Therapists Uncut Podcast: Recent Episodes
Nik Young, LMFT and Alyssa Najera, LCSW
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is an informative, self-help podcast that makes mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation. Join off-the-clock therapists who happen to be friends for good laughs, guest interviews and, at times, difficult conversations on all things mental health including, anxiety, trauma, relationships, work stress, First Responder mental health, grief, parenting and more! Tune in every 1st and 3rd Monday with co-hosts Alyssa Najera, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Nik Young, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. This is an AMP Smart Business Production.
Nik Young and Alyssa Najera welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Natalie Silva for her third appearance on Therapists Uncut! In this episode, Natalie shares her personal journey of dating after divorce, sharing her experience of re-entering the dating world as what she describes, a “completely different Natalie.”
Tune in as Natalie shares how she navigated anxiety, adjusted to co-parenting, and embraced the uncertainty of what the future held for her and her daughter, all while building a business and stepping into her new life as a single mom.
Interview with Natalie Silva, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Natalie Silva is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and private practice owner in California. Natalie holds space for women from all stages of life who are desiring meaningful change. Natalie offers individual counseling to support the treatment of emotional pain, relationship issues, and life transitions including, adulthood, motherhood, marriage, divorce and beyond. Together, she and her clients work through a gentle, compassionate lens within the therapeutic space to heal old wounds and help women move forward.
“It is a privilege to bear witness to the internal change my clients do and I am here to help support you through yours whenever you are ready.” – Natalie Silva, LMFT
You can find Natalie Silva at
Website: https://www.nataliesilvalmft.com
Social Media: @natalie.silva.lmft
Email: connect@nataliesilvalmft.com
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find him squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring him around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of catalystcounselinginc.com, a private practice located in Modesto, CA. Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. She is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a consultant supporting teams in high stress or helping professions and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Nik Young, LMFT, and Alyssa Najera, LCSW, sit down with Jeff Pishney, CEO and Founder of Love Stanislaus County and Love Our Cities. Jeff shares how the initial city-wide volunteer effort, Love Modesto (based in Stanislaus County, California), became the working model for helping over 100 cities create their own city-wide volunteer efforts and year-round initiatives. Tune in to hear more about how Love Stanislaus County and Love Our Cities got started, how city-wide volunteerism is building connections and community, and how to get started in your own city.
For practical steps on starting or expanding your city’s volunteer efforts, check out Jeff’s recent book, Love Our Cities: How a City-Wide Volunteer Day Can Unite and Transform Your Community, co-authored by Eric Jung.
Interview with Jeff Pishney
“Jeff Pishney is the CEO and Founder of Love Stanislaus County and Love Our Cities. Officially beginning as a non-profit organization in 2014, these city-wide volunteer days and other initiatives have helped over 100 cities and have had over 239,000 volunteers since beginning in 2009. Jeff recognizes that more sustainable solutions are needed beyond volunteer days in order to see our cities thrive. His efforts have evolved to championing ongoing volunteerism, collaboration among leaders and initiating programs for Neighbors, Schools, Kids and Seniors. Jeff grew up in Iowa, went to college and graduate school in Virginia and has been in Modesto, CA since 1995. Prior to being CEO, Jeff was a pastor for almost 20 years. As a college pastor, Jeff started to get a vision for his community. This vision grew when he became the outreach pastor during which Love Modesto began. Jeff and his wife, Karen, have been married for 18 years and have three children. Besides loving his family, Jeff is involved at his children's activities, passionate about justice issues and cheering on his Iowa Hawkeye” (bio from lovestanislauscounty.org).
In April 2023, Jeff Pishney and co-author Eric Jung released their book, “Love Our Cities: How a city-wide volunteer day can unite and transform your community.”
You can reach Jeff Pishney at:
lovestanislauscounty.org
loveourcities.org
jeff@lovestanislauscounty.org
IG @lovestanislauscounty
IG @loveourcities
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Purchase Love Our Cities: How a city-wide volunteer day can unite and transform your community on Amazon.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find him squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring him back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of catalystcounselinginc.com, a private practice located in Modesto, CA. Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. She is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a consultant supporting teams in high stress or helping professions and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
We are living in an era where social media is embedded throughout our culture. Licensed mental health professionals Nik Young and Alyssa Najera share how social media has evolved and challenge you to examine the role social media plays in your life.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of catalystcounselinginc.com, a private practice located in Modesto, CA. Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. She is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a consultant supporting teams in high stress or helping professions and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Let the conversations continue as we kickoff season 5. Join licensed mental health professionals Nik Young and Alyssa Najera in this can’t-miss bonus episode as they announce some big news for season 5 of the Therapists Uncut Podcast!
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of catalystcounselinginc.com, a private practice located in Modesto, CA. Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. She is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a consultant supporting teams in high stress or helping professions and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Returning guest John-David Brown shares his experience of recognizing and navigating the subtleties of homophobia in the corporate workplace, including experiencing sexuality-based microaggressions, gaslighting, and feeling othered. John-David also shares how his ongoing reflection, inner work in therapy, and positive experience in a supportive workplace have helped him understand and process these past experiences, allowing him to focus on learning and growing as a leader in his organization.
Interview with John-David Brown
John-David Brown is a 35-year-old technologist living in Los Angeles, where he leads product development for Perry Street Software, makers of queer dating apps SCRUFF and Jack'd. He studied politics at Cornell University and has primarily worked in technology during his professional career. He loves music, traveling, and his cat Governor.
You can find John-David Brown on Instagram
@johndavidbrown
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a trainer, consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In this episode, Officer Mitch Brouillette return to the Therapists Uncut Podcast to talk about the various ways issues and topics of mental health have shown up in his 20-year career in law enforcement. The TU Crew covers trends and opportunities in mental health crisis response, the industry shifts and increased awareness of law enforcement mental health, and the professional and peer supports available to support mental health and wellness.
“Officer Mitch,” as he was dubbed during his time as a School Resource Officer (listen to episode 73), has experience as a patrol deputy, detective working in crimes against children, school resource officer, member of the SWAT team, and now a patrol supervisor.
Interview with Officer Mitch Brouillette
Mitch is an active veteran law enforcement officer with over 20 years of law enforcement experience. Mitch is a veteran of the United States Marine Corps.
He holds a Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice from California Coast University and graduated from the Stanislaus County Office of the Sheriff Law Enforcement Training Center. He has worked patrol, investigations (Special Victims / Crimes against children Detective), school resource officer and currently is serving as a patrol Sergeant.
Mitch is an active SWAT Team (15 years) member. His current role is team leader. He has held many different roles as a SWAT Team operator to include; Sniper/ Sniper Team leader, breacher, NFDD (flash bang) and chemical agents.
He is a Chemical Agent Instructor, NFDD (Flash bang) Instructor, ALICE Training Institute certified Active Shooter Response Instructor, Law Enforcement Active Shooter Instructor. Critical Incident response Instructor for CATO (California Association of Tactical Officers).
Mitch is a graduate of CATO's (California Association of Tactical Officers) Strategic Leadership Program. He is currently part of the CATO training cadre and serves as CATO's Vendor Coordinator for the CATO conference. He also holds certification as an NRA Pistol Instructor.
In this episode we talk about:
· Mental Health Crisis response
· Opportunities to improve mental health crisis response
· Resources available to support Law Enforcement mental health and wellness
o Peer Supports
o De-briefs
o Specialized training
o Onsite mental health supports
o EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing), Trauma Intervention
o Employee Assistance Program (EAP)
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Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
https://988lifeline.org/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a trainer, consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In this episode we talk about:
Nik Young and Alyssa Najera explore the disappointments and discomforts of failure, how our past might impact our ability to manage it, and the importance of finding opportunity and lessons amidst the failure.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a trainer, consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Join Nik Young and Alyssa Najera in this sequel episode to Confessions of a High-Functioning, Anxious Therapist (episode 63) where they awkwardly share their struggles with inattention, delayed gratification, and lowkey impulsive behaviors both in their personal and professional lives. Learn how these behaviors have the potential to impact relationships, work functioning, and personal growth and tools to help you navigate.
In this episode we talk about:
Potential Signs of ADHD
· Lack of attention to detail
· Difficulty concentrating
· Difficulty completing a tasks, having several unfinished tasks or projects
· Continually losing or misplacing things
· Feel the need to interrupt other before you lose your train of thought
· Restlessness and edginess
· Difficulty keeping quiet, speaking out of turn
· Difficulty with organization
· Tendency to procrastinate
· Irritability
· Feeling like everything is urgent when it may not be
· Difficult slowing
· Difficulty multitasking
· Easily lose track of time, feeling like you have more time that you actually do
· Racing though tor jumping from idea to idea
· Checking out often or daydreaming
Potential Signs of High Functioning ADHD
· Hyperfocus on projects or deadlines
· Heavily focused on productivity or achievement
· Your work style either includes lots of breaks or extended period of work with minimal breaks
· Excessive use of calendars, reminders, apps to ensure you do not miss appointments, deadlines, or events
· Chronic procrastination or you excel under pressure
Tools for Inattention
· Use the resources available to you
· Breakup larger tasks into smaller, attainable tasks
· Engage in active reflection and self-awareness
· Focus on one task at time
· Ask yourself
o Can it wait?
o Do you need it?
o Do you need this right now?
· Learn healthy coping skills to help you manage symptoms to ensure symptoms do not negatively impact your relationships or daily functioning
Other Factors that May Exacerbate these Behaviors
· Anxiety symptoms
· Depression symptoms
· ADHD symptoms
Resources Mentioned in this Episode
· Episode 63: Confessions of a High-Functioning, Anxious Therapist
· Episode 66: “Heroin, Heartache, and Hope” with Christian Author of Counting Spoons Kathryn Mae Inman
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a former Child Welfare Services social worker, supervisor, and sexual abuse forensic interviewer. Alyssa Najera is now a trainer, consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
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The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy, and help you prioritize your mental health.
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Join Nik Young and Alyssa Najera in this sequel episode to Confessions of a High-Functioning, Anxious Therapist (episode 63) where they awkwardly share their struggles with inattention, delayed gratification, and lowkey impulsive behaviors both in their personal and professional lives. Learn how these behaviors have the potential to impact relationships, work functioning, and personal growth and tools to help you navigate.
In this episode we talk about:
Potential Signs of ADHD
· Lack of attention to detail
· Difficulty concentrating
· Difficulty completing a tasks, having several unfinished tasks or projects
· Continually losing or misplacing things
· Feel the need to interrupt other before you lose your train of thought
· Restlessness and edginess
· Difficulty keeping quiet, speaking out of turn
· Difficulty with organization
· Tendency to procrastinate
· Irritability
· Feeling like everything is urgent when it may not be
· Difficult slowing
· Difficulty multitasking
· Easily lose track of time, feeling like you have more time that you actually do
· Racing though tor jumping from idea to idea
· Checking out often or daydreaming
Potential Signs of High Functioning ADHD
· Hyperfocus on projects or deadlines
· Heavily focused on productivity or achievement
· Your work style either includes lots of breaks or extended period of work with minimal breaks
· Excessive use of calendars, reminders, apps to ensure you do not miss appointments, deadlines, or events
· Chronic procrastination or you excel under pressure
Tools for Inattention or Impulsivity
· Use the resources available to you
· Breakup larger tasks into smaller, attainable tasks
· Engage in active reflection and self-awareness
· Focus on one task at time
· Ask yourself
o Can it wait?
o Do you need it?
o Do you need this right now?
· Learn healthy coping skills to help you manage symptoms to ensure symptoms do not negatively impact your relationships or daily functioning
· Utilize mindfulness tools
Other Factors that May Increase these Behaviors
· Anxiety symptoms
· Depression symptoms
· ADHD symptoms
Resources Mentioned in this Episode
· Episode 63: Confessions of a High-Functioning, Anxious Therapist
· Episode 66: “Heroin, Heartache, and Hope” with Christian Author of Counting Spoons Kathryn Mae Inman
Who we are:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of https://ampsmartbusiness.com/ . To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Not only is Officer Mitch Brouillette a seasoned and knowledgeable law enforcement officer, but he is also caring, humble, and basically famous after 20M+ views of a DUDE. Be nice video showcasing Heritage High’s gratitude for their very own School Resource Officer, Officer Mitch. Tune into this episode with licensed mental health professionals Nik Young and Alyssa Najera as Officer Mitch shares his experience as a former School Resource Officer (SRO), talks about the benefits of SROs on campus, and highlights the importance of building positive relationships with our youth and community.
Interview with Officer Mitch Brouillette
Mitch is an active veteran law enforcement officer with over 20 years of law enforcement experience. Mitch is a veteran of the United States Marine Corps.
He holds a Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice from California Coast University and graduated from the Stanislaus County Office of the Sheriff Law Enforcement Training Center. He has worked patrol, investigations (Special Victims / Crimes against children Detective), school resource officer and currently is serving as a patrol Sergeant.
Mitch is an active SWAT Team (15 years) member. His current role is team leader. He has held many different roles as a SWAT Team operator to include; Sniper/ Sniper Team leader, breacher, NFDD (flash bang) and chemical agents.
He is a Chemical Agent Instructor, NFDD (Flash bang) Instructor, ALICE Training Institute certified Active Shooter Response Instructor, Law Enforcement Active Shooter Instructor. Critical Incident response Instructor for CATO (California Association of Tactical Officers).
Mitch is a graduate of CATO's (California Association of Tactical Officers) Strategic Leadership Program. He is currently part of the CATO training cadre and serves as CATO's Vendor Coordinator for the CATO conference. He also holds certification as an NRA Pistol Instructor.
You can find Officer Mitch at
Contact Us
Resources mentioned:
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Heritage High Resource Officer Mitch Brouillette surprised by a flash mob thank-you. Schrader, Amy Nov. 18, 2016
https://www.thepress.net/news/heritage-high-resource-officer-mitch-brouillette-surprised-by-a-flash-mob-thank-you/article_b6024b08-8e42-11e5-8005-c75b2b7d7326.html
Massive mob overwhelms school's favorite police officer! Official dude. Be nice YouTube Channel. 20 Million + Views
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1uAp69IJnk
Brentwood special needs prom promises to be ‘amazing day’. King, Paula. East Bay Times. April 26, 2017.
https://www.eastbaytimes.com/2017/04/26/organizers-looking-for-help-for-brentwood-special-needs-prom/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
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Bullies, insecurities, shame, and understanding sexuality were just a few challenges growing up queer in a small, rural town. John-David Brown shares his experience of the internal struggles he faced growing up a gay male and how supportive parents, therapy, lots of books, and strong friendships helped him understand that authenticity is, in fact, possible.
Interview with John-David Brown
John-David Brown is a 35-year-old technologist living in Los Angeles, where he leads product development for Perry Street Software, makers of queer dating apps SCRUFF and Jack'd. He studied politics at Cornell University and has primarily worked in technology during his professional career. He loves music, traveling, and his cat Governor.
You can find John-David Brown on Instagram
@johndavidbrown
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Book
The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
https://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Rage-Overcoming-Growing-Straight/dp/1611746450
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nik Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nik keeps it personable and professional. Yet, always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find them squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring Nik back around to the conversation. Nik is a licensed marriage and family therapist in their private practice located in Modesto, CA, and is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, Nik is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nik Young at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa Najera at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In recognition of Suicide Prevention month, licensed mental health professionals Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera dive deep into a conversation about suicide to share facts and resources, increase awareness, and help you feel more comfortable with navigating conversations about suicide.
In this episode we talk about:
- Risk factors that may increase risk of suicide
- Protective Factors
- Misinformation about Suicide and what the facts say
- How to recognize warning signs of someone who may be struggling with suicide
- How to navigate a conversation about suicide
- Where to find help if you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts
Resources mentioned:
www.988lifeline.org
“988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code that will route callers to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. While some areas may be currently able to connect to the Lifeline by dialing 988, this dialing code will be available to everyone across the United States starting on July 16, 2022.
#bethe1to
https://www.bethe1to.com/
“Be the one to help save a life. We all can take action to prevent suicide.”
For more resources, head over to our Mental Health Resources page.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera talk food, movement, weight, and body image with co-authors of the book “Raising Body Positive Teens.” Join the conversation as Signe Darpinian, Wendy Sterling, and Shelley Aggarwal crush “diet culture and weight stigma” by breaking down common myths about food and eating, offer tips on how to talk with your child about media and body image, and explore how to develop a friendship with food and your body.
Guest Bios
Signe Darpinian is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Eating Disorders Specialist, and host of Therapy Rocks! a personal growth podcast. She provides tele-health therapy services in the state of California.
Wendy Sterling, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, and a Board-Certified Sports Dietitian. She has consulted for the Oakland Athletics, Golden State Warriors, NY Jets, and NY Islanders. She is also the co-author of How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder and maintains a virtual private practice throughout the US.
Shelley Aggarwal is a physician and is a board-certified Pediatrician and Adolescent Medicine Sub-Specialist. Dr. Aggarwal has worked with premiere academic institutions and continues to be teaching faculty with Stanford Children's Health and UCSF-Fresno. She is the Medical Director of clinics serving justice involved youth.
They are the co-authors of No Weigh! A Teen’s Guide to Positive Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom and Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image, both with Jessica Kingsley Publishers in London.
To learn more about our guests visit the below links
Signe Darpinian
https://www.signedarpinian.com/
@therapyrockspodcast
@noweighguide
Wendy Sterling
http://sterlingnutrition.com
Instagram @wendy_sterling
Shelley Aggarwal
https://www.signedarpinian.com/books.
In this episode we talk about:
- What motivated Signe, Wendy, and Shelley to write their 2nd book together, Raising Body Positive Teens
- How our bodies are impacted by stress
- How to navigate conversations with your child around media and body image
- Common myths about food, eating, and weight
- The role of sleep, movement, and food in sport performance
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
No Weigh! A Teen’s Guide to Positive Body Image, Food, and Emotional Wisdom
Raising Body Positive Teens: A Parent's Guide to Diet-Free Living, Exercise and Body Image,
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
For two therapists who bring nearly every episode back to self-awareness, it seemed only right to dedicate an episode to reflecting on a missed opportunity to address an important topic. Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera vulnerably practice self-awareness, reflect on how they navigated a sensitive topic from a previous episode, and remind us that even therapists can make mistakes.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Comedian Gloria “Glory” Magaña shares how comedy helped her cope with childhood trauma, gave her hope, and inspired her to dream big. Join Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera as they talk with Gloria about self doubt, trauma, comedy, and Gloria’s own mental health journey as she moved from the hood life to the good life.
Interview with Gloria “Glory” Magaña
Gloria Magaña is a native Modestan and was born to entertain! As the youngest of 15, there was never a dull moment or a night without an audience! Glory began her career in 2012 at The Purple Onion in San Francisco, CA, the same stage where Phyllis Diller, Woody Allen, and Richard Pryor paved their ways to fame. She made her way around the Bay Area performing at Cobb's Comedy, San Francisco Punchline, Tommy T’s Comedy Club in Pleasanton, as well as in the Sacramento circuit at places like the Sacramento Punchline and Laughs U limited. She then went on to perform in Los Angeles at the Icehouse in Pasadena, the Laugh Factory in Long Beach and Hollywood, and The Comedy Store. Glory has since performed across the U.S and Mexico. You'll be sure to have fun watching her animated presence on stage!
And Glory just celebrated her 10th year comedy anniversary at the State Theater in Modesto in her Farewell Tour before heading off to the New York comedy scene.
@glorymagana
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
If you or someone you know has struggled with addiction, you know it can be an ugly disease that impacts everyone. In this episode, we speak with Christian Author Kathryn Mae Inman and author of “Counting Spoons; A Memoir of Heroin, Heartache, and Hope,” about the impact addiction has had on her family, as her youngest son Justin battled heroin addiction.
After 30 years as an Operations Director for a non-profit organization, Kathryn now write, speaks, “advocates for families affected by addiction, and is determined to spread a message of hope to anyone that will listen.”
Christian Author of Counting Spoons Kathryn Mae Inman
Kathryn M. Inman exposes her heart and her faith in her debut book, Counting Spoons. Kathryn is a former Operations Director for a non-profit organization where she worked for over thirty years, then she resigned, traded in her high heels for flip flops, and moved to Hawaii where she discovered her passion for writing. Now semi-retired and back in California, she writes, is an advocate for families affected by addiction, and is determined to spread a message of hope to anyone that will listen.
Having dealt with many trials in her life, Kathryn is a writer who exposes it all—thick layers of suffering, hard truths, deep pain, and hope in Christ that will leave her readers feeling inspired. She loves Jesus, her husband, their beautiful blended family, healthy living, nature, and horses. Kathryn has a lofty disdain for chocolate, pancakes, and anything sweet—other than her three grandchildren who she claims are the sweetest of all.
Find Kathryn Mae Inman
Website: https://www.kathrynminman.com/
Instagram: @kathrynminman
Contact: www.kathrynminman.com/contact
In this episode we talk about:
- How Kathryn learned about her son’s addiction
- How Kathryn’s family was affected by addiction
- What signs of addiction, if any, were present in Justin’s behavior
- Why Kathryn felt the need to maintain privacy around how her family was being impacted by addiction
- How Kathryn’s mental health was impacted by her son’s addiction
- What role relapse played in Justin’s addiction and how it impacted the family
- When hope was lost, what helped Kathryn find hope again?
- How Kathryn’s faith in God played a role in this journey
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Buy a copy of “Counting Spoons; A Memoir of Heroin, Heartache, and Hope” by Kathryn Mae Inman
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Help Line
SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.
Also visit the online treatment locator, or send your zip code via text message: 435748 (HELP4U) to find help near you. Read more about the HELP4U text messaging service.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirrelingthrough topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
TikTok @Therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In the spirit of normalizing therapy and making mental health relatable, Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera get real about their own mental health. Join the conversation as they each share how they came to the realization of just how much their own anxiety has been showing up in their personal and professional lives.
High-achieving, perfectionist, detail oriented, driven, workaholic, and “successful” are all common descriptors of someone who may also closely identify with high functioning anxiety. While high functioning anxiety is not a diagnosis or disorder, it is commonly used to describe someone who may struggle with anxiety symptoms internally, yet on the surface appears calm, collected, and even well-accomplished.
In this episode we talk about:
What is High Functioning Anxiety?
High functioning anxiety is not a diagnosis or disorder among the anxiety umbrella in the DSM5. It is, however, commonly used to described someone who struggles with common anxiety symptoms yet is fairly successful at managing all facets in their life such personal, professional, financial, and family responsibilities.
Someone who identifies with high functioning anxiety is typically not experiencing impairment in any given are of their life and is often described as
- Accomplished
- Successful
- Driven
- Overachiever
- Detail-oriented
- Perfectionist
- Type-A Personality
Despite the outward accolades and achievements, the individual navigating high functioning, anxiety is likely also struggling internally with anxiety symptoms such as
- Excessive worry
- Fatigue
- Irritability
- Difficulty sleeping
- Muscle tensions
- Difficulty concentrating
- Racing thoughts
- Internal fears (i.e. fear of rejection, failure, or disappointing)
- Ongoing self-doubt
- Questioning whether you are good enough or deserving
Possible Causes of High Functioning Anxiety
Causes of anxiety or anxiety symptoms vary, however, genetics and environment can be contributing factors. Here is a list of things to consider.
- Family history of anxiety disorders
- Exposure to negative or stressful life events
- Certain physical health conditions
- Substance or alcohol abuse
- Childhood experiences
Types of Anxiety
Although high functioning anxiety is not a diagnosis or disorder, there are several forms of anxiety that do meet criteria of a formal diagnosis including
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
- Panic disorders
- Social anxiety disorder
- Phobias
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
- Separation Anxiety Disorder
- Selective Mutism
- Agoraphobia
- Substance/Medication Induced Anxiety Disorder
- Anxiety disorder due to another Medical Condition
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
To learn more, check out Therapists Uncut episodes on anxiety including our 50th episode, “Living with Anxiety.”
You can also visit our Mental Health Resources page for additional links.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Now that we’ve spent time talking about how to recognize trauma and battle burnout in the workplace, it’s only fitting we move right into how to recognize signs of Secondary Trauma. Secondary Traumatic Stress can be any combination of emotional, mental, or behavioral trauma responses like images getting stuck in your head, avoidance, intrusive negative thoughts, and difficulty concentrating.
STS can mirror the same signs of someone experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but the difference is you don’t experience the traumatic event directly. Instead, Secondary Traumatic Stress (STS) can occur in anyone who hears the firsthand account, or is indirectly exposed, to someone else’s traumatic experience. Tune in to this episode with Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera as they share examples of Secondary Traumatic Stress and help you better understand hot better recognize and navigate secondary traumatization.
In this episode we talk about:
What is Secondary Traumatic Stress?
Secondary Traumatic Stress (STS) is a combination of trauma responses that can result from hearing, watching, or reading about the traumatic experience of others. This can occur from professional roles of working with trauma survivors, witnessing criminal acts of violence, working the Emergency Department or working in protective services. STS, however, can also occur outside of work and as a result of hearing someone story, witnessing disturbing images or video on social media or news outlets, or learning something traumatic happened to someone you love.
Signs of Secondary Traumatic Stress
Secondary Traumatic Stress mimic the same trauma responses as those described in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The only difference, however, is STS can result from learning about the firsthand experience of someone else’s trauma, whereas PTSD requires a person directly experiencing an event or series of events. These trauma responses include a cluster of physical, cognitive, and behavioral symptoms including, but not limited to, the following:
- Hypervigilance: Exhibiting extreme alertness, care, or caution in one or several areas of your life
- Increased Startle Response: Feeling extra jumpy or on edge
- Difficulty concentrating
- Easily distracted
- Images or parts of an event get stuck or replay in your head
- Avoidance of people, places, or things that might remind you of the event or series of events
- Disrupted sleep or nightmares
- Irritability
- Feelings of guilt or helplessness
- Somatic or physiological responses to being reminded of the event(s)
Who is at Risk of Experiencing Secondary Traumatic Stress (STS)
While people working in crisis or with trauma exposed populations are at an exceptionally high risk, secondary traumatic can also occur due to exposure to images or stories you hear in the media, national crisis, or videos.
According to research, the below populations are at high risk of developing Secondary Traumatic Stress
- First Responders
- Child Protective Service Providers
- Mental Health Clinicians
- Educators
- Health Care Providers
- Helping Professionals
What is the difference between Secondary Traumatic Stress, Vicarious Trauma, and Compassion Fatigue?
Although these terms are often used interchangeably, they are distinctly different.
Secondary Traumatic Stress refers to the presence of trauma symptoms, also consistent with PTSD symptoms, that are caused by at least one indirect exposure to traumatic material or events. This exposure could be through learning about someone’s story firsthand verbally, via images, news media, reports, social media, or videos.
Vicarious Trauma is less focused on trauma responses or symptoms and more focused on the cognitive changes or shifts in world view that occur over time because of repeated exposure to trauma stories. Vicarious traumatization is less present as trauma responses and more present as a shift in one’s overall perspective of their environment.
Compassion Fatigue also known as Empathic Strain
Compassion fatigue is the gradual increase of immense emotional and physical exhaustion resulting from the ongoing output of empathy and compassion required in one’s work. It is most commonly experienced in health care and helping professions, but is also experienced in other professions. Compassion fatigue can result in feelings of indifference or apathy toward the pain and suffering of others.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
National Child Traumatic Stress Network; STS a Fact Sheet for Child-Serving Professionals
https://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/fact-sheet/secondary_traumatic_stress_child_serving_professionals.pdf
Professional Quality of Life Scale
https://proqol.org
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
High rates of employee burnout are documented in industries including healthcare, human services, and first responders. More recently, the battle with burnout is now reported across industries including tech, manufacturing, law, education, and hospitality, to name a few. Join licensed mental health professionals Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera as they describe signs of burnout, explore how burnout symptoms can negatively affect your mood, behaviors, and relationships, and challenge organization leaders to assess their own resources for addressing burnout.
In this episode we talk about:
Burnout is the extended period of physical and/or emotional exhaustion, it can almost feel like you’re on autopilot as you navigate your workday. If your industry or organization already struggled with high levels of burnout, the pandemic likely exacerbated those levels. In this episode, Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera discuss
• What is Burnout
• Cognitive, physical, and behavioral signs of burnout
• Using self-awareness and input from others you trust to help you determine your own burnout levels
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
If you notice you are experiencing signs of burnout practice self-care, healthy habits, and self-assessments to help you decide where you are and where you want to be physically and mentally. If you recognize recurring bouts of burnout, you may need to assess how to implement healthy coping and anticipatory coping skills that will help you deal with and work through work-related stressors or evaluate your employment overall and whether or not it’s time to search for new opportunities. For a burnout assessment resource, click on the link below.
https://proqol.org/proqol-measure
Listen to Therapists Uncut episodes for tips on self-care, positive coping skills, and evaluating whether or not “To get or not to get the F*** out of Dodge.”
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Assertiveness is the skill of expressing your needs and opinions in a confident, non-confrontational. For some, this skill comes naturally. Yet, for others, can be a struggle. Why is that? Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera define assertiveness and dig deep into reasons why some of us might struggle with being assertive. Join the conversation and learn why assertiveness is an essential skill to help you navigate relationships, set and maintain healthy boundaries, and practice healthy communication.
In this episode we talk about:
- What is assertiveness and why is it important
- Examples of assertive behavior
- Possible reasons why you may struggle with being assertive
- Benefits of being assertive at work, in relationships, and in your family system
- Using assertive behaviors to positively impact relationships, set and maintain boundaries, and effectively voice your needs
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Toxic relationships have the potential of showing up in all areas of our life including work, social, and romantic relationships and even within family systems. Learn how to recognize signs of toxic relationships and tools to help you navigate through.
In this episode we talk about:
Potential Signs of Toxic Relationships
- Blaming and accusing
- Put downs or name calling
- Jealousy
- Making excuses or justifying behaviors of the other person
- Excessive gossip
- Putting you down to make themselves look better
- Feeling bad about yourself when you are this person
- Feeling like you’re always, “cleaning of their mess”
Areas of Life where Toxic Relationships Can Show Up
- Relationship with supervisors or co-workers (if you are struggling with poor management, check out our previous episodes Shitty Bosses and To get or Not to get the F*** out of Dodge)
- Social and peer relationships
- Relationships with immediate or extended family
Ways to Respond to Toxic Relationships
- Practice being assertive
- Set boundaries by communicating what’s okay with you and what’s not okay with you
- If possible, create space or distance
- Take responsibility for your part, but don’t take responsibility for other people’s feelings, situations, or circumstances that you are not responsible for
Abusive relationships can be toxic, but toxic relationship are not necessarily abusive.
- If you are worried about your safety or think you may be in an abusive relationship visit thehotline.org for Domestic Violence Support
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
http://www.thehotline.org/
1-800-799-7233
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Welcome back for part 2 of our interview with Karlha Davies community leader, Hometown Hero, and entrepreneur. Karlha shares the series of moments that led her to recognizing how her alcohol use was a convenient and “acceptable” way of coping with her own insecurities and emotional hurt. Tune in as they TU Crew dismantle the myths of alcohol use, discuss supports that have helped Karlha in recovery, and explore how sobriety is guiding Karlha into new hope, new goals, and a clear future.
If you missed part 1, be sure to watch our last episode to hear Karlha speak about the role alcohol played in her life, how it impacted her personal and professional relationships, and when the realized she alcohol was a problem.
Interview with Karlha Davies
With hope in her heart, fire in her blood and fierce determination for the advancement of her fellow BIPOC, Karlha is a child of Mexican immigrant farm workers from Hughson, one of California’s most conservative counties. She’s been able to occupy spaces not meant for her voice and passion and while others have tried to extinguish her flame, it’s allowed Karlha to realize her purpose in life is to show up authentically and with the integrity of her ancestors. Karlha’s professional success begins with being the first in her family to attend and graduate from college.
Karlha holds a Bachelor of Arts in Communication and Ethnic Studies from CSU Stanislaus. She boasts an impressive 25+ year career in public relations, fundraising and community engagement in the sectors of non-profit, education, government, and private business. Her ability to be successful in all sectors, speaks volumes to her creativity, leadership, and ability to succeed in whatever field she’s chosen to stand behind. She has been awarded a Hometown Hero, Outstanding Woman of Stanislaus County and a Latina Heroé for her commitment to advocating for others in her community. While the awards she’s received honors her spirit of being of service to others, one of the things she is most proud of is working on her sobriety and 12 Step Recovery which began on October 3, 2020 during the Covid-19 Pandemic.
*Since the recording of this episode Karlha has transitioned out of her role at her alma mater to focus on her consulting business Korazón Konsultants.
You can find Karlha Davies on social media at
Instagram @Konkorazon
Instagram @KorazonKonsultants
Facebook @karlha.davies
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karlhadavies/
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families
https://adultchildren.org/ACOA
The 12 steps of Recovery: “The Twelve Step programs are well known for their use in recovering from addictive and dysfunctional behaviors.”
https://12step.org/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Addiction has the potential of showing up in all walks of life and it was around this time last year that Karlha Davies successful, first-generation community leader and Hometown Hero recognized and accepted her own addiction.
Despite Karlha’s outward appearance of achievements, accolades, and community recognitions, Karlha struggled internally with depression and anxiety, low self-worth, and alcoholism. For the first time ever on a public platform, Karlha shares her story of alcohol abuse and her recent journey to recovery. Tune into part 1 of this 2-part interview to hear about the role alcohol played for Karlha, how it impacted her personal and professional relationships, and what it took for Karlha to recognize something needed to change.
Interview with Karlha Davies
With hope in her heart, fire in her blood and fierce determination for the advancement of her fellow BIPOC, Karlha is a child of Mexican immigrant farm workers from Hughson, one of California’s most conservative counties. She’s been able to occupy spaces not meant for her voice and passion and while others have tried to extinguish her flame, it’s allowed Karlha to realize her purpose in life is to show up authentically and with the integrity of her ancestors. Karlha’s professional success begins with being the first in her family to attend and graduate from college.
Karlha holds a Bachelor of Arts in Communication and Ethnic Studies from CSU Stanislaus. She boasts an impressive 25+ year career in public relations, fundraising and community engagement in the sectors of non-profit, education, government, and private business. Her ability to be successful in all sectors, speaks volumes to her creativity, leadership, and ability to succeed in whatever field she’s chosen to stand behind. She has been awarded a Hometown Hero, Outstanding Woman of Stanislaus County and a Latina Heroé for her commitment to advocating for others in her community. While the awards she’s received honors her spirit of being of service to others, one of the things she is most proud of is working on her sobriety and 12 Step Recovery which began on October 3, 2020 during the Covid-19 Pandemic.
You can find Karlha Davies on social media at
Instagram @Konkorazon
Instagram @KorazonKonsultants
Facebook @karlha.davies
https://www.linkedin.com/in/karlhadavies/
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families
https://adultchildren.org/ACOA
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Therapists Uncut brings back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Natalie Silva for a brand new episode on body image and self-esteem. Natalie also describes common body image themes that have come up in her private practice such us using food to cope with stress, the pressures to diet, and how to be comfortable with and love your body.
Natalie Silva is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and private practice owner in California. Natalie holds space for women from all stages of life who are desiring meaningful change. Natalie offers individual counseling to support the treatment of emotional pain, relationship issues, and life transitions including, adulthood, motherhood, marriage, divorce and beyond. Together, she and her clients work through a gentle, compassionate lens within the therapeutic space to heal old wounds and help women move forward.
“It is a privilege to bear witness to the internal change my clients do and I am here to help support you through yours whenever you are ready.” - Natalie Silva, LMFT
You can find Natalie at:
Website: https://www.nataliesilvalmft.com
Social Media: @natalie.silva.lmft
Email: connect@nataliesilvalmft.com
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Don’t miss out on this episode where we get to know our co-hosts Nikki Young, LMFT and Alyssa Najera, LCSW. Get know them a little more as they answer listener questions on their favorite family activities, college memories, and of course, why they started a podcast.
In this episode we talk about:
Watch as our co-hosts play rapid fire and answer questions about themselves such as:
- Your favorite outdoor activity?
- Favorite tv show?
- Favorite type of music genre or artist?
- Favorite way to spend time with family?
- Favorite food?
- What would you be found doing on a Wednesday night?
- Your dream car?
- You dream vacation?
- If you were an animal, which one would you be?
- Number of tattoos?
- Who would you want to have a conversation with – dead or alive?
- Favorite ice cream flavor?
- Favorite color?
- Favorite movie?
- Favorite musical instrument?
- Favorite college memory?
- Do you have any special talents?
- Favorite superhero?
- Favorite childhood memory? If you could live anywhere. Where would you live?
- Why did you start a podcast??
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
We want to learn more about you! Answer any or all of the questions below!
- Tell us your hometown
- Favorite Halloween Movie
- Favorite decade of all time
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
We all disagree with our partner at some point. Disagreements are normal and healthy, but how we disagree is a foundational component of our relationships. In this episode, Nikki Young, LMFT, and Alyssa Najera, LCSW, discuss the importance of communicating respectfully and effectively by using fair fighting or as we call it, Kosher Conflict.
In this episode we talk about:
Types of problems within a relationship:
- Solvable problems: issues that are situational or can be perceived as one-off type of conflict.
- Unsolvable problems: Issues that stay consistent and in 15 years from now it will still be a problem.
What makes a difference in a disagreement is how you choose to engage, response, and recognize your own personal triggers.
Why should I practice Fair Fighting and Kosher Conflict?
- It is important to understand that when our stress levels go up, our communication skills go down. We tend to make ourselves more vulnerable with people we trust which may result in giving our poorest level of communication
- When fighting around children, they pick up on certain mannerisms and communication skills. It is important to model how your child should discuss issues and be treated during conflict with a partner.
- Practicing Kosher conflict can provide you and your partner resolution, understanding, and increased emotional and physical intimacy.
How do I practice Fair Fighting and Kosher Conflict?
- Understand what triggers your fight, flight, or freeze response and choose to respond instead of react in a disagreement
- Your cool down or timeout periods can range from 5 minutes to 5 hours, it will vary
- After your timeout, come back to the topic and discuss the issue at hand effectively
- It is important to come back to the topic or the other person may feel abandoned in the situation.
- Notice your partner can usually recognize when you might be getting worked up
- ‘We’ve been married for 10 years and … the other day he told me, “Okay, I’m going to end this conversation because your nose is flaring and you keep blinking at me”’- Alyssa Najera, LCSW
How should I communicate?
- Avoid criticizing the other person and use “I” statements vs “you” statements. This prevents the other person from feeling blamed and causing their defense walls to go up.
- “I feel unheard. I would appreciate if I could share what I'm trying to share, it would make me feel heard.” - Nikki Young, LMFC
- “I'm feeling unheard. Here’s what I need...”
- “I feel unheard, if I'm able to share what I want to share it will make me feel heard”
- Avoid name calling or yelling
- Discuss your partner’s boundaries and needs
- Many couples use humor to defuse situations while other couples may take humor as the conversation not being taken seriously
- Remember, Kosher conflict is not a natural way to communicate and takes effort.
- Avoid spiraling the topic into other topics
Full transcription available at end of post.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
If you have a partner, watch this episode together and discuss how you both can effectively practice fair fighting in the future.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
https://www.cnvc.org/online-learning/nvc-instruction-guide/nvc-instruction-guide
https://www.thehotline.org/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more resourced or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Ever heard the saying “smile, it’s contagious"? Turns out it’s true! A smile, along with other facial expressions and vocalizations, has the power to influence the emotions and behaviors of others. In this episode, Alyssa Najera, LCSW, and Nikki Young, LMFT discuss just how infectious emotions can be through the lens of Emotion Contagion, and the importance of being cautious of who and what you surround yourself with.
In this episode we talk about:
What is Emotion Contagion?
Research dating back to the early 90’s defines emotion contagion as the tendency to automatically mimic and synchronize facial expressions, vocalizations, postures, and movements with those of another person and consequently to emerge emotionally. This means that our behaviors mimic how we feel and can also influence others to mimic our behaviors, as well. Noted, everyone has a unique and individualized scale specific to them that determines how susceptible to emotion contagion they may be. Studies also show that a person is typically more inclined to feel these effects when coming from a person whom they are closer to.
Why is understanding emotion contagion important?
The famous phrase “Do as I say, not as I do”, has been around for many years. When we consider emotion contagion in our behavior, it makes more sense to model the behavior we are trying to encourage rather than try to convince others to act a certain way when your actions are not reflecting it.
An example of emotion contagion can be modeled in a work environment by the boss setting the mood for the day. If a boss is grumpy and has a bad attitude, that can reflect onto his/her employees. On the contrary, if a boss is upbeat, positive, and encouraging, the work environment will have a much more positive effect on the employees’ mood.
It is also important to understand how media sources (such as social media, the news, etc.) have an effect of your mood. Think about how you feel after you turn off the news or when actors in a commercial or movie have the ability to elicit certain emotions from the viewers. Recognize how your environment is impacting your emotions and mood both positively and negatively.
Study Done on Emotion Contagion
A Facebook research study was done in 2014, to investigate how the content of a user’s Facebook feed impacts the content of the user’s personal posts. (Cornell Chronicle, 2014). Facebook infused the new content it gave to some of its users with more positive updates, while the remaining users were given negative updates on their feed. They then analyzed the results and discovered the people who received more positive feed were likely to post positive content, while the people who received more negative feed began to post more negative content. For more on this study visit the Cornell Chronicle.
Full transcription available at end of post.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Step 1: Pick two friends/family members who are willing to participate in a small, social experiment. come up with one sentence that could be taken multiple ways.
Step 2: text this same sentence to both individuals but, include a different emoji for each message - one being more positive and the other being more negative.
Step 3: immediately Explore their reactions, together. Discuss how emotion contagion might occur via text.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2014/06/news-feed-emotional-contagion-sweeps-facebook
https://positivepsychology.com/emotional-contagion/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Our culture likes to remind us, in more way than one, that it’s expected for men to suppress their emotions and avoid being vulnerable in expressing their feelings. Alyssa Najera, LCSW, and Nikki Young, LMFT discuss the importance of men's mental health, the risks of going unacknowledged, and ways to move toward a more accepting environment for men’s emotional and mental health.
In this episode we talk about:
A common stereotype is that men should not be sad, hurt, anxious, depressed or emotional. They are supposed to be the breadwinners of the family, make sure everything is in order, and are often looked to (and even take upon the role of) the “fixers” of society. However, the idea that all men should uphold this image of mental stability is completely unreasonable.
It is important to understand and consciously think about how mental illnesses can look different in men and women. In a general sense, signs of mental illness or emotional distraught (I.e., stress, anxiety, etc.) can be, but not limited to,
- Uncontrollable or increased anger and aggression
- Abuse of alcohol and/or drugs
- Increased irritability
Our society tells us it is more acceptable for a man to get in a fight rather than to get emotional or cry. However, in reality, 1 in 10 men in the United States experience depression and anxiety, 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual trauma, and men are 3 to 4 times more likely to complete suicide using more lethal approaches versus women who are more likely to attempt suicide using different methods. These numbers are just from reported cases and are likely to be much higher.
What is toxic masculinity?
Toxic masculinity is defined as “a cultural concept of manliness that glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and that is socially maladaptive or harmful to mental health” by www.dictionary.com. When men's mental health gets bad, the term toxic masculinity may identify how and why they behave a certain way as a result of unresolved conflict due to past or present trauma.
Celebrities and role models experiencing mental illness
Many men with a celebrity status have been speaking up about their personal mental health such as
- Michael Phelps
- Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
- Terry Bradshaw
This goes to show how many people secretly suffer from depression and other mental illnesses that you may not have expected based of the way they behave or their perceived success. Mental health is individualized and can vary in intensity. Seeking professional help doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, but that you are doing everything in your control to work through hard things and be the best version of yourself.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Think back to a time when you had a traumatic or distressing experience that was hard to talk about. Think about how it made you feel and try to process those emotions. Then, if you are ready, find someone you trust, either a family member, a close friend, a therapist, etc, and open up to them about that situation.
Think about all of the negative stereotypes you know, have been told, or struggle with about being a man and write them down on a piece of paper. Once on that piece of paper, find a way to release those negative feelings associated with the words on the paper by destroying the paper in some way, like ripping it up for example.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Man Therapy | Men's Mental Health Resources
Infographic: Mental Health for Men | Mental Health America (mhanational.org)
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
An estimated 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience symptoms of anxiety. Anxiety is a beast and in addition to depression, one of the most common mental health disorders in the world. Given anxiety is so prevalent, we’ve decided to dedicate episode 50 to all those LIVING WITH ANXIETY. Tune in as Nikki Young, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Alyssa Najera, Licensed Clinical Social Worker discuss the different types of anxiety, common risk factors, and how you can deal with it.
In this episode we talk about:
If you have ever wondered what anxiety is, felt like you have it, been diagnosed with it, asked if you suffer from it, in denial about it, or raised by someone with anxiety, it may be helpful to better understand the different types of anxiety and how to recognize them.
Types of Anxiety:
What is Phobia: irrational fear or aversion to something (i.e. Fear of spiders, fear of elevators, etc.)
What is Social anxiety: nervousness or fear being in social situations (i.e. Public speaking, fear of judgement, etc.)
What is Generalized Anxiety disorder (GAD): anxiety provoked behavior in all types of situations and settings including home, social, work, and peer environments
What is Substance Induced Anxiety: anxiety experienced through drugs or alcohol, possibly in attempts to self-medicate.
What is Medical Induced Anxiety: anxiety caused by medical factors (i.e. Cancer treatment causing anxiety due to traumatic news and stability)
What is Panic Disorders: experiencing episodes of panic and panic attacks suddenly and unexpectedly. Panic attacks consist of feeling fearful, can’t breathe, heart racing, sweating, and feeling as though you are dying
What is Agoraphobia: an intense fear of particular places and situations. Sometimes this can look like having a fear of leaving home alone, public transportation, or crowded areas
What is Selective Mutism: Difficulty or failure to speak in specific environments (i.e. school, work) despite having the ability to understand and speak normally in other setting such as home
What is Separation Anxiety Disorder: a type of anxiety in children characterized by anxiety related to the separation from parents/caregivers that is excessive for their developmental age
What is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM)?
- The DSM is basically the bible of mental health and other disorders. It guides health and mental health professionals in appropriately diagnosing a cluster of symptoms in order to identify a treatment plan for specific diagnoses. The DSM is published by the American Psychiatric Association and has been revised several times since original debut in the 1950’s. The most recent edition is the DSM-5
How do I know if I have Anxiety?
- Common Symptoms of Anxiety
- Excessive worrying
- Feeling restless, nervous or tense
- Increased heart rate
- Rapid breathing
- Feeling stuck in your head about that past and future, difficult staying present
- Having difficulty controlling the worry
- Avoiding people, places, or things that may trigger anxiety
- Talk to you doctor to
- learn more about therapy for anxiety
- explore individual and group treatment options
- explore a medication assessment or referral to a psychiatrist (*Medication must be monitored under the treatment of a health professional such as primary care physician or psychiatrist and is most effective when combine with psychotherapy treatment and/or other modes of treatment)
“Nobody comes out of the womb being like, okay these are the things that might go wrong, this is your engine checklist.” -Nikki Young, LMFT 00:23:00
How do I treat Anxiety?
Anxiety therapy is offered in the form of both individual and group therapy. There are several different modalities used to treat anxiety when being treated by a mental health professional.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Anxiety: CBT is one of the most commonly used types of treatment for anxiety. CBT is a form of talk therapy that focuses on the link between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. CBT focuses on breaking destructive though patterns and improving your mood and behavior.
- Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) and Anxiety: EMDR is a trauma-specific intervention that is relatively newer in comparison to other forms of treatment. It is also a great form of treatment phobias and other forms anxiety. A mental health professional must be either EMDR-Trained or EMDR-Certified in order to provide this type of Anxiety Therapy.
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Anxiety: DBT helps increase emotion regulation and symptom management through skills training and individual and/or group therapy
When is anxiety normal and when should I look into professional help?
At the end of the day, everyone gets anxiety and in small doses and it can be a good motivating factor. Anxiety may cause problems to arise that mean you would benefit from professional help if,
- Anxiety starts to impair or negatively affect your relationships, academic functioning, or occupational functioning
- You find yourself taking advantage of unhealthy self-medicating techniques (e.g. alcohol or drugs)
- Experience embarrassment about or with seeking help for anxiety issues
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
If you recognize signs or symptoms of anxiety, allow yourself to acknowledge this part then ask in what ways has anxiety negatively impacted you? In what ways has anxiety been beneficial?
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
National Institute of Mental Health
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/anxiety-disorders
DSM Library
https://dsm.psychiatryonline.org/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Brief Summary
One of the hardest things for a person to come to terms with can be dealing with their own flaws. This week, the crew continues their conversation on self-awareness including how to recognize self-awareness, how to practice self-awareness, and learning how to trust the ongoing process of self-reflection.
In this episode we talk about:
Common ways of lacking self-awareness
- Blaming/Failing to take accountability
- Lack of empathy
- Empathy is defined as putting yourself into another person’s shoes and point of view.
- Excessive and unproductive arguing
- Inability to accept feedback
Ways to Improve Self-Awareness
Practicing self-awareness can help improve communication, improve your mood, and positively impact your relationships. Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera give valuable tips on ways to practice self-awareness. To start,
- Ask yourself, “What is happening that’s causing me to react this way?” and “What do I want to learn from this?”
- What personality characteristics are “triggering” for you and why?
- Work on being vulnerable with self-acknowledgements
- Use therapy to help you gain perspective and set personal goals
- Use journaling to engage in consistent reflection
- Utilize Mindful practices, i.e., meditation (tune in to 49 Self-Reflection Part 1 for more)
- Have meaningful conversations with an honest, trustworthy friend and be open to their feedback
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Reflect on yourself over the past year. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and create a list of some strengths and weaknesses. Then, ask a close friend or family member to help you reflect on this list and give you feedback.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
The idea of practicing self-awareness may sound easy, but it required vulnerability and can be very uncomfortable. Sh*t gets real when Nikki and Alyssa drop into personal, pivotal and vulnerable moments of personal experiences of self-awareness that still stay with them today.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Identify a moment of self-awareness in your life that may have been uncomfortable, but actually turned out to be beneficial.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
After months of adjusting, distancing, and readjusting to State and local recommendations, it’s time for some socialization or as some may call it, the COVID Social Reintegration. While some of us jumped right back into social events, dating, and large gatherings, others are still working through habitual thoughts patterns or behaviors that were born or exacerbated as a result of the pandemic. This might look like avoiding large crowds, struggling with small talk, declining events to events or even stumbling through greeting people.
Join Nikki and Alyssa in Episode 47; Coming out of COVID; The Social Struggle is Real, as they talk the subtle ways COVID habits are now impacting our social skills and interactions.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In this episode we talk about:
Perfectionist tendencies can be a great motivator in helping you complete tasks or accomplish personal or professional goals, but when does perfectionism become a problem? Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera explore the layers of perfectionism including performance perfectionism, “self, other, and socially prescribed” perfectionism, where these behaviors or thought patters may come from, and how to know the difference between reasonable and unreasonable expectations.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
If you identify as having perfectionist tendencies, create a pros and cons list to help identify the benefits and negative impacts of these behaviors. Consider impact on school, work, relationships and family.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Whether you’re an administrator, educator, grade school teacher or University faculty, this one’s for YOU! Despite the policies, pressures, and added layers of a pandemic, to say that you have showed up is an understatement. Thank you for your creativity, problem solving, perseverance and resilience, you are appreciated.
In this episode we talk about:
This year educators have worked hard to keep their students present, engaged, and hopeful for the future. If you are an administrator, educator, aid, paraprofessional, grade school teacher, special education teacher, or University faculty member, this episode’s for YOU!
Nikki and Alyssa talk through the layers of complexities faced by educators and verbalize their gratitude and appreciation for the hard work our educators and administrators have faced this school year. From policies, to pandemic adjustments, not to mention personal challenges, our educators have truly showed up for our communities. Thank you!
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Thank an educator in your life by surprising them with a kind act or small gift of recognition.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In this episode we talk about:
As a group of therapists, it’s only natural this month the T-Uncut team dedicate an episode to recognize Mental Health Awareness month! Nikki and Alyssa turn back time and take a look back at one of the first episodes recorded, Episode 3 “Mental Health Awareness Month During COVID Let’s Talk About it.” Join the crew in this video commentary as they reflect on circumstances just but one year ago, and explore life then VS now. . . Talk about surreal.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Where were you one year ago from today at that start of this pandemic? Tell us your surreal moment.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Suicide Prevention Resources Center https://www.sprc.org/
Coping with Traumatic Events https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/coping-with-traumatic-events/
American Foundation for Suicide Awareness https://afsp.org/
Suicide Awareness Voices of Education https://save.org/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Don’t miss out on this episode as Natalie Silva, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist breaks the myths surrounding Mom Guilt, shares her expertise on how to manage mom (and parent) guilt, and “normalizes the sh*t out of motherhood!”
Interview with Natalie Silva
Natalie Silva is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and private practice owner in California. Natalie holds space for women from all stages of life who are desiring meaningful change. Natalie offers individual counseling to support the treatment of emotional pain, relationship issues, and life transitions including, adulthood, motherhood, marriage, divorce and beyond. Together, she and her clients work through a gentle, compassionate lens within the therapeutic space to heal old wounds and help women move forward.
“It is a privilege to bear witness to the internal change my clients do and I am here to help support you through yours whenever you are ready.” - Natalie Silva, LMFT
You can find Natalie at:
Website: https://www.nataliesilvalmft.com
Social Media: @natalie.silva.lmft
Email: connect@nataliesilvalmft.com
In this episode we talk about:
Natalie Silva tells all to help our listeners navigate Mom (Parent) guilt and “normalize the sh*t out of motherhood.” In this interview, we cover:
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What motivated Natalie to be a Mental Health Professional specializing in Women’s Health
- Common themes that come up in the population whom she works with
- Common myths around Mom (Parent) Guilt
- How Mom Guilt may impact relationships at home, with peers, and at work
- What benefits, if any, are there to carrying Mom Guilt?
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At what point is Mom Guilt unproductive or even harmful to a parent?
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What are some of the underlying factors that contribute to Mom Guilt?
- Common unreasonable expectations parents place on themselves
- Ways Moms (and other caregivers) can overcome Mom Guilt
- Does mom guilt change over time with the age of children?
- How can a partner or others supports help in the management of mom guilt?
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
If your partner or a close friend/family member is struggling hard with mom guilt, ask permission to share this episode with them. Then, remind them you are here for them and ask how you can help.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Post Partum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Saying goodbye is never easy. It may be saying goodbye when you head off to college, goodbye after a breakup, goodbye to your co-workers after accepting a new job, or goodbye when you come to an end of a chapter. It’s true, goodbyes may not be easy or comfortable, but life sure is full of them. Join the Therapists Uncut crew as they discuss healthy goodbyes, record their last episode as a trio, and say goodbye to Jolene as she ends her chapter as co-host with Therapists Uncut.
In this episode we talk about:
Sometimes goodbyes are uncomfortable, awkward, confusing, or even painful. We each have our own individual responses to goodbyes and “endings” and we each have our own ways of dealing with them. For some, goodbyes are simple, for others they may be easier to do in writing, email, or text, and for other it’s just easier to avoid the confrontation of goodbyes altogether. How do you handle goodbyes?
With that said, Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa attempt to model a healthy goodbye as they reminisce and openly process their emotions and reactions to recording Jolene’s last episode as a Therapists Uncut co-host.
How to Say Goodbye
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Acknowledge and process the emotions, even the ones that don’t feel good (sadness, discomfort, fear, worry etc.)
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Pay tribute to the good memories
- See the value in any lessons learned
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Don’t avoid it
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When saying goodbye due to a transition and when circumstances allow, maintain the relationships that are important to you.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Are there “goodbyes” in your life that may potentially be unresolved? If so, reflect on what is keeping you from facing it.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
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Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
After watching The Social Dilemma, a documentary film released on Netflix in September 2020, the Therapists Uncut team found themselves in deep conversation about the intended and unintended impact of social media. In this episode, the Therapists Uncut Team explores the double-edge sword of social media including benefits, risks, and social, emotional, and psychological impacts on users of all ages.
Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa talk about their personal and professional experiences with social media and openly process their reactions to the technology, search engines, algorithms, and design of social media platforms and all the unintended effects on it’s users. Yes, there are benefits to sharing information and being connected online, but how close are we putting ourselves to the fire when considering the negative impacts of social media on our behaviors and overall mental health?
In this episode we talk about:
- The impact of social media on self-esteem in both youth and adults
- The behind-the-scenes technology in social media and search engines
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The technology of social media and the unintended psychological impacts on users and the mental health of users
- How to be a Critical Researcher
- What does the research say?
- How does social media and technology impact both our youth, but also adults
- How we can continuously reflect on the ethical component of technology
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Reflect on how technology plays a role on your life and if that’s the role you want to allow it to play.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
The Social Dilemma Website https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/
The Mental Health Dilemma https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/the-dilemma/
Social Media and Mental Health: Time for a Digital Detox https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-men/202002/social-media-and-mental-health-time-digital-detox
Social Psychologist Jonathon Haidt https://jonathanhaidt.com/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
To Get or Not to Get the F*** out of Dodge
Episode Show Notes
Thinking about leaving your job? We get it, we’ve all been there. Maybe you’re unhappy, stressed, or overworked. Maybe your job treats you phenomenally, you have great benefits, great work hours but, something’s missing. Choosing to stay at or leave your employment is never an easy decision. Here are a few tips on how to decide on your next steps and determine whether or not it’s time to “Get the F*** out of Dodge.”
In this episode we talk about:
When is time to Quit My Job?
If the thought of leaving your job has crossed your mind recently, it may be time to start evaluating whether or not it’s time to leave. Start with creating a Pros and Cons lists that outlines some of the below considerations.
Practical Factors to Consider when Thinking About Leaving Your Job
- Insurance and Health Benefits: What are your needs regarding insurance and other health benefits?
- Wages: What are your current expenses and what is your bottom line for a wage?
- Work Schedule: What work schedule is most beneficial for you (and your family?)
- Opportunity for promotion: Is this a career opportunity? Do you have opportunity to promote?
- Additional fringe benefits: Are extra benefits such as HSA/FSA accounts, gym memberships, or childcare important to you? Are they necessary?
- Opportunity for personal and professional development: Is there opportunity for you to grow personally and professionally through creative opportunities or training?
Secondary Factors to Consider when Thinking About Leaving Your Job
- Job Satisfaction: How fulfilling is your work on a personal level?
- Work Culture: Do you enjoy walking into work every day? Do you align with the company values, do they express these values in their actions? Do you feel acknowledged and appreciated?
- Commute Time: Is the commute time reasonable, if it feels excessive is it worth the tradeoff?
- Ability to maintain healthy work/life boundaries: Does your current position allow you and/or support you in having a life outside of work? Has your physical health declined as a result of ongoing work-related stress?
- Are your job responsibilities negatively impacting your personal or family relationships?
- How positive are your work relationships? If they are positive, can you still maintain these relationships if you leave your job? Do you value the relationship with your peers, team, and/or management?
Internal Factors to Consider when Thinking About Leaving Your Job
- Your sense of security and stability
- Your “loyalty” to a company. What does that mean to you?
- If I quit, am I failure? Or unreliable?
- How good are you with change? Is your fear of change keeping you somewhere you don’t want to be?
- Do you have passion that is not being fed through your current position?
- If you are considering self-employment or entrepreneurship, is fear or self-doubt keeping you from trying?
- Who are you? Has your profession now become your identity?
- Do you have people-pleasing tendencies and worry you will disappoint your team or management if you leave?
- Is there a pride factor that’s keeping you from leaving?
Signs it May be Time to Quit your Job?
- You feel underappreciated.
- You dread going to work.
- You enjoy being at work, but find yourself daydreaming about the “what-if’s”
- What if I had more time to (fill in the blank with your hobby/passion)
- What if I saved enough money to cover the start-up costs of my own business?
- What if I found a source of income that allowed me to be with my family more?
- What if I had a job where I made my own schedule?
- You feel unmotivated.
- You feel stuck, like being in your current job is not a choice.
- You feel exhausted.
- Your physical health and sleep are steadily declining.
- Your spouse/partner are worried about you.
Other Ways to Help You Decide if It’s time to quit your Job
- Create a pros and cons list.
- Talk to friends, family, or trusted peers to get an outside perspective.
- Evaluate your current needs (practical, secondary, and internal) and ask if this job is meeting those needs.
- Do some job searching and see if there are opportunities that catch your attention.
- Utilize your network and connections to help you explore other opportunities.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Take time to evaluate where you stand in your job by creating a Pros and Cons list to help you assess what’s working and what’s not working for you.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Top 10 Ways Our Thoughts Screw With Us
Episode Show Notes
In the therapy world, you’ll often hear about the “ancient brain”. It’s the idea that there’s a part of your brain hardwired to identify threats (or perceived threats) in your environment and protect itself. It’s natural for your brain to protect you by taking your thoughts to what you don’t want, don’t like, worst case scenarios and all the ways something can go wrong. It’s so common, in fact, that research based in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has graciously provided us with a list of the 10 most common cognitive distortions, or what we like to call the top 10 ways your thoughts screw with you. Join Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa as they walk you through how to recognize, name, and tackle these thinking errors.
In this episode we talk about:
What is CBT?
CBT is short for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy an evidenced-based method of talk therapy used to treat anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and other areas of mental health concern. It’s based on a cognitive (thought) model that identifies a link between our beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Basically, the concept that how we perceive a situation impacts our response more than the situation itself. Interesting. . . Very interesting, right?
What are Cognitive Distortions?
Cognitive Distortions were first proposed in 1976, by a psychologist named Aaron Beck. It’s an irrational thought response or habitual way of thinking that typically develops or evolves over time based on your experiences. They are thinking errors, thinking errors we all experience. If you’ve ever felt like your thoughts were screwing with you, you’ve likely experienced them, too. Don’t worry, this episode also covers a few tools to help you deal with these thinking errors in way that helps improve your responses and actions. For now, let’s get started with listing common cognitive distortions.
Top 10 Cognitive Distortions AKA Top 10 Ways our Thoughts Screw Us
- Catastrophizing: Going to the worst-case scenarios or seeing only the worst possible outcomes
- All-or-Nothing or Black and White thinking: When your thoughts take you to “always”, “never”, or “every”
- Personalization: The belief that you are responsible for events outside
- Overgeneralization: Making generalized interpretations from a single or few events/situations
- Emotional Reasoning: The idea that how I feel is who I am. Example: “I feel like a bad mom therefore, I must be a bad mom
- Disqualifying the Positive: Focusing only on the negative while ignoring the positive.
- Jumping to Conclusions: interpreting a situation with little evidence.
- Magnification and Minimization: Exaggerating or minimizing the significance of a situation.
- “Should” Statements
- Labeling: taking one characteristic of a person or self and applying it to the whole person
How to Deal with Cognitive Distortions
- Practice Self-Awareness by using things like journaling to help you notice and reframe these thought, then say the logical thought aloud
- Find someone you trust to help you challenge irrational thoughts and cognitive distortions as they see them come up. Watch your defense wall. Agree on how this conversation will go and be willing to accept this feedback.
- Use logic, logic helps you stay grounded in what you know to be true instead of living in what you think may be true.
Therapists Uncut Challenge:
Choose one of these distortions that you most identify with and commit to noticing, naming, and reframing it throughout your week.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
To learn more about Arron Beck, visit Beck Institute of Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Dealing with Shitty Bosses
Welcome to the Shitty Boss show! If you read this title and immediately have someone’s picture pop into your head and cringed a little, congratulations! Because, you have experienced dealing with a shitty boss. In this episode, the T-Uncut Crew talks about the kinds of things people can do or say that make them a shitty boss and how you can deal with it. Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa talk about it all from insensitive comments, the inability to be accountable, micro-managing, lack of competence and more!
Episode Show Notes
In this episode we talk about:
Why are we talking about shitty bosses today? Because they are everywhere! If you have ever entered the professional world as an employee or a volunteer, there is a high possibility you have experienced working under a shitty boss. If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky! In today’s episode the Therapists Uncut tease out:
What Defines a Shitty Boss?
- Insensitive or degrading comments
- Passive aggressive communication or behaviors
- Aggressive communication or behavior
- Inability to be accountable for actions or poor decision making
- Tendency to blame others
- Inability to attribute credit where is it due
- Possible questionable/unethical decisions or behaviors
- Micro-managing
- Hyper-controlling how tasks are completed
- Low competence
- Difficulty receiving constructive criticism
- Lack of humility and vulnerability
- Poor or minimal communication
- Unclear expectations
- Avoid tough conversations
How to Be a Great Boss
- Be authentic
- Be vulnerable
- Be accountable for your decisions
- Practice positive communication with your team
- Be honest
- Actively listen
- Reflect on your own behaviors and work toward improving them
- Lead by example
How to Manage your Work Environment when you have a Shitty Boss
- Practice coping skills, grounding, and self-regulation skills to help manage your emotional responses at work (example: mindfulness, deep breathing, walking, distraction).
- Set healthy boundaries. Decide what is okay with you and what is not okay with you at work.
- Document. Document. Documents your communication, events, and verbal communication in writing via email to assist with maintaining real time documentation of events.
- Assess how positive or even toxic the overall work environment is for you and decide how to move forward.
Listen to the full episode for real stories and how to deal with shitty bosses.
Therapists Uncut Challenge
Identify the shitty boss in your life or self-evaluate if YOU are the shitty boss and what you can do to improve. Yep, it just got real.
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:
The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy, and help you prioritize your mental health.
Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Are You Letting Self-Sabotage Interfere with Your Life?
Episode Show Notes
Brief Summary
The crew dives into everything self-sabotage including, what does self-sabotage look like, where does it comes from, and what you can do to keep it from interfering with your life and ongoing goals. From an outside perspective, some self-sabotage behaviors can appear obvious and even intentional. The truth is, these behaviors and thought patterns can often be unintentional and rooted in underlying experiences or beliefs.
In this episode we talk about:
What is Self-Sabotage?
Self-Sabotage can sometimes be perceived as an intentional action, thought, or behavior, that results in a negative impact or impairment in your daily life or end goals. The truth, self-sabotage behaviors can actually be unintentional and are often learned behaviors or habits that an individual may or may not be aware of. There are several contributing factors to self-sabotage including, but not limited to, unmet emotional needs, negative self-beliefs or past experiences.
Examples of Self-Sabotage Behaviors
Self-sabotage behaviors are behaviors or thought patterns that consistently interfere with someone’s desire to reach ongoing goals, changes, or improvements in their life. Self-Sabotage behaviors can look like
- Procrastination
- Self-medicating through excessive use of alcohol, sex, substances, sugar, food, shopping or other immediately gratifying activities
- Maintaining ongoing patterns of unhealthy relationships
- Blaming others
“Self-sabotaging is meeting some unmet need or fear of ours. We need to understand the need we are meeting with our self-sabotage actions or behaviors before we can go about seeking to cease the behavior.” – Nikki Young, LMFT
“What addictive things in your life are coming back to bite you in the ass? Because it could be a form of self-sabotage that you may or may not be aware of.” – Alyssa Najera, LCSW
Common Thoughts or Negative Beliefs Behind Self-Sabotage Behavior
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“You’re just going to leave me, too.”
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“The people who are supposed to love me the most don’t care, why should you?”
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“I am unwanted.”
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“I am unheard.”
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“I am broken.”
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“What if I fail?”
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“I’m not important.”
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“I am not worthy of succeeding.”
How To Stop Self-Sabotage
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Practice Self Awareness: Acknowledge and be accountable for your behaviors and be open to input from the ones that care about you most.
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Practice Self-reflection: Think about current or past goals and explore whether or not there’s a patterns and things that keep you from achieving these goals. Then, decide what you want to do about these patterns and behaviors.
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Seek advice or input form your friends and support network.
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Ask yourself who’s opinion you truly value and go to them for advice or guidance. Ask what they see or what they may be worried about. But, only do this if you’re ready to hear an honest answer.
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Find a therapist: Many self-sabotage behaviors are a result of unmet emotional needs or past experiences. If you’ve found that past attempts to stop this behavior haven’t worked, it may be time to find a therapist to help your work through whatever barrier are keeping you from reaching your goals.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
If you are resident of California, United States and are interested in therapy services from any one our co-hosts, see their bios below for more information on therapy services. If you are not a resident of California, please contact your primary care doctor for assistance in finding a therapist.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Brief Summary
Inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages, originally released in the 90’s, the crew dives into relationships and how we give and receive love. Opening up about their own marriages, Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa talk about the 5 Love Languages and other helpful tips that can help you reflect on your own relationship, reconnect with your partner, and help you Date your Mate!
In this episode we talk about:
This episode is inspired by Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Languages. Originally published in 1992, it is still a popular book on the topic of marriage, relationships, and communicating and receiving love. A commonly used and highly recommended tool in marital and couples therapy, the Five Love Languages helps couples better understand each other in a way that helps grow and strengthen their relationship (5lovelanguages.com, 2021).
What are the 5 Love Languages?
Words of Affirmation
Verbally receiving affirming, encouraging words and compliments to your partner.
Physical Touch
Frequently engaging in physical touch such as hand holding, massages, cuddling or sitting close.
Acts of Service
When your partner completes small acts or tasks for you to help ease your stress or burden
Receiving Gifts
Receiving small and thoughtful gifts from your partner, thoughtful and meaningful being key.
Quality Time
Spending quality time with your partner and receiving their undivided attention.
Communication in your Relationship
There is no one-fix-all tool to improve relationships, but being intentional and honest in your communication with your partner will be beneficial in your relationship. In addition to exploring Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages, also consider the below 3 tips.
- Identify and communicate your specific needs to your partner.
- Have open or even uncomfortable conversations with your partner about what your like and what you don’t like
- Be concrete and detailed, even consider providing examples of what they have done recently that you appreciated
Challenge to our Listeners
Use the information learned in this episode to talk to your partner about how they best receive love. Maybe even take the 5 Love Languages Quiz using the link below and talk about what works and does not work for you.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages® https://www.5lovelanguages.com
Take the 5 Love Languages Take the Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Tackling Insomnia
Brief Summary
You have a bedtime routine, take your supplements, use meditation apps, but you still can’t sleep! Tackling in insomnia can be a beast and even when you feel like you’re doing everything that can possibly be prescribed, it’s still doesn’t work. Learn what true Insomnia is and ways to help you cope.
In this episode we talk about:
- At what point does my lack of sleep become Insomnia?
- How insomnia can impair different parts of your life.
- What mental health and/or medical disorders might result in Insomnia or sleep related symptoms.
- How lifestyle, habits, or even nutrition impact sleep patterns.
- How to manage symptoms of Insomnia enough to help you maintain your day-to-day responsibilities.
“I have been blessed, and I say that sarcastically, with Insomnia for the last 20 years off and on. Luckily I have it kind of under control. . . I have three bedrooms and beds in all 3 rooms so I can shift rooms when I sleep!” – Jolene Daly on how to deal with Insomnia
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Chaplain Dave Williams Demystifies His Role With Law Enforcement and First Responders
Interview with Chaplain Dave Williams
Guest Bio
Being invited to serve alongside first responders in a pastoral role is not for every pastor, but it has been a part of David Williams’ ministry since 1987. Public safety chaplains are uniquely suited to serve the public in times of trauma and they are a unique level of support to first responders processing difficult calls, administrative stresses and public perceptions.
David has served as a senior chaplain in the Central Valley since 1997. He has been a trainer in Critical Incident Stress Management since 2005, a certified trainer with the International Conference of Police Chaplains to help others in providing peer support and chaplain services. He has been a Certified Crisis Chaplain with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress for many years.
After just a year as a chaplain, David found himself with the wife of a police officer, who had been shot in the line of duty. Sadly, the police officer died that evening. A year later, he was sitting alone with an officer who was just involved in an officer involved shooting; with pastoral training and intuition, David supported that officer through the months following. He later learned additional tools of support. So David’s work with people suffering from critical incident stress, a mental health crisis, chemical dependency, relationship struggles and administrative difficulties is a combination of hands on and
academic study. His desire is to help as many public responders to retire healthily as possible.
In this episode we talk about:
Chaplain Dave Williams has listeners on the edge of their seats with this engaging, informative, and educational interview. Chaplain Dave describes how he fell into his pastoral role with first responders and law enforcement in 1987 and to this day, continues to support and promote emotional health among first responders, law enforcement, and their families.
He lets us in on how his role varies from day to day and can look anything like being called to the scene of a suicide, homicide, or a child death to support the families and witnesses affected by the incident, to providing training, to supporting the officers and first responders several days or weeks post a traumatic incident.
Chaplain Dave also shares how trauma reactions and responses can show up in the day to day lives of law enforcement officers and first responders in the form of dependency issues, relationship issues, impaired sleep, hyper vigilance, hyper startle response and more. Which is why it is imperative law enforcement, and first responders learn how to manage stress in healthy ways to help them manage the emotional impact of the job and required shift work.
Listen to the full episode to learn more on:
- The role of Chaplain in law enforcement and first responder organizations
- What role faith can play in mental health
- Common reasons law enforcement or first responder may resist professional therapy
- First responder stress management
- The impact of trauma on law enforcement, first responders, and their families
- And advice for our listeners
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
International Critical Incident Stress Foundation
International Conference of Police Chaplains
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Let’s get 2021 started off right! Learn how to avoid the hype and fad of New Year’s resolutions and utilize preparation, commitment, mindset and other tools to help you not only set, but keep healthy habits all year long!
In this episode we talk about:
2020 was one hell of year, I think we can all agree, and so many people are looking forward to 2021 and that it will bring! While Jolene would much rather prefer a sneak preview...
“I want the sneak preview. I don’t believe the ball should drop until we all get to see the trailer!” - Jolene Daly on ringing in 2021
As we all would, we won't know what the new year will bring until it rolls in.
Why New Year’s Resolutions Suck
Now, for those who are ready to set those New Year’s resolutions, hang tight for this 26-minute episode on why many New Year’s resolutions fail including:
- Loss of motivation
- The setting of unrealistic or unreasonable goals (especially if you have the same goal every year but are doing nothing different to get you closer to it, yet expect different results)
- “All or Nothing” thinking
How to Create Sustainable Healthy Habits
Instead, learn tips on how to set resolutions (or goals) for the year that are actually attainable, and not just for the short term, but for the long run! Resolutions are great to get you motivated, but there are a few things that you can put in place to help you change, create, and sustain healthier long-term habits in the New Year.
Tip 1: Be realistic, avoid All or Nothing thinking or xero to sixty thinking
- Identify your baseline first, your starting line
- Set small, achievable goals that gradually work you toward your long term goal
Tip 2: Have an accountability partner to help keep each other on track
Tip 3: Use SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Reasonable, Time Based)
Tip 3: Commit to the smaller changes for a more sustainable outcome
“I will say that I am one that when I get an idea or set a goal, I tend to go balls to the wall and blow it. I go hard, then I hurt myself. Then, I have to recover!” - Nikki Young on past New Year's resolutions
Tip 4: Use your personality in terms of the introversion or extroversion scale to determine what can be a reinforcer. Is it socialization when you engage in this habit, or it independently completing an activity or habit in solitude (if you identify more as introvert).
Tip 5: Count your “baby steps” because this is PROGRESS, too! And celebrate them!
Tip 6: “Don’t Shit on Yourself.” Get yourself in the right mindset. Focus on what you have achieved, not what you didn’t do. Listen to what you need to listen to keep you in the right mindset. Focus on
Tip 7: Use Visualization or Vision board to help keep you on track
Tip 8: Reflect on why you are creating or changing these habits in the first place. What’s the purpose?
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
A Proven Plan for Financial Success | DaveRamsey.com
See How You Can Start Waking Up Everyday to Your Full Potential (miraclemorning.com)
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones: Clear, James: 9780735211292: Amazon.com: Books
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
5 Ways to Survive the Holidays
The holidays are a beautiful thing, but for many of us they can also be real stressful! Join the Therapists Uncut team for 5 ways to survive the holidays, including talk about traditions, personal boundaries, co-parenting during the Holidays, compromise, and perspective. Tune in for stories, laughter, and a little singing and dancing, as the crew is feeling festive for the Holidays!
In this episode we talk about:
The holidays are a beautiful thing, but for many of us they can also be real stressful! Join the Therapists Uncut team for 5 ways to survive the holidays, including talk about traditions, personal boundaries, co-parenting during the Holidays, compromise, and perspective. Tune in for stories, laughter, and a little singing and dancing, as the crew is feeling festive for the Holidays!
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Participate in or create new holiday traditions for your family and friends
- What are your family and cultural traditions?
- Decide what you do and don’t like about the holidays and decide what traditions you want to stop or what you want to continue.
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Identify what your personal boundaries are and follow through with them during the Holidays
- Avoid feeling “obligated” to attend or participate in anything you don’t want to. Create a pros and cons list and weigh out your options.
- If your decision is not to attend, learn how to say NO.
- "Do what you want and I don’t mean that in a selfish way. . . but, do what is healthy for you.” Nikki Young on putting boundaries in place during the Holidays
- “We are not taught to do this, but it’s so important to do in our adult life. . .When you put up boundaries. . .people are not going to celebrate them, [your family] may not have good things to say to you, but it’s not about them. Your boundaries are about YOU.” Alyssa Najera on implementing healthy boundaries around the Holidays
- In-Law Culture Shock: Jolene talks about changing traditions, alternating holiday schedules, adapting to new traditions with your partner’s family and all the changes that may come when you’re in a new relationship.
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Schedule ahead and be flexible when co-parenting during the Holidays
- Do your part to communicate ahead of time with your child’s parent to make arrangements as needed. Remember, focus on what is in your control and learn how to cope with what is out of your control.
- Be flexible with how things work out. Avoid hyper focusing on the details and keep focused on the overall
- Experience your own emotions and responses, but also recognize your kids hear and absorb everything they are exposed to. Be sure to experience your emotions in a way that does not vomit your personal opinions and emotions onto your children.
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Pause and Compromise, but in a way that does not overstep your personal boundaries
- Learn to work together. Also, remembering that you can only do your part. You cannot control the behavior of your ex but you can make attempts to improve communication.
- No matter how it plays out, at some point you will celebrate the holidays whether or not it is on the same day or not. In the end, it will be okay.
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Be kind and open to that fact that not everyone celebrates that same holidays or traditions
- Be kind. Be kind. Be kind.
- Avoid assuming everyone around you is celebrating the same thing, or even celebrating at all
- Learn more about the traditions of other by being open and curious, not judgmental
Recap Questions for our Listeners
- Think about what you love or hate around the holidays and decide what traditions you want to stop, pass down, or even create for your family?
- What is your favorite family tradition?
- The candy corn debate, who else can relate with Jolene and has a strong love for candy corn?
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
What You Need to Know About Teen Dating
The Therapists Uncut team spoke to teens and young adults on the topic of teen dating, from what defines teen dating, to teen dating lingo, to the do’s and don’ts for parents when your teen starts dating. No matter how “together” you have it, there are lots of emotions and thoughts that flood when your teen starts asking about dating and relationships. Listen to this episode for what these teens and young adults think you should know about teen dating.
Interview with Teenagers
With the consent of their parents/guardians, we asked several teenagers and young adults questions on teen dating to help inform you about what you need to know.. Ages of teens interviewed ranged from 16 to 19 years old . We asked them the following questions:
- What is considered dating these days?
- What do you wish your parents had done differently when you started dating?
- What is one embarrassing thing your parent did when you started dating?
- Tell us some dating lingo that we should be aware of as parents.
- As a young adult, what do you know now that you didn't know then about teen dating?
- What is the most important things for parents to know when their teen starts dating?
In this episode we talk about:
What your Teen Wants You to Know About Teen Dating
With the consent of their parents/guardians, we interviewed a handful of teens and young adults on the topic of teen dating. We would like to share with our listeners not only lessons learned in our personal experiences around teen dating, but the feedback received from the teens and young adults we interviewed on what they think you should know about teen dating.
What is Teen Dating?
“Dating from what I’ve seen or heard is like going to the movie or mall and just hanging out with the other person . . . mainly just spending time with each other.” – Teenage Girl
“Dating means that you and your ‘crush’ like each other and the Google definition of dating is stage of romance between two people who meet socially.” – Teenage Girl
“They’re trying to figure it out, too! Who’s not googling ‘dating’ when you’re 15? That’s hard!” – Alyssa Najera teens Googling the definition of “dating”
There are tons of resources at teens’ fingertips, how much of this information on dating do you want your kids to get from the internet? Probably not a whole lot, right? When you start noticing your teen take interest in their peers, whether they be the same sex or opposite sex (yes, avoid making the assumption your teen is only interested in the opposite sex), be sure to create a safe space that encourages your teen to come to you for information on dating, not Google.
Teen Dating Don’ts for Parents
“Protect Me from My Siblings!”
- I may be easy to let your young or older child “supervise” or “chaperone” interactions between your teen and their date/crush. But, be mindful of how that impacts your teen. Set appropriate boundaries expectations for siblings when your teen is spending time with their date/crush that teaches them to respect space and the privacy of your teen’s conversations this doesn’t mean abandon all supervision, just be mindful of who is doing the supervising.
Teen Dating Do’s for Parents:
Listen and Practice Self-Awareness and Self-Control
What do you do when your teen wants to talk about dating and relationships? Listen and practice self awareness and self control, including checking your body language. If your teen gets any hint of judgement, unnecessary exuberance that makes them uncomfortable, unsolicited advice, or feelings of being dismissed, they may shut down or avoid this conversation) in the future. Like Nikki says, “Fix the Face!”
“If you want the child to talk to you about boys going forward, we have to fix the face!” Nikki Young on coaching her wife on handling conversations about dating with their teen.
“Talk to Me about Dating and Relationships”
Your teens are learning. They don’t know how all of this dating stuff goes. They only know what they see from friends, on social media, on the internet, and, YES, what they learn from their parents. While they may find these talks intrusive initially, most of the teens and young adults we spoke to appreciated the uncomfortable conversations with their parents on dating and relationships. It kept them informed on what to expect, what their parents expected from them regarding decision making and responsibility, and allowed them to reflect on and incorporate their own values into these relationships and decisions.
Teen Dating Lingo
- “She left me on read.”
- “He left me on open.”
- “She ghosted me.”
- “We’re Talking.”
There seems to be a new language with every new generation, and this generation’s language is informed by social media, texting acronyms and emojis… emojis for days. Pay attention to how your teen speaks and don’t be afraid to ask questions about how they communicate with peers.
For more on teen dating, listen to the full episode here or wherever you get your podcasts!
Resources mentioned:
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information, access to all episodes, and episode show notes visit therpaistsuncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Interview with Dawn Kelley Part 2 - Rubber Bands and Parent Resiliency
Interview with Dawn Kelley
Dawn Kelley is a local mom and traveling enthusiast. A passion for people, a passion for storytelling, a passion for life…. an engaging speaker, a voracious laugh and a make you feel good personality…all descriptions people would use to identify her.
Dawn has a reputation for being a strong, empathetic leader. She volunteers for the Society for Human Resources Management and spent several years serving on the local Executive Board for Central Valley Human Resources Management Association. She is a certified HR Professional with 25+ years of experience and is the Human Resources Manager at the City of Modesto.
Dawn has a broad range of knowledge, specifically skilled in human resources management, leadership development, coaching/ supervision and recently became ordained to perform weddings!
She has a determination to meet people where they are. To help people be heard and to celebrate their accomplishments no matter the size…each one is taking a step in the right direction.
In September 2018, she was a featured TEDx speaker in the Central Valley speaking on Parental Resiliency.
She is the mom to two amazing, accomplished children, the wife to a wonderful man and a resilient woman who has a large group of trusted friends and confidants who have helped her on this journey.
To connect with Dawn, you can email her directly at Dawnkelleyhr@gmail.com
In this episode:
In last week’s episode, Dawn explored the grief, guilt, blame, and important lessons learned in supporting her child through his transgender journey. This week she focuses on Parent Resiliency, having the ability to acknowledge and forgive your poor choices, center yourself as a human and parent, and move forward with intention and perspective.
Parent Support when your Child Identifies as Transgender
Dawn discusses the importance of developing a support system and community to help support you as a parent. She shares her personal story of when her own either struggled with or even refused to acknowledge her child’s decision to transition genders. This can feel isolating or even anxiety provoking as a parent.
Dawn and the Therapists Uncut co-hosts talk about how supporting your child’s emotional wellbeing through transitioning is important, but also a lot to carry given you are often the “buffer” between your child and everyone else including family, school, and peers. Dawn discusses how the below resources helped support her as a parent
- Having friends or a community of individuals whom you can talk to
- Utilizing local resources
- Accessing individual and family therapy
- Keeping open communication with her child
Navigating Emotional Challenges with your Transgender Child
- As a parent, avoid dismissing concerning statements made by your child
- Create a safe place for your child to talk to you, and be sure to listen without judgment
- Recognize and acknowledge that gender identity is a nonlinear process and is, in fact, a process
- Feelings of suicide may arise, ask if your child has ever had these thoughts
- Connect with mental health resources including therapy and/or psychiatry
- Find the right therapist that fits best for you what you and/or your child needs
- Educate yourself, be open
Moving Forward
- Keep communication with your child
- Be forgiving of yourself
- Remember change is okay
- Educate yourself
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Unleash the power of resilience as you learn to recover and move forward | Dawn Tacker | TEDxModesto
Contact Dawn at Dawnkelleyhr@gmail.com
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit therpaistsuncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
“It Wasn’t About Me: Dawn Kelley on Supporting her Child Through Transitioning Part 1 of 2”
Interview with Dawn Kelley
Dawn Kelley is a local mom and traveling enthusiast. A passion for people, a passion for storytelling, a passion for life…. an engaging speaker, a voracious laugh and a make you feel good personality…all descriptions people would use to identify her.
Dawn has a reputation for being a strong, empathetic leader. She volunteers for the Society for Human Resources Management and spent several years serving on the local Executive Board for Central Valley Human Resources Management Association. She is a certified HR Professional with 25+ years of experience and is the Human Resources Manager at the City of Modesto.
Dawn has a broad range of knowledge, specifically skilled in human resources management, leadership development, coaching/ supervision and recently became ordained to perform weddings!
She has a determination to meet people where they are. To help people be heard and to celebrate their accomplishments no matter the size…each one is taking a step in the right direction.
In September 2018, she was a featured TEDx speaker in the Central Valley speaking on Parental Resiliency.
She is the mom to two amazing, accomplished children, the wife to a wonderful man and a resilient woman who has a large group of trusted friends and confidants who have helped her on this journey.
To connect with Dawn, you can email her directly at Dawnkelleyhr@gmail.com
In this episode:
Dawn reflects on parenting, expectations, and important lessons learned through supporting her child through his transgender journey. She discusses how she moved from blame, denial, and a fear of how this reflected on her, to recognizing that it wasn’t about her at all. Hear Dawn’s story as she shares the importance of validating, listening, and supporting the emotional health of your child through their individual journeys.
“In fact, this little girl [my daughter] just told me She was meant to be a He. . . And, my fist response was ‘Well, that’s not happening.’ ” – Dawn Kelley, TedX Modesto
It Wasn’t About Me
Dawn shares her initial reactions and fears when her daughter Morgan first shared, “She was meant to be a He.” And, in complete transparency, shares her first thought was, “It was about me.”
Dawn recognizes that when her then daughter first shared her desire to be male, Dawn’s initial response wasn’t about her child at all, but about herself and how it would affect her life. Dawn states,
“There’s no way.”
“My husband isn’t going to go for that, my friends are going to go for that.”
“What’s my Dad going to think?”
Dawn discusses her process of recognizing that her initial response to her child’s request was actually dismissive, and how she had to put herself aside in order to truly listen to and hear her child’s words.
Blame
Dawn opens up about her immediate need to blame others and media for, “Putting those kinds of shows on and making kids think its okay to change your gender.” The immediate desire to dismiss her child’s statements on transitioning and attribute it to a phase or fad. She discusses her individual process in understanding that this was not a phase or fad but, in fact, her child seeking her support in a highly emotional process. It took time to accept the many changes that came with supporting the emotional health of her child through his transitioning, but she ultimately recognized it was a process and that’s okay. Because ultimately,
“It didn’t matter what anybody thought, because that’s still my kid.” – Dawn Kelley
Renaming your Child Who is Transitioning Genders
Dawn then discusses the various things that emerged that she had not considered in this process of transitioning including the re-naming of her child, per her child’s request.
He [Parker] told me, “Morgan is tied to who I was before, and maybe who I didn’t ever feel comfortable in. . . Moving into a new name allows me to explore who I am.” – Dawn Kelley
The Emotional and Social Struggles of Supporting your Child through Gender and Sexuality Expression
Exploring your identity and finding yourself is not always easy as a child, teen, or young adult, especially among peers or within school settings. Dawn discusses the social and emotional challenges that emerged with her child including:
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Self-harming behaviors such as cutting
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Thoughts of suicide
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Hospitalization
Dawn reminds her child, “We’re in this together and we’re going to figure this out. This is not going to be something you’re going to face on our own.” – Dawn Kelley
Dawn also shares the importance of checking in with your child’s emotional wellbeing and offering support.
“Every teenager in the World whether they’re having any sexual gender expression, they’re keeping stuff from you. They’re keeping it from you because it’s painful, it’s embarrassing, there’s judgement. . . they don’t want to disappoint you. They don’t want you to know that someone teased them at school that day, they don’t want you to think they’re stupid, unlike, or don’t have friends or not popular. All of that is what’s in these teenagers’ minds. And they’re just trying to go to school and come home.” – Dawn Kelley
Gender Expectations
As parents, we immediately begin setting expectations on our children based on gender. Expectations on looks, academics, sports, clothing, and more. Dawn reminds us to be mindful of the gender expectations we communicate through they toys we buy, statements we make, or clothes we put on them, because ultimately our children are their own individuals.
Join us next Monday for part 2 of our interview with Dawn Kelley.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
Unleash the power of resilience as you learn to recover and move forward | Dawn Tacker | TEDxModesto
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit therpaistsuncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
How Sleeping and Eating Can Impact Your Mental Health
In this episode we talk about:
Sleep and eating habits are fundamental components to maintaining our overall physical and mental health. Yet, when life gets busy it’s easy to skip meals, eat crappy, or sacrifice sleep in order to get through work/life responsibility or meet deadlines. We tell ourselves it’s temporary. Then, before you know, what was temporary turns into habit. Understand how sleep and eating patterns impact your mental health and underlying issues that may be keeping you from health sleep and eating habits.
The Importance of Healthy Sleeping and Eating Habits
The Therapists Uncut team discusses the importance of sleeping and eating as a foundational component of maintaining your mental health. As a busy parent or working professional, It’s easy skip meals or un prioritize sleep to power through your work day or home life responsibilities. But, it’s not sustainable for your overall health nor is it encouraged, because your body needs nourishment through your sleep and through eating.
Sleep Recommendations
Total number of hours of sleep per night varies depending on the individual. On average, a person requires 6-9 hours per night to avoid feeling fatigued or lethargic. However, this depends on several factors including your sleep schedule and structure, eating habits, age, or even medical conditions.
For instance, due to the developmental and physical growth of a teenager required sleep can look mor like 9-11 hours of sleep per night.
If you are noticing your sleep is all over the place, whether your experiencing excessive sleep, broken sleep, or little to no sleep throughout the night consider how it’s been impacting you.
Negative Impacts of Poor Sleeping and Eating Patterns
- Irritable or withdrawn mood
- Disrupted appetite
- Impaired driving ability (aka driving on “autopilot”)
- Decreased performance at work
- Increase in irritability levels
- Impaired relationships
- Decrease in your immune system, getting sick more
- And in worst case scenarios, poor sleep and eating patterns can even lead to delusions or psychosis
“Sleep is 100% critical to our functioning.” – Nikki Young
Tips on How to Improve your Sleep and Eating Patterns
- Remove the TV from your room
- Establish a sleep schedule
- Eliminate screen time prior to going to sleep
- Assess your current sleep and eating habits and ask yourself how they are impacting you work performance, relationships, and day to day functioning
- Establish a bedtime routine
“You have to have a good night to regimen to help improve your sleep.” – Jolene Daly
Things to Consider when Creating a Bedtime Routine to Help Improve Sleep
- Brush your teeth
- Take your vitamins
- Read a book
- Read a magazine
- Avoid screen time
- Listening to music
- Avoid stimulants such as alcohol or caffeine
- Meditation
- Journal prior to bedtime
- Stretching
- Dim the lights prior to bedtime to get your body ready for
While these tips can be helpful in improving sleep patterns, disrupted sleep and eating can also be a result of an underlying medical or mental health issue.
Underlying Issues that May be Negatively Impacting Sleep and Eating Patterns
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Exposure to a traumatic event (recently or in the past)
- Flashbacks due to traumatic incident
- Racing thoughts
- Feeling on edge
- Medical issues
- Chronic pain
- Difficulty adjusting to major life changes or transitions
If you recognize that your disrupted sleep or eating habits might be due to an underlying medical or mental health issues, contact your primary care doctor or a local provider for more information on how you can treat it.
Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit therpaistsuncut.com.
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
What You Need To Know About Road Rage
Road rage is something many of us if not most of us struggle with from time to time. Whether you are the driver that’s tailgating, excessively honking, racing, or intimidating others as a result of the other driver’s actions or the passenger freaking out because of your driver’s actions, it’s a topic we can all relate to. Join us this week for what you need to know about road rage and few tips on how to stop brake checking and start checking yourself.
In this episode we talk about:
This week’s episode is all about Road Rage, what it looks like, tools to help you manage your road rage, and what you need to know.
Road rage may look like
- Excessive honking of the horn
- Strong use of expletives (aka insults and swearing)
- Brake checking
- Tailgating
- Sending passive aggressive, or plain aggressive messages through the use of your car
The Therapists Uncut team discusses how the Fight, Flight, or Freeze response may kick in when you are highly agitated by another driver’s actions. Road rage is typically expressed in the form of “fight” through passive aggressive or just plain aggressive actions. Or maybe you are a driver who experiences a heightened startle response, possible due to a previously related trauma or car accident.
“There are some mental health illnesses that have more of a startle response or that anxiety component fight, flight, freeze. Those individuals are going to have a harder time driving…trauma from previous car accidents.” – Jolene Daly
Stop brake checking and start checking yourself. How do you respond when someone is speeding passed you, cuts you off, or brake checks you? What’s your own personal response?” – Alyssa Najera
Increased startle response, anxiety, and or tension in the car are a common responses someone may experience after experiencing a car accident. Pay attention to if you are experiencing exaggerated responses while driving or being a passenger and determine whether or not there are things that you need to gain better awareness of and/or control over.
Jolene also talk about the injustice and personalization component that relates to road rage.
“What makes you think that you get to cut me off because you’re going someplace that’s maybe more important than me?” But, really, it’s not personal.
Or “Maybe they’re just complete assholes. But, even if they are that’s their problem, not mine.”- Alyssa Najera
Tools to help you manage your road rage
- Don’t Personalize: It’s not personal. The other driver does not who you are (in most scenarios) and is not out go get you personally.
- Take Deep Breaths: It really does help.
- Practice compassion and re-frames: You don’t know what’s going with the other driver. Practicing compassion can help you manage your own anger or feelings of injustice about that driver’s actions.
“There are a lot of people in society who are completely uncomfortable driving for a variety of reasons. . .That person might be having significant anxiety response to driving and sometime sit’s because of a previous motor vehicle accident and sometimes it’s a different from form of trauma.” – Nikki Young
What you need to know about Road Rage
- Evaluate your overall anger response: Is this road rage only specific to when you drive or are you or others noticing an increased anger response in other situations also?
- Assess your personal responses to the things that trigger you and ask yourself how well or not well you manage those responses
- If your response to road rage results in actions that put others in danger, check yourself and reflect on what needs to change.
Thanks for listening and see you next week on Therapists Uncut!
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Breast Cancer Awareness BONUS Episode: Warriors Against Cancer
In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month, we challenged our listeners to share their personal stories and help inspire others to continue the fight against cancer. Thank you, Sherry for submitting your video and reminding us of the importance of prevention and early detection. Tune in for tips on coping with the emotional impact of a cancer diagnosis, what to consider when you take on the role of caregiving, and the community of resources available.
Today’s Guest
In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month, we challenged our listeners to share your stories with cancer to help inspire others and continue the fight against cancer. We would like to thank Sherry for submitting her video and reminding us of the importance of prevention and early detection. Thank you Sherry for helping us launch this bonus breast cancer awareness episode! We commend your bravery and
In this episode we talk about:
- The benefits of prevention and early detection of cancer
- Managing the physical and emotional impact of a cancer diagnosis
- Coping with adjusting to new limitation in your day to day functioning as a result of the cancer diagnosis and/or treatment
- Being self aware and listening to your body to help prioritize your health and emotional needs
- The importance of regular examinations and talk with your doctor
Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa also talk about resources to help you when you have been diagnosed with cancer, as well resource for caregivers who are caring for a friends or family member.
- Remember, you are not alone
- Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor
- Utilize the resources around you whether they be massages, local support groups, expressive arts or whatever may be available
- Reach out to your supports and connect with your local resources and health care providers
- As a caregiver, take care of yourself and be mindful of over exerting yourself
Also, huge shout out to the community groups, tattoo artists, organizations, and health care teams supporting families navigating cancer diagnoses and treatment. Thank you!
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links:
https://chemocrew.com/
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
In debriefing the 2-part interview with Morgan Michele Brown on death, dying, and healing, the T-Uncut Team reminds us of things to consider when dealing with death. Understand common stages and responses to death including, depression, anger, bargaining, denial, and acceptance and tips on how to support someone else who may be grieving.
In this episode we talk about:
Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa discuss the common responses and stages that you may encounter when processing death or loss and remind us that grief is an individualized process. How you deal with the death or loss of someone or something important to you will very likely be different from
In our previous interview with Morgan, the Therapists Uncu team asked Morgan what she knows know that she wishes she would have known at the time her mother died, and Morgan responded
“That [grief] is a process.”
One common model that helps us better understand death and dying is the Kubler Ross 5 Stages of Grief. Someone who is grieving may experience these responses in no particular order.
- Denial: “This isn’t happening.”
- Anger: Anger at themselves or with others
- Bargaining: Feeling as though you would do anything to change it.
- Depression: Intense sadness, lack of motivation or feeling stuck
- Acceptance: While you may still feel sadness, you are able to accept that things will be okay again, in time.
It’s not uncommon to feel that out-of-body experience Morgan mentioned, almost feeling as though your barely functioning within a haze or cloud. Especially when experiencing all of the “Firsts”
- The first birthday
- The first anniversary
- The first time you complete tasks that your partner/friend usually completes
Understand that grieving a loss either to death or loss is process and it’s important to verbalize what you need or don’t need from your support. Remember, don’t compare your grief process to anyone else. This is your process. But, do recognize if and when you need to reach out to your support or connect with local resources to help your through this individualized process.
Now, what if you are someone who wants to know how to “show condolences” or how to support someone who is grieving? Consider these tips, but also remember everyone is different.
- Take food. While they may not feel hungry immediately, when they are ready to eat they will eat.
- Sit with your friend/family and let them cry. Silence is okay. Crying is okay.
- Ask, “What’s going on in your head” instead of “how are you?” This gives them the space to talk if they want, but also not talk.
- Use your words to remind them, “I’m here for you, whatever that is.”
- Ask, “What can I do for you” or “What needs to be done?”
- Don’t be offended if what you offer or say is not what they want in that moment. It’s not personal.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links:
Grief.com
Morganmichelebrown.com
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Morgan Michele Brown shares how the grief and anger following the sudden death of her mother in 2012, motivated a new curiosity about life and death, a desire to seek solutions and answers, and new ventures that now provide others with creative outlets for processing their own experiences with death and loss.
Interview with Morgan Michele Brown
Morgan Michele Brown is a writer, storyteller, photographer, and artist asking people to step into vulnerable spaces around connection, death, and the human experience. She’s been featured on KQED radio, the Women on the Road Podcast, and in Stories of Life-Changing Adventures on the Road and in the Wild, a book by She Explores. Her work has appeared in galleries and museums up and down the west coast of California including The California Academy of Sciences, The Museum of Art and History, and The Laundry. When she’s not making stuff she cares about, she’s probably covered in grease from working on her 1970 VW van, or is making photos with her medium format film camera. Either way, she thinks you should probably read her favorite book, William Faulkner’s As I Lay Dying.
You can find more on Morgan Brown at https://www.morganmichelebrown.com/ or follow her on IG https://www.instagram.com/morganmichelebrown/
In this episode we talk about:
Morgan describes the feeling of going from being “deep in the grieving” to being on a plane from Paris to China and experiencing a “light switch” that helped her understand “death is just a human experience” that we all experience at some point.
“Up until that time, it was all about me. All about my grief. My sadness. the death of my mom. Instead of looking outward and seeing, ‘oh, every single person experiences and will experience this.’ “ – Morgan Brown on death
How Morgan’s Creative Outlets Aided in the Grief and Healing Process
With the support of a friend, Morgan encountered a desire to provide opportunity for people to conversations about death, thus was born one of many project “Death Dialogue.” The purpose of Death Dialogue was to provide a dedicated space to start talking about death and dying.
Morgan also created “Conversations I Wish I had”, a pop-up phone booth where people have the opportunity to step inside a phone booth and have a conversation with someone they never got to have with someone who is no longer in their lives.
Morgan shares her experience of
- How “Conversations I Wish I Had” evolved and the many places the infamous phone booth has since traveled to
- What inspired Morgan’s desire to create something that allowed people to have closure around the loss of someone or something in important
- Creating “A Different Kind of Mother’s Day”, what inspired this project and who it is intended help
“Mother’s Day sucks. There are so many people are left out of this cookie cutter Hallmark narrative of mother’s day, so what do we do for them?” – Morgan on A Different Kind of Mother’s Day
Morgan talks about how her own experience with death and anger sparked a genuine curiosity about connections, death, and dying. A curiosity that resulted in an ever evolving and humbling journey of creating outlets for others to feel heard, understood, and potentially experience closure around their personal experiences with death and grief.
“I love therapy. I’ve been in it since my mom dies. I can’t imagine my life without it. . . But I can’t say therapy is for everyone. And so all of my projects are saying, ‘I love therapy and therapy i’s not the only way and what other ways can we process our grief and find closure and healing in this process.” – Morgan on processing grief
Losing someone or something important to death or for any other reason is difficult and typically not something people choose to talk about. Morgan reminds us that despite the discomfort, death is a part of our human experience and it’s okay to talk about it and deal with it in whatever way makes most since for you. She reminds us that grief is very much an individual process and what “works for me may not work for you.” Morgan’s experience with death combined with her creativity and desire to help others in their personal grief and healing journeys, has resulted in several positive resources for someone who may struggling with their own grief.
Be sure to check out these resources in the links below.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:
https://www.morganmichelebrown.com/
https://www.deathdialogue.com/
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
Instagram @therapistsuncut
Facebook @therapistsuncut
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
Morgan Brown reminds us the topic of Death and Dying is so much of an unspoken topic, that when the time comes that someone close to you does die it’s a blurry road to navigate. Not only for you as the one who “lost” someone important, but also for the people who are genuinely trying to support you through gestures or comments, but are failing miserably and not helping at all. In part 1 of 2 of this interview, Morgan shares her individual grief process that followed the sudden death of her mom in 2012.
Interview with Morgan Michele Brown
Morgan Michele Brown is a writer, storyteller, photographer, and artist asking people to step into vulnerable spaces around connection, death, and the human experience. She’s been featured on KQED radio, the Women on the Road Podcast, and in Stories of Life-Changing Adventures on the Road and in the Wild, a book by She Explores. Her work has appeared in galleries and museums up and down the west coast of California including The California Academy of Sciences, The Museum of Art and History, and The Laundry. When she’s not making stuff she cares about, she’s probably covered in grease from working on her 1970 VW van, or is making photos with her medium format film camera. Either way, she thinks you should probably read her favorite book, William Faulkner’s As I Lay Dying.
You can find more on Morgan Brown at https://www.morganmichelebrown.com/ or follow her on IG https://www.instagram.com/morganmichelebrown/
In this episode we talk about:
Death is an uncomfortable conversation for many people, but Morgan Brown believes conversations about death are actually crucial conversations to have. Morgan walks us through the months following the sudden death of her Mom in 2012. Mom was killed by a truck driver. Morgan was 22.
“When you’re 22 you know your mom can die, but you don’t really think it’s going to happen to you.” – Morgan
Morgan shares the various emotions that flooded after the death of her mom and described all of the ways people tried to be supportive, but were unable to understand that what they were offering was not what she needed. In fact, sometimes it simply added to her feelings of anger and frustration.
“Horrific things that people say to you after [someone dies]” that are “truly offensive.”
- “They’re in a better place.”
- “Don’t be mad at God.”
- “You really should just pray about it.”
- “How are you?”
“I don’t want to hear ‘how are you.’ I had a roommate at the time who is still a really close friend and she would say, ‘What are you thinking about?’ And that was always such a better intro to getting inside of my mind if I wanted to share what was in there, instead of saying, ‘How are you?’ Because I don’t know how I am.” – Morgan Brown
Morgan also discussed the professional resources that were available to her including a grief support group and professional therapy. But then, she also talks about the barriers that keep people from getting therapy and the ones that created obstacles for her as well. One barrier being how difficult it was to function “when you could barely just scrape yourself off the floor.” Another being the lack of energy to research and find a therapist in your area. Gradually, Morgan was able to overcome these obstacles and shares how therapy played a role in her healing process.
“I knew if I were to be honest with myself, I needed support. And support came from family and friends, but I needed something more than just someone to be my friend. I needed help.” – Morgan on Seeking Therapy
Morgan and the Therapists Uncut group remind listeners that the grief process is individual and what works for one person may not work for others, but it is a process that many, if not all of us, will experience. And when it happens, allow yourself to grieve in whatever way that makes sense for you, but also be open to recognizing when you may need “professional help” in your healing process.
Join us next week for part 2 of our interview with Morgan as she shares how the grief and anger that followed the sudden death of her mother in 2012 motivated a new curiosity about life and death, a desire to seek solutions and answers, and new ventures that now provide others with outlets for processing their own experiences with death and loss.
Resources mentioned:
We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links:
https://www.morganmichelebrown.com/
Who we are:
Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don't worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at https://catalystcounselinginc.com/
Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene's punchlines. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at https://smalltowncounselingca.com/ or https://alyssanajera.com/ .
Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years. She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You'll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at https://www.dalymft.com/ .
Disclaimer:
Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider. Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!
Social Media Links
https://www.instagram.com/therapistsuncut/
https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=therapists%20uncut/
Credits:
Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.
Voice Over by Alexia Gloria
It’s not uncommon to occasionally “vomit” our own bad mood onto others, but just how are you supposed to avoid this? Our moods are ever changing, but despite whatever mood we may be in we are in we are each responsible for how we choose to respond to our feelings. The T-Uncut co-hosts share their rules of engagement on how not to be an a**hole when dealing with a bad mood.
Learn tips on how to recognize patterns in what triggers you, how to be assertive without making ahole moves, and how to be controlled when responding to the aholes in your life.
Summary
Maybe you just got bad news, walked away from a heated argument, spent 3 hours in traffic. Maybe it doesn’t even feel like there’s a rhyme or reason as to why your mood feels like crap, but when it does show up, how well are you handling it?
Nikki Young, Jolene Daly, and Alyssa Najera share their personal tips on how not be an asshole when you’re dealing with a bad mood.
“I have to acknowledge, at times, I am the asshole. . .” Jolene Daly
Examples of Asshole moves
- Getting crabby with a waitress or waiter in a restaurant
- When something’s not going right and you attribute to the person in front of you (AKA taking it out on someone else).
- Letting personal stuff coming our at work with your co-worker or in your customer service
Let’s be honest. Most of us probably fall into either the (1) I’m typically the ahole or (2) I’m typically the one dealing with aholes. Our moods are ever changing, but despite whatever mood we may be in, we are each responsible for how we choose to respond to our feelings.
How not to be an A**hole 101
- Practice self awareness and be aware of your triggers: What kind situations and/or personalities typically result in you feeling upset or annoyed
- Notice what other important people in your life would say about how you control your emotions
- Be open to listening to feedback
“Today is about challenging yourself in noticing what patterns do you notice in what ticks you off and asking yourself how you usually respond to those patterns .. and if it’s something that works, Great! But if it’s something that’s not working and you’re kind of the asshole in the group, what do you want to do about it?” – Alyssa Najera
“It’s okay to be angry. It’s Okay to be irritable. It’s okay to be off. IT’s okay to have that mood . . . but let’s just look at how we handle ourselves.” – Nikki Young
Consider how your behaviors and emotional responses are impacting those around you and especially those who are important to you.
Tips on ways to avoid being an asshole
- Remembering, “I have 100% control over my behaviors when someone else is communicating with me in a poor way. I don’t then in turn get to say, ‘well, I’m going to treat you look crap because you’re treating me like crap.’ ” – Jolene Daly
- You are the only one responsible for how you feel, choose how you’re going to respond.
- Don’t take other people’s behaviors personally.
- Remember to see the human being in front of you.
- When you mess up, be accountable for your behavior and APOLOGIZE.
- Take an adult time-out and communicate how long you need
- Use a form of Non-Violent Communication
- Step 1: State the observable fact.
- Step 2: State how I feel.
- Step 3. State what I need or reasonable request.
- If you have poor communication habits, break them and make a new habit by trying “over and over and over again.”
Useful Links
https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/
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Adjusting to Distance Learning has been one hell of job for most families. With the added layers of complexities and barriers, it’s easy to hyper-focus on things that, in the long run, don’t really matter. Hear the struggles but also solutions to how to really use this time to teach your kids values and lessons that will last a lifetime, not just the quarter or semester.
From the health pandemic to civil unrest to politics, it seems like no matter where we turn there are endless opportunities to have uncomfortable, but important conversations with our kids. Tune in for tips on how to talk to your kids about these difficult issues including how to practice self-awareness, how to decide if your child is “old enough”, being intentional about reflecting your values through your actions, and creating safe space for your kids to have a voice.
For someone who is a survivor of a friend or family member who suicided, the words “Suicide Prevention” and “Know the Signs” don’t always bring feelings of hope or comfort. Rather, they often result in a feeling of guilt, sadness, self-blame, or even anger. Through a letter, one brave individual enlightened the Therapist Uncut co-hosts on how the words “suicide prevention” can hurt more than it helps.
Managing stress and competing priorities can feel impossible, at times. Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa share tips that work for them and explore different styles that may help you on your personal journey of getting your sh*t together.
We all come from our own individual experiences and sometimes all you want is for people to listen - without accusation, without advice, without judgement. However, if you’ve ever chosen to share your individual experiences on social media, you’ve likely fallen victim to the complete opposite. Co-host Nikki Young chooses to open up on social media to speak to her personal story of how recent events have impacted her. Hear about the response she got and the goal behind this move.
Putting yourself out there in any unknown situation is terrifying, but if you handle the pressure in the Scared Sh!tless Zone just enough to make it through and succeed, you’re golden. The group gets real about fears and insecurities that hit hard when releasing this Podcast, share how they pushed through, and offer tips on how to manage your own fears that are keeping you from taking that leap into the next big thing.
The group goes deep into signs of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), depression, and suicide as they reflect on the most recent interview with Officer Shaw on his personal experience with PTSD and first responder mental health. When we experience something scary, it can sometimes turn into nightmares, flashbacks, increased anxiety or even PTSD. Join the conversation as a group of off-the-clock therapists discuss common trauma responses, signs of depression, the risk of suicide, and resources that can help.
Officer Michael Shaw experienced Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a result of losing his best friend and fellow law enforcement officer to suicide. In part 2 of this interview, Officer Shaw discusses the importance of seeking support despite the stigma surrounding mental health, because there is “life after PTSD.” He also shares how he plans to use his personal experience to increase awareness on First Responder Mental Health and encourage others through his new venture “Vested Purpose Presentations.”
Connect with Michael:
vestedpurposepresentations@gmail.com
Michael Shaw shares his personal story of how the loss of his best friend to suicide had a long lasting impact on his personal and professional life. Matt was not only Officer Shaw’s best friend and roommate, but also a Deputy Sheriff. In this interview Officer Shaw recalls the night of Matt’s suicide in their home and explains how this experience ultimately resulted in developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Tune in for Part 2 of this interview to learn how Officer Shaw hopes to use both Matt’s and his story to positively impact others both in and outside the law enforcement profession.
Connect with Michael:
vestedpurposepresentations@gmail.com
Come one, come all to the Sh!t Show 2020! Or is it? 2020 has brought an array of interesting, to say the least, predicaments, conversations, and just plain confusion. It feels like we just keep rolling with the punches. Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa share moments of humanity and positivity that they have witnessed this year, discuss learned lessons, and encourage you to be intentional about how you choose to end 2020.
A trauma response can result from exposure to any scary or distressing situation. It can show up in the form of high reactivity, bad dreams, upsetting thoughts or memories, difficulty concentrating, or difficulty sleeping. Now, while the word “trauma” is often associated with things like war, disaster or abuse, trauma responses can also result from other experiences like bullying, having a critical caregiver, generational trauma, or even learning something traumatic happened to someone else. Learn about Fight or Flight and how things like sleep, relationships and communication can be impacted when trauma comes to visit. Also learn how practicing self-awareness and healthy coping skills can help manage these responses.
A conversation is a two-way street, despite whether or not you share the same perspectives. However, disagreements and differing views sometimes put us at high risk of making assumptions and placing judgement. Emotions can run high, defense walls go up, and our own reactions can make it very difficult for us to both listen and voice our opinions or needs in way everyone feels heard. Join Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa as they talk through tips to help you navigate difficult conversations.
Despite feeling like “Rona is splitting the Country,” Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa explore the power of both the individual and community during not only the stressful times, but at all times. They discuss the importance of engaging in dialogue with respect, rather than accusation, judgement, or assumption, and touch on the incredible moments of generosity, kindness, and selflessness that positively contribute to community in an age of physical distancing.
Dealing with stress can be a normal part of life, but sometimes it sneaks up in ways we simply refuse to acknowledge, all the while convincing ourselves we are fine. Therapists Uncut explores the not so subtle ways stress can creep up and negatively impact our lives through sharing personal experiences from the 2020 statewide Shelter-In-Place order. They discuss the importance of using self-care and healthy habits to cope with stress and adjust to change.
Daily habits and routines are a way of coping and dealing with life events and it is an important part of managing your mental health. T-Uncut discusses the various ways mental health has popped up in everyday conversations for many, including coping with and adjusting to COVID. It also just so happens that Mental Health Awareness Month falls right in the middle of a statewide shelter in place order, creating the perfect opportunity to highlight the importance of self-awareness and mental health.
Nikki, Jolene and Alyssa share how their personal and professional experiences brought them together several years ago as therapists in training, and again years later the road for T-Uncut. From education to work history, with a few squirrel moments because we know Nikki struggles with staying on topic, learn all about your co-hosts in today’s episode. If you feel like you already know our co-hosts, please feel free to skip to the next episode.
Why, yes! Contrary to popular belief, therapists are people too. Therapists are not scary or judgmental. They are passionate about their profession, but also love to make time for hobbies, laughing, and having lives outside of their office. They are, however, very comfortable with talking about uncomfortable and hard topics because well, that’s a big part of their day job. T-Uncut debunks a few common misconceptions about therapists and help us all check in with our personal perceptions of therapy.
Welcome to the Therapists Uncut Podcast, where off-the clock therapists who happen to be friends share their uncensored thoughts about real life.
Join us weekly as we share inspirational stories, good laughs, casual and, at times, uncomfortable conversations, and real talk with friends who happen to be therapists.
Please welcome your co-hosts, Nikki Young, Jolene Daly, and Alyssa Najera
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