Relationships Let's Talk About It!: Recent Episodes
Pripo Teplitsky
Hosted by Pripo Teplitsky LCMHC , a psychotherapist specializing in relationships issues. This podcast uses guest conversations and solocasts to help people forge the awareness and skills to better their relationships and thrive!
Emma Olyff is passionate about artistry, personal development, and spiritual practices. Eight years ago, she founded Emwa Jewelry, a high-end brand where she creates collections, custom designs, and leads workshops. Alongside her work as a jewelry artist, she has also become a business coach. In both fields, she weaves together embodiment, practical tools, and spiritual wisdom—offering a grounded, holistic approach to creation and growth. I am so so grateful to have her in my life as my Daughter-in-love.
In this episode, Emma and I have a conversation about emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) in relationships refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own emotions while also being attuned to and empathetic toward a partner's feelings. It’s a critical factor in building and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships. Some of the key factors of emotional intelligence that we discuss are self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, motivation, trust, and safety, to name a few.
- Emotional Attunement
- Emotional Regulation
- HeartShare: Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
Connect with Emma Olyff:
- Emwa Jewelry on Instagram
- Emwajewelry.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about how you get what you expect in relationships. Expectations in relationships are a double-edged sword because they can both guide and undermine connection. On one hand, clear expectations set standards for respect, communication, and mutual effort, creating a framework for trust and stability. For example, expecting honesty or support fosters accountability and helps partners align their actions. On the other hand, unrealistic or unspoken expectations can breed resentment and misunderstanding. I emphasize how having positive expectations of your partner and relationship is actually a good thing!
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
Managing Expectations in Relationships
HeartShare: Expressing Needs
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations, and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about mind reading. Mind reading is a cognitive distortion where individuals believe they can accurately guess or know what others are thinking or feeling without direct communication. In relationships, this often involves making assumptions about a partner's thoughts, feelings, or intentions based on minimal or ambiguous cues. Attunement is different than mind reading, which we elaborate on.
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Emotional Attunement
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops, and she co-facilitates couples retreats and workshops with me.
Not losing yourself in a relationship is about maintaining your autonomy, self-worth, and unique identity while building a shared life with someone. It’s the art of “we” without letting the “me” fade away. Staying true to yourself ensures you remain a whole, fulfilled person, which ultimately strengthens the relationship by fostering mutual respect and authenticity.
Rainbow’s upcoming workshops:
https://urlight.org/events/world-labyrinth-event-walking-and-toning-peace-meditation-with-rainbow-teplitsky/
https://urlight.org/events/toning-and-drumming-our-prayers-with-yvonne-rainbow-teplitsky-and-janice-doochin/
Related Podcasts:
Couples Appreciation
Feeling Seen and Heard
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about asking for what we want and need in our relationships. It can be tricky, but it’s about clear communication and mutual respect. It’s also about building a dynamic where both of you feel safe, heard, and willing to stretch for each other. The deep wants always have a “root,” and it is very good to identify it. So, what’s the toughest thing you’ve held back from asking?
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
HeartShare: Expressing Needs
Asking for Help
Shedding People Pleasing into Authentic Relationships
People Pleasing
Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity
Encourage Your Partner’s “Deeper” Authenticity Part 2
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric life coach, mother, natural builder, hairdresser, and conflict mediator in her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender, and class differences. She enjoys supporting herself and others in embodied resilience and everyday courage.
In this episode, Mana and I have a conversation about radical unification as a way to heal the political divide in the country and the world. How do we have curiosity and interest for those we disagree with on issues instead of contempt, anger, or outright canceling others views and opinions? We discuss that radical unification is part of our spiritual path.
Related podcasts with Mana:
- The Householder’s Path: Sacred Practice for Everyday Life
- Women Working in Male Dominated Jobs
- Exploring Our Racial Biases
Connect with Mana:
www.mana-v-mcleod.com
Instagram: @tantramom
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about taking accountability and admit when we are wrong. We discuss what blocks people from doing that, what are common challenges to do so and also the flip side of what is the benefit and payoff. Shame and self-judgement are major blockages that get in the way of this accountability as well the stigma of “being wrong”.
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about the different types of problems or issues that come up in our relationships: perpetual (or unresolvable) vs. solvable ones. The key to relationship success is not eliminating perpetual problems (which is impossible), but rather learning to navigate them with respect and humor while effectively resolving the ones that can be solved. Healthy couples recognize which category their conflicts fall into and approach them accordingly.
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
The Goal of Healthy Conflict
Managing Conflicts in Partnerships
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he’s funny.
In this episode, Derek and I have a conversation about the loops or patterns in our lives. Patterns and loops in our lives often repeat without us realizing it, influencing our behavior, habits, and decision-making processes. These patterns can be both helpful and unhelpful, shaping our daily experiences and overall existence. Identifying and reflecting on these loops can help us take proactive steps to shape our destiny and break free from unproductive patterns.
Derek Rutter contact info:
Website: onebreathcounseling.net
Email: onebreathcounseling@gmail.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about revitalizing your romantic relationship. Many relationships become stale when not nurtured and paid attention to. Revitalizing a relationship refers to the process of injecting new energy, passion, and connection into a stagnant or declining partnership. Corey and I discuss how we bring that energy into our relationships and the tips we give people in our cousneling practice.
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about the ways stubbornness shows up in our relationships and how detrimental it can be to the flow of connection and harmony. Stubbornness can indeed poison relationships by creating a toxic environment where one or both partners feel the need to always be right, leading to conflicts and a lack of mutual respect. In a relationship, stubbornness can manifest as an inability to admit when one is wrong or to compromise, which can escalate minor issues into major conflicts.
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
Shedding People Pleasing into Authentic Relationships
People Pleasing
HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Lisa Mazzonetto, LCMHC, LCAS is a lifelong student of exploring relationships, primarily the relationship to self through various lenses. She is a mental health, trauma, and addiction therapist who owns her own private practice in Asheville. Lisa works with people to help change their relationship to self and their past through self compassion, self love and empowerment through changing their narrative to change their core beliefs. She is a Mom to an incredible teenager, a dedicated yogi, fierce advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, and loves most outdoor activities.
In this episode, Lisa and I have a conversation about we can’t change our past but we can change our relationship to it. First we have to accept our past in order to change our relationship to it. It takes healing and everybody’s journey looks different. We can’t change people in our lives but we can change how we relate to them. We can show up for who we are now and how we want to show up and not be tied to who we were when we once related to them.
Lisa Mazzonetto contact info:
Website: www.lisamazzonetto.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Cea (pronounced like "seeya soon") Rubin White is ever-curious about the human experience and healing. She specializes in body-centered mental health therapy, CranioSacral Therapy, and therapeutic movement. Her licenses and certifications reflect her passions and purpose; she is an LCSWA, MSW, LMBT, RYT-500.
In this episode, Cea and I have a conversation about the transitions and turning points we may experience throughout our lives. Transitions and turning points are pivotal moments in our lives that shape our personal growth, relationships, and career paths. These events can be both predictable and unpredictable, and they often involve significant changes in our circumstances, emotions, and attitudes.
Cea Rubin White contact info:
Website: www.SomaSpeaks.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about the ways we hide our true selves in our relationships. Many of us put on a mask in how we relate to people. We sometimes do not fully show our authentic selves and we “hide”. I explore the reasons why we may do this and ways to overcome.
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
Shedding People Pleasing into Authentic Relationships
People Pleasing
Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity
Encourage Your Partner’s “Depper” Authenticity Part 2
HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric Life Coach, mother, natural builder, hair-dresser and conflict mediator at her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender and class differences. She enjoys supporting herself and others in embodied resilience and everyday courage.
In this episode, Mana and I have a conversation about the challenge to follow through on our internal truth and intuition to make the choices and decisions that out best for our lives.
Related podcasts with Mana:
- The Householder’s Path: Sacred Practice for Everyday Life
- Women Working in Male Dominated Jobs
- Exploring Our Racial Biases
- Healthy Boundaries
Mana’s contact info:
Website: www.mana-v-mcleod.com
Email: mana.vermeulen.mcleod@gmail.com
Instagram: @tantramom
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy communication tools. Most of us didn’t learn healthy ways of communicating and resolving conflict in our families. Some families never talk about problems, while others might be explosive. We bring these styles into our relationships thinking they are normal and then feel sad and angry when they engender a negative response. Coret and I share what tools use in our personal relationships as well as those that we help guide our clients.
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on X and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
In this solocast I talk about my recent experience and observations during Hurricane Helene’s devastation that hit Western North Carolina and the Southeast. For those of you not local, Hurricane Helene swept through the Appalachian mountains, bringing two days of relentless rain (32 inches at my house) and strong winds. The storm saturated the earth, causing historic flooding and leaving unimaginable damage and devastation in its wake. Since September 29th, the destruction of our community has left many devasted with unimaginable loss.
In the wake of this tragedy, there was and is beauty. The beauty of communities far and wide coming to aid and help one another. It has been so heartwarming to see humans helping other humans so selflessly. It solidified my deep belief in creating and fostering good, close, and caring relationships within our communities and neighborhoods. We need to have eachothers' back!
If you are moved to help by donating to the recovery here are a few organizations:
Aerial Recovery
World Central Kitchen
Beloved Asheville
Samaritan's Purse
First person local account of the hurricane
Local radio interview a few miles from my house
Fly over video Chimney Rock, NC
Video from a few miles from my house
4 minute gratitude-guided meditation that keeps me sane
A Grateful Day with Brother David Steindl-Rast
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Dawn Dominguez a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is the founder, supervisor, and director of Windows of Hope Counseling Centers, offering services online worldwide, and in person in both Palm Desert and Long Beach, California. With a background as an instructor at Chapman University, Brandman University, and UMASS Global University, Dawn is currently teaching through Windows Of Hope as a Continuing Education Provider and Imago Couples Workshop Presenter. She is certified in Imago Relationship Therapy and Encountered Couples Therapy. Dawn is currently training with Dr. Gabor Mate practicing Compassionate Inquiry Counseling. With this training, Dawn offers an eclectic approach to both her therapy sessions and in her work as an Imago Workshop Presenter for couples.
In this conversation Dawn and I talk about the challenges and rewards of Blended Families. We share our own personal experiences as well as our professional guidance for families navigating this terrain. Dawn offers some beneficial tools for parents to focus on in order to have more success in the configuration of their relationships with all members of their blended families.
Connect with Dawn Dominquez
website: www.windowsofhopecounseling.org
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Sound Production by Matt Carlson
Thank you all for listening and journeying with me these past six years!
In this episode my wife, Rainbow and I talk about how doing this podcast has affected our relationship over the last six years. We discuss ways that we have grown, been challenged and worked together in this project. We also talk about how compatibility is navigated in our relationship.
Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
Related Podcasts:
Couples Appreciation
Feeling Seen and Heard
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
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Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestalt Institute in Asheville.
In this episode, Jared and I have a conversation about the challenges men face in having healthy relationships. We talk about how men can save relationships by learning vulnerability and that vulnerability is a great strength. We point out that many men experience intense emotions but, lack the training and support to make sense of those feelings. Men deserve to be seen, and their emotions validated, without their masculinity being called into question.
Connect with Jared Hinton:
- Jaredhinton.org
- Email:jaredhintonpsychotherapy@gmail.com
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Brandon Greenstein is a partner and father and long-time member and resident of Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC). He is currently practicing Somatic Experiencing therapy and will be entering the final year of the SE professional training program. Brandon is also the owner of Integrated Ecological Solutions; consulting and coaching on sustainable land use and development and all aspects of building, growing and personal efficiency.
In this conversation Brandon and I talk about expectations in relationships and how we manage them. Effective relationships are built on realistic and communicated expectations. Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment, frustration, and even relationship demise.
Connect with Brandon Greenstein:
- Email: IESrenewables@gmail.com
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Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric Life Coach, mother, natural builder, hair-dresser and conflict mediator at her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender and class differences. She enjoys supporting herself and others in embodied resilience and everyday courage.
In this episode, Mana and I have a conversation about healthy boundaries. The importance to know our selves in order to understand our boundaries and these boundaries change as we continue to understand who we are in relationship to others and the world.
Related podcasts with Mana:
- The Householder’s Path: Sacred Practice for Everyday Life
- Women Working in Male Dominated Jobs
- Exploring Our Racial Biases
Mana’s contact info:
Website: www.mana-v-mcleod.com
Email: mana.vermeulen.mcleod@gmail.com
Instagram @tantramom
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In this solocast I talk about the benefits of approaching and taking with strangers. We have been programmed to believe taking to strangers is dangerous. My experience though tells me that the wide majority of my interactions with strangers are positive and growth orientating. I believe it builds trust, intuition, communication skills as well a feeling of belonging to the greater community of humans.
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Taking a Risk With Strangers: Don’t Suffer with Just ChitChat
HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of focusing on how you want to respond instead of focusing on other people’s reactions, responses, or behaviors. We have no control over changing others'; we only have control and choice over how we respond to others. Our relationship with ourselves is reflected in this “discipline”.
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HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
Compromising in a Relationship
HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships
How to Have the Partner You Most Want to Have
Micro-Moments in Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy ways to bring up issues. Many people bring up issues in dysfunctional ways with harsh start-ups, criticisms, accusations and demands, or just bad timing. There are better ways to bring up issues.
Related podcasts:
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Beth Bluth has been living a life of spiritual seeking and holistic wellness in the sacred Appalachian mountains for over 20 years. Through curiosity & the exploration of various modalities including meditation, mindfulness and daily spiritual practices Beth has learned to support herself, family members and the community through her intuitive reflection and guidance. Her passion is working with plant medicine in the forms of essential oils, flower essences and nourishing herbal remedies. Beth has deep appreciation for all the teachers she’s learned from on her path.
In this episode, Beth and I talk about patterns of people pleasing that stop us from being more authentic in our interactions and our relationships, and ways to change those patterns.
Connect with Beth Bluth:
Bethbluth@gmail.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Dave Bluth is an Asheville-based entrepreneur who is passionate about assisting people on their journey's and living his life in a humorous, authentic and joyful way. Dave has owned Blueblaze Real Estate since 2006 and his goal is to ensure clients "Live the life they love, and love the life they live.". Dave has been married to his lovely wife Beth for 24 years and has a 20 year old daughter at George Washington University.
In this episode, Dave and I have a conversation about the importance of adventure and travel to keep your relationship fresh. We speak of the benefits and also the challenges to navigate like, transitions, travel stress and good communication.
Connect with Dave Bluth:
Blueblaze Real Estate Group
828-273-3349
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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R211. Interdependence vs. Codependence
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy interdependence in a relationship versus unhealthy codependence.
Related podcasts:
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of following of transparency in relationships. In order to have authentic transparency in our relationships, we have to first be self-transparent with ourselves. We have to be willing to be vulnerable, have emotional honesty and risk embarrassment and judgement. A healthy relationship can only thrive with transparency, which is the foundation of trust.
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
Compromising in a Relationship
HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships
How to Have the Partner You Most Want to Have
Micro-Moments in Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
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You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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Adam Klaus brings energy and enthusiasm to everything he tackles. A man of many passions, he is a CPA, a dedicated organic farmer, a father to three teenagers, and an aspiring lumberjack. His mission in life is to create a better and more beautiful world for future generations.
In this episode, Adam and I have a conversation about parenting, especially for teens. Adam has three teens he is raising in an eco-friendly and nature focused way with his partner Phoebe. We share the essence that we bring into our parenting and how we show up for our teens in an accountable manner to model such trsaits.
Related podcasts:
- Fatherhood: My Kind of Yoga
- A Father - Son Conversation
- Fathers & Sons: Healing the Generations
Connect with Adam Klaus:
Email: adamklauscpa@gmail.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about giving too much and sacrificing ourselves for others. What’s healthy in this arena?
Related podcasts:
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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In this podcast, I introduce my coaching programs for individuals and couples. I present specific themes that I have discovered working with clients over 20 years, as well as my own life, that, when addressed can help transform our own life and our relationships.
To check put more about my coaching programs click this link: Coaching Themes
Let’s Talk About It!
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Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestalt Institute in Asheville.
In this episode, Jared and I have a conversation about parenting and fatherhood. We discuss our own involvement with our sons and our relational schemas with our fathers. Jared shares his journey into fatherhood after years in recovery, which gave him a foundation and practice in the journey of emotional regulation and renewal We explore such questions as; What do sons wish they had received from their fathers? What might honest, healing conversations between fathers and sons look like? What does it look like to heal intergenerational trauma and dysfunction?
“Being the dad that I want to be on a daily basis is not overshawing the small things; like cuddling my son in bed or helping him regulate when he’s having a tough time“
- Jared Hinton
Related podcasts:
- Fatherhood: My Kind of Yoga
- A Father - Son Conversation
Connect with Jared Hinton:
- Jaredhinton.org
- Email:jaredhintonpsychotherapy@gmail.com
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Nastassja Noell is a lichenologist who traverses outside the fenced pastures of science. As a biologist, an artist, writer, and astrologer, Nastassja's work grapples with living in times of profound change. She feels that the Earth is birthing something new through each of us.
Nastassja has studied astrology for the past 10 years, and has found that astrology provides a map of change, where each transit is a portal for each of us to become our own compass."
In this episode, Nastassja and I have a conversation about using astrology to understand relationships. Astrology provides clues about human behavior and is a powerful tool for having more harmonious relationships. We discuss how Synastry is the art of relationship astrology. It is a fascinating and illuminating study of how individuals interact with one another.
“Exploring astrological insights can offer valuable perspectives on building and maintaining healthy relationships. “
- Nastassja Noell
Connect with Nastassja Noel:
Nastassja's website is https://beinglichen.org. To schedule an astrological reading with her, click the moon glyph located at the bottom of every page.
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about dealing with criticism. You will inevitably encounter constructive and destructive feedback from your family, friends, and colleagues, among others. Learning to navigate criticism is a highly valuable relationship tool. In this podcast episode we share personal and professional stories about the dynamics of criticism and how to deal with healthy responses to criticism.
“Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps you explore unresolved issues. “
- Corey Costanzo
Related podcasts:
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of following through on commitments. It’s basically keeping your word. If you say you'll do something, do it. Whether it's taking out the trash, meeting your partner for dinner, or attending their work event, follow through reliably. The key is consistently matching your actions with your words. Follow-through breeds trust and reliability in relationships. Essentially, partners who do what they say they'll do don't just gain trust; they earn it. Their actions give evidence that they are worthy of trust. This firm foundation is key for relationships to go the distance.
“Only make commitments you know you can reasonably keep. Don't say yes to everything.”
- Pripo Teplitsky
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HeartShare: Attitudes of Connection
HeartShare: How Practicing Humility Helps Your Relatiopnships
Compromising in a Relationship
HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships
How to Have the Partner You Most Want to Have
Micro-Moments in Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
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Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.
Asking for help is not an easy task, especially because it elicits vulnerability. Many people have a difficult time asking for help because they don’t want to appear weak, put other’s out, seem inadequate, or fear it may be used against them at a later date. How good are you at asking for help?
“You’re not weak or lazy...everyone needs support”
- Gregg Levoy
Related Content: Other Podcasts with Gregg Levoy:
Defensiveness
Circling: A Powerful Communication Tool
New Love...Taking Risks To Be Real
The Loss of Touch
What is a Generous Conversation
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of consciously being aware of the kind of attitude you are putting out and understanding how it influences the quality of connection you want. The focus of a positive and heartfelt attitude of connection helps ease conflict and foster trust and love. This connection is a choice. What do you choose?
“small gestures do wonders to build an attitude of connection." ~Pripo Teplitsky
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes
HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships
How to Have the Partner You Most Want to Have
Micro-Moments in Relationships
Body Awareness Can Help Us Relate
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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n this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
The longing to be seen, heard and considered is normal and vital. But if you don’t feel heard or understood by your partner (or vice-versa), chances are, neither you nor your partner are really present to each other as much as you could be. We don’t want others necessarily to agree with all our feelings, but what we crave is that they at least validate them. Rainbow and I talk about how this shows up in our relationship.
“The best way to understand people is to listen to them”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
Related Podcasts:
Giving Your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt
Repair is Key to a Successful Relationship
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
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Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about how trauma effects relationships. Living through traumatic events may result in expectations of danger, betrayal, or potential harm within new or old relationships. People who experience trauma may become anxious or frightened in relation to others, experience them as having power or control, or easily feel abandoned or rejected. Still, others may become overprotective or dependent. Though it’s challenging, you can heal the trauma and change the effect it has on your life and relationships.
“We are not made the same, and we all heal in our own way, our own time."
Corey Costanzo
Related podcasts:
- Codependency
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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In this solocast I talk about humility and being humble. To be humble or practice humility means to value other people and their opinions without indulging in self-pride. It's the opposite of arrogance, boastfulness and vanity. A humble person does not always have to prove their point, be right, or lead the conversation because they are truly comfortable with who they are. Being vulnerable and showing humility to a romantic partner can allow for better communication and trust to develop in the relationship.
“Humble partners are more likely to apologize readily and accept an apology with grace.”
- ~Pripo Teplitsky
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Micro-Moments in Relationships
Body Awareness Can Help Us Relate
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For nearly three decades, spanning six continents- Charley Castex has paired his intuitive gift with spiritual teaching. Spotlighted by the New York Times & Huff Post, his down to earth psychic guidance gets to the heart of the matter.
In this episode, Charley and I have a conversation about intuition and how using it in our relationships can be very insightful and beneficial. Your intuition is a subtle voice that comes from within you. Believe it or not, your intuition is always talking to you; the question is whether or not you’re willing to listen to it.
“Many times, your intuition is a guiding force to help you move towards the next step “
- Charley Castex
Connect with Charley Castex
- charleycastex.com
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In this solocast I talk about micromanaging. Micromanaging in a relationship is when one partner excessively controls or monitors the other partner's actions, often to the point of interfering with their independence and decision-making ability It is a form of control and manipulation when it is a constant in your relationship. Micromanaging often stems from a lack of trust or insecurity. It can also stem from OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) tendencies.
“Micromanaging in a relationship is unhealthy, exhausting, and will affect your happiness”
- ~Pripo Teplitsky
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HeartShare: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Relationships
How to Have the Partner You Most Want to Have
Micro-Moments in Relationships
Body Awareness Can Help Us Relate
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Virginia Gilbert is a licensed marriage and family therapist serving clients in North Carolina and California. She specializes in helping people go through high conflict divorce, relationship problems with their partner and attachment trauma.
In this episode, Virgina and I have a conversation about high conflict couples including high conflict divorce and ways to manage this dynamic. High conflict couples have a lot of intense, out-of-control, hurtful fights. Usually the fights are complicated, twisty, blaming, and contemptuous. The fighting also escalates quickly and both people say and do harmful things during conflict.
“High-conflict individuals aren’t bad people; they just have poor strategies for getting their needs met, which makes them really tough to deal with “
- Virginia Gilbert
Related podcasts:
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Virginia Gilbert:
- https://virginiagilbertmft.com
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about what to do after a fight with your partner. We share our strategies and stories with our own spouses as well as tips and tools from working with our clients. We also stress how important it is to reflect on your own role. Think about how you may have contributed to the disagreement and how you could communicate better next time and...be willing to apologize for your part.
“Look beyond the surface-level argument to discuss the underlying needs, hurts, or problems that may have fueled the fight “
- Corey Costanzo
Related podcasts:
- Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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In this episode, I have a conversation with Misa Terral. Misa Terral is founder of Soulpower Dance, offering transformational classes for embodiment, joy, and self-healing. Her training as a licensed Occupational Therapist specializing in sensory integration, a certified Death Doula, and in nature-based spirituality cultivated her unique style of teaching and empowering others. She facilitates programming for the nonprofit Dance to Be Free, taking the healing power of dance to prisons. You can find her soon on SoulpowerLiving.com
Dance and Movement are wonderful ways for us to embody our authenticity and express ourselves. It can boost confidence in ourselves which will in turn affect our relationships in a positive way. Misa shares her journey on how dance and movement helped heal an eating disorder as well as describing how this expression allows for “mistakes” and not being perfect, but instead find our true expression.
“Dance can be a good outlet for you or a tool that you can use to explore your emotions.”
- Misa Terral
Connect with Misa Terral:
Website under construction: www.soulpowerliving.com
www.dancetobefree.org
Facebook: www.facebook.com/soulsweatwithmisa
Instagram: www.instagram.com/soulpowerdance
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In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world.
Most of us are challenged to listen non-defensively when we are triggered or our conversations start to get intense. Listening without getting defensive is a skill that can be learned. First awareness is key, know that ourselves or the other is activated. Self-soothing is another step in the process in order to regulate ourselves so that we can listen with curiosity and the intent to understand, not defend.
“If neither partner is resourced in the moments right after activation, that’s when it gets really tricky.”
- Cathy Courtenay
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
- Cathy Courtenay on Instagram
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Single Parenting: The Challenges and Rewards
Developing a Healthy Relationship with Yourself
Control Issues
Relationship Sabotage
Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
Difficult Conversations
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Robin Fann-Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, Esalen massage instructor and practitioner, craniosacral therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and yoga instructor.
In this episode, Robin and I have a conversation about the challenges and benefits of working in business with your spouse or partner. Many couples that work together have a challenging time navigating their business relationship and their personal relationship. Robin gives her experience of what work and what doesn’t in her relationship with her husband Corey and the agreements they make in order to prosper in both areas of their relationship.
“Knowing and working with each other strengths is key to being successful in our lives”.
- Robin Fann -Costanzo
Connect with Robin Fann- Costanzo:
About Robin:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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In this episode I have a conversation with Thomas Doochin. Thomas is a men's work Facilitator, a farmer, and a storyteller. He lives with his family in the mountains surrounding Asheville, NC. Thomas is a believer in Life and human's innate capacity to bring forth more Beauty. For 9 years, Thomas led Daymaker, a social impact startup that grew to serving kids in over 30 states. He is also my neighbor and dear friend.
Thomas and I have a very heartfelt conversation of the deep challenges and deep joys of men opening their hearts to one another This is the healing work so many men are incredibly fearful of but so many also are having the courage to do. Having a container like a men’s group, a circle of brotherhood allows for this risk -taking courage to be experienced In it’s richness of transformation.
“And in my view, the whole planet suffers for every person that is stuck inside a charade that isn’t who they really are.”
-Thomas Doochin
More About : Thomas Doochin
Learn more about the Heart of Men Fall Circle here.
Hear more from Thomas on his meaning-making of being a man in these times on Substack here.
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The Challenge of Workplace Relationships
Men and Emotional Honesty
Men’s Friendships: The Rewards and Challenges
Men’s Work Having Healthy Male Relationships
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In this episode I have a conversation with Zucu Ingersoll. Zucu is a relationship facilitator and relational healing guide. She is a perennial (and stumbling) student of the spiritual paradigms and practical skills that lead to deeply satisfying relationships. She and her beloved work as a team supporting individuals, couples, and groups who long for relational healing and the deepening of authentic connection You can learn more about their work at ericandzucu.com.
Zucu shares some past incidences in her relationship with her husband Eric where they needed to repair their relationship, learn the skills to deepen their intimacy and communication and rebuild trust. One of those ways was/is through learning and practicing non-violent communication. Zucu’s emphasis on cultivating curiosity, empathy, loving compassion and warmth is vital to this process.
“For me, getting my needs for trust and intimacy met, is by embodying warmth and curiosity in my connections”
Zucu Ingersoll
Contact: Zucu Ingersoll
ericandzucu.com.
Related Podcasts:
Fantasy vs. Reality and the Effects on Relationships
Non-Violent Communication
Non- Violent Communication II : And How to Overcome Negativity Bias
Non- Violent Communication: Relationship Repair
Understanding the Shame Cycle
The Shame/Fear Dynamic in Couples
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In this episode I have a conversation with Eric Ingersoll. Eric is a relationship transformation guide. He knows transformation from the inside out, because he is walking this path himself. Once a brooding indie-rock musician using sexual fantasy to try and meet his needs for aliveness and acceptance, he has since learned the relational skills that empower him to get his needs met in his real-life relationships. By cultivating a magical blend of intimacy and autonomy, he and his wife are falling more deeply in love with each passing day. They now work as a team supporting individuals and couples that want to cultivate more aliveness and connection in their own lives. You can learn more about their work at ericandzucu.com.
Eric discusses how living in fantasy most of his life took him away from reality and made it difficult for him to create authentic intimate relationships. Through the continuous work around feelings of shame and inadequacy, and finding compassionate communication tools, Eric is now living a life that is more fulfilled, present, authentic and enriching. If you find you are continually living out relationships in the safe zone of your mind, give this a listen.
“Fantasy just became too painful, it conflicted with reality”
Eric Ingersoll
Contact: Eric Ingersoll
ericandzucu.com.
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Understanding the Shame Cycle
The Shame/Fear Dynamic in Couples
Grateful Living: Transforming Your Emotions and Relationships
How Depression Effects Relationships
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In this episode I have a conversation with Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a mother, natural builder, hair-dresser and conflict mediator at her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender and class differences. Always a student of life, she has worked as a student advisor for Gaia University, where she also received her Associate Degree in Integrated Eco-social Design. She is now a Life Coach based in authenticity and Tantric Philosophy. You can find her @tantramom on Instagram.
We have a conversation about The Householder’s Path. When you choose a spiritual path it doesn’t necessarily mean you renounce everything. The Path of the Householder is an everyday person with a job and a family, in other words is engaged in an earthly life but also has a spiritual practice. Mana shares with us what led her on this path and how she is continuously practicing this balance.
“Don’t expect the spiritual path be the same for everyone...find your own way.”
Mana Vermeulen-McLeod
Contact: Mana Vermeulen-McLeod
Instrgram: @tantramom
Related Podcasts with Mana:
Women working in Male Dominated Workplaces
Exploring Our Racial Biases
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In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
We talk about how to compromise in a relationship. What makes up healthy and unhealthy compromise. We talk about the elements of empathy, authenticity, good communication, balance and good intent. We also talk about acquiescing, giving in and resentments and how those play in compromising.
“No one’s perspective is more important than the other’s”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
Related Podcasts:
Giving Your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt
Repair is Key to a Successful Relationship
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about emotional flooding. That is when we get so overwhelmed with emotion, that the emotions take over, so we completely lose access to the logical part of our brains. We also lose access for empathy which is a key component to transform conflict. We also lose the ability to accurately assess tone of voice as well as facial expressions and see them as threatening because we are in the “flight/fight” response.
“Creating and maintaining strong boundaries is essential for avoiding overextending yourself to the point of struggling to regulate your emotions”. - Corey Costanzo
Related podcasts:
- Transforming the Inner Critic
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Few parents are prepared to deal with the aftermath of the loss of a partner, whether from divorce, separation death or regardless of the cause. Single parenting has insurmountable challenges that can cause great stress and at times hardship. However, the flip side, single parenting also has its huge joys and rewards.
In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay in which she shares her experience of being a single parent. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world.
“Creating the environment of emotional safety for your kids is paramount”
- Cathy Courtenay
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes with Cathy
Developing a Healthy Relationship with Yourself
Control Issues
Relationship Sabotage
Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of mental rehearsal as a skill to change your behaviors and emotional responses. When you mentally rehearse something before it happens, you’re more likely to achieve that desired outcome. By mentally rehearsing an anticipated experience before it happens, you’re actually getting better at the skillset.
“The practice of mental rehearsal builds muscle memory, the language of the body” - ~Pripo Teplitsky
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In this episode I have a conversation with Frederic Terral. Federic. Frederic began his career with The Walt Disney Company, working on film, video & digital media projects. He is seasoned creative director who has led numerous branding initiatives for Fortune 500 companies, non-profits, startups and government agencies. He launched pockitudes.com in 2016 to share the practice he developed to support his mental well-being. Today he continues to develop new products and speak about his journey to positive mental wellness to groups throughout the country.
We have a conversation about the power of gratitude and how that focus and practice can change states of depression, anxiety, shame, etc, to a more uplifting and positive way of living and behaving. Frederic shares his journey of turning his life in a different direction. The consistent practice can take many forms including the daily ritual of writing in a gratitude journal. We also discuss how appreciation and gratitude are complimentary feelings and the benefits can transform states of being.
“The key, for me, is to let this tiny act become a habit, a habit to be grateful and choose happiness.”
- Frederic Terral
Contact: Frederic Terral
Website: pockitudes.com
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In this episode I have a conversation with Jackie Dobrinska is a teacher, coach, and spiritual director who has married two decades of mystical practices with 15 years of expertise in physical health, including diet, herbalism, and Ayurveda. She works with people to live from their truest essence. In addition to coaching individuals and leading group workshops, she is currently the Director of Education, Community & Inclusion for Ram Dass' Love, Serve, Remember Foundation.
We have a conversation about body image. Are you satisfied with what you see when you look in the mirror? Regardless of what you may think, both men and women, of all ages, are affected by negative body image. How an individual evaluates one’s self has a great deal to do with the quality of one’s interpersonal relationships. How we actually embody our body is a better barameter to understand our relationship with our body’s and how we relate to others.
“The first step is to be present with your own body”
- Jackie Dobrinska
Contact: Jackie Dobrinska
Website: ASimpleVibrantLife.com
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about bonding through trauma and another aspect of which is called “trauma bonding”. A trauma bond is an attachment formed between two people who unconsciously bond through an experience or experiences of shared trauma. We also hear of trauma bonds in narcissistic abuse within an adult relationship. However, most of these relationships do not begin just in adult relationships, they begin early on in our childhood and they manifest and continue in our adult lives.
“Walking away from the cycle of trauma bonding can feel like you are weening yourself off an addiction”. - Corey Costanzo
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- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
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- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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In this episode I have a conversation with Laura Callahan, BA., CHt. Laura is a clinical hypnotherapist specializing in assisting clients with sexual dysfunction, trauma resolution, anxiety and fertility issues. She is also a Certified HypnoBirthing® Educator. She works with clients via Zoom throughout the US, Canada and elsewhere around the world!
We have a conversation about Sexual Freedom through Hypnosis. Sex and intimacy can be a major source of anxiety in people’s lives. More than 40% of people have a sexual dysfunction issue, and it is believed that about two-thirds of sexual dysfunction and issue have a psychological cause. Hypnosis can help in a positive way. It can help people overcome past trauma, change unhelpful beliefs, and assist in accepting our bodies and sexuality.
“The mind is the most powerful sex organ!”
- Laura Callahan
Contact Laura Callahan
Website: www.lauracallahanhealing.com
Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lauracallahanhealing/
Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lauracallahanhealing/
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In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
One definition of benefit of the doubt is “to believe something good about someone, rather than something bad, when you have the possibility of doing either.” It also promotes positivity and patience in your relationship. It keeps your partner from jumping into defensive mode and it shows them that you trust and appreciate them. However, it is much more challenging to do this if there have been incidences of betrayal like infidelity or chronic lies.
“As a first response, be curious not furious, it can turn a potential conflict into understanding”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of knowing that balancing important parts of our life (work, relationship and self) is not about equality. Your work-life balance will vary over time. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives. Balance also requires that we honor our energy. It is important to identify habits, activities, and people that drain our energy. We need to check in with ourselves regularly to make sure we prioritize what’s important to us.
“Balance is about being in integrity with your values and the choices you make in whether they are aligned with those values” - Pripo Teplitsky
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Marriage is usually the union of two people in love, and it is a legal commitment that has familial, social, and economic implications. People marry for so many reasons. Some marry to raise a family together, to commit to their relationship on a deeper level, cultural or religious reasons or the desire to experience varies legal advantages. People also marry for unhealthy reasons like to escape a dysfunctional home, because your friends are getting married, because a baby is on the way, or your partner pressures you, etc, etc. Marriage is another way couples commit to each other in a deeper way.
In this episode, I have a conversation with NikiAnne Feinberg, she discusses the reasons that her and her partner Chris decided to marry after over 10 years of being in relationship and their experiences in their commitment along the way. NikiAnne considers relationships her primary learning ground and her human tribe some of her greatest teachers. It's not a surprise that NikiAnne chose to make her home in community at Earthaven Ecovillage, where learning how to be human with other humans is one of the main tasks at hand. In 2012, she co-founded the School of Integrated Living (affectionately known as SOIL), which inspires and empowers people to live responsible and creative lives, through experiential education in integrated living and regenerative systems. Her life in community and her time working in environments that honor learning through personal experience and relationships, have shaped her cooperative cultural values and commitment to supporting people to think, feel, act, and design from a foundation rooted in interrelationship. No matter what she’s engaged in, NikiAnne is always on the same mission: to foster a sense of belonging within ourselves and the world, enhance healthy connections and help people to be seen and appreciated for the gifts they are bringing to their communities. She’s especially eager to support those in transition – between vocations, stages of life, and stories of world and self. Within this context, she is particularly passionate about fostering belonging, community grief tending, and death care midwifery.
“I used that chamber, that time period and container of engagement to engage myself , to engage my heart’s longings and to see if I wanted to marry”
- NikiAnne Feinberg
Connect with NikiAnne Feinberg:
School of Integrated Living
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In this solocast I talk about the importance how to recognize negativity, especially negative sentiment override in your relationships. Especially when you are anticipating negativity from your partner and there is a cloud of that negative bias also then towards them. We therefore distort our view of our partners as well as the situation at times. I also talk about turning that negativity around with positive sentiment override, where you are giving your partner the benefit of the doubt more and there is more positive bids of connection.
“The more negativity that is present in your marriage, the harder it becomes to escape the partner in your head. ” - Pripo Teplitsky
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about perfectionism and how those traits and tendencies affects relationships. Perfectionism can show up as being controlling, overanalyzing things even the small stuff, setting unrealistic standards of ourselves and others, and being over critical. So sometimes it may be best to lower our expectations and also accept the situation and other people and let imperfection be a normal part of life.
“Appreciating the wins is important to combat the habit of looking for fault”. - Corey Costanzo
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- Transforming the Inner Critic
- Control Issues
- Understanding the Shame Cycle
- Allowing Influence from Your Partner
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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Polyamory specifically refers to people who have multiple romantic relationships at the same time. It does not mean any type of open relationship that may include more casual sexual partners. In many polyamorous relationships, each partner is aware of the other ones and transparency and honest communication is a vital part of healthy polyamorous relationships. In this podcast we discuss how polyamory works in relationships and discuss such questions as... What are the benefits and struggles of polyamory? How do partners decide to become non-monogamous? What are some of the effects of polyamorous families on children? What is compersion? And we explore many more issues as well as misconceptions about polyamory.
In this episode, I have a conversation with Sam Del Vecchio and he shares his own experience of being in polyamorous relationships. Sam is a somatic therapist, husband, father, farmer, carpenter, poet, and communitarian. He lives in Earthaven ecovillage, in the mountains of Western North Carolina, on occupied Cherokee land. H
“Rule number one if you are diving into polyamory...read the books, save yourself some trouble and read the books”
- Sam Del Vecchio
Connect with Sam Del Vecchio:
Samdelvecchio (allergync.com)
Books:
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
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Anyone can be affected by depression. It can impact every aspect of one’s life including our relationships. Those living with depression or anxiety often experience feelings of loneliness, even when they have a supporting and loving spouse. When depressed, one’s interpretation of things tends to be harsher than reality. There are ways to help ease these episodes and times of struggle for one’s self and the relationship.
In this episode I have a conversation with Dr. Juan Santos. Dr. Santos specializes in healing and rebuilding relationships. He supports couples with increasing intimacy, rebuilding trust after infidelity, and teaching couples how to build effective communication skills so that both partners feel heard and validated. Dr. Santos was born in the Dominican Republic and lives in Greensboro, NC with his wife and two children. He is the owner of Santos Counseling PLLC an outpatient counseling practice providing individual, family, and couples counseling. Dr. Santos is an author, course creator, and speaker. His work has been featured on local news stations that include Huff Post, News 2 WFMY, 102.1, community agencies, and local universities.
“Depression can be seen as a separate entity, rather than being part of one’s personality.
- Dr. Juan Santos
Dr. Juan Santos:
Link to counseling website: http://santoscounseling.com/
Link to Instagram: https://instagram.com/santos_counseling/
Link to a free course below: 9 Week course to go from stuck to deeply connected
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The idea of “repair attempts” in a conflict has been especially important in understanding what matters about the way that couples manage conflict. John Gottman, (relationship expert and researcher) describes repair attempts as “any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control.” An argument can be avoided and hurt feelings diffused by using repair attempts. If done successfully, they can help de-escalate conflict and keep things from getting out of hand.
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“Everyone makes mistakes, it’s what you do next”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
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It’s natural to get defensive when you feel threatened, or criticized...but your defensiveness may not serve you, your partner, or your relationship. The sad thing is many of us react defensively without even thinking about it. It creates an atmosphere of contention, tension and most of the time blame that eventually leads to a loss of trust, alienation, and separation. Owning our defensiveness is the first step to changing that automatic reaction.
In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.
“I’m realizing that winning isn’t the objective, even though it feels good”
- Gregg Levoy
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- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
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Most couples struggle at times of how to build and feed the “US” or “WE” in their relationship vs. their individual needs and desires. Thinking of your partnership as a team shifts your focus. Suddenly it’s not “me versus you”, it’s “us”. The next step however, is shifting the thinking of this focus and putting it into action. In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world. “Being on the same team takes the frailty out of the relationship” - Cathy Courtenay Connect with Cathy Courtenay: Cathy Courtenay Website Cathy Courtenay on Facebook Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes with Cathy Developing a Healthy Relationship with Yourself Control Issues Relationship Sabotage Couples Communication: Circling Techniques Difficult Conversations Falling in Love Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. New Live Online Coaching Groups starting in October. Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Trust goes hand in hand with essential components of a relationship, such as honesty, open communication, vulnerability, and respect, making it of utmost importance. Science proves that trust in a relationship is more essential than love. Building trust in relationships takes time, but being vulnerable with your partner will help the walls come down little by little. In this solocast, I talk about the different ways trust is fed as well as taken away in relationships.
“ Relationships dies in lies and thrives in truth.” - Pripo Teplitsky
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The Importance of a Personal Practice
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Benjamin Haynes is a wonderful example of today’s young generation. He is a meditator, yogi, and evangelizer of “authentic relating.” I was impressed by his presence, groundedness, and the intentional manner in which he spoke when we met about 3 years ago. After graduating from UNC-Chapel Hill and teaching in Malaysia under a Fulbright grant, Benjamin recently joined Authentic Relating Training, an organization dedicated to the practice and production of authentic relating programs.
In today’s episode, Benjamin and I explore contempt directed within us and projected outward to others and how this creates emotional violence. We talk about how we focus on non-violent living in our lives.
“Emotional violence is likely to leave marks on the outside or inside of the body”
Benjamin Haynes
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- Authentic Relating
- Biggest Predictor of Relationship Failure
- Peace Begins at Home
- The Challenges of Workplace Relationships
- Generosity: Contemplating on How We Show Up in Our Relationships
- The Relationship of Business Through the Lens of Giving
- Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
Connect with Benjamin Haynes:
- Authentic Relating Training
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Shame. Shame involves an internalized feeling of being exposed and humiliated. Shame is different from guilt. Shame is a feeling of badness about the self. Hidden shame often drives self-destructive behaviors and other psychological symptoms such as rage, avoidance, or addictions. We discuss different ways of changing destructive behaviors which requires trying out new, affirming behaviors to replace them.
“Shame makes people want to hide and disappear, reinforcing shame”.
- Corey Costanzo
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- Receiving Someone’s Anger
- The Anger Habit
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Shaun Rawls - is highly sought-after keynote speaker and author of “F”-IT-LESS - Rawls spent 25 years working in real estate, ultimately building Atlanta’s #1 residential real estate firm, The Rawls Group of Keller Williams. Having met many of his professional goals, Rawls made a deliberate choice to shift his attention out of the daily operations of his firm and into new ways he could add even more value to others. Through his work and book, Shaun helps other people evaluate and define what’s important for them and outline actions so they can work on being the best version of themselves.
In this episode, Shaun and I discuss different ways of dealing with money in our relationships that can bring us more understanding or further apart. It’s well known that money is one of the most common subjects for couples to argue about so how you talk about money is key. We also touch on concept of “financial infidelity” and why it is detrimental to building trust and reliability and why having shared values and goals around money can be key to building relational health.
“Keeping financial points in a relationship is a dead end game” - Shaun Rawls
Connect with Shaun Rawls:
- Shaun Rawls Website
- Shaun Rawls on LinkedIn
- Shaun Rawls on Facebook
- Shaun Rawls on Twitter
- Book: “F”-it-Less: 18 F-Words to Reframe and Repurpose Your Life
Let’s Talk About It!
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It can be difficult to be in a relationship if you don’t have a great deal of self-love. Remember that self-love is important for enjoying a happy, healthy, and respectful relationship. When you are secure, confident, and feeling good about yourself you feed positive energy into the space between you. One's relationship with oneself is crucial to proper development.
In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world.
“The relationship with myself determines everything.”
- Cathy Courtenay
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
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Control Issues
Relationship Sabotage
Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
Difficult Conversations
Falling in Love
Let’s Talk About It!
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Agreeing to disagreeing may be essential in our relationships. We also need to know to how to work effective compromises when we differ. Getting away from the negative mindset of “right” and “wrong” is essential. Disagreeing in fact is beneficial in healthy relationships if done correctly. Disagreeing can provide an opportunity to address issues, get insights and understandings and most of all can strengthen intimacy.
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“Agreeing to Disagree can take the fight out of the energy therefore making more room for feeling that there is an “us” to take care of””
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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When to Let it Go
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
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In this solocast I talk about some red flags to be aware of in your relationships. Not every red flag a sign that the relationship won’t work, but understanding your non-negotiable one will help you to understand whether to stick around or not. So it is important to understand the difference workable differences and non- negotiables. Recognizing our own relationship patterns is key. Do you find yourself repeating the same old patterns or attracting the same kinds of people? Does this person communicate effectively and display emotional awareness and intelligence...and for that mtter do you?
“Knowing yourself is key. If you don’t deeply know yourself, how the heck are you going to deeply know another person” - Pripo Teplitsky
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The Importance of a Personal Practice
Let’s Talk About It!
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Many people don’t realize but colors can have an effect on our moods, emotions and therefore on our relationships. Color is an immediate form of non-verbal communication. Color association is also dependent on people’s innate feelings and experiences, and can have subconscious effects on their decision making as well having influence on how people relate to one another.
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“Colors can be a way we communicate with one another in a nonverbal way”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
Related Podcasts:
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of your thoughts and how they create the reality of your relationships. The way we think about our relationship and our partner matters. When we start to have judgmental and critical thoughts of our partners we tend to “see” more of this behavior which solidify these beliefs. We need to look at our partners from a different “lens”, one of more positive and appreciative beliefs and thoughts. It is a choice and a habit. How we think about our relationship and our partners is a direct correlation of the reality of what the relationship will be.
“You have a choice on what you allow in to your perception and you have a choice of what you project out...choose wisely” - Pripo Teplitsky
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HeartShare: Prioritizing Everday Transitions
HeartShare: Making Your Relationship a Priority
Breaking the Illusions of Love: The Real Work of Love
Expressing Needs
The Importance of a Personal Practice
Let’s Talk About It!
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Adult tantrums, especial mantrums (male tantrums). We have uncontrolled outburst and expressions of anger. Adult temper tantrums can be sometimes be used as a mechanism to manipulate others, cover up fear, shame or guilt with anger or get attention, as well divert attention from another issue.
“adult tantrums usual show up as a disproportionate expression of anger to the circumstance ” - Corey Costanzo
Related Content:
- Receiving Someone’s Anger
- The Anger Habit
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Many people have never truly felt seen and heard before, which can be isolating and lonely. When you are deeply seen for who you are, the gift of feeling comfortable in your own skin can emerge. “Circling” is a communication technique and tool to help you learn how to get into another person’s world in a way for them to feel more deeply heard, seen and understood. In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.
“Authentic relating can transform relationships because it goes beyond story telling” - Gregg Levoy
Related Content: Circling references
Circling: A Personal Perspective On Finding Genuine Connection
https://circlinginstitute.com/what-is-circling-method/
https://authenticrelating.co
https://www.circlingeurope.com
https://theconnectionmovement.com
https://www.authrev.org
https://theartofcircling.com
https://circlingguide.com
https://janphillips.com/shop/circling-manual-group-experience-conscious-creativity/
Podcasts:
Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
New Love...Taking Risks To Be Real
The Loss of Touch
What is a Generous Conversation
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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Separation and Divorce can be an emotional difficult time. The emotions of sadness, anger, grief and fear are typically experienced. Most divorces are rife with conflict among separating and divorcing partners. It takes a tremendous toll not only on the people divorcing but also their children, family and friends. Is it possible to have a healthy divorce? One that honors not only each person but the union that was once filled with love and hope. Consciously Uncoupling is a mindful, respectful and loving approach to ending a relationship. In this episode I have a conversation with Becky Boisvert. An inveterate adventurer, Becky (she/her) has grown to see life itself as the adventure. When that adventure beckoned the transition out of her marriage, Becky created a process to help guide her and her former spouse, Sanne, through the terrain of separation and eventual divorce. Many who get to know Becky and Sanne are deeply inspired by the ease and consciousness with which they engaged this process.
Since then, Becky has begun coaching individuals and couples through threshold experiences in life like the lead-in to marriage, divorce, health crises, and more, as well as holding mediations for more deeply embedded conflict. Becky is deeply devoted to supporting herself and others in transforming the grit and hardships in life into opportunities for healing.
“If we came together once in love, we have the power to uncouple with dignity”
- Becky Boisvert
Contact Becky Boisvert
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Breakups and Divorce: Endings Are as Important as Beginnings
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Let’s Talk About It!
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The public health crisis of addiction and overdoses continue to rise. Fentanyl poisoning now ranks No.1 on the biggest list of killers of 18-45 yr. olds in the United States, for the last three years by a wide margin. Destigmatizing mental illness and addiction is crucial to empower those suffering to reach out for help. Many people do not understand and also fail to educate themselves on the importance of mental health and due to stereotypes and misrepresentations, some people do not understand that addiction is a disease and believe that people may even choose addiction. Much of the stigma comes not only from friends, family, the public, and the judicial system, but many believe that it is a moral character flaw and fail to see people struggling with addiction through the lens of integrity of individuals as whole human beings.
In this episode I have a conversation with my next-door neighbors Eileen and Barry Cook whose daughter Catie died recently at the age of 31 of fentanyl poisoning after struggling with addiction for over 15 years. We talk about their journey as a family and a couple in navigating the rough waters of emotion and how they had different ways of coping and addressing their daughter’s addiction and ultimately the respect and compassion that grew in their hearts.
“Your journey is your journey and it’s okay to feel your feelings”
- Eileen Cook
Related Podcasts:
Addiction and Their Effects on Relationships
Resources:
Lost Voices of Fentanyl
Fentanyl Poisoning Awareness Group
Parents for Safer Children
Let’s Talk About It!
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“Transition music “Dream of a Butterfly” by Frozen Silence
What does it mean to have your partner’s back? The feeling of emotional safety and the knowing that you can rely on your partner in many ways, especially at time of stress, overwhelm and crises is a cornerstone to this support and safety. Relieving each other’s “load” and lending support is a hallmark of healthy dependence. Emotional safety is also taken away and eroded when partners don’t have each other’s back.
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“Some people seem to roll easier in the habit of complaining than of highlighting what is good about their partner or their child”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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HeartShare: Making Your Relationship a Priority
Leaning In: Sharing Struggles With Your Partner
Foundational Trust in Long-Term Relationships
Building Trust in Relationships
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
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We all have held on to conflicts, resentments, arguments, grudges, and anger. The decision of whether to bring up and try to resolve a conflict is a tricky one. When is the right time? How should you do it? What if your partner is not open to talk about it? Is it healthy to just let it go and move on? And if you decide to let go of a conflict, what do you do instead?
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“Pretending to let it go is just another form of avoidance”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
Related Podcasts:
Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident
The Importance of Apologies
The Art of Apology
Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
Let’s Talk About It!
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Have you ever felt controlled in your relationship? Or have you been accused of being controlling? Do you think you know the best way to do to do things? At the root of most relationship control issues is fear: fear of rejection, fear of being wrong, fear of vulnerability, fear of abandonment, fear of things going wrong. Also, anxiety is widely considered to be the underlying common denominator of a strong need to exert control.
In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to find deeper connection and intimacy both with themselves and each other. She helps her clients to see the patterns of relating that are holding them back from what they truly desire. Cathy also facilitates the practice of the Circling Method where she creates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world.
“Are you communicating to control and manage or are you communicating to relate?”
- Cathy Courtenay
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes with Cathy
Relationship Sabotage
Couples Communication: Circling Techniques
Difficult Conversations
Falling in Love
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Have you ever felt not heard or seen by your partner or others? Like the times you believe you are clearly communicating something but the other person does not acknowledge what you are saying, doesn’t understand you, or for that matter disregards you and your wants and needs. Or what about when you hold back your truth or something you need because you are concerned of hurting the other person. And, perhaps you’ve tried everything to not hurt them but to no avail.
In this episode, I answer a few questions from you my listeners. Thank You!
“You can not control how someone receives your communication, you can only focus on sending it out in your alignment”
- Pripo Teplitsky
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The Art Of Listening
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This world is desperately in need of healthy masculinity and all men owe it to themselves to do the work to bring that into fruition. One way is for men to be honest with themselves about their own feelings, needs and desires and to be able to communicate this in connecting and accountable ways. This is a daily practice, one that will lead to intentional self-growth and commitment to change and therefore a pathway to more enriching and healthier relationships.
In this solocast, I talk about some of my views on where we need to focus and cultivate how to walk in this world in more ways to manifest this healthy masculinity.
“Emotional intelligence and awareness is the key...that can be the new super power for men”
- Pripo Teplitsky
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Feeling Like A Fraud? Understanding The Imposter Syndrome.
“I feel like a fake”. “I must not fail”. “I just got lucky”. “I hope nobody ever finds out who I really am”. If this is some of your inner dialogue, you may be experiencing the phenomenon, “The Imposter Syndrome”. Don’t worry you are not alone. Studies show that an estimated 70% of people experience these impostor feelings at some point in their lives.
In this episode I have a conversation with a returning guest, a colleague and good friend, Angela Porter LMFT, CMT. and we explore the concept of Imposter Syndrome as we discuss the need to accept ourselves our humanness and the deep work of embracing our unique selves.
Angela Porter LMFT, CMT, is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, an addiction specialist, somatic psychotherapist, activist and International Breema bodywork instructor. I trained in Breema at the Breema Center in Oakland, Gestalt, Body-Centered, and Somatic Therapy at Esalen Institute, EMDR with Philip Mansfield at JFK University, Psychodynamic and Counseling Psychology at Berkeley’s Wright Institute, and group therapy at both Esalen Institute and at the New Bridge Foundation.
For more on Angela www.angelaportermft.com
“If I can’t be in relationship with what I am, I’ll never really discover what I could be”
- Angela Porter LMFT, CMT
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Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident
Most people do not have a good way to process the conflicts and fights after the fact. Typical attempts not only fall flight but most of the time spiral right back into the unproductive and disconnecting experience instead of healing and connecting ways.
In this episode my wife Yvonne Rainbow and I explore ways we have and do handle the aftermath of fights or conflicts we experience. We also discuss the modeling that each of us have experienced in our own families of origin to understand some of our templates that we’ve brought to our relationship and needed to transform.
Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Yvonne is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“If each of us just first owned our part of the conflict after coming back together, we would stop pointing fingers at each other”
- Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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In this solocast I talk about the importance of everyday transitions. We have so many of them throughout our day; waking up, leaving the house, coming home, going to sleep, etc. How do you interact with your loved ones during these moments? When we prioritize “showing up” and being present, our connection in those moments feed not only the energy of our interactions but the level of intimacy of our relationships.
“Learn to do transitions well in your relationships, they can become the sweetest moments of your day.”
- Pripo Teplitsky
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Love Addiction
Moe Bruce is passionate about investing in deep and meaningful connections and intimacy, engaging with others, building relationships, and being present in the moment. For 20 years, she has been a coach and consultant for CEOs and global leaders in large and small international organizations and has built profound connections with strangers throughout America and Europe. She’s always had a deep curiosity about how people live their lives as well as what she can learn from them.
In this episode Moe and I discuss “Love Addiction.” Love can be thrilling, but it can also be hazardous. When love becomes an obsession and all consuming, mixed with drama and dysfunction, people can experience a sense of losing themselves to another or the ideal of another. The cycles of alternating ecstasy and despair, and desperate longing after love loss, can lead to a spiraling of hardships and ruin. Moe shares her story of how she identified that she had/has a love addiction as well as some of her personal experiences with Sex and Love Addiction Anonymous (SLAA), a 12-step recovery process.
“Not all codependents are love addicts, but all love addicts are codependent.”
- Pia Melody
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HeartShare: The Art of Being Alone With Yourself To Better Your Relationships
In this solocast I talk about the importance of being comfortable with our own company. This is the place we find ourselves remembering what it’s like to be the person we truly are. In being alone we become the witness as well as the gatekeeper of our thoughts and feelings and by doing that get in touch with our inner feelings. If we are good at knowing our inner world, we become better at expressing ourselves to others and our relationships become more authentic.
By learning to dwell in our body and our senses, we cultivate a more comfortableness in being authentic when we are in the presence of others. And, I also talk about the difference of being alone and being lonely.
“Be at home with yourself, so you can be at home with others.” - Pripo Teplitsky
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In this episode I have a conversation with divorce attorney Jim Siemens. Most people don’t do the endings of a relationship well. They usually leave a legacy of hurt and damage instead of one of healing and inspiration. We discuss the importance of ending a relationship or marriage in a healing manner. There are many lessons in endings. Your lessons come through the choices you make, and your choices create your character.
Jim is a divorce lawyer and life coach in Asheville, N.C. He has extensive experience as a trial lawyer, mediator, and negotiator in family law cases. Jim accepts family law cases throughout Western North Carolina. Jim accepts coaching clients throughout the US and Canada.
“Divorce is not what people want but when it presents itself..., where are the gifts and opportunities now?” - Jim Siemens
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https://www.wnclaw.com
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Relationships have their own cycles and phases, somewhat like the seasons in nature. Some of those seasons can be romantic, playful, connecting, family focused, deep understanding. Other seasons can be one of disconnection, grief, lack of understanding. And since we are part of nature our relationships can coincide with the seasons of nature. Each of the four seasons can bring out different energies and ways of being with each other.
In this episode my wife, Yvonne Rainbow and I explore some of the different seasons in our 26 year relationship and how we navigated towards acceptance, understanding and growth. We also talk about how we learned to be more in sync with the actual four seasons of nature as it pertains to our relationship.
Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Yvonne is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
“It is possible to change those seasons around if we feel stuck in a season that’s not going anywhere, we got to breakthrough” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
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“Our life is a story”, yet some of our individual stories that we tell ourselves also limit us which can therefore reinforce our core limiting beliefs of ourselves as well as others in our lives. These stories may have originated in childhood or conditioned by society and have stayed with us throughout our lives. Some of the stories we tell ourselves do serve us, yet there are those that hold us back. We need to ask ourselves, “Are these stories true?” “Is this still my reality?” and if so “Do I dare to change them?”.
In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.
“We need to challenge the stories that hold us back” - Gregg Levoy
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Life is becoming busier and busier. The further society progresses, the more it seems that we have more to juggle: work, family, friends, education, health, finances, Netflix series, mortgages. Between these and many other modern-day distractions, it’s difficult for many of us to put effort into our relationships - and easy to say, “I don’t have time!” I get it. But we have to understand that cultivating and nurturing our relationships isn’t solely about time. It’s also about keeping boundaries, protecting what’s truly important, and consciously giving your attention to you, your partner, and your relationship.
In this episode, I discuss the importance of making your relationship a priority and how to do it in spite of the world’s busyness. I discuss our tendency to prioritize our relationships in the beginning and lose our focus over time. I reveal the many reasons it’s difficult for us to prioritize our relationship and explain how we can stay deeply connected with our partner - even when doing individual things. I share the exercise questions I use to assess whether I’m giving my wife the quality attention she deserves. I also underscore the role of self-care and self-development in maintaining and prioritizing relationships and highlight what it means to have a shared experience with your partner.
“Every relationship requires effort. The happiest ones are given plenty of attention.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why it’s difficult to prioritize our relationships
- The importance of prioritizing ourselves and bringing a healthy sense of self into the relationship
- Maintaining your connection with your partner in micro-moments
- Cultivating a relationship in the mundane life
- The value of checking-in with your partner and why it’s different from asking for permission
- Nurturing a relationship through kindness, generosity, and respect
- How our partner or family sometimes doesn’t get the best of us
- Keeping boundaries to maintain and protect relationships
- The myth of spontaneity and why relationships need time & effort
- How to make time for your relationship when you’re busy
- What an authentic shared experience is and how to have one with your partner
- Focus, attention, and reserving a mental space for your partner
- Exercise questions to assess the quality of attention you give in your relationship
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David LaMotte is an award-winning musician, speaker, and author. I’ve known David and have been a huge fan of his music for about 20 years, watching his concerts in Asheville and Black Mountain many times over the years. But it was through his book, Worldchanging 101: Challenging the Myth of Powerlessness, that I got to know his work in peacebuilding. David is someone who has spent many years of his life cultivating peace, both within himself and in his community. In 2008, he suspended his career in music to accept a Rotary World Fellowship and study International Relations, Peace, and Conflict Resolution at the University of Queensland in Brisbane, Australia. He has spoken and facilitated conversations about race, privilege, and positive change, and his talk for TEDxAsheville discusses how music can teach us how to understand peace and conflict. He is the Co-Founder and President of PEG Partners, a non-profit for literacy, critical thought, and artistic expression in Guatemala, and was named “Madison World Changer” for his work in the country.
Today, David is writing his next book, tentatively titled “Harmony: What Music Can Teach Us About Peacemaking in a Troubled Time.”
David joins me today to dive deep into what peacemaking is. We discuss the importance of building inner peace so we can portray it outward in our homes and communities. We explain the etymology of pacifism and highlight why it’s not just about being passive. We describe the role of hope in activism, the usefulness of vulnerability as a means of change, and the impact of creativity in interrupting hate and prejudice. We also underscore the power of names and words as well as contemplate the wisdom of the civil rights movement and activists such as John Lewis and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“The work of peacebuilding is about approaching conflict in constructive ways.” - David LaMotte
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Rethinking peacemaking and how David’s first understanding of peace and harmony has evolved
- Why it’s important to distinguish kindness from niceness
- How peace requires stepping towards conflict, not away from it
- Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable and how conflict leads to deeper understanding in a relationship
- How couples can work on conflict resolution
- The two facets of sensitivity and using sensitivity to move towards somebody
- Choosing vulnerability as a means of change and a look at the model of the civil rights movement
- Non-violence, its misconceptions, and why pacifism isn’t about being passive
- The activism of love and our cultural narrative about what hope means
- The relationship between inner peace, outer peace, and activism
- Why the only way to know what integrity is to be out of it
- The name of peace and why I changed my name
- How David cultivates peace in his family
- An exercise in conflict mediation
- Creative interruption and the Coup Clutz Clown counter-rally
- David’s principles for recognizing social privilege
- Accepting the possibility of human transformation
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- Music Can Help Us Understand Peace and Conflict | David LaMotte on TEDxAsheville
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- Let’s Be Neighbors
- David LaMotte Website
- David LaMotte on LinkedIn
- David LaMotte on Facebook
- David LaMotte on Twitter
- Book: Worldchanging 101: Challenging the Myth of Powerlessness
- Book: White Flour
- Book: S. Bathtub
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. One of the greatest joys in his life involves relating with others. So, it’s not surprising that he remembers one sentence I said over a year ago in one of our conversations: that the number one predictor of a relationship’s success is allowing influence. But sometimes, opening up to our partners’ thoughts and ideas can be challenging, especially if we’re still working on our tendencies to withdraw and our need to be right.
How do you accept your partner’s influence with gentleness - without feeling disempowered or defensive?
In this episode, Corey and I share some examples of opening up to influence in our relationships with our partners, in our work as therapists, and in our friendship with each other. We emphasize the importance of embracing your partner’s influence and thoughts with grace, humility, and a good heart. We share how men are normally socially conditioned to seek “winning” and reject the notion of opening up to influence from their partners. We also share statistical data that provides insight into the effects of sharing power in a relationship and underscore how embracing influence can make our relationships more magical.
“The best way to effectively share power in a relationship is when we can each have a voice and when we can each feel confident about the influence of our voice.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Influence and sharing power in relationships
- The number one thing that makes relationships thrive
- How our partner’s influence can be an indicator of a behavior we’re not conscious of
- The detrimental impacts of rejecting influence
- Statistical data on the relationship between being open to influence and the success of a marriage
- Men’s need to “win” and how the need to be right lowers the other person’s self-confidence
- The importance of listening to the reflection of a relationship
- How men are socially conditioned to perceive allowing influence as relegating autonomy and power
- How trust and self-awareness can allow us to open up to influence and accept boundaries
- Withdrawing connection, attention, and love as unhealthy responses to influence
- Cultivating balance and allowing influence in physical contact
- Allowing influence in friendships and how nobody changes with criticism
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Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: stillpoint@stillpointwell.com
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Medical decisions and our relationship with experts in the medical field take a prominent role at this stage of the pandemic - and our response to it. Which is why information is crucial, and something Dr. Mark Hoch - Founding Diplomate of the American Board of Integrative Holistic Medicine - is passionate about guiding people through. Mark has been a medical doctor for over 30 years. He received his M.D. from the University of Pittsburgh and completed his residency in Family Medicine at the University of Connecticut. Today, Mark is active in the holistic medical movement in the U.S. and sits as Co-Chair of the Past Presidents Council of the Academy of Integrative Health and Medicine. But what really makes Mark special is his integrity and diligent work to educate others on health at a time where informed consent is imperative.
In this episode, Mark and I discuss the role of integrity in a relationship between doctors and patients. We describe what informed consent means and underscore its importance amid the global pandemic. We explain how not aligning with integrity can impact our health and wellbeing as well as how fear discourages us from choosing to act with integrity. We also highlight the need to practice integrity and underscore the value of tolerance and standing up for what’s right.
“The quality of relationships people attract or find themselves in resonates with integrity.” - Dr. Mark Hoch
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The role of informed consent and integrity in the work of a physician
- What happens when people don’t know they are not aligned with their integrity
- How integrity was modeled in Mark’s childhood and family
- Making mistakes in life and how they can help us check our alignment with integrity
- The relationship between a person’s integrity and their physical health and wellbeing
- “Choice” moments and the aspects of integrity
- The story of a woman who suffered mercury and lead poisoning
- Mark’s professional journey in healthcare and the importance of teaching health
- Integrity misalignment on a massive social scale and how fear discourages us from being our authentic selves
- Learning from the dinosaurs and how Western medicine is not based on health
- The lack of integrity in healthcare and medical research
- Flip-flopping integrity and the difference between ignorance and outright lying
- The need to practice integrity and the healthy way to learn from life
Resources Mentioned:
- The Emergency Authorized mRNA COVID-19 Vaccine: Is It a Good Idea for Our Children?
- A Note on EAVs: Emergency Authorized Vaccines for COVID-19
Connect with Mark Hoch:
- Mark Hoch Website
- Mark Hoch on Instagram
- Mark Hoch on Facebook
- Mark Hoch on YouTube
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We all have our own histories, challenges, and traumas that we bring with us into every relationship. When we begin new relationships, opening up is an exciting part of the journey of getting to know each other. It’s easy to talk for hours, to find intimacy in a new connection with another person. But as we move further into our relationships, delving deeper into ourselves and our struggles can become more complex and can often cause roadblocks with our partners. Evenings spent in conversation turn into silent dinners or awkward fights that seem to be about nothing. Psychotherapist, author, and host of The Dignity of Suffering Podcast, Mitchell Smolkin sees these moments as opportunities for us to rewire the defense mechanisms that our brain has been conditioned to use. If we allow ourselves to be more vulnerable and share our past traumas, we will find greater fulfillment and intimacy in our relationships.
Today Mitchell and I explore what it really means to lean in with your partner and why so many of us find it difficult to do. We discuss our own experiences with intimacy in relationships, including moments of success and moments where we failed to be present or empathetic. We discuss the power of the brain in creating habits and defense mechanisms from past pain or trauma and how we can move forward with more vulnerability despite these challenges. We also touch on the joy of creating a more profound connection in relationships and how unlearning bad habits can lead to greater intimacy and fewer feelings of loneliness.
“The ability to come together, two people, and talk about disappointment - for me, that’s actually strength.” - Mitchell Smolkin
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The power of getting out of our comfort zones to create an opportunity for intimacy
- What it means to “lean in” with your partner
- The power of meeting your partner where they are
- How the arc of feeling vulnerable and being met with acceptance leads to a deeper connection
- Learning how to live through our past trauma so we can deal with future challenges
- How we can lean into our partner and share more of ourselves
- How intimacy can uncover old wounds and cause us to pull away or shut down
- The humbleness of witnessing someone else’s struggles vs. the challenge of being truly vulnerable ourselves
- How our brains have been wire with habitual defenses that build walls within our relationships
- Being an emotionally supportive partner and taking joy in the power of that connection
- How “missed moments” with our partners can cause us to withdraw emotionally
Connect with Mitchell Smolkin:
- Mitchell Smolkin Website
- The Dignity of Suffering Podcast
- Mitchell Smolkin on LinkedIn
- Mitchell Smolkin on Instagram
- Mitchell Smolkin on Facebook
- Mitchell Smolkin on YouTube
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If someone asked you to define your perfect partner, how would you respond? Oftentimes, our knee-jerk response focuses on different characteristics and personality traits like ‘I want someone kind, caring, compassionate, supportive, and patient.” But, before we begin to describe our ideal intimate partner - we need to look within ourselves and ask: “Am I being the person I want my partner to be?” and “Am I being the partner I want to be?”
The old adage, ‘treat others the way you want to be treated’ rings true in nearly every relationship and - more often than not - the quest to find the intimate partner you most want lies in doing your own inner work.
In today’s episode, I discuss why it’s difficult - if not impossible - to find the intimate partner you want the most if you avoid looking within yourself and changing your own behaviors. I discuss how the characteristics and values you seek in an intimate partner are often the same characteristics and values you want in yourself and how reflecting on your life and relationships can help you become the kind of partner you want to be. I discuss why it’s crucial to be compassionate with yourself as you shift your behavior and the importance of finding opportunities each day to show up as the kind of partner you want to become. I also explain how taking time to take care of yourself can help you become a better partner and attract the intimate partner you most want to have.
“How you relate to other people is a reflection of who you are in your higher self; how you connect.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Adopting the characteristics and values you want in your partner
- Envisioning the person you want to be and how you want to be by learning from past mistakes and experiences
- How envisioning yourself on your deathbed and reflecting on your life can help you become the kind of partner you want to be
- How I learned to become more patient with my wife, Rainbow, by focusing on becoming the kind of partner I wanted to be
- Embracing self-care, self-love and being compassionate with yourself for the times when you’re not acting like the partner you want to be
- How setting boundaries can help you avoid criticizing your partner or showing disinterest in the challenges they face
- Asking yourself what you are doing to make it more difficult to find the partner you most want
- Why people often try to exert their power when they feel under-valued and how it impacts relationships
- Practicing the values and characteristics you want to have with your family and in your friendships
- How changing your behavior, characteristics, and values can inspire change in your partner
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Seeking approval from our peers and loved ones is natural. We want other people to like us whenever we walk in the world. Trish Kruger, a licensed clinical mental health counselor for Blue Ridge Treks, believes that our need for validation and approval from others is part of our history as human beings. But, Trish suggests when we start feeling constricted and heavy in the course of seeking approval, that’s how we’ll know we’ve tipped the scale and have done too much, forgetting to honor our authenticity along the way.
In this episode, Trish and I discuss the human need for validation and the point when approval-seeking becomes detrimental for individuals and their relationships. We describe the relationship between self-esteem & seeking approval and the importance of cultivating a strong sense of self. We explain how our relationship with approval is formed in childhood and discuss how minority groups are forced to seek approval to survive. We also underscore how adult attachment styles impact our desire to seek approval and highlight how we can respond with compassion and kindness to the parts of ourselves that need approval and validation from others.
“Healthy validation is rooted in love - we need that as communal beings. We’re meant to be in our tribe, and being in our tribe helps us feel understood.” - Trish Kruger
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The underlying worry and anxiety in approval-seeking
- Being authentically generous from a place of a healthy sense of self as opposed to seeking approval
- Resentment and other indicators of an unhealthy approval-seeking in relationships
- The difference between a “reflected” sense of self and a “strong” sense of self
- Power differentiation and seeking approval as a matter of survival
- How and when approval-seeking becomes detrimental in a relationship
- Walking on eggshells and how girls and women learn to try not to be “too much”
- Healthy validation and how it’s different from approval-seeking
- A tree with shallow roots and what fear is like in a relationship
- Our need for approval during periods of transition
- Why parents need to be cognizant of how they’re feeding their children’s need for approval
- Seeking love steeped in fear and its prevalence in today’s society
- Risking relationships by speaking and living your truth
- The liberating feeling we feel whenever we align ourselves with our integrity and authenticity
- How we engage in reckless behavior when we’re not in alignment
- Practicing acceptance and compassion for the part of ourselves that seeks approval
- Self-soothing and self-care in the face of rejection
Resources Mentioned:
- Book: Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
- Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Related Content:
- People Pleasing
- The Importance of Rituals for Relationship Transformation
- The Power and Effects of Words
Connect with Trish Kruger:
- Blue Ridge Treks
- Trish Kruger on Facebook
- Email: trishkruger.lpc@gmail.com
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Every one of us, at some point in our sojourn in this world, encounters a point of decision. Whether it’s in our work, businesses, or marriage, life confronts us with the choice of staying our course or leaving. Sometimes the choices scare us, and so we put it off. Shaun Rawls - a highly sought-after keynote speaker and author of “F”-IT-LESS - believes that many of us will put off these critical life decisions so much that life itself eventually makes the decision for us. Through his work and book, Shaun helps other people evaluate and define what’s important for them and outline actions so they can work on the things worth staying for.
In this episode, Shaun and I discuss the kind of work you need to do in evaluating whether you should stay or leave a relationship. We explain why some people don’t leave their relationships, despite knowing that they want to, and describe the impact of holding on to commitments for the sake of being committed. We share how attuning with the wisdom of your body can help with decision-making and share some tools to help people communicate difficult feelings. We also highlight the importance of shifting the blame from your partner and focusing instead on the inner work that you need to do as well as underscore our need to live in our true alignment.
“Whether you’re moving towards staying or going, move towards it together, not as islands where one of you is further away and out.” - Shaun Rawls
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Encountering the ‘should-I-stay-or-should-I-go’ choice points in different aspects of life
- When to quit and when to stick
- “Ride-or-die” versus “asterisk” commitments and some choice points Shaun met in his life
- The relationship between our personality and how we deal with commitment
- How being committed to commitment prevents us from aligning with who we are
- Living in our true alignment and the power of connecting with your body to help evaluate decisions
- How men normally find it difficult to connect with their feelings and inner selves
- A simple tool to help people communicate what they feel
- Why you need to ask whether you like yourself in your relationship
- The importance of thinking about long-term relationships as choices we make daily
- The inner work involved in determining whether you should stay or leave a relationships
- A merger, a marriage, and how Shaun knew he wanted to leave his first marriage
- Shifting the blame from your partner and how I decided that I’ll stay in my relationship with my wife, Rainbow
- Using the “F”-IT plan to evaluate your relationship and quality of life
- The work involved in long-term relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) by Seth Godin
- Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap...And Others Don’t by Jim Collins
Connect with Shaun Rawls:
- Shaun Rawls Website
- Shaun Rawls on LinkedIn
- Shaun Rawls on Facebook
- Shaun Rawls on Twitter
- Book: “F”-it-Less: 18 F-Words to Reframe and Repurpose Your Life
Let’s Talk About It!
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Thomas Doochin moved down the street from our house around the end of 2019. And, through more than a year and a half of knowing each other, he and I have become good friends and neighbors. Thomas is the former CEO of Daymaker, a compassion platform that helps organizations cultivate a deeper connection with their community. After several years in service as Daymaker’s chief executive, Thomas is now beginning a new cycle of life. Today, he is exploring his native roots, regenerative agriculture, and how he can serve to reconnect people to the land - all in addition to remaining open in a beautiful space where the truths of life can come to him and the people around him.
In this episode, Thomas and I share our needs to be in a deeper, more authentic friendship. We discuss how we can take risks to communicate our wants and needs and describe the challenges of taking those risks to be closer. We discuss what it means to be honest and why we need to ground ourselves in our own truth. We also highlight the role of simple moments of life in bringing out truth and underscore how we can create safe spaces where we can express radical honesty to each other.
“Honesty is the pathway to the larger truth. There are micro moments of honesty where your feelings might get hurt. But those micro moments of honesty add up to us being in touch with this larger truth.” - Thomas Doochin
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- An invitation to be human and excavate radical honesty in relationships
- Learning to watch the transition between life’s highs and lows
- Diving into what it means to be honest
- Our need for other people who can hold space for us
- The importance of asking our friends to hold space
- The profoundness of simple moments and their power to create safe spaces
- Why we need to center onto our own truth
- The larger truths of life, how honesty leads to it, and what it means to share what is real
- Speaking your truth in a compassionate way
- Creating spaces for radical honesty
- How small moments of interaction can set the stage for honesty and truth
- Bringing truth and authenticity in compassion
- The beauty of long relationships and friendships and the healing power of intimacy
- An evening of talk, pumpkin pie, and holding on to the sweetness of experience
Resources Mentioned:
- Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth by Brad Blanton
Related Content:
- The Relationship of Business Through the Lens of Giving
- Generosity: Contemplating How We Show Up In Our Relationships
- The Challenges of Workplace Relationships
Connect with Thomas Doochin:
- Daymaker
- Daymaker on Instagram
- Daymaker on Facebook
- Daymaker on Twitter
- Thomas Doochin on LinkedIn
- Thomas Doochin on Twitter
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Two people meet under some random circumstance, fall in love, experience some disconnection along the way and question their feelings. Realizing they really love each other, the wedding bells toll. Such is the usual plot of a romantic film. By the time the credits roll and the theater lights up, we already have this assumption that they spend the rest of their lives together in blissful matrimony. While we can’t deny that love and romance are beautiful things, these films fail to show the real work involved in maintaining long-term, healthy relationships.
Today, I discuss how we create relationship illusions - and how we can recognize and dissipate these illusions so we can appreciate our partners for who they truly are. I share a recent blunder I made in my relationship with my wife and underscore the importance of reacting not as children but as adults. I explain how expecting our partners to be perfect can damage our relationship with them as well as why growth involves knowing what’s happening within us. I also discuss ways we can exercise our relational skills and highlight our roles as teachers (and students) of love in a relationship.
“Loving relationships are beautiful, but we need to understand reality and welcome it so that we can turn every moment into something intimate, transparent, and authentic.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The mundaneness, challenges, and joys of long-term relationships
- How we unconsciously love the way we loved as children
- The humility involved in the work of love
- How anger can erode sexual desire and the quality of relationships
- Dispelling the illusion of perfection in our partners and ourselves
- What real love is and the importance of compassion and empathy in relationships
- How the shadow aspects of relationships can be an ally
- Why love is more effective at bringing people together than keeping them together
- Getting to know your love map and how to hone our relationship and relating skills
- The difficulty of changing the type of people we are attracted to
- Changing our response to the imperfection of life and people
- How to become a better teacher of kindness, generosity, and empathy in your relationship
Related Content:
- What Makes a Relationship Worth Doing the Hard Work
- Falling in Love
- Difficult Conversations
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Dealing with our own anger habits in a healthy and productive way can be challenging in itself, but what can often be even more difficult is learning how to deal with receiving someone else’s anger in a way that doesn’t turn into a conflict or inspire feelings of resentment. If we leave ourselves unchecked, it can be easy to ‘feed off’ of someone else’s anger. Keeping ourselves grounded when receiving someone’s anger is critical to defuse the situation, but how do you do that? Addiction counselor, trauma specialist, and co-founder of Still Point Wellness, Corey Costanzo, suggests it starts with self-regulation
In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss the varying degrees of anger - both giving and receiving it. We discuss how some anger is considered healthy and how we can determine when someone’s anger becomes unhealthy and abusive. We explore ways couples can help their partners defuse their anger. We discuss how my wife, Rainbow, helps me self-regulate my angry feelings by allowing me to vent. We highlight the strategies we use to keep ourselves grounded when we’re on the receiving end of someone’s anger, such as breathing deeply and validating the other person’s point of view. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries when receiving someone’s anger, some of the phrases that can often trigger a person’s anger, such as“calm down,” “just deal with it,” and “ you’re making too big of a deal out of this.” We also share alternative phrases you can use to help defuse an angry situation and Corey shares how his wife, Robin, helped him snap out of an ‘anger fog’ through empathy, understanding, and love.
“It’s the validation of an angry person’s anger that is most likely going to defuse the anger and lead towards greater connection and understanding.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Understanding the difference between ‘healthy anger’ and ‘unhealthy anger’ and why it’s critical to recognize the boundary line between them
- How mirroring strategies and allowing your partner to express their anger without interruption can help them self-regulate their behaviors
- How our childhood experiences with anger Impact the way we deal with other people’s anger in adulthood
- Using deep breathing techniques to keep yourself grounded while receiving someone’s anger
- Setting healthy boundaries when someone’s anger crosses the line
- Identifying and addressing emotionally, psychologically, and verbally abusive behaviors
- Working with your partner to set healthy boundaries, agreements, and commitments for dealing with each other’s anger
- Phrases that can often fuel a person’s anger and what you can say instead to help defuse the situation
- How validating your partner’s feelings and experiences can help them feel less threatened
- How Robin snapped Corey out of an ‘anger fog’ by expressing her concern for his health and wellbeing
- Using the practice of witnessing your partner’s anger when it’s directed at an object
- Retraining your mind and body to respond to anger in a healthier way through visualization techniques
- Preparing ourselves for conflicts in our relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
- The Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics by Cedar Barstow
Related Content:
- The Anger Habit
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
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Spiritual practice is a yearning for many of us. One can certainly feel the desire to renounce the world and live a contemplative life in a secluded monastery. But Zen priest and milkman Jonathon Flaum advises that spiritual growth can be found in the everyday. Echoing the teachings of the Buddhist philosopher Dogen, Jonathon warns us that the seeds of awakening can be cultivated by taking care of what’s in front of us, no matter how worldly they may be: from mopping the floors, delivering and organizing bottles of milk, or cleaning a rug full of fur to relating with our life partners, children, and friends.
In this episode, Jonathon and I discuss the insights he has culminated in his practice as a Zen monk and milkman. We discuss what working as a milkman taught Jonathon about taking care of things - and of people. We explore how the practice of Zen can be found in something as mundane as housework and ponder how establishing a relationship with chores helps us relate with people. We also elaborate on the wisdom that could be found in committed relationships like marriage and how - if we remain open - they can give us an opportunity for spiritual awakening.
“The thing about zen practice is we start with relating with very small things, like sweeping the floor. It’s about establishing a relationship with the environment and treating them like they matter.” - Jonathon Flaum
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Bringing the perspective of Zen in the art of relating
- Revering the things around us and how Zen teaches us to relate with small, everyday things
- The wonders of a silent Zen retreat
- Why Zen isn’t about perfectionism and how perfectionism can be aggressive
- Bringing the Zen practice to delivering milk and in daily life
- How putting the time and effort to take care of things creates a connection with people
- The subtlety of human relationships and the importance of paying attention to the smallest of things
- The old man, his art, and the value of taking care of what’s in front of you
- Cultivating a relationship with chores, the house, and honoring the humans in it
- The difference between cleaning up before and after everyone
- Opening the hand and relating with emotions
- Misconceptions about the Buddhist practice of non-attachment
- Steadying as you go in marriage and the importance of allowing ourselves to get surprised
- Marriage as the spiritual practice and how to see the magic in our partners
- Treating everything equally and Dogen’s instructions to a cook
Resources Mentioned:
- Opening the Hand of Thought: Foundations of Zen Buddhist Practice by Kosho Uchiyama Roshi
Connect with Jonathon Flaum:
- Asheville Tiny Temple
- Great Tree Temple
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Worrying is a natural inclination. It is inherent in every one of us to want to protect ourselves, our loved ones, and our possessions from harm. Like other emotions, worrying is an element of the human condition that can transform into a detrimental habit when left unchecked. While worrying can show up in our lives and relationships, fashion designer and Artsy Goddess Studio founder Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky suggests that the key to managing it is to be mindful of our words and emotions when reacting to challenging situations - an insight perhaps derived from our marriage that has seen both joy and worry over the last 25 years.
In this episode, Rainbow and I recollect how worry has shown up in our relationship, what we learned from it, and how we manage it. We discuss how worry is a human impulse and how it can negatively impact relationships. We compare how men and women generally respond to worry. We share our experiences growing up with worriers in the family and highlight the importance of trusting children. We also underscore the differences between worry and anxiety and emphasize the role of authenticity and aligning with our values in alleviating worry.
“Worry is a part of life - the trick is balance and awareness.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Worrying about health, providing for the family, and the weather
- The value of trusting how we respond to a situation rather than trying to control it
- Growing up with worriers in the family
- Letting go of a situation that we can’t work out
- How men and women experience worry differently
- The difference between processing worry and ruminating or suppressing it
- Dealing with worry and other negative thoughts and feelings
- Our tendency to ‘catastrophize’ things that don’t actually happen
- How children feel their parent’s worry and the power of focusing on what we want instead of what we’re scared of
- Trusting our children to make good decisions in their lives
- The role of communication in preventing and soothing worry
- Explosive reactions and how they can make your partner be avoidant
- The importance of giving and receiving confidence from each other
- The role of appreciation in building confidence in relationships
- Seeing a UFO on a starry night and the importance of expressing care in worry
- The difference between worry and anxiety
- The power of authenticity and value systems in lifting worry
- Allowing our partners to deal with their worry in their own way
Resources Mentioned:
- Guided Audio Meditations
Related Content:
- Anxiety in Families
- Fatherhood: My Kind of Yoga
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Safety, trust, and vulnerability. These are some of the pillars of long-term relationships. That is why infidelity could inflict a deep wound within us - for betrayal stands at the opposite end of what relationships stand for: open-heartedness, transparency, and communication. Licensed marriage & family therapist Jennifer Lehr is the founder and owner of WeConcile, through which she helps couples heal from pain and reconnect in their relationships. She stresses that infidelity is such a powerful force that it completely changes a relationship - but through work, transparency, and the willingness to own up to vulnerabilities, couples may be able to reconcile and begin their relationship anew.
In this episode, Jennifer and I explore the different aspects of betrayal in relationships. We highlight the difference between privacy and secrecy and explain how the latter can become destructive to a relationship. We discuss whether the cheated person should ask detailed questions about an affair. We also underscore the role of transparency and vulnerability in healing and reconciliation after a betrayal and emphasize the importance of supporting each other’s growth in a relationship.
“Infidelity is a tsunami - it completely changes the landscape of a relationship. Rebuilding is a definite process that involves responsibility and remorse, and transparency.” - Jennifer Lehr
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The slippery slope of emotional infidelity
- The many forms of betrayal
- Creating safety and trust in long-term relationships
- Taking ownership of infidelity and how defensiveness makes betrayal challenging to heal
- The difference between privacy versus secrecy and their relationship to trust
- The importance of cultivating reliability
- The need for transparency after infidelity
- Why it takes so long to rebuild trust after a betrayal
- Grieving and mourning a relationship after an affair
- Working through patterns and histories of cheating
- Being a grown-up and aligning with our integrity
- How secrecy can be a form of control and manipulation
- Jennifer’s philosophy of reconciliation and rebuilding trust after infidelity
- Accepting remorse and how it’s different from forgiveness
- Influencing the precipitating factors of infidelity
- The role of a couple’s therapist in rebuilding trust in relationships
- How defensiveness creates a break in the progress of healing
- The reason power and control moves are a form of betrayal
Related Content:
- Emotional Infidelity: Is It Really Cheating?
- Having Privacy vs. Keeping Secrets
- Building Trust in Relationships
Connect with Jennifer Lehr:
- WeConcile
- WeConcile on LinkedIn
- WeConcile on Instagram
- WeConcile on Facebook
- WeConcile on Twitter
- WeConcile on YouTube
- Jennifer Lehr
- Jennifer Lehr on LinkedIn
- Jennifer Lehr on Facebook
- Jennifer Lehr on YouTube
- Jennifer Lehr on Twitter
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
There is something beautiful and affirming about being truly seen and known. To be understood and accepted for who we are, despite our flaws and shortcomings, is a common aspiration in relationships, one which requires us to embrace vulnerability. Greggy Levoy, speaker and author of Vital Signs and Callings, suggests that the choice to show your cards and lower your defenses - despite the fear and anxiety of shame and losing control - is the kind of vulnerability that builds trust and safety in relationships. And when we embrace our vulnerabilities, we open ourselves to healing.
Today, Gregg and I contemplate the power of vulnerability. We discuss vulnerability’s capacity to create trust between relationships and encourage others to embrace their vulnerability. We explain how vulnerability feels like weakness when considered from the inside out but looks like courage when examined from the outside in. We describe how we can default to vulnerability through compassion and the difficulty of accepting love and appreciation. We also highlight the healing power of vulnerability and underscore how we can create space for someone when we are on vulnerability’s receiving end.
“Vulnerability and trust are intimately related. By lowering your drawbridge, you encourage your partner to do the same.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The relationship between vulnerability and trust
- How embracing vulnerability encourages others to be open with their own
- A communal way of expressing vulnerability
- Why accepting flaws and shortcomings is part of saying ‘yes’ to a relationship
- Understanding why people hesitate to be vulnerable
- How our childhood experiences with vulnerability persist into our adult relationships
- The importance of considering the recipient of your vulnerability
- Our tendency to equate vulnerability and love
- The sweet moment of being accepted with your vulnerability
- The healing power of revealing and vulnerability
- The role of confession in the therapeutic world
- What it means to have a confiding relationship
- How self-compassion creates strength in moments of vulnerability
- What we need to do when someone opens up about their vulnerabilities
- The human impulse of comforting other people
Resources Mentioned:
- A Natural History of Love by Diane Ackerman
- Love and Survival: 8 Pathways to Intimacy and health by Dean Ornish
- Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
Related Content:
- Revealing Is Healing: The Power of Vulnerability by Gregg Levoy
- New Love...Taking Risks to be Real
- The Loss of Touch
- Non-Violent Communication
- Building Trust in Relationships
- Releasing Tension: The Courage to Feel
- Following Personal Passions and Taking Risks Can Nurture Your Relationships
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
- BOOK: Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life by Gregg Levoy
- BOOK: Vital Signs: Discovering and Sustaining Your Passion for Life by Gregg Levoy
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Practicing yoga can be a stretch for beginners. But while it can put you in a challenging position, did you know that practicing partner yoga as a couple can powerfully impact your relationship? Jenne Sluder is a mental health professional and certified yoga therapist specializing in mind-body approaches to improving mental and physical wellbeing. According to Jenne, yoga is a practice of healing oneself and others. When practiced as a couple, partner yoga can give individuals in relationships an opportunity to deeply connect in a non-verbal way. Couple’s don’t have to worry about flexibility either. Jenne stresses that partner yoga doesn’t have to only be about complicated poses; it can be as simple yet powerful as breathing together and looking into each others’ eyes.
In this episode, Jenne and I discuss how couples can bring yoga and mind-body practices into their lives and enhance their relationships. We describe the interactive quality of partner yoga and illustrate what makes it different from other practices of yoga. We highlight the role of self-kindness in mind-body practices and partner yoga. We also explore how couple’s yoga can create a space for emotional safety and cultivate the language of intimacy and compassion in a relationship.
“Yoga is a vehicle for intimacy and relationship with your body, with each other, and with the natural world.” - Jenne Sluder
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Jenne’s background and how long she has been practicing and teaching yoga therapy
- What makes partner yoga unique and interactive for couples
- Metaphorically and literally leaning on each other and how practicing couple’s yoga can foster relationship trust
- Why Jenne encourages verbal exchange in partner yoga
- Learning the value of consent and getting to know your partner’s body through couple’s yoga
- How the partner yoga practice can be a safe environment for people to talk about their needs and wants
- Exploring communication and safety through the practice of breathing with your partner
- Reconnecting with your partner after conflict through yoga
- Utilizing mind-body practices to create an energy of care and support in the relationship
- How partner yoga and listening to your partner’s body can decrease tension in the relationship
- Coaching couples through the challenges of partner yoga
- How partner yoga can heal a relationship after infidelity and betrayal
- What yoga can teach us about consent
- The role of laughter and joy in partner yoga classes
- The practice of “being with” and the relationship between partner yoga and the power of eye contact
- How yoga practices can bring more compassion for physically-challenged partners
- Jenne’s experience with COVID-19 and how partner yoga helped her and her partner navigate the illness
Connect with Jenne Sluder:
- Jenne Sluder Website
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Whether we are its origin or its receiver, we all experience anger throughout our lives. While anger isn’t necessarily “bad,” it is a critical emotion to understand, for what we do with anger has the opportunity to bring our loved ones closer or push them away from us. And like other emotions, we become more accustomed to anger the more we express it without restraint, creating a toxic habit that can lead to contempt in our relationships. Anger becomes more difficult to manage when it becomes a habit, for habits are executed without much conscious effort. Although the anger habit can be hard-wired in a person’s brain, bodywork therapist and Still Point Wellness owner Corey Costanzo suggests that a person can break free from anger’s chains through awareness, conscious work, and education.
In this episode, Corey and I define anger as the need to be in control of external factors. We reveal how helplessness leads to frustration and, eventually, anger. We highlight different means of expressing anger in a healthy, non-destructive way. We discuss how anger impacts relationships and creates codependent dynamics in family systems. We also uncover the other emotions behind the mask of anger and underscore the power of appreciation as an antidote to the anger habit.
“Anger is an emotional pathway that gets hard-wired in the brain. With a bit of awareness, work, and information, you can shift out of the anger habit.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Anger as an emotional pathway and contraction in the body
- The roots of anger
- Why anger is a false sense of power and how it disempowers other people
- The first door to frustration and how it translates to anger
- A pet pig named Ginger and Corey’s recent experience with anger and frustration
- The feeling of justification whenever we express our anger
- How Corey shifted his expressions of anger and frustration
- The difference between feeling your anger versus expressing it without a filter
- How unmanaged anger creates a codependent dynamic in family systems and relationships
- Feelings of helplessness, frustration, anger, and how they all lead to contempt in relationships
- Why anger isn’t a bad emotion and how expressing a specific emotion creates more of it
- The value of visualizing our moments of anger
- Creating an environment where we can express difficult feelings in a healthier way
- Sitting with anger and how it’s different from ruminating on it
- The power of breath in dissipating anger
- Using anger, frustration, and other challenging emotions as biomarkers to detect the need to shift something
- How anger impacts children, their behavior, and the development of their nervous system
- The different styles of anger and how to manage them through awareness
Resources Mentioned:
- How Anger Affects Intimate Relationships by Randi Gunther
- Headspace
Related Content:
- Emotional Regulation
- Codependency
- Codependency: Ways to Overcome
- The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Failure
- New Love...Taking Risks to be Real
- Relationship Sabotage
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
There are many moments in a couple’s life that shame and fear show up shrouded in subtlety. While men predominantly feel shame and inadequacy, women tend to go through fear and anxiety. Because of this experiential difference between men and women, it becomes a challenge for couples to understand and navigate the dynamics of shame and fear in relationships. As such, Juan Santos - the owner of Santos Counseling and author of Couple’s Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work - recommends that couples seek self-discovery and strive to cultivate an environment of safety where they both can open up to vulnerability in their relationship.
Today, Juan and I illustrate how shame and fear interact and feed off of each other. We discuss the underlying factors of the shame/fear dynamic and describe how societal expectations exacerbate men’s experience with shame in adulthood. We explain how childhood upbringing influences the way people navigate moments of shame in their lives. We also underscore the power of compassionate touch in soothing and calming moments of vulnerability between couples and highlight the role of compassion and kindness in the self-exploration of shame and fear.
“We have to do work on ourselves to be able to feel comfortable with witnessing shame, so we know how to make space for others” - Juan Santos
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Feeling shameful about feeling shame
- Growing up in a culture of shame and men’s experience with shame and vulnerability
- Compassion and empathy as antidotes to fear
- Natural reactions to men’s expressions of shame and vulnerability
- Soothing vulnerability through intentional and compassionate touch
- Sexual shame and social expectations of sexual performance
- Being ashamed of not understanding the emotional world
- Providing for togetherness and understanding women’s experience with fear
- Decreasing resentment through compassion and connection
- The subtle ways couples shame each other
- Understanding and creating “soft start-ups” to conversations
- The power of visualization in cultivating the kind of people we want to be in relationships
- Why we need self-compassion when we explore and work on our shame
- Making space for others to share their shame and vulnerabilities
Related Content:
- Friendship Breakups
Connect with Juan Santos:
- Santos Counseling
- Santos Counseling on Instagram
- Santos Counseling on Facebook
- Santos Counseling on YouTube
- Juan Santos on LinkedIn
- EMAIL: juansantos@santoscounseling.com
- BOOK: Life Without Stress
- BOOK: Rebuilding Us: A 30 Day Guide for Healing Your Relationship After an Affair
- BOOK: Couple’s Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
The willingness to take risks, to be authentic, and to be open to vulnerability is critical to a new relationship. To author and speaker Gregg Levoy and musician and former Silicon Valley tech executive Cindy Nelson, being able to work with each other’s darkness and light - not to mention their “crazies” - allows them to go deeper in their connection with each other. Gregg & Cindy both began their relationship in May 2020. At the height of the pandemic, Gregg & Cindy navigated their budding relationship slowly, bearing the openness to balance out infatuation and romance with gentle doses of reality, indeed demonstrating that “love” is not only a feeling, but also a verb.
In this episode, Greg, Cindy, and I share the story of how they met and illustrate their unique way of connecting with each other. We discuss the value of catching and addressing issues while they’re still small and describe how couples can use non-violent communication to resolve conflict. We also highlight how couples can cultivate safety in each other and explain why it can be beneficial to see a couples’ therapist early on in the relationship.
“As we share our vulnerabilities, we become more capable of handling them, sharing them with somebody else, and putting our hearts in their hands.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How meeting during the pandemic helped Greg & Cindy take their time in their relationship
- Greg & Cindy’s first meeting in person after months of written correspondence
- The dynamics of new relationships and how Cindy & Greg knew they wanted to pursue their connection further
- Purposefully balancing out infatuation and romance with gentle doses of reality
- The first question Cindy asked in person and how Greg established that he wanted somebody with depth
- Greg & Cindy’s “crazies” and the importance of being open to vulnerability
- The power of intentional touch and its impact on a new relationship
- Establishing the need for some time alone and how Greg & Cindy satisfy each other’s love languages
- The right time to bring the “love is blind” adage into a relationship
- How taking risks and exploring vulnerability brings more love, intimacy, and safety
- How Cindy’s mindfulness practice helps her navigate her relationship with Greg
- Working through challenges while they’re still small
- Using non-violent communication to work through conflicts and avoid kitchen-sinking
- Expecting potential challenges and milestones in new relationships
- Navigating the extrovert-introvert scale between Greg & Cindy
- Making peace with and respecting your partner’s history and previous relationships
- Why it could be beneficial to see a relationship therapist earlier in a relationship
Related Content:
- The Loss of Touch
- Non-Violent Communication
- Building Trust in Relationships
- Heartbreak: Getting Whacked by Love
- Releasing Tension: The Courage to Feel
- The Importance of Self-Inquiry in Building Healthy Relationships
- Following Personal Passions and Taking Risks Can Nurture Your Relationships
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
- Book: Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life by Gregg Levoy
- Book: Vital Signs: Discovering and Sustaining Your Passion for Life by Gregg Levoy
Connect with Cindy Nelson:
- Cindy Nelson on LinkedIn
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Whether we’re in the dating stage or have been married for many years, there are many ways that we conduct self-defeating behaviors that can undermine our relationships. Some of these behaviors are so deeply rooted in our history that it can become challenging to uncover. Yet, it is human to have self-sabotaging tendencies, stresses Cathy Courtenay, a Conscious Relating Coach who guides people through connecting with themselves. With all our complexities and nuances, it may look impossible to form intimate relationships; but, through self-awareness and healing work, Cathy stresses it is possible to overcome our inclinations to sabotage and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.
In this episode, Cathy and I discuss the many ways we sabotage ourselves in our relationships, uncover their underlying causes, and share advice on how they can be managed. We dissect our personal challenges with self-sabotage in our relationships and discuss the steps we take to manage them. We also highlight the role of self-esteem and self-awareness in cultivating intimacy in relationships and healing self-sabotaging patterns.
“If you are self-sabotaging in your relationship to a point where it creates harm and damage, there may be a trigger from your past that needs to be looked at.” - Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How insecurities and the need for constant reassurance lead to self-sabotage
- Owning our vulnerabilities as the first step to mending insecurities
- The role of self-awareness in managing self-sabotaging emotions and behavior
- The dangers of knee-jerk responses from the lower brain and suppressing emotional experiences
- My subtle tendencies to sabotage in my marriage and Cathy’s inclination to hyperfocus on what’s wrong
- How Cathy uses appreciation practices to magnify the things for which she is grateful
- Why we need to shift how we view masculinity and femininity
- Anchoring on corrective experiences to heal the wounds of the past
- Codependency and sabotaging a relationship through doing your partner’s work
- The importance of taking responsibility for your part of a problem
- The pursuer versus the distancer and how their difference can sabotage a relationship
- Strategies and skills to handle anxious-avoidant relationship patterns
- The relationship grid and the connection between intimacy and self-esteem
- Engaging in unhealthy and excessive behaviors as a mode of self-sabotage
- How holding grudges can lead to poor communication and passive-aggressive behavior
- The fear of entrapment and managing differences in relationships
- Recognizing and managing the desire to control
Related Content:
- Understand and Manage Differences in Your Relationships
- What Makes A Relationship Worth Doing the Hard Work
- Couples’ Communication: Circling Techniques
- Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
- Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby
- Difficult Conversations
- Falling in Love
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Emotional attunement is a crucial skill to develop: it enables us to truly understand the people with whom we share moments in our lives, their experience, and their perspective. It allows us to deepen our relationship in a meaningful way. Emotional attunement has allowed the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, to connect with people and easily empathize throughout her life. But while it comes naturally for people like my wife Rainbow, it can be challenging for some to connect with other people on a more profound level. Like all skills, emotional attunement could be honed with intent and practice.
In this episode, Rainbow and I discuss how emotional attunement has benefited our relationship. We illustrate parenting’s role in the development of emotional attunement in a child and describe how emotional attunement has impacted our parenting skills. We discuss how we can foster emotional attunement within ourselves and explore the need to cultivate self-compassion first before we can be open to witnessing our partners’ difficult experiences. We also explain how becoming emotionally attuned allows a couple to give each other feedback with ease and equip them with tools to repair conflict.
“Emotional attunement is a big balancing act in our relationships and families. It’s important to be present with those who you are together with.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What emotional attunement means and how it’s similar to empathy
- How emotional attunement develops in early childhood years
- Secure attachment and the gift of understanding a child’s needs
- How the lack of emotional attunement from parents impacts a person’s adulthood
- The value of attuning to ourselves and our emotional needs
- Understanding our partners’ emotions through emotional attunement
- Why emotional attunement is natural to some people but challenging for others
- Non-defensive listening and asking open-ended questions to deepen our connection with loved ones
- What happens when we fail to emotionally attune with our partners
- The importance of cultivating self-compassion and self-kindness
- Emotional attunement in leadership and at work
- The advantages of being a ‘highly sensitive person’ and how Yvonne learned to set up boundaries over time
- Tuning in to somebody’s emotions without taking care of them
- How emotional attunement allows partners to be open to feedback from each other
- The role of emotional attunement in expressing, understanding, and acknowledging needs and boundaries
- Daily maintenance connection and the value of intentionally making the time to connect deeply
Related Content:
- The Art of Listening
- Expressing Needs
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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If appreciation is the number one relationship booster, what is the biggest thing that can undermine a relationship? The answer: contempt - that pattern of feelings and behaviors that expresses disgust and scorn towards a person or a group of people, ultimately dehumanizing them. The severity of contempt’s impact on people can make it seem like it’s easy to recognize; yet, contempt enters relationships as subtle as poison administered in careful, incremental drops.
In this episode, I discuss how contempt can usher a relationship to its failure. I share John Gottman’s definition of contempt and describe what causes it to sneak into intimate relationships. I highlight some behaviors that cultivate the seeds of contempt and explain why it’s so difficult to resolve. I also reveal how we can heal and reverse contempt in relationships and discuss how kindness and compassion can be antithetical to contempt.
“Contempt is a deep, slow poison in relationships. It goes for the kill by attacking a person’s sense of self.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The contagious nature of contempt and how it sneaks into intimate relationships
- Contempt in inter-personal relationships and how it bred the Holocaust
- How contempt makes partners seem more like opponents than a couple
- Examples of contemptuous remarks and body languages
- Contemptuous communication in social media and how it hinders productive dialog
- John Gottman’s “bid for connection” and how ignoring your partner’s efforts can undermine a relationship
- Withdrawing as a response to contempt and how neediness can lead to stonewalling
- The power dynamics of contempt in a relationship
- What makes patterns of contempt challenging to detect and reverse
- The importance of building an environment of admiration, kindness, respect, and empathy
- Recognizing the mask of contempt and what it conceals
- Why apathy, not hate, is the opposite of love
- The relationship between contempt and substance abuse
- Contempt as a means to avoid vulnerability
- The contagious nature of compassion and how it can heal our relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny
- Love and Contempt: It’s so easy to go from one to the other - Psychology Today
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- The #1 Relationship Booster
- Stonewalling: The Silent Treatment that Blocks Communication
Let’s Talk About It!
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We always talk about romantic breakups; it is the subject of songs, poems, and movies. But despite the importance of friendships in our lives, the breaking up of platonic relationships is rarely discussed - much less does it ever become the reason for someone to see a relationship therapist. Yet, the lack of closure in a separation between friends can lead one to harbor resentment, which can - according to licensed clinician Juan Santos - restrict us from letting ourselves live life to its fullest.
Juan Santos is the owner of Santos Counseling in Greensboro, North Carolina, who helps people reclaim their lives and build healthy relationships. He enjoys guiding people through journeys of self-discovery and uncovering ways of becoming their best versions and specializes in helping distant couples and struggling parents. In addition to his practice, Juan is also the author of the books Life Without Stress, Rebuilding Us: A 30 Day Guide for Healing Your Relationship After an Affair, and Couple’s Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work.
In this episode, Juan and I explore the challenges of ending friendships. We discuss the reasons friends call it quits and the factors which indicate that it may be time to end a platonic relationship. We differentiate romantic and platonic relationships in terms of how people handle their finality. We describe friendship as a gift and highlight the value of allowing a friend to have multiple sources of support. We also underscore the importance of forgiveness in letting go of a friend and the value of acknowledging the truth that our journey through life as individuals may go in directions different from others’.
“It’s a choice to be in someone’s life; spending even five minutes with us is a beautiful gift. It’s important that when we end a platonic relationship, we acknowledge how it has helped us.” - Juan Santos
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Grief and resentment in friendship breakups
- The importance of closure in platonic relationships
- How evolving goals and values can end platonic relationships
- The difference in how men and women relate with their friends
- The difficulty men encounter in forming friendships with their peers
- Modeling friendship cultivation and healthy breakups for children
- Spring-cleaning friendships and the tell-tale signs of a declining friendship
- The importance of doing a State of the Union Address between friends
- Jealousy and competitions in friendships and the factors to consider to know if it’s time to let go of a friendship
- What to do when people don’t meet expectations in friendships
- The value of having different friends to meet different interests, areas, and needs in life
- Supporting a friend in the decisions they make and trusting them when they choose other sources of support
- Forgiveness, letting go of resentment, and remembering the gifts of a person who left a friendship
- Accepting the lifetime and finality of friendships
- Why it’s difficult for us to have closure in platonic relationships and the need to formalize friendship breakups
- Embracing change and giving ourselves permission to grow
Connect with Juan Santos:
- Santos Counseling
- Santos Counseling on Instagram
- Santos Counseling on Facebook
- Santos Counseling on YouTube
- EMAIL: juansantos@santoscounseling.com
- BOOK: Life Without Stress
- BOOK: Rebuilding Us: A 30 Day Guide for Healing Your Relationship After an Affair
- BOOK: Couple’s Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work
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Once a person recognizes codependent patterns in their relationships, the next important step is to learn how to overcome them. Our friendships can be a source of good modeling and influence our journey through healing codependency in our lives. My friend, Corey Costanzo, is one such friend who encourages my positivity in the world. He is a licensed addictions counselor, bodywork therapist, and somatic experiencing practitioner who owns Still Point Wellness, the premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina. Through the years, Corey and I have worn many hats together: as colleagues who consult with one another and as fathers who celebrate each other’s parenting. Ours is a friendship that has seen joy and appreciation - truly, a fine piece in overcoming codependent tendencies.
In this episode, Corey and I discuss the hallmarks of codependent patterns and behaviors in relationships and the tools a person needs to break them. We discuss how childhood upbringing and family dynamics can inform codependent behavior later in life and illustrate how friendships can support the healing of codependent relationships. We highlight the role of education in raising awareness of codependent patterns as well as overcoming them. We also underscore the power of the breath in realizing, managing, and healing codependent behavior and explain how meditative practices can help us self-soothe difficult emotions.
“The antidote is loving oneself, self-respect, and self-awareness.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The signs of codependency and how people develop them
- Codependency as a learned behavior and how it shows up in families struggling with addiction and long-term illnesses
- How codependency lives in the subconscious patterns of a family system
- The role of awareness in overcoming codependency
- The characteristics of people with codependency issues
- The difficulty of codependent people going through relational conflict
- Why education is an essential piece in overcoming codependent patterns
- Cultivating a sense of self and its power in overcoming codependency
- The fear of being independent in relationships and what we lose from becoming codependent
- The importance of aligning with your personal values and building self-worth
- Putting up boundaries to break codependent patterns
- What ruminating is and how negative emotions can impact physical health
- Meditating with difficult emotions and other methods to manage negative feelings
- The power of the breath in regulating emotions and gaining awareness of codependent patterns
- How utilizing the breath gives you the agency to speak your truth
- Attraction to the “bad boy” type and picking people as projects to fix
- Why people stay in codependent and emotionally abusive relationships
- How codependency can be a spiritual issue
- Bringing awareness to the potential of love and compassion to heal
Resources Mentioned:
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
- Al-Anon Family Groups
- Headspace
Related Content:
- Codependency
- People-Pleasing
- Expressing Needs
- Do the Right Thing
- Emotional Regulation
- Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship?
- The Importance of a Personal Practice
- Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships
- Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
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Our country is rife with political conversations that tend to divide people. These exchanges can become more challenging when political differences occur in families and close relationships, where a divergence of ideals can strain connection. When the writer, teacher, and food activist Lee Warren recently witnessed one of her peers using aggressive language towards people of the other political spectrum, the experience spurred her to write Can We Love Our Political Enemies?, a piece where she curates an online conversation about having empathy for people who think differently.
Lee is the co-founder and managing partner of SOIL - the School of Integrated Living - an organization that teaches organic food production, regenerative systems, and community living. She is a sustainability professional whose experience spans over 25 years and whose interests include rural wisdom, sustainable economics, community, and conscious dying.
In this episode, Lee and I explore how we can connect with and love people who have political ideals different from ours. We discuss holding friends to a higher standard of empathy and illustrate how social media tends to exacerbate division among people. We describe what it’s like to experience political differences within families and close relationships and explain how fear and trauma can influence our politics. We also highlight the need to bring curiosity into our ideological differences and discuss how we can use non-violent communication to hold political dialog.
“If we want community, the thing to do is to build real, human coalitions between people who have different perspectives and values.” - Lee Warren
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The experience that led Lee to write Can We Love Our Political Enemies?
- Holding up our friends to a higher standard of empathy
- How social media promotes division among people
- How Lee realized that she was stuck in an echo chamber and had to break off of it
- The difficulty of experiencing political differences within families
- Using non-violent communication and curiosity to explore contradictory political values
- How biology can influence our discourse
- The importance, and privilege, of choosing curiosity over hatred
- Our negativity bias and why human beings don’t look for commonality first
- Getting exaggerated, extreme stories about our “political enemies” and how the media exacerbates our fear of the Other
- Building coalitions in small towns and rural America
- Land-based wisdom and the value of listening to other peoples’ personal stories
- Building the muscle of curiosity and using self-soothing techniques in holding political conversations
Resources Mentioned:
- Can We Love Our Political Enemies?
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- Alternative Relationships
Connect with Lee Warren:
- Reclaiming Wisdom
- Lee Warren on LinkedIn
- Lee Warren on Instagram
- Lee Warren on Facebook
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Kelley Johnson, Ph.D., is a professional sexologist. She is a passionate sex educator who provides comprehensive sex education to private and charter schools, as well as small groups. In her work as a sexologist, Kelley guides couples and individuals in resolving sexual issues through non-medical modalities that work within their value system. As a young person, Kelley was profoundly fascinated by human sexuality, so much so that her high school peers sought her for information and education on sex, sexuality, and sexual health. Today, Kelley is a champion of body and sex-positivity, and her doctoral degree in Human Sexuality and master’s in Public Health Education reflects her advocacy for a sexually-just society.
In this episode, Kelley and I address sexual issues couples face in their relationships. We explore challenges around sexual incompatibility and having polarized differences in sexual desires. We emphasize people’s responsibilities as sexual beings and underscore the importance of educating children on sex and body positivity. We discuss how couples can create a healthy environment that encourages their intimacy as well as how they can support each other in transforming a history of sexual abuse, trauma, and taboo into a healthy sex life.
“You are responsible for your sexual self. While sexuality as a couple is something that’s shared and that you work on together, there is also separateness.” - Kelley Johnson
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Kelley became passionate about human sexuality and child development
- The relationship between childhood development and a sexually healthy adult
- Sex as a critical part of a couple’s connection and intimacy
- How couples can work around having differences in sexual interests
- Breaking the cycle of body shaming and sexual negativity among children
- The importance of calling genitalia by their real names
- The difference between a couple’s physical and sexual relationship and how they influence each other
- Working with issues around pornography use and fears about masturbation
- Bringing joy and playfulness into sex
- Feeling pressured into having sex and the value of experiencing intimacy and connection in other areas of life
- The power of appreciation as a potent aphrodisiac
- Planned spontaneity and how making sex dates can increase sexual intimacy between a couple
- The best conditions for having sex and respecting your partner when they say “no.”
- Turning a history of sexual abuse and trauma into a healthy adult sex life
- The importance of knowing and communicating what we want and need
- The breath as a potent tool in managing one’s sexual life
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Connect with Kelley Johnson:
- Kelley Johnson Website
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Dr. Chris Mulchay is an ADHD expert and licensed psychologist in North Carolina and Hawaii. Chris is a kind, down-to-earth colleague and officemate with whom I enjoy having great conversations. His practice focuses on assessing ADHD, learning disorders, and custodial evaluations and is dedicated to making evaluations engaging, thoughtful, and efficient. In addition to his practice, Chris also serves as president for the Western North Carolina Psychological Association and is a board member of the International Council of Psychologists. A lifelong student, Chris is a staunch advocate of community change through fostering stability, creativity, and empowerment.
In this episode, Chris and I explore how ADHD can impact relationships. We contemplate on ADHD as a self-regulation and neurodevelopmental disorder. We describe how subtle brain injuries and parents in conflict can interfere with a child’s brain development and influence the emergence of ADHD. We also discuss how transforming a relationship includes identifying how ADHD operates in them and explain how couples can practice appreciation to support lasting behavior change.
“The ADHD brain has a limited working memory, but if that’s supported with appreciation and joy, your partner will be able to practice behavioral change that could lead to self-regulation.” - Dr. Chris Mulchay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What ADHD is and how it’s different from ADD
- The difference between the inattentive and hyperactive type of ADHD
- Making people comfortable with conversations around ADHD
- ADHD as a neurodevelopmental issue and whether we can develop it as adults
- Genetic markers and subtle brain injuries that could impact ADHD
- How parents in extreme stress and conflict can affect a child’s brain development
- The over diagnosis and overmedication of ADHD
- How ADHD medication can assist in creating behavioral change
- ADHD and challenges in peer relationships that could later lead to substance abuse
- Thinking about ADHD as a spectrum and self-regulation disorder
- The lack of inhibition in the ADHD brain and how it can impact communication
- Why it can be challenging for people with ADHD to hold conversations
- Squirrel syndrome and the relationship between ADHD and the brain’s working memory
- How ADHD can interfere with emotional intimacy in relationships
- Improving working memory through sleep hygiene
- The power of mindfulness and meditation in strengthening self-regulation
- What couples can do to work around having ADHD in their relationship
- Bringing the power of appreciation and joy into creating lasting behavioral changes
Resources Mentioned:
- Thriving with Adult ADHD: Skills to Strengthen Executive Functioning by Phil Boissiere MFT
Related Content:
- Guided Audio Meditations
- The #1 Relationship Booster
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Chris Mulchay:
- Asheville Testing
- Chris Mulchay on LinkedIn
- Chris Mulchay on Twitter
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It’s natural for us to want to care for the people we love and make them happy. Many of us are also naturally compassionate and find fulfillment in altruistic endeavors. But there is a fine line between being selfless and being a people-pleaser. It’s essential that we discern whether our proclivities towards catering to others’ needs come from an authentic desire to help or from a place of fear and insecurity.
In this episode, I discuss the vital role of compassion in realizing our tendency to be people-pleasers and in transforming ourselves and our relationships. I illustrate how insecurity, fears, and low self-worth can foster the people-pleasing pattern and underscore the dangers of being a people-pleaser. I explain why honesty is one of the greatest gifts we can give to other people and how we can weave kindness into it. I also reveal how we can overcome our people-pleasing tendencies through setting boundaries and being true to our needs.
“When we constantly strive to please, it’s unlikely that we’ll thrive in relationships because we start to feel invisible, even though we’re the ones creating the experience.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The relationship between codependency and people-pleasing
- The role of compassion in the process of self-transformation
- How a compassionate person differs from a people-pleaser
- The fear of rejection and other factors that influence the people-pleasing pattern
- Why people-pleasers find it difficult to set healthy boundaries
- Conflict avoidance and how authenticity took me out of a people-pleasing episode
- The connection between people-pleasing and manipulation
- Bringing kindness into honesty and how it can benefit our relationships
- The value of focusing on curiosity when interacting with people
- Why I think history may have caused women and mothers to people-please more
- How people-pleasers may attract controlling people
- Losing autonomy and a sense of self to people-pleasing
- Why people-pleasing can also be selfish
- How parents can model authenticity for their children
- What it takes to overcome our people-pleasing patterns
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- Codependency
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Codependency is rather insidious: though many people are familiar with the term, they don’t know how it manifests in families and impacts relationships. Awareness, Corey Costanzo stresses, is key to healing it. Corey is a licensed addictions counselor and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, a master didgeridoo player, and a good friend of mine. Together with his wife, Robin, Corey co-owns Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina.
Today, Corey and I explore the hallmarks of a dysfunctional family and how it breeds codependency. We illustrate the dynamics of codependent relationships and their children and explain why dysfunctional families find it difficult to navigate difficult emotions and situations. We describe the characteristics of codependent behaviors and illustrate their impact on relationships. We also share our experiences in dealing with codependent relationships and emphasize the role of awareness in breaking the cycle of codependency.
“Codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Codependency as a learned behavior in families and how it can be passed to generations
- The relationship between codependency and addiction
- The consequences of codependent behavior
- Codependent relationships between children and parents
- Why parents need to deal with their own emotions
- The characteristics of a dysfunctional family
- What makes families afraid of discussing difficult emotions and experiences
- Detachment and fear of connection in dysfunctional families
- Experiencing codependence in my family and learning to talk about emotions
- How Corey cultivated trust between himself and a teenager in his practice
- Breaking the cycle of codependency in couples
- Witnessing our partners’ experiences with emotions
- What enmeshment in a relationship looks like and what it takes to be differentiated
- Relationships with people with diagnosed mental illness and how to navigate them
- The fear of abandonment and the experience of isolation in codependent relationships
- The characteristics of codependent people and how codependency manifests in a couple’s sex life
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- Expressing Needs
- Emotional Regulation
- Do the Right Thing
- Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship?
- The Importance of a Personal Practice
- Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships
- Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- Headspace App
- Al-Anon Family Groups
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Benjamin Haynes is a wonderful example of today’s young generation. He is a meditator, yogi, and evangelizer of “authentic relating.” I was impressed by his presence, groundedness, and the intentional manner in which he spoke when we met about a year ago. After graduating from UNC-Chapel Hill and teaching in Malaysia under a Fulbright grant, Benjamin recently joined Authentic Relating Training, an organization dedicated to the practice and production of authentic relating programs.
In today’s episode, Benjamin and I explore the meaning and purpose of authentic relating. We discuss what led him to authentic relating and share tips to help you relate with others with presence and authenticity. We illustrate how meditation can impact our lives and benefit the way we communicate with each other. We also emphasize the power of leading with presence and the value of focusing on what matters.
“Authentic relating transforms yourself and your relationships through communication.” - Benjamin Haynes
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- My first meeting with Benjamin
- How he cultivated his groundedness and authentic relating
- Benjamin’s introduction to meditation, how he built it into a daily practice, and how it has benefited him
- The relationship between meditation, mindfulness, and authentic relating
- Taking authentic relating to another level and the three different levels of a conversation
- The power of taking pauses in conversation
- Gender dynamics and its relationship with communication
- How the dynamics of Benjamin’s relationship with his father has changed over time
- The challenges of a parent-child relationship
- The need to face our fears and take risks and what made me transition from the corporate world to my counseling practice
- How authentic relating can lead to a more profound connection between people
- How Benjamin’s fascination with mindfulness led him to Authentic Relating Training
- Integrating non-violent communication and mindfulness
- The importance of leading with presence, coming with curiosity, and focusing on what matters
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- The Challenges of Workplace Relationships
- Generosity: Contemplating on How We Show Up in Our Relationships
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Resources Mentioned:
- Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication by Oren Jay Sofer
- 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works - A True Story by Dan Harris
Connect with Benjamin Haynes:
- Authentic Relating Training
Let’s Talk About It!
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Adley Gartenstein is the former president and co-owner of Film Movement, a distributor of independent, award-winning films from around the world. Over the last two decades, Adley has been a counselor, trainer, and workshop leader in the co-counseling community. My friendship with Adley goes back to 25 years ago when we met at the Esalen Institute. Since then, we’ve formed a friendship so profound that he has become the godfather of my son, Zander.
In this episode, Adley and I discuss his journey with healing as he took care of his dying mother. We explore how he had assumed the role of caretaker for his mother since he was a child and describe how that impacted his sense of self-worth. We illustrate how Adley committed to becoming a great son, regardless of his mother’s shortcomings as a parent. We also discuss my experience with my father’s death and underscore the honor that comes with being present in a person’s final moments on Earth.
“Being around a dying person is, in a way, a transition into adulthood; to play that role of caretaker, to make it about somebody else, and to care about that person.” - Adley Gartenstein
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Assuming the role of caretaker for his mother from childhood
- How feeling responsibility for his mother’s well being affected Adley’s self-compass
- Claiming Adley’s right to be a great son, regardless of childhood experiences
- Understanding how trauma gets passed down through generations
- The beginnings of Adley’s journey into healing
- My experience with the death of my father
- Deciding not to be the victim of one’s circumstances and breaking the cycle of darkness and trauma
- The power of spending time with a dying person and the lessons it can teach us
- Feeling liberation from trauma and fulfillment of duty
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Questions about the meaning of trust and how couples can establish it in their relationships frequently come up in my practice as a couples counselor. Trust is a cornerstone of long-term relationships. My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, is a fashion designer, artist, and owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio. In the 25 years I have shared with her, trust - in each other, and ourselves as individuals - has carried us through better or worse. Part of Rainbow’s mission is to help heal ourselves and the world we live in. And sincere apologies, she says, not only bring healing to couples but are also an essential ingredient to a relationship’s longevity.
In today’s episode, Rainbow and I emphasize the importance of trust in relationships. We discuss the value of trusting yourself in bringing the kind of partner you want to be in a relationship. We share some of the challenges and issues we have navigated throughout our life together and underscore the need to trust that each person will help move the relationship through conflict. We also illustrate the power of cultivating friendship with your partner and how appreciation can drive a relationship through the years.
“Apologizing well is a huge key to good long-term relationships. It brings so much healing.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How longevity allows a relationship to go deeper and create foundational trust
- Open and honest communication as a key to friendship between a couple
- How welcoming our vulnerabilities in deep conversations fostered trust in our relationship
- Giving each other the space to speak and using “I” statements
- What it means to trust yourself in a relationship and advocate for what you want
- Cherishing the good times and paying attention to your partner’s likes and preferences
- The role of trust in moving through crises, navigating grief, and financial crises
- Choosing each other and the partner you want to be
- Trusting in working through challenges and how overcoming issues makes a couple stronger
- Capturing beautiful moments, giving compliments, and the power of appreciation in long-term relationships
- Navigating parenthood and raising a child
- Growing together in the relationship and allowing each other to grow on their own
- Trusting in your connection when you’re apart and not physically together
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Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
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We all have needs. We all have different ways we want our partners to treat us. But sometimes, when we express our needs and wants, it comes out as biting or accusatory, even if we didn’t mean for it to. And instead of getting what we wanted, we are met with defensiveness, if not blame. We can’t control how others receive us, but we can always control how we express our needs to our partners. It falls to us to be open to learning how we can better identify our needs and properly communicate them.
In this episode, I discuss different ways we can express our needs and wants to our partners without blaming or criticizing them. I explain why it’s important for us to know our own needs and explore why some people feel guilt or shame from having them. I also describe how we can use nonviolent communication as a tool to foster a conversation around our emotions and desires, as well as illustrate how we can encourage our partners to express their own needs.
“You have a responsibility to yourself and to your partner to be clear about your needs because you are an expert on what you want and what you need.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The difference between expressing a positive need and a negative need
- Expressing needs to make them positive and why negative needs come from a victim mindset
- The value of identifying your needs and how our emotions derive from our needs
- Why some people feel guilt or shame over having needs and wants
- Playing with the difference between needs, wants, and preferences
- The principle of nonviolent communication and its relationship with unmet needs
- How to communicate more consciously to express your needs and wants
- Identifying and requesting specific behaviors and actions for a specific need to be met
- Differentiating an expression of need from criticism
- Why we shouldn’t expect our partners to know what our needs are
- Expressing your needs as a form of self-care and how to encourage your partner to express theirs more
- Understanding your partner’s uniqueness and quirks and being open to them
- The importance of boundaries in getting needs met in a healthy relationship
- Why the phrase “You make me feel...” is disempowering and how to take responsibility for your emotions
- Inviting curiosity into your inner feelings and opening the path to self-discovery
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Life isn’t fair. So, it’s only natural for us to want things to be just. We do our best to create fairness in different areas of our lives: in the economy, in opportunity, and even in our relationships. In our shared life with our partners, we want things to be 50/50, to be equitable. I am a staunch advocate of cultivating balance, but seeking fairness in relationships is different, and attachment to the idea can negatively impact a couple and their connection.
In this episode, I explore why we attach to the idea of fairness and explain how it can be detrimental to our relationships. I share some of my experiences with wanting things to be fair and recount the story of a couple who worked through the idea of equality in their relationship. I differentiate seeking balance against seeking equity in relationships and why keeping scores can lead us to getting stuck. I also discuss how the power of appreciation and curiosity can help us overcome our attachment to fairness and find balance in the relationship.
“If you’re willing to let go of what is fair and instead focus on what’s loving, you’ll discover connection, understanding, and transformation.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Experiencing the vulnerability of not being in control
- Our tendency to give based on equality and how fairness can be detrimental to a relationship
- Treating the relationship as a third entity
- Focusing on the needs of the relationship versus being fair and keeping score
- How being honest with your needs and capacity will help your relationship work as a team
- How our childhood experiences shape our notions of fairness
- The difference between seeking balance and seeking fairness in the relationship
- The role of effective communication skills in maintaining a relationship’s balance
- The impact of bringing, and complementing, each others’ strengths in a relationship
- The story of a couple who overcame the need to be fair in their relationship
- How we bring our ideas of fairness to workplace relationships
- Looking at a relationship through the lens of kindness and trusting in the process of giving and receiving
- Bringing curiosity in relationships and how it can help us move beyond the scorekeeping
- Making room in the relationship where dreams could be realized and needs could be met
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A lot of people are in tremendous stress as a result of the global pandemic. Some people find themselves falling back to some old behavior patterns that they thought they had already let go. This is what’s called regression: a defensive mechanism for coping with stress. It’s a common phenomenon many of us experience unconsciously. Corey Costanzo - a licensed addictions counselor and good friend of mine - believes that a significant part of managing our regressive responses to stress is mindfulness. Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville.
Today, Corey and I discuss our tendency to regress when we are under stress. We highlight the different ways regression can manifest in our lives and how they can impact our relationships. We share some of the tools you can use to learn how to recognize regressive tendencies and manage them. We also draw from our personal experiences with regression and illustrate how we work with it, as well as emphasize the parents’ roles in teaching children how to cope with stress and negative experiences.
“It’s important for everybody to figure out the resources to be able to stand up in the face of uncomfortable sensations and thoughts.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How a stunted developmental stage can result in adult regression
- The collective stress resulting from the pandemic and how stress triggers regressive behavior
- Substance use and addiction as a form of regression and the importance of bringing regressive behavior into the consciousness
- Regression and self-sabotage
- The difference between a regressed response versus a partnered response
- The value of communicating our needs and meeting them ourselves
- How mindfulness can help the awareness of regression and recognition of stress
- The neuroscience of stress and meditation and how our brain regresses to primitive lifeforms when we’re stressed
- Corey’s experiences with regression and how he transforms them
- How our regressive behaviors are exhibited when we’re with family
- My tendency to shut down and get defensive under stressful situations
- Experiencing tension, anxiety, and regression in the body
- What it means to resource for ourselves
- Regression in children and teenagers and how parents can model calm and mindfulness for their kids
- The importance of seeking support in times of stress
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Connect with Corey Costanzo
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
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Laura Morton has been in the entertainment industry for more than 25 years as a writer, producer, and entrepreneur. She has written over 40 books, 19 of which have become New York Times bestsellers, including The Truth Is…: My Life in Love and Music, an autobiography she co-authored with Melissa Etheridge. Today, Laura is on a mission to bring anxiety out of the darkness and help normalize it: a mission she carries through writing and producing Anxious Nation, a forthcoming feature documentary film on anxiety and its impact on families.
Today, Laura and I explore the anxiety crisis that many families, teenagers, and children experience. We consider the spike of anxiety among young people today and the role of parents in managing it. We discuss social isolation, how it impacts our mental health, and how human connection can be a rich source of happiness. We also discuss Laura’s film, Anxious Nation and the ideas that inspired her to write and produce it as well as the need to destroy the stigma enveloping mental illness.
“Social media is a symptom of anxiety; the cause is a generation of parents who never learned how to deal with their own anxiety.” - Laura Morton
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The idea and inspiration behind Laura’s documentary film, Anxious Nation
- Why Laura thinks social media is a symptom of anxiety
- The impact of a generation of anxious parents on today’s young people
- The reason anxiety needs to be treated systematically
- The relationship between anxiety and worry
- Today’s anxiety crisis and how the quarantine has affected people with anxiety
- The need for parents to model how to deal with anxiety
- The impact of social isolation on mental health and human connection as a source of happiness
- ‘Keeping up with the Joneses’ and the anxiety of choice
- The four kinds of addiction that impact the lives of people
- The power of attuning to yourself
- Conscious parenting and why parents need to trust in the path of their children
- Environmental, political, and social challenges that burden today’s generation
Connect with Laura Morton:
- Laura Morton
- Anxious Nation on Facebook
- Laura Morton on Facebook
- Email: laura@lauramortonmanagement.com
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When something is enduring and permanent, we can often take it for granted. This happens in long-term relationships, too, and when we take it for granted, we assume it will take care of itself. We go full-on autopilot in our relationship, abandoning all semblance of control, and think that by the end of it all, our partners will still be there. There are so many ways that we put our relationship on autopilot - some of them we’re not even aware of until it’s too late.
Today, I explore the different ways we go on autopilot in our lives, whether in our relationship with our partners or ourselves. I describe the relationship between mindfulness and going on autopilot, explain how we become unhappy when our mind wanders, and discuss how we can avoid it through introspection. I also highlight the importance of slowing down to directly experience our lives and share some questions you can ask yourself to help you disrupt your tendency to autopilot your life and relationships.
“The alternative to being on autopilot is being conscious. It’s about having a deep awareness of our relationships and our environment.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Going on autopilot mode in our relationships and life
- How the wandering mind can bring unhappiness and how we go on autopilot in our relationship with ourselves
- Self-diagnosing our tendency to be on autopilot
- The dangers of creating meaning out of our experiences and assuming what our partners feel, think, or experience
- Consciousness as an antidote to autopiloting in relationships
- How conscious people know themselves more deeply
- How the power of introspection can help disrupt our unconscious daily routine
- Being closer to somebody else than our partners
- Why it takes effort and work to be intimate in the relationship
- The benefits of slowing down to directly experience what’s in front of you
- Bringing intent and curiosity into our lives to overcome autopiloting
- The difference between having a narrative and a direct experience
- How meditation can bring more conscious awareness and alleviate getting stuck on autopilot
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Many people from the older generation, or even from my generation, think of younger people in a negative light. They accuse millennials of being lazy, entitled, or disengaged from life - but that’s not at all my experience with them, and it’s not Zander’s experience with his diligent peers, either. My son, Zander Teplitsky, is turning 24, and is spending the summer at home, on break from his studies at Maastricht University in Maastricht, Netherlands, where he is pursuing a degree in science with an emphasis in biology.
In this episode, Zander and I explore aspects of his experience with work and education as a millennial. We discuss how digital and social media has impacted interpersonal communication and connection. We consider the millennial’s ideal work environment and how there’s a lack of focus on interpersonal skills and growth in companies. We also discuss how younger generations are viewed negatively and how the absence of the rites of passage in our society has contributed to the disconnect between generations.
“Younger people need to try as many jobs as they can dip their toes into. Don’t feel like you have to stay in one position just because it shows resolve.” - Zander Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How some groups of people think millennials are lazy and detached
- Challenges millennials face and why they have to work harder than previous generations
- The benefits and challenges of digital media and communication usage among millennials
- How millennial couples utilize digital communication and social media to connect with each other and how it affects them
- Zander’s experiences in the International People’s College and Maastricht University
- The value of maintaining a multicultural relationship
- How Zander’s education at the IPC and Maastricht University helps him communicate in interpersonal relationships
- Zander’s upbringing around appreciation and how it helped him cultivate interpersonal relationships
- The evolution of rites of passages in our society, their absence, and their impact on how different generations view each other
- The Western culture of hyper-independence
- Zander’s explorations in business and glasswork and how the latter sparked his interest in science
- Why Zander advises young people to try as many jobs as they can
- The millennial’s ideal work environment and the lack of focus on interpersonal growth in the workplace
- Diversity in the millennials’ social relationships
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Gregg Levoy is a lecturer and seminar leader in the areas of business, education, and human potential. As a speaker, Gregg has delivered workshops and keynotes for organizations such as Microsoft and the Smithsonian. He is an eloquent writer whose books, Vital Signs: Discovering and Sustaining Your Passion for Life and Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life, reflect his mission of helping people find and sustain their passions in life and has been rated among the Workforce Information Group’s Top 20 Career Publications.
In this episode, Gregg and I explore the challenges and grief we experience in the time of COVID-19 due to the loss of touch. We discuss how the pandemic has us in “stranger danger” mode and how avoiding physical touch in light of social distancing can affect us mentally and physically. We illustrate what it’s like to experience social distancing for a single person who lives alone and describe alternative ways we can satisfy our need for physical touch while we’re isolated. We also discuss how we, as a society, may need to relearn and re-approach how we consent to physical touch and how we can address the difficult emotions we feel due to the loss of physical connection.
“We’re grieving the loss of physical connection. That arm slung across the shoulder is worth its weight in gold. They’re not just toss-away gestures.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why the loss of touch during the pandemic is heightened for people who live alone
- Harlow’s monkey experiment and why physical touch is like a social glue
- The science of physical touch and how its lack compromises our immune systems
- Why physical touch is more essential than the other senses
- Exploring our relationship with touch
- Alternative means of giving others and ourselves physical touch in light of social and physical distancing
- The grief we feel over the loss of physical touch
- How physical and social distancing can benefit the dating scene
- Why some people aren’t comfortable with physical touch
- How and why the people in the U.S. were touch-deprived even before the pandemic
- Learning the ways of consenting to touch in light of COVID-19
- Being in touch with difficult emotions due to the pandemic, social isolation, and loss of touch
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- The Importance of Self-Inquiry in Building Healthy Relationships
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
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- Book: Vital Signs: Discovering and Sustaining Your Passion for Life by Gregg Levoy
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Cathy Courtenay is a Conscious Relating Coach who brings her heart and listening skills to everything that she does, whether it’s dance or Body-Mind Centering. She is a true gift to the relational world, and through leading the Art of Circling, Cathy cultivates a safe space for people where they can stand in their truth and experience what is real for them. Responding to life’s call to find truth, Cathy is committed to a mission of helping uplift humanity and develop profound compassion and empathy in the world.
In this episode, Cathy and I explore and demonstrate the art of circling and how it can cultivate relational skills between couples. We discuss how society has conditioned us to be solutions-oriented and how we tend to be uncomfortable with simply being present for another person. We describe the different kinds of noticing and illustrate how we make assumptions on or judge our experiences. We also underscore the role of curiosity in practicing the art of circling and detail how couples can establish circling as a daily practice.
“The more curiosity you can bring in, the greater the ability there will be for more understanding, connection, and intimacy.” - Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The art of circling and how it can help couples develop relational skills
- The importance of authentic communication between couples amid the pandemic
- How circling can help us sit with our experiences, whether they’re good or challenging
- Our tendency to correct and fix people in contrast to just being present with them
- Demonstrating two exercises in the art of circling
- The importance of expanding and practicing our emotional vocabulary
- Practicing the art of circling without the need to solve a problem or arrive at a goal
- The two different types of noticing and what it means to observe without judgment
- Falling into the blame game when we feel shame and why we need to own our experiences
- Establishing the practice of circling as a daily habit
- Why it can be challenging for some people to practice the art of circling
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- Book: Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay Website
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
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Trusting employees is crucial to the growth of a company. Whether you’re leading a Fortune 500 company or a three-person podcast production company that operates remotely, you need to foster good relations by giving employees autonomy and freedom. That’s the wisdom of Kate Astrakhan, an audio engineer and technical podcast producer. She is the founder of Podcast Network Solutions, a podcast post-production company that testifies her love of storytelling and audio broadcast. Through her company, Kate demonstrates what it means to be an empowering leader whose actions are based on faith and values systems.
In this episode, Kate and I discuss how she leads her business and the people she works with. We explore how appreciation can encourage positive behavior and how giving autonomy and freedom empowers their genius. We describe the role of trust in business relationships and emphasize the value of helping employees through tough times. We also examine the impact of letting employees work on what they love and encouraging employees to grow in their area of genius.
“Let your team be the mayors of their world. Empower them to rule their area of genius in service to clients and company.” - Kate Astrakhan
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The fear of going out of the box
- The best thing about podcasting for Kate
- The impact of giving employees autonomy to make decisions
- How encouraging employee development and growth benefits a business
- The role of trust in allowing employees to flourish and its relationship with reliability
- How Kate uses her value systems as the foundation of everything she does
- The power of emotionally supporting employees
- Motivating individuals in a team and directing workers to let them do what they love
- How appreciation can magnify the behavior you want to see from an employee
- Why Kate decided to start a business and become her own boss
- Kate’s advice to business leaders who want to motivate their employees
- The pitfall of leaders who micromanage their team
- Producing a podcast as a birthing process and personal practice
- How trust in a business partnership can foster innovation, especially in a crisis like COVID-19
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- The Challenges of Workplace Relationships
- The Relationship of Business Through the Lens of Giving
- Trust and Company Culture: A Conversation With A Former Fortune 200 Company CEO
Connect with Kate Astrakhan:
- Podcast Network Solutions Website
- Podcast Network Solutions on Twitter
- Podcast Network Solutions on Facebook
- Podcast Network Solutions on LinkedIn
- Email: socialmedia@podcastnetworksolutions.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
So often, couples come into my office wanting to change their partner. They highlight how their partner is doing ‘this’ and not enough of ‘that,’ as if they’re returning a defective item and want a refund. Yet, so rarely does change in our partners happen when they’re forced or nagged to do it - at the very least, they’ll only feel forced, controlled, and disrespected. And in trying to change our partners, we forget one fundamental thing: that change must start from within.
In this episode, I discuss the essential things you need to practice to inspire change in your relationship. I explain why you need to think about what you would consider red flags before you commit to a relationship and why you need to avoid focusing on your partner’s negative characteristics. I share some of my experiences with my wife where we were inspired to change as individuals and reveal the role of respect in bringing about change in relationships. I also explore how appreciation can foster growth and encourage couples to reach their fullest potential.
“That’s where change can happen. A safe, vulnerable environment where couples can cultivate themselves in their relationship.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Relationship red flags and non-negotiables
- Influencing the change you want to see in your partner
- The wisdom of older people on committing to relationships and marriage
- Avoiding looking at our partners as DIY improvement projects
- The differences between complaining and criticism and how they spill over into other areas of the relationship
- Fostering positive growth in our partner through first accepting them for who they are
- How criticism and blame takes a partner further from growth and change
- The importance of introspecting over criticizing and blaming a partner
- Why it’s necessary to know yourself and your needs before committing to a relationship
- How focusing on fundamental differences and challenges discourages a relationship’s connection
- The need to verbalize what a person wants in a relationship and focus on transformation and change
- Why change needs to come from ourselves first before they occur in our partners
Related Content:
- The Power of Appreciation
Resources Mentioned:
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Let’s Talk About It!
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
If a relationship is a garden, what is the number one thing you could do to make it thrive? You might think it’s sex, but the number one relationship booster is appreciation. Appreciation is the most potent tool couples can use to cultivate their relationship with each other, their friends, and their family. My 25-year-long relationship with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, has grown through mindfully and intently expressing our appreciation.
Rainbow is a brilliant artist, designer, and founder of the Artsy Goddess Studio whose practice of appreciation - not only in her relationship with me but with all of the people around her - has grown and blossomed like the flowers in her garden.
In this episode, Rainbow and I explore how appreciation has defined and deepened our 25-year-long relationship. We share how we began to consciously practice appreciation and how couples can establish appreciation as a practice. We discuss how consistently and meaningfully expressing appreciation can nip the bud of affairs in relationships and explain how a couple can escape the blame game through cultivating appreciation. We also illustrate how appreciation can magnify the potential in people as well as share an example of how Rainbow and I express our appreciation for each other.
“Appreciation expands and grows. Plant their seeds and see them bloom into flowers.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How appreciation made a profound difference in our relationship
- Why appreciation is the most essential tool couples have to maintain and strengthen their relationship
- What a HeartShare Appreciation is and the different levels of appreciation
- The importance of expressing appreciation as soon as you feel it
- Cultivating appreciation as a practice in the relationship
- The value of knowing and communicating how you want to be appreciated and what you want to be appreciated for
- Why it’s okay to appreciate your partner for the same things
- How we began to bring appreciation as a practice into our relationship
- The challenge of receiving kindness and appreciation from other people
- Appreciation as a tool to affair-proof a relationship
- John Gottman’s ratio of positive and negative interactions
- Getting out of the relationship criticism loop through the power of appreciation
- How appreciation makes us more open and accepting of challenges, accountability, and responsibility in relationships
- Deepening our connection with our son by modeling appreciation
Related Content:
- The Power of Appreciation
- Why Is It Hard to Receive Kindness?
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Many of us maintain daily practices. They bring us to a state of a balanced and stable mind. For some, that practice is yoga or meditation, while for others, it could be writing morning pages or creating art. For Corey Costanzo, it’s doing didgeridoo meditation sessions. Corey - a colleague and long-time friend of mine - is a master didgeridooist who has been playing the instrument for over 20 years. For over 100 days since the COVID-19 pandemic started, Corey has been hosting 20-minute didgeridoo meditation sessions at Still Point Wellness on Facebook.
Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, a licensed addictions counselor, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville. By transforming his morning routine with the didgeridoo to a shared experience with an online community, Corey continues to realize the connection between cultivating personal practices and wellbeing.
In this episode, Corey and I discuss the importance of personal practices. We differentiate routine from cultivating a personal practice and illustrate how our relationships can benefit from the latter. We describe how bringing curiosity and mindfulness into our practice can bring us to a deeper understanding of ourselves. We also explore the overwhelm and guilt people feel when they fail to follow-through on habits and practices as well as share advice on how we can cultivate a daily practice.
“Personal practice is the antidote to a co-dependent relationship. I fill myself with what brings me joy and from there, I meet my partner.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- A didgeridoo meditation with Corey
- Our relationship with our personal practice and how they affect us and our relationships
- How Corey found his connection with the didgeridoo and how he taught himself to play it
- The difference between a routine and a personal practice
- How mindfulness can bring a deeper self-awareness
- The art of breathing and recognizing the connection between breath and anxiety
- The benefits of breathing through your nostrils and how breathing through the mouth can negatively impact our health
- Transforming the Relationships: Let’s Talk About It! Podcast from routine to personal practice
- How podcasting has affected my relationship with my wife, Rainbow
- The importance of having an interest or hobby outside of your relationship
- Going back to our personal practice for self-care, self-soothing, and self-regulation
- Learning more about ourselves through diving into personal practice
- The overwhelm and guilt that comes with trying to maintain a daily practice and how to cope with them
- Identifying the link between curiosity and mindfulness
Related Content:
- Emotional Regulation
- Do the Right Thing
- Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship?
- Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships
- Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- Breath: the New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
It’s a question I’ve encountered in my practice so many times: is love a feeling or an action? Is it both or more of one than the other? If love is a feeling, is it possible to feel it without taking actions that reflect it? If love is a choice, how do we choose to love our partners, friends, and family over many years of challenges? These are all profound and important questions, for they reflect how we show up in our relationships.
In this episode, I discuss whether love is a choice or a feeling and explain why love is a constant action we do every day with our partner. I describe why falling in love is different and illustrate how it’s easier to foster connection and attraction at the beginning of a relationship. I share the story of a friend who lovingly took care of his mother, despite his mother’s behavior towards him. I also explore the different ways we can show love to our partners and how the power of appreciation has enhanced my relationship with my wife over the many years we’ve been together.
“We have to show love, not just feel it. We can feel love, but we choose to love every day and every moment.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why love is an action
- How we don’t choose who we are attracted to but can choose with whom we stay in love
- The feeling of falling in love, the courtship stage, and how we choose to maintain the spark
- The work involved with deciding to share a life with a partner
- Why we shouldn’t aim to change our partner
- The power to choose your words, your actions, and your perception of your partner
- Choosing to love another begins with choosing to love ourselves
- Giving ourselves the chance to be our best selves and the kind of people we want to be
- How our childhood upbringing affects our perception of what love means
- Changing your attitudes towards your partner’s quirks and celebrating their uniqueness
- Examples of how we can show our love to our partner
- How the power of appreciation brings the value of love higher and eases challenging times
Related Content:
- Falling in Love
- What Makes a Relationship Worth Doing the Hard Work
- The Power of Appreciation
- Generosity: Contemplating How We Show Up in Our Relationships
- Difficult Conversations
- Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, email HeartShares@yahoo.com or visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
“It is better to give than to receive.” That’s an adage we’ve all been taught. While giving is indeed a gracious act, we’re not taught how to receive it - which is equally noble. To fully experience, appreciate, and receive kindness is a gift we give back to the giver. Yet, we sometimes struggle to accept gestures of kindness and, in this struggle, we even think that we’re not worthy of generosity. But no matter who you are, where you’re from, or what you did, you are worthy of receiving kindness.
In this episode, I discuss the difficulties we face in receiving acts of kindness, help, and generosity. I illustrate the vulnerability that comes with accepting a gesture of kindness and how we tend to negate appreciation by pointing out our flaws. I describe how I recently struggled with fully experiencing kindness from my son and share my observations of couples who have difficulties accepting appreciation. I also explain how some characteristics, like perfectionism and self-doubt, can hinder us from receiving kindness and gifts from our loved ones as well as share my advice on how you can practice receiving kindness.
“It doesn’t matter what your history is. Down to your core as a human being, you are worthy to receive kindness.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why and how we tend to deflect or avoid receiving gestures of kindness and appreciation
- What it feels like when your kindness and gifts aren’t well-received
- The vulnerability that comes with accepting a gesture of kindness
- Why we need to liberate ourselves from the feeling of obligation when receiving gifts
- Receiving appreciation by taking in deep breaths
- My recent struggle with receiving an act of kindness from my son
- How fully receiving and appreciating a gift or kind gesture is a gift to the giver
- Examples of verbal responses to gifts and kindness and how to practice them
- How perfectionism and control issues can prevent a person from fully receiving an act of kindness
- The self-doubt that impedes us from accepting appreciation and how all humans are worthy of kindness
- How the inability to receive kindness can handicap a relationship
- Reframing our responses to kindness and focusing on the giver’s intent
Related Content:
- The Power of Appreciation
- Generosity: Contemplating How We Show Up in Our Relationships
- What Is a Generous Conversation
Let’s Talk About It!
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
An apology, meaningfully and thoughtfully given, transforms. It transforms us, empowering us to take ownership of our actions and behavior. It transforms relationships between couples, paving the way for love and intimacy. It transforms relationships between peoples, giving them the courage to take responsibility for the past and standing up for racial equality and justice.
These are lessons I keep learning in the life I share with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. Rainbow is an artist, fashion designer, and founder of the Artsy Goddess Studio. Together, Rainbow and I continue to hone our skills in the art of apology. We consistently learn about the truths of apologies and forgiveness, whether it’s from our daily interactions with each other or from social and human rights movements like the Black Lives Matter movement.
In today’s episode, Rainbow and I discuss why apologizing is as essential in relationships as appreciating. We illustrate how upbringing and social and cultural environments can affect our attitudes toward taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness. We reveal the foundation of giving meaningful and profound apologies and underscore the role of empathy in this foundation. We also share how we apologize to each other and explain how apologizing brings connection and healing.
“A happy marriage is between people who are willing to apologize and forgive.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The value of asking for forgiveness in today’s social climate
- How important and impactful apologies have been in our relationship
- Why we emphasize apologizing as much as appreciation in committed relationships
- How Rainbow used to find apologies dreadful but now sees it as an opportunity for connection
- Why the inability to apologize is a source of dysfunction in relationships
- How apologizing paves the way for understanding, intimacy, and empowerment
- The pillars of giving a profound and meaningful apology
- The importance of waiting to be ready before apologizing
- Why an apology shouldn’t come with defending or explaining a behavior
- How culture, upbringing, and social environments create negative behaviors around apologizing and taking responsibility
- Creating a bridge for connection by apologizing first
- Why learning to receive an apology is as important as giving it
- Sharing feelings of hurt, discomfort, or shame without disconnection and how to respond to its expression
Related Content:
- The Art of Apology
- The Art of Appreciation
- The Art of Listening
- Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
- Practicing Empathy is Key to Building Trust
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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It is a heavy time in America. Viruses are taking the nation by storm - and not just the ones that cause disease. I was young when the Detroit riots in 1967 broke out. Some 50 years later, we still have the same issues: African-Americans are still being oppressed and assaulted by police. Racism is a prevalent issue that all of us need to discuss and resolve. We need to step up our game in addressing the racial prejudice deeply ingrained and institutionalized in our society.
For white people, a part of that means confronting what it means to be white, a question Mana Vermeulen-McLeod is dedicated to answering. Mana is a natural builder, social activist, and life coach. Born in Holland, Mana is a generational European-American who came to the U.S. about 15 years ago. She is committed to confronting her whiteness through education and understanding profound questions about the privileges that come with being a white woman.
In this episode, which was recorded many months ago, Mana and I discuss witnessing our whiteness, white privilege, and how we should tackle racism as white people. We describe how racism is institutionalized in our society and share our experiences with racism and diversity. We underscore the need to teach children about racial prejudice and explain how racism is not going to die on its own. We also discuss how books can help us learn more about racism and prejudice and highlight how we can support each other in unlearning racism.
“We need to think of that deep healing: how are we going to own what our forefathers did? That’s a huge piece nobody wants to do.” - Mana Vermeulen-McLeod
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The Racism 101 class that sparked Mana’s interest in issues about race relations
- Looking at racism from the perspective of what it means to be white
- Our experiences growing up with racism and diversity
- How we all live in a racist society and the institutionalization of racism
- How white people can tackle racial prejudice by looking into themselves
- Book recommendations on unlearning racism and prejudice
- How books can help us learn about racism and white privilege
- Mana’s experiences growing up in a segregated environment
- What colorism or shadism is and a controversial Dutch cultural heritage
- Why we need to talk to children about racism
- Why we need to step up our game when it comes to racism and diversity
- Looking at history and ancestry to address racial prejudice
- Supporting each other in unlearning internalized racism
Related Content:
- Women Working in Male-Dominated Workplaces
- Understanding Racism: Relationships are at the Heart of This Work
Resources Mentioned:
- Witnessing Whiteness: The Need to Talk About Racism and How to Do It by Shelly Tochluk
- White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo
- White Awake
- Me and White Supremacy Workbook by Layla Saad
Connect with Mana Vermeulen-McLeod:
- Earthaven Ecovillage
- The Work that Reconnects
- Southeast Wise Women’s Herbal Conference
- Culture’s Edge
- Mana Vermeulen-McLeod on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
In cultivating a loving relationship, practicing self-care as individuals is as essential as co-creating the relationship itself as a couple. The journey to our inner individual worlds helps us maintain a healthy sense of self that will spring the wellbeing we can bring to our relationship. My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, is a self-care inspiration. She is a fashion designer, artist, and the founder and owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio. As a creative, Rainbow’s artistry not only manifests in the up-cycled garments and tapestries that she creates but also in how she practices self-care and maintaining a connection with herself.
In today’s episode, Rainbow and I discuss the role of practicing self-care as individuals in a relationship. We share how our parents practiced self-care while we were growing up and how we, as parents ourselves, maintained our self-care activities while raising a young child. We explain how we prioritize and make time for self-care activities, especially during the pandemic. We also discuss the impact of practicing self-care, both as individuals and couples, and underscore how staying connected to ourselves helps bring more balance in a relationship.
“We need to stay the individuals that we are while we merge into the relationship that we co-create.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How we learned about self-care, alone time, and communication at the Esalen Institute
- Why we should communicate our need for alone time and self-care practice
- How self-care brings back self-worth, self-love, and self-esteem
- Self-care through creativity and artistry
- The importance of prioritizing and making time for self-care
- Rainbow’s self-care activities during the pandemic and how free-flow writing lifted her spirits
- Self-care for parents raising young children and why maintaining a spotless house takes a lower place in Rainbow’s priority list
- The role of parents in teaching children about self-care
- Maintaining connections and spending time with friends as a form of self-care
- How prioritizing self-care and self-soothing help bring our best selves in our relationships
- Challenges and unrealistic expectations in self-care and why it’s not selfish
- The power of supporting and encouraging self-care in a relationship
Related Content:
- Time Apart vs. Time Together: What’s Healthy?
- Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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When your partner asks you about what you’re feeling, what’s your typical response? Do you attempt to change the subject or joke around? Freeze for a while? Or maybe start blaming your partner? Everyone can find it challenging to open up their inner world of emotions - but a lot of men find it particularly difficult to do. It’s understandable why the topic of emotions and feelings can be puzzling for men. Yet, emotional honesty is a crucial aspect of cultivating intimacy, connection, and trust in a relationship; it’s an essential tool that everybody needs to develop to become relational heroes.
In today’s episode, I discuss the difficulty men experience when they share their emotional world in their relationships. I reveal the significance of emotional honesty in cultivating connection and intimacy in relationships. I explain why men avoid the topic of emotions and opening up to their partners and explain how a person should respond when someone shares their feelings, despite the difficulty of expressing them. I also highlight the importance of cultivating emotional truth within our friendships and share a story about a friend who honestly shared their feelings and emotions.
“This path of emotional honesty is the way of the relational hero.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What it means to be emotionally honest
- How and why men avoid expressing their feelings and emotions
- The relational dread and fear that men feel when they’re asked to open up their feelings
- The vulnerability that comes with being emotionally truthful and how shame prevents us from sharing our emotions with our partners
- Responding and validating our partners when they attempt to share their feelings despite their difficulty in expressing emotions
- How our childhood upbringing influences how we express, contain, or avoid our emotions
- Speaking our emotional truth without anger, blame, or judgment
- The difference between emotional honesty, behavioral honesty, and outbursts of anger
- Developing your distress tolerance to cultivate emotional honesty
- The impact of emotional honesty on intimacy
- The importance of practicing emotional honesty within friendships
Related Content:
- Difficult Conversations
- Building Trust in Relationships
- Stonewalling: the Silent Treatment that Blocks Communication
- Emotional Availability in Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
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If there’s another big contagion going around, it’s blame. Its infectious nature is so profound that it goes back and forth between a couple, trapping them in a cycle of criticism, pain, and disempowerment. No one wins in a relationship that plays the blame game - it has no positive impact on any of the parties involved. It’s sometimes difficult for people to see themselves tethered with the chains of blame, but to be able to co-create a relationship, one must rise to the challenge of letting go of blame and criticism.
In this episode, I discuss how blame erodes a relationship’s creative potential and how to overcome it. I illustrate blame and criticism’s addictive nature and describe the physiological stimuli we feel when we attack or blame another person. I discuss how chronic blaming could destroy your partner’s self-esteem and self-worth and how it could set you up for an unhealthy relationship in the future. I also share how we learn to blame another person through our parents as well as highlight how we can foster an environment where our children can learn responsibility instead of criticism.
“Blame is an endless loop. The antidote is curiosity, connection, appreciation, and responsibility.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What blame is, how it fuels anger, and how it’s based on a relationship’s inequality
- Blame as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility
- How blame hurts our partners and erodes the relationship
- The addictive nature of blaming and criticism
- How chronic blaming can be a form of emotional abuse and lead to low self-esteem
- The vicious cycle of blame
- How we learned to blame other people and how we can teach our children to be more responsible
- The importance of learning the difference between blame and responsibility
- How taking responsibility impacts our relationships
- The role of honesty in taking responsibility
Related Content:
- The Art of Apology
- Taking Responsibility In Your Relationship
- Curiosity Can Improve Your Relationships
- Pandemic Series: Intentions: Setting The Tone Of Your Relationships
Let’s Talk About It!
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Many people are well-acquainted with the power of intention to manifest their projects, their desires, even their businesses. But intent could be also be taken into our relationships and used to transform us into better individuals, partners, and human beings. At the beginning of our relationship, my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, and I set the tone of our life together by creating our foundations through intent. Rainbow is the founder and owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio. A brilliant artist born and raised in Denmark, Rainbow brings creativity not only in her work but also in our relationship, where she cultivates ‘intentional coziness’.
In this episode, Rainbow and I share stories of how we met, how we built the foundation of our relationship through intention, and the role of improv in our life as a couple. We discuss how we continue to create intent in our relationship, especially while we spend our time in quarantine. We illustrate how conscious intent impacts our everyday interactions and help us become the people we want to be. We also share how you can use visualization to create and manifest intent into your life as well as describe how your intentions program the brain.
“Intention brings up how we want to co-create our relationship together.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How we consciously set intentions in light of the pandemic
- Using visualization as a tool to set an intention
- How setting an intention built the foundation of our relationship
- Transforming intent into how we want to behave in our relationships and respond to conflict
- Bringing improv into our life and relationship
- Resetting the tone of your relationship through evaluating its foundations
- How Rainbow used intention-setting before we became a couple
- The neuroscience of setting intentions and how it helps us become the partners we want to be
- The benefits of communicating intent with your partner
- Co-creating intent in a couple’s sexual life
- Rainbow’s intention-setting routine
- The difference between setting intentions and goal-setting
Related Content:
- Maintaining Connection Through Conflict
- The Need for Patience
- Dealing with Grumpiness, Irritability, and Defensiveness
- Practicing Empathy is Key to Building Trust
- Navigating Your Relationships
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Conflict is a truth for every couple. Every relationship has its fair share of arguments from time to time. While the threat of COVID-19 persists around the world, couples are spending more time in close proximity while quarantined together and find themselves in more bouts of conflict. In fact, my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, and I recently had a special conflict situation. Rainbow is an artist and fashion designer. She is the founder and owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio, where she facilitates voice-empowering workshops and Wisdom Women’s Tents.
Today, Rainbow and I share a recent conflict we had, how we stayed connected through it, and what insights we realized during that time. We explain how the lack of alone time can fuel impatience and highlight the importance of repair and reset after a conflict. We also describe how our practice of deliberate appreciation, acknowledgment, and validation has empowered our relationship over the years, allowing us to stay connected through conflict.
“Don’t get your emotions involved in the unloading. Just be there and witness.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The fixer and the listener, and how we sometimes just want to be witnessed
- How not getting our regular doses of alone time has affected us
- Understanding the importance of repairing a relationship after conflict
- How making agreements can support a relationship’s repair
- Responding the right way when a person is venting, and why you shouldn’t make it about yourself
- Our process of getting back to understanding, acknowledgment, and validation
- How practicing HeartShare appreciation has fueled our relationship’s foundation
- The power of setting intent
- How we’re nurturing ourselves during the COVID-19 pandemic
Related Content:
- The Need for Patience
- Dealing with Grumpiness, Irritability, and Defensiveness
- Practicing Empathy is Key to Building Trust
- Navigating Your Relationships
- The Goal of Healthy Conflict
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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In many ways, a relationship is like a garden: you need to make a deliberate effort to care for the soil so that plants can have a strong foundation. Whether it’s igniting a spark in the relationship or handling conflicts better, the quarantine presents us with opportunities to connect with our loved ones and understand them more profoundly. It’s our relationships that will get us through this time where the world is filled with anxiety and distress, and it’s become critical now more than ever that we cultivate our relationships.
In this episode, I answer questions from two listeners regarding how we can deeply connect with our partners and the different ways we process disagreements. I discuss the need for vulnerability in relationships as well as share questions you can ask your partners to foster a connection with them. I suggest ways for a couple to manage their differences when it comes to conflict resolution and discuss things to avoid while arguing. I also discuss how arguments are more about managing them - as opposed to solving them - and how successfully managing differences in the ways we handle conflict can create more respect for each other.
“Go underneath the surface. That’s the soil where your relationship is going to flourish.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What you can do to create a spark in your relationship
- How deeper questions can build deeper connections
- Questions to ask your partner to understand them on a deeper level
- Different ways to ask deep questions
- The need for vulnerability in relationships
- How to manage differences in the way we process disagreements
- The different styles of dealing with conflict and fair fighting
- Making agreements as a means to handle relationship conflict
- Blaming, lashing out, degrading language, and other things to avoid during an argument
Listener Questions - Let’s Talk About It:
- What can we do to feel more connected in our relationship?
- How can we manage our differences in processing disagreements?
Resources Mentioned:
- Facebook Live with Joan Lunden
Related Content:
- The Need for Patience
- Dealing with Grumpiness, Irritability, and Defensiveness
- Practicing Empathy is Key to Building Trust
- Navigating Your Relationships
- The Art of Listening
- Understand and Manage Differences in Your Relationships
- Managing Conflict in Partnerships
Let’s Talk About It!
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Patience is one of the pillars of our everyday lives that must be cultivated. At a time where uncertainty about our future plagues the air, we can feel an anxiety that could drain our patience. We may feel irascible and get frustrated easily, even with people whom we love. Recently, my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, and I had a bout of impatience with each other and worked through it. After all, we need patience now more than ever, as it will foster the love that will see us through this crisis. Yvonne is the founder and owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio, where she facilitates workshops and day-long retreats.
In today’s episode, Rainbow and I discuss the need for patience amid the COVID-19 crisis. We illustrate how the pandemic is making people lose their patience and describe how impatience can affect our relationships. We share our recent experiences with impatience in our relationship and how we dealt with it. We also explain how insecurity can cause impatience as well as describe the steps you can take to cultivate patience for yourself and others.
“Frustration is something we all experience - it’s not something to feel ashamed or guilty of, as long as we don’t take it out on each other.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The difference between patience and passivity
- How impatience can show up in small things
- How we’re using eye contact to avoid impatience
- Practicing meditation to cultivate patience
- The effect of impatience on our partners and relationships
- The relationship between stress and impatience
- Why we need to be patient with ourselves and how to purposefully develop patience
- The addictive nature of anger and its relationship with impatience
- Cooking together as a shared experience
- The impact of parents’ impatience on their children
- How insecurity and a sense of inadequacy cause impatience
- How a lack of communication causes passive-aggressiveness
- How patience can inspire and heal our partners
Related Content:
- The Goal of Healthy Conflict
- Emotional Regulation
- Dealing with Grumpiness, Irritability, and Defensiveness
- Practicing Empathy is Key to Building Trust
- Navigating Your Relationships
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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COVID-19 has disrupted our normal life and confined us into the spaces of our homes. Many people have been isolated in their houses for weeks, and there is a lack of certainty in how long the quarantines will last. This confinement impacts couples, too. Being in constant, close proximity with each other can erode the novelty in their relationships and bring in grumpiness, irritability, and defensiveness. Even my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, and I recently had our own experience with grumpiness and irritability - and made it through. Rainbow is an artist and the founder & owner of the Artsy Goddess Studio.
In today’s episode, Rainbow and I share our recent experience with grumpiness and the steps we took to manage it. We illustrate why grumpiness is a contagion and discuss how a person should react when their partner is grumpy. We discuss COVID-19’s impact on our mood and emotions and describe how defensiveness can erode a relationship. We also highlight the power of humor in alleviating grumpiness as well as underscore how self-awareness and self-care can help combat irritability and defensiveness.
“Have time for reflection and kindness; be with each other and ourselves.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Our recent experience with grumpiness and how we managed it
- Why grumpiness and irritability are like contagions
- How to react when your partner is grumpy or irritated
- How the pandemic can make us moody
- The correlation between lack of sleep and grumpiness
- Why you shouldn’t take another person’s bad mood personally
- How to influence another person’s mood through kindness and humor
- Giving your partner space when they’re not in a good mood
- The impact of self-awareness on combating irritability and defensiveness
- How defensiveness can erode the quality of a relationship
- Irritability and grumpiness as symptoms of mood disorders and body pain
- The effect of movies on our mood and emotions
Related Content:
- Understanding and Managing Differences in Your Relationships
- The Art of Apology
- The Power of Appreciation
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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In a world disrupted by a pandemic, it may be difficult to express empathy for other people. The unknown can be scary, and we might be anxious about our own finances, health, and survival. Yet, we need empathy for each other now more than ever. How do you practice empathy, especially in a time of distress? My wife, Yvonne (Rainbow) Teplitsky—artist, founder & owner of Artsy Goddess Studio—believes that we need to have empathy for ourselves first to have the capacity to have empathy for others.
Today, Yvonne and I discuss the power of cultivating empathy. We illustrate how empathy can reduce stress and build trust in relationships and share our experiences with giving and receiving it. We define the meaning of empathy and its difference from sympathy. We explore the different ways of cultivating empathy and how parents can teach their children to be more empathetic through ways like role modeling. We also underscore the value of empathy in today’s time of crisis and uncertainty and discuss how it can foster compassion.
“We can listen, but we don’t have to fix it. It’s enough to witness, look into their eyes, and show empathy.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Cultivating empathy in our relationship
- A recent example of how Yvonne expressed empathy
- Emotional mirroring and the different ways of conveying empathy
- The difference between sympathy and empathy
- What empathy fatigue is and how you can avoid it
- How always trying to be right affects relationships
- How to teach boys to be more empathetic
- How literary fiction can help us be more empathetic
- The physical and psychological blocks that prevent us from being empathetic in relationships
- Social distancing and how empathy can foster compassion
- The role of empathy in the time of the COVID-19 crisis
Related Content:
- Pandemic Series: Navigating Your Relationships
- The Art of Apology
- Setting Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
- Emotional Regulation
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Human beings are resilient creatures. Amidst the fear, stress, and anxiety brought about by the COVID-19 pandemic, people relate to each other kindly and meaningfully, from checking-in online to singing together on balconies. But social distancing and quarantines can challenge even the happiest and most stable relationships. My wife Yvonne Teplitsky—the founder & owner of Artsy Goddess Studio—and I have been spending time in quarantine together. Like many couples in quarantine around the world, we’ve had our share of ups and downs while sharing this experience.
In today’s episode, Yvonne and I share our experiences with spending time together while being self-quarantined and how we’re navigating it as a couple. We discuss how we cancelled a trip to Florida in light of COVID-19 and how a quarantine can exacerbate relationship issues. We highlight the importance of communication and intentionally making space to talk about fears and anxiety about the crisis. We also discuss how appreciation can keep us grounded and connected to our partners as well as illustrate how allowing ourselves to feel joy can help us in these trying times.
“It’s like we’ve all been turned upside-down and shaken. Everything is getting reset and we’re asking: “What am I about now and how do I want to continue?’” - Yvonne Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The importance of intentionally making space to talk about fears and anxiety over the coronavirus crisis
- Creating new routines, setting boundaries, and navigating alone time versus together time while in quarantine
- How to check-in with your partner instead of placing blame
- How we respond to and ease each other’s anxiety over the COVID-19 pandemic
- Cultivating communication skills and things to talk about with your partner while in self-quarantine
- How to stop bickering and relationship escalations through staying connected
- The power of bringing humor and joy into your relationships
- The relationship challenges of being in extremely close quarters
- Microboredom and how we can respond to boredom while in quarantine
- The value of physical intimacy in a time of crisis
Resources Mentioned:
- Understanding and Managing Differences in Your Relationships
- The Art of Apology
- The Power of Appreciation
- Emotional Regulation
- The Goal of Healthy Conflict
- Setting Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Commitment: that big ‘c’ word that causes cold feet for some people. In many ways, it’s a projection of future scenarios that a person creates in their mind. Will their partner change? Will they be able to make decisions for themselves? Will they be able to meet new people and do the things that they like? If you’re someone who constantly asks these questions before entering a relationship, you may have a fear of commitment. But whether you have this fear or not, it’s worthwhile to look inward and meditate on the meaning of commitment and your relationship with it.
In today’s episode, I explore the fear of commitment, its causes, and the ways we can overcome it. I share my personal experience with the fear of commitment in my 20s and explain how that eventually led to my current relationship. I reveal how being afraid of boredom, change, and the lack of freedom can make a person not want to commit as well as underscore the importance of shared values in a relationship. I also discuss the vital role that creativity plays in relationships and how we can cultivate the courage to overcome our fear of commitment.
“When we fear commitment, we see a future where we feel trapped. We must focus on the kind of intimacy we want and envision ourselves responding to it.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The meaning of commitment
- My experience with fear of commitment
- Why the fear of commitment could be about fear of losing your own freedom
- The role of authentic communication in a long-term relationship
- The importance of having shared values with your partner
- Why seeking perfection from a partner is not attainable
- The fear of boredom and creating excitement in long term relationships
- Being in love with an artist and how creativity can keep a relationship alive
- How fear of change can accompany the fear of commitment
- Ways to overcome the fear of rejection or approval
- The signs that tell you when your partner is afraid of commitment
- Developing fearlessness and overcoming the fear of commitment with courage
Related Content:
- What Do We Mean by Commitment?
Let’s Talk About It!
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Trish Kruger is a professional counselor and therapist currently working at Blue Ridge Treks, a community of mental health therapists in Asheville, North Carolina. She is dual-licensed as a counselor and addiction therapist trained in trauma-informed care and motivational interviewing. With a diverse background in yoga, art, and entrepreneurship, Trish values mindfulness, expressive art, and talk therapy in her practice.
In this episode, Trish and I discuss the role of rituals and ceremonies in transforming relationships. We share some of our personal experiences with bringing rituals into the transition periods of our lives and how they help us honor those processes. We illustrate how we work with clients and help them create rituals for divorce, coming of age, and others. We also discuss how meaningful rituals can help us heal in times of grief and difficulty and describe rituals from the perspective of neuroscience.
“There’s so much ritual hidden in our culture. If we can consciously bring ritual in times of transition, it can help people start the next phase in an opened, renewed way.” - Trish Kruger
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How rituals can give us a sense of purpose
- The loss of rituals and ceremonies in our culture
- Why my wife and I decided to perform our own marriage ceremony
- How a divorce ritual helped Trish and her former husband transition into friendship
- The shame that comes with divorce and how rituals can help heal it
- Rituals and ceremony from the perspective of neuroscience
- How rituals can create new neural pathways
- The different ways men and women relate to rituals
- The importance of intent and personal meaning when creating rituals
- The medicine wheel and the different transition periods during the day
- Why our culture needs transformational rituals for men
- How rituals can empower us in times of grief
Resources Mentioned:
- The Power and Effect of Words
- Letting Go of Family Relationships: Whether Toxic or Not
Connect with Trish Kruger:
- Blue Ridge Treks
- Blue Ridge Treks on Twitter
- Blue Ridge Treks on Facebook
- Blue Ridge Treks on LinkedIn
- Trish Kruger on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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Families are complicated. As much as we want to always be there and support our loved ones, sometimes our relationships could be toxic. It’s difficult to draw a boundary between you and a relative, but how do you know it’s time to cut off ties with a family member? Or how do you know when to maintain the relationship? My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, the founder & owner of Artsy Goddess Studio, has her own experiences of challenging family relationships where issues and misunderstandings have stacked on one another.
In this episode, Rainbow and I answer a listener’s question about drawing boundaries with an important family member and explain why it’s important to not force conflict resolution and instead opt for cultivating space. We share our experiences and vulnerabilities with family issues and cutting-off friends and relatives. We describe how toxic behavior in the family affected us as children. We reveal the common characteristics that define toxic behavior such as manipulation and lying, as well as illustrate how guilt can prevent us from letting go of toxic people. We also discuss the importance of looking inwards when considering challenging relationships and cutting ties with family.
“Cutting ties with family members is one of the hardest decisions that we may ever face in life.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The difference between toxic relationships and family dramas
- Rainbow’s experiences growing up with family issues
- The effect of family conflict on children
- The inevitability of conflict and the best time to learn about conflict resolution skills
- Why it can be challenging to cut ties with family members
- The power of creating connections with an estranged family member
- What makes a relationship one-sided
- My experience with a toxic family member
- Why you should consider creating space instead of severing relationships
- How we are met with resistance when we force conflict resolution
- Manipulation, deceit, victim-playing, and other aspects of toxic behavior
- Why toxic people attach to loving and kind ones
- How guilt prevents us from cutting ties with family members
- How family loyalty can create toxic relationships
- Why friendships can be difficult to end
Listener Questions - Let’s Talk About It:
- At what point do you let go of relationships that may no longer feel fulfilling, even if it means hurting other family members?
Related Content:
- Dealing With Family Dramas: Standing Up For Yourself
- Courage In Relationships
- Taking Responsibility In Your Relationships
- Managing Conflict In Relationships
- Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity
- Encourage Your Partner’s “Deeper” Authenticity
- Time Apart vs. Time Together: What’s Healthy?
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Thomas Doochin is the CEO of Daymaker, an organization that helps employees cultivate a deeper connection with their community, team, and themselves through the intentional acts of giving and service. Daymaker helps people realize and foster their intrinsic goodness and generosity by helping employees and their companies connect with under-resourced communities. Through this experience of generosity and service, Daymaker aims to bring givers and the people they serve closer, and inspire them to explore the feeling of aliveness and connection.
Thomas joins me again today to discuss forming relationships with our colleagues in a work environment. We share our personal experiences of forming deep friendships with colleagues and bosses and discuss how it could be challenging to bring in our humanness and develop meaningful connections in the workplace. We describe how differences in age, experience, and hierarchy can prevent an employee from being their authentic selves. We also discuss how good workplace relationships can transform the working environment as well as explain why it is difficult to bring our relational skills into the workplace.
“There is an opportunity each day in our workplaces to be simply aware of how we are reacting to those who are around us.” - Thomas Doochin
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The challenges of bringing our humanness to the workplace
- The accidental nature of a work environment
- How our personal values and desire for workplace productivity can be misaligned
- How hierarchy and age difference can impede workplace relationships
- Overcoming the barriers between management and employees
- What our work colleagues can teach us
- Why it’s difficult to bring social and relational skills to the workplace
- How our social and relational skills can transform our work environment
- The importance of finding and upholding common values with the people we work with
- The value of bringing space in workplace relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- Generosity: Contemplating How We Show Up In Our Relationships
- The Relationship of Business Through The Lens Of Giving
- Trust and Company Culture: A Conversation with a Former Fortune 200 CEO
- Time Apart vs. Time Together: What's Healthy?
Connect with Thomas Doochin:
- Daymaker
- Daymaker on Facebook
- Daymaker on Twitter
- Daymaker on Instagram
- Thomas Doochin on Twitter
- Thomas Doochin on LinkedIn
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Jealousy is a human experience. Whether we were the ones receiving it or the ones feeling it, we’ve all had our fair share of jealous feelings and behaviors. Despite the commonality of this emotion, jealousy could bring on challenges and issues in a romantic relationship that, when aggravated, could create distrust and eventually end the relationship. Couples need to take the necessary steps to overcome jealousy and cultivate a relationship that is connected, open, and loving.
Today, I share my thoughts on jealousy, its causes, and its effects. I explain how jealousy can force our partners to put up boundaries or even commit actions that foster distrust. I reveal how insecurities and low self-esteem can cultivate our tendency to be jealous and share some evolutionary perspectives on why we feel jealous. I share my personal experiences with jealousy and highlight the steps we can take to overcome these feelings. I also answer a listener’s question about how to move forward in a relationship without bringing emotional baggage, why couples need to focus on their willingness to examine and work through emotional hurts and difficulties, as well as highlight the importance of celebrating successes in overcoming emotional baggage.
“No matter how jealous we feel, we need to find a way to come back to ourselves. Know that no matter how strong these feelings are, they will come and pass.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The detrimental impact of jealousy on our relationships and how they push our partners to put up boundaries
- The definition of jealousy and how it’s different from envy
- Common evolutionary explanations of jealousy
- The biggest driver and causes of jealousy
- How working on your sense of self can help soothe feelings of jealousy
- How open and honest communication can help couples overcome jealousy
- Why paranoid and obsessive tendencies can trap a person into jealousy
- How jealousy can make us block our partners
- Using humor and light-hearted conversations to address feelings of jealousy and anxiety
- How our inner critic perpetuates destructive thoughts and feelings
- Dealing with jealousy through acceptance and self-compassion
Listener Questions - Let’s Talk About It:
- How do you move forward in a new relationship without bringing emotional baggage?
Related Content:
- Emotional Infidelity: Is It Really Cheating?
- Transforming the Inner Critic
- The Art of Apology
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At a very young age, Cathy Courtenay felt an urge to find truth and has since been living her life responding to its call. Cathy brings her heart into everything that she does, whether it’s leading the Art of Circling, Body-Mind Centering, or working with her clients as a Conscious Relating Coach. She helps people fully stand in what’s real for them, and all of her work ultimately teaches authenticity and sovereignty that creates a greater space for a love that helps uplift humanity.
Cathy joins me today to discuss the elements that make a relationship worth the hard work. We share some of our professional and personal and experiences with learning the meaning of hard work in relationships. We reveal why individuals need to understand their own values and find common relationship values. We illustrate the importance of self-awareness and communication skills, especially during conflict situations. We also explain why hard work in relationships doesn’t need to be a struggle as well as highlight why you need to ask yourself if you become a better person through the relationship.
“It’s a spiritual experience to connect with a partner who’s deeply appreciating, and seeing and loving who they are in the world.” - Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The impact of self-awareness in relationships
- The role of compassion and love in healing and repairing your relationship after conflict
- The importance of having shared values in a relationship
- Why the individuals in a relationship need to explore their personal values
- Connection, the feeling of being met, and other elements that make a relationship worth doing the hard work
- How openness and curiosity affects a relationship
- How and why it’s essential to maintain your sovereignty and differentiation in relationship
- What trauma bonding is and what should be done when a partner has had a traumatic experience
- How to identify when it’s time to move on
- Why “hard work” doesn’t necessarily need to be a struggle
- Why some couples lack sexual intimacy in their lives
- The power of appreciation and how to bring back sexual intimacy
- Why you need to ask yourself if you become a better person through the relationship
Related Content:
- Difficult Conversations
- Falling in Love
- Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
- Cathy Courtenay on LinkedIn
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Conflict is an inevitable part of committed relationships, marriages, partnerships, or even in our relationships with family and friends. Yet many of us avoid it. We don’t know how to properly open ourselves to conflict, let alone handle it properly. But conflict, when managed constructively, can be a source of growth and connection between all disagreeing parties involved. We need to understand and cultivate the tools we can use to transform conflict into a constructive experience.
Today, I discuss what makes conflict healthy, how to foster it, and how we can benefit from it. I describe how parents can better manage conflict with their teenagers as well as the role of intent in resolving disagreements. I share communication tools you can use to get through disagreements and arguments. I also explain why we shouldn’t aim to win an argument and instead aim to gain insight into ourselves and understand our partners.
“The goal of healthy conflict is to get understanding for your relationship to grow, for more intimacy, for more closeness.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The need for good communication skills to alleviate conflict in relationships
- Why we shouldn’t aim to win an argument with our partners
- How emotional availability can help us move through conflict
- The primary goal of conflict
- How to transform relationship conflicts into something constructive
- The role of mindfulness and intention in resolving relationship conflicts
- How to better manage conflict between parents and teenagers
- My wife’s conflict with her mother and how she let go of the power struggle
- Why it’s wise to choose our battles
- How my wife and I resolved a conflict and how we benefitted from it
- How conflict resolution can make people closer to each other
- What makes conflicts between couples unhealthy?
- The causes of aggression and violence during conflict and their physiological effects
- The “four horsemen of the apocalypse” in a relationship
- How collaboration and compromise can turn a conflict situation around
- The importance of understanding each others’ triggers
Related Content:
- The Art of Listening
- Stonewalling: the Silent Treat That Blocks Communication
- Generosity: Contemplating How We Show Up in Our Relationships
- Emotional Availability in Relationships
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Trish Kruger is a duo-licensed professional counselor and clinical addiction therapist. Trained in trauma-informed care and motivational interviewing, Trish believes in the value of talk therapy, mindfulness, and expressive arts which she includes in her practice. She completed her graduate degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Western Carolina University and currently works at Blue Ridge Treks, a community of mental health therapists in Asheville, North Carolina.
In today’s episode, Trish and I share stories from our professional and personal lives regarding the power and effect of words. We illustrate how our central nervous system responds to the words we use and receive. We explain how a slight change in the words we use can create belief systems and open us up to new possibilities. We also discuss the different challenges the younger generation faces and how self-compassion, compounded with Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy techniques, can help them.
“Every belief started as an experience. We begin telling ourselves a story. As that story gets rooted deeper in our brain, we develop a pattern.” - Trish Kruger
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Our experiences with growing up with sarcasm
- How Trish’s son teaches her about the power of words
- How words and affirmations create belief systems
- How our physiology responds to thoughts
- How the central nervous system responds to the words we receive
- The four steps of classical Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- The importance of self-compassion and how CBT skips over the self-compassion stage
- The power of words of affirmation and visualization and how the central nervous system responds to them
- How to use reframing techniques to improve relationships
- Why the word “should” is a violent word and a constructive alternative to replace it
- Working with the unique challenges that the younger generations face
- Why parents need to learn to say ‘I’m sorry’
- The difference between apologizing and making amends
- The brain science behind the power of gratitude
- Using breath to bring awareness over the words we use
Resources Mentioned:
- The Art of Apology
- Self-Compassion Can Improve Your Relationships
Connect with Trish Kruger:
- Blue Ridge Treks
- Blue Ridge Treks on Twitter
- Blue Ridge Treks on Facebook
- Blue Ridge Treks on LinkedIn
- Trish Kruger on Facebook
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Susan Patrice is the Principal Consultant of Makers Circle, an organization that sparks change through the creative process. As a documentary photographer, arts educator, and community facilitator, Susan has been using her talents to transform people and communities over the last 12 years. Susan has supported communities worldwide to address problems such as gender equality and racial equity through photography-centered, arts-inspired programs. At the heart of Susan’s work is the desire to help people around the world tell their stories to touch lives and inspire action.
In today’s episode, Susan and I reflect on our relationship with our creative practices. We discuss why the creative process is a practice that unfolds over time. We illustrate how Susan created a collaborative and intimate relationship with nature and how this impacted her work as a photographer. We reveal the reason Susan started hand-building cameras and what inspired her to pursue photography. We also explain how one’s creative process affects their relationship with others as well as highlight the power of photography to engage us with the world.
“Photography requires us to engage with the world. It allows us to be in this middle place between self and other, or spirit and matter. It’s a magical medium.” - Susan Patrice
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why Susan thinks the creative process is a practice
- The similarities between photography and dating
- How Susan’s creative process changes her relationship with people
- A recent experience that taught Susan about collaborating with nature
- Why photography is a contemplative practice
- Creating a collaborative and intimate relationship with the world
- How our relationship to our own bodies affect our relationship to nature
- The reason Susan started hand-building cameras that took round photos
- How Susan’s relationship with nature influenced her photographs
- What Susan’s photography projects teach her about love and relationships
- The danger of considering the creative process as a spiritual process
- Poverty porn and the conversations between photography and consent
- How photography reveals one’s capacity to love
- Translating the difficult moments of life into creativity
Resources Mentioned:
- Why Communicating Consent Matters in Healthy Relationships
- To Be Healed by the Earth by Warren Grossman
Connect with Susan Patrice:
- Susan Patrice
- Susan Patrice on Facebook
- Susan Patrice on LinkedIn
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Everybody has family dramas. But while no family is entirely healthy, it’s always great to be in a family where there’s less drama. My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, brilliant artist, founder and owner of Artsy Goddess Studio, hails from Denmark. With my American background and her upbringing from a different culture, we’ve had our share of family drama with our relatives. How can a couple stand up for themselves and their happiness amidst the expectations of their family?
In today’s episode, Yvonne and I share how we handled family drama and stood up for the decisions we made for ourselves. We explain how deciding for your happiness can get genetically or energetically passed down to the next generation and change your family’s narrative. We reflect on how standing up for our decisions made us happy and set the tone for the rest of our lives together.
We also discuss why we shouldn’t make decisions to satisfy other peoples’ expectations and highlight how setting up boundaries can break family drama. I also answer a listener’s question about whether she should invite her relatives to her wedding next fall and why planning your wedding shouldn’t be about protecting other people or their feelings, but about celebrating the love you share with your partner. I explain what you should consider when deciding who to invite to your wedding celebration to stay authentic and true to yourself and your feelings as well as my philosophy on the younger generations often surpassing their parent’s ability to set boundaries.
“ We felt into our hearts and co-created what this family was going to be about.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why you shouldn’t make decisions based on other peoples’ expectations
- The impact on our children when we stand up for ourselves
- How setting up a boundary can shift a family’s pattern and break family drama
- The reason decision-making has to be outside of other peoples’ expectations
- Why you shouldn’t offer an explanation when you say no
- The long-term effects of choosing our happiness
- How Rainbow and I handled family drama when we were getting married
- Why we decided against a church wedding
- The family drama over the birth of our son and how we handled it as a couple
- How standing up for our decisions set the tone for the rest of our relationship
- The way Rainbow supports me whenever I need to make a decision
Listener Question of the Week:
- Should I invite my relatives to my wedding?
Related Content:
- Courage In Relationships
- Taking Responsibility In Your Relationships
- Managing Conflict In Relationships
- Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity
- Encourage Your Partner’s “Deeper” Authenticity
- Time Apart vs. Time Together: What’s Healthy?
Connect with Yvonne:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
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Thomas Doochin firmly believes in humanity’s story of love and interconnectedness. This great faith in humanity led him and his peers at the University of North Carolina to co-create Daymaker at the young age of 19. Through connecting employees to their communities, Daymaker is a company that helps people realize their intrinsic goodness and generosity. But to Thomas, Daymaker is more than a business; it is a living mentor that continues to teach him what generosity means.
In today’s episode, Thomas and I contemplate on generosity and how we bring it into our closest relationships. We explain why, while we’re generous to most people, we’re sometimes least generous to the people closest to us. We describe the shame that comes when we realize that we’re not being generous. We illustrate how self-care, self-compassion, and self-appreciation all help to bring out our authentic, generous selves. We also share, from our personal lives, the tendency to withhold generosity from our romantic partners and how we manage to bring it back.
“We have the space to be more of ourselves anywhere in a relationship. Our innate quality is good and graciousness, and love.” - Thomas Doochin
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Thomas has become more generous through intentional practice
- Why generosity is a muscle that could be practiced
- The parts of the brain responsible for generosity
- How Thomas realized that he was not being generous in his romantic relationship
- The shame that comes with realizing our lack of generosity and inauthenticity
- Why our closest relationships receive the least generous part of ourselves
- How intention and mindfulness can bring generosity to relationships
- The effects of emotional maturity in relationships
- How emotional self-care and regulation creates generosity
- Why obligations and expectations stop us from being our authentic selves
- Using the idea of death to create generosity and compassion
- The power of self-appreciation and self-compassion
- The right way to accept an apology and how acceptance heals relationships
Resources Mentioned:
- The Relationship of Business Through The Lens of Giving
Connect with Thomas Doochin:
- Daymaker
- Daymaker on Facebook
- Daymaker on Twitter
- Daymaker on Instagram
- Thomas Doochin on Twitter
- Thomas Doochin on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Al Bailey has been a student of the healing arts for over 30 years. Al uses his wisdom on the relationship between mind and body to help his clients return to their authentic breathing and facilitate healing and self-awareness. In addition to being a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, Al is the owner of BreatheAboutLife, a center for inner healing. Through BreatheAboutLife, he provides NOWON Bodywork, life-coaching, and Mind/Foot Circle Walking sessions to his clients to bring them to the ultimate healing.
In today’s episode, Al and I discuss how body awareness can help us relate and gain more insight into ourselves and the world. We explain how the body can speak through inflammation and disease. We describe the effects of craniosacral work and self-awareness on relationships and health. We also illustrate how a lack of self-awareness can create addictions as well as underscore the importance of self-care in improving compassion for others.
“Understanding comes from practicing the awareness that we’ve gained. Watching the breath is an awareness. When you practice that awareness, you gain more insight.” - Al Bailey
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The importance of understanding our body
- How the body stores insight, wisdom, and information
- How the ego and suppressing emotions can create disease
- How couples create a “single body” and how they can make it healthy
- What is Mind/Foot Circle Walking and how it helps bring awareness
- The effects of regular craniosacral bodywork sessions and how it changes relationships
- How to take control of emotional pain
- How I managed pain while meditating for the first time
- Why Al encourages people to find work that they love
- The importance of self-care in enriching compassion for others
- How a lack of self-awareness can cause addiction
- Morning and night routines to help you reconnect with your physical and mental alignment
Resources Mentioned:
- How the Breath You Take Can Improve Relationship
Connect with Al Bailey:
- BreatheAboutLife
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Maureen McCarthy is a living testament that just because a marriage ended, it doesn’t mean it has failed. When doctors told Maureen that she would die from a rare genetic illness, she ended her 10-year marriage with her husband, Bill. Yet, Maureen and Bill collaborate to maintain a relationship that’s healthy for both of them and their children. She knew that the fear-driven stories that revolve around marriage and divorce aren’t the only stories that exist. Carrying this insight with her, Maureen co-founded the Center for Collaborative Awareness, home of the Blueprint of We Collaboration Process, which helps people build and keep sincere and strong relationships.
In today’s episode, Maureen and I discuss how to design a break-up or divorce process, why you should maintain a healthy relationship with an ex-partner, and how to get along with your ex after a break-up or divorce. We discuss why Maureen and Bill opted for a divorce and how they collaborated to maintain their friendship after their marriage ended. We also highlight how a healthy divorce affects children positively and underscore the power of purposefully designing a relationship.
“Relationships are like containers. You’re going to be in a relationship as long as you can call it a memory. There’s no real ending to a relationship. You have to morph the container to fit the new situation.” - Maureen McCarthy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why Maureen and her ex-husband opted for divorce
- Why Maureen decided to maintain a relationship with her ex-husband
- How Maureen and her ex-husband collaborated for a graceful divorce
- The effect of a graceful and healthy divorce on children
- What is “lookback learning” and how to use it days after an argument
- Maureen’s childhood experience with her parents’ divorce and how it affected her
- The difference between the “safety” brain and the “connecting” brain
- The power of designing a relationship with an ex-partner
- How maintaining a good friendship with her ex positively affected Maureen’s health
- The importance of self-care, ownership, and accountability when transitioning into a divorce
Resources Mentioned:
- Designing Collaborative Relationships with Maureen McCarthy
- Coming Apart: How to Heal Your Broken Heart by Daphne Rose Kingma
Connect with Maureen McCarthy:
- The Center for Collaborative Awareness (use the code “Pripo” to receive 50% off the Blueprint of We document)
- Maureen McCarthy on LinkedIn
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Gregg Levoy is devoted to helping people find and sustain their passions in life. His books, Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, reflect his mission of helping people feel alive through their passion. He is currently a regular contributing author to Psychology Today and holds workshops and keynote presentations at organizations such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency, and Microsoft. A former reporter and adjunct professor of journalism at the University of New Mexico, Gregg has mastered the art of generous conversations and understands how to hold space that lets people feel understood and validated.
In today’s episode, Gregg and I discuss what it means to have a generous conversation. We discuss how curiosity interplays with listening to create great communication skills. We share tips and exercises to improve listening skills and explain how to set boundaries with talkative people. We also explain how generous conversations impact other people as well as share our own experiences with using listening skills and promoting a generous conversation.
“Communication is shared understanding and “co-mmunication.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What makes a great conversation
- Why curiosity is a key aspect of excellent listening skills
- How to deal with people who talk too much
- Why many people in relationships don’t enjoy the conversations they have with their partner
- Ways to practice conversational skills
- Why people are scared of telling a talkative person to slow down
- How to use supportive language in response to someone who had a bad experience
- How to leverage silence in business negotiations
- How couples can cultivate connection through silence and presence
- How culture influences a person’s tendency to be talkative
- The impact of a generous conversation
Resources Mentioned:
- 008 The Importance of Self-Inquiry in Building Healthy Relationships
- 024 Following Personal Passions and Taking Risks Can Nurture Your Relationships
- 031Releasing Tension: The Courage to Feel
- 037 Heartbreak Part 1: Getting Wacked By Love
- 064 A Conversation Between Two Young Elders
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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There are times in a relationship when a person needs to set boundaries. It could be healthy to take a step back and soothe the emotions in times of anger. But while it’s helpful to ‘take a breather’ during escalated conflict situations, refusing to engage or acknowledge the other person in the relationship is not healthy. Stonewalling, silent treatments, or sulking can be hurtful, and in some cases, manipulative. If there’s no communication, there’s no relationship.
In today’s episode, I discuss stonewalling, the silent treatment, and the many reasons people resort to it. I explain how stonewalling can undermine communication and, eventually, the relationship itself. I explain why men stonewall more than women and the steps you can take to handle the silent treatment. I also share the steps I took to change my stonewalling habits as well as identify the ways a couple can handle conflict situations better.
“Stonewalling could be really detrimental to a relationship. Have the courage to mess up, to say things that are vulnerable, and to reach out for love.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The definition of stonewalling and the reasons people resort to it
- How stonewalling damages communication in relationships
- A healthy way to temporarily withdraw from conflict situations
- Why men stonewall more than women
- How the silent treatment affects a relationship
- How to re-engage with your partner after a stonewalling episode
- The steps I took to change my stonewalling behavior
- Effective ways to deal with the silent treatment
- The ways stonewallers can change their behavior
- How to build your empathy muscle
- What emotional maturity is and how it helps a relationship
- The signs of a healthy relationship
Let’s Talk About It!
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Thomas Doochin believes in humanity’s inherent capacity for love and interconnectedness. At the age of 19, Thomas took this faith in humanity and, together with his peers from the University of North Carolina, co-created Daymaker. Through helping employees and their companies connect with under-resourced communities, Daymaker helps people realize and foster their intrinsic goodness and generosity. Now at 25 years old, Thomas continues to discover what it means to give and receive as he serves as Daymaker’s messenger of kindness and love.
In today’s episode, Thomas and I discuss giving and how it fosters goodness in business. We illustrate how his philosophy affects not only his work but also the people he works with. We share how to bring a message of love to business and explain how running a business can be a spiritual practice. We discuss the value of being authentic and connecting with joy. We also share how fostering generosity impacts your employees’ wellbeing as well as benefits the company’s abundance.
“Giving is our innate wiring as humans. Companies that help amplify those values in their people are building more vibrant, healthier workplaces.” - Thomas Doochin
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Thomas’ philosophy of giving and how it affects the people at Daymaker
- How running a business can be a spiritual practice
- What is Daymaker and how it helps employees connect with communities
- How Thomas brings the message of love to a business or corporation
- The importance of finding and connecting with joy
- What is countertransference and how it can encourage authenticity
- How authenticity inspires other people to be true to themselves
- What causes the need for validation and how it affects the attitude of giving and generosity
- How businesses can benefit from fostering their employees’ generosity
Connect with Thomas Doochin:
- Daymaker
- Daymaker on Facebook
- Daymaker on Twitter
- Daymaker on Instagram
- Thomas Doochin on Twitter
- Thomas Doochin on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Mollie Curry is a ‘true Earth’ person. In addition to being a wilderness ranger, communitarian, permaculturist, home herbalist, and gardener, she is a natural builder who aims to help the planet and its people come to greater balance. Through her work, Mollie fosters more profound connections with herself, society, the Earth, and spirit. She was first involved in the art of natural building in the mid-90s when she moved to the Earthhaven Ecovillage in North Carolina.
After years of honing her skills and working as a ranger for the Forest Service, Mollie met her husband, Steve Kemble, at the Lama Foundation, a spiritual community in New Mexico. They eventually moved to Asheville, NC. where she combined her business, Earth Circle Natural Building, with her husband’s to create MudStrawLove, an organization dedicated to training people in natural building techniques.
In today’s episode, Mollie and I discuss how health and diet can affect relationships. We discuss what caused her addiction to sugar and what made her decide to choose a healthier diet. We discuss the cycle of shame that came with her sugar addiction and how that shame affected her relationship with her husband. We also discuss the psychological aspects of eating habits and why distressed couples eat unhealthy food.
“There are so many ways of being fed. If you feel an emotional eating impulse, you can go outside and take ten deep breaths. That’s a way of being fed as well.” - Mollie Curry
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The factors that caused Mollie’s addiction to sugar
- How physical health affects psychological health
- The shame cycle of sugar addiction
- How self-deprecation impacts relationships
- Mollie’s turning point towards a healthier lifestyle
- How emotional and social factors influence eating habits
- Why couples in distressed relationships eat unhealthily
- How emotional distress can impact the immune system
- The power of appreciation in relationships
- How our environment affects the way we eat
- How cooking can be a chance for emotional connection and bonding
Connect with Mollie Curry:
- MudStrawLove
- Mollie Curry on Instagram
- Email:molliehat@hotmail.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Corey Costanzo is a licensed addiction counselor and somatic therapist who seeks to help people achieve a higher flow in their life experience. Another area of expertise is bodywork, a mix of Esalen Massage, Craniosacral therapy, and Didgeridoo sound vibration healing. A kind-hearted person and good friend of mine, Corey helps the local community improve their lives by offering donation-based Restorative Yoga classes at Asheville Community Yoga and teaching somatic psychology at the Center for Massage. He co-owns Still Point Wellness, Asheville’s premier spa featuring sensory deprivation float tank and world-class Esalen Massage, with his wife, Robin.
In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss emotional self-regulation and how we can bring awareness and mindfulness to respond to our internal experiences. We explain how we can choose to self-regulate instead of allowing ourselves to be swept by emotions and share tools and coping techniques we can use to regulate. We explain how a parent’s ability to regulate their emotions can affect their children’s psychological development. We differentiate feelings from emotions and explain how this distinction can help us manage our emotions. We also draw from our personal experiences to share the steps we took to self-regulate in times of conflict.
“If we know how to self-regulate as a parent, then that’s a form of wisdom we can pass on to our children.” -Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Corey’s definition of emotional regulation
- How to access the choice to emotionally self-regulate instead of being swept by emotions
- Using mindfulness and awareness practices to help emotional self-regulation
- The biochemistry of emotions and where they are felt
- How to distinguish feelings from emotions to regulate responses
- Self-soothing and self-care methods to increase self-awareness
- The importance of co-regulating a partner’s emotional experiences
- Why parents should develop emotional regulation skills and how dysregulation can affect childhood development
- How attachment styles affect confrontation and conflict management in couples
Resources Mentioned:
- Molecules of Emotions by Candace Pert
- 045 Do the Right Thing
- 018 Is Stress Affecting Your Relationships?
- 007 Addictions and Their Effects On Relationships
- 004 Sound and Attunement in Relationships
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Ever since she felt a sense of urgency to find truth in the world at a very young age, Cathy Courtenay has lived a path of personal and spiritual growth. Inspired by this calling of truth, she studied Body-Mind Centering in her early twenties and later became interested in the potential of re-patterning and perceptual shifts, applying them into her bodywork practice. She took her pursuit of truth further by closely studying the Art of Circling with its founder, Guy Sengstock.
Cathy brings heart to everything that she does, whether it’s into bodywork, dancing, leading Circling sessions in Asheville, NC, or maintaining relationships with small and large businesses in the marketing world. Her capacity to be in a wide range of human emotions and experiences, along with her deep listening skills, allows her to create safe spaces that help people be present in difficult moments.
In today’s episode, Cathy and I discuss how to handle difficult conversations, whether it’s in the office or at home. We explain why people avoid conversations and share tips on how to handle difficult conversations. We emphasize the value of bringing in curiosity and ownership and how they can impact communication. We discuss the reason people argue over text and why couples should avoid it. We also reflect on our personal experiences with having ‘the talk’ and highlight why it’s essential to choose difficult conversations over the comfort of avoiding them.
“We put such a weight on positive emotions but it’s important for us to be with whatever it is in the other person.” – Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why people avoid conversations and what happens when they do
- How relating to our partners is similar to building muscles
- The barriers that make conversations difficult
- What should be done before starting a difficult conversation
- The values of self-regulation, empathy, and curiosity in having difficult conversations
- How blaming the other person impacts conversations and relationships
- How speaking in the heat of the moment affects the delivery of a conversation
- The signs of emotional defensiveness
- How to reduce escalations in challenging conversations
- Why couples argue over text and why it should be avoided
- The importance of choosing to have difficult conversations
Resources Mentioned:
- 039 Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
- 046 Falling in Love
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay
- Cathy Courtenay on Facebook
- Cathy Courtenay on LinkedIn
Let’s Talk About It!
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Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is a talented artist who creates tapestries and paintings from a variety of materials. Born and raised in Denmark, she now runs her up-cycled clothes design business in the USA, Artsy Goddess Studio, in addition to facilitating voice-empowering workshops in Black Mountain, NC, co-facilitating couples' workshops with me, and hosting a women’s circle in our home. Yvonne does many things outside of our marriage and remains open and curious about life. Doing her own things means she spends a lot of time outside of our relationship.
Spending time apart is as vital as spending time together in a relationship. After all, some space creates the spark. Yet many couples fear being apart, with one person (or both people) in the relationship worrying that the other might find something—or someone—better. And, at the other end of the spectrum, some couples make little time to feed their relationship. How do you find that sweet spot, that balance between being alone and being together?
In today’s episode, Yvonne and I discuss how we navigated as a couple in the past 25 years and found the sweet spot between spending time apart and together in our relationship. We discuss the challenges we faced in maintaining that balance and how we managed it. We share how our relationship has changed through the years and how we adapted to those changes. We stress the importance of spending alone time, what we do when we’re together and apart, and how couples can improve the time they spend together. We also share something that’s unique to our relationship and why we maintain it.
“It feels so enriching to be away from each other for a day, two days, or more.” – Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How relationship cycles affect time spent together and apart
- Why every couple should explore and find out what works for their relationship
- Should couples spend all their time together?
- How talking to other people about your partner affects your relationship
- The impacts of spending too much time together and away from each other
- Why building trust is important to spend time away from each other
- Why Yvonne goes away for three months every summerand how we stay connected while we’re apart
- What couples should do -and talk about -when they’re together
- Doing routine work as a couple
- Reuniting and reconnecting after some time apart
- Bringing curiosity in the relationship
- The value of stepping into your own life and individuality
Resources mentioned:
- Vital Signs by Greg Levoy
- Eight Dates by John Gottman
Connect with Yvonne:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
- Yvonne on LinkedIn
- Yvonne on Facebook
- Email: rainbowmoonsky@aol.com
Let’s Talk About It!
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Gregg Levoy is a vibrant and passionate teacher, presenter, and author of the books Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passionand Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life. He is a contributing author and blogger for Psychology Today and has written countless articles for publications like The New York Times Magazine, The Washington Post, and Christian Science Monitor. Gregg has appeared on multiple media channels like ABC-TV and CNN and frequently hosts seminars and workshops in the business, educational, governmental, faith-based and human-potential industries.
Today, Gregg and I discuss the difference between getting old and becoming elders and how we can intentionally and consciously become wise elders. We discuss the significant roles that mentoring and being a good role model can play in today’s society and why there is a big need for good modeling and mentoring in the lives of the younger generation. We also discuss the significance of defining the kind of elder you want to be, regardless of your age.
“The beauty of mortality and what can turn people from ‘regular older people’ into ‘elders’ is the wisdom in mortality.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Characteristics of an elder.
- Why eldering is a generational issue.
- How the Huffington Post’s video, What is old? changed the perspective of the younger generation about being an elder.
- Why elders have better, more intimate sexual relationships than younger people.
- How Gregg’s vision quest changed him as he admitted, declared, and screamed out about being an elder.
- The effect of society’s lack of template for conscious eldering.
- How Gregg naturally entered an elder role as he opened up to a woman who was afraid of failure.
- Why eldering is not a matter of age.
- How the realization of getting older allows us to step up, be more alive, and show compassion and understanding to others.
- Where the superpower of eldering comes from.
- How the reminder of having a “Used By” date impacted Gregg.
- Why he looks highly at people who are not afraid of death.
- How the story of Toni Morrison impacted Gregg and the way he presents his views on mortality.
- What the “clarifier” is in people’s lives.
- How Gregg helps people reengage with their own passions.
- How being diagnosed with only six months to live can liberate people.
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
- Vital Signs Book
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
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When you put two people together - people who grew up with different values and belief systems, who lived out different customs and principles - the natural outcome of this human partnership can be both fascinating and frustrating. Each person’s unique experiences can either build up or tear down relationships, depending on whether the people involved would choose to judge or be curious about the other person’s experience. If you take the time to be curious, you would be amazed about how it could change the level of your relationships for the better.
Today, I share how your curiosity builds up your relationship with your partner and those around you. I discuss how curiosity allows you to reexamine the conflicts in your relationships as you stay away from assuming, concluding, and judging the other person. I also share the different ways you can ask your partner, “How’s your day?” as well as how my own curiosity led me to bring a certain level of freshness and newness into my relationships.
“Wondering and curiosity creates fertile ground to create open discussions.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why couples have conflicting recollections of how a particular event happened.
- The one thing that can improve the conflicts that couples have.
- The result when couples form incorrect assumptions of what’s going on with the other person.
- How a scene in the movie City of Angels shows the perfect example of being curious about your partner’s experience.
- The reason why breakups in relationships happen, according to research.
- One of the most sincere ways to inquire about your partner’s day.
- What a “Gotcha” moment is and why it’s unhealthy to have them in relationships.
- Examples of questions of curiosity.
- How to make other people feel cherished by you.
- How to cultivate a curious mind.
- The different, interesting ways my friend trains his curiosity to see the world from a different perspective.
- The process that can help you move out of conflict faster than any other tool presented out there.
- How my adventure in Asheville allowed me to bring more novelty in my life.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Honesty and open communication greatly contribute to the health of any relationship, especially intimate ones. Being open can be a struggle for couples who have different expectations about keeping secrets and where to draw the line when it comes to their privacy. Does the mantra “I’ll show mine if you show me yours” establish a healthy foundation of trust in a relationship? What kind of attitude should we have to foster and maintain trust in our relationships to save ourselves from all unnecessary hurt and heartache?
Today, I dive into the differences between privacy and secrecy. I share how my wife and I dealt with privacy and secrecy in our relationship and how these circumstances affected our openness towards each other. I explain how keeping secrets diminishes your ability to build strong connections with your partner. I also discuss the different types of infidelity that can occur between couples, aside from sexual infidelity, as well as what it takes for couples to gain back the trust they lost due to keeping secrets.
“Trusting one another to be in a relationship and to show up with trust and honesty can be one of the greatest risks that you take in a relationship.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How ‘snooping’ and secrecy can be a learned behavior
- The true meaning of privacy in relationships
- How my wife and I showed respect for our son’s privacy
- The different ways to share private experiences in relationships
- Why couples should have a private life that is apart from anyone, including families
- Situations when your partner could feel like you violated your sacred space as a couple
- How to identify when privacy has turned into secrecy
- Factors that motivate people to keep secrets
- Why secrets diminish intimacy and prevent you from establishing a connection to your partner
- The impact that secrecy can have on your relationship
- The constant component in infidelity and keeping secrets
- The illusion that couples believe when keeping secrets from their partner
- What it takes to repair your relationship after trust has been broken
- How keeping secrets from your partner increases stress and impacts your overall health
Resources Mentioned:
- Is There Privacy Or Secrecy In Your Relationship? Article By Suzanne Phillips
- Podcast Episode: Emotional Infidelity: Is It Really Cheating?
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My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Yvonne is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. Yvonne also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retreats that she co-facilitates with me.
Today, Yvonne and I discuss the significant role that courage plays in having meaningful and authentic relationships even when threatened to face ridicule and rejection from others. We discuss the gravity of being true to ourselves and how to respond when others don’t accept your apology. We also share how we had the courage to humble ourselves and take emotional risks when we honestly ask for what we want.
“We’ve got to dare to live our lives and get the most out of the time we are here.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The origin of the word “courage” and how it reflects the meaning of the word we know today.
- Having the courage to have difficult conversations or set boundaries with your partner in a kind way.
- The mistake Yvonne made in an ice cream parlor we visited and how Yvonne’s courage to apologize for her mistake made a difference in me, in her, and those around us.
- A story of a former neighbor who has wronged me and my wife and how he had the courage to apologize for his behavior.
- The steps Yvonne took to go the extra mile as she made amends with her mother.
- Why sometimes the process of owning up and making amends can take months before it is considered resolved.
- Why it’s brave to seek the truth about your feelings and the reality of your relationships.
- How to have the courage to have productive and healthy conversations about sex.
- What heartsharesare and how it encourages you to speak the truth in your relationships.
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio Website
- Artsy Goddess Studio on Facebook
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For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
It’s an instinct for us to give advice - whether we are asked for it or not - as we show care and concern for others, especially to those who are close to our hearts. Our intentions may be good, but more often than not, giving unsolicited advice causes more harm than good. Learning how to shift our mindset about showing care and offering help as well as learning other life skills can prove to be more helpful over providing a “quick fix” through unsolicited advice.
Today, I discuss the difference between solicited and unsolicited advice and why we should reconsider giving the latter. I discuss why people feel the need to offer unsolicited advice and the role that timing plays in providing help to others. I also share how I deal with unsolicited advice in my personal and professional life and share tips on how to handle advice given by people you love.
“Advice assumes that our perspective is the right one and that the way that we see things will work perfectly for others.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How to avoid giving unsolicited advice and still get the point across to the other person.
- How to know if the other person is ready to hear your advice.
- How setting a firm boundary about homeschooling my son helped me and my mom learn to respect each other’s boundaries around unsolicited advice.
- Why men need to stop giving unsolicited advice to their partner when their driving.
- How to tell others that you’re not up to hearing unsolicited advice.
- Why unsolicited advice from loved ones can be threatening.
- How rephrasing my concern towards my son’s wake board helped me practice and model good parenting.
- How giving unsolicited advice to teenagers or your own children affect the way they see themselves.
- Different ways to address concerns with your children or teenagers without having to give unsolicited advice.
- Why giving unsolicited advice can be detrimental to others.
- The appropriate approach to provide space for others to open up.
- The intent to understand vs. the intent to reply.
- How to make people experience having powerful and lasting impressions on the decisions they make.
Resources Mentioned:
- Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
- The Art of Listening
- A Father-Son Conversation
Sponsored by Farm to Home Milk
Farm to Home Milk is an Asheville-based distribution company of grass-fed, GMO-free milk. They serve many of Asheville’s local restaurants and coffee shops. The secret to their success is their focus on the personal relationships they have with their customers. Their motto: “Compassion is Possible” is proudly featured on the side of their delivery trucks and is a reminder of how they aim to be - in a relationship of sustenance.
To learn more about Farm to Home Milk or to begin receiving delicious, glass-bottled milk delivered to your home, visit www.FarmtoHomeMilk.com
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
Maureen McCarthy, an extraordinary woman who lives joyfully despite a two-decade-long migraine and 10% lung capacity because of a rare, genetic lung disease, is the co-director of Center for Collaborative Awareness. Together with her husband, Maureen co-founded a process that helps build and keep sincere and strong relationships. This process, called the Blueprint of We Collaboration Process, is used globally by couples, families, schools, and businesses both large and small.
Although she feels pain 24 hours a day, seven days a week, Maureen is one of the healthiest people in the world as she shifts her mindset about living a healthy and significant life.
Maureen and I discuss the five components that help people build, design, and maintain collaborative relationships. We discuss how the safety brain and connected brain neurocircuitry work in custom-designing your relationships. We also discuss how Maureen applies these principles in her life to manage her pain and live a rich life with extraordinarily healthy relationships with herself, her health, and others.
“People are not the problem in relationships - it’s often the container we put ourselves in that creates the stress in the relationship.” - Maureen McCarthy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What inspired the creation of the Blueprint of We.
- Why lawyers and other professionals use the Blueprint of We in legal contracts.
- The significance of knowing interaction styles and warning signs.
- How to design your relationship in light of your values.
- The three entities in every relationship.
- The best way for Maureen to manage her pain.
- How she uses the stress in her system to get what she desires.
- How to help bridge relational differences and be open to possibilities and compassion for others.
- How to shift from the safety brain to the connected brain.
- How the “flashlight in the dark” and “pinging me” concepts work.
- What helps you make meaning of the world.
- How to prevent having automatic, emotional responses and start responding intentionally.
- When you should deal with the issue at hand.
- What “healthy” really looks like and why she is one of the healthiest people in the world.
- How the concept of “Ask for everything, Say your truth” improves your close relationships.
- How to change your perspective and focus on what you desire instead of merely solving the problem.
Connect with Maureen McCarthy:
- The Center for Collaborative Awareness Website
- Maureen McCarthy on Facebook
- Maureen McCarthy on LinkedIn
Sponsored by Farm to Home Milk
Farm to Home Milk is an Asheville-based distribution company of grass-fed, GMO-free milk. They serve many of Asheville’s local restaurants and coffee shops. The secret to their success is their focus on the personal relationships they have with their customers. Their motto: “Compassion is Possible” is proudly featured on the side of their delivery trucks and is a reminder of how they aim to be - in a relationship of sustenance.
To learn more about Farm to Home Milk or to begin receiving delicious, glass-bottled milk delivered to your home, visit www.FarmtoHomeMilk.com
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
Knowing ourselves well involves understanding ourselves so we can be emotionally available in our relationships. It’s about knowing what triggers us to pull back, stonewall, and protect ourselves from the potential pain that was brought about by our circumstances. Being emotionally available to others allows us to establish honest and healthy relationships, even during conflict.
Today, I share what emotional availability is and the steps you can take to increase your emotional availability with others. I discuss why people are emotionally unavailable in relationships, how to deal with the challenges associated with it, and what you can do to make others feel comfortable with opening up and being emotionally available. I also share how my perspective of the male emotional world has changed since my childhood and how my family and I experienced a deeper level of connectedness, honesty, and love in spite of a family conflict.
“This is one way to transform the world - by being emotionally available.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why it’s difficult to be available to others and ourselves.
- How the movie Brian’s Songchanged my view of how men feel.
- The wrong notion men have about emotions.
- Effective and ineffective ways to engage men to be emotionally available.
- How men and women connect and bond differently on an interpersonal level.
- The role that parents play in their children’s understanding of emotional availability.
- What parents can do to teach their children emotional availability.
- How emotionally unavailable people deal with conflict.
- What it means to “speak your truth” and “find your truth while speaking.”
- How to “take care of your own cup” so you can be available to somebody else.
- Why most parents are not emotionally available to their kids.
- How parents unintentionally teach co-dependence to their children.
- How my father-in-law’s emotional unavailability affected my wife’s self-esteem and self-worth.
- Why living a life of constant guardedness is a picture of notliving a full life.
- The inner work you can do to be more available emotionally.
Resources Mentioned:
- Taking Responsibility In Your Relationship
- A Father-Son Conversation
- The Art of Listening
Sponsored by Farm to Home Milk
Farm to Home Milk is an Asheville-based distribution company of grass-fed, GMO-free milk. They serve many of Asheville’s local restaurants and coffee shops. The secret to their success is their focus on the personal relationships they have with their customers. Their motto: “Compassion is Possible” is proudly featured on the side of their delivery trucks and is a reminder of how they aim to be - in a relationship of sustenance.
To learn more about Farm to Home Milk or to begin receiving delicious, glass-bottled milk delivered to your home, visit www.FarmtoHomeMilk.com
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
Al Bailey is the owner of Breathe About Life, a healing center where people find inner healing through massage, breathwork, life coaching, and walking meditation. As a licensed massage and body therapist and healing practitioner, Al has been helping people for nearly three decades. Some of the healing techniques he learned in Beijing, China he also incorporates in his practices in North Carolina.
Al joins me today to share how the breath you take can improve your relationships. We discuss the importance of breathing and how taking deep breaths allows you to be more present, authentic, and grounded in your relationships. We discuss techniques you can use to decrease stress and anxiety. We also discuss how deep breathing exercises can help you overcome physical and emotional pain as well as help you see situations clearly and be less reactive in your response.
“Allowing the breath to flow when we’re experiencing something allows us to move through and just see the clarity.” - Al Bailey
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How relationships change when people focus on healthier breathing.
- How deep breathing can cause a person to respond instead of reacting.
- The chain reaction that happens when you choose to focus on your breathing while under tension.
- How to release yourself from the grip of an unpleasant memory.
- The accident that led him to study the importance of how we breathe.
- What it means to “return the mind back to the breath” and how to do it.
- Why you should take note of your most recent thoughts when you catch yourself holding your breath.
- The significance of nature’s rhythm in a person’s well-being.
- How to reset everything through your breathing.
- What to do when you’re caught up in self-talk.
- Why the voice changes in response to breathing.
- The three interconnected minds that help us understand ourselves.
- How breathwork helps with physical and emotional pain.
- The best time to practice healthy breathing.
- How to replace the old habits of shallow breathing.
Connect with Al Bailey:
- Breathe About Life Website
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
How do you feel when you constantly see your partner’s things on the floor, the dirty mess in the kitchen sink or the toothpaste pressed in the middle? The better question is - how much do you accept your partner? Accepting your partner, including their good traits and bad ones sounds simple. But, the truth is you do most of the inner work to achieve a certain level of acceptance.
Today, I discuss the things we need to accept in our partner and what it means to accept people. I explain how to shift your perspective and accept the other person for who they are. I also share the story of how I accepted my wife’s routine when we need to travel as well as how this acceptance impacted the way I see her, myself, and our circumstances.
“Acceptance is letting go of the struggle to want them to change.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The huge poison in relationships.
- The kind of energy that’s detrimental to bring into the relationship.
- How the relational differences pile up to the point of unbearable.
- How to accept the other person when shame starts to surface.
- How to reprogram yourself when in the process of accepting your partner.
- The wrong mindset about changing and accepting people with addiction.
- What to do when you feel like “fixing” your partner.
- The role that tolerance plays in the energy of acceptance.
Resources Mentioned:
- Do the Right Thing
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
My daughter-in-love, Emma Olyff, is in a relationship with my son, Zander. Currently living in the Netherlands, she is attending Maastricht University with Zander, where she is studying psychology. She is also the founder and jewelry designer at Emwa Jewelry, an artisan jewelry company she started from her passion for handmade jewelry.
Today, Emma joins me for a Q & A session about relationships. We discuss the role of guilt when apologizing to others and how to avoid getting pulled in by other people’s emotions to keep your own groundedness. We also discuss why couples should be both friends and lovers and how to make a habit of creating moments that will sustain your relationship.
“We need to have a vision - the vision of repair - because guilt makes us stay in paralyzation.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Two significant parts of an apology that make apologizing easier and more sincere
- Physical gestures you can do to deal with anxiety
- How to avoid allowing your guilt to overshadow the empathy you have for your partner
- How long you should wait before apologizing and handling the issue at hand
- How to capture the moment-by-moment connections in a long-term relationship
- The difference between constructive criticism and constructive feedback
- The ultimate purpose of giving constructive feedback
- Circumstances where you should learn to get comfortable with the uncomfortable
- Understanding and performing individual and collective responsibilities in a relationship when dealing with the effects of negative past experiences
- The best time to bring up and discuss unhealthy patterns in a relationship
- How to work with each other to learn each other’s triggers
- How to do the inner work of speaking to your heart and accepting vulnerability to avoid blaming others
- The significance of celebrating relational wins and improvements
- How to reinforce positive experiences to pursue more of them
Resources Mentioned:
- Falling in Love
- Micro Moments in Relationships
- Constructive Criticism?
Connect with Emma Olyff:
- Emwa Jewelry on Facebook
- Emma Olyff on Instagram
- Emma Olyff on Twitter
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is a brilliant artist, originally from Denmark, who creates art such as tapestries, paintings, and other eccentric pieces from diverse materials. She is the owner of Artsy Goddess Studio, an upcycled clothing business using high-quality second-hand clothing. She is also passionate about empowering women to express themselves through the workshops and gatherings she hosts in Black Mountain, North Carolina.
Yvonne joins me today to share how we take accountability and responsibility in our relationship and discuss how you can repair your relationships faster through self-soothing. We share a recent story about how we resolved a conflict regarding sexual intimacy and the power of accountability and apology when done correctly. We also discuss the different ways to shift your negativity and feelings of irritation into feelings of appreciation for your partner.
“We have to take responsibility here and play our part.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Working on our responses versus focusing on what we don’t like about the other person.
- When is it notthe right time to work things out?
- How to get a positive response from your partner during an argument.
- How to repair your disagreement well with your spouse.
- How Yvonne ‘shakes off’ my serious energy to find her own equilibrium.
- Questions to ask yourself to stay focused on your “side of the net.”
- An empowering strategy that allows parties to own their experience, emotions, and behavior.
- Ways to take care of yourself during a disagreement.
- How incompatibilities regarding your sexual relationship can be a cause of strife.
- How to intentionally create a positive default image of your partner to help address the challenging things that come up in your relationship.
- Habits to cultivate to inspire your partner to step up and be a better spouse.
- The ratio between the positive reactions for each negative comment.
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio Website
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
My son, Zander Teplitsky, is currently living in the Netherlands while attending college at Maastricht University. Zander and his girlfriend, Emma, recently came home to visit over summer break, and we’ve shared so many interesting conversations.
Zander joins me today for a father-son conversation about our relationship and how we cultivated our relationship through honesty, communication, and appreciation. We discuss how we continually inspire and motivate each other and why Zander inspired me to start a podcast. We discuss why it’s important for parents to cultivate a level of friendship with their children, the qualities Zander believes helps our relationship thrive, and how communication, honesty, and appreciation helps build trust and respect between parents and their children. We also discuss how allowing your children to make mistakes helps cultivate a sense of freedom while enabling them to learn and grow independently as well as how Zander developed his positive outlook on life and his perspective on the world.
“We try really hard every day to be as present with each other, and as loving, and as honest as we can.” - Zander Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Zander discovered podcasts and why he inspired me to start podcasting.
- The qualities of our relationship that Zander believes helps it thrive.
- Why I believe parents can - and should - cultivate a friendship with their children.
- How communication and honesty help develop trust in your relationship with your children.
- How building a foundation of appreciation with your children impacts their willingness to respect your boundaries.
- Why Zander proactively tries to let go of negative or judgmental thoughts of himself or others.
- The importance of cultivating appreciation early in your relationship with your children.
- How allowing your children to make mistakes cultivates a sense of freedom.
- How Zander developed his positive perspective on the world and its future.
- How attending the International People’s College impacted his perspective on the world.
- How our family helps each other reframe our thoughts and emotions.
- The recent family conflict we had and how we worked through it.
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
Josh Kugler is the Director of Software Engineering at American Pinball and has extensive experience in the technology sector. He has worked with Fortune 50 companies as well as highly successful startups. He is a passionate executive who helps build startups while leading and sharing his knowledge and experience in sales, service, and cutting-edge technology. Josh also has an excellent eye for identifying opportunities - whether internally or externally - through creativity, innovation, and problem-solving.
Josh joins me today to discuss taking a leap of passion in your career. He discusses the difference between doing something you love versus something you dislike. We share stories of how we changed our career paths in pursuit of our personal passions. We also discuss the pros and cons of balancing your passion and pursuing your career.
“Sometimes, doing what our parents want us to do can be a good thing, but more often than not, it’s probably not. You have to choose your own path.” - Josh Kugler
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why Josh made the shift from working for a Fortune 50 Company to helping different startups.
- How he got inspired to playball Pinball.
- When I pursued my passion, I received support from Josh and my sister.
- How his decisions impacted his life and the lives of others.
- How his father’s ethics and values influenced his lifestyle.
- What made it easier for him to pursue a more passionate job.
- What allowed him to take the financial risk to pursue his passion.
- How he and his wife raised their daughter to prepare her for the path of her life.
- How a parent's voice and opinion influence the possible outcome and direction of their child’s future.
- Different ways children respond to their parent’s death that affect the trajectory of their lives.
- Why it’s more difficult to pursue a career passion than career security.
- How doing something you love affects you emotionally and relationally.
- The role that close relationships play in your success for doing something you love.
- How to make a shift in your professional and personal life.
- How to balance your passion and your job.
Connect with Josh Kugler:
- Josh Kugler on LinkedIn
Sponsored by Gyro Creative
Transform your brand identity with Gyro Creative. Gyro Creative is a Detroit-based identity studio helping businesses, brands, and groups express their values through strategic brand development and design. Incite action, build culture, unite your community, and inspire change with your brand and brand message.
For more information or to start your brand identity transformation journey, visit www.GyroCreative.com
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!
Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk
Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com
Many people struggle to set strong boundaries in their relationships with friends, family, and partners. Setting boundaries can sometimes make you feel guilty for wanting to protect something you value, such as your time, energy, or emotions. You may feel hesitant about setting boundaries with someone you love because you feel it may unintentionally hurt their feelings, but often, the inability to assert your boundaries can leave you feeling used and unappreciated.
Today, I discuss the difference between healthy and unhealthy guilt. I explain how people-pleasing plays a significant role in our ability to set and keep our boundaries. I share stories of my past where I dealt with feelings of guilt for setting boundaries. I also share how to change perspectives about taking on guilt, including some examples of how to speak to it.
“We don’t need to feel responsible for somebody else’s emotions or how they receive our boundaries.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How feeling guilty can be a positive emotion.
- How unhealthy guilt develops in us.
- How people-pleasers feel about setting boundaries.
- Why women have more tendency to feel guilty when they take care of their needs.
- An unconscious manipulation many families do to get what they want.
- How others usually respond to clearly stated boundaries.
- How to set boundaries when asking others for advice.
- How I dealt with my mother’s disapproval in homeschooling my child.
- How to train people with your boundaries.
- How I put up boundaries with my wife about her calling me at work regarding stressful, non-urgent domestic matters.
- Why you don’t need to explain and justify your “No’s.”
- The need to learn how to soothe yourself and the benefits of doing so.
- The significant transformation that happened when I traveled the world at 29 and got engaged to a single mother.
- What happens to you when you put others needs and feelings before your own.
- Reasons why boundaries may not work.
- What it takes to learn self-assertiveness and the factors that contribute to the lack of it.
- What to do when people are blaming, name-calling, or stonewalling.
Resources Mentioned:
- Setting Boundaries in Relationships
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Trust is an incredibly powerful, foundational part of healthy relationships. It is something that must be earned, built, and maintained to build healthy and close relationships. Broken trust is often the underlying cause for many marriages and relationships to come to an end. Once trust has been broken - it can be very difficult to rebuild.
So how do you show your partner how much you trust them? How do you maintain and continue to build trust in your relationships? How do you repair your relationship after trust has been broken?
Today, I share different ways of showing trust to build healthier relationships. I share how fidelity and trust are manifested and explain the difference between privacy and secrecy. I also share personal stories that show how trust is broken - and earned - among friends and family and how to open yourself up to trusting others while still keeping your personal boundaries.
“Trust is one of the most crucial building blocks of becoming emotionally intimate and deeply close with someone. It’s a must for any healthy and close relationship.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Different forms of trust that overlap in relationships.
- How my son and I built trust between us.
- Building trust by showing appreciation of others.
- Showing consideration towards others to build trust.
- How failing to follow through on what you say you will do can impact the trust you’ve built in your relationships.
- The concept of relaxing into trust in your relationships.
- An example of not having good boundaries within the family.
- Building trust by caring for other people’s material possessions.
- Why you need to trust yourself and how to do it.
- How to break a dysfunctional communication pattern to build trust.
- The difference between ‘trust’ as a verb and a noun.
- What it means to be trusting and what to do to step up and build that trust.
- The health effects of having supportive friendships built on trust.
Resources Mentioned:
- Dealing With Grudges
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Counseling and connecting with people for over 30 years, Connie Burns is a body-centered psychotherapist who specializes in body and trauma therapies. She has a passion for teaching people how to reconnect with their relationships - relationships with their own bodies, other people, and the natural world. Connie was urged to act on her strong convictions about the current division and conflict happening in western culture as well as the imminent threat of climate change.
Connie joins me today to share the different ways that we are connected to the natural world and how this crucial connection affects us. We dive deep into how our culture has lost that meaningful sense of connection to who we are, how society is disconnected from the natural world, and the challenges it poses on our relationships with others. We also discuss the incredible benefits of being connected to ourselves, to others, and to the natural world as well as how it can take our relationships to a deeper and more authentic level.
“The sacred sons of omnipresent love - we don’t have access to that when we don’t have access to our bodies, and that’s tragic.” - Connie Burns
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How people are disconnected from their bodies.
- Why anger is the emotion that women are most disconnected from.
- Why getting cut off from anger is detrimental.
- What makes people more vulnerable to predation.
- The connection between being disconnected from our bodies and the rampant abuse in women and children.
- How being disconnected from our bodies encourages genocidal thoughts and behaviors in our culture
- How today’s western culture conditions people toward happiness, but not joy, satisfaction, or connection.
- How to access your body in a healthy way.
- Leveraging the awe and calm that nature brings to help resolve and repair marital conflicts.
- The connection between nature and human beings.
- How to be more accepting of who you are by observing the relationships of the natural world.
- The value of diversity and how to cultivate it.
- How retreats and body massages allow you to reconnect with your body and with others.
- The difference between pleasurable sex and divine sexual intimacy.
Resources Mentioned:
- Understanding Racism: Relationships are at the Heart of This Work
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Steve Torma is the former President of Earthaven Ecovillage, a former core faculty member of the Asheville Tantra School, and the co-founder of The REAL Center. The REAL Center is an organization based in Asheville, NC that is dedicated to inspiring communication, compassion, and intimacy to help others lead satisfied and more meaningful lives. Steve is trained in a variety of fields including Radical Honesty, Permaculture, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and Restorative Circling. For over 30 years, he has helped others find direction, meaning, and healing in their lives and relationships by mastering the art of communication and compassion.
Steve joins me today to discuss the mourning process of the Non-Violent Communication model. We discuss how to connect with the unmet needs and feelings that occur when our behaviors, actions, and words have been less than perfect. We discuss how to use feelings of regret to learn from our mistakes without encouraging self-blame or shame. We also discuss the importance of self-forgiveness through the mourning process, how to identify when your needs are unmet, and how to address these unmet needs in a safe and healthy way.
“When we can let go of the judgments of ourselves, then our heart can open a little bit more to our partners.” - Steve Torma
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What Non-Violent Communication is and how it applies to repairing your relationship after a conflict.
- The mourning process associated with the NVC model.
- Identifying unmet needs during a relationship conflict.
- The importance of being empathetic toward yourself and how it impacts your ability to be empathetic toward your partner.
- How the ‘fight or flight mode’ impacts your ability to think clearly and feel empathetic during a conflict.
- Why empathy is the first step in rebuilding trust in your relationship after a conflict.
- The impact that blame, shame, and judgment statements have when trying to repair your relationship.
- The difference between blaming yourself for your partner’s actions, words, and behaviors versus identifying how you contribute to their reaction.
- Looking beyond your partner’s actions, behaviors, and words to identify their unmet needs.
- How to use the mourning process to uncover deep-rooted unmet needs within yourself and how it enables you to be more empathetic toward others.
- How self-compassion can lead to greater compassion in your relationships.
- The ‘Post-hersal Concept’ of NVC and how it helps you discover healthier ways to deal with conflict.
- Finding new, creative ways to address conflicts with your partner.
- The difference between conflict resolution, conflict transformation, and conflict repair.
- How the NVC model views the concept of forgiveness and it’s impact on repairing your relationship.
Resources Mentioned:
- Non-Violent Communication
- Non-Violent Communication II: And How to Overcome Negativity Bias
- Relationship Repair - NVC Style
- NVC Feelings & Needs List
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Are you guilty of holding grudges? Let’s face it - holding grudges is a common practice for most of us, but it can be detrimental to your relationships as well as your health. Over time, grudges can easily transform into anger, resentment, high stress levels, and even depression. This resentment is often what causes many relationships to end.
So how do we deal with and move past the grudges we may have against others to begin the process of healing and moving forward?
On today’s episode, I discuss how holding a grudge can impact your relationships. I share my personal experiences of dealing with grudges and how holding grudges can impact the people around you. I explain the physiological process involved in holding onto anger and resentment and how holding onto long-term grudges can impact your health. I also share the common personality characteristics of people who frequently hold grudges and share strategies you can use to help yourself and your partner move past grudges for a healthier relationship.
“Resentment is actually the feeling of the act of holding a grudge.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The impact that holding grudges can have on your relationships.
- My experiences of growing up with a family that held grudges.
- How modeling grudges in your family and intimate relationships can affect children and their ability to deal with conflict.
- The importance of teaching and modeling remorse and good conflict resolution strategies.
- The physiological process involved in feeling resentful.
- How holding grudges affects your health.
- Common personality traits and characteristics of people who frequently hold grudges.
- Why grudges often lead to feelings of anger and higher levels of stress.
- How holding a grudge affects more than just you and the person who has wronged you.
- The story of my father holding a grudge against my mother and stepfather and how it made me feel.
- The importance of developing communication and conflict resolution skills to help you work through and let go of grudges and resentment.
- How apologizing and showing remorse can help grudge holders move forward and heal to improve their relationship.
- How negative past experiences can sometimes lead to transferred feelings and emotions that are causing a grudge.
- Identifying when to give your partner space, how much space they need, and when to let go of the relationship.
- How forgiveness helps grudge holders let go and move forward.
- How to begin the forgiveness process.
Resources Mentioned:
- Holding a Grudge Is Bad For You, And Here Are The Ways It Can Actually Weigh You Down and Affect Your Health by Emma Cueto
- The Unburdening Effects of Forgiveness: Effects on Slant Perception and Jumping Height - Study by Erasmus University, published in Social Psychological and Personality Science
- The Art of Listening
- Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
- The Art of Apology
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Cathy Courtenay is a leader in the Art of Circling and a dating consultant for men. Through her experience with somatic bodywork, dance, and Body Mind Centering, she helps her clients cultivate authenticity, sovereignty, and intimacy in their relationships. She believes they are the key to achieving greater compassion and love in our relationships with others while uplifting humanity and living a fulfilling life.
Cathy joins me today to share her experience of falling in love with her partner and the importance of meeting your partner's needs for connection and intimacy during this stage of your relationship. We discuss what it means to fall in love and the biochemical and emotional events that occur during this stage of an intimate relationship. We discuss the balancing act of setting relational boundaries while surrendering yourself to a loving relationship. We also discuss what causes people to fall out of love and how to sustain the emotional feelings of intimacy and appreciation in your relationships to avoid falling out of love with your partner.
“If you feed the relationship and continue to give it that focused attention, it really continues to support the sense of ‘we.’” - Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What it means to fall in love.
- The emotional and biochemical events that naturally occur when we fall in love.
- The balancing act between surrendering to love and setting healthy boundaries.
- How meeting your partner's needs for connection and intimacy helps you build a trusting and loving relationship.
- Why sovereignty is crucial for a healthy relationship.
- The process of vetting your relationships and introducing your partner to your family and close friends.
- Her experience with introducing her partner to her daughters.
- Why it’s important for parents to model healthy, loving relationships around their children and how it impacts their future relationships.
- Why men are often resistant or fearful of falling in love.
- How to sustain the feelings and emotions of falling in love - even in a long-lasting relationship.
- The importance of feeding your relationship with focused attention.
- How to capture micro-moments of intimacy and why they are critical for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship.
- The importance of encouraging and maintaining a sense of independence in a committed relationship.
- How falling in love with our partners has sparked a renewed sense of creativity in other areas of our lives.
- The importance of setting boundaries early in your relationship and how it helps establish trust and respect.
- Why she told her partner she was not interested in allowing him to move in with her, how he reacted, and how it strengthened their relationship.
- How taking risks and speaking your truth helps couples get to know each other on a deeper level.
Resources Mentioned:
- Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
- Your Brain on Love audiobook by Stan Tatkin
- Micro Moments in Relationships
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Corey Costanzo is a Somatic Therapist, a Licensed Addiction Counselor, and a Licensed Massage and Body Work Therapist. He is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage spa in Asheville, NC. He earned his Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Vermont and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on somatic/body psychology from Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.
Corey joins me today to discuss the aspect of integrity and doing the right thing when faced with difficult decisions. We discuss the difference between following what our bodies and hearts tell us to do versus following our thoughts. We explain how practicing mindfulness and self-inquiry can help you determine whether you’re making the right decisions based on your values and integrity and how these practices can help you be more in-tune with your spouse, partner, or others in your relationships. We also discuss how our past experiences shape the way we make decisions and influence our decisions on doing the right thing.
“When the right thing is done, it can turn into some of the most profound growth experiences in life.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How volunteering at a men’s detention center has impacted Corey’s perspective on doing the right thing.
- How Corey knows when he has made a good decision that is in alignment with his values.
- How to use your body as a checks-and-balances resource to guide your decisions.
- How mindfulness, self-inquiry, and breathing practices help you make better decisions that are in alignment with your core values and integrity.
- Making good relational decisions versus simply compromising.
- How to balance understanding your partner’s reality and sharing your own perspective without being judgmental.
- Corey’s recent experience of planning his sister’s surprise birthday party and how he realized he was making decisions based on his preferences instead of what his sister would want.
- The importance of being disciplined to think beyond yourself when making decisions that will impact others.
- Rewarding children for showing empathy and claiming ownership of their mistakes.
- What it means for parents to set ‘hard-core boundaries’ for their children and why Corey believes there is a more effective way to teach children to do the right thing.
- How your unique experiences, personality, and character structure influences your decision-making skills.
- An effective strategy for rebuilding trust that has been broken in a relationship.
- How to identify if your behavior and actions are in alignment with the relational agreements you’ve made.
- How learning from your previous mistakes and poor decisions helps you make better decisions in the future.
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What does the word ‘commitment’ mean to you? When you think about it or hear the word ‘commitment,’ is your initial thought that you’re either committed to something or someone - or you’re not? Is the concept of commitment truly that black and white, with no room for color or gray?
To many couples, the word ‘commitment’ is a black and white concept, but what many don’t realize is that the word can mean different things to different people.
On today’s episode, I share my thoughts on the word ‘commitment’ and why it can take on different meanings for different people. I explain the difference between being committed to an outcome versus being committed to the process of achieving the desired outcome. I discuss why couples need to understand the true depth of being in a committed relationship and how to recognize whether you’re fully committed to your partner. I also explain the difference between conscious commitments and unconscious commitments, how your unconscious commitments impact your relationships, and how to create new commitments based on how you envision yourself, your relationship, and the process it will take to achieve what you envision.
“Commitment is actually a practice - a moment to moment practice. It’s an active state, not a passive one.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What I believe ‘commitment’ truly means.
- Why being in a committed relationship means different things to different people.
- The difference between being committed to an outcome versus being committed to the process of achieving the outcome in your relationships.
- The process commitments I make in my marriage and relationships.
- The impact that being committed to outcomes can have on your relationship.
- The importance of making process commitments to yourself first and how it can carry over into your relationships.
- How to recognize whether you’re fully committed to your partner.
- The difference between conscious commitments and unconscious commitments and how they impact your relationships.
- Strategies to create new process commitments to improve your relationship.
- How the way you envision yourself and your relationship impacts your reality.
- The importance of spending quality time with your partner - and why sometimes love simply isn’t enough.
- Identifying what you want to be committed to instead of what you are getting and don’t like.
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Breah Livolsi Parker is a graphic facilitator, authenticity coach, and TEDx speaker who lives by the mantra, “Be who you are… it is so much more than enough.”She is the creator of What’s Right With Me - an audio workbook that is the foundation of her individual coaching sessions and workshops. She is passionate about empowering those around her to fulfill their deepest desires, rediscover their dreams, and unlock their individual uniqueness and innate gifts to truly make a difference in the world.
Breah joins me today to discuss why I consider fatherhood as my kind of yoga. We discuss my relationship with my son and my philosophy on freedom, control, and trusting your child’s life path - as well as your path as a parent. We discuss why children often feel uneasy sharing various experiences and discussions with their parents and how I created an environment where my son feels secure about discussing any subject with me. We discuss how mothers can encourage their spouse to establish a relationship with their children and the impact that a father’s influence can have on their children. Breah also shares how becoming a grandmother has allowed her to try different parenting techniques that she wishes she used while raising her children.
“Trust in your child’s life path - and trust in your path as a parent.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How my childhood upbringing and relationship with my father influenced the way I raised my son and the relationship we have.
- The importance of parents instilling confidence and trust in their children - and trusting in their life’s path.
- Why many parents turn to “controlled parenting” techniques and the impact of worrying over uncontrollable situations.
- Why children may feel the need to avoid telling their parents about certain experiences or decisions they make.
- Understanding and accepting that children learn their boundaries and integrity through experimentation and life experiences.
- How I set firm boundaries with my son in a loving manner, without yelling or getting angry.
- Developing trust and confidence in your child’s ability to make good decisions.
- Why I would tell my son to “stay focused” instead of “be careful” in certain situations.
- A positive way to address your child’s mistakes and poor decisions.
- How establishing a connection and closeness with your children will help create a safe and trusting environment that leads them to feel comfortable with opening up to you.
- How my wife encouraged my relationship with my son.
- Why I chose to live with my father during my childhood.
- How my father’s parenting style differed from my mother’s.
- Why many parents feel that “letting go” is one of the most difficult aspects of parenthood.
- The impact of raising children in a non-stressful environment.
- How men modeling positive and healthy interactions with their spouse teaches their children how to treat others.
- Approaching parenthood from a place of love and understanding instead of discipline and trying to “fix a problem.”
- Why it’s important for fathers to express - and own - their emotions around their children.
- The difference between telling your children you love them and being loving toward them.
- How becoming a grandmother allowed Breah to try different parenting techniques that she wishes she used with her children.
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Vijay Director has provided coaching and consultation services for over 25 years and across a broad spectrum of specialized areas. From relationships and intimacy to sports performance, meditation, and business, he has had extensive experience in supporting men in need of guidance and emotional reassurance. An entrepreneur in the fields of natural living, therapy, as well as arts, health, and spirituality, Vijay also runs a non-denomination, non-profit learning center and has led support groups for men for three decades. Additionally, he is currently on the cusp of completing his first book.
Vijay joins me today to discuss the need for women to understand men’s shame and feeling of inadequacy. We discuss the need for affirmative acknowledgment and appreciation as well as non-sexual physical contact as affirmation of love and support. We share our thoughts on the challenges that men face, particularly with regard to anger and healthy masculinity. We also discuss men’s need for softness in complaints, as opposed to harsh criticism.
“Men are looking to be in relationships and be in spaces where they can avoid shame or have that shame healed in some ways.” - Vijay Director
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Vijay’s perspective on the most important thing that men are looking for in their relationships.
- The varying physical needs of men, especially in different age groups.
- The “touch-starved” and “touch-phobic” culture of men and how touch is misinterpreted and underestimated as a result.
- The complexities, pre-requisites, and challenges involved in sexual intimacy.
- The comedic notion of men as “bears with furniture,” and the grain of truth behind it.
- The nine ways anger comes out sideways and the physical ways it manifests in men.
- The societal pressure that leads men to express sadness as anger.
- How men can gently invite women to be with their sadness.
- The reality behind men’s feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.
- Balancing the roles of men and women in society and what men and women are asking from each other in modern-day relationships.
- The definition of “owning the masculine,” and how men’s need for direct answers can lead to complications.
- Resistance as a kneejerk response to change and why it takes time for men to determine how they really feel about it.
- How a sudden surge of long-distance heartbreak led Vijay to an unexpected realization and ecstasy.
- Insights on what happens to men whose needs grow with their relationships.
Resources Mentioned:
- Courting a Woman’s Soul by John Lee
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Research shows that on average, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day. Ever wonder how many of those thoughts help us - and how many actually destroy us? Our inner critic serves the important purpose of being our protector, but what happens when we listen to it too much and allow it to take control of us?
And more importantly, how do we break out of that mindset when that happens?
Today, I share my thoughts on how to transform your inner critic and the way you think about it. I discuss our conscious and subconscious thoughts, and how our inner critic becomes deeply ingrained in us over the years. I share how our inner critic prevents us and our partners from seeing and appreciating our best selves, discuss the impact of our inner critic on our behavior and emotions, and explain how we can develop a belief system that counteracts that. I also share my own experiences with my inner critic and some exercises you can use to help you get over yours.
“Our inner critics are terrified that we’re going to be hurt - and it wants to protect us.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The primary function of our inner critic.
- How our inner critic is shaped from childhood and how it is deeply ingrained in us as adults.
- The danger of relying on your partner constantly to compensate for your inner critic.
- How our inner critic sabotages us by convincing us that we’re not worthy of love.
- Having our inner critic work for us by giving it “another job description.”
- How a massage experience reflected my own struggle with my inner critic.
- A simple exercise that involves writing to your inner critic with your non-dominant hand.
- How to develop a belief system that outweighs your inner critic.
- The inner critic manifesting through comparison, especially in sports.
- The world as a giant puzzle and embracing the fact that we are pieces of it.
- The various obstacles with my own self-esteem and how I handled these obstacles.
- The most challenging exercise a human being can do.
- How accepting our own flawed areas can help us accept and appreciate others as well.
- The negative ways our inner critic manifests through our personality and how it buffers us from our own feelings.
- An exercise involving asking ourselves where and how we can bring kindness and compassion to both ourselves and to our partners.
- The right way to approach making - and learning from - mistakes.
- Positive efficacy and going through memories of experiences that you’ve moved through challenges.
- Why the inner critic should not be calling the shots - and who should be doing that, instead.
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Whenever people talk about intimacy, their minds tend to drift automatically towards the sexual kind. However, there is so much more to intimacy than just the physical aspects — and the fact that so many people seem unaware of it means that now more than ever, it’s important to talk about it. After all, it is only through openness and being willing to listen that we achieve true intimacy, whether it’s with our acquaintances, our friends, our family, our significant others, and even ourselves. And so, before learning about how to handle and facilitate intimacy within our relationships, we must first understand what it is and what it requires.
Today, I share my thoughts on intimacy, focusing specifically on the need to be open and ready to listen with empathy in order to make it possible. I discuss the importance of being intimate with yourself, and how that opens the gateway to being intimate with the people you value most in your life. I share my personal experiences and stories regarding various kinds of intimacy over the years such as with clients, a colleague I hadn’t spoken to for a while, my family, and even with my pet. I also share the crucial aspects of intimacy and listening with empathy, and why intimacy requires a certain level of courageousness before it can happen.
“That is what fuels intimacy: An open heart of compassion, of empathy, of being moved by the world and by each other.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Intimacy with others and with yourself.
- The importance of being genuine before you can be intimate with yourself.
- My recent interesting encounter with an old corporate colleague.
- The people I meet during the course of my professional career, and how intimacy plays a role in those encounters.
- Creating intimacy with your family, and its role in helping you be at peace.
- The difference between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy.
- How intimacy leads to our liberation.
- My experience at a memorable and unique workshop experience with my cousin.
- Taking risks to be intimate with others.
- Embracing self-compassion and self-appreciation.
- How my emotional bond with my father was forged through physical intimacy from a very young age and how it established the foundation for my perspective on intimacy today.
- Our tendency to be passive listeners to our partners and how it becomes a barrier to intimacy.
- The two crucial ingredients of listening with empathy.
- Intimacy with animals and the feeling of connecting with another species.
- The impact of being open to having an open heart and being vulnerable and present with your partner.
- How the poem, The Invitation, helps couples who are unsure about the level of intimacy they desire.
Resources Mentioned:
- Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shutdown World - Michael J. Russer’s TEDx Talk
- The Invitation - poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Let’s Talk About It!
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Cathy Courtenay is a dating consultant for men. She uses her learnings from the art of circling to provide personal and spiritual guidance to men who want coaching in the dating and relationship world. Her experience with somatic bodywork and dance, combined with her expertise in marketing and parenting, have provided her with a unique set of skills that allow her to process human emotions and experiences, transforming them into valuable lessons for her clients.
Cathy joins me today to discuss vulnerability, presence, authenticity, self-awareness, and other aspects of dating that can help men better understand what women truly want. We discuss her philosophy and approach when it comes to dating and relationships and how our separate professions allow us to gain deeper insight into other people and learn to “fall in love” with their truths. We also share our insights on self-validation, the emotional barriers that prevent men from having meaningful relationships, and the biggest missteps men commit in pursuing and understanding women.
“In terms of masculine and feminine and our roles, we’re in a different paradigm than we were even 10, 15, 20 years ago.” - Cathy Courtenay
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Cathy began her practice as a dating consultant for men.
- The meaning of the practice of circling and what it entails.
- Why getting to know somebody beyond the surface is a gift.
- How Cathy’s experiences with men inspired her to follow this track.
- The process she follows in dating consultation.
- The common mistakes men make in dating.
- The concept of men having to “lead” in dating.
- Attuning to someone’s frequency, and how it provides a sense of safety.
- How attraction figures into her line of work and how she deals with the possibility of her clients getting attracted to her because of the attention she gives.
- How she brings a lot of herself into her work to be able to help her clients.
- Her experiences growing up in South Africa in the thick of apartheid — and how that shaped her desire to put her energy into fighting injustice and teaching people how to be more open to love.
- Self-validation and why people are scared to open themselves up and reveal what’s inside.
- How I teach my clients to deal with anger and shame through self-compassion.
- The emotional barriers and shortcomings deeply ingrained in men that prevent them from having successful and meaningful relationships with women.
- The importance of giving space for vulnerability and dealing with pain and suffering without trying to “fix” or change a person.
Connect with Cathy Courtenay:
- Cathy Courtenay website
Let’s Talk About It!
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Joe Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist, coach, and author who established his practice in 1985, he is a certified IMAGO Relationship Therapist and a licensed clinical social worker in the state of Michigan. He holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology and specializes in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy. He is also the founder and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health where he helps in improving the communication and relationship skills of heterosexual and LGBTQ individuals and couples through therapy and discussions.
Joe joins me today to discuss the topic of porn in relationships. We share our insights on how, within the context of a couple’s relationship, it’s not the porn that’s problematic but the couple’s outlook on it. We discuss erotic identity, how gay couples tend to be more open about sexual issues, and why all couples should be just as willing to discuss these issues. We also discuss the right time parents should start talking to their children about sex, as well as the various myths, half-truths, and pseudoscience that has become rampant because of society’s refusal to discuss porn and sexuality.
“Sexuality and eroticism evolve, for men and for women. What turns you on today might expand to something different over time as you get older.” - Joe Kort
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How the words we use to describe sexuality and genitalia highlight our unconscious or underlying feelings about sexuality.
- How we can affirm sexuality in men’s culture.
- Why couples should be the ones to navigate their own ethical perceptions of porn instead of their psychotherapist.
- The significant difference between how gay couples view porn versus how heterosexual relationships handle the subject.
- The issue of infidelity in relationships.
- How people correlate “sex addiction” and porn - and why sex addiction and porn addiction are unscientific myths.
- The right approach to resolving porn-related conflicts in relationships.
- The double standard in the way society views porn and erotic orientation.
- The need for couples to have sexual health conversations, no matter how difficult they may be.
- Why parents need to talk to their children about sex and porn.
- What “ethical porn” is and the myths around “porn-induced erectile dysfunction.”
- How different countries and cultures have varying perspectives on conversations about sex.
- What is sexual fluidity and why we need to have more conversations about it.
- The evolution of sexuality and eroticism over time.
- Scientific facts on how your brain responds to porn.
Resources Mentioned:
- Erotic Empathy by Amanda Luterman (coming soon)
- Emotional Infidelity: Is It Really Cheating?
- Real Your Brain on Porn
Connect with Joe Kort:
- Joe Kort and Associates
Let’s Talk About It!
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Gregg Levoy is a frequent seminar leader who holds workshops in the faith-based, human-potential, educational, governmental, and business industries. He is a Passionate Living Expert who has penned bestselling books such as Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life which has been named as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by the Workforce Information Group. He regularly shares his insights and expertise as a frequent contributor to Psychology Today.
Gregg joins me today to discuss his personal experiences in getting his heart broken and how he found an avenue to heal himself through writing. We share our thoughts on failed relationships, the different aspects of heartbreak, and how we should remember that we’re not alone in feeling this kind of pain. We also discuss the various ways of moving on, how to face the pain instead of denying it, and how to keep in mind that there’s always hope at the end.
“Our heartbreaks are part of our history. Don’t try to dispose of it like you’d throw away a busted pot. The repair is part of the preciousness of it.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Heartbreak as the resume of rejected love.
- How Gregg started a long-distance relationship and fell in love only for it to end eight weeks after moving to the same city she lives.
- The stages he went through in the process of getting over the failed relationship.
- The difficulty - and necessity - in abruptly ending communication with the other person in the failed relationship.
- My own experience of waiting into the late hours of the night, over the span of months, for a call that never happened.
- How watching movies and TV programs that speak to the pain of heartbreak can be a cathartic release.
- The “altered state” we find ourselves in during periods of loss or heartbreak.
- How I found myself dealing with joy and loss at the same time when I received news of my friend’s death on my wife’s birthday.
- How writing helps through extended spells of heartbreak-induced sadness.
- My own stories involving baseball, studying Japanese, and how a chance encounter gave me a new direction in life.
- Helpful insights from a book on making sense of life changes.
- Gregg’s interesting chance encounter with his ex at a coffee shop… while he was on a date with someone new.
- The Japanese art of Kintsugi, and how it relates to heartbreak.
- How Gregg said no to the chance of reconnecting with his ex, and the thought process behind it.
- Our parting thoughts on grieving a failed relationship and letting go.
Resources Mentioned:
- Transitions by William Bridges
- Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
- Vital Signs
Let’s Talk About It!
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Connie Burns has been a counselor for three decades, specializing in therapies focusing on trauma and the body. Residing in the Blue Ridge Mountains, she is extremely passionate about issues on racism and environment conservation. A combination of the current ideological disconnect in Western society and the ever-looming threat of climate change spurred her into action, as she now takes a more active role in leading discussions on shattering existing racist norms in American society.
Connie joins me today to discuss the inherent racism in Western culture, particularly in terms of white supremacy. We share our individual experiences with racism growing up and share our personal perspectives. We discuss how we process our thoughts and emotions revolving around racism, as well as the need for openness in order to successfully break down the socially erected barriers of skin color. We also discuss the importance of taking a stand in the face of racist practices and cultural inequality.
“It makes a difference when there are more people speaking up and saying, ‘Yeah, this isn’t right.’” - Connie Burns
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Connie realized the need to become more politically involved around the time of the 2016 elections.
- How her activism is rooted in her affiliation with Indivisible and how the progressive platform encouraged her to form a small activist group of her own.
- The reality behind racism and why now, more than ever, the white race should start opening up about racial issues.
- The impact of racism on medical research and how white men being the “prototype” is actually a destructive pattern.
- The inherent problem in resorting to sniping at one another instead of trying to understand the other’s position when it comes to discussions on ‘woke ideologies.’
- How Connie used her grief about the world’s various issues to stay open and take an active role in resolving said issues.
- How — and more importantly, why — white people must work on their resiliency towards being called out, opting to be curious instead of getting defensive when the other party gets offended.
- How Connie’s experiences while growing up in an integrated neighborhood in Indianapolis and being bullied helped shape her understanding of racism.
- How my experience with “reverse discrimination” and being able to travel around the world has made me more comfortable with other races and aware of the inherent racism in all of us.
- The reality that race doesn’t actually exist beyond being a social construct, and how it was only created to maintain the status quo.
- A secondhand account on how white people can and should stand up for the discriminated when racism happens right in front of them — and how that inspired me to do the same thing years later.
Resources Mentioned:
- Speak Up: Responding to Everyday Bigotry (via Southern Poverty Law Center)
- Indivisible
- Building Bridges Coalition
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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There is so much negativity and criticism rampant in the world today that sometimes, the idea of self-compassion feels like nothing more than a distant memory. Even though numerous studies have shown the connection between self-compassion and healthier interpersonal relationships, the notion of being less self-critical somehow proves to be challenging to uphold. With suffering as part and parcel of the human condition, how can we appreciate and develop our own capacity for self-compassion? More importantly, what does it mean to be self-compassionate in the first place?
Today, I discuss the meaning of compassion and how compassion for others differs from self-compassion. I discuss the necessary elements to develop compassion for others and the strength necessary to fight your own inner critic. I share how cultivating self-compassion can help your relationships by making you less reliant on your partner, how self-compassion can help us become better parents, and how our children could benefit from the examples we set. I share my experience of building my precious daughter’s casket and how it enlightened me on the true connection between humanity and self-compassion. I also share the conscious efforts I make to be self-compassionate as well as the tools and techniques I use to accomplish this goal.
“Compassion is the first step to relieve suffering.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Understanding what compassion is, with respect to what we feel towards others.
- The relationship between compassion and the Buddist’s philosophy of human condition.
- The importance of recognizing that suffering exists.
- How cultivating compassion for yourself can help you have more compassion for others.
- The problem with depending on others to take away our suffering.
- The judgmental voice that exists in all of us and how positive self-talk does wonders for your self-compassion.
- My experience with negative self-talk and how I transform my mindset to be more positive and self-compassionate.
- How I use humor as a tool to nurture self-compassion.
- Using the Hawaiian forgiveness mantra to forgive yourself for mistakes.
- The importance of practicing and developing a habit of self-compassion.
- A fascinating study on the impact of self-compassion in relationships.
- The three main components of self-compassion.
- The significance of being kind to yourself.
- Why parents should give more slack to children and how it’s different from going easy on them.
- Strategies I use to practice self-compassion after making a mistake.
- The story of when I built a casket for my infant daughter, River, and how the experience helped me understand the connection between self-compassion and humanity.
- How being compassionate to yourself can help inspire your partner to take care of themselves as well.
- Why it’s important to bring down self-criticism with self-compassion.
Resources Mentioned:
- Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
- The Secret to Love is Just Kindness
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Bill Morean is the former CEO and Chairman of a Fortune 200 company and a good friend of mine. After studying aviation from Western Michigan University, he briefly worked as a bush pilot in Alaska. In 1978 at the age of 22, after buying a majority stake in his father’s company, Jabil, Bill became the CEO. Over 35 years under his leadership, the company grew from 90 employees at one facility with annualrevenue of $700,000 to a $17-billion organization with 100,000 employees at 60 facilities in 19 countries.
Bill joins me today to share stories of how he built a company culture rooted in trust and appreciation. We discuss his unique and personable leadership style and explain how the impact of trusting your employees creates a distinct company culture. We share several stories, some of which describes employees making mistakes - myself included - and discuss his perspective on handling those situations. We also discusshow he handled difficult decisions as the company leader such as letting go of employees that are long-term friends and addressing inter-organizational romantic relationships as well as his perspective on leaders ‘being lonely at the top.’
“Don’t try to be the ‘rigid guy at the chalkboard’ leader that you think you should be. Go be you.” - Bill Morean
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Reminiscing on old times and my experience while working at Jabil.
- How Bill led the company as a ‘servant leader.’
- Why he admired my decision to leave the company to pave my own path and career goals instead of resenting it.
- How his leadership style enabled us to build a deeper friendship after I left the company.
- The impact of deferring responsibilities onto others in your organization instead of facing challenges you, as the leader, should handle yourself.
- How he approached the challenge of letting go of three employees that were his high school friends.
- Why he felt joyful about ‘passing the baton’ when he retired.
- Why character strength is crucial for leading a successful company.
- The importance of trusting your employees to do their job and make mistakes without micromanaging them.
- Why he believes balancing appreciation with direct, honest critiquing helps your employees receive the critique more easily.
- The mistake I made during a customer presentation while working at Jabil and how his value in me as a person encouraged me to be comfortable and accountable for the mistake.
- Examples of how he authentically appreciated his employees by feeding their strengths to help them achieve their goals.
- Embracingthe ‘human aspect’ of inter-organizational relationships.
- Why he believes ‘feeling lonely at the top’ depends on the relationships you build with your team.
- How he naturally closed the gap between himself and his employees.
- How he embraced the ‘open door policy’ in a large organization.
- How he encouraged social connection between his employees and how it impacted the company culture.
- How he coached his employees to be better in their role or to become better leaders.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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My wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, an upcycled clothing design business in Black Mountain. Yvonne empowers women to express themselves and helps them discover and connect with their unique authenticity as the host of women’s gatherings at her home each month and through voice empowering workshops. In addition to her work with empowering women, she also works with me to co-facilitate couple’s workshops designed to support couples and partners while helping them develop deeper connections and stronger relationships.
Yvonne joins me today to share a behind-the-scenes glimpse of our relationship and share how we manage conflicts and settle disagreements in our marriage. We dive into the origins of our unhealthy response patterns and identify the unhealthy behaviors that should be dealt with as soon as possible. We also discuss what to do when someone flares up and share several great strategies that will help you manage conflicts in your relationships and transform behaviors for the better.
“Our relationship is a living organism that has its own life. We have to nourish that.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How we handled conflicts in our relationship early on.
- Why managing conflict is a better focus than resolving conflicts.
- Why conflicts around money are often considered ‘unresolvable’.
- How my perspective on money - and its use - differs from Yvonne’s and how we manage this conflict instead of trying to resolve it.
- The importance of being curious and interested about your partner’s perspective on a conflict or problem.
- The impact of wallowing and getting stuck in a problem or conflict.
- The importance of feeding positivity into your relationship - especially during a conflict.
- The art of apologizing and how it helps you manage conflicts in your relationship.
- The importance of taking accountability and responsibility for your mistakes during a disagreement.
- An example of how we resolved a conflict related to my frequent mistake of putting dirty dishes with clean dishes in the dishwasher.
- The importance of understanding the underlying issues that come up during a disagreement or conflict.
- Why contempt is considered the number one poison in a relationship.
- Why it’s important for parents to model healthy communication during conflicts.
- How Yvonne’s upbringing led to how she used to manage and deal with conflict.
- How to set safe guidelines around how you will manage disagreements in your relationships.
- The difference between having an intense emotion around a problem or issue and yelling.
- Why yelling is notan effective way to address problems, issues, or conflicts and what to do instead.
- Strategies we use to calm down during a heated disagreement.
- Why stress does not always equate being productive or working hard on your relationship.
- The importance of couples encouraging each other to take care of themselves and nurture themselves.
- Guarding yourself against the Four Horsemen.
- What cross-complaining is and some examples.
- Why you shouldn’t bring up “deal breakers” during a heated conversation - unless you’re truly ready to end the relationship.
- Tips on how to ensure that you share the power, time, and space with your partner.
- The power of touch and the right attitude when touching your partner.
- Why it’s important to talk about agreements on how you will fight and when to do it.
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio
Playful Voice Empowering Workshop
Embrace the power of your voice. Join my wife and facilitator, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, for the Playful Voice Empowering Workshop, an empowering experience to unlock your natural superpower in a safe group environment. Using gentle movement and supportive expressive techniques such as guided voice strategies, Yvonne takes you on an empowering journey - teaching you how to use your voice to quickly and effectively recenter and realign with your awareness, release emotional energy, and accelerate your spiritual connection.
Embark on an empowering inner-journey and discover the power of your voice. Join Yvonne for the Playful Voice Empowering Workshop, conveniently held at the beautiful Light Center dome in Black Mountain, NC.
Location: United Research Light Center in Black Mountain, NC.
Date:April 7, 2019
Time:2pm to 4pm
Fee:$15 - $20
All are welcome. No previous experience necessary. For more information, visit the Artsy Goddess Studio website.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let’s Talk About It , and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Phoenix Bartalos is a healer at Blossom and Be, a Nonviolent Communication Coach, a Shadow Work® Facilitator, and a Licensed Massage and Bodywork Therapist among many other training and certifications he has acquired in the previous years. With over 25-years of experience in personal growth, he offers healing services relating to physical, mental, and emotional health throughout the Asheville, North Carolina region. Additionally, Phoenix coaches couples on the foundations of a healthy relationship and helps single people discover and equip themselves on how to open up to others to cultivate conscious relationships.
Today, Phoenix and I explore the reasons for engaging in conscious dating as we reflect on the things we will repeat - and those that we won’t - in our future relationships. We emphasize the importance of working on ourselves and loving ourselves as well as the physical science of setting boundaries. We discuss online dating and what to watch for when looking at online profiles. We also explain how to assess compatibility, especially regarding communication, as well as vital elements such as self-forgiveness and self-love.
“Step one is learning to love yourself. Conscious dating - being in a conscious relationship - that means being conscious of who I am.”- Phoenix Bartalos
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How Phoenix shifted the relationship patterns that wasn’t working in his past relationships
- What it means to be conscious of who you are
- The medium for self-awareness and self-understanding
- Why it’s relevant to have more in-depth conversations with guy friends
- How to filter people when considering online dating
- How to establish friendship without the influence of sexual relationship
- Debunking the myth “You complete me”
- What to do when you notice the red flags
- Why conscious dating or conscious coupling is getting more popular these days
- How Phoenix helps couples overcome the challenges they are going through
- How to prepare for the process of conscious dating
- The source where most arguments come from
- Defining the purpose of conflict
- Where your love for self can start
- The role that your past plays in conscious dating
- How Phoenix’s relationships benefitted after he grieved his father’s abandonment
- Three things he offers people who are entering conscious dating after they have gone through breakups
Resource Mentioned:
- Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
Connect with Phoenix Bartalos:
- Blossom and Be Website
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Gregg Levoy is a Passionate Living Expert and seminar leader that frequently holds workshops for the business, educational, and governmental as well as faith-based and human-potential industries. He is the author of the bestselling books Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, with the latter named as one of the "Top 20 Career Publications" by the Workforce Information Group. Additionally, he is a frequent contributing author and blogger at Psychology Today.
Gregg joins me today to discuss different ways of releasing the tension when you’re faced with relationship challenges. We explore the significance of acknowledging what we feel and the various manners of expressing our emotions. We discuss the negative impact of self-directed anger, share stories of traumatic experiences we’ve had in our lives, and discuss the strategies we used to ‘get the steam out’ and release the tension. We also share how these methods help put things into perspective and allow us to reconnect with ourselves and our partners as well as explain how giving yourself - and your partner - personal space can positively impact your relationship.
“When you’re sick and tired of being under the spell and being caught in your dramas with each other, do something different. And that takes consciousness and cojones.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The “pillow exercise” and how to use it to express your anger towards others in a beneficial way.
- Why self-directed anger is one the primary components of depression.
- Having the courage of “shaking off” trauma and drama.
- How Gregg and his ex-wife honored the good things they had a week before they separated.
- The difference between wallowing in your pain and using it as a cathartic release.
- My experience of working through the traumatic experience of losing a child.
- Why it’s hard for people to allow themselves to truly connect with their feelings and emotions.
- The importance of feeding the love and appreciation in your relationships.
- Giving yourself - and your partner - the space and time to calm down when feelings of tension and anger are high.
- How separation and space help your relationship thrive.
- What “a spark needs a gap” means and how it relates to relationships.
- Why a lot of couples are petrified of having space away from their partner.
- Why breakthroughs happen when you get in touch with your emotions and allow yourself to cry.
- Why it’s important to allow people to truly feel their emotions instead of comforting them or trying to “fix” the problem.
- The story of the girl who was “banished” to her room for crying and showing negative emotions.
- Having the courage of naming the emotions you feel.
- How being vulnerable strengthens relationships.
- Why the greatest human addiction is the addiction to being right and how it impacts your relationships.
Resources Mentioned:
- Episode 3: The Power of Appreciation
- The Different Drum by Scott Peck
- Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy Website
- Vital Signs
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Being in a happy relationship doesn’t mean you stop getting attracted to other people. Attraction is a natural process of life. So, when does the attraction turn into an emotional affair? Is it considered cheating if you have emotional attachments with someone - even without being physically or sexually intimate?
Today, I explore what emotional infidelity is and how it is different from sexual infidelity. I share my personal and professional stories of emotional infidelity and how to use them to have a deeper and more authentic relationship. I also share the signs of an emotional affair, the slippery slopes to understand and watch for in your relationship as well as the different ways to safeguard your relationship from them.
“Just because you have an attraction towards somebody else is not a sign that you’re in a wrong relationship. It’s what you do with that attraction.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How friendships or a simple attraction can sometimes turn into emotional infidelity.
- The starting point of an emotional affair.
- Examples of slippery slopes that people look for and feed into emotional infidelity.
- My experience with emotional infidelity.
- How a solely focused child-centered relationship can challenge your marriage.
- The story of my encounter with a woman that looked like my first love.
- Examples of perfect settings that pave the way to an emotional affair.
- The statistics among men and women who cheated on their spouses with someone from work.
- Why the brain is the largest sexual organ.
- The first step towards rebuilding trust and fidelity.
- What to do if you feel your partner is having an affair.
- How to feed the positivity in your relationship with your partner.
- The right and wrong ways to set a good foundation for transparency.
- A process on how to get clarity and establish safe boundaries.
- The best time to discuss problems and have heart conversations with your partner.
Sponsored by Ancestral Mothers of Scotland Retreat
Do you dream of learning more about your Ancestral Mothers, but are unsure of how to get started? Are you a woman looking for a relaxing way to nurture yourself while experiencing a one-of-a-kind adventure? Join my wife’s dear friend and retreat guide, Jude Lally June 8-15 for the Ancestral Mothers of Scotland Retreat - an all-women’s retreat that helps you connect with your Ancestral Mothers and embody their wisdom while feeding your imagination.
You’ll enjoy:
- Learning about Ancient Ancestral Mothers through storytelling and artmaking
- Visiting sacred sites, holy wells, and abandoned villages
- Creating art at beautiful, white sandy beaches
The Ancestral Mothers of Scotland Retreat also includes good food and great company with a circle of like-minded women. My wife, Yvonne, will also be on this retreat. So if you’re ready for an adventure; ready to connect with your Ancestral Mothers, and ready to nurture yourself in one of the most powerful experiences of a lifetime, visit PathoftheAncestralMothers.com to book your spot today.
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Let’s Talk About It!
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Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the owner of Artsy Goddess Studio, an upcycled clothing design business based in Black Mountain, NC. She is the facilitator of playful voice empowering workshops at the Light Center Dome in Black Mountain as well as the host of in-home monthly gatherings called the Red Tent Women’s Circle, where she empowers and encourages women to express themselves and deeply connect with their unique authenticity. Additionally, Rainbow also co-facilitates couples workshops with me, where she is passionate about helping and supporting couples and partners to build deep connections and meaningful relationships.
Rainbow joins me again on today’s episode to discuss why it is critical to go deeper into encouraging your partner’s authenticity. We discuss what she does to get to the bottom and depth of her authenticity as well as how she lets go of getting attached to outcomes when she expresses her unique authenticity. We also discuss the key to having an authentic relationship as well as the actions you can take to have an authentic relationship with your child.
“I think most people are longing for that; to just be accepted as we are - with all our quirkiness and little uniquenesses.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why we decided to do a sequel episode on authenticity.
- The story behind why Yvonne changed her name.
- How a simple change tremendously transformed her confidence.
- How she interpreted her parent’s well-meaning corrections and how it impacted her self-esteem and self-confidence.
- A “mistake” I made and how Rainbow helped me be authentic and accept my mistake and move forward.
- How we inspire each other to be kinder and be our ‘higher selves’.
- The difference between being kind and being nice.
- How she responded to my mother’s request to be called “Mom.”
- How to bring out the deeper authenticity of a child.
- Why it’s important to sometimes mess up right in front of our child.
- Why other people feel safe enough to be vulnerable with her.
- How trivial things help shed away internal masks.
- What is emotional freedom technique (EFT) and how it helps her connect with her deeper authenticity.
- An approach to express authenticity as a couple.
Resource Mentioned:
- Encourage Your Partner's Authenticity
- Constructive Criticism?
- EFT - The Tapping Solution
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio Website
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Originally from Denmark, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is a remarkable artist that enjoys creating tapestries, paintings, and other things from different materials. She is the owner of the upcycled clothing design business, the Artsy Goddess Studio. Rainbow facilitates playful voice empowering workshops and encourages women to express themselves from a deeper authentic place within by hosting a monthly gathering of the Red Tent Women’s Circle in her home. In addition to being an inspiration to women, Rainbow also helps and supports couples as she works with me in co-facilitating couple’s workshops.
My wife, Rainbow, joins me on this episode to share our life as a couple and how we encouraged each other in being authentic. We discuss her struggles with shyness earlier in her life and how she now inspires others to find and accept their own unique voice. We also discuss how Rainbow encouraged and supported me in one of the biggest authentic turning points in my life - which is a very personal story that I never shared publicly in the past.
“We are genuinely interested in hearing what the other has to say.” - Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why encouraging your partner’s authenticity is a relational foundation.
- How meeting at Esalen Institute made a huge difference in our lives.
- The story of Rainbow’s sense of fashion and how she turned this uniqueness into a business.
- How she inspired me to find my unique style in clothing.
- The Seal song that brought us together.
- How her past shyness led her to teach workshops today.
- How she helps people open up to their authentic voice.
- When she fell deeper in love with me after the vision quest and meditation retreats.
- The true story of my name “Pripo” and why I didn’t want to tell others about it.
- How Rainbow supported me when our families struggled to adjust to my authenticity.
- How Rainbow’s name came about.
- How we responded to our son’s desire to change his name.
- How she dealt with our son’s curiosity about new words.
- The story of how she supported me in letting go of my long and beautiful hair.
- What made her decide to speak her truth when encountering talkaholics.
Resource Mentioned:
- Talkaholics and How To Deal With Them
- Esalen Institute
Connect with Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky:
- Artsy Goddess Studio Website
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Eydie Kugler is a Certified Life Force Energy Healer, truth guide, and energy practitioner with over 25 years of personal and professional experience. She is the founder of What We Create where she provides her clients the tools to propel forward through their transformational journey. She is passionate about empowering her clients to leap beyond patterns of fear, uncertainty, emotional overwhelm, and physical pain. Eydie is trained in various techniques and practices such as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Integrated Energy Therapy (IET), and Chakra Clearing and Balancing. Eydie is also a heartfelt advocate and speaker for adoption awareness. Eydie, her husband Josh, and daughter Sage, became a family through adoption.
My sister, Eydie, joins me today to share her inspiring and unique story of what she and her family went through when they chose open adoption. We discuss the open adoption process as well as how she and her family - including her daughter’s birth mother, Kim - broke the social taboos on adoption as they all continue to pursue a healthy relationship built on trust, openness, and love. We also discuss the incredible story of how Eydie and Kim worked together during Sage’s birth as well as the astonishing backstories that led Sage to be comfortable in disclosing that she’s adopted.
”It’s all about family.” - Eydie Kugler
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The story of Eydie’s daughter, Sage, being a bride’s maid at her birth mother’s wedding.
- What an open adoption is and why Eydie and her husband chose this option.
- Why she embraced the idea of open adoption instead of struggling with it as many adoptive mothers often do.
- How she found out about the adoption agency and the process of open adoption.
- Why Eydie refused to cut the umbilical cord and the symbolic meaning of this gesture.
- Kim’s biggest wish for her baby.
- How Eydie supported my wife and me on the death of our baby.
- How Eydie started to be a spokesperson for The Cradle as she talks about open adoption.
- How Sage’s story is different from adoption stories that are filled with shame, anger, and pain.
- How Eydie’s parents showed their intention to protect her heart.
Resources Mentioned:
- Episode 19: The Secret to Love is Just Kindness
- The Cradle
Connect with Eydie Kugler:
- What We Create Website
- Eydie Kugler on Facebook
- Eydie Kugler on LinkedIn
- Eydie Kugler on Instagram
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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You will often see the words disapproval, judgment, and faults when you do a Google search on the definition of the word criticism. Many people believe that offering constructive criticism helps improve and build relationships - whether personal or professional. With the negative words associated with the word criticism, why are we surprised that many relationships fail to achieve their goal of finding solutions to the challenges they encounter?
Today, I share what appreciation is and how it is related to criticism. I discuss the big distinction between complaints and criticism, how to test yourself to know if you’re being critical, and the difference between judging-type questions and learning-type questions. I share stories of how criticism creeps up in my own personal relationships, how I ‘dial down’ my inner critic, and how it impacts your external behaviors and criticism. I also share the formula for resolving differences, what relationship hygiene is and the relevance of doing it, and how your habits affect your ability to be positive or negative in your relationships.
“Love does not survive critical judgements from a loved one.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The difference between constructive criticism and constructive feedback.
- Why we need to wipe out criticism as much as possible.
- One defining aspect of criticism.
- Examples of critical statements versus statements of constructive complaint.
- Causes of relationship erosion between couples who have been together for many years.
- The difference between advice-giving and criticism.
- Why people do not change when criticized.
- How habits of criticism creep up in my marriage and how my wife and I handle these situations.
- How criticism fuels habitual anger.
- How to dial down the inner critic in you.
- The story of how I learned best through a coach who gave encouraging feedback, focused on the solution and positivity.
- How children interpret their parents’ constant criticism.
- What matters in a relationship - getting things done versus contributing to each other’s happiness and well-being.
- Different approaches when you desire to give unsolicited advice.
- Why it’s crucial to stick to one complaint at a time.
- What happens when you try to focus on more than one complaint per discussion.
- Why the transformational process is more significant than the resolution process.
- Why you should avoid discussions when you’re busy and stressed out.
- How to practice changing the way you think about the people in your life.
- The relevance of creating habits to be more positive, open, and curious.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Saturday, April 27, 2019, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop for Couples, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Let’s Talk About It!
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Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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Mana Vermeulen-McLeod is a fascinating woman who can talk about everything from hairstyles to the different types of chainsaws. She is a tree worker, carpenter, and conflict mediator at Earthaven Ecovillagewhere she has resided since 2007. Originally from Holland, Mana is an advocate for The Work that Reconnects, a staff member at the Southeast Wise Women’s Herbal Conference, and a student adviser for Gaia University. After a decade of being part of her community and facilitating conflict resolution, Mana currently focuses on supporting and helping others create the life they want, grounded in authenticity, through her life coaching practice.
Mana joins me today to share her experience as a woman working in male-dominated workplaces and discuss the physical challenges women face in the tree-working and carpentry industry. We dive into stories on the challenges she and her husband faced while working together as colleagues in the tree industry and how their relationship grew and flourished. We also discuss the other side of the coin on this topic as Mana flips questions back at me, since my work in therapy is a female dominated industry where I use a lot of feminine energy such as nurturing, listening, and empathy.
“Masculine energy the container. The feminine energy is what is inside of that container that gets to blossom if it’s in a good and safe container.” - Mana Vermeulen-McLeod
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Her first few experiences as a woman carpenter and how she gained experience in the industry.
- When mentoring and apprenticeship are more educational compared to “formal” education.
- How much of her overall experience was good and positive.
- How she keeps it light in the workplace so she can be part of the “boy’s club.”
- The pattern she recognized that she needs to change.
- Why she felt relief when she eventually gave up the impulse to lead her husband while working together.
- How having boundaries allowed her to blossom.
- How she responds to situations when she gets downplayed by others for being a woman.
- How her Arkansas tree work employment paved the way for more employment opportunities for women.
- Why it’s important for her to calmly talk about her husband and maintain friendships among her colleagues.
- The significance that the male and female energy play regarding decision-making on which trees to cut or nurture.
- The pay structure and what it’s going to take for women to acquire higher compensation.
- Why she’d rather work with men in tree work and how she sets boundaries.
- One of the rewarding niche markets she landed in when she did carpentry.
- The different attitudes men and women have towards leaders or instructors.
- Advice for men on the crew regarding how to treat women.
- The new and different path she’s currently leading.
- How she balanced the feminine and masculine sides of her herself.
- What Authentically You is about.
Connect with Mana Vermeulen-McLeod:
- Earthaven Ecovillage
- The Work that Reconnects
- Southeast Wise Women’s Herbal Conference
- Culture’s Edge
- Mana Vermeulen-McLeod on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.
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Gregg Levoy is a distinguished author, speaker, seminar leader and a frequent expert guest on various national news networks such as CNN, ABC-TV, NPR, and PBS. He is a regular contributing writer for Psychology Todayand the author of the books Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion as well as Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, the latter being one of Workforce Information Group’s "Top 20 Career Publications." Additionally, he also conducts workshops for business, educational, governmental, faith-based, and human potential industries.
Gregg joins me today to share how taking risks can inspire others and benefit the relationships in your life. We discuss how to transform and enhance stagnant relationships as well as the significant role that creativity plays in improving your relationships. We also share stories of the risks that people in our lives have taken that inspired us to take various risks as well as the ways to nurture your relationships by identifying your individual passions.
“Say yes to yourself so you can say yes to your relationships because they will all benefit from your enlivenment and they will suffer from your dispassion.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why people’s relationships become stagnant.
- Risks that enhance your relationship.
- What a vision quest is and how it affected my relationship with my wife.
- How taking risks can empower you to establish new limits in your mind and help you clearly define what you really want.
- How Gregg got inspired to travel to new places.
- The main reason I started a podcast.
- An inspiring message about pursuing a dream regardless of age.
- Why part of my mission is to encourage people to take risks.
- The individual steps to take when you’re stuck in a stagnant relationship.
- The essence of stepping out in the relationship to bring the fire back.
- What percentage of your needs should be met by your primary relationships.
- How Gregg inspired one of his colleagues to take risks as he quit his day job to become a freelance writer.
- How to instill passion and inspiration when taking risks.
- The meaning of his father’s advice, “Don't take courses. Take professors.”
- The significant risk of moving into the town where his twin brother lives after their mother’s efforts to separate them.
- How his decision to divorce affected the people around him.
- How my traveling and storytelling impacted my son’s desire to travel and have his own stories.
- My wife’s inspiring risks and adventures that I never thought she would do and the impact of sharing these with others.
- The legacies we want to leave.
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
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Respect, trust, and honesty are some of the factors that contribute to a healthy relationship. But there is one essential ingredient in the success of any relationship that many do not consider - emotional intelligence. To be able to understand and identify your emotions. To manage them well as you respond to the emotions of others. That beats being the top performer in class or at work because these abilities allow you to impact one of the things that matter most in life - your relationships.
Today, I discuss what emotional intelligence (EQ) is and the impact that having a high EQ can make in your life and the people around you. I share tips on how to show emotional intelligence in various relationship aspects such as with partners, colleagues, and children. I explain how men can contribute to their relationships in a positive way when they understand and increase their EQ. I also share why self-awareness is crucial in developing emotional intelligence and why self-regulation is the most important thing you can do to make the world a better place.
“Developing emotional intelligence is the very first step to relationship success.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What emotional intelligence is and why it is significant in relationships.
- The essential role that self-awareness plays in enhancing emotional intelligence.
- Why you need to have a good emotional vocabulary and the benefits of learning emotional words.
- What the “sacred pause” is and the importance of pausing when cultivating your emotional intelligence.
- How to increase your self-awareness.
- The significance of knowing what makes you tick.
- How to increase your capacity to self-regulate.
- The difference between being a doormat husband vs. accepting your partner’s influence.
- What the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” are in relationships.
- Telltale signs that a man is resisting his wife’s influence.
- Why men may reject their partner’s influence.
- How a wife can increase the positivity in her marriage.
- The relationship between emotional intelligence and being a good leader at work.
- The greatest modeling parents can do to their children.
Resources Mentioned:
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work book by John Gottman
- Emotional Intelligence book by Daniel Goleman
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Have you ever felt trapped in a conversation with someone who can’t seem to run out of things to say? You start to wonder when the monologue will end so you can carry on with your life and make the most out of your time. If bumping into a talkaholic feels like your time has been stolen from you, then it’s time to speak the truth and be authentic in your encounters.
In today’s episode, I explain the different factors that contribute to the making of a talkaholic. I share stories of my interactions with people who talk excessively as well as how I have experimented on my responses under those circumstances. I also share strategies you can use when dealing with talkaholics, including actual phrases you can practice and experiment with to discover the best way for you to handle these situations.
“Don’t have the fear to interrupt. Allow yourself to do that - experiment with interrupting.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The declaration my wife made during a significant time in her life that inspired me to be more authentic in my conversations.
- How my siblings and I rescued each other from our talkaholic Uncle Harry.
- What makes a talkaholic.
- How Excessive Talking Disorder is a symptom of several mental, physical, and emotional health issues.
- The effect on talkaholics when they listen to another person.
- How people with genuine self-confidence and self-esteem respond in conversations.
- What an arrogant person thinks that causes him or her to keep on talking.
- The possible effect of having even one dominant parent at home.
- Why it’s crucial to know the cause of a talkaholic’s excessive talking.
- How to still have compassion while maintaining your boundaries.
- Steps to take when confronting a talkaholic.
- Good starter sentences when confronting a talkaholic at work and at home.
- Ways to help others be aware of and cope with their excessive talking.
- Defining what a conversation is.
- Expressions I use as a therapist that work well and bring about empathy from the other person.
- When to leave the conversation.
- What to do if you intend to stay and not confront the person.
- How to use your imagination as a way to deal with a talkaholic.
- What ‘mindfulness presence’ is and how to practice it.
- Questions to ask when talking with a talkaholic.
- How to experiment with interrupting.
- How to take advantage of the pause.
- How to deal with talkaholics if the person is someone you have a relationship with.
- What happens when you do not do something to take care of yourself and be authentic.
- Why five minutes is a good allotment for a back and forth conversation.
- How to condition each other through the back and forth continuity of your discussion.
- The story of how a female talkaholic trained herself to pause and give chance to others.
- Different ways to set boundaries.
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Sally and Randy Frazer are the owners of Double Exposure Art, a fine art & photography printmaking studio in Fletcher, North Carolina that helps artists archive and reproduce their work. On top of their passion, dedication, and use of top-quality materials, their ability to color-match your work truly sets their studio apart. Randy has been a sailor all his life and while they have been my neighbor for almost 20 years, their home has become a gathering point for several social events throughout our neighborhood.
On today’s episode, Randy explains what it takes to be a great neighbor. We discuss how he has looked out for his neighbors -- whether on water or land -- and how he has helped them not only because he wanted to, but also because the situation required him to. We also discuss how he provides assistance to others, the impact that being neighborly can have on children, and how his good deeds and intentions have enhanced my family, in particular.
“Some neighbors can get really stubborn. That’s when we have to work on the compromise part.” - Randy Frazer
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The different kind of social gatherings that take place at Randy’s house.
- What led to the 5-Day Feast at his home.
- Why compromise plays a crucial role in maintaining a harmonious neighborhood.
- The kind of family environment he grew up in.
- What makes it easy for him to reach out when someone needs help.
- What led him and his family to live in their current neighborhood.
- Why he built a house after traveling the world on a boat for two years.
- How to be neighborly even - if you’re on a boat.
- How to connect with your neighbor who has different values than you.
- What brings people together.
- The difference between the relational neighbors in town and the ones in his current neighborhood.
- How children benefit from being neighborly.
- Why his wife is very accommodating towards the neighbors.
- What I learned from Randy that has impacted my life and my family.
Connect with Randy Frazer:
- Double Exposure Art Website
- Double Exposure Art on Facebook
- Double Exposure Art on Instagram
- Double Exposure Art on Twitter
- Double Exposure Art on Pinterest
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Steve Torma is the co-founder of The REAL Center, an organization based in Asheville, North Carolina that is committed to encouraging compassion, communication, and intimacy. He is also the former president of Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as a former core faculty member of The Asheville Tantra School. For over 30 years, he has been passionate about helping others master the art of communication and compassion. His deep desire to help others seek healing and find direction in their lives led him to pursue training in several fields such as Non-Violent Communication, Radical Honesty, Restorative Circles, and Permaculture.
Steve joins me again to elaborate what non-violent communication is, what it looks like, and the different ways to show it. We discuss the concepts of Evolutionary Psychology, Mismatch Instincts, and Negativity Bias and why the latter is the greatest cause of human suffering. We also share helpful tips and tools to overcome Negativity Bias as well as how to change this habit so you can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.
“The more we focus on gratitude, the more we’ll have neuro-pathways for gratitude and the more inner peace we’ll have. The more inner peace we have, the better the relationships we will have. It just becomes an upward spiral.” - Steve Torma
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What is Non-Violent Communication (NVC).
- The “honesty” part of the NVC Model.
- The distinction between a need and a request.
- Examples of the four parts of the communication model in a real-life situation.
- The two types of requests in the NVC World.
- The kind of request that helps most people work through a conflict.
- Why making a connection request is crucial before making an action request?
- The significance of being curious and interested versus listening to judgmental self-talk - even during conflicts.
- Why curiosity is important in conversations.
- What empathy deficit is and why many people are operating on it.
- The concept “Interrupting a conversation to bring it back to life.”
- The root behind the impulse of talkaholics.
- How to make it easier for people to hear feedback.
- Defining Evolutionary Psychology and its relation to a person’s responses.
- What are Mismatched instincts?
- Identifying one of the most obvious types of mismatched instincts.
- The main mismatch instinct that hampers human beings.
- The ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions for a relationship to be sustainable.
- Explaining the concept of Unchosen Nature and how this explains a person’s impulse to look for what’s wrong.
- Why you should make a list of the ten most memorable positive moments in your life.
- The chain reaction that happens in your body when you choose to feel gratitude.
- The power of choice and changing your belief system.
- How negative awareness and thoughts are part of the healing and growth process.
Resources Mentioned:
- Episode 10: Non-Violent Communication
Connect with Steve Torma:
- The REAL Center
- Email: info@therealcenter.org
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Let’s Talk About It!
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The secret to love is kindness -- a very simple concept that many people tend to overlook. Take a closer look at your relationships, for example. When was the last time you made coffee for your husband or gave your wife a back rub?
When was the last time you were present and available to listen to what your children had to say?
When was the last time you did an unexpected good deed for someone you don’t know just because you want to be kind?
When was the last time you made a conscious effort to pay attention to your tone and attitude when expressing your feelings or a different point of view?
Today, I share how to be kind to the people in your relationships -- to your spouse, children, even to strangers. I explain the difference between being nice and being kind, the impact that a parent’s kindness can have on their children’s character, and the significance of being kind to yourself. I also emphasize the roles that your tone and body language play in showing kindness to others and yourself as well as some actionable tips on showing kindness to the people in your relationships.
“Research has shown that kindness along with emotional stability is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Why it is often hard for kindness to thrive.
- Why I believe people are not more kind to others.
- How being kind to yourself allows you to be more kind to others.
- Small acts of kindness you can do for yourself.
- Showing kindness by owning up to an unkind act.
- The best situation to practice kindness.
- Factors at the root of extreme niceness.
- The difference between being nice and being kind.
- How my wife has been a continuous inspiration of being kind to oneself.
- How openness, seeking positive attributes and giving them the benefit of the doubt are powerful signs of love and kindness.
- Telltale signs that you’re not kind in the relationship.
- The importance of your tone and intention.
- Why people can take your text messages the wrong way.
- Choosing between leaving a voicemail versus texting emotional content.
- Why you should make it a priority to spend time with your spouse.
- The “hypocrisy of kindness” parents are not aware they’re doing.
- How to show kindness through body language.
- An inspiring story about showing small acts of kindness to strangers.
- How the “little things” show small acts of kindness.
- How holding your tongue or holding back on things you want to say can be a small act of kindness.
- Quick tips on showing kindness to your spouse every day.
- One of the kindest acts a person can do.
- How being rude, hurtful, and mean destroys trust and intimacy in your relationships.
- Reflective questions parents can ask themselves to check if they are kind to their children.
- Things parents can do to show kindness to their children.
- The direct correlation between the parent’s kindness towards their children and having kind children.
- Why moving away from talkaholics is considered a kind act to yourself.
Resource Mentioned:
- Diane A. Ross
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Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier spa based in Asheville, North Carolina that offers first-class services such as Salt Water Floatation (a.k.a. sensory deprivation), Esalen Massage, and Cranial Sacral Therapy. Having a very intimate relationship with stress and anxiety, Corey studied Somatic Psychology and acquired a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and music therapist.
Corey joins me today to share how understanding your body and being aware of what happens to it when you’re stressed can affect your personal and professional relationships. We discuss where to look and what to do to the body when you’re stressed and explain the gravity of destressing and taking care of your ownanxiety so you can take care of others. We also share techniques that you can use to help you improve relaxation and decrease stress and explain why self-care is not simply a luxury, but a necessity for achieving a harmonious relationship with others.
“There’s always going to be anxiety. There’s always going to be stressful things. It’s how we deal with those things and what tools we can use in the present moment to be able to work with that energy of stress.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How stress affects the physical body according to science.
- What the Zen Breath technique is and how to do it.
- Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness are popular de-stressing activities.
- The first step to unlocking the door to stress and anxiety.
- The benefits of being aware of your stress.
- A technique to avoid the stress blame-game.
- The importance of giving your partner some space when managing stress.
- The benefits of doing physical activities instead of rationalizing your stress.
- The difference between shallow-breath reactions versus deep-breath responses.
- How deep breathing affects your body and influences your connection with others.
- Regulation versus dysregulation of the nervous system.
- The reason Corey began working the field of healing arts.
- How he learned to beat depression and anxiety.
- The paradox of holding stress as a badge of honor in some communities.
- How your family background affects the way youhandle stress and anxiety.
- How addiction in the family affects the next generation.
- How parents’ suppressing stress or anger transfers to their kids and the results.
- The link between indecisiveness and anxiety.
- Why you should give yourself permission to be wrong.
- The unselfish aspect of taking care of yourself so you can take care of your relationships.
- How you can choose to break the stress cycle and habit.
- What the habit of stress looks like and the biological markers and symptoms to watch out for.
- The number one go-to stress buster and stress reliever.
- What the Curious Paradox is and how it helps you accept what’s going on in your body.
- How Epsom salt and Esalen Massage help reduce stress and anxiety.
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
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Let’s Talk About It!
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Moe Bruce is passionate about investing in deep and meaningful connections and intimacy, engaging with others, building relationships, and being present in the moment. For 20 years, she has been a coach and consultant for CEOs and global leaders in large and small international organizations and has built profound connections with strangers throughout America and Europe. She’s always had a deep curiosity about how people live their lives as well as what she can learn from them.
Moe joins me today to discuss how to take risks with strangers by going beyond the regular chitchat our society is so used to. We discuss the inspiring experiments she conducted throughout New York and Europe while building connections with strangers as well as how the workplace is hungry for vulnerability, transparency, and truth. We discuss an observation she had about me and how my answer revealed something enlightening and personal as we experience the magic that comes from being open and present in the moment.
“If you want a connection, you can have it. If you’re willing to be vulnerable and revealing and curious, you can make it your world. You don’t have to suffer chitchat.” - Moe Bruce
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- What Moe does while in contact with strangers.
- How her 3-phrase experiment in New York impacted her.
- The impact that her “Being Loved” experiment in Berlin had on her and the people around her.
- Why she doesn’t allow ‘chit chat’ in her conversations and connections with strangers.
- How she leads conversations with strangers to make them feel comfortable, connected, and open.
- How being open and willing to share things about yourself in conversations helps you build deep connections with others.
- What the Modality of Circling is.
- How to make the conversation “your world” as well.
- When it’s okay not to put limits on what to reveal and how to make distinctions about things to share.
- The effect of being vulnerable and having closer connections in the workplace.
- What the courage to be vulnerable requires.
- Strategies she used to connect with strangers in Atlanta during an experiment.
- The impact that being present can have on those around you.
- How she makes a game out of connecting and communicating with others to relieve the pressure of “doing it right” or doing it a certain way.
- How building meaningful connections with strangers helps builds hope for humanity.
- How she discovered the Strategy of Circling.
- The backstory of circling and how to do it.
- How circling can help parents in their relationship with their children.
- How she felt reborn after a circling session.
- How her curiosity about my openness led us to the most transformational moment of my life
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code:Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling and Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.
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There’s a common expression that says, “You wouldn’t want to marry yourself!” This expression sounds funny to many, but if you look closely, it expresses a deeper issue people face in relationships. Having differences is inevitable, but whether you choose to be accepting or critical, curious or judgmental, interested or disrespectful towards the other person makes the difference in the status of your relationships.
On this episode, I discuss the differences in people’s relationships and how to navigate them through real-life stories and examples. I emphasize the importance of the “how” versus the “what” when negotiating differences, the difference among needs, wants, and preferences as well as how to effectively communicate using these. I also explain how to train your mind to see traits you can like and appreciate about the other person and discuss the difference between a complaint and criticism as well as ways of dealing with differences in money, expectations, and non-negotiables.
“Differences call for understanding and negotiating.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The wrong notion about compatibility being synonymous with similarity
- The role that differences play in relationships
- Why we choose somebody that’s different from us
- The essence of choosing well and carefully in partnerships
- How women typically choose men
- What to do when projecting expectations towards your partner
- The role that the foundational aspects of communication and connection play in your relationship
- Two vital learner type questions to ask yourself as you assess your response to your partner
- A story of a couple who didn’t think alike but loved alike
- The antidote to relationships who are facing problems regarding their differences
- Why disgust is one of the major poisons in relationships and examples of how we show it
- Redefining self-esteem in relationship negotiations
- The mystery of the wine colored French beret
- How the differences can be a tremendous gift in a person’s growth
- Examples of basic commonalities you don’t need to negotiate
- Questions to ask yourself when assessing your relationships
- Facing challenges regarding non-negotiables
- The power of appreciating somebody for who they are
- The difference between a complaint and a criticism
- Dealing with differences in money
- How to work through expectations
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Let’s Talk About It!
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Gregg Levoy is an accomplished author, speaker, and seminar leader who regularly holds workshops and keynote presentations in the business, governmental, educational, faith-based and human-potential industries. He has presented on stages such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), Microsoft, the National Career Development Association, and the International Association of Career Management Professionals as well as countless lectures for colleges and universities across the country. He is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and has made frequent guest appearances on CNN, PBS, NPR, andABC-TV.Additionally, he is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life- the latter of which is rated as one of the Top 20 Career Publications by Workforce Information Group.
Gregg joins me today to discuss what makes our friendship as men unique and the challenges men often have regarding maintaining and deepening their relationships. We discuss the different ways men can show their vulnerability and humanity and how men’s behaviors can often be attributed to the cultural stigmas they’ve learned throughout their childhood. Gregg shares some of his fondest memories with his twin brother, father, and friend that illustrate the reality of men’s outlook on life and the way they view relationships as well as how honesty and the power of conversation can impact your friendships and relationships.
“The more we are real men with one another, I think we’ll bring that into our relationships with our partners.” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How boys are raised with many taboos and stigmas on behavior and how it affects men’s struggles with forming trusting friendships.
- How men are conditioned for competition and to act and behave a certain way.
- Gregg’s unique experiences as a twin brother.
- How men who feel pressured to compete with other men can overcome and get past it.
- How men bond over activities and entertainment.
- How communicating, being vulnerable, and practicing generous listening can help deepen men’s friendships with other men.
- How his father’s heart attack led them to reach a new dimension in their relationship.
- Why men struggle with asking for help.
- My story on vulnerability, the challenge of asking for help, and the importance of loyalty.
- The criteria that make up strong, healthy friendships with other men.
- How having well-defined relationships from a young age has a positive impact on developing long-term, healthy male relationships.
- Why humor and laughter are important in healthy relationships with men.
- The similarities and difference between men’s friendships with other men versus their relationships with their partners.
- The importance of keeping in touch and connecting with other men.
- How the reality of death enables men to be more vulnerable and open about their relationships.
- Gregg’s advice for building deeper friendships with other men.
Related Content:
- Men’s Work: Having Healthy Male Relationships
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Lee Warren is the co-founder, designer, and builder of a sustainability co-housing community at Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as the co-founder of the 5-acre cooperative farm, Imani Farm. She is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women’s issues. She is the Managing Partner of the organic food production learning institute, School of Integrated Living(SOIL). Additionally, she is the Executive Director of the Organic Growers Schoolin Asheville, NC.
Lee joins me today to discuss the multi-faceted concept of consent and the importance of communicating consent and boundaries to build stronger andhealthier relationships. She explains the “wheel of consent,” the crucial role consent plays in your personal and professional relationships, and the importance of communicating your preferences. She also shares why it’s important to reframe ‘no’ as an act of liberation instead of a rejection.
“When you say ‘no,’ you’re saying ‘yes’ to something else. And that’s your sovereignty.” - Lee Warren
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Understanding the concept and full scope of consent.
- The different realms of abuse and why consent transcends sexuality.
- How restrictions imposed upon us during childhood affect our perceptions ofintimacy as adults
- Why saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the other person.
- Reframing ‘no’ from rejection to liberation.
- The importance of being able to trust responses from others.
- Why consent doesn’t take the sexiness and appeal out of things, despite what most people may think.
- How consent changes things for the better, especially when it comes to intimacy.
- The importance of communicating your preferences and how the overall experience is for you.
- Consent outside of the sexual realm.
- Coercion and co-dependency, and why we need to move away from them.
- The value of listening.
- How adults “play,” and how consent figures into that need.
- Tackling the barriers of intimacy.
- How consent opens new pathways for showing adoration and communicating warmth.
- The need for different ways to say ‘no’.
- Why saying ‘no’ is actuallysaying ‘yes’ to something else.
- How you can learn what’s ‘yes’ and what’s ‘no’ for you.
Connect with Lee Warren:
- Imani Farm
- School of Integrated Living website
- Organic Growers School website
- Email: lee@organicgrowersschool.org
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
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Let’s Talk About It!
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When was the last time you said ‘I’m sorry’ and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feelsorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say ‘I am sorry’ when we feel embarrassed aboutmistakes or trying to appeaseanother person.
The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must learn in order tobuild deep, meaningful relationship with those around us. And while we often try to avoid conflict in our day-to-day lives - especially with those closest to us - it’s important to remember that it is through conflict and differences that we learn, grow, and improve ourselves and our relationships.
On today’s episode, I discuss the art of apologizing and why it is critical for deepening your relationships. I explain why conflict is necessary for self-growth and understanding and the connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a sincere apology. I also explain how a sincere apology can impact the healing process following a hurtful event, why it’s okay to take time to truly feelsorry before apologizing, and how it can often lead to acceptance and forgiveness.
“One of the greatest gifts of exploring apologies is the lesson of humility.” - PripoTeplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The importance of only apologizing when you truly feel sorry.
- How to handle situations when you’re not ready to apologize.
- The importance of taking time to digest and understand your partner’s perspective in a hurtful situation.
- Why it is often difficult to take accountability for hurting others.
- The connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a true apology.
- The difference between feeling remorse and feeling embarrassed or ashamed.
- What is required before true forgiveness can occur?
- How apologizing can impact your relationships with your
- How apologizing can help heal wounds and build bridges in estranged family relationships.
- The importance of empathizing with how the other person feels.
- The importance of expressing your regrets when apologizing.
- Identifying strategies for changing poor behavior or habits.
- Examplesof effective, heartfelt apologies.
- Setting realistic expectations when apologizing and asking for forgiveness.
- The difference between accepting an apology and true forgiveness.
- The importance of always accepting an apology - even if you can’t forgive the behavior.
- Expressing the qualities you seek in an apology with your spouse or partner.
- How sincere apologies can impact the healing process.
- The impact that accountability and apologizing have had in political disputes.
- The importance of apologizing even when you don’t feel accountable, wrong, or that you’ve intentionally hurt the other person.
- Exercises to help you improve your apologizing skill to deepen your relationships and begin the healing process.
Resources Mentioned:
- The Healing of Americaby Marianne Williamson
- The Gifts of Imperfectionby Brene Brown
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Let’s Talk About It!
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Angela Porter specializes in providing guidance to people with addictions, relational troubles, mental health problems, and codependency issues. Her impressive 25-year career as a professional therapist in California encompasses trauma and addiction treatment, self-care workshops and consultations for therapists as well as international BREEMA workshops for professionals in the medical and healthcare industries. After serving as a Program Director at the New Bridge Foundation’s substance treatment program in Berkeley, she is now a group facilitator at Bayside Marin’s substance abuse treatment program in San Rafael and maintains an active private practice in both San Rafael and Oakland.
Angela joins me on today’s episode to discuss the art of confrontation — why we shouldn’t fear it, how we should do it, and why it’s important to confront not just others, but ourselves. She shares her experiences in working with people suffering from addiction, mental health issues, and emotional problems, as well as one life-changing moment that imparted upon her a lifelong lesson. In addition, she and I take the time to talk about our own friendship, and how our commitment and desire to connect by embracing the truth in ourselves has allowed us to help each other grow as individuals and as professionals.
“You don’t feel safe because of inner conditions — because you’ve stopped listening to your own truth, and you’re looking for it outside of yourself.” - Angela Porter
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The various ways to confront people, including yourself, in a manner that’s kind yet clear.
- My friendship with Angela, and how confrontation plays a positive role in it.
- The underlying desire for connection and transcendence in every relationship — and how that need is only fulfilled by the presence of truth.
- The extensive work that Angela has done in dealing with people and helping them stand up with truth.
- A powerful, truthful moment that we shared during a rather memorable workshop.
- Expectations in a relationship, and how the need for confronting people’s truths plays into those.
- Angela’s experiences with her partner with regard to confrontation.
- My personal experience where I confronted someone with a powerful truth, resulting in a very positive outcome.
- A unique and difficult experience involving a client that taught Angela a valuable lesson.
- Confronting people with their positive attributes, instead of their negatives and what they lack.
- The word “confrontation” itself, its power, and its impact.
- Understanding that whatever you’re doing right now is NOT who you are.
- What an apology really means, in the context of self-confrontation.
- How Angela walks people through the sense of discomfort that comes with confrontation.
- How the truth is actually a holistic experience.
- The self-loathing and fundamental brokenness at the heart of every human being.
- How we can’t really “teach” each other anything — and what we CAN do for each other, instead.
Connect with Angela Porter:
- Angela Porter’s website
- Email: angelaportermft@gmail.com
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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When was the last time you sat with your significant other, put down your mobile device, and just focused on your partner and everything you appreciate about them? Or the last time you smiled at a co-worker, waved at an acquaintance, or did a high-five with a friend you haven't seen in a while? What about the last time you shared positive feedback or words of encouragement with a stranger whom you felt needed it? In other words, when was the last time you had a brief but genuine connection — a micro-moment — with another human being?
On today’s episode, I share my thoughts on micro-moments: what they are, how they occur in relationships, and why they matter tremendously. I share stories about my favorite micro-moments with friends, co-workers, family members, and even total strangers over the years - some of which are my most cherished memories of them. I also discuss the aspects of micro-moments and explain the concept of “authenticity on demand.”
“It is not in the big grandiosity, the big moments and glamor of the date nights and weekend getaways that’s your connection. It’s in the mundane, in the routine, in every moment of life.” - PripoTeplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The concept of micro-moments: the small moments in day-to-day life you take for granted.
- How a temporary break from the busy aspects of modern life can allow micro-moments in relationships to pop up and thrive.
- The value of asking questions, even just the little ones, in establishing your connection.
- How the often-repeated sentiment that “it’s the little moments that matter most” is very, very true.
- My favorite memories of the numerous micro-moments I shared with my loved ones, especially my son.
- The significance of nicknames and positive acknowledgment in those little moments of connection.
- How the thought of “What if this were my last day?” helps us appreciate these micro-moments more.
- How even the most mundane moment of a unique day can be so profound.
- Why true connection doesn’t require a lot of dialogue.
- The concept of “authenticity on demand.”
- Negative micro-moments, and what we can do to change them.
- Giving and receiving appreciative statements.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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R010 Non-Violent Communication
Steve Torma is the co-founder of The REAL Center, an organization that has been committed to encouraging compassionate relationships since 2007. He is the former President of Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, NC, and was a core faculty member for The Asheville Tantra School. He has established a thirty-year career of helping countless people find healing, direction, and meaning in their lives through his mastery of Non-Violent Communication (NVC), Radical Honesty, Body Electric, Cuddle Party, Restorative Circles, Permaculture, and Creation Spirituality.
Steve joins me today to discuss non-violent communications and how being in sync with our feelings can help us better understand our needs and gain insight on why we make the decisions we make. He explains how our relationships are affected by how well - or how poorly - we know our own feelings, particularly in the way we translate our thoughts into words. He also briefly touches on the four gateway feelings in his line of work — anger, depression, shame, and guilt — and what each of those things really means for the individual.
“Thoughts are obviously important, but to be able to communicate what’s in your body — that kind of aliveness is one of the main things that creates connection.’” - Steve Torma
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Learning how to feel exactly what is going on with your body.
- The profound difference between thinking and feeling.
- Having a solid emotional vocabulary.
- Starting with feeling awareness, and realizing that feelings give us important information.
- Understanding why we make the choices we make — why we feel what we feel.
- Distinguishing between needs and wants by learning how to feel one’s needs.
- How — and why — the foundation of a dysfunctional relationship is not knowing your partner’s needs.
- How to effectively train people to be more attuned to their feelings.
- The definition of self-directed neuroplasticity: Why it is possible for people to change.
- Why pain is NOT suffering.
- The four parts of the training process for non-violent communications.
- Creating a connection between two people through the verbalization of feelings.
- The significance and power of acknowledging what and how we are feeling.
- The value of understanding the thoughts behind your anger.
- The meaning of feeling a “sweet pain.”
- Understanding the basic principle of NVC.
- Healing shame by realizing its roots.
- Seeing through the eyes of compassion.
- The truth behind how nature designed us, with regard to stress.
Connect with Steve Torma:
- The REAL Center website
- Email: info@therealcenter.org
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Setting boundaries in relationships is usually a challenging topic to tackle, and with good reason. Aside from the fact that the very idea of imposing restrictions between yourself and your partner is hard to define, the act itself can be quite tricky to navigate — especially if you’re afraid that you might offend your partner. What many don’t realize is that setting healthy boundaries won’t tear your relationship apart; in fact, it’ll strengthen it, or perhaps even save it.
On today’s episode, I break down the details of boundary-setting in relationships, from defining the concept to classifying the types of boundaries you need to set. I explain the concept of differentiation within the context of a relationship and explain why it’s important to set aside time for personal activities and to put your needs at the forefront. I also share personal stories that illustrate the importance of saying “no” and how to say it properly, the impact of setting healthy boundaries on your relationship and your life in general, and the consequences of failing to do so.
“A relationship can’t be healthy until both parties communicate their boundaries clearly, and the other person respects them.” - PripoTeplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Defining what boundaries are, in the context of relationships.
- Distinguishing physical, sexual, emotional, and material boundaries.
- The benefits of establishing healthy boundaries in a relationship.
- How to establish healthy boundaries in a relationship.
- Defining and developing differentiation in your relationship.
- The concept of self-soothing to relieve your own
- The importance of putting your identity and needs at the forefront.
- Why you should learn to say “no”... and why it’s okay to say “yes.”
- Setting — and respecting — personal schedules or activities without your partner.
- A personal story relating to my vision quest at Esalen Institute.
- How to handle unsolicited advice from loved ones.
- What happens when we don’t set boundaries, or when we set unhealthy ones.
- How boundaries allow us to grow.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshopwill teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code:Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Gregg Levoy is anauthor, speaker, and seminar leader. He is the acclaimed author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, the latter of which is among the Workforce Information Group’s "Top 20 Career Publications". He previously worked as a Behavioral Specialist at USA Today. Currently, he is a regular contributing author and blogger for Psychology Today. He frequently holds workshops about the business, educational, governmental, faith-based and human-potential industries as well as keynote presentations for audiences at prestigious organizations such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency, and Microsoft.
Gregg joins me today to discuss the importance of self-inquiry and knowing your true self and how it impacts your ability to build healthy relationships. We discuss the importance ofnot just of listening, but also of having genuine conversations with yourself, especially in uncovering things you never knew about your character, your relationships, and the world around you. We share how being authentic means paying attention to signs within and around you — and preparing to hear self-truths from ourselves that may not always be pleasant.
“It’s really that age-old idea that ‘you can’t love other people until you love yourself.’” - Gregg Levoy
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Knowing yourself through dreamwork, journaling, and asking questions about yourself.
- How to be a generous listener.
- Why having an ongoing, conversational relationship with yourself is critical.
- The meaning of self-reflection and understanding why some people don’t turn their “receivers” on.
- What dreams actually tell you on a conscious level.
- How — and why — Gregg turned down an opportunity of a lifetime because of a dream.
- The benefit of journaling.
- The value of curiosity, not just about the world, but about each other.
- The crucial difference between evoking and provoking.
- “The alien game” and learning about yourself, your partner, and the world.
- The concept of “dating cities,” and how “I like myself here” can be applied in multiple relationships in your life.
Connect with Gregg Levoy:
- Gregg Levoy website
- Gregg Levoy on Facebook
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop
Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshopwill teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.
To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa based in Asheville, NC offering world-class services including Salt Water Floatation - also known as sensory deprivation - Esalen Massage, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Corey is a man of many talents and wears multiple hats. He holds a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on Somatic Psychology and is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. Additionally, he is a music therapist as well as a talented didgeridoo player.
Corey joins me today to discuss how addictions affect relationships. He explains how couples can improve their relationship when an addiction is present and how to identify when an addiction becomes an issue. He also explains what non-addicted partners can do to help themselves in a relationship involving addiction and how insight and awareness can help addicted partners learn to make better choices and decisions that are aligned with their life goals.
“When there’s an addiction in the relationship, it’s almost as if there’s a third-party that’s in the relationship.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How addictions often drive a wedge between partners.
- The importance of non-addicted partners seeking help, counseling, and treatment.
- What is Al-Anon and how it helps relationships involving addictions?
- Signs of co-dependence and how it impacts your relationship.
- How co-dependences tendencies impact future generations.
- The difference between judging a person judging the behavior.
- The importance of setting boundaries.
- The difference between advocating sobriety vs. advocating moderation.
- How addictions impact trust.
- The importance of staying disciplined and focused on the long-term goal when facing relapses.
- How periods of addiction relapses can help identify what is “lacking” in an addicted person’s life.
- How practicing mindfulness meditation can help non-addicted partners stay aligned with and empowered to hold their boundaries.
- Recognizing triggers that lead to addiction or relapse.
- How insight and awareness can help addicted partners make better choices that are in line with their life goals.
- How one person seeking help can lead others to do so as well.
Resources Mentioned:
- Al-Anon
- Headspace Meditation App
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Andy Bosley is the co-founder of Yellowroot Farm CSA. He is currently studying to become an electrician, focusing on residential solar power. His journey into Men’s Work initially began in 2004. Since then, he has become increasingly involved in projects that impact and improve the relationships men have with other men such as the ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure.
Andy joins me today to share his perspective on having healthy male relationships and how he became involved in projects like the ManKind Project. He shares his experience with the New Warrior Training Adventure and how it has impacted his relationships with other men in his life. We discuss the connection between a man’s feeling of self-worth and their feelings of inadequacy and expressions of anger. He also shares how the concept of shadow work and inner emotional work can impact a man’s relationship with their spouse, partner, or significant other as well as why women should encourage men to build healthy, authentic, and vulnerable connections with other men.
This episode will also help women that want to better understand men’s thoughts and feelings on a deeper, more intimate level.
“Feeling heard is a way of connecting.” - Andy Bosley
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- His experience with the ManKind Project and New Warrior Training Adventure.
- The importance of men getting comfortable with being vulnerable around other men.
- The difference between “male bonding” and “male connecting.”
- Understanding the pros and cons of “being right” vs. “being heard.”
- The Shadow Work Concept and how it drives change in male relationships.
- The connection between a man’s self-worth, feelings of inadequacy, and expressions of anger.
- Safe ways men can express their anger.
- How learning to safely express his anger has enriched his relationships.
- Why it is critical for men to find a safe space to be their authentic, vulnerable selves.
- How men can help other men overcome tendencies of grandiosity, narcissism, and depression.
- Why women should encourage men to build healthy connections with other men.
- How his relationship with his partner has benefitted from the Men’s Work experience.
- The difference between feeling guilty and feeling shameful.
- How the work he has done internally has impacted the way he connects with and raises his children.
- The importance of allowing children to realize their feelings and emotions are normal and acceptable.
- The impact that modeling healthy emotional behaviors can have on young men and children.
- What it means for men to be deprived of intimacy from other men - beyond the sexual identity aspect - and why it’s important for healthy male relationships.
Connect with Andy Bosley:
- Earthhaven Ecovillage
- Yellowroot Farm CSA
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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One of the most common complaints in distressed marriages, partnerships, and relationships is that one - or both - people feel as though the other is not really listening to them. Mastering the art of listening is a critical component for improving your communication skills - and ultimately - your ability to deepen your connection with your partner and the people around you. On today’s episode, I discuss the importance of honing your listening skills and how it can impact and improve your relationship with your partner as well as your friends, family, and colleagues. I explain what reflective listening is and how monitoring your self-talk can impact your ability to become a good listener for others. I also explain what it means to listen with empathy and how being present, curious, and interested in a conversation you are engaged in can impact the way the speaker feels as well as how it can help deepen the connection with them. “Listening and empathy skills are the hallmarks of good communicators.” - Pripo Teplitsky This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: * What is “true listening?” * How being authentically curious and interested in your partner impacts your listening skills. * What it means to “listen with the ears of the heart.” * How monitoring your self-talk during a conversation impacts your ability to be a present and empathetic listener. * How to become a reflective listener. * The difference between agreeing with the speaker vs. validating and acknowledging their experience and emotions. * The importance of eye contact. * Why it’s important to resist the temptation to engage your thoughts that might interrupt the speaker’s train of thought. * Resisting the urge to fill moments of silence. * The importance of being honest when you’re distracted during a conversation. * Getting clear on what the speaker expects from the listener. * The correlation between your listening skills and intimacy. * How breathing impacts your ability to listen and be present in a conversation. * How deep listening creates authentic connections between individuals and partners.
Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop Join Pripo and his beautiful wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive. To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398. Sponsored by Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before! Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372. Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®! Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media! Theme music provided by Adi the Monk
Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa in Asheville, North Carolina. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, music therapist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. He earned his master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a focus on Somatic Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner as well as a very talented didgeridoo player.
Corey joins me today to share how he is using sound and vibration as a tool to heal and transform the lives of those around him. He explains how sound helps in becoming more attune with your partner and its impact on the connection you build with them. He also explains how harmonics and vibrations influence partnerships, strategies to become more attuned to yourself as well as your partner, and how he uses the didgeridoo as a guided meditation tool in his philanthropic work.
“Attunement is a beautiful ingredient to the recipe of a successful relationship - and a successful life.” - Corey Costanzo
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- How he uses sound and healing as meditative tools to impact the healing and transformation process.
- Using the didgeridoo as a healing instrument in guided meditation sessions.
- The “Inside Out” meditation strategy and how it works.
- The history of the didgeridoo.
- How his guided meditation sessions with the didgeridoo at a men’s detention center helped transform the lives of incarcerated men and trauma sufferers.
- The connection between emotional attunement and harmonic attunement.
- How attunement can be positive or negative.
- How being attuned to yourself - your knowing, alignment, and groundedness - impacts your ability to be attuned to others.
- Strategies to become attuned to yourself, your energy, and your personal space.
- The power of mental imagery, visualization techniques, and self-attunement.
- Designing your life with awareness and thought through mindfulness and attunement techniques.
Resources Mentioned:
- Touch the Sound Documentary
- Ear Hustle Podcast
- Light A Path Organization
- Asheville Community Yoga
- The Effects of Mental Imagery on Free Throw Performance study by The College at Brockport: State University of New York
Connect with Corey Costanzo:
- Still Point Wellness
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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One of the most powerful ways of showing your love and deepening the connection of your relationships is through the power of appreciation. Research studies have shown that it takes at least five positive interactions in a relationship to every one negative interaction for a spouse, partner, or significant other to truly feel appreciated. Today, many couples struggle to share and receive deep appreciation - for a variety of reasons.
So, how can we strengthen the emotional connections we share with our loved ones? How do you begin showing your appreciation for the people around you if you’ve never been given a positive example to model and emulate?
On today’s episode, I explain how sharing your appreciation for those around you - as well as being open to receiving it - can impact the way we connect with others and the world around us. I explain how feeling appreciated can impact your health as well as your intimate relationship with your spouse and how the power of appreciation can impact a couple’s ability to communicate better, cope with challenging issues, and repair conflicts. I also share practical strategies you can use to begin improving your relationships through the power of appreciation.
“Appreciation is like the vitamins in a couple’s immune system.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The importance of appreciating things in the moment - instead of waiting until it’s too late.
- The “Zap Out” technique and how it helps inspire and encourage feelings of appreciation.
- Why being authentic about your appreciation for others is critical for the receiver to feel appreciated.
- How feeling appreciated impacts your health and the “feel-good” hormones, oxytocin and serotonin.
- What is “The Couple Bubble” and how it impacts your personal
- How grounding the connection of your relationships in appreciation can help couples cope with challenges, communicate better, and repair conflicts.
- How giving and receiving appreciation can impact a couple’s intimacy and sexual desire.
- What is “Appreciation HeartShares,” how the exercise can be used to positivity impact your relationships, and why you should do it regularly.
- How focusing on negativity blocks your ability to show appreciation.
- Why parents should model appreciation for - and with - their children.
- Strategies for consistently practicing the art of appreciation.
- The impact of using positive interactions and endearing, loving names during moments of conflict.
- Why it’s critical to be specific when sharing your appreciation for others.
- How writing - and speaking - your appreciation for others can empower and deepen your relationship.
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Lee Warren is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women’s issues. She is the co-founder, designer, and builder of Earthaven Ecovillage, an off-grid, sustainable-built, co-housing neighborhood in Black Mountain, North Carolina. She is the founder and Manager of Imani Farm, a 5-acre pasture-based co-op farm as well as the Managing Partner of S.O.I.L. - the School of Integrated Living - which teaches organic food production, regenerated systems, and community living.
Lee joins me today to discuss the dynamics of monogamous and alternative relationships, why she believes many first-marriages often result in divorce and the importance of being open to experimentation and exploring new possibilities. We discuss the difference between open relationships and polyamory and the qualities that make up healthy, loving, and successful relationships. She explains why she believes there’s a lack of abundance regarding love, touch, sexual expression, and sensuality in today’s society and culture. She also explains how your intrapersonal relationship impacts your interpersonal relationships and how “emotional foreplay” can improve relational communication and understanding between men and women.
“We need to be experimenting on every level.” - Lee Warren
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- Her perspective on monogamous and alternative relationships.
- Divorce statistics involving monogamous marriages.
- Values and qualities of successful relationships.
- The difference between open relationships and polyamory.
- How much of your needs should be met by your primary partner?
- Finding rich, diverse, loving relationships without involving the sexuality factor.
- Why she believes we live in a culture of ‘lack’ regarding love, touch, sexual expression, and sensuality.
- How the primary partnership relationship model can sometimes contract the feeling of freedom.
- How society, culture, and economics incentivizes being in a nuclear family.
- Intentional communities and how they inspire and encourage experimentation and explore new possibilities.
- How community-life inspires a culture of sharing, openness, and experimentation.
- What are the “Zones of Intimacy” and how they relate to the relationships we develop?
- Skills we need to teach the younger generations to improve the relational evolution.
- Why intrapersonal relationships are critical for developing successful interpersonal relationships.
- Why men and women need to understand how each gender processes thoughts and feelings and how it can improve your relationships.
- What “emotional foreplay” is and how it can impact your relational communication.
- The benefits of having a primary, monogamous relationship without living together and how it affects the relationship dynamics.
Resources:
- How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo
Connect with Lee Warren:
- Earthaven Ecovillage
- Imani Farm
- O.I.L - School of Integrated Living
Sponsored by Still Point Wellness
Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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Relationships are critical for creating a healthy, happy, and fulfilling life. They are all around us - from the people we interact with on a day-to-day basis to the animals and nature in our environment. Our relationships are built on the connections we forge with the people, places, and things in our life - whether that be the connections with our friends and family, our pets, or the emotional bonds we tie to items such as heirloom effects that have been passed down from generation to generation.
On today’s episode, I share who I am, my background, and why I decided to launch the Relationships! Let’s Talk About It podcast. I share what you can expect from each episode and guest conversation featured on the show as well as my intention to help more people forge deeper, more meaningful, and authentic relationships with those around them. I also explain what it truly means to build deep connections with your spouse or significant other as well as tips on how to forge more meaningful connections within your relationships.
“You cannot connect with somebody else if you are disconnected from yourself.” - Pripo Teplitsky
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
- The impact that building connections can have on your relationships.
- How being authentic and vulnerable leads to creating deeper connections and more meaningful relationships.
- How your self-worth and self-compassion impacts the connections you forge with those around you.
- The impact of creating eye-contact while building connections and relationships.
- How hand-holding creates a deeper connection with your spouse or significant other.
- The role that compatibility plays on your relationships.
- The importance of listening and being present with your partner.
- The impact that playing and participating in fun activities with your partner can have on your connection and relationship.
- How showing appreciation of yourself and those around you helps develop stronger bonds throughout your relationships.
Sponsored by StillPoint Wellness
StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation, also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!
Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.
Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!
Let’s Talk About It!
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!
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