That Tree Lady: Recent Episodes
Hettie Brittz
That Tree Lady invites you into conversations with me, Hettie Brittz, my son and collaborator, Pero Brittz and occasional guests about the role of our personality types in leadership, life, marriage, parenting and business. I decided to own the tree lady title (assigned to me by a 4-year-old whose mom is one of my trained facilitators) since I am most strongly associated with my Tree Type personality style terminology (Rose Bush, Palm Tree, Boxwood and Pine Tree) and for developing the Evergreen Parenting course, co-developing Tall Trees Profiles for leaders, teens parents and children with Annatjie van Zyl and authoring books such as Growing Kids with Character and (un)Natural Mom. I talk about people as trees - alive, diverse, seasonal and fruitful! That Tree Lady invites you into thinking deeply, candidly and often humorously about your unique design and how it complements or clashes with the uniqueness of others. You'll be validated, challenged to grow, and empowered with practical tools to improve your relationships, grow as a person and step into new levels of leadership in all spheres of life.I am a tree transplanted from South Africa to North-East Tennessee. I believe in brilliant - not just intelligent - design and I know that you and everyone around you can choose to grow! My slogan is "Know your design; live your purpose!" and my main goal is to help you do that. Feel free to have a look at my website for more (www.hettiebrittz.com) - soon to be udated! Talltreestraining.com and evergreenparenting.co.za are other great places to find more of my resources. Connect with me on https://www.facebook.com/HettieBrittzAuthor or subscribe to my YouTube channel at YouTube/hettiebrittz for all the latest tree talk!
Have you noticed that we all want freedom but that some will not break restrictive rules, while others will break rules as a rule (pun intended!) What role does our personality type play in how we handle rules at home and in societal life?
Pero and I discuss the stories a leader can live by. What is your narrative as a leader, and have you recently reflected on who or what you're following?
This past year has shut down most of our celebrations - from birthday parties to street parades, and even the most sacred of our get-togethers were reduced to online streams -or worse - were summarily cancelled.
What does your tree type celebrate, how do you celebrate, and what could you be missing out on?
Why do some people struggle to grow up, while others are old souls with self-control and seemingly inborn wisdom?
In this episode I explore the unique pathways to maturity for each personality type. Learn what you need to overcome and develop compassion for the hard struggles of others as they seek that illusive "free at forty" place of being at home in your own skin as well as in the world!
And if you know you need a guided journey to that place, consider joining Hettie and the rest of the Emotional Intelligence Activator team (The EIA for short) on a growth journey. Membership enrollment ends on November 2020. There is never a better day to commit to an investment in your growth than TODAY: https://www.eiactivator.life/EIAFoundingMember
How come some super tough people crumbled due to the disruptions of 2020, while meek and mild personalities navigated the changes with grace and patience? It hardly seems fair that we were not all affected equally. What part did our personalities play?
Pero and I share how our temperament played into our journey and into the response of those around us.
We discover that some like the practical part of change but are floored by the emotional impact, while others can handle the drama much better than the day-to-day upheaval.
Where do you fall on the comfort hierarchy regarding change?
Are you caught in a cycle of those drawn-out fights that end in a predictable "violence of silence" or in a blowup that at least one of you lives to regret?
In this episode I share very personal strategies - the kind you develop out of necessity after 28 years of marriage to you polar opposite.
May thee help you from the hopeless place of no good outcome for conflict to a hopeful place of constructive conflict!
Teens don't need to be a mystery! They have a blueprint and that blueprint reveals some predictable needs we would have to meet, some unique pitfalls to help them avoid, and beautiful results when we give just the right support in this crucial part of their lives.
The adolescent brain is super unique, and has priming that we need to keep in mind as we encounter mysteries in our teens!
Do your emotions overwhelm you or sabotage your fulfillment of your purpose? Which emotions? Each of us has a different struggle but all of us can start by looking in the self-awareness mirror. Join our conversation to learn whether there is a difference between being self-aware and self-conscious and whether there is such a thing as negative emotions. We talk about self-regulation and our basic drives. Once you can make friends with your emotions and let them inform, warn and point you in the right direction, your emotional intelligence growth journey is off to a great start!
Was Father's Day a day of pure confidence that you know and truly "get" your children, or did you wish you knew more about what makes each of them tick? You can learn the dynamics of opposite personalities in this episode about fathers raising kids who are simply not like them!
Learn about the unique strengths in your fatherhood tree type and the ways to use those gifts ( and a few skills that are a little less natural for you!) to help bridge your differences.
If you want to learn your Tree Type and how it pertains specifically to Parenting, feel free to click through to the Tall Trees Parent Profile.
Meet Hettie Brittz and her collaborator and son, Pero Brittz. They tell the story of the birth of the four tree type personality styles that are foundational to much of Hettie's work in the leadership, parenting and emotional intelligence arenas.
They share candidly about clashing personalities in a family context, personality traits of each type that help and hinder, and introduce you to the world of Tall Trees!
PersonaIity type dimensions touched on briefly include introversion, being an empath, maturing, accepting each others' uniqueness, mistaking temperament for misbehavior in children, being a lone ranger rather than a collaborator, and how personality styles can combine in each person's design.