Real Stories. Real People.: Recent Episodes
Ashley Jo Brewer
Real Stories Real People is a personal journal, mental health, and self-improvement podcast where we're shattering stigma, one story at a time. We're committed to talking about the tough things in life, so that others can find hope. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
As an infant, Paul Forchione was diagnosed with cerebral palsy and his mother was told he would never be able to walk. His mom refused to take that for an answer and after months of searching was able to find someone who could help. Paul learned how to walk and eventually made the varsity baseball team. Tune in to hear Paul share his inspiring story as he discusses how to rewrite your story.
Connect with Paul Forchione
- Paul's Website | acalltoaction.coach
- Instagram | @acalltoaction80
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- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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Today we have Andy Grant talking about why men hide their feelings by sharing his personal story. Andy is a suicide attempt survivor, a transformational energy coach, the founder of Real Men Feel, and an Amazon best-selling author.
Andy is also a husband, world traveler, actor, speaker, teacher, lifelong learner and suicide prevention activist. Andy believes in living a life you love and creates books, workshops, and programs supporting that. Andy can be found at theandygrant.com.
There's lots to cover, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Connect with Andy Grant
- Andy's Website | theandygrant.com
- Instagram | @andy_grant
- Facebook | @afgrant
Connect with Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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At the age of 20, Jenessa MacKenzie became a mom. Ready or not, she was forced to tackle everything that came along with motherhood. She did everything necessary to survive and provide for her daughter - living on state aid, clipping coupons, and asking for help.
After some time with her daughter, she started dating and got married. Eventually, she found herself in the midst of narcissistic abuse avoiding an inevitable divorce.
Over time, Jenessa has been able to heal and discover her life's purpose. She now uses her experience to help others and has the unique gift of being able to mix the woo with the do and use her tangible, aligned action, results driven, leadership to help others.
There's lots to cover, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Connect with Jenessa MacKenzie
- Jenessa's Website | theelevatedentrepreneur.net
- Instagram | @the_elevated_entrepreneur
- Facebook | @jenessamackenziecoaching
Connect with Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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Join Sam and Mandi for a discussion surrounding the stories of Carly Israel, Charlene Gethons, Kawan Glover, and Samantha Laycock. Throughout this After the Show, they discuss:
- The impact of social media on mental health
- How recovery impacts everyone involved
- Sitting with your problems
- The misconceptions surrounding mindfulness
- The common elements in each of the stories
There's lots to cover, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
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Being a survivor of sexual assault, Samantha’s story is painful, raw, and heartbreaking. In 2014, Samantha reached a breaking point in her life. She was depressed and lonely despite the fact that she put a smile on her face every day and pretended everything was okay. By sharing the story of her sexual assault through a blog post, Samantha embarked on a journey filled with self-growth, self-healing, and self-love.
Now, as an avid blogger, Samantha helps women share their stories through blogging to embark on their own healing journey while creating their own support community. She owns Samantha Laycock Blogging at https://www.samanthalaycock.com/.
Samantha’s story covers the topic of sexual assault. If this is something you may find difficult to hear, please feel free to sit this one out.
Episode 28, tune in, and hang on, because here we go
Episode Resources
- RAINN | rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Connect with Samantha Laycock
- Samantha's Website | samanthalaycock.com
- Instagram | @samanthalaycockblogging
Connect with Could've Been Me, Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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Kawan Glover is many things, but the word survivor is definitely at the top of the list. He survived a stroke, opioid addiction, multiple brain surgeries, and a battle with depression. Throughout the process of it all, Kawan found his life’s purpose. Kawan now an author and life coach who uses his story to inspire others and transform them from victim to victor.
Kawan detailed his transformative journey in a book called Favor: How Stroke Struggle and Surgery Helped Me Find My Life's Purpose. Today, he shares his life story with us, and there’s lots to cover, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Episode Resources
- Kawan's Book | Favor: How Stroke Struggle and Surgery Helped Me Find My Life's Purpose | Amazon
Connect with Kawan Glover
- Kawan's Website | kawanglover.com
- Instagram | @kawanglover
- Facebook Group | @OvercomeAdversityWithKawan
Connect with Could've Been Me, Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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About eight years ago, Charlene was hit by a bus. Yes, a real bus, an actual bus, like the phrase so many of us use, “I feel like I was hit by a bus.” Well, Charlene actually was. So, before you say that phrase again, think about Charlene and Charlene’s story.
Being hit by a bus fractured Charlene's skull and caused significant brain swelling. This led to four neurosurgeries, a bone infection, and a chronic non-healing wound. Being left with a traumatic brain injury, Charlene embarked on a healing journey that is truly incredible - a journey we'll share today. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Episode Disclaimer
This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
Connect with Charlene
- Website | themindfulnessjourney.com
- Instagram | @themindfulnessjourney
Connect with Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
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Carly Israel is the author of Seconds and Inches and founder of the podcasts Must Love Self, In Your Corner Divorce, and Northstar Big Book. In addition to her book, she has written about parenting, divorce, and recovery. Carly is an executive relationship and divorce coach, mother of three boys, seeker, and lover of life.
Throughout the episode Carly discusses what it was like growing up with two alcoholic parents, how she found recovery, the difficulties of divorce, and what life has been like with an ill child.
There's a lot to take in, so here we go!
Episode DisclaimerThis show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
Episode Resources
- Alcoholics Anonymous | aa.org
Connect with Carly
- Website | carlyisrael.com
- Instagram | @carlyisrael1279
Connect with Our Nonprofit
- Website | itcouldvebeenme.org
- Facebook | @couldvebeenme
- Instagram | @it.couldve.been.me
- Purchase Official Merchandise | bonfire.com/store/couldve-been-me
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Kevin Nahai is a public speaker and personal coach who focuses his work on dating and relationships, anxiety management, and self-respect and confidence. Kevin’s personal experience being diagnosed with a chronic incurable disease, struggling with anorexia, and combatting suicidal ideations allows him to be an excellent mentor. Throughout the conversation, you’ll hear Kevin share how he found his purpose in life and is now helping others with some of the same struggles he has had.
Episode Resources
- Kevin's Instagram | @kevinnahai
- Could've Been Me Merch Store | bonfire.com/store/couldve-been-me/
Show DisclaimerThis show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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Dana Hansen and her two siblings Kasey and Bryce experienced a traditional midwest upbringing being raised by their parents on the family farm. Dana's childhood memories include 4-H, watching Saturday Nebraska Cornhuskers football games, and helping her mom prepare for family gatherings.
Their family bond continued well into adulthood. In fact, Dana and Kasey even lived together for a while and shared a love of sports, Netflix, and dogs. One day in 2017, their families lives changed forever when Dana's sister Kasey had a heart attack. The days that followed Kasey's heart attack came with a whirlwind of emotions and decisions for the family, and they were devastated when Kasey passed away.
Today, they do everything they can to keep Kasey's legacy moving forward. Dana's mother and cousin even started Kasey's Kindness Acts on Facebook where people do and share random acts of kindness in memory of Kasey.
Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Join Mandi, Sam, and Ashley and they discuss the stories shared by Dr. Shalee, Payton, Megan, and Larry. Throughout episode 22, they'll cover the topics of:
- Adverse childhood experiences
- Parenting
- Infertility
- Binge eating disorder
- Getting help and asking for help
- Suicide awareness and prevention
Tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Stories Covered
- E21 | Lawrence Sprung
- E20 | Megan te Boekhorst
- E19 | Payton Lynch
- E18 | Dr. Shalee Horstman
Additional Resources
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – afsp.org
- Could’ve Been Me Official Merchandise
Show DisclaimerThis show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
About Our Nonprofit, Could've Been MeCould've Been Me is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that exists to inspire those who are struggling in life to use their voice and ask for help. We do this by partnering with schools and organizations, talking about the tough things in life, sharing stories that are too often left untold, and educating people about wellness - ultimately shattering the stigma that surrounds mental health and life's other challenges.
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Lawrence Sprung, also known as Larry, is the founder and wealth advisor of Mitlin Financial. Larry is the Host of the Mitlin Money Mindset - a podcast about the financial, money, and recreational mindset needed to successfully plan for and live your best life.
Larry serves as an active volunteer on the National Board of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. He and his wife Denise have raised more than 1.5 M dollars for the Keith Milano Memorial Fund in memory of his brother-in-law, who lost his life to suicide.
In Episode 21, he discusses what it was like to lose his brother-in-law to suicide, how he and his wife have dedicated their live to helping others, and how you can get involved and help save a life.
Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Show Links
- The Keith Milano Memorial Fund
- Denise's Goodbye, read by Mandi during the show
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - afsp.org
- Connect with Larry on LinkedIn
- Could've Been Me Official Merchandise
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Megan te Boekhorst was born and raised in Canada. As a teenager, she found herself in an emotionally abusive relationship. Shortly after ending that relationship, she realized that her relationship with food was unhealthy. Megan sought out on a journey to find the help she needed and live a life of recovery. Being diagnosed with binge eating disorder, this was no easy task as it has only been in recent years that binge eating disorder was recognized as an official diagnosis.
After finding her own path to recovery, Megan te Boekhorst is now a certified life coach, therapeutic art coach, and fierce mental health advocate. Megan knows that negative self-talk and fear are two of the most common reasons people don’t pursue their big, scary, amazing goals. As a life coach, Megan teaches people how she has learned how to shut down her own destructive thinking and manage fear, allowing people to discover happiness every single day.
Additional Resources
- The Sequoia Life
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Before we start a few disclaimers… This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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Growing up, Payton was the oldest of five children. Captivated at a young age by Disney’s storytelling, Payton dreamed of dancing down Main Street, USA. She now holds her dream job and tells stories through the magic of Guest engagement as a Product Manager at The Walt Disney Company.
Payton always thought she would have a large family of her own, but after meeting the man of her dreams, securing her dream job, and beginning to settle down, things didn’t go as planned. Payton and her husband Jon are currently fighting a battle with infertility.
In the midst of her battle with infertility, Payton turned to something she has always loved to cope - writing. In 2020 she decided to take the plunge and write her first book which is inspired by her husband Jon and his story as a 9/11 surviving child. Her book, Rise from the Ashes, will explore the stories of 9/11 surviving children hoping to uncover what it means to bounce forward after tragedy. Pre-sales for Rise from the Ashes start in April of 2021.
During Episode 19, Payton and Ashley discuss her journey with infertility, the development of her new book, and more. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Additional Information
- Payton's Linktr.ee
- More about Payton's upcoming book Rise from the Ashes
- A Purpose in Pain blog Mother or Not, You Matter
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During this special episode of Real Stories Real People Mandi is joined by Dr. Shalee Horstman to discuss the healing power of storytelling, understanding adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), and happiness hygiene.
Dr. Shalee Horstman is a psychotherapist and the founder of Denver Counseling Group where therapists provide a refreshing alternative to the traditional medical visit. She works with children, adolescents and adults who are suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, self esteem difficulties, ADHD management, defiant behaviors, anger difficulties, emotional reactivity, and those going through the process of divorce.
Episode 18 brings a professional viewpoint to the healing power of sharing stories, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go! Additional Resources
- Denver Counseling Group
- Moxie Support Groups
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Ashley, Mandi, and Sam get together to discuss episodes 13 to 16 which feature the stories of Kourtni, Rick, Laddan, and Jody. Their discussion is real, raw, and honest. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Podcast DisclaimerThis show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
Additional Resources
- Embrace Church | Discussion on Suicide and Depression with Adam, Holly, and Heather
- Heather Palacios | Getting Honest About Depression and Suicide
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Growing up the youngest sibling in a large family, Jody Allen-Bisio wasn't always 'in the know.' As a result, she struggled to find herself and discover her individuality. After being taught that drinking a glass of water would solve every problem in the world, Jody quickly learned that picking up a glass of alcohol seemed like it would. Little did she know the journey this would take her on - one that led to alcoholism, getting sober, and eventually recovery.
Ashley and Jody first met in a 12-step recovery meeting. In Episode 16, they take some time to dig into Jody's story and discuss the defining moments in her journey including how she found sobriety and eventually became a counselor. Since finding recovery, Jody Allen-Bisio has worked in the field of recovery as a counselor for more than a decade.
Her story is crazy, inspirational, and courageous. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Laddan Abbasi is an extrovert who often found herself questioning, am I a loner, do I fit in? Laddan's life journey has helped her understand how to identify toxic relationships, establish healthy boundaries, and the importance of embracing equality in the workplace.
Throughout Episode 15 of Real Stories Real People Laddan and her friend Sam Montgomery revisit many of Laddan's defining moments in life and discuss the importance of standing up for yourself and being firm in your morals and beliefs.
Laddan's story is a bit different than some of the others we've shared as it discusses the topic of peer pressure - something everyone faces at some point throughout their life. You'll see how Laddan set boundaries with dignity and grace, and how she learned not to compromise her morals or values in the process. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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In Episode 14, Ashley meets with Rick Werry. Rick was born in a small town in Utah. He grew up the youngest of four kids on a dairy farm. As a teenager Rick loved sports and being outdoors. In 2007, Rick married his college sweetheart Tara.
One year later while building their house, Rick was in a construction accident and broke his neck. His life changed that day as Rick became paralyzed from the chest down. Rick was scared, sad, and unsure what the future may hold when a nurse came into his hospital room. The nurse was holding a red pen and a calendar. She told Rick that any time you accomplish something you couldn't do yesterday we will write it down and call it a "Red Letter Day.”
Rick has taken that nurses advice not only for recovering from a spinal cord injury, but also as a life lesson. In Rick's 'wheelchair life,' he has accomplished so many amazing things. He has a handcycle and rides long distances, plays wheelchair rugby, and is always hunting. Rick and Tara now have twin boys. Rick is a great dad and always playing with the boys. Rick hopes to compile his life lessons and Red letter Days into a memoir and plans to have it published.
Ashley and Rick meet to discuss his journey, accomplishments, and why he feels so blessed to have the life he has. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Since a young age, Kourtni Wolfe has struggled with anxiety. In Episode 13, Kourtni meets with her life-long friend Samantha Montgomery to discuss her struggles, how she finds hope in the midst of them, and what helps her cope with everything life brings her way.
Throughout the episode Kourtni and Sam discuss:
- When Kourtni realized that she had anxiety.
- What life was like for Kourtni being raised without a father.
- How Kourtni has managed her depression and anxiety throughout various phases and stages in her life.
- What having twins amidst her struggle has been like.
- How her children bring her joy on a daily basis.
Kourtni's story is raw, real, and inspiring. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Show Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. Episode 12 specifically discusses suicide and being molested at a young age. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
In Episode 12 of Real Stories Real People, Ashley, Mandi, and Sam get together to discuss Sabrina, Paul, and Keith's stories. Throughout this After the Show, they discuss:
- How media can impact your mental health in a negative way amidst the COVID-19 pandemic.
- The inspiration in Sabrina's story when her perspective changes after her COVID diagnosis.
- Why Paul's story and charisma were so inspiring, especially within the Christian community.
- How Mandi and Ashley both felt they weren't a strong enough Christian when they struggled with depression during their teens.
- How Keith and Paul's stories share a common theme - black men asking for help.
- Keith's experience being molested and how difficult it would be to comprehend something like that at such a young age.
- Why there is so much shame surrounding going to therapy or seeing a counselor, and what we can do to normalize therapy.
Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Additional Resources
- Blog Article - Alcoholism: What Is Alcoholism?
- Mental Health Statistics and Facts
- Moxie Support Groups
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Important Note About Episode 11: Episode 11 includes discussion about sexual trauma and molestation that began at a young age. If this is something that may trigger you, you may want to sit this episode out.
During Episode 11 of Real Stories Real People, Ashley meets with her dear friend Keith Smith to discuss sexual assault, alcoholism, and struggling as a black man asking for help.
Keith’s story is met with trials and tribulations but also filled with resilience, discovery, strength, and perseverance. During Episode 11, you'll hear:
- How Keith experienced inappropriate sexual behavior starting at the age of nine.
- When and how he learned his brother had also been molested.
- Why he so often asked himself, 'Who loves me?' growing up.
- His journey with alcoholism including when he realized he had a problem.
- About his personal struggle when it came to asking for help as a black man.
- What 'getting help' looked like for Keith.
- How Keith's higher power prepared him for some tough moments early in his recovery journey.
- The importance of having a strong community of people surrounding you.
We are so proud of Keith for sharing his story with us. We hope you'll tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Could've Been Me Is a nonprofit organization that exists to Inspire those struggling In life to use their voice and ask for help. For more Information, please visit: https://itcouldvebeenme.org/
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In Episode 10, Ashley meets with Paul Calcote a fellow podcaster and pastor who has struggled with depression. Paul was born and raised in Mississippi by his parents who were also pastors. He currently resides in Houston, Texas and serves as a Young Adult Pastor at Champion Forest Baptist Church - Champions Campus.
Throughout Episode 10, Paul and Ashley discuss:
- How he has dealt with depression multiple times throughout his life.
- Why not meeting 'cultural norms' when it comes to the timeline of life made his depression deeper.
- A moment where he thought about driving off of a bridge.
- How COVID-19 has impacted his life.
- A concept Paul calls vent joy.
- Why finding joy daily is beyond important in his life journey.
Paul lets his personality shine through. You won't want to miss his story, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
To learn more about Paul, check out his podcast Real People, Real Talk!
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In Episode 9, Mandi meets with her life-long friend Sabrina Van Schepen to discuss mental health and COVID-19 and all of the unexpected a COVID diagnosis can bring.
Throughout the show Mandi and Sabrina discuss:
- What it was like for Sabrina to receive a COVID diagnosis just before Christmas.
- How Sabrina handled being isolated over the holidays.
- Why Sabrina had to abstain from social media during her isolation.
- How you can support someone who is quarantined or in isolation.
This episode takes a slight different view on mental health, but it is one that is necessary in 2020 and 2021. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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During After the Show, Mandi and Ashley discuss Case's story, the story of the Stetson family, and Sam DeCosmo's story. The topics of illness, grief, death, experiencing suicidal ideations, and finding joy amidst hardship are discussed.
If you have lost someone you love, have experienced suicidal ideations, or are looking for ways to find joy amidst hardship, this may be the episode for you. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Links and Resources
Tom & Lindsay's Nonprofit : SpreadJOY
Sam DeCosmo's Blog: A Purpose in Pain
Ashley's Caringbridge Journal: Cornelius Brewer
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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In Episode 7, Ashley meets with Samantha 'Sam' DeCosmo. Sam is a wife, a rescue dog mom, and a blogger who believes in the power of sharing stories to help others feel less alone in theirs.
Throughout Episode 7, Sam eloquently shares about:
- Her journey with chronic pain.
- The headache that lasted for 16-years and still occasionally rears its head today.
- How she struggled in her journey to find answers about what was causing her pain.
- How pain led her to a point of extreme depression.
- What it was like experiencing suicidal ideations.
- How she found love in the midst of chronic pain.
- Why her support system has been such an important part of her journey.
- What it is like living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome.
- Why she decided to find a purpose in the midst of her pain.
Sam's story is one of resilience and beauty. It's about taking a crappy situation and making the best of it. Sam is committed to finding meaning and beauty in life's obstacles and truly has found a purpose in pain.
Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
To learn more about Sam, check out her blog, A Purpose in Pain.
Real Stories. Real People. is proudly brought to you by Could've Been Me, a nonprofit organization that exists to inspire people who are struggling In life to use their voice and ask for help. For more information visit https://itcouldvebeenme.org/ or email info@itcouldvebeenme.org.
DISCLAIMER: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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After receiving a poor prognosis while fighting a battle with cancer, Lindsay Anne Stetson made it her life goal to live like she was dying. In the midst of her own pain, she found ways to SpreadJOY to others on a daily basis through social media. In her last days on earth, she filed paperwork to start a nonprofit, SpreadJOY. The mission of SpreadJOY is to fulfill needs for and give a pick-me-up to people going through a difficult time in their life.
Throughout Episode 6, Ashley met with Lindsay's husband Dr. Tom Stetson. His story includes much more than Lindsay's journey to start SpreadJOY. Ashley and Tom also discuss:
- How he and Lindsay met. You'll literally hear him light up sharing this story!
- The story of the 50+ hour birth of Tom and Lindsay's son Connor.
- How Tom was able to see God's sense of humor after making jokes about building an ark right before his chiropractic clinic flooded.
- How Connor receiving a feeding tube at the same time that Lindsay was receiving treatment impacted Dr. Tom personally.
- The tremendous amount of love and support Tom, Lindsay, and Connor have received from their tribe.
Dr. Tom will have you laughing and crying, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Ashley's world came crashing down on her the day that she turned 23-years-old when her son, Cornelius John Brewer, was diagnosed with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA) and given a 50% chance to live to see his second birthday. How does a parent grasp this type of news?
During Episode 5, you'll hear Ashley and Sam discuss the life and death of Ashley's son, Cornelius John Brewer, or baby Case as many know him. It's a story that includes highs and lows, ups and downs, joy and sorrow. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
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Join Ashley, Sam, and Mandi for the very first After the Show where we discuss common themes, statistics, data, and listener feedback from the previous episodes. During Episode 4, we discuss anxiety, depression, showing up for people who are struggling, and so much more. Tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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Anxiety began for Samantha "Sam" Montgomery at a young age, but she didn't know what it was or what to do about it. It was in a college psychology class where Sam finally realized that there was a name for all of the thoughts and feelings she had been experiencing for so many years - anxiety. She reached out to her mom, sought the help of a professional, and began on her own personal recovery journey.
Throughout Episode 3, Sam and Ashley connect to discuss her coping mechanisms and recovery journey. Sam openly shares:
- What she was feeling at a young age
- How she has been paralyzed at times by perfectionism
- When she realized that she had anxiety and what she decided to do about it
- The misconceptions surrounding anxiety when there is no known associated trauma
- How everyone's journey to recovery is different
During the show, Sam also shares how her own family was affected by suicide after losing a close family member to it. She walks through her journey of coming to accept that it had happened and that it was suicide and talks about how her family has changed for the better as a result.
This is an episode you won't want to miss, so tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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Mandi Wolfswinkel is a mom, a wife, a third grade teacher, and one tough woman. Her story hasn't always been easy, but through it all she has realized that life is so much better when it’s done with each other. Not perfectly…..but authentically, and most importantly…together.
During Episode 2, life-long friends Mandi and Ashley connect to discuss Mandi's journey in life thus far. Mandi very openly shares about:
- Her struggle to fit in while in high school.
- What it was like to navigate her teen pregnancy and all of the challenges that came with it.
- How she handled her parent's divorce when she felt like life was falling apart.
- Her personal struggle with depression and abuse of her prescription as a way to cope with life.
- How she opened up publicly about her struggle with depression and how it was perceived.
- What the stigma surrounding depression actually feels like when you're living in the midst of it.
- How important it is to find your people and keep them close.
- Her recent decision to go back to therapy.
Mandi's authenticity is both heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time. So, tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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During episode 1 of Real Stories Real People, Could've Been Me Founder, Ashley Brewer, discusses her journey of finding recovery with her life-long friend Mandi. Ashley's journey Is both difficult and inspiring at the same time. Ashley wouldn't be who she is today if it weren't for her experience in life and the community of people who has been there for her through it all.
Throughout episode 1, Ashley and Mandi discuss:
- How being bullied as a young child impacted Ashley's emotional state.
- Why tremendous anxiety to fit in eventually led to self-harm.
- How one drink changed Ashley's life forever.
- The diagnosis and eventual death of Ashley's son, Cornelius John Brewer.
- The demise of her marriage following the death of her son and her part in it.
- Her first, second, and third addiction.
- Reaching a place of total utter desperation that eventually led Ashley to overdose.
- How recovery often isn't a linear journey.
- The importance of having a community of people to support you through challenges in life.
The power in Ashley's story is that it is real, raw, and honest. So tune in, and hang on, because here we go.
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show.
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Welcome to Real Stories Real People - a personal journal, mental health, and self-improvement podcast. We're shattering stigma, one story at a time. The numbers related to mental health and other challenges in life are astonishing:
- Nearly 1 in 5 adults lives with mental illness.
- 17% of youth experience a mental health disorder.
- 50% of lifetime mental illness begins by the age of 14.
- 75% begins by the age of 24.
- 40 million adults experience some form of anxiety.
- Most people develop symptoms of anxiety before the age of 21.
- Every 12 minutes one person in the U.S. dies by suicide. 75% are male.
- 8.5 million adults in the U.S. have a mental health disorder AND a substance use disorder.
- In 2017, 1 out of every 8 adults reported struggling with alcohol and drug use disorder simultaneously.
- 15% of teens report some form of self-injury.
- 9% of people in the U.S. will experience an eating disorder at some point in their lifetime.
- There is one death every 52 minutes as a direct result of an eating disorder.
- About 1 in 5 women, or 21.3% in the U.S. reported that someone completed or attempted to rape them at some point in their life.
- The self-reported incidence of rape and sexual assault more than doubled from 2017 to 2018.
- Only 50% of teen moms receive a high school diploma by the age of 22.
- 20 to 25% of teens of divorced parents experience problems stemming from the changes in the family.
Life is hard, and it’s time we start talking about it. Real Stories Real People is where we do just that. Each week we'll be joined by someone who has experienced some of life's tough stuff - depression, anxiety, suicidal ideations, abuse, assault, a terminal diagnosis, death, divorce, the list goes on. They'll share their story, and we will listen.
So tune in, and hang on, because here we go!
For more information visit itcouldvebeenme.org.
We are currently accepting applications and recording for season 1. If you are someone you know is interested in sharing your story, please email us at info@itcouldvebeenme.org.
Disclaimer: This show covers a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. These topics can be difficult for some people so use your best judgement when listening to the show. We are not therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals. Information shared on this show is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice because of something you heard on this show. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or 1-800-273-8255 or dial 911.
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