Live Your Why: Recent Episodes
Tammy Hill
Hi, I'm Tammy Hill! I'm a Marriage & Family Therapist. I like to discuss relationships - particularly romantic ones! This podcast is for people who want to thrive in romantic relationships while living with integrity.
"Is Your Partner Calling All the Shots in the Bedroom?"
Join us for a candid conversation where Jeff and I dive deep into the dynamics of control in the bedroom. We'll share surprising research, eye-opening insights, and powerful interventions to help bring balance, passion, and partnership back into your sex life. Whether you're feeling unheard or want to reignite the connection, this episode is packed with actionable advice for creating a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship! Don't miss it!
Getting married? Know someone who is?!
DO NOT MISS THIS EPISODE!!
I visit with Dr. Jason Whiting about essential premarital conversations! So many practical ideas to use TODAY!
Stacey Velasquez is an influencer you can find on Instagram @stacey_janelle where she tells her story of leaving an abusive marriage, remarrying, and blending a new family with her husband.
If you find yourself wondering about the process of dating, remarriage, and blending, this episode will certainly benefit you!
Learning with Dr. Jill Manning is a treat! Don't miss this amazing episode where Jill and I discuss the basics of establishing boundaries in family relationships.
NOTICE: I recorded this episode prior to shifting the focus to Marriage & Sexuality in Season 4. It is excellent!
Do you know Trevor Hanson? He is amazing! He specializes in helping people find and keep secure relationships.
Listen in to this podcast and learn more about overcoming Dating Anxiety. I know when I taught at BYU, many students experienced this challenge. I love Trevor's approach and appreciate his energy in doing so much good for so many singles wanting to be married.
Scrupulosity is a form of OCD that affects about 5% of the Western population. It can be especially prevalent in religious communities, like members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I have worked with and know many people who experience this challenge.
In marriage, where sexuality is an important part of the relationship, when one (or both) partner experiences scrupulosity, sexual expression can become complicated. In this podcast episode, I visit with almost Dr. Bonnie Young about scrupulosity and sex. Bonnie is full of practical suggestions that can really help individuals and couples who are suffering.
If you know someone who experiences scrupulosity, PLEASE share this episode with them! There is hope and excellent help for them.
You know that Brooke Romney writes all about how to help teenagers have manners and be kind, but have you ever heard about talking sex with teenagers!? This Live Your Why episode is excellent! Tammy and Brooke discuss talking with teens about sex AND about navigating a passionate marriage while teenagers are living at home.
Listen and enjoy this informative and entertaining interview.
This Live Your Why episode is filled with important information for couples to understand as they navigate their sexual relationships. Men have different needs then women, but unfortunately in our culture, often feel shamed for experiencing sexual needs and wants.
This conversation with marriage therapist, Daniel Burgess, is straightforward and helpful. Don't miss it!
Chelsie Dort is a woman who believes in prioritizing marriage and family life.
The diligence and energy she continuously puts into her family relationships is inspiring.
On the episode of Live Your Why, I visit with Chelsie about how she has created such a close, dynamic, and passionate marriage in the midst of real life responsibilities. Listen in and have some fun as I pick Chelsie's brain for great ideas.
What do you think? Does the amount of money you earn impact your happiness in your sexual relationship?
This episode of Live Your Why is an interview with Dr. Jeff Hill. His research has included how money impacts sexuality. This is such a fun episode with my most favorite person on the planet!
Do you ever feel so annoyed that your spouse never initiates sex?
How about feeling frustrated that your spouse doesn't help out with the family, but always wants sex at bedtime?
This interview with master marriage therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw, has practical and proven strategies to help couples work through sexual resentment. Listen and learn! You won't regret it!
Tammy and Becky Squire @beckysquire discuss various religious family rituals on this week prior to April 2024 General Conference. Listen to this short episode and learn something that you can do to add depth to the time you share with your family.
In this episode of the Live Your Why Podcast, Tammy shares her personal witness of Jesus Christ and her gratitude for Easter. Listen to this short and inspired message.
This Live Your Why Podcast episode is a MUST LISTEN!! Tammy discusses the confusing religious messaging and personal shame that is too frequently associated with masturbation. Dr. Dean Busby, BYU School of Family Life professor and former co-teacher with Tammy in BYU's first Healthy Sexuality course, come together to talk about this important topic. If you are a parent, teacher, leader...PLEASE listen!
Katie Runyan, owner of Faithful Fling and advocate for passionate marriage, is on the podcast today to answer Tammy's questions about sexual role playing and fantasy. If you've ever wanted to understand a little better how to get out of your comfort zone and get into something more ---listen in! You will not regret it!
This episode is perfect for any woman who experiences pain or discomfort during penetrative sex. Dr. Sara Reardon @the.vagina.whisperer is on the program visiting with Tammy about what women can do to alleviate painful intercourse. Dr. Reardon is so intelligent and fun ! You will appreciate and enjoy this episode.
Tammy talks with Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of two amazing books, "A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex" and "Becoming Cliterate". Dr. MIntz is a huge advocate for the advancement of female sexuality. Her work is excellent! This episode is for all the wives who feel stuck as the high desire partner.
Get ready to LEARN! Wow! Tammy's conversation with Christian therapist and educator, Brandi Harris, was all about this question, "Why Sex? Why is sex part of God's plan for His children?" Such an informative and gospel-centered conversation about sex as part of the Divine Plan.
Such an insightful interview with marriage enthusiast, Monica Tanner. It really is up to you to decide what your marriage relationship becomes.
Tammy discusses at length the process of working through sexual inhibitions with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. There are many "nuggets" of wisdom in this episode, delivered as only JFF can do.
Tammy is frequently asked, "Do you think we need therapy?" In this week's Live Your Why podcast episode, she answers this question with the incredible licensed marriage and family therapist, Aly Bullock. If you have ever wondered if your marriage could benefit from couples counseling, this episode it for YOU!
You can learn more about Aly's work on Instagram @therapywithalyb or on her website https://www.alysonbullock.com/
"The feelings you have about your body, as well as the confidence level in intimately relating to your spouse defines sexual self-esteem," says this week's Live Your Why podcast guest, cosmetic dermatologist, Dr. Austin Cope. There are nuggets of truth found throughout this thoughtful conversation Tammy shares with Dr. Cope, as they discuss the philosophy of beauty restoration, rather than bodily augmentation.
You can learn more about Dr. Cope's amazing work on Instagram @copecosmeticdermotology or on his website: https://copecosmeticderm.com/
Aging and sexuality is such an important topic for EVERYONE! On this Live Your Why podcast episode, Dr. Justin Johnsen discusses in detail what physiologically occurs with aging, as well as possible treatments for age associated sexual dysfunction.
You can learn more about Dr. Johnsen on Instagram @remedicalclinic or on his website www.https://remedical.com/
Kristin Andrus, and her husband, Jeremy, are big business owners, philanthropic gurus, and are raising a large family. In this Live Your Why podcast episode, Tammy talks with Kristin about balancing the busyness of life while prioritizing her marriage relationship. Kristin is full of practical, everyday advice that anyone can use. Her effervescent personality comes through loud-and-clear as she discusses her choice not to be a difficult, dramatic, or demanding wife. Listen in and learn some important practices involved with living aligned.
You can learn more about the amazing work that Kristin Andrus does by following her on Instagram @kristinandrus
In this Live Your Why podcast episode, Tammy discusses the mission of the show -- to strengthen marriages and families by enhancing sexual connection within spousal relationship. Tammy asks some important questions that might inspire you to do some work in changing the sexual dynamic of your marriage.
Tammy always appreciates feedback. Don't hesitate to email tammy@tammyhill.com with suggestions.
Merry Christmas! I hope you will choose to create lasting memories this holiday season and remember what Christmas is all about.
This episode is SO informative! I always learn so much when I visit with Dr. Ty Mansfield. In this episode, Ty and I discuss the laws of attraction, how attraction impacts romantic relationships, and what control or influence we have when it comes to choosing whom we are attracted to.
Listen in and learn.
Have you ever wanted to understand what sexual pleasure really means? Or why it is often challenging for women to accept and experience the goodness that can come from sexual touch?
This episode is full of little nuggets of truth! Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins Tammy today in discussing the importance of embracing pleasure wholeheartedly.
It was truly an honor to visit with a woman I've long admired. Elizabeth Smart is an incredible survivor who is actively working to teach wholehearted consent to young people. In the state of Utah, 1 in 3 women are sexually assaulted. Elizabeth is an advocate for victims of sexual violence, as well as actively working to prevent assault by preparing people to understand consent.
Listen in and learn from the amazing Elizabeth Smart.
This short, solo episode with Tammy Hill will set you up for greatly enhanced meaning to your Thanksgiving experiences this week. Take on Tammy Thanksgiving Challenge. Email her about your experiences (tammy@tammyhill.com).
Be safe in your journey as you live your why with gratitude!
Christian Sex Coach, Amanda Louder talks with Tammy about embracing your mature feminine sexuality in this Live Your Why Podcast episode. Amanda is full of fun energy and advice that will enable women to further understand their divine sexual heritage. DON'T MISS THIS EPISODE!
This episode is FULL of practical suggestions to help women embrace the happiness and joy that can only be experienced through embodiment. The body positive coach, Ashley Rose Reeves (Instagram @ashleyrosereeves) visits with Tammy and shares ideas to help women enjoy romantic and sexual relationships regardless of body size and shape. You will fall in love with Ashley as she vulnerably shares about her own journey to body and sexual confidence.
Dr. Morgan Cutlip, author of the book, "Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself" records with Tammy in this latest Live Your Why podcast episode. Morgan shares practical advice to help parents, mothers in particular, thrive as individuals, as spouses within their marriage relationships, and as they actively parent their children. Tammy wishes she had Morgan's RAM Model years ago! You will not want to miss this interview if you're a parent.
In this informative and entertaining podcast episode, Tammy visits with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about factors that influence libido and sexual desire.
Today Tammy talks with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, a NYC-based Sex Therapist and Relationship Expert. She is the author of the excellent book, "Satisfaction Guaranteed". We discuss the truth about using sexual accessories, particularly vibrators.
Today I visit with Nick & Amy McKinlay, owners of the Ultimate Intimacy App. We talk about how to keep the spark of romance and passion alive in marriage.
Listen to Tammy and Karissa talk about setting expectations in the bedroom and why it's crucial!
Learn from Rachel and Tammy as they discuss how to build a spiritual connection in marriage and its importance in a relationship.
In this episode, Tammy meets with Dr. Kelly Casperson, certified urologist and pelvic floor expert.
Listen to Tammy introduce some of the exciting things coming up in Season 4 of Live Your Why in this episode.
We are both retiring this year from our teaching careers at Brigham Young University! What's next for us after BYU?
Jeff is retiring! Listen to this episode with my husband, Jeff Hill, as he shares lessons he has learned over his time teaching at BYU.
Some of the challenge of showing up sexually when you’re pregnant is the ability to feel really sexy because your body is so different. Redefining “sexy” has helped me accept these changes. The phrase that helps me show up is, “Strong is so sexy!”
If you don’t know Carlie Palmer Webb @thechristiansexeducator yet, be prepared to make a new friend on this week’s podcast episode! Carlie is so human, natural, and fun as she shares with me her first experience of being pregnant.
As a sex educator, Carlie shares what couples can expect sexually during each trimester of pregnancy, from bodily changes to relational differences. If you’re expecting, or planning on becoming pregnant, this episode is a must listen. If you just want to reminisce, like I did, and have some good laughs, this episode will make your day!
In today’s podcast I visit with Dr. Lauren Barnes about body image and relationships—relationships with yourself, in dating and marriage, and in parenting.
Lauren has some exceptional advice for self-acceptance, especially in learning to love your body’s unique qualities. Start small by accepting the things that you appreciate about your body.
As you start focusing on your own strengths and self-development, your ability to attract mature people increases. Confidence is sexy!
You deserve to be with somebody who will respect and love your body.
As parents, we need to get comfortable with uncomfortable conversations. If we start talking with our children when they are young about sexuality and their amazing bodies, it will be more comfortable for everyone.
Dina Alexander is a gem! Her wealth of knowledge and ability to assist parents in teaching about sensitive topics is unmatched. Her business, Educate and Empower Kids, @eduempowerkids has well researched books, along with parenting advice for topics from sexuality (at each stage of childhood) to digital-age strategies. I appreciate her book’s conversational approach which gives clarity to what types questions and answers are most helpful. If you’re not familiar with Dina Alexander, now you know! Visit her website or Instagram shop to see the wonderful parenting resources, all right at your fingertips.
Listen today as I visit with Ashlee Sorensen @heyashleenoel. Ashlee is a personal coach specializing in hormones, and we talk about maturely discussing menstruation, pms, and moods in marriage.
When I have a student or client really ready to quit porn I send them to an amazing coach, Sara Brewer @sarabrewercoaching . Sara's approach to overcoming porn for good works! Today we talk about how learning to overcome urges can bless your life. Sara also hosts the Overcoming Pornography for good podcast which is an excellent source of information for individuals, couples, and families. Her approach is all about anti-shame while being sex-positive, a healthy combination for life.
Today’s podcast is with a woman I greatly admire, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We are discussing Male Sexual Shame, which is a common situation for many very good men.
Do men feel shame because they are the high-desire partner or because they feel they have to act like the high desire partner?
Do men feel less faithful and righteous because they seek for sexual acceptance?
Would men experience less sexual anxiety if women would collaborate in creating a dynamic sexual relationship?
These are a few of the questions that we discuss in today’s episode of the Live Your Why podcast.
In this episode, I discuss important conversations to have with your partner before getting married with Dr. Jason Whiting. Dr. Whiting is a fellow therapist and I love his direct approach to having vulnerable conversations.
In this episode, I talk with Tamara Johnson about her experience with dating! Tamara decided when she was 31, she decided she wanted to date 31 different people for 31 days. Listen to hear about her experience and what she learned.
It can become easy to feel that monogamy is also monotony. So many of us get into a relationship that becomes routine and monotonous. What was once perhaps a great sex-life just seems to dissipate with time. I want to help you stop having "leftover sex". I want you to look at each other with energy, desire, and a commitment to invest in your sexual stewardship. Today I talk with Dan Purcell, host of the Get Your Marriage On podcast about sexual playfulness in marriage and spicing things up with your spouse.
The essential need for both a mother and a father to provide genetic material for survival parallels what social science tells us about the importance of mothers and fathers in children’s development. Fathers and mothers bring similar, even indistinguishable, capacities that enable healthy child development. But like the complementarity of the left and right halves of the brain, they also bring distinct capacities that provide complementary, irreplaceable contributions to children’s healthy development.
If your relationship dynamic happens to be one where sometimes you feel more like roommates than lovers, then this particular episode might be helpful for you! I talk with Kyle and Alanna from Kingdom sexuality. They are both Christians who have a real desire to help people to help couples claim the joy that can be found within the sexual component of marriage.
00:00 - 04:50 - Introduction
04:50 - 14:04 - Background on Kristen A. Jenson and her career
14:05 - 21:36 - Defining Pornography
21:37 - 29:59 - Protecting and teaching younger children
30:00 - 35:52 - Protecting and teaching older children
35:53 - 39:59 - Preventative measures
40:00 - 42:43 - Avoiding shame
42:44 - 43:23 - Concluding thoughts
Life is complicated, more today than ever before! In this podcast interview with Dr. Ty Mansfield, we will define and discuss the intricacies of attraction, sexual orientation, and mixed orientation marriages. Get ready to have your questions answered!
Sexual orientation refers to who you are sexually attracted to and who you want to be in a relationship with. Sexuality exists on a spectrum, both in who we are attracted to and how we want to be physical with our partners. Whether you are questioning your sexuality, considering coming out about your sexuality, or trying to support a friend who is questioning their sexuality, understanding sexuality and our own sexual identity is an important part of getting to know ourselves and forming healthy relationships with others.
00:00-06:56 - Introduction to Dr. Yorgenson.
06:56-15:20 - 4 things you can do to increase longevity and the quality of your life.
15:20 - 18:40 - helping and caring for loved ones as they age.
18:40 -23:56 - Making decisions for the long-term care for your loved ones.
23:56 - 27:04 - Aging and The Plan of Happiness.
27:04 - 30:32 - Dr. Yorgenson's Why.
00:00-01:00 - Introduction
01:00-07:33 - Why understanding female orgasm is important
07:33-08:55 - All about Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
08:55-15:08 - Culture and gender's influences in discovering pleasure
15:08-19:09 - The brain as an important factor in female orgasm
19:09-25:00 - Learning to surrender
25:00-31:25 - The importance of connection and commitment
31:25-38:00 - The Psychological factors in attraction and arousal
38:00-45:45 - Sexual self-discovery and fulfillment
45:45-49:42 - Conclusion and Jennifer's why
00:00-05:42 - Introduction to the topic of Faith Deconstruction
05:43-08:05 - Nikki's background and education
08:06-12:06 - Causes and resources in faith deconstruction
12:07-15:24 - The feeling of betrayal
15:25-25:06 - Every marriage is a mixed-faith marriage
25:07-28:09 - Strategies for coping with faith differences in marriage
28:10-33:44 - Helping children in faith deconstruction
33:45-40:09 - Dating advice and what to watch for
40:10-44:44 - Therapy and seeking help
44:45-49:06 - Nikki's advice for young adults
49:07-50:51 - Nikki's why & the outro
00:41-05:00 Introduction to gender dysphoria, gender sterotypes, and Tammy's sister Steph Povey's book "You Can't Play, You're a Girl"
05:01-06:55 Ty Mansfield Introduction and background
6:56-10:00 Ty's books and defining terms about gender
10:01-11:15 gender implications and temperaments
11:16-15:00 Homosexual, heterosexual, and transgender
15:01-19:46 Gender dysphoria
19:47-28:46 Keeping your relationship with your child strong through gender challenges or changes
28:47-40:00 Keeping the conversation about gender going and more common
40:00-44:00 Takeaways and action items
44:00-47:05 Ty's why and outro
00:00-04:40 Introduction to erotic discipleship
04:41-07:20 Jennifer’s thoughts on sexual thinking + discipleship
07:21-08:28 Tammy’s thoughts on discipleship
08:29-13:27moral frameworks and adjusting our thinking about sexuality
13:28-16:06 Our Heavenly Parents
16:07-16:48 Appreciating our bodies
16:49-21:39 Wisdom and sexuality
21:40-23:56 Accountability and trauma
23:57-32:45 Past sins + experiences
32:46-38:44 Jennifer’s why + the outro
00:00-00:42 - Introduction
00:42-04:58 - My personal experiences with infertility
04:58-09:00 - Jenica's experiences with infertility
09:25-14:22 - B- minus work and perfectionism
14:22-15:56 - The fear of moving forward
15:56-17:41 - Relying on God
17:41-19:03 - When plans change
19:03-24:47 - Choosing to share her experience & her recovery
24:37-26:13 - A support system and finding the good
26:13-27:40 - Jenica's childrens' names
27:40-30:00 - Types of pain
30:00-34:13 - Coming to terms with feelings
34:13-36:18 - Jenica's "why"
36:18- end - outro
00:00 Introduction to season 3
00:52 Your why + understanding core values
02:30 Anxiety + doing hard things, the war in heaven
05:20 How to “win” the war again
05:28 Step 1: Faith in Christ
06:25 Step 2: Sharing testimony
07:10 Step 3: Holding true unto our testimonies, even unto death
08:10 Overcoming the world
09:30 Hold fast to gospel truths now!