No Room for Phonies: Recent Episodes
Pam Voth
What is status? How does it impact our daily lives?
Facts about identity signaling.
Behaviours that indicate identity signaling.
Why is identity signaling dangerous?
Follow us at noroom4phonies.com for our Worldview Quiz
Why is it important t consider your worldview?
How do you shift and what influences your worldview?
Does DAD take a back seat in your household?
What is dad's role in family life?
How do your kids view the mom/dad dynamic?
How do we raise young men who will thrive in today's society?
What are the important components to raising kind, generous, responsible men who use their energy to build up those around them?
Galloway talks about physical and mental strength, friendships, romantic partners, fatherhood and SO MUCH MORE!
My favourite quote is that the key to humanity's survival is and always has been kindness, consideration, and cooperation.
Who is this coaching for?
The First Hidden Problem: The Hypervigilance Loop
The Second Hidden Problem: Identity Disruption
For Partners - Your Side of This
What Actually Helps - The Integration
What Rise and Restore Coaching Actually Is
A Specific Next Step
A Moment, not a statistic...
Who We Are
The Diagnosis - Advocating Into the System
The Aftermath Nobody Warned Us About
What the System Offered and What It Didn't
The Hard Middle - The Careful Silence
What Started to Shift Things
Why This Became A Coaching Business
Stay Tuned May 30 for How We Can Help You
Are you feeling overwhelmed or burned out?
Slowing down and ambition are not opposites.
Bring some softness into your life.
Slow down, look for quiet moments and find small ways to choose the soft life.
Why is being alone (at least in your thoughts) important?
Do you need to try some regulation that doesn't cost anything but a few minutes a day? - Try some reflective, mindful solitude.
A busy family does not have to prevent you from turning off your phone and taking 10 minutes to journal, breath, reflect and make a difference for yourself.
How do you find a pick me up for your relationship during crazy times?
These are 25 more ways to show love - simple and fun!
Just some simple things that you can do to strengthen your relationship - remember, looking after yourself is as important as looking after others. Staying healthy, moving, making time for each other and yourself and much, much, more...
What do you need to know?
What do you need to do?
What are the 5 most important things that impact men's health?
Do you have a great naturopath to support you?
Dr. Dalton Vandersan
https://www.healthdoc.ca/listing/dr-dalton-trevor-vander-sanden-nd-16312f
He will do online consultation all across Canada.
The 3 P's of Manhood
Why do men go quiet?
Redefining "Real Man"
Why should men connect with men at a deeper level?
What are some core characteristics of a "real man"?
Financial Habits - the small, repeatable decisions that quietly do the heavy lifting.
When goals become behaviour - why systems matter - making decisions about making money work in real life, not just on paper.
Progress comes from clarity, repetition, and a willingness to look at our numbers without panic or avoidance.
What happens in the brain and body, and why joy is actually deeper than happiness. Living well isn't about chasing more, but about meaning, connection, and resilience. We talk about the chemistry, the psychology, and the lived experience - how joy grows through purpose, relationships, creativity, and even through challenge.
How do you practice joy?
How do you normalize holding joy and sorrow together?
What does aging with joy look like?
What are some core truths about joy?
Preserve your radiance - find joy in small moments.
Do you want some practical tips for aging well? Look no farther - we are sharing some tried and true strategies that we use every day.
Aging well isn’t luck — it’s intention. In this episode we share the real habits, mindsets, and daily choices that keep us sharp, connected, curious, and grounded in midlife. From movement and food to joy, friendship, and decluttering your life, we talk honestly about what aging with purpose looks like. Listen in and start shaping the next chapter of your life on purpose.
Sources of Listicles Lifespan: Why We Age and Why We Don't Have To. David A. Sinclair.
Stupid Things I Won't Do When I Get Old Steven Petrow
How Not To Age Michael Greger
Lots of tips for not just surviving aging but THRIVING. Keep sharp, creative, healthy, curious, disciplined and fully alive. Manage your time, get physical, stay intimate and connected, nutrition, sleep and take your life in your own hands. Look for role models and friends who encourage and model movement, fun and always moving forward.
What do the difficult people in your life look like? Are they bullies, avoiders, TMI'ers, etc? Read about the 5 steps that can help you move forward in any difficult relationships. Lots of great examples to deal with family, friends, co-workers, bosses and even yourself. Life is a learning journey.
What are the patterns of the difficult people in your life?
Do they complain, bully, know-it-all, etc?
Does understanding these behaviours help us step away and avoid them in ourselves?
What is a SAGE mindset?
How do you use your SAGE powers?
How do you identify your saboteurs?
www.positiveintelligence.com
https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/
Your mind is your best friend or your worst enemy,
How do you deal with your saboteurs and activate your sage brain? Take your internal enemies seriously, they do not like to lose power over you.
What are the powers of the sage brain?
Positive Intelligence is about action and results.
What interferes with creativity? - internal and external factors
What supports creativity?
How do you cultivate your mindset?
How do you gather inspiration?
How do you "dive in" and practice and experiment?
Incorporate creative habits into your daily life.
Stop telling yourself it is too late! Test your creativity. Avoid poisonous playmates and crazy makers. Find your power. Find your sense of integrity. Recover your sense of abundance. Develop connections. Recover a sense of strength. Recover a sense of compassion. Recover your sense of self-protection. Recover your sense of autonomy. Recover your sense of faith. True creativity is not a possession of a relatively small percentage of the population.
Ideas for making a positive impact, as well as examples of leaders across the world who have made a positive impact on society.
Awakening Consciousness
Experiencing Energy
Let Go Now or Fall
Go Beyond to Spiritual Awakening and Freedom
Live Your Life with an Open Heart
How do we help fathers live their best lives while tuning into their children and partners? Need a family planner? Try the https://polestarcalendars.com/collections/featured/products/2026-polestar-family-calendar
What about FATHERS? This book outlines research through stories of the important work being done on the impact of fathers on their children. Our culture needs to shift and this book gives us all the reasons why.
Stories from moms....my thoughts and things I have learned as a mom and affirmations to strengthen you as a mom.
Motherhood is hard. Fathering is important.
Deal with your past and change the future - your children benefit from any work that you do on yourself.
We need to resolve some societal issues around parenting.
What about guilt?
How do we problem solve?
Parent/child communication
Being judged is part of motherhood - break free.
Children teach us many lessons...you will find your way.
What are the benefits of goal setting?
How does goal setting contribute to a happier existence?
Hints for effective goal setting...
Our long-term goals...
Exercise, cold showers, singing, reading books...what is your "just one thing"?
Sauerkraut - stir daily for two weeks, store in fridge for several months, eat daily
200 g of grated beetroot
1 kg of finely sliced purple cabbage
½ small apple (peeled, cored and finely chopped)
1 teaspoon of fennel seeds
1 teaspoon of coriander seeds
1 T. of crystal sea salt
1 L glass jar with a secure lid
How do you fit self-care into your busy life?
What difference does exercise make?
What are some ways to stay strong?
What are your movement habits? This book gives strategies, exercises and LOTS of motivation to get you moving and keep you moving. From squats to walking to eating to sleeping, there are many great habits for a healthier you.
Are you a "scroller" or a procrastinator? What are the things that save time for you and waste time for you? Pam and Charles compare their top ten time savers and time wasters.
Common Misconceptions
The Science and Psychology of Time Management
Strategies for Prioritization and Goal Setting
Time and Calendar Management
Overcoming Procrastination and Time Wasters
Work-Life Balance and Self-Care
Local Businesses that are GREAT with Customer Service
Examples of Good Customer Service.
1. Monarch Electric & Lighting (Jason Wall) 905-685-2313
2. Sider Automotive https://www.napaautopro.com/en/auto-repair/ontario/wainfleet-sider-automotive/
3. Great Canadian Home Improvements (Flo @ https://gchi.ca/)
4. Pelvic Physio Niagara (https://pelvicphysioniagara.ca/)
5. 416 Coffee: (https://www.416-coffee.com/contact)
This book was first published in 1936 and includes 30 TIPS for relationships of all kinds - from leadership to business transactions to personal relationships - using the ideas from this book gives you a much better chance of making a positive difference in your world.
Why set reading goals? Do you read a variety of books? Do you listen to books?
You can always find a recommendation on our book lists at noroom4phonies.com
Have you ever considered a meditation practice?
This episode explores the how's and why's of daily reflection through meditation.
Do you have 10 minutes a day? Consider the benefits of meditation.
Kyle shares his background and how he became a financial advisor, as well as tips for finding the right financial advisor for you. How can a financial advisor support you and when should you start looking for one (long before you need a debt counsellor). The role of the financial advisor in encouraging and educating clients. The importance of a partnership and clear communication help make your working relationship "profitable". Our world is an ever-changing financial landscape and a financial advisor can make all the difference.
Kyle is willing to have a conversation with anyone about their finances...
Snowden Financial,
Kyle Snowden, BBA, CFP, RRC
www.snowdenfinancial.ca
Phone: 905 945 0860 Toll Free: 888 526 9324
Kyle meets with clients on "zoom" or in person.
Do you have a safety deficit? Why do you chose unsafe relationships? What are some "false solutions" to the safe people issue? Why do you isolate yourself? What do safe people do? What do relationships and connection provide us with? How do you find restorative relationships and what do you need to do to have one? Should you repair or replace the relationship?
How can I learn to pick better friends? What is an unsafe person?
Personal Traits of Unsafe People - Interpersonal Traits of Unsafe People
How do we lose our safety? How does the past affect our relationships?
What do we need to avoid in order to stay safe?
The Inner World of the Blackmailer
It Takes Two
A Special Word on Women and Self-Doubt
Emotional Blackmail and Integrity
We always have a choice - we can avoid the FOG
What is the strategy? How do you change the power balance?
Cut through the FOG!
Why is it that some people are able to emotionally overpower us, leaving us feeling defeated?
What is emotional blackmail?
What is the FOG?
How do you diagnose emotional blackmail?
The four faces of blackmail.
What strategies to blackmailers use?
Books that Encourage Journaling and Reflection: 365 Days of Personal Growth: A Daily Journal for Productivity and Development by Everard Maclaurin50 Things to Realize Before it is Too Late by Manoj Chenthamarkshan500 Journal Prompts: For Mental Health, Creativity, and Personal Exploration by Robert Duff55 Questions to Ask Yourself Across 8 Dimensions for a New You by Manoj Chenthmarkshan Good Enough: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection by Kate Bowler, Jessica RichieThe Wisdom of Sundays: Life-Changing Insights from Super Soul Conversations by Oprah Winfrey
What to buy? What to ask? How to stay involved? What to look for? How to support your child?
Lots of episodes in this podcast about education...
Just search "education" or "school" on our website...
https://noroomm4phonies.com
Episodes 39-50, Episode 71 and 96 and MORE...
How can you "rethink" social media in your family?
How important is play for children?
How can you move from a focus on the virtual world to a focus on the real world?
What are some "ages and stages" to help kids up the ladder to adulthood?
What about schools, parents and governments?
What is the cost of an asynchronous life?
The nervous system controls life. How do you harness your power to manage your stress response? What is the window of tolerance and how does this help us manage trauma? What do you do when you feel dysregulated?
Meditation
Mindfulness
What is the solution to every situation?
Why exercise?
Why worry about gut health?
What about sleep? How do you evaluate your sleep?
What about your network? Relationships? Work? Communication?
How do you live your best life and how does regulating your nervous system help?
Anna is a qualified counselor, author, coach and integrative nervous system therapist. She passionately supports individuals to come home to themselves through harnessing the healing power of their unique physiology, body and nervous system.
annatheanxietycoach.com
What is the vagus nerve and what does it do?
How can I improve my vagal tone?
How do you activate your ventral vagal system?
What about trauma?
How do you reclaim your body?
What about self-trust?
What about body awareness?
How do you reconnect to your body?
Relationship Truths - How to Speak Up For Yourself and why you don't (FEAR) - What is serving? - 7 Steps to Handle Any Situation - How to Disagree - Selfishness and Healthy Self-Interest - What is your relationship with NO? - Increase your discomfort tolerance - Choose your own rules - Naturalize Guilt - Take An Apology Fast - Follow the 30 Steps to a New You.
What is the difference between NICE and NOT NICE?
What does it mean to be an approval seeker?
How do you show up as a POWERFUL version of yourself?
What shadows do you need to embrace?
What are the TOP TEN reasons why people don't speak up?
What is the RULER?
How do we support emotional intelligence and growth at home, school and work?
How do we start an emotional revolution?
Mood Meter Chart: : https://bit.ly/mmchart4u
We dull our experiences and reduce our adventures in life by trying to fit everything into neat little categories. What does it mean to be judgmental? What is the difference between making judgments and being judgmental?
Critical Thinking vs. Thinking Critically
Reflective and Open-minded vs. Sound Bits and Cliches
Insecure Arrogance vs. Confident Humility
Grandiosity, Shame and Narcissim
Responding with Judgments vs. Reacting with Judgmentalism
Guilt vs. Shame
How do we alleviate insecurity?
Authoritative Judgments vs. Authoritarian Judgmentalism
Acceptance is the birthplace of compassion and gratitude.
Maximize your mental health....
Dr. Julie Smith gives tips and strategies for several challenges we face...
....on dark places - on motivation - on emotional pain - on grief - on self-doubt - on fear - on stress - on a meaningful life
Join us in pictures as we show you the highlights of Victoria and Sidney-By-The-Sea
Joe Wiebe thirstywriter.com Beer Blogger for BC
Your potential is one thing - what we do with it is quite another.
Challenge yourself everyday.
Talent is no guarantee of grit.
Talent, effort, skill and achievement fit together.
Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.
Improvise - Adapt - Overcome
The Stages of Grit
The Maturity Principle
Deliberate Practice
Flow
Hope and a Growth Mindset
Hard thing Rule
Shared Norms
Grow grit from the inside out.
The Many Faces of "I'm Sorry" - Ways to Ruin an Apology - More Wimpy, Overblown and Downright Relationship-Busting Apologies - Apologizing Under Fire (How to Handle Big-Time Criticism) - How to Decode a Faux Apology - The Secret Life of the Non Apologizer - Defensiveness - How and Whether to Accept the Olive Branch - Who is at Fault? (When Reconciliation Grinds to A Halt) - Have you ever witnessed an unforgettable or stunning apology? - You Need to Forgive and other Lies that Hurt You - How to Find Peace - The Two Most Powerful Words in the English Language
What's a Crucial Conversation?
Mastering Crucial Conversations
Choosing Your Topic - How to make sure you hold the right conversation
Start with the Heart - How to stay focused on what you really want
Master Your Stories - How to stay in dialogue when you're scared or hurt
Learn to Look - How to notice when safety is at risk
Make It Safe - How to make it safe to talk about just about anything
State My Path - How to speak persuasively, not abrasively
Explore Others' Paths - How to listen when other blow up or clam up
Retake Your Pen - How to be resilient when hearing tough feedback
Move to Action - How to turn crucial conversations into action and results
Finish Clearly - Determine who does what by when
Books Worth Reading....a practical relationship boost is available in this little, easily read book - 7 Days of tips and strategies and stories that will revitalize your relationship with your partner - or set you up for a successful future relationship.
Do you need some inertia to "get going"? What part of your life lives in the "shadows"? Do you struggle with relationships and boundaries? Are you struggling with addiction? This book is filled with stories, examples and practical strategies as well as new ways of looking at anxiety and emotions.
A practical guide to shifting your leadership style from a "telling" to an "asking". This book is filled with practical suggestions and LOTS of examples and "advice" on NOT giving advice...lol Open up a new world - not just as a leader but, as a parent, friend or colleague - ask questions and empower and respect those around you.
How do you know when you need to set boundaries?
How do you feel when you set them?
How do others react when you set boundaries for them?
Why do it (when it is actually really hard)? How does it change your life?
Another of our "books worth reading"....this one would be a great start to the new year with 90 days of short readings and meditations on everything from finding balance to "changing the channel" to manage negative thoughts. Join us for a brief overview of this book by Jason Wolbers
Personality or character?
How do we learn?
Scaffolding...absorption principle...making progress...success...and then finding your credible believer...and SO MUCH MORE...including a discussion on schools in Finland (Don't waste a brain!)
100 things that we learned, talked about and all the guests we enjoyed having as part of our 2023 year! On we go...books, books and more books...
From castles to Port cellars to beaches and restaurants, there is so much to see and do in Vigo and Porto and you will NOT break the bank.
The Rooster in Portugal...When the pilgrim was being hanged, the Cockerel stood up on the table and crowed. The judged rushed to the gallows and he saw that the knot of the rope around his neck was caught and thus prevented him of being strangled. He was released and sent on his way in peace.
We are new at travelling but, we hopped on a plane and went off to Portugal and Spain....go to our youtube channel for a picture version of the first leg of our trip - Lisbon and the Algarve....
https://youtu.be/rPd951zeLWc
How do we make the school environment the best that it can be? What are some strategies? What about integrity and accountability?
What made us proud as educators?
What advice do we have for parents?
What did we love to see in classrooms in our schools?
What did you find frustrating as a principal?
How do we stay engaged and support education now that we are retired?
Have you read a book by Richard Rohr? Have you listened to the stories about grace, and moving humbly through the second half of life? Have you visiting https://cac.org/ for inspiration from The Centre for Action and Contemplatio?
Richard Rohr has written the most fastening book about the second half of life called, Falling Upward. In this episode, we have a great conversation about SO MANY THINGS!!
We are the clumsy stewards of our own souls. Life is indeed momentous - created by accumulated moments in which the deeper “I” is slowly revealed if we are ready to see it. We are here to give back fully and freely what we were first given - ourselves - the most courageous and free act we will ever perform - it takes both halves of our life to do it.
- Richard Rohr, Falling Upward
Talking about the Second Half of Life…. What is the difference between the two halves of life?
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What about the statement that no wise person ever wanted to be younger? What is a normal goal to a young person becomes a neurotic hindrance in old age.
What are the tools we need in our tool kit for the second half of life? One cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will bo of little importance in the evening, and what in the morning was true will be at evening a lie. - Carl Jung
What about grace? Grace it at the foundation of everything.
How do we see each other with truth and compassion and live a life of integrity?
Our mature years are characterized by a kind of bright sadness and sober happiness. We understand “luminous darkness” - the simultaneous coexistence of deep suffering and intense joy - less need or interest in eliminating the negative or fearful, making rash judgements or holding on to old hurst or feelings. We understand the discernment of every day life.
Wholeness comes from meditation, self-doubt, study and conversation. Creative doubt ( curiosity) keeps us with a perpetual “beginner’s mind” - growing, humble, enduring the mystery of life.
What is true leadership? What kind of mentor are you looking for? What is agency and dignity? How do we engage in conversations about significant things? What is true service? What are the most important skills you bring to work? How do you embrace and move past mistakes?
The Song of Significance by Seth Godin Thinking about The Principles of Significance to bring caring and meaning and success to your life. Failure IS an option, as well as going above and beyond, speaking truth and caring about everything you do.
Stories of adventure, survival, courage and some proud life moments...all twisted around some good advice...
Taking life as life comes...staying organized and lots of encouragement to keep on healing on your journey - every day - day by day....
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Advice on walking through life with grace and healing, even when the wind blows.
Novelist, editor, writer, designer and overall creative..
Katharine Grubb
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Braiding Sweetgrass
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Kate Bowler
https://katebowler.com
Why is it important to have a naturopath to support you in your life journey?
How are naturopaths different from other doctors?
What does an excellent naturopath do to support you?
Join us for the story of a "real-life" naturopath - including training and commitment to making the lives of patients better by giving them the power to understand and prevent and build healthy lives. Lots of fun stories and many special moments that open us up to the beauty of understanding each other and the importance of connection and community.
Do you ever consider how your attitude and approach to change impacts your life? Join us as we "recap" our top ten discussion points from our conversation with Brad and Julie.
What is the reality of change? How do you manage change? How do you make tough decisions? Lots of laughs and lots of insights about change and living your best life...
The "best little bike shop in Ontario" is, in our opinion, The Downton Bike Hounds in Hamilton on John Street. What was our experience with them? Why are they such a great business? What did we learn from our conversation with Will, the Manager at the shop? Also, check out Episode 69 on cycling with Nick and Sebastian
A conversation about cycling - buying, selling, maintaining and riding safely. The Downtown Bike Hounds have the heart of a small bike shop - ready to serve and support every cyclists every need.
What does it mean to be aligned with who you truly are? Building a relationship with your unique vision. What is the importance of understanding your core essence? Where does your energy flow? What is intentional thinking? How do you become a vibrational match to your vision? We are spiritual beings and connected with others. Vision/purpose and joy are all on the same frequency. What is part of your conscious mind? How do you create a personal vision? What is freedom?
Shauna Gupta, a Mindset and Dreambuilder Coach joins us to talk about aligning your vision to do what you love and living a transformed life. Your sources of thought, your emotions, vision and purpose and goals, What does it mean to be really free? Hoe do you live a powerful, fulfilled and abundant life?
Shauna's website is: shaunaalexandria.comA new course is planned for February 19th...
Charles and Pam compare headline lists for 2022 from around the world - there is good and bad and shocking and expected. We also talk about our top ten "headlines" from within our own house. Join us and see if anything surprises you. Also, introducing our January 15, 2023 FIRST guest - Shauna Gupta - Transform Your Life in 2023Shauna is a Mindset and Dreambuilder CoachCheck out her website at shaunaalexandria.com
Does anyone play board games anymore? Do you "unplug" and pull out the dice or the cards and have an evening of fun with family or friends? We have some great suggestions for the "top" board games, the best word games and some games that we enjoy. Have a listen and "play some games"!!
Answering the "wh" questions about quilting for Pam - Who, What, When, Where and Why. Finding a hobby that you love is a gift - pushing yourself to explore something new is SO important...especially in retirement.
Our relationship in our empty next and our relationship with our adult children - as well as our Movember Story. What have we learned form 30 years of marriage?
When we are thankful daily (we provide some tips on how to do this) it leads to deep, soul-fulfilling gratitude that lasts. Life is a journey of finding joy and gratitude and if we look for it, it is always there. Join us for a discussion of gratitude, grit and grace in our new studio!!
As a follow-up to The Five Voices, we each researched and shared our top 10 quotes about leadership. The Five Voices is all about finding your voice as a member of a team, as a leader, as a family member - thinking and reflecting about how you lead - in whatever capacity, makes you able to live your best life and be the best version of yourself!!
Find out about our voices and how you can use this resource to better understand yourself and your team or family!
How can The Five Voices support your team or family?
Find more information at the link below:
https://5voices.com/
What do you want from your child's school?
Things you should see in every classroom.
Questions to ask your child's teacher before school starts.
Success and Confidence
Kids and School and Technology
What to do if your child doesn't want to go to school.
Differentiation is for Everyone
Communication is a Two-Way Street
Reading Your Child's Report Card
What should all schools promote?
Talking about wisdom - Pam and Charles share their list of ten wise people from the present and past and why they made our list.
Why cycle? Great trails to try for beginning cyclists (and advanced)...best cycling experiences...equipment and safety - stories and laughs and inspiration and more...
Self-regulation - conflict resolution - the art of making amends - the balance of gratitude and "reality" - regulating choices - the stories we tell and moving forward through trauma
How do you navigate a society that is so polarized? The decisions we make are always tied to our emotions - how do we develop emotional intelligence and use it to be the best version of ourselves?
Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown Mistakes were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson No Cure For Being Human (and other truths I need to hear) by Kate Bowler
A Citizen of Everywhere and Nowhere Charles talks about his education, friends, the impact of coming home and tells stories of his experiences as a Third Culture Kid and an Adult Third Culture Kid.
The health benefits for adults and kids and a "no excuse" way to get started on regular outdoor adventures - walks, exploring, exercising and more!! The 10 best hikes in Ontario - what are the ten best hikes where you live?
Along with some interesting research on lists, Charles (the anti-list person) and Pam (the list person) talk about how you make lists work, tips for making lists and why your lists aren't working. In the end...what conclusion do we draw? Listen to find out!
How do you feel when someone really lets you down? Where do you go when you see someone struggling? Can you take a step back and practice understanding and accept that they are doing the best they can in that moment? Are you doing the best you can if you are not living up to everyone's expectations? Why are self-care, self awareness and kindness and grace so important to being curious and understanding each other?
Charles tells his story of how we started knitting, why he has continued knitting (and crocheting) and gives you a peek into the world of designing, publishing and knitting and crocheting just because it is good for the soul.
Ten Tips for those of you enjoying the freedom of the empty nest...celebrating successful relationships with our adult children.
With digestive issues and celiac, we pay attention to the foods we eat. We plan for foods that lower inflammation and stay away from foods that cause us issues. We have a naturopath who assists us with supplements that support strong bodies so that we can fight off anything that happens to us as we age. Find all the recipes on our blog....noroom4phonies.com - if it isn't already there...it will be soon.
Toxic Positivity or Genuine Optimism??
What does it mean to be strong?
Is there strength in vulnerability?
What do you do when you don’t feel strong?
For recipes.... noroom4phonies.com
Naturopath - Carrie Rongits, ND https://www.fonthillnaturopath.com/
Physiotherapist - Meghan McKay https://aedisphysio.com/
hasfit.com - home fitness workouts for everyone manflowyoga.com - for both men and women
Udemy.com for online courses on Critical Thinking, Mindfulness, etc.
Live your life without comparing yourself to others - find your core values by reading and researching and looking for what supports your purpose...find joy for your journey and make choices that support all people. Know yourself - be yourself and focus on giving back in a way that is congruent with your moral purpose.
Pam and Charles review the last 55 episodes and talk about their favourites - from the sharing about food to the more serious topics of women and leadership and adaptability - listen in and see if you agree. This is an opportunity for you to both share your opinion and go "back in time" to listen or relisten to your favourites.
Why is change hard? How do you find balance and perspective? Can you deal with risk and uncertainty in our life? Stepping outside of drama and fear. Finding your way through life with faith and purpose.
What our kids achieve/don’t achieve - how they behave in public - their innate or lack of innate ability or talent - their abilities and disabilities - friendships and invitations, etc. - all these can cause us to feel shame or to shame our children. Move beyond shame to freedom - away from co-dependency and fear and give yourself and your children to grow up learning, making mistakes and being the best version of themselves!
What makes us feel shame? - How is shame different for men and women? What perspective do men and women use to view shame? - What are the physical, emotional and spiritual manifestations of shame? - How does mentoring weaken or destroy shame? - How do we play a role in working within society to change the way women and men are portrayed and shamed? - What is the definition of strength? How does this play into living your best life or being the best version of yourself?
What is shame? How are shame and guilt different? What makes us feel ashamed? How do we overcome shame? How does shame prevent us from living our best life? How can we understand ourselves and feel empowered to be the best version of ourselves?
What should you look for when you are reading your child's report card? How should you talk to your child about their progress? What should you talk about at your parent/teacher conference?
What should all schools promote? What happens at a great school? Why is change hard? What are the most important things that should happen for kids at school? Why is student leadership important? How can schools be a hub in their communities?
What is differentiation? What does it look like in the classroom in Math, Reading, Writing for ELL students and in Science and Social Studies? How do teachers know what to do for their students? What about the Individual Education Plan? Remember - be involved and informed when it comes to your child's education.
What should you hear from your child's teacher on a regular basis and how can teacher's communicate with you....how can you be the best partner your child's teacher has ever had....criteria for calling your child's teacher - how to know if you are "too much" and building trust through communication
Violence in the Media - Formal instruction for kids in responsibility and choice and self regulation - Monitor and protect and limit without dwelling on the sinister side of technology - Know what is happening in your child's school and classroom when it comes to technology - It's all about BALANCE
Beyond the usual cocktail discussion, book and podcast recommendation and the "question" - Do you really feel like you can be a partner to your child's teacher? ....this podcast looks at the what if? - why? - and how? to work with your child to make help them live their best "school" life
Being a partner with your child's school and teacher is essential to their success - use this list of questions (you can find them written out on the website noroom4phonies.com) and start the year off by knowing how you can help create a classroom environment that helps the teacher and everyone else - including your child - learn and grow and be the best version of themselves.
When you feel successful, you find more confidence and success! Teachers can specifically help their students of all ages find success by creating an environment that allows students to engage, understand the goals, celebrate success and feel like they are part of a nurturing community that extends far outside the walls of the classroom or school.
Whether you are in Kindergarten or College, you need a space to learn, grow, problem solve, think critically, reflect and have your voice heard. Classrooms are not about furniture, they are about a teacher who facilitates innovation and self-assessment and children who leave ready to make a positive contribution to the world around them.
Values - Purpose - Vision - Mission ....do you know what your family wants for itself? Long term - medium term - short term goals at home and at school... - a little research on the purpose of school - finding out what is really happening - communicating your child's needs - and what to do if you are too busy to volunteer Do you share your school's vision for your child's learning?
Pam and Charles and their sons, Zachary and Sebastian share their four perspectives on questions that "dig deeper" and start meaningful conversations. Do you agree with our questions? Do you have some to add? Send us a message by email or post a comment on Social Media or on our website.
Seth Godin - The Magnification of Small Differences (podcast) Upstream and The Power of Moments - Chip and Dan Heath (books)
caregiving - inventing - leading - partnering - these are just afew of the contributions that we discuss...has society changed? Are we moving forward in celebrating the many accomplishments of women? How many of the women that we discuss today are household names? How can women and men support each other - in the workplace and beyond?
Pam and Charles discuss ten things that would improve public education for kids. Building a sense of community, accountability, vision, use of data and innovation are all part of the discussion.
Looking back at your past with a positive lens helps you to find the blessings and the learnings! Charles and Pam talk about how they have grown from their past and celebrate all the things that were part of their past that have helped them be better at life today.
How do I spend my days? I take care of my home and those around me...improving myself and working on some creative endeavours. How do I do it? I keep lists, eat well, stay mindful and keep focused on my values and goals.
With the regular book sharing, website update, cocktail review and podcast recommendation comes a sharing of things Charles and I have learned from our almost 27 years sharing our various kitchens. Charles, my husband and I compare our lists of recipes ad kinds of food that bring "soul" and "love" to our families and friends.
Find March's Cocktail, as well as a podcast and book recommendation and then dive into the top 10 ways to find inner peace. Give up self blame and negative self-talk, open your heart and many more tips from my own journey.
What sets your soul on fire? For me it is all about creativity, balance, passion, purpose - even rage and rejection. The idea of exploring my spirituality and learning and growing. I want to live my best life and be better tomorrow than I was today. You will also find my book and podcast recommendation as well as a report on the Campari Crush.
From letting go of the past to an attitude of gratitude, appreciating the good in your life is at your fingertips. This episode includes a book review and podcast recommendation as well as a report on January's Drink of the Month and a warm up for February's cocktail.
What is happening with No Room for Phonies in 2021? My pick for cocktails from January - December. The top 10 for 10 and book and podcast recommendations.
Charles and Pam continue their discussion of living your best life....who do you admire and why? How do you avoid self sabotage? Who are the people you want to surround yourself with and what type of community do you want to be part of? What experiences and goals do you want in 2021 and finally, what is your "best life" statement? https://www.facebook.com/annemarie.zajdlik
What motivates you? What are your strengths? What are your standards and values? What kind of person to you want to be in your family, community and with your close friends? Are their challenges in your life? How do you handle what life throws at you? Special links we talk about: akimbo.link or sethgodin.com and HASfit on youtube and 5 Voices: How to Communicate Effectively with Everyone You Lead by Jeremie Kubicek and Steve Cockram
Intentions are better than expectations - trust your decisions - reduce your stress - stay mentally strong - practice affirmations and be mindful.
Our family shares our favourites - 5 movies and 5 TV shows - getting you ready for some binge watching this winter!!
Why is it hard to be authentic? How can you be objective about your own authenticity? Do you believe in your own self worth? How do you shed patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you? Be authentic in your purpose.
Join Pam and her son, Sebastian as we talk about success - what it is, how it impacts our lives and how important it is to know yourself, stay focused and work every day to become the best version of you.
Goals for this podcast: improve the conversation about racism, understand privilege and entitlement and how it relates to feedback and growth, recognize conscious and unconscious bias and start to figure out how to take action
Show who you are - what your core value are by setting goals that reflect what is most important to you. Move forward, take charge of your life and enjoy the freedom to make choices that are right for you. Be the best version of yourself and grow everyday....and GET STUFF DONE!!
What is it? What are some tools and tips? What are the barriers and benefits? and how do you make the world a better place?
Healthy Relationships - Knowing Yourself - True Connections - Beware The Golden Circle - Let It Burn - Authenticity
What is the Adaptability Quotient? What does it mean to be adaptable? How do you become more adaptable? - the hows, whys and barriers. Advice for your future self.
We need to understand our core beliefs - We need to develop our emotional IQ - We need to avoid drama - We need to live a holistic life (body, mind and spirit).
Maya Angelou quotes that have impacted me - Perspective - Core Beliefs - Being a Contributor
Recipes for cocktails - best food during quarantine - stories of isolation and random questions with answers.
Travel through history with Pam, Wendy and Zach...each choosing their ten most impactful moments in history from 362 BC right up until 2020. Enjoy a "blast from the past" while we explain our "moments in history"!
What does it mean to be a mother? Famous Mothers Fictional Mothers How has motherhood changed? Crazy Things Mothers Do!!
Taking a trip through the past...with our thoughts, memories and ideas about what the past has taught us. From 25 to 100 years...the highlights and surprises from our historical tour through Canada. Join Wendy Ward and Pam as we talk and laugh and share our ideas!
Gratitude and Forgiveness are at everyone's disposal. - It is important to be open, receptive and appreciative of each other. - There are parallels between gratitude and forgiveness. - Grow out of your limited ways of thinking.
Life changes - Shifting and reinventing yourself - What I have learned from embracing my "shift" - What is next? - What are the signs that I am shifting (body, mind and spirit)? - Embrace change and enjoy the ride!!
Reflections on leadership from experiences I've had, perspectives I have observed, things I've read and people I admire.
This episode is sponsored by good food, good friends and good times. Join Pam and her son Sebastian for a discussion of great recipes, great cookbooks and great times with friends - eating awesome dishes from all parts of the world. Gluten Free, vegan, vegetarian, meat lover - food for every occasion.
Why do we need boundaries and do we need them with everyone? What does a toxic relationship look like? Communication is Key!! How do we mindfully communicate with others? Why is it hard to set boundaries? Do expectations of us happen because of our roles (i.e. wife and mother)? Do we allow co-dependence or lack of "self preservation" to happen to us? How do we maintain a balance between what we value and appropriate giving to others?
Why do we love reading? - Where did it start? / Fiction vs. Nonfiction / Great Books We Recommend / Authors We Love / Books we Plan to Read - and Where to Find Recommendations
What is a moral compass? Why is it important? How do you develop a moral compass? How do you maintain a moral compass? How do you fine tune and use your moral compass?
Traditions we enjoyed with our kids growing up - Current traditions with our grown up kids - The culture of gift giving - Creating Balance and Making the Holidays "Calm and Bright" - Our Though Walk
Tips from the Experts (not us) - Our struggles and joys - It IS different than when we were in our 20's - Our Through Hike...talking about the Bruce Trail....
Why talk about grief and loss? / Our stories….losing mom / The messiness of healing / Our Through Hike...The Question of where??
Into the Fire - The Challenge of Women's Health / Why is it so hard to “get it together” when it comes to helping women through menopause? / Our Stories / Our "Through Hike" Goal
We spent some time on this podcast "getting real" about fitness! - - - How does fitness impact your life and the decisions you make? - Our Fitness Journey Stories - - - Importance of Fitness in Midlife - - - Move It or Lose It Authentic Fitness Goals - - - To Train or Not To Train? - - - Planning our Through Walk
Why are we doing this?? What are we going to talk about? Who are we? - as a team and individually Our hiking goal and our goal for "No Room For Phonies".