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Lindsay Dickhout
Host, Lindsay Dickhout, brings a wide variety of interesting topics to the table… from throwing parties, to living an awesome life, to being healthy & having fun ...if it’s awesome, we’re talking about it!
What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day, has now become a podcast! Learn from the experiences (and mistakes!) of this busy entrepreneur & mom. She’s sharing all the life hacks & tips she is learning on her journey to be AWESOME AT EVERYTHING!
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Here's the link to my 2.0 calendar planning system… https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem The perfect pairing to use with AI I explain how and why towards the end of this episode! I think most people are using AI way too small. They're asking it to rewrite an email, make a grocery list, or answer a random question… which is fine. But that's like buying a Ferrari and using it to drive to the mailbox. The real opportunity is to use AI to remove friction from your life. To make decisions faster. To stop carrying 47 unfinished thoughts around in your head. To get healthier, make more money, organize your life, solve problems faster, and actually create more space for the things you care about. Today I want to show you how to start thinking differently about AI altogether. How to use it almost like an extension of your brain… a personal assistant, strategist, researcher, coach, planner, and sounding board that is available the second you have a problem to solve. Because I really believe the people who learn how to use AI well right now are going to have an insane advantage. Not because they're smarter or working harder… but because they're going to spend so much less time stuck in the figuring-it-out phase. And that means more time spent in forward motion, less of the mundane and more time living… which is always the goal. IDEAS!! 1. TURN YOUR REFRIGERATOR INTO A PERSONAL CHEF
Take a picture of what you have and say:
"I want a high-protein dinner using these ingredients. Under 30 minutes, at least 40 grams of protein, no seed oils, kid-friendly, and minimal dishes."
Now AI isn't giving you a random recipe.
It's solving your actual dinner problem.
- USE BOOKS FOR EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED
Instead of just asking for a book summary, make it relevant to your life.
"Teach me the parenting principles from Good Inside using examples with an eight-year-old."
"Explain the identity-based habits concept from Atomic Habits and tell me how to use it for my current goal."
You can learn exactly what you need, exactly when you need it.
- USE AI AS YOUR TRAVEL CONCIERGE
Give it your destination, hotel, kids' ages, budget, preferences, and schedule.
Then ask it to:
• Build the itinerary
• Avoid tourist traps
• Find great restaurants
• Plan rainy-day backups
• Organize everything geographically
• Tell you what to pack
• Compare hotel options
• Decide whether upgrades are worth it
It can save hours of research.
- TREAT IT LIKE A PERSONAL ASSISTANT
If something has been sitting on your list because it requires research or decision-making… hand it over.
"I'm comparing these three gyms."
"I need a new mattress."
"I'm choosing between schools."
"I need the perfect birthday gift."
Tell AI your priorities and let it compare the options.
Don't just ask:
"Answer this question."
Ask:
"Help me solve this entire problem."
- HIRE YOURSELF A PERSONAL TRAINER
Say:
"Act as my personal trainer. Ask me everything you need before building my program."
Give it your goals, schedule, equipment, injuries, current fitness level, and nutrition goals.
Then let it create a plan around your actual life.
And when life changes:
"I only have 25 minutes today. Modify my workout."
- LET AI ORGANIZE YOUR HOUSE
Take a picture of your pantry, closet, garage, or playroom.
Then ask:
"Pretend you're a professional organizer. Tell me what to donate, relocate, buy, and exactly what order to tackle this in."
This is especially helpful when you feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start.
- USE AI AS A THINKING PARTNER
Sometimes you don't need more information.
You need perspective.
Dump the entire situation into ChatGPT.
Then ask:
"What am I not seeing?"
"What pattern do you notice?"
"If you were incredibly direct with me, what would you tell me?"
Sometimes getting everything out of your head and organized is enough to create clarity.
- BUILD YOUR DREAM LIFE BACKWARDS
Describe your current life.
Then describe the life you want.
Example:
"I'm overwhelmed, my house is cluttered, I don't have enough energy, and I always feel behind."
Versus:
"My home feels calm, I feel strong, I'm organized, I have financial confidence, and my days feel intentional."
Then ask:
"Build me the smallest daily and weekly habits that would move me from Version A to Version B."
Now AI becomes a life-design tool.
- CREATE A DEFAULT HEALTHY DAY
Stop making 100 tiny decisions every day.
Give AI your schedule and priorities.
"I wake up at 5:30, kids leave at 7:45, I work from 8 to 1, I want 10,000 steps, 130 grams of protein, a workout, time outside, and bed by 9:30. Build me the most efficient version of my day."
Now you have a default operating system instead of reinventing your schedule every morning.
- AUDIT YOUR TIME + MONEY
Give AI your spending and say:
"I want to free up $2,000 a month without dramatically changing our lifestyle. Show me where you would find it."
Give AI your weekly calendar and say:
"My priorities are health, family, income-producing work, and margin. Tell me what should be eliminated, delegated, batched, or moved."
Sometimes the problem isn't that you need more time or money.
You need to use what you already have better.
THE BIG IDEA
The people getting the best results from AI aren't necessarily asking better questions.
They're giving better context.
Don't ask:
"What's a healthy dinner?"
Ask:
"I have 25 minutes, two hungry kids, chicken, broccoli, sweet potatoes, and Greek yogurt. I want something high-protein, kid-friendly, no seed oils, and minimal cleanup."
The better you brief AI…
The better it performs.
Last thoughts
Imagine carrying around a world-class assistant everywhere you go.
Someone who can organize, research, teach, plan, compare, coach, and help you think through almost anything.
The goal isn't to think less.
The goal is to spend less time stuck.
Less time overwhelmed.
Less time researching.
And more time executing, creating, taking care of yourself, being with your people, and actually living your life.
The next time you think:
"I need to figure this out…"
Try asking:
"How could AI help me figure this out faster?"
This is the greatest time to ever be alive and AI can help your life be more efficient and filled with joy if you know how to use it!!
I think a lot about how I can best show up and be there for my people. My family and closest friends… my inner circle. I want to be very intentional about how I support them. I realized something recently that I hadn't pin pointed in this way before. And one of the greatest gifts you can give them isn't advice… It isn't solving all of their problems… It's belief. I think that's what every single person is really looking for. Someone who believes in them. Someone who's in their corner. Someone who genuinely wants to see them win. Today we are talking about believing in your people sometimes even more than they believe in themselves. I honestly think that's what so many people are longing for. To know someone sees something in them they can't quite see yet. Sometimes people just need to borrow someone else's belief until they build their own confidence. It looks like this… someone you love says "I have a huge presentation tomorrow." Instead of… "Oh man… that's stressful." Smile and say… "Good thing you're one of the best presenters I know." It's belief in what they are doing and what they care about. By shifting our responses to belief statements, I think we can completely change how people feel after spending time with us. This is the reframe… when you're in a situation with someone you love and you're responding to what they have doing on or what they told you about… tell yourself… how can I show how much I believe in them? I think 99% of the time that's what they actually need and want to hear. Let's look at some examples. Starting a business They say: "I've been thinking about starting my own business." Standard response: "Just be careful… most businesses fail." Your belief statement: "If anyone can figure this out, it's you. I know it will work because you don't stop until things do." Child Before A Big Game They say: "I'm nervous about my game." Standard response: "Don't be nervous." Your belief statement: "Good thing you're the kind of person who plays their best when it matters. I can't wait to watch you." Tough Day At Work They say: "I don't know if I'm doing a good job." Standard response: "I'm sure you're fine." Your belief statement: "I've watched you solve harder problems than this. I have complete confidence that you'll figure this out too." Trying Something New They say: "I've never done anything like this before." Standard response: "Well… just try your best." Your belief statement: "Every expert was once doing something for the first time. I think you're going to surprise yourself." **Your Spouse Feeling Overwhelmed They say: "I don't know how I'm going to get everything done." Standard response: "Yeah… you've got a lot on your plate." Your belief statement: "I know it feels like a lot, but you're one of the most capable people I know. And we're a team—we'll figure it out together." Let's lean into these 4 types of belief statements 1. Believe in their ability "You've got this." "You're ready." "I trust you." "You can handle this." "You're really good at this." 2. Believe in their character "You're incredibly resilient." "You're wiser than you think." "You're a great leader." "You're one of the kindest people I know." "You're built for hard things." 3. Believe in their future "I can't wait to see what you do." "You're just getting started." "This is going to be part of your success story." "Your future is bright." "Big things are ahead." 4. Believe in them when they can't "I'll believe in you until you believe in yourself." "I see something special in you." "I wish you could see yourself through my eyes." "Don't count yourself out." "I haven't lost confidence in you for one second." Imagine if the people in your life consistently heard responses like these. Imagine how your spouse would walk into work. How your kids would walk into school. How your friends would chase bigger dreams. How much more courage they would have simply because they know there's someone in their corner who believes in them. You can't control every outcome for the people you love. But you can control what they hear from you. And maybe the greatest gift you can give someone isn't having all the answers… Maybe it's helping them believe they already have what it takes. The reframe… Before you respond to someone… Pause for just one second and ask yourself: "What response would make this person feel more capable?" Not more dependent. Not just more comfortable. More capable. Then respond from that place. Because the best supporters don't just make people feel better. They make people become better. And maybe that's one of the greatest gifts we can ever give the people we love.
This is a bold statement but I fully believe it. The speed at which you recover from life's setbacks has a bigger impact on your future than almost anything else.
Examples … Someone says something super rude.
Or you get disappointing news.
Or you make a big mistake you're so bummed about.
The event lasts a few minutes... but for so many people, the emotional impact lasts for days or longer!
I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I think one of the greatest skills you can develop isn't avoiding difficult moments...
It's learning how to recover from them faster.
Imagine two people.
The exact same upsetting thing happens to both of them.
Person A needs seven days to recover.
Person B needs seven minutes.
Now imagine that happens hundreds of times over the course of a lifetime.
Who builds the better life?
Today we're talking about one of the most valuable life skills you can develop...
How To Be Awesome At Resetting Fast.
Because you can't always control what happens to you...
But you can absolutely control how long you let it affect you.
Stop Measuring Failure... Start Measuring Recovery Time Alex Hormozi talks often about speed.
Speed of decisions.
Speed of learning.
Speed of action.
But one thing he demonstrates over and over is speed of recovery.
He doesn't pretend successful people avoid problems.
He believes they simply spend less time emotionally attached to them.
Ask yourself:
How long do I stay upset?
10 minutes?
10 hours?
10 days?
The longer recovery takes...
the more expensive every setback becomes.
Great performers compress recovery time.
Build Reset Rituals Successful people don't rely on motivation.
They have reset systems.
Examples:
"I had a bad meeting."
→ Walk outside.
"I argued with someone."
→ Journal.
"I skipped my workout."
→ Schedule tomorrow before bed.
"I feel overwhelmed."
→ Brain dump.
The faster your ritual...
the faster your recovery.
I've been through harder. This is not the worst thing that's ever happened to you. Identity Doesn't Change Because Of One Decision Or Situation Mark Manson talks about identity being built through repeated behaviors rather than dramatic declarations. Environment and consistent actions matter more than forcing yourself through shame.
One bad decision doesn't erase years of good ones.
One great workout doesn't make you healthy.
It's averages.
The stock market doesn't go straight up.
Neither do you.
Hormozi's Philosophy Alex Hormozi says something along these lines all the time:
You don't become exceptional by avoiding hard things.
You become exceptional because hard things stop surprising you.
Your response becomes automatic.
Problem?
Solve.
Mistake?
Adjust.
Failure?
Learn.
Move.
No drama.
Just data.
The Compound Effect Of Fast Resets Imagine two people.
Both make 200 mistakes this year.
Person A
Needs seven days to recover.
Person B
Needs seven minutes.
Who wins?
Not because they're smarter.
Not because they're more talented.
Simply because they spend dramatically more days moving forward.
That difference compounds over years.
Challenge For the next 30 days...
Stop trying to be perfect.
Instead...
Become obsessed with shortening your reset time.
Miss your workout?
Reset tomorrow.
Bad conversation?
Don't carry it into the evening.
Eat poorly?
Next meal.
Made a bad decision?
Learn.
Adjust.
Move.
Your goal isn't to eliminate mistakes.
It's to become someone who never stays down for very long.
Because life will keep knocking you off course.
The people who build extraordinary lives aren't the ones who never fall...
They're the ones who become world-class at getting back up.
If you remember one thing from today's episode, let it be this:
One bad moment should never become a bad day.
One bad day should never become a bad week.
One bad week should never become a bad year.
Your greatest superpower isn't avoiding setbacks...
It's refusing to live there.
Reset.
Refocus.
Take the very next right step.
That's how extraordinary lives are built... one fast reset at a time.
How often do you find yourself rushing… even when nothing is actually wrong?
You're hurrying your kids to get in the car.
Speed-walking through the grocery store.
Eating lunch while answering emails.
Counting down to Friday.
Thinking, "I just need to get through today."
Somewhere along the way, I think we've started treating ordinary life like it's an emergency.
I started saying these 5 words to myself...
"This is not an emergency."
Today we're going to talk about how to stop living like every single thing is on fire...
...because it isn't.
And when you start reminding yourself that this isn't an emergency...
you don't just become calmer… you become happier overall.
We Have Accidentally Turned Everyday Life Into An Emergency Think about how many times today you probably said...
"Hurry."
"We're late."
"Come on."
"We don't have time."
"Let's go."
Most of us are moving at emergency speed...
...without an emergency.
Ask yourself...
If someone watched security camera footage of my life...
would they think I was constantly responding to disasters?
Or just making breakfast?
Because sometimes they look exactly the same.
Examples We Rush Through Every Day Getting kids ready for school Instead of...
"Hurry! Hurry! Hurry!"
Imagine saying internally...
"This isn't an emergency."
Will they still get dressed?
Yes.
Will yelling make it faster?
Usually not.
But it definitely changes everyone's morning.
Waiting in line We immediately grab our phones.
Complain.
Get frustrated.
Instead...
"This isn't an emergency."
Maybe it's two extra minutes.
Maybe this becomes your breathing break.
Traffic Somebody cuts you off.
You're late.
Heart rate skyrockets.
Except...
You arriving thirty seconds sooner changes almost nothing.
Grocery shopping People rush aisle to aisle.
Barely noticing anyone.
Never smiling.
Never enjoying choosing food they'll feed their family.
Life becomes one giant checklist.
Cleaning your house Instead of...
"I have to get this done."
Try...
"I GET to create a home my family enjoys."
Same task.
Different experience.
Folding laundry Jay Shetty often talks about mindfulness inside ordinary moments.
Laundry isn't stealing your life.
Laundry IS your life.
These ordinary moments ARE your life.
The "Can't Wait Until..." Trap This one is huge.
People spend decades saying...
"I can't wait until..."
The baby sleeps through the night.
They're potty trained.
They're in kindergarten.
Middle school.
High school.
College.
Retirement.
Vacation.
Friday.
Summer.
The remodel is finished.
When we finally move.
When the house is clean.
When I lose twenty pounds.
Jay Shetty talks often about how our minds live in the future...
and miss the only place life actually exists.
Today.
What If This Was The Good Part? This might be the chapter you'll miss someday.
The noisy dinner table.
Little baseball cleats by the door.
Teenagers asking for rides.
Kids needing hugs.
Messy kitchens.
Dog hair everywhere.
The chaos...
might actually be the dream.
Looking For What's Wrong One thing I've noticed...
When we're rushing...
our brain becomes a problem detector.
Traffic.
Mess.
Noise.
Delays.
People moving too slowly.
Bad service.
Rain.
We're constantly scanning for irritation.
Instead...
What if we asked...
What's beautiful about this moment?
What would I miss if this disappeared tomorrow?
The Brain Finds What It Looks For If you're looking for inconvenience...
you'll always find it.
If you're looking for joy...
you'll find that too.
This is something both Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty return to in different ways: attention shapes experience. You don't control every circumstance, but you do have influence over where your mind rests.
Different Phases Of Life Young parents Instead of...
"I just need bedtime."
Think...
"This little voice asking for one more story won't last forever."
Parents of teenagers Instead of...
"I can't wait until they're independent."
Think...
"One day they'll stop needing me this much."
Working professionals Instead of rushing meeting to meeting...
Take thirty seconds.
Breathe.
Drink your coffee while it's hot.
Look out the window.
Nothing explodes.
Entrepreneurs Everything feels urgent.
Every email.
Every customer.
Every notification.
Every opportunity.
But if we're honest...
very few business decisions require panic.
Good businesses are built through consistent decisions...
not frantic ones.
Questions To Ask Yourself Whenever you feel yourself speeding up...
Ask:
Is someone in danger?
Is this actually urgent?
Will this matter next week?
Can I slow my breathing?
Can I speak softer?
Can I smile?
Can I enjoy this?
Can I choose peace instead?
My Favorite Reset Whenever I notice myself getting worked up...
I literally say...
"This is not an emergency."
Sometimes out loud.
Immediately...
My shoulders drop.
My breathing slows.
My voice softens.
I become a better mom.
A better wife.
A better friend.
A better business owner.
Not because my circumstances changed...
but because my nervous system changed.
Tiny Moments That Become Better Waiting for your coffee.
Watching your child tie their shoes.
Cooking dinner.
Folding towels.
Driving to volleyball practice.
Standing in line at Disneyland.
Watching Little League warmups.
Listening to your teenager tell a story that takes forever.
Walking your dog.
Sunsets.
Rainstorms.
Family dinners.
These moments don't need to be escaped.
They're the moments we're going to remember.
CHALLENGE OF THE WEEK This week...
Every single time you notice yourself rushing...
Pause.
Take one deep breath.
And simply say...
"This isn't an emergency."
Then intentionally slow down by just 10%.
Walk slower.
Talk slower.
Eat slower.
Drive calmer.
Listen longer.
Smile more.
You might be surprised how much life you discover in those extra few seconds.
Life isn't usually asking us to move faster.
It's asking us to be more present.
The irony is that we spend so much of life racing toward the future...
that we barely experience the life we're actually living.
So this week...
Give yourself one simple reminder.
"This is not an emergency."
Because most of the time...
it isn't.
And when you stop treating ordinary moments like crises...
those ordinary moments become extraordinary.
I hope this episode helps you slow down & enjoy the beautiful life you're already living.
Feeling great isn't about chasing the next health trend.
It's about mastering the fundamentals.
It's about building a lifestyle where healthy choices become your normal.
Because what you do every day will always matter more than what you do once in a while.
I've been studying experts for years and despite coming from different backgrounds, they all point to the same idea...
The healthiest people don't just make healthy choices... they've built lives where those choices have become automatic.
Today, we're talking about the daily habits that help you feel better, think clearer, have more energy, and become the healthiest version of yourself.
Health isn't one habit.
It's an ecosystem.
When you improve one area, every other area gets easier.
Sleep makes workouts easier.
Workouts improve mood.
Better mood improves relationships.
Better relationships reduce stress.
Less stress improves sleep.
It becomes a positive upward spiral.
Get Morning Sun Your body needs to know it's daytime.
Morning sunlight helps:
• Circadian rhythm • Better sleep that night • More stable cortisol • Better energy • Better mood • Hormone production
Go outside.
No sunglasses.
Even 5–10 minutes can help.
Move Every Day Not because you're trying to lose weight.
Because humans are designed to move.
Walking is one of the most underrated longevity tools.
Ideas:
• 10,000+ steps • Walking meetings • Walking phone calls • Family walks after dinner
Movement isn't punishment.
It's medicine.
Lift Heavy Things Muscle equals health.
Benefits:
• Blood sugar control • Longevity • Confidence • Bone density • Hormones • Energy
Especially for women after 35.
Eat Foods Your Great-Grandparents Would Recognize Choose foods with minimal processing.
• Protein first • Fruit • Quality dairy if tolerated • Eggs • Meat • Seafood • Vegetables • Healthy fats
Less:
• Packaged food • Sugary drinks • Ultra-processed snacks
Hydrate Like It Matters Water is important. With electrolytes is even better.
Protect Your Brain • Sleep
• Learning
• Hobbies • Gratitude • Nature • Social connection • Limiting endless scrolling • Managing stress • Breathwork • Purpose
What are you feeding your brain every day?
Build Real Relationships Good relationships.
Family dinners.
Friendships.
Community.
Belonging.
Health isn't just physical.
Have Something You're Excited About Most adults accidentally quit playing.
• Golf • Painting • Surfing • Gardening • Reading • Baseball • Cooking
Adults need play too.
Practice Delayed Gratification Modern life trains us for:
• DoorDash • Amazon • TikTok • Constant dopamine
But confidence comes from keeping promises to yourself.
Examples:
"I'll work out before I eat."
"I'll finish my work before Netflix."
"I'll read before social media."
Build Your Environment Don't rely on motivation.
Design your house.
Ideas:
Healthy snacks visible.
Weights in the garage.
Walking shoes by the door.
Water bottle everywhere.
Phone charger outside the bedroom.
Sunlight first thing.
Make healthy easier than unhealthy.
Teach Your Kids These Habits The greatest inheritance isn't money.
It's health habits.
Imagine raising kids who simply believe:
• We move. • We eat protein. • We go outside. • We don't complain about exercise. • We eat dinner together. • We get enough sleep. • We speak kindly to ourselves.
My Daily Health Checklist Every day I try to hit these:
☐ Morning sunlight
☐ Walk
☐ Lift weights
☐ Eat plenty of protein
☐ Fruit
☐ Hydrate
☐ Spend time outside
☐ Read
☐ Family meal
☐ Gratitude
☐ Quality sleep
☐ Laugh
☐ Move again after dinner
The goal isn't perfection.
It's becoming the kind of person who naturally takes care of themselves.
You don't need 100 new habits.
You probably need 10 simple ones that you repeat for the next 20 years.
Because when you feel better...
You think better.
You parent better.
You lead better.
You love better.
And that's really what being awesome is all about.
We're officially halfway through the year. Picture this year as a book, half of the pages are filled, half are blank. Ask yourself this question… "If I ended this year having done __________…" Or… "If I ended this year feeling __________…" …I would look back and say this was a wildly successful year. That's your destination. Now your job is simple. Design the next six months to get there. It's not easy, but it's simple. Today isn't about beating yourself up over the first half of the year. It's about making sure you are very intentional about the second half. Welcome to your official Mid-Year Audit. Let's go! ⸻ PART 1: THE HALFTIME SPEECH Think about every great coach. Nobody waits until the season is over to make adjustments. They stop at halftime. They look at what's working. They look at what's not. Then they make changes. Life deserves the same approach. ⸻ PART 2: WHAT'S WORKING? Ask yourself: • What habits have actually improved my life? • What routines are creating momentum? • What relationships are making me better? • What should I absolutely keep doing for the rest of the year? Don't change things that are already working. Double down on them. ⸻ PART 3: WHAT ISN'T WORKING? What's costing you time? Energy? Peace? Health? Money? Ask yourself… "If I keep living exactly like I have for the past six months… …where will I end up?" If you don't like the answer… Today's the day to pivot. ⸻ PART 4: WHAT DOES JULY-YOU KNOW THAT JANUARY-YOU DIDN'T? I LOVE this prompt. January-you had hopes. July-you has evidence. Ask yourself: • What surprised me? • What lessons did I learn? • What assumptions were wrong? • What do I know now that I wish I'd known six months ago? Wisdom only matters if you use it. ⸻ PART 5: YOUR BIGGEST WINS We rarely celebrate ourselves enough. Write down: • Biggest accomplishment • Biggest proud moment • Biggest risk you took • Biggest relationship win • Biggest health win Momentum comes from remembering you've already done hard things. ⸻ PART 6: YOUR BIGGEST FAILURES Not to beat yourself up. To learn. Ask: What failed? Why? What did it teach me? What will I never do again? Failures are only expensive if you don't learn from them. ⸻ PART 7: FINISH THE SENTENCE Now come back to the question. "If I ended this year having done…" "If I ended this year feeling…" What is the ONE thing that would make December 31st feel incredible? Maybe it's… • Feeling healthy again • Becoming financially free • Building a stronger marriage • Becoming more present with your kids • Finally launching your business • Feeling peaceful No more than 3!! ⸻ PART 8: REVERSE ENGINEER IT If that's December… What has to happen by… November? October? September? August? Next Monday? Tomorrow? Today? Success isn't built in December. It's built on Tuesday mornings. ⸻ PART 9: CHECK YOUR CALENDAR Jesse Itzler says your calendar tells the truth. Not your goals. Not your vision board. Your calendar. Ask: Does my calendar reflect the person I'm trying to become? Or the person I've accidentally become? Because what gets scheduled… Gets lived. ⸻ PART 10: DON'T WAIT UNTIL JANUARY One of the biggest mistakes people make is believing they need a fresh year. You don't. You need a fresh decision. You still have 182 days. That's enough time to change your body. Strengthen your marriage. Grow your business. Repair relationships. Learn a new skill. Completely change the trajectory of your life. ⸻ CLOSING CHALLENGE Today, I want you to grab a notebook. Write these seven questions: • What's working? • What's not working? • What does July-me know that January-me didn't? • What am I most proud of? • What did I learn from my biggest failure? • If I ended this year having ________, it would be a wildly successful year. • What needs to happen this week to make that inevitable? Then remember this… The first half of the year gave you feedback. The second half is where you decide what to do with it. CHEERS to your most awesome second half!!
I took a little break from podcasting and social media and to sort of recenter. To reorganize, focus on a few priorities without distractions and make sure I wasn't missing the best parts of life. There are a zillion podcasts you can listen to, I wanted to share what's ahead and the value of this podcast and why it's different than others. Leaning into how we can continually learn and grow to feel fulfilled, to be healthy, to create the best home environment, to continue to challenge and push ourselves, to be proactive about or healthy and to prioritize longevity… all of it. My favorite thing is to learn how to be more awesome myself, then share all of the best things I've learned. I'm so grateful for this platform that gives space for that! You know when you retreat then sort of come back to your routine, you have all of these new thoughts and ideas that you are super clear on that make your life better. Like when you go on a nice long vacation except this was like totally the opposite for me… I was far from vacation, I was cleaning out sheds, shelves and my entire garage for weeks. But same same. Thank you for coming back to this podcast and welcome back - today is about re-centering so you don't miss the best parts of life. Let's dive back into things that seem very true… Let's not compromise what we want to appease people socially. Don't think things you don't want to do. You have 4,000 weekends… you have to be so aware of how much time you have and not waste it. Thoughts… We have far less time than we think. Four thousand weekends. That's roughly what we get. Every invitation. Every obligation. Every Saturday. It's spending one of them. That doesn't mean become selfish. It means become intentional. ⸻ Stop saying yes because it makes other people comfortable. One of the biggest ways we waste life is doing things we secretly don't want to do. Going because everyone else is going. Buying because everyone else bought it. Living according to everyone else's expectations. I don't want that anymore. ⸻ Build a life you don't need to escape from. If you constantly need vacations to recover from your normal life… Maybe your normal life needs redesigning. That hit me hard. Instead of escaping… What if we simply designed a better everyday life? ⸻ Freedom is the real luxury. Not bigger houses. Not nicer cars. Freedom. Freedom over your calendar. Freedom over your mornings. Freedom over your attention. Freedom to spend Tuesday afternoon with your kids. That's wealth. ⸻ Your environment quietly shapes your future. The people you're around. The conversations you have. The media you consume. The clutter in your garage. The clutter on your phone. All of it is shaping your thinking. That's one reason I cleaned everything. I wasn't organizing my garage. I was organizing my mind. ⸻ The best goals create freedom. Sometimes we chase goals that only create bigger obligations. I want goals that create more margin. More health. More energy. More family dinners. More adventure. More peace. If the goal steals your life… It's probably the wrong goal. ⸻ You don't become happier by getting everything. You become happier by wanting less. Gratitude isn't settling. It's appreciating what you've already built while still growing. You can be deeply ambitious… and deeply grateful. Those two things can absolutely coexist. ⸻ That's really what this little break reminded me. Life isn't asking us to do more. It's asking us to become more intentional. Protect your weekends. Protect your family. Protect your health. Protect your attention. Protect your peace. Because the best parts of life aren't usually found by adding more. They're found by clearing away everything that never mattered in the first place. And that's exactly what I hope this podcast continues to help all of us do… Learn together… Grow together… And become just a little more awesome at everything.
I learned the craziest life lesson this week, and I cannot believe it took me 44 years on the planet to actually realize this.
I'm so excited to share it because I think, in some way, it applies to everybody in at least one area of life.
For me, this shift came through organization. I've always told myself that I'm a creative person. I'm always building things, creating things, and planning adventures, so I'm not organized. I'm creative, not structured.
But here's what I realized: my comfort zone was actually a cage I put myself in without even realizing it.
And the wildest part is this: in a very short period of time, you can completely change how you see yourself. You don't have to get to the finish line. You just have to start doing the things that person would do.
For me, that looked like purging and organizing my house in a completely different way, in the way an organized person would. And as I did that, I started to change my identity. I began to feel like an organized person, even though I'm still far from finishing the project.
This applies to so many areas of life: getting healthy, starting something new, exercising, getting a better job, improving communication. Whatever it is for you, the question becomes this: are you labeling yourself in a way that's actually a cage, just because it feels comfortable?
It's incredibly self-limiting. But the best part is how quickly you can flip it. I can't even believe how different I feel today compared to just one week ago in this one area of my life. And that shift spills into everything else. You feel more motivated, more inspired, and more aligned with the person you want to be.
Today, we're diving into the ways we put ourselves in cages without realizing it, and how simple it is to flip the script and redefine yourself.
With the internet and social media, we can learn how to do almost anything for free. So why can't we become more organized, more fit, more capable, or better in any area we choose?
Think about the labels we casually accept: I'm always late. I'm a hot mess in the morning. I could never get a better job. I'm out of shape. I'm terrible at going to bed on time. I'm bad at remembering names. I'm a nagging wife.
Those "truths" are often just cages.
Cages we built, and then lived inside, without ever questioning them.
And the wildest part? They feel comfortable.
Because once you decide, "This is just who I am," you stop challenging it. You stop trying to change. You stop expecting more from yourself.
That's where it becomes limiting.
The shift that changed everything for me was simple.
I didn't become organized overnight. My house isn't perfect. I'm nowhere near the finish line.
But I started acting like an organized person.
I purged differently. I created systems. I focused on finishing small areas instead of jumping around. I made decisions faster.
Most importantly, I started asking myself, "What would an organized person do right now?" And then I did that.
Within days, not months or years, I started to feel like an organized person.
That's what blew my mind.
We tend to think we need results before we can claim an identity.
I'll feel organized when my house is done. I'll feel fit when I lose the weight. I'll feel confident when I reach the goal.
But it's actually the opposite.
Identity doesn't come from the finish line. It comes from repeated actions.
If you consistently do what that type of person would do, you become that person, even if you're still in the middle of the process.
So where are you labeling yourself?
I'm not disciplined. I'm bad with money. I'm not athletic. I'm awkward socially. I'm not good at following through.
What if those aren't truths, but just stories you've repeated long enough that they feel real?
And even deeper, what if they're comfortable?
Because labels remove responsibility. If "I'm just not organized," then I don't have to try. If "I'm not a workout person," then I don't have to push myself.
It gives you an out, but it also keeps you stuck.
Here's how you break out of the cage.
You don't need a full life overhaul. You don't need a complicated plan. You don't need to wait for motivation.
You just need to start doing what that version of you would do.
Ask yourself: What would a healthy person do today? What would a confident person say right now? What would an organized person do with this space? What would the highest-performing version of me choose in this moment?
Then do that one thing.
Not perfectly. Not forever. Just right now.
What surprised me most is how fast this works.
Your brain starts collecting evidence immediately.
You organize one drawer, that's evidence. You go for one walk, that's evidence. You follow through on one promise, that's evidence.
And your identity starts catching up to your actions.
You stop feeling like you're pretending. You start feeling like, "This is actually who I am now."
And it doesn't stop there.
When you shift in one area, it spills into everything.
When I started feeling organized, I felt more clear, more in control, and more capable. That energy showed up in my work, my parenting, my routines, and my mindset.
Because you start to trust yourself.
And when you trust yourself, everything changes.
So here's the question to sit with:
Where have you put yourself in a cage without realizing it?
And what would it look like to step out of it today?
Not perfectly. Not completely. Just with one action.
Here's your challenge:
Pick one area, just one.
For the next seven days, stop labeling yourself.
Instead, start acting like the person you want to become.
You don't need permission. You don't need a new plan.
You just need to decide, "I'm not staying in this cage anymore."
I cannot believe how different I feel today than I did one week ago.
Nothing in my external world is fully done.
But internally, everything has shifted.
And that's available to you too, faster than you think.
If you are someone that sometimes gets caught up in drama… this podcast is going to be so great for you. The sneaky thing about getting involved in drama is that it doesnt feel like it's taking anything away from you… but its actually taking away so much. First, the time… time spent on drama is time not spent on other things. And other things that make you feel alive and bring you joy… or that feel like progress towards your goals. Simply a minute spent doing one thing is a minute not spent doing something else. And the toll it takes on our headspace is so sneaky too. It takes us immediately out of having a positive, growth mindset. It's a negative spiral no matter how you shape it. It also breeds this feeling that you have to have an opinion about everyone and everything. I think it's the most freeing thing ever to see something and say "good for her, not for me"… because it likely has nothing to do with you or anything that truly matters to you so why spend any energy on it. Energy goes where attention flows and drama is negative energy. It creeps over to so many areas of our life so we have to just get rid of it. Today we are making a plan for eliminating drama from our lives because we just don't have time for it. Drama can feel small in the moment… but it quietly steals your time, energy, peace, confidence, and momentum. A lot of the things that drain us most are not the big life events… they're the little unnecessary emotional leaks we keep allowing in. This episode is all about recognizing where drama is sneaking into your life, why it's so costly, and how to become the kind of person who protects their peace, stays focused, and puts their energy toward what actually matters. 1. Drama Feels Harmless… But It's Expensive • Drama rarely announces itself as "a huge waste of time." • It often shows up as: • talking about other people • overanalyzing situations • replaying conversations • texting about things that don't deserve your energy • obsessing over social media, friendships, or someone else's choices • It can feel entertaining, validating, or even "important" in the moment. • But underneath it all, it's usually just distraction. • One of the biggest mindset shifts: • Just because something gets your attention doesn't mean it deserves your energy. A minute spent in drama is a minute not spent building a life you actually love. 2. Drama Steals Your Time • Time spent consumed by drama is time not spent on: • your health • your goals • your family • your work • your joy • your peace • It's not always the "big dramatic moments" that hurt us most. • Often it's the daily little distractions that slowly pull us off track. • Tiny moments of wasted emotional energy add up fast. Examples: • Spending 45 minutes texting about what someone said instead of going on your walk. • Losing an hour spiraling after seeing something online that irritated you. • Replaying a conversation in your head all day instead of focusing on your work. • Letting one annoying interaction ruin your mood for the next five hours. If you want a bigger life, you have to protect your minutes. 3. Drama Destroys Your Headspace Drama doesn't just take your time… it changes your mental state. The second you enter drama, you often leave: • gratitude • possibility • creativity • momentum • emotional steadiness It puts you into: • judgment • comparison • frustration • negativity • emotional reactivity It becomes a mental loop that is hard to shut off. What Drama Sounds Like In Your Head: • "Did you hear what she said?" • "Why would they do that?" • "I can't believe this." • "What does that mean?" • "Now I'm annoyed." • "I should say something." • "Can you believe her?" Drama is rarely just a moment… it becomes a mindset. 4. Drama Pulls You Out Of A Growth Mindset A healthy mindset asks: • What can I learn? • What can I build? • What matters most right now? • What kind of person do I want to become? Drama asks: • Who's wrong? • Who's annoying? • What do I think about this? • How can I react to this? • One mindset builds your future. • The other keeps you stuck in emotional noise. The Difference: Growth mindset = forward Drama mindset = sideways You cannot build a powerful life while constantly getting pulled into low-level emotional chaos. 5. Drama Makes You Feel Like You Need An Opinion On Everything • This is one of the sneakiest ways drama enters our lives. • Social media especially can make it feel like: • you should comment on everything • you should judge everything • you should react to everything • you should care about everything • But honestly… you don't. • Not everything deserves your mental real estate. One Of The Most Freeing Phrases Ever: "Good for her, not for me." Why This Is So Powerful: • It lets you release judgment. • It keeps you in your lane. • It allows people to do what they do without making it your emotional business. • It creates peace, confidence, and detachment in the healthiest way. Examples: • Someone parents differently than you → Good for her, not for me. • Someone spends money differently than you → Good for her, not for me. • Someone posts differently than you → Good for her, not for me. • Someone chooses a lifestyle you would never choose → Good for her, not for me. Freedom comes when you stop believing everything around you requires your emotional participation. 6. Energy Goes Where Attention Flows Whatever you repeatedly focus on will shape: • your mood • your mindset • your habits If your attention is constantly on: • gossip • negativity • conflict • comparison • irritation • Then that becomes the emotional environment you live in. Positive Reframe: What if instead your attention went toward: • getting stronger • creating a beautiful home • building a business • being more present with your kids • becoming more emotionally mature • making your life more fun • becoming the healthiest, happiest, most grounded version of you Attention is not neutral. It is shaping you. 7. Drama Leaks Into Every Area Of Your Life Drama doesn't stay neatly in one category. It spills into: • your mood at home • your patience with your kids • your marriage • your motivation • your workouts • your confidence • your sleep • your productivity • What seems like "just one annoying thing" often affects far more than we realize. Real Life Examples: • You get irritated by something online and then snap at your family. • You get caught in friend drama and suddenly feel emotionally drained all week. • You get wrapped up in other people's problems and lose motivation for your own goals. • You start your day in comparison and end it feeling behind in your own life. Small emotional leaks create big life consequences. 8. Protecting Your Peace Is A Skill Peace is not something that just magically happens. It is something you build through: • boundaries • discipline • awareness • emotional maturity • intentional choices You don't "accidentally" become a peaceful person. You become one by deciding: • what gets access to you • what gets your time • what gets your emotional energy • what belongs in your life and what doesn't A peaceful life is usually a well-protected life. 9. How To Eliminate Drama From Your Life A. Stop Feeding It • Don't text about it. • Don't replay it. • Don't stalk it. • Don't ask for more details. • Don't emotionally rehearse it. B. Ask: "Does This Actually Matter?" • Will this matter in a week? • In a month? • In a year? • Is this worth my peace? C. Get Back Into Your Own Lane Redirect your attention back to: • your goals • your home • your health • your family • your peace • your next right step D. Use Better Language Instead of: • "Can you believe this?" Try: • "That's not for me." • "Not my lane." • "Not worth my energy." • "I'm protecting my peace." • "I'm not available for that." E. Build A Life You're Excited To Focus On • The more meaningful your own life becomes, the less interesting drama becomes. • People with purpose have less time for nonsense. Drama loses its power when you stop feeding it your attention. 10. What You Gain When You Let Drama Go When you eliminate drama, you make room for: • more peace • more clarity • more emotional stability • more joy • more confidence • more energy • more self-respect • more progress • more presence • more freedom You Become The Kind Of Person Who: • doesn't get easily thrown off • protects their peace • keeps their eyes on their own life • stays grounded • has emotional discipline • feels lighter and freer A drama-free life is not boring… it's powerful. 11. Challenge For This Week This week, notice: • what keeps pulling your energy • what conversations leave you feeling heavy • what people, habits, or patterns create unnecessary emotional chaos • where you're giving too much attention to things that don't deserve it Then ask yourself: "What would my life feel like if I stopped feeding this?" And maybe even more importantly: "What could I build with all the energy I get back?" You do not need to attend every argument. You do not need to carry every opinion. You do not need to emotionally involve yourself in everything around you. You are allowed to protect your peace. You are allowed to stay in your lane. You are allowed to build a life that feels so good, so intentional, and so full… that drama no longer fits there. Because the truth is: Drama takes away way more than it gives. And your energy is far too valuable to waste.
One question in this podcast… just one. I think it's one of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves and if we really listen to the answer, it can be the unlock to your big dreams, no exaggeration. Here it is…. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Because the truth is… the answer to that question is the blueprint for the life you're actually meant to live. But most people never chase it. Most people talk themselves out of their dreams before they ever take a single step. They convince themselves they're being "realistic." Someone else tells them it's not practical. They worry about what people will think. And slowly… they slide into autopilot. They go through the motions. They do what's expected of them. But deep down… there's this feeling that there's more life available to them than the one they're currently living. That is exactly what we are going to unpack and discover today. If failure was impossible… if embarrassment didn't exist… if you knew with certainty that things would work out… what would you go after? What would you build? What would you start? What would you say yes to? Because the truth is… the answer to that question is the blueprint for the life you're actually meant to live. But most people never chase it. Most people talk themselves out of their dreams before they ever take a single step. They convince themselves they're being "realistic." Someone else tells them it's not practical. They worry about what people will think. And slowly… they slide into autopilot. They go through the motions. They do what's expected of them. But deep down… there's this quiet feeling that there's more life available to them than the one they're currently living. I talk to people all the time who feel this way. They say things like: "I feel like I'm capable of more." "I feel like there's something bigger I should be doing." "I just don't know what that thing is." But most of the time… they actually do know. The answer is sitting right there in the response to that one question: What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Today's episode is about getting honest with that answer… and using it to unlock the next level of your life. Most People Live on Autopilot A lot of people don't consciously design their lives. They drift. They follow the path that seems safe or expected: • Go to school • Get a job • Follow the same routines • Do what everyone else is doing And years pass. One day they wake up and realize they've been living reactively instead of intentionally. The scary thing about autopilot is that it feels comfortable… but it slowly disconnects you from your real potential. The question "What would you do if you couldn't fail?" interrupts that autopilot. It forces you to think differently. Fear Is the Real Decision Maker for Most People When people answer this question honestly, something interesting happens. The first answer that pops into their head is usually the real dream. But then almost immediately… the mind starts negotiating. You hear thoughts like: "That's unrealistic." "I'm too old for that." "What would people think?" "I don't know how to do that." This is where fear quietly takes control. Fear disguises itself as logic. But in reality, it's just protecting you from discomfort. The purpose of this exercise is to temporarily remove fear from the equation so you can see the truth. The Answer Reveals Your Real Direction Here's what's powerful about this question. Your answer is not random. It's not just a fantasy. It's usually a clue pointing directly toward your next level. Maybe it's: • Starting the business you've been thinking about • Writing the book you keep imagining • Getting into the best shape of your life • Moving somewhere new • Creating something meaningful • Changing careers • Taking a massive leap that scares you The dream exists because part of you knows it's possible. You don't imagine things that are completely outside the realm of your potential. Most People Talk Themselves Out of the Life They Want The saddest part is that people abandon their dream before they even try. They reject themselves before the world ever has the chance to. They assume failure. They assume criticism. They assume it won't work. So instead of chasing the big dream… they shrink it. They make it smaller. They make it safer. And they slowly start living a version of life that's far below what they're capable of. The Real Goal Is Not Certainty... It's Movement The truth is… you never get to eliminate failure. No one does. But you can stop letting fear make the decisions. The people who create extraordinary lives aren't fearless. They simply move forward as if the outcome is possible. They take the first step. Then the next. Then the next. They act like the version of themselves who already believes it will work. And that momentum starts to change everything. Start Acting Like That Future Version of You Think about the version of you who has already achieved the dream. The person who started the thing. Built the thing. Finished the thing. That version of you makes different decisions. They think differently. They move differently. They don't wait for perfect conditions. They start. Your job isn't to have the entire path figured out. Your job is to start behaving like that version of you today. ***Here's the truth. Your dreams are not random. They're signals. They're clues about who you're capable of becoming. But most people ignore them because they're afraid of failing. So they stay where it's safe. They stay where it's predictable. They stay where nothing changes. But the people who build extraordinary lives do something different. They ask the question. They listen to the answer. And then they start moving toward it… even if it's messy… even if it's uncertain. So I'll leave you with the same question we started with: If you knew you couldn't fail… what would you do? Because the moment you get honest about that answer… you start seeing the version of your life that's actually possible. And the real magic happens when you decide to start moving toward it.
The idea of traditions can feel heavy and like once you do it you're stuck doing them forever… I wanted to do a fullll podcast episode that would give you lots of ideas that feel light and fun and can be so special to your family. Things that make you all feel more connected… and that feel so unique and important to your family. It's easy for parenting to feel like a constant sprint sometimes… school, sports, meals, naps… it's a refreshing change to lean into special things that your family does. I realized how precious this is when one of my kids wrote a little paper about one of our traditions in 1st grade. You realize… this is the stuff they remember and the resinates deep. This whole thing is about pausing these busy life days we are all living and thinking about emotional anchors we can create throughout the year. Traditions don't have to be rigid. They don't have to be expensive. And they definitely don't have to be perfect. Today we're talking about a fresh way to think about family traditions: Some traditions you repeat every year Some you rotate Some you try once and just remember Some you write down so your family builds its own memory playbook Because what kids remember most isn't perfection… it's connection. HOLIDAY TRADITIONS The goal here isn't more pressure. It's creating emotional anchors in the year. VALENTINE'S DAY TRADITIONS Love notes on door After dinner game Decorate Valentine boxes & make notes for each other Secret Santa but Valentine style Blow up heart with balls and prizes to find inside Kids serve you dinner on Valentine's Kids go out to dinner with you on Valentine's HALLOWEEN TRADITIONS Say Trick Or Treat at the front door on Halloween in Costume Do family costumes and everyone plans them together Decorate the inside and/or outside of the house in a certain theme or go all out together Give out something specific like full size candy bars Set-up a game for trick or treaters to play to win an extra candy Pumpkin carving or pumpkin painting - invite everyone over THANKSGIVING TRADITIONS Gratitude time capsules, write notes and open them the next year Family volunteer Saturday Everyone puts what they are most thankful for in a hat and everyone guesses who said what Wear "thankful" shirts Family interview night, record what everyone is most thankful for - especially grandparents Coloring page to color all day on kids table CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS Put lights around your neighborhood on Christmas Eve Ornament tradition, collecting special ones when you travel or making them Cutting down or picking out tree together right after thanksgiving Advent calendars Reindeer food Drive to see Christmas lights Decorate Christmas cookies Matching PJs FOURTH OF JULY TRADITIONS Do something nice for a veteran or someone that helps our country or community Stop by fire station with breakfast or something nice USA pride anything - decorate car windows, we do our golf cart Find neighborhood event at a park or create one NEW YEAR'S EVE TRADITIONS Family Vision Board Night Bang pots and pans Highlights of the year jar in kitchen- add to it throughout the year and read at end of year NY planning and goal setting Write a letter to yourself of what would make you consider next year a big success, if what happened, if you felt like what Watch the ball drop together with blowers Plan vacations for the year BIRTHDAY TRADITIONS (FOR KIDS AND PARENTS) Birthday breakfast interview... ask the same five questions every year Go around the table and do full toasts about why you love the bday person Everyone decorates their room before they wake up Presents first thing in the morning Smash cake in the face One present from each person in the family One nice thoughtful card from each person in the family MONTHLY TRADITIONS One long Sunday dinner with games New experience day - try one new thing you have never done before One service project day, or just a few hours Hike, outdoor long walk together FAMILY DINNER TRADITIONS Rose, Thorn, Bud — best part, challenge, what you're excited about Theme Dinner Nights with music and food from different countries THE TRADITION NOTEBOOK IDEA Instead of forcing traditions to be permanent, create a small family notebook where you write down ideas you tried… funny moments… things you want to repeat someday. This removes pressure and keeps the magic. Keep it somewhere easy like kitchen or nightstand. Traditions evolve as your family grows. Traditions are not about doing more. They're about choosing moments that slow life down… even just a little. You don't need to create ten new traditions this year. You don't need Pinterest-perfect ideas. Start with one small thing that feels natural to your family. Maybe it lasts one year… maybe it becomes something your kids talk about forever. The real goal isn't perfection. It's creating a feeling… a rhythm… a sense that no matter how busy life gets, your family has small anchors that bring you back to each other. And over time, those moments become the story of your family.
Today we are talking about approaching one thing you do in a new way… that will positively benefit your life in lots of ways. It's the way you plan your meals. It's the shift of thinking about food or meals when you start to feel hungry or when it's about time to eat… to thinking about meals ahead of time.. sometimes a few hours and other times a few days before. It's actually EASIER than doing it last minute because you can plan for a few meals at once rather than each meal like a fire drill when its time to eat… it can be cheaper because you aren't having everything delivered and it's way healthier because we know home cooked meals if done right, are usually the best for you. We all know we're going to eat today. We know roughly when we're going to eat today. So it doesn't make sense to deal with it at the last minute…. when you're starving, and stressed to get something going and often end up eating much later than you want to. This episode isn't about telling you what to eat. Because of course, do what you want. It's a really helpful chat I think about how to think differently about eating so you stay aligned with your goals, your health, your energy… and honestly your peace of mind. The Problem Isn't Cravings… It's Lack of Planning Most people think they "fell off" because of willpower. But most of the time? It's not cravings. It's not discipline. It's poor planning. You didn't think about lunch… You didn't prep dinner… You showed up somewhere starving… and suddenly you're stuck with whatever options exist. And then you feel frustrated… not because you wanted that food… but because you didn't plan ahead. When you change the way you think about meals… everything shifts. The Mindset Shift… Always Be Thinking One Meal Ahead Always be thinking about your next meal before you need it. Not obsessively… just intentionally. Ask yourself: • What am I eating next? • Where will I be? • Will there be options I actually want? • Do I need to prep something or bring something? This one shift removes: last-minute stress decision fatigue random eating you regret overspending on delivery You stop reacting… and start operating on purpose. My Personal Food Philosophy (Without Telling You How To Eat) For me personally, I eat very specifically because that's when I feel my best. Mostly single-ingredient foods… Organic fruits and vegetables… Grass-fed meats… Organic eggs… raw cheese… rice… pasta… chicken… High protein, lower carbs… zero refined sugar… minimal processed ingredients. Kind of carnivore-ish with fruits, honey, berries, dates — foods that actually fuel me. But listen… this podcast is not about copying how I eat. You should eat in a way that makes you feel energized and aligned. The real takeaway is this: Whatever your style is… planning ahead protects it. Tactical Strategies That Make This Easy 1. Cook Once, Eat Twice Dinner isn't just dinner… it's tomorrow's lunch. Make extra on purpose. Future you will be grateful when lunch is already solved. 2. Pre-Decide Your "Default Meals" Have a short list of meals you rotate. Less thinking… more consistency. Decision fatigue disappears when meals become automatic. 3. Think About Your Schedule Like a Food Map Look at your day and ask: Am I driving somewhere long? Am I going somewhere with limited options? Do I need snacks? Should I eat before I go? Planning food is really just planning logistics. 4. Bring Food Without Making It Complicated A cooler bag… simple containers… prepped proteins… fruit… dates… Not fancy. Just intentional. 5. Make Eating Out an Event — Not a Reaction For me, eating out is something I enjoy intentionally. Not something I fall into because I didn't think ahead. That small mindset shift changes your relationship with food entirely. The Hidden Benefits Nobody Talks About Planning meals ahead doesn't just change what you eat… It changes your whole day. You save time. You save money. You avoid DoorDash panic orders. You reduce mental clutter. You feel calmer because decisions are already made. And honestly… You feel proud of yourself because your actions match your goals. The Bigger Picture This isn't really about food. It's about living intentionally. When you plan your meals… you're saying: "I'm not leaving my health up to chance." You're not reacting to hunger… you're designing your life. And that energy spills into everything else: Your workouts. Your focus. Your confidence. Look at your day the night before! Think about what meals you (and your family if you have one) will eat the next day. It changes how it all goes!! This one shift might sound small… But it completely changes how you show up in your body and your life. And that's awesome!!
Your Pep Talk For An Awesome Mindset We all need a good peptalk sometimes when life is really hard or when life is confusing and we're not sure what the next right move is… And sometimes it's hard to peptalk yourself and the people you love might not peptalk you in the way you need… So that's what this episode is today. It's your peptalk to listen to now and then again whenever you need it, the reminder that you're freaking incredible and you can do absolutely anything you want to do if you're willing to work hard enough for it. Because that's the truth. Other people's opinions are quite literally irrelevant because you are playing a game of you currently versus the best possible version of you When you approach things from a perspective of this deep gratitude, like I am so grateful to be alive breathing fresh air on this planet today. Zero bullshit is going to ruin your mood. you have a huge dreams for yourself and so you're not going to let distractions or negativity or drama affect the big plans that you have. Sometimes things in life feel easy and smooth and relatively effortless and other times it feels like you are crawling your way out of liquid tar wherever you are at this is the peptalk you need to feel positive and strong and empowered and ready to take on what's next because there's nothing you can't handle. Listen to this OVER AND OVER again when you need only positive & you can do anything thoughts in your ears!!! XO Lindsay
I get my blood work done every 90 days and I swear it's the ultimate tip for health in the short term and in the long term and just feeling your best on he daily. So, today I'm going to try to convince you to do the same. Because there is a huge difference between being "not sick" and being truly healthy and if you aren't getting your bloodwork done at least once a year, you really don't know what's going on. Most people only get blood work done when something is wrong. When they feel bad. When they are exhausted. When a symptom won't go away. When a doctor orders it because something already happened. Instead of doing it reactively, we are talking about doing it proactively. How can you know what your body needs? What supplements or adjustments to your lifestyle… it's almost impossible without bloodwork. It tells you how your hormones are functioning. How inflamed your body is. How well you are absorbing nutrients. How your cholesterol is trending. How stressed your nervous system is. How your metabolism is working. How your immune system is functioning. Today's episode is about why doing blood work every 90 days can completely change your relationship with your health, how the top longevity experts think about tracking biomarkers, how it helps you personalize supplements and lifestyle instead of guessing, and how it allows you to catch problems early before they become a real problem. Let's go! Your blood work is your internal dashboard. It's crazy that most people are driving their body blind!! I do full blood work every 90 days and I swear by it. I'm going to break it all down today. Every 90 days I sit down with my functional medicine doctor, Dr. Singler, and we go through everything. We look at what's trending up. What's trending down. What needs support. What needs to be addressed. We adjust supplements. We talk about lifestyle changes. We sometimes talk about peptides. We look at stress markers like cortisol. We look at hormones. We look at inflammation. We look at cholesterol. We look at nutrient deficiencies. It's not just "do you have a disease." It's "what is your body asking for." And that quarterly check-in has become one of the most powerful forms of self-care I do. Today's episode is about why doing blood work every 90 days can completely change your relationship with your health, how the top longevity experts think about tracking biomarkers, how it helps you personalize supplements and lifestyle instead of guessing, and how it allows you to catch problems early before they become diagnoses. Because knowledge is power. And when it comes to your health, awareness is leverage. Why the Best Health and Longevity Experts Obsess Over Biomarkers When you listen to people like Peter Attia, Andrew Huberman, and leaders in longevity medicine, one theme is constant. You can't manage what you don't measure. They talk constantly about biomarkers. Blood markers. Hormones. Cholesterol. Glucose. Inflammation. Nutrients. Stress markers. Not because numbers are the goal. Because trends tell the truth. You don't need to wait until something is "out of range" to take action. You can see patterns forming. You can see directions your health is moving. You can intervene early. Longevity is not built by reacting to disease. Longevity is built by managing risk decades before disease shows up. Blood work lets you see inside the body instead of guessing from the outside. Energy, mood, sleep, weight, anxiety, motivation, focus, hormones, immune function… all of it leaves fingerprints in your labs. Why Every 90 Days Is a Sweet Spot Doing blood work every 90 days creates a rhythm. It's long enough for meaningful changes to occur. It's short enough to catch problems early. It's frequent enough to personalize your approach. This cadence allows you to: • See how supplements are actually working • Know if lifestyle changes are helping • Track hormones as they shift • Monitor cholesterol trends • Watch inflammation markers • Identify deficiencies before symptoms • See how stress is impacting your body It turns health into an ongoing relationship instead of a once-a-year appointment. Rather than living on autopilot, it becomes a quarterly check-in. "How is my body actually doing?" "What does it need right now?" "What needs to change?" The Power of Baselines One of the most underrated benefits of regular blood work is baselines. When you know what your normal looks like, everything changes. If something shifts, you see it faster. If you get sick, you have something to compare to. If symptoms show up, you're not starting from zero. Your baseline becomes your personal health fingerprint. This is especially powerful with hormones, thyroid, cholesterol, inflammatory markers, glucose, and nutrient levels. Medicine is often built around population averages. But health is personal. Your optimal range is not always the same as "normal." Blood work every 90 days teaches you your body. Personalization Instead of Guessing Most people take supplements blindly. They try what's trending. What a friend is taking. What TikTok says. What an ad promises. Blood work removes guessing. You stop throwing things at your body and hoping. You start making informed decisions. When I review labs with my doctor, we are not just looking for problems. We are optimizing. We adjust supplements based on what my body is actually showing. We talk about hormones. We talk about stress. We talk about sleep. We talk about hydration. We talk about inflammation. We talk about recovery. If cortisol is elevated, the conversation shifts to lifestyle, nervous system, sleep, slowing down, hydration, sauna, recovery. If something is low, we talk about absorption, nutrition, and targeted support. It becomes a dialogue with your body instead of a guessing game. Emotional Health Lives in the Labs Too This is not just physical. Your labs often reflect your emotional and mental load. Stress hormones. Inflammation. Blood sugar instability. Nutrient depletion. Your body keeps the receipts. Blood work gives you objective data to support lifestyle changes. Sometimes the answer is not another supplement. Sometimes it's rest. Sleep. Boundaries. Sunlight. Movement. Slowing down. It's incredibly empowering to see that connection clearly. It turns self-care into strategy, not indulgence. How I Do It and How You Could Do It The way I do it is higher touch and more expensive. I use a mobile blood draw that comes to my house. Then I schedule a long call with my functional medicine doctor to go through everything. We take our time. We look at the full picture. We build a plan. But you do not have to do it that way. You can ask your doctor to order labs. You can go to a clinic and make an appointment so you're not waiting forever. You can get a basic panel and build from there. You can even upload your results into ChatGPT and use it as an educational tool to help you understand what the markers mean and what questions to ask your doctor. This doesn't have to be complicated. It just has to be consistent. Why This Is One of the Best Investments You Can Make We spend money on convenience. On clothes. On food. On homes. On trips. On businesses. But nothing affects the quality of your life more than the quality of your health. Energy. Mood. Confidence. Focus. Longevity. Relationships. Joy. Blood work every 90 days is not an expense. It is intelligence. It is prevention. It is personalization. It is early detection. It is self-leadership. It is saying, "I care about how long I live and how well I live." Most people wait for symptoms to tell them something is wrong. But by the time symptoms show up, your body has usually been whispering for a long time. Blood work lets you hear the whispers. It lets you see trends before problems. Adjust before crashes. Support before burnout. Correct before disease. For me, doing blood work every 90 days has become a quarterly health check-in with myself. How am I really doing? What does my body need? What needs to change? What needs support? It keeps me connected to my health instead of disconnected from it. And I truly believe this is one of the most powerful forms of preventative self-care anyone can adopt. So if you take anything from this episode, let it be this. Don't wait for something to go wrong. Start tracking your health while things are going right. There's nothing more important or worth spending your time and money on!
This podcast is all about the last 4 hours of your day, everyday. There is so much focus on morning routines. What time you wake up, what you drink, what you journal, what workout you do, what affirmation you say. But the truth is, your day doesn't start in the morning. Your day starts the night before. Most of us begin the day with good energy, good intentions, and some level of clarity. But by the end of the day, we are tired. We are mentally full. We have made hundreds of decisions. We don't have the same motivation, discipline, or emotional capacity. And that is exactly why the last four hours matter so much. If there is no system for the end of your day, you default to your phone, wandering around, tinkering in the kitchen, the noise, the chaos, the scrolling, and this low level stress that never really shuts off. What if instead, you had a plan for the last four hours of your day. The way you end your day determines how you sleep. How you sleep determines how you wake up. How you wake up determines how you show up. And how you show up determines the quality of your life. This episode is about designing the last four hours of your day so your life feels calmer, your mornings feel clearer, your relationships feel more connected, and your body and mind actually get the recovery they need. We are going to walk through how to build a simple last four hours plan, what it should include, and how to follow it even when you're exhausted. Because stress is not just emotional. It's biological. And protecting your peace is not optional. It's foundational. So let's talk about how to intentionally design the last four hours of your day and why it might be the most powerful life upgrade you haven't made yet. Not a productivity plan. Not a hustle harder plan. A life design plan. A plan that supports high quality sleep. A plan that prepares tomorrow before it gets here. A plan that builds connection instead of distance. A plan that helps your nervous system come down. A plan that lets you clock out from output and clock into recovery. Jesse Itzler says that your morning self is counting on your evening self. And I love that because it's true. Your tired self should not be running your life. Your intentional self should be protecting your future self. Why the Last Four Hours Matter • Energy and willpower are lowest at the end of the day • Without a plan, we drift • Drifting usually leads to scrolling, snacking, low level anxiety, and unfinished mental loops • The last four hours directly affect ◦ Sleep quality ◦ Emotional regulation ◦ Relationship connection ◦ How you wake up • When evenings are chaotic, mornings are reactive • When evenings are intentional, mornings are peaceful The Reframe: This Is Not About Doing More • This is not about squeezing productivity out of every minute • This is about clocking out from output and shifting into recovery • The last four hours are for ◦ Decompression ◦ Nervous system regulation ◦ Reflection ◦ Connection ◦ Preparation • Jesse Itzler teaches that planning the next day at night removes decision fatigue from the morning • Your tired self should not be making big life decisions • Your clear evening self should be protecting your future self The Core Pillars of a Powerful Last Four Hours -Preparation for Tomorrow • Write down tomorrow's plan • Appointments, priorities, and non negotiables • Identify your top three outcomes for the next day • Decide what "a win" looks like before you go to sleep • Lay out clothes, bags, or materials when possible • Jesse Itzler's core idea: when you wake up, you should already know exactly what you're stepping into -Body and Mind Recovery • High quality sleep starts long before your head hits the pillow • Evenings should signal safety and shutdown to the nervous system • Examples ◦ Hot bath or shower ◦ Stretching or gentle movement ◦ Skincare or body care rituals ◦ Reading instead of scrolling ◦ Breathwork or prayer • This is where longevity, hormones, mood, and mental clarity are built • Stress is not just emotional. It is biological -Connection and Presence • The last four hours are prime time for relationships • Conversation without devices • Time with your kids, partner, or yourself • Unpacking the day • Celebrating wins • Laughing • Being seen and seeing others • This is where emotional safety and closeness are built -Light Closure and Organization • Small resets prevent big overwhelm • Ten minutes a night beats weekend purges • Examples ◦ Resetting the kitchen ◦ Tidying a room ◦ Prepping coffee ◦ Organizing a bag • Order in your environment creates order in your mind • You are either setting tomorrow up or stealing from it How to Stay Consistent When You're Tired • You will not always feel motivated • That is why you need a written plan • The plan becomes your autopilot • On hard nights ◦ Lower the bar, do not quit ◦ Shorten the routine ◦ Protect sleep first ◦ Still plan tomorrow • Consistency beats intensity • Repetition turns effort into identity It's time to make your list!! Remember… ◦ The last four hours are not throwaway time ◦ They are design time ◦ They are recovery time ◦ They are relationship time ◦ They are future building time It's such a powerful way to enjoy more fulfillment & joy in your life. CHEERS to your best 4 hours of the day, everyday!
The silver lining in spending so much time in hospitals with my husband for his heart condition is that I've adapted what I now call… a hospital bed perspective. It's basically like this… If I was stuck in a hospital bed today… What would I be dying to do? What would I make time for? Who would I make time for? What would I prioritize? It's easy to be in our routine and put things off or not realize that we aren't prioritizing the things and people that we really enjoy the most... But all of a sudden, when you can't do those things, it becomes really clear what you would do if you had the chance. At this stage of my life, I've gotten so clear on my priorities… What's important to me and what's not important to me so it makes it easier and faster to live life fully with this hospital bed perspective… What an incredible gift it is to be able to do so many things… we're just not going to waste it. What the Hospital Bed Perspective Is The hospital bed perspective isn't about fear or negativity. It's about clarity. When your normal options are taken away, life becomes very simple. The noise drops. The distractions fade. What remains are the people, experiences, and moments that genuinely matter.
This perspective removes urgency addiction, comparison, and busywork. It exposes what's meaningful and what has quietly been wasting your time.
Ditch the little things- drama, things we should be letting go of anyway - they become obsolete.
Why We Lose Touch With Our Priorities Modern life makes it easy to drift. Routines become automatic. Busyness becomes a badge of honor. Important things get delayed because they aren't urgent. Weeks turn into months. Months turn into years.
Without realizing it, many people protect work and obligations more fiercely than joy, relationships, health, or experiences. The hospital bed perspective interrupts that drift.
What Becomes Clear When You Use This Lens…
People Who you would want in the room. Who you wish you spent more time with. Where you may have been distracted, rushed, or unavailable.
Time What would no longer deserve your energy. What would suddenly feel priceless. What you would deeply regret postponing.
Energy What drains you that wouldn't matter from a hospital bed. What lights you up that you keep sidelining.
Experiences Trips not taken. Conversations not had. Projects not started. Memories waiting to be made.
How to Bring the Hospital Bed Perspective Into Daily Life
- Using the question: "If I were stuck in a hospital bed next month, what would I wish I had done this week?"
- Running decisions through the filter: "Would this matter to me from a hospital bed?"
- Auditing your calendar to see if it reflects what you say matters
- Taking inventory of relationships you want to invest in more deeply
- Creating space for joy, presence, and experiences now... not "someday"
This approach aligns your time with your values and turns clarity into momentum.
The Freedom This Perspective Creates
Living with the hospital bed perspective naturally builds gratitude, urgency around what matters, and peace around what doesn't. It simplifies decisions, deepens relationships, and makes everyday life richer. It replaces postponing with presence and guilt with alignment.
Wrapping it up…
Most people gain this level of clarity only when life forces it on them. The gift is choosing it before you have to.
You don't need a hospital bed to start living like someone who understands how valuable, fragile, and full life really is. You can choose that perspective now. And when you do, you stop wasting time. You stop delaying what matters. You start living in a way that actually matches what you care about.
What an incredible gift it is to be able to go, build, love, move, dream, try, and experience. Let's not waste it!!
This podcast episode is about being delusional in the healthiest way possible I really think the worst advice I've ever been given is be realistic Because it's such a dream killer and creates this cycle of limiting beliefs in your mind I just think that too often we put ourselves in a box without realizing it and the moment we break out of that box and realize just how capable we are- we can really accomplish anything we want. if we just keep going, just keep getting back up just never stop I believe so much in thoughts become things and the story you tell yourself becomes the life you live And whatever the next level is that you're trying to reach in your life… you can design it in your head and get so clear on it that you believe it before it's actually happened and then you tell yourself this is happening time just hasn't caught up yet. It's like next level manifesting and the law of attraction and realizing the power that we get back when we remove limiting beliefs, and that urge to be realistic. So let's do a podcast on being delusional in the healthiest way possible because that's the only way to achieve things that are extraordinary and keep growing and evolving and progressing and becoming better and stronger every year.
This is the key to all of this…
"This is happening. Time just hasn't caught up yet."
• What a self-story really is Your self-story is the collection of beliefs you hold about who you are, what you deserve, and what's possible for you. Most people are living out a story they never consciously chose, built from past experiences, other people's opinions, and old limitations. When you change your self-story, you change what you notice, what you attempt, and what you allow in your life.
• Why "being realistic" often keeps people stuck So much advice is rooted in other people's fear, history, and unfulfilled dreams. "Be realistic" can quietly become a dream killer. Extraordinary lives are built by people willing to believe before there is proof, act before there is permission, and stay consistent before results show up.
• Healthy delusion, manifesting, and identity-based growth There is a direct connection between belief, identity, and behavior. Thoughts become things when they are paired with clarity, emotion, and consistent action. Many of today's top mindset and habit leaders point back to the same truth: your identity drives your behavior, and your behavior reinforces your identity.
• Why so many people quit right before the breakthrough The space between vision and results is where most self-stories collapse. The quiet middle is where doubt grows, momentum feels slow, and people often walk away, sometimes just days or weeks before a major shift. Learning to stay when nothing is happening yet is one of the most powerful skills you can build.
• How to build an unshakeable self-story Building a new internal identity starts with deciding who you are becoming on purpose. It grows through tiny daily actions that create real proof. It is protected by being intentional about what you listen to, who you allow influence you, and how you speak to yourself. It is strengthened every time you release a limiting belief before it rewrites your future.
• Morning and evening routines that reinforce who you're becoming Morning practices help you step into the person you're becoming before the world sets the tone for your day. Evening practices help you gather proof, reframe challenges, and deepen self-trust. Together, they install and reinforce your self-story daily.
• Journaling as identity work Journaling is not just reflection, it is direction. Writing clarifies belief, trains focus, and turns vague desire into a lived identity. The way you write about your life becomes the way you experience your life.
• The power of not stopping An unshakeable self-story is not built through intensity. It is built through continuation. Momentum comes from returning, recommitting, and refusing to abandon the version of you you are becoming. If you don't quit, you arrive.
• Final thought Your life will always move in the direction of the story you tell yourself. You don't need proof to start. You don't need permission to change it. And you don't need approval to live it. Build a self-story so strong that it pulls your actions forward, then protect it, practice it, and become it.
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My goal in this episode is for you to walk away knowing your ideal deep dopamine habits. Those little things you do that make you feel fulfilled and happy and like you are making progress in the ways that you want to.
You know that feeling after you've been on your phone for 45 minutes scrolling or flipping through tabs and you look up and feel kind of empty? Like your brain is tired but you didn't actually do anything? That's cheap dopamine. It's the quick hit. The fast fix. The thing that feels good in the moment but leaves you drained and unfocused. Now imagine the opposite. You go for a walk, lift weights, write something meaningful, finish a book, or work on something that's important to you. It's not flashy. It doesn't give you the instant rush. But it gives you something way better… calm, clarity, and long-term satisfaction. That's deep dopamine. And today we're talking all about how to stop chasing the quick hits and start training your brain to love the good stuff. I could not do this without planning my weeks every Sunday… I physically couldn't! Here's the system I created & use & love! To plan your days and your life with intention… https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem What Dopamine Really Is Dopamine is a neurotransmitter. It's often labeled as the pleasure chemical, but it's more about motivation and drive. It plays a key role in what gets your attention and what keeps you engaged. Every time your brain anticipates a reward, dopamine is involved. It's what makes you chase something, whether that's a cookie, a workout, a new follower, or a big goal. It's not the dopamine itself that's the problem. It's where you're getting it from and how often. If you constantly flood your brain with quick and easy sources of dopamine, you make it harder to get motivated for the slower, more meaningful things.
Andrew Huberman explains it this way: dopamine is not about the pursuit of happiness, it is about the happiness of pursuit. He also teaches that dopamine is a currency. We are always spending it, and when we use it on things that require no effort, we get very little return. But when we invest it in things like a hard workout or a creative project, the return is stronger and lasts longer. He emphasizes that dopamine is what drives us to act, to seek, to pursue… it is not simply about feeling good. It's about staying in forward motion.
What Is Cheap Dopamine Cheap dopamine comes from fast, easy sources that take very little effort and offer very little reward long term.
Some examples of cheap dopamine: Scrolling social media Watching endless TikToks or YouTube videos Snacking out of boredom Clicking for likes or notifications Gossiping or complaining Online shopping for things you don't need Checking your phone over and over without purpose
These things feel good in the moment, but often leave you feeling worse later. It's like junk food for your brain… sweet, salty, addictive, and ultimately unfulfilling.
Studies show that excessive exposure to short-form content or fast dopamine triggers can lead to decreased attention span, mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and a decreased ability to feel reward from slower, more meaningful tasks.
Huberman also talks about dopamine stacking... when you stack multiple sources of cheap dopamine together, like scrolling while snacking while listening to background noise. This overstimulates the reward system and makes it harder for your brain to enjoy simple or quiet activities. You become desensitized, and what used to bring joy now feels flat. That's the cost of too much cheap dopamine.
What Is Deep Dopamine Deep dopamine is the kind of reward your brain gets from actions that require effort, presence, or skill. It builds over time and leads to a longer-lasting sense of fulfillment.
Examples of deep dopamine: Strength training or physical exercise Reading a book Writing or creating something Deep, uninterrupted work Learning a new skill Spending intentional time with people you love Completing a long project Volunteering or contributing in a meaningful way
These habits take more focus and often feel slower, but they leave you with a sense of momentum and pride. You don't crash after them. You build from them.
When you choose deep dopamine, you're making a longer-term investment in your mental clarity, emotional resilience, and sense of purpose. You start feeling calm instead of anxious, proud instead of overstimulated, and you strengthen your ability to focus and follow through.
Huberman explains that deep dopamine is often tied to effort. It's the system that rewards you after doing something hard, not something convenient. And that's what makes it powerful. The satisfaction comes from knowing you earned it.
Why This Matters The more often you go for quick, cheap dopamine, the more your brain becomes desensitized to it. Over time, you stop getting the same hit from a scroll or a like, and your baseline dopamine levels drop. It's harder to feel motivated. Harder to feel joy. Harder to stay focused. You might feel like you need constant stimulation to avoid feeling bored or anxious.
But when you flip that script and start choosing deep dopamine more often, your brain rebalances. You regain your ability to enjoy slow progress. You stop needing quick distractions and start enjoying the quiet confidence that comes from doing things that matter to you.
Research shows that daily engagement in physical activity, creative work, or focused learning helps restore natural dopamine cycles, improve mental clarity, reduce stress, and increase emotional stability.
Huberman explains that one of the fastest ways to rebalance your dopamine system is to temporarily reduce cheap dopamine triggers and replace them with effort-based rewards... even small ones. The shift doesn't require massive lifestyle changes. It starts with awareness, then small swaps, and finally momentum.
How to Train Yourself to Choose Deep Dopamine
Recognize the patterns. When you feel the urge to scroll, pause and ask yourself what you're looking for. Are you bored? Anxious? Trying to avoid something else?
Replace, don't just remove. If you're going to stop scrolling, have something better ready. A walk. A good podcast. A book. A 10-minute workout.
Make a plan ahead of time. Don't wait until you're tired and distracted to decide what matters. That's when the cheap dopamine wins.
Give yourself permission to enjoy effort. Deep dopamine often comes with friction. It's not always fun in the beginning, but the payoff is real and lasting.
Set up your environment to support better choices. Turn off notifications. Put your phone in another room. Put your workout clothes or journal somewhere visible.
Celebrate your wins. When you choose deep dopamine over cheap dopamine, take a second to notice how it feels. Reinforce that feeling.
Huberman reminds us that the brain changes based on what it's exposed to regularly. Choosing deep dopamine isn't about perfection. It's about consistently reminding your brain what fulfillment actually feels like.
The world is full of cheap dopamine. It's built into our apps, our habits, and even our conversations. But you don't have to live in reaction mode. You can train your brain to want the things that give you long-term growth and peace instead of short-term distraction. Start by noticing. Then start swapping. Choose things that challenge you, ground you, stretch you, and make you proud. It won't always be easier in the moment, but it will always be more fulfilling. That's how you create a life that actually feels good to live... one deep dopamine choice at a time.
Good sleep so complicated. There are endless tips about screens and supplements and gadgets that promise better rest, but most of us aren't thinking about the three biggest levers that actually move the needle. The quality of your sleep is really a reflection of how you lived your day. When you challenge yourself physically, challenge yourself mentally and clear the things that are weighing on you, your body naturally shifts into deeper, more restorative rest. Sleep improves when your body is tired in the right ways, your mind has worked enough to want a break and your stress is addressed instead of pushed to the side. Today we are breaking sleep down to three simple, powerful habits that human performance experts say will help you get the best sleep of your life by focusing on how you show up during the day.
Human performance experts like Chris Williamson, Alex Hormozi, Gary Brecka and Casey Means all point to the same truth Hack 1: Exhaust yourself physically during the day • When your body is physically spent, you fall asleep faster and sleep deeper. • Being busy is not the same as being physically active. Movement creates real sleep pressure. • Getting steps in, lifting something heavy, walking more, sweating a little and staying on your feet helps your body crave rest at night. • Huberman and Matthew Walker both explain that daily movement increases adenosine, which builds the urge to sleep. • Kelly LeVeque and Casey Means show how balanced blood sugar from movement reduces nighttime cortisol spikes. • Gary Brecka talks about completing the physiological stress cycle so the nervous system knows it's safe to shut down. • Examples: long walks, workouts, organizing or cleaning days, anything that gets your heart rate up or keeps you consistently moving.
Hack 2: Exhaust yourself mentally by challenging your brain • Most people feel mentally busy but not mentally challenged, which leaves the brain restless at night. • Learn something, solve something, try something new, figure something out, read, study, dive into a topic. • When you grow mentally and make progress, your brain feels complete and ready for rest. • Chris Williamson says nighttime overthinking often comes from not using the mind in a meaningful way during the day. • Alex Hormozi emphasizes that progress, even small progress, lowers internal friction and mental clutter. • Casey Means explains how real cognitive engagement stabilizes dopamine, which lowers the nighttime seeking behavior that keeps people scrolling instead of sleeping. • Neuroscience research shows that learning increases the brain's need for REM sleep because it needs to file those memories. • Examples: learning new systems, improving a process, starting a new skill, working on something that feels mentally tricky or step heavy.
Hack 3: Solve your problems during the day so your mind can rest at night • Nothing disrupts sleep more than unresolved stress or conversations that still need to be had. • The crumbs metaphor works perfectly here. Just like crumbs irritate you all night, unresolved issues do the same mentally. • Have the conversations, apologize, forgive, clear the air, make progress on debt, take one step toward the thing you've been avoiding. • Gary Vee talks often about how anxiety comes from avoiding the very thing we know we need to do. • Dave Ramsey points out that money problems are one of the biggest sleep killers and even a simple plan reduces that load. • Gary Brecka explains how mental stress raises cortisol and keeps your system in high alert, which blocks deep sleep. • Huberman suggests cognitive unloading, writing everything down, to calm the brain before bed. • Matthew Walker reminds us that sleep cannot negotiate with an anxious mind. • Suggestions: write everything down, even if you can't talk to the person yet, get clarity in writing, pick one step toward solving your biggest stressor so you can rest knowing you are in motion. •Inhale the good, exhale the bad.
When you really think about these three habits, you realize that great sleep isn't just a nighttime routine. It's the natural reward for how intentionally you live your day. When you move your body, challenge your mind and clear the things that are weighing on you, your system settles in a way that no gadget or supplement can replace. You go to bed feeling complete instead of overwhelmed, tired in the right ways instead of drained in the wrong ones. These three simple practices will change the way you rest and the way you wake up. Better sleep leads to better days, and better days lead to a better life. You truly can create the best sleep of your life by designing the kind of day that makes peaceful rest the obvious, automatic outcome.
I have lots of thoughts to share today of things I think we should normalize. Things that aren't considered normal in general in the world we live in and I'm going to argue my point of why I think they should be. For us and for our families and for the people around us. Because our goal is to always strive for fulfillment and joy and health and longevity and peace of mind and all of these ideas I'm going to present to you today support all of that. I'm going to get heat for some of these and I love it because its against the grain and thinking for ourselves and being exceptional. Things To Normalize * Normalize saying no to cheap dopamine and yes to deep dopamine. Joy comes from doing what you're built to do. Action over distraction. Delay instant gratification for meaningful payoff. * Bring your own food places when you don't like the options. Take ownership of your choices instead of settling for what's easy. * Assume people will make mistakes and ask questions, double check things, and take notes. It's not negative. It's responsible. * Normalize working hard, including on weekends, when you're pursuing something you believe in. Showing up when it counts matters. Especially at unconventional hours. * Normalize not drinking until you throw up. Choose self mastery and presence instead of blackout culture. Clarity over blur. Presence over party. * Normalize not having sex until you find someone you deeply respect or want to build a life with. Choose what matches your values instead of what culture expects. * Normalize starting something brand new and taking big risks, even when people think it's strange. Launch even when you're scared. * Normalize celebrating your wins as big as birthdays. If it mattered to you, it's worth celebrating. * Normalize working out seven days a week with rest and stretch built in. Movement is medicine. Make it a daily non negotiable. * Normalize questioning teachers, institutions, and systems when something doesn't make sense. Stand up for your kids and yourself with confidence and curiosity. * Normalize using your calendar as your measure of wealth. Time matters more than money. Protect it. * Normalize defining success for yourself. Choose your own values and live by them with confidence. * Normalize being loud, opinionated, and real when something matters. Speak up. Be fiery. Be aligned. * Normalize rest and recovery as essential parts of working hard. Rest is productive. Rest gives you your edge. * Normalize letting your kids see you hustle, fail, pivot, and rise. Show the process, not perfection. * Normalize doing things you're not good at yet. The climb has no peak. Let yourself be a beginner. * Normalize saying "I don't know." Honesty and humility create real strength. * Normalize choosing your inner circle intentionally. Your environment shapes your growth. Curate it well. * Normalize early mornings, disciplined schedules, and foundational habits. Keep life simple and focused. * Normalize embracing pain and discomfort as signs you're growing. Lean into growth rather than backing away from it. * Normalize enjoying the process instead of obsessing over the outcome. Appreciate the now. Joy lives in the doing. * Normalize aligning your body, mind, and spirit with your purpose. Success includes health, relationships, and inner peace. * Normalize valuing your health as highly as you value your work. Health is foundational to everything else. * Normalize being different, weird, or exceptional. Normal actions get normal results. Stand out proudly. * Normalize prioritizing sleep, recovery, and emotional wellbeing. Rest deeply and intentionally. * Normalize teaching your kids to build their own path. Encourage their independence and confidence. * Normalize celebrating vulnerability, asking for help, and being transparent about your journey. Choose authenticity over perfection.
CHEERS to creating your own normal that makes your life more awesome!
My goal in this podcast episode is to give you LOTS of ideas of things you can do, that each only take 10 minutes, that will level up your life in some way. I think most of us feel like we want less time on our phones and more time doing things that make us feel fulfilled or have more energy or stronger relationships or make more money or whatever it is. But, it's just so much easier to default to scrolling rather than adding in a consistent 10 minute habit that really stacks up over time. Well, that's no longer because I've compiled a massive list of 10 minute habit ideas for you that you can pick from based on your priorities right now. Let's break it down in the different buckets of life! For Energy, Focus, and Longevity * Take electrolytes first thing in the morning... replenish hydration and minerals for brain clarity and steady energy. * Ten minutes of sunlight exposure... triggers cortisol awakening response, regulates circadian rhythm, boosts mood. * Red light therapy... 10 minutes in front of a red-light panel to improve mitochondrial function and recovery. * Cold plunge or cold shower for 3–10 minutes... boosts dopamine and metabolism for hours afterward. * Ten minutes of stretching or mobility work... especially in the morning; wakes up the body and reduces stiffness. * Barefoot grounding outside... 10 minutes on grass or sand to lower inflammation and stress hormones. * Ten minutes of sprint intervals... short bursts that train mitochondria and improve cardiovascular health dramatically. * Get your blood work done and take the right supplements... know your numbers and personalize your protocol. * Prep protein... cook or portion protein for the day so you easily hit 30–50g per meal. * Eat a high-protein breakfast... reduces hunger and improves focus all day.
For Finances and Growth * Ten minutes of money tracking... check spending, update budget, or review one financial goal daily. * Ten minutes of reading or audiobook learning... one chapter a day equals 20 or more books a year. * Ten minutes of skill building... learn guitar, code, Spanish, or design... whatever moves you forward. * Ten minutes of reflection... write down what worked and what didn't today. That's how you make micro-improvements. * Ten minutes of planning tomorrow... align your calendar with your goals before bed.
For Relationships and Connection * Ten-minute phone call or voice note to someone you love... strengthens bonds and releases oxytocin. * Ten minutes of undistracted connection... put down the phone, hug your kids or partner, be fully present. * Ten minutes of gratitude journaling focused on people... write down what you appreciate about those in your life. * Ten-minute micro-dates... sit with your partner on the porch, go for a quick walk, or share coffee in the morning. * Send one encouraging message... to a friend, coworker, or family member... spreads positivity fast.
For Joy, Peace, and Fulfillment * Ten minutes of meditation or deep breathing... lowers cortisol and improves emotional regulation. * Ten minutes of prayer or quiet reflection... anchors you before the noise of the day. * Ten minutes decluttering one drawer or space... creates visible progress and mental clarity. * Ten minutes outside... barefoot, walking, or just sitting; sunlight and nature instantly boost your mood. * Ten minutes of dancing, movement, or play... raise your state and reset your nervous system. * Ten minutes of creative flow... doodle, write, design... get into that zone where time disappears. * Ten minutes of laughter or comedy... laughter reduces stress hormones and boosts immunity.
How to Make It Stick * Pick 3 to 5 habits that fit your goals and rotate them daily. * Stack new habits onto existing routines. * Track it visually... checkmarks trigger motivation. * Focus on consistency over intensity... ten minutes daily beats one hour once a week.
So that's the magic of ten minutes.
You don't need a total life overhaul... you just need a few small, intentional blocks of time that you protect every day.
Consistency compounds. Hydrate your body, feed your mind, move your muscles, connect with your people, and give yourself those tiny daily deposits that build a truly awesome life.
Link to my 2.0 System that I use to do all of this on the daily! https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem Thank you for listening!!
I hesitate to give any awesome tips on marriage or parenting because just when I think I have something fully figured out it flips! But this one is good I promise. How To Be Awesome At Being A Wife Who Says Yes Can I go golfing mid day tomorrow? Yes Can I go to a movie last minute with the boys tonight? Yes If it’s not potentially dangerous or disrespectful, my answer is yes! I even say yes if its irritating… and I think you should too. Boys night tonight when you weren’t expecting it and you’re tired and you’ll have to do more… irritating ya…. But thats not a reason to say he can't do it. It’s just so good for your relationship when you are a yes wife rather than a no wife. I want you to be happy and do what you want We want our men to feel like we support what they love. We aren’t bossing them around and shutting down what they really want to do. Because that’s how we want it to be for us too! We’re not doing it SO THAT we get it in return, but we will! Points we talk about! A “yes” that comes from generosity, not obligation, has power. It communicates confidence and emotional security. -If we want to say no, ask ourselves why! May be a sign you need more of something in some area of life. Make note a bring it up - not heated and not in this moment. Later say something like… “I’m so happy you had fun. It made me realize I’m not doing enough with my friends or making time for workouts." -We haven’t always been at this point!! Now my husband is responsible and super respectful and makes good decisions so it makes it easy for me to say yes. When he wasn’t I couldn’t do this! -The Psychology behind saying yes You’re showing trust and respect It’s not about keeping score By giving this freedom, you are showing emotional generosity Most people reciprocate from a place of gratitude You now when you get any YES in life you’re like F ya!! Let’s goooo Give them that joy! Give them a hell yes, not just a yes And don't give them a lecture then a yes Some thoughts from experts! Dr. Terri Orbuch & The Power of Allowing Individuality Core idea: Long-term happiness comes from letting each person continue to grow individually.
- In her 28-year study on marriage, Dr. Orbuch found that happy couples maintain what she calls “self-expansion”... encouraging each other’s separate interests.
- Saying yes allows your partner to explore and come back to the relationship with new energy, stories, and confidence. “Encouraging your partner’s personal growth is one of the strongest predictors of long-term happiness.” Dr. Terri Orbuch
Dr. Jordan Peterson & Mutual Responsibility & Trust Core idea: Healthy relationships are based on voluntary cooperation, not control.
- Peterson often talks about how resentment builds when one partner becomes too controlling.
- He frames marriage as a partnership of two competent adults who choose each other daily. Saying yes reinforces that mutual trust and equality. Quote to use: “A relationship is a negotiation between two people who are aiming for the best in one another.” Jordan Peterson
Dr. Gary Chapman & The 5 Love Languages Core idea: Saying yes is a form of acts of service and words of affirmation rolled into one.
- For many people, feeling trusted and supported is their love language.
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When you say, “Sure, have fun,” you’re affirming love in a way that communicates emotional generosity. Quote to use: “Love is a choice you make every day.” Gary Chapman
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Jay Shetty & The Energy of Giving Core idea: Giving without keeping score creates peace and attraction.
- In 8 Rules of Love, Shetty teaches that generosity is the most sustainable foundation for partnership.
- When you say yes because you want to, not because you have to, you change the emotional tone of your marriage. 👉 Quote to use: “Love doesn’t demand, it expands.” Jay Shetty
CHEERS TO BEING A YES WIFE!!
You’re going to love this podcast episode so much that you’re going to look forward to the next time someone is a jerk to you.
Because we are programming ourselves to be ready for it today! The next time someone says something rude or belittles you… you’re ready for it with the best ever responses. Let’s use an example of something that was said to me last weekend… I was at a party and a girl came up to me with the oddest tone and said… "I like your dress. My favorite look is a desperate housewife" Ready for the response? You take one confident breath and you say, “did you say that to try to hurt me?” Or another option, a confident laugh and then, “can you say that again?” It’s SO GOOD! I learned this from trial attorney Jefferson Fisher and it’s honestly changed the way I respond to things. I don’t absorb their emotion or their story… my response is all mine…. I’m not letting them hijack my emotional state. * Pause, breathe, regain control
+ Use silence and a deep breath before responding.
+ Silence makes the other person sit with their words and prevents you from reacting impulsively.
+ Your breath is your pause button against fight-or-flight reactions.
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Don’t absorb their negativity
- You don’t have to internalize or validate rude behavior.
- Your dignity is preserved by staying calm and detached.
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Ask clarifying or exposing questions
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“Can you repeat that?” / “Can you say that again?”
- “Did you say that to try to hurt me?”
- These questions force the other person to either own or retract their words, shifting control back to you.
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Use fewer words; be precise
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Keep your response short, clear, and confident.
- Don’t over-explain or justify yourself.
- A crisp question or boundary carries more weight than a long defense.
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If they escalate further: disengage calmly.
- If it’s someone powerful (boss, authority): ask respectfully, e.g. “Can you help me understand what you meant by that?”
- If you freeze or can’t think of what to say: your default safe move is pause + “Can you repeat that?”
I’m not sure about you but the heaviness of the world right now has me needing more time for calm and reflection and planning… and in that process of really prioritizing this… I realized the importance of a personal fortress. A space where you can retreat and be alone and do whatever you need to do to reset your mind, revisit your priorities and how you spend your time and mental energy… all of it. I wanted to do a podcast episode on this topic because I think changing our environment changes our headspace and in this way it can be so fulfilling. Today we are diving into planning more peace and calm and clarity in our lives through slowing everything down and spending time in a place that is special to you. Ideas of what this could look like! Home gym
Bathtub
Desk or writing nook
Couch by a window
Large closet or wardrobe corner
Backyard garden
Front porch or balcony
Comfy chair with a blanket
Yoga mat corner
Bed with soft lighting
Garage gym or workshop
Attic or loft space
Basement reading nook
Hammock
Fireplace area
In this episode, we'll explore inspiring ideas and perspectives from thought leaders on how to build your own personal sanctuary and use it to find calm, focus on priorities and recenter. We cover… * Why having a personal “fortress” matters in a noisy, stressful world * How stepping away creates peace, clarity, and calm * The holistic benefits of slowing down: mental, emotional, physical, and relational * Avoiding burnout through daily renewal (“sharpening the saw”) * Why everyone needs to recharge, introverts and extroverts alike * Creative ideas for personal sanctuaries (bath, desk, couch, garden, home gym, and more) * How to design your space: calming atmosphere, personalization, clutter-free environment * Ways to recharge in your fortress: stillness, journaling, prayer, meditation, yoga, breathwork * The importance of unplugging completely * Guarding this time fiercely and saying no without guilt * How your fortress becomes a secret superpower, helping you return to life refreshed and energized
Over time, this refuge becomes your secret superpower. It allows you to meet life’s challenges with a calmer mind and a fuller heart, because you know you have a safe place to restore yourself. So design your spaces, embrace the quiet, and enjoy the process of recharging. By making this a habit, you’ll not only find more peace and clarity, but also bring your most awesome, energized self to everything you do and everyone you care about. Over time, this refuge becomes your secret superpower. It allows you to meet life’s challenges with a calmer mind and a fuller heart, because you know you have a safe place to restore yourself. So design your spaces, embrace the quiet, and enjoy the process of recharging. By making this a habit, you’ll not only find more peace and clarity, but also bring your most awesome, energized self to everything you do and everyone you care about. LINKS! Here are links to the heating pad set-up that Lindsay talks about: https://amzn.to/4mhPb9G https://amzn.to/4guRd52 Here is a link to Lindsay’s 2.0 planning system: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem
It’s back to school and back to routines and for me that means a new season of podcasting and starting this one off with how to maximize our time while our kids are in school. Insane to say but I now have a high schooler and in my many years of having school age children I’ve learned so much about how to use this time to have time for yourself, get the things done that you need to, catch up with people that you love, fitness & nutrition, take care of appointments and errands… without wasting any time. My goal of this podcast is to give you a really helpful framework for laying out how you will spend those precious hours while your kids are in school. If we don’t plan, the time can see like it goes by soooo fast. But if we do have a plan and we don’t have wasted or distracted time in between things, we can get so much done and by the time it’s school pickup, you feel accomplished and organized and energized and ready to give them the best of you, not the distracted half paying attention version of you. Our days all look different but as mothers that all love our kids and want as much quality time with them as possible, spending the time you aren’t with them strategically, will bring so much joy to your life. Get Clear on Your Top Priorities * Start with “radical clarity” on what truly matters to you. Take time to define what fulfillment, success, and joy mean in your life. Identify your biggest goals and why they’re important – this clarity becomes your compass for how to spend your days. * List the things you never seem to have time for… both big and small. Maybe it’s projects like organizing the closets or family photos, pursuing a passion or side-business, getting back into shape, or finally starting that project. * Connect each task to a purpose. For each priority or goal, be clear on why it matters. For example, you might not love the act of meal-prepping lunches, but you do love the outcome of healthier meals and smoother evenings. When you know why a task is important (to your health, career, family, etc.), it’s easier to commit time to it.
You’re designing your life around what matters most to you, not just reacting to whatever comes up.
Plan Your Day, Don’t Wing It * Design each school-day with intention. Map out your day before it starts... even down to hourly blocks if possible. We’re just not good enough to wing it consistently and expect great results.
As productivity expert Stephen Covey famously said, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” In other words, slot your highest-value activities into your calendar.
If working out, writing a chapter of your book, or having an uninterrupted block for work projects is a priority, schedule it into the hours your kids are at school. * Identify your MITs (Most Important Tasks) each morning. A great habit is to choose the top 2–3 tasks that will make your day feel successful if nothing else gets done. Write these down and tackle them early in the day. * Batch and align tasks to the right times. Group similar tasks together and do them at the optimal times of day. For example, if you have high-energy or creative time in the morning, use that for deep work or exercise. Save low-energy tasks (like tidying up or answering non-urgent emails) for the later afternoon slump * Be realistic and time-conscious. Don’t overload your day with a massive to-do list that ignores the realities of time… that just leads to frustration. Remember, we all have the same 24 hours; it’s how we use them that counts.
Make the Most of School Hours: High-Value Activities to Consider When your kids are at school, think of it as your prime time to tackle the things that are hardest to do when they’re around. Plan these hours as if they’re gold… because they are! Here are some categories and examples of productive, fulfilling things you can do while the kids are in class:
- Invest in your health and energy: Get your workout in... go for a run, hit the gym, take a yoga or Pilates class, or do a workout video at home.
Prioritize meal prep and nutrition: plan healthy dinners for the week, prep ingredients, or cook in batches.
Maybe even schedule that dentist appointment or physical therapy session you’ve been putting off. Taking care of your physical well-being will boost your energy and mood for the rest of the day. * Do deep work or professional tasks: Use the quiet time to focus on work projects or passion projects without interruptions. This could mean building your business (developing a product, marketing, content creation), working on tasks for your job that require concentration, or even starting a side hustle from home.
It might be the perfect window to record a podcast episode or write that book or blog you’ve dreamed about while the house is silent. If you’re pursuing a career goal like earning a certification or applying for jobs, dedicate a block of time to that. Treat these school hours as your “deep focus” sessions to really move the needle on work that matters to you. * Learn and grow: Take an online course or use the time to read personal development or business books, listen to inspiring podcasts, or practice a hobby (paint, play an instrument, write in a journal). These hours are a gift for personal growth… seize them to feed your mind and passion. * Knock out home and life admin tasks: Get your household organized so that evenings can be more relaxed. For example, do the laundry and cleaning in the morning so you’re free to play with the kids later. Declutter a room or tackle that messy closet.
Run errands strategically: if grocery shopping with your children feels like a nightmare, do it solo while they’re at school (or order groceries online for delivery). Take the car for service, go to the bank, or handle appointments (haircuts, doctor visits) during this window. By handling errands and chores now, you won’t have them weighing on you during family time. * Nurture your relationships and social life:
It’s healthy and energizing to connect with other adults when you have some free time. Plan a coffee date or lunch with a friend or your spouse once in a while during school hours.
Join a local moms’ group meetup, or simply call a family member to catch up. Human connection and laughter can recharge you. Also, if you and your partner can swing it, the occasional daytime date while kids are in school... even just a walk or lunch together… can be a fun way to reconnect without needing a sitter. * Take care of YOU (self-care time):
Yes, productivity includes self-care, because if you burn out, nothing else works well. So don’t feel guilty about using some school time for yourself. In fact, schedule it in. Maybe that means enjoying quiet “me time” to recharge: take a relaxing bath, sit in a park with a coffee, or simply revel in the silence at home to meditate or pray. It could be booking a massage, facial, or therapy session guilt-free, since you’re not missing family time to do it.
Eliminate Distractions and Time-Wasters * Guard those school hours from distractions. It’s easy to lose precious minutes (which turn into hours) by checking texts, scrolling social media, or getting pulled into emails constantly throughout the day. * Identify your personal time-wasters… and nix them.
Take an honest look at where your time tends to “leak” away. Is it the rabbit hole of social media? Random online shopping? Unplanned chats with a neighbor or lengthy coffee breaks? We often don’t realize how these add up. * Use productivity tricks to stay focused. Many parents find techniques like time blocking helpful. Time blocking means scheduling a fixed block (say 9–10:30am) for a specific task or category of tasks… and during that block, you only do that.
- Accept that things won’t always go as planned.
We can craft the perfect schedule on paper… and then life happens. Kids get sick, the school calls, the car battery dies, you hit an unexpected wall of fatigue, etc.
Productivity experts who are parents stress that you must expect interruptions as a normal part of life rather than an exception. * Don’t overload yourself or chase perfection.
It’s tempting to use every kid-free minute to “get everything under the sun done” – and set unrealistically high expectations.
It’s far better to do a few important things well (and include some self-care) than to do 20 things and be too exhausted to enjoy the evening with your kids. So be realistic and kind to yourself when planning your week. * Use habits and routines to stay consistent (but adapt when needed). Establishing regular routines can automate your productivity. For instance, if you always exercise right after school drop-off, soon it becomes second nature and requires less willpower.
Maybe 10–11am is always devoted to your top work project, or perhaps you do a 15-minute mindfulness meditation at the same time daily. Routines build momentum and reduce decision fatigue.
Celebrate what you did get done. * At the end of the day, acknowledge and appreciate the things you accomplished... both the personal (“kept the house running, paid the bills”) and professional. Too often we focus on what we didn’t do.
Change that habit! Even if your day went off the rails, maybe you managed to comfort a sick child or have an important conversation.. those count too.
By recognizing the value in all you do (paid and unpaid), you maintain a positive mindset.
Productivity isn’t just about checking boxes; it’s also about feeling fulfilled. If you ended the day with your kids safe, fed, and loved, and you moved the needle on one personal goal (no matter how small) – that’s a win.
Plan Your Days, Love Your Afternoons Maximizing your kid-free hours is ultimately about being intentional… with your time, your habits, and your choices.
By planning ahead and aligning your daily actions to your biggest priorities, you create a life where your important work and your family time can both flourish.
Instead of feeling like the school day “just flies by” in a blur of busy-ness, you’ll see tangible progress on your goals and still have energy in the tank when it’s time for pickup.
That’s the true reward here: you get to fully enjoy the afternoons and evenings with your children, being present instead of preoccupied.
So remember, a great plan is really about freedom, the freedom to spend your time on the things that light you up and the freedom to be the parent (and person) you want to be.
With a little structure and a lot of consistency, you can turn your school-hour routine into a powerhouse of productivity and fulfillment. Plan your days around what matters most, execute those plans with focus (and a dash of flexibility), and watch how much awesome stuff you get done before the school day is even over.
How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO This is one huge deep dive into FOMO.
The fear of missing out and why I think it can quietly steal your peace, confidence and joy if you don’t have a plan for how to think about it. Lots of things I talk about on this podcast, I’m currently also working on becoming awesome at the thing. This is one of those things that I’ve got down. I don’t have FOMO ever and I don’t get my feelings hurt if I wasn’t invited somewhere. Not that either of these things are bad feelings - I don't actually label feelings at all- good or bad. I think it’s so great if you can just see feelings clearly as they are and not judge yourself for the feelings you have. When you have feelings of missing out you lose the moment you’re in for the moment you think you’re missing or missed. I think once we really take time to think about what FOMO is and how it affects us, you just won’t feel them the same way after. We talk about… * Where FOMO actually comes from (spoiler: it’s not about the event, it’s about the emotion underneath it) * How to reframe FOMO into JOMO (the Joy of Missing Out) * Strategies to strengthen self-trust so you stop looking outward for validation * Why comparison is the thief of joy, and how to stop doing it * Good reframes and questions to ask yourself when FOMO hits
Understand the Root of FOMO + Mel Robbins says FOMO often comes from self-doubt or feeling like we’re not doing enough.
“You’re not missing out on anything when you’re living in alignment.”
+ FOMO is triggered when we think other people are having more fun, more success, or more freedom than we are, but it’s all perception-based.
+ Ask yourself: *Am I craving the experience… or the feeling I think it will give me?* Shift into JOMO – the Joy of Missing Out
+ Jay Shetty teaches that peace is found in presence, and JOMO is about intentionally choosing *what* you say yes and no to.
“You don’t need to do everything. You need to do what matters most to you.”
+ When you choose one thing, you’re saying no to others, that’s not loss, that’s clarity.
+ Practice gratitude and groundedness in the choices you’ve made, don’t look sideways. Build Certainty Through Identity
+ Tony Robbins says that we suffer when our expectations don’t match our reality.
“Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole life changes.”
+ Instead of feeling left out, feel proud of the decisions you’ve made that align with your values.
+ Anchor into your identity: “I’m someone who values…” and let that lead your yeses and noes. Comparison Detox: Stop Scrolling, Start Living
+ Curate your inputs, if social media is triggering FOMO, take a pause or unfollow.
+ Mel Robbins: “You can’t compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.”
+ Reconnect with *your own* life’s magic. The more present you are, the less you’ll care what others are doing. When FOMO Hits, Try This…
+ Pause. Name it: “This is FOMO.”
+ Ask: *What am I afraid of missing… and why does that matter to me?*
+ Reframe: “If I’m not there, it’s because I’m meant to be here.”
CHEERS to planning your days in a way that you don’t have a fear of missing things but this sense of joy and calm knowing that you’ve chosen to do the things that align with what matters to you most.
We just officially passed the 1 million download mark on this podcast and I’m so crazy grateful for it. What an incredible time to be alive and have so many ways to connect with people that you would never connect with otherwise. To celebrate- I wanted to share things I know for sure. Some of the lessons and thoughts that feel like the most valuable right now from books and interviews and conversations with really interesting people. We were renewing our passports yesterday and I asked the girl helping us how her day was going and she looked at the clock and said it's a good day because it's going by fast. I think this is probably a super common response but as a student of all things personal development I’m just sensitive to this or super aware… With this one precious life we have - the last thing we should want is for it to just hurry up and speed by. We always have options - even if we don't think we do - we do. Let’s catch up on life together and talk about a million little awesome things. Here’s the NEW party book that Lindsay refers to in this episode: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-ultimate-kids-party-planning-guidebook Cheers to celebrating yourself!! Lindsay Dickhout Business Cell: 714.600.5776 Websites: www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com www.HelpOCKids.org Podcast: How To Be Awesome at Everything
What if disappearing for 30 days felt like a rocket ship toward the goals you’ve been thinking about… the habits you’ve wanted to build, the changes you’ve wanted to make. In this episode, I’m showing you how to hit pause on your normal life, go all in on what actually moves the needle, and come out with results that would’ve taken years.. or never happened at all. This episode is about changing up your routine and getting quiet for a certain period of time so that you can be laser focused on doing things differently. It will mean passing up things you normally do and even things you enjoy doing - for a short period of time. This Intentional imbalance is a growth strategy. Rather than tinkering away at something- you charge it, get great at it, get it into your consistent routine then emerge. You don’t live in this cave forever and the amount of time that you hibernate depends on how big of the goal and how focused you can be. You just need to hibernate long enough to get some major headway going in the direction that you want. Here’s the truth, when you come out of this phase, you won’t be the same person you were when you went in. You’ll walk differently. Think differently. Speak with more certainty. Why? Because you’ve done something most people won’t do, you intentionally pressed pause on the noise, the distractions, the social expectations… and you chose to go all in. You tell yourself… “For this short season, I’m putting blinders on. I’m not doing everything for everyone else. I’m focused. I’m building. I’m growing.” And here’s the beautiful part, it’s temporary. This isn’t about grinding forever. It’s about locking in for a short, intentional window… and using that window to create momentum that would’ve taken years otherwise, or maybe wouldn’t have happened at all. You didn’t try to squeeze this goal into the cracks of your chaotic schedule, you restructured your life around it. That’s why it sticks. It’s like being in a workout class and your legs are burning and your mind is screaming “I can’t do one more rep,” and then the instructor says… “You only have 10 left.” You find something extra. You push harder because the finish line is in sight. That’s the magic of this phase, you know it has an end. You know the sacrifice is short-term. And because of that, you stay consistent. You don’t flake. You show up. And on the other side? You’ve finished the reps. You’ve built the habit. You’ve launched the thing, or changed your body, or created a whole new standard for your life. And most importantly, you’ve built confidence. Not from hype. Not from external validation. But from evidence. Proof that you can be the kind of person who gets things done when it matters most. So if life’s felt stuck or uninspired lately… This is your sign to reset. Go inward. Go hard. Hibernate for a little while. Then come back and dominate... with momentum, with confidence, and with proof that you are exactly who you say you are and way more awesome!
How To Be Awesome At Not Letting Anyone Clip Your Wings—because sometimes, without even realizing it, we let the words and doubts of others make us dilute who we are.
In this episode, we’re talking about all the ways people (intentionally or not) try to clip your wings.
They might question your big goals, list out all the reasons something might not work, or subtly discourage you in a way that makes you second-guess yourself.
Sometimes it's huge dream-dampening conversations… and sometimes it's just tiny comments that plant seeds of doubt.
But here's the truth: if you're here to do something extraordinary, you will absolutely encounter people who try to limit you. It might be from people who love you the most, an enemy or strangers on the internet.
The best part about all of this… once you see it for what it is you just say… “Hey, don’t clip my wings.”
And I have the BEST ever song to put on to remind yourself of this daily.
Defining: ‘Clip Your Wings’ * Clipping your wings = causing someone to play smaller than they’re meant to be. * It could be someone doubting your vision, warning you about risk, or even asking, “What’s your backup plan?” * 🎵 “Don’t let nobody clip your wings…” You were made to fly—don’t let someone else's fear ground you.
The Subtle (and Not-So-Subtle) Ways People Do It * Doubting your big dreams, suggesting a safer path. * Mocking or downplaying your passion. * Silently disengaging or showing no belief. * Sometimes it’s strangers online, sometimes it’s people who love you. * 🎵 “If you got a fire, don’t lose it. If you got a do-or-die dream, do it.” * 💬 Steven Bartlett: “People will project their own insecurities on you when they’re afraid to do the thing themselves.”
Spot It Before You Absorb It * Be conscious of tiny moments that plant self-doubt. * Just because someone can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not possible. * 🎵 “Keep your head down, keep on the blinders…” * 💬 Chris Williamson: “Your biggest risk isn’t trying and failing. It’s getting to the end and realizing you listened to people who never tried at all.”
Protecting Your Fire from Doubt * When people offer limiting beliefs, ask: “Is this concern or fear?” * Your job is to protect your fire—not get approval for it. * 🎵 “If you’ve got something to prove, go on and prove it.” * 💬 Ed Mylett: “You were born to do something great. Don’t trade that for being liked.”
The Danger of Diluting Yourself * When we let comments change our voice, slow our pursuit, or make us play safe—we dilute ourselves. * 🎵 “So don’t water down your dream just ‘cause they don’t believe.”
The Only ‘Backup Plan’ You Need * Society teaches us to have a Plan B, just in case. * But if you’re truly committed to something, your only backup plan is to get back up when you fall. * 🎵 “Gettin’ back up, that’s the only backup plan you need.” * 🔥 Use every setback as part of the climb—not a reason to come down.
Fly Anyway * Not everyone will get it. * Most people only believe after they see results—but you have to believe first. * 🎵 “If you’ve got a dream, then chase it. ‘Cause a dream don’t chase you back.” * 💬 Mel Robbins: “Stop waiting for someone to pick you. Pick yourself.”
Choose Your Response & Be Ready * This is your permission slip to go all in on yourself. * You don’t need a backup plan for being who you’re meant to be. * If someone questions your dream—remind yourself: 🎵 “Don’t let nobody clip your wings.”
CHEERS to being your FULL self and going for your big dreams and not letting anyone clip your wings along the way!
I feel like there is this shift in what used to be the habits and routines of “extreme biohackers” or “health gurus” and now those same things have become part of a lifestyle that people are adapting to make it their new healthy normal. What we eat, how we move, what we focus on, how we approach health & supplements & body recovery, having a low stress lifestyle - all of it. This is - my opinion - the best ever cultural shift… because it makes us all healthier, happier in our day to day because we feel great and we will live longer and age better. In this episode I’m breaking down the habits and ideas that play into this new healthy normal. Whether you’re just starting or refining your routine, this is your blueprint for building a healthy lifestyle that feels good and becomes your new normal. Let’s break it down this way... -What we eat -How we move -What we focus on / headspace / love / low stress -How we approach health & supplements & body recovery 🍽️ WHAT WE EAT (“Fit Body”) * Cook your own food – cheapest, healthiest, tastiest path to looking & feeling better. * 90 % whole-food rule – mostly meat, poultry, fish, eggs, raw milk/cheese, honey, fruit, veggies. * Limit the big saboteurs – alcohol, added sugar, processed/seed-oil-heavy foods, liquid calories. * Ancestral fats – butter, ghee, tallow, coconut or olive oil; dump industrial seed oils. * Protein-forward eating – anchor every meal with quality protein for muscle, satiety, blood-sugar control. * Precision hydration & minerals – use high-quality salt + magnesium with meals and water. * Fasting as a tool – strategic fasts for metabolic flexibility and gut rest. * Cheat-code bedtime nutrition – eating finishes 2-3 h before lights-out (see sleep section).
🏃 HOW WE MOVE (“Fit Body” continued) * Daily baseline: walk ≥ 10 000 steps – the more you walk, the better you feel. * Lift ≥ 4× per week – the more you lift, the more muscle you build; prioritize compound moves. * Movement micro-wins – walk after meals, take the stairs, stretch while on calls. * Outdoor > indoor – sunlight + fresh air amplify the mood boost. * Do hard things – deliberate discomfort (heavy lifts, hill sprints, cold dips) makes the rest of life easier. * Mini-metric goals – work toward: 10 pull-ups, 25 push-ups, 30 crunches, 1-mile run < 7 min (top 1 % but attainable). * Active recovery – gentle walks, mobility flows, breath-work between intense sessions.
🧠 WHAT WE FOCUS ON / HEADSPACE / LOVE / LOW STRESS * Golden bedtime – the earlier you sleep, the better you feel; 9 p.m. lights-out is a weight-loss & energy cheat code. * 7 + hours every night – non-negotiable for hormones, immunity, cognition. * Calm mind priorities – gratitude, meditation, prayer, earthing, laughter, breath-work. * Nature therapy – sun, grass, water, trees: free antidepressants. * Purpose & passion stack
+ Fit body
+ Calm mind
+ Loving family
+ Exciting hobby
+ Respect for nature
+ Rewarding purpose
+ Supportive life partner
- Stress is not a badge of honor – schedule rest like workouts; low-stim routines > chronic hustle.
- Design a life you love – work that lights you up, movement built into the day, joyful relationships.
- Reject the modern “normal” – daily Starbucks, cubicle confinement, 40-year job you hate, multiple meds, no sunlight, no exercise → not the path.
- Embrace the real normal – fulfilling work, outdoor time, strong body, vibrant health, thriving relationships.
🔬 HOW WE APPROACH HEALTH, SUPPLEMENTS & BODY RECOVERY * Foundational stack – magnesium, creatine, collagen (DiNic’s “never-skip” trio). * Targeted add-ons – electrolytes, high-quality multi/mineral, vitamin D/K, omega-3s as labs dictate. * Sleep hygiene – dark room, cool temp, magnesium + glycine in the evening, zero blue light last hour. * Underrated “medical tools”
+ Sunlight ☀️
+ Sleep 😴
+ Nature & earthing 🌳
+ Real food 🥦
+ Exercise & walking 🚶♀️
+ Hot/cold exposure (sauna, cold plunges) 🔥🧊
+ Salt & magnesium 🧂
+ Meditation & laughter 🧘♂️😄
- Active recovery tech – red-light, compression, massage, mobility, breath-work.
- Lab-first mindset – annual bloodwork, CGM, body-comp scans; tweak before problems arise.
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Body-transformation quick-start (90 days)
- Limit alcohol
- 10 k steps daily
- Lift ≥ 4× weekly
- Sleep 7 + h
- 90 % whole foods
- Ditch liquid calories
- Prioritize protein + quality fats
- Rule of compounding – small, relentless wins in movement, food, sleep, mindset snowball into radical change.
CHEERS to creating YOUR new normal based on all that we know!! XO Lindsay
If you spend 18 minutes a day — focused on learning or practicing a skill, you will become better than 95% of the population at that skill.
That’s the 100 hour rule. It’s about consistency and this concept of small daily progress that compounds over time.
Jesse Itzler popularized this concept and it shows that you can become great at anything you’re willing to put 100 hours towards. You don’t need more time. You need more intention. In this episode I’m pulling out so many of the highlighted sections from some of my favorite books to bring you a very full perspective podcast episode on this topic. The 100 Hour Rule is your reminder that you already have what it takes. You just need to start — and keep showing up. This episode is your mini wake-up call — your invitation to finally get going on learning the skill that you’ve wanted to and get moving on your small and big and do it in a way that feels totally doable.
We’re breaking down the 100 Hour Rule with inspiration from:
- Jesse Itzler
- Josh Kaufman
- Chris Williamson
- Alex Hormozi
- Ed Mylett
- Steven Bartlett
Let’s talk about how to focus, what to prioritize, and how to finally follow through, even if your schedule is full and your motivation isn’t perfect.
Why It Works- 100 hours = manageable, realistic, and motivating. Public speaking, playing piano, learning to use Canva, learn to cook, learn how to lift weights, learn how to meditate, learn to hike or mountain bike, learn to watercolor or speak French. Become at expert at using points to travel to places you wouldn’t normally, work on learning & launching a business. What Is The 100 Hour Rule? 💬 Jesse Itzler: “If you spend 18 minutes a day on any skill, in one year you’ll be in the top 5% in the world at that skill.”
- Most people quit because they think progress takes too long.
- But it’s not about hours in a day… it’s about consistency.
- The real magic is in the compounding effect of daily effort.
📌 18 minutes a day x 365 = 100+ hours a year
Josh Kaufman – Just 20 Hours to Get Good Author of The First 20 Hours, Kaufman challenges the 10,000 hour myth by saying:
“You can go from knowing nothing to being pretty good in just 20 hours of focused, deliberate practice.”
How?
- Break the skill into sub-skills
- Learn enough to self-correct
- Remove distractions
- Commit to 1–2 hours a day for 10 days or 20 minutes a day for 2 months
🎯 You don’t need to master it. You just need to start enjoying it.
Alex Hormozi – Stack Skills That Multiply Your Value “Becoming world-class at the intersection of skills is the cheat code.”
- You don’t have to be the best at one thing... be really good at a few.
- 100 hours on something like speaking, writing, or selling? Now you’re dangerous.
- Ask: What skill will give me disproportionate results?
Chris Williamson – Depth Beats Dabbling Host of Modern Wisdom:
“The world rewards depth, not dabbling. Mastery is rare, and rare is valuable.”
- Attention spans are short, but attention is power.
- Being intentional for 18 minutes a day beats random YouTube rabbit holes.
- Ask: What’s something I could be known for in a year... if I committed now?
Ed Mylett – The Power of One More “You’re always one decision, one habit, one ‘more’ away from a totally different life.”
- Ed teaches that small, consistent actions compound faster than we think.
- Also references the “1 degree” concept… how a tiny shift in direction today leads to a totally different destination down the road.
- His belief: Build confidence by keeping promises to yourself, especially the small ones.
🎯 Make the promise: 18 minutes a day. Keep the promise. Watch the ripple effect.
Steven Bartlett – Identity Drives Discipline Host of Diary of a CEO:
“You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”
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Steven focuses on identity and structure:
- Want to be a writer? Write.
- Want to be fit? Move daily.
- Want to be a leader? Lead yourself first.
- The 100 Hour Rule works because it reshapes your identity through repeated action.
💡 Ask: Who am I becoming with each session of focused effort?
Putting It Into Practice Choose your focus: * What skill or habit will elevate your life? * Where can you apply 100 hours over the next 12 months?
Make it stick: * Schedule 18 minutes daily * Use habit stacking (tie it to something you already do) * Keep a log or journal * Reflect weekly: What changed? What’s easier now?
Journal Prompts Ask yourself:
- What’s the one thing I’ll be proud I invested in a year from now?
- What excuse keeps stopping me… and what’s my new story?
- What part of my identity will this 100-hour journey unlock?
Your Future Self Is Waiting You don’t need more motivation — you need a system that you trust.
The 100 Hour Rule is your reminder that you already have what it takes. You just need to start… and keep showing up.
The compound effect of tiny, focused actions is real. So start small. Stay consistent. And let this be the year you build something remarkable… 18 minutes at a time.
We took Parker and the girls and a few buddies to Dave and Busters a few weeks ago and there was this small thing that happened that has been a huge perspective shift in my life. it's worth a podcast episode. I was telling Craig on the way there that I've kept all our past Dave and Buster's card organized in the Ziploc baggie in my purse so we have so many cards we have endless game credits we won't have to buy any cards it's literally gonna be the easiest trip to Dave & Buster's ever. So we get there and we're at that scanning machine and one by one each of the 10 cards I had been carrying around in my purse was empty- now they had tickets on them for the stuff in the prize room but zero game credits. I was laughing so hard I literally couldn't catch my breath as every card we scanned in was a big fat zero and Craig jokingly said… Lindsay you have to stop keeping things. And it was like the world stopped and I was like - wait a minute - I was sure those cards had value. What else in my life am I keeping that I won’t use or wear or anything. Things that are weighing me down for no reason. This whole experience threw me into this new way of thinking… where I purge with a feeling of abundance, rather than holding on to things. My goal in this episode is to help you discover what Dave and Busters cards you’ve been keeping… that are actually weighing you down. I’ve realized more and more that my space needs to be completely organized for my life to feel organized - that’s what we’re unpacking today! -The Myth of Value: When We Think Something Still Works * Common examples: clothes that no longer fit your lifestyle, kitchen gadgets you “might need someday."
-The Weight of Keeping Things "Just In Case" * The emotional burden of storing, organizing, and maintaining stuff “just in case.” * Letting go frees up not just space, but time, clarity, and energy.
-Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset * The evolved mindset says: “I’ll be okay without this.” If I really need it, I’ll figure it out. So many things we hold onto are a $10 pickup if we need it again * Purging is not wasteful — it’s trusting yourself and your future.
-Ask Yourself: What Are Your Dave & Buster’s Cards? * + What am I holding onto that no longer adds value? + What items feel more like obligation than joy?
-Purge with Purpose — and Peace * Tips for letting go:
+ Make it a celebration, not a chore.
+ Donate or re-home items to someone who needs them.
+ Keep only what aligns with your current season of life.
-The Clarity of Organized Space = Organized Life * Organizing your space creates calm, energy, and creativity. * When everything has a place, your brain gets a break. * It’s less about perfection, and more about flow and freedom.
-Don’t Carry Dead Weight * Back to the Ziploc baggie — “it looked like it held value, but it was just weight.” * Look at your physical spaces with fresh eyes. * Find the freedom and confidence that comes from letting go.
Why an Organized Home = An Organized Life 1. Mental Clarity & Emotional Lightness – Clutter creates mental overwhelm. When your space is clean, your mind feels clear and focused. 2. Saves Time & Energy – No more wasting time searching for things! You can use that energy for creativity, work, or self-care. 3. Boosts Productivity & Motivation – A structured space helps you feel in control and more motivated to tackle tasks. 4. Reduces Stress & Anxiety – Studies show clutter increases cortisol (stress hormone). A tidy home means a calmer mind. 5. Encourages Healthy Habits – An organized kitchen makes healthy eating easier; a tidy workspace boosts efficiency. 6. Better Sleep & Relaxation – A clean bedroom promotes deeper, more restorative sleep.
Unique Summer Cleaning Ideas 1. Declutter by Energy Zones – Organize based on how a space makes you feel. If a room feels “heavy,” reassess what’s in it. 2. Reverse Spring Cleaning – Unload drawers as if you’re moving, then only put back what you truly love or need. 3. “One-Touch” Rule – When tidying, make sure each item you pick up is immediately put where it belongs. 4. Seasonal Reset Box – Place items you’re unsure about in a box. If you don’t use them in 3 months, donate them. 5. Declutter with Music & a Timer – Set a 30 minute timer & play loud music and go! 6. The “Why Do I Own This?” Test – Ask yourself if each item serves a purpose or brings joy. If not, let it go! 7. Detox Your Digital Space – Clean up emails, files, and phone apps to declutter your mind.
I hope this episode inspires you to see organization as a form of self-care rather than a chore. And helps you focus on what you’re carrying around that you think serves you but is actually heavy dead weight.
CHEERS to your organized space & life!!
The craziest thing that I’ve learned over the last year of reading and re-reading aging and longevity books is that much of what we think is natural aging is actually neglect. My goal in this episode is to reframe what we assume or are told is “natural aging” or “just getting older” and show all the small things that we might be neglecting over time. This whole concept is so empowering!! Rather than feeling like we aren’t in control of how we age, we realize that we are actually in control of so much of it. Focusing on all the tiny things we can do daily to keep our strength, flexibility, energy and sharpness over time. If you don’t use it you lose it and that’s not the gameplan!! Let’s go!! Why We Confuse Aging with Neglect Inspiration: Outlive + Good Energy
- Dr. Peter Attia challenges the idea of “inevitable decline.” He argues we don’t die of old age, we die from preventable chronic diseases (heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, frailty, neurodegeneration).
- Dr. Casey Means says our modern environment is biologically mismatched. Much of what we consider aging—fatigue, brain fog, joint stiffness—is inflammation caused by neglected lifestyle choices like ultra-processed food, lack of movement, and poor sleep.
Reframe: What feels like aging might be:
- Muscle loss from underuse (not just age)
- Joint stiffness from inactivity, not age
- Brain fog from poor metabolic health, not "just getting older"
Flexibility & Strength—The First to Go (But Totally Reversible) Peter Attia’s Point: “Functional Longevity”
- You don’t train to live long—you train to live well long.
- His "Centenarian Decathlon" concept: What physical feats do you want to do at 80 or 90? Train now for those.
Action Steps:
- Start a Zone 2 cardio routine (walking uphill, light cycling). Great for mitochondria and long-term energy.
- Add stability and grip strength work—these are major predictors of longevity.
- Stretch daily or do mobility work 10 minutes/day. Lack of flexibility is not inevitable—it’s just unused tissue.
Moving your body regularly improves cellular health and lowers inflammation, which protects against many “aging” diseases.
Nutrition is the Silent Ager Good Energy: “You are what you metabolize.”
- Modern food is driving chronic inflammation, which accelerates what we mistake as aging: skin issues, joint pain, fatigue, insulin resistance.
- Ultra-processed food hijacks energy systems and causes mitochondrial dysfunction.
Action Steps:
- Prioritize whole foods: protein, fiber, omega-3s.
- Avoid “glucose roller coasters” — balance meals with fat/fiber/protein to avoid energy crashes.
- Try time-restricted eating: not for weight loss, but to support metabolic flexibility.
Attia promotes a low-carb or carb-conscious diet to control insulin and prevent the slow creep of pre-diabetes that goes unnoticed.
Sleep & Stress—The Hidden Agers * Poor sleep mimics aging in the brain. One bad night of sleep can spike blood glucose and disrupt hunger hormones. * Chronic stress leads to cortisol overload—breaking down muscle, weakening immunity, and inflaming joints.
Action Steps:
- Prioritize 7–8 hours of sleep in a dark, cool room.
- Wind down early with no screens—melatonin is suppressed by blue light.
- Practice stress recovery: deep breathing, journaling, cold exposure, or sauna.
What to Watch for That Looks Like Aging But Isn’t These are early signs of neglect that can be reversed:
- Needing caffeine to function
- Losing strength when lifting groceries or kids
- Taking longer to recover after activity
- Feeling “foggy” or irritable most mornings
- Waking up feeling stiff every day
Attia and the Means both emphasize: These are signals. If you listen to them now, you can slow or even reverse them.
Your “Reverse the Neglect” Starter Plan Give listeners a 5-part challenge:
- Move 30 minutes every day (combine walking + strength 3x/week)
- Eat one full day of unprocessed meals
- Cut sugar and seed oils completely
- Stretch for 10 minutes in the morning and before bed
- Walk after meals to stabilize glucose
This isn’t about avoiding age—it’s about owning your energy.
When we treat aging like a slow collapse, we give away our power.
But when we understand the difference between aging and neglect and add and remove habits, we change the game. Our mind and body will thank us now and even more when we’re 80 and 90.
CHEERS to taking control of the way you age!
In this episode, I’m sharing the best tips for maximizing your budget when it comes to party planning - especially kids parties. I have this way of doing it that’s efficient and organized and easy to decide what’s worth paying for and what’s better to do yourself. I’m sharing specific examples from the Party I just threw for Parker because I think it will give you lots and lots of ideas for the parties you plan in the future. This one was a baseball and ice cream theme so I definitely needed ice cream cones. I got two quotes for companies to scoop fresh ice cream and make ice cream sandwiches and both came in around $850. Instead, I bought the mini ice cream cones from Trader Joe’s for $.46 each - brushed them with a little water and dip them in sprinkles and the kids were so happy. I took what would have been something like $12 per kid and made it $.46 and if they had two cones, I made it one dollar. And it had the same feeling as doing the expensive vendor, and nobody knew the difference! There are so many ways to plan your parties so you spend the money in the most strategic ways and and figure out ways to keep things low in cost, but have a big impact. Tips! -spread out your spend -get multiple quotes -start early if you can -set max budgets for some of the creative people -do half vendor, half yourself (balloons and treats) -hat vendor - $450 - DIY would have been similar plus helper time to do it -caricature - $300 for 3 hours - best deal in town -pizzas & taco guy- sometimes make it pretty and sometimes just to feed people -snack table is so easy and so useful and ads to decor -print signs at a store like FEDEX - then I had my sign girl just do 2 main signs -print tags, papers and “stickers” yourself -pizza boxes had our logo on it - just paper cut and taped -Etsy has great resources -before you rent - see what you would spend buying and do you have a place to store? This time I spent too much on a wood wall - but I decided I needed it too late -you either have to spend lots of time or lots of money! But you dont have to do both -use the school of YouTube Here’s the link to my new party book!! https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-ultimate-kids-party-planning-guidebook CHEERS to your next awesome party!!
Over the years, I’ve spent lots of time in hospitals as we navigate keeping Craig healthy despite his genetic heart issues. This past week was another week spent in the hospital for us and even though we’ve done this so many more times than we would like… Every time I come out with a new perspective in someway or a new thoughts on really how to keep your health as the highest priority in life and what I think is the best way to keep all your records and information organized and how to advocate for yourself. One of my favorite things about podcasting and connecting with friends is sharing experiences because we’re all in different situations every day so we learn different things. I’m grateful to have the opportunity to share our journey and the tips and lessons from being in such extreme situation at times and the take-aways that I think are most valuable to everyone. We’re talking about keeping good notes, showing gratitude to those helping you, staying calm and not letting overwhelming emotions take over and prioritizing the entire family when anyone is going through something hard. -Email for health records -Notes on your phone for each person- one for overall history and one more meds/supplements -Book with everything printed -Being realistic but optimistic -Caring for whole family (Craig kept telling me to go be with the kids) -Letting people know whats going on in your world so you get the extra support -Stay strong minded and not weak - people help you more -Ask questions and take notes -Know people’s names, show gratitude in anyway you can -Keep loving & doing normal feeling things through it -Even if nobody has issues - keep good records as you go -Even if you have so many years so go through - loop in doctors to help you -Push for doctors to connect with each other -Consider concierge if you need it -Get your team of doctors going before you really need it -Keep health a top priority by reminding yourself that it is a top priority - on your weekly list of things to do -Don’t wait when you feel like something is off -Don’t eat hospital food - it’s not good enough for when you’re healing -Do your own research for little things that can help- and ask doctors - juicing, supplements etc. -Lay out clearly who you are the health quarterback for, then do all of this for them. It’s your most important job. CHEERS to us, the health quarterbacks!
Quick story to explain this - I was testing out a new business and I was talking to my husband about this product and the cost of goods and profits and the industry and I was explaining about the strong positioning I’ll have in the marketplace and he was like many sold last month and what was the net profit? And when I told him - he’s like your time is worth more- that’s not big enough - and I’m like totally - but I haven’t even gotten started. He’s like but you have sales- I was like I know, but I’m in the pre-game like I haven’t even gotten started. I’m building the skills and knowledge in the industry to go out and hit a home run. In the process of explaining this to him, I unlocked SUCH a powerful frame for myself that I think will really help you too. This frame is genius for anything you’ve tried at but haven’t hit out of the park yet. In any bucket of your life. Record strong podcast episodes, make sales in your Etsy or Amazon business, lose weight, build stronger relationships with girlfriends- it can be applied to just about anything. It’s the UNLOCK to stop judging yourself for taking too long or not getting there yet or for the mistakes you made along the way. None of what happens in the past defines how successful you will be going forward - it was all prep work for the BIG move that’s about to come. Let's get into it!! Reframing Your Past: • How to shift your mindset to see everything you’ve done up until now as preparation, not failure. • Embrace your “warm-up reps” as necessary for your future greatness. • The power of process over perfection—show up with a growth mindset, not an outcome obsession. • Mistakes and slow starts don’t disqualify you—they qualify you. Quote: “You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” — James Clear ⸻ 2. The Power of the Pregame Frame in Business: • Why launching something small, testing, and learning the landscape is one of the most strategic things you can do. • Building muscle in the industry, even if the early results don’t look big yet. • Your pregame is your research lab—learn fast, fail small, adjust boldly. Quote: “Volume negates luck.” — Alex Hormozi ⸻ 3. Stop Judging the Timeline: • You’re not late—you’re just in the warm-up. • The world teaches speed, but mastery comes from depth and consistency. • Let go of artificial timelines and embrace your unique runway. Quote: “You can’t be upset by the results you didn’t get from the work you didn’t do.” — Mel Robbins ⸻ 4. Applying the Frame to Different Life Buckets: • Health: Every workout you’ve done, even sporadically, is a win. Your future self will use those reps. • Relationships: Conversations that didn’t go well taught you what you want in a friendship or partnership. • Parenting: The imperfect moments were actually preparation for the present version of you. • Creative Work: Podcasts, posts, or projects that felt “meh” were the training ground for your voice. Quote: “Sometimes you win. Sometimes you learn.” — John C. Maxwell ⸻ 5. The Real Work Begins When You Decide to Stop Judging Yourself: • Self-compassion is your rocket fuel. • You’re not behind—you’re building traction. • “I haven’t even gotten started” becomes your permission slip to go bigger. Quote: “Don’t attach your identity to the version of you that had to survive.” — Jay Shetty ⸻ 6. Invite Your Listeners to Do This: • Write down a list of things you’ve “started but not mastered.” Then re-label them as “Pregame Practice.” • Celebrate what you’ve learned—not just what you earned. • Choose one area to now move into game time with fresh energy. Take the time to be kind to yourself for anything big you are working towards and know that you are just warming up baby, the best is yet to come!! Check out Lindsay’s Weekly Planning System here: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem
This episode is all about The Vacation Reset. How to come home, take a fresh look at your routine, and use everything you felt and experienced on your trip to make your everyday more fulfilling. So rather than having post-vacation blues you have this fresh perspective on everything - what you’re eating, what you’re spending your free time doing, and what makes you feel the most alive. It a post-vacation breakthrough podcast.
- Why Vacation Is Such a Powerful Reset * You break your routines naturally — new places, new foods, new experiences.
- You slow down and experience joy more intentionally.
- You're more present and tuned into how you actually feel.
Mini Thought: → When you remove the autopilot of daily life, you notice what truly lights you up.
- Coming Home: The Moment of Clarity * You can feel what routines were serving you and which ones felt heavy.
- You’re often able to clearly see what you missed (the good stuff!) — and what you didn’t.
- Your nervous system resets — you realize where you were operating from stress without realizing it.
Mini Thought: → Vacation gives you the contrast you need to upgrade your life.
- How to Create Your Personal Vacation Reset * Reflect: Ask yourself: What made me happiest on this trip? What did I not miss about home?
- Audit your life: What parts of your daily/weekly routines could feel lighter, freer, more intentional?
- Add in Micro-Experiences: Can you add mini "vacation moments" into your normal weeks (like trying new foods, spontaneous adventures, walks without your phone)?
- Declutter Your Calendar: Remove one thing that drains you. Commit to one thing that fills you up.
Mini Thought: → Tiny changes = huge shifts in how your days feel.
- Use Momentum Instead of Falling Into the Post-Vacation Slump * Most people fall into the "Maui Blues" — they mourn that vacation life is over.
- Shift the story: Vacation isn’t the escape — it’s a preview of what more joyful living could look like.
- Plan small things you can look forward to each week (adventures, date nights, slow mornings).
- Keep something “vacation-inspired” going (sunsets, meals outside, afternoon walks).
Mini Thought: → Build your real life to include the things you love about vacation life.
- Fresh Eyes on Your Big Goals * Being away from your normal environment clears your mental windshield.
- Look at your big goals again — are they still aligned? Or is it time to pivot?
- Use the renewed sense of energy and perspective to make bold moves or corrections.
Mini Thought: → Fresh energy = a fresh roadmap toward what really matters.
Action items!! -Make a list of what lit you up! -Notice what you didn’t miss about being away and what you dreaded coming back to then audit your calendar. -Make a playlist that reminds you of your trip to keep that vibe going. -Add something into your routine that you loved from your trip. Like reading 10 pages or a long walk after dinner. -Declutter one part of your space. -Try a food at home that you loved on vacation. -Think of tiny daily things that you loved there. Walking barefoot, eating more fruit, etc. Vacation isn’t just a break — it’s a gift of perspective. And the best thing you can do is bring that joy, that presence, and that clarity back into your daily life. Instead of mourning the end of vacation, use it as a launchpad for better habits, better experiences, and a more intentional, vibrant life. Every day can have a little bit of that vacation magic — if you design it that way. Thanks for listening, and here’s to your most awesome Vacation Reset yet! Here is a link to Lindsay’s 2.0 Calendar System if you want to tie this all together! https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem
Here are some key strategies to help you plan ahead, manage stress, and respond with patience instead of snapping at your loved ones:
Why We Get Snippy & How to Prevent It 1. Lack of Time = Lack of Patience – When we’re rushed, our tolerance drops. Planning ahead creates space for calmer interactions. 2. Stress & Overload – When our mental/emotional load is too heavy, small things set us off. Managing stress proactively prevents snippy reactions. 3. Not Meeting Our Own Needs – When we’re tired, hungry, or overstimulated, we’re more likely to react negatively.
How to Plan Ahead to Avoid Being Snippy 1. Buffer Time in Your Schedule – Give yourself 5-10 extra minutes before key transitions (leaving the house, dinnertime, bedtime routines) to prevent feeling rushed. 2. Set a “Reset” Ritual – Before engaging with your family or team, take 30 seconds to breathe deeply, reset your mood, and remind yourself of how you want to show up. 3. Identify Your Triggers – Notice when you’re most likely to snap (e.g., right after work, during morning chaos) and create a strategy for those moments (deep breaths, stepping away, music, or hydration). 4. Pre-Communicate Expectations – Set clear expectations with your family/team about transitions or tasks to avoid last-minute stress (e.g., “We’re leaving in 10 minutes” vs. “Hurry up, we’re late!”). 5. Use “I’m About To Be Snippy” Signals – Recognize when frustration is rising and call it out before reacting: “I need a second,” or “I feel overwhelmed, let’s pause.” 6. Plan for Self-Care Daily – Even 5 minutes of alone time, movement, or quiet time makes a difference in emotional regulation. 7. Create a Stress-Reducing Environment – A calm home or workspace (organized, decluttered, good lighting) reduces external stress triggers. 8. Sleep, Food, Water Check-In – Low blood sugar or exhaustion makes snippy responses more likely. Prioritize good sleep, hydration, and balanced meals. 9. Practice the 3-Second Rule – Before responding snippily, take three seconds to pause, breathe, and choose a response that aligns with your best self.
Quick Fixes in the Moment * The Smile Reset – Physically smiling (even if forced) can shift your mood. * Walk Away Before You Snap – Give yourself 60 seconds to reset. * Turn Snippy into Funny – If you feel irritation rising, flip it into humor instead of frustration.
I hope this episode helps you to reframe your approach to stressful interactions so you can respond as the best version of yourself. Have an awesome day!
This episode is all about documents your highs in life, so you can create more of them. As a person who’s thought a lot about joy and happiness and fulfillment - if we just try to simplify all of that - I really think it comes down to stringing as many awesome days together as you can. Identifying what made you feel the happiest, the strongest, the most fulfilled… all of it. You probably know I’m obsessed with designing our days rather than letting our days just happen and all of that starts with first figuring out what we actually love, have the most fun doing and what and who makes us feel our best. My goal in this episode is to help you develop a quick and easy system to keep track of your most awesome days and then create more of them. TIPS! -keep a notebook next to your bed- just for this. -take notes on what you did or didn't do you a day when you go to bed feeling awesome. -take notes when you’re body feels especially good, rested etc. **because when you know what fuels your days best, you can plan for more days like this. It works so well! Reflect back on this journal when you feel off or need a push or feel lost! Link here to my planning system for designing your days and your life! https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse CHEERS to designing your life of lots of awesome days!
Today we are training to be unaffected by chaos! How to get through it without anxiety or stress or losing your cool. I love topics that make us make a plan ahead of time, so when we are in a situation like this, we react exactly as we want to because we’ve thought through it ahead of time. We aren’t reacting out of emotion, but out of a place of control and strategically. You probably know I always talk about reacting based on what you want the outcome to be, not how you feel in the moment. We’re applying that concept to this situation and also digging into how to guard your inputs and avoid exposing yourself to unnecessary chaos or stress. And for the times we can’t control it, how we will keep our composure which gives us power in any situation. We’re going to take a step back and figure out what our mantra to ourselves will be - mine is “this will not take me down.” Because we can handle much more than we think we can!
This podcast topic might seem a little extreme, but I honestly think it’s the difference between planners and doers. Between amateurs and pros. It’s this attitude that I will succeed at this or I will die trying. Said differently - I won’t stop until it works. Because everything takes a long time and it will eventually work if you try hard enough and do enough repetitions and fail enough and learn enough lessons. Sometimes the original plan is what ends up working and sometimes you pivot 50 times and keep adjusting the plan until it’s the winning plan. I think this way of approaching anything you want to accomplish makes it so much easier because it’s accepting that it will be hard and sometimes painstakingly hard. But it’s removing the… if this works or it might It’s like … I’m all in going pro at this. It’s what I really want and I’m giving it 110% effort. I will succeed or I will die trying. -Success is inevitable if you refuse to quit. Most people fail because they stop. If you keep going, you win by default. -It’s supposed to be hard—difficulty filters out those who can’t handle it. If it were easy, everyone would do it. The challenge is what makes success valuable. -The only way to fail is to stop. As long as you’re moving forward, you haven’t lost. Keep adapting until you figure it out. -Skills and results compound over time—most people quit before they see the returns. The people who succeed are the ones who endure long enough for compounding to take effect. -Suffering is the price of greatness. You can either endure the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. One leads to success; the other leads to failure. -Successful people do the work even when they don’t feel like it. Motivation is fleeting. Discipline and consistency win. -Your mindset determines your outcome. If you truly believe you’ll succeed no matter what, your actions will reflect that belief, and success becomes inevitable. -Obsession beats talent every time. The most successful people are those who refuse to stop, not -There’s always a way—your job is to find it. If one path doesn’t work, try another. Resourcefulness is more important than resources. -The greatest competitive advantage is enduring longer than everyone else. Most people give up when it gets tough. If you don’t, you’ll be the last one standing—and that’s who wins. CHEERS to charging towards your goals with this succeed or die trying mindset!
Most of us feel like we simply don’t have enough hours in the day to do all the things. To do the things we WANT to do and also the things we HAVE to do. Today we are talking through overall strategies we can use to make the most out of our days… and also very specific examples of ways you can do things more efficiently so that you simply have more time. If we can eliminate decision fatigue, schedule specific times for tasks, do things faster, do things ahead of time, eliminate things that don’t need to be done and batch work similar items together - we will wind up with the extra time we’ve been looking for! Let’s dive into all the ideas and find the extra time you need! Let’s go! One question that people ask me often is… how do you get so much done? And it makes me so happy because I work at it constantly and I love talking about it. So let’s do it. Best tactical way to see where you are spending unnecessary time - for one week- keep a log of what you do every 30 mins. Can be just a few words- but you’ll find out real fast where the lag is! -Only touch things once -Be ready for the day - clothes laid out, morning routine set (keep a list yesterday) -Have a wind down routine and stick to it -Have a plan for the day ready when you wake up. -It’s easier to avoid distractions and stick to the plan. -If something takes 2 minutes or less, do it right away, don’t add it to a list. -Batch similar items together. Answer your emails all at once. -Have a system that you use to run your days. -Limit decision fatigue with things like meals and getting dressed. -Create a “home” for everything in your home. So much time is lost finding things. -Automate anything that can be like bills, etc. -Unsubscribe from emails you don’t need. -Turn off notifications you don’t need. -Work on sprints for high focus. 25 mins on, 5 mins off. Pomodoro technique. Set a timer. -Outsource or delegate- virtual assistant, babysitter time, grocery delivery. And more specifically… -On emails -On laundry -On groceries -On getting ready in the morning -On prepping for your morning- know what you will wear and eat. -On household clutter - set a timer for 10 mins a day to declutter- then big piles never come up. -On replying to texts and emails- use voice to text and do them twice a day. -Set-up tomorrow the night before! Setup priorities so you have a clear direction when you wake up and other people don’t decide for you how your day will go. Episode 259 is a very specific one on how to save time by not running errands. We live in the greatest time ever to be alive and there are just so many opportunities and so many ways we can be distracted and wander around or we can be hyper focused and productive. Let’s work to find that hour a day then fill it with things that make us feel so fulfilled and awesome!
There is this incredible freedom that comes when you simply cannot be offended. You have more inner peace, stronger relationships and just more joy in your days. In order to never be offended by something someone says, I think we need to first put them in one of two buckets, then unpack from there. They are either in your inner circle or not in your inner circle. If they are - then you love them unconditionally and you know they aren’t perfect, just like all of us, and we have bad days or bad moments or less than ideal reactions. Or we let our own issues come out and onto someone else. You know the bond you have and the person they are at, at their core, and you aren’t going to catastrophise it. And if they aren’t in your inner circle - it’s not worth your energy. There’s no reason to put weight on whatever it is when they aren’t your do-anything-for-crew. And here’s the main thing - we know that 90% of judgment or criticism or rude comments comes from peoples own thoughts about themselves… not actually about us. And it’s through the lens they see the world through. It’s about getting to a point when your own opinion of yourself weights more heavily than anyone else. It’s this deep confidence and ability to reframe the situation that is key. I think it is totally a super power if you can get to where you simply aren’t offended… and that’s why we’re podcasting about it today!
This podcast episode is a full education on how habits work and what experts say about the importance of planning and consistency and how to set yourself up to do the tiny daily things that support your big goals. This is a walk through of the 2.0 Habits System that I created- so if you are already a part of our community - you’ll love learning more about how to really make the system work best for your life. If you’ve thought about organizing your days this way or you just want to learn strategies about being intentional about how you spend your time- you’ll love this episode. The 2.0 Method works over a long period of time because it includes the most important principles of behavior change.
It takes what you already want to do and helps you create a system to do it and feel successful at it.
We know that in 20 years we’d give anything to be this age again and this healthy and have this time.
There’s no more waiting to train for a marathon, start writing a book, lift weights- whatever it is. There’s no perfect time to start anything - the perfect time is always today.
Let’s talk through the science behind what we do and use that knowledge to create the perfect plan for you.
A lot of this is being 100% truthful with yourself.
It’s about pushing through when it’s hard and knowing its supposed to be hard - that means you’re on the right track. You’re going to get judgment as you change - even by people who love you - because it’s a reflection of what they are doing or not doing. For more info on the 2.0 System or to join the community- visit this site: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse Most of us feel like we just don't have enough time each day and each week. We know what we want to accomplish but we just don't know how to get there. Or we have this story of why we don't have the time or resources to get there. When in reality, these are often hurdles that we've created that don't actually exist. Every Sunday, you will fill out your Awesome Week book for the upcoming week. You take our priorities and goals (from the Deep Dive sheets) and simplify them into daily habits that you do consistently. By planning out your weeks this way, you have a proactive approach, rather than a reactive one (like most people do). You aren't basing your days on the emails or text messages that you get, but being very clear about how you want to spend your time. Then during the week, you just have to follow the plan. Less distractions, less scrolling, less wasting time and procrastinating. It's fulfilling in the short term on the daily, and even more-so in the long term. We know it’s a hundred tiny actions that make big things happen. (not one silver bullet) By focusing on the daily habits that move you forward, you stay focused (not distracted) and you feel fulfillment knowing that you are making progress each day.
You make a strong plan on Sunday then throughout the week, all you have to do is execute. You’ve mapped out what actions you want to take to feel how you want to feel and be the person you want to be.
Stick to the plan and you’re on your way to the best version of you, what we call 2.0.
To me Valentine’s is so much more impactful when it feels like a season of extra love, rather than a mandatory date night on a certain day. At the entrance to our wedding in 2009, when I was 27 years old, I hand rhinestoned letters to go over the arch walking into our reception in Mexico that said CELEBRATE LOVE because that’s literally my life mantra. Love is what we all want to feel and experience and it’s one of the greatest life gifts. This podcast episode is all about ways to use this time to really have fun with your people - show them how much you love them and create special memories and traditions together. I have 45 creative ideas to share in this episode. A little bit of everything for every season and bucket of your life. Ideas for… Date Nights! do something that you would have done at the start of your relationship movie & dinner in on the couch each make a dessert each make each others fav thing that you make play a couples game with questions (might need wine to make this not cheesy!) School Class Parties! “what I love about you” for each child - a book or on the wall scavenger hunt Valentine’s Bingo frame with picture of child that they decorate and give to parents as a gift decorate your own bag or mailbox for Valentine’s Valentine’s obstacle course - like a fun relay with heart-themed challenges like carrying a candy heart on a spoon. Girlfriends Night! “board” party where everyone brings a board - chocolate board, taco board etc. cocktail tasting! Wine, champagne, tequila- always fun! sip & paint with a prompt like - what love means to me gift exchange - secret Santa style - set a budget and give love themed gifts Valentine’s Snacks! strawberry love boats – hollow out strawberries, fill with whipped cream and chocolate chips. Cupid’s Arrow Kabobs – Thread strawberries, marshmallows, and brownies onto skewers. Heart-Shaped Pizza – Let everyone make their own mini heart pizzas. Chocolate-Covered Pretzel Sticks – Dip in pink, red, or white chocolate and decorate with sprinkles. Love Bug Apples – Cut apples into heart shapes and use mini chocolate chips for eyes. Valentine’s Crafts! “Reasons I Love You” Jar – Fill a jar with tiny notes listing reasons you love someone. Thumbprint Heart Keychains – Use clay to create fingerprint heart keychains. DIY Love Coupons – Make personalized coupons for acts of kindness or fun activities. Heart Garland – String together paper or fabric hearts to decorate. Melted Crayon Heart Art – Melt old crayons into heart molds for colorful decorations. Fun Activities To Do At Home! Love-Themed Game Night – Play Valentine’s bingo, charades, or Pictionary with love-themed words. Family Valentine’s Bake-Off – Compete in making the best Valentine’s dessert. Candlelight Family Dinner – Dress up and have a fancy Valentine’s dinner together. “Secret Valentine” like secret Santa – Draw names and do a little gift exchange. DIY Valentine’s Photo Booth – Set up a backdrop and take silly or heartfelt family photos. Creative Gifts! photo book framed pictures basket of their favorite things themed basket - example: best sleep of your life, Chiefs fan, Starbucks basket etc. Ways To Make Kids Feel Extra Loved! Love Notes Countdown – In the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, place a heart-shaped note on their bedroom door each night with a reason why they’re special. Personalized Valentine’s Breakfast – Serve heart-shaped pancakes with their favorite toppings, and add a handwritten note or a small toy on their plate to start the day with love. Surprise “I Love You” Adventure – Plan a mystery outing tailored to what they love— example: a trip to their favorite park, a bookstore, or a DIY indoor fort with movies and snacks. Heartfelt Story Time – Write a short story starring them as the hero, highlighting their kindness, bravery, and love. Read it together and gift them a printed or illustrated version to keep. Valentine’s Mailbox – Set up a mini mailbox for each child and have family members leave notes, tiny treats, or hand-drawn pictures throughout the day. Ways To Make Your Lover Feel Extra Loved! A Love Trail – Leave little love notes, small gifts, or romantic clues around the house leading to a special surprise—maybe a candlelit dinner, a love letter, or a heartfelt video message. 52 Reasons I Love You Deck – Take a deck of playing cards and write a different reason you love them on each one. Bind them together into a “52 Reasons I Love You” flipbook. Memory Lane Date Night – Recreate your first date or a special moment in your relationship. Personalized Love Playlist – Curate a playlist of songs that tell your love story, include inside jokes, or remind you of special moments. Sneak it onto their phone and play it on Valentine’s! A Week of Thoughtful Surprises – Instead of celebrating just one day, spread out thoughtful surprises in the days leading up to Valentine’s Day—little love notes in their bag, their favorite coffee waiting for them, a midday love text, or a planned romantic evening. Cheers to CELEBRATING LOVE!!
This is one of those things that I wish I would have understood as clearly in my 20s and 30s as I do now in my 40s… but I guess that’s living and learning. It’s the understanding that the small things are what matters. The small things we do or don’t do everyday. It’s what Warren Buffet describes as the power of compounding interest. It’s building a little snow ball and rolling it down a very long hill. It’s slow then it’s fast. This is my problem with the whole - don’t sweat the small stuff thing. I appreciate not having anxiety and worrying about every little thing but at the same time - when you give yourself a pass on the habits that would add up to the person you want to be - things like - making the sales calls, lifting weights, eating healthy, taking your supplements, doing regular doctors visits, having the uncomfortable conversations, avoiding toxic things in the environment and toxic people… You miss the little things - that add up to the big things. We’re unpacking it today! You wake up one day with a chronic disease and you’re like when did this happen? It started 20 years ago. When did this happen? It happened today! It’s the TINY decision you decided to do or not do that didn’t seem like it mattered. It compounds - and it’s almost invisible. It’s slow then it’s fast. That’s why it’s so easy to overlook the small things. If you are competitive like me - know that most people overlook the small things - which gives you a competitive advantage if you obsess over the small things. This mindset change is everything. It’s realizing that small actions - hundreds of small actions stack up over time to create big change. Here are some examples across different areas of life: Personal Development * Reading for 10 minutes a day: Over a year, this adds up to about 12–15 books, enriching knowledge and perspectives. * Journaling one line of gratitude: Shifts mindset to focus on positivity and resilience. * Writing down one lesson learned: Helps build wisdom and awareness through reflection. * Practicing deep breathing for 2 minutes: Builds mindfulness and reduces stress, with lasting effects on mental clarity. Health and Wellness * Stretching for 5 minutes: Enhances flexibility and prevents injuries over time. * Taking the stairs: Improves cardiovascular health and builds strength in small ways. * Drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning: Boosts hydration and kickstarts metabolism. * Adding one vegetable to meals: Slowly shifts your diet toward more whole, nutritious foods. Relationships * Complimenting or appreciating one person daily: Strengthens connections and builds goodwill. * Spending 5 distraction-free minutes with loved ones: Deepens emotional bonds over time. * Sending a quick check-in text: Maintains friendships and relationships without requiring large time commitments. Professional Growth * Writing or brainstorming for 5 minutes: Over time, this can result in innovative ideas or improved skills. * Networking with one person weekly: Grows a professional network exponentially over time. * Learning one new word or skill daily: Adds up to 365 small improvements in a year. Financial Habits * Saving a small amount every day: Even $5 daily grows to $1,825 in a year, which can compound further with investments. * Tracking one expense daily: Builds financial awareness and helps identify patterns over time. * Skipping one impulse purchase: Redirecting that money toward savings or investments compounds into financial stability. Creativity * Doodling or sketching for 2 minutes: Enhances creativity and visual thinking skills. * Capturing one photo a day: Trains your eye to see beauty and inspiration in the mundane. * Writing 50 words daily: Adds up to a novel in a year! Remember it’s building a little snow ball and rolling it down a very longgggg hill!!
When someone asks you if you can attend an event or party or get together, what’s the first thing you do? You check if you’re free! If you’re available at that day and time. And then, if you are free, you’ll probably say yes. How could you say no, you aren’t busy then. This is where it happens! We feel like we owe it to them to go, because we aren’t busy. But we could end up spending that half a day doing something really fulfilling and invigorating, instead of going to the obligatory baby shower for our cousins friend. I think we often feel like there just isn’t enough time in a day, because we are giving too much of it away! This podcast episode is the best reminder of how precious your time is and the best strategies for deciding how you spend it. Let’s go! Here’s the deal with how you decide how to If you don’t want to go, don’t go. Alex Hormozi said- Just because you have free time, doesn’t mean that anyone who asks for it is entitled to it. If you see that you have an empty day, mis people assume if someone asks for that time, its theirs. Its only not theirs when someone else has claimed it Which means that your time only belongs to other people. And then you’re surprised that your investment of time has yielded nothing for you. You’ve given your most important asset - your time. Your calendar is the best way to tell where you are going to be in a year. You can see by what you are doing today, what your life will look like in a year. The life that you are living today is a result of the work you did 6-12 months ago. Just like people want an immediate reward, they see their current condition as a reflection of what you’re doing today. It’s not - it’s a reflection of what you did 6 months ago. It helps you make better decisions with your time now. Going to the gym is the best example! The change isn’t immediate. If you skip all of your workouts, you don’t see or feel it right away- but you do in 6 months. It also works the other way.
Here’s how it works. Every Sunday when you are planning out your week, you decide on what your four no’s will be. These are things that you just won’t do. It works so well because it’s not making this big list of things you have to do - like go to the gym for an hour a day, set aside time and a quiet space to meditate- while I love all things like that too- what we are talking about today is so much easier because it doesn’t require more time or energy. It just requires discipline and self control to not to the thing. Here are examples… Maybe you had the worst hangover last week - and it’s happened a lot lately and you’re over it - so one of your Nos would be… NO more than 2 drinks in a night. Other examples… No scrolling social media in bed No eating past 7pm No hitting the snooze button All things that make you better- make you feel better, more productive, healthier. I’m sharing my current four No’s and lots of examples to get you thinking about how you can set-up these rules in your life to help you get to exactly where you want to be. Without doing anything at all, you just have to set limits and say no to things. Why 4? 5 is too many and 3 is too few My current ones: No distracted communication No phone or social media or scrolling before bed or when I wake up No food past 7 No eating at the fridge Examples No raising my voice No fast food No negative self talk No negative talk about others No refined sugars or starches No checking emails constantly No skipping breakfast No clutter No processed foods No sitting for more than 2 hours at at a time No eating in the car No more than 2 cups of caffeine No multitasking No overcommitting Here is a link to my 2.0 Habits System that I talk about: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse Here’s how you figure out what yours are… Just ask yourself, what would make your days better? What would get you going to your goals faster? It works in all buckets of life. If you are distracted and not getting enough done, set limits there. Many of my current issues are around food and eating right now. But then those will regulate and they will be about other things. The key is - making a promise to yourself that you will stick to it. And every time you do, its like a vote for the person you want to be. It’s deep self confidence that nobody knows about, but you do. You become a person that does what you tell yourself you are going to do. It gives you strength in all areas of life. When we let our emotions dictate our actions - We have to be consistent to see change and this sets us up for that. Emotions are changing and inconsistent. So by setting up these nos - you creating consistency even when you’re emotions aren’t. Most people are going through life on auto pilot. If they are annoyed by something or feel a negative emotion or don’t feel 100%, they use it as an excuse to not stick to their standards. They make bad choices and don’t do things that align with their goals and priorities. Because it feels good now- but feel even worse later. Now I over drank AND I broke a promise to myself. Your emotions can’t determine your actions if you want to be extra ordinary. We know that for sure. Doing things this way, you choose what you know is right for you, regardless of how the day is going. It helps you do what you need to do, even when you don’t feel like it. I tell myself, this isn’t hard… I don’t have to actually DO anything. I can certainly just not do this thing. I’m all about FREEDOM and the crazy part is - freedom comes from discipline and structure. And it helps us raise our standards for ourselves. These NOs become our standards. And we keep these standards even when we’re tired or in a bad mood or whatever it is. Set standards that make you proud of yourself using this system and accept nothing less. As you move through the weeks, you’ll find that some of your 4 NOs become automatic and you replace them with 4 new Nos. Things you decide you will not do, because you have this high standard of yourself. You just won’t break the promise to yourself. And now you have this whole new set of standards that you have for yourself. CHEERS!! To designing your NOs to level up your standards and your life!
Here we go right into the biggest and most fun holidays of the year. But with that often comes stress, arguments, expectations not met, exhaustion… this podcast episode is to help with all of that! We are talking about some key things to think about ahead of time to have the most happiest holiday. Like… Don’t have set rigid expectations - and for things that are important to you, make sure the people that you love know it Don’t exhaust yourself to where you won’t be able to enjoy it Go into it with a state of mind that you are going to laugh through things that go wrong and not loose your cool Know that someone might say something triggering and you aren’t going to engage **Set yourself up to win - set expectations & be organized This is YOUR holiday too - not just the kids in the family or anyone else. It’s YOURS and today we’re going to lean into how we can make sure it’s positive and full-filling for YOU too. Thank you for listening! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!
I just learned these two BEST strategies for responding when Notice I said respond not react because we know the longer we can space out the action or comment and our reaction the more control we have. These two strategies will teach you HOW TO RESPOND when someone belittles you or says something disrespectful. And then best part is, you leave the situation having handled it with confidence and control - and you haven’t lowered your standards for yourself - like the other person likely did. These are skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!! I learned these 2 strategies from Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and an expert on communication. 1. Have them repeat it 2. Ask them if this is their intention with this
When someone is belittling to you or says something hurtful- make them repeat it. They are trying to get a reaction out of you. When you ask them to repeat it - they don’t get that reaction/ that response time. It takes the fire out of it and flips it on them. They don’t want to say it again - the spotlight is on them! THEN ask question of intent. Did you say that to hurt me? Puts a mirror on them. You don’t have to respond or react at all!!! It handles it!! You don’t have to figure out how to respond to something you dont want to respond to. Did you say that to offend me? Usually it’s no no no I didn’t mean to!! I’m just kidding - you don’t need to be so sensitive etc. You’re not going to believe how good this is!!! Two skills that you have to think about BEFORE you’re in the situation so when the situation happens, you’re ready!! Listen - some of these comments could come from good people with good intentions. But it doesn’t always translate this way. It’s your job to respond in a confident way without it rattling you or making you depressed. Because we know people opinions have so much more to do with them, than us. And know!!! Don’t lower your standard of yourself because someone else lowered their standard of themselves. Next time this happens to you, you’ll be ready to handle it in the most awesome way possible!
Today, we’re just going to jam on gratitude and perspective and how the way we frame things is the way we see them. I’m sharing what I think are the most valuable insights and thoughts I have in this season of life. Things I’ve learned from my reading a book a week every week and just being a student of life. Having conversations with all different types of people and perspectives and with different experiences. This is a fun one with lots of different ideas for you think about and maybe insert your life and routine. I loveeee reading a book a week I’ve replaced social media with reading/audio books Only on social during mellow movement - breaking the cycle of social media early morning and in evenings and in any free minutes. I have a plan and stick to it instead. I’m prioritizing stretching with weights for longevity I 100% believe that aging is mostly neglect not an avoidable part of life I’m going PRO at sleeping and bedtime routine - setting a plan and being strict with it And when something seems hard- becoming a PRO at it - starting something or solving something. Monotasking - do one thing until it’s totally done Using social media strategically and not passively Purge. Have less and know where it all is. Plus life is so much more calm. Spending money very intentionally. For me it’s mostly longevity and nutrition. I also like being put together and have nice things to wear but that’s way more Zara these days than designer. Have a set plan for the day before it gets going. If you don’t have a plan, your day will run you. Start in control and stick to the plan. Don’t let emotion stray you. Sending love to you and yours this holiday season and beyond!
Whether you have one kid or 5 kids or you don’t have kids but plan to one day… this podcast episode is filled with ideas for you to really connect with each child - starting at any age. Life is busy and the months go by quickly. I’ve learned just how important it is to slow down and be mindful of the relationship and connection that you have with each child and how it changes as they get older. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of ways to really connect and stay connected with your child. Ideas that will really get you thinking about how you can insert the best ideas for you, into your daily lives. I believe so much that an extra ordinary life comes largely from taking ordinary moments and making them extra ordinary and this episode is filled with so many ways to do just that with your babies. Lots of ideas… 1:1 time consistently Leave out something to do together (book or football etc) Do what they are interested in Ask questions that are open ended and curious Show your love in the way that resonates most with them Celebrate tiny wins- things you wouldn’t normally celebrate Learn a new skill together Share a hobby Create traditions with each child (ex: Sunday am pancakes) Work together on a charity project Frame pictures of them that represent special accomplishments or moments Projects that live on like a time capsule (digital or actual) Dream day together - make a list, look forward to it, do all of the things on the list Plan dream playdate together for their friends Plan their birthday parties together Start a small business, podcast or blog together Go on walks after dinner - low pressure environment Make a seasonal bucket list (summer bucket list to go zip lining etc) LAUGH! Plan vacations / adventures With each kid have a… TRADITION once a week or once a year SONG that is theirs/yours THING that is yours (star, magic, champion etc) OUTING to look forward to Things to avoid… Always solving everything for them Dividing your time with technology Be curious and not judgmental Allow them space to fully be who they are How we can use what we know about habits to make this all happen! Anchor to exiting (after brushing your teeth..) Start tiny - 2 minutes of something Focus on behavior, not outcomes Be flexible - helps you be consistent Change your physical space Just start- build on small wins - momentum Focus on doing, not perfection CHEERS to having the most awesome connections with your awesome kids!
Every year around my birthday I’m like, ok, what’s the secret unlock at this age? Like what have I learned and what I am doing that makes the biggest difference in my life? This year, that skill that I’ve unlocked in myself this ability to turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing. In a very practical and realistic way. So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen. And flipping it to- how could this become the best thing? I’m going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like this - it’s crazy how you can see the same situations completely differently. It’s saying to yourself, this sucks, and it’s not at all what I wanted. But, how could it actually be the best thing? You have to listen to this full episode - it’s 20 minutes or so that will change the way you react when things go sideways. Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up with you or you don’t get the promotion or don’t get into the college or high school that you wanted. You sprain your ankle and can’t workout for 3 months and it’s your favorite thing.. This is what we know for sure… Bad things happen. People dont know how to cope. And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more. THIS IS THE UNLOCK! Bad things suck. The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good things. One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what more bad things happen. Because really… things aren’t good or bad- they just are. It's becoming anti fragile as we go. People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff. Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things happening. People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just react. The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do, the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations. It’s a superpower, I’m telling you. The next time something in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best thing ever?
Today we’re talking about party cakes! And all the ways you can make them magical. From cakes you make yourself at home, to store or bakery bought cakes that you jazz up to custom made cakes, I have ideas for you for all of them! From simple to extravagant and ways to make the party cake so magical and perfect for the occasion. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas so next time you have a cake to plan, it’s the most special. We’re talking about the center of the party today… the cake! What’s our top priority? Taste, design, price. Get a Pinterest board going and a folder on your phone. If doing for someone else - show them inspiration and tell you which they like! Treats vs a big cake or a few cakes Ways to make your cake magical -Surprise inside cake - have bakery fill or you fill if baking -Custom topper - Etsy -Tons of toppers - Amazon + candy -Cake to match the theme A cake is a great “thank you for having us” gift! Or to bring to a party! My cake creators info: Brooke- bangpopshop@gmail.com My sign & cake topper creator: Anh- anh@bldahlia.com Custom cookie designer: Megan- cousincookie@yahoo.com Tag me on IG when you create magical cakes!! @LindsaysCloud XOX
It may sound obvious, but honest, like real saying what you think, I’m obsessed with being honest and direct because it does so much for you. If you need to tell someone how you really feel or cancel on some thing or decline an invitation, be honest. Be kind and considerate and compassionate and have empathy… all those things. But just be honest. Even if it stings for a second people will respect your honesty and It’s hard to be mad at the truth. Honesty is a superpower because it allows you to go to sleep without crumbs! You sleep well knowing you don’t have little stories to make sure you keep up with or the pressure of doing something that you really don’t want to do because you weren’t honest from the beginning. Oh my gosh how much less complicated things are when you are direct and honest. Rather than calling a friend or thinking about something for days- you know how you feel - be direct and honest and move on to the next. Most things aren’t actually as big of a deal as we make them out to be. You don’t have little white lies to keep track of, and you don’t hold on to the burden of things. Think about how much more effective it is to talk to someone directly about something that is bothering you rather than not talk to them and talk to other people who can’t do anything about it and it just makes the problem bigger and stirs up complication. Often times, when you go straight to the source and you are honest, you can clear up miscommunications really quickly. Being honest doesn’t mean just saying the first thing that comes to mind and bulldozing other peoples feelings. To me it’s completely the opposite. When I think about what’s the best solution or the best way to handle a situation, it’s simple. Just be honest. If someone asked me to invest in a company, and it’s not a good fit, I tell them that rather than making up an excuse, that’s not true Examples! At work! Direct approach: “Your report had a lot of valuable information, but the formatting and structure made it difficult to follow. We need it to be more organized to ensure clarity.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see how much effort you put into this report, and that’s really appreciated. I know making adjustments might feel like extra work, but a clearer structure will help showcase the quality of your insights even more.” With kids! Direct approach: “You can’t stay up past your bedtime. It’s not allowed.” With empathy and compassion: “I know you really want to stay up longer and finish your game, but you need rest to feel good tomorrow. Let’s set a time to finish it tomorrow after you’ve slept well.” Direct approach: “You didn’t clean your room, so you can’t go to the party.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see that cleaning your room wasn’t fun or easy, but it’s important to follow through on your responsibilities. Since you didn’t finish, you won’t be able to go to the party today, but we can plan something fun when you finish it later.” Direct approach: “You hit your brother, and that’s not acceptable.” With empathy and compassion: “I saw you hit your brother, and that’s not okay. I understand you were upset, but hurting others is not how we solve problems. Let’s talk about why you were angry, and we can figure out better ways to handle those feelings next time.” With spouse! Direct approach: “I don’t feel like you’re meeting my emotional needs.” With empathy and compassion: “Lately, I’ve been feeling like I need more emotional connection between us. I know we’ve both been busy, but I really miss the deeper conversations we used to have. Can we find some time to reconnect and share more with each other?” Direct approach: “You’re not doing your share of the housework.” With empathy and compassion: “I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with the housework lately, and it seems like I’ve been taking on more of the load. I know we both have busy schedules, but could we figure out a way to balance things better? It would really help me out.” With friends! Direct approach: “You’re always late, and it’s frustrating.” With empathy and compassion: “I really value our time together, but it’s been tough when you’re often late. I understand things come up, but it would mean a lot if we could make more of an effort to start on time. Is there something I can do to help?” CHEERS to being your most awesome direct and honest self!!
If you struggle with getting things done and being productive - I have one strategy, one change that will make you 10 times more productive. I love working with and studying high achievers and this one skill is something they all have. We’re going through how most people tackle tasks and make decisions and how high achievers do. And then, how you can start doing things this way right away. It’s one shift in how you do every thing, that changes the game. We are learning into the power of undivided attention, leading to more effective, efficient, and high-quality outcomes. Focus on one thing at a time - do it the very best you can, then move on. It’s mono-tasking at it’s finest. On the daily... * Improved Quality of Work: When you dedicate your full attention to a single project, you can dive deeper into the details and nuances. This focused effort often leads to higher-quality results. For instance, a writer working on a novel without distractions is more likely to produce a well-crafted manuscript compared to if they were juggling multiple writing projects. * Faster Completion Time: By concentrating on one task, you minimize the time lost to context-switching. For example, a software developer who focuses solely on debugging a specific piece of code can resolve issues faster than if they were constantly shifting between debugging and feature development. * Enhanced Problem-Solving: Monotasking allows you to immerse yourself fully in a problem, which often leads to more creative and effective solutions. Consider an architect working on a building design; uninterrupted focus enables them to explore innovative solutions and address potential issues more thoroughly. * Reduced Stress and Burnout: Handling multiple tasks simultaneously can be overwhelming and lead to stress. Monotasking reduces this strain by simplifying your workload. For instance, a project manager who tackles one project at a time can manage deadlines and expectations more effectively, reducing the risk of burnout. * Increased Mastery and Expertise: Focusing on a single project allows you to gain deeper expertise and mastery in that area. For example, a researcher concentrating on one scientific study can develop a more nuanced understanding and contribute more significant findings than if they were dividing their attention among several studies.
In the big picture, in the words of Alex Hormuz… * “The only way to achieve extraordinary results is to focus on one thing at a time and become obsessed with it.” * “Your ability to focus on one thing for an extended period of time is directly correlated with your success.”
“Success comes from the ability to concentrate your energy and efforts on a single goal until it’s achieved.”
In this episode, we are talking about having strategic reactions instead of emotional ones. All day every day we are faced with situations in which we have opinions and emotions. But that doesn’t mean we have to act on them. It may seem so foreign at first put overtime, it’s the most empowering thing, because your energy is not wasted, and you don’t have unnecessary headaches. Asking yourself two things - is this worth my energy and what is the end result I want? It takes training to not act on your emotions but it’s crazy powerful. You keep so much more of control of your life and the situations you are in. This episode will save you heartache, stress and will certainly get you more of what you want. Before you send the text or the email - sleep on it and decide in the morning. Emotions don't require actions! Thinking through- what happens AFTER this … is so helpful! What is the end result that I want? If you go nuclear on someone - We should think of the end goal in mind. I want them to not do that again. I don’t want them to retaliate. If you are trying to avoid retaliation, then it’s better not to throw the rock. Often times I just want to get the F out of the conversation. So how about just agree and move on. Examples: Someone says to you.. “You’re fit because you’re lucky. You have good genetics so it comes easy to you." You say, Ya, it’s nice. Maybe something triggers you politically. Maybe someone says something uncalled for or inappropriate. You should probably learn how to do ___ before trying it. Like what do you even know about it? You don't always have to set them straight or stand up for yourself. Control what you can control. THINK 2 steps ahead. Often times it’s honesty. Just tell the truth. It’s just so powerful for all stages of life. You have to separate you feeling something and you acting on something. You may feel angry at your co-worker but jabbing at them will only make your work life miserable. You have to resist things that might make you feel better in the moment. Create space and time! When you feel something and have the desire to act on it - since we want to make as logical of decisions as we can. If we make more logical decisions, we want to create space from when we feel and when we act. Just because you feel something doesn't mean to act on it. You’re most likely to regret decisions that you make immediately after something - your instant reaction. CHEERS to your super power of controlling your emotions and having strategic reactions!
Let’s explore how we can transform ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones by leaning into the elements that make moments memorable. I’ve been trying to do this in my own life - making long drives that would otherwise be sort of boring - fun in some way. And setting up a little family game or activity during the day while the kids are at school for us to all play after dinner. I’m on this quest to make more lasting memories and have more connections with my people. Not get too caught up in routine and distractions that we forget to celebrate little wins and create more peak moments each week. I just read the book The Power of Moments by Dan & Chip Heath and this could not have come at a better time. Today we are talking about how you can inject elements of surprise and excitement and newness into everyday tasks. By breaking away from routine, amplifying high points, and focusing on emotional impact, we can turn the mundane into the meaningful and forge lasting memories that enrich both personal and professional experiences. * Defining Moments: Moments that stand out in our lives are often characterized by their emotional intensity. They break from routine and are memorable. * Four Key Elements: To create powerful moments, focus on these elements: + Elevation: Moments that rise above the ordinary and create a sense of wonder or excitement. + Insight: Moments that lead to a profound realization or understanding. + Pride: Moments that highlight achievements and strengths, often marking milestones. + Connection: Moments that deepen relationships and foster a sense of belonging.
- Elevate Ordinary Experiences: Inject elements of surprise, excitement, or novelty into routine activities. This could mean adding unexpected touches, celebrating small wins, or introducing fun elements to everyday tasks.
- Break the Script: Deviate from the norm to create memorable experiences. By breaking away from routine and introducing something unique or unexpected, you can make an ordinary moment stand out. Break the script - this is doing something that defies the expectation in the moment.
To create more peaks! It can’t happen so often that it becomes the normal
- The Power of Small Moments: Even small, intentional actions can create meaningful moments, like personalized gestures or thoughtful acknowledgments.
- Celebrations: celebrating milestones can help create lasting positive memories and reinforce values.
- Designing Moments for Others: Think about how you can intentionally craft moments that will impact others positively, whether in personal relationships or in professional settings.
- The Role of Storytelling: Crafting moments often involves effective storytelling, whether in personal experiences or in shaping the culture of an organization.
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Leveraging Moments for Growth: Use impactful moments as opportunities for learning and growth, both personally and within organizations.
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Focus on Peaks: Identify and amplify the high points of an experience. Whether it's a significant achievement or a joyful event, emphasizing these peak moments helps make them more memorable.
- Create Moments of Pride: Highlight achievements and milestones to foster a sense of pride. Celebrating successes, no matter how small, can turn an ordinary occasion into a meaningful one.
- Foster Connection: Strengthen relationships by creating moments that deepen connections. This can be achieved through meaningful interactions, shared experiences, or personalized gestures.
- Use Rituals and Traditions: Establishing rituals or traditions can transform routine events into special moments. These practices provide structure and meaning, enhancing the significance of ordinary experiences.
- Design for Emotional Impact: Consider the emotional journey of the moment and aim to design experiences that resonate deeply. Whether it's through storytelling, thoughtful gestures, or creating a sense of awe, focusing on emotional impact can elevate ordinary moments.
How to plan for these moments!!
Calendar out your life and picture yourself doing the things! What would make it more special?
A birthday- a massive poster card or game to celebrate the bday person. When planning, don’t fall back on how you do things - for everything. Keep some things the same - the ones that work best - then find new ideas for the rest. ASK your people and listen!
By applying these strategies, you can transform everyday activities into memorable experiences that leave a lasting impression.
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The goal of this episode is to get you thinking about planning more newness in your life. New experiences and adventures. Because we know- If you don’t put stuff on your calendar that you really want to do - life will take over. Work will happen, chores will be there and before you know it, we’re running life in reactive mode. All of the other life stuff will fill in anyway. Today we are focusing on planning things ahead of time that feel exciting and that you can do with your favorite people on the planet. We’re going through lots of ideas and getting rid of any hurdles you might have in your way as we go. Let’s map it all out then all we have to do is follow the script.
Braindump things you’d love to do! See who wants to do it with you! figure out what’s stopping you and what are you believing that isnt actually true? Ideas of what to do! *Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing
*Visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience
Find a local path and plan a hike
*Go camping for the weekend at a local spot
Take a photography workshop class with friends
*Set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area
*Plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries
*Learn to kayak at a local river
*Road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit
*Plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch
*Plan a ride in a hot air balloon
*Get a group to go indoor rock climbing
*Book a rental cabin for the weekend
*Take the train on an adventure
*Run a non-profit project with a friend
*Learn a new skill
*Take a new class with family and friends.
I realized I wanted to have a few key things that I say to my kids all the time, that they will remember their whole lives. You know how special it is when someone says, oh growing up my mom always told me this… or my dad made sure I knew this… Parenting can be overwhelming and a lot just keeping up with the day-to-day. I sat down last week to write out the things that I’ve learned along the way that I think are the most important to help them be confident and strong and kind and grow up to be really awesome people. My goal in this podcast episode is to you give you lots of ideas of things to say to your kids over and over so it really sinks in. Here we go! 15 Awesome Messages To Say To Our Kids Constantly... 1 Make decisions and pursue passions based on what feels best to you. You define what success means to you. 2. Comparing yourself to other people will always steal your joy. 3 If you never speak unkindly of people, you never have to worry about it coming back to you. 4. The best way to make good decisions is to not put yourself in a bad situations. 5. Call me the second something goes sideways - I’ve got your back always. 6 Follow the rules and always be kind, but also live boldly and push limits. 7 Embrace all of your emotions and don’t label any as good or bad. 8 The more you fail, the more you are trying. Collect as many fails as you can and learn the lessons along the way. 9 Never say a word about your body that you wouldn’t say to your best friend about hers. 10 Give full effort to everything you do. 11 Family first, always take care of each other. 12 Don’t let little things that don’t matter in the big picture, get you too upset. 13 Make it your mission to be the one that helps someone who needs it. Sit by someone who is alone, volunteer and dedicate time to others. (The way to never feel entitled and see how most of the world lives) 14 You can become good at literally anything you want to be - you just have to be willing to work hard for it. Hard work, consistently can get you anywhere you want. 15 You are so incredibly loved 🤍🤍
Ok let’s do it - what’s a 34? It’s the percentage of people who are happy and feel fulfilled in their lives. Leaving 66% of people- unhappy and unfulfilled. I love putting a number to it because it’s the best push when you’re scared. When it’s hard to start something new and risk failing… When it’s hard to say no to an event you don’t want to go to but everyone else is going… We know that what most people are doing isn’t working because the majority of people aren’t happy. They don’t feel joy and fulfillment and progress in their lives on the daily and in the big picture. We know a life that makes us feel excited and inspired isn’t just going to happen to us - we have to work for it and plan for it and design it. Today, we’re making a plan for becoming a forever 34. Getting out of our own way and out of our head, and doing more of things we love and less of things we hate. We’re making a plan to be the happy minority today. HOW I BECAME A 34… I started designing my days with intention. Realizing that it wasn’t just going to happen, nobody was going to do it for me and nothing was going to change if my habits didn’t change. I needed an actual SYSTEM to help bridge the gap between the life I wanted and the life I was living. A way to get super clear on my goals and then design a life based on those priorities. I needed a way to organize the habits I knew I needed to be doing and a way to avoid distractions, celebrate small wins and focus on consistency. I tried calendar books, habits apps, charts, notes on mirrors, lol basically everything. There wasn’t an actual habits system that helps you get crazy clear on your priorities and set big goals, then charge towards them daily. So I created one. And it’s awesome. It’s called 2.0 and it’s this awesome gift box filled with deep dive sheets, calendar books (one for each week) and other fun supplies to get you going and keep you on track. It’s a clear path to becoming a 34🚀❤️ This link takes you directly to a layout of how it all works📝✨ https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse
Let’s talk about how to order healthy at any restaurant and what are the right questions to ask, to get a delish but also good for you meal. Now, up front I want to be clear that I am all about loving what you eat, and having the special experiences and endulging- for sure! But for the majority of the time - I think we all feel the best when we fuel our bodys with whole foods and limit sugars, refined carbs and seeds oils. I’m going to give you tips if you are an easy order-er when you’re out- and also if you’re like me and have no problems being the person with the complicated order - so many tips for you too. In fact, if there’s ever a viral video of someone with like their wildly complicated order, 5 different friends will send me the same video. I laugh too because it’s accurate but hey I’ve learned what makes me body feel crappy and what makes it feel great and if my order has a few turns to get there, it’s worth it. TIPS! Research where you’re going ahead of time - pick places with healthier options. As you get into doing this, call and ask the questions before you go- that way you can order easier when you get there. Tips for the… Easy order-er -focus on protein -sauce on the side -extra veggies instead of a starch -lettece wrapped instead of a bun Complicated order-er -Cook with olive oil or avocado oil -Drinks - no refined sugar- ask for what fresh fruits they have -Fish - wild caught -Chicken - organic -Beef - grass fed beef or steak For dessert - bowl of berries - anything on top on the side please See if you can get something from breakfast menu like greek yogurt and fruit with granola on the side. And if you’re at a place that isn’t an experience- bring your own glass container! No shame in bringing your own yummy food if they don’t have the right thing for you! CHEERS to loving the healthy foods you are ordering out!
Let’s plan your weekly workout schedule in a way that helps you to be your strongest and most functional self now, and also train for longevity and healthspan. The concepts I’m sharing today are from the book, Outlive, by Peter Attia. He takes this complicated topic- what forms of exercise are best for us… and makes it super clear. We are going through the 4 pillars and exact types of exercises you can do for them. I believe that there are so many ways to get to what you want in life- you have options so pick one that sounds fun. So giving you lots of choices and I’m also giving you exact examples of classes to take- if you want to use my favorite online platform - OBE fitness. Using Peter Attia’s 4 pillars as our guide to fitness will help us delay the onset of chronic disease, while also maintaining health span for as long as possible. Peter Attia outlines 4 different types of exercise: 1. Stability- the foundation of everything. It’s what allows you to pick-up 50 pounds off the floor without getting injured. It’s focusing on core strength (pilates), balance exercises (balance board or stability ball), functional movements (lunges and squats), progressive overload (challenging muscles through duration or resistance) and injury prevention (strengthen muscles around joints). 2. Strength- muscle mass and strength training. Lifting weights! A fall that will barely bruise you as a 30 year old can kill you as an 80 year old because you aren’t strong enough to survive it. 3. ZONE 2 cardio- aerobic efficiency - this is a steady state where you are cruising along at a sustainable pace. You should be able to maintain a conversation comfortably while exercising at this pace. 4. ZONE 5 cardio - VO2 MAX - an Aerobic peak, a short burst of energy like a HIIT workout. Attia says that all 4 pillars must be in your routine if you are exercising for longevity. Here are the types of classes to use on OBE for each type of exercise: 1. Stability- Sculpt 2. Strength- Strength & Power 3. Zone 2 Cardio- Low Impact HIIT & Dance Cardio 4. Zone 5 Cardio- HIIT & Boxing & Endurance As we age, we lose muscle mass and bone mineral density. Lifting weights prevents this which makes it an essential part of our longevity plan. Here is a link to Attia’s book: https://amzn.to/3SvaKYb And to Lindsay’s 2.0 Master Course: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses Cheers to moving in the best way now… to plan for a long and healthy life!
Today we are going through 20 things that I think we can all do- to become the super human version of ourselves.
Some are biohacking strategies, others are mindset and some are the way we move and what we eat.
They are all so good and backed by science done by actual experts on the topic.
I just did a re-read of 3 of my favorite books on longevity and health
Outlive, Lifespan & Superhuman and I’m bringing you what I think are the best habits we can all do, to feel great now and function the best as we age.
There is so much information to sort through when it comes to this topic, my goal in this episode is to clear the waters and give you a cheat sheet for the best ways to get closer to the super human version of you and feel awesome!
These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME!
They are the natural medicine for…stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life.
Treat the cause, not the symptom!
Click here to download and print your Super Human Cheat Sheet!
(Emily is putting it as a blog on the site - please add in that blog link)
Here are the Super Human Habits!
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Get Sunlight
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Lift Heavy Weights
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Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen
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Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep
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Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings)
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Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes
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Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility)
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Take A Cold Shower / Cold Plunge
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Take A Hot Bath / Sauna
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Protect Your Happy Headspace
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Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive
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Do Some Grounding / Feel The Earth
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No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed
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No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep
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Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze)
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Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative)
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10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key)
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Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile)
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Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success
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Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe)
Today we are making a plan to become tougher and less fragile. Because it puts us in the drivers seat. When we take full accountability for things and we resist the urge to fall into mindless scrolling or just going with whatever everyone else is doing, we’re planning for the long game. Taking lots of small risks and trying new things and pushing yourself and getting uncomfortable - it’s all conditioning you to be tough for life. So you are mentally and physically strong when you need to me. So when something hard is in front of you, you haven’t created this comfortable bubble that you live in that you just fall apart. I am on optimist to the extreme - so don’t take this as a negative - but just an honest observation - more and more people today are fragile and easily offended than ever before. That’s not the life we are working to create here - so let’s design our plan for being completely anti-fragile. How do we get tougher and less fragile? First, let’s unpack, where we are at and how we got here. Then, let’s make a plan to become anti-fragile. I’m finishing up the the book The Coddling Of The American Mind and it’s SO interesting.
The authors explore why people are mentally weaker than they used to be and more emotionally fragile. A few key points that the authors make… In the last 15 years the public has become more emotionally fragile and young people in particular are less tolerant of any discomfort that comes their way. They talk about a few explanations that they have data to support that explain this… 1. Rise in helicopter parenting The assumption that parents need to watch their kids and protect them at all costs. 2. Philosophy of safetyism The belief that anything that can cause pain or suffering is ultimately harmful in the long run and can even be tramatic. 3. Lack of play The past few generations of kids have been so overloaded with schoolwork and extracurricular activities trying to get into a good high school and college that they haven’t had time to be kids, and it turns out that most mental and emotional development happens when they are playing. 4. Social media Social comparison, fear of missing out, constant connectivity and validation seeing are always that social media makes us more emotionally fragile. JOE ROGAN says… The hardest thing that has ever happened to you is the hardest thing that has ever happened to you. It’s so easy to win right now because most people are special snowflakes. Responses from social media: Everyone expects things at their fingertips with the Internet. Over parenting… In the 90s we got sent outside all day. Kids never have to struggle or just figure it out. Parents are too connected to kids. We are overstimulated with technology. Higher stimulation and emotions means faster to break down. Think we have more awareness and options more than ever to cater to comfort. Overprotective parenting and limiting exposure to the “hard” in life. The media telling us that everything our parents did was wrong. Definitely the younger generation has a difficult time managing stress and pressure. Not as much adversity to face, we embrace differences more than different opinions. Computers and less social interactions. Everyone gets a trophy. Lack of downtime in children. Too much screen time. We know more dangers than our parents did. I blame the Internet. Lack of basics In kids. One thing we know for sure - we must be anti-fragile to thrive. So knowing all this, how do we become anti-fragile? Here’s the breakdown.. We need to do harder things! Embrace uncomfortable too! Book: Antifragile Author Nassim Taleb Thoughts from this book! * Do hard things because adversities make you grow * Go through life as a flaneur * Adopt an anti fragile life philosophy * Make a plan for yourself and then stick to it. * Build in redundancy and layers (no single point of failure) * Resist the urge to suppress randomness * Make sure that you have your soul in the game * Experiment and tinker — take lots of small risks * Avoid risks that, if lost, would wipe you out completely * Don’t get consumed by data * Keep your options open * Focus more on avoiding things that don’t work than trying to find out what does work * Respect the old — look for habits and rules that have been around for a long time
#1 tip! Put tough people in your ears!! You have to be willing to look wrong/do the thing everyone else isn’t in the short term to look like a genius in the long term.
As the old adage goes, when you do what everyone else does, don’t be surprised when you get the same results everyone else does.
Polls show that over half of people walking around are unhappy and I think it’s because they are stuck in mediocre. A mediocre job, what they would consider as a mediocre relationship, mediocre health, mediocre version of whatever success means to them. And likely they probably have a story why they are stuck in mediocre. But the real story is, you can get unstuck anytime. Now, of course, some of us were still dealt a more difficult card than others. So it’s going to take more work to get out of mediocre but it’s possible because people who have had it harder than us have done it so we can too. It comes down to being honest with yourself about how you feel about different buckets of your life, realizing and believing that you’re incomplete control of all of it, and then establishing daily habits that support the exceptional version of you, not the mediocre version. I’m very positive and optimistic about the world we live in but I also think it’s so easy to win right now because most people settle for mediocre. They simply aren’t willing to do the hard work, or they are stuck in habits and routines that support their mediocre life, or they accepted that they are not good at something without actually putting in the hours required to become good at it. We’ve got one shot on this planet and mediocre is not the plan. Here’s the trickiest part - when you are honest with yourself and assess what in your life is mediocre - it feels painful like you should have done something differently. But when you lose the ego behind it and take it with the approach of - well I can’t do anything about what’s happened before now but I can for sure take all the lessons learned and make the best decisions going forward. It’s not a fail on me - it’s forward focusing with a growth mindset. WHY do we sit in mediocre sometimes? Fear of failure Easier to stay in your comfort zone Lack of ambition Conforming to social norms Limiting beliefs Not willing to work hard Perceived lack of resources HOW do we get out of it? Get around a new crew/ have different influences Outwork your self doubt - Alex Hormozi Focus on learning and improvement always Have high standards for yourself Take massive action Learn from failures and embrace them Stop getting distracted and doing the wrong things Consistency and discipline! Set-up systems and processes so it all seems more do-able Have a clear vision of your long term goals and set-up habits to do each day that support those goals. We have to be willing to have discomfort now - and resist immediate satisfaction, for the long-term satisfaction that is so much sweeter!
I do quite a few podcast topics around living in the most positive headspace possible. This one takes it to the next level. I’m sharing specific action steps for completely deleting something negative from your life. I’ve been trying to get to this point for years and something happened recently that made me realize. I’m there. Quick story… another mom friend and I were working on a project for a group with our kids and another mom came in blazing with all this negativity and opinions and it was just ridiculous. My friend and I were the ones doing all the work and she came in hot and I had all these opinions about how we were doing it wrong and was offended. It didn’t involve her. The whole thing just made no sense. But it was jarring at the time because she sent emails and CCed other people, on and on . OK, so fast-forward to last week my friend and I are talking and the other mom who had tried to make our life miserable joined in and we all had a nice chat. Afterwards, my friend reminded me who she was and I was like oh my gosh, you know it’s so crazy. I had physically deleted that experience from my mind. I had no idea, that was the woman because it just didn’t exist anymore. A big part of this is focusing on what you can control. I can’t control her crazy so I deleted it. Today we’re going to go through exactly how to do that. Let’s define some terms - what are we deleting? Negativity, judgment, drama, anything that makes you feel crappy or bad about yourself or upset or stressed or insecure. We don’t need it. So we aren’t just going to try to ignore it, we are going to completely erase it from our headspace so it’s not taking up our precious bandwidth. ACTION STEPS -Realize what it is -Take the fire out of it -Focus on what you can control -Journal am and pm to clear your mind -Think of something SO important to you and realize that time you spend thinking/talking/stressing about the thing- is time away from that something important. Like bike riding or playing with your toddler or calling your mom. -Control your thoughts -Control your words- if you don’t let it grow, it can’t get bigger! -Don’t respond to crazy! Tell yourself - I don't negotiate with terrorists!!! I’m telling you, the clarity you will feel from not carrying around all this weight that isn’t needed is crazy!!! Focus on what you can control - let go of the rest. When you think about protecting your happy headspace at all costs - when thats an actual priority of yours, all of this gets easier. CHEERS to hitting the DELETE button on anything that doesn’t bring you JOY!
I am recording this on our 15 year wedding anniversary! On this day 15 years ago Craig and I got married in Cabo, and we started dating 5 years before that. So 20 years in, what have we learned… what have we done awesome and where did we struggle… I’m sharing a bit of our journey and what we know now that been awesome to know from the start.
I hesitate on doing podcast episodes on marriage and also raising kids because it’s all so evolving and just when you think you have part of it totally figured out, there’s a curve ball.
But, I do have some awesome take-aways that I think will be valuable for anyone in a relationship or looking to be, plus some funny (and painful) stories about how we got here.
This is how you don’t wake up one day with a marriage where you don’t communicate or connect. This is how you don’t wake up one day unable to easily walk up a flight of stairs.. It’s called course correcting and I think it’s the answer to how we focus on little things daily to support the big things that matter most to us. It’s adjusting as we go. Not letting things spiral until we hit rock bottom then need an extreme plan to get back on track. It’s being present and noticing things when they are off - in all buckets of your life. Health, finances, relationships… all of it. This is your plan for course correcting and compounding small habits that gradually lead the life you want. It’s our daily plan actually for designing a life that you love. The 1 in 60 rule! If a pilot takes off headed to their destination and they are just one degree off course, every 60 miles you fly with that error moves you one full mile off course. So you can see that even a slight variance from accuracy can create a real issue. This is all about small decisions that you make everyday. You don’t just wake-up one day with a bad marriage or a disconnected relationship with your child, it compounds over time. And on the flip, you don’t just wake up one day feeling like your healthiest and strongest self. It all compounds over time. But the best news is - this makes it feel manageable. It’s constant focus and attention everyday. It’s knowing your goals and priorities. In my Ultimate Master Course and also in the 2.0 Habits System, I focus SO much on figuring out what you love and don’t love because I think most people just don’t ask themselves the questions! Here’s that link if you’re interested: Course- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse 2.0 Habits System & Weekly Books- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/the-ultimate-mindset-master-course-1 I created a system to focus on daily habits because after reading every possible habits books and really studying the topic at a deep level, I realized that we just need to set ourselves up to do the daily things. To do the things that bring us closer to our goals or the person that we want to be and NOT do the things that take us further away from it.
This episode is all about sneaky procrastination! Because I think all of us in some ways trick ourselves into thinking we are doing the thing- that thing you want to do or need to do - the hard thing that will bring you growth in the way you want - whatever that thing is for you right now. And instead of actually doing the thing - we do a whole host of things like - make lists, we say we are planning, we talk about it, we do endless research on it OR we avoid it completely and go refold drawers or something. I am going to read you the best short article I’ve read on the topic and we’re going to unpack it so you can apply it to your life in real time. Why do we let ourselves get distracted or procrastinate when something feels hard or uncomfortable? What are we doing to trick ourselves to think we are working on it when actually we just aren’t doing the thing? I read this article by Strangest Loop called things that aren't doing the thing Here it is: Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing.
Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing.
Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing.
Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing.
Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing.
The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.
------------------- You can dress it up however you want But the work just needs doing Ultimately - it’s hitting play and recording the podcast or starting the blog or lifting the weight or making the first healthy meal. We are motivated by the avoidance of discomfort. Figure out - what is the discomfort? Often times, have no idea what the discomfort is - we are just avoiding it. If you have a hard email to write, you might refold and entire set of drawers to avoid doing the thing. Or if you get to a hard point in writing a book - when it gets hard - we reach for our phone for distraction. WHY Because we are avoiding the discomfort. Ask- WHY am I avoiding this? Maybe you need more research. Don’t keep banging your head. When you become aware of the discomfort - you make a plan to attack it. I’ve heard Steven Bartlette say it in this way… What is the psychological discomfort I am avoiding right now? Write down - what is the THING. Unpack it. WHY it’s important to force yourself to do the actual thing… because it’s the only thing that matters in becoming the person you want to be or reaching the goal you want to achieve. Thank you for listening! Have an awesome day!
This concept is so freeing… ready? It’s good to feel sad, angry, stressed… because it’s part of being human. Those emotions that we tend to label as negative emotions and judge ourselves for feeling are not the problem. The actual problem is the label, not the emotion itself. And here’s the best part, the way you get through those emotions- the sadness or the stress is by not trying to feel the opposite but by simply not labeling these emotions as good or bad. When we label our emotions, if often makes those emotions bigger. If you feel jealous and you feel badly about feeling jealous, it gets bigger. If we shift to this new emotional awareness and acceptance for our feelings, we recognize that all emotions serve a purpose. By having the non-judgements attitude toward emotions, we move through emotions faster and solve problems more efficiently. It makes us more emotionally resilient and have healthier coping strategies, which is so much more awesome than running yourself down about how you feel. Let’s unpack it! Here are the things we go through… -Your actions matter more than your feelings. We think that we need to feel a certain way to be that type of person. BUT that’s where we get it twisted. It’s the actions you take. If you want to be honest -For a lot of these character traits we think that we need to feel a certain way, but it’s the actions you choose despite how you feel. -We think that we need to feel a certain way to be a patient or honest person. But it’s the actions you take, regardless of these feelings. -By labeling emotions, they get bigger. -Emotional awareness and acceptance makes you recognize that they all serve a purpose. -What is the lesson with this emotion? Have curiosity and compassion -This is so essential for navigating the challenges in life. To have resilience and self-awareness is key. 1. -Emotions are neither good nor bad; they're simply messengers. It's our interpretation and response to them that shapes our experience. 2. -Instead of labeling emotions as positive or negative, view them as signals guiding you towards areas that need attention or growth. -Every emotion serves a purpose; it's about understanding what that purpose is and how you can use it to your advantage.” 3. -Don't judge your emotions; acknowledge them. They're a reflection of your inner state and can provide valuable insights into your thoughts and behaviors.” 4. -Embrace the full spectrum of your emotions. By accepting them without judgment, you empower yourself to navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and clarity. 5. -Your emotions are like the weather—they come and go. Rather than trying to control them, focus on cultivating a mindset that allows you to adapt and thrive in any emotional climate. CHEERS to allowing yourself to FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS without judgment so you can navigate life in the most awesome way possible.
I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days. I’m really interested in this. Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days? And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren’t setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated. Either way, we need to solve it because we can’t complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it. In this episode, let’s figure out what’s up. Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now? The awesome news - I’m sharing strategies for tackling both. Let’s get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully. First, let’s figure out why you’re tired. 1. Actually tired Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule. 2. Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should. 3. In this lazy habit pattern Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.
Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It’s taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I’m sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied. I’m giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated. Because this is what I know… most people aren’t eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to healthier but it’s hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals. So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in. And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that’s what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it’s not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best. Let’s go! Here is your grocery list Grassfed ground beef or steaks Organic ground chicken or turkey Organic pasture raised eggs 1 organic butter lettuce 1 organic head of iceberg lettuce 1 organic rotisserie chicken Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers Avocados (1 per day) Berries 2 large organic greek yogurts Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable Siete toritilla chips Grain free tortillas Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible Organic dark chocolate Raw honey Bananas & peanut butter And to cook it in… Avocado oil Coconut oil Olive oil How to make the money go the furthest! Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein A chicken breast as about 40g of protein One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals. I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you’re nice and full and happy! Other options based on preferences! Halibut or salmon -always wild caught Canned tuna or chicken Flax seeds and chia seeds *Protein powders! Take this list with you to the grocery store! XO Lindsay
I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today. Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we’re going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer. Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories. Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog. Thanks for listening!!
You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you? With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing. You take control back of your life and your choices when you’re making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you. You’ll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won’t have the opportunities that we have today, we just won’t. Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it. And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren’t your people. Thank you for saving me the time. And also thank you for making it clear where we’re at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me. This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done. Today I’m giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you. A few notes from this episode… -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did. -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure. -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public. They take the long failure rather than the short one. -We aren’t afraid of failing! We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren’t doing anything, oh that’s right, they’re not. -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn’t care. -If you’re insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it. -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose. There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position. -They won’t think of you at all if you aren’t doing anything and don't you want to be thought of? -You’re going to be 90. And it’s going to be too late to do anything. -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self. If you’ve spent time with old people, they don’t give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need. -You know how you get good? You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment. Like one tiny thing. Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don’t because nobody else is and people might think you are weird. But doing things that other people aren’t doing - usually means it’s actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy. -So not doing it because other people aren’t isn’t the right plan!! -Here’s the hacks!! 1.ONE. TINY. THING. And then you see that you don’t die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted. Or wearing something different than everyone else because it’s comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it’s just fine. You build momentum!! 2. You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often. Journal it, calendar it, write it down. The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there. -Here’s another thing - call out your fails. Now what can they say. -AGREE when someone says something you didn’t do right. Takes the fire out of it. -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!? -Their response to you just doesn’t involve you honestly. It’s their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn’t have to affect yours. -What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t actually die of embarrassment it’s actually ok. We move on. -And I’ve really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing. Ya, that thing totally flopped. But it’s cool I know so much more now and I’m so pumped on my next adventure. We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY! A few other tips! 1. -Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions. 2. -Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence. 3. -Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments. 4. -Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs. 5. -Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs. 6. -Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality. 7. -Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others. 8. -Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. 9. -Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment.
This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.
You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it’s empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible. Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that. This isn’t just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible. It’s that but it’s also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age. How to feel sharp and healthy. I don’t think it’s even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease. It’s set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first. I’m all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it’s not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn’t a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures. Today we’re looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families. This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine. For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people. In Tony Robbins new book… Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future. He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors. How you eat How active you are How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health. Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress. Good health is the foundation of quality of life. As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one. It’s a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make. You must become the CEO of your health. That’s how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life. A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey. We’ve learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what’s best for you. By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family.
Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X
By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal? A massive goal that feels impossible. Doing more of what you’re currently doing will get you to 2x. 10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions. To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself… What do you truly want, more than anything else? What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have? What would you be and do if you weren’t afraid of what others thought or the repercussions? -Let’s focus on wants vs needs When you live life based on need, you’re stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you’re driven and controlled by outside forces. You’re competing for scarce resources. When you live life based on want, rather than need, you’re playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen. In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting. -Focusing on FREEDOM! Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free. To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most. Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need. But what you truly- at your core-want. Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free. Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don’t want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation. Llet’s think about what you are doing now… Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that... * Where did you get that idea? * Is it from your parents? * Is it from social media? * Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted?
OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? It takes work to unlearn what we’ve been taught and put ear plugs in so we don’t hear the judgment or the opinions of others. It’s our job to make sure we are running our own race. We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there. -Once you have it down, what next… Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around. When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan. So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen. To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click here. Have an awesome day!
I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things. Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler. It’s part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume. He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences. Here’s how it works. You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year. One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend. The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning. Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn’t have otherwise) in the next 4 years. It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.) We’re planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today. Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures. Lots of ideas… Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure! Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!!
The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day. I’ve learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn’t even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours. All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan. Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day. So even if you’re tired or you’ve run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don’t have to get up the energy because you aren’t making the decision, you’re just following the plan that you designed. It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits. We are revamping bedtime. From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x:
The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling.
For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day.
These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had.
Then after you’ve framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow.
Other tips:
-Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down.
-Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable. -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don’t go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep. -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don’t vary it too much or you’ll experience “jetlag." -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book. CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!!
Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I’m a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions. Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing. Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on. My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi. He says “You don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt.” I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat. Your self confidence isn’t based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it’s more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say. When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You’re less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You’re more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down. It’s a superpower and we’re talking about how to tackle it! Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others. -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness. -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly. -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced. -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change. -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions. How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally. -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself. -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities. What it feels like to have deep self confidence: -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It’s this deep feeling of trusting yourself. -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities. -You’re optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you’re able to believe in a bright future. -You’re fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. -You’re authentic because you’re running your own race. -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don’t make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority. -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you’ve been on and the one you are on right now. -You’re inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way. How to make progress on the daily: -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don’t talk yourself out of it. -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals. -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success. CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence!
I don't know what’s going on lately but I feel like I’ve been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I’ve had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode. Let’s define some terms. By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It’s different than an argument because it’s like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you. Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here’s the thing, most of the time, it’s just not worth it. So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging? We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently. We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you’re ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally. When this happens, here are your options… 1. IGNORE Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person. 2. AGREE - it ends it!! When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying. When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And move on. 3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it’s really worth it! Only if it’s someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it’s not worth it. Alex Hormozi says "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.” I tell myself… I don’t negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn’t affect you for more than a few minutes. It’s almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation. You can’t negotiate with crazy so don’t try- there’s no point! It’s awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!! Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it. Have an awesome day!!
The goal of this episode is to give you lots of ideas of habits that you can add into your daily life that make you feel awesome. I am super passionate about doing things with intention. Not just going through the motions and routine of life but really being open to trying new things and being willing to change things up when you’re in a funk. I am equally passionate about designing your days so you love them. Not only looking forward to the weekend or the vacation out of town, but designing a life that feels exciting to you. And the best way to do it is not with one big event, it’s with lots of tiny habits that you do everyday that add up to fulfilling days, weeks and months. Let’s get to allll of the ideas of daily habits to feel your best. One of the coolest things about social media is that I think you can really good ideas by seeing what other people do and what their days are like. Make a list of your 10s! Then plan to get them in! Replies from IG… -Daily workouts -Eye patches every morning -Meditation/prayer/journaling -Intermittent fasting -Acupuncture every week -Audiobooks in the car -Using planner to stay organized -Yoga in the morning -Skincare routine -Quite time -Time to read -Morning coffee time -Sunless tanning -Massage My ideas… -Grounding - put your feet in the ground -Have a really delicious last bite of food for the day -Have a crazy comfortable bed that you can’t wait to get into -Massage/facial/mani/pedi -Having a set bedtime and wake time -Sauna can be so relaxing -Have a 0 to 100 plan and a 100 to 0 plan -Connecting with someone in your inner circle every single day -Have a done tasking time - day is done- whatever carries over has to happen tomorrow -Long hot shower with a podcast or YouTube video -Hair care routine By really thinking about the habits that really make us feel great, we make them a priority. Then we are more intentional about how we spend our time and we get so many more of them in each day. CHEERS to adding in habits that make you feel your best! And you’re on your way to designing your awesome life!
Take a quick pause on what you’re doing right now to fully think about this question… what conversation should you have that you haven’t had yet? What difficult conversation have you been avoiding? What should you tell someone that feels so hard but would relieve pressure or stress by doing it? Often times we sacrifice what we really want OR we assume someone feels a certain way about something OR we don’t want to have to deal with a conflict or disappointing or upsetting someone… so we don’t have it. Sometimes for weeks or months and sometimes for yearssss. It becomes normal not to actually have the hard conversation that would make something better. Today is the wake up day on this - we are unpacking hard conversations. We’re pulling wisdom from lots of people who have studied this topic today. Starting with business strategist, Alex Hermozi. He said, “the life you want is in the other side of a few hard conversation and you’re living a life you hate because you’re too afraid to have them.” He says… Whenever I feel anxious or insecure or sad Im like- What conversation do I need to have that im not having? Usually if you think for not that long You’ll know - this is the conversation ive been putting off. And then, just have it. The time between when you know you need to have it and the time when you actually have it gets shorter and shorter. You dread it but after you do it - you’re like how many more of these can I have?! It’s like the freedom of it makes you crave more. WHY have these talks? 1. Your stress can literally kill you. It’s not worth carrying this with you. 2. You will be 90 one day. We can’t numb life and avoid these things. The regret at 90 would be worse than the pain of having it now. It might be horrible during. But when you think about being 90 years old - you have the courage. And whatever their reaction is - it’s like - I’m doing what I need to do and what I will regret least. For relationships - sometimes things just keep going the way they’ve been and maybe you need to uncover something that happened that affects the entire relationship. Often times you dread it - but maybe you were both assuming things - and it wasn’t accurate. Your only regret will be not doing it sooner. The pain of having these conversation is nothing compared to the gain that you get afterwards. You need something to give you the springboard to do it - for me it’s the thinking of being 90 - and not having the same oppotunries that I do now. And we do not want regret at age 90. So let’s have those really hard conversations now. Examples: You don't quit the job because you love who you work for - but no growth is there. You’re deeply hurt by what a family member did but you just sit with it and let it grow. You don’t talk to a friend because another friend had a dispute with them - so you’ve been loyal but it doesn’t make sense anymore and you want that friend back. Your husband is consistently inconsiderate in a certain way and you just accept that that is how he is - but maybe you need to have the hard conversation! Maybe you have a bad friend that you need to break up with? You have these rapid periods of growth that happen because once you do it - you have courage to do the next one. Maybe you break up with someone that you know you need to. It SUCKS during and after but when you expand the time horizon, you’re like man I feel F-ing fantastic!! Who else do I need to talk to? I hope this episode makes you really ask the question - what conversation do I need to have that I’m not having? CHEERS to embracing the uncomfortable and having the hard conversation as soon as possible!
In this episode, Lindsay shares the story of her father’s battle with cancer and the heartbreak from all of it. She’s sharing lessons learned and gems of information that she thinks will be helpful as we all go through life together. Even though the topic is very heavy, Lindsay wanted to make sure that listening to this doesn’t make you sad, but rather think about who is really important to you and make sure you are spending enough time with them… and her new life mantra… If you have a chance take it If you have a dream chase it About really LIVING each day/month/year FULLY Also… Have the uncomfortable conversations. Be crazy proactive about your health - listen to your body and go in on the first day that you don't feel right. Be open to alternative treatment options. Spend time with people that you love and be very intentional about who that is. You have to pick- not go with what you should do or have always done. Thank you for listening and for being a part of this community. Sharing this very personal story is important and special to Lindsay and we are grateful for the lessons that come with it. Email Lindsay if you want to chat - Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com.
Let’s talk about failing. I’ve come to embrace failure in a way that I wish I did in years past. Because here’s the thing.. if you’re failing here and there as you go, it means you’re out there doing stuff and trying new things and learning along the way.
If you tend to beat yourself when something does work… or you are super self conscious about it and worry what other people will think or say… or you stop trying the thing you were working towards- lean in here because I used to do all that and it’s so much better on the other side.
I think the very first thing we do is own it and make it known. It’s the only way to not keep thinking about it or worrying if people will realize. Listen, people are more concerned about what they’re doing anyway- take full ownership of it, say it out loud and move on! It’s not who are you - it doesn’t mean you should stop- because now you have that lesson that you didn’t before.
We are talking about so many healthy strategies when it comes to failing today like - learning fast from it and flip the script- it’s not a setback - it’s a set-up for a comeback! Know that your attitude about it is actually everything and how to position gratitude into this whole thing. We’re talking all things failing and getting back up today.
Own It & Face The Reality
Don't blame others or the universe. Own your failures like they're your favorite success story waiting to happen. Failures happen. Own it, acknowledge it and figure out the lesson.
No Excuses Winners don’t need excuses. That’s it- we own it, even if it could be partially on someone else too.
Learn Fast
Failures can be the universe's way of telling you to level up. Learn from them at the speed of light. Extract the lessons, embrace the suck, and move on.
Flip the Script
It's not a setback; it's a set-up for a comeback. Use it as fuel for the fire burning inside you. Adjust the Strategy, Not the Goal: Your goal is non-negotiable, but your strategy might need an overhaul. Be flexible in your approach, but relentless in your pursuit of the goal. Fail Forward: Failure is not falling down; it's staying down. Use each failure as a stepping stone to a higher level of success. Reinvest Your Pain: The pain of failure is an investment. Reinvest it into your next move. Let it fuel your determination to come back stronger.
Have Patience
Zoom out and have patience with your journey, but when it comes to fixing your failures, move fast.
Embrace the Hustle:
If you're not failing, you're not hustling hard enough. Embrace the hustle, embrace the grind. Failures are just stepping stones on the path to achieving your goal.
Double Down on Strengths:
Your failures might be highlighting your weaknesses, but double down on your strengths. That's where the magic happens. Focus on what you're great at and watch the game change. Get help for what you’re not great at.
Crush It Next Time
Failure is not the end- it's the setup for the next big win. Crush it next time. Use the pain of failure as momentum for a big comeback.
Gratitude Over Grief!
"Instead of grieving your failures, be grateful for the lessons they bring. Failure is a gift if you unwrap it with the right mindset."
Attitude is Everything!!
Your attitude will define your success. It’s everything when it comes to this!! If you can shift the way you think and react to your failures, they can actually be some of your greatest gifts! Embrace your fails - it might just be what makes you actually soar!!
First - why make fast decisions? Because a decision that you need to make that is pending takes up your time and attention. That problem you need to solve or that conversation you need to have or that project you keep procrastinating on or that email you need to send. When things are pending, there can be this feeling of anxiety or pressure or overwhelm… because it’s lingering. So if we can develop what I think is a total superpower- the ability to make fast decisions - we will move closer to our goals faster AND get all the things done that need to and want to … so we can chill out and relax and have fun with our favorite people or have some awesome self care time. This is one of those lessons I’ve learned from not being awesome at making fast decisions but now that I’m on the other side of it- it’s amazing. We’re talking about how to become a fast decision maker and all the ways it will free up your time and improve your life. First thing each day... Eat the frog Hug the monster! -Do the hard thing first! -What truly matters is the time and attention we spend things. -All of that anxiety could be removed if you just did the thing, made the decision. -You can move faster than most people if you make decisions faster. -It’s not paying the attention cost!! You decide and move on. You just move through life faster. -The crazy thing is once you get the momentum of this, it’s like the most empowering. It’s like well that’s done, what’s next!? -To be decisive is also just confidence… it’s like I'm going to tackle this! -You can’t multi-task and make fast decisions. Because we need too focus and not make careless decisions. 2.0 Mindset Course & Community info: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS!!
2.0 you What does that look like? Who are you if you if nothing is holding you back. If you aren’t defining success by with other people or society think but by what actually matters to you Who are you if you wake up on a Monday LOVING what you get to go do This whole thing is about living life FULLY and to your full potential. It’s about next level goals and making a good action plan to achieve them. It’s about eliminating all things negative and leaning into the version of you that when you’re 90 and looking back, you’re like… man did I really LIVE. I left it all on the field. To me, the ultimate driver is thinking about being 90 and not having all the opportunities we do now and thinking, I just went through the motions. I didn’t do all that I wanted to. These are the golden years. We have so much access to information and education and doing what you actually want to do, has never been easier. It’s hard - its consistent hard work everyday- but it’s also easy - we just need a good plan to get there. That’s what I had in mind when I designed this course and group… and I’m so jazzed to dive into what the 2.0 YOU looks like. In this episode I’m going through what the 2.0 version of you looks like and the method I created to help you get there. Not settling for mediocre, or believing we have limitations that we don’t actually have. Not getting involved in anything negative or worrying about what other people think of you. The mindset course and group that I created to help people live in the best headspace, love what you do everyday, create your own definition of success, make good with the past and move on, develop deep self confidence and set massive goals and make progress towards them everyday. We are focusing on how to get what you want... Overall Health & Wellness Physical Strength & Longevity Freedom To Design Your Days How You Want To Deep Connection With Your People Financial Freedom FUN And Celebrations This program includes a 6 week course and journey that we go on together, tackling all the best concepts in personal development. And starting now, the community of growth mindset people and 2.0 daily habits system that I developed to support our priorities and experience more growth than ever before. We are digging deep to figure out what success, fulfillment and joy means to you. We are being very intentional about how we spend our time and money and we are avoiding distracting and ditching old habits that don’t serve us. We are suffocating everything negative and getting in our 10s everyday. The words we say and the thoughts we think create the world that we live in- so we are prioritizing that. To go along with this is a 2.0 gift box with all of your materials to support this big program. It’s called 2.0 because we are designing the next chapter of your life. The 2.0 you. Email me any questions at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com. To Sign-Up for the 2.0 version of you… here’s the link! https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS to the 2.0 next level version of YOU!!
This is a little birthday thoughts wrap-up and lessons learned podcast episode. I would argue that it’s easier to celebrate other people than celebrating yourself but I think it’s super important and something I got a little better at this time around. I’m sharing lots of ideas of how to celebrate yourself - whether it’s your birthday or an accomplishment or a milestone or something you’re proud of - we should lean into celebrating ourselves, not feel weird about it. Just like how we should talk to ourselves really nicely like we would talk to our favorite person - same thing- it’s important to prioritize celebrating YOU. And making the plan yourself, not relying on anyone else. It’s empowering and fun! Also in this episode, 21 other gems of wisdom that I think you’ll love and take with you! What I know for sure at 42… First off… CELEBRATING YOURSELF Get in your 10s! Prioritize things that you really like - big and small Prioritize rest and relax and unplugging Learn something new Challenge yourself Give yourself the time and space to just have a day Listen to loud music Host your own bday party Reflect and set goals Travel or plan travel Tell people what you want / expect There’s nothing more important than love. Make sure your people how much much you really love them and then do anything for them, always. Most stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is. Adjust how you see things, look for the good, learn the lessons and change your response. Be very intentional about your priorities and spend your time and money accordingly. You never realize how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. (Bob Marley quote- love) Good or bad, this moment won’t last forever. Breathe in and really enjoy those highs and buckle down and get through the lows. Better days are on the way. Just. Keep. Going. Most people give up way too soon. It wasn’t a bad idea, you just didn’t do it long enough. You can go down the wrong path and end up in the right place. Sometimes that’s the process- losing your way can be the best way to find what truly sets your soul on fire. Work hard to get in a happy headspace then keep working hard to stay there. Avoid everything negative and complaining, no good comes from it. Take massive action… no amount of planning or intention actually moves you toward your goals. Make yourself uncomfortable as often as you can. It’s good to be nervous before a big speech and miserable in a cold plunge- it means you’re putting yourself out there and you’re growing and learning and becoming tougher & more confident in yourself. Go to bed without crumbs. Be a good human and you’ll never have to worry about something coming back around. Being able to be vulnerable is actually a superpower. So much growth and confidence comes from owning where you’re at. Choose your pain- the pain of growth or the pain of staying the same. Prioritize your health everyday, not when you get sick. When you truly don’t worry about the judgement of others, you’ll see a world of opportunities that you didn’t see before. Make sure you’re running your own race. That you’re intentional about what success means to you and stop at nothing to get there. The best way to make good decisions- don’t put yourself in bad situations. You cannot lose if you do not quit. (Alex Hormozi quote- love) Saying nothing sometimes says the most. Spend as much time as possible doing the things you love with the people you love. Prioritize laughter, fun and celebrations. Celebrate the people you love - and yourself- as often as you can
How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life 1 Get Sunlight 2 Lift Heavy Weights 3 Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4 Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5 Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6 Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7 Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8 Take A Cold Shower/ Cold Plunge 9 Take A Hot Bath/ Sauna 10 Protect Your Happy Headspace 11 Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12 Do Some Grounding/ Feel The Earth 13 No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14 No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15 Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16 Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) (waking up at 5am to work out is hard, being 50 lbs. overweight is harder- choose your hard) 19 Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20 Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe) These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for.. Stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! These key pillars will get us there!! CHEERS to the superhuman version of you!
Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was really unnecessary and could have been avoided. This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it’s more than that. Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there’s no real benefit that can come from hashing it out we’re just not going to engage And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person. Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend ourselves but if it’s not someone that we love and their opinion really matters to us, it’s a waste of bandwidth. We’re not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing with everything you’re told… we are talking about being a strategic about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there is no real benefit in doing so. We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that you engage in that doesn’t really matter or align with your core priorities. It just doesn’t matter. It feels like a big deal because of how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really care? You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them. Even if it’s justified to respond in the way that they talked to you, that’s not who YOU are. We aren’t going to let them - walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we act. The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how did you handle it? Examples: -If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of their own issues or jealously -If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont want -Road rage -People at work poking into your stuff -People you don’t know on social media leaving a comment or judgment -Tricky family members -Political statements that push your buttons -Parenting criticism -It’s the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it going. -Maintain your strong self but -We just see this differently and I’m ok with that. (And not in a rude way) CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don’t matter and protecting our headspace! To learn more about Lindsay’s Awesome Mindset Course- email her at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Have an awesome day!
What if your child, this holiday season, started a project to help other kids in need?
How cool would that be?!
During a time when it’s naturally a lot of making lists about what you want and gifts and buying and stuff- which is all part of it, nothing negative there- but what if we shift the focus so it’s some of that but it’s also a lot of thinking about others.
In this episode I am going to walk you through how you can help guide your child so they can create their very own community service project. Their own plan to help make the holiday season special in some way, for kids who are struggling or living in overcrowded situations or in the hospital..
The amount of growth and empathy and kindness that comes from doing this is not even describable. Especially if your child or children can meet or experience the world that these other kids live in, it’s an impact that can’t be made in another way.
The way that we all help the world become a more kind place where people look out for each other, is though our kids. Today’s episode is all about how you can do just that - and it’s much easier than you think.
It can’t be made from them watching us volunteer or donate. It’s that deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that only comes from experiencing something yourself.
**Action items
Contact shelters - ask them - how can we best support you
Know this going into it
Ask your child these questions (or answer htem for them if they are too little)
What are you most interested in right now?
(Examples: Spiderman, making bracelets, Legos, slime etc)
Talk to them about how other kids don’t have the things that we are just used to.
Great opportunity to describe in an age appropriate way- how grateful you feel and how not everyone has these same comforts.
Ask them how they would like to help kids this holiday season.
Here are some examples:
Host their own toy drive
Plan to serve a meal in some way
Hot cocoa stand - raised money is used to buy toys for kids in a shelter or in a hospital for Christmas.
Set-up an adopt a family program
Create care packages
Whatever they love - do that- collecting Legos to donate to children in the hospital etc.
Host a drive - to build hygiene kits or
Build backpacks for kids for school
Help fund kids who need help paying for sports
Blanket drive for new blankets
Make friendship bracelets and sell them like a lemonade stand
Build holiday thanksgiving baskets with meals families can prepare for thanksgiving
The realistic ease of all of this...
**You don’t have to pay for this- you guys are just the ones setting it up. Making the connections and the plan and then getting an army going to support your project.
CHEERS to teaching your kids about helping others at a young age, so it is ingrained in who they are.
I’ve learned that the best motivator for change and growth is not motivation, it’s not in your morning routine… it’s a actually PAIN.
Pain from the past or pain that you are going through now, can be your superpower and your driver for starting the next chapter.
Maybe someone in your life told you that you’re a loser and you’ll always be a loser- you can either sit in the pain and anger of that - or you can get to work.
There’s only one actual type of revenue and it’s called success.
I’d rather be at rock bottom than in a mediocre situation, which might sound crazy but I believe this 100%. Because at rock bottom you have FIRE to change. When things aren’t great but aren’t terrible, most people don’t make the decisions that are best for them or have the conversations they need to have.
We’re leaning into your pain today and actually making it your superpower.
The second title of this podcast was going to be - the best type of revenge - because it’s all very similar.
It’s like this… pain motivates faster than pleasure. Use your pain!
Pain is the best motivator for change and growth.
We can either sit with the pain and think about who’s fault it is and how shitty this is… OR we can take that pain and use it to give us gas baby.
It’s pain both ways- the pain of staying the same or the pain of change and struggle to become the person that you really want to be. I’ll take the second type of pain all day.
SUCCESS is the only revenge.
You don’t beat them - they fade away because of what you’ve become.
So many high performers have used their past to increase how hard they are willing to work.
Think about this … which is more powerful
Saying..
I want to live a better life.
OR
I want to prove my dad wrong who told me I’ve failed at this and that so I’ll just going to keep failing.
Which gives you more fuel?
You think you’ll go back to them later and be like SEE- you were wrong!! But here’s the thing- by the time you get there - that won’t even matter. You won’t be thinking about them anymore.
But it helped you to get there.
Be honest about your pain- don’t suppress or ignore or be self-conscious about it.
Define your goals and priorities- what will get you out of the current pain or what will make you move on from past pain?
Then let’s turn that pain into FUEL baby!!
It’s a burn the boat type of thing. It’s all in. This is your new minimum standard for yourself.
Lose the ego… work on your resilience and toughen up muscles.
The things that hurt so bad in the short term can be what propel you so far forward in the long term.
GET SPECIFIC - I want to show this person that they’re an idiot and what they said about me isn’t.
This won’t always be your fuel - it will fade away!
A chip on your shoulder could be a good thing!
Be SO specific about your pain is!
Dont say -
I hate my life I’m a loser.
Say...
I hate the way my dad makes me feel when he says im a loser and I won’t achieve anything - and maybe because it stings because you worry the same thing.
It hurts the most when you feel like there is an element of truth to it.
If someone accusing you of being something that you aren’t - it doesn’t bother you as much.
Alex Hormozi says it this way.
“Success is the only revenge.
As you expand they shrink into irrelevance.
You don't beat them- you cast a shadow so big, nobody can see them to begin with.”
CHEERS to focusing on the only type of revenge - success! And reshaping how we define and respond to our pain.
Have you ever woken up late and missed the work out you had planned? And you say something like God I always do that. I’m so mad at myself. Think about the identity that you are putting on yourself.
Now take that same example and your reaction is this… Wow… That’s not like me.
I heard Ed Mylett say this, and it was such a massive lightbulb moment for me.
The first response is telling yourself - yup, that’s who you are - you can’t get your hot mess of a self up on time for the gym.
The second response is the opposite- it’s saying… wow, this is not aligned with the person I see myself as.
This small reaction moment completely changes how this experience affects you and how you label it.
In the first way, you may feel frustrated with yourself all day and an overall lower opinion of your ability to get things done as planned.
And with the second response- you’re like… ok let’s pivot and carve out time at the end of the day to get it in because I’m a person that doesn’t miss workouts.
This same method applies to so many areas of life that we are getting into today.
And it’s just so simple - 5 words. Wow, that’s not like me.
And the reason why this works so insanely well is because we know that stopping negative talk is more powerful than increasing positive talk.
You know, I love something that is easy to remember and apply to your daily life. This is one of those!
Whenever we make a mistake or make the wrong choice or fail, or lose it some thing… Instead of all the other negative things, we could say… What if we said… Wow, that’s not like me.
You are recognizing that this action or behavior or choice or mistake… Whatever it is… Does not identify with the person you want to be.
Good activity - your life priorities list and brain dump the type of person that you are
Then schedule it!!
The other day, on the way home from school Presley was saying how she has so much homework and she really needs to get ahead… We walk in the door and she unpacks her backpack and she doesn’t have her laptop.
It really hit her hard. She was crying and mad and said what is wrong with me… I always do this.
I sat down on her bed and said, wow, that’s not like you.
Now for the record… This is the second time she has forgotten her laptop since we started school a few weeks ago
But I said to her… Did you forget your laptop yesterday… She’s like no and I’m like what about the day before? And she’s like no I’m like see?
I’m telling you… These five simple words, reframe how we label and interpret mistakes.
When you turn off your alarm and sleep through your work out… Rather than beating yourself up when you wake up… Your reaction is… This does not align with who I actually am!
Examples:
Losing it with your kids
Gossiping/ talking badly about someone
Talking bad about your own body
Wasting money
Being short with your spouse
Picking the wrong boyfriend
Overcommitting
Over apologizing
Wasting time scrolling
Going out of your way to make someone else’s life hard
Picking a battle that you should have let go
Not supporting a friend like you wanted to
Eating super unhealthy to where you feel badly
When you go to beat yourself up- just stop yourself!! And say those 5 words - Wow, that’s not like me.
It changes it all! And is a real secret to true self confidence.
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CHEERS to setting up this habit to instantly reframe how mistakes affect you. Now go put that post-it up so you use this in your life!
It will say…
Wow, that’s not like me.
Now this can get tricky because a lot of times the choices that people make now this can be tricky because there’s a very fine line here, but I think it is so important to spend time on.
The whole reason that this podcast episode is absolutely essential is because we are making decisions all day long about the people we interact with and who we lead into our inner circle… and this is a very clear issue to me… But only very recently.
Since we know that it is absolutely crucial for us to protect our happy headspace and really try to give our energy to things that drive us forward and are aligned with our main life priorities. So having people in our lives that make us feel shitty about ourselves, or are constantly running us down or being inconsiderate and hurting our feelings… is not part of the program.
This is one of those things that I’ve only just fully seen super clearly within the last few weeks.
And I think it’s so crazy important because if you really take the time to think of it this way when you’re in different situation… you will absolutely make the best decisions when interacting with them and also how much interaction you should actually have with them.
So let’s define our terms… What do we consider a jerk and what do we consider someone who hasn’t hasn’t worked through their own issues yet.
JERK
To me, a jerk is someone who puts themselves first- so they are a good friend when it works for them… Often times the conversation is 90% about them and 10% about you… Now not all of these examples will of course apply to every jerk… I’m just giving you examples… Jerks sometimes say mean things just to be mean… They don’t take accountability for their actions.
Often times if you look at how they treat other people… Not just you… It’s easier to actually see who they are. I think it’s also very important to believe people when they show you who they are, I really am an eternal optimist, but that can be to a disadvantage because sometimes I’ll keep thinking… This person will see this new change… When the reality is… If someone shows you who they are over and over again… Responsibility is on you now not them… They showing you who they are and now it’s your job to recognize it and protect yourself appropriately.
Examples:
Mind manipulates you - guilt trips etc.
Lack of compassion or empathy - often critical, always your fault, nit picks, causes fights
No accountability - blames you for all
Gaslighting - deny facts, rewrite history and even make you sought your own thoughts
Exportation - financial or emotional - use your resources for their own gain - without much in return
Control- often seen control of every part of the relationship
Friends are disposable - can abruptly end a friendship or relationship without any empathy.
SOMEONE WITH ISSUES
For a person who has issues they haven’t resolved yet… The behavior can be similar, but if you look closely, there’s usually a very clear difference.
Examples:
Projection - put their own negative emotions on you. Their insecurities or unresolved issue.
Mood swings- they can be angry or irritable with you without clear reasons
Overacting- they can have a big reaction to a minor issue - because they have a heightened emotional sensitivity
Blame shifting - its all your fault
Inconsistency - change their mind often, not sure what version of them you are going to get
Jealousy and envy- they feel inadequate so they can be competitive and not happy for your wins
Neediness- they might overly depend on you - which can be emotionally draining
Talk behind your back - because they feel insecure
HOW TO APPROACH BOTH- your blueprint
Jerk- distance- don’t engage in the argument
Often not worth the time to explain how they hurt you or disregarded your feelings.
Someone with issues- depends on how close you are to them. Give them grace.
Or tell them- I know this is not the person that you are.
Give them time and space.
Be honest about how their actions affected you.
Offer support and a safe space
Keep boundaries - so their negative stuff doesn’t impact you
Know when you have to walk away - at least for now
It’s so important to know the difference and to proceed differently with both. You will feel so much freedom and spend so much more time in your happy headspace!
This is your wake-up call to stop doing things you don’t want to do.
Right now - think of something that you’ve done recently or have something coming up - that you didn’t want to or don’t want to do.
Now, if you reallllly think about, I bet 99% of the time, you don’t actually have to do it. You just think you do for so many reasons like…. It will be rude if you don’t go or people might talk about you… or you can’t quit the job you don’t like because you don’t have other options…
But here’s the thing…. Most of this we put on ourselves! It’s our lives- we’re in the drivers seat- there are ways to not do all these things.
I think if we can figure out how to NOT do the things we don’t want to do… while still being a very considerate, kind and good human… we’ve mastered it.
Because guess what- when you’re doing things you don’t want to do- you’re usually not your most awesome self anyway. Cause you don’t want to be there.
Today we’re getting you out of all the things you think you should do, but don’t want to do… without being an asshole.
We don’t get to split test life right - so we can’t see what it looks like if we take the job or start the business… or if we marry this person vs. this person…
But the idea of picturing yourself at 90 years old is to me - the absolute best way to make decisions.
Because it’s you as you are at 90, versus what you could have been. It’s the ultimate motivator to really figure out what fulfillment and success and happiness means to you- not what is considered the society norm or what your family or friend group think…
And the best part of this, at age 90, you won’t care at all what anyone thinks. They’re all 90 too and the question will be, did you do the best you could with what you had?
Did you run life on autopilot for most of the time or did you really live life fully and take risks and enjoy the moments.
And risk is so much easier when you look at it this way. You have the pain of taking the risk and doing the hard thing, or you have the pain of not knowing what could have been. I’ll take the first all day.
Decisions can be hard- both the big life decisions and the daily habits that we have… but I think if you position your decision making like you’re 90 and looking back at the choices you made, I think you’ll make the best decisions possible. Because the things that we get caught up now, just won’t matter if we pan out to the big picture.
This is a game of you vs. the potential you.
The best content that inspired this topic is from Gary Vee and Alex Hormozi.
Like most podcasts, I learn from reading and watching and these two are the best at this!
Gary Vee says - regret is poison.
He says ask yourself...
What will you regret least when you’re 90?
I always think about the 90 year old version of myself.
Let’s use that as our basis.
The more you think like this, the easier it gets.
As you practice making decisions based on your own standards, the easier it gets!!
Live the life you want. Wear what you want to wear, date who you want to date,
The freedom to fail is more fulfilling then walking through on autopilot - living under these standards that other people live by.
People say- I can’t quit my job - no but you actually can. You just worry about what other people think of it.
Don’t follow what most people do or you’ll have what most people have.
It feels safe but it’s a bad decision.
The sad reality is that most people are unhappy or unhealthy or unhappy in their relationship etc.
The best way to guarantee a life you don’t want is to do what everyone else does.
Unless you want what everyone else has which nobody does.
Think for yourself - it’s hard at the beginning - this is how we’ve been sitting!! What our parents think, what your friends do… when you first do it, it feels so scary.
But the reality is, all that matters is you vs. the potential you.
You at 90 vs. you at 90 with what you could have been.
We put so much weight on what other people think is success or what they do - where they work etc.
Often when people are most proud of you - isn’t when you’re the happiest!! When you’re in a good job that you hate.
I’ve done this so much - I just know what I want and it’s done.
The timeline is compressed.
The bigger the wall is, you can then use that as evidence for the next wall.
Well that one worked, let’s do what I want again, let’s go.
The bigger the dragon is you have to slay, the more confidence you get from it.
It will give you the reinforcement you need for the future ones.
Living in the present - be mindful of your relationships today.
We focus so much on past and future, what about what is right in front of you.
This idea also helps you really slow down and soak in the moments
The so delish cup of warm coffee- get in your 10s!!
Like waves crashing on your feet and sand in your toes.
Learn from your mistakes- see them as lessons - and move on.
The whole thing is a way to help you life fully - by taking cation and pursue your passions and making decisions that align with what YOU actually want - not what standards other people have set.
It’s about living fully and the best version of you - according to you.
Make the most out of each day, do the things you love with the people you love.
CHEERS to living fully so you wake up as a 90 year old one day, without regrets and knowing you lived your life to your fullest potential.
It’s that time of year again!! Before you know it, Halloween will be here and so will costumes. My goal with this podcast episode is to give you lots of creative costume ideas - for you, for kids, for a family or a group… all of it! And get you going so it’s all organized ahead of time and you don’t find yourself on October 30th in a one hour line at a costume store. If you’ve never been in this situation- trust me, it’s pain like nothing else. So let’s dive into some options for fun Halloween costumes, and take the craziness out of it! So we can start the holiday season nice and organized and enjoying the moments. The last minute or unexpected things will always come up.. but since costumes are something we can plan ahead for… let’s do it! The best thing is to make a brain dump list of the things you love and especially right now! I try to avoid the things that everyone will be - the hot movie this year, etc. 4 ways to do it!! -Piece together your own using non-costume items- like cowboy, granny, etc. -Buy a costume - astronaut, supehero, monster, princess etc. -Or buy parts of a costume and half DIY your costume - alien -Or fully make your own - vending machine Fun Costume ideas! Robber Mad scientist Group and family costume ideas! Circus with a ringmaster Aliens Superheros The Incredibles Flintstones Toy Story characters Pirates Couple costumes Barbie and ken Angel and devil Minnie & Mickey Beauty & the Beast Construction Workers Mario & Luigi Disney Elsa or Anna from Frozen Snow White or Evil Queen Ariel or Ursula from The Little Mermaid A ton more! And lots are so easy! Clown Ghost Pro soccer player - Messi All sports- tennis, golf **I love a mash-up with sorts… like 80s tennis or zombie bride Ninja Witch Black Cat Mummy Bumble Bee Doctor or Nurse Unicorn Shark Beekeeper Star Wars character Ballet dancer Baker / Chef Police Officer Fire fighter Astronaut Gumball machine All the superheroes Spiderman Wonder woman Batman Superman For kids, I sometimes do one for school and then a family one for trick or treating. It also allows for kids to have a backup if they change their mind. Perk to not buying an actual costume- you can return what doesn’t work without a strict timeline. Halloween can be so much fun!! Let’s plan for it ahead of time so we can really enjoy the moments without the stress. Happy start of the holiday season!!
This probably sounds like we are compromising on what we want out of life… But it’s actually exactly the opposite of that. This idea of going into situations without set expectations allows you to be more present in the moment as it actually is. Rely less on other peoples actions and decisions, and more on your own. And leaning more to the special little spontaneous moments and less on less on those big moments that we often put a lot of pressure on. And when we do expect something from someone in our lives, we are going to tell them clearly and honestly ahead of time. I think a lot of the times when people are disappointed by someone they love, it wasn’t intentional, we just had a set expectation and we didn’t communicate it. I just don’t think it’s productive to put people to the test- like they should know- no, tell them!! When you sort of remove the overall expectations of how things should be in a particular situation… you become better equipped to enjoy it in the moment and release all those thoughts of what it should be. Because in reality… Life often doesn’t go as we think it is going to… In positive and negative ways… So if we put more focus on being present in the moment as it is, and not what we thought it would be… we will have less disappointment and more awesome days. A lot of times we are disappointed because we had these huge expectations- but we didn’t tell anybody!! Here are the TIPS!! 1. Identify when you’re not in a good headspace and need to get back to happy 2. Communicate clearly - if you have set expectations of how things should be 3. Give generously to others so your expectations when communicated are met. 4. Set-up plans have talks before something special - like a vacation or Christmas Day- so you lay the foundation - then let it all go and let it happen as it will. 5. It’s YOUR job to make you feel happy and fulfilled- not someone else’s. Don’t put too much pressure on other people or make it so it’s not possible to achieve. 6. Don’t compare- especially on social media. 7. Plan your own celebration!! Your birthday or Mother’s Day! Not in a controlling way- you know what you want so set it up! Don’t feel like someone else should or you shouldn’t plan your own. 8. Accept that we aren’t perfect so our loved ones won’t be either. 9. Do the self- care and mindfulness. When we feel like we are pouring from an empty cup we are emotional and more likely to be sensitive when things don’t go as you expect. 10. Celebrate often!! Get out and laugh! We sometimes celebrate only when it’s something traditional - how about celebrating smaller things more often. You’ll feel so good and it won’t put this massive 6 month pressure on your birthday going perfectly because you’re celebrating all the time!! CHEERS to living your best life, on your terms!!
We all have times in our lives when we feel lost or in a hard transition time… we aren’t sure what our purpose is or we have a lack or goals or passions. We can feel lost in one aspect of our lives or sort of lost in general. Maybe it’s a feeling of overwhelm or underwhelm or both! Today, we’re talking about what to do when you feel lost… in one aspect of life or the total picture.
We’re breaking it down and not making it harder than it actually is to get through it.
Here are the steps that have served me best:
Figure out what you want
Figure out how to get it
Get the right mindset
Get the right skillset
Get the right habits in place
Be willing to make adjustments
And just keep going.
Let’s talk about the ways people can feel lost in different stages of life…
Career
Major life transitions
Money stress
Unclear goals
Breakup
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Figure out what you want
Hard part -
Figure out how to get it
Easy part
Find someone who’s already got it - and reverse engineer what they did
Who knows the path? Then do the work. -
Figure out the daily habits it will take to get there
Show me your habits and I’ll tell you what your life looks like in 6 months or one year. -
Make adjustments
Don’t be afraid to change - evyerhing will stay the same if you don’t
And don’t be afraid to change as you go - you can’t be so set in your plan that you don’t see what needs to be adjusted as you go. -
Just keep going
Dont make it harder than it needs to be
Get in the right mindset
Get the right skillset
Get the right habits in place
Figure out what it is, find people who have done it, make a plan, do the work.
FOCUS on this thing right when you wake up and before you go to bed.
Change can be slow, but with this plan, you’ll get there.
Cheers to figuring out what you want and going and getting it!
If you spend a few hours a week running errands like most of us do… This podcast is about to save you so much time!
Today we are looking at the things that we do in a week or in a month and figuring out what we can stream line. You know I love the system of automate, eliminate and delegate.
With all the different technologies available today… there is no reason we should be spending hours a week running errands. There is simply just more efficient options and better ways to accomplish the same thing. And the best part… for very little or no cost at all.
By planning ahead of time and getting some systems in place… we can save so much time by utilizing modern technologies and flexing are efficiency muscles.
And then we are left with more time to do the things we love with the people we love, but we’re also less exhausted and less annoyed- big bonus!
-Only TWO times you should run errands - if you truly enjoy it or if it’s truly last minute.
-By planning ahead and being strategic, we can avoid virtually all errands.
-Most of us do errands because it’s in our routine.
-The goal of this pod is to shake things up and what we do that we could do more efficiently.
-Shop online - most places have free delivery
-Subscription services
-Planning meals ahead of time
-Automate bills/ get more tech savy
-Have things delivered!
-Use Uber!
-Delegate tasks - babysitter etc for a few errands before watching kids.
The whole key to this is planning ahead and being open to the new way of doing things.
The added bonus besides saving so much time is you save so much money! From not getting all the impulse items. And since you’re not at as many places, you’re not even missing what you’re not buying!!
CHEERS to all your newly found free time now that you’re not running around doing errands! Have an awesome day!!
Today we are talking about what you give your energy to.
And if we do a very honest self audit, I bet we are all in someway giving energy the things that we don’t want to or they don’t serve us
Our goal today is to work towards not giving energy towards things we can’t control.
Like what people think of you - something that may feel like you have control over but you actually don’t. Therefore… It’s not worth spending your energy on.
And so many other ways to protect our energy like- being around people who make us feel awesome… And eliminating or significantly reduce any amount of time you spend around people who don’t make you feel great.
Think about yourself like you’re a quarterback at the football game and your energy is that football you are holding so tight to your chest and all day long you are running through this football field of life where big dudes are trying to slam into you and try to take your energy or disrupt it.
Our job is to protect our energy like it’s the most important thing… Because it actually is.
-Just like we need to train in the gym to be strong physically - we need to constantly train to be strong mentally.
So welcome to this awesome mental gym where today we are going to dive into what you spend your energy on. Mentally and physically.
We only have so much energy in a day. How are we spending it and what needs to be adjusted?
You have no control over what people think. We have a hard enough time
Believing you have any control of what other people think is setting yourself up for failure.
You can only control your behavior with regards to their feelings - not what they think.
Take care of yourself
-Allow yourself to say no
Release yourself from the worry associated with saying no
Don’t do things you dont want to do
-Here’s the secret- Don’t be a jerk or inconsiderate. Be a kind and caring person and be insanely loyal to your inner circle… and kind and considerate to everyone else. Then do whatever the heck makes you happy!!
Don’t be in this trap of saying yes because you feel like you have to- all to make someone else try to think some way about you - when you can’t control that anyway.
How about - dont go to the bridal shower that you dont want to go to - tell them ahead of time - send a nice note and gift and be on your happy way!!
-Reduce mental clutter
-Free up space so you have energy for things you really care about
-It creates a better world for everyone around you
-You’ll be happier in everything you do
-Because you aren’t going to things that you dont want to go to.
-You’ll have more time to do the things you love with the people you love!!
The amount of information we’ve learned about nutrition and health in the last 10 years is incredible and empowering because we can make better decisions based on facts and how our body feels when we eat certain things. One thing that just about every expert agrees on… is that salt isn’t the enemy, fat isn’t the enemy… refined sugar is. We know that consuming too much sugar can lead weight gain and increased risk of heart disease and spikes and crashes in blood sugar - which makes you feel tired and irritable - the list goes on but the point is… we will feel and function so much better in the sort term and long term if we reduce or eliminate our intake of refined sugar. In this episode, I’m sharing the best healthy swaps for your favorite treats… so you feel satisfied and fulfilled and are also eating delicious food that gives you fuel and energy throughout the day. For our packaged snacks- they have zero refined sugar and if it’s a packaged food, it’s minimally processed, and every single ingredient is clean. It takes some time to try different things, and figure out what you like… And it also takes planning ahead… Thinking about situations, you will be in and having an alternative ready to go. But I’m telling you… once you eliminate highly processed foods from your diet, and reduce or eliminate refined sugars… you’ll feel so good… After a bit of time you will prefer your healthy alternatives. Learning every ingredient, a nutrition label can be tricky, but in this episode, we are breaking it down so you have lots and lots of ideas of delicious snacks and desserts that leave you feeling satisfied and full without the sugar crash or brain fog that can often come with the original version. We’re talking all the yummy snacks and treats - sans sugar today. -We know that sugar is basically in everything and it makes us feel awful. It’s hard to avoid but we can do it!! When you are cooking! -Here are healthy alternatives to refined sugar!! Honey Maple Syrup Coconut Sugar Agave Date Paste or dates Monk Fruit Sweetener **add protein powder and collagen powder for the health benefits! -Snacking foods Popcorn - healthy option or bowl of blueberries Grain free items Coconut rolls Baked apples Bowl of berries Frozen grapes Baked apples Healthy chocolate Protein balls Make your own ice cream by blending things like bananas etc Chia seed pudding -Prepare for situations!! Like flights or movies!! Anytime you will want something in a situation. Let’s not eat things we don't want because we dont have another option! -When ordering dessert - also think about portions! If you want the birthday cake - just have a little -I always talk about protein! Get in your protein first!! -ALSO! Activated charcoal if you eat too much and need to clean out! Or gluten etc! Here is link to my fav: https://amzn.to/3pTyF8V CHEERS!! To enjoying ALL the awesome healthy foods that give you energy and make you feel your best!!
The world of nutrition and fitness can all be so complicated and overwhelming.
It’s hard to know what theory to go with or eating plan makes the most sense for you.
I read and study nutrition and fitness and longevity more than any other topic and the thing that I’ve learned is that it doesn’t need to be so complicated - and while everyone is of course different- it helps SO much to simplify it.
Ready?
The best way to be lean and strong, and lose weight is by doing two things.
Build muscle and consume protein.
It’s honestly that simple. In this podcast we are going through these concepts plus the other key concepts I think we need to be thinking about and have in our routine.
-Hydrate with electrolytes
-Take Magnesium powder every night
-Sleep at least 7 hours
-Get in 10k steps per day
-Take collagen & creatine
This is a lifetime journey of learning and training and getting stronger. This podcast will help simplify things and motivate you for all the right reasons.
-Another podcast to check out!!
Episode 240 is all about how to eat 100 grams of protein per day
-Eat 30-50 grams for each of your 3 meals
-Simple and it works!! Short term and long term and you get to eat a lot and you don’t feel deprived.
-The best way to be lean and strong and focus on overall health and longevity more than looks - two things
-Episode 88- how to diet and exercise for longevity
-We are going to talk about a few other things too but honestly… if we can JUST focus on protein and building muscle - we are 90% of the way there.
Here are the tips!!
-Build muscle - you won’t get bulky don't worry
-If you dont lift weights, you will age faster
-Cardio is great for cardiovascular health - but if you want to lose fat- it’s not cardio- it’s lifting weights!
-A toned and sculpted body does not come from an elypitcal or a treadmill. It comes from the weights!!
-Eat protein - like a ton
-It makes you feel FULL! And it gives you energy!
Here are my links to my favorite supplements mentioned:
Magnesium:
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Creatine:
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Greens:
https://amzn.to/3Qa1Oan
Protein Powders:
https://amzn.to/3K7rQaw
Collagen Powder:
https://amzn.to/44TnknV
Electrolyte Powder:
https://amzn.to/472plzZ
Have an awesome day!!
Are you ever facing a pretty easy decision and you’re like - I don’t even know I can’t make one more decision today.
You’ve reached… decision fatigue.
That point to where you’ve made so many decisions that you’re just out of decision battery.
And that’s my favorite way to think about it.
We start with full battery in the morning - and we are the most sharp.
For every decision we make, our decision battery drains just a little bit.
Studies show that we make 35,000 decisions in a day… no wonder sometimes we hit our max!
But knowing this, we can set-up routines and plans and habits to where most of our decisions are made for us already.
We’re going to prioritize what’s most important and simplify things so that we have more energy for the important decisions that really matter.
How have I gotten to episode 255 of this podcast without talking about this yet!!
This is SO important!!
We’re talking about how to take SO MANY of the decisions you make each day - and take the decision part out of it.
What to wear, what to eat, what order to do things, what exercise to do, what to do first in the morning, what to do before bed.
We are going to focus on each thing and figure out works best for us. Don’t just keep going on autopilot!
-Sometimes we postpone things
We aren’t sure what task to tackle on our to do list
We aren’t sure what to say back to a text message
-This all stops us from moving forward!
-Then, dont go back and reanalyze
Decide and set it up and move on
-Simple decisions are now not as simple!
How do you want your coffee? How do you want to build your salad?
There are 34 different ways to cook your eggs and 14 different types of apples.
It’s so empowering to figure out what you like then set up routines and habits so that you’re not making the same decisions over and over.
Ways to reduce decision fatigue and make better choices
-reduce amount of decisions that you make- what is actually essential
-when you’re in a growth phase, don’t be afraid to say no to things - no and move on
-automate decisions!! Like… wear the same thing everyday!
-New habits
-Do your most important things early in the day! When you are the most fresh
Your brain is the most sharp first thing in the am.
Whatever requires the most mental energy - do that first up!
-take breaks!
-break things down so they aren’t so complicated
-do one thing at a time- make one good decision- take all the time you need then move on
Take care of your body and mind! Everything always comes back to that!
Cheers to saving energy for things that actually matter!!
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This topic is so interesting and something I’ve been hyper focused on for the last few months and it’s made a big difference in how I eat and when I eat and what I eat… and I think it will be for you too. We are going to break down the actual difference between hunger and cravings and figure out the balance of how we feel full and satisfied…. Without overeating or overindulging to where we don’t feel great… in the short term and in the long term. By being able to identify… is this hunger that I’m feeling or is this a craving… we can make the best decisions for our overall nutrition and our happiness in the moment. Our relationship with food and nutrition is just so important and thinking about it this way can really simplify it and help you make the best decisions that make you feel your very best. **Cravings are so strong that you will take action - more than hunger. Hunger we can bypass- but cravings get us to go get that thing. We need to know how to control our cravings. First… what is hunger and what are cravings? 1. Hunger: Hunger is a physiological sensation that arises from the body's need for nourishment. It is primarily driven by biological factors such as low blood sugar levels, an empty stomach, or hormonal imbalances. When you experience hunger, your body is signaling that it requires sustenance to maintain energy levels and perform essential functions. Hunger is often accompanied by physical symptoms like stomach contractions, growling, lightheadedness, and a general feeling of emptiness. 2. Cravings: Cravings, on the other hand, refer to an intense desire for a specific type of food or a particular taste. Unlike hunger, cravings are often psychological in nature and can be triggered by various factors such as emotions, memories, environmental cues, or even cultural influences. Cravings tend to be more specific and focused, such as a strong urge for chocolate, pizza, or salty snacks. They may arise even when you're not physically hungry, and they can persist even after you've eaten enough to satisfy your hunger.
Tips to manage cravings 1. Identify triggers: Pay attention to what triggers your cravings. Is it certain emotions, situations, or environments? By identifying your triggers, you can develop strategies to avoid or cope with them more effectively. 2. Distract yourself: When a craving strikes, try distracting yourself with an engaging activity. Engage in a hobby, go for a walk, listen to music, or call a friend. Shifting your focus away from the craving can help diminish its intensity. 3. Practice mindful eating: Mindful eating involves paying close attention to your food, savoring each bite, and being fully present during meals. By eating mindfully, you can enhance your satisfaction from the food you consume and reduce the likelihood of experiencing intense cravings afterward. 4. Choose healthier alternatives: If you're craving a particular food, try to find healthier alternatives that satisfy your cravings to some extent. For example, if you're craving something sweet, opt for a piece of fruit or a small serving of dark chocolate instead of reaching for a sugary dessert. 5. Plan your meals and snacks: Having a well-balanced meal plan and incorporating regular, nutritious snacks can help prevent extreme hunger, which can intensify cravings. When you keep your body adequately fueled throughout the day, you're less likely to experience intense food cravings. 6. Practice portion control: Allow yourself to indulge in your favorite foods occasionally, but in moderation. Instead of completely depriving yourself, enjoy a small portion of the food you're craving. This can help satisfy your craving without derailing your overall healthy eating habits. 7. Manage stress: Stress can contribute to cravings, particularly for comfort foods. Find healthy ways to manage stress, such as practicing relaxation techniques, engaging in physical activity, getting enough sleep, or seeking support from friends and family. 8. Stay hydrated: Sometimes, thirst can be mistaken for hunger or cravings. Ensure you're adequately hydrated by drinking water throughout the day. When a craving strikes, try having a glass of water and waiting a few minutes to see if it subsides.
This is a LONG game experience… our relationship with food.
Let’s not label things as “good” or “bad” but listen to our bodies and make the best decisions we can each day. Learning and growing as we go… keeping a journal of how we feel so we can look back and make even better decisions. CHEERS to fueling our body and feeling satisfied everyday by asking ourselves… am I hungry or is this a craving?
It is so easy to get into a funk… And I think most of the time it’s because we’re not being hyper aware about our mindset and working to adjust things when they feel off. Prioritizing that above other things. It might mean canceling plans or hibernating for a little bit so you can re-calibrate and come back into the world feeling good and strong - with a clear and happy mind. Over the last few weeks, I have spent so much time in the hospital with Craig in the areas of the hospital where many of the patients are in bad shape. And then I come home and I am working to help my kids deal with their emotions and state of mind in the healthiest way we know how. And the way I’ve been able to do this… Through all the ups and downs, and uncertainty… Is by knowing that the state of mine, that I am in… Is literally everything. The night before he went in for the most recent big surgery… before we were going to bed… I had all of the kids sleeping in my bed, and Craig was in the hospital… And sweet little Parker who I think has taken all of this, the hardest this go round… Was asking me questions like… If someone goes to heaven, can you text them there? Things that just tear at your insides… Because I know in reality the surgeries are so risky and every time we have an episode he has more scar tissue and at 51 years old we are really dealing with what is usually 80-year-old problems. It’s all very heavy and there is a lot of stress and worry. But when I find myself thinking… If the worst case happened… How would I even get off the floor… And I picture myself crying on the floor… And then I tell myself… We’re actually going to control our thoughts and we’re not going to allow THAT. I’m a big believer and you have to feel all the feelings and not suppressed things. So it’s a fine balance, of course. But it’s a matter of not allowing yourself to give effort towards something that you can’t change. And I think a lot of us to do this in little ways all the time Maybe you feel like a coworker has it out for you and you think they think this is this about you but in reality you’ll never really know. And also… Their opinion of you just doesn’t matter. In the long game… It’s a relevant. So it’s a matter of controlling your mindset and not giving energy to things that you can’t change by worrying about it. The other side of this… Is recognizing how you feel and figuring out what you need to get back to happy. If you are super annoyed or irritated, or in a negative mood… rather than still living through all the things you need to do that day… I think it is so much more beneficial to pull back and figure out what you need to get your mind right again. It would be much better to not get the grocery shopping done that day, then to go to a crowded grocery store. Will likely get more irritated because you walked in there super irritated. And you will just have overall better interactions with everyone in your life. Often times when we have arguments or disputes with people it’s not actually about something that happened with them… it’s about the state of mind that we were in when we entered the encounter. So let’s talk about actual action items we can do when we know we need a mind reset. One of the things that I think works the very best is to pick a song or create a playlist. I have a playlist on my Spotify called Unstoppable and it’s about 10 of my favorite songs that get me in a good mindset. Some of them apply more to different emotions, but in general for me, it’s about getting the emotions out… Thinking through it working through it and then getting back to a happy and STRONG Place. First one on the playlist is girl on fire by Alicia Keys. It was the first song I put on when I was driving to the hospital to pick up Craig on the day he was able to come home from Cedars in LA… And it was the first time I had a really good cry about all of it… And it lasted three minutes. Not because I didn’t have any more emotions but because that was enough. That was what I needed to feel the emotions and then move on from this song and get back to my happy and STRONG headspace. I love love love music as a tool for this. Another great way to do it is journaling. Write down all the things… All the feelings and emotions and get it all out. And then after you do that… I think you should get outside or do a work out… A physical change is the best way to get a mental change. So maybe it’s journal or listen to a song or cry or whatever it is and then go move your body. To change up the situation. There’s literally a 0% chance you won’t feel at least a little bit better after doing the metal work and then the physical work. The key to all of this is to understanding that this is your top priority every day. To manage your headspace means you manage your life. And you keep a continuous pulse on how you’re feeling… So you don’t wake up one day in this massive funk or depression, because every day, you are hyper aware of how you feel and when you’re off work to fix it. I hope this episode made you really stop and think about the importance of your state of mind and how you can actively attend to it every day for an overall happier life. Thank you so much for listening!
Let’s catch up!
I feel like I’ve learned lots of life lessons lately athat I think will be interesting and valuable… some tips and take-aways and things to think about.
I don’t do storytime podcasts often because I always try to bring up topics that I think will bring the most value and it’s much less about me and much more about YOU!
But for this period of life, a catch-up episode seems like the jam. So let’s go!
If you are obsessed with productivity and making the most out of your time, this episode is for you! I’m outlining my very clear strategy for getting a full days worth of work done in exactly 3 hours. It’s taken me so many years of trial and error and reading so many books about high performers and habits and morning routines and efficiency… and from all of that, I’ve started doing this routine with ONE app that I will tell you about. Now I designed this for my work life but it honestly works so well in all parts of life. It’s about setting yourself up in an environment where you can be laser focused, super efficient, complete one thing before you go on to the next and avoid all distractions. Today I’m giving you a complete blueprint for doing a full days worth of work in 3 hours. Once you do it once and see how much you can get done, you’ll be obsessed! And - even better- feel the freedom of going out and enjoying the day after because you were just crazy productive. A few key points from this podcast: -Use app: Brain FM and set-up a 90 minute session. -Make it impossible to be distracted -Know ahead of time what you will work on during each session. -Stay laser focused - know you are on a time limit. -Do ONE THING at a time, and don’t go on to something new until that one thing is done. -Stick to the plan, do the hardest thing first. -Get in a great environment - then don’t get up for anything. Keep a little water next to you- go to the restroom first etc. This is 90 minutes of SOLID work. -This works for ANYTHING you want to get done in your life too! Not just work! Plan a vacation, plan a kids party, organize your finances, whatever it is! -Plan it out the night before, the morning of, or during your in between times- waiting for appointments, chill time at night, waiting in carpool, etc. -One 90 minute session then break for 30 mins to eat and do what you need to do, then back on for another 90 minutes. It’s like a mid-way reward, and then another reward at the end. Why this works so well! -It’s impossible to do intense work all day - which is why people lag and space it out. -By being ULTRA productive for 3 hours- then you feel SO accomplished and the work doesn’t drag out. -It takes us SO long to get back in the rhythm after getting distracted. -You do a BETTER job in less time because you are fully focused on it. You aren’t stopping to eat or for texts etc. Because getting your stuff done in the most efficient way and then going out and living your life is the MOST AWESOME!!
We all have days where we just feel just feel like shit. Maybe you are a little sick or under the weather or you’re straight bummed out or in a bad headspace or just low on energy… how do you handle it? I think there are so many ways to handle times when you feel crappy, and turn it into a win. In this episode, I’m sharing lots of ideas of how to turn a wasted day in to a winning day. So many options - lean into whatever feels best to get you Some days we have 100% energy and effort and happy headspace - and other days we have like 1% for whatever reason. Rather than label those days as “bad days” and going down a spiral and making it worse- let’s be strategic about it and figure out… what’s my best approach here? What’s the best way to handle this- because we know the other way to the other side is to get through it. Listen to this today and then again when you’re having one of those days… together, we will turn it around. Let’s go! Lindsay talks about these ways to handle it: -Call it a day on the issue and don’t overthink it -Do the best you can with the cards you’re dealt -Hibernate and have some alone time! -Get outside and change your headspace -Don’t label the day as good or bad… you find what you’re looking for! David Goggins style - -Embrace discomfort - when you’re having a tough day, it’s easy to want to escape and numb or avoid the pain. David Goggins style is to lean into the discomfort and push through. Maybe it’s a hard workout or a tough challenge at work or face a tough conversation head on. -Use positive self talk - reframe your mind - rest -Embrace the suck- tough times make you stronger and more resilient in life Brene Brown style- -Practice self-compassion- talk to yourself like you would a good friend -Have empathy - try to put yourself in other peoples shoes - if that’s mainly what’s bumming you out -Get support- from people who love you -Practice gratitude - focus on things you are grateful for and realize it could be worse -Fund meaning in the struggle - the hardest times of our lives and bring the most growth and transformation. When you’re having one of those days, try to find meaning in the struggle and see it as opportunity for growth and learning. The hardest times can help us become strong and more resilient and more compassionate. CHEERS to turning SHITTY days into WINNING days!!
This is not about not taking your life or goals seriously - it’s the opposite… it’s allowing yourself the freedom to make mistakes, try new things, laugh at yourself… so that your worries and stresses don’t consume you and prevent you from fully enjoying life. In this podcast episode, we’re talking about all the ways we can stay super focused on our priorities and being very intentional with our time, but at the same time, realizing the importance of not taking yourself too seriously. And here’s why… it’s mental freedom. Freedom from replaying past conversations or situations… freedom from overthinking… freedom from being indecisive or taking things personally that you could let go. And the best part.. by doing this and thinking this way… you’ll have more FUN! And what’s better than that! Here are some of the tips that Lindsay goes through in this episode: -Be able to laugh at yourself We all make mistakes and wish we would have done certain things differently. By not beating yourself up and being able to move on - we save ourselves so much mental agony. Also, it takes work but being able to relax and take a joke- not take things too seriously - and not be offended! -Embrace mistakes - use them for learning and growth and move on. -Be present in the moment - it’s so easy to focus on yesterday and tomorrow instead. -Keep good perspective - and remember - this moment will not last forever - good or bad. Will this matter in a month or in a year? -Try new things - don’t get stuck in our ways. Or telling ourselves we “aren’t good” at something or “can’t” do it for some reason. These are usually mental hurdles that we put up ourselves. -Be around people who share this same thinking! When you make a mistake, or have something to decide on… we need people who are straightforward and honest but also, so supportive and forward thinking. -Be aware of your self-talk The words you say to yourself create the conversation that you have in your head all day. Stop yourself from being overly critical or negative. Break the pattern. -Embrace your imperfections We all have flaws, own them, call yourself out, don’t hide. Embrace them as part of what makes you unique. -Look for humor!! Go to a comedy show, tell jokes, if you have kids - do jokes with them! Follow someone funny on social media… make a point to laugh daily. -Take time to recenter - medication or stretching or calm -Have more FUN! The more you are doing things you love, the more fun you’ll have and honestly- the less uptight you will be! CHEERS to not taking ourselves too seriously and realizing that most of it doesn’t matter anyway!
BEST TIP HERE! Just because someone asked you a question… Doesn’t mean you have to answer it. Follow me here… This whole concept is game changing. We are sort of conditioned to answer a question when someone asks us one. But often times… Answering the question makes us feel crappy or we regret it later… Or we get into a conflict that we would rather avoid. Let me give you a few examples. You’re 12 weeks pregnant and someone says… Wow your huge are you having twins? Are you due soon?? Now, likely, this person isn’t intentionally being rude, but naturally, you’re probably not gonna feel great about the questions you were just asked. So rather than feeling even more shitty and answering their questions… How about just don’t. Especially if it’s a stranger. My favorite way to not answer questions that I don’t want to is to just smile and sort of life. It shows this like deep confidence and I’m actively choosing what I want to respond to and not. We are diving into SO MANY situations where people might ask you questions that are in intentionally rude or maybe just inconsiderate and they don’t realize it… but either way, it doesn’t matter. Just because someone asked you a question… Doesn’t mean you have to answer it. You must listen to this entire podcast… I promise you it will serve you in ways that you don’t even realize yet. FILE THIS UNDER- how did I not learn this sooner? Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about: Examples of questions! 1. Do you think your best friend is really loyal? 2. Political anything! 3. Why did you get a divorce? 4. Why aren’t you nicer to your kids? 5. Why don’t you have children yet? 6. Why do you spend so much time playing video games? 7. Why are you so sensitive? 8. How did you lose so much money? 9. Are you single because you’re too picky? 10. Are you depressed because you had to close your business? -Instead of getting fired up or sad or offended think - NOPE! Not today! Not getting in!! -This is alllll a mental game of protecting our head space. By engaging, we let it continue. -We can’t control what people say but we can control how we respond to it and the meaning we give to it. -Here are some alternate ways to respond! -Smile and laugh -Say something funny like… Oh wow I didn’t know we were asking too personal and possibly offensive questions today -Oh that’s yesterdays news- I’m onwards and upwards! -Oh my goodness- that’s bold. I think I’ll take a pass on that one! -You will feel SO GOOD!! -You’re setting personal boundaries and being strong and confident. -Avoid arguments, avoid feeling crappy about something, don’t allow someones judgment of you to actually affect how you think about yourself. -We are sidestepping questions to avoid all things negative! -You are left with a feeling of control and self protection! It’s empowering! Too often we walk away from interactions with other people feeling deflated or uncomfortable or just down about ourselves. Can we avoid so much of this by not answering questions we dont want to! CHEERS to protecting your headspace and never answering questions that you dont want to!
You might know that one of my favorite things is throwing kids parties and I thought it’d be fun to do a Q and A episode with all of the questions I’ve gotten lately about throwing awesome kids parties. My goal is always to set-up an experience that is special and in a way magical for everyone that comes to the party. It’s a moment in time to celebrate your little birthday boy or girl in a way that is perfect for age and what they are into right now… and something for them to look forward to and help plan… and then feel so special and loved at the party. I think my love for kids parties extends from how cool it is to see things through kids eyes. To see them get so excited and have so much fun, is just the best. In today’s episode, we’re focusing on enjoying the process of party planning, maximizing your budget and spending less than you probably think… and building an event that runs smoothly and everyone has a great time. Here are some of the questions that Lindsay answers: -How do you plan out the timing of it? -What went well, what went wrong? What did you learn from this party? -What food do you serve? -How much does the party cost? -How do you know shirts sizes for kids? -How far ahead of time do you start planning? -How do you create the space for parties? Tent, fabric, etc. -When does it make sense to rent a venue? -How do you get helpers to help out? -Prep things in the weeks leading up to it - little by little -Spread out buying things - little by little -What to buy and what to rent? -How do you build dessert backdrops? -I am finishing an online course about ALL OF THIS!! Check out HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com for Lindsay’s kids party course coming soon! And for lots of other free podcasts on this topic and planning downloads. Thanks for listening! Have an awesome day!!
You want to hear something crazy… I’ve helped dozens of people start a podcast in the last year and most of them are making real money within the first few months. And the best part is - they all look so different. Some of them have do not have a big following or an established business or so many of the other things you might think they would. The real secret here is that there are so many ways to make money from having a podcast, you just need to LEAN into which way works best for you. I love this topic so much because nobody is talking about it! Sure, people talk about about having podcasts sponsors for each episode, the traditional stuff.. but I haven’t found anybody is who is having a FULL picture conversation about all the ways that a podcast can make you money. Podcasting is the way to communicate and educate and entertain these days.. and it’s the very best way to create an audience for yourself and a community. In this episode I am going to walk you through all the ways you can profit from your podcast if you have one already…. and if you don’t… there’s no better time than now. You’re not late to the game I promise. And once you hear how much money you can make, you’ll agree with me. -A podcast can make you money in ways that you don’t even know now or have a plan for. -A podcast can help you build a brand or help you create a lifestyle brand. -I decided to create an online course to teach people how to start podcasts because, in my opinion, it is the single best decision you can make that is low cost and a low time commitment that creates an audience for yourself. -And we know that those who have attention, have horsepower. -And the bonus is, it’s crazy fulfilling. If you haven’t listened to the first podcast on this, go back and listen to # 239. -Lindsay’s podcast group starts soon (if you’re listening real time) Check out more info here: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/business-strategy-mentoring And her online course all about how to start and MAKE MONEY is available always here: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses And of course, visit HowToBeAweseomeAtEverything.com for all things awesome!!
I have two very special guests with me today.. Presley and Parker! Which means… this is a kids edition! So round up your kids - this is an episode to listen to with them! It is a topic that is great for kids of all ages- and adults too- it’s about own to maintain your self standards… even when other people don’t! It’s not always easy… but we have a great plan for how to do it. -What do we mean by self standards? What you hold yourself to. The type of person you are. How you make people feel. -So first we must figure out… what type of person do you want to be? -Now for the kids listening, please do the same thing. Let’s say out loud your answer to this question - what type of person you want to be? Here are some ideas just to get you thinking… Considerate, kind, loving, funny, fun, supportive, determined, hard working, loyal, positive talker and enthusiastic -You can even write it down and keep it in your bedroom or bathroom. -Now, in life, none of us are perfect and sometimes we make decisions that don’t match who we want to be. -When you are in a situation and someone else is unkind to you, it’s easy to react in the same way that they treated you. But the problem is, this isn’t who we have promised ourselves we would be. -This podcast episode is all about staying true to the type of person that we have decided we are going to be. -EVEN WHEN people don’t treat you how you want to be treated. -They are lowering their standards for themselves, but we don’t want to do the same. -So that’s what we want to work through today… WHAT type of person are you going to be? And then, everyday we want to work to keep ourselves making decisions that support the type of person we want to be. -Sounds pretty easy right? It’s easy when we are thinking about it- but sometimes when real life throws curve balls our way… it will test us! -So we need to decide the type of person we want to be then really work on sticking to it each day. -Let’s talk about a few examples. -What if you’re on the playground someone says- are your shoes new? You say yes, and they say, well they are ugly. Your reaction might be to say something mean back like… well yours are old and dirty. -So what happened here is they lowered their standard of themselves.. and then you did too. -You might feel like you defended yourself so you might feel good for a second like you got them back… but then you don’t feel so good. Why? Because that’s not the person you want to be. You don’t want to be mean because they were mean. -But you can’t let people walk on you either. So it gets tricky to uphold your standards for yourself but also be able to be strong and stand up for yourself when you need to. We hope this episode helped you decide who you are going to be and then make decisions each day to support that! Thank you for listening! Have an awesome day! Love, Lindsay, Presley and Parker
A lot of the podcast episode topics I choose are things that I am personally trying to become more awesome at. Things I haven’t mastered and it’s a work in progress and I want to learn more and do better and share what I’ve learned Every now and then there’s a podcast topic, that I can humbly and confidently say I’ve got it. This is one of those. How to be awesome at not being easily offended. It is so hard to actually offend me. It’s kind of crazy to think about. Today we are diving into what it actually takes to not be offended by things that people say to you or situations that are outside your control. Often times we are assuming or projecting or making something small into something big. By not being easily offended, you free up so much mental bandwidth and you save yourself so much stress and agony. A big part of this is believing people when they show you who they are. And then adjust your relationship if you need to. If you are close to someone who is constantly offending you… do you need to do some inner work so you aren’t taking things offensively OR do you need to put a little distance between you and them? I think not being offended is a superpower because you have the confidence to know that when things go sideways, you can brush it off and move on because that leaves you feeling awesome instead of shitty! no brainer right? -Question for you - if you see a party that you weren’t invited to- but some of your friends were- are you offended? Or do you look at all sides of it? -Also- put space between you and people who make you feel offended! A big part of this is believing people when they show you who they are. And then adjust your relationship if you need to. If you are close to someone who is constantly offending you… do you need to do some inner work so you aren’t taking things offensively OR do you need to put a little distance between you and them? -Here’s the thing- I know that I wake up everyday and do my best to be a kind and considerate human and just do the best I can with everything I do. I make mistakes and miss the mark sometimes but I know that I’m an awesome person at my core. -2 ways we often feel offended…. 1. --Someone is directly rude or hurtful --Something happens and we create a story about it that may or may not be true. -It’s rarely about you! Almost nothing is actually personal. -When someone is someone being critical of you or is hurtful or talks down to you… It is often about them! -They could be feeling vulnerable or insecure or unhappy or jealous…. When people are struggling they often try to boost themselves up by putting you down. They are taking their stuff out on you. -You’ve probably heard the saying… Only hurt people, hurt people. -When we feel good about ourselves, we don’t go around trying to belittle others or be mean. It’s usually when people are hurting themselves. -Be able to ask yourself… is there any truth to this? Take a second and ask yourself if you did something that came across in that way? Be mature and not defensive… even if their delivery sucked. Maybe you’ll be like ok… I could have handled that a bit better- I see how it could have been taken like that. Or not, and then you let it go. -The KEY to mastering this… is knowing yourself. Be self aware! I know myself well and this isn’t aligned. Final on how not to be offended: 1. Practice empathy! Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to understand their perspective. 2. Laugh it off! Being able to laugh at yourself and the world around you can help you see the lighter side of things and not take things so seriously. 3. Let it go! Holding onto grudges and resentments can be exhausting and can make it easier for you to feel offended. Try to let go of negative emotions and focus on the positive aspects of your life. 4. Communicate! In an open and honest way! If something someone says or does bothers you, it's important to communicate your feelings in a constructive way. By expressing yourself in a respectful and honest manner, you can help prevent misunderstandings and build stronger relationships. 5. Be super self-aware! This can help you recognize when you are feeling offended and why. What truth is here? What do I need to let go of? It’s a serious superpower and leads to happier days, weeks and months! CHEERS TO FEELING LIGHTER & HAPPIER BY NOT GETTING EASILY OFFENDED!
Today on the podcast is our real life lifesaver. Karina, the ICU nurse that did life saving CPR on my husband when he went into cardiac arrest 10 months ago at Hoag Hospital. If it wasn’t for Karina showing up and giving everything that she had that day and being so great at what she does… the outcome could have been different. It’s crazy because Craig had the most severe type of cardiac arrest- called VFIB and had no pulse pretty much immediately so he was in the absolute best place he could have been for this to happen. And it all happened SO FAST. In this episode, Karina and I talk about that day and what it was like from her perspective. How she remembers seeing me in the hallway screaming for help and how she was surprised that Craig was so blue in color, so quickly. I ask her all the questions about what it is like to have such a heavy job and how you can work through the trama that you experience and still go out in the world and be happy. There were so many incredible doctors and nurses that helped us over this 2 week period through operations and set-backs and organs failing and all the things that come with it. You just can’t express your gratitude in words. But man, I try! There are so many cool lessons and takeaways from this conversation. And I’m just honestly so grateful for the opportunity to get to know Karina and spotlight her as the true hero that she is. Key points: -If someone you love needs your help medically, whether it is an emergency or something urgent or more long term, you have to be tough and think of yourself as their quarterback. -If there weren’t brave people like her - willing to put themselves in this extreme situation to see the most traumatizing things that can happen to humans, over and over, and still show up and go to therapy and work through it so they can keep helping people is amazing. Here are some of the questions that Lindsay asks her… -First up, I’d love to understand how it works with you and your team. The day you changed our lives, I was holding my husbands hand in the ICU when he went into cardiac arrest. The nurse that was in the room and I yelled for help before the monitors were going off. Then I heard CODE BLUE through the hospital speaker. I was like oh my god that’s for us. How do you guys get notified to respond and are you stationed in the ICU? -How do you decide who does what in your team? -Do you have an idea of the medical condition of most patients or are you sort of walking into the crisis and have to be briefed real quick? -What do you remember from the day with Craig? I know you have such busy days and crazy stories all the time I’m sure. Just curious as to what his situation was like from your perspective. -I can’t imagine the weight that comes from your job. You seem to have a happy and full life with family and friends… traveling and doing lots of fun things. Is it hard to get that mental headspace sometimes with the weight of your job? -How has it changed you? Does it make you afraid to do things for example because you see accidents or does it make you more emotional or more tough than most people? -Do you see yourself being in this role or a similar role for a long time? If not, what else would you like to do? -How often do you get to hear how the good stories turn out? The people that go on and live and thrive because of the work that you do? Do you hear about enough of that to balance out the sadness of what you also must experience? Ping Lindsay on IG with any questions you have after listening to this episode. @LindsaysCloud CHEERS TO OUR REAL LIFE LIFESAVER!
This is a little wake-up, shake-up podcast about living the life that makes you feel the most alive. That means… getting out of auto pilot for some parts of your life and changing things up. Really looking at what you’re doing each day and how you’re spending your time. What makes you feel most alive and what makes you feel most drained? We have way more control than we think we do about how we design our lives. Now, different people in different circumstances have obstacles to overcome or a path that’s just harder than other people to get there. But, you are in control. You can change your perspective. You can change your situation. If you’re not waking up most days, really jazzed about the day and what you’re about to do… it’s time to shake things up. Because we’re not here to have regrets at age 90. When you’re out of balance, and you’re going through the motions and you aren’t really LIVING for the majority of your days… I have a reset hack for you. A few things that Lindsay talks about: -Let’s decide today is going to be a shake up day. -If you are in a rut or overwhelmed or underwhelmed…. We need to interrupt your patterns and automatic nature of how you go through your day. -I joke that my least favorite word is “fine” because it’s so neutral. I’d rather be mad than fine. At least there is some emotion there. -In my life, I feel like this when I’m in the car too much - driving my kids all over. I personally don’t feel alive on the freeway. When there is too much of it, I know I need to adjust before I feel like my days are just on repeat and where do the hours even go. -I have friends that I know have the same feelings about their corporate job. Sometimes it happens in marriage or if you’re at college and not pursuing what you want. Or maybe you have decided you didn’t make the choices you wanted and now you are past the time to make those choices - I’m just a big believer in - the right time is NOW and it’s never really actually too late to start the thing. Whatever it is. -I’m going to share quotes from some of my favorite people on this topic at the end. -But for me, I need a hack. Something that I can do when I start to feel like this. So here it is for this! -Lyrics to one of my favorite songs… Living by Dierks Bentley Some days you just breath in Just try to break even Sometimes your heart's Poundin' out of your chest Sometimes it's just beatin' Some days you just forget What all you've been given Some days you just get back Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' Some days you're livin' Like you never die Blue's a little bluer up in the sky You're high's a little high You feel that fire you've been missing Some days you're living It'a beautiful world sometimes I don't see so clear Some days you start singin' And you don't need a reason Sometimes the world's just right Your clear eyes ain't even blinkin' Got a heart full of grateful For all you've been given Some days you just get by Yeah, some days you're just alive Some days you're livin' (ooh) mm hmm Some days you're livin' (ooh) yeah Livin' like you'll never die -Take yourself out of the day to day and look at your life as if you were a drone. Get out of your own head and world and look at your days and life and see what’s working and what’s off. -We all have small moments like this - and sometimes bigger life shake up moments when we feel like we’ve taken the wrong path. -Make a list - brain dump! -Episode 210 is about losing numbing habits- essential listen after this one! Mel Robbins talks about… every day when you wake up - you decide who you’re going to be. -And I think, the lens you are going to see things through. -If you don’t decide who you are going to be, your habits, your old patterns and the stress of the day will decide for you. -You take control of the day and of your life when you set your intention for the day. -Every day you get to wake up who you’re going to be and what you’re going to do. -It’s the first step in taking control and deciding who you are going to be today. -We have to believe in a future that we can’t experience yet -But you have thought about enough so you can see it in your mind -You have to think about it enough to where it starts to feel real -It’s easier to stay comfortable than get uncomfortable -It’s easier to stay with what you know because you don’t know what’s around the corner - that’s why some change is so hard. Dr. Joe Dispenza quotes: -"The biggest barrier to change is our own limiting beliefs.” -"You have the power to create the life you want. You just have to believe it's possible.” -"Your thoughts and emotions create your reality. So if you want to create a better reality, you need to start with your thoughts and emotions.” -"Your personality creates your personal reality. Your personality is made up of how you think, act, and feel. So if you want to change your personal reality, you need to change your personality." Mel Robbins quotes: -"The only thing standing between you and the life you want is the story you keep telling yourself that you can't have it.” -"It's not about being fearless, it's about acting in spite of fear.” -"You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are a product of your choices.” -"Your life is happening right now. Make it amazing!"
I’m adding in more entrepreneur podcast episodes because I think - aside from all the other stuff we talk about on this podcast - protecting your happy headspace and moving your body, getting sunlight, plenty of sleep and nutrition… making more money can positively change your life because you get life freedom which equals happiness. So today, we’re talking about my favorite type of money to make- mailbox money. Because you work really hard for a period of time on a project, then.. you let it fly and get paid- usually for a long time if not forever. Mailbox money is term to describe passive income meaning you aren’t trading your time for money. Which is the smartest way to do it - hence my favorite. There are lots of ways to make passive income - from real estate investments or rental properties… but in this podcast, we are focusing ways that you can make passive income - without a big investment and that you can do from home. You don’t have to have a business background or a certain degree… you just have to have a great idea and the willingness to work hard and keep doing the hard things over and over until they work. We’re talking specifically about selling digital products and affiliate marketing. Which are so much more exciting than they sound! -Here are a few things Lindsay talks about in this podcast! What are digital products? Things like online courses, digital downloads, e-books -So you take something that you know really well, something you are an expert on, and create a digital something that people can buy to learn more. You just have to be a few steps beyond other people! What are you great at? What could you teach? Could be something you spent 10 years learning- or something you just know really well. -The best and most successful ones are ones where you can identify your audience, so you can maximize people who are searching for it - and use Google Adwords to target them, in addition to social media. And ones that are a specific niche work great- you don’t want to be too broad. -And! Affiliate marketing links! Like To Know it/ Reward Style Amazon Affiliates -Link anything on the internet and get paid! -It takes time to build but it’s long game -Some of this is straight passive income - like you do a blog post and post it and then it lives on - but other things are mostly passive income as I call it - where you remind people about it and post on it and it. You’r working smart and getting commission on things you recommend to people. -Think about who you follow and why. Who you follow that if they post something - you’re likely to buy it! -Find your own angle! -Here’s why I’m so excited about the things. My team and I have created a blueprint and we’ve used it to help build lifestyle brands for the women that I mentor and let me tell you - it is FIRE! And it works in all industries. Once I saw this working I was like whoa I need to really set this up so women can see what’s possible. I do a 3 month lifestyle brand building package where we do it like this - (And you could do this yourself too!) 1st month- Start podcast Create a website 2nd month- Create online course Set-up affiliate marketing 3rd month- Create media deck Create social media strategy Professional signatures for emails Email templates for reach out -This all builds your lifestyle brand- to do whatever you want with. -Use a podcast to drive interest! -Another podcast episode coming soon all about how to make money from a podcast specifically. Another topic I love! To work with Lindsay and her team- check out www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Or email Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Or ping her on insta @LindsaysCloud CHEERS TO MAKING AWESOME MAILBOX MONEY!
Today, I’m sharing all the best tips for when you are headed to the theme parks in Florida. We just got back from a week in Orlando and I learned so many things about the parks and the area and the hotels…. I’m so excited to share. Whether you have a trip coming up, or you’re thinking about going to Orlando, this podcast episode has all the info you need to know. We’re talking rides, food, heat, timing, planning, clothing, strollers and more. The Universal parks and the Disney parks… Universal City Walk and Disney Springs… so much FUN to get into- let’s go!
How To Be Awesome At Doing The Hard Thing Consistently.. oftentimes without seeing results or many results… but continuing to do it anyway. It’s what I think is actually the secret to being successful at most things. Most people try the thing - whatever that is - sending sales emails, lifting weights, eating healthy, starting a side business, tuning out anything negative, losing weight… but don’t keep going it long enough. First we need to make sure the goal is the right goal for you. After that, we’re set… we just have to keep doing the things, over and over, that we know will get us there. To be able to have a very clear focus on what needs to be done and have the mental toughness to not quit when you don’t see immediate results. Here’s how you do it - you set-up a system to focus on and enjoy the process rather than focus on the end goal of trophy or reward. Today’s podcast is all about how to consistently do the hard things. Because here’s the thing - if you commit and really give full effort and do it long enough - it would be completely unrealistic to not see progress and growth. I’m telling you the secret sauce in getting what you want is doing the hard thing over and over and over again, even when you don’t see results yet. It’s the ability to avoid distraction, ignore outside noise, delay gratification and keep doing the hard things required to make awesome things happen. I’ve worked with so many very successful entrepreneurs and now I’m having daily calls with women who are really building and growing and progressing personally and professionally and the common denominator is not an intense early morning routine or inherited money to invest or a high level academic education. While those can sometimes be a factor, it’s more the ability of these women to wake up and keep doing the hard thing. Same goes with fitness or lifting weights. For most of us, it takes so damn long to see results. So it’s not easy to keep going. It’s hard to do hard things without seeing or feeling the reward as soon as we want. Here are some of the key points Lindsay talks about in this episode: -Keep getting uncomfortable -Enjoy the process - even when it’s painful -Realize that it would be unrealistic to think you won’t see change and progress if you keep going. Most people quit before they even have a chance. -Head down, blinders on. Your opinion is the only one that matters right now and it doesn’t matter what other people are doing. -Listen to David Goggins and Andrew Huberman for more in depth on this -Expect discomfort and embrace it. It’s all about managing expectations. Goggins says “embrace the suck” -Create a solid plan -Build it into your schedule or routine -Decide and commit - there’s no decision to be made - just need to execute -Hold yourself accountable -Hard work becomes harder when you’re doing it for the result or reward or end goal -Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University -Andrew Huberman talks about a Stanford study - kids liked to draw and gave them a reward - like a sticker when they drew. Then they stopped giving them the sticker- then they were less likely to draw because they didnt get the reward anymore. When we receive rewards - or give ourselves rewards- we associate less pleasure to it. -According to Huberman, dopamine is released in response to experiences that are pleasurable or rewarding, such as eating delicious food or achieving a goal. Dopamine helps to reinforce these behaviors, making it more likely that we will repeat them in the future. -If you get a peak in dopamine from a reward - it lowers baseline -Makes you do it for the rewards -Growth Mindset - striving is the end goal - we are always growing- we never reach the destination - we are focused on the effort itself. -Learning to access the rewards from the EFFORT not the result. -Tell yourself - this effort is awesome -Forcing yourself to stick to a hard workout -You can evoke a dopamine release from the challenge you are in -If you are focused only on the goal - you enjoy the process less and makes it more painful -Dopamine increases the amount of energy we have and sharpness of mind -The feeling of effort is the mental reward. -Tell yourself- I know this doesn't feel good - but I love it. -In the moments of the biggest suck - this is painful and because it’s painful it will increase my baseline dopamine later - but also I know in this moment I am doing it by choice and because I love it. -David Goggins talks about turning the effort into the reward. -Allows you to stay focused and not get distracted. -Learning to spike dopamine from effort itself - not before or after is key! Cheers to all the hard things! And doing them over and over again!
Today we are talking about healthy grocery store shopping tips! So many thoughts and ideas for you on how to really shop for foods to make meals and snacks that fuel your body and give you energy and that are satisfying and delish to you. For so many years I would roam the grocery store not really knowing which items contained clean ingredients and were the highest quality without GMOs or MSG or seed oils or excessive sugar… some the things we want to avoid. I’ve invested so much time and money into getting my very non-formal education in nutrition and just overall mental and physical health and how what we put in our bodies, affects everything about us. Let’s pow wow about all things healthy at the grocery store! IDEAS! Do delivery!! This way you are intentional about what you get and don’t forget the essentials. Plus you spend less. When going in person or shopping online- think about shopping around the perimeter. Get a few go-to healthy meals that you cook each week so it is less overwhelming. Focus on protein! This is what fills you up and gives you energy! Lean proteins and healthy fats! Low sugar is key! No seed oils. For grains and breads! Use the Bobby Approved app. Learn to read labels. Consider food testing to see what you may be allergic or sensitive to. Buy organic when possible and avoid GMOs. Eggs & milk- organic and pasture raised Chicken- organic (pasture raised or free-range even better) Beef- organic and grass fed Fish- wild caught Track what makes you feel great and what makes you feel sluggish or bloated. Use the 80/20 rule! Life is to enjoy! Eat and drink and celebrate! 80% of the time clean, 20% less restricted and more of what you really feel like. Find healthy swaps to things you love - muffins or cookies. Eat at home more - eat out less. Bring your own dressings or desserts out with you. Don’t be embarrassed, it’s fun! Choosing healthy foods at the grocery store is the first step to eating healthier overall. You set yourself up to WIN and feel great doing it. No dieting, no going hungry… it’s a lifestyle of choosing foods that fuel your body and make you feel AWESOME!!
We spend a ton of time on this podcast talking about ignoring negativity, and avoiding toxic people.
But what about when you’re in a situation where someone targets you repeatedly. Maybe they are intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming. We’re talking about adult bullying. Something that 30% of adults say that they have experienced.
Lindsay is sharing the story about why she's recently done a deep dive into this and how one of her best friends was being bullied for so long and finally enough was enough and it was time for us, her friends, to stand up to her bully too.
We are likely to deal with some sort of adult bullying in our lives so we need strong strategies for how to deal with it.
This is an uplifting talk about standing up to people who try to push you around or shame you or are constantly condescending.
When to ignore them, when to confront them and ways to take control of the situation.
Nobody deserves to be bullied and even though we know it is usually a THEM problem not an US problem, we still have to deal with it. That’s what we’re hashing out today.
Lindsay explains that she is not an expert of course - but her job is to bring up topics she thinks are important to pause life and focus on.
This deep dive started because of one of Lindsay’s good friends being bullied by an adult - for a long time. It came to a point where enough is enough.
Here are some of the things that Lindsay talks about:
-Examples of bullies:
Colleague
Boss
Neighbor
Family member
Someone in your social circle
Bullying can come in many forms!
-someone who targets you repeatedly
-someone who to be intimidating or controlling, unruly or condescending or shaming.
-Keep your distance from bullies
Avoid engagement unless you have to
Avoid it if you can, sometimes they will just stop or go away
-Don’t react!
Ignore them 3 times and they will stop
They are trying to push your buttons
They get the advantage when you react and lose your cool
90% of bullying stops if you don’t react to them 3 times in a row
You are feeding them if you react. That’s the whole point- that’s what they want.
-Take your insecurities and get comfortable with them.
If someone or people try to pick on you about specific things.
It takes the power away from people who try to bully you.
What can you change?
What can you not change but you can change how you think about it?
Maybe I’m not in the financial place I want to be now but life is long and I’m on my way.
You might have the insecurities your whole life so you might as well deal with them now. If it’s
Ya I’m not the smartest at that … or the best at that skill… but I am really good at a lot of other things.
Become secure in what you are not secure with.
-Write it down!
Even if you never need it or use it!
It can be beneficial in SO MANY ways.
Especially if it’s a family member - journalling what happened and when and how you felt will help you track the problem over time.
And worst case if you need to report it to a supervisor or HR or the police.
Start a journal just for this. There is no downside.
Don’t leave it out - keep it secure. Pop emails or screenshots in a folder if needed.
They can make you feel crazy- you will see all your evidence and history. No mind manipulation here.
-If you need to stand up to them- be assertive
If you must interact, be strong and assertive.
If you must interact with them regularly, make sure you are the one that sets the tone of the relationship.
-Set-up consequences
If it’s a situation that works for this, set boundaries.
This works mainly with friends or family.
This behavior is not acceptable, if it continues, you will not be welcome in our circle.
-Master things that give you confidence to give you control
--Don’t be shitty because someone else was!
Don’t get even
Because then you are acting shitty like them
And then you can become a bully
-Personal strength and confidence - TED TALK
Kevin Ward
It is the true safe space.
Because you can take that everywhere.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_4uB-j-zgQ
CHEERS to protecting your headspace and not letting adult bullies in!!
Lindsay talks about how she talks to people all the time within her consulting program that want to start a business and they have this great idea but they feel like they don’t know where to start. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed or to doubt yourself, and before you know it, you’ve had this idea that you’ve done nothing with for months or years. If you have an idea for a business or side business, this podcast is for you! And to be honest, we think in the world we are living in now, we all should! There are so many ways you can make a career or side money from a business you start from home. That’s what we are diving into today! We have the BEST layout for how to overcome the hurdles and get moving towards starting your new project. Here are some of the tips Lindsay goes over: -Clearly define what you want to do. Don’t dabble, don’t try to do many things. Commit that this is the season of this project. -Learn everything there is to know about it. Become an expert. -Find other people who have gone down a similar path and map out how this could look for you. Look for people who are just a few steps ahead of where you are and use that as inspiration. -Make the complicated not so complicated. -Believe with hard work and consistency, you can do. It might take 2 years when you want it to take 2 months, but you will get there. -Wake up and eat the frog. Do one hard or big thing FIRST thing in the day. Don’t start being reactive to your emails or what people need from you. Get up, now your priorities and execute. -Eliminate negativity and noise. It doesn’t serve you. We are not in the business of taking criticism from people who are watching from the stands while we are out on the field. For more information on working with Lindsay, please visit ww.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com CHEERS to starting your new AWESOME project!
When was the last time you said…. my goal today is to have FUN! Even on days when you aren’t going out for your perfect day or on vacation. On normal, ordinary days… making it a priority to have fun. If you’re anything like me… it can be very easy to get hyper focused on to do lists and goals… which I also think is very important.. but if having FUN isn’t a high priority in your daily life, it’s easy to wrap up the day or the week or even the month, without having very many fun moments. I have 2 TOP 3 lists that I write down each morning after I brush my teeth. What 3 things do I want to get done today? And what 3 feelings are a priority today? And fun is heavy in the rotation. In this episode we are talking all about how you can insert FUN into your days and especially on your weekends. We are talking about when FUN is a priority, you have way more of it. -Realizing we don’t have to wait for our favorite holiday or a special party to have a really good laugh or a super fun day. -You have to make it a priority! -Do more things that you love! -With people you love to do them with! -When you have fun as a priority in your mind, you think to stop in an ordinary moment. -When you’re scrolling online, look for creative things to do! Ways to be adventurous! -Try new foods. -Get outside and explore new places. -Spend lots of time with the most fun people you know. -Say YES to things you might normally say NO to. -Don’t WAIT for fun! It’s often not as fun as you think it will be anyway! -The most fun often happens in the spontaneous and unplanned moments. -Don’t let age stop you! You can do a version of any activity at any age. -Play is essential! -Switch up your routine. -Smile more. -Leave time to be spontaneous -Put something on your calendar each month that you wouldn’t normally do. -Do things you would normally watch. -See a comedy show. -Dance. -Make plans so you have options! Dinner and movies and adventures. Lots of plans then flexible! -TIME is the one thing that we can never get back. Not in a negative way- in a super positive one! CHEERS to having more FUN!!
How To Be Awesome At Seeing The Best In People You know when you react badly to something or you’re just in a funk and say something that comes out totally rude… And the person that you’re interacting with gives you a pass. Like just tells you - I get, totally ok. And you’re just so relieved and feel the stress of it escaping your body. It is a great thing to do for someone else. Now we aren’t talking about letting people walk on us or forgiving everything right away, we are talking about understanding that we don’t always know all the things that someone else is going through. And to be able to be compassionate and understanding is an awesome thing. To be able to ignore things that don’t matter or let go of a rude comment that was said and see the best in people. There is so much good that comes from it- for what you put out in the world and how you make other people feel… but also for controlling the amount of stress that you let into your world. The goal of this podcast is to set you up to see the best in people. So you’re a bit more understanding, give people a pass, and control the headspace that you live in. Often times our culture sets us up to attack people if they say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing . This podcast is the opposite, it’s about focusing on the very best in people. And know you don’t know the rocks in their shoes. Even if it’s not what feels natural that’s the best part. -You find what you are looking for. If you’re looking for something to complain about, you’ll find. -The lens you put on when you leave the house is the way you see things. -Give people a pass, you never know what they are going through. -You have the power to forgive someone or react in a way that is unexpected. -You control if something gets you fired up. -Rather than light someone up, why not forgive them, THEN adjust how you interact with them in the future. -Gary Vee says.. Being nice is always ROI positive Being abrasive can win in the sort term, but not in the long term. -Guess what? Things travel so much faster than they used to. 20 years ago, if you were a jerk in San Diego, you could move to San Francisco and start over. Now, it follows us. -Don’t be less of a person because someone else was. -As you push yourself to be a better human being, better things start happening to you. -The next time you’re in a situation where you’re like how do I react to this situation? Lean into seeing the best in people. Know you likely don’t know the full story and it’s always better to come in with understanding and compassion. CHEERS to being awesome at seeing the best in people!
This episode is filled with 40 awesome ideas of things to do to celebrate LOVE and Valentine’s Day this year.
I’m breaking them down into 4 categories to make it so easy. Things to do with your romantic partner, things to do with your girlfriends, things to do with your kids and things to do at school in your kids classes.
The goal of this podcast is to give you ideas to make special moments with your people that aren’t too complicated and aren’t cheesy… but special and memorable and all about love.
This is your go-to guide this year for all things love and romance around Valentine’s Day!
SO MANY AWESOME ideas to celebrate LOVE and Valentine’s Day!!
When I was looking up ideas for new things to do this year, everything was soooo cheeeessyyy.
Like I want ideas that will be fun and create the best memories!
Romantic
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Adventure - hike, horseback ride, hot air balloon - something you’ve never done, or somewhere you’ve never done it -make sure it sounds fun for each person
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24 hours in a new city that you’ve never been
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Find a new restaurant with a tasting menu for a special meal (maybe wine or drink pairing too) or tequila or wine tasting then dinner!
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Set-up a private dinner for 2 at home where you wouldn’t usually or ask a restaurant to do it for you.
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One day- one favorite thing you each like to do as a date. Can be extremes like couples massage and shooting range or tequila tasting or yoga class.
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Go to dinner, decide one thing you each want to go this year just the 2 of you and book it that night. Go to a concert, overnight to Vegas to see a show, whatever it is.
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Catch the sunset somewhere cool that you wouldn’t normally.
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At home massages and dinner.
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Make your room soooo romantic with a ton of candles - can add roses - but just lighting and candles makes your room 100% different
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Have a candy / drink / treat taste off
With Girlfriends
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Cooking class - Sur La Table or Williams Sonoma has great ones!
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White elephant gift exchange
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Have your group print a bunch of photos of you guys, and bring frames and do a girls party to make frames or photo books. Can bring Ikea frames or do books and bring stickers.
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Order matching heart jammies
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Take a class or bring an instructor in! Dance, yoga, or learn a new skill like pottery or paint class!
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Make charcuterie board - or learn how to! Have everyone bring supplies and have fun learning how to put them together. Do one big sweet and one big savory!
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Fill out self love books about yourselves together
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Make flower bouquets
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Decorate full size cakes
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Everyone bring something they LOVE for each girl attending - set a price limit depending on how many girls to make it reasonable
With Kids
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Scavenger hunt
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A few days ahead have everyone in the family write down something they would love to do - that’s an hour or less. And dash to all of then on Vday.
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Create a jar that everyone puts things in to do over the next few weeks - loving things.
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Game night with prizes!
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Family valentine’s puzzle
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Baking/ cookie decorating
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Make a family love scrapbook
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Everyone make a love theme dish for dinner or dessert. Vote and winners pick prizes.
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Take a Valentine’s themed cooking class
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Hire a teppan chef to come to your house!
Class party/ activity ideas
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White elephant gift exchange
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Valentine’s Day card craft set-up
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Cookie or cupcake decorating or strawberry shortcake making
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Make boxes for valentine’s gift exchange
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Valentine’s bingo
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Take pictures of the kids, buy target or Ikea frames, put pictures inside and kids decorate with puffy heart stickers- best gift or take home item!
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Make a punch board with prizes inside
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Musical hearts instead of musical chairs
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Printables! Word searches, games, quizzes.. Pinterest has endless options. Also - target dollar section can be a great start to an idea!
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LOVE for teachers! Have kids make little love notes and put together books for the teachers!
CHEERS!! To your most AWESOME Valentine’s Day with the people you LOVE!
Once a year I re-read the best habits book there ever was, Atomic Habits, and always have new take aways. I’m so inspired and motivated by the way James Clear takes the concept of BIG GOALS and breaks them down into habits. We are going to be hyper focused on our daily habits more than our long term goals. Now the goals are the North Star, but the daily habits are what are what moves the needle - so that’s where we put our attention. By getting clear on what is important to us, it becomes easy to ask ourselves.. What would a person like this do? If you want to be a person who avoids distractions - ask yourself, what would a focused person do to avoid distractions right now? If you want to save money, what would a person who wants to spend less do? If you want to lose weight, what would a healthy person choose right now? It’s SO MUCH easier than having these massive goals you try to keep your eye on. Instead, decide the type of person you want to be in different aspects of your life and set-up your daily habits and make decisions based on this. It’s genius!! -I just read Atomic Habits again and have two HUGE take aways to share with you. First, James Clear is a genius when it comes to habits and he breaks it down so it’s so useable. He also sites lots of other experts and says most of these ideas aren’t even uniquely his- he’s just putting them altogether so we can make the best plan. 2 things…. 1. I want to be the type of person who What would a person who is _______ do right now? Or do today? RATHER than the big goals… How do I want to spend my days? What type of person do I want to be? Rather than I want to lose 40 pounds - it’s I want to be the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts. GOALS- we set unrealistic goals - we set arbitrary targets then we get bummed when we don’t hit them. Goals can play with our minds!! That’s why we think… what type of person do I want to be… and are my actions supporting this? What would a healthy person do? 2. HABITS over goals Write down your overall goals then have your habits check lists for the day. Small things you do everyday. Increase sales - make 100 calls a day. ACTION! Optimal health Optimal fitness Romantic relationship with your spouse Write a book Run 500 miles this year Have close relationships with girlfriends And then plan in the habits on the daily that support these things. I realized last year I had a few BIG GOALS in my ideas book- but to be honest - they sat there. I never made forward motion on it. It was like this big goal that I was going to get to- but never did. It’s often not these HUGE big life moments that move the needle. It’s all the little things When I decided I wanted to get my sunless tanning line into the major retailers - every. Single. Day. I reached out to the decision makers. I made movement in the form of a habit towards the big goal. So the goal wasn’t this big scary thing - it was a target - but that’s not what we want to focus on - we want to focus on what we are going to do on the daily to support it. SEASONS- James Clear talks about seasons. Some seasons When your seasons shift, your habits need to shift too. If you have kids, things change. How do you perform at a high level under a new set of circumstances? Sometimes things need a restructure. All of this also helps you figure out What are you optimizing for? Is this REALLY what you want? Or society or what other people want for you? *Will my current habits get me there? How am I contributing to the situation that I say I don’t want? Example: Most of life is in your control! Luck and randomness and misfortune play into it. But we influence the situation more than we often realize. What season am I in right now? Sometimes we outgrow seasons, sometimes we move on and need to realize that. Maybe it’s going out to bars and drinking a few times a week. Maybe it served you for a time and no need to feel badly about it. But maybe this is a new season to focus on other things. Do I need to spend more time researching what I need to do? Better info? OR do I need to spend more time acting on the info I have? Is the bottleneck strategy or execution? **The question is not will I succeed? The question is what should I attempt? TRY BIG THINGS We can talk ourselves out of trying things that are worth attempting. People often talk themselves out of things before they should. We are usually the bottle neck before the world tells us it’s not working. There is rarely no small action to take - there is always something else you can try. We talk ourselves out of it. Try to not be your own bottleneck. CHEERS!! To planning your small daily habits to make BIG strides towards your BIG goals!!
Once a year I re-read the best habits book there ever was, Atomic Habits, and always have new take aways. I’m so inspired and motivated by the way James Clear takes the concept of BIG GOALS and breaks them down into habits. We are going to be hyper focused on our daily habits more than our long term goals. Now the goals are the North Star, but the daily habits are what are what moves the needle - so that’s where we put our attention. By getting clear on what is important to us, it becomes easy to ask ourselves.. What would a person like this do? If you want to be a person who avoids distractions - ask yourself, what would a focused person do to avoid distractions right now? If you want to save money, what would a person who wants to spend less do? If you want to lose weight, what would a healthy person choose right now? It’s SO MUCH easier than having these massive goals you try to keep your eye on. Instead, decide the type of person you want to be in different aspects of your life and set-up your daily habits and make decisions based on this. It’s genius!! -I just read Atomic Habits again and have two HUGE take aways to share with you. First, James Clear is a genius when it comes to habits and he breaks it down so it’s so useable. He also sites lots of other experts and says most of these ideas aren’t even uniquely his- he’s just putting them altogether so we can make the best plan. 2 things…. 1. I want to be the type of person who What would a person who is _______ do right now? Or do today? RATHER than the big goals… How do I want to spend my days? What type of person do I want to be? Rather than I want to lose 40 pounds - it’s I want to be the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts. GOALS- we set unrealistic goals - we set arbitrary targets then we get bummed when we don’t hit them. Goals can play with our minds!! That’s why we think… what type of person do I want to be… and are my actions supporting this? What would a healthy person do? 2. HABITS over goals Write down your overall goals then have your habits check lists for the day. Small things you do everyday. Increase sales - make 100 calls a day. ACTION! Optimal health Optimal fitness Romantic relationship with your spouse Write a book Run 500 miles this year Have close relationships with girlfriends And then plan in the habits on the daily that support these things. I realized last year I had a few BIG GOALS in my ideas book- but to be honest - they sat there. I never made forward motion on it. It was like this big goal that I was going to get to- but never did. It’s often not these HUGE big life moments that move the needle. It’s all the little things When I decided I wanted to get my sunless tanning line into the major retailers - every. Single. Day. I reached out to the decision makers. I made movement in the form of a habit towards the big goal. So the goal wasn’t this big scary thing - it was a target - but that’s not what we want to focus on - we want to focus on what we are going to do on the daily to support it. SEASONS- James Clear talks about seasons. Some seasons When your seasons shift, your habits need to shift too. If you have kids, things change. How do you perform at a high level under a new set of circumstances? Sometimes things need a restructure. All of this also helps you figure out What are you optimizing for? Is this REALLY what you want? Or society or what other people want for you? *Will my current habits get me there? How am I contributing to the situation that I say I don’t want? Example: Most of life is in your control! Luck and randomness and misfortune play into it. But we influence the situation more than we often realize. What season am I in right now? Sometimes we outgrow seasons, sometimes we move on and need to realize that. Maybe it’s going out to bars and drinking a few times a week. Maybe it served you for a time and no need to feel badly about it. But maybe this is a new season to focus on other things. Do I need to spend more time researching what I need to do? Better info? OR do I need to spend more time acting on the info I have? Is the bottleneck strategy or execution? **The question is not will I succeed? The question is what should I attempt? TRY BIG THINGS We can talk ourselves out of trying things that are worth attempting. People often talk themselves out of things before they should. We are usually the bottle neck before the world tells us it’s not working. There is rarely no small action to take - there is always something else you can try. We talk ourselves out of it. Try to not be your own bottleneck. CHEERS!! To planning your small daily habits to make BIG strides towards your BIG goals!!
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This is not a resolution podcast episode - it’s the opposite. It’s your road map for planning a 2023 where you live life FULLY. More of whatever you want and less of what you don’t want. More money, more self care, more freedom with your time, more adventures, more focus on health… Maybe it’s less time spent in the car or under fluorescent lights, less time being resentful or holding onto something, less time with people who don’t make you feel your best… Whatever it is that you want more of and less of in 2023, we are designing a road map today to get there. Because we know… it’s rarely the big actions that move the needle, it’s the small things we do everyday over and over, even when you don’t feel like it. Success is relentless execution. Every year we are older and wiser so let’s lean into what we really want this year, and work backyards and make a plan to get there. Here are some key points Lindsay makes: -3 questions How do you want to feel? What are your peak experiences thus far? What do you love? -Put things on your plate with the people you want to do them with -Let's make a plan and work backwards -Make money in a new way -Put things on your calendar that you wouldn’t normally do Take a cooking class Learn a new type of fitness -Spend 18 minutes a day on something you want to be good at At the end of a year that’s 100 hours - and that’s what it takes to be significantly good at something new -One big challenge for the year -Prioritize health -Eliminate the stuff you dont need -Prioritize your time -Prioritize the things that fill you up Your 10s!! Make sure you get a few 10s everyday. -Make sure you do things that you love -Get uncomfortable and say yes to things that you would normally say no to -Do things instead of watching them! CHEERS TO YOUR MOST AWESOME 2023!!
I hesitate to do podcast episodes on certain topics because there are experts that are far more wise and on these topics and can explain it in great detail… but here’s the thing. The point of this podcast is to bring up topics that I think will make you and your life more awesome.
Today’s episode is one of those. I think that for most people, if you increase the amount of protein you intake, you will feel more awesome, in lots of ways.
Sleep better, feel more satisfied and have more energy!
I really believe that high quality protein intake is a total superpower.
If you don’t make any other change to your diet- just add more protein- ideally 30 grams per meal- you will feel more satisfied, eat less junk, have more regulated blood sugar levels and build more muscle.
Again, I’m not an expert, but I read and listen to a lot of them. And today, I’m sharing all the best tips on how to actually eat enough protein.
Throughout my 20 year journey as an entrepreneur, I’ve seen more growth, progress and profits from one project, than any other. If you are looking to take your business or your life to the next level, I think you should start a podcast. And here’s why… If you do it right, the logistics are simple and it’s so fulfilling and rewarding and inspiring. And it is a long term strategy for whatever you want more of in your life. Being the host of your own podcast is like writing a book, it makes you an expert on your topic. Whether you want to start a lifestyle brand or generate more sales something you already have going on, or maybe you have no idea where you would want the podcast to go, but you know what you would be awesome talking about. Yes, let’s do that! First, I’m going to jump inside your head and give rebuttals to all the things that would stop you from starting. Aren’t there already too many podcasts? Am I late to the game? Would anyone even listen? Guess what- everyone who’s ever started a podcast has thought those same things- and then did it anyway. In this episode I’m going to explain why I think you should have your own podcast, the benefits it can bring to your life, how we can make the steps simple so it doesn’t seem impossible to start, and how it can make you money. I am sharing how to start your own podcast!! Do it now - you will wish you did in 2 years. -Complexity kills execution!! Let’s make it simple! -If you have no idea where you want to go.. It puts you out there!! -I’ve helped a few women that I mentor start podcasts and I”m telling you - it is the next level move. I’ll tell you more about what this led to at the end but I’m telling you everything you need to know here. And I’m starting a group to do it together. -Breaking through all the reasons you tell yourself why you can’t do it or why you shouldn’t. Aren’t there already too many podcasts? Am I late to the game? Would anyone even listen? STEPS! 1. To record Set-up a free account on Zencaster! 1. Planning your podcast Brain dump! Podcast titles, ideas and topics for episodes 2. Recording Use Zencaster This is the format I use 3. You need a professional voiceover person! Have them do your pro intro and exit Blend that in. I use www.Fiverr.com to find talent! 4. Editing I used to pay $150 an hour And I have friends who rent studios I pay $35 per episode! Or you can do it yourself in GarageBand or another similar one. Email Audrey! audreyruvalcaba@gmail.com 5. Publishing On all podcast platforms and on your website Dont have one? Start one! I like Shopify best! 6. Launching It can take some time for it to be approved through Libson Contact them and set it up ahead of time 7. How to get people to listen Be on other peoples podcasts 8. How To Make It Your Favorite Thing Do it in a way that sets your soul on fire and you connect with people you wouldn’t otherwise 9. Making money! Sponsored episodes Make yourself a media deck Start a lifestyle brand and use affiliate links to make commissions Use it to provide value over and over and over (asking for nothing) then tell about what you have to sell. LINKS to things Lindsay mentions in this podcast: Microphone: https://amzn.to/3Huyjfl Adaptor (if you need it): https://amzn.to/3F7Vs4p Voiceover talent: www.Fiverr.com Podcast Recording: (use Chrome) www.Zencaster.com Podcast Hosting: https://libsyn.com/ Online Course & 6 week Coaching Group https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses PING me when you start your own podcast and I will post in my IG stories!! @LindsaysCloud on IG! CHEERS to YOUR podcast!!
Today I’m interviewing a few of the women that I mentor in business. They are each so interesting and have achieved a level of business and personal success… but are striving for more. More progress, new projects, more profits, greater personal fulfillment. All the good stuff.
We’re talking about their journey in business and the work we are doing together.
Mentoring women in business sets my soul on fire. I haven’t worked this many hours a week since I started my business 20 years ago but I love it. It’s so much fun and so fulfilling to see the progress we can make together.
Grab a snack, we’re chatting with some really awesome women today.
LINKS from today’s episode!
Listen to Nora’s podcast here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/upside-down-entrepreneurship/id1655978544
And follow Nora on IG here:
https://www.instagram.com/nora.farhat/?hl=en
Listen to Emme’s podcast here:
https://emmediane.com/blogs/skin-theory-podcast
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https://www.instagram.com/emmediane/?hl=en
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Thanks for listening!!
If you would like to get more done and reach your goals faster, this podcast is for you!
I’m obsessed with being efficient and maximizing time and getting things done in a week, that would normally take a month.
We’re talking about strategies that will help you shift the way you do things. So you spend less time “planning” to do something, and get right into actually doing it.
In my years of running my company and also being present for my kids and family, I had to learn how to crunch every hour of the day and be as productive as possible. It’s all about your ability to avoid distraction, simplify the process and execute.
These concepts can be applied to all parts of business and in life too. It’s about being very strategic with your productive hours and keeping the momentum going.
We’re talking about how to master your time on the daily.
STRATEGIES!
-Learn, then execute!
-Simplify! We make things too complicated!
-Do the hard things first.
-Tackle the plan.
-Don’t allow distractions.
-Don’t allow yourself to take time “planning”
-MOMENTUM- speed moves things forward.
-Think of things by day instead of by week.
-Don’t make things too complicated.
-Decide and move, you can always pivot later.
-Stop “planning” to do something and start doing it.
-People say to me… I’ve been planning to build a website.
Here’s the thing- with templates and programs now… you can learn what you need to know in one full day. And build it in 2 more days. In 3 full days you have a complete website.
-People take months or YEARS to build a website.
I need a designer, I don’t have the money, I’m not good at tech… ALL invisible HURDLES. They just slow you down. That’s all they do!
-Valuing your time is everything. Is this worth my time? How can I be more efficient with this?
-The micro - the speed of activity
-At the end of the year they have 40x the output.
-It’s micro mastery of your time
-Imagine that the default time to get things done is a week
-But let’s say the new default is end of day. That’s the new norm.
-Here’s what happens - you simplify the process! You cut out the non-essential.
-The project that would be two months, takes someone 2 days. Because of mastering your time on the daily.
-MACRO- big picture
Ask yourself - Are all of the things I am doing acting in alignment with my goals?
-One other thing!! Get an assistant - I’m constantly having help to move the needle when someone else can do parts of a project.
You can totally get a virtual assistant!
CHEERS to charging your goals and getting things done in a fraction of the time!
We are going into what’s usually the most packed month of the year for most of us. With holiday parties and school performances and get togethers… it can feel non-stop!
So how do we do all the things… but also… be present in the moment and enjoy it?
Less craziness, more laughter and connection
Less racing around and more time to yourself before events
It’s all about planning ahead, eliminating what you don’t want to do or what’s not necessary and being organized.
The goal of today’s episode is to hit pause on life for a bit to think about what we can do now to be sure the holidays don’t just fly by. And we don’t spend the next month racing from one thing to another instead of soaking it all in.
More holiday awesomeness, less holiday craziness.
The holidays are one the most stressing times for people!! Harvard study shows 62% of people have elevated stress levels during this time.
TIPS!
-Only say yes or sign up for the things you really want to do
-Plan ahead of time! To avoid the last minute mad dashes!
Being organized adn putting yourself in the shoes of you waking up the morning of an event is everything.
DO you need outfits for everyone?
The craziness comes from thinking of these things JUST before you need it - then you race around to find it.
-Same goes with gift giving!! Support local stores but do it online and with organized lists.
Make your lists - and have a date to be DONE by. Get some extras!!
-Accept that not all experiences will be what you thought. That’s part of the process. Accept imperfection and don’t make that the goal.
-Here’s the reason why… it’s SO easy to be so busy being busy and for what? To not enjoy it?!
-Prioritizing your health
Sleep enough
Move your body
Just splurge during holiday parties - not all month
Don’t overdo sugar or booze
-Keep your downtime!! This is why we feel CRAZY because we have NO downtime! Plan ahead and you will have it again!
-Be clear about your number one priority this holiday season. For me it is connection.
Overall and in the little moments.
Connection doesn’t always happen by accident.
Can plan for games or conversation games if you think it will prompt your crew to get more in the groove.
-Don’t get so caught up in the craziness that you forget to enjoy your people.
-Shake off what’s annoying. Don’t pick the battle. Protect your headspace.
CHEERS to all the magic of the holiday season… MINUS the craziness!
How to be awesome at walking away from an argument.
This is something that requires major self control and deep clarity in a moment that you probably don't feel like not having either of those.
Here’s what I’m talking about.
When you are a heated back and forth with someone you love, I’ve learned that most of the time, the very best things you can do for a positive outcome, is to pause and give it some space. There is a very low probability that you are going to come to a good resolution if you are both so heated and hashing it out. Best thing ever - take a beat. Walk away, change your physical state and know that some space is the best thing for the situation. With time and space apart comes clarity.
So that is our, walk away and come back to it situation.
Then there are the other situations that are just… completely walk away. It’s not worth it, walk away and let it go.
Someone cuts you off in a parking lot or tries to argue with you at your kids soccer game or leaves a super triggering comment on social media… none of it is worth your energy. You can’t control what they say or do but you can control how you react to it and how you label it. We are labeling it as not worth it, and we’re walking away.
We’re talking arguments today.
-Here’s the hack- when you are IN THAT MOMENT… tell yourself… WALK AWAY.
-My husband used to say- just give me space and I was like NO why drag this on… we can fix this now and go on and have a good day together!!
-Your body remembers stress! You have to control your stress and head space!!
Once you stop arguing as much - it’s easier to keep it going.
-WHY IT WORKS
Time to cool off
Lose the ego
See their point of view (or not)
Have time to get back to the person you want to be
You have time to come back and show you care
-And then with strangers… you want to make a point - but often times - you have to understand they won’t see your point and it’s not worth it!
-Never text argue!!
-It’s about controlling your emotions so this thing doesn’t get worse
-If you’re a hot head, this will be super hard.
-Here’s the gold ready… you feel like you are LOSING when you walk away because you didnt make your point.. but you’re WINNING by ending it.
-Examples : Someone says something rude to you on the soccer field. First, your kids are there so that’s enough to control ourselves … but also, not worth it. You gain nothing!
-Rude text : NEVER reply right away.
-The bottom line is that you can’t let the behavior of others steal your joy. But if you do, it’s your choice.
-Focus on being the best and happiest that you can be – that’s where your energy should go.
CHEERS! To walking away!!
I’ve made my life a bit more awesome lately by making TO DO and DON’T DO lists.
It’s 10 things I want to be sure I do and 10 thing I want to be sure I don’t do and it makes me have overall happier and more fulfilling days.
The goal of today’s podcast episode is to inspire you to make a TO DO and a DON’T DO list… that you put on your bathroom mirror and you do your best to follow it everyday.
It’s like the best practical way to do the things you know are best for you and avoid the things that waste time or make you feel crappy or anything else negative.
It’s a great way to keep your goals front and center each morning and keep your priorities straight. First we’re going to make your list… then we’re going to make you stick to it.
What do want more of? What do you want less of? What habits do you need to kick? What habits do you want to start?
It’s all on these 2 lists that give you laser clear direction for the day and help you stay aligned with what’s really important to you.
Here are some key points!
-It may change at first
-It may take you time to get it right
-Then once you master things it may not need to be there anymore
-HOW to make your list
Write down what you want more of and what you want less of!
-Brain dump!
-Listen to your favorite people!
-Write down lessons learned from your own mistakes.
Put it up, read it everyday as you brush your teeth.
Today I will…
Today I won’t….
CHEERS to your lists making your days more AWESOME!!
I’ve made my life a bit more awesome lately by making TO DO and DON’T DO lists.
It’s 10 things I want to be sure I do and 10 thing I want to be sure I don’t do and it makes me have overall happier and more fulfilling days.
The goal of today’s podcast episode is to inspire you to make a TO DO and a DON’T DO list… that you put on your bathroom mirror and you do your best to follow it everyday.
It’s like the best practical way to do the things you know are best for you and avoid the things that waste time or make you feel crappy or anything else negative.
It’s a great way to keep your goals front and center each morning and keep your priorities straight. First we’re going to make your list… then we’re going to make you stick to it.
What do want more of? What do you want less of? What habits do you need to kick? What habits do you want to start?
It’s all on these 2 lists that give you laser clear direction for the day and help you stay aligned with what’s really important to you.
Here are some key points!
-It may change at first
-It may take you time to get it right
-Then once you master things it may not need to be there anymore
-HOW to make your list
Write down what you want more of and what you want less of!
-Brain dump!
-Listen to your favorite people!
-Write down lessons learned from your own mistakes.
Put it up, read it everyday as you brush your teeth.
Today I will…
Today I won’t….
CHEERS to your lists making your days more AWESOME!!
How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.
And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.
And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole
Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??
Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.
Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.
By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.
We’re on the same team girls!
Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl
-Go out of your way to compliment
-Go out of your way to refer something to someone
-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it
-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation
-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!
-Don't let boys come between you and another girl
-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable
-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you
-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her
Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl
-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in
-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has
-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF
-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.
Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..
-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at
-If you have kids, they see you being this way
-Your friends will do anything for you
-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect
CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.
And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.
And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole
Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??
Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.
Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.
By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.
We’re on the same team girls!
Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl
-Go out of your way to compliment
-Go out of your way to refer something to someone
-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it
-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation
-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!
-Don't let boys come between you and another girl
-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable
-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you
-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her
Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl
-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in
-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has
-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF
-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.
Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..
-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at
-If you have kids, they see you being this way
-Your friends will do anything for you
-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect
CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!
How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.
And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.
And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole
Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??
Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.
Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.
By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.
We’re on the same team girls!
Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl
-Go out of your way to compliment
-Go out of your way to refer something to someone
-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it
-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation
-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!
-Don't let boys come between you and another girl
-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable
-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you
-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her
Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl
-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in
-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has
-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF
-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.
Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..
-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at
-If you have kids, they see you being this way
-Your friends will do anything for you
-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect
CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!How To Be Awesome At Being A Girls Girl. Let’s break down what this even is. A girls girl is a woman who has other women's backs. For the women in her close circle, it’s a do-anything for, always look out for and love with enthusiasm and without judgment thing.
And for women not her in close circle, she gives them the benefit of the doubt and is willing to be extra kind or helpful or complimentary… not because of any other reason than us girls need to stick together.
And it’s not always easy. Society can sort of pit girls against each other - like the whole
Who wore it better thing. It is literally us judging one woman against another in the same outfit. Her hair, her make-up, her body composition. Really??
Whoever created that is certainly not a girls girl.
Because a girls girl knows that we all have our strengths and our times to shine and another woman’s success or accomplishments or even luck, doesn’t affect ours.
By being a girls girl through and through you have deeper and more meaningful relationships with the women in your life and you just feel more comfortable in your skin because everything isn’t a competition.
We’re on the same team girls!
Here are a few other ways to be a girls girl
-Go out of your way to compliment
-Go out of your way to refer something to someone
-If someone compliments your outfit, send them a link for it
-If you’re in a group and someone is about to get shit on, stop the conversation
-Be respectful around boyfriends and spouses - this is the fastest way to not be a girls girl! To want all the guys attention or something along those lines!
-Don't let boys come between you and another girl
-Share with friends what you’re wearing - if they ask- so they feel comfortable
-Will drop anything when a friend really needs you
-Remember her bday and do a little something so special to her
Let me tell you why it can be hard sometimes to be a girls girl
-Sometimes you will be jealous of a stage of life someone is in
-Sometimes you will wish you owned something that someone else has
-Sometimes you will feel like not telling the brand of your new boots because then you won’t be the only ones with them. Let me tell you something - it’s just STUFF
-It’s hard to give someone the benefit of a doubt- but you have to.
Here is how it all comes back to benefit you..
-You’re more confident - in general and in where you are at
-If you have kids, they see you being this way
-Your friends will do anything for you
-Good things come back around from strangers in ways you wouldn’t expect
CHEERS!! To being a girls girl always!!
If you enjoy an icy cold glass of champagne or a refreshing mixed drink or a nice glass or wine or any booze… but don’t want to feel like hell that night or the next day (or the next few days)… this podcast is for you!!
I’ve entered a time in my life where I’ve figured out how to have FUN and not wake up with a hangover- or even that crappy feeling where you aren’t hungover but you’re just tired and slow and maybe have a stomach ache.
This podcast is packed with ALL THE TIPS on how to have a great time and enjoy your champagne more mixed drinks or wine or whatever you like to drink… and feel great the next day. We’re compromising zero of the fun… we’re just being smarter about it and having a game plan going into it.
This is the zero hangover plan podcast episode!
What actually IS a hangover?
Alcohol is a diuretic. It causes you to pee more so you lose a lot of fluid. It also reduces the release of the hormone that balances your body’s fluids. Dehydration causes fatigue and headaches and stomach aches.
Alcohol also causes an electrolyte imbalance
Alcohol increases inflammation throughout your body which causes you to feel bad too. And it makes you sleep terribly!
A hangover is a milder form of alcohol withdrawal.
Alcohol dulls the parts of your brain that control how your body works.
-How much alcohol does it take?
More than one drink an hour
-Does a hard of the dog work?
Yes and not!
It just increases the toxicity of the alcohol already in your body!
Here are our rules!!
-No shots, nothing too strong
-Hydrate before and during
-Zero energy drinks
-Eat before you drink
-Decide ahead of time how much you are going to drink
-Don’t do the pouring thing where you have no idea how much you’ve drank!
-Take your supplements - just like you would to avoid getting a cold- and get sleep night before, exercise, how you feel going into it makes a difference.
-Really understand why you don’t like over drinking - you won’t remember the last part of the night anyway, etc!
-Stick to one kind of alcohol - I sort of believe this!
-I don’t really agree with ANY of the anti-hangover things on the market. I think they are all mostly marketing and packed with bad ingredients.
Use THIS powder before and after for added electrolytes!!
-What to do if you get one!
Eat bland foods
Sleep
Hydrate
Aspirin
Learn your lesson and sleep it off
No quick fix here - your body needs to recover
CHEERS to really enjoying all the yummy drinks and celebrations… without any of the not so awesome stuff that often comes with it!
I didn’t realize until I had no choice That I could completely control my thoughts. Five months ago, my husband went into cardiac arrest in the ICU as we were holding hands. He survived it and I felt like I went from the lowest low to the highest high… Only to realize the journey was just beginning. We had an uphill road ahead with surgeries and complications and failing organs and a long hospital stay. And for the first week there was more bad news than good news and I was trying to support him and connect the doctors with each other and keep my kids life feeling as normal as possible. When I had a few minutes of alone time… When I was driving to and from the hospital or to pick up the kids or before I went to bed… I would naturally think about worst case scenario. Parker was just about to turn five and his dad his his hero what if… And the little super power that I realized we all have… I just hadn’t really woken mine up yet… Was that we can completely control our thoughts. And this is what I did. Any time one of those worst case scenario, scary thoughts entered my mind I simply said… I don’t and fill the rest in. I don’t do negative. Or I don’t do overwhelm. Or I don’t do worst case scenario right now. And it allowed me to not crumble at a time when I need to be strong. And I’m not saying don’t feel how you feel because I believe in feeling your emotions 100% but… I think sometimes letting your emotions fly doesn’t serve you. In this case, if I broke down… the whole thing would be a disaster. Since then, I’ve used this in many different ways and often and it’s been so awesome for me. And I think it will be for you. Let’s go! -When my husband was in the hospital - people kept asking me - how are you keeping it together? I took my kids to a waterpark! Because I could control my thoughts. And it helped me to be strong. -It’s like a really rational way at looking at your emotions and just CHOOSING what serves you. -BEST PART!!! This is a hack you will remember! -When you start to feel in a way that you don’t want to… Start with I don’t and then fill in the emotion that is about to surface that you need to be tough with!! -I don’t know a lot of things 100% for sure. Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset. -But what I do know is this… the words we say and the thoughts we think create the environment that you live in. AND! We have to protect our headspace and make that a huge priority in our lives. -I don’t do… Negative Overwhelm Yelling at my kids Losing my shit Procrastination Negative talk about myself Negative talk about other people Blame Crazy -Feel the feelings when it makes sense!! -It’s a hack for not reacting in the way that you don’t want to.
AND a hack for not caring about things that don’t matter. AND a hack for not spending energy on things you don’t want to. AND a hack for not being a person you don’t want to be! -Like if you are about to yell at your kids. -Or say something rude to a co-worker. -Let’s unpack some of these.. -Procrastination - be honest with yourself… if you know you are putting something off. Say you’ve had this idea to write a book for the last 5 years. But you just can’t start. It never seems like the right time. Wake up, decide you are going to eat the frog, hug the monster and say to yourself I DONT DO procrastination. And it’s out there. You’re proclaiming it and then you proceed on without it. -Negative talk about other people. Saw a group of moms are chatting outside of school after drop off and someone starts a conversation that you can tell is leading to running another mom down. In your head you say… I DON’T DO talking shit on other people. And you excuse yourself and get the hell out of there. Even if you aren’t saying it, you don’t want to be in the space where people are. It makes you involved and you don’t have the headspace for that. You’re out here trying to be more awesome each day and learn and progress and spend time with your people! -It GETS YOU OUT of situations!! -I don’t do negative self talk. You’re getting dressed and your stuff isn’t fitting. You start this whole… well if I wouldn’t have had ice cream every night in bed for the last 3 months I wouldn’t be in this situation where I hate my body. NOPE! I don’t do negative self talk. Get your ass dressed and get out of there. And then make the adjustments in your daily life if you need it but running yourself down only does harm- zero good. -This hack is GOLD because like all of my fav hacks.. you remember it!!
-Next time you are in a situation where you know things are better if you control your thoughts.. use this hack. CHEERS to being more awesome by controlling your thoughts and protecting your happy headspace. Because what we know for sure is that the words we think and say determine the environment that we live in. And nothing is more important than that ❤️
I didn’t realize until I had no choice That I could completely control my thoughts. Five months ago, my husband went into cardiac arrest in the ICU as we were holding hands. He survived it and I felt like I went from the lowest low to the highest high… Only to realize the journey was just beginning. We had an uphill road ahead with surgeries and complications and failing organs and a long hospital stay. And for the first week there was more bad news than good news and I was trying to support him and connect the doctors with each other and keep my kids life feeling as normal as possible. When I had a few minutes of alone time… When I was driving to and from the hospital or to pick up the kids or before I went to bed… I would naturally think about worst case scenario. Parker was just about to turn five and his dad his his hero what if… And the little super power that I realized we all have… I just hadn’t really woken mine up yet… Was that we can completely control our thoughts. And this is what I did. Any time one of those worst case scenario, scary thoughts entered my mind I simply said… I don’t and fill the rest in. I don’t do negative. Or I don’t do overwhelm. Or I don’t do worst case scenario right now. And it allowed me to not crumble at a time when I need to be strong. And I’m not saying don’t feel how you feel because I believe in feeling your emotions 100% but… I think sometimes letting your emotions fly doesn’t serve you. In this case, if I broke down… the whole thing would be a disaster. Since then, I’ve used this in many different ways and often and it’s been so awesome for me. And I think it will be for you. Let’s go! -When my husband was in the hospital - people kept asking me - how are you keeping it together? I took my kids to a waterpark! Because I could control my thoughts. And it helped me to be strong. -It’s like a really rational way at looking at your emotions and just CHOOSING what serves you. -BEST PART!!! This is a hack you will remember! -When you start to feel in a way that you don’t want to… Start with I don’t and then fill in the emotion that is about to surface that you need to be tough with!! -I don’t know a lot of things 100% for sure. Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset. -But what I do know is this… the words we say and the thoughts we think create the environment that you live in. AND! We have to protect our headspace and make that a huge priority in our lives. -I don’t do… Negative Overwhelm Yelling at my kids Losing my shit Procrastination Negative talk about myself Negative talk about other people Blame Crazy -Feel the feelings when it makes sense!! -It’s a hack for not reacting in the way that you don’t want to.
AND a hack for not caring about things that don’t matter. AND a hack for not spending energy on things you don’t want to. AND a hack for not being a person you don’t want to be! -Like if you are about to yell at your kids. -Or say something rude to a co-worker. -Let’s unpack some of these.. -Procrastination - be honest with yourself… if you know you are putting something off. Say you’ve had this idea to write a book for the last 5 years. But you just can’t start. It never seems like the right time. Wake up, decide you are going to eat the frog, hug the monster and say to yourself I DONT DO procrastination. And it’s out there. You’re proclaiming it and then you proceed on without it. -Negative talk about other people. Saw a group of moms are chatting outside of school after drop off and someone starts a conversation that you can tell is leading to running another mom down. In your head you say… I DON’T DO talking shit on other people. And you excuse yourself and get the hell out of there. Even if you aren’t saying it, you don’t want to be in the space where people are. It makes you involved and you don’t have the headspace for that. You’re out here trying to be more awesome each day and learn and progress and spend time with your people! -It GETS YOU OUT of situations!! -I don’t do negative self talk. You’re getting dressed and your stuff isn’t fitting. You start this whole… well if I wouldn’t have had ice cream every night in bed for the last 3 months I wouldn’t be in this situation where I hate my body. NOPE! I don’t do negative self talk. Get your ass dressed and get out of there. And then make the adjustments in your daily life if you need it but running yourself down only does harm- zero good. -This hack is GOLD because like all of my fav hacks.. you remember it!!
-Next time you are in a situation where you know things are better if you control your thoughts.. use this hack. CHEERS to being more awesome by controlling your thoughts and protecting your happy headspace. Because what we know for sure is that the words we think and say determine the environment that we live in. And nothing is more important than that ❤️
As a girl who used to destroy her closet getting ready… and someone who would sometimes even pack a backup dress and heels when I went out in case I hated my outfit and wanted to change - whoa have I come a long way! In this episode, I’m sharing the secrets for never having an outfit crisis. So you’re out there wearing clothes that you like and you feel comfortable in and confident and not self conscious. And, you’re not late getting everywhere because you’re trying on 100 outfits and destroying your space… and making yourself crazy in the process. Having a method for planning your outfits… for special events and on the daily… can be such a freeing and fun process. It’s about purging well and looking at your calendar to plan ahead, laying things out and trying then on ahead of time. And making a decision, not over thinking it - AKA there will be lots of outfits - this is one day- by taking away the pressure the whole thing gets easier… and then going out and living your life and let the clothes you wear add to your confidence, not take way from it or be a stress. It’s a few simple steps and it makes all the difference. Let’s plan our outfits together today! Here are some of the tips we talk about: 1. Purge your closet - so you only have things you love in there. 2. Look at your calendar ahead of time and buy anything you need for events - online or in person. 3. Dont leave it to the last minute - lay out options and try them on. 4. Take photos to be sure you like it. 5. Always lay out your clothes the night before. 6. Decide and live your best life!!! 7. Get ready with plenty of time - allow extra for error for special events. 8. Have go-to back-up outfits. Black dress, etc. 9. Save bloggers pictures that you like - to recreate the look in your own way. 10. Stop body shaming yourself! If you’re doing this - put up a picture of yourself as a young kid in your bathroom. 11. Buy clothes as a full outfit 12. Ask other people what they are wearing ahead of time. 13. If you constantly have a problem getting ready for a particular type of thing, make a note that you need more clothes for this specific thing. For the gym or for a formal event. 14. Figure out your style - even though ever changing- having a good grasp on what you feel best in will help you navigate. 15. Stop panic or stress or LATE getting dressed! 16. “I have no clothes” “I hate everything” “I look awful in everything” 17. Save yourself SO MUCH TIME and stress by planning ahead. 18. WEAR your clothes! Wear the dress you bought for vacation on a Wed. It’s just going to sit in the closet anyway!! 19. Dress for you- nobody else - it will be the ultimate way to feel good when you go out. 20. Spend more on things you love and buy less.
CHEERS! To never having an outfit crisis again!!
As a girl who used to destroy her closet getting ready… and someone who would sometimes even pack a backup dress and heels when I went out in case I hated my outfit and wanted to change - whoa have I come a long way! In this episode, I’m sharing the secrets for never having an outfit crisis. So you’re out there wearing clothes that you like and you feel comfortable in and confident and not self conscious. And, you’re not late getting everywhere because you’re trying on 100 outfits and destroying your space… and making yourself crazy in the process. Having a method for planning your outfits… for special events and on the daily… can be such a freeing and fun process. It’s about purging well and looking at your calendar to plan ahead, laying things out and trying then on ahead of time. And making a decision, not over thinking it - AKA there will be lots of outfits - this is one day- by taking away the pressure the whole thing gets easier… and then going out and living your life and let the clothes you wear add to your confidence, not take way from it or be a stress. It’s a few simple steps and it makes all the difference. Let’s plan our outfits together today! Here are some of the tips we talk about: 1. Purge your closet - so you only have things you love in there. 2. Look at your calendar ahead of time and buy anything you need for events - online or in person. 3. Dont leave it to the last minute - lay out options and try them on. 4. Take photos to be sure you like it. 5. Always lay out your clothes the night before. 6. Decide and live your best life!!! 7. Get ready with plenty of time - allow extra for error for special events. 8. Have go-to back-up outfits. Black dress, etc. 9. Save bloggers pictures that you like - to recreate the look in your own way. 10. Stop body shaming yourself! If you’re doing this - put up a picture of yourself as a young kid in your bathroom. 11. Buy clothes as a full outfit 12. Ask other people what they are wearing ahead of time. 13. If you constantly have a problem getting ready for a particular type of thing, make a note that you need more clothes for this specific thing. For the gym or for a formal event. 14. Figure out your style - even though ever changing- having a good grasp on what you feel best in will help you navigate. 15. Stop panic or stress or LATE getting dressed! 16. “I have no clothes” “I hate everything” “I look awful in everything” 17. Save yourself SO MUCH TIME and stress by planning ahead. 18. WEAR your clothes! Wear the dress you bought for vacation on a Wed. It’s just going to sit in the closet anyway!! 19. Dress for you- nobody else - it will be the ultimate way to feel good when you go out. 20. Spend more on things you love and buy less.
CHEERS! To never having an outfit crisis again!!
We all have beliefs about ourselves. Character traits and tendencies and things we think we are good at and bad at. And… We tell people them! I am disorganized, I am always late, I am bad with money, I am highly stressed, I am not pretty enough, I am not that patient. When you think about your own I AM statements, you have to ask yourself… Does this serve you?
If it doesn’t, stop saying it!! When we make these limiting statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. The words you say and the thoughts you think are so powerful. We have to be so aware of the things we think and say about ourselves. They are the most important statements because they are what you believe about yourself. Today, we are doing a self audit of our I AM statements. And deciding,
if it’s not going to help you accomplish your goals… we are going STOP saying it!! -Here are some I Am statements that people say/think often. I am not patient I am not doing enough to meet someone I am too old, too short, too fat, not pretty enough I am not that smart I am clumsy. I am bad at names. I am a bad mom. I am weak. I am bad at math. I have lots of anxiety. I am shy.
I am high stress. I am an all or nothing type person. I am not good at telling people no. -What is your I AM statement? Do you think that belief serves you? -Once you are aware of this- you will hear it ALL THE TIME -SAYS WHO!! Who says you are bad at math or money or anything else!
Your past doesn’t indicate your future its not WHO YOU ARE. -I can’t do that, I AM not flexible. OH really, you can’t become more flexible? -When we make these statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. These are limiting statements. -In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow. It can’t be SET! -The language has to change!
-I have a tendency towards being shy and stress filled. OR I tend to be shy with stress. This is less final. -We need to be able to be changing to what we need to do. -It gets more complicated like… I have to have 2 cups of coffee or I can’t be productive. I have to have 8 full hours of sleep or I can’t be productive. I have to know who’s going to the party or I’ll have anxiety. -These are all weaknesses that you build into yourself. You GIVE yourself traits that make you weaker. If you want to make impact, you have to know who you are and be able to adjust based on what’s needed. Cheers to becoming more AWESOME by changing the I AM statements you say about yourself!
We all have beliefs about ourselves. Character traits and tendencies and things we think we are good at and bad at. And… We tell people them! I am disorganized, I am always late, I am bad with money, I am highly stressed, I am not pretty enough, I am not that patient. When you think about your own I AM statements, you have to ask yourself… Does this serve you?
If it doesn’t, stop saying it!! When we make these limiting statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. The words you say and the thoughts you think are so powerful. We have to be so aware of the things we think and say about ourselves. They are the most important statements because they are what you believe about yourself. Today, we are doing a self audit of our I AM statements. And deciding,
if it’s not going to help you accomplish your goals… we are going STOP saying it!! -Here are some I Am statements that people say/think often. I am not patient I am not doing enough to meet someone I am too old, too short, too fat, not pretty enough I am not that smart I am clumsy. I am bad at names. I am a bad mom. I am weak. I am bad at math. I have lots of anxiety. I am shy.
I am high stress. I am an all or nothing type person. I am not good at telling people no. -What is your I AM statement? Do you think that belief serves you? -Once you are aware of this- you will hear it ALL THE TIME -SAYS WHO!! Who says you are bad at math or money or anything else!
Your past doesn’t indicate your future its not WHO YOU ARE. -I can’t do that, I AM not flexible. OH really, you can’t become more flexible? -When we make these statements, we are creating INVISIBLE BARRIERS. These are limiting statements. -In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow. It can’t be SET! -The language has to change!
-I have a tendency towards being shy and stress filled. OR I tend to be shy with stress. This is less final. -We need to be able to be changing to what we need to do. -It gets more complicated like… I have to have 2 cups of coffee or I can’t be productive. I have to have 8 full hours of sleep or I can’t be productive. I have to know who’s going to the party or I’ll have anxiety. -These are all weaknesses that you build into yourself. You GIVE yourself traits that make you weaker. If you want to make impact, you have to know who you are and be able to adjust based on what’s needed. Cheers to becoming more AWESOME by changing the I AM statements you say about yourself!
We are living in the greatest time there has ever been… to start a side hustle.
For our grandparents and great grandparents, a side hustle was called a second job. Usually done at night after our main job.
That’s all changed. We can all start and run a side hustle from home!
I love a side hustle for just about everybody. And for different reasons.
It’s brilliant if you…
Feel overwhelmed with life but also underwhelmed.
OR you hate your job.
OR you are always stressed about money.
OR you want to be an entrepreneur and have control over your time and money.
OR you want to be creative and try new things.
Today’s episode is a mash up of all my favorite tips from my own business experiences and from the 20+ years of reading business books and studying how top producers do it.
We’re talking side hustles and hard work and getting out of your own way and following passions today.
-What is a side hustle?
Podcast, online course, Etsy shop, create a product, sell on Amazon, the list goes on!
-Inspiration from this podcast comes from everything I’ve listen to or read in business but especially from Gary Vee, Tom Bilyeu, Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi.
Here are the tips!!
-Be around people who support your journey- or head down and don’t talk about it
Pick a partner/spouse who makes you feel awesome about working
You will feel resentful if you compromise your dreams because of them.
Pick someone who supports you, even if they don’t agree.
Don’t put your power on someone else.
-Don’t wait for a “good time.” Start today.
Not tomorrow! There will never be a perfect time.
There are never going to be perfect conditions to start.
Best to start when seas are rocky, if you can weather it then, you will remain successful because you did it during rocky times.
-Read books and do the stuff in the books
Read one and act on it vs. reading 20 and doing nothing.
-Embrace failure and change how you think about it
Failure is essential!
You WIN or you LEARN!
Keep going.
-Surround yourself with people who are in the space that you want to be.
Don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be.
-Instead of complaining, move.
Strong character is built through hard times.
Hard times helps us get to the good times.
Accept and move on.
-Use your circumstance as power, not an excuse.
Assume the world is unfair and act accordingly
Stop complaining! All that complaining does NOTHING.
The world is unfair, go anyway.
-Never blame your circumstances, thank your circumstances for making you who you are.
You can’t change it or control it, lean into it.
You are who you are because of the stuff you’ve been through
-Seek out discomfort
You will suck at first. We avoid discomfort.
We are judging ourselves for being bad at something we haven’t done before.
#1 discomfort is not accomplishing what you are capable of.
-Do what no one else is doing
You aren’t going to get the results you want doing the same as everyone else.
DO what you say you are going to do.
-When it’s time to hire people, they have to be smart and have a good attitude/vibe/perspective. That over past experience or skillset.
You will make your life so miserable.
-Don’t believe what other people think about you more than what you think yourself
Tom Bilyeu says always- It’s all about how you feel about yourself when you are by yourself.
-Value your opinion over other those of other people
We often think everyone else’s opinions are more important.
The moment you decide you are successful- you are.
It’s our choice.
If you try to give yourself a number- you will move the number.
Once I am rich then…
It’s the journey- not the destination.
You are living your values of pursuit- that means success to you.
-Find something that works and don’t stop doing it.
If you keep doing the same stuff, you will keep have the same outcomes.
Whatever you are doing right now has gotten to where you are now.
So stop doing that if you want to push for more.
-Keep doing it until you are actually BORED!! because you are so good at doing that thing that works!
It’s hard as an entrepreneur because you don’t have set deadlines.
Keep doing it, over and over. We just often aren’t willing to do it.
Find something that works and then double down on it.
-Do your best and make it above what it takes to be successful
You have to do things that other people aren’t doing.
Most people aren’t out there hustling.
You can’t do the same as everyone else.
You can’t look for their approval.
Do your best, not what it takes.
You must become better so your best is better.
If you try your best and it’s not good enough, get better.
Be better and do it for long enough- you will get better in the process.
-Assume you might not be right about everything and be willing to learn
Most people think the opposite.
Question what you think always!
Always be learning!! Read and listen!
Have the humility to learn and be open.
Stop assuming we know everything.
-Make promises, keep promises (mainly to yourself!)
Destroy your reputation with other people.
More importantly, you break promises to yourself.
Respect for yourself is everything and the hardest to earn.
YOU know what you are capable. You could have done more calls, made more content, gone to the gym longer, you could have made a better product.
You lose respect for yourself by breaking promises to yourself.
-Say you are going to do some thing and then do it
You are busy all day but nothing important moves forward.
The people who are doing the most in the world are making sure the most important things get done.
Usually! It’s what you are procrasting on!
You can stay busy all day with stuff that doesn’t matter.
-Expect no one to save you except yourself.
The government isn’t going to save you.
Nobody else is either.
Don’t wait around for it.
-When you start making money, don’t adjust how much you spend accordingly.
Don’t spend it all!
-Talk less, do more
Rather than talking about how much you are working, do it.
Stop preparing to work, just work.
Start with the doing.
-Avoid working on the stuff that doesn’t matter, work on the things that matter most, ignore the rest
WHO cares what your life looks like!
Be willing to not look fancy. You have to be real to you. Or you will be real to nobody.
-Start something new today and keep at it, until you are good do it so long that it would be unreasonable for you to be bad
Don’t leave half built bridges - don’t constantly jump into new things.
Don't leave when you see the downsides of things.
We are optimistic until we see the hard parts.
You will stay busy and not making money if you keep jumping.
Ping me for what tactical advice you want on starting specific side hustles!
@LindsaysCloud on IG
It’s hard and it’s uncomfortable- but it’s temporary pain for long term success, however you define it.
CHEERS to your side hustle that brings you fulfillments!
We are living in the greatest time there has ever been… to start a side hustle.
For our grandparents and great grandparents, a side hustle was called a second job. Usually done at night after our main job.
That’s all changed. We can all start and run a side hustle from home!
I love a side hustle for just about everybody. And for different reasons.
It’s brilliant if you…
Feel overwhelmed with life but also underwhelmed.
OR you hate your job.
OR you are always stressed about money.
OR you want to be an entrepreneur and have control over your time and money.
OR you want to be creative and try new things.
Today’s episode is a mash up of all my favorite tips from my own business experiences and from the 20+ years of reading business books and studying how top producers do it.
We’re talking side hustles and hard work and getting out of your own way and following passions today.
-What is a side hustle?
Podcast, online course, Etsy shop, create a product, sell on Amazon, the list goes on!
-Inspiration from this podcast comes from everything I’ve listen to or read in business but especially from Gary Vee, Tom Bilyeu, Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi.
Here are the tips!!
-Be around people who support your journey- or head down and don’t talk about it
Pick a partner/spouse who makes you feel awesome about working
You will feel resentful if you compromise your dreams because of them.
Pick someone who supports you, even if they don’t agree.
Don’t put your power on someone else.
-Don’t wait for a “good time.” Start today.
Not tomorrow! There will never be a perfect time.
There are never going to be perfect conditions to start.
Best to start when seas are rocky, if you can weather it then, you will remain successful because you did it during rocky times.
-Read books and do the stuff in the books
Read one and act on it vs. reading 20 and doing nothing.
-Embrace failure and change how you think about it
Failure is essential!
You WIN or you LEARN!
Keep going.
-Surround yourself with people who are in the space that you want to be.
Don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be.
-Instead of complaining, move.
Strong character is built through hard times.
Hard times helps us get to the good times.
Accept and move on.
-Use your circumstance as power, not an excuse.
Assume the world is unfair and act accordingly
Stop complaining! All that complaining does NOTHING.
The world is unfair, go anyway.
-Never blame your circumstances, thank your circumstances for making you who you are.
You can’t change it or control it, lean into it.
You are who you are because of the stuff you’ve been through
-Seek out discomfort
You will suck at first. We avoid discomfort.
We are judging ourselves for being bad at something we haven’t done before.
#1 discomfort is not accomplishing what you are capable of.
-Do what no one else is doing
You aren’t going to get the results you want doing the same as everyone else.
DO what you say you are going to do.
-When it’s time to hire people, they have to be smart and have a good attitude/vibe/perspective. That over past experience or skillset.
You will make your life so miserable.
-Don’t believe what other people think about you more than what you think yourself
Tom Bilyeu says always- It’s all about how you feel about yourself when you are by yourself.
-Value your opinion over other those of other people
We often think everyone else’s opinions are more important.
The moment you decide you are successful- you are.
It’s our choice.
If you try to give yourself a number- you will move the number.
Once I am rich then…
It’s the journey- not the destination.
You are living your values of pursuit- that means success to you.
-Find something that works and don’t stop doing it.
If you keep doing the same stuff, you will keep have the same outcomes.
Whatever you are doing right now has gotten to where you are now.
So stop doing that if you want to push for more.
-Keep doing it until you are actually BORED!! because you are so good at doing that thing that works!
It’s hard as an entrepreneur because you don’t have set deadlines.
Keep doing it, over and over. We just often aren’t willing to do it.
Find something that works and then double down on it.
-Do your best and make it above what it takes to be successful
You have to do things that other people aren’t doing.
Most people aren’t out there hustling.
You can’t do the same as everyone else.
You can’t look for their approval.
Do your best, not what it takes.
You must become better so your best is better.
If you try your best and it’s not good enough, get better.
Be better and do it for long enough- you will get better in the process.
-Assume you might not be right about everything and be willing to learn
Most people think the opposite.
Question what you think always!
Always be learning!! Read and listen!
Have the humility to learn and be open.
Stop assuming we know everything.
-Make promises, keep promises (mainly to yourself!)
Destroy your reputation with other people.
More importantly, you break promises to yourself.
Respect for yourself is everything and the hardest to earn.
YOU know what you are capable. You could have done more calls, made more content, gone to the gym longer, you could have made a better product.
You lose respect for yourself by breaking promises to yourself.
-Say you are going to do some thing and then do it
You are busy all day but nothing important moves forward.
The people who are doing the most in the world are making sure the most important things get done.
Usually! It’s what you are procrasting on!
You can stay busy all day with stuff that doesn’t matter.
-Expect no one to save you except yourself.
The government isn’t going to save you.
Nobody else is either.
Don’t wait around for it.
-When you start making money, don’t adjust how much you spend accordingly.
Don’t spend it all!
-Talk less, do more
Rather than talking about how much you are working, do it.
Stop preparing to work, just work.
Start with the doing.
-Avoid working on the stuff that doesn’t matter, work on the things that matter most, ignore the rest
WHO cares what your life looks like!
Be willing to not look fancy. You have to be real to you. Or you will be real to nobody.
-Start something new today and keep at it, until you are good do it so long that it would be unreasonable for you to be bad
Don’t leave half built bridges - don’t constantly jump into new things.
Don't leave when you see the downsides of things.
We are optimistic until we see the hard parts.
You will stay busy and not making money if you keep jumping.
Ping me for what tactical advice you want on starting specific side hustles!
@LindsaysCloud on IG
It’s hard and it’s uncomfortable- but it’s temporary pain for long term success, however you define it.
CHEERS to your side hustle that brings you fulfillments!
Today’s episode is all about packing food so you never eat what you don’t want to eat. This is not food prep, and it’s certainly not dieting tips… it’s simply thinking ahead about what you are going to eat so you feel your best. And that’s going to look different for all of us. But I think one thing most of us have in common is we get busy and end up grabbing something-anything fast on the go, or eating kids nuggets off their plate or ordering in or going out… all because we haven’t thought about our meals ahead of time. It’s taken me so many years to learn what foods make me feel alive and have energy and what foods make me sluggish and just want a nice big middle of the day NAP. I’m not talking about not enjoying or celebrating the things at the occasions… totally the opposite. I’m talking about our routine meals… the ones we have to fuel our body and keep going… that we often don’t think about until we are STARVING and limited on time or ways to get something we want. You will never find me at Disneyland or at an airport or on a road trip without a little cooler bag of food. And it’s all delish and things I want to be eating, it’s not skimping or counting calories - totally the opposite. It’s about finding foods you enjoy, and make you feel your best, and plan ahead of time to have them when you need them. Let’s go! Here’s what we know!! -Homemade is ALWAYS best!! -So you splurge when you WANT to… not because of lack of options. -Think about these times when you might not have what you want: Airport Disneyland Road trips -The celebration meals feel SO MUCH BETTER because you’re eating homemade, healthy food most of the time. This is NOT about weight loss but you can maintain a healthy weight so much easier when your routine meals are healthy and don’t have cruddy ingredients. -What to pack: PROTEIN! Healthy snacks If packaged, the best ingredients only - use Bobby Approved app! -Finding out what your gut likes Allergy tests Trial and Error My functional medicine doctor- Dr. Singler -Creative Ideas Freeze healthy bars - my fav - Mid Day Squares Or freeze your healthy blueberry muffins - keeps them so fresh - especially for flying Protein veggie patties (homemade) - with a side of yummy mustard Fruit and veggie trays you make up (I like veggies first - fruit as a sweet usually) -How to pack it:
Glass at home, plastic on the go. -Saves so much time and money!
You know when you go out - not for the experience of it - just cause you need to eat! It just takes so much time and money. I’d rather go out when I have the time and headspace to ENJOY! -And the time saved by last minute food errands is huge! -It takes some pressure off exercise. Daily movement is EVERYTHING- don’t get me wrong! But what you eat can affect you more - for long term health and body composition. If your eating feels in line, it’s not so much pressure for intense fitness which can be great for different seasons of life. -SLEEP!
You sleep SO MUCH better because your body is properly fueled! And you’re not eating out super late because you’re in a bind. -Mood Less mad dashing, more planned is always good for our mood. Overall, I think of routine meals as fuel- what will make me feel satisfied and happy and energized. Everyday I’m eating foods I LOVE and I feel strong and lean. It’s only taken me 20 + years of reading and listening to ALL the experts on this to figure out my groove myself. Warning- your friends and family will at first look at you weird for bringing your own food- but they will get used to it- and ask for your snacks!! CHEERS to fueling your body in the best way possible!
It’s going to sound sort of basic and maybe even cheesy but I’m telling you it’s the secret sauce. When you’re in an awkward situation… maybe having small talk with someone you’ve just met or you walk into a crowded room of people you don’t know or walk on stage before a speech… you’re nervous!! Deep breath in and SMILE. It’s like the most basic thing… that most people don’t do. But I’m telling you if you can train yourself to do this… you will get comfortable in uncomfortable situations so much faster!! Smiling is contagious … it lowers stress and anxiety… you’re more approachable… you appear more confident. Because of the reaction your body has to smiling, you’re almost tricking your body into feeling more happy and less nervous. Now it’s not a nervous smile or WORSE- a nervous laugh. It’s just a calm and confident smile- without saying anything. It’s subtle but changes everything. Today we are talking about our superpower in uncomfortable situations - SMILING. -We all get nervous - sometimes a little or sometimes a lot. -Smiling is an easy way to boost your mood and be more relaxed. -And it’s way better than the alternatives!!
looking down Retreating on your phone Crossing arms Biting nails Fidgeting or swaying
-This is NOT a nervous laugh! -When we smoke it triggers a cascade of feel good brain chemicals called endorphins! -It’s almost like you TRICK your body into feeling new emotions. -The act of smiling is a cue to your brain to release neuropeptides or happiness hormones like Dopamine, Serotonin and Endorphins. Dopamin- gives you an instant boost of energy and motivation Serotonin- helps calm you down and soothes your nerves Endorphins- reduce cortisol levels and even decreases feelings of pain. Together these brain chemicals work to reduce the effects of stress and pressure and improve your mood!! -Contagious!! For you and for those around you. When someone smokes at you.. your instinct is to smile back. It instantly creates a positive social connection that reduces stress and improves connection. It also tells your brain - im surrounded by friendly people here. “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” It’s not the EMOTION it’s the MEANING you give to the emotion that makes it come alive. -So change your state, change the MEANING you give to the situation and change your emotion. -It’s like an instant confidence bump. And it’s one easy hack. Breathe and smile. -This is NOT putting on a happy face when you’re upset - in fact we should FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS.
-It’s about how you label the situation and how you react. Instead of OH MY GOD im so nervous. It’s deep breath and we got this. -People respond so well to this because even if you dont talk to people, you appear friendly. -And it helps you have GOOD REACTIONS! When you don’t know what to do- default to smile - when most people default to something else - resting not so kind face or reaction etc. -There’s zero downside and it’s easy to remember. CHEERS!! To your SMILE being your superpower!
It’s going to sound sort of basic and maybe even cheesy but I’m telling you it’s the secret sauce. When you’re in an awkward situation… maybe having small talk with someone you’ve just met or you walk into a crowded room of people you don’t know or walk on stage before a speech… you’re nervous!! Deep breath in and SMILE. It’s like the most basic thing… that most people don’t do. But I’m telling you if you can train yourself to do this… you will get comfortable in uncomfortable situations so much faster!! Smiling is contagious … it lowers stress and anxiety… you’re more approachable… you appear more confident. Because of the reaction your body has to smiling, you’re almost tricking your body into feeling more happy and less nervous. Now it’s not a nervous smile or WORSE- a nervous laugh. It’s just a calm and confident smile- without saying anything. It’s subtle but changes everything. Today we are talking about our superpower in uncomfortable situations - SMILING. -We all get nervous - sometimes a little or sometimes a lot. -Smiling is an easy way to boost your mood and be more relaxed. -And it’s way better than the alternatives!!
looking down Retreating on your phone Crossing arms Biting nails Fidgeting or swaying
-This is NOT a nervous laugh! -When we smoke it triggers a cascade of feel good brain chemicals called endorphins! -It’s almost like you TRICK your body into feeling new emotions. -The act of smiling is a cue to your brain to release neuropeptides or happiness hormones like Dopamine, Serotonin and Endorphins. Dopamin- gives you an instant boost of energy and motivation Serotonin- helps calm you down and soothes your nerves Endorphins- reduce cortisol levels and even decreases feelings of pain. Together these brain chemicals work to reduce the effects of stress and pressure and improve your mood!! -Contagious!! For you and for those around you. When someone smokes at you.. your instinct is to smile back. It instantly creates a positive social connection that reduces stress and improves connection. It also tells your brain - im surrounded by friendly people here. “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” It’s not the EMOTION it’s the MEANING you give to the emotion that makes it come alive. -So change your state, change the MEANING you give to the situation and change your emotion. -It’s like an instant confidence bump. And it’s one easy hack. Breathe and smile. -This is NOT putting on a happy face when you’re upset - in fact we should FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS.
-It’s about how you label the situation and how you react. Instead of OH MY GOD im so nervous. It’s deep breath and we got this. -People respond so well to this because even if you dont talk to people, you appear friendly. -And it helps you have GOOD REACTIONS! When you don’t know what to do- default to smile - when most people default to something else - resting not so kind face or reaction etc. -There’s zero downside and it’s easy to remember. CHEERS!! To your SMILE being your superpower!
It’s been a minute since we’ve done a life update and I thought it was a good time for a check in chat as I’m approaching the almost one year mark of selling the company that I started when I was 20 years old… and sold when I turned 40. Twenty years of owning and operating a business where I created beauty products and sold them online and through a home shopping network and in some of the largest national retailers and throughout many countries. And the professional side of the business where I manufactured and sold pro spray tanning equipment and products so industry pros could offer the pro spray tanning service to their clients or start their own business doing it.
It was a big business and had lots of moving parts and it was my first baby. So I wasn’t sure what selling it would mean for me personally and what I would do next. I have an ideas book that I have on my body at all times and I would write notes about what set my soul of fire and I loved the most about being an entrepreneur and I wanted to sort of give it time to settle and figure out what I would start next. And then, the craziest thing happened that’s never happened in my business life before, I sort of fell into the next right thing. Sharing my journey and so many inspirational tid bits along the way today. In the first few months, I organized my life and kept notes on what I wanted to do and not do. I knew I wanted to have freedom and experience new things and feel the HIGH of entrepreneurship again. It looks different in ages and stages of your life. I was done managing a big team for awhile- but love the opportunities that exist now. Being an entrepreneur can be the most exciting thing ever- for so many reasons. How it makes you feel, the money you can make, the freedom to design your life. I’m so passionate about entrepreneurship because of what I can do for your life. So I was sorting out my life and people would DM me on IG or get my email or ask questions through a mutual friend we have. Hey I know you did this in business, can I pick your brain etc. Advice turned into coaching / mentoring … I was like sure, but I can’t commit to long term. I know the value that all my experience in business brings. And I am so passionate about women building businesses and doing what they love. And life FULLY so you feel alive and fulfilled. And not just living in routine. To me, it all adds up to you being the strongest and best version of you. What would it look like if you decided that you were going to take your business and grow it so it’s life changing… or start a business that is? What if you REALLY believed that you can make the crazy dream happen? What if you committed to doing the hard work, and sacrificed NOW for freedom LATER (and forever!) Instead of saying… when I hit X amount of followers then I will be ready to start. Instead of saying… there are already too many people in this space, realize there is space for the unique you. WHY are so many women unhappy with what they’re doing? To me, the meaning of life is doing the things you LOVE with the people you LOVE. So if you aren’t getting enough of that, we need to recalibrate. Here are the things I’ve done:
-opened a day spa and ran it for years and sold it once we were at max capacity. -created a beauty brand - with over 24 products -sold online through strategic marketing tactics -sold on home shopping network -got into major retailers and supported their sales -trained teams across the country -created another beauty brand with a top YouTube influencer -increased sales year after year while having babies
Here are the ways I can help people in business: -finding manufacturers, getting products made -making a game plan for your success -getting in front of buyers for your product or service -marketing your service in creative but low cost ways -working with influencers to sell your product or grow your brand -start a podcast -start a blog -the ins and outs of Shopify and selling online- direct to consumer -growing retail business - store or spa set-ups -using social media to promote your service/brand for FREE -working with brands / collaborations For our 30 days together, we are business besties. I help in whatever way you need. I just take 2 clients per month so we can really have the time to make huge strides in our month together. We first establish what works great with your business and what you think you need help with- what your life looks like now and what you want it to look like. **Now if this isn’t for you now, keep it in your back pocket because it could be one day. It’s not just about building the business but about building a life that you’re obsessed with. Knowing that what worked for you before might not work for you today. Sometimes you just need someone from the outside to give you the push, or open doors for you. That’s the key. As your business bestie, we work through the FEAR if we need to! In the mentoring that I’ve done so far… this is what I’ve learned. -Some people need help getting out of their own way. Stop telling yourself the story about past mistakes or how someone else doubted you. To let go of the judgment of yourself or shame around something. -Other women needed an outside perspective. OH MY GOSH how I needed this at points of my business. -None of us are here to be the 70% version of ourselves. We put up our own barriers that don’t really exist. -Rather than looking for outside validation, what if we realized we had the power to unlock it all - we’ve had the power the whole time. We just have to make the decision. Commit and work hard for. -After enough practice, it becomes WHO you ARE. -You have game changing MAGIC that just needs to be called on. -Let’s find out what you love the most and what you’re best at and how to make it so big that it changes your life. -Some people need help with the mindset shift… other people need help with the tactical and practical steps that it takes to reach the next level. I’m so excited to meet more of you and chat to see if it could be a fit to work together. Life after selling my business has been all unexpected in the best way possible. It feels so great to fall into the next thing that feels SO RIGHT on SO MANY LEVELS. I get to dive into different businesses and see huge progress quickly and see changes and how it affects lives. And for me personally, life after selling my company, feels so rewarding because I’m using ALL of what I learned - the fails and the wins- and the people I know to help other people make magic happen. And I believe so much in what I do because I’ve lived it and I’ve done it. I worked 12 hours a day for most of my life. I’m not a mentor or a coach that teaches about coaching. No shade to anyone for doing what they do - but I’ve never understood business coaching without playing the game yourself- for a long while. Because there is so much to do and learn. I have the passion and the confidence because I have lived it and put in the hard work to learn what I don’t know and get my mind right for the headaches and the struggles and the hard months and to learn what I don’t know when I need to know it. And the other thing I am working on!! Is sharing awesome things! I love sharing the best things in a certain category or ways to make your life easier or gift more thoughtful gifts and all that. So my team and I are working on a cool daily awesome thing concept that is unlike anything I’ve seen- just not done the same way so I’m super jazzed on bringing that out soon too. And then we’ll see what’s next!! DM me @LindsaysCloud on IG about working together or email me LindsayDickhout@gmail.com and let’s chat about your business.
CHEERS to all the things that make us feel alive and the best versions of ourselves!
It’s been a minute since we’ve done a life update and I thought it was a good time for a check in chat as I’m approaching the almost one year mark of selling the company that I started when I was 20 years old… and sold when I turned 40. Twenty years of owning and operating a business where I created beauty products and sold them online and through a home shopping network and in some of the largest national retailers and throughout many countries. And the professional side of the business where I manufactured and sold pro spray tanning equipment and products so industry pros could offer the pro spray tanning service to their clients or start their own business doing it.
It was a big business and had lots of moving parts and it was my first baby. So I wasn’t sure what selling it would mean for me personally and what I would do next. I have an ideas book that I have on my body at all times and I would write notes about what set my soul of fire and I loved the most about being an entrepreneur and I wanted to sort of give it time to settle and figure out what I would start next. And then, the craziest thing happened that’s never happened in my business life before, I sort of fell into the next right thing. Sharing my journey and so many inspirational tid bits along the way today. In the first few months, I organized my life and kept notes on what I wanted to do and not do. I knew I wanted to have freedom and experience new things and feel the HIGH of entrepreneurship again. It looks different in ages and stages of your life. I was done managing a big team for awhile- but love the opportunities that exist now. Being an entrepreneur can be the most exciting thing ever- for so many reasons. How it makes you feel, the money you can make, the freedom to design your life. I’m so passionate about entrepreneurship because of what I can do for your life. So I was sorting out my life and people would DM me on IG or get my email or ask questions through a mutual friend we have. Hey I know you did this in business, can I pick your brain etc. Advice turned into coaching / mentoring … I was like sure, but I can’t commit to long term. I know the value that all my experience in business brings. And I am so passionate about women building businesses and doing what they love. And life FULLY so you feel alive and fulfilled. And not just living in routine. To me, it all adds up to you being the strongest and best version of you. What would it look like if you decided that you were going to take your business and grow it so it’s life changing… or start a business that is? What if you REALLY believed that you can make the crazy dream happen? What if you committed to doing the hard work, and sacrificed NOW for freedom LATER (and forever!) Instead of saying… when I hit X amount of followers then I will be ready to start. Instead of saying… there are already too many people in this space, realize there is space for the unique you. WHY are so many women unhappy with what they’re doing? To me, the meaning of life is doing the things you LOVE with the people you LOVE. So if you aren’t getting enough of that, we need to recalibrate. Here are the things I’ve done:
-opened a day spa and ran it for years and sold it once we were at max capacity. -created a beauty brand - with over 24 products -sold online through strategic marketing tactics -sold on home shopping network -got into major retailers and supported their sales -trained teams across the country -created another beauty brand with a top YouTube influencer -increased sales year after year while having babies
Here are the ways I can help people in business: -finding manufacturers, getting products made -making a game plan for your success -getting in front of buyers for your product or service -marketing your service in creative but low cost ways -working with influencers to sell your product or grow your brand -start a podcast -start a blog -the ins and outs of Shopify and selling online- direct to consumer -growing retail business - store or spa set-ups -using social media to promote your service/brand for FREE -working with brands / collaborations For our 30 days together, we are business besties. I help in whatever way you need. I just take 2 clients per month so we can really have the time to make huge strides in our month together. We first establish what works great with your business and what you think you need help with- what your life looks like now and what you want it to look like. **Now if this isn’t for you now, keep it in your back pocket because it could be one day. It’s not just about building the business but about building a life that you’re obsessed with. Knowing that what worked for you before might not work for you today. Sometimes you just need someone from the outside to give you the push, or open doors for you. That’s the key. As your business bestie, we work through the FEAR if we need to! In the mentoring that I’ve done so far… this is what I’ve learned. -Some people need help getting out of their own way. Stop telling yourself the story about past mistakes or how someone else doubted you. To let go of the judgment of yourself or shame around something. -Other women needed an outside perspective. OH MY GOSH how I needed this at points of my business. -None of us are here to be the 70% version of ourselves. We put up our own barriers that don’t really exist. -Rather than looking for outside validation, what if we realized we had the power to unlock it all - we’ve had the power the whole time. We just have to make the decision. Commit and work hard for. -After enough practice, it becomes WHO you ARE. -You have game changing MAGIC that just needs to be called on. -Let’s find out what you love the most and what you’re best at and how to make it so big that it changes your life. -Some people need help with the mindset shift… other people need help with the tactical and practical steps that it takes to reach the next level. I’m so excited to meet more of you and chat to see if it could be a fit to work together. Life after selling my business has been all unexpected in the best way possible. It feels so great to fall into the next thing that feels SO RIGHT on SO MANY LEVELS. I get to dive into different businesses and see huge progress quickly and see changes and how it affects lives. And for me personally, life after selling my company, feels so rewarding because I’m using ALL of what I learned - the fails and the wins- and the people I know to help other people make magic happen. And I believe so much in what I do because I’ve lived it and I’ve done it. I worked 12 hours a day for most of my life. I’m not a mentor or a coach that teaches about coaching. No shade to anyone for doing what they do - but I’ve never understood business coaching without playing the game yourself- for a long while. Because there is so much to do and learn. I have the passion and the confidence because I have lived it and put in the hard work to learn what I don’t know and get my mind right for the headaches and the struggles and the hard months and to learn what I don’t know when I need to know it. And the other thing I am working on!! Is sharing awesome things! I love sharing the best things in a certain category or ways to make your life easier or gift more thoughtful gifts and all that. So my team and I are working on a cool daily awesome thing concept that is unlike anything I’ve seen- just not done the same way so I’m super jazzed on bringing that out soon too. And then we’ll see what’s next!! DM me @LindsaysCloud on IG about working together or email me LindsayDickhout@gmail.com and let’s chat about your business.
CHEERS to all the things that make us feel alive and the best versions of ourselves!
I feel like I spent all of my 20s… and actually some of my 30s trying to figure out how to order or make yummy cocktails that aren’t packed with sugar. And not just because of calories or overall health… but also… how what you drink makes you FEEL. For me… just one or two sugary drinks puts my stomach in a tailspin and I feel terrible. Like a sugary belly that’s hard to recover from. Plus you feel GOOD the next day instead of terrible if you drink things that are better for you. We’re ditching the simple syrups and the added sugar in our drinks… and we aren’t going to miss them at all! Today I’m giving you lots of ideas of what the order at a restaurant or bar… or make yourself at home that are as healthy as boozy drinks can be. Here are some things we chat about: Pick the thing you love most and will be the most satisfied with - make sure it hits your sweet spot When buying wine… you’re not going to get the fancy stuff… but it’s the best for you! Dry Farms Wine- always the best Organically grown - no added anything When ordering out-manage your order! You’ll be a pain ordering, but you’ll love it so much more. Swap the sugar for fruit however you can. So it’s sweet but naturally sweetened. One other way to do it - bring your own splashy of something that you like. Ask what fresh juices they have - no canned or bottled - and never syrups or simple syrups. If that isn’t good, ask what fruits they have then ask for it to be all smashed and muddled up. Bring your own or ordering out- a little splash of something YUMMY! PORTION - is really the key! Have 3 not 10! Clear hard booze is always better - vodka, gin, tequila CIROC is Lindsay’s fav because it comes from grapes! There are so many ways to enjoy your cocktails without having a ton of extra sugar and calories. Lindsay talks through them today!
So the next time you’re home and want to relax with a drink… or out and figuring out what to order…. You’ll have SO MANY ideas of what to get that are delish and you’ll feel good that day and the next day!
CHEERS TO YOUR NEXT AWESOME COCKTAIL!
I feel like I spent all of my 20s… and actually some of my 30s trying to figure out how to order or make yummy cocktails that aren’t packed with sugar. And not just because of calories or overall health… but also… how what you drink makes you FEEL. For me… just one or two sugary drinks puts my stomach in a tailspin and I feel terrible. Like a sugary belly that’s hard to recover from. Plus you feel GOOD the next day instead of terrible if you drink things that are better for you. We’re ditching the simple syrups and the added sugar in our drinks… and we aren’t going to miss them at all! Today I’m giving you lots of ideas of what the order at a restaurant or bar… or make yourself at home that are as healthy as boozy drinks can be. Here are some things we chat about: Pick the thing you love most and will be the most satisfied with - make sure it hits your sweet spot When buying wine… you’re not going to get the fancy stuff… but it’s the best for you! Dry Farms Wine- always the best Organically grown - no added anything When ordering out-manage your order! You’ll be a pain ordering, but you’ll love it so much more. Swap the sugar for fruit however you can. So it’s sweet but naturally sweetened. One other way to do it - bring your own splashy of something that you like. Ask what fresh juices they have - no canned or bottled - and never syrups or simple syrups. If that isn’t good, ask what fruits they have then ask for it to be all smashed and muddled up. Bring your own or ordering out- a little splash of something YUMMY! PORTION - is really the key! Have 3 not 10! Clear hard booze is always better - vodka, gin, tequila CIROC is Lindsay’s fav because it comes from grapes! There are so many ways to enjoy your cocktails without having a ton of extra sugar and calories. Lindsay talks through them today!
So the next time you’re home and want to relax with a drink… or out and figuring out what to order…. You’ll have SO MANY ideas of what to get that are delish and you’ll feel good that day and the next day!
CHEERS TO YOUR NEXT AWESOME COCKTAIL!
We’re all going through life experiencing and listening and learning… out of all of the things… how much do we really translate that into what means the most to us and what we stand for. I found that when you are crystal clear on what you stand for and what you care about… decisions become really easy. Because you’re clear on what’s important to you and what’s worth fighting for and the headspace that you live in. When you’re faced with challenges or conflict… you don’t have this big figure it out moment… or worse… react and the total opposite way that you wish you would have. Because you know what you stand for and you’re reminded of it on the daily. It requires putting your earplugs in and ignoring the noise and distractions around you. It took me a year to organize what I really stand for and what I’ve learned in my life thus far… and how to have them be a part of our daily lives and how we operate. Some key points: -We read and listen to interesting things ALL THE TIME- but how do we translate them into real life? -Get a section going in your journal… when you learn a hard lesson… write that shit down! -Makes mistakes or waste of time decisions easier to stomach- it’s a lesson learned! -Helps you deal with conflict or hardship in the day. -Helps you know what’s worth letting go and what’s worth fighting for. -Helps you strengthen your family bond and priorities -Helps you stay in a positive headspace -Give yourself the reminders you need! The ones you get off track with most! Here is my 40th bday list of life lessons learned thus far: In this house we know that the thoughts you think and the words you say create the world that you live in. In this house we don’t overthink. We trust ourselves, make a decision and move on. In this house we know that perfection isn’t the goal, consistency is. In this house we now that the state of mind that you are in when you leave this house determines the type of day that you have. In this house we know that family and health are the most important. In this house we know that success is relentless execution. In this house we know that hard work pays off. In this house we know that the words you say create an environment in your head of what you are becoming. In this house we aren’t afraid to fail. In this house we leave it all out on the field. In this house we aren’t trying to be perfect. We’re trying to be better than we were yesterday. In this house we love hard. In this house we summer hard. In this house we celebrate big. In this house we get back up. In this house we protect our happy headspace. In this house we know that good or bad, this is just a moment and it won’t last forever. In this house we know that it doesn’t matter what other people think of us. In this house we get uncomfortable and do hard things. In this house we eat the frog and do the hard thing first! In this house we make sure to be where are feet are. In this house we don’t look out the back window. In this house we know that the best way to make good decisions is to make sure we don’t put ourselves in bad situations. In this house we focus on getting in our 10s everyday. In this house we know that that meaning of life is doing the things you love with the people you love. In this house we go to bed without crumbs. In this house we know that boos don’t block dunks. In this house we know that no amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. In this house we know that people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do. In this house we own our mistakes and we don’t let them define us. In this house we know there are two acceptable outcomes. We tried hard and were victorious or we tried as hard as we could and it just didn’t work this time. In this house we know that you don’t always get what you want but you always get what you absolutely must have. In this house we know that being wrong is better than doing nothing. In this house we know that nobody can ruin your day. In this house we control our crazy! CHEERS! To knowing what you stand for and making it a part of your daily life!
We’re all going through life experiencing and listening and learning… out of all of the things… how much do we really translate that into what means the most to us and what we stand for. I found that when you are crystal clear on what you stand for and what you care about… decisions become really easy. Because you’re clear on what’s important to you and what’s worth fighting for and the headspace that you live in. When you’re faced with challenges or conflict… you don’t have this big figure it out moment… or worse… react and the total opposite way that you wish you would have. Because you know what you stand for and you’re reminded of it on the daily. It requires putting your earplugs in and ignoring the noise and distractions around you. It took me a year to organize what I really stand for and what I’ve learned in my life thus far… and how to have them be a part of our daily lives and how we operate. Some key points: -We read and listen to interesting things ALL THE TIME- but how do we translate them into real life? -Get a section going in your journal… when you learn a hard lesson… write that shit down! -Makes mistakes or waste of time decisions easier to stomach- it’s a lesson learned! -Helps you deal with conflict or hardship in the day. -Helps you know what’s worth letting go and what’s worth fighting for. -Helps you strengthen your family bond and priorities -Helps you stay in a positive headspace -Give yourself the reminders you need! The ones you get off track with most! Here is my 40th bday list of life lessons learned thus far: In this house we know that the thoughts you think and the words you say create the world that you live in. In this house we don’t overthink. We trust ourselves, make a decision and move on. In this house we know that perfection isn’t the goal, consistency is. In this house we now that the state of mind that you are in when you leave this house determines the type of day that you have. In this house we know that family and health are the most important. In this house we know that success is relentless execution. In this house we know that hard work pays off. In this house we know that the words you say create an environment in your head of what you are becoming. In this house we aren’t afraid to fail. In this house we leave it all out on the field. In this house we aren’t trying to be perfect. We’re trying to be better than we were yesterday. In this house we love hard. In this house we summer hard. In this house we celebrate big. In this house we get back up. In this house we protect our happy headspace. In this house we know that good or bad, this is just a moment and it won’t last forever. In this house we know that it doesn’t matter what other people think of us. In this house we get uncomfortable and do hard things. In this house we eat the frog and do the hard thing first! In this house we make sure to be where are feet are. In this house we don’t look out the back window. In this house we know that the best way to make good decisions is to make sure we don’t put ourselves in bad situations. In this house we focus on getting in our 10s everyday. In this house we know that that meaning of life is doing the things you love with the people you love. In this house we go to bed without crumbs. In this house we know that boos don’t block dunks. In this house we know that no amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. In this house we know that people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do. In this house we own our mistakes and we don’t let them define us. In this house we know there are two acceptable outcomes. We tried hard and were victorious or we tried as hard as we could and it just didn’t work this time. In this house we know that you don’t always get what you want but you always get what you absolutely must have. In this house we know that being wrong is better than doing nothing. In this house we know that nobody can ruin your day. In this house we control our crazy! CHEERS! To knowing what you stand for and making it a part of your daily life!
Think about this… the mood that you’re in determines everything.
We all sort of know - your mindset determines your reactions.
But in the last month I’ve been obsessed with the idea of how real it is that literally everything that happens to you is a result of the mindset you had going into the situation.
Real life example - we’re all eating and my husband says- gosh mom makes great eggs… and great french toast. Now that I think about it, we all just really only like the breakfast foods that she cooks.
If I’m in a good headspace my response is- WOW Dad’s got jokes huh? You’re welcome darling, you’re welcome!
Or if I’m in a bad headspace my response is likely - You’ve gotta be F-ing kidding me do you know how many HOURS I spend cooking meals for all of you and then you guys all head up to your happy spaces and relax while I get to clean it all up? What an ungrateful and inconsiderate thing to say you
Now if you know me there is no bigger kick in the gut. I spend so many hours in the kitchen trying to make super healthy yet super delicious foods that everyone likes. I know he’s trying to be funny- but I also know that there’s some truth to what he’s saying… but my reaction determines how the WHOLE THING goes. Does it end up in a full on argument because that was a hurtful jab in front of the kids? Or am I able to take the hit and serve it right back and we chalk it up to we all don’t take each other so seriously?
Think about it… if you’re irritated and someone says something irritating to you… you’re on fire! You were basically waiting to get on fire.
But if you’re in a good happy headspace, you’re able to laugh it off or ignore it or realize this is a THEM issue not a YOU issue.
Whether it’s with your spouse or a coworker or your kids… anyone in your life.
So how do we hack it? We pause life and get back in a good headspace when we are off… or we pull back and don’t do so many things.
There’s no point in being somewhere if you’re in a bad mood while you’re there.
Today we are deep diving into how our headspace affects everything around us.
Here are some things that Lindsay talks about:
-It’s all about perspective!
-Figure out what makes you the happiest
-People are the happiest when you get to do what you want to be doing
-Are we looking for quick highs? Or actual
-This is why I talk so much about getting in your 10s.
-Self care - slow it down and do the things that make you happy.
-Be alone.
-We have to cut complaining and stop being around people who complain.
-Take full accountability for it - this is so empowering because we control what happens to us. Nobody else controls our happiness.
-Not letting mistakes get you down.
-Look forward
-Put in work instead of complaining - about whatever it is - that you are in debt or overweight etc.
Your headspace is everything. Fight like hell to stay in a good headspace and recalibrate when you can tell that you’re off.
CHEERS to you and your happy headspace!
Think about this… the mood that you’re in determines everything.
We all sort of know - your mindset determines your reactions.
But in the last month I’ve been obsessed with the idea of how real it is that literally everything that happens to you is a result of the mindset you had going into the situation.
Real life example - we’re all eating and my husband says- gosh mom makes great eggs… and great french toast. Now that I think about it, we all just really only like the breakfast foods that she cooks.
If I’m in a good headspace my response is- WOW Dad’s got jokes huh? You’re welcome darling, you’re welcome!
Or if I’m in a bad headspace my response is likely - You’ve gotta be F-ing kidding me do you know how many HOURS I spend cooking meals for all of you and then you guys all head up to your happy spaces and relax while I get to clean it all up? What an ungrateful and inconsiderate thing to say you
Now if you know me there is no bigger kick in the gut. I spend so many hours in the kitchen trying to make super healthy yet super delicious foods that everyone likes. I know he’s trying to be funny- but I also know that there’s some truth to what he’s saying… but my reaction determines how the WHOLE THING goes. Does it end up in a full on argument because that was a hurtful jab in front of the kids? Or am I able to take the hit and serve it right back and we chalk it up to we all don’t take each other so seriously?
Think about it… if you’re irritated and someone says something irritating to you… you’re on fire! You were basically waiting to get on fire.
But if you’re in a good happy headspace, you’re able to laugh it off or ignore it or realize this is a THEM issue not a YOU issue.
Whether it’s with your spouse or a coworker or your kids… anyone in your life.
So how do we hack it? We pause life and get back in a good headspace when we are off… or we pull back and don’t do so many things.
There’s no point in being somewhere if you’re in a bad mood while you’re there.
Today we are deep diving into how our headspace affects everything around us.
Here are some things that Lindsay talks about:
-It’s all about perspective!
-Figure out what makes you the happiest
-People are the happiest when you get to do what you want to be doing
-Are we looking for quick highs? Or actual
-This is why I talk so much about getting in your 10s.
-Self care - slow it down and do the things that make you happy.
-Be alone.
-We have to cut complaining and stop being around people who complain.
-Take full accountability for it - this is so empowering because we control what happens to us. Nobody else controls our happiness.
-Not letting mistakes get you down.
-Look forward
-Put in work instead of complaining - about whatever it is - that you are in debt or overweight etc.
Your headspace is everything. Fight like hell to stay in a good headspace and recalibrate when you can tell that you’re off.
CHEERS to you and your happy headspace!
This is the PERFECT time to plan out your holiday events. I’m not like a bring pumpkins out in August type of person but I am a plan a few months ahead for the busiest months of the year type of person.
Today we are talking about getting your calendar going for October, November and December.
It may seem early to plan for the holidays but it will make your life so much easier… plus the way we’re going to do it is so much fun. I have lots of ideas for you for each month so you fill it intentionally with adventures that sound fun to you and your crew.
It’s the best way to save time and money and chaos in your life I’m telling you. By thinking of these things ahead of time, you don’t spend time racing around trying to find something that works the day before or the morning of… PLUS you save money because you can weigh out your options ahead of time and it’s almost always more awesome.
We are doing some awesome early holiday event planning today!
I do everything on paper calendars and I love it.. but if you don’t use a paper calendar already.. print out just the months of October, November and December.
Put in anything you already know the dates for first. Then brain dump the things you might do or want to plan for.
It’s the best way to save time and money and chaos in your life I’m telling you. By thinking of these things ahead of time, you don’t spend time racing around trying to find something that works the day before or the morning of… PLUS you save money because you can weigh out your options ahead of time and it’s almost always more awesome.
Like I’m obsessed with a baker who makes the cutest cookies - they are $4 each and so custom and personalized - so I’ll ping her for the 3 major events I have going on during this holiday season. Maybe you bring them as a hostess gift for someone throwing a holiday party or have your kids give them to teachers with a gift card for a holiday gift… there are just so many things!
(Cookie contact: SavageCollections.CS@gmail.com)
I’m a huge plan of planning ahead and ordering online or through email/text/etsy - love supporting small businesses too, and often more unique and personalized - and it’s done! No stress or panic our just buying to buy whatever you can find at the last minute.
And reservations! I love making lunch and dinner reservations ahead of time so it’s never a stress not having an option when you want to go out. Even if I don’t know exactly who is going yet or if it will work out, I look at the calendar and make reservations based on how the weeks are looking and just cancel ahead of time if it doesn’t work. It takes me a few hours every other month and then we’re never stuck starving waiting an hour for a table at a restaurant. Stress eliminated!
Here are some fun ideas of things to get on your calendar for the upcoming fun holiday months.
(Let’s not spend the next 3 months in a mall!)
October
Family photos (need outfits and maybe props)
Pumpkin Patch
Order Christmas jammies!
Haunted House
Amusement Park- Haunted style
Apple Picking
Swap out summer clothes for fall clothes in closets
Make/ Order Halloween Costumes
Make pumpkin pancakes/ desserts!
Decorate the house for fall
Carve pumpkins or have a pumpkin carving party
November
Volunteering - maybe packing food for a family
Thankful activity/game for Thanksgiving
Thankful shirts/outfits
Watch holiday movies
Host a pie swap
Host a Friendsgiving
Decorate the home for Thanksgiving
Find someone to thank in a creative way
Get outside! Bike ride, hike
December
Tree Farm/ Lot
Santa Photos
Volunteering
Gingerbread Decorating
Christmas Light Viewing
Cookie Exchange Party
Plan a wintery getaway
Make winter drinks! Hot chocolate, egg nog, spiked apple cider.
Give away old toys (before new ones come in)
DIY holiday gifts
Make it to the snow!
Start thinking of NY resolutions
Add in a fitness challenge to keep you moving your body during the busy (and mostly based around eating) months!
-We will have LOTS of discussions on gifts and planning ahead for that! But for now for this, let’s think about anything we need to order for events.
Treats, hostess gifts, outfits for your family.
CHEERS to planning ahead for the most awesome holiday season ever!
We all know the benefits of exercise. It’s good for us in the short term and in the long term… it’s good for us physically and mentally.
But, it’s often hard to find the time or motivation or to get momentum going with it.
Today’s podcast is all about finding fitness that you LOVE, so you look forward to it and you enjoy it, versus seeing it as chore and something you kinda dread but do it because you feel like you have to do it.
We’re talking about your relationship with fitness today… how you think about it and approach it… and how changing up what you’re doing and how you think about it could be one of the biggest game changers in your overall physical health but even more so for your mental health. Focusing on fitness that you do at the start of everyday in a way that when you end, you feel like the best version of yourself, going into the day.
Approaching fitness in a creative way allows you to really lean into the movement that makes you feel the best and that you enjoy doing. And it shifts from something dreaded to something that makes you feel alive and strong and more balanced and centered.
Here are some of the points Lindsay discusses:
-Change it up is key
-Watch or listen to something interesting to keep the time moving
**pick ahead of time! So there is no wasting time when it’s game time
-Challenge your body with new movement
Fitness ideas: trampoline, heavy weights, running distance challenges, sculpt classes via OBE fitness online, running stairs with a body weight on, running the beach, boxing.
-Momentum is everything - it’s more about the consistency of it than what you actually do. Show up everyday (or almost everyday) and give as much as you have each day.
-Fitness can feel like this morning clarity - physically and mentally
-Get something hard in before the day even gets going - get in an early win
-Do it alone or with friends depending on what feels best to you
-Build it into the routine - it’s already been decided and time made for it
-Love it so much that you do it on vacation
-The best way to get momentum is just start. You don’t a full plan or fancy equipment just move your body to get going. The feeling will be enough to start the motivation.
-Make it your own competition to beat yourself - you’re in a solo competition. Comparing to social media or other people is always a losing game.
We aren’t here to be the 80% versions of ourselves. Let’s get up and move and start our days feeling ALIVE and strong and powerful.
The discipline of it builds self confidence and happiness. And that’s AWESOME!
We have the BEST happiness hack to share with you today! It’s all about focusing in on those little things that make you so happy on the daily - the things Lindsay calls your 10s. Some could take 10 seconds and others 10 minutes and others and hour. The whole point is to identify each week, those things that make you feel alive and bring joy to your days. Then, let’s write them down and make it like a game… a challenge to hit them each day. We often look to the BIG moments and days… like special events and birthdays or Mother’s Day… and we love those celebrations but sometimes things don’t go as planned… someone gets sick or the day goes sideways. That’s why we love leaning into the small moments - those little things that make you happy on the daily. Lindsay swears by this method. It helps you feel overall more happy and centered and energetic and have more patience and compassion - because you’re getting in those things that make you feel the BEST. It’s your daily challenge to get in as many 10s as you can… and be intentional with how you spend your time… and the result is having days that feel more full and fulfilling and happy. Here are some points Lindsay makes: -Get a fun note-pad- it totally helps! -It makes you happier and gives you “self time” without setting aside time for a facial and a massage. It’s little things all day long. -BEST part is that it helps you be the best version of yourself - the person you want to be. When you’re pouring from an empty cup- you feel depleted. You’re wiped and less patient and not enjoying the day as much as you could. Doing it this way, when your kids are hard or someone at work is being an asshole, you’re coming to the situation with a much better perspective and mindset. You’re constantly doing things you love and feeling fulfilled - so you are better prepared for the challenges and handle them in the way you want to. -Do this at the start of the week- Sunday or Monday -These are not goals! This is happiness based! -Separate them best by when you are most likely to do them- and when it feels best. -Two ways to separate it…. AM Mid Day PM OR Mind/Body Connections Health -In the am we have the most energy and focus - so put those things here. -In the afternoon- do the more creative thinking things or writing - group work. -Change it up each week Examples- Lindsay’s List! AM Workout (before everyone is awake) Yummy Coffee Supplements Journal Get ready early Mid Day Supplements Healthy lunch that gives me fuel Connect with a friend Make progress on Craig’s health PM Make healthy homemade meal- eat together Yummy dessert Walk dog with fam Fun evening activity - hot tub, group game Stretch before bed Supplements Read with Parker before bed Chill time with each girl in bed/couch Alone time with Craig Get 7 hours of sleep Here is the link to Lindsay’s favorite ever check list pad to do this hack: https://amzn.to/3P3BOu5 CHEERS to adding in your 10’s to your days with this awesome hack! 💕
We all celebrate birthdays and anniversaries… big accomplishments like a job promotion or winning the soccer tournament. But what about those micro wins? Those moments and accomplishments that are smaller and scale but mean just as much if not more. Focusing more on the process and the journey more than the destination and the ultimate goal. We’re talking about all the different things that happen in our lives that we could be celebrating… in ways that are so very special but also simple and easy and not expensive. With a little advanced planning sometimes and some creativity and thought, we can take smaller special moments and lean into them a bit more. Rather than just moving on with the routine… taking a moment to make the feeling last longer and be more memorable. We’re talking about taking smaller wins and making them extraordinary with simple yet impactful gestures. Maybe someone you know has been saving up for an epic trip for a long time… Maybe you have custom luggage tags made on Etsy and email them to them a week before their trip. You could totally do that for $20… And write a really nice card and it’s something they will always remember. If someone you know is have a surgery or a procedure done… Rather than sending flowers or a premade generic basket… Think about what they would like during their recovery and downtime. Or just think about things they like in general. Again things they like not things you like or you like for them. If one of your kids is trying out for a team… You could purchase something ahead of time to give to them when they make it… Like a ballet piggy bank if they make a nutcracker for a basketball net for the back of their door when they make the basketball team. And if they don’t make it, they will likely still be interested in the same thing so you could use it for later on… Or you could still give it to them because they tried hard. Or return it if it’s not personalized. Happy birthday is of course we love and any days are special to people like the day they got engaged. Much more memorable to send them a little something on the unexpected day. One really thoughtful and easy gift to give people is their own Christmas card back in a frame years later. This works for celebrating all sorts of occasions… You could have a personalized frame made and spend 40 or $50 or you could get an expensive but really cute frame at target for five for $10. Here it was a thoughtful card and note and you have a very memorable moment!! —Examples of things to celebrate… -Kids - studying hard for the test - rather than the grade on the test. Teaching it’s the effort made, more than the result. -Whatever it is someone is struggling with at the moment - even if it seems simple and routine - like -Meeting with a skincare company because they want to start a skincare line - it’s encouraging! -Making the team or the show -Starting a podcast or a blog -Going to their first kickboxing class (if it’s a big goal for them) -Passing goal numbers at work -Crushing a presentation -Finishing finals -Getting drivers license or permit! —Examples of ways to celebrate them -Order an ice cream cake for $30 to be delivered… And write something funny or celebratory on it. -Hop on Amazon and search for keywords. -If you have time ahead of time… Look on Etsy for something personalized and cool. -And balloons or treats always work well. -There are so many different gifts you can get that are expensive… $20 or less… -Get a crew together to celebrate! You go to dinner anyway - why not say this is the reason for the dinner! -Have someone make a cool drawing of them doing the thing! So many cool artists you can find on IG now. -In the same way, dinners can be special. Party horns to celebrate. Their fav meal. -Decorate their doorway! -Have friends over for movie night or game night around the micro win. -Photos and scrapbooks are always a win!! Can be more time consuming but keep forever! -Sneak a note in their car or lunch box or mail it! -For a special meal… have everyone write down something - increase their support system. Something loving or a celebration - give a prompt! Be spontaneous with it! Do it for yourself too! (And other people will for you too!) And if they don’t do more for yourself! There is no better fuel or motivation or feeling of love and belonging than unexpected celebrations and knowing how loved you are!!
How to be awesome at living with enthusiasm without fear of judgment. Whatever it is that you love or are passionate about… we’re talking about going all in - full enthusiasm with it.
It seems like society lately is just so sensitive and reactive and judgmental.
We forget that you don’t have to listen or pay attention to anything that bothers you. Turn it off, don’t give it any energy, problem solved.
Judgment is at an all time high around us and it’s changing who we are and what we do or don’t do.
So many people aren’t living the lives they want or taking about or pursuing their passions because of what people will think.
This podcast is your wake up reminder… to be your authentic energetic self, whatever that is… because people are going to judge you either way and you’ll likely never really know what people are thinking or saying about you anyway… and when you’re 90 looking back on life, there’s no chance you’re going to wish you worried more about other people’s opinions of you. No way, but you will regret not going all in on that things that make you feel alive.
Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about:
-When you’re 90, you won’t care what those strangers on social media said about your reel being lame or you had too much enthusiasm at a swim meet.
-There is only ONE TIME when I think we should tone it down. ONE!
-Judgment is around us all the time!
-You know what the best practice is not to worry about it?
Don’t judge other people yourself!
-Worry about yourself!
If you have judging thoughts - think about what that means
-If you’re in a mindset where dragging someone else down makes you feel better, it’s time to recalibrate.
We need to get going in the other direction.
And let’s figure out what it means - what are they accomplishing or doing that might make you feel jealous in some way?
-Because judgment is always about the person judging, a reflection on something they feel about themselves or a shortcoming of their own that they are trying to compensate for.
-Judgment is at an all time high.
-Technology is exposing how much this is going on.
-I think that judgment is at an me high around us and it’s changing who we are and what we do or don’t do.
-Judgment is often why you haven’t done the thing!
Whatever that is!
-It’s crazy to limit our lives because of what people may or may not think about you.
-Changing our mindset requires doing it over and over again.
-We all LOSE when people silence themselves. HOW have we gotten to a place where we aren’t sure if we can be friends with people who think differently than us? I LOVE people who have different opinions because that’s the best way to learn.
-As human beings, we are super social creatures. We are meant to be with our groups. It’s a survival thing.
-This is the problem with censorship on social media and cancel culture - it primes us to be afraid to share our opinions!
-WHY can’t we be ok with people have differing opinions?
-When judgment really stings - when it hits a sensitive spot. Something we feel insecure about.
-You can get 100 positive comments and get 1 negative comment and you focus on that one - because it’s hard! Don’t read the comments or
Why would you want to feel less confident? When it’s usually a reflection of them. You just caught in the crossfire.
-If someone is likely going to give you negative feedback, don’t ask for their feedback.
-Why are we allowing people who have been shaped by their own experiences to define us?
-You are going to be judged. We all do it - even if we don’t mean to. So we have to work on how much we care.
-It limits us!! Limits our income, our experiences, everything!
-We can’t get better at things for fear of failure - failure is how we learn! We rarely learn from successes.
-It is your job to protect your headspace!! It’s your responsibility to block it out. The words you say in your head are what you become. You have to be so careful what you listen to.
-Let’s talk about killing the messenger!!
What to do when people tell you about other peoples judgment!
Ask them…
What was your motivation in sharing that with me?
How do you think this makes me feel?
What did you think I could do with this?
Don’t over talk it! Let them sit with this!
-As if they are doing you a favor. Just bringing it to your attention. But there’s nothing you can do - it’s already out there.
Don’t bring me other people’s judgment! It’s almost knocking you down a bit - from their own insecurity.
-Don’t ask questions or defend yourself!
Tell them… you don’t want to hear it - even if it’s hard!
CHEERS TO LIVING FULLY! Without fear of judgment with FULL enthusiasm!
Lindsay has recently adapted a morning mantra that has been so great for her in so many ways. How bad you want it? Because that’s really what it comes down to. Whatever it is that you want to accomplish… How bad you want it are you willing to put in the hours and hours it takes to get good at something or accomplish the hard goal? Are you willing to get super uncomfortable and push through even when you want to quit? Lindsay talks about in the past… she’s tricked herself into thinking she didn’t know what the next step was to accomplish certain goals… when really she knew what needed to be done, she just wasn’t all-in-committed to it. It all starts with the morning mantra that carries us through the day. One question that you answer each morning… that helps you make the best decisions throughout the day. It’s filtering out any distractions or negative thoughts for thinking about the past in the ways that don’t serve me… It’s about waking up with a clear and refreshed mind… Which helps me stay more focused throughout the day and able to self correct quickly when I fall into a habit I don’t want to like negative self talk or mindlessly scrolling. So the question is… how bad do you actually want it? Write out your 3 priorities for the day and stay focused on them. Then… commit and burn the boat! Freedom doesn’t equal freedom… discipline equals freedom Mark Twain once said, “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” How bad you want it? Lose weight - when you reach for calorie surplus Gain muscle - get out of bed and work out when you want to sleep in Make a certain amount of sales - put in the hours it takes to get good Make more money - push through the pain Wake up early - if you need more time to accomplish goals Let go of the past - fight the urge to sink into it Health - make the appointments, take the supplements Conflict resolution - address the issues weighing heavily on you Increase your willpower - embrace discomfort Get rid of stress - hug the monster! Tackle it head on - you feel so much better Have a great group of friends - go out at night even when you want to stay on the couch Lindsay explains… When I’m not sure what I should do for the next hour or whatever it is I ask myself… What would the person do if it is achieving what I want to achieve. And ask… how bad do you actually want it? It’s about having a clear focus of what’s the most important to you and prioritizing the things you’re working to make happen. And it’s just as much about what I want as it is what I don’t want. It’s filtering out any distractions or negative thoughts for thinking about the past in the ways that don’t serve me… It’s about waking up with a clear and refreshed mind… Which helps you stay more focused throughout the day and able to self correct quickly when you fall into a habit you don’t want to like negative self talk or mindlessly scrolling. And then… knowing your priorities and focus and the ways you're going to challenge myself for that day… And when you start to question it or it gets more than uncomfortable… the most powerful question you can ask yourself. How bad do you want it? CHEERS friends! To going after what you really want and doing what it takes to get it.
Today we’re talking about creating awesome dessert tables. We think a dessert table is the center of the party. It’s where all the yummy treats are and often the best place to take photos because it’s themed and decorated. Also, if you want to do a more simple party but still have it be themed, you could just do an awesome dessert table and focus more on the details and that’s all you need. We’re talking about dessert tables for birthday parties, holiday parties, adult parties, kids parties… all of it. Lots of ideas of how to set it up ahead of time so it looks just the way you want and makes the party feel extra special. And makes for the perfect photo backdrop too. Planning dessert tables is so much fun and really sets the tone for your party and makes it memorable. Today we’re talking about creating awesome dessert tables- for any occasion and on any budget.
Lindsay talks about… -Start with your backdrop!! This is the best part!
Make sure it’s not wrinkled or see through -Figure out your table - can get creative with it - doesn’t have to be a table with linens. Can be pillars or smaller tables - if it’s a kids birthday party - make sure it’s not too high or have a plan for the bday boy or girl to get behind it to blow out the candles. -Use carts- especially for holidays!! -Set this up! Ahead of time - even if your event isn’t at your house -Add in cake stands or cupcake stands - pull from what you have then buy and order what you need -Get creative with this! You can use crates or paint things, use things you have etc. It doesn’t have to be for cakes or cupcakes. -Tiered items work well for some height. -Add candy containers for height (make sure you have clear scoopers) -Position it so people see it when they walk in - so it’s good for the FEEL of the party and also for the photos. -Take photos before people start eating it!! -Order bulk of inexpensive stuff and add cake toppers -Order custom from ETSY ahead of time or do your own with little chalkboard signs or otherwise. -Local finds from party stores or Target -Make sure it’s not in direct sun for melting -Make sure you have candles and a lighter and plates and forks and a knife to cut. -Make sure you talk to the baker about details!! And so you have the right size cake stand ready. -Adult parties - add in cocktails to it!! -DAY OF PARTY- set-up food last. Candy can go sooner- that will help with timing! -What to make sure you talk to your baker about, how to position your table, backdrop ideas and what to set-up ahead of time Dessert tables can be such a special and memorable part of your party. We hope this podcast inspired you to design your own awesome dessert table for your next party!! CHEERS to celebrating all the things!
Today we are talking about how to be a present mom to your kids and also maintain your own identity.
You know, that person you were before you had kids. There is so much to do when you have kids, it’s very easy for mom things to take up all your time. Without realizing it, it’s easy to slowly stop doing the hobbies you love or spending time your friends without your kids.
We’re talking about this today because we don’t want to wake up one day and not know who we actually ARE because our entire identity has been wrapped up in the people that we care for.
There are so many layers to the importance of maintaining your own identity and not feeling guilty about it. One thing I know for sure is we are all the best moms we can be, when we are truly happy. That means taking time for yourself, not trying to live up to the expectations of others or trying so hard to make your life look a certain way.
Plus, how great for our kids to see us not only as the people are raising them, but also our own individual awesome selves too who have interests and hobbies and friends and sometimes careers. We will do anything for them and we love them with everything that we are but there’s more to us than just our role as mothers.
Today we’re talking about how the hell we’re going to raise these humans and also have our own awesome individual identity too.
-You’re not just a mom - you are so many things. Maybe that means you stepped away from your career. But if you think of yourself as “just a mom” you’re discrediting all the other layers there are to you.
Even if you don’t work outside the home for pay- you are so much more than a mom. By taking away that “just a mom” label… it opens you up to all the things that you are beyond motherhood.
-You have to give yourself grace - and know that some days you’ll fail and some days you’ll nail it.
-Be honest with yourself and your shortcomings - rather than trying to be perfect. You will relate to more friends and it takes the pressure off.
-It’s very easy to slowly change your personal identity to one that is solely being a mother.
-When you are truly happy, you are the best mom.
-What to do when you’ve lost this balance
Lean into how you feel.
Journal it - instead of or in addition to telling friends.
Who were you before you were there mom?
She is still there
If your only identify is in relation to who you are for other people
-For new moms - you have to figure out your way of doing it. It will change through ages and stages.
-Make sure your priorities are actually YOUR priorities.
-We have to let go of trying to make our life look a certain way
-And let go of that pressure to live up to other peoples standards
-Let me tell you the honest truth- some days it’s a shit show and some days it’s smooth for ALL OF US. Whatever you are going through, the majority of moms have gone through some version of it at some point.
-If you always look a certain way and your kids are dressed a certain way, you will feel like you have your shit together because people will view you that way.
-And some of us are better at certain types of parenting and not as much at others.
-You are a mom AND…
like… I’m a mom AND I was a CEO for 20 years
-We are raising kids to LAUNCH!
We aren’t raising people to take care of forever.
-We don’t want them to just see us living for them.
-And we don’t want kids who have everything given to them - to feel like you live for them.
-What is this going to do to the kids if you work?
We don’t want them to only know us to take care of them.
-That is how we lose ourselves. We forget what we like, what our hobbies are.
You could wake up one day… and not know WHO you actually ARE.
-When your kids move out, you will feel lost.
-We want our kids to be their own people.
KNOW and recognize when you are off balance. And running on low energy.
-Say to your kids.. I need time for me.
-Makes your kids respect you more too.
This and so much more on today’s episode. We hope it inspires you to keep your own happiness and identity a priority as you navigate through this awesome journey of motherhood.
The goal of today’s podcast is to inspire you to live your summer fully. Try new things, get outside and adventure, do the things you love and find new things you love. So that on that last day of Summer- whenever that is for you in August or September, you feel like you really lived it fully and made the most of this cool season of the year and of our lives. Because we know, next summer won’t look the same. It may look similar for some of us or completely different for others… but the whole point is to be intentional about your time for the next few months and really make the most of it. We’re talking about how to plan and also to be spontaneous so the days seem longer and more full. Cancelling some things so you have more time to explore and just feel life freedom. Freedom from to do lists and work and routines. Whatever phase of life you are in, it’s possible. Today we’re planning out how to do it so our summers are FULL of all the things we want more of. -Summer mantra - live it fully! Or SUMMER HARD as Jesse Itzler says! -Reminder to take advantage of it -Get outside - make the days longer -Get up early - stay up late -Take opportunities -Try things you don’t normally try -The more experiences you have the more full you are. -Our goal is to live the days fully and different than other times of the year. -So at the end of the summer you feel like you really lived it! You didn’t just do the same things you’ve been doing your whole life. -You might need to put things on hold until Sept. It will be fine. You might need to lighten up your load to be able to life summer fully. When you eliminate things - shut it off - and you dont have to worry about meetings and calls and to do lists - when you shut it all down - you live a different life. This freedom is everything right - this is what we work hard for. Maybe you do what you need to do until a certain time and then it’s OFF. Just for summer. You might not get as much done, but life is long and this is a short period of time. Here’s how to do it and take the pressure off: -Journal and brain dump -And have your loved ones do the same -Google for ideas
Lindsay gives SO MANY ideas of ways to fill your summer with FUN! CHEERS to your most awesome summer!
-Struggling SUCKS but it’s also what makes us stronger. -One of Lindsay’s favorite quotes is… Strength grows in the moments when you think you cannot go on but you keep going anyway.
-It’s like how they say Billionaires kids have it the hardest. Which sounds crazy but makes sense - if you’ve got it all - what’s there to work for. And with very little struggles, how to you get strong and tough and independent? -Struggle makes us stronger. Bottom line. Here are ways working through a BAD DAY can build character: -Makes you more resourceful -Helps you prioritize and realize what matters most -More confident in your ability to weather the storms - it’s all about self esteem!! -Helps you stay grounded -Helps you to understand and help others
We are exactly halfway through the year!
Lindsay likes the 2nd half of the year goal setting almost more than January 1st goal setting because it gives more of a tangible deadline. It’s hard to see a whole year forward but it’s not as hard to see 6 months forward.
So in this episode, we’re going a check-in. Where are we at, halfway through this year and where do we want to be at the end of the year?
Asking ourselves questions like…
What were your goals at the beginning of the year? Are they the same or have some things changed now? What are the things that you keep telling yourself you need to start but haven’t yet? What is something you for sure want to experience or accomplish before the end of the year? And what would make you feel the most proud of yourself?
Time goes FAST so let’s hit pause on life for a few minutes today to be honest with ourselves and intentional about how we spend the next 6 months so we don’t wake up on December 31 in the exact same place we are today. We can accomplish so much in 6 months. Let’s go!
-Let’s ask ourselves these questions!!
Journal it!
-What were your goals at the beginning of the year?
-Are they the same or have some things changed now?
-What are the things that you keep telling yourself you need to start but haven’t yet?
-What are some things that know you need to stop doing? Habits that aren’t serving you…
-What feels on balance and off balance with how you spend your time and your overall life priorities?
-What am I doing awesome at and what am I sucking at?
-What is bringing you the most JOY and the most stress?
-How is your own personal health?
-How is the health of your relationships?
-What is something you for sure want to experience or accomplish before the end of the year?
-What would make you feel the most proud of yourself?
Self esteem is everything.
-What is working with your day-to-day schedule and habits?
Let’s not just go through the motions!!! Let’s make sure we are spending our time and money doing things that make us happy and move us forward!
Don’t do this half way!! Spend the hour it takes to really be honest with yourself and plan. Awesome things will come from it… we promise!!
What is your go-to activity when you want to cope with a stressing situation or procrastinate on doing something hard?
What do you do when you don’t want to be present in the moment? What distractions do you allow when you’re working with a task that is overwhelming or uncomfortable?
Most of us spend a good chunk of our life numbed. Doing things without intention that don’t really make us feel fulfilled (even if we sort of think they do in the moment)… leaving us feeling more anxious, sad, sometimes lonely and less motivated and certainly moving slower towards the goals we want to accomplish.
-Here are some examples..
Sugar, booze, hours scrolling on social media, busy being busy, online shopping, over-buying, hours spent binging TV.
These habits aren't necessarily bad… but if we engage in them too often OR we think that they make us happy but actually make us feel worse OR if we are using them to numb ourselves… it’s a problem!
Numbing habits are things we do to avoid, procrastinate or distract ourselves from really feeling the feelings we are feeling or doing the hard things that need to be done.
Today, we’re unpacking how we numb and how to undo these habits in a way that makes it last. So we can live very intentional and present lives.
-We don’t want to feel uncomfortable so we search out things that make us feel comfortable and allow us to procrastinate.
-We don’t want to risk rejection or failure so we avoid uncertain situations.
-We don’t want to be present in the moment so we distract ourselves scrolling on our phone.
-What if we faced this numbing habits head on- and found a way to not go back to them, ever.
-Most advice would be - delete the app, avoid social media for a month, etc. And while this could work for some, it doesn’t get to the ROOT of the issue.
-Here’s the tactical practical advice on this… feel all the feelings. Be honest with yourself about what you are avoiding, procrastinating on etc. So you can work through it and decide to not deal with it in the same way. Once you understand why you do it, it’s much easier to switch out that action with another one that actually serves you.
-Maybe something is uncomfortable or challenges you - Lindsay did this a ton in business. Rather than making the hard call or finishing the long report, she’d let it sit on her to do list and be busy staying busy- fully avoiding the hard and uncomfortable. Not moving forward in the way we should because we get ourselves stuck- stuck in avoiding. Avoiding risk of failure or rejection, so we don’t actually do the things. Procrastinate and distract instead.
-Let’s talk about more examples…
-Social media -many layers to this but comparing to others often and spending way more time than you want… just scrolling… looking for nothing in particular.
-Texting - great to connect with friends and family but also can be a huge time suck and addictive.
-Video games,TV & movies - often avoidance! And like social media- can make us compare our lives to the ones on TV and feel worse.
-Being busy-so busy you aren’t actually present. For this, it’s time to sit for 10 minutes and do nothing. Recenter, be present, feel the uncertainly, even if you feel like you should get up and do something, do nothing.
-addictions - booze, drugs, smoking, gambling, sugar - alllll ways to numb out feelings you don’t want to feel. You are triggered to go to these when you are stressed or sad or mad or tense… it’s a way not to feel it.
Comfort foods/ overeating - if it ends up making you feel worse, it’s not healthy.
Losing it/having a crazy moment - it’s like if you bang your elbow, you yell at the last person who slightly irritated you. Rather than losing it, lean into the insecurity or actual feeling. Rather than taking it out on someone else.
-You think… scrolling IG makes me feel happy.
-But if you’re spending 2-3 hours per night, actually it’s not helping you… it’s keeping you stuck and making you depressed. Less confidence and less motivated.
-Often we try to change the habits by saying these habits are bad I need to stop. I’m into sure this is sustainable. Rather than trying to change the behavior, let’s try to understand the role it plays in our life.
-Think about January 1st, people make resolutions… and most people stick to them for a few weeks at max and then go back to the regular ways.
-But they didn’t address the actual issue- like your numbing your work stress with alcohol, etc.
-WHY this is so important
SO much of the quality of our health comes down to lifestyle and environment.
Stress- emotional stress is REAL and it can make us sick like other things can. Emotional stress needs to be neutralized - that’s when we numb out with a bad habit.
-If we are honest with ourselves, we might see that we had a few extra glasses of wine or bars of chocolate to numb it.
-WAKING UP 90
What will you regret the least?
-Designing your life- not just going with the flow
As a kid- we are taught to stand in lines and not jump in muddy puddles.
-One other thing - we sometimes numb who we are so we dont stand out or to be seen as weird. Because we worry about the judgment of other people.
-PROCRASTINATIONS and DISTRACTONS
-Here’s the thing about when you refrain from running from your feelings. They are not comfortable, but they aren’t unbearable. You are stronger than you think. And the more you flex this muscle, the stronger it gets. Once you get comfortable being uncomfortable, you have more confidence and comfort. Physically change your state- go for a bike ride or a run, listen to loud music, you don’t have to sit in a dark room alone to feel the feelings, but you should
-It’s OK to feel sad, to feel stress. It’s one of the best forms of self love actually… to not reject your feelings and experience the presence.
Feel all the feelings, stop your numbing habits and really feel alive and present each day… that’s the goal!
Do your people really KNOW how you feel about them? Like do they know how much you love them and why you love them - all of it?
One of the biggest lessons learned in the last month is how important it is to LOVE YOUR PEOPLE HARD.
It’s just so easy to get caught up in routine and the daily to do’s and before you know it, the day is done and it’s time to sleep then do it all over again.
Sometimes that means slowing down and other times it means setting rules so you don’t miss the good stuff.
Lots and lots of ideas of how you can show your people love on the daily.
Lindsay talks about the changes she’s made in her life since her husbands health scare. One of the biggest- showing her people how much she loves them on the daily.
We only have so much energy in a day. And since we know… where attention goes, energy flows, we have to be super careful about what we spend our physical and mental energy on. Because time spent worrying about things that don’t really matter, take away from time spent on the important stuff.
It’s so easy to be frustrated and distracted - both things that take us further from the goal.
-Here is how Lindsay adds habit triggers:
Like the podcast tips on habits in general - put things out or stack them!
Like put things in the tray in the kitchen or in the bedroom - to remember to do it.
OR do it RIGHT AFTER something else. So it happens. This is a great way to actually change - and not stay the same. It’s hard to change your ways especially if you have done the same things for a long time. These are the BEST strategies for adding in more LOVE routines to your life.
-Here are the ways Lindsay does it:
10 minutes per kid each night before bed doing whatever it is that is best for them.
More physical! Hugs, taps, squeezes.
And THOUGHTFUL things.
Eye contact - being present. Knowing they are important.
We need more human touch because we are all online so much!
Saying no or cancelling plans when you need it.
Show appreciation
Be spontaneous
Celebrate what makes them unique
Compliments
Thoughtful gifts
Celebrate them! Birthdays or wins
Do activities they like
Take good care of them when they are sick
Movie night
Hold hands
Do a chore for them - like getting gas or picking up prescription, dry cleaning. Something you wouldn’t do normally.
-Ways people sent in!
Bring coffee
Phone call, text, say I love you.
1 on 1 time with each person
Date nights
Check in on them
Ordering something that will make life easier - new to go cup, key tile
Reflecting on the day at bedtime ex: I saw you were determined etc
Making coffee / tea each day
Buying favorite snacks/wine
Stop and hug my people, even when im busy
Call/text when they’re going through a rough time. Offer my time to help.
Random text when thinking of a friend
Lunch ones for kids and husband
Surprise fav drink or snack
Good night and good morning routines to start and end the day with love and gratitude
Pack healthy snack for office
Make them laugh, hide notes or a card
Listening to people
Being present when we are all together
Send texts to my teens wishing a good day and reminding I love you
Wellness check texts!
Watch their fav shoes instead of yours
Conversation cards on long trips - ask questions
Scratch hubby’s back while he brushes teeth
Be present - turn off phone
Cooking healthy food for them
Cook and bake for them
Serve hubby dessert with night meds in his chair
I try to do 1 on 1 things that fills their love language even if it is not the way I normally show love.
Randomly send friends a Starbucks gift card
Folding their laundry
Make sure they know how I feel on the regular
Always kiss my kids good night at every age
Organize husbands supplements
My hubby tucks in my sheets at night so I’m extra comfortable
CHEERS to loving your people HARD!
Lindsay tells the story of her husband going into cardiac arrest in the ICU a few weeks ago. So much packed into this episode that we think will be interesting and valuable to you.
Lindsay talks about these lessons learned (and more)…
-Family is amazing, the best!
And you can double that feeling by finding friends who become your family too.
-When it comes to your health and the health of those you love, you have to always ask questions and lean into how you feel. Not because anyone isn’t doing their best, but because everyone has their own set of experiences and you aren’t their only patient. Must listen to your body, and must keep pushing for answers and get more people involved if you aren’t moving in the right direction.
Go in to the doctors at the first sign of something weird, don’t wait.
-The little things don’t matter.
where attention goes, energy flows. Anytime anything annoying or negative came up, I told myself, nope, we don’t have the bandwidth for that. No attention goes there.
It’s amazing how powerful this is in protecting your mental headspace (which I’m all about).
-Positive thinking heals you faster.
When things were going downhill quickly last Thursday, I told all his doctors… we aren’t telling him anything he doesn’t need to know today. They were trying to figure out why his organs were failing quickly but as more bad news came in, I had them tell me, not him. Because if you are told you are getting worse, you believe it and your thoughts become that. But if you’re told you are on the path for healing, you believe that and that becomes your reality.
-Train daily to be tough.
I haven’t always been good under pressure but this time I was. And to be honest I’m proud of myself.
I’m proud that I didn’t crumble and was able to stay strong in the most heartbreaking moment I’ve ever been faced with… and to get the right people there to help him and then be ready to support him.
-You can control your thoughts.
As I’ve needed to really put on my big girl pants and be strong this week, I’ve realized how much you can actually control your thoughts. The minute I would get to where I could lose it totally I thought, we aren’t going to go there right now. And I stopped, no crying or replaying all of the what-ifs.
I still believe in feeling alllll the feelings and getting it all out (if you listen to my podcast you know this)… but I also know there’s a time that it can serve you and times when it doesn’t. When it’s a time that doesn’t, controlling your thoughts can be the most powerful thing.
-Love your people hard.
After each procedure and scan and episode, I hugged and kissed Craig so hard and told him how much I loved him. Over and over.
It made me think about doing this more. I never want to get too caught up in routine that I skip over kissing my peoples faces and hugging them and telling them how much they mean to me. Even if they already know ❤️
Answering questions!
-what did you tell the kids and how did they handle it?
-how did you take care of the kids?
-how can he prevent it from happening again?
-what were the warning signs?
-what gifts did friends give that were helpful or what did they do?
-how did you keep the emotional exhaustion from wiping you? I would be curled up in bed
-As an ICU nurse, I’d love to hear what you found helpful and not helpful with nurses
-what’s craigs long term prognosis
-How are you holding up?
-How you kept from falling apart when he was in the hospital
-Did you feel comfortable leaving him alone in the hospital?
-What heart irregularities was he born with?
-Have some wisdom for food in a crisis, I feel like you weren’t eating McDonalds.
-How much did you tell each of your kids and how did you keep your composure?
-Who took care of the kids during that time?
-How do you manage being strong for your kids while also being emotional and scared?
-How you advocate for him without seeming rude or overreactive?
-what is top strategy you used to stay calm and strong?
-How to navigate check-ups and hereditary stuff
-how do you balance taking care of kids, Craig and yourself during this time
-how do you not live in fear after?
-the initial stage when you aren’t sure whats happening and have to trust the doctors
-how to radiate down to earth positivity always but handle life when it gets so scary
-do you keep all the info organized in a book?
-how to balance internet research of it
-how can you have a plan in place for emergencies like this?
-What is his health plan moving forward?
CHEERS to your good health and happiness!
It’s so much fun to throw a party… especially kids parties, but one downside is that it’s SO MUCH WORK to set-up, followed by the party- lots of fun but for a relatively short period of time, followed by the clean-up. It’s really easy after it’s over to feel bummed that it’s over or wonder if all of your hard work was worth it!
I have 3 hacks for this.
1. Plan so that you ENJOY the party- not work the party- I did a podcast recently on this.
2. Make sure you get all the photos and videos that you want - so the fun memories live on forever.
And 3. Maximize your party fun with a little pre-party and/or after-party.
It’s so easy and literally doubles your fun from just the party- to a whole other experience.
And the best part is - you do very little for it. The whole point is to enjoy the pre or post party set-up and enjoy in the party space.
Today we’re talking all about adding a little party before or after your party so that you have double the fun, without much extra work.
-Party planning has to be fun - you MUST enjoy the process!!
WAYS TO DO IT!!
Pre-parties
-plan for food.
-have people help you set-up for party - offer food and drinks - they will come.
-ask how much to rent bounce house or ball bit for extra time- it’s usually not much more.
-enjoy the party space and get helping hands in the set-up of it
After-parties
-great way to be sure all treats get eaten
-pancake breakfast next morning
-plan for food OR have vendors from main party make extra and pack it up to serve later.
-use decor to keep the party going.
-have a helper to pickup if your after party is right after.
-have people stay later - or come back at night for party 2 (Lindsays fav).
-if you have a kid party during the day, invite adults over at night- same party space, double the fun!
You literally DOUBLE your FUN with very little cost and effort. This one is a MUST listen and a MUST do.
CHEERS!
Lindsay does podcast episodes often about focusing on what really matters and not letting the little things bother you… because she thinks that it is so important to realize that you have to protect your emotional health at all costs. When you go through stress and trama and drama… your body remembers it and keeps score, it takes a toll on you. So we just can’t let things in that don’t matter. ` This is of course often easier said than done so in this episode we get very clear on what matters to us and decide… if it doesn’t directly affect us… we aren’t going to give it our time, energy, attention or money. In order to reach next level happiness and fulfillment we must accept that is is our responsibility to consciously choose what we spend our time, energy and money on. If it doesn’t affect you, it’s out of our headspace. One exception - things that we should worry about as a citizen of our communities and of the world. Here are some examples of things we may spend way too much time on that don’t affect us: -other people’s relationships -what your ex is doing -deep diving into a reality stars life online and making it your personal mission to figure out who was unfaithful and who’s telling the truth -what other people are doing on their weekends- often FOMO or jealously -hurt feelings for not being invited to an event you didnt want to go to anyway -followers on social media -things - and comparing to what others have - it’s so easy to see someone else’s new bag and be like I NEED ONE- but do you really and do you care? -the royal family -Basically it’s things we can get fired up about OR spend lots of our time and attention on that don’t affect our lives! -The best thing about withdrawing your attention from things that don’t affect you is you have so much more TIME and headspace for cool new things. New ideas, time to call and spend time with family and friends, etc. -If you decide that Instagram is going to be a form of entertainment for you - and you are going to send a few minutes a day on it - rather than this sort of addiction that we let determine what gets our attention and what is important to us. -This is what we do now- decide we are withdrawing our attention from whatever it is that doesn’t affect us and is a waste of our bandwidth. It doesn’t matter anymore and we go focus on something that is actually important.
This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this.
Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them.
But it’s our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm...
But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don’t grow up thinking they are the center of the world.
In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble.
Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents.
We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need.
Show notes!
This podcast episode may ruffle some feathers but hear us out on this.
Over-protecting our kids can be one of the worst things we can do for them.
But it’s our job right - to protect our kids. Protect our kids from harm...
But… this has sort of overflowed into protecting our kids from being criticized by anyone, from bad grades, from a tough teacher or coach, from being outside alone… not only do they need these experiences to learn and grow… but they also need these experiences so they don’t grow up thinking they are the center of the world.
In an over-protected situation, any discomfort is immediately handled for them and life resumes in their protected bubble.
Our kids need to fail, they need to have conflicts so they learn how to resolve them… they need to be allowed to explore and try new things on their own because thats how they discover who they are - separate from us- their parents.
We want our kids to be tough and confident and independent and happy - and even though it often feels like the way to do that is to protect them from EVERYTHING and get involved in every conflict… unless it really is a threat to them… I think we need to step back and let them learn through these very valuable life experiences that they need.
Here are some key points from this episode:
-Why do we do it? It feels right!
We see bad things on the news and we want to protect our kids.
-Examples: getting involved in conflicts at school
Calling parents over little things kids can work out
Switching them out of a class with a tough teacher
Managing their every minute so they don’t have to think or take care of themselves.
Doing everything for them so they aren’t used to helping out.
-Lindsay talks about where she has gone wrong and right in this.
-Getting involved with conflicts with other kids.
-“Saving” kids from a touch teacher or coach.
-Keeping up with other families- it’s become a status symbol in a way. The more you protect your kid, the better you are doing as a parent.
-Children need to fail- they need to have disagreements with their friends. This is how they learn. They need to get their feelings hurt because that is how they manage their relationships.
-They need to have some freedom and some independence and be allowed to go outside or explore things that interest them. That’s how they become confident and figure out who they are.
-They near a clear identity- separate from us- their parents.
If they are our little princesses their whole lives.. they feel like the center of the universe. Like they can do no wrong and are perfect. It keeps them meshed with us - something that’s not healthy as they get older.
-When we overly manage and coddle our kids.. they don’t get any of these skills. They don’t learn how to navigate someone with a bad attitude or a harsh teacher. They don’t learn how to cope with adversity or failure.
-We have learned in these last few years that we have to be double and durable. We don’t know what life will throw our way and if we are weak, we crumble and can’t handle it. If we are constantly having to flex our grit muscles and our toughness muscles, we can handle turmoil in our lives much better.
And that’s really the best gift we can give our kids.
Happiness, independence, confidence and the life experiences to know how to manage all of it.
CHEERS to protecting but not overprotecting our kids!
66% - adults say that they are unhappy. That’s 2/3 of people walking around. What!! If that’s normal - we don’t want normal- we don’t want to accept what’s normal. Today, we are taking about being different and not being afraid to do things differently. Getting out of routine. Routines can be great- but just the ones that serve us. Not the ones that we keep doing just because we’ve always done them. Lindsay says… "I always think… if I do what’s “normal” to me or just what feels normal in society… in 5 years I’ll end up in the same place that I’m at pretty much… which isn’t bad but I’m not here to just keep doing the same thing and be normal and wake up in 5 years without much progress. I know I can’t get better doing the exact same things over and over. We have to shake things up and challenge ourselves and create our new normal. Be open-minded and ambitious and don’t put invisible hurdles in front of ourselves! When I’m cheering a little too loud for my kids at a sporting event or a race they will often say to me…. Geeeez why can’t you be normal! And I smile and tell them the same thing every time… “I’m not here to be normal!” Here are a few strategies we talk about! -Don’t stay in your lane and accept what’s normal - it’s not working! 66% people! You can’t do the same things everyone is doing. -You didn’t come here to play it safe. You have to look at things differently! -Live free - get over the fear of being embarrassed or fear or failure or judgment. -Breaking free of what we think is normal or society thinks is normal. -You can’t get better doing the same thing everyday. -It’s hard to introduce new things into your life. It’s hard you have to work for it. -We need to always be asking - how can I upgrade my system. -You might listen to a podcast with a great idea and try it- if it works - try it and if it works- add it into your routine. -Use virtual mentors for this! Pick people to listen to that are what you need and are the type of people you can look up to - pick carefully! -We often settle on where we are in life. -And we get stuck to believing where we are at is our normal. -We shouldn’t assume this is how it has to be or will always be! -Lindsay shares some of her new normals: Cold showers are the new normal Running 5 miles is the new normal Going to sleep by 10pm and up at 5am is the new normal -You create all this normal! -Shake it up if it’s not working for you!! Don’t accept that this is how it needs to be. -There isn’t one way to do things! Create your own way! Some hacks!! -Write down your goals and make short term goals. Remember you just need one good idea. And you’ll probably have hundreds of bad ones. -Work backwards. Get your goal and write out the steps to get there - backwards. -Sometimes you have to work 10x as hard to be different and better. -Break out of routine and have less structure to your days. Freedom can lead to new ideas and creativity and spontaneous adventures. -If you get a list of how to train for a sport- double it. You know what everyone else is doing.. you have the list. But if you double it - you’ll be that much better than your competition. That’s how you stand out. If you follow the plan that everyone is following you’ll be in the same shape as everyone else. **Here’s why!! -We are here once! -Who cares what other people think! -What’s the worst that can happen?? CHEERS to your new normal!!
One challenge with throwing an awesome party is making it awesome without spending a fortune.
Today’s podcast is all about how to decide what’s worth the splurge and what’s better to save on.
Lindsay is sharing her process of party planning and budgeting that all starts with one big brain dump. A full list of all the ideas of food and activities, rentals, entertainment… every idea goes on the list. Then get quotes for everything.
From there, we decide. First, remove anything that’s way too much or figure out an alternate plan if it’s something that’s essential. Then, pick what’s most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience.
There are SO many creative ways to make a party really special, without costing a lot… if you plan ahead of time and are strategic about it.
-Don’t think of awesome parties as not an option because of budget! It’s all about creative thinking and advanced planning!
The process
-Start with a brain dump - if the party is for someone else - make sure you get their input!
-Get quotes on everything - before you make any decisions.
-Pick what’s most important to you and what you think will make the biggest impact on the party and the overall experience.
-Remove anything that’s way too much.
-Buy things that you will reuse OR things that are the same cost as renting.
-It’s so much easier to throw a few parties a year if you own some stuff- cake stands etc.
Know that all this is easier if you start ahead of time.
If you are doing it last minute - it’s possible but you’re going to pay more!
Overnight shipping, rush orders, etc.
Food- make your own, get catering, have a vendor there.
Food truck or food stand
Pre-made or made on the spot.
Ask all the questions!
Have everyone bring a dish to save money if it’s that type of thing!
Activities - get ideas online then set-up yourself
Have helpers instead of hiring a company
Worth the SPLURGE - if it’s a very specific company that does it in a special way
Example: Gaming truck, caricature artist, paint class, cake decorating class.
Decor-
Balloons are essential - do your own, have some delivered, hire an artist.
When to do each.
If going for sheer volume, deliver and arranging them yourself.
If the dessert table is your fav part and needs to be the most awesome - splurge- but just for that part.
Signs-
Make all your own, have some made on Etsy, have them all made on Etsy
BUY - signs! Chalkboard signs, neon signs
Adult party ideas-
Wine tasting, champagne tasting, food tasting.
DIY
Start setting up a few days ahead of time so you can craft yourself and you don’t have to pay for things to be made for you.
We hope you got LOTS of ideas what to splurge on and what to save on for your next party!!
Lindsay says…”I've learned to really hold on to 5 words in many situations. And the interesting thing about it is, I use the same 5 words in difficult life moments and in the very best life moments."
Those words are… this is just a moment.
When it’s an amazing life experience or phase of your life, it’s the best reminder to soak it all in, feel all the feelings and really be where your feet are. Because this is just a moment and it won’t last forever.
And when it’s a super challenging time of life, or really bad day or a time when you’re dealing with grief and sadness, those same 5 words can help so much.
This is just a moment. The pain you feel now, you won’t feel forever.
You might replace the word moment with phase or period of time in life depending on the situation but the message is the same. It’s a moment in time, and it won’t last forever.
We love something that is easy to remember - something that pops into your mind when you’re in a situation or a phase or feel like you’re at rock bottom or feel like you’ve never been happier and you’re on top of the world. If it’s good, breathe it in, live in it. If it’s not, know that things get better with time and this too shall pass.
This is just a moment. Let’s go!
A few points Lindsay talks about:
-We know this about time - it keeps passing, no matter what we do.
If it’s not a particularly great phase or situation…
-If you can hang on, soon enough, it will be different.
-Let’s talk about ways this comes into our lives.
-Hard phases with kids - a toddler who won’t sleep for example.
-Feels like you will never be out of that phase, and then you wake up one day, and you are in fact, out of that phase. That period of time that was painful and felt like it would never end, actually ended. And often looking back, it wasn’t as painful as we thought.
-Picture yourself on the other side of it.
-When do you picture you’re be out of it?
-Time heals things!!
-Or if it’s irritating things!
A terrible meal at a restaurant
Traffic!!
-Helps to have more patience
-like with a slow moving grocery clerk
-or aging parents
-or kids who won’t.get.in.the.car!
If it’s a great phase or situation…
-BE WHERE YOUR FEET ARE!
-Whatever that moment is for you - a super high high. Maybe it’s on vacation at a magical place. Or running a mile further than you’ve ever run before. Or reconnecting with someone you thought you wouldn’t connect with again and mending a friendship and now you have that special person back in your life.
-Breathe it in. Take an actual picture, take a mental picture.
-Snuggling newborn babies
-beach days - seasons - enjoy it while you can - it is just a moment
-what can you do to savor things now?
-take a trip alone with one of your kids - one day they will be at college and you won’t have the same opportunity.
-This may sound sad but it’s healthy and realistic. Nothing is permanent.
-This allows us to get through hard or unpleasant things. And really enjoy the awesome things, which also makes the tough times easier to get through. I think when you really LIVE in those high highs, you don’t get depressed or quite as down when things aren’t going your way.
CHEERS to making the best of the phase and situation you’re in. Because we know, it’s just a moment.
How to host a party or gathering and really enjoy it too!
Tips that work for kids parties and adults parties… or small get togethers or parties on a bigger scale.
You put so much into creating a fun party experience for you and your guests… once the party starts… you need to be in FUN mode… not execution mode.
This podcast episode is filled with lots and lots of ideas of how to do that. So you aren’t worried about getting the right pictures or picking up the dirty plates when people are done or running around trying to fix the music that’s not playing like it’s supposed to be.
We are talking about creative ways to have so many of these things handled ahead of time or during the party - but by other people! So you are free to enjoy your guests and have the best time.
Also thinking of all the little details ahead of time - any food allergies you need to accommodate for, where the candles and lighter will be if it’s a birthday, having a signature drink or cocktail ready so everyone gets a first refreshment quickly.
Anything that could send you on a mission to solve on the day of the party - we are going to work on ahead of time instead.
What’s worth spending a little extra on and ways you can save are key too.
Here are some of the key points mentioned:
-Walk yourself through the entire day of the event - from getting ready until the last guest leaves.
-Consider getting your hair and make-up done.
-Have people doing the things you would be doing!
Picking up dirty plates, refilling TP in the bathroom, offering people drinks etc.
-Have someone in charge of photos - so you don’t wake-up without the photos you wanted from your special event. And that way you don’t have to be in charge of managing it. Have a “shot list” made ahead of time. Pay someone or have a friend do it.
-Make sure your tech is working! Music, etc.
-Have a signature cocktail and consider a bartender.
-Know anyones diet restrictions
-Have things for the kids to do!
-Get drinks/ice ready ahead of time. And candles and lighter!
-Set-up as much as you can day before - anything that’s not perishable food
-Pay a little extra to have rentals delivered a day early! This way you can take your time to design and set-up everything and you aren’t dashing at the last minute.
-Add an activity - for adult parties too! Or even one everyone can do! Like a characiture artist etc. Have things for people to DO!
-Have helpers to pick up things!
-Have some healthy options for food.
-Have to-go containers out and ready if you’re going to send people with food!
-Make sure you have enough sitting room - standing room.
-Have a snack station - for an app or for after party bites
-something will go wrong- let it go!! Be like ELSA! 😅
CHEERS to hosting a party AND enjoying it too!!
Lindsay says... "I have to tell myself all the time - the goal here is 90%, not 100%. Which may sound backwards… in fact I want to give 110% to everything I do… but the reality is that when you shoot for 100 or 110%… you can’t get to as many things and often never actually get the things done. This feels very off brand to me, I have to be honest, but I really wanted to do this podcast because it’s something I wish I would have learned years ago. Know when it’s a project that is best with 90% effort so it gets done and on time or when you want it done and you can move on to the next. In business and in life, some things I really wanted just timed out on me… it felt like such a big project and I wanted to do it soooo thoroughly that I never had time (made time) for what felt like a monster project. And other times when I took something of the same scale, told myself I was going to get it done the best I could in four hours, it was great, and it was done. I think there is so much power in knowing when 90% effort is the best in certain situations. That’s what we’re talking about today… let’s go!" A few key points: -90% and done is way way better than shooting for 100% and never getting to it. You can get so many more things done and have so much more free time when you give full energy to things, but are happy with 90%. -When something gets too hard- know when to jump ship on the idea. -Ask yourself, now that this has gotten complicated, is it worth it? I find that usually not and I make a new plan. To you it’s 90% but not to anyone else. -Be willing to change your idea!! -So you don’t waste time OR money. -Say you’re shopping for a gift for a friend and it’s killing you, you can’t find exactly what you want.. know when to call it! -Doing things this way gives you DOWN TIME. You don’t need to be working all the time! Now you have time to get outside and do the things you love and come back refreshed. -Stop multitasking! Do one thing and move on. It can be a way to procrastinate! -We have to stop necking our notifications like a drug. -Solution - put phone on other side of the room, silence notifications. -Start your day right- don’t check email and social first thing in the day. -Write out your list ahead of time, night before or for the week. -Don’t over commit- you might have to say no. -Productivity is about accomplishing your highest priorities, effectively and efficiently. -Know your first few hours of the day are your best and most sharp and productive. -For huge tasks, write down in pieces, not in a huge chunk on your to do list or it will never get touched. -Create time limits!! That’s it - must be done in 30 mins or 3 hours etc. -Sometimes it’s better to pay someone to do it - if you don’t like doing it or it will take you a long time or it’s cheaper to pay for it than your time figuring it out. -Also- stop caring so much about things that don't matter. Know whats important to you and your life priorities- and don’t sweat (or spend too much time on) the rest! Sometimes 90% and DONE is way more awesome than 110%!! This podcast goes through all of it!
We all go through different ages and stages of life…
Whether the changes feel like they were your choice or not… Or they feel more positive or negative…
They all have something in common… They push us into a new chapter. A new chapter that we can design ourselves.
The goal of this podcast is to empower you when you’re entering a new phase in life. To approach with with clear intensions and without holding onto anything you don’t need from the previous chapters.
You’re writing your own story, and if you don’t like any part of it, the coolest part is you can start a new chapter anytime you want.
-Why start a new chapter?
Maybe you are forced to
Or you realize you are living too much in routine
Or you know you need to for your health
-Maybe you have grown kids who are moving out or moving away to college… Maybe you lost your job during Covid…
Or you aren’t living a healthy lifestyle and you want to
-Types of ways to reinvent yourself...
Work change
Fitness change
Nutrition change
Clear out physical clutter
Clear out emotional clutter
-Let’s talk about why it’s hard…
Change is hard
You don't know what the new chapter looks like
But you do know what you will be losing
-Let’s talk about some steps to get you there.
Get uncomfortable
Set small goals
-Why its essential
Because you don't want to have any regrets at 90
We are here one time - you cant stay in a job you hate for the insurance benefits or because it makes someone else proud of you
-Other episode to listen to: How To Be Awesome At Doing What You Should Do
-Do more of what you like - with the people you want to do it with- as many hours as possible. That’s the goal.
-Figuring things out is a forever game - you don’t have to know at a certain age and it will change!
-Stop looking backwards - your past doesn’t determine your future.
Stop dwelling on your losses that are holding you back! It’s over, move on! Be like Elsa and let it go!
-Whatever you want to do is absolutely possible… the question is… how hard are you willing to work for it?
-Often times people think they are lazy or tired- I just think you might not love what you are doing.
-Sometimes you just have to be patient.
-You down have to see the whole staircase… just the next step.
-There is so much power in knowing you are in control of everything. Someone in your life sucks or are negative? Limit them!!!
-You’ll never know what the alternative would have been. You pick one and you never ever ever even consider to look back.
-It’s all about what will you have the least regret about?
Cheers to your next chapter!
Lindsay tells the story…
"This past weekend as we were leaving a mother daughter luncheon, I was bending down to pickup all the things my girls had collected through the day and I looked up to see 3 moms looking at me then turn away quickly. I was like that was crazy- they were clearly talking about me… so I processed for a second and picked up the rest of my things and turned to go and the same thing happened again. They all sort of had the same nervous look and looked away real quick- no smiles… I was oh my gosh again, what were they saying about me??
And then I took a breath and as hard as it is in that moment, I thought, maybe they were saying something nice. And if they weren’t, it’s their issue, not mine. My husband first taught me this years ago when a similar thing happened when we were walking to dinner together and he’s like, maybe they like your shoes. And I was like… uh, did you see their look, I don’t thinkkkk so. But here’s the thing… if you’re not going to go up and ask them and even if you do, you’ll likely never know what they were saying.
So your option is to accept that they were talking badly about you and spend the rest of the day talking about it and contemplating what they could be saying- my dress was too tight or who knows. OR, you can decide, I’m going to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they were saying something nice OR they weren’t and it’s there issue not mine."
Because we know… you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it and how you interpret it.
-We are talking about giving people the benefit of the doubt in this episode.
-Have you ever had anything like this happen?
We immediately think of our insecurities and decide that MUST be what they are talking about. We will never know!
-When this happens - it can go one of 2 ways!!
-Giving people the benefit of the doubt does 2 things- makes you walk around the world thinking people are good
-And in those moments when they aren’t … maybe they have some crazy stuff going on!
-And if thats not the case- then how sad that they have to go home and live with it.
Or they haven’t been able to work through their issues yet. Whatever it is! Jealousy or insecurity …
-Same with comments in social media
-You must protect your headspace! You CHOOSE if you let it in or not!
Giving people the benefit of the doubt is as much for you as it is for them. We hope this podcast inspires you next time you’re in a situation like this to give them the benefit of a doubt and protect your headspace. CHEERS!
Lindsay sold her company!! We are so excited for her and for this podcast where she shares her journey starting, building and selling her company, Million Dollar Tan.
Listen in for interesting and inspiring stories about Lindsay’s journey as an entrepreneur and why she decided to sell her business.
Today’s podcast is about something some of us shy away from… and others of us charge towards… it’s all about conflict.
What to do when a conflict comes up. How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking? How do you start the conversation? How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster?
Today, Lindsay has her friend Ashley Bello on the podcast because she is incredible at dealing with conflict. Like, the best at it. She’s straightforward and direct and stands up for what’s right… but is also the coolest and sweetest girl ever. Lindsay wants to understand more about how she thinks about conflict and manages to address tricky situations head-on, but still comes out of it not being labeled a word that starts with a B.
If you are someone that tends to avoid conflict, lean in here because we’re about to change all that. We’re talking about how freeing and awesome it is to approach conflict in the healthiest way possible and how to stand up for yourself or people you love or just stand up for what’s right.
Lindsay has 2 strategies:
First, decide if it’s really worth it- or is it something you just need to let go of?
Next, decide clearly and rationally what you would like to get out of it. What’s the best possible result at the end of it? Then work backwards.
How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking?
How do you start the conversation?
How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster?
Ashely shares so many tips about how to take a beat before you respond to someone.
How to have real confidence so you can approach a situation in a strong way.
Never text or email to resolve a conflict.
Know that sometimes time solves many things and brings clarity.
How to deal with kid bullies and adult bullies.
And what Ashley wishes she knew when she was 20.
And LOTS of questions that came in from social media!
This podcast is a must listen to so you are ready the next time a conflict comes up. CHEERS to approaching conflict in the healthiest way possible!
Twenty Awesome Ways To Be Thoughtful Under $20!
We often think that we don’t have the time or money to do something super thoughtful for someone in our lives.
But if we think creatively and ahead of time…we will think we will realize more often than not that we can make someone we care about feel loved and appreciated with not a ton of money or time spent.
In this podcast Lindsay is sharing 20 of her favorite ways to show thoughtfulness and make someone’s day.
-Let's think outside a flower arrangement and a bottle of wine or a candle! All are nice gifts but we can do better! And more memorable
-These are all under $20 but also aren’t HARD! If we all had endless time and money we could put together these gorgeous massive gift baskets with one of each of the persons favorite things but that’s just not realistic - most of the time.
-The key: shows it’s thoughtful and personal to them and shows effort. Is the unexpected!
-For who? Friends, family, kids, teachers, doctors… anyone you think about and are grateful for!!
So here are some ideas!!
-Frame a picture of the person you love!
-Make them a photo book
-Drop something off at someones door!
-Love notes!
-Add a creative note to small item to give it more value
Example: Sorry I sucked!
-Fill in the blank book! Best! “I wrote a book about you”
-Mug with a cute saying that speaks to them with something inside.
-Plant gift - love trader joes or nursery
-Personalized item on Etsy - search “personalized” then something they are into. For Lindsay - personalized hearts - and see what you find
-Cookbook or book with post it notes from you!!!
-Solve a problem in their lives! Like a supplement pill holder. Or a cool agenda book if they want to be organized!
-Skincare products - maybe you know your spouse wants to wear SPF daily but hasn’t found one they like… buy 2 to try out.
-Games! Family games or airplane games if someone is traveling. Passport cover if you’re saying have a great trip.
-A treat! Or a healthy treat! Know your audience!
-A few of your favorite things - with a note- “I love these things the most and I think you will too”. Your favorite coffee mixer,
-Make them a little kit!! Purse essentials or car essentials with little tools.
-Cute hair clips or ties in a bathroom container - Home Goods is great for this.
-Something for changing seasons - cozy socks for winter - snowman kit for their kids playing in the snow, succulence plants for spring, fresh veggies bag for spring!
-Planning is key!!! Write it down so next time you are out cruising… you think of it… and not the morning before!
-Remember important dates
-Keep a running list of gift ideas
SO MANY ways to give thoughtful gifts on the daily that don’t cost a lot of money or time. Hope this podcast gives you lots of ideas!
Today’s podcast is about maximizing our time! Specifically in the car.
To do lists feel never ending and the days feel so short… it’s hard. What we’ve learned is the more intentional we are about everything we do… the more progress we have towards our goals and the more fulfilled we are on the daily and in the long term.
Now this is not to say you have to be fully productive every time you get in the car. The opposite actually - maybe you need to decompress in silence during your drive… or get your mood going with your favorite loud music… or if someone is in the car with you, spend real non-distracted moments with them (well except for the driving part).
The goal of this podcast is to think of your driving time not just as dead time in your day as you get from one place to another… but rather time when you can make forward motion on things.
Anything that makes you feel good that is intentional, rather than running on autopilot through your day.
Some days we spend so much in the car or commuting - it feels impossible to get anything else done.
-Disclaimer- obviously don’t drive and do things unsafely.
-Write on your list night before - what podcast are you going to listen to.
Rather than staying up late and listen in bed- send it to yourself and save for the next day.
-So this is how car or commute time comes into this… as you’re writing your to do list the night before… have a little column for “car time.” Maybe its calls you can do (safely) while driving to either be productive or check in with someone you love. Maybe you know you’ll be driving with your spouse or kids and want to figure out something like what someone wants for their birthday or what sounds fun to do this weekend.
-Saves you that last minute scramble.
-The more organized your lists are - the easier this will be.
-Pick things that are idle - listen to a podcast - long calls etc.
CHEERS to making the most out of your day!!
We usually think about our daily movement and calorie burn in terms of our workouts. How often we workout, what types of workouts, how intensely… but the truth is…. we burn more calories throughout the day than during our actual workout times.
We often think of activity as in - did you work out today or not. But Lindsay thinks we should think about it more like… how much did you move your body today overall.
We’re talking about enjoyable (not painful) ways to get in some extra movement. It’s not only good for your body and your overall health and longevity… it’s so good for your mental health.
Our goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of how to sneak in some extra movement so the next time you go to sit to do something… you’ll do it while walking or you sit to wait for 20 minutes, you’ll consider something active instead.
It’s so good for you and it’s fun!
If you can’t make it to the gym- don’t count that day as a loss! You can still get movement in!
The benefits are endless- sleep better and feel better and happier!
TIPS!!
-Wear ankle weights around the house! (Or out if you dare!)
-Focus on the daily - doesn’t need this big overall plan.
-While your kids do an activity - you do too!
-Walk after meals
-Lean into days when you have more energy
-If you have a desk job, set an alarm and take breaks, walk around. Or standing desk or balance ball!
-Wear running shoes when you can (and clothes!)
-Keep supplies handy (weights in your car)
-Park farther away
-Take the stairs
-Short workouts when you can - 50 squats when taking your dog out
-Do active weekend activities - go bowling!! Or mini golf!
-Walk and talk!!
-Play WITH your kids instead of watching them
-Adventure on the weekends - hikes etc. Plan ahead of time!
-Do something on phone calls
-Stretch before bed… so good for flexibly and less likely to raid the pantry!
The little things you do daily add up!! It’s all about momentum and moving your body when you can!
Check out Lindsay’s Instagram @LindsaysCloud for links to her favorite products mentioned!
CHEERS to your most active awesome self!
Ten ways to be more awesome- part 2!
Here are 10 more ways we can all be more awesome!
- Lean into what feels right.
- When you want to quit, do one more.
- Chip away at your goals everyday.
- Train yourself to only give a fuck about a few things.
- Go the extra mile for people without expecting anything in return.
- Change up your routine so you don’t get in a rut.
- Do something hard everyday.
- Eliminate the stuff you don’t need in your life so you feel freedom -physically and mentally.
- Be willing to take chances.
- Be known for something.
-Normal is boring. And you can’t get better doing the same things over and over. That’s why we are constantly striving to be better, do better and be more awesome. So many ideas of how to get there today.
-Lean into what feels right.
Trust your gut.
If you go against your gut, you rarely win. Speak up when something feels off.
Oprah says,”Trust your instincts. Your intuition doesn’t lie."
-When you want to quit, do one more.
It creates and environment in your head that you always go the extra yard.
It’s one extra sales email each day… it’s some more rep in the gym.
It’s a tiny bit each day but adds up to a lot over the year.
-Chip away at your goals everyday.
No zero days. Even if your goals seem so big and the tasks seem endless, keep making progress each day.
-Train yourself to only give a fuck about a few things
You know Lindsays favorite book by now.
Even if your instinct is to care, think quick about if it really matters
-Go the extra mile for people without expecting anything in return
Support in the bad times, celebrate in the good times.
Remember important things, days, events, appointments.
Connect people that could benefit from it.
Do more than what’s expected- give a little more effort- that’s the bar to set.
-Change up your routine so you don’t get in a rut
Make an effort to mix it up. Try new foods, drive new ways, listen to a new podcast.
-Do something hard everyday.
It makes you proud of yourself and build momentum to help you overcome hurdles.
-Eliminate the stuff you don’t need in your life so you feel freedom -physically and mentally
Purge purge purge to feel more awesome everyday. Clear mind and space.
-Be willing to take chances. Easy is boring, most people pick easy. Don’t be afraid of judgement or failure, it happens to everyone. And at least you’re putting yourself in the ring.
-Be known for something.
It makes you unique.
What’s your thing?
It could be a food you make or something you wear.
We hope these tips give you all sorts of ideas of how to wake up and live fully everyday. Strive to be happier and more awesome! Thank you for listening!
Ten ways to be more awesome!
- Follow-up on everything you do.
- Be where your feet are.
- Do the unexpected.
- Don’t look out the back window.
- Face what’s off in your life and approach it head on.
- Have less structure in your life where possible.
- Remember tomorrow.
- Allow pointless stress to roll off your back like water off a ducks back.
- Make things exciting and have enthusiasm.
- Be willing to try harder than anyone else.
We’re talking through all these ways to be happier, take your life to the next level and overall just be more awesome. Let’s go!
-Follow-up on everything you do.
Even if it’s not the outcome you wanted
-Be where your feet are
You’re there, even if you didn’t want to be.
Be present
Because how you do anything is how you do everything
-Do the unexpected
Be creative
Surprise people
The unexpected is what’s memorable.
-Don’t look out the back window.
That is old news. You can’t change it. Good or bad- check the box and move on. Focus on the road ahead. Time spent otherwise is wasted.
-Face what’s off in your life and approach it head on.
We tend to do things that make us happy, while avoiding the things we need to fix. When you know something is off in your life, or maybe totally broken… FIX IT. Confront it head on and work to correct it. Often we avoid and it gets worse.
-Give yourself space to have new ideas and write them in your ideas book.
Most will be bad or ones that you won’t do anything with - but it just takes one good one.
Must write them down.
-Have less structure in your life where possible.
You likely have more freedom and flexibility than you think. Get out and do things outside of your normal set schedule. Embrace spontaneity and be open-minded.
-Remember tomorrow.
When you have a split second decision to make, think of how that decision will make you feel tomorrow.
Skipping a workout, being unfaithful in your relationship, lying to someone, drinking too much.
-Allow pointless stress to roll off your back like water off a ducks back.
-Make things exciting and have enthusiasm.
Instead of saying “I have to”… say “I get to”… when you think of things in this way they feel more like part of the process and less like chores.
-Be willing to try harder than anyone else.
If you do the same thing as everyone else, you will get the same results as everyone else.
Will Smith says “
The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I'm not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there's two things: You're getting off first, or I'm going to die. It's really that simple, right?
You're not going to out-work me. It's such a simple, basic concept. The guy who is willing to hustle the most is going to be the guy that just gets that loose ball. The majority of people who aren't getting the places they want or aren't achieving the things that they want in this business is strictly based on hustle. It's strictly based on being out-worked; it's strictly based on missing crucial opportunities. I say all the time if you stay ready, you ain't gotta get ready.
CHEERS to striving to be more awesome everyday!
Today we are talking about the vibe in your home- that overall feeling and energy that you create that’s so important. Whether you live by yourself or with lots of people, we are going through my list of physical and emotional things that we think you should consider when it comes to creating a home with a really positive and non-stressing feeling.
This is one of those things that is easy to not really notice and then one day it hits you and you’re like ok this is not good. Maybe you have so much clutter around that it never feels like you’re coming home to your happy place- which by the way, should be the goal with all of this. Maybe you are stuck in a routine that is hurried and stressing and that ends up being the tone of the home.
The energy around us is just so important. And most of us spend more time at home than anywhere else, plus it’s the place where we can have the most control of how it feels.
We're creating positive homes vibe today. Let’s go!
2 ways!! Physically and emotionally
The physical...
-Natural sunlight
-Get rid of clutter
-Open the windows
-Keep things that make you happy around
-Plants or flowers (real or faux)
-Light candles & make sure it smells good
-Make your bed
-Have sentimental things around
-Have a few positive reminders around too!
-Less news, more music
The emotional...
-Reduce the stress- period. Figure out a way to.
-Use positive words
-Laugh and smile more
-Live in the moment - have a healthy relationship with tech at home - especially in the evenings
-Think outside the box of ways to make your family vibe cool on the weekend coming up
-Invite positive people over!
-Plan for spontaneous moments
-Think of what would make this really feel like your happy place (and anyone else that lives with you) like a HUGE breath of fresh air after a long day. What does THAT feel like?
-When the energy is off.. hack it! Change up the routine
-Have healthy foods in the fridge (you feel good when you eat good)
-If you are the leader (or one of the leaders) in your house- make sure you make time for yourself so you can show up happy for everyone else.
-Treat others well- have a no gossip rule. It may be tempting - but why - envy and jealousy - which it likely is in some way- creates negative energy - the opposite of our goal here.
The environment in your home is just so important. It’s like the lens you see things through, all day out in the world. Let’s work to make it positive and happy.
We are SO busy.
There is always something to do - what feels like endless to do lists.
We are often giving so much of ourselves to other people and your chores and your job.
If you don’t get in those things that make you happy - what you are left with is not great - it’s called resentment.
Resentment towards your kids, your boss, your spouse or significant other, your family… because you feel like you are constantly giving giving giving to one of more of these… without giving yourself what you need.
Plus - we have very little downtime these days. Social media is a 24/7 thing and we’re getting pinged with texted and emails non-stop.
In this episode, we are talking about making it a priority - and a non-negotiable one - to be by yourself and get in those things that make you oh so happy. So your cup is nice and full and you can give your full energy to your work and those you love, and feel great about it.
Here are some things Lindsay talks about…
-Resentment. Let’s define it - a feeling of anger or displeasure about someone or something unfair
In this case, it’s like bitterness because things are off balance
-You might not even realize you’re feeling resentful.
Maybe your baby was up all night so you had to skip your morning workout - something that your baby didn’t do intentionally. Or maybe you’re saying yes to too many things at work so you get home late and feel like you have no life of your own then you wake up and do it all over again - so you’re resentful to your boss.
-Maybe you aren’t asking for what you need from your spouse so naturally they aren’t doing it - and you feel resentful because he goes and had a beer after work with his buddies and you don’t have the luxury to go out with your friends - heck some days you’re lucky to get a shower in by noon. This is your sign to change things - rather than allow yourself to have resentment.
-Know what makes you happy and make sure you get it in.
-And if someone tells you that you can’t get what you need - tread carefully - but realize that you have to figure out a way - or you’ll have double resentment.
-For family relationships- give them the space to get in their 10’s and they are much more likely to do the same for you.
-Don’t let people take too much of you or your time - it doesn’t benefit anyone in the long run.
-When you are resentful -put your energy towards getting a new plan going - rather than lashing out on them.
-It also gives you more patience!!
-So we are so busssssy doing all the things…
Question- Just because you are busy… does that mean you are being effective or efficient with your time?
-Spending time alone… you get a chance to give your brain a break. Like any other muscle, your brain needs a break! You can concentrate better and help you stay focused on your priorities. Turn your phone off and spend some time alone.
-It’s amazing how clear solutions to your problems come to you when you focus on them without distractions.
-Also- it’s easier to have a clear focus on who you are and what’s important to you. Not just keep your mind constantly entertained- filling every free moment with scrolling or texting or emailing. This is the mind reset you need
-What makes you happy?
-What gives you joy?
-What are you good at?
-How you spend your time, your energy and your money says whats important to you.
-You cannot pour from an empty cup.
-If you are not giving to yourself - you can’t give to others. You can’t give what you don’t have.
-Nobody is too busy- it’s just a matter of priorities
-Other ideas of how to take time for yourself… cook a meal for yourself… read a book… exercise… plan travel… take a hike… listen to your fav music… make a list of goals.
We have to know what makes us happy and make sure we get it in, so we have patience when the day goes sideways and don’t have resentment towards people in our lives.
CHEERS to the things you do for YOU, to have a healthy life balance (free from resentment)!
We’ve all had someone… or several people in our lives that we think… my gosh if they would just stop doing this… or start doing that… it would all change. And that’s what they need… and then we try to change them. We see it so clearly so often we do things like… Offer them unsolicited tips and advice Overly compliment them so they feel good Or maybe you tough love them and really tell them brutally honestly what you think is best for them. The problem is… even if you have the very best intentions, you can’t make someone do something, even if it’s for their own good because it requires intervening in their life in a way that often damages the relationship more than it helps. We know that for a person to truly change, they must feel like the change is theirs. They made the decision and they control it, that’s the only way it works. In this episode we are talking about what you can do to inspire change instead of actively trying to change someone. Here are some of the things Lindsay talks about in this episode… It’s so hard to see someone mess up over and over. Or make bad choices or If only they would get their shit together, they would be so much happier. Here’s the bottom line: You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change.
But you can’t make them change. It’s stepping on their toes and can hurt your relationship more than help them. Even if you have good intentions.
For a person to truly change, they must feel that the change is theirs, that they chose it, they control it. Otherwise, it loses all its effect.
This is especially important for people who have survived trauma or abuse. Here are a few ways you can help people… 1. Lead by example - show with your actions rather than advice. 2. Ask questions, good ones! 3. Offer Help Unconditionally Ultimately, we are each only capable of changing ourselves. Here’s the bottom line: You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change.
XOXO
In this episode, Lindsay talks all about her experiences at the Playboy Mansion.
What it was really like… the big parties… the Sunday pool parties… and what she thinks about the new documentary about Playboy.
Interesting stories and life lessons in this one!
On a scale of 1-10, what would you say is your level of GRIT? Everyone has a baseline of grit- your threshold- your mental toughness as it stands now. Maybe you’re a 4 naturally - and you’d like to be a 9. I have the best news. You can work your way to a 9… by pushing yourself consistently, seeing failure as temporary and an opportunity to learn and by doing things consistently that make you uncomfortable. When you keep exercising your grit muscle - your number goes up and it never goes back down. Put a little pressure on yourself. Build that grit muscle. It toughens you up and makes you more prepared for whatever life throws your way. And I’ve also learning that the best mindset for building girt is having a growth mindset. Studies have shown that kids and adults are more likely to get up and keep trying when they fail because they believe that failure is temporary- we are alway learning. Today we are talking about getting little habits and routines in place to flex our grit muscle to become stronger and better. Let’s go!
Lindsays story!
Coming out of college Lindsay says…
When I graduated from college I had so many girlfriends - I was president of my sorority and active on campus so I just figured I would always have those relationships. I was so excited to start my business and then later excited to meet the guy who would become my husband.
Other points in this episode:
-It’s a very important topic for girls and women of all ages.
-You need more than one - everyone has different situations and life experiences and you need more than one person to go to and spend time with.
Here are the steps!
Find your people
Be so beyond loyal and dedicated
Be vulnerable and open!
Keep them close - prioritize them and make time for them
-Put it on your calendar!!
Even if you don’t see people often- make it a priority to connect
-HACK! Set a timer on your phone to text people - it takes 2 minutes a day
-Give them your fill attention not distracted at a meal
-How great that we have our families but you can create your own families in a way.
-DM conversations - my family sucks - how about you create a new inner circle?
Why you need more than a spouse
-Gives you a better life balance
-You aren’t replying on one person to be your everything
-It’s fun and good for you to do your own thing then come back together - more to talk about
WHY do all this?
-Happier overall
-The highs are more fun
-The lows are easier to manage and work through
There is nothing quite like strong relationships with girlfriends. The 22 year old Lindsay didn’t realize this but the 40 year old Lindsay certainly does now.
We hope this podcast inspires you to really focus on your relationships with girlfriends and give them the love and time that they need. It brings so much to your life and you never know when you will really really need them, and to have them be there is everything.
CHEERS to girlfriends!!
As parents… I think the majority of us want to do the best for our kids, while still maintaining our sanity and feel like we have it together. I think sometimes we try so hard and want to do a good job that before we know it, we’re trying to be perfect. Which sounds like it might not be a bad thing… but actually… I think there are some serious problems that come along with trying to be a perfect parent. First, it’s an impossible expectation. To try to or expect to be perfect at parenting is just setting yourself up for failure because well… some times things aren’t going to go as planned or we are just going to fall short. And, it kills authenticity. If you’re always trying to hold it together, you aren’t expressing emotion and that’s for sure not what we want to teach our kids to do. Plus it robs our kids of the opportunity to learn HOW to handle situations and difficult emotions. We are letting go of parenting perfectionism today. Let’s go!
Lindsay tells this story to set the tone for this episode. A few weeks ago I as running my favorite stairs. It was cold out and the fresh air felt so good and I had a full hour of alone time and my plan was to not think about a million things… just get outside and listen to loud music and sweat. Well that all changed when at the top of the stairs there were two teenagers passionately kissing on the bench. I did a few laps and they were still there, and did a few more and they were still there and I was like Jesus these kids should be in school… I’m sure their parents don’t know they are ditching… and I mean how long can you kiss outside??? And then I was like… these judgey thoughts are more like jealously really than anything. How nice it must be to be young and not have this crazy complicated life with lots of kids and not a lot of daytime passionate kissing moments. Here’s the lesson I wish I would have learned sooner. When you feel jealous, lean into it. I think it’s almost always either you should take a step back from someone or unfollow them if they don’t make you feel great about yourself… OR… maybe it’s a reflection of something you wish you had in your life. And there is so much to learn from that. Other key points in this podcast: -HUGE part of this is realizing jealously is normal and we can make it a positive. Be honest and vulnerable and lean into it- even talk about it. -Who cares about the other person… what do these feelings mean to YOU? -Maybe they mean associating with someone or consuming their content doesn’t make you feel good and it’s time to make a change. Or maybeee it’s a reflection of something you wish you had in your life. And there is so much to learn from that. Let’s go! -I now see it as the best learning lesson- about who I am at this moment and what I need more of. - Realize there’s enough for everyone!! Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset. Someone else’s win doesn’t take away from you having a win!! Makes it easier to celebrate them! Think about this with friends accomplishments. Realize we are all different and some of us have accomplishments that aren’t considered traditional or celebrated in the light of day or on stages. The best part about some forms of jealousy is you can learn from people who have made it in your mind!! If someone else has done it, so can you!! If someone did it, it means it’s possible. And with social media and YouTube and everything else… you can watch what these people do and learn from them! Create your own path but use what you learn from them to make it easier and save time getting there. -Use jealously to get your act together. It can be a reminder of a dream you had or a goal that you put on the back burner. -Don’t discredit others achievements. Very few people just get lucky. It likely took hard work to get there. Start with small doable steps to get what you want. Let go of what’s not working. -Sometimes we feel jealous but if we really think about it - it’s not actually what we want. Maybe its due to peer pressure or what society or family things we sh9uld do or be. Maybe a big house and a fancy car don’t equal a fulfilling and purposeful life for you. What makes one person happy - and can seem like the ticket to happiness - might not actually be for you. -Realize that another persons success doesn’t make you a failure. This is HUGE for me with business. We all make different decisions and they all come at a price. Also- we all have different timelines. Babies, marriage, careers. The race is long, you can start today. -We get jealous because we compare ourselves on some level -Jealously only exists by comparison on some level -Someone can always beat you on some level. -You can think you’re gorgeous then see someone who is even prettier and also taller and tanner! Then you see yourself as insignificant. -Like doing this podcast - I can feel like I’m doing something cool and having these great growth conversations in DMs and then I’ll see a podcast who has like a bazillion times the audience and it’s so easy to be like why am I even trying I’m like so insignificant here. But it’s that comparison thing that will kill dreams. -It comes from moments when we feel inferior. -Someone is always going to beat you in some category. Someone can teach people more or is taller or has more money or better vacations. -Try to focus on becoming the person who can do lots of things well. The things that are important to you. The amount of positive energy you put out in the world, the things you can do and achieve. CHEERS!! To turning jealously into a way to find your most purposeful and fulfilling life.
Today we are doing to unpack why we are tired. Are we not sleeping enough? Not designing our schedule and routines so there is enough time for sleep and recovery? OR is it not that we are actually tired… but maybe we just aren’t inspired by what we are doing on the day to day? Maybe we aren’t tired or lazy at all, maybe we just don’t have enough of what sets our soul on fire in the day-to-day. If you catch yourself saying “I’m so tired” often… this podcast is for you! Let’s figure out WHY you are tired, and how to change it. There are a few parts to this! Why you are you tired? 1. Not enough sleep/downtime 2. Not inspired/stuck in routine Hacks for #1 Set bedtime Set alarms on your phone Lay out reminders of what you want to be doing If you’re tired - you’re actually in control You made that schedule Yes, you have to take my kids here and there and deal with struggles etc. But it’s about accountability… you can do it all and still be inspired and motivated and rested. Maybe you need to hack your day - eliminate wasted time - prep your food - find those hours you can be smarter with. Hacks for #2 Maybe you’re not actually tired or lazy… maybe you just aren’t energized about what you are doing. A lot of times school puts us in a box. Get in line, figure out what you want to do when you get older. But we don’t work like that. Maybe the routine is the problem. Maybe what you’re doing each day over and over is off. How much are you doing that sets your soul on fire? How many 10s are you getting in each day? Keeping up with the Joneses. So many people are working for the house or the car, to impress other people that they don’t really care about. We have to live like this is our only at bat. We have one life. This is why Lindsay says she loves time alone in the morning. To constantly recenter and not just GO on autopilot. The question is… what are you going to regret the least when you’re 90? That’s the deal. The happiest people are the people that get to spend the most of the time doing the things they love with the people they love to do it with. That’s it. That’s the end game. Not the most money or the fanciest things. Lindsay talks about accepting losing and learning to love losing because it means you’re out there is part of it. And have ownership for everything. When you’re in your zone and doing your thing, you aren’t scared. Cheers to hacking your days so you are rested and motivated, not tired!
Hope you had a great holiday! We are getting back into our podcasting routine and starting with this episode all about post-holiday organizing.
So we all get the new stuff we got, and don’t just shove it in front of or on top of the old stuff you have- that you don’t use anymore and you don’t need- but rather, get a plan going for organizing as you go and doing it in a way that feels freeing and exciting and not painful and miserable.
The harsh truth about organizing that Lindsay wishes she would have really understood 10 years ago- organizing only works if you’ve gotten rid of the unnecessary stuff that gets in the way of the necessary stuff. Just because you can store something, doesn’t mean you should. You really shouldn’t have to dig through anything to get to what you want.
So today as we start to emerge out of the holidays and pull our homes back together, let’s get a good plan together for starting the new year feeling organized and and purged and free from the clutter.
Today’s podcast is alllll about holiday organization!
Emerging out of the holidays and into the new year!
Back on sleep, exercise, nutrition and loving relationships and ORGANIZATION!!
Remember- your home is your happy place!!
It’s about having a home that feels like a breath of fresh air when you get home!
So here’s our plan!
Make a list of each area of the home and organize one project per day.
You have to be dedicated to this plan and ready to make the change.
Lindsay explains how to do it and why it’s so important - not just for this part of your life but for other parts of your life too!
Happy holidays and happy organizing!!
On today’s podcast, Lindsay talks about how she’s learned through the years that holidays can easily be overwhelming or even underwhelming. It’s so much prep and set-up and planning… and often times it can feel like it’s just more work than it is fun. On today’s podcast, she is sharing my favorite tips for enjoying the process and planning in a way that is comfortable for you and fun!
Also, activity ideas and ways to connect everyone. And in a time that is more polarizing than ever, we are chatting about some tips on how to avoid family conflict and things to think about ahead of time so the whole day is nice and smooth.
Lindsay really believes that little moments or ideas or traditions can make what would otherwise be pretty regular, extra ordinary and special and memorable.
Today, we are talking about Thanksgiving and ways to make sure the day is awesome for you and the ones you love.
Here are some of the thoughts!
-Family thankful cards - nobody knows who they are from - pass them around and guess
-Table cheers - what people are grateful for!
-Cookie decorating
Fun activity that gets everyone creating
Or have some other interactive food / dessert plan!
-Cute crafts - some adults will do it too!
-Other thankful activities - especially for kids
-Plan how to give back for the holidays with kids
Talk about what you are grateful for and how you can help others this holiday season
-Tips on managing the clean-up
Clean as you go, do the minimum and do the rest the next day
-How to enjoy the process and what to do when parts are painful
When it’s painful- outsource, simplify or skip it!
-Avoid conflict!
This is not the day to hash out how the president is doing or what everyone things about vaccine mandates. Not. The. Time!
If you have someone who is known for poking the bear at this type of thing- give them a gentle heads up.
-Games!!
If your group is into that sort of thing!
Lindsay shares her favorite grateful quote at the moment.
We all have so much to be grateful for because we are reading this and listening to this right now.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and the ones you love!!
Lindsay is obsessed with finding the extra gear in life. That shift that you make that takes things in your life to the next level.
She believes that most of us are capable of a lot more than we think we are. Like we literally have an extra gear.
Most of us still have more in us. But we often put up these invisible hurdles and tell ourselves that this is the most we can do with this or we can’t even attempt this because of this.
Lindsay’s favorite way to push herself in all aspects of life… is to push herself physically.
Because it pours over to alllll other areas of your life. Because you’ve proven to yourself that you CAN do more than you thought you could.
A physical change is the best way to push yourself in all ways of your life.
Whether you feel like you’re in a rut, or just low on energy or patience with things you have to deal with… Lindsay thinks pushing yourself physically could be the answer, or part of it.
Today, we are talking about ways you can push yourself physically to not only improve your health, but improve your overall fulfillment in life.
We get all these arrows shot us at all day. You’re always dodging arrows.
This is why we need a few hours to ourselves to have the patience to deal with all those arrows.
We have to push ourselves physically so we can be tough mentally.
It’s that mental toughness… helps you push through.
How do you identify if you are in a rut?
When you want to get better and you are not. It’s easy to fall into comfortable habit. It’s super difficult.
Examples of pushing yourself physically ….
-Running up hills
-Running stairs
-Taking the stairs at the doctors office
-Cold showers
-Stretching
-New/hard workout class
-Sauna
CHEERS!!! To pushing yourself PHYSICALLY!
Let’s talk about party activities!
Today we are fully diving into fun activities for KIDS! Things to keep them busy and happy for the whole party.
Giving you lots of ideas of how to keep kids of all ages entertained and how to set it up so it’s exactly what your birthday boy or girl like best too.
How to set-up activities when you have a variety of ages of kids… and what the heck to do for older kids that’s not lame.
So many ideas for you… some with vendors and some doing entirely on your own… and most of them aren’t pricey- just require a little creativity and advanced planning.
If you are throwing a kids party, or a party of any kind where kids will be at, this episode is for you!
The smallest things can make a party extra magical and Lindsay thinks often that’s in the activities.
For kids parties and adults parties and parties with kids and adults… it’s great to have things for everyone to do.
We’re talking about using vendors for some of the activities and other times building the activity yourself.
Lindsay talks about really trying to think about the person that the party is for and what would be the most fun for them… and usually those same things are what their guests will like too!
When she's doing a kids party where parents stay, she tries to have something fun for them to do as well. Sometimes it’s a creative cocktail and food experience to match the theme… and other times like when she did a mermaid party for Presley she did hair braiding girl and a nail art girl come and we set up beauty stations for the moms!
We’re talking about having enough to do so everyone is busy for the whole party and has the best time.
You can do structured time for activities, Lindsay usually like more of a free play type situation.
Start with what your kid likes most and what goes with the theme.
IDEAS!
Ball pit
(OC vendor: ops@meshkids.co)
Bounce house
(OC vendor: hello@bouncecouture.com)
Craft stations
Treat stations - decorate your own cookies, pop tarts, cupcakes
(OC vendor: bangpopshop@gmail.com)
Candy bar
Candy Cart
(OC vendor: lisa@thecandycoach.com)
Timree: OC artist! For paint lessons
(OC vendor: info@timree.com)
Slumber Tents:
(OC vendor: www.sparklesanddreams.com)
Photo Booth & frame decorating station
(OC vendor: info@capturephotobooths.com)
Caricature
(OC vendor: cartoonslinger@gmail.com)
Make your own pizzas
(OC vendor: admin@sgtpepps.com)
Create your own flower arrangements
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Slime making station with little pieces to add in to match the theme
Design your own bag to carry all your goodies in (get bags from Forever 21 or H & M)
Sand box
Sled rides
Horse and carriage rides
Petting Zoo
Color / paint a large structure
Huge canvases for painting
Surprise punch boards (I make my own out of shoe racks)
Raffle with grab bags (must have fun prizes like gift cards and a gag gift!)
Hot cocoa bar
Chocolate fountain with make your own chocolate bars
Foam machine
BUBBLES!
Entertainment - hula dancers, mermaids, fairies, Blippi
Tractor rides!
There are endless ways you can make a party MAGICAL with activities! We hope this podcast gave you LOTS of ideas!!
This podcast episode is ALL about the power of your mind and how you your approach to your days!
And how it affects how you walk into situations and how it completely determines the outcome!!
So often we get in routine and just keep doing the things we’ve always done. And - we find what we are looking for.
If you wake up and you’re grumpy and you’re irritated and you’re thinking about that meeting that might be irritating.. you’re going to have a less than awesome day because you started out with that filter on. Awesome things truly have no change of making their way through them.
If you think god, I’m walking into a crappy day… it probably will be. But if you’re like… today is going to be awesome OR today is going to be as awesome as it can be (given whatever is going on) it’s MUCH more likely to be.
It think we subconsciously decide how we are going to approach our days… which turns into our weeks, our months and our years. We decide the mood we are in and I’m telling you… the thoughts you think create the world in which you live in.
You can completely convince yourself that something is going to be awesome or completely shitty- and either way you’ll likely turn out to be right!
Your thoughts control your road map of a day.
Ask yourself...
How are you using your mind to make you feel great or not?
Your destiny is ultimately decided by the decision you made this morning. A huge decision.
That is either - I’m going to get up, enter the world with no intention to get by or survive and go though the motions.
OR
I am going to get clear in this morning about what I am going after and who I want to be and what I am going to go out and be awesome at!
The problem is most people don’t make this conscious decision.
Here’s the HACK, the practical way to do this...
THINK about the things you have coming up and ask yourself:
How are you going to make that special?
How are you going to be great at that?
How do you want this experience to feel?
How will you do this well?
(SAVE THIS!)
Usually we just GO ABOUT THE DAY… rather than SIT and think about how you are doing to do what you have ahead, well.
There is so much power in realizing so much of what happens in our day is determined by our perspective going into it.
CHEERS! To the best intentional starts to your days!
In this podcast, Lindsay talks about the life lessons she’s learned in her first 40 years!
Here are some of the highlights:
-Everybody is the happiest when they get to do what they want to be doing.
When you get to do want to be doing you’ve won.
-You’re going to be 90!!!
Right now it’s not too late, but one day it will be.
When you’re 120 and you’re not mobile- you can’t build that company you wanted, you can’t spend that time with your kid… it’s regret… and it paralyzing.
-The ONLY decision that needs to be made is what will you regret LEAST when you’re 90
-Don’t take NO for an answer.
-Doing the right thing is always the right thing.
It’s all about how you feel about yourself when you’re by yourself.
-Go to bed without crumbs.
-You only have so much bandwidth!!!
-Learn what your body needs and make it a priority
-Be vulnerable with those you love
-Own your mistakes
-Dont let your mistakes define you
-EMBRACE hard things - it preps you for the world
We are strong!! We are just being sold that we aren’t ENOUGH.
You’re the best - go do shit!!
-Have good reactions - don’t lose your cool
-INHALE the good shit, exhale the bad shit
-Watch what you say about yourself
-Get in your 10s!!
-Stop complaining - nobody cares!!! Stop dwelling - nobody cares!
Own your shit! We have a bigger chance than ever.
-Protect your headspace
-There are 2 acceptable outcomes (what Lindsay tells her kids)
-Speed is so much more important than perfection.
There is SO much opportunity - don't over think it and just MOVE! There will never be a perfect time for most things.
-LOVE your body
-Carry an idea book - write it all down!!!
-What you listen to and who you listen to is what you become
-Eat like your life depends on it
-MOVE your body everyday
-Spend time with those who get it
-Forgive the ones you love who think differently than you
-A mistake repeated more than once is a decision
-Paulo Coelho
-Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you would never image would be done. And then. Without even realizing it these pieces come back. New love enters. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror.
@tinybuddha
-If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in hearing your feedback.
-You don't get what you want, you only get what you must absolutely f*cking have.
-The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.
-Don't sell out what you want most for what you want right now. Its self control and it sucks!!
-Don’t let others ruin your day.
-Stop saying this was a shit year!!! You’ll attract more of that. Decide what you want, make a plan and follow through on it - every. single. day.
CHEERS to the next 40 years of lessons learned!
Today we’re talking about giving yourself grace… that space you sometimes need to mess up and not beat yourself up over it or have days when you just don't have as much energy to do all the things you want to do…
Lindsay talks about being an entrepreneur by nature and pushing herself and holding herself to high standards, like many of us.
But what she’s realized lately is often times her expectations were unrealistic- which she would have told you is a great thing- set super high goals because otherwise there is no way to achieve them. But what she's realized is… she’s able to enjoy the journey more and embrace the beauty of evolving and use mistakes as learning opportunities… all the positive things that come when you give yourself grace.
Lindsay is now focusing on giving her best, based on my capacity that day and in that moment. Perfection is not the goal and she's not competing with anyone else. By giving herself this sort of self-compassion, it’s not making her weaker, it’s making her stronger because she’s showing more love to herself. Slowing down just enough to enjoy the journey and have the space for rest and self-love and GRACE.
Here are some key points Lindsay talks about:
-Asking her kids… did you do your best today? Then you did a great job.
Leave it all on the field - you either won or you tried your best and it just didn’t work. Either one of those options are acceptable. Why aren’t we doing the same thing for ourselves?
-You need that physical and mental space to do it.
-Know you’re not perfect and don’t aim to be.
-Mess up and don’t feel badly - it’s a lesson learned.
-Some days you don’t have as much energy or you don’t feel well - your best is going to be different on different days.
-When you set your expectations too high- then you often don’t reach them- then you stop believing yourself when you tell yourself you are going to do something.
This is where Lindsay got herself stuck!! She talks about how she stopped believing she could achieve her goals because they weren’t realistic.
-When we give ourselves grace, we release feelings of shame and regret so we can move forward with care and openness towards ourselves and others.
-The feeling of never doing enough or being enough.
-In the moments when you’re being hard on yourself or talking negatively to yourself, ask, “Is this how I would treat my friend or a loved one?” If not, then that’s an indicator that it’s time to change your self-talk!
-Burnout is the physical or mental collapse due to over work or stress. We have so many responsibilities and we are expected to be great at them all!!
-Realize- are we putting these expectations on ourselves or are other people putting them on us? Are we putting super high expectations of others?
-It can make you feel like you’re never doing enough or being enough.
-The goal is not perfection, its PROGRESS.
-Tony Robbins says the secret to happiness in one word is PROGRESS.
"If you want to have ongoing joy and fulfillment in your life, the secret is just one word – progress. Progress equals happiness. While achievements and material things may excite you for the moment, the only thing that’s going to make you happy long-term is knowing that you’re making progress.
To do this, you have to remember: While change is automatic – progress is not. Progress results from actively and consciously choosing to create a life you love; a life where you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning because you are growing, contributing, impacting and serving.
How do you start creating a life like that? By first learning that you don’t need an excuse to feel good – you can feel good for no reason."
-Lindsay says, "I sometimes look around and I’m like oh my gosh I worked on the house all day - and there is still shit all over… HOW DO OTHER WOMEN DO IT?"
And that’s just it… we can’t be amazing at everything at the same moment.
-Realize that even though we want to have our house in order and laundry done- there is this balance that is HARD when raising kids… sometimes you have to LET UP and know that things will get back in order.
-Do you want to look back when you’re 90 and think… my house was sure clean??
-The FREEDOM TO RELAX!! And know… you were there for the JOYS and the tears and the moments sitting around the table instead of constantly cleaning up or tasking.
-Being able to say say NO. No period. Without explanation. Signing up for room mom when you know it will stretch you thin. When you over commit at the school… know if it’s YOU… does it make you so happy or does it suck the life out of you?
-Don’t feel like you have to do it to be a good mom. Give yourself grace. Just because you aren’t this mom or that mom or the room mom… they will get you a lot better at other things… because you are whole and happy and not trying to pour from an empty cup.
-Guess what - you don’t want your family to get what’s left of you!! You want them to get the best of you! That’s why you can’t commit to ALL THE THINGS… just leave things on your plate that you really WANT.
-You just have to give yourself grace. As a wife or husband too… it’s so easy with so many responsibilities to feel like we are failing at it all. And feeling like you don't have energy to give to your spouse.
I’ve found this - when you just kick back and have conversations… what do you need, what do you need more of and LESS of?
-Take away the ego, and not trying to always wear ALL the hats at one time… Lindsay talks about how you can really GROW as a couple because you are taking your guard down and giving each other grace. It’s not always 50/50… sometimes one of you is going to be going through something… but that’s where you as a team comes in… and when you need it - when you’re the 10%… your partner will be there with the 90%.
-This can give you so much stress and anxiety when you put so much pressure on yourself and you don't give yourself grace.
-And if you work, or have a family, or both… it can all be so much. Saying YES to meetings and all the requests for your time.
-And knowing you can politely say no. Without excuse or over talking it - don’t give the maybe- give the hard no. That’s how you sign yourself up willingly for burn out.
-Lindsay did a podcast - if it’s not a HELL YES- it’s a no! Perfect lesson here!
-How about making time for friends?
-A part of giving yourself grace is … saying GOOD JOB, you did great at that. We tend to skim over what we did great at and focus on what we failed at.
-There is so much power in slowing down, taking a step back and realizing how freeing it is to give yourself GRACE.
CHEERS! To giving yourself eternal grace!
Today we’re talking about giving yourself grace… that space you sometimes need to mess up and not beat yourself up over it or have days when you just don't have as much energy to do all the things you want to do…
Lindsay talks about being an entrepreneur by nature and pushing herself and holding herself to high standards, like many of us.
But what she’s realized lately is often times her expectations were unrealistic- which she would have told you is a great thing- set super high goals because otherwise there is no way to achieve them. But what she's realized is… she’s able to enjoy the journey more and embrace the beauty of evolving and use mistakes as learning opportunities… all the positive things that come when you give yourself grace.
Lindsay is now focusing on giving her best, based on my capacity that day and in that moment. Perfection is not the goal and she's not competing with anyone else. By giving herself this sort of self-compassion, it’s not making her weaker, it’s making her stronger because she’s showing more love to herself. Slowing down just enough to enjoy the journey and have the space for rest and self-love and GRACE.
Here are some key points Lindsay talks about:
-Asking her kids… did you do your best today? Then you did a great job.
Leave it all on the field - you either won or you tried your best and it just didn’t work. Either one of those options are acceptable. Why aren’t we doing the same thing for ourselves?
-You need that physical and mental space to do it.
-Know you’re not perfect and don’t aim to be.
-Mess up and don’t feel badly - it’s a lesson learned.
-Some days you don’t have as much energy or you don’t feel well - your best is going to be different on different days.
-When you set your expectations too high- then you often don’t reach them- then you stop believing yourself when you tell yourself you are going to do something.
This is where Lindsay got herself stuck!! She talks about how she stopped believing she could achieve her goals because they weren’t realistic.
-When we give ourselves grace, we release feelings of shame and regret so we can move forward with care and openness towards ourselves and others.
-The feeling of never doing enough or being enough.
-In the moments when you’re being hard on yourself or talking negatively to yourself, ask, “Is this how I would treat my friend or a loved one?” If not, then that’s an indicator that it’s time to change your self-talk!
-Burnout is the physical or mental collapse due to over work or stress. We have so many responsibilities and we are expected to be great at them all!!
-Realize- are we putting these expectations on ourselves or are other people putting them on us? Are we putting super high expectations of others?
-It can make you feel like you’re never doing enough or being enough.
-The goal is not perfection, its PROGRESS.
-Tony Robbins says the secret to happiness in one word is PROGRESS.
"If you want to have ongoing joy and fulfillment in your life, the secret is just one word – progress. Progress equals happiness. While achievements and material things may excite you for the moment, the only thing that’s going to make you happy long-term is knowing that you’re making progress.
To do this, you have to remember: While change is automatic – progress is not. Progress results from actively and consciously choosing to create a life you love; a life where you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning because you are growing, contributing, impacting and serving.
How do you start creating a life like that? By first learning that you don’t need an excuse to feel good – you can feel good for no reason."
-Lindsay says, "I sometimes look around and I’m like oh my gosh I worked on the house all day - and there is still shit all over… HOW DO OTHER WOMEN DO IT?"
And that’s just it… we can’t be amazing at everything at the same moment.
-Realize that even though we want to have our house in order and laundry done- there is this balance that is HARD when raising kids… sometimes you have to LET UP and know that things will get back in order.
-Do you want to look back when you’re 90 and think… my house was sure clean??
-The FREEDOM TO RELAX!! And know… you were there for the JOYS and the tears and the moments sitting around the table instead of constantly cleaning up or tasking.
-Being able to say say NO. No period. Without explanation. Signing up for room mom when you know it will stretch you thin. When you over commit at the school… know if it’s YOU… does it make you so happy or does it suck the life out of you?
-Don’t feel like you have to do it to be a good mom. Give yourself grace. Just because you aren’t this mom or that mom or the room mom… they will get you a lot better at other things… because you are whole and happy and not trying to pour from an empty cup.
-Guess what - you don’t want your family to get what’s left of you!! You want them to get the best of you! That’s why you can’t commit to ALL THE THINGS… just leave things on your plate that you really WANT.
-You just have to give yourself grace. As a wife or husband too… it’s so easy with so many responsibilities to feel like we are failing at it all. And feeling like you don't have energy to give to your spouse.
I’ve found this - when you just kick back and have conversations… what do you need, what do you need more of and LESS of?
-Take away the ego, and not trying to always wear ALL the hats at one time… Lindsay talks about how you can really GROW as a couple because you are taking your guard down and giving each other grace. It’s not always 50/50… sometimes one of you is going to be going through something… but that’s where you as a team comes in… and when you need it - when you’re the 10%… your partner will be there with the 90%.
-This can give you so much stress and anxiety when you put so much pressure on yourself and you don't give yourself grace.
-And if you work, or have a family, or both… it can all be so much. Saying YES to meetings and all the requests for your time.
-And knowing you can politely say no. Without excuse or over talking it - don’t give the maybe- give the hard no. That’s how you sign yourself up willingly for burn out.
-Lindsay did a podcast - if it’s not a HELL YES- it’s a no! Perfect lesson here!
-How about making time for friends?
-A part of giving yourself grace is … saying GOOD JOB, you did great at that. We tend to skim over what we did great at and focus on what we failed at.
-There is so much power in slowing down, taking a step back and realizing how freeing it is to give yourself GRACE.
CHEERS! To giving yourself eternal grace!
Today on the podcast, Lindsay's incredible friend Amanda joins her to talk about her experience and journey to freeze her eggs.
This is a great episode about this topic that we think should be talked about more than it is.
Thankfully due to modern medicine there are so many ways for women to improve their odds for having children, now or in the future. I’m so proud of Amanda for doing this and for sharing it all with us!
Amanda has been one of Lindsay's closest friends for the last 25 years! They went to high school together and moved to college together and were roommates in the dorms… Amanda and Lindsay have been through so much together.. this is going to be a very cool next chapter.
Lindsay is so proud of Amanda for going through this process and for sharing the journey with us.
On today’s show, Lindsay asks Amanda these questions:
-What is egg freezing and how is it different than IVF?
-Why did you decide to go this route?
-What type of medication did you have to take?
-What is the lead up process going to it and appointments?
-What is the cost? Why is there a range?
-Where are they stored?
-Do you have to do IVF first to maximize #s?
-What is the process like? It is painful? What is egg retrieval day like?
-What type of help did you need after and picking up meds?
-What was the recovery like?
-What is the most surprising thing you learned in this process?
-Was it emotional for you?
-How does the vaccine play into it?
Such a refreshing conversation about this topic and one that is empowering and interesting.
When you are having a day or a moment when you just need POSITIVITY- Lindsay has a FULL ON PLAN for you!
Maybe you’re just in a funky headspace and being negative or stuck on something that happened that you want to let go but are having a hard time with it, or you are in an argument with someone close to you, or you’re stuck in a complaining loop, or you just got yourself into a mood where you hate everyyyoneeee… we’ve all had moments or days like allll of these and it can be H-A-R-D to get your way out of it!
Today, Lindsay is sharing 3 hacks for getting the hell out of the negative hole you are sitting in and get into a positive state of mind.
And not in a fake, cheesy way. Like genuinely happy and feeling like you are on track and enjoying your days and being the person that you want to be.
Lindsay says… "If I know ANYTHING- I know for sure that the thoughts you think and the words you say create the world that you live in.
So it’s worth fighting like HELL to get in a happy headspace and stay there."
Lindsay is sharing a few hacks and I know at least one will work for you! Even if you don’t have a positive support system or that one go-to positive person that can help lift you out. That’s ok! You can do this on your own!
It’s so important to be positive because its how you SEE and REACT to the world! It’s how you label things and interpret things!
A few topics Lindsay discusses:
--Music as your mantra
--Find your most positive person in your crew
--OR get it virtually!
Find people that inspire you- and listen to them like they are your friends!
**especially important to interrupt your thinking when you are off!
-And STOP the things that make you feel like hell!
-Don’t let yourself go down a spiral!
-Sometimes - we need a down day!! Remove yourself from the world and get re-centered.
-TUNE OUT the negativity if it is someone else!! Tell them or don’t!
-SUBMERGE YOURSELF in all the positives
-Get in as many 10s as you can
-SAY NO to anything that sounds awful - remove it all - we are rebooting here - we aren’t saying YES to be nice.
-We have to be nice to ourselves first. We can’t pour from an empty cup!!!
CHEERS to living in your happiest headspace!
Today we are talking about removing the feelings of guilt and shame when it comes to food.
We live in a diet culture - with a new fad or restrictive diet or skinny tea every time we turn around.
We see messages about getting your body back after baby and pictures of super airbrushed bodies in our feed all day.
Of course we’re going to compare ourselves and feel less than.
If you listen to the podcast on the regular you know Lindsay talks a lot about picturing yourself at 90 years old and looking back on what was important. Do you think there’s any chance you’ll think to yourself… “god I’m just so glad I spent my whole life obsessing about food and my body?” No way!
Another thing Lindsay talks about all the time is bandwidth. We only have so much bandwidth in a day. And any minutes you spend regretting what you ate or talking negatively about your body, are minutes you aren’t spending doing things you love.
Today our conversation is going to be based around the concept of intuitive eating and listening to your body. No diets, no negative talk, just a really healthy way to approach food and our bodies.
Things that work for Lindsay:
-Intermittent fasting.
-Find balance between foods that taste good, foods we enjoy and foods that make you feel good and give you energy.
-Never deprive myself.
-Make a conscious choice about what it is and be decisive about it - don’t over think it or second guess it. Decide, enjoy and don’t negative talk or think during or after.
TIPS from experts:
--Nutritionalists and eating counselors
--Intuitive eating - listen to your body. Allowing yourself to eat the chocolate that you want to.
-It sounds so simple - but I can’t believe I didn’t realize this sooner. Here’s my tip ready- eat when you are hungry. Listen to your body.
-A baby cries when it’s hungry - we loose that along the way because of “diet culture”
-Listen and trust yourself
-Skinny tea culture - which is really a laxative
-What happens after you eat something? Write it down!
-Put aside weight loss for a minute - diets generally don’t work - or you gain the weight back. Remove the intentional weight loss for a minute and think about it with the intention of improving our relationship with food and our body image.
-Listen to your bodies cues in a loving way - not in a harsh way - like I cant eat that because I didn’t work out today.
-It’s not worth sacrificing your mental health to be thin!!
-What can you get out of intuitive eating?
Physical and mental - dieting is so hard on our body.
You yo yo and your weight is changing and working out even if you are sick - it’s just not good for you.
Emotionally - its a mess. Dieting can start out nice because there is a plan and structure - and as humans we like that. Then it ends up chaos, we break it, we stop trusting ourselves. You can feel like you are losing your mind and lead to negative self talk.
-Once we start working with our bodies, we usually hit a stable weight that our bodies are happy at and we have more energy (we are eating the calories we need) and we are happier because we have more BANDWIDTH and headspace for other things because you aren’t obsessing about eating and dieting and then feeling bad about it after. It’s a lot of mental energy.
-If you have this food fixation - you are taking up a lot of your brain power - and you can handle more in your day and in your brain. If you are over burdened in your cognitive world - maybe it’s time to listen to your body and work with it, not against.
-How do we start? To connect with our bodies again?
We are so hard on moms and our bodies. It’s insane when you think about it - we made a human. Then we tell the moms they need to bounce back and get your body back and get a “mommy makeover.”
-A lot of women say their eating habits came from their parents
-Unfollow someone on social media if they make you feel crappy
-Work on your self talk- when you feel those negative thoughts - be aware of them first. Don’t go down the spiral! “I look like I have a muffin top in these jeans” then think about that cake you had 2 weeks ago. Stop yourself - we are actual humans with emotions and complicated lives. You a
-Emotional eating - ask yourself - are you hungry? If no, ask yourself what is going on. If you are hungry, go eat. You won’t always have the answer. THEN- ask yourself - what is it that I really need right now? A hug, fresh air, to be alone, to have a big bowl of ice cream. Maybe that’s what you needed
-It’s how we buffer sometimes… sometimes it’s ok. When you think it will make you feel better, not worse.
-Our eating behaviors and patterns has been there since childhood. Our relationship to food is built in childhood.
Now we are living it.
I don’t want to give my kids things they will need to undo.
-How to be awesome at shifting your relationship with food for your kids.
We teach kids that they have to clear their plate - isn’t really healthy messaging.
And we sometimes use food as a reward or something that has to be earned.
This could be a whole podcast on it’s own- Lindsay will do research and report back!!
-pay attention to how you feel!! If you feel crappy after you eat pizza- have one slice with a salad because I feel better and have more energy after.
--Same with exercise- you can’t do it as a reward or a punishment! Find what is fun for you.
-Get rid of anyone who’s talking about your body or food negatively - sometimes there are pushers - want you to eat more or make a comment if you make another plate.
It is your body- you get to choose. It’s hard not to internalize those comments- just say
“We aren’t having this conversation”
-If you let yourself have the foods you want - you’re less likely to feel like you’ve gone crazy.
-You might not even love some foods that you make forbidden - like you put it off limits then
-RECLAIM your power! Don’t let a relative
When you stop resisting and start accepting - it all gets easier.
-You can give certain foods power over you - if you resist it so hard. You have a choice about how you react to your thoughts and cravings
-Don’t label foods as good or bad - this sets you up for guilt
-Studies show that some people can just brush off messages about body image easier than others. People who tend to be perfectionists are going to have a harder time if someone says something about their body or eating.
-Eating disorder type behavior is serious - restricting, purging.
-Talk to your own self about your body like you would your child or best friend.
-Talk to a professional if you think that would be helpful.
TIPS from social media comments:
-Being consistent with exercise, fasting and diet
-Cheat day on the weekend - healthy for 6 days
-I plan for it. Impulse cravings leave me feeling guilty and disappointed in myself
-We are different animals - I can eat whatever I want - I could use a dose of guilt
-Workout the day of and the day after and keep the indulgence to just one meal/thing
The older I get the less I care, life is short, enjoy!
-“never skip two” have whatever you want at one meal but the next meal be back on track
-mandatory hard workout before hand
-balance! Enjoy in moderation and crush a good workout the next day or before.
-Find food freedom is great!
-Only splurge when it’s something you love!
Let’s go out and LIVE and LOVE and EAT and be kind to our bodies and to ourselves!
We alll have our own thoughts about it all - masks, the vaccine, how elected officials have handled it, mandates, quarantines…
But when you think about it, of course we do. We all have our own set of experiences and views and it shapes what we think and the choices we make.
The crazy thing is… before the last 2 years, especially the last year, we all seemed to appreciate perspectives that were different than our own. We didn’t think that people that didn’t think like us were idiots, they just had a different set of views.
In this podcast, we are chatting about the importance of respecting other people’s opinions about everything related to Covid, even though they might not align with ours.
It can be so tricky when people we are close to - friends or family think differently than us- how do you navigate it and maintain your relationship. Today we are unpacking the complications that Covid perspectives can have on our relationships and how to handle it in the best way possible.
Lindsay goes through these thoughts:
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Listen to understand
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Allow yourself to put yourself in their shoes and appreciate their perspective
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Speak for yourself
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Find common ground
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Agree not to discuss it
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Change the subject!
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Discuss without judgment
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Mental health should be as much of a concern as Covid itself
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The words we speak out loud and the words we say in our head impact us SO MUCH. We have to protect our headspace and keep our stress low!
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Understand we don’t live in a dictatorship- we are allowed to think for ourselves. That’s what our company is based on - FREEDOM! We don’t all have to think the same thing or do the same thing. We are allowed to make our own decisions and have our own opinions.
Covid will continue to challenge us physically, emotionally and mentally in the months and likely years ahead. To preserve our relationships as well as our health and well-being, it’s important to acknowledge the impact the virus has had on each of us.
Our goal here is to FIGHT LIKE HELL to stay in a good headspace and keep your stress low and your immune system STRONG! And when this phase is over, we still have our people right there with us!
On today’s podcast Lindsay is talking to her very good friend Savannah Foster about her high powered career- in a male dominated industry- and how she continues to reach new heights in her professional life while raising a family and maintaining a great relationship with her husband. She’s so interesting to talk to- Savannah is an NFL sports agent and the VP of Client Relations for Athlete’s First, one of the biggest sports agency. She basically manages the lives of over 50 NFL football players. To say her job is 24/7 seems like an understatement so if she can figure out a balance- there’s hope for the rest of us! Savannah is so positive and hard working and has the best outlook on setting goals and dreaming big. Join Lindsay for this very interesting chat about business and babies and making it alllll work. Here are the questions Lindsay asks Savannah! What is your job really like? How did you get into the industry? What is the hardest part of your job? How do you avoid burnout and set boundaries? Shallow question but is her work anything like the show Ballers with Dwayne Johnson? How did you get started? What did you major in, in college and do you need a law degree? Working in a male dominated industry How do you keep from abandoning female qualities to fit in? How do you manage working in a male dominated industry? Business & Babies How to juggle career and children Managing schedule and babies Managing a big job and babies What tips do you have? Hacks you’ve learned? If you feel like anyone gets the backseat sometimes - who is it? You, hubby or kids? Because of your busy work days/life! Husband and home life How does he feel about you working so much? IG personal question- Can’t hire outside help- how does your husband lighten the chore load/obligation? What role does he play in your success as a mom and business woman? How do you navigate cooking for your family? What do you do for your own ME time or self care? Last ones! How would you advise a GLBT client to come out? How should they do it? How could someone be your intern or assistant? Who is your favorite athlete you have or are currently working with? Balance question!! What do you not do to make space for things you actually do? Do you set actual goals for your career, or is it more like you just keep climbing in your industry?
Let’s talk about being an awesome room parent! Supporting teachers and your school… and getting extra time with your child in the classroom or on field trips… being a room parent can be so much fun and a great way to be involved on campus.
If you’re a room parent this year or are considering taking on the role in future years… this podcast is for you!!
Lindsay is sharing so many awesome tips for how to make this job not too complicated or stressing… how to do sign-ups and plan parties… how to work with the other room parents and my favorite really creative and next level ideas for times when you want to really make it extra special.
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about:
-Ask the teacher all the questions! What do they like and not like- how can you be most helpful?
-Ask your parents for feedback as you go so you know your audience! Sometimes you will have parents who want to be super involved, other times not… sometimes they would rather contribute items to a party and other times they want it easy and would rather Venmo you. Find out what works best for your group each year.
-Have teachers fill out really AWESOME teachers favorites forms! Make your own- there are NO good ones online! Make sure it covers things you could give them as a little surprise or for birthdays or holidays.
-Make sure you know about any kids allergies or photo restrictions.
-If you want to be NEXT level - set-up a What’s App communication - like a group text- for your class. Send reminders like “Morning! Reminder it’s pajama day today!” Parents find this SO helpful!
-Email tips - don’t include too much information to where it’s overwhelming - but also, wait to gather enough information so you aren’t sending emails too often. Ask if anyone wants to be removed at the start! Many families just want one parent on the emails (my husband opts out of mine 😜)
-Use Sign Up Genius for volunteering and to have people sign up to bring items in!
-Figure out creative ways to appreciate teachers that are easy (and not annoying) to parents
-Plan parties ahead of time - use Pinterest! Ask what has worked the best in the past - and run ideas by teachers before sending to the class.
-Hardest part in my opinion- being on a committee. Make it easier by making it simple. Dividing tasks to avoid too much correspondence or differing opinions. If everyone has their own jobs and does it their own way- it makes it easy!
-Don’t take on all the cost yourself!
-Get creative with teacher gifts and think about they would ACTUALLY want! They aren’t JUST teachers - they don’t want only things that say teacher etc- as tempting as it may be! Really use their favorites list!
-Gift baskets! Have people in the class contribute to birthday, holiday or end of school year baskets! Gift cards or items can really add up when everyone contributes. Know the schools rules with collecting money and items before you hit go!
-Plan ahead and get creative - don’t make it too complicated to where it takes over your life but also take the time to do it more special than what’s expected.
-The perks!! You get extra class time and often times priority to things like joining on field trips etc!
-Supporting teachers and school staff is the BEST!
-NEXT level idea- photo book with pictures from the year - make on Shutterfly and send links to all the parents to order their own!
-Also can have a Shutterfly photo page where teachers and parents can upload photos.
-It’s personally rewarding, it’s fun to do for your child and their peers and good to help your school community.
-Remember- don’t make things too complicated… don’t take things personally and have FUN with it!!
CHEERS to your most awesome room parent self!!
It’s both the most painful thing ever at times and also the most rewarding. We are talking about waking up EARLY… well 5am to be exact.
Countless studies show that we are our sharpest and most productive in the first few hours of the day and there’s also a lot of research supporting the thoughts that more sleep and waking up early leads to better health and an overall healthier lifestyle.
But here’s the real reason. You get TWO full hours to yourself before the world is awake and moving! You likely aren’t distracted by texts and emails coming in or toddlers tugging at your legs. It gives clarity and time to do things that are important to you each day. So while it will be painful at times- I think once you try it out and see how great your days feeeeel- you’ll be addicted!
We are talking about why waking up at 5am is AWESOME today!
Here are some of the points Lindsay makes:
-It’s about health and a healthy lifestyle… but honestly it’s also about personal time!
-The master of this concept is Robin Sharma, author of The 5am Club Own Your Morning Elevate Your Life says…
"5am is time of least distraction, highest human glory and greatest peace.”
-The average person wakes up and let's the day take over.
-Waking up at 5am allows you to have intention for your day.
-If you want to be great, this is where to start.
-We have to start our days with intention
-Lindsay always talks about bandwidth. Our minds have a limited amount of “bandwidth.”
--Our brain is best early in the morning.
--Our brain chemistry is different early in the morning.
Here are some of the reasons Lindsay thinks waking up early will bring value to your life:
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Get more done
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Have more energy
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Look more youthful and rested
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Feel less rushed/stressed/frazzled
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Healthier weight (you can’t eat when you’re sleeping and it’s your bodys time to rest and process)
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Healthier eating (not grabbing whatever in a rush)
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Immune system strength (your white blood cells drop when you get a full nights sleep- the ones that fight infection)
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More personal time = happy head space (not getting right on your computer)
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Get enough sunlight during the day!
Studies Lindsay references:
Source: the journal JAMA Psychiatry
Waking up early reduces the risk of suffering from depression, says new study. A recent study published in the journal JAMA Psychiatry showed that waking up an hour before the normal time can reduce the risk of a person suffering from depression by 23%.
The connection between earlier sleep timing and lower risk of depression may have to do with circadian rhythm and early risers getting more light exposure throughout their awake hours. “We know that exposure to sunlight has an impact on our moods,” says psychotherapist Michele Miller, LCSW. “For example, looking at seasonal affective disorder, it’s the longer, darker days that lead people to feel depressed and less energized—so, getting up earlier allows you to experience more daylight, which could make you feel more energized.” And if you’re doing that on the regular, it could lead to the decreased depression risk identified above.
So many studies about reduced sleep and weight gain in nurses. You are tired so you don’t eat as healthy or are in a hurry. You don’t have time for exercise and your body doesn’t have enough time to rest.
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about:
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Go to bed early
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Exhaust yourself physically each day
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Have a wind down plan at night
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Don’t leave crumbs in your days
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Create a happy sleeping environment in your space
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Sleep with your curtains open
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Don’t eat after a certain time
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Avoid caffeine after a certain time
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Unplug before bed
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Put your phone on silent
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Adjust your routine to stick to your bedtime
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Get up and brush your teeth and put on shoes - it will get easier- don’t let yourself get back in bed
Lindsay wraps up by talking about the lessons learned in the book, “The 5am Club.”
-Waking up at 5am gives you alone time and improved brain state so you can operate at your best.
-Balance your “empires” - physical health, emotional health and spirituality.
-The 20/20/20 rule. This is how to spend your first hour! First 20 minutes fitness, next 20 minutes reflection and meditation and last 20 minutes learning/reading.
So many reasons to wake up at 5am and feel awesome!
How crazy is it to think that we wake up… brush our teeth, check social media and for a lot of us… start comparing ourselves and our lives to other people’s. Social media has made it so easy- too easy- to compare what we have or don’t have or what we are doing or aren’t doing- to people we don’t even know. Some days it may affect us more than other days… but the real trick here is to realize that today, we live in a comparison culture. And we have to make an actual effort to resist comparing ourselves to everyone else and have a plan for how we are going to manage these feelings when they come up.
Concentrating on what other people are doing - and spending time questioning why they got there or how or being jealous or criticizing gets you nowhere.
Instead, you can use that same energy to fire yourself up- and see what’s possible. Today we are talking about the comparison culture that we are living in and how to manage it in a healthy way that motivates and inspires us, not makes us depressed!
Here are a few things Lindsay talks about…
-When you’re 90 and looking back- you aren’t going to think about comparing yourself to other people- instead you’ll compare what you did and who you were to the best possible version of yourself. And the goal is for those to be pretty closely aligned.
-We know this is the highlight reel of people’s lives but we still let it get in our head.
-Some people we know and other people we don’t know.
-Often times when we are younger, we consume all this content and let it get to us!! We spend lots of time on it.
-But then…. You realize it’s a HUGE waste of time.
-It’s all about bandwidth. We all only have so much bandwidth. If you go down a rabbit hole fighting with strangers on Twitter… that’s using up your bandwidth. If you’re sitting for hours on Instagram looking at what other people have and either allowing yourself to feel shitty as a result or hate on them or judge them… or decide what’s not fair about your life or why they actually SUCK…
-You can use it get FIRED UP about it. There’s no positive benefit in underestimating someone.
-It’s motivating. Sometimes you have to go to work. If you see someone doing what you want to be doing.. or doing it faster or better…
-You should be thankful there are people out there KILLING IT- it makes you want to run harder, push myself… it makes you want to work harder.
-As long as someone isn’t doing anything bad or hurting anyone…. Why hate on what they are doing
-They are showing you that it’s possible to do better than you are doing and that’s GOOD. At the end of the day we are completing with one person- ourselves. The best version of ourselves.
-FOMO- missing out on something better that you think you should have
We end up comparing what we have to what we dont have
This mindset makes you feel like whatever you are doing isn’t enough.
-Social media started as a way to keep up with people that you like… but now is often a way to come to look at people with a side eye!!
-Maybe you’re looking at how much money someone has or the vacations someone is going on or who they married…
-Your happiness becomes a moving target.
-Often times we are spending time on things we can’t control. If you can’t control it… let it go. It doesn’t serve you.
-Remember- on social media- you are only seeing the highlights reel.
-We have to have an actual plan as we consume the content that people strategically put out.
CHEERS- to only completing with yourself!!
Let’s talk about Cabo!! One of Lindsay’s favorite vacation spots! She’s breaking down what she thinks are the most awesome places to eat and stay… and some tips and hacks to make it easy and fun.
What to plan ahead of time and what to make sure you pack. Cabo is great for kids and families… but also so much fun for an adults trips or a romantic getaway. Not to mention you can get a juice or a cocktail inside of an actual fruit, at just about anywhere you go. Let’s plan your trip to CABO!
Cabo travel tips Lindsay mentions:
-Think about your days ahead of time and think creatively!
-Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want!
-Have a car booked- don’t get one at the airport.
-Stop by the airport bars or have drinks waiting for you in the car or stop by the stores.
-If you are staying for awhile… stop by the Costco on your way in!
-Book photos on the beach with Ximena! (Hee-meh-nuh)
www.ximenazermeno.com
-VIP car service & walk through security:
Luis +52 624 122 0107
www.cabotour.com
-Hotels mentioned:
Las Ventanas
One and Only Palmilla
Hard Rock Hotel Cabo
Cabo Azul
Chileno Bay
-Restaurants mentioned:
Flora Farms!
Acre!
The Office
Edith’s
Tres Sirenas (great for birthdays)
Sunset Monalisa - best view!!
Comal - at Chileno Bay
Arbol- at Las Ventanas
La Lupita for tacos
Steakhouse at Nobu hotel!
-PARTY!
Cabo Wabo for great music and dancing!
Speakeasy at Las Ventanas
-Adventures!
-Swim with dolphins
-Watersports
-Collect glass hearts
-What to pack!
Cabo is SO MUCH FUN and easy to get to! If you’re in CA- you’re at the pool just a few hours after you leave. Lindsay shares all her favorite things about Cabo!
CHEERS!!! To your next AWESOME trip to Cabo!!
Lindsay says…
"Out of allllll the podcast episodes I’ve recorded… this is probably the one that would have saved me the most conflict in my life."
Here’s what we’re talking about- you know when you’re on FIRE about something? Usually about something that someone did or didn’t do, and you are coming in HOT, you do not care… you are holding nothing back… basically you’re losing your shit.
And often times, rightfully so!! I’m not saying you’re wrong for FEELING this way, we’re just questioning, is this realllllly how you want to approach it or react to it?
Lindsay says...
"I’ve become SO MUCH CALMER in the last few years- and I still have lots of opinions and I’m a strong woman… I just don’t let the little things bother me anymore and when I feel myself boiling up and about to completely lose it… I tell myself 3 words. Just like this…
Control your crazy.
And it’s just my way of telling myself…. You’re about to explode… and even if the person deserves that… is that the person you really want to be right now?
And I step back, and I take a beat. And it’s a GAME CHANGER. You can avoid so many arguments and also it’s a way for me to recalibrate when I’m off personally and about to take my issues out on somebody else.
It’s so simple it’s brilliant. And it makes your life so. much. easier. When you are able to control your crazy."
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about:
-Stop- don’t send the text or walk out of the room
-Think- who do I want to be right now? That sucked but I don’t have to
-You know how you can be in the right but end up in the wrong because you lose your shit? Ya, let’s avoid that.
-How she has failed at this in the past
Things to ask yourself?
-Does this affect me to my core?
-Will I remember this and care in a week or a month?
-Realize what you are upset about might not have anything to do with you. This is so often the case. Many times we think people are doing things because of us or to us and they aren’t. The driver may not have even seen you. Your teenager may lie just because he doesn’t want to be embarrassed.
-Realize YOU might be in a funky place and trying to put your issues on someone else or taking things out on them.
-And the answer isn’t always easy. Maybe a friend has done something so awful you are thinking about having a friend divorce. And that’s ok, but you don’t have to explode to get there.
There is so much POWER in controlling your crazy. We hope this podcast brings you lots of value and you come back to it when you’re feeling like you want to explode! Just remember… even if it’s totally valid… you’re always happier later when you control your crazy.
CHEERS TO THAT!!
How to be super fun, even though you’re also super responsible and have lots of things to take care of on the daily. Today, Lindsay’s friend Karli is coming on the podcast to chat about how to keep your relationship fun and to make it a priority even if you’re exhausted or on a tight budget or annoyed by your partner…
It is no easy task to switch from taking care of kids and trying to rock through your to-do list, and then move into the fun and carefree partner that just loves to laugh and relax. It’s not always easy and it doesn’t always come naturally… but it’s SO IMPORTANT.
Karli is awesome at this! Her and her husband have the most hilarious dynamics and they are so loving and hands on with their kids… but they also make sure they get in date nights- sometimes just the two of them and sometimes with friends- and also trips the same way.
Lindsay is so excited and found the perfect friend to to tackle this topic with her… so here we go! How To Be Awesome At Keeping Marriage Fun!
Here are the questions Lindsay asks Karli!
PLANNING
-Is it all calculated? How far out do you schedule?
-Where do you find ideas for fun dates?
-Date night ideas other than dinner?
-Out of the ordinary but budget friendly dating ideas - to date your spouse
-How to balance both of your ideas of fun? I like a million activities, he likes one!
-How to keep it fresh with a newborn on a tight budget?
CONNECTING
-What do you talk about when you’ve run out of things to talk about?
-How to separate kid life and to do lists and your relationship
HOW TO BE RESPONSIBLE & STILL FUN
-Tips on how to compartmentalize to switch into fun mode
-How not to be a stick in the mud. I worry about the kids safety and become a Debbie Downer.
How do you manage that?
FEELING SEXY
-How it keep it fresh and sexy when you have been married forever and he is annoying you
-"I’m often too tired, but I know it’s important to have sex often. How to keep it fun?”
BABIES & SITTERS
-How to do this best with babies and toddlers where time isn’t that easy
-How do you find people to watch the kids when you dont have family?
IN-LAWS
-Do your in-laws ever impact your marriage in a negative way? How to navigate that…
-How to manage expectations from in-laws when they expect access to your free/travel time
DAILY STUFF & EVERYTHING ELSE
-Daily things you can do!
-What to do when my partner says I put kids first
-Keeping the spark alive! We are exhausted with work and 3 kids.
-How did your relationship change after having kids?
-Tips for when you’re SO TIRED!
As we know, babies grow up to be big kids and big kids grow up to be young adults. Prioritizing your romantic relationship through the years is so important. Hope this episode helps you think about the best way to do this in your relationship.
CHEERS TO KEEPING MARRIAGE FUN!!
Welcome back to the How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast!
In this episode is our very first guest in our summer series- Lindsay’s friend Jenny. She literally radiates happiness. Like all of us, Jenny has real life sadness and struggles that happen but she manages it so incredibly, Lindsay is getting into her mindset behind it.
How do you stay happy and in a positive headspace when life is complicated or people suck or you’re dealing with sadness?
How do you stay happy when your kids are wild or not listening or your husband is complaining or you are dealing with conflict or with someone who isn’t reciprocating your kindness?
Even when faced with conflict or tough situations, Jenny is always in a good mindset. And her positivity is contagious. You can’t not smile and be happy when you’re around her because her happiness is so genuine and deep, it radiates. So, she’s the PERFECT PERSON for today’s podcast all about BEING HAPPY! Please welcome… Jenny Pelton.
Here are the questions that Lindsay asks Jenny!
-DAILY LIFE
How did you come to have the “be happy” mantra?
How do you stay positive when the weight of cooking and cleaning and kids seems like so much?
-OFF DAYS
Is there anything you do when you are off and not super positive or happy to get in a better state of mind?
Im very aware of other peoples energy -
Do you ever have days when you sort of stay to yourself and regroup?
-LIFE HARDSHIPS
Just a reminder that we all have life struggles and sadness… even if all of that is not shared publicly.
Do you have any tips for staying positive and happy, even when dealing with sad life moments that you’ve learned through the years?
-NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Question from IG:
How do you deal when your kindness is not reciprocated?
You are SO NICE- but you’re not that sort of nice to where you get pushed around. You’re strong and direct- but in the absolutely NICEST way possible. How do you balance this?
Any tips for dealing with conflict and coming out in a good headspace?
And how do you not let it phase you?
-HAVING FULLLLLL, HAPPY DAYS
How do you have happy and full days with the kids but also get your emails done and the house picked up and everyone fed?
You get it ALL DONE, and have great LIFE experiences everyday … and you are present and not stressed during it. Sometimes when I’m doing things I love with my kids… I’m not really actually IN IT because I have stuff to do at the same time… how do you get it done and have so many experiences too- and are fully present and happy during them??
CHEERS!!! TO BEING HAPPY!!!
Today we are talking PARTY THEMES! Lindsay is sharing what she thinks is the best way to go about brainstorming and choosing a party theme… and of course we are talking about ALL SORTS of themes - some traditional and some totally creative and unexpected.
Even for the most causal or smallest parties, a theme is the best way to give your event a feeling and a vibe… and it makes it so much fun to plan.
And one of our main goals in party planning is to make sure you are doing it in a way that allows you to enjoy (not dread) the process.
We’re talking about picking a theme that is perfect for you or the birthday boy or girl… at this age and stage… we’re covering adult parties and kid parties, birthdays and holidays. Every party is better with a theme… so that’s what we’re doing today!
The goal: Pick a theme that just feels RIGHT for this moment - this age and stage.
How far out: Far enough to plan, but not too far that it would change
Essential: Make sure you will love the process - that’s key! With the theme you choose!
The process:
Brain dump of the themes!
SO many theme ideas!
Colors/dress-up
White party (or any color)
Neon Party
People in uniform
Merry Birthday
50’s, 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, 90’s
Back to prom
Toga
Heros & Villains
Wild West/ Country
Zoo party
Semi- Traditional kids
All the kids ones - Princess party, superheros, lego, pirates and princesses, Disney characters, a particular kid movie like Toy Story, Frozen, Aladdin, etc.
Mermaid party/ Under the sea, glow in the dark, unicorn
Slumber party with tents, spa party, outdoor movie party, glamping
Non-traditional
Cloud 9 party
Flamingo Luau
Arabian Nights
Tea Party
Apres Ski theme
Food festival
Summer Camp
Themes that work for any age!
Fiesta
Luau
Beach party
Pool party
Rainbow
For non-birthday parties
School years eve party- before school starts - like NYE
Oscar party
Fun for adults
Masks & mimosas
Murder mystery
Beer/champagne/sake tasting
You can make any theme- even the most traditional - super authentic and perfect for your occasion.
Pick colors that are a bit different from what you would normally see with this theme and think outside the box!
Check out all the themed party pictures on our website at:
www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com
HAPPY PARTY PLANNING!!
Realizing the importance of self love is so important.
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing the most impactful concepts around self-love from her two favorite experts on the topic- Brene Brown and Oprah Winfrey.
We sometimes group self love with self confidence and while both important, they are also very different. And just because you have self confidence doesn’t always mean you have that real, deep self love.
The self love that we are talking about is waking up each day feeling worthy and knowing you are enough.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve recently made a mistake, or you don’t look exactly how you wish you looked… you are enough, exactly as you are in this moment.
Today’s podcast is all about the most important relationship you will ever have in your life… the one with yourself.
We’re talking about self-love and self-confidence and how it evolves as we get older. Why taking risks and being vulnerable is so important and why how we speak to ourselves is everything.
Here’s how Lindsay looks at it…
Let’s use our self-confidence as our power and our fearlessness and our inspiration to others…
And let’s use our self-love as our protection, your best friend, your GPS…
Combining these together and you really have the
BRENE BROWN thoughts:
Brene Brown talks about “enoughness.” I am enough- what I am doing is enough.
Courage means share your whole story with your whole heart.
Brene asks…
What is our struggle with believing we are enough?
The feeling that we have to be perfect…
No matter how much is done… I am enough … and I’m worthy of love and joy.
Engage with the world in a place of worthiness.
You just have to be willing to be vulnerable.
The number one casualty is of a scarcity culture? Vulnerability
We shut down - we are scared.
I’m not going to show you that I don’t have it all together.
This is the birthplace of everything we are hungry for.
There is no innovation or creativity without failure.
Let go of your armor
How is not talking about this serving you?
It’s no longer protecting you - it’s not allowing you to be seen and heard from others.
This is your mid-life slow brutal unraveling - this is where we thought everything that we thought protects us, prevents us from being the person that we want to be.
How do you talk to yourself? When you’re down on yourself…
How would you talk to your kids? Would you tell them you hate their body or they are so stupid?
Shame cannot survive being spoken
Being authentic is so important - saying what you really think. Not worrying what people think and
OPRAH WINFREY thoughts:
There are no mistakes - there are no wrong paths. Failure is just that “thing” trying to move you in another direction. The losses are to help you learn and push you in the right direction. You dont allow yourself to be thrown by a circumstance because your life is bigger than one experience.
What would you tell your younger self?
Relax, it will be ok.
Even if you are at a detour right now. That’s the cue that you need to go in another direction.
Take responsibility for your life - you have to be responsible for making it happen.
You are responsible for your life. If you are sittng around waiting for someone to help you, fix your or save you.. you are wasting your time. Only you are able to move your life forward.
It does not matter where you come from. It doesn’t matter what your parents did or didn’t do- what matters is your willingness to see this moment for what it is - accept it, take responsibility and move forward.
The way through the challenge - get still and ask yourself - what is the next right move? And the next right move? And not to be overwhelmed by it because you know life is bigger than this moment.
OVERALL thoughts:
You aren’t going to be kind to strangers on the team if you don’t really love ourself
You aren’t going to have positive energy if you don’t really love our insides
Self love- take time for yourself - your mind and your body
Do hard things daily - that’s how you build self respect
When you get up at 5am and increase your productivity - you grow your self respect
If each day, you do difficult things- and keep optimizing your ways- you build greater self respect
And you FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF
You consistency make and then keep self promises - that’s how you build self love.
Be alone sometimes - stop the constant stimulation - to recalibrate and center - we spend so much time in the frenzy- we can forget what we really love. We need to retreat sometimes. There is so much busy being busy - we must make the time to “go to the woods” and practice stillness. You remember who you truly are. You remember your priorities.
You will never rise any higher than the amount that you see yourself on the inside.
If you don't really feel like you deserve it- you don’t feel like you’re enough… you will reach a point where your mindset reaches a conflict…
Self sabotage comes from self love
You have to ignore this culture of comparison!!
Self love is such a big and important topic. And one that I think is worth focusing on. CHEERS TO THAT!
Two hacks to maximize your day right here!! First, move like you have somewhere to be… even if you don’t. Second, eat the frog- do the hardest, or most annoying, or thing you actually want to procrastinate on- first.
Simple but GOLD when it comes to getting the most out of your days.
In this episode, Lindsay breaks down these two awesome day maximizing hacks!
-Fill your day with things you like to do - get in your 10s!
-Do what gives you energy. Stop doing what makes you tired.
-Maybe you aren’t tired- maybe you just aren’t excited about what you’re doing.
-For things you must do - like pay bills etc, automate and delegate.
-Start the day by getting up and moving your body- no email or social- happy body and happy mind
-Carve out time for YOU- whatever that is
-EAT THE FROG! Decide what it is the night before. Layout steps if it has it. Biggest or most important task or the one that will move the needle on something.. or save you money or a headache later… it’s usually the thing we put last and don’t get to.
Do that first.
-HOW YOU MOVE! You know how you shower if you have somewhere to be? Not like you’re panicked and late- just like you move because you have somewhere to be at a certain time. Train yourself to move this way even when you’re not on a time schedule.
CHEERS to maximizing your day!!!
When it comes time to celebrate YOU, whether it’s your birthday or Mother’s Day or any other special time … nobody knows what you want more than YOU!
A lot of times it’s easy to get caught up in the thought that other people need to do it for us. And we're not saying that’s not great and you don’t deserve that, Lindsay's just putting it out there that you can actually plan your own celebration and still feel super loved and special. It’s empowering and it sets you up to feel fulfilled and not feel let down.
Often times we know what we want but we want other people to do it for us… or we don’t want to have to have one more thing to do so we want other people to do it for us… but I’m telling you… planning your own celebration is awesome and we’re going to figure out how you want to do it so it doesn’t take any of the magic out of it.
It’s just going to make it easy on you and easy on the people you love and you’ll have that moment you want.
A few ideas Lindsay talks about:
-Do it all yourself
-Do some of it yourself and tell other people some parts to help with (if they are asking)
-Don’t put more than what’s reasonable on other people (time or money)
-If someone wants to do it all, tell them- this is what I for sure want and this is what I for sure don’t want.
-Often times we think people should know us enough to know what we want. But it just doesn’t always work that way. Sometimes we need to spell it out.
-Plan it yourself! Brain dump- what do you love? What do you feel like? What would you wake up so excited to do? PLAN YOUR DAY! GET CREATIVE!
-What would your crew actually enjoy but usually say no to? (Think photo shoots and parasailing)
-Who to invite can be tricky- think of others and be upfront if you are limiting your group - do what makes you happy. In the end, people will understand and get it. You can’t always invite everyone.
-Walk yourself through the day or dinner or experience… think of details ahead of time for anything you want to prep for our your outfits etc.
-Overall most important is to be straightforward. "This is exactly what I want and I’m going to do it all"… or "this would mean a lot to me I would love if you would set this up like this.. “
-Don’t hold it over people’s heads- just make it what you want!
-Set yourself up for happiness, not disappointment.
Life is meant to be CELEBRATED!! Let’s make our celebrations special and exactly how we want them to be!
Our whole lives are guided by the state we are in.
It’s how we react to things that happen to us and it determines the decisions that we make.
Learning how to change your state, not fake, but to go from pissed off or frustrated and get back in your center is the greatest skillset.
Lindsay says… "I’ve decided… I’m going to live in an awesome state and when I’m not in an awesome state of mind… I hit pause and work on fixing it."
Moment to moment our life is controlled by our state. If you are angry you are doing to respond differently than if you are feeling fulfilled and encouraged and loved.
So today, we’re talking about just how important your frame of mind is- the attitude you have as you venture out into the world or talk to people or do things. It affects the outcome of your day and how you rub off on other people and eventually the course of your life.
This doesn’t mean you won’t feel bad. You just won’t let yourself sit there. It means you are committed to working yourself out of it, so you can live in a happy state.
Here are some points Lindsay touches on:
-To move out of that into happy and creative is everything. It's a critical skillset and what we are talking about today.
-In the long term, your world view is what determines your state.
What are the targets you are after? Everyone has different goals and desires.
-Tony Robbins says…
We all have the same needs… there are mostly the same problems.
Certainty- comfort and safety
Uncertainty - we need variety
Significance- to feel special
Love- feel loved
Growth
Contribution
-We all determine how much of each of these we need and which of these needs are the top 2 on your list- -because that determines your life.
-Lots of people put significance first - where it’s more important than love living in a social media world.
Certainly - lots of people just want certainty- everyone has to stay the same and not grow.
-Tony says- what’s driving you? Two people can be driven with significance and do it very differently.
-It’s an art to feel fulfilled. We are all different and it’s different for all of us.
-Our lives are determined by our decisions. And our state affects the decisions we make. The decisions we make control us- decisions what to do, what to give.
-Pain is another thing!
Suffering takes you out of a beautiful state. By focusing on something else. You can get out of it in an instant.
-Our brain is designed to help us survive not to make us happy. We are worrying about what other people think.
-Life is short - but if you only had a week to live- I bet you wouldn’t let yourself suffer about things that don’t matter. You would take in all the moments- smell the air.
Why not just decide- I won’t suffer.
You can end that- and say… I’ve made the decision to live in an awesome state.
-Someone will get sick, you will lose a family member, you could get divorced, nobody knows what will really happen in life.
-You can decide what happens in life, you will have a great time.
-Human beings think the outside world determines how we feel… but if someone else has to behave a certain way for you to be happy, you’ll never be happy! Your spouse, your boss, etc.
-You treat people SO MUCH BETTER when you’re feeling loving and happy than when you’re feeling sorry for yourself and overwhelmed and frustrated.
-You’re going to be a better parent, person, lover, business person.
-You instantly change when you decide you are going to live in this state.
-Doesn’t mean you won’t feel bad. You just won’t let yourself sit there. It means you are committed to working yourself out of it, so you can live in a happy state.
Because that’s what it’s all about!! Go out and have awesome days and treat people well and live a life you love!
In this episode we’re talking PARTIES!! And party prep and specifically what to do the day before your event to make sure it runs smoothly. I’m sharing all the hacks I’ve learned for working your buns off ahead of time and getting organized and communicating with everyone else involved… so by the time the party starts… you aren’t worried about anything and you and your guests are having the best time ever!
Lindsay talks about how she’s made all the mistakes when it comes to party planning and she's spent more parties than she'd like to admit, running around trying to solve problems or she’s been running late for the set-up and guests are arriving.
Today, we are making sure you avoid alllll that and plan out your parties ahead of time so they are smooth and fantastic and create the best experiences and memories with your family and friends.
Most important:
MENTALLY walk yourself through the next day. Make a big list and execute and communicate on it!
Here are some of the topics Lindsay discusses:
-Timelines and layouts of your event are key!
-Helpers are key- especially day before and day of the event.
-Have specific people helping with pick-up during the event and anything that needs checking or updating.
-Make your photography list
-Make your vendor contact list
Things you MUST do the day before:
-Confirm with all vendors - on the phone or email and run through all details
-Have a layout of where things will go and tell vendors or helpers ahead of time
-Walk through the entire event with your helper
-Do everything except for fresh food ahead of time - dessert table is final thing!
(You might have to rent your space for longer if you’re doing a rental)
-Make sure everyone is paid! (So you aren’t paying on site)
-Walk through the timing of the party
-Make sure lighting and weather are good and looking good (do you need last minute umbrellas?)
-Make sure you have all the things people could ask for! (Bottles of water, SPF, extra toilet paper in bathroom, everything!)
-Pull out candles and lighter (so you aren’t looking for them.
That’s it! Your day before party guide for having awesome parties!!
How To Be Awesome At Caring Less About Shit That Doesn’t Matter
THIS is your pep talk for when you are caring too much about things don’t really matter, or things from the past that you can’t change, or anything else that consumes your minutes and keeps you up and night that you must let go.
Before we get into, if cussing bugs you, this is not the podcast episode for you. But if you don’t mind it, and understand it’s absolutely essential in getting this message across, stick with us. We’re talking about how to train ourselves to use one of my favorite tools when things irritate us… inhale the good shit and exhale the bad shit. It really works.
We’re talking about one of Lindsays's favorite books by Mark Manson, The Simple Art Of Not Giving A Fuck and how we must realize that anything we give our time and attention to is something else that we don’t have time for. And that something else is stuff that makes you HAPPY and feel live and grow and learn and adventure… all the good stuff.
So, grab all your mental baggage and come with Lindsay on this podcast episode all about letting it go.
Here are some key points that Lindsay talks about:
-Your past does not determine what your future will be like and it’s not who you are!
-Forgive yourself and other people and move on.
-Shake off the daily little stuff that’s irritating.
-Stop blaming - there is so much power in thinking it’s all your fault.
-Think about your fucks like coins in your purse. You only have so many to give.
-What do you really care about?? If it doesn’t fall under that, LET IT GO.
-We need some sort of struggle in our life- the key is finding the good struggles that feel important to you. That’s where meaning comes from and that’s what we all need.
CHOOSE YOUR PROBLEMS.
-If you feel stuck, it’s because you feel like you don’t have the power to solve it. But you always have the power to do something and create the meaning.
-First, change perspective about it, and know you can solve it.
It’s not about eliminating all problems, it’s about finding what is worthwhile to you.
-Inhale the good shit and exhale the bad shit. It really works.
Greek philosopher said:
A man who thinks he knows everything learns nothing.
If you think you know everything that’s true in life and about your life… you’ll never grow and learn and be open to adventures.
Think… I know what I know today but I know that all that could change tomorrow.
It’s liberating to constantly question.
The high school pimple story! Often what we relive over and over is stuff that nobody else is thinking about… they are worrying about themselves!!
And here’s the thing- if you’re out there doing things, you will not appeal to everyone. Doing anything BOLDLY can make you polarizing. But that can’t stop you.
When you’re 99 and looking back- you won’t be thinking about those people. Haters gonna hate. No matter what you do- unless you sit at home and do nothing. And then you’d have judgment for that too.
-You can't do anything great - or strive for anything great - without escaping the judgment of others. And you’ll turn some people off- and that’s the point. You can’t be liked by everyone. You can’t be afraid of someone telling you that you’re dumb or lame.
Giving too many fucks can kill you mentally.
Lindsay did a podcast about LESS and I love that and I think it goes with this.
Lindsay is working on making her life more simple, and with that is, letting go!!! Letting go of stuff and letting go of thoughts.
Know what’s important to you and exercise your mental strength.
And if something pisses you off- stop reading it, stop listening to it. You have more control than you think!
You choose what you consume!
Let go of anything that doesn’t matter. That’s it.
How To Be Awesome At Maximizing Your Party Budget!
Celebrations, especially kids celebrations, are so much fun… and they can also be so expensive.
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing all the things she's learned about how to choose where to spend the money for the greatest impact.
She's sharing the process she goes through in planning and how she decides what to do herself, what to hire someone else do, what to buy and what to rent.
It’s amazing how much you can stretch your dollars if you plan ahead of time and do it strategically.
We’re talking about how to get creative with a part of your party when it’s just getting too expensive.
Today we are talking about party budgets and throwing really special events that don’t cost nearly as much as they look like they do!
First, we brain dump and get allll our inspiration and ideas together and approximately how much each will cost. Then we eliminate what we don’t need or could do ourselves and focus what’s most important to you and what will be the most special to your little birthday boy or girl.
Lindsay says…
Full disclosure! I spend my money on kids parties and organic food!
For me, at this stage in my life, I prefer to send money on moments and experiences with our family and friends… then on more stuff. I don’t need more stuff, my kids don’t need more stuff… so I go really light on gifts and spend more on parties and activities at the parties that the kids can help me play and set-up and look forward to doing with their friends, and laugh about it later.
Like on this last party I did- there was not a single food vendor - I made a big table of food- like a massive cheese board and ordered local pizza, made hot dogs and popcorn myself so there wasn’t much spent on food, but everyone had plenty of yummy food to eat- but you wouldn’t notice that there wasn’t an elaborate food plan.
Here are some tips Lindsay talks about:
-Braindump! Write it alllll down.. start HUGE like your Kim K. Then eliminate and you’re left with is most important to you.
-Make your guest list - number of people directly affects the budget you need
-Pull out the things that you have that you could use, before you buy more.
-Set a range of a budget
-Space out your spending - buy parts of it 2 months ahead of time so it’s not all at once
-Make what you can from your list
-Buy the things you will use over and over again
-Rent the things you won’t
-Have a signature drink- makes it easy
-Decide what’s worth it to you
Like an invitation with a costume
-If things get too pricey- ditch it and come up with a new plan
Like wrapping the walls of your house with wrapping paper
Here are a few Orange County vendors that Lindsay mentions:
Caricatures
cartoonslinger@gmail.com
Enchanted Characters
enchantedcharacters@gmail.com
Create A Party table rentals in Brea
cristina@createaparty.com
Ball Pit
henry@meshkids.co
Photo Booth
info@capturephotobooths.com
Photographer - Greg Loza
info@belleamiestudios.com
HAPPY PARTY PLANNING!!
We all have so many awesome ideas. But most of them, we never do anything about! This comes down to two things… remembering them and taking action on them.
So today, we’re talking allllll about your great ideas. Those little ideas that solve a problem in your life or make things easier, or those bigger ideas that create something new or start a business or in some way change the course of your life. Maybe it’s an idea for a small change that can help something you’ve been struggling with or some cool adventure you’d just love to do at some point.
We’re talking how to get them all in one place and then… decide which you really want to do and how to actually executing on them.
Today, we’re talking about taking your ideas and making them happen!
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about:
-Keep an ideas book with you allll the time!
-Brain dumb in there- allll ideas go in!
-If it’s something you know you want to do… take one small step immediately.
-Say your ideas out loud! Run them by friends/family!
-Lindsay likes paper rather than notes on phone - but whatever works for you!!
Here are some links to idea books to get you going!!
https://amzn.to/3wHEJyK
Now go write down your ideas then make them happen!
Let’s talk about taking your kids out to dinner!
In this episode Lindsay is giving you lots of ideas of how to make it not only bearable to take your kids out to eat with you, but actually super enjoyable.
We’re talking about what to do ahead of time and what to bring, what to plan for and how to not lose it if shit hits the fan!
It’s so important to take your kids out to dinner… so they get used to it and they are good at doing it. And it’s great family time that you should not miss because you think it might be too hard to take your kids out with you.
We’re talking about a dining out experience where you enjoy it and your kids do too.
Here are some of the ideas Lindsay talks about:
-Choose the right place - especially to start
-Talk to them about it ahead of time
-Don’t take tired kids out - plan ahead if you can
-Bring things to keep them busy!
-Bring snacks!
-Then bring tech to keep them busy!
-Order pretty quickly - just in case - let’s not push it
-Respect other people dining
-Talk to them, engage, be creative- no need to live on the defensive
-Stay calm if shit hits the fan
-KEEP DOING IT!!
To see the blog that goes with this podcast, click here:
https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/blogs/how-to-be-awesome-podcast/the-most-awesome-restaurant-activities-for-kids
Bad days.
We all have them… today we are talking about how to get through them… in them in the best way possible.
We’re talking about how important our thoughts are and even more importantly, the words that come out of our mouth. How often are you labeling a day as bad, when it really was one bad thing, that in the big picture isn’t that big of a deal?
In this episode, we’re talking about strategies that you can use on bad days, and how to flip it, when it’s not actually a bad day.
It’s all about your perspective.
We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we interpret it and how we label it.
So if we are very intentional about protecting our happy headspace and how we interpret and label things, we will shake off so many more bad days, and have so many more awesome days.
Here are a few key points from this podcast:
-Lindsay says…
"Here’s the deal… I’ve done a lot of reading over the years to train myself to be in control of how I feel.
There’s always problems. I take it all on as my fault. There are hard parts of everyday, but I’m making other parts of my life hard on purpose, in the best way, so that I’m tough and durable and can handle those hard things as they come. I’m able to shake off more bad days because I’m mentally and physically tough. It doesn’t always work the way I’d like, but a lot of times it does. Because I train and I’m ready for it, just like a race."
-There is a concept in psychology called "learned hopelessness.”
This concept is used to explain certain aspects of depression and anxiety and I think often times what can lead us to saying we’re having a bad day.
Basically if you’re taught at a young age that you are helpless in the face of struggles or the world’s forces, you will continue to view things that happen to you with a perception of lack of control, and then actually become helpless, no matter the context or if things change or if you really do have control.
-Shitty things happen to us, but we have to think, has someone else gotten through this and come out ok… then we can too.
-We have to realize that we are in control of so much more than we think. And it’s important to take on accountability and blame because it’s so freeing, you control almost everything!
-Take care of your body!! Nutrition, exercise and sleep!! You are so much more durable when bad things happen if you are giving your body what it needs.
-Stress affects every part of our body- so we have to fight to keep it as low as possible.
Stress affects your hormones, your muscles, your breathing and your blood pressure.
-Pay attention to your stress so you can fix it and sleep well at night.
-Sometimes you just need to sleep it off!! Don’t try to solve your problems in a day- especially when you’re emotional/exhausted from it. You are a better problem solver and better able to cope with stress when you’re well-rested. Plus, things won’t seem like such a big deal as time goes on.
-Get in your 10s on the regular- so you are operating HAPPY.
-Don’t judge yourself for days when you weren’t your best.
-I don't have a lot of bad days because I don’t acknowledge bad days.
I believe in FEELING ALL THE FEELINGS! I’m not talking about suppressing- totally the opposite!!
I’m talking about having perspective about it.
-If the people I love are healthy and I didn’t get a call that one of them is sick or injured, it’s a good day.
-Having an issue in my business or losing a big opportunity SUCKS and it stings, but it doesn’t ruin my day. It’s a bummer… but I’m not VERBALIZING it and labeling it.
-We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we interpret it and how we label it.
So if we are very intentional about protecting our happy headspace and how we interpret and label things, we will shake off so many more bad days, and have so many more awesome days.
Thanks for listening!! Have an AWESOME DAY!!
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Let’s talk about something fun… vacation!! And vacation planning!
Planning a vacation can be like a full-time job in a way, a fun job, but still a job. The goal of this podcast episode is to make it easy and FUN to plan activities while on vacation.
Lindsay is LOTS of tips for how to get the inside scoop on what to expect and how to best prepare for each activity and how to fill your days based on your goal of the vacation.
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about!
-What’s the main vacation goal? Relax, adventure, a bit of both?
-Have an idea of your budget
-Make a big brainstorm list of all the options
Activities at hotel (like kids club, pool cabanas, beach cabanas, etc) and outside of hotel (zip lining, whale watching, hiking tour, etc)
-Ask everyone going what sounds fun
-Show them YouTube videos of where you’re going to get them excited and to help decide what looks like the most fun for them
-Look at reviews
-Call concierge for help
-Ask about private options vs. budget options
-Get a calendar out and plan out the days
-Know the cancellations
-Book dinners ahead of time
-Make sure to look up logistics like travel time between each place
-Call each place directly and ask what the experience will be like and what could be helpful to have with you.
-Ship a box ahead of time if it will help!
-Check or ask for last minute deals
-Search locations on social media to see what the experience looks like from peoples posts and if anyone posts tips! Same with YouTube… see what info is out there!
-Plan, plan, plan… then be so flexible for changes!
HAPPY VACATION PLANNING!!
This episode is all about approaching your goals with a “leave it all out on the field" mentality. Whatever it is you want to do in life, right now, in short term or in the long term… this is how Lindsay is trying to train herself to approach it. Get out there, try your hardest and leave it all out on the field.
Keep going one foot in front of the other until we cant go anymore. And either we are victorious OR we have exhausted all options and it just didn’t work. Either one of those are acceptable. It simplifies things and it takes the pressure off! You just have to try your hardest- leave it all out there! And it’s either going to work or you can look at yourself in the mirror and say, listen it didn’t work this time, and that’s ok! Here are a few topics that Lindsay talks about: -Defining “leave it all on the field.” Hold nothing back, put it all on the line. Don’t end the game feeling like you could have given more. Don’t leave feeling like you played it safe when you had the opportunity for something greater. -Everyday we have a choice… You can spend each day feeling exhausted - in the best way- knowing that you gave everything. Or you can hesitate, hold back, second guess and get in your own way of what you have to give. Path 1- The first path is where you go for it!! You let your heart guide you. You’re creative and curious and free. You enjoy the process not just the destination.
Path 2- The second path is filled with second-guessing, what-ifs, comparing yourself, setting up boundaries that don’t exist and seeking approval from others. You have anxiety and nervousness and indecisiveness.
The Difference: One way leads you to feeling thoroughly used up, knowing that you gave everything and held nothing back. Like at the end of a good run, you’re tired, yet energized.
The other way leaves you with a feeling of stress, sort of held back and frustrated and unsatisfied.
-It’s all about the burning desire to want to give all that you have to everything you do. Every interaction, every acton. Even the smallest things can be done with great love. -We won’t be perfect. There will be days where we stumble and lose our way.
Sometimes you will make little things a bit deal or forget what’s really important to you. You will get distracted and go off in the wrong direction. But then you will remember to retrace your steps and take notice.
And you’ll wake up again the next day and give everything you’ve got to whatever you’re doing. Hold nothing back. End each day knowing you left it all out on the field.
That’s the way I want to end each day. Because it feels awesome.
Lindsay does lots of podcasts on constantly working to maintain a positive headspace and be mindful of the words that you say, and getting in your 10s each day...(those things that make you OH SO happy) because she really believes that the thoughts you think and the words you say create the environment that you live in. And the environment in your head of what you’re becoming.
So today, we’re talking about living in your own bubble - in the best way - where you make sure to take the time to do those things that make you happy and make sure you are getting what you need so you aren’t resentful when different situations come up in your life. She's talking about setting yourself up to be happy and have good days- rather than relying a ton on other people to get you there.
And a part of this is being able to resist the urge to slip to the other side when negativity comes your way.
We’re having a very positive and empowering talk about so many things she's learned about making yourself happy.
Here are some things that Lindsay talks about in this episode:
-GET in your 10s each day!
-Set-up your own special days
-TELL your loved ones what you want/need
-Manage your expectations of others
-Make sure you are happy in what you are doing daily- so when life complications come up- you aren’t resentful!
-RESIST listening to negativity, repeating it or letting it sink in! Don’t give it energy!! Energy flows where attention goes!!
-Create your own struggles so the struggles that life throws your way doesn't knock you down
-This doesn’t mean you can’t rely on others- but it’s so empowering to really control your own happiness!
CHEERS!! To AWESOME, HAPPY DAYS ahead!!
After 412 days of being closed, Disneyland is open again… and it’s AWESOME! Beyond awesome! Lindsay went on opening day and it was the best time she's had at Disneyland. Capacity is so low and the Disney staff really nailed the reopening. She's sharing everything she learned from their trip plus info and tips from talking to people that work at Disney.
What to bring, what to plan for ahead of time, how to use the Disneyland app to really make your day go smoothly, what it’s like with masks and why she thinks this is a once-in-a-lifetime Disney experience and you should go as soon as you can. We are talking about How To Be Awesome At Doing Disneyland Post-Covid today!!
Here are some of the topics Lindsay covers:
-Booking reservations online- pick your day and put in your names!
-What it’s like wearing masks - know you have to play by their rules.
-Pack LOTS of waters! (And snacks)
-Ordering food on the mobile app
-Parking and walking (trams closed)
-Bring a stroller!!
-Plan to stay alllllll day
-Ride lines and wait times
-Use the app to see ride wait times
-Measure your kids ahead of time so you know what rides they can go on
-Know your MUST ride rides ahead of time
-Bring SPF and hats!!
-Look at the food options ahead of time
-Aside from the short wait times, why it’s extra magical right now!!
Here’s the link to book:
https://disneyland.disney.go.com
HAPPY DISNEY DAY!!!
In this bonus podcast, Lindsay is sharing this travel guide for an awesome family vacation to Maui!
Where to stay, where to eat, what to book ahead of time, how to balance activities with downtime… all of it!
Here are some of the
--Where to eat
The most awesome restaurants! & making reservations
Mama’s Fish House
Merriman’s in Kapalua
Spago at Four Seasons
Ko Restaurant
Humble Market Kitchen
Sansei Sushi
Monkeypod Kitchen
Beach shack at the Marriott
In Lahaina- must go to Cheeseburgers in Paradise
Or in town - best ever yummy local fish stands!
While you’re there- do the pearls and henna tattoos!
--Luaus!
--Where to stay
For kids! Grand Wailea!
For 5 star - Montage at Kapalua!
--Activities to plan
Pool cabanas
Trilogy boat ride
Kayak / snorkel
Zip Lining
Road to Hana
Waterfalls
Whale watching
--Sunscreen tips!
--Or split up your trip and stay somewhere else - Montage Kapalua is amazing!
--Rental car or no?
--Covid updates! Covid test prior, wristband to get in, quarantine questions and masks.
--Childcare or no?
--Time change & how to deal
--Flight with kids & how to deal
--What to send in a box ahead of time
That’s it!! All the most awesome things to do in Maui!!
ALOHA!!
How To Be Awesome At Airplane Travel With Kids!
There is no need to dread flying with your kids!
We are going to get you super prepared for the expected and the unexpected… what to pack and how not to overpack… how to keep them busy and how to prep food so you aren’t relying on any airport or airplane food.
- MANY. TIPS. coming your way in this one from my many years of flying with kids and making all the mistakes then figuring it out!
We’re talking about how to prep and plan and how to go into it, the day of.
Flying with kids can be fun and something you actually look forward to, not dread.
Today is all about how to fly with kids… and be awesome at it!
Here are some of the main points Lindsay covers:
-Prepping!
Talk to your kids about it
Plan a good time to fly - avoid multiple flights if you can
Pack really organized so you know where things are - don’t overstuff it!
Pack just what you need for the flight in your carry on bags
Bring activities NEW toys & books & coloring etc
Bring snacks
Bring iPad with headphones
Bring treats & gum
Bring something to keep them cozy- blanket etc- if you think they could sleep!
Picture yourself boarding and flying and think of what you could want
Pack full meals for everyone (don’t rely on food at the airport or on the airplane)
Make sure our passport isn’t expired!
Car seats and strollers and slings
Pack a change of clothes just in case- or for when you arrive if room isn’t ready.
Get plenty of sleep the night before.
Mentally prep yourself - be well rested and expect problems.
-Day of!
Check-in online!
Allow plenty of time - last thing you need is a rushed and stressed departure.
Put watches on older kids with tracking
Ask about upgrades!
Take advantage of early boarding
Have kids carry their own bags if they can
Understand that they are kids and it will be fine!
Give kids a camera!
Travel journal for older kids (to give a screen break)
Trade off if you have a partner (or plan to take it all on yourself)
This is a good time for bribery and treats!!
Traveling with kids can be FUN and you can actually enjoy the process, not just hurry to the destination!
Happy flying!
How to be awesome at not leaving crumbs. Today’s podcast is all about making good decisions everyday. Lindsay heard this in a graduation ceremony speech that Matthew McConaughey gave and it instantly stuck with her.
A crumb is anything that is residual from a decision that you’ve made… that keeps you up at night or stresses you out. It could be things like telling someone a little white lie and having to remember to keep it going… or getting into serious debt to live a certain lifestyle then or gossiping about someone and then worrying that they will find out. Things that keep you looking over your shoulder or add a level of stress to your life.
Here’s the hack! When making decisions, choose what will not leave crumbs in your life.
Today we are talking about this very practical way to keep yourself making the best decisions you can each day.
Here are some things Lindsay talks about:
-Crumbs are the choices that we make that make us have to look over our shoulder in the future.”
-The guy you didn't pay back and now he’s sitting 3 rows behind you in the movie theater.
-You drank too much last night and you’re too hungover to drive your
-They come in the form of regret and stress later on!!
-They cause you to lose sleep!
-Leave you with uneasy feelings.
-Create more outcomes that pay us back- keep your fire lit- turn your fire on.
Here are a few examples that Lindsay talks about:
-Procrastinate on something
-Treat someone badly
-Gossip about someone - then they don’t respond to your text and you think they are mad at you… it’s a residual from a choice you made.
-Being unfaithful in your relationship on vacation - maybe you think it will never come back- but it will always be in the back of your mind if it does.
-Study for your test so you aren’t cramming the night before
-Pay your debts on time
-Don’t tell the little white lies
-Pay your taxes the right way
-Don’t drink too much
-Don’t cheat on your exams
-Stealing at your job or from someone
-Taking on big debt for things you don’t need
-Paying to get your kids into college!!
This podcast is about habits. Lindsay is obsessed with reading about what makes us do things over and over.
We’re talking about things that you might consider good habits and bad habits. Things that propel you towards happiness and productivity and other things that you are trying.
Lindsay says she's so into this because what she's really seen in her life is that success is the product of your daily habits- more than your big goals or your motivation or some life transformation moment.
Bottom line, if you want to get better results… setting up a new system will give you a better outcome, than goal setting.
So today, we are going to talk about how to do more of this with one easy hack. We’re making it easy to do more of what you want to and make it harder to do things you don’t want to do!
The topic of habits is a big one - it’s really what we do all day.
So we have many podcasts coming on this topic. Lindsay talks about how it's fascinating and honestly it’s life changing.
You know she loves a hack!! Break it down for me, make it practical and easy to add into my daily life.
Here are of how you can use this in your life:
-Put out tee-ball supplies if you want to practice with your little one more
-Lay out your vitamins
-Have your water pre-made and out
-Put out your juicer or your healthy breakfast making ingredients
-Charge your phone in the bathroom, not next to your bed if you want to scroll less at night
Lindsay talks about how motivation is overrated!! Our environment often affects us more.
Make cues of good habits obvious in your environment!
Here’s why….
-When you’re busy it reminds you
-It’s harder to forget or avoid when it’s in front of you
-It’s hard to remember all the things!!
Here’s how…
-Make it simple!
-Make it obvious!
Lindsay talks about the Law Of Least Effort. It says that we will gravitate towards the option that requires the least amount of work. Even if we are a hard worker!
So… make it easy!! Prime your environment to make future actions easier!
CHEERS! To building new good habits and breaking bad habits by changing up your environment so it supports what you want more or less of in your life!
Today we are talking about one of my favorite ways to get in lots of great veggies and fruits and vitamins and minerals and live enzymes and phytonutrients. We’re talking about smoothies. A fast food that you can pack with so many great ingredients and make it super delicious at the same time.
Lindsay did a full deep dive in researching the very BEST ingredients to put in a smoothie and which we think might be good, but we should actually limit or avoid completely.
We’re talking about the best non-dairy milk alternatives that don’t have any gums or additives in them and the cleanest collagen, protein and bone broth powders too.
We’re taking about nut butters and all the seeds- chia seeds, hemp seeds and flax seeds and why you should have all of them in your pantry.
So, it’s all packed in here. What Lindsay has gathered from researching lots of nutritionists findings on everything healthy smoothie related.
Smoothies are a such a great way to get in your veggies and fruits! Think of it mostly as a “green smoothie” with as many veggies as you can.
In this episode we are talking about how to incorporate the most nutrient-dense ingredients into your smoothies.
The best fruits to add:
Banana
Frozen berries
For a bit more sweetness- mango & pineapple
The best veggies to add:
ALL of them… especially spinach!
Best ways to thicken it up:
Almond butter
Peanut butter
Avocado
Organic chickpeas
Frozen cauliflower
Frozen zucchini
Non-dairy CLEAN milks:
most have gums and other gross additives
These are the yummies and cleanest
MALK Unsweetened Organic Almond Milk or Cashew Milk
Thrive Market Organic Oat Beverage or Almond Beverage
Oatly Oatmilk Lowfat Chilled
Three Trees Organic Unsweetened Almond Milk
New Barn Unsweetened Almond Milk
Natural Value Coconut Milk
Whole Foods 365 Organic Unsweetened Almond Milk
Simple Truth Organic Unsweetened Almond Milk
Califia Farms Organic Almond Homestyle Nutmilk
The best natural sweeteners:
Dates
Gogi berries
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Mulberries
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To make it interesting:
Cocoa nibs
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Cinnamon
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Cocao powder
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Seeds:
Hemp Seeds
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Chia Seeds
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Flax Seeds
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Favorite powders:
Chocolate Collagen Peptides
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Chocolate Bone Broth Protein:
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Vanilla Bone Broth Protein:
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So many ideas for making really filling and delicious and nutrient filled smoothies in this one. Hope you enjoy!
HAPPY SMOOTHIE MAKING!!
This episode is all about not living a distracted life.
Doing things with intention and powering through difficult or uncomfortable tasks, rather than putting them off or getting sidetracked.
We are facing more distractions than EVER today so Lindsay is getting to the root of what distractions really are and how we can actually avoid distractions in our lives so we can move forward on things that matter to us and send less time jumping around from thing to thing.
Lindsay talks about how she wanted to learn about our relationships and how distractions pay into them and how they affect them. She admits that this is a work in progress for her, not something that she has mastered.
But that’s the point, recognizing what you’re currently doing that you want to change, learning from experts about the best ways to do it, then putting an action plan together to make it happen.
Lindsay is sharing all that she's learned about focusing on what’s important, having self control to avoid distractions, and how to be happier as a result. How to be awesome at not living a distracted life.
Here are some key points from this podcast:
We are living in the greatest information time ever. We can find things online- so we have less excuses to say “I didn’t know how.”
Getting ahead with your goals and dreams is not just about making progress towards them and putting your head down and girding hard, it’s also about avoiding distractions.
Lindsay talks about podcasts she’s done about having a healthy relationship with social media and your phone.. but this takes it a step further.
Whatever it is that you say is important to you in your life- how do you make sure you do those things?
Ok so let’s define it.
What is distraction?
The opposite of distraction is traction.
Traction is any action that pulls you towards what you want - something with intent.
Distraction is any action that pulls you away from what you want - often without intent.
This is freeing because it allows you to do what you want to do!!
Let’s talk about hobbies and your free time. If you want to play video games or binge watch Netflix, do that! There’s nothing wrong with that. Do it in your free time, WITH INTENTION.
Here is what tech does:
It makes us slaves to the “urgent” at the sacrifice of the important when we do this.
2 types of triggers!
External trigger- anything in your environment that distracts you- its not always bad.
An alarm on your phone could remind you to go to the gym.
But a notification could also interrupt quality time.
Thats moving you towards distraction.
Internal trigger- most distraction starts here.
The root cause of why we get distracted is because we are trying to avoid discomfort.
That's the main reason we do most things. You eat when you are hungry, you stop when you are full. You put a jacket on when you are cold, you take it off when you are inside and too hot.
When you are feeling lonely, you check IG.
When you are doing something hard thats tedious, you check the news or the sports scores.
We have to deal with this fact- we are trying to escape something uncomfortable.
If we don’t understand this, we will always be distracted:
And learn new methods to cope with it! This is essential for change.
We are so uncomfortable doing nothing, we need some kind of sensation.
It’s good to get bored!! This makes us get up and get out and learn new things or discover something new or start a business… that desire for more.
I think the answer is to figure out how to push towards traction not distraction.
If the brain feels discomfort, and wants to avoid it, it forms a habit around this.
We have 2 choices:
We either fix the discomfort or create tactics that we can use for things we can’t solve.
One thing that doesn’t work is strict removal of the thing completely. For many behaviors this totally backfires. You know when you do a super super restricted diet, then you end up over indulging the other direction? You’re releaving the discomfort.
It’s all about SELF CONTROL. And that’s hard!
So here’s the hack- give it 10 minutes. Psychologists call it “surfing the urge.” Emotions are like waves… so you can surf the urges. Make yourself just wait 10 minutes. Lindsay talks about doing this when she's going to over eat at night. Try not to give into the initial urge but give it a beat.
So for 10 minutes, feel the sensation, don’t judge yourself, try to get back to the task at hand. Don’t check your email instead of writing that blog post, just keep powering through for 10 minutes and see how you feel. Just that act of self control will help so much.
You don’t have to answer that email or text right away. Because in doing so, you can lose focus all day.
Put your phone on silent or put it away if you can. Or just be able to have it around but not give into the reply of it.
It’s great to let your mind wander!
We wrap up talking about how you can have more meaningful and deep relationships without all the distractions.
Let Lindsay know what you thought about this episode and how you are going to live a less distracted life! Ping her on IG @LindsaysCloud.
Thanks for listening!
Today, we’re talking about the worst of the worst additives in foods in this episode!
Lindsay took a deep dive and I’m bringing to you today a full list of ingredients that I think you should avoid eating and why you should avoid each one and what foods they are commonly found in.
She went to the experts on this one to really form a complete list- and a list that you can remember! This is not a massive list of every possible additive because that wouldn’t be effective- you would never remember it all. These are ingredients we see all the time, but we probably aren’t sure if they are harmful to us, or how much so, and why.
Here is the list of additives that Lindsay talks about and why to avoid them: Colorings- Blue 1, Red 3, Red 40, Yellow 5 and Yellow 5
Oils- Canola Oil, Corn Oil, Cottonseed Oil, Soybean Oil
All the others!
Artificial flavors
Artificial sweeteners
Aspartame
Carmel Color
Carrageenan
Cellulose
Citric Acid
Corn Syrup
Dextrose
Enriched flour & bleached flour
Erythritol
Gums! (Gellan, Locust Bean & Gar)
High fructose corn syrup
Fructose or fructose syrup
MSG
Natural flavors
Partially hydrogenated oils (artificial trans fats)
Sucralose
Stevia extract
Tapioca starch
Titanium dioxide
Vanillin
Lindsay breaks down what these ingredients really are and which we should completely avoid and which we should just watch out for and why.
We’re talking about learning how to read an ingredient label and actually know what it means and know what is in the foods you are eating.
Knowledge is power- especially when it comes to food! We have to be informed to make our own decisions about what we want to eat and what we want to feed our families.
The FDA is behind on lots of things that studies show should be banned, so we must take it upon ourselves to know what additives are in our food and how they could affect our bodies.
CHEERS! To eating food that makes us feel awesome!!
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing a personal story that took her actual life perspective and shook it up a bit.
Your perspective on life determines how you relate to people, how you handle relationships and conflicts, and how you live day-to-day.
It’s the most important.
But then why are we often walking around with a perspective that doesn’t make sense.
Picture something that you’re upset about or you’re losing sleep over.
Now picture - the worst- you get a call that someone you love was hit by a bus. That shit means nothing now.
Lindsay says, "if someone asks me how I’m doing these days, even if shit is going bonkers all around me, I say I’m doing awesome, because I didn’t get a call today that one of people closest to me is sick or hurt."
She explains that she’s not saying if it’s not cancer it’s not allowed to stress you out, she's just trying to share the perspective shake up that she experienced.
Lindsay tells the story of her visit to City Of Hope and how it changed her perspective on what is worth worrying about.
Lindsay talks often about The Subtle Art of Not Giving an F all the time- but this is a bit different.
This is about having a clear perspective of what’s worth getting upset/sad/worked up/depressed over, and letting go of the rest of it.
Sometimes things matter, until something that really matters happen.
Care about nothing except for the health of the people you love the most.
You know who says all of this best? Gary V.
Say you’re being sued and that’s super stressing or you run a business and you worry that your employees hate you, or you’re holding on to something that a former friend or spouse did to you, or are worried about losing an account at work, or mad that someone stepped on your toes in some way, or someone gossiped about you and it came back to you…
That’s way better than someone you love being hit by a bus tomorrow.
But we don’t act like that.
It’s hard to get upset about anything else besides that.
That’s what’s worth being upset about and everything else is awesome.
Lindsay says, "I’m not saying you can’t be upset about these things, I'm just asking you to think… is it worth it???"
Your perspective determines so much in your life. Lindsay thinks it’s worth looking at together.
Is there someone in your life that you are extra grateful for at this moment? It could be a friend or your spouse or a teacher or a doctor or maybe someone was just extra kind lately or maybe you have someone in your life that really means a lot to you that you feel like doing something special for…
Well, this podcast is all about giving a spontaneous gratitude gift for someone or a few people that you are extra grateful for.
We usually think about gifts and making people feel appreciated in December during the holiday season.
Lindsay talks about how she absolutely LOVES a sort of out-of-the-blue, spring style, gratitude gift. It’s a fun time to do it with the transition of seasons and there are just so many ideas of things you can give.
We’re talking about things you can make or buy, some simple and inexpensive and others are more elaborate. There is something for every person and every budget and for however much time you want to put into it.
Today, we are talking about hitting pause on life to put together a little something special for someone you are grateful for.
Here are the items Lindsay mentions in this podcast!
Crafty Gratitude Gift:
For Making Produce Bags:
https://amzn.to/2PNorUR
Hang Tags:
https://amzn.to/3l1OymI
ALLLL the fresh fruits & veggies!!
PLUS these healthy packaged snacks:
Perfect Food Bars:
(Put 2 or so in each bag)
https://amzn.to/3tnAPtx
Organic Mulberries:
https://amzn.to/30C9ozw
Cauliflower Puffs:
(Mini bags)
https://amzn.to/3l5nwLj
Siete Tortilla Chips:
(Mini bags)
https://amzn.to/38NlHOf
Healthiest Yummy Chocolate:
https://amzn.to/30xAsjF
Delish Pecan Butter:
(Something fun & different to try!)
https://amzn.to/3viGClB
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Ready To Go Gratitude Gifts!
Bunny pancake maker!
https://amzn.to/3ry5kfG
Skincare travel set:
(To try this awesome brand or use for travel! The best SPF & serum!)
https://amzn.to/2OmuUpy
Bunny spoon rest:
https://amzn.to/3evjzhq
Spring candle set:
https://amzn.to/3t8pRrw
Favorite ever ever cozy blush blanket:
https://amzn.to/3tgCPDP
HAPPY SPRING!!
This is a fun Friday podcast all about St. Patrick’s Day and a TON of ideas of how you can make it fun at home for your kids!
Lindsay is talking about activities like making a scavenger hunt with clues and little prizes. And making a leprechaun trap with your kids the night before and her favorite… the green foot prints on the toilet with the green water.
Lindsay is also sharing lots of fun food ideas like making all green food that day and Lucky Charms EVERYTHING, green eggs and ham & jello… or jello shots if you prefer!
Whether you want to do one special thing or a bunch of festive things… or you want to make a big thing of it or keep it simple, this podcast has ideas for all of it.
This year, more than ever, little special celebrations are the best.
Lindsay also loves it because it’s awesome to take ordinary things and making them special and memorable. And that’s exactly what we are doing here!
Activity ideas:
💚 Scavenger Hunt
Go on Pinterest and print out or make your own!
💚 Set a trap the night before
A little box, or make with legos, so many ways!
💚 Leprechaun toilet!!
Green foot prints & green water!
Food ideas:
💚 All the food is green!
💚 Baked Potato Bar
💚 Lucky Charms EVERYTHING!
💚 Green eggs & ham
💚 Green jello shots (adults and kids)
💚 Gold coins!
Here are links to items Lindsay mentions:
Black Pots for Scavenger Hunt:
Get 1 for each child!
Comes with 12 small (each will be a clue) and 1 large for the end!
https://amzn.to/3qzQjZk
Food coloring:
(To make the toilet water green & any fun foods that day)
https://amzn.to/3cqu8zV
Chocolate Coins:
https://amzn.to/3l5Zi3s
Bingo Game:
https://amzn.to/3qDzNrh
Bulk assorted St. Patty’s Day Candy:
https://amzn.to/30wiSw4
Sprinkles!!
(For breakfast, treats or decoration)
https://amzn.to/2N8iZLy
Lucky Charms treats!
https://amzn.to/3l6LTrS
💚 Fun Prizes:
Rubber Duckies
https://amzn.to/3bswoay
Green Slime
(Because the slime phase will neverrrrr end 😭)
https://amzn.to/2OdM1df
In this episode, Lindsay shares her secret for giving extra thoughtful gifts, for having themed outfits for holidays or really anything else that seems like she’s on top of… it’s all because she plans out her month ahead of time.
She’s sharing her love for a paper calendar and why she loves a monthly view.
It saves so much time and energy and money!! You’ll feel less stressed using this method and less rushed because you’ve taken care of so anything’s ahead of time.
This is a very practical podcast all about using your calendar to plan out your month to make you more efficient and more awesome.
Here are a few points Lindsay talks about:
-Listen to How To Be Awesome At Treating Every Sunday Like It’s New Years! That one is all about goal setting and planning and action items to get to where you want to go. This one is more about your life and your lifestyle and your social plans and gifts and events and all that.
-Do things that are quick now, make a big list of things to do later - or items to keep an eye out for.
-Brain dump everything!
-Look at your calendar and make sure it has balance! Date nights and time with friends and time for self care.
-Lindsay says, "If one of my kids needs something - I put a note on the side of the calendar so I keep it in mind.. or I send an email then to plan a playdate, etc."
-If you need time to book fitness/gym… get it on there.
-Make sure everything on there is something you want to be doing (unless you actually really have to).
-Do it when you have actual time to execute things and do it the right way.
-When you think of things ahead of time, pop onto your calendar and put it on the sidebar of that month.
-It’s the best for planning vacations or weekend getaways!
-Find your balance of planning enough but not too much.
-Often times you can spend less money and get things you love even more, and spend so much less time getting there.
-Book your dinner reservations - you can always cancel! (But make sure you cancel)
Happy calendar planning!
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing some really easy ways to sneak in your greens.
Often we either don’t have time, or we don’t feel like eating a big pile of spinach. But we know the incredible health benefits from eating plants - especially veggies.
So today, she's sharing her favorite hacks for getting in your greens EVERY. DAY.
We’re making it easy and we’re getting in the routine of it so it’s more automatic and less painful.
Lindsay is breaking down what nutritionalists say are the best veggies for you, which ones you should eat as many as you can get your hands on and which ones you should eat in moderation.
We are talking about glycemic index numbers and which veggies have the least impact on your blood sugar.
It’s a podcast all about creative ways to get in your greens, and what you need to know about them.
Here are some of the tips Lindsay shares:
🥦Drink a cold pressed or fresh juiced juice each day.
🥬Morning greens powder!
🥑Afternoon red powder!
🍓Always have veggies steaming! Easiest way to eat veggies as a snack or as a side.
🥬Air fry them, bake them, sautée them.
🥦Prep them, always have some ready or going!
🥑Here are links to products that Lindsay mentions:
Green powder:
https://amzn.to/3sMq0k2
Reds powder:
https://amzn.to/3uHsD8G
Combo back green & reds powder:
https://amzn.to/3sCGSd4
Fresh juice delivery in OC:
https://heyerpowerwellness.com
Steamer:
https://amzn.to/2PsnWzA
Juicer:
https://amzn.to/3e1T9ng
HAPPY HEALTHY GREENS EATING!
This podcast is all about believing you can do anything.
Lindsay tells one very powerful story about what you are capable of, if you just believe you are.
It’s inspiring and motivating and it makes us look at the limits we may be putting on ourselves, that aren’t really there.
Lindsay talks about how she truly believes you can do anything you want to do, if you just believe you can do it, and align your language and behaviors to support it.
This story comes from an interview where Tom Bilyeu is talking to Trevor Moawad.
Trevor has worked with some of the world’s top athletes and he wrote a book called “It takes what it takes,” where he talks about so many lessons he’s learned coaching athletes and what it takes to come back from setbacks and win. He is a very savvy coach and has such an interesting approach…
So much of it starts with letting go. Past failures, past losses-let them go. The past isn't predictive of the future.
Here’s the story:
This guy was failing out of high school and really struggling and promised his mom he would take the SAT. He doesn’t expect anything - he’s fully failing out of school. He’s being raised by a single mom in the midwest and has zero expectations, he just promised her.
Get’s his score back and he gets a 1480 out of 1600.
His mother thought he cheated and she was like I tried to cheat but I couldn’t.
They are both stunned. He realizes he’s smart and going into his senior year.
He starts to go to class and he doesn’t hang out with the people
His teachers treat him differently - like maybe we didn’t give this kid a chance.
Twelve years after his success and gets a letter in the mail - turns out the SAT board will perioidly review their test taking procedures and the policies.
He was one of 13 people who got sent the wrong SAT score.
His actual score was a 740 out of 1600.
He says… people think my whole life changed when I got the 1480, but really my whole life changed when I started acting like a 1480 and not a 740.
What does a 1480 do? He goes to class.
Your language is powerful and your behaviors are SO powerful.
What you do, not how you feel about your past is going to determine who you are in the future.
*Trevor has this great quote in his book that says…
“Average is a choice. Greatness is a choice. There is no magic. Only decisions.”
*Isn’t that so empowering? Like it’s a TON of pressure but it’s also freeing!!
*It’s all about our decisions and our behaviors and our daily habits.
*Podcast coming soon by the way about habits!
*It’s about our habits, our behaviors, what we do everyday. It’s the discipline and the mentality.
*We are motivated by fear by incentive or this drive to be great.
*How you think affects how you feel and how you feel affects how you behave.
*Sustain the great habits and get rid of the bad habits.
*Wake up and do the right things. You can only think about one thing at a time. We have to squash the distractions.
*It’s not magic. Tell yourself - "I’m going to get up early or stay late if it needs it. I’m going to stay positive, and keep making the right decisions forward.”
CHEERS! To believing you can do anything you want to do!
Today’s podcast is all about getting a great workout - in a short amount of time.
Whether you are in a serious time crunch or just realllllly don’t feel like doing it… I’m explaining why research shows that you can still really make strides towards your goals in just 15 minutes.
I’m giving you lots of ideas of what to do in 15 minutes that is going to exhaust you, AND help your body increase fat burn and energy expenditure for hours after exercise.
Momentum is everything, especially with fitness, so we know that more we show up on the regular, the better we will feel and the healthier we will be. Even if you just have a few minutes, just showing up and putting in the work keeps you in the groove of it and you can actually burn fat and increase muscle in these quick sessions too.
We’re talking about killer SHORT workouts today… let’s go!
Here are some ways Lindsay talks about getting a great workout in a short amount of time…
-HIIT - high intensity interval training (and it doesn’t have to be high impact)
-Run stairs!
-Run at an incline on a treadmill
-Do traditional weight lifting exercises using heavy weights
-Take an online express class
-Get outside! Run fast, run hills, do stepups on a bench
It should be hard! You should sweat!
Some tips:
-Don’t take many breaks
-Push to exhaust the muscles (or yourself!)
-Consistency is key! A bunch of short workouts consistently is better for you than a few long workouts.
-Take online classes to keep you moving quickly
-It helps with your mental toughness
And it’s so good for your mental health!! It can help reduce anxiety, depression and get you out of a bad mood!
CHEERS! To moving your body everyday!! (even if it’s just 15 minutes)
Quick heads up- this podcast is going to have a few light curse words but we promise you it’s worth it and essential in describing this hack.
Lindsay talks about how she’s started doing this quick breathing hack to let irritating things go or stop worrying about something and focus on the good stuff.
Ready for it?
Take a huge deep breath in through the nose, and out through the nose and say, "inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit" (or the bad shit) depending on what we are dealing with.
Lindsay talks about how one of the changes she's made in the last 5 or so years that’s made the biggest impact on her life is deciding not to care about things that don’t matter anymore. Letting things go is so freeing but it’s not always as easy to do in real time.
So let’s use this hack to do it. Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
This episode is all about getting dressed efficiently and feel great about what you’re wearing!
Lindsay talks about how she spent so many years destroying her closet when she got ready, and having an outfit crisis right before an event, or wearing something uncomfortable all day, or taking way too long to get dressed. She’s finally gotten a groove down to where she finally gets dressed efficiently and feels good in what she’s wearing.
It’s so freeing and saves so much time and stress. You won’t be dashing to the mall right before an event or have a mini breakdown because you have nothing wear.
Lindsay is sharing her best tips for getting dressed efficiently and always loving what you’re wearing!!
We’re talking about things like… purging your closet so it’s filled with things you are excited to wear and organizing it for function not fashion. We’re getting into how to only buy things you love and stop overbuying. Buy less and spend more on things you love. Layout your clothes the night before and give yourself two options to work with.
Today is a very practical and fun podcast all about getting dressed efficiently and in clothing that you feel great in.
Here are some of the tips that Lindsay covers:
-Purge your closet.
-Organize your closet for function, not fashion.
(Like maybe you put complete sweat suits together rather than putting the pants part with your pants)
And get slim hangers!!
-Don’t overbuy- just buy things you love.
-Buy less, spend more on quality and things you know you will like for a long time.
-Know what you like! Rather than browsing all the time, if you know what looks good on you and the style you like, look for those, search for those, keep up with those brands. Saves time and money and you actually wear what you buy.
-If you don’t wear it right away, return it before it’s been too long.
-Layout 2 options for the next day the night before.
-Look at your calendar and make notes of any outfits you might want to buy for special events. Then you have it top of mind ahead of time to look online or in person. So you aren’t dashing out the night before!
-Don’t worry so much about what you’re wearing! You have more fun if you don’t obsess over it.
Here are links to products Lindsay mentions:
Slim hangers for women’s shirts:
https://amzn.to/3bioXRM
Slim hangers for women’s bottoms:
https://amzn.to/3dmQ9BS
Slim hangers for men:
https://amzn.to/2NdzxSh
Slim hangers for kids:
https://amzn.to/3dmLEaj
Slim hangers for babies:
https://amzn.to/3bk3UP4
CHEERS!! To getting dressed efficiently!
In this episode, Lindsay talks about SLEEP!!! And how she was compromising sleep so much but just won’t do it anymore.
She thinks that improving the quality of your sleep will improve your life in so many ways.
She’s sharing all he things she’s learned about what happens in the body during sleep. Like… your brain sorts the days information. Hormones flood your body. Your nervous system chills out. Your cortisol levels lower. Your muscles relax!!
Here are some of the topics that Lindsay covers:
Sleep efficiency - Have a routine and try to stick to it. Even on weekends modify a bit - maybe you don't wake up so early but similar. The consistency of sleep is so important.
️ Get sunlight during the day!
Daily rhythms are set by light!!! Thirty minutes is ideal!! Sitting by a window isn’t enough.
🏼 Get up and move your body! Exercise or stretching or walking is key. And it helps to tire out the body! Studies show working out first thing in the morning is best for sleep. They spend more time in the deepest sleep and more efficient sleep cycles.
Experts say that most people who have problems going to sleep are doing something during the day that is causing it and not realizing it.
It’s not just about what you do at night that affects your sleep.
No tech an hour before bed. It can be so hard but we just have to setup new, better habits.
⚡️Make sleep a priority!! Try to limit those times when you compromise sleep for other things.
Stop eating 3 hours before bed. If you eat right before bed… your body still has to keep working!! Try to eat earlier so your body can stop functioning by the time you get into bed. The factory is still open if you’re digesting food!
🤩 Blue light glasses at night if you are going to do tech. It’s been shown to really help you sleep better. Light messes with your sleep! There are also sleep glasses if you want to take it one step further.
️ Limit your stress!!! The main reason we have trouble going to sleep is because of stress!! We have to work hard to reduce our stress! We have to be so aware of it and realize that lowering stress and prioritizing sleep is just so important.
GET COZY!!
Here are the cozy sleep products Lindsay mentions:
Pillow
https://amzn.to/2OJ82QX
Blanket
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/barefoot-dreams-cozychic-throw-blanket/5696396
Hatch
https://amzn.to/3tZBke9
Along with nutrition and exercise, good sleep is one of the pillars of health. You simply cannot achieve optimal health without taking care of your sleep.
In this episode, we’re talking about being very intentional about the time we spend on our phone and the relationship we have with it.
Lindsay’s been researching what experts call “digital minimalism” and how we can apply it to our lives so we are less phone obsessed and using it primarily in ways that add to our lives and gives us returns on the small number of things that we really care about and get to where we're ok missing the out on the rest.
We are using our phones for things that add valuable to our lives, and not mindlessly scrolling.
In a time when there is no avoiding it, we have to be smart about it and use your tech to work for you, not against you.
Lindsay is sharing lots of tips that experts give on how to stop being distracted all day by the pinging of your phone and why we’ve almost completely eliminated down-time and why it’s so important to get back.
We’re working on breaking our addiction to our phones today friends!
A few key points from this podcast:
-Like most things Lindsay thinks the answer lies in the middle... it’s all about moderation.
-Goal: "I know what I’m all about and I know what I want to do with my time. I know what’s important to me. I put tech to work strategically to help the things I really care about- and then everything else that’s out there I just ignore."
-Physiology researcher named Sophie Leroy found that-
-If you’re focused on something hard- and you switch over to check on an email or text- there’s some residue that’s left from that switch over- you aren’t as sharp as you were before that.
-So you’re basically dumber. Even if it’s for one minute. There’s a residue that takes awhile to clear out. It’s like you’re not as sharp.
-The way a lot of us work is that we are constantly doing these quick checks- and it can make us feel productive - but we are losing quality of our performance. We don’t even realize this!
-This is why we have to prioritize these long stretches. We are avoiding that lowering of our capacity.
-We aren’t having a haphazard approach.
-Text messages pinging you all day. I have my team email instead of text me- and I control when I check emails.
-We can’t be our best with the constant distraction
-We have to practice- self control and be intentional about how we spend our time.
-We have almost no down time- no time with just our thoughts. Which is solitude.
-Cal talks about solitude deprivation. Freedom from input from other minds. It’s crucial if you’re going to thrive as a human. It was unavoidable 10 years ago- if you have to wait in line etc- but for the first time in human history- we have a super computer in our pocket- so all solitude is removed from our lives.
-We need to build that time back into our lives.
-Social media- constant checking- like a constant companion - constantly looking at the phone - hasn’t always been this way. It’s now normal to look at your phone all day. It’s been re engineered!! It’s not about posting and looking at your friends posts - now it’s likes and comments- and we get social approval!! They added this because it changed it so now we check it all the time. We look at it at every possible down time moment.
-How do we train ourselves to change this? It’s not going to change without actual effort. Go without your phone when you work out or something - even if it’s 20 mins a day. You’re breaking the cycle.
-Be more productive!!
-Keep your primary life priorities in mind and use your phone for just things that bring you closer to that
-We need solo time
-Cal Newport - Digital minimalism
-Stop mini checks
-Less inventions because nobody is looking around solving -problems
-It’s affecting our life more than we think- on the daily and in the big picture
-Social media can brings a few harms- the are designed to be addictive
-Leaves us feeling inadequate
-Too much stimulation- like taking a slot machine home from Vegas we aren’t wired for this
-Gives us so much anxiety!! And can make you feel miserable
-Large portions of your day are fragmented and it permanently reduces you capacity for concentration- and we can’t achieve those really great things this way
-Pick things daily that you do without phone
-How to help our kids who are growing up with it
-You can get so much more done with intense concentration
-You can then unplug at night and not constantly work or check emails
-Consider how much happier we could be with less phone time
It’s a part of life, we are doing to deal with people who suck. Some are blissfully unaware of the impact that they have on those around them and others seem to get satisfaction from coming at other people or irritating them or judging them or otherwise creating chaos. Either way, they suck! They are creating unnecessary conflict, making things more complicated than they need to be and often causing so much stress and pain that could have completely been avoided.
But as we know- we can’t always control what happens to us, but we can decide how we define it and how we react to it.
So today, we’re talking about training ourselves to be ready for interactions with people who suck and dealing with it in a calm and compassionate way. It’s not easy to do - but it’s essential if we are going to keep our stress levels low and protect our headspace.
It’s a very practical and positive episode about how to deal with people who suck.
Lindsay gets into how to not let these negative interactions weigh so heavily that you end up thinking most people suck. Most people are awesome- we just let the interactions of those who suck weigh more heavily because they are more upsetting. Today, we’re focusing on how to deal with it in a positive and compassionate way.
Lindsay explains how compassion is a sensitivity to suffering.
With these key points:
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You don’t know the rocks in other people’s shoes.
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They are likely putting their issues on you.
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You get to chose if you make it bigger or let it die.
It’s often hard to see the beautiful people sometimes- because it’s not forced upon you as much and it’s not as aggressive. Like if someone at the grocery store smiles at you and says they love our shoes- that’s so nice. And then 5 minutes later if someone screams at you in the parking lot and throws you a gesture- you remember that so much more because it was so much more impactful and LOUD. But it’s one person. Lindsay is talking about how we can change how we think about that one person, how we react to that one person, and how it shouldn’t make us think or say that everyone is f-ed up.
We run into good people all the time - even just eye contact and a smile.
We are oddly attracted to negativity. Like- do we need to go to war here? When really it’s an online troll … really sad and sick people that have not found their path. The haven’t found any happiness, any fulfillment, any growth. They are stifled or rotten in some way so they are lashing out at the world.
Then you run into one of those people and you say… ah people suck!!
That’s the initial response but what we really want to do is have compassion for them.
And it’s NOT EASY.
But here’s what Lindsay has learned in researching this - we need to have as little stress in our life as possible. So we have to prepare for people who suck and decide ahead of time how we are going to deal with it.
Lindsay breaks it down this way, depending on if it’s someone in your life that you see all the time, or a random interaction with a stranger.. here are some things to consider.
Some ways to practically manage it.
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Cut them out.
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Ignore them.
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Limit interactions.
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Know what it is and go into it prepared.
A few other highlights from this episode:
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Limit time and energy from chronic complainers
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Pick your battles
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Don’t get sucked into irrational behavior
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Don't let people push your buttons
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Set boundaries
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Don't let them limit your JOY
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Forgive but you dont have to forget
PLAN to have compassion when someone sucks in your life. It’s the key to less stress and a strong, positive mindset that can’t be torn down.
This podcast is all about eating for health and for a long life.
Healthy eating and diet can be complicated and overwhelming and sometimes it’s just hard to know what's the best choice. There are so many different diet plans and philosophies… let’s make it simple!
Lindsay is sharing one strategy that works really well for her that she wish she would have known about years ago.
Figuring out what foods make you feel good, and focusing on eating lots of great stuff, rather than restricting.
Once you figure out the healthy foods that you like best, let’s figure how to prep them and have them easy to grab so when you’re hungry, you fill up on the healthiest stuff.
Then, there’s plenty of room for other foods that are more indulgent and those special super delicious meals.
Lindsay is breaking down a really awesome and simple way to approach healthy eating.
Here are some of the points that Lindsay covers in this podcast:
It really all comes down to veggies
And for me lean proteins and fruits
Put veggies in your food
Make nice big salads
Eat at home more so you can control what’s in it
Steam, roast and saute veggies
Slow cooker
Green drinks - juice your own
Spiralized veggies so they act like noodles
Have them chopped and ready to eat!!
Have lots of fruits too like berries and apples
Find healthy pick-up places close to you and look at the menu ahead of time so you have your go-to places.
Fill up on greens!
Eat the other stuff- but not as much of it
LINKS to things Lindsay mentions!
Green powder to get in your greens on days when you need it!
https://amzn.to/3px08Yy
DELISH healthy cookie dough
https://cappellos.com/collections/cookie-dough
If you’re in Orange County…
Awesome fresh pressed juice delivery, by a super dude who beat cancer.
https://heyerpowerwellness.com
VIBE Organic Kitchen is Lindsays favorite ever go-to for pick-up food
https://www.eatdrinkvibe.com
HAPPY healthy and delish eating!!!
Lindsay has ONE marriage hack and she’s sharing it in this episode!
And here it is…
Do one thing for your spouse everyday that you weren’t going to do.
She loves it because it’s about little things and the little things become the big things.
Here are a few topics Lindsay covers:
️ It doesn’t have to cost anything!
️ It just has to be thoughtful.
️ Be sure to do/say things that are for them, not what you want or want for them
️ Think of what could make their day easier or what would be helpful.
️ Think of what would make them smile.
️ Listen to what they say they need…. Big or small, things or experiences.
️ Think about what they like doing most.
️ Think small - can take 2 seconds.
️ You can batch work it even - prepare some things ahead of time!
️ Kindness breeds kindness, you will feel the love back in some way!!
Here are a few examples:
️ Charge your husbands electric car.
️ Make an appointment for them- hair, dentist, something they could do themselves but it’s nice to do.
️ Put a snack or a treat they would really like in their car.
️ A grateful text.
️ Arrange something with your partners friends or family.
️ Have fav meal or cocktail ready when they get home.
️ Signup for a class for something they love- to do together.
️ Have their favorite show loaded up with snacks when they get home.
️ Take note of something they love and restock them- socks, undies etc.
️ Loves notes - in a way that would be special to them.
️ Book an event they would like- sports or comedy type thing.
️ Warm up their towel when they are getting out of the shower.
️ Take extra care of them when they are sick or getting sick.
️ Book them an in-home massage.
️ Put a nice fresh water and an iPad on the treadmill before they go in to exercise.
Lindsay talks about how the part 2 to this episode may come in a few years when she figures out another marriage hack. But until then, enjoy this ONE, very good one!!
Cheers!! To your happy, awesome marriage!!
In this episode, Lindsay gives you TWENTY ideas of how to be less stressed and how to handle all the things that life throws your way.
Here they are!!
️ Learn what your body needs and make it a priority
️ Get creative and have hobbies
️ Be aware of your thoughts
️ Practice deep breathing
️ Get outside and walk more
️ Focus on facts, rather than emotions
️ Express, don’t suppress
️ Accept what you can’t control
️ Work on your insecurities
️ Don’t let your failures define you
️ Don’t base your words and actions based on assumptions
️ Be vulnerable
️ Make sure you have a tribe
️ Watch what you think and say about yourself
️ Start and end the day right
️ Don’t avoid hard tasks
️ Focus on the now
️ Protect your mental health when dealing with difficult people
️ Listen to your body and don’t overthink everything
️ And sometimes you just need to call the day! And stop making decisions and trying to solve every problem in that moment.
Cheers to less stress!!
In this podcast, Lindsay talks about a body challenge she’s recently accepted. That challenge is to stop covering up her body.
On the beach, in the bathroom, in the bedroom, by the pool or anywhere else.
Realizing that there is so much freedom in letting go of body conscious issues and enjoying more. Not avoiding things that you’ll be uncomfortable doing because of what you’ll have to wear.
Whatever body you wake up with that day, that’s the awesome body you aren’t going to hide anymore.
97% of women have negative thoughts about their body every day.
Body confidence isn’t thinking you have the best body. It’s also not telling yourself the way you look doesn’t matter. Body confidence is giving yourself freedom from self conscious thoughts about your body.
💪🏼 Stop the negative think and negative talk
💪🏼 Limit interactions with people who make you feel insecure
💪🏼 Limit your social media time if you’re comparing
💪🏼 Be grateful for what your body does everyday
💪🏼 Realize today is the youngest you will ever be
💪🏼 my body issues
💪🏼 Nobody really cares as much as you think they do - like high school pimples
💪🏼 When you’re 90, you’ll regret not going on the trip because you had to be in a bikini
CHEERS, to rocking your awesome body!!
This episode is all about smash cakes!!
Lindsay sets up a little photo shoot for each kid on or around their birthday with a smash cake. It makes for the best memories and cutest photos!
Here are some of the topics she covers:
🎂 Pick a theme that they like
🎂 Have cake made or make it yourself
🎂 Set-up a backdrop for it
🎂 Plan to shoot it or hire someone to do it
If you are local! Contact Greg Loza- my photographer!
greg@belleamiestudios.com
🎂 Lighting is key
🎂 You can start anytime- don’t have to start from birth!
🎂 Save the rest of the cake for the family singing at night - repurpose!
🎂 It’s so fun to see what they do at each age- dig in or cautious etc!
🎂 Make it fun! Have surprise elements
🎂 Get your essentials in first
🎂 Bribery works!
🎂 Consider involving the family in the pictures
🎂 Don’t show the actual cake until the moment of
🎂 Let it happen naturally!!
Valentine’s Day is upon and I think there is no better time to amplify the love in our lives in and in our homes than now.
You know how in 2020 people started decorating for Christmas in October? Lindsay thinks we do the same for Valentine’s!
We need ALL the celebrations right now!
There is no downside to bringing the feeling of more LOVE into your home for the weeks leading up to Valentines… not just the actual day.
Lindsay is sharing dozens of ideas of how you can make Valentine’s extra special this year. Some are extravagant and some are simple… and she’s sharing some really cool meaningful gift ideas that are best to work on ahead of time.
She’s taking the mundane and making it meaningful with a special tradition or activity.
Here are some ideas Lindsay talks about:
❤️ Look online and do a brain dump of all the ideas and all the people!
❤️ Make heart shaped food! Pizza and pancakes!
❤️ Write love notes for your kids/friends/family/lover.
❤️ Decorate your house or areas of your house!
❤️ Watch romantic movies at night and on the weekends!
❤️ Make special treats - decorate cookies etc.
❤️ Wear pink and red and hearts! It’s festive and fun and so cute!!
❤️ Light candles around the house!
❤️ Set the dinner table up special!
❤️ Teacher gifts!
❤️ Have your kids make cards for teachers and family members- get fun supplies.
❤️ Make a plan ahead of time for Valentine’s meals.
❤️ Scavenger hunt - can do creative and easy and inexpensive.
❤️ Cook a meal with your lover!
❤️ Start now and make photo books or the cute books you fill in with info about why you love that person or special stories, etc.
❤️ Gifts for guys - I like anything Yeti coolers, tumblers by Hydroflask or Yeti or Corksicle, backpack coolers, plants or desk decor, funny underwear, framed pic of you together!
Box of snacks/treats they like for their desk/office.
A car bag- like a travel bag with masks, sanitizer, mints, floss, etc.
Muscle massager!!
❤️ Think of their daily lives and what is practical that they could use daily.
❤️ Celebrations don’t have to be grand and they don’t have to be the same every year and you can start a new tradition anytime!
❤️ Any fun or treat out of the ordinary will make the day or week seem fun and exciting!
HAPPY EARLY VALENTINE’S DAY!!
The average person has a negative thought every 2 minutes. That’s whole lot of negative thoughts in one day and we all know all the reasons why this isn’t good for us.
Lindsay’s been researching something that affects our lives and our days SO MUCH MORE than negative thoughts… negative talk!
Today, we are focusing on what comes out of our mouths that is negative, much of which we don’t even realize we are saying, and how much it affects our days and our lives.
We are talking about being super intentional about what we say and stopping ourselves when it’s a complaint or it’s labeling something as negative and changes how you see it and how you act.
Rather than trying to train ourselves not to think negative things - this is easier because it’s very specific. Don’t say negative things out loud.
Studies have shown that it is 10x more powerful than if you think it!!
So we just aren’t going to stay stupid things out loud, no more verbalizing negativity.
In this episode, Lindsay talks about how the stories around negative talk are crazy and can change how your days and weeks go. And how many of us self sabotage and don’t even realize it.
She’s talking about keeping yourself busy so you don’t have time for it and never labeling a day as a “bad day”…. Especially early on in the day!
We are avoiding complaining and implementing new strategies when you have the negative thoughts. Lindsay talks about how to change it up- listen to something - put something else in your ears!
You can change your days based on the words that you say, and in this episode, Lindsay shares exactly how to do it!
CHEERS! To your most awesome days!
Moderation is key for a lot of things in life and Lindsay thinks it's REALLY true with social media.
In this episode, we’re talking about being present and aware of how your social media consumption makes you feel… and also… how to use it with intention and pay attention to how much time you’re on it.
We’ve all looked up and realized we’ve just spent 2 or 3 hours by accident scrolling social when we should really be sleeping or working or spending time with our family… and while Lindsay thinks it’s a great way to get ideas and learn more about things you love and it can be so inspiring… it can also make us feel badly about our own lives if we allow ourselves to compare what we’re doing to what other people are doing on social…
And it’s just so easy to get sucked in and get addicted to it and spend more time on it than we want to. So on this one, Lindsay is sharing some important facts about social media and lots of tips for how to use social media in the most healthy way.
Lindsay starts with some facts:
📲 We spend 3 hours per day on social media.
📲 3 billion people are on social media.
📲 210 million people are said to have social media addictions
📲 Facebook has 1.4 billion active users daily
📲 50% of people driving look at social media while driving
Some tips covered:
☀️ don't do it first thing in the morning
☀️ realize you’re seeing the best part of peoples’s lives
☀️ do it as your entertainment / relaxation
☀️ use time blocking
☀️ set timer if you need to
☀️ remove notifications
☀️ if you post for business - setup ahead of time so it doesnt bring you to the app for long periods of time
☀️ don't let trolls affect you - go into it knowing that by putting yourself out there you will get negativity
☀️ don't post in real time
☀️ don't even click on it when you’re spending time with ones you love- for me its about not starting - resist - so you dont get sucked in
Things to be mindful of:
❤️ be mindful of how its affecting you
❤️ don't go on during bad days
❤️ put your mental health first
❤️ stop comparing yourself to others- use it as inspiration
❤️ make sure for the most part its enhancing your life - connecting you with friends, inpsiring and new ideas!
Social media can bring so much joy to our lives… we just have to be smart about it!
CHEERS and see you on social!❤️❤️
Today, Lindsay is talking about setting up a Sunday routine that is like New Year planning, but done on the weekly.
It allows you to look at what’s coming up and really keep your priorities top of mind.
It can be a lot of pressure to plan out the entire year and it doesn’t account for unforeseen things… and listen, you might need to pivot.
Some points Lindsay covers:
First up, do a brain dump! Get a nice full list going with everything!
Then, organize your to do list- first up, automate, eliminate and delegate.
Rewrite your entire list each week. So nothing sits there getting stale and it is fresh in your mind so you spend your time doing the things that are important to you.
Some weeks you’ll have time for projects like catch up on photo book making… and other weeks you won’t - then you put it on the to do later list.
But everything is on the list!!
Also- don’t take old stuff with you. Each week is such a fresh start. Really use it as a time to learn from mistakes, and let it go!!
It’s a great way to focus on the future more than the past.
And it allows you to goal set for the week rather than the year. So you aren’t setting a resolution that you break in 2 weeks.. you’re planning out your priorities and things you need to get done weekly, rather than yearly.
It’s an awesome way to start your week!!
This episode is JAM PACKED with hacks that will change your days.
Here’s the bottom line:
Either your run your day or it will run you.
Here is a message from Lindsay, about this podcast:
Today’s podcast is all about your morning routine. But it’s really so much more than that. It’s about having happy, productive days without feeling overwhelmed.
We are all juggling so much and I think we are all here for ways to get more done in less time so you have more free time and don’t feel buried under your to do list.
In preparing for this podcast, I’ve been researching the morning routine of high performers for months. And I really think I’ve found lots of breakthroughs here. There’s so much we can learn from each other and from other people who have mastered something we are trying to become awesome at.
Here are some of the best lessons I’ve learned that I think will help you craft your ideal morning routine 🌤
First step- wake up on time. Set your alarm and don’t hit snooze.
It's like you're telling yourself - you are in charge.
Then, I think you take one hour totally for yourself. I love this in the form of at at-home workout. Do what you feel like for your mind and your body. This is where I center. Sometimes I listen to podcasts or audio books or watch an online course. Or sometimes, I workout in silence and just think. I’ll think about the day or the week or try to solve a problem or just have quite time to be grateful.
I really think you have to make a morning routine of it so it just happens. There’s no decision to be made each morning. Even if you don't feel like it- do the best you can that day.
Do it before your phone starts going and people start needing you!
Then, take a freezing shower. There are so many great health benefits but also just to be tough for the day.
Then, do your 3 most important tasks of the day. For a few reasons. Studies have shown that you are your sharpest for the first 3 hours of the day. So let's not use that mindlessly scrolling social media or replying to emails.
These 3 things should somehow have the highest impact on your year. They can be small things or big things - sometimes things we procrastinate on actually don't take us very long. Maybe you need to find someone's email that you want to do business with and send them an email- if you just write it down and do the first step- it's often so much easier than you think.
I've procrastinated for so long on some things then when I actually do it, it's like 20 minutes. I'm like holy hell that's been on my list for 3 months and I look at it everyday and do something else.
Then save your other things for later in the day - making doctors appointments and following up on things … you don't need to be your absolute sharpest for those.
Ok so back to social media and emails. You 💯 cannot check these things first thing in the morning. You have to protect yourself and your time. Here’s the thing with social media, it makes you compare yourself to others. Even if you have a really healthy relationship with social media, that’s just the nature of it.
And if you check your emails first thing, then you let your emails control how your morning and your day goes. And you likely will never get to the 3 most important things that will help move you towards your goals. And it makes you operate on the defensive, not the offense. Don't let other people determine what you do, you decide what you want to get done.
Here are a few other nighttime routine tips to think about:
✨ The key to a good morning routine is a good night routine
✨ Get enough sleep
✨ Call a quitting time so you have time to unplug and refresh for the next day
✨ To wind down each night- stretch if that feels good and take a warm shower then make your list for the day.
✨ Don't end up scrolling your phone for hours in bed and going to bed too late
✨ Know what workout you are going to do in the am and layout your clothes.
Some of my favorite tips!
❤️ Try to keep a similar routine on the weekends to keep up the momentum. Adjust it so you have fun, but keep the same general routine.
❤️ Keep your phone in other room or in airplane mode.
❤️ Have your running list going, if you need to, brain dump so you go to sleep with a clear mind and not a racing mind. But don't keep your list in your room. For me, I keep my work pile out of the room, or move it out before bed so I have like a full disconnect from it. It really helps.
Why this morning time is so important
In these clear morning hours, you’ll have the best ideas.
And they become a main point of focus for the rest of your day.
Part of becoming the greatest you, is learning how to let the most powerful you guide you. Let the most powerful part of your mind set the course for your day.
You just have to allow yourself time to have great ideas - give yourself time and space to just think. To figure out solutions. Pay attention to what the genius inside of you is telling you.
When most of us think about the things we have to do - we are overwhelmed - we scroll social media then we go into robot mode. I fear auto pilot in life. We pay the bills, get the groceries.. do all all the things and let our to do list rule our day. It never feels manageable.
So we have to shift to focus on progress rather than to do lists. I love to do lists - but they don't rule my day- progress rules my day instead.
So how do you decide what are your 3 things for the day?
I ask myself - what 3 things I could do that would really make progress towards my goals?
This becomes my focus rather than the overwhelming endless to do list.
These 3 things should be things that are for you. Things that would help you make progress. That’s what should be on your list.
Our game plan
So you’ve woken up the right way, you’ve let your mind wander, you’ve let yourself think of ideas and solutions.
To do lists trigger procrastination instead of action. So if we focus on just 3 things, it simplifies it.
Sometimes it’s just one step. You’re setting up your brain to make it happen.
To do lists trigger procrastination instead of action. So if we focus on just 3 things, it simplifies it.
Sometimes it’s just one step. You’re setting up your brain to make it happen.
And you aren’t sleeping with your phone!
Not sleeping with your phone will enhance your focus SO much I’m telling you. You will sleep better and have more ideas. You will feel more in control of your day. You’re proactive not reactive. Your genius brain needs this alone time in the morning. You have to find 30 minutes to an hour first thing in the morning before you give your day to everything else. I just think this is so essential making progress and making an impact.
I read one time that the most successful business people don't take meetings before noon. Because they just know they are the most sharp in the first few hours of the day and they would rather get their own priorities done rather than let meetings take the most productive hours of the day.
This is where you can focus the best and you’re thinking about your big picture goals before your day gets high-jacked. I also feel so much happier during my day when I know I’ve been productive early on. I don't feel behind and rushed all day and fighting for time to get to my to do list.
And I’m telling you- you have to have a quitting time. This is a totally new one for me. You have to make yourself stop so your days don't roll into the next.
So you’re making your day shorter and make yourself quit working at a set time.
It’s crazy how much these changes will impact your days
It’s just so crazy that you can get more out of your life when you do less. It’s just by planning your day right. Give yourself deadlines and don’t let your to do list or your email control your day. Let your 3 biggest priorities control your day.
This has been such a powerful thing in my life. I never stopped working.
By setting clear goals, I’m focused on what I need to get done and I do it first.
If you need more boundaries between work and personal, this will help so much. It will give you more time to be present with your family. Let your brain get rest.
And honestly- I still don’t do this some days- just because I spend so much time with my kids - I simply don't always have enough time to do what I want to do.
But when I do set a deadline and actually stick to it, I really feel in control and accomplish more each day with less stress.
Ok so to recap, don't sleep with your phone, take time for yourself in the morning, allow your genius mind to work and not just go on autopilot.
Each of these small steps build on each other. So you can add in one of these tips and keep building on it.
You have a daily routine now that's backed by science that will help you set-up long term success.
Push yourself to get back on track with your routine. That’s why I love a cold shower - it’s like I already did something hard. I already proved to myself that I’m tough and I’m going to do what I tell myself I’m going to do.
I’m telling you by having an awesome morning routine, you’ll accomplish more of your goals and for sure have more awesome days.
Cheers to awesome productive days!
XO
Lindsay
In this episode, Lindsay talks about How To Be Awesome At Losing Quarantine Weight.
We have a lot on our plates right now and a lot of stress at times. We worry about staying healthy, and finances, homeschooling our kids and how to do our best to keep our risk of getting sick as low as possible. So the first step here is to give yourself a little grace, and realize that you’re under a lot of pressure right now and the last thing you need is stress about a few extra pounds.
If you aren’t feeling like yourself and it’s making you bummed or even depressed… or having negative body talk go on in your head… then let’s talk about how to change it!
Lindsay shares her best tips for losing the weight you’ve gained in quarantine. For no other reason than to help you feel your best. So you come out of this feeling excited to charge back into the world, not wanting to crawl back into your hole. We’re having a little quarantine weight loss session here friends, let’s go!
Here are some topics Lindsay covers:
❤️Create routines that work
❤️Intermittent Fasting
❤️Limit your booze, sugar and carbs
❤️Find other ways to satisfy your cravings
❤️But still eat a TON of food! Whole Foods!
❤️SLEEP MORE
❤️Move and sweat
❤️Eat BIG meals instead of grazing - make sure you leave satisfied
❤️Be kind to yourself
❤️No fad diets - consistency is what works!!
In this episode, Lindsay covers…
Why sleep is so important!
Go to bed earlier..
Create a routine and keep a similar one on the weekends
Don’t hit the snooze button!
Just wake up!
Start with a workout
Put on music to get moving
Establish a good morning and nighttime routine
Take an hour to decompress before bed
Wake up at 5am! Before the world is awake!
Consistency is key- your body loves it
Most successful business people wake up early
You’ll get a head start on the day and you’ll love it!
Thanks for listening friends! Now go set your alarm for 5am!!
People message me on Instagram pretty often and say… You have three kids and you work how do you look presentable each day??… And first thank you that’s so nice and second I think it’s one of those things that is just a priority for me. It’s on my must do list…
I must get ready each day and feel showered and clean and put together.
Now sometimes that still means wearing yoga pants and a sweatshirt… I’m not talking about getting ready so we’re wearing heels every day… I’m talking about getting ready, so you feel good and you’re ready for anything that happens that day.
I get ready once in the morning… every single day and then I’m good for the day. If I’m going to a special event or a nice dinner at night, then I will do a touchup… but my touch up never takes me more than 15 minutes or so.
I think that for so many women… myself included… once you start having babies… there’s less time… you’re more tired… and you don’t always feel like putting on makeup and pulling yourself together like you used to. But I think it’s so important… and 99% of the importance is for yourself. Yes, it’s good to look good for your significant other or your job or whatever it is but this episode is about you it’s about looking good, so you feel confident and you’re ready for anything that day.
Also important because of your POSTURE!
Your posture affects how you see yourself, as well as how others see you. If you’re slumped down and slouching during a job interview, for example, the interviewer will likely see you as less confident, and perhaps will have a neural impulse to judge you as less capable. If you have good posture, with your shoulders back and your body aligned, you can look better in your clothes and will likely receive compliments from loved ones, which will boost your confidence and mood. You could also just love how you look in the mirror, which will make you feel lighter and more positive.
Good posture also pertains to walking. If you walk slumped down and, in a shuffle, you look bedraggled and overwrought, which can make you actually feel bedraggled and overwrought. When you walk uplifted and with confidence, your brain registers “uplifted and with confidence,” and pumps out happy hormones to match the message.
**Do the long stuff at night
Wash hair... face masks… shave your legs…
**Do a get ready that makes you feel good, everyday
And figure out what that routine is!
Don’t spend your morning minutes on experimentation, especially when you’ve got to get out the door by a certain time. Experiment at night when it’s calm and peaceful — and then figure out how to replicate it in the morning.
**Lay your clothes out the night before
**If you have kids, PLAN in the time - so its before they wake up… and if they wake up early… maybe you streamline it and they watch a cartoon for 12 mins instead of skipping it altogether.
**Do the OTHER STUFF the night before
Make lunches
Respond to emails
Get gas in your car
**Figure out how you like to look without making it take forever - so it’s not practical
YOUTUBE is amazing!!
How to be awesome at taking a personal day.
So it’s basically one recharge and reset day. Where you do all the things you’ve been wanting to do but don’t have time to do. Maybe it’s super productive or maybe it’s a full relax and recharge day.
So you have the kids covered, or you take a full personal day from work… whatever your daily obligations are… they are covered and you have the whole day to do what you want to do.
Here are a few ideas that Lindsay gives for what your personal day could look like:
✨Yoga and movies
✨Purge closet
✨Take an online course
✨Try out some new recipes
✨Make photo books
✨Get a massage and/or facial
It should be whatever you feel like you’re missing in your days now. That’s what this day is. It’s YOUR day for what YOU need. Design your day ahead of time with no obligations and nowhere you have to be.
Cheers to your personal day!
Today Lindsay is talking about actually asking what you want for this holiday season.
Why to ask for what you want:
❤️ it makes it easier on them
❤️ it cuts down on the cutter or things you don't need
❤️ ask for things you actually could use or really want
❤️ it sets you and them up for a successful holiday
How do you do it?
❤️ be reasonable and give price point options
❤️ tell them your sizes/colors
❤️ tell them your shopper if you have one - or who helps you when you go to look
❤️ tell them what you don’t want/need or don’t like
Then…
❤️ be genuinely grateful for what you get
❤️ realize life is long, if it doesn’t pan out perfectly, sometimes it’s best to realize they tried and don’t ruin the time.
We hope you have such a great holiday season with your family and friends and get a few special things that you want too!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!
On today's show, Lindsay talks about how to get out of the cycle of trying to please everyone around you. It’s so easy to be completely consumed with trying to gain the approval of others. And to want everyone that you come in contact with to think you are a “good person” or an “awesome mom” or a “great employee” or whatever it is. But in this, often we end up needing other people's validation in order to feel worthwhile and loved.
Our intentions are good, but suppressing who we really are and what we need is a one way trip in feeling out of control, overwhelmed and exhausted.
On this podcast channel, Lindsay talks all the time about productivity tips. But the truth is - if you struggle with this at all - the most effective way to reclaim control of your life is to begin to accept who you truly are, and to express yourself in the most authentic way possible.
No facades to please others.
No settling for less.
No apologies.
Just being who you are and doing what you want.
Because here’s the thing… it’s just a colossal waste of time.
Allowing other people to determine how you operate my life is incredibly inefficient, but even worse, it can result in a lot of unhealthy behaviors that Lindsay outlines in this episode. Behaviors like…
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No boundaries. No idea how to say no.
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Perfectionism
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Put yourself last
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Expect others to return the favor
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Holding yourself back.
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Living in fear.
So many people feel like happiness is just out of reach throughout most of their life, but don't know why. Once you figure it out – it can change everything for you.
One of the first steps to becoming authentic is to allow yourself to take an honest look at who you really are, without the filter of others’ opinions.
As you go through this process, Lindsay explains that you may learn these lessons…
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No one is perfect. Strive for excellence instead of perfection.
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Learn to embrace the messiness and the vulnerability of real life.
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You can open up and be vulnerable with your flaws and strengths and opinions.
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You learn how to utilize your “bad” traits in a healthy way, instead of constantly trying to deny, avoid or run away from them.
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You boundaries with others and stop doing things out of obligation.
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You stop expecting others to meet your needs too.
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You learn that trying to be everything to everybody isn't going to get you anywhere.
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You stop trying to pretend you’re something you’re not. Accept your shortcomings and stop judging yourself for not having it all figured out.
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You'll compassion for others who are also struggling.
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You’ll stop trying to control situations to avoid confrontation.
Lindsay shares all sorts of strategies and tips for moving away from suppressing who you really area and focusing on expressing yourself in the most authentic way possible.
We all know how one person can make a difference and change the life of others by volunteering. But what isn’t always talked about is what volunteering can do for YOUR life.
As non-profit work has become a big part of Lindsay's life, she's been surprised to learn how much it’s enriched her life in so many ways.
It’s given her a greater sense of perspective and gratitude but it also gives her that feeling like she's contributing to the world in some way. And it helps when she's in a funk or in a moment of life transition or when she feels like she's sort of failing at everything or trying to sort things out.
It brings happiness and clarity and… it’s the best practice and making sure you don’t sweat the small stuff. When you have a lot going on, and you’re helping others, you just don’t care about what someone’s cousins mom said about you. It just doesn’t matter. You have so much more to do and to give and to worry about. This one is all about how helping others actually helps YOU.
Here are some of the key points Lindsay covers:
️It’s really all about perspective. And you don't care about stupid shit.
️It’s also great because you can make new friends and contacts.
️It makes you more social and just sort of worldly and helps you not live in too sheltered of a world.
️Volunteering as a family - shows your kids first hand how they can actually make a difference.
️For Lindsay, it keeps her grateful, like actually really grateful. When she has a shitty day, she’s able to snap herself out of it quicker because she's like Really Lindsay? Come on, that sucked but we are good girl.
️It can teach you valuable skills - which can translate into career experience and job skills.
️One thing to mention though is that it can be heavy on the heart.
️The best part- all you need is passion and positivity - those are the only requirements.
️It’s great to get outdoors and volunteer, especially if you have a desk job.
️It can provide you with a renewed sense of creativity, motivation and vision that carrels over to your professional and personal life.
Cheers, to all the good that comes from volunteering!
Lindsay is a big fan of meal prep because when it comes to healthy eating, the one strategy that always works is planning ahead. Lindsay talks about how she does meal prep a little different than the traditional way. Rather than preparing meals for the week, she preps ingredients twice a week. This saves a ton of time in the kitchen and gives a ton of variety with my meals for the week.
Lindsay is sharing the tips she's learned for preparing healthy ingredients so I eat how I want to to fuel my body but it also doesn’t get boring and hard to stick to the healthy eating plan.
After we prep, all it takes is a little creativity to combine the ingredients together with items you have in your fridge and in your pantry. Lindsay spends 1 to 2 hours prepping food twice a week and then she can whip up a delish healthy meal in about 10 minutes at any time. So you’re eating healthy and saving time. And we're fully here for both of those things!
Today we are talking meal prep.
Here are a few topics Lindsay covers:
🥘 This whole process that we are going to talk about today makes healthy eating convenient and saves you time.
🥘 Roasted veggies
Mix a bunch that are similar so their cook time is the same.
I’ll do brocolli - 25 mins in 425 oven
Carrots and butternut squash take 45 mins at 425 so I do them together.
🥘 Remember to cook with Avocado Oil and anytime you are using it without heat- use Olive Oil.
🥘 Slow cooker ideas!
🥘 Steam veggies
🥘 You can bake sweet potatoes then cut them into “toast”
🥘 You can buy or make your own homemade hummus and almond butter
- just roast almonds then let them cool them put them in my Vitamix.
Roast 4 cups of almonds for 10 mins, let them cool then blend on high for one minute.
🥘 Chop veggies for dipping in hummus and soak in water - VEGGIE sticks! Chop all at once - its so much easier than washing.
🥘 Use paper towels at the bottom of your glass containers if it’s an item that you feel like it needs it. But make sure you don't use anything with colors or dies since it's touching food.
🥘 You want to use glass containers - and let your things cool before putting them in the fridge.
🥘 You can cut bananas then put almond butter on… then add almonds and chia seeds and some cranberries
🥘 You can add your chicken to your noodles and add marinara sauce to it
🥘 You can do a simple veggies with chicken plate
🥘 Toss lots of the ingredients in a salad
🥘 You can always add nuts and hemp seeds and drizzle with olive oil and balsamic.
🥘 You can use your sweet potato toast with smashed avocado and microgreens and whatever you want on top!
🥘 SO when you are hungry you see all this healthy stuff staring at you and you chose that over hot Cheetos and Oreos.
🥘 It just makes it so much easier to heat healthy.
🥘 I buy organic ingredients -I get that this isnt always an option
If you are eating the skin, try to get organic.
That’s the rule of thumb.
CHEERS to healthy food prep for easy and yummy healthy meals quick style!
Do you want to know the best hack for having awesome days? Surround yourself with awesome people!
This podcast is all about your inner circle- the people you talk to the most and spend the most time with.
We’re talking it in two ways… first, the importance of nurturing relationships that matter to you and not just getting in the routine of having your spouse or your boyfriend or your kids as your closest people… but also the importance of friends and what different people bring to your life.
Lindsay is opening up and sharing the mistakes she made in her 20s when it came to friendships and how it’s really helped her grow and make sure she never makes the same mistakes again.
We’re also talking about auditing that inner circle. Lindsay really thinks the saying is true… you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So let’s be intentional with it. We’re talking about creating an awesome inner circle of people that motivate you, that inspire you, that listen without judging you… all of it!
Here are some of the key points Lindsay covers:
Energy is contagious! Positivity is contagious, negativity is contagious.. it’s all contagious… so let’s make sure you’re around the people
Start trimming your friend group and start adding to your friend group based on who you want to be.
It’s so true… who you hang out with is the best predictor of who you become.
Confidence is contagious. It’s all contagious!!!
What do you want? People who are gossiping or people who are negative… or people who are changing things… and learning and volunteering.
Add one new winner friend and cut one negative friend.
If it's a close family member- just talk to them less.
The power of social media - you can DM people and be motivated- you can listen to podcasts - you can watch TED Talks…. There is no more excuses for how you grew up or negativity around you…
You get the choice- and you have to get away from toxic people.
Do you have one person in your life that sort of messes you up everyday?
Team dynamics - you know how one negative person on a team can bring the whole team down? Is that happening in your inner circle?
You might not even realize just HOW MUCH your inner circle affects you.
Let’s be intentional with it! Cheers, to your awesome inner circle!
This is it!! Your holiday guide for awesome gift giving!
We’re talking about giving the most thoughtful gifts, gifting on a budget, supporting local businesses, not buying just to buy… and doing it all in an organized way so you actually enjoy the process and it’s not stressing at all.
It’s one big planning and ideas chat all about holiday gifting!
Here are some key points Lindsay covers:
Shopping small businesses
Making lists and keeping organied
Have extras
Get lots of your favs
Check out Lindsay’s gift guides
Don't over buy just to buy
Think about personalized things
Think about things people will use all the time
Teachers - look at their favorites page
Gift cards with a gift
No classroom things … or supplies… no home decor items or knick knacks or jewelry
Get one personalized thing instead of lots of little things - it goes a long way
Keep notes of what people mention or like
Don't get what you want them to have - get what they would like most
CHEERS! To giving thoughtful gifts all year round!
It’s hard for us, as full grown adults to navigate all the changes and emotions related to COVID. I really can’t image being a kid going through it.
Lindsay has been researching strategies and ideas for how we can best support our kids during this time. And that’s what this podcast is all about. Lindsay’s top 30 tips for helping your kids navigate COVID in the best way possible.
Lindsay talks about how she’s more worried about the mental health affects of COVID, than the actual virus for them.
It's so important to slow down and take time to listen to them, create new fun family traditions, to get outside and adventure, to celebrate little things and rather than cancelling everything- modify it in a way that you feel comfortable with. We’re taking about setting a good example because they can’t be better than you are.
Lindsay talks about playing music in the house, rather than having the news on. Focusing on what we can do, not what we can’t do. It’s different but also awesome. Let’s go!
Here are a few tips Lindsay covers:
- Be flexible and patient
- Facetime friends and family
- Routine - plan downtime
- Be open and honest - through school closing etc.
- Quarantine friends - make small pod & see how you can comfortably hang out with people
- Listen to them and let them feel the feelings
- Self care for kids- as important as it is for adults!
- Little celebrations!
- New traditions - like Sunday night family movies
- Keep it positive, don't make a big deal about things
- Work on life lessons - laundry, send mail, make smoothies
- Don't cancel everything - modify
- Don't let them be afraid - remind them it's temporary and empower them
- Find masks they like
- Set a good example - they can't be better than you are
- Nightly talks
- More reading - start a book series
- Get creative outside
- Give everyone space - it's a lot of together time
- Don't freak out or make a big deal
- Find afternoon activities that are going on outside that are comfortable
- Music in the house - not news!
- Special treats and experiences at home
- Make the holidays a big deal! Decorating, crafts and baking
- Virtual classes
- Open communication - it's okay to feel sad
- Have something to look forward to
- Focus on what you can do
- Be flexible on what they need - adjust based on what they tell you
- Celebrate!! In little creative ways
Question- does your home feel like a relaxing oasis? Like if you come home from a long day, does it feel like a nice breath of fresh air?
Lindsay talks about how hers didn’t. She had too much stuff… and didn’t realize how badly she needed a purge.
Lindsay is sharing everything she’s learned about purging and how to do it the right way. So that your home feels how you want it to feel. Less stuff, more organized and you feel more calm and relaxed like you’re completely in your happy place.
She's breaking down the three steps that she followed to reach this level of organization through purging that was a game changer for her. First, get rid of anything in your house that you don’t love or use. Then, organize what’s left in a way that really works for you. And step 3, stop buying more shit. Before you buy something, think about whether or not it’s just going to add to the mess in the long run.
Purging is so much more than just taking time to go through things. It’s emotional and complicated and she's getting into all of it in this one!
In this episode, we are talking about party details. The little things that make a celebration extra special.
Whether it’s an adults birthday or a kids birthday, or a holiday party… Lindsay is going through lots of ways to make it special and memorable.
It’s all about those little details and that doesn’t always mean it has to be expensive. Some of Lindsay’s favorite details from events that she's thrown aren’t pricey at all- it’s more about the creative thinking and the personalization and sometimes, getting crafty with a glue gun.
This episode is packed with lots of ideas to make your next celebration unique and personalized and fun! We’re talking about everything from the invitation to a little goodbye gift or treat and everything in between.
Here are some ideas Lindsay talks about:
Incorporate photos into party details
Pictures in frames through the years
Chalkboard signs to personlszie things or hire someone to make signs
Balloons - on your own or with help
Banners - custom or bought as is
Backdrops - wrap in wrapping paper - make a wall out of balloons
Rent things from a wedding planner
Do one big search for inspiration first!
Activity ideas!
Make your own carnival games
SO many fun ideas for your next party!!
Lindsay thinks the number one thing that stops us from doing things we want to do is… judgment.
Maybe you don’t start the business you want to start or don’t post the picture you want to post or actually quit what was a fantastic idea… all because of judgment. Judgment from strangers on social media or even judgment from family or friends… it’s all toxic.
In this episode, we’re going to train ourselves to care more about our opinions of ourselves than anyone else’s opinions of us.
How to condition our minds so that a negative comment on social doesn’t break us and worrying what other people will say doesn’t stop us.
How Lindsay has learned to call out her own fails and misses- so there’s really not a lot that people can say about her- she's already owned up to it and it takes the fire out of it. It lets us all move on from it.
We’re talking about not letting judgment stop you from doing whatever it is that you want to do.
A few key points from this podcast:
There are a lot of people who will quit what was a million dollar idea.
Who wont ever make the podcast that will set their soul on fire.
And will stop doing the thing that was genius because someone was mean to them on social.
So the easiest way is to limit what you consume on social. But sometimes it can still get to you.
Here’s the thing for Lindsay - any minutes she spends being upset about what a stranger says to her is minutes she's not spending cuddling her kids or building her business…
In the slowing down of 2020… it's made her think about all this stuff so much more.
It’s crazy that people take the time to consume your content then leave a negative comment on it.
Like her podcast, when she sees a negative post or comment - she first sees if there is something constructive in there- and if not, she tosess it. She doesn't let it penetrate.
Because if you’re putting yourself out there and doing things you wont be for everyone.
Heres the thing- that comment isnt about you- that comment is about the persona that someone has made up about you or its THEIR issue, not yours.
Lindsay honestly thinks… shit they must be so unhappy. Thank goodness I don’t have to go home carrying all that stuff with me.
Lindsay doesn't let anyone else judgment override her own opinion of herself.
Own your losses! If you call it out, there’s no fire to it.
Letting someone else dictate your life is immediate unhappiness.
Because you don't have control.
When you’re 92 and youre thinking back- you wont care what that stranger said - or your aunt who’s unhappy.
What are you stopping?
Lindsay hates how many people are judging without knowing. You are judging and you have no idea what is going on in their homes.
We all have short comings. Why cant we say - I'm good at this but not at this?
Are you really going to not lead your life because of someone’s anonymous comments dictate your behavior?
You can ACTUALLY end up thinking these thoughts
It's your fault you aren't doing your thing… you’re letting it in!!
You give up on listening - and you’re clean and you can go!!!
Here’s the thing… you only have so much time.
You have one life- it's much better to live it for yourself than someone else.
Judgment is the ultimate dream killer and it can completely control us. This episode is all about how to break free from that and do whatever it is that you want to do!
And that’s awesome!!
Lindsay thinks the number one thing that stops us from doing things we want to do is… judgment.
Maybe you don’t start the business you want to start or don’t post the picture you want to post or actually quit what was a fantastic idea… all because of judgment. Judgment from strangers on social media or even judgment from family or friends… it’s all toxic.
In this episode, we’re going to train ourselves to care more about our opinions of ourselves than anyone else’s opinions of us.
How to condition our minds so that a negative comment on social doesn’t break us and worrying what other people will say doesn’t stop us.
How Lindsay has learned to call out her own fails and misses- so there’s really not a lot that people can say about her- she's already owned up to it and it takes the fire out of it. It lets us all move on from it.
We’re talking about not letting judgment stop you from doing whatever it is that you want to do.
A few key points from this podcast:
There are a lot of people who will quit what was a million dollar idea.
Who wont ever make the podcast that will set their soul on fire.
And will stop doing the thing that was genius because someone was mean to them on social.
So the easiest way is to limit what you consume on social. But sometimes it can still get to you.
Here’s the thing for Lindsay - any minutes she spends being upset about what a stranger says to her is minutes she's not spending cuddling her kids or building her business…
In the slowing down of 2020… it's made her think about all this stuff so much more.
It’s crazy that people take the time to consume your content then leave a negative comment on it.
Like her podcast, when she sees a negative post or comment - she first sees if there is something constructive in there- and if not, she tosess it. She doesn't let it penetrate.
Because if you’re putting yourself out there and doing things you wont be for everyone.
Heres the thing- that comment isnt about you- that comment is about the persona that someone has made up about you or its THEIR issue, not yours.
Lindsay honestly thinks… shit they must be so unhappy. Thank goodness I don’t have to go home carrying all that stuff with me.
Lindsay doesn't let anyone else judgment override her own opinion of herself.
Own your losses! If you call it out, there’s no fire to it.
Letting someone else dictate your life is immediate unhappiness.
Because you don't have control.
When you’re 92 and youre thinking back- you wont care what that stranger said - or your aunt who’s unhappy.
What are you stopping?
Lindsay hates how many people are judging without knowing. You are judging and you have no idea what is going on in their homes.
We all have short comings. Why cant we say - I'm good at this but not at this?
Are you really going to not lead your life because of someone’s anonymous comments dictate your behavior?
You can ACTUALLY end up thinking these thoughts
It's your fault you aren't doing your thing… you’re letting it in!!
You give up on listening - and you’re clean and you can go!!!
Here’s the thing… you only have so much time.
You have one life- it's much better to live it for yourself than someone else.
Judgment is the ultimate dream killer and it can completely control us. This episode is all about how to break free from that and do whatever it is that you want to do!
And that’s awesome!!
Today, Lindsay is sharing her 20 favorite tips for sticking to your fitness routine.
We’re going to talk about setting up a routine that works for your life and how to make a plan that you stick to. How to keep up the momentum and get the momentum back when you’ve lost it.
How to find fitness that is fun for you so you don’t dread it and how to change it up when you need to. We’re talking about planning ahead and getting outdoors and just doing the best you can each day and knowing that's not the same everyday.
Lots of other things like getting yourself workout clothes that you like and are comfortable and preparing your playlist and or audiobooks and podcasts ahead of time.
We’re getting into why it’s important to know your goals and why this is a priority in your life.
Here are a few points that Lindsay talks about:
🏼 Make a routine of it - and one that works practically
🏼 Plan ahead so you stick to it
🏼 Do fitness that is FUN for you so you dont dread it and change it up if you need to
🏼 Get outdoors!
🏼 Do the best you can - it's different everyday
🏼 Treat your workouts like an appointment
🏼 Give yourself some grace
🏼 For some people - buddy system
🏼 Try new types of workouts - I believe in muscle confusion
🏼 Get workout clothes that you like!
🏼 MUSIC YOU LOVE!
🏼 Podcasts and audio books
🏼 Keep the momentum going- and when you lose it- get right back on
🏼 Even if you are short on time - do something
🏼 Know your goals and know your why!
🏼 CELEBRATE!!! Lindsay’s favorite way is with a massage!
CHEERS to sticking to your fitness routine!
In this episode, we are talking about so many little things that you can to do make your mornings run smoothly. So you aren’t rushed and stressed and late and forgetting things… instead it’s calm and organized and efficient.
Even if you have little kids in the house.
Lindsay is sharing a few of her favorite books on this topic and the best lessons she’s learned from them.
The way your day starts sets the tone for the day. So let’s make a plan so we are never stressed and rushed and crazy!
You know when you have such a crazy morning that you finally have a second to stop going in 100 directions and you look at the clock at it’s 9am and you’re like oh my gosh I’m exhausted it feels like it’s been a full day already.
We’re going to hack that today! How to organize your evenings so you are ready for the next day, and how to set-up the most efficient routine for the mornings so they run smoothly.
No more morning craziness for us!
Here are a few key points that Lindsay covers:
This is one of those topics that Lindsay wishes she would have researched long ago because now that she's read about all this stuff, she's like… how did I keep doing the same thing over and over and not realize it wasn’t going to change and there had to be a better way?
Lets think of what your goal is:
Do you want more time for yourself
Do you want time to work out?
Do you want more time to get ready?
Do you just not want to be frazzled as you try to get out the door?
Finding time for yourself allows you to be so mcuh better at ALL the other things!!
Wake up early - go to bed early - none of this works if you are going to bed super late.
If you read the 5am club- its a great book for morning routine.
They say 7.5 hours is the sweet spot for having the most productive days.
Lindsay tries to be in bed at 930 and asleep by 10 and wake up at 5am.
Lindsay does the same thing on the weekends- she just pushes it back an hour - she wakes up at 6 and go to bed at 11am. She keeps pretty much the same routine. It keeps the momentum. But you have to go to bed at the right time. And it doesn’t have to be drastic- just go to bed a half hour earlier than you are and wake up a half hour earlier … baby steps!
You know she loves an alarm on your phone to remind you of who you want to be etc.
So she has alarm at 8:30pm that basically says you have one hour before your ass is in bed.
Plan what workout you are going to do - so you dont loose time in the am!
Wake up without distractions - listen her podcast episode about a great Morning Routine podcast… she goes into lots of this.
We want to make sure that your mind is not distracted. Lindsay turns her phone off airplane mode so she can make sure nobody needs her or there isn’t something urgent- but she's not checking email or social media. Once you turn it on- you can get into overwhelm.
Move your body early - have your workout clothes laid out! Saves you time!
Have breakfast planned - so none of this is like ok let's figure out what the hell is the plan for breakfast.
If you have kids, have a plan for their lunch or have lunches fully packed. Just think about whatever could end up taking your morning sideways and do it ahead of time!
Pick out clothes - layout 2 options so if the weather is different or they dont feel like one option, we aren't ending up in the closet together for 2 minutes. It’s such a great routine to teach your kids too. Take the time while you have it to plan for the next day and really think about what you want to wear etc.
THEN tackle your most important 3 things. You have to go to bed with intention and know what your big goals are. It makes it less overwhelming! Just 3 things that you would love to get done. And do those first, when you are the most fresh.
Next up - face the hardest thing first!
There is a book called EAT THAT FROG
It's all about doing your hardest thing of your day first.
Take the most time consuming thing, or the thing you usually dread and eat that frog.
Then, reward yourself. For me it’s always yummy food!
Also- drink your water early! We are talking about front loading your day here. You have the most energy- you aren’t tired, you are your best. Let’s get those most important things done first.
GOOD FOOD GOOD MOOD!!
Plan for healthy eating. Food prep, etc.
The minute you eat fast food or crappy food that you didnt want to eat- you’re done. You’ve lost your energy, your body won’t function the same.
FOOD is FUEL. You dont want sugar and junk slowing you down. And lots of times we just do this because we are in a RUSH. So we are going to crush that rush.
Ok so this one is awesome - at night - Lindsay challenges you to read 10 minutes at night. She loves audio books and online courses but she swears it’s the best habit. She gets through one book a month now with just 10 minutes a day. It’s amazing! This podcast is about morning stuff but it’s honestly all the same. Going to bed on time and with a clear mind is so key for the happy and non-stressed morning.
The night before - lay everything out organized so you aren't dashing like whereeee is this?? Lindsay tries to put things in the same place and have them ready to go!
An awesome morning leads to an awesome day, so let’s plan for it!!
Cheers!
Today on the podcast, we’re talking about two simple words that can be oh so hard to say.
I’m sorry.
But really, why is that?
We are all human, we are going to make mistakes and we can’t avoid saying “I’m sorry” because we have so much ego wrapped up in not being wrong.
It’s like you’re owning up to whatever happened, you’re acknowledging your fault it in and you allow the person to move on and you allow yourself to move on too.
Lindsay has done podcasts on forgiveness before but this one is a little different. It’s all about establishing a relationship with words “I’m sorry.” It often can’t change what happened, but it can change how long it goes on, or the resentment attached to it and also… it shows that you are being upfront and honest and vulnerable in the best way.
We’re talking all about the I’m sorry’s today!
Here are some of the points Lindsay covers:
When to say I”m sorry, what to say, what not to say…. and what does a proper apology even look like?
In business and in life… it’s a sign of strength not weakness.
It's hard because we get defensive.
When you’re sort of ashamed - its hard to continue.
When you know that you’ve wronged somebody- you just feel like something isn't right. Like a rock in your shoe.
A weight is lifted once you apologize.
You take responsibility - and you’re less likely to do it again.
Even if they havent fully forgiven you - you’ve done your part.
If they do forgive you- that's even better.
It's like a deep cleaning at the dentist.
Don’t say… Im sorry that you felt that way- that isn't sincere.
An apology is when you apologize for your action -not the result of that action
That is what taking ownership looks like
It's vulnerable and raw - dont play the victim though
Past, Present, Future
Listen I messed up - past
Im very sorry - present
And I will try my hardest not to do it again - future
Now how can I make the present moment better? FORWARD MOMENTUM
This is so much better than sitting guilt, shame and vicim mentality.
You aren't indebted to anyone else.
Ask yourself- do you want to stay stuck or do you want to move forward?
You can liberate yourself!!
Be grateful for the lesson and move forward
Some people have a hard time forgiving ourselves and other people have a hard time forgiving others.
We’ve all made plenty of bad decisions - and hurt other people in some way
And promise to be more mindful and try not to do it again or something you didnt do or overlooked.
Not forgiving is a form of self imprisonment.
It takes a lot of your own self love to apologize.
I'm still a good friend - I’m going to own that and I’m going to apologize.
It doesn't mean that you’re any less of a person - you cant get down on yourself and run yourself down
It's great for your self esteem!!
Sometimes - it’s just saying I’m sorry is enough.
We need to try not to always rationalize ourself within that.
ALSO- the correct way to accept an apology.
When the person is ready to apologize, stop putting your foot on the gas and keep going with it.
With kids- it's SO important.
We cant add SHAME into how we teach our kids to apologize
We need to make it easy- not hard for them to apolozie - you know how we are like - SAY YOU'RE SORRY RIGHT NOW!!!
These kids havent been molded by society - we learned these habits- let's break the cycle and learn a new cycle
Today can be day one- dont regret it or beat yourself up. Just think of this as a new start. You know better and you do better.
When saying I’m sorry with your spouse… research says men listen for 3 sentences. So plan what you want out of the conversation. DO you want an action to be taken? Do you want to be heard? Do you want an apology?
Do you want them to do something differently? Know going into it …
"It really hurt my feelings when you said that comment."
THEN YOU STOP TALKING - you have their attention.
You cant expect the person to have the perfect response.
It might take her time to reflect and digest and come back to you.
Know that you got it off your chest - and your side of the conversation feels good.
You cant expect them to give you exactly what you are looking for
You knew you were coming in with this conversation - they could be surprised by it.
And often times people are defensive - and you have to be ready for that.
Allow them space to come back to you if you feel like thats needed. It might not be solved at that moment.
Being able to say “I’m sorry” is just so good for you, and good for the people you love. Cheers to healthy, happy apologies!
One of the biggest lessons of 2020 is we have to be able to pivot.
Lindsay thinks that changing your mind is often seen as a bad thing but it’s actually brilliant. It means we are learning and we’re growing and we’re willing to adjust when things need adjusting.
Lindsay thinks that by not pivoting we sometimes allow ourselves to stay stuck. So many people have had their lives turned upside down this year.
So many things that many of us have worked for... didn’t happen because of Covid or weren’t at all what we hoped or thought they would be.
And as much as it feels awful at the time Lindsay thinks sometimes a good kick in the gut can benefit you. It can force you to be tougher… and it can force you to pivot.
Lindsay talks about how she used to be resistant to pivoting because she felt like she was accepting that she was doing something the wrong way just before the pivot. But that’s all wrapped up in crazy unnecessary ego. Lindsay is talking about why she loves the whole concept of pivoting and why she thinks you will too!
In this episode, we’re squashing MOM GUILT. Now, we are all going to have conflicting feelings from time to time but today we are hitting pause during this episode to really shift our mindset around feeling guilty as a mother.
Ok, so this is what we are going to do. We are going to figure out what our values and prates are and make sure they are actually ours and not ones we have adapted thinking they are ours - when actually they are societies or from people we know or things we see on tv or social media.
This is our own individual journey of motherhood. And it’s going to change and it’s going to fluctuate so we are going to get a good system down for making the best decisions for right now, then not feeing guilty.
Lindsay's goal by the end of this episode is to help you feel free. Free from the paralyzing feeling that we aren't doing enough or we are missing moments… and instead realizing that you have to feel fulfilled as your own human too. You can’t pour from an empty cup and your people want your energy more than your time. Realizing that most of it is probably in your head, and you’re agonizing over something that doesn't exist and wasting precious time with your kids by worrying. You are doing a great job and you aren’t going to feel guilty for being your own independent and productive and happy human, in addition to being an awesome mother.
Here are a few key points Lindsay covers:
️ Guilt vs. shame.
Lindsay thinks guilt can be a helpful took to recalibrate.
Shame is not good - that's what we are working to avoid here.
️ Shame - when you made a mistake as a mom- thats a different topic- lets take that off the table for now. Like when you lost your cool with your kid, make a mistake etc.
️ Dont keep it a secret.
Lean into vulnerability
Lindsay says it out loud- it helps her learn from it.
Plus your guard is down so others are willing to show up and share their stories and embrace vulnerability.
️ Being able to step into vulnerability in our everyday interactions and also be mindful.
Not everyone has earned the right to share your shame story. Tell the people who you can tell and then you have SUPPORT!! And you aren't feeling isolated! We should never feel lonely.
️ So be brave- let your guard down - you will see that most of these feelings are the most universal!!
Everyone feels like this!
️ SHOULD - messages that we get from society.
Sometimes it come storm our own idea- our mom friends - our culture - these expectations are often reinforced my media culture.
️ But what we have to do … is think of what WE should do.
️ The point is to be who you should be- according to your own priorities.
️ Let's unhook from what others think we should be and how we should be.
️ So we need to be fully aware - of what is important to us and what we have decided vs what we are getting from society.
️ And we are going to constantly recalibrate.
️ And know and understand that if we arent happy and WHOLE- we aren't giving them the best of us. So whatever it is that you need - a facial, a night out with your friends… yes you miss those minutes with your kids…
But you also come back FULLY whole and so happy to feel alive and like your own human for an hour or a night … and same thing with vacations.
️ It's HARD- Lindsay tells a story about her husband going on an upcoming trip without her. She decided to stay with the kids. It’s a give and take and always a compromise.
️ Make the best decisions you can for each day- then move on. Decide, then go ENJOY IT! Don't go on vacation and call them 700 times and talk about how guilty you feel.
️ In fact, Lindsay thinks you should stop even talking about it at all - especially AROUND your kids.
️ Lean into showing up - connect with the right others - be able to offer empathy and through our connections -to be more aware of socities proirtieis so you know what is yours and actually not yours
Then you can explore and redefine what is important to you - and what motherhood looks like.
️ If you’re pregnant- Lindsay thinks you should spend time NOW reading and listening to podcasts on this stuff so you are ready for this stuff- and you’ll have tools to handle your feelings.
️ Lindsay also thinks we should also be open to therapy!! It can be such a great tool and resource! Again- this opens it up.
CHEERS, to no more mom guilt!
Let’s make this the holiday season of giving! And volunteering and helping those in need. There are so many ways you can do it!
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing how she started her non-profit, The Happiness Project, and how you can volunteer using the same plan.
It’s grass roots and it’s directly impacting people who need it. Lindsay shares how you can figure out what inspires you to figure out WHO you want to help and HOW.
Lindsay explains how this is one of the most fulfilling things she does and she thinks it will be a 10 for you too. You can donate your time, your money, or both. And it doesn’t require a ton of either! You can use your network of family and friends to get involved and help out too.
And it’s SO GOOD for our kids! To actually HELP others is so good for all of us, but especially for our kids. Lindsay gives you lots of ideas of how to get your kids involved too!
It’s a feel good episode all about helping people in need this holiday season and all year round.
Thanks for listening! Share pictures of things that you do by tagging Lindsay on IG @LindsaysCloud.
Cheers, to helping others!
It’s time for a good self audit. It’s a value audit.
How are you spending your time?
How are you spending your money?
Lindsay talks about how a lot of us have an idea of what we think our values are - but unless we audit the process… we actually have no idea of what our values are.
It's not our perception of how we are spending our time and money… it's how we are really doing it.
Then ask yourself- it aligned with what you think and say you stand for?
There is often a gap between the desired values and the actual values.
The intention needs to be transferred into real behavior.
Lindsay shares the process of how she’s does a weekly self audit and how she thinks you should too!
Connect with Lindsay on Instagram @LindsaysCloud and let us know how you do this in your own life!
CHEERS to our journey to become our most awesome selves!
Today, Lindsay is talking about the “disease of more.” More stuff and always wanting the “next level” of everything. When perhaps we could be missing the really awesome things we have set-up right now.
She shares her journey to buy less and purge more. And to have less attachment to “stuff” and end the never fulfilling cycle of buying more.
Lindsay talks about getting in your 10s each day and how that can help you focus on what’s important in your life.
As a recovering “more is more” type person, Lindsay shares how she’s now learned that life isn’t always about reaching the next level- but more about trade-offs. Going through how important it is to know your values so you can make the right decisions each day. Focusing on gratitude and teaching our kids to appreciate what we have.
We’re talking about enjoying what we have now, while still being driven to reach our goals. It’s a tricky balance and can be complicated to work through.
Listen in today as Lindsay shares openly about her realizations and how she is self-correcting how she does things. Share what you thought my sending Lindsay a message on Instagram @LindsaysCloud.
Thanks for listening!
Lindsay has a special guest on today’s podcast… it’s her daughter Presley that is 8 1/2 today! Which is so perfect because that’s what we’re talking about! How to celebrate half birthdays at home! Talking about ways to do it simple and inexpensive and other ways to do it more extravagant and pricey
Maybe you’ve missed a big birthday this year due to COVID and you want to make up for it with an awesome half birthday celebration! OR you just want to start a little tradition at home of celebrating half birthdays in your family.
It’s a fun podcast with lots of ideas of how to make that halfway to the next year extra special!
On this podcast, Lindsay gives you ALL sorts of COVID-safe ways to do Halloween this year.
We’ve missed so much this year - Halloween can’t be canceled! Just adjust it so you feel comfortable!
Lindsay shares how she would have a little party inside if you don’t feel comfortable going out or make a plan to trick-or-treat wit distance and safety in mind if you’re going out.
Lots of ideas to get you thinking and planning ahead of time.
Listen in and share your ideas with Lindsay by pinging her @LindsaysCloud on IG!
Happy early Halloween!!
How to be awesome at being a working mom.
This is a HUGE topic! And one of the most requested ones!
Lindsay is sharing what she’s learned in her 10 years of being a working mom and sharing hundreds of responses she got when she asked some key questions on Instagram.
There are so many small little awesome hacks in here and also some big picture concepts here!
Here are the main topics that Lindsay covers:
✨How do you use the help of babysitter/nanny/assistant to make it all work
✨Getting through the feeling of having no downtime
✨Helping your kids thrive when you feel like you're barely surviving
✨Having enough time to spend quality time with your kids and managing a work/life balance
✨Having time for yourself
✨Struggles with ending stress from your work day
✨Mom-guilt
✨Time management and motivation
✨Prioritizing and completing your tasks
Let’s make it work together! 🌟
What is your definition of success for yourself? Lindsay has this theory that so many of us are chasing things that aren’t important to us because of somebody else’s definition of success. It could be your parents or your community or social media or by actually comparing yourself to what your friends or strangers are doing. Lindsay thinks that so many of us actually KNOW what it is we want to be spending most of our time doing and what equals happy and fulfilled days and years for ourselves. But we don’t allow ourselves to really follow that path because of what we think other people or society says about that dream or goal. Today we are really digging through what success looks like for you. Let’s unlearn what we’ve been taught, put ear plugs in so we don’t hear the judgment or the opinions of others and figure out you will regret least, then work backwards. Let’s do this… 1. Write down everything you are chasing. Your goals your dreams. Anything you are currently pursuing. 2. Ask yourself what is the source of that... Where did you get that idea? Is it from your parents? Is it from social media? Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted? OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? In our community- the most successful people are often what we want to be. We tell ourselves we have to be that to be successful 3. Let’s make sure you are working based on your own idea of success… not what society says success is. By doing this- you filter out the noise and you hear just yourself. 4.Put earplugs in - and don't hear other people's opinions or what other people VALUE as success. Lindsay also thinks we often confuse inexperience for being unqualified. If we haven’t done it we assume we aren't good at it. This is why she loves learning new things! Take the next month- and try 4 new things Join an online Course - audiobook or podcast. In a month you will have learned what you would have learned in a year. Most of us try one new thing a year. 5. WRITE A LIST!!! WHY did I like it - or WHY did I not like it Which is so important Do I want to do it again? That's when you start uncovering what you really love! THIS is why I talk about my 10s so much. FIND YOUR 10s!! You don't know until you give it a go and ask yourself if you enjoy it. Lindsay talks about the concept of being a “stay at home mom.” She talks about knowing so many women that are such incredible mothers and they feel fully fulfilled doing this- and they have the luxury of not having to work yet they don't feel like it's enough- not because they don't - but because they think society says its not enough. She thinks we need to do more of what we enjoy! If you don't know what your purpose is - that's the best part... it's about the journey! The pressure of finding your purpose will stop you from finding your purpose. What are you good at? What do you love doing? What is your compassion for the world? What problem do you want to solve? And accept that it can CHANGE. It doesn't always have to be the same!! TRY lots of things! Lindsay also talks about celebrating your WINS! We often spend more time on our losses. Let’s figure out what our idea of success is, then celebrate it as we go!
Today, we’re talking about parties!! And specifically, capturing the right pictures at your event.
It’s so easy to spend so much time and money planning for your party, but then not actually capture all the different parts of and the special moments.
Celebrating and parties are so much fun and the photos are the best way to remember the moments and the details. Lindsay breaks it all down in this one!
Lindsay’s photographer- if you’re in OC… she highly recommends him!
Greg Loza
greg@belleamiestudios.com
Here are some of the tips Lindsay covers:
📸 Make sure you have someone designated to take the photos - so it’s not on you!
📸 Take the photos 30 minutes before the party actually starts so you aren’t trying to get the shots during the party.
📸 Give your list to your photographer a week ahead of time so they can digest it.
📸 Have your vendors in place 30 minutes before party start too so you can take pictures of the entire event.
Here is your party photo checklist!
📸 Family group picture in front of dessert table
📸 Family group picture in front of the other backdrop
📸Traditional birthday girl or a boy in front of the dessert table
📸 Fun or creative picture of birthday person in front of the dessert table
📸 Traditional birthday girl or a boy in front of the photo booth
📸 Traditional photo of birthday girl or a boy with siblings… either at dessert table or other backdrop or in a place that captures the entire party ambience
📸 Birthday girl or boy with both parents
📸 Wide shots of the party set up in the ambience
📸 And detailed photos of all the special elements… Dessert table and activity tables… Drinks and food
📸 Bring one of the invitations if you did a live invitation
Some optional ones you might want to throw in…
📸 Each parent individually with the birthday girl or boy
📸 Photos with grandparents or special friends or family… have them come 10 minutes early
Then throughout the party…
📸 Mainly follow around the birthday boy or a girl and capture the experience through their eyes
📸 In between that… snag pictures of families together or adults together or the birthday boy or a girl playing with friends
📸 Singing happy birthday back/blowing out candles cake moment
📸 Some sort of goodbye moment… If you are making a photo book it’s nice to have some sort of waving picture or a group picture
Cheers to getting all the right party photos!
Today’s podcast is all about planning for awesome family photos!
What to wear, how to pick a location, how to capture posed pictures, some fun ones and some organic candids to capture the moment in time with your family.
Also talking about how to find a photographer in your area or how to take your own!
How to get some creative shots that are beyond the sort of standard everyone stands together and poses type thing.
We’re talking all about planning your families photo shoot so that you have pictures that you really love, and the process isn’t painful, and it could actually be fun.
Listen in and let us know what you thought! Ping Lindsay on IG at @LindsaysCloud
Cheers to your awesome family photos!
Think about this… do you ever spend time worrying about things you can’t control? Or even worse… do you ever completely freak out about things you can’t control?
Well, this podcast is coming to your rescue.
One of the many lessons of 2020 is that we can’t control everything life will be uncertain, life will be stressing, things will not always be exactly as we plan them out in our minds.
So we have to know that and be ready for it and not freak out when things go sideways. Especially when there’s nothing we can do about it.
Here are a few of the points Lindsay goes through:
*Fall in love with the process of becoming your best self.
*Focus on what you can actually change.
*Fall in love with not knowing. Anxiety comes from overthinking and focusing on the unknown.
*Stop counting your mistakes.
*First- don't react - then think of what you CAN actually adjust. You always have choices.
*You’re allowed 5 minutes to be emotions a day then you have to be a gangster.
*We’re so much stronger than we think we are.
All personal suffering is within your control… it’s the meaning you give to what happens to you. Stop complaining and start creating solutions. *Oprah says - what is the next right move? Rather than thinking too big or getting overwhelmed. Just... the next right move then the next right move.
*Life is about alternatives.
*There is so much negative in unhappiness… But you always have a choice.
*To be happy- watch your mind all day long.
Life is an energy game. Get away from negative energy. You can’t force people to do something they don’t want to do and expect a good results from it. *What you look for you find.
Enjoy this pep talk all about not freaking out over things you can’t control!
What does it look like to be awesome at 100? That’s what we’re talking about today.
Longevity!!
What we should be eating now and how we should be moving so we live a long and very physically functional life.
When we are old… we want to play with our grandkids and our GREAT grandkids and we want to be able to tie our shoes!
So let’s think… how do you want to look, perform and feel when you are 60, 80 and 100?
MOST people are exercising to look good, not actually for health and a long life of movement.
And science basically tells us that if we aren't exercising we are whittling away.
So we need to move! And focus on balance and building muscle and stretching.
Right now, if we fall, most likely nothing happens.
But if you fall later, the probability of something bad happens is so much greater. Don’t let yourself get stiff and lose flexibility.
Muscle is the largest organ in the body and is responsible for so many functions throughout the body and it is for sure the most important organ system to get right when we are talking about aging.
We worry about being overweight but I really think we need to shift our focus. We need to think about being under muscled as much as anything else.
The reality is most of us are under muscled and so many diseases start in the muscle tissues first.
Muscle is one of the ways we can really change our metabolism. When you exercise and you build muscle - muscle builds calories at rest while cardio burns calories while you are actually exercising.
When you’re looking at long term adjustments in metabolism- muscle is the key factor in that.
When you think about the impact of muscle, there is something that happens. When you’re young, your hormones are strong and you can really drive muscle. It is important that we change our diet and exercise as we age.
And if you do take a fall, the higher muscle mass you have - the greater your survivability.
We should really work on building muscle while we have the flexibility to do so.
We know that the higher the protein in your diet- the more muscle mass, the better your bone density is.
Fractures and falls are one of the things that really devastate our older population.
There's a death risk from falling and the chance of dying from a fall is really preventable.
So mid-life optimization of skeletal muscle is so important!
As we age, we start to lose muscle mass and strength and function
So rather than thinking about loosing fat, let's think of it as far as building muscle and strength.
There is SO much more than eat less and exercise more.
Thinking about building muscle instead is so valuable.
Breaking it down… here are the 2 main factors we need to focus on for functioning well as we age…
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Optimizing your nutrition
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Get on a good strength train plan
When we are younger, we have a little grace period - which is good we have some cushion and some time to figure it out.
As we age, as our skeletal muscle becomes resistant- which basically means it does the protein as efficiently as we used to.
We have to change our nutrition- by understanding dietary protein mid-life we can really ward off all the physical aging changes. You know how people get smaller as they get older.
So what is the right amount of protein? We should be eating about 30-50 grams of protein per meal.
You have to change things as your body changes and as you age and your hormones change.
Many of us, especially women are not getting enough protein.
The average woman gets 60 grams of protein a day and 100 for men. That's really low.
So what really progressive dietitians say is that you should have one gram of protein for ideal body weight.
So if you weigh 125 pounds, you should have 125 grams per day. Easy enough right?
You need 30-50 grams of protein per meal to stimulate the muscle tissue. This is KEY!
So you are prob only stimulating tissue once or twice a day if you’re just having 60 grams total in the day.
This is how we get skinny fat. You lose muscle tissue and gain body wait.
Good proteins are just so good for you! It takes more metabolism to burn proteins in the body than carbs so it's more optimal for for your body.
I really think we are dieting and depriving our body of what it needs! Today and for a long life.
Some people think..
If we eat too much protein, it gets converted into glucose in the body. And that’s true but it’s not a bad thing! It's a better strategy to get in your carbs and allow your body to generate the glucose.
The body does require glucose - so the better way to get it is by your body generating rather than consuming it.
Eat the good proteins!!
Like…
-Grass fed beef
-Wild caught fish
-Organic chicken
-Organic eggs
The things is… Protein causes a phase 1 insulin release.
Too many carbs- over 40 carbs per meal causes a phase 2 insulin response. So then you’re chasing your blood sugar all day long which is not what we want.
Meal spacing
The worst thing you can do is graze all day long when it comes to how the body works and longevity.
Small meals all day is a myth - you’ll never turn over that muscle tissue - we want to trigger that muscle tissue.
It's all about the amount of protein you eat at a given time. So make sure you are getting a minimum of 30 grams of proteins per meal.
This will change your metabolism and increase your brain function and keep you feeling strong and alert into your 90s and beyond!!
Cheers, to being awesome at 100!
How to be awesome at not talking shit. Even when it’s tempting and you feel like you can’t resist… Lindsay is going to give you enough reasons not to do it.
And listen, we’re all human… we’re not going to be perfect… but let’s make a collective plan to not talk shit.
And here’s why. We don’t have unlimited time with our favorite people. Your best friends, your family members… it’s just limited. We have commitments and work and kids and lots of things we have to do too. So when you do have that time with them… on the phone or in person or on text, why spend it focusing on what’s bad about someone else?
When you could spend that same time talking about what makes you happy- your 10s of the day!! or the opportunities that you have or the impact you can make on your own or together.
Talking shit is just such a waste of this opportunity and a waste of your energy!!
And if you have kids- your absolute number one reason for not talking shit should be so they don’t hear you - and they will - even if you don’t think they do. And what a great gift to give your kids- an environment where time is not spent bringing other people down. There’s just SO many better ways to spend your time.
A few key points from this podcast:
✨The way we grow up and our environment really shapes how we approach this. You can change it - it just might be harder.
✨Sometimes it might not even be intentional!! You just react and judge.
✨Realize you might have to just let less stuff bother you too.
✨Instead of judging say- GOOD FOR HER … not for me
✨PROTECT YOUR HEAD SPACE!! The time you spend thinking about this is time you can't spend on other things!!
✨You don’t know the rocks in other people’s shoes.
✨Give them the benefit of the doubt- why not.
✨We aren’t perfect- we all make bad decisions sometimes.
✨And if you’re constantly talking shit- people thing- she or he talks shit on everyone… why wouldn’t they talk shit on me
✨Here’s how to stop a shit talking conversation- divert the conversation, change the subject, dominate the conversation, joke the way out of the conversation or just be overly kind and move on.
✨So much more good happens when you suffocate someone starting a conversation shitting on someone else.
✨We are all human beings and sometimes we get into it and don’t really mean to- and maybe we feel gross about it later.
✨Let’s all make a commitment to ourselves to not talk shit. We won’t be perfect but we should really strive for it.
✨Imagine if you didn't waste your precious minutes with your parents or best friends focusing on something negative about someone else.
✨It’s what winning is about. Creating a framework of kindness and optimism not negativity and fear and jealousy.
✨We may not realize even that we might be doing it because we are jealous in some way or it’s sparking as issue we have. Be honest with yourself and work on the issue.
✨Bottom line- there are one million other things that are worth your time talking about than running someone else down. Protect your time and your headspace and don’t let yourself do it.
✨You’ll have more awesome days and you’ll be proud of yourself for putting positivity into the world and help to suffocate negativity.
AND THAT’S AWESOME!!
How to be awesome at lots of little things! PART TWO!
In this episode, Lindsay gets into lots of new topics! She’s sharing her perspective and hacks for being awesome at so many parts of life.
Here are a few topics Lindsay covers:
Home
🏡 Home decor/design tips
🔨 Home renovation tips
👗 Keeping your closet organized
👜 How to be awesome at moving/packing
🛏 How do you keep your house clean all the time!
🙆🏼 Keeping the house tidy with the kiddos home 24/7 it feels like I'm always cleaning
Kids
🛌🏽 Kids sleep! And sleep training
👭🏽 How to be awesome at raising best friend siblings?! Your girls and sun seem like such pals!
🔑 How to be awesome at helping your kids transition in big life changes- new school, moving
🥒 How to navigate extremely picky eaters (toddler).
📱 How to ease your kids off of screen/iPad time
🥦 Healthy breakfast, lunch, and dinner ideas for your kids!
🙋🏼♀️ Being an awesome "room mom"
Health & Fitness
🍲 How to cook healthy + easy meals for your family
🍽 Intermittent fasting
🌿 Update on my functional medicine journey!
🥙 Meal plan/prep and more ideas on healthy cooking at home
🌪 How to not crash at 2-3pm when you wake up at 5 am to workout!
Relationships
🤾 How to deal with a competitive mind/people
🤹♀️ Relationships! Marriage, relationships with kiddos and friends
🐰 Lindsay's parents- the veterinarians
🌝 How to deal with mean moms
Marriage
🌹 How to keep your relationship alive!
💙 Will Craig ever be on a podcast?
❣️ How to be awesome at doting on your husband without feeling neglected
🍸Managing emotions after being quarantined at home all day and hubby comes home
Lots of awesome things!
DM Lindsay and tell her which topics you want to hear more about! On IG @LindsaysCloud
Thanks for listening!
This episode is JAM PACKED with hacks that will change your days.
Here’s the bottom line:
Either your run your day or it will run you.
Here is a message from Lindsay, about this podcast:
Today’s podcast is all about your morning routine. But it’s really so much more than that. It’s about having happy, productive days without feeling overwhelmed.
We are all juggling so much and I think we are all here for ways to get more done in less time so you have more free time and don’t feel buried under your to do list.
In preparing for this podcast, I’ve been researching the morning routine of high performers for months. And I really think I’ve found lots of breakthroughs here. There’s so much we can learn from each other and from other people who have mastered something we are trying to become awesome at.
Here are some of the best lessons I’ve learned that I think will help you craft your ideal morning routine 🌤
First step- wake up on time. Set your alarm and don’t hit snooze.
It's like you're telling yourself - you are in charge.
Then, I think you take one hour totally for yourself. I love this in the form of at at-home workout. Do what you feel like for your mind and your body. This is where I center. Sometimes I listen to podcasts or audio books or watch an online course. Or sometimes, I workout in silence and just think. I’ll think about the day or the week or try to solve a problem or just have quite time to be grateful.
I really think you have to make a morning routine of it so it just happens. There’s no decision to be made each morning. Even if you don't feel like it- do the best you can that day.
Do it before your phone starts going and people start needing you!
Then, take a freezing shower. There are so many great health benefits but also just to be tough for the day.
Then, do your 3 most important tasks of the day. For a few reasons. Studies have shown that you are your sharpest for the first 3 hours of the day. So let's not use that mindlessly scrolling social media or replying to emails.
These 3 things should somehow have the highest impact on your year. They can be small things or big things - sometimes things we procrastinate on actually don't take us very long. Maybe you need to find someone's email that you want to do business with and send them an email- if you just write it down and do the first step- it's often so much easier than you think.
I've procrastinated for so long on some things then when I actually do it, it's like 20 minutes. I'm like holy hell that's been on my list for 3 months and I look at it everyday and do something else.
Then save your other things for later in the day - making doctors appointments and following up on things … you don't need to be your absolute sharpest for those.
Ok so back to social media and emails. You 💯 cannot check these things first thing in the morning. You have to protect yourself and your time. Here’s the thing with social media, it makes you compare yourself to others. Even if you have a really healthy relationship with social media, that’s just the nature of it.
And if you check your emails first thing, then you let your emails control how your morning and your day goes. And you likely will never get to the 3 most important things that will help move you towards your goals. And it makes you operate on the defensive, not the offense. Don't let other people determine what you do, you decide what you want to get done.
Here are a few other nighttime routine tips to think about:
✨ The key to a good morning routine is a good night routine
✨ Get enough sleep
✨ Call a quitting time so you have time to unplug and refresh for the next day
✨ To wind down each night- stretch if that feels good and take a warm shower then make your list for the day.
✨ Don't end up scrolling your phone for hours in bed and going to bed too late
✨ Know what workout you are going to do in the am and layout your clothes.
Some of my favorite tips!
❤️ Try to keep a similar routine on the weekends to keep up the momentum. Adjust it so you have fun, but keep the same general routine.
❤️ Keep your phone in other room or in airplane mode.
❤️ Have your running list going, if you need to, brain dump so you go to sleep with a clear mind and not a racing mind. But don't keep your list in your room. For me, I keep my work pile out of the room, or move it out before bed so I have like a full disconnect from it. It really helps.
Why this morning time is so important
In these clear morning hours, you’ll have the best ideas.
And they become a main point of focus for the rest of your day.
Part of becoming the greatest you, is learning how to let the most powerful you guide you. Let the most powerful part of your mind set the course for your day.
You just have to allow yourself time to have great ideas - give yourself time and space to just think. To figure out solutions. Pay attention to what the genius inside of you is telling you.
When most of us think about the things we have to do - we are overwhelmed - we scroll social media then we go into robot mode. I fear auto pilot in life. We pay the bills, get the groceries.. do all all the things and let our to do list rule our day. It never feels manageable.
So we have to shift to focus on progress rather than to do lists. I love to do lists - but they don't rule my day- progress rules my day instead.
So how do you decide what are your 3 things for the day?
I ask myself - what 3 things I could do that would really make progress towards my goals?
This becomes my focus rather than the overwhelming endless to do list.
These 3 things should be things that are for you. Things that would help you make progress. That’s what should be on your list.
Our game plan
So you’ve woken up the right way, you’ve let your mind wander, you’ve let yourself think of ideas and solutions. To do lists trigger procrastination instead of action. So if we focus on just 3 things, it simplifies it. Sometimes it’s just one step. You’re setting up your brain to make it happen. To do lists trigger procrastination instead of action. So if we focus on just 3 things, it simplifies it. Sometimes it’s just one step. You’re setting up your brain to make it happen. And you aren’t sleeping with your phone!
Not sleeping with your phone will enhance your focus SO much I’m telling you. You will sleep better and have more ideas. You will feel more in control of your day. You’re proactive not reactive. Your genius brain needs this alone time in the morning. You have to find 30 minutes to an hour first thing in the morning before you give your day to everything else. I just think this is so essential making progress and making an impact.
I read one time that the most successful business people don't take meetings before noon. Because they just know they are the most sharp in the first few hours of the day and they would rather get their own priorities done rather than let meetings take the most productive hours of the day.
This is where you can focus the best and you’re thinking about your big picture goals before your day gets high-jacked. I also feel so much happier during my day when I know I’ve been productive early on. I don't feel behind and rushed all day and fighting for time to get to my to do list.
And I’m telling you- you have to have a quitting time. This is a totally new one for me. You have to make yourself stop so your days don't roll into the next.
So you’re making your day shorter and make yourself quit working at a set time.
It’s crazy how much these changes will impact your days
It’s just so crazy that you can get more out of your life when you do less. It’s just by planning your day right. Give yourself deadlines and don’t let your to do list or your email control your day. Let your 3 biggest priorities control your day.
This has been such a powerful thing in my life. I never stopped working.
By setting clear goals, I’m focused on what I need to get done and I do it first.
If you need more boundaries between work and personal, this will help so much. It will give you more time to be present with your family. Let your brain get rest.
And honestly- I still don’t do this some days- just because I spend so much time with my kids - I simply don't always have enough time to do what I want to do.
But when I do set a deadline and actually stick to it, I really feel in control and accomplish more each day with less stress.
Ok so to recap, don't sleep with your phone, take time for yourself in the morning, allow your genius mind to work and not just go on autopilot.
Each of these small steps build on each other. So you can add in one of these tips and keep building on it.
You have a daily routine now that's backed by science that will help you set-up long term success.
Push yourself to get back on track with your routine. That’s why I love a cold shower - it’s like I already did something hard. I already proved to myself that I’m tough and I’m going to do what I tell myself I’m going to do.
I’m telling you by having an awesome morning routine, you’ll accomplish more of your goals and for sure have more awesome days.
Cheers to awesome productive days!
XO
Lindsay
How to be awesome at lots of little things!
In this episode, Lindsay gets into a ton of topics! She’s sharing her perspective and hacks for being awesome at so many parts of life.
Here are a few topics Lindsay covers:
Self Improvement
💁🏼♀️ How to avoid overdoing things as a perfectionist
🧗🏼 How to be awesome at taking risks
🧘 How to get out of a rut/funk
🛌🏼 How to beat the midday slump!
🤸🏼♀️ How to get motivated when you just aren't that day
🙆🏼♀️ How to be awesome at keeping it all going after 6 months of COVID!
Business
📄 How to be awesome at job interviews
💻Work/life balance! Working from home with kids!
Fashion/Beauty
💅🏼 Hair and make-up tips and details about a good smokey eye!
💃🏼 Outfit planning
🛀🏼 The two professional self care treatments I do on the regular
🛍 How to be awesome at the Nordstrom sale!
- Parties/Events *
🍾 How to be awesome at wedding planning
🎁 More on how to throw and host parties!
🎈 How to be awesome at throwing kids parties!
Lots of awesome things!
DM Lindsay and tell her which topics you want to hear more about! On IG @LindsaysCloud
Thanks for listening!
You know sometimes the way you act or the way you speak isn’t actually the way you mean to? And isn’t actually the person you want to be? Maybe you react in a way that you don’t mean to… or you think you are being patient but it doesn’t come across that way to the person you are talking to…
We all have those moments. In this podcast, we are digging deep to first identity how you want to be on the daily and how you want people to describe you.
Lindsay shares two very tactical ways she’s learned to remind herself to be the person she wants to be in the little moments and also in the big moments.
This episode is alllll about identifying what qualities are most important to you, and setting a very practical plan to make sure you are that person on the daily.
Today, we are going to be very self-actualized and honest with ourselves and set-up some new daily habits to be our most awesome selves.
Cheers to your most awesome self, everyday!
Arguments are inevitable. The difference is how you handle them. In this episode, Lindsay is sharing everything she’s learned about arguing with your spouse in the best way possible.
Here are some of the highlights:
❤️ Don't argue when someone is hot
❤️ Play nice - don't say things you don't mean
❤️ If you have a chip on your shoulder and something to bring up- do it at the right time
❤️ Pick your battles- don't pick every battle
❤️ Create a no yelling rule
❤️ Don't make the conversation too long
❤️ Make your points and move on
❤️ Don't argue in front of the kids or other people
❤️ Don't have serious discussions after booze- especially lots of it
❤️ Try to have self control and really pick the right time for it
❤️ Be transparent and say how you feel
❤️ Always be kind even if you’re furious
Lots of great hacks in this one for arguing with your spouse in the best way possible!
How to be awesome at making your kids birthday mornings so special.
Lindsay’s intro to the podcast:
Birthday mornings are my favorite just because it sets the tone for your entire day. If you have the BEST birthday morning, the rest of the day is just awesome. You feel loved and celebrated and so special on your special day. In this episode, I’m sharing all my favorite tips for decorating your kids room and creative ways to give them their presents and how to make the first part of their day extra great. I’m talking about ways to do it on a budget, and ways to do it more extravagant and everything in between.
We all just get one day a year. And for a kid, it’s like the most important day of the year for them, and they remember it. So I think it’s really worth taking the time, and it’s actually really fun, to set-up something special for them. In this episode I’m giving you ALL the ideas!
Some key posts from this episode:
🎈 Start with decorating their room
🎈 Have their presents in their room too, to open in the morning!
🎈 Think about what your child is REALLY into at this moment in time, and build something around that.
🎈 Make a note on your calendar one month before their birthday to plan for their birthday morning set-up.
🎈 Look on Etsy for creative banners or shirts or decor to go with your idea/theme.
🎈 How to fully decorate their room on a $40 budget.
🎈 Consider starting the day with a birthday dessert or treat in bed or as an outing.
🎈 Think about how you can use balloons or decorations from their party if they are having one
🎈 Consider a scavenger hunt
🎈 Even for teens, there are so many ways to make it “not lame” 😂
🎈 Think about it ahead of time and think of what will really make them smile and laugh. That’s our goal!
Happy celebrating!!
Here are some of the topics covered:
PREGNANCY
🍼 What to eat and exercise
🤰🏼 What to pack in your hospital bag to be more comfortable
💗 How to choose a hospital and a pediatrician
🍼 What to register for and how to avoid over registering
💙 Preparing for transition from 1 to 2 kids
🤰🏼 Safe skincare for preg or nursing 👶🏼 Thoughts on pregnancy during COVID
💗 Time frames - nursery and hospital bag
💙 How did you manage your weight and fitness while pregnant
BIRTH
🍼 Be prepared for anything - and open minded - and calm
🤰🏼 What really happens in the hospital right after birth that people don't talk about?
💗 Recovery from c section with baby 2- its rough- you have to listen to the rules - I split my incision
💙 Brother / Sister basket ideas
🍼 Doulas
👶🏼 Visitors/ relatives and setting boundaries
🤰🏼 HELP at home!!
👶🏼 Have someone do the things you DON'T want to do - I made this mistake so many times!!
🍼 Pictures in hospital
💙 Preg hair and makeup and photographer
🤰🏼 I’d stay off your phone in hospital and soak up the minutes just sitting / laying with baby
AT HOME
🍼What you need at home for right after the baby
💗 Favorite newborn products
🤰🏼 Surviving first 24 hours at home with a newborn
💙 Best advice I’ve received / worst
💗 How to manage your other kids and a newborn
🤰🏼 HORMONES- not feeling well after baby is OK and expected
👶🏼 Getting your body back - what to expect and how to feel like yourself again
🍼 Maternity leave
💗 Adjusting back to work after maternity leave
💙 How to manage having a newborn, running a business, parenting 2 other kids
For the first time, Lindsay shares the story of her husband’s health issues and how she’s learned to manage his health and the health of everyone else in the family.
Here are links to the little books that Lindsay is obsessed with to keep all your health information organized:
Adults Record Keeper Health Book
Kids Record Keeper Health Book
Write everything!! If a supplement makes you feel weird
When you had some small procedure done
A few highlights:
❤️ Concierge doctors can be so helpful if you have a specific issue especially
❤️ Get a team of doctors going BEFORE you have issues
❤️ Go when there is a little problem don't wait for it to get bigger.
❤️ Be so proactive
❤️ FUNCTIONAL MEDICINE and why she loves it ❤️ Take time for health before you get sick
❤️ Relax, meditate, reduce stress because stress kills
❤️ BE RELENTLESS- don't take no- keep pushing
❤️ There’s nothing more important than your health. Let’s take care of it!
CHEERS to your health!
It happens.. people are mean. Sometimes it’s people we love, sometimes it’s people we don’t particularly care for, sometimes it’s strangers. But unfortunately, it’s part of life and something we have to deal with.
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing all that she's learned about how to deal when someone is just flat out mean. And doing it in a way that you can walk away from the situation actually feeling good. Not letting it ruin your day, not making it bigger than it needs to be, but also still dealing with it. A few key points from this episode:
Take a breath- don't react right away.
If possible - Smile. Ignore. Walk away.
See their side of things.
Take their negative and turn it positive.
Let people vent and rant, then move on.
Think about yourself- protect your mood, your self esteem, your day.
Don’t lose your cool!
Kindness over everything. Be kind, overly kind. It may feel crazy at first, but it’s the best way to come out of a crappy situation feeling good.
Cheers to handling mean people with kindness!
How to order healthy at ANY restaurant! That’s what we are tackling today!
BIG menus can be so overwhelming… in this podcast Lindsay breaks them down!
She’s sharing tips on how to modify dishes so you can really eat healthy at any restaurant.
Here are some of the restaurants Lindsay covers:
Chipotle
Starbucks
Outback steakhouse
Javiers
Wahoos Fish Tacos
California Pizza Kitchen
Sushi
Macaroni Grill
North Italian
Cheesecake Factory
PF Changs
True Foods
BJ's Pizza
Mexican restaurants
Italian restaurants
Sometimes thinking about what you will order ahead of time helps too! Or even calling ahead if you have questions. That way you don’t have to drill your server during dinner.
So many healthy options at places you might not think of!
ENJOY!!
This episode is all about learning something new through online courses!
Lindsay is obsessed with this way of learning because it's literally like having a best friend who happens to be an expert at exactly what you want to be an expert in.
If you ever say “I’m bored”… you HAVE to try an online course. There is just so much you can learn in so many aspects of life.
There are courses on every topic you can image from health and fitness and learning a language or how to build a website. Lindsay goes through a ton of idea of things you can learn online from people who have spent a lifetime becoming at expert at them.
Here are the online courses that Lindsay mentions in this episode:
💡 Million Dollar Tan - Start Your Own Spray Tanning Business Course
💡 Million Dollar Tan - Take Your Spray Tanning Business To The Next Level Course
💡 Jenna Kutcher Business Courses
💡 Masterclass.com- has a TON of classes by so many well known experts in their field
Keep an eye out for 2 more online courses coming from Lindsay this year.
Let’s keep learning, keep progressing and keep getting more awesome!
When making decisions, if it’s not a “HELL YES” for you… then I think it should be a no. And I’ll explain why.
Life is all about choices and how you spend your time.
The little choices and the big choices make up our whole life.
And if you say no to most things, you leave room for more 10s in your day and for the unexpected “HELL YES’s!”
We are all so busy. Most of us have taken on way too much and are saying yes to way too many things. I think that saying no may be the way out. The way to stop being over-committed and scattered. The way to be intentional with your time and present in the moment.
No isn’t negative, even though we often think of it like it is. This podcast will teach you how to look at “no’s” as positives, because in saying no, you’re saying “HELL YES!” to other things. Things that you really want to do. Things that set your soul on fire. It’s a good start of the week podcast to help us really focus on what we want to spend our time doing and what areas of life we want to see the most growth. Say “HELL YES” to those and no to just about everything else and I think you’ll be happier, have less regret and have more 10’s each day!
Kids and family photo shoots can be tricky! In this podcast, Lindsay shares a ton of ideas of how to make photo shots creative and FUN so you get the best pictures and everyone has a great time!
It’s so cool to get great pictures of your kids with natural smiles and pictures that capture their energy and their expressions at this age.
But sometimes it’s easier said than done. We focus so much on what everyone is going to wear and where everyone is going to stand that by the time your kids or your whole family get in position, it’s like ok now SMILEEE kids!! And sometimes this works, you might get a few smiles out of them but we've learned that the best way to get the best photos of your kids is by making photo shoots fun!
So that’s what we’re talking about today!
Take pictures yourself or hire a photographer to do it or have a friend shoot it. If you’re in Orange County and looking for a professional photographer, my guy Greg is incredible, especially at kids shoots. He’s so great with the kids and has patience for daysss and is always looking for the most creative way to shoot it.
Here’s his info:
Greg Loza greg@belleamiestudios.com
Lindsay talks about how she does a photo shoot for each kids birthday to capture that age and that moment.
Plan ahead and think about what they like doing. What would they walk into and be like Yessss!! I'm so excited for this!
Some ideas: balloons, animals, decorating cookies/cupcakes, pinata, park or beach and a smash cake (always a smash cake!!)
Make sure you do the messiest scene last! Start with a fun one to get the momentum going. If you have any that are more traditional, stick that in the middle so we get everyone having fun first, then sneak that in after.
You have to head over to HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com for so many inspiration images too!
Today's podcast is all about being a FIT MOM! Now this has nothing to do with how much you weigh or how you look… this is 100% about how you FEEL! Do you have energy, do you feel like you can keep up with your kids all day, do you feel fresh and alert like you can really do all the things that you want to in the day?
Here are the 4 things that Lindsay thinks are the most important when feeling mentally and physically fit.
💪🏼 Eating foods that give you fuel
💪🏼 Sweating everyday
💪🏼 Keeping up your momentum
💪🏼 Sleeping!
Lindsay shares practical hacks that she’s learned that help her have energy and want to run around and play with your kids, not just watch them play. But get in there and play WITH THEM!
Take the time you need for yourself, so you can show up for your kids and your family. Make it a priority and keep the momentum going!
This episode is the pep talk you need if you are complaining.
Fair warning- it might be a bit harsh because we’re being honest with ourselves. And there might be a curse word or two in here too just because Lindsay is so passionate about this and sometimes you just can't express it any other way!
So here’s the truth. We need to stop complaining because really nobody gives a shit. They have their own stuff to worry about. And… we’re wasting time! You can only do so many things each day and have so many thoughts each day. These negative thoughts are taking up SPACE. SPACE that can be used for other things that make you laugh and smile and feel alive and inspired.
Let's figure out why we are complaining and let’s get a better plan going.
Let's stop worrying about what other people think
Let's become our own number one fans
Let's not base our past failures on our capabilities in the future
Let's recognize how great we have it living in this time
Let's realize how strong we are. And realize… sometimes we just need to toughen up.
Nobody is doing to feel sorry for you. Who’s going to feel sorry for you? Other complainers? Sorry to be so harsh but it's true.
The only people who feels sorry for you- is other enablers.
It makes for a loosing circle.
Either you are hanging out with people who are bringing you down or lifting you up.
But we bet you everyone you know who is out there doing what makes them happy and winning has zero sympathy for you.
And if you’re complaining, nobody wants to hang around you. Do you want to be around someone who’s happy and looking for the best in situations or someone who’s always complaining about everything?
Instead of having this complaining conversation in your head about what sucks or what's not fair- you have to realize it’s only going to hold you back.
Complaining is easy. Looking for the best in situations is hard, thats everyones not doing it.
Realize that you don’t know what rocks are in someone else’s shoes and give them the benefit of the doubt and move on.
Wake up, tell yourself you’re the fucking best and go out and do shit. Do what you want, do what sets your soul on fire, get in your 10s. But please for your own happiness and for the happiness of others around you, stop complaining.
AWESOME BIRTHDAY CAKES ARE EVERYTHING 🙌🏽🙌🏽
It just makes everyone HAPPY! 🤩
This episode will give you a bajillion ideas for how to make birthday cakes extra special!
Lindsay shares all sorts of ideas when it comes to making your own cake at home, buying a premed cake and adding cake toppers, ice cream cakes, donut cakes and more!
How to choose when to make your own or use a bakery or independent artist baker. What to buy ahead of time online and on Etsy.
It’s a jam packed podcast all about birthday cakes to make your celebration AWESOME!!
Bakers mentioned:
Bang Pop Shop - Brooke - incredibly talented independent artist baker!
bangpopshop@gmail.com
Butter Cream Bakeries- amazing OC bakery- email for orders!
losal@buttercreambakeries.com
Fav cake toppers:
https://merimeri.com
Whatever sucks in your life… we dare you to say…
“AND I LOVE IT”
And all of a sudden, you’re free.
The thought doesn’t scare you anymore.
Because the thought isn’t the problem,
It’s the resistance to the thought.
By actually loving it, you change it’s meaning.
You’re empowered instead of nervous,
Grateful instead of complaining,
Present instead of living in the past.
It is a practical tactic that will help you turn any negative thought into a positive one ❤️
Lindsay first heard of this concept from author, Kyle Cease, who says “and I love that” at the end of any sentence with a negative emotion. She loved this concept and borrowed it to make her own version that works so well in everyday life.
Think…
I love that I'm confused.
I love that I don't get that.
Actually love it - so the negative thought can leave.
Here are a few examples that Lindsay explains…
“I am so nervous to walk into that room and make a presentation in front of all of those people… AND I LOVE IT.”
“I can’t believe after 20 years of friendship I’m moving on from them… AND I LOVE IT"
“I am so mad I wasted years on that project that didn’t work out… AND I LOVE IT.”
“I am so tired and worn out from my kids… AND I LOVE IT"
I’m going to start a podcast and people are going to ask me why I’m qualified to start a podcast… AND I LOVE IT!
I’m going to try this hard workout and look like a FOOL… AND I LOVE IT!
I’m going to quit my job because I’m only staying for the benefits but I have NO IDEA what I’m going to do next..… AND I LOVE IT!
I’m going to go out on a limb and try this thing again even though I failed last time… AND I LOVE IT!
I’m going to train for a marathon even though I’ve never really ran in my life… AND I LOVE IT!
Add “AND I LOVE IT” to the end of any sentence that describes something that sucks in your life and see if you can turn it into something positive. I bet you you can. And I bet you it will feel awesome!
In this episode, Lindsay walks you through how to get ALL of your photos put into online photo albums and printed so you can enjoy all the amazing pictures you likely have just sitting on your phone!
Lindsay is sharing her favorite website to make photo books on and how I do it so they are great quality, but they don’t take hours and hours to do. This is one of those speed over perfection things that she talks about. We aren't trying to make the most perfect photo book of all time… most of us just don’t have that kind of time and that’s why we don’t have as many already made as we would like. Let’s simplify it and make a plan to get ALL of your photos made into photo books.
Here are some main points:
📸 Organize photos before you upload them
📸 Use Shutterfly!! (Use their coupon codes!)
📸 Do big book and a copy in a smaller version
📸 You can be as detailed as you want with it- add stickers and backgrounds and words
📸 Make a big list of all the photo books you want to make!
📸 Make sure you have all older photos made digital! I use Smooth Photo Scanning!
📸 For catching up, decide do you want to do it all at once like do 6 hours on a Saturday … or tell yourself you are going to do one a week?
📸 Then make a plan to keep up on them going forward!
We really hope this episode inspires you to get all of your photos together, simplify so it’s not overwhelming and just go for it.
We know it’s a daunting task to think of… but like anything… just take one step forward and you’re on your way!!
You’ll be so happy you did!
Traveling during Covid!!
How to pick where to go, how to plan ahead so you're cautious and taking precautions to keep your family healthy, the extra things that we think you should pack that you wouldn’t normally… and then after ALL that… how to let loose and have fun! And not have all the new steps and rules get you frustrated and over it. Vacations do look different this summer, but they aren’t cancelled.
Here are some of the tips Lindsay talks about:
🌴Consider a staycation if you want to avoid air travel
🌴Bring lots of masks and sanitizer
🌴Pack smart - don't over pack - you already have enough stuff to deal with
🌴Pick somewhere outside with lots of fresh air
🌴Pack extra snacks
🌴Pack your own booze
🌴Pack entertainment for kids or plan to hit a shop
🌴Room service might be your new BFF with restaurants closed
🌴Most places aren't taking cash- plan ahead for that
🌴Call ahead and make dinner reservations - since most hotels only have half the places open- they fill up fast!
🌴Think about what each person will do- since options are more limited and make sure its a good plan for everyone in the family
🌴Relax and enjoy- worrying about Covid too much can make you crazy and - if you decide to do it- I say you take all the precautions then you relax and enjoy. It’s easy to get so worked up about it all that you don't actually enjoy your time away.
Like so much of everything right now, sometimes we have to just slow down and be patient… understand that things that used to be easy now take 10 steps… but it just is what it is right now.
Getting mad at people isn't going to help… getting easily frustrated is just going to put a damper on your vacation.
We hope you are able to plan a getaway this summer… and spend that special time with people you love. Even if it looks totally different than it did in years past. You’re still together, having fun. And that’s what you’ll remember. ❤️
This is not about being thin or loosing weight- its just about feeling good- good AFTER you eat and good in general!
So today I’m going to give you a TON of good ideas of what to eat when you want a snack that will make you feel good. It’s all about being prepared.
Here are some of Lindsay’s favorite healthy snacks!
🥜Paleo bread with PB toasted
🍫PB Bars from Perfect Foods
🍏Apples and almond butter
🌰Choc dipped almonds
🍪PB protein cookies
🍫HU chocolate bars
🥤Protein shake
🥣Almond flour baking - simple mills brand mixes
🍪Capello brand cookie dough
🍭Dream pops - chocolate lion
🌱Vegan Robs cauliflower puffs
🍽Siete almond flour tortilla chips
🌰Marcona almonds dipped in PB
And some tips!
Take dessert to the restaurant
Choose when to really indulge
🥦Have protein around to snack on - like veggies or chicken breasts
🥗Eat a salad or veggies to fill up then eat your treat
We really hope this podcast gave you lots of new healthy snacking ideas so you can really fuel your body with good foods while also feeling full and satisfied. Because we really think we don't have to choose!
Cheers, to healthy snacking!
Ready for my best hack for having awesome days?
GET IN YOUR 10s!!
The things that you love doing, or love eating or drinking, or the things that make you feel alive and refreshed and ready to charge the world…
Today we are going to figure out what your 10s actually are… and then how to get them.
AND … help your loved ones get in THEIR 10s!
Think about it… the next time you go to stop your spouse or your kids from doing something think… could I just like give a little on this so they can get in this 10 for the day?
Lindsay explains how thinking about it this way, just makes it easy to prioritize things and make sure you are doing things everyday that you love. Cause as we know… it’s all the little things that matter.
And it’s simple… it’s micro… it’s daily… it’s just being intentional about getting in the little things and the big things each day that make you feel alive and set your soul on fire.
Let’s start with a brain dump!
Every time you do something that was fun, or you loved or you would say “that was a 10 for me”… write it down! You have to know what your 10s are so you know what to get in each day.
Here are some of Lindsay's...
A great workout with loud music
Waking up super early and getting workout shower get ready before anyone wakes up
Wearing something comfortable that she loves
Having her favorite Malibu farms salad
Having her 120 shake
Playing with Parker in his man cave
Going in the pool with her kids
An outside hike
A champagne pineapple
Recording a really great podcast
Having an organized house
Just some examples to get you thinking! And they will change over time!
One of the best parts about doing this is that it makes you worry less about what other people are doing.
It helps you work through issues by giving your kids or your spouse some leeway too… because you love them so much you want them to be HAPPY. You could be controlling that and not realize it actually!
It also makes you spend less time doing mindless things like watching pointless TV or scrolling social for 4 hours. Now if that is so relaxing and a 10 for you… then DO THAT… but if it’s not… then don't spend that precious time doing it!!
Here’s the thing…. in our quest to be awesome… and to have awesome days… we have to know what makes us happy and make sure we prioritize right to get those things in. I love this idea of getting in your 10s because it does exactly that. Eliminates the bullshit and makes you stop doing things you don't actually like.. or things that you just do mindlessly and because they are a habit… but are just taking away time that you could be spending… getting in your 10s!
We hope this podcast inspired you to have days filled with lots and lots of 10s!
Today on the podcast, Lindsay is forcing you to be a quitter! In the best way possible! We are talking about quitting the things that no longer make you feel fulfilled- or even worse, make you feel bored or miserable.
We aren’t talking about quitting when something gets hard.
We are talking about quitting when something doesn’t feel right anymore.
Lindsay really believes that sometimes we are stuck doing the wrong thing, but we don’t know what the right thing is so we just stay put. But then we aren’t giving the universe the white space for us to discover what the right thing actually is.
This type of quitting takes serious psychological courage. You have to be willing to be vulnerable and not afraid of judgment. You have to be willing to accept that you spent time doing something that wasn’t right. But that’s why we need to cut and run now. Not 2 or 3 or 10 years from now when we are doing the same boring, unfulfilling thing.
Lindsay opens up about things that she’s quit (way later than she should have) and a bad habit she didn’t even realize was wasting time and bringing her zero fulfillment.
On our journey of trying to be awesome at everything, quitting the wrong things is ultra important. So listen to this episode, then go quit something, or 10 things, that are no longer serving you ❤️
In this episode, Lindsay shares everything she’s learned about how to stay calm when things go wrong, analyze the problem, figure out the best solution, and execute!
Life is designed to constantly throw problems our way. Problems that we have to deal with! And we have to meet these problems with a reaction, or choose not to react which is actually a reaction in itself.
Are you tackling your problems as they happen and working towards a solution? Or are you procrastinating, distracting and avoiding them? (Often times making them much much worse than they started out to be)
Lindsay is sharing hacks she's learned for tackling problems (even when it’s the last thing you feel like doing)… not loosing your cool, not blaming or complaining… just acknowledging the problem, figuring out the best possible outcome and working backwards to get there.
We can’t always control what happens to us, or the problems that we face, but we can control our reaction to them and the meaning we give to them.
Her goal in this episode is to help you solve your problems. Fun little hacks for solving small problems that often happen in chaotic moments, and actual strategies that will help you be honest about your problems, not avoid them, and solve them. It’s 40 minutes of positivity around something we all have - problems! But we promise it will be a fun time!
Motorhome trips can be the best adventures. In this episode, Lindsay goes through all the steps in booking a motorhome camping trip. She covers what type of motorhome or trailer to rent if you need to, what to prep ahead of time, what to pack, how to pick the right spot… and why she thinks you’ll love it. All the best hacks and tips for your summer trip on the road!
Here are a few links to help!
Favorite SoCal camping spot:
Newport Dunes
RV rental- they will drop it off and pick it up for you!
They rent large RVs
https://www.sharemycoach.com
For more basic rentals
https://www.elmonterv.com
Or Craigslist! People rent out their motors homes too!
Happy Camping!!!
Our ancestors dealt with so much. The Black Plague, Slavery, the Holocaust, kids being sent to fight in war through a draft… the list is endless.
YES we have lots of messed up stuff in our society and in our government … but this podcast is to make you step a back and look at the big picture and realize- we have it SO great. On our worst day, we have it 200 million times better than our ancestors.
Lindsay says she is in no way minimizing the terrible things happening in the world. Completely the opposite. She's going to approach it from a different way, a way of empowerment.
Let’s be passionate, let’s do good. And let’s do it from the perspective of… this is the greatest time to be alive ever… and how awesome it is to live right now. And how many opportunities we have because of technology and how many advantages we have that our ancestors just didn't. Lindsay shares some very practical ways to change the conversation in your head when it’s going down a negative spiral:
Play loud music Listen to a podcast Watch a Ted Talk Call someone positive Do something physical Take a cold shower The goal today is to realize that we can do so much more each day if we wake up thinking…"HELL YA! I’m alive today and the sun is shining and let’s go do stuff!”… rather than all the things that aren’t fair in the world.
The opportunity is so ridiculous.
We just need to figure out what we are going to do with it.
Today’s podcast is all about dating your spouse! Not letting yourself get so into the routine of life, that you aren’t making time to nurture your relationship… and connect and have FUN!!
Lindsay is talking about being intentional about planning date nights- together and with friends. And communication and how important it is to say how you feel and what you need and to HEAR what your spouse tells you. We’re talking about being creative and making plans and how the best times don’t have to be super complicated or expensive.
Here are some of the highlights:
❤️PLAN for date nights
❤️And make time no matter what!
❤️COMMUNICATE - say what you want and what you want to do
❤️Pick the right conversation for the right time- no fighting on dates!
❤️Don't stare at your phones
❤️A movie isn't your date night
❤️Have something interesting to SAY!!! Don't talk only about work or kids
❤️GET CREATIVE!! Even if you don't have a babysitter- you can still setup a dinner outside
❤️LOOK good - more for you than for him - but for him too!!
❤️DO something for your spouse everyday that you weren’t going to do
❤️Get out of the idea that it has to be expensive
❤️GET ACTIVE together
❤️Take trips!! You have to - small or big- solo time! No kids, no work, very little phones - get away to connect.
We really hope this podcast really inspires you to think outside the box and plan for date nights. It’s good for you, it’s good for your spouse, it’s good for your relationship and it’s good for your family!
So cheers, to date nights!!
As parents, there is so much we are always doing for our kids… helping them with schoolwork, racing them around, teaching them things… but when it really comes down to it… more than anything else… don't we want our kids to feel completely loved?
Unconditional love. Love for who they are and what they want to be. Love for their strengths and their weaknesses. All of it!
Today, we’re talking about all the ways Lindsay has learned to show her kids just how very loved they are. Talking about how to make them feel so special on their birthdays and what kind of energy you have when they walk into the room.
Lindsay is sharing a few things her fam does before bed most days to really end the day on a high note. And allow time for reflection on the day and to talk about anything that’s going on.
This one is all about showing our kids all our love.
Here are a few links to things mentioned:
Toy Story Toys Set Walmart.com and search “toy story toys”… lots of options! Toy Story Banner
Ping Lindsay at @LindsaysCloud on Instagram and tell her what you thought and ask any questions you have!
Cheers… to LOVE!
Today we are talking about How To Be Awesome At Having Lots of Energy!
One of the questions I get asked the most is… how do you have so much energy and do you sleep?
So today, that’s what I’m tackling! There are so many things I do in my day… and at certain times during the day to prime myself to have lots of energy. To wake up full of life and ready for the day… to not crash in the afternoons and to prime my mind so I have mental energy.
That way, I have nice full days. Whether it’s being productive with work or things that need to be done on the house… or having energy and the excitement to do something fun with my husband or go on an adventure with my kids.
To me, life in an energy game. So in this episode, I’m sharing all the hacks and everything I’ve learned for setting yourself up to have LOTS. OF. ENERGY. everyday!
Let’s go!
In this episode Lindsay shares all the ways she's incorporated kind acts into her kids lives to create a routine of it, so it’s part of their world and their everyday thinking. And in a way that’s genuine and not forced.
She believes that kindness is one of the most important things that we can teach our kids. So today, we are going to talk about real ways we can exercise kindness all the time so it becomes second nature for our kids.
Some key thoughts: How to raise kids who have empathy and not just think about themselves.
We have to be intentional about raising kind kids.
ASK yourself - when you go to bed- if my kid modeled my behavior or repeated my words.. would I be happy with that?
Consider teaching your kids to look at the color of people's eyes who are talking to you. Smile often. Be grateful to your teachers and show your appreciation. Volunteer and spend time doing non-profit work. Make handmade cards. And so many other ideas of how to incorporate kindness into your kids everyday lives.
Kindness is contagious. And it’s so important for all of our kids to grow up being kind. This episode helps us all focus on kindness and being intentional about how it plays out in our lives and our kids lives. We can’t think of much that’s more awesome than that.
This podcast is about letting loose and having fun this summer, not always be in getting things done mode, or self conscious about how you look in a bathing suit or how you will look after you get off of the waterslide.
It’s about letting go of those things… so you go on vacation or out by a pool this summer… and you’re not constantly grabbing for your cover up… or you don’t actually swim with your kids.
Special guest… Lindsay’s 8 year-old daughter Presley! They take about how cool it is when Mom joins in on the fun and about the lake trip they just got back from. Talking about body image and raising kids with positive body image.
They are talking about pool parties and family vacations and how to let go of the issues in your head and have fun. Take your cover-up off and get your hair wet!
Lindsay talks about how at 38 years old... she’s just now figured this out!
Here’s the question…. Will you miss out on some of the most fun parts of summer because of these issues?
Are you not even going to a friends pool party because you don't want to be in a bathing suit?
Now this podcast is not doing to solve every body issue we’ve worked up to our whole lives.. but we really hope it opens your eyes to what you’re missing. And what you could regret later.
Lindsay says:
"I’m 38 years old and I’ve JUST NOW figured this out. Now I’ve had times when I’ve been better at it, and worse at it… but I’m telling you, at this point in my life, I’ve finally reached a point to where my body is what it is that day. Even if im hormonal and bloated- I can't change it in that moment.
But I can decide what I’m going to do and how I’m going to make the most out of the day."
This project might feel SO BIG that you just don’t ever start on it.
In this episode, Lindsay is going to give you a step-by-step plan for organizing your photos and getting them scanned digitally!
Start with scanning old photos and collecting up VHS tapes and DVDs… anything that you have loose that you want digital, round it up!!
Lindsay shares the company she uses for scanning photos, Smooth Photo Scanning. Here is the representative that Lindsay works with directly!
Brandon Harris
Smooth Photo Scanning
(973)-510-0818
smoothphotoscanning.com
brandon@smoothphotoscanning.com
Use code AWESOME15 for 15% off you order with Smooth Photo Scanning!
Lindsay researched this for awhile because it’s sort of a big deal to send in every childhood photo you have to someone. She loves that they have been doing business for so long and they take such a person approach to your project. They send you a drive and a link with all of your photos.
This is really the only way to be sure that your photos are safe - and something like water damage or a file can’t destroy them. Make sure you have a back-up of a back-up.
Send them all in and make sure you do it all at one time! Saves you time and money!
Then, Lindsay goes through all the ways that she organizes her photos on her phone and laptop. SO many great hacks and tips here. Make sure to listen all the way to the end!
We hope this episode inspired you to do a deep dive into your loose photos and your digital photos and get them all scanned and organized up! It’s painful at first, but totally worth it!
Ping Lindsay on IG at @LindsaysCloud and let her know what you want to hear more of on this topic!
Thanks for listening! Have fun photo organizing!
When you lay your head down on your pillow at night… how often are you saying to yourself, “now that was an awesome day!”
If it’s not at least half of the days… we have some work to do!
Today, Lindsay is asking you to get out a piece of paper and do a brain dumb. Write down everything that comes to mind when you think of your most awesome day.
Lindsay thinks that one reason why we don’t have more awesome days is because we have never outlined for ourselves… what is an awesome day to us?
Not like a singular day- like your wedding day. Not a DAY but a life and a lifestyle.
What does it look like and what does it FEEL like? We have to know what we want our life to look and feel like!
Instead of starting with what you have to DO, think about how you want to FEEL.
Lindsay talks about her research in trying to figure out… what do most people actually want in their day?
For a lot of people it’s to…
*create something
*or contribute something
*or have an experience with someone - your kids or friends
*or people say they just want to connect
that feeling of connection and that relationship with someone makes them feel ALIVE for that day.
Maybe it’s spending a day with your favorite person- eating and drinking and talking….or hiking or painting some big piece of art with your kids.
WRITE DOWN what this is for YOU!!
And if you can’t do your ideal things everyday, let's figure out how you can do mini things to mockup that similar day
Could you create this day more often than you are now? First, we have to figure out what this day is.
And if you’re thinking, I can’t do that…I challenge you- are you putting up your own roadblocks that don’t necessary exist?
Lindsay talks about how you can totally design your days!
The majority of your days should be about what YOU want to be like in your ideal day?
Brain dump #2!
What is your character like?
Are you open minded and excited and enthusiastic?
WRITE IT DOWN!
This is WHO I would be on my ideal day!
Here is how I treat people...
Here is how I feel...
Are you grumpy? Are you jealous of other people on social media? Are you walking around being negative and feeling like poor me? Would you be weak and fearful on your most awesome day? Are you supporting other people?
WRITE IT DOWN- here is who i will BE on my ideal day! Here is the energy I give off!
We can have SO MANY MORE awesome days!! We show up who we want to be!
When you start your day, you have to own your morning!!
You have to be proactive about your day.
What do I want to learn today?
You have to have an aim to have an awesome day.
Don’t wake up and check your email and social and let that sort of guide your day. Be intentionally with it.
Lindsay talks about how she goes to bed knowing what she wants to accomplish the next day.
Even if you are dealing with struggle and hardship… you are dealing with it in your best way.
On a continual basis, you are you are proud of who you were when the day is done.
You are the person you want to be- you are proud of how you dealt with that struggle.
You are living the way you want to be on your most awesome day and even if you’re not at Disneyland … you’re still in the mindset to have an awesome day.
Suddenly you’ll wake up one day and you’ll think… that was an amazing week, an amazing week, an amazing month.
In this episode, Lindsay talks about How To Be Awesome At Losing Quarantine Weight.
We have a lot on our plates right now and a lot of stress at times. We worry about staying healthy, and finances, homeschooling our kids and how to do our best to keep our risk of getting sick as low as possible. So the first step here is to give yourself a little grace, and realize that you’re under a lot of pressure right now and the last thing you need is stress about a few extra pounds.
If you aren’t feeling like yourself and it’s making you bummed or even depressed… or having negative body talk go on in your head… then let’s talk about how to change it!
Lindsay shares her best tips for losing the weight you’ve gained in quarantine. For no other reason than to help you feel your best. So you come out of this feeling excited to charge back into the world, not wanting to crawl back into your hole. We’re having a little quarantine weight loss session here friends, let’s go!
Here are some topics Lindsay covers:
❤️Create routines that work
❤️Intermittent Fasting
❤️Limit your booze, sugar and carbs
❤️Find other ways to satisfy your cravings
❤️But still eat a TON of food! Whole Foods!
❤️SLEEP MORE
❤️Move and sweat
❤️Eat BIG meals instead of grazing - make sure you leave satisfied
❤️Be kind to yourself
❤️No fad diets - consistency is what works!!
We have all had shitty things happen to us in life. Some of us have been lucky and haven’t had that many experiences that have hurt or devastated us. Others of us haven’t been so lucky and have had some messed up stuff happen - maybe so much that forgiveness seems completely impossible.
But we have to forgive- because here’s the thing- you’re the only one that is losing out by holding on to it. By not forgiving you’re actually allowing it to still affect you. And we only have so much mental bandwidth. All those negative thoughts are taking up space. Space that could be filled with thoughts that made you feel great and fulfilled and alive and excited.
Lindsay talks about how she thinks that forgiveness is a skill that needs to be exercised- just like physical exercise with our bodies.
It’s not easy and for most of us, it doesn’t come natural, so we have to work on it.
If you’re holding on to something that you could be forgiving someone for, big or small, this episode can really open your eyes to the power that you hold in the situation.
Lindsay talks about what to do if YOU are the one that you need to forgive! And all the ways you can forgive someone, but not forget what happened, and still not have it weigh you down.
This episode is all about getting rid of resentment and unstick yourself from the moment in which the terrible thing happened.
Lindsay gives some practical ways to actually take action and start the process of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is essential for your own happiness and mental clarity. It’s truly a mental superpower✨… and this episode talks about how to get there ❤️
BONUS! Hear the details from Lindsay’s Anniversary and Mother’s Day weekend celebration in this bonus episode! Lindsay talks about what she’s learned over the years so that when it comes to celebrating YOU, it’s fulfilling and not a let down. What to plan, what to communicate ahead of time and the frame of mind you should go into it with. It’s a fun bonus one!
Today, we are talking all about making decisions and being decisive.
Lindsay talks in a practical way about how to gather all the facts, make a decision, and move on. We all make so many decisions each day, this is such a great skill to master.
Sometimes it’s about courage. And not avoiding hard decisions. Because you’re never going to feel like it! We need to stop hesitating and just make a decision.
Realize a decision is a decision and if it’s not the right one, you’ll make a new decision. Don't put so much pressure and so much power on each decision. There really aren’t that many HUGE decisions we make in life.
Lindsay talks about how you can only really see things clearly once they pan out. Once things happen, you know how what was the better our worse decision. But a lot of times you don't have this info… so you have to make the best decision with the best information that you have. From there, keep making more decisions to get to where you want to go.
Dont beat yourself up over the not so great decisions - it just doesn’t move you forward. Don't go backwards.
Lindsay talks about how being decisive can help you be so much more confident. And how training yourself to get uncomfortable can totally help in this process too!
The goal of this podcast is to help you make decisions quickly and commit to them. It’s a superpower and the sooner you master it, the better your life will be.
Your life comes down to your decisions, and if you change your decisions and the way you make decisions, you can change anything.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there! And to everybody celebrating!
This podcast is alllll about what to do on Mother’s Day at home.
Mother’s Day looks different this year… but that doesn’t mean it can’t be just as special.
In this episode, Lindsay is going to give you LOTS of ideas of things to do this Mother’s Day and talk your mindset going into it.
Holidays like Mother’s Day can be tricky- it’s a lot of pressure and if you’re anything like her, it’s easy to end up in tears sometimes. Maybe you didn’t plan anything and were expecting a lot, or you planned too much and everyone wasn’t into it. Or you had this big idea in your mind and it just didn’t pan out that way.
Today, Lindsay is going to talk about the mindset she thinks we should all have this year going into Mother’s Day and lots of ideas of things to do so it’s memorable and makes you feel loved and appreciated and celebrated. Because we know, there’s no time we deserve it more than now!
In this episode, we’re having a positive talk about How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Negative People.
Lindsay breaks down what she does in situations where someone is negative and complaining or toxic and judgmental and how she doesn’t let them get her going.
Here are a few other key points from this episode:
✨You can’t control what they do… but you can control how it affects you.
✨And how I get wrapped up in it- and before you know it I’m not doing all the positive stuff I want to be doing… because I’m replaying the Fed up thing she did.
✨It’s all about self-awareness and not caring what other people think. Live your life for you and nobody else.
✨Everybody cares to some level of what other people think of them, but here’s the thing… you don’t let it stop you. You don’t let it take over your mind or your day. I have so much self confidence and positive talk in my head… they just can’t penetrate it.
✨When I’m not happy I switch up what I’m listening to and who I’m talking to. Spend your time with happy people.
✨Social media negativity - here's the thing - it doesn’t mean anything. They see 1% of your life and thats what they are commenting on
✨If someone is taking the time to consume your content then leave a negative comment - I feel compassion for them.
✨You find what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for negativity you find it. If you’re looking for positivity you find it.
✨The most important decision you make is the state of mind that you live
✨To be happy- watch your mind all day long. Smile more. Get more sunshine. Get out in nature.
✨Life is an energy game. Get away from negative energy. Talk to negative people 3 times a month instead of 3 times a day.
✨Any second you spend thinking about what someone else has is a second you take away from creating something for yourself
✨True self-confidence means of valuing my own opinion about myself more than anybody else
✨Stop blaming, accept fault
There is something SO powerful about not giving energy to the negativity and the toxic people.
Even when you can’t erase someone from your life.. you can limit your interaction with them and limit how much they do or say affects you. You’re actually in total control.
Control your headspace- control what you spend time thinking about.. and you’ve won. Doesn't matter how negative or awful the person is… if you don’t let them affect you - you’ve won.
We can’t always put ourselves in the perfect situations all the time, but we can prep our minds so when toxic energy comes our way, we are so happy and confident and awesome, it simply doesn't affect us.
Vacations with KIDS!
It’s not always easy to pick a vacation spot that is fun for your kids and somewhere that you will love too!
In this episode, Lindsay is sharing lots of her best hacks for traveling with kids and her favorite places to go on vaca!
Here are some of her fav tips:
✈️ Do your research and go at the right time of year
✈️ Have your kids watch YouTube videos
✈️ Consider flight times
✈️ Pack an airplane cooler bag
✈️ Look into kids clubs ahead of time
✈️ Make best friends with concierge of place you are going
✈️ Pack right- don’t overpack
✈️ Send a box ahead of time
✈️ Plan the days fully but be totally open to change
✈️ Make sure to book dinner reservations for each night
✈️ Find the balance of place that your kids will love and you will too!
Here are some of the travel destinations Lindsay talks about:
🌴 Atlantis in Bahamas
🌴 Disney Cruise to Atlantis out of FL
🌴 Legoland California
🌴 Grand Wailea in Maui
🌴 Disney Resort AULANI on OAHU
🌴 Cabo- Las Ventanas
🌴 Punta Cana - Hard Rock Hotel & Eden Roc hotel
🌴 Vegas! Encore Hotel
🌴 Polar Express / Grand Canyon in Williams Arizona
🌴 SNOW vacations - Whistler Four Seasons, Aspen Hotel Jerome
🌴 Camping / motorhome trips - Camp James in CA
🌴 Orange County resort - Pelican Hill Resort (staycation for us)
🌴 Palm Springs hotel for kids - Omni Rancho Las Palmas Resort (Or stay at the Ritz Carlton and take the kids TO the water park there)
🌴 Del Mar California - Omni La Costa Resort & Spa
🌴 NYC - Plaza Hotel & Eloise shop
So many of the best memories we make with our kids are on vacations! The goal of this podcast is to share some places we love, that we think your family will too!
This episode is all about batch working! Lindsay shares how she uses this hack to DOUBLE her productivity.
Batch working is the process of dividing up your work into similar topics so you can do them in all at once, rather than jumping from task to task.
Lindsay explains how batch working saves her so much time and makes her feel so accomplished because she actually gets ahead on things and doesn't always feel behind with a never-ending to do list.
She's sharing all the ways she uses batch working in her personal life and in her business life to get things done more efficiently and feel more organized.
We are going to look at all the things you have to do, and make a plan to do them more efficiently. There is this energy you have when you know what you are about to do that day- it's just a different energy than when you show up and let you email dictate your day.
Over time, Lindsay has figured out how to batch work to get through her list more efficiently and simply, get more done.
It’s about organizing the things in your life that you are doing and doing and doing over and over again.
Lindsay explains how she felt so much more mentally free because she’s not always trying to keep up with the day and keep head above water. Batch work the bulky stuff so you can focus on the little stuff.
Do this by writing out your whole list, then bundle things together that can be batch worked!
When you have a CLEAR plan - it's so much easier to show up and get the job done.
Another helpful tip- listen back to the podcast on automate, eliminate and delegate. This combined with batch working will really take your productivity to the next level!
It’s all about focusing on doing one thing at a time and doing it well.
And it also it helps your confidence. And helps you believe that what you are doing is going to WORK.
With the efficiency comes clarity and you feel like you DESERVE YOUR FREE TIME.
Lindsay hopes this episode helps you get through your to do list and live in a state of mental clarity and fulfillment because you’ve gotten SO MUCH DONE!
And that’s AWESOME 😎
In this episode, Lindsay talks about how much of the work that goes into party planning is done from home, on your computer, and why this is the perfect time to plan for future parties!
Lindsay goes through all her party prep steps… and all the things you can do NOW to plan for future parties.
Here are the steps that Lindsay talks about in this episode!
🎉 Pick a theme
🎉 Pick a location
🎉 Pick a day and time
🎉 Gather up all your inspiration images
🎉 Make a guest list
🎉 Make a plan for invitations
🎉 Figure out what kids are going to eat and what adults are going to eat
🎉 Figure out what everyone is going to do
🎉 Design the dessert table
🎉 Design a background for a photo moment if you want one
🎉 What other vendors you will need for decorations
🎉 What other vendors you will need for food - cakes, treats, special treat vendor - snow cones, cookie sandwiches, etc.
🎉 What everyone is going to wear
🎉 Make your list of things you need to order ahead of time
🎉 It’s all in the details!! Think about custom details and what you can order from Etsy and other sites.
We hope this episode inspires you to make all your lists and set-up your plans so when the world opens again.. you shoot out all your emails and you’re ready to turn it into action! The hard part is in the planning so you can do all that now, while you’re at home. And have FUN doing it!
You know how there are certain things that you know you SHOULD do? Not because anyone else thinks you should- because it’s something that you really want to do and you know you SHOULD because you’re great at and it would make you feel happy & fulfilled. But, you just don’t. Well, this is that pep talk to get you to do it. We go deep into the mind and talk about changing your habits, exposing yourself to new things, getting out of your past, stop living your life in stress mode, eliminating negative emotions and cultivating positive energy. This is the perfect time to do that thing you’ve always told yourself you SHOULD do.
Here are some key points that Lindsay covers:
❤️ Getting out of our past and being open to create new routines
❤️ Focusing on not what anyone is telling us to do… but what we feel like we WANT to do.
❤️ You tell yourself you don’t have time? Listen to my episode on automate eliminate and delegate
❤️ Save time so you don’t have this excuse anymore
❤️ Change your routine If you do the same things and see the same people, you have the same thoughts
❤️ Stop recalling your past
❤️ Stop living in stress mode and anticipating the worst case
❤️ The moment you decide to make a different choice, it's going to feel uncomfortable.
❤️ If we have a thought - we think that's the truth and that's not always the case
❤️ If we think 60-70k thoughts in a day and most are the same thoughts as the day before, your life isn’t going to change much
❤️ Start the process of becoming more aware of how you feel and how you think
❤️ We learn the most about ourselves when we are in the uncomfortable self
❤️ We have to break our old habits before we can work on new thoughts - unmemorize emotions that are stored in the body
❤️ We will say to ourselves that we want to get over our anxiety about something… but then we don’t.
❤️ We have to get rid of all the negativity - like anger, jealously, aggression, hostility, hatred, fear, anxiety, pain, suffering, guilt and envy.
❤️ What are you not doing because you are trapped about what someone else thinks?
❤️ Fast forward where you are - look at yourself in 10, 20, 30 years time Do you like what you see?If the answer is no, then you need to find a new path and do what you SHOULD do.
❤️ Open yourself up to new role models - and it can be virtually - watch videos, listen to podcasts, listen to audiobooks… change the story in your mind.
❤️ Your morning routine is so important… start the day with a clear mind.
This episode will help you figure out what you SHOULD DO and HOW you are going to do it.
Shift the way you think about having a birthday at home during COVID 19. In this episode, Lindsay shares lots of ideas of how to have the best birthday celebration at home, that doesn’t feel like you are compromising anything! We have to work with what we have, and what we can do, and focus on what would be the most fun for the person you are celebrating.
Here are some of the ideas Lindsay talks about:
🎉 Do something totally wild- that they would LOVE
🎉 Have a party at home - who cares if it’s just a few of you!
🎉 Order banners on Etsy or make your own
🎉 Have an actual party at home
🎉 Do a yard sign
🎉 Do a drive by parade
🎉 Do a video mash-up with Bday wishes from family & friends
🎉 Have a tasting party (think Oreos or champagne - or both😂)
🎉 Birthday scavenger hunt (for any age)
🎉 Watch a movie outside - in the hot tub or in a tent
🎉 Balloons!! Order some for drop off or do your own!
🎉 Print pictures & frame them or make cards/poster with them
And like 100 more 😂🎂🎉
Here are links to things mentioned!!
Ballon company I used
Contact:
Charity - 949-422-9935
Yard sign company I used
Contact:
Cheryl - ocyardgreetings@gmail.com
The small Polaroid glitter frames I love
FOOD
Sprinkles cupcakes delivery
Pressed Juicery delivery
Great Dane Bakery if you are local
Print photos on Shutterfly
COMING SOON! How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Everything Course
Last thought at the end of it!
Overall BUILD the day around what really makes the birthday person happy. Not what YOU think is fun or you think they SHOULD like… do things they actually LOVE and it will be a great day!
We are all talking about how we can keep ourselves and our families as healthy as possible so I wanted to do an episode today about immunity!
Lindsay talks about the supplements she thinks are essential… including a few that Dr. Lekkos (her functional medicine doctor) told her about.. that she is SO excited about!
She gets into all the things we know but a little more of… like sleeping more and eating a little bit healthier than we normally would… working out a little bit more than we normally would… drinking more water… taking more time for mindfulness and reducing stress.
A lot of times when we think about keeping our immune system strong we just think about vitamins and supplements… but it’s a combination of all these things and they are all equally important. Lindsay’s Favorite Supplements:
IMMUDERM
Life Extensions Two A Day multivitamin capsule
Curcum
Monolaurin
Elderberry
Now listen… we can all take ALL the right vitamins everyday .. but if the rest of the stuff is in line… it’s not going to work! So here are the other things we need to focus on:
😴Sleep more
😋Eat healthier
💪Work out more
💁♀️Drink more water
🧘Take more time for mindfulness
😌Reduce stress
We hope this episode inspires you to really take a look at ALL parts of your health and what you are doing and eating and thinking about and how it all matters to your overall health and immunity. Thank you for listening and cheers friends, to your health!
Today we are talking about how to be awesome at making Easter special for your kids! This is an episode that you are going to want to listen to without your kids in the room because we are going to talk about some Easter magic!
Easter is such a fun holiday and there are so many ways we can make it extra special and extra magical for our kids. Lindsay is sharing all the things she will be doing this year and things she’s done in past years that were a big win.
Everything from starting the day with a little something special in their bedroom… to leaving a little bunny trail… to creative ideas for your egg hunt itself… and possibly a scavenger hunt- if you’re up for it! I’m talking about getting creative and putting together baskets that your kids will love and making things awesome but also easy, so it’s actually FUN for you too!
Here are a few things you might want to get or pull out to prep:
Cheap pool with ball pit balls Peeps bunnies for chubby bunny game Board games for your kids Letters if you want to personalize your kids baskets Cute PJs or outfits for the day Filling the baskets - things your kids like… like gifts you would get them normally Clear cell phone and ribbon to make your own baskets I love wood crates for baskets to change it up if you want to get creative Easter basket filler My favorite bubble machine Lots of eggs to fill Candy and toys to fill the eggs First tip: put everyone to bed early the night before so everyone is in a good mood in the morning and you can get to work before 11pm… and take your time and have fun with it.
Lindsay talks all about creating magical bunny prints, doing a great egg hunt, putting together special baskets and having family games prepped in case you need them for the rest of the day.
It’s everything you need to prepare for Easter in a way that will seem very EXTRA but won’t kill you doing it!
HAPPY EASTER friends! Hope you enjoy!!
It feels so great to be organized and have less!!
It’s like coming home to a breath of fresh air after a long day.
Today we are talking about cleaning out and organizing and purging your closet!
Lindsay’s researched all the methods and strategies and she's summarizing for you what she thinks are the most practical tips for getting rid of what you don’t need, keeping things that mean something to you or bring you JOY- as organizing guru Marie Kondo says.
We’re going to talk about turning your closet into your own little oasis where only things you love live.
Lindsay breaks it down into 3 steps- get rid of stuff that doesn't make you happy, find a good place for what’s left… and stop buying things you don’t need!
There is no better time for a good closet organize than NOW… so we’re going to talk about how to do it!
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Two books to check out!
🌴Life changing art of tidying up
🌴Tidy the F Up The American Art of organizing
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To do it the right way, you have to be tired of the way it is now.
You have to be so tired of it that you really commit to getting organized and staying organized.
I’ve tried so many ways and failed! I hired a professional organizer and paid a ton! …but I still wasn’t organized!
You have to commit to DO THE WORK… and that’s the step I was missing.
And doing the work means… really taking each item and taking the time to think about whether you need it and where is the best place for it to live.
Here are the steps we are going to follow:Get rid of stuff that doesn't make you happy Find a place for what's left…and… (the hard one) Stop buying things you don’t need
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SO LETS PURGE!!
REMEMBER!
You didn’t accumulate all this stuff in a day.. it's going to take more than a day to fix it.
Pull out everything that's the same and put it in a pile
Like sweaters- most of us have way too many sweaters.
Pull them allll out in a pile … and go through them- just keep the ones you like most!!
Ask yourself.. would you buy this NOW?
Don’t have so much stuff that you can’t get to any of it - purge until it’s all easy to get to!
Order matching hangers! These slim ones are my FAVORITE!
Mine
Husbands
Kids
Oh and don’t save things! This whole process will make you WEAR More things… don’t save them!
Think of that is keeping them in a dark closet while you go out in the world… let them out!
Please know … it will get worse before it gets better!
Lindsay goes through how to decide what to toss, what to sell and what to donate.
We hope you take all of this and do the best closet purge and organize than you’ve ever done!
Cheers… to your awesome closet!
Listen to why Lindsay decided to run 50 miles in 10 days.
It has nothing to do with fitness or weight.
It’s about mental strength and conditioning…
It’s about making a physical change in order to make a mental change.
It’s about wanting to be tough and have thick skin and be ready when life throws curveballs your way.
Lindsay talks about pushing through discomfort- get to the point where your mind is saying STOP- and that's actually where you start.
Because can’t be extraordinary by staying in what’s comfortable.
All of this will make us stronger and ready to face the tough situation we are all in right now.
Lindsay talks about challenging yourself everyday so you don't get rusty.
Accept what you suck at and use that as your drive, not your excuse. (She explains honestly how she used to make excuses for things rather than pushing through it.)
Lindsay talks about setting goals and making sure you push through to the end so YOU know that you will when you tell yourself you will do something.
This is a big topic and she wants to be clear that she is still so compassionate and empathetic and loving - just trying to do it with thicker skin. So she can be tough when you get a hard call that someone you love is sick… or you are going through something hard. It’s all about bring strong so you can handle more and how we can make conscious decisions to get there.
And that’s why she thinks we should all be working everyday on our mental conditioning. Not accepting what’s average or what we’ve always done, but to challenge ourselves and PUSH through the pain… and control that most important conversation we have - the one in our own heads about ourselves.
You wake up with it, you walk around with it… you go to bed with it. And you act on it. Good or bad. That’s what this whole thing is about.
Let’s deal with the Corona virus or whatever else you’re facing right now with strength and mental toughness…. Because it will make us better and we will come out of it stronger and more awesome!
This is a BIG ONE! Eating LESS sugar!
🍎We are talking about added sugar- not the sugar in Whole Foods - Lindsay is all for natural sugars found in fruits and veggies.
This is about processed foods and how we have to know how to read labels and what ingredients to look for.
🍫Lindsay talks about when to SPLURGE and have the real sugar! She decides by asking herself… is this a MOMENT?
A birthday party for someone special, a date night treat… a cool moment with your kids.. whatever it is for you. That’s when you should splurge.
🍚Lindsay gets into all the places that sugar is found.
SUGAR is not just in cupakes!!
It’s in lots of foods that turns into sugar in your body… like white starches. So you may not feel like you’re eating a ton of sugar because you aren't eating cake and ice cream but we have to be aware that it comes in other forms too. There is a ton of sugar in so many foods you might not realize like Chinese to-go food or juices, etc.
It’s in so many things… and so often we are addicted to it!
We have to realize that because its not straight sugar doesn't mean that its not turning into sugar in your body. White breads and pastas are at the top of the list for this!
👩🏼🔬Lindsay gets into how to read the labels on processed foods!
She tries to limit processed foods… but when you do… look at the ingredient list!
Sugar has SO many different names- the most common names are sugar and syrup.
High fructose corn syrup… also “OSE” like glucose, dextrose.
Avoid foods that have lots of sugars
Of course, the best way to do this is to eat as many natural foods as possible. Nobody has added sugar to it.
If you eat mostly Whole Foods, you will naturally have a low in sugar diet.
☕️Lindsay isn’t going to ask you to cut out ALL forms of sugar… and do it cold turkey.
While she knows this works for so many people, she doesn’t think it's realistic for most people.
We want to eat out and live and experience and try different foods.
So this is how she’s figured out how to make ONE drastic change.
Stop drinking your calories and your sugar. (Unless of course its a glass of ice cold Champagne after a long week then thats totally allowed and recommended)
Often times people are drinking so much sugar and not realizing it and this is the ONE thing she's going to tell you to cut out pretty much complexly and do it cold turkey. Sodas, super sweetened juices and sugary coffee drinks.
Now the replacements… I would drink black coffee with a splash of coconut milk or almond milk.
And sparkling water! It takes time to get used to, but it's a good trade off.
At restaurants - get ice tea or iced coffee unsweetened.
Just try not to drink all your calories in the form of sugar!! The sugar can add up so much
🍯Here’s are the healthier options Lindsay uses to cook with at home!!
Now, none of these are perfect and people could debate them… but IF we are not going to go totally extreme and just reduce and use much healthier options!
These are the ones Lindsay thinks we could use!
maple syrup
Honey
Agave
dates
(Organic for all)
Or backup option is coconut sugar. Organic Honey
Organic Maple Syrup
Organic Agave
Organic Vanilla Extract
Organic Almond Flour
Cacao Nibs
Simple Mills Bread
Hemp Hearts
You choose depending on your preferences and own personal dietary limitations or preferences!
🥗Another thing to think about is how much and what we are eating for meals. We need nice big filling meals with lots of proteins and fats… so we are FULL! And you’ll be less likely to grab for the sugar craving items.
Eat lots of the good fats like avocados and nuts. Your blood sugar levels will be stable and you are more full for longer. Unlike a big bowl of cereal and milk in the am… you crash fast!
Rather than thinking about what you need to TAKE OUT- think about what you can ADD in first!!
It's so much more FUN!
Lindsay is all about eating… a LOT and enjoying food and not walking around the world HUNGRY!
🍎Another obvious one - remove temptation!
If its out of sight its out of mind! Try to only have good healthy options… or put your splurge treats nice and high so little fingers can’t reach them and you have to get a step stool to reach so it makes it a little bit harder to do. Gives yourself a little hurdle to make it reserved for special occasions.
🍓Here are a few of my fav low sugar snacks:
-I always have precut fruit in the fridge
-I LOVE frozen grapes- they have a new texture once frozen!
-I love doing frozen bananas and strawberries and drizzle with dark choice and toss in freezer… it really only needs an hour- and I think it's better than totally frozen
-There are lots of recipes online for apple nachos that are FUN- apples and pb and lots of toppings.
🍎🍎Here are some of Lindsay’s go-to packaged snacks that everyone loves!
Cauliflower Puffs
Vegan Chocolate Bars
Bean Chips
Pecan Butter
Chocolate Cake Mix
🎂The other thing we need to think about with sugar is … there’s an addiction associated with it. Sometimes it’s more genetic - we have more of a sweet tooth OR it can be learned from your parents or your environment.
Studies have shown that sugar is one of the most addictive substances - so lots of times food manufacturers use lots of sugar because we like it and we crave it and we want to eat more!
Tests in rats have shown that sugar foods are as addicting to hard core drugs.
🍰This is a big topic and one that we will certainly talk a LOT more about. But we hope this episode really helps you THINK about how much sugar you're eating and the easy swaps that you can make to be eating much healthier food.
TELL us what specific parts of this you want to learn more about!
And let’s keep talking about it! Until next time friends, cheers to your health!
Here’s the thing… Somehow most of are programed to look at others peoples lives and compare them to our own. Imagine how freeing it is if you could look at someone else’s feed or hear about a big win one of your friends had in life and be genuinely happy for them.
And not do it in a judgmental way or in a jealous way or comparing in anyway at all.
It’s the best feeling to be in such a good place was where you’re at… even if you’re not where you want to be… if you haven't accomplished your goals or life hasn’t completely falling into place the way you want it too… just knowing that it’s a journey and there are ebs and flows and at the end of the day you’re confident and you love yourself unconditionally so you have the space and capacity to genuinely be happy for somebody else.
Do you know what the best part is! People are happier for you when good things happen to you… because they remember how good you made them feel when something happened to them!
So let’s all take a minute to be mindful about it and get to a place where we’re genuinely happy for everyone around us… even if we don’t know them… even if they do things differently than we do… we’re going be happy for them because it puts out good energy into the world and that always comes back to you!
Thank you for listening and being so open-minded. Now let’s go out and find someone to cheer for!!
💪🏼 Lindsay tries to convince you why working out at home is the BEST! Because it saves you time and money… and it’s easier to make it happen each day!
💪🏼 Here are the programs Lindsay LOVES!
OBE Fitness
Tracy Anderson fitness
Beach Body Fitness
💪🏼Here are links to Lindsay’s favorite pieces of equipment:
Peleton treadmill
Amazon leg weights
Black weights - I use 3lb, 5lb., 8lb., 10lb., 12lb., 15lb. and 20lb. hand weights!
💪🏼Don’t get distracted! The hardest part about not being in a class is you can get distracted!! What to do when you don’t feel like it? DO IT ANYWAY!! But listen your best each day is going to be different. Do it... change it up somehow… do something that does sound good… play something that sounds fun - maybe it's a show you like or something else that will help the time go by. Or get outside and do it! Lindsay makes it happen just about everyday … because she schedules it in… and it’s easier to get in a quick session if you are short on time.
She works out for health and to sweat and to feel good and to live a long time.
So as we know, there just aren’t any shortcuts to that. You have to show up and put in the work… but you can make it so much FUN too by doing it in a way that is exciting to you and you’re doing things that you like.
We hope this helps inspire you to MAKE the DECISION to work out at home… and love it and make it a way of life. So it’s not a debate in your mind each morning, the decision has already been made, you just need to execute on it.
Thank you for listening! Now let’s wake up early tomorrow and workout from home!!
In this episode, Lindsay asks you to THINK about how you process things that happen to you. And be intentional about NOT DRINKING POISON when someone tries to hand it to you!!
It’s a game changer for your overall happiness!
She calls it poison because it is!!
Lindsay goes through how to deal with this ourselves, and how to teach our kids how to do this too!
This whole thing ALL goes back to what are you letting in your mind.
Together, we are putting ear plugs in when it comes to negativity or dream squashing! Don’t let it in!
It saves you so much wasted energy and heartache and time! Now listen, we all have to been self actualized and not block out something if someone we love is trying to help us and it's something we really need to pay attention to or work on changing or whatever…
But if it honest fall into this category its likely a WASTE of time!!
So that’s what we’re talking about today… first, realizing that when someone says something negative or hurtful for you… you have a choice with what you’re going to do with it. Are you going to digest it or not… and it completely changes the outcome of the interaction.
Thanks for listening!
Lindsay summarizes today’s episode:
My very first guest today! My 9 year old daughter Stella! I wanted a kids perspective when talking about this!
We’re talking about PATIENCE!!
How do you have patience with kids who won’t move on to the next step?
This is where I get the most frustrated… get in the car for school… come sit down for dinner… time to brush your teeth…
This is where I have the most frustration… and how I need to tell myself to be patient
I tell myself I WILL NOT LET THIS BREAK ME
I WILL NOT LOSE MY COOL
THIS IS NOT GOING TO BREAK ME DOWN
Sometimes we all need a BRAIN BREAK!
When my kids flip out or loose it or yell or some other response that isn’t ideal for the situation… I have them walk around the corner… out of sight… I tell them to take a brain break and come back. Don’t come back until you’re ready.. until you’re in a better state of mind. OR I take a brain break!! I take a deep breath.. or I walk away for a minute! RATHER THAN throwing out consequences that are too harsh and I’m not going to actually execute. And that's the key - we have to stick to what we say. SO … GET NEUTRAL before giving consequences! I also get into how to be a-tune to where your kids are developmentally and how to be realistic. Also… how to deal with babies when they are frustrating! I go through how I’ve learned to LISTEN! I thought I was in my younger years of being a parent… but then I realized a lot of time I wasn’t. I want to know how THEY feel… sometimes I THOUGHT I was being patient but they actually thought I wasn't. Then when I heard their explanation of it- I could totally see your point. I want to make make sure my kids feel like they are being heard.
I talk about giving my kids choices… and accepting who they are and not trying to control them.
Lots of fun stuff packed in this one… and I hope this podcast helps you take a step back and remember how important it is to be patient with our kids. It’s just so important for their happiness and for your relationship… and for the overall feeling in your home. As hard as it can be at times, I think it’s one of the most important things we need to work to master as parents.
Cheers to having patience! Even when they won’t get in the damn car!
This podcast is probably not what you think it’s going to be. Not as much about lists and workbooks and schooling… and more about teaching your kids things that you know… that you think they should know!
So this is our plan… we are going to do the assignments and everything our teachers give us.
Then- we are going to learn different things together.
Teachers are experts at how to do this- and thats what makes them so amazing! So Lindsay thinks we shouldn’t put so much pressure on ourselves and try to be.
Most of us aren’t trained in this stuff and she’s a big fan of doing what you’re best at and doing it 110%!
Sidenote:
Now if you’re listening to this later and not during Coronavirus craziness… then I still love all of this for normal life. We think about teaching our kids… like it has to come from textbooks… but it totally doesn't!
Here are some podcast highlights:
❤️Don't put so much pressure on yourself or them
❤️Realize their word is turned upside down too
❤️They aren’t in school now - so they can’t be expected to do as much learning time
❤️Make a list of things you want to teach them!
Here is Lindsay’s list: (do one at a time- don’t overwhelm)
🌟Order kits online
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My Time Capsule
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Break Open Real Geodes
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Volcano Kit
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Rock Painting Kit
🌟Tie your shoes
🌟Make your bed the right way
🌟Send an email
🌟Create a photo book online
🌟Edit a Youtube video
🌟Write a business plan
🌟Make a 2 tier cake from scratch
🌟Research online and find a place they want to travel
🌟Write and mail a letter
🌟Jump rope
🌟Eye contact
🌟Plans to help others/volunteer once we are able to
🌟Negotiate with me
🌟Learn how to pick out ripe fruit
🌟Test them to find a bright side in a bad situation
Summary:
We hope this session really helped you take a deep breath and realize… we CAN teach our kids SO MUCH while we are home… and it DOESN'T have to come from a textbook!
Think of all the things you know and that you’re good at…
And think about each child and what they are interested in and what they would want to learn.
And you know what- maybe this whole experience will be such a great growing and learning experience for us and our kids - in ways we didn’t expect!
Thanks for listening! We are in this together friends! Now let's go out and teach our kids some nontraditional things that is going to add to the awesome humans that they are!
People message me on Instagram pretty often and say… You have three kids and you work how do you look presentable each day??… And first thank you that’s so nice and second I think it’s one of those things that is just a priority for me. It’s on my must do list…
I must get ready each day and feel showered and clean and put together.
Now sometimes that still means wearing yoga pants and a sweatshirt… I’m not talking about getting ready so we’re wearing heels every day… I’m talking about getting ready, so you feel good and you’re ready for anything that happens that day.
I get ready once in the morning… every single day and then I’m good for the day. If I’m going to a special event or a nice dinner at night, then I will do a touchup… but my touch up never takes me more than 15 minutes or so.
I think that for so many women… myself included… once you start having babies… there’s less time… you’re more tired… and you don’t always feel like putting on makeup and pulling yourself together like you used to. But I think it’s so important… and 99% of the importance is for yourself. Yes, it’s good to look good for your significant other or your job or whatever it is but this episode is about you it’s about looking good, so you feel confident and you’re ready for anything that day.
Also important because of your POSTURE!
Your posture affects how you see yourself, as well as how others see you. If you’re slumped down and slouching during a job interview, for example, the interviewer will likely see you as less confident, and perhaps will have a neural impulse to judge you as less capable. If you have good posture, with your shoulders back and your body aligned, you can look better in your clothes and will likely receive compliments from loved ones, which will boost your confidence and mood. You could also just love how you look in the mirror, which will make you feel lighter and more positive.
Good posture also pertains to walking. If you walk slumped down and, in a shuffle, you look bedraggled and overwrought, which can make you actually feel bedraggled and overwrought. When you walk uplifted and with confidence, your brain registers “uplifted and with confidence,” and pumps out happy hormones to match the message.
**Do the long stuff at night
Wash hair... face masks… shave your legs…
**Do a get ready that makes you feel good, everyday
And figure out what that routine is!
Don’t spend your morning minutes on experimentation, especially when you’ve got to get out the door by a certain time. Experiment at night when it’s calm and peaceful — and then figure out how to replicate it in the morning.
**Lay your clothes out the night before
**If you have kids, PLAN in the time - so its before they wake up… and if they wake up early… maybe you streamline it and they watch a cartoon for 12 mins instead of skipping it altogether.
**Do the OTHER STUFF the night before
Make lunches
Respond to emails
Get gas in your car
**Figure out how you like to look without making it take forever - so it’s not practical
YOUTUBE is amazing!!
Lindsay’s Show Notes!
You know I’m going to say that the way this goes is going to be all about your attitude and how you think about it and how you feel about it are totally going to transfer to your kids. So I like to focus on what I CAN do vs. what I CAN’T do. And it really helps you get creative and think outside the box. Here are links to some of Lindsay’s favorite things!
Handwriting without tears
Cursive without tears
ABC mouse
Here are link to some toys your kids will love!
One Step Tie-Dye Kit
Jolly Unicorn Slime Kit
Water Marbles
Hide&Seek Rock Painting Kit
Giant Hatching Unicorn
Ginormous Hatching Eggs
Crack Your Own Geodes
Crystal Growing Discovery Set
Zimbbos!
Paw Patrol Fingers Puppets
Disney Fingers Puppets
Wikki Sticks
Paw Patrol Color Wonder
Paint With Water Farm Animals
Volcano Kit
Lite Brite
Battleship
Break Open Real Geodes
Play-Doh Kitchen
How To Draw Animals
How To Draw Barbara Soloff Levy
Rainbow Scratch Paper Animals
Water Wow!
Fun Foam Foam Clay
This podcast is going to be different if you are listening to it weeks or months after it’s release date… but really so much of the concepts can apply to other situations.
Uncertainty.. the unknown… the scary parts and the what-if’s and the worst case scenario thinking.
Lindsay’s tackling the Corona virus… and where we are at and how we can approach it without losing our minds or getting depressed or so much stress from worrying that we can’t function!
She reminds you that you can control your emotions, your mood, the way you breathe, how you prepare for things, how you solve things, how you’re treating others around you, how you’re taking care of your body and putting the health and happiness of yourself and your family at the top of your priority list.
Listen in today as Lindsay shares how she is preparing her home and her pantry for self-quarantine. Lots of talk about healthy foods and boosting your immune system… and so many other things that contribute to your overall health, which is all of our highest priorities at this point.
Let’s take a breath, put on some calm music, and make the best decisions we can in this uncertain time.
Today we’re talking about finding a song that puts you in the mood that you want to be in. One that pumps you up, or inspires or, or reminds you of what's important to you.
Sometimes I listen to it once a week and other times I listen to it 5 times a day.
When you’re picking your song… think about how you want to FEEL… and what message really speaks to you .. that you want to remind yourself of often.
Here are the lyrics to my music mantra song!!
Biscuits by Kacey Musgraves
Taking down your neighbor won't take you any higher
I burned my own damn finger poking someone else's fire
I've never gotten taller making someone else feel small
If you ain't got nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all
Just hoe your own row and raise your own babies
Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Nobody's perfect, we've all lost and we've all lied
Most of us have cheated, the rest of us have tried
The holiest of holies even slip from time to time
We've all got dirty laundry hanging on the line So hoe your own row, yeah, and raise your own babies
Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Yeah mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Pouring salt in my sugar won't make yours any sweeter
Pissing in my yard ain't gonna make yours any greener
And I wouldn't know about the rocks in your shoes
So I'll just do me and, honey, you can just do you (so low)
So hoe your own row, yeah raise your own babies
Smoke your own smoke and grow your own daisies
Mend your own fences and own your own crazy
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy
Maybe you want this song to be your music mantra too! I’m telling you… it’s a good one!
Hoping this episode inspired you to find your music mantra. A song that gets you in the frame of mind that you want to be in. Maybe you listen in the morning to get going in the right way… or you listen when you’re in a funk or feeling yourself having an off day and you need a little pick me up. Whatever it is… music is powerful and this is such a great way to remind yourself of who you want to be and how you want to feel and the energy that you want to put into the world… and it feels more fun and more natural in the process.
Cheers friends, to whatever mantra speaks to you and to minding your own biscuits and life will be gravy!
BONUS podcast episode today!! This one is your PEP TALK for whenever you need it! You know when you’re just in a funk... or having a bad day or week or month or YEAR! ...and you just need a good pep talk?? Or several of them?? Well this is it! Whatever happened (or didn’t happen), whatever is unfair or hurtful or irritating or tough to deal with... this will really help!
Like I said this is just the start of this conversation together. I’ve always said you have to manage your own health and the health of your family and you can’t just accept what you are told and you have to be proactive about it.
But it wasn’t until the last year that I was proactive about it in THIS way. In the way where I pay attention to my body and how I feel after eating certain foods… or doing certain things.
And really looking at my stress level and diet and nutrition… and my STOOL! OH my gosh… all the things!
What are the root causes of disease?
What are the things that mostly make us sick?
-Stress
-Poor diet
-Allergens
-Toxins
What are the things that humans need to be happy and healthy?
-Right food
-Nutrients
-Balance of hormones
-Air
-Water
-Love
-Meaning
-Connection
-Purpose
Take out the bad stuff and put in the good stuff and miracles happen!
It’s just a new way of looking at your life and your health. I hope you got a ton out of this episode. Let me know what you thought!! I'd love to hear from you!
Lindsay’s introduction to the episode:
This episode is about being so positive and optimistic… that it’s contagious to the people around you.
You know when you’re around someone with good energy? And it just makes you feel good? I just think life is an energy game.
Get away from negative energy.
I don’t know if I’m more passionate about anything else than this. I just think positivity and optimism are what it’s all about.
You find what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for negativity you find it. If you’re looking for positivity you find it.
The most important decision you make is the state of mind that you live in. You create your reality.
I was hesitant to tackle this topic for 2 reasons… I didn’t want it to sound rah rah cheesy… like YAY! BE HAPPY!… and it’s such a big topic to cover… I could talk for 9 hours about it.
But we’re just doing to do it. We’re going to talk about having a YES mindset and a CAN DO attitude. We’re going to talk about being positive… and so positive that it’s contagious. Let’s go!
Here are some of Lindsay’s key points:
✨Positivity is a choice. And it has to be intentional.
✨Life is an energy game- put out good energy and you will attract good energy.
✨Having a positive perspective makes for a much happier life.
✨If you eat foods that make you feel good, all of this is easier.
✨You have to know what makes you happy…. because if you aren’t doing what makes you happy… then you’re not likely to positive as you go through your day.
✨Our words and our thoughts are just so powerful.
✨Life gets so much better when we stop complaining and start creating solutions
✨Showing your children how to live is the most important thing you can do.
✨If there is negativity in your ear… you have to switch up what you are listening to.
The bottom line is this… The world just reflects your own feelings back at you. Reality is neutral. Reality has no judgment. You are born and you have a set of experiences. And how you choose to interpret that is up to you. Happiness is a choice. And positivity is a choice. We really hope this episode inspires you to go out in the world… and be positive. And do good things and put positive energy in the world. Cause we know… it comes back right back at ya! It makes for such a happier existence for you and the people around you.
Cheers to being positively contagious!
In this episode, Lindsay covers…
Why sleep is so important!
Go to bed earlier..
Create a routine and keep a similar one on the weekends
Don’t hit the snooze button!
Just wake up!
Start with a workout
Put on music to get moving
Establish a good morning and nighttime routine
Take an hour to decompress before bed
Wake up at 5am! Before the world is awake!
Consistency is key- your body loves it
Most successful business people wake up early
You’ll get a head start on the day and you’ll love it!
Thanks for listening friends! Now go set your alarm for 5am!!
Lindsay’s notes:
Packing can be such a pain! I know a lot of people leave it to the last night… because you’re probably dreading it.
And trying to get stuff done before you leave… and it’s the last thing on your list… but this is my very first tip!!! Don't pack the night before!! You will over pack and forget stuff!! Plan to do it a few days ahead of time so you have time to pick-up anything you're missing! My other BEST tip!! Send a box ahead of time If you’re bringing a car seat… bring your usual one and get a cover…. OR get a compact travel one - i'll link both! Avoid overpacking!
Weigh your luggage ahead of time Avoid underpacking! You can buy most things you could want when you get there! Also- get a lightweight suitcase Check the airlines so you know what you’re working with… you may get 2 free bags with your flight so it might be better to spread out the weight rather than filling one to the tippy tippy top and risking overweight fees. But I’m telling you… sending a box ahead of time is GOLD! Vacation is supposed to be FUN and now packing can be fun too! It should get you excited for your trip… and if you do it ahead of time, it won’t be stressful! And you start your vacation rested and ready to have fun! Let me know what you thought out this episode! And cheers! To vacation! Favorite travel item links:
Travel car seat
Car seat cover (if taking your regular car seat)
Packing cubes
Personalized luggage tags
Luggage scale
Today, Lindsay talks all about doing what you’re best at and what you like doing the most.
Start with a good brain dump. Write it all down… big and small… things you want to do today, this week, this year or things you think you do until next year… whatever it is, if it’s on your mind… get it out!
Then… go through your list and see what falls into each category…
Automate. Eliminate. Delegate.
Are you making yourself crazy trying to do everything yourself?? You have to stop!
And here’s how!
- Automate
Automation takes time and makes it into more time. Anything you create a process for today…. saves you time tomorrow. So you get a return on this time invested. 2. Eliminate
Does it really need to be done? One of the hardest parts of this is… we struggle with guilt.
We want to say no but we end up saying yes.
We go through life trying to never say no.
You can’t go through life trying to never say no because the thing is… you are always saying no to something - anytime you say yes to one thing- you are saying no to an infinite number of other things.
But you have to think about… what items on your list don’t absolutely need to be done?
Which items do you do because you think you “should” and not because it serves any particular purpose? What do you do for others out of obligation or guilt? Which activities do you do simply because you've always done them, even though you may not need to anymore? What do you do mindlessly, without intention? 3. Delegate
What can someone else do for you?
Because you dread it or maybe they can be more efficient with it?
A lot of time we don’t delegate because we think… they can’t do it as well as we do.
And a lot of times that's true! But you have to allow for imperfection! And understand they will likely get better at it! First, find the right person and how them how you do it. Then, focus on the outcome and let go of the process. Speed over perfection, baby!! THEN… look at what's left on your list! Evaluate what remains!! Your list shouldn’t be a million miles long anymore! You should be left with your essential few! Lindsay’s a big fan of looking at what we are doing… and what parts of it do you like and not like? What do you dread? Maybe you don’t have to dread it.. maybe you don’t have to do it at all! Because for so many things…. You can delegate, automate and eliminate.
Don’t avoid eating out because you think it's all bad!
It’s totally possible to eat at restaurants AND be healthy!
It’s all about balance so you never feel deprived.
Choose a healthy main and have little splurges in your starter or dessert.
When you’re looking at the menu…
Look for these WORDS…
- grilled
- steamed
- baked
- roasted
- broiled
Avoid these WORDS
- fried
- crispy
- breaded
- creamed
More tips!
❤️ Limit white starches and sugars
❤️ Skip the bread basket!
❤️Ask for double or triple veggies!
❤️Don't be afraid to ask questions! What’s in it?
❤️Order Zucchini noodles instead of pasta noodles if they have it!
❤️Find the places who are progressive in this way and offering healthy options!
❤️Careful of the calories and sugar in drinks… is it worth it??
❤️If you’re going to do a starch… do it as healthy as possible like brown rice.
❤️Look at the whole menu!! So you can see what looks good and decide on how you’re going to balance it out!!
❤️If you don’t have a sensitivity to gluten - gluten free - it's not always the healthiest option
❤️Get your dressing and sauces on the side!
❤️ Don’t arrive starving!!
❤️ Bring your own alternative (purse treats😂😋)
❤️ Slow down your earring speed and drink water!
❤️ Splurge when you want- just don’t overdo it!
AND there you HAVE IT!!
Hoping these hacks help with fueling your body with the best food possible so you feel AWESOME! Thank you for listening! Cheers friends, to going out and eating healthy!
This episode is filled with all of Lindsay‘s favorite love hacks! Here are a few of them! Enjoy!
❤️Do one thing each day for someone that you love - that you weren’t going to do
❤️Be patient even when you don’t want to be
❤️Celebrate little things
❤️Smile MORE!
❤️HUG MORE!
❤️Give more compliments
❤️When they need it, put their needs above yours
❤️When the days seem to run into one another, do something to break out of the routine.
❤️Give them your complete attention… without SCROLLING!!
❤️Feed them!
That’s it! So many little things to think about and work into your daily life.
it’s so good to take time to be mindful of the love in your life and how much attention you are giving to it. The more effort you put into it, the more joy you will get from it. It’s all the little things over the years that become the big things and strengthen your love and your relationships.
Cheers friends… to being awesome at LOVE!
Today’s episode is all about execution. Getting things done, not trying to make them perfect… speed over perfection!
We’re going to talk about how to make ourselves more efficient in the way we do things and how we can be more decisive and GET THINGS DONE!
For so many people it’s so hard to put something out into the world that they don’t think is absolutely perfect… I get it! But here’s the thing… it’s better than putting nothing out into the world!
We can’t worry about judgment… we’re just going to work in fast-mode!
This way of thinking made me so much happier because I was seeing more progress in all parts of my life.
Speed over perfection!
In order to get used to speed over perfection… we need to do a few things…
**Improve our processes… get a routine down so you aren’t making a million little decisions in a day and get decision fatigue!
**Accept that not everything you do is going to be 110%… and that’s OK! In fact it’s amazing!
**Don’t worry about mistakes.. most are easily correctable!
**Timing in life is everything!
**Stop making things more complicated than they need to be
**You don’t have to start everything from scratch
**Stop multi-tasking (most of the time)
**Stop being afraid of judgment
**Be more decisive
Here’s the thing. Life is moving fast… and I really believe that when you think the things you want or need to do.. and getting them done… you have to think about speed first and perfection second. Make it happen first, you can always make it better laster.. in some way. Execute and move on. Execute and move on. You’ll get so much more done, you’ll feel more productive and happy and not as behind on all the things you need to do. Because you’re focusing on one task, completing it then moving on to the next.
You’re not worrying about judgment, you’re not multi-tasking everything out, you’re not over complicating things… it’s speed over perfection and it’s awesome!
Lindsay’s Show Notes:
Today, I’m trying to convince you to start your morning with a FREEZING COLD shower! That’s right, a freezing shower.
For a few reasons… first let’s start with the health benefits!
A cold shower improves your immunity and gives you better circulation, lowers your stress, promotes faster muscle recovery and it’s good for your skin and nails.
And the best part… it makes you stronger and more resilient!
This physical task develops your mental toughness… bottom line! Adding in this simple habit every morning, just for a few minutes, completely strengthens my overall mindset.
But then… the inevitable happens… at some point, you WILL want to quit. Throw in the towel, call it a day, whatever man I’m done with this! I’m freezing and shivering and miserable!
But it’s soooo important that you don’t. This is the most important part of the whole thing. If you quit halfway, you’re telling yourself that if you’re dedicated to something.. and then it gets hard or uncomfortable.. you’ll just quit. And that’s the opposite of the goal here!!
Whereas if you bear through it… you are telling yourself… this sucks, I knew it would… there’s no going back, I started this and I’m doing it, I’m not a quitter and I’m strong enough to power through it!
When you reach the end of your very long 2 minutes… you’ll feel so alive! Refreshed and like you can literally do anything! You’ve already accomplished something HARD early in the morning and you are charging into your day!
I talk a lot on this podcast on how powerful your thoughts are… and how things don’t happen to you as much as you react to them and interpret them to what they are going to mean. In this case… I used to cringe and cuss under my breath and shake… and then I was like… I’m tougher than this… yes my body FEELS uncomfortable but I get to choose how I react. So I changed my mind about it and I wasn’t cussing and shaking anymore. The way you think about things is just so powerful and in this case, it changes how you look at and how you react to it during. You toughen up and work through the pain.
I love this hack and I hope you try it out … and let me know what you thought! Thanks for listening and cheers… to not being a person that quits when things get tough!
Lindsay’s Show Notes:
So what is overwhelm?
As you go through life, your brain fills up with information… it’s just like a full brain. You check your email, you check your texts, you talk to your kids, you have work meetings, theres a pipe leak in the house, someone is irritated with you… and before you know it … your brain is FULL and you’re overwhelmed!
SO what do you do when you’ve hit OVERWHELM?
That in the moment sense that you can’t handle it all.
There are 2 types of overwhelm that happen in my life and I think most peoples lives…
- That moment when there is just SO Much going on… you’re in a hurry… this is when I give myself a pep talk
- Then, when it’s not like I’m in a hurry to get somewhere… I do a brain dump!!
So you have to do a BRAIN DUMP so you have an empty brain so you can focus again.
So this is what I do!
I dump everything on a piece of paper- not in notes, not on computer- on paper!
Write it ALLLL down… whats bothering you is now on paper. THEN, I go through all do all the things that can be done in under 5 minutes… send a text, write an email to solve.
THEN I highlight the 3 most important things. The rest is going to have to wait- or some might have to be eliminated!
And I focus on getting these 3 things done. I have a clear head so I can focus on these things and I’m not trying to do EVERYTHING so I actually accomplish NOTHING!
Then we get into how to avoid overwhelm!
I really think you have to plan ahead and start your day organized!!
Begin your day knowing how your day is going to go and have your day already set the night before.
Even doing all of this… sometimes it just happens… so what do you do when it does?
Rather than getting frazzled… I tell myself… YOU CAN HANDLE THIS! THIS IS NOT GOING TO BREAK YOU!
I am always working to master my own mind. YOU get to choose the energy that you FEEL and BRING into moments. You choose to generate your emotional energy.
The more that you are the person that stands SOLID when these moments happen the stronger you become. You start to respect yourself more and you have more confidence when tell yourself I GOT THIS and you believe yourself!!
Thanks for listening! And cheers… to knowing that whatever the day throws your way…You’re awesome and YOU GOT THIS!
In this episode, Lindsay has all the tips for traveling with your kids… all by yourself! And why she thinks you should do it!
Here are some of the highlights:
✅ Pick good times to fly when booking your trip
✅Pack lots of airplane snacks
✅Pack things for kids to do… little toys for kids to open.. and iPads!!
✅Send a box ahead of time with bulky things like diapers and practical things like cereal!
✅Pack your carry-on with things you need of the day!
✅Make reservations ahead of time - call concierge and kids club!
✅Try to pick a place that you can travel to then STAY there!
✅Lindsay’s goal is to not even rent a car!
✅Think of it as an adventure and a trip.. its not the same as a vacation
✅Don’t get overwhelmed!
So many great mom hacks packed into this episode! Let us know what you think by commenting on Lindsay’s Instagram post about this episode. @LindsaysCloud
Hope you try out some of these tips! Happy traveling!
Lindsay’s Show Notes on this episode:
Think about what a number one fan is!
Let’s use me for example… I love Bon Jovi. At one point in my life I would have said that I was Bon Jovi’s biggest fan. So that means… in you’re mind, their just the best- the ultimate! No matter what, they are awesome! I’m not focusing on the 5 songs that Bon Jovi made that totally flopped, not for a second! I’m focusing on You Give Love a Bad Name and Shot Through The Heart!
We focus on the good and we get EXCITED about them… we go out of our way to give energy and effort towards them. We speak highly of them and our overall energy is so positive and happy
This is exactly what you have to do for yourself!
I really think it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
We’re talking about how to remove poison that may have been given to you in the past and how to ignore any negative talk that may be going on now.
True self-confidence means of valuing your own opinion yourself myself more than anybody else’s opinion about you. And this self confidence has to be 100% based on your own thoughts - not the validation of your parents or your spouse… nobody! Here are some other things we cover that are so important for the process of becoming your own number one fan…
Don't over judge yourself Kill negative thoughts Think positive
Act positive
Don’t compare yourself to other people
You can’t let your fails kill your self confidence Take the time to get ready each day so you feel good about yourself
Stand talk
Speak clearly and directly
Be grateful
Smile
Exercise
Clear off your to do list
Be organized
I hope today’s episode helped you get one step closer to being your own number one fan!
So you focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses and the self talk going on in your head is all positive, you’ve killed the negative!
Ping me on Instagram and let me know what you thought about this topic by commenting on my post about this episode. And if you didn’t know already, I have another podcast, called The Million Dollar Tan podcast where I talk about everything related to sunless tanning & having healthy and glowing skin that radiates. Check it out, I think you’ll like it! Thanks for listening… and cheers to being your own number one fan!
In this episode, Lindsay talks about how to be awesome at not squashing your kids creativity. And she’s not just talking about little kids… we’re going deep and talking about kids all the way up to college.
We’re talking about keeping our kids creative… and realizing they are born creative. They don’t grow into creativity … they grow out of it! We program them and educate them out of it. In this episode, Lindsay talks about why we should let our kids splash in mud puddles, or have their own little experiments at home… because it gives them a chance to learn something and it keeps them curious and adventurous. As parents there are so many things we have to say no to.. things that are dangerous or disrespectful or will destroy something. So when it’s not going to do any of those things (but might be annoying to clean up😆) trying saying yes, instead of no. Even if you’re tired and it’s the last thing you feel like signing up for, just try it. If we are always saying no to everything, how can they continue to be creative and curious? They slowly become programmed, and that’s not the goal!
The goal is for them to grow up feeling like they had a voice and their opinion mattered and you let them get dirty and make messes (within reason) and you weren’t more worried about the cleanliness of the house then them having fun and the freedom to explore.
Another way Lindsay changed what she was doing to embrace creativity is how she responded when they asked her a question. Rather than giving them the answer, she asked them a question back. So they have to think and it starts a conversation, rather than me shooting back the answer to their question. When they ask her a question about wanting to do something or go somewhere, she takes a second before she answers… so she has a better reaction. If they asked you, it has to be important to them at some level, so you want to give it a thought and not just say the first thing to come to mind. Maybe try to say yes more, or at least meet them in the middle 🤗
Then, in the second half of the podcast, Lindsay gets into schooling and not holding our kids to traditional standards. Let’s really get to know our kids as they grow up… and allow them to be creative rather than programing them. Let’s teach our kids to get out of their comfort zone… and that they don’t have to do the same thing everyone else is doing. They can try new things.. and not be afraid to fail or make mistakes.
We need to see our kids creative capacities and encourage them to in whatever it is that makes them the happiest.
Lindsay says the happiest people she knows are the people that get to do what they want to do most of the time. And really what more could we want for kids?
Let us know what you thought my commenting on Lindsay’s post about this topic on her IG @LindsaysCloud 💕 Thanks for listening!
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In this episode, Lindsay talks about EMFs (electro magnetic fields) and how you can reduce your exposure at home! Lindsay shares her experience having an expert come out to her house to spend the day measuring the levels in each room. She made a few simple changes that reduced their EMF exposure by over half! She’s sharing so many ideas of how you can do the same!
Things like..
Turn off WiFi routers at night or put them on a timer or unplug each night Put cell phone in airplane mode - no radiation on airplane mode Make sure Bluetooth devices are in airplane mode or off Hard wire things that you can like Sonos speakers While the affects of EMF exposure is debatable, here are some possible common symptoms:
- Brain fog or lack of concentration
- Tiredness and fatigue
- Sleep disturbances, including insomnia.
- Headaches
- Changes in memory
- Lack of concentration
Even if you don’t feel like you have any symptoms, there’s no downside to reducing your exposure!
Lindsay talks about dirty electricity- what it is and how it’s such an easy fix with these plugs!
Greenwave Filters Here’s the expert Lindsay had come out to her house:
Create Healthy Homes
Oram Miller
310-720-7686
Thanks for listening! Share what you’ve learned and add to the conversation by commenting on the post about this episode on Lindsay’s Instagram @LindsaysCloud.
Cheers to being awesome at making decisions that help us be our healthiest selves!
Lindsay’s Show Notes!
Potty training is like one of the least fun things to do as a parent in my opinion! And this is the attitude I had at the beginning of this adventure and I feel like it made it sooo much harder!
When I decided WE ARE GOING TO DO THIS! And … WE ARE GOING TO MAKE THIS FUN
!It became less painful. I thought about what would motivate my son… and what would motivate any kid to want to sit on a cold potty rather than just go in their cozy diaper- like they’ve been doing for the last 2.5 years.
So, after reading and listening to everything I could find on the topic, I created my own method of praise and prize… and it totally worked! (To my surprise!).
In this episode I break down how we used 2 motivating factors… Praise and Prize to potty train our 2 1/2 year boy in one week. And on day one we were fully in diapers - like starting at the actual beginning!
This episode has so many tips that helped us make potty training fun and successful.
Share your tips with this community by commenting on my post about this episode on my Instagram @LindsaysCloud
And by the way- now that we’ve talked potty together - we’re really a tight community!
Thanks for listening friends!
Cheers to potty training!
Lindsay’s Show Notes!
Do you know that by January 15th the majority of people who have made New Years goals have given up on them?
Most people even don’t make a resolution anymore - bc they know they don’t keep them… why even bother??
What is it that makes us want to make a resolution? Why at the beginning of the year?
its something inside us that makes us want to make things better- and just see progress in life.
The calendar is arbitrary… so I like to make it more weekly than yearly.
What does it really take to make it happen?
ON a regular basis, we feel good when we feel like we have forward motion - PROGRESS!
Progress equals happiness and it makes us feel alive.
I can grow and change and improve and progress!
Progress makes us feel alive!
So I think of it as progress rather than CHANGE.
Things change without us even trying- change is automatic but progress is not.
You have to take control and make decisions for real progress.
And what I’ve learned… is the best way to do this is to make actual changes in your routine.
First, you need to have a vision of what you actually want - like a real vision.
It’s not telling you what you’re going to get- it tells you what you’re not going to get.
A vision excites you! It tells you what you’re GOING to get! I want goals that will PULL me… not PUSH me… see the difference… so you aren’t struggling and pushing yourself away from something… you’re so driven you’re PUSHED towards it. I just think it’s a positive way of thinking about the progress you want to see in your world.
Your vision has to be backed with strong reasons - so you keep going when the going gets tough! I keep a list next to me of my overall priorities and the small tasks too… so I stay focused on what I’ve decided is my vision… and I have strong enough reasons to keep working towards the goals … so I have the daily reminders to help me stay focused and not waste time when I have a spare hour or so.. and I know my deep reasons so I don’t quit.
I think that reviewing it everyday is key. I’m not one to have a vision board with “life goals”… I’m more like a have a to do list in my front seat of my car type of girl. And I put notes on there as I think of them… like if I realize oh my gosh I’ve been neglecting this… or this kid really needs this from me… I put it at the top of the working weeks list so I see it every time I glance I’m reminded of it and when I have a free 30 mins… I’ll work on cursive with my daughter who’s struggling with it… rather than doing nothing/ scrolling IG for that free 30 mins.
Reviewing my goals is huge for me… it just stays top of mind daily for me this way and practically works much better for me and I move forward on my goals faster - because I’m better centered on what I really want to see happen.
A few years ago, I watched a Tony Robbins seminar on YouTube and It was a huge light bulb moment for me… it’s about putting things on your MUST list.
Everyone in their life gets their MUSTS… we don't get our SHOULDS.
When it's a MUST for you… it's like I’m going to FIND a way or MAKE a way…
I’ve always exercised daily, I’m one of those people that just love it and it’s on my MUST list. I feel better if I exercise so I just made a decision a long time ago… it’s on my MUST list to exercise most days.
So when we’re thinking about how to implement our goals into our daily routine… I think we have to put it on our MUST list… that way you aren’t making the decision each day- its on your must list- you find a way to make it happen.
And you have to look at where you have limitations set in your life- so often we get in routine or tell ourselves that something isn’t possible - sometimes we have to look at - why is that really there- and break through that- and not let these barriers we’ve set for ourselves years ago- block what we really want in our lives.
Think about your shoulds in your life versus your musts.
We sometimes get our SHOULDS … but we always get our MUSTS.
Changing your life is about the change in your inner game. If you learn what shapes you … and get rid of any hang ups that preventing you to break through to the next level..
And focusing on what we really want, getting them on our musts list and find a way or make a way.
Routine is where the power is!! Take your huge goals… and turn them into little things you do each day… and it gives you so much momentum… because you get little wins each day and little bits of progress in the direction that you want… so you feel good and you’re motivating to keep going and keep pushing.
I’ve learned… it’s all about your routine and the things you do daily to reach your goals.
And you know what… it makes it not overwhelming anymore! You’ve broken it down into bite size pieces… so you don’t freeze before you start. Maybe you want to improve your relationship with your spouse…. And it seems like a huge mountain to climb… but if you set little rituals you do each day… you make progress towards your goal. Success or failure comes from all the little things. It’s failure to say I’m sorry. Or it’s the success of communicating in a healthy way on the daily. Success is calling and saying I love you in the middle of the day.
How many relationships are dead today because they’ve stopped doing new things… and they’ve just gotten too much into a routine and slowly it just looses its fire and its energy…
All the little stuff- thats where the success comes.
I believe in showing up - and showing up with energy and a focus on what it is that I want to make forward motion on!
I’m not competing with anyone else - I’m competing with what I’m capable of!
I want to discover what I’m capable of - and push through of whatever is holding me back… and be the best that I can.
I want to see you get what you want this year. Even if your life is great, we want to keep making it better - that's what makes us happy - who we become.
So think… what area of your life do you want to improve?
What is your vision? What do you want it to be?
What are the things you are going to add to your daily and weekly routine to make progress towards that goal?
Wake yourself up- today and EVERY Monday! You don’t need to start on January 1st! Don’t put too much on your place… you just need to get momentum…
There are 2 pains in life… the pain of disciple or the pain of regret.
It’s painful now as you push through the uncomfortable moments.. or it’s painful later as you regret not doing it. To me it’s all about being proud of myself and not having regrets.
What do I want? What routine will I setup to get me there?
Thank you for listening! I hope this episode helps you look at New Years resolutions in a different way and make them more like weekly goals than New Years resolutions. And to make progress in life in a practical way so it’s not overwhelming and actually attainable… with daily rituals and routines to get you there.
Happy New Year friends… today and EVERY MONDAY!!
Lindsay loves Las Vegas!! WITH KIDS!
In today’s episode… you get a complete guide to Vegas with kids!
How to get there… what to pack.. where to stay… where to eat… what shows to see… and what attractions to visit!
Links to places mentioned:
Catch
Top of the world at the top of the Stratosphere
Sugar Factory
Giordano pizza
Blue man group
Mystere Cirque
Beatles love show
Marvel Museum in Treasure Island
Indoor sky diving
New York New York arcade and coaster
Las Vegas Observation Wheel
Siegfried & Roy’s Secret Garden and Dolphin Habitat
Shark Reef Aquarium at Mandalay Bay
Circus Circus Adventuredome
Wax Museum at the Grand Canal Shops
Venetian - gondola ride
Minus 50 ice bar
There are passes you can buy online that include several of these stops.
Some of them book online too for better pricing.
I hope this inspires your next awesome Vegas trip… with kids! Vegas, baby!
In this episode, Lindsay goes through the 10 steps she thinks you should take if you want to start your own non-profit.
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Volunteer at places that interest you
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See what the void is
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Make a plan and run it by people
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Form a legal 501(c)3 non-profit
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Get the word out! Start social media accounts & an email list
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Create own website
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Figure out ways to raise money & how to get people to volunteer
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Start making an impact! (Start grass roots style)
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Keep it small or grow it big
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Keep your eye on the overall mission!
Here are a few links to help with the logistics to form your own nonprofit!
*After you determine your name, secure the URL for it on www.godaddy.com
*After you draft and file the articles of incorporation (templates can be found online) File here!
https://formswift.com/articles-of-incorporation
*To apply for federal tax exemption with the IRS
https://www.irs.gov/charities-non-profits/applying-for-tax-exempt-status
*To apply for your states tax exemption with your states Franchise Tax Board (FTB)
https://www.ftb.ca.gov/forms/misc/927.html
Today's topic! How to be awesome at not gaining weight during the holiday season.
I used to think it was in inevitable… it’s the holidays… you gain weight. But not anymore… I implement a few simple and practical strategies to where I don’t gain weight during the holidays or if I do, it's not much.
And the best part is… I still totally indulge… But not every day. In this episode we are going to talk about how to make a plan to eat and enjoy and celebrate… But also get back to healthy when you’re not celebrating.
How to carve out time for workouts and plan ahead… and how to squeeze them in when you miss the work out as planned.
... and do all this in a non-stressing way! Make a mental decision… and form a general plan of how you’re going to attack it and then there's less individual decisions on the daily but more of just following the plan that you’ve already set up.
Join me today as we talk about eating and exercise and how to stay healthy during the holidays… without compromising any of the fun.
Today’s episode is a game changer for your mental health and happiness.
It’s about not caring what other people think of you.
The judgment of others (or fear of judgment) stops so many of us from doing things that we want to do.
In this episode, Lindsay shares her journey to get to the point where she’s completely freed herself of worrying what other people think of her. She’s still completely considerate & conscious & aware… but she doesn’t make decisions based on what other people will think of it.
If someone makes a hurtful comment on an Instagram post like .. you’re fat or you're ugly or you look old… it stings for a second but then you have to think… this doesn't have to do with me - this is about their own stuff. That person tried to send me POISON… and I get to choose if I take that poison or not. IF I’m going to shake it off or if I’m going to think about it all day long.
Your day can’t be ruined by something someone says to you because their opinion of you is not as important as your own opinion about yourself. And you’re not letting that negativity sink in and morph into your own thoughts about yourself.
The freedom that comes with not caring what people think is incredible.
You only have one life- and it's much better to live it for yourself than for somebody else.
Thanks for listening! Head over to Lindsay’s Instagram @LindsaysCloud and comment on the post about this episode!
Cheers friends, to not caring what other people think!
Happy Thanksgiving! I hope as you are listening to this you are spending time with people you love and taking an extra moment to be grateful.
Today… We are talking about being thankful and the little daily routine I do with my kids that has them focus on what they are thankful for every day... not just on Thanksgiving.
We’re also going to take it a step further.
We are talking about positivity… and happiness and the choices you make and how you choose to interpret the things that happened to you.
Happiness is a choice. And taking a moment each day to be thankful is a huge part of this.
Join me today as we pause for a second to think about all that we have to be thankful for and happy about.
Let’s go!
Today we’re talking about losing… And how to shift your mindset so you don’t think of it as winning and losing but winning and learning.
Lindsay shares a few of her own losses, how she dealt with them then and how she would deal with them differently now.
www.HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com
This episode is all about Disneyland Hacks! All the things you need to know to have the BEST DISNEYLAND DAY EVER!
Lindsay covers things like… how to avoid waiting in long lines, what to wear, when to go, where to park… all of it!
Share our Disneyland hacks by commenting on Lindsay’s post about this episode on Instagram @LindsaysCloud. We love sharing everything awesome!
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In this episode, Lindsay talks about helicopter parenting and how she learned not to be one anymore! Talking about allowing your kids to have small failures to learn, letting them make their own decisions and not solving all of their problems for them. Lindsay is honest about the learning process she’s gone through with this and mistakes she’s made in the past. She’s sharing specific tactics that you can implement today to give your kids more freedoms and allow them to be their own little people. Whether you’re a full blown helicopter parent, or maybe just a little… you’re sure to find some gems of parenting information in this episode!
Welcome back to the How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast!
Todays Topic: How to be awesome at finding an extra 30 minutes everyday to accomplish your goals
You know how you have certain goals or tasks that you never quite get to because you just don’t have enough time?
Whatever it is… big or small… if you don’t have time for it now, there’s isn’t a great chance that you will anytime soon- unless you make a change in your routine.
Today we are talking about life hacks that you can do to save yourself 30 minutes every day and replace those 30 minutes with things you feel like you are missing.
I’m going to break down 3 strategies…. That you need to learn in order to do this.
And they are…. automate, eliminate and delegate. It really comes down to stop spending time on dumb stuff… and really take a look at how you’re spending your time everyday.
We’re going to talk about what you should really fill those 30 minutes with… and what are things you can eliminate… without changing anything. Today we are talking about becoming more efficient in the daily micro of everything you do to make big strides in the macro… in the big picture of life. Let’s become more efficient and happier together… as we approach the end of this decade. Let’s go!
Today we are talking about having good reactions.
Reactions to questions people ask you, or gifts people give you, or shade people throw your way, judgment, unexpected events… whatever it is… I’ve really learned that if you program your mind… you can make sure you have a good reaction every time.
So today we are talking about How To Be Awesome… at having good reactions!
Today we're talking about taking the crazy out of the holiday season. Planning your gifting so that you do 99% of your purchasing during Black Friday week.
Today I’m sharing the life hacks I’ve learned to plan ahead in my holiday gift giving… Make lists and get it all done early and at the very best prices of the season.
This is one of those life hacks that I’m like oh my gosh how have I not learned and implemented this sooner- so I’m so excited to share it with you.
How many times have you talked to people in the month of December and they’re totally frazzled and they’re like… Oh my gosh I haven’t even started or oh my gosh I’m so stressed I’m only halfway through or they’re going to the crowded mall every weekend and their stress and fighting with their spouse and taking all the fun out of holidays.
Today we’re going through all the steps that you need to take NOW to plan your holiday gift giving and how to do it from the comfort of your own home a month ahead of time. Then when you’re shopping in December it’s just a pick up those little extras or to be social… It’s not this stressing experience that we’re all used to.
Today we’re talking about how to be awesome at doing all of your holiday shopping during Black Friday week.
Links to awesome things referenced in this episode:
Custom phone cases from Baublebar or Casetify
The new square Polaroids
If you want something pricey there's nothing better than the DYSON blow dryer.. and at Nordstrom right now they have a special set that includes a cool stand for it!
I'm OBSESSED with Simplehuman bathroom mirrors… they come in all sizes from travel to massive… I love the rose gold in between one… it has a sensor light on it so it turns on when you walk up and it’s basically the best thing in my bathroom.
I always love the MAC make-up sets - I think they are just a great deal and always have a variety of fun colors that are easy to gift- and for the right person - a cool make-up gift is the best!
I absolutely love giving personalized gifts when possible… And Black Friday is such a good time to do this… Maybe it's a backpack or a purse with an embroidered name from Pottery Barn Kids… Or a custom cosmetic bag with your friends name on it from Stony Cloverfield… Or a super cute custom necklace with your friends name on it or maybe even their kids names from Bauble Bar…
Pottery Barn
Stoney Clover Lane Bauble Bar
On how to be awesome at everything today we are talking about how to be the happiest person in the room.
Lindsay thinks there are TWO parts to being the happiest person in the room.
- Not worrying about what anybody else in that room thinks of you.
- Not putting yourself in rooms you don't want to be in.
Today we’re talking about judgment and the talk that can go on in your mind about being judged or judging others. We’re also talking about how to say no… to things you don’t really want to do… and not feeling badly about it.
Being happy is the ultimate goal right… and being the happiest person in the room is definitely AWESOME!
So that’s what we’re tackling today! How to be awesome at being the happiest person in the room!
**Links to awesome things referenced in this episode:**
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck
In episode one, Lindsay explains the concept of "How To Be Awesome At Everything" and how it all got started.
She takes a very honest approach to the idea of actually being awesome and everything and breaks down what we're going to get out of this podcast.
Links to awesome things referenced in this episode:
Lindsay’s Company Million Dollar Tan:
https://milliondollartan.com/
The Million Dollar Tan Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/kz/podcast/million-dollar-tan-podcast/id1482777565%20%3C/a%3E