The Divorce Course Podcast: Recent Episodes
Laura & Lyn
This Mother and Daughter duo discuss and cover the legal stages and steps that you will face on your way to freedom through divorce. These are practical and real discussions with Lyn Galvin a family lawyer of 35 years experience and her daughter Laura a divorced mother of three. Laura helps turn her mother's lawyer jargon into something everyone will understand. Lyn shares all her tips and practical advice on separating. Through this podcast they aim to help you through your Australian divorce or de-facto separation to make it more cost effective and less stressful. instagram @thedivorcecourse
You know it was abuse. But written down, each moment sounds small. This is the episode about proving it.
Part 5 of our six-part coercive control series with clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova. Mum and I work through your questions on affidavits, evidence, police reports and what the family court is actually looking for.
LISTEN IF YOU...
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Have kept notes for a year and worry they sound petty
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Have been told by a lawyer that coercive control does not matter
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Reported to police and were dismissed because there was no stalking or tracking
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Are writing an affidavit and do not know what to include
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Are still being controlled through emails, handovers and admin after final orders
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Are terrified of going back to court
This is general information, not legal or psychological advice. It reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation. Always get independent advice.
This episode discusses coercive control, family violence, financial abuse and sexual betrayal. If you are in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732.
00:00 - Explaining Coercive Control When No One Believes You
01:00 - Series Recap and Meet Clinical Psychologist Krasi Kirova
02:30 - Legal Disclaimer and Family Violence Trigger Warning
03:50 - Stacy: How Do I Make My Notes Matter in Court?
06:00 - Why Each Incident Sounds Petty: The Puzzle Piece Problem
07:00 - Death by a Thousand Cuts: Proving Cumulative Harm
09:30 - When the Judge Spots the Pattern Themselves
10:30 - What Courts Look For: Coercive Control and the Property Pool
14:00 - Your Affidavit Is the Proof, So You Have to Say It
14:20 - Anonymous: Should Infidelity Go in My Affidavit?
18:00 - DARVO Explained: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender
19:00 - Win: Can I Use Voice Memos and Home Security Footage?
21:40 - Legal Gatekeeping: When Your Lawyer Says It Does Not Matter
26:00 - How to Change Lawyers Mid-Case Without the Confrontation
28:00 - Katina: The Police Dismissed My Coercive Control Report
30:00 - The Empower You App and Finding a Station That Listens
33:20 - Roberta: Protection Orders When He Explains Everything Away
35:00 - Why Criminal, DV and Family Courts Do Not Talk to Each Other
37:00 - Samantha: Post-Separation Control After Final Orders
41:40 - Grey Rock, Escalation and When to Get a Risk Assessment
43:30 - Coercive Control Versus Ordinary Co-Parenting Conflict
46:30 - Admin Burden as Control: Fix It in Your Parenting Orders
50:00 - Jenna: When His Lawyer Becomes the Mouthpiece
54:00 - Lee: Fear of Court and a Teenager Who Will Not Visit
58:00 - Court Fear Is the Last Hook They Have Left
01:00:00 - Gina: What Evidence Is Actually Enough?
01:02:00 - Thresholds: Therapist Versus Police Versus Family Court
01:04:00 - The Marathon Analogy: Kicked, Then Blamed for Slowing Down
01:06:00 - Never Stop Documenting Until the Behaviour Stops
01:12:00 - The Magistrate Who Knew What Coercive Control Was
01:14:30 - Krasi's Conference Talk and Next Week: Healing
EPISODES MENTIONED
DARVO in the Family Court - https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=-YgsXkz8ybMB_lkr
Documenting Coercive Control - https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=SY_8UNT5puZ7Uj_F
Reporting to Police, Step by Step - https://youtu.be/s7vH5a9y7cA?si=sm1ReJaVxsvqKlNS
1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
Lifeline - 13 11 14
Police - 000 (immediate danger)
The Divorce Course - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
The Divorce Course Podcast - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Empower You app - free documentation app run by NSW Police
Krasi Kirova - clinical psychologist and board-approved supervisor
Share your experience anonymously for Krasi's conference talk: [LINK]
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Are you about to separate and have absolutely no idea what happens to the house? Do you keep it? Do you sell it? Do you have to be the one who leaves? And what happens to the mortgage?
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You don't know whether you can keep the house or have to sell it, The mortgage is in both names and you're panicking about who pays it, You've been told that if you move out, you lose your claim to the house, Your ex is stalling, sabotaging the sale, or refusing to sign anything, You want to keep the kids in the same home and the same school, You're heading into mediation and need to know your options
β οΈ not legal advice. This reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation. Always get independent legal advice.
Discussions of financial and economic abuse. If you're in danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732.
00:00 β What Happens to the House When You Separate?
01:10 β Net Equity Explained: What the House Is Really Worth
02:05 β No Special Rule Book, With One Exception: Housing the Children
03:45 β Does Someone Have to Move Out to Be Separated?
05:05 β Myth Busted: Moving Out Doesn't Lose You the House
06:20 β When Your Ex Runs the House Down Before the Valuation
07:10 β Who Pays the Mortgage? Spousal Maintenance Explained
09:30 β Financial Abuse and Section 4AB of the Family Law Act
09:55 β Do You Have to Sell the House If You Separate?
10:45 β Working Out What the House Is Actually Worth
12:10 β How Assets Get Balanced: The Caravan Example
13:15 β Your Options: Keep It, Sell It, or Hold It Jointly
14:35 β Falling Prices, Negative Equity and Bidding at Auction
16:50 β Keeping the House: The Step-by-Step Process
17:20 β Why the Order Comes First: The Stamp Duty Exemption
19:20 β How to Work Out the Buyout Figure
21:30 β Can You Actually Afford It? See a Mortgage Broker
23:15 β Why Every Consent Order Needs a Backup Plan
24:50 β Kids and the House: Does It Give You an Edge?
26:20 β Expensive Suburbs, School Catchments and Staying Put
28:35 β The Tarzan Principle: Getting to the Next House
31:40 β Should You Buy a New House Before Settlement?
34:20 β Selling Together When You Can Barely Speak
35:25 β Staging, "Sold As Is" and Missing Kitchens
38:10 β Choosing a Real Estate Agent You Both Agree On
39:25 β Court Orders to Sell and Holding Funds in Trust
42:25 β When Your Ex Sabotages the Sale
47:40 β The High-Conflict Ex and the House
49:15 β The Avoidant Ex and Avoidant-Proof Orders
51:20 β The Manipulative Ex and Delay Tactics
52:50 β Amicable? Don't Rely on a Handshake
54:40 β Don't Let Buyers Know It's a Divorce Sale
55:55 β When Your Ex Won't Sign: Section 106A Explained
57:20 β What It Costs to Go to Court Over the House
59:00 β A Home Is Just a House: The Emotional Side
π§ EPISODES MENTIONED
What Happens With the Mortgage https://youtu.be/8yNEHlHC-JE?si=hCyc9PcxW3BbTUDd
Inheritances https://youtu.be/FKK6NIU4sEk?si=oAOCl-INyhnvO_M0
I Really Want to Keep the House https://youtu.be/sblG_qVXhG4?si=ydHgafJTRDRr6g74
Selling the House https://youtu.be/kd9MUMeKaKQ?si=dTTugpHus_6Qe7oF
π FULL SHOW NOTES, including every case, section and resource mentioned in this episode: www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7) π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π Police β 000 π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Family Law Act 1975 β s79(5) and s90SM (housing the children), s4AB (family violence and economic abuse), s90 (stamp duty relief), s106A (registrar signing documents).
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π§ LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IFβ¦
β’ You're parenting a child with autism, ADHD or suspected neurodivergence through a separation
β’ You don't know how to tell a literal thinker that their parents are splitting up
β’ Changeover is falling apart and your child refuses to go to the other house
β’ Your ex denies the diagnosis, blocks therapy, or says "they're perfect at my place"
β’ You need the court to understand what your child's daily needs actually look like
β’ You're heading into a family report and you're dreading it
β’ You're burnt out, doing all the appointments, and wondering if you've ruined your child
Does the family court actually consider your child's neurodivergence when making parenting orders? What happens when your ex tells the lawyer your child doesn't have special needs at all? And can week-about ever work for a child who falls apart at every changeover?
In this episode, Mum and I are joined by Amanda Lee β an autistic mum of autistic daughters, a qualified Montessori educator, parenting coach and registered counsellor who has also been through the family court herself. Amanda works with neurodiverse families navigating burnout, relationship breakdown and separation, and she brings both the qualifications and the lived experience.
β±οΈ EPISODE TIMELINE
00:00 β Neurodivergent Kids and Divorce: What You Need to Know
01:01 β Meet Amanda Lee: Autistic Mum, Counsellor and Parenting Coach
03:22 β What's Actually Different for a Neurodivergent Child?
04:56 β Does the Family Court Need a Formal Diagnosis?
06:17 β How to Tell a Neurodivergent Child You're Separating
10:09 β Warning Signs Your Child Isn't Coping After Separation
13:59 β You Haven't Ruined Your Child: The Skills They're Building
14:32 β Documenting Your Child's Behaviour for the Family Court
15:27 β Transitions and Two Homes: Making Changeover Easier
20:04 β One Safe Person, One Safe Place: How to Parallel Parent
22:06 β When Your Child Refuses to Go to the Other House
22:58 β How to Write Observations That Hold Up as Evidence
26:00 β Free Checklists at The Divorce Course
27:09 β When Your Ex Won't Take the Kids to Therapy or OT
28:00 β The Ex Who Denies the Diagnosis: Talk About Behaviour Instead
30:24 β Masking, the Fawn Response and "Perfect at Dad's"
33:08 β Telling the School and Building Your Support Team
36:24 β "Therapeutic Purposes Only" Counselling Orders Explained
37:07 β How the Family Court Considers Neurodiversity
38:15 β NDIS Plans, Affidavits and a Day in the Life
40:02 β Choosing a Family Report Writer Who Gets Neurodivergence
41:00 β Preparing Your Child for the Family Report Interview
44:10 β Coaching Accusations and How to Avoid Them
46:15 β When Parents Can't Agree on Medical or Therapy Decisions
49:04 β Therapy Costs, Property Settlement and Child Support
51:05 β Support After 18: Adult Child Maintenance Explained
53:06 β Parental Burnout and the "Good Enough Parent" Standard
56:49 β Where to Find Amanda Lee
π§ EPISODES MENTIONED
β’ At What Age Can Children Decide Where They Live? βhttps://youtu.be/hUCh0Nzw0wM?si=3jLmbSGESM3ziQYq
β’ What Is a Family Report? What to Expect on the Day βhttps://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/family-reports-in-your-divorce/id1503451022?i=1000475552908
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Amanda Lee β Amanda Lee Consulting β amandaleeconsulting.com | Amanda Lee Consulting on Facebook & Instagram
Understanding Zoe app β shared practitioner notes for your child's support team (may be fundable through NDIS)
Teeny Tiny Stevies β ABC Kids / ABC iview (the goodbye-song idea)
Videos for children about the family court β fcfcoa.gov.au
Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) s 60CC β best interests of the child
Family Law Amendment Act 2023 β parental responsibility and joint decision-making changes, in force May 2024
Services Australia β Child Support change of assessment (special circumstances)
NDIS β ndis.gov.au
LINKS & RESOURCES
π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π The Divorce Course Podcast β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
β Free checklists (mediation, disclosure, word salad, read a letter like a pro, before you go) β free resources section at www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
SUPPORT
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
π Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Police β 000 (immediate danger)
π Content warning: this episode touches on high-conflict separation, post-separation abuse, and parents who deny a child's needs.
β οΈ This podcast is general information only β it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded.
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All our best,
Laura & Lyn
Your Guides By Your Side
Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
β’ You've been told your property pool is "too big" or "too small" to bother negotiating
β’ You're weighing up whether to accept an offer or go to court, and it doesn't feel fair
β’ You're a stay-at-home parent worried about how you'll manage on a small settlement
β’ Your ex keeps saying "just go get a job" and you don't know if the court sees it that way
β’ You're stuck arguing over a percentage and not sure if the fight is worth the cost
β’ You want to understand future needs adjustments before you sit down at mediation
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer
This podcast is general information only β it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation or jurisdiction (some rules differ in WA). Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded.
Episode Summary
You may have been told that because your property pool is very big, or very small, the usual rules don't apply to you. Maybe you're trying to decide whether to accept an offer that doesn't feel fair, or whether it's even worth going to court at all. This one's for you.
Mum and I unpack how the size of your property pool changes the way settlement negotiations and decisions play out. The family law framework is always the same β the four steps a court works through don't move β but two of those steps, current and future circumstances (what we used to call "future needs") and that final just-and-equitable check, can look very different depending on whether you're splitting five million or fifty thousand.
We talk through why big pools often see smaller future-needs adjustments (because there's plenty to go around), why small pools can see much larger ones (because every dollar counts), and the one habit that will save you years of stress: stop arguing over percentages and start looking at what those percentages are actually worth in real dollars. Mum also explains the Priority Property Pool 500 (PPP500) court track for smaller matters, why superannuation isn't the same as cash in your hand, and why drawing that legal line under your relationship matters even when there's "hardly anything" to divide.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline
00:00 β Big or Small Property Pool? Why It Matters
01:00 β The Legal Disclaimer & What Stays the Same for Everyone
01:20 β The Four Steps: What Never Changes in a Settlement
02:00 β What Counts as a Large Property Pool?
02:40 β Big Pools: Why Future Needs Adjustments Shrink
04:40 β Standard of Living: What the Court Will and Won't Do
06:30 β Small Pools: Why Adjustments Can Be Much Bigger
07:30 β Percentages vs Real Dollars: The Mindset Shift
09:00 β Is That 10% Worth Going to Court For?
12:20 β Don't Forget Superannuation vs Cash
14:00 β Stay-at-Home Parents, Earning Capacity & Retraining
17:20 β "Is a Small Pool Even Worth It?" The Myth
18:30 β Why Drawing a Legal Line Protects Your Future
21:40 β The Priority Property Pool 500 (PPP500) Explained
23:30 β Normal-Sized Pools: Follow the Usual Rules
25:50 β Show Me the Money: Look at Dollars, Not Percentages
26:40 β You Are Capable: A Message of Hope
- Should I Settle or Go to Court? (10 Questions to Ask Yourself)
Referenced when discussing how to decide whether the fight is worth it.
- Property: Why You Shouldn't Negotiate Percentages
Referenced when discussing arguing over what "50/50" actually means in dollars.
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
π Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Police β 000 (immediate danger)
π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π The Divorce Course Podcast β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
β’ Priority Property Pool 500 (PPP500) β the streamlined court track for matters with net assets under $500,000 (excluding super). Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia: https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au
β’ Family Law Act 1975 β s 79 (property, married) / s 90SM (de facto): https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
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You've left a coercively controlling relationship and your biggest fear is what it will do to your kids
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You're wondering why your children can't see the abuse, or seem to side with the controlling parent
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Your ex uses the kids as messengers or feeds them misinformation
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You're worried about being accused of "parental alienation" for parenting differently
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You're navigating parenting plans, orders or supervised time with a high-conflict ex
β οΈ This podcast is general information only not legal advice. Australian family law discussed. Always consult a qualified family lawyer.
π This episode discusses coercive control and family violence. In danger? Call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 13 11 14.
In Part 4 of our Coercive Control Series, Laura and Lyn are joined by clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova to answer your questions about coercive control, children and co-parenting. Plus the legal side β affidavits, family reports, Section 61DAB, loophole-proof orders, whether the court listens to a 14-year-old, and why supervised time working isn't a reason to rush to unsupervised.
β±οΈ CHAPTERS
00:00 β Coercive Control and Kids: Every Parent's Biggest Fear
02:00 β How Coercive Control Affects Children (Including Adult Children)
04:00 β Research: Coercive Control Harms Kids Like Physical Violence
08:00 β Why Children Can't See the Abuse: The Loyalty Bind
10:00 β Does the Family Court Recognise the Impact on Children?
11:00 β The Problem With Family Reports
13:00 β Naming Coercive Control in Your Affidavit
14:00 β When Kids Are Used as Messengers
15:00 β Why Protective Parenting Is Double Duty
18:00 β Dr Emma Katz: Build the Opposite of the Coercive Regime
21:00 β Teaching Kids Emotion Regulation and Assertiveness
24:00 β Why Normal Co-Parenting Advice Doesn't Apply Here
26:00 β Making Your Home Non-Porous
27:00 β Alienation Accusations vs Parenting Differently
29:00 β Bombarding Messages: Why You Can Ignore Them
31:00 β Section 61DAB: Your Day-to-Day Parenting Decisions
32:00 β Manipulation and Misinformation: Correcting the Record
37:00 β The "Adult Matters" Myth in Family Court
38:00 β When Kids Side With the Controlling Parent
43:00 β How to Tell the Kids You're Divorcing
48:00 β Best Books to Help Children Through Coercive Control
52:00 β Krasi's Message to Every Protective Parent
55:00 β Helping Kids Heal When They Won't Open Up
60:00 β Parenting Plans With a Narcissistic Ex: 50/50 Traps
62:00 β Loophole-Proof Orders: Why "As Agreed" Needs a Default
65:00 β Will the Court Listen to a 14-Year-Old?
67:00 β Parental Alienation: What the UN Report Says
69:00 β The Gillick Test: Teens Accessing Psychological Support
70:00 β Sudden 50/50 Demands and Recording Phone Calls
72:00 β Supervised Time: Why Good Behaviour Isn't Evidence
π§ EPISODES MENTIONED
Part 1 β Coercive Control vs a Bad Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Blmekx03XEJIzshzS3glJ
Part 2 β Coercive Control While Separated Under One Roof https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503451022?i=1000775886114
Part 3 β Financial Abuse and Coercive Control: When Money Becomes the Weapon https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503451022?i=1000776879697
The Parenting Order Loopholes Your Ex Will Exploit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBZYy44FhPY
Can Kids Decide Where They Live? How Children's Wishes Count https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1503451022?i=1000771958744
π RESOURCES
Krasi Kirova, Clinical Psychologist β https://kirovapsychology.com.au
Krasi's feedback form for survivors β https://jtwqtij4vdy.typeform.com/to/bjpm4Gy2
Books: The Big Bag of Worries | Every Moment of Every Day (Christine Cuccio) | The Sky Is Red and My Boundary Balloons (Tyra Schwartz) | I Can (Natasha Harris)
Family Law Act 1975 β s60CC and s61DAB
π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- Your ex is using money to punish or control you in divorce proceedings
- Your ex is stalling the settlement, ignoring emails, or pressuring you to sign before you're ready
- You've been told it "couldn't really be financial abuse" because you earned your own money or had access to the accounts
- Your partner refused to work or quietly drained joint funds
- Your lawyer suggested leaving coercive control out of your settlement
- You need the courage to name what happened
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. It reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer. Laws may have changed since recording.
π Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode discusses coercive control and financial abuse. For confidential support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
Lyn a Family Lawyer and I are joined again by clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova to answer your questions about financial abuse the part of coercive control that hides inside bank accounts, businesses, superannuation and settlement negotiations.
Krasi breaks down the three faces of economic abuse β control, employment sabotage and economic exploitation β and Mum covers what Section 4AB of the Family Law Act actually says, what evidence courts look for when the abuse happened behind closed doors, and how to find the courage to name it.
00:00 β Financial Abuse and Coercive Control: Was It Really Abuse? 03:00 β Financial Abuse When You're the Breadwinner 04:00 β The 3 Types of Economic Abuse: Control, Sabotage, Exploitation 08:00 β My Husband Won't Work β Is This Coercive Control? 12:00 β Secret Accounts and Hidden Spending 15:00 β "I Learned to Stop Asking Questions" β Control Through Consequences 16:00 β Section 4AB Family Law Act: Financial Abuse Is Coercive Control 17:00 β The Avoidant Ex and Post-Separation Abuse 19:00 β When Courts Award More: The 14% Adjustment for Coercive Conduct 21:00 He Won't Accept the Separation 23:00 β Proving Subtle Coercive Control in Court 24:00 β What Evidence Family Courts Actually Need (It's Not Criminal Proof) 27:00 β Making Your Story Live for the Judge: Notes, Dates, Chronology 29:00 β The Three Ds Framework: Demeaning, Disempowerment, Distortion 31:00 βProving Covert Control and Narrative Isolation 39:00 β Trying Hard's Question: Pressured to Sign the Settlement Too Soon 43:00 β Alex's Question: When Your Ex Uses Adult Kids to Pressure You 46:00 β Krasi's Call-Out: Share Your Experience for the Psychology Conference 48:00 β Samantha's Question: My Lawyer Said to Leave Coercive Control Out 52:00 β Spousal Maintenance Years After Separation: What Courts Consider 54:00 β Gretchen's Question: When the Ex's Lawyers Play Coercive Games 55:00 β Miss Resilient: Private School Fees, Child Support and Spiteful Neglect 59:00 β Next Week: Coercive Control, the Children and Co-Parenting 60:00 β Jesse and Sandy: Finding the Courage to Name the Abuse 61:00 β The Lighthouse Program and Evatt List: Extra Safeguards in Court 65:00 β The Domestic Violence Pendulum: You Will Find Your Voice
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support) π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Krasi's free Three Ds handout - https://kirovapsychology.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/3Ds-Handout-1.pdf Krasi's Psychology Conference questionnaire https://jtwqtij4vdy.typeform.com/to/bjpm4Gy2
Coercive Control While Separated Under One Roof: How to Survive It | The Divorce Course Podcast (Part 2)
π§ LISTEN IF YOUβ¦
β’ Are separated but still stuck under one roof
β’ Were told you "can't leave" without a parenting plan
β’ Suspect you're being watched through cameras, phone or car
β’ Are scared to move money or make a move
β’ Want to plan a safe exit and set real boundaries
β οΈ General education only β not legal or psychological advice. Discusses coercive control, financial & tech abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 13 11 14.
Part 2 of our six-part coercive control series with clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova and Family Law Specialist Lyn Galvin, all about surviving it while you're still in it.
00:00 β Separated but Stuck Under One Roof: You're Not Alone
01:00 β Six-Part Series, Guest Krasi Kirova & How to Send Questions
02:00 β Meet Krasi Kirova & Lyn Galvin
03:00 β Legal & Family Violence Disclaimer
04:00 β Does Coercive Control Continue After Separation? (Sally's Question)
05:00 β The Three Ds: Disrespect, Disempowerment, Distortion
06:00 β Why They Won't Move Out β The New Under-One-Roof Tactic
07:00 β Is Separation Under One Roof Required? Davis & Davis (Sarah's Question)
08:00 β "Can You Make Them Leave?" + When Your Ex Makes Up the Law
10:00 β DARVO Explained + Why Placating Doesn't Work (Nini's Question)
12:00 β How to Prove Escalating Abuse + Judges Are Trained
13:00 β Chronologies as Evidence + The Three-Year "Separation" Trap (Anonymous)
15:00 β The Stuck Feeling Is Entrapment β You Can Leave Without a Plan
17:00 β Cameras, Doorbells & Surveillance In Your Own Home (Loans' Question)
19:00 β Tech-Facilitated Abuse: 70% Is Everyday Tech + The Omnipresence Effect
20:00 β Is My Car Being Tracked? AirTags, Apps & What to Do (Marie's Question)
22:00 β Removing Tech Safely: Order Matters, Sweepers & Bluetooth
24:00 β When Your Ex Uses the Kids to Spy (She Bear's Question)
26:00 β Talking to Your Child About Privacy + Family Reports
28:00 β Krasi's Call-Out: Share Your Voice for the Psychology Conference
31:00 β Moving Money Without Awakening the Bear (JT's Question)
33:00 β Getting Your Ducks in a Row: The Safest Way to Leave
36:00 β 21 Years In β How Do I Announce I'm Leaving? (Tash's Question)
37:00 β The Shark Analogy: Why "Nicely" Doesn't Change the Reaction
38:00 β "You Moved Money Without My Consent" β Financial Control (Jessie's Question)
40:00 β Boundaries vs Buffers: Why Boundaries Can Backfire (Anonymous)
44:00 β Parenting Apps, Grey Rocking & the Three Anchors
45:00 β Legal Abuse, Comeuppance & the 14% Uplift Case
46:00 β Intervention Orders + A House-Sharing Idea for the Stuck
π§ EPISODES MENTIONED
Can You Make Them Leave? β https://youtu.be/_XAG5c1hOkU
Tech-Facilitated Abuse (WESNET SafetyNet Australia) β https://youtu.be/rc8b27R_k9k
The Three Anchors with Sonia Bestulic β https://youtu.be/aHULu7ffPj4
Capturing Coercive Control in an Affidavit β https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw
π RESOURCES
1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000
The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Free Before-You-Go Checklist & Tech App Worksheet β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Share your voice for Krasi's conference (anonymous) β https://jtwqtij4vdy.typeform.com/to/bjpm4Gy2
Tech safety β https://techsafety.org.au
Davis & Davis [1984] β the case confirming it's unreasonable to expect separated people to live under one roof
If this episode helped you, please follow, rate, review and share so others stuck under one roof can find it too. Next week: Coercive Control & Financial Abuse.
Listen to this episode if⦠* You keep asking yourself "is it me, or are they controlling?" * The examples online always sound more extreme than what you're living * You're walking on eggshells but second-guessing whether you're allowed to feel that way * You've been told to "just set boundaries" but it only seems to make things worse * You want to understand coercive control from both a psychological and a family-law angle
Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Warning This is general education β not legal advice or a psychological diagnosis. It discusses coercive control and abuse. If you're in danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14.
Episode Summary "Is it me, or are they controlling?" That question ran under almost every message you sent in β so we turned it into a six-part series, and this is Part 1. Laura and Lyn are joined by clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova to answer the one nearly everyone asked: is this really coercive control?
Krasi shares her three Ds (disrespect, disempowerment, distortion), explains why coercive control is a pattern and a function rather than a list of behaviours, and how good qualities like compromise and empathy get weaponised. Lyn explains how family law treats coercive control differently from the criminal courts.
00:00 β Is It Me, or Are They Controlling?
03:30 β What Best Illustrates Coercive Control?
04:30 β The Restaurant Metaphor: Pattern, Not a Checklist
06:00 β The 3 Ds: Disrespect, Disempowerment, Distortion
07:30 β Psychology vs Family Law: Section 4AB
09:00 β Family Court vs Criminal Court: Different Tests
10:00 β When You Lose Sight of What's Reasonable
12:00 β How Compromise & Empathy Get Weaponised
13:00 β When Your Ex Wasn't As "Extreme" as the Examples
16:00 β Is Anger & Yelling Coercive Control?
18:00 β Can It Exist Without Financial Control?
19:00 β Repeated Pressure & Monopolised Decisions (
22:00 β Stonewalling, Delay & Deflection
25:30 β The PA Dynamic & Exploitation
28:00 β Needy or Controlling? How to Tell the Difference
30:00 β Blame-Shifting, DARVO & Perspecticide
33:00 β Infidelity, Guilt & Trying to Leave
39:00 β Silent Treatment as Punishment
43:00 β Why He Does Less When You're Sick
45:00 β Emotional Abuse vs Coercive Control
47:30 β Can the Main Breadwinner Be Controlled?
53:00 β Why Do They Do It? Can Survivors Heal?
58:00 β The Anxious, Controlling Attachment Style &
Have Your Say β Krasi's Conference Call-Out π Have your say: Krasi is presenting on coercive control at the Australian National Psychology Conference. Share what you wish psychologists and therapists understood β anonymously, with optional audio. Link in the show notes. Entry form https://jtwqtij4vdy.typeform.com/to/bjpm4Gy2
Resources The 3 Ds of Coercive Control β the deep-dive episode with Krasi.https://youtu.be/bRmLZBRs--o?si=YZ1951oDofDe_lw7
- 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000
- Section 4AB, Family Law Act 1975 β definition of family violence
- Guest: Krasi Kirova, Clinical Psychologist
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Listen to this episode if⦠* You feel like you're just reacting to whatever your ex or their lawyer throws at you * You're exhausted, foggy, and making life-changing decisions while running on empty * You can't tell anymore whether your choices come from your intuition or from fear * You find it hard to speak up for yourself in mediation, in court, or even to your own lawyer * You've lost a bit of yourself and want practical ways to feel grounded again * You want to move from just surviving your divorce to actually flourishing through it
This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. This episode touches on coercive control and post-separation abuse. If you or someone you know is in danger, call 000. For confidential support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
If you're feeling stuck in survival mode reacting to every email, every legal letter, every move your ex makes this episode is the deep breath you've been needing. Laura is joined by Sonia Bestulic, award-winning author, speaker and wisdom teacher, whose book Flourish for Mums found Laura right in the middle of her own divorce. Together they unpack what survival mode actually is, why so many of us get stuck in it, and how to gently move out of it.
00:00 β Are You Stuck in Survival Mode During Your Divorce?
01:00 β Meet Sonia Bestulic: Author, Speaker & Wisdom Teacher
03:50 β "I Just Burnt Out": How Survival Mode Shows Up
05:30 β Why Your Mindset Can Affect Your Case as Much as the Law
07:00 β What Survival Mode Really Is (Fight, Flight, Freeze)
08:00 β The Lion Metaphor: A Fuel System Built for Short Bursts
09:30 β The Warning Signs You've Been in Survival Mode Too Long
10:50 β When Post-Separation Abuse Is Designed to Exhaust You
11:40 β The Three Anchors & Building Your Support Team
12:40 β Anchor One: Nourishing Your Intuition (Your Sacred GPS)
14:50 β Coercive Control & Learning to Trust Yourself Again
15:40 β The Morning Body Scan: 15 Minutes That Reset Your Day
18:30 β How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition
21:30 β Anchor Two: Energetic Integrity & Energy Hygiene
23:30 β Inner Boundaries: What's Mine to Carry and What's Theirs?
25:30 β Choosing When to Read That Email From Your Ex
26:40 β The Power of Nature to Recalibrate Your Nervous System
28:50 β Gratitude: The Highest-Frequency Circuit Breaker
30:00 β The Gratitude Candle & the Kindness Squirrel
32:50 β Anchor Three: Sacred Self-Advocacy
34:50 β Speaking Your Truth Without the Fight Energy
36:40 β Why Energy Speaks First (Even in the Witness Box)
40:40 β Daily Practices: Dance, Laughter, Music & Breath
43:50 β The Cup of Gratitude Ritual
45:40 β The Roots Metaphor: The Deeper the Roots, the Taller We Grow
48:40 β The One Thing You Can Start Today
49:50 β Where to Find Sonia & Her Books
- 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
- Lifeline β 13 11 14
- Police β 000 (immediate danger)
- The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
- The Divorce Course Empowerment Playlist β on Spotify
- Sonia Bestulic β books Flourish for Mums and Raising Empowered Humans: Unlocking Kids' Self-Leadership and Lifelong Flourishing (Amazon, global delivery). https://soniabestulic.com.au/
π§ Listen ifβ¦ - You've been told you "can't touch anything" until property settlement is finalised - You're scared opening your own account will start a fight - You're watching money vanish from the joint account and can't stop it - You're the lower earner, worried about being left with nothing while you wait - You're paying for everything and scared of being called financially abusive if you stop - You've got a kids' savings or education account and don't know where it fits
Disclaimer: General information and education only, not legal advice. Please consult a family lawyer about your situation. π Discusses financial abuse & coercive control.
Can you really not touch any money until property settlement? Mum and I unpack what you can and can't do with your bank accounts after separation: the difference between managing day-to-day finances and dividing property, what happens to accounts in your own name versus joint accounts, and how to handle it whether your ex is amicable, high conflict, or controlling. We cover opening a new account, freezing joint accounts, what to do if it's emptied, kids' accounts, child support myths, and the warning signs of financial abuse.
β±οΈ CHAPTERS 00:00 β Banking Through Separation: The Questions Everyone's Afraid to Ask 02:00 β Education Only & Why Your Lawyer Comes First 03:00 β The Two Big Myths: "Freeze Everything" vs "Take Everything" 03:30 β Power Dynamics & Who Makes the Early Money Decisions 04:00 β Managing Day-to-Day Finances vs Dividing Property 05:30 β What Happens to Your Bank Accounts When You Separate 06:00 β "It's Yours": Accounts in Your Own Name 07:00 β Joint Accounts & Why You Can Take Your Share 09:30 β Amicable Divorce: Take It, Then Tell Them 11:00 β High Conflict: Don't Stay Beholden to Your Ex 12:30 β Manipulative & Controlling Exes & the Groceries Analogy 13:30 β Is Taking the Money Financial Abuse? Section 4AB Explained 14:00 β Spousal Maintenance & the Joint-Account "Time Bomb" 15:30 β Post-Separation Spending, Wastage & Gollings & Scott 17:30 β Opening Your Own Bank Account (Yes, You Can) 18:30 β Why You Should Choose a Completely Different Bank 20:30 β "Will My Ex Find Out?" Tech Abuse, Passwords & Disclosure 22:30 β Where Should Your Wages Go? 23:00 β Coming Up: A Coercive Control Q&A With Krazi Kirova 23:30 β When Your Ex Won't Move Out or Pay the Bills 24:30 β Reasonableness & How a Judge Will See It 26:00 β Giving Notice, Justifying It & Part N of the Financial Statement 27:00 β The Two People This Goes Badly For 28:30 β Talking to the Bank & Their Limits 29:00 β How to Freeze a Joint Account (Two to Sign) 31:00 β Stopping Large Withdrawals & ATM Limits 32:00 β When the Account Gets Emptied: Spousal Maintenance Options 33:00 β Urgent Spousal Maintenance Orders Explained 35:00 β Protect vs Punish: Two Money Mindsets in Divorce 36:00 β Homework: Talk to Your Bank Anonymously 37:30 β Splitting the Cash 50/50: Does It Lock In Your Settlement? 39:00 β How to Document It (A Text Message Is Enough) 40:30 β Kids' Bank Accounts: Who Controls Them? 41:30 β Splitting Kids' Accounts & Trustee Options 42:30 β Using the Kids' Money to Live On (If You Have To) 43:30 β Kids' Accounts Are Part of the Property Pool & Disclosure 44:00 β Child Support Myths: The "Every Dollar for the Kids" Trap 45:30 β The "Basket of Goods" Approach & Living to Your Means 47:30 β Warning Signs of Financial Abuse 49:30 β Real-Time Spend Alerts, Passwords & Your Safety 50:45 β Day-to-Day Finances vs Property Settlement: The Recap 51:30 β Get on the Mailing List So You're Not Blindsided 52:00 β Final Homework: Go Open That New Bank Account 53:30 β Crochet Corner & Sign Off 54:30 β Commonwealth Bank Next Chapter & Banking Support
π§ EPISODES Technology Abuse / Tech Safety β passwords, devices & safety checklist: https://youtu.be/rc8b27R_k9k Balancing the Power Dynamic β when one party stalls while the other pushes for settlement: https://youtu.be/coWlWcIq180
1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000 Web: www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog Q&A questions: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com CommBank Next Chapter β financial abuse support.
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π§ Listen Ifβ¦
- Your child has said they don't want to go to the other parent's house
- Your ex keeps saying "once they turn [a certain age] they can choose"
- You're worried your child is being pressured, coached, or caught in the middle
- You're hearing two completely different stories from your kids at handover
- You're amicable and thinking of just "letting the kids decide" (please listen first)
- You want to understand how children's views actually reach the court
General information only not legal advice. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your situation.π Discusses family violence & coercive control. In danger: 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 13 11 14.
About This Episode
Mum and I unpack what the Family Law Act actually how children's views really reach a judge (family reports, child impact reports, ICLs), and how kids' wishes play out across the four divorce personality types.
β±οΈ Timeline
00:00 Can a Child Choose Which Parent to Live With?
02:00 Why the Family Court Won't Ask Kids to Choose
06:27 The Best Interests of the Child Test (Section 60CC)
09:06 What Age Can a Child Decide Where to Live?
11:34 How a Child's Wishes Are Actually Heard in Family Law
13:25 Child-Inclusive Mediation Explained
15:22 Therapy, Family Reports & Expert Evidence
19:48 How to Get a Family Report Outside of Court
22:35 How Family Violence Changes Parenting Decisions
27:22 2024 Family Law Reforms & Common Custody Myths
28:29 Can You Force a Teenager to Follow Parenting Orders?
31:58 The Reality of Enforcing Orders With Teens
33:03 How to Future-Proof Your Parenting Orders
34:03 Why Older Teens Have More Say in Where They Live
34:35 The Manipulative & Controlling Ex: Hidden Motives
36:42 How to Spot Coercion & Coaching Tactics
39:04 Love Bombing, Bribery & When the Mask Slips
41:54 High-Conflict Exes: Kids Caught in the Middle
45:20 The Avoidant Parent & Parentification
49:02 Amicable Co-Parents: Why You Still Shouldn't Let Kids Decide
51:07 Key Takeaways: Voice Heard, Not Decision Made
54:43 Closing Notes & Legal Disclaimer
π§ Episodes Mentioned
- Decoding the Child's Best Interests Referenced when discussing the full 60CC best-interests factors https://youtu.be/k4-QTbfW8XM?si=4ltIq0y0ceoMQWym
- Child-Inclusive Mediation Referenced when discussing how children's views are gathered out of court. https://youtu.be/HrEU6dFc0Ko?si=xvSAyfnMJ9oEfXnN
- Handover Hell β When Your Child Refuses to Go Referenced at the end for listeners dealing with handover-day resistance https://youtu.be/YphzOPZmC3k?si=Wf1RwzJMf-ix4N4K
Support & Resources
π 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000
The Divorce Course β https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
If this helped, please follow, rate, review and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others can find it too.
All our best, Laura & Lyn β Your Guides By Your Side
π§ Listen if you're wondering when you can make an offer, you've received one that floored you, you feel pressured to "be the reasonable one," your ex is high-conflict or controlling, or you've been told you have to go to mediation first.
β οΈ General information only, not legal advice Australian family law. Always consult a family lawyer.
π Discusses coercive control & legal/financial abuse. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). β±οΈ Episode Timeline
00:00 β What Is an Offer in a Divorce?
01:50 β What an Offer Really Is (and What Counteroffers Are)
02:30 β Do You Need a Lawyer to Make an Offer?
03:30 β Why Emotional, People-Pleasing Offers Backfire
04:30 β What You Need Before You Make an Offer: Your Property Pool
05:00 β Future Needs, Super vs Cash
06:00 β Knowing What You're Giving Up With Eyes Wide Open
07:00 β Rushed & Blindsided Offers:
08:00 β Buying Time Before You Agree
09:00 β Can You Get Out of Something You Signed Under Pressure?
10:30 β When Can You Make an Offer? Anytime You're Informed
12:30 β The Best Time to Make Your First Offer & Saving Legal Fees
13:50 β The Mediation Myth: You Don't Have to Go
15:40 β Why People Only Get Realistic at Mediation
17:00 β Time-Limited Offers: Pressure, Deadlines & the Downside
20:00 β Standing Offers:
22:00 β Do Offers Work in Parenting
24:30 β Calderbank Offers & Section 114UB Explained
25:50 β Offer Strategy for an Avoidant Ex
28:30 β Offer Strategy for a High-Conflict "Yeah, But" Ex
31:20 β Offer Strategy for an Amicable Ex & Collaborative Law
36:20 β Can You Offer Directly to Your Ex While Lawyers Are Engaged?
37:00 β Making Offers to a Narcissistic or Controlling Ex
39:00 β Don't Feed the Reaction: Grey Rock & Shuttle Negotiation
41:50 β What to Do When You Get a Bad Offer
42:50 β Ambit Claims & the Central Practice Direction
44:00 β Ask for the Authorities: Turning a Bad Offer to Your Advantage
46:30 β The Consequences of Refusing a Reasonable Offer
48:50 β Genuine Steps, Compulsory Offers & Costs Protection
50:00 β Why Offers Stay Hidden From the Judge Until the End
Calderbank Offers & Costs β β’ Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers ...
Can You Really Mediate With a Narcissist? β β’ Mediation and negotiation tips for divorci...
β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Enrol (DIY Divorce Blueprint, AU) β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You're wondering if you actually need a lawyer for your divorce at all
- You're worried that spending too much now means you can't afford court later
- You're scared that "lawyering up" will make your ex worse
- You think it's all-or-nothing and want to know the middle ground
- Your ex is high-conflict, avoidant, controlling, or amicable and you need a strategy that fits
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. It reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your situation. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your circumstances. Laws may have changed since recording.
Most people think there are only two options when it comes to lawyers in a divorce hand everything over, or go it completely alone. But that's not the truth, and believing it can cost you thousands.
In this episode, Laura and Lyn break down the three ways you can actually use a lawyer.
Then they get into what nobody talks about how your divorce personality type should completely change how you use a lawyer. A manipulative and controlling ex who runs up your fees needs a very different strategy to an avoidant ex who panics at a law firm's letterhead
This isn't an episode telling you to avoid lawyers. It's about using them strategically for the parts where legal expertise genuinely matters, and not for the parts that just drain your property pool.
00:00 β Do You Need a Lawyer for Divorce? The Big Myth
01:40 β The All-or-Nothing Lawyer Myth & Talking About Costs
03:00 β Why Spending Too Much on Lawyers Early Can Backfire
04:00 β The 2 Critical Times You MUST See a Lawyer
05:00 β Why Seeing a Lawyer Early Bursts Unrealistic Expectations
06:20 β Before You Sign: Why a Lawyer's Eye Matters
08:20 β The 3 Ways to Use a Lawyer: The First-Class Ride
09:50 β The 3 Ways to Use a Lawyer: Step In, Step Out
11:20 β Divorce Personality Types: Manipulative & Controlling
12:50 β Using Your Lawyer Strategically Against Fee-Running Tactics
15:00 β Should You Take a Lawyer or Barrister to Mediation?
17:00 β Divorce Personality Types: High Conflict
19:00 β Divorce Personality Types: The Avoidant Ex
21:30 β Divorce Personality Types: The Amicable Ex
23:40 β Project-Managing Your Lawyer & the Addario & Addario Case
26:00 β Why Understanding the Process Stops Panic Spending
33:00 β The Middle Way + Legal Aid & Community Legal Services
34:00 β The DIY Divorce Blueprint & Sign-Off
π§ Episodes
- How Much Does Getting Divorced Actually Cost? β https://youtu.be/x-sgBNjlTHo?si=ubdIhcS1mjSrQqEk
- Bombarded With Legal Letters β https://youtu.be/z11Id8YdQn4?si=ucYfGThRuRcFYoH6
- Mediation or Manipulation? β https://youtu.be/cmcFWXD2EBs?si=BMV5KY4CquSx1_dN
- Do You Need to Take a Lawyer to Mediation? β https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=vNwQueYHJhFrY3aP
- Community Legal Services: How to Use Them β https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=1oYsGQ3vF1Eb2Y4M
π Links & Resources
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support) π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π Police β 000 (immediate danger) π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au π The DIY Divorce Blueprint β enrolments open until 10 June 2026 (click "Enroll Now")
π If this episode helped you understand how to use a lawyer wisely β and where you can save thousands β please follow, rate, review, and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others going through the same thing can find it too.
π§ Listen to This Episode Ifβ¦
- You want a real, plain-English breakdown of divorce process fees
- You're terrified to leave because you've heard divorce costs hundreds of thousands of dollars
- Your ex is telling you "leave the lawyers out of it" and you're not sure if they're right
- You've already started racking up legal fees and you're wondering where it's all going
- You want to understand exactly what you can do yourself versus what you actually need a lawyer for
- You're heading into mediation and don't know if you need a barrister too
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer
This podcast is general information only β it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law. Always consult a qualified family lawyer. fees may have changed since this episode was recorded (figures quoted reflect May 2026 pricing).
This isn't an episode designed to scare you. Laura and Lyn walk you through where you have control, where you can save thousands by doing the work yourself,
00:00 β The Real Cost of Divorce: Why Some Pay $4K and Others $300K
02:36 β The Big Three Fears
04:14 β How Much Does a Divorce Application Actually Cost?
06:35 β Why Lawyers Charge for "Accepting Service"
08:01 β Negotiation Costs:
11:00 β Hourly Rates in 2026:
12:30 β The Cost of Phone Calls, Reviewing Offers & Meetings
14:30 β How Much to Draft Consent Orders
16:00 β Disclosure: The Biggest Budget Blowout in Divorce
19:00 β Paralegal Rates vs Lawyer Rates: Don't Overpay
20:30 β Drip-Feeding vs Dumping Disclosure
23:30 β Mediation Costs
24:50 β Do You Need a Barrister at Mediation?
27:00 β Half-Day vs Full-Day Mediation
29:30 β Hidden Costs
32:30 β The Court's Scale of Fees vs What Lawyers Actually Charge
33:30 β How Sending Late-Night Emails Costs You
34:30 β How People Waste Money
35:30 β Fighting Over Furniture, Revenge Litigation & Lawyer-as-Therapist
36:30 β Stubbornness, Unrealistic Expectations & Knowing When to Let Go
37:30 β Family Law Doesn't Deliver Justice or Retribution
39:00 β How Much to File Consent Orders ($205 Court Fee)
41:00 β How to Be Smart: When to Use a Lawyer and When Not To
41:30 β Saving Thousands on Disclosure by Doing It Yourself
43:00 β The One Meeting Strategy: Walk In Prepared, Walk Out Saving $10K
46:00 β Who Pays for Legal Fees? Section 114UB Explained
47:30 β Fee Exemptions, Cost Agreements & What to Expect
49:30 β Laura's Confession: The Bag of Receipts Story
π§ Episodes Mentioned in This Episode
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How to Choose a Mediator (Free vs Private Mediation) https://youtu.be/HKda6QswjAE?si=R27SD6WSDiLiI3VA
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Do You Need a Lawyer for Mediation? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=ur8ZMCkzPQ9dYFZN
-
Furniture in Divorce: How to Deal With It Without Blowing Your Budgethttps://youtu.be/oZ5h-gxckXU
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Consent Orders Explained https://youtu.be/-DC72tq8FRM
ποΈ Free Webinar β Register at www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (click "Reserve My Seat")
- Family Law Act 1975 β Section 114UB (each party bears their own costs)
https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/
- https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/costs
- https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/legal-costs
- The Divorce Course Disclosure Checklist βhttps://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosure_checklist_o
π§ Listen to This Episode Ifβ¦ * You've been told you have to go to mediation and you don't know where to start * Your ex has already chosen a mediator and something feels off * You can't afford the expensive mediator your ex is pushing for * You're going through family violence and worried no mediator will take your matter * You don't know the difference between free mediation and private mediation * You want to know whether your mediator actually needs to be a lawyer
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded.
π Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode discusses family violence and the challenges of mediating where there is a history of abuse, coercion, or control. If you or someone you know is in danger, call 000. For confidential support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).
Episode Summary You don't have to accept whichever mediator gets put in front of you. In this episode, Laura and Mum (family law accredited specialist Lynette Galvin) unpack one of the most under-discussed parts of separation how to actually choose a good mediator, and how to push back when the one your ex is suggesting doesn't feel right.
They cover the difference between free mediation (Relationships Australia, Interrelate, CentreCare) and private mediation, when you need an FDRP (Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner) versus when you don't, and whether your mediator really needs to be a lawyer or a former judge. Mum shares the exact wording she uses in letters when the other side proposes a biased or unaffordable mediator including the "panel of three" approach that keeps the process fair.
There's also an honest conversation about the gap in the system for people experiencing family violence, where mediators often refuse to take the matter on leaving survivors stuck heading to court when mediation could have solved the issue. Laura and Mum talk about what to look for in a mediator brave enough to handle high-conflict matters, and the practical safety steps (separate rooms, video links, safe exits) you can ask about.
And there's the reminder you might need most: you hold the cards. You don't have to agree to anything in mediation just because you've been pushed to. You can pause, walk away, and come back when you're ready.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β How to Choose a Mediator: Why It Matters More Than You Think
01:00 β Legal Disclaimer & Why Mum Is a Qualified Mediator
01:40 β Can the Mediator Make or Break Your Mediation?
02:30 β How Lawyers Choose Mediators (And Their "Bottom of the Barrel" List)
03:40 β Can You Speak to a Mediator Before Choosing? Why Mum Says No
04:20 β How to Use Google Reviews to Vet a Mediator
05:30 β What Qualifications a Mediator Should Have (FDRP Explained)
07:00 β Does Your Mediator Need to Be a Lawyer? Property vs Children
08:30 β Why Social Workers Often Make the Best Children's Mediators
09:30 β Mediation and Family Violence: The Gap in the System
12:20 β Can You Change Mediators Halfway Through? The Honest Answer
13:50 β Red Flags: Biased, Agenda-Driven and "In Cahoots" Mediators
16:00 β When the Mediator's Office Is Next Door to Your Ex's Lawyer
17:00 β How to Push Back Without Slandering the Mediator
18:30 β What to Do If Your Ex Picks an Expensive Mediator You Can't Afford
19:30 β Free Mediation Options: Relationships Australia, Interrelate, CentreCare
20:20 β How Much Does a Private Mediator Cost? ($5Kβ$6K Reality Check)
21:30 β Why Free Services Have Long Wait Lists (And When to Go Private)
22:30 β The "Panel of Three" Letter Strategy You Can Use Today
24:00 β Should You Pay More If Your Case Is Serious?
24:50 β Free Mediation Pros and Cons (And Why Parenting Plans Aren't Enforceable)
27:40 β Private Mediators: Former Judges, Barristers and the "Iron Fist in Velvet Glove"
29:30 β Facilitative vs Evaluative vs Pure Mediation Styles Explained
31:30 β Can You Ask the Mediator If You're Getting a Good Deal? No.
32:30 β Pressure to Sign on the Day: How to Push Back
33:40 β Mediation Is Like a Boat in the Ocean β Pick Wisely
35:30 β How to Write the "Panel of Three" Letter to Your Ex
36:30 β Best Mediator Style by Ex Personality Type
38:30 β If You're Amicable, You Might Not Need Mediation At All
39:30 β You Hold the Cards: Don't Be Bullied Into an Agreement
π§ Episodes Mentioned in This Episode What Actually Happens Inside a Mediation - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BvkcVNcHNrdWmXALC6bsA?si=31f56fce3c8d48a6
What a divorce mediator wish you knew - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zeUIkV3O5LTQAHi0dXOGL?si=644698cb744647a8
π Links & Resources π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support)
π Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Police β 000 (immediate danger)
π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π The Divorce Course Podcast β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Find an Accredited FDRP (Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner):
Attorney-General's Department β https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/family-dispute-resolution
Free / Low-Cost Mediation Services:
- Relationships Australia β https://www.relationships.org.au
- Interrelate β https://www.interrelate.org.au
- CentreCare β https://centacare.com
Find a Family Law Accredited Specialist or Mediator:
- Queensland Law Society β https://www.qls.com.au
- Bar Association of Queensland β https://www.qldbar.asn.au
- (Or your state's equivalent Law Society / Bar Association)
The Divorce Course Free Webinar:
www.thedivorcecourse.com.au β click "Reserve My Seat"
Closing CTA If this episode helped you understand how to choose a mediator who'll actually work for you, please follow, rate, review, and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others heading into mediation can find this information too.
All our best,
Laura & Lyn
Your Guides By Your Side
Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You've been told "add-backs are dead" by your lawyer or your ex
- Your ex is wasting the property pool and you don't know how to stop it
- You've watched assets disappear since separation bank accounts, cars, super
- You're heading into mediation and need to know what to argue
- You want to understand what the Shinohara & Shinohara Case and Shamon & Sharon Case actually mean for your case
- You're worried about delay tactics while your ex quietly drains the joint money
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer
This podcast is general information only β it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded.
Episode Summary
You may have heard the rumour β "add-backs are dead." Lawyers are quoting it, ex-partners are using it as an excuse, and people are panicking that there's nothing they can do when the property pool is being drained. In this episode, Laura and Mum unpack what add-backs actually are, why people think they've disappeared, and what the courts are really doing about wastage now.
The short answer? Add-backs aren't on the balance sheet anymore but wastage is absolutely still considered. Thanks to Shinohara & Shinohara [2025], the courts have stopped putting "imaginary money" into the property pool. But thanks to Section 79(5)(d) of the Family Law Act and the case of Shamon & Shamon [2025], wastage now adjusts the percentage split of what's left β and in Shamon, that meant the wife walked away with nearly 100% of the property pool plus costs.
Mum walks through what counts as wastage (selling assets cheap, gambling, blowing money post-separation, gifting funds to a new partner), what doesn't (post-separation income spent on living, ordinary marital spending), and how to protect the property pool before your ex empties it. She also explains exactly what to consider saying if a lawyer or mediator quotes Shinohara at you including the section number, the case names, and the strategy that works.
If you suspect your ex is wasting money or stalling property settlement, this is the episode to listen to before you do anything else.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline
00:00 β Are Add-Backs Dead? The Property Pool Myth Going Around
01:00 β Legal Disclaimer & Australian Family Law Context
01:30 β What Is an Add-Back in Property Settlement?
03:15 β The Townsend Case: How Add-Backs Used to Work
04:25 β Property Pool vs Balance Sheet: What's the Difference?
05:25 β The 4 Steps of Property Settlement Explained
05:50 β Why People Think Add-Backs Are Dead: Shinohara Explained
07:15 β "Don't Put Pretend Money on the Balance Sheet"
07:55 β The Real Risk: Ex Spending Everything Before Settlement
08:45 β How Wastage Is Handled Now: Section 79(5)(d)
10:00 β Percentage Adjustments Instead of Balance Sheet Add-Backs
11:30 β The Shamon Case: Wife Got Nearly 100% Plus Costs
13:50 β What to Do If Your Ex Has Already Drained the Pool
14:30 β How to Protect the Property Pool: Caveats Explained
17:00 β Protecting Joint Bank Accounts and Cash
17:50 β Superannuation, Cars and Other Assets
19:50 β Arguing Wastage in Mediation (Not Court)
21:00 β How to Respectfully Tell Your Lawyer They're Wrong
24:30 β Free Webinar Reminder
24:40 β What to Write to Your Ex Before Settlement
26:25 β What Counts as Wastage: Kowaliw, Gambling & More
27:30 β Is Drinking and Drug Use Considered Wastage?
28:15 β Gifts to a New Partner: The Gollings & Scott Case
29:30 β Reckless Spending vs Ordinary Spending
30:15 β Bad Business Decisions Post-Separation
31:10 β So Are Add-Backs Dead? The Final Answer
32:30 β What Evidence You Need to Prove Wastage
33:50 β The Mechanism Has Changed, the Outcome Hasn't
34:25 β Your Toolkit: Section 79(5)(d) of the Family Law Act, Shamon, Townsend, Weir
35:30 β Why Acting Fast Matters in Financial Abuse
36:55 β Reviewer of the Month: Manal from Australia
38:30 β Final Thoughts: Wastage Rules
π§ Episodes Mentioned in This Episode
- Equalisation of Super: The Myth That Won't Die
https://youtu.be/YFkOnEsNybw?si=LAQd2SUq_YRVl9Ts
- The Gilded Cage: Delay Tactics in Property Settlement
https://youtu.be/cs6-jHDt-Qk?si=ufuSLLwVmasbQKsL
- Financial Abuse and Hidden Assets
https://youtu.be/D3-fV8C4gkM?si=JQMk6eqMXWUktsUf
π Links & Resources
π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 support)
π Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Police β 000 (immediate danger)
π The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π The Divorce Course Podcast β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
ποΈ Free Webinar β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (click "Reserve My Seat")
Cases Mentioned
- Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] β the case people are misreading https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html
- Shamon & Shamon [2025] β https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html
- Townsend & Townsend β the original add-back case (the taxi)
- Weir & Weir β the quarry / missing gravel case
- Kowaliw & Kowaliw [1981] β the trashed family home case
- Gollings & Scott β the engagement ring / post-separation income case
Legislation
- Family Law Act 1975 β Section 79(4), Section 79(5)(d) β https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html
- Family Law Act 1975 β Section 90SM (de facto equivalent)
If this episode helped you understand wastage and feel ready to push back when someone says "add-backs are dead," please follow, rate, review, and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others going through the same thing can find this information too.
All our best,
Laura & Lyn
Your Guides By Your Side
Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You want to understand if domestic violence can affect your property or parenting outcome * You've been told by a lawyer to "leave the family violence out" of your case * You're scared raising coercive control or domestic violence will backfire on you in mediation * You're confused by social media saying the courts ignore family violence * Your ex is still using coercive behaviour even after separation * You're heading into mediation or court and don't know how to bring it up
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, post-separation abuse, and the impact of these behaviours on children, which may be distressing for some listeners.
If you are unsafe or experiencing family violence, please reach out for support.
Support is available in Australia: π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π¨ In an emergency, call 000
This podcast provides general educational information about Australian family law only and is not legal advice. Laura is not a lawyer. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance tailored to your circumstances.
Episode Summary
Should you bring up coercive control and domestic violence in your family law case⦠or will it backfire?
If you've been online lately, you've probably seen wildly different opinions. Some people insist the courts ignore family violence completely. Others say the system is finally taking it seriously. And then there are the lawyers quietly telling clients to "just leave it out so we can settle." So who's right?
In this episode, Mum and I unpack how coercive control and domestic violence are actually treated in Australian family law right now and the recent appeal cases that show the courts are starting to listen. We walk through real 2023 and 2024 decisions including Burnell & Rockford, Lainhart & Elinson, Dejani & Dejani, and Sad & Raymond cases your lawyer may not have caught up with yet.
We talk about Section 4AB, Section 75, and Section 79 of the Family Law Act, why mediators sometimes forget you're still being coercively controlled while sitting across from your ex, and the very real "peace at any price" trap that costs people thousands in their settlement.
If you've been silenced, dismissed, or told it's not worth raising this episode is for you.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β Coercive Control & Domestic Violence in Family Court: Should You Raise It?
01:00 β Meet Laura & Lynette: Family Law Mum & Daughter Duo
02:00 β Trigger Warning & Legal Disclaimer (Australia & Overseas)
03:00 β Why Social Media Gets Coercive Control So Wrong
04:00 β Why Lawyers Tell Clients to Leave It Out (And Why It's Wrong)
05:00 β Judge Best's Powerful Speech: "Soften Your Gaze"
06:00 β Why Both Parents Having Issues Doesn't Mean Equal Blame
07:00 β Section 4AB: The Family Violence Definition That Changed Everything
09:00 β Why Courts Now MUST Consider Family Violence Allegations
10:00 β The Old Kennon Case vs The New Law: What Changed
11:00 β Choosing the Right Lawyer When Domestic Violence Is Involved
12:00 β "Don't Raise It Or You Won't Settle" β The Lawyer Myth
13:00 β When NOT to Mention Family Violence in Property Mediation
14:00 β The Smarter Way to Negotiate Coercive Control in Mediation
16:00 β Parenting Cases: Why You MUST Raise Family Violence
17:00 β Lainhart & Elinson 2023: The Appeal Case Every Mum Should Know
18:00 β Section 60CC: Safety of Children Now Comes First
19:00 β Why Parents Don't Tell Lawyers the Full Truth (And Why You Must)
20:00 β Coercive Control in Parenting Cases Explained
21:00 β Counselling Orders: When the Court Mistakes Lip Service for Change
23:00 β False Alienation Claims: The New Coercive Control Tactic
24:00 β 50/50 Is No Longer the Default β Here's What Replaced It
26:00 β Free Divorce Webinar With Lynette (Family Law Specialist)
27:00 β Property Settlement: How Domestic Violence Affects Your Percentage
28:00 β Kennon & Kennon: The Original Family Violence Property Case
30:00 β Dejani & Dejani: When a Child's Health Issue Was Hidden
32:00 β Burnell & Rockford 2024: Coercive Control in Property Settlement
34:00 β Financial Abuse and PIN Numbers: What the Court Decided
35:00 β Why You Need These Cases at Your Mediation
37:00 β How Lawyers Use Cases as Negotiation Leverage
38:00 β Section 79 & Notice of Risk: The Mediation Framework
40:00 β Adding Percentage in Mediation Without Saying Why
41:00 β Why You Must Disclose Family Violence in Parenting Negotiations
43:00 β Settlement vs Court: The 10 Questions You Should Ask Yourself
44:00 β Why Mediators Forget You're Still Being Controlled
45:00 β How to Prove Coercive Control: Affidavits That Stand Up
47:00 β The Biggest Mistake: Peace at Any Price Mentality
48:00 β Why Post-Separation Abuse Often Gets Worse
49:00 β Don't Compromise on Children β Stand Your Ground
50:00 β Final Thoughts: It's Their Shame, Not Yours
π§ Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. How to Put Coercive Control Into Writing for Court https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=-7tLxmBpVQb2dNOv
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Is It Family Violence? A Walk Through the Family Law Act https://youtu.be/YCddFx9cs_Y?si=DbJU6ePYSxDZFrEn
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Settling vs Going to Court: 10 Questions to Ask Yourself https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=pdg6wWbjMWttMH94
π Cases Mentioned (Take These to Your Lawyer) * Burnell & Rockford (2024) β Coercive control and financial abuse in property settlement https://austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC2F/2024/468.html * Lainhart & Elinson (2023) β Full Court appeal, Deputy Chief Justice McClelland β family violence in parenting https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2023/200.html * Dajani & Dajani [2025] FedCFamC1A 28 (26 February 2025) β Hidden health issues in children and the impact on contributions https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/28.html * Sayed & Rehmann [2025] FedCFamC1A 145 (21 August 2025) β Family violence and property contributions https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/145.html * Kennon & Kennon β The original family violence and property settlement case (Section 75)
π° Resources Mentioned Article: "Judge urges profession to soften your gaze when dealing with domestic and family violence" β QLS Proctor, 27 March 2024 (Federal Circuit & Family Court Judge Hannah Cara Best) https://www.qlsproctor.com.au/2026/03/judge-urges-profession-to-soften-your-gaze-when-dealing-with-dfv/
Family Law Act 1975 β Sections 4AB, 60CC, 75, 79 https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html
π Links & Resources * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 (24/7 family violence support) * Lifeline β 13 11 14 * Emergency β 000 * The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au * Free Webinar with Lynette (family law accredited specialist) β register at thedivorcecourse.com.au
If this episode helped you feel braver about raising coercive control and domestic violence in your family law matter, please follow, rate, review, and share the podcast it helps other people in coercively controlling situations find this information too. You are not alone, and you don't have to stay silent.
π§ Listen to this episode if:
- You're about to go through property settlement in divorce
- You're focused on the percentage but unsure what it actually means
- You're dealing with complex finances (trusts, companies, super, shares) or Simple Property Settlement
- You want to avoid making a financial mistake that costs you years
- You're wondering whether to take the house, cash, super or investments
βοΈ Legal Disclaimer & β οΈ Family Violence Trigger Warning
This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, and financial control, which may be distressing for some listeners.
If you are unsafe or need support: π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π¨ In an emergency, call 000
This podcast provides general educational information only and is not legal or financial advice. Please seek professional guidance tailored to your situation.
Most people going through property settlement are focused on one thingβ¦
π What percentage am I going to get?
But here's what most people don't realiseβ¦
Two people can walk away with the same 50/50 split and end up in completely different financial positions.
Because it's not just about the percentageβ¦ π it's about what that percentage actually looks like in your life.
In this episode, Mum and I sit down with financial planner Pedro Marin and break down the four key steps a financial planner takes during property settlement so you can avoid costly mistakes and actually set yourself up for your future.
We talk about everything from figuring out what's in your property pool, to deciding how to structure your settlement, to planning your future and finally, making sure everything is actually set up properly after the deal is done.
Because getting a settlement is one thingβ¦ π making it work for your life is another.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline
00:00 β Divorce Property Settlement: It's Not Just the Percentage 01:22 β Meet Financial Planner Pedro Marin 04:04 β Why Financial Planning Matters in Divorce 08:01 β Step 1: Mapping Your Property Pool in Divorce 10:46 β Trusts & Companies in Divorce Explained 12:46 β Step 2: How to Structure Your Property Settlement 15:41 β Cash vs Property vs Super vs Shares in Divorce 23:20 β Step 3: Planning Your Financial Future After Divorce 24:48 β Financial Advice Risks: What You Need to Know 25:32 β Setting Financial Goals After Separation 28:58 β When to Start Financial Planning in Divorce 32:41 β Using the Same Financial Planner as Your Ex 34:52 β Budgeting for Mediation & Property Settlement 37:30 β Step 4: Implementing Your Divorce Settlement 40:20 β Insurance, Risk & Protection After Divorce 43:49 β Wills, Estate Planning & Protecting Your Children 47:25 β Biggest Mistake: Emotional Decisions in Divorce 49:35 β How to Work With a Financial Planner (Pedro Marin) 51:19 β Final Takeaways & Legal Disclaimer
π§ Additional Episodes Mentioned
- Weapons of Tax Destruction https://youtu.be/tsDlMphLRWk?si=1Fbpw7XJy9jxCK20
- Living Arrangements: Should You Keep or Sell the House? https://youtu.be/wknV5CB90yY?si=HGwH5m1AtXba5k7G
π Links & Resources
- π Marin Wealth: https://marinwealth.com.au/
- π₯ Free Checklists: https://thedivorcecourse.com.au
- 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732
- Lifeline β 13 11 14
If this episode helped you think differently about your property settlement, make sure you follow, rate, review, and share the podcast β because someone else out there needs to hear this before they make a costly mistake.
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You're arguing over furniture or household items in divorce * Your ex has taken everything or won't give anything back * You've been told "you can't take anything if you leave" * You want to avoid wasting money on legal fees over small items * You're trying to work out what's actually fair vs worth fighting for
Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, and separation dynamics, which may be distressing for some listeners.
If you are unsafe, do not attempt to retrieve belongings alone.
This podcast provides general educational information only and is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance tailored to your circumstances.
What happens to all the "stuff" when you separate?
Everyone talks about the house, the bank accounts, and the kids⦠but no one really talks about the furniture, the appliances, the artwork and yes, even the toilet brush.
In this episode, Mum and I unpack what actually happens to household contents in a property settlement, and why these seemingly small things can end up causing some of the biggest fights.
We break down what the law really says (and what it doesn't say), whether it matters who paid for something, and why arguing over furniture can end up costing you far more in legal fees than the item is even worth.
We also walk through four practical ways to divide furniture based on your ex's personality type whether they're amicable, avoidant, high conflict, or controlling so you can sort it out without derailing your entire settlement.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β Furniture in Divorce: Common Myths You Need to Know
01:40 β Safety, Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Warning
02:36 β What the Law Says About Furniture in Divorce
03:03 β Who Owns Furniture After Separation?
07:02 β Divorce and Possession: Who Keeps What?
07:41 β Myth: Do You Lose Furniture If You Leave the House?
09:45 β Cost vs Value: Is Furniture Worth Fighting Over?
11:32 β Emotional Furniture Fights in Divorce Explained
13:58 β Amicable Divorce: The Two List Method (Simple Solution)
16:24 β Avoidant Ex: How to Pack, Send & Move Their Stuff
18:54 β Shed Disputes & When to Get Legal Advice
20:54 β Free Divorce Resources You Can Use
21:43 β When to Move Out During Divorce (Timing Matters)
22:41 β High Conflict Divorce: Should You Sell Everything?
24:50 β Valuing Furniture in Divorce Negotiations
27:55 β Biggest Mistakes People Make With Furniture
31:11 β Don't Let Furniture Ruin Your Property Settlement
34:03 β Mindset Shift: It's Not About the Stuff
35:30 β Fresh Start After Divorce: Letting Go
39:47 β Final Takeaways: Fairness & Moving Forward
π§ Additional Episodes Mentioned * What About Their Stuff and Belongings? (Referenced when discussing how to handle an ex leaving items behind or refusing to collect them) https://youtu.be/T_tQUbhBxbQ?si=kt1ChMF08dquxgkr
Links & Resources * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14
If this episode helped you rethink how to approach the "stuff" in your separation, make sure you follow, rate, review, and share the podcast so others can avoid getting stuck in the same fights.
π§ Listen to this episode if:
- You or your ex has a serious illness or disability
- You've been a carer during the relationship
- You have ongoing medical expenses
- You're worried about future financial support after separation
- You want to understand how courts assess health in property settlement
βοΈ Legal Disclaimer
This podcast is for educational purposes only and provides general information about Australian family law. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.
What happens in a property settlement when serious illness is part of the story?
In this episode, Mum (a family law specialist and family lawyer) and I unpack one of the most emotional and often misunderstood areas of family law: how health issues, illness, and medical needs may impact your property settlement percentage.
Because when you're going through separation, you're not just dividing assets⦠You're also dealing with uncertainty, fear, ongoing treatment, and the reality of what life will look like moving forward.
We talk about what happens if:
- you cared for a sick partner for years
- you are the one who is unwell
- there are ongoing medical expenses
- or even if someone has a life-limiting illness
We break down how the court looks at contributions vs future needs, why simply saying "I'm unwell" isn't enough, and how these factors can actually shift the percentages in your property settlement.
If illness has played a role in your relationship on either side this episode will help you understand how the law approaches it, and what it might mean for you.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline - Health and Divorce: How Illness May Affect Property Settlement Percentage
00:00 β Illness and Divorce: How Health Impacts Property Settlement
00:22 β Why Health Changes Everything in Divorce Outcomes
01:32 β Meet the Hosts & Divorce Episode Overview
01:57 β Real Story: Endometriosis and Divorce Costs
03:07 β Divorce Property Settlement Explained (Step-by-Step)
04:38 β Caring for a Sick Partner in Divorce: Does It Count?
07:43 β What If You're the Sick Partner in Divorce?
09:46 β Divorce and Spousal Maintenance: Your Options
11:37 β Life Expectancy & Divorce Future Needs Explained
15:47 β Medical Expenses, Kids & Divorce (NDIS Explained)
19:12 β Proving Medical Needs in Divorce Settlements
21:00 β Short-Term vs Long-Term Illness in Divorce
21:41 β Temporary vs Chronic Illness in Divorce Cases
23:34 β Open-Ended Spousal Maintenance in Divorce
24:46 β Remission, Recovery & Divorce Medical Evidence
27:43 β How to Prove Illness in Divorce Court
30:18 β Divorce Surveillance, Fraud Claims & Mental Health
32:48 β When Both Parties Are Sick in Divorce
33:34 β Financial Obligations After Divorce Separation
35:19 β Divorce Agreements: Risks You Need to Know
37:20 β Rapid Fire Divorce Questions About Illness
39:07 β Divorce Mediation Tips When Illness Is Involved
40:46 β The Emotional Reality of Illness in Divorce
42:15 β Final Thoughts: Advocating for Yourself in Divorce
π§ Episodes Mentioned in This Episode
1οΈβ£ Consent Orders vs Binding Financial Agreements - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5qgGhdAl5UaOo7LHb2Yf5Y?si=OFf8umvVQ7KAbzntw6AnVg
2οΈβ£ The Divorce Course (Program / Course Reference) www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
β οΈ Family Violence & Sensitive Content
This episode discusses illness, vulnerability, and complex family dynamics, which may be distressing for some listeners.
If you need support in Australia: π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π¨ In an emergency, call 000
βοΈ Legal Disclaimer
This podcast is for educational purposes only and provides general information about Australian family law. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.
If this episode helped you better understand how health can impact your divorce, please make sure to follow, rate, review, and share the podcast it helps others going through the same thing find this information too.
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You feel like your ex knows things they shouldn't * You suspect you're being tracked, monitored, or watched * You're going through separation and worried about digital safety * Your ex had access to your devices, passwords, or accounts * You want to protect yourself and your children from tech-based abuse
What if your ex knew where you wereβ¦ who you were talking toβ¦ and what you were saying β without you ever telling them?
In this episode, we're joined by Catherine Plunkett, Director of Safety Net Australia at WESNET, to unpack the growing reality of technology-facilitated abuse in relationships and after separation.
Because abuse doesn't always leave bruises.
Sometimes it looks like:
- your ex showing up where you are unexpectedly
- knowing things you never told them
- accessing your messages, accounts, or location
And increasingly, this is becoming one of the most common forms of domestic and family violence.
We break down what tech abuse actually is, how it happens, the warning signs to look for, and most importantly what you can do to protect yourself and your children.
If something doesn't feel right, this episode will help you understand what might be happening and what steps you can take next.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline - Is Your Ex Watching You? Tech Abuse in Divorce Explained 00:00 β Is Your Ex Spying on You? Hidden Tech Abuse Signs
01:35 β What Is Tech Abuse? How It Works in Relationships
05:10 β How Common Is Digital Abuse After Separation?
06:52 β Tracking Apps, Spyware & How People Monitor You
12:06 β Warning Signs Your Phone or Accounts Are Compromised
16:20 β What NOT to Do If You Suspect You're Being Watched
18:00 β Digital Safety Checks & Getting the Right Support
20:33 β Safe Phones, New Devices & Protecting Your Accounts
23:12 β That "Alarm Feeling": Trusting Your Instincts
24:11 β Smart Homes & Hidden Tracking Risks You Didn't Expect
26:31 β Cars, GPS & How Vehicles Can Track You
27:45 β Digital Safety Checklist: Steps You Can Take Today
30:47 β How Kids Can Be Used in Tech Monitoring
35:20 β AI, Deepfakes & The Future of Digital Abuse
38:39 β Where to Get Help for Tech Abuse
41:17 β Your Right to Privacy and Safe Communication
42:27 β What Safety Net Australia Does for Victims
44:19 β Final Thoughts, Support & Next Steps
π Links & Resources * Safety Net Australia β https://techsafety.org.au * eSafety Commissioner β https://www.esafety.gov.au * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline Australia β 13 11 14
β οΈ Family Violence Disclaimer This episode contains discussion of family violence and may be distressing for some listeners.
If you are experiencing domestic or family violence, support is available: π 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 π Lifeline β 13 11 14 π¨ In an emergency, call 000
βοΈ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is for educational purposes only and discusses general concepts. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You've been told to attend mediation but feel unsafe agreeing to child care arrangements * Your ex is pushing for 50/50 care and you don't believe it's appropriate for the kids * You're dealing with substance abuse, family violence, or safety concerns and your child's safety * You feel pressured to compromise at mediation when you don't want to * You want to understand your options without giving in on safety
Have you been told you need to go to mediation, but you're worried about the outcome because you simply cannot budge when it comes to your child's safety?
Has your ex demanded 50/50 care, but deep down you know that arrangement isn't in your child's best interests right now?
We talk about how to approach mediation when you feel stuck, how to clearly communicate your concerns, and the practical options that may be discussed including supervised time, stepped arrangements, and drug and alcohol testing.
If you're feeling pressured, overwhelmed, or unsure how to stand your ground, this episode will help you navigate mediation with clarity and confidence.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline -Refusing 50/50 Care? What to Do in Mediation When Your Child's Safety Comes First [00:00] β Mediation With Safety Fears
[02:33] β What Mediation Really Is
[05:40] β Holding The Safety Line Why you don't have to agree to unsafe arrangements just to reach an outcome.
[06:37] β Define The Real Risks How to clearly identify and communicate your specific safety concerns.
[09:27] β What Courts Call Unsafe Understanding how the court views risk and safety in parenting matters.
[10:33] β Supervised Time Options Exploring supervised contact as a way to maintain relationships safely.
[12:56] β Choosing Contact Centres How supervised contact works and what to consider when selecting a centre.
[16:34] β Cutting Contact And Court Optics What happens if time is stopped altogether and how it may be viewed legally.
[18:43] β Stepped Parenting Orders Using gradual increases in time to build safety and trust over time.
[21:26] β Therapy Conditions And Pitfalls When therapy is suggested, what to watch out for and potential risks.
[23:06] β Drug And Alcohol Testing How testing can be used to address concerns and create accountability.
[26:25] β Costs And Waitlists The practical realities of supervision services and delays.
[26:45] β Paying For Supervision Who pays for supervised time and how this is handled.
[27:28] β Preparing For Mediation How to go into mediation feeling clear, confident, and prepared.
[28:13] β When They Refuse Supervision What to do if the other parent won't agree to safe options.
[28:48] β Best Interests Not 50/50 Why equal time is not automatic and must reflect the child's needs.
[30:40] β Court View On Refusal How the court may interpret refusal to compromise or engage.
[33:27] β Holding Your Safety Line Practical ways to stay firm without escalating conflict.
[35:17] β If Mediation Hits Impasse What happens when no agreement is reached and what comes next.
[38:17] β Costs Threats Reality Check Addressing fear around legal costs and pressure tactics.
[39:07] β Using Mediation For Property How mediation can still be useful even if parenting isn't resolved.
[43:16] β Authenticity And Support Staying grounded, supported, and focused during a difficult process.
βοΈ Family Violence & Legal Disclaimer This episode contains discussion of family violence and may be distressing for some listeners.
If you are affected, please consider listening with support or contact: Lifeline (Australia): 13 11 14 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732
This podcast is for educational purposes only and discusses general concepts in Australian family law. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your specific circumstances.
π Helpful Resources * 1800 RESPECT β National Domestic Violence Support * Lifeline Australia β 13 11 14 * Relationships Australia (Supervised Contact Services) * Parenting communication apps: OurFamilyWizard, AppClose
π§ Recommended Episodes * Mediation: What It Is (and What It Isn't) https://youtu.be/YvcWAYuG4QA?si=hSiXFvVDaFDV4J6v * Understanding the Best Interests of the Child (Section 60CC) https://youtu.be/k4-QTbfW8XM?si=SDzN2cIzO4FtlMQu * Mediation Series: How to Prepare and What to Expect https://youtu.be/cmcFWXD2EBs?si=TqUcJvQzmd2MMNJc
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You are about to negotiate parenting orders or a parenting plan * Your coparent is high conflict, manipulative or controlling * You're worried they will twist agreements or exploit loopholes * You're preparing for mediation or family court for parenting orders * You want parenting orders that actually reduce future arguments
Family Violence & Legal Disclaimer This episode contains discussion of family conflict and family violence which may be distressing for some listeners.If you are experiencing family violence or feel unsafe, please contact 1800 RESPECT (Australia) or your local domestic violence support service.
This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Laura and Lynette are discussing general concepts in Australian family law. Every situation is different, and listeners should obtain independent professional guidance about their specific circumstances.
Episode Time Stamps: The Parenting Order Loopholes Your Ex Will Exploit (And How to Close Them)
00:00 High Conflict Co Parenting
01:59 Why Orders Need Clarity
05:10 Changing Orders Is Hard
07:03 Loophole 1 Communication Rules
11:53 Loophole 2 Last Minute Changes
14:12 Loophole 3 Handover Boundaries
20:14 Loophole 4 Extracurricular Conflicts
26:30 Loophole 5 Stop Trash Talking
28:04 High School Choice Traps
29:39 Private School Fee Fights
31:14 School Updates and Access
32:07 Kids Phones and Screen Rules
35:50 Passports and Travel Clauses
40:06 Medical Decisions and Info
44:34 Emergency Contact Requirements
46:27 Rosters Holidays and Ambiguity
50:07 Think About What Ifs
51:12 Wrap Up and Disclaimers
Helpful Resources * Lifeline (Australia): 13 11 14 * 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 * Family Court of Australia resources on parenting arrangements * Parenting communication apps: OurFamilyWizard, AppClose, Talking Parents
Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. 12 Agreements to Include in Parenting Plans Referenced when discussing the main structure of parenting agreements before talking about loopholes. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6j325rOj96QvV8spPnYsX5?si=td4XlKQZSr6CXfCSm9H_bA
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Handover Hell Mentioned during the discussion about pick-up and drop-off conflicts and handover disputes. https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=guIkwi1ITJuTOnshvpP9VA
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Trash Talking Referenced when discussing parents speaking negatively about the other parent around the children.https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=nEH3splzQxSTBOUikJJHhA
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Interstate Travel With Children After Separation Mentioned during the travel and passport boundary discussion. https://open.spotify.com/episode/0auxUUS6QSh0ILcGHXbQgk?si=CmhYz74pSquyhTI2dgRMbQ
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Tech Facilitated Abuse Referenced during the children's phones, devices and monitoring discussion. COMING SOON
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Sole Parental Responsibility Suggested for listeners who want to understand decision-making authority around medical or school issues. https://open.spotify.com/episode/2O0VczmgtAPUrvcgJiF8HP?si=BM0nanlwTP6k67SMF8yg4g
Summary
Many parents believe that once parenting orders are made, the conflict will finally stop.
But the reality is court orders don't magically change behaviour.
If you are dealing with a high-conflict, manipulative, controlling or avoidant ex, poorly written parenting orders can become a playground for loopholes, misunderstandings and ongoing arguments.
In this episode of the Divorce Course Podcast, Laura and Lynette break down the most common loopholes people exploit in parenting orders and the practical boundaries you may want to think about before signing anything.
Because while parenting orders can't eliminate conflict entirely, clear boundaries can prevent many of the arguments before they even start.
You'll learn how to think about communication, handovers, school decisions, travel rules, technology, medical issues and more all through the lens of preventing future conflict.
π§ Listen to this episode if: * You are separated but still living under the same roof as your ex * You feel stuck in the house and don't know how to move forward * You want to know what an ouster order is * You want to understand sole occupancy * Someone told you if you leave the house you will lose your rights to it * You want to understand what you can legally do to create space after separation * Your ex refuses to move out and you don't know what your options are * You're wondering whether you can make your ex leave the house * You're dealing with a manipulative, avoidant, high-conflict, or coercive control type ex * You want to learn about trial separations, nesting, temporary arrangements, and sole occupancy orders You're worried about how staying under one roof is affecting you or your children * You want practical strategies to move forward without damaging your property settlement
βοΈ Legal & Safety Disclaimer This podcast provides general educational information only and is based primarily on Australian family law. It is not legal advice and should not replace advice from a qualified legal professional. Always seek independent legal advice specific to your circumstances.
This episode also discusses family violence and coercive control, which may be distressing. If you feel unsafe or need support in Australia, contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline (13 11 14), or call 000 in an emergency.
When a relationship breaks down, most people focus on the big things: the kids, the property settlement, and the future. But one of the most suffocating parts of separation is often the very first step β how do you stop living under the same roof as your ex?
If you're walking on eggshells at home, wondering whether you can leave, whether you'll lose your rights to the house, or whether you can legally make your ex move out, you're not alone. These questions come up for almost everyone navigating separation.
In this episode, Mum and I break down five realistic ways to create space after separation without damaging your property settlement. We talk about what you can legally do, what you absolutely shouldn't do, and the myths that keep so many people stuck living under one roof for far longer than they need to.
[00:00] β The Fear of Being Stuck in the House During Separation Why the family home becomes one of the biggest emotional pressure points in divorce, and why living under one roof with your ex can feel suffocating for you and your children.
[02:43] β What You Should NEVER Do During Separation Why throwing belongings outside, changing locks, cutting utilities, or intimidating your ex can backfire legally and even be considered family violence.
[04:44] β Divorce Myth: Do You Lose Your Rights If You Leave the House? Debunking one of the most damaging divorce myths that keeps people trapped in toxic living situations during property settlement.
[06:05] β Five Ways to Create Space After Separation An overview of the five realistic strategies couples use to stop living under one roof during divorce.
[07:45] β Option 1: Simply Asking Your Ex to Move Out When a calm, respectful conversation about separation can actually work and how to confirm agreements without escalating conflict.
[09:58] β Option 2: Creating a Temporary Living Arrangement How structured temporary agreements can help one partner move out while property settlement negotiations continue.
[13:16] β Option 3: Nesting or House Swapping for the Kids What "bird nesting" is, why some divorced parents try it, and the emotional and logistical challenges that often arise.
[18:47] β Option 4: The Trial Move-Out Strategy How trial separations can reduce confrontation and why temporary moves often become permanent.
[20:23] β Trial Separation Tactics That Reduce Conflict Why trial separations can help avoid high-conflict confrontations, especially with manipulative or controlling partners.
[21:06] β Why Many Partners Don't See Divorce Coming Why some people emotionally check out of relationships long before the separation conversation happens.
[22:47] β The Risk of Control and Financial Backlash After Separation How manipulative or controlling partners may react when separation becomes real.
[24:04] β Coercive Control and the 'Amnesia' Effect How distance from a controlling relationship can help you recognise patterns of manipulation you couldn't see before.
[25:40] β Ouster Orders and Sole Occupancy Explained When courts can legally order one spouse to leave the home during separation.
[27:59] β The Risks of Applying for Sole Occupancy Orders Why asking the court to decide who stays in the house can sometimes backfire.
[29:55] β Domestic Violence Orders Without Leaving the House How protection orders can sometimes be issued even when couples continue living under one roof.
[32:54] β Safety Planning and Support Resources Why separation can be a high-risk time and the importance of having a safety plan in place.
[34:12] β Common Divorce Myths That Keep People Stuck Debunking misinformation about living under one roof, property rights, and separation timelines.
[35:42] β Why Physical Space Makes Divorce Negotiations Easier How creating distance can improve mediation outcomes and reduce emotional conflict.
[37:41] β Final Takeaways: Moving Forward After Separation Why creating physical and emotional space is often the first step toward starting your new life after divorce.
Episodes Mentioned in This Episode "I Really Want to Keep the House" https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=t9q2a8TRRS-x7FAWEfBS9g
"Five Out-of-the-Box Ideas to Keep the House in Property Settlement"https://open.spotify.com/episode/5RgIsTMGh7EBqqbAgIVQ5Y?si=CRxIPgc-Sm6gRvin285Q_A
"The Divorce Personality Types Quiz Episode" https://open.spotify.com/episode/4IPDOWvfPKsSrPaCvf7Se8?si=7LfUwX6OSa-ym_OOujCt5Q
"How to Create a Safety Plan" https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMmTS99LaeUWOXSxKMx1D?si=Oh5NMylQRs2HWuVFDT6szg
Support Services (Australia)
- 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 National domestic, family and sexual violence support service.
- Lifeline β 13 11 14 24-hour crisis support and suicide prevention service.
- Emergency Services β Call 000 if you are in immediate danger.
π§ Listen to this episode if: You're unsure whether what you experienced was abuse You've heard the term "coercive control" but don't fully understand it You feel confused, guilty or constantly off balance in your relationship Negotiations during separation feel manipulative rather than constructive You're worried about how coercive control affects children You want clarity and validation around your experience This episode discusses family violence and may be triggering for some listeners. If you need support, please reach out to 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline (13 11 14). This discussion is general education only and not psychological or legal advice. β±οΈ Episode Timeline: When It's Not Just Conflict: How Coercive Control Shows Up in Divorce [00:00] β Is This Normal Conflict or Something More? [01:45] β Safety Disclaimer & Family Violence Support Services [02:35] β Why Naming Coercive Control Matters [03:35] β What Coercive Control Actually Is (Simple Definition) [04:32] β Patterns, Not Incidents: Why Abuse Isn't Always Obvious Why domestic violence is no longer viewed as isolated incidents but as ongoing patterns of behaviour that create harm over time. [05:35] β No Bruises, Still Harm: Emotional & Psychological Abuse Explained How gaslighting, micromanagement, silent treatment and financial control cause real psychological damage without visible injuries. [07:13] β How Do You Explain Coercive Control to Others? [10:03] β The Three D's: Disrespect, Disempowerment & Distortion A practical framework to identify coercive control behaviours in relationships and divorce negotiations. [11:09] β Disempowerment: Fear, Micromanagement & Loss of Autonomy How controlling partners create dependency, intimidation and fear of consequences β even without physical violence. [12:11] β Post-Separation Control: When Abuse Continues After Divorce Why coercive control often escalates during separation, mediation and family court proceedings. [13:59] β Disrespect & Double Standards in Abusive Relationships [16:27] β Distortion & Gaslighting: Rewriting Reality [18:48] β Narcissism vs Coercive Control: What's the Difference? Understanding the overlap between narcissistic traits and coercive control in emotionally abusive relationships. [20:09] β Seeing the Whole Pattern (Not Just One Argument) Why focusing on single incidents hides the broader pattern of domination and manipulation. [21:56] β How Coercive Control Impacts Children Why children are not just witnesses but victims in coercively controlled households β including hypervigilance and emotional harm. [24:22] β Protecting Children in Family Court How concerns about coercive control can be reframed as "alienation" β and why understanding legal narratives matters. [25:34] β One Safe Parent: The Protective Buffer for Kids [26:15] β Why It's So Hard to Leave an Abusive Relationship Financial dependence, fear, threats, trauma bonding and loss of autonomy explained. [27:56] β The Power Myth: Why Abusers Seem So Smart and Untouchable [28:54] β Trauma Bonding Explained The cycle of highs and lows that keeps people emotionally attached in abusive dynamics. [30:01] β Court Fears & Post-Separation Abuse Why people fear family court when coercive control continues through legal processes. [31:03] β Negotiation vs Control: The Simple Test How to tell the difference between genuine divorce negotiation and manipulation disguised as cooperation. [33:05] β The Three D's in Legal Tactics [34:15] β Legal Examples: Silent Treatment, Rigid Demands & Pressure Tactics Recognising micromanagement, unreasonable timelines, and threats dressed up as "legal process." [38:04] β Using Children to Maintain Control After Separation Excessive updates, micromanaging parenting decisions, and control disguised as "concern." [44:25] β Hold Onto Clarity: Documenting Patterns of Abuse Why writing things down helps counter gaslighting and protects your psychological stability during divorce. [46:37] β Legal Narratives & Gatekeeping in Court How coercive control can be minimised or reframed in legal settings β and why showing patterns matters. [48:12] β Hope, Support & Life After Coercive Control side. [49:06] β Workshop Resources & Next Steps π Resources Mentioned 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 Lifeline β 13 11 14 https://kirovapsychology.com.au/ (Melbourne workshops & resources) Previous episodes on: Mediation vs Manipulation https://youtu.be/cmcFWXD2EBs?si=LOOTB_BwYJIQSmn9 Legal Abuse: https://youtu.be/h2Pu2MmbDxw?si=-HiUdJAfdvoMK8fL Alienation Allegations: https://youtu.be/g8ofj-Sp3n4?si=_0tX3XSweEMzYp6o Safety Planning https://youtu.be/R4M8Hr9cbh0?si=0XyklWL2VMwx_cmN
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
β Your ex's parents or extended family are texting, pressuring or negotiating on their behalf β Grandparents are demanding time with your children β You're being accused of owing money that was supposedly a "gift" β You're dealing with coercive control through third parties β You feel like you're negotiating with an entire extended family β You're unsure what you legally have to respond to β Your mediation agreements change after your ex speaks to their family β You want clear boundaries and practical guidance during separation
If you are going through separation or divorce and suddenly your ex's family has become involved, this episode will help you understand what your responsibility actually is and where it ends.
In this conversation, Mum and I unpack what you legally have to respond to, what you can ignore, and how to protect your peace when outside pressure starts escalating conflict. We talk about grandparents family members negotiating property settlement, so-called "loans" during property disputes, mediation interference, coercive control via in-laws, and how to set boundaries without damaging your credibility.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, ganged up on, or unsure how to manage extended family pressure this episode is your permission slip to protect yourself.
Legal Disclaimer:This episode contains general educational discussion only and is not legal advice. We are based in Australia and laws differ between countries. Always seek independent legal advice tailored to your personal circumstances before making decisions.
Family Violence & Safety Trigger Warning Disclaimer This episode includes discussion of family violence, coercive control and high-conflict dynamics.If you are experiencing family violence, intimidation, harassment or feel unsafe at any time, please seek support immediately.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline for When In-Laws Interfere in Your Divorce (What You Have to Respond To)
00:00 β Introduction: When Your Ex's Family Gets Involved What happens when parents, siblings or extended family step into your separation?
02:05 β How Family Dynamics Shift After Separation Why "blood is thicker than water" can suddenly feel very real.
05:35 β Do You Have to Respond to In-Laws Negotiating on Your Ex's Behalf? What you can ignore, what to document, and how to protect yourself.
08:10 β Grandparents' Rights Explained (Australia) When grandparents can see children and what your responsibility actually is.
14:15 β Gifts vs Loans in Property Settlement When a $100,000 "gift" suddenly becomes a claimed debt.
19:50 β Can Grandparents Demand Time If Your Ex Isn't Seeing the Kids? Understanding the best interests of the children and practical considerations.
24:20 β Family Members Pressuring or Manipulating Children How courts view this behaviour and what you can do.
27:10 β Divorce Mediation Agreements Changing After Family Influence Why outside pressure can derail settlements and how to manage it.
30:30 β Boundaries With Your Own Family During Divorce How to handle well-meaning but unhelpful advice and pressure.
31:45 β What You Can Control vs What You Can't Practical mindset shifts to protect your peace.
35:45 β "It's Not About Them" Why your focus must remain on you, your children, and your divorce case.
π Links & Resources
β DIY Divorce Blueprint β Courses & Support www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
β 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732
β Lifeline β 13 11 14
Related Episodes:
β Trash Talking β What To Do When Your Ex Badmouths You β 10 Boundaries for a Healthy Divorce β How to Create a Safety Plan β Dealing With Narc Lies in Court β When Your Ex Lies in Court
Closing Reminder
Divorce is hard enough without feeling like you're negotiating with an entire extended family.If this episode helped you feel clearer, calmer or more confident about setting boundaries during separation, please follow, rate and review the podcast. Your support helps more women find grounded, practical information when they need it most.And remember you are not responsible for managing everyone else's emotions.This is not about them.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You feel overwhelmed and don't know what the steps of the divorce process are
- You're separated (or thinking about separating) and want clarity on what happens next
- You're stuck in negotiations or dealing with a stonewalling, avoidant or controlling ex
- You want to understand mediation, arbitration, court filings, interim hearings and trials
- You're self-represented and need a clear, realistic roadmap of the family law process
- You want to feel calmer, in control, and informed about the journey ahead
- You're already in the court system and want to know what the upcoming stages really mean
- You want to avoid panic, surprises and fear of the unknown
If you're going through separation, divorce or a parenting/property dispute in Australia, this episode will walk you through every major step in the family law process from the moment of separation all the way to a final hearing.
No jargon. No fear. No overwhelm. Just a clear explanation of what you may face and how long things typically take.
We break down how to negotiate, when mediation works (and why it fails), what arbitration actually is, how to use deadlines and case law to manage a difficult ex, when court becomes necessary, what happens at each court stage, and how to avoid getting stuck for months or years.
Whether you're at the very beginning or already halfway through, this roadmap will help you feel grounded and prepared.
π LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This episode is general education only β not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice for your specific situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β Divorce Roadmap Overview: What to Expect From Separation to Trial A complete explanation of the stages ahead and why understanding the process matters.
00:38 β Meet the Hosts + Education-Only Disclaimer Why we give information, not advice β and how to use the episode wisely.
01:59 β Why Your Separation Date Matters (Especially Under One Roof) How timelines, contributions, and financial outcomes are affected.
03:45 β DIY Negotiations: Why a 'Signed Paper' Isn't Enough The trap so many people fall into β and how it can cost you later.
05:28 β Consent Orders & Financial Agreements Explained What makes an agreement legally binding and what the court checks for.
06:59 β Parenting vs Property Mediation: How They Work & How to Prepare Why combining both in one day often backfires.
10:55 β After Mediation Fails: Arbitration, Offers & Partial Agreements How to keep momentum instead of getting stuck.
13:28 β Stonewalling & Delay Tactics: Deadlines, Notice to File & Case Law Strategies to shift an avoidant or controlling ex.
19:03 β Filing in Court: What Documents You Need & What They Mean Affidavits, financial statements, notices of risk and more.
20:47 β Should You File Parenting & Property Together? The advantages and pitfalls.
22:03 β Using Court Filings as Negotiation Leverage Why an initiating application often triggers settlement.
23:11 β First Court Event Explained (It's Not a Trial!) What registrars do, what decisions they can make, and what they can't.
23:43 β PPP500 & Evatt List: What These Court Pathways Mean for You Faster lists for smaller pools and family violence matters.
25:52 β Interim Hearings: Urgent Parenting & Property Issues When the court steps in early.
28:02 β Court-Ordered Mediation: Reality Checks & Settlement Pressure The moment many cases resolve.
31:35 β Readiness Hearing: Preparing for Trial Final directions, valuations, and evidence.
33:11 β Final Trial: What Actually Happens in the Courtroom Cross-examination, timelines, outcomes and appeals.
36:37 β Big Picture Strategy: Stay Focused on Your Stage Why thinking too far ahead causes overwhelm.
40:09 β Costs Orders & Legal Abuse The consequences for bad behaviour in litigation.
41:58 β Wrap-Up: Tell It to the Judge + Course Info & Outro
π Links & Resources β¨The Course: https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol β¨ Courses & Free Support Resources: www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π Support Services 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 Lifeline β 13 11 14
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You feel stuck and unable to move forward after separating
- You're separated under one roof and nothing is changing
- Your stuck deciding whether to go to court next or just give up
- You're overwhelmed by the emotional load and decision fatigue
- You don't know whether to start with the house, the money, the kids or the legal steps
- You're waiting for the "right time" but it never seems to come
- You want clarity about why you feel frozen and what to do next
- You're scared of making a mistake or starting conflict
- You want a practical, compassionate explanation of why early separation feels like quicksand
- You need reassurance that you're not failing you're human
PLEASE note Lyn's audio file at the end of the episode was lost so we have cobbled together what we had to finish the episode as we know so many of you listen each week so, sorry no embroidered cushion this week. Hopefully the tech will behave itself next week for you all.
Trigger warning there are discussions of Family Violence & Coercive Control.
Legal Warning: this is not legal advice
π Episode Summary: Separatedβ¦ but Stuck? The Chicken & Egg Problem Keeping You in Divorce Limbo
If you've ever felt like you're separated butβ¦ nothing is moving, you're not alone. In this powerful episode, Laura and Lyn unpack the "Chicken & Egg Problem" of early divorce β that confusing, exhausting stage where every decision feels dependent on another decision, and you don't know which one you're meant to make first.
Should you move out? Should you get legal help? Should you talk to the bank? Should you wait for your ex? Should you apply for parenting arrangements? Should you start disclosure? Should you sell the house? Should you stay for the kids?
Everything feels tangled, and you feel frozen.
We break down why this paralysis happens, why it's normal, and how small, strategic steps can help you get out of emotional and practical limbo. You'll hear examples from real separations, insights about overwhelm and avoidance, and the surprising reasons so many women stay "stuck" for months β or even years.
This episode is your permission slip to take one small step, feel less afraid, and finally understand why your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do.
This episode contains general separation discussion, not legal advice.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β Why Early Separation Feels Impossible: The Chicken & Egg Problem
01:05 β What Keeps Women Stuck in Divorce Limbo
02:28 β Emotional Overload, Fear & Decision Paralysis
04:50 β Separated Under One Roof: Why Nothing Changes
07:14 β "Where Do I Start?" Understanding the Overwhelm
10:40 β The Pressure to Have a Full Plan Before Taking Action
12:33 β Money Fear, Housing Fear & Losing Stability
15:55 β Why Conflict Avoidance Keeps You Frozen
17:48 β Waiting for the Perfect Moment (And Why It Won't Come)
20:22 β How to Take One Small Step Without Starting a War
23:15 β Using Information to Reduce Fear and Panic
26:44 β What You Can Control vs What You Can't
29:30 β Making Progress Even When You're Not Ready
32:01 β Reassurance for Anyone Feeling Stuck
35:14 β Final Encouragement: You Don't Have to Solve Everything Today
π Links & Resources β¨ Download the FREE Divorce Personality Quiz Printable π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/quiz
β¨ Join the Newsletter for Bonus Divorce Strategy Tools (We only send practical, supportive content β no fluff.)
www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
β¨ Safety & Support Resources 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 Lifeline β 13 11 14
If this episode helped you feel seen, understood, or just a little less stuck, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Sharing this episode might give another woman the clarity she desperately needs.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You're confused about why your divorce feels so hard
- You're not sure how to communicate or negotiate with your ex
- You suspect you're dealing with avoidance, conflict, or control or you are a people pleaser.
- You're tired of being blindsided and want clarity
- You want a divorce strategy that matches the actual dynamic you're in
- You want a downloadable, printable version of the quiz
- You love practical tools that help you feel calm, informed, and back in control
- You want to take the quiz and finally understand your ex's divorce behaviour
Trigger warning there are discussions of Family Violence & Coercive Control.
Legal Warning: this is not legal advice
π Episode Summary
In this episode, Laura and Lyn guide you through the 20-question Divorce Personality Quiz, designed to help you identify the divorce pattern you're dealing with
Your divorce type affects:
- your communication strategy
- your negotiation style
- whether mediation will work
- how to set boundaries
- what evidence you need
- how to emotionally protect yourself
- whether safety planning is appropriate
You'll take the quiz with us live inside the episode and learn what each answer (A, B, C, or D) reveals about your ex's behaviour. This insight can transform your divorce experience by helping you understand what's really happening and why your current approach may or may not be working.
And if you want the free downloadable PDF of the quiz, a printable results sheet, and access to our bonus email guide "How to Strategise Based on Your Divorce Type", head to:
π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (Join the newsletter and we'll send the printable straight to your inbox.)
This episode includes general behavioural discussion, not legal advice.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 Introduction: What Divorce Type Are You Dealing With?
00:36 Why Identifying Your Divorce Type Matters for Your Strategy
00:58 Overview of the Four Divorce Types: Amicable, Avoidant, High-Conflict & Controlling
01:14 How to Take the Divorce Personality Quiz
01:39 Meet Your Hosts and Episode Overview
02:11 Understanding Divorce Personality Types & Behaviour Patterns
03:15 Divorce Quiz Part 1: Decision-Making, Conflict & Communication
05:51 What Your Answers Mean: Interpreting the First Quiz Results
09:40 Divorce Quiz Part 2: Boundaries, Money Issues & Emotional Safety
19:05 Divorce Quiz Part 3: Rules, Power Imbalances & Information Control
25:23 Final Divorce Quiz Questions + Strategy Insights
30:08 Recognising Manipulative or Controlling Divorce Dynamics
31:41 How to Identify Your Divorce Type From Your Quiz Results
32:30 Amicable Divorce: Strengths, Risks & When It Fails
35:14 Avoidant Ex Partners: Why Progress Feels Impossible
38:23 High-Conflict Divorce Explained: Escalation, Triggers & Survival Strategies
41:16 Controlling or Coercive Ex Partners: Red Flags & Safety Considerations
44:40 How to Create a Safety Plan During Divorce
48:20 Helpful Resources, Support Services & Next Steps
52:49 Final Thoughts: Matching Your Strategy to Your Ex's Behaviour
π Links & Resources β¨ Download the FREE Divorce Personality Quiz Printable π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/quiz
β¨ Join the Newsletter for Bonus Divorce Strategy Tools (We only send practical, supportive content )
β¨ Safety & Support Resources 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 Lifeline β 13 11 14
Episodes Mentioned 10 Boundaries You Should Set Up Before Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=Eb_uqTJnSbS2Vtyz80tBmQ
The Purple Book Episode (Coercive Control & Abuse Patterns)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=WJ7wQy9mTmKYhd2sTPiO0g
The Original "Divorce Personality Types" Episode
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1X89h1IBOUa0QFxiICIuwo?si=neoemW5URuubT8VYaGjlPw
If this episode helped you finally understand the behaviour you've been dealing with, please follow, rate and review the podcast. And don't forget to grab your FREE quiz download it's one of the most powerful tools to help you navigate your divorce with clarity and confidence.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * You're worried your custody or property case might end up eventually in court. * You are preparing for Family Court or worried your case might escalate * You want to avoid mistakes that judges hate seeing in parenting or property matters * You're dealing with a high-conflict ex or coercive control * You're self-represented and want to understand what the court looks for * You want to protect your credibility and stay child-focused * You feel overwhelmed and want to understand how to present better in court * You want to understand how Family Court judges make decisions
If you're going through separation, divorce, or a parenting dispute in Australia, this episode will help you avoid the most common mistakes people make in the Family Court. These insights can make or break your credibility, influence parenting outcomes, and help you stay calm and strategic throughout the legal process.
In this episode, we unpack 10 behaviours that can ruin your case β the things that damage cases, frustrate judges, increase legal costs, and affect how your evidence is viewed. Whether you're self-represented, considering mediation, managing a high-conflict ex, or worried about how your actions may be interpreted, this conversation will give you clarity on what the court expects from parents.
Learn how to stay child-focused, how to avoid actions that look like parental alienation, how to communicate effectively, how to avoid sabotaging your own case, and why honesty, disclosure, and consistency matter so much. If you're feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or stuck in conflict, this episode offers guidance to help you stay grounded and organised.
LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This episode contains general discussion only this is not legal advice please always get independent legal advice as each situation is different.
Trigger Warning: This episode has some discussions of family violence.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β Introduction: How to Avoid Mistakes That Hurt Your Family Court Case Overview of the most common behaviours that weaken parenting and property cases.
02:07 β Why Judges Prioritise Child-Focused Parenting in Family Court Understanding how child welfare drives decisions and how to demonstrate it clearly.
06:36 β Keeping Emotions Out of Family Court: What Judges Look For Why emotional reactions, venting and accusations can damage your credibility.
13:26 β Presenting Evidence Properly: What Counts in Family Court How to gather, organise and present evidence that the court will actually rely on.
16:59 β The Serious Consequences of Lying or Exaggerating in Court How dishonesty can destroy your case and impact parenting or property outcomes.
21:27 β Disclosure Rules in Property Settlement: What You MUST Provide Explaining financial disclosure obligations and what happens if you don't comply.
25:26 β Following Court Orders and Deadlines: Why Timing Matters How delays, missed tasks or ignoring directions reflect poorly on your case.
25:58 β Understanding Family Court Practice Directions (CPD Requirements) What the Central Practice Direction means for your behaviour and preparation.
28:40 β Narrowing the Issues Before Court: What Judges Expect You to Do Why bringing every problem to court backfires and how to refine your case.
33:19 β Avoiding Behaviour That Looks Like Parental Alienation How to protect your children and yourself without appearing to obstruct the other parent.
39:43 β Acting Reasonably in Family Court: How It Influences Outcomes Examples of unreasonable behaviour and why judges pay close attention to it.
42:03 β Courtroom Etiquette, Presentation and Final Takeaways How to conduct yourself, communicate effectively, and stay credible throughout your case.
π Links & Resources * Free Webinar https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration * The Divorce Course Website β Courses & Support www.thedivorcecourse.com.au * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14
Dealing with Narc Lies in court
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=P-fwZYVSQxO7JnVs5yYJdw
When your ex lies in court https://open.spotify.com/episode/2OpAGxXfx78iAO81TMPPxJ?si=wcN-tRFdSaSjGLU51fmV7w
Overcoming disclosure delays
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=PI-J7YtGTb6pFRKGa7KjdA
Disclosure Deadlocks
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yrShRhq4jcGVuVDN6Jq6C?si=ZFmAHXmAT1-JS0neHjsDHQ
Is your ex hiding assets
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KbgLRFXB9r2rCz3vycZ98?si=nKf11LeYS_66Uzn003Ydug
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
False Accusations of Parental Alienation
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=jNYKY5cBTCatIXZpEHXisQ
Handover Hell
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=UrHDcaRBTwuKpnVmWty-qA
Family Reports
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4k2Z4glD8WpY4dsqz6vn5Y?si=MMj_I2N5RlaT_5flBfZjMQ
Court Etiquette
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JOwxZOGxT182UOp8iqd8z?si=8ib6y9qLRvuD5n8AO4y46w
π Closing Reminder If this episode helped you feel more prepared or confident, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Your support helps more women find clear, supportive information during their divorce or separation.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * You're going through DV, coercive control, divorce or separation * You've survived DV and want to help other women going through it * You feel alone, isolated, or unsure where to turn * You want to hear about real support available for women in crisis * You've lost hope and need to know good people still exist * You want to understand what homelessness really looks like for women * You want to connect with a service that listens without judgment * You've wondered where to get help if you don't know where to start
π Episode Summary If you've ever felt invisible, silenced, or completely alone while living through domestic violence, coercive control, separation, or divorce this episode is for you.
Today, Laura sits down with Jo West, the founder of 4 Voices, a remarkable charity supporting women experiencing domestic violence, financial abuse, homelessness, social isolation, and coercive control. This episode is different from our usual legal conversations it's a conversation about hope, humanity, and the power of connection when someone is going through hell and doesn't know where to turn.
Jo shares the reality of what women face when they're living in fear, why so many are afraid to reach out, and how simple acts of kindness like someone showing up, listening, and seeing you can genuinely change the course of a woman's life.
If you're struggling right now, this episode will remind you of something important: There are helpers. You are not alone. And there is support waiting for you.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains general discussion about domestic violence and support, not legal information.
Finding Hope Again: The Charity Giving Women a Voice during DV, Coercive Control & Divorce
β±οΈ Episode Timeline [00:00] Meet Four Voices: A Support Service for Women Facing DV & Crisis [01:00] Why Women Experiencing Coercive Control Often Feel Too Afraid to Reach Out [02:06] Hidden Homelessness: The Reality for Women Leaving Unsafe Homes [03:41] How Four Voices Uses Human Connection to Support Isolated Women [07:00] What Happens on a Four Voices Support Van Shift [09:04] A Story of Strength: One Woman Starting Over After 25 Years of Abuse [12:33] Financial Abuse, Survival Mode & Why Leaving Is So Hard [14:00] Why Some Women Get Turned Away From Services [16:57] A Phone-Based Support System Designed for Women Who Are Scared to Talk [18:55] Check-Ins, Consistency & Why They Matter for Recovery [20:40] How You Can Help: Volunteering, Corporate Support & Raising Awareness [23:50] Understanding the Hidden Crisis of Female Homelessness [27:23] Misconceptions About DV, Leaving, and Life After Abuse [30:41] Hope Stories: Courage, Connection & What Keeps Jo Going [33:30] Final Message for Anyone Feeling Alone or Hopeless
π Links & Resources * Four Voices Charity: https://www.4voices.org.au * Instagram: @4voicesau * 1800RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14 * If in danger, call 000 immediately in Australia
π¨ Support Services (Australia) * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14 * Safe Beds for Pets (RSPCA)
π Closing Reminder If this conversation brought you comfort or hope, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Sharing this episode could help another woman find the support she desperately needs.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * You're selling the family home during divorce or de facto separation * A real estate agent has told you to renovate or stage before selling * Your ex wants to delay settlement until renovations are finished * You're stuck with a half-renovated or unfinished house * You've already spent money on renovations and want to know if it "counts" * Your ex is demanding reimbursement for renovations * Parents or in-laws contributed money to renovations * You're deciding whether to keep the house, sell it, or buy your ex out * Renovations feel emotionally or financially overwhelming right now
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation.
π Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.
π Episode Summary Should you renovate or stage the house when you're going through divorce or is it a costly mistake that keeps you stuck longer than you need to be?
In this episode, Mum and I break down renovations, staging, and selling the family home during separation, and what actually matters in property settlements. We talk honestly about when spending money might make sense, when it won't, and how renovations are often used intentionally or not as a delay tactic or control mechanism.
We cover staging versus maintenance, half-finished renovations, DIY disasters, family contributions, damage to property, and how the court really views all of it. Most importantly, we talk about how to decide whether renovations are worth the financial and emotional cost, and how to avoid getting trapped in a house or a settlement that never seems to move forward.
π Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 Should You Renovate Before Selling During Divorce?
00:40 Renovations During Divorce: Common Questions Answered
01:09 Legal and Financial Rules Around Renovations
02:03 Staging vs Renovations: What Actually Adds Value?
05:52 Renovation Traps: Delays, Control and Emotional Attachment
08:41 Half-Finished Renovations and Unsellable Homes
13:32 Renovations as Non-Financial Contributions Explained
16:49 Family Loans, Gifts and Renovation Contributions
23:14 Property Damage, Wastage and How Courts Value Homes
23:47 Keep, Sell or Buy Out the Family Home?
24:51 Renovation Reimbursements: Do You Have to Pay Them Back?
26:34 Renovating During Separation: What to Do and What to Avoid
28:51 How Family Law Courts Determine Property Value
30:02 Renovations and Consent Orders: What Courts Will and Won't Enforce
35:22 Property Valuations in Divorce: What Courts Accept
40:04 Final Thoughts: Avoiding Renovation Mistakes in Divorce
π Links & Resources Support Services (Australia)
- 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732
- Lifeline β 13 11 14
Related Episodes
- Selling Your House During Divorce
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=Aks8s1YMTguzG-wyYO33Xw
- Property Settlement Explained
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WcJwbOkw7UcCdla48EpXj?si=JRrkI8pZRdu6EUn0h8gncw
- Financial Abuse After Separation https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wxVtk6TOSCgqCJikfk6LD?si=Uxr0alr8TeKwX-WvzKx6Cg
π¨ Support Services (Australia) * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation.
π§ Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it you never know who might be stuck in a renovation trap right now.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * You're separating or divorcing someone with narcissistic traits * Your ex keeps changing tactics and you feel like you're always one step behind * You've experienced love-bombing, guilt, threats, or emotional manipulation * Your ex is running smear campaigns or trying to control the narrative * Money, disclosure, or property settlement keeps getting delayed * Your children are being pulled into adult conflict * Your ex is using the legal system as a weapon * You feel like the abuse didn't end after separation * You want to know what's coming next before it happens
π Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal or psychological advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances.
π Episode Summary Divorcing a narcissist isn't just difficult it's predictable. In this episode, Mum and I walk you through the seven phases most people experience when separating from someone with narcissistic traits, based on what we see every single day in real cases.
We talk about how tactics have evolved, why the mask eventually drops, and how emotional manipulation turns into smear campaigns, financial control, legal abuse, and ongoing chaos even after court ends.
We're not diagnosing anyone, and this isn't about labelling. It's about pattern recognition. Once you understand the phases, you can stop blaming yourself, protect your boundaries, and make informed decisions instead of reacting in survival mode.
π This episode contains discussions around family violence. Support numbers are listed below.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 Divorcing a Narcissist β What to Expect & Why It's Different
01:50 Narcissistic Traits in Divorce and Separation
02:34 Phase One: Love Bombing, Guilt Tripping & Emotional Manipulation
03:50 How Narcissists Use Legal Delays and Manipulation
07:51 Phase Two: Control Tactics, Hoovering & Threats
11:57 Setting Boundaries When Divorcing a Narcissist
14:22 Phase Three: Smear Campaigns & Image Management Tactics
16:16 How to Protect Yourself Before Things Escalate
18:23 The Financial Motives Behind 50/50 Parenting Claims
18:36 Unethical Family Court Reports & Image Control
19:54 Social Media Smear Campaigns and Reputation Control
22:18 Financial Abuse Through Control and Delay Tactics
26:18 Using Children as Pawns in High-Conflict Divorce
28:47 Manipulating the Legal System After Separation
30:48 Post-Separation Abuse: Chaos and Control After Court
32:42 Final Support, Safety Planning & What to Do Next
π Links & Resources Support Services (Australia)
- 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 Lifeline β 13 11 14
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Episodes Mentioned
-
The Narcissist Playbook
- 10 Boundaries You Must Set in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=0tfzIRFrTuWSfrywenG4lA
- What About Their Belongings? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=ABBaDvMVRgqnkvfXHJh66A
- Protecting Your Role as Primary Carer https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oZAEkj18NEcUfJPXP0FOT?si=PR8-zKyXRru7oVeW2Allew
- Legal & Financial Abuse After Separation
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=ZkP-KquxREeTCyQPk8I-TA What If Your Ex Lies in Court?
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=sQjxVlNSTm2wnaHQdWxdlA
- Safety Planning After Separation
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMmTS99LaeUWOXSxKMx1D?si=Y98mBgDoTiK1LQud-tr9BQ
- DARVO in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JyfH5fCoqrUoxeDj6jCtu?si=mDoKfN3fQWONekpLUQflXg
- False allegations of Parental Alienation https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=5z2-pibvRKavyrPkMeuMIw
Resources
- "Before You Go" Checklist β thedivorcecourse.com.au
π¨ Support Services (Australia) * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14 * RSPCA Safe Beds for Pets (state dependent)
π Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances.
π§ Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it β you never know who else needs to hear this before they get blindsided.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * You're unsure whether your relationship legally counts as de facto * Your ex is denying the relationship, the dates, or the level of commitment * You want to know how de facto status impacts property settlement * You've heard about the 2-year rule and want to know if it applies to you * You're wondering if having kids changes your legal rights * You're not married, but financially tangled, and don't know where you stand * You're trying to prove you were (or weren't) de facto * You were "separated under one roof" and need clarity * You're with someone who's still married but claim they're de facto with you
Episode Summary What exactly does it mean to be de facto in Australia? And why does it matter so much when you separate? In this episode, Mum and I unpack de facto relationships in family law in Australia what counts, what doesn't, and what the court actually looks at when deciding whether a de facto relationship existed.
We break down the difference between being married and being de facto, the rules around the two-year relationship requirement, how children change everything, and what happens with short vs long relationships.
We also talk through what happens when one person denies the relationship ever existed, how to prove your timeline, and the evidence the court takes most seriously from finances to living arrangements to social media and everything in between.
If you've ever thought "Are we de facto? Does this count? What does this mean for my rights?" this episode will give you clarity, confidence and the facts that might help you in your situation.
π This is general information only. Always seek your own legal support for your exact situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 00:00 β What Is a De Facto Relationship in Australia? A clear explanation of the legal meaning of "de facto" and why it matters.
00:28 β Understanding the Term 'De Facto' Under the Family Law Act Breaking down the true definition and what "genuine domestic relationship" actually means.
01:16 β Why De Facto Status Matters for Property and Parenting How your relationship status affects your rights in separation.
01:47 β How to Prove You're in a De Facto Relationship Evidence, timelines, documents and what the courts look for.
03:50 β Common Myths About De Facto Relationships (Debunked) Misunderstandings about living together, bank accounts, and "we're not married so it doesn't count."
06:46 β Short vs Long De Facto Relationships: What's the Difference? How the length of the relationship can influence property outcomes.
17:45 β How Having Children Impacts De Facto Separation Why children change eligibility, contributions, and financial outcomes.
19:16 β Contributions in De Facto Relationships Explained Financial, non-financial, homemaking and parenting contributions β what the court considers.
19:49 β Proving a De Facto Relationship: Evidence That Helps Photos, messages, leases, documents and everyday interactions that build your case.
21:44 β What Evidence Can Be Used to Show a De Facto Relationship? From moving-day photos to shared responsibilities β what actually matters.
24:11 β Mediation Options When Your Ex Denies the Relationship How mediation and disclosure work when one person disputes being de facto.
26:55 β Can You Be Married and De Facto at the Same Time? How overlap occurs with affairs, breakups under one roof and blurred timelines.
33:31 β Clarifying the Rules Between Marriage vs De Facto How the law treats both pathways similarly for financial and parenting matters.
34:39 β Final Thoughts: Understanding Your Status and Next Steps Key takeaways on proving de facto status and protecting your future.
π Links & Resources "Before You Go" Checklist β
thedivorcecourse.com.au
Episodes Mentioned
Separated Under one Roof Episode
https://youtu.be/er5qlClqOGs?si=o6f2apVsjWNHE_ID
Beyond the Split Understanding Separation Dates
https://youtu.be/HDL4mhO94TY?si=1aUlslHr4xGqL_dN
Future Needs
https://youtu.be/_-5JlRLCNxY?si=YQKBsqG2cCAEVNqs
Cheating and Dating during Divorce
https://youtu.be/kBOV2sRtq7E?si=SlAgBVMkwf-LoaMU
π¨ Support Services (Australia) * 1800 RESPECT β 1800 737 732 * Lifeline β 13 11 14
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support based on your circumstances.
π§ Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it you never know who else needs this clarity.
Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You're thinking about dating before your divorce, property or children's matters are final
- Your ex has a new partner and you're worried about parenting or property issues
- You're unsure how the court sees new relationships in family law matters
- You want to know what's okay, what's risky, and what doesn't matter at all
Wondering if it's okay to date while your divorce is still in progress? You're not alone. In this episode, we unpack the legal, emotional, and strategic impacts of dating during divorce especially when children, property settlements, or court appearances are involved.
Whether you've just met someone new, or your ex is already flaunting their next relationship, we break down how new partners can influence family law outcomes in both parenting and property matters.
We cover the risks, realities, and misconceptions about what the court actually looks at and how to protect your position without putting your future on hold.
π Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
π Episode Timeline: [00:00] Introduction: How New Relationships Can Impact Your Divorce Case
[01:13] Important Legal Disclaimer and Emotional Trigger Warnings
[02:02] Can a New Partner Affect Your Property Settlement in Divorce?
[09:35] Understanding No-Fault Divorce and How History Shaped Today's Rules
[15:11] Spousal Maintenance: Does Repartnering Change Eligibility?
[19:50] Child Support Implications When a New Partner Has Money
[22:11] Parenting Orders and Custody: What Role Do New Partners Play?
[25:25] How the Court Prioritizes Children's Welfare Over Relationship Status
[26:03] When (and How) to Introduce Your Kids to a New Partner
[28:13] Coercive Control, Repartnering, and Family Court Considerations
[30:05] What Are New Partners Responsible for in a Family Law Context?
[31:46] Red Flags: What Family Court Looks for in New Relationships
[33:34] Raising Concerns About New Partners Without Going to Court
[39:43] How to Document and Present Concerns the Right Way
[42:51] Does the Court Judge You for Repartnering During Divorce?
[45:16] Final Takeaways: Moving Forward with Caution and Clarity
π Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT β 24/7 Support Service
Daisy App β Connect to Local Services
Technology and Safety Guide
Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in
Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/
Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro
The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/
Episode Links
Separated under one roof do's and don'ts
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ
Stuck under one roof what are your options
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg
Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw
π¨ Support Services:
Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program
1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too! β οΈ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:
This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.
Listen to this episode if⦠* You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe * You've left but still don't feel secure * You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare * You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse * You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe * You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex
π Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
When things feel uncertain or even unsafe it's not being paranoid to think ahead. It's being prepared.
In this important episode, we break down what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, and how to build one tailored to your situation. Whether you're living with abuse, planning to leave, or simply want to feel more secure going through the Family Court, we talk through the key steps and considerations from protecting your children to securing your documents and digital life.
You'll learn how safety planning can be a quiet, empowering way to take back control and set up the support you need. I also share resources, tools, and who to call if you want help doing it safely and confidentially.
π Episode Timeline: From Fear to Freedom: Creating a Safety Plan Before You Need One Safety Plans β What They Are & How to Make One
00:00 β Introduction: What is a Safety Plan and Why It Matters Overview of safety planning and who needs one.
02:06 β Why You Might Need a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence Signs, risks, and when it's time to prepare.
03:41 β Recognising Coercive Control and Hidden Danger Signals How emotional and behavioural control can put you at risk.
07:55 β StepβbyβStep Guide to Creating Your Safety Plan Essential steps to start planning your safety today.
09:04 β Safety at Home: Preparing for a Potential Escape Practical tips for making your environment safer.
16:33 β Safety Technology: RealβTime Tracking and Digital Risk Understanding digital abuse and how it affects your plan.
16:57 β Important Documents You Should Have Ready Checklist of documents to keep handy for safety or sudden departure.
17:33 β Leaving Without Explanation: When It's Necessary How to plan a quiet departure without alerting an abuser.
18:10 β The Power of Code Words and Communication Safety Using discreet signals to reach out for help.
19:20 β Planning Your Escape Route: Fast and Safe Exits How to map out the quickest way out when it's unsafe to stay.
20:11 β Handling Vehicle Safety and Transport During Escape Car strategies and avoiding being blocked in.
23:29 β Keeping Your Pets Safe During an Escape Plan Options and programs that support pets in family violence situations.
24:22 β Work, Online and Tech Safety Measures Protecting your devices, social media, and work life from monitoring or abuse.
27:00 β Staying Safe After Leaving a Violent Situation Changes to routines, communication, and personal security.
27:56 β Legal Steps to Support Your Safety Plan Protection orders, police involvement, and legal safety mechanisms.
30:58 β Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone β Support Is Available Encouragement and next steps with reminder resources.
π Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT β 24/7 Support Service
Daisy App β Connect to Local Services
Technology and Safety Guide
Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in
Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/
Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro
The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/
Episode Links
Who gets the Car in the long and short term https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CmoF5nrBhVfDlJgVyXlGp?si=uXtMvH1dRoG74CSd-7pD9w
Separated under one roof do's and don'ts
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ
Stuck under one roof what are your options
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg
Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw
π¨ Support Services:
Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program
1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too! β οΈ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:
This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.
π‘ Listen to this episode if... * You're navigating Christmas while going through separation or divorce * You're co-parenting and worried about holiday arrangements or conflict * You feel pressure from family and don't know how to handle it * You're confused about what to expect from lawyers or the courts over the break * You're worried about an emotional or legal crisis over the holidays
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:
This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.
Holidays can bring joy, but during separation or divorce, it can also bring stress, confusion, and conflict. If you're dreading the tough conversations this holiday season, you're not alone and this episode is here to help.
Mum and I walk through how to manage communication with all the key players during the festive period: your co-parent, your lawyer, your kids, extended family, and even the courts or police. Whether you're trying to set healthy boundaries, stuck living under one roof, or bracing for something to blow up we've got practical strategies to get you through it.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline:
00:00 β Introduction: Navigating the Holidays During Divorce
01:52 β Communication Challenges for Divorcing Couples During the Holidays
03:10 β Should You Talk to Your Divorce Lawyer Over the Holiday Break?
06:00 β Co-Parenting Holiday Conflicts & Practical Solutions
13:19 β Managing Property Settlements During the Holiday Season
18:33 β Living Together While Separated: How to Handle the Holidays
22:55 β How to Communicate Holiday Plans with Your Kids During Divorce
26:44 β When to Reach Out to the Court During Holiday Disputes
26:57 β Understanding Court Closures & Delays Over the Holidays
28:06 β Urgent Divorce Matters: Emergency Contacts & What to Do
28:41 β How to Document Incidents for Court During the Holidays
29:16 β Handling Non-Emergency Divorce or Co-Parenting Issues
33:26 β When to Contact the Police During Divorce or Custody Conflicts
37:46 β Setting Boundaries with Family During a Holiday Divorce
39:16 β Creating Emergency Plans & Safety Measures
44:47 β Mental Health Tips for Coping with Divorce During the Holidays
47:04 β Engaging with Your Community for Support
48:07 β Final Thoughts & Holiday Farewell
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw
Christmas & CoParenting
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fcY2B7N0lDo8U1WAqozVz?si=i_RzkSgMSPSbMT4ZeZqDVA
Separated for the Holidays How to deal with it emotionally
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zzVKOc0LJY3uZhnLXfiJC?si=LT0sg7wMT3OACnFHOER8AA
CoParenting without Court Orders
https://open.spotify.com/episode/05BC7rliGHpKcQ58JJzZej?si=iKR82uY6S2G-SF_XHeltQA
Handover Hell
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=v8ILJ4p3Qi6dycn4WhEv4g
Separated under one roof do's and don'ts
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ
Stuck under one roof what are your options
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg
Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw
π¨ Support Services:
1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
π‘ Listen to this episode if... * You're preparing for mediation or trying to negotiate privately * What to learn the potential do's and don'ts of negotiations in divorce * You feel like your ex is "sitting pretty" and not engaging * You want to know the difference between reasonable and risky offers * You've made concessions early on and don't know how to recover * You want to avoid court, but still get a fair deal * You are in court and want it over
β οΈ Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: Smart Divorce Negotiation Strategies That Actually Work
00:00 β Introduction to Divorce Negotiation Strategies Why negotiation matters and how to approach it with confidence.
00:33 β Meet the Hosts + Legal Disclaimer Who we are and a reminder this episode is for educational purposes only.
01:15 β Understanding the 3 Stages of Divorce Negotiation How strategy shifts between early separation, mediation, and court prep.
03:40 β Early Stage Negotiation Tips: Don't Rush, Repackage Your Offer Using smart presentations to make your offer sound more appealing.
07:54 β Mediation Tactics: Window Dressing and Framing Percentages How to reshape your proposal to match your ex's language and values.
20:04 β Mid-Stage Negotiation: When to Turn Up the Heat Signs it's time to get firmer and more structured in your approach.
22:05 β Using Real Court Cases to Support Your Offer Legal precedents and examples that make your proposal more persuasive.
26:09 β Common Myths and Mistakes in Divorce Negotiation Misunderstandings around legal advice and negotiation timelines.
27:29 β The Risk of Delaying Legal Action Too Long What happens when you wait too long to formalize your agreement?
28:01 β Understanding Pre-Action Procedure Letters and Legal Guidelines What they are, why they matter, and how they shape negotiation.
28:58 β Using Legal Costs as a Leverage Tool How to show what delays or refusals could cost in real terms.
29:23 β Should You Mention Court in Negotiation? When and Why Using the "threat of court" wisely to re-engage a stalled process.
33:02 β Smart Strategies for Writing Pre-Action Letters How to set the tone and expectations before heading to court.
34:53 β Court Door Negotiation Tactics: Calderbank Offers and Timing Last-minute strategies that could settle your case without trial.
38:53 β Do's and Don'ts of Divorce Negotiation The best and worst moves people makeβand how to avoid mistakes.
51:21 β Final Thoughts: Confidence, Control, and Long-Term Focus Why the goal is clarity, closure, and fairnessβnot "winning."
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
FCFCOA Judgements - Cases
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/judgments
Episode Links
Pitfalls of percentages in Negotiations Early On
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=RWmY0i9eTuyWdUNQIuKNQg
https://youtu.be/o1n16TyarUo?si=hdxY73U3ZZ4gJ3Uj
Boundaries in Divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe
Costs and Calderbank Offers
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2B2Se7hTIBAOg5f5YJ5wqE?si=EUOrEmeAQCWr6BOFt3RtuQ
https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=Vub2ujv1mapniv8L
Divorce Dynamic, balancing power with progress
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=YsTIkKDXTiqFIyDN7Qwn-g
From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
Listen to this episode if⦠* You're feeling emotionally overloaded * Everyone around you has an opinion and it's stressing you out * You're being pushed to make decisions faster than you're ready for * You're not sure what's a legal deadline vs. emotional urgency * You're feeling pressure from all sides to get things sorted * You are overwhelmed
π Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.
Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by your separation or divorce? Like everything is urgent, everyone needs something from you
You are not alone and this episode is here to help.
In this conversation, Mum and I walk through 8 practical ways to calm the chaos, slow things down, and take back control of your divorce journey. We cover emotional overwhelm, confusing legal pressure, and the early survival strategies that can make all the difference.
Whether you're still in shock or already knee-deep in logistics, this episode is your gentle reminder that you don't have to do it all at once and you shouldn't.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: Divorce Overwhelm β 8 Ways to Stay Sane When Everything Feels Urgent
00:00 β Introduction: Overcoming Divorce Overwhelm Why everything feels urgentβand how this episode can help you breathe again.
00:21 β Feeling Pressured to Make Fast Decisions During Divorce How panic can lead to poor choices and what to do instead.
00:28 β 8 Practical Strategies to Regain Control in Separation Overview of what you'll learn and how to use these tips right away.
00:51 β Welcome and What This Episode Covers Who this episode is for and why this conversation matters.
01:08 β The Stress of Divorce Deadlines and Decision Fatigue How urgency from lawyers, family, or your ex can overwhelm you.
03:17 β Legal vs. Emotional Deadlines: Know the Difference Understanding what's truly urgent and what can wait.
06:50 β The Emotional Shock of a Breakup Why you're not functioning "normally" and that's okay.
13:48 β Setting Boundaries with Family and Friends During Divorce How to protect your peace from well-meaning (but draining) input.
19:48 β Prioritizing Safety, Shelter, and Stability First Triage your needs: food, housing, money, transport before anything else.
23:34 β Recognizing and Responding to Financial Abuse What financial control looks likeβand how to get support.
24:09 β Why Self-Care Is Essential, Not Optional Simple ways to take care of yourself when everything feels like too much.
28:10 β Making Space for Grief and Emotional Recovery Letting yourself feel, cry, and heal without guilt.
30:41 β How Learning the Process Can Help You Feel Empowered Education as a tool to reduce panic and increase confidence.
34:32 β Creating a New Divorce Routine That Works for You Using structure and small steps to take back control of your life.
39:29 β Final Thoughts: You've Got This, One Step at a Time Encouragement, next steps, and reminding youβyou're not alone.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
Boundaries in Divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
Listen to this episode if⦠* You're in the middle of a separation and unsure what advice to follow * Friends, family, or Facebook have told you "what to do" * You've heard you can't leave the house without losing everything * You feel pressured not to bring up domestic violence * You're confused about disclosure, super splitting, or property rights
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. ALSO TRIGGER WARNING Discussions of Family Violence
Have you been told that if you leave the house, you lose everything? Or that you shouldn't mention domestic violence in family court? These are just a few examples of the harmful myths in Australia we hear all too often in separation and divorce.
In this episode, Laura & Lyn expose some of the worst legal advice circulating in family law and explain why it can derail your case, delay your outcome, or damage your safety and rights.
They break down five of the most common (and dangerous) misconceptions, share what the law really says, and help you feel more confident about asking the right questions of your lawyer and making informed decisions.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: Episode 221 Family Law Myths Don't Fall for These 5 During Separation
00:00 β Introduction: Debunking Common Family Law Myths Why bad legal advice is everywhereβand how it can derail your case.
01:42 β The Real Impact of Misinformation in Separation and Divorce What happens when you follow outdated or incorrect legal advice.
05:37 β Myth #1: "If You Leave the House, You Lose Your Property Rights" Why leaving the family home doesn't mean forfeiting your share.
12:48 β Myth #2: "You Must Have Every Document Before You Can Settle" The truth about financial disclosure and realistic expectations.
19:40 β Myth #3: "Don't Mention Domestic Violence in Court" How this dangerous myth puts safety and outcomes at risk.
24:19 β Understanding Family Violence and Property Entitlements How abuse can affect how assets are divided.
25:19 β Should You Mention Domestic Violence in Family Court? Legal perspectives on disclosure and protection.
25:50 β Spousal Maintenance: Know When and How to Ask Why it's often overlookedβand how to advocate for yourself.
26:43 β Myth Busting: Are Addbacks Still Used in Property Settlements? Clarifying a misunderstood financial concept in family law.
28:57 β Myth #5: "Superannuation Must Be Split 50/50" Exploring how super splitting really works under Australian law.
32:16 β How to Educate Yourself and Work Better with Your Lawyer Tips for being informed, assertive, and legally empowered.
35:32 β Final Thoughts and How to Enrol in the Divorce Course Practical next steps and how to get more support.
41:53 β Listener Reviews and Community Shoutouts Sharing your feedback and how to get involved.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
Superannuation and Equalising super https://youtu.be/2BQEHmIwjio?si=kWg9F8c8rh4X8HqB
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
Listen to this episode if... * You've been offered child inclusive mediation and don't know what to expect * You're worried about how separation is affecting your child * You're in a high-conflict co-parenting situation or dealing with coercive control * You've been told that involving your child in mediation will "help" * You want to make informed, child-centered decisions in your family law journey
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia.
In this powerful episode, Mum and I dive into a topic that's being promoted more and more in family law: Child Inclusive Mediation. On the surface, it sounds like a child-focused solution. But is it really in the best interest of your child?
We break down what child inclusive mediation actually involves, why it's not always as neutral or helpful as it's made out to be, and the serious emotional and legal implications it can have especially in high-conflict separations or situations involving coercive control.
From personal reflections to legal insights, we share why we're concerned about this process and what you need to consider before agreeing to include your child in any mediation setting.
What You'll Learn
- What child inclusive mediation really means in practice
- The difference between therapeutic support vs. pressure on children to speak up
- When this process might backfire emotionally or legally
- Why family reports may be a safer and more protective alternative
- Red flags and questions to ask before you say yes
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: Is Child Inclusive Mediation Helpful or Harmful?
00:00 β Introduction: What Is Child Inclusive Mediation? An overview of this growing mediation trend in family law and why it's controversial.
01:29 β How the Mediation Process Works in Parenting Disputes Understanding how mediation fits into separation and custody discussions.
03:44 β Defining Child Inclusive Mediation in Australian Family Law Breaking down what actually happens when children are included in mediation.
05:52 β The Risks and Red Flags of Child Inclusive Mediation Emotional pressure, manipulation, and when this process may do more harm than good.
08:00 β Confidentiality Issues and the Emotional Toll on Children What children are told, how their information is used, and the psychological impact.
13:42 β The Problem with Over-Interviewing Children in Family Law Why repeated interviews can traumatize kids and undermine the process.
20:00 β Real Concerns About Child Inclusive Mediation in Practice Legal and ethical questions raised by lawyers, parents, and professionals.
21:07 β How Child Inclusive Mediation Affects Older Children Teen-specific concerns, autonomy, and the danger of putting kids in the middle.
23:42 β Family Reports vs. Child Inclusive Mediation A safer alternative? What to expect from a court-ordered family report.
24:41 β DIY Divorce Blueprint: Free Resource Mentioned How to get practical tools to guide you through separation and co-parenting.
28:27 β Key Questions to Ask Before Agreeing to Child Inclusive Mediation What to consider if this process has been suggested to you.
32:49 β Final Thoughts: Protecting Your Child's Voice and Mental Health Wrapping up with a parent-first, child-protective perspective.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
Listen to this episode if...
- You're newly separated and trying to figure out parenting arrangements.
- You don't have court orders yet and things are already getting tense.
- Your ex is unreliable, manipulative, or emotionally unpredictable.
- You're feeling pressured to agree to arrangements that feel unsafe or unfair.
- You want to avoid court but don't want to be taken advantage of.
Trying to co-parent after separation without court orders? This episode offers a general discussion that may help you better understand the common challenges many face during this stage. Mum and I talk through the confusion, conflict, and emotional chaos that often arise when parenting without formal agreements in place.
We explore how co-parenting typically unfolds in the early days post-separation, the general differences between parenting plans and court orders, and what can happen when one parent starts making sudden changes like; withholding time with the kids, shifting pick-up arrangements, or insisting on "rules" that were never agreed upon.
If you're feeling unsure about whether to formalize your arrangements, being pressured into something that feels unfair, or just don't know where to start, this episode provides a helpful overview, insights, and discussion points to consider. Please remember this is not legal advice. Always speak with a qualified professional for advice on your specific situation.
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia.
Co-Parenting Without Court Orders: The Real Rules and Red Flags You Need to Know
Episode Timeline Summary:
00:00 β Introduction: Co-Parenting After Separation Setting the stage for co-parenting challenges in the early days of separation.
01:23 β Myths and Misunderstandings About Separation Rules What many parents get wrong after they separateβand what's important to know.
03:42 β How to Decide Where the Kids Live After Separation Living arrangements, routines, and initial decisionsβwithout court orders.
07:48 β Co-Parenting with a Manipulative or Controlling Ex Recognizing red flags and what to consider if you're being pressured or gaslit.
13:46 β Strategies for Co-Parenting with an Avoidant Ex When your ex won't engage or avoids parenting responsibilities.
18:40 β Managing High-Conflict Co-Parenting Situations What to do when emotions run high and agreements fall apart.
20:45 β Parenting Plans vs Court Orders: What's the Difference? Legal strength, enforceability, and when each option makes sense.
24:02 β Making Parenting Agreements Without Going to Court What to include, how to approach it, and setting healthy boundaries.
24:31 β Signs You're Dealing with a Manipulative Co-Parent Control tactics, emotional abuse, and maintaining your parenting role.
25:40 β Do You Need Court Orders or Is a Parenting Plan Enough? Legal protections and risks of informal arrangements.
28:38 β What to Do When Your Ex Avoids All Responsibility How to respond when you're carrying the full parenting load alone.
31:31 β High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation Tips for managing ongoing disputes and protecting the kids.
33:51 β When Your Ex Ignores the Parenting Agreement Understanding your rights and the next steps if the agreement isn't followed.
35:02 β When to Consider Court Orders: Timing and Triggers Knowing the signs that it's time to formalize your parenting arrangement.
40:04 β Family Violence, Supervised Contact & Legal Protections When safety becomes an issueβand what support is available.
47:43 β Final Thoughts: Stay Grounded and Protect Your Peace Encouragement, next steps, and key reminders moving forward.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
The Hidden Connection between Property and Parenting in Divorce
https://youtu.be/w0-TnEjMmhs?si=_y1n3i0fejy04W2L
10 Essential Boundaries in Divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=nqq4fmavJGu25Z2X
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π² Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!
Listen to this episode if...
- You're divorcing or separating from someone who owns or runs a business.
- You're in a family business with your ex and things are getting murky.
- You suspect your ex is hiding assets or undervaluing the business.
- You're overwhelmed by the complexity of business valuations in divorce.
- You're preparing for mediation or court and want to understand your options.
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
Divorcing a business owner or running a business with your soon-to-be ex? You must hear this. In this eye-opening episode, Mum and I dive into the most common and sneaky tricks business owners use during separation and how to stay one step ahead.
From manipulating business valuations to hiding assets in clone companies, refusing disclosure, and even dragging staff into the mess, we break down each tactic with real-world examples and strategies you can use. Whether you're preparing for mediation or already deep in the property settlement process, this is a must-listen for anyone who suspects their ex isn't playing fair when a business is involved.
Episode Timeline Summary: Business Tricks in Divorce: 10 Sneaky Tactics to Watch Out For and Outsmart!
00:00 β Intro: Divorce and Business Ownership Understanding why divorcing a business owner is uniquely challenging.
01:06 β Real-Life Divorce Scenarios with a Business Involved What happens when you're in business with your exβor they own one.
03:02 β Trick #1: Making the Business Seem Worthless How business owners hide value before property settlement.
08:12 β Trick #2: Starting a New Business to Hide Assets The "mirror business" strategy and how to uncover it.
09:26 β Trick #3: Issuing New Shares to Dilute Ownership What to do when your share of the business suddenly shrinks.
12:41 β Trick #4: Hiding Income and Creating Fake Tax Debts How income manipulation affects child support and property division.
17:58 β Trick #5: Refusing to Allow a Business Valuation Steps to take when your ex delays or avoids business valuation.
19:58 β Legal Disclaimer: General Education Only Reminder to seek personal legal advice for your situation.
20:39 β How Courts Handle Business Valuation & Disclosure Why you don't need full financial disclosure to move forward.
21:31 β Trick #6: Cooking the Books & Cash Deals Spotting hidden income, second books, and cash-based deception.
26:39 β Trick #7: Financial Abuse via Job Loss or Sacking What to do when your ex cuts your income post-separation.
32:01 β Trick #8: Superannuation and Self-Managed Funds Risks of SMSFs and how assets may be hidden or misused.
36:39 β Court Penalties for Business-Related Divorce Tricks When shady business tactics backfire in property settlements.
40:36 β Listener Review & Free Coaching Call Giveaway Shoutout to a listener + how to win a free call with Mum.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126 (23 July 2025)
https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html
Shamon & Shamon [2025] FedCFamC1A 150 (8 September 2025)
https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html
Episode Links
Your Business and Divorce (old episode)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0CwIeW1ZHTphzvhPdlq2Bf?si=JCtAHG7NTom5YSceqdSJ2Q
Weapons of Tax Destruction
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Bvc2JFmgcLMpIZLIXEwVR?si=KT3UdjZRQAWjDRp3EMXhiw
DIY Disclosure
https://open.spotify.com/episode/49yOIB1GLDmXgeZCXkfyJS?si=nhgq3QQlQge-CSYLkMGKBg
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
- You constantly walk away from conversations with your ex feeling drained, confused, or second-guessing yourself.
- Co-parenting feels more like a battleground than teamwork.
- You suspect your ex might be narcissistic or manipulative, but you're not sure what to do about it.
- You want to learn how to protect your children emotionally while staying calm and in control.
- You're tired of being baited into fights and want tools to respond, not react.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and trauma recovery. π Disclaimer: This episode is for general information and education only. Please seek your own legal, psychological, or medical support for your specific circumstances.
π Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
π» The Divorce Course Free Resources
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
What You'll Learn: Is My Co-Parent a Narcissist? Warning Signs, Boundaries & How to Protect Your Kids π Recognising the Signs: Mia explains how narcissistic or high-conflict co-parents reveal themselves β through blame-shifting, entitlement, image obsession, and control.
βοΈ The Court Reality Check: Lyn shares why using the word "narcissist" in court can backfire β and how to instead describe their behaviours (the "ingredients" rather than "the cake").
𧱠Setting Boundaries That Stick: How to stop being pulled into chaos, manage constant conflicts, and accept "who you're dealing with" so you can regain power.
π§ Protecting the Kids: Red flags to watch for in how your ex uses or manipulates the children β and how to model calm, consistent parenting when they don't.
π¬ Parenting Teenagers of Narcissistic Exes: Mia and Lyn dive into the tricky years β when kids start echoing their narcissistic parent's behaviour β and how to hold firm without turning into your ex.
πͺ Your Healing & Hope: Why the most powerful move isn't "winning" against your ex β it's rebuilding your self-trust, removing their emotional "buttons," and staying in your own lane.
π Guest Expert Mia from Grey Rock Consulting β https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/ Lawyer, founder, and Australia's first certified Master High Conflict Negotiation Coach (trained by Rebecca Zung). Mia helps clients and lawyers navigate high-conflict personalities with strategy, clarity, and self-preservation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β
00:00 β Intro: Are You Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? Signs to Watch For
00:34 β Meet Mia from Grey Rock Consulting: Expert in Narcissists & High-Conflict Exes
02:11 β What Narcissistic Co-Parenting Really Looks Like (and Why It's So Draining)
13:51 β How Narcissistic Co-Parenting Affects Kids Emotionally and Psychologically
18:25 β Setting Boundaries with a Narcissist: Staying Calm & In Control
21:49 β What to Include (and Avoid) in Parenting Orders or Plans
26:22 β Custody Chaos: When Your Narcissistic Ex Twists the Rules
26:45 β Unexpected Changes & Power Plays: How to Handle Parenting Plan Disputes
27:32 β Dealing with Difficult Co-Parents Who Refuse to Cooperate
29:12 β Emotional Recovery: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
29:53 β When to Push Back (and When to Let It Go) in Co-Parenting Conflicts
35:08 β Teenagers & Narcissistic Parents: What to Do When Kids Mirror the Ex
37:38 β Maintaining Boundaries, Consistency & Emotional Safety at Home
40:39 β Becoming the Positive Role Model Your Kids Need
43:22 β Focusing on You: Self-Growth, Strength & Rebuilding Confidence
46:44 β Where to Get Help: Support, Counselling & Co-Parenting Resources
49:15 β Final Thoughts: Finding Freedom from a Narcissistic Co-Parent
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https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=VV8mR7aYS7uJYstTMYwZvg
Post Divorce Glow Up
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7JoSZEPWiMgM1N1G1C6WSU?si=HDBpOPXqTnmzzrIudA16tQ
Divorcing an abuser
https://open.spotify.com/episode/21TpYbC15VJt9lnb82Ub13?si=lonuOpx8Q22ZRrKKbArc0g
ποΈ Mediation or Manipulation?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew ποΈ The Narcissist Playbook
https://open.spotify.com/episode/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK
π¨ Support Services (Australia):
- 1800 RESPECT β Family Violence Support
- Lifeline 13 11 14 β Crisis Support
- Police β Call 000 if you are in danger
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ π You've left an abusive relationship but still feel stuck, numb, or confused. π§ You're trying to understand why you still feel controlled, scared, or exhausted. π¬ You want to know what healing actually looks like and how long it takes. πͺ You're ready to start finding yourself again after years of walking on eggshells. πΈ You want to rebuild your confidence, identity, and hope for the future. π« You just need to hear that full recovery is possible
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and trauma recovery. π Disclaimer: This episode is for general information and education only. Please seek your own legal, psychological, or medical support for your specific circumstances.
Leaving an abusive relationship doesn't mean the pain or confusion stops overnight. In this heartfelt episode, Laura and Lyn are joined by clinical psychologist Krazi Kirova, who specialises in trauma recovery and emotional abuse. Together, they explore what happens after you leave the emotional crash, the exhaustion, and eventually, the glow-up.
You'll learn what the research says about post-separation abuse, why healing takes time, and the eight key stages of recovery every survivor eventually moves through. Krazi shares powerful, evidence-based insights on rebuilding safety, identity, and connection and why the "post-divorce glow-up" you see online is about so much more than appearance.
If you're in that stage where you feel broken, tired, and unsure of who you are this episode is for you. It's about hope, self-reclamation, and the small steps that slowly lead to peace, power, and joy again.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β The Post-Divorce Glow-Up: Healing After Abuse
00:00 β Introduction: Leaving abuse and why the pain doesn't stop overnight 01:00 β Support reminder: Lifeline, 1800 RESPECT, and why safety comes first 02:00 β What keeps you stuck after leaving an abusive partner 03:00 β Why recovery can't begin until you feel physically and emotionally safe 05:00 β The psychological "hurricane" of separation β and why it gets worse before it gets better 07:00 β Understanding post-separation abuse and coercive control 09:00 β How predictability helps survivors regain power and calm 11:00 β How courts are improving in recognising coercive control and trauma 12:00 β The physical and emotional depletion from years of abuse 13:00 β The "post-divorce glow-up" β and why your energy eventually returns 17:00 β How long does it really take to heal after abuse? 18:00 β What research says about recovery β it's not linear 19:00 β The 8 key tasks for healing and recovery 20:00 β Step 1: Establishing safety β physical, emotional, and financial 22:00 β Step 2: Educating yourself and re-examining the relationship 25:00 β Step 3: Rebuilding identity β remembering who you are 29:00 β Step 4: Rebuilding social connections and support networks 32:00 β Step 5: Being selective about who you let in β healthy relationships only 33:00 β Step 6: Taking time before dating again 35:00 β Step 7: Embracing freedom, autonomy, and decision-making 38:00 β Step 8: Accepting recovery as a process β patience and self-kindness 42:00 β Courts and trauma-informed change in the family law system 44:00 β Step 9: Healing mentally and physically β reconnecting with your body 46:00 β The power of community, spirituality, and belonging in recovery 47:00 β Final reflections: "It's a journey β and you are getting somewhere."
Resources Mentioned: 𧩠Kirova Psychology β Personal Resources
https://kirovapsychology.com.au/personal-resources/
π Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
π» The Divorce Course Free Resources
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Related Episodes: ποΈ Is It Emotional Abuse?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11
Is it emotional abuse?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=VV8mR7aYS7uJYstTMYwZvg
Divorcing an abuser
https://open.spotify.com/episode/21TpYbC15VJt9lnb82Ub13?si=lonuOpx8Q22ZRrKKbArc0g
ποΈ Mediation or Manipulation?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew
ποΈ When Mediation Goes Wrong (And What You Can Do Next)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WQhunLQVtWn02k5FT7Mpv ποΈ The Narcissist Playbook
https://open.spotify.com/episode/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK
π¨ Support Services (Australia):
- 1800 RESPECT β Family Violence Support
- Lifeline 13 11 14 β Crisis Support
- Police β Call 000 if you are in danger
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
π¬ Youβve got mediation coming up and donβt know where to start. π° Youβre feeling stressed or unprepared to face your ex about custody or property. π You want to know what to bring and how to prepare your documents. βοΈ You need tips for negotiating calmly and confidently. π© Youβre dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex. πΈ You want to avoid costly mistakes and stay out of family court. π§ You just want to feel ready and in control on the day.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
Youβre about to head into mediation and the very thought of it makes your palms sweat. Maybe someone just mentioned βmediationβ and now youβre spiraling β wondering what to say, what to bring, and how to keep calm. This episode is for you if you want to feel confident, organised, and prepared (instead of panicked) before you sit down at that mediation table.
Mum ( a family lawyer with over 35 years experience) and I walk you through the Top 5 things you need to do before mediation β practical, emotional, and strategic prep that will make a huge difference on the day. These arenβt just lawyer tips β theyβre the real-world insights weβve seen help countless people get through mediation feeling calmer, clearer, and more in control.
Weβll talk about what to do if your ex is high-conflict, avoidant, manipulative, or genuinely amicable; how to prepare your documents and disclosure; and why itβs so important to have a plan for both success and failure. Plus, we touch on how to handle mediation safely if thereβs been family violence
Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β Mediation Preparation Tips
00:00 β What Is Mediation in Family Law? A clear introduction to how mediation works in divorce and separation cases.
01:24 β Meet the Hosts: Family Law and Divorce Experts Get to know your guides as they break down practical mediation strategies.
01:44 β Listener Stories and Divorce Mediation Experiences Real listener insights and why mediation can be both powerful and stressful.
03:18 β Understanding the Mediation Process in Divorce What happens during family law mediation β and how to get the best outcome.
05:17 β How to Prepare for Mediation: Know What You Want (and Donβt Want) Tips for identifying your priorities before stepping into the room.
14:27 β Creating Your Divorce Negotiation Plan Learn how to build a negotiation strategy based on your goals and your exβs personality type.
23:06 β What Documents to Bring to Mediation Essential paperwork and evidence to prepare for property or parenting mediation.
24:09 β Court-Ordered Mediation and Section 60I Certificates Explained What happens if mediation is required before going to court.
27:24 β How to Write a Confidential Case Outline for Mediation Preparing your case outline to stay focused and calm.
28:28 β Preparing for Financial Disclosure in Mediation How to gather, label, and present financial documents effectively.
33:30 β Planning for Mediation Outcomes (Success or Failure) What to do if mediation works β or doesnβt.
41:59 β Mediation and Family Violence: How to Stay Safe When to use shuttle mediation, safety plans, or legal support.
45:13 β The Top 5 Tips to Prepare for Family Law Mediation Our biggest takeaways to help you walk in calm and confident.
48:41 β Final Thoughts, Resources, and Next Steps How to keep moving forward after mediation β whatever the outcome.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
MEDIATION OR MANIPULATION
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew?si=t8swCVk2SoG6xaqE9I-D9Q
Can you really mediate with a narcissist
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11?si=MlD8Ku1FS02PjjLjjnlokw
Do you need a lawyer for mediation?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/37Zn59zn6sVlBIU0kePY7K?si=8Ih-0c5cRLuCKOPbzVVrqw
When Mediation goes wrong and what you can do next
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WQhunLQVtWn02k5FT7Mpv?si=h9rJo77PR3qG7_YV9obAuQ
What happens after mediation - what if you change your mind
https://open.spotify.com/episode/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK?si=EmjV30k1SQWp7IcqX9Yz4Q
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦ π Have been told divorce property settlements are always 50/50 π€ Want to understand how contributions (financial and non-financial) are weighed βοΈ Are trying to figure out how your future needs affect your share π° Suspect your ex has wasted or hidden money and want to know what that means π Need to know whether you can work out percentages yourself or need a lawyer π§Ύ Are preparing for mediation or property negotiations and want strategies to stay strong πΆ Want to know how parenting responsibilities and childrenβs needs affect percentages
Episode Summary Property settlements in divorce arenβt as simple as βsplit it down the middle.β In this episode, Laura and her mum Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) unpack the myths and realities of percentages in property settlement.
They break down how the Family Court in Australia actually calculates shares based on contributions, circumstances, and future needs β and why different lawyers might give you slightly different numbers. Youβll also learn why percentages arenβt always the best way to negotiate, and why focusing on dollar amounts and assets can be more effective.
If youβre heading into mediation, dealing with a high-conflict ex, or just trying to understand whatβs βfair,β this episode gives you some clarity into the confusing word of property settlements.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and financial abuse. π Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for general information only. It is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice about your situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β Divorce Property Settlements Explained
00:00 β What is a Divorce Property Settlement and How Does It Work in Australia? 00:09 β How Are Percentages Calculated in Divorce Property Settlements? 01:08 β Legal Disclaimer: Why You Must Get Independent Legal Advice in Divorce 02:02 β What Are the Basics of Property Division in Australian Family Law? 02:57 β What Does the Court Consider When Dividing Property After Divorce? 04:58 β Key Factors That Affect Your Property Settlement Percentage 17:21 β Divorce Case Study: What We Can Learn from Shaman 2025 21:59 β How Do Recent Legal Changes Affect Divorce Property Settlements? 24:06 β Practical Tips and Resources for Divorce Property Negotiations 25:55 β What Evidence Do You Need for Court in a Property Settlement? 26:17 β Mediation vs Negotiation: Which Works Best in the Property Division? 29:00 β How to Work Out Percentages in a Divorce Property Settlement 32:14 β Common Mistakes to Avoid in Divorce Property Division 38:10 β What Case Law and Legal Precedents Say About Divorce Property Splits 47:05 β Final Thoughts: How to Protect Yourself in a Property Settlement
Resources & Links * π₯ Download the Separation Under One Roof Checklist β available free to newsletter subscribers. * Shamon & Shamon [2025] FedCFamC1A 150 (8 September 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html * Section 79 of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html
Dajani & Dajani [2025] FedCFamC1A 28 (26 February 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/28.html
π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
π§ Related Episodes:
- Wastage in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0wKQog5jOCTqcCT0QowM2H?si=eoHt8lGRR2ualABIbxn4yw
- Super Split Myths https://open.spotify.com/episode/3JfL6ph18XP3ZI78UGWwqV?si=Y8m2eXJTQO-mGlY7rJSOjA
- The pitfalls of percentage negotiations https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=CvJts4NJQTCym7aVljaprw
- Divorce Decisions : Settling vs Court https://open.spotify.com/episode/5CzRfpKm6WjRhMecZqGZPy?si=Fl-B4jxfSeinxcgSDBI_kg
π Key Topics Discussed * Why property settlements are not automatically 50/50 * How financial and non-financial contributions are considered * The role of future and current circumstances under the Family Law Act * How courts now deal with wastage and hidden assets * Why lawyers may calculate percentages differently * The risks of negotiating in percentages instead of dollars and assets * Tips for handling high-conflict exes in property settlement discussions
π§ Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦
β¨ Are in the middle of property and custody negotiations
βοΈ Have an ex whoβs threatened to push for more custody unless you agree to property terms
π‘ Want to understand how family courts consider housing and childrenβs needs in property settlement
π Are worried about being pressured or manipulated during mediation
π‘ Want practical strategies to protect your kidsβ best interests and your financial future
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
The Hidden Connection: Custody Battles & Property Splits
Custody and property are supposed to be separate issues in divorce β but are they really? In this powerful episode, we discuss the hidden connection between parenting arrangements and property settlement that many people donβt realize until itβs too late.
We discuss how the Australian Family Court FCFCOA actually factors in who the primary carer is, the housing needs of children, and why having custody can impact the percentage you receive in a property split. More importantly, we explore what happens when your ex tries to use the kids as bargaining chips β and some strategies you can use to protect yourself and your children.
If youβve ever felt pressured to trade property for custody or worried that your ex is using threats of β50/50 careβ to get more of the financial pool, this episode is for you.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss: [00:00] Introduction: Custody and Property β The Hidden Connection in Divorce [01:31] Do Custody Arrangements Impact Property Settlement in Family Law? [03:36] Why Housing Needs of Children Affect Property Division [06:50] Can You Keep the Family Home for the Kids After Divorce? [08:28] When Exes Use Custody as a Bargaining Chip in Property Negotiations [11:00] What to Do if Your Ex Threatens 50/50 Custody to Get More Property [13:11] Why Judges Care About Evidence, Chronologies, and Child-Focused Behavior [16:07] Spotting Red Flags: Custody Demands Tied to Property or Child Support [21:00] How Lawyers and Mediators Handle Custody-Property Tradeoffs [25:38] When Exes Suddenly βStep Upβ Parenting for Strategic Reasons [28:12] Negotiation Strategies: Staying Child-Focused While Protecting Property [31:32] Best Interests of the Child: What Section 60CC of the Family Law Act Really Says [39:00] Avoidant vs High-Conflict Exes: How Property Battles Play Out Differently [44:00] Why Documentation and Chronologies Are Your Best Defense [46:00] Final Thoughts: Staying Child-Focused and Resilient Through Divorce
Resources & Links π¨ Support Services:
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- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
- Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
- π§ Related Episodes:
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Primary Carer Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oZAEkj18NEcUfJPXP0FOT?si=9rZ-jNzwQfSYl0naMgUMnA
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Section 60cc Best Interests of the Children
https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s60cc.html
- Mediation or Manipulation https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew?si=ao8KrQ4PTZuusYrkmMZGUw
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π§ Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦ Youβre separated but canβt afford to move out of the family home. Youβre afraid leaving means youβll lose your rights to the house. Your ex refuses to cooperate, acknowledge the separation, or leave. Youβre experiencing coercive control or financial abuse after separation.
Episode Summary Separation is hard enough β but what happens when you and your ex are still living under the same roof? For many, moving out simply isnβt an option: finances are tight, safety is uncertain, and myths about βlosing the houseβ keep people trapped in toxic or unsafe environments. In this episode, we break down the realities of separation under one roof β what the family court in Australia considers what risks and protections you need to know about, and what practical steps you can take if youβre stuck. From safety planning to financial concerns, weβll tackle the most common fears people have when their ex refuses to leave or makes life impossible at home. Weβll also bust some of the biggest myths, including the idea that leaving the family home means you βlose it forever.β Spoiler: thatβs not how property settlements work.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe.
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
β± Episode Timeline β Separation Under One Roof
00:00 β Introduction: What to Do If Youβre Still Living With Your Ex After Separation 00:43 β Common Concerns in Divorce: βIβm Stuck Under One Roof With My Exβ 02:36 β What Does Separation Under One Roof Mean in Family Law? 03:57 β Divorce Myths: Does Leaving the House Mean You Lose Property Rights? 05:22 β Financial Traps in Divorce: How to Afford Living Separately 11:53 β Sole Occupancy Orders Explained: Forcing an Ex to Leave the Family Home 14:06 β Divorce Conflict: How to Deal With an Uncooperative or Controlling Ex 19:31 β Domestic Violence & Divorce: Creating Safety Plans While Living Together 25:04 β Court Orders and Safety Concerns When Separated Under One Roof 25:52 β Property Settlements in Divorce: How Renovations and Contributions Are Treated 28:41 β Divorce Property Division: What Courts Think About Home Improvements 32:31 β Post-Separation Manipulation: Recognising Coercive Control Tactics 35:13 β Children and Divorce: How Living Arrangements Affect Custody Decisions 40:29 β Separation Under One Roof Checklist: Key Questions to Protect Yourself 46:35 β Final Tips: Legal Support and Resources Available
- π₯ Download the Separation Under One Roof Checklist β available free to newsletter subscribers. π¨ Support Services:
- 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support β Australia)
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Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support β Australia)
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π§ Related Episodes:
DAVIS http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1982/73.html
Factor 79(5)f https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html + How to Prove Separation Under One Roof
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0
- Who Pays the Mortgage After Separation? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPpEArmCbxKGXL5Czgm48?si=R_ECqP68QHu8DpyoJK_23Q
- Separation Survival: Boundaries Under One Roof https://open.spotify.com/episode/57GwZsRSE1IO8WYfLuvMNH?si=jcHw01X7QiuWYIihmY1_jQ
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
π§ Listen to This Episode Ifβ¦
π©βπ§ Youβre in a custody dispute and want to show the court youβre the primary carer
βοΈ Youβre unsure what βprimary carerβ really means under family law
π You need to know what kind of evidence proves youβve been the day-to-day parent
π Youβre worried your ex is twisting the truth about who cares for the kids
π You want practical tips on documenting your role as the main caregiver
ποΈ Youβre preparing for mediation or family court and want to feel more confident
π‘ You want to understand how judges assess who the primary carer is
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family and domestic violence, coercive control, and financial abuse. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek independent advice for your specific situation.
primary carer. What does it actually mean? How do courts define it? Why does it matter so much in custody battles and interim hearings? And most importantly, how can you prove youβve been the primary carer if your ex tries to rewrite history?
We unpack the recent changes in family law in Australia, the shift away from the old 50/50 presumption, and why the courts now focus on the best interests of the children over parental entitlement. Along the way, we share practical examples, strategies for gathering evidence, and insights into how controlling or manipulative ex-partners sometimes exploit this concept.
Whether youβre negotiating custody in mediation, preparing for court, or simply trying to understand your rights, this episode is for you.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss * 00:00 β What does βprimary carerβ mean in divorce and custody cases? * 02:08 β How do courts define the role of a primary carer in family law? * 03:46 β What changes in family law affect interim parenting orders? * 06:50 β How do judges decide the βbest interests of the childrenβ? * 16:07 β How can you prove you are the primary carer in custody disputes? * 23:13 β What practical steps help parents show primary carer status? * 23:37 β When should you seek legal or psychological support in custody battles? * 23:48 β How do you handle high-conflict separations in family court? * 24:07 β What role do parenting plans play in custody and court proceedings? * 25:38 β How does family violence impact child custody decisions? * 28:01 β Do grandparents and babysitters count in proving primary carer status? * 30:29 β What is the βfirst right of refusalβ in custody arrangements? * 34:39 β What evidence do you need to prove youβre the main carer for your children? * 41:59 β Final thoughts and encouragement for parents in custody cases
π Links & Resources Mentioned * Cowlings Case : https://www.austlii.edu.au/au/journals/FedJSchol/2002/2.pdf * The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/ * Family Law Changes episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nPB5tKDwMC95G9IrFXGSq?si=SeyXIoDDRN-MJy4Q513WAQ * Family Law Act Australia Definition of Family Violence https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html * Family Law Act Section 61DAB https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s61dab.html * Safeguarding against unfair accusations in Family Court Custody Battles https://open.spotify.com/episode/2vgyr4S8LWECnqspEfrdij?si=-oZRAP06S7yTNGVxHyV4GQ * Enrol now: The Divorce Course https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
π Support Services π 1800 RESPECT β Domestic and Family Violence Support π Lifeline β 13 11 14 (24/7 Crisis Support) βοΈ Legal Aid β Visit your stateβs Legal Aid website π§ Kids Helpline β 1800 55 1800
Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦ πΈ Canβt afford a lawyer full-time but still need legal support π Are drowning in legal letters or excessive disclosure requests from your ex πΆ Want to protect your kids while keeping costs manageable βοΈ Are considering mediation but donβt know when itβs safe to go without a lawyer π§Ύ Want to learn how to organise your documents to save money π Are worried your ex is using legal abuse or post-separation tactics to wear you down
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family and domestic violence, coercive control, and financial abuse. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek independent advice for your specific situation.
Affording a Lawyer Without Going Broke: Divorce Cost-Saving Tips
Are you stuck in the βmissing middleβ... earning too much for legal aid, but nowhere near enough to pay endless legal bills? Youβre not alone. For many separating couples, the cost of family law can feel like a second punishment, especially when an ex uses the system as a weapon of financial abuse or coercive control.
In this practical and empowering episode, Laura and Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) break down the real costs of divorce, why legal bills skyrocket, and the smart strategies you can use to keep costs under control. From disclosure to parenting arrangements, mediation to negotiation, youβll discover what you can safely do yourselfβand where itβs worth paying for expert legal help.
If youβre overwhelmed by fees or worried your ex is driving up costs on purpose, this episode gives you the tools, insights, and confidence to navigate the system without draining your financial future.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss * 00:00 β What you need to know before listening: Introduction and trigger warning * 01:02 β What is the βMissing Middleβ in Family Law and Divorce? (Legal aid limits and financial strain explained) * 03:14 β How much do Family Law and Divorce lawyers cost in Australia? (Understanding legal fees) * 07:56 β How do high-conflict exes use Family Law and Divorce to create legal abuse and drive up costs? * 13:36 β What Family Law and Divorce strategies actually help keep legal costs down? * 21:49 β Best Family Law co-parenting apps to cut conflict and reduce divorce lawyer bills * 23:10 β What is the DIY Divorce Blueprint and how can it save you money in Family Law? * 23:54 β Can you negotiate a Family Law divorce settlement without a lawyer? * 24:35 β Family Law mediation tips: When mediation works in divorce and when itβs unsafe * 28:12 β What are Family Law pre-court procedures in divorce? (Self-representation tips) * 30:28 β How to organise your Family Law divorce case and manage legal costs like a pro * 34:57 β Real Family Law success stories: How preparation cut divorce costs in half * 36:32 β Final thoughts: Encouragement for staying strong during Family Law and Divorce
π Links & Resources Mentioned * Related episode: Is Your Ex Bombarding You With Legal Letters? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4xP8mJmnjAgoEeTJaqOMKb?si=mBgqHpaaRuGkzVsNdZ4VJw * * Parenting communication tools: Our Family Wizard, Our Children * Case & Article: ABC News β Exorbitant Costs of Family Court Matters https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-08-27/financial-toll-of-sydney-registry-family-court-matters/105622908 * Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it part 1 https://open.spotify.com/episode/0frpHUd43xAsuifACUqIzL?si=4PFFP2lmSzKlrCbUfWQgNA
- Dealing with Legal Abuse https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=gml77SrURsK1LGpA5MhzHw
- Protecting yourself from a narc ex in family court https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JyfH5fCoqrUoxeDj6jCtu?si=8ZmxK28ySQa5_SUY5ywkPg
- https://www.ourchildren.com.au/
- https://www.ourfamilywizard.com.au/
- Age Appropriate Parenting Plans https://open.spotify.com/episode/6MxzxwItfa1K8p9Rrnu3ON?si=Nss69o81SVK7GCpjEGcmPQ
- Legal Fees & Saving Strategies https://open.spotify.com/episode/4sIiqb89evbERnRlWfGR9v?si=9PZDyWazS7uPOjG9aLmWJQ
- Enrol now: The Divorce Course https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
π Support Services π 1800 RESPECT β Domestic and Family Violence Support π Lifeline β 13 11 14 (24/7 Crisis Support) βοΈ Legal Aid β Visit your stateβs Legal Aid website π§ Kids Helpline β 1800 55 1800
π§ Listen to this episode if youβ¦ πΈ Suspect your ex has been wasting money during or after separation βοΈ Want to understand what the new Family Law Act changes (June 2025) mean for add-backs π Need to know how to prove wastage in court or mediation π‘ Worry your savings could be treated unfairly if your ex has spent theirs π§Ύ Want practical tips on disclosure, evidence, and how to talk to your lawyer
β οΈ Disclaimer: This is general education only and not legal advice. Please seek advice from your own lawyer about your specific circumstances.
Divorce property settlements just got a major shake-up in Australia. On June 10, 2025, the Family Law Act changedβand the Full Court confirmed the new approach in Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126.
So what does that mean for you?
In todayβs episode, we break down wastage and add-backsβwhat they are, how they used to work, and what the courts now say.
We explore:
- The difference between wastage during the relationship vs after separation
- How gambling, drugs, alcohol, or reckless spending are treated
- The risks when your ex is stalling, hiding money, or draining joint accounts
- How to prove wastage with disclosure, documents, and chronologies
- What to say to your lawyer or mediator so it doesnβt get missed
If youβve been scrimping and saving while your ex has been spending big, this episode will help you understand how the law now protects youβand how to raise it at mediation or in court.
β οΈ Disclaimer: This is general education only and not legal advice. Please seek advice from your own lawyer about your specific circumstances.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss: 00:00 β What are wastage and add-backs in divorce property settlements? 01:28 β How do courts define wastage and add-backs in family law? 03:36 β What are the new legal changes (June 2025) and how do they affect divorce property division? 07:12 β How does wastage during and after marriage impact property settlements? 16:25 β How can you prove wastage in court after separation? 27:13 β What kind of proof and financial chronology does the court expect? 27:34 β Why keeping a clear chronology helps in divorce proceedings 28:30 β How do you raise financial wastage issues in mediation? 29:37 β What mediation strategies and legal cases should you know about? 30:50 β How is wastage treated in property settlement negotiations? 38:34 β Why is the separation date and superannuation balance so important? 43:40 β How do you handle wastage claims with a high-conflict or avoidant ex? 48:47 β What are the key takeaways for protecting yourself under the new family law changes?
π Links & Resources Mentioned
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Case Update: Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126 (23 July 2025) ββhttps://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html
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Our Free Webinar: thedivorcecourse.com.au
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Related episodes:
- DIY Disclosure in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/49yOIB1GLDmXgeZCXkfyJS?si=eGN8WdTBQQql5-9WzT-NsA
- Legal Gatekeeping & What Your Lawyer Might Not Tell You https://open.spotify.com/episode/086JRHdfn0TGR2vyhhLD2z?si=49tG9RYPQtWFIJDOryviOw
π‘ Final Thoughts The law around wastage and add-backs has changed dramatically. If your ex has been wasting money, donβt give upβthere are still ways to make sure the court takes it into account. The key is evidence, preparation, and raising it early.
π If this episode was helpful, please share it with a friend, rate the podcast, and leave a reviewβit helps others find the support they need.
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
Listen to This Episode If You: π£οΈ Have used ChatGPT or AI tools to write legal documents π± Are wondering if your chat history could be used in court π§Ύ Need help drafting or planning divorce paperwork π€― Feel overwhelmed and are tempted to βjust ask ChatGPTβ βοΈ Want to avoid serious legal mistakes caused by bad AI info π§ Are using AI to organize your thoughts, but unsure where the line is
More and more people are turning to AI tools like ChatGPT during their separation or divorce β but is it helpingβ¦ or hurting your case?
In this episode, we explore the four major risks of using AI in your divorce process and show you how to use it safely (if at all). From the scary reality that your chats can be subpoenaed, to the truth about AI βhallucinationsβ in affidavits, we break it all down so you donβt get caught off guard.
We also share ways you can use AI smartly β for planning, organizing thoughts, or building checklists β but why you still need legal and emotional support from real people.
π Legal Disclaimer: This is general information only and not legal advice. Always consult a lawyer for your personal situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Cover:
[00:00] β Can You Use AI in Divorce? An Introduction to ChatGPT and Legal Tech [00:48] β Important Legal Disclaimer: Why AI tools canβt replace professional legal advice [01:29] β What Are AI Tools Like ChatGPT? Overview of how people use AI in divorce [02:41] β Should You Use AI to Draft Consent Orders? Key risks and considerations [05:47] β Can ChatGPT Write My Affidavit? The dangers of AI-generated court documents [08:14] β Why ChatGPT Isnβt a Lawyer: Understanding the limitations of AI in family law [12:23] β Is AI Just Telling You What You Want to Hear? How emotional bias can show up [15:35] β Can AI Be Used as Evidence in Court? Legal risks of relying on chat transcripts [20:53] β Upcoming Webinar Announcement: Learn more about using tech in legal separation [23:26] β Are Judges Ready for AI in Family Law? How courts are adapting to tech tools [24:07] β What Evidence Will the Court Accept? Tips on using tech tools wisely [24:25] β How Legal Communication Has Evolved: From letters to chat logs [25:25] β Key AI Risks to Watch for in Divorce Cases: What the law doesnβt forgive [27:01] β How to Use AI Safely: Smart ways to organise your thoughts and prep for court [29:23] β Real Cautionary Tales: What can go wrong when AI replaces your legal team [33:31] β Final Tips and Takeaways: When AI is helpfulβand when itβs risky
ποΈ Related Episodes
- Putting Coercive Control into writing for Affidavits etc
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=Bxeequf0R3G2LNjMWGwiSw
- Divorce Survival: when you feel like giving up
https://open.spotify.com/episode/77KUxaiDS3dKQJl9ly5QtA?si=LMmJ7f0sRXqW5sFWJCb7Tg
- 12 agreements creating your own parenting plan
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6j325rOj96QvV8spPnYsX5?si=J2zhKMgqRrGgKjsh1UbicA
π Links & Resources Mentioned:
π 1800 RESPECT β National Family Violence Support π Lifeline: 13 11 14 β 24/7 Emotional Support
π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
Listen to this Episode If You: π Feel like the divorce process is dragging on and youβre running on empty βοΈ Need legal strategies to slow things down without giving up entirely π‘οΈ Want practical ways to protect your emotional energy πΆ Are trying to stay strong for your children while navigating court or mediation π¬ Need a pep talk (with a legal twist) to help you keep going
If youβve ever thought, βI just canβt do this anymoreβ during your separation or divorce, this episode is for you. Laura and Lyn share a heartfelt mix of practical legal steps and emotional strategies to help you through the moments when giving up feels like the easiest option.
From taking baby steps and giving yourself permission to pause, to understanding how far youβve already come, this is part pep talk, part legal guide β designed to help you push forward with clarity and confidence.
They also cover how to handle deadlines from aggressive lawyers, the value of aligning your actions with your values, and why youβre probably doing far better than you think (even if it doesnβt feel like it right now).
π Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and post-separation abuse.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss: [0:00] β Feeling like giving up? Hereβs why your future (and your kids) need you to keep going [2:00] β Five strategies to help you keep moving forward in divorce [4:00] β Strategy #1: [7:00] β Strategy #2: [9:00] β Legal ways to request more time in your case [11:00] β Recognising pressure tactics designed to make you quit [12:00] β Strategy #3: [14:00] β Why timelines help you see progress and keep motivated [15:00] β Strategy #4: [18:00] β Remembering why youβre doing this β for your kids and your future [19:00] β Strategy #5: [27:00] β Handling post-separation abuse without giving up [30:00] β Setting boundaries to protect yourself from relentless contact [33:00] β Recap of the five key strategies [34:00] β Download your free βDonβt Give Upβ worksheet [36:00] β Final encouragement to keep going β it will end
π Key Takeaways:
- Small, consistent actions are better than trying to fix everything at once
- Pausing isnβt quitting β itβs a strategy for survival
- Remind yourself of your past wins to boost confidence
- Stay aligned with your values and instincts to avoid regret
- Progress is happening, even when you canβt see it
π Related Episodes:
- When everything is spinning out of control in your divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f4ArIZ83EX2faBqvf4jZs?si=WQJlsOw5RAWIOGQ1PYEMCA
- BATNA in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/32goMT4kUIbZlS4NBSAvQu?si=NGX19wQ0RCCFMzvBiSXLTA
- When your mediation goes wrong what to do next? https://open.spotify.com/episode/32goMT4kUIbZlS4NBSAvQu?si=NGX19wQ0RCCFMzvBiSXLTA
- 10 essential boundaries for divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=Ym0pV1ThQxWwDFH3SldYkg
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦ π Are heading into mediation and want to feel prepared, not panicked βοΈ Want to make smart decisions about property and parenting outcomes π§ Have heard of BATNA but donβt quite know what it means or how to use it πͺ Are unsure what your βwalk-awayβ option looks like in negotiations π¬ Feel pressured to agree to something that doesnβt feel fair or safe π§Ύ Want to understand your options without relying solely on court π οΈ Are looking for practical, tips to empower your next steps
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is general information only and is not legal advice. Always seek professional legal support for your specific situation. π Trigger warning: discussions of family court and family violence.
Are you heading into mediation or negotiating a divorce agreement? This episode is your practical guide to understanding BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement) and WATNA (Worst Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement)βtwo essential tools to protect your future.
An experienced lawyer and mediator walks you through how to prepare your own BATNA, why itβs important in family law (especially when emotions are high), and how it gives you clarity and confidence when facing tricky decisions about property, parenting, and more.
If youβre unsure whatβs fair or fearful of being pushed into a bad deal, this episode will help you step back, assess your options, and negotiate smarter.
BATNA in Divorce: How to Negotiate Property and Parenting Like a Pro
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Cover:
[00:00] β What Are BATNA and WATNA? Introduction to Divorce Negotiation Strategies
[01:31] β How Do BATNA and WATNA Help You Make Better Divorce Decisions?
[02:29] β Why Is Preparation the Key to Stronger Negotiations?
[04:19] β What Can You Learn from Real-Life Mediation Examples?
[08:28] β How Do You Create a BATNA for Property Settlement After Divorce?
[17:09] β What Are the Steps to Build a BATNA for Parenting and Custody Arrangements?
[21:49] β What Is the Emotional Cost of Going to Court Instead of Settling?
[23:15] β How Do Courts Prioritize the Best Interests of the Children?
[24:04] β What Role Do Family Reports and Child-Inclusive Mediation Play?
[25:22] β How Can a BATNA-Based Parenting Plan Help You Prepare?
[26:22] β What Is a WATNA and Why Should You Know Your Worst-Case Scenario?
[28:04] β What Are Red Flags and Manipulative Tactics to Watch for in Mediation?
[32:45] β What Financial Disclosure Do You Need for Fair Negotiations?
[33:57] β How Can Knowledge and Preparation Empower You in Family Law Negotiations?
[39:26] β What Are Your Next Steps to Negotiate Smarter and Safer?
Questions
BATNA for Property Settlement 1. List All Assets and Debts (the Property Pool)
* Include houses, cars, superannuation, bank accounts, loans, credit cards, etc.
* Make sure you also list post-separation contributions (e.g., mortgage payments, childcare, etc.).
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Identify What You Need Financially
- Calculate your living expenses and future financial needs.
- Consider your housing needs, especially if you're the primary carer of children.
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Understand What the Law Might Award You
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Review how courts typically divide property in similar cases.
- Think about contributions, future needs, and Section 79(2) & (5) of the Family Law Act.
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Consider What Youβd Get If You Went to Court
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Estimate legal costs, time delays, and emotional toll.
- This court outcome becomes your BATNA (or WATNA if itβs worse than a fair settlement).
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Build a Realistic Plan B
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Example: βIf we canβt agree, Iβll apply for consent orders, or go to mediation, or file in court.β
- Include practical details β e.g., who will live where, interim arrangements, etc.
BATNA for Childrenβs Arrangements 1. Write Out Whatβs Best for the Children
* Consider their schooling, routines, health needs, and emotional safety.
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Outline a Parenting Plan That You Think Is Fair
- Include time with each parent, holidays, special events, decision-making responsibility.
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Assess Your Exβs Likely Position
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What are they asking for? Is it reasonable? What might they agree to under pressure?
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Research What a Court Might Do
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Courts focus on the βbest interests of the childβ under Section 60CC of the Family Law Act.
- Understand how risk factors (like family violence) may impact parenting decisions.
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Create Your BATNA Parenting Plan
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If you donβt reach agreement, whatβs the next best option? (e.g., apply for interim orders, request a Child Impact Report, or attend family dispute resolution).
π§ Want more tools like this? Check out our other episodes on mediation, property settlement, and high-conflict negotiation strategies at thedivorcecourse.com.au.
Episodes Mentioned
Master your negotiations Iron Fist in a velvet glove https://open.spotify.com/episode/7D54dfjnCBW6pfkxnbgW2f?si=il_ZZ384T2KgbzQFmzB61g
Can you really mediate with a narcissist?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11?si=bFaYC3hyQjyCL67k0ZW2uQ
Financial Fairness: Spousal Maintenance and Child Support
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3S73M140m759WcOrrKms2k?si=Fz4UCZkIQmiyfcfVJ4CxBg
Disclosure the what where why how
https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=kRpLYf9YRF6FCAtYAzU7Bg
Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=MsizEEDsS3y9z7CbXeCgrQ
When your mediation goes wrong and what to do next
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WQhunLQVtWn02k5FT7Mpv?si=A70GJh9pQDSfKn6OEz7VPQ
Support Services: π Womenβs Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit your stateβs Legal Aid website π Lifeline (24/7): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§βπ¦ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ 1800 RESPECT β National DV Hotline: 1800 737 732
Listen to This Episode If You: π§ Are considering seeing a psychologist during your separation π¨ Worry your ex might access your private or your childβs counseling records π Want to understand the new Family Law Act changes around protected confidences βοΈ Need clarity on subpoenas and how courts decide whatβs relevant π Fear that private health or therapy records could be weaponized against you π©βπ§βπ¦ Want to protect yours or your childrenβs emotional safety during family law proceedings
Trigger warning: this discusses family violence and abuse.
In this important episode, we unpack the changes to the Family Law Act (effective June 10, 2025), giving courts new powers to protect sensitive medical and psychological records in family law matters.
Weβll cover how this change helps protect parents and children from having deeply personal information dragged through court, how to apply for protected confidences, and when courts might still allow access to private records.
Whether youβre negotiating a parenting plan, heading into court, or trying to support your children with therapy, this episode gives you the knowledge and questions to ask your lawyer so you can make informed decisions about confidentiality and subpoenas.
π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal and psychological advice for your situation.
Trigger warning: this discusses family violence and abuse.
β± Episode Timeline β What We Discuss: [0:00] β Whatβs new in family law and why protecting your sensitive information matters
[0:37] β Key disclaimers before we dive in
[1:01] β Recent changes to the Family Law Act Australia explained
[1:31] β Why sensitive information can impact your safety and case outcomes
[4:35] β What counts as sensitive information in family court cases during Divorce?
[5:43] β Practical tips to keep your sensitive details protected in court during divorce
[6:48] β How the family court helps protect private and confidential information
[9:37] β Real-life examples: when and how to protect documents during divorce
[13:11] β How to make a legal objection or application to protect documents during Family Court
[19:48] β Mediation and pre-action procedures involving sensitive material during divorce proceedings.
[23:19] β How to object in family court to sharing private information during your divorce proceedings.
[23:35] β What role does the family court judge play in deciding on sensitive disclosure?
[24:42] β What happens if you agree (or are pressured) to share sensitive documents in your divorce proceedings?
[25:44] β What to do if you feel coerced to disclose private details during family court.
[26:51] β The family law legislation and family court rules that protect your privacy
[30:20] β How to balance presenting evidence and protecting yourself in Domestic Violence Family Law cases
[31:35] β Can psychologists be subpoenaed in Family Court? What happens to your child's notes?
[36:58] β How court-ordered counseling and reports may affect children during Family Court
[39:57] β Final thoughts, key takeaways, and where to get help
π Key Topics Covered:
- New Family Law Act provisions on confidentiality and subpoenas
- How parents can protect their childβs psychologist notes
- Legal processes for objecting to subpoenas
- The risks of waiving your right to privacy (even unintentionally)
- When private records can strengthen your case
- Balancing evidence needs with emotional and psychological harm
- Tips for speaking to your lawyer about protected confidences
π Links & Resources Mentioned:
- π Attorney-Generalβs Fact Sheet on Protected Confidences
https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/family-law-changes-june-2025-protecting-sensitive-information
- π 1800 RESPECT β National Family Violence Support
- π Lifeline: 13 11 14 β 24/7 Emotional Support
π Related Episodes:
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When Divorce Isnβt The End: Post-Separation Abuse https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=YIkUS7njRUS8tsvFunT_ng
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What is a subpoena? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nVleHBTW9o4qOpeWhqgRt?si=KOUoIuctQs6KSf5zwq92nA
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦
π Just received your exβs disclosure and donβt know where to start π§ Want to know how to spot missing documents or sneaky omissions π» Are overwhelmed by pages of financial statements and legal jargon π Need practical tips for reviewing their disclosure without burning out βοΈ Want to understand what βfull and frank disclosureβ actually means π Are worried your ex might be hiding assets or draining accounts
Are you staring at a pile of disclosure documents from your ex and wondering βWhat am I even supposed to do with this?β
In this episode, I sit down with family lawyer Lynette Galvin (aka my mum!) to break down exactly what you need to know about reviewing your exβs disclosure after separation. From tax returns and bank statements to spotting red flags and requesting missing information, weβll guide you step-by-step so you can feel confident, not overwhelmed.
Whether youβre doing it yourself or working with a lawyer, this episode will help you avoid costly mistakes, stay focused on what really matters, and protect your financial future.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: We discuss divorce, separation, and high-conflict situations in this episode. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal guidance for your situation.
DOWNLOAD THE CHECKLIST HERE ---> https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Timeline
00:00 β Introduction to Disclosure in Divorce What financial disclosure means in separation and why itβs a critical step in any property settlement or divorce process.
00:37 β Meet the Hosts A quick hello from Laura and Lynne and why their legal and lived experience can help you through this tricky stage.
00:58 β Why Disclosure Matters So Much We explain how disclosure protects your rights, ensures fairness, and why failing to understand it could cost you big time.
01:34 β What Does βFull and Frank Disclosureβ Actually Mean? Breaking down the legal definition in family law and what your ex (and you) are legally required to provide.
02:51 β How to Analyze the Disclosure Youβve Been Given Step-by-step advice on what to do when that pile of documents lands in your inbox β and how to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
04:54 β DIY Disclosure and Your Own Research Why you shouldnβt rely solely on what your ex provides and ways you can independently verify information.
06:52 β Red Flags in Financial Disclosure Common warning signs that something might not add up: missing documents, unusual spending patterns, or assets in other peopleβs names.
19:20 β How to Handle Hidden Accounts and Unusual Transactions What to do if you suspect your ex is hiding money or diverting assets to avoid sharing them.
20:29 β The Purpose of Disclosure in Family Law Cases We talk about how courts use disclosure to assess property settlements and why honesty is non-negotiable.
21:05 β Post-Separation Contributions and Why They Matter What happens if one person has been paying the mortgage, school fees, or other major expenses since the split.
21:21 β Undisclosed Bank Accounts and Offshore Assets What to do if you find out your ex hasnβt disclosed all their financial interests.
21:49 β Free Resources to Help You Prepare for Divorce Tools and services that can help you better understand and manage disclosure.
22:32 β How to Request Additional Disclosure When youβre entitled to ask for more documents and how to word your request.
24:13 β When to Get Lawyers Involved in Disclosure Signs itβs time to stop DIYing and bring in legal support to avoid being taken advantage of.
25:27 β Forensic Accountants and Valuing Businesses or Complex Assets How professionals can uncover hidden money and accurately assess complicated financial situations.
29:19 β Risks of Avoiding or Ignoring Disclosure Why skipping this step or rushing the process can lead to unfair settlements or future legal problems.
31:32 β Dealing with High-Conflict and Manipulative Exes During Disclosure Practical strategies to manage stress and protect yourself emotionally while navigating the process.
33:04 β Managing Overwhelm With Big Disclosure Files What to do if youβre drowning in hundreds of pages of bank statements and financial records.
41:00 β Final Thoughts and Next Steps How to approach disclosure with clarity and confidence and where to get help if youβre stuck.
Resources
Episodes Mentioned in this Podcast Episode
Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=0Kzow_IlQrCa3rZR4NsD2Q
Disclosure: What, Where, Why & How
https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=uiY_bycbSM-AYQtgEVC1HQ
Is your ex hiding assets: how to uncover the truth
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KbgLRFXB9r2rCz3vycZ98?si=be63VrPJSxmJlWhocW9q6w
DIY Disclosure & Discovery
https://youtu.be/u0XLjFhiK1o?si=40AGeygbn9gE1a3p
When divorce isnβt the end dealing with Legal and Post Separation Abuse
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=JRFokBRaT1ivH2FW2Z3mMQ
π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
π§ Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦
π Youβre worried your ex is badmouthing you during divorce
βοΈ Want to know how false allegations and smear campaigns affect family court
π§ Need strategies to protect your mental health from the gossip
π Want practical legal and emotional steps to respond to defamation
π’ Feel isolated because family and friends are believing lies
π¬ Need to know how to gather evidence if your ex spreads false stories at work, school, or online
Episode Summary: Are you worried your ex is trying to destroy your reputation during your divorce? Youβre not alone. In this episode, we unpack how smear campaigns and defamation show up in family law β from gossiping with family and friends to spreading lies at school, work, or even on social media.
Laura and her mum Lynne (a seasoned family lawyer) share why some exes resort to these tactics, how it can impact custody and property settlements, and what you can do emotionally and legally to protect yourself.
This episode is your roadmap to staying calm, gathering evidence, and keeping your credibility intact when you feel like your name is being dragged through the mud.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, false allegations, and reputational attacks. π Legal Disclaimer: This is general discussion only and not legal advice. Always seek advice from a lawyer for your situation.
00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning
01:35 Understanding Smear Campaigns in Divorce
03:57 Defamation vs. Venting: Key Differences
04:45 Motivations Behind Smear Campaigns in Divorce
07:32 Family and Friends: Navigating Smear Campaigns in Divorce
14:04 School and Community: Protecting Your Reputation during divorce
19:54 Dealing with Professionals and Legal Implications during divorce
22:54 Workplace Challenges and Solutions during Divorce
25:48 Navigating Workplace and Family Law
27:02 Social Media Smear Campaigns during Divorce
31:07 Handling False Accusations in Family Court
36:37 Practical Steps for Self-Protection during Divorce
39:48 Defamation and Divorce
43:58 Maintaining Dignity and Focus During Divorce
Resources
Episodes Mentioned in this Podcast Episode
Narcisisst Playbook in Divorce
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0r7udkSJm30looYILBiNIL?si=_wp6ONRhRHGlwH9gKJvuMQ
Is it family violence
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5cflNozwnWTSfqAQTjMspg?si=2Xe3F0KXTzeETCQhZ74wIw
Your child's school and divorce
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4u5SkU2R2DY0U1uyQfi7Cs?si=a5q_r3tgRs2I00S48OZXtA
Narcissistic Ex tells lies in Court, Mediation etc Seven Tips
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=SYFT9JQ-Qziug0agbertog
Is your ex telling lies in the Family Court
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2OpAGxXfx78iAO81TMPPxJ?si=_GAl64-WQtiks2pb6Tlh8g
DARVO: 8 ways to protect yourself in court
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JyfH5fCoqrUoxeDj6jCtu?si=a45z9W2WRe-yRCAy10bIRw
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https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=7uT3sL5EQySxdUttlMk0Kg
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π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
Divorce and Defamation:What to Do When Your Ex Tries to Destroy Your Reputation
Listen to This Episode If You:
βοΈ Youβre self-represented in your family law matter
π€― Youβre feeling overwhelmed trying to respond to legal letters
βοΈ Youβre unsure of your rights when communicating without a lawyer
π¬ You need tips for writing clear, respectful, and protective responses
π¨ Youβve been told you must respond but donβt know where to start
π§Ύ You want to avoid common traps and stay legally safe
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
Episode Summary: Can you write to your exβs lawyer if you donβt have one yourself? What are the legal and strategic risksβand how can you protect yourself?
In this essential episode, we break down how to navigate communication in your family law matter when youβre self-represented. From tone and structure to legal obligations and emotional traps, we cover everything you need to know to respond with confidence and protect your position.
We also talk about when not to respond, what the Family Law Rules say about unrepresented parties, and what to do if the other sideβs lawyer refuses to deal with you directly. If youβre facing legal letters, emotional pressure, or confusion about your next stepβthis episode is your guide.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss:
00:00 Introduction: Responding to Your Ex's Lawyer
01:45 Understanding the Stress of Legal Letters
04:13 What are the Rules for Communicating with Your Ex's Lawyer
06:31 Best Practices for Writing Legal Letters
15:43 Common Tactics in Family Lawyer Letters and How to Handle Them
19:42 Guidelines for Self-Represented Individuals in Family Law and Divorce
24:54 Handling Lawyer-Guided Mediation
25:16 When to Seek Legal Advice
25:43 Responding to Offers and Legal Letters in your Divorce
27:44 Managing Emotional Reactions in your Divorce
29:27 Timing and Professionalism in Legal Responses
31:44 Disagreeing Professionally in a letter to a family lawyer
36:26 Avoidant Personality Tips in Divorce Communication
38:02 High Conflict Personality Tips in Divorce Communication
39:36 Manipulative and Controlling Personality Tips in Divorce Communication
41:34 Amicable Personality Tips in Divorce Communication
45:17 Final Tips for Self-Represented Litigants
Resources
Case N Johnson (Appellant/Husband) and M L Johnson (Cross-Appellant/Wife) [1997] FamCA 32 (7 July 1997)
https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1997/32.html?query=
RE: F Litigants in Person Guidelines [2001] FamCA 348 (4 June 2001)
http://www6.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/2001/348.html?query=
102na Information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/fv-info-sheet
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π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
π§ Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦
π§Ύ Are trying to prove family violence in family court or to your lawyer
π Have experienced abuse and need to understand what counts under the law
βοΈ Want to know what evidence is helpful in a family law case
π΅οΈββοΈ Are navigating post-separation abuse or coercive control
π¨βπ©βπ§ Are worried about your children being exposed to family violence
π Want clarity on Australiaβs legal definition of family violence
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic and family violence.
Episode Summary:
What counts as family violence in Australia? And more importantlyβhow do you prove it in court or explain it to your lawyer? In this vital episode, we unpack the newer and expanded definition of family violence under the Family Law Act, section 4AB, and explain how each part can show up in real lifeβand in legal documents.
From stalking, coercive control and financial abuse, to how children are affectedβwe cover each part of the legal definition and give guidance on how to identify, name, and prepare evidence for your case. Whether you're writing an affidavit, preparing for mediation, or just trying to make sense of whatβs happened to you, this episode is here to help you take the next step.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss: 00:00 β What is this episode about and why does it matter? 00:40 β What trigger warnings and legal disclaimers should you know before listening? 02:09 β What recent changes have been made to the Family Law Act regarding family violence? 03:50 β What exactly is included in the new definition of family violence? 04:54 β How can you start gathering evidence of family violence? 11:46 β How do you prove emotional and psychological abuse in court? 17:16 β What counts as financial or economic abuseβand how can you show it? 27:58 β How does isolation and social control factor into family violence? 32:05 β Can friends or support people help provide evidence of abuse? 32:41 β What is the legal impact of family violence on children? 34:23 β How should you document incidents of family violence? 35:58 β Why are detailed affidavits so important in family court? 37:12 β When should you seek legal advice or a lawyer's help? 46:47 β What challenges might arise in mediation or court when trying to prove abuse? 57:17 β What are the key takeaways and support resources mentioned?
π Key Takeaways:
- The legal definition of family violence under Section 4AB
- Real-life examples of what courts consider family violence
- Emotional, economic, and psychological abuse explained
- How to describe incidents in affidavits or when reporting to professionals
- Childrenβs exposure to family violence and its legal weight
- Practical ways to document your experience for court
Resources
Family Law Act Section 4AB Definition of Family Violence https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html#:~:text=1975%20%2D%20SECT%204AB-,Definition%20of%20family%20violence%20etc.,family%20member%20to%20be%20fearful.
Affidavit DIY Kit: https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/preparing-affidavit
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π Emergency & Support Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter: 1800 811 811 π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 π¨βπ§ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 π¨ DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: πΈ Are weighing the pros and cons of buying, selling or renting post-divorce
βοΈ Need to understand how your living decisions affect property settlement under family law
π¨βπ§ Are parenting and want to make housing choices that work for your kids
π‘ Just separated and unsure about where to live
π Are worried about financial risk and long-term planning
Episode Summary: Where will you live after your separation or divorce? Itβs one of the most importantβand emotionally loadedβquestions youβll face. In this episode, Iβm joined by Pedro Marin, Financial Planner from Marin Wealth, and my mum Lyn, an experienced family lawyer, to explore the options: keeping the house, selling, buying again, renting, or trying rentvesting.
We look at the emotional, financial, and legal implications of each choiceβand how they interact with the Family Law Act, especially Section 79(2) and 79(5), which focus on the needs of the children and future financial considerations. If youβre unsure what to do next or feel stuck between financial reality and emotional decisions, this conversation will help you start to look over the situation.
Disclaimer: This is not legal or financial advice and you MUST see a lawyer or financial advisor before making any decision. We are not liable for the outcome of your case and by listening to this podcast you agree to this.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline β What We Discuss:
00:00 β Whatβs this episode about and why is it crucial for separated couples?
00:15 β Who are Pedro Marin Ramirez and Lynette Galvin, and how can they help?
00:36 β What property decisions do you need to consider during divorce?
01:42 β Why do you need both financial planning and legal advice after separation?
03:05 β Should you keep the family home after divorce? What to consider
09:42 β Is now the right time to sell your house? Key market insights for separating couples
12:49 β What should you do with lump sum payments after selling the house?
20:47 β What is rent-vesting and how can it work after divorce?
23:21 β What are the risks of renting or investing in property post-divorce?
24:34 β How does the Family Court consider childrenβs housing needs in property settlement?
25:11 β Why is βjust rentingβ sometimes not enough post-separation?
26:15 β Why do you need an emergency fund and solid financial planning after divorce?
28:50 β What does The Barefoot Investor say about post-separation money management?
29:31 β What are the pathways to home ownership after a divorce?
34:43 β What are the risks of property surgery after separation?
36:01 β How do you navigate home loans and bank requirements after divorce?
40:01 β What are the final takeaways and key resources for post-separation housing?
Resources
Marin Wealth Free Calculators
https://marinwealth.com.au/calculators/
Family Law Act 79(5)
https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html
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π Key Takeaways:
- You have more options than you thinkβbut each comes with trade-offs
- Emotional attachment to a home can cloud financial judgment
- Rentvesting can work, but it's not a silver bullet
- Selling might feel like a loss but can also give you financial breathing space
- Legal and financial decisions are intertwined, especially with children involved
- The court considers both your current and future needs under family law
π§ Listen to This Episode If Youβ¦ π’ Feel like your ex is still trying to control you, even after the breakup π§ Want to understand how emotional abuse can continue post-separation π‘οΈ Need strategies to protect your mental health during negotiations βοΈ Are co-parenting with someone who is manipulative or abusive π Want to learn what psychologists say about responding calmly and firmly π Are feeling exhausted, anxious, or stuck in the dynamic even though itβs over π Need real guidance from someone who understands trauma and divorce
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about abuse. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Always speak to your own psychologist or lawyer about your specific situation.
Divorce should bring closure, but for many, the abuse doesnβt end when the relationship does. In this powerful episode, we're joined by clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova, who specialises in complex trauma, emotional and psychological abuse, and family violence.
Together, we unpack post-separation abuseβwhat it looks like, why itβs so common, and how to recognise the subtle and not-so-subtle ways a controlling ex might continue to manipulate and harass you during legal negotiations and co-parenting.
Krasi shares practical tools for setting boundaries, managing emotional triggers, and protecting yourself mentally and emotionally as you navigate separation and the legal divorce process. If you're in the thick of divorce with an abusive or high-conflict ex, this episode is your lifeline.
π Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
00:00 β What is emotional abuse in the context of divorce?
00:15 β Who is Krasi Kirova and why is she an expert in emotional and psychological abuse?
00:54 β How can you set boundaries and protect your emotional health during and after divorce?
01:08 β What legal and psychological disclaimers should listeners be aware of?
01:42 β What did listeners say about our previous episode on emotional abuse?
03:13 β What challenges do survivors face after leaving an abusive relationship?
07:34 β How do you co-parent with an abusive ex-partner?
10:41 β How can you manage anxiety when dealing with legal communications from your ex?
12:34 β Why are support systems and legal preparation so important in these cases?
18:21 β How can you manage trauma and stress in family law settings?
21:01 β What should you understand about trauma reactions during supervised visits?
22:16 β What regulations and training exist for contact centers?
22:34 β Why are victims sometimes misidentified as perpetrators in court?
23:27 β What strategies do abusers use to sabotage mothers post-separation?
24:21 β What is the DIY Divorce Blueprint and how can it help you?
25:04 β How can you handle manipulative communication from your ex?
29:04 β How do you rebuild confidence after surviving coercive control?
31:45 β What are the common self-gaslighting patterns in legal processes?
37:00 β How do you create a supportive community during and after separation?
40:14 β What are the key takeaways and resources shared in this episode?
π Links & Resources Mentioned: π 1800 RESPECT β National Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service π Lifeline β 13 11 14 β 24/7 Crisis Support π Legal Aid β Access to legal help for those in need π Kids Helpline β 1800 55 1800 β Support for young people
Dr Emma Katz - https://dremmakatz.substack.com/p/how-domestically-abusive-men-continue
π [Krasi Kirova's workshop β Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships] https://kirovapsychology.com.au/workshop/
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ποΈ Episode 198: The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing β Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You π§ Listen to This Episode If You: π Feel stuck or overwhelmed since separating π Keep delaying property or parenting decisions π Are hoping things might just βwork outβ without action πΈ Worry about legal costs or canβt afford a lawyer yet π Feel like taking action will start a fight π§ Want a plan but donβt know where to begin π§ Need clarity to move forward without fear
β οΈ Trigger Warning: Discussions include separation, family court, and financial and emotional abuse. π Legal Disclaimer: General info only. Please get specific legal advice for your situation.
Separation is overwhelmingβthereβs grief, uncertainty, and a mountain of legal stuff no one feels ready for. But what happens when you do nothing? In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a family lawyer) to talk about the risks of delaying action after separation or divorce.
From financial pitfalls to missed opportunities and emotional burnout, we explore what it really costs to stay stuck in limbo. Youβll learn if waiting βuntil things settle downβ can actually work against youβand how small steps today can protect your future.
If youβve been unsure about where to start, afraid to rock the boat, or feeling too exhausted to make decisions, this episode is here to give you the clarity and confidence to take your first step.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: 0:00 β Trigger warning, legal disclaimer & welcome
1:30 β Why so many people stay stuck after separation
3:00 β What it feels like to be in post-separation βlimboβ
4:45 β Common fears: lawyers, conflict, making the wrong move
6:10 β Emotional costs of doing nothing: guilt, stress, burnout
9:00 β Financial costs: how waiting can shrink your property pool
10:30 β Parenting: when not taking action can hurt your childβs stability
13:00 β False hope: thinking your ex will change or agree later
15:00 β How court views delaysβand why judges may not be sympathetic
17:00 β Misconceptions that delay people from acting
20:00 β What to do if youβre scared of your exβs reaction
22:30 β First steps you can takeβwithout lawyers or court
25:00 β Why the DIY Divorce Blueprint was created for people in limbo
27:00 β Reassurance: you donβt have to figure it all out right now
28:30 β Final thoughts: permission to take action at your own pace
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π Support Services: π Womenβs Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit your stateβs Legal Aid website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 π¨ National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) π€ Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: πͺ Youβre about to go to mediation and donβt know what to expect π You want to know what documents and disclosures you actually need π΅βπ« Youβre anxious about seeing your ex in the same room π§ You want practical tips to mentally and emotionally prepare βοΈ You want to give yourself the best chance of settling π Youβre worried your ex is manipulative or controlling π― You want a checklist of exactly what to do before the big day
Mediation can be one of the most powerful tools in your separation or divorce journey β but only if youβre properly prepared. In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) to reveal the top 5 things mediators wish people knew before walking into mediation.
Whether youβre facing property division, parenting negotiations, or dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex, weβre giving you practical, real-world strategies to set you up for success. From shuttle rooms to knowing your must-haves vs nice-to-haves, this episode is your ultimate mediation prep guide.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of family and domestic violence. π Legal Disclaimer: This is general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice for your situation.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Mediation
00:10 Top Five Things Mediators Wish You Knew
01:18 Separate Rooms for Mediation -Do you have to be in the same room with your ex? (Hint: no!)
07:03 Compromise is Key - Why compromise is crucial β and how to prepare for it
11:52 Be Prepared with Documents - Clear goals vs nice-to-haves: how to prep like a pro
17:17 Anticipate Your Ex's Roadblocks
21:53 Navigating Conversations About Your Ex
22:20 Understanding Your Role in Mediation
22:29 Join Our Free Webinar
23:06 The Mediation Experience
24:13 Handling Pressure During Mediation
27:07 Preparing for Mediation -Your must-have mediation prep checklist
29:55 Dealing with Different Divorce Personality Types
34:00 Tips for staying calm and focused with difficult exes
36:26 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes
40:26 Where to get free mediation and disclosure checklists
π Key Topics Discussed: * The 5 things mediators wish you knew * How to emotionally prepare for mediation * What to do when youβre dealing with coercive control or narcissism * Practical tips for organising your evidence and disclosures * The power of clear goals and flexible thinking * How to keep calm and avoid being derailed * The truth about compromise β and how to protect yourself while doing it * Why youβre still in control, even if you feel overwhelmed * Using mediation as a tool β even if your ex is impossible * The role of support people, tech tips, and being emotionally ready
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π Support Services: π Womenβs Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit your stateβs Legal Aid website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 π¨ National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) π€ Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: πΌ You're negotiating your super split after divorce in Australia
π§ You've been told βletβs just equalise super β itβs fairβ
π΅βπ« Youβre confused about what super is worth vs. cash
πΈ Youβre worried about being left worse off long-term
π§Ύ Youβve made non-financial contributions (like parenting or homemaking)
βοΈ You want to make sure your property settlement is legally fair
π You suspect youβre being pressured into a bad deal
Are you about to deal with your superannuation in your divorce or separation? Before you sign off on that βequal split,β youβll want to hear this.
In todayβs episode,we sit down to unpack the worrying trend of super equalising β where separating couples are told to simply make their super balances the same and move on. But here's the thingβ¦ thatβs not what the family law of Australia says, and it could seriously disadvantage you, especially if youβve been the lower income earner or the stay-at-home parent.
We share case examples, court insights, and some shocking myths that are floating around in legal circles β and we tell you what to do if a lawyer, mediator, or even your ex suggests this path. π Legal Disclaimer: This is general info only β not legal advice. Please seek independent legal support for your personal situation.
0:00 β Are you about to deal with your super during divorce? Here's why this episode matters
1:00 β What does βequalising superβ even meanβand why is it a problem?
2:00 β Why super is just another form of property under Australian law
3:30 β Why some lawyers are pushing for equal splits (and why that's dangerous)
5:30 β The golden rule: Super is subject to all the same rules as other property
7:00 β Are you being pressured to leave super out or just equalise it? Here's what to watch for
9:00 β How parenting and homemaking count as contributions to super
11:00 β Dodgy tactics: Over-contributing to super or hiding income
12:00 β How new 2025 laws include behaviour and abuse in property settlements
13:30 β When equalising might actually be okayβbut only if the whole pool is fair
14:30 β Real case: Baxter & Baxter β what happens when the court gets it wrong
17:00 β What you can say to your ex (or lawyer!) if they push for equal super splits
18:30 β What Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act saysβand why it matters
21:00 β Your capacity to earn, care for kids, and stay healthy are all future needs
23:00 β Why just βkeeping the superβ might leave you financially vulnerable
25:00 β The courtβs 5-step approachβand why percentages come last
27:00 β Why agreeing to percentages too early can backfire
30:00 β What to take to your lawyer to get proper advice on super and property
32:00 β Are SMSFs and defined benefit funds treated differently in divorce?
33:30 β Can you ever access your super early for legal fees?
34:00 β Why 97% of people settle out of courtβand what that means for fairness
36:00 β Why consent orders can protect you more than a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA)
π Key Topics Discussed * Why superannuation is property and must be assessed like any other asset * The myth of "equalising super" β and who really benefits from it * How future needs (Section 75(2)) affect super division When courts donβt approve equal splits β even in consent orders * How coercive control and fear can influence unfair agreements The difference between cash and super β and why it matters to your financial future * What the law actually says about super splitting * Case examples: Coghlan & Coghlan (2005) and Baxter & Baxter (2010) * Why defined benefit and self-managed funds need special attention * What info to bring to your lawyer when discussing your super and property pool
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RESOURCES
SECTION 75 of the family law act https://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s75.html
π§ Email the show: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:
π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
βοΈ 1800 RESPECT β Family/domestic violence support βοΈ Lifeline: 13 11 14 β For emotional support
One of the most underestimated parts of separation areβ settlement offers. Whether youβre negotiating parenting arrangements, property division, or both, knowing how and when to make (or respond to) an offer can save you stress, time, and serious money.
We break down how settlement offers work, when to consider using Calderbank letters, how Section 117C of the Family Law Act affects legal costs, and the emotional traps that can trip you up during negotiation. We also talk about avoiding lowball traps, the risks of ignoring offers, and what to do if youβre dealing with an avoidant or high-conflict ex.
π Legal Disclaimer: This is a general legal discussion only. Always seek independent legal advice before making decisions about your case.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: π¬ Youβve just received an offer and donβt know what to do π Youβre drafting an offer and want to avoid costly mistakes π€― Youβre confused about Calderbank offers or βwithout prejudiceβ negotiations βοΈ You want to protect yourself from future legal costs β³ Youβre wondering when the best time is to make an offer π¨ Youβre worried your ex will use offers to manipulate or delay things π¬ You need tips for negotiating with high-conflict or avoidant exes π‘ You want to feel more confident and strategic about settlement
0:00 β legal disclaimer
1:00 β Why settlement offers are the key to ending court drama and legal stress
2:00 β Whatβs the point of making an offer if your ex is high-conflict or controlling?
3:30 β How making an offer (even if rejected) can help you with legal costs
5:00 β What are βparty and partyβ costs and how much can you actually recover?
6:30 β Why you MUST put all offers in writing β and how to do it right
7:30 β Tips for structuring your offer: how to make it clear and court-friendly
9:00 β What happens when an offer is accepted β and how to turn it into consent orders
10:30 β Do you still have to go to court if youβve accepted an offer?
12:30 β Whenβs the best time to make a settlement offer?
14:00 β Why timing matters and how it could impact a cost order
16:30 β Should you lowball or highball your offer like Facebook Marketplace?
18:00 β Mediation vs formal offers β what negotiation tactics are acceptable?
19:30 β What to ask yourself before you make an offer you might regret
21:30 β Mental prep: why understanding βfairβ in the legal system is essential
24:00 β How guilt, people-pleasing, or pressure can lead to bad decisions
26:30 β The danger of controlling exes and how your history may influence your judgment
28:00 β What does βwithout prejudiceβ mean and why does it matter in negotiations?
30:00 β How to write a strong, effective, and strategic settlement offer
31:30 β What to do if you receive a last-minute or unreasonable offer
33:00 β Can you put time limits on offers? Are they enforceable?
34:30 β How to request more time or more information before accepting
36:00 β What if the offer is close, but not quite right? Counter-offer strategies
37:30 β Should your new partner, family, or friends be involved in decisions?
39:00 β Section 117C of the Family Law Act and how costs get awarded
41:00 β What if you ignore an offer completely?
43:00 β The emotional toll of negotiating and the power of staying objective
45:00 β Final tips for successful settlement negotiations
48:00 β Understanding your worst and best-case court outcomes before accepting
49:00 β A final reminder to always seek legal advice and protect your future
π Key Topics Discussed * What makes a good settlement offer β and why timing matters * How Calderbank offers work and why they can protect you legally * What Section 117C of the Family Law Act says about court-ordered costs * The risks of ignoring or rejecting offers (especially in family court) * When to negotiate and when to stand your ground * Tips for writing a clear and strategic offer * What happens if your offer is accepted (and what to do next) * How to deal with unreasonable or manipulative exes * Why offers must always be documented in writing * What to do if you're pressured into accepting an offer you're unsure about * The emotional reality of negotiation β and why it's okay to take your time * Who should be involved in helping you assess or make an offer (spoiler: not your new partner!)
π Links & Resources Mentioned * βοΈ 1800 RESPECT β Family/domestic violence support βοΈ Lifeline: 13 11 14 β For emotional support π§ Email the show: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com * β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: * π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 * π Family Court Info β Section 117C https://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117.html
ποΈ Related Episodes * Calderbank Offers https://open.spotify.com/episode/2B2Se7hTIBAOg5f5YJ5wqE?si=tJCQ-bSlSz-6YOl2jRgr4Q * Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
π§ Email the show: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:
π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
βοΈ 1800 RESPECT β Family/domestic violence support βοΈ Lifeline: 13 11 14 β For emotional support
#DivorceSupport #FamilyLawAustralia #SettlementOffers #SeparationHelp #CalderbankOffer #DivorceNegotiation #LegalCosts #FamilyCourtMatters #WithoutPrejudice #FairSettlement #PostSeparationAbuse #HighConflictDivorce #PropertySettlementTips #FamilyLawHelp #TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Major Changes Are Coming to Family Law in Australia β Hereβs What Youβll want to Know In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn, our favourite straight-talking family lawyerβto unpack the biggest Family Law changes coming into effect on June 10, 2025.
We dive into how these legal reforms will impact property settlements, family violence considerations, companion animals (yes, pets!), financial disclosure rules, and more. Whether youβre currently separating, in court, or supporting someone going through it, these new laws could change the game for you.
We also break down why these changes matter, how they could help victims of coercive control or economic abuse, and the kinds of evidence that could now influence outcomes in property disputes. As always, we bring the info in a way thatβs easy to understandβno legal jargon, just real talk..
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of family and domestic violence. π Legal Disclaimer: This episode contains general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek independent legal advice for your situation.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
πΎ Youβre separating and worried about who gets the dog πΈ Youβve experienced economic or financial abuse βοΈ Youβre navigating a property settlement and unsure whatβs βfairβ π Youβre already in court and want to know if these changes apply π Youβve struggled to get your lawyer to take family violence seriously π Youβre overwhelmed with financial disclosure or suspect your ex is hiding assets π You want to protect your rightsβand your peace of mindβin the process
β±οΈ Timeline Summary β What Youβll Hear
- 0:00 β Trigger warning and legal disclaimer
- 1:00 β Why these 2025 law changes matter
- 2:00 β How family violence can now impact property settlements
- 5:00 β Understanding the new βwastageβ rule (big shift!)
- 10:00 β What counts as economic abuse in property disputes
- 15:00 β Your pet isnβt just βpropertyβ anymore β companion animals and court
- 20:00 β Financial disclosure: new pressure on lawyers and parties
- 27:00 β Childrenβs Contact Centres: mandatory accreditation and safety focus
- 33:00 β Less Adversarial Approaches: whatβs changing and whatβs not
- 38:00 β Does this apply to your case if you're already in court?
- 41:00 β How these changes can helpβor hurtβyou depending on your approach
- 46:00 β Final wrap-up: What to do now and what to watch for next
π Key Topics Discussed in This Episode
- The biggest Family Law reforms in 20+ years β and what triggered them
- How coercive control and economic abuse will now factor into property settlements
- Why βwastageβ matters (and how post-separation spending could impact outcomes)
- The real legal status of pets in 2025 β not just βpropertyβ anymore!
- New financial disclosure rules and how theyβll change the game
- The pressure on lawyers to address family violence properly
- Why Childrenβs Contact Centres are changing β and becoming saferThe shift towards less adversarial approaches in court
- Whether these changes apply to your existing case
- What to do now to prepare if youβre currently separated or about to file
π Links & Resources π Download the updated Central Practice Direction π Link to the Attorney-General's 2025 Family Law fact sheets
https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/family-law-property-changes-10-june-2025-fact-sheet-separating-couples
https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/family-law-changes-june-2025-information-family-law-professionals
βοΈ 1800 RESPECT β Family/domestic violence support βοΈ Lifeline: 13 11 14 β For emotional support π§ Email the show: thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:
π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
ποΈ Related Episodes: * Does Domestic Violence Effect Property Settlement https://open.spotify.com/episode/5ByQsXAVUNYQyLVspOFF37?si=WbBHNF5GRACQ4Od20K05FA * Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist * Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmashttps://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=Vin4YgpKT020Aout1aWXzA
Episode 194: What the 2025 Family Law Reforms Mean for You (Pets, Property & Power Plays) #FamilyLawAustralia #DivorceSupport #PropertySettlement #EconomicAbuse #CoerciveControl #FamilyViolence #FamilyCourtReform #KnowYourRights #SeparatedAndStrong #DomesticViolenceAwareness #LegalUpdates2025 #SharedParenting #CustodyAndProperty #ProtectYourPeace #DivorceAustralia
Are you trying to figure out how to divide the property after your separation or divorce? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with my mum, but also an experienced family lawyer β and we walk you through the eight most common ways people settle property in Australia.
Whether youβre hoping to keep the house, want a clean break, or are totally confused by super splitting, weβre breaking it all down for you. From simple percentage splits to creative asset swaps β and even the risks of doing absolutely nothing β this episode is your go-to guide for understanding your options.
If youβve been wondering how the Family Court might view your proposed agreement, or you just want clarity before making any big decisions, this oneβs for you.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: We do talk about separation, divorce, and family and domestic violence in this episode. π Legal Disclaimer: Everything shared here is general info only β not legal advice. Always speak to your own lawyer about your unique situation before making any decisions or signing anything.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: π‘ Youβre separated and thinking about how to split your assets
π€ Youβve heard βitβs always 50/50β and youβre not sure if thatβs true
π Youβre trying to keep the house, super, or a specific asset
π΅βπ« Youβre overwhelmed by all the legal options
π Youβre scared of doing the βwrongβ thing with your property settlement
βοΈ You want a fair deal that protects your financial future
π§ Youβre a visual thinker and need real examples to understand your options
DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation.
π Key Topics Discussed in This Episode 1. What a property settlement actually is β and why it matters after separation 2. Common myths about property division β including the truth behind βitβs always 50/50β 3. The 8 different ways you can reach a property settlement β from informal agreements to full court proceedings 4. How to decide which option is right for you β based on your safety, finances, and communication with your ex 5. The risks of doing nothing β and why delays can cost you more than just money 6. Keeping the house, super, or other assets β whatβs realistic and what the court considers 7. How to protect yourself legally and financially β especially in high-conflict or coercive control situations 8. When and how to get legal advice β and how to prepare for it 9. Case examples to help you understand what each option might look like in real life 10. What to do if your ex wonβt cooperate or communicate
ποΈ Related Episodes: * Consent Orders vs BFAs: Whatβs Best for You https://open.spotify.com/episode/5qgGhdAl5UaOo7LHb2Yf5Y?si=1d87hZ-iQ2iPadSuzyHBAQ * I Really, Really Want to Keep the House https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=uz9H0V3eRsaXzKKoLlMfaA * Selling the House in Divorce: What You Need to Know https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=7I8graLWQrm3PD_4brxOng
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:
π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
β³ Episode Timeline:
0:00 β Trigger warning and legal disclaimer
1:00 β What are we covering in todayβs divorce property settlement episode?
2:00 β What is the classic percentage split in a divorceβand how does it work?
3:30 β Why isnβt property always divided 50/50 in a divorce? What factors do courts consider?
5:30 β What are the risks of saying βYou take the house, Iβll take the superβ during divorce?
7:00 β When would this kind of divorce agreement be rejected by the court?
9:00 β Should we just sell everything and divide the cash after a divorce?
11:30 β Why can selling assets post-divorce shrink your overall property pool?
13:00 β What happens if one person buys the other out in a divorce settlement?
15:30 β How do you make sure the house is valued fairly during divorce proceedings?
17:00 β Can we trade assets like cars for cash or super for shares in a divorce?
18:30 β Is super always equal in value when dividing assets in divorce?
20:00 β What is superannuation splittingβand how does it work in a divorce?
22:00 β Is equalizing superannuation always a fair solution in divorce settlements?
23:30 β Can one person take on debt in exchange for more assetsβand is that safe in a divorce?
25:00 β What are the legal risks when one partner takes on joint debt after divorce?
27:00 β What happens if we leave everything as it is and avoid a divorce property settlement?
29:30 β What real divorce stories show why doing nothing can go wrong?
33:00 β What are the new 2025 divorce-related lawsβand how does post-separation spending affect your case?
34:30 β How can you figure out whatβs fair in your unique divorce situation?
Episode 193 Beyond 50/50: Creative & Legal Ways to Settle Property in Divorce in Australia #DivorceSupport #PropertySettlement #FamilyLawAustralia #SeparationSupport #DivorceTips #KeepTheHouse #SuperSplit #FinancialAbuseAwareness #FairDivorce #LegalHelp #SplitAssets #CoParentingSupport #EqualPropertySplit #FamilyCourtMatters #DivorceCoursePodcast
In this eye-opening and practical episode,a seasoned family lawyer helps to unpack the 10 most frequently asked questions about child custody in Australia.
Whether you're fresh out of a breakup, preparing for court, or trying to figure out what your rights are, this episode is packed with general education and emotional clarity every separated parent needs. From understanding how courts decide who gets custody, to navigating situations involving domestic violence, high-conflict co-parents, and parenting plans this episode helps you gain a better understanding of what's what in child custody issues.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You... * Are recently separated and unsure where to start * Want to learn how to understand your parental rights in court * Are co-parenting with someone difficult, absent, or controlling * Are trying to protect your child from a harmful environment * Need clarity around parenting plans vs court orders * Are preparing to go to family court * Feel overwhelmed by legal jargon and want straight answers
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about family and domestic violence.
π Legal Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Every family law case is different, and you should always seek professional legal support specific to your circumstances.
π Episodes Mentioned in This Episode: * Official Parenting Orders: Do I really need them? π§ https://open.spotify.com/episode/7xeIIHEDcFPKwtVZ54fM67?si=vwYKXPZHRRCISokEuc2D-Q * Case Mentioned: Isles & Nelissen [2022] FedcFAMC1A 97 β an βunacceptable riskβ family court case
π Links & Resources * π§Ύ Word Salad Checklist (Download) - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist * π 1800 RESPECT β Support for family and domestic violence * π Lifeline (13 11 14) β Mental health and emotional support * π 000 β In case of immediate danger
β±οΈ Timeline Summary 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warnings
01:02 Understanding Child Custody
02:08 Immediate Steps After Separation
03:19 Consent Orders vs Parenting Plans
04:33 High Conflict Situations
05:56 What is the Best Interests of the Child
15:07 What is the difference between Legal vs Physical Custody
18:39 Domestic Violence and Custody
23:33 Surgical Risk and Legal Analogies
24:21 Can My Child Decide Who They Want to Live With?
24:26 Webinar Invitation: Empower Yourself Through Divorce
25:40 Can I Relocate with my child and Custody: Legal Insights
27:14 What can I do if my ex is Threatening of International Relocation
27:54 Joint Custody: Pros, Cons, and Realities
30:18 Proving an Ex is Unfit for Custody
31:26 How do you Modify and Enforce Custody Arrangements
33:30 How to Deal with Manipulative and Controlling Exes
34:08 High Conflict Custody Situations
36:20 Avoidant Exes and Custody Challenges
38:08 Final Thoughts and Support Resources
π Hashtags (for Social Media) #ChildCustody #FamilyLawAustralia #ParentingAfterSeparation #HighConflictDivorce #CoParenting #FamilyCourt #LegalParenting #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SharedParenting #CustodyBattle #DivorceSupport #ConsentOrders #ParentingPlan #FamilyLawHelp #ProtectiveParenting
π Final Disclaimer: Nothing discussed in this episode should be taken as legal advice. Please speak with a qualified legal professional who understands your personal situation and jurisdiction.
ποΈ Episode Title: Top 10 Child Custody Questions Answered (What Parents Need to Know)
Feeling trapped in limbo while waiting for your property settlement to go through? Youβre not alone β and there may be a way out.
In this episode, Iβm joined again by my mum, Lynette Galvin β a family lawyer with over 35 years of experience β and weβre talking about a powerful but underused legal option called early distribution of funds.
This is a game-changer for anyone financially stuck during separation. Whether youβre separated under one roof, struggling to pay rent, or locked out of joint funds, this episode is full of practical ideas to help you understand some options. Weβll walk through how it works, who it can help, how to ask for it, and what to do if youβre facing financial abuse or coercive control.
If even one person hears this and realizes they can ask for access to their own money β then this episode has done its job.
Legal Disclaimer: This is not legal advice please see a lawyer before making any decisions.
β οΈ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses financial abuse and coercive control. If you find this triggering, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 1800RESPECT.
π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦ * Youβve separated from your partner but are still waiting for the property to be divided * Youβre struggling financially and wondering if you can access money now * Youβre living under the same roof as your ex and things are tense or unsafe * Youβve heard βyou just have to waitβ from a lawyer or friend * Youβre dealing with financial abuse or coercive control * You want to understand your rights and feel more empowered in the process * Youβre looking for a way to shift the balance in negotiations or court
β±οΈ Episode Timeline 0:00 - A warm welcome and why this episode matters if youβre stuck during property settlement 2:00 - What is early distribution of funds, and why more people should know about it 4:00 - Who qualifies? Scenarios from both wealthy and struggling couples 5:45 - Why financial abuse and coercive control may be stopping you from accessing your money 8:00 - The new definition of family violence and how it can work in your favour 10:30 - How to structure your request so itβs fair and has a better chance of success 12:45 - The mindset shift: realizing youβre entitled to ask 14:30 - What the courts consider when deciding to release funds early 16:30 - Step-by-step: how to apply and what documents youβll need 19:45 - Going to court: what to expect, what to say, and how to prepare 23:30 - Common misconceptions and sneaky tactics to watch for 26:45 - Can superannuation be released early? (Spoiler: unlikely!) 28:00 - Risks of early distribution: What you need to know before you ask 29:30 - How releasing funds can shift power and break negotiation deadlock 31:45 - How to approach this with different ex-partner personality types in Divorce 36:00 - The quote Mum wants on a cushion: βIf you donβt ask, you donβt get.β
π Links & Resources * π Definition of Family Violence β Family Law Act (Section 4AB) * π§ Free checklists and resources β mediation prep, disclosure, and more * π§ Episode on Balancing the Unbalanced in family law negotiations * https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YbIll7Ti69WGd9OpbmjDb?si=JlxhC1wBTkaOILAIVYdYaw * π§ Episode on Response to Initiating Application (for court document guidance) * https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JV5mcqDB7Wu6lEAFVO2w1?si=-VMYcvlpSSqxn-RrDeJgCg * Definition of Family Violence
https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html
π Closing Thoughts This episode is your reminder that you have options β and you donβt have to wait until the final property settlement to start rebuilding your life. If youβre in a tough spot financially, please talk to your lawyer about an early distribution. And if they say no, ask why.
You deserve to feel safe and supported through this process.
If you found this episode helpful, weβd be so grateful if you could rate, follow, and share the podcast. You never know who else out there might need this information right now. π
Are you? Learn about the signs of economic or financial abuse, hear some real-life examples of how economic abuse manifests in relationships and practical steps you can take to protect yourself and your financial future. Find out how it is legally recognized under the Australian Family Law Amendment Act 2024, and why itβs considered a form of coercive control. Also find out about the new laws effective from June 2025 and how they impact property settlements and financial disputes.
π¨ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses economic abuse and coercive control, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline for confidential advice and assistance.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: β Feel like your partner controls your money or financial decisions β Have been told youβre βbad with moneyβ or pressured into signing financial documents π‘ Are worried that financial abuse is continuing after separation π‘ Want to understand how the new legal changes address economic abuse π Need advice on documenting financial control and seeking help π Are experiencing financial stress during or after separation
DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: * What is Economic and Financial Abuse? * Signs and Red Flags of Economic Abuse * How Economic Abuse Is a Form of Coercive Control * Legal Changes: Economic Abuse Recognized as Family Violence * Impact on Property Settlements and Financial Outcomes * How to Protect Yourself from Economic and Financial Abuse * Support Services and Resources for Victims
π Links & Resources Mentioned: π 1800 RESPECT β Support for family and domestic violence:
- Website: 1800respect.org.au
- Phone: 1800 737 732
π National Debt Helpline β Financial counselling and support:
- Website: ndh.org.au
- Phone: 1800 007 007
π Menβs Referral Service β Support for men using or experiencing violence:
- Website: mrs.org.au
- Phone: 1800 943 539
π Understanding Coercive Control β Australian Government Resource:
- Website: Australian Government Resource on Coercive Control
ποΈ Related Episodes: 1. Recognizing Coercive Control: How to Protect Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/12jgZw1IwIFLK5oPlp0its?si=CvxdW85YRJ6e9pX1katgPQ 2. Navigating Financial Disclosure in Family Court https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist 3. Understanding Emotional Abuse: Signs, Impact, and Recovery https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=ujMpXOD8QzeLbeA_rlC4Ew 4. How to Tell Your Story and Communicate Coercive Control in Your Documents https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=rO-DnFixQqKTPMCbkpe3jA
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:
π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
β³ Episode Timeline:
00:00 Introduction to Economic Abuse
00:24 Recognizing the Signs of Economic Abuse
01:09 Trigger Warning and Support Resources
01:57 Understanding Economic Abuse in Family Law
02:28 Examples of Economic Abuse
04:23 Subtle Forms of Financial Control
12:12 Post-Separation Financial Abuse
15:25 Questions to Identify Financial Abuse
21:30 Coercive Control and Financial Dependence
24:29 Understanding Coercive Control and Financial Abuse
25:34 Real-Life Examples of Financial Abuse
27:06 Legal Definitions and Changes in Family Law
30:37 Proving Financial Abuse in Court
32:03 Steps to Escape Financial Abuse
40:39 Support and Resources for Victims
42:53 Encouragement and Final Thoughts
Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldnβt Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You
Think you know what divorce looks like in Australia? Think again. In this episode, we're busting some of the most common myths that trip people up emotionally, financially, and legally during separation and divorce. Whether youβre at the start of your journey or knee-deep in negotiations, these misunderstandings could be holding you back or costing you big.
Join Laura and her mum, Lynette Galvin β a family lawyer with 35+ years of experience β as they unpack 13 myths they hear all the time, including ones that cause fear, confusion, and prevent people from getting what theyβre entitled to. From custody myths to super splitting, property settlement fears and bad legal advice β this episode is your reality check.
DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: β Are worried that leaving the house means losing it in the property split β Think child support covers all expenses π‘ Believe the court always favours mothers in parenting cases π‘ Are avoiding legal advice to βsave moneyβ π Think you have to wait until your divorce is final to sort out property βοΈ Are scared to date during separation because it might βhurt your caseβ π§ Just want to stop second-guessing everything your ex or their lawyer is telling you
π Links & Resources Mentioned: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/DatingPost40 π Dating After Divorce Survey β Help us shape resources for separated parents:
π§ Related Episodes:
- Equalising Super: Is It Fair or a Financial Trap? Not yet released
- Is It Emotional Abuse? Recognising Coercive Control https://youtu.be/PHfhLZXlUc8?si=l2U3B8hOKhKlr2v-
- How to Prepare for Mediation Like a Pro https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=IEdr3tdQnF4fLMnE
π» Search Our Full Podcast Library β https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
β οΈ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
π¬ Final Thoughts: No matter where youβre at in your divorce journey, understanding the truth behind these myths can empower you to make better decisions and avoid costly mistakes. Donβt let fear, bad advice, or outdated beliefs hold you back.
π Hit play now and take the guesswork out of your separation. π§
β³ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Myths
01:38 Myth 1: Property Settlement Timing for Divorce in Australia
02:42 Myth 2: Do Family Courts Favour Mothers for Custody
04:33 Myth 3: Ownership and Coercive Control in Divorce
06:38 Myth 4: Equalizing Superannuation in Divorce
07:45 Myth 5: Dating After Separation can it affect your divorce or custody?
10:19 Myth 6: Can you Settle Divorce Without Court
11:58 Myth 7: Leaving the House and Kids during divorce
16:47 Myth 8: Not getting legal Advice Saves Money in Divorce
19:08 Myth 9: Property Settlements Are always 50/50
22:45 Myth 10: Child Support Covers All Expenses
24:07 Myth 11: Do Family Lawyers Know Everything
30:20 Conclusion and Resources
Divorce Myths That Could Cost You β Debunked! Episode 189
π° Is your ex hiding assets? Are they draining joint accounts, concealing super, or transferring money to family and friends? You're not alone, and there are legal ways to uncover what's yours. Learn about the most common ways people try to hide assets in divorce, including trust funds, cash jobs, disappearing assets, and hidden overseas accounts. Find out how the Australian Family Court courts handle these cases, what legal tools you can use to track down missing assets, and what to consider doing before mediation or family court. If youβre frustrated by a lack of financial disclosure or suspect your ex is hiding money, this episode is a must-listen. π¨ Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australia and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. π§ Listen to This Episode If You: β Believe your ex is hiding assets or not fully disclosing their financial situation β Have noticed money disappearing from joint accounts π‘ Suspect your ex is hiding superannuation, cash jobs, or business earnings π‘ Want to know what legal steps you can take before mediation or court π Wondering how courts handle trusts, business assets, or overseas properties βοΈ Are frustrated with non-disclosure and want to know what the courts will do about it Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1οΈβ£ Draining Joint Accounts: Can You Get the Money Back? 2οΈβ£ Superannuation & Hidden Retirement Funds 3οΈβ£ Trust Funds, Businesses & Company-Owned Assets 4οΈβ£ Cash Jobs & Undeclared Income 5οΈβ£ Selling Assets for Cheap to Friends & Family 6οΈβ£ Disappearing Assets: What If They Just Vanish? 7οΈβ£ Hiding Money & Property Overseas 8οΈβ£ What If Your Ex Refuses to Do Financial Disclosure? π Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode: π Superannuation Information Request (Form 6) β ATO Superannuation Search π Family Court Superannuation Search via Comm Courts Portal β Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia π πDisclosure Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist π More Podcast Episodes Youβll Love: * Untangling Valuations: How to Find Out What Assets Are Worth https://youtu.be/pkNKwBXMu9I?si=Lq2Q0UvXh_AVHcJH * DIY Disclosure: What to Do If Your Ex Wonβt Provide Financial Records https://youtu.be/c273nHUN9DE?si=nshmPtJwqkdk8hAO * Avoiding Traps: Why You Should Never Negotiate Percentages Before Knowing the Property Pool https://youtu.be/D8xj-52q9ZE?si=N_-NKmXlszdXa-Rb
β³ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction: Uncovering Hidden Assets in Divorce
00:14 Common Tactics for Hiding Assets
01:40 Legal Rights and Draining Joint Accounts
04:29 Superannuation and Hidden Funds
06:55 Trust Funds and Corporate Veils
08:41 Valuing Businesses in Divorce
12:25 Cash in Hand and Undeclared Income
15:21 Selling Assets to Friends
16:04 Burnt Leg and Old Cars
16:27 Valuing and Insuring Classic Cars
17:01 Court's Approach to Asset Distribution
18:57 Handling Disappearing Assets
19:48 Hiding Assets Overseas
22:37 Non-Disclosure Issues
28:04 Child Support and Hidden Assets
29:32 Final Thoughts and Legal Advice
Emergency Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123
Explore the tactics abusive partners use to maintain control, how emotional abuse can impact divorce and custody proceedings, andβmost importantlyβhow to protect yourself, rebuild your confidence, and move forward with clarity.
When emotional abuse in your relationship or divorce, it becomes confusing, isolating, and overwhelming. Many people donβt realize that abuse isnβt always physicalβdisrespect, manipulation, and control can be just as damaging, especially during separation.
In this episode, weβre joined by Krasi Kirova, a clinical psychologist specializing in complex trauma, emotional and psychological abuse, and family violence. With extensive experience in trauma-informed approaches, Krasi helps us break down the Three Ds of Emotional AbuseβDisrespect, Disempowerment, and Distortionβand how these behaviors can show up in divorce.
π¨ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses emotional and psychological abuse, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please reach out to 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) for confidential advice and assistance.
π§ Listen to This Episode If You: βοΈ Feel like your voice was never heard during your marriage or separation βοΈ Have experienced gaslighting, manipulation, or financial control in your relationship βοΈ Are struggling to explain emotional abuse to your lawyer or the court βοΈ Want to understand how emotional abuse impacts divorce and child custody βοΈ Need tools and strategies to protect yourself during and after separation βοΈ Are curious about the new coercive control laws and how they affect family law cases
Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Abuse in Divorce
00:35 Meet Krausey Kirova: Expert in Emotional Abuse
02:31 Understanding Emotional Abuse: The Basics
08:34 The 3 D's of Emotional Abuse
09:40 Disrespect: The First Pillar of Emotional Abuse
15:42 Disempowerment: The Second Pillar of Emotional Abuse
21:37 Addressing Hidden Abuse
21:48 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation
22:33 Understanding Distortion in Abusive Relationships
23:48 The Impact of Gaslighting
25:42 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns
33:47 The Role of Therapy and Mediation
37:40 Workshops and Support for Women
38:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Episode Highlights: πΉ [04:00] β What is emotional abuse, and how does it differ from disagreements or bad behavior? πΉ [10:00] β The Three Ds of Emotional Abuse:
- Disrespect β Verbal put-downs, silent treatments, invalidation of your feelings.
- Disempowerment β Financial control, isolation, and decision-making without your input.
- Distortion β Gaslighting, blame-shifting, and rewriting reality. πΉ [27:00] β Why emotional abuse is often hard to recognize when youβre in it. πΉ [31:00] β How to document abuse effectively for legal cases and communicate it to your lawyer. πΉ [36:00] β Should you try family therapy or mediation with an emotionally abusive partner? πΉ [40:00] β The impact of new coercive control laws in Australia and how they apply to divorce.
Links & Resources Mentioned: Resources & Support: β Krasi Kirovaβs "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships" Workshop β
Krasi Kirova is a clinical psychologist specialising in complex trauma, difficult family dynamics, emotional and psychological abuse in relationships, dealing/separating from a narcissistic partner, and setting healthy boundaries. She has extensive training in trauma-informed approaches and family violence. Aside from her work in private practice, Krasi has worked at Monash Universityβs health services and co-facilitated trauma groups in a psychiatric hospital. She currently runs a workshop for women called "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships".
https://kirovapsychology.com.au/workshop/
β 1800 RESPECT β Confidential support for domestic & family violence: https://www.1800respect.org.au β Mediation Checklist β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
β Legal Resources on Coercive Control β https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/fv/overview
Recommended Books: π Why Does He Do That? β Lundy Bancroft π Amazon | Booktopia (AU)
π The Verbally Abusive Relationship β Patricia Evans π Amazon | Book Depository
π In Sheepβs Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People β George K. Simon π Amazon | Book Depository
Related Podcast Episodes: π Gaslighting in Divorce: How to Spot It & Shut It Down β (Do you have a link for this episode? I can add it!) π Coercive Control & The Family Court: What You Need to Know β https://youtu.be/OKJB6BY1N-M?si=hvZXb9-n-4qEgMbf
π Mediation or Manipulation https://youtu.be/-7emsMbzX5o?si=6cOLhB8lZxGS8ZQa
π Support Services
- Lifeline β 13 11 14 (Australia)
- 1-800-RESPECT β Domestic Violence Support
π If you found this episode helpful, donβt forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information.
#DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders
Donβt forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it!
Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.
Have you just realized your ex might be a covert narcissist? Thought your separation was amicable,only to find yourself blindsided by manipulation and deceit? In this episode, we break down the six key signs of a covert narcissist during divorce, property settlement or coparenting. From playing the victim to using the legal system against you, weβll help you spot the red flags and protect yourself.
Listen to This Episode If You: β Are going through a divorce or property settlement and feel like something is off. β Want to understand the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist. π° Need to protect your financial assets from manipulation. βοΈ Are dealing with custody battles and want to safeguard your children. π Suspect your ex is using legal loopholes to control or deceive you.
Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Covert Narcissism in Divorce
01:23 Understanding Covert Narcissists
02:31 Recognizing the Victim Role
05:24 Manipulation Tactics in Divorce
13:26 Custody Battles and Child Manipulation
17:53 Legal Manipulation and Delays
20:03 Mediation Challenges with Narcissists
22:33 Legal Advice and Second Opinions
22:56 Mediation with a Covert Narcissist
23:10 Document Everything
23:49 Investigate Property Claims
24:07 Handling Unreasonable Negotiations
25:15 Free Resources for Mediation
28:02 False Allegations and Manipulation
35:37 Expecting Amicable Pretenses
42:06 Final Thoughts and Advice
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: πΉ The Victim Role: How covert narcissists gain sympathy while making you feel like the problem. πΉ Financial Manipulation: Hidden assets, delaying tactics, and emotional blackmail. πΉ Custody Battles & Control: The sneaky ways they use your children against you. πΉ Legal Abuse & False Allegations: How they use the court system to exhaust and intimidate you. πΉ How to Protect Yourself: Strategies to recognize manipulation and safeguard your rights.
Links & Resources Mentioned: π Support Services
- Lifeline β 13 11 14 (Australia)
- 1-800-RESPECT β Domestic Violence Support
π Recommended Episodes:
- The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce β Learn the tactics they use and how to counter them.https://youtu.be/OrRvd9XzuIg?si=KDYG1a0Fh8xXBn7q
- 8 Ways to Protect Yourself from DARVO β Recognize and defend against manipulation.https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=54TMNNtK_H5r2QGj
- Can You Mediate with a Narcissist? β Practical advice for handling negotiations. https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=iY_J7pz-uA6ChOwc
π If you found this episode helpful, donβt forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information.
#DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders
Donβt forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it!
Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional.
Are you going through a divorce property settlement and unsure whether to choose a Consent Order or a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA)? In this episode, we break down what they are and the key differences between the two. We also discuss the pitfalls and risks to keep in mind when navigating this.
Listen to This Episode If You: β Are going through a separation and need to divide property fairly. β Want to know whether a Consent Order or a Financial Agreement is the better choice. π° Need to understand the costs involved in each option. βοΈ Want to protect yourself from future financial claims. π Want to know if consent orders or bfaβs can be contested in court
00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement
00:57 Understanding Consent Orders
01:32 Exploring Binding Financial Agreements (BFAs)
02:14 Comparing Consent Orders and BFAs
03:20 Legal Advice and Costs
05:28 Risks of Not Having Legal Agreements
12:41 Process of Getting Financial Agreements
15:33 Process of Getting Consent Orders
21:49 Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them
22:15 Understanding Consent Orders and Financial Agreements
22:46 The Risks of Non-Disclosure in Financial Agreements
25:44 Signing Under Pressure: What You Need to Know
27:55 The Importance of Proper Legal Advice
30:49 Challenging and Enforcing Settlements
35:49 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice
40:48 Conclusion and Legal Disclaimer
π If you found this episode helpful, donβt
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: πΉ Understanding Consent Orders * What is a Consent Order, and how does it work? * Why the Family Court reviews and approves these agreements. * The benefits of having a legally binding, court-approved settlement.
πΉ What You Need to Know About Financial Agreements (BFAs) * Why they are no longer called Binding Financial Agreements. * How BFAs differ from Consent Orders and why they carry more risk. * The legal costs and technicalities involved in creating a Financial Agreement.
πΉ Consent Orders vs. BFAs: Cost and Legal Requirements * How much does a Consent Order cost vs. a BFA? * Why BFAs require independent legal advice for both parties. * Can you challenge or overturn these agreements in court?
πΉ Avoiding Common Pitfalls * Why informal agreements leave you legally unprotected. * The dangers of signing under pressure or coercion. * What happens if your ex doesnβt comply with the agreement?
πΉ Finalizing Your Property Settlement * A walkthrough for getting a Consent Order approved. * When a BFA might be necessary and how to ensure it holds up in court. * Questions to ask before signing any financial settlement.
Links & Resources Mentioned: π Free Resources & Guides:
- DIY Divorce Blueprint β Learn how to create your Consent Orders https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
- Legal Aid Resources https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home
π Recommended Episodes:
- Do I Really Need a Consent Order? https://youtu.be/AJrX8ovEEY8?si=LOAfESvxibj_-VYz
- Protecting Yourself After Divorce: Financial & Legal Steps
- Spousal Maintenance: Am I Eligible? https://youtu.be/lafPlHTSWp0?si=aCXWrOmWyJqZN4Bc
Donβt forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it!
Consent Orders or Binding Financial Agreements: How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks
#FamilyLaw #DivorceSettlement #PropertySettlement #ConsentOrder #FinancialAgreement #BFAvsConsentOrder #LegalAdvice #Separation #DivorceSupport #FamilyCourt #Prenup #DivorceLaw #LegalTips #CoParenting #RelationshipBreakdown #CourtOrders
Child Support Battles: What They Donβt Tell You & How to Fight Back Are you struggling with child support? Whether youβre battling a non-paying ex, dealing with inconsistent advice from child support agencies, or feeling overwhelmed by legal loopholes, youβre not alone. In this episode, Crystal Padooch, founder of Child Support Consultants, reveals the five critical things every parent should know about child support. With 14 years of experience, Crystal explains how the system really works, the common tactics some parents use to avoid paying, and what steps you can take to protect yourself and your childrenβs financial future. We also dive into the emotional side of child support, including the guilt many parents feel, the stress of dealing with financial abuse, and how to navigate the system without giving up. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer or child support consultant for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: β Are struggling to get child support payments from your ex. β Feel like youβre getting different answers from child support agencies and donβt know what to believe. π‘ Want to understand how child support assessments work and what your options are. π‘ Are dealing with a financially abusive or manipulative ex who is trying to avoid paying. π Need guidance on how to escalate complaints and fight back against unfair decisions. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1οΈβ£ Understanding the Child Support Process * The two main pathways: Child Support Agreements vs. Child Support Assessments * How the child support formula works and what factors impact payments * Why your exβs reported income may not reflect their actual earnings
2οΈβ£ Dealing with Inconsistent Advice from Child Support Agencies * Why different case officers give conflicting information * The best way to escalate your case and get clear answers * How to document calls and complaints to protect yourself
3οΈβ£ Let Go of Child Support Guilt * Why seeking child support is NOT about youβitβs about your kids * How child support ensures stability and financial security for your children * Overcoming the stigma and online shaming around child support
4οΈβ£ How to Protect Yourself from Financial Abuse & Manipulation * The common tactics used by coercive controllers and financial abusers * What to do if your ex lowers their income or refuses to work to avoid payments * Strategies to prove financial dishonesty and fight back
5οΈβ£ What to Do If Your Ex Refuses to Pay * The enforcement actions child support agencies can take * Why some loopholes allow people to dodge payments (and how they should be fixed!) * Steps to take if youβre owed child support but not receiving anything
Links & Resources Mentioned: π Child Support Consultants β Book a free clarity call with Crystal: https://childsupportconsultants.com.au/ π Divorce Course Podcast β More episodes on navigating separation & co-parenting π Government Child Support Information β https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/contact-child-support Emergency Contacts: π Womenβs Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 βοΈ Legal Aid: [Visit Legal Aid Website] π Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 π¨βπ¦ Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men π§ Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help π¨ National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 π€ Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
01:48 Understanding the Child Support Process
04:58 Dealing with Inconsistencies in Child Support Calls
10:13 Addressing Child Support Guilt
14:32 Avoiding Comparisons with Others' Stories
16:49 Handling Financially Abusive Ex-Partners
20:42 Navigating the Child Support Process
21:30 The Emotional Toll of Child Support Battles
21:57 Advocating for the Child's Best Interest
22:50 Legal Abuse and Court Involvement
23:09 DIY Divorce Blueprint
26:54 Challenges in Child Support Collection
29:26 System Loopholes and Legislative Issues
37:31 Support for Domestic Violence Victims
38:54 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
#ChildSupport #DivorceCoursePodcast #FamilyLaw #SingleParenting #CoParentingTips #FinancialAbuse #ChildSupportAwareness #ChildSupportHelp #DivorceSupport #CustodyBattle #CoParentingChallenges #ParentalRights #KnowYourRights #LegalHelp
False Allegations of Parental Alienation: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183
Learn about how abusers use parental alienation allegations to deflect from their abusive behavior and maintain their power. Explore how accusations of parental alienation can be weaponized against the healthy parent to continue coercive control or abuse, often leaving the targeted parent in a difficult legal and emotional battle.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Are facing false parental alienation claims in your divorce or custody case. β Feel like your ex is using alienation accusations as a tactic to continue coercive control. π‘ Want to understand how to identify when alienation accusations are used to deflect from abusive behavior. π‘ Are navigating a high-conflict separation and need tools to protect your relationship with your children. π Need strategies to counter false accusations and focus on the best interests of your kids.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1. The Abuse Behind Parental Alienation Allegations
* How abusers use alienation claims to deflect attention from their coercive control or abusive tactics.
* The psychological and emotional impact on the healthy parent when accused of alienation.
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Understanding Coercive Control in Divorce and Custody Cases
- How coercive control continues even after separation through alienation accusations and using DARVO tactics.
- The power dynamics at play when one parent tries to isolate or manipulate the children from the safe or preferred parent.
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False Claims of Parental Alienation
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Why abusive partners may accuse the other parent of alienation to keep them under control.
- How these accusations undermine the healthy parentβs credibility and alienate them from their children.
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Protecting Yourself and Your Children
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How to document and respond to alienation accusations in a way that protects your relationship with your children.
- The importance of seeking legal support to defend against false alienation claims and protect your rights as a parent.
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The Impact of Alienation on Children
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How false parental alienation tactics affects childrenβs well-being and their relationship with the targeted parent.
- Strategies for ensuring your children have a healthy relationship safe parents.
Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources:
- Parental Alienation Resource
- Word Salad Checklist
- Mediation Checklist
- Before You Go Checklist
- Recordings show psychologist's harmful conduct against family | ABC News https://youtu.be/WdyCOQtVPuk?si=kX4LaPR5eN5vxfaJ
- Re Andrew [1996] FamCA 43; (1996) FLC 92-692 http://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1996/43.html
Recommended Episodes:
- Mind Over Manipulation: The Grey Rock Technique
- How to Read a Legal Letter Like a Lawyer
- Navigating Post-Separation Abuse - https://youtu.be/SUKUR65ARfs?si=YMbQLnCPQexRr3wv
- Court Conveyor Belt: What to Expect
- Navigating Trash Talking in Divorce: https://youtu.be/7FuiLHYXX2U?si=uD94wdFSHb6OucLm
- DARVO 8 Ways to Protect yourself During Divorce - https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=g-ODhmqLOKw3EqfR
- Why your Narc ex may want a parenting coordinator https://youtu.be/ZoOwuYb6sdk?si=gKUN3x_rTv4fTeSL
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Final Thoughts: Parental alienation accusations are often used as a manipulative tactic by abusers to continue their coercive control after separation. Understanding the dynamics of false alienation tactics and taking proactive steps to protect yourself and your relationship with your children and protect yourself in court. Stay focused on whatβs best for your kids and make sure you have the legal support and strategies in place to counter false claims.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation
01:16 Understanding the Alienation Industry
02:10 The Pipeline of Alienation Claims
08:14 Child Custody Gatekeeping and Accusations
17:21 The Role of Professionals in False Alienation Cases
21:17 Legal Strategies and Reunification
24:58 Financial Incentives for more abuse through Child Custody
25:23 New Child Custody Laws in the Family Court Of Australia
26:04 Coercive Control and Family Court
26:36 Choosing the Right Family Professionals for your Custody Battle
29:09 Family Therapy and Legal Implications in the Family Court
34:52 Documenting and Defending Against False Accusations of Alienation
42:56 Fighting Against Reunification Camps
44:42 Support and Resources for Parents
Do you really need to formalize your property or parenting agreement when going through divorce or separation? What if you are amicable? Or you both just agree anyway. What's the point in having a formal order? What if you just donβt have any property and so you feel there isnβt any point in getting official property orders. What if you are worried if you push for property or parenting orders it will make your ex more angry? What if you are terrified of going to court? In this episode,we break down the most common reasons we hear people telling us why they donβt want to get official formal orders and explain the considerations these people may need to make. Whether you're amicable, high conflict, or dealing with a narcissistic or avoidant ex or feeling overwhelmed, or unsure about the legal process, this episode clears up some common myths and confusion and equips you with the knowledge to help you make informed decisions for your future. From financial security to protecting your children's stability. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You: π Are considering whether to formalize your property or parenting arrangements. π‘ Want to understand the benefits of formal orders for financial security and children's stability.
πWhat to know the difference between a parenting plan and a consent order β Are unsure about the process of consent orders and whether lawyers need to be involved. π‘ Feel hesitant about escalating conflict or upsetting your ex by pursuing formal orders. π Need reassurance about the steps involved in protecting your legal rights post-separation.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1. What Are Property and Parenting Orders?
* Differences between informal agreements, parenting plans, and formal court orders.
* Are Formalizing agreements with consent orders crucial?
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Common Objections to Formal Orders:
- "Weβve already agreed; we donβt need anything formal."
- "Itβs too expensive and time-consuming."
- "Weβre amicable, so weβll stick to our agreement."
- "I donβt want to escalate conflict or upset my ex."
- βI donβt want to go to courtβ
- Laura and Lyn address each objection and provide solutions.
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Risks of Avoiding Formal Orders:
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Examples of real-life cases, including the Farmer and Bramley case, where not finalizing property arrangements had disastrous consequences.
- How changes in circumstances (e.g., new partners, financial issues) can complicate informal agreements.
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The Role of Consent Orders:
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How consent orders work and why they donβt require going to court.
- The importance of having a clear, enforceable agreement for both property and parenting.
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Long-Term Benefits of Formal Orders:
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Financial protection against future claims.
- Reduced conflict through clear boundaries and responsibilities.
- Peace of mind knowing youβve protected yourself and your family.
00:00 Introduction to Property and Parenting Orders
01:26 Understanding Parenting and Property Orders
03:22 The Importance of Formal Orders
09:19 Addressing Common Objections to getting official court orders in Divorce
18:34 Handling Conflict and Safety Concerns during divorce
23:34 Avoiding Court and Legal Advice during divorce
23:49 Understanding Consent Orders for your divorce
24:05 The Role of the Registrar in the Family Court of Australia
24:54 Avoiding Court Appearances during Divorce
25:06 Financial Agreements and Fairness in your property settlement
25:38 Parenting Plans and Children's Matters during your divorce
26:08 The Importance of Formal Orders in Family Law and Divorce
28:16 Dealing with Property and Financial Settlements in your Divorce
28:21 Family Lawyer Australia Webinar Invitation
28:53 Addressing Common Concerns during your divorce negotiations
32:42 The Risks of Delaying Formal Orders in your divorce
36:39 Legal Tips and Avoiding Pitfalls in your Divorce negotiations
43:28 Encouragement and Final Thoughts for going through divorce negotiations
47:14 Listener Reviews and Closing Remarks
#DivorceHelp #PropertySettlement #ParentingOrders #DivorceSupport #SeparationEducation #FamilyLaw #HelpForDivorce #CoParentingTips #DivorceJourney #FinancialAbuseAwareness #DivorcePlanning #ProtectYourAssets #ParentingAfterDivorce #DivorceAndProperty #SeparationTips
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Episode: * Related Episodes: + When Amicable Goes Wrong https://youtu.be/-qpS1hsxJ0s?si=FuwXba5pdSABjxS_ + Documenting Coercive Control https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=tLl7zfkObmykhV4U + Weapons of Tax Destruction with Pedro Marin https://youtu.be/tsDlMphLRWk?si=YNlQI1wa9PE28XoP + Divorce Limbo https://youtu.be/RLEmGeZRvb0?si=uYlV1kfK2CdEjmqB + How to Create Parenting Plans and Orders https://youtu.be/-DC72tq8FRM?si=LiFqoWZFNImMFA9v
- Free Resources:
- Checklist for Before You Leave https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in
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Word Salad Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist
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Legal Cases Mentioned:
- Farmer and Bramley
- Woodland and Todd 2005
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- DV Connect Womenβs Line: 1800 811 811
- National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
In this episode we discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner whilst waiting for property settlement. We share practical strategies for setting boundaries, sorting money, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether youβre navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you surviveβand hopefully also thrive. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are living with your ex-partner post-separation.
- β Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space.
- π‘ Want tips on co-parenting and managing household finances in the short term.
- π‘ Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse.
- π Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
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Setting Boundaries:
- How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home.
- Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy.
-
Legal Considerations:
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Can your ex legally force you out of the home?
- When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe.
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Communication Strategies:
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Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict.
- Protecting yourself by communicating like a judge is watching.
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Financial Management:
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Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence.
- Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation.
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Co-Parenting While Living Together:
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Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings.
- Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviors.
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Emotional and Practical Self-Care:
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Building routines to maintain mental well-being.
- Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups.
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Preparing for the Next Steps:
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Documenting assets and financial information.
- Consulting a lawyer
- a safety plan for the future.
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Safety Considerations:
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Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse.
- Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
- Separation Under One Roof Doβs and Donβts
- Does Family Violence Affect Property Settlement?
- Episode: Income, Expenses, and Property Settlement Tips
- Mortgages and Divorce
- Episode: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
Free Resources:
- Checklist for Before You Leave - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
- Word Salad Checklist
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- DV Connect Womenβs Line: 1800 811 811
- National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:43 Legal Disclaimer and Jingle
01:44 Living Under One Roof: Challenges and Boundaries
03:32 Physical and Emotional Safety in Divorce
05:33 Communication and Legal Precautions during separation
07:39 Financial Manipulation and Consent Orders in Divorce
09:35 Spousal Maintenance and Financial Independence after separation
16:05 Co-Parenting Strategies during separation
19:26 Managing Finances During Separation
26:16 Navigating Separation Under One Roof
26:41 Handling Financial Responsibilities during divorce
28:04 Dealing with Conflict and Court Warnings in Divorce
33:42 Prioritizing Self-Care and New Routines during divorce
36:05 Preparing for Property Settlement and Children's Matters
42:43 Safety Considerations and Creating a Safety Plan for Divorce
47:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Final Thoughts: This episode offers both practical and emotional tips for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. Youβre not aloneβhelp and support are available to guide you through this difficult time.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
What happens to the car during a divorce in the short and long term? Laura and Lynette a Family Law Specialist breaks down the practical and legal considerations for handling your cars during separation in the short term and in property settlement for the long term. From ensuring your safety to avoiding dirty tricks, they offer tips and education to help you stay in control of this often-overlooked asset and issue. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π‘ Need strategies to protect your car from manipulative tactics.
- π Are unsure how cars are treated in property settlements in Australia.
- β Have questions about ownership vs. registration during a divorce.
- π‘ Are navigating financial issues like loans, debts, and repossession.
- π Are dealing with a high-conflict ex whoβs using your car as leverage.
Key Topics Discussed:
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Ownership vs. Registration
- Does the name on the registration determine ownership?
- How the Family Court views cars as part of the property pool
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Practical Tips for Temporary Arrangements
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Sharing car use before final orders.
- Handling registration, insurance, and repair costs during separation.
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Safety Measures
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Securing spare keys and checking for tracking devices.
- Protecting toll account privacy and monitoring unusual activity.
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Dirty Tricks and How to Handle Them
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Preventing your ex from reporting the car as stolen.
- Safeguarding against unpaid loans, canceled insurance, or unauthorized sales.
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Property Settlement and Cars
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How cars are valued and treated in the division of assets.
- What happens with leased or inherited vehicles.
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Long-Term Decisions
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Deciding whether to keep, sell, or downgrade your car post-settlement.
- Using cars as leverage in negotiations and mediation.
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Emotional and Legal Considerations
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Coping with the emotional impact of losing a car.
- Documenting the carβs condition to protect yourself legally.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
- Episode: Untangling Property Settlement Valueshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6TsVIfGubFR8lCP7Za9fJL?si=7nqAgGSORRarcVo1cyfMkA
- Episode: Untangling your Finances Property Settlement https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kzPgQeof2iUXhRBivXxOR?si=89dNLNQEQvWPTaVjidN7Bg 19.54
- Episode: Income, Expenditures, and Shared Expenses in Divorce
- https://youtu.be/6i6EA_92_8U?si=dg7o2sTsdP6KGev- 5:54 time slot
- Episode Balancing the unbalanced
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YbIll7Ti69WGd9OpbmjDb?si=HRNnqhH5R22RJOiQn7b3rg 6:57
- Episode: Coercive Control putting your experience in writing https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=NHbWlHLaSrunzk2G2xwZ-w 10,01
- I really want to keep the house https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=9r4e9ar6Rl6QMTCmLKAd0Q 34.57
- Tools to Protect Yourself:
- ARC App - https://www.arc-app.org.au/resources
- Empower You App
- PPSR - https://www.ppsr.gov.au/registering/decide-if-you-should-register-ppsr/why-register-ppsr
Free Resources:
- Word Salad Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist
- Mediation Checklist
- Before You Go Checklist
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- DV Connect Womenβs Line: 1800 811 811
- National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
00:00 Introduction: Navigating Car Issues in Divorce & De Facto Separation
01:41 Ownership vs. Registration: What You Need to Know
03:22 Temporary Arrangements: Practical Tips
05:19 Safety Concerns: Protecting Yourself and Your Car
08:20 Financial Manipulation: Recognizing Dirty Tricks
18:31 Legal Considerations: Court's Role in Car Settlements
21:36 Final Thoughts and Resources
22:46 Court Orders and Vehicle Transfers
23:58 Handling Debts and Loans
25:26 Understanding Car Leases
28:43 Valuing Vehicles in Settlements
32:12 Protecting Yourself Legally and Emotionally
36:59 Final Thoughts and Advice
#DivorceAndCars #DivorceTips #PropertySettlement #CoParentingChallenges
#DivorceSupport #AssetDivision #HighConflictDivorce #FamilyLaw #DivorceStrategy #FinancialAbuse #CoerciveControl #DivorceCoaching #ProtectYourAssets #LegalHelp #DivorceJourney
Are you dealing with a manipulative or narcissistic type ex during your divorce? Is your ex lying to everyone during your divorce? In this episode, Laura and Lynette use Brandolini's Lawβthe concept that it takes much more effort to refute lies than to create themβand explore how it applies to family law. With practical strategies and actionable tips, they unpack how to deal with false allegations, overwhelming legal tactics, and post-separation abuse. Whether youβre facing mediation, legal letters, or the courtroom, this episode is packed with strategies to help you stay organized, conserve energy, and protect your peace.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are dealing with a narcissistic or manipulative ex during divorce.
- β Feel overwhelmed by false allegations or legal or post separation abuse.
- π‘ Want to learn strategies to document and disprove lies effectively.
- π‘ Are struggling to conserve your energy and stay focused during legal battles.
- π Need tools to manage post-separation abuse in mediation or court.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
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Understanding Brandoliniβs Law:
- The principle that it takes significantly more effort to refute lies than to create them.
- How this applies to family law and dealing with false allegations.
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Steeling Yourself for Narcissistic Tactics:
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How to prepare mentally and emotionally for lies and manipulations.
- Why expecting the unexpected can give you the upper hand.
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Conserving Energy and Focus:
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Tips for using your time and resources wisely when faced with endless false claims.
- The importance of documenting everything from the start.
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Proving Credibility:
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Demonstrating that your ex is an unreliable witness.
- Why detailed documentation and evidence are critical for the court.
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Navigating Mediation and Court:
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Strategies for dealing with falsehoods in affidavits and mediation sessions.
- How to choose your battles based on the stage of your case.
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Self-Care During Legal Battles:
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Managing the emotional toll of post-separation abuse.
- Creating a safe space for yourself and your children.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
- Free Resources:
- Word Salad Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist
- Mediation Checklist
-
Before You Go Checklist
-
Recommended Episodes:
- Mind Over Manipulation: The Grey Rock Technique
- https://youtu.be/bXEV6LJPQR8?si=KdJ5xzP9tR1vea46
- How to Read a Legal Letter Like a Lawyer https://youtu.be/4BebPATCgLc?si=3ID87tAoQXRb5KZ3
- Navigating Post-Separation Abuse
- https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=2OW7tnlGWErAljap
- Court Conveyor Belt: What to Expect
- https://youtu.be/ZgK7ExIgOfk?si=4_yT8CHeZATSAOos
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Final Thoughts: Navigating lies and manipulations during divorce is exhausting, but you donβt have to do it alone. With the right strategies and support, you can overcome these tactics and come out stronger. Remember, organization and preparation are your best tools. Take it one step at a timeβyouβve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
00:00 Introduction to Brandolini's Law and Narcissism in Divorce
00:21 New Year Greetings and Divorce Realities
01:32 Understanding Brandolini's Law
02:50 Applying Brandolini's Law to Divorce & Family Court
04:16 Seven Tips for Handling Narcissistic Exes in Divorce
06:03 Using Your Energy Wisely in Family Court
08:40 Proving Lies and Managing Distractions in Mediation or Family Court
20:43 Interim Hearings and Final Trials & Affidavits in Divorce
27:31 Mediation Strategies with a Narcissist
32:48 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce.
- β Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas.
- π‘ Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress.
- π‘ Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays.
- π Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally.
- πTrying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year.
Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.
Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges
The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether youβre under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive.
Key Topics Discussed:
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Legal Matters During the Holidays:
- Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period.
- What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex.
- Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications.
- Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break.
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Co-Parenting Challenges:
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Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements.
- Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays.
- Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings.
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Living Under One Roof:
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Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house.
- Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children.
-
Safety Planning:
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Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays.
- Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help.
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Building New Traditions:
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Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics.
- Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids.
- How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences.
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Self-Care and Support:
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Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays.
- Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support.
- Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded.
Final Thoughts:
The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether youβre dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.
Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. β€οΈ
Links & Resources Mentioned:
- Episodes Mentioned in this
The Doβs and Donβts of being separated under one roof
https://youtu.be/jdi4snqP_I4?si=6zmQS1XAYZPkm_gG
Handover Hell: how to deal handover
https://youtu.be/YphzOPZmC3k?si=YSOHinsBvaxvLlX5
Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79
https://youtu.be/vnUo5oEGQRo?si=sB49DNfdTYHPqGPo
No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas
https://youtu.be/DoO7aNw9ja0?si=8lgyHLtPdsnimn91
10 essential boundaries in divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=yfH4diXg8GWBd6ba
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline: 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police: 000
- DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811
- DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
- National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strongβyouβve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays
03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof
07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues
18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners
22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders
23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation
27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays
29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements
30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday
34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes
37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition.
Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how itβs recognized in the new laws.
- β Are curious about how any type of family violence impacts property settlements.
- πΎ Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms.
- π‘ Need to understand the regulatory changes to Childrenβs Contact Services.
- π‘ Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
-
Expanded Definition of Family Violence:
- Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support).
- Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements.
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Family Violence and Contributions:
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Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions.
- Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse.
-
Pets in Property Settlements:
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New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale.
- Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns.
-
Childrenβs Contact Services (CCS):
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Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers.
- Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS.
-
Protected Confidences:
-
Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and childrenβs statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
- Supplementary explanatory memorandum
- Family Law Amendment Bill
https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2425/25bd013
- https://parlinfo.aph.gov.au/parlInfo/search/display/display.w3p;query=Id%3A%22legislation%2Fems%2Fr7234_ems_d9233ec7-832e-4627-88c2-6970f86eb262%22
- ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/
-
Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app
-
Episodes for More Information:
- Communicating Coercive Control in Your Affidavit
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw
- Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=FvU_ux2ATBuiBL5IW2g8gQ
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
- LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation.
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people.
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support.
- Relationships Australia: Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues.
- Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance.
- DVConnect Womensline: Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7.
- DV Connect Mensline: Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support.
These resources are here to help you. Please donβt hesitate to reach out for supportβyou are not alone.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes
01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act
03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse
06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions
10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct
15:47 Pets and Family Law
19:12 Children Contact Centers
20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers
22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences
25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling
27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence
31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases
36:32 Documenting Family Violence
38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts
Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health.
Whether itβs property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead.
If youβve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session.
β Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation.
π‘ Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible.
π‘ Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation.
π Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
The Purpose of Mediation:
Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best.
Manipulative Tactics to Watch For:
Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation.
Strategies During Mediation:
Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps.
Post-Mediation Steps:
Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached.
Common Pitfalls:
βDonβt be surprised ifβ scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands.
Emotional Management:
How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things donβt go as planned.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limitedβsign up now to secure your place.
4VOICES
https://www.4voices.org.au/
Christmas Appeal
https://4voiceschristmasappeal.raiselysite.com/
Episodes Mentioned in this
8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=tDmJwHO3ch-uYhTg
Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=k7G6OfpMwPP1Hqgg
Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=54omWq46LHn_Eb6R
Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=BgdkYJrQTeokTlSK
Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 https://youtu.be/JSYc-yun-jM?si=VCefzLZb-ie-f1m9
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strongβyouβve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce
02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce
03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type
06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect
10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation
20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation
25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation
26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks
28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes
30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics
36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation
38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation
43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources
#familycourt #familylaw #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorcesettlement #divorceplanning #familylawattorney #divorcesupport #mediation #divorcelawyer #divorcepodcast #childsupport #custodybattle
Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but youβre not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are just starting your divorce journey and donβt know what comes next.
- β Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement.
- π‘ Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements.
- π‘ Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex.
- π Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: 1. Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes. 2. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when youβre still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints. 3. Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself. 4. Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations. 5. Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children. 6. Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary. 7. Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life.
RESOURCES
- Course Enrolment:
- Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limitedβsign up now to secure your place.
Emergency Contacts: * LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/ * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia 1300 364 277 * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Donβt forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and rememberβyouβve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and itβs important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement
01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate
03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce
06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce
10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce
14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements
19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce
20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits
22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce
23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce
27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce
33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community
BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish weβd known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the wayβinsights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce.
And thereβs more! Next week, weβre hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions. * β Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone whoβs been through it. * π‘ Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce. * π‘ Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you. * π Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries. * Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared. * Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable. * DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist.
Webinar Highlights: * Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more. * Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert. * Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space. * Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat!
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, donβt miss out on our final free webinar of the year next weekβitβs an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there!
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and itβs important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations
00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce
00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex
00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process
00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce
01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement
01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits
02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy
03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register
If youβve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that youβre facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need.
Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce.
- β Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system.
- π‘ Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex.
- π‘ Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements.
- π Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
- Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why itβs so pervasive.
- Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system.
- Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions.
- Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your exβs actions and the importance of filing timelines.
- Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and itβs important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse
Related Episodes that may be helpful:
- Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=OZp5WhOwyR7Omkyf
- How to divorce a statue https://youtu.be/tM75QvgjM_0?si=9tAnY9EXLu7JjcOS
- Family Court Vs Settling https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=NvrUKsGVIlMt8WNC
- When your ex files in court - response to initiating application https://youtu.be/qTHDgWTjF1A?si=rETvrOrpMKf_IwzZ
- Navigating Community Legal Services https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=Qjla_vk0NAZ2eS_U
- Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer https://youtu.be/k0AhA3MIjM0?si=onpRY7wU7DTeC63Q
Free Resources & Links:
- CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
- Section 117c of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117c.html
- Free Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline: 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police: 000
- DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
- DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
- National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and itβs important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse
00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources
01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals
01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse
03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction
11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C
16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court
22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings
23:12 Register Today!
23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings
24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants
27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse
33:04 Building Emotional Resilience
37:55 Support and Resources
38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion
When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions youβll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether youβre in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court. * β Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling. * π‘ Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements. * π‘ Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past. * π Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyerβs advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option. * Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your exβs legal fees, and how this can impact your decision. * Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why itβs crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision. * Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer. * Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions. * Disclosure Issues: Why itβs essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information. * Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Related Episodes: * Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer
- Divorce Myths
https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg
- The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations
ββhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g
Choosing your lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA
Red Flags when choosing a lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce
01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling
06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases
10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court
16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling
19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce
20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce
21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce
22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce
25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes
29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process
32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce
34:26 Final Thoughts
This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind.
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries.
β Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents.
π‘ Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health.
π‘ Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict.
π Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations.
Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits.
Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts.
Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation.
Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control.
Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines.
Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process.
Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary.
Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support.
Childrenβs Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
- The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=Bl0w1opYQHKk6UVHSZr6Qg
- Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Nz2etsYgdMVym8BdcaLwE?si=O7mqw42aT6GZVF58tBopBw
- Separated Under One Roof Doβs & Donβts
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=_bVJyhtBS5edyJhjf10H1A
- What about their stuff dealing with your exβs belongings in Divorce
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=nqVtorlkTxq39fRZbm0L1g
- Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6klNAJWd2vMAl0LWJq8XCC?si=o0seCI1IQK-od5eAevRXcA
- When amicable goes wrong
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1aK3dni8maqPLOx9vKQDG4?si=IFa7dV5yTkyw76LUXFf0Aw
- Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=S-8buOZNRa2wu2DW--0-JQ
- Financial Fairness in Divorce
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3S73M140m759WcOrrKms2k?si=YzpyqEpPT4iJ8EWeLbyuXg
- Disclosure
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=ojEdwxpgSWyg2pBb3EhWRA
- Handover Hell
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=pfZ4ctZbS1CsjWJdoHifgw
- Navigating Parental Trash Talk
- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=kP__OnksRxivMCK8k8bMbw
- Links to other things
- https://www.ourfamilywizard.com.au/
- https://www.ourchildren.com.au/
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline: 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police: 000
- DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
- DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
- National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
- 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries
- 02:41 Communication Boundaries
- 06:55 Task Boundaries
- 09:25 Digital Boundaries
- 15:28 Living Boundaries
- 18:59 Financial Boundaries
- 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements
- 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries
- 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries
- 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders
- 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries
- 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts
What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered.
Whether youβre squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyoneβs situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions.
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process.
β Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement.
π‘ Need to understand what happens to wages after separation.
π‘ Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees.
π Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled.
Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why itβs sometimes crucial to separate your accounts.
Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond.
Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money.
Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process.
Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens.
High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPp... Help My Ex is spending all the money https://open.spotify.com/episode/32WS... Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNr... Protecting yourself from Darvo https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Jyf... Debt Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/074h...
Free Resources: Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce & Money 01:31 Understanding Savings During Separation 03:08 Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement 06:04 The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce 16:27 Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation 20:46 Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation 22:34 The Importance of Documentation and Mediation 24:21 Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation 29:28 Navigating Government Support and Property Pools 32:45 The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements 34:54 Proactive Steps for Financial Security 38:50 Final Thoughts
Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether youβre just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.
Listen to This Episode If You:
β Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself.
π‘ Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others.
π‘ Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation.
π Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process.
π Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Donβt Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process.
Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays.
Parenting Plans: Donβt force your children into uncomfortable situationsβespecially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship.
Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce.
Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics.
Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved.
Donβt Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and donβt let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair.
Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time jobβdonβt let it consume your entire life.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
How to Document Coercive Control - Communicating Coercive Control in Documents / Ep. 161
Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q
Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg
Disclosure Dilemas Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory / Ep. 148
Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies / Ep. 119
Free Resources:
Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Contents of this Video
00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce
01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush
02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents
04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations
05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse
08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics
08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns
10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information
12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less
15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce
20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation
21:03 Is the System Child-Centred?
23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws
27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements
29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders
34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce
38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development.
β Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers.
π‘ Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows.
π‘ Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests.
π Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues.
Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groupsβtoddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your childβs development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether youβre in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
- Primary Attachment for Babies: Why babies up to three years old typically benefit from staying with their primary caregiver, and how this impacts parenting plans and court orders.
- Navigating Consent Orders: How to create orders that take into account the evolving needs of your children as they grow from toddlers to teens.
- Transitioning to Overnights: Strategies for gradually increasing parenting time and handling situations where the non-primary caregiver hasnβt been involved.
- Primary School Age Considerations: Managing custody and parenting plans as children start school, including logistical challenges like packing bags and attending social events.
- Teenagers and Flexibility: How to adapt parenting plans for teens who want more independence, and what happens when they refuse to follow the existing custody arrangements.
- High-Conflict Co-Parenting: Dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-partners, and tips for creating clear, enforceable orders to protect your childβs well-being.
- Navigating Changing Court Views: Understanding the recent changes in the Family Law Act and how it affects shared parental responsibility and 50/50 time.
- Free Resources:
https://www.judcom.nsw.gov.au/publications/benchbks/children/cpm_allerton_attachment.html https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration (webinar)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in (before you go checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in-4ab0c1ab-f43e-4db3-b49b-43c865aa8b1d (mediation checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist (disclosure checklist)
Podcast Episode Timeline
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans
01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies
03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies
13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids
17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids
21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens
22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future
23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders
24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches
25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure
26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence
27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases
30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents
33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes
33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders
35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes
38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating parenting plans through various stages of your childβs life. We hope you find the advice helpful in creating a plan that truly meets the needs of your children, regardless of their age. If you found this episode valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and childrenβs future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant.
Listen to This Episode If You:
π Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean.
β Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances.
π‘ Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships.
π‘ Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income.
π Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property.
Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act.
Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement.
Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources.
Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division.
Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouseβs career supported the other.
Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes: * + https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode139 (Splitting Silver Hairs : A guide to grey divorce) + https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyeight (When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement and Parenting Agreement) + https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode124 (Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies TO PROTECT YOUR ASSETS FROM A NON CONTRIBUTING EX) + https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations) * Other Resources: + THE DIVORCE COURSE www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol * Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on future needs in property settlements. Whether youβre navigating these factors in mediation or preparing for court, understanding the role of future needs is crucial to achieving a just and equitable outcome. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journeyβwhether itβs about property settlements or children's mattersβthis episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer. * β Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays. * π‘ Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance. * π‘ Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation. * π Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation. * Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation. * Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if youβre on a tight budget and canβt afford legal representation. * Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather. * Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations. * High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present. * Settlerβs Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Related Episodes: + https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode166 (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?) + https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.) + https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0 + https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution) + https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)
- https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)
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https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode136 (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths)
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Free Resources:
- Mediation Checklist (Available on our website)
- www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Webinars and Courses:
- DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
- Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
- https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
The DARVO methodβDeny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offenderβis a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether youβre facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court. * β Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases. * π‘ Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents. * π‘ Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health. * π Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles. * Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps. * Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. * Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims. * Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health. * Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents. * Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes for More Insight:
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare)
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce)
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.)
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist)
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyseven (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1)
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Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyeight (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisode113 (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it)
- https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode134 (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist)
- https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode140 (The Narcissistsβ Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy
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https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninety (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation)
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Webinars and Courses:
- DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
- Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
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https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
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ARC App website https://download.arc-app.org.au/
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Empower You App https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case. * β Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings. * π‘ Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court. * π‘ Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld. * π Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements.
Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story?
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case. * The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story. * Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes. * Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence. * Kennanβs Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements. * Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts. * Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children. * Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Episodes for More Insight: + The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed + Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore + Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably havenβt heard of for your divorce. + Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know + Using children as chess pieces in divorce
- Webinars and Courses:
- DIY Divorce Blueprint
- Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce
- https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances
In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and donβt know how to move forward. * β Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce. * π‘ Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation. * π‘ Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change. * π Want to ensure youβre not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics. * The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why itβs important to start planning your next steps. * Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support. * Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly. * The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it. * Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic. * The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation. * Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Related Episodes: + Divorce Limbo + Central Practice Directions + How to Engage in Mediation
- Webinars and Courses:
- THE Divorce Blueprint
- Webinars on Navigating Divorce
- https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress
Introduction to Divorce Dynamics
Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position
Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position
Strategies for Financial Stress
Navigating Manipulative Tactics
The Role of Emotions in Divorce
Understanding Your Legal Rights
Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements
Emotional Preparedness and Counseling
Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines
The Importance of Mediation
Impact on Children and Family Dynamics
Taking Action and Seeking Help
Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Divorce is often described as a journey, and just like any journey, it requires navigation tools to get to your destination successfully. In this episode, Laura and Lynette use the analogy of driving a car to discuss how to handle the emotional and practical challenges of divorce. They break down the five essential "tools" you need to navigate this journey: your handbrake, gas pedal, reverse, steering wheel, and road map. Whether youβre dealing with gaslighting, running out of steam, or simply trying to stay on course, this episode provides practical advice and emotional support to help you reach the other side of your divorce in the best shape possible.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- π Are struggling with self-doubt or gaslighting during your divorce.
- β Need motivation to keep pushing forward through tough times.
- π‘ Want to avoid the pitfalls of overreacting or taking things too far.
- π‘ Are looking for strategies to stay in control of your divorce process.
- π Need guidance on how to map out your divorce journey effectively.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
- The Handbrake: How to stop self-doubt and gaslighting from derailing your progress.
- The Gas Pedal: Finding your "why" to keep moving forward when the going gets tough.
- The Reverse: Understanding when to pull back if youβre overreacting or taking things too far.
- The Steering Wheel: Keeping control of your divorce process and not letting others take the wheel.
- The Road Map: Mapping out your divorce journey and understanding the steps ahead.
Navigating your Divorce: the 5 tools you need to stay on course
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
- Related Episodes:
- Disclosure Dilemmas
- The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed
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Handover Hell
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Webinars and Courses:
- Divorce Blueprint
- In Depth Webinar on Navigating Divorce
- Patreon for a worksheet that goes with this episode
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline: 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police: 000
- DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
- DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
- National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating your divorce journey. We hope you find these strategies helpful as you move forward. If you found this podcast valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce as a Journey
00:30 Understanding Gaslighting and Self-Doubt
01:40 Five Essential Tools for Your Divorce Journey
02:24 The Handbrake: Stopping Self-Doubt
05:30 The Accelerator: Finding Your Motivation
09:35 The Reverse: Knowing When to Pull Back
14:56 The Steering Wheel: Maintaining Control
20:38 Cutting Out Irrelevant Details
21:09 Steering Your Legal Strategy
22:16 Understanding Court Conventions
22:39 Introducing the Divorce Blueprint
23:18 Balancing Property and Children's Matters
25:03 Taking Control of Your Case
25:46 Navigating Legal Advice
26:47 Empowering Yourself Through Knowledge
29:09 Organising Your Legal Documents
30:26 Preparing for Legal Challenges
33:06 Recap and Final Thoughts
Divorce & property settlements are confusing enough, especially when it comes to recognizing all contributions. Educate yourself about some of the most overlooked non financial contributions you may have made that will help increase your percentage of the property pool. In this episode, we discuss the often-overlooked aspects of contributions in property settlements, focusing on non-financial parenting contributions. Explore the surprising elements that might not be considered but can play a significant role in determining your part of the property pool percentage during divorce or de facto separation.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Want to understand the less commonly discussed contributions considered in property settlements. * β Are unsure how parenting contributions affect your property settlement. * π‘ Are seeking clarity on what counts as a contribution before, during, and after the relationship. * π‘ Need to know how to document and present your contributions effectively. * π Are looking for strategies to ensure a fair property settlement.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Definition of Contributions: Understanding what contributions are and how they factor into property settlements in Australia. * Commonly Remembered Contributions: Financial contributions, non-financial contributions like renovating a house, and receiving inheritances. * Overlooked Contributions: Parenting contributions, including caring for stepchildren and supporting a partnerβs children. * Impact of Salary on Contributions: Clarifying that higher salaries do not necessarily mean a larger share of the property pool. * Special Contributions: Contributions like supporting a partner through education or living arrangements with in-laws. * Legal Framework: Aligning contributions with the Family Law Act and understanding its implications. * Real-Life Examples: Case studies and examples illustrating how different contributions are valued. * Advice for Self-Advocacy: Tips for ensuring all your contributions are recognized and presented effectively.
PARENTING Contributions in Property Settlement Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Contributions Episode * Salary Doesn't Count * Future Needs * The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed * PATREON ACCESS - https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement
00:32 Understanding Contributions in Property Settlement
01:51 Common Contributions in Property Settlement
03:30 Surprising Contributions in Parenting
05:34 Parenting Contributions: Stepchildren and Special Cases
10:13 Documenting Parenting Contributions
18:13 Stay-at-Home Parents and Property Settlement
21:20 Challenges of Family Court and Outdated Legislation
22:29 Evolving Roles and Contributions in Modern Families
24:28 Counter Arguments to Stay-at-Home Parent Contributions
27:00 Superannuation and Property Settlements
30:17 Short vs. Long Marriages: Impact on Contributions
33:00 Grey Divorces and Contributions
34:39 Importance of Legal Advice and Self-Advocacy
37:59 Final Thoughts and Resources
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on property settlement contributions. Understanding your rights and contributions is crucial in ensuring a fair settlement. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Are you struggling to document and present your experiences of coercive control or family violence in your paperwork or to your lawyer, mediator , police, court or counsellor? Feel like you have to KEEP telling your story and you wish there was a better way?
Whether you're preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with your lawyer, effectively communicating these experiences is crucial for your case.
In this episode, we cover simple ways to lay out your coercive control or family violence experiences in an easy to read and use format.
Lyn provides practical strategies to ensure your story is heard and understood, aligning your documentation with the Family Law Act, and presenting your case compellingly.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are experiencing coercive control and need to document it for legal purposes. * β Want to understand how the Family Law Act defines and addresses coercive control. * π‘ Seek strategies for making your lived experiences clear and impactful in legal documents. * π‘ Are preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with a lawyer. * π Need guidance on creating a comprehensive and organised record of coercive control incidents.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Understanding Coercive Control: What it is and how it impacts family law cases. * Family Law Act Section 4AB: Definition of family violence and examples of coercive control. * Documentation Strategies: Tips for documenting coercive control effectively. * Using Legal Language: How to align your documentation with the Family Law Act. * Creating Impactful Narratives: Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements. * Organising Evidence: Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence. * Frequency and Patterns: Highlighting the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours. * Presenting in Mediation and Court: How to convey your case effectively in different legal settings.
Family Law Act Discussed
Family Law act 4da
Episodes Mentioned that you can learn more about
The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.
How to Write an Affidavit
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2
Here are the key highlights and important parts of the episode with timestamps:
[0:00] - Introduction * Laura and Lynette introduce the topic of documenting coercive control for legal purposes.
[2:15] - Understanding Coercive Control * Definition of coercive control and its impact on family law cases.
[5:30] - Family Law Act Section 4AB * Explanation of how the Family Law Act defines coercive control and family violence.
[10:05] - Importance of Documentation * Why documenting coercive control is crucial for your case.
[12:45] - Documentation Strategies * Tips for effectively documenting instances of coercive control.
[15:20] - Using Legal Language * How to align your documentation with the terminology in the Family Law Act.
[18:40] - Creating Impactful Narratives * Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.
[22:00] - Organising Evidence * Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence in a clear and organized manner.
[25:35] - Highlighting Frequency and Patterns * Importance of demonstrating the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.
[29:10] - Presenting in Mediation and Court * How to effectively communicate your case in different legal settings, including mediation and court.
[33:50] - Real-Life Examples * Examples of how to document coercive control incidents and their impact.
[38:00] - Seeking Professional Help * When and how to seek professional help from lawyers and other experts.
[41:30] - Resources and Further Reading * Mention of relevant episodes and resources to assist listeners further.
[45:00] - Conclusion * Laura and Lynette wrap up the episode with final thoughts and encouragement.
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Custody handovers can be one of the most stressful aspects of co-parenting, often referred to as "handover hell." Whether it's a tense interaction with your ex or the emotional strain on your children, it's crucial to find ways to make these transitions as smooth as possible. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into practical strategies for handling custody handovers, discussing everything from setting clear boundaries to using neutral locations for exchanges. They explore how to make handovers less stressful for both parents and kids, and offer insights on future-proofing your handover arrangements to avoid common pitfalls.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are experiencing tension and conflict during custody handovers. * β Want practical tips for making handovers less stressful for your children. * π‘ Seek strategies to communicate effectively with your co-parent during handovers. * π‘ Are dealing with a high-conflict ex-partner and need to minimise drama. * π Need advice on creating a consistent and positive handover routine.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Importance of Specifying Handovers: Why it's crucial to have a clear, agreed-upon plan for custody exchanges. * Types of Handovers: Various options including school, neutral locations, contact centres, and supervised exchanges. * Legal Implications: Understanding the legal reasons for specified handovers and how to lock them in with parenting plans or consent orders. * Future-Proofing Your Plan: How to anticipate changes in your children's needs and circumstances as they grow. * Minimising Stress for Kids: Strategies to make handovers as smooth and positive as possible for your children. * Dealing with Different Personality Types: Tips for managing handovers with manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high-conflict ex-partners. * Setting Boundaries: The importance of maintaining clear boundaries to protect your mental health and well-being.
Episodes mentioned in this Podcast
Parenting Orders Program (POP) | Relationships Australia Queensland
12 Agreements for a Parenting Plan
Consent Orders
Help My Ex Won't Let Me See the Kids
Why Your Narcissistic Ex May Want a Parenting Coordinator
Handover Hell: How to Make Child Custody Exchanges Easier
00:00 Introduction to Handover Hell
01:33 Why Specify Handover Locations?
02:35 Types of Handover Options
08:42 Future Proofing Your Handover Plan
15:08 Locking in Handover Arrangements
20:08 Making Handover Easier for Kids
25:08 Arranging Handover for Parents' Well-being
29:35 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation
30:17 Common Mistakes During Handovers
31:24 The Dangers of Filming Handovers
32:28 Handling Drunk or Unsafe Parents
35:48 Dealing with Late or Unreliable Parents
40:05 When Children Refuse to Go
43:34 Legal Support and Family Reports
46:00 Creating Effective Parenting Plans
48:22 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes
51:14 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you in the process of getting divorced and need to find the right lawyer for your case? Choosing the right legal representation can be daunting, especially during an emotionally charged time. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the ten essential steps and questions you need to consider when selecting a lawyer. They discuss the importance of finding a lawyer whose experience, ability, and personality align with your needs, and they offer practical advice on navigating this crucial decision.
Listen to This Episode If You:
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π Are beginning the process of divorce and need to find a lawyer.
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β Want to know the key questions to ask a prospective lawyer.
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π‘ Seek understanding of the importance of lawyer-client compatibility.
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π‘ Are dealing with the stress and confusion of legal proceedings.
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π Need strategies for ensuring your lawyer can meet your specific needs.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
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Finding the Right Lawyer: Tips on what to look for in terms of experience, ability, and personality.
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Asking the Right Questions: Essential questions to ask during initial consultations to ensure a good fit.
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Understanding Costs: The importance of discussing billing practices, hourly rates, and getting itemised accounts.
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Legal Updates: Ensuring your lawyer is knowledgeable about recent changes in the Family Law Act and other relevant legislation.
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Step In, Step Out Services: Understanding flexible legal services and how they can save you money.
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Importance of Compatibility: Why itβs crucial to find a lawyer you can trust and communicate with effectively.
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Handling Legal Fees: Strategies for managing costs and budgeting for your legal expenses.
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Role of Communication The significance of clear and consistent communication between you and your lawyer.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore
Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably havenβt heard of for your divorce.
Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Struggling with what to do with your ex's stuff after a separation or divorce? Whether it's a garage full of clutter, valuable memorabilia, or just everyday items left behind, dealing with an ex's belongings can be frustrating and emotionally draining. In this episode, Laura and Lynette discuss practical strategies for handling your ex's stuff, from boxing it up to negotiating its removal, all while considering the legal implications. They also explore how different scenariosβwhether amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high conflictβaffect the process. Tune in to gain valuable insights and practical tips to navigate this tricky aspect of post-separation life. (Remember to see your lawyer before doing anything about this issue as each situation is different.)
Listen to This Episode If You:
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π Want practical legal education on dealing with your exβs belongings.
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β Are unsure about the legal implications of getting rid of or storing your exβs stuff.
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π‘ Seek clarity on how different types of relationships (amicable, manipulative, etc.) impact handling belongings.
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π‘ Are dealing with a high-conflict or controlling ex-partner.
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π¦ Need strategies for negotiating the removal of your exβs items.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Impact of Stuff on Your Life: How lingering belongings can affect your mental and emotional well-being.
Legal Considerations: The potential legal consequences of disposing of or keeping your ex's belongings.
Different Relationship Scenarios: Strategies tailored to different types of ex-partners (amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, high conflict).
Practical Steps: Tips on boxing up items, setting deadlines, and using storage solutions.
Using Mediation: How to incorporate belongings into mediation agreements and consent orders.
Involving Authorities: When and how to involve the police in high-conflict situations.
Handling Emotional Attachments: Dealing with the emotional aspects of letting go or holding on to items.
Episode 158 Sorting Through the Chaos: Dealing with Your Ex's Belongings During Divorce
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on handling your exβs belongings. Understanding the legal and emotional aspects is crucial for navigating this tricky part of post-separation life. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal education tailored to your specific circumstances.
Are you struggling with understanding parental responsibility after a divorce or separation? Need strategies for handling parenting disagreements about major or minor decisions for your children? In Australia, who makes decisions for the children before there is a parenting plan or court order? What happens if you and your ex can't agree on a school, medical, or other major issue?
In this episode, Laura and an Australian Family Law Specialist Lynette break down the complexities of these often-confusing topics.
They discuss what parental responsibility entails, how recent changes in the family law impact it, and what it means for parents trying to make decisions for their children.
Whether you're dealing with a high-conflict ex or just trying to navigate the legal jargon, this episode offers essential insights and practical advice to help you understand and manage parental responsibility effectively.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You: π Want to understand the concept of parental responsibility and how it impacts your legal rights as a parent.
β Are confused about the difference between joint, sole, and equal shared parental responsibility.
π‘ Seek clarity on how recent family law act legal changes affect parental decision-making.
π‘ Are dealing with a manipulative, controlling, or high-conflict or narcissistic type co-parent.
π Need strategies for handling disagreements about major decisions for your children.
π Want to learn how to navigate court orders and legal terminology related to parenting.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Definition and Importance of Parental Responsibility: What it is and why it matters in the eyes of the court. * Changes in Legislation: How the new laws in the Family Law Act of Australia as of May 2024 impact parental responsibility. * Joint vs. Sole Parental Responsibility: Understanding the differences and implications. * Decision-Making: Which parent makes decisions about major long-term issues versus day-to-day matters. * Court Orders and Parental Responsibility: How to handle existing orders and apply for new ones. * Section 61DAB: Understanding the provision that outlines day-to-day decision-making without the need for consultation on minor issues. * Real-Life Examples: Cases of disputes over education, medical decisions, and other critical areas. * Co-Parenting Challenges: Tips for dealing with uncooperative or high-conflict ex-partners. * Post-Separation Abuse: Recognizing and addressing coercive control in parenting situations. * For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog * For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries: + Bombarded with Legal Letters + Do I Really Need to Respond to That? + How to Respond to a Word Salad Letter
- Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation:
- Things the Court Doesn't Care About
- Disclosure Episode
- Red Flags Lawyers
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How to Choose and Use Your Lawyer
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Parenting Apps for Communication:
- Our Children CoParenting Platform
- My Family Wizard
Section 61DAB of the Family Law Act
Are you navigating a difficult divorce or separation? In this insightful episode, Laura and Lynette share five crucial steps to help you empower yourself through your divorce or de facto journey. They discuss how your actions, boundaries, self-affirmation, and standing up for yourself can significantly impact the outcome of your case. With practical legal education and empowering strategies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone facing a challenging breakup, especially if dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic or manipulative ex-partner. Download the reflection worksheet that goes with this episode off our Patreon account.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You: π Want to know how your actions can make or break your case.
β Need guidance on setting and maintaining boundaries with your ex.
π‘ Seek methods to reaffirm who you are amidst false accusations.
π‘ Are looking for strategies to stand up for yourself effectively.
π Need tips on avoiding common pitfalls during your divorce.
π Want to ensure you're doing everything possible to navigate your divorce successfully.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * Your Actions Make or Break Your Case: How your behaviour and decisions impact the outcome. * Setting Boundaries: Importance of establishing clear boundaries with your ex. * Reaffirming Who You Are: Techniques to maintain your self-worth and confidence. * Avoiding Self-Sabotage: Tips to prevent actions that could harm your case. * Standing Up for Yourself: Empowering yourself to take control and advocate for your needs.
- For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
- For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries: + Bombarded with Legal Letters + Do I Really Need to Respond to That? + How to Respond to a Word Salad Letter
- Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation:
- Things the Court Doesn't Care About
- Disclosure Episode
- Red Flags Lawyers
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How to Choose and Use Your Lawyer
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Parenting Apps for Communication:
- Our Children CoParenting Platform
- My Family Wizard
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Having to go into a witness box? About to go to a family court trial or a family violence hearing? Are you feeling anxious about stepping into the witness box? In this episode, we offer invaluable guidance on how to navigate this daunting experience. Whether you're involved in family law court proceedings or dealing with family violence or domestic violence trial, this episode provides ten essential tips to help you stay calm and composed. DOWNLOAD OUR PRINTABLE WITNESS BOX TIP SHEET FROM our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au go to the free resources tab.
From understanding the importance of honesty to managing your emotions to the rules of the witness box, Laura and Lynette share practical education to ensure you present your best self in court. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to This Episode If You: * π Are preparing to testify in family law court or domestic violence court. * β Want to know how to handle cross-examination. * π‘ Need strategies to stay calm and collected while giving evidence. * π‘ Are looking for ways to effectively communicate your side of the story. * π Seek tips on how to present yourself and interact with the judge and lawyers. * π Want to understand courtroom etiquette and procedures.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: * π The importance of telling the truth and being honest in court. * π Listening carefully to questions and asking for clarification when needed. * π Avoiding speculation and being truthful if you don't know the answer. * β± Taking your time to think before answering questions. * π Maintaining respect and composure in the courtroom. * π§ Strategies for managing emotions and asking for breaks if necessary. * π Understanding who is in the courtroom and what their roles are. * π€ The role of your lawyer and how they can support you during testimony. * β How barristers structure their questioning to build their case. * π Tips on avoiding giving lengthy answers that could complicate your testimony.
- For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
- For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: * Documentation Episode * Unfair Accusations Episode * Trash Talking Episode * What to expect on the day of your family court trial: divorce, parenting orders settlement or property settlement
Emergency Contacts: * WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE * LEGAL AID * Lifeline: 13 11 14 * Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 * Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 * Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 * Relationships Australia * Police: 000 * DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) * DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 * National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this essential episode on navigating the witness box. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you struggling to deal with and address post-separation abuse? TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode. In this helpful episode, we discuss the various forms of abuse that can persist even after leaving an abusive relationship and what you can do about it. Using insights from the "Purple Book," Laura and Lynette (a family law expert) explore the patterns of coercive control, the legal and emotional challenges survivors face, and practical strategies for protection and recovery. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding and find support on your journey to freedom. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice)
Listen to this Episode If You:
- π Want to understand the different forms of post-separation abuse.
- β Are looking for strategies to document and address ongoing abuse.
- π Need insights into the "Purple Book" and its application.
- π‘ Seek education on navigating the legal system while dealing with post-separation abuse.
- π‘ Are supporting someone through their journey of post-separation abuse.
- π Want to learn about tools and resources available for documenting abuse.
Key Ideas in this Episode:
- π Introduction to the "Purple Book" and its significance.
- π Overview of the post-separation power and control wheel.
- π‘ Undermining parental abilities and its impact.
- π£ Addressing harassment and intimidation tactics.
- π Strategies for dealing with false accusations and discrediting as a parent.
- π΅ Withholding financial support as economic abuse.
- πΈ Impact of endangering and disregarding children.
- π©βπ§ Disrupting the mother-child relationship and emotional manipulation.
- π Recognizing and addressing physical and other violence.
- π Importance of documenting abuse and using tools like the ARC app.
Resources mentioned in this episode
- The Domestic Violence Prevention Centre Gold Coast THE PURPLE BOOK
- ARC app for documenting abuse
- Jess Hill's "See What You Made Me Do" book & show
Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyfive (The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)
- https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode135 (Unfair accusations in custody battles)
- https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode412 (Navigating Parental Trash Talk in Divorce)
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode.
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Ever wondered what the deal is when it comes to mortgages during a divorce or de facto separation under Australian law? In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic head-on. Together with my mother, Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, we address commonly asked questions about mortgage responsibilities, court handling of joint mortgages, and strategies for dealing with uncooperative ex-partners before youβve gotten your property settlement. Whether you're dealing with domestic violence, financial uncertainties, or high-conflict situations, this episode provides some insight into this complex issue within the context of Australian law. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice)
Listen to this Episode If You:
- π« You're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of managing a mortgage during a divorce or separation.
- β You have questions about who is responsible for paying the mortgage after separation.
- βοΈ You want to understand how courts handle mortgages in property settlements.
- π£οΈ You're dealing with an uncooperative ex-partner regarding mortgage payments.
- π¦ You need strategies for communicating with banks about mortgage issues.
- π Youβre experiencing domestic violence and need advice on handling your mortgage.
- π Youβre unsure about the contributions and what counts in property settlements.
- π You want to know the impact of rising property values on mortgage and divorce property settlements.
- π You need clarity on consent orders and their role in property settlements.
- π§ You're in a high-conflict situation and need tips on maintaining boundaries.
What happens with Mortgages During Divorce & De Facto Separation?
Key Ideas in this Episode:
- π‘ The intimidating nature of handling mortgages during divorce or de facto separation.
- β Common questions about mortgage responsibilities after separation.
- π Importance of getting timely legal advice and understanding your financial situation.
- π‘οΈ Strategies for dealing with mortgage payments during domestic violence situations.
- βοΈ Different scenarios for mortgage responsibility: breadwinner vs. homemaker.
- πΌ Contributions in property settlements and what the court considers.
- π¦ Courtβs approach to handling joint mortgages during property settlements.
- π Impact of rising property values on mortgage settlements and the importance of acting quickly.
- π Role and process of consent orders in mortgage settlements.
- π§ Managing high-conflict situations and maintaining boundaries.
- π‘ Practical tips for sorting out mortgage issues promptly to avoid financial messes.
Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfour (Selling your house during divorce or property settlement: the process, the pitfalls and solutions)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyfive (I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfour (Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfive (Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support)
- https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfourteen (Child Support in Australia)
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
In this special bonus episode of The Divorce Course Podcast, host Laura Furiosi and her mother, Lynette Galvin, an experienced family lawyer with 35 years of expertise, discuss the latest updates to the Family Law Act and to their course. Listen in to learn how these updates can guide you through your separation or divorce process more effectively.
Key Insights:
- Recent Amendments to the Australian Family Law Act:
- The Family Law Act and the rules for the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia have recently been updated as of May 6.
- These changes are significant and have been incorporated into the course materials to ensure participants are well-informed.
- Course Launch and Updates:
- Laura and Lynette introduce the newly launched course, emphasising its step-by-step guidance from pre-separation to finalising divorce.
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There is now a new optional court support course open to screened platinum members addressing the needs of those who may end up in court despite efforts to avoid it.
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Educational Empowerment:
- The course equips participants with the knowledge to effectively communicate with their lawyers and understand the legal process, especially with the new amendments.
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Real-life testimonials highlight the courseβs impact on participants, including successful mediations and favourable court outcomes.
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For more information on course structure see www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
- Additional Support and Resources:
- Weekly Q&A sessions with Lynette for personalised support.
- A newly launched app for easy access to course materials and lessons.
- Positive feedback from course participants underscores the course's value in navigating the complexities of divorce.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
To sign up to do the course go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you facing a challenging divorce or separation and looking for ways to save on legal fees by doing some of it yourself? Do you want to take control of your situation and handle some aspects independently? Listen to this episode to discover "Five Things You Can Do Yourself Without Lawyers to Keep Your Costs Down." Laura, a divorced mother of three, and her mother Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, share practical steps you can manage on your own. From writing letters to attending mediation, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate some of your separation on your own with confidence. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to this episode if you:
- Are navigating a divorce or de facto separation.
- Want to reduce your legal costs.
- Feel overwhelmed by the legal process and want to take proactive steps.
- Need practical education on handling parts of your divorce independently.
- Are looking for ways to reduce stress and gain confidence during this challenging time.
- Are worried that the disclosure process or mediation process is going to drain away all the money youβve got for legal fees.
Smart Divorce Moves: Five Cost-Saving Tasks You Can Handle
Key Points:
- Writing Letters: Tips on how to draft letters to your ex regarding your separation and property settlement.
- Figuring Out Your Property Pool: Get an overview of how to identify and value your assets and debts.
- Full Disclosure: Discover the importance of full disclosure and how to gather and organise necessary documents with or without your lawyer.
- Attending Mediation: Tips on attending mediation without a lawyer and what to expect might happen.
- Creating Parenting Plans: How to draft a parenting plan.
- Overcoming Barriers: Build confidence to tackle these tasks independently and save money.
- Seeking Legal Advice: Reminder to get professional legal advice tailored to your situation when necessary.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Episodes Mentioned
Can you really mediate with a narcissist?
Creating your own parenting orders or parenting plans with the 12 agreements
DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
π€ Are you facing a challenging divorce, separation, or co-parenting situation with a difficult ex-partner? Are you seeking effective strategies to handle criticism, control, and over-explaining in your communications?
π§ Listen to this episode to learn how the JADE Method can assist you in navigating these complexities, while being careful not to make mistakes that could come back to bite you in the Family Court or at Mediation with this ever-increasingly popular method.
πΌ Learn about practical approaches to maintain composure, protect yourself from post-separation abuse, and respond calmly amidst conflict from a family law specialist with over 35 years of experience who has seen it all.
Listen to this episode if you:
- Are navigating a divorce, separation, or co-parenting, especially if it involves a difficult ex-partner.
- Want strategies for dealing with criticism, control, and over-explaining in communication with your ex.
- Are breaking out of a coercive control situation while going through the divorce or separation process.
- Are dealing with post-separation abuse after separation.
- Are co-parenting with a narcissistic ex.
- Are interested in understanding recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children.
Key Ideas:
- An introduction to the JADE method (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) and its application in dealing with difficult ex-partners.
- Discussion on the importance of not falling back into patterns of over-explaining or justifying oneself, especially if the relationship was characterised by criticism and control.
- Explanation of recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children, emphasising the distinction between major long-term decisions and day-to-day matters.
- Strategies for responding calmly and rationally rather than reacting impulsively in communication with an ex.
- Importance of taking care of one's own well-being and seeking support during the divorce or separation process.
- Reminder to seek individualised legal and psychological support as needed.
ARTICLE LINK
Jade Method Article by PsychCentral
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Episodes Mentioned
(Do I really need to respond to that?! When co parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings.)
Recent Reforms Episode
Word Salad Checklist and Method
(The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.)
(Affidavits for Divorce Settlement in the Family Law Court)
(Pitfalls of premature percentages negotiations in divorce)
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
π₯ Are you facing a divorce or family violence legal battle but are feeling financially overwhelmed? Tune in as Laura and Lyn discuss with special guest Kara Cook the vital role of legal aid and community legal services in providing support during divorce and domestic violence situations for those who cannot afford a lawyer.
πΌ Worried about facing your ex in backed by a team of expensive lawyers in court? Kara, a community legal service expert, debunks the myth that legal representation guarantees victory, emphasising that the law is the ultimate arbiter and will help put your mind at ease.
βοΈ Learn about the recent legislative changes, including ten days of paid domestic violence leave, empowering survivors to seek support without fear of repercussions at work.
π« Discover the tips and steps to take to access a community legal service in your area.
Navigating Legal Aid & Community Legal Services: Your Lifeline for DV & Divorce
Listen to this episode if you:
- Need guidance on legal aid and community services.
- Want to understand how community legal services or legal aid works.
- Seek insight into workplace entitlements if going through family violence.
- Are interested in remote legal assistance.
- Require help navigating family law.
Key Ideas:
- Access to legal aid and community legal services for domestic violence and divorce.
- Geographic accessibility and remote assistance via technology.
- Legal safeguards regardless of legal representation.
- Proportionality in legal representation and judicial scrutiny.
- Workplace rights and entitlements for those experiencing domestic violence.
- Availability of ten days of paid domestic violence leave in Australia.
- Supportive workplace cultures and confidentiality.
- Multifaceted challenges faced by individuals navigating domestic violence situations.
This episode provides valuable guidance for anyone looking to get help through community legal programs, women's legal services or legal aid.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to this episode if you:
- Are frustrated with a disclosure issue in your divorce proceedings.
- Feel stumped by disclosure hurdles on your journey to freedom.
Key Ideas:
- Reframing Full Disclosure: Learn why the term "full disclosure" can be ambiguous and potentially derail your settlement negotiations.
- Importance of Specificity: Understand the significance of specifying the exact documents or information necessary for your case rather than demanding blanket "full disclosure."
- Leveraging Lack of Disclosure: Discover how the absence of disclosure from the other party can sometimes work to your advantage in court proceedings.
- Taking Proactive Steps: Explore proactive strategies for navigating disclosure issues and maintaining control over your divorce process.
- Reality Check: Gain insights into conducting a reality check on the importance of requested documents and the potential consequences of withholding them.
Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory
This episode provides valuable guidance for anyone grappling with disclosure challenges in divorce proceedings, offering practical tips and a fresh perspective on navigating this often-frustrating aspect of the legal process.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastforty (DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightynine (Disclosure: the what, why, when & how of disclosure for divorce or de facto separation.)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode116 (Deadlocks in Divorce Strategies for Non-Disclosure, Valuation Fights and Stonewalling)
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Has your ex just told you that they are the bread winner so therefore in the divorce they will get most of the property settlement? Has your ex just quit their job so they avoid paying child support? Has your ex downplayed your contributions in the marriage. Or are you just plain confused about what is considered in divorce when it comes to income/salary/wages. Well this episode is for you.
Learn about how salary and earnings impact property division and child support in divorce proceedings. We aim to demystify the most common misconceptions floating around at the moment and put your mind at ease.
Join our insightful discussion around the concept of earnings, and let us shed light for you on how the courts assess both financial and non-financial contributions when dividing assets. Additionally, learn about the concept of "future needs," which encompasses various factors such as earnings, age, health, and childcare responsibilities.
By the end of the episode, listeners will gain valuable knowledge and a clearer understanding of how the court strives for equitable, rather than necessarily equal, distribution in divorce cases.
Key Points:
- Debunking the myth that higher income guarantees a larger share of the property pool.
- Understanding how courts evaluate financial and non-financial contributions during property division.
- Exploring the concept of "future needs" and its significance in divorce settlements.
- Recognizing the court's aim for equitable distribution, considering various factors beyond income alone.
- Learning about the word βCAPACITYβ and what it means in the court and what it means for CHILD SUPPORT & PROPERTY SETTLEMENT
Listen to this episode if you want to:
- Gain clarity on how salary and earnings impact property settlement and child support.
- Understand the factors considered by courts when dividing assets in divorce cases.
- Learn about the concept of "future needs" and its role in achieving fair outcomes in divorce settlements.
- Learn about what to do if your ex quits their job to try not pay child support.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned
Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce
How to divorce a statue: 7 tips to divorce an avoidant ex even if they stonewall you or disappear.
Surprising issues that are irrelevant in divorce & separation proceedings. So you can focus all your efforts on the things that your mediator, divorce lawyer or judge will actually care about.
Property Settlement: What is Fair?
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Everyone seems to start talking about the percentage split in divorce for property straight away. In this episode, you will learn about the dangers of negotiating property split percentages prematurely in your divorce proceedings. We aim to help you discover why it's crucial to prioritise understanding the property pool before discussing percentages, as well as the potential financial and emotional costs of jumping into percentage negotiations too soon.
Understand how focusing on property pool valuations can lead to smoother negotiations and prevent misunderstandings down the line.
Listen to gain practical tips for dealing with different divorce personality types, from amicable to high conflict, and learn strategies for navigating negotiations effectively. With valuable insights and cautionary tales, this episode provides essential guidance for anyone facing divorce negotiations, helping you avoid costly mistakes and achieve a fair outcome.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Listen to this episode if you want to:
- Learn why negotiating percentages early in divorce proceedings can be detrimental
- Understand the importance of focusing on the property pool before discussing percentages
- Gain practical tips for dealing with different divorce personality types
- Avoid costly mistakes and achieve a fair outcome in divorce negotiations
The Pitfalls of Premature PERCENTAGE NEGOTIATIONS in Divorce property settlement
Don't Miss Out On These Key Points:
- The dangers of negotiating percentages prematurely in divorce proceedings
- The importance of understanding the property pool before discussing percentages
- Potential financial and emotional costs of jumping into percentage negotiations too soon
- Practical advice for dealing with different divorce personality types
- Strategies for navigating negotiations effectively and achieving a fair outcome
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned
Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements
Five Proven Steps you can take to finally get that agreement for property settlement or parenting consent orders
Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce
Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during and after marriage
Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
In this episode, you will learn about the recent changes to family law in Australia and how they affect you. Discover the shift from equal shared parental responsibility to joint decision making, as well as the elimination of the presumption of equal shared care. Understand the importance of prioritising children's best interests and the revamped role of independent children's lawyers. Explore simplified consequences for breaching court orders and gain practical advice for adapting to these changes in ongoing legal proceedings. With a positive outlook and a wealth of insights, this episode will give you an overview of what you need to understand in order to navigate the evolving landscape of family law in Australia.
Listen to this episode if you want to:
- Stay Informed: Stay updated on recent changes to family law in Australia.
- Understanding Amendments: Gain insight into key amendments affecting parental responsibilities and children's welfare.
- Legal Implications: Learn about the implications of legislative changes for ongoing family law cases.
- Practical Tips: Receive practical tips on how to navigate the new legislation in court proceedings.
- Expert Analysis: Benefit from expert analysis and interpretation of complex legal concepts.
- Impact on Families: Understand how the amendments may impact families and parental decision-making.
- Optimistic Outlook: Hear a positive perspective on the potential benefits of the legislative changes.
Don't Miss Out On These Key Points:
- What's Changed in Family Law: Get the lowdown on the latest tweaks to family law in Australia, like the switch from equal shared parental responsibility to joint decision making.
- Find out how these changes affect who gets to make the big decisions for the kids and what it means for consulting each other on the important stuff.
- Equal Shared Care No More: Hear about the removal of the assumption that parents will share care equally and how that could shake up custody arrangements.
- Putting Kids First: Learn how the new approach prioritises what's best for the kids, focusing on their safety and happiness above all.
- When Can You Change Things Up?: Understand the rules for going back to court and the steps you need to take to make it happen.
- Lawyers for the Little Ones: Discover the expanded role of independent children's lawyers and how they might get to chat with the kids now.
- Breaking the Rules: Get the scoop on the simplified consequences for not sticking to court orders and what it means for those who play fast and loose.
- Stopping the Legal Drama: Find out about the new order aimed at shutting down the drama queens (and kings) who keep dragging their exes back to court.
- Posting About It: Learn what you can and can't share about your case, including a few sneaky ways around the rules.
- Time to Get with the Program: Realise why it's essential to address these changes if you're already in the legal process or gearing up to start.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned
Decoding the Best Interests of The Children
Useful Resources:
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Listen to this episode if you or a friend:
- Are nervous or unsure how to report domestic violence or coercive control to the police.
- Want to understand the process and what happens after you report it.
- Need guidance on evidence collection and seeking support.
- Are interested in safety planning and available resources.
- Seek reassurance and empowerment in navigating the challenging situations involving domestic violence.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of Domestic Violence. If you feel triggered please call 13 11 14 Lifeline and someone is there to listen. Call 1800 Respect if you or someone you know needs support in this area. Call 000 if in immediate danger.
In this episode, we speak with Inspector Dwyer, Manager of State Domestic Family Violence and Vulnerable Persons Unit in the Queensland Police. We discuss the step-by-step process of reporting domestic violence and coercive control to the police. Learn what happens inside a police station so you can take those next steps with confidence instead of being afraid of the unknown. Inspector Dwyer provides valuable insights into the steps that people can take, the evidence required, and the support available to them.
Don't Miss Out On These Key Points:
- Understanding the Process: Inspector Dwyer outlines the process of reporting domestic violence incidents, emphasising the importance of collecting evidence such as witness statements or medical reports.
- Follow-up and Communication: Victims should expect proactive communication from police officers, who are responsible for keeping them informed about the progress of their case.
- Dealing with Insufficient Evidence: If you feel your case has been dismissed prematurely, seek advice from a domestic violence coordinator or specialist within the police station.
- Coercive Control: Report patterns of coercive behaviour to the police.
- Safety Planning: Create a safety plan with the help of domestic violence service providers to mitigate risks associated with reporting abuse.
- Interstate Orders: Orders issued in one state are recognized nationally, ensuring protection for victims even if they move or travel to another state.
- Training and Awareness: Details on how the Queensland Police Service has invested in extensive training for its officers to recognize and respond effectively to domestic violence situations, including victim-centric, trauma-informed practices.
- Empowerment and Hope: Inspector Dwyer underscores the commitment to eradicating domestic violence and offers reassurance that victims survivors have support and resources available to them.
For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Inspector Melissa Dwyer Bio:
- Melissa joined the Queensland Police Service in 1991, following her completion of secondary education the year prior.
- Initially serving in uniform, Melissa was later appointed to the Redcliffe Criminal Investigation Branch, becoming the first female appointed to the CIB in that District.
- She gained extensive experience as a regional Detective, specializing in investigating rape offenses, including those committed within marriage, and leading investigations into domestic and family violence (DFV) homicides.
- After 13 years as a regional Detective, Melissa became the Officer in Charge of a Prosecution Corp, serving as the senior prosecutor for DFV and serious and violent crimes.
- In 2015, she was promoted to Senior Sergeant in the Strategic Policy Branch, where she played a key role in leading the Queensland Police Service's implementation activities associated with the recommendations of the Not Now: Not Ever Report.
- Currently, Melissa serves as the Inspector Manager of the State DFV & Vulnerable Persons Unit, where she was instrumental in implementing the DFV Specialist Courts, earning joint agency Prime Minister's awards and Commissioners Outstanding Awards.
- She also developed and implemented the Queensland Drug & Alcohol Court.
- Melissa has provided evidence at the Commission of Inquiry into Police responses to DFV and led the development of DFV frontline and specialist training for the QPS, earning accolades at the 2023 International ACWAP awards.
- Her training was endorsed by ANROWS as best-practice and shared to assist interstate training development.
- Melissa holds post-graduate qualifications in DFV and is actively involved in enhancing collective responses to DFV through membership on external Boards.
- Her experiences have fueled her desire to improve the system and change outcomes for women and children while holding perpetrators accountable.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned
Domestic Violence and how to get out of it Part 1
Domestic Violence and Family Violence Part 2
Coercive Control in Divorce and after Separation
Stalkers gonna stalk - How to deal with coercive control, tracking & harassment
Post Separation Abuse and what you can do about it.
Coercive Control: how you can help yourself or a friend & what you need to know about the legal changes coming
Child Abuse, Family Violence or Risk and the notice you need to fill in for the Family Court.
What you might be doing that you don't yet realize may have significant ramifications to your property, parenting or domestic violence matters
Family & Domestic Violence and how it impacts on your case in The Family Court
Four things you might not realise are coercive control and the questions to ask yourself to see if it might be happening to you.
Delay Tactics in Divorce: How to counter then & How it can affect your Property, Chlildren's & Domestic Violence Matters.
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2
Useful Resources:
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Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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This is the Pep Talk you didnβt know you needed when going through your divorce or separation. This episode serves as both a pep talk and a strategic guide for you navigating divorce or separation. Learn about the importance of proactive communication, assertiveness, and informed decision-making when dealing with legal representation, your ex and the family court.
Ultimately, "Just Ask" serves as an empowering reminder that while divorce proceedings can be daunting, you actually have the agency to shape the outcome if you can confidently articulate your preferences and pursue what you and your lawyers believe is fair and just.
TRIGGER WARNING: A quick warning: This episode contains discussions of Domestic Violence & Child Abuse, Sexual Abuse. If you feel triggered please call 13 11 14 Lifeline and someone is there to listen.
Listen to this episode if you need support in
π Empowering Yourself to assert your needs and desires during the legal process.
πΌ Client Empowerment: actively participating in the decision-making and advocating for yours and your childrenβs interests.
π‘ Exploring Options: If you are hesitant in asking for certain provisions, such as spousal maintenance or supervised visitation, or seeking second legal opinions if necessary.
π Overcoming Fear: feeling the need to settle for less than what's fair because of discomfort with confrontation.
π οΈ Practical Tips & Maintaining a firm stance when advocating for your needs
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
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Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Tackle the sensitive issue of parental trash talk during divorce and its impact on your children. Lyn, a Family Lawyer and Specialist provides valuable insights into understanding the dynamics of trash talk, its effects on children's mental health, and strategies for co-parents to shield their kids from harmful conversations.
From navigating legal perspectives to empowering coping mechanisms, this episode offers guidance to help you create a supportive environment for your children amidst divorce proceedings.
In this episode you will learn about:
π‘οΈ Understanding the Impact of Parental Trash Talk:
- Are you grappling with the effects of parental trash talk on your children during divorce? Dive into the emotional toll it takes on your kids and grasp the long-term implications on their mental health and well-being. Gain insights into the legal perspective on protecting your children from harmful conversations amidst divorce proceedings.
π Deciphering the Dynamics of Trash Talk:
- Discover the hidden tactics behind parental trash talk and how it shapes your children's perceptions of themselves and you as parents. Learn practical strategies to identify and address instances of trash talk in your co-parenting dynamics. Understand the paramount importance of creating a safe and supportive environment for your children during this challenging time.
πͺ Empowering Coping Mechanisms for Co-Parents:
- Feeling overwhelmed by parental trash talk? Explore coping mechanisms tailored for co-parents to shield their children from its detrimental effects. Gain valuable insights into effective communication strategies that foster a positive co-parenting relationship, even amidst the toughest challenges. Be encouraged to prioritize your children's well-being and create a nurturing environment throughout the divorce proceedings.
β Creating a Safe Haven for Children:
- As a co-parent, you have the power to create a safe and supportive haven for your children amidst the turmoil of divorce proceedings. Discover guided strategies to foster this environment and prioritize your children's emotional well-being above all else. Equip yourself with the tools and resources needed to shield your children from harmful conversations and empower them to navigate this difficult time with resilience.
Join us on the Divorce Course Podcast for expert guidance on shielding children from parental trash talk amidst divorce proceedings, and empower yourself with strategies to create a supportive environment for your children during this challenging time.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
Useful Resources:
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
During your divorce effective communication is key. But what happens when you get sent big long ranting letters that take negotiations in circles instead of to settlement. In this episode you will gain valuable guidance on managing legal correspondence with your ex-partner or their representation. Learn the art of decoding divorce legal letters with their seven-step approach.
π€οΈ Navigating the Rocky Terrain:
Discover the significance of detaching emotional reactions from effective communication in legal proceedings. Our experts share insights on maintaining composure and focus amidst the challenges of divorce.
πͺοΈ The Back Blocks of Legal Gaslighting:
Delve into the world of legal gaslighting and understand the tactics involved. Uncover the subtle manipulations often present in legal correspondence and learn how to identify and respond to them strategically.
πͺ Coping Mechanisms and Tactical Responses:
Explore coping mechanisms that empower you to respond strategically to frequent and voluminous legal correspondences. Gain insights into maintaining control over the narrative and protecting your interests.
β Sit Back, Relax, and Decode:
Pour yourself a cuppa, sit back, and relax as our experts guide you through the intricacies of divorce legal letters. Find solace in understanding the process and arming yourself with knowledge to face the challenges ahead.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Decoding Legal Letters: A Methodical Approach
For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
Useful Resources:
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
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In this empowering episode, a legal negotiation expert shares valuable insights on navigating the challenging terrain of divorcing a narcissist. With a focus on strategy, leverage, anticipation, and personal empowerment, Laura & Lyn provide a roadmap for you to not only survive but thrive in the face of a narcissistic ex-spouse.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
π Key Takeaways:
- Strategy is Key: Learn the importance of having a well-thought-out game plan when divorcing a narcissist. Discover how strategic thinking can be a game-changer in negotiations and legal proceedings.
- Understanding Leverage: Uncover the power of leverage in dealing with a narcissistic ex. Explore how to identify and use your strengths to achieve better outcomes while protecting your interests.
- Anticipation as a Superpower: Delve into the art of anticipating a narcissist's behaviour. Understand how walking on eggshells during the relationship can transform into a superpower, allowing you to stay two steps ahead.
- Focus on "You": Explore the significance of personal empowerment and mindset in the divorce process. Learn how focusing on yourself can keep you on the offensive, setting the stage for a positive outcome.
- SLAY Framework: Introduce the SLAY framework (Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You) as a practical guide for negotiating with narcissists. Discover how these principles can be applied in real-life situations.
- Self-Care Matters: Emphasise the importance of self-care amidst the chaos of divorce. Learn simple yet effective ways to prioritise your well-being during challenging times.
- Keeping the High Road: Understand the power of taking the high road during divorce proceedings. Discover how maintaining your integrity and dignity can be a powerful tool in the long run.
- Your Comeuppance: Discuss the idea that the narcissist's comeuppance is not your responsibility. Learn to focus on your desired outcomes and personal growth rather than seeking revenge.
π Why You Should Listen:
If you're navigating a divorce with a narcissistic ex-spouse or want to be prepared for any potential challenges in the future, this episode provides practical strategies, expert advice, and a supportive mindset. Tune in to empower yourself and gain insights that can make a significant difference in your divorce journey.
π Connect with the Experts:
- Connect with Mia at Grey Rock Consulting
- For more information, follow the experts on Instagram: @GreyRockConsulting
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
Useful Resources:
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Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
The Narcissist's Chess Board: Understanding THE DIVORCE βSLAYβ Strategy
You donβt want to miss out on the answer to these questions
- What are the key elements of the SLAY framework?
- How does having a strategy help in divorce negotiations?
- Why is leverage crucial in dealing with a narcissist in divorce?
- Can you provide examples of leverage in different situations?
- Why is anticipating the narcissist's behaviour important?
- How can individuals leverage their knowledge of the narcissist's tendencies?
- How does anticipation play into the strategic planning process?
- Why is focusing on yourself essential in dealing with a narcissist?
- What are some practical ways to practise self-care during divorce?
- Why is it crucial to maintain integrity and take the high road during divorce?
- How does engaging in negative behaviours affect the overall outcome of your divorce?
- Why is it important for individuals not to focus on delivering the narcissist's comeuppance?
- How can one find satisfaction and closure without seeking revenge?
Living beyond the age of fifty and deciding to end a long-term marriage comes with its unique set of challenges and Laura and Lyn are here to help navigate those waters. With a blend of legal insights and personal anecdotes, this podcast serves as a beacon of support for those entering the uncharted waters of grey divorces
In this episode, the essential topics of asset division, spousal maintenance, gender roles, and future planning are explored. Gain some valuable insights into anticipating the involvement of adult children, the complexity of gifting during divorce, and tips on maintaining financial security through this challenging life transition.
From empowering older women to stand up for their rights to discussing the nuanced considerations of future needs and ill health in property settlements, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to those facing grey divorces.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
Useful Resources:
Protecting Property and Pre-Nups Episode
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Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
You donβt want to miss out on the answer to these questions
- What are some common challenges faced by individuals going through a grey divorce?
- How does property division work in the context of grey divorces?
- Are there specific considerations for pensions and spousal maintenance in grey divorces?
- How can individuals protect their property in new relationships after a grey divorce?
- What role do traditional roles play in creating problems in grey divorces?
- How can reverting to traditional roles trigger separations in grey divorces?
- Do older individuals in grey divorces often find themselves in traditional roles, and how does it impact their relationships?
- What risks are associated with handing over finances to a new partner in a grey divorce?
- How can older women in grey divorces overcome the inclination to follow traditional roles and fight for their rights?
- What advice is given to older individuals with a traditional mindset to ensure they get their fair share in divorce negotiations?
- How are future needs considered in property division for grey divorces, and what makes it different from younger couples?
- How does ill health affect property division in grey divorces, especially when one party is significantly sick?
- Can adult children become involved in property settlement disputes during grey divorces, and what impact does it have on the process?
- Is it possible to give gifts to children during the property settlement process, and what are the legal considerations?
- How can individuals make the separation process less painful and more efficient in grey divorces?
- Why is it important not to delay bringing a property settlement application in court for older couples?
- What unique pressures are faced by older individuals in grey divorces, and how can they navigate these challenges?
- How can individuals rebuild their social circles and find support during and after grey divorces?
- What suggestions are given for leading a fulfilling life after a grey divorce?
- How can older individuals go about finding love again after a grey divorce?
Tax Savvy Divorce: Shielding Yourself from Financial Surprises
In this illuminating episode, Lyn and financial expert Pedro Marin explore the often-overlooked intricacies of taxation during divorce. Unpacking complexities, they offer insights into protecting yourself from tax debt surprises and potential dramas involving businesses, companies, and trusts. Here's why this series is a must-listen:
Why Listen:
- Financial Shielding: Pedro Marin, a seasoned financial expert, provides strategies to guard against unexpected tax debt surprises.
- Divorce Preparedness: Gain insight into proactive financial management during and after divorce.
- Business and Trust Insights: Learn about potential dramas involving companies, businesses, and trusts during divorce and how to shield yourself.
- Empowering Education: Understand practical steps to safeguard your financial future and minimize tax impact.
- Crucial Questions: Delve into pertinent questions, ensuring you're not caught off guard during divorce proceedings.
Lyn and Pedro's engaging dialogue makes complex tax matters accessible, empowering listeners to shield themselves from financial surprises. Tune in to fortify your financial knowledge and protect yourself from tax debt and divorce-related dramas.
Disclaimer: This podcast offers general education only and is not legal advice. The opinions shared are based on one lawyer's perspective of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on information mentioned here without discussing and obtaining approval from your personal lawyer. Seek independent legal advice, as every situation is unique. By listening to this show, you agree that it and the company running it are not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Useful Resources:
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
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Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you facing intimidation or bullying in your divorce proceedings? In this empowering episode, Laura asks her experienced family lawyer mother to share crucial insights and actionable education to help you stand up against bullying tactics at every stage of the legal process.
Key Topics:
- Dealing with legal threats: Learn effective strategies for responding to threats and intimidation.
- Documenting incidents: Discover the importance of documenting bullying incidents and threats for legal purposes.
- Responding to untrue statements: Get valuable tips on crafting effective responses to false statements and accusations.
- Role of lawyers: Understand the role of lawyers in dealing with bullying tactics and how they can support you through the process.
- Bullying at court: Gain insights into handling intimidation during court proceedings, including interactions with opposing parties and legal representatives.
- Post-court pressures: Understand how to navigate and respond to post-court pressures and tactics.
Empower Yourself with Actionable Steps:
- Learn how to strengthen your position by documenting incidents effectively.
- Gain insights into crafting responses to counter untrue statements.
- Understand the crucial role of lawyers in navigating divorce proceedings.
- Equip yourself with strategies to stand up against bullying tactics.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINTor go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Helpful Questions Covered:
- How do you deal with bullies in a divorce situation?
- What happens when you give in to a bully's demands in the early stages?
- Can you appease a bully, especially in family law situations?
- How do bullies use imaginary or inflated threats during divorce?
- What are the consequences when bullies involve children in the process?
- How can a person respond to bullying tactics involving children?
- What role does documenting incidents of bullying play in court later on?
- Can writing a letter addressing bullying behavior stop such tactics?
- How do threats of going to court impact individuals trying to avoid it?
- What steps can someone take before court if faced with threats?
- Why is it important to consult with a family lawyer before making decisions?
Additional Episode Highlights:
The episode covers topics such as dealing with threats, handling bullying at court, and addressing post-court pressures. Listeners will gain valuable tips on documenting incidents, responding to untrue statements, and understanding the role of lawyers in the process. Whether facing threats from an ex-partner, dealing with a cheer squad in court, or handling pressure after proceedings, this episode equips individuals with actionable steps to navigate the challenging terrain of divorce while standing up against bullying.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Useful Resources:
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
These questions cover various aspects of bullying in divorce, including different stages of the legal process and strategies for dealing with bullying behavior.
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Ready to demystify mediation and get the lowdown on five myths that might be messing with your understanding and potentially your chance to settle and stay out of court? Join us on this episode as we unravel the complexities of mediation, offering you insights that will boost your confidence and make you see things in a whole new light. Forget what you've heard, and let's kick off the myth-busting right here on "The Divorce Course Podcast."
Whether it's on your radar or just a possibility down the road, this episode is your ticket to understanding what mediation is all about. Tune in to "The Divorce Course Podcast" and let's flip the script on those mediation myths!
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Episodes mentioned:
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
The Real Deal With Mediation: Dispelling 5 Common Misconceptions
Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:
- What are common misconceptions about mediation that can hinder the process?
- How does emotional readiness play a crucial role in successful mediation?
- What factors should be considered before agreeing to mediation shortly after separation?
- Is there a relationship between child custody arrangements and property settlements in mediation?
- How can one handle outrageous statements made during divorce mediation?
- Why is it essential to focus on the big picture rather than finer details in mediation?
- What role does guilt play in influencing mediation outcomes?
- How can one protect themselves from being pressured into signing agreements during mediation?
- Is verbal agreement binding in court if not documented after mediation?
- Can mediation with a narcissist be successful, and what strategies can help
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you struggling with the complexities of a potential upcoming custody battle, or fearing the potential impact on your parental rights if you leave your partner? If so, this episode is perfect for you. If youβve just broken up with your ex you may not yet be thinking about these 6 things, but you should. This episode serves as a reminder that during custody battles, past actions may be scrutinised like a "movie star" under a spotlight, and every detail could potentially be used in court. Learn some invaluable strategies to navigate the βunfit mother or bad father false narrativeβ, especially when dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex-partner.
From the importance of positive affidavits to meticulous documentation, this podcast episode provides general education for you on presenting a child-focused approach and safeguarding your position as a parent in your childβs life. This episode serves as a helpful resource for those anticipating a custody battle or looking to reinforce their parental rights, offering practical insights to help you face the challenges head-on.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Safeguarding Against Unfair Accusations in Custody Battles
Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:
- How do you counter false allegation of being a bad parent
- Do kids' playdates and best friends ever get mentioned in court orders?
- How can parents handle the struggles during custody battles?
- How important is it to maintain your childβs routine during custody disputes?
- Can accusations about neglecting a child's health impact custody cases?
- What about medication? Can that be a contentious issue in court?
- How does the court view non-compliance with medical advice and diagnosis?
- Can the court restrict visitation if a parent denies a child's diagnosis and medication?
- How does the court view contravention of children's orders?
- What role does legal compliance play in a custody case?
- How does a judge perceive a parent who consistently violated court orders?
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Are you facing a divorce, property settlement and custody battle with a narcissist? In this enlightening episode, we are joined by a Master High Conflict Negotiation Coach Mia Madafferi, Founder of Grey Rock Consulting to unravel the complexities of divorcing a narcissist while maintaining your sanity and control.
Explore the transformative power of mindset in the face of legal abuse and coercive control. Gain insights into anticipating narcissistic behaviour, protecting yourself during court proceedings, and effectively navigating mediation.
Discover the crucial role of self-awareness in breaking free from negative relationship patterns post-divorce and maintaining personal well-being.
This episode sheds light on common abuse patterns exhibited by narcissists, offering practical strategies and expert advice to empower listeners throughout their divorce journey. With a powerful mantraβ"They are more afraid of you than you are of them"βthis conversation serves as a valuable guide for anyone grappling with the challenges of narcissistic relationships and divorce.
Tune in to learn how to slay negotiation challenges, shift your mindset, and emerge stronger on the path to reclaiming control over your life and a better outcome in your divorce proceedings.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and insights. Each individual's situation is unique, and listeners are encouraged to seek legal advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The content herein should not be relied upon as legal advice.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Questions not to miss...
- How does mindset play a crucial role when dealing with a narcissist during divorce?
- What are some common challenges faced by individuals divorcing narcissists or those with narcissistic traits?
- How can a person shift their mindset to empower themselves during and after divorce from a narcissist?
- What role does radical acceptance play in changing one's mindset when divorcing a narcissist?
- Have you observed differences in the mediation process between individuals who have shifted their focus and those still stuck in old patterns?
- What strategies can be employed to gradually extract oneself from the psychological control of a narcissist?
- How does the concept of "baby steps" contribute to the process of changing mindset and establishing boundaries?
- In what ways do narcissists escalate their behavior when they sense a loss of control, especially during divorce proceedings?
- How can individuals protect their energy and mental well-being when they are required to interact with a narcissistic ex during divorce-related tasks?
- What practical steps can be taken to minimize the impact of negative communication, such as setting up email rules and avoiding unnecessary text messages?
- In the context of legal abuse, how can individuals protect themselves and maintain their power during divorce proceedings?
- How does the legal system and court processes contribute to the challenges of dealing with a narcissist in divorce?
- How can individuals anticipate and prepare for the tactics of a narcissist in legal proceedings?
- Can you share insights on dealing with word salad communication, such as long and confusing messages or letters?
- What advice do you have for handling legal abuse by a narcissist and remaining empowered during court proceedings?
- How can individuals cope with the emotional challenges of facing legal abuse and ongoing coercive control?
- What are some common patterns of abuse exhibited by narcissists, and how can individuals become aware of these patterns?
- How can individuals protect themselves from falling into the same negative patterns when entering new relationships after leaving a narcissistic one?
- In the fast-paced family court environment, what advice do you have for individuals to take the time they need and make informed decisions?
- How can single parents, especially those who have left a narcissistic relationship, manage the overwhelming demands of parenting and legal processes simultaneously?
- What valuable lessons have you learned from your experience in helping individuals navigate divorce and separation from narcissistic partners?
- Can you share some final words of wisdom or key takeaways for listeners dealing with narcissists in divorce?
Wondering how your property pool will be divided in your divorce and what future considerations impact your share?
Tune in to this enlightening episode where a distinguished family law specialist, backed by 35+ years of expertise in law, explains what the Family Law Act's Section 75 means in relation to property settlement percentages adjustments.
Gain invaluable insights into the crucial factors that can sway your property split percentage. This episode is your overview look for those going through the process at the intricate landscape of property settlement. The Family Law Act 1975 - Section 75 is the cornerstone of this discussion, unravelling the complexities and helping to provide clarity on the considerations that shape your financial future post-divorce.
Perfect for anyone navigating the nuances of property division in their divorce or defacto separation, this episode and additional podcast episodes are your go-to guide that can go hand in hand with your own lawyer to comprehend property settlement. Listen now to embark on the journey of informed decisions and financial empowerment!
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and insights. Each individual's situation is unique, and listeners are encouraged to seek legal advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The content herein should not be relied upon as legal advice.
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Don't miss out on
- What are the future needs that should be considered in determining the percentage of the property split in divorce?
- How does age and state of health play a role in determining future needs and affecting the property pool percentage?
- Does the court consider mental health issues, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, in relation to future needs?
- What factors contribute to the disparity of income, earning capacity, property, and financial resources between parties?
- How does having the care of a child impact the property division in divorce?
- Is there a financial advantage to having 50/50 care of the children, and does it affect the property pool?
- How does the court adjust the property pool based on each party's commitments and expenses for self-support or child support?
- What responsibility does each party have to support another person, particularly an adult child with a disability?
- How does the court consider a party's eligibility for a pension or benefit in the property division?
- Who determines what constitutes a "reasonable standard of living," and how does it influence property pool adjustments in divorce?
- Is it common for financial agreements to overlook spousal maintenance?
- How does the court adjust property division based on various factors, such as child custody, income, and health?
- What considerations are made when tweaking percentages in property division based on future needs?
- In practical terms, how realistic is it to consider all these factors in property settlement?
- How does the court handle cases where both parties are of the same age, same health, with equal custody and property split?
- Is there ever a dismissal of factors in property division, and what conditions lead to such dismissals?
- How do parties defend themselves against fabricated claims to secure a larger property pool percentage?
- Is it worth going to trial for minor percentage adjustments in the property division, considering the associated costs?
- How often do people agree on adjustments without going to court, especially when the differences are minimal?
- When dealing with child custody and property division simultaneously, how does uncertainty about future custody arrangements affect the process?
- In cases where custody is undecided, do people prioritize settling property matters first?
- How do lawyers balance property settlement and children's matters, considering the emotional involvement in child-related issues?
- Is there a noticeable difference in stress levels between property settlement and children's matters for family lawyers?
- How do you handle cases where one party may be making up information to secure a larger property percentage?
- What role does detailed proof play in defending against fabricated claims during property settlement?
- Considering the potential financial impact, how do lawyers advise clients on settling versus going to court for minor adjustments?
- How does the financial value of the overall property pool impact the decision-making process in property division?
- How do adjustments in property percentages translate into real dollars, and do people fully grasp the financial implications?
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Are you finding yourself staring at the ceiling, gripped by divorce-related stress and anxiety, unable to fall asleep at 2 am? Is your mediation or family court event looming, and your lawyer has said to make sure you get a good sleep? Ever wondered how lack of sleep amplifies the toll on your decision-making abilities during these challenging times? If these questions resonate, then this episode is for you.
Join us as we navigate the intricate connection between sleep and divorce stress with the brilliant Shea Morrison, a seasoned sleep coach. Uncover practical strategies, bedtime rituals, and the profound influence of light on your sleep patterns, tailored to alleviate the specific stresses of divorce.
Listen in for a podcast that not only addresses the challenges of divorce-related sleep amidst heightened stress and anxiety but sets you on a path to tranquil nights, empowering you to make sound decisions for your brighter future. π§π€
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https://www.sheamorrison.com/
https://www.thegoodnightco.com.au/
Don't miss out on: Unlocking Better Sleep Amidst Divorce: Learn how navigating sleep challenges during divorce can impact your overall well-being and strategies to overcome them.
The Divorce Sleep Struggle: What are the three crucial areas where sleep struggles emerge during divorce, and how can you address them?
Nightly Routine Hacks: Discover simple yet powerful steps to enhance your bedtime routine and ease into a restful night's sleep during this challenging life transition.
Relaxation Techniques for Better Sleep: Explore effective techniques to relax before bedtime, helping you achieve the quality sleep you need during divorce.
The Light-Sleep Connection: Understand the profound influence of light, especially blue light, on your sleep patterns and why managing it is crucial during divorce.
Melatonin's Role in Sleep Amid Divorce: Delve into the science behind melatonin and its significance in managing your sleep-wake cycle during the divorce process.
Morning Sunlight Rituals: Uncover the benefits of getting natural sunlight in the morning, a powerful tool for boosting your mood and promoting better sleep during divorce.
Evening Light and Sleep Quality: Learn how evening light exposure impacts the release of melatonin and discover strategies to improve your ability to feel sleepy when needed.
Creating a Sleep Haven: Explore practical tips for crafting a sleep-friendly environment that supports your well-being, especially in the midst of a divorce.
Navigating Nighttime Anxiety: Gain valuable advice on handling stress-triggered wake-ups and discover the importance of feeling safe in managing sleep disruptions during separation or divorce.
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Emergency Contacts: * + WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE + LEGAL AID + Lifeline 13 11 14 + Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 + Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 + Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 + Relationships Australia + Police on 000 + DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill + DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 + National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Embarking on the journey of property settlement amid divorce or separation might seem overwhelming, but fret not β our latest podcast episode is your friendly guide through the process. Gain a comprehensive overview, enriched with expert insights and practical tips, to navigate this challenging terrain.
Uncover the key elements of a successful property settlement and delve into the wisdom of Lyn, our seasoned expert, as she navigates high-conflict scenarios and sheds light on handling manipulative ex-spouses.
This episode not only imparts invaluable education but also empowers you, setting the stage for a potentially better outcome. Understanding the challenges ahead makes facing and preparing for them much more manageable. Tune in now to anticipate, navigate, and transform your journey into a smoother, less painful experience.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
What happens in property settlement during divorce?
Don't miss out on the answers to these helpful questions:
- How is property undone during a divorce or de facto separation?
- Are you about to go through a property settlement and unsure what to expect?
- What are the stages and steps involved in a property settlement?
- Is your property situation complicated with multiple assets like houses, businesses, trusts, or shares?
- Do you walk away with only what you brought into the relationship during a property settlement?
- Is the distribution of assets always a 50/50 split?
- How are contributions considered in property settlement, both financial and non-financial?
- What are the initial steps one should take when going through a property settlement?
- How do you value assets like a house, cars, and superannuation during this process?
- Can property settlement be achieved without going to court?
- What happens in a mediation session, and how successful is it in resolving disputes?
- How are consent orders obtained, and what's the difference between consent orders and financial agreements?
- If an agreement is not followed, how is it enforced, and can financial agreements be enforced differently than consent orders?
- How can individuals negotiate effectively during property settlement, and what factors can be negotiated besides percentages?
- How are future needs taken into account during property settlement?
- What advice do you have for individuals going through a property settlement, and are there common misconceptions they should be aware of?
- How many mediations do people typically go through before finding a resolution?
- How do you prevent yourself from getting too entrenched in your position during mediation?
- What role does commercial reality play in property settlement negotiations?
- In the context of property settlement, what does "smaller the property pool, the smaller the 10%" mean?
- What's the significance of the episode titled "The Court Conveyor Belt Revisited"?
- How has the duration of court proceedings for property settlement changed in recent years?
- What are the upfront costs and documents involved in initiating court proceedings for property settlement?
- How do families cope with the limbo of waiting for a court decision during property settlement?
- Can you distribute funds from the sale of a house even before a court outcome is reached?
- How do you handle interim financial needs, such as getting a bond for a rental property, during the property settlement process?
- What are the key components typically included in consent orders for property settlement?
- Why is it crucial to consult with a lawyer before signing any agreements related to property settlement?
- What is the difference between consent orders and just "orders" in the context of court decisions?
- How often do people appeal court decisions in property settlement cases?
- What is the process of appealing a court decision, and does it involve another trial?
- How does the court handle default orders when one party doesn't show up?
- How does a manipulative and controlling ex-spouse impact the property settlement journey?
- In a high-conflict property settlement, what strategies can be employed to navigate the situation?
- What is the significance of evidence and documentation when dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-spouses?
- How can you navigate negotiations with a high-conflict personality, and what alternatives to negotiation might be considered?
Episodes mentioned:
Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredone
Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetysix
The court conveyer belt: for family law, divorce, property settlement and children matters
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfour
I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyfive
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Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
If you are facing your first Christmas whilst going through your divorce, this episode is for you. A lighter bonus episode that explores 8 issues that people face when itβs Christmas and how to consider navigating it with your co parent or ex.
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Can you access your lawyer over Christmas?
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What happens with Family Court over Christmas?
- Why you need to learn to say βChristmas is when you say it is.β
- How to deal with Christmas alone or without the kids.
- Navigating Christmas traditions with two households
- How to deal with your ex's family at Christmas
- Christmas handovers
- Presents and CoParenting
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or youβve left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and childrenβs custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way.
We look at accusations of parental alienation, ways you can continue to be controlled and ways to protect yourself from the continuing abuse but also to act smart when it comes to the family law system. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace.
Part 2
Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14
Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.
Donβt miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions
- What does the court think about it if someone tells their child negative things about the other parent?
- How do you prove parental alienation, and what happens if the court doesn't like the evidence?
- What are the outcomes if the court determines that a person is not child-focused?
- How does the court handle cases where parental alienation is used as a tactic in a coercive control situation?
- Are there ways to protect oneself from accusations of parental alienation?
- What signs of coercive control relate to health and body issues after separation?
- What protections are in place for individuals concerned about the privacy of their mental health records during legal proceedings?
- How can someone overcome the guilt and psychological impact of self-care, especially in the context of accusations from the ex-partner?
- Do jealous accusations continue into the legal post-separation phase, and how do they manifest?
- How can someone deal with the ongoing interference and accusations related to their dating life post-separation?
- Have you left a coercive, controlling relationship but found that it followed you?
- What are the Twelve Signs of Coercive Control after separation?
- How does coercive control of money continue after separation?
- What are the ways in which direct control over money can be exerted after separation?
- How does manipulating child support payments contribute to coercive control after separation?
- Is nondisclosure and hiding of money recognized by the family court?
- What are the penalties for non-disclosure or non-compliance with court-ordered steps in financial matters?
- How does delaying disclosure serve an abuser in coercive control situations?
- What are the potential consequences for someone hiding assets during a divorce or separation?
- How can laypeople address issues of nondisclosure and hiding of assets in court?
- Should individuals proceed with mediation if the other party hasn't completed proper disclosure?
- How do traditional gender roles contribute to coercive control after separation?
- How can the court address the issue of unequal responsibility in co-parenting arrangements?
- What steps can be taken to avoid being held accountable for administrative tasks post-separation?
- How can one handle requests for detailed reports and updates from the other parent after separation?
- What are the potential consequences of turning kids against one parent in a coercive control situation?
- How can a parent protect their children from negative influence during a separation?
- What actions can be taken to counter attempts to turn kids against one parent in a divorce or separation?
- What happens if someone accuses you of parental alienation
- Is parental alienation a real thing?
- Examples of how the family court can view dating online
Sources Mentioned
Psychology Today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
If you are still in a world of coercive control even after separation or youβve left a coercive controlling relationship and you are still having difficulty with your ex then this episode is for you. Join us as we shed light on 12 signs that coercive control is still happening even after separation from your ex. Learn about the emotional trenches often dug by abusers post-separation and learn some strategies and gain some knowledge on how to navigate this rough terrain whilst going through the legal process of property settlement and childrenβs custody battles. Learn how coercive control is often only discussed as a thing that occurs whilst living in a relationship with someone, but it can very much continue afterwards in a different but similar way. Learn about Post Separation abuse and legal abuse and what can be done about it.
We look at the critical role played by your own self-compassion, how to construct solid emotional boundaries and deal with intense emotions surging from the urgent demands of your ex. This episode also touches on seeking professional help, challenging your own thought patterns, and ultimately understanding the existence of covert forms of control. With a strapping blend of empathy and practical legal education, Laura and Lyn guide listeners on this liberating quest towards regaining control, breaking free from the abuser's influence and forging a path towards a life abundant with autonomy and peace. Part 1
Trigger Warning: this episode discusses Coercive Control if you are triggered please call 1800 Respect or Life Line on 13 11 14
Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.
Donβt miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions
- How can you work on overcoming gaslighting?
- What are some steps to take and write down in order to remind yourself of your true thoughts and reality?
- How can you speak positively to yourself and change negative thoughts?
- How can you get connected and find people who will believe and support you?
- What evidence should you gather to counter claims made against you?
- How can you gather evidence of being a good mother and counter false labels?
- How should you handle communication with the other party's lawyer if they try to gaslight or divert attention from the main issues?
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What should you do if the other party fails to answer your letter or question?
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Strategies to combat gaslighting and doubt your reality.
- What is the importance of documenting and gathering evidence.
- What is the significance of speaking positively and being compassionate to yourself.
- What is the value of finding a supportive network and seeking legal advice.
Sources Mentioned
Psychology Today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/invisible-chains/202311/7-tips-to-un-gaslight-yourself-after-domestic-abuse
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Episodes Mentioned in this episode
Separated under one roof: the doβs and donβts in divorce
The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Wondering what happens to your superannuation when you get divorced or separated? Is it simply yours to keep, or is it considered part of the property pool to be divided and shared? These are important questions that many people have, and this podcast episode has the answers you need.
During a divorce or separation, it's easy to focus on the physical assets like houses, cars, and furniture. Donβt let your superannuation or theirs be overlooked. Fear not, this episode is here to guide you through the basics of the family court process and help educate you on your property settlement.
You might also be thinking about fairness when it comes to your ex's superannuation. Should you leave it untouched? Well, this episode will provide clarity on that too. It explores how superannuation can be divided and shared, taking into consideration factors like individual contributions, the duration of the relationship, and projected financial needs.
Remember, it's important to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer for your specific situation. While this podcast provides general information pertaining to Australian law, it does not replace personalised legal counsel.
Don't let your superannuation go forgotten. Tune into this informative episode and gain a better understanding of the divorce process and how it impacts your super.
What about Superannuation in your divorce or de facto separation?
Donβt miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions
- Have you ever said "I'm not going to touch your super"?
- Do you want to know how to keep your super during a divorce?
- Is superannuation a big argument factor during divorce?
- Are super and property the two big ticket items in divorce settlements?
- Do you want to keep your super instead of the house?
- How is super dealt with in divorce and what should you know?
- What are the questions you should ask about superannuation during a divorce?
- What if your ex wonβt disclose their superannuation
- Ways to find out about their superannuation.
Don't wait any longer - tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights for navigating your divorce or de facto separation.
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Episodes Mentioned in this episode
Separated under one roof: the doβs and donβts in divorce
I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.
Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Do you know your separation date? Do you know why it is important for divorce or de facto separation ? Do you know how to document it? Are you going through a difficult divorce and finding yourselves separated under one roof? Do you feel stuck and unsure of what steps to take next? Look no further! In this podcast episode, Laura and her Mother, a Family Law Specialist provide education and practical tips on navigating the challenges of living with your ex during a divorce and 5 tips and ways to document your separation date.
Learn about the importance of seeking legal advice, documenting the separation, and establishing an independent life whilst still being stuck in the same home. Whether you're contemplating the decision to leave or considering reconciling, this episode delves into the complexities and implications of separating under one roof and separation dates. Don't miss out on valuable insights and guidance - listen to this episode to gain clarity and take the next steps towards your new life.
Please always see a lawyer and get independent legal advice before acting on anything. This podcast provides australian general education only and cannot be applied to everyoneβs individual situations, so always go see a lawyer.
Episode Highlights:
- Practical tips for living arrangements while separated under one roof
- Establishing an independent life and documenting the separation
- Recognizing the implications of separating under one roof in property and child custody cases
- Separation dates and why they are important
- Importance of seeking legal counsel in your individual circumstances
Don't wait any longer - tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights for navigating your divorce or de facto separation.
Beyond the Split: Understanding Separation Dates and Cohabitation with your Ex
Donβt miss out on the following questions
- How do I handle the situation of being separated under one roof?
- How can I set up an independent life after a breakup while still living under one roof?
- What are the steps I should take with my lawyer?
- How can I determine what assets I can afford to keep?
- What are the financial implications of property division when it comes to separation date?
- How do I properly document my interactions and communications?
- What are some sneaky tricks to be aware of during the divorce process?
- Why is a divorce, separation date or de facto separation date important?
- What are the top five ways to establish a separation date?
- How to deal with living under one roof after separation?
- What are some practical tips for separated under one roof arrangements?
- Is nesting a solution co parenting with your ex?
- How can I set up a new independent life after separation if living under one roof still?
- If you sleep with your ex after separation does that count as getting back together?
- What happens if you have a brief reunion but then break up again?
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Episodes Mentioned in this episode
Separated under one roof: the doβs and donβts in divorce
I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.
Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are you feeling drained and defeated the aftermath of a failed mediation or family dispute resolution? Listen to this episode to gain essential insights to guide you through the challenges that follow a family law mediation gone wrong.
Key Takeaways:
Demolishing Arguments: CIA-Level Investigation
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Discover the importance of scrutinising your ex-partner's arguments post-mediation. Lynette reveals her method of creating a list of objections and systematically demolishing them with solid evidence.
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Offer Tactics: Leveraging Section 117C
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Delve into the world of post-mediation offers. Learn about crafting a compelling offer under Section 117C with your lawyer and strategically using it to your advantage.
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Ratcheting Towards Resolution: A Step-by-Step Approach
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Learn about the ratchet approachβlocking in agreements on smaller issues before progressing, ensuring tangible progress and minimising the risk of endless circling.
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Children and Property Negotiations: Juggling Two at Once
- Gain insights into whether it's practical to address children and property matters simultaneously in mediation, considering the nuances of each case.
Empower Yourself:
- Bolster Your Case with Evidence: Lynette emphasises the importance of gathering evidence to support your claims, offering examples of creative ways to prove your position.
- Stay Resilient Against Narcissistic Tactics: Strategies for dealing with narcissistic ex-partners who thrive on dragging out the process.
- Decode the Nights' Dilemma: let us shed light on the unspoken cues lawyers often use and offers a candid perspective on what judges may think.
Please remember that this podcast offers general education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.
Donβt miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions
- What if they won't sign anything during mediation?
- Is it advisable to bring up concerns about the mediation process if it's not working?
- Can a mediator help narrow down the issues that need to be decided in court?
- Should children's and property matters be dealt with in the same mediation session?
- How does a mediator handle cases where both parents want equal time with the children?
- Is it common for people to focus on children first in mediation, and is it related to financial considerations?
- How do judges view claims of spending time with children, especially when it's seemingly motivated by financial considerations?
- Is there a way to address the issue when someone appears to be using children for financial gain in court?
- How can you prevent a situation where an agreement reached in mediation is later changed by one party?
- What steps can be taken to stop a change of mind after reaching a settlement in mediation?
- How can you deal with the emotional aspect of a failed mediation, especially if you feel like you've failed?
- What should you do if you feel pressured or bullied during mediation?
- How can you handle an avoidant person in mediation, and what steps can be taken afterward?
- Is it common for people to feel like a failure after a failed mediation, and how can they overcome that feeling?
- What is the significance of the 117C reference in the context of mediation?
- How do you handle a failed mediation with an amicable person?
- How do you deal with high-conflict personalities in mediation?
- Is it worth it to give in to certain demands from a high-conflict person to reach an agreement?
- How does the emotional aspect differ in children's mediation compared to property mediation?
- Are there specific challenges or considerations in children's mediation that people should be aware of?
- How do people's mindsets change when it comes to negotiating child custody arrangements in mediation?
- Is there a change in mindset with the presumption of equal shared care, and how is the law evolving in this regard?
- What are the potential consequences if a mediation process goes awry?
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In the aftermath of a failed mediation, how can individuals cope with the investment of time, money, and emotion without achieving a resolution?
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What is the process of creating and dismantling a list of arguments following a mediation that didn't succeed?
- What defines a calderbank offer under Section 117C, and what strategic advantages does it provide?
- What risks does the opposing party face if they reject an offer made under Section 117C?
- Following an unsuccessful mediation, what methods can be employed to gather evidence to strengthen one's case?
- Could you provide an example of successfully obtaining proof to counter an argument raised during mediation?
- What steps can be taken if the other party refuses to sign the agreement at the conclusion of a seemingly successful negotiation?
- In what ways can gathered evidence be instrumental in supporting one's case and undermining the claims of the opposing party?
- How is the ratchet approach applied in mediation, and what role does it play in reaching resolutions?
- Can you explain the importance of locking in agreements on smaller issues before progressing towards more significant matters in mediation?
- Is it possible to address children and property matters simultaneously in mediation, and what challenges may arise?
- What factors typically come into play when negotiating arrangements related to both children and property?
- How should individuals navigate dealings with narcissistic ex-partners, especially if they initially seemed agreeable but later retract their consent?
- What are some unspoken cues often utilised by lawyers during discussions on children's nights and custody arrangements?
- From a judicial perspective, how are discussions about the number of nights a child spends with each parent perceived?
- How can individuals empower themselves and strengthen their case with evidence in the aftermath of a mediation?
- What strategies can be employed to maintain resilience in the face of tactics employed by narcissistic ex-partners?
- How does the distribution of nights a child spends with each parent impact the factors outlined in Section 75 of family law?
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Episodes Mentioned in this episode
Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours
Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law
Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers
The court conveyer belt: for family law, divorce, property settlement and children matters
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Are You a Victim of One-Sided Marital Contributions? Did you find yourself doing all the work in your household, from taking care of the kids to being the primary breadwinner and paying all the bills? Have you shouldered the household burdens while your ex-partner seemingly did nothing? Have you ever felt manipulated or coercively controlled into doing it all? What happens then when you want to separate? How can you present this in court and protect yourself from false assumptions?
As the modern landscape of marital/de facto roles changes, sometimes it can be one person who makes both all the financial contributions and the non financial. This episode deals with what to consider if this is happening to you.
We delve into the world of gold diggers in divorce, equipping you with the knowledge to protect your financial interests and regain control of your life. Discover helpful legal insights and strategies you need.Learn about strategies to use to ensure your true contributions are recognized and how to safeguard your assets when dealing with a financially uncooperative ex.
Get ready to address child support, manage high-conflict relationships, and handle manipulative and avoidant ex-partners. Join us in this comprehensive exploration of gold diggers in divorce, empowering you with expert guidance to secure your future.
Please remember that this podcast offers general education for Australia and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.
Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies to protect your assets from a non contributing ex.
Donβt miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions
- What happens when someone in a marriage refuses to work?
- What can you do if your ex is sitting at home and not contributing while you work hard?
- How do you protect your financial interests in a divorce when you've been the primary earner?
- What if your spouse demands spousal support after contributing very little?
- How can you deal with an ex-partner who's financially manipulative?
- What are the key factors considered in property settlements during divorce?
- How do you establish your contributions to the marriage when your ex is claiming otherwise?
- What is the court's approach to spousal support when one partner has contributed less?
- Can selling investment properties be a solution to financial disputes during divorce?
- What about child support when one partner isn't contributing to childcare?
- How do you approach child support when one partner is not contributing to childcare?
- What if your ex suddenly wants 50/50 custody when they weren't involved before?
- How do you counteract a manipulative ex's claim of increased involvement with the children?
- What do you say to those who are being used by their ex-partners and portrayed as the bad guy?
- How can you address the situation when your ex is manipulative and controlling?
- What should you do if you are dealing with an avoidant partner who refuses to leave?
- How can you deal with a high-conflict ex-partner who turns any conversation into a fight?
- What are some strategies for dealing with an amicable ex-partner in property settlements?
- How can you prove your contributions and handle spousal maintenance claims?
- How can you plan for a smoother divorce and financial security?
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Struggling with custody arrangements with unique work situations like FIFO (flyin fly out), military, or night roster work? We've got you covered with valuable insights and practical tips that can help you reclaim stability and sanity in your family life. Gain control of your custody challenges with essential legal education and strategies.
Learn about some of the key factors to consider when crafting custody arrangements, such as your child's developmental needs and best interests. Learn how to handle different personality types, including manipulative, controlling, high-conflict, and avoidant ex-partners, and create parenting plans that address various scenarios and work schedules.
Unlock the power of open communication, and seek legal advice when necessary, while considering the characteristics to look for in a lawyer specialised in these unique custody situations. Balance their career aspirations with your new life plans, ensuring the childrenβs needs are met.
With the right approach, even in complex work situations, you can find stability and prioritise your child's well-being.
Whether you're currently facing custody challenges or know someone who is, this episode provides invaluable insights that can make a significant difference in navigating this complex journey.
Please remember that this podcast offers general education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.
ββParenting Plan Solutions for Military Defence Force, FIFO, and Night Roster Challenges
Don't miss out on the answers to these essential questions:
- How do you create a parenting plan or consent orders for coparenting when one parent is on a roster or works in a job with irregular hours?
- Is it fair to allow a parent who works in a job with irregular hours to have the children whenever they are available?
- How do you handle situations where one parent refuses to share their work roster or schedule?
- What happens when a parent working in FIFO or military deployment wants 50/50 custody with the children after separation?
- How can the contributions of a stay-at-home parent be recognized in a divorce, especially if the other parent was the primary income earner?
- What if the rostered parent decides to change their work situation or reduce their income to spend more time with the children?
- How does the court determine which parent is the primary caregiver when one parent has irregular work hours?
- What role do family reports and child experts play in assessing the needs of the children during and after divorce?
- How can you create a stable parenting plan that accommodates the best interests of the children in situations involving rostered or irregular work hours?
- How do family report writers and court child experts play a role in helping children meet their developmental needs in custody arrangements?
- What's the importance of considering children's developmental stages in custody arrangements?
- How can parents create a custody arrangement that allows children to spend time with both parents according to their needs and developmental stages?
- How can parents avoid making custody arrangements solely about extra parenting time or rewards?
- How should parents deal with situations where children seem to prefer one parent at certain developmental stages?
- What are some common challenges faced by parents with FIFO (Fly-In-Fly-Out) work arrangements in custody matters?
- How can parents address issues like last-minute requests for child visits and roster changes in custody arrangements?
- Can you explain more about creating a detailed parenting plan to address different scenarios in custody arrangements?
- What advice would you give to parents who have an avoidant ex-partner when trying to establish a custody arrangement?
- How can parents effectively communicate and work together to create stable custody arrangements, especially if one party tends to be manipulative or controlling?
- Are there any specific qualities or skills to look for when seeking a lawyer to help with military or FIFO custody arrangements?
- Can you provide more details on what to bring when consulting with a lawyer regarding custody arrangements?
- How can parents balance the career aspirations of one parent in military or FIFO work with the personal and career goals of the other parent in custody arrangements?
- Can you offer some advice for parents who might feel overwhelmed by the complexity of custody arrangements, particularly in military or FIFO situations?
- What steps can parents take to assert their own needs and lives while also considering their children's best interests in custody arrangements?
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Feeling lost and overwhelmed in the divorce or de facto separation process? In this episode, we've got you covered with nine invaluable tips that you can put into action today. Gain the clarity and breathing space you need to confront your divorce head-on with essential family law legal tips and crucial mental health strategies.
Learn how to set achievable goals, decode intimidating legal letters, select the perfect lawyer, and prioritise your mental well-being. Discover the power of taking control of your situation, making well-informed choices, and finding moments of self-care amid the chaos.
Whether you're facing a divorce or know someone who is, this episode is a must-listen for insights that can make a significant difference during this life-changing journey.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
Legal and Emotional Wellness in Divorce: 9 Expert Tips to Guide You
Don't miss out on the answers to these questions:
- How to stop feeling overwhelmed during divorce?
- Why is reading legal letters so stressful in divorce?
- What are red herrings in divorce paperwork and negotiations?
- Ways to recognize and avoid red herrings during divorce.
- Managing financial stress and legal matters during a divorce.
- Finding the right lawyer for your divorce β Does personality matter?
- Is an aggressive lawyer worth the cost in a divorce?
- Importance of self-care in reducing stress during a divorce.
- Proactive steps for better mental health during divorce.
- Why are health check-ups crucial during a divorce?
- How to set achievable goals during a divorce?
- What strategies can help make reading legal letters less intimidating?
- Why is choosing the right lawyer essential for a smooth divorce process?
- How to create a divorce plan A and plan B for better decision-making?
- What does it mean to get your 'head out of the sand' during divorce?
- Why is finding a lawyer who shares your ethics important?
- How can one maintain composure and a level head during a divorce battle?
- Why prioritise mental health when going through a divorce?
- Importance of weekly self-care routines during divorce.
Tune in now to transform your daunting divorce journey into a manageable one!
Episodes mentioned:
- "Do I really need to respond to that?! When co-parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings."
Useful Resources:
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Emergency Contacts:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.
Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
The last thing anyone really wants in their divorce is the thought of going to court. The cost, the worry and the work involved is enough to put anyone off. So in this episode we are going to guide you through the ways you can stay out of court for your propery settlement, or childrens arrangements and custody issues. Explore possible ways you can get your negotiations and agreements sorted without taking a step into a court room or leaving it all up to a judge.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by even thinking about starting the process this is a good start for you. If you are headed to court and want to stop it, this episode is also for you. If you just want to know what your options are before you take that next step this episode is for you.
It's time to take control of your new future. It's time to educate, empower and equip yourself so you are in the driving seat of your divorce process.
How to avoid going to family court: property, children's matters during your divorce
Questions you wont want to miss out on
- What are the options for avoiding court when it comes to property settlement?
- What are the two primary methods for property settlement without going to court?
- How do financial agreements work for property settlement?
- What is the significance of consent orders in property settlement?
- What is arbitration and its role in property matters?
- How can parents avoid going to court for parenting arrangements?
- What is a parenting plan, and how does it differ from consent orders?
- Can informal parenting agreements work effectively without legal documentation?
- How can you avoid going to court when dealing with the divorce process?
- What's the difference between a divorce application and other family law matters?
- When is it advisable to lock in a parenting plan or consent orders?
- Are there cases where financial motivations impact parenting arrangements?
- How do you enforce parenting arrangements when outlined in a consent order?
- What is an overview of the divorce process for de facto couples?
- What's the difference between a parenting plan and consent orders in terms of enforceability?
- How do you draft consent orders that the court recognizes?
- What is the role of mediation in avoiding court for parenting arrangements?
- Can you avoid going to court for divorce if you don't have children?
- What is the significance of the 12-month separation requirement for divorce in Australia?
- How long does it typically take to get your official divorce documents after the court hearing?
- Can you avoid going to court if you have a parenting plan and are happy with the arrangements?
- Why might someone want to shorten the time it takes for their divorce to become final?
- What are the legal grounds for divorce in Australia?
- Is there official paperwork for de facto couples who want to separate?
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Learn about the new updates to the course based on the changes happening in the FCFCOA Family Court of Australia. We dive deep into a game-changing resource for anyone facing the challenges of divorce. We introduce you to the "DIY Divorce Blueprint," a comprehensive course designed to empower, educate, and equip you with the legal know-how and tools needed to navigate your divorce journey confidently.
Discover the course's unique features, real success stories, and the benefits of taking control of your divorce process. From creating property orders to settling parenting agreements and attending mediation, this course provides a roadmap to a better life post-divorce.
Join us as we explore the course modules, insights from current members, and the incredible value it offers. Don't miss the opportunity to take control of your divorce journey with the "DIY Divorce Blueprint."
Enrol now and empower yourself to navigate divorce confidently while saving money and your sanity.
BONUS EPISODE: NEW UPDATES IN THE FAMILY COURT FOR THE DIVORCE PROCESS AND NEW UPDATES IN OUR DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you currently navigating a challenging divorce situation, dealing with an ex-partner who seems like a special case? Worried it might be game over before youβve even had a chance to get what is fair? Well in this episode we will walk you through 9 scenarios that are commonly worried about during divorce.
- Asset Concealment and Non-Disclosure: What to do when your ex is hiding assets.
- High-Conflict Exes: Strategies for managing highly contentious situations.
- Claims of Total Ownership: How to handle an ex who insists they're entitled to everything.
- Short De Facto Relationships: Navigating divorces in shorter-term relationships.
- Complex Trusts and Business Entities: Deciphering the complexities when assets are tangled in trusts and businesses.
- Honey Traps and Coercive Control: Escaping manipulative, controlling situations.
- Narcissistic Exes: Strategies for dealing with classic narcissistic behaviour in divorce proceedings.
- Exβs that you are worried will outsmart you in the end
- Wealthy and Powerful Exes: Understanding your rights when your ex holds the financial power.
Listen to this episode to alleviate some of that worry as you get educated on the power of the family court and the power within yourself.
Uncover the secrets, tips, and strategies for each of these scenarios. We promise you'll leave feeling a lot better about your situation. Discover what steps to take next. Hit that play button and empower yourself to thrive amidst the challenges of divorce.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What do you do if your ex's family has money, and you can't afford a lawyer?
- What are dollar-for-dollar orders in the context of legal fees?
- How can you deal with a situation where your ex is financially controlling you?
- What happens if your ex has put all assets into trusts and legal entities?
- Is a short de facto relationship entitled to a property settlement?
- What should you do if your ex insists that you're not entitled to anything?
- How do you handle a high-conflict or narcissistic ex in legal proceedings?
- What are some common reasons people give for avoiding divorce proceedings?
- What happens when one party wants to move on with their life, but the other party is dragging their feet?
- How can you handle situations where one party is trying to delay or stall the divorce process?
- Is it a good idea to use delay tactics in divorce proceedings?
- How can you protect yourself from financial harm when going through a divorce?
- What can you do if you're concerned about your ex-spouse selling or transferring assets during the divorce?
- How do you navigate divorce when one party is emotionally volatile and prone to arguments?
- What should you do if your ex-spouse is refusing to cooperate with the divorce process?
- Are there consequences for arguing during divorce proceedings?
- How can you ensure that your divorce proceedings have an adjudicator and move forward efficiently?
- What if your ex-spouse is hiding assets, being sneaky, or telling lies during the divorce?
- Can you find out if someone is hiding assets without them disclosing it?
- How do you deal with someone who is sneaky and manipulative during divorce proceedings?
- What if they won't cooperate or disclose financial information?
- How can you address the issue if your ex is a narcissist?
- Is it a bad idea to get lawyers involved if you're afraid of negative consequences?
- What if one party claims that you're not entitled to anything or that it was only a short de facto relationship?
Balancing the Unbalanced: Navigating Divorce When the Scales Seem Tilted
Podcast Mentioned in this Episode
Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support
DIVORCE ON A BUDGET: How to negotiate, mediate and go to court on a shoestring
DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support
The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
We're pulling back the curtain on the financial costs of divorce or de facto separation, helping you understand the complexities that often baffle many. Whilst it might be a topic no one wants to hear about, it could very well be the one topic youβd wish you were across when you get your legal bill at the end of your divorce proceedings.
Join us as we demystify the fearsome realm of legal fees. We will address your common fears associated with hiring a lawyer, offering insights into trust accounts and the importance of transparency. Ever heard of drafting charges, reading fees, or the staggering costs of court proceedings? We break that all down for you also.
By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with 6 simple hacks that will help you keep your legal costs down. Arm yourself with knowledge, making confident decisions as you navigate this pivotal moment in your life.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What factors contribute to the varying costs associated with legal services in family law?
- How can you proactively inquire about the fees during your initial consultation with a lawyer?
- Can you elaborate on the concept of trust accounts and their significance in legal transactions?
- In what ways can you effectively dispute legal fees that seem unreasonable or unexpected?
- What are the practical steps for you to manage legal costs, especially concerning documentation and administrative expenses?
- When faced with unexpected charges, how can you address discrepancies in your legal bills?
- What strategies can you employ to question specific charges and gain a clear understanding of your legal fees?
- How can you dispute fees if you believe you are being overcharged, ensuring a fair resolution?
- Amidst legal complexities, how can you navigate the intricacies of legal fees, especially when scale costs are involved?
- How can you assess the value of legal services based on hourly rates and scale costs, ensuring transparency and fairness?
- How can you leverage online resources to compare scale costs and the charges quoted by your legal representatives?
- In transitioning to a paperless office, what benefits can you expect in terms of reduced costs, especially related to photocopying expenses?
- What strategies can you implement to minimise photocopying costs, ensuring efficient use of resources during legal proceedings?
Resource Mentioned in this episode
FCFCOA Website Costs Information
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Have you got concerns about starting or current property settlement in your divorce? Are you concerned about the cost of consulting a lawyer? Worried that pursuing property settlement might disrupt your peace? Anxious about your ex having a savvy legal team? Concerned about how others might perceive you during this process?
We discuss all these apprehensions and more, offering practical tips and guidance to help you navigate property settlement with confidence. Our goal is to ensure you get a fair outcome without the stress of these worries looming over you or you just giving up on it altogether.
Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself during this challenging time. Don't let these concerns hold you back from achieving a just property settlement. Listen now to find the solutions you need to address your worries and secure what's rightfully yours.
In this episode, we delve into the top seven worries people commonly have about divorce property settlement. Join us as we explore these concerns and provide valuable insights on how to address them.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Your Top 7 Property Settlement Concerns During Divorce: How to Address Them
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- "What do you say to people who claim that their ex is too smart or has hired an expensive lawyer, making the fight for a fair settlement too difficult?"
- "How do you address concerns that the ex-spouse is manipulative, sneaky, or dishonest, making the divorce process not worth the effort?"
- "What advice do you have for individuals who think it's not worth pursuing consent orders for property when they believe they have very little to divide?"
- "How can you assure someone who wants to prioritize peace for the sake of the children that pursuing a property settlement won't lead to unnecessary conflict?"
- "What should someone consider when they're afraid of the potential cost of divorce and would rather spend that money elsewhere?"
- "How do you respond to individuals who have seen others go through amicable divorces and feel embarrassed or ashamed to confront a more challenging situation?"
- "Can you provide guidance on handling a divorce situation when you feel overwhelmed by the comparisons with other people's experiences?"
- "What steps can someone take to protect their legal rights in a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"
- "How important is privacy when going through a divorce, and how can one balance personal privacy with seeking support and advice?"
- "Are there specific strategies for maintaining effective communication with an ex-spouse during a divorce, even if it's expected to be high-conflict?"
- "What considerations should someone keep in mind when deciding whether or not to pursue a divorce?"
- "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively?"
- "Can you explain the importance of seeking professional guidance and support when going through a divorce?"
- "What are the potential risks of comparing one's divorce situation to others, and how can one avoid feeling pressured to conform to someone else's experience?"
- What do you say to someone who feels overwhelmed and ashamed because they believe their ex is smarter or more cunning in the divorce process?"
- "How can you encourage individuals to seek legal help when they fear that their ex-spouse will make the divorce difficult?"
- "What advice would you give to someone who thinks their case isn't worth pursuing because they believe there are minimal assets to divide?"
- "How important is it to maintain one's privacy during a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"
- "Can you explain why it's essential for people not to be embarrassed or ashamed if their divorce experience isn't as amicable as others?"
- "What steps can someone take to regain a sense of control and power when they've been guilted or shamed into giving up in their divorce?"
- "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively, even when they're feeling overwhelmed?"
- "What's the significance of taking action in a divorce rather than procrastinating and avoiding it?"
- "Can you elaborate on why comparing one's divorce situation to others can be misleading and unhelpful?"
- "What are some strategies for maintaining peace and effective communication with an ex-spouse during a potentially high-conflict divorce?"
- "How do you address the concern that it's not worth pursuing a divorce due to a busy life, especially when dealing with kids and work responsibilities?"
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Sign up here for our next free online webinar
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you on the verge of selecting a family lawyer for your divorce, property settlement, or child custody concerns? Worried about the looming spectre of a colossal legal bill? Tune in as we unravel the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the art of choosing and collaborating with a divorce attorney or family lawyer.
Discover under-the-radar, yet incredibly effective, strategies for engaging with a lawyer that can potentially save you thousands in legal fees. Unlock the secrets of what to inquire when seeking the perfect lawyer and delve into the myriad of approaches you can adopt with your legal counsel, tailored precisely to suit your unique needs and circumstances.
Empower yourself with a deep understanding of how lawyers operate and what to anticipate. Step into that legal office or pick up that phone with unwavering confidence. This episode might just be the game-changer you need to make informed decisions early on, securing a brighter outcome for your divorce, your finances, and your legal expenses.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably havenβt heard of.)
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How do you choose a lawyer for your divorce or separation?
- What are the different ways to use a lawyer in divorce proceedings?
- What is the "first class approach" to using a lawyer in divorce, and what are its drawbacks?
- How can being educated about family law and the legal process help you in your divorce journey?
- What are some common misconceptions people have about lawyers and divorce?
- How can taking a step-in, step-out approach with your lawyer benefit you in divorce proceedings?
- What role does mediation play in divorce, and why is it important to be aware of this process?
- How can understanding the stages and steps of divorce proceedings reduce stress and uncertainty?
- What are the potential pitfalls of not sharing important information with your lawyer during divorce?
- How can being proactive and informed about your divorce process lead to a smoother and less stressful experience?
- How can you use a lawyer in a divorce case without spending a fortune?
- What are the different ways to involve a lawyer in your divorce process?
- How can having a lawyer for a "legal look" benefit you in a divorce case?
- What is the significance of understanding the legal process in a divorce case?
- Why is it important to have a lawyer review any documents before you sign them in a divorce?
- How can understanding the Family Law Act help you navigate your divorce more effectively?
- What is Section 102 NA of the Family Law Act, and how can it help victims of domestic violence in divorce cases?
- Why is it crucial to be smart about using lawyers in divorce, especially in terms of costs
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Canβt afford a lawyer? Seven top tips to follow for childrenβs or property settlement in the family law court
Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you facing the challenges of dividing up the property in your divorce and are stuck in a deadlock? Join us as we answer key questions and provide practical tips for handling deadlocks in divorce property settlements. Whether you're handling your divorce independently or with legal representation, these insights will empower you to drive the process forward effectively.
We delve into the pressing topic of handling deadlocks in divorce negotiations, offering valuable guidance to help you navigate these complex situations.
Discover practical strategies for dealing with non disclosure, asset valuation and stonewalling tactics sometimes used by other parties. We explore options for breaking through these deadlocks, ensuring a fair distribution of assets.
Learn how to manage your emotions during this process and understand the emotional value of items in play. We'll also share techniques for fostering an equitable mindset in asset division. Gain a better understanding of how to approach divorce negotiations with a business-like attitude.
While we can't replace personalised legal advice (which you should always get from your own legal representative before taking any actions in your case,) we aim to equip you with the knowledge and confidence to tackle asset division challenges head-on.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Deadlocks in Divorce: Strategies for Non-Disclosure, Valuation Fights, and Stonewalling
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What are some practical tips for dealing with deadlock situations in divorce?
- How can you stop the 'What ifs?' from running in your head?
- What can you do if your ex doesnβt do disclosure?
- What happens if your ex wonβt let you see their bank statements etc.
- How do you turn your anxiety about asset division into a 'So what?' attitude?
- What if you've given a deadline for asset valuation, and it passes without a response?
- How can you ensure you follow through with your stated actions if the other party doesn't cooperate?
- What strategies can you employ to deal with deadlocks in divorce negotiations?
- What can you do if you're handling the divorce process on your own without legal representation?
- How can you make sure you're effectively driving the divorce process forward?
- Is it essential to treat divorce negotiations like a business transaction?
- How can we value items like cars, jewellery, and other assets?
- Valuation can be expensive. What if someone can't afford it?
- How do you un-deadlock a situation when you can't even afford to pay for valuation?
- How do you determine if you're being difficult about a certain item due to past emotions?
- What is the emotional value of an item, and how does that play into the decision-making process?
- How can you ensure equitable distribution of assets?
- What strategies can be used to divide assets fairly?
- Are there alternative methods for estimating the value of items?
- How can online resources like Facebook Marketplace or Redbook help in estimating values?
- How important is attitude adjustment in resolving valuation disputes?
- What steps can individuals take to adjust their attitude towards asset division?
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Delay Tactics in Divorce: How to counter then & How it can affect your Property, Children's & Domestic Violence Matters
DIY Divorce Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement & child support
Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements
How to divorce a statue: 7 tips to divorce an avoidant ex even if they stonewall you or disappear.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues in Australia? Learn from this insightful episode from a seasoned family law accredited specialist expert with over 35 years in family law. Where youβll explore the critical topic: "Best Interests of the Children." Whilst we don't claim to be child psychologists, we will shed light on what this concept means in the eyes of the Family Court, providing valuable educational guidance for a concerned parent just like you.
Discover how the family court evaluates factors like relationships with both parents, the views of children (considering age and maturity), financial and emotional contributions post-separation, and practical changes in routines.
Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues?
In this episode we will address "What will happen to my children? How does the court decide? What's truly best for them?" While we can't replace personalised legal advice, we offer clarity and educational confidence in understanding your children's potential paths during divorce or separation in the eyes of the Family Court in Australia.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Decoding the Family Court's Perspective on 'Best Interests of the Children' in Custody Cases.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What are the primary considerations when determining the best interests of the children in family court?
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How does the court balance the child's right to have a meaningful relationship with both parents and the need to protect them from harm?
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What role do family report writers play in child custody matters, and how do their recommendations influence court decisions?
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At what age can a child's views be considered by the court, and how does the court assess their maturity in expressing those views?
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What impact does a history of domestic violence have on child custody decisions?
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How does the court evaluate each parent's involvement in decision-making and spending time with the child?
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What happens if one parent hasn't paid child support since separation, and how does this affect custody decisions?
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How does the court consider the practical effects and potential disruptions on children when making custody arrangements?
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How does a child's individual needs and vulnerabilities, such as neurodiversity or disabilities, influence custody decisions?
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What are some common mistakes parents make when initially separating and how does it affect their custody cases?
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Is nesting (where parents alternate living in the family home) a practical solution for maintaining stability during separation, and what are the potential challenges?
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What happens if you need to leave the family home during separation, and how does it affect your rights concerning property?
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What factors determine the practical difficulty of a child spending time with both parents, especially in cases of fly-in, fly-out work arrangements?
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How do distance and work commitments of parents affect custody arrangements?
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Should parents worry that if one ex makes significantly more money than the other, the children might be ordered to live with them?
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What are the primary considerations that the Family Court takes into account when determining the best interests of the children in custody arrangements?
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What does it mean for a parent to provide for the children's intellectual, emotional, and social needs?
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How does a parent's mental health or diagnosed mental health issues factor into custody decisions?
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What role does the maturity, sex, lifestyle, and background of each parent play in custody arrangements?
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How does the court ensure that a child's cultural heritage is supported after a separation?
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How does the court assess a parent's attitude towards their responsibilities of parenthood?
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How does family violence, both between parents and towards children, impact custody decisions?
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What role do domestic violence orders play in custody cases?
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How does the court aim to avoid ongoing litigation and its impact on children?
How does the court consider children's ages and development stages in custody decisions?
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What is meant by "equal shared parental responsibility," and how does it relate to custody arrangements?
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What changes are expected in family law regarding the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility?
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
FAMILY REPORTS https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseven
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Discover how every word and action can impact your case, and learn strategic approaches to navigate manipulation from an ex-partner. From securing sentimental items to making legally sound decisions, we equip you with some essential tools to navigate your divorce journey effectively.
Delve into the often overlooked but vitally important legal dimensions of divorce or de facto separation. Whether you're amidst the process or foresee it on the horizon, our expert insights are a compass through the emotional and legal storm.
Tune in now to gain expert guidance from a family law specialist on safeguarding your interests and ensuring a smoother ride through the family court to your new future. Your journey through divorce doesn't have to be tumultuous β let's navigate it together.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What legal considerations should people keep in mind while going through a divorce?
- How can being reactive during a divorce be detrimental, and what's a better approach?
- What should you do with valuable and sentimental items during a divorce?
- Why should promises made during the emotional turmoil of a breakup be approached cautiously?
- How can social media and electronic communication impact a divorce case legally?
- What strategies can help prevent actions being used against you in a court of law?
- How does the court view possessions and belongings in a divorce, and why does it matter?
- Why is it important to create a clear plan for children and pets during a divorce?
- What happens if you make promises during a divorce that aren't legally binding?
- How can you safeguard your belongings and pets during a divorce?
- What could be the consequences of reacting strongly during a breakup?
- Why is it important to consider the legal aspect of divorce, even amid emotional turmoil?
- What are some practical steps to ensure a smoother transition during a divorce?
- What does "start as you mean to go on" mean in the context of handling child custody arrangements?
- How does the court view the history of parenting responsibilities after separation when making custody decisions?
- Why is it crucial to establish a strong presence in your children's lives early on after separation?
- What is the significance of maintaining the status quo in a legal context, especially regarding children?
- How has the law changed in terms of shared parental responsibility and equal time arrangements?
- What steps can you take to ensure that you're financially prepared for the challenges of divorce and separation?
- Why is it important not to rely on your ex-spouse for financial support during the divorce process?
- How can you safeguard your financial interests while navigating property settlement negotiations?
- What precautions should you take when communicating with an avoidant ex-partner during divorce?
- How can written communication be misinterpreted or manipulated in high-conflict divorce cases?
- Why is it essential to be careful with your words and actions when dealing with a manipulative and controlling ex-spouse during divorce?
- How can seemingly innocuous actions, like accepting help with childcare, be used against you in a high-conflict divorce situation?
- What role do school/ day care pick-up registries and other school records play in divorce court cases?
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Taking control of your finances & red flags of financial abuse with guest Pedro Marin
The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce
Consent Orders: itβs not rocket science. Explore the what, when, why, how of property and parenting consent orders after divorce so you know whatβs what.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you facing the challenges of co-parenting after a divorce or separation? The idea of parenting coordinators might sound appealing, promising to ease communication and decision-making between you and your ex. But, before you sign up, it's essential to understand the potential pitfalls.
Join us in this podcast episode as we delve into the concept of parenting coordinators and explore the concerns surrounding them. From issues of control and decision-making to the impact on children's upbringing, we dissect this increasingly discussed topic. We'll also offer alternative strategies for resolving co-parenting conflicts and emphasise the importance of active parental involvement.
Whether you're navigating the complexities of co-parenting or just curious about the potential downsides of parenting coordinators, this episode offers valuable insights and advice. Remember, knowledge is your best tool for making informed decisions.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is a parenting coordinator?
- What are the risks of a parenting coordinator with a narcissistic/ manipulative and controlling ex
- Are parenting coordinators a good idea for co-parenting?
- Can parenting coordinators make decisions about child-raising?
- Can parenting coordinators help in high-conflict situations?
- How do parenting coordinators impact the financial aspect?
- Are there risks of bias with parenting coordinators?
- How does the involvement of parenting coordinators affect children?
- Why is the concept of parenting coordinators seen as a potential issue?
- What concerns are raised about parenting coordinators?
- What caution is advised regarding parenting coordinators?
- How is the idea of parenting coordinators viewed?
- What analogy is used to explain the perspective on parenting coordinators?
- What is considered crucial in the business of co parenting after a separation?
- What potential effects could parenting coordinators have on children?
- How is the idea of parents learning to manage co-parenting challenges perceived?
- How is co-parenting compared to a business partnership?
- What concerns are expressed about the lack of regulation in the field of parenting coordinators?
- What alternative options are proposed for resolving co-parenting conflicts?
- What could be the consequences if parents rely solely on parenting coordinators?
- What advice is given to parents considering parenting coordinators?
- What is the purpose of the pop parenting courses?
- What should people going through post separation abuse watch out for when parenting coordinators are recommended?
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
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Are you grappling with how lump sums, like inheritances, personal injury payouts, and redundancy payments, are treated during your divorce, de facto separation property settlement in Australia?
Have you received an inheritance from a beloved family member and donβt know if it might have to be shared with your ex-spouse? Not to worry, because in this episode, we're exploring the many different possibilities and outcomes when it comes to lump sums of money in property settlements.
We're here to address your concerns, draw insights from real-life cases, and provide general guidance even if you're not going to family court.
It's a lot to unravel, we know, but understanding how the courts perceive these situations and what rulings have been made in the pasts can help you effectively navigate these issues during your mediation or settlement discussions with your ex-spouse.
Listen now to gain valuable strategies for protecting your financial interests during property settlements involving lump sums. Learn how different scenarios impact the division of assets and ensure you're making informed decisions.
So, whether you're facing an impending separation, in the midst of a divorce, or simply curious about how lump sums fit into property settlements, tune in and empower yourself with valuable knowledge. Your freedom & financial future awaits β let's tackle these challenges together!
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Who keeps the Inheritance, Injury Payouts & Redundancies in Divorce?
Your General Guide to Lump Sums in Property Settlement.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How do you deal with lump sums in property settlement?
- Is it really fair if you get an inheritance from a passed-on parent or family member and then half of it ends up having to go to your ex in a property settlement?
- What about personal injury claims? How are they treated in property settlements?
- What happens if someone hasn't claimed their personal injury settlement yet, but they can?
- How are redundancy payments handled during property settlements?
- Can redundancy payments and other lump sums be counted as property if they're just sitting in a bank?
- How does the court consider redundancy payments and other windfalls used to improve the family home?
- What are the strategies for protecting your financial interests in property settlements involving lump sums?
- How can different scenarios impact the division of assets?
- How can individuals ensure they are making informed decisions regarding lump sums during divorce proceedings?
- Are redundancy payments, long service leave, and bonuses all included in the same category, or are bonuses different?
- How does the court treat long service leave, especially if it's used for purposes like going on a holiday or buying a house?
- What about bonuses? How are they treated in property settlements?
- What happens if someone uses their long service leave to buy a house or goes straight into another job?
- How are bonuses considered, especially if they are based on performance or company performance?
- If an ex-spouse receives a bonus before property settlement, does that bonus become part of the property pool?
- How does the court handle personal injury claims or inheritances received before marriage or before entering a de facto relationship?
- Can you prevent certain assets, like inheritance, from being divided during property settlement through specific wording in a will?
- Is there a way to ensure fairness when an ex-partner is trying to avoid touching certain assets like inheritance, personal injury claims, etc.?
- Can the knowledge and information discussed in this session be used during mediation or negotiations with legal letters?
- What are some common attitudes people have towards not touching specific assets during property settlement, and how does that impact the overall outcome?
- Is it possible for someone to "technically not touch" an asset like inheritance, but still have it affect the property pool distribution?
- How can one disclose assets like potential personal injury claims or inheritances during the property settlement process?
- Is it possible to set up wills to prevent specific assets from being divided during property settlement?
- What factors contribute to a fair property settlement according to the Family Law Act?
- How can someone deal with the emotional side of property settlement, especially when it involves assets like inheritance or personal injury claims?
- Why is honesty important during property settlement negotiations?
- How can mediation or involving a court help in reaching a property settlement agreement when negotiations reach an impasse?
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Untangling your finances: your property settlement for divorce or separation explained.
Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce
Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during and after marriage.
Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property statement
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Are you getting divorced or separating but are facing the stark reality that you will have no money to live on?
Does your ex hold all the assets and cash? Are you worried about whether you can leave them at all for financial reasons alone? Or are you relying on them to pay for everything til property settlement is sorted and you are worried that this could stop at any moment because youβve found yourself in a financially controlling situation? Donβt worry weβve got you.
In this episode listen to a family lawyer explore and explain what spousal maintenance is and how it can help someone who is transitioning from a married or defacto couple to a new single life.
Learn about the process you might have to take to get yourself financially stable during the divorce process and after.
Find some comfort in the fact that many people follow this process and it isnβt as hard as it sounds. Look at the links below to find the forms discussed in this episode and also make sure you listen to the other two episodes mentioned about what to do if you canβt afford a lawyer and a deeper dive into how to know if you are eligible for spousal maintenance.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is spousal maintenance?
- Can de facto separated couples apply for spousal maintenance?
- When can you get spousal maintenance?
- Can you get spousal maintenance if you're separated under one roof?
- Is spousal maintenance a forever thing or just temporary?
- Can you have an agreement outside of the court for spousal maintenance?
- What does the court consider when making an agreement for spousal maintenance?
- How long does the spousal maintenance process usually take?
- How do you apply for spousal maintenance?
- Can you apply for spousal maintenance while still married?
- What happens if you get remarried or enter a new de facto relationship while receiving spousal maintenance?
- What are the potential consequences of not seeking legal advice?
- Could you provide a detailed explanation of the financial statement and initiating application?
- In cases where spousal maintenance is not urgent, is it still advisable to pursue mediation and negotiation?
- Where can one find a free mediator to assist with the spousal maintenance process?
- Can you outline a plan of action for addressing the financial statement and initiating application?
- Is there a possibility that receiving Centrelink or child support payments may affect the amount of spousal maintenance granted?
- How does one navigate the intimidating prospect of taking the matter to court if necessary?
- What is the preferred method for filing court documents, and is it possible to do so in person?
- In your experience, how often do spousal maintenance cases proceed to trial?
- Considering the financial struggles faced by both parties, how does one balance the need for support and a fair property settlement?
- How can individuals overcome their reluctance to address financial matters and secure a more favorable divorce outcome?
- For those unable to afford legal representation, where can they seek assistance for completing required documentation?
- What crucial steps should individuals take to manage their finances effectively during divorce proceedings, especially when facing financial hardships?
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Forms mentioned in this episode
Financial Statement Kit (do it yourself kit) | Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia
Initiating Application Form DIY Kit FORM 1A
Genuine Steps Certificate
Where to file your documents
Preparing an affidavit Info Sheet
Service Information
Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Spousal Maintenance Are you Eligible?
Can't Afford A Lawyer Episode
Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you tackling the pressing concern of keeping your cherished home amidst divorce or defacto negotiations for property settlement? In this episode discover eight innovative ideas that might just help you secure that house you love. From delay agreements and deferred property settlements to strategic superannuation splits, we explore creative approaches to safeguard your dream home that you or your lawyer might not have thought of.
When it comes to figuring out who gets what in the divorce there isnβt a cookie cutter approach. So in this episode we try to help those struggling with this to think outside the box.
But remember, each situation is unique, so it's essential to consult with a lawyer to assess what works best for you. So don't wait any longer, dive into this episode, and uncover the possibilities that lie ahead for your future and your home.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
I really really want to keep the house
Delay Tactics in Divorce
Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is a delay agreement when it comes to keeping the house?
- How can you negotiate with your ex to buy them out in the future?
- Are there any risks involved in delaying property settlement?
- What if the house's value goes up and you need to borrow more to buy out your ex?
- How can you safeguard yourself if you plan to delay reaching a property settlement?
- What are the potential risks of not putting the agreement in writing?
- How can you use superannuation as an asset to buy the house?
- Is it possible to split your super with your ex-spouse to reduce the amount needed to buy the house?
- How can exploring your budget help you afford the house?
- What options can you consider to cut expenses and manage child support payments?
- How can you use family members to help you keep the house?
- Is it possible to stay in the house until your children finish school or reach a certain age?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you are trying to get your ex to come to an agreement with property or parenting arrangements so you can move on with your life this episode is for you (if you have a lawyer or not.)
We explore seven tips to approach your divorce negotiations with an iron fist, but in a velvet glove. We talk through the strategies you can put in place today to help your property settlement or custody arrangements not drag on.
There is an art to negotiating, but an extra special art to negotiating with someone who youβve shared a large part of your life with. Listen to the episode today and make sure you are on the right path.
Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below
Cost and Calderbank Offers
Separated Under One Roof
Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How to get your mindset right to negotiate with someone youβve shared your whole life with.
- Is it problematic to avoid negotiations and delay facing the realities of divorce?
- What factors can change during divorce proceedings, such as values, job loss, and time limits?
- How can a friend's support and assistance in booking a lawyer make a significant difference?
- What should be the approach when dealing with high-conflict negotiations during divorce?
- Why is it important to selectively respond to irrelevant and petty issues during negotiations?
- How can giving in strategically and knowing your desired outcome benefit negotiations?
- What is the significance of the individual's role in negotiations, rather than solely relying on the lawyer?
- Why is it important to make sure your lawyer doesnβt inflame the situation.
- How can the concept of an "iron fist in a velvet glove" be applied to divorce negotiations?
- What strategies can help expedite the divorce negotiation process?
- What is the importance of generating options during divorce negotiations?
- Why is it important to be cautious about having an overly aggressive lawyer during divorce negotiations?
- What should be the primary focus of lawyers during divorce proceedings?
- Why is sending a reasonable letter from a lawyer considered more effective than a sarcastic one?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you havenβt heard the word mediation yet you will soon. If you are going through a divorce or de facto separation it is most likely your first step before court. Luckily it can also be your last step and as it can help you avoid family court altogether. The success of your mediation will come down to a few things, timing and mindset being two important ones.
Listen to this episode to learn about the basics of divorce or de facto separation mediation for property settlement or childrenβs matters. Learn how it works and listen to an experienced family law specialist who is also a qualified mediator. Find out the best things you can do to ensure it is a success. For even more episodes on different topics based around family law mediation scroll below and click on the links under βepisodes mentionedβ.
Say goodbye to being scared and overwhelmed, listen to this episode today so you know what the process could be and you can finally find an end to your divorce mess.
Please note this is general education only and not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
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EPISODES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE ABOUT MEDIATION
Mediation with a Narcissist
Disclosure the what why when how
Pre-Action Procedures
What happens after mediation
When Amicable Goes Wrong: Amicable in Wolfs Clothing
WHAT IS MEDIATION AND AM I READY FOR IT?
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- "Are there any other names for mediation?"
- "Can mediation occur even if you aren't in the family court system at all?"
- "How likely is it for anybody going through a de facto separation or a divorce to face mediation?"
- "Why is it called mediation?"
- Does timing matter for mediation?
- "Can you say no to mediation if it's outside of the court?"
- "What's the repercussions of saying no to mediation?"
- "Do you have to sit in the room with them during mediation?"
- "Can you have another mediation session if needed?"
- "What are the problems with having multiple mediation sessions?"
- "Is there a family relationships centre?"
- How much does it cost to do a mediation?
- What types of mediation can you have?
- "Is there anything an amicable separation needs to do differently?"
- "Why thinking about your exβs needs can help you in the mediation"
- "What about avoidance and mediation?"
- "How many times does a mediator usually try to get your ex to come along?"
- "How do you make offers in mediation so your ex will accept it?"
- "What needs to be done in mediation?"
- "What about manipulative and controlling people in mediation?"
- "Can you really mediate with a narcissist?"
- "What about high conflict and mediation? How does it work?"
- "What can be done to ease your anxiety during mediation?"
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you've recently separated from your partner or are contemplating divorce or leaving, you may have a barrage of questions swirling in your mind. We're here to address those concerns head-on and provide clarity on some common misconceptions.
Throughout the episode, we debunk prevalent divorce myths that may cloud your judgement and hinder your decision-making process.
We aim to empower you with accurate information and provide easy, actionable steps to take during the initial stages of your divorce journey.
Whether you're just starting to contemplate separation or have already taken the first steps, this episode will equip you with the knowledge and insights necessary to make informed decisions and set yourself up for a smoother divorce process. Tune in to "The Divorce Course Podcast" and gain valuable insights that will help you navigate the complexities of divorce with confidence.
Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
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Debunking Divorce Myths and Essential First Steps
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What are the most commonly asked questions about divorce or de facto separation?
- How can I navigate the process of separating while still living under the same roof?
- What are the different types of splits in a divorce or separation?
- Does it matter if my ex cheated on me when it comes to legal matters?
- How does the Family Court in Australia view infidelity in custody cases?
- If I move out of the house, do I lose my rights to the property?
- What options do I have if I can't afford to move out and pay rent?
- Can I stay separated but still live under the same roof?
- What should I do if I can't afford to pay the mortgage and rent simultaneously?
- How does the court expect mortgage payments to be handled when one person moves out?
- Can a divorce be settled without going to court?
- What are the risks of not formalising a property settlement through the court?
- Can someone come back later and request a property settlement after an informal agreement?
- How long does a person have to bring an application for property settlement after separation?
- Is it possible to get a divorce without involving lawyers or going to court?
- Why is it important to consult with a lawyer even if you don't want to go to court?
- Can seeing a lawyer automatically lead to going to court?
- How can a lawyer help in finalising the divorce or separation process?
- What are the options for obtaining a consent order without involving a lawyer?
- Is it advisable to consult with a lawyer to ensure the process is legally sound?
- Should they apply for child support straight away, even if they're living in the same house?
- Can you apply for child support if you have 50/50 custody of the kids?
- How should short-term arrangements for the children be made during separation?
- What should you do with your belongings and furniture when leaving the house?
- How can you protect your precious items and ensure you can get them later?
- Is it a good idea to document the contents of the house before leaving?
- Should you take your passports and birth certificates when leaving?
- Is there a checklist available for things to consider before leaving?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you going through a divorce and are worried about your ex spending/hiding all the money before the property settlement is sorted? In this episode we look into various scenarios of how your ex may be spending big to deplete the property pool and what can be done about it.
Learn about the concept of "wastage" in the family law world and how the family court can view it. Discover what the family court has done in the past if wastage has been determined. If you are worried, this episode will give you some practical tips on how you can protect yourself or calm yourself. Listen now to and be proactive in your divorce or de facto separation. Don't let your property pool become a property puddle before financial settlement occurs. We also touch on disclosure and a previous full court ruling on someone who wasn't playing fair.
Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different. This podcast is based in Australian Law.
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Episodes Mentioned you Should Listen to
DIY Disclosure Episode
Your Finances and the red flags to look for with Pedro Marin
The Post Separation Abuse Wheel Part 2
Cases mentioned in this episode
http://www8.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html
http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html?query=
http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1994/144.html?query= Help! My ex is spending all the money and I'm worried there won't be enough left for me at property settlement.Safeguarding your property pool during the divorce
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?
- What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?
- What are the rules around wastage in family court?
- How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?
- What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?
- Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?
- Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?
- How can wastage be proven in court?
- Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?
- Can running down a business be considered wastage?
- How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?
- What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?
- How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?
- Is mediation a good time to be asking?
- Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?
- When should you ask important questions before mediation?
- What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?
- Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?
- How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?
- How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?
- What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?
- Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?
- What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?
- How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?
- Are there any new surprises in family law cases?
- How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?
- Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?
- What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?
- What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
- Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?
- What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?
- What are the rules around wastage in family court?
- How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?
- What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?
- Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?
- Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?
- How can wastage be proven in court?
- Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?
- Can running down a business be considered wastage?
- How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?
- What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?
- How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?
- Is mediation a good time to be asking?
- Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?
- When should you ask important questions before mediation?
- What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?
- Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?
- How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?
- How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?
- What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?
- Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?
- What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?
- How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?
- Are there any new surprises in family law cases?
- How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?
- Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?
- What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?
- What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you going through a divorce or de facto separation and are considering hiring a lawyer or are already working with one? Listen to this podcast episode designed to help you.
Explore the top ten things you should consider doing to make communication more effective and to help make the process easier for your lawyer (which in turn can save you money)
These practical easy to implement tips will empower you, strengthen your client-lawyer relationship, and improve your chances of a favourable outcome. Tune in now for valuable insights.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Top Ten Practical Tips to Delight Your Divorce Lawyer and Slash Legal Expenses
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- Why does it matter to tell the truth when dealing with a lawyer?
- How does telling the truth help the lawyer and the client?
- Do lawyers terminate the relationship with clients who tell lies?
- What are the benefits of being truthful in a case?
- Do lawyers get in trouble if their client tells lies in court?
- Why should emails be preferred over phone calls when communicating with a lawyer?
- How does having a separate email address for legal matters help in communication?
- What can happen if important emails are missed in a general email account?
- How can CC and reference numbers help in tracking communication with a lawyer?
- Why is it important to use specific subject lines in emails?
- How does using specific subject lines and reference numbers help lawyers in filing and organisation?
- How were communication and filing done in the past compared to the present?
- What are the advantages of using emails over phone calls for communication?
- Why is it important to respond quickly in phone calls and emails to save costs?
- What should be done when the other party sends a letter to be reviewed?
- How can writing responses in a word document and sending it to the lawyer be helpful?
- Why do some people fail to answer all the questions in email responses?
- What is the preferred method of responding to letters from the other party?
- Reasons why taking a chronology or a timeline to a lawyer is helpful for your lawyer?
- What information should be included in the chronology or timeline?
- Why is being on time important when meeting with a lawyer?
- Is it difficult for lawyers to be punctual?
- Why is it important not to bring USB sticks to the lawyer and instead provide documents via email or other means?
- What are the risks associated with using USB sticks to provide documents?
- Should documents be printed out or emailed before meeting with a lawyer?
- Why is it important to give your lawyer permission to text you?
- Can you provide tips for dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex during the legal process?
- What actions can be taken to handle a manipulative or controlling ex through the lawyer?
- Are there any additional tips for dealing with a high-conflict ex during the legal process?
- How can one navigate the legal process if their ex is avoidant?
- How can communication be made less threatening for an avoidant ex?
- What steps can be taken to alleviate anxiety associated with receiving communication from the lawyer during an amicable divorce?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Discover the hidden tactics abusers use to maintain economic control over their former partners after separation in Part 2 of our "Post-Separation Economic Power and Control" episode. Learn about the components of the post-separation economic power and control wheel that sheds light on these often overlooked aspects of abuse and find out what you can do about it.
By exploring real-life examples, we will unveil the manipulative behaviours that can occur with the banking system, emptying joint accounts and leaving victims burdened with debt, and other tactics abusers employ to maintain power over their victims' financial stability.
But fear not! This episode isn't just about exposing these tacticsβit also arms you with practical advice and strategies to protect yourself. By listening to this episode, you'll gain invaluable knowledge to navigate the challenging terrain of post-separation abuse and empower yourself with the tools to overcome these obstacles.
If you're ready to take charge of your financial future and break free from the cycle of abuse, don't miss out on this episode. Tune in now and equip yourself with the insights you need to reclaim your economic power and control. It is important to always seek independent legal advice
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Please note that this episode contains depictions of domestic violence that some people may find disturbing. If you are experiencing Domestic Violence please call 1800 Respect or if you are in danger please call 000.
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DOCUMENT WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE
Post Separation Abuse Wheel Developed by Jenn Glinskii, University of Glasgow (2021)
Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Dirty Money Deeds
Coercive Control After Separation
Post Separation Abuse Episode
Bombarded with Legal Letters?
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
* What are some examples of abuse in the banking system?
- How can individuals protect themselves from financial abuse in a separation?
- Is it advisable for someone experiencing post-separation abuse to change banks?
- Why is it recommended for individuals to take some money for themselves during a separation?
- How does financial control contribute to the cycle of abuse?
- What are the consequences of being financially dependent on an abusive ex-partner?
- How can withholding money and assets affect the process of property settlement?
- How do abusers manipulate financial resources to maintain control over their victims?
- How does the court system play a role in enabling post-separation economic abuse?
- What actions can individuals take to break free from financial abuse and regain control over their finances?
- What role does legal advice play in dealing with post-separation economic power and control?
- How can observing abusive behaviours objectively help individuals cope with post-separation abuse?
- Are there any consequences or legal actions for coercive control and financial abuse?
- What strategy can someone overwhelmed by the paperwork and proceedings of a divorce case adopt to make it more manageable?
- How important is it to document instances of post-separation abuse early on in the process, even if they may not seem significant at the time?
- What are some examples of coercion and threats that can be used by one party during a divorce?
- How can someone protect themselves from financial control and manipulation, such as threats to stop paying child support or living expenses if they seek legal assistance?
- Are there any emergency arrangements or support options available for individuals facing immediate financial difficulties during a divorce?
- What is the likelihood of a parent losing custody of their children during a divorce, especially if they have been a good enough parent and haven't been violent towards the children?
- Can you share an example or story that demonstrates how the court prioritises the best interests of the children and understands the challenges faced by parents?
- How can stalking and harassment be addressed in cases of post-separation abuse, and what role can evidence, such as photos or videos, play in documenting such behaviour?
- What practical measures can someone take to protect themselves and their children when facing intimidation, harassment, and joint property damage from their ex-partner?
- How does coercive control manifest itself in post-separation abuse, and why is it often done through subtle, minor actions?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you are experiencing Post Separation abuse please listen to this episode. In light of recent events around the world, explore the crushing issue of post-separation abuse, with insights from our family law accredited specialist who offers valuable expertise and tips on what you can do about it if it is happening to you.
Go beyond the surface to reveal the hidden aspects of abuse that often occurs after your relationship ends, especially in terms of economic power and control. Listen to the episode educate yourself and be prepared and proactive to deal with the tactics employed by abusers, such as manipulating institutions, concealing assets, and intentionally becoming unemployed, all aimed at maintaining economic control over their former partners.
We also shed light on how abusers exploit court processes, burdening their ex-partners with excessive legal fees and withholding vital documents and what you can do about it, if this is happening to you. Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself in navigating your divorce or de facto separation. This is Part 1 of a 2 part special to offer support and guidance to those going through post separation abuse. Trigger warning: This content contains information about domestic violence and post separation abuse.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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DOCUMENT WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE
Post Separation Abuse Wheel Developed by Jenn Glinskii, University of Glasgow (2021)
Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Dirty Money Deeds
Coercive Control After Separation
Post Separation Abuse Episode
Bombarded with Legal Letters?
The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it (Part 1)
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How does abusing the court system affect individuals?
- What impact can constant filing and negative accusations have on a person's self-perception?
- How can abusive words and false allegations affect someone's core being?
- What strategies can individuals employ to protect their mental health during court battles?
- Why is it important to recognize that the words spoken by an ex-partner may not be true?
- How does post-separation abuse involve using children?
- What are some examples of using children as a means of economic abuse?
- How can post-separation abuse affect a person's capacity to parent effectively?
- What can individuals do to mitigate the negative impact on children during post-separation abuse?
- How does the court process contribute to the comeuppance for abusers?
- What role does mental strength play in surviving post-separation abuse?
- How can individuals seek support and help when dealing with abuse?
- What are some common tactics used by abusers to manipulate and control their ex-partners?
- How does economic abuse impact individuals' financial stability?
- What steps can individuals take to live within their means and manage their finances during abuse?
- How can showing love and spending quality time with children counteract the effects of abuse?
- What are some long-term consequences of post-separation abuse on children?
- How does the abusive behavior of one parent impact the children's perception of the other parent?
- What are the challenges faced by individuals even after the court process is over?
- How can individuals support their children who may experience the same abusive patterns in their own relationships?
- What has been the progress of the new law on coercive control in Australia?
- What hiccups or challenges have occurred in the process of passing the new law?
- Who are the key individuals or groups involved in the decision-making process?
- What actions can be taken to address the concerns and influence the decision-makers?
- How does the presumption of equal shared care in family law impact cases of abuse?
- Why is it important to seek help from helplines or the police if triggered or in a dangerous situation?
- What are some examples of economic power and control in post-separation abuse?
- How do abusers manipulate institutions and use loopholes in legislation to protect their assets?
- What are some tactics abusers use to avoid paying spousal support or child support?
- How do abusers manipulate court processes to continue the abuse?
- Is the court system in Australia taking measures to address post-separation abuse?
- How can someone protect their mental health in the face of constant court battles and false accusations?
- What steps can individuals take to strengthen their core understanding of themselves and protect their inner self?
- Why is it important to seek support from a psychologist during the process of dealing with post-separation abuse?
- How can individuals avoid buying into the false narratives and manipulation tactics of their abusers?
- What hiccups have there been in the passage of the new laws on the presumption of 50/50 shared care?
- Why didn't the Liberal Party vote for the new law?
- What is the presumption of equal shared care and why is it considered damaging to children?
- Who is Anthony Albanese and what is his stance on this issue?
- What are some examples of economic control and how does it affect mothers?
- Why do people shame mothers for wanting child support and how can that be debunked?
- How can women challenge inaccurate child support calculations?
- What is the review process and how can it be used to address child support issues?
- What options are available if the review process doesn't resolve the problem?
- What is the role of the Administrative Appeals Tribunal in child support cases?
- How can women deal with coercive control tactics related to child support?
- What are the consequences of withholding personal documents and blocking access to joint accounts?
- How does economic abuse extend to harassment and intimidation in the banking place?
- How can women navigate the child support court system?
- How can women cope with the bombardment of legal letters and communications?
- What are some strategies to maintain hope and continue fighting for change?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000 Australia
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Demystify the valuation process and educate and empower yourself into a confident player in your divorce settlement process! By the end of this episode, you'll gain valuable insights, avoid common pitfalls, and make informed decisions when it comes to property & asset valuations in divorce and property settlement.
In this episode, you'll embark on a journey of understanding as we explain property & asset valuations in divorce settlements. Get ready to learn the crucial aspects that will help you navigate this complex process with confidence.
Explore the role of valuers and delve into why their expertise is essential in divorce settlements. You'll gain insights into how to choose the right valuer and overcome challenges when your ex-partner disagrees or a mutual decision can't be reached.
Discover the ins and outs of the valuation process as we explore what needs to be valued, the methodologies used, and the importance of accurate documentation. We'll address specific scenarios, including high-conflict divorces and amicable separations, and shed light on the role of forensic accountants in complex cases.
Prepare to tackle practical challenges head-on, such as kerbside valuations, access to the property, and the crucial task of documenting your house's condition. We're here to equip you with the knowledge and strategies to navigate valuations effectively.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation Property Settlements
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is a valuer?
- How do you decide which valuer to use?
- How much does a valuer cost?
- Why do you need to use a valuer for your divorce settlement?
- What to do if your ex wont agree to a valuer?
- What happens if you canβt choose a valuer?
- How to get your ex agree on a valuer?
- What do you need to consider getting valued for your divorce proceedings?
- How do valuations happen?
- Do valuers come to your house?
- What is the process valuers take during the property settlement?
- How much is your furniture really worth?
- What do you need to provide a valuer?
- What does the valuer send you after they have finished?
- What if you donβt agree with the valuerβs appraisal
- What kind of values will a valuer come up with?
- How do you avoid using a valuer?
- What happens if you canβt agree on how to split the property?
- House valuations and what you should know for divorce and property settlement
- Can you have a property settlement before youβve sold the house.
- Property Settlement and Percentages
- Do you need to get your super valued during divorce?
- Do you need to find out how much your ex has in superannuation for divorce?
- Military Superannuation and valuations for divorce and property settlement
- Defined Benefit Superannuation and your divorce
- Does it matter when the valuations are done?
- What date of valuation will the family court look at for property settlement?
- How old can the valuation be for property settlement mediation or family court?
- Do you need to share the money you have saved after separation?
- What happens with shares and their values?
- What value amount is looked at at the time of trial or mediation?
- Business and Divorce
- What is a forensic accountant?
- How much does a forensic accountant cost?
- Should I get a forensic accountant for my divorce and property settlement?
- High Conflict Divorces and Valuation
- The pitfalls for high conflict divorces and valuations
- Manipulative and controlling divorces and valuations
- How do I be careful whilst getting valuations for divorce with a manipulative and controlling ex.
- The game playing that might happen during valuations for your divorce and property settlement.
- What do you do if you are worried the valuer might miss something to look at in your exβs possession?
- Amicable divorces and valuations
- How not to use valuers if you are in an amicable divorce.
- How to deal with your avoidant ex and using a valuer to assess your house, or property.
- When do you need a kerbside valuation for your property?
- What can you do if your ex won't let the valuer into the house to see the property and value it.
- Why you should always video your house before you leave so you donβt have to rely on your ex doing the right thing.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you facing a divorce but desperately want to hold onto the family home that holds cherished memories for you and your kids? If so, this episode is a must-listen. We dive deep into the topic, providing valuable insights and practical general legal tips on how to achieve your goal of keeping the house.
Let us guide you through crucial considerations to help you determine if keeping the house is a viable option. Learn about property settlement strategies and how to navigate the process of buying out your ex-spouse.
Discover important calculations to factor in when making the decision, and learn about the impact of leaving the house during the divorce proceedings. Can you still retain your rights to the house if you choose to move out? We shed light on this common concern.
Learn steps you can take to continue living in the house while working towards becoming the sole owner, ensuring a smooth transition for you and your kids. Find out the implications of your exβs name being on the mortgage and how it affects their access to the property.
If you're determined to preserve your home amidst the changes that divorce brings, this episode offers invaluable guidance. Tune in to gain clarity and empower yourself during this challenging chapter of your life. We got you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Moving Out
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I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How to figure out if you can keep the house?
- How does someone get the mortgage into your own name if they want to keep the house after divorce.
- Examples of property settlement spits
- Can you put your Mum or a Family Member on the house so you can keep the house?
- What happens if you both want to keep the house?
- What might the family court do if both people want to keep the house?
- What if you both want to stay on the mortgage after property settlement?
- What if your ex offers to stay on the mortgage until the children are older so I can afford to stay in the house.
- What is the court obligation in regards to property settlement
- The emotional decision about the family home
- Moving forward with your life and keeping the house
- Pitfalls to watch out for when trying to keep the house in property settlement.
- Why itβs important to look forward 5 years before making property settlement decisions.
- Calculations to consider when deciding if you want to keep the house.
- Emotional considerations for if you want to keep the house
- What is a CAVEAT?
- Consequences of leaving the house during the divorce process.
- What happens with a caveat on a house?
- Can your ex come over to the house if they still have their name on it?
- Can you change the locks on the house if you are the one who is going to stay in it during the divorce?
- What is sole occupancy?
- Is it unreasonable for both parties to stay living under one roof?
- Can you change the locks?
- What other options do you have if you canβt afford to keep the house?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Wondering if you need consent orders when going through a divorce? We answer the what, why, when and how in the world of consent orders and answer all your burning questions you wish you could ask a lawyer.
Discover the benefits of consent orders, the difference between consent orders and court orders, and whether they're cheaper than financial agreements. We'll also share insights on protecting yourself financially and resolving parenting matters.
Learn how to avoid stamp duty, when to initiate consent orders, and why legal advice is crucial. Don't miss this valuable information! Explore what they are, why you need them and when you should do them. Also how hard is it and what are the steps you need to take?
Learn about the different approaches you might need to take depending on your exβs personality traits and also be aware of the dirty tricks to watch out for before you sign anything. Educate and empower yourself so you can get the best outcome for your de facto separation or divorce property settlement or parenting arrangements.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Untangling your finances podcast episode
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Consent Orders: it's not rocket science. Explore the what, when, why, how of property and parenting consent orders after divorce so you know what's what.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Do you need consent orders when going through divorce?
- What do consent orders do?
- What is the difference between consent orders and court orders?
- Are consent orders cheaper than a financial agreement?
- Is it better to go to court or get consent orders?
- What is the benefit of doing consent orders?
- Why can consent orders protect you financially moving forward?
- Why do consent orders help you with parenting matters?
- Do you need consent orders for kids?
- Can you use a parenting plan instead of consent orders for divorce?
- The family courts view on children and stable arrangements/
- Consent orders and stamp duty
- How to avoid paying stamp duty during divorce or de facto separation?
- When is the best time to do consent orders for property settlement?
- How expensive is a consent order?
- What is the consent order application form like?
- What to do before you sign consent orders?
- Legal advice for consent orders and why itβs important to see someone before you sign anything.
- How to avoid high costs with a lawyer
- What is a legal precedent?
- Why is wording so important in a consent order?
- Court Portal and filing
- ComCourts
- Can you do partial consent orders?
- Agreements during divorce negotiations
- What to do with partial agreements during divorce negotiations
- Consent orders and amicable separations
- Do you need consent orders is you are amicable
- Can you both go to the same lawyer?
- Why shouldn't you sign a consent order unless they sign it too.
- Dirty tricks used during consent orders being made
- What to look for in high conflict relationships with consent orders?
- What is an application for consent orders?
- How hard is it to fill in the application for consent orders form?
- How to get an avoidant person to sign consent orders?
- What is the dangers of just signing consent orders without giving it good thought.
- What to say to yourself if you are just wanting to sign anything to make it all stop?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Can you meditate with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits in your divorce? Although you might see it as a waste of time, there is actually some good that can come out of it even if you donβt settle. Our experienced accredited mediator and also experienced family law specialist will guide you through how you can make your mediation for family law matters (like property or parenting) work for you. Learn some strategies and steps you can take if you are dealing with someone who has narcissistic traits. Donβt waste your precious chance to settle or find out more about your exβs plans. Listen to this episode today and get your agenda and strategies sorted.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and Negotiation Tips when divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What might surprise you at a mediation with a narcissist
- Why you think you know what your ex is thinking is a mistake for mediation
- Why it's a bad idea to assume your ex thinks like you leading up to mediation.
- When you understand what they care about you can have success in mediation
- What is the shuttle process?
- Why the shuttle process helps in mediation with a narcissist
- How you can ask the mediator to help you with the narcissistic attacks during the mediation.
- How to let your mediator know about their behaviour
- The three things a narcissist will care most about in their agreement with you.
- Does it matter if the mediator knows they are narcissists?
- How you can use the mediation to help tailor your affidavit for trial
- The cat and mouse game sometimes used in mediation by a narcissist
- How to avoid the game playing in mediation with a narcissist
- Which issue do you deal with first in mediation with a narcissist?
- Can you make suggestions to the mediator?
- How to agree on the agenda for the day
- How to make sure your narcissistic ex doesnβt run the agenda for the day.
- Why you should avoid using the word narcissist when going through family court unless they are officially diagnosed.
- What should you do to show to the mediator or the judge that your ex has narcissistic behaviours?
- How to βrebrandβ your offer in negotiation so that your narcissistic ex will agree to it.
- Doβs and Donβts of mediation with a narcissist
- Why you need to be mentally fit to get the most out of the mediation.
- What is the current mediation success rate?
- Is the family court full of narcissists?
- Why taking proof and documentation to a mediation is a good idea.
- What the mediator will do to help you in a mediation with a narcissist
- Is a shuttle process a good idea with a narcissist?
- How to be aware of old patterns and how to stay out of them during negotiations with your ex.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you getting frustrated because your ex is delaying everything? Or has nothing happened for ages to sort out your property and children's issues after you separated from your ex? Are you worried because it might be a delay tactic for some reason? You might be right. Delays can be strategic for parenting matters, domestic violence matters and property matters. In this episode take a look at the pitfalls of falling for delay tactics and letting things drag. Discover ways you can overcome these delays in the three different stages of divorce or de facto separation process. Learn from an accredited family law specialist about delay tactics that happen from right at the beginning whilst still living under the same roof, to the strategies used whilst in mediation and negotiation all the way up to delay tactics during court. No matter what personality type you have in divorce you may be faced with delay tactics. This can be frustrating when you are trying to move things forward. Listen to this episode so you can get on with your life even when your ex doesn't seem to want to.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What are delay tactics
- When do delay tactics cause problems
- Tactically how do delays help your ex during divorce?
- Section 117c of the family law act and why you need to know about it?
- The family law act and updates coming
- How to cope with living under one roof and they are delaying
- Can a judge send someone to jail in the federal circuit and family court of australia?
- Some of the worst delay tactics a family law expert has seen
- What happens if your ex starts dragging the chain
- How to deal with centrelink during delays
- How to protect your state of mind during the delay tactics
- What happens if your ex won't disclose?
- What happens if your ex wants to delay so they can spend the cash before you start proceedings?
- What is the waiting period to get divorced?
- What is the property settlement deadline for de facto separation
- What is the property settlement deadline for divorced couples?
- What is a no fault divorce in Australia
- What incentives does your ex have to stall everything after separation?
- Do delay tactics help in parenting matters?
- What kind of delay tactics do you watch out for in parenting and childrenβs matters
- Do delay tactics cause problems in domestic violence matters?
- What happens if your ex pretends they donβt get your letters?
- What happens if your ex says let's deal with this all after christmas?
- What can you do if you are trying to get the matter moving along and your ex doesnβt want to?
- What about if they delay mediation?
- What happens if they delay disclosure in mediation?
- What is the central practice direction and the obligation to respond to your letters?
- Why putting in a time and date that you expect a response helps with delays.
- Tips on writing letters to people who are delaying doing something to move your divorce forward.
- What is a default judgement and how you can get it if your ex just won't lift a finger.
- Can you be financially compensated if your ex is delaying everything
- What are the cost implications of delay tactics?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Can you do your divorce, property settlement and parenting matters on a budget? How do you keep your costs down on this journey? How much should you try to do yourself? What should you save your dollars on and what should you spend your dollars on? In this episode we walk you through the whole process from separation to final trial including before you even think about court and explore what you can do on the cheap and what you can do yourself? Can you do a lot of the property and parenting agreements yourself. We walk you through each step of the divorce or de facto separation journey and look at what you can save your dollars on and what you shouldnβt skimp on. We also discuss the proβs and conβs of self representation in court. Also learn why mediation could be the best way to save your dollars and how to do it.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Documentation Episode
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DIVORCE ON A BUDGET: How to negotiate, mediate and go to court on a shoestring
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How to keep your costs down when going through divorce
- Can you do your divorce on a budget?
- Do you need a lawyer for divorce, childrens matters or property settlement?
- The risks of doing your divorce settlements without a lawyer
- How can you do a low cost mediation
- How are you charged for mediation
- How to keep your costs down by doing your own disclosure
- How is disclosure done?
- How much do lawyers charge for doing negotiations before court?
- How much do you have to spend on mediation?
- Can you do mediation without a lawyer?
- What is the most expensive part of a divorce
- How can you ensure that you keep your legal fees down whilst getting the best outcome for your divorce property settlement.
- How seeing a psychologist can help you save money in your own divorce proceedings.
- How to get a mental health care plan during your divorce?
- Does a more expensive mediator give you a better outcome?
- Do fees equal expertise when it comes to mediators?
- How to choose a good mediation that will be worth the money that you pay.
- Is mediation a waste of time with a narcissist?
- Is mediation a waste of time with a manipulative or controlling ex?
- Best tips for keeping your mediation costs low.
- What mediation success rate is in general in Australia?
- When mediation happens too soon and why it might not work?
- The questions to ask yourself before deciding how much money to spend on mediators
- What to tell the judge if you canβt afford a lawyer
- What to tell the judge if you canβt afford mediation
- Can you do your own negotiations?
- Can you do the first court even on your own
- Can you be a self represented litigant for family court?
- What happens in the first court even and how much would it cost if you got a lawyer?
- How to get through a court event with your emotions intact.
- Type of people who might need a lawyer during court events.
- Things to say if you are self representing in the family court and you are overwhelmed?
- If you are trying to save money in the family court the pitfalls to watch out for if self representing?
- How to save yourself thousands during family court proceedings?
- What are submissions and when you might need to do them if you canβt afford to pay a mediator etc
- Can you do your court documents yourself?
- Can you negotiate a divorce settlement without a lawyer?
- What is the best way to keep your costs down in the family court?
- How to avoid the old βdeath by documentsβ legal bill
- Can you do a trial on your own
- The importance of Section 102na of the Family Law Act and family violence
- Are there strategies your exβs lawyers may use on you and to be aware of if you are a self represented litigant ?
- Can you get legal aid to help you in the family court
- What does a duty lawyer do in Family Court?
- What is the best way to save money in your divorce?
- What is the easiest way to rack up your legal bill in a divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Learn simple ways that you can protect your children from becoming chess pieces in the family court or divorce proceedings. Sometimes exβs change their idea of how much time they want to spend with the kids. These reasons could be genuine but sometimes it can be motivated by money. With these simple steps you can help protect your current arrangements for the children. Just in case in the future your divorce or de facto separation proceedings get nasty. Sometimes this includes wanting extra time with the kids so they get a bigger share of the property pool or finding out about child support and wanting to have more nights with the kids to reduce the child support amount. Explore this topic and learn about what happens if this gets to the family court and the best ways to protect you and your children before it comes to this.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Is a parenting plan legally binding?
- What's the difference between consent orders and a parenting plan?
- How to protect your kids from becoming pawns in divorce proceedings.
- The court's view of parenting plans
- What people change their minds about time spent with the kids.
- When people decide to change time spent with the kids because of child support
- When your ex wants to punish you by changing parenting arrangements with the kids.
- When your ex can get a new partner and then want new time.
- The presumption of equal shared care
- The family court and new rules coming.
- Assumptions of Fathers in the Family Court
- Assumptions of Mothers in the Family Court
- How to write a simple parenting plan
- How to word a simple parenting plan
- How to decide where the children spend time and when
- What happens if your ex all of a sudden wants to become parent of the year.
- How does a judge look at parenting plans
- What does a parent plan do for you in the legal system
- What to watch out for if your ex is using the kids as a pawn in the family court
- How to protect yourself from accusations of alienation
- Is parental alienation real?
- How to protect yourself from child support changes
- What other things you can do to protect yourself from potential fight in the family court
- What you should do if you donβt have a documented plan
- What if your ex says you are a bad parent
- What to look out for in actual divorce documents if you have a manipulative and controlling ex.
- How to protect the kids from post separation abuse
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
No matter where you are up to in the divorce or de facto separation journey, disclosure will be part of the process. Explore what it is, when you will need it, what it is used for and what happens if you or your ex donβt do it. This episode discusses disclosure for property settlement and childrens matters in court, mediation and in negotiations. Explore what to do if you are feeling under pressure to provide too much disclosure and what to do if your ex isnβt providing enough. Learn about the process involved in looking at disclosure and what you can do yourself to keep your legal fees down. Learn about how to protect yourself if you are worried about your safety and disclosure. This episode comes with a handy downloadable guide click here to get it now β> GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Disclosure: the what, why, when & how of disclosure for divorce or de facto separation.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is disclosure?
- When do you need disclosure?
- How to avoid racking up legal bills with disclosure?
- Types of disclosure documents
- How to present disclosure?
- How do lawyers go through disclosure?
- How to keep disclosure relevant
- What happens if your ex doesnβt disclose?
- What happens if you donβt disclose?
- What will happen if disclosure isnβt done before mediation?
- What happens if they are asking for too much disclosure?
- How do you provide disclosure?
- Does your ex get to look at your disclosure?
- How do you ensure privacy with your disclosure?
- Can you redact some parts of your disclosure?
- What is the process of sharing disclosure?
- Do you keep having to provide disclosure?
- How do you keep your legal bill down with disclosure?
- How can be disclosure be used in the Family Court?
- What if you see lots of cash withdrawals in their bank disclosure?
- What to do if you find out something in their disclosure that matters?
- What you might say to their lawyer if you find something in disclosure?
- Can you do property settlement without disclosure?
- Will the family court allow you to do a settlement without disclosure?
- What happens if you know they donβt have anything to disclose?
- Should you sign anything without seeing their disclosure?
- Do mediators or judges look at disclosure?
- How to present disclosure findings to the judge or mediator?
- What if you are overwhelmed and donβt want to do disclosure?
- Things to look for in your exβs disclosure?
- Can you refuse to do disclosure?
- What if your lawyer is asking you to provide too much disclosure?
- High conflict and disclosure
- Manipulative and controlling and disclosure
- Narcissists and disclosure
- Avoidant and disclosure
- Tax returns and Tax returns assessments and disclosure
- Superannuation and disclosure
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
How do you know what is important in your case? Sometimes events in your divorce journey may really upset you and you think they are important but in the end it doesnβt matter according to the family law act. You need to know what things are not important so you can focus on the stuff that is. This helps you make sure your affidavits and documents for mediation are focusing on the important factors. In this episode a family law accredited specialist is going to cover things you might not realise donβt actually matter in the courtβs eyes. Plus a famliy lawyers insight into a few things that REALLY DO matter to Judges and Mediators.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.
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Divorcing a Narcissist Episode
Surprising Issues that are irrelevant in divorce & separation proceedings. So you can focus all your efforts on the things your mediator, divorce lawyer or judge will actually care about.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On:
- Does cheating matter in the family court?
- Does it matter if theyβve got a new boyfriend or new girlfriend during the divorce process?
- Does it matter if the other person constantly gets the kids looked after by a babysitter?
- What is no fault divorce?
- What is the clause called βfirst right of refusal.β
- Different routines at each house does it matter in family court?
- The court expectations about parenting styles and what doesn't matter?
- Does the court care if you both canβt agree on ipad time, tv, bed times.
- What does the court think about the other parent being 10 mins late for pick up and drop off etc.
- The lazy as an argument for property settlement and what the court thinks about it.
- What happens if your ex hasnβt done anything to support the household or family?
- Does it matter if you did all the renovations on your joint owned house.
- Does it matter if your ex earns more than you in property settlement and divorce?
- If your ex brought more money into the marriage do they get more money after separation and divorce?
- Does it matter if the family business loses money and it wasnβt your fault?
- What happens if you had no idea what was going on in the family business?
- Does it matter if the family business goes downhill after separation and isnβt worth anything?
- What is a negative contribution and how does it work in divorce and property settlement?
- What about coercive control and power imbalances in property settlement.
- What happens if you donβt follow the judges directions?
- What happens if you donβt file documents in time for court or mediation?
- The Family Law Act Section 79 for marriages Section 60 for Child and Section 90 for Defacto
- If your ex doesnβt give you disclosure what happens?
- What is the judge's view on non-disclosure?
- What does the judge think of people lying in family court?
- What happens with a lying person in the witness box?
- The domestic violence pendulum during divorce negotiations
- What happens when you get hyper triggered during negotiations?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Do you really have to respond to every false accusation or demanding message from a co parent during your divorce proceedings? This episode with a Family Law Specialist we cover the legal implications if you choose to respond and the ways in which you go about it. We share some easy guidelines to help you to decide for yourself. In this episode you also will learn the best co parenting communication hack of all time. Do you have to engage in every slinging match? If you have a narcissistic type ex, coparenting stops the grey rock method from working so how do you keep the drama in the box without being afraid of it coming back at you later in a legal context such as the family court? How do you cope with post separation abuse when it comes to coparenting communciation? We answer these questions and more.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.
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Post Separation Abuse Episode
Divorcing a narcissist in the family court
Do I need to respond to that? When co parenting communication becomes tricky during divorce proceedings.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- When to respond to false accusations
- Why you should respond or not
- How to respond
- Should you ignore their messages of false accusations?
- How to bulk respond to co-parenting accusations ?
- Do you need to address it if you drop your kids later to school?
- Do you need to address it if you keep your kids home from school
- How to avoid the little traps set up by the manipulative coparent
- How to avoid the fights with the high conflict co parent
- How to bundle your responses to the coparent.
- Co Parenting hack of the year if you are dealing with a manipulative or high conflict parent.
- How to create an or else situation with an avoidant coparent
- The things you need to consider when deciding how to respond to a co parent who is trying to have a fight or manipulate you.
- What is a guillotine order in family court?
- What happens if you donβt respond to a false accusation?
- What's the best way to shut down an argument?
- What if your ex keeps asking the same questions or wants to continue the argument?
- What to do if you think your ex is evidence gathering?
- What to do if you think your ex is just writing accusations to get your attention?
- Your mental health and coparenting with a manipulative and controlling ex.
- Narcissist and coparenting,
- Does having final orders change the approach you have to have with communication with a co parent or accusations by a co parent.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Untangling your finances. Your property settlement explained.
If you are looking to get separated or divorced but you have to untangle your finances and you are thinking βyikes. that is a big knot to untangleβ, then this is the episode for you. We will talk you through the overview of what happens and how to get your finances, mortgage, house, car, cash, furniture and super untangled. A perfect episode for you to know where youβre headed, how it works and how to make it happen. Also discover how to approach this phase based on the different divorce personality types you might be experiencing. This is based on Australian Law and is a general guide only.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Divorce Limbo Episode
Financial Contributions Episode
Selling the house in divorce Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Why do you need to sort your property according to the family law act?
- What happens if you stay in divorce limbo?
- What are the consequences of never sorting out your property?
- What happens in property settlement to the house?
- How to work out who gets to keep the house
- How to work out if you can afford to keep the house
- What if you canβt afford the mortgage?
- What does the court do if one wants to sell the house and the other wants to keep it?
- What happens to the money from the sale of the house?
- How do they work out what part of the assets you get to keep?
- How to figure out a payout amount for the house.
- How to figure out who gets the cash?
- What happens to the cars? How do you decide who gets which?
- How do you get the car in your name?
- Do you have to sell the car?
- How to get a car valued.
- How to transfer the car into your name after a property settlement agreement has been filed.
- How to avoid stamp duty for transferring the car name during property settlement.
- Who gets the furniture in property settlement?
- How does the court sort out furniture fights?
- How is superannuation sorted out in divorce?
- What superannuation cannot be split up?
- Would a court agree to giving one person all the cash and one person all the super?
- Self Managed Super Funds, what happens with these?
- What happens with Trusts in divorce and property settlement?
- Business valuations during divorce
- What happens if you are registered as part of a business that is involved in your property settlement.
- Tax implications for divorce property settlement.
- The process a lawyer takes when deciding what property goes to who after deciding on the percentage.
- Manipulative and controlling ex partners and untangling your finances
- Amicable break up and property settlement tips.
- Avoidant divorce and property settlement.
- What to do if someone is dragging out the property settlement.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Learn the types of things you should document and how. Explore ways that you can easily document things and the legal pitfalls to avoid. Learn how good documenting can protect you from a manipulative controlling or high conflict ex if they ever take you to family court in the future.
Explore why it is so important to document property and parenting issues and events moving forward. Why you should do it whether you are amicable or not with your ex. Why documenting things will help for parenting negotiations or a potential future custody battle in the family court.
This episode also has a quick general guide of what you should document when you leave. Along with this handy checklist below.
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Documents mentioned
Financial Statement (form) | Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia
Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Financial Contributions Episode
What to do before you leave podcast episode
The importance of record keeping during divorce: the what, why, when and how to help you in mediation, family court or even just in negotiations
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Why record keeping is important
- When should you start record keeping
- Why you should record keep during separation
- Why is documenting important in parenting negotiations?
- Why you should keep records during the divorce process.
- Why record keeping in property settlement process is important.
- What's the difference between a diary entry and a memory in court proceedings
- How to prove your word against your ex in court
- Why documenting is important to help with proving domestic violence and coercive control.
- How to keep track of who has the kids and when.
- What type of proof works in family court and why
- Why documenting the separation date is so important in de facto marriage.
- What is disclosure and why it is important.
- School records: the coming and going of early pick up and late drop offs.
- How to protect yourself from losing personal items after separation through documentation.
- When it comes to property what types of things you should document.
- What are post separation contributions?
- Why quantifying and proving post separation contributions might help you get it back in property settlement.
- What is a financial statement for the family court?
- Why setting yourself up a budget
- The difference between an online diary or online calendar vs a handwritten book or a handwritten note.
- Times when documentation saves someone's case during divorce, custody or property proceedings in the family court.
- Documents and how it can help your case
- How documentation can help you if you have a manipulative and controlling ex.
- High conflict and documentation
- Documentation if you have an amicable breakup
- Documentation and avoidant exβs
- Parenting plans and documentation
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses coercive control and domestic violence.
You may have heard that DV is not just physical abuse. Just because they donβt hit you doesnβt mean you are not experiencing domestic or family violence.
In this episode we will talk about four things that you might not realise are DV that are flying under your radar.
We discuss coercive control and where you should go for support if you are experiencing this. We also explore the questions you need to ask yourself to find out if you might be experiencing some types of non physical forms of domestic violence or coercive control.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If this information is distressing for you or if you need support in regard to sexual assault, domestic or family violence you can call 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 for 24/7 phone and online services. If you, a child, or another person is in immediate danger, call 000.
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Books mentioned
Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior...and Feel Great Again Aaron T. Beck , Jeffrey E. Young , Janet S. Klosko
Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Family Domestic Violence and How it impacts your case
Family Violence
Coercive Control in divorce and after separation
Coercive Control: how to help yourself or a friend
Stalking and Coercive Control
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- What are examples of non-physical forms of domestic violence?
- What types of silent treatment are considered a part of coercive control?
- What is the cycle of abuse?
- Why some unspoken rules with your partner could be domestic violence.
- What's wrong with hiding things from your family and friends that you were embarrassed about in your relationship.
- Control of money and what might be domestic violence.
- Tracking your expenses and giving you rules on how to spend it.
- Are there different rules for your partner with the joint money?
- Money rules, what isnβt ok.
- Who owns the money in a marriage?
- Questions to ask yourself to see if you are being financially controlled.
- Are you budgeting or is it financial control?
- Financial control what it might look like in your relationship?
- The difference between privacy and financial control.
- If they earn the money do you get a say in how it is spent?
- Love bombing and what happens after
- Narcissists and love bombing.
- Are they checking in on you all the time for love or for control?
- What happens when you go from a toxic coercive control relationship to a healthy relationship?
- Why seeing a psychologist can help you not fall back into the same pattern.
- When the ex re partners
- When you repartner too early.
- Moving yourself away from the same patterns
- Why patterns of these behaviours make you lose your identity.
- How coercive control is a pattern
- How the courts are becoming more aware of it
- What you can do if this is happening to you
- Do you need to tell your lawyer if you suspect you have been under a coercive control relationship
- How confiding in a friend can help.
- What type of friend you should consider telling about coercive control or domestic violence in your relationship?
- Defamation and how to be sure you donβt get in trouble with this.
- Why you should start safely writing the abuse down so you can remind yourself later.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Is your main divorce or de facto separation fear having a very expensive legal bill? Are you currently going through separation negotiations, mediation, property settlement or a child custody battle? In this episode we discuss the five most common and easy ways to rack up your legal bill and how to avoid it. If you donβt want an expensive divorce or separation, listen to these five things your lawyer or you might be doing and learn how to stop it.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Cases mentioned
Strahan and Strahan Case
Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Choosing a Lawyer and Red Flags not to ignore
Costs and Calderbank Offers Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- The case of strahan and strahan and why its a cautionary tale
- Lawyer βPing Pongβ letters and how to avoid them
- Why getting the facts matter
- Why proof will save you $$$ in your legal bills
- How to negotiate and keep your legal costs down
- Why negotiating your property settlement isnβt the same as negotiating for a house or used car with a sales agent.
- What you need to take if you are self representing yourself at mediation
- How does hunting for documents cost you high legal fees
- Bank statements and disclosure in negotiations
- What type of disclosure do you need for mediation
- The new family law rules for disclosure
- Why you should have a reason for each document your lawyer starts hunting
- What happens with disclosure in your court case
- Questions to ask yourself for each disclosure you ask for
- How disclosure correlates to legal costs
- Why the court is still using paper instead of online documents
- Why you need to have a copy of your documents in hard copy sometimes
- Post separation abuse, disclosure & your privacy
- Domestic violence and disclosure and privacy
- The central practice direction on disclosure
- Subpoenas and the process
- Who is allowed to issue subpoenas and how many
- Documents and disclosure and legal costs
- What is the step in step out approach
- What happens if you donβt like your lawyer?
- What happens if you need a second opinion from another lawyer?
- Can you change lawyers?
- Issues with changing lawyers
- The difference between an accredited family law specialist and a general lawyer
- Choosing a lawyer and how it can affect your legal fee costs
- Can you use a general lawyer for your family law case?
- Statistics of court self represented litigants
- Statistics of cost of family court matters
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Which roadblock are you facing for getting the best outcome in your separation, divorce property settlement or custody case? This episode is perfect for anyone at any point of the divorce or separation process. Our Family Law Specialist has identified some behaviours she has seen in previous clients that get in the way of sorting things out for good. We identify and discuss what these roadblocks are, how you know if this is what you are facing, how it might affect your case legally and what you can do about it.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
What to do before you leave
Moving out
How to divorce a statue
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What happens if you just want peace at any price during settling your divorce?
- How can you identify if you have a rushing issue?
- What happens if you just want it done and agree to anything?
- How to double check to see if you are going to live with what you have negotiated at mediation
- Why it is important to get advice to see if the agreement is good for you.
- Why it is important to take time to think about your agreement before signing.
- Signing consent orders
- Questions to ask yourself (then see a lawyer) before signing consent orders
- Are you an impulse buyer and how it could affect your divorce
- How to make a considered decision in your divorce
- What decisions you might make in divorce negotiations if you are exhausted
- Why it is important to follow your timeline not theirs (unless it is court related)
- Why putting yourself in someone else shoes might help you make a decision
- Strategies to help make sure you donβt just give in
- What happens in negotiations if you are super attached to your family home during property settlement
- Things to remind yourself before you give in
- What happens if you are the high conflict person during divorce proceedings
- What happens in negotiations if you have been subject to domestic violence
- What happens with the domestic violence affect pendulum kicks in during divorce negotiations
- How does having a high conflict attitude affect your family court case?
- What goes through a lawyer's mind as they write a letter to you and what you need to keep in mind when reading it.
- Why itβs so important to take the emotion out of it.
- What happens if you have escaped coercive control and your reactions get scrutinised by the family court
- Why it is important to educate yourself on the legal process if you are getting divorced
- Why itβs important to work on yourself to ensure you make the best decisions for property settlement
- How to stop yourself being avoidant in the divorce process
- How to stop yourself procrastinating during your property or childrenβs matters
- Why it is important to find a good lawyer
- Questions you should ask yourself if you keep procrastinating doing the work for court or negotiations or mediation
- What to do if you are feeling sad about leaving your family home.
- Does being avoidant affect your family law case?
- What happens if you donβt open or read legal letters?
- Can being avoidant mean your ex might get orders by default
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you about to go to mediation or have you just completed a mediation and are wondering what happens after, if you agree. In this Family Law episode we discuss 10 things that happen emotionally and legally after you settle at mediation. Our Family Law specialist expert explores what to expect if you have walked out of a mediation with a verbal agreement, a written agreement or signed consent orders. We then look at what you do with your agreement or orders. This is a great episode for those about to start the separation process or who are going to mediation so you know what might happen next and what you should aim for and do after.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
Mediation Episode
FDR Mediation Episode
Pre-Action Procedures Episode
Resources that might help you
- Attorney General Website list of FDRP
- Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is settlers remorse and how to stop it
- What happens after mediation if youβve finally agreed to everything.
- What is litigation neurosis and how can if affect you after your case is settled
- Questions to ask yourself if you wake up and want to change your mind
- Can you undo an agreement after mediation
- What happens if you walk away with a verbal agreement after mediation
- What is a heads of agreement?
- What happens if you both sign a heads of agreement?
- What isnβt confidential in a heads agreement
- What happens with a signed consent order
- What is a consent order
- What stamp duty can you avoid using your court order or filed consent orders
- What you should do once you end up with consent orders filed or sealed court orders
- What happens to you after mediation
- Does mediation work is it worth it
- What's the difference between mediation and divorce
- Section 9 of the Family Law Act and what it means for transferring your car or house over to your ex or to you.
- What happens if you donβt follow your orders?
- What happens if your ex doesnβt follow the orders?
- Is it finally over once you have consent orders signed and filed?
- Is it finally over if you walk away with an agreement after mediation?
- What options do you have if you need to change the orders?
- Financial agreement or property consent order?
- Do online financial agreements stand up in court?
- Why itβs important to get individual legal advice on your situation
- How does the court approve a consent order?
- Why it is important to get your orders checked before signing.
- Things that might not get approved through the family court with consent orders
- Do judges personalities play into court outcomes?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Do you think your divorce proceedings are on its way to court or mediation? The FCFCOA is taking control of the family court timelines with pre-action procedures that must occur before you go to court (unless it is urgent). We discuss the pre-action procedures including mediation that you need to do before you even think about filing in court and the certain letters that need to be shared. We discuss what these procedures are and what happens if you donβt do them. We touch on sharing your proposed orders, inviting your ex to mediation and doing your disclosure and if you need a lawyer to do it?
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Join the Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
DIY DISCLOSURE EPISODE
Divorcing a Statue Episode
Resources that might help you
FCFCOA Pre-action procedures fact sheet
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Attorney General Website list of FDRP
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Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What are pre-action procedures for the FCFCOA
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What do you need to do to make these procedures happen
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How to invite your ex to mediation
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How to share your proposed orders with your ex
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Notice of intent to file
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How to share what you want to happen with the children
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How to share what you want to happen with the property
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What the timelines are for responding to your letters
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What situations donβt require pre action procedures
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What types of people you need for mediation
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What is the process that happens when you book in mediation
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What is disclosure
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What types of things should you disclose?
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What disclosure is described in the Family Law Act
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How to avoid wasting money in this phase
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Doing your own disclosure
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What you should do if they donβt give you disclosure
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What should you do if they donβt have disclosure at mediation?
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Guessing a valuation
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What is a redacted disclosure document
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Should you hide names in your disclosure
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Privacy and disclosure
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What is a notice of intent to file
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What to write in a letter when doing a notice of intent to file
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Pre-Action Procedures
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Central Practice Direction
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What happens after sending the notice of intent to file letter
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What are the next steps after the pre action procedures?
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How long to wait between each step?
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What is a genuine steps certificate?
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Post Separation Abuse and how the pre action procedures will help stop it
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What happens if you donβt follow the pre action procedures
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What happens if you have not complied
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Do you need a lawyer to help you with the pre action procedures required by the FCFCOA?
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Do you need a lawyer for your meditation?
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What does it cost to go to mediation in the pre action procedure stage?
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What do you do if the other side is threatening to take you to court and they havenβt done the pre action procedures.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
How does family violence affect your family court outcome? Lyn, a family law specialist explains five tips on how to present the family violence to the family court in a way that the court will take note. We also explore what kind of orders the family court might make in an attempt to keep your children safe if there has been family violence in the past. We also discuss the myths that are still floating around about domestic violence, coercive control and the family court.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic
COERCIVE CONTROL PODCAST EPISODE
Domestic-violence-and-family-violence-part-2
Resources that might help you
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Examples of Coercive Control
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Consent Tea Video
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FCFCOA Notice of child abuse, family violence or risks containing examples of how the family violence may affect your children.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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The FCFCOAβs current general approach towards domestic violence
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How does the Family Court manage the risk of a violent parent
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The balancing act the court has to do between a child's right to see both parents and a childβs safety.
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How does the family court protect your children from psychological and physical harm when family violence has occurred.
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Unacceptable Risk, Risk or No Risk and how the court may determine this.
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5 general tips on how to present the effect the family violence has had on you and your children in family court.
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How the family court looks for signs of rehabilitation
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Can a family court order someone to get counselling
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Have people in the past lied and used family violence or dv as a tool to get custody of the children
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Five tips on how to present your case to the family court
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How to lay out the facts in an affidavit
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Why it's important to focus on the kids and the impact on them during the family court process.
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What are examples of how the domestic violence that happened to you impacted on the children?
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Why is it important to show the family court any family violence that has occurred after separation.
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Why it is important to focus on the facts while dealing with the Family Court and explaining what occurred.
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Things to be mindful of when referring to your diary or journal during family court proceedings.
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The pendulum of effects of domestic violence and how to be aware of it when you are going through your divorce process.
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What kind of orders does a court make to ensure children are safe if family violence has occured.
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Contact centres and how they work and why they are used.
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What happens if family violence occurs again.
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When would your case be reopened in the family court after youβve had final orders.
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If there is family violence does the court make the children no contact with that parent?
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Myths floating around about DV and Family Court.
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Coercive control and examples of how it affects your children.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Going through the divorce process? Learning the ropes of co-parenting? Dealing with a custody battle? This episode explores what role the school can and cannot play in your journey. We discuss what will be looked at in the family court moving forward if you end up in court. We discuss how you can best support your child and their school experience whilst you go through your divorce. We discuss practical legal tips to help support you through this confusing time. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Click here for our free before you leave checklist
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CHILD SUPPORT episode on school uniforms and school books and fees etc.
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What to do if you or your ex wants to change your childβs school
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What happens with decision making at school before you get final orders or a parenting plan.
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What powers do the schools have when it comes to your child and custody issues?
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Can a school stop a parent from collecting them from school?
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What happens if you and your ex are arguing over school enrollments?
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What is a Child Impact Statement and how is it used in the Family Court
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Moving schools during divorce and what you should consider
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School Fees and Divorce
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State School to Private School and Child Support issues
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What happens with Child Support if your ex changes your child to a private school and you didnβt want them to?
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Does the Family Court choose a school if you and your ex cannot?
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Should you consider putting a school name in your orders or parenting plan?
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What can you do if your ex is threatening to change your childβs school?
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What if you and your co parent donβt agree if our child should repeat a year
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Co Parenting and schooling decisions.
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Extra Curricular Activities
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Extra curricular activities and co parenting decisions
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Our five top tips to dealing with school issues whilst going through your divorce proceedings.
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Can student counsellors get their notes subpoenaed for court?
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Tips for dealing with school events if domestic violence is involved.
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School report cards and school notes and coparenting and your court orders.
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Our Children Platform and how you can use it during your divorce process
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Why itβs important to keep the school up to date with the general information.
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Sharing school information with a co parent during divorce proceedings.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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How to choose a family lawyer if you have a child with a disability
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How to present your case in court
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How disability is viewed in the family court of australia.
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How Autism is considered in the family court of australia
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Property Settlement and how it is affected by parent who has to care for a child with disability
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How the Family Court currently deals with NDIS in property and childrenβs matters
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Child support and supporting children with disabilities
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What happens when parents disagree with a diagnosis of a disability?
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You best steps to take before mediation
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How to prove a disability in the family court
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How to show the court the impact and needs of a disability
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Feuding parents of a child with a disability
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Co Parenting a child with disability
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Adult children with a disability and maintenance in the family court
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Custody arrangements for a child with a disability
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Have you had a question about child support that you are too embarrassed to ask? Our Family Law Specialist will be going through listener questions and going into a deep dive on child support collection and payments. Some questions will be touching on what you are allowed to use the money for through to some surprising little known facts about child support you might be glad to learn. We even discuss how child support may affect the outcome of your property or custody case in the Family Court of Australia.
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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode
Child Support in Australia podcast episode
How to survive financially after separation podcast episode
DIY disclosure for property and child support
Child Support Website for Australia
Call Child Support Australia : 131 272
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What can you spend your child support money on?
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What are the rules for child support and how you can spend the money?
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Do you need to show receipts on where you spent the child support money?
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Can your ex who is paying child support refuse to pay for anything else?
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Do you have to pay for the things at the other parents house if they are paying child support?
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Child Support is based on a formula: what is it and how does it work?
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Does child support change based on the childβs age?
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Is sport included in child support?
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Extra stuff: how is it sorted out in child support?
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What to do if your ex is financially motivated to get more time with the kids to avoid paying child support only?
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What happens in the court if your ex is trying to get more time with the children just so they can get a bigger part of the property pool in the family court?
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Does Child Support provide back payments?
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How does child support relate to the Family Court and the Family Court decisions when it comes to property and child custody issues?
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Does the Family Court of Australia care if your ex isnβt paying child support?
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How far back can you get back pay in child support?
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Can you get child support and spousal maintenance?
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Why using child support to collect the money is the best way to avoid more fighting if you are in a high conflict relationship.
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Domestic violence and child support
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What can you do if you are worried that asking for child support may cause more domestic violence for you?
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Are you allowed to tell people how much child support your ex is paying?
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What to do if you think the child support you are being paid isnβt enough or you donβt think it is fair?
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If you are separated under one roof can the other person apply for child support?
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Why we should have a national child support appreciation day
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Child Support and negotiations
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you dealing with an ex with narcissistic behaviours and having to navigate the world of coparenting? Are you about to go into the family court system or are already in it with a narcissist? This divorce course podcast episode is for you. Mia from Grey Rock Consulting is going to discuss and help you navigate co parenting whilst dealing with the narcissistic behaviours. Lyn helps us explore the legal implications of fights, reactive behaviour and not thinking about the best interest of the children. She will guide you on to how best to show the family court what you are dealing with.
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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode
Grey Rock Method Episode
CoParenting with a difficult ex - Lorrie Brooks
Go here to learn more about Mia and Grey Rock Consulting
https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/
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Why an ironclad court order is the best defence against a narcissistic co parent
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Why wishy washy court orders wont work in this situation.
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The court's opinion on parents that canβt co parent
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How to avoid conflict with a narcissistic co parent
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What happens if your court orders donβt specify what to do in a certain parenting situation?
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How to consider the best interests of the children when making the decision.
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Tips on how to deal with having a ex who counter parents
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Accepting what you can and can't control.
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Why can't you speak ill of your co-parent to the other child.
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What to do when you want to talk badly about your co parent.
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Adult matters and why you shouldnβt burden the kids with it.
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Why leading by example for your children is so important.
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Why explaining and defending yourself isnβt a good idea.
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Is it important to defend yourself against accusations from a narcissistic ex in coparenting communications?
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What the Judge might think of your communication if it is full of fighting, accusations and drama
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How sometimes massaging a narcissist ego may be helpful
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What to do if they write something that isnβt true about you in the communications.
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Do you need to defend yourself from all their accusations?
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Why it isnβt a good idea to use the label of a narcissist during family court case
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How to describe the conduct to a judge in the family court trial.
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How to objectively document issues that occur with the coparent.
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Getting a psychologist for your children to help deal with the uncertainty of divorce.
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What does the Australian Institute of Studies show about kids in the middle of conflicting parents.
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Tips for making sure you do the right thing legally when getting your child a psychologist.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Do you need to sell your house as part of your property settlement? Today we are discussing the legal and practical mindfield that you may have to navigate with your ex. In this episode we discuss how to navigate finding a real estate agent, deciding on the house value and sale price and moving out with someone who you happen to be going through an emotional rollercoaster of divorce with. Any trouble or drama your ex can think of when it comes to selling the house we have a way to deal with it. Listen to the journey and steps you may need to take and the biggest problems people face whilst selling the house for property settlement and what to do about them.
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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode
Moving out once you decide to divorce episode
Divorcing a statue: avoidant episode
Who gets what property settlement episode
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Do you actually have to sell the house?
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If you want to keep the house after divorce what do you do?
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The family courts view on keeping the house after divorce
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Who has to do the work to get it ready for sale during divorce?
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What happens if you know who gets what before you sell the house?
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Do you use your family lawyer or a different lawyer to sell your house?
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How to choose an agent to sell the house whilst getting divorced
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Choosing an real estate agent during divorce
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How do you get the house valued during divorce?
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How do you agree on a value for the property of the house for property settlement?
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How do you deal with an avoidant ex and selling a house
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What to do if your ex refuses to sign the contract to sell the house.
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Can someone else sign a contract to sell the house instead of your ex if they are refusing to?
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What to do if your ex is refusing to sell the house?
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What to do if you canβt afford the mortgage and need to sell the house during divorce.
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How to keep your legal fees down during selling the house in divorce.
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Who pays the fees for the conveyancing lawyer when selling the house during divorce?
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Who fixes up the house for sale during a divorce or property settlement?
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What is the court's view about who fixes the house up for sale?
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How to deal with selling a house with a manipulative and controlling ex?
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How to deal with the bank and selling the house during property settlement and divorce
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Who should sign the document first?
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What happens to the money from the house sale during divorce and property settlement?
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What is the process if you both canβt agree on who gets what after selling the house during the divorce?
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Why it might be a good idea to put your money from the sale of the house in a trust account until you agree on a percentage in property settlement.
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Is it better to sell the house first before discussing what gets what percentage in the divorce?
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Amicable divorce and property settlement and selling the house
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What happens if your ex has spent the money from the sale of the house before property settlements?
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What happens if you canβt sell your house during property settlement.
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What happens if no one wants to buy your house during divorce settlement?
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What does the court do if you canβt sell your house because no one wants to buy it?
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How do you divide up the furniture for divorce?
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How do you move out during divorce?
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Who takes what?
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What to do before you leave if you are the one moving out.
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What to do with their things if they refuse to take it when you are moving out of the house.
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Who does the packing?
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The proβs and conβs of moving out first
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The proβs and conβs of moving out last
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How to keep an amicable relationship steady during selling your house in divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Whether you are just recently separated or already have a parenting plan or orders, weβve gone through all the issues that you may face over the school holidays and christmas period. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years experience talks through all the situations she has faced for her clients and how you can deal with them yourselves to ensure that the kids have a wonderful school holiday and you and your co parent donβt end up fighting and in court. Touching on the four different personality types including High Conflict, Manipulative and Controlling (narcissistic behaviours) , Amicable and Avoidant and how best to navigate the holiday season during the tricky time of separation and divorce.
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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode
Christmas and Custody Arrangements 2021 Episode
Creating your own parenting agreement
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What does the spirit of the orders mean?
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What can you do if you donβt have court orders about christmas?
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How can you create a parenting plan for Christmas holidays?
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What types of arrangements can be made for holiday time in parenting agreement
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Avoidant ex and christmas holidays
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Can the court make your ex take the kids for school holidays when they are refusing?
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How to try to keep the other co parent involved in your kids life if they donβt want to be involved for christmas.
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What happens if your co parent refuses to take time off work to help look after the kids in the school holidays?
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What do you do if you canβt get your ex to agree on school holiday arrangements?
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What does school gazetted holidays mean?
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What defines school holidays for family court orders?
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What types of arrangements does the family court make?
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How do you ensure you can have a christmas phone call with your kids if you donβt have them on christmas day?
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What things manipulative and controlling narcissistic exβs do over the christmas period with your kids.
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How can you stop your coparents family from trash talking to you or your family at christmas time?
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What orders can you seek to stop trash talking to the children?
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What is a Pop parenting course and how can it help you or your manipulative coparent.
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What if the co parent won't let your child take the christmas presents from one house to the other.
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How to avoid conflict at christmas with your co parent
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Can you get someone else to do the handover for Christmas?
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What do you do about the elf on the shelf during christmas between your co parent and you?
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Christmas photos with Santa should you go twice if you are separated?
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Christmas traditions and how to keep them going after separation and divorce.
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Why is it important to be clear with the holiday arrangements?
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The case of Rice and Asplinand why itβs important to get your christmas holiday orders right.
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Can you ask the court to help make christmas traditions continue?
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Can you ask the court to order that the children be allowed to visit family over christmas?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Learn about the Grey Rock Method and how it can serve you whilst going through the divorce process with a narcissistic ex or an ex with narcissistic behaviours. We interview Mia Madafferi founder of Grey Rock Consulting who guides you through what the grey rock method is, how best to use it and ways to tweak it if you are going through the family court system. If you have a narcissistic ex and are struggling with communication, this method may be your saving grace. To find out more about Mia and Grey Rock Consulting click the link below. Our Family Law specialist and co host Lyn Galvin will also discuss the implications of grey rock method in the family court and during negotiations for property settlement and parenting agreements.
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Find our guest Mia and Grey Rock Consulting here
Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode
Bombarded with legal letters? Try these 5 tips
Coercive Control in Divorce and after Separation
Divorcing a narcissist and family court
The Narcissists Playbook in Divorce
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What is the grey rock method
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When is it a good idea to use the grey rock method
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What types of narcissistic traits might you face in your divorce
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How to use the grey rock method in your divorce
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What signs are there that you might need to use the grey rock method.
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Why is the grey rock method the most suggested method with narcissistic personalities
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Why reacting can encourage your narcissistic ex to continue the behaviour
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Why the grey rock method needs to be tweaked for when going to family court.
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Why using the grey rock method can sometimes be used by your ex as false evidence of alienation.
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Why working on yourself is a must when dealing with a narcissist in divorce
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Why going through a divorce alone without support is not a good idea
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Why should you see a psychologist and get that emotional support?
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Why it is important to use a guiding compass so you know how to respond and react to a narcissistic ex
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How to respond to a barrage of accusations from a narcissistic ex during divorce proceedings.
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How to know when to correct the record or not correct the record when it comes to accusations whilst going through the family court.
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Common narcissistic legal tricks
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Why itβs important to remember the source when being accused by a narcissist
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Why itβs important to get a family lawyer who understands your exβs personality type.
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Why it is important to set up boundaries when communicating with a narcissist
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Why itβs important to get advice from friends and family and understand the type of person you are dealing with.
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How your family can be used by your narcissistic ex and what to look out for.
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How to take the emotion out so you donβt get caught up in a narcissistic fight.
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Why your reaction to a narcissistic ex matters
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How to claim your power back in divorcing a narcissist
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Narcissists and lawyers
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How to deal with a covert narcissist in divorce proceedings
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
The one time you donβt want to do an undoable thing is in your property, childrens matters or domestic violence proceedings. Today we will be talking about things that you might do that you donβt realise may have significant ramifications on the outcome of your case if you ever end up in court. We discuss what these things are and how it may affect your custody outcome, property settlement amount or coparenting relationship.
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How should the kids be looked after in the short term straight after separation.
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How to set up boundaries in the early stages of divorce.
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How should you deal with handover if you are the one who stays in the family home?
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Social Media and Divorce and how it can hinder you.
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Why it might be a good idea to take a break from social media
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Why putting the kids' arrangements in writing is a good idea when co parenting during divorce proceedings.
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Why you need to be careful about what you write to your co parent during divorce proceedings.
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Why you shouldnβt negotiate property settlement until youβve had legal advice
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Why you should never promise to not touch their super or not touch their bank account in property settlement before distancing yourself from the situation for a while.
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Mistakes made with mortgages and what you can do about it?
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Can your ex withdraw money from a joint mortgage?
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Will you have to pay back money you take out of the mortgage in property settlement?
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Does the money you save up after separation not get included in the property pool.
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What happens with money in a marriage before, during and after separation.
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What happens if your ex buys a property with another person before property settlement has happened.
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What happens if you find a new partner and you haven't had a property settlement yet?
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Who gets your superannuation if you die during divorce proceedings?
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Why is it a good idea to get your will and power of attorney changed when getting divorced?
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Domestic violence cases and the mistakes you can make
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Can domestic violence issues affect custody cases in the family court?
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What to set up as soon as possible after separation
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If youβve got a question about travel or moving and custody this is the episode for you. What are the rules when it comes to overseas and interstate travel and co-parenting and custody? What should you be looking to include in your parenting agreement or consent orders when it comes to the childrenβs passports, international travel and holidays? In this episode we discuss the general rules and what you should consider before finalising your agreement or consent orders. Also we explore what the Family Court usually rules when it comes to overseas and interstate issues. Find out what happens if one co parent decides to move interstate or overseas away from the children but still wants to see them regularly. If you are about to make an agreement with your co parent make sure you listen to this episode too. General information only, always seek your own legal advice as each situation is different.
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Links mentioned in this episode
High Court Case MRR V GR
Hague Convention
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What happens if your co parent takes the passports?
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What happens if your co parent tries to take your children overseas without your permission or a court order.
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What is a PACE alert and how does it stop your children being taken overseas?
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Why do people include the Hague convention in their parenting agreement or consent orders?
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What is the Hague Convention?
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How do you arrange passports for the kids with your co parent?
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How much notice should a co parent have before taking kids overseas?
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What is a reasonable amount of time to take the kids overseas?
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How you can use the smart traveller government website in your consent orders
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How often do co parents end up in court over overseas holiday travel arrangements
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Can you co parent take your child interstate without telling the other parent?
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What happens if a parent wants to move overseas with the child?
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How the court decides what is in the best interest of the child for overseas and interstate living with arrangements.
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What happens to custody arrangements if your co parent gets an interstate job and they have to move?
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How can you create parenting orders that accommodate one parent travelling overseas or interstate all the time?
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How can you create a parenting agreement that accommodates a parent moving to another state?
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How do you stop the other parent from withholding the children from you in another state or country?
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Can the court make an order to bring back a child from overseas or from another state?
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Can you be forced to live within a certain radius in parenting court orders?
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What happens if the other parent moves a long drive away and handover becomes problematic?
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Things to consider when moving interstate that may affect your child custody arrangements?
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What is the High Court Case Mrr Gr - Roses Case and how does it affect interstate moving and child custody arrangement decisions?
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Do you need to notify the co parent if you are going interstate for a holiday in Australia?
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What if your co parent wants to take the children to a non Hague convention country?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
This episode covers the entire legal process for property settlement & parenting matters from start to finish including all the new updates and changes in the Australian family court. Know what you will be facing so you can make educated decisions about costs and time. Understand the process so you know how important the negotiations and mediations really are. The Family Court process in Australia has changed. So we will talk you through from beginning to end of the whole process you might have to face going through your divorce or de facto separation. We discuss the best ways to avoid court and settle without spending thousands in legal fees.
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PODCAST EPISODE LINKS mentioned in this episode
FDR and Meditations Podcast Episode
Affidavits
Court Documents - Response to initiating application/
Five proven steps to negotiate your divorce
Convincing the unconvincable Episode
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- How to avoid going to a family court trial?
- How consent orders will help you avoid court
- What are the things you can do to stay out of court?
- What is Mediation and how it will help you sort your divorce.
- What is an FDRP
- What is a Family Dispute Resolution
- What is arbitration?
- Is Arbitration cheaper than a family court trial?
- Changes in the Federal Circuit Court and Family Court of Australia
- What is the Family Court process and procedure?
- What happens at the first Family Court of Australia event?
- What is an interim hearing?
- How many mediations do you have to do in family court and divorce?
- What is the difference between a court mediation FDR and an out of court mediation?
- What is a direction hearing?
- Why might the family court of Australia order you to mediation?
- What happens if mediation doesnβt work?
- What are the next steps after mediation
- What steps do you need to take to get to court?
- What steps do you need to take to stay out of court?
- How is the Family Court of Australia using Microsoft Teams?
- Why it is so important to never stop trying to settle.
- What happens for a trial
- Can you settle just before a trial
- What happens if your ex doesnβt follow orders?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Looking to create parenting agreement or a parenting plan or consent orders with a co parent that has drug or alcohol abuse issues? In this episode we will discuss the family court's views and how it deals with drugs and alcohol when it comes to court orders, parenting agreements and arrangements. We will also be discussing how the family court deals with it, what the family court puts in place to ensure the childrenβs safety and how you can deal with it yourself even if you are not in the family court system.
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EPISODES mentioned in this episode
FDR and Meditations Podcast Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Does the Family Court of Australia care if the other parent is doing drugs or abusing alcohol?
- What kinds of tests can a court order to find out if your ex is using drugs or alcohol during their time with the children?
- What to consider putting in your parenting agreement if your ex is a drug addict
- What to consider putting in your parenting agreement if your ex is an alcoholic
- What do you do if your co parent is doing drugs?
- What can you do if your co parent is an alcoholic?
- What kind of court orders can you get if you have a drug addict ex?
- What the Family Court of Australia does about Drugs and Alcohol
- How can you use a contact centre to help with a drug and alcohol issue in your family?
- What are the penalties for not following court orders?
- Can the court make orders about the kids and alcohol and drugs?
- What happens if your ex is giving alcohol or drugs to your child or teenager?
- Types of court orders you can ask for if your co parent is an alcoholic
- Does drinking or drug taking affect your property settlement amount?
- How do you prove that your ex is using drugs or alcohol
- How to work around an alcohol or drug problem
- What kind of testing for drugs and alcohol is done by the family court in regards to a custody issue?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
We are always told about the things you should do in divorce, but this episode is about the things you should never do in divorce. We discuss the top five mistakes that Lyn, our Family Lawyer with 35 years experience, has seen people make over the years in their property settlement and parenting and custody negotiations that she wishes they didn't make. We discuss what to do instead and how to make sure you make the best decisions to ensure you get the best outcome without making costly legal and emotional mistakes.
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Podcast Episodes referred to in this episode:
EPISODE : WHAT TO DO BEFORE YOU LEAVE
EPISODE: MOVING OUT, ONCE YOUβVE DECIDED TO DIVORCE
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Why it is so important to not take your exβs word for it in property settlement
- Why it is so important to get your own legal advice
- The five things you should never do in your divorce, property settlement and custody battle.
- Why is it a red flag if they say donβt go see a lawyer.
- Why you need to change your mindset during divorce negotiations from being a couple to being business-like.
- Why you need to take the guilt out of your decision making for your future.
- How to identify if they are manipulating or controlling you during property settlement.
- Questions to ask yourself before you sign or agree to a property settlement
- Does the family court care if you or your partner are the ones that ended the relationship?
- Things you should do before you sign a property agreement or agree to property consent orders.
- Why itβs important not to rely on your in laws and your exβs family during divorce process
- Why you need your own legal advice separate from your ex during divorce
- Why you need your own accountant during divorce
- Why do you need your own financial advisor during divorce and you shouldnβt be sharing your old one with your ex.
- What you need to know before you leave the house after separation
- What happens if you move out of the house with a high conflict divorce
- Why itβs important to know their divorce personality before you start the process
- What is an ouster order and what does it mean?
- Domestic Violence and why itβs important to have a safety plan when you leave.
- What you need to gather before you leave to help with property settlement
- The checklist you need to look at before you leave if it is safe to do so
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you currently negotiating property or children's matters? Are you about to go into mediation? Or did your mediation or family dispute resolution fail and you are worried you will end up in the family court? Try following these 5 steps on our proven pathway to finalising your divorce and getting to agreement.
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Podcast Episodes referred to in this episode:
- CHRISTMAS PODCAST EPISODE
- The 12 Agreement to consider for Parenting Agreements
- When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement & Parenting Agreement
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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The five steps you can take to help get you and your ex to an agreement
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How mediators work and what process they use in FDRβs
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Why mediations and negotiations are confidential and what that means legally.
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What does without prejudice mean when it is seen at the top of a legal letter and when should you use it?
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Why it is so important to keep negotiations going in property settlement even if mediation fails.
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Why it is a good idea to keep negotiating for a parenting agreement or childrenβs consent orders even if mediation failed.
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How do you identify the issues needed to be negotiated for your divorce.
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Why you should always start any legal letter or negotiation letter with the stuff that is already agreed.
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How to compare your position vs your exβs position in childrenβs matters
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How to put your property settlement issues down on paper so it is clear to a lawyer if you go see one.
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Why lists are helping during your divorce negotiations
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Why finding the reason for your exβs position is important and key to your negotiation strategy in mediation or via letter.
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Why it is a good idea to check your offer before sending to make sure it doesnβt offend or set off any of their triggers.
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Why itβs important to make sure you are not the reason that you cannot settle your property settlement or children's matters.
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Why narrowing the issues will always help if you are about to go into the Family Court.
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Why is it important to consider all the options during negotiations?
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Why consent orders can be very different to court orders.
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What is the difference between a parenting plan and consent orders
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What is the difference between consent orders and a court order?
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How do you document your agreements with your ex
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How do you document your parenting agreement with your ex
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The proβs and conβs of making your agreement legal
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How to avoid going to family court.
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How to turn your parenting agreement into a legally binding consent order
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How to make sure your financial agreement is legally binding.
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How to negotiate with a manipulative and controlling person during divorce
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How to negotiate with an avoidant person during divorce
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How to negotiate with a high conflict ex in divorce
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Lyn discusses the four main βdirty money deedsβ done in divorce and property settlement and how to avoid them happening to you. We tend to expect the best in people but let's face it when it comes to divorce it is better to be prepared than sorry. This episode covers some of the things βthe dirty deedsβ that happen along the way when it comes to money and divorce in high conflict, or manipulative and controlling relationships. Hopefully this can help you be mindful of the pitfalls yourself and be proactive during your divorce to avoid big lengthy court cases.
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Click below to listen to the podcast episodes referred to in this episode:
Bombarded with legal letters? Try these 5 tips
Child Support Podcast Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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The four main ways people cheat their partners out of money during divorce proceedings.
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Where a high conflict ex might hide money during your divorce proceedings.
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Why it is important to keep an eye on the day to day bills etc.
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Child support and the tricks some people play and how to avoid them.
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Why you need to investigate and be on top of the ins and outs of the joint assets.
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How to stop racking up your lawyer bills
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Why it is important to learn to be self sufficient
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Why you need to consider the emotional as well as financial cost when it comes to property settlement.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you in legal limbo with your property settlement, or divorce? Have you been separated for a while now and nothing has been sorted. In this episode we cover the legal implications from letting the finalisation of your property settlement matters or children's matters to just drift. We will also explore 4 steps to take if you find yourself stuck in this situation to get yourself out of the limbo and face your new life without the strings attached to you from your old one. .
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What is divorce limbo and are you stuck in it?
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What are the legal implications of letting your property settlement and divorce drag on.
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What to do if you donβt have money to go to court?
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Why is it important to talk to a lawyer?
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How some people try to use delays for divorce as a chance to alter their income and bank balances for divorce and property settlement.
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Why you need to know where you stand legally before you start negotiations
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What 4 steps you can take to get yourself out of legal limbo
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How to see a lawyer for cheap
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How to motivate yourself to get your divorce finalised
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What is the time limit from getting officially divorced to getting property settlement sorted.
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How does not sorting your property settlement for a long time affect the outcome?
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What are the dangers of letting the legal side of your divorce and property settlement never finally get sorted?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you in legal limbo with your property settlement, or divorce? Have you been separated for a while now and nothing has been sorted. In this episode we cover the legal implications from letting the finalisation of your property settlement matters or children's matters to just drift. We will also explore 4 steps to take if you find yourself stuck in this situation to get yourself out of the limbo and face your new life without the strings attached to you from your old one. .
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free before you leave checklist
Click here for our free mediation checklist
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What is divorce limbo and are you stuck in it?
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What are the legal implications of letting your property settlement and divorce drag on.
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What to do if you donβt have money to go to court?
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Why is it important to talk to a lawyer?
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How some people try to use delays for divorce as a chance to alter their income and bank balances for divorce and property settlement.
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Why you need to know where you stand legally before you start negotiations
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What 4 steps you can take to get yourself out of legal limbo
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How to see a lawyer for cheap
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How to motivate yourself to get your divorce finalised
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What is the time limit from getting officially divorced to getting property settlement sorted.
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How does not sorting your property settlement for a long time affect the outcome?
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What are the dangers of letting the legal side of your divorce and property settlement never finally get sorted?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you have experienced domestic violence or family violence and you are about to go into the family court system this episode is for you. We discuss why this form is so important and what happens to this form during the court proceedings and how the judge considers it. We explore examples of child abuse or family violence and examples provided by the court. If you have you been asked to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence, risk form listen to this episode? This form is a mandatory form to be filed with any Initiating Application, Response to Initiating Application or Application for Consent Orders seeking parenting orders in the Family Court of Australia.
Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Click here to listen to our the one thing you can do podcast episode referred to in this episode
Click here to listen to our episode on Coercive Control
FCFCOA Website information on Notice of Child Abuse, Family Violence, Risk
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What is a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form?
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Why does the court need it?
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What is considered as family violence?
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Physical Violence and child abuse
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How is neglect considered child abuse?
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How is exposure to family violence part of child abuse?
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Why do you need to fill in the notice of child abuse family violence risk form?
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Initiating application and notice of child risk?
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Response to application and notice of child risk?
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Why do you need to fill in this form when filing consent orders in the Family Court of Australia?
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How does the court look at the notice of risk and consent orders
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What is the statement of truth on the Notice of Risk and what does it mean in the Family Court?
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What is the difference between a consent order and a family court order?
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How a notice of risk makes sure that the child's welfare is put first in consent orders and family court orders.
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How to keep your family lawyer costs down
Do you need to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form to file with your court documents? Feeling overwhelmed by the legal forms and the legal jargon? Mum and Iβve got the solution for you, jump onto our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au and click the link to the online courses and download our 1hr step by step instructional video on how to fill out this form and more. Together letβs fill it out and take away some of the fear of doing this alone. Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au today.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you have experienced domestic violence or family violence and you are about to go into the family court system this episode is for you. We discuss why this form is so important and what happens to this form during the court proceedings and how the judge considers it. We explore examples of child abuse or family violence and examples provided by the court. If you have you been asked to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence, risk form listen to this episode? This form is a mandatory form to be filed with any Initiating Application, Response to Initiating Application or Application for Consent Orders seeking parenting orders in the Family Court of Australia.
Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Click here to listen to our the one thing you can do podcast episode referred to in this episode
Click here to listen to our episode on Coercive Control
FCFCOA Website information on Notice of Child Abuse, Family Violence, Risk
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
-
What is a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form?
-
Why does the court need it?
-
What is considered as family violence?
-
Physical Violence and child abuse
-
How is neglect considered child abuse?
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How is exposure to family violence part of child abuse?
-
Why do you need to fill in the notice of child abuse family violence risk form?
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Initiating application and notice of child risk?
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Response to application and notice of child risk?
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Why do you need to fill in this form when filing consent orders in the Family Court of Australia?
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How does the court look at the notice of risk and consent orders
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What is the statement of truth on the Notice of Risk and what does it mean in the Family Court?
-
What is the difference between a consent order and a family court order?
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How a notice of risk makes sure that the child's welfare is put first in consent orders and family court orders.
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How to keep your family lawyer costs down
Do you need to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form to file with your court documents? Feeling overwhelmed by the legal forms and the legal jargon? Mum and Iβve got the solution for you, jump onto our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au and click the link to the online courses and download our 1hr step by step instructional video on how to fill out this form and more. Together letβs fill it out and take away some of the fear of doing this alone. Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au today.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
What happens if you or your coparent have mental health issues. How do you navigate divorce and family court proceedings whilst dealing with mental health issues? Mental health has been identified as a hidden epidemic. It impacts many people going through divorce. This episode covers how the family court views mental health and how it deals with it in court orders. We also discuss what you can do to assist yourself and your children when mental health issues arrise in your divorce proceedings.
Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
Click here to listen to our FUTURE NEEDS podcast episode
Click here to listen to our How to Divorce a Statue podcast episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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How the court deals with treated and untreated mental health conditions
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How mental health is considered in property settlement in the family court
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How mental health is considered in parenting orders in the family court
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What happens if mental health issues are impacting on the children
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Parentification and how the court tries to avoid it
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When it is important to show a mental health management plan
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What to do if your ex says you are crazy
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What to do if you have a mental health condition during court proceedings
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Why itβs not a good idea to hide your mental health condition in family court (general advice only)
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Why do you need to take care of your mental health even more than normal during divorce proceedings?
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What kind of things can you put in consent orders to support the mental health of the children or the parents?
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What things are put in court orders by judges to safeguard the parents mental health whilst parenting.
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What kind of orders to seek to ensure that your co parent is getting the right treatment for their mental health into the future.
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Why supervised time can be considered if the mental health issue is a major concern.
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How to negotiate with someone with mental health issues during your divorce.
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Why to make sure you donβt trigger your ex in negotiation letters.
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Mental health and children during divorce
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How to encompass the childrenβs mental health in your parenting agreement
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Why itβs a good idea to notify the school of your separation or divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you being bombarded by legal letters from your ex or their lawyer? In this episode we will be discussing what steps you can take and the five important things to look at when, why to respond, how to respond and when to respond or if to respond to the letters at all.
Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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How are legal letters presented in family court
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How to determine when to respond to a letter
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How many letters is normal
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Do you need to stick to their legal letter deadlines for response
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Setting up healthy boundaries
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Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the Family Law Act under section 60cc
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Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the family law act 79 for property.
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When to expect a flurry of legal letters
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Can you add a deadline to your legal letter?
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How to deal with unreasonable deadlines in letters
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How to be firm in responding to legal letters or your exβs letter
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Will your letters be read out in family court by the judge.
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Domestic violence and communication with your ex during divorce proceedings.
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How to keep costs down if being bombarded by legal letters.
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How to check in legal letters if they are projecting
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Narcissists and legal letters
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Why you need to be vigilant with legal letters so you donβt miss something really important.
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Why setting up a new email address might be the best idea for you in your divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you being bombarded by legal letters from your ex or their lawyer? In this episode we will be discussing what steps you can take and the five important things to look at when, why to respond, how to respond and when to respond or if to respond to the letters at all.
Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement
Sign up here for our next free online webinar
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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How are legal letters presented in family court
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How to determine when to respond to a letter
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How many letters is normal
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Do you need to stick to their legal letter deadlines for response
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Setting up healthy boundaries
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Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the Family Law Act under section 60cc
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Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the family law act 79 for property.
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When to expect a flurry of legal letters
-
Can you add a deadline to your legal letter?
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How to deal with unreasonable deadlines in letters
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How to be firm in responding to legal letters or your exβs letter
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Will your letters be read out in family court by the judge.
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Domestic violence and communication with your ex during divorce proceedings.
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How to keep costs down if being bombarded by legal letters.
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How to check in legal letters if they are projecting
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Narcissists and legal letters
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Why you need to be vigilant with legal letters so you donβt miss something really important.
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Why setting up a new email address might be the best idea for you in your divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Whether you are in family court right now or just sorting out your divorce, custody and property settlement in mediation, this is the single, simplest thing you can do to help your case, keep down your costs and save yourself hours of time later looking for dates and documents. Lyn Galvin a family lawyer with over 35 years experience gives her tips on how to arrange your own chronology. She explains why it is important to keep it updated and what documents and court events you would need it for. Donβt leave yourself scrambling later trying to find all the information you wish you had documented. Listen to this latest Divorce Podcast episode and thank us later.
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What court documents need a chronology
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Why does your mediation need a chronology
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Why do final trials in family court need a chronology
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How can you save fees with a family lawyer
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How a chronology creates a narrative for your case
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What a lawyer will do the first time you meet
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How to save on costs in legal fees
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How to do some of the legal work yourself in divorce
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Documenting domestic violence and coercive control
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Documenting important information for property settlement
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Documenting important information for Childrenβs Matters
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How to create a chronology
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What your lawyer wish you had done before you go for your first visit.
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What you will wish you had done to make life easier for you in your divorce.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you about to enter the Family court system? Have you been threatened with costs? Have you been asked to pay your exβs legal fees? Has your lawyer mentioned a Calderbank offer? Are you just confused about the mention of costs in all your legal letters? Well this episode is for you. In this episode Lyn Galvin, a family law specialist of 35 years guides through what costs are, when they are ordered, why and how the court uses costs in the family law system for childrenβs custody matters and for property settlement. This is general advice only. Always seek independent legal advice as every persons situation is different.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What are costs?
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Why might you be ordered to pay someones costs?
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Why is a cost order sort by people in the family court?
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What is a calderbank offer?
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How are calderbank offers used in parenting and property matters in the family court?
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When should you worry about costs
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What does the court use costs for?
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What are the costs implications if you are self represented
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When are costs ordered?
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What kind of things you need to watch out for so you donβt end up paying your exβs legal costs.
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The Family Court of Australia and Costs
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Why lawyers put a cost order at the bottom of their orders sort
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Why making an offer to your ex during family court proceedings could help you later on after a trial.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Has your ex just filed documents in court for the first time about property or childrenβs orders? Have you been given a big bundle of documents called Initiating Application? Do you need to fill out and file a response to initiating application form? Do you think that will be the next step your ex will take? Then this episode is for you. We discuss what is involved in the process of responding to initiating court proceedings in the family court of australia. We talk through the current requirements and documents you will need to fill out and the timeline required to do it in. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Response to Initiating Application Form
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What does an initiating application in the family court mean?
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How long do I have to respond to the initiating application
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What do I have to do to respond to my exβs court application
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What is a Parenting Questionnaire?
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How do I write an affidavit in response to my exβs
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What happens next in court once theyβve filed
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How do I file my court documents?
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What is the court portal
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How do I find my court file number?
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How do I fill in a response to initiating application form?
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When should I see a lawyer
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Can I fill in the documents myself
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What does Interlocutory orders sought by you the respondent mean
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Who is the respondent?
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Who is the applicant?
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Why do I need to tell the family court about domestic violence orders?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you in an amicable divorce where everything is going swimmingly? In this episode we are going to identify when an amicable relationship during property settlement or children's matters can go wrong. We are going to show you how to identify it and what you can do about it to avoid troublesome divorce issues. This episode will help you identify the pitfalls and red flags in an amicable divorce and how you can navigate your property settlement or childrenβs orders and divorce fairly.
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Episodes referred to you can listen to next
Separated under one roof podcast episode
Coercive Control podcast episode
Avoidant Divorce Podcast Episode
DIY Disclosure Podcast Episode
Moving Out once you've decided to divorce Podcast Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What is an amicable divorce
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What are the red flags in an amicable divorce
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What is financial control
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What is coercive control
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What happens in the space between separation and divorce
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Financial Agreements
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Property Settlement and what to look out for
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Parenting agreements and what to look out for
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Amicable divorce: the pitfalls to avoid
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What happens to the money after you sell the house in a divorce?
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When you should see a lawyer during an amicable divorce
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What are consent orders?
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Can you go back to the court and get consent orders changed?
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Who moves out once youβve decided to separate
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Finding out what you are entitled to
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Are you afraid to rock the boat with your ex?
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How to ensure you set yourself up financially in your property settlement fairly for your future.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Has your family law court case been appointed an ICL or Independent Childrenβs Lawyer? Have you heard your lawyer or the court mention a potential ICL in your case? Are you about to enter the family court world and you are trying to sort parenting plans or parenting orders. Well this episode is for you. Listen to Lyn, a family lawyer specialist of 35 years and a past independent childrenβs lawyer, will explain and share with you the facts that may help support you and your children through this journey.
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Resources referred to in this episode
Video to show to kids if and only if they are seeing an ICL
Information about RE: K
FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 60CC
Episodes referred to you can listen to next
Subpoena Podcast Episode
Affidavit Podcast Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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What is an ICL
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What is an independent childrenβs lawyer
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What does an ICL do?
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When does an an independent childrenβs lawyer become involved
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What are the myths about ICL?
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When might a judge appoint an independent childrenβs lawyer
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Why might a judge appoint an independent childrenβs lawyer
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Kay & Kay Case and why it applies to the ICL
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How much weight does an independent childrenβs lawyer have in your case for judgement?
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How much does an ICL cost
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What is the process an ICL might follow in the Family Court of Australia
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What can an independent children lawyer do?
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Consent orders and an ICL
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Mediation and independent childrenβs lawyer
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The downside and upside of having an ICL in your family court case
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How to best prepare your child if they are going to have to meet their independent childrenβs lawyer
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How to write an affidavit to make the ICL pay attention to your point of view
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Affidavits and independent childrenβs lawyers
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How to manage the ICL and a high conflict divorce
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How to manage the ICL with a manipulative or controlling narcissistic ex
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How to manage the ICL with an avoidant ex
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
No doubt you are given countless pieces of advice during your property settlement, parenting settlement or divorce. But weβve picked the best pieces of advice that we wish everyone knew before getting their divorce and property settlement sorted. Learn from a family lawyer of 35 years experience and make your divorce journey a smoother one.
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Social media and divorce
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How social media might be used in court and what to be aware of
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Why keeping it together is more important than you think in your divorce proceedings.
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Why getting help if you are not coping is so important
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Child support and divorce
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Trust accounts and property settlement
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Can you control when your ex meets their next partner?
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How to make sure you donβt let your property settlement or parenting matters drag on
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How to make sure your lawyer is working best for you
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What to do if you are worried if you get divorced youβll have no money or be broke.
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Why is it important to get independent advice from a lawyer
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The best advice for property settlement
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The best advice for childrenβs matters
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
He said this, she said that, and no one in the family court knows who to believe. This episode gets to the crux of the issue on what to do if your ex has written a court document, legal letter or affidavit that has something completely different to the truth or your recollection.
Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years, discusses what you can do about it.
We will discuss what is important to prove wrong and not important to prove as lies.
We also cover in this episode how to prove they are telling lies. As well as what happens if your ex or you get caught out lying in court documents or while in the witness box. We also discuss what happens if your ex doesnβt get caught out.
If you are going through the family court or about to have a mediation and your ex partner isn't being truthful listen to this episode that will guide you by one of the most experienced family lawyers in Queensland.
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Links Mentioned in the Episode
Future Needs Episode
Sorting Property Settlement Part Two Episode
Sorting Property Settlement Part One Episode
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What lies are important to disprove
- What lies are a waste of your time to disprove in an affidavit
- What to do if someone lies in their affidavit
- How to cope when someone tells lies in court or to their lawyer
- What happens if they lie in the witness box
- What do you do if your ex lies in their affidavit?
- How to respond to your ex partners affidavit?
- What kind of proof can you use for an affidavit?
- What happens if you donβt address or prove their lies in the court documents.
- How to find evidence for an affidavit
- What to do for proof and evidence
- Why you might need someone else to write an affidavit to back up your truth.
- Recording, Voice Mail, Videos and how and if they can be used as proof?
- How to prove your coercive control or domestic violence
- Getting a print out of a police statement and using it in your affidavit.
- Do you get a chance to respond to an affidavit after you have already filed yours?
- How to see in Mediation what their arguments might be for trial if you donβt settle.
- What happens if they come up with new lies at the trial.
- What happens if you lie in court?
- What happens if you lie in an affidavit?
- What does credit mean in court?
- What does findings of credit mean in family court?
- What does your lawyer do if they find out youβve made a mistake or lied in your affidavit or legal letter.
- Can you go to jail for lying in court
- How to word something in a court document if you cannot remember exactly what happened.
- What happens when you are in the witness box
- What is the best wording for your affidavit to counter the lies.
- When you should see a lawyer.
- Narcissist and lying in court
- Manipulative and Controlling types and divorce affidavits
- Amicable divorce and lies
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Links Mentioned in the Episode
Click here to listen to episode 6 Mediation
Central Practice Direction β Family Law Case Management
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is an FDR?
- What is an FDRP?
- What is a conciliation conference
- What is a mediation?
- What is arbitration?
- What happens in an FDR?
- What happens in a property settlement mediation?
- What are you ordered to do a FDR or conciliation conference?
- What do you prepare to take to an FDR or mediation
- How much does a mediation or FDR or conciliation conference cost?
- What happens after mediation if you have not agreed on everything?
- What happens after an FDR if you have agreed on everything?
- How to approach mediation with a manipulative and controlling ex
- How to approach mediation with an avoidant ex
- How to approach mediation if your relationship is amicable
- How to do mediation with a high conflict ex partner?
- What is the certificate I get after doing an FDR?
- Who does FDRβs?
- What is a mediator?
- FDR and child custody
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
TRIGGER WARNING: for those who have experienced domestic violence in particular coercive control.
In this episode we take a look at coercive control and domestic violence and what the current laws are now and how the laws might be changed in the future. As coercive control begins to become recognised by governments around the world including Australia. We also discuss how the Family Court as well as the Magistrates court deal and view coercive control. We also discuss what is coercive control. We explore reasons why you or your friend or family member might not leave such a relationship or may return a few times and how you can support them regardless. We also discuss how you can try and prove to the court the pattern of coercive control in order to get a protection order.
Queensland Government Womenβs Safety Taskforce and Coercive Control
Womenβs Safety and Justice Taskforce (the Taskforce)βchaired by the Honourable Margaret McMurdo ACβwas established in March 2021 to examine coercive control, and review both the need for a specific offence of βdomestic violenceβ and the experience of women across the criminal justice system. From this inquiry the Queensland Government will gradually introduce new and changed laws into Parliament to combat coercive control. (see their website for more info)
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What the current law is now
- What is the current situation
- What the laws might be in the future
- How is that going to change things
- What is coercive control
- What are the things you need to show a court to prove coercive control
- How you can help yourself going through coercive control and domestic violence
- How you can help a friend going through coercive control and domestic violence
- How to prove coercive control?
- What are some examples of coercive control?
- Why are people staying in domestic violence situations
- Why won't she leave?
- Why wonβt he get out?
- How to get around the coercive control situation if you donβt have an Australian visa?
- Domestic Violence and your australian citizenship
- How to stay safe when leaving a coercive control situation
- How to know if you are at risk?
- The history of how coercive control and domestic violence has been dealt with in Australia
- How to protect yourself from financial abuse after separation
- How to get legal representation when you donβt have access to money but your ex does.
- How you can get an interim property settlement to help you be able to pay your legal fees and get a lawyer to help you.
- How to avoid the trap of coercive control after separation.
- How to leave safety from a coercive control relationship
- How gaslighting is a part of coercive control.
- The reason why people donβt tell anyone about domestic violence
- How the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard situation shows how tricky it can be for anyone to figure out what's what in any relationship.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
DIVORCE Q & A Ask an Expert: Divorce, property and childrenβs settlement listener questions. If youβd like your question answered by Lyn Galvin a family law specialist of 35 years, please message us on social media or email us.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What to do if someone is claiming you are crazy in court.
- What to do if your ex doesnβt want to see the kids
- What to do if your ex doesnβt want to make a parenting plan
- If you have no assets do you need a property settlement or consent orders still?
- What happens if you donβt get property agreement?
- How do you show the court that domestic violence is occuring?
- How can I get some free or cost effective legal advice on my new court orders?
- What happens if your co parent is bad mouthing you to the children?
- What can you do if your ex is still abusing you even after you get court orders?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you a co parent or about to start your co-parenting journey. Are you about to get divorced and are worried about the effects it might have on your kids? Are you having trouble with constant fighting, manipulation or abuse whilst trying to coparent? Do you wonder how to create the best coparenting relationship for your kids? Then this episode is perfect for you. Join us on this guest episode with Lorrie Brook who created the coparenting communication platform OUR CHILDREN. For the answers you are looking for.
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Click here to find out more about the our children platform
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Why a co-parenting communication platform can be helpful after divorce
- How can you show your kids how to do conflict better
- What does a good coparenting relationship looks like?
- How to write the use of a co parent platform into your consent orders.
- Co-parenting and the bumps in the road
- What is the βour childrenβ communication platform
- How to coparent with an abusive ex
- How to protect your children from psychological harm after divorce.
- How to coparent with a narcissistic ex
- Why communication is key in coparenting
- How to co-parent with a high conflict person
- How to co-parent with a controlling and manipulative person
- Coparenting with a narcissist and how to stop the games
- Communication with your co parent and how it affects your kids
- Divorce and coparenting
- How to set yourself up for a successful co-parenting relationship
- Children and conflict in divorce
- How to avoid damaging your child because of your divorce.
- How to take the pressure off your children and be a better co parent
- Meet Lorrie Brook founder of the βour children co parenting communication platform.β
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Getting divorced but you are moving on and about to move in with Mr or Ms Right but still going through property settlement? In this episode we talk about protecting your assets before, during and after your divorce. We discuss 1. why you should protect your assets, 2. what happens with your assets if you move in with someone else, 3. prenups and 4. pitfalls to watch out for to keep your assets protected when moving in with someone new. General advice only
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Why do you need to protect your assets?
- How do you protect your money and property from your next relationship?
- How long do you have to live together before you are deemed defacto
- Does having a baby with someone change the rules on property?
- How to prove a defacto relationship
- Why you should change your will after divorce
- Why should you check your power of attorney after divorce?
- Why protecting your assets is tricky in your new relationship but is important.
- Why cheap prenups may be risky.
- Pitfall of creating a prenup too early.
- Can you do your own prenup without a lawyer?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Are you being stonewalled or are you trying to divorce someone who won't even speak to you, return an answer to any of your letters or has completely disappeared? Well this episode is for you. We have come up with seven tips on how to divorce and settle with an avoidant person. How to divorce someone even if they donβt want to or if they have comepletly disappeared.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Can a narcissist also be an avoidant person in the divorce?
- Why do some people refuse to engage during your divorce proceedings?
- Why doing a joint divorce with an avoidant person isnβt a good idea
- Why you might need to wait your divorce process until youβve started the property settlement proceedings.
- The timeline to be aware of during your divorce proceedings
- How to find out their assets or the total property pool if they won't share the information with you or respond to your letters.
- Subpoenas and why they are important for an avoidant divorce and the property pool.
- How to find out the property pool yourself.
- What you should do if you canβt find out what the property pool is
- What you should do if you canβt find out their asset total for the property pool.
- Why the persons history with the money is important in the divorce
- What to do if you donβt hear from them.
- If you have a parent who wonβt commit to regular time with the children
- What if you ex is an active parent but wont enter negotiations about parenting plan?
- Child Support & Avoidant Parents and how they deal with them.
- What child support does if the other parent refuses to pay child support.
- Why plan b is always needed with an avoidant ex.
- What is default orders and how does it help you with an avoidant person.
- What happens if your ex doesnβt turn up to Mediation.
- How to serve someone when you donβt know where they are?
- What to do if your ex says I donβt care you can do whatever you want.
Episodes referred to in the show
SUBPOENAS: what they are, why you need one and how to apply
5 Legal Tips to help freak out moments during your divorce
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you currently going through your property settlement or about to go through who gets what in your divorce process then this episode is perfect for you. This is part three of a series of episodes that covers Sorting your Property Settlement in Divorce. This episode covers how the court may consider your future needs and how it may change your property settlement outcome. Listen to this episode to know what you might be entitled to and to make sure you donβt make the mistake of glossing over the property settlement process and leaving yourself high and dry in the future.
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Click below to listen to the other episodes we refer to in the episode
- Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement
- Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during & after marriage.
- Spousal Maintenance - are you eligible?
FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 75 Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- 75(2) factors of the family law act
- What future needs are considered when negotiating property settlement
- How can age affect your property settlement?
- How can your health affect your property settlement?
- What happens if you are married for a short time in property settlement?
- What happens if youβve never worked a paid job and you are getting divorced?
- What happens if you need to upgrade your skills to get back into the workforce and you are getting divorced?
- How taking care of the children can affect your property settlement
- Children with special needs and your property settlement
- What are the factors considered for future needs?
- Does your exβs girlfriend or boyfriend gets considered in your property settlement?
- Superannuation and how it is calculated in future needs for your divorce?
- What happens if your ex has superannuation that cannot be split?
- How are overseas pensions taken into account during property settlement?
- What happens with a trust and property settlement?
- Did you support your ex while they were studying for a degree? Learn how this can affect your property settlement in your divorce.
- What you should raise with your lawyer when discussing property settlement
- How to help property settlement in mediation
- How to find the family law act and how to read it to help you.
- How child support is considered
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT
Are you about to hire a lawyer or do you currently have a lawyer and are starting to wonder if they are a good fit for your case. In this episode we cover what you should be looking for when hiring a lawyer and the red flags to keep an eye out with your current family or domestic violence lawyer. We discuss what type of lawyer you need based on what divorce personality you are facing and why. We also cover what the process is if you decide to change lawyers.
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- How to choose the right lawyer
- Why do you need to check your lawyer's experience?
- Why some childrenβs matter lawyers are not that great at property matters.
- Why are some domestic violence lawyers not great family lawyers?
- Why is it important to choose the right lawyer for the kind of work you need?
- Why it is important to choose a certain type of lawyer based on your divorce course personality prism.
- Why itβs important to have a lawyer that will tell you the things you sometimes probably donβt want to hear during your case but need to.
- Why is it helpful for your lawyer to have appeared in front of your judge before?
- Why should you be concerned if your lawyer doesnβt want to put your case to the judge because they seem scared?
- Why itβs important to have a lawyer who is upfront about costs and billing.
- Family law and domestic violence legal billing and the best way to do it.
- Why itβs a good idea to check LinkedIn when choosing a family lawyer or domestic violence lawyer.
- How often should you expect to hear from your lawyer?
- How to make sure you avoid unnecessary billing from your family lawyer.
- Why itβs important you trust your lawyer and what to do if you donβt.
- The process involved if you want to change lawyers.
- Can you change lawyers midway through your case?
- What kind of lawyer do you need if you are divorcing a narcissist?
- What kind of lawyer do you need if your divorce is amicable?
- What lawyer to look for if you have a high conflict case?
- If your ex is controlling and manipulative what lawyer would work best for your case.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you suffering from Post Separation Abuse? Are you finding yourself being kept under coercive control, isolated, harassed, stalked, subjected to legal abuse, financial abuse, counter parenting, alienation allegations or neglectful coparenting? We discuss what post separation abuse can look like and how you can counter it. We examine the One Momβs Battles Post Separation Abuse Wheel and Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years gives tips and advice that you can follow if you find yourself in any of these situations. Sign up here for our next free online webinar
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One Moms Battle - Post Separation Abuse Wheel
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- What is coercive control?
- What is post separation abuse?
- How can you be isolated after separating from an abusive ex?
- What to do if you feel like you are being harassed and stalked?
- How to approach a police officer refusing to take your statement about domestic violence.
- Why it is still important to report your concerns and incidents each time.
- How to try prove abuse of legal services
- How the children are used in post separation abuse
- Counter parenting and what to do about it.
- Alienation allegations and what to do about it.
- Neglectful parenting and what to do about it
- What is an unfriendly parent in the eyes of the court?
- Abuse vs alienation
- What is an ICL independent childrenβs lawyers
- What is a contact centre?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
If you are worried about what happens to your money after separation or divorce and how it will be split between your ex and yourself this episode is for you. We discuss non financial and financial contributions during the marriage and after cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement in the family court. Did you get a lump sum of money during your marriage? Did you get an inheritance, or have you been saving money after separation and are now facing a property settlement and wondering if your money should be a part of the property pool. Even if you have a family lawyer this is a good episode for you to listen to so that you know how the property settlement is decided and how what youβve contributed during the marriage and after youβve separated can affect the property split.
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Episodes you might want to listen to as well
Podcast Episode Part 1: Property Settlement: property before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement
Podcast Episode: DIY Property Pool Discover and Disclosure
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How your inheritance is treated in property settlement
- How money made and spent during the marriage or cohabitation is looked at for property settlement
- What is a non financial contribution
- What is a financial contribution
- What is matrimonial property
- Is there such a thing as non matrimonial property
- How the length of the marriage affects the property settlement
- Exceptions for during cohabitation that donβt normally gets considered 50/50 inheritance and windfalls and lump sums
- What the case law says about contributions
- How percentages are used in property settlement
- What happens with your money after separation. How is it included in the property settlement in the family court?
- Does the money you save after separation get included in the property pool.
- How does caring for the kids affect the property pool in your property settlement.
- What are non-financial contributions that go towards the property pool?
- Documenting post separation contributions
- What are financial contributions after separation?
- What are negative contributions post separation?
- How is credit card debt treated in post separation property settlement?
- Does the waiting time get included into the judgement on property?
- What is the difference between consent orders and judge ordered court orders?
- What are the risks of property settlement
- What are future needs and why are they considered in the property settlement?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you about to go to trial or worried what your trial would be like in your family court. We will break it down in a really easy to understand way so you know what you will be facing and you won't have any surprises. Break up the fear of the unknown and be prepared for your day in family court for your divorce, childrenβs or property settlement.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How knowing what goes on in a trial will help you face your fear.
- How keeping a mindfulness approach to your trial day can really keep you focused and achieve better outcomes for you on the day.
- The theatre of a trial and what to expect
- Who will be in the trial room with you.
- What the trial room will look like.
- What to expect from the judge
- How to speak to a judge
- What a judges associate is and what to expect from them on the day of the trial
- How to know where to stand when you go into court
- The layout of the courtroom
- What is a bar table and why is it called one?
- When do witnesses come into the trial
- Where do witnesses wait during the trial proceedings
- Can you take a support person with you?
- How does the judge enter?
- How does the trial start
- What kind of housekeeping does the judge do at the beginning
- What is the point of the witness box
- What do you have to do in the witness box
- What kind of questions do they ask in the witness box
- How can you prepare for a trial
- What does the affidavit have to do with the trial
- Why itβs important to refresh your memory
- Why itβs important to eat breakfast the day of court
- Top strategy for the witness box
- What is going on in the head of the barrister or the lawyer
- How long can you be in the witness box
- How to ask to go to the bathroom if youβre in the witness box
- What should you do when a judge asks you a direct question
- How should you address the judge during your family court trial
- What are closing submissions
- What's the difference between written and spoken submissions
- What do you find out the outcome of your family court trial
- How long does it take to get a judgement
- Can you cross examine your ex in the witness box yourself?
- How to prepare for trial and cross examine if you are doing it yourself
- If you are self representing
- What happens if your trial is via zoom?
- What's the difference between a divorce trial with zoom as opposed to in the court room?
- How many support people should you bring to a trial
- Objections during court, how does it happen, why and who can do it.
- Can you object yourself to questions asked of you in the witness box?
- How to take care of yourself after the trial
- What happens if you cry in the witness box
- Why do lots of people settle on the day of the trial?
- How to avoid being done for costs?
- What happens if the judgement matches the offer you or your ex offered a year ago or months ago?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyoneβs divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isnβt as scary as you think it is. Weβve got your back. Press play and feel better today.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings
- Your ex isnβt special, the family court has seen it all before
- Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce
- What happens if mediation fails?
- How long it takes from initial application to final trial
- What are the new family court directives
- How to stop your ex from freaking you out.
- How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive.
- How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you donβt have to worry about what their response will be, if any.
- How to speed up your divorce process.
- Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward.
- Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself
- Why setting your own divorce goals are important
- Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important
- Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic
- How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce.
- Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff.
- Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process?
- How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process.
- How to reclaim your power after separation.
- You donβt need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised
- Why threats donβt always end up in reality
- Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Are you trying to sort out your child custody arrangements or parenting plans but not sure what to do if you have a young baby or a toddler, or are pregnancy with your ex's child. We will be talking about child custody and the family courts general opinion of custody of arrangements for children under five. We will also be exploring stepped orders and pregnancy and birth during separation or divorce. General Advice only.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
- How custody arrangements are usually for babies and toddlers.
- Why custody arrangements should be different depending on the childβs age
- How the court views babies and custody
- Basic custody rules
- The difference for children under 3 and why?
- What are stepped orders
- What are your potential rights during birth if you are pregnant lady if youβve left your partner
- Does your ex have a right to be at the birth of your baby?
- Why court orders aim to always be decided and based on the best interest of the children.
- The family courts view on what a needs of a young child are vs needs of an older child and how it affects court orders or parenting plan arrangements
- How to co-parent and negotiate when you have a baby or young child.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce. We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help.
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You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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How your pet is viewed in the family court.
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Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets?
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Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this?
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Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?
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Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet?
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How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?
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Show dogs and divorce.
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What happens if your ex takes your pet?
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What should you do before separation with your pet?
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Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T
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Domestic Violence and Pet Care
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Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce
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Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets?
- Consent orders and financial agreements and pets.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
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Todayβs Listener Divorce Questions:
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- How can you change existing parenting orders?
- Can you change your parenting orders after a few years?
- What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia?
- What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders.
- Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know
- The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce.
- Post separation savings and in the property settlement.
- What happens to your bank account savings youβve saved after separation in the divorce proceedings.
- Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement?
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
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Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series. This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss:
- How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome?
- How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome?
- How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage?
- How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.
Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?
You Donβt Want to Miss Out On
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Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce.
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How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce?
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What is a contribution?
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The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage?
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If you bring in a house or shares it doesnβt automatically be given back to you at separation.
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What is considered a short marriage?
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How do children factor into property settlement percentage?
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A case of gold bars under the waterbed
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Why furniture and pianos donβt count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage
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What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage?
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How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage
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Superannuation.
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If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement?
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How future needs are considered in a property settlement.
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If you helped pay child support for your exβs kids can you get the money back after divorce?
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What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side?
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When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court?
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Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation.
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How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement.
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If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?
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Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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- What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement?
- Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court?
- What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?
- How the family court is streamlining their system
- What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings?
- What are the new case practice management directions of the Family court and how does it change things?
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What happens when one parent doesn't want the child vaccinated against COVID-19 and the other parent does? How can co-parenting work in a Covid-19 vaccination decision deadlock? This episode discusses what has been happening in the courts when this issue arises. And what you can consider doing yourself if you are facing this issue. General Advice Only
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- Vaccination Consent in Young People
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The difference between equal and shared parental responsibility.
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How the court can help in a vaccination coparenting disputes?
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Sole Parental responsibility and COVID-19 Vaccinations
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Joint Parental responsibility and COVID-19 Vaccinations
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What happens if you have no official family court orders and a COVID-19 Vaccination dispute?
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What is the 2021 reported case in family court over COVID-19 Vaccinations?
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What is an independent childrenβs lawyer ICL and how do they work?
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Why the Family Court follows the federal government guidelines for vaccinations
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Why the court will usually side with the parent who is more likely to follow federal government advice in regards to health and wellbeing.
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Why the court will not rule who is right and who is wrong when it comes to vaccinations and immunisation.
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What the courts view on a parents sneaking the vaccination without the other parents approval,
- Maccanan & Taupe Case Ruling 2021
- What do you do if the other co parent won't allow your child to be vaccinated?
- Can you break the family court orders?
- Co-parenting disagreements and how to not expose the children to it.
- What is the family court Urgent Covid-19 list? If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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You canβt negotiate a property settlement if you donβt know what the property pool is. You cannot find a fair and reasonable child support payment amount if people are not being honest about their property and income. But how do you know for sure that all the property is on the table? In this episode Lyn talks us through how to do discovery and disclosure for yourself without needing a lawyer. Superannuation, Houses, Businesses, Company shareholder information you name it, we talk you through how to do the detective work yourself.
- Superannuation Information Form
- CITEC Confirm Website
- ABN lookup
- Redbook
- Subpoena form
- Podcast Episode on businesses and valuations
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What is a form 6?
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How to find out the value of your ex partners superannuation
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How to find out if your ex owns any other properties
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How to find out whoβs name a house is in
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What is the difference between the bank valuation and a real estate agent valuation
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How to find out who is a director or a shareholder of a company
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How to find out if you are a shareholder or hold a role in a company
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How to determine what the cars are worth
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How to determine what your other assets are worth
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How to use citec confirm to find a personal property security search to find out if your ex has any loan debts owing.
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Bank accounts and swearing that theyβve revealed all their property.
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Subpoenaing banks
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How to find out what your exβs payslip says for property settlement
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Payslips and property settlements
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Disclosure and Discovery how to do it yourself
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How to do your own discovery without a lawyer
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Child Support and how to prove your co parents earnings to get the amount that is fair.
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What do judges usually do to people who lie about property in court.
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What to do if someone changes their name off the property too try trick you
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What is the Section 87 declaration, if your ex has changed this property to someone else's name
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What to do if your ex quickly changes his property and assets into other peoples names to avoid being fair in property settlement.
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What is the deadline to get property sorted in your divorce.
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Can the court let you come back later and get a change in the property settlement.
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What does the court do if there has been fraud or non disclosure.
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How to try avoid going to court and using mediation and letters instead
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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DIY Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement and child support - How to find out what you donβt know
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What can you do if your lawyer isnβt doing a good job?
How to change lawyers?
What to do if you have orders and your co-parent is still difficult.
How a POP course could help you and your kids after divorce.
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Do you feel like you are possibly being stalked or tracked? Is your ex partner harassing you via text, email or phone or face to face? You might be in a coercive control situation / domestic violence situation. In this episode we discuss what the different types of harassment are and where the line in the sand is that makes it illegal. We discuss what you can do about it. How you can go speak to and what the family courts view on this behaviour might be. Whether youβve got a narcissistic ex , a manipulative and controlling or high conflict if your instincts are telling you something might be up, this episode is for you.
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Coercive Control
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Harassment during divorce
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Stalking and tracking and what to do about it
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Divorce and stalking
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Bonus Episode #5
Today's Q & A Divorce Questions: When can I legally use my maiden name again after separation, and what surname am I supposed to use until the divorce is finalised?
Can other people do handover for my child to my ex partner/ co-parent.
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Got some debt from your ex in the separation? Lawyers secretly call it βsexually transmitted debt β. Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years talks through what to do if you realise you have been left with a debt by your ex. She also discusses what the family court's likely view is on debt and divorce.
We discuss tips and warning signs for debt. We also cover how to deal with debt and a manipulative and controlling (narcissistic ex), high conflict ex and and avoidant ones.
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How is debt seen in divorce?
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If you paid off your exβs credit cards in the marriage does it count in the property settlement?
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How is HECS debt viewed in property settlement?
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What happens to items bought through the home loan?
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What happens if you find out about debt after separation?
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What does the court do with gambiling addiction debts?
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What to do if you find out about a debt after separation and your ex wont help you pay it.
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What to do if you cannot afford to pay the mortgage.
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What the court expects in regards to mortgage.
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How refinancing can help you with sexually transmitted debt.
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Joint mortgages and divorce.
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How is debt viewed in property settlement
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Your credit rating during divorce and how to keep it good.
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How to protect yourself from debt
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Debts acquired after separation and the family courts views.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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With property prices the way they are and the rental market going crazy it is so hard to separate and leave the marital home. More and more people are choosing to separate under one roof. If this is you, we have some doβs and donβts for you to consider when going down the divorce path.
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The doβs and donβts of being separated but still living with your ex
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Shared living arrangements and separation
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Divorce and shared living arrangements
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Living under one roof separated with a high conflict ex
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Living under one roof separated with a avoidant ex
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Living separated under one roof with a narcissist or controlling ex
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What's to consider separating under one roof
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What the court things about separation under one roof
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How being separated under one roof can affect your divorce date
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How using a time table can make life easier
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How to live separated under one roof and co-parent
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Should you have meals together if you are separated under one roof?
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Is hot nesting a good idea if you are separated under one roof
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How to keep calm if you are separated under one roof.
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Why going to joint events is a bad idea if you are separated under one roof.
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Why sharing a bedroom isn't going to work if you are separated under one roof.
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What rules you should consider putting in place when separated under one roof.
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When to consider sending legal letters to your ex if you are living with your ex.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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38 Christmas and Custody and Co-Parenting
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Christmas doesn't wait for your divorce to be final. It is coming and maybe you have plans and maybe you donβt. In this episode we are talking about Christmas handovers, the legal side and options for practical changeovers and timings. Plus as always the divorce personalities and how it changes up your Christmas. Highlighting how to avoid the drama and prevent your kids from hating Christmas forever.
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Why is there usually a flurry of emails just before Christmas in family lawyer offices?
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Christmas dramas and how to prepare and avoid them.
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The family court timelines with Christmas issues.
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Does the family court close over christmas.
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What is the family court's view on Christmas Holiday issues?
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Why the best interests of the children are paramount.
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Opening presents on christmas day and christmas lunch and divorce
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Other christmas options to make life easier for the kids during and after divorce
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Does the family court about special holidays?
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Parenting order options for Christmas and special days.
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What to do if your ex won't let you see your kids at Christmas.
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Christmas and custody handover
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Things to look out for during Christmas
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Christmas what ifs
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Overseas and Christmas and custody
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Creating a happy Christmas bubble for the kids.
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Your emotions and Christmas and Divorce.
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Co-parenting and christmas
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Christmas present upsets
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To let them take their presents to the other parents house
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Amicable Co-Parenting Christmas
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Equal shared time and Christmas
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Manipulative and controlling ex partners and Christmas
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High Conflict ex partners and christmas
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How to use our communication compass when sorting out christmas.
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Avoidant ex partners and christmas.
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How to write a legal letter about christmas.
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THe elf on the shelf and coparenting
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The elf on the shelf and divorce
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In a divorced family where does Santa go?
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How to make a Christmas plan with your co-parent
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Do people go to court just over Christmas issues?
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How to prevent your kids from hating Christmas because of divorce.
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The doβs and donβts of talking about Christmas to the kids
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Bonus episode number 4 today's divorce questions
Bonus session #4
- What is the possible court's view on childrenβs diets?
- What if your co-parent strays from the parenting plan?
- Homeschooling and the family court.
- Can your ex force your kids to go from homeschooling to mainstream school?
- Can your ex force your kids to go to mainstream school if theyβve been homeschooled?
- Homeschooling vs mainstream school
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Have a family business? Worried about how it is included in your divorce? This episode explores the topic of divorce and business. We cover what the court does in relation to sharing up your business between you and your ex partner. A must listen if you are going through divorce and have a small business. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years shares all the info you need to be aware of when you approach your divorce with a business in your property pool.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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How your business gets valued to be included in the property pool for divorce
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If you were not involved in the business are you entitled to something after separation?
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What cases are relevant to family law and family businesses
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The timing of your relationship and how it effects your share of the business
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What the time and money invested in your business is valued at during the divorce settlement.
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How is the business included in the family property pool for property settlement.
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Contributions and how it relates to your family business.
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Is your side hustle included in the divorce?
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The basic law and how it relates to your business and your divorce.
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Family law rules on business valuations
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Business valuation issues and how to address them.
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What to watch out for in divorce and business
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Sneaky tricks people use to avoid business valuations and how to keep an eye out and catch them out.
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Do you scale down or scale up your business before divorce?
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To buy or sell the business during divorce.
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What lessons can you learn from divorce court and your business?
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What is regarded as a short marriage?
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How do they calculate the length of the marriage in the family court?
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Do you sell the business or buy them out during divorce?
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Who gets the business in the divorce?
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Decisions you need to make before you make decisions on your business in your divorce.
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Accountants during your divorce what you need to know.
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Why you need your own accountant during your divorce.
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The case of Weir and Weir (1993) FLC 92 β 338 and how it relates to your divorce and business.
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The cast of Townsend (1994) 18 fam lr 505 and how it also relates.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Insights into family law and the schooling years. Co-parenting and what the law says in regards to it. Lyn shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered in regards to all the school situations.
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Insights into family law and the schooling years. How to co-parent and what the law says in regards to it. She shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered,
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Today's Divorce Questions:
- What are the pitfalls of asking 50/50 in property settlement?
- What happens if they spend their super before property settlement?
- How long do you give someone to sign an agreement before taking it to court?
- What do you do with the mortgage while your ex is still living in the house and you are not?
- What can you do if your ex sold all the furniture?
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Insights into what a narcissist will do during a divorce. What to look out for, what to expect and how to cope with it. Lyn points out 10 common things she sees happen in divorce with controlling and manipulative ex partners. She shares her insight with 35 years experience in the family law space. Laura asks all the questions you want to ask your lawyer and want answered,
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Today's Q & A Divorce questions:
- What is the difference between day to day care and long term care in child custody?
- Can your social media posts be used against you in your divorce in court?
- When can you remarry after you divorce?
- Can you use your exβs social media posts in your divorce?
- Does what you post on social media matter in your divorce proceedings?
- What is a case assessment conference? Should your lawyer attend?
- Facebook and Divorce
- When can you remarry after separating?
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Links and resources:
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Join us on Facebook
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Click here to find out more about our divorce course online
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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You still need to live right? That means you still need money. If youβve not been the breadwinner that puts you in a tricky situation if you leave. In this episode we discuss spousal maintenance, what it is, when you can get it and how to apply. Donβt let the threat of no money be the only reason you stay in a marriage youβd prefer to be out of.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
Initiating Application Form
Fact sheet on preparing an affidavit
Affidavit Form
Financial-statement-kit
Section 75 of the Family Law Act - Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance
Section 77 of the Family Law Act - Urgent spousal maintenance cases
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- What is spousal maintenance?
- What is spousal maintenance in Australian family law?
- Can you apply for spousal maintenance?
- How do you apply for spousal maintenance?
- The different types of spousal maintenance?
- What's the difference between child support and spousal maintenance?
- How to avoid the good girl bad girl situation with spousal maintenance.
- How spousal maintenance can speed up your property settlement or slow it down.
- How hard is it to supply for spousal maintenance?
- Can you get funds for lawyers from your ex partner?
- Can you engage a lawyer if you have no access to your money?
- What is an initiating application?
- What is a financial statement?
- What is an affidavit for spousal maintenance?
- What is the new court urgent list?
- Can you get spousal maintenance without going to court?
- Can you go to mediation to get spousal maintenance?
- When can you apply for spousal maintenance?
- What is the likelihood of your application being rejected in court for spousal maintenance?
- What does the federal circuit and family court of Australia do with urgent cases?
- Does your centrelink payments effect your claim on spousal maintenance?
- Can you apply for spousal maintenance whilst still living in the same house with your ex?
- DV and spousal maintenance issues
- Where to go for help if you are struggling for money while waiting for a property settlement.
- What do you write in your spousal maintenance application?
- What do you write in your affidavit for spousal maintenance?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Today's Q & A Divorce Questions
- What constitutes a legal separation?
- Can I be separated but still living together?
- What is a case assessment conference? Should your lawyer attend?
- What can you do if your ex is alienating you from your children?
- What is the legal age for when children get to choose which parent to live with?
- Where do you find an affidavit template?
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Links and resources:
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
-
National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
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In this episode Lyn & Laura explore your last resort efforts to avoid court and finally settle your property, or children's matters. They explore things you can do to negotiate further after all other efforts failed. Including looking at ways to negotiate based on their divorce personality. They also touch on the new family court processes and what to expect.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
Podcast. Episode: The court conveyer belt: for family law,...
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- Ways to avoid court
- 5 things to explore before filing in the family court or the FCFCOA
- Writing letters to negotiate with your ex partner to get to settlement.
- How does the personality type affect the way you negotiate
- What are the rules of offers to the other side
- What does without prejudice mean?
- Why should you write without prejudice at the top of all letters of negotiation?
- What is an FDR and what are the rules in the family court for it?
- How to come up with a decent offer for the other side?
- What makes a good mediation in family law?
- The risks of taking your matter in front of the judge.
- What are the risks of cost?
- What does getting costs mean?
- Can your ex sue you for costs if you donβt agree?
- Why you should consider the house value and property value changes into consideration as to whether you should settle or go to court.
- Why going to see a psychologist might help you settle out of court.
- New changes to the court
- The new name of the family court
- The Federal Circuit Family Court of Australia
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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In this episode we discuss how you can save yourself thousands in your divorce journey using our DIY Divorce Blueprint. We also share who we are and why we do what we do.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
Identifying your divorce course personality episode
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You Donβt Want to Miss
- How to save money in your divorce
- Can you do your divorce yourself
- How to cut costs when seeing your lawyer
- Is it possible to do your own documents for divorce?
- Can you write your own property or childrenβs agreements?
- Do you need a lawyer to get divorced?
- What the DIY Divorce Blueprint is and how it can help you?
- Why the divorce course podcast created?
- What to do if your Mum isnβt a lawyer?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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We discuss 6 practical tips on how to keep your divorce from spinning out of control. If your divorce, property or children settlement is spinning out of control by taking up all your time and thoughts or if it is taking up all your money in legal fees there is a way to slow things or calm things down. Family law can be tricky but there are some ways to calm it all down and slow it to a pace you can cope with. Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years shares her experience and wisdom on how to keep everything including your lawyer in check.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
Identifying your divorce course personality episode
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How to stop a narcissistic person from making your divorce proceedings spin out of control.
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How to identify what type of divorce personality type you have.
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How to predict how your ex will behave during the legal proceeding and how to deal with it.
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How to stop the divorce from taking up your whole life/week/day.
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How to tailor your divorce process to accommodate the divorce personality type.
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Can you stop work on your legal process with a lawyer if it is all getting too much?
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Can you stop working with your lawyer if it is costing you too much money?
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How to tell your lawyer to stop working on your file if you need to lower the costs?
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Can you do the divorce and property/childrens settlement yourself?
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How to avoid racking up bills on legal fees with letters?
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How lawyers will bill you for divorce?
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What parts of the divorce and property settlement can you do yourself?
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How a lawyer thinks vs how you think during your divorce.
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How to cap your fees with a lawyer so you donβt waste money in legal fees.
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When to stop fighting over things and when not to in divorce proceedings.
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How to check with yourself that you are not making the divorce spin out of control.
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How fighting in the family court can rack up more fees then you can afford to pay.
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How to create a plan to help you feel like you are more in control.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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This episode covers how the court decides what is best for the children in regards to parenting orders and agreements. We also discuss how you and your co-parent can also decide whatβs best for the children and create parenting arrangements that avoid the need for court. Lyn discusses common threats and myths that your ex may try to scare you with. Lyn discusses section 60 cc of the family law act to help you understand and be up to date on what the law is, to help you and your kids through this difficult time.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
Creating your own parenting plan podcast episode
Family reports in your divorce podcast episode
Identifying your divorce course personality episode
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Section 60cc
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Federal Circuit Court
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Family Law Court
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How the courts main aim is to ensure that parenting arrangements are in the best interest of the children.
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How the family court determines time parents have with their children.
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How the court factors in harm to the children and their right to have a relationship with both parents
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What roadmap the judges follow to decide about your children.
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What is section 60cc of the family law act.
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What other factors the court considers in 60cc 3.
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Do the childrenβs thoughts make a difference to what the court decides?
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Do children have to go to court for family law?
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What is considered during a family court trial over child custody.
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Can your child be taken off you?
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Why donβt children go to court?
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What is a family report?
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Why does a court order a family report?
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What does a family report writer ask and how are the children involved in the report?
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What happens if a parent comes back after many years and insists on seeing their child?
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How the nature of the relationship may affect the judges' decisions?
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How child support may affect the court's decision?
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How location can affect the court's decision on child custody?
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Can your child be taken off you by the court and deny you access to seeing them?
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What is an FDR?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Episode 29 Divorce, Property Settlement , Court and Family Law frequently asked questions.
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Summary:
We cover commonly asked questions by answering βClaireβsβ legal questions about her upcoming divorce and recent separation and what pitfalls to avoid when dealing with a high conflict narcissistic ex partner. Including βwhat happens when you see a lawyer for the first time?β
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Federal Circuit Court
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Family Law Court
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What happens when you go see a lawyer for the first time?
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What to expect in the first meeting with a family lawyer?
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What type of letters do you need to write to negotiate and settle to avoid having to go to court.
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What is a family law retainer?
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Why do lawyers ask for money upfront?
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What to make sure you lawyer isnβt wasting the money you pay?
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Why can letter writing back and forth be costly in family law?
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How to save money in separation and divorce?
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Is negotiation going to work with your situation and why itβs important to know?
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Why going to court and negotiating at the same time important?
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How to avoid wasting money with back and forth letter writing.
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How to face your fears about court.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Police on 000
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DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
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DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Summary:
We cover seven top tips for things to do if you cannot afford your own lawyer for childrenβs or property settlement and you are self representing. Please go to our show notes on our website to get the links discussed in this episode.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
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Episode 28 Show Notes
Court Etiquette for self representation in court podcast episode
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If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
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Divorcing a narcissist? Lyn discusses the common traits and issues people face when attempting to legally separate and divorce from a narcissist. She describes what to look out for during your legal proceedings and what to prepare to counteract it. She also explains how you can negotiate with a narcissist and adjust your mindset to get to a final outcome in your property settlement, childrens orders, separation and divorce.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Section 117c Family Law Act Offers of Settlement
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How to prepare yourself for narcissists in divorce
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What you might encounter in a lawyer letter from a narcissist
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What to do if your lawyers donβt believe you because of the narcissist on the other side.
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What happens with narcissists in court?
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How do you counter the lies of a narcissist in family law
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How to negotiate with a narcissist in family law and divorce
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Why it is important not to buy into the crazy during divorce with a narcissist
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Divorce with a narcissist what to expect in the legal sense
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Trial, Mediation and Narcissist
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What to do if your ex is a narcissist and you are going through the family law process.
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How to counteract narcissists lies with you facts and evidence
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What happens in the witness box in court in family law.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
Family Court directions, mentions or interim hearings? Lyn discusses the different court appearances dates, what they are called, what they mean and what to expect For those going through divorce and separation.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Federal Circuit Court Lists - find your date and time here
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Our Meditation podcast episode
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Section 117c Family Law Act Offers of Settlement
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What is the first court date?
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What is the first return date?
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What is a mention date?
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What is an interim hearing date?
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When do you get your first court date?
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What happens at your first court date?
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What directions mean?
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How to find out when your court date is?
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How to find out if youβve got all your documents filed correctly.
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What is a court information gathering event?
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What does hurry up and wait mean for court?
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Mediation and the family court
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Mediation and the federal circuit court
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Interim orders - what are they and why you need a different court date for them.
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What is an interim hearing?
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What to expect in an interim hearing?
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What is a court mention date?
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What to expect at a mention court day?
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What you should be doing while on the family court conveyor belt.
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Why continuing to negotiate is still important while on the divorce journey.
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What is a call over?
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What happens at a call over in family court.
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What is a section 117c family law act offer?
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Why you should consider making an offer before going to trial
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What happens at a property or children custody trial?
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What you should consider before going to trial for your divorce
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What happens at a hearing?
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Do you need to go to court to get your judgement if it is not handed down on the day?
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What is the issue of cost in family law?
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What does cost mean?
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What is an appeal?
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Why do people lodge appeals?
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How long the full family court process is currently from the first court date to judgement to appeal?
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How does the divorce course personality prism plays into the potential court conveyor belt.
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Some questions you should be asking yourself before going to trial.
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Changes coming to the family and federal circuit court that may create some changes.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Summary:
Lyn discusses the divorce course 12 agreements that you should consider when creating your parenting plan or orders. Co-parenting can be tricky but with the right plan or orders covering these main 12 things you can find it can be a bit smoother sailing. Lyn discusses each agreement and why it's important and how you should consider it for your situation based on the divorce course personalities (listen to episode 1 if you need to find more about which divorce personality you have).
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram
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Join us on Facebook
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Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
- https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
You donβt want to miss
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What parenting plan usually contains.
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What parenting orders usually contain.
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What is long term parental responsibility in family law?
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What is day to day parental responsibility in family law?
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How to plan changeovers for co-parenting plans
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How to incorporate the children's birthdays in your parenting plan
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Why it is important to seek an order that includes a respect clause in your parenting orders.
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Co-parenting and parenting orders in family law.
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The basics for a parenting orders
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Some legal wording used in normal parenting orders.
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Important what if questions to ask yourself before agreeing to parenting orders or parenting plans
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How to create parenting plans to make co parenting run smoothly.
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How to include christmas in parenting orders
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What options can you consider for Christmas in your parenting orders?
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How to make sure you are not allowing your emotions to get in the way of getting to an agreement in family law.
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Why it is important to have a fixed time for handovers in your parenting orders.
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How to create orders for time to speak to the children when they are with the other parent.
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What other additional clauses you should consider to put in your parenting orders and plans.
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What the clause βunless otherwise agreedβ means?
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The best ways to exchange information with your co-parent about the children.
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Why it is important to have an exchange of information clause in your parenting plan.
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What you should notify the school to do after separation.
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How to avoid accidental breaches in parenting orders.
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Reasons why even if you have an amicable relationship you still probably need a parenting plan or parenting orders.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Episode 24
Summary:
Lyn discusses the road blocks you may come across in negotiations and how to overcome them. She discusses the 2 main reasons why your ex partner may not be open to finalising an agreement. She gives you a few strategies on how to approach the negotiations keeping these reasons in mind. We discuss the easy way to keep your communication during this time in check using the divorce course communication compass.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram
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Join us on Facebook
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Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online
- https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
You donβt want to miss
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Why just saying βcalm downβ wonβt work.
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The two main reasons you may come to a roadblock in negotiations
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Why reflecting on your past relationship may help you negotiate successfully in property and childrens matters
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What mediators are trying to do to get you to come to an agreement and how you can harness that in your own negotiations with your ex.
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How and why negotiations take time but your hard work can pay off.
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Why it is important not to throw mud in negotiations even if you ex partner does.
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How to negotiate with a high conflict partner
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How to negotiate with a amicable ex partner
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How to negotiate with an avoidant ex.
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How to negotiate with a high controlling partner
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How to negotiate once youβve left an abusive relationship
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Why it's important to know each other's triggers and to avoid them.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Summary:
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Lyn explains what a subpoena is, what it can be used for, how it can be applied for in the family law courts for property and children's matters and in the domestic violence court. She explains how to apply, how to see the information and how to use it in court to prove your case. She gives tips on filling in the form and how to take notes in the subpoena room when inspecting the documents. This episode will be helpful for anyone currently going through separation, property settlement or child custody agreements. Even if you have a lawyer having a basic understanding of subpoenas is helpful during the process.
Links and resources:
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Application for subpoena in the federal circuit court (family law court)
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Information for people about to issue a subpoena in the federal circuit court
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Information for people who have been subpoenaed in the federal circuit court
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How to apply to inspect the subpoenas
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How to inspect the subpoenas in the federal circuit court family court of australia
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How to apply for a subpoena in QLD Magistrates court
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Follow us on Instagram
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Join us on Facebook
You donβt want to miss:
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What is a subpoena?
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How are subpoenas used in the family court?
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How are subpoenas used in the domestic violence courts?
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How are subpoenas used in children custody disputes
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How subpoenas are used in property settlement negotiations and trials.
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How to apply for a subpoena.
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How to use a subpoena if your ex partner is lying.
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Other ways to try and get the information first before sending off a subpoena.
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What happens if they dont answer the subpoena?
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Who can you issue subpoenas to?
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How subpoenas help settlement
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How to apply for subpoena
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Why it is important to find a specific person to address your subpoena too
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Why it's important to telephone the person you are going to subpoena before applying.
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What is conduct money for subpoenas
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How is conduct money calculated and why it's important to know before sending a subpoena.
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Why it's a good idea to keep the wording straight forward when applying.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Lyn talks us through what to do if your ex partner has control of all the money or you are in financial distress after separation.
- Getting enough money to live on after separation.
- Getting enough money to pay your legal fees during family court proceedings.
- Getting enough money to support you and your children after separation.
Solution
- Applying for Alimony/Spousal maintenance in the family court
- Court appointed fees for legal fees
- Child support application
Links and resources:
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Apply for spousal maintenance
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Child support application form
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Victims assist
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Interim property settlement distribution
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Dollar for dollar interim property order
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Sole occupancy application
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Follow us on Instagram
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Join us on Facebook
You donβt want to miss:
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What to do if you cannot afford to go to court
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What to do if you are in a coercive control situation and have no access to money.
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What to do if you cannot afford to pay for living expenses
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What to do if you cannot afford to help pay for the children
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How to bring an application to the court to get financial spousal maintenance.
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How to use the free 30min phone consult with your lawyer
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How to get your issue into court so you can get started
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Child support and what you need to know
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How to apply for child support through services australia
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If you have 50/50 child care does child support not count?
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What is good girl bad girl syndrome and why you need to avoid it
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Why it is important to find out what you are entitled to with child support.
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Why it's important to get out of the financial control of your ex partner.
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What if on paper it says I am financially ok but in real life I am not?
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What is victim assist?
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What is financial abuse?
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What do you have to prove to get spousal maintenance in court?
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Interim property distribution: what is it and how can it help you?
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What is a dollar for dollar interim property order
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How can you get assistance with legal fees
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Who stays in and who goes
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The step by step to make an application to the court
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How to write orders sort
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What is a financial statement for the court?
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What do you need to write in your affidavit for your application?
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Why and how to serve your application to your ex partner.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- LEGAL AID
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
- National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Summary:
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years & accredited specialist talks through the process of getting your own divorce. The doβs and donβts of filing in the court yourself for divorce.
She talks us through what the process is, how it happens, when and how to do it and what to watch out for when doing a DIY divorce application.
If you are looking to do your own divorce, listen to this episode first.
Links and resources:
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Divorce DIY Service Kit
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Video on how to do your divorce
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Registering on the court portal
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Follow us on Instagram
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Join us on Facebook
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This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
You donβt want to miss:
- What is service?
- How do I divorce my partner?
- What happens after I file the divorce papers?
- Can I divorce my partner even if they refuse?
- Can I jointly file for divorce with my ex?
- How much does it cost to get divorced?
- What happens in court when you get divorced?
- How do I fill in the divorce application form?
- Where do I find the divorce application form?
- How long does it take to get divorced?
- When can I remarry again after divorce?
- How does my divorce affect property settlement
- How long do I need to be separated before I get divorced?
- What is the difference between separated and divorced?
- How to serve your divorce papers on your ex partner.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
- About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Lyn talks you through how to write a good legal letter. A good letter is a powerful tool to avoid court, to resolve custody or property problems or keep clear records.
Learn her four clear principles for an effective letter. She also talks about how to avoid the pitfalls of a bad legal letter. If you find yourself needing to write a family law letter for custody or property use this episode as a guide.
You donβt want to miss:
- What is a good family law legal letter?
- Why is it important to write them well?
- How much does it cost for a lawyer to write one for you?
- How to set out a letter if you are self representing?
- What are the advantages for writing letters?
- What are the pitfalls of writing letters?
- Family Law
- How to effectively write your own legal letter.
- The divorce course letter writing compass guide
Links and resources:
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Family Dispute Resolution Register
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Initiating Application Do it Yourself Kit
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Affidavits
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Notice of Risk
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Affidavit of Service
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Affidavit of Non Filing of Section 60i certificate
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Episode 19
Summary:
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
We discuss the options for parents who are being denied access to their children. The steps they can take to get back to spending meaningful time with their children. The way to formally progress it in the family court of Australia and the way to progress it through mediation.
Links and resources:
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Family Dispute Resolution Register
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Initiating Application Do it Yourself Kit
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Affidavits
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Notice of Risk
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Affidavit of Service
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Affidavit of Non Filing of Section 60i certificate
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
You donβt want to miss:
- What is family mediation?
- How to reach an agreement with the other parent?
- The first few steps to take
- What is the definition of an urgent case of children being withheld?
- What is a 60i certificate and how does it help you with custody matters?
- Is Alienation considered urgent in court?
- How do you need to consider court delays?
- How long does a mediation process take?
- Legal aid and mediation in family law.
- What is a private family mediator?
- What type of mediation should you look for?
- What are mediators rates and types of rates?
- Why getting an interim agreement is a good idea in mediation
- Federal Circuit Court Website
- Initiating Application
- How to fill out an initiating application
- What are interim orders
- What is an annexure?
- What is equal shared parental responsibility?
- Why is it important to be clear in court orders?
- Can you ask to put phone call times in your childrenβs orders?
- Working out what suits you and the family for phone calls?
- How to get a JP to witness your documents?
- What documents you need to file in the family court to help you see your children.
- What is a notice of risk ?
- Why do you need to file a notice of risk in the family law court?
- What to put in your affidavit to file in the court with your initiating application?
- What are the four or five documents you need to file in the family court.
- What is the timeline of gaining access to your children?
- Why do you need to serve the documents on the other side?
- How you can serve these sealed documents on the other side (the other parent)
- How can you prove that youβve served the documents on the other parent.
- What is an affidavit of service?
- Why is it important to continue negotiating with the other parent?
- What is parental alienation?
- Family Law
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
-
Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different. 3
Episode 18 - Court Etiquette: What to say and do if self representing in Family Law Court
Summary:
We discuss what the court etiquette rules are in the Family Court of Australia. What to do when you enter the courtroom. How to find the room in the first place. Who to speak to. When to stand and when to sit. How to speak to a judge and what to expect on your first visit to court?
You donβt want to miss:
- What is the best court etiquette
- Who is the respondent and who is the applicant?
- When to stand and when to sit in a courtroom.
- How to introduce yourself to the judge
- When is it ok to speak to a judge in family court.
- Can you represent yourself in court?
- How do you leave and enter a courtroom?
- How to prepare in advance
- What to wear to court
- Self representing in family court, what to expect.
- A family lawyer's top tips to court etiquette for those who have never been.
Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyoneβs situation is different.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Summary:
In this episode we begin to cover the ins and outs of coercive control; what it is and how you can protect yourself from it after youβve separated.
You donβt want to miss:
- What is coercive control?
- What does Jess Hill say about coercive control?
- How coercive control can continue after youβve left.
- If you need a domestic violence order for protection
- What are the rules and laws for coercive control in australia.
- How can the police help you?
- The changes in the law to coercive control in Australia
- How to report coercive control
- How to stay safe if you are in a coercive control relationship
- Can the abuse continue after separation?
- Is stalking illegal?
- How are institutions and government agencies being used to continue coercive control.
- A family lawyers opinion on coercive control in queensland
- Recent domestic violence deaths and how to use your voice to make changes in QLD and Australia.
- What are the trigger moments for coercive control and domestic violence?
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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Jess Hill See what you made me do book
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shut-up-she-s-talking podcast a tale of two pandemics
Queensland Government Links
DV - Guide to completing an application for a protection order
- This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
- These videos explain the court process for applying or responding to domestic violence orders.
- Going to court as an applicant
- This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
Talking all things child support giving you a summary from a lawyer of 35 years experience.
-What is child support
- Who can apply for it
- When can you apply for child support
- How can you apply
- What happens if child support isn't paid
- How to get your assessment changed.
Child Support Estimator
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you donβt miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if youβve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.
In this episode we cover
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What is parental alienation?
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What does the court do about parental alienation?
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How can you identify the signs that your child is being alienated from you?
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Parental alienation and divorce
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What steps you should take if your child is being alienated from you?
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What steps you should take if the other parent is withholding your child from you or not allowing you to see your children.
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How to write a letter seeking changes.
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How to see Mediation help from Relationships Australia.
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What to do if they refuse to do mediation.
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How to file an application if you are being alienated.
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What the family court of Australia laws say about Parental Alienation.
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What you can do to help your child at home if you think this is happening.
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The importance of keeping your children unaware of any custody fights.
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Where to go for free legally help.
How to make an application in the federal circuit court link below.
http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/how-do-i/apps-orders/parenting-orders/fcc-apply-parenting-orders
Show Notes:
Please note: This is general advice only.
Links below as discussed in this episode.
NSW Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 65 64 63
ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service (DVCS) 6280 0900
SA Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1800 800 098
QLD DV Connect -1800 811 811
TAS Safe at Home Family Violence Response and Referral Line 1800 633 937
VIC Safe Steps 1800 015 188
WA Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 007 339
NT Darwin Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Womenβs Shelter 8945 2284
Legal services (Australia-wide) Family Violence Law Help
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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Section 79 of the Family Law Act (Property)
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Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)
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Federal Circuit Court Affidavit Information
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Australasian Legal Information Institute
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Affidavit presentation rules and regulations and template
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Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits
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Registered JPβs in your area QLD
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Cost for filing in the Family Court
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
Show Notes:
Please note: This is general advice only.
Links below as discussed in this episode.
NSW Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 65 64 63
ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service (DVCS) 6280 0900
SA Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1800 800 098
QLD DV Connect -1800 811 811
TAS Safe at Home Family Violence Response and Referral Line 1800 633 937
VIC Safe Steps 1800 015 188
WA Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 007 339
NT Darwin Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Womenβs Shelter 8945 2284
Legal services (Australia-wide) Family Violence Law Help
Discussion topics
- Pet Relocation during domestic violence
- Centerlink and how it can help you.
- Shelter, Food, and Safety during relocating from domestic violence
- Mental health assistance after surviving domestic violence
- Mental health care plans 20 session and how to obtain one
- Psychologists for Domestic Violence Survivors
- How to deal with police during a dv incident?
- How to report DV or Family Violence to the police
- Family violence and the police
- Why reporting domestic violence to the police is important
- Who is a Domestic Violence liaison officer and why they are important?
- How to apply for a Domestic Violence Order or Protection Order
- What is the difference between a temporary protection order and a protection order
- Domestic Violence Order process
- PPN Police protection notice
- What is a magistrate and what they do with your application.
- Courts and safe rooms
- What to expect when you arrive at court after youβve applied to the court and how you are supported.
- Duty Lawyers and Counsellors at the court
Link to apply for an order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/going-to-court/domestic-violence/domestic-violence-orders/applying-for-a-domestic-violence-order
Why it is important to be specific when reporting domestic violence or applying for a domestic violence order?
Victims assist link http://www.victimsofcrimeaustralia.com.au/?gclid=CjwKCAiA4o79BRBvEiwAjteoYEAeGHTmKG00cWJRjQkNTro1ouehUOiSOX0sIAhE0Udb9b3jOgEjbxoCC6YQAvD_BwE
Online form link for a Protection Order https://www.qld.gov.au/law/crime-and-police/abuse-family-matters-and-protection-orders/apply-for-a-protection-order#start-application
PDF version for applying for a protection order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/__data/assets/pdf_file/0006/162168/dva-f-1.pdf
Introducing special guest financial planner Pedro Marin.
Pedro Marin (instagram) @pmrfinancial
- How to approach a bank to get information
- Your home loan and divorce
- What is financial abuse?
- What are the red flags for financial abuse?
- Superannuation
- Sole purpose tests and how they can help you
- Pre-separation dirty tricks case studies to watch out for.
- Thoughts before signing any documents
- How to get a handle on your finances instead of relying on someone else.
- How to choose a financial planner.
- Tinder for financial planners?!?
- Financial planners and divorce
Finding planners
https://fpa.com.au/find-a-planner/
https://www.adviserratings.com.au/
National Debt helpline
1800Respect Services directory
Life Line domestic violence information
Commonwealth bank information on financial abuse
Sole purpose test information links:
https://www.ioof.com.au/financial-advisers/news-and-insights/adviser-news/articles/apr-2020/sole-purpose-test
https://www.apra.gov.au/sites/default/files/apra_asic_letter_oversight_of_fees_charged_to_members_superannuation_accounts.pdf
Summary:
Listen to Lynβs rules and guide to creating parenting plans, or parenting orders. Pick up the tips sheβs learnt in 35 years of family law. Learn how to use her golden rule of βWHAT IFβ when creating them. Laura discusses with Lyn each part that you should consider in parenting plans or orders. Why your aim should be to create smooth and easy to follow plans to avoid all problems in the future. Lyn also describes how they should be set out. Follow the links below to find out how to file it or apply for it. Lyn also discusses what happens if someone doesnβt follow court parenting orders. The process of court is also described when co parents cannot agree and they have to go to trial in the family law court. .
You donβt want to miss:
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What is the difference between a parenting plan and a parenting order?
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When you should consider creating one.
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Can you create one without a lawyer?
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What should you put in your parenting plan or parenting order?
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Family Relationships Centre
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How can mediation help in creating parenting orders?
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The MAGIC RULE βWHAT IFβ
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Why you should keep it simple.
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Why it is a good idea to create parenting plans while you are still amicable.
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What the judge will care and won't care about if you end up disagreeing.
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The benefits of creating your own plan instead of leaving it to court.
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Why is the Hauge convention important for your parenting orders on international travel.
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Why is it important to make decisions of which high school and primary school in advance?
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Parental responsibility: what is it and how do you define it?
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How to make sure the childrenβs routine is not impacted because of the separate living arrangements.
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How the court makes a parenting plan into parenting orders.
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Who you might need to show a copy of the parenting plan or orders to?
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What happens if the other parent doesnβt return your children on the court ordered times.
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What should you do if you are concerned for your childrenβs safety.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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List of Hauge Convention Countries
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Parenting Orders what you need to know. Attorney General.
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Attorney General's Website
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Applying for parenting orders FAMILY LAW COURT OF AUSTRALIA
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Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)
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Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits
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Registered JPβs in your area QLD
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Cost for filing in the Family Court
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
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Summary:
You will need an affidavit for family law court hearings or when you file an application in the court. Find out what an affidavit is and how you can prepare one yourself or with the help of a lawyer. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years, explains to Laura what an affidavit is, what is one, what the court uses it for and how you can prepare one with or without a lawyer.
See the links below to find your template and rules to create your own.
You donβt want to miss:
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What is an affidavit?
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Why they are important for court
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The problem with leaving things out of an affidavit
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When do you need to do an affidavit for family court?
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What times do you not need an affidavit in court?
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What does a family lawyer do with your affidavit in court?
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What happens in the witness box in family court with your affidavit?
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How your lawyer can use your ex partners affidavit in divorce court.
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What will the judge probably do with your affidavit?
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What happens if the affidavits of each partner are different versions of the same story?
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How do you challenge their affidavit in your own response.
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What is relevant in your divorce affidavit?
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What restrictions and rules are there on affidavit presentation, font, space etc..
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How to use the family law act to make sure your affidavit is relevant.
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What is an annexure and why is it important?
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How to prepare your affidavit with a lawyer or to cut costs with your lawyer.
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Why shouldn't you rubbish your ex in your affidavit?
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How to stay factual and keep your emotions out of the affidavit.
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What is a βgimmeβ in a divorce and property and childrenβs trial
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What happens if you lie in an affidavit?
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How do you swear or affirm your affidavit?
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How can you change your affidavit if you realise youβve made a mistake?
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How to use your smartphone to help you find evidence and remember dates for your affidavit.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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Section 79 of the Family Law Act (Property)
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Section 60 of the Family Law Act (Children)
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Federal Circuit Court Affidavit Information
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Australasian Legal Information Institute
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Affidavit presentation rules and regulations and template
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Link to the do it yourself divorce and family law kits
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Registered JPβs in your area QLD
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Cost for filing in the Family Court
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
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Summary:
Get the insider knowledge on how to keep your family law and divorce bill down. Lyn, a lawyer of 35 years, explains to Laura how legal billing works and 6 ways you can keep the cost down.
You donβt want to miss:
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What six minutes to a lawyer means and why it is important to know.
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How a lawyer bills you to read an email.
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Why shouldn't you treat your lawyer like your psychologist?
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Why you should ask for a regular bill
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What is a step in step out divorce approach?
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What is a divorc chronology and how it can save you dollars.
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What you can do if your ex wonβt stop sending lawyer letters.
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What is a separation statement and how you can make your own.
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What to do in your first family lawyer meeting to save on cost.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
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Summary:
So youβve been ordered to get a family report done by the family court. Lyn and Laura talk you through what it is, what happens and answer all the frequently ask questions that you might have.
They take you step by step through the journey you may take during your divorce and separation. This episode aims to help you have better understand and feel more comfortable with what a family report is and how it is used in the court system.
You donβt want to miss:
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What is a family report
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Why would you ask for one to be done?
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When a family report is done.
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What it usually costs and is there a free option
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What lawyers and judges use family reports for.
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What is a recommendation and why is it so important.
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How can you explain it to your children?
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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Printable Book to explain a family report to your children.
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- Queensland Government Links for DV
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
- LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
- Relationships Australia
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Summary:
In this episode we begin to cover the ins and outs of domestic violence and what the legal process is to get out of it. Lyn discusses with Laura what a protection order is and how you can apply for one. She also discusses the process in court and what to expect. We also cover what you can do to prepare and what you should do on the day. Part 2 for a more in-depth look, coming soon.
You donβt want to miss:
- What is legally considered domestic violence?
- The best evidence for DV and how you can do it.
- If you need a domestic violence order for protection
- How to get a domestic violence order
- What is a court like? How can you be safe at court.
- What the rules are for domestic violence.
- How can the police help you?
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
Queensland Government Links
DV - Guide to completing an application for a protection order
- This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
- These videos explain the court process for applying or responding to domestic violence orders.
- Going to court as an applicant
- This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
- Once your application for a domestic violence order has been filed, you will receive a date for your first appearance at court, which you must attend. Find out what happens in court and your safety in the courtroom.
- What is domestic violence?
- What are the patterns of domestic violence?
- What are other types of abuse?
- Is my relationship healthy and how can I work on issues?
- What is domestic violence?
- What are the patterns of domestic violence?
- What are other types of abuse?
- Is my relationship healthy and how can I work on issues?
- How can I stay safe at home?
- How can I support and protect my child?
- How can I keep my partner away from me?
- How can I stay safe if I leave home?
- How can I become financially independent?
- How can I safely use technology?
If you need emergency help you can also contact:
- Police on 000
- DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
- DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
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National DV line on 1800 737 732.
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE About Women's Shelters
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
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Summary:
A quick mini update and summary of Family Law Court changes to help with issues like, custody, domestic violence and property arising from COVID-19.
You donβt want to miss:
- National COVID-19 List Information and How to
- COVID-19 updates and information Family Law Courts of Australia
- What to expect if you have a trial coming up
- What to do if you have an issue
- How the courts might be changing for a while
- The positives coming out of these changes.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia
- National COVID-19 List Information and How to
- COVID-19 updates and information Family Law Courts of Australia
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Summary:
Mediation is usually the first step you take before court. Or it can be ordered by the court. This episode covers all the things around mediation. What to expect, what will happen, how to prepare and what the possible outcomes may be. Lyn talks you through the process so that you will be familiar and more at ease with a mediation before you attend your own. Laura asks her Mother all the questions you wish you could ask a lawyer.
You donβt want to miss:
- How to find out how to prepare.
- How to make the most out of your mediation.
- How mediation works.
- Who is involved?
- How to choose your mediator.
- Can you do mediation without a family lawyer?
- What happens if you cannot resolve everything?
- What are the next steps?
- An owl flying into the window while we were recording.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook thedivorcecoursepodcast
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Relationships Australia https://www.relationships.org.au
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Summary: Youβve left whatβs the next step in divorce. Itβs time to focus on starting the process of sorting property and childrenβs matter. This episode touches on how to get yourself informed on what you are entitled to and then how to negotiate with your ex partner. This episode then discusses your options if an agreement cannot be reached.
Lyn describes a four step process described in a nutshell of how the court may look at what you had at the beginning of the relationships, how long youβve been together, the contributions financially and otherwise and then what you need for future living. Weighing up the financial cost of going to court vs negotiating the settlement yourself and the pitfalls to avoid.
You donβt want to miss:
- How to find out where you stand.
- Why you shouldnβt negotiate an outcome without knowing where you stand.
- The four step process of what the court will look at to find out who gets what.
- How to do it without a divorce lawyer
- What is a contribution and a non financial that might be considered by the court.
- What are your rights as a stay at home parent.
- Lyns pipeline analogy of property issues
- How to determine your future needs
- How to see a lawyer for a free discussion to find out where you stand.
- Why you should take someone with you when you see a lawyer.
- How to negotiate with your ex partner.
- What is a consent order, how does it work and how it can save you money.
- Why is there a problem with not bothering to file your agreement in the court?
- What is a financial agreement, do you need one and what are its proβs and conβs.
- Why you should put without prejudice on any negotiation emails or texts with your ex-partner.
- If negotiation fails how can you use mediation or arbitration to get an agreement.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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A special 1hr episode covering all things COVID-19 and Family Law (as of April 5th 2020) and how things are changing. Lyn tries to answer questions sent in by listeners about current custody issues. Laura and Lyn detail what the Family Court of Australia is currently doing and how it may affect your divorce, property or custody proceedings. Check below for links to what is discussed in this podcast episode.
You donβt want to miss:
- What about custody during COVID-19
- What the family law courts of australia are doing currently
- What can you expect to happen with your case currently in court.
- What is a contravention?
- What happens if you donβt follow your court order.
- What happens if you feel you should not follow your court order and what will happen if you donβt.
Links and resources:
- Family Court. of Australia compliance with parenting orders fact sheet http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/reports-and-publications/publications/court-orders/compliance-with-parenting-orders
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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Family Relationships Advice Line https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/talk-someone/advice-line
FAQ from Family Law Court about COVID-19
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http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/about/covid/covid-faq/
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Summary: The second step once youβve decided to divorce is to decide who stays in the home and who goes and how? Lyn discusses with Laura the options for you and your new living arrangements based on your divorce type. They discuss after separation the legal pros and cons of staying in the home and what has happened to clients in the past and how to try and avoid this happening to you. She also discusses what to do if you donβt have enough money for court.
You donβt want to miss:
- How to make the physical separation less stressful.
- How to decide who moves out and who stays.
- How to stay safe during this time if you are experiencing domestic violence.
- What happens to the family home and what the rules are in family law.
- How to focus on the short term to get the basic living arrangements sorted.
- Pros and Cons to staying in the home vs leaving the home
- The legal view on who gets what stuff out of the house.
- What to do if no one agrees to leave.
- What an ouster order is.
- What a sole occupancy order is.
- What do you do if you donβt have enough money for court?
- How long the whole divorce legal situation usually lasts.
- What is the difference between divorce and property settlement?.
- Why you have to wait 1 year before you are allowed to file for divorce.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
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LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Summary: The first step once youβve decided to divorce is to get prepared. Being prepared before you separate can help you streamline and shorten your divorce process, saving money and drama. Lyn the Family Lawyer describes what needs to be done, how and why. Lyn discusses with Laura what has happened to clients in the past and how to try and avoid this happening to you by following her tips.
You donβt want to miss:
- Practical steps to take before you leave.
- Information on how and what to gather to take to your lawyer.
- Our checklist on what to gather and document.
- What to do with your bank accounts, insurance and mortgage records.
- What to do if it is too late and youβve already left.
Links and resources:
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Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
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Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
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1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
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Lifeline 13 11 14
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Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
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Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
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Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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Over Lyns many years of Family Law experience she has found that there are typically four different types of divorces. The strategies and outcomes you use can change based on what type of divorce you are facing. If you intend on following through with each step that the divorce course podcast intends to lay out, it is important to identify your type. The mother daughter duo Lyn and Laura will be referring to each stage and referring to what is best to do based on the type of divorce you determine from this episode. Lyn aims to talk to people like she talks to people in consultation, with her daughter Laura, asking the questions you would most likely ask during the visit. You donβt want to miss:
- Knowing your type of divorce
- An overall summary of what to expect in these types of separations.
- A basic summary of the steps in the divorvce process
- Some simple basic 101 rules to start following in your communication with your ex partner. !
- Lyns plainly put divorce tips.
Links and resources:
- Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse
- Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast
- 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
- Lifeline 13 11 14
- Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
- Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
- Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
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