Pairadocs: Recent Episodes
Dr. Jimmy Myers and Dr. Josh Myers
Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. Jimmy and Josh will provide marriage and parenting insight, to be sure; however, don't be surprised if other topics emerge, such as sports, entertainment, politics, or the latest episode of Pioneer Woman!
The Pairadocs have two formats: interview and content. One episode a week focuses on interviewing some of the greatest Christian minds around. For the other episode Jimmy and Josh discuss a cultural or familial topic you're sure to enjoy!
Grab your spouse and listen Pairadocs together! It's like having two free therapists in your pocket!
Well, this week the guys wrap up their discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse with the dreaded In Laws! How should couples manage this minefield of family tension? And not only are the guys ending this series this week, sadly, Josh and Jimmy are ending their run as the Pairadocs. This will be the boys last show. Sad, but exciting. Listen in and find out why. BTW, all of you guys are the best! We love you.
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So, are you ready to meet the 3rd Horseman of the Marriage Apocalypse? Couple's fight about this one all the time! This topic reeks of power and security, therefore, it's a source for, all but constant, conflict. The topic? MONEY! "Sooooo, let's get ready to RUMBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
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Last week, the guys kicked off a discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse. The first was sex, and this week they will examine the all too hot topic of THE KIDS. Most couples tend not to be on the exact same page when it comes to discipline, expectations, and priorities when it comes to their kids, so...arguments tend to ensue. If this sounds like you, don't miss this week's episode!
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You know it coming and you dread it like the plague, but at some point, in every family there comes the need to have “The Sex Talk.” In this case, however, we’re not talking about the sex discussion with you kids. This week, the guys delve into the sex talk that every couple needs to have and keep having to address one of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.
PROBLEM:
- Carries more baggage than a 747. Mention any possible negative and it can be interpreted as a very intimate, personal criticism
- We don’t talk about our sexual relationship. Only might be mentioned when something is wrong.
- As a rule, sex is the “unmentionable” in 99% of Christian homes
- Take any other “mutual” activity that a couple engages in, there is discussion about it. Cooking, exercise, entertainment… The assumption is that if we’re married, we should simply know what to do and how to do it. And if things aren’t great, then we suffer in silence, because, “We shouldn’t have to say anything.”
SOLUTION:
- The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:3–5)
Each spouse’s body belongs to the other, and a primary function of sex is to serve and bless each other. The ethic that runs throughout the New Testament applies to sex in marriage: we are to selflessly serve, thinking of the other first.
- Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own. Sex is a physical manifestation of spiritual and emotional love between a husband and wife.
- TALK: If we don’t tell our spouse, they won’t know. Any time we don’t talk it is out of fear or frustration. Spouse’s shouldn’t fear their partner’s response.
- Past sexual history and sin, needs to be discussed, learned from, and not avoided
- Frequency, duration, & arousal all are impacted as you pass through life stages.
- Talk about having the talk. Don’t surprise them with it.
- Make suggestions; not complaints
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Have you or your spouse ever said something along the lines of, “We argue over little things.”, or “None of our arguments ever get resolved.” If you have, then you have fallen headfirst into the Argument Black Hole. Join them this week, as the guys talk about the biggest mistake couples make when they have a disagreement.
PROBLEM:
- Arguing over facts
- Arguing over who’s reality is correct
- Winning is more important than solving the problem
- My Side Bias skews facts
- Memories are NOT accurate recordings of events. Research suggests that that we remember what we WANT to believe happened
SOLUTION:
- Realize that the argument is not about the facts
- The event is the surface problem to a root cause
- Chose the hill you will die on
- Must be able to agree to disagree
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Perfectionism. Most would agree that this personality trait is not great. BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way. It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.” We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish. Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.
PROBLEM:
- See it in:
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- Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety
- Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work
- Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…
- Hold double standard
- You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame.
- Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids.
SOLUTION:
- To want something is good. To NEED it is not good.
- Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions
- By grace saved, not of good works
- Acknowledge it.
- What is driving this? What core belief?
- Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario
- Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”
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We’ve all seen them, haven’t we? Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports. They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams. They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid. You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm. I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push. Parents and sports. Play ball!!
Warning Signs of The Push
- Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.
- Year-round, non-stop sports. One long, never ending season
- Year-round specialization. Tommy John surgery for high schoolers.
- All other aspect of family life takes a back seat
- Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport?
- *Anger at child’s performance*
Solution for the Push:
- Define Success
- Let the child lead. Brad McCoy
- Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard. Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”
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We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days. Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one. But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one? How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one? I’m glad you asked!! Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one.
Problem with dysfunction:
- Long lasting impact. Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain
- Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas.
- We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO
Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall)
Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite!
- Acceptance/Love is conditional
- Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat
- Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy
- The family has “Teams”
- Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT
- Rage is normalized
- Denial & Defensiveness are the norm
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Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child.
Harelips the Governor
Pagan Christianity by Barna
Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life?
Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child.
God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful.
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As the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!” And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on. Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids.
We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids.
“If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t worth tootin’” – Bill Myers Sr
We need to teach them how to express their views modestly. How to share praise and blame.
Learning to accept failure is key.
It’s important to model a lack of defensiveness.
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Many of you have read her books to your kids and found them to be an invaluable resource during this unprecedented electronically connected time. And if you haven’t read these books to your kids, after listening to this show, you definitely will. This week Jimmy and Josh sit down with Kristen Jenson, from Protect Young Minds, about her best-selling books, Good Pictures Bad Pictures and her newest, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.When should we talk to our children about pornography? To quote Kristen, “As soon as they have internet access.” Think about that...
https://www.protectyoungminds.org/
https://www.protectyoungminds.org/about/
https://braindefense.protectyoungminds.org/
https://www.protectyoungminds.org/books/
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You know ‘em! You love ‘em! And you can’t live without ‘em! I don’t know the numbers on their jerseys, but I do know they’re number 1 in your heart...drum roll, please...This week, the boys sit down with Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson, the co-hosts of the Big Boo Cast! They talk about the ladies’ new books, life, love, and not to give too much away...pheasant hunting fashion tips.
The Big Boo Cast
Melanie Shankle
Sophie Hudson
Opal Nugget Ice Maker
Stand All the Way Up by Sophie Hudson
On the Bright Side by Melanie Shankle
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I know you’ve never said this before, but I’m sure you’ve known someone who has exclaimed, “That kid makes me so mad!!” Anger is an emotion that all parents have experienced, yet parental anger that is expressed in the wrong way can be the most destructive emotional element in any home. Ouch. This week, the guys chat about putting a lid on parental anger.
Series 33 – Lifeway
Problem with parental anger:
- Things that we say and do that we regret are mostly done in anger
- Parental anger is the most destructive emotional element in the home
- Most anger is brought about by faulty thinking that is adrenaline induced.
- Albert Ellis ABC Model
- This is now we KNOW that nothing MAKES you mad.
- 90% of parental anger is sin. We sin, but don’t see God’s wrath
- We believe it’s justified. But it is never justified.
Solution to parental anger:
- Realize first response is your worst response
- STOP
- Stop and separate
- Tone down tension
- Open YOUR heart to God
- Present Christ to your child
Excerpt from Toe to Toe with Your Teen (2nd Edition)
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* What do apparently all of us want, but seemingly not many of us actually have? You may answer, million dollars! And you would be right!!...However, I was being less crass and materialistic and was referencing the often sought-after quality known as Intimacy.We want it in our friendships, our marriages, our families, and our walk with God, but for something that seems to be so crucial, most of us don’t even know what Intimacyactually is, and why, in reality, it is extraordinarily important. Check out the boys this week as they take an intimate look at Intimacy. -----Intimacy: What Is It and Why Is It Important?PROBLEM:1.Intimacy is a vital, yet very few can tell you exactly what it is. 2.Definition: Close familiarity. Jimmywould say that Intimacy is the absence of fear in relationships. Where there is fear; a lack of trust, there can be no intimacy.Josh would say intimacy is connection. 3.Intimacy is more than sexual:a.Physical: non-sexualb.Emotional: Attempts at emotional connection; healthy over 80% c.Intellectual: Can speak thoughts and idea and not fear rejectiond.Spiritual: Share a common coreSOLUTION: 1.Make it a point to show your appreciation. ...2.Make an effort to learn about each otherand learn fromeach other. ...3.Set aside time for each other. ...4.Unplug and focus on each other. ...5.Show physical affection (even without sex) ...6.Tackle a project together. ...7.Initiate spiritual intimacy.-----
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Has you child ever come home, upset because the kids at school were being mean to them? Don’t you hate that?! Not only does it break your heart, but peer rejection could also actually have a long-term negative impact on their lives. Join in this week as the guys discuss how to respond when your child is rejected by their peers. And it does not include sobbing uncontrollably.
* OMG! This pandemic has done more than just socially segregated us. It has psychologically, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually segregated us. Many of us are trapped in echo chambers that only reinforce what we believe about politics, race, COVID, and a host of other societal issues. Confirmation bias is when we only hear what we want to hear, or expect to hear, without any inclination to consider another point of view. This is toxic for an individual, a couple, or a family. This week the boys discuss a topic that has certainly been around for a while, but has exploded during this unprecedented time in our culture. -----Confirmation BiasPsychological phenomenon that filters out evidence that doesn’t support our preconceived ideas and only allows evidence in that supports our already agreed upon ideas. We set up a “filter bubble”We have mental “schemas” records or tapes in our brain that play on loop. Schemas help us make quick decisions and do things on autopilot. And we begin tosegregate ourselves into tribes that think and feel the same way as we do, which creates more “group think” and confirmation bias. When we have strong opinions and don’t allow for other views, we lose our audience.What do we do?1)Hold our opinions loosely2)Focus on things we have control over3)Get out of our filter bubbles, and talk to people that don’t think like us4)Talk less, listen more-----Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter:@docjimmymyers,Instagram:@jmyersfam, andFacebook:@docjimmymyersDr. Josh Myers on Twitter:@docjoshmyers,Instagram:@docjoshmyers, andFacebook:@docjoshmyers
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Is unconditionally loving your child and unconditionally praising your child the same thing? Maybe not. In fact, numerous studies indicate that lavishing praise on a child with little or no merit, actually can have a negative impact on the child’s emotional development. But then again, no praise could indicate emotion emotional neglect. What’s a parent to do?! It’s like we’re danged if we do, or danged if we don’t.
Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy delve into the sticky, and somewhat controversial, topic of undeserved praise.
If this is your first episode, here are a few episodes to get you started:
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/bob-goff
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/empathy
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/pornography
Pairadocs podcast has joined the Christian Parenting Podcast Network!
If this is your first episode, here are a few episodes to get you started:
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/bob-goff
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/empathy
- https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/pornography
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Since we’re all doing school from home now, please answer the following questions:
- Honey, do these new pants make my butt look big?
- No, I left your gift at the office. Do you really think I’d forget our anniversary?
- Mommy, are some of the kids on my team better than me?
- Daddy, I’m so sad that Fluffy died. Is he in heaven with Jesus?
- Hey, Babe, I can’t see the back of my head. Am I balding at all?
So how did you do? Answer honestly. This week, the guys kick around the topic of how honest is too honest in the family.
We can justify lying by trying to "not hurt our spouse". It's choosing the path of least resistance. "Why would I purposefully hurt my wife" is the thought.
However, lying can be a behavior that can form a habit - quickly.
If you can't tell your spouse the truth out of fear of their response, you're in trouble. Without truth there is no trust, without trust there is no love.
You earn the right to speak truth / be honest. Love people first, then provide your truth.
Our goal in word and deed is congruency. Be the same in front of your wife as you are away from her.
We struggle to be honest with others because we are not honest with ourselves.
Be sure that you yourself are cultivating a relationship where people can be honest with you.
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We’ve all done it. Looked at how our spouse is behaving and wondered, “Wow, if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be doing that.” Some of us have felt that so strongly that we actually say those word to our spouse. Making their momentary behavior a referendum on “if” they love us or not. Full disclosure, I have done this myself. Just the other night I told my wife, Beth, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t make me watch the Downtown Abby movie a second time.” Wow, that felt good. Freedom comes through honesty and confession. Listen in this week as the guys expose this relationally destructive, yet common conflict mistake.
Even if we don't say these exact words, it is common for us to think/feel that "If our spouse loved me, he/she would -- blank --".
Men ask the same question, "If you respected me, you would".
Don't assume your spouse doesn't love you. Unless your spouse has said "I don't love you" - assume he/she does.
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I’m so sorry its taken so long to get this episode out, BUT there were many reasons why it couldn’t get done sooner…Listen, I said I was sorry. What do you want from me? You feel hurt that we have kept this life-changing podcast from you for this long? Well, I’m sorry you feel that way. To hurt you was not our intent, so really, you have to own your own feelings. Am I right? Ok, fine, drop it. This week the boys discuss how to make a real apology.
Apologies are normal. If no one is apologizing, then there is a problem. Apologies are essential because sin exists.
Top 6 Dynamics of a True Apology
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A true apology never says a "but"
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A true apology keeps the focus on what you personally did wrong
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A true apology doesn't try to find who started it
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A true apology never apologizes to "shut up" the other person
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A true apology makes apologizing "not enough" and makes an attempt to do more
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Here’s a parent’s worst nightmare. You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade! Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch. Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon.
Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens
Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them
Helicopter and lawnmower parenting cripples our children
Our kids an just "roll over" due to pressure/anxiety. Pressure from parents, school, friends, self, culture - can lead to kids that are anxious about adulthood and therefore just decide to give up.
Parenting is an 18 year process of deparenting.
When they are young we as parents are supervisors, when they're teenagers we are managers, and when they are adults we become consultants.
Grace ceases to be grace if it occurs too often, it then becomes an expectation
If you have an adult child still in your home that is failing to launch:
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Begin mourning the loss of your child and accept them as adults
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Have a clear written agreement on A) responsibilities they have with them still being in your home, B) a defined date when they must leave, C) creating a list of skills they need prior to leaving and D) a list of ways you might assist them financially even after they are gone. NOTE: Any assistance once they're gone needs to have an end date as well.
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Risk them failing once gone - failure is one of life's great teachers
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The boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in.
Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired.
Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have.
We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving.
10 Laws of Boundaries
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Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be consequences to behavior
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Law of responsibility - be responsible for self
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Law of power - make a choice and enact power within relationship
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Law if respect - respect other people's boundaries
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Law of motivation - risk disappointing people
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Law of evaluation - hurt feelings aren't harmful
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Law of proactivity - setting boundaries early
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Law of envy - learn to be satisfied with your life
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Law of activity - can't be passive and have boundaries
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Law of exposure - choose to matter and exist in relationship
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What is co-dependency? We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it? I mean, we should depend on each other…right? “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…” Hello?! But what is it, really? Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship.
Enchiladas Y Mas Closed
Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed.
It's a relationship addiction. A toxic dance.
Submissive co dependents - desperately desire loves from dominant dependents
Dominant co dependents - don't give love the other desires
We pass on co dependency to our children
Recognizing who you are in your marriage:
Submissives
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Does your self worth hang on your partners approval?
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Is it difficult to say no when your partner makes a demand?
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Do you walk on egg shells around your partner?
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Do you consistently worry about other's opinions of you?
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Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?
Dominants
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Are you in a constant state of frustration with your partner?
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Can you not let go of correcting your partner?
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It is difficult for you to agree to disagree?
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Do you have a strong need to be right?
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When push comes to shove, you get your way.
SOLUTION
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Boundaries (next week)
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Don't avoid conflict; be a buffalo
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Figure out wants vs needs. You want your spouse, you don't need him/her
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It is not your place to correct your spouse
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In our society today, we love us some tolerance! Vive la Difference! I always like to say, except when those differences we’re “Viveing” are behaviors in our spouse that are driving us up the wall during this sheltering in place experience. How can we “let go and let God” sooth our relational differences while we’re all boarded up inside our houses 24/7? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to accept our spouse’s faults…That’s right. I said it, FAULTS! They’re not differences, they are flaws in their character that if they loved me, they would change!! Or would they?
Martial Wounds
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Spouse Preferences - things that minimally impact your life
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Infractions - things that moderately (and sometimes majorly) impact your life
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Major Infractions - abuse, infidelity, etc
Scripturally, you only have justification for ending your marriage (or hardening your heart toward you spouse) for the MAJOR INFRACTIONS.
Marriage is about learning to get over things.
70% of all marital arguments are irreconcilable.
So how do we learn to get over things?
Decide that it is not your job to change your spouse! There is a Holy Spirit and it is not me.
Get the log out of our own eye.
Conflict is never about the content, the conflict touches a "raw spot" / insecurity - so your reaction has more to do with you.
Can you agree to disagree?
Be more grateful for your spouse's good, more than you're mad at the bad.
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What happens when things don't go as expected? When God doesn't make sense? When our worst fears are realized? What then? How do we respond? What's more, how do we lead our family/kids during such a time? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to handle the storm when it hits.
As parents, we set the emotional tone within the home.
When something bad happens, it's not simply about you, surviving. But as a parent, it is about modeling to our children how to handle storms.
We don't want to model fear.
Faith isn't faith until it is all you have.
How should we has a family handle storms? (Proverbs 3:5-6)
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Trust in the Lord with all your heart. When storms happen, we must trust. Learning to trust God happens daily, before the storm happens.
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Lean not on your own understandings. Life doesn't have to make sense. In fact, most often, life doesn't make sense. And just because we don't understand what God is doing, doesn't mean life is ending and the sky is falling. We shouldn't learn on our own understanding.
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In all your ways, acknowledge God. Seek God and his kingdom first, and all things will be taken care of.
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The payoff, if you do the first three things, God will direct your path. Then, no matter what happens, it is a no lose in that it will be ok.
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I know we discussed last week some ideas on how to cope with the entire family being at home due to the COVID, but what about working with, playing with, eating every meal with, parenting with, sitting and relaxing with, and every other activity you can think of with your spouse…every day, all day, with no breaks. Sounds fantastic right?! Or does it sound like you might need a case of Xanax airlifted to your location. So, what are some practical ideas for how to cope with sharing your every waking moment with your spouse without running screaming from your house because you decided it would be better to take your chances with the pandemic instead?
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Give each other space.
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Empathize with your spouse; seeing through their eyes. Giving them patience and don't assume the worst in your spouse.
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Keep structure within the marriage.
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Have "other than spouse" adult time. Hangout with people via an online platform.
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Have spiritual time together.
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Okay, the COVID…how do we NOT talk about this? We’re all now working from home, schooling from home, going to church from home, and oh yea, performing all other human activity during every waking moment…from home. So how do we make it through? Other than monitoring Twitter all day? Listen in this week, as the guys discuss ways to cope with the COVID confinement. I mean, what else ya got to do?
5 Things Your Family Can Do During COVID
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Turn off the news
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Get outside
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Maintain family routine
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Keep educating them
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Don't do screens all day
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So, you're talking with a friend about something other than the COVID, and your Christian faith comes up. The friend mentions that they have a huge problem with all of the evil that has been done in the name of God throughout history, and that most Christians today seem to be homophobes, xenophobes, transphobes, and, well, you get the picture. How do we respond? How do we teach our kids to respond? The boys are back this week to offer some very kind, sympathetic, non-abrasive, nor phobic-in-any-way, suggestions.
Oppressive Christianity years ago was killing people; oppressive Christianity today is infringing on thoughts/beliefs.
Christian history does not substantiate an oppressive church history, but the exact opposite.
There isn't any defending terrible acts like the crusades, but you have to begin with questioning whether or not those folks were even Christians. Their actions contradict everything that Jesus said.
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You know what really sticks with you…other than a foot fungus? When it comes to our families, the answer is rituals or traditions. Things that are said and done consistently, frequently, that span over a long duration. Going to church and small group a couple of times a month is good, but there’s a reason that only 32% of kids raised in evangelical homes stay believers as adults. This week the guys kick around the issue of family rituals, the glue that can help hold faiths and families together.
Neuroplasticity
To build your child's faith neurobiologically, you must do faith consistently, frequently and over a long duration
Real Life Podcast
Jeff Bethke
Jess Bethke Daily Saying
"I am not what I do
I am not what I have
I am not what people say about me
I am the beloved of God
It is who I am
No one can take it from me
I don't have to worry
I don't have to hurry
I can trust my friend Jesus and share His love with the world"
Myers Family Prayer
I pray there's not a day you can remember not knowing Jesus.
That you understand your need for a Savior at an early age and experience the freedom that comes from giving your life to him.
I pray that praise would be in your heart and on your lips continually.
I pray that you would know who you are in light of the gospel. That you would have a Christ-centered confidence and Christ-centered worth.
I pray that you would hate sin and love holiness.
That you would know the power of the blood to defeat all the works of the one who came to kill, steal and destroy. That you develop relationships based on the drawing of the Holy Spirit.
I pray that you would love the word of God. That you would seek to understand it, hide it in your heart, and base your life on it.
I pray that you will love others well. That you would have a servant's heart and a desire for your life to be used for something greater than yourself.
**Josh was kidding when he said he's "naturally good at Pairadocs topics"; he has to constantly work toward achieving these things by God's grace.
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It’s been said that there are only two things that are a certainty in this life: Death and Taxes…well, and you could also add the Dallas Cowboys losing in the first round of the playoffs. But your family is going face the death of a grandparent, family member, or friend at some point. That IS a certainty. So, how do we guide our families through this very sad, scary, and confusing life experience? Listen in this week. This discussion is to die for…sorry.
Give yourself grace! Don't judge yourself for your feelings while grieving.
There is no one right way to grieve, but there is a wrong way - avoiding it.
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It is easy to freak your freak in mid life. This moment, that you've been looking forward to your whole life. You have the spouse. The kids. The job. The house. But it can still feel empty.
But what if this is as good as it gets?
What do you do then? Listen in as the boys discuss.
Wisdom is having the right perspective. It is fighting the feeling of being trapped!
There is purpose in mid life
We must accept that this is mid life. It's not perfect, but it is beautiful.
You are not alone; most in this life stage feel this way.
God's word remains a constant, even when your life is a storm. So trust Him. Don't lean on your own understanding.
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Like a foot fungus you just can’t seem to get rid of…the boys are back with all new episodes for the new year! And they kick it off with this little gem. Question: Would you love a spouse that was gentle, loving, kind, generous, engaged, compassionate, and absolutely couldn’t keep their hands off you? WELL WHO WOULDN’T!!! Anybody would love a spouse like that. The trick is to be able to love a spouse that isn’t like that. As believers, we’re not called to love our spouse “because”, but to love them “anyway.”
Poltergeist Intro
Love Anyway - Gary Thomas
Different Types of Love
Luke 6
"It's so hard to see when my eyes are on me" Keith Green
Gary Gramling
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What if there was one thing that would make most, if not all, family conflicts lessen, of not end. What would pay for get ahold of the “magic bullet” of relational harmony? Well get out your credit cards my friends, because this week, the guys discuss the all-important issue of empathy. This one little touchy-feely word can go a long way toward reducing marital, occupational, and parental conflict. How do I know? Because I can feel your pain…
Brene Brown on Empathy
Empathy drives connection, sympathy drives disconnection.
Brene Brown
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The tragedy of a mass shooting. It’s all over the news. Everybody is talking about it, political blame is flying back and forth, and there sits our kids. Scared, confused, and in some cases, completely ignorant of the events swirling around them. So how do we best discuss unimaginable evil with our kids and keep their innocents intact? Not sure that's possible, but listen in as Jimmy and Josh tackle talking tragedy with our children.
Luby's Shooting in Killeen
The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel
When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson
If kids are old enough to ask, they're old enough to hear.
You don't have to know an unknowable act of God. There's nothing wrong with saying 'I don't know.'
Talk about the solution more than you talk about the problem.
Solution: Pray, love others
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If you are as sick of politics as I am, raise your hand, right there where you are…yes, God bless you…yes, I see that hand. Are there any others? With the current political climate and ever-present social media bombarding our every waking moment, we can’t get away from politics, even if we wanted to. Every song, TV show, movie, sporting event, etc. has comments, demonstrations, or snide political comments. IT JUST NEVER ENDS!! Join the fellas this week, as they examine, how we as believers, couples, and parents can navigate the political ocean that we’re all seemingly drowning in.
Margaret Thatcher
Jesus is the Answer (song)
Andy Bannister interview
Home Fires
As parents, we set the emotional tone of the home. Don't freak your kids out with your anxieties.
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When you look in the mirror, what do you see? What does your child see? How does our body image impact the way we perceive ourselves and how we perceive others perceive us…I may have used the word, “perceive” one too many times? Our self-image has an enormous influence on the quality of our lives and the lives of our children, yet how we determine that self-image can make us fickle at best and be damaging at it’s worst. Join the guys this week as they look at how we view our physical selves, where it comes from, and how it can negatively effect our entire lives.
Josh Harris' announcements about Christianity and his divorce
Solutions:
Parents set the tone
Eat to live, don't live to eat
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You’ve heart it said that it is not good for man to be alone. Well, this week, the guys explore exactly why that is. This is not about being single, or the benefits of “alone time.” It’s about the pervasive, negative impact of toxic isolation in both individuals, couples, and families. So, in keeping with the theme, listen to this episode in a large group of your closest friends!
"pathology, sin, addiction breeds in isolation"
"The fruit of the spirit will never breed in isolation"
Isolation - not busyness, but not having people who truly know you.
Solution:
Church! (Being involved, not just going)
Be known
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This week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your daughters. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your girls. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy feminine traits.
History Lovers Club on Twitter
Top 10 Movies for Girls:
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Parent Trap
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Mean Girls
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Princess Diaries
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Freaky Friday
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Moana
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Brave
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Wizard of Oz
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Frozen
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A League of Their Own
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Soul Surfer
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After three episodes dealing with the devastating impact of pornography on a person’s life. The boys thought that a wrap up session was in order. What are some practical step to elevate this problem? Listen in and find out…
www.brainheartworld.org
Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain
Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships
Part 3 - how porn impacts the world
You have to get real with someone besides the men in your life.
Pornography is infidelity.
Any sex that is selfish is wrong.
The addict brain tells you the exact thing to do in order to keep you addicted.
Disclosure is essential.
Fear is the opposite of faith.
Find a Certified Sexual Addication Therapist (CSAT)
Covenant Eyes
XXX Church
If your spouse confesses to you:
DON'T SHAME
Hurt, anger, sadness are ok emotions to share.
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A lot of great things come in threes. The number of outs in an inning or baseball, how many branches of government the USA has, not to mention the number of personalities that make up the holy Trinity. But don’t forget to add to that list the number of episodes in the current Pairadocs series on the adverse effects that pornography has on the mind, relationships…and this week the world. Please view the third video in the series found at www.mindheartworld.org and join in the discussion of the gruesome impact that porn has on society via sex trafficking, child trafficking, and the mind numbing influence that the porn industry has on those who participate in it. Not a ton of humor in this one…
www.brainheartworld.org
Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain
Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships
Part 3 - how porn impacts the world
Fight the New Drug
"97 billion hours of pornography are viewed each year, equating to 52,000 years of porn are viewed each year... on ONE porn site"
St. Peter's foot
"Porn is a receipt for rape"
"95% of porn involves a woman getting hit"
"Regular porn views are 1/3 more likely to be involved in domestic violence"
"Porn is a documentary of a woman's humiliation"
Teen Vogue Approves of Sex Work for Girls
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This week the guys are halfway through their three-part series on one of our favorite topics…pornography. Hopefully, by now you’ve all gone to www.mindheartworld.org and watched the first two episodes of this groundbreaking documentary about the colossally negative impact that porn has on all that view it. This week, we will thoroughly examine part two; how viewing pornography all but prevents a person from establishing or maintaining close personal relationships. One may say, “So what?! So, I’m watching some pornography. What harm can there be?” If you are married, in a long-term relationship, or ever hope to be…listen and learn my friend. Listen and learn.
www.brainheartworld.org
Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain
Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships
Part 3 - how porn impacts the world
Fight the New Drug
Harvard Study - Happiness
Wall Street Movie
Michael Douglas
Ghost in the Darkness
The American President
Mirror Neurons
"You double your chances of divorce by viewing porn regularly"
"Happiness=Relationship/Love = Focus"
Keith Green
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Welcome to a new three-part series of Pairadocs. We don’t do this very often, but in leu of the most recent research establishing the fact that over 8 in 10 of young men between the ages of 20 and 29 are viewing hardcore pornography weekly…I did say, weekly! We felt compelled to address this issue once again. We need you to go to www.brainheartworld.org. This is an amazing three-part video series produced by an amazing organization called Fight The New Drug. Follow them on every platform that you have available to you. We want you to log in; view the videos and then engage with us as we discuss the contents. Part One deals with how pornography impacts…no, changes the brain. Incredible videos, intriguing discussion. We’ll tackle the second video next week that focuses on how porn all but short circuits our ability to have intimate relationships…Let’s do this!!
www.brainheartworld.org
Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain
Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships
Part 3 - how porn impacts the world
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So, what’s more fun than talking about a VERY heart wrenching topic in a way that will alienate half the listening audience? It’s a sad subject and is even sadder that the subject has to be talked about. Take a listen this week as Jimmy and Josh honestly discuss the tragic topic of abortion.
Roe v Wade
1 Timothy 3
Luke 6:32
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This week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your sons. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your sons. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy masculine traits.
Grumpy Cat
Questions to ask while watching films:
What qualities were depicted in this film that teach us what kind of man God wants us to be?
How can we, like Christ, stand up against insurmountable odds?
Why do some men choose to die for what they believe to be noble/right?
Essential Movies
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Field of Dreams
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Saving Private Ryan
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Rudy
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Remember the Titans
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Glory
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Wonder
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Braveheart
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Gladiator
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Apollo 13
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Hoosiers
**Jimmy Fallon is not on Saving Private Ryan, he was in Band of Brothers
Facts about Paul Revere's ride
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This week the guys participate in their own golf tournament, benefiting themselves. No surprise, no one else showed up. But Jimmy and Josh had a blast playing and having a conversation about their lives as father and son. You won't want to miss.
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I remember once watching John Wayne in an old movie (As every red-blooded American male should do, at least once a month) as he was waiting on top of the wall at the cavalry outpost for an attack from the marauding Indians. He said to a much less experienced soldier, “It’s quiet…too quiet.” In other words, when it gets too quiet, it’s all about the hit the proverbial fan! Freeze and Flee, the last of Sue Johnson’s Demon Dialogues, has to do when couples reach the point of giving up. When it gets quiet…too quiet. If you find yourself or someone you love in this desperate state, listen in as the guys help you not get scalped. Or, or you know what I mean.
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
Part 1 and 2 in this series:
Plank and Spec Episode
Protest Polka Episode
If you are stuck in the 'freeze and flee' dialogue:
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Share with your spouse a cue that begins the distancing process
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Recognize what you are telling yourself that keeps you separated
Problem solve, discuss with spouse:
When you do _____ I don't feel safely connected to you. Then I tend to _______. I do it in the hopes that ________. And as this pattern keeps going, I feel _________. The more I __________, the more you _______. Maybe we can warn each other when this starts.
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Gottman's Stonewalling
Josh's Solutions:
Realize you are the problem in your marriage (humility and repentance)
Seek counsel
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Tune in this week and Jimmy and Josh answer parent questions they received at a recent speaking engagement. The boys bat around several topics you’re sure to enjoy.
The Highwaymen
Lorena
What is the best way to approach the topic of sex with your teenager?
Early and often, don't wait until they are teenagers. This is a lifelong conversation
Raising an Original by Julie Lyles Carr
Preparing for Adolescence by James Dobson
When is a cellphone a good idea and is there an appropriate age to start?
Dumb phone - when you need to communicate with your child
Smart phone - high school/sophomore
How do you apologize to your kid without them using it against you later?
Apologize for your part and punish them for theirs.
They can't leverage it against you unless you let them.
What are the red flags that tells you your child needs counseling?
Look at their lowered level of functioning, see if anything has changed.
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Would you like to dance? Well, if you’re a good Baptist (and Josh most certainly is not!), the answer would an unequivocal “no.” And that would be the correct answer for all of us when it comes to the Protest Polka. This deadly relationship dance is one of the main indicators of marriages that don’t make it past the 5-year mark. Listen in as the guys, two step their way through this issue and tango their way to a solution…ok, I’m completely done with dancing puns.
My Redeemer Lives by Nicole C Mullen
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Baby attachment video
Soften Your Start-Up (Gottman)
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Self-esteem. What is it? How do we acquire it? And how do we build it within our child? Is self-esteem even important? Tune in this week as the guys talk all things self-esteem and your child.
Little Shop of Horrors
A Few Good Men
How we build self-esteem in our children:
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We can't just tell them how good and special they are all the time
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Make sure we allow for failure
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They need to be told they have sinned and that's why we need Jesus
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Work. Allow them to struggle
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Random expressions of love and pride
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So, a Sequoia Redwood and a nanoparticle of dust walk into a bar… What do they have in common? It’s no joke, it’s your marriage, of course! The Bible is stuffed full of powerful and famous verses that relate to our marriage relationships. And this week, the guys dig into Matthew 7:3-5, one of the least known and most powerful of those snippets from God’ Word concerning marital bliss. Just to give you a heads up. Jesus doesn’t call folks hypocrites very often…
Anthony Hopkins in Silence of the Lambs - "You don't play the villain like he's the villain, because the villain is the hero in his own story."
ReIengage
"Wagging never works!"
"Self-righteousness never works."
Dr. Susan Johnson- Demon Dialogue
1990s Worship
Matthew 7:3-5
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Watermark Church
"Accept that you're the problem within your marriage."
"When you're arguing both spouses shouldn't leave the argument until both have apologized."
Self assessment:
1) Do you focus on your spouses faults more often than you're thankful for him/her?
2) Do you believe your spouse is lucky to have you?
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Are you sick and tired of all the books, speakers, and podcasts (present company excluded) telling you how to parent? This week, the guys kick off 2019, we our new goal…how to be a “good enough” parent. It’s not that hard, and it’s the fastest way to remove the guilt that you’re feeling for how much your kids will have to pay in counseling later in life!
Sam Ehlinger
Wild At Heart by John Eldredge
Texas WINS the NIT!
Spoiler Alert: Josh is now losing all his brackets, and his WIFE is about to win
Fact: We as parents will make mistakes that will negatively affect our children.
Prepare our kids for the mistakes that we know will happen
Tell your children you are sorry, repair mistakes when they happen
Don't sweat the small stuff
Accept that your child is going to be who they are going to be no matter what you do (within reason)
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So how should we parent? Should we parent based on trying to protect our kids? Or should we try to prepare them? Or both? Listen in as the guys discuss.
Howard Payne New Braunfels
Fearless Parenting
Homeschooling vs Public School
Focus on the Family: Preparing vs Protection
Age of Opportunity
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Does the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell? It’s become the new “woke” issue in psychological circles. But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock! Poppy cock I say! Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble. Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society.
Cowboys Outcome
American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys
Affirm your son's masculinity early on
Prepare boys and protect girls
Jesus is the perfect example of controlled power
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Many of you have read and loved the run-away best seller, Circle Maker by Mark Batterson, well join the guys, this week, as they visit with Joel and Nina Schmidgall who co-authored the new book, Praying Circles Around Your Marriage. Have you ever wanted to pray more affectively for your marriage? Joel and Nina will provide you with several amazing, yet practical, steps to actually bring that about.
Links to information discussed in the show:
National Community Church
Mark Batterson's The Circle Maker
The Schmidgall's Latest Book:
Praying Circles Around Your Marriage
Website: theaterchurch.com
Instagram: @prayingmarriage
Twitter: @joelschmidgall and @ninaschmidgall
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So what do we do with the pain and suffering that we experience in life? Especially, when it happens to good people, that trying hard to life their lives according to the Word of God? We want life, and what happens to us in life to make sense, right? But what do we tell ourselves and our children when it doesn’t? When life isn’t fair. When God doesn’t make sense? Listen in, this might be just for you…
When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson
Pain is OK, God doesn't want us to run from pain. Pain is not punishment.
We don't trust God because we don't take the time to get to know Him.
Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. Foster
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This week, the guys sit down for a lively discussion with Jeff Huxford. He had a great career as a physician, a great family, what could possibly go wrong? How about a car accident that caused a traumatic brain injury? His life, their life, changed in that instant. You’ll love his story told in his new book, Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change; An Unexpected Outcome.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Jeff's First Book:
Finding Normal
Website: www.jeffhuxford.com
Facebook: @jeffhuxfordmd
Instagram: @jeffhuxford
Twitter: @jeffhuxford
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When we say “mindfulness” many of you, especially guys, tend to nod off. Mindfulness, you assume, is about meditation, yoga, and saying, “Namaste” while struggling to get off the floor. But that is NOT what we mean by being mindful. We mean, living your life intentionally, and with purpose. If you want a better marriage, a better family, a better walk with God, then you have to make a choice to make that happen. Listen in as the boys do their best impersonation of personal fitness trainers, by instructing you on how you can be your best you!! Come on!! And two and three…
Caffeine Free Diet Coke
Josh's made up change quote:
for change to happen there has to be vision, a plan and an act of will
A Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster
Change requires 3 things:
We need to realize the need for change
We know what to do to change
Motivation to change
If you're not mindful, you're mindless
Be present
Solutions:
Time with your family (schedule it!)
Talking face to face
Play - do something fun
Say No
Accountability
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The guys sit down with Brent Crowe this week. He speaks about his new book Moments 'til Midnight.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Student Leadership University
Brent's Latest Book:
Moments 'Til Midnight
Website: www.momentstilmidnight.com
Facebook: @brent.crowe.9
Instagram: @brentacrowe
Twitter: @brentacrowe
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We talk all the time about how we need to choose which battles are worth having with our kids, but the same is true in our marriages. There’s a difference between an irritant and a “deal breaker.” So where is that line drawn? How do we know when to let an issue go with our spouse? Better yet, CAN we let an issue go? Listen in as the guys get out their sidewalk chalk and show us where to draw healthy conflict boundaries.
Steve Martin
John Gottman Research
Philippi
Thessaloniki
"First bucket - Personal Preferences - things that minimally (if at all) impact your life"
"Second bucket - Infractions - things that impact your life but aren't deal breakers"
Third bucket - Deal breakers - things that are separation worthy"
- For personal preferences - mention to your spouse that you'd like this to change and then get over it"
- For infractions - mention to your spouse you'd like it to change, bring in a 3rd party to speak to you and your spouse (counselor, and then get over it"
- For deal breakers - mention it to your spouse, seek 3rd person counsel and then potentially separate from spouse.
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This week, Josh has a visit with Dr. Russell Moore. Dr. Moore is President of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention…in other words, he’s a big wig…no, actually, he’s a huge wig! In fact, if you add an “h” to wig, as in whig, he’s the biggest Whig since Daniel Webster…just a tip o’ the hat to history buffs. Josh talks with Dr. Moore about his brand-new book, The Storm-Tossed Family: How the Cross Reshapes the Home.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention
Russell's Latest Book:
The Storm-Tossed Family
Website: www.russellmoore.com
Facebook: @russellmoore
Instagram: @russellmoore
Instagram: @drmoore
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It sounds crazy, but it is one of the most normal thoughts one can have in marriage, "Who is this person I married?" Sometimes our spouse seems completely different than the person we married years ago. What do we do? Is this an excuse to just give up? Is change that bad? It it inevitable? Listen in as the guys discuss what to do when our spouse changes. Spoiler alter - ALL SPOUSES CHANGE! :)
Links to information discussed in the show:
Baby It's Cold Outside Controversy
Jeff Huxford
Barbara Streisand and Neil Diamond - You Don't Bring Me Flowers
"You didn't marry a lifestyle, you married a person."
"So much of our disappointment with our spouse's changes is our unmet expectations."
"Change is inevitable; when we're doing it [marriage] right AND when we're doing it wrong, change happens."
"You gotta change the change."
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This week the boys visit with Dan Thomas. Dan is the Director of Timberline Lodge in Winter Park, CO, which is part of a larger ministry called Torchbearers International. These ministries focus on discipling young adults and impacting the next generation. Dan and the boys discuss infusing Christ into your kids and the impact that has on them when they leave our homes.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Timberline Lodge
Torchbearer's International
Timberline Blog
"Too often we're professing Christians but practicing atheists"
Website: www.timberlinelodge.org
Facebook: @TimberlineLodge
Instagram: @timberlineministries
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Spiritually and theoretically, we would all say that we want our lives, our marriages, and our children to be different from “the world.” Yet, if one takes, even a casual glance, its easy to see that we are not very different at all. In fact, we seem to be working overtime, LITERALLY, to make sure that we’re not different from our lost culture in the slightest way…except for maybe where we go on Sunday mornings…occasionally. Listen in as the guys discuss how we can learn to Viva La Difference!!
Links to information discussed in the show:
We don't wake up different, you have to be intentional in your difference.
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Your going to love the interview this week, as the guys visit with Hayley Morgan. Hayley is a writer, speaker, a social entrepreneur, owner of the online boutique, Nellie Taft, and in all her free time, authored the new book, Preach to Yourself: When Your Inner Critic Comes Calling, Talk Back with Truth. If I was Hayley’s inner critic, I’d be saying, “For the love! Stop doing so many things! You’re wearing me out!”
Links to information discussed in the show:
Nellie Taft
Some of Hayley's Books:
Preach To Yourself
Wild and Free
Website: www.hayleymorgan.com
Facebook: @hayleymorganauthor
Twitter: @hayleyEmorgan
Instagram: @hayley.e.morgan
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How can we teach our child to tell the truth, when culture is screaming at us every day that objective truth doesn’t exist? There is no greater example of this than the politically generated Transgender insanity that is currently sweeping the nation. How do you respond when your 5-year-old kindergartener is being taught, in their school, that not all boys are really boys and not all girls are really girls? They are being force fed the insidious doctrine that objective reality isn’t real after all. God has called you to parent in unprecedented times. Listen in.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Article from Brown University on Gender Dysphoria
When Harry Became Sally
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This week, Josh, has a great conversation with Ellie Holcomb. You know her as a singer/songwriter out of Nashville, Tennessee. But today, the conversation is all about her very first book, Who Sang the First Song? And no, you cannot simply google the answer, you must read this amazing debut children’s book from an amazing young artist.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Ellie's music
Ellie's Latest Book:
Who Sang the First Song?
Website: www.ellieholcomb.com
Facebook: @ellieholcombmusic
Twitter: @ellieholcomb
Instagram: @ellieholcomb
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The week after Thanksgiving is the perfect time to discuss gluttony don’t you think? The week after Black Friday is even a better time to talk about another type of gluttony. Spending too much on things that we hope will make us happy. Research and Scripture are in lockstep agreement, money and the things that you can buy with it , do not, I repeat, do not bring us any more joy, contentment, or happiness. Yet, we keep spending that it will. Why is that?
Links to information discussed in the show:
This is Us
Selena Gomez
Oscar Wilde - 'self denial is the shining sore on the leprous body of Christianity'
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This week the guys sit down with Bryan Loritts about the new book that he co-authored with John Ortberg, Insider Outsider: My Journey as a Stranger in White Evangelicalism and My Hope for Us All. Can anything lessen the polarization of today’s culture? Is there any hope for racial reconciliation? Listen in and learn the answers to these and many more questions from one of the Pairadocs most amazing guests!
Links to information discussed in the show:
Abundant Life Christian Fellowship
Outreach Magazine
Bryan's Latest Book:
Insider Outsider: My Journey as a Stranger in White Evangelicalism and My Hope for Us All
Website: www.bryanloritts.co
Facebook: @bryanloritts
Twitter: @ALCF
Instagram: @loritts
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For all the news that’s fit to cast on a pod! This week Jimmy and Josh look at the latest news and journal articles that will catch you up on the latest in arena of marriage and parenting. Don’t be the last on your block to be IN THE KNOW!! Don’t be ignorant! Don’t be a know-nothing, out-of-touch, brain dead, nincompoop! Listen in!!
Links to information discussed in the show:
Holland Man Identifies as 20 Years Younger
Half of Teens are Sleep Deprived
Negative Impact of Too Much Screen Time
#1 Reason Parents Don't Warn Their Kids About Pornography
Randy Gunther - 10 Crucial Behaviors That Keep Love Alive
John Gottman - Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage
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This week Jimmy sits down with an ol' buddy of this Case Keenum. Yes, THAT Case Keenum, The starting quarterback of the Denver Broncos. Well, it not really like Jimmy KNOWS him personally, but they did grow up in west Texas near Abilene, They both played Texas high school football, and Jimmy won honorable all district linebacker, and Case took the Minnesota Vikings to the NFC Championship game...
They discuss their mutual athletic prowess and Case’s new book, Playing for More: Trust Beyond What You Can See.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Denver Broncos
Minnesota Vikings
Cisco, TX Football
Case's Latest Book:
Playing for More: Trust Beyond What You Can See
Twitter: @casekeenum
Instagram: @casekeenum7
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I know it’s hard to believe, but one day, in the very near future, your child is going to leave to go on a date. Yep, that was a rush of adrenaline that you just felt. It’s a shock, but true. This week, the guys discuss the ins and outs of dating. All your questions will be answered, who, what, where, when, and sometimes Y and W. It’s never too early to prepare for that day when your little girl walks out of your house alone with a testosterone enflamed young man.
Links to information discussed in the show:
The sooner kids begin one on one dating, the sooner they begin sexual intercourse.
Dads prepare boys and protect girls
Importance placed on dating, but not give everything away too quickly
Melody Green article on dating unbelievers
Dating Standards:
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Only date believers
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Suggestion: Group dating at 15, individual dating at 16
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This week the docs sit down with Brett Kunkle to discuss his new book, A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World. If you’re worried about this culture’s impact on your child as they head off to school every day, this discussion is for you. Your kids can be prepared to take on all this secular society has to throw at them, and Brett’s books show you how you can be the instrument in God’s hand’s to bring that about.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Maven
Brett's Latest Book:
A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today's World
Website: www.maventruth.com
Twitter: @BrettKunkle
Facebook: @brett.kunkle
Instagram: @brettkunkle
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Is the current, toxic political environment making you anxious? Scared? Angry? A recent radio show asked if it was possible that we are heading for another great American Civil War. And they were serious! If this political vitriol and violence is perplexing you and your family, tune in this week as the guys discuss how your family can survive these political times of turmoil.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Kavanaugh Hearings
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Ok, ok, ok. We know this is a big week. You can't lead a season with just anyone, that is why we are dropping our interview with none other than Sandy Patty this week. Say what? Yes, we said it - Sandi Patty! Listen in as Jimmy and Josh discuss Sandi's latest book.
Links to information discussed in the show: I've Got Confidence (Sound of Music)
Was it a Morning Like This? MUST LISTEN
Sandi's latest book:
The Voice
Website: www.sandipatty.com
Twitter: @SandiPattyP
Facebook: @Sandi.Patty.Music
Instagram: @sandipattyp
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This week Josh and Jimmy sit down with Rodney Bullard who is the Vice President of Community Affairs with Chick-fil-A, Executive Director of the Chick-fil-A Foundation, and author of the new book, Heroes Wanted. You are going to love Rodney, an amazing man, with an amazing story, who will share the secret of those amazing waffle fries!!
Links to information discussed in the show:
chickfila.com
#heroismondisplay
Website: www.heroeswantedbook.com
Facebook: @authorrodneybullard
Twitter: @rodney_bullard
Instagram: @rodney.bullard
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Tune in as the guys kick around Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse. Watch Josh treat Jimmy with Contempt, Criticism, Stonewalling, and Defensiveness!
Links to information discussed in the show:
Pairadocs on YouTube!
John Gottman
The Four Horsemen:
Criticism - Complain about a person's behavior while attacking the person
Contempt - Overall vindictive and hateful attitude toward the person
Defensiveness - Self protection through righteous indignation or playing the victim
Stonewalling - Stop fighting and not seeking resolution
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Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
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Shoulder some of the blame in every argument; find where you have fault.
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Realize your spouse is not the enemy; he/she is on your same team.
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Don't react, respond to your spouse's mistakes/sin.
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If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com.
This week the guys talk to the gals behind the podcast Risen Motherhood. If you’re a parent, especially a mom, their story is going to move and motivate you.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Risen Motherhood
Risen Motherhood Equipping
Loving the Difficult Mom
Website: www.risenmotherhood.com
Facebook: @risenmotherhood
Twitter: @risenmotherhood
Instagram: @risenmotherhood
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This week, the boys wrap up their discussion on Contentment…I know this sounds boring, but this lies at the very heart of so many problems that beset our families today. Listen in.
Links to information discussed in the show:
"Contentment is not a behavioral issue, it is a spiritual and emotional issue."
Allen Iverson - Georgetown University
Gottman's Perpetual Marital Problems
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems - AA Big Book p. 417
"The answer for unresolved issues - contentment"
Antioch Community Church- Waco
Daniel Grant - Google
"Teaching your kids contentment occurs through modeling."
Ways to fight discontentment:
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Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.
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Humility.
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Embrace enough.
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Discernment. Practice wisdom.
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Have faith and trust in God. Be assured of the things you cannot see.
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Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
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Accept that some things will happen no matter what you do.
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Accept that some things will not change quickly.
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Give yourself license to be human and struggle.
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If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com.
While Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things. She is hilarious and you're going to love her interview!
Links to information discussed in the show:
Aggie Football
Pioneer Woman
Big Boo Podcast
Sophie Hudson (Boo Mama)
Book by Melanie:
Nobody's Cuter Than You
The Antelope in the Living Room
Church of the Small Things
Website: www.thebigmamablog.com
Facebook: @melaniemshankle
Twitter:@BigMama
Instagram: @melanieshankle
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We are so passionate about our nation’s, church’s, and family’s lack of contentment, that we filled two shows. This week is part one. We were going to leave it just one show, but then there was all this other info that we felt had to be added. I mean we couldn’t just leave it like that unfinished, could we? It had to be better, in fact this show on contentment could never be good enough, right? We have to keep working to get it just right. I’m not sure we can get it done in just two shows…maybe we need three shows to get the topic on contentment JUST right…
Links to information discussed in the show:
Pairadocs on YouTube
Keith Green
Ray Price
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Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
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Make time for down time every day.
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Make a list of things you're grateful for.
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Celebrate small successes.
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If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com.
Both of these guys are married. Both love their wives. But this week, they kick around the difficult issue of, not just loving their wives, but making sure their wives feel as though they are their number one priority. Everybody knows we should make our spouses number one, but it’s easier said than done. It looks good on paper, but as my old football coach used to say, “We don’t play on paper!”
Links to information discussed in the show:
Talladega Nights
#1 Wife Mug
AL Franken sexual issues
Steve Martin Christmas Skit
"My job isn't to love my spouse, my job is to make sure my spouse feels loved by me"
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Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
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Connect with your spouse emotionally throughout the day.
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Check in before making decisions.
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Give your spouse every day.
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If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com.
You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Bob's Latest Book:
Everybody Always
Also:
Love Does
Website: www.bobgoff.com
Facebook: @bobgoffis
Instagram: @bobgoff
Twitter:@bobgoff
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This week Josh and Jimmy plow into their second week of exposing Marital Myths. This week they confront Myth #3, Common Interests Keep Us Together and Myth #4, Never Go to Bed Angry. Dumber words have never been spoken…other than, “Love is never having to say you’re sorry.” Now, THAT was really dumb, but these two are really dumb as well.
Links to information discussed in the show: Marriage Myth #3: Common Interests Keep Us Together You grow and change, so grow and change together Commitment should be what keeps you together Interest in our spouse, not in our spouse's interest Marriage Myth #4 Never Go to Bed Angry Not about the time it happens, just that you don't let it fester Allow anger, but figure out what is behind the anger Don't let anger turn to bitterness -----
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The docs are so excited to sit down this week with none other than Annie Downs. Annie is host of the very popular That Sound Fun Podcast, and author of the new book, Remember God. You know her, you love her, and your going to love her even more after hearing her what she has to say about this book that she never wanted to write.
Links to information discussed in the show: That Sounds Fun Podcast When God Doesn't Make Sense By James Dobson Annie's latest book: Remember God Other books by Annie ---- Website: www.anniefdowns.com Twitter: @anniefdowns Facebook: @anniefdowns Instagram: @anniefdowns -----
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For the past few weeks the boys have discussed several parenting myths, now it's time to take a swing at the spouses. This is the first installment of marriage myths. Listen in as Jimmy and Josh dispel the myths that happy couples don't argue and marital sex is boring sex. Links to information discussed in the show: Marriage Myth #1: Happy Couples Don't Argue Happy couples... argue within limits and just about the issue at hand. can agree to disagree solve problems pursue mutual understanding and mutual empathy Marriage Myth #2 Monogamous Marital Sex is Boring Sex Happiest, most satisfied sexual relationships are long term relationships David Schnarch If you believe marital sex is boring and bad, you will look elsewhere Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com
The guys are excited to sit down, for the second time, with Shannan Martin about her new book, Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God’s Goodness Around You. They discuss how God doesn’t call us to necessarily do great things in exotic places, but to do ordinary things in ordinary places to fulfill His Kingdom here on earth. You’re going to love her…again!
Links to information discussed in the show: Shannan's latest book: Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God's Goodness Around You ---- Website: www.shannanmartinwrites.com Twitter: @ShannanWrites Facebook: @shannanmartinwrites Instagram: @shannanwrites ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com
This week Jimmy and Josh discuss two more parenting myths that so many of us fall victim to. Myth #3- We as parents must treat all our children exactly the same. And Myth #4- If you become angry in front of your kids, you’re a bad parent. Listen in as the guys de-bunk the bunk!
This week we are breathing rarefied air as we are welcoming back one of just two guests that have appeared twice on Pairadocs podcast. While Jimmy is out healing hearts and generally making the world a better place, Josh sits down, once again, with Van Moody about his latest book, Desired by God: Discover a Strong, Soul-Satisfying Relationship with God by Understanding Who His Is and How Much He Loves You
This week is the first week in a two-part series on Parenting Myths! Beliefs about parenting that are generally held to be true, yet are as wrong as wrong can be…and wrong can be pretty wrong! Listen in as the guys discuss Myth #1- Kids should never see their parents argue, and Myth #2- The kids always come first. How can these two be so wrong, when they feel so right? Let’s discuss.
This week the podcast features none other than Sam Collier who is a speaker, social change agent, and host of a national TV show that highlights conversations with the greatest names in Christianity today. Today, Sam gets to add the Pairadocs to that list…
Are you and/or your spouse guilty of putting other things before your marriage? If we're not careful, our careers can easily come before our marriage. But this only serves to splinter our home. So what are we to do? Listen in this week as the guys talk through ways to always keep your marriage first.
Today, Jimmy and Josh talk to the real deal. If you ever wanted to mold your Christian faith after a modern-day disciple of Jesus, Dr. David Vanderpool would be THE MAN. A successful surgeon in Dallas, Texas, left his practice and moved his family to Haiti, to change lives for the Kingdom, one broken dream at a time.
The guys talk through whether or not you should spank your kids? Is it ok? Why are so many countries outlawing it? Listen in.
The guys sit down with Dana Bowman today, mom, author, blogger. You will love her! She talks about how to be perfect, like her! Enjoy.
This week the fellas sit down with, (she could have actually been standing, I don’t remember) Autumn Miles about her new book, I Am Rahab: Touched by God, Fully Restored. Autumn talks about her revelation that, just like her, most of the great heroes of the Bible were ordinary people who sinned, but God's love, mercy, and truth proved greater. Listen to her story and see if its not your story as well.
Listen, we hate to be the ones to break this to you, but here goes…you and your spouse are different. And not just you and your spouse, ALL men and women are different. Despite the growing drumbeat of voices trying to convince us otherwise, males and females are physically, genetically, mentally, and emotionally different. So, when you are at your breakfast table and are staring incomprehensively at the person that is the source of so much frustration in your life. It might not be that they are evil…though we cannot rule that out… It might be that they are simply different. In fact, different as night and day.
The week, the boys bring you Part 2 in their 3-part series, on the big stumbling blocks that can lead believers to lose their faith. They sit down, once again, with Dr. Andy Bannister, author of the new book, The Atheist Who Didn’t Exist, and explore the issue of Universalism. Or in simpler terms…do all faiths lead to heaven. As Oprah was famous for saying, “Do you really think God cares if you call his son Jesus or not?” Well, does He? Listen in and let’s find out.
This week, Jimmy and Josh discuss some of the latest parenting and family news articles found floating through the interwebs. Join them and get caught up on all the pertinent information you need to know to be a fully informed and engaged parent.
So, your neighbor leans back on your couch and says, “I appreciate you inviting me to church, but I’m not really into the God thing. I guess I would believe in God, but with all the evil and suffering in the world…I don’t know. I just don’t think a God that is all loving and all powerful would allow that, so I’ve concluded there is no God.” And your response would be? What? Come on! Think of something! There’s no need to fear, the Pairadocs are here! Listen in as we talk with Andy Bannister, the author of, The Atheist Who Didn’t Exist, as we grapple with the very issues that caused Tony Campolo’s son, Bart, to reject his faith and adopt atheism.
Listen in as Jimmy and Josh discuss Dr. Madeline Levine’s new book, The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids. You would think that it would be great for a kid to grow up in a home where all his needs are met, parents are focused and involved, and he’s provided with the best educational experience out there…but apparently, you’d be wrong. We’re learning that the more a child is given in life, the more toxic that life can become.
Emerson Eggerichs, sits down with the guys this week to discuss his new book, The 4 Wills of God: The Way He Directs Our Steps and Frees Us to Direct Our Own. Most of us know Emerson from his best-selling book Love and Respect, but in his latest book, he delves into the mystery of knowing God’s will for your life. BTW, it ain’t as mysterious as you may think!
If Josh and Jimmy could share one thing with struggling anxious parents it would be, “Relax! You’re not going to screw up your kids!” You know why grandparents make such great parents now? They tend not to sweat the small stuff, and a lifetime of parenting has taught them that most things are small stuff. If you love your kids and try to be the best parent you can be…take a deep breath and chill. They’re going to be okay. This whole parenting thing may kill you, but your kids are going to be okay.
This week, Josh sits down with Johnny Baker who is the Celebrate Recovery pastor at Saddleback church in California (where CR got started BTW) and national director of Celebrate Recovery about his brand-new book, The Road to Freedom. So if you struggle with any type of hurt, hang-up, or habit…this interview is for you.
This week Jimmy and Josh discuss their road to success, including how they recently were awarded the Nobel Peace Prize…oh, okay. So that’s actually not what they are discussing. Instead, they will probe the topic of Rigorous Honesty within the family. They will unpack this issue and emphasize just how important honesty is in all our relationships. BUT, when it comes to honesty, is it possible to have too much of a good thing? Listen in to find out.
This week the boys sit down with Stephen Grcevich to discuss his latest book, Mental Health and the Church: A Ministry Handbook for Including Children and Adults ADHD, Anxiety, Mood Disorders, and Other Common Mental Health Conditions. Come on, any book with a title that long has got to be great! Right?! Give a listen, because chances are you or someone close to you suffers from some type of mental/emotional difficulty. This book discusses not only how to minister to them, but how to include them in what God is doing at your church.
This week Jimmy and Josh piggy back off of their discussion with Sam Ponder about the sexism that she experienced while being a lone female in an industry that is all but exclusively male. That got the guys thinking about sexism within the Christian community. Is it real, or are some people simply making much ado about nothing? Has the traditional protestant doctrine of women can’t be pastors and wives are to submit to their husbands opened the door to sexual discrimination that many of us don’t even notice? Listen in! If you’re a guy or you’re a gal, I’m sure both sexes will be equally angry at us by the time the episode concludes!
This week we kickoff the 2nd half of the 2018 season of Pairadocs, with the boys sitting down with Sam Ponder. For several years, Sam was one of the hosts of ESPN College Gameday, and most recently is now the host for ESPN’s Sunday NFL Countdown. She’s a gregarious believer, married to an ex-NFL quarterback, and is in front of millions of people a week talking about pro football. She maybe the most perfect female alive on the planet!!! Sam’s an amazing woman with an amazing platform with which to share her faith in Christ. Not a shabby way to lead off the fall of 2018!
The Pairadocs sit down and discuss parental anger today. Let’s face it, kids are little idiots. They do and say the stupidest things – God love them. It is easy to be frustrated when trying to do life with them, but parental anger is one of the most harmful things we can do and show our children. In this episode Jimmy and Josh share ways you can keep calm when parenting your kids.
The guys interview Gary Thomas today on the show. Gary is a pastor, author, speaker and he has a passion for his Savior and assisting struggling marriages. Jimmy and Josh discuss his latest book, Cherish.
So, what do we do when our spouse seemingly refuses to love us? We try to love them. We go so far as to figure out their love language and love them that way, but it seems to be a one-way street. Short of a Louisville Slugger up side their head, what’s a spouse to do?! Listen in as the guys give you some much needed options.
The Pairadocs sit down with Jess Connolly today, author of Wild and Free. She and her co-author, Haley Morgan, discuss the importance of women learning to live without the limitations of two foundational insecurities: "I am too much" and "I am not enough." Listen in as she describes how important of a concept this is to grasp for husbands and parents of young women.
Jimmy and Josh discuss not letting emotions control your marital relationship. When it comes to marriage there is a lot of attention paid to the fact that emotions should be given and received. We should have more, not less, emotions, correct? It depends. The guys talk about the dangers of having too many emotions in marriage.
How does your family treat school? Does it run your family? Does your child believe you’re only satisfied with him if he makes good grades? Believe it or not, school is way too important in our society today. The Pairadocs discuss ways to limit its importance while still keeping it a priority.
The guys sit down with Jennie Allen and discuss her latest book Nothing to Prove. Listen in and she discusses why you no longer have to try so hard!
Jimmy and Josh discuss inlaws on today’s show. Our families of origin can often times have too much control over our marriage, family and children. Listen in as the Pairadocs share insight dealing with inlaws that become outlaws.
Lisa Bevere is an author, blogger, speaker. Her latest book Without Rival has crowned her as the latest New York Times Best Seller. You will not want to miss her insight! Lisa shares how spouses and parents alike can learn to love their intimate relationships uniquely.
This week the guys discuss sibling rivalry. What’s normal? What’s not? What should I, as a parent, be worried about, or are all siblings mortal enemies? Do your children need a referee more than a parent? If so, then this episode is for you.
This week the boys sit down with…one of the boys. Not only is Billy Lee Myers Jr. Jimmy’s older brother and audio, technical, and overall production director of Pairadocs, he was once the acclaimed audio supervisor for the world renown TV music show, Austin City Limits for over 20 years, until…he broke his neck. That injury sidelined him from the music industry job that he loved but opened doors and opportunities that he couldn’t have imagined. Billy is now a well-respected psychotherapist in Austin and sits down on the other side of the mic this time to discuss how to recover and move on from life altering trauma. If you haven’t walked that road…you will. This is a great conversation with a one-of-a-kind human being that you’ll end up loving as much as we do.
This event occurs in every family. It evokes strong emotions. From intense dread and sadness to excitement and anticipation. What is it? A kid leaves the nest, blows the coop, hits the road or hollers, “hosta la vista!” from their rearview mirror. Call it what you want, look forward to it or view it with dismay, when your child exits the family domicile, it is a major life event…for everyone in the family. How do we navigate the treacherous waters of a child leaving home in the most functional and healthy way? Listen this week as the docs unpack this issue before your child packs their bags.
This week Josh sits down with Brian Dembowczyk. No, he’s not from Canada, in fact, he can’t even skate! Brian is the managing editor of The Gospel Project, which is a Bible study resource that is used by over one million people each week. They discuss Brian’s latest book, Cornerstones. If you want your child engaged and connected to Scripture like never before, this interview is a must listen.
“Watch your mouth young man! We don’t speak like that in this family!” How many times have you had to say something like that to one of your kids? Or…to your spouse? It seems like language in our culture is getting more and more coarse. And, of course, so is the language in many of our homes. This week the guys have a #$%*^!@ discussion on taming the tongue in your family. And if not “taming” it exactly, maybe how we could domesticate it…slightly.
This week while Josh is off galivanting. Jimmy sits down with award winning author Ginger Hubbard to discuss her new book, I Can’t Believe You Just Said That! Biblical Wisdom for Taming Your Child’s Tongue. If scolding, punishing, or yelling are ineffective ways of handling our kid’s wayward speech. What is a solid biblical approach? Listen in and you’ll find out!
This week the guys tackle the topic of Confirmation Bias! If that doesn’t thrill you then, the thrill is gone! What is Confirmation Bias you may ask? If truth be known, psychologically, we have a habit of only hearing what we expect to hear and seeing only what we expect to see. This can be a royal pain in any relationship and be the root cause of most marital conflict.
You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.
Shame is this insidious, silent killer that destroys relationships, families, and lives. Many of us grew up with shame as our constant companion, and without even thinking, we allow it to impact our marriages and we pass that shame on to our kids. Yet, shame leads to isolation and that breads sin, addition, and other lethal pathologies. Listen this week and Josh and Jimmy show us how to embrace Guilt and reject Shame.
How do we teach our kids how to regulate their emotions? How do we teach them just because they have thoughts and feelings in their heads, they don’t automatically have to come out of their mouths? This week, the guys talk to one of their own. Candace McArthur is the director of the Intensive Outpatient Program at the Timothy Center here in Austin. You’re going to love what she has to say. In fact, since we spoke with Candace, I don’t think that Josh has yelled at me once. Candace, I owe you one…
Sex. What are we going to do? It’s everywhere. But how do we navigate the treacherous waters of talking to our kids about the subject that must not be mentioned? What should parents say? What should we not say? What’s too much information? And when are we creating a fixation within our kids by treating sex like the most taboo subject in the world. This week the boys talk about sex. More specifically, the healthiest way to talk to your kids about it.
Listen in this week as the dynamic duo sit down for an enthralling interview with Sarah Mackenzie. Sarah is a, speaker, podcast host, and author of the new book, The Read Aloud Family. Once you listen to this conversation, you’re going to turn off whatever appalling electronic device you’re listening to, grab your child and read to them…Aloud! It has to be aloud! The benefits you may ask? You ain’t going to believe this…
We are diligent to make sure that our kids don’t call other people names, right? Yet, in many of our homes…and cars, our kids hear us calling people names all the time. Things like, “If they are pro-choice, they are just baby killers!” “If they are not for gun control, they want kids to die!” “He’s nothing but a commie!” “She’s nothing but a Nazi!” or “All those people are terrorists!” We can’t ask our kids to do something we are not willing to do ourselves. Listen in as the guys talk about why we should, metaphorically speaking, of course, put a sock in it!
Michael Kelley is a big wig with LifeWay Christian Resources and the author of the new book, Growing Down: Unlearning Patterns of Adulthood That Keep Us from Jesus. Jimmy ditched Josh so that he could have an adult conversation with Michael about how Jesus meant it when He said that the children were blessed. Learn how growing up can sometimes lead us away from a childlike faith.
So, what do we do when our spouse seemingly refuses to love us? We try to love them. We go so far as to figure out their love language and love them that way, but it seems to be a one-way street. Short of a Louisville Slugger up side their head, what’s a spouse to do?! Listen in as the guys give you some much needed options.
The fellas are proud to bring to the golden Pairadocs microphones, Eric Geiger. Eric is senior VP at LifeWay, has the Five Leadership Questions podcast, and author of his latest book, How to Ruin Your Life. We’ve all seen the stories of King David and a host of other spiritual leaders that have, due to their own sinful behavior, had their lives completely implode. But through Christ, their stories don’t stop with their biggest mistake…and neither will yours.
Join the guys this week as they discuss a parent’s healthy, biblical approach to addressing the issue of homosexuality in one of their children. What is the right approach? What is the wrong approach? What…are we supposed to do?! Come to find out…love will find a way.
Listen this week as Jimmy and Josh let down their hair, make their way to the mosh pit, and have an in depth conversation with Tommy Green, the lead singer of the Christian hardcore band, Sleeping Giant. This guy is intriguing, original, passionate, and an amazing believer. See what you can learn from a guy with more tattoos than…well, certainly more than Josh. Way more than Josh.
Most Christian parent’s worst nightmare is the moment when their child might say the dreaded words, “Stop trying to cram your religion down my throat!” This week, the boys discuss the difference between a teen’s healthy examination of their faith and a complete rejection of it. And, how are parents sometimes the cause…
This week the guys sit down with Randy Robison and his new book, Age of Promise. Listen in as they discuss the importance of not dismissing the Old Testament from our modern-day faith. It’s importance to our family and our faith walk.
This week Jimmy and Josh delve into the impact and importance of our family of origin. FOO in psychology circles. Not only did you not leave your FOO when you got married or left your home as an adult. Your FOO still has a strong influence on who you are and where you’re going.
This week Josh sits down with Emily Stroud who owns and operates a boutique investment firm, and author of the new book, Faithful Finance. Learn how to overcome your fear of money and all the complications that come with that.
We all know one. The verbally abusive parent, the bully at school or work, or the neighbor who just seems mean. This week the guys discuss the best way to understand and deal with these folks. Listen in as they discuss the truth about how hurt people hurt people.
This week Josh and Jimmy sit down with Rodney Bullard who is the Vice President of Community Affairs with Chick-fil-A, Executive Director of the Chick-fil-A Foundation, and author of the new book, Heroes Wanted. You are going to love Rodney, an amazing man, with an amazing story, who will share the secret of those amazing waffle fries!!
When does a great thing, like being involved in your church or faith community, become a not so great thing? Is that even possible? This week the boys unpack the sticky issue of being TOO involved at church and how that ministry involvement can be used of the Evil One to do damage to your faith and family.
This week the dynamic duo sits down to talk with Alli Worthington about her new book Fierce Faith.So many of us will identify with her experience of suffering from crippling anxiety. We discuss her story and learn how her fear was cured by a fierce faith in her heavenly Father!
Enjoy the conversation that the guys have this week with Chris Heuertz about his new book, The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth. We discuss his fascinating life and his thoughts on the 9 pathways back to God that every person must walk.
This week the docs speak with director/producer John Finch about his latest film and book, The Father Effect. They talk about father wounds and the hard, but grace filled road to recovery.
Lynn Cherry is the latest to sit down with the guys and discuss her latest book, Keep Walking: 40 Days of Hope and Freedom After Betrayal. She has a sensitive story of hope that everyone listening can relate to. She shares how God works after every spouse’s worst nightmare comes true.
This week, Jimmy and Josh talk with actor, producer, and author Andrea Logan White and her new book, Perfectly Unfinished. They discuss that no matter how messy our lives may be, God redeems and renews.
This week, check it out as the guys talk to Daniel Im about his new book, No Silver Bullets: Five Small Shifts that will Transform Your Ministry. We learn the secret behind taking no shortcuts when it comes to life, family, or ministry.
This week the fellas speak with Trillia Newbell about her new children’s book, God’s Very Good Idea. You will hear a discussion on diversity like you’ve never heard before, and you’re going to fall in love with her spirit, wisdom, and faith…just like we did.
The Pairadocs talk about Affair Proofing your marriage. These are timeless tips, whether your marriage is in despair or you're in a great place, these truths can help any couple.
The Pairadocs sit down with Erwin McManus, pastor at Mosaic, a futurist and iconoclast. He has incredible insight for the church, and as we move forward into the 21st century he offers hope for families, even in the midst of a secular world.
Pornography. One of the most devastating “drugs” of our time. The Pairadocs discuss how you can begin avoiding the temptation and live in freedom from pornography.
The guys sit down with Chad Veach, pastor and author of Unreasonable Hope. Chad discusses his daughter's illness and how he finally had to place his hope in the person of Jesus, not the outcome of the illness. He shares stories of his tattoo movement and how you can live a Zoe life.
Do you struggle with “stinkin thinkin”? Odds are, yes. At some level all of us do. Join the Pairadocs today as they discuss ways your brain plays tricks on you.
The Pairadocs interview Lysa TerKeurst today. She is the bestselling author of over 19 books. Her latest book, Uninvited, encourages people to Live Loved. Lysa shares her insight regarding how easy it is to feel unloved, but encourages believers to rest in God's unending love and affection.
The Pairadocs discuss a common struggle for couples, different libidos. How should a couple handle this? How should they discuss this with each other? Jimmy and Josh answer these questions and more in this episode.
The Pairadocs sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, creator of The Five Love Languages. His decades of experience provide the guys with invaluable insight. Enjoy!
As you settle in this Christmas season, after a long night of wassailing, caroling, and ushering Aunt Betty to bed after having had too many slices of rum cake…We’d love for you to take a listen as the guys discuss two distinctly different Christmas topics (Hence, the bi polar Christmas designation); the importance of establishing family Christmas traditions and how to handle unruly family members.
This week the boys sit down with Bri McKoy the author of the recently released book, Come and Eat: A Celebration of Love and Grace Around the Everyday Table. It was a great discussion on family, marriage, and…actually, who am I kidding? After I read the title, all I could think about was Taco Bell…
Many of you have seen the controversial Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why. Since this show has sparked so much fascination with teens, and full-blown panic with parents, Jimmy and Josh have decided to explore the issue of teen suicide and self-harm this week. They separate fact from fiction, and offer up some advice to parents as to what can be done about it.
This week the guys speak with Crystal Evans Hurst about her new book, She’s Still There: Rescuing the Girl in You. Ladies, Crystal will speak to your heart, and guys, she will speak to your wife’s heart. So trust me when I say, it would behoove you to eavesdrop on the conversation.
Both of these guys are married. Both love their wives. But this week, they kick around the difficult issue of, not just loving their wives, but making sure their wives feel as though they are their number one priority. Everybody knows we should make our spouses number one, but it’s easier said than done. It looks good on paper, but as my old football coach used to say, “We don’t play on paper!”
This week, the boys welcome back an old friend of the show, Jamie Ivey, of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey podcast fame. They reminisce, shoot the bull, and talk about her very first book, If You Only Knew, due out this January.
This week is going to be like no other! In the past, the world has collectively held their breath in anticipation when man first walked on the moon, when the Berlin Wall came down…and now for Pairadocs’ 100th episode!!!!! You’ve laughed, you’ve cried, you’ve felt slightly nauseous! Come join the celebration and listen this week as the guys relive some of the most memorable moments from the past 99 episodes!
This week the guys are sitting down with Dr. Joe McIlhaney an OB/GYN and founder of the Medical Institute of Sexual Health, whose specialty is sexual culture and its impact on teens. Especially young teen girls. If you’re raising a girl, or think you may one day, this is a MUST listen.
If you look at the list of top ten teen sins, you see that the basic cause is peer pressure. But why are kids so susceptible to peer pressure? It seems that they want to be accepted by their social group so bad that they’ll do anything…including violate their own moral, ethical, and faith boundaries. That my friends is called low self-worth. But where on earth does that come from? Listen in this week as the boys discuss the origins of low self-esteem in our kids.
This week the guys talk to an old friend. And when I say “old”, I’m talking mid 1990’s old. Come to find out, Tish Harrison Warren, author of the wildly popular book, Liturgy of the Ordinary was once a teenager in the church youth group where Jimmy was the youth minister. How crazy is that?! Listen in for old times, and her discussion of her amazing book.
This week, the boys wrap up their discussion on Contentment…I know this sounds boring, but this lies at the very heart of so many problems that beset our families today. Listen in.
This week the guys interview Jerrad Lopes the Pastor of the online community, Dad Tired. They discuss, dissect, and celebrate all things fatherhood. Grab the dude in your life and take a listen!
We are so passionate about our nation’s, church’s, and family’s lack of contentment, that we filled two shows. This week is part one. We were going to leave it just one show, but then there was all this other info that we felt had to be added. I mean, we couldn’t just leave it like that unfinished, could we? It had to be better, in fact this show on contentment could never be good enough, right? We have to keep working to get it just right. I’m not sure we can get it done in just two shows…maybe we need three shows to get the topic on contentment JUST right…
While Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things. She's hilarious and your going to love her interview!
Tune in as the guys kick around Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse. Watch Josh treat Jimmy with Contempt, Criticism, Stonewalling, and Defensiveness!
This week the guys talk to international movie star, Will Smith…what?...oh,…okay, so apparently they are not talking with Will Smith, but they ARE speaking with the actual doctor that he played in the movie, Concussion. He discusses his new book, TRUTH, Doesn’t Have a Side. If you have a child playing a contact sport, you must check it out!
This week the guys tackle the sensitive issue of shame based parenting. Did your parents use shame as a motivator when you were growing up? Do you ever find yourself doing the same with your kids? Do you want to stop? Do you find I’m using too many rhetorical questions in a row? Do you find this irritating? Would you like to shame me into stopping? Tune in!!!
Listen this week, as Josh talks to Shauna Shanks. She a blogger, a writer, and…home designer and builder…is it just me, or do those things seem not to go together? She speaks about her latest book, Fierce Love. Don’t miss it!
As Christians we like to sing about grace and mercy and listen to sermons about grace and mercy, but when it comes to grace, mercy, and forgiveness in our marriages, we act like we’ve never heard of the concept. Let’s talk about how we can not only show mercy, but love mercy!
Okay, I’m sorry, but you’re going to absolutely love this guy! The boys talk this week with Carlos Whittaker author of the new book, Kill the Spider: Getting Rid of What’s Really Holding You Back.
The boys get personal this week and discuss the touchy topic of Work-a-holism. We’re just trying to get by, right? All my hard work is all for the family, right? Well, if it’s been awhile since your toes have been stepped on…join us!
This week the guys visit with Susie Davis. Susie is an author, blogger, speaker, pastor’s wife, and someone who has struggled with fear and anxiety most of her life. You really need to check it out.
We talk all the time about how damaging constant social media use is to our children, but this week, the boys take up the subject of social media use and the parent…crickets…crickets….
Join us on a wild a wacky guilt trip focusing on the dangers of social media use and parents. Check it out…just don’t check it out on social media, cuz there is that whole hypocrisy thing.
Listen this week as Josh and Jimmy talk with Matt Carter, pastor of Austin Stone in Austin, Texas. Listen as Matt talks about his new book, Steal Away Home, and tries to shameless coerce a free lunch out of Jimmy.
The research tells us that Christian young people are leaving the church in droves, never to return. What can you do as a parent to turn the tide, and help solidify your child’s faith? Tune in to find out!
This week the guys talk to the gals behind the podcast Risen Motherhood. If you’re a parent, especially a mom, their story is going to move and motivate you.
The week’s episode covers the chapter in Jimmy’s new book, Fearless Parenting, called The Push. Is your child into sports? Are you even more into your child being into sports? Well, if you didn’t dislike Jimmy by this episode, this topic is going to seal the deal.
This week, the boys talk with Barnabas Piper, author of the book, The Curious Christian. Are you curious about what it’s about? Are you a Christian? This episode is for you…obviously.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”? Well, stupider… if that’s a word, stupider words have never been spoken. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to prevent your words from harming your family in ways that can last a lifetime.
Lisa Bevere is an author, blogger, speaker. Her latest book Without Rival has crowned her as the latest New York Times Best Seller. You will not want to miss her insight! Lisa shares how spouses and parents alike can learn to love their intimate relationships uniquely.
Josh sits down with Jimmy to discuss Fearless Parenting that drops in July. They discuss how parents should move away from fear-based parenting and move toward preparation-based parenting.
The guys sit down with Jennie Allen and discuss her latest book Nothing to Prove. Listen in as she discusses why you no longer have to try so hard!
The guys sit down with Nicki Koziarz of Proverbs 31. Nicki coordinates P31’s online bible study. Nicki shares about her latest book, 5 Habits of a Woman that Doesn’t Quit. Listen in!
Josh sits down with Steve Arterburn and they discuss his latest book, The Mediterranean Love Plan. Listen in as Steve shares the 7 Secrets of Passion.
Kelly Flanagan’s latest book Loveable should be read by everyone! On today’s episode Kelly talks about his book, which describes how everyone must tackle self-doubt, shame and a lack of felt worth and value. We are all loveable!
Kate Merrick is a blogger/speaker that is most recognized for her writings that focused on her daughter’s diagnosis and battle with cancer. In recent years, Kate and her husband have wrestled with Daisy’s passing, out of that struggle came Kate’s book And Still She Laughs. Don’t miss Kate’s invaluable wisdom regarding grief, marriage, parenting and why she gave up social media.
The guys sit down with Heather MacFadyen, producer and host of the God Centered Mom Podcast. Through Heather’s podcast she normalizes and guides thousands of moms no matter the life stage of their children. Heather shares her heart and her wisdom, don’t miss!
Jeffrey Reed is a Pastor at the Church at Spring Hill and works for Lifeway Kids in Nashville, Tennessee. He shares incredible insight regarding how we can assist our kids in falling head over heels for Jesus.
The guys sit down with Dr. Tim Clinton, Professor at Liberty University and President of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Tim shares incredible insight regarding how to live healthy, balanced lives.
Boss, Manager, Consultant. The guys sit down and discuss a practical way to view parenting over time.
The Pairadocs sit down with John Trent today. John is one of the most influential Christian Counselors of our time. Don’t miss!
The Pairadocs discuss one foundational marital truth, you and your spouse are incapable of loving each other like you desire. If we can learn to accept this fact and subsequently depend on God to help you love your spouse, things – not surprisingly – work out a bit better.
Josh sits down with Ruth Simons, author, artist, and her husband, Troy. They share wonderful insight regarding faith, marriage and family. Troy shares with men how to purposefully lead within the home.
One of the most devastating “drugs” of our time. The Pairadocs discuss how you can begin avoiding the temptation and living in freedom from pornography.
The guys interview Gary Thomas today on the show. Gary is a pastor, author, speaker and he has a passion for his Savior and assisting struggling marriages. Jimmy and Josh discuss his latest book, Cherish.
Have you ever known a snowflake? The Pairadocs discuss how not to produce a snowflake on today’s show. Listen in as they share insight in how to yield fully functioning adults by the end of adolescents.
Kay Warren is an author, blogger, speaker and co-founder, along with her husband Rick, of Saddleback Church in California. The guys interview Kay today on the show. She discusses the importance of boundaries, how to safeguard your marriage from extramarital affairs, and her son’s 2013 passing.
Have you ever lived with someone that is difficult to love? It’s almost like trying to hug a cactus… The guys discuss why it is important to love that cactus and steps you can take to finally love the unlovable person.
Cliff and Joyce Penner are the Christian sexperts of all Christian sexperts. The Pairadocs sit down with the lovely couple and discuss sex, pornography and all things carnal.
Jimmy and Josh discuss in-laws on today’s show. Your family of origin can often have too much control over your marriage, family and children. Listen in as the Pairadocs share insight dealing with in-laws that become outlaws.
The guys sit down with Karen Swallow Prior today. She discusses her many writing projects, her strong pro-life belief, and – oh, yeah – that one time where she had an FBI file opened on her.
We all are supposed to be strangers in this world, right? Well then how is it that most of our kids look like other kids around them? Why do we resemble our culture so much? The Pairadocs discuss the importance of being aliens and parenting our kids to look/be different.
The guys sit down with Shaunti Feldhahn today. Shaunti is the best-selling author of books such as For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, which have sold 2 million copies in 21 different languages worldwide since 2004.
Do you struggle with “stinkin thinkin”? Odds are, yes. At some level all of us do. Join the Pairadocs today as they discuss ways your brain plays tricks on you.
The Pairadocs sit down with Gretchen Saffles today. Gretchen is a Grace-dweller, Hope-writer, wife and mama! She’s the creator of the Give Me Jesus Journal and the Life Lived Beautifully Shop. Listen in and she gives wonderful insight for women on how to be “well watered”. Men, she gives valuable wisdom on how to help you wives be well watered as well!
What does it mean to “submit” if you’re a wife? Does God call men to a similar sacrificial “submission”? These ideas and more are discussed in this week’s episode on marital submission.
Jimmy and Josh sit down with Randy Phillips today on the show. They discuss the rise and continued success of Phillips, Craig and Dean. Randy also sheds some light on some of his failures along the way.
How should we handle money in marriage? What are the compromises necessary to not have finances be an issue within our marital relationship? The guys discuss these and more money topics on this week’s episode.
The guys still down with Jason Kovacs, Director of the Austin Stone Counseling Center in Austin, Texas. Jason provides wonderful insight regarding marriage and adoption.
How does your family treat school? Does it run your family? Does your child believe you’re only satisfied with him if he makes good grades? Believe it or not, school is way too important in our society today. The Pairadocs discuss ways to limit its importance while still keeping it a priority.
The guys interview Mary Jo Sharp, apologist and professor at Houston Baptist University. Mary Jo talks through how to have faith conversations with neighbors and why the 21st century requires an intelligent faith.
The Pairadocs sit down with Trevin Wax, Bible and reference publisher for LifeWay. He is managing editor of The Gospel Project, a pastor, podcaster and author. Trevin discusses tough issues facing the church, self-denial and the marginalization of Christianity.
The guys sit down with Van Moody, pastor, author and international speaker. Van discusses his latest book, The I Factor. His work stresses the importance of knowing and accepting yourself as a child of God, first, and a spouse, parent, and/or friend, second.
Welcome back to the show! The guys took a much needed break, but look forward to digging in with some great interviews and content show! Enjoy.
The guys sit down with Aaron Hanbury today, Relevant Media Group's Editorial Director. He shares his thoughts on millennials, pornography and possible reasons for young folks leaving the church.
Josh and Jimmy interview Aaron Ivey, a Pastor at The Austin Stone. Aaron leads worship at The Stone and has fantastic insight regarding worship, and the importance God places on believers worship - not only in song - but with their lives.
The Pairadocs sit down with Jess Connolly today, author of Wild and Free. Within the book Jess and her co-author, Haley Morgan, discuss the importance of women learning to live without the limitations of two foundational insecurities: "I am too much" and "I am not enough." Listen in as she describes how important of a concept this is to grasp for husbands and parents of young women.
Jimmy and Josh speak with Natalie Hanson today. She has a travel blog where she highlights various “educational expedition” that her and her kids take. You will not want to miss her blog! Also, as a previous homeschool mom, Natalie offers fantastic encouragement for parents to not let school be the boss of your family!
Todd Phillips is the Executive Director of The Last Well, a clean water initiative in Liberia. He sits down with the guys to tell you about his ministry and to share his insight regarding putting action to your faith.
The Pairadocs sit down with Tony Campolo for an insightful interview about bridging the political gap that exists in America. He shares wisdom regarding what it means to be a Red Letter Christian.
This couldn’t be a more crazy election year! No matter the candidate you agree with, no matter the political party you identify more closely to – it is easy to be filled with fear during the 2016 election. The Pairadocs discuss how we should parentally handle this years election. God has called us toward confidence and contentment, no matter who is elected. Join the guys this week as the discuss Trickle Down Emotional Economics.
The guys sit down with Chad Veach, pastor and author of Unreasonable Hope. Chad discusses his daughter's illness and how he finally had to place his hope in the person of Jesus, not the outcome of the illness. He shares stories of his tattoo movement and how you can live a Zoe life.
Jimmy and Josh discuss "outsourcing" your children's spiritual and emotional development. So many parents feel unqualified to help their depressed, anxious and spiritually questioning child. However, the Pairadocs believe that you are the perfect person to help, regardless of qualifications. Learn how to be there for your child in life's difficult circumstances.
The Pairadocs interview Lysa TerKeurst today. She is the bestselling author of over 19 books. Her latest book, Uninvited, encourages people to Live Loved. Lysa shares her insight regarding how easy it is to feel unloved, but encourages believers to rest in God's unending love and affection.
Jimmy and Josh discuss not letting emotions control your marital relationship. When it comes to marriage there is a lot of attention paid to the fact that emotions should be given and received. We should have more, not less, emotions, correct? It depends. The guys talk about the dangers of having too many emotions in marriage.
The guys sit down with Richard Clark, the online managing editor at Christianity Today. He has some fantastic insight about how we, as believers, can appropriately engage culture.
The Pairadocs sit down and discuss parental anger today. Let’s face it, kids are little idiots. They do and say the stupidest things – God love them. It is easy to be frustrated when trying to do life with them, but parental anger is one of the most harmful things we can do and show our children. In this episode Jimmy and Josh share ways you can keep calm when parenting your kids.
Have you ever experience spiritual apathy? Ever wanted to be saved from the American Dream? The Pairdocs sit down with Shannan Martin and discuss her new book, Falling Free, and why she was blessed by giving up everything she ever wanted.
Can grace towards your kids ever become a problem? Surprisingly, yes. Jimmy and Josh sit down and discuss how too much grace can be bad for your children.
Jimmy and Josh sit down with Brandon Hatmaker. Brandon’s new book A Mile Wide takes an insight look at shallow faith. It’s a challenge for any believer to examine his faith and grow more in love with his Creator. The guys talk about deepening one’s relationship with God, the importance of moving away from helping that hurts, and tattoos. Enjoy!
What in the world do we do as parents with electronics and social media? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Tune into this episode as the guys discuss how to handle this progressively bigger issue with your children.
Have you ever experienced loss, shame, guilt, depression, hurt, etc? Who hasn’t! Christa Black Gifford talks to The Pairadocs about losing her child, learning to grieve, and at the same time fostering/bettering her relationship with her husband and other children.
Do you ever find it difficult to support your spouse when you disagree about parenting? Ever want to stand up for your kids against your spouse? Don’t! The Pairadocs discuss supporting your spouse over and above your kids. Enjoy!
The Pairadocs sit down with Erwin McManus, pastor at Mosaic, a futurist and iconoclast. He has incredible insight for the church, and as we move forward into the 21st century he offers hope for families, even in the midst of a secular world.
The Pairadocs discuss Liz Lenz's article in the Washington Post on her frustration with I Kissed Dating Goodbye and the Purity Culture. What should parents do? How should they treat dating with their children? Jimmy and Josh give biblical insight on how parents should deal with this difficult topic.
Nicole C Mullen is an incredible vocalist, to be sure, but more importantly – she has a heart that loves her Creator. She gives of herself in a way that few do, and Jimmy and Josh thoroughly enjoyed their time with her. They talk about her career and various parenting strategies.
Do you ever "should" on your spouse? Do you have a spouse that "shoulds" on you? We all have internal rulebooks that we like to force upon our spouse. Jimmy and Josh discuss surviving a marriage that has "should" everywhere.
Julies Lyles and Mike Carr sit down with The Pairadocs and share about being parents of EIGHT!!! They laugh (sometimes cry) and provide incredible truth regarding parenting in the trenches. Also, pick up a copy of Julie’s book, Raising an Original. Don’t miss it!
The Pairadocs talk about Affair Proofing your marriage. These are timeless tips, whether your marriage is in despair or you're in a great place, these truths can help any couple.
Dr. Les Parrott has been doing marriage counseling, research and mentoring for years! He and his wife have authored books that have impacted thousands of marriages. You do not want to miss his personal touch to really tough topics.
Now this might sound strange, but couples who struggle to play together - struggle to stay together. Spending leisure time together within marriage is paramount. Jimmy and Josh discuss the critical relational barometer that is leisure time.
Jimmy and Josh interview Tim Stevens. His pastoral and professional experience provides a great perspective. His passion is leadership; you’ll appreciate his words and encouragement, no matter where you find yourself in life.
Have you ever experienced conflict with your spouse? What about conflict that hasn't been resolved? Can marriages survive unresolved conflict? Yes! In this episode Jimmy and Josh give you insight into how a marriage cannot only survive, but thrive in unresolved conflict.
The Pairadocs sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, creator of The Five Love Languages. His decades of experience provide the guys with invaluable insight. Enjoy!
The Pairadocs discuss choosing parental battles this week. Parents would run themselves ragged if they chose every battle with their children. Jimmy and Josh give insight regarding what expectations you should keep and which ones you should get rid of!
The Pairadocs interview Shane and Kate Blackshear. Shane is the podcast host of Seminary Dropout. You do not want to miss Shane and Kate’s insight regarding theology, marriage and parenting.
In a country where most of us can provide for our child’s every desire, how do we stay away from fostering entitlement? The Pairadocs discuss ways to encourage your children to think outside of themselves!
The Pairadocs interview Amy and Barry Carroll today on the show. Amy is a Proverbs 31 lady, and the two of them share insights regarding having a healthy marriage and parenting their kids with purpose. Enjoy!
The Pairadocs discuss a common struggle for couples, different libidos. How should a couple handle this? How should they discuss this with each other? Jimmy and Josh answer these questions and more in this episode.
The Pairadocs square off and debate racism in America. Interesting perspectives come out when two generations discuss this important issue.
Susan B Mead is a blogger, speaker, author and soon to be podcast host. She has an incredible story of loss and hope! If you’ve ever lost a loved one, you do not want to miss this episode. Find out more about Susan at www.susanbmead.com.
For their first content show Dr. Jimmy Myers and Dr. Josh Myers discuss transgenderism. Transgender issues have been in the news a lot lately. The Pairadocs talk through a Christian's response to this difficult topic.
Jimmy and Josh bring in the "closer" for their final interview of Launch Week. Andy Bannister is lead apologist and director of Ravi Zacharias Ministry in Canada. He is an author and speaker, and he provides tremendous insight regarding why we believe what we believe as Christians.
Jimmy and Josh interview Mary DeMuth. Mary is an author, speaker and podcast host of The Restory Show. Her encouraging words of hope even in the midst of tragedy are incredible.
The guys sit down with Jamie Ivey for their first episode. Jamie is host of The Happy Hour Podcast. She is a blogger, adoption advocate, speaker and soon to be author. Don't miss her encouraging words!
Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. It focuses on marriage and parenting content that both husbands and wives can enjoy!