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Jeremiah and Mallory Campbell
Jeremiah and Mallory believe everyone deserves to live a life un-stuck. In each episode you’ll hear real conversations, interviews, and tangible takeaways on how to live intentionally. This show is solely driven to help you overcome your limited beliefs so you can show up as the the person you’re "Destined To Be".
Do you and your significant other have a mismatched desire for sex?
It’s common for one person in a relationship to want to ‘bake cookies’ more often than their partner. But it can cause conflict if you’re not willing to be vulnerable and communicate what’s going on for you.
So, what causes our sex drive to ramp up or slow down? And what can couples do to bring their sexual desire into harmony?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to navigate a mismatched desire for sex in your relationship.
We explore the danger in shaming your partner when their sex drive differs from your own, challenging you to communicate what you want and listen with empathy to whatever your partner is going through.
Listen in to understand what’s behind a compulsion for sex and learn how to create the time and space for both you and your partner to feel fulfilled in the bedroom!
Key Takeaways How to deal with mismatched sex drives in your relationship
Why sex was Jeremiah’s go-to for so long and his attitude toward anyone who didn’t want it all the time
The relationship between the compulsion for sex and seeking approval from your partner
What couples can do to bring their sexual desire into harmony
Jeremiah’s advice for men on communicating what they want in the bedroom
The danger in shaming your partner when their sexual desire differs from your own
How to create the time and environment for you and your partner to feel fulfilled
What women can do when they’ve been caring for children all day and don’t want to be touched
The subconscious impact sexual trauma has on your libido
How sexy it is to listen with empathy and hold space for whatever your partner is going through
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It’s common for one person in a relationship to want to ‘bake cookies’ more often than their partner. But it can cause conflict if you’re not willing to be vulnerable and communicate what’s going on for you.
So, what causes our sex drive to ramp up or slow down? And what can couples do to bring their sexual desire into harmony?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to navigate a mismatched desire for sex in your relationship.
We explore the danger in shaming your partner when their sex drive differs from your own, challenging you to communicate what you want and listen with empathy to whatever your partner is going through.
Listen in to understand what’s behind a compulsion for sex and learn how to create the time and space for both you and your partner to feel fulfilled in the bedroom!
Key Takeaways How to deal with mismatched sex drives in your relationship
Why sex was Jeremiah’s go-to for so long and his attitude toward anyone who didn’t want it all the time
The relationship between the compulsion for sex and seeking approval from your partner
What couples can do to bring their sexual desire into harmony
Jeremiah’s advice for men on communicating what they want in the bedroom
The danger in shaming your partner when their sexual desire differs from your own
How to create the time and environment for you and your partner to feel fulfilled
What women can do when they’ve been caring for children all day and don’t want to be touched
The subconscious impact sexual trauma has on your libido
How sexy it is to listen with empathy and hold space for whatever your partner is going through
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Resources Imago Dialogue
Do you think you’re too busy to spend time with your partner?
Between running our own businesses and the responsibilities of parenting, our schedules are packed. But we still find time to make our relationship a priority.
What does that look like? And why is it so important?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the emotional intimacy that comes from spending time with your partner and describe how making your relationship a priority improves other aspects of your life.
We explain what it means to balance independence with togetherness in a marriage and explore how healing yourself as an individual affects your relationship with your significant other.
Listen in for insight on modeling the kind of relationship you want for your children and learn how to let your partner know they’re worth it by scheduling intentional time together.
Key Takeaways How building a solid relationship impacts your parenting and business
What it means to balance independence vs. togetherness in your relationship
The danger in relying on your partner to fix your stuff or make you happy
Why it’s crucial to have a shared vision of the future with your partner
What it looks like to make time with your partner a priority and why it’s important
Why you should model the kind of relationship you want for your kids
The value of demonstrating conflict resolution in front of your children
How healing as an individual affects your relationship with your significant other
The emotional intimacy that comes from spending time with your partner
How to let your partner know they’re worth it by scheduling time together
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Resources Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
Conflict is just part of life. You can’t avoid it.
But you can navigate conflict effectively to repair and even grow your relationship.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our approach to resolving conflict in our relationship, describing how our internal battles impact the way we interact with others.
We explain what happens when you allow conflict to fester in your body and why couples get nowhere when we try to resolve conflict in a heightened emotional state.
Listen in for insight on recognizing the patterns of conflict in your relationship and learn how to be curious rather than critical when your partner loses their sh*t.
Key Takeaways The relationship between conflict and our conditioned beliefs
How we create internal conflict when we blame circumstances or others for our problems
How internal battles impact our health and the way we interact with others
Why it’s only possible to repair conflict in a relationship when your nervous system is regulated
How different people react to conflict differently, e.g.: get angry or shut down
What happens when you allow conflict to fester in your body
Why it’s crucial to repair internal AND external conflict to grow in your relationship
How couples get nowhere when we try to resolve conflict in a heightened emotional state
How to develop an awareness of the patterns of conflict in your relationship
The value in asking your partner what they need when they’re triggered
How to have compassion for yourself when you lose your sh*t
How to be curious rather than critical in your approach to conflict
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"Holding space and creating that is probably one of the most important things that your partner doesn't know that they need." - Jeremiah Campbell
Have you ever wondered if you are cultivating a thriving and lasting relationship with your partner?
You might think you are, but you might be overlooking some things that could help you more effectively support each other's growth—things your partner doesn't even know they need that could help you uncover unexplored depths of love and connection in your relationship.
Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're sharing some transformative insights from our couple's mastermind work. We'll guide you through thought-provoking questions that will empower you with the tools to have the meaningful conversations that foster true connection.
Jeremiah reveals the crucial element that holds the key to lasting connection and the secret that will transform your partnership. While Mallory shares the sneaky behaviors that create a disconnect and an energy leak in your relationship that can lead to significant distance between you and your partner. Plus, the one thing you aren't asking your partner that could be the key to supporting their self-growth.
Listen in as we explore the significance of open conversations in assessing the current state of your changing roles, the power of small gestures and micro-moments to fortify and deepen your connection, and other tips and insights to enhance your relationship.
This is just a preview of the types of transformative discussions we delve into in our couple’s mastermind. If you want a deeper exploration that will strengthen and support your relationship, our next couple’s mastermind is COMING SOON! Connect with Jeremiah or Mallory on Instagram to learn more, and remember to spread the word to others who might benefit from listening to the show.
Key Takeaways The secret to captivating social media content
The sneaky behaviors that are stifling your connection
The power of uncomfortable conversations in relationships
The key to supporting your partner's desires
The #1 factor that will help you and your partner unlock LONGTERM relationship success
How to support the evolving roles in your relationship to sustain your love for the long-haul
6 ways to supercharge your relationship and foster personal growth for BOTH partners
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What are boundaries?
Boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with—they reflect your self-awareness and your understanding of what aligns with your values.
Setting boundaries is an essential practice that empowers us to create a safe and healthy environment for ourselves, promoting greater personal well-being and more fulfilling relationships.
But we must be specific and self-aware to establish boundaries that truly serve us.
Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're diving deep into boundaries and shedding light on the importance of setting (and upholding) boundaries that align with our core values and personal well-being.
Mallory provides valuable insights on the various types of boundaries and practical tips for protecting yourself from absorbing negative energy. While Jeremiah shares his perspective on boundaries, specifically in the area of time management and setting clear boundaries to prevent others from encroaching on your valuable time. Plus, how to help your children set boundaries that protect them.
Listen in to discover how boundaries can enhance your self-respect, strengthen your relationships, and help you pave the way for more personal growth and fulfillment.
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Key Takeaways How boundaries help define how you want to be treated by others
The 3 crucial elements of setting boundaries
The one thing that hinders boundary setting
The most challenging boundaries to set (hint: this one is essential for personal growth)
How identifying core values can help you make decisions that align with your energy
The most potent boundary setting practice
How setting physical boundaries can help promote autonomy (hint: this is VITAL for your children)
Why it’s vital to your emotional well-being to shield yourself from carrying others' emotional baggage
The most significant benefit of setting time boundaries and limiting your commitments
Getting past the discomfort of communicating your boundaries to break generational patterns
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When I discovered the book Be: A No-Bullsht Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself*, I dreamed of one day going to the author’s agency for a deep dive into my brand.
Two years later, we’re returning from a VIP branding session with Jessica Zweig and her team. And the experience was transformative for me as an individual as well as our relationship.
But what do you do if you’re changing, and it brings up uncomfortable feelings for your partner? Or if your partner’s transformation brings up uncomfortable feelings for you?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss what it looks like when you’re open to receiving a new version of your partner after a personal development retreat or an event like Jessica’s.
We explain what to do if your partner is triggered by your growth and describe the challenge of developing a relationship with your emotions—especially for men.
Listen in for insight on acknowledging your emotions as an indicator that something needs to change and learn how to identify what you need and ask for it rather than avoiding your feelings.
Key Takeaways How Mallory discovered Jessica Zweig’s branding book Be
Mallory’s dream of going to Jessica’s agency for a branding session
How Mallory got to do an 8-hour VIP branding session with Jessica and her team
Why we acknowledge our relationship as a third entity that’s open to growth and healing
How Mallory’s VIP day impacted her individually and at the relationship level
What it looks like when you’re open to receiving a new version of your partner
What to do if your partner is triggered when you come home from an event
The challenge of developing a relationship with your emotions (especially for men)
The consequences of getting stuck in or avoiding your feelings
How emotions are an indicator that something in your life needs to change
Our advice for men on how to identify what you need and ask for it
How to be present for your partner without trying to fix them
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Resources Be: A No-Bullsht Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself* by Jessica Zweig
Jessica Zweig’s Claim Your Light Retreat
Have you ever found yourself resisting the very essence of what makes us human?
Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're having a candid conversation about the fascinating realm of feelings inside each of us and the love-hate relationship almost all of us have with our own emotions.
We'll share the history of our personal deep-seated fears and the painful emotions we've encountered during the evolution of our emotional state. And we'll discuss the impact of doing this inner work, both separately and together, in helping us learn to regulate our emotions in healthier ways and overcome our fears.
Plus, listen in as Jeremiah shares the personal impact of June 19th on his life and how he's turned tragedy into a mission to change (and save) lives.
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Key Takeaways The message Jeremiah’s aunt shared with him and why he’s running drugs out of town in honor of his little brother's 34th Birthday
The purpose of feelings as indicators that something is out of alignment
Why mindset changes alone may not always be effective in achieving emotional well-being
How panic attacks and emotional regulation go together
The importance of releasing judgment of oneself and embracing personal freedom and truth
How to release deep-seated fears and painful emotions from the body through somatic work
The power of a partner who is willing to engage in inner work and self-growth
The impact of learning to regulate emotions in healthier ways to overcome fear
The significance of connecting with your body to understand what it wants to experience each day
How mirroring can be used to help your partner navigate their challenges and fears
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"In order to build proper emotional intimacy, you need to start with emotional trust," - Jeremiah Campbell
What does emotional trust mean to you?
According to Google, "emotional trust refers to the confidence and reliance we have in someone to understand, validate, and respect our emotions. It involves feeling secure and comfortable in expressing our feelings, knowing that the other person will be supportive and empathetic without judgment or interruption."
Emotional trust is essential for building emotional intimacy and involves creating a secure and non-judgmental space for sharing emotions.
Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're delving deep into the significance of emotional trust, vulnerability, and open communication as essential elements for deepening your relationship.
Jeremiah shares his personal experiences and insights on the role of self-growth in fostering emotional trust. And Mallory reflects on her journey in the relationship, highlighting the challenges women face in expressing themselves and the key components that go into creating a safe space for a deeper connection.
Listen in to embark on a path of trust-building, self-discovery, and open communication to foster a stronger, more fulfilling connection with YOUR partner.
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Key Takeaways The vital importance of open communication and verbalizing your needs in your relationship (even if they can't always be met)
The distinction between desires and needs in a relationship
The significance of vulnerability in building connections, whether in friendships or romantic partnerships
How "I" statements help to express feelings without blame
How recognizing and understanding personal triggers and past experiences contribute to healing and growth in relationships
Two things to consider when opening a vulnerable discussion with your significant other
The key things that hinder the level of trust necessary for open emotional expression and how to circumvent them to create a safe space for each partner
How uncovering and addressing past triggers and their influence can lead to greater understanding and healing in relationships
How healing yourself can open the door to more personal growth and transformation in your relationship
The crucial elements needed for building trust (and why they might be different for each of you)
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In the past four episodes, we've been taking listeners on a walk through our life journey. You can find the links in the resources section below to listen to Parts 1-4 of our story.
In today's episode, we're candidly sharing the challenges we've faced in multiple mastermind group experiences —including burnout and a lack of substantial progress—and why taking time to reflect on what you learn from these high-level experiences is vital for implementation.
Mallory opens up about her personal journey of discovering her coaching program and the courageous decision to leave pursuits that no longer resonated with her true path, and Jeremiah shares the behind-the-scenes of the once-in-a-lifetime experience he's currently undergoing with the world-famous tattoo artist Fabio "Snake" D'Amato, from Brazil.
Listen in to witness the power of leaving behind what no longer serves your purpose and the keys to personal growth, fearless transformation, and unleashing your true potential.
Don't miss this episode as we continue to share our story and provide invaluable insights into living a life of purpose, growth, and meaningful connections.
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Key Takeaways Why surrounding yourself with game-changers always elevates your growth (regardless of your current status)
How to unlock your personal and professional development by effectively integrating and applying knowledge gained from mastermind groups
Slow Down—why jumping from one group to another only hinders your progress
How to cultivate personal growth through embracing rest and delving into the power of self-care
The power of leaving behind what no longer serves your purpose
How integrating and respecting individual purposes can create thriving and fulfilling relationships
How to embrace the transformative power of presence and navigate your emotions to unleash your true potential
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Resources Part 1- How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227
Part 2 - How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228
Part 3 - We Didn't Know What We Didn't Know
Part 4 - From Resistance to Reinvention: The Power of Personal Development in Achieving Success
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In the past three episodes, we've been taking listeners on a walk through our journey, from how we met through how we built the soul-level trust we have today and reflecting on our choices and their impact on our lives.
In today's episode, we want to take this journey a step further, recounting the pivotal moments, chance encounters, and conscious decisions that have shaped who we are today, and propelled us forward to finding our true passion in coaching,
Listen in as we delve into the challenges we faced within our families, our foray into the luxury property market, and the career-changing decisions that transformed our trajectory. We'll also candidly discuss our initial resistance towards our current lifestyle and the investment we made in personal development that allowed us to make the right connections and paved the way for remarkable success.
Tune in to find out how discovering your passion and aligning your work with your values fuel purposeful living. We'll also unveil the number one way to unlock endless possibilities in life. Tune in as we explore the impact of pursuing dreams, navigating resistance, the power of intentional decisions, and how our experiences continually influence our present and open up new possibilities for the future.
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Key Takeaways How mastermind groups and meeting high-level individuals can contribute to your growth and reinvention of your life
The power of serendipity in forming impactful connections
How pivotal moments in life can shape personal growth and transformation
The key to recognizing the significance of individual paths intersecting and diverging
How discovering your passion and aligning work with values fuels purposeful living
The #1 way to unlock possibilities in life
How our journeys continually influence our present and open up new possibilities for the future
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Resources Part 1- How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227
Part 2 - How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228
Part 3 - We Didn't Know What We Didn't Know
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The past two episodes have been a rewind back in time, offering our listeners an opportunity to get to know us better.
In Part One, we gave you a peek into how we met, and in the last episode, we shared how we started dating and shared some of the volatile moments early on in our relationship and how we worked through those things to build the soul-level trust we have today.
Today, we’re delving deeper and sharing more of our story, reflecting on our personal journey, challenges, and growth.
Jeremiah recounts his triumphant story of overcoming addiction and highlights a recent talk he gave at a 63rd anniversary 12 Step meeting. Mallory opens up about her personal journey through her fitness studio and her battle with postpartum depression.
We'll reflect back on the choices we have made and the profound impact those choices have had on our lives, emphasizing the significance of creating a safe space, trusting the process, the importance of intuition, letting go of attachments, and the role of emotions in highlighting areas that need attention.
Listen in as we explore the impact of our experiences, both positive and negative, and how we’ve gracefully transitioned through the various seasons of life to arrive at where we are today.
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Key Takeaways The misconception that there is a definitive moment when one becomes an adult and has everything figured out
Mallory’s growth journey from personal training and a successful studio through postpartum depression and competing in bodybuilding shows and the challenges she faced during those times
The importance of discussing postpartum depression openly to help others who may be going through the same experience
The loss of close relationships, including with Mallory's parents, and the difficulty of navigating those situations
The importance of creating a safe space in your relationship
Why boundaries are so crucial to your personal growth
The importance of trusting the process that everything is unfolding as it is meant to
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Resources How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227
How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228
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When we first started dating, Jeremiah was still struggling with addiction.
But we both knew that we had found our person, so there was no other option than to support each other no matter what.
And we gave each other the space to have our own lives while we dated, affording ourselves the autonomy we needed through our late teens and early 20s.
Last week on the podcast, we began the story of us, explaining how we met and found a safe place in each other as friends despite very different upbringings.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how we started dating when Jeremiah was three months sober from his third rehab and describe some of the volatile moments early on in our relationship.
We share our intuitive knowing that we would be together for the long term and how that made us choose each other through Jeremiah’s relapses.
Listen in for insight on the soul level of trust we share—and how it helped Jeremiah get sober once and for all—and learn how to hold space for your partner as you make the deep internal shifts that will take you both to the next level!
Key Takeaways How they started dating when Jeremiah was 3 months sober from his third rehab and some of the volatile moments they had early in the relationship
Why Mallory didn’t realize Jeremiah had relapsed 5 months into their relationship and how they grew close during that time
Mallory and Jeremiah’s intuitive knowing that they would be together for the long term
Why Mallory’s parents made her choose between dating Jeremiah or living with them
What caused the conflict between Mallory and Jeremiah’s parents shortly before his fifth trip to rehab
How Jeremiah and Mallory gave each other the space to have their own lives while they were dating (and why that was invaluable to Jeremiah’s sobriety)
The soul level of trust Mallory and Jeremiah share and where it comes from
What allows Jeremiah and Mallory to accept and love each other for who they are
How Jeremiah and Mallory hold space for each other to make the deep internal shifts that will take them to the next level
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Resources Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, MD, PhD
How a flat tire in the driveway led to a 17-year relationship—and a happy marriage.
In this FUN flashback episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, we, Jeremiah and Mallory, share our coming-of-age and coming-together story with our listeners, giving you a BTS peek at our past and a chance to get to know us better.
We'll take you through our different upbringings, struggles with addiction, steps toward sobriety, and how we found a safe place in each other despite our different backgrounds.
From wild teenage parties to nights spent at the bowling alley, we'll walk you through how our past experiences shaped our lives and how we pushed through the setbacks and ultimately fell in love.
In addition to the personal stories and anecdotes, this episode offers inspiration and insights on overcoming challenges and building a successful relationship.
Tune in for our story that is a testament to the power of perseverance and the idea that sometimes, the greatest love stories are born out of the most unexpected circumstances.
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Key Takeaways: How Jeremiah and Mallory's contrasting upbringings and backgrounds helped shape who they are today
Jeremiah shares personal stories about his first love, his parent's divorce, and building an external identity to feel good about himself
Struggles with addiction and attempts at sobriety before finding success
How finding a safe place in each other helped Jeremiah and Mallory to overcome their struggles and grow together
The powerful coaching metaphor about burning bridges and taking risks Jeremiah uses with his clients
The safe place that kept Mallory and Jeremiah out of trouble during their wild teenage years
The nickname that Mallory and her friends gave Jeremiah (and its deeper meaning)
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Early in our personal development journey, we were all about the grind. Pushing ourselves forward to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, personally and professionally.
But we’ve realized that when we’re in extreme alignment, when our goals support our core values, resilience comes easy.
So, what is the connection between RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT? How does designing goals around your purpose and personal fulfillment help you navigate adversity?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other, helping you stay in momentum and take action to achieve the goals that matter to you.
I describe how to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses, sharing examples of what it looks like to assess an area of your business and leverage failure to propel you forward.
Listen in to understand how confidence comes from personal conviction and learn how ALIGNMENT and RESILIENCE work together to move you closer to the life you want!
Key Takeaways How we define RESILIENCE as the way we navigate challenges or adversity
Why it’s crucial to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses
How reframing problems as challenges helps us find solutions
Jeremiah’s assessment of the return on ad spend in his business and why he’s excited (not angry) about increasing its visibility
How to design goals that align with your purpose and personal fulfillment
Why making the wrong choice is better than doing nothing at all
How to make decisions in ALIGNMENT with your core values and why it’s important
What it means to make your failures mean something and leverage them to propel you forward
How RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other and keep us in momentum
How confidence comes from passion and conviction in yourself
The danger in comparing yourself with others and how that impacts your resilience
What Jeremiah does to put his intentions out into the universe
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Resources Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
Andy Frisella
If you want to continue to grow and embody the person your creator meant you to be, you can’t keep doing the same thing.
But creating lasting change is not easy.
So, how do you change your relationship with unpredictability and learn to welcome something new? What does it look like to challenge what the future holds?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how to create lasting change by making decisions in the present and why embracing change is necessary for your growth and transformation.
I share my experience with quieting down my thoughts and questioning my subconscious beliefs, challenging you to explore how your thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering.
Listen in for insight around honoring who you are (even in the face of criticism) and learn how to find the safety you need to challenge what the future holds!
Key Takeaways How to create peace around the past by changing your perception in the present
How to create lasting change by making decisions in the present moment
What it looks like to quiet down your thoughts and challenge your subconscious beliefs
How our thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering
What happens when you push too far outside your window of tolerance
How to change your relationship with unpredictability and welcome something new
Why embracing change is necessary for growth and transformation
How anxiety and excitement create the same feelings in your body
The 2 questions that change the way I interact with others and increase my impact
What it looks like to honor who you are in the face of criticism
How stress and anxiety come from avoiding decisions you need to make
The relationship between finding safety and challenging what the future holds
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Resources Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
We used to pursue goals out of desperation, fighting our way forward to achieve the things we were supposed to.
But in the last couple of years, we made a shift. We’ve started to set goals from a place of inspiration, identifying what it is we really want and moving forward with more ease.
So, how do you go about setting inspired goals?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value of defining your core values first and then setting inspired goals that align with your purpose.
We explain how grinding toward a goal leads to burnout, describing the stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation.
Listen in to understand how it feels in the body when your goals are in alignment and learn how to foster self-acceptance as you transition from desperation to inspired action!
Key Takeaways Why we suggest defining your core values first and then setting goals that are in alignment
What differentiates goals that come from a place of inspiration vs. desperation
Why it’s nearly impossible to manifest inspired goals with a heightened nervous system
How pursuing goals from a place of hustle and grind leads to burnout
Why it’s easier to seek external validation than it is to foster self-acceptance
How to distinguish what you really want from what other people think you should be doing
The stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation
What it feels like in your body when you’re pursuing inspired goals
How your life transforms when you tap into your God-given gift or superpower
What it looks like to make decisions from a truthful, soul-connected place
Why we’re EXCITED about the challenges that come with inspired goals (not stressed or worried)
How to hold space for your partner as they shift from goals of desperation to inspiration
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Resources Mallory’s Viral Instagram Post
Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Thomas E. Kida
Rob Dyrdek
Do you feel stuck? Have you been repeating the same patterns over and over?
Maybe you've been focusing on mindset tools and positive thinking, but you aren't making the progress you would like to.
Sometimes these patterns keep repeating themselves, and they have nowhere to go. They become stuck inside the body and must be expressed verbally or audibly to create a release and move the energy through.
So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?
On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of finding supportive relationships and community to help you navigate challenging times in your growth journey. She also emphasizes the value of going beyond mindset work and tapping into deeper levels of self to overcome internal misalignments.
Mallory shares her personal experience of going through a challenging time in her own growth journey and the practices she's developed that have helped her break through her blocks.
Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to embrace stillness and self-care practices, connect with their subconscious and seek out soul-level relationships to help them move through challenges and reach the next level of their growth journey.
If you resonate with this episode and are seeking a soul family or deeper connection, you're not alone; resources and communities are available to support you. Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.
Key Takeaways The challenge of creating a stillness practice (hint, it’s not what you think)
Feeling stuck and repeating the same patterns may be a sign it’s time to explore more in-body practices
Why it's essential to find a community or a person who can hold space for you to express yourself without judgment or giving unsolicited advice
The key to exploring your deeper subconscious self to find what you need
Why it's important to celebrate and acknowledge yourself for the progress you've made in your growth journey
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"The first part of the law of attraction is to calm your ass down, take deep breaths, and slow your roll in order to attract things. When you can do that properly, things will start showing up in your life."
We all want more success, happiness, and abundance, but our stress and an imbalanced nervous system often prevent us from achieving the calm state necessary to manifest our desires.
On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah shares powerful insights on how to attract positive outcomes into your life.
Walking us through his own experience and practice, Jeremiah offers practical tips on creating calmness in your life, achieving inner peace, and ultimately manifesting the life you truly desire. Plus, he shares why it’s important to discern who you take advice from and how minimizing negative influences and being present can create space for growth.
Don't forget to take a deep breath, slow your roll, and listen in to Jeremiah's powerful insights on attracting positive outcomes into your life.
Key Takeaways Why identifying our strengths and weaknesses—including our blind spots—is crucial for personal growth
How to connect with our true selves (and sidestep getting caught up in fears and assumptions)
Why you should only take advice from individuals who are abundant in their personal and spiritual lives
Why the acceptance and releasing of emotions is essential to personal growth (and avoiding destructive behavior)
How being in your body can help you process your emotions so you can create space for something new
How setting small micro-goals leads to lasting change
The #1 step in attracting positive things into your life
The law of attraction is about vibration and frequency and assuming that positive things will happen
The law of assumption is about having faith in one's destiny and being open to opportunities when they arise
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A lot of time, people will say that they are angry—but even when that is the emotion you think you are feeling, it’s often a cover-up for deeper feelings like hurt, sadness, or shame. By identifying and addressing these underlying emotions, you can make progress toward resolving your issues.
So, how can you uncover and address the underlying emotions masked by anger to make progress toward resolving issues and avoid getting stuck in a negative emotional state? On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah and Mallory dive deeper into the topic of anger and explore ways to manage and cope with this powerful emotion. They share how the fight, flight, freeze, or fun (appeasing or people-pleasing) responses can arise when one's nervous system becomes dysregulated and how to create the awareness needed to keep from becoming stuck in these reactive states.
Listen in as they discuss the importance of testing boundaries in relationships (while staying within a safe container) and the need for each partner to recognize and regulate their emotions in order to have healthy relationships. Plus, practical tips for supporting your partner when they are in a dysregulated state.
Key Takeaways The importance of being aware of and regulating our nervous systems to avoid becoming dysregulated
Why anger is often a cover-up emotion for deeper feelings (and why we need to identify and address those underlying emotions)
The role of the ego in keeping us stuck in a negative emotional state (and how our body can help us get unstuck)
How to grow in your relationship in a safe and healthy way for both partners
How to express anger in a healthy way The importance of healthy communication during heated moments in relationships
How to regulate your emotions so you can create space for productive conversations in relationships
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One of the biggest challenges many of us face is identifying our true needs. If you're experiencing burnout and struggling to keep up with everything, it could be a sign that you need to prioritize rest and create more space in your life. This will help you recharge and move forward in your personal growth journey.
So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?
On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of figuring out what you need in order to move towards greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment. She highlights the challenge of pinpointing our needs, especially when we feel exhausted and drained.
Creating space is key to nurturing your well-being, but it looks different for everyone. Mallory shares her experience of transitioning from the hustle mentality in her career and personal life to creating space in her schedule and physical environment for the true self-care of her soul.
Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to lean into their intuition and ask themselves what they need in order to find their own sacred space for their well-being for greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment.
Are you interested in diving deeper into this topic? Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.
Key Takeaways Why it's essential to understand how your past experiences affect your present
The key to true alignment (and becoming comfortable with ALL parts of yourself)
How listening to your body can help regulate your nervous system and emotions
How the integration of both masculine and feminine energies leads to balance and productivity
The key component to better understanding precisely what energies you need to balance
How to ask for what you need to create room to recharge
Why "self-care" should go beyond maintenance to get to what your soul needs
How to remove judgment around your need for rest (hint: it takes practice)
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"For a long time, we prioritized our individual pursuits and subscribed to the hustle culture, but we've learned that being present and having fun together can shift our energy and bring us to a whole new level of being. It's not just a nice-to-have; it's a necessity for a thriving relationship."
Many couples fall into the trap of prioritizing individual responsibilities and neglecting the importance of having fun together. In the early years of our relationship, we led very separate lives, focused on our individual businesses and hobbies, and only realized later how much we were missing out on. Now, as we delve deeper into our seasons, spirituality, and witness each other in new ways, we've discovered the transformative power of incorporating play and enjoyment into our relationship. It's a game-changer.
So, how can you infuse more play and joy into your relationship?
On this episode of the “Destined To Be” podcast, Jeremiah and Mallory discuss the significance of play and how they incorporate it into their own lives and relationship. They'll share their secrets, such as focusing on intimate connections, creating a sacred space at home, and setting boundaries on certain activities. Plus, how they make time for each other and their children and create 24-hour experiences that keep the fun alive. Listen in as they share their approach to incorporating fun and play in their lives, taking you through the small steps you can take to bring more joy and laughter into your own routine.
Key Takeaways How prioritizing fun activities with your partner can strengthen your bond and bring you closer together
The biggest benefits (less stress, more creativity) of incorporating play into your daily life
How small steps towards incorporating play into your routine can have a significant impact on your overall well-being
How simple moments of playful banter can open the door to more connection
How creating a sacred space in your home can promote stillness and spiritual connection for you and your partner
Exploring new activities with your partner can bring you closer than ever before, creating memorable experiences and strengthening your bond
Why it’s important to create boundaries around certain activities to help maintain a sense of safety and comfort in your relationship
How making time for each other, alone and with your children, can help create lasting memories and strengthen your bond
How to make time for fun and play with 24-hour experiences that cultivate intimacy
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How do you define success?
For our friend Kelly Siegel, what it means to be successful has evolved over time. At the beginning of his personal development journey, success was about getting sober and escaping poverty.
But today, Kelly sees success as the fulfillment of his purpose on this earth.
Kelly is the CEO of National Technology Management and the creator of Harder Than Life, a platform dedicated to helping people develop self-awareness, improve their health and grow their business.
He is also a keynote speaker and author of Harder Than Life: Overcoming Poverty, Addiction and Violence.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing Jeremiah’s conversation with Kelly around the evolution of success from Kelly’s new show, The Harder Than Life Podcast.
Kelly and Jeremiah describe their struggles with substance abuse and how they got sober, discussing what to do if you’re seeking something more—but feel stuck in a certain phase of your life.
Kelly offers advice to those of us who let our ego run our day, walking us through his process for responding to perceived rejection and moving closer to self-love.
Listen in for insight on the myth of work-life balance and learn why success is directly correlated with your ability to be uncomfortable!
Key Takeaways How Jeremiah defines success as evolving to be better than you were the day before
Kelly & Jeremiah’s respective struggles with substance abuse and how they each got sober
How to build the habit of cutting out the noise and listening to yourself
How Jeremiah leverages the Law of Attraction to show up with confidence and know that what’s out there is his for the taking
What to do if you’re seeking but stuck in a certain phase of your life
Kelly & Jeremiah’s advice to anyone who’s letting their ego run their day
How contrasting attachment styles cause challenges in a marriage
The myth of work-life balance and how self-love improves your relationships and business
Jeremiah’s struggle with being motivated by what other people thought about him
Jeremiah’s universal law of not taking yourself too seriously
What inspired Jeremiah’s charity and how it’s changing the stigma around addiction
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Resources Harder Than Life: Overcoming Poverty, Addiction and Violence by Kelly Siegel
Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, MD, PhD
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Rob Dyrdek
Stutz
Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament by Michael A. Singer
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
Attached: Are You Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the Science of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page
Ed Mylett
Tim Grover
Marcus Lemonis
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der
Kolk, MD
Jordan Peterson
Families Against Narcotics
Mel Robbins
Do you want to take your relationship to the next level?
For us, that starts with doing some specific, intentional planning to make our date nights an experience.
But what does it look like to plan meaningful time with your person? And how does curating the time you spend together help you connect on a deeper level?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to elevate your relationship by planning intentional date nights, challenging you to pay attention and communicate with your partner about what they want from an experience.
We discuss how to make sexy time more fun and fulfilling, describing how to create an environment of escape wherever you are and why physical intimacy impacts the way you show up in other areas of your life.
Listen in for insight on opening up new levels of conversation and communication with your person and learn how to bring a spirit of playfulness to your relationship and show up fully on dates nights with your partner!
Key Takeaways Why we do specific, intentional planning to make our date nights an experience
How we started challenging some of the traditional roles we take on in our relationship
What it means to curate the time you spend with your partner
How bringing an awareness to your body makes sexy time more fun and fufulling
Why we recommend paying attention and asking your partner what they want as you plan a date night
How prioritizing physical intimacy impacts the way you show up in other areas of your life
Why a special date night doesn't have to be fancy expensive
The tools you can use to open up different levels of conversation and communication with your person
How to create ssan environment of excape at home, in a hotel or on vacation
Why you have to do your own internal work first in order to improve your relationship
The value of bringing a spirit of playfulness intor your reationship
What questions to ask yourself to show up fully on dates with your partner
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Resources Date Deck
The 5 Love Languages
https://www.deeperdating.com/the-book/
"Fear is going to be a constant in your life. And if you're not willing to learn how to work with that fear, if you're not willing to learn how to manage that fear, if you're not willing to learn how to utilize that fear to empower you, you're going to be stuck in mediocrity for the rest of your life."
For the longest time, fear held me back from achieving my goals, even though I'd experienced a wide range of emotions, from sadness to joy.
But I was too focused on doing rather than being.
It wasn't until a gift of desperation forced me to confront my fears that I realized how unsafe I felt in my body. Being present in the moment allowed me to internalize some powerful advice that led to significant changes in my life.
When we don't feel safe in our bodies, it can trigger our autonomic responses and prevent us from being present in the moment.
So, how can we overcome our fears and be present in the moment?
In this episode of "Destined to Be," I'll share my recent experiences of connecting deeply with others, cultivating meaningful experiences, and holding space for myself. These elements (which are often sidestepped) have been critical to my growth and evolution.
Giving ourselves grace, compassion, and the ability to breathe is essential, especially when we don't feel safe in our bodies.
In this episode, you'll hear my insights on why feeling safe in our bodies is crucial, how holding space for ourselves can prevent triggers, and why breaking free from fear is the key to living intentionally.
Listen in to understand the impact of unresolved trauma and beliefs and the critical elements necessary to live a fulfilled life.
Key Takeaways How feeling safe in our bodies can help us be present in the moment
The importance of cultivating meaningful experiences and holding space for ourselves
Why breaking free from fear is the key to living intentionally
The impact of unresolved trauma and beliefs on our lives
The critical elements necessary for growth and evolution
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What's the secret to growing closer as a couple?
If you and your partner want to strengthen your bond and heighten the intimacy in your relationship, you have to create space for vulnerability.
But what does that look like in practice?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the relationship between vulnerability and growth, explaining what to do if you don't feel safe being vulnerable with your partner.
We share our experience of going dancing together at the Secrets Moxche Playa del Carmen, discussing the power in offering your partner opportunities to shine-even if it puts you in a vulnerable position.
Listen in for insight on leaning into your fear of vulnerabliity and learn to change the story you're telling yourself, so you can show up fully for your partner and grow even closer as a couple.
Key Takeaways The Relationship among vulnerability, growth and getting uncomfortable
Why a sense of safety is the prerequisite to vulnerablility
What to do if you don't feel safe being vulnerable with your partner
The power in offering your partner experiences that allow them to shine
How we got on the same page around dropping the labels and surrendering to the experience of going dancing together
How Jeremiah's fear of being in his body informs his feelings about dance
The benefits of the closeness we felt as a couple on the dance floor
How to let go of judgement and change the story you're telling yourself
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Resources Secrets Resort
Entrepreneurial Operating System
Mallory’s Post on Meeting Your Edges
Dude Perfect Cruise
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
"We can start to move energy through breath, sound, and movement to transform how you show up energetically. This can affect your money blocks, your blocks with relationships, why you're not hitting certain levels because, as we then create more space within our body, we can then hold more."
In what areas of your life would you like to see massive growth this year?
What is the biggest obstacle you must overcome to hit your next level in 2023?
We often want change, but we get in our own way when we set out to transform how we show up in all areas of our lives.
Today I'm bringing you a special episode where I was a guest on the HBIC podcast hosted by Demiree Suanne.
During our conversation, we delve into the biggest obstacles holding people back from reaching the next level in their lives, careers, finances, and relationships.
I share my non-linear journey to becoming a Master Informed Trauma Coach and give you an inside look into my Level Up coaching group, my women's retreats, and our couple's mastermind and how they help individuals transform their lives.
We also discuss the challenges couples face when trying to grow together and how to create a safe space in your relationship to reach the next level.
Listen in as I share 3 key tips to help you shift your energy and change how you show up in 2023. And stick around to hear my answers to Demiree's 10 questions that give you a deeper understanding of who I am.
Ladies, are you ready to become the next version of yourself? On February 21st, my LEVEL UP VIP signature group coaching program (7th round) begins, AND I have special podcast pricing just for "Destined To Be" listeners. So, shoot me a message that says "VIP, I'm ready to join" in the DMs or text me directly at 586-600-8492 so I can send you more information. Also, reach out for information on the Austin retreat.
Key Takeaways The biggest thing holding most women back
The greatest challenge we face when attempting to break free from our upbringing
How up leveling your circle will catapult you to your next level
How becoming more comfortable in yourself causes more shadow pieces to be revealed
How moving breath, sound, and movement can transform the way you show up
Mallory shares her advice on how couples can create safety in their relationship
How to create the space for your male partner to be vulnerable
How taking radical responsibility for your own stuff will take your new relationship to a new level.
My tips to help you shake things up, shift your energy and change the way you show up in 2023
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Resources HBIC podcast
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"I don't care if you are starting over in your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, or 70s, it doesn't matter. You can choose how you want to show up in this season of life and make a shift in this very moment."
When we embark on a new chapter in our lives, whether it be a new season, job, or personal or relationship growth, we're often led to believe it will be easy and seamless—you know, all rainbows and butterflies.
But we often experience resistance in making the changes we desire, which can manifest itself in various ways, like in our intuition or bodies. No matter how you personally experience it, there's no denying something is going on.
And often, this is where many people get mired in guilt or some emotion that leads them to abandon their next move—never taking the step that could lead them to their next place of purpose.
So, what can you do to break through to reach your next level?
On this episode of "Destined To Be," I share the most important thing you can do to acknowledge the truth of the moment and permit yourself to step out of the guilt and into who you were always meant to be.
I share a powerful tool you can use to weed out the options that aren't right for you and who you are, so you don't get stuck.
Listen in as I walk you through the two things that can happen when you decide to take a step forward and how to find the support you need to navigate the emotions that come up on your path as you launch into the new chapter you are dreaming of.
Ladies, are you ready to become the next version of yourself? On February 21st, my LEVEL UP VIP signature group coaching program (7th round) begins. This is THE PROGRAM that has helped so many phenomenal women find clarity around their next move, AND I have special podcast pricing just for "Destined To Be" listeners. So, shoot me a message that says “VIP, I'm ready to join” in the DMs, or text me directly at 586-600-8492 so I can send you more information.
Key Takeaways The first thing to do at the beginning of any new chapter
What about guilt
How to permit yourself to embody who you are and what you are feeling in this moment
The filter which you need to run every decision through (this one ALWAYS helps you sift out nos based on who you are)
How to signal to the universe or your higher power that you are ready to level up
Why BIG shifts lead to temporary chaos and disruptions
How aligning with the right support system can reduce the time it takes to achieve your goals (and make more progress) in life
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Resources Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Contact Mallory for the February Round of Level Up VIP
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"The real work gets done when you sit with yourself and connect the dots to integrate what you've learned in the past. You're the only one that can lead you to your actual healing."
We live in a world set up to make you believe the person you are in this moment is not good enough.
Add to that, no matter what you've tried, you can't seem to move past that one thing that is holding you back, whatever it is.
Maybe your one thing is that you've fallen into the pit of being angry all the time - but you're not angry. It's just what you've known for so long.
Or maybe you're anxious all the time because you're modeling behavior shown to you when you were young.
You have this incredible vision of dropping those things and stepping into the real you.
But you're stuck.
Enter the self-help books with covers that shout, “this is what you need to do.”
So, you read the books and try the things, but… you don't gain traction.
So how can you make the changes you want to make?
On this episode of “Destined to Be” Jeremiah, and Mallory are sharing a behind-the-scenes look at how we finally cut through all the debris and got unstuck enough to start making the real and lasting changes we wanted for our lives and our relationship.
We'll walk you through the catalyst that took us from where we were when we started the "Destined to Be" podcast (hey, we don't even recognize those people now) to where we are now (Certified Master Coaches).
Listen in as we share how you can use your inner knowing to step into your true self and make the changes you want to make. Plus, a look ahead to what's in store for podcast listeners in 2023.
If you are a woman who is looking to step forward into your most authentic self and gain some crystal-clear clarity around how you want to show up in this world, Level up VIP, Mallory's signature group coaching program, is launching mid-February with discounts for “Destined to Be” podcast listeners. Interested? Reach out to Mallory on Instagram or text her directly at 586-600-8492.
Key Takeaways
Why NOW is the perfect time to embrace your fresh canvas
How the personal development space hurts more people than it helps
Why some people try ALL the things, and yet they don't gain traction
Why everything you think or believe probably needs to be unwound
How the body protects you from your memories
The mind-body connection that is keeping you from manifesting
How do you know when you are living out of alignment
The secret to putting ALL that self-help knowledge into practice
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"When I'm constantly in the gap, I can't be in the game."
We have all these amazing ideas of where we want to go, what we want to do, and who we want to become.
We say things like, "when work slows down, I'll finally start working out and get the body I’ve always dreamed of," or "when the kids are older, I'll start that million-dollar business."But when we assign all those things to some date in the future, we end up putting the best of our lives off until 'someday.’
So, how can we step off that 'someday track’ and into the space where we can create the growth and abundance we desire?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I will walk you through how I cut through all the debris to get clear on my 'why' opening the door for more growth in the most important areas of my life.
Listen in to learn techniques to help you step out of your ego so you can make better decisions for a better life. I'll share how setting the right boundaries can next level your ‘why’ so you can stop looking toward tomorrow and start living today in gratitude for the life unfolding before you.
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Is there a topic you'd like to have us cover on a future episode? If so, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out to Jeremiah on Instagram or Mallory on Instagram.
Key Takeaways Why prioritizing your relationships is the key to clarifying your vision
How my relationship keeps me focused on my true 'why'
How stepping out of your ego can make room for your Creator's bigger plan for your life
Why assigning too much value to the outcome of a situation leads to a negative result
How you can lessen your outcome attachment and learn to take no in stride
The key to stop living a life that feels like a 'free for all'
Why accepting what is opens the door for what is to come
How getting clear about your idea of success sets you on the right course for a BIGGER IMPACT
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Sometimes I'm irritated with myself.
Do you ever have those times when you can't stand your own attitude
Sure, we all do. And sometimes, slipping into your comfy clothes, grabbing the remote, shutting yourself off from the world, and diving into NETFLIX is precisely what's needed to see you through that blink in time.
But, sometimes, we are running through a task-list life with a heightened state of anxiety or anger humming inside us each day.
So, what can you do if your anger or anxiety has lasted longer than a season? How can you get back into a season of growth?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through how to recognize your patterns of anger or anxiety. We'll discuss some ways you get in touch with what's going on inside so you can determine if your anger is just a mood or if it's gone on past the expiration date.
Listen in for Jeremiah's soul-changing experience that took him out of his anger patterns and into a more centered life. Plus, tools and insight into how to set yourself up for success in shifting out of your own patterns of anger and anxiety.
Is there a topic you'd like us to cover on the Destined to Be Podcast? Do you want to apply and join the waitlist for our Couples Mastermind? We'd love to hear from you. Reach out to Jeremiah on Instagram or Mallory on Instagram.
Key Takeaways What are some things to be aware of to determine if you are in a perpetual anger state
Jeremiah shares the anger issue from a male point of view
Why our anger issues are a response to our attachment styles
Why you can't change a problem from the same level you created it
How do you ascertain if where your attitude resides needs to change
How to use breathing and dropping into your body to step out of your hypervigilant state (anger or anxiety)
How to use reminders of the vision of who you want to be shift out of your anger
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Resources Families Against Narcotics (FAN)
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"Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons."- Denzel Washington
We're often expected to engage with people who hold views that differ vastly from our own. Or we are forced into circumstances where we need to reunite with old friends or family members who know (and hold tightly to) a different version of us than the one that exists today.
These situations can test you, but they can also offer an opportunity to expand our window of tolerance.
So, how can you effectively manage situations where you are tolerated, not celebrated?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through how to handle situations with people who see you as the villain in their victim triangle.
We'll discuss some of the biggest lessons you can learn from putting yourself in situations that widen your window of tolerance.
Plus, we share some tools and techniques you can use to navigate interactions with people who don't share your views.
Listen in for insight into how to break out of someone else's story and instead elevate yourself so you can stay in your own power and walk into any event like you own it.
Key Takeaways
The biggest lessons we can learn from situations that test us
The anxiety free way to navigate interactions with people with differing views
How to use tools like venting and journaling to reclaim your power in any situation
How to keep from being cast as the villain in someone else's story
How to stay immune to other's perceptions of who you are
How to use the power of forgiveness to live in peace in your life
How to love people without sacrificing your own self-growth
The exit strategy you can use to stay in your strength no matter the situation
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"Every one of you has met somebody that has this aura about them that brings other people joy and excitement just because of their presence."
I used to think that being at peace with your life, no matter the outside circumstances, was just for those afraid to challenge themselves to the next level.
Now, I know that's not true.
But when is it time to stop digging for more in your personal development and just allow yourself to be?
And how can you create that space inside that allows you to be truly authentic, in alignment, abundant, and at peace no matter what happens in the outside world?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm challenging you to give up the emotions around the challenges in your life that are stealing your peace as a catalyst to move forward in growth.
We'll talk about how to internally shift the stories inside of you so you can step out of yourself for new levels of accomplishment for yourself and others.
Listen in to learn more about dropping the doubt, surrendering to the moment, and letting life come as it does for more opportunities for attraction, quantum leaps, and a sense of unshakable peace inside for true abundance in full.
If you listened to this episode and something resonated with you, DM me. I'd love to hear from you!
Key Takeaways
Why Jeremiah's move into a place of peace led his EMDR therapist to fire him
Why comprehending the science behind the inner work helps Jeremiah make more of an impact
Why we learn more about ourselves when we’re openly exposed in our deepest relationships
How REM sleep allows you to go deeper into conscious awareness
Why adding more strategies to your arsenal in personal development isn't always the answer
How a radical shift in mindset can help you complete a 10-year plan in six months
Why visualization is the key to quelling doubt and attracting and creating more abundance
How to create more expansiveness in your life through surrendering your stories
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The Surrender Experiment
There was a time when I couldn’t keep a needle out of my arm, and Mallory had to stop and buy me a carton of cigarettes on the drive to rehab.
I came from nothing. I've lost everything I've had, built it back up, lost it again, and then built it again.
But it hasn't always been easy or conflict-free—Mallory and I constantly remind each other that the problems we worry about today are problems the old versions of ourselves would have died for.
So, how can you build the life of abundance and love that you dream of?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm challenging you to think bigger! To step out of your ego and forget what you know so you can FINALLY open the door to learning and understanding more.
We'll talk about how to step out of yourself and allow a Higher Power to take you to new levels. I'll share some of my personal stories of how I got from rehab to where I am today that will inspire you to take the needed steps to build the life you've dreamed of.
Listen in to learn more about how to stop standing in the way of the life that is more than you ever imagined.
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Key Takeaways
Why I have such a connection to Austin, Texas, and the role it played in my inner healing
Why surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals will help you do the amazing things you dream of
Why the key to fulfillment is to get absent of self to allow more of God in
Why the most growth is found in partnerships with people who are vibrating on a higher level
How being around people who see you on a different level raises your vibrational energy
Why it's our job to raise the consciousness of our communities to help others prepare for the things that are happening in our world
What it means to be in vibrational alignment with God or a Higher Power
Why it's vital for self-growth to be a seeker on a trek
How to find lasting change that won't allow you to revert to your old self
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The Map of Consciousness Explained: A Proven Energy Scale to Actualize Your Ultimate Potential
Think and Grow Rich
Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires
Running a household includes childcare, cleaning, cooking, home maintenance, and more.
But each of us brings different skill levels and our own frustrations to these projects when they don't proceed as we expect.
So how can we set aside our reactive behaviors in order to see our household projects through to completion?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we'll walk you through how our old stories come up when we work on projects, causing overwhelm that can be bigger than the task at hand. Plus, how your self-criticalness and perfectionism tendencies can trigger your partner's negative energy.
We'll talk about how to recognize and avoid your triggers, so you and your partner can sidestep the common conflicts when completing household honey-do lists.
Listen in for some strategies to avoid overwhelm, stop the arguing, lighten the mood, and apply Rule 62, so you and your partner can successfully complete your couple's DIY projects.
Are you ready for a more meaningful partnership with your significant other? We have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming in October. Reach out to Jeremiah, or Mallory for an application TODAY!
Key Takeaways How multi-tasking taxes the body's nervous system
Why frame of mind is everything when it comes to starting a project with your significant other
Why it's vital to know what triggers push you out of the zone of your tolerance
The different ways males and females respond during high-stress situations
How to use Rule 62 to give yourself a reality check during a challenging project
How to return to non-violent communication when things get elevated
How our over-critical nature and perfectionist tendencies trigger our partner's negative energies
Why an adult time-out is the key to tamping down conflict during couple’s DIY projects
How to set yourself up for success in projects that require immediate completion
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Scientifically speaking, by the time you're 35 years old, 95% of your life has automatic habits or things you're just repeating over and over again.
Traumas in childhood and beyond can lead to us being triggered throughout the rest of our lives, causing our body to react in a certain way because our body will always remember what our mind forgets.
But you cannot achieve emotional mastery when you’re constantly being triggered by your thoughts, feelings, or emotions.
So how can you learn to identify and manage your emotions, lower your ego, and break out of the trauma trigger cycle?
Today, I'll take you through some of the methods I have used to improve my physical response and take hold of my emotions when I’m triggered.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I walk you through why learning to process your emotions is the key to stepping out of the victim triangle.
Listen in for insight into how to expand your window of tolerance. Plus, the secret of giving yourself grace so you can show up better than yesterday for better communication with everyone in your sphere of influence and a more meaningful life.
Are you ready to go deeper with your significant other for better communication and a more meaningful partnership? We have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming in October. Reach out to me, Jeremiah, or Mallory for an application TODAY!
Key Takeaways How childhood trauma can affect your ability to regulate your emotions later in life
Why your ego creates defense mechanisms to help keep you safe
How understanding your personal attachment style can help you uncover your trauma triggers
How trauma can make you less emotionally available to those you love
Why giving yourself grace is the catalyst for acting differently in the future
Why your negative thoughts are causing you to manifest what you don't want
How expanding your window of tolerance helps you more ably handle triggering situations
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We ALL have stories around literally everything—money, relationships, our parenting.
They can be as simple as we listen to this music, not that music, because it's what we listened to growing up.
Or they can be deeply entrenched, activating anxiety or some other response when we are triggered.
Those are the stories we need to shift to grow, and that's when things can become uncomfortable.
So, how can we open ourselves up to seeing our stories for what they are so we can reframe them?
Today, I'm digging deep into getting in tune with your stories. I'll walk you through some of my personal stories and how they affected my life and kept me stuck and how I reframed them.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I share some questions you can ask yourself and some techniques you can use to move past the 'this is just how I am' victim mentality and into more understanding of yourself and your story.
Listen in for insight into ways to step outside of the noise and get in touch with what's coming up for you and why, so you can look at those pieces of yourself head-on and challenge what's no longer working for you.
Are you ready to move away from the stories that no longer serve you? Jeremiah and I would love to support you on your journey. If you are seeking personal one-on-one coaching, we both have openings! Or, if you want to go deeper with your significant other, we have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming this Fall! Reach out to me, Mallory, or Jeremiah for an application TODAY!
Key Takeaways Why an activated state of anxiety is NOT normal
How internal anxiety manifests itself
How to look at your stress stories from a different perspective
Why it's vital to have hard conversations with people who will point out your blind spots
The one question you need to ask yourself if you want to reframe your story
What to do with your internal clutter
How to determine if you are meeting YOUR true needs
How to create the space to acknowledge your journey and still find joy in the moment
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We all have stories that affect every decision we make and how we live out our lives on a day-to-day basis.
From the track playing in our minds that tells us we don't deserve rest even when we’re not feeling our best, to tying our self-worth to the wrong career or relationship.
But how can we tell the difference between the stories we tell ourselves and what's real?
Today, we're digging deep into how open your awareness to the narratives that play inside so you can let go of the longtime labels and separate yourself from the" story" that's no longer serving you.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the conversation you need to have with your partner in order create a safe space for yourself to be vulnerable.
We describe the level of trust you need in your relationship so you can grow to support your partner in what they need without allowing those old stories to play out.
Listen in for insight into how to communicate for an intimate level of trust so you can evolve into who you are meant to be as a couple.
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Key Takeaways The 2 questions you need to ask yourself to determine if the story you attached to yourself is true
How bringing awareness to your internal narratives helps you free yourself from the negative "labels"
Why it's important to discard the generational stereotypes about how things are "supposed" to be
Why rest and digest is the fastest way to get where you want to go in life
How shame keeps us stuck in our stories
Why being curious rather than critical is the key to changing your relationship
Why feminine energy cannot be forced
How to set aside the internal judgment so you support each other in reality
The key conversation you need to have with your partner to open the next level of trust
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Do you find yourself so focused on your regime and achievements you feel like a failure if you take a day off or get up an hour later?
Or are you in the flow, with tons of creative ideas, but you accomplish nothing because you’re all over the place?
There is a better way!
Today on the Destined to Be podcast, Brooke Rozzie of The Power of a Woman podcast joins Mallory to talk about how you can balance your masculine and feminine sides so you can own your energy for every cycle and season in all aspects of your life.
Brooke and Mallory discuss how everything from what we eat to how we sleep to where we are in our cycle plays a part in our energetics and how to harness that power.
We explain how to drop out of the cycle of hating your body so you can transition into listening intuitively to yourself as a woman.
Listen in for insight into how to stop self-sabotaging and let go of the practices that no longer work in your current stage of life so you can make room for the flow in your current season.
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Key Takeaways The influence of our behaviors and habits on our hormones
Why what worked for you at 20 doesn’t work now
The 2 ways the distorted all-or-nothing mentality leads to burnout
The identifying characteristics of masculine and feminine energy
The 2 major energy systems of mindfulness
What happens in your brain and body when you lean too hard into your masculine energy
How to intuitively listen to your body to balance your feminine and masculine energy
When should a woman lean into her masculine side for more of an advantage
The key to understanding the deeply entrenched emotions that keep us stuck in unhealthy energy cycles
The 2-step action process to shift your mindset
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Owning Your Hormonal Energy
Is there a one-size-fits-all formula for personal development?
We're all human beings living different lives, which likely means we want very different things depending upon the stage of our journey.
Some people want to build a business, some want to develop their self-esteem, and others might be somewhere in between.
When people first dip their toe into personal development, they often try everything, exploring practices they think will move the needle but only giving each thing a half-hearted attempt like they are just going down a checklist.
Actual change requires more of an investment than checking off boxes.
So, how can you create a personal development plan that will work for YOU?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the one thing you need to determine before you can find a personal development routine that will work for you. Jeremiah shares the five different things he does in his morning routine to stay in the zone, while Mallory offers insight into how the seasons of her life have impacted her and her work.
Listen in to discover how to match your season to the right practices to create a bigger impact. We'll walk you through a crucial tracking system for all aspects of your life so you can move the hurdles in your way. Plus, where the most significant breakthroughs in personal development happen.
If you're tired of living like ignorance on fire and are ready to fast-track your life, reach out to Jeremiah or Register for Mallory's Fall Level Up Wait List.
Key Takeaways The first thing you need to determine before embarking on a personal development plan
Why hearing other people's stories of change is so transformational
Why listening to the signals your body is sending can help you determine what you need right now
The only way to break through a plateau
How ideas plus action create the power to move the needle
What's the next step after mindset work to make the shift
Why it's crucial to track where you are in ALL aspects of your life to determine your next steps
The most significant piece of the self-development puzzle you may be overlooking
Why you should never hire a coach who doesn't have a coach
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Childhood trauma can impact a person's emotional and physical health and personal relationships even when they're an adult, causing issues like addiction and co-dependency.
Recently we sat down for an interview with Andrea Ashley on the Adult Child podcast, and today for our very special 200th episode; we're sharing that interview with you right here!
We're going deep and sharing the back story from our troubled teen years to what happened that flipped the switch to bring forth our childhood traumas and how that has impacted our marriage.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the moment that almost shattered our relationship, the work we've done to overcome co-dependency in our marriage, and what we are doing to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma with our own children.
Listen in for insight into EMDR therapy, Imago Dialogue, and using breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows. Plus, we share some great resources that examine the cause and effect of childhood trauma on adults.
Key Takeaways How Jeremiah's childhood trauma led to a pattern of addictive behaviors and a 'never enough' mentality
How Mallory's childhood trauma led to her abandonment issues
The break with Mallory's family that flipped the switch to shine the light on our individual childhood traumas
What happened in June 2021 that almost broke us as a couple
The shift that created a perfect storm and a runway for realness in our marriage
How childhood traumas express themselves in adulthood
How adult child work can help you return to who you were meant to be
How to use Imago Dialogue to help each partner feel seen, heard, and validated
How to use breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows
How to break the childhood trauma cycle
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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience
Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families
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Have you ever read a text from somebody that said, "we need to talk," and automatically, your mind started spinning?
Your body reacts, and BOOM, it's off to the races. You begin spiraling out. Envisioning scenarios of losing everything, being homeless, your life as you know it destroyed.
All these images were conjured up from just a few words on a screen and now, in your mind, you're living out your worst-case scenario.
You've been triggered!
Your body may react with adrenaline spikes and be ready to pounce, or maybe you go down the anxiety trail and panic or shut down.
Either way, you're caught in a spiral cycle, with your body reacting in a way that's meant to keep you safe. But it’s just keeping you stuck.
So, what can you do?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through where these reactions originate from and how they can cause energy blocks that can keep you from growth.
We'll discuss how you might unintentionally be reinforcing the story that you're stuck. And we'll talk about how you might be projecting your triggered thoughts onto your partner.
Listen in for insight on how you can bring awareness into the moment instead of falling into your old patterns of numbing out. Plus, we’ll look at how you can gain the tools and resources you need to stop spiraling.
Key Takeaways What is contempt prior to investigation, and why do we manufacture it when we're triggered
What are you signaling to your inner self when you say, "that's just the way I am"
How your most significant challenges can also be the biggest support for your inner work
How we use justifiable dopamine behaviors to avoid dealing with our triggering feelings
Why deep breathing doesn't always work to move you from your triggers
Why how we expect our partner to react and the stories we tell each other may be keeping us stuck
How a support team can help you formulate the tools to step out of the victim mentality
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Did you know that 95% of how you show up, your attitudes, actions, beliefs, essence, and the beauty of the person you are is ingrained by the time you're 35 years old? The question then becomes, who created the person I am today? The way you evolve and grow in the future will be determined by how you answer that question.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm sharing the paradigm shift that happens when we open ourselves up to expanding our consciousness and commit to doing the inner work around the emotions and behaviors that keep us stuck in our stories and maintaining the status quo.
I'll explain why you get that gut-wrenching feeling when you're out and about and something triggers you. And why, even though you are sure you are long over what happened your body still reacts.
Listen in for insight into your ego and how it and your brain function in your life to keep you safe. I'll walk you through how you can connect to what is causing your personal triggers, and I'll share some techniques for working through those emotions to get back to center.
Key Takeaways The AHA moment I had at the gym with a listener
Why what your mind forgets, your body will always remember
How our brain sorts through our everyday experiences
What is the ego responsible for
The difference between your mind and your ego
The 2 ways energies enter our bodies and trigger us
How to use your breathing to return to your safe place when you’re triggered
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I love affirmations. But if you haven't done the necessary internal work, it can be like slapping a band aid on an injury you need to go to the doctor's office for. It's just covering up the wound instead of healing it from the inside out. I started my coaching journey as a mindset coach. That's what I knew. But it only took me so far. You may find the same thing on your growth journey. Mindset tools will get you to a new place, but you might stall or find that old blocks begin to reappear. You might even return to your old coping behaviors like social media, shopping, sex, food, etc.
So, what can you do to finally break away from those old patterns to fully embody your new outlook and move into a new season?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss why when we stop looking at things on the external level and begin looking at the internal, we often unearth old turmoil that may come out as anxiety.
I explain why the more inner work you do the more you will need new tools to help you take the steps to make BIG internal shifts.
I discuss what to do when your affirmations don't align with the stories that are true for you.
Listen in to understand how to use movement, music, and breathing to move past the response patterns that are no longer serving you.
Jeremiah and I would love to walk along with you on your growth journey. If you're ready to join my VIP women's program that starts in mid-June, or you are interested in our couple's mastermind coming this fall, please drop into my DMs so I can send you more information.
Key Takeaways Why mindset will only take you so far
How your body reacts when your affirmations don't align with the stories that are true for you
How acknowledging your true stories can help you change your negative response patterns
Why are brain makes us forget trauma
What it means to get out of your head and into your body
How to use movement, music, and breathing to out of your head
Why having both the tools and a support team is vital as past experiences show themselves in the body
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There's a time to push yourself in life, and there's a time to let yourself off the hook and just be.
The challenge comes in determining when to do each.
It can be difficult to step back and allow things to proceed as they are meant to. So often we get stuck in a pattern of charging ahead, injecting ourselves into whatever situation we are facing instead of receiving what the universe is creating.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our personal stories of situations where each of us was faced with the challenge of deciding whether the occasion called for us to "gut it out" or to step back and give ourselves grace based on the energy we had for that moment in our lives.
We’ll take a look at the fine line between pushing yourself too hard and when you might be giving up because you're getting lazy.
Listen in for insight into how you can lean into more awareness around what you are trying to accomplish in your life and what each moment is calling for you to do—push forward, or just be. Plus, we’ll go deeper into ways to avoid creating an all-or-nothing mindset so you can gain clarity around when to push yourself and when to let things go based on your energy or evolve as they are meant to.
Key Takeaways What does it really take to build a new habit
How to avoid creating an all-or-nothing mindset
How to operate within your energy instead of doing things "just because"
What to do when the inner work becomes uncomfortable
How to channel your inner "zen" while still pushing yourself to reach your next level
When to call yourself out on your BS and when to give yourself grace
How to live true to the energy you have for what you are trying to accomplish for the day
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The thoughts are the language of the mind. Feelings are the emotions and expressions of the body.
With our schedules and never-ending to-do lists, many of us find ourselves living in the past, contemplating decisions we made or things we said while forgoing what’s happening today to look toward the future.
Living this way can leave us feeling worn out, out of touch with ourselves, and even out of control in our lives. Recently, I’ve instituted a few practices designed to help me let go of my past and future living so I can live in the power of the present moment.
Today, I am sharing how those practices have been pivotal in helping me show up better, even through some insane changes that have happened in my life recently.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I share a personal story of something that happened at work that I didn’t expect, and how I handled it by expressing my feelings without trying to fix them as I would have done in the past all by living in the power of the present.
Listen in for insight on how I was able get out of my own way by stepping out of the fear of living in the moment. I’ll share some practices I used to finally get free of the things that were blocking me so I could move to the next level where my true self and the universe were waiting to help me move forward.
Key Takeaways What happens inside when you reframe your feelings instead of actually feeling them
How to express your feelings without fixing how you feel
Why you can’t solve a problem from the same level of thinking that created it
How to use the personal strengths you’ve learned to benefit your business
The 1 habit that helped me get inside my body and be in the present moment
How the universe participates in true transformation
How being present helps you live like a person with a purpose and on a mission
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Social media is one of the biggest pain points for people today.
We hear things like, “I get so nervous when I show up online,” or “I have to retake the same video 25 times before I actually share it,” or “I stumble over my words.”
Maybe you hear yourself in some of those statements?
We’ve all been there.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share Jeremiah’s own story of why he didn’t enjoy showing up online, and how being vulnerable in his feed flipped the switch for him. Plus, Mallory shares one social media secret you might not know that could be the thing keeping you stuck, especially if you’ve been vocal about hating social media in the past.
We’ve got a great episode filled with advice on how to change your feed from triggering to inspiring, insight on who to follow, and what people really wish you would share.
We’ll also discuss some of the underlying reasons people have for not wanting to show up on social media and trust us, it goes deeper than, ‘I just don’t like it.’
Social media is here to stay. Listen in to learn what you need to know to make it serve you, so you can alleviate your fear of posting and start building your brand.
Key Takeaways How to recognize unhealthy patterns and triggers around your social media so you can stop them
How to find the inspiration for your next popular post right in your feed
The 2 key players for growth on social media right NOW
How you can use your negative experiences to shine a positive light into the lives of others
The 1 question to ask yourself before you press ‘post’
The real reason why posting ‘no filters’, random topics, and the BTS of your life creates more social media engagement
The key found in the comments section that determines the true quality of the content you’re sharing
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It’s important to have healthy expectations in a relationship.
In a healthy relationship, you are each getting your needs met and meeting the needs of the person you love and trust the most.
But it can be challenging to express your needs effectively. Especially in that initial conversation with your partner. Sometimes the verbiage we use can trigger the other person leaving them feeling attacked instead of inspired.
And things can get even more muddled if you don’t know what your expectations for your life or your life together even look like.
So, how can you effectively communicate your wants and needs to your partner in a healthy way? And what can you do when expectations are not being met or are no longer realistic for you as a person or a couple?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through some different options for determining your needs in life, and your relationship. Then we offer some guidance on how to communicate those needs effectively, so you can alleviate triggers and inspire growth and trust on both sides of your relationship.
We describe ways you can build your self-esteem so you can communicate your needs from a place of value. We’ll also discuss how working with a professional through these conversations can be both eye-opening and life-changing for both you and your partner.
Listen in for insight on how to communicate so you can create the safety you need in your life to grow and allow for the growth of your partner and your relationship, too.
Key Takeaways How to support your partner through change and be their biggest cheerleader
How to use verbiage that will make your partner feel valued instead of attacked
Why judgment in a relationship leads to holding back
Why unrealistic expectations lead to resentment, and how to communicate effectively so everyone wins
How moving through shame and unworthiness will help you discover your value in the relationship
How to determine your triggers for personal change
The difference between a coach, counselor, and therapist and what a coach does the others do not
How getting clear on what you want will help you communicate (and live) your truth
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We all need a break. Generally, as a society, we’re tired and overworked. But with all this stress in our lives, it can feel impossible to let go long enough to find a way to recharge.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the importance of being able to disconnect from stress and how to find true relaxation.
We share our experiences struggling to relax on vacation, finding time to unwind as a family, and how our human design types show up in our quests for disconnection from work and business life.
Listen in to hear more about how to live your most authentic life by relinquishing control, focusing on yourself rather than others, and never taking yourself too seriously.
Key Takeaways How we struggled to relax during a past vacation as we were preoccupied with our lives back home
Why society wants you to be wrapped up in what other people are doing, rather than living in your own moment
Why you must disconnect from outer circumstances to fully achieve relaxation
What our human design types are and how they influence how we show up in our lives
How we soak up energy from our surroundings and how we respond to the need to release that energy
Why it is never too late to right your wrongs with the people in your life
Why we need to let loose and stop taking things too seriously
How the internal safety measures we create to keep control of our lives can lead to us missing out on living authentic lives
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Episode 191: How to Ditch Toxic Positivity to Live a More Present Life
Just because we have grown in certain areas of our lives, doesn’t mean we will always react perfectly to things happening around us.
We must practice holding space. This is where we are able to be present and aware of how we are allowing our emotions to show up in conflict.
On this episode of Destined To Be, I’m here for another solo episode where I share my strategies for acting, thinking, and feeling in congruence, and how that allows me to understand the true motives behind my emotions.
I share the neurological responses of fight, flight, freeze, and the one that is typically unknown, fawn.
Listen in to hear more about how I prioritize being present enough to reflect on my past, which allows me to live a better life in the future.
Key Takeaways Why I constantly believe that the universe is transpiring in my favor
How I have suffered from using “toxic positivity” as a coping mechanism
What I refer to as “holding space” and why I want to spend my life being present and aware of my emotions
Why I encourage others to constantly self-audit and check in with their own emotions
Why the real abundance of self-growth will only happen once we’re in a present position of calmness and awareness
Why you need to continually ask yourself deeper questions in order to unlock your true self
The differences between fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses to conflict or unwanted situations
The nuances of the fawn response and why it forces people to internalize their issues and convinces them that they are wrong
Why acting, thinking, and feeling in congruence allow me to be the person I am destined to be
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Episode 190: Understanding Your Unwanted Actions To Change Your Life
“As easy as riding a bike.” That’s the saying. But what if the way you rode the bike changed? Would you be able to unlearn the thing you’ve known since you were a kid?
In the Youtube video, The Backwards Brain Bicycle, Destin from the SmarterEveryDay channel changes the gears on his bicycle, so when he turns the handlebars one way, the bicycle goes the opposite way. It took him eight months to learn how to ride it.
On this episode of Destined To Be, I talk about this video and how it changed the way I think about my subconscious habits.
I share my thoughts on why we feel unsafe when we start experimenting with new habits or ways of doing things, as our autonomic habits subconsciously dictate our lives.
Listen in as I discuss the difference between knowledge and understanding, the importance of transitional periods in our lives, and how to shift your internal dialogue to focus on your unwanted feelings and behaviors in order to change them into the way you wish to show up in the world.
Key Takeaways My takeaways from the Backwards Brain Bicycle Youtube video
How your autonomic habits subconsciously dictate your life
Why knowledge is different than understanding
Why people often feel unsafe when starting new habits or doing things differently
The importance of pushing against the norm to do good things that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar
How to change the way you show up in the world by bringing your awareness to your unwanted thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
The importance of perseverance through transitional periods in your life to improve yourself and live the life you want
Why human beings would not learn how to make massive shifts and changes without suffering
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The fear of being judged can drive us to live our lives inauthentically. When we worry about what others think, it can feel safer to show up as who we think people want us to be, rather than who we are.
But it’s important to know that other people will never be able to see you the way you truly are. It’s impossible. They can only see you through their own biases and judgments.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why our public perceptions can be complicated and how to change the way we react to judgment.
We share our thoughts on our own online presences, why Jeremy feels he is underrepresenting himself online, and how to stop feeling victimized by others’ perceptions of you.
Key Takeaways Why it can be problematic to rely on social media pages to get to know someone
The high stakes of being visible on social media and why Jeremy feels he is underrepresenting himself online
Why it’s important to reflect on ourselves instead of judging other people
Why it is impossible for others to see you for who you truly are
How teaching something helps you understand that subject better than when you first learned it
How to stop feeling victimized by other people's perceptions of you and change the way you react to judgment
Why people are quick to judge others who are different from them
How we are quick to use our past accomplishments to justify where we are today
Our fear of being judged and how to fight past it to show up the way we truly want to
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How many times have you worried about how others perceive you? Maybe you’ve worried people will judge you for getting your nails or hair done too much. Maybe you’ve come back from a night out completely paranoid about every little thing you said.
Life is exhausting. Let’s not make it harder on ourselves. As life goes on, we evolve. There should be no apologizing for that. And we can’t let others dictate how we choose to show up in our own lives. They’re OUR lives, not anybody else’s.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss my experience second-guessing myself and how I have been able to transform into my most authentic self by prioritizing my own needs.
I share the reasons why it is crucial to honor your own boundaries by doing work to better yourself, rather than spend your time serving others.
Listen in to learn more about how to take control of your life and stop apologizing for living your truth.
Key Takeaways Mallory’s experience second guessing herself at speaking engagements and how she learned to navigate her truest self
Why you should never apologize for showing up as your authentic self
The negative implications of living up to other peoples’ expectations, rather than your own
How to honor your own boundaries by prioritizing your needs
How people often seek validation from others in order to feel good about themselves
Why it’s good to leave relationships and friendships in the past after you have outgrown them
Why it is helpful to learn to let go of other people’s opinions
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We all know the feeling of being bothered by someone so much that we can barely stand it. But what does that insinuate for ourselves and our mental well being?
Why is that particular thing so triggering? Why are we so worried about what someone else is doing?
We know that oftentimes, our triggers are a reflection of something we need to work on in our own lives.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Jeremy shares his experience battling with his hatred for hypocrites and what that means for himself internally.
Listen in as we discuss how being curious can answer those internal questions in a non-judgmental way. It is important to remember, when you’re curious about something, you can’t be critical.
Key Takeaways Why Jeremy is triggered by hypocrisy
The importance of practicing what you teach and living in congruence with your life values
Why life coaches need to do the work behind the scenes to better themselves in order to be able to effectively coach others
How to identify when you are too worried about what other people are doing
When something is bothering us, it means we need to look within to understand what we need to work on within ourselves to find peace
How we can show up with more integrity in our lives to find gratitude
How to listen to your pain and suffering with curiosity, rather than judgment
How praying for someone and wishing them well makes it much harder to be bothered by them
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I’m going to let you in on a little secret. People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are. I don’t say this to mean that you don’t have a great impact on people, but we often hold ourselves back because we think people will notice we aren’t perfect.
You might not launch your business because your site isn’t perfect, or not go to the gym because your outfit doesn’t match. Hint: nobody cares.
It’s taken me a long time to realize this, so on this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss some of those problematic ways of thinking that hold us back.
Oftentimes, we just need to become aware of our negative energy, how we’re acting and responding to things, and then we are able to move out of that headspace quicker.
Listen in as I go through the things that typically hold us back and what you can do to make sure you are empowered to live your best life.
Key Takeaways Newest round of Level Up VIP started
What ultimately holds us back from reaching our next level
Mallory’s experience with moving on from things too quickly and not celebrating her victories
Becoming aware of our negative energy can shorten the lifespan of that energy
The importance of honoring your feelings by allowing yourself to sit in them
People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are
Perfection will hold you back almost every time
We don’t know other peoples’ stories and circumstances, so comparing yourself to others is unfair to you
How to tap into your own energy, negative or positive
How determining what the energy is behind what we’re trying to accomplish leads us to make empowered decisions
If something is triggering you, it’s probably because it’s something you need to work on.
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In March, we’re starting an intensive, nine-month master coaching certification program. A program we know will challenge us mentally and emotionally.
How are we setting ourselves up for success? What are we doing to prioritize the program around parenting and the multiple businesses we run?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we each approach a program we know will test our time and attention, describing how to make decisions around what’s possible from a ‘window of tolerance’ or neutral place.
We discuss what the DiSC assessment can tell you about your behavior and explore how to work with someone with a very different decision-making process.
Listen in for insight on the pros and cons of being hyper-aware and learn how to show up with intentionality as you start any challenging new personal development program!
Key Takeaways The intensive master coaching certification program we’re starting in March
What we’re doing to prioritize this coaching program and set ourselves up for success
How to approach a program you know will test your time and attention
Why Mallory can’t make decisions from a high or low place
The concept of a window of tolerance or neutral space from which you can make a level-headed decision
Jeremiah’s ability to make decisions quickly and thrive in a stressful environment
What the DiSC assessment uncovers about your behavior and how to work with someone with a very different personality and decision-making process
The pros and cons of being hyper-aware
Why it’s crucial to process and use the tools of personal development vs. just moving on to the next program
How we define wealth as having true ownership of your time
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We spend a lot of our time in the comfort zone. We know what we like and continue our routines in our careers, with friends, and even the small things like a coffee order.
But what if your preferences are blocking your possibilities?
It’s easy to decide your fate before you’ve even had the chance to explore your options. We often find ourselves being fearful of the bad things that could happen in our lives, instead of embracing the endless opportunities.
It’s me, Mallory, and I am back with another solo episode of Destined to Be, where I discuss the importance of breaking down your fears of what might happen in order to unlock your full potential.
Listen in for more insight on how asking yourself important questions about what you truly desire leads to breaking down barriers and living a fuller life.
Key Takeaways * Why it’s crucial to ask yourself why you’re operating the way you are and challenge your own routine * How letting your guard down with yourself allows you to break your own pattern to become more open with other people * The challenging, but rewarding process of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy * How focusing too much on worst case scenarios takes you away from what is actually possible in your life * Why figuring out how to evolve in your life can open up opportunities better than you ever imagined * How to tapinto the pureness of curiosity in order to grow as a person
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In every area of life, to move forward, we must look back and address certain parts of ourselves. This can be one of the hardest and scariest things to do, but we don’t have to go through it alone.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the ugly side of growth and why it’s not always sunshine and rainbows like everyone online makes it seem. We explore how we have dealt with the many struggles that come with stepping outside our comfort zone and confront many truths that can be hard to swallow.
We discuss the importance of confronting your past, how to deal with fear, and the impact that having a good coach can have on your growth journey.
Listen in for insight on what comes with growth and how to persevere through the growing pains to reach your next level of success!
Key Takeaways Jeremiah’s insight on what the ugly side of growth looks like for him
How social media distorts our reality and what growth really looks like
The importance of internal work
Jeremiah on how to get past the comparison trap
How importance of having a coach or mentor
Why staying busy isn’t enough
Mallory’s insight on what a surface level existence looks like and how to break the pattern
Jeremiah’s experience with getting past his own fears and discomfort
Where to look for support in your growth journey
The most crucial step you have to take before you can move forward
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Going into any situation, whether it’s with a loved one or a coworker, it can be so easy to put the blame on others for how we feel. “You should have helped me.” “You don’t care about me.” But what’s really going on inside for us to feel these things so deeply?
Is it childhood trauma, built up resentment from lack of communication, or an insecurity that has been pushed down for years?
How can we deal with these beliefs and make it easier to have empathy and compassion in our relationships?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss what having empathy and compassion can look like in a relationship and the subconscious beliefs that may be getting in the way from growing in this area. We explore how Jeremiah and Mallory model empathy and compassion around their relationship and work to continue to evolve.
We discuss how deeply important it is to incorporate somatic work in your life to neurologically reset your body, improving your relationships and overall state of being.
Listen in for insight on how to work past belief systems and apply these practices to gain more compassion in your intimate and platonic relationships.
Key Takeaways A Level Up client’s experience with subconscious beliefs regarding compassion in relationships
The importance of inner work and where it stands in your life and business
How Jeremiah and Mallory have learned to grow in communication and compassion
Where belief systems usually stem from
Jeremiah’s insight on how communication can help prevent emotion-based reactions and assumptions
Jeremiah and Mallory’s insight on compassion in regards to a significant other vs a stranger
What a mental spiral is and how it keeps you from thinking rationally
The belief system process involved in the Level Up programs
Jeremiah and Mallory’s experience dealing with their oldest son’s belief systems
How Jeremiah and Mallory’s work through these challenges in their relationship
How Mallory works through a spinout
Why most people don’t get past their subconscious beliefs
The importance in having a dialogue around compassion and what it looks like for you and your partner
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With the new year we tend to have unrealistic expectations for ourselves that cause us to hit a wall, throwing all our resolutions out the window.
What if instead of adding, adding, adding to our lists, we simplified our lives to be able to fit in more of the things that really matter?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I, Mallory, explores the idea that we need to shift from the new year, new me hustle mentality with a more simplistic and joyful mindset, describing ways we can create a space that feels good and show up for ourselves in healthy ways that doesn’t lead to burnout.
I explain how finding an in between the all or nothing mentality can allow you to do more without overcommitting, and how important it is to find community and accountability that will keep you on this healthy course.
Listen in for insight on how the hustle mentality holds you back more than it propels you and learn how to create more flow in your life, being able to show up more for yourself and others!
Key Takeaways The Level Up Program and how it is transforming lives
The common theme of the new year
Why you might be feeling burned out already
Mallory’s insight on the “new year, new me” mentality
Tapping more into the joy of each moment instead of seeing tasks as a burden
Finding an in between the all or nothing mindset
The importance of finding community and accountability that adds to your life and doesn’t drain you
Questions to ask yourself to elevate your 2022
Mallory’s habit stacking tip
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Most people grow up with the end goal to become successful. Though what does success even mean?
What if instead of striving to be successful based on what others are doing or to be looked at as successful by others, you got real with yourself with what success really means to you?
How can you live in alignment with your idea of success and continue to redefine it as you continue to evolve?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how the definition of success is subjective and why it’s so important to not compare yourself to others’ definition. We explore Jeremiah’s and Mallory’s ideas of success starting at a young age to now, and how it has evolved over time.
We discuss how to live in alignment with your idea of success, addressing the importance of having the right network, mentors, routines, and fulfilling goals.
Listen in for insight on how you can get clear on your definition of success in all areas of life, reflect it in your day to day, and adjust along the way.
Key Takeaways Getting trapped in the comparison trap when it comes to success
How Jeremiah used to think of success and how that has evolved in every season of his life
How Mallory used to think of success and when that idea shifted
How having entrepreneurship parents made Mallory’s idea of success much different compared to Jeremiah’s
Success continues to evolve and change
Why it’s important to have a network that matches your idea of success/what you’re working towards
The limited beliefs that Jeremiah has struggled with when working to evolve
The importance of knowing what will really fulfill you
How having a mentor has affected Mallory’s success journey
Learning to redefine success as you grow
How Jeremiah and Mallory gage success now
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2021 was a transformative year for us. Jeremiah’s spiritual awakening in June had a ripple effect, shifting the way we think about think success and forcing us to prioritize what matters most.
We had the most rewarding year of our lives financially and deepened our relationship as a couple. And yes, we did fun things like buy Jeremiah’s dream car and install a pool in our backyard.
But we also realized that having things doesn’t matter much if you’re carrying trauma in your body, trying to outrun your pain. If you’re measuring yourself against an ideal and never taking the time to BE.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we reflect on what we’ve accomplished in the last 12 months, personally and professionally, explaining why we focused on energy, alignment and slowing down in 2021.
We share what we learned about not taking things personally, making decisions from a place of faith and holding space for ourselves, each other and our children.
Listen in to understand why we’re focused on ‘living in the game’ in 2022 and learn how to be happier NOW by measuring your success through the gain, not the gap!
Key Takeaways Why we focused on energy, alignment and slowing down in 2021
Our biggest personal and professional accomplishments in the last 12 months
How Jeremiah’s team rallied around him through his spiritual awakening
Why you can have everything you want and still be unhappy
How we think about not taking it personally when people resist our growth
How Jeremiah’s beliefs around rest and success changed in 2021
What inspired Jeremiah’s focus on ‘living in the game’ in 2022
How trauma impacts our bodies and brains—and what to do about it
What it looks like to hold space for yourself and other people
Why it's crucial to have a relationship with your numbers (especially in business)
What Mallory learned in 2021 about working with her feminine energy
Dan Sullivan’s theory of measuring success by the gain vs. the gap
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Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
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While there are a lot of personal development groups for women, it’s harder to find programs that help men deepen their relationships with themselves and become the leaders they want to be.
And that’s why we’re launching Men’s Level Up VIP, a three-week Facebook Live training experience designed to help men decide what they really want and transform their lives.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re back from our holiday hiatus to discuss the programs we’re offering in the new year and share our commitment to providing transformational coaching experiences.
We describe how men will benefit from Level Up VIP, explaining how it’s designed to help them take the first steps toward a life of purpose and impact.
Listen in for insight around the ‘all or nothing’ mindset that keeps you from achieving your goals and find out how to be a part of our supportive community of men and women committed to leveling up our personal and professional lives!
Key Takeaways How and why the premise of Destined to Be evolved in the second half of 2021
Why we’re offering a Men’s version of the Level Up VIP program
Why we recommend doing personal development in a small, intimate group
Why there’s such a stigma for men around vulnerability as weakness
How the Men’s Level Up VIP program will help you know yourself at a deeper level and become the leader you want to be
How the ‘all or nothing’ mindset keeps us from reaching our goals (and what to do about it)
Our commitment to providing transformational experiences where you embody the ideas we’re teaching
The value in joining a community where you’re not judged for your BIG dreams
How to overcome the money story that you can have time or money—not both
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We’re on vacation at an all-inclusive resort right now, surrounded by overindulgence. And when other people find out that we don’t drink, they often justify the fact that they’re making a different choice.
But here’s the thing: You’re an adult, and you don’t need our permission. If you’re happy with your decision to have an adult beverage or two, more power to you.
If, on the other hand, you’re unhappy with the way you feel when you drink or you’re curious what life would be like without alcohol, you can change the story you’re telling yourself and replace drinking with a healthier habit.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore what it looks like to temporarily push down the feelings you don’t want to deal with by drinking, overeating, scrolling the internet—or any other unhealthy habit.
We describe how the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior and explain how to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence.
Listen in for insight on deciding whether your current habits support the person you want to become and learn how to get clear on what you want out of life and replace the habits that are holding you back!
Key Takeaways Why you don’t have to justify your decision to drink (provided you’re happy with that choice)
Why we bring our healthy habits with us on vacation
How to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence
How the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior
What it looks like to push down the feelings you don’t want to deal with via alcohol, overeating, etc.
How the 12-Step Program served as Jeremiah’s introduction to personal development
What to do if you’re struggling with alcohol or curious what life would be like without it
How to decide if your current habits support the person you want to become and replace the habits that are holding you back
Why it’s challenging to get clear on what you want when your mind is fuzzy
How you can’t get to the next level by doing the same sh*t over and over
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Addiction: Obsessions of the Mind That Overpower the Body on Destined to Be EP054
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My powerhouse wife, Mallory, just keeps achieving higher levels of success. And before my awakening this past summer, that success scared me.
I saw her growing independence as a threat. If I wasn’t the provider in our marriage, where did my worth come from?
Patrick Kennedy, Johnny Elsasser and Mark Gustafson are all in committed relationships with extremely successful women entrepreneurs. So, how are they growing stronger as men while they support their partners’ dreams?
On this episode of Destined to Be, Pat, Johnny and Mark join me to discuss the difference between being a provider and being of service to your significant other, describing how a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety—regardless of who brings in more money.
We explain what differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship, sharing what it looks like to hold space for your partner and how to respond when she puts her work first.
Listen in for insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman and learn how to do the inner work it takes to stay connected with your partner and grow together.
Key Takeaways The AHA moment when Pat realized he needed to grow to stay connected with his wife
What women can do to introduce their partners to personal development
The difference between being a provider and being of service to your partner
How a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety (regardless of who makes more money)
Johnny’s insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman
What differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship
Mark’s advice on not taking it personally when your partner puts her work first
Johnny’s challenge to men to do the inner work and evolve to support your partner’s dreams
Pat’s insight on what it looks like to hold space for your partner
The 3 questions Mark asks himself before he speaks up (i.e.: his verbal ‘unsend’ button)
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The House Kennedy on Instagram
The Path of Curiosity Podcast
Connect with Johnny Johnny on Instagram
Johnny’s Website
The Art of Masculinity Podcast
Connect with Mark Mark on Instagram
Samantha on Instagram
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Resources Patrick & Jenn Kennedy on Destined to Be EP087
Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson on Destined to Be EP079
The Wild Man Experience
Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman
In the Flo by Alisa Vitti
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
More people struggle with trauma than we realize. And we all cope with it in different ways.
For me, the pain of feeling like I wasn’t enough made me a troublemaker in school. Later, I turned to drugs and alcohol to fill the void. And most recently, I used achievement and expensive toys to prove myself to the world.
So, what does it look like to explore the way trauma has shaped you? And what can you do to stop hiding from the pain and start working through it?
Kyle Depiesse is the Adventure & Fulfillment Coach behind The Reaching Beyond Experience. He creates one-of-a-kind men’s experiences for high-level entrepreneurs.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I’m sharing my conversation with Kyle on the Reaching Beyond podcast, where we discuss my journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn’t find out who I really was.
I get honest about the irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood and the trauma that brought on my recent nervous breakdown, challenging you to consider that building a relationship with your Creator is our true purpose on this earth.
Listen in for insight on making play an important part of your life and find out why you can’t afford NOT to invest in yourself!
Key Takeaways How we use hope, achievements and significance to hide from pain
My take on how the way you do one thing is the way you do everything
The irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood
My journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn’t find out who I really was
How Mallory saw something in me I didn’t see in myself when we started dating
The trauma that brought on my nervous breakdown (and the therapies I’m using to work through it)
Why building a relationship with our Creator is our true purpose
Our social conditioning around alcohol and what to ask yourself re: how it impacts your life
What play looks like for me and how I see work and exercise as forms of play
Why I can’t afford NOT to invest in myself and how it benefits me in terms of time and expertise
The vulnerability and authenticity that differentiates Kyle’s groups
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Reaching Beyond—The Podcast
Kyle on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah Jeremiah on Instagram
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Destined to Be on Instagram
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Resources Audible
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David R. Hawkins
Dr. Wayne Dyer
EMDR Therapy
75 Hard
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Battle
Gary Vaynerchuk
GoBundance
Arete Syndicate
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
Last week, we talked about making a smooth transition from one season to the next, celebrating the previous season for what it was and building the habits you need to succeed in the new one.
But what else do you need to consider as you enter a new season of life?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to determine who you need to connect with in a new season, describing how to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you and find the supportive people who can help you get where you want to go.
We challenge you to define the vision you are working toward in this new season and weigh in on what it looks like to embody the feelings that align with that vision.
Listen in for insight on the relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices you make—and learn where to go for support as you move into the next season of your life.
Key Takeaways The 2 different kinds of seasons you might be transitioning through
How to determine who you need to connect with in a new season of life
How to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you
How to approach messaging an influencer you want to connect with online
The value of investing in a mastermind or coaching program
Why it’s crucial to create a vision to work toward in each new season
What it looks like to embody the feelings that align with your vision
Why accepting that you are enough is the first step in realizing your vision
How we know when someone is in pain related to a previous trauma
The relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices we make
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text VIP to 586-600-8492
Resources EO Accelerator
GoBundance
Arete Syndicate
Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
There are two different kinds of seasons. There are the actual seasons of the year—spring, summer, fall and winter.
And then there are the seasons where we move into the next phase of our lives, like when our kids start school or we shift from one career to another.
Either way, moving into a new season is emotional and can pull us off track if we’re not careful. So, what steps can we take to create a smooth transition from one season to the next?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain why it’s important to honor the last season as you move into the next and challenge you to set the intention for what you want your days, weeks and months to look like now.
I discuss how to embrace a new season, describing how to focus on the possibilities of what you could accomplish and set yourself up for success.
Listen in for insight on adopting the tendencies of a person in the role you’re working toward and learn how to build the habits you need to support you in this new season of life!
Key Takeaways The 2 different kinds of seasons we transition in and out of
Why it’s important to honor the last season as you move into the next
How to set the intention for what you want your days to look like in a new season
Why I prefer a physical planner to map out my days, weeks and months
What it looks like to schedule your non-negotiables (e.g.: workouts, meal plan, etc.)
How to embrace a new season by considering the possibilities
How to build the new habits you need to support you in each new season
What it looks like to assume the habits of a person in the role you want
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Resources Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Register for Mallory’s Fall Round of Level Up VIP
Passion Planner
Large Dry Erase Wall Calendar
If you’re transitioning into a new season of life, it’s normal to feel some stress, fear and overwhelm.
But if you don’t have the right habits in place, it’s easy to shut down in tough times and backslide on all the progress you’ve made.
So, how do you navigate the challenges of moving into a new season?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss the support you need to transition into a new season of life, describing the emotional week I am having and the healthy habits that are keeping me on track.
I explain why pouring into yourself is a necessity, especially during difficult times, and challenge you to surround yourself with a judgement-free group of people who support where you want to go.
Listen in to understand why accountability is more important than ever in seasons of transition and find out if the sisterhood and support of Level Up VIP is right for you (or someone you love)!
Key Takeaways The benefit of having healthy habits in place during an emotional week
Why I don’t want to replicate the response to anxiety and overwhelm I grew up with
How pouring into yourself is a necessity (especially in tough times)
Why accountability is more important than ever in the craziest seasons
How Level Up VIP gives you the space to share difficult feelings and get judgement-free feedback
Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who support where you want to go
The sisterhood and support that gives Level Up VIP a special energy
Connect with Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Register for Mallory’s Fall Round of Level Up VIP
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything.
Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you,
so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.”
--Paulo Coelho
Personal development is often about adding things to your life. Another program. A new routine. A next-level experience.
But the most impactful work we’ve done so far has been about taking things away. Exploring why we react the way we do and un-learning the behaviors that don’t serve us.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share the work we’re doing to uncover childhood traumas and reshape our belief systems, describing how the coping mechanisms we use as kids turn into character defects later on.
We explain how behaviors that were ‘normal’ to us growing up are not serving us now and get vulnerable about the challenge of replacing our automatic, unhealthy responses with new ones.
Listen in to understand how your thought patterns program your body to react and learn how un-becoming what isn’t really you makes space for who you were always meant to be.
Key Takeaways The work we’re doing now to work through deep childhood traumas
What it looks like to reshape your belief systems
How childhood coping mechanisms turn into character defects
What it means to reach the next level emotionally and intellectually
The challenge of replacing automatic responses with new behaviors
How behaviors that were ‘normal’ to us growing may not be serving us now
Why sitting in your feelings is the hardest part of unlearning
How inner dis-ease creates external problems
The danger in suppressing emotion vs. getting it out of your body
What it means to be codependent in a relationship
Why cultivating more love is our true purpose in life
How our bodies are programmed to react by our thought patterns
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Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Mallory’s Website
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Text VIP to 586-600-8492
Dr. Joe Dispenza
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
If you don’t date your significant other, someone else will.
To keep your relationship strong, it’s crucial to make time to be together—just the two of you. In fact, we recommend dating your partner AT LEAST twice a month.
So, how do you create a date night experience that makes you both feel your best? And how can you leverage date night to deepen your connection and grow together?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why our date night plans fell apart last Thursday, describing what we do when our energies are out of sync and how the painful experience brought us closer.
We discuss what we did differently Saturday to shake up our date night, sharing the apps we use to plan an epic experience and challenging you to set an intention for your time together.
Listen in to understand how limiting distractions lets your partner know they’re important to you and learn how to initiate a meaningful conversation with your significant other on date night!
Key Takeaways Why our date night plans fell apart last Thursday
What to do when you and your partner’s energies are out of sync
Why painful experiences are necessary for growth
What we did differently on Saturday to shake up our date night
The apps we use to plan an epic date night experience
How often we recommend having date night with your spouse
Why we suggest setting an intention for your date
How we make choices around where to eat so we feel our best
How limiting distractions lets your partner know they’re important to you
How to start a meaningful conversation on a date
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Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
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Resources Brendon Burchard
HotelTonight
OpenTable
Resy
Celine Dion Radio
Caliente on SXM
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So, you’ve listened to a few podcasts and read a book or two on personal development.
And now, you’re ready to take that commitment to the next level.
What can you do to show you’re ALL-IN on personal growth?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe the power of traveling solo to be in the same room with other elite individuals committed to next-level growth.
We share the details of the Vibe Higher Retreat coming to Austin, Texas, this November, discussing who is eligible to attend and previewing the diverse group of top guest speakers presenting at the event.
Listen in to understand why you deserve to be part of a group like this and find out how attending the Vibe Higher Retreat will make you a better human.
Key Takeaways The power of being in a room with other people who are all-in on personal growth
What you need to know about Mallory’s Vibe Higher Retreat in Austin this November
The diverse group of elite guest speakers presenting at Vibe Higher
Who is eligible to attend the Vibe Higher Retreat
How investing in masterminds gives you access to people you never thought possible
What we’ve learned from belonging to elite groups
The lifelong friendships we’ve formed through investing in group coaching
How taking time for yourself makes you a better partner and parent
What to do if you feel like you don’t deserve to be a part of an elite group like this
How the Vibe Higher Retreat will give you momentum to get to the next level
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Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
Text VIP to 586-600-8492
Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction on Destined to Be EP169
Families Against Narcotics
Organifi
Tim Grover
What does it mean to invest in yourself?
You have to pour into yourself to show up for other people. And it you keep putting it off, waiting until you get through the next season, the time will never come.
You will never put yourself first. You will never get out of your own way. And you will never have the life you want.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the upcoming round of the 3-month Level Up VIP small group coaching program, explaining how it cultivates an environment of transformation where women truly want what’s best for each other.
We describe how Level Up VIP is customized to what you’re going through, who should sign up for the program and how it provides accountability and ongoing support.
Listen in for insight on building close friendships through a group like this and find out what to do if your partner is resistant to you investing in personal development.
Key Takeaways The structure of the Level Up VIP small group coaching program for women
What you will get out of joining Level Up VIP
How Level Up VIP cultivates an environment of transformation
How the women in the program truly want what’s best for each other
How the Level Up Hype Squads provide accountability and ongoing support
What it means to invest in yourself (and why it’s crucial)
How the program is customized to what you’re going through
Who should sign up for the Level Up VIP program
How being part of a group like this helps you network and build close friendships
What to do if you’re partner is resistant to you joining Level Up
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Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
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Resources Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
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Many families try to hide the fact that they are struggling with addiction. But the only way to overcome drug abuse and alcoholism is to bring it into the light.
As of July 26, 2021, Jeremiah has 14 years of continuous sobriety. So, what did that journey look like? And how do you navigate being in a relationship with an addict?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our journey through addiction, explaining why Jeremiah’s first four trips to rehab were unsuccessful and how connecting with others in AA helped him quit for good.
We offer advice for people in relationships with addicts, describing why you can't change an addict unless they want it for themselves, but you CAN set boundaries to stop enabling their behavior.
Listen in for insight around the best resources for addicts and their loved ones and find out how you can support Families Against Narcotics (FAN) and further their mission to promote compassion over the stigma of addiction.
Key Takeaways How drinking and doing drugs made Jeremiah feel significant
When Jeremiah’s addiction became unmanageable
Why Jeremiah’s first 4 trips to rehab were unsuccessful
How relapse gave Jeremiah a new understanding of the disease of addiction
Why it’s not your fault if you didn’t realize someone you love is using
Why you can’t change an addict unless they want it for themselves
What makes drug abuse and alcoholism a spiritual disease
The best resources for people struggling with addiction and their loved ones
How to set boundaries with an addict and stop enabling their behavior
FAN’s mission to promote compassion > the stigma of addiction
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Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Families Against Narcotics
Alcoholics Anonymous
The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
Al-Anon
Brene Brown
The 6 Absolutes of the Oxford Group
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Do you have people in your life that you’ve outgrown? People who weigh you down with negativity and steal your energy?
What can you do to neutralize these energy vampires—even if you can’t cut them out of your life entirely?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to handle energy vampires, explaining how to change the direction of a negative conversation and why staying quiet gives people permission to gossip to you.
We weigh in on the power of noticing how people make you feel and describe how energy vampires can turn on you when you’re no longer willing to cosign their negativity.
Listen in to understand how you give negative people the permission to deplete you and learn to set boundaries in a way that reduces the amount of time you spend with energy vampires!
Key Takeaways How positivity makes energy vampires very uncomfortable
How to change the direction of a negative conversation with a pattern interrupter
Why not saying anything still gives people permission to gossip to you
The power in being aware of how certain people make you feel
Why nobody talks sh*t about somebody and feels good after
How to counteract energy vampires by coming at them with a passion for life
Why energy vampires turn on you when you don’t cosign their negativity
What it looks like to invite the people you love to be part of your personal development journey
How to create a boundary to reduce the amount of time you spend with energy vampires
How YOU give energy vampires permission to deplete you
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Weird But True Book Series
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With many people, there is a hype around finding a sense of balance between all areas of life. Though, true balance isn’t super attainable.
Tim Grover talks about how when there is perfect balance, the scale says 0.0 which is basically nothing, so the reality of true balance is just an illusion.
What does working for a balanced life look like in an attainable aspect?
What actually makes sense for your specific life and your lifestyle?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea of “balance” and what it looks like to find balance within, to set yourself up for success in each unique season of your life.
We touch on the importance of being in tune with your energy and give different aspects of finding your own balance, increasing the overall quality of you and your family’s lives.
Listen in for insight on how to make sure your view of balance is attainable in your day to day life and what that might look like for you!
Key Takeaways What true balance really means
How balance is to each their own
The importance of finding a sense of balance internally
What conversations that need to be happening within ourselves and with the people we love
How Jeremiah finds reflection helpful in setting himself up for balance in his day to day life
What we have learned on the importance of creating boundaries around balance, especially with family
Mallory’s exercise on how to decrease busy work
The importance of knowing what season of life we’re in, so we can communicate better and be more prepared
The quarterly exercise Jeremiah and Mallory do that saves them time
Why time is so important to make good use of
Prioritizing what is fulfilling and contributing to someone else’s life around you in a positive way
Going with the flow in every season of life
Focusing on our energy in those seasons
Jemermiah’s shift from reactive to proactive to deal with the unexpected
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Tim Grover Conference
Amy Ledin’s Daily Agreement Cards
Andy Frisella’s Power List
The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer
Intimacy is more than sex. It’s about connecting on a soul level.
And it’s challenging enough to build true intimacy with your partner at the beginning of a relationship. But once you’ve had kids, making the time to prioritize your marriage can be even more difficult.
So, how do you create a deep level of intimacy with your person? And what can you do to keep that intimacy alive in your relationship after you’ve had kids?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the five levels of emotional intimacy, explaining how to establish safe communication with your partner and feel comfortable sharing your opinions and beliefs.
We describe the level of trust you need to expose your feelings, experiences, needs and desires with your significant other, exploring how you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale.
Listen in for insight on understanding how your partner needs to be loved and get our top tips for keeping intimacy alive in your relationship after kids.
Key Takeaways How intimacy is defined as deeply knowing another person and connecting on a soul level
What differentiates intimacy from sex or romance
The 5 levels of emotional intimacy
- Safe communication
- Opinions and beliefs of others
- Personal opinions and beliefs
- Your feelings and experiences
- Your needs, emotions and desires
How keeping our traumas in the dark makes us sicker
The shift from needing your partner’s love to desiring it
Why it’s crucial to make time alone to connect with your significant other
What to do if you and your partner lack a foundation of trust
How you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale
Why knowing your partner’s love language is a good starting point for creating intimacy
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Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Love Language Quiz
Brene Brown’s Netflix Special: The Call to Courage
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
Entrepreneurial Operating System for Business
Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
Goal-setting seems pretty straight forward. You build a vision around what you want and then you take action.
But what if you’re achieving goal after goal after goal so you don’t have to feel? And what happens when you finally wake up to the trauma you’ve been repressing for years?
How do you approach goal-setting in a new way? How do you set intentions and stay fully present?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why it’s easy to set external goals but challenging to turn inward, describing the value of checking in with yourself often and ask if what you’re working toward still feels good.
We explain why you can’t experience true transformation until you start processing your repressed feelings and share what we’re learning about seeing vulnerability as a strength.
Listen in for insight on what to do if your partner lacks empathy, compassion and kindness—and learn how to navigate goal-setting and embrace rest while you’re unraveling trauma.
Key Takeaways How Jeremiah’s approach to goals has shifted since his spiritual awakening
Why it’s easy to set external goals but more challenging to turn inward
Mallory’s advice on checking in with yourself often to ask if what you’re working toward still feels good
Why we can’t set goals from a low vibration or mindset of lack
How Jeremiah couldn’t experience true transformation until he started processing his repressed feelings
How men and women experience and respond to feelings differently
Why it’s crucial to listen and receive your partner’s needs
What to do if your significant other lacks empathy, compassion and kindness
What we’re learning about how empathy is the antidote to shame
What it looks like when a man is operating at the highest levels of masculine energy
Why vulnerability is a strength (despite what society teaches us)
How our relationship is thriving now that we’re both willing to be vulnerable
How it’s okay to not know your purpose and explore what lights you up
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Brene Brown’s Netflix Special: The Call to Courage
Brene Brown’s TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability
Entrepreneurial Operating System for Business
Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
So, you’re working through trauma. But you still want to be there for your significant other.
How do you initiate important conversations around the pain you’re experiencing? And what do you do if your partner’s evolution means they don’t show up the way you expected?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world, discussing the challenge we’re facing in predicting each other’s reactions through this season of awakening.
We share the inner work we’re doing right now, describing how to find middle ground when you’ve always been all-or-nothing and what you can do to release the energy of resentment when your partner doesn’t meet your expectations.
Listen in to understand the difference between codependency and a relationship where you both have space to grow and learn how to navigate pain—but still show up in a healthy way for your partner.
Key Takeaways How a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world
The difference between meditating on a vision vs. meditating to achieve inner stillness
Why we have to slow down in order to process painful trauma
The challenge we’re facing around predicting each other’s reactions in this season of change
Mallory’s work around saying how she feels about things
How Jeremiah’s focus has shifted away from externals as he learns to process emotions in a new way
The process of finding middle ground when you’ve been all-or-nothing
How to release the energy of resentment from your body
How to negotiate with your partner in a way that benefits you both
What to do if your partner isn’t in a place to receive feedback
What differentiates codependency from a relationship where both have space to grow
How to initiate deep, meaningful conversations with your partner
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources 5 Love Languages
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
The 4 Agreements
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle
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Is your ego keeping you from truly feeling your emotions?
Processing your trauma is a MUST if you want to grow to the next level. And if you have the tools to work through an awakening of this kind, it can serve to deepen your long-term relationships and cultivate a new kind of presence in your life.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we get real about how Jeremiah’s awakening has shifted the way he expresses compassion, describing how listening to fix someone differs from truly honoring where a person’s at.
We discuss what it looks like when a significant other is threatened by the changes you’re making, challenging you to keep the lines of communication open and be open to your partner’s evolution.
Listen in to understand how we’re socialized to view emotional expression as weakness and learn what it really means to be present—acting from a place of kindness and love.
Key Takeaways How listening to fix someone differs from honoring where they’re at
The benefit of having the tools to process feelings of trauma
How the way Jeremiah expresses compassion has shifted through his awakening
Jeremiah’s new understanding of what it means to be present
How we’re conditioned to expect the people closest to us to react in a certain way (and what happens when that changes)
What it looks like when your significant other is threatened by change
Why we recommend you BE the change rather vs. try to sell your partner on it
How our relationship has improved by keeping the lines of communication open through this process
How men are socialized to view emotional expression as weakness
Jeremiah’s focus on BEING and acting out of love and kindness
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
MUD\WTR
Join Us on a Journey of Self-Discovery on Destined to Be EP159
Overcoming Hardship to Become Your Best Self on Destined to Be EP160
‘Paint Me a Birmingham’ by Tracy Lawrence
Jim Fortin
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
What if having difficult conversations with yourself and your loved ones is the only way to work towards becoming the best version of yourself?
How can childhood trauma shape the way that we live our lives, and addressing it be the only way that we can wake up and truly understand how to grow towards our best selves?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how anyone can start the path to evolve into the best versions of themselves. We explore Jeremiah's experience as he learns to face the difficulties of truly being present and feeling his emotions.
We explain how vital it is to sit with one's emotions. We also address how navigating the path to feeling those emotions is difficult but necessary for not only Jeremiah as an individual, but for his role in his partnership with Mallory and as a role model for his children.
We discuss the manifestation of childhood trauma in adult life and how it shapes the way that you respond to situations, relationships, and emotions throughout your life.
Listen in to understand how taking the steps towards being your best self is a difficult but necessary life journey and how you can begin to navigate this path to overcome trauma and truly be present in your life.
Key Takeaways Further understanding the emotional experience Jeremiah is going through
How Jeremiah and Mallory are taking steps in their relationship to navigate each other's growth
Why having difficult conversations and stumbles along the path are necessary to get to your higher self
Why we turn to outside sources to avoid sitting with ourselves
How we distract ourselves with fantasy, work, or entertainment
The importance of speaking with a therapist/coach to further understand your self-discovery
Why being present is so difficult, but important to create individual emotions and connections
What childhood trauma can look like and manifest itself into in your adult life
How we can pass these lessons on to our partners, kids, and families
How everyone can start their journey to self-discovery by asking themselves what they truly want out of life
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It’s easy to see weakness in people who sit in their emotions.
But what if cracking at the soul level is what it takes to process the trauma you’ve been carrying? What if it’s not just okay but necessary to sit in your feelings?
What if allowing yourself to be vulnerable is the only way to grow and achieve new levels of intimacy, love and respect with your partner?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe what it looks and feels like to experience a panic attack, exploring how feeling exposed can create a sense of fear and anxiety that won’t go away.
We explain how our roles have reversed as Jeremiah navigates strong, unfamiliar emotions and discuss the benefit of getting support from a therapist or coach through such a journey of self-discovery.
Listen in to understand what happens when the illusion of control shatters and find out what to do if you or your partner are experiencing a similar soul awakening.
Key Takeaways Our ongoing commitment to grow in our relationship together
The physical symptoms Jeremiah experienced during his first ever panic attack
Why Jeremiah feels vulnerable and exposed (and the fear and anxiety that’s creating)
How our roles have reversed as Jeremiah navigates strong, unfamiliar emotions
What it looks and feels like when trauma is leaving your body
The benefit of getting support from a therapist/coach through a journey of self-discovery
How real growth happens when you let go of the illusion of control
What it looks like to support a partner who’s having this kind of awakening
Why it’s challenging for men to talk about experiences like this
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How do you make a life-changing decision?
Yes, you want to make the right choice. But fear often rears its ugly head, and you find ways to avoid making the decision one way or the other. Or worse, you say no to yourself from a place of unworthiness.
So, how do you move through the uncertainty and get clear on what you want to do?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I share five questions to ask yourself before making a BIG decision, explaining how to make choices around the vision you have for your life.
I challenge you to consider the risks of saying YES and the risks of saying NO, putting pen to paper as you weigh the pros and cons of moving forward.
Listen in for insight on getting real about what you’re afraid of and learn my strategy for asking your Future Self how they feel about the decision you’re making!
Key Takeaways 5 questions to ask before making a life-changing decision
- How long have you been thinking about this?
- Does this bring you closer to your long-term goals?
- What are the risks if you say YES? What are the risks if you say NO?
- What are you afraid of?
- Who are you doing this for?
How to give yourself time and space to reflect on a BIG decision
Why it’s crucial to make decisions around the vision you have for your life
The benefit of using pen and paper to weigh the risks and rewards
How fear (of success or failure) leads to self-sabotage
What it looks like when we distract ourselves to avoid making a decision
Why it’s important to make sure your own needs are met
My strategy of asking your Future Self about the decision
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Resources ‘5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making a Big Decision’ by Gina Lucia
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Are you waiting until life settles down to get your sh*t together?
Do you catch yourself saying that you’ll start doing the thing you want after the kids get out of school or when things slow down at work or once the holidays are over?
The problem is that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. And if you’re not doing the things you say you want now, when will you EVER do them?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain why there’s no time like the present to go after what you want, describing how we cosign our own crap when we’re afraid of the discomfort required to change.
I challenge you to stop waiting for the next season to get your sh*t together, describing how good it feels to take the first step toward your goals.
Listen in for insight on assessing whether to sit in your current circumstances OR enforce a no-more-excuses policy and decide that NOW is the time to embody the bad*ss you’re destined to be!
Key Takeaways Why there’s no time like the present to get your sh*t together
The danger in saying you’ll start working toward your goals in the next season of life
Why you can’t put what you want on hold for others
How we end up cosigning our own crap because we don’t want to put forth the effort
Why it isn’t your place to discredit someone else’s challenge
How to assess whether you need to sit in the current season or enforce a no-more-excuses policy
What it looks like to decide that your time is NOW
How good it feels to take the first step toward your goals
Why sitting in a little discomfort is the prerequisite for change
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Resources The Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions
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Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
The fact is, it’s challenging to get where you want to go without support. We simply don’t show up for ourselves the same way we do for other people.
But what if you had a community to cheer you on?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I describe the power of community to get where you want quicker, explaining how Level Up VIP holds women accountable for their growth.
I walk you through what’s included in the Level Up VIP 12-week program and discuss how the Level Up Collective membership serves VIP alumni.
Listen in for insight on the power of investing in yourself to shortcut your growth and find out YOU can be a part of my judgement-free Level Up community!
Key Takeaways My mission to help women get where they want to go in community
How Level Up VIP holds women accountable for their growth
Why I break the group into 5-member hype squads who check in with each other daily
What’s included in the Level Up VIP 3-month program
How the Level Up VIP community shows up for each other and offers a different perspective on what you’re going through
How the way you think or talk about yourself keeps you from achieving your goals
Why we don’t show up for ourselves the same way we do in community
The power of investing in yourself to shortcut your outcomes by months or even years
How my Level Up Collective monthly membership serves VIP alumni
The judgement-free culture of support in the Level Up community
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Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147
Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids on Destined to Be EP151
You’ve no doubt heard the saying, ‘Comparison is the thief of joy.’ But I would argue that comparison steals a lot more than just our joy.
Judging ourselves as less-than spikes emotions of anxiety and fear. And if we don’t have the tools to come back from those negative thoughts, comparison attacks who we are at a soul level and prevents us from showing up as the person we’re meant to be.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss what makes comparison so debilitating, sharing how my self-worth took a hit this week and what strategies I am using to ease the stress on my heart.
I explain why it’s crucial to keep your eyes on your own purposeful path and focus on progress as opposed to perfection (which is not a thing).
Listen in for insight on celebrating others and practicing gratitude to shift your energy and learn to release the negative emotions that come from comparing yourself to others!
Key Takeaways How comparison keeps us from showing up as the person we’re meant to be
How my self-worth took a hit this week and caused me to show up less-than
The tools you can use to come back from negative thoughts
Why it’s crucial to keep your eyes on your own purposeful path
How celebrating others fills YOU up when you’re feeling down
The value in focusing on progress vs. perfection (which is not a thing)
How sitting in gratitude reduces the stress and anxiety on your heart
My top strategies for releasing the negative emotions that come from comparison
Why we can’t create from an energy of feeling not-good-enough
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Soul CBD
2020 was rough.
But when bad things happen, you have a choice. You can either let the situation defeat you or figure out how it can serve you.
In fact, I had the best year of my life despite the circumstances.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I share the three things I did to propel myself to the next level in 2020, explaining why I recommend hiring a coach to push you in ways you won’t push yourself.
I discuss the value in following your gut when it tells you you’re out of alignment, describing how our self-worth impacts everything we do and the power we have to change those beliefs.
Listen in for insight on taking messy action toward what you want and learn how YOU can persevere through the stuff that sucks and build the life you want.
Key Takeaways How our perspective determines whether challenging circumstances serve us or defeat us
Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who fit the mold of where you’re going (not where you’ve been)
The 3 things I did that propelled me forward through 2020
Why I recommend hiring a coach that you can work with 1:1 or in a small group program
How a coach pushes you in ways you won’t push yourself
The value in following your gut when it tells you you’re out of alignment
How our self-worth impacts everything we do and the power we have to change those beliefs
Why you can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect different results
What it looks like to take messy action toward what you want
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Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids on Destined to Be EP151
Enneagram Type Descriptions
Shipt
Instacart
We create our own reality.
The stories we tell ourselves become true in our minds. And we assign meaning about our own value by comparing ourselves with others.
So, how can we flip the script when the meaning we’re giving our current circumstances doesn’t serve us? How can we get from WOE IS ME to NOW WHAT?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we place meaning on events based on the values others gave us, describing what to do when you’re stuck in a victim mentality and why it’s so important to eliminate energy wasters from your life.
We weigh in on why so many people struggle to express emotion, challenging you to identify the societal conditioning that’s behind your fear of judgement and make your own choices.
Listen in for insight on how counterproductive it is to worry about things you don’t want to happen and learn to identify when a thought isn’t serving you and break the cycle, shifting away from a feeling of lack and into an abundance mindset!
Key Takeaways How we place meaning on events based on the values others gave us (e.g.: death, divorce)
What to do when you’re caught in a victim mentality
How we create our own reality around the stories we tell ourselves
Why it’s crucial to be aware of energy wasters and do things that fill you up
Why we struggle to express our emotions and how freeing it is to get past that fear of judgement
How our PREFERENCES block us from our POSSIBILITIES
The liberation of identifying societal conditioning and making your own choices
How counterproductive it is to worry about something that you don’t want to happen
How to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset
The meaning we make about our own worth when we compare ourselves to others
How to identify when a thought isn’t serving you and break the cycle
The relationship between judging others and judging ourselves
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Resources Gaia
The Quantum Effect Series on Gaia
10 Years of Personal Growth on Destined to Be EP152
Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids EP151
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Ten years ago, we honeymooned in Cancun. And today, we’re back in the beautiful Mexican city on vacation, reflecting on how we’ve grown in the last decade.
So, how have our lives changed since 2011?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how we’ve evolved since the year we were married, describing the freedom our current careers afford us to be fully present when we travel and set intentions around the experience we want to create.
We discuss how little we knew about personal development on our first trip to Cancun and share what we’ve learned about optimizing our health (physical and mental) and making a commitment to spiritual growth.
Listen in to understand how we went from living the life our family wanted to making our own rules and learn how YOU can shortcut your growth by investing in yourself!
Key Takeaways How we set intentions re: what we want out of a vacation and the experience we want to create
The freedom our careers afford us to be fully present when we travel
How little we knew about personal development on our first trip to Cancun
The free information available to us all to educate ourselves and build the life we want
What we’ve learned in the last decade about our physical and mental health
How what you eat and how you train impacts your energy level and the way you feel about yourself
How we’ve gone from living the life our family wanted to making our own rules
Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with
Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who give you energy
How our spiritual life has evolved over the last ten years to include an understanding of energy
How to make circumstances serve you (even when they suck)
Why we’re committed to investing in ourselves to shortcut our growth
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Resources NIZUC Resort & Spa
Mallory’s ‘Keep Going’ Reel
All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147
The Road Less Stupid by Keith J. Cunningham
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Brendon Burchard’s Courses
School of Greatness Podcast
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
GoBundance
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If you’re becoming a mom for the first time, it’s okay to feel lost. Rest assured that you are not alone.
And while we’re conditioned to believe that once we have children, we should live for them (at the expense of our own identity), I’m here to tell you that you CAN fill multiple roles without feeling guilty about it.
But how do you navigate all the feelings that come with having kids? And how can you be a great mom without losing yourself along the way?
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how my image of who I was changed dramatically when I had kids, describing the physical, mental and emotional shifts that come with childbirth and challenging you to be honest about what you’re feeling through the process.
I get real about the disconnection and guilt I felt after having my first baby and share what I did to lift myself out of postpartum depression and get closer to who I was pre-kids.
Listen in for insight on how children change you for the better and learn my YES, AND approach to being both a mom and a successful entrepreneur!
Key Takeaways How my image of who I was changed dramatically when I had kids
Why it’s dangerous to discredit your own feelings because ‘someone else has it worse’
The physical, mental and emotional shifts your body experiences through childbirth
The disconnection and guilt I felt after having my first baby
How we’re conditioned to believe that once we have kids that’s who we are
What I did to lift myself out of postpartum depression and get closer to who I was pre-kids
Why it’s crucial to be honest about what you’re feeling after giving birth
The value in sharing what you’re going through with a close friend, counselor or support group
My YES, AND approach to being a mom and a successful entrepreneur
Why I intentionally show my kiddos what I do as a business owner
How children change us for the better when we own ALL of who we are
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Resources All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147
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Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
When it comes to journaling, I struggle with consistency. And yet, when I DO make the time to sit down and respond to difficult questions, my writing reveals the things I need to do to get to the next level.
So, where do you find journal prompts specific to what you’re going through right now? And how do you make journaling a consistent habit?
On this episode of the podcast, I share six journal prompts you can use to grow into the person you’re destined to be, describing how journaling in the morning sets your day up for success.
I challenge you to consider (and physically write down) what’s holding you back from reaching the next level, where you’re not following through, and how you can be more energetically aligned with what you want in your life.
Listen in for insight on adding ‘vibe higher’ habits into your daily routine and learn how to leverage journaling to be present in the moment and achieve next-level success!
Key Takeaways Where to find journal prompts specific to what you’re going through right now
Why I suggest journaling in the morning to set your day up for success
Why you need to physically write out your responses—not just think about it
My 6 journal prompts for growing into the person you’re destined to be
- What is holding you back from the next level of success?
- Where are you not following through in your life?
- How can you be more of a magnet to what you want in your life?
- How can you be more energetically aligned to what you want to attract?
- What ‘vibe higher’ habits can you add into your life?
- How can you be more present in the moment today?
How a victim mentality gets in the way of making progress on our goals
The challenge of accepting who you are right now AND being a work in progress
How to eliminate an energy-sucking habit and replace it with something else
Why you should start with 1 new habit rather than doing all the things at once
What it looks like to sit in the now (and why it’s challenging for me)
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Resources Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147
The Five-Minute Journal
Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabrielle Bernstein
Books by Gabrielle Bernstein
How to Do the Work on Destined to Be EP149
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
The Enneagram Institute
Dr. Joe Dispenza
To live a more joyful, fulfilling life, you’ve got to do the work.
But what does that really mean?
The same way championships are won when nobody’s looking, personal growth comes from consistent self-reflection. From figuring out what you need to work on INSIDE, so that what happens OUTSIDE doesn’t dictate how you feel.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share what it looks like to do the work, challenging you to take a minute before you respond to criticism and understand how fear is triggering your fight, flight or freeze response.
We explain why you can’t take things personally if you want a better life and describe how to ask better questions before you make assumptions.
Listen in for advice on getting clear on your boundaries (and negotiating that with your partner) and learn how to manifest peak experiences through a commitment to self-care!
Key Takeaways The benefit of taking a minute before you respond to criticism or a trigger
Why you can’t take things personally if you want a better life
What it looks like to ask better questions before you make an assumption
How fear triggers our fight, flight or freeze response and initiates a cortisol hangover
Why you need to get really clear on your needs, desires and boundaries
Why it’s crucial to present a united front with your partner
How to negotiate boundaries with your partner as you continue to evolve
How peak experiences manifest in your life when you commit to self-care
The value in giving others grace and remembering that no one’s perfect
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Resources Register for Mallory’s Fall Level Up Wait List
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
Stacy Crown on Destined to Be EP148
It’s fun to share your before and after. But no one talks about the messy middle. The times you struggled and seriously considered giving up.
And yet, the challenging times make you who you are.
And there is power in your story. In looking back and connecting the dots. In finding gratitude for what you’ve made it through.
Stacy Crown is the high-performance coach behind Hotmess to Success, a practice designed to help driven women embrace the chaos and achieve massive success. She is also a leader in the network marketing space and the mother of three young children!
On this episode of Destined to Be, Stacy joins us to discuss the power in owning where you’ve been, describing how our identity is shaped by what we’ve survived.
Stacy shares what her days look like as a mom, coach and network marketing leader, offering advice on how to build a consistent routine, be intentional with your time and add good habits to your life one at a time.
Listen in for insight on embodying the person you want to become and learn how to find the purpose in your pain by sharing the story of what you’ve been through with the world.
Key Takeaways The power in owning where you’ve been and what you’ve been through
How our identity is shaped by what we’ve survived
Why where you’re standing now is temporary (if you want it to be)
What Stacy’s days look like as a mom, coach and network marketing leader
How to build a consistent routine that works for you
Stacy’s tips on being intentional with your time and outsourcing as much as possible
Why it’s crucial to build good habits one at a time vs. all at once
What it looks like to BE until you BECOME who you want to be
How we don’t talk about our struggles or celebrate our accomplishments enough
Why your past will hold you back until you can share your version of the story
How self-reflection helped Alison navigate the end of her marriage
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Hotmess Success Facebook Group
Connect with Mallory & Alison Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Alison on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
Feel like what you’re doing now isn’t for you anymore?
It’s tough to walk away from something you’ve put your heart and soul into, and you may feel totally lost for a while. But it’s these moments of struggle that make you who you are. It IS possible to keep going.
And your identity will continue to evolve each time you level up.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how what you do can become who you are, describing the pivotal moment when I walked away from the fitness studio I’d co-owned for seven years and how that affected my identity.
I discuss how I responded the second time I realized it was time to make a career change, challenging you to lean into the gut feeling that something’s not right and see where it takes you (rather than trying to mask it).
Listen in for insight on how the work I do now as a mindset coach is informed by my experiences in fitness and network marketing and learn to reflect on how far you’ve come and find gratitude for how each experience served you in that season of life!
Key Takeaways My background in personal training and dance fitness and how what you do can become who you are
The challenge I faced in pursuing both network marketing and a career in fitness
The pivotal moment I decided to walk away from the studio I’d owned for 7 years (and how that shift affected my identity and ego)
How I responded the second time I realized it was time to make a career change
Why you should lean into the gut feeling that something’s not right and see where it takes you rather than trying to mask it
How to look back in gratitude and reflect on how your experiences served you in that season
How what I do now as a mindset and transformation coach is informed by my experiences in fitness and network marketing
How it’s your moments of struggle that got you where you are today
The value in reflecting on how far you’ve come and exploring how your identity evolves each time you level up
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Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
Mallory’s Instagram Post on Matcha
National Personal Training Institute
When you decide to say YES to yourself and the person you want to become, you have to say NO to other things.
And if you’re used to being a people pleaser, this can be a real challenge.
But if you’re appeasing other people at the cost of your own happiness, it’s time to learn how to set some healthy boundaries and normalize saying NO THANK YOU to the things that don’t serve you.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why saying no is self-care, describing the anxiety, exhaustion and overwhelm that result when you don’t make space for what you need.
We discuss the danger empaths face in taking on other people’s problems as their own and challenge you to set boundaries with yourself in order to overcome bad habits and limiting beliefs.
Listen in for insight on why it makes others uncomfortable when you decide to change and learn how to enjoy the freedom of saying NO without explaining yourself or feeling guilty about it.
Key Takeaways
The anxiety, exhaustion and overwhelm that happen when you can’t say no
How saying YES to your priorities means saying NO to other things
The danger empaths face in taking on other people’s problems as their own
Alison’s journey to making herself a priority
Why it’s challenging for Mallory to say no to herself when it comes to work
How to set boundaries with yourself to shift bad habits and limiting beliefs
Why you don’t have to explain yourself when you say no
Why it’s crucial to practice saying no (without feeling guilty about it)
How freeing it is once you get past the discomfort of saying no
Why it makes others self-conscious and uncomfortable when you change
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Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources
Mallory’s Reel on Saying No as Self-Care
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
Did you know that thoughts become things?
The truth is, we create our own reality. And we’re limited only by what we BELIEVE is possible for us.
On this episode of Destined to Be, I’m sharing the idea that we create our own destiny through our thoughts, explaining how the universe acts in our favor when we align with the frequency we’re trying to become.
I weigh in on how to show your Creator you’re taking the time to BE and describe how to embody the feelings you want in order to attract your Future Self.
Listen in to understand the role emotional intelligence plays in your ability to co-create with the universe and learn how to leverage the principle that thoughts become things to live a life of your own design!
Key Takeaways The idea that you create your own destiny through your thoughts
How believing we’re the victims of circumstance justifies inaction
Why real growth comes from leaning into the unknown
The power in aligning with the frequency of what we’re trying to become
How the universe acts in your favor when you get out of the way
How the possibilities available to you are the possibilities you BELIEVE to be true
Why I suggest meditation to show your Creator you’re taking time to BE
How to embody the feelings you want to attract your Future Self
How wisdom is defined as thought without emotional charge
The role emotional intelligence plays in being in creation with the universe
Why the present moment is all we really have
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Resources Dr. Joe Dispenza
Law of Attraction
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
A Burning Desire by Kevin Griffin
Dr. Wayne Dyer
So, something tells you that you’re meant for more. And you have an idea for the life you want to create.
But then you wonder, ‘Who am I to try this new thing?’ You second guess your savvy and start to believe that you’re not good enough.
You’ve got a bad case of imposter syndrome, and it’s got you stuck.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we offer insight on overcoming imposter syndrome, challenging you to explore the evidence that you ARE competent and capable and shift from considering worst-case scenarios to asking, ‘What’s the BEST that could happen?’
We weigh in on what it looks like to trust the plan your Creator has for you and move forward on your dreams, knowing that things will work out in your favor.
Listen in to understand why other people’s opinions of you are less important than you think and learn how to trust yourself, jump in and DO THE THING that’s on your heart.
Key Takeaways How imposter syndrome is defined as an inability to internalize our accomplishments
The connection between not celebrating the good stuff and feeling like a fraud
Why we look for external validation when we’re thinking about trying something new
Alison’s experience with not believing she’s good enough to do what she wants
How to overcome imposter syndrome by exploring the evidence that you are competent and capable
How to shift from considering the worst-case scenario to reflecting on the BEST that could happen
What it looks like to trust in the plan that your Creator has for you and move forward knowing that things will work out
How to reframe what you might lose to what you might learn from taking a leap
How imposter syndrome stems from other people’s opinions of you (and how to get past that)
Our advice on listening to the voice inside that says there’s something bigger for you
Why you should trust yourself, jump in and DO THE THING that’s on your heart
Connect with Mallory & Alison Destined to Be Podcast
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Mallory on Instagram
Alison on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492
Resources Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
Rachel Hollis
Taking care of your body is key in becoming the person you’re destined to be. And if you’re struggling to eat healthy, get enough sleep or keep a regular workout schedule, you know you’re not showing up as your best self.
But how do you start implementing healthy habits in your life?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our favorite hacks for staying healthy, walking you through our go-to prepared meals and challenging you to outsource healthy grocery shopping if you can’t make time to do it yourself.
We weigh in on what to drink, describing how much water we consume on a daily basis and what we recommend as alternatives to coffee.
Listen in for insight on making exercise a non-negotiable, determining what optimal sleep looks like for you and taking the right supplements to feel on top of your game!
Key Takeaways Why it’s crucial to leave the house with enough food to get through the day
How much water we drink on a daily basis
Our go-to prepared meal of vegetable, chicken and rice or pasta
How we stock our refrigerator with fresh juices
Why you should outsource healthy meal prep and/or grocery shopping if you can’t make time
Why working out is a non-negotiable for us (and when we rest and recover)
How sleep is the #1 thing you can do for you physical and mental health
How to determine what optimal sleep looks like for you
The Amare supplements we take to feel on top of our game
Our favorite alternatives to coffee, i.e.: Matcha or MUD\WTR
Why we recommend adding one new habit at a time to see how you feel
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Resources HydroJug
BOTTLED JOY 1 Gallon Water Bottle
Frank’s RedHot Buffalo Sauce
Beyond Juicery + Eatery
ICON Meals
Ben’s Original Ready Rice Jasmine Rice
Leo’s Coney Island
G Hughes Sugar Free
BCAAs
Amare Global
Amare Greens Powder
Pique Tea Matcha
MUD\WTR
Liquid Modere Collagen
If you make a mistake, you should make amends. But all too often, we apologize in situations where we’ve done nothing wrong.
We say we’re sorry for prioritizing ourselves and our goals. And we feel like we have to justify our choices.
So, how do you learn to value yourself enough to stop apologizing when it’s just not necessary?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we follow up on last week’s show and share three more things you don’t need to apologize for, reminding you that changing your mind is a natural part of growing as a person.
We discuss the importance of taking time for yourself, describing how personal development gives you the courage to communicate your needs to the people in your life.
Listen in for insight on saying no without apology or justification and learn how to set clear boundaries and build the life you want—without feeling guilty about it!
Key Takeaways 6 things you don’t need to apologize for
- Your life choices
- Putting your own needs first
- Standing up for yourself and your beliefs
- Changing your mind
- Taking time for yourself
- Saying no
The difference between apologizing and making amends
How to overcome the tendency to apologize when you ask for something
Why spouse shaming is a bad idea (and what you can do instead)
How changing your mind is inevitable as you continue to learn and grow
How to communicate your needs to the people in your life
Why you shouldn’t feel guilty for building the life you want
The freedom that comes from setting clear boundaries
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Resources Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching
Everybody has an opinion. And if you’re just getting started with personal development, the people around you may have a lot to say about it.
But your ambition to change your life for the better is not hurting anybody, and you don’t need to feel guilty about it.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share three things you absolutely DO NOT need to apologize for, explaining why you don’t have to justify your life choices and how to build the confidence to own where you are.
We weigh in on putting your own needs first, describing how we prioritize our health and wellness and why we don’t take advice from anyone we wouldn’t trade places with.
Listen in for insight on standing up for your beliefs and learn how to make your own decisions, stand by them and move forward with your life!
Key Takeaways 3 things you don’t need to apologize for
- Your life choices
- Putting your own needs first
- Standing up for yourself and your beliefs
How to build the confidence to stand by your choices without feeling guilty
Why you SHOULD apologize when you’re wrong or if you make a mistake
Why it makes others uncomfortable when you have the ambition to change your life
Why it’s crucial to surround yourself people who support your personal growth
How we put ourselves first by prioritizing our health and wellness
The trips we take to recharge and put our needs first
Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with
How it impacts your life when you’re continually defending your opinion
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Resources Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching
Know you want MORE for your life—but the people around you just don’t get it? Then it’s time to find a community that supports you in growing to the next level. A group of people who elevate your energy and want to stay connected for the long term.
So, how do you attract the kind of people you need to get the results you want?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why it’s crucial to be part of a group that raises your vibration in the physical sense, discussing what you can manifest in a community with likeminded individuals who ‘get it.’
We share the details of our recent Level Up VIP in-person event, inviting our dear friend Allison to weigh in on how the first round of the program changed her life for the better and describe the transformations she observed as a mini-mentor in the second round.
Listen in for insight on adding value to any kind of personal development group and learn how to attract and stay connected with the people who will elevate your energy and help you grow into a better version of yourself!
Key Takeaways Why it’s crucial to be in a group of people who elevate your energy in the physical sense
How the first round of Level Up VIP changed Allison’s life for the better and what she observed as a mentor in the second round
The power in having access to likeminded women who can relate but won’t judge you
What you can manifest in your life using the small-group mastermind formula
How being part of a community helps you transcend into a better version of yourself
The value in getting in person with a mentor or coach who’s living the life you want
Why people want to stay connected once they find a group that really works for them
How old habits come back in the absence of accountability
How the MVP of this round of Level Up VIP added value to the group
Why you get more from group coaching when you’re willing to be vulnerable
Why the Level Up VIP or forthcoming online course is a prerequisite to Mallory’s new Level Up Collective membership program
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Resources Allison on Destined to Be EP100
Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
The Secret
Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
In a world where we can get just about anything we want delivered in 24 hours or less, it’s tough to remember that achieving big goals doesn’t work the same way.
You can’t build a business or transform your health by clicking a button and waiting on the Amazon truck.
But there are two key traits that you can cultivate to build success in any area of your life.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the characteristics you need to be successful—consistency and patience.
We explain why it’s easy to forget that everyone has bad days, challenging you to show up even when you don’t want to and remember that small, consistent steps repeated over time yield big results.
Listen in for insight on developing patience (with yourself and others) and learn how to take ownership of where you are now and keep working toward the goals that are going to take time.
Key Takeaways The two traits you need to be successful in any area of your life
- Consistency
- Patience
Why we struggle with patience in a world where we can get things on demand
Sam Walton’s Sundown Rule for taking action today
The challenge of being patient when you’re counting on other people to move the ball forward
How it’s our responsibility to take advantage when a door opens and walk through
Why it’s easy to forget that everyone has self-doubt and bad days
The danger in comparing yourself to influencers on social media
How consistency is built by showing up even when you don’t want to
How BIG results come from small, consistent habits that are repeated over time
How a clear vision helps us stay consistent in our decision-making
Why it’s futile to spend the day worried or stressed about past or future events
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Resources Sam Walton’s Sundown Rule
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
There are two ways to look at the word ‘try.’
Most of us use it when something’s not really a priority. We’ll ‘try’ to get to the gym today… But if we don’t make it, no big deal.
But what if you ONLY used the word ‘try’ in the context of trying again and again—until you reach your goal?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how we use the word ‘try’ as an excuse to show up less-than what we’re really capable of.
We explain why you shouldn’t give up on a goal when one tactic doesn’t work and encourage you to think through the consequences of breaking a commitment before you let yourself off the hook.
Listen in for insight on measuring your progress toward a goal and take on our challenge to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary for a day and see what shifts.
Key Takeaways The two very different ways we use the word ‘try’
How thinking through the consequences of giving up keeps us on track
How TRY is an excuse to show up less-than what we’re really capable of
The benefits of measuring your progress toward a goal
Why you shouldn’t give up on goal when one method doesn’t work
How temporary setbacks are just part of the process
How what you think on the inside influences what you create on the outside
How to approach a weight loss goal one workout or meal at a time
Mel Robbins’ 5 second rule for acting on a commitment
Our challenge to remove ‘try’ from your vocabulary
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Resources Mallory’s Instagram Post on the Word ‘Try’
Mallory’s Wait for It… Post on Instagram
Napoleon Hill
Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule
The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins
If your goals are big enough, you’re going to feel frustration and overwhelm.
So, how do you handle those moments without giving up?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our best strategies for persevering through challenging times, describing the benefit of getting into meditation when you feel like you’re in over your head.
We explain how to recognize when you’re in grind season and keep pushing—even when a new venture isn’t all that much fun.
Listen in to understand how growth comes from getting uncomfortable and learn how YOU can accomplish unbelievably BIG things by taking the next small step!
Key Takeaways How having friends who call you out when you slip helps you keep going
The one-bite-at-a-time approach to overcoming overwhelm
How we use the Ninety.io system to keep track of to-dos
The benefit of getting into meditation when you feel frustration or overwhelm
How to recognize you’re in grind season and persevere (even when a new venture is not fun)
Why your goals aren’t big enough if you don’t feel challenged
How growth comes from getting uncomfortable and having hard conversations
The advantage of having a mentor who’s done what you want to do
How to draw on the emotions you feel when you exceed expectations to keep pushing
What it feels like to give up on yourself and have to start over
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Resources Dan Sullivan Strategic Coach
Ninety.io
Entrepreneurial Operating System
True Underdog Podcast
Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness
Are you struggling to make progress on your big dreams?
Is it because you’re waiting for a more convenient time to get started? Or because you don’t want to ask for help?
Or maybe you’re telling yourself it’s easier to just to keep doing what you’re doing.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share three simple rules in life that will propel you to go after what you want right now—and keep moving forward no matter what hurdles you face.
We explain why it’s NOT a badge of honor to try and do it all yourself, describing how we delegate the things we don’t enjoy, don’t have time for or that don’t require our skill set.
Listen in for insight on leveraging extreme accountability to follow through on your big goals and get inspired to take the next step that will take YOUR life to the next level!
Key Takeaways Our 3 simple rules in life
- If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it
- If you don’t ask, the answer is always NO
- If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place
Why you can’t wait to go after the big things on your heart
Why the process of going after your dreams is more important than the end goal
How to keep moving forward no matter what hurdles you face
Why it’s NOT a badge of honor to try and do it all yourself
How we delegate things we don’t enjoy, don’t have time for or that don’t require our skill set
Why successful people don’t ask how but WHO
The EOS exercise for shifting your daily activities into your zone of genius
Why there’s no such thing as being too busy
How you’re only one ask away from getting to the next level
How extreme accountability helps us follow through on our big goals
The indescribable feeling that comes with peak experiences
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Resources Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Entrepreneurial Operating System
You can’t win ‘em all.
But you can change the way you think about losing. In fact, you can frame up your failures in a way that builds a new reality. A reality of winning for the long term.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how to let go of failure rather than letting it fester, describing the role daily habits play in cultivating a winning mentality.
We explain how small, consistent wins give you the confidence to tackle BIG stuff down the road and challenge you to set intentions so that simple things turn into WINS.
Listen in for insight on identifying what winning looks like for YOU (without getting derailed by shiny stuff) and learn how to change your perception of failure so you can win, win, win—no matter what!
Key Takeaways How to let go of failure rather than letting it fester (and dragging others down in the process)
How we reframe failure as a lesson that helps us move forward
How your perception of failure creates your personal reality
The role daily habits, behaviors and routines play in cultivating a winning mentality
Why setting an intention must be followed up with ACTION
How to decide what winning looks like for YOU vs. getting derailed by the shiny stuff
How small daily wins give you the confidence to tackle BIG stuff down the road
How to recalibrate your emotions when you’re in an uncomfortable situation and push through
How to set an intention so that simple things become WINS
The momentum we build from consistently feeling like a winner
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Resources Gary Vaynerchuk
Esther Hicks
Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Esther and Jerry Hicks
Dean Graziosi
Tony Robbins
Lewis Howes
Your Next-Level Life Demands a Different Version of You on Destined To Be EP134
Are you ready to take your life to the next level? Then you have to be willing to grow as a person.
Otherwise, you’ll be living the same year over and over and over again.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why getting to the next level of your life demands a different version of you, exploring how the journey (and who you become in the process) is even more important than reaching a certain goal.
We describe how to be aware of who has power over your thinking, take ownership of who you share your biggest dreams with and elevate your friend circle as necessary.
Listen in for insight on changing your habits as well as your thinking and learn how to leverage the compound effect of improving by 1% every day as you grow into your Better Self.
Key Takeaways Why getting to the next level demands a different version of you
Why the first step in showing up as your better self is knowing what you want
How GOOD can become the enemy of GREAT
Why the journey is more important than achieving your goals
What it looks like to build emotional intelligence
How to take ownership of who you share your biggest goals and dreams with (and change your friend circle if necessary)
Why we need to be aware of the people who have power over our thinking
How to change your thinking by changing what you watch or listen to
The compound effect of changing your habits by 1% every day
Why it’s crucial to make time for exercise and other healthy habits
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Resources Matthew McConaughey’s Oscar Speech
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
Yes, it’s important to stand up for what you believe in. But when you’re triggered by someone who has a different opinion and you get combative, you’re creating turbulence that doesn’t serve anyone.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how to deal with people we disagree with, explaining how we adapt our own opinions as truth based on the information we have.
We discuss why we make an effort to respect other people’s opinions (as long as they can back them up with reasons) and what we can learn from listening to voices on both sides of an issue.
Listen in to understand how you’re creating internal resistance when you come at people with anger and learn how to take responsibility for your emotions and put positive energy out into the universe, even in situations where you disagree.
Key Takeaways How we adapt our opinions as truth based on the information we have
How the ‘facts’ we’re presented with online differ based on our political beliefs
Why we make an effort to respect other people’s opinions (as long as they can back them up with reasons)
What it means to be brainwashed and refuse to consider any other point of view
How you create internal resistance by being combative and how that negative energy impacts your health
What it looks like to take responsibility for your emotions and put positive energy out into the universe
How NOT to get triggered by other people’s opinions
The power in reminding yourself that life is abundant and there is nothing to fear
What you can learn from listening to people on both sides of an issue
The danger in coming at people who disagree with anger and disrespect
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Most people think that happiness is something that happens TO us when things work out just right.
But the truth is, happiness is a CHOICE. And it’s up to YOU to opt in. But how, exactly, do you cultivate a sense of joy and fulfillment?
How do you choose happy?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the relationship between gratitude and fulfillment, explaining how to avoid getting sucked into victim mentality and operate from a place of abundance.
We describe how gratitude requires us to be present in the moment, cautioning you against postponing joy while you wait for something better to come along.
Listen in for insight on practicing gratitude on the daily and learn how to leverage what you’re grateful for as fuel for making power moves in your life!
Key Takeaways How gratitude requires us to be present in the moment
The relationship between embodying gratitude and being happy
How to bring yourself back to gratitude when you have a negative emotional reaction to a situation
Why you can’t be a VICTIM and in gratitude at the same time
The danger in postponing joy while you wait for something different/better to come along
Why we’re relentless about chasing peak experiences
How to avoid getting sucked into victim mentality and operate from gratitude
How gratitude gives us the courage to make power moves
Our challenge to practice gratitude by saying it out loud or writing it down
How to identify what it feels like to be in gratitude
Why giving to others deepens your own sense of gratitude
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Resources TED Talk: Want to Be Happy? Be Grateful
Ed Mylett
Todd Palmer on Destined to Be EP003
Dr. Joe Dispenza
When you’re navigating trauma, it feels like the worst thing in the world.
But time after time in our lives, bad situations have turned out to be some of the best things that ever happened to us.
And the most difficult circumstances taught us to be more intentional about the life we want to create and put us on the trajectory to build Destined to Be.
On this episode, we’re sharing our conversation with dear friend Aaron Opalewski who interviewed us on his Scale Your Life Podcast a few months back.
We start from the very beginning of our journey, discussing how we became a couple and each built our own successful businesses—and how things changed when we had our first child.
Aaron asks what we do to instill our core values in our kids, and we describe our commitment to being fully present with our children and lifting each other up.
Listen in for insight on what inspired us to start Destined to Be TOGETHER and get our top advice for keeping a positive mindset no matter what’s going on in the world!
Key Takeaways Our journey from high school friendship to becoming a couple
How we each built our own successful businesses in the fitness and masonry space
How our lives changed when we had our first child
The traumatic experience that taught us to be intentional about the life we want to create
How to flip the script and make a seemingly bad situation serve you
What we do to instill our core values in our kids
How to evaluate the advice someone gives you and choose whether to follow it
Why we’re committed to being present with our children
How to pull your partner up to a higher vibration when they’re not operating as their best self
What inspired us to start our business partnership and couples brand
Our insight on keeping a positive mindset through difficult times
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Resources Scale Your Life Podcast with Aaron Opalewski
Arete Syndicate
Aaron Opalewski on Destined to Be EP093
The Twelve Steps
The 5 Love Languages
Entrepreneurial Operating System
Tony Robbins
Patrick Bet-David
Ed Mylett
Andy Frisella
Amare Global
When we compete, only one person can win.
And while this is fine for games, sports and other kinds of contests, it’s not the best approach to business or life.
So, how do we shift out of competition mode? And what can we do to cultivate the positive energy of creation?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why you can’t compete and create at the same time, describing how competition fuels comparison and generates hostile energy.
We explore the pros and cons of using comparison as fuel, discussing why you don’t need to be in competition with others if you’re truly living your purpose.
Listen in for insight around being happy for people you’re competing with and learn how to approach life from a place of creation and embody your higher self!
Key Takeaways How competition implies that only one person can win
Why you shouldn’t be in competition if you’re truly doing what you’re supposed to do
How competition fuels comparison and stifles creativity
Why you can’t compete and create at the same time
The pros and cons of using comparison with others as fuel to give you an edge
Why real growth only comes from a place of creation
How we feel when we’re in competition as opposed to creation
The next-level energy you create when you can be happy for the people you’re competing with
The hostile energy and resistance we generate by forming negative opinions
How to mindfully decide whether to voice your opinion
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Resources Dr. Joe Dispenza
Andy Frisella
Ed Mylett
The Enneagram Institute
The Twelve Steps
GoBundance
Chattanooga Viral Video
How is it possible to have $100M and still feel middle class?
Most of us have a hard time perceiving the truth of how far we’ve come or what we’re capable of. We forget that we’ve already beaten the odds, simply by being alive. And we waste time wishing for what other people have and questioning their qualifications.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the role comparison plays in perceiving ourselves as less than we actually are.
We explain how to build new beliefs by thinking through what you’ve already done, challenging you to break the habit of comparing yourself to what other people are doing.
Listen in to understand why people question and attack others when they’re hurting and learn what to do if your current self-perception isn’t helping you grow!
Key Takeaways What the 75-year study on happiness reveals about how our perception shifts over time
The role comparison plays in perceiving ourselves as less than we actually are
How to build new beliefs by thinking through what you’ve already done
Why we don’t need to compare ourselves to anyone else
Why it’s okay to mute certain accounts on social media if they tempt you to compare
How we get upset about what others are doing when we envy what they’ve achieved
The challenge around not feeling personally attacked when someone says you’re not qualified
The danger in tying your value as a person to how much money you have
How to change your perception by reflecting on how far you’ve come
What to do if your current perception of yourself isn’t helping you grow
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Resources Entrepreneurs’ Organization
Gary Vaynerchuk
Harvard Second Generation Study
Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness
The Four Agreements
The Enneagram Institute
Matthew McConaughey’s Oscar Speech
Compassion on Destined to Be EP129
Jeremiah on ProjectME with Tiffany Carter EP151
Without passion, nothing happens. Without compassion, the wrong things happen.
In the memoir Into the Magic Shop, neurosurgeon and Stanford professor Dr. James Doty shares his story of learning to harness the power of both the brain and heart. And he contends that we cannot enjoy true wealth or live our best lives in the absence of compassion.
But what does it look like to practice compassion in our daily lives?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea that the only thing we really need to be successful is compassion, describing how mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don’t have empathy for others.
We explain how pouring into other people makes our business life and friendships more valuable, introducing you to the science around how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity.
Listen in for insight on how a lack of empathy holds you back and learn how cultivating compassion for yourself and others leads to a happier, more fulfilling life!
Key Takeaways The idea that the only thing you really need to be successful is compassion
How mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don’t have empathy for others
Mallory’s focus on raising kind and compassionate kids
Why Jeremiah fights feeling compassion for others and how that holds him back
The distinction between having compassion and holding people to a high standard
How pouring into other people makes our relationships more valuable
The relationship between passion and compassion
The science behind how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity
How compassion helps us shift negative thoughts about other people
Why self-compassion is a prerequisite for showing compassion to others
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Resources Into the Magic Shop
Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart by James R. Doty, MD
Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
When you’re overwhelmed, do you work through it? Or do you push it down and tell your partner you’re fine?
It’s scary to be vulnerable and communicate what you’re really feeling. But it’s absolutely necessary if you want to find solutions.
And if your partner has your back, it’s much easier to navigate overwhelm (or any other negative emotion) and come out better on the other side.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the challenge of articulating why you’re overwhelmed, encouraging you to get present and express those uncomfortable emotions to your partner.
We explain why it’s crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to show how we really feel.
Listen in for insight on pushing just 4% past your comfort zone and learn how to create a culture of support in your relationship that allows you to communicate overwhelm—and find solutions together.
Key Takeaways The power in creating a culture of support in your relationship with your significant other
How our couples weekend serves as a container to sit down with your partner and put your vision on paper
The challenge of articulating why you’re feeling overwhelmed (and how to overcome it)
Why it’s crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to express our emotions
Why you shouldn’t ignore the pull to level up—even if it makes you uncomfortable
How knowing your partner has your back can help you navigate overwhelm
How growing together inspires action you might not take for yourself
How to push 4% past your comfort zone and share what you’re really feeling vs. defaulting to I’m fine
What it looks like to vocalize overwhelm with your partner and find solutions together
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Resources Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Organifi
Drew Canole
The 12 Steps of AA
Tony Robbins reminds us that if you want to change your life, you have to raise your standards.
But how, exactly, do you set the bar higher? And how do you follow through and live up to these new standards you set for yourself?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to the next level, explaining how couples can serve as extreme accountability partners and hold each other to a higher standard.
We explore how creating a vision for the future helps you raise your expectations and what to do if you’re not living up to the standards you set for yourself.
Listen in for insight on raising the standards for your relationships and learn how to build a new standard of belief in your own worthiness.
Key Takeaways Why it’s crucial to communicate your standards to others so they know what you expect
The value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to a higher standard
Why it’s more effective to focus on how to solve a problem rather than who’s to blame
How to set standards for relationships around a potential partner’s lifestyle choices (and whether those choices align with your core values)
How couples can serve as each other’s extreme accountability partner
Why whatever consumes your mind the most is your higher power
The challenge around setting high standards for how you show up as a parent
How to set the standard of having a clear vision for the future
What to do if you’re not living up to the standards you set for yourself
How to leverage repetition to create new standards and beliefs, e.g.: I am worthy
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Resources Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]
Andy Frisella
Tony Robbins
Awaken with JP on Instagram
GoBundance
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
The Four Agreements
We hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t get clear on what you want to be NEXT. Vision is key in manifesting the life you want.
But we hope you never stop growing up. That you keep striving for the next thing and evolving into a better person than you are now.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re explaining why it’s crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next, challenging you to STOP living on autopilot and START pushing out of your comfort zone.
We discuss how the information age allows us to keep learning, growing and checking our beliefs and describe how getting stuck in conditioning guarantees a mediocre life.
Listen in for insight on growing into the next version of yourself and learn how to set an intention on the feelings you want to have—and then allow the universe to respond!
Key Takeaways Why it’s crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next vs. live on autopilot
The challenge in giving yourself permission to do what you want (when what you’ve been conditioned to do isn’t serving you anymore)
How the internet has changed our ideology around staying in the same career long term
Why never pushing out of your comfort zone guarantees mediocrity
How we define wisdom a memory of the past without emotional charge
Why we surround ourselves with people who are constantly reading, learning and checking their beliefs
How to put an intention on the feelings you want to have and then allow the universe to respond
How we use Sex Magic to focus our intention on the same goal
Why we hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend
Dr. Oz on On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay Shetty on The Dr. Oz Podcast
Sex Magic
Matthew McConaughey on the Hero in Your Future Self
In a perfect world, we would only go where we’re celebrated—not tolerated.
But sometimes we can’t avoid being around people who gossip, judge or complain. People with the potential to bring us down.
So, how do you keep your vibe high in that situation? And what can you do to spend LESS time with Debbie Downers and MORE time with people who lift you up?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to build high-vibe relationships, explaining what you can do to attract elite-level people into your life.
We describe how to handle a Negative Nancy, challenging you to cultivate peak experiences and show up with HIGH energy to protect yourself from their low vibe.
Listen in for insight on adding value to other’s lives and learn how move past mediocre and start living a high-vibe life of abundance!
Key Takeaways Why we choose to go where we’re celebrated, not tolerated
What to do when you’re faced with a Negative Nancy
How showing up with high energy protects you from people with a low vibe
The value in surrounding yourself with people who make peak moves
How to attract more elite-level people into your life
Why you can’t create if you’re not consistent in doing things that are good for you
The relationship between abundance and success
Why you shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting more than a mediocre life
How to flip it on them when a Debbie Downer starts complaining
Why you can’t get stuck in how it’s always been done
How to influence people to work harder by investing in them
Why it’s crucial to add value to your friends’ lives (and how to do it)
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Mallory’s Level Up VIP Coaching Program
The ONE Thing
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
EO Accelerator
Young Presidents’ Organization
The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles
Chris Harder
To have a healthy relationship, you need to communicate your wants and needs and then make compromises to support each other’s growth.
But most importantly, a fulfilling partnership requires dedication. It’s about working through challenges and making time to work on your relationship. It’s about growing together.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the third and final C of a strong relationship, commitment.
We explain how a commitment to your own personal growth serves as the foundation for a commitment to your relationship, challenging you to put those commitments in writing and discuss what’s important to you with your partner.
Listen in for insight on making time to follow through on your commitments (both to yourself and each other) and learn how to show up for your relationship with an energy of abundance and opportunity!
Key Takeaways The 3 C’s of relationships
- Communication
- Compromise
- Commitment
How our Level Up Couples weekend demonstrates a commitment to your relationship
The paradigm shift around the role of women in society
Why it’s crucial to bring your feelings to light and communicate them to your significant other
How your commitment to yourself serves as the foundation for your commitment to your partner
The value of writing a list of what you’re committed to in your own life and in your relationship and comparing it with your partner
How to pick something your partner is committed to and help them get there faster
How we use the love languages to demonstrate our commitment to each other
How to reframe commitment as dedication rather than obligation
The power in committing your time to the things that are important to you
How we use sex magic to manifest abundance in the world
Why you cannot receive opportunity from a place of victimization, fear, anxiety or lack
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend
Dr. Joe Dispenza
The Twelve Steps
The 5 Love Languages
Sex Magic
We tend to see compromise in a relationship as a bad thing. It makes us think of giving something up and feeling resentful toward our partner as a result.
But what if compromise in a relationship isn’t about winning or losing? What if you can BOTH benefit from supporting each other through individual seasons of growth?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the second C of a strong relationship, compromise.
We discuss the victim mentality at the source of most conflict in a relationship, challenging you to shift away from keeping score to building mutual respect with your significant other.
Listen in for insight on persuading your partner through attraction rather than promotion and learn how to communicate the benefits of what you want to do in a way that inspires healthy compromise.
Key Takeaways The 3 C’s of relationships
- Communication
- Compromise
- Commitment
How a healthy couple leverages setbacks to make the relationship stronger
The victim mentality at the source of most conflict between partners
Why we tend to see compromise as the act of giving something up and how to reframe it in terms of seasons of growth
How to shift away from competing or keeping score to building mutual respect with your partner
How fear and resentment blind us to the opportunities to create solutions
Why it’s crucial to communicate WHY you want to do something and how it will benefit your family as a whole
How compromise is much easier when a couple practices judgement-free communication
Why we’re more persuasive when we use attraction rather than promotion
The power in explaining why investing in your relationship is important to you and defining what you’re willing to do in return
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend
Mallory’s Valentine’s Day Instagram Post
Gary Vaynerchuk
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz
Chris Harder’s Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind
A strong relationship requires communication, compromise and commitment. But what does that look like in practice?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the first C of a strong relationship, communication.
We discuss the power in knowing your partner’s love language and showing them love in that way, challenging you to identify what you are feeling and clearly communicate what you need in the relationship.
Listen in for insight on reading your partner’s unspoken or nonverbal communication and learn to leverage meditation to facilitate better communication with your better half!
Key Takeaways The 3 C’s of relationships
- Communication
- Compromise
- Commitment
How we think about the difference between romance and sex—and why you have to clearly communicate your needs to your partner
The power in knowing your partner’s love language and showing them love in that way
How to avoid resentment when your partner doesn’t acknowledge your acts of service
How to communicate when you need time for yourself (and not feel guilty or anxious about taking that time)
Why so many of us fall back on anger when we’re afraid of being rejected
Why it’s crucial to learn to identify your feelings
How identifying what you want is the first step in communicating with your partner
How quieting your mind through meditation facilitates better communication in a relationship
The danger in modeling your parents or other cultural models of relationships rather than figuring out what serves you
Why you shouldn’t communicate every thought that crosses your mind
How much of our communication is unspoken or nonverbal
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Lou Holtz
The 5 Love Languages
How to Read a Person Like a Book by Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero
Why do so few of us follow through on what we say we’re going to do? What’s getting in our way?
Are you worried that no one will want what you have to offer? Or that you’re not 100% ready to move forward?
What’s behind this failure to launch?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re inspiring you to take action on your dreams, explaining how imposter syndrome keeps so many of us spinning our wheels and what you can do to overcome it.
We introduce you to the idea that if it’s IN you, it’s FOR you and challenge you to make the ONE connection you need to take the next step toward your goal.
Listen in for insight on reframing failure as a learning experience and learn to stop waiting for the ideal time to begin and start taking action NOW.
Key Takeaways The power in making the decision to take action
How imposter syndrome is defined as a pattern of doubting our skills, talents and accomplishments and why we ALL go through it
How pushing ourselves to have peak experiences leads to bullet-proof confidence
How two people with similar backgrounds and experiences can have wildly different views of the world
Why you can’t believe everything you think
The idea that if it’s IN you, it’s FOR you
How you’re just one connection away from taking the next step
Why it’s most important to focus on your WHY
How to become a subject matter expert in any industry
How to reframe failure as a learning experience that will propel you to the next level
Why there is no ideal time to start a new business or launch a new program
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Entrepreneurial Operating System
How to Be a Great Boss by Gino Wickman and Rene Boer
Tony Robbins
A lot of ambitious entrepreneurs are all about the hustle. But the truth is, that kind of grind is not sustainable for the long term. So, what can we do to manage stress before it becomes an issue? How do we build a wildly successful business but avoid burnout?
Courtney Peacock is the Founder and CEO of Pinecone, a coaching practice designed to help entrepreneurs ditch overwhelm and create a business that’s built to last. Courtney’s signature process combines her expertise in health, evidence-based methods for optimizing performance and powerful perspective shifts to support clients in reaching their potential and improving their wellbeing.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Courtney joins us to discuss her preemptive approach to stress management, explaining how it helps entrepreneurs avoid anxiety and overwhelm in the first place. She offers advice around setting boundaries, challenging us to communicate our needs and live in alignment with our core values. Listen in for Courtney’s insight on building a vision around the lifestyle you want and learn how to build a sustainable business and grow your impact—without burning out!
Key Takeaways Courtney’s evolution from personal trainer to high-performance coach
How Courtney’s preemptive approach to stress management helps entrepreneurs avoid overwhelm and burnout in the first place
How communication and boundaries serve as the foundation of stress management
Why Courtney works with new and established business owners
How Courtney designs a personalized program around processes, priorities and perspective
How anxiety comes from not living in alignment with our values
What Courtney does to help her clients uncover their core values
How Courtney helps people create a vision around the lifestyle they want
The significance of being willing to say YES to the opportunity in front of you
Courtney’s service-first approach to providing value (whether or not the person chooses to hire her)
Courtney’s advice on being transparent and using the urgent-important matrix to set clear boundaries
How Courtney leverages guided and active meditation to be present
Connect with Courtney We Are Pinecone
Pinecone: The Podcast
Courtney on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The Four Agreements
The Twelve Steps
Entrepreneurial Operating System
Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman
Urgent-Important Matrix
Tony Robbins
To Be Magnetic
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Gregg Braden
Bruce Lipton
Gaia
Want to give your partner something truly meaningful this Valentine’s Day? How about the gift of growing together as a couple?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share what inspired us to build our upcoming virtual event for couples, explaining why it’s crucial to make time to reconnect and put your relationship first.
We describe what you will learn about our communication process, discussing how our event will help you connect with likeminded couples, break through limiting beliefs and remember WHY you’re together.
And we explore how sex gets better when you build a strong emotion connection with each other.
Listen in for insight on introducing the idea of attending to a partner who’s reluctant and learn how our event will help you become a better version of yourselves—as a couple!
Key Takeaways What inspired us to build a virtual event for couples in a committed relationship
How to make our online event an EXPERIENCE
What you will learn about our communication process and how it’s improved over time
Our mission to help attendees become a better version of themselves as a couple
Why growing together as a couple is a perfect Valentine’s Day gift
How to introduce the idea to a partner who’s reluctant
Why it’s crucial to reconnect and put your relationship first
How sex improves with emotional connection
How our virtual event will help you break through limiting beliefs and remember WHY you’re together
Why you should make the time to sit with your feelings (especially if it’s triggering)
The power of connecting with likeminded couples
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The 5 Love Languages
Think you have to be rich to invest in real estate? Think again. No matter how much money you have (or don’t have), there is an investing strategy for you. And owning tangible assets like real estate is the BEST way to build true wealth for yourself, your family and future generations.
Brandon Thompson is the Real Estate Investor and Coach behind REI Society, the education platform and podcast that helps ambitious people start and scale their own real estate investing business. With nearly two decades of experience, Brandon has bought and sold more than 1,500 properties and managed $25M in private capital from all over the globe. Today, Brandon is 38 years old, and his portfolio earns $1M per year in residual income.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Brandon joins us to share his journey in real estate, explaining how he acquired 20 rentals by the age of 22 and what he learned from losing it all in the crash of 2008. He walks us through the four real estate strategies he teaches, discussing how to decide whether wholesaling, flipping, long-term or vacation rentals is right for you. Listen in for insight on the freedom that comes with owning tangible assets and get Brandon’s advice on building the kind of wealth that will weather any economic cycle.
Key Takeaways Brandon’s journey from flipping pizzas to flipping houses
How Brandon acquired 20 rentals by the age of 22
What Brandon learned from the crash of ’08 about preparing for economic cycles
Why Brandon recommends saving at least 25% of your net worth
The connection between taking real pride in your work and having a fulfilling life
Brandon’s advice on buying assets (e.g.: businesses, real estate or IPOs)
The freedom that comes with owning tangible assets
How to decide whether wholesaling, flipping, long- or short-term rentals is the right real estate strategy for your current circumstances
Why the decision to buy or lease your home depends on the market where you live
Brandon’s insight on the tax advantages of investing in real estate
The creative real estate projects Brandon is working on now
How Brandon thinks about failure as part of the journey
Connect with Brandon REI Society
REI Society Podcast
Brandon on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Dean Graziosi
Robert Kiyosaki
Kevin Trudeau
Multiple Streams of Income: How to Generate a Lifetime of Unlimited Wealth by Robert G. Allen
Jake and Gino’s Real Estate Courses
Have you given up on meditation because you just can’t shut your brain off?
What if meditation is NOT about turning off your thoughts but letting them pass without judgement?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how meditation helps us cultivate the emotions associated with achieving our goals and attract the things we want in life.
We discuss why it’s so challenging to sit without yourself and describe how a guided meditation reminds you to bring your awareness back to the present.
Listen in for insight around the connection between brain cohesion and your health—and learn how retraining your brain to focus in the present can improve every area of your life.
Key Takeaways The misconception that meditation means being able to shut your brain off
How meditation serves to help us slow down and be present
The resource we recommend for learning the science behind why meditation is important
Why it’s referred to as a meditation practice
How a guided meditation in reminds you to bring your awareness back to the present
What it looks like to let your thoughts pass without judgement
How retraining your brain to focus in the moment improves other areas of your life
Why heart-to-brain cohesion is the ultimate goal of meditation
What makes it so challenging and uncomfortable to sit with yourself
How to cultivate the emotions associated with achieving your goals to attract the things you want in your life
How the brain cohesion achieved through transcendental meditation cures illness and disease
Why you can’t wait for the perfect time and place to meditate
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The 12 Steps
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Rewired Series
Gaia
Gaia on YouTube
Gary Vaynerchuk
Ed Mylett
What the Bleep Do We Know?
Tom Bilyeu
Transcendental Meditation
One of the few things we’re guaranteed in this world is change. But it’s up to us how we respond.
And while we can’t predict how things might unfold in 2021, there are things we DO have control over. Things that have helped us level up and take action to create a life we love.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share the things we know for sure in 2021, beginning with our hunger to keep growing and commitment to follow through on new ideas—to take the first hard step and then figure the rest out as we go.
We discuss what we know for sure about surrounding yourself with the right community, challenging you to make conscious choices around who you spend your time with but remember that it’s ultimately on YOU to do the hard work of changing your life.
Listen in for insight around how to get clear on exactly what you want and find out what you can do TODAY to attract more abundance, joy and fulfillment into your life!
Key Takeaways What makes it challenging to get clear on exactly what you want
How we leverage pattern interrupters to change destructive habits
What it looks like when you’re truly hungry to improve your life
Our advice on taking the first hard step and figuring the rest out as you go
The value of surrounding yourself with a community that will help you level up
Why it’s on YOU to do the hard work of changing your life
The choice we have to see the world as friendly or hostile
How we make choices around who to spend our time with
What couples can do to get perspective on what’s important and grow together
The importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing YOUR goals
Why it’s crucial to build a clear plan and take massive action
What you can do TODAY to attract abundance, joy and fulfillment
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The 12 Steps
Patrick Bet-David on the #1 Quality of Hungry Entrepreneurs
Tony Robbins
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success by Darren Hardy
Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey
Jim Rohn
Dean Graziosi
Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026
Resolutions vs. SMART Goals on Destined to Be EP107
Productivity Planner
Gary Vaynerchuk
Dr. Joe Dispenza
The Law of Attraction
Gaia
Gaia on YouTube
As anyone in a relationship knows, there’s always room to communicate better, fight better and be better connected in any season of life. So, what is the secret to a strong, long-lasting marriage? What can couples do to initiate more productive conversations, build a stronger connection and grow into the people they’re destined to be together?
Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman are the sought-after relationship coaches behind Empowered Couples University, an online training platform designed to help busy couples unlearn unhealthy patterns and gain modern relationship skills. The Freemans are also the authors of The New Power Couple: Designing an Abundant Life and Relationship That Lasts Forever and the forthcoming release The Argument Hangover: Empowering Couples to Fight Smarter and Overcome Communication Pitfalls.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Jocelyn and Aaron join us to explain what makes marriage the best place to grow into the person you’re destined to be, challenging couples to build a shared vision for their relationship. They discuss what to do if your partner is resistant to self-development and explore how to initiate challenging conversations around your significant other’s communication personality type. Listen in for Jocelyn and Aaron’s insight on the secret to a happy, long-lasting marriage and learn how to set your relationship up for success by being radically open!
Key Takeaways What inspired Jocelyn and Aaron to create couples-focused self-development resources
What makes marriage the best place to grow into the person you’re destined to be
How to stay on the same side with your partner while standing in your own truth
Why it’s crucial to share the deeper WHY behind your self-development journey with your partner
The value in building a shared vision for your marriage that guides your actions
How to invite your partner into creating a vision for your relationship (rather than try to convince them)
Why your significant other’s self-development journey needs to be inspired by what’s important to THEM
The benefit of understanding your partner’s communication personality type
How to initiate a difficult conversation by connecting it with your shared vision
The difference between fantasy love and true, healthy love
How to set your partner (and your relationship) up for success by being radically open
How we perceive rejection when we don’t clarify our expectations
Why it’s important to recognize and turn toward our partner’s bids to connect
Connect with Jocelyn & Aaron The Argument Hangover
Jocelyn & Aaron on Instagram
Meet the Freemans
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Destined to Be Podcast on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The New Power Couple: Designing an Abundant Life and Relationship That Lasts Forever by Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman
The Argument Hangover: Empowering Couples to Fight Smarter and Overcome Communication Pitfalls by Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman
Empowered Couples University
Entrepreneurial Operating System
The 12 Steps
Tony Robbins
Gaia
The Enneagram Institute
The 5 Love Languages
How Happy Couples Argue, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP104
How Happy Couples Argue, Part 2 on Destined to Be EP105
The 4 Agreements
The Gottman Institute
Bids for Connection
When you expect a reward, your brain releases a chemical called dopamine. It’s the thing that makes us feel good when we eat food we’re craving or check for likes on social media.
But what if you find yourself constantly chasing a dopamine rush? What if you can’t feel good without help from this feel-good neurotransmitter?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe what it looks like to chase a dopamine rush, explaining how binging on food or buying new things delivers a chemical reward and why it’s dangerous if you can’t be content without it.
We explore how to get grounded again in the midst of dopamine overload by reconnecting with the vision of who you want to become and reminding yourself that a little discomfort is necessary to make it to the next level.
Listen in for insight on introducing a pattern interrupter to break unconscious habits and learn how to emerge from a dopamine fog by getting grounded in a place where everything has always been, is now and will always be okay.
Key Takeaways What brought on Jeremiah’s recent challenges around dopamine overload
The chemicals that get released in our brain when we expect a reward
How binging on food and buying things delivers a dopamine hit
Why it’s dangerous if you can’t be content unless you’re chasing a dopamine rush
How discipline (not motivation) builds the confidence you need to level up
How to induce a flow state by pushing 4% past your comfort zone
How to reconnect with the vision of who you want to become and make a different choice
The power of introducing a pattern interrupter to break your unconscious habits
Why it’s challenging to keep growing once you’ve reached a certain level of success
How to emerge from a dopamine fog by checking in with your Higher Power
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Gaia
Brittney Nichole Connor-Savarda
Ed Mylett
Ed Mylett on Blissful Dissatisfaction
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Change Meditation
Jim Kwik
We all have self-defeating thoughts. But it’s up to YOU to decide how to respond.
Are you going to let those thoughts rule your life? Or are you going to get out of your own head and shift your perspective on the bad things that happened in the past—or could happen in the future?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our top strategies for getting out of your own head, explaining how having a clearly defined vision of the future can shift your perspective on things that happened in the past (versus getting stuck reliving them).
We explore the power of active meditation, describing how being present in whatever you are doing eliminates the fear and overwhelm attached to our automatic negative thoughts or ANTs.
Listen in for insight on getting into a state of gratitude and learn how to make your problems smaller by helping someone else with theirs!
Key Takeaways How we judge ourselves based on the standards set by someone else
How we allow things that happened days, months or years ago to scar us
Why it’s important to process our emotions vs. push them under the rug
The danger in reliving traumatic experiences over and over again
Why you are NOT your thoughts
How to watch your automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) go by rather than attaching meaning to them
How you CAN change the way you think (with time and conscious energy)
Our top 3 strategies for getting out of your own head
- Have a clearly defined vision of the future
- Practice being present in whatever you’re doing
- Get into a state of gratitude
Why it’s crucial to ask if your thoughts are true and then shift your perspective to see that things are happening FOR you, not TO you
How to release judgement of yourself and other people
Why fear cannot exist in the present
How to make your problems smaller by helping others with theirs
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Dr. Joe Dispenza
Dr. Joe on Why You’re Not Happy
Building Confidence on Destined to Be EP111
You need a sense of confidence in order to show up consistently and work toward your goals.
But you don’t have to be born with it. You can build confidence in yourself (and others), and use that belief to catapult you to where you want to go.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how successful people develop the confidence to pursue their goals, focusing on WHY rather than HOW and knowing that failure doesn’t define them.
We explore the process of creating a new belief when you do something for the first time, describing how EVERYONE feels unsure sometimes and explaining how to build confidence by following through on what you say you’re going to do.
Listen in for insight on the role gratitude plays in growing your confidence and learn how to develop confidence in the knowledge that things happen for a reason!
Key Takeaways What it looks like to show up and carry yourself with confidence
The ability we have to feel confidence in ourselves and other people
How successful people develop the confidence to pursue their goals
- Don’t look at HOW but focus on WHY
- Know that failure doesn’t define them
How confidence is defined as the conviction to meet life’s challenges and succeed
The process of creating a new belief when you start something new
How EVERYONE feels unsure and like they don’t belong sometimes
How to counter uncertainty by focusing on what you know
How doing what you say you’re going to do builds your confidence
Why it’s crucial to have confidence that things happen for a reason
How to foster the willingness to accept change
The role gratitude plays in developing the confidence to achieve
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Simon Sinek
Gregg Braden
Bruce Lipton
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Serenity Prayer
Calm App
You don’t need a fancy title or a huge following on social to be a leader.
In fact, every one of us has an impact on someone’s life. And we can set a good example and even grow our influence by developing our skills in 7 key areas.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the characteristics of an effective leader, describing how they prioritize learning and focus on developing others.
We explore what strong leaders do to inspire trust and motivate their teams, working to lead by example and demonstrate integrity and competence on the daily.
Listen in for insight on what good communication looks like in a leader and learn how to encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action in the people you want to impact!
Key Takeaways Why EVERYONE is a leader regardless of their title or number of followers
The characteristics of an effective leader
- Prioritize personal development, always learning
- Focus on developing others
- Lead by example
- Inspire trust and motivate others
- Encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action
- Demonstrate integrity, character and competence
- Good communicator
How your success is directly related to helping other people reach their goals
Why habits are caught not taught (especially when it comes to parenting)
How legacy thinking hinders a leader’s ability to grow
Why leaders need to follow through on what they say they’re going to do
How to motivate your team and hold them accountable to their goals
The role metrics play in developing a plan of action
Why leaders need to know what motivates the people on their team
What a competent leader looks like and how they approach sales
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy
Richard Branson
John Maxwell
75 Hard
Entrepreneurial Operating System
Productivity Planner
The 5 Love Languages
It’s been a full year since we started recording Destined to Be, and we have learned a lot along the way. We’ve discovered new things about ourselves and grown both as individuals and as a couple.
So, what are our top takeaways from 12 months of podcasting together? What have we learned from the process of showing up every week? And what are our greatest challenges moving forward?
On this episode, we look back on our journey in podcasting so far, explaining what inspired us to build our relationship and a business together through Destined to Be.
We get real about the limiting beliefs we’ve had to overcome and weigh in on what we’ve learned about getting present when the mics are on—no matter what else is going on in our lives at the time.
Listen in for insight around the challenges we face in deciding what to share on this platform, the key takeaways we’ve learned from some of our favorite guests, and the value in aligning yourself with the opportunity to say YES.
Key Takeaways The imposter syndrome Mallory experienced early on in cohosting the podcast
What to do when you run into limiting beliefs so they don’t continue to control your behavior
Why it’s crucial to align yourself with the opportunity to say YES
What inspired us to build our relationship and a business together
The top insights we’ve learned in recording this podcast over the last year
How to create space between having a feeling and reacting to it
How the show forces Jeremiah to slow down, get present and become a student
Why we see the world as we are (not as it is)
Why you have to plan ahead in order to be in the moment with others (and how to do it)
The danger in comparing yourself with other people vs. focusing on your own progress
How we struggle with deciding how much to speak our mind on this platform
Our biggest challenges in producing the podcast moving forward
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Arete Syndicate
Ed Mylett
Andy Frisella
Chris Harder
Amy Ledin
Hardcore Closer
Mallory’s Instagram Post on Alignment
Brooke & Brett Thomas
Brittney Connor-Savarda on Destined to Be EP061
Brittney Connor-Savarda on Destined to Be EP097
Mike Metcalf & Shaun Peet on Destined to Be EP095
Christina Lecuyer on Destined to Be EP039
Jim Kwik
SMART Goals
Matt Tamas
Taylor Simpson
Do your goals for 2021 scare you?
If your vision for the new year doesn’t make your heart beat faster, you’re not dreaming big enough.
But how do you push the boundaries of what’s possible in your life and start setting Big Hairy Audacious Goals?
pisode of Destined to Be, we challenge you to dream bigger, explaining how to break a big dream into smaller goals and why it’s helpful to share your vision of the future with someone close to you.
We offer advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want, encouraging you to set big goals for your career, family, relationships, finances and health—and then prioritize what’s most important to do right now.
Listen in for insight on investing in a coach or expert if you’re stuck and learn to leverage the say it/see it method to fuel your big dreams and step into the next-level version of yourself!
Key Takeaways Why your dreams should be big enough to scare you
Our advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want
How to identify what you want by starting with what you DON’T want
The process of creating goals for your career, family, relationships, finance, health, etc.
How to decide what dreams are most important and start TODAY with one small step
Why changing your identity from the inside-out is crucial to achieving your BIG dreams
How to find people who’ve done what you want to do and apply what they’ve learned
Why it’s helpful to share your goals with someone close to you
How to break a big dream into smaller goals
The value in surrounding yourself with people who want you to succeed
Why you can’t afford NOT to invest in a coach/expert if you’re stuck
The say it/see it method of fueling your big dreams
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The Law of Attraction
The Abundance Code
Entrepreneurial Operating System
The Ed Mylett Show: It’s Separation Season
Arete Syndicate
Only 8% of Americans who set New Year’s resolutions keep them all year. And a staggering 80% fail by the start of February!
Why do so many people struggle to keep their resolutions and find themselves setting the same goals year after year after year?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re making the distinction between a resolution and a SMART goal, explaining why it’s useful to think about resolutions as a first step to create the big picture for what you want to achieve this year.
We describe how to turn a resolution into a tangible goal, challenging you to decide you’re worth it NOW and reverse engineer your vision into a monthly, weekly and daily plan of action.
Listen in for insight on shifting away from an all-or-nothing mentality and learn to set realistic expectations and take small steps every day to achieve your dreams in 2021!
Key Takeaways Why people get stuck setting the same New Year’s resolution year after year
The distinction between a resolution and a goal
How to turn a resolution into a tangible goal with a plan to take realistic action
The statistics around how few Americans follow through on their New Year’s resolutions
Why it’s useful to think about resolutions as the vision or big picture for your year
How it’s become a social norm to wait until January 1st to start on your goals and why it’s better to decide you’re worth it NOW
Why you have to get uncomfortable to get to the next level
Our top hack for getting back on track if you get caught up in holiday snacking
The all-or-nothing mentality that sets you up for failure
How to start with small steps toward your goal (vs. setting unrealistic expectations)
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources SMART Goals
The Ed Mylett Show: It’s Separation Season
Passion Planner
Jack Boland’s Master Mind Journal
Wayne Dyer
75 Hard
Arete Syndicate
Dave Ramsey’s Debt Snowball
Productivity Planner
Mallory’s Instagram Post on Dreaming Big
Are you cursing 2020 because it didn’t go the way you wanted?
Yes, it sucks to experience loss, hurt or betrayal. But what if those so-called bad things are helping you grow into the person you’re truly destined to be?
How do you leave behind the mess of the last year and move into 2021 with a new perspective?
On this episode of the podcast, we’re sharing how we used 2020 to serve us and what we’re doing to improve in the new year.
We explain how setbacks help us get to where we’re supposed to be, challenging you to reframe the last 12 months as an opportunity to identify what matters and take small steps NOW to improve your situation.
Listen in for insight on surrounding yourself with the right people, prioritizing the big rocks over the sand and setting BIG goals for 2021.
Key Takeaways How to make ANY circumstance serve you (even if it seems like a bad thing)
Why fear and faith can’t exist together
How setbacks help get us to where we’re supposed to be
How 2020 exposed what was already going on and how that can serve you
Why your situation won’t change in 2021 unless you take action NOW
The value in reflecting on what you did well in 2020 and how you want to improve
Why it’s useful to ask people close to you what they see for you next year
The connection between how quickly you adapt to change and how successful you are
How stress and fear impact your immune system
How to decide who you want to surround yourself with in 2021
Why you can’t tap into your creative side when you’re in a state of anxiety
The power in prioritizing the big rocks in your business and life
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Alyssa Nobriga
Functional Training
The Vision/Traction Organizer
Lori Harder
Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki
Robert Kiyosaki
Stephen Covey’s Big Rocks of Life
Tony Robbins
Last week on Destined to Be, we described how happy couples approach arguments with the intention of finding a solution.
But that’s easier said than done. When conflict arises in any relationship, emotions are heightened. And it’s easy to get caught up in your feelings and lose sight of what matters.
So, how do you bring your best self to an argument and work together to solve the problem?
On this episode of the podcast, we’re sharing five tips for having constructive arguments with your partner, explaining why WHAT you say is much less important than HOW you say it.
We offer an advice on what to do when your emotions are getting the best of you, challenging you to acknowledge your partner’s feelings and develop the emotional intelligence to see their point of view.
Listen in for insight on keeping your insecurities in check and learn how to give your partner the benefit of the doubt when you’re having a difficult conversation.
Key Takeaways Our 5 tips for having constructive arguments with your partner
- Don’t run from conflict
- Watch your tone
- Keep your cool
- Acknowledge each other’s feelings
- Keep your insecurities in check
How to start a difficult conversation in a respectful, calm way
Why WHAT you say is less important than HOW you say it
How to give yourself space and switch the focus when your emotions are getting the best of you
The challenge of accepting another person’s truth
How to develop the emotional intelligence to see someone else’s point of view
Why it’s crucial to do your own research on stories in the news
How to give your partner the benefit of the doubt (rather than assume the worst)
Having the humility to admit when you’ve made an error in judgement
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources How Happy Couples Argue, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP104
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Kary B. Mullis
OSHA
Research shows that happy couples argue about the same things as everyone else. Things like children, money, in-laws and intimacy.
What sets them apart is not WHAT they fight about but HOW they approach an argument. So, what do happy couples do differently?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how happy couples handle conflict in their relationships and why it’s better to address an issue in the moment rather than run away.
We explain why it’s crucial to take time to do things for yourself and communicate those needs to your partner, exploring why you can’t expect your spouse to fulfill you if you’re not clear on what you want.
Listen in for insight on setting goals together (with a mindset of mutual growth) and learn how YOU benefit from a partner who feels joyful and fulfilled!
Key Takeaways How happy couples leverage a solution-oriented approach to conflict
What happy couples do to push each other forward
Why it’s better to address conflict in the moment rather than run away
Why it’s crucial to take time to do things for yourself (and communicate those needs to your partner)
Why we choose quality time with our kids over quantity
How to express your expectations or intentions with your partner
Why you can’t expect your partner to fulfill you if you don’t know what you want
The value in setting goals together with a mindset of mutual growth
How your partner’s fulfillment and joy elevate YOU
How happy couples reserve their arguments for things that matter
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The 5 Love Languages
Do you want to show up in 2021 as a better version of yourself?
What if you could feel less depleted and more fulfilled? Less distracted and more present?
What if you could spend more of your time in an optimal state of consciousness—a place where you feel and perform at your best?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing three more strategies for living your best life, challenging you to uncover what fulfills you and do more of THAT!
We discuss the importance of giving yourself what you need and explain why it’s crucial to ask for help when you’re overwhelmed.
Listen in for insight on quieting your mind and learn our top strategies for getting into a state of flow.
Key Takeaways 6 ways to be better in 2021
- Improve your relationship with yourself
- Be willing to fail and fail forward
- Appreciate what you have
- Do more of what fulfills you
- Give yourself what you need
- Quiet your mind and spend time in flow
How acts of service lead to joy and fulfillment
Our exercise for identifying what lights you up
How distractions keep us from feeling fulfilled
Why it’s crucial to ask for help when you’re running on fumes
Why it’s up to you to define what it means to be a ‘good parent’
How to create worthwhile connections by providing value
What it looks like to be in a state of flow
What we do to get back to a natural state of consciousness
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The 5 Love Languages
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Tony Robbins
Deep: Freediving, Renegade Science, and What the Ocean Tells Us About Ourselves by James Nestor
Mallory’s Instagram Post on Living Your Best Life
We all want to live our best life. The real question is, are you willing to do what it takes to make that happen?
Yes, you want to grow. You also want to be comfortable. But you can’t have it both ways!
So, what steps can you take stretch beyond what’s easy and be a better YOU in 2021?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our first three strategies for living your best life, describing our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better.
We challenge you to look inward, offering examples of questions you might ask to improve your self-awareness and get clarity on what you want out of life.
Listen in for insight on reframing failure as a lesson (not defeat) and learn how to leverage gratitude to ease feelings of overwhelm and manifest a better self in 2021.
Key Takeaways Our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better
The tension between wanting to be comfortable and wanting to grow
How investing in a coach helps you reach goals faster and with more confidence
3 ways to be better in 2021
- Turn inward + ask better questions
- Be willing to fail
- Appreciate what you have
Why it’s best to pick ONE thing to add to your life and start there
How to reframe failure as a lesson vs. playing the victim and giving up
How the fear of failure keeps us from achieving greatness
The gratitude practice we use to ease feelings of overwhelm
How to cultivate faith that what you want is already there
What you can do to show genuine appreciation to the people around you
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Jim Rohn
Gary Vaynerchuk
Dan Peña
The Quantum Leap Advantage Podcast
Mallory’s Instagram Post on Living Your Best Life
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
The first step in creating an epic life is visualizing what you want. And we don’t mean daydreaming about it from time to time.
We’re talking about putting together a collection of pictures, videos and music that you revisit every day. A fully immersive experience to help you manifest your big dreams.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the power of visualization, describing how we use vision boards and mind movies to attract the things we want in life.
We explain why it’s crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision and talk about your dreams as if they’ve already transpired.
Listen in for insight on making visualization a part of your daily routine and learn how to design a plan to reach the goals you have pictured!
Key Takeaways How to create a vision board (analog or digital) of the things you want in your life
Why it’s crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision
What makes visualization the essence of the Law of Attraction
The say it/see it strategy of visualizing goals as if they’ve already transpired
What holds us back from reaching the next level in our lives
The mental and physical preparation necessary to show up as the person you want to be
How to design a plan to achieve the goals pictured on your vision board
How a Mind Movie serves as a fully immersive vision board
The categories of life to consider in building your Mind Movie (e.g.: fitness, family, finances, etc.)
How our thoughts and feelings work to help us manifest the things we want
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Text MIND MOVIE to (586) 600-8492
Mind Movies
The Secret
Canva
Arete Syndicate
Entrepreneurial Operating System
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Mind Movies 4.0 Creation Kit
Dr. Masaru Emoto’s Water Experiments
‘Come Alive’ from The Greatest Showman
‘A Whole New World’ from Aladdin
75 Hard
Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Kaleidoscope Meditation
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
What do we admire most about each other? What’s behind our drive to help other people? What are our BIG dreams for the future?
In celebration of the 100th episode of Destined to Be, our dear friend Allison is turning the tables and asking US the questions. She asks who we would want to interview if we could pick anyone in the world (alive or dead) and what we’d like to go back and tell the younger version of ourselves.
We explain why mindset matters more than the circumstances we’re dealt, describing what situations drain our energy the most—and how we either avoid those things or shift our thinking in the moment.
Listen in for insight on the abundance mindset that inspires our desire to help others and build a lasting legacy and learn how being present can help you overcome fear and start living YOUR wildest wouldn’t it be cool ifs!
Key Takeaways Who we would each want to interview if we could pick anyone (alive or dead)
What we would to tell the younger version of ourselves about being present
The abundance mindset behind our desire to help other people
What situations/people drain our energy the most and how we come back from those things
The characteristics we admire most in each other (and wish we had)
Our wildest wouldn’t it be cool ifs and how we’re working toward building a legacy
Why your mindset matters more than the circumstances you’re dealt
What’s next for our family moving into 2021 + what we’re working on as a couple
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Dean Graziosi
Tony Robbins
Abraham Hicks
Dr. Wayne Dyer
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Tom Bilyeu
Gregg Braden
Dr. Bruce Lipton
5 Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP062
5 More Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP064
Brittney Connor-Savarda on DTB EP097
The Gold Standard: Rules to Rule By by Ari Gold
Entrepreneur’s Organization
Tracy O’Malley
Emotional Agility on The Ed Mylett Show
Finding Joe
Ultimate Longevity
Yes, 2020 has been a rolling dumpster fire for a lot of people. But if you want to keep your energy high this holiday season, you have to get intentional about the way you show up and be aware of the vibrations you’re sending out into the world.
So, what can you do to bring positive energy to holiday events? To get through the season with grace and dignity?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing five strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays, describing the role vision plays in helping us show up as our best selves and connect with family and friends on a deeper level.
We discuss the value of positive self-talk in keeping your vibration high, challenging you to avoid words that carry a connotation of powerlessness—like can’t, shouldn’t and won’t.
Listen in for insight on resisting gossip and complaining at holiday gatherings and learn how the way you act, think and feel about OTHERS impacts what happens in YOUR life!
Key Takeaways How vibration is defined as an emotional state, atmosphere of a place, or association of an object as communicated to or felt by others
How to set the intention and identify what you need to do to go into the holidays with positive energy
Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone who won’t listen to your point of view
How anger is a punishment we give ourselves for someone else’s mistake
The role vision plays in helping us raise our vibration
How to leverage mirroring techniques to make people feel seen and heard at holiday gatherings
5 strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays
- Practice positive self-talk
- Resist gossip
- Be careful who you surround yourself with
- Stop complaining + avoid negative words (i.e.: can’t, shouldn’t, won’t, try)
- Dress the part
How to introduce a pattern interrupter when people are engaging in gossip
How the way you act, think and feel about others impacts YOUR life
Why wearing something that makes you feel good helps you carry yourself differently
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be Podcast
Destined to Be on Instagram
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The Enneagram Institute
The Secret
What the Bleep Do We Know!?
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
We ALL fall off track from time to time.
Your kids wake up early and disrupt your morning routine. The Little Cesar’s breadsticks are too good to pass up. Or your partner leaves the cereal bowl on the counter and your anger gets in the way of accomplishing what you had planned.
So, what can you do to turn it around fast and get back to honoring the commitments you’ve made to yourself?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our five-step process for getting back on track, explaining why it’s important to identify what got you off course and process the negative emotions you’re feeling.
We challenge you to welcome the lesson in falling off course, asking yourself how the situation might serve you and trying a different approach when you need to.
Listen in for insight on overcoming self-defeating thoughts and learn how to create a plan to get back on track ASAP!
Key Takeaways How to do the things you know make you feel better (when it’s easier not to)
The choice you have to be frustrated or not when your schedule is disrupted
Why it’s crucial to get crystal clear on your goals and build a plan to achieve them
The BIG impact of a consistent effort to make small, incremental changes
Our 5-step process for getting back on track
- Identify what got you off track
- Let yourself feel the emotion
- Welcome the lesson
- Determine your next steps
- Believe you’re capable
How to identify the real issue behind your negative emotions and express those feelings calmly
Why we try to switch the focus instead of fully processing our emotions
The value in asking how the situation can serve you and trying a different approach
Why you might need to hire a coach to help you stay on track
How affirmations or a journal practice can help you overcome self-defeating thoughts
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Dr. Susan David on The Ed Mylett Show
Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David, PhD
Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Are you feeling anxious this holiday season? Have you taken the time to explore WHY you feel this way?
If you’re going into family get-togethers with a sense of dread, practicing emotional intelligence (also referred to as emotional quotient or EQ) can help you stay in control when family members criticize your choices and approach difficult conversations from a place of empathy.
Brittney Connor-Savarda is the emotional intelligence expert behind The Catalyst for Change, a coaching practice that helps high-achieving entrepreneurs and executive leaders remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of their personal fulfillment. She is also the host of Living and Leading with Emotional Intelligence and the author of The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Brittney joins us to explain how a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face and offer strategies for developing our personal EQ. She explores what to do if your partner’s standard for 100% is significantly different from your own, discussing why it’s crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand and correct yourself immediately when you say something you regret. Listen in for Brittney’s insight on finding fulfillment inside yourself and learn how to navigate holiday anxiety with compassion for yourself and your family.
Key Takeaways How a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face
The strategies for developing EQ outlined in Brittney’s book
How Brittney defines emotional intelligence as the awareness and management of our feelings
The self-compassion and patience it takes to examine our own emotions
Brittney’s work coaching parents and caregivers to model EQ for children
Brittney’s advice for those of us going into the holidays with anxiety
How to set boundaries with critical family members and navigate the guilt of not being able to please everyone
How to identify the NEED behind the emotion you’re feeling/receiving
Why it’s crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand
Why Brittney suggests correcting yourself immediately when you say something you shouldn’t have
How emotional intelligence can help us mitigate disturbing thoughts
What to do if your partner’s standard for 100% is significantly different from yours
Why fulfillment has to come from inside yourself, not external factors
Connect with Brittney The Catalyst 4 Change
Brittney on YouTube
Brittney on Facebook
Brittney on Instagram
Living & Leading with Emotional Intelligence Podcast
The EQ Deficiency Podcast
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change by Brittney-Nichole Connor-Savarda
Brittney on Destined to Be EP061
Marc Brackett
Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett, PhD
Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence
The Joe Rogan Experience
‘I Failed the Covington Catholic Test’ in The Atlantic
Julie Irwin Zimmerman
Feel like your relationship is in a rut?
Yes, a date night can help spice things up. But if you’re unhappy with yourself, a night out with your significant other can’t fix that. To grow as a couple, both partners need to look inward and bring the best version of themselves to the relationship.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to get out of a relationship rut, explaining what we do to take stock of what’s working in our marriage and what isn’t and how we communicate our expectations to each other.
We challenge you to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good and doing things to make them feel special—and owning it when you fall short.
Listen in for insight on why you can’t show up for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself and learn how to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple that honors your individual and collective growth.
Key Takeaways What it looks like to be in a relationship rut
Why it’s crucial to take stock of what’s working in your relationship and what isn’t
How to develop an awareness of your expectations and communicate them to your partner
What we do to assess where we fall short for each other
Why you can’t show up better for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself
How to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple
The distinction between intimacy and sex
How doing things to make your partner feel special can make you feel good
Why both partners need to adopt a growth mindset (though they may grow at different paces)
How to spice things up in your relationship with a date night
How to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Darren Hardy
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026
12 Steps
Dr. Alex Spinoso on Destined to Be EP067
The 5 Love Languages
More than 50% of American workers would trust a complete stranger over their boss. Heart attack rates are highest on Monday mornings. And more than 2/3 of US employees experience a lack of connection or inspiration in the workplace. So, how do we make our work environments more fulfilling and inspire people to show up as the best version of themselves? What is the secret to building a high-performance team?
Shaun Peet and Mike Metcalf are the head pit crew coaches for Chip Ganassi Racing and the cofounders of DECK Leadership, a business consulting firm that applies NASCAR pit crew performance strategies to the modern workplace, inspiring business leaders and their teams to discover authentic opportunities for diversity, efficiency, culture and kindness. Shaun and Mike are also the coauthors of 12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough?
On this episode of Destined to Be, Shaun and Mike join us to explain why culture is key to their success as pit crew coaches and explain how the principles they use to build teams translate to the corporate space. They explore why mindset has such a profound impact on the way we live our lives and share their intentional, standards-based approach to bringing on new team members at Chip Ganassi Racing. Listen in for insight on seeing your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive and learn how to show people you truly care about them—beyond what they can do for you.
Key Takeaways Why Mike & Shaun credit their success as pit crew coaches to culture
How Mike & Shaun’s team building principles translate to the corporate space
How thoughts have a profound impact on the way we live our lives
The arrival mindset that helps Mike & Shaun’s team show up as the best version of themselves
How perspective motivates us and helps us focus on the right things
Mike & Shaun’s intentional approach to bringing on new team members
How to prepare your children for life’s inevitable challenges
How to leverage your gifts to make a difference in the world
Why you can’t pour into others if you haven’t poured into yourself
How to reframe your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive
Why standards move the needle more than goals do
How to show people you care about them beyond what they can do for you
Connect with Mike & Shaun DECK Leadership
DECK on Facebook
DECK on Twitter
DECK on Instagram
DECK on LinkedIn
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources 12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough? by Mike Metcalf and Shaun Peet with Stephen Copeland
Barium Springs Home for Children
Meals on Wheels
Marshall McFadden
Dave Ramsey
Viktor Frankl
Simon Sinek
Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek
Tony Robbins
‘Make Your Values Mean Something’ in HBR
The holidays are supposed to be joyful. A time when we can slow down and connect with our family and friends.
And yet, many of us are anxious about the holiday season. We’re stressed about running to multiple events in a single day or being triggered by Aunt Cindy’s politics.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events, challenging you to go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated, and offering insight on what to say if you chose not to attend a family event.
We explain how to adjust your attitude before you see family and set realistic expectations, describing why it may be difficult for people to understand your personal development journey and how to take the high road if Uncle John throws shade your way.
Listen in for advice on controlling your reaction when triggers arise and learn to leverage the vision of who you want to become to connect with family and friends this holiday season—whether or not you share the same views!
Key Takeaways Why we choose to go where we’re celebrated, not tolerated
What to say if you decide NOT to attend a particular family event
How to develop an awareness of WHY you’re avoiding a situation
How we miss out on authentic connections when we’re running from one event to another
Our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events
- Adjust your attitude before you go and set realistic expectations
- Be mindful of triggers and continue to be the light
- Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction
- Limit your alcohol consumption
Why it may be difficult for friends and family to understand your personal development journey
How to show respect and take the high road when your family provokes you
What to do if you’re still feeling anxious after a holiday gathering
How to set the intention to connect with family and friends (even those who hold very different beliefs)
How to leverage the vision of who you want to become to have a happy holiday
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources 75 Hard
75 Hard: A Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself by Andy Frisella
Entrepreneurs’ Organization
Are you afraid to take the next step toward your vision for the future? Even the most successful people deal with fear on the daily. So, what separates the successful from the stuck? How do you learn to run toward conflict and face your fears head on?
Aaron Opalewski is the Founder and CEO of Spark Talent Acquisition, a staffing and recruiting agency out of Sterling Heights, Michigan. Since he started the company in 2013, Spark has grown from a team of five in a single office to an 18-state operation that will provide 3,000 opportunities this year alone. A driven entrepreneur with 13 years of experience in the recruiting industry, Aaron has impacted the performance and profitability of hundreds of businesses and thousands of people.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Aaron joins us to share his journey from personal training to entrepreneurship, describing what fuels him to work harder than everyone else and overdeliver. He explores what it takes to be wildly successful in your business and family life, explaining the relationship between being present and being effective with your time. Listen in for Aaron’s insight on making decisions based on your values and learn how to navigate fear as you work toward your own bold vision for the future.
Key Takeaways The lack of confidence that led Aaron to make poor decisions and get in trouble as a young man
Aaron’s challenging transition from personal training to a sales role with a recruiting company
How being an undersized athlete fueled Aaron’s drive to work harder than anyone else and overdeliver
The experience that taught Aaron he could learn anything he put his mind to
Aaron’s insight around processes as the secret to scaling a business to multiple states
The role Aaron’s relationship with God plays in his work
Why Aaron walked away from a successful multimillion-dollar company to start Spark Talent
How Aaron navigates the fear of working through each new level of uncertainty in his life
How Aaron makes decisions based on his vision and values
How Aaron’s morning routine has pivoted through COVID
Why Aaron books time to work out and be present with his family on his calendar
What it takes to be wildly successful in your business and family life
The relationship between being present and maximizing the effectiveness of your time
Connect with Aaron Spark Talent Acquisition
Aaron on LinkedIn
Aaron on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Arete Syndicate
Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman
Entrepreneurial Operating System
EOS Vision/Traction Organizer
75 Hard
The Ed Mylett Show
Principles: Life and Work by Ray Dalio
Ray Dalio’s Principles in Action App
Tim Grover
Conflict in relationships is unavoidable. The sign of a good relationship is not the absence of conflict but the ability to resolve disagreements as they come up.
So, what can you do to navigate conflict without tearing each other down? How do you cast a vision for a shared future that honors both partners’ hopes and dreams?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing 3 more secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship, discussing how to respect others even when you disagree and describing some of the things we do to demonstrate respect to ourselves and each other.
We challenge you to give up the need to be right, explaining why no one ever really wins an argument and how to empathize with someone who holds a very different point of view.
Listen in for insight on checking in with yourself first and then communicating your dreams and aspirations and learn how to create an intentional plan for achieving your individual and shared goals.
Key Takeaways 6 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship
- Practice gratitude
- Start with you
- Be a great listener
- Respect each other
- Give up the need to be right
- Check in + communicate
How to respect another person even if you disagree
Why we don’t call each other out in public
What you can do to demonstrate respect to your partner
The link between self-respect and respect from others
Why nobody really ever wins an argument
How to empathize with someone you disagree with
Why you don’t have to react when someone attacks
Why it’s crucial to check in with yourself first
How to communicate expectations with your partner
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray
Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz
6 Secrets to Feeling Satisfied in Your Relationship, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP090
We think that people don’t want to be pushed. That they don’t want to be called out when they’re giving less than their best. But what if most people really DO want to be challenged? How do you coach a community to do MORE than they thought they were capable of—and celebrate each other along the way?
Tanci Spencer is the Founder and CEO of Turn Up, a dance fitness platform that helps women evolve unapologetically, dance ruthlessly and live out loud. More than a workout program, Turn Up is a movement of 1,000 women who empower each other to stop playing small and live the lives they desire. Tanci leverages her background as a college basketball player, high school teacher and coach to inspire her squad to push the limits they have set for themselves and step into their power.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Tanci joins us to discuss what inspired her to leave her marriage, quit her job as a teacher and coach, and move back to Michigan. She describes the Insta story that launched Turn Up, sharing the greatest challenges she’s faced in building the community and the energy that comes from a group of women who celebrate each other. Listen in for Tanci’s insight on coaching people to ‘touch the line’ and learn how YOU can be a part of the transformative Turn Up Squad!
Key Takeaways Tanci’s background as a college basketball player and how that role became her identity
How network marketing taught Tanci to be resourceful and question what she thought she wanted for her life
What inspired Tanci to leave her marriage, quit her job as a teacher/coach and move back to Michigan
Tanci’s insight on how the chapter you’re in now is preparing you for the next thing
The Instagram story that launched Turn Up Dance Fitness
The energy behind the Turn Up community and how the women celebrate each other
The poor decisions Tanci was making in college before she woke up to her greatness
Tanci’s dedication to a consistent morning routine
How to call yourself out without beating yourself up
How being vulnerable on social has helped Tanci grow a squad of 1K women
The greatest challenges Tanci has faced in building Turn Up
Tanci’s advice on coaching people to ‘touch the line’
Why the best leaders are comfortable with making people uncomfortable and skilled in creating a safe environment where people can make mistakes
Connect with Tanci Turn Up with Tanci
Tanci on Instagram
Tanci on Facebook
Tanci on YouTube
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
Level Up Entourage Facebook Group
Resources Turn Up Instructor Training
The MFCEO Project Podcast
Andy Frisella
Ed Mylett
Arete Syndicate
Chris Harder
For the Love of Money Podcast
Jeremiah on For the Love of Money EP232
Entrepreneurial Operating System for Business
Gary Vaynerchuk
Key Performance Indicators for Dummies by Bernard Marr
Satisfying relationships don’t happen by chance. Even the most compatible couples have to work at keeping their connection strong.
So, what can you do to improve your existing relationships? To feel closer to the people you care about and more fulfilled?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our first 3 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship, challenging you to focus on the things about your partner that you are grateful for and write them down in a Thanksgiving List.
We remind you that while you can’t control your partner, you do have control of your own response in triggering situations—and encourage you to seek guidance about your relationship from a therapist or coach.
Listen in for insight on preventing arguments by clearly communicating your needs and learn the active listening strategies we use to deepen our relationship and strengthen our bond as a married couple.
Key Takeaways
3 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship
- Practice gratitude
- Start with you
- Be a great listener
How to shift your focus from what you DON’T have to what you DO have
The practice of writing a daily Thanksgiving List about your partner
Why it’s crucial for you and your spouse to have core values that align
How to develop an awareness of your emotions and control your response in triggering situations
The value in getting guidance about your relationship from a therapist or coach
How to prevent arguments by having a conversation about your needs
The active listening strategies you can use to improve communication in your relationship
How genuine interest and concern translates to better communication
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Brendon Burchard
We’re told to follow our passion. But is that really the key to fulfillment? Emily Eliza Moyer believes that it goes a little deeper than that. She contends that fulfillment comes from connecting the dots between your PURPOSE and what you do every day.
Emily is an intuitive career strategist focused on helping ambitious women overcome their limiting beliefs, uncover their purpose and craft strategic plans to build careers they absolutely love. Prior to becoming an entrepreneur, Emily served as the head of sales and marketing for a VC-backed travel startup, leading a team of 30 remote workers from all around the world.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Emily joins us to discuss why people have such a hard time figuring out what we want and share her strategies for reconnecting with our intuitive voice. She makes the distinction between passion and purpose, explaining why you don’t necessarily have to live your purpose through your 9-to-5 job. Listen in for Emily’s insight on growing into a new expression of your calling as your identity shifts and learn the three areas of self-study you can explore to uncover YOUR path to purpose.
Key Takeaways Emily’s mission to help people find the thing that lights them up and connect it back to the work they do every day
Why people have a hard time figuring out exactly what they want
How our intuitive voice gets drowned out by other people’s voices
Emily’s strategies for reconnecting with yourself and trusting your intuitive voice
The distinction between passion and purpose and why you don’t necessarily have to live your purpose through your work
Why it’s easier to persevere through challenges when they’re in service to a bigger purpose
Emily’s insight on growing into a new expression of your purpose as your identity shifts
The three areas of self-study Emily explores to help clients uncover their purpose
- Joy
- Contribution
- Obstacles
Emily’s personal process of identifying her calling and making choices in alignment with that purpose
Connect with Emily Emily’s Website
Emily on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Emily’s Path to Purpose Signature Program
Transcendental Meditation (TM)
Teach for America
Feel like you can’t do something epic because you’re not qualified or somehow unworthy? Because you can’t have your cake and eat it too?
What if these limits we’re placing on our lives are only real because we happen to believe they’re true? What if you could tell yourself a new story? Leave your limiting beliefs behind and grow into a new identity?
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our definition of limiting beliefs, explaining how they impact our lives in a negative way and drive us to energy-burning emotions like jealousy and judgment.
We discuss some of the most common limiting beliefs, describing how feelings of not-good-enough diminish our ability to make positive change or grow the confidence we need to reach our potential.
Listen in for insight on letting go of an identity other people put on you and learn how to leverage journaling to expose your own limiting beliefs and discover a new way of seeing the world.
Key Takeaways How limiting beliefs are defined as a state of mind or conviction that holds you back from what you want to do
The limiting belief many hold around not being worthy/good enough
How our limiting narratives make us emotionally unintelligent and resistant to change
How we can use an awareness of our limiting beliefs to open up the way we see the world
Why we don’t see the world as it is but as we are
The journaling process you can use to identify your limiting beliefs and explore your Future Self
Why being judgmental, jealous, comparing yourself to others and gossiping are irresponsible ways to use your energy
The relationship between making power moves and living an epic life
How overcoming limiting beliefs allows us to ‘have our cake and eat it too’
Why you no longer have to carry the identity other people put on you (i.e.: the shy one, the loud one, the fat one, etc.)
How negative self-talk diminishes our ability to make positive change and grow the confidence to reach our potential
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Jeremiah’s Instagram Post on Limiting Beliefs
Brittney Connor on Destined to Be EP061
Are you satisfied with mediocracy? Or do you want to grow?
Getting to the next level requires intentional living. It’s about deciding what you want your life to look like and making decisions around that vision.
Jenn Kennedy is the business mentor behind Impact to Income, a program that helps online entrepreneurs grow their impact and scale their income to six figures and beyond. Jenn’s husband, Patrick, spent the last seven years in a prestigious job as a buyer for Boyne Mountain Resorts before making the decision to leave his W-2 and join Jenn, working in her business as a full-time entrepreneur.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Jenn and Pat join us to discuss the tragedy that helped them get clear on a shared vision, explaining how they approach challenges as Team Kennedy. They offer insight on navigating difficult conversations, challenging us to explore our feelings before we react in anger. Listen in as Jenn and Pat share why it’s crucial to support your spouse’s investment in themselves and learn how living with intention helps the couple grow together and enhance their collective impact.
Key Takeaways Jenn’s journey from elementary school teacher to online business mentor
Why Pat left a prestigious job with a mountain resort to work with Jenn
The tragedy that helped Pat and Jenn get clear on their shared vision
How Pat and Jenn approach challenges through the lens of Team Kennedy
What it looks like to live intentionally vs. stay safe, comfortable and stuck
How Pat worked through his initial resistance to stepping into Jenn’s business
Pat and Jenn’s plans to work and live together in a RV + how they want the experience to look and feel
How Pat and Jenn navigate difficult conversations about money
Pat’s insight on exploring your feelings and where they come from before you react
Why it’s crucial for your spouse to support the investments you make in your vision
How connecting on a deeper level improves ALL aspects of Pat and Jenn’s life
Connect with Pat & Jenn Impact to Income
Pat on Instagram
Jenn on Instagram
The House Kennedy on Instagram
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson on Destined to Be EP079
Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life by Jim Kwik
Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman
The last few months have left a lot of people feeling defeated. But our mastermind group is not like most people.
We ALL found a way to adapt and KEEP GOING, despite the circumstances. And some of us even made the situation serve us, thriving in a time when the rest of the world has come to a standstill.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our experience at Chris Harder’s recent Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind event, explaining how we benefitted from getting out of our comfort zone for a weekend of glamping in Arizona.
We describe what a mastermind group looks like, discussing why we choose to surround ourselves with other growth-minded individuals who rise to the occasion and keep going—no matter how challenging the circumstances.
Listen in for insight on letting go of worry, fear and anger to appreciate the magic in the present moment and consider what YOU can do to be twice as happy and make twice as much money as you do right now!
Key Takeaways How a mastermind brings together a group of likeminded individuals for peer-to-peer mentorship
Why we surround ourselves with growth-minded people who don’t accept the status quo
The choice we have to either rise to the occasion or succumb to challenging circumstances
Our experience at Chris Harder’s recent Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind event in Arizona
How we benefitted from getting out of our comfort zone for a weekend of glamping
The questions we were asked to reflect on at the mastermind event
- What can I do to be two times as happy as I am now?
- What can I do to make two times as much money?
How acknowledging the vastness of the universe helps us let go of worry, fear and anger to appreciate the magic in the present moment
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources Entrepreneurs’ Organization
Chris Harder’s Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind
The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Enchantment Resort
Under Canvas
We have all known the devastation of loss. And how hard it can be to get back on track in the aftermath of difficult circumstances.
But you CAN find joy again. In fact, there is a process for exploring what lights you up and choosing joy over suffering as you build a new life.
Maryl Petreccia is the resilience expert and high-performance coach behind The Joy Activation Process, a platform designed to help women take control of their biggest transitions and toughest losses—and find their way back to joy. She is also the bestselling author of GPS to Joy: Navigate Life’s Turbulence and Toughest Transitions to Find Your New Direction.
On this episode of Destined to Be, Maryl joins us to share her story of loss, explaining what she did to stay present and appreciate each day during her husband’s battle with brain cancer. She describes how doing for others can take us out of our own pain and suffering, challenging us to act from the high vibration of love (even for those we disagree with most). Listen in for insight into Maryl’s five-step Joy Activation Process and learn how to spark your very own journey to JOY!
Key Takeaways What Maryl learned about relationships from her first marriage
How Maryl’s life was ‘perfect’ until she experienced a series of losses
How Maryl navigated the emotion of her second husband’s battle with brain cancer
What Maryl did to stay present + appreciate each day during her husband’s decline
How doing for others takes us out of our own pain and suffering
The vow to her husband that sparked Maryl’s journey to joy
Maryl’s five-step Joy Activation Process
- Awaken
- Acknowledge
- Act
- Adapt
- Affirm
The danger in basing your value on what you do (rather than who you are)
Maryl’s take on seeing the person you disagree with most as the one who can move your mission forward
Maryl’s challenge to act from the high vibration of LOVE
Connect with Maryl The Joy Activation Process
Maryl on Facebook
Maryl on Instagram
Maryl on LinkedIn
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources GPS to Joy: Navigate Life’s Turbulence and Toughest Transitions to Find Your New Direction by Maryl Petreccia
Women’s Business Momentum Center
Moms Across America
Feeling a little meh?
You can feel a whole lot better without spending a whole lot of time—by doing little things that spark joy and put you back in the present moment.
On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re revisiting the mood boosters we discussed last week and sharing a few new ones, challenging you to make plans to do something fun each day and give yourself something to look forward to.
We explain the connection between practicing gratitude and manifesting what you want, challenging you to assume the emotions and feelings as if the event has already taken place.
Listen in for insight on the benefits of breathwork and meditation (and where to go to start your own practice) and learn how spending time outside connects you with the earth’s natural healing energy!
Key Takeaways Our top 10 strategies for boosting your mood right now
- Move your body
- Take a break from your phone
- Drink some water
- Put on your favorite music
- Declutter your space
- Do something for someone else
- Make plans to have fun
- Practice gratitude
- Breathwork and meditation
- Get out in nature
How doing cool shit on a regular basis builds confidence
Why you need to FEEL as if an event has already taken place to manifest what you want
The benefits of conscious breathing techniques like Wim Hof
How meditation teaches us to let our thoughts go by without grabbing ahold of them
How grounding connects us with the earth’s natural healing energy
Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory Destined to Be
Jeremiah on Instagram
Mallory on Instagram
REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group
Resources HydroJug
Seafard
HydroMATE
BOTTLED JOY
Cindy Lauper ‘Time After Time’
Crosby, Stills & Nash
Machine Gun Kelly ‘Rehab’
Wim Hof
Dr. Joe Dispenza
HeartMath
Jay Shetty
Loom Yoga
Calm
Transcendental Meditation
Vishen Lakhiani’s 6 Phase Meditation
Mindvalley
Dr. Joe Dispenza on YouTube
Gregg Braden on YouTube
Bruce Lipton on YouTube
OOLER Sleep System
Quantum Shields
