Escaping The Bucket: Recent Episodes
Jeremy Squibb
Financial Life Planner Jeremy Squibb and his guests mull over the key things in life and finance which keep us trapped, unable to move forward, and stuck in a bucket.
Each show is a blend between getting your FINANCES in order, and maybe more importantly, to make sense of your LIFE.
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Jeremy and Terry discuss whether it is the outcome or how you approach it which is the most important thing to focus on.
Using football and politics as analogies, they discuss the importance of culture from the top and leadership. Under the microscope this week are Gary Lineker, Boris Johnson, Tina Weeks and Marcelo Bielsa, especially when it comes to integrity
Remember - everything that is missing is present!
The incredibly brave Nel Wilton joins the show this week, recalling her darkest days from 2013 when her beloved husband Del died by suicide, and how she pieced her life back together.
This episode discusses grief, suicide, depression, and other mental health issues.
Helplines:
The Samaritans - 116 123
Mind - 0300 123 3393 (text 86463)
NHS 24/7 helpline - 0800 038 5300
Social Media platform innovator and international keynote speaker joins the show this week with his views on how to communicate effectively online and the importance of learning listening skills.
Phil also shares his wisdom and experience as the former World Champion Gin & Tonic maker with the perfect recipe...
Phil Calvert, the former Gin and Tonic World Champion joins the show in this special bonus episode and shares all he knows about how to make the perfect drink.
Full episode available from 18th June
What's the difference between a decision and a choice, how to we arrive at the outcome of each, and which comes from the heart, and which from the head?
We segue into football teams, spouses, and even how to pronounce Cornish place names.
So how do you get people to become enrolled with you - they need to choose not decide...
Rounding off the mini-series The Four Keys to Freedom, we close with enrolment. This is a key episode for groups and organisations trying to get going again in the post-lockdown world
3 key areas to enrolment are:
Measured enthusiasm
Truthfulness
Approachability.
Aiming for a goal needs commitment, the magic key to this, is commitment without attachment.
Building on the previous 2 keys to Freedom, Jeremy and Terry look at how to set the right type of goals, focussing on the process not the outcome.
Added bonus - Terry's solution to avoiding shopping with his wife and teenage daughter.
No-one is to blame, but everyone is responsible.
Taking responsibility is the quickest way not to be let down - Jeremy & Terry discuss these questions:
Who am I blaming?
What isn't working?
What am I putting up with?
Who am I complaining to?
Do I own my work?
Recommended reading - Proft Wise by Jeff Morrill
This week we look at Terry's first key to freedom - Integrity and how does it look?
5 questions to reflect on :
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Do you believe in what you are doing (genuinely)?
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Do you trust your own word?
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Is there anything that needs to be said?
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Do you trust those who have to keep your promises?
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Is there anything you need to clean up?
Terry Mullins is back as we look at the 4 keys to freedom (a slight tweak on his '4 Keys to Sales Freedom' course.
What really are integrity, responsibility, commitment and enrolment, and how do they shape how we feel about ourselves.
We talk about Larry Wingett, Joe Wicks, and how leaving a cat food receipt in the back of the car is the start of the road to ruin.
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George Kinder - the father of Life Planning - joins the show to discuss how it all came about, where the inspiration came from, what is still in his own life plan yet to be done, and how we can maybe change the world in our own small way.
Find out more about A Golden Civilization
Recommended reading :
Transforming Suffering Into Wisdom
A Golden Civilization
A Song for Hana
Chris Fooks is back this week, as we discuss the importance of having a valid will, what can go wrong with them, and what happens if you don't have one at all.
www.lacunawills.co.uk
Jeremy is joined by Chris Fooks of Lacuna Wills as they discuss the importance of Lasting Powers of Attorney, why they are so important, what can go wrong, and how they can make life so easy.
Terry Mullins recalls his first-hand experience of Financial Life Planning. We talk through his thoughts on George Kinder's 3 questions, and also the impact he saw on Jeremy throughout his journey.
He sum's it up beautifully with a single quote...
Personal growth in a year is far more important than the percentage growth in your portfolio.
Recommended reading - The Magic Of Believing - Claude Bristol
Why should you bother with a budget, and what if all those spreadsheets are just too much hassle? We'll explain what to do and why it may suit you.
Be bold with your requests - everyone needs to start somewhere, and even the best like to be asked to help.
Fear is future thinking - the misuse of the information you have!
Recommended book this week by Russell :
Somebody should have told us - Jack Pransky
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Cognitive hypnotherapist Russell Davis joins us this week, as we explore where limiting beliefs come from and how they impact on our lives, and also our relationship with money.
Find out how the brain works and why we think the way we do.
Explore Russell's work at www.russell-davis.com
Recommended reading
The 7 Stages of Money Maturity - George Kinder
The Richest Man in Babylon - George Clason
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Hear from Terry about his experiences and top tips on how to run a successful Air BnB - The Artists Loft in Newlyn
It's time for the death of the to-do list. Take control of your diary, freedom of mind, and hours of your day by reflecting on the Zeigarnik Effect.
Also - check out the hinge on your Macbook!
Recommended books this week :
Designing Your Life
The Six Thinking Hats
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Jeremy is joined by Terry Mullins again this week as they first take another look at Episode 3 and consider what elements of money are the last taboo.
How do children change your perspective on life and what are the important things which you need to remember?
Terry recommends Blink by Malcolm Gladwell, as well as starting to think about the difference between joy and happiness.
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With Tom taking a break, this week Terry Mullins - www.thereluctantsalesman.com joins Jeremy.
Terry expands on the Escaping The Bucket principle, and we discuss what the budget means for you as well as veering off as usual to tangents - such as Bitcoin and QAnon - just what was in that pizza restaurant basement?
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Book references :
The Checklist Manifesto
The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat
It's an epic this week as we build on the foundations of building a financial plan - looking at George Kinder's 3 Life Planning Questions and understanding what they actually mean to us and our future.
Learning to love the grind - taking a dip into Tom's philosophy classes, we ask the question - what is important - the grind or the outcome, and how will we get there if we don't love the grind.
Key show links
THE SANATORIUM
THE TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING
FREAKONOMICS
and an honourable mention for Ikea's on-hold music
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Where do you start when building a financial plan? The answer lies a good way before you even consider your finances.
This week we look at clearing the decks of your innocent beliefs and things which may be holding you back, before looking for peer to peer support through the energy exchange.
This week's question - what do I need to do with the budget and tax year-end looming?
Resources:
Financial Planning Flowchart
Apps :
Search for 'I AM' & 'BEAM'
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This week Jeremy and Tom start to outline the fundamentals for building a financial plan. We'll build on this step by step over the coming 6-8 weeks.
Why can your emotions be like quicksand? Maybe sometimes, it's best to sit still rather than wrestle with them.
Bonus content :
- 2 book reviews
- Volatility v sequence risk
- Do you need probate to access a pension?
- The Financial Plan Flowchart
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What is impact investing and how is it different to ESG and other types of investing.
Opinions - they're like a ball, just because someone has thrown it towards you, it doesn't mean you have to catch and accept it!
Jeremy and Tom build on the last few weeks discussions around ethical investing before examining Russell Davis' take on opinions.
We answer questions such as the difference between a pension and a SIPP, and what is IR35 and who will it impact on.
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This week Jeremy and Tom explore ESG investing - is it just a fashionable investment style or is there something more meaningful behind it?
Secondly the benefit of structuring your day around what makes you happy - what are the key chemicals to release from the brain?
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Tom & Jeremy explore what ethical investing is, explaining the different types and answering the important questions around it.
How important is your environment - the places and peoples around you (will Jeremy ever get the garage tidy)?
Other key questions - what is a deed of variation, how will the new President impact your investments, and an insight into homeschooling.
This week, Jeremy and Tom explore the concept of the retirement smile - not just being happy after you finish work, but making sure you have the right money at the right time to meet your spending needs.
Moving on, they explore why people post on social media, who really cares, and why we should perhaps care a little more.
Bonus discussion
- what do you get for the financial advice you pay for?
Links to content :
3 bucket method of household financial accounting whiteboard version
3 bucket method - Jeremy doing battle in the wind at the beach
Honourable mentions to the podcast No Holds Barred
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough discuss how to get on top (and stay on top) of your finances for the year ahead, then turn to the bigger challenge of setting your own goals for 2021.
Are your goals your own or someone elses?
Who do you need to help you attain those goals?
What would achieving them actually mean to you?
Also featured - what are ethical investments, and what do you need to do before the end of the tax deadline.
Additional resources :
Life Planning For You - self discovery
Build Your Own Mission Statement
Jeremy and Tom take a look back on 2020 - what is the year with a perfect vision, or did it hit you plum between the eyes?
What went well, what challenges were there, and what did we all learn?
Then a look forward to 2021 - how will that be, what aspirations and goals will we all have, and what can you do to make it a fully rewarding year.
Jeremy and Tom mull over some seasonal questions recount the best Christmas presents from the past, and chat about the best way to have a peaceful and tranquil festive time.
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough talk about long term family financial planning and appreciating those around you.
Additional topics include
- Dealing with the stone in your shoe
- Should I invest in cryptocurrency
- How long should I fix my mortgage for
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough look towards Christmas, how to remove the stress of paying for it, and what the best thing to buy is - whether it is an experience or a gift.
Additional topics include:
- How much insurance do I need?
- Long or short term mortgage?
- Should I move my parents' bonds?
- Should I transfer a Child Trust Fund into a Lifetime ISA
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough answer those key questions about your pension - what happens when : you die, you retire, you change jobs, you get divorced. Once that is sorted, the next big question this week is 'what is there to retire to?' - when should you retire, what should you do?
Extras :
- Should I gift out of my estate to save Inheritance Tax?
- Why is there no charge for staying in a Nursing Home?
- Should I take a dividend and pay it into my pension?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough answer the key question - why should I pay for financial advice (all is not all it seems) and developing mini habits - things which are too small for you to fail at.
Extras :
- What's the best way of buying a property with my daughter?
- How (or should) I stop my money being used for care fees?
- Should I join my employer's sharesave scheme?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough explore what you would do if all jobs paid the same - what would your choice be. It's only a drop of ink? Tom & Jeremy analyse why a single word can cause us to dwell on it, and why, from the 86,400 seconds in a day, just a few of those can cause so much waste in the rest.
Extras :
- Should I take a lump sum or a higher income from my pension?
- Should I buy a direct share offering?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough reflect on why good financial planning can be like an episode of the Netflix show Black Mirror, before moving on to discuss Imposter Syndrome and why so many people feel they are not good enough, or simply think they are just winging their way through life.
Extras:
- I'm not married, have children, but no will - what's the problem?
- Is now a good time to invest?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough discuss how redundancy may impact on your pension and explore how commuting impacts on your mental health and happiness, before answering the big question - how much is a Raleigh Chopper worth?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough answer the question 'How easy is it to save money' giving some helpful tips along the way, before exploring whether it is best to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Extras :
- Being true to our values
- Advisers or planners
- Can I access money from my pension?
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough explain how investments work, then answer the question - should we look to grow, or protect what we have?
Extras :
- Why could a hairdresser be a good financial planner
- Integrity - what should you claim for
- How do I find more time in the day
- I can't find my pension - help
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough take you through a simple method of controlling the household budget and developing healthy money habits before answering the question - what is more important - where you are going or how you get there?
Jeremy Squibb & Tom Desborough explore the last think which many people feel comfortable about - their money. Is it really the last taboo? Would you rather talk about your lifestyle preferences than your pension?
What is the real impact of missing out on university? Are the benefits all they seem, or are there other better options to further your career.
Extras include :
- Pulling your financial weight in a relationship
- Should I defer my State Pension?
- Should I put my rental property into trust?
Jeremy and Tom chat about the key money tips which they wish they knew years ago (or at least took notice of) and lessons learned from the COVID lockdown - what has made life better.
Extras :
- What happens to a Help To Buy ISA if you can't use it to buy a house
- How do Premium Bonds work
Jeremy Squibb and Tom Desborough introduce the concept of escaping the bucket - that point in life where you are trapped by your surroundings, the people around you, the stories you tell yourself, and your financial position and assumptions.
Week by week we'll address various issues which our financial planning clients face - which as you will soon hear, are far more than just money dilemmas - it's the challenge of moving forward in life, and finding a way to escape the bucket.