The Audacious Life - Break Free: Recent Episodes
Stephani Roberts
If you’re in the middle of a life transformation and have a desire to turn things around to create an Audacious Life - the one YOU want, not what others expect - you’re in the right place! It's time to live life on your terms, let go of toxic controlling relationships, old stories, and domestic brainwashing, to allow yourself to dream, go for it, and become your best self.
Here you'll find encouragement to find freedom from what’s holding you back, hear interviews of healing and profound transformation. Learn how to tap into your intuition, find your voice, and take practical steps to move toward more peace, income, happiness, abundance, and a supportive community who care about you. Welcome! Lots of Love, Steph xo
Identifying Green Flags: 7 Markers of a Healthy Relationship In this episode, Steph discusses the characteristics of healthy relationships, especially in the context of those who have experienced toxic or narcissistic dynamics who may not have a sense of what a "healthy relationship" even is. With Father's Day approaching, the importance of recognizing positive relationship markers is emphasized. Key traits such as calm and steady energy, respect for boundaries without punishment, consistency over time, emotional availability, shared power, and genuine interest in personal growth are highlighted. These insights aim to help individuals identify and foster healthy relationships, benefiting romantic partnerships, friendships, and family dynamics. 00:00 Introduction and Purpose 00:35 Understanding Healthy Relationships 01:42 Calm and Steady Energy 02:35 Respecting Boundaries 03:34 Consistency Over Time 04:51 Emotional Availability 06:49 Shared Power, Not Control 08:39 Genuine Interest in Your Life 11:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts What are your greatest take aways and what would you add to this list? Comment on the The Audacious Life website @audaciouslife on instagram Or our YouTube channel Thanks for listening! Please share with a friend or loved one who can benefit from this episode. Sending Peace and lots of Love! xoxo Steph
Was It Trauma...or a Brain Injury?
In this raw, in-the-car episode, I open up about something I’ve never fully talked about — the invisible symptoms of post-concussion syndrome and how they’ve affected my life and recovery.
After overdoing it on a bike ride, I fell into a physical and cognitive relapse that left me confused, exhausted, and deeply frustrated. I now know it was a resurgence of TBI symptoms, something that often gets overlooked in women, especially those with a history of domestic abuse.
This isn’t medical advice — it’s my personal story. But if any of this sounds familiar to you, it might be worth exploring further. 💌 Let me know what you’re experiencing. Your story matters too.
🔗 Resources and articles:
- The Concussion Fix webinar and the checklist by email
- My daily supplement routine (coming soon!)
Brain injuries often go unrecognized among domestic violence victims Nearly a quarter of women experience physical abuse from partners, and up to 90% of those women have had at least one concussion. Most don’t get screened or diagnosed. Full article here: https://www.nbcnews.com/health/womens-health/brain-injuries-undiagnosed-untreated-domestic-violence-rcna183637 Domestic Violence and Traumatic Brain Injury: The Chilling Truth of This Hits Home Full article here: https://www.americanbrainfoundation.org/domestic-violence-and-traumatic-brain-injury-the-chilling-truth-of-this-hits-home/ This article is about a documentary you can watch about this topic. It’s called “This Hits Home” and it’s about the prevalence of TBIs in domestic violence survivors as well as the sad fact that many aren’t screened for head injuries and they are the ones who have more trouble recovering. I haven’t seen it yet but will do a review, when I do. Here are some relevant excerpts from this article. The Silent Epidemic of DV-TBI One in four American women will experience severe violence from a domestic partner in their lifetime, often resulting in significant trauma to the head and neck. Over 75% of domestic violence survivors suffer single or repeated traumatic brain injuries, most of which go unreported. Despite these alarming statistics, DV-TBI is still critically under-researched.
“I don’t think the connection [between TBI and DV] has been made on a wide scale,” Scotia says. This is due in part to the lack of awareness and education about the signs and symptoms of TBI, particularly with regard to instances of domestic violence.
Brain banks collect brain and tissue samples from donors after their death, distributing these samples to researchers and labs across the United States. However, current brain banks do not have enough samples from women with documented histories of DV-TBI and CTE, making it difficult to research the link between the two.
“It seems obvious that women who suffer repeated TBIs from DV are going to get the same neurodegenerative brain diseases as men,” Scotia says. “But it’s hard to distinguish whether Alzheimer’s disease, CTE, post-concussion syndrome, multiple mental health struggles, or another disease or condition is the main issue for them. Add the fact that nobody wants to talk about DV, and we’re getting very little research on women’s brains.”
Update on Domestic Violence and Traumatic Brain Injury: A Narrative Review Full article here: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8773525/ 💌 Let me know what you’re experiencing. Your story matters, too! ✍🏼 I'm wishing you well and looking forward to a followup episode with your thoughts and comments. Much love!
Steph xoxo
Stop Talking About Narcissists - Why Celebrating YOUR Wins Is The Path To Healing
After 10 years of podcasting about narcissistic abuse, I've realized something critical: we've been giving narcissists exactly what they want - attention. It's time for a movement where we stop obsessing over abusers and start celebrating ourselves! In this powerful episode, I explain why focusing on "red flags" and manipulation tactics can actually keep us stuck in hypervigilance and fear. Instead, I'm inviting you to share your wins - big or small - as we shift the spotlight onto YOUR healing journey. Whether you've just taken a peaceful bubble bath despite the text bombing, established a boundary, or won a court case, your story matters and can inspire others. Join me in creating a community where survivors lift each other up instead of staying trapped in negativity. 📱 Share your win (anonymously if you prefer): https://theaudaciouslife.com 🎙️ Leave a voice message through SpeakPipe on our website 📧 Or email your story for me to share from the website https://theaudaciouslife.com Your experience is valid, and you are not alone. Together, we can change the conversation from fear to empowerment. I'm looking forward to hearing some examples you're proud of. 🏆 What choice did you make that... ➡️ protected your boundary ➡️ set a boundary ➡️ helped you move yourself forward in life vs. allowing the abuser to make you feel small and paralyzed. 🛀🏻 allowed you to feel good 💃🏽 ❣️👩👧👧 supported the stability of your children I'm looking forward to reading or listening to your shares and most importantly, sharing them with our community so we can be inspired and celebrate with you! 🥳❤️❤️❤️ Until the next one. Lots of Love!! Steph
How I broke Free From Fear and Overwhelm with Prayer 🙏 Breaking free from overwhelming fear through the power of prayer transformed my life. Hear my journey of finding peace and spiritual strength. In this heartfelt video and audio, I share my transformative journey over the past few months, recounting a powerful spiritual awakening that reconnected me with God ✝️. I discuss how this 'come to Jesus' moment amid personal struggles, including my daughters' health, financial instability, and career changes, gave me the strength to push through tough times. I also reflect on childhood experiences, the importance of a supportive community, and overcoming mental barriers to achieve personal and professional goals. Whether you are facing similar challenges or just seeking encouragement, join me as I share insights on growth, spirituality, and finding purpose 🌱. ⏰ [Timestamps] 00:00 Introduction and Gratitude 00:14 Spiritual Awakening 04:06 Challenges and Overwhelm 05:08 Support and Strength 11:16 Career Journey and Skills 13:36 Overcoming Mental Barriers 15:44 Encouragement and Accountability 22:39 Conclusion and Call to Action 📺 Check out the video I mentioned about Skool: https://youtu.be/8ixXwllGaSg?si=abhPnZuuQ3VN9i73 👩🏽💻 Interested in checking out Skool? 👉🏼 Use my referral link: https://bit.ly/Steph-Skool and I'll recieve a portion of your membership if you decide it's for you. ➡️ Try Capcut for EASY video edits on mobile or laptop https://www.capcut.com/capcut_pc_web/fission_receive?code=1reEq481432383&lng=en ➡️ Try Descript for Youtube and Podcast editing via text--easy breezy! https://www.descript.com/?lmref=t41IuQ
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Massachusetts Passes Coercive Control Bill! What this Means for Survivors In this episode, I discuss the recent passing of the Coercive Control Bill in Massachusetts, the celebration I attended with many incredible survivors and advocates. And what the passing of the bill means for survivors of domestic abuse.
Key Points: * Massachusetts unanimously passed the Coercive Control Bill, becoming the 7th state to classify coercive control as a form of domestic violence. * The bill (H4744) expands protections against abuse and exploitation, including laws against revenge porn. * Coercive control is defined as a pattern of behavior intended to threaten, intimidate, harass, isolate, control, or compel compliance of a family or household member. * The law doesn't criminalize coercive control but allows it to be considered a criminal violation of a protective order.
Highlights: * Meeting with advocates and survivors at the celebration event * Discussion on the need for further legislation and support for survivors * Importance of addressing post-separation abuse and ongoing support for survivors
Resources Mentioned: * Perfect Prey podcast * Dr. Lisa Fontes' website * Article on Massachusetts Coercive Control Law * Coercive Control Consulting - Legislation Information
Books Mentioned: * "Invisible Chains" by Dr. Lisa Fontes * "Framed" by Dr. Christine Cociola (upcoming release)
Call to Action: * Educate yourself about coercive control * Contact your local domestic violence agency if you suspect coercive control * Reach out to state legislators to support coercive control legislation * Share ideas for supporting survivors, especially in post-separation scenarios
Get Involved: * Check out TRAC (Together Rising Above Coercion) in Massachusetts * Look for similar initiatives in your state
Join the conversation! Share your thoughts, experiences, and ideas for supporting survivors in the comments below.
Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe to the podcast for more content on domestic abuse awareness and support.
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So, whether you're a parent juggling it all, an entrepreneur with big dreams, or just someone who wants to sleep better at night knowing legal help is a phone call away, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover how you can lawyer up without emptying your wallet!
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If you're intrigued by what you've heard today about this game-changing legal service, I've got two ways for you to take action right now:
- First, I want to hear from you directly. Shoot me an email at stephanir at gmail.com with the subject line 'Legal'. I'd love to chat more about how this could work for you and answer any questions you might have.
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Healing is in the air! Ready to break free from narcissistic abuse? Discover these 5 essential books to help you heal, release the fear, and rebuild your life. Learn how to break free from toxic patterns, regain your self-esteem, and find inner peace.
Steph discusses the need to focus on healing from narcissistic abuse through recommended resources, emphasizing the importance of moving beyond seeking validation through shared traumatic experiences.
Book Recommendations:
It's Not You: Indentifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, PhD - https://amzn.to/4d7RJn9
Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse rather than discussing the abuser, providing insights into recovery.
Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft - https://amzn.to/3SzJrfg
Explores the mindset of abusive men, offering understanding and validation for those recovering from such relationships.
Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship by: Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD - https://amzn.to/3WRjMla
Offers comprehensive guidance for those still in abusive relationships, covering practical aspects like finances and children.
Boundary Boss, Terri Cole: the Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free - https://amzn.to/4cgCKWt
Provides concrete tips and scripts for setting and maintaining boundaries, especially with toxic individuals.
Writing to Heal: A Guided Journal for Recovering from Trauma and Emotional Upheaval by James Pennebaker, PhD - https://amzn.to/3WNaTst
Encourages journaling as a therapeutic tool to process and release trauma, with proven psychological and physiological benefits.
What's on the Horizon
Shifting Focus to Healing and Thriving: Steph emphasizes the need to focus on healing and thriving rather than dwelling on the trauma and identity tied to narcissistic abuse. Seeking ways to find our voice and create meaning through interests that light us up and help give us something to build and look forward to each day, whether a blog, a product, a hobby to share publicly to gain confidence being seen and standing in your power.
Personal Experience and Self-Care: She shares her personal journey and the importance of self-care to get through the worst of times and deeper emotional work. Steph intends to develop resources like an eBook and mini-course to help others in similar situations. Watch for announcements about these and a curated newsletter focused on healing and thriving.
Engagement and Community Support: She encourages listeners to engage with her content, share their own recommendations, and leave feedback to foster a supportive community for healing from narcissistic abuse.
Thank you for listening! Sending lots of Love, light, and prayers to you!!
Love you!
Steph
xoxo *This may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!
When we seek validation about narcissistic abuse, we think it's helping us heal. But be warned: The Truth About Narcissistic Abuse Validation is not what we think. We're drawn to memes and videos that validate our experience, comfort us, and maybe even help us feel seen...and sane. But is this the best thing for us to heal and grow beyond the abusive programming? In this episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about how we use content to validate our feelings and what can happen as as result. Here's the video with Lundy Bancroft that I mentioned at the beginning of this episode. Narists vs Abusers: https://youtu.be/0iYfG8x80Yw?si=dkiHPw8BcE7Ae-3f - check the comments and add to the conversation.
QUESTION Who are the people, and what are the channels, books, and podcasts you're following to focus on healing and breaking free from narcissistic programming? I'd love to know so I can utilize them and feature them for others--share in the comments. Thank you!! RESOURCES - Feeling hopeless? Dial the 988 Crisis line for compassionate support. - CNN article on the research: https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/12/health... - The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474 - The National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL / stephaniroberts / audaciouslife / audaciousmamas / audaciousmamas THE AUDACIOUS LIFE PODCAST https://www.theaudaciouslife.com/ THE AUDACIOUS MAMAS SHOW https://www.audaciousmamas.com/ WANT TO BE A GUEST ON PODCASTS? Check out my free lesson to learn about the power of podcast guest appearances to build an audience, amplify your authority, and build your brand while growing your email list with warm leads. Thank you for listening! Lots of Love! xoxo!!
Bethenny's Mom Passed - what happened to the divorce videos?
Bethenny Frankel was on a role sharing about her messy 10-year divorce and my last podcast was all about this. But what happened to Bethenny's divorce videos?" When she decided to share about her divorce, I was ecstatic and shared why I think she'll be a solid, outspoken catalyst for awareness around emotional abuse, coercive control, and more. Then I saw that her mom died just a few days after I posted the podcast. Heartbreaking and awful timing given the roll she was on and how great she reports she was feeling. Stating that she felt, "Good" and "free."
I figured she would pause her episodes to grieve the loss of her mother.
However, a listener shared that the videos have been pulled down. ") This is about why she pulled them down, her plan IS to share more information moving forward and an alternate place to get information regarding the details of her divorce (BRAVO Docket, link below) if you can't wait or are now so curious about her specific situation.
Please subscribe to her channel and remember to click the bell to be notified when she goes live or shares. It seems like she's on a roll, so we can expect more.
And SHARE with other women!
BETHENNY ON THE LOSS OF HER MOTHER: https://youtu.be/yaHvmtGr5hE?si=RTKWtSW4EPOregD4
THE BRAVO DOCKET ON BETHENNY'S DIVORCE
PART 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/lv/podcast/bethennys-divorce-it-just-goes-on-and-on-my-friend-pt-i/id1549568903?i=1000579166591
PART 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bethennys-divorce-it-just-goes-on-and-on-my-friend-pt-ii/id1549568903?i=1000580622246
You may eventually be able to see her previous videos below.
MY TEN YEAR DIVORCE ON A 2 YEAR MARRIAGE
https://youtu.be/zvGwNyQ5mgA?si=4Agfq-jhMTI-lTeE
PART ONE CHARMING IS A RED FLAG
https://youtu.be/2FxZ52LB9MM?si=d9aEIR6ZUBgkOMT1
RESOURCES
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CNN article on the research: https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/12/health/early-signs-of-intimate-partner-violence-wellness/index.html
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The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474
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The National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org
FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL
https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniroberts/
https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife
https://www.pinterest.com/Audaciousmamas/
https://www.instagram.com/audaciousmamas
THE AUDACIOUS LIFE PODCAST
https://www.theaudaciouslife.com/
THE AUDACIOUS MAMAS SHOW
https://www.audaciousmamas.com/
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Bethenny Frankel's Messy 10-Year Divorce - She's Sharing So We Can Learn
As a longtime fan of Bethenny Frankel, I've been waiting for her to share more about her relationship with her former husband and father of their daughter, Bryn. As outspoken as she is, she clearly had a gag order in place for many years. And she now considers herself an "expert on Divorce" as she researched and dug deep to help her case. I caught a YouTube Live with Bethenny sharing that she's decided to share the details of her divorce. And she aims to help other women! Imagine what Bethenny Frankel can do to spread awareness around narcissism and post-separation abuse, including family court corruption. She's a black belt in verbal jujitsu and can sling memorable one-liners effortlessly. Her impact WILL BE FELT. I immediately recorded this after watching, and she went live again today before I could get this out. You can catch her previous videos below. Please do go and subscribe, and remember to click the bell so you'll be notified when she goes live or shares. It seems like she's on a roll, so we can expect more. And SHARE with other women!!
MY TEN YEAR DIVORCE ON A 2 YEAR MARRIAGE https://youtu.be/zvGwNyQ5mgA?si=4Agfq-jhMTI-lTeE PART ONE CHARMING IS A RED FLAG https://youtu.be/2FxZ52LB9MM?si=d9aEIR6ZUBgkOMT1 Thanks for listening! I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this. I will have the YouTube video up on my channel ASAP, along with questions in the community tab. Lots of Love! Steph Image attribution for promotional graphic "bethenny-frankel-book-a-place-of-yes-330kk" by ekelly89 is licensed under CC BY 2.0.
Fueling Healthy Thoughts: Overcoming Darkness and Transformative Resilience
In this episode I have some raw and vulnerable moments about this year and reflect on what I believe I need to work on with my own stinkin' thinkin'. Being more intentional with what we feed our minds is essential in turning things around, creating hope in our lives, and being a light in the darkness. It was recorded on MLK Day and I was inspired by his memory and his ability to be the man outside the box pushing through oppressive norms and spurring on all people of color to dare to dream bigger, and believe that more is possible. Here's a run down of this episode
- Reflecting on the challenges of the past year and the struggle to maintain balance in life.
- Drawing inspiration from Martin Luther King Jr. and the power of intention.
Connecting with the Audience:
- Acknowledging the shared difficulties many face, emphasizing the feeling of being overwhelmed.
- Encouraging listeners not to feel alone in their struggles.
The Four Nutriments:
- Exploring Thich Nhat Hanh's concept of the four nutrients (Edible food, Sense impressions, Volition, and Consciousness).
- Emphasizing the importance of identifying sources of suffering and finding peace and joy.
Navigating Personal Struggles:
- Sharing personal struggles with podcasting, career decisions, and the challenges of parenting.
- Expressing empathy for those facing overwhelming situations and the difficulty of finding options.
MLK Day Reflection:
- Reflecting on personal connection to Martin Luther King Jr. and the power of intention in creating positive change.
- Mentioning the influence of spoken words, particularly MLK's "I Have a Dream" speech.
Coping Strategies and Tools:
- Introducing coping strategies, including mindful eating and being aware of sense impressions.
- Discussing the impact of volition on happiness and the importance of cultivating healthy desires.
- Addressing the role of consciousness in transforming painful events and finding enlightenment.
Focusing on Healing and Positivity:
- Highlighting the challenge of podcasting about abuse without inadvertently perpetuating negativity.
- Exploring the power of focus and intention in creating positive change.
- Expressing a desire to shift the podcast's focus towards healing, love, peace, and thriving.
Inviting Positive Stories:
- Sharing the intention to invite guests who have overcome darkness and transformed their lives.
- Expressing the need for positive role models and stories of turning life around.
- Acknowledging personal challenges and the importance of collective healing.
Closing Thoughts:
- Offering tools for managing anxiety and promoting well-being, including heart math techniques and grounding practices.
- Sending love, hope, and thoughts for a brighter future to the listeners.
- Encouraging subscriptions, reviews, and engagement to build a community focused on healing. Mentioned in this episode: Thich Nhat Hahn's "How to Focus" beautiful book. Inner Balance Heart Math App for heart brain coherence and learning to ground and become less anxious. And help the collective energy of your family, home, town, the World. Earthing, grounding mat for grounding while indoors. Just plug it into a grounded outlet. I use mine near my desk for my feet while working and under my sheets so I can ground while sleeping. Amazing!! DISCLAIMER: This post contains affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself! Thanks for tuning in! Sending lots of Love and wishes for a healthy 2024!
New Study Uncovers the 16 Early Warnings Signs of Emotionally Abusive Partners In this episode, I dive into brand new research that pinpoints behaviors you should look out for early on in a romantic relationship that could indicate your partner has the potential for emotional abuse, physical violence, and controlling tactics down the road.
The study comes from the University of Western Ontario in Canada, with the goal of uncovering what factors accurately predict if intimate partner violence is likely.
I share the 16 predictors the researchers identified - ranging from pressuring you into sex to creating uncomfortable public situations. A few stand out as being particularly concerning if they happen early in dating.
Some of the key signs to pay attention to:
- Your partner blames their ex for everything
- You feel you can't say no because your partner reacts negatively
- Your partner refuses to admit fault or take responsibility
- You have trouble focusing at work because your relationship consumes your thoughts
The more of these that you notice, the higher likelihood of future abuse in the relationship. While a few issues here and there can potentially be worked on, a pattern of multiple signs is a red flag.
I also discuss talking to your teenagers about healthy and unhealthy behaviors in both friendships and dating relationships. Getting this information early helps them identify poor treatment before it becomes normalized in their relationships.
Resources:
- The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474
- The National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org
- CNN article on the research: https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/12/health/early-signs-of-intimate-partner-violence-wellness/index.html
Check out the YouTube Channel
How to get more of Lundy Bancroft? That's one of the most common questions I get. People often ask where Lundy Bancroft is and they want more access to his work. Lundy has a program called the Peak Living Network (PLN) that helps with emotional healing and recovery. And as a gesture of support through this holiday season and into the New Year, I want to share some of the best places to find Lundy and possibly be trained by Lundy in his Peak Living Network for emotional healing. I was in his PLN program and found it incredibly beneficial. If you join now you may be approved and able to start learning ways to connect with others in a safe way, virtually and in-person. Peak Living Network (PLN) - https://peaklivingnetwork.org - Based on Lundy's book "The Joyous Recovery." - Involves co-counseling sessions in groups or pairs to share and process emotions. - Not a substitute for therapy but can be a helpful adjunct. - An option if you can't afford therapy or are waiting to access it. - Requires some training first before joining the network. - International network with an online option. Other Ways to Connect with Lundy - https://lundybancroft.com has his books, articles, resources lists etc. - Active Facebook page with over 23k followers. / lundybancroft - Mentions upcoming events, podcast interviews etc. - HelpGuide.org has resources on abusive relationships. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab... - Consider joining Peak Living Network for more direct contact with Lundy. - Check his website and Facebook page for updates. - Provide suggestions for other content from Lundy eg podcast, YouTube channel. Check out my FREE video Lesson and get the pitch sheet. ➡︎ https://bit.ly/pod-lesson Check out The Audacious Mamas Podcast website and blog ➡︎ http://audaciousmamas.com Check out The Audacious Life Podcast website and blog ➡︎ http://theaudaciouslife.com Learn more at http://audaciousmamas.com
In this podcast episode, Steph discusses the advantages of entrepreneurship for mothers who have survived narcissistic or toxic abuse. Steph shares that being an entrepreneur provides a sense of independence and control, which is empowering after experiencing control in a previous relationship. Starting a business can rebuild confidence, provide a sense of purpose, and connect survivors with others. When you're rebuilding your identity and starting over this infuses you with confidence. Flexibility is another advantage of entrepreneurship, allowing mothers to create a schedule that works for them and their families. Financial stability is also a benefit, although it may not be financially feasible in the beginning. Steph encourages listeners to take advantage of free resources, such as highly targeted podcasts, to build their brand and attract customers. Overall, entrepreneurship can provide a fresh start and a way for survivors to take control of their future. Check out the Audacious Mamas podcast and join the email list to be the first to learn more about the community, support for your dream, and learning valuable skills to start a new business or income stream as a side hustle. https://www.audaciousmamas.com/podcast Here's a breakdown of the reasons why there are so many advantages for moms and parents who are starting over.
- Being an entrepreneur provides a sense of independence and control, which can be empowering after experiencing control in a previous relationship.
- Starting a business can rebuild confidence, provide a sense of purpose, and connect survivors with others.
- Create a new positive identity with a purpose to build confidence and hope for your future.
- Flexibility is another advantage of entrepreneurship, allowing mothers to create a schedule that works for them and their families.
- Financial stability is a benefit, although it may not be financially feasible in the beginning.
- There are loads of free resources, such as highly targeted podcasts, to build your brand and attract customers.
- Overall, entrepreneurship can provide a fresh start and a way for survivors to take control of their future.
Hello! I hope you're well and caring for yourself through this emotionally turbulent time. In this episode, I'm letting you know where I am with the podcast and my current goals as I manage major life challenges with my children and, like everyone else, do my best to keep my chin up in the midst of life.
I'm sharing that I'm shifting a bit to focus on my other podcast, Audacious Mamas, to help ambitious single moms survivors of narcissistic abuse who are creating businesses and additional income streams. I'll interview people and share content on branding, visibility, mindset, spirituality, self-care, mental health, and more. If this is YOU, please reach out via my guest form so we can connect. I'd love to have you on the podcast to share your story and your business! Seriously, don't second guess it, reach out! :-)
In this episode I'm curating a few things that I found helpful, writing and an interview that's super insightful. First, a piece of writing from Joanne Sacred Scribes about a spiritual awakening that's relevant if you feel yourself changing your interests, your moods, connection to spirit, connection to others, things you're noticing in your daily life and noticing them in ways that make you feel "different" or like you're just not yourself.
Yes, some of this can be depression or something related to stress, but many are feeling something deeper and more all-encompassing. And if you've had depression, you'll know this feeling isn't quite the same because there are definite highs and bursts of inspiration mixed in with lows and emotional breakdowns among other things. I think she covers this topic in a nuanced way that's relatable..
Second, I'm sharing some nuggets from two of my favorite narcissist experts, Dr. Ramani Durvasula and Doctor Les Carter, aka Dr. C. They had an excellent discussion on Dr. Carter's Surviving Narcissism channel. They have some overlap but different approaches to narcissists and narcissistic recovery, and both are super valuable--check it out!
Breaking Free from a Narcissist with Dr. Ramani and Dr. Les Carter on the Surviving Narcissism channel
https://youtu.be/gc3PV--4cmw
Spiritual Awakening - from Joanne Sacred Scribes
http://psychicjoanne.blogspot.com/2009/08/spiritual-awakening.html
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Helping single mompreneurs take control of their time &
avoid burnout so they can become financially liberated.
The Audacious Mamas website - building this up to create a community, learning, and support!
https://www.audaciousmamas.com/
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Thanks for listening! Lots of Love! xoxo!!
Steph
Hello, this week I'm talking about the mental cage we have in our minds. It's that thing that stops us from being our best selves, our true selves, from honoring the voice that was once there and was slowly eroded by the programming of toxic relationships, specifically those where coercive control and manipulation are at play.
One consistent pattern I've seen with myself and fellow survivors of emotional, financial, mental, or sexual and physical abuse. You finally get out of one of these relationships, and you're like, oh, I'm free!
But you quickly realize you're NOT FREE because this experience built a cage in your mind through years of abuse, manipulation, and coercive control.
In this episode, I share about an interview that lit a fire within me and helped me see this pattern and a way out that can help many of us over the long term.
It's not a quick fix, and it's all about incremental change. Those 1% tweaks in our behavior trigger shifts in how we frame our lives. They're catalysts for more profound change, allowing us to create a new story and identity, breaking through the well-worn programming we may not even be aware of.
I'm speaking from the heart here, addressing many challenges in my life right now and doing my best to reframe all of it and move forward each day vs. seeing what didn't get done. We're so hard on ourselves even in a crisis, and it's destructive. But we can turn it around and create a new way of life.
Mentioned in this episode
Atomic Habits by James Cleary (the book on Amazon) https://amzn.to/3UR5nAZ
Atomic Habits by James Cleary (the book on Audible) https://amzn.to/3FkHfRA
Ed Mylett's interview with James Cleary (on YouTube) https://youtu.be/Kz0pNyS0plk
Read Coercive control: Harms to children | Coercive control in children's and mother's lives | Oxford Academic https://bit.ly/cc-harm
Domestic Violence Hotline in the US 800-799-7233 SMS: Text START to 88788 https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence
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It's Thanksgiving, and I'm sending a big thanks to all who are listening and sending love and appreciation to you.
I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving!
Today I have Jessica Perkins, Toy Maker, Parent Coach, and homeschooling mom of three. I wanted to interview Jessica to share her story, her Table Talk connection cards for families to improve communication--not just at the table anywhere you have time together and want to draw your children out.
Jessica has a great story about how her business evolved and how she landed into her urge to create with her focus on children and early childhood education. She went with it and launched MamaMayI.shop, her toy and learning company.
She's not just a successful mompreneur and coach but also a single parent who's shown incredible resilience these past few years, including being displaced and losing a brand new home in a hurricane last year that destroyed her workspace. She trudges on and has an incredible spirit. I think you'll find this episode inspiring and motivating to find a deeper connection to your kids and yourself.
Links Mentioned in this episode
MamaMayI.shop
JessicaPerkins.com / Coaching and Community
Table Talk connection cards for family
How to Be Emotionally Healthy Through Connection (YouTube)
How to Be Emotionally Healthy Through Connection (podcast)
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I've missed you! I love podcasting. I love creating content. And I so love being able to help people and earn a living.
These past two months have been rough, and I don't want to sugarcoat what my kids and I have been through. I definitely wouldn't wish it on anyone.
So this episode is about what life throws our way and how we as caregivers will likely take a hit when someone gets sick, needs to be hospitalized, or needs a higher level of care from us for some time. We must set up our lives to account for these gaps of complete demand on our time.
Being more strategic with my earnings and creating income streams that aren't dependent on my time is now an absolute necessity, as is my daughter's recovery and overall mental wellness as a family.
QUESTIONS for YOU
1) Are you a mama or caregiver who started a side hustle or launched a new business over the last two years to gain more flexibility, get ahead with inflation, and gain control over your life and income?
I'd love to hear and share your story, how it went, and whether it was a success or a flop. I'll shine the spotlight on you, and hopefully, we can all learn from you if you're a guest on the podcast!
Reach out to me at Steph at stephaniroberts dot com
**2) Are you interested in getting on podcasts as a guest and leveraging their audience?
If so, what are your questions or thoughts? Send them my way! If I use your ideas for my new course, I'll shout you out and give you 30% off. :-)**
Reach out to me at Steph at stephaniroberts dot com
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If so, where do you prefer to show up?**
Facebook, Circle, somewhere else? Let me know.
Shoot me an email at Steph at stephaniroberts dot com
I'm looking forward to hearing from you!
Thanks for tuning in! Hang tough!!
Lots of Love! xoxo
Steph
Here's Game #2 to Make this the Best Year of Your Life!
Play along each round and report back how it went. Last round was about making powerful requests of any size aka practicing asking for what we want. Score points for this and track them. Each request earned 150 points!
I'll be giving away books and creative prizes as we move through the year. So hang on to those sheets!
Or screenshot them and tag me on IG @AudaciousLife or @AudaciousMamas
You can grab the FREE Best Year game tracker sheet at https://www.audaciousmamas.com/bestyear
Today I pull the second card...check it out to see. Yer gonna LOVE this one!!
WHY THIS GAME NOW?
We all know we're in the middle of dark times. So much swirling around us but we have a choice. We can choose to do things that push us forward in our personal growth, relationships, and life. And to show OURSELVES more grace and self-love.
Doing so has a positive ripple effect in life, and anyone around us can feel it. It creates hope and gives us the fuel we need to impact change.
So I'm inviting you to tune in and do your best to play along with me weekly-ish as we try to stay in the light to spite these dark times and the swirl around us.
If you're curious, we're using the Best Year of Your Life kit by Debbie Ford for this game. Our version is FREE, FUN, and one way to strive for more while we face real challenges.
➡︎ Grab the FREE Best Year game tracker sheet at https://www.audaciousmamas.com/bestyear
Debbie Ford created the kit, but it all started with her paperback book. Both are listed below if you want to grab them.
The Best Year of Your Life: Dream It, Plan It, Live It -
https://amzn.to/3zgkNGq
The Best Year of Your Life Kit (the Cards) - https://amzn.to/3cCZh6V
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I appreciate you!! Thanks for tuning in!!
Lots of Love!
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I recorded this video in June and sat on it. It's one of many I recorded in response to my channel's Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial and comments. I recorded another response last week, but this original is more natural, so I decided to let it flow without editing. I've been asked questions, and here finally responding to some of what came up while I was posting, including suggestions to have Lundy Bancroft back as a guest.
As I've been saying, I feel strongly that dwelling in the darkness doesn't serve us, and we will all be better off finding ways to reach for and stay in the light.
Focusing on what's possible, finding more purpose, and creating ways to improve life are all far more helpful than arguing over celebrity breakups and media spin. That's what I aim to do!
I'm inviting you to tune in and do your best to play with me weekly as we try to stay in the light despite dark times and the swirl around us. My upcoming videos will be about everything from preparing for or thriving as a single mother to finding simple ways to increase your income and get your time back through side hustles, affiliate marketing, an online business, and more. Also, spiritual support, mindset shifts, tools for your online business, success stories, and experts can help with all of the above.
Turn dark times around!
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Thanks for listening!! xoxo
There's no question that these are dark times. I accept that. Heaps of doom and gloom are being served to us, and it's nearly impossible to dodge. Important news and events impact our lives and the lives of fellow humans. But dwelling in the darkness doesn't serve us, and we will all be better off finding ways to reach for and stay in the light.
I believe that when we're in dark times, it's a good idea to focus on what's good and possible, find more purpose, and create ways to make life better. Doing so has a positive ripple effect in life, and anyone around us can feel it. It creates hope and gives us the fuel we need to impact change.
So I'm inviting you to tune in and do your best to play along with me weekly as we try to stay in the light to spite these dark times and the swirl around us.
Join me in using the Best Year of Your Life kit by Debbie Ford. It's FREE, FUN, and one way to strive for more while we face real challenges.
A growth mindset, belief in something and positive support are the two main things we need to stretch and grow. And I'm happy to be here with you to do this together so we can get through the dark days and deep challenges. We'll follow prompts each week by Debbie Ford, a beloved personal transformation expert who appeared on Oprah numerous times before passing in 2013. We can challenge ourselves to grow and make choices that support us in moving in a positive direction.
Grab the FREE Best Year game tracker sheet at https://www.audaciousmamas.com/bestyear
Thanks for tuning in! I hope to see you on the YouTube channel for game #2!
I'm aiming for Tuesday/Wednesday game days, so check it out and subscribe to be notified!
If I get up the courage, we'll make these live game card pulls so we can share what we learned, how it went, and how we're feeling. I'd LOVE to get to know you!
Debbie Ford created a kit for the Best Year of Your Life, but it all started with her paperback book. Both are listed below if you want to grab them.
The Best Year of Your Life: Dream It, Plan It, Live It:
https://amzn.to/3zgkNGq
The Best Year of Your Life Kit (the Cards)
https://amzn.to/3cCZh6V
Let’s connect on social media!
YouTube
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Thanks for tuning in! I hope to see you on the YouTube channel for game #2! Aiming for Tuesdays or Wednesdays and going live if possible, so check it out and subscribe to be notified.
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Stephanie Pianades went into Massachusetts family court looking for help. That was it. One little thing. She went in looking for one help with one little thing, and it snowballed into a monumental challenge that altered her life and the life of her 10-year-old daughter, and as she says, "it will never go back to the way it was."
This interview is a cautionary tale about Family Court Abuse, Parental Alienation, DARVO, and Post-separation Abuse. It's not easy to digest but extremely important for parents. We make assumptions about the court system, the main one being that it will protect our children or us. The dark truth is that this is not the case. The family court system is broken.
Learn the steps to take to prevent court abuse and parental alienation. The first step is finding vetted attorneys who understand the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and how they can weaponize the court system against the other parent.
Stop Abuse Campaign offers top-notch resources to help protective parents fight for their children and win against systemic and other forms of abuse.
https://stopabusecampaign.org/takeaction/family-court-custody-crisis/help-for-protective-parents/
AS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Hear and see Stephanie's testimony before the Joint Committee on the Judiciary regarding Family Court abuse in Worcester Family Court
Follow Steph on Twitter and support, retweet, re-post, chime in with similar stories to raise awareness, call your local representative to see what you can do to clean up the family court system in your state or country.
What is Parental Alienation?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/parental-alienation
What is DARVO?
https://www.sbs.com.au/topics/voices/relationships/article/2021/04/13/what-darvo-and-how-it-used-against-survivors-violence
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/
What is Family Court Abuse? Example from a Harvard Law
https://www.legalservicescenter.org/when-perpetrators-of-domestic-violence-use-civil-court-system-to-re-victimize-survivors/
Post-separation abuse cycle wheel
https://www.onemomsbattle.com/post-separation-abuse
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Lots of Love!
xoxox
Many of us are busy watching or actively avoiding the Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard trial. It's triggering, and I've felt it myself. I've had to walk away many days because it's too much.
As I've mentioned, I have another interview coming up with Stephanie Pianades, that's important an important case for parents related to custody and flipping the script. I know it will be triggering. As a parent of young daughters, I had a tough time making it through the interview.
So I wanted to have an expert to help us all manage triggers related to past trauma before her episode airs.
Stacy Every is a certified EFT practitioner and coach who has experience as a survivor of abuse. She gets it. In this episode, she gives us numerous quick tips and tools to follow up on and explore more deeply to help with trauma, triggers, and finding ways to get grounded and rebalance back into our bodies.
This episode will be up on my youTube channel if you want to see how tapping works. Stacy demonstrates tapping using the meridians of our body, and it's a little tough to explain via audio-only.
I'll link the video here as soon as it's live on YouTube.
NOTE: If anything I post or share is triggering to you, please step away. Follow Stacy's ideas for getting grounded and decide whether you should avoid it altogether or come back later when you feel well, grounded, and strong.
I care about you and totally appreciate you being here, but also only want what's 100% right for you. xoxo
Thank you for listening!
If this was helpful for you, please subscribe, consider sharing with someone who needs to hear this, and leave a comment or an iTunes review.
These things are a big help for the podcast and expand our audience and help others in the same shoes find ways to gain strength and heal.
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Here's her website and contact info https://stacyevery.com/**
Thanks again! Sending lots of Love to you!
Mother's Day - Honoring Moms through loss - celebrating YOU! Man, it has been a crazy wild last two years, and I was thinking about this episode and how to honor moms and all that moms have been through because I think of all that people have been through, the most significant weight has been put upon mothers and mother figures, caregivers, for sure, over the last two years.
And so some moms are just spent and at their wit's end, and some mothers, through all of this, have learned to figure out more self-care, how to realign themselves, maybe with better jobs or with delegating things around the house so that they can take back their time and not be this wonder woman, super supermom.
And then many of us also have lost parents. I lost my mom 16 years ago. Her mom right after that, so two maternal figures poof!--both were gone. I didn't have my kids until two years later, but that hole was there. Through this pandemic, so many people have lost their parents, their mothers, and loved ones. Or their parents are battling illness now. It's a lot, and it can make this day a big mixed bag of emotions.
I get it. I'm sharing some thoughts about my mother, my grandmother, the sorrow I've felt for my mother never meeting my children, and how I turned that around last year, determined to start a new tradition for Mother's Day. And I have some ideas for turning things around for yourself so life can be sweeter and you can maintain more life in life in spite of inflation, pandemics, and dark news in the world.
As mentioned in this episode
This Thing Called You - by Ernest Holmes (Book) https://amzn.to/3P83jmI Wondering how to slow down, tune in to what you want, and surrender like you haven't before? Check out these related episodes Feminine Surrender vs. Pushing. Mini Retreats and Self-Care to Nourish Mamas with Melissa Mueller-Douglas Self Care and Connection to Self to Heal From Trauma Why Calming Our Nervous System is Essential to Thrive
*This may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!
I hope you got through Mother's Day with some bright spots. If you need someone to tell you, you're doing GREAT!!
Want to shoot me a tribute about your mom to share on an upcoming episode? Send me a note or a recording here
Thanks for listening, sharing, reviewing, and subscribing!
Sending lots of Love and appreciation for you and ALL you do EVERY DAY!!
Mother's Day - Honoring Moms through loss - celebrating YOU! Man, it has been a crazy wild last two years, and I was thinking about this episode and how to honor moms and all that moms have been through because I think of all that people have been through, the most significant weight has been put upon mothers and mother figures, caregivers, for sure, over the last two years.
And so some moms are just spent and at their wit's end, and some mothers, through all of this, have learned to figure out more self-care, how to realign themselves, maybe with better jobs or with delegating things around the house so that they can take back their time and not be this wonder woman, super supermom.
And then many of us also have lost parents. I lost my mom 16 years ago. Her mom right after that, so two maternal figures poof!--both were gone. I didn't have my kids until two years later, but that hole was there. Through this pandemic, so many people have lost their parents, their mothers, and loved ones. Or their parents are battling illness now. It's a lot, and it can make this day a big mixed bag of emotions.
I get it. I'm sharing some thoughts about my mother, my grandmother, the sorrow I've felt for my mother never meeting my children, and how I turned that around last year, determined to start a new tradition for Mother's Day. And I have some ideas for turning things around for yourself so life can be sweeter and you can maintain more life in life in spite of inflation, pandemics, and dark news in the world.
As mentioned in this episode
This Thing Called You - by Ernest Holmes (Book) https://amzn.to/3P83jmI Wondering how to slow down, tune in to what you want, and surrender like you haven't before? Check out these related episodes Feminine Surrender vs. Pushing. Mini Retreats and Self-Care to Nourish Mamas with Melissa Mueller-Douglas Self Care and Connection to Self to Heal From Trauma Why Calming Our Nervous System is Essential to Thrive
*This may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!
I hope you got through Mother's Day with some bright spots. If you need someone to tell you, you're doing GREAT!!
Want to shoot me a tribute about your mom to share on an upcoming episode? Send me a note or a recording here
Thanks for listening, sharing, reviewing, and subscribing!
Sending lots of Love and appreciation for you and ALL you do EVERY DAY!!
Amber Heard is perpetuating the stereotype that women create false charges against men. While that does happen, I know many cases where the men are able to spin in the opposite direction and take a woman who's been victimized and turn her into the abuser. They cut off her connection to her children and create a restraining order and paint her in the most negative light possible. I have a guest interview with Stephanie Pianades coming up in May, and her abuser (ex husband) was able to flip the script and turn her world upside down by using her daughter as a pawn in the courts. This is a serious problem.
And REAL victims of domestic violence are enraged by Amber Heard's lies, manipulation, sense of entitlement, and utter disrespect for actual victims as she continues to wear the badge of Domestic Violence survivor and advocate.
I cover all of that in this episode and also share a related piece of good news from DV Leap, a national non-profit organization that fights for appellate advocacy for DV survivors who've been wronged in court. They have pro bono lawyers working to help survivors in all 50 states and they just had a big win in my home state, Massachusetts. I share the details in this episode.
My aim is to share all of this for awareness but also to build some faith and how for victims who've had the script flipped and don't feel there's anywhere to turn. Please reach out to DV Leap for support and see if they will take your case or help you with research related to your case.
Please check out DV Leap - https://www.dvleap.org/
Has this happened to you?
If so, please reach out to share your story by audio or message on the Audacious Life website.
The blue mic will allow you to send me a voice message that I can air on the podcast.
Please share your story to help create awareness around this issue.
I'm thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers.
Lots of Love and Peace!! xoxo
Jada Pinkett Smith image - Jerry Avenaim, CC BY-SA 3.0 , via Wikimedia Commons
Everybody is aware of the Will Smith incident at the Oscars. Since I recorded this, a few things have happened, but I thought I'd weigh in on which of these two is "the Narcissist," Will or Jada Pinkett Smith.
I wasn't going to comment on this situation at all, but it seems like it's something that's not going away. And I found the ongoing conversation around narcissism interesting, especially the question of which one is the victim in their relationship.
So this is a quick episode where I explore what I've learned since it happened and what I already knew.
More has transpired since recording this episode--Will was banned from the Oscars for ten years and seemed to accept his fate.
Jada has distanced herself from Will and behaves like the embarrassed independent woman who doesn't need her man to stand up for her. Fascinating shift, given her initial reaction to Will slapping Chris.
Hers is a move for reputation management and another DIS-missal of Will.
As far as what people are thinking about these two, I posted a quick poll on my youTube channel. Poll results show that 38% say Jada is the narcissist, 25% say it's Will, and 15% say both are. The remaining 25% don't care and want them to go away.
You may be with that last bunch. :-)
At the very least, I'm happy that all these celebrity relationships gone awry are shining the spotlight on what narcissism looks like and creating conversation around it.
It underscores the fact that narcissist dynamics in relationships know no socio-economic bounds.
Suppose our onscreen hero with power, money, and fame, someone who portrayed Mohammed Ali, is also the victim of his wife. In that case, people may begin to understand the dynamics of their neighbor, sister, or co-worker stuck in the same type of relationship.
But I'm curious, what are your thoughts?
Which of these two is the narcissist, and who is the victim?
Please shoot me a message -- I want to hear from you!
Thanks from the heart for listening. I hope you're remembering to take time to take care of yourself and look for the light in the middle of all the darkness in our world. It's not easy these days but it does help get us through!
Lots of Love!
In this episode, I share some surprising and not so surprising findings related to trauma and its impact on our brain. Living through a traumatic situation can severely impact your memory, your cognition, your emotions, your ability to self-regulate, all of those things.
I found a video about the neurobiological impact of trauma on the brain, and it was eye-opening for me. I knew we could have PTSD and trauma-related physical manifestations, such as auto-immune disorders. But, this video spelled out genuine damage to our brains, creating significant challenges as we attempt to heal and recover from abuse and trauma.
And if we're not aware of this, it becomes easy to fall into self-blame, shame, major disappointment, and a negative spiral that prevents healing and progress in life. It can also create more isolation and alienation--the exact opposite of what will help us heal.
As much as we may be stuck in a loop of distrust, shame, bitterness, depression, anxiety, we need supportive humans in our life. We just do.
So, I'm reaching out to set up my first block of one-on-one calls with you.
I want to connect and see how I can best help you with content, support, and validate the course I'm finishing up to see what's missing.
Whether you can connect by phone or online with your thoughts about leaving, trying to exit, or starting over, I can add you to the beta list for the Exit - Survive to Thrive course special.
Ready to connect on a quick call? The first date block is Tuesday, 3/29/22
https://calendly.com/stephanir/chat
If you miss the time above, you can still leave comments on the form below.
Here's the form for feedback about your struggle for anyone who wants to share. I'm gathering your input for the course I'm creating.
https://forms.gle/aXeqKt982b7Uf8ns5
Resources mentioned in this episode.
Here's the full video on the Neurobiological Impact of Trauma on the Brain from Doc Snipes
https://bit.ly/trauma-impact
211.org for local grants and funding resources
https://www.211.org
Thanks for listening! Lots of Love!
I appreciate your patience if you've followed my lead-up to interviewing Lundy Bancroft.
This interview is coming in the nick of time with the holiday season.
Maybe you've been drawn back to the sparkly seasonal web of Love Bombing.
Maybe you're feeling guilty and questioning whether this version of them is REAL. And you've temporarily forgotten most of the hurtful things they've done throughout your relationship.
Or you're out of the relationship and now managing thoughts and ruminating about interactions and trying to figure out what makes this person tick and WHY they do the things they do.
Lundy covers
- Differences between the Narcissist and Abuser
- Why differentiating between them matters.
- His background and what led him to advocate for women
- What we as a society can do to create healthy male allies
- What male abuser programs look like and how successful ones keep in close contact with the woman who's been abused
- How men and women are conditioned to expect and accept domineering "sexy" qualities
- Personality disorders vs. abuse orientation
- Inability to empathize vs. choosing NOT to empathize
- Healing from trauma and how we can intentionally connect with others who are on the healing journey through Lundy's Peak Living Network (PLN)
Note: this network is not specifically for abuse survivors and is meant for people outside of deep crisis who are able to give 50% and receive 50%. Focus on YOU 100% first, if you're in deep crisis.
You should know
Lundy said, "Both narcissists and abusers do a lot of collecting allies." Boy does that ring true! You may be feeling the destruction and erosion of your reputation or relationships due to their actions.
You may be regrouping and dealing with trauma from an ongoing invasion of your loved ones and friends network.
Please take extra good care of yourself and find at least one person who can validate and understand your experience.
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And if no one near you understands, focus on yourself and do what feels good to lift your spirit.
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Move physically, pray or meditate, dance around to music, start a short gratitude journal each night and morning to focus on what's good and going right in your life. Look for the tiniest things that make your day.
- These simple acts can shift you and keep you out of a dark spiral. I'm speaking from experience. These work! :-)
I hope this interview helps answer some questions about abusers and their behaviors. And I would love to know what stood out for you and if more questions surfaced.
- Please send comments my way by Instagram direct messaging to @AudaciousLife
- Or reach out via the website contact or recorded audio.
- For audio, click the microphone graphic on the page.
- Read Lundy's blog about Narcissists vs. Abusers
- Check out the Peak Living Network
- Read The Joyous Recovery
- Listen to my description of the Peak Living Network from my perspective learning co-counseling from Lundy
- Listen to the episode about Dealing with Toxic Families during the holiday season.
*This post may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!
Wishing you a Happy and Peaceful Holiday!
Sending lots of Love and Light your way!!
A quick update about the upcoming Lundy Bancroft interview and an ask to share your abuse quotes if you've left and you have examples of the abuse continuing in post-separation.
Tina Swithin of One Mom's Battle has a movement to send these words of the abuse to the family courts to show the abuse that continues after parents are separated and how this post separation abuse impacts children.
You can send your abuse quotes to postseparationabuse@gmail.com
**Follow Tina's movement for Children's rights on Instagram @CustodyPeace
--> Angelina Jolie has joined this effort!!**
See One Mom's Battle website for more details about November's Family Court Awareness Month and the movement to shed light on Post-separation abuse.
Thank you for advocating for our children and keeping yours safe!
Coming up next on the Audacious Life!
Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs. Abusers
We're discussing his blog post and digging deep.
Check out his post before you listen to the show.
https://lundybancroft.com/narcissists-vs-abusers/
Thanks for listening! Please subscribe, review, and share!
Toxic families are difficult enough to be raised in. For outsiders, being brought in via dating, marriage, friendships, the family dynamic, and what it creates in adult children can be highly confusing to people raised in healthier homes.
This episode is about toxic clan family dynamics, why they behave the way they do, how confusing it is, and why understanding their foundation of secrets and lies can help depersonalize the attacks, barbs, and ostracizing you if you're pushed out.
Related articles and videos to expand on this episode
YouTube Channel for The Audacious Life & Audacious Mamas
https://www.youtube.com/c/TheAudaciousLifePodcast
Dysfunctional Family Dynamics: Dont Talk, Dont Trust, Dont Feel https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2018/06/dysfunctional-family-dynamics-dont-talk-dont-trust-dont-feel#You-feel-unimportant-and-unworthy
Award-Winning Refresher and Explanation of Gaslighting (superb film!) Your Reality: https://youtu.be/SVCqTcb4qkM
5 Signs it's Time to Cut Yourself Off From Your Toxic Family
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202008/5-signs-its-time-cut-yourself-your-toxic-family
How to Deal with Toxic Family Members and Maintain Your Sanity
https://natashaadamo.com/toxic-family-members/
I hope this helps! Please share with someone who needs it. And thanks for listening!!
Lots of Love!
If you've been feeling disconnected, stuck, or paralyzed, sensing a deep yearning for something more, it may be a desire to find safe people to be with in real life. People who are accepting won't judge you for opening up and sharing what you're going through.
There's a collective desire to be seen and heard and indeed find a point of connection with other human beings.
Included in this episodev
I share some of Lundy Bancroft's books that helped me find the type of more personal support I've been looking for. I think all or any of these are helpful for understanding, validating, and moving on from abuse.
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That The Joyous Recovery Peak Living Network (Lundy Bancroft's Network for co-counseling) I hope you find these resources above helpful and they lead to more support or emotional peace for you. Lots of Love, Steph
Gabby Petito did not have an anger problem. I believe what we saw on video was Reactive Abuse.
I share what Reactive Abuse is and why it can create more problems for the victim and help the abuser look innocent.
I've been creating response videos as podcasts to address what I've seen in comments and the media regarding the Gabby Petito case. Mainly based on people assuming she was off-kilter with mental health problems, whiney, or had anger issues. I believe she was suffering from mental health issues but that they were brought on by living with an abusive partner. And what people witnessed as well what she described in the video was reactive abuse. I believe she was exhausted. She was lashing out pushed to the limit by her boyfriend, Brian--now on the run following her murder.
If you or a friend is in one of these relationships and seeking help or more information on how to handle it please call or visit the Domestic Violence hotline for anonymous support via phone/text or online.
1-800-thehotline or thehotline.org
Watch the video series on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/c/TheAudaciousLifePodcast/
What is Reactive Abuse?
https://yanahelps.com/blog/what-is-reactive-abuse/
Gabby Petito's Obvious Abuse signs were missed. In this video, I share the classic signs of emotional abuse and control associated with narcissistic abuse and all the "professionals" who identified Brian as the victim and dismissed the signs that many of us viewing the police bodycam video saw as obvious classic signs. All of this points to the need for more Abuse Identification Training which could have saved her life.
If you know someone in one of these abusive and controlling relationships, or if you see yourself in Gabby's story, please reach out to the Domestic Violence hotline. You can do so anonymously.
They can listen, offer support, and help you understand the cycle of abuse and how to get help or get out.
https://www.thehotline.org/ or 1-800-THE-HOTLINE
If you want to support Gabby's family and their new foundation to help parents find their missing children, see https://gabbypetitofoundation.org/
Please take care of yourself and remember that it's positive to ask for the help of someone you trust. xoxo!!!
I spoke with Kate Beesley Eaton about her circumstances leaving her narcissistic abusive husband. Kate is a Trauma & Narcissism informed clinical hypnotherapist, Practitioner & Coach. Highly knowledgeable in this area, I wanted to learn how she managed her experience leaving her abuser and how she protected her young daughter.
In this interview
- Kate shares the details of her marriage to an alcoholic husband and how his addictive and controlling ways created an environment of fear.
- How she had to negotiate with her abuser to keep a roof over her head and create a long-term exit strategy
- His police record of crimes and threats worked to give her and her daughter space and time away from him.
- The setbacks on the courts due to lockdown have allowed her more time to heal with little to no contact. And her husband was restricted from seeing her legally while on bail.
- How the lockdown amplified and exposed existing domestic abuse and control.
- The value of inner child work in healing trauma and anxiety
- EMDR Therapy (and Havening)
- Her support programs and how you can connect with her.
Kate's website
https://traumaandanxietybreakthrough.com/
Kate's Havening Technique to recover from Anxiety and Trauma
https://www.havening.org/directory/grid/view/details/14/1045
Kate on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/kate.ndt
Kate on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/katebeesleyeaton/
After my interview with Katrina Sorrentino about leaving a toxic relationship much of what she said struck a cord. One thing that stood out was the need to calm our nervous systems. It's essential and it coincided with multiple lessons and content about this from Somatic Therapists who help heal trauma.
In this short episode, I'm sharing my thoughts before we move on to the next interview about leaving abuse with Kate Heaton. I'm doing this intentionally because attention to our nervous system and a sense of "safety" is what we need to feel okay to explore leaving or even listening to others' stories.
To understand more about this concept I've collected a few podcasts and videos below.
Here's a related episode I recorded for Audacious Mamas
https://www.audaciousmamas.com/relaxation-and-safety-keys-to-success-in/
After recording my episode above, I listened to an interview with Emily Fletcher, meditation expert, and she hits all the points and more. Mainly that you cannot expect to jump from anxiety, overwhelm, and depression to meditation. There's an in-between state of calming your system that's essential.
https://youtu.be/6V1hG5wWr6o
Somatic Therapy - what it is
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-somatic-therapy-5190064 How Stored Trauma Creates Somatic Symptoms
https://youtu.be/vPIDRm6XtYM
I interviewed Katrina Lillian Sorrentino. She shares her story of being sucked into an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship with a man who may be a narcissist, sociopath, or something else. She's not sure, but he was toxic, deceptive, abusive, and controlling.
Her relationship trauma was so intense and extreme that she created a documentary about the experience and is now building an intentional community to support others involved in hidden abuse, the psychological impact, and ways to heal and get help.
Mentioned in this episode * Opening up to life after divorce * Disney princess syndrome warps what's acceptable * Being Vulnerable and in transition and how you can be targeted * Confusion and bliss intermixed with boundary crossing, psychological abuse, and trauma bonding creates a toxic cocktail of addiction to the person and the situation * Connecting with people online who dated or were also targeted by her ex * Being aware online and understanding that hashtags and abuse accounts can have predators * Her documentary as therapy to connect with others and heal * How she's using this experience moving forward in stories for TV/Film and as an activist * The fear that held her back from asking questions that would've blown all of it wide open * Her best friend's findings and how that led to her leaving * Why she went back * How her criteria for "romantic" has changed dramatically * How she's healing and dating now
Check out her documentary Tidal
https://tidaldocumentary.com/
Follow Treena on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/treenaphoto/
Check out Narcinon
https://www.narcinon.org/
Check out Trauma Therapist Shannon Thomas
https://shannonthomas.com/
Shannon's Keep Dreaming Big Project for Abuse Survivors (granting their wishes)
https://healingfromhiddenabuse.com/keep-dreaming-big/
In this solo episode, I share some of my favorite authors, spiritual healers, Doctors, and thought leaders. All of these people have helped me reframe my thoughts and pull myself out of darkness. Pouring positive ideas, thoughts, stories, etc., into our minds via podcasts, audiobooks, videos, and music, is healing, induces hope, and catalyzes a plan to exit situations that deplete, depress, and paralyze us.
The books, podcasts, and people mentioned are here with links. Some of the links to books are affiliate links, and I may earn a little if you decide to purchase. You can find many of these books for free in your public library or via a web search on youTube.
Lee Harris Energy
https://www.leeharrisenergy.com
Energy Speaks Book by Lee Harris
https://amzn.to/2Vtzu8G
Tosha Silver - Change Me Prayers
https://amzn.to/3AetmQF
It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver
https://amzn.to/3Cd2dzo
Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life
https://amzn.to/2VjpiA1
Empowering Women
https://amzn.to/2VjpOxX
Dr. Christiane Northrup - Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empaths Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power
https://amzn.to/3yzgHaQ
Terri Cole - Boundary Boss
https://amzn.to/2Vt2T31
The Terri Cole Show (podcast)
https://amzn.to/3AsW28X
Dr. Bruce Lipton - The Biology of Belief
https://amzn.to/3lyDEXV
Gregg Braden - The Wisdom Codes: Ancient Words to Rewire Our Brains and Heal Our Hearts
https://amzn.to/3iqYwhR
Florence Scovel Shinn - The Game of Live and How to Play It
https://amzn.to/3it6Dul
The Complete Works of Florence Scovel Shinn
https://amzn.to/3yuWPFz
Your Word is Your Wand
https://youtu.be/1Oe3ZJvt5Ck (FREE on Youtube)
The Book of Ho'oponopono: The Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness and Healing
https://amzn.to/3AjsHxB
Thanks for listening! I hope these are helpful to you. xoxo!!
Lots of Love,
I think you probably may know or have heard of the Grey Rock method by now. If so, it's worth listening as I share one character you can channel if you're not quite sure what Grey Rock looks like in practice.
Mainly, it's about holding your power. Staying grounded, calm, neutral, and I think immovable or unimpressed and non-reactive.
One thought to keep in mind is simply this, do NOT take the bait!
The idea is that the toxic and unreasonable person you're dealing with enjoys getting a rise out of you. So don't give energy or reaction to elicit more from them.
Keep conversations short, only share what they "need to know." Don't give any extra information and remain unemotional in your communication. Be intentionally dull.
Here's a longer article from Medical News Today.
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock#why-use-it
Dr. Ramani's YouTube channel - Narcissist Expert
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Qixc77KhCo88E5muxUjmA
Do you use Grey Rock? Does it work for you?
I'd Love to hear about it either way!!
If so, reach out via the The Audacious Life website and let me know via the contact form or by leaving a voice message -- it's the blue microphone icon on the bottom right.
You can also DM me from Instagram @AudaciousLife
I'd love to hear from you and support you!
Please reach out with anything you're struggling with, ideas for what to dive into on the podcast, or experts you'd like to hear from.
Gaslighting is a term that comes up a lot when dealing with personality disorders, i.e., narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths. But truthfully, anyone is capable of this behavior, and it can even pop up as a way to cover up for narcissists and protect their reputation. You may find yourself denying reality to your family or community if you're in one of these relationships.
In this brief definition episode, I cover what it is and offer concrete examples that may appear in toxic and controlling relationships. I've created a handful of shorter episodes with definitions for anyone new to this topic and confused by unfamiliar terms.
gas·light
/ˈɡaslīt/
Learn to pronounce
verb
gerund or present participle: gaslighting
- manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
- "in the first episode, Karen Valentine is being gaslighted by her husband"
(Taken from the Oxford Languages website)
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I interviewed Judy Giovangelo, energy worker, healer, artist, and founder of Ben Speaks, her non-profit raising awareness for highly sensitive kids who are at risk for self-harm and suicide. Judy lost her son Ben to suicide when he was just 18. She and Ben made heroic progress over his 18 years and learned ways for him to cope with all the energy and emotions he absorbed like a sponge. Her mission is to expand on that work, to be a buoy for families and siblings impacted by and managing a mental illness. She works with kids to help them manage their energy and sensitivity to others, equips them with powerful tools to navigate life and relationships in a more grounded peaceful way. Judy also works with parents who’ve experienced loss as a grief counselor. After what we’ve been through this year, struggling to stay mentally healthy, I’m happy to share her wisdom and will do what I can to give this as much exposure as I can. 💛 Please follow Judy Ben Speaks for more information on programs and support for kids and families.
**https://www.benspeaks.org/
https://www.instagram.com/benspeaks/
https://www.facebook.com/ben.speaks Take the Ben Speaks pledge, record and submit
https://www.instagram.com/p/CO3MAMDnhJy/
Judy Giovangelo
https://www.linkedin.com/in/judygiovangelo/
https://www.judygio.com/
https://www.instagram.com/judygiovangelo/**
Mother's Day is a tricky time of the year. We take time time to reflect on our mother-daughter relationships. And it's also a time to celebrate the love of all mothers in the world. This year, Caroline Nadine Helsing can celebrate by knowing her book about her mom came to life. She captured the essence of her mom by writing a memoir, a beautiful tribute to her mother's unapologetic love for glamour and fabulousness in all things.
Many moms I know are deep in grief this time of year because they lost a child, a mother, a mother figure, an unborn child. There's so much attached to this holiday, so I wanted to share your thoughts along with my interview with Caroline.
I asked you to leave a message about motherhood, your mom, what you've learned as a mother, what your mom taught you, and anything you want to throw in about this past year and you did! Thank you!!
I have a handful of lovely mamas who contributed their thoughts, and I'm including them below.
Also, the mic is open on both TheAudaciouslife.com and AudciousMamas.com - it's the little blue mic at the bottom right. If you want to share your thoughts, ideas, or anything you want the world to know about mom life, please do!
Caroline's Book on Amazon:
Unapologetic: Tales of the Original Party Crasher - One daughter's journey of retelling her mother's life through the clues left behind Here's how you can find Caroline and follow the incredible images of her fabulously Unapologetic mama.
Social channels:
Instagram - Caroline_Nadine_Helsing_Author
Facebook - Caroline Nadine Helsing, Author
YouTube - Caroline Nadine Helsing Author
Caroline Nadine Helsing's website
www.CarolineNadineHelsing.com
Featured voice messages from Audacious Mamas
Heidi Wilde - 𝗔 𝗡𝗼-𝗡𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗿, 𝗕𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗠𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗰-𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗿
https://clubhousedb.com/user/heidiwilde
https://www.facebook.com/heidijwilde/
Judy Giovangelo, GRM, CHT - Grief Recovery Method:https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/judy-giovangelo
Ben Speaks (Nonprofit)
http://www.benspeaks.org
Avalyn Gao - @theCuriousMama
https://www.instagram.com/thecuriousmomma
Jocelynn Hubbard - Custom Teaching Solutions
https://customteachingsolutions.com
Whitney Bean - Intuitive Life Coaching
https://www.whitneybean.com
Instagram - @atadbitcrunchy
https://www.instagram.com/atadbitcrunchy/
I hope you had an Amazing day Mama!!
Lots of Love to you!
Steph
We, as women, are a little too good at putting ourselves last. We come to this naturally through family and societal, patriarchal influence.
But we can shift out of it. And we need to!!
Now more so than ever, we're called to pay attention to the inner promptings to save ourselves from burnout, bitterness, severe mental health, and physical issues such as adrenal fatigue, auto-immune, insomnia, anxiety, depression, and suicide.
Taking time to connect to ourselves and our deepest desires, yearnings, needs is essential.
I know, I know, HOW am I going to do that? You're asking.
Start small. The littlest moments add up, and it will and can shift your perspective from dark hopelessness to lightness and a sense of hope.
Give yourself the respect to honor these God-given desires.
Whatever you need is fuel for the soul and quite literally THE thing that can get you through all tough times.
We've faced a collective trauma over this last year, and the impact is being felt profoundly. These intense feelings weigh many of us down, and it's confusing as it's happening as things appear to be opening up. Why are we feeling so dark?
Maybe it's a thirst for MORE.
MORE time for you. MORE peace. MORE space. MORE beauty.
MORE time to sort through what lights you up and makes you feel joy and enthusiasm for life.
Mother's Day is coming up, and we, as mothers and caregivers we have had to bear the weight of a nation. We carried the work of home, school, work work, and it was expected often without being acknowledged just how critical this role was and is.
Give yourself a MASSIVE pat on the back for surviving.
Give yourself a HUG for getting through so much chaos and non-stop upheaval.
Give yourself some REST.
I had a 2017 crash and burn. I revisited that time with fresh eyes and shared here what I learned about self-care, time alone, breaking away to get a change of scenery, and shift my energy.
I'm so proud of all the women I know who've been through hell and back and are still standing. That's you, sister!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers for a significant turnaround and blessings to be showered upon you. :-)
All my Love,
Parenting during the pandemic has been a challenge far beyond mask-wearing, sanitizing, or concern over COVID-19. Being in lockdown and isolated with schools mostly shut down or running at half the usual staff and kids has shifted our worlds completely. Women left the workforce in droves, 2.3 Million of us: an all-time low, the lowest since 1988.
"Children involved in the research cited family tensions and financial concerns as well as feeling isolated from friends and fear about the virus for causing their distress." BBC News
Parents are struggling with tight finances, high stress, and a bunch of moody kids who haven't been able to socialize, move around on their own, play sports, or any activities that gave them joy.
Add to the long days stuck in front of a computer expected to do work and hang out on zoom, and you've got a recipe for a significant mental health issue.
According to parentguidance.org, 50% of parents worry that their child is struggling, but they don't know what to do. And 32% feel their child is unhappy.
On top of this is the parental mental health impacting the way families are managing children's issues. According to Harvard Business Review, nearly 42% of employees report a decline in mental health since the pandemic began. So of those parents still working, nearly half say their mental health is slipping.
Pandemic has made abuse 'invisible' For some children, the pandemic has had dire consequences with the numbers being harmed and abused on the rise.
Between April and September, there were 285 reports by councils of child deaths and incidents of serious harm, which includes child sexual exploitation. This was a rise of more than a quarter in the same period the year before.
He believes this is misguided and instead growing up in a world where even "playing with your friends is illegal" threatens to cause long-lasting damage to many. "I don't think it is an exaggeration to say children and their families have been abandoned." [The BBC: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-5586384]
What can we do to help ourselves and our kids? Here are a few resources to get you started. Mental Health of Kids in Lockdown
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IaQOD9UxxW4
Top 10 Best Mental Health Apps for Kids
https://www.educationalappstore.com/best-apps/5-best-mental-health-and-wellbeing-apps-for-kids
Parent Guidance -- FREE courses online
https://parentguidance.org/
6 Skills All Trauma Mamas Need to Know
https://bloomforwomen.com/course/6-skills-all-trauma-mamas-need/
Emma Ferrick embodies all things this podcast stands for. She's a young mother who survived a dangerous domestic violence relationship and found the support and internal strength to reach for a better life when many in her condition would be paralyzed by fear. Her reality was a catalyst for extreme growth and pursuit of career goals that liberated her from her day job, allowing her to be with her daughter while growing her business.
What gave her the edge and helped her push through this extreme situation. Emma shares her story here.
What stands out for her success surviving this situation and thriving as a mompreneur.
- Emma had an aunt who experienced abuse with a partner, so she understood what it was. Emma had a family member who "got it" and could lend emotional support and perspective. Often all it takes is ONE person who understands to help us get through and come out the other side with hope. Find that one person!
- She allowed her abuser's mother to see her physical condition after she was attacked.
- She documented everything and continued to record details while her case was in court and beyond.
- She did the math. So many women are afraid to look at the numbers and see where their income falls short. When you look at the numbers and face them head-on, you can make a plan to close the gap financially and get ahead.
- She decided to start a side hustle to earn more income and break free from her 9-5 job.
- She invested in herself and hired a coach to overcome the fear related to her abuse and any blocks holding her back from success.
- She found a supportive and loving partner. Her partner encouraged her to start her business and was her cheerleader and mentor.
- She's not afraid of her story. The more she shares it on podcasts and makes it a part of her business platform, the less fear she has. She's owning her story and setting herself FREE.
- Check out Emma's business: Elf Operations
- Follow Emma on IG: @Elf_operations
The episode with the attorney who has a course on how to defend yourself in court, should you need to do so.
>> How to Divorce a Narcissist
One tip: consider a family court lawyer of the day or public defender who understands domestic violence and all the nuances of dealing with a narcissist or personality disordered abuser.
Business templates for contracts when you start your business-- we mentioned this in the interview, and I couldn't remember Karen Taggert. Her episode, links, and details are here.
>> Covering Your Butt Legally the Easy Way
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We've never before been in a time like this. Life is a giant rollercoaster, and events are intense and changing rapidly. The mental and emotional toll of all of it has put us in a place we've never experienced before.
Never before have I seen the need to be hyper-aware of my mindset, energy, consciousness. And when I fail to stay conscious, I slip into a dark place. I'm emerging from a dark place with optimism sharing my thoughts on why all of us need to be aware of our energy and consciousness. I'll be spending more time covering this on the podcast.
Also, my thoughts supporting women and moms focused on expanding our economic freedom via entrepreneurial pursuits.
So if you have a side hustle in mind or are keen to build, start, or grow your business, stay tuned. I have some fantastic interviews set up with women who offer value in getting your business set up and structured correctly for efficiency, simplicity, and the least amount of effort. Simplify, simplify!! That's my new motto and how we can work together, collaborate, and support other women to get ahead together as a community.
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In September of 2020, a reported 865K women left the workforce in the US. Many of these women are caregivers and moms who felt they had no choice but to step away from work to keep their children's education on track and keep their family intact. In this episode, I share some stats, helpful resources I've found for you to gain support, learn skills, and gain hope for starting over with the flexibility to care for yourself and your family.
The pressure on parents is off the charts right now, but the burden on women is far more significant as we fill the role of primary caregiver and often earn less than our male partners. America was not, is not, prepared to support working parents. We cannot send our children to school for a full day, and many child care centers have reduced service or shut down completely. And given the pandemic's precautions, it's that much more difficult and expensive to hire a qualified, healthy caregiver, babysitter, or nanny to support us at home.
Resources for women and moms searching for support ways to find flexible work Four Times More Women Than Men Dropped Out of the Labor Force in September The Mom Project - support for finding family-friendly jobs
https://themomproject.com
The Mom Project's white paper on what women want and need at work
The Mom Project's UNITY Hour - webinar to support moms with topics from professionals who've navigated career changes and growth as mothers.
The Mom Project's RISE - no-cost scholarship for women of color to gain skills and job placement in as little as 3 months
The Mom Project's Resume Rev - build your new resume online with their helpful tool (FREE)
The UNITY Program - FREE coaching - for those impacted by COVID job loss, furloughs, etc.
WerkLabs The Future of Work - reports and details on what employees want from work and their employers
https://werklabs.com/
SKILLS AND ONLINE COURSES General Assembly FREE Fridays - A collection of FREE 2-hour webinars to uplevel your digital and marketing skills and spark up a new career path
https://generalassemb.ly/
SAS for Women - divorce support, coaching, free articles, classes for greater perspective, sisterhood, and empowerment
https://sasforwomen.com/
ADDA - Attention Deficit Disorder Association - structure is gone, distractions are high. Whether you have kids with ADD, have it yourself, or feel distracted and unable to cope, this is a fantastic resource for creating some perspective and learning strategies that foster sanity and productivity. ADDA is giving access to their courses for free at this time. However, memberships are $50/year and it's been 1000% worth it for me.
https://add.org/
Parenting Complex Kids in Complex times - (a course) with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster There are some tried and true techniques and strategies that will help you support yourself and your family, whether you're in quarantine, navigating hybrid work and school, or figuring out how to start living "normally "in uncertain times. Learn some tricks to empower your kids (and even yourself) to make increasingly more confident decisions — not just in the weeks and months ahead, but for the long term.
PEP Parenting - support for families through education and enrichment. PEP offers support in the way of low priced courses and live webinars ($25) on specific parenting topics, many related to COVID, .
http://pepparent.org/
PEP's COVID related parenting courses
https://pepparentonline.org/courses/category/Coronavirus
Ghost.org - for simple websites that don't involve the headache of WordPress and plug-ins. Ghost sites load FAST, look beautiful, and are easy to modify. Working with Ghost is similar to writing for Medium.com. I'll have a tutorial soon showing you how to build your website or blog quickly. Note: I loved it so much I became an affiliate, so I will earn a few dollars if you decide to use it after the FREE trial period.
MINDSET AND SHIFTING YOUR PERSPECTIVE WHILE YOU SLEEP
If you're too exhausted and don't have time during the day to work on building hope, listening to 8-hour long affirmations while you sleep can work wonders. Kind of feels like magic! And I LOVE this woman's voice. :-)
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Get Into The Receiving Mode REPROGRAM WHILE YOU SLEEP. I Am Positive Affirmations Blessed
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Artists & Entrepreneurs Reprogram Your Mind & Ehhance INSPIRATION & INTUITION While You Sleep. FLOW
Brief meditation to Remove ALL GUILT (4:52)
Karmic Debt and Instant Karma With all that's swirling in the world around us, it's easy to wonder how people can get away with evil and horrible things and come out seemingly smelling like a rose. Or at the least retaining their position, their wealth, etc. with seemingly little impact.
If Karma exists, why is it that some get away with these things, yet you cut the line in the grocery store and instantly feel the impact of your actions?
I've been wondering about this too!
Today I share what I discovered while researching angel numbers and Karma.
Covered in this episode - Karma
- Angel numbers
- Karmic debt
- Akashic records
- Instant Karma
- Your highest self
- Stepping away to ground before reacting
- Setting intentions
- Segment intending
- Pulling it all together to leverage instant Karma for your benefit
Some of this may be esoteric but keep an open mind and humor me while you consider some of these ideas. They can be incredibly helpful if you're stuck in a negative cycle of feeling like life is hopeless and nothing matters.
If this was valuable to you, I'd love it if you subscribed and leave a review. This helps others see this content as valuable and worth listening to. And makes me so happy about sharing more content with you!! :-)
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This episode is a reintroduction to my YouTube channel, The Audacious Life Podcast, and a discussion about the the impact of COVID isolation has seen Domestic Abuse SOARING behind closed doors.
I share how awareness around abuse is increasing and how I plan to use my channel to move forward and help women start over and thrive.
This episode is also a plea for those who have someone in your life you suspect is suffering behind closed doors; please be the person who believes them and supports them even if just by listening and understanding. Your simple validation goes a long way!!!
**If you or someone you care about needs anonymous support via phone or text, check out the National Domestic Violence Hotline, aka The HOTLINE at https://www.thehotline.org/
Please watch, subscribe, and hit the bell for notifications on YouTube - I'l be looking for your comments and feedback. :-)
https://youtu.be/LVX16YNCjjg**
If you want to support women internationally and see what Charlize Theron's organization is doing to help women and reduce gender-based violence during COVID, see Together for Her - https://www.care.org/togetherforher
Get the 11 Audio Affirmations to Help You Recover From Abuse http://bit.ly/affirm11
Hello!
Just a brief check in to say hello, check in about Lee Harris' session last night and catch you up on what's happening behind the scenes with The Audacious Life.
Many of us caught Lee Harris's "How to Recover from a Narcissist" session last night. It didn't disappoint.
If you're curious about Lee, go check out his website.
https://www.leeharrisenergy.com
Here's the survey I mentioned. I'm collecting your thoughts about creating a private online community.
You can access the survey here:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/C7WKGFW
Sending Love to you and wishes for healing and peace on all fronts.
Have an amazing day!
Steph
A few weeks ago, I was struck by an SUV while cycling. Ouch! After 33 years of riding my bike on the road, this was my first accident. But...I'm Alive. What happened that day was a wake-up call and an epiphany.
Apart from being lucky for having survived that scary as hell situation, I thought I'd share my thoughts about how it impacted me on a visceral level. It made me rethink the past year and where I am on my growth journey. And the epiphany I had made me think of you and want to share my thoughts with you as you consider your growth and healing.
I hope there's a nugget or two here to consider in terms of triggers, boundaries, and not allowing anyone to chip away at your self-esteem routinely regardless of their position.
As mentioned in this episode, I'm putting together an online community and would love your feedback. If you have a moment to weigh in on the survey, please do! I appreciate your insights.
Freedom to thrive at home survey
Thank you for listening. Please share if you think there's something here that will benefit someone you care about.
Lots of Love to you!
Steph
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An empath is someone who's highly sensitive and picks up on the energy of others. Many say they can "feel others pain." It's not an exaggeration, and if this is you, you may not have heard the term before, but you'll know right away if it fits.
You may be the person who dreads parties and crowds because they can make you feel heavy, sick, and possibly like you're taking on other people's problems.
You like people, but you prefer the company of those you know well, and you can gauge and predict what your time spent with them.
With all of the above being true, you're also more susceptible to negatively respond to what's in the airwaves, the news, and your surroundings. You're a barometer of sorts and able to read a room, people's moods, etc. You detect these things on a visceral level and feel them deeply.
Sometimes you need to get away, find some solo time, a distraction to take you away from all those feelings of looming anxiety. Maybe you do yoga, write in your journal, go for a walk, spend time with pets, get lost in an art project, go for a long run or bike. Everyone is different.
This episode is about some basics that will allow you to stay grounded, help with the intensity of loved ones or children. Some of this may be new to you, some of it may sound familiar or even common sense. But as an empath who's struggled with anxiety and depression, early on in life I recall saying, "It's like I have magnets in my pockets for troubled people." And it took me until my 40's to truly understand how my wiring impacted my energy and outlook.
I hope there's something in this episode that's helpful to where you are at the moment. There's much more to this topic. We could expand exponentially.
The main thing is that YOU must take care of YOUR ENERGY and everything will begin to feel better for you. And that's what we want! :-) xoxo
Sending lots of Love and light to you!!
Steph
p.s. If this has been helpful please share with someone who needs this too. And feel free to reach out to me let me know what else has helped you.
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All of us have been through so much these last few months with quarantine life, protests, racial inequality, and all the powerful feelings behind centuries of injustice coming to the fore. Some of us can urge you to "be positive" or "adopt a positive mindset" but I know it's not that simple.
When things have been truly challenging in my life those phrases have felt feel empty or even triggering more self-criticism.
Maybe you've had some of the following thoughts.
"Why can't I just be positive?"
"How come my mind always goes back to all the possible the negative outcomes??"
"I've been saying these positive affirmations for weeks but I just don't believe them!!"
"I suck at this. Eff those spirit junkies, they can choke on their positivity!!"
I get it.
And I know many of you are in that space where it feels dark, borderline hopeless, and all this positive talk is like putting lipstick on a pig.
So, with that in mind, I'm sharing the concept of Neutral Thinking.
In this episode, I share what it means and a bit about Trevor Moawad, Mental Conditioning expert, and top coach to pro elite athletes. In 2017 Trevor was named the “Sports World's Best Brain Trainer” by Sports Illustrated.
This guy knows what he's talking about. He's done the research, the experimentation, and has solid examples of why this works.
I recently read Trevor's new book "It Takes What It Takes" and I'm reviewing his book along with two amazing interviews you'll appreciate from the Ed Mylett Show and Impact Theory - both on YouTube.
BIGGEST TAKEAWAYS
#1- NEGATIVE thoughts are 4-7Xs more powerful than positive thoughts.
#2- NEGATIVE thoughts SPOKEN are 40-70Xs more powerful and more likely to come to fruition.
#3- Simply AVOIDING voicing or speaking negatively can do you a world of good even if you're not speaking positively.
Let me restate that last one.
Simply AVOIDING voicing or speaking negatively can do you a world of good even if you're NOT speaking positively.
Mic drop.
This is a short episode. So you'll consider this without me droning on and maybe you'll be inspired to adopt this strategy or get his book to learn more.
Either way, I hope you find something helpful here. This concept has truly helped me stay out of the mental muck.
Enjoy!
Steph
p.s. Send me your thoughts at steph@stephaniroberts.com
Interviews mentioned in this episode The Ed Mylett Show - How to STOP Negative Thoughts & Win! | with Trevor Moawad
Mindset Expert Shows You How to Control Your Negative Thoughts | Trevor Moawad on Impact Theory
Here's the clip representing a HUGE example of negative spoken words come to pass.
Bill Buckner’s 1986 World Series error - the ball rolls between his legs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18caPNisP2U
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Thank you! xo Steph
I started out this podcast all about Narcissists. So why the heck don't I talk about them anymore?
I explain why YOU are far more important to focus on than any narcissist in your life and encourage you to do a bunch of things that will help you.
- Feel more confident
- Love yourself even on your worst day
- Make a practice of living in gratitude
- Create solid boundaries to keep the wolf out and allow legit heart-centered people in
- Focus on your Audacious dreams to create an Audacious Life
- Most importantly. Give zero f*cks what anyone thinks of you
What are you struggling with right now?
Reach out to me at steph@stephaniroberts.com
Check out the new channel community tab on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/c/TheAudaciousLifePodcast
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Man, we've been through a ton these last few months. I know it's been intense, hard to predict what's next, and challenging to stay positive even for those who are generally pretty upbeat.
The quarantine, work from home, homeschooling, mask-wearing, and social distancing, along with the racism we're working through as a nation has impacted me for sure.
So I'm sharing what's been going on in my world and what I plan to do with the podcast and other aspects of my life as a result of the impact of COVID and all that's come along with it.
And I'm checking in to see how you're doing too. I'd love to hear from you!
As I mentioned in this episode, I'll be using my YouTube channel's community tab to check in more regularly via short stories, posts, curating videos related to healing and dealing, all things related to personal growth, mindset, and starting and growing your personal brand and business online.
Check it out and subscribe here so we can be in touch. Please leave me comments, I will respond, YouTube is my #1 place to hang out and be social. :-)
My youTube channel is here and I would love it if you subscribed and hit the bell to get notifications for when I go live or publish new content. https://www.youtube.com/c/TheAudaciousLifePodcast
Black Lives Matter and George Floyd was a human treated like an animal.
The site identifies what 8 things that can be done to help your city's police department to be safe and decrease violence by 72%.
If this resonates and you're interested in making a difference with racism and unnecessary police brutality check out https://8cantwait.org/
I intentionally avoid local news coverage and do my best to have a lighter diet of news each day. Sothis NY Times mini-documentary, 8 Minutes and 47 Seconds is about what happened to George Floyd. It's well-produced and gave me a much better sense of exactly what happened and why the 8 Can't Wait site is so important.
Will it end racism? No.
But it will make a tangible difference in the lives of all citizens but especially the most vulnerable, people of color. Please watch.
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/31/us/george-floyd-investigation.html
Stay healthy, take care of yourself first, mind and spirit.
Act with Love as your guide and all will be well.
Thank you!!
I appreciate you as a listener and I'm sending healthy thoughts and prayers your way. I hope to connect with you soon.
Be well,
Steph
Self-mastery during the Corona Virus and Social Distancing. How to find ways to thrive during times of isolation and disconnection. How to take advantage of going inward and finding what lights a spark and gives you hope for a better tomorrow.
Last week was Mental Health Awareness week. We may think we know what someone who's suffering looks like. Do you? Maybe you have the image of someone unbathed with their head down, choosing not to join in at public gatherings. But it's not that simple.
In this episode, we have DeAnn Wandler-Vukovich a USMC veteran, with an accomplished career in higher education, including multiple wellness certifications. She's the picture of health and success but also a survivor of multiple suicide attempts who is now a suicide prevention advocate, speaker, and coach.
DeAnn shares her story. What led her to consider suicide and eventually follow through and attempt to take her life?
How do we help if we suspect someone we love is on a slippery path or if we're not sure we can go on?
Mentioned in this episode
NAMI.org - National Association of Mental Health
https://nami.org -
get support and understanding; it's okay not to feel okay
The Suicide Prevention Hotline
Call 1-800-273-8255
The Suicide Prevention Hotline
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
DeAnn's website
https://deannwandler.com/
Thank you for listening to this important episode. I think the struggle to be okay is real, and it's not something most people want to talk about openly. So if you need a sympathetic ear, please do call the hotline for NAMI.org or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to connect with another human being who will listen.
Sometimes we struggle, and there's no one there.
We may have lots of "friends" on social media, but when it comes right down to it often, there's no one to turn to and feel safe sharing scary thoughts. This is why it makes sense to reach out anonymously to get support without judgment. Whatever feels right for you and will give you comfort to inch you toward a better place! xoxo
Please know above all else that I made this episode because I have TRULY BEEN THERE. And quite a few times. The struggle is REAL, and it's no joke. If you want to reach out to me, I'm not the fastest responder given my current circumstances with a new job and restrictions, but I will do my best to get back to you as soon as I can.
The best ways to reach me are stephanir@gmail.com and @audaciouslife on Instagram.
Lots and lots of Love to you!! Please know and remember, I hold you in my thoughts and prayers daily. xoxo!!!
Love,
Steph
In this episode, I interview Jonathan Masiulionis of Empowered Media. Jonathan is a Publicist for heart-centered children's book authors, spiritual authors, and change-makers. He has a heart for children and a deep mission that fuels him spiritually.
Listen as Jonathan encourages all of us to share our stories to heal ourselves and others. Maybe you've been through a lot and have learned a ton in the spin cycle of life, and now you're considering sharing your story to help others to get through life's difficulties. But you're not sure it makes sense to share or you're scared and don't know where to begin.
Check out this episode for encouragement and clarity!
Your story MATTERS. People can heal from hearing what YOU have to offer. So think about about it and tune in to hear more.
Mentioned in this episode Empowered Publicity
https://empoweredpublicity.com/
Empowered Publicity on Facebook - the Children's Author Spotlight and the Spiritual Author Spotlight
https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredPublicity/
Empowered Publicity on Twitter
https://twitter.com/Empowered_PR
Follow Jonathan and see what's happening with Empowered Publicity on Instagram!
https://www.instagram.com/jonathanmasiulionis/
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Lots of Love to you for listening!
Steph
Does a Chaotic Childhood Result in a Chaotic Unsuccessful Adult Life?
It's a great question. I'm sure most of us would respond with a resounding, "Yes!"
It's refreshing when we find evidence against this assumption.
Enter Author and successful executive Hope Mueller. Hope shares her early experience of mostly raising herself as a child in a free wheeling commune where sexual freedom, drugs, and no real sense of limitation or structure were to be found.
Hope's story is shared through her new book, "Hopey: from Commune to corner office." Here you'll understand how she made the leap from chaos into the structure of a corporate business environment. She's a mom of four in a healthy marriage and seems happy and well adjusted.
If you're feeling like you can only control so many aspects of your life or the lives of your children and sometimes this realization is sobering if not a bit depressing, you need to hear this interview.
What if those same out of control things are exactly what will create resilience and a unique perspective, perhaps even a drive to achieve or create a life vastly different the one they were raised in?
Mentioned in this episode... "Hopey" the book can be ordered here:
https://www.hopey.net
View Hope's family photo album
https://www.hopey.net/family-album
Welcome to Season 4 of the Audacious Life Podcast!
I hope you're well! I'm happy to be back with this short episode to update you on the summer break, what's been happening, and the direction I'm taking the podcast.
The title of this episode is "Pause. Rest Before You Start Again." I chose this title because I see in myself and so many of the women in my life and work that we don't excuse ourselves to take a break from something when we're overwhelmed, feeling blue, under-the-weather, or simply burned out from all the plates we have spinning.
I took a much-needed break from my two podcasts in August. It was not planned but it gave me room to breathe, focus on what needed my attention, and allowed me space to reconsider how I've been approaching my podcasts. The good the bad and the ugly. In spite of letting down listeners, I'm happy I did it. I needed the clarity it brought and the time to take care of some challenges.
In short, here's what I learned. No one is going to grant you permission to hop off the hamster wheel of life. And that's good news, it means you created it, you're in charge and you get to find the things that you can intentionally pause so you can regroup when necessary.
Maybe it's not your work or the things you do around the house. Maybe it's the extra stuff that used to fill you up but now seems like drudgery or work. If you used to garden because it was fun and made you happy but now you're helping out with the town's flower beds and it's become too much. STOP. PAUSE. RETHINK.
If it's optional and it's no longer bringing you joy maybe it's time to reflect on where best to spend your time. It doesn't mean you have to quit but maybe there's a less time-consuming approach you can take so it feels good again.
In this episode, I announce one big decision I made about my podcasts. I'm optimistic and excited about it. I don't think I would've arrived at this decision without the time off.
I'd love to hear about you. Have you taken an intentional break from something in your life to rest, gain clarity, and move forward? How did it work out for you?
Shoot me your story stephanir@gmail.com - I'd love to hear from you!
Have a great day!
Steph
Power of Forgiveness - Releasing Dark Energy to Heal Releasing negative thoughts, anger, and bitterness to heal faster I was compelled to share this message today ahead of the interviews I have scheduled. It was a powerful tap on the shoulder from God, the Universe, higher power, whatever name you have for that force. It began by listening to a video on youTube.
I dropped everything to share this one because I believe it's the key to moving forward and breaking cycles of dysfunction and abuse.
It's far too easy to stay in rumination mode trying to make sense of why things are the way they are or why they have unfolded as they have. But when we do this we're keeping ourselves stuck in the same gear, the same wavelength, planted there feeding the negative energy, and it's like waving a flag asking for more of the same. No bueno!!
If we want to move out of this negative space and free ourselves from the muck, we can release the anger, the bitterness, and all sense of victim thinking and trade it for more positive thoughts that are on the other side of the spectrum.
Focus on allowing forgiveness and gratitude to well up. Search for things to be grateful for, things of any size. Start super small if it's easier. A smile from a stranger, a positive interaction with customer service that could've been difficult.
All these tiny choices to focus on and recognized the positive add up to fuel our hope, faith, and optimism and result in more Love, joy, and bring us out of a dark place and into light.
Mentioned in this episode...
See the original video by Aluna Ash that inspired this episode. It might be a little much for some of you. If it's too odd, or doesn't resonate, you can just skip it. But it's an excellent explanation about karmic entanglements, how to get out by using opposing forces. So if you're open to it, please do listen. You may have to hear it multiple times from the starting point of 12:10 until 21:00 - after that may be confusing.
Aluna Ash on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbF_yaDa_KM&feature=youtu.be&t=12m10s
(go to 12:10 until 21:00)
An affirmation to repeat and lock into this oppositional mindset:
(God) Help me to release this anger and dissolve it with Love and forgiveness so we can all heal.
Sending Love and Support your way! Steph xoxo!! :-) Reach me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/audaciouslife/ Reach me by email: stephanir@gmail.com
Happy Independence Weekend!!
This solo episode is about independence, independent thoughts, and leaving behind or minimizing the things, circumstances, and people that don’t serve to move you forward.
And, liberating ourselves from recurring thoughts, stories, and messages that keep us SMALL or stuck.
It takes work, but it’s work with a massive pay off to do this deliberately. You may not see and feel it immediately, but good DOES show up when we MAKE ROOM for it.
Reach out to me, let me know what you’re working on or what’s worked for you. I'm @audaciouslife on Instagram.
I’m cheering for you and for all of us to liberate ourselves from all of the above.
You can’t see me, but trust that I’m here in prayer and meditation, including YOU in that better place.
Do something FUN to get your happy on today! You deserve it!!
Heading to a family cookout sans kiddos and plan to enjoy my free time.
Wishing you an AMAZING day!!! Viva la Independence!
Happy Independence Weekend!!
Mentioned and inspired by these people and videos...check them out!
Neville Goddard's Self Talk Power
https://youtu.be/-Pc6JSsbW4U
Neville Goddard - Strong Imagination
https://youtu.be/n32mAQ6rppE
Ed Mylett - How to Face Bullying Head On (I love this man!)
https://youtu.be/7habCVZeXkM
Ed Mylett has a great story and a heart of gold, so please push play and look beyond his initial appearance or delivery.
Dr. Bruce Lipton - How to Program Your Mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsA91lxuF00
Share a screenshot and tag me if you listened
https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife/.
Message me to let me know if this resonates or was helpful in some way.
Have a great day! :-)
Steph
I'm happy to share this interview with Amy Goober as she represents two massive opportunities for us as women. First, the opportunity to take back our health second, the opportunity to add a stream of revenue to our lives assuming this resonates and seems like the role you'd like to play in helping others attain better health and well-being.
As a Certified Health Coach, Amy supports and guides clients to achieve a healthy weight and develop long term strategies for keeping the weight off and achieving optimal health. She works with women and men of all ages to develop and implement a plan so that they can have the life they always dreamed of!
She also mentors new coaches who want to support our mission to get America healthy. She trains and supports coaches from all walks of life who are interested in supplementing their current incomes or are looking for a new career helping people lose weight while improving their quality of life. We always welcome like-minded people to our enthusiastic and innovative team.
Contact Amy:
Amy Goober
ragoob@comcast.net
https://www.facebook.com/amy.goober
781-910-4962
Did you know we have a YouTube channel?
We'll be going live on YouTube periodically with fun guests! This is a great way for us to connect.
Check it out and subscribe!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQbQkIcRVBRQAzPfb9IaPgA
Donna is a bright light and shows us that there are many lives and chapters to be lived after leaving an abusive situation. As she shares in this episode, Donna has made her way out the other side of multiple abusive relationships always with more resilience, a fresh perspective, and never allowing herself to settle into a "less than" or undeserving mindset.
Her life serves as an example of what's possible for all of us if we keep dreaming and fall into the stuck zone spending too much time around people who pull us down. After 40 years of writing and storytelling, Donna's first published book, With The Courage Of A Mouse, is out and enjoying positive acclaim. She did it and there will be more books to come.
As the youngest child in a large family, Donna felt lost in the crowd. She entertained herself by making up stories and friends to play with. By age 5, Donna had taught herself to read, and that began her imaginative journey to dreamy castles with princes and fairy godmothers. Donna is a grandmother, random fact-finder, and encourager. And yes, she believes she's a superhero. She resides in California with her family and four cats.
Key points in this episode: * Everyone has it within them to find their superpower. * Bravery vs. Courage. What's the difference and how Donna's perspective on this relates to the title of her book. * Do not compare yourself to other people. Do not discount the fact that you made an effort to move forward today. Your consistent effort daily is something to celebrate in itself.
Mother's Day thoughts...
Donna mentions celebrating single mothers and acknowledging difficult circumstances that are very real and how single moms are sacrificing for their children.
Mentioned in this episode.... Donna's Website
https://www.donnasagercowan.com
Donna does school/author visits
https://donnasagercowan.com/school%2Fauthor-visits
With The Courage Of A Mouse (on Amazon)
https://amzn.to/2HugOfD
Donna’s official website and social channels
Website: www.DonnaSagerCowan.com
Facebook: @DonnaSagerCowanAuthor
Instagram: @Catt.TheCat
Twitter: @DonnaSagerCowa1
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Melissa Mueller-Douglas, LMSW is the founder and facilitator of MYRetreat: The 90 Minute Women's Retreat to reconnect with your purpose in life by embracing your authentic self. Melissa strives for a lifestyle balanced in good nutrition, meaningful connections, and creativity.
Melissa completely understands how hard it can be to focus on yourself when kids, work, and your to-do list don’t make it easy to prioritize self-care. However, she believes in the power of mindfulness and gratitude to nurture our authentic selves,
and strengthen our bonds with those we love. That’s why she designed Self-Care for Mama Bear, to walk alongside you as we set our intention to live a life of purpose and pleasure.
To take part in MYRetreat’s virtual experience, visit myretreat.teachable.com.
Mentioned in this episode...
Melissa's Links
https://www.rocmyretreat.com/
https://myretreat.teachable.com/
Pepperlane Support and Networking Community for mompreneurs
http://pepperlane.co
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After a virtual pre-interview meeting with Rnold and Michelle, partners and founders of The Connection App. I knew I wanted to work with them and latch onto their Connection movement. I've struggled with disconnection and isolation myself and I see so many people around me in the same boat. And since May is mental health awareness month it makes sense to tackle this topic in a positive way to bolster ourselves and find ways to avert depression and isolation that at the most serious end can lead to suicide.
Michelle Falcone is not only a very successful business
woman and Mother, but she is also a Divine Feminine
Leader! She believes in the potential of every human being
and is committed to helping those she works with to obtain a
a life full of passion and peace.
Michelle comes from very humble beginnings and her
journey in life has provided her with a beautiful gift of helping
others transform their own life. Michelle’s transformational
work with various budding artists in the music industry
resulted in the launching of several successful careers.
Michelle is also an accomplished businesswoman in the
event planning and restaurant industries. This includes
the creation of Falconetti’s East Side Grill on Vancouver’s
Commercial Drive, made famous through Guy Fierie’s,
Divers, Drive-ins and Dives.
As a Certified Integrative Life and Business Coach, she’s
expertly trained in the areas of self-awareness, relationships
and shadow work. As a successful entrepreneur, she has
extensive practical experience in empowering people to
maximize their sphere of influence and live authentically.
Rnold is a speaker, consultant, writer and entrepreneur
who has specialized in business growth and culture
transformation. He has over 20 years of experience in
sales, marketing, and business leadership and has an
understanding of many different industries. His TEDx talk is
called “Unlocking Unpredictable Results”.
At the age of 9, Rnold lost his father to suicide which
started him on a lifelong quest to find a solution to despair,
dissatisfaction and distress. As the President and CEO
of The Habit Factory Inc., he is realizing that dream by
developing products that help people form habits that lead
to deeper satisfaction, fulfillment, and happiness and also
accomplish their goals faster and easier.
He is a passionate developer of communities and is
currently President of the Board for the New Westminster
Chamber of Commerce and the past president for the
McBride Sapperton Residents Association. He thinks
Ultimate Frisbee is a great game and he plays regularly.
Resources from this episode...
The connection app can be found at Google Play or the App Store.
The Connection App
https://theconnectionapp.com/
The Connection App for Couples
https://theconnectionapp.com/app.html
Like Rnold and Michelle, do you have an important message to share?
Are you interested in putting yourself out there and reaching a wider audience? Podcasting can do that.
If you're interested in AMPLIFYING your message let's chat!
Set up a complimentary call with me here...
http://bit.ly/AmplifyChat
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FREEBIE -> How to Pitch Podcasts
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I'm so proud of this interview with Leah Carey, Host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. She's an incredibly articulate and sensitive interviewer who gives women the opportunity to share their intimate thoughts and experiences related to sex. Her show is a guilty pleasure and a window into women's minds and sexual behavior.
We discuss coming of age in an emotionally abusive relationship and how that impacted Carey's perspective on sex, her sexual choices, and shut her down from the experience of pleasure and voicing her desires. On the upside she's made this her career now and is sex positive - emphasizing communication for partners so everyone expresses their needs, has them met, and enjoys sex - that's the goal anyway.
Mentioned in this episode...
LeahCarey.com
Good Girls Talk About Sex
https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/good-girls-talk-about-sex
Leah on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/iamleahcarey/
Leah on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/leahcarey1
Leah on YouTube
The loss of a loved one may be one of the hardest challenges that many of us face.
When we lose a spouse, sibling, parent, or friend, our grief can be particularly intense, with emotions ranging from sadness to anger to even feeling depressed.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there is a way to aid one's healing by shifting the way you look at grief and loss, to help you honor the memory of your loved one, find new meaning, and also move on with your life.
Misty Thompson’s passion is to guide those who need support with their daily struggles. Misty uses her life experiences, her intuition, and the assistance of her spiritual team to guide her clients to the life that they will begin to believe and know is gratifying, instead of overwhelming.
Misty’s journey began in 1993 when the situation surrounding her sister’s death woke Misty up to her spiritual gifts. She began to realize that she was empathic as she was able to take on the emotions of others and able to connect to those who have transitioned. Misty chose to suppress those gifts until 2014 when connection to her spiritual team began to emerge.
- Healing on a spiritual level
- Being validated on the person you now are with the love and support to grow
- Healing your grief
- Finding clarity towards your life purpose
- Opening your perspective to see the possibilities
Misty opened her business, Mystified Enlightenment, in February 2016 and has helped numerous people with the same concerns many of you are experiencing. Life on this earth is truly short, and it is time that you follow your inner guidance, along with your spiritual team, to be your true self and enjoy who you are meant to be. Misty would love to help you on your journey.
Misty is married, has four children, and four grandchildren and lives in Thatcher, Arizona.
Misty's Links...
www.mistymthompson.com
Misty's Book: From Grief to Enlightenment
https://mistymthompson.com/product/from-grief-to-acceptance-an-active-process-for-healing-while-honoring-our-loved-ones/
contact@mistymthompson.com
www.facebook.com/MystifiedEnlightenment
www.instagram.com/misty_m_thompson
www.twitter.com/MistyMEMC
www.pinterest.com/mistymthompson
www.amazon.com/author/mistyproffit-thompson
I've decided not to let perfection stop me from recording and sharing episodes. So this one starts with a brisk walk where I'm sharing my awareness of how Karma is working in my life to teach me what I need to learn. And I'm seeing patterns that are so clear it's a bit shocking.
If the walking and talking drives you nuts, just listen to the last 17 minutes where I'm inside sharing the 12 laws of Karma - yeah, there are 12! I did NOT know this when I started recording but I share each of the 12 laws and how they've impacted my life. It's all my own spin, so feel free to hit me up with an email or message if you think I'm off. I'm totally okay with that.
Have you experienced Karmic law in action?
If you want to share your thoughts you can reach me at https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife/ on instagram.
The 12 Laws of Karma
https://www.depressionalliance.org/12-laws-of-karma/
You cannot create anything you want from life if you cannot see it as a possibility. For your dreams to manifest into reality, you must have a distinct vision to help you navigate through life.
When going through a difficult time in your life, whether it be a divorce, the passing of a loved one, a diagnosis, the loss of a job, or the divine storm, it can be somewhat challenging to think that a better life for yourself can be possible.
Joy Resor is a spiritual counselor, children’s author, and joy-bringer, who inspires love, peace, and joy on the path of those she encounters every day.
Joy lives in North Carolina, where she hula hoops in sunbeams, writes books that inspire folks to a deeper life of love and shares adventures with her partner, Michael. Joy’s inner child will share laughter with you at any moment!
Mentioned in this episode... • Joy's new book: Designed To Shine! Read Aloud Rhymes For An Size Heart
• Official Website: www.JoyOnYourShoulders.com
• Official Facebook Page: @JoyOnYourShoulders
• Instagram: @JoyResor
In this episode, I interview Trivinia Barber, entrepreneur, mother of four, recovering high achiever and people-pleaser. Trivinia's rise from working mom to entrepreneur and founder of Priority VA was fast. Thrust into success and the spotlight with high profile clients on her roster, the pressure created a manic schedule resulting in a serious crash and burn.
Trivinia shares what happened to her that day and her ongoing recovery.
What we discuss in this episode...
- Meeting through Todd Herman's 90-Day Year
- Her transition from working mother to starting her VA business
- Her exposure to high profile clients like Amy Porterfield
- The 14-17 hour days that took over
- Her wake up call
- Realigning her life with her values and desires
- Her crash and burn
- The drive to be the "responsible girl"
- Her daily practice to keep centered
- The impact our habits have on our children
- Willpower Doesn't Work by Benjamin Hardy
- Working from home - the pros and cons
- The real pressure of entrepreneurism
- The rise of suicide in entrepreneurs
- Working from home as a VA and mom.
- The remote workforce why she's drawn to it
- Creating the life you want by design
- The joy of random acts of kindness
- Her Diary of a Doer podcast
- Format of her podcast and her plans for it
- Keeping it real online and transparency
- Encouraging people not to do it alone
- Find a tribe, find a community, friend, mentor, church
- Jayson Gaignard Community Made podcast
Related links Trivinia Barber's Diary of a Doer Podcast
https://trivinia.com/
Priority VA
https://priorityva.com
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Steph
Cathy Anello is an Author of "Six Months to Live." She's a certified Intuitive Healer, Podcast Host, and single mom. Here she shares her story of evolution from being on auto-pilot emotionally and mentally to becoming a tuned in Intuitive Healer after leaving a toxic work environment and later a toxic emotionally abusive relationship (my words, not hers).
Listen as Cathy shares her crash and burn experience and how she came out of the darkness and clicked into a higher place of operating on a spiritual plane.
In this episode, she shares her perspective on - her early years as a single parent on auto-pilot
- recovering from trauma at a long time work position
- identifying a toxic relationship and getting out
- how she tapped into her intuition and eventually became a spiritual intuitive
- her advice for people getting out of abusive and toxic relationships
- what inspired her to write her book "Six Months to Live"
- how to make the best of your life and be happy right now
Cathy's Offerings * Where to find Cathy
https://cathyanello.com
* Cathy's book "Six Months to Live"
https://cathyanello.com/six-months-to-live/
* Grab a FREE chapter of the book
https://cathyanello.com/get-the-first-chapter-of-6-months-to-live-free/
* Check out her Best Life Cafe podcast
https://cathyanello.com/best-life-cafe/
* Healing Sessions with Cathy
https://cathyanello.com/healing-sessions/
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Have a great day! :-)
Steph
Tracy Gromen is a Self Mastery Coach and Healer. She's a happily married mom of 3 boys and in this episode, we were originally going to talk about addressing anxiety but as our conversation unfolded prior to recording it became clear that we needed to share what she had been through in her personal life with her family and in-laws.
Tracy shares how before the holidays she decided not to participate in the tension-filled fake smiling Christmas celebration with her in-laws. She has amazing energy and conviction about what she'll allow in her life and what she will not. It's taken her years to get here but she still had to take a scary leap into a confrontation.
She did the tough work that most of us only dream of doing. She found a way to assert herself with love, honesty, and courage to ask her in-laws to consider working toward making their interaction more authentic and open-hearted and leave the gossip and manipulation behind.
In this episode, she shares her perspective * The family has hard conversations - they don't just sweep things under the carpet. * Standing in sovereignty - what does this mean to you? * How Tracy recovered from an exhausted burnout and relied on intuition to move forward in her personal life and business * Strengthening her partnership with her husband * How to make our way to a breakthrough and leave martydom behind through self-awareness * How she and her son got off her $400 medications for anxiety * How her husband supported her efforts to get well by taking care of herself, listening to her intuitive voice. * How she forgave people and circumstances in her life that held massive amounts of abuse. * Learning to say, "No." as Captain Dependable. * Getting to a place to feeling safe and stopping outside validation. * Admitting she took abuse from her childhood and it became overprotective helicopter parenting. * Looking back at her past and learning how not to repeat it. * Raising kids who set boundaries, have empathy, and are tuned in. * EFT for "on the fly emotional release" ...instead of chocolate. :-)
TRACY'S OFFERINGS Massive support for women on the self-awareness journey. Nutrition, virtual fitness, mindset coaching.
Where to find Tracy
https://www.tracygromen.net/
Get her Free 7 Day Process to Relieve Anxiety
SoulHeartedLife.net
For family dynamics, eliminating toxicity and your life
Want to connect about this episode or share a thought?
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Steph
The title for this podcast is out there, I know! But for a long time, I've been sensitive to the moon and lunar events but never gave it too much thought until the last few years. I joke with my daughters that I'm Luney Tunes - my spin on being tuned into the lunar changes.
I planned to have a regular episode but the way that this week unfolded with bizarre events and emotional upheaval among the friends I know, I felt called to share some of this for those of you experiencing deep emotional heaviness, headaches, exhaustion, sleeplessness, rashes, and questioning things on a level you may never have before.
The pattern I'm seeing in my friends and withing my spiritual circle is profound. I'm grateful that I have a way to explain what I'm feeling and what they're going through. One of my friends who's tuned in but not in this circle happened upon a youTube video that touched on this and helped her feel better about all of it.
I don't typically push my stuff on friends, I prefer them to find it on their own. We may discuss things at a surface level but I don't use language that might confuse them or make them skeptical and there's a lot of lingo that's sort of bizarre if you're new to it. I get that it can be offputting and alienating.
That said, I think it's worth sharing at a higher surface level an explanation of some of what you may be going through with the recent Wolf Moon and the upcoming Blood Moon as they truly do impact our physiology and our spirit.
So, here's late night, no frills, unedited episode with just me sharing some of what's transpired this week. Maybe you can relate. My hope is that this reaches you and offers a bit of reassurance if you've been feeling out of it or just plain off and can't pinpoint why.
Related to this episode... The January Wolf Moon
https://www.timeanddate.com/astronomy/moon/wolf.html
Meaning of a Blood Moon holds spiritual significance
https://www.elitedaily.com/p/the-meaning-of-a-blood-moon-actually-holds-a-lot-of-spiritual-significance-7997045
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Want to connect about this episode or share a thought? >> Catch me on Instagram! @AudaciousLife
use hashtag #TheAudaciousLife
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You can email me steph@stephaniroberts.com >> Get 11 Audio Affirmations to Heal From Emotional Abuse**
Thanks for listening and sharing! I appreciate you!! xoxoxo
Have a great day! :-)
Steph
How to Create the Life You Want with Bernadette Doyle
Continuing my spotlight on amazing single moms and beginning Part 1 of a series on Intuition and how to tap into it to create a happier, more prosperous, and fulfilling life.
Bernadette Doyle is a business coach, speaker, who helps women and men create a lifestyle business that allows for more freedom, fewer work hours, more income, and more time for friends and family.
Sounds good right?
She turned around her 60+ hour work week and create a thriving business to accommodate her babies and it took OFF big time. She shares how she listened to her nudges and hunches to create a Million dollar business in under 3 years. Incredible!! Her secret? She did so by tapping into and listening to her intuition; allowing it to move her forward no matter what.
I'm sharing her story in the New Year to light a spark under you by showing you what's possible. Have a listen and you'll be inspired!!
Mentioned in this episode... * Bernadette's website and offerings
https://bernadettedoyle.com/
* Business Smarts with Heart Facebook Group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2092820597669067/
* Your Heart's Desire by Sonia Choquette
https://amzn.to/2VTD6wu
* Trust Your Vibes by Sonia Choquette (one that I LOVE on audio)
https://amzn.to/2Ck9Zt3
* The Audacious Podcast Survey - weigh in on how we can create a community of support that would work for YOU!
http://bit.ly/audpodsurvey
Want to connect about this episode or share a thought? >> Catch me on Instagram! @AudaciousLife
use hashtag #TheAudaciousLife
**>> If you liked what you heard here please give an iTunes review <<
You can email me steph@stephaniroberts.com >> Get 11 Audio Affirmations to Heal From Emotional Abuse**
Thanks for listening and sharing! I appreciate you!! xoxoxo
Have a great day! :-)
Steph
In this solo episode, Steph shares the struggle of listening to and honoring our inner voice. The confusion that can arise when we want to do what the voice is telling us to do but we're used to checking in with family, friends, a spouse, co-workers.
She discusses our early upbringing and how that conditions us to relate to others and make decisions, seek approval, and question ourselves in spite of a deep conviction. How can we shift away from that to live in integrity and put our desires first instead of last? How can we do so without suffering the guilt-mongering from family and all the people we normally check in with?
This is the beginning of a series of interview with guests who learned to listen to their intuition, practiced it, grew it, and created amazing circumstances that led to a better, happier, more abundant life.
The Audacious Podcast Survey - weigh in on how we can create a community of support that would work for YOU!
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Trust Your Vibes by Sonia Choquette
https://amzn.to/2Ck9Zt3
Brenda Adelman returns with the second in her 2-part series. In part-1 we learned the unthinkable; her father killed Brenda's mother, and then he quickly moved in with and married her mother's sister.
Most of us would be paralyzed and curled in fetal position unsure of what to do after something so life-altering. It shook Brenda to her core and impacted her profoundly, but she came out of the darkness when she dared to share her story publicly.
In this episode, Brenda details how she was able to share her story, what she'd do differently, and what happened as a result of her finding the courage to do so.
If something BIG or profoundly transformational has happened to you and you've thought of sharing your story, she has tips about how to get started.
As she says, "There are skills to learn, rewrites to be done. It's not so sexy." But it can make a difference in the way the story impacts audiences and how YOU feel good about sharing it. She discusses how to gauge feelings to know whether you're ready to share or not or to write as a form of cathartic healing.
Mentioned in this episode...
- Today Tell Your Story. Heal Yourself. Create More Wealth. 3 part video training - http://www.forgivenessandfreedom.com/freetraining
- My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable - https://brendaadelman.lpages.co/forgivenessebookspecial/
- Help shape the future of The Audacious Life community and get the help you need. Take the survey -> http://bit.ly/audpodsurvey
**It's 2019!! Are you ready to become more VISIBLE?
Amplify Your Authority and become the go-to expert in your niche. Check this out >> https://bit.ly/amplifymenow <<**
It's been a doozy of a year for many of us. And now we're supposed to dust ourselves off and create shiny new goals for 2019 right? Ugh.
Everywhere we look it's about goal planning for the year and I think it's enough to send many of us running for the couch hiding under a blanket or finding other ways to avoid and tune out.
If that's you or if you just want an alternate way to get what you want this year, check it out.
Here I share how I broke out the paper and wrote down what I wanted to feel and see in the year ahead for 2018 and even created a vision board. These were not goals, they were dreams and ideas of things I want to enter my life.
Tune in to hear how that turned out for me and what I'm doing for 2019. Hint: it's mostly surprisingly GOOD. So definitely check it out and please share with friends or anyone you know who needs a little inspiration or is feeling stuck right now.
**Mentioned in this episode...
https://www.instagram.com - follow my Instagram account for direct contact and chats about these episodes!**
https://theaudaciouslife.com - subscribe to my list so we can stay in touch and you can help me shape the community for The Audacious Life.
http://bit.ly/audpodsurvey - take the support survey to help shape the future of The Audacious Life community and get the help you need.
https://audaciousmamas.com - my podcast for momprenuers will be shapeshifting into a brand new podcast with solo episodes sharing tips, tools, lessons, interviews, case studies, and more around personal branding, visibility, and strategic repurposing and upcycling to Amplify Your Authority TM. Stay tuned!!
How to Forgive the Impossible with Brenda Adelman
Brenda Adelman came by the title "The Queen of Forgiveness" under tragic circumstances. The father she adored killed her mother and then later...married her aunt. You read that right. Not only did her kill her mother but he married her sister.
I can't fathom it. The pain, sorrow, and confusion must have been immense. Yet somehow, after some time, Brenda was able to forgive her father and move forward.
She shares all that she went through to be able to accept what happened and honestly feel forgiveness in her heart. If you're feeling heavy and dragged down from someone who wronged you, please listen to this episode.
Note:
This podcast is part 1 of a 2 part series. Stay tuned for part 2 to learn how to tell your story to heal and to help others.
Mentioned in this episode...
My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable
https://brendaadelman.lpages.co/forgivenessebookspecial/
Brenda's show, My Brooklyn Hamlet
http://brendaadelman.homestead.com/show.html
Join Brenda on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/ShowBrendaA/
Forgiveness and Freedom
http://www.forgivenessandfreedom.com/
The Forgiveness Project
https://www.theforgivenessproject.com/brenda-adelman
Savor the Success
http://www.savorthesuccess.com/member/brenda-adelman
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Protection from Holiday Hijackals with Dr. Roberta Shaler
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler knows how to handle people who hijack your energy and rob you of some of the best moments of your life. They can pop up in any area; family members, romantic partners, co-workers, neighbors, store clerks, you name it.
These hijackals are at least consistent. Thankfully! That's why this episode is a must listen if you're heading home for the holidays and dreading Aunt Bea, your in-laws, your older sister, your dad, or anyone else who always seems to push your buttons and bring you down.
Dr. Shaler has a bunch of free content and a low-cost group coaching program through Patreon that can help you if you need some guidance navigating the minefield of the hijackal.
Mentioned in this episode...
- The low-cost group coaching
Patreon.com/RhobertaShaler - Save Your Sanity
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/save-your-sanity/id1142068098?mt=2 - The FREE Personal Integrity Checklist
https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/pic/ - The Emotional Savvy Show
https://podmust.com/podcast/emotional-savvy/ - The FREE Identifying Passive Aggressive Behavior Checklist and The Relationship checklists
https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists/ - For Relationships
https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/ - Rhoberta's YouTube Channel - urgent care for relationships in trouble
https://www.youtube.com/user/ForRelationshipHelp/videos
I recorded this episode just before Thanksgiving, and it was powerful. If you stay 'to the end you'll hear me cry. Yep, it's one of those episodes! April Giaque (pronounced "juke") is a beacon of light. A true survivor and thriver with an uncanny ability to find the silver linings and "pinpoints of light" in the darkness. Her interview is the perfect one to listen to if you're feeling down, tested beyond belief, left behind, lost, and just plain ungrateful or bitter.
Raised in the LDS church in Utah, she's an author, speaker, and life coach. April shares her experience as a young mother of five children and wife to a husband with multiple mental health challenges. From the chaos raising her first five children to the next chapter's turnaround story with a new husband and giving birth to four more children who each brought new lessons and challenges.
This is a story of turning multiple and seemingly endless tests into triumph. You'll hear her story firsthand but the highlights include, domestic abuse, mental illness, substance abuse, autism, hearing impairment, divorce, career development, finding new love, more babies, and her books to inspire you to be the light.
Mentioned in this episode...
- April's perspective on abusers as either the hunter or the caged animal. This is fascinating and probably the best definition I've heard.
- April's website - www.apriltribe.com
- Pinpoints of Light: Escaping the Abyss of Abuse
- April's YouTube Channel
Holy cow! This was a FUN interview considering it was mostly about divorce. But I think that has to do with the energy and sparkle of my guest Jennifer Hurvitz. She's an author, speaker, podcast host, blogger, screenwriter, and relationship coach. Not necessarily in that order!
And, she's the second Audacious Single Mama I'm spotlighting in my single mom series. She left her marriage and found a way to venture out on her own creating a business around the positive aspects of divorce...big kudos to her because the life she has now sounds pretty amazing.
This episode is candid, fun, and definitely not dark. It's more of a conversation than an interview. So tune in to hear some insights from both of us as we share what we learned going through a divorce and perspective we gained on the other side. Neither of us would go back, but the grass isn't always greener. Often it takes being OUT to see your part in how things went wrong and what you could have done to steer things in a better direction.
But before you get your dander up with that last comment, it's only for folks listening who have marriages or relationships free from abuse of any kind. You'll see that Jen holds no illusions and she knows that sometimes it's NOT possible to turn things around. Often leaving IS the best option.
So if you're hanging out on the fence in the middle and there's something redeeming at the heart of your relationship, this episode could be what you need to find clarity.
Listen and reach out if you feel compelled. I'd love to know what you think!
Mentioned in this episode... * Jennifer's website
https://www.jenniferhurvitz.com/
* The Doing Divorce Right Podcast
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This episode is about Angel Numbers, numeric sequences and how they can help guide you through times of confusion, loneliness, darkness, and fear. And how they act as a nudge or a wink from the Universe.
Are they a substitute for prayer or your usual spiritual practice? Nope.
I see them as a way to add hope to your life, build faith in the direction you're going, and move you closer to God (the Universe) and go deeper with your spiritual practice.
If you're seeing 111, 1111, 444, 333, 222, 1212, and other combinations it usually means you're already aware spiritually or you're awakening and becoming more aware. You're noticing these numbers, that in itself shows you're awake.
In this episode I share
- Why I started studying and using Angel numbers
- Faith through one of the darkest phases of my life
- Coming back from a crash aka "Dark night of the soul"
- How shifting and reframing helped me turn things around in a matter of weeks
- Why November 11, 2018 (11-11-11) is a gateway to change and a powerful time to manifest and begin a more intentional spiritual practice if you're seeking positive change.
- Meaning of Angel Number 111
http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/07/angel-number-111.html
What to do next...
If this resonates, take a screenshot of this episode, tag me on Instagram and let me know what you think of this episode. I'm @audaciouslife
Set some goals and intentions and "test" whether manifesting and belief, maintaining a positive "higher vibration" actually help open things up and create a better life experience for you.
Love and humor are the highest vibrations.
Anger, hatred, and fear are lower vibrations.
Avoiding gossip, a steady stream of dark news and conversation around doom and gloom, and keeping focused on the good things that are happening in your life (however small) can help you and can also have a wider positive ripple effect.
More episodes and free downloads are here:
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This is the first crossover episode from the Audacious Mamas show for mompreneurs. I felt this information was both inspiring and practical for single mamas and women starting over.
April is one of those people you meet and never forget. Heck, I never met her and I still never forgot her. She was in a paid group with me and her energy, drive, and success made an indelible mark. I can still see her sipping a Margarita in the water at some far-flung tropical beach sharing about the affiliate income she made that month - and she was NEW to affiliate marketing!!
Yep. So she's got "it" that ability to spot a money opportunity a mile away and see it through to fruition.
She's the perfect single mama entrepreneur to kick off my series on inspiring single mompreneurs! Yes, that could be YOU if you're starting over and looking for a way to close the gap at the end of the month when it's time to pay the bills.
We cover so much ground here that I had to list it out.
So here are the highlights:
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How to monetize your life effortlessly
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Setting up referral partnerships
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Choosing affiliate products that feel right
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How to stay focused on your goals and repel shiny objects
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Simplifying to success
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Living with a housemate and saving for a home
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raising a "man of the house"
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homeschooling and how she made it work
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college vs. the entrepreneurial approach to life
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How many groups to join on FB and her strategy for leveraging them
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How many email lists and "gurus" to follow
Mentioned in this episode...
April's Website and Free Gift:
https://aprildlewis.com/
The Rainmaker Mastermind:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/RainmakerMastermindwithAprilDLewis/?ref=br_rs
CYLL - Create Your Laptop Life - Julie Stoian's Group/Course
Beaver Builder - Web Development tool
Emerald Green Forest is a breath of fresh air. Her strength and optimism never hint at the abuse she's experienced in her lifetime. She's a successful businesswoman, coach, podcast host, who's on a mission to be a positive influence in this world.
She shares her story of transformation from successful business person, to divorced single mom with a teen who was out of control. That story took a dramatic turn that shaped her current name and living a life of intention and deep purpose.
Her Men on Purpose podcast is quickly gaining a worldwide audience and shining the spotlight on men who are making a difference for the soul purpose of making a difference - it's not about money. How refreshing!
We discuss her new podcast, the men she features, the hope-inducing quality of listening to and meeting these high-quality men, and how it's another form of therapy for those who've given up on relationships or who've subscribed to the thought that there are "no good men."
Note: we go deep in this episode and touch on drug abuse, emotional abuse, mindset, intention, and the benefit of a spiritual ceremony.
Mentioned in this episode...
Baeth Davis - Hand analyst - palm reader
http://www.handresearch.com/usa/beth-davis.htm
The Men on Purpose Podcast - Celebrating the men who are the clear and courageous committed changemakers around the world
https://www.emeraldgreenforest.com/podcast
EmeraldGreenForest.com
Freebie to find Clarity - Clarity is Divinity. Avoid being "spun".
8-minute meditation
https://www.emeraldgreenforest.com/gift
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In this episode, I'm flying solo sharing some recurring themes of struggle and deep personal growth. The things that feel uncomfortable make us question ourselves, feel stuck, and create resistance toward the goals that carry the most meaning in our lives regardless of how big or small.
I share some thoughts and readings from Alana Fairchild's Sacred Rebels Guidebook, and it's accompanying oracle card deck. Yeah, it sounds out there, but the book is beautiful as are the illustrations and the meaning behind each card.
If you're feeling stuck at times and wondering how to move forward with something or just unsure in general and looking for guidance, these cards are a gentle push in a better direction. I'm always moved by what they reveal to me and how the messages seem to be so on target and resonate with where I'm at in my life.
In this episode...
You can get Alana Fairchild's Sacred Rebels Guidebook on Amazon. Note: I'm an affiliate and if you purchase something it may result in my earning a few dollars to support the podcast. Thanks in advance! I appreciate your support.
Music by Daniel Birch The Shape of Nothing can be found here:
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The Audacious Mamas podcast - my podcast for mompreneurs
http://audaciousmamas.com/
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Eva Vennari is the rare person blessed to escape her abuser earlier in life and then determined to make a go of it. If you're searching for inspiration related to breaking free of a toxic or abusive relationship or you're struggling with chronic undiagnosable illness, stay tuned!
Eva shares her story of unraveling her illness as her relationship did the same. Listen to the tough decisions she made and how her determination led her to a life of freedom from illness and eventually an end to all unhealthy relationships.
Her early experience with health issues created a path toward helping others figure out difficult health issues and reclaim wellness. I'm confident that's why she found her way to this show.
In this episode....
The Elevate Institute
https://theelevateinstitute.com
Eva's FREE gift examining how we may be covering up health issues with beauty treatments
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Finger Yoga
Jason Levoy is a family law attorney who specializes in coaching people through the legal aspects of divorce particularly when they cannot afford an attorney or choose to represent themselves. He's a rare attorney with a lot of heart who has a mission to help people through the divorce process in the least painful way. He's known as the Divorce Resource Guy.
In this episode originally recorded on video for The Audacious Life closed Facebook group, Jason shares tips on How to Divorce a Narcissist. How to identify that you're with a narcissist and what it's like dealing with these personality types in court.
Tune in for more about this topic and join the Audacious Life closed Facebook group to see the video interview with Jason and have an opportunity to leave him questions for his next appearance in the closed group.
To join the Audacious Life closed Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/430547350456455/?ref=bookmarks
Jason Levoy's website: http://jasonlevoy.com/
DivorceU - The online resource for divorce - video courses, forums, coaching calls with Jason. http://jasonlevoy.com/divorcemembership/
Listen to your intuition. Believe in the ideas and the sense of things you have deeply embedded in your heart and mind. Focus on the optimistic positive outcomes in spite of what seems present. You will begin to see changes and your expected results.
Here Steph shares where she's heading with the two podcasts, what's around the corner, and a powerful message of hope that arose from a distant bleak memory of leading a double life and living in fear.
A favorite relevant passage from a special book by Ernest Holmes, The Thing Called You.
"It is certain that you must fast from fear if you wish to establish faith. You must fast from confusion if you hope to enter into traquility. It matters not if your transitions from the negative into the affirmative seems slow, if the ascent from your valley of negation to the mountain top of realization seems difficult. Each step will bring you nearer the summit."
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A Digital Content and Visibility Strategist who's also a single mom of two beautifully wild girls and podcast host of The Audacious Mamas Show and The Audacious Life, Steph offers regular mindset and digital hacks for mompreneurs, podcasters, and entrepreneurs to maximize their time and visibility and maintain their integrity.
She has 20+ years experience online as a web developer and web accessibility specialist working with multiple start-ups, Public Television, Harvard, and MIT and a degree in Film. She's excited that personal storytelling and broadcasting are literally in the palm of our hands.
Her mission is to help women to get unstuck from any circumstances holdig them back and find the confidence to jump in and share through these channels. Reaping the financial benefits for their business and enjoying the spark that comes from creating a platform sharing your vision and putting yourself out there is what makes it all worthwhile.
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Byron Morrison is a compassionate author and lifestyle coach with a mission to give women who've put themselves last encouragement and a path to shift their habits as well as their self-perceptions.
He was a guest on my other Podcast for Mompreneurs, The Audacious Mamas Show. When I interviewed Byron then, he had recently opened an online group for women looking to 'Build a Better You' based on his lifestyle, mindset, nutrition, and exercise book.
Soon Byron learned that some of these women shared their experience as survivors of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. It's a delicate subject, and he's quite protective so Byron and I connected to discuss how he could connect with The Audacious Life audience to support listeners struggling with weight, depression, vitality, and hope. Byron struggled with weight and depression himself before he had a wake-up call with his father's health and realized he was on the same path. His goal is to help women break free of old patterns, learn new habits, work on their mindset, to create happier healthier lives.
- Byron's personal transformation story
- Reconstruct a Better You Program with Byron
- Byron's First Book: Build a Better You (Amazon)
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Welcome Back! I still can't believe the podcast has been on hiatus for nearly a year. In this episode, I explain why I took a break, how things are going for me on my healing journey -- there are a few things that may surprise you! -- and what's coming up for Season 2 of the podcast.
There's a lot brewing in the United States right now related to power and abuse. And I'm encouraged by the courageous women who've stepped forward, stood their ground, and shined a spotlight on this problem.
I plan to cover that topic which effects my life, my past, and it's even a thread in my mother's journey. She has since passed, but I remember her battle well. So much so that the actions that have been taken to penalize the accused have been affirming and healing for me.
In Season 2 of The Audacious Life, I'll have new guest experts, returning survivors who are more candid than ever, and new survivors sharing their stories to help heal others, and I hope that they'll experience a catharsis by releasing the pent up fear, guilt, and shame.
My year off has given me much more perspective, and I see that my mission as a mom in business supporting other mompreneurs dovetails nicely with helping women who are contemplating leaving an abusive or toxic relationship.
Everyone talks about the importance of "having a plan," and the financial element is key to your successful survival on the other side. I'll be putting together experts and programs specifically focused on helping you create more income in your life through the creation of a side hustle or amping up your current situation at work.
If a side hustle or business idea has you up at night or excited during your commute and you see your life has far more potential than anyone around you ever imagined, than I invite you to join my closed Facebook group for Audacious Mamas Thriving in Business. There you'll connect with other women on your path and you'll learn tips to help promote your business, product, or services in a safe environment that's high vibe and full of warmth and genuine support.
Links mentioned in this episode...
The Audacious Life Website
http://theaudaciouslife.com/
The Domestic Violence Hotline aka The Hotline
http://www.thehotline.org/
The Audacious Mamas Facebook Group
https://audaciousmamas.com/
The Audacious Mamas podcast
http://bitly.com/AMamas
Jane Fredrickson, single mom looking for a new relationship, thought she found her prince charming on an online dating site. In time he turned into Prince Harming and it took friends and family and a final wake up call for Jane to see things for what they were and remove herself from a potentially deadly situation. In this interview, Jane shares how she met her prince, what drew her to him, and how their relationship transitioned from romance to control, disrespect, threats and more. How she minimized his behavior and justified it and what made her see things for what they were.
Jane, not her real name, wrote her book about this experience to help other women get out of abusive relationships for good and turn things around. She's an author and speaker and happy to share her story to help other women find healthy relationships and a life of happiness, peace, and enthusiasm for the future.
Mentioned in this podcast...
Jane Fredrickson.com has resources for women
http://www.janefredrickson.com/
Jane's book:
From Darkness to Light: One Woman's Story of Defeating Abuse and Living Life with Zest Again
http://amzn.to/2kwxHrx
Love is Respect has a hotline with counselors and an online chat if you need help
http://www.loveisrespect.org/
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Amy is trained as a collaborative attorney and mediator, and is deeply committed to helping clients resolve their family law disputes mindfully, creatively and with minimal court involvement. Here Amy shares why you may want to consider mediation over traditional legal representation for privacy, long-term financial savings, mental health, child-friendly agreements, mental and emotional health, and to create a stronger foundation for success moving forward.
Amy attended Wesleyan University and Lesley University as an undergraduate, obtained her master’s degree in music therapy from New York University, and earned her J.D. as an Edward F. Hennessey Distinguished Scholar from Boston University School of Law. She brings a rich history of experience to her legal practice, including two years of service as a judicial law clerk to the Massachusetts Probate and Family Courts, of counsel work for Jennifer DiGregorio and Associates. Her prior career as a music teacher and music therapist, and a tenure as bartender at No. 9 Park, one of Boston’s finest restaurants.
Amy also brings personal experience to her family formation work; both of her children were conceived through ART with a known donor, and she celebrates opportunities to help other families create their unique domestic constellations.
Amy is a member of the Massachusetts and Plymouth Bar associations, the Massachusetts Gay and Lesbian Bar Association, the Massachusetts Council of Family Mediators, the South Shore Women’s Business Network, and she is proud to be a board member and local practice group leader for the Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council. She is an avid local food enthusiast, a dedicated zen student and a lazy musician. She lives with her wife, their two young children and a gaggle of egg-laying chickens.
Mentioned in this episode….
*The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
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*Living Successfully with Screwed Up People - http://amzn.to/2jmmTyr
Whole Family Law & Mediation
http://www.wholefamilylaw.com/
Emma Johnson's Like a Mother Podcast
Episode on Shared Parenting
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/why-shared-parenting-is-moral/id965256300?i=1000379640346&mt=2
*I'm an Amazon affiliate and may receive a small percentage if you make a purchase through my link. This is one way to cover the overhead of this podcast. Thanks!
Dr. Jennifer Fee discusses the powerful method of healing from trauma and anxiety with Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). She explains how it helped her recover, why it works, what it's based on, why it's longer lasting than other methods, and how to find an EMDR trained therapist in your area. This is something that I've discussed over the life of the podcast, and it's been a tremendous help in regaining a sense of peace and personal power over my day-to-day life. If you've ever felt like you want to cut the cord that connects you to your narcissist, this episode is for you!
Show notes:
Dr. Fee's Website
http://www.visionquestpsychservices.com/
Psychology Today Therapist page
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Jennifer_L_Fee_PsyD_Placentia_California_32985
You can find out more about EMDR and EMDR certified Therapists here:
http://www.emdria.org
Mentioned in this episode:
@ZeroModeration community on Twitter and Periscope
Kala Spigarelli explains what motivated her to create the Undolus website along with her sister. Being a single woman in today’s society can be a lot of fun! But, it comes with a lot of risk. Bad seeds, men who are looking to take advantage of others and relationships with too much baggage are definite concerns. Being able to avoid some of these issues, from the very beginning, is increasingly a priority. Who has time for dating someone, only to find out he wasn’t worth the sacrifice? (And, not only because he had a few annoying habits. But, due to serious problems with his background or intentions!)
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Lindsey Ellison: Shares her story of evolving in a young marriage. Tuning into her sense that things were not okay and yearning for a more loving and fulfilling life. She's achieved that and more, creating a life by design where she helps others learn from her struggles and years as a student of self help.
What you'll learn in this episode:
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What it means to have a relationship with a narcissist.
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What emotional abuse looks like.
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The relationship between co-dependence and narcissism.
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The connection between childhood and the choices we make in relationships.
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Healing and how it allowed Lindsey to meet a healthy partner and remarry.
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How we have the power to change ourselves. Why it's important to recognize that and focus on our power vs. giving power to an abusive partner or ex-partner.
Lindsey Ellison on Twitter @StartOverCoach
Lindsey's website: Start Over. Find Happiness. http://lindseyellison.com/
Lindsey's podcast: http://lindseyellison.com/podcasts/
See more episodes and learn about The Audacious Life: TheAudaciousLife.com
Author B.D. Foley shares tips from his new book "CIA Street Smarts for Women: How to Tell the Prince from the Predator." Learn tips and tricks on how to discern whether he's really a "good guy" or not. Techniques to draw out his true colors before you've decided to go on that second date. Learn critical information that can help you nip abuse in the bud early and STAY AWAY from abusive men.
Key Points from B.D.'s Street Smarts Conversation:
- Importance of tuning in and listening to your gut.
- Women are well-equipped with a sixth sense to tap into. They often "knew" when something bad was going to happen such as rape or an attack.
- The importance of "testing" the person to see if they have dangerous traits such as anger and arrogance. [18:00]
- Using elicitation and compliments to draw out his or her true character traits.
- Why being comfortable with "offending" someone is important.
- Importance of drawing clear and firm boundaries early in a relationship and first meeting.
- Being safe with first dates, especially internet dates.
- Meeting for coffee in a public place vs. out to dinner and drinks where you may be more vulnerable.
- Why dinner dates create more vulnerability ex. ploys to trade equal favor i.e. you owe me. And the vulnerability of alcohol as a way to dull your alert system and give him a way in.
- The assumption ploy. Statements to draw out his true response.
Note: Operational testing is only limited by your creativity. Have fun with it! This is your well being and your future, treat it with the high stakes respect it deserves.
The Book (affiliate link)CIA Street Smarts for Women: Spy Skills to Tell the Prince from the Predator
**The Website: http://www.ciastreetsmarts.com/
Follow B.D. on Twitter: @CIAStreetSmarts**
Liz Diaz discusses her story of breaking free from an abusive family and marriage(s) to create a life of peace and prosperity.
How to contact Liz and find out more about her business, Clutter Proof Residence.
Find Liz at the clutterproofresidence.wordpress.com
Facebook: Clutter-Proof Residence
Hire Liz to declutter and organize for you:
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An update on where I've been, Periscope progress, what's going on with The Audacious Life, and some overdue Affirmations to help you through the day. :-)
The Audacious Life on Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/audaciouslife?
Download Periscope for Mac:https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/periscope/id972909677?mt=8
Download Periscope for Android:
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If you'd like a one on one support and strategy session, sign up here:
http://bitly.com/peristrategy
The Affirmations for Women Who Have Been Abused:
http://www.anew-selfesteem-4-women.com/affirmations-for-abused-women.html
"My feelings are real. I have a right to my feelings."
"I feel. I easily show my emotions to myself and other people."
"I cherish my feelings and release what doesn't serve."
"I trust my intuitive feelings."
"I create good experiences."
"I am only responsible for my feelings."
"I am honest with myself and others."
"I am independent of other people's approval."
"I am the best judge of my thoughts and actions."
"I choose me first."
"I am a worthwhile person."
"The light of God within me is producing perfect results in every phase of my life now."
"I give to You my fear."
"All I am is You."
"I place myself in Your hands."
"I accept God's rich good for me."
"This is God's good day. I pronounce this day and all its activities good."
"Perfect love casts out fear."
"God in His almighty goodness is dissolving and removing all negative thought and action from my world."
"The Spirit of God is with me, upholding and sustaining me and making all things right."
Considered one of the hottest marketing strategists today, Michele PW has a reputation for crafting promotional materials and creating marketing campaigns that people love and get results. She is the owner and founder of Michele PW/Creative Concepts and Copywriting LLC, which has a client list that reads like the “Who’s Who” of Internet Marketing. Michele is also a national speaker and the bestselling author of “Love–Based Copywriting — How to Write Copy that Attracts, Inspires and Invites Your Ideal Prospects to Become Ideal Clients.”
Michele's Website: https://michelepw.com/
Michele's Courses and Products: https://michelepw.com/products/
Steph discusses the book "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It" by Kamal Ravikant and the positive impact it has had. If you're suffering from anxiety and negative self talk, tune in. This one is for you! Stay tuned for part 2.
Steph discusses the importance of standing on your own two feet. Being careful about the strong people in your life who want to "help" you but may wind up controlling you, and you ultimately give up your power. If you suffer from anxiety, fear, and feel powerless always looking over your shoulder with the voice or thoughts of a controlling person guiding you, this is for you. Things can change. YOU can change. You can reclaim your power and set yourself FREE.
AudaciousLife on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/audaciouslife
Pinterest:
https://www.pinterest.com/theaudaciouslif/boards/
Affirmations for women who have face abuse:
http://www.anew-selfesteem-4-women.com/affirmations-for-abused-women.html
For Health and Wellness check out:
stephani1.juiceplus.com
Patti Cassidy shares her story of how she broke free from an abusive marriage, worked on her self-esteem, built herself up, and found a new life with a new supportive husband and an incredibly fulfilling life. Listen and be inspired about the possibilities of what lies ahead. :-)
Boston Play Cafe video on YouTube: "Acceptance"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HySzf-EHgfY
Boston Play Cafe website:
http://bostonplaycafe.com/
Boston Play Cafe on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/bostonplaycafe
Boston Play Cafe on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/BostonPlayCafe
Becca is devoted to strengthening families through helping couples develop safe and secure marital bonds and helping other therapists learn more effective couple’s therapy.
In this interview Becca touches on abuse and how it can impact therapy as well as decision making moving beyond a relationship left behind. In addition to training therapists in Emotionally Focused Therapy throughout North America, New Zealand and parts of Europe she also specializes in distance and online education. She has taught Psychology, Family Life Courses and Counselor Education for many years.
Mentioned in this podcast:
Becca's blog - http://www.rebeccajorgensen.com/
Living in Love - http://www.livinginlove.us/- blog and workshops for couples and couples information. Also helpful for individuals in recovery.
Dr. Kristin Neff - http://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/
Dr. Karen Osburn discusses her journey to motherhood, adoption, and embracing imperfect motherhood. She explains what led her to add an essential oils business to her chiropractic practice and her approach to overall family wellness.
Check out Karen's website:
http://www.momat41.com/
The Mom at 41 Podcast:
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mom-at-41-with-dr.-karen-osburn/id903469930?mt=2
Mom at 41 on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/DrKarenMomat41
Karen on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/drkarenosburn
Tapping or EFT, is a way to address and remove emotional blocks. It may seem crazy but it's a simple way to gently remove fears, anxiety, and unresolved emotions that hold us back. Steph discusses how tapping helped her get through a rough time, what it is, and where to learn more about it.
Brad Yates on YouTube: https://youtu.be/vcWlBld1SqU
Brad Yates Website: http://www.bradyates.net
Magnificent Tappers: http://www.MagnificentTappers.com
What EFT is and a tutorial: http://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/what-is-eft.html
Angie Shyr shares her story of leaving her husband and how her life has expanded exponentially. She shares her philosophy on abuse, evolving as woman, and lots of laughs with Steph as they revisit their 20 year friendship and how their life and relationships have unfolded. Angie represents that light at the end of the tunnel we're all hoping for. Tune in and get ready to laugh and be inspired. :-)
As a musician, Angie performs her pop soul / NeoSoul sensibilities as Jackie Highway. Catch her latest release "The Hottest Flame" at the tail end of the podcast.
Soundcloud:
https://soundcloud.com/jackiehighwaywest
Website:
http://www.jackiehighway.com/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jackiehighwaywest
Instagram:
https://instagram.com/jackiehighwaywest/
About the Author:
Lundy Bancroft has spent the last twenty-five years of his career specializing in the tactics of abusive men and their impact on women and children. He is author of four books in the field, including Why Does He Do That?, the nation's largest-selling book on domestic abuse, When Dad Hurts Mom, and co-author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?. He has also written over a dozen articles in professional publications. The former Co-Director of Emerge, the nation’s first program for abusive men, he is now a national trainer and public speaker for nonprofit, governmental, and judicial agencies on dealing with domestic abuse situations. Lundy leads weekend healing retreats for women who have escaped destructive relationships.
Most recent book on Amazon:
Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?: Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men
http://amzn.to/1HBtcT0
See all his books and resources at:
http://www.lundybancroft.com/
Q. What are some red flags women and girls should be aware of when dating?
Q. How can women minimize the psychological grip that their abusers have on them even after leaving?
One thing that we have noticed in the abuse support groups I’m involved in is that these men use the same tactics and some of the phrases are identical. Many have joked that it’s as if they’ve gone to a training somewhere.
Q. What are your thoughts on this (use of the same tactics)?
Q. What can mothers do to mitigate the impact of an abusive father on his children.
“Sarah” shares her dramatic story of fleeing her home with two small children. Listen as she explains how she gained support of friends and family and began her journey toward a new found clarity and peace.
Reflecting on Mother's day and inspired by meeting a true "good guy". A young father who puts his daughter's needs front and center and cares about his role supporting others in the world.
Nick Loper from Side Hustle Nation and the Side Hustle Show Podcast gives his best tips on how to make money on the side both on and offline. You won't want to miss this one!
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Chance Thomas discusses falling in love, living with, and eventually leaving her long term sociopath boyfriend. She discusses her upcoming book, her blog, and the short artistic videos she creates that are all about healing from the sociopath's abuse. Look for "Chance Thomas" on youTube. See...
Verbal Abuse - The Process of Healing
https://youtu.be/6h00eV0KJBU
Stephani Roberts reflects on conversations and comments from listeners one week after the podcast went live.
Renee Roberts Kopp discusses how she became aware that her 25 year marriage was one of abuse, how she dealt with it and learned to move forward and heal. Her mission is to help other abused women let go of their shame.
Stephani Roberts introduces The Audacious Life podcast features snippets from interviews with author Patricia Evans and survivors of verbal and emotional abuse: Sarah, Renee Roberts Kopp, Angie Shyr, and Patti Cassidy
Verbal abuse expert Patricia Evans explains what verbal abuse is, the dynamics of the verbally abusive relationship, why the abuser treats his target the way he/she does and protective tactics for victims.