The 'Ship Shape Show: Recent Episodes
Josiah & Bethany
Most of the dating advice out there is on what not to do - join us as we learn and share our two cents on how to actually go about building a lasting, happy, godly relationship from the ground up! Sound interesting to you? Hit that subscribe button and share the love! New episodes dropping very soon!
Got a question? Send us an email at josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
Are you worried that you might be OVERSHARING with your significant other? Want to know a good way of building real trust in your relationship? Tune in for today's episode! (EPISODE #12) š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Are you listening? Let's dive into the number one reason for miscommunication in relationships! Find out why some people communicate SO differently and what to do about it! (EPISODE #11) š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Let's talk about talking about stuff! Woah. mindblown Want to know how to get on the same page and avoid conflict? Join us as we discuss some practical communication techniques & tools as well as WHY communication is important in the first place! (EPISODE #10)š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Ever wonder if your identity is supposed to change any once you're dating someone? Does individuality die with your singleness? š Here's how to continue building your identity IN your relationship! What's your take on this? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
I'm sure you've heard the ol' dating adage that opposites attract, right? Here's why finding someone who's the polar opposite of you might be a REALLY bad idea if you want a happy relationship... What's your take on this? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
"AHH! How do I know if they're the one for me?!" Sound familiar? If you've asked yourself this question at any point, or if you're curious to know for the future, tune in! What's your take on this? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Is there such a thing as "the one?" Does God have one soulmate picked out for us or does He give us the freedom to choose our partner and then just blesses our choice? Find out in today's episode! Agree or Disagree - what's your take on this? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Tune in for episode five on Dating vs Courting and why we kissed dating hello! In Christian circles, asking someone out might as well be a marriage proposal! What's the best way to go about dating/courting/just building a godly relationship? Hear our take in this week's episode! Did we miss anything? Which do you think is best? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
š SHOW NOTES: This week weāre covering dating versus courting, pros and cons, our take on both, and why we decided to kiss dating hello!
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Tune in for episode four on the importance of being friends first! The common dating philosophy is that you get to know the person while you're dating them - find out why this thinking is fundamentally flawed and why getting to know them first is such an important part of building a lasting relationship! Did we miss anything? Drop us an email! š NEW FREE EBOOK ā¤ http://bit.ly/101QuestionsEBook 101 FREE tried-and-true conversation starters to strengthen your relationship!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
š SHOW NOTES:
(0:48) Being friends first lets you get to know them on a deeper level. Youāre not putting your best foot forward. (0:51) The common dating philosophy of getting to know someone while youāre dating them is fundamentally flawed. Youāre introducing emotions into the mix with someone you donāt know yet! Bad idea! (1:10) By being friends first, you get to see them in different environments and see how they communicate with those around them - their family, friends, teachers, classmates - people they like and people they donāt like. Get to know who they are as a person, not just a love interest. (1:33) Get to know them in community without an agenda of seeing if theyāre bf/gf material. (2:06) The physical side of a relationship requires a certain level of commitment to be appropriate. (2:19) If you rush to the physical side, you base your entire relationship on what you do instead of who you are. (2:33) Build the friendship part of the relationship instead of rushing to the physical side. (2:55) People often see compromising physically as a substitute for commitment in a relationship. (3:15) Being someoneās lifelong teammate is based on so much more than superficial similarities. (3:23) You can see their flaws much easier if you see them as just a friend - people compromise really easily if they like someone. (4:05) When you ignore little things that amount to a big thing in the end, itās because youāre looking through a false starry-eyed lens. (4:17) What does this look like practically? (4:41) āWeāre already friends..ā Ask lots and lots of questions! Come up with a list of questions! Check out our free eBook of conversation starters here: (5:29) Fragile Intimacy explained. You have to have a depth and breadth of knowledge in a personās life to understand who they are. Different parts of people can influence they way they make different decisions. TL;DR - Stay in community, build friendships, and ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS! Trust that in making friends, God will lead you to the right one!
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Hey! Tune in for episode three - the second part on becoming whole in relationships! Tons of relationship advice out there about moving on, but hardly anything about becoming whole so you can set your next relationship up for success... Huh. Seems kinda important, right? Join us as we share some practical thoughts and "unwholeness indicators!" Did we miss anything? Drop us an email!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
š SHOW NOTES:
This week in Part 2 of āBecoming Whole In Relationshipsā weāre covering more practical applications of wholeness in relationships! (0:32) āDo not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases.ā - Song of Sol. 8:4 (0:50) Our fulfillment doesnāt come from others, but from God. (1:12) Unwholeness Indicator #1 - Bending on what you believe in for someone elseās happiness. (1:28) Compromising on your boundaries is an unhealthy place to be - emotionally, physically, spiritually. (1:37) Unwholeness Indicator #2 - Lack of Boundaries (2:14) If youāre a whole person, youāre going to want to set up boundaries. Youāre going to want to stay whole - protecting yourself and the person that youāre dating. (2:30) Unwholeness Indicator #3 - Unhealthy Emotional Walls/Boundaries (2:57) Unwholeness Indicator #4 - Shutting down when people try to learn more about you. āIf they really knew who I was/how I felt, they wouldnāt love me anymore.ā (3:14) If youāre dating someone who thinks youāre not likable the way God made you, youāre dating the wrong person. You shouldnāt be with someone who doesnāt treasure every part of who you are. (3:24) Unwholeness Indicator #5 - Thereās also the opposite: Fear of what youāll find if you got to know them better. āI like what I already knowā¦but itās too good to be true so I wonāt get to know them any deeper.ā Your relationship canāt grow if you arenāt willing to learn about every aspect of your SOās life! (3:39) Fragile Intimacy. Go deeper with people in every area of their lives. (4:23) Ask questions! Learn more about people, share more about yourself. (5:48) Getting to know someone is a process. Physiologists say it takes 3 months to multiple years to actually get to know someone. (6:37) Donāt be satisfied with knowing your SO only superficially. (6:44) Even if you and your SO are both whole as individuals, you have to know each other inside and out to achieve wholeness as a couple. (7:07) One of the ways that God will bring healing to you is through a community of likeminded believers. Community is the best possible antidote to isolation. (7:37) Fear isolates, but grace brings in community. Grace brings people together. (8:30) If you are healed and whole, how can you help those in your community who arenāt yet?
Creflo Dollar - "I NEED TO KNOW!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLkli...
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Hey! Tune in for episode two! Tons of relationship advice out there about moving on, but hardly anything about becoming whole so you can set your next relationship up for success... Huh. Seems kinda important, right? Join us as we share our thoughts! Did we miss anything? Drop us an email!
Most of the dating advice out there is on what not to do - join us as we learn and share our two cents on how to actually go about building a lasting, happy, godly relationship from the ground up! Sound interesting to you? Hit that subscribe button!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future episode!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø YOUTUBE ā (http://bit.ly/2nyK3Ta) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com
š SHOW NOTES:
(0:23) Many people go into relationships the same way they came out of the last one and expect different results. (0:46) So many expect to be made whole in their next relationship - but only God can make us whole. (1:02) By going into your relationship with āneeds,ā youāre setting your partner up to fail. God is the only one who can fulfill us and meet or exceed every expectation! (1:19) Expectations arenāt bad at al - in the sense of standards! You donāt want to settle. Just donāt go into it trying to fill something in you with something in someone else. (1:43) Relationship advice is so needs-driven - watch out for it! Our needs should be taken care of in our relationship with Jesus. (2:16) You donāt need anyone to complete you; however, āTwo are better than one.ā (Ecc. 4:9-10) A teammate should double your usefulness! (2:46) Your needs were never meant to be met in your partner - they were always meant to be met only in Jesus. (3:20) How do we become and live fulfilled? (3:27) Let God fill you up, so no one else has to. Let God heal any past hurts from people against you. (4:04) Just because you donāt feel like youāre moving forward, doesnāt mean God isnāt moving! (4:50) āSearch me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting!ā - Psalms 139:23-24 (5:13) Sometimes when we donāt even realize it, Godās doing the most healing inside of us. Spend time with God and trust that Heāll do His thing! ;)
Want to know some practical ways of applying this? Some āred flagsā that indicate that thereās still some healing that needs to happen before youāre whole? Join us next time for Part 2 of Becoming Whole In Relationships! Any thoughts on the epiode? Drop us an email! We'd love to hear from you.
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Hey! Tune in for our first episode as we share our thoughts on owning your unique journey in a culture obsessed with living everybody else's! What season are you currently in? Any thoughts on the video? Drop us an email!
Most of the dating advice out there is on what not to do - join us as we learn and share our two cents on how to actually go about building a lasting, happy, godly relationship from the ground up! Sound interesting to you? Hit that thumbs up button and give us a sub!
GOT A QUESTION? Email us and we can make it the topic of a future video!
ā¶ļø WEBSITE (http://www.1truepair.com) ā¶ļø EMAIL -- josiahandbethany@1truepair.com š SHOW NOTES:
ā(0:15) Instagram Couple Complex - where our Instagram feeds become the measure of the depth of our relationship. Insta is awesome! Thereās nothing wrong with it. It just becomes dangerous when we start comparing our journey to other peopleās filter-ed and edit-ed journeys. (1:48) The journey God has called you on is unique to you. Your process wonāt look like anybody elseās process and thatās totally okay. (2:53) What does owning your journey look like if youāre single? ā(3:58) And what if youāre taken? What does it look like then? (5:35) Spending time with God lets Him lovingly redirect our focus. (5:55) Ask God not only what season youāre in, but why. (6:39) God is always moving in our lives! (6:51) Instagram Couple Complex Cure (7:44) Your story isnāt less than anyone elseās story. (8:21) Thereās nothing you experience that God wonāt end up using in some way. (8:43-11:05) Our thoughts on Ecc. 3:11-14 āHe has made everything beautiful in itās time.ā God has put thoughts the future in our hearts, but if we want to know the future, we have to continue knowing Him. In seeking and knowing God, Heāll show us the next step.
Any thoughts on the vlog? Drop a comment below! We'd love to hear from you. See ya in Episode #2 this Monday!
DISCLAIMER: Any blog posts, video episodes, social posts, or other communication through One True Pair (even if referred to as āadviceā) is simply our opinion and perspective in relation to our process. Every relationship is going to be different, so we encourage you to use your own judgement and discretion in regards to if, when, or how you apply any of the things we talk about. Weāre not responsible for your actions or decisions - positive or negative. YOU are responsible for your own life and relationships. Weāre offering our input to the best of our knowledge and with the best of intentions, but please donāt take anything we say at face value. We really hope this resource is helpful to you, but itās up to you to prayerfully consider and decide for yourself what you want your own relationship to look like. By watching and/or reading OTP, you agree to this disclaimer.
Hey! Welcome to our show - now available as a podcast! Most of the dating advice out there is on what not to do - join us as we learn and share our two cents on how to actually go about building a lasting, happy, godly relationship from the ground up! Sound interesting to you? Subscribe and join the fam!