of how he healed himself and became more emotionally open.
Next, Chris talks about how a lot of men have a tough time feeling and articulating their emotions. He also shares his experience going through a connection exercise at Keith's workshop at Wellspring. Keith explains how it helps us look beyond the package and see where the substance is. He expands on the idea of masculine and feminine dynamics, and how it relates to connection and intimacy. Keith then talks about how to ground our energy by adding intention to it, and gives some examples of intentions.
Finally, Keith discusses the importance of nutrition and herbalism. He explains how supplying ourselves with optimal fuel allows the body and mind to function at their highest levels. He also reveals some of the mentors who have most impacted and inspired him on his healing journey, and what he learned from them. Keith then shares his insights on the current state of masculinity and femininity in our culture, and how this dynamic needs to change. He explains how to become more human in order to connect more deeply with ourselves and others.
Find out more about Keith: http://www.keithmitchell59.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete, university coach, martial arts instructor, and college professor, and is now a writer and speaker. After an intensive, twenty-year spiritual quest, Dan’s teaching found its form as the Peaceful Warrior’s Way, expressed fully in his books and lectures. Dan is the bestselling author of 17 books, including “Way of the Peaceful Warrior” and “The Life You Were Born to Live.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan starts by discussing his background and why he developed the peaceful warrior's approach to living. He explains what it means to live as a peaceful warrior, discusses how this approach is based on universal or spiritual law, and offers advice on how to embody this approach. Dan emphasizes the importance of taking constructive action over trying to change our thoughts and feelings. He also explains how to work through our thoughts and feelings by developing presence and pure awareness.
Next, Dan shares some recommendations for becoming more present. He also talks about the shadow side of being centered, where people often go through a phase of enhanced self-consciousness. We ask him why he thinks people who are more mindful and conscious tend to be happier. Dan then goes more in depth about his practice of becoming more conscious, and how it's changed over time. He expands on the idea of looking at daily life as our classroom or spiritual practice. He also gives examples of voluntary adversity, and talks about the hidden gifts of going through adversity.
Finally, Dan offers his insights and advice for finding more purpose in our lives. He walks us through the five universal stages of the creative process as described in his book "The Creative Compass." He then talks about how to bring happiness to others and practice having compassion for ourselves. Dan explains the Goldilocks principle of relationships, and shares some insights and lessons that he's learned from his 43-year marriage. He also reveals the three questions that he contemplates on a regular basis to nurture and strengthen his relationship.
Find out more about Dan: http://www.peacefulwarrior.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Shad Helmstetter is widely considered one of the pioneering leaders in the field of self-talk. He is the best-selling author of more than twenty books in the field of personal growth, including the classic “What to Say When You Talk to Your Self,” as well as “The Power of Neuroplasticity” and the “365 Days of Positive Self-Talk” series. Shad is also the founder of The Self-Talk Institute and The Life Coach Institute.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Shad begins by talking about how he got into motivational psychology and self-talk. He explains why thoughts are the number one tool for rewiring the brain. He then discusses how to identify negative self-talk, and gives several examples. Shad offers strategies to identify our self talk, including being more mindful and uncovering the roots of our fears, as well as observing how others respond and react to us. He also explains how developing the habit of self-observation leads to self-awareness, which is the first step to confidence.
Next, Shad discusses how we were all born to be successful, and how over time our minds get programmed by ourselves and others. He recommends starting a daily mindfulness habit, and writing down our negative thoughts, beliefs, and feelings to become aware of them. Shad then explains how neuroplasticity works and what the left and right prefrontal cortex control. He reveals why positive thinkers grow more neurons in the left prefrontal cortex, while negative thinkers grow more neurons in the right prefontal cortex.
Shad explains how the amygdala triggers the fight-flight response, and how positive self-talk helps tame this response. He then gives examples of positive self-talk, and talks about how to change our self-talk to rewire our brains. Shad reveals how long this process takes to have an impact. He gives examples of the self-talk topics he has created, and explains how to recognize what area we need to focus on. Chris also shares a story about a former client who was able to connect with people much more easily after changing his internal dialogue.
Finally, Shad offers practical tips on developing a daily self-talk practice. He talks about how self-talk helps improve various aspects of our lives, such as self-esteem, health, relationships, and more. He also describes how everything is interconnected, and improving one area of our lives leads to positive changes in other areas. Shad then gives examples of what self-talk topics to focus on together, and cautions against doing too much at once. He leaves us with some insights for living happier, healthier, and more meaningful and connected lives.
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Jon Levy is a behavior scientist, consultant, writer, and keynote speaker best known for his work in the fields of influence, networking, and adventure. He is the founder of The Influencers Dinner and The Salon, and the author of “The 2AM Principle: Discover the Science of Adventure.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jon first provides a detailed definition of adventure, and then walks us through the four stage process that all adventurous experiences follow. He emphasizes the importance of finding the right group of people, exploring a novel environment, and setting goals or constraints on our behavior. Jon also talks about how to push boundaries and increase the emotional value of the environment that we're in. He gives a number of examples and shares some of the crazy adventures that he's experienced.
Jon then explains how the scope of our lives are directly proportional to our willingness to be uncomfortable. He discusses the benefits of adventure, as well as the biggest mistakes people make when pursuing adventure. He also describes what the peak-end rule is, and how to recognize when to end an adventure at the right time. We then shift gears and ask Jon about his work on influence and community building. He reveals the two factors that are key to achieving anything in life.
Jon talks about creating The Influencers Dinner, and shares some of the interesting experiences and conversations from these events. He discusses the main elements for building great community, from big picture ideas to specific details. Chris explores some of the community ideas he's been developing recently. Jon also gives examples of important questions to ask ourselves before starting a community. He talks about some of his favorite communities, and reveals what makes them so strong and successful.
Finally, Jon offers recommendations for those who want to build a circle of their people. He also gives examples of possible groups to start, and talks about a group he recently started to help marginalized communities. Jon and Chris then discuss some of the organizations that they're involved with, and what they've learned from these experiences. Jon leaves us with some insights on letting go of self-consciousness and focusing our energy on fun and productive activities.
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Dr. John Arden is a psychologist with over 40 years of experience providing psychological services and directing mental health programs. His study of neuropsychology has inspired him to integrate neuroscience and psychotherapy, synthesizing the biological and psychological into a new vision for psychotherapy, known as Brain-Based Therapy. John is the author of 15 books, including “Rewire Your Brain,” “The Brain Bible,” and his latest publication “Mind-Brain-Gene,” which will be released on January 15th, 2019.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, John starts by discussing his focus on integrating various psychological perspectives and finding common denominators. He describes the main schools of psychology and gives examples of similar therapy approaches that use different language. John goes on to talk about secure and insecure attachment styles in both children and adults. He then gives some examples of how insecure attachment affects our brains and our behavior.
Next, John debunks some pop psych myths and clarifies the difference between motor functions and how the cortex responds to and interprets our environment. He explains how anxiety and depression lead to avoidance, which makes those problems even worse. He then talks about temperament, and how we're all born with different emotional patterns. John also describes how we can rewire our brains and adopt new behaviors through nurturing. He provides examples of how to nurture self-care by challenging ourselves and expanding our comfort zones.
Chris gives an example of working through issues with a client. John explains how exposure helps us overcome anxiety and induces neuroplasticity in the brain. He gives additional examples of how humans are exceptionally adaptive. Chris and John then share their insights on what might be driving the current political and social regression. John also explains how stress and fear make us more reactive and inhibit our ability to process complex ideas, and Chris offers some examples of this from his own life.
John then discusses the five main factors of brain health: social connection, exercise, education, diet, and sleep. He describes how each of these factors affect our physical and psychological health, and offers strategies for optimizing them. Finally, John talks about how traumas are imprinted in our memory. He shares advice on how to depreciate these patterns and balance our stress response so that we can connect more deeply with ourselves and others. He also explains the concept of epigenetics and how lifestyle influences gene expression.
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Ed Latimore is a former heavyweight boxer, physics major, writer, and speaker. Drawing from his unique life experiences, Ed blogs about self-improvement and shares the methods and strategies he used to turn his life around. He is also the author of several books, including “Not Caring What Other People Think Is a Super Power: Insights From A Heavyweight Boxer,” and a new book called "Sober Letters to My Drunk Self," which will be dropping on December 23rd.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Ed first talks about his background and the struggles he faced earlier in his life, and what inspired him to start making changes. He discusses how he tapped into his vision of becoming an accomplished man. He also expands on the idea of wanting to feel in control of himself and his life. Chris then talks about how competency and health leads to a greater sense of control. Ed agrees, and stresses the importance of cultivating general life skills and physical and mental fortitude.
Next, Ed and Chris talk about having regrets and wishing they did things differently. Ed explains why dealing with struggle is actually better for our personal growth than having things go well. He also reveals what holds a lot of young men back, and discusses the idea of delaying gratification in order to achieve long-term success. Chris talks about past relationships not working out because he didn't have other aspects of his life together. Ed then explains how financial stability affects the types of relationships we can pursue.
Finally, Ed and Chris describe how overcoming challenges leads to the wisdom that they use for the basis of their work. Ed talks about his struggles with overcoming negative habits, quitting drinking, and his mission in talking about sobriety. He explains how true confidence comes from having competency and mastery. Ed and Chris also talk about the importance of being honest and congruent with ourselves and communicating that to others. They emphasize the importance of taking risks, making mistakes, and learning.
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Christopher Sunyata coaches people how to lean into intensity while still remaining open and relaxed no matter how challenging life gets, expanding their success at work into success with family and intimate relationships. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, Christopher teaches us how to access our own depth by learning to listen to and trust our body, reclaiming our passion and life energy, and creating intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Christopher starts by discussing his background and how he got into the work that he does. He talks about coming to the realization that he was contributing to a lot of dysfunction in his relationship. Christopher also shares his experience studying under David Deida, and explains how he used yoga and breathwork to reconnect with his body and increase intimacy in his relationship. He then recounts a traumatic event he went through as a child, and describes how he carried this trauma in his body and breath for years later.
Christopher explains how he released his trauma through yoga and meditation. He goes into more detail on specific practices, including hatha yoga and holotropic breathing, and Chris describes his experience at a holotropic breathing class. He also expands on the idea of heart intelligence and how breathwork helps us access it. Christopher then talks about suppressing emotions, and how men's groups provide a trusting environment for us to express our emotions and release trauma. We ask him how his transformation has affected his relationships.
Next, Christopher discusses how the inner work and meditation practices helped him through the divorce process with his first wife and helped him overcome depression. He also describes how his life has been better than ever since meeting a new woman and getting remarried. Chris then talks about how men’s work has given him a broader vocabulary to express his emotions and understand other people's emotions. Christopher goes on to explain how inner work affects intimacy. He discusses the potential for spiritual realization through sexuality.
Christopher then explains how men can develop multi-orgasmic capacity. He discusses how to experience greater pleasure during sex by peeling away the ego, increasing awareness, and surrendering to vulnerability. He also offers strategies and resources for men who want to build deeper connection and intimacy. Finally, Christopher expands on the idea of looking at your partner as a mirror. He talks about how to guide a woman through authentic pleasure. He offers some last insights on how to connect more deeply with ourselves, our life force, and our partner.
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Matt Fitzgerald is an endurance coach, sports nutritionist, and bestselling author of more than 20 books, including “The Endurance Diet” and “80/20 Triathlon.” Matt has been a runner since age 11, and today he’s going to share the wisdom that he's gained through his personal experience, and from studying the world's best athletes.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Matt begins by talking about his love for running and writing, and how he combined these passions into a meaningful career. He explains how he learned to trust his intuition and follow his bliss. We ask Matt where he uses his intuition in other areas of his life. He discusses his marriage, and shares the story about how he met his wife, and how their relationship evolved over time. Matt also reveals the most important lessons that he's learned from his experience in endurance sports. He explains how running has helped him develop a higher level of mental toughness and resilience.
Matt then discusses how he overcame intense anxiety before races. He offers advice for people who want to get into endurance athletics. He also reveals common mistakes that people make when first getting started, and gives examples of external motivators that might hold people back. Matt goes on to talk about the educational and social components of competitive racing. He describes the differences between recreational and elite athletes. He also emphasizes the importance of choosing advisors carefully, and talks about some more training myths and mistakes.
Next, Matt explains what professional athletes do consistently well. He talks about balancing mental toughness with self-trust and good judgement. He also describes his experience living and training with a group of professional runners last summer, and shares some of their motivators. Matt then goes into detail on their training and workout routines, as well as their daily schedules. He discusses what they eat, and gives some examples of their typical meals. He shares his thoughts on the benefits and drawbacks of different diets, and offers advice on how to determine our optimal diet.
Finally, Matt describes how he works with his clients to develop sustainable diets by making small changes. Chris talks about using intuition to listen to our body, as well as how his cravings change depending on how in or out of shape he is. Matt then discusses some of the rehab strategies that elite athletes use. He references his recent injuries and explains what he did to recover. He also talks about common stretches and warm up routines that athletes do before workouts. Matt leaves us with his thoughts on the importance of mentorship and coaching, and how to find the right people.
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Mark Gober is the author of the book, “An End to Upside Down Thinking: Dispelling the Myth That the Brain Produces Consciousness, and the Implications for Everyday Life.” His worldview attempts to flip the prevailing view in science that consciousness comes from the brain. Mark has became convinced that biology does not produce consciousness; rather, consciousness produces biology. Today, he’s going to share his theories on human consciousness, and what that means for our lives.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Mark first talks about how he got interested in the topic of consciousness. He breaks down the old paradigm that biology produces consciousness, and then defines what consciousness is. He explains where he thinks it comes from, and what led him to that conclusion. Mark then references a couple of phenomena, including particle entanglement and the observer effect, which show how physics breaks down at very small scales. He expands on his theory that consciousness experiences itself through different physical lenses.
Next, we ask Mark how this idea has changed the way he thinks about and approaches the world. Chris explores some counterarguments and possible limitations of Mark's theory. Mark then talks about near death experiences and provides some examples from his book. He goes on to discuss "wizard-like abilities" such as telepathy, precognition, and remote viewing, and reveals the scientific evidence for these phenomena. Chris shares his insights and connects Mark's theories to modern technology.
Mark then explains what psychokinesis is and offers additional examples and evidence. Chris comments on the limitations of the human mind. Finally, we ask Mark about the implications of this new paradigm of consciousness in terms of how we feel and how we relate to each other. He expands on the notion of interconnectedness, and how it becomes irrational to do harm to others if we're all part of the same consciousness. Chris also relates Mark's ideas to autonomous cars and human needs, and Mark offers some last insights.
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Dr. Joshua Weiss is a speaker, consultant, and negotiation and conflict resolution expert. He is the co-founder, along with William Ury, of the Global Negotiation Initiative at Harvard University and a Senior Fellow at the Harvard Negotiation Project. Joshua has designed and facilitated negotiation and conflict resolution solutions for businesses, global organizations, governments, and individuals. He is the author of “Trouble at the Watering Hole,” and “The Negotiator in You.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Joshua starts by discussing his background and how he got into negotiation and conflict resolution. He explains why conflict occurs, and how people can benefit from learning the skills of negotiation. Joshua then gives some examples of how to use negotiation in our relationships and everyday life. He talks about the importance of slowing down the process and understanding what's important to the other side. He also explains the difference between tangible and intangible needs.
Next, Joshua reveals some of the silent barriers to negotiation, including assumptions and psychological biases. He walks us through a negotiation tool called the Ladder of Inference, and explains how it works. He then gives an example of how he works with his clients to recognize and check their assumptions. Joshua goes on to describe some other silent problems in negotiation, including confirmation bias, entrapment, and suppressing emotions. He also explains how to embrace negotiations in an emotionally intelligent way.
We ask Joshua how to manage emotionally charged negotiations. He emphasizes the importance of stepping away and settling down before making decisions. He also explains how to empathize and understand the other person's motivations and intentions. Chris then talks about how the negotiation process often helps him gain clarity on his intent. Joshua discusses how to adequately prepare for negotiation. He references Ron Heifetz's “Leadership Without Easy Answers” and “Leadership on the Line,” as well as Mike Wheeler's "The Art of Negotiation."
Chris talks about control and how unexpected things can cause us to become angry, frustrated, or anxious, and taint our communication. Joshua discusses the balance betwen planning and going with the flow. He then explains why effective listening is so important in negotiation, and offers tips on how to become a better listener. Joshua also describes the two conversation modes: debate mode and dialogue mode. He expands on the idea of gathering information in a non-confrontational manner, and provides examples of great questions to ask.
Joshua goes on to discuss the role of empathy in persuasion. He also clarifies the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness, and offers advice on asserting ourselves and our interersts more effectively. Finally, Joshua explains why it's important to shift from a mindset of competition to cooperation in negotiation, and gives a practical examples of how to implement this. He describes the two main approaches to negotiation: positional and collaborative. He then offers some last words of wisdom and shares his favorite negotiation resources.
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UJ Ramdas is the Co-Creator of the Five Minute Journal and Co-Founder at Intelligent Change, a company that takes leading psychology research and real-world tested self-improvement advice and distills it into actionable tools that help people make lasting positive change.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, UJ begins by discussing what inspired him to get into self-improvement. He talks about moving from India to Canada alone at age 17, and what he learned from this experience. UJ then goes into some of the self-improvement concepts that most resonated with him. He also references Tony Robbins, and explains how journaling and reading books helped him crystallize ideas and gave him the confidence to go after what he wanted.
UJ expands on the idea of having to grow up when he moved to Canada. He talks about not wasting time, making decisions, and learning to survive on his own. He also explains why and how he was emotionally closed off for a long time, and how this affected various aspects of his life. We then ask UJ to describe his process for expanding his emotional vocabulary and reconnecting with his feelings. He discusses the importance of learning to process and heal emotional trauma.
Next, UJ goes in depth on his process for releasing trauma. He provides a detailed definition of trauma, gives examples of possible causes, and explains how trauma works and affects us. He also gives examples of addictive behaviors that we might use to numb emotional pain, and programs or statements that get locked into the pain. UJ then discusses the benefits of expanding our range of emotions. He talks about how to unnumb pain and reprogram ourselves by removing addictions and getting in touch with our feelings.
UJ goes on to discuss the importance of journaling and how it has impacted his life. He walks us through the five questions that he developed for the Five Minute Journal. He also shares some of the benefits of consistent journaling, and offers advice for developing a consistent journaling practice. Finally, UJ recommends a few books around trauma, including "The Drama of the Gifted Child," "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts," and "The Artist's Way." He leaves us with a simple tip: to make someone smile today.
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Tim JP Collins is a speaker, coach, and the host of The Anxiety Podcast. Drawing from his own personal experience, he provides coaching, education, accountability, and peer support to help people overcome anxiety and reclaim their lives.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Tim first shares a story about having a panic attack during a work presentation. He talks about how this led to a major meltdown in his life, where he started questioning everything, and even contemplated suicide. He then discusses why anxiety is a sign that your life is out of alignment, and gives some examples of how dysfunction can manifest.
Tim goes on to talk about the tools he discovered to help overcome his anxiety. He emphasizes the importance of diet and exercise, and describes the specific changes that he made. He also discusses some of the major life changes he made, including quitting his job and moving across the country. Tim then reveals some of the common underlying issues that fuel anxiety. He talks about how self-criticism, resistance, and avoidance make anxiety more intense.
Next, Tim discusses why acknowledging, accepting, feeling, and sharing your anxiety is the key to overcoming it. Chris offers his insights on sharing our feelings with others, and talks about how some people reciprocate, while others close off. Tim cautions against oversharing, and expands on the idea of respectfully sharing with the right intensity, intent, and articulation. He also talks about how vulnerability deepens our relationships.
We ask Tim how to deal with people who are emotionally shut down, and he offers advice on finding the right people to share with. Chris talks about some of the groups and organizations that he's been involved with, and how he's benefited from them. Tim then describes his first experience attending a retreat, as well as starting his own retreat for people in his community.
Finally, Tim discusses how his work and healing journey has changed him since his meltdown. He shares his gratitude, and talks about the moving messages that he receives from people he helps. He then goes into detail on the diet, exercise, and lifestyle practices that he's used to overcome anxiety. Tim explains how he intentionally picks the people that he surrounds himself with. He also offers insights on developing organic confidence and resilience.
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Suzanne Eder is an award-winning writer, teacher, healer, and personal guide with over 15 years of experience helping clients to develop self-love and learn how to listen to and act on their intuition. She authors a monthly column in Living Well Magazine, and she is the author of the book, “10 Ways to Find Peace Rather Than Panic When the World Has Gone a Little Crazy.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Suzanne first talks about her background and what inspired her to get into energy healing and wellness. She discusses some of the most important concepts that she learned from her education at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing. Suzanne explains how our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and intentions create our experience. She also gives some examples of how she has seen this manifest in her life.
We ask Suzanne how someone can differentiate between their soul's true longings and needs that might originate from external or societal influences. Chris and Suzanne also talk about how our desires tend to evolve and change over time. Suzanne offers advice on finding our calling and moving towards greater fulfillment. She then shares a story to illustrate how her work has impacted the lives of her clients.
Next, Suzanne discusses how we can create space to develop awareness and connect with our intuition. She goes into detail on how to set intentions, and offers effective strategies for connecting with our intuition, including meditation, mindful movement, and journaling. Suzanne also guides us through a simple meditation from the Institute of Heartmath. She then gives examples of open-ended questions to ask ourselves when journaling.
Suzanne explains how to practice being an advocate for ourselves and build energetic momentum towards what we want. She talks about how building momentum not only generates ideas in our minds, but attracts opportunities right to us. Suzanne gives an example of this from her own life. She then expands on the concept of vibrational mix, and what causes us to feel conflicting thoughts and emotions.
Next, we ask Suzanne how somebody can recognize that they’re feeling an irrational fear. She explains where fears originate from, as well as why we tend to attract what we fear. Suzanne emphasizes the importance of developing a sense of self-worth and strengthening our relationship with ourselves before building a relationship with someone else. She reveals common signs that we need more self-love, and talks about how to cultivate it.
Suzanne goes on to discuss how identify and challenge limiting beliefs. She also explains how to become mindful of our self-talk and disengage from fears, doubts, and judgements. Finally, Suzanne discusses how beliefs and intentions impact the way we show up in the world, and provides examples. She talks about why it's important to continually create emotional and psychological space in order to stay in touch with our intuition.
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Dr. Faith Harper is a licensed professional counselor and board supervisor, certified sexologist, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified applied clinical nutritionist in private practice in San Antonio, TX. She is the author of several books, including “This is Your Brain on Anxiety: What Happens and What Helps” and “Unfuck Your Brain: Using Science to Get Over Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Freak-outs, and Triggers.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Faith begins by talking about anxiety, where it originates from, and why we experience it. She goes into detail on four main strategies for dealing with anxiety: behavioral activation, grounding, stress management response, and hypnotherapy. Faith also discusses how to approach emotions with neutrality and curiosity. She explains how labeling, fighting, or holding onto emotions intensifies and prolongs them.
Chris then talks about expressing and repressing emotions, and Faith expands on the differences in emotional vulnerability between men and women. We ask her how a man can evolve from unawareness to a point where he’s aligned with his own values and sense of integrity. Faith explains how to approach ourselves with self-compassion. She also talks about taking responsibility for our reactions and responses to others. She gives some examples of how to express emotions in different situations.
Next, Faith discusses how people change the dynamics of relationships when they change, and why people are often resistant to change. She goes into detail on how anxiety affects our minds and bodies, and references Robert Sapolsky's "Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers." She also explains why depression and anxiety are two ends of the same cord. Faith then expands on how emotions are stored in the body and brain. She describes what EAM memories are, how they're created, and how they're activated.
Faith talks about pendulating emotions, titrating responses, and figuring out where we feel emotions in our bodies. She explains how somatics and mindful movement practices such as yoga and qigong help with building awareness of our bodies and responses, as well as trauma recovery. Faith goes into more detail on what somatic therapy is and how it works. She references Peter Levine's books, including "Waking the Tiger," and David Emerson's work with trauma sensitive yoga.
Next, Faith explains what fascia is, how accupunture activates it, and how fascia connects to different nerves. She also talks about neurofeedback, which we discuss more in depth on our podcast with Dr. Andrew Hill. She goes on to explain how depression affects our minds and bodies, and refences her new book: "This is Your Brain on Depression." Faith offers some strategies for overcoming depression, and emphasizes the importance of self-care.
Faith then discusses how nutrition and physical health affects the brain. She talks about common vitamin and nutrient deficiencies, and shares her insights on different diets, including keto, paleo, and vegan. She also offers practical advice on choosing the right diet. Faith then explains why movement is so important, and goes into more detail on qigong. She describes what happens in the body physiologically that causes us to feel better when we move and exercise. She references Dr. Ray Long's books on yoga.
Finally, Faith talks about the benefits of mindfulness, and offers practical tips for meditating. She also shares her insights and advice for dealing with difficult people and situations, and references another new book she has coming out: "Coping Skills." Faith then discusses the relationship between healing and connection, as well as what makes for great connection. She explains how she models healthy relationships in her therapy practice. Faith leaves us with advice for improving our interactions and bringing our best selves to the table.
Find out more about Dr. Harper: https://www.faithgharper.com http://www.theintimacydr.com
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Ali Zain has been one of Chris Luna's best friends for many years. Today, we have him on the show to talk about his personal transformation and how he cultivated deeper intimacy and connection in his dating and sex life.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Ali starts by discussing his background, dating experience, and journey of personal exploration. Chris and Ali talk about why there's a lot of potential shame associated with sexual ability. They also explore the idea of modern male role models, and how bad role models can cause us to develop warped perspectives. Ali then explains the three types of approaches that men have regarding sex. He explains the importance of letting go of the ego and being present in order to develop deeper intimacy and connection.
Next, Ali talks about the lies we tell ourselves, and shares the realizations that he's had when it comes to accepting and embracing insecurities. Chris talks about guys who have sexual problems due to anxieties and insecurities. Ali offers some practical tips for overcoming these issues. He then goes into the second part of his story, including his wellness journey that led him to become a more well-rounded person. Ali describes his experiences at various personal development retreats and seminars. He also explains why he quit porn, ejaculation, and sex for two and a half years, and how this changed him.
Chris asks Ali about an article that he wrote on The Good Men Project, which ended up going viral. He discusses why he wrote it, what it meant to him, and what he wanted to communicate. He also explains how he's become more open and honest about his intentions with women. Ali then talks about what he gained from going to various personal development workshops and retreats. He reveals some of the issues that he was dealing with at the time, including anger and self-hate. He discusses how these issues manifested in his life, and what he did to overcome them.
Ali goes on to talk about how porn reinforces the need for sexual variety. He explains how it made him less present, and then expands on the idea of being present, particularly in dating and sex. He also describes how he used to feel very disconnected after sex, and why becoming more open and vulnerable helped him to work through this. Finally, Ali talks about how his sex life has changed since going through his personal transformation. He discusses tantric sex and full-body orgasms. He then offers some last tips and recommendations for experiencing greater intimacy and connection, and having better sex.
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Dr. Andrew Hill is one of the top peak performance coaches in the country. He holds a PhD in Cognitive Neuroscience from UCLA's department of Psychology, and continues to do research on attention and cognitive performance. Dr. Hill is the founder of Peak Brain Institute, and host of the Head First Podcast with Dr. Hill. He is also the Lead Neuroscientist at truBrain, and lectures at UCLA, teaching courses in psychology, neuroscience, and gerontology.
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Interview Summary:
In this interview, Andrew starts by discussing his background and the work he does in neuroscience and peak performance. He then describes the process of neurofeedback, and gives examples of brain problems that it can be used to treat. Andrew also explains how the brain evaluates our environment, attention, and behavior. He goes into detail on how PTSD affects the brain, mind, and body, as well as how it can be measured and treated.
Next, Andrew explains how brain neurons fire and communicate with each other. He describes the different brain wave frequencies (delta, alpha, and beta) and reveals what activities cause our brain waves to increase and decrease. He then discusses how brain waves are measured, and how positive reinforcement works in neurofeedback. Andrew reveals how many neurofeedback sessions it takes before people start seeing significant changes. He also talks about how neurofeedback helps the brain become unstuck and more flexible over time.
Andrew then discusses how he would work with people who are in depression. He talks about some of the subtle side effects of neurofeedback, and why it's not a one size fits all approach. We ask Andrew how people can nurture brain health by paying attention to their bodies. He discusses the benefits of mindfulness and meditation, and offers advice on developing a mindfulness practice. He also recommends loading up our working memory and directing attention on certain types of tasks to combat anxiety and stress.
Chris talks about having better focus after cutting out excessive consumption of news and social media. Andrew then shares his insights on managing stress and being selective about the information we engage with. FInally, he explains the process of neuroplasticity and how the brain changes. Andrew discusses how nootropics and biohacking improve brain health. He also recommends seeing a functional medicine doctor to check for health issues that impact cognitive function. He leaves us with more information about Peak Brain's services.
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Guest Introduction:
Dan Brule is a modern day teacher and healer. He is a world-renown pioneer in the field of Breathwork, and leader of the worldwide Spiritual Breathing movement. Dan trains people to use the power of breath and breathing to relax and energize their body, focus and expand their mind, calm and balance their emotions, and nourish and uplift their soul. He is the author of several books, including “Just Breathe: Mastering Breathwork for Success in Life, Love, Business, and Beyond.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan first discusses his background and what inspired him to get into breathwork. He talks about traveling through India and China in search of eastern breathing practices, and reveals what he learned on this journey. He then explains the two main aspects of breathwork: breath awareness and conscious breathing. Dan gives examples of how conscious breathing impacts the body and mind. He also talks about reconnecting to creativity by reconnecting to our body and spirit.
Chris describes how men often disconnect from their emotions, and Dan explains how to channel emotional energy through the breath. Dan shares a story about coaching Tony Robbins to show how combining relaxation and breathing unlocks our potential. We then ask Dan how to recognize if our body is relaxed. He discusses muscle relaxation and breath awareness, and walks us through the box breathing technique. He also explains how relaxation and breathing enhance the three centers of consciousness.
Next, Dan explains the two main branches of the nervous system. He describes diphragmatic breathing and how it activates the vagus nerve. Dan also discusses how to recognize if we're breathing properly, and describes the three breathing spaces in the body. He talks about how threats and emotional suppression lock up the breath. Chris then shares his experience of working through traumas and breathing into his emotions. We ask Dan about the benefits of being connected to our emotions. He also elaborates on the Aikido principle of one-pointedness.
Dan goes on to explain how we bury traumas and emotions in the subconscious mind. He discusses how to recognize if we're supressing, as well as how to connect with and release trapped emotions. He also describes how breathing affects our sensitivity and intuition. Chris shares a story about a time when he felt hypersensitive to people's emotions. Dan then clarifies the difference between sensitivity and hyperreactivity, and talks about how the primal brain works. He offers basic breathing techniques to release tension, such as sighing and yawning.
Dan discusses how to experiment with the parameters of the breath. He also talks about slowing the breath down for anti-anxiety effects. Dan reveals the health benefits of breathing in the range of 4-8 breaths per minute. He references Dr. Richard Brown and discusses Coherent Breathing. He then explains what heart rate variability is and how breathwork improves it. Dan also talks about how we develop breathing patterns that create stress and anxiety. He describes how to undo this by monitoring the breath and training ourselves to slow it down.
Finally, Dan discusses the physiological practice of breath awareness and conscious breathing. He explains what prana, chi, and life force mean, and how they're connected with breathing. Dan also talks about using modern technology to measure the scientific benefits of breathwork. He discusses how our breathing patterns influence our emotional, psychological, and physiological state. Dan leaves us with some practical tips to build awareness, breathe more consciously, and develop a breathwork practice.
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Guest Introduction:
Nate Bagley is a relationship researcher on a mission to rid the world of mediocre love and help people create amazing relationships. He is the founder of The Loveumentary Podcast, as well as his blog, First 7 Years, and is the CEO and co-founder of Unbox Love.
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Interview Summary:
In this interview, Nate begins by describing his early struggles with dating and love. He talks about how he quit his job and started traveling around the country interviewing couples, and shares a story of one couple that stands out to him the most. Chris also discusses a recent breakup and some of his past struggles with relationships. Nate goes on to reference a recent Jordan Peterson talk that he attended, and summarizes his insights on self-awareness, vulnerability, and trust.
We then ask Nate to discuss the qualities of couples that make their relationships stand out. He emphasizes the importance of dedication to personal growth, and prioritizing action over insights. He also explains how partners can get on the same page and implement these concepts. Nate then gives some examples of how he and his wife assess their relationship and make each other feel loved. He discusses additional qualities of great couples, including kindness, and shares a story of another memorable couple that he has interviewed.
Next, Nate talks about how to develop healthy relationships, deal with difficult situations, and express kindness even when being emotional. Chris expands on navigating the line between presence and vulnerability, and how this affects the people around him as well as his emotions. Nate goes on to discuss the importance of focusing on the little things, and explains why great relationships are built on rituals. He gives some examples of rituals that he and his wife have created. He also reveals the connection between the ratio of positive to negative interactions and the health of a relationship.
Chris and Nate then talk about doing AirBnB and share their thoughts on space and intimacy. Nate discusses the pervasiveness of loneliness, and how it negatively affects our health. He summarizes a book that he recently read called "Hold Me Tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson. He goes on to provide some more examples of rituals that he does with his wife and that he's seen in other couples. Nate offers strategies for resolving conflict, reigniting passion, and discussing finances. He also expands on the benefits of doing chores together.
Finally, Nate discusses how to develop the skill of being intentional with your relationships. He talks about knowing and incorporating your values into your everyday life, and shares some of his most important values. Chris expands on his desire to nurture his sense of humor and playfulness, and Nate connects humor to the idea of telling the truth and feeling safe. Nate then highlights the keys to awesome relationships, and talks about what leads to trust and deep connection.
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Guest Introduction:
Tripp Lanier is a professional coach who works with people all over the world to help them get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing the work they were meant to do. He is also the host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp, where he interviews experts and authors from all walks of life.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Tripp starts by discussing his background, why he got into personal development, and how he became a coach. He talks about how we often fall into the trap of running away from what we're trying to avoid, rather than moving towards what we want. Tripp then reveals the four things that everyone wants to experience: freedom, aliveness, peace, and love. He expands on what it means to have the freedom to be who we truly are. He also talks about developing self-awareness so that we can tap into our inner guidance system.
Next, Tripp describes what it means to feel a sense of peace. He explains how trying to outrun our shadows undermines us, and talks about how to bring our shadows into the light. Tripp then expands on what aliveness entails. He discusses how to navigate the space between comfort and uncertainty to get more fun and enjoyment our of life. He gives some examples of how he pushes both his coaching clients and himself into new territory. Chris also talks about how he feels most alive when he's living on the line between presence and vulnerability.
Finally, Tripp discusses how setting rules and going on autopilot causes us to shrink back into comfort. He goes on to talk about the importance of having love and connection in our lives. Chris shares his insights about a recent breakup, and explains how traumas prevent us from connecting and being present. Tripp describes how we become armored, and why letting go of our armor leads to more rewarding relationships and interactions. He also cautions against judging others where they are on their journey, and getting stuck in relationships for who we want the other person to be.
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Richard Brown is an Associate Clinical Professor in Psychiatry at Columbia University. He has taught and worked as an integrative psychiatrist for over 30 years, and is also a certified teacher of Aikido, yoga, Qigong, and Open Focus Meditation. Throughout his career, Richard has developed novel treatments—herbs, nutrients, mind-body practices, and other technologies—for people who didn’t respond to conventional medicines. He has authored and co-authored numerous books and publications, including “How to Use Herbs, Nutrients, and Yoga in Mental Health Care” and “The Healing Power of the Breath.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Richard first discusses his background, the work he does, and how he got into it. He talks about the various mind-body techniques that he's learned over the years, and how he incorporates them into his practice. He also describes the five ways that our lives change when we adopt a spiritual practice. Richard then goes into more detail on meditation and breathing. He discusses some of the research that shows the physical and mental benefits of meditation and breathing practices. He also talks about the different people and groups that he's worked with throughout his career.
We ask Richard how breathing and meditation help people deal with the traumas that they acquire. He explains how emotional traumas take us out of the present, and how breathing and meditation increase presence. Richard then discusses how the nervous system works, and how we carry stress in our bodies. He describes the stress response or sympathetic branch of the nervous system, and its two components: the stop/look and pleasure/reward system. He also talks about how long-term stress affects the nervous system.
Next, Richard explains how neurochemicals such as dopamine and endorphins are released, and how they affect us. He talks about how exposing the body to a range of challenges tones up the nervous system, and references Scott Carney's book "What Doesn't Kill Us." He then describes the soothing/bonding or parasympathetic branch of the nervous system. Richard gives some examples of activities that release oxytocin in the brain. He also explains what the vagal nerve is and how it functions. He discusses how breathing practices enhance the soothing/bonding system and improve our stress response.
Richard goes on to reveal the rate of breathing that has an optimal effect on the body and mind. He references a few studies that show the incredible benefits of a long-term slow breathing practice. He then describes the three phases of how PTSD develops. Richard explains how stress interferes with our ability to relate and work with others. He also talks about how breathing improves heart rate variability, and why heart rate variability is the single best predictor of health. He describes what coherent or resonant breathing is, and walks us through how to practice it.
Richard discusses how breathing synchronizes our body, mind, and spirit, and how this enhances cognitive function. He shares a story about a client who overcame multiple addictions and transformed his life after developing a consistent breathing and qigong routine. Chris then talks about acquiring traumas, having a breakdown, and using mind-body techniques to heal himself and gain clarity. Finally, Richard expands on the analogy of thinking of your mind as a tablecloth. He emphasizes the importance of practice, and reminds us that it takes time to build up these skills, but they are life-changing in the long run.
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Isaiah Hankel received his doctorate in Anatomy & Cell Biology and is an expert on mental focus, behavioral psychology, and career development. He is the founder and CEO of Cheeky Scientist®, a career training company that specializes in helping PhDs transition into corporate careers. He is also the director of Hankel Leadership®. Isaiah is the author of several books, including “Black Hole Focus” and “The Science of Intelligent Achievement.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Isaiah begins by discussing his background in academia and the various projects that he's working on. He explains what Cheeky Scientist® does, and talks about his motivation for creating it. Isaiah then reveals the biggest gaps between formal education and industry jobs. He talks about the importance of confidence and changing our perspective to open up new opportunities. He also expands on the curse of knowledge and how uncertainty is tough to deal with.
Chris talks about how we craft narrative for ourselves, and Isaiah explains how we create an indentity through our narratives. Isaiah shares his personal journey, and offers some strategies for breaking away from our identity and carving a new path. He also talks about the power of resolve and commitment. Isaiah then goes into detail on breaking patterns by feeling our needs consistently, being gentle with ourselves, and using data and feedback. He describes the three most important psychological needs: growth, autonomy, and connection. He talks about how to recognize if our needs are not being met.
Next, Isaiah provides a number of examples on using data and feedback to measure progress and foster growth. We ask him to discuss his motivation for writing “Black Hole Focus.” Isaiah talks about deconstructing purpose into who, what, how, and why, and elaborates on each. He also walks us through how to map out our perfect day, and align our desired goals and outcomes with our perfect day. Chris then talks about how we often repeat patterns that no longer serve us. Isaiah elaborates on the idea of choosing our own adversity. He explains how to do this by asking ourselves better questions.
Chris discusses the importance of asking for help and using data to solve specific problems. Isaiah talks about getting outside perspectives from trusted advisors. He also explains why the more agreeable we are, the worse we fare in life and career. He discusses how to get more clarity and recenter our focus by stepping away and going on a relationship fast. Chris then talks about how he has cultivated more clarity and purpose by disconnecting from social media and news, going on retreats, and meditating everyday.
Isaiah explains how he uses apps to track how he spends his time. He also reveals where he sometimes falls into time traps. He emphasizes the importance of aligning monetary goals with the amount of time and energy spent on achieving them. Finally, Isaiah leaves us with some parting advice and words of wisdom. He reiterates listening to ourselves, going on a relationship fast if necessary, and looking at the data. He also reminds us to ask better questions to help us expand outside our current algorithm.
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Guest Introduction:
Robin Dreeke is a former US Marine Corps Officer and former head of The Behavioral Analysis Program. Today he is a recognized expert, author, and lecturer in communication, behavior, and trust-building. He is the founder of People Formula, and the author of several books, including “The Code of Trust: An American Counterintelligence Expert's Five Rules to Lead and Succeed.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Robin first discusses his background and experience in the U.S. Naval Academy, Marine Corps, and the FBI and counterintelligence. He talks about coming to the realization that he had the wrong leadership and soft skills for building trust. He then expands on the idea of being a resource to others to help them achieve what they want. Robin goes into the main needs that we all seek to fulfill: peace, prosperity, and health. He also describes what healthy relationships look like, and why they're a key part of achievement and success.
Chris talks about letting go of the ego in order to connect with others, and Robin explains how ego and vanity undermine us. He emphasizes that all humans seek to be affiliated with and valued by others, and discusses the importance of making people feel great about themselves. Robin then provides examples of questions to ask to understand people's priorities. He also discusses the essentials of listening, and explains how to have a mutual exchange that's authentic and free of competition.
Next, Robin expands on The Code of Trust, and walks us through the five main tenets in his book. He talks about how to discover someone's goals, priorities, context, speak the language they want to hear, and craft the encounter. Robin offers a number of examples on how to apply each of these tenets. He then describes four ways to make a person feel valued and affiliated in a conversation. He discusses how to seek thoughts and opinions, talk in terms of the other person's priorities, validate or seek to understand, and power with choices.
We ask Robin to share the most important things that he learned about communication and behavior while in the Marines and as head of the Behavioral Analysis Program. He talks about his first evaluation in the Marines and how it changed his perspective. Then he explains how he learned the skills of trust and leadership while working in the FBI recruiting spies. Robin emphasizes the importance of sincerity, generosity, and genuineness. He also discusses why manipulation destroys trust, and how to demonstrate congruity between your words and feelings.
Robin then expands on the idea of being a resource for others. He talks about what healthy relationships mean to him, and contrasts them with unhealthy relationships. He also discusses the importance of honesty and transparency, and describes how people respond when communicating with full honesty and transparency. We ask Robin how he identified and developed these frameworks for building trust and leadership. He explains why trust became such a big value for him, and how his experience in the Marines contributed to this.
Finally, Robin describes his process of going over the conversations he has each day. He explains how to mitigate self-centeredness by taking note of people's strengths and priorities. He also discusses how he and his wife nurture healthy communication in their household. We ask Robin how he met his wife, and how he knew that she was the person he wanted to marry. He talks about their relationship, and shares some of the things that he's grateful for. He leaves us with practical advice for finding a life partner.
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Guest Introduction:
Antonio Centeno is a former US Marine turned men’s fashion expert. He is the president of A Tailored Suit and the founder of Real Men Real Style, where he produces content to help men dress professionally & build wardrobes that complement their individual style.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Antonio begins by discussing why clothing and grooming have such a big impact on the way people perceive us. He explains how what we wear accentuates certain physical traits. Antonio then talks about the most common mistakes that men make with clothing and style. He explains why fit is important, and offers practical tips for finding the right fit and wearing clothes that make us look well-proportioned. He also talks about the association between attraction and symmetry.
Next, we ask Antonio how men with unconventional body types can find the right clothes. He gives examples of classic pieces that always work, and offers a better looking alternative to t-shirts. Antonio also offers his insights on how to figure out what casual style works best for us. He discusses how hair color and skin tone affect the types colors that we should choose with clothing. Antonio then explains how to build out an interchangeable wardrobe. He emphasizes the importance of not overthinking and wearing clothes that we feel confident in.
Finally, Antonio talks about foundational pieces, and how they differ depending on personal taste and where we live. He also offers practical tips on how to select shoes that set us apart. Antonio suggests focusing on creating a few main outfits and then making small adjustments and improvements over time. He explains his process for developing a series of outfits. As a last piece of advice, Antonio recommends looking to our favorite celebrities to get inspiration for choosing our style and outfits.
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Guest Introduction:
Jonathan Robinson is a psychotherapist, speaker, and bestselling author of several books, including “More Love, Less Conflict - A Communication Playbook for Couples.” Today, he’s going to teach us specific strategies to help us better communicate with, and understand, the people we love, so that we can have more love in our relationships.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jonathan starts by sharing some of the struggles and family issues that he faced during his childhood. He explains how this sparked his interest in self-help, and talks about what he did to heal himself. Jonathan then goes into some communication tools that we can use to improve the quality of our lives and relationships. He discusses the importance of appreciation and vulnerability, and how they deepen connection. He also describes how providing understanding and empathy for others will draw people to you.
Jonathan then offers additional strategies for demonstrating understanding and empathy, including being a good listener. He gives examples of different types of questions and statements that we can use to create greater intimacy in our interactions. Chris and Jonathan also talk about how in today's world, we often sacrifice depth and quality for quantity in our relationships. Jonathan describes how we bond through shared vulnerability. He provides examples of how to effectively communicate how we feel and what we want.
Next, Chris talks about expressing and articulating emotions, and gives examples of positive and negative emotions listed in Jonathan's book. Jonathan then offers strategies for resolving conflict in relationships. He explains what the "yellow light method" is and how he uses it to resolve disagreements with his wife. Jonathan also talks about why blame never works, and emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and focusing on appreciation. He discusses how to become aware of our own triggers as well as our partner's triggers, and how to deal with them effectively.
Jonathan expands on the idea of taking responsibility, and explains how relaxing defensiveness eventually leads to forgiveness. He also talks about the importance of sincere apologies and how they affect our relationships. He gives some practical examples of taking responsibility and apologizing. Finally, Jonathan discusses how improving our communication skills will automatically lead to greater connection and emotional depth. He talks about how our ability to communicate determines the quality of our relationships, which in turn affects our sense of happiness.
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Guest Introduction:
Jon Vroman is a keynote speaker, coach, and the co-founder of Front Row Foundation. He is the host of the Front Row Factor Podcast, and the #1 bestselling author of “The Front Row Factor: Transform Your Life with The Art of Moment Making.” Today, he is going to teach us how we can create moments that will deeply connect us to the people we care about most: moments that we, and the people we love, will remember forever.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jon begins by describing what moment making is, and shares a touching story from the Front Row Foundation. He explains why moment making is important, and gives some examples of how we can create meaningful moments in our lives. He talks about consciously creating the future, experiencing the present, and celebrating the past. Jon also emphasizes the importance of how we communicate with others. He explains how the ratio of positive to negative comments is strongly correlated with the health of our relationships, both in business and in our personal lives.
Jon then provides a number of examples of moment making in the business world. He talks about going the extra mile and giving personalized thank you notes to customers, as well as the importance of pictures and gift giving. Jon goes on to discuss how to gain clarity on our values and priorities. He recommends periodic journaling and self-inquiry to evaluate and reevaluate our values. Jon also emphasizes the importance of living a life of service and giving. He talks about how to figure out what people want and commit to helping them reach their dreams and goals.
Chris discusses the idea that we nurture certain values out of people. He also talks about how people want to be seen for who they are. Jon then explains how we can honor who people are at their core, while also amplifying certain values or recognizing when they're selling themselves short. He gives two examples, one about himself, and one about his son and his parenting, to illustrate this point. Finally, Jon discusses why we need to be mindful of how we show up for people. As a last insight, he encourages us to get out there and recognize the power we have to make moments.
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Guest Introduction:
Dan Griffin is an internationally recognized author, speaker, thought leader, and expert on men’s relationships and masculinity. He is the CEO and lead consultant at Griffin Recovery Enterprises, Inc., and the host of The Man Rules Podcast. He is also the author of several books, including “A Man’s Way Through Relationships: Learning to Love and Be Loved.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan first describes how he struggled with internal questions and confusion around masculinity for many years. He talks about beginning this exploration into vulnerability and expressing emotions while in recovery from a serious addiction. Dan then goes into the three main concepts that he deals with in his work: The Water, The Man Rules, and The Woman Rules. He describes The Water and The Man Rules in more detail. He also discusses his experience in men's recovery groups, and Chris comments on his recent experience at a men's group retreat.
Next, Dan talks about how we all want to love and be loved. He explains why connection and intimacy are contradictory to The Man Rules, and how being more intimate and vulnerable can trigger a lot of stress and conflict. Chris then discusses some of his struggles with emotional vulnerability. Dan talks about how deep The Man Rules are entrenched in our lives. He goes on to describe the essence of conscious masculinity, and how all relationships are about three things: connection, disconnection, and reconnection.
Chris then talks about how being fully present and conscious leads to naturally attracting women and emerging as the leader of a group. Dan cautions that it's a lonely road to becoming more present and conscious. He also explains why he believes that the pursuit of success is one of the greatest downfalls of men's work. Chris clarifies his original statement, and emphasizes the importance of meeting people where they are. Dan then elaborates on the idea of spiritual bypassing, and how the tools we use for increased consciousness can end up becoming blocks to consciousness.
Chris and Dan discuss some of the ways that consciousness can lead to disconnection. Chris then explains how quality leaders develop. He also talks about the challenges that his clients face, and how their desires evolve over time. Dan shares some of his traumas, and talks about how they defined him for a long time. He describes his process of acknowledging and moving beyond them. Chris mentions how traumas pass down through families, and Dan emphasizes that we repeat what we don't repair.
Dan goes on to discuss The Woman Rules. He explains how The Man Rules and Woman Rules are opposites, and why the path to healing is different for men and women. He also stresses why it's important for men and women to learn to empathize with each other. Chris talks about victimization and the different traumas that men and women face. Dan then explains how the Man Rules and Women Rules, left unchecked, can play out in ugly ways in our interactions. Finally, he describes the Karpman Triangle, and how people interact with each other in relationships in three main ways: victim, perpetrator, and rescuer.
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Guest Introduction:
Aaron Walker has been a business entrepreneur and life coach for nearly 40 years. He is the president and founder of View From the Top, a life and business coaching company that helps men grow in success and significance. He is also the founder of Iron Sharpens Iron Mastermind Group. Aaron is the author of the book, “View From The Top: Living a Life of Significance,” and the co-author (with Thomas Schwab) of “The Mastermind Blueprint: Building a Rich Life.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Aaron starts by discussing his background and what inspired him to pursue a path in self-development. He shares a story about a traumatic car accident that he was involved in earlier in his life. He describes how this experience affected him, and what he learned on the journey of trying to find resolution. Aaron then talks about how to live a life of both success and significance. He defines his criteria for success, and explains how to find significance by meeting the needs of others.
We ask Aaron what the first steps would be for people on the journey of figuring themselves out. He talks about taking a personal assessment of your identity, ideals, and relationships. He emphasizes the importance of mastermind groups and surrounding yourself with trusted advisers. Aaron also explains why focusing on a bigger purpose is the key to sustaining long-term motivation. He then offers advice on how to build mentor relationships. He also touches on a new book about mentorship that he's writing with Seth Buechley.
Next, Aaron expands on what he calls the "18/30/60 Rule." He talks about how to develop a growth mindset, and references the book "Mindset" by Carol Dweck. Aaron then discusses what he attributes his early successes to. We ask him how he gained the clarity to know what he should be working on each day. Aaron talks about the role that faith plays in his life. He also explains why it's important to narrow your focus. He describes how he prioritizes and establishes boundaries in his life in order to nurture his relationship with his family.
Aaron goes on to discuss his relationship with his wife. He talks about the importance of communication, and explains how he learned to express his emotions through both life experience and mastermind groups. We ask Aaron why he chose his wife as his life partner, what stood out to him about her, and what has surprised him the most on this journey. Finally, Aaron explains the benefits of mastermind groups and how they work. He also talks about what made him decide to write his book, and what people might learn from reading it.
Find out more about Aaron: https://www.viewfromthetop.com
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Guest Introduction:
Elliott Hulse is an internationally renowned strength & conditioning coach, strongman, author, social media celebrity, mentor, holistic life coach, and inspiration to millions. Elliott is the founder and CEO of Strength Camp and Grounding Camp, and is the author of the book, “KING: The Four Layer Approach To Becoming The Strongest Version Of Yourself.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Elliott starts by discussing how he got into strength and conditioning coaching. He talks about his greatest teachers and mentors, including his uncle and his father, and shares the most important lessons that he learned from them. Elliott goes on to describe the connection between the mind and the body. He explains how emotional pain and trauma manifest in our bodies. We ask him how he sees traumas carried in both himself and his clients.
Next, Elliott shares his knowledge about bioenergetic analysis and discusses its origins. He explains what muscular armory is, and outlines the seven main bands of muscular tension that people develop. He also discusses how tension affects our breathing, and reveals some physical symptoms of muscular armory. Elliott then talks about how deep breathing exercises release tension and can bring up a variety of intense emotions. He emphasizes the importance of expressing and having an objective view of our emotions.
Elliott then explains how confronting trapped emotions purges our demons, and how doing so allows us to become our true selves. He reveals common signs of trapped emotions. He then offers strategies to first become aware of and then confront them physically. Elliott goes on to discuss the ego and what a healthy ego-self axis entails. He also talks about thoughts, including where they originate from, how they undermine us, and how to observe them objectively.
Elliot goes more in depth on Bioenergetic Grounding. He explains why it's more effective than modern meditation and confronts the struggles of life on a deeper level. He then gives some examples of how angels and demons invade the body. Lastly, Elliott describes his meditation practices, as well as the purpose and benefits of meditation. As a final insight, he emphasizes that charisma is spontaneous, and naturally becomes a part of who we are when we clear emotional blocks and let our real selves shine.
Find out more about Elliott: http://www.elliotthulse.co/home http://strengthcamp.com/home/ http://groundingcamp.com/upcomingcamps/ http://kingsinitiation.com/king/
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Guest Introduction:
Anthony Recenello is a New York Times featured social and dating expert, and the founder of Wolf and Garden, a company that helps successful men become iconic bachelors and meet their soulmates.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Anthony begins by revealing some of the common issues that come up with his clients. He explains how most social and dating problems are manifestations of fears and insecurities. He then discusses how he started out teaching social skills to children and discipline to parents. Anthony describes what effective discipline entails. He talks about how childhood discipline carries over to our adult lives. He also discusses the differences between those who know how to deal with their emotions, and those who don't.
Anthony goes more in depth on controlling and mastering emotions. As an example, he walks us through the process he would use if he wanted to feel happy. We then ask Anthony where a guy should start if he has little or no dating experience. He talks about the importance of cultivating happiness, health, and success, and offers practical advice in each of these three areas. He also explains how quality women will naturally come into your life when you're happy, healthy, and successful.
Next, we ask Anthony how a man should approach a woman and start a conversation. He emphasizes why men should focus on assessing if someone is a good fit for them, rather than building attraction. Anthony describes the mindset of men who are successful with women. He also explains why treating a woman like a friend is the key to developing a deeper romantic connection. Anthony talks about being honest in expressing your interest in a woman. Chris then discusses context and developing social and emotional intelligence to recognize when a woman is and isn't interested.
Anthony goes on to discuss why dating issues are usually a sign that you're pursuing the wrong people. He emphasizes the importance of figuring out who you like and who you connect with. Anthony then describes how he works with his clients to develop an archetype of their ideal woman. Finally, he shares his insights on overcoming neediness. Anthony explains how giving is the key to healthy relationships and love. He also reiterates that we naturally become more attractive by being in control of our emotions and focusing on our values.
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Guest Introduction:
Philip McKernan is an inspirational speaker, writer, and filmmaker. He works with entrepreneurs and business leaders all over the world who seek clarity about their future and want to move through roadblocks. Philip is the creator of the documentary, “Give & Grow,” which explores how the gift of giving makes us feel more worthy and alive. He is also the author of several books, including “Dead Man Walking” and “Rich on Paper Poor on Life.” He has a new book called, “One Last Talk: Why Your Truth Matters and How to Speak It,” which will be released on November 6th, 2018.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Philip starts by talking about how pain inspired him to get into the work that he does. He reveals the tipping point that finally pushed him to make a change, and describes how intuition guided him down this new career path. Philip discusses the common types of problems that come up in his workshops. He walks us through his approach for dealing with underlying problems such as low self-esteem, loneliness, and anger. He explains how he helps people realize their problems, understand them, and then make adjustments to course-correct.
We ask Philip how his work impacts the lives of his clients. He talks about bridging the past with the present, taking ownership of our lives, and understanding our gifts vs. our talents. Philip describes how the process of becoming more authentic is ongoing throughout our lives. We then ask him how his human experience has affected and influenced his work. Philip also reveals some of the personal issues he's worked through, and what made him decide to go to therapy. He explains why we all have a moral obligation to seek help and deal with our issues.
Philip discusses how going through therapy affected and changed him. He expands on the idea of self-compassion by sharing a story about a man who attended one of his workshops. He explains how our self-talk influences the course of our lives. Philip also reveals one of the most impactful moments that he's had with a client. We then shift gears and ask him to discuss the main idea behind his first book, "Dead Man Walking." He talks about mindset vs. soulset, as well as leaning into our souls and following our intuition.
Next, Philip discusses how success can trap us, and what we can do to get out of it. He provides some examples of how people often over-identify with the things that they do. He then goes more in depth on the concepts of mindset and soulset. Philip goes on to talk about his second book, "Rich on Paper Poor on Life," and explains how people can recognize if they're suffering. We ask him to discuss what he did to get to the point where he feels at peace with himself. He talks about the importance of letting go of things that aren't serving you, and taking action in the absence of clarity.
Finally, Philip discusses his upcoming book, "One Last Talk," including where he got the idea for it, and what he came away with after writing it. He describes the concept of One Last Talk, and explains how sharing your truth can be very cathartic and therapeutic. Philip summarizes one of the most meaningful and profound speeches that he's heard from the One Last Talk participants. He then talks about how discovering his truth has affected his life and his health. He offers advice for people looking to discover their truth.
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Guest Introduction:
Akshay Nanavati is a Marine Corps Veteran, speaker, adventurer, entrepreneur and writer. He is also a success coach at Human Potential Development, and the owner and founder of Amara Adventures. Akshay is the author of the book, "Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness."
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Akshay first shares his background, from suffering with drug addiction in his teens, to serving in the military, to dealing with PTSD, alcoholism, and depression after returning home, and finally overcoming those struggles and creating Fearvana. He talks about what inspired him to join the military, as well as some of the lessons that he learned while serving. We ask Akshay how people can take these lessons from war and apply them to their ordinary lives. He also explains how being grateful for suffering leads to growth and empathy.
Chris talks about how some of the biggest traumas have allowed him to build the deepest connections. Akshay describes his process for fully experiencing the depth of different emotions. He then goes into more detail about his struggles after the military, including alcoholism, PTSD, and going through a divorce. He talks about how his alcohol addiction developed, took a toll on his life, and nearly pushed him to commit suicide. Akshay also describes how PTSD affected him, and how he overcame it. He acknowledges his intensity, and talks about how he embraces it and thrives on it.
Next, we ask Akshay to discuss what drives him. He shares his long-term vision, which involves helping people navigate struggle and live a life of boundless bliss. He also talks about how gaining clarity has affected his day to day life and how he feels. Akshay describes the two different types of challenges: ones we purposely seek out for growth, and ones that life throws our way. He offers constructive ways to deal with challenges, including exercising awareness, and using obsession to let your life path consume you.
Akshay then explains why it's important to embrace fear, struggle, and adversity. He discusses how taking this approach has changed his life. He goes on to explain how people can leverage negative emotions or situations and use them to their benefit. We ask Akshay how people can feel more alive and increase their sense of happiness and abundance. He talks about how struggle cultivates confidence. He also emphasizes the importance of exercising and eating healthy, and makes some practical recommendations.
Next, Akshay discusses how people can gain clarity and direction in their lives, and discover their worthy struggle. He explains how to work backwards from the lifestyle that you want to create. He also talks about how mentorship plays into his life, and offers advice on finding great mentors. Akshay then describes how to shatter self-imposed limitations and achieve extraordinary goals. He talks about how commitment is the key to success, and leads to the development of courage, capabilities, and confidence.
Finally, Chris talks about using 90-day goals, and asks Akshay to expand on his process of setting and achieving goals. Akshay provides effective strategies for breaking destructive habits and replacing them with more beneficial habits. He also explains how to enhance productivity and accomplish greater results in less time. As a last piece of advice, Akshay reiterates that one of the most important life skills is to develop a positive relationship with struggle.
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Guest Introduction:
Dan Doty is a writer, filmmaker, coach, and mentor. Dan spent many years as a wilderness therapy guide, and later had a successful career as a director and producer of wilderness-based TV and film. He is the co-founder (along with Owen Marcus) of Evryman, an organization that focuses on men’s work, also called deep work. He is also the host of the Evryman Podcast. Dan has an important message for men about their emotional health, and discusses what men can do to become better partners, fathers, community members, and leaders.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan begins by sharing his background and journey through several different careers. He talks about starting Evryman to address the two biggest issues that men face in today's world: emotional suppression and social isolation. He expands on what these issues might look like in someone's life. Dan then explains how men's groups help solve suppression and isolation by practicing vulnerability. He also talks about how his personal relationships have improved as a result of opening up.
Dan describes how the birth of his son pushed him to fully commit to this paradigm of feeling more. He also shares how he was able to improve his relationship with his father. Dan then explains what it means to be fully present. He offers advice on how to be more present by slowing down, becoming aware of what's happening in ourselves, and then being fully there for others. Dan goes on to discuss how men's groups can help with dating and relating, and how they've impacted his relationship with his wife.
Next, Chris shares the story of how the relationship between his parents fell apart, and about a friend whose marriage became strained. Dan elaborates on being vulnerable in the right contexts and with the right people, and how it takes practice to develop this skill. He then debunks the idea of the rugged individual and figuring things out on your own. He discusses the importance of social connection and the negative effects of loneliness.
Chris talks about opening up to people in safe spaces. Dan applies the concept of titration to vulnerability, and explains how to cultivate openness through repetitions and small steps. He also references a similar concept from Steve Kotler's book about flow states. Chris then shares some of his past traumas that he's had to work through. Finally, Dan describes his first experience with a men's group. He also talks about how men's groups can be attributed to many of his successes in life, including building connections and starting new careers.
Find out more about Dan: http://www.dan-doty.com/about/ http://www.evryman.co/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Srini Pillay is a world-renowned Harvard-trained psychiatrist, executive coach, keynote speaker, consultant, clinician, and brain researcher. He is the founder and CEO of NeuroBusiness Group, and is currently an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He is also the author of several books, including, “Life Unlocked: 7 Revolutionary Lessons to Overcome Fear,” “The Science Behind the Law of Attraction,” and “Tinker Dabble Doodle Try.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Srini starts by discussing his background, interests, and the many different projects that he's involved with. He goes into more detail on the three tech startups he's working on, including a digital platform for people to interact in a more conscious way. He expands on the idea of conscious communication, and explains how it helps us to deepen relationships and enhance motivation. We ask Srini how people can pay greater attention and be more engaged and present in their conversations.
Srini then talks about how unconscious fear disrupts fluent thinking. He discusses where fear and anxiety originate from, and how they affect both the brain and the body. He provides some examples of common fears that people struggle with. Srini emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in building connections and intimacy. He then offers strategies for overcoming fear and anxiety and becoming more vulnerable and authentic. He walks us through the CIRCA framework for dealing with feelings of overwhelm.
Next, Srini explains how to use self-talk to boost confidence. He also shares some effective methods for breaking negative thought patterns and bad habits. He then talks about how the brain changes, as well as the correlation between blood flow and neural pathways. We also ask Srini how conscious thoughts evolve into unconscious habits. He expands on the idea of cognitive rhythm. He discusses how focus hinders brain power, and offers some examples of unfocusing techniques to enhance our minds.
Srini then reveals the science behind the Law of Attraction. He provides several techniques to active the Law of Attraction and manifest more of what we want in our lives. He also describes cognitive empathy, and gives an example from his therapy work with couples. We then shift to Srini's latest book, “Tinker Dabble Doodle Try.” He discusses what motivated him to write it, and emphasizes the importance of using strategic unfocus to enhance our brains. Srini describes how he uses unfocusing in his life, and provides examples of how his coaching clients and therapy patients have benefitted from it.
He goes more in depth on several unfocusing techniques, including positive constructive daydreaming. He also explains how he schedules unfocus time into his daily routine. Srini expands on the idea of behaving more like the exception than the rule, and discusses the cognitive benefits of adopting this mindset. Finally, we ask Srini how he structures his schedule and his approach to new problems. He also talks about what drives him to explore and pursue so many different disciplines and projects.
Find out more about Dr. Pillay: https://drsrinipillay.com
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Guest Introduction:
Jeff Haden is a ghostwriter, speaker, LinkedIn influencer, and Inc. Magazine contributing editor. In 2017, his online articles for Inc. attracted more than 20 million readers. He is the author of several books, including “The Motivation Myth: How High Achievers Really Set Themselves Up to Win.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jeff starts by discussing his background and how he transitioned into a career in writing. He explains what originally drove and motivated him on his first career path in manufacturing, and then what made him feel disconnected and pushed him to make a change. Jeff describes how he started making life choices with more awareness. He also emphasizes the importance of finding meaning by taking action and not passively waiting for something to happen.
Next, Jeff talks about some of his first writing gigs. He reveals what people often do wrong when wanting to start a side hustle, and offers advice on building credibility. Chris also shares his story of how he started coaching. Jeff discusses what he's learned about success from meeting and interviewing successful people. He then goes more in depth on the first press release that he wrote, including his research and refinement processes.
Jeff explains how being self-critical helped him get through his initial writing gigs. He discusses the advantages that he gained from his prior career. He also talks about removing self-indulgence and perfectionism and focusing on hitting the expectations of a project. Jeff then goes into how his wife has encouraged and supported him, and how choosing her as his partner has affected his life's path. He explains how they collaborate on decisions. He then offers his insights on finding a great life partner and focusing on the qualities that really matter.
We ask Jeff what commonalities he's noticed among highly successful people. He talks about the importance of focusing on the process instead of the end goal. He then describes what motivation is, where it comes from, and how affects the way we think, feel, and act. Finally, Jeff provides some practical motivation strategies, and explains why saying "I don't" instead of "I can't" is much more effective for dieting or quitting bad habits. He also offers some last tips for people trying to figure out their own life path and find clarity.
Find out more about Jeff: https://www.jeffhaden.com
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Guest Introduction:
Zachary Stockill is a researcher, writer, coach, and podcaster. He is the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, and the author of two books: “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy,” and “Everyday Joy.” Zachary has a podcast called “Humans in Love,” which features relaxed conversations about culture, relationships, and personal development.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Zachary begins by discussing his background and some of the projects that he's working on, including his passion for music. We ask him how music affects his life and the choices he makes. He also reveals some of the artists that have been most profound to him. Zachary then explains what retroactive jealousy is and how it impacts compatibility and our view of our partner. He discusses where he got the idea to explore this topic and shares his experience of suffering from jealousy in early adulthood.
Zachary goes on to talk about some of the causes of retroactive jealousy, including the socio-cultural influences. He reveals the two common elements of retroactive jealousy. He also describes OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) and offers tips on how to get out of that vicious cycle. Chris and Zachary then share their thoughts on perfectionism and discuss how it undermines our relationships and other aspects of our lives.
Next, we ask Zachary how to manage fears and insecurities regarding relationships. He emphasizes that the recurring theme is that their woman is their world, and explains how guys can recognize this in themselves. He notes that many of his clients fit into the category of people-pleasers, a topic which we discuss more in our podcasts with Dr. Robert Glover and Dan Munro. Zachary then offers practical suggestions for how guys can reconnect with their masculinity, purpose, and independence.
Zachary discusses his involvement with men’s groups, and how they helped him through his issues. Chris then talks about working through emotional trauma, as well as attracting the right and wrong people. Finally, we ask Zachary how someone can recognize if jealousy is a problem for them, and what they can do to overcome it. He walks us through his meditation practice, and discusses the benefits that he's experienced. Check out the link to his guided meditation below. Chris and Zachary also talk about why presence is an important key to building relationships.
Find out more about Zachary: https://www.zfstockill.com/ https://www.retroactivejealousy.com/ https://www.retroactivejealousy.com/guided-meditation-retroactive-jealousy/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He is often quoted as an expert in various media, with appearances on The Today Show, The Dr. Oz Show, and NPR. He also regularly contributes to CNN Health, and lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships. Ian is the bestselling author of several books, including “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Ian starts by talking about his background and where the idea for his book came from, as a result of discovering his own unique sex script and working around his sexual problems. He reveals how long it takes the average man to orgasm compared to the average female. We ask Ian how men and women can bridge the gap between their different orgasm times. He then explains the makeup of the clitoris, it's different parts, and where the real source of sexual pleasure is for a woman.
Next, Ian discusses the process of orgasm and how men and women orgasm differently. He shares insights and tips for how men can prevent a woman from losing an orgasm. He also talks about the different types of orgasms that women can have. Ian then discusses why good sex requires a combination of both physical stimulation and psychological arousal. He provides some examples of how men can incorporate more sexual language during intimacy.
Ian goes on to describe the two different desire paradigms in men and women: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. He offers advice for how men can engage in the process of seduction and be more mindful of their partner's experience. Ian also talks about the three main categories of sex: procreational, relational, and recreational. He explains how sex has evolved over the years, and how he works with couples to establish a rec-relational model for sex.
Ian then discusses what the g-spot is, how to find it, and the best sexual positions to stimulate it. He talks about why oral sex is one of the most consistent ways that women feel pleasure, and why it's a great way to deal with erectile dysfunction. He also describes different ways of giving oral. We then ask Ian why mindfulness is important during sex, and he shares some tips on how to be more present. He goes more in depth on oral sex, including why it should come after foreplay, how long to do it, and how to transition from oral to intercourse.
We ask Ian to talk more about the neural circuitry involved in sex. He discusses the pleasures and values of comfort sex, and offers insights on how to balance between novelty and familiarity. He also emphasizes the importance of foreplay and waiting to move to the genital region during arousal. Ian then describes the different parts of the female genitalia. He also explains the difference between female ejaculation and orgasm.
Finally, Ian discusses how men and women each have their own unique sexual templates. He talks about learning our own, our partner's, and integrating both. He also elaborates on the snuggle gap between men and women, and offers insights on what men and women can do after sex to continue the sense of attachment. Ian leaves us with some practical tips on how men can deal with anxiety related to sex.
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Our guests today are Dr. Daniel Lieberman and Michael Long. Dan is a professor and vice chair for clinical affairs in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at George Washington University. Mike is a trained physicist and award-winning writer. Dan and Mike are the co-authors of the new book, “The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity – and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan and Mike start by discussing where they got the idea for their new book. They describe what dopamine is, how it functions in the human body, and how it affects our thoughts and behaviors. We then ask them how understanding the idea of dopamine can help us to live healthier, more fulfilling lives. They go on to talk about how modern technology stimulates the same receptors that we used to stimulate with drugs and alcohol. They also explain how dopamine focuses on maximizing future resources, and is incapable of ever being satisfied.
Chris provides an example of getting a similar high from both pigging out and then dieting. Dan describes the three different dopamine pathways: desire, control, and physical movement, and explains how they work. We then ask Dan and Mike to discuss the role that dopamine plays in relationships, love, and sex. They offer advice on avoiding the friend zone, as well as managing longer term relationships and transitioning from a future to present focused mindset. They also explain how dopamine and the present focused neurotransmitters fluctuate throughout different phases of a relationship and during sex.
Dan and Mike offer some tools on how to become more present, counteract desire, and get our dopamine circuits back in control. We ask them why mindfulness is so effective, and they provide some examples on how to be mindful. Dan then discusses the role that dopamine plays in addiction. He and Mike go on to talk about how dopamine affects ambition, and they offer tips on finding our passion and getting passionate about our work. Lastly, they discuss the role of dopamine in creativity. They explain why dreams can be a rich source of creativity, and demonstrate how to use dream incubation to solve problems.
Dan and Mike discuss why creative types are often more forgetful or scatterbrained than other people. We ask them if this is changeable or generally fixed throughout someone's life. Chris then describes how the way he operates has changed through different phases of his life. Dan expands on the creative process, including the brainstorming stage versus the refinement stage. He and Mike also offer advice for aspiring creatives. Finally, they talk about some of the other topics covered in their book, as well as the key takeaways that people will get from reading it.
Find out more about Dan and Mike: http://www.danielzlieberman.com http://mikelongonline.com https://moleculeofmore.com
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Guest Introduction:
Mark Bowden is a keynote speaker and world renowned expert in human behaviour, body language, and communication. Mark has done presentation training and communication coaching for Fortune 500 CEOs and G8 Leaders. He is the creator of TRUTHPLANE®, a communication training company for anyone who has to communicate with impact to an audience. Mark is the author of several books, including the bestseller “Winning Body Language,” and his most recent release, “Truth and Lies,” which he co-authored with Tracey Thomson.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Mark first discusses the work that he does with business professionals to help them deliver more effective and engaging presentations. He explains how he developed an acute awareness of visual images and how nonverbal factors influence communication. Mark then talks about validation and the need to feel safe and accepted, and reveals some of the evolutionary reasons behind these needs. He also references Dr. Paul Ekman and his work with micro-gestures and emotions.
Next, we ask Mark why body language is such an important part of communication. He talks about the various aspects of body language, and dispels some common misconceptions. Chris discusses why people sometimes send mixed signals. Mark then provides an example of how reading between the lines can bring up biases and feelings. He explains why the power is in what happens around something, such as the environment, context, and meaning, and not the thing itself. Chris also talks about the ease of meeting people depending on where you are and who you're with.
Mark then offers strategies for making better first impressions and winning the best opportunities to meet people. He explains why the typical advice of "just be yourself" misses the mark. He discusses the balance between understanding the needs of others and satisfying and expressing ourselves. Mark then reveals the two most important social skills: lying and telling the truth. Chris and Mark go on to explain the idea of power and its relation to size and position. They also talk about healthy levels of validation needed in order to connect with people.
We ask Mark how people can become more aware of their body language and make improvements. He explains what rapport is and offers tips on how to gain it. He then discusses how to become more influential by appealing to people's deep psychological needs. Mark and Chris go more in depth on the need of acceptance, and Mark explains how to let people know that they are accepted. They also talk about how people define themselves, and how personality is a continuum.
Mark offers some practical ways that people can experiment with their personalities. He also discusses additional tools to build rapport besides mirroring, including space and time. Finally, we ask Mark how people can become more adept at reading others, and how to tell when someone is being truthful or deceptive. He describes situations where we should assume positive or negative intent of others. Mark then offers some last tips on how to use the knowledge discussed in this interview to become more successful with making friends, dating, and building relationships.
Find out more about Mark: http://truthplane.com/home/people/mark-bowden/
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Guest Introduction:
Gary John Bishop is a leading Personal Development expert and coach who has impacted thousands of people worldwide. He is known for using an "urban philosophy" approach to coaching and transformation that represents a new wave within personal empowerment and life mastery. He’s been able help people get, what many would would describe as, miraculous results in the quality of their life and in their performance of the areas of their life that matter most to them. Gary is the bestselling author of the book “Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Gary begins by discussing his journey into personal development and coaching. He talks about confronting and challenging behavior that he once thought was acceptable, but came to realize it wasn't. Gary then defines what awareness means to him, and describes how he developed more awareness to the way he showed up to the people around him. He also explains how self-righteousness fractures our relationships.
Next, we ask Gary how someone can identify the root causes of why their life feels like a mess. He emphasizes the importance of setting aside our feelings and focusing on changing our actions rather than our thoughts. He also explains how to embrace uncertainty and risk, and how this helps us find meaning and growth. We then ask Gary how to separate our thoughts from reality. He talks about becoming an observer rather than an enactor of our thoughts. He also discusses how to keep promises by bridging the gap between where you are now and the action you need to take to fulfill those promises.
Gary then offers advice for curating goals in the unknown. He elaborates on the process of achieving something he's never done before by using the example of how he wrote his book. He also explains how to uncover the beating heart of our internal dialogue, eradicate victimhood, and get over our past. We ask Gary how people can recognize the reality they've created for themselves. He gives examples of questions people can ask themselves to change their frame of reference and discover where they're holding themselves back.
Gary goes on to discuss how to become more resilient and learn to push through obstacles and adversity. He describes what relentlessness is and why it's such a vital part of success. We then ask Gary to expand on the idea of expecting nothing and accepting everything. He talks about why control is an illusion and how expectations undermine us and lead to conflict. He also emphasizes the importance of choice and practicing acceptance.
We ask Gary to describe the process of becoming who we want to be and what it involves. He talks about how to live with integrity, take ownership of our triggers, and evaluate what we bring to the table in our interactions and relationships. Finally, Gary reveals what he thinks are the biggest myths in modern relationship advice. He explains why we need to take personal responsibility in our relationships and all aspects of ourselves, and how doing so will ultimately improve the quality of our lives.
Find out more about Gary: https://garyjohnbishop.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Brian Tom O’Connor is an actor, theater director, cabaret performer, and formerly depressed guy who stumbled onto the source of joy and happiness in the background of all experience. He is the author of the book, “Awareness Games: Playing With Your Mind to Create Joy.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Brian starts by discussing his background and where he got the idea for his book. He talks about how he suffered from depression for many years, and through his quest to change, discovered the concept of non-duality. We ask Tom to share what he learned from studying non-duality. He describes the process of self-inquiry, the importance of acceptance and love, and where happiness comes from. He then defines awareness and explains how it's both similar and different from mindfulness and meditation.
Next, Tom walks us through a short game from his book, called "Expanding and Contracting Awareness". We ask him what people might experience when they first start playing awareness games. Tom then shares some other games, including "Slippery Mind," and "Be a Mirror". He discusses where he got the ideas for these games, as well as some of the feedback that he's gotten from his students. Tom also talks about how becoming more aware has changed his life. He notes that he's not depressed anymore, is more easily able to deal with anxiety, and has more rewarding and connected relationships.
Tom then expands on the idea of not controlling things. He explains how being overly controlling of our emotions blocks us from happiness. He offers strategies on how to be more observant and accepting of our emotions. Tom walks us through an awareness game to use when we're feeling bad, called "Include, Include, Include". He also discusses how people can start to develop more awareness in their daily lives. Tom then describes a few of his favorite awareness games: "The Circle of This," "Big Body," and "Wandering Awareness".
Finally, we ask Tom to talk about some of the other changes that he's noticed in his life as a result of being more aware. He discusses how his irritability has decreased, and how he's more adept at learning new skills and technologies. He also describes how his relationships have improved, particularly with his husband. Tom emphasizes why it's important to focus on the good qualities in people, and on how you receive everything, rather than focusing on people's faults and trying to change them.
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Dan Munro is a confidence coach, the director of The Inspirational Lifestyle, and the founder of BROJO, a community focused on developing confident, authentic and valuable people. He is also the author of two books: “Nothing to Lose,” and the #1 bestseller, “The Legendary Life.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Dan begins by sharing his personal journey of overcoming people-pleasing and approval-seeking behavior. He references Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" as the book that ultimately pushed him to change. Dan talks about how he used to live with chronic stress, anxiety, and guilt, which came from a lack of integrity. Chris then discusses how he uses mindfulness to be more present and avoid getting stuck in the past or future. Dan also describes how living more honestly has helped him become more spontaneous and less scripted.
Dan talks about nice guy syndrome, which we cover in more depth in our podcast with Dr. Glover, and how he became more aware of the ways that he interacted with people. Dan and Chris discuss the vulnerability associated with being more authentic and spontaneous. They also emphasize the importance of accepting ourselves, resolving internal conflicts, and letting go of expectations. Dan then explains how using strategy to get an outcome causes us to sacrific honesty. He offers advice on how to become less attached to outcome and rejection. Chris also reveals some common sources of fear of judgment and rejection.
Finally, we ask Dan for practical ways that people can develop the skills to live a fuller, more honest life. He explains how to choose honest expression and do it in a controlled way. Dan then shares a couple of examples of how he did this in his personal life. Chris talks about healthy levels of validation, and how too much outcome independence leads to the inability to connect. Dan expands on the balance between being authentic and seeking validation. He also discusses how our communication with others should be guided by three principles: honesty, respect, and curiosity.
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Guest Introduction:
Nick Boothman is a bestselling author, motivational speaker, and licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He is considered one of the leading authorities on face-to-face communication, and serves as a consultant to individuals, groups, and corporations that want to learn the skills needed to connect with others. He has authored several books, including “How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less” and “How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Nick starts by discussing how to find the right person to build a deep connection with. He explains the difference between falling in love and staying in love, and reveals the keys to lasting romance. Nick then elaborates on the idea of matched opposites. He goes into the four key feelings: wanting to feel in control, smart, valued, or important. Nick explains why figuring out our key feeling is a vital part of finding our matched opposite. He also talks about how dating is a numbers game, and that only a small percentage of the people we meet will be eligible.
Next, Nick reveals the secret to knowing when we've met the right person. He describes how impatience undermines our ability to connect with others. He also talks about changing our perspective of bad relationships so that we can move on and invest our energy into meeting new people. Nick offers helpful tips for those who aren't sure what they want in a relationship. We ask him why first impressions are so important, and how people can make great first impressions. Nick talks about the role of body language and attitude. He then contrasts useful versus useless attitudes, and discusses the relationship between congruence and charisma.
Chris talks about some of the origins of mixed signals. Nick then explains what eye contact, smiling, and synchronized body language communicate. He discusses why hesitation is the biggest obstacle to meeting people, and recommends using the 3-second rule to overcome this hurdle. Nick also offers additional strategies for building trust and rapport, and shares a helpful reframe of rejection. He goes more in depth on eye contact and reveals a secret flirtation signal.
Nick talks about how people usually fall into three categories based on their first impression: charming, alarming, or boring. We ask him what charm means to him, and he compares it with his definition of charisma. He then talks about the importance of storytelling and how people communicate with picture words, metaphors, and stories. He explains why the ability to arouse enthusiasm in others is one of the greatest assets in dating. Nick also describes what it means to be a raconteur, and how this increases attraction. He reveals one of the five steps to becoming a great raconteur.
Nick then discusses the three sensory preferences: auditory, kinesthetic, and visual, and how people rely on one main sense. He explains how figuring out our sensory preference and learning to spot it in others can improve our ability to communicate and connect. Finally, Nick references a speech that he's delivered to groups, called "How to Live to 105." He discusses the three factors that impact life expectancy: our self-talk, where we live, and our willingness to take risks. As a last piece of advice, he encourages us to get out there, take risks, and meet other people, because our health depends on it.
Find out more about Nick: http://nicholasboothman.com
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Mark Andreas teaches NLP for the NLP Practitioner Program, for Redrocks Community College, and for private sponsors in many locations. He also has a Personal Change private practice in Boulder CO, where he assists people in achieving life goals and resolving limitations using NLP, Core Transformation, Metaphors of Movement, and other methods for personal transformation and development. Mark’s past experience includes having worked in wilderness therapy as a counselor and trip-leader for the Monarch Center for Family Healing where he was in charge of facilitating groups of “troubled” youth. He is also the author of 2 books, including, “Sweet Fruit From The Bitter Tree: 61 Stories of Creative and Compassionate Ways out of Conflict,” and “Waltzing with Wolverines: Finding connection and Cooperation with Troubled Teens.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Mark first discusses his journey into NLP, and describes what NLP is and how it works. He provides an example showing how people can have drastically different interpretations of the same experience. We ask Mark how people can change their internal dialogue. He outlines the two sectors of NLP: the one that improves our communication with others, and the one that improves our communication with ourselves. He then walks us through an exercise that reveals the two ways that we remember things.
Mark talks about how to teach someone to change their internal perspective. He explains the different approaches he would take with someone suffering from a phobia or PTSD, versus someone dealing with grief. We ask him to go through the other core components of NLP, and he reveals some tools for improving communication with others. Mark explains what presuppositional language is, and demonstrates how to use it. He also discusses how this concept applies to people's internal dialogues. Mark then explains why using positive affirmations is a bad strategy for personal change. He reveals the underlying presupposition of NLP: that every aspect of our experience is there for some positive purpose.
Next, Mark walks us through another exercise to demonstrate how to reframe situations. He uses an example of a man worried about why women won't like him, and explains how to change our self-talk from an inner critic to an inner ally. We then shift to the topic of body language, and Mark talks about mirroring and gives an example of an exercise he does in his classes. He offers a good tip to see how in sync you are with someone in an interaction. We also ask Mark what to do if the other person reacts in a way that makes you start to shut down. He recommends doing inner work, and using mirroring to keep a disagreement from escalating.
Mark then discusses some other tools that he uses in his practice. He describes Core Transformation, a personal growth process developed by his mother, and gives a case study of working with a client to overcome a traumatic experience. He also talks about Metaphors of Movement, developed by Andrew T. Austin, and explains how to use it to get out of stuck states and push through obstacles. Finally, we ask Mark for tips on how to get out of a rut and move past emotional limitations. He discusses using different NLP tools to work through inner thoughts and feelings, clear objections, and change your beliefs.
Find out more about Mark: http://markandreas.com/ https://andreasnlptrainings.com/mark-andreas-bio/
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Guest Introduction:
Juvoni Beckford is a senior software engineer, UI/UX designer, fitness enthusiast, and voracious reader, based in New York City. He writes about developing and acquiring habits, systems, and tools for a disciplined approach to life-long learning and self-improvement. He curates books, technologies, mental models, mindsets and cognitive biases for smarter and more self-aware living, and shares this on his blog, juvoni.com.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Juvoni starts by talking about his background, why he started his blog, and what he writes about. He goes on to discuss his reading habits, including how many books he reads on a regular basis, and the note-taking system he developed to organize and remember more information. We ask Juvoni to share some of his favorite genres and authors, as well as books he's read recently that stood out to him. Chris and Juvoni then shift to the topic of group-think, and discuss how the news and social media have negatively affected their emotional health. Juvoni recommends a few blocking programs that have helped him to disconnect.
Next, we ask Juvoni about his writing habits, and he reveals how he stays accountable and sticks to his writing goals. He describes how he organizes and structures his schedule, and shares a number of apps and programs that he uses for organization, time management, and writing. He also walks us through his research process, including how he gets ideas and gathers information to write about. Juvoni then offers advice for people who want to read more and absorb more of what they read. He explains how he's able to read so much, and how he decides what books to read. He also talks about how focus is a skill that can be cultivated.
Juvoni discusses the idea of being antifragile, why it's important, and provides a few examples. He then goes into more detail on how he remembers what he reads. He talks about using note-taking, smart association, and principle-based learning to increase his retention rate and learn more quickly. Juvoni also explains why he switches between audio and visual mediums depending on the type of book he's reading. He recommends using Goodreads as a platform to keep track of what you read. Juvoni then talks about why it's important to track your habits and progress in general. He provides strategies for developing habits, and shares some of the habit and journaling apps that he uses.
We ask Juvoni for tips on managing a packed schedule. He explains how taking a spaced out approach and writing has helped him get more organized. He then shares a story about his past struggles with depression, including the factors that led to it, and how he dug himself out. Finally, Juvoni offers advice for people who feel stuck and want to reignite their lives. He explains why it's important to have forcing functions, and how to set them up. Juvoni describes how reading, fitness, and writing were the three most important habits for him. He also discusses how to self-actualize by seeking out supportive people and aligning your actions with the vision of who you want to be.
Find out more about Juvoni: https://juvoni.com/
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Joe De Sena is a world-class adventure racer, and the founder and CEO of Spartan Race, the world’s leading obstacle racing company. He is the host of the Spartan Up Podcast, and the executive producer of the NBC’s television show Spartan: Ultimate Team Challenge. Joe is also a two-time New York Times Best Selling Author of “Spartan Up!” and “Spartan Fit!”. His newest book, “The Spartan Way,” was just released on September 4th, 2018.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Joe begins by discussing how his mother's influence and the rediscovery of health and wellness has affected his life. He walks us through his daily routine, including his workouts and meditation practice. Click the link below to watch a video of his morning workout routine. Joe also talks about the benefits of taking ice cold showers. He explains how manufacturing adversity prepares us to more effectively handle tough situations that arise. We then ask Joe to describe how he meditates, both during his running and when sitting at home. He goes on to discuss his short and long distance running routines.
Next, we ask Joe how building his body and mind has affected other areas of his life. He explains how being in top shape has helped him to create and expand his business. He also emphasizes the importance of stamina, strength, and athleticism, and why all three are needed to achieve a "complete" body. Joe then talks about the role models and mentors in his life, and shares what he's learned from them. He explains why asking for help is a vital part of reaching your goals. Joe describes his goal setting process, and reveals some of his major goals. He also references a blog called Will It Make The Boat Go Faster, which ties in with his philosophy about goals and success.
Joe then talks about the main idea and purpose of his new book, “The Spartan Way.” He shares a couple of key principles for success as described in the book, including knowing your true north, and making commitments. Finally, Joe discusses the upcoming world championship Spartan Race, which will be held in December 2018 in Iceland. He explains some of the challenges that participants will face, and offers advice on how to train for it.
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Jason Connell is a writer, speaker, and former magician. Over the past decade, he’s helped thousands of people develop authentic confidence, self-compassion, self-love, and new levels of personal integrity. He has worked with many high profile clients, including fortune 500 executives, professional athletes, artists, and entertainers, and senior White House officials in the Bush and Obama administrations. Jason is also the founder of Ignited Leadership, a human service organization that holds training and speaking events to help today’s young adults become tomorrow’s visionary leaders.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jason starts by discussing his background and the work that he does. He describes a difficult time in his personal life that changed his perspective. He explains why success does not necessarily lead to happiness, and that what really matters is our relationship to ourselves. We then ask Jason why opening up is such a vital part of building stronger connections. He explains how to reveal your true self in a slow and controlled way. He also emphasizes the importance of allowing yourself to feel pain.
Chris and Jason talk about dealing with trauma and how it affects us. Jason points out the cultural elements working against us, including the desire to be happy 24/7, and our tendency to isolate ourselves when we're suffering. Jason then describes what it means to be authentically confident. He dispels common assumptions about confidence, and offers advice on how to cultivate it. Jason also talks about accepting yourself, acknowledging discomfort, and facing your fears. He explains why "fake it until you make it" is an ineffective strategy that sends a toxic message to ourselves.
Next, we ask Jason how people can allow their excitement and passion to overwhelm their fears. He describes the mechanical approach and the spiritual or emotional approach. Jason talks about the role of acceptance and forgiveness in the process of healing from emotional pain. He then discusses why self-compassion and self-love matter. Jason describes how to improve our relationship with ourselves. He explains how to take action to motivate our feelings, and improve our internal dialogue.
Jason discusses why suppression is harmful, and how to recognize if we're suppressing something. We then ask Jason what personal integrity entails, and how people can live with more integrity. He explains how most of us live two different lives: our dreams and desires, versus our actions. He provides some examples on how to close the gap between our inner and outer worlds. Jason also describes how the tension between external behavior and authenticity inspires internal change.
Chris and Jason talk about how different tools are appropriate for different times, and emphasize the importance of not comparing ourselves to others. Jason recommends pausing to reflect on and celebrate our progress. We then ask him n for advice on getting through difficult times and using suffering to our advantage. He distinguishes between two types of pain: grief due to a death or loss, versus pain due to something that was our fault, and offers strategies for dealing with both.
Jason talks about letting go of pain in order to step into something new. He reveals the ritual that he uses when closing out a phase of his life, in order to foster a sense of closure and rebirth. Finally, we ask Jason how people can become better leaders, live with more purpose and meaning, and make a bigger impact. He discusses how doing things for others naturally enhances our leadership abilities and improves many other aspects of our lives.
Find out more about Jason:
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Chase Hughes is an author and speaker on behavior analysis, body language and behavior engineering. He founded Ellipsis Behavior Laboratories in 2011 and is the creator of the Behavioral Table of Elements. Chase frequently develops new programs for the US Government and offers his skills in training members of anti-human trafficking teams around the world. He is also the author of the best-selling book, “The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and Engineering of Human Behavior.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Chase begins by explaining how someone can get better at reading the behavior and body language of others. He describes a number of behavioral cues that signify interest and disinterest, specifically in regards to attraction. Chase then talks about why trust is so important in the courtship process, and reveals common signals of trust. He also explains how to tell when someone is becoming less interested.
Next, we ask Chase how people can mitigate anxiety and stop giving off mixed messages. He discusses where anxiety comes from, and offers strategies for opening up our body language. He then outlines the five character traits that create obedience and followership in others: confidence, discipline, leadership, gratitude, and enjoyment. Chase explains how microgestures influence the internal feelings of people that we're interacting with. He also discusses the authority self-assessment matrix and how to use it to rate our level of influence.
Chase goes into more detail on the five character traits. First, he describes what confidence entails, and discusses the typical qualities and behavior of a person with "Level 5" confidence. Then he talks about discipline and explains how we can be both a butler and a disciplinarian for ourselves. We also ask Chase for some tips on goal setting. Next, he describes leadership, and shares advice on how to develop leadership skills. Finally, he discusses gratitude and enjoyment, and explains how to start embodying these qualities in our day to day lives.
Chase then talks about composure and how it affects persuasion. He describes a couple of psychological experiments that demonstrate how humans are hardwired to obey authority. He explains why slowness of movement is a great indicator of composure. Chase also discusses how authority creates trust, and why trust is the ultimate aphrodisiac. He offers a number of strategies for connecting more deeply with others, as well as how to communicate this effectively.
Finally, Chase discusses the role that charisma plays in building connections. We ask him what human needs people crave, and how we can use this knowledge to improve our social interactions. He talks about how people always seek one of the three main needs: appreciation, approval, or acceptance. Chase emphasizes the importance of making the other person feel significant and treating them as they want to be seen. He leaves us with some tips on how to overcome social masking and get people to behave more authentically.
Find out more about Chase: https://www.ellipsisbehavior.com/
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Dr. Duana Welch applies social science to people's real-life relationship issues. She is the author of “Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do,” which uses science to guide men and women through every stage of dating, from before they meet until they commit. Her second book, “Love Factually For Single Parents [& Those Dating Them],” releases worldwide in January 2019. Duana has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas. She has contributed to NPR, PBS, LA Talk Radio, Redbook, Time, The Daily Mail, Huffington Post, XO Jane, Psychology Today, Psych Alive, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, redOrbit and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos. She coaches men and women who want more love in their lives, globally via Skype, phone, and FaceTime.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Duana begins by talking about her background and why she got into relationship coaching. She shares the story how she met her husband online, and discusses a study that shows couples who meet online tend to be happier. She also explains why "hunting" in the nightlife scene is a costly strategy, and how relationships only based on looks often don't work out. Duana references another study about how men ascribe better qualities to women that they're physically attracted to. Chris then talks about dating based on status and resources.
Next, Duana and Chris answer the age-old question: Can men and women just be friends? Duana explains why women look for provider and protector traits in romantic interests. They discuss the ways that women express interest in and test for interest in men. Duana and Chris also talk about some of the psychological games that people engage in when competing for a mate. Duana goes on to explain why women love humor, and offers tips for how men can use more humor in their interactions.
Chris then talks about differences in people's range of behavior based on their status or hierarchy in a group. Duana shares advice on how reserved guys can be more open and direct, and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence. She discusses how dating is one long social intelligence test. Chris talks about the paradox of "just being yourself." Duana then offers tips on how to make better first impressions and reveal information about yourself in the right way. She explains why women sometimes play hard to get. She also shares advice on how men can more clearly recognize consent.
Duana goes on to discuss the influence that looks and other non-physical traits play in attraction and love. She reveals the five traits that real love comes down to: kindness, respectfulness, lovingness, loyalty, and intelligence. We then ask Duana why people often have a harder time finding the right partner in today's world. She explains how we've become spoiled by choice as a result of the internet and online dating. She also talks about why as women increase in achievement, status, education, their mating pool actually shrinks.
Chris and Duana discuss the social pressures regarding casual sex, differences between men and women, and the biological and cultural influences. Chris describes how past partners have affected what and who he's attracted to. Finally, we ask Duana what it means to provide and protect in today's society, where women might make more money or have greater status or power compared to men. She offers advice to help men navigate the modern dating world and find true love.
Find out more about Dr. Welch: http://www.lovesciencemedia.com http://lovefactually.co
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Guest Introduction:
Greg McKeown is a public speaker and leadership and business consultant. He is the founder and CEO of THIS, Inc., a leadership and strategy design agency based in Silicon Valley. In 2012, The World Economic Forum inducted Greg into the Forum of Young Global Leaders. He is the New York Times bestselling author of the book, “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Greg starts by revealing the question he's been pursuing for the past 20 years: Why is it that otherwise successful people and companies don’t continue to be successful? We ask him what he's discovered through his research. Greg talks about how clarity leads to success and momentum, but also how success can become a catalyst for failure. He emphasizes the importance of learning new mindsets and skill sets to become successful at success. He also presents questions that people can ask themselves to find out if they are caught in the paradox of success.
Next, Greg goes into some of the mindsets and skill sets that people need to learn in order to maintain success. He contrasts the non-essentialist mindset with the essentialist mindset, and outlines the three key skills for becoming an essentialist. He also talks about how saying no is an effective strategy. Chris and Greg discuss some examples of this in the business world. Greg then explains the difference between straddled strategy and trade-off strategy, and why trade-offs are critical to achieving long-term goals.
Greg discusses how to apply the trade-off strategy on a personal level. He recommends taking a day off from everything once every 90 days in order to find clarity. Greg gives an example of how clarity influenced his decisions and ultimately had a drastic impact on his personal life. We ask him how someone can go through this process to figure out what they truly value and begin to cut out what isn't meaningful. He advises rating our activities in terms of their importance to us. He then explains how to identify the clear yes's and clear no's, uncommit from the clear no's, and focus on the clear yes's.
Greg stresses the importance of seizing opportunities and not wasting time on things that don't matter. He references an inspirational article called The Tail End, which shows that there's much less time left than we think. Chris then ties the idea of essentialism into dating. He discusses how our preferences may change over time, and that we sometimes outgrow people. He also talks about how new responsibilities often create new sets of problems. Finally, Greg jumps in to tell the story of how he met his wife. He describes how having clarity and following their purpose led their lives to cross paths.
Find out more about Greg: https://gregmckeown.com
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Guest Introduction:
Thomas M. Sterner is the founder and CEO of The Practicing Mind Institute, and an expert in Present Moment Functioning. He is also a coach and speaker who works with high-performance individuals, helping them to operate effectively within high-stress situations so that they can break through to new levels of mastery. Top media organization such as NPR, Fox News, and Forbes have sought his advice. Tom is the author of two books, including the best-seller “The Practicing Mind,” and his more recent book, “Fully Engaged.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Tom first explains what Present Moment Functioning is, and how being present improves performance levels. We ask him how people can develop this skill and implement it in their lives. Tom explains how to remove ourselves from a stressful situation and become an observer. He describes thought awareness training, and talks about what people might notice when they first start practicing. Tom and Chris also discuss the overstimulation in today's society, and how modern technology is negatively affecting our minds.
Next, we ask Tom what positive changes people will experience as they practice thought awareness consistently over time. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on the process and not the product. Then he talks about how mindset and perception affect us. Tom offers advice on how people can optimize their mindsets in order to effectively handle stress and achieve more. He also provides an example of a young athlete he worked with, and how changing her mindset drastically improved her performance.
Tom goes on to talk about giving yourself permission to succeed. He explains how habits work, and how self-awareness can help us break bad habits and develop new ones. We ask Tom how thought awareness prepares people for adversity and tough times. He explains how to reframe discomfort to use it to our advantage, and why it's important to embrace our emotions. Finally, Tom reveals some of the common issues that he comes across in his clients. He also describes the process that he goes through with new clients to help them function at their highest level.
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Dr. Jennifer Verdolin is an animal behavior researcher specializing in social and mating behavior. She is currently an Assistant Professor at the University of Arizona, as well as an Adjunct Professor at Duke University. Jennifer is the author of two books: “Wild Connection: What Animal Courtship and Mating Tell Us About Human Relationships” and “Raised by Animals: The Surprising New Science of Animal Family Dynamics.” Jennifer was also a long-time featured guest on the popular DL Hughley Show, where she dished out relationship advice.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jennifer opens by talking about first impressions, and how humans and animals assess a potential mate based on appearance. She describes specific physical traits that different animal species look for, and reveals the similarities in humans. She discusses how factors such as symmetry and smells influence attraction. Jennifer also talks about the ways that humans try to manipulate these factors in an attempt to be more attractive. We ask her if there are any animal species that are deceptive in this process.
Next, Jennifer discusses the roles that risk assessment and competition play in mating. She explains why men tend not to approach women that are surrounded by other men, and if this is true in the animal kingdom. She describes the differences in how men and women engage in competition. Chris and Jennifer then talk about how hierarchy, group dynamics, status influence attraction. She discusses how humans use social cues to make decisions, and reveals instances of mate copying in other species.
Jennifer explains why looks matter less to females, and reveals some of the non-physical traits that are most important, including intelligence, status, and personality. She compares the ways in which humans and animals assess compatibility in a mate. Chris elaborates on the idea of attraction as a perception of value. Jennifer and Chris also discuss large age differences in dating, and some of the factors that motivate this, including maturity, experience, and security. Jennifer then talks about why females in both humans and the animal kingdom are usually the ones to signal yes or no to the males.
Chris and Jennifer discuss the screening processes that people use in dating, and how this changes based on maturity as well as the type of relationship that someone is seeking. They talk about how people assess mates based on resources, and Jennifer describes the different ways that animal species and humans demonstrate value. They also discuss figuring out what you value and using that to screen people out. Jennifer emphasizes the importance of being honest and communicating your wants and needs.
Jennifer talks about what makes someone attractive to the opposite sex, as well as the relative importance of physical traits and non-physical traits. She goes on to describe the similarities and differences between the courtship process of humans and animals. She explains how both humans and animals assess compatibility. She also discusses how human mating activity compares to that of animals, and if there is an ideal number of sexual partners.
Finally, Jennifer compares the ways that animals and humans communicate and deal with conflict in long-term relationships. We ask her if there are such things as cheating or breakups in animal relationships. She emphasizes that long-term relationships in humans and animals are always about equality and cooperation. As a last piece of advice, Jennifer encourages us to embrace our imperfections and the things that make us unique. She also leaves us with a few key dating and relationship tips.
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Scott Schimmel is the President & Chief Guide at YouSchool, a business dedicated to helping people discover themselves and build a plan for their future. YouSchool has developed developed a reputation for helping people to find, define, and unleash their true selves.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Scott begins by revealing the common themes that he's found among today's young adults, and why this inspired him to start YouSchool. We ask Scott how we can recognize if our life is out of alignment. He walks us through the six life questions that all YouSchool students address when they start the program. He describes the process that helps people gain clarity, which includes a lot of introspection and consulting with a trusted figure.
Next, Scott goes more in depth on the YouSchool process. He shares an inspiring story of a YouSchool student who completely transformed his life. Scott offers advice for people who have ambitious goals, but they seem out of reach or unattainable at the moment. He talks about the importance of having courage, seeking help from advisors, visualizing, and defining actionable goals. We ask him how someone can deal with people who try to hold them back from their dreams or get them to conform.
Scott then discusses how someone can develop the vision to imagine new possibilities. He emphasizes taking initiative and meeting new mentors. He offers advice on how to seek out and develop mentor relationships and opportunities, particularly for those who are shy or introverted. Finally, Scott talks about some of the qualities that make a great advisor or mentor. He also explains how to properly utilize mentorship in order to get the most out of it.
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Dr. Jack Schafer is a psychologist, professor, intelligence consultant, and former FBI Special Agent. He spent 15 years conducting counter-intelligence and counterterrorism investigations, and seven years as a behavioral analyst for the FBI's National Security Behavioral Analysis Program. Jack is currently a professor with the School of Law Enforcement and Criminal Justice at Western Illinois University. He is also a contributor for Psychology Today, and has authored/co-authored several books, including his most recent release, “The Like Switch.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jack first discusses what he learned about body language and human behavior during his time in the FBI. We ask Jack how people can build a connection. He talks about nonverbals, and walks us through the three basic friend signals: the eyebrow flash, head tilt, and smile. Then he talks about the verbals, including empathic statements and flattery, and provides some examples. Jack also reveals the golden rule of friendship. He goes on to describe mirroring, and explains how to test for rapport when interacting with someone.
For people who are shy, Jack gives advice on how to fill the dead spots in a conversation. He talks about how to build rapport, and explains the concept of common ground. He discusses the three ways to establish common ground: contemporaneous, temporal, and vicarious. Jack then talks about the different ways people seek relationships. He offers some effective strategies for meeting new friends and dates, and how to draw people to you rather than forcing yourself to go out. We ask Jack how people can recognize if their attempts to connect are being reciprocated.
Next, Jack discusses how to prevent anxiety from getting in the way of building a connection. He explains how anxiety affects our mind and body language, and actually causes us to display foe signals. He provides tips for managing our own anxiety, as well as what to say to reduce someone else's anxiety. From there, we ask Jack how to build deeper connections. He talks about the friendship formula, and emphasizes the importance of keeping up the intensity in a relationship. He also describes additional strategies, such as empathic statements, mirroring, and novelty.
Jack goes into more detail on the role that mirroring plays in different phases of a relationship. He explains how mirroring becomes subconscious in longer term relationships. He also talks about how scary or emotional experiences build trust and strengthen bonds. Jack emphasizes the importance of nurturing shared experiences, trying new things, and reminiscing. Chris and Jack then discuss the human need for acceptance and how to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will like us.
Finally, we ask Jack how people can repair a relationship that's drifting apart. He revisits the friendship formula, and describes four ways to strengthen a relationship: proximity, frequency, duration, and intensity. He also touches on the Ben Franklin effect, and how doing a favor for someone makes you feel good about yourself. As a last piece of advice, Jack reminds us to always focus on making the other person's life better.
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Jay Papasan is a bestselling author, executive, and corporate speaker. He serves as the vice president and executive editor at Keller Williams Realty International, the world’s largest real estate company. His most recent book, "The One Thing," co-authored with Gary Keller, has made over 500 appearances on national bestseller lists, including #1 on The Wall Street Journal’s hardcover business list.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Jay starts by discussing the main theme of "The One Thing," and the story behind the idea for the book. We ask him how someone who's feeling overwhelmed can start to cut through the clutter. Jay talks about the power of saying no, which comes from clarity of what you're saying yes to, and relates this to Pareto's 80/20 principle. He offers strategies for how people can determine their top priority and achieve more by doing less.
Jay then talks about how to achieve better results in less time. He emphasizes the importance of focusing and concentrating your energies, and building sustainable habits. Jay dispels the 21-day habit building myth that's pushed in a lot of self-help, and reveals what the scientific research says about how long it actually takes to build a habit. He walks us through some examples of how athletes use practice as their one thing to improve. Jay also talks about how to build momentum towards a goal once a habit is established.
Next, Jay provides some effective strategies for reducing the stress that's often associated with pursuing goals. He clarifies the difference between using external pressure versus intrinsic motivation. He discusses why writing down your goals makes you more likely to achieve them. Jay talks about the importance of being accountable to someone, and offers advice on finding the right person. He also discusses the concept of modeling, and how to adopt other people's strategies and mindsets in order to reverse engineer your way to reaching a goal.
Jay then talks about the two ways people can get more energized about their goals: purpose and willpower. He describes how willpower works, and offers tips for sustaining willpower, including doing your most important work early in the morning. He references Hal Elrod's "The Miracle Morning," which goes more in-depth on this concept. We ask Jay how people can stay on track with their goals and master what's most important to them. He talks about the importance of setting your ego aside and adopting a student mindset. He also emphasizes that mastery is a life-long process and not just a destination.
Finally, Jay tells us the story of how he met his wife, and ties this in with the theme of the podcast. Instead of trying to find the right person, he recommends finding yourself first. He explains how finding and focusing on your passion will naturally attract the right people into your life. As a last tip, Jay encourages the listeners to try the habit forming challenge on the website for "The One Thing," and see how it changes their lives.
Find out more about Jay: http://jaypapasan.com https://www.the1thing.com
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Guest Introduction:
Ted Ryce is a fitness expert, high-performance health coach, and host of The Legendary Life Podcast. He helps his clients develop and stick with high-performance habits that help them manage stress and adversity and lead more successful lives. Ted has worked with Fortune 500 CEOs and celebrities, including Richard Branson, Ricky Martin, and Robert Downey Jr.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Ted begins by talking about some of the personal tragedies he's experienced, and how fitness helped with the healing process. He discusses the connection between physical and mental health, and how we can influence the way we feel through our physiology. He explains why aerobic exercise and meditation are great for calming the body's stress response, while anaerobic exercise isn't as effective. We ask Ted how he might work with a client who is under an immense amount of stress and feeling hopeless.
Ted emphasizes the importance of changing our perspective and accepting adversity as a part of life. He also explains how to shift to a problem solving approach and avoid wallowing in pity after something bad happens. Ted then talks about acknowledging death in a way that pushes us to get the most out of life. He offers strategies for improving the quality of our lives, such as reducing consumption of social media or doing a digital detox, and getting outside and experiencing nature. He talks about the health benefits of spending more time in nature. Ted also recommends investing in ourselves and seeking the help of an expert who has overcome a problem similar to ours.
Chris talks about focusing on diet, exercise, and sleep when he’s stressed, as well as building a consistent social schedule. Ted expands on this and discusses how we can optimize our wellness by focusing on four main areas: exercise, sleep, nutrition, and stress management. He also talks about the importance of spending time with quality people, and references the research that shows how toxic social isolation and loneliness are. Ted describes the two parts of the autonomic nervous system: fight or flight, and rest and digest. He provides additional tips on reducing stress and stimulating our rest and digest system.
Next, Ted discusses the advantages and disadvantages of individual versus group exercise. He talks about being aware of our physical needs and limitations in order to avoid injury. Chris and Ted share stories about physical injuries they've experienced, as well as their recovery processes. Ted then offers advice on how to nurture our social networks and remove negative people from our lives. He also talks about how to properly utilize a coach and not become dependent on them.
In the last part of this interview, Chris and Ted talk about the path to mastery. Chris describes the three most important components for mastering a skill: knowledge, structure, and community. Ted agrees, and adds that it's important to consistently ride the line on the edge of our comfort zones. He suggests two books that explore this concept: "Flow" by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and "The Rise of Superman" by Steven Kotler. Finally, Ted explains how he tracks and measures the progress of his clients, and how this affects his coaching process.
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Dr. Thalma Lobel is an internationally recognized psychologist, and a professor at the School of Psychological Sciences at Tel Aviv University, where she is the director of the child development center. She has been a visiting professor at Harvard, and a visiting researcher at Tufts, the University of California San Diego, and New York University. She is also the author of the book “Sensation: The New Science of Physical Intelligence.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Thalma discusses how our senses affect the way we think, feel, and act, and references a number of fascinating scientific experiments. She first talks about how temperature and texture affect us. Thalma explains why holding a warm object can increase feelings of likeability and trust. She also explains why holding a rough object versus a soft object can make us perceive the same interaction as more argumentative or more cooperative.
Thalma then talks about how the color red impacts us. She describes how seeing red tends to reduce cognitive performance but increase physical performance. She explains how red increases anxiety and avoidant behavior, and discusses the evolutionary and cultural ties to this phenomena. Thalma also talks about why red enhances feelings of sexual attraction and desire. She goes on to describe how brightness affects us, and why light is often associated with positive things, while dark is associated with negative things. We ask her how people can use this knowledge to increase their influence.
Chris and Thalma talk about the parallels between these scientific findings and the language we use to describe people, places, and things. They discuss the relationship between physical distance and psychological distance, and how modern technology has changed the way we communicate. Thalma then talks about how vertical position and size relate to power. She explains how taller people are perceived as more powerful, and how holding larger versus smaller objects also create this effect.
Finally, Thalma discusses how taste and smell influence us. She explains why tasting something sweet enhances feelings of likeability and enthusiasm. She describes how the smell of peppermint can improve physical and cognitive performance. Thalma also talks about how the aroma of fresh baked cookies or coffee can increase likeability and attraction. In closing, she emphasizes that while any single factor might not make a huge difference, together they can have a significant influence on our behavior over time.
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Nick Morgan is one of America’s top communication theorists and coaches. He is a former Fellow at the Center for Public Leadership at Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government, and the founder of Public Words Inc, a company dedicated to developing master communicators. Nick is also the author of several books, including “Trust Me,” “Power Cues,” and his latest book, “Can You Hear Me? How to Connect with People in a Virtual World," which will be released on October 30th, 2018.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Nick starts by describing what it means to be an intentional communicator. He talks about the two components of communication: content and intent, and explains why our body language always trumps our words. Nick reveals the first question we ask ourselves when we meet someone new. He explains how nervousness affects body language, and talks about mirror neurons and how emotions are contagious. He also discusses the evolutionary origins of emotion sharing.
Chris and Nick then talk about common body language cues, and how people's feet and heads indicate emotions. Nick discusses the two aspects of body language: your current feelings, and your history. Chris and Nick each give an example from their coaching to illustrate how past experiences can affect body language. Nick also offers some tips for opening up and preventing our body language from becoming closed.
Next, Nick talks about the process of mirroring, and explains the difference between that and mirror neurons. He goes into the neuroscience of the unconscious mind, and reveals how the mind makes decisions. Nick then discusses some of the concepts in his book, "Power Cues," particularly the neuroscience of the voice. He talks about how speaking at the lower end versus the higher end of our vocal range affects how others perceive us. Nick also describes how nervousness affects our voice. He offers some tips on how to speak with more confidence and poise.
Nick then discusses some power cues associated with learning to read other people. He explains how we unconsciously measure and locate the position of everyone in a room. He gives advice on quieting the mind, opening up, and becoming more aware of our surroundings. Finally, we ask Nick about his new book, "Can You Hear Me?" He discusses how digital communication has made it much more difficult to read emotions. He then offers strategies for how to mitigate this problem and infuse more emotion into digital communication.
Find out more about Dr. Morgan: http://drnickmorgan.com https://www.publicwords.com
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Fran Greene is a nationally renowned flirting, dating, and relationship coach. She runs a private practice working with singles who want to maximize their social lives, and with couples who want to improve their relationships. Fran is also an accomplished online dating coach, helping singles find their perfect match via the internet. She is the author of “The Flirting Bible: Your Ultimate Photo Guide to Reading Body Language, Getting Noticed, and Meeting More People Than You Ever Thought Possible.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Fran begins by discussing what flirting entails. She talks about how to reframe fear of rejection, as well as the importance of faking it until you make it. Fran also offers advice on how to ask the right questions to find out if a woman is single or in a relationship. She then walks us through some of her top flirting tips, including starting conversations, listening, making warm eye contact, and complimenting.
Next, Fran discusses the art of small talk, and explains how to enter into group conversations. We ask her what men can do to convey approachability and attractiveness. She describes preening and gives some common examples. Fran then talks about what men should look for to find out if women are receptive to their advances. She also explains how to get to the next step and exchange contact information.
Finally, Fran offers advice on how men can properly build trust and intimacy in their initial interaction with a woman. She emphasizes the importance of making your flirting partner feel great about themselves. She also encourages people to practice flirting with everyone so that it becomes a part of their personality. Fran concludes with the Flirting Bible's 10 commandments, as outlined in her book.
Find out more about Fran: http://www.frangreene.com
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Guest Introduction:
Darius Foroux is an entrepreneur, writer, and podcaster who focuses on topics such as productivity, habits, decision making, and personal finance. Since starting his blog in 2015, his articles have been read by over 4 million people. He has also written several books, including “Do It Today,” “Think Straight,” and “Win Your Inner Battles,” and he hosts his own podcast, The Darius Foroux Show.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Darius starts by talking about how to deal with tough times. He describes how changing his perspective and looking at situations with a helicopter view had a major impact on his life. We ask Darius why thoughts are so important and influential in our lives. He references a personal tragedy that woke him up and pushed him to start living with more purpose and meaning.
Next, Darius discusses the importance of self-awareness, and how journaling has helped him become more self-aware. He also talks about how music sparked his interest in reading, and how reading then inspired him to start keeping a journal. He shares some of the books he's read recently that have been most impactful to him. Next, we ask Darius how to break out of negative thought patterns. He encourages people who are feeling stuck in life to start a journal and write out their goals.
Darius and Chris then discuss the ideas of structure and chaos in life. They describe how they structure their schedules and lifestyles. They talk about the importance of getting adequate sleep and focusing on physical health in order to recharge. Darius emphasizes that self improvement is a process, and it's important to test ideas and create a system that works best for you. As a final tip, he reminds us to live our lives consciously and with more self-awareness.
Find out more about Darius: https://dariusforoux.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. David Lewis received his doctorate in psychology from the Department of Experimental Psychology at the University of Sussex. He is the founder and director of research at Mindlab International, which specializes in brain research and neuroscience as applied to consumer behaviour and decision-making. Dr. Lewis has spoken at conferences, workshops and seminars around the world on topics including stress, memory and mind enhancement, decision making, neuromarketing, and techniques of mind control. He is also the author of several books, including “Impulse: Why We Do What We Do Without Knowing Why We Do It.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, David begins by talking about his background and how he got interested in psychology. He then delves into the topic of impulse, and contrasts the two extremes of a very logical mind and a very impulsive mind. We ask David to explain the science of what's happening when someone feels an impulse. He describes different parts of the brain and how they function. He also discusses where intuition comes from, and the pluses and minuses of acting on impulse.
David goes on to talk about the fight or flight response, where fear comes from, and how fear can actually be conditioned into people. He then returns to the topic of impulse, specifically how it works in regards to attraction and love. David talks about charisma, and what qualities people tend to find attractive in one another. He also explains how scents and aromas influence us, and how they can subconsciously trigger emotional responses.
Next, David discusses how temperature influences attraction, and why warmth is important in establishing friendly relationships. He talks about the relationship between adrenaline and attraction, and why attraction is more likely to occur in a fearful situation. David then goes into some of the connections between emotions and memory. He explains how the way we feel affects the emotions of people around us. He also provides a number of strategies for increasing our charisma.
In the last segment of this interview, David offers some insights on why men get nervous around women they're attracted to. He talks about how this anxiety hinders our thinking abilities, and gives some tips for managing it. David then explains how nurture and early childhood experiences affect us. More specifically, he discusses how the amount of interaction with the opposite sex during childhood impacts our ability to connect with women as adults. Finally, we ask David about the qualities that women find most and least attractive in men.
Find out more about Dr. Lewis: https://drdavidlewis.com http://themindlab.co.uk
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David Allen is widely considered to be the world’s leading expert on personal and organizational productivity. He has more than 30 years of pioneering research and experience as a management consultant and executive coach to some of America’s most prestigious organizations, such as New York Life, the World Bank, and the U.S. Navy. David is the author of 3 books, including the international best-seller "Getting Things Done," which TIME magazine called “the defining self-help business book of its time.” He is also the founder of the David Allen Company, an executive coaching firm using his "Getting Things Done" work-life management methodology.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, David walks us through his five-step GTD methodology: capture, clarify, organize, reflect, engage. We ask him to provide some examples of how he uses GTD in his daily planning. David reveals common mistakes that people make when trying to apply GTD. He talks about the importance of being specific in defining your goals. He also discusses the concept of trusted choice, and how someone can determine what they need to focus on.
David then talks about how our minds become clouded and overwhelmed, which ultimately hinders our productivity. He discusses how changing our mindsets to start seeing problems as projects can enhance our productivity and overall quality of life. He also explains why having clarity clears up space in our minds to connect more deeply with others.
Finally, we ask David about some of the other ways people have applied his GTD methodology, and what he has learned from some of his most successful clients. He talks about the purpose of productivity, and why it's often a misunderstood word. As a last piece of advice, David emphasizes the importance of taking time to relax and recharge, and how this helps us to be more productive and successful.
Find out more about David: https://gettingthingsdone.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Diane Windingland is a professional speaker at Small Talk Big Results, where she gives keynote and motivational speeches for business organizations. She is also a speech and presentation coach at virtualspeechcoach.com. Diane is the author of several books on speaking and communication, including her most recent book, “The Respect Virus: How to Create a Contagious Culture of Respect.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Diane begins by walking us through the essentials of small talk: listen, learn, and like. She describes an effective three-step process for breaking the ice, known as O.R.A: observe, reveal, ask. Diane talks about the importance of asking clarifying questions, and gives some examples. She also explains how to recognize different communication styles, and how to change your conversational approach depending on whether someone is more introverted or extroverted.
Next, we ask Diane how people can become more effective and engaging networkers. She talks about knowing what you want, networking with the right crowd, researching a target person, and being aware of your social media presence. Diane then explains what to look for in the body language of people in conversation. She offers tips for knowing when and how to enter a group conversation. She also provides some strategies for improving your storytelling skills.
Finally, Diane walks us through the L.E.A.P formula for dealing with difficult people: listen, empathize, agree, partner. She also discusses the four main qualities of excellent leaders, known as the four E's: expectation, encouragement, empowerment, and empathy. As a last tip, Diane encourages people to be more vulnerable in order to establish trust and openness with others.
Find out more about Diane: http://smalltalkbigresults.com http://www.virtualspeechcoach.com
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Guest Introduction:
David Wygant is a world renowned life changer, social strategist, and dating and relationship coach. Through his live workshops and online content, he has helped millions of men and women improve their lives over the past 20 years. David has been featured on numerous major media outlets, including AskMen, Cosmopolitan, New York Times, NBC, and MTV.
Interview Summary:
In this raw and honest interview, David opens with the story of how he got into dating and relationship coaching. He stresses that there are no shortcuts to developing great social skills; you have to commit to taking consistent action everyday. David describes the initial process he would go through with a new client. He talks about sharpening your observation skills, owning your words, and stepping into a woman's reality in order to connect.
David then discusses how mindset affects us, and why it's important to lose attachment to outcome and be present in social interactions. He explains why trying to create attraction doesn't work, and that in order to be attractive, you first have to love yourself. David offers advice on how guys can cultivate more self-love. He also talks about how to be a better listener and build a stronger connection.
Next, David describes the process of working through underlying psychological issues with his clients. He explains how to become more self-aware and recognize your patterns in order to become a better version of yourself. David also discusses validation, and what qualifies as healthy levels of validation. He then talks about sexual escalation, and why authenticity is such a sexy quality.
We ask David how a man can recognize when a woman is attracted. He goes back to the idea of learning by doing, and recognizing patterns through experience. Finally, David talks about the power of mentors and trusting their processes. He describes his philosophy for mastering any new skill in life. He discusses the importance of being specific with your needs and desires, and staying aware of them as they change over time.
Find out more about David: https://www.davidwygant.com
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Stan Beecham is a sports psychologist and leadership consultant, and is the founder of The Leadership Resource Center, based in Atlanta, Georgia. His work with collegiate, Olympic, and professional athletes from many sports has afforded him insights into the minds of great competitors. He has taken his wisdom into the business world, creating leadership development programs for corporate clients. He is also the author of the book “Elite Minds: Creating the Competitive Advantage.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Stan begins by discussing how much innate talent and training contribute to a person's accomplishments. He distinguishes the difference between thoughts and beliefs, and talks about how beliefs affect performance. Stan outlines the two core beliefs that we need to be aware of in order to perform at a high level. He also explains why it's so important to believe we are good enough, and how a constant desire to improve actually undermines our abilities.
We ask Stan to provide some key strategies for building a successful mindset. He walks us through the process of examining and shifting our beliefs to ones that serve us better. He discusses the importance of being present and accepting, quieting the mind, and trusting ourselves and our senses. Stan explains why he believes that skill comes from passion rather than drive. He also talks about accepting the ups and downs of life as part of the process.
Stan then discusses the myth of individual performance, and why no one becomes successful on their own. He emphasizes the importance of community, and acknowledging our vulnerability and dependence on others. Stan also talks about the power of luck, opportunity, and being in the right place at the right time. He explains how success is a product of both acting on free will, as well as seizing opportunities as they arise.
Finally, Stan talks about the connection between enjoyment and success. He explains how spending time on things that are meaningful leads to us feeling more alive and awake, as well as joyful and peaceful. He says that one of the top priorities of life is to find our purpose, because living without one can lead to internal pain and suffering.
Find out more about Dr. Beecham: http://www.drstanbeecham.com
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Guest Introduction:
Graham Stoney is a trauma therapist and coach, as well as a comedian and musician, based out of Sydney, Australia. He is the founder of The Confident Man Project, which is dedicated to helping men heal from unresolved childhood trauma and regain their natural self-confidence. He is also a therapist and coach for artists, helping them to overcome performance anxiety. Graham’s main focus is working with men who have experienced emotional abandonment and enmeshment with their mothers.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Graham first discusses his background and he got into therapy and coaching. He talks about his difficult childhood, where emotions weren't handled well in his family, and he often was unable to express himself. We ask Graham to describe the process he went through to become more assertive and expressive. He explains how he learned to release feelings of fear and be more honest about his emotions.
Graham talks about how music and comedy can help with externalizing pain and working through emotional issues. He mentions some additional strategies, including somatic healing, which we discussed more in depth on a recent podcast with Robert Schwenkler. Graham then defines what emotional abandonment is, and describes how it affects people. He also takes us through the emotional development process from birth to adulthood.
Next, Graham discusses how to become more emotionally open and embrace vulnerability. He also reveals some of the common blocks to emotional openness. The conversation then shifts into finding truth and meaning in old mythological stories and fables. Graham and Chris talk about literal versus metaphorical interpretations, and taking life lessons from fictional stories.
Finally, Graham describes the process of cutting the emotional umbilical cord from his parents, and learning to properly express his emotions. He talks about clearing emotional baggage and letting go of past traumas, as well as setting boundaries and maintaining healthy relationships. Graham and Chris provide some examples from their own lives.
Find out more about Graham: https://confidentman.net/about https://grahamstoney.com
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Guest Introduction:
James Tripp is a UK-based and internationally recognized and respected transformative coach, people developer, and teacher of Hypnosis and Influential Communication. He is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, James opens up about his struggles with intense anxiety as a young man, and how he dug himself out of it and turned his life around. He contrasts the victim mindset with the owner mindset, and offers strategies on making the shift from living as a victim to living as an owner.
Next, we ask James what people can do to get out of their heads and into the world. He walks us through how to identify and eliminate fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs. He emphasizes the importance of letting go of our past, and realizing that our thoughts are not reality.
James then explains how to cultivate higher and more resourceful mental states. He talks about how to overcome anxiety by imagining ourselves in new places and situations. He also discusses self-esteem and self-image, and offers strategies on how we can re-engineer our self-image. James describes the process of discovering our felt sense and shifting our internal beliefs.
Finally, James talks about how to adopt a creative mindset to make massive changes in our lives. He gives advice on committing to change, thinking big, and expanding our comfort zones. He closes with an inspirational message to the listeners to embrace reality as a medium of infinite possibility.
Find out more about James: https://www.jamestripp.co.uk https://www.hypnosiswithouttrance.com https://realityshaper.com
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Guest Introduction:
Gary Wilson is the founder of the website yourbrainonporn.com, which focuses on informing people about the effects of internet porn on the brain. He is also the author of the book, "Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction."
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Gary starts by clarifying the difference between masturbation and porn use. He explains why porn has become such a big problem for a lot of young men in today's society. Gary talks about the concept of novelty, how it activates the reward system, and how the internet takes advantage of the reward system. He also discusses the conflict between the two human needs of sexual novelty and pair bonding.
Gary then goes into some of the ways porn affects the brain, and describes the similarities between behavioral and drug addictions. He explains how the increase in access to internet porn in recent years has contributed to the rise in porn-related problems. He cites a number of fascinating studies. Gary then talks about the progression of attraction and arousal throughout the course of a relationship.
Next, Gary discusses how people can recognize if they're addicted to porn. He describes some of the negative physical and psychological effects of prolonged and excessive porn use. Gary outlines some effective strategies for quitting porn. He also mentions some of the setbacks that guys might encounter while overcoming porn addiction.
Finally, we ask Gary for advice on developing healthier sexual relationships. He emphasizes the importance of unplugging from digital communities and building more real life connections. He then describes some of the changes that guys might notice as they start to heal from porn addiction. Gary shares some inspiring recovery stories from his website.
Find out more about Gary: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Joe Luciani has been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than 35 years. He is the internationally best-selling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, and offers free self-coaching advice on his website self-coaching.net.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Joe begins by discussing his struggles with anxiety in his adolescent years, and how it influenced him to become a psychologist. We ask him how his coaching approach differs from other self-help methods. He explains how he combines motivational psychology with the more traditional cognitive-behavioral approach.
Joe then talks about how negative thought patterns and habits can lead to chronic anxiety and depression. He offers advice on becoming more aware, catching ourselves, and breaking out of destructive patterns. He also discusses why over-control causes stress, and how to let go of trying to control outcomes. Joe emphasizes the importance of self-trust, and explains how to strengthen our self-trust muscle in order to be more spontaneous. He walks us through the 3-step self-talk process that he covers in his books.
Next, Joe talks about the importance of choice in our lives. He offers a number of effective strategies for the listeners to coach, motivate, and empower themselves to choose happiness. Joe discusses how to live more optimistically and avoid falling into victimhood. He explains how to break out of negative thought loops. He also talks about building confidence through gradual exposure and desensitization.
Finally, we ask Joe how listeners can change their interpretation of external circumstances to better support them. He again emphasizes the importance of choosing an optimistic mindset. He also describes the mysterious phenomena of how we tend to find and attract what we're looking for. Joe provides some examples of clients who began experiencing more luck and success after adopting a more optimistic mindset.
Find out more about Dr. Luciani: http://www.self-coaching.net
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Guest Introduction:
Robert Schwenkler is a Warrior of Love, Healer, and Leader in Men’s Work. He is the founder of the Brotherhood Community, an organization dedicated to the development of Integrated Male Leaders – men who embody their power and sensitivity, and who are committed to thriving in all aspect of life. Robert also does individual coaching, where he blends deep coaching, spirituality, and somatic healing to help clients open up emotionally.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Robert begins by describing a dark time earlier in his life, when he experienced deep emotional pain and depression. He reveals some of the drivers behind this, and explains why it's important for men to build community. He discusses how men's groups have enabled him to find greater connection and support and helped him recover.
Robert's group, The Brotherhood Community, operates under the paradigm of Integrated Male Leadership. He talks about what this means, outlining the qualities of the stereotypical alpha and beta male, and how to integrate the best aspects of both types. Robert then provides a more detailed explanation of emotional trauma, and shares strategies for healing from past trauma.
In the final part of the interview, Chris joins in and describes the four step cognitive process that he works through with his clients. Robert contrasts that with his approach of somatic healing, which starts on a more intuitive, physical level. He discusses how we all carry emotional trauma in our bodies, and how to access it and release it. Chris reinforces Robert's points by providing examples of when he attended a body work class and a breathing class.
Find out more about Robert: http://robertschwenkler.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Carol Fleming is a speech and communications coach in private practice since 1980, and is the founder of The Sound of Your Voice, a San Francisco consultancy firm that specializes in vocal development and communication training. She is also the author of the audio series “The Sound of Your Voice” and “The Serious Business of Small Talk,” and the book “It’s the Way You Say It: Becoming Articulate, Well-Spoken, and Clear.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, we start by asking Carol about the most common vocal problems she comes across in her practice. She discusses ways that people can improve the sound of their voice, including how to be less monotone and develop more musicality. She also talks about the mental aspect of letting go in order to develop more vocal variety.
Next, we ask Carol to describe some common causes of poor vocal projection, and how people can project their voices better, especially in loud environments. She walks us through a few exercises for easing vocal tension.
Carol then discusses how people can communicate more confidently and assertively. She explains what up-talking is, and why doing this makes us sound less confident. Carol talks about the mechanics of sound and voice production in the body, and how breath affects vocal tone. She describes diaphragmatic breathing and explains the difference between proper and improper breathing. She also walks us through the process of adjusting your voice tone.
Finally, Carol provides some effective strategies for reducing or eliminating stage fright when speaking in public, whether it's in a social or professional environment. She closes out by encouraging those who want to improve their voice to take action and not just read or listen about it.
Find out more about Dr. Carol Fleming: https://www.itsthewayyousayit.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Dr. Mark Goulston is a business advisor, consultant, speaker, trainer, coach and mentor to CEOs and entrepreneurs. He has been a professor of psychiatry at UCLA’s internationally renowned Neuropsychiatric Institute for 25 years. He's also been a crisis psychiatrist for 30 years, and has worked as an FBI and police hostage negotiation trainer. Mark is the author of several best-selling books, including “Just Listen”, “Get Out of Your Own Way”, and his most recent book, “Talking to Crazy.” He is also a contributing writer for a number of online media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Business Insider, and the Huffington Post, and frequently appears as a guest expert on several major TV news outlets.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, we start by asking Mark about self-defeating behaviors. He gives some examples, such as not listening, and describes how being a poor listener negatively impacts our relationships. Mark then references an article that he wrote: "Are you MIA? A 10-Step Algorithm for Being Present." He walks us through five of the steps and explains how following them can help us demonstrate empathy and build connection with others.
Mark also discusses the importance of being able to express oneself in a relationship, and why we become stressed when we feel like we're not being heard. He explains how stress affects our brains, and how men and women deal with stress differently. He also talks about the relationship between listening and self-awareness, and offers some tips on how to become more self-aware.
Mark then explains the difference between stress and distress, and demonstrates how to lead ourselves and others out of distress. He takes us through his 6-step process, where he imagines himself speaking with his old mentors. Mark also shares a personal story about a difficult time earlier in his life, and how a key mentor helped him out of it. He talks about the feelings that lead to people becoming suicidal, and how to help those who are in a dark place. He quotes from his 2-part article on this topic, which recently went viral on Medium.
Finally, we ask Mark how to build deep relationships and find great mentors. He recommends finding people who care about your development, and who have been through a challenge similar to yours. Mark also emphasizes the importance of expressing both masculine and feminine energy for building stronger connections and getting through difficult conversations.
Find out more about Dr. Mark Goulston: http://markgoulston.com/
Articles referenced in this podcast: http://www.bizjournals.com/bizjournals/how-to/growth-strategies/2017/12/are-you-mia-a-10-step-algorithm-for-being-present.html https://medium.com/@mgoulston/why-people-kill-themselves-its-not-depression-44113406ac79 https://medium.com/@mgoulston/why-people-kill-themselves-part-2-journey-into-the-dark-night-of-the-soul-78af12b848d3
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Guest Introduction:
Tripp Kramer is a Los Angeles based dating coach and the founder of Tripp Advice, which provides attraction and dating advice for men.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Tripp begins by describing his personal journey of transforming his social and dating life. He talks about some of the patterns he discovered, and then goes into more specific advice. Tripp offers strategies on how to become more confident and fun, and emphasizes the importance of teasing in building attraction. He also discusses how to become more expressive and animated by taking baby steps and gradually expanding your comfort zones.
Tripp talks about some of the differences between social and casual settings, and how to approach women in each environment. He discusses how to improve your social calibration and build emotional intelligence. He also gives tips on reading the environment and the people that you’re interacting with. Tripp then debunks the 10,000 hour rule, and explains why you don't need that many hours of experience to be successful with dating.
Finally, Tripp offers advice on using journaling to track your progress and growth, hold yourself accountable, and stay motivated. He finds that a lot of guys get caught up in reaching the end goal rather than enjoying the journey of improving themselves. He recommends being more patient, embracing the ups and downs, and learning to love the process.
Find out more about Tripp: https://trippadvice.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Marcus Oakey is the founder of Your Charisma Coach and the Conversation Masterclass, and is the author of the e-book “How to Talk to Anybody Without Fear of Rejection.” He has trained thousands of students, business professionals, and celebrities in countries all around the world for more than a decade, and has even worked with clients and instructors of several major dating companies.
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Marcus starts out by discussing the many qualities of great conversation. He demonstrates how to be more enthusiastic, ask questions that invoke emotion, and use statements that express your personality. He emphasizes the importance of listening, and offers advice on how to quiet the chatter in our heads and become better listeners. Marcus also gives advice on how to be more relaxed and come up with wittier responses in a conversation. He then describes the four key components of connection.
Marcus goes on to cover more specific aspects of conversation. He talks about the foundations of storytelling, and gives advice on how people can tell more engaging stories. Next, he explains why positive emotions are so critical to being a good conversationalist. He also shares some strategies for checking in with someone during a conversation, being more observant, and how to handle awkward pauses or silences.
Finally, Marcus talks about the importance of authenticity, sharing your truth, and being present and in tune with your emotions. He offers advice for people who might be inhibited by internal pressures or conflicts. He then encourages the listeners to take action by setting conversation goals, gaining reference experiences, and experimenting with new conversation tactics.
Find out more about Marcus: www.marcusoakey.com www.yourcharismacoach.com
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Guest Introduction:
Kurt Mortensen is one of America's leading authorities on influence, persuasion, and negotiation, and has spent over 15 years researching these topics. He is also the author of several books, including Persuasion IQ, The Laws of Charisma and the best-seller Maximum Influence.
Interview Summary:
In this episode, Kurt begins by discussing the foundations of influence, persuasion, and negotiation. He outlines some of the common mistakes people make when trying to influence and persuade others, and explains how to avoid these mistakes. He also offers strategies on how to connect, build trust, and establish rapport, and walks us through the "Five C's of Trust."
Kurt goes on to explain the concept of Persuasion IQ, and discusses how listeners can increase their own Persuasion IQ. In particular, he emphasizes the importance of asking the right questions and using storytelling to more effectively build trust. Kurt then delves into the topic of charisma. He outlines a few of the most important laws of charisma as discussed in his book, and gives some tips on how to become more charismatic. He also explains the difference between confidence and arrogance, and demonstrates how to navigate the fine line between the two.
Finally, Kurt discusses the essential characteristics of the millionaire mindset, and offers some strategies for becoming more successful both in our personal and professional lives. He talks about the connection between mindset and emotions, how they influence our actions, and how we can work through limiting beliefs.
Find out more about Kurt: www.kurtmortensen.com
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Guest Introduction:
Tal Gur is a blogger, coach, lifestyle entrepreneur, and devoted adventurer. He is the creator of the blog Fully Lived, where he has documented his personal journey to complete 100 life goals in 10 years. He has tackled financial, physical, and spiritual dreams one by one, including completing Ironman New Zealand, creating financial independence, surfing at the world’s most sought-after beaches, and rebuilding a Peruvian family’s flood-ravaged home. Tal is also the author of the book “The Art of Fully Living: 1 Man. 10 Years. 100 Life Goals Around the World.”
Interview Summary:
In this episode, Tal begins by talking about what inspired him to decide to pursue 100 life goals in 10 years. He references a conversation that he had with a few friends that deeply changed his outlook on life. He discusses some of the major goals he's achieved on this journey, and talks about the importance of motivation and immersion in helping you to successfully reach your goals.
Tal then takes us through his process for achieving goals, and talks about the benefits of having a coach and support system. He offers advice on overcoming weaknesses, optimizing your mindset to erase limiting beliefs, and exploring the why behind your goals. He also talks about using meditation and mindfulness to uncover insights and gain clarity on which goals to pursue. In recent years, Tal has shifted his goals to focus more on being of service and providing value to others. We ask him how this has changed his life.
In the second part of this interview, Tal discusses some of his core values and how he discovered them. He offers advice for listeners who might be in a funk or feeling stuck in life, and how they can find and connect more with their aliveness. He also talks about the concept of essence and what it entails. Tal suggests that listeners check out www.16personalities.com to take a personality test to learn more about themselves and their essence.
The discussion then leads into the topic of fear: what it is, why we experience it, and how to build courage, follow your heart, and take action despite fear. Tal emphasizes the importance of going out of your comfort zones and re-framing fear to use it to your advantage. He also shares a story about a near death experience and what he learned from this event.
Finally, Tal offers some tips on how to choose more empowering beliefs and assumptions, and explains how he uses curiosity to re-examine life events and situations that might otherwise be perceived as bad. He walks us through his spiritual practice, which centers around enjoying the moment, being present, and letting go of attachment to outcome and form.
Find out more about Tal: https://fullylived.com/
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Guest Introduction:
Shogo Garcia is the founder of The Social Generation. He is a dating coach, writer, and speaker, who guides men towards developing natural attractive personalities through personal awareness and confident self-expression.
Interview Summary:
In this episode, Shogo starts out by stressing the importance of having passions in life and believing in yourself. He references his own personal story to show how spending time on meaningful and enjoyable things will give you more to talk about, and enhance your natural charm and charisma. He offers some tips that listeners can use to start shifting their lives in the direction of their passions.
Shogo then shares some great advice on how guys can have better conversations and build deeper connections with women. He explains how to be more present in an interaction, let go of expectations, and develop conversational flow. He also talks about how guys can take pressure off of themselves and make socializing seem more fun. Shogo then walks us through a mindfulness exercise to be more present and avoid falling into the mental traps of past-thinking and future-thinking.
Finally, Shogo offers strategies for avoiding the friend zone, asking a woman on a date, and expressing sexual interest. He emphasizes the importance of timing and social intuition, so that guys can figure out when and how to express interest in an appropriate way.
Find out more about Shogo: www.thesocialgeneration.com
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Chi Szeto is a dance instructor and the founder of iDance Academy and Club Dance Lessons.
Summary: In this interview, Chi shares tips for dancing well, and using this skill to meet and attract women.
Find out more about Chi Szeto: Website: www.idanceacademy.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/ClubDanceLessons Facebook: www.facebook.com/ClubDanceLessons
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Dr. Joe Rubino is an internationally acclaimed expert on the topic of self-esteem, a life-changing personal development trainer and success coach, and best selling author of 11 books.
Summary: In this interview, Dr. Joe Rubino share with us strategies for developing a healthy mindset and going after what you want.
Find out more about Dr. Rubino: Website: www.centerforpersonalreinvention.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/DrJoeRubino Amazon: www.amazon.com/Joe-Rubino/e/B001IGSXRW
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Dean J. is the founder of Conversational Skills Core. His company teaches people how to work through their shyness and introversion to become more socially fluent.
Summary: In this interview, Dean shares his story, explains the differences between shyness and introversion, talks about how to work through both, and gives wonderful advice for making more friends and building better relationships.
Find out more about Dean: Website: www.conversation-skills-core.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/DeanJ_CsC
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Eric Waisman is the founder of Jaunty, a company that teaches communications and being social. Through Jaunty, he's worked with companies such Google, YouTube, Yelp, WeWork, General Assembly, Wired, and Ernst and Young, teaching their employees social and emotional intelligence.
Eric is a fourth generation entrepreneur, who left his corporate career with MetLife, Merrill Lynch, and American Express to follow his true passions – teaching communication skills and being social. He has spent over a decade studying human behavior and the science of attraction.
Summary: In this interview, Eric gives excellent tips for developing both conversation agility and expanding our social intelligence.
Find out more about Eric: Website: http://www.jaunty.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/we.are.jauntyr Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericwaisman/
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Guest Introduction:
Mark Divine is the Founder and CEO of SEALFIT and NavySEALs.com, and creator of the Unbeatable Mind Academy, a mental and physical strength building program that specializes in helping individuals and businesses maximize their productivity. He is the author of several bestselling books, including “Unbeatable Mind,” “The Way of the SEAL,” and “8 Weeks to SEALFIT.”
Interview Summary:
In this interview, Mark shares important insights for anyone who wants to live a healthy life, find purpose and meaning, and develop into a better leader.
Find out more about Mark: https://unbeatablemind.com https://sealfit.com https://navyseals.com
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Jamie Thompson is a Los Angeles based sex and relationship coach.
Summary:
In this interview, Jamie talk about masculinity, sexuality, and what women want from men.
Find out more about Jamie: Website: www.jamiethompsoncoaching.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CoachJamieThompson Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/themysterykey Twitter: www.twitter.com/themysterykey
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Allan Pease is one of the world's top experts on body language and communication. He, along with his co-writer (his wife Barbara) are the authors of 18 best selling books -- ten of these became #1 best sellers. Allan is a highly sought after speaker and consultant who has coached some of the world's most well known leaders, including Vladimir Putin (before he became president of Russia).
His company, Pease International, teaches communication skills, body language, as well as sales and negotiation techniques to governments, businesses, and people, in almost every country globally.
Summary:
In this interview, Allan teaches us how to use an understanding of body language to have more success in love, dating, business, and life.
Find out more about Allan: Website: www.peaseinternational.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/AllanandBarbaraPease/ Ted: www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZZ7k8cMA-4 Amazon: www.amazon.com/Allan-Pease/e/B001H6PKJW Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allan_Pease
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Steve Errey is a UK based confidence coach. He's the founder of the confidence.coach and the author of The Code, which "Builds on what you already know, leverages your natural inner confidence and takes you to a place where you're ready to get out there, be yourself and put your dent in the universe."
Summary:
In this interview, Steve talks about confidence, what it is, and how to build it.
Find out more about Steve: Website: www.confidence.coach Facebook: www.facebook.com/confidencecoach Twitter: www.twitter.com/steveerrey Amazon: www.amazon.com/Steve-Errey/e/B008AAK53Y
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Nikki Owen is an internationally renowned speaker and the UK’s leading expert on charisma. She is the founder of The Charisma Model program, and is part of the executive faculty at Henley Business Schoo,l where she teaches charisma to international business leaders. In addition, Nikki is an official political commentator for Aljazeera Television and The Sunday Tribune.
Summary:
In this interview, Nikki examines the qualities of charismatic leaders, and then explains what it is about them that makes us love them. She goes on to illustrate how we can use these lessons to nurture and enhance our own charisma.
Find out more about Nikki: Website: www.thecharismamodel.com/ Website: www.audiencewithcharisma.com/
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J.D. Dallas is a dating and attraction advisor, as well as a motivational life counselor with Modern Male Lifestyle. He's the author of the book The Dating Attitude, and has produced over 50 hours of audio trainings for men who are looking to get their life in order.
Summary:
In this interview J.D. talks to us about the common characteristics of an alpha male and how these attributes and behaviors differ from that of the typical that beta male. He goes on to explain specifics steps a man can do to begin acquiring these attributes, as well as strategies that he can use to overcome the obstacles (both internal and external) that will impede him on his journey.
More about J.D. Dallas:
Website: www.modernmalelifestyle.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/jddallas1 Twitter: www.twitter.com/modmanlife
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Patricia Ryan Madson is a professor Emerita at Stanford University, where she has taught improvisation since 1977. She currently works as a professional speaker and consultant to corporations, local governments, and educational institutions on how to use improv to be more spontaneous, learn to trust yourself and your ideas, and to be more in the moment. She is the author of the book “Improv Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up.”
Summary:
In this interview Patricia talks to us about how to use the maxims of improv to live a happy, creative, and fulfilling life. She explains that too many of us live in our head, in anticipation and fear of things that will never happen. As an alternative, she gives us a guide to how we can have more faith in ourselves and our abilities, and use life's opportunities to create amazing moments and an incredible life of freedom and possibilities.
Find out more about Patricia: Website: www.improvwisdom.com Amazon: www.amazon.com/Patricia-Ryan-Madson/e/B001K8S5SU Twitter: www.twitter.com/patryanmadson
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Tony D. is a dating and lifestyle coach at Absolute Ability. He is also the author of two books: “A Thousand Tiny Failures: Memoirs of a Pickup Artist,” and “I Hope It’s Sunny Out - A Guide to Meeting Women in the Daytime."
Summary:
In this interview, Tony talks to us about his journey from a guy who was shy and struggled with women, to his current place as one of Canada's premier dating coaches. In addition, he discusses meeting women during the day vs. at night, why appearance matters, and simple things you can do improve your fashion and grooming. He also talks about how to strike up conversations, and how to move a relationship sexually.
Find out more about Tony D: Website: www.absoluteability.com Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Thousand-Tiny-Failures-Tony-D-ebook/dp/B00F225ZTM/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8/unleashyouralpha Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Hope-its-Sunny-Out-Meeting-ebook/dp/B00F13MD3I/ref=pd_sim_kstore_1?ie=UTF8&refRID=1C5672DB0TW346SEVSND
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Mike Campbell is an incredibly shredded Sydney, Australia based personal trainer, coach, and food expert. He is the author of the book “Unleash Your Alpha: Eat Like a Man, Train Like a Beast, Operate Like a Gentleman, and Become a Legend."
Summary:
In this interview, Mike discusses mindset, diet, exercise, and planning, outlining the foundations of what you need to do to sculpt your body into elite shape and unleash your inner alpha.
Find out more about Mike Campbell: Website: www.unleashyouralpha.com Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Your-Alpha-Mike-Campbell/dp/0987585304 Facebook: www.facebook.com/unleashyouralpha Twitter: www.twitter.com/mcampbell2012
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Sebastian Callow is the head dating coach and founder of Authentic Man Within, a London-based dating coaching company. Sebastian works with men who want to relate to women with more power and clarity, and helps them become more courageous, socially intuitive, authentic, happier and healthier.
Summary:
In this interview, Sebastian explains the process of becoming more comfortable with yourself and improving your self-expression. He also discusses tips for confidently approaching women, how to have more natural and flowing conversations, and how to build an authentic and deep connection.
More about Sebastian Callow:
Website: www.authenticmanwithin.com/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/pages/Authentic-Man-Within/136450216415171 Twitter: www.twitter.com/theauthenticman Youtube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCHUdHkww3SCqWW6Gdbztt3Q
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J.T. Tran is the founder of The ABCs of Attraction, a Los Angeles based dating and pickup coaching company. Where he teaches men a step by step process on how to become a master seductionists.
Some of J.T.'s specialties include helping men break racial stereotypes, build inner confidence and developing a better sense of fashion and style. He has been featured on ABC’s Nightline, NBC, LA Weekly and New York Magazine.
Summary:
In this interview, J.T. walks us though the ABC model for creating attraction and moving a relationship sexually. In addition, he shares insights on when to use or break stereotypes to create attraction, when to kiss a girl, how to assert your sexuality, the importance of physical dominance (especially for shorter men) tips on fashion, and a whole lot more...
More about J.T. Tran:
Website: www.abcsofattraction.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/abcsofattraction YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/abcofattraction Twitter.com www.twitter.com/abcofattraction The Craft of Charisma podcast is also available at:
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Michaela Boehm is a global counselor and teacher. Formally educated in psychology and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, she also extensive training in hypnosis, NLP, yoga, massage, and breathwork. Michaela works closely with David Deida, renowned author of the book, “The Way of the Superior Man,” and Michaela is the only person David has personally trained and authorized to teach on his behalf.
Summary:
In this interview, Michaela talks to us about what it is that women want and need from a man, how this has changed over time, as well as the essentials to having a healthy relationship, strong intimacy, and incredible sexual dynamics with your partner.
More about Michaela Boehm:
Website: www.michaelaboehm.com https://www.facebook.com/boehm.michaela YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCmDEn4_5wKMwoHguldiUPmw
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Wayne Levine is a California-based life coach, speaker and author. He has a background in clinical psychology and is the director of BetterMen Coaching, where he coaches men to be the best men, fathers, husbands and leaders they can be. He is also the author of the bestselling book “Hold On to Your N.U.T.s - The Relationship Manual for Men."
Summary:
In this interview, Wayne explains the importance of male mentorship in helping a man understand who he is, what he needs to do, and how to become the man he's always wanted to be.
More about Wayne Levine:
Website: www.bettermencoaching.com/ Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/waynelevinebettermencoaching Twitter: www.twitter.com/menslifecoach Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-NUTs-Relationship-Manual/dp/0979054400
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Lani Klaphaak is the founder of Social Studio Coaching, a San Francisco based dating, relationship, and life coaching company, that specialized in teaching Silicon Valley techies social skills and emotional intelligence.
Summary:
In this interview, Lani explains the importance of authenticity in creating connection, and gives specific steps that will help you meet more women and develop deeper emotional relationships.
More about Lani Klaphaak:
Website: www.socialstudiocoaching.com Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/pub/lani-klaphaak-cpcc/9/757/4aa Twitter: www.twitter.com/laniklaphaak Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Social-Studio-Relationship-Dating-Life-Coaching-with-Lani-Klaphaak/176522192360247
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Garrett is a radical life and business innovation consultant. He is the owner and head trainer at Command Z, a company that focuses on undoing bodily tensions to help people break free of mental restrictions and take control of their lives.
Summary:
In this interview, Garrett explains the correlations between emotions, tension in the body, and how freeing these tensions can lead to a happier, healthier and more capable mind.
More about Garrett Daun:
Website: www.radicalundoing.com Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/garrettdaun
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Johnny Cassell is a London-based dating consultant who works with high net individual worth helping them to get a handle on their dating life.
Summary:
In this interview, Johnny explains the importance of being selective when choosing the women you date. He goes on to explain how to define the qualities that are most important to you, and on where to go to find a woman who fits this criteria.
More about Johnny Cassell:
Website: www.johnnycassell.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/johnny_cassell YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/AboutJohnnyCassell Facebook: www.facebook.com/johnnycassell.officialfanpage Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/johnnycassell
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Ben Weston is a men's Dance Coach. He helps men learn how to dance with confidence at parties, clubs, weddings and other social events. Professionally, he has performed for both Korea Airlines and Pepsi, and has been featured by The Daily News and Business Insider. He has also been a guest speaker at both TED and Stanford University where he spoke as a dance expert.
Summary:
In this interview, Ben explains how a man can learn to dance with confidence. He gives great tips for building your dance arsenal, staying on rhythm, asking women to dance, getting women to ask your to dance, and how to move things intimately.
More about Ben Weston:
Website: www.mrbenweston.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/benlweston YouTube: http://goo.gl/b50yoQ Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/pub/ben-weston/5a/107/901
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Morten Hake is a Norway based, dating and lifestyle coach, who specializes in helping men developing inner confidence and be authentic. He is also the founder of the Morton Hake Summit, a yearly conference that brings together some of the most sought after minds in the self-improvement and dating world.
Summary:
In this interview, Morten explains how all of us create our experience through our thoughts, moment to moment. And how these thoughts influence our story, perceptions, feelings, and our fate.
More about Morten Hake:
Website: www.mortenhake.com Conference: www.mortenhakesummit.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/mortenhake YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/mjirt Vimeo: www.vimeo.com/mortenhake Facebook: www.facebook.com/MortenHakeSummit
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Marni Kinrys is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, and author of the book, "Get Inside Her: Dirty Dating Tips & Secrets From A Woman On How To Attract, Seduce And Get Any Female You Want." She is founder of the Wing Girl Method. And has been features on MTV, the Dr. Drew show, Fox News, CNN, and Ask Men.
Summary:
In this interview, Marni walks us through a series of steps on how to overcome the fear of approaching women, especially women that you're attracted to. She also explains simple things that you can do to connect with these women, so that they'll be more receptive to you.
Through this process, she give us simple strategies for communicating confidence, having better body language, and starting conversations using her O.S.A. technique (observe, share and ask. Finally, Marni shares great female insights on what women are looking for in a man, and feeling in social situations.
More about Marni Kinrys:
Website: www.winggirlmethod.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/winggirlmethod YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/marnikinrys Facebook: www.facebook.com/WingGirlMethod Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Marni-Kinrys/e/B00AZ43XNC/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1415973014&sr=8-1
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Aaron Morton is a confidence coach and creator of The Confidence Lounge where works with ambitious introverts looking to excel in the their careers. He is also a personal trainer at Absolute Health, a UK based company that helps professionals be fit and healthy.
Summary:
In this interview, Aaron explains how a man's confidence can be cultivated. He goes into detail on topics that include; mindset, self talk, body language, speech patterns, social hierarchies and more.
More about Aaron Morton:
Website: www.theconfidencelounge.com YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheConfidenceLounge Facebook: www.facebook.com/confidencelounge Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/pub/aaron-morton/1b/762/764
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DJ Fuji is a social arts instructor and lifestyle coach. His company, the Tao of DJ Fuji has coached 1000’s of men and women in his workshops since 2007. He’s been featured in the New York Times, VH1, MTV, and Dr. Phil Show.
Summary:
In this interview, DJ talks about how to build the foundations of great game. In doing so, he emphasizes his viewpoint that dating and social success, is a skill set that can be learned through consistent focused practice. He goes on to give specific examples of tools that men can use to develop humor, attraction, sexual tension, and emotional intuition.
More about DJ Fuji:
Website: www.taoofdjfuji.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/djfujipua Facebook: www.facebook.com/djfuji Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/djfuji
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Cindy Roemer is a Toronto based Style Coach and Certified Image Consultant who has taught thousands of men and women to look and feel their best. She also also makes regular appearances in the media and contributes to various magazines.
Summary:
In this interview, Cindy gives us incredible advice on how a man can craft an awesome image. She breaks down what to wear in different situations. Where and how to shop. Why color and textures are important. How to stay in trend. Why layering and great fit are essential to looking great. Rules about accessories. And a whole lot more.
More about Cindy Roemer:
Website: www.cindystyles.com Twitter: twitter.com/cindystyles Facebook: www.facebook.com/cindyroemerstylecoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/cindy-roemer/12/a22/860
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Rachel Russo is an NYC based dating, relationship & image coach, speaker, matchmaker, blogger, and author of the book, "How to Get Over Your Ex: A Step by Step Guide to Mend a Broken Heart-Italian American Style."
Summary:
In this interview, Rachel explains what it is that women really want, the things that they hate most. She give tips for online dating, including how to pick a profile picture, early red flags that should make you run, how to dress for a date, perfect first date activities, where to meet women, how to transition in to a relationship and whole lot more.
More about Rachel Russo:
Website: www.rachelrusso.com/ Twitter: twitter.com/RachelTRusso Facebook: www.facebook.com/loverachelrusso Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Over-Your-Heart-Italian/dp/1626469628
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Joe Navarro is an internationally recognized expert, consultant, author, and gifted lecturer, in the interpretation of non-verbal behavior. Joe has been studying body language for the past 45 years, of which, 25 were spent at the FBI catching spies.
He is the author of several incredible books including: Louder than Words, the international bestseller What Every Body Is Saying, and the fascinating new book Dangerous Personalities.
Summary:
In this interview, Joe breaks down the non-verbal conversations that happen every time two people meet. From the moment one person enters another's space, what each is feeling, thinking, and looking for, as well as how these needs manifest into behaviors that are rooted in both our upbringing and biology.
More about Joe Navarro:
Website: www.jnforensics.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/navarrotells Facebook: www.facebook.com/JoeNavarroNonverbals Amazon: http://goo.gl/tFcG0c
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Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a clinical psychologist and one of the world’s leading experts on social confidence. He is the founder of The Center for Social Confidence, an organization dedicated to helping men break through their shyness and social anxiety, and he is the author of the book, “The Solution to Social Anxiety.”
Summary:
In this interview, Dr. Aziz talks about how his journey to develop social confidence led to a doctorate from Stanford University, and a career helping men, both as a life coach and Psychologist.
He goes on to give specific examples of how a man develops a personal story, how he can recognize if his story is serving him towards his goals, and if not, what he can do to make certain that it does.
Find out more about Dr. Aziz: Website: www.socialconfidencecenter.com
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Owen Marcus is a speaker, mentor, workshop leader, and author, who focuses on helping men develop tools to live a smarter life. He is also the author of the book “Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence.”
Summary:
In this interview, Owen details his early struggles in school and socially, and the discovery that he had Asperger's Syndrome, dyslexia, and dyspraxia.
He goes on to talk about how he healed himself, his experience studying and teaching body movement, emotional intelligence, the importance of male mentorship, and how a men's group can help you overcome limiting beliefs to live a happier, more fulfilling, and more successful life.
Find out more about Owen: Website: www.owenmarcus.com
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Kezia Noble is a U.K. based dating coach, and the world’s leading female dating expert for men. She is also the author of two books, including the best selling book, “The Noble Art of Seducing Women - My Fool Proof Guide to Pulling Any Woman You Want. ”
Summary:
In this interview Kezia goes inside the female mating mind to explain what women look for in a man, and how to become that man using the secrets of unapologetic truth and vulnerability. She also explores what women think when men approach them, what women think about themselves, how a man creates sexual tension with a woman, masculinity, as well as the foundations of what every woman really wants from a man she's dating.
Find out more about Kezia: Website: www.kezia-noble.com
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Dr. Robert Glover is a psychotherapist, and has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 30 years. He’s the author of the best selling book “No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.” Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.
In this interview we ask Dr. Glover:
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What is nice guy syndrome?
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How is a woman's definition of a nice guy different than most men's definition of a nice guy?
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Can you talk about the importance of sexual intent?
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How does a person go from an introduction to being sexually direct?
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How important is the health of the women a man dates in shaping sexual perception?
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What makes good sex?
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How does judgement affect both perceptions and behaviors?
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How can men learn to be more generally and sexually assertive?
Find out more about Dr. Glover: https://www.drglover.com/
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My guest today is Adam LoDolce. Adam is motivational speaker who has spoken at over 100 colleges and over 50K people. He was a dating coach on the show MTV Made and helped a shy guy get a girlfriend in under 3 weeks. As a dating coach for both men and women, he has some incredible perspectives. He is also the author of the book “Being Alone Sucks!: How to Build Self-Esteem, Confidence and Social Freedom to Transform Your Dating and Social Life.”
In this interview we ask Adam:
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What perspectives & insights has being a dating coach for both men and women given you?
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What are the most common complaints that women have about men?
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Are most of the people your coaching looking for relationships?
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What are the major difference between coaching women and women?
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What do women find most attractive in men?
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Women say they don't want to date a pussy, but what does that mean?
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What are your thoughts on being challenge and gaining investment?
Find out more about Adam: Website: www.adamlodolce.com
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Dave Perrotta may not have been a natural with women, but you wouldn't be able to tell that by watching him. According to his blog, PostGradCasonova, he didn’t hug a girl until the 10th grade, and the first girl he kissed said he was “one hell of a bad kisser.”
More recently, he’s been featured on Simple Pickup’s Project Go, approaching and doing live pickups of some very attractive women.
In this interview we ask Dave:
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How do you keep your conversations going, organic, and natural?
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What do you do when a joke doesn't work or you say the wrong thing?
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How does energy influence your interactions with women?
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When & how should a man touch a woman?
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How do you tease women to spice up your conversations?
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How does getting a girl to laugh influence interactions?
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What is your intent in teasing?
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What do you text a girl to keep it fun?
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How do you get a phone number and follow up with her?
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How do you create sexual intent?
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What are your strategies for eye contact?
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How do you wait to follow-up?
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What are your thoughts on first dates?
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How can a guy move things intimately?
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When and how should a guy go for a kiss?
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What do you do if you get rejected trying to go for a kiss?
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What do you do after a kiss?
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What are your thoughts on kissing in public?
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What are your strategies for going out at night?
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How do you see where you're at with a woman?
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How do you pick a good venue to meet women?
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How do you adjust to different environments?
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How do you dress for meeting and attracting women?
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How do you choose the friends that you go out with?
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How important is leading a woman, and how does a guy do it?
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How do you move a girl?
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How is getting better with women the gateway to success in other aspects of your life?
Find out more about Dave: Website: http://postgradcasanova.com
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Interview with Nick Notas:
Nick is a keynote speaker and coach, who focuses on teaching men confidence, dating, and social skills. He’s the founder of NickNotas.com, formerly the dating specialist. His blog has over 200 articles and over 100,000 monthly readers. He’s also the author of two e-books, “Approaching Women Confidently,” and “The Gentleman’s Guide to Texting Women.”
In this interview we ask Nick:
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When should a guy ask for a phone number?
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What should he do after he gets the number?
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What’s the best way to follow up, and why?
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How long should a guy wait to text a girl?
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Why do women ignore men’s text messages?
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If guy has been texting with a woman for a while, how does he keep her interested?
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If a guy gets a phone number, follows up, but it's not going anywhere, what’s going on?
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What do you think about confirming dates through text?
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What should a guy do if he sets up a date and she cancels?
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If a guy is busy, out of town, dating someone, or whatever the reason, and suddenly he's free again, how should he re-initiate contact with a woman?
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What are the benefits of being a man who approaches women?
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What are the foundations of a good approach?
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What is the benefit of a genuine smile and how does a man have one?
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How does a man know if he has a strong clear voice?
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What's the best thing to say to start a conversation?
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of a direct approach?
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How does a guy move an interaction forward?
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Are there specific ways to touch women for the first time?
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What can you recommend to guys who are scared to approach women that they are very attracted to?
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How can a guy start dressing better?
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Who should a guy approach?
Find out more about Nick: Website: www.NickNotas.com
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Interview with Justin Stenstrom
Justin Stenstrom is a Boston based dating coach, who focuses on dating for shy men. He’s the author of the book “Giving Shy Guys Game,” available on Amazon, as well as a 10 page ebook called the “7 Secrets of Approaching Women during the day,” which you can download for free from his website GivingShyGuysGame.com.
In this episode we ask Justin:
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You often describe yourself as a guy who was once shy and lonely. Can you explain what it was like, and how your life has changed?
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How did you make this change? What was your process? How long did it take?
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If a man is still early in this journey, where should he start?
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You’re a big advocate of goal setting. How can men use goal setting to improve their dating lives?
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You have some interesting thoughts on the benefits of hypnosis and visualization. Discuss how you and your clients have benefited from these tools.
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If a guy is shy and wants to date more, what are his biggest challenges, and how does he overcome them?
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Are there any specific things that you do, or teach, to quickly get comfortable in a new social situation?
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If a man sees a woman that he’s attracted to, how should he approach her? What should he say?
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You talk a lot about body language and eye contact. Why is this important, and how does a man communicate the right body language or eye contact with a woman?
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Finally, I want to ask you about an idea you call, “pretend to be great.” Can you explain what this is, and how our listeners can use this concept?
Find out more about Justin: Website: www.givingshyguysgame.com