Knowing Her Sexually: Recent Episodes
J Parker and Chris Taylor
The Knowing Her Sexually podcast helps Christian husbands who want to better understand their wife sexually so they can know and love her more deeply.
Chris is back! She joins J in this episode to talk about her husband and what's coming next with the Knowing Her Sexually ministry.
If you can help Chris with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate:
- Online: Go Fund Me
- Mail: Chris Taylor c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929
Resources
- Doug Taylor Obituary (1964 - 2023) - Cullom, Illinois (calvertmemorial.com)
- Episode 12: Guy Talk - The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 14: Guy Talk - A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 16: Guy Talk - Men's Sexuality - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- To Good-willed Husbands Who Want a Great Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Visit our website: khsministry.com
J is joined by an extra special guest (hint: "logical") to discuss and wrap-up this season of practical sex tips for husbands. We review past episodes but have fresh takeaways as well!
And Chris will be back next time! Remember that if you can help her with funeral expenses for her late husband and through this period of transition, any amount would be appreciated! Two ways to donate:
- Online: Go Fund Me
- Mail: Chris Taylor c/o Cullom UMC 103 E Van Alstyne St Cullom IL 60929
Resources
Episode 3: Why Can't She Focus? Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | MarriedDance Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube How a Good Husband Can Be a Great Lover - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Visit our website: khsministry.com
J welcomes Ruth Buezis of Awaken Love, to talk about three activities associated with female orgasm (and none of them is intercourse!).
And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition.
Resources
- Awaken-Love (Ruth Buezis's Ministry)
- These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Manual Play for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Orgasmic Massage: When The Happy Ending Is The Goal - The Generous Husband
- Episode 77: How to Touch Your Wife
- You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her
- Why Your Wife May Not Want to Receive Oral Sex
- Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Volume 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Part Deux - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Dental Dam Cunnilingus Barrier - Married Dance
- Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure - Webinar Replay - Knowing Her Sexually
- Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage by Ruth Buezis (and edited by our own Chris Taylor!)
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2
Visit our website: khsministry.com
J is joined by Bonny Burns, cohost of Sex Chat for Christian Wives and author of Unlock Your Orgasm, to discuss why wives struggle with orgasm and how to help her reach climax.
And a reminder: If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition.
Resources
- Strong Wives - Bonny Burns's Ministry
- Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns
- Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap
- The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model (tandfonline.com) - Rosemary Basson
- Why Can’t My Wife Let Go and Enjoy Sex?
- Episode 153: Practical Tips for Reaching Orgasm - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay
- 4 Reasons Your Husband Desires Your Orgasm | The Forgiven Wife
- Q&A: Faking the Orgasm? It's Time to Get Real. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Visit our website: khsministry.com
J's back with guest host Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage to talk about personal lubricant—why a wife might need it, our recommended products, and how to use it to improve the sexual experience.
If you can help Chris Taylor financially, head to the GoFundMe page set up in honor of the passing of her husband, Doug. Any amount is appreciated and will help to defer funeral expenses and assist her with transition.
Resources
- Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube
- How Menopause Affects Her Sexuality (and How You Can Help)
- Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her
- Let's Talk Lube - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 5 Tips for Choosing a Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Slippery When Wet: Lubricant Review (intimacyinmarriage.com)
- Astroglide Personal Lubricant - Amazon
- Sliquid Personal Lubricants - Married Dance
- Sliquid Sample Packs
- Aloe Cadabra Personal Lubricant - Amazon
- K-Y yours + minute Warming/Tingle Lubricants - Amazon
- Jo Flavored Lubricants - Amazon
- Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubricants - Amazon
- Pumpkin Spice Lubricant? It’s a Thing. (intimacyinmarriage.com)
- Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Love Mop Sex Towel - Amazon (for clean-up)
- Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw - Married Dance (for protecting bed linens)
- Venus Pearls | Burns-Logsdon Therapeutics (b-ltx.com)
Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
We address a wife's' body image and what a husband can specifically do to help her feel comfortable and confident in the bedroom.
Resources
- Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Silky Robe | Mentionables
- "Baby Doll" Lingerie | Mentionables
- Why Won’t Your Wife Wear Lingerie? - Knowing Her Sexually
- Should You Buy Her Lingerie for Christmas? - Knowing Her Sexually
- Battery-Operated Candles | Amazon
- String Lights | Amazon
- Colored Light Bulbs | Amazon
- Episode 78: Sex Positions That Work for Her
- Helping Your Wife Feel Good About Her Breasts
- Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Edvard Munch's The Scream
- Satin Blindfold | Married Dance
- How to Help Your Wife Get Naked - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Let's talk about sex positions! Not just generally, but what we hear from wives about sex positions they like and don't like, and what works best for her.
Resources
- Christian Friendly Sex Positions (now 300+ Illustrated Sex Positions!)
- Doggy Style Sex Position aka "Stallion Style": How to Do It, 4 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
- Packing the Suitcase Sex Position: How to Do It, 3 Tips to Spice It Up - (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
- Dragonfly Sex Position: How to Do It, 6 Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
- Banana Pancakes Sex Position: How to Do It, Tips That Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
- Banana Pancakes - Jack Johnson
- Deck of Sex Position Cards | Christian Friendly Sex Positions
- Let's Ditch Doggy Style - Honeycomb & Spice
- The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - PubMed (nih.gov)
- CAT Sex Position & Technique: How to Do It, 2 Tips to Spice It Up (christianfriendlysexpositions.com)
- The technique of coital alignment and its relation to female orgasmic response and simultaneous orgasm - National Institutes of Health
- Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 Clitoral Stimulator - Christian sex toy store (marrieddance.com)
- Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance
- Sexual Positions: Hey, I'm a Housewife, Not a Gymnast (intimacyinmarriage.com)
- Sock Monkey Kama Sutra
- The Cookie Sutra
Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.
In our last episode, we talked about where to touch your wife. This time, Chris and J cover how to touch your touch your wife in ways that arouse, pleasure, and satisfy—all with the ultimate goal of wonderful sexual intimacy in your marriage.
Resources
- Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10
- Episode 76: Where to Touch Your Wife
- Q&A with J: "His Physical Touch Is Groping & Sex" - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- The One Sex Tip I Give Husbands Over and Over - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Husbands Only Need One of These to Turn Her On - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- "What To Do with Your Hands" – section in Hot, Holy & Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Chris and J share where to touch your wife to help her feel sexually interested, aroused, and valued. You might be surprised by some of the places on her body that intrigue many women.
Resources
- Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10
- Episode 40: Her Erogenous Zones
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous
On this first episode of Season 2 (Sex Tips), Chris and J talk about setting the mood for your wife. What can you do to draw her toward the bedroom and away from what might distract her from sexual intimacy?
Resources
- Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay - ONLY $10
- Bull Durham kitchen table scene (NSFW, PG-13)
- Viking Revolution Men's Balls Wash for Men
- Caldrea Linen And Room Spray Air Freshener
- Yankee Candle MidSummer’s Night Scented, Classic 22oz Large Jar (other scents available)
- Scented Candle Wax Melter/Warmer
- Aromatherapy Essential Oil Diffuser Gift Set
- Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- White Noise Machine
- Lock the Door, for Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous (my interruption story)
- Creating an Inviting Bedroom
- Red Light Bulbs
- Fairy String Lights with Remote (mood lighting)
- Battery-operated Flickering Candles
- Crafted Beards Oil & Balm (several scents available)
- Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance
- Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel
Note: Our resource list includes affiliate links, meaning purchases made through our link cost to the same to you but provide us a small commission to help defer our costs.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
On this wrap-up of our first season of Knowing Her Sexually, Chris and J discuss what the men in marriage ministry had to say about women's sexuality, including what surprised us and what we took away.
Resources * + Kevin A. Thompson's personal website + Change the Odds - Kevin A. Thompson's new website + Intimate Covenant - Matt (and Jenn) Schmidt + Gary Thomas's website + Gary Thomas's Substack newsletter + Stupendous Marriage - Stu Gray + Awesome Marriage — Dr. Kim Kimberling + Heaven Made Marriage - Scott (and Jenni) Means + Still Becoming One - Brad (and Kate) Aldrich podcast + Aldrich Ministries - Brad Aldrich marriage coaching + Dave Barringer's Website + Our Webinars (all about women's sexuality and value-priced!)
Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!
Dave Barringer, pastor, podcast host, and author of Mosaic Marriage, spoke with us a while back about foreplay in and out of the bedroom. We revisit that episode with a few fresh takeaways in our season of talking to men in marriage ministry about women's sexuality. Take a listen!
Resources
- Dave Barringer’s website
- Launch Point book site
- Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer
- Marriage Monday with David Barringer on Apple Podcasts (available through other providers too)
- Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? – KHS Ministry
- Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages®
- Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) – Hot, Holy & Humorous
It's filling up! Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!
We talk with Stu Gray of the Stupendous Marriage Show, cohosted with his wife Lisa, about what he learned about himself and marriage while recovering from porn, what honesty can do for marital intimacy, and how women are different—in life and in the bedroom. Take a listen!
Resources
- Stupendous Marriage Podcast
- Stu Gray's Links
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver
- Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences by Bill and Pam Ferrell
- Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle by Dr. Kevin Leman
- Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas
- The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley
- If Only He Knew: A Valuable Guide to Knowing, Understanding, and Loving Your Wife by Gary Smalley
- "But the one who prophesies speaks to people for their strengthening, encouraging and comfort" (NIV). 1 Corinthians 14:3, all Bible Gateway translations
- Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
- Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms (clevelandclinic.org)
- "The human heart is a perpetual idol factory" (originally, hominis ingenium perpetuam, ut ita loquar, esse idolorum fabricam). Institutes of the Christian Religion, John Calvin, 1.11.8.
- Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap
- Episode 67: Making Sex Pleasurable for Your Wife, with Gary Thomas
Psst—only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!
We welcome Matt Schmidt from Intimate Covenant, a sex-focused marriage ministry and podcast. He talks with us about how he and his wife addressed her past sexual trauma, what the goal of sex really is, and why hubbies should attend to afterglow.
Resources
- Intimate Covenant
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk
- For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth | The Forgiven Wife
- What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 10 Things to Do After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- After the Lovin': What Happens after Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Intimate Covenant's 6th Annual Retreat
And hosted by J this fall...
Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise
Kevin A. Thompson is a husband, father, and marriage (and men's) pastor at Bayside Church in the Sacramento, California area. Originally from Arkansas, Kevin has been a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and Family Life. Chris & J talked to Kevin about why it's still important to pursue and woo your wife (first, heart; then, body).
Resources
- I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson
- Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com
- Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson
- Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson
- Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson
- Stay In Your Lane: Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done by Kevin A. Thompson
- Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!)
- Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually
- Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife
And learn more about J's Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise October 14-21, 2023 HERE: https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/. Space is limited!
Scott Means of Heaven Made Marriage began marriage ministry in his church and has now expanded to a website, books, and videos to reach more and more couples. Listen to his conversation with J and Chris about the bridal paradigm, intimacy, and vulnerability.
Resources
- Heaven Made Marriage
- Scott's books
- The Bridal Paradigm - Heaven Made Marriage
- Pursue the Path of Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife
- Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Guy Talk: Mismatched Sex Drives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Guy Talk: A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Dr. Kim Kimberling has been married for 53 years and has counseled marriages for over 40 years! His ministry, Awesome Marriage, has reached even more couples with its honest, biblical, and practical insight. Listen in as Dr. Kim talks with Chris and J about sexual expertise, empathy, accountability, and more.
Resources
- Awesome Marriage University
- Achieving Awesome Sex in Marriage: The Christian Sex Course | Awesome Marriage
- Awesome Marriage — Marriage, Relationships, and Premarital Counseling with Dr. Kim Kimberling
- When "I Feel..." Statements Don't Work - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- The Power of Sexual Empathy in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Support Groups for Men and Women | Small Groups Online (Live Free Ministries)
- Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- A Prayer about Sexual Temptation - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, but still relevant)
And a reminder...
Check out J's Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise—setting sail in October!
Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon
Gary Thomas, theologian and marriage author, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What differences between men and women can help you cater more to your wife's pleasure? How can you unleash the power of the five senses? And what does "simmering" have to do with sexual desire?
Resources
- Gary Thomas's Website
- Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC
- Simply Sacred with Gary Thomas | Substack
- Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her
- The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (mentioned by Gary)
- Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex
- The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas
And a reminder...
Click to learn more about the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise!
Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon
Brad Aldrich, marriage therapist and ministry leader, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What does connection mean for wives compared to husbands? How do connection, curiosity, and past trauma impact sexual intimacy in your marriage? Take a listen!
Resources
- Aldrich Ministries
- Still Becoming One Podcast with Brad & Kate Aldrich
- The 7 Year Itch (Episode 27) - Still Becoming One
- Unfinished & Beautiful with Kate Aldrich - Hot, Holy & Humorous (oldie but goodie!)
LEARN MORE ABOUT THE CRUISE WITH J. PARKER AND BRAD & KATE ALDRICH: Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise (hotholyhumorous.com)
Support Us On Patreon
KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon
It's been a minute! Chris and J are finally back to explain their absence and the future of Knowing Her Sexually going forward. We plan to keep providing quality content intended to help husbands better understand their wives and pursue healthy, mutually satisfying sexual intimacy.
Resources
- Knowing Her Sexually Webinars
- KHS Ministry | Facebook
- KHSMinistry (@KhsMinistry) / Twitter
- Honeycomb & Spice (honeycombspice.com)
- Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com)
Support Us
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Christmastime can create wonderful memories, but also a lot of to-dos and stress that keep couples from being sexually intimate. J and guest host Julie Sibert discuss how to have less stress and more sex in your marriage this holiday season.
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Resources
- Episode 31: Why Do Women Overextend Themselves?
- Episode 19: Having an Intimate Holiday Season
- Why She’s Too Busy to Have Sex
- Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife, "How can I help our Christmas season go well?" Discuss plans, expectations, division of labor, and more, so that you're working as a team through the holidays—a team that also scores in the bedroom now and then. ~wink~
Visit our website: khsministry.com
How can you give your wife a gift that speaks to her heart? A great gift can create feelings of being seen and valued that encourage the trust and vulnerability she needs for sexual intimacy.
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Resources
- The Ultimate Gift List for Married Couples, 2020 Edition – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God’s Design by J. Parker (“Cultivating Romance” chapter has specifics on writing a love letter)
- 'Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie – The Forgiven Wife
- 2020 Gift Shopping Links – The Forgiven Wife
- Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life – The Forgiven Wife
- More Than Bacon – The Forgiven Wife
- Best (Sexy) Christmas Gifts for Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Shop - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Note from Chris: In the episode I mentioned writing a sexy version of If You Give a Mouse a Cookie. Unfortunately, it was not on my blog but on a discussion forum that no longer exists and I no longer have a copy. However, you can get the original book at Amazon, as well as a fun Cookie Sutra book.
This Week's Takeaway
Give at least one gift that shows your wife you really see her and honor her for who she uniquely is.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
What role can quickies play in your marriage's sexual intimacy? We discuss what's good about quickies, why some wives don't like them, and how husbands can make the experience more enjoyable for her.
Resources
- 5 Reasons to Love a Quickie - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Showering and Bathing Together: Why You Should Try It - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 5 Tips for Shower Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Find a time to suggest a quickie to your wife. If she gives you the go-ahead, go for it! But if she’s reluctant, launch a conversation about why she doesn’t enjoy quickies and/or how you could make them better for her.
Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars.
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"And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a
Instead of "show up naked," how about using clothing to increase arousal and pleasure? Chris and J discuss why and how clothing can be sexy for a wife.
Resources
- Why I Still Wear Lingerie (though My Hubby Doesn't Care) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why Won’t Your Wife Wear Lingerie?
- 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie - The Forgiven Wife
- Should You Buy Her Lingerie for Christmas?
- What Should Your Husband Wear to Turn You On? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Husbands Only Need One of These to Turn Her On - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- "Touch the Bits" by Amanda Gore - YouTube
- Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex
Also check out our Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay!
This Week's Takeaway
Engage in affection and foreplay with you and your wife clothed, even incorporating your clothing into the sensual experience.
Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars.
And if this podcast has helped you, would you leave us a positive rating and/or review? That will help others find us and keep us podcasting well into the future. Thanks for your support!
"And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a
How can you help your wife engage more in the sexual experience? Chris and J share how a husband can use the five senses to increase his wife's focus and enjoyment.
Resources
- J"s #SexTipTuesday Facebook post: What do you do with your eyes during sex?
- 70+ Intimate Face to Face Sex Positions | Christian-friendly Sex Positions)
- Experience Deeper Intimacy During Sex | The Forgiven Wife
- Bedroom Soundtrack Posts | Bonny's Oysterbed7
- A Marital Intimacy Playlist - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- "Let me hear your voice..." - Song of Songs 2:14
- Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life | The Forgiven Wife
- Food and Sex | The Forgiven Wife
- Why She Needs Him to Shower - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What About His Grooming and Hygiene? | The Forgiven Wife
- 5 Kisses You Need to Master - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Also check out our Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay!
This Week's Takeaway
Be intentional in thinking about one of your wife's physical senses and add some way of appealing to that next time you are having sex or planning to have sex.
Visit our website for more great content: khsministry.com. Be sure to check out our value-priced webinars.
And if this podcast has helped you, would you leave us a positive rating and/or review? That will help others find us and keep us podcasting well into the future. Thanks for your support!
"And Adam knew his wife Eve..." Genesis 4:1a
We're back after an unannounced and unexpected hiatus! Looking at the searches that bring husbands to our site, Chris and J ask and try to answer the question "Why doesn't / can't / won't my wife do ____?" in the bedroom.
Resources
- Why Your Wife May Not Want to Receive Oral Sex
- Why Doesn’t She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 8 Reasons That Are Not About You
- Why Doesn’t She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 5 Reasons That Are About You (and What You Can Do About Them)
- How Can She Not Care About Sex?
- Episode 37: Why Sex Can Feel Risky to Your Wife
- Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay
- Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay
- Spicing Up Your Bedroom – Webinar Replay
- "Stop Pressuring Me!" - The Forgiven Wife
- And J promised a video of the Texel sheep from the farm where she stayed in England: https://youtu.be/5p9AsMyWE3c
This Week's Takeaway
Write down your "Why won't / can't / doesn't she...?" question, then first ask yourself why you want that and then approach your wife and ask what she hears or thinks you mean when you ask why she won't / can't / doesn't do or want what you do. (And listen. Like really listen.)
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Every marriage goes through a big life transition at some point, and likely several. Chris and J talk about how transitions affect sex in marriage and how to keep intimacy going even through the big changes.
Resources
- Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Making a Habit | The Forgiven Wife
- Lost Her Way In Target (original song) - The Holderness Family - YouTube
- How Wives Feel During the Pandemic - Knowing Her Sexually (with some insight that applies to other big changes)
This Week's Takeaway
Think about the last transition you and your wife went through. Consider what you learned from it and then break that down with your wife, asking her how she thought things went and what could improve next time.
"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it." — George Santayana
Visit our website: khsministry.com
A listener shared that "[husbands] are told...to be sensitive to our wives' physical discomfort such as menstrual cramps but are also told that we cannot share when lack of physical intimacy causes physical discomfort in us as that won't be well received." Is there a double standard? How can a husband effectively express his sexual discomfort to his wife?
Sponsor
Visit Married Dance HERE (affiliate link)
Resources
- Q&A with J: Sexual Wants Vs. Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- A Husband’s Emotional Need | The Forgiven Wife
- How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Interview with Big Guy | The Forgiven Wife
- Remembering the Dry Years: An Interview with J’s Husband
- Episode 2: How to Ask for Sex
- Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex – Webinar Replay
This Week's Takeaway
Jot down a few ideas of how to express your sexual discomfort to your wife with words she'd understand. Take time to think them through for a while, then try one out. If it doesn't work, go back and try another!
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Chris and J usually talk about women's sexuality with the hope of helping men understand their wives. But today, we discuss what women don't understand about men's sexuality.
Resources
- Episode 12: Guy Talk - The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 14: Guy Talk - A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 16: Guy Talk - Men's Sexuality - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Ten Lies Wives Believe about Sex (And Ten Truths Husbands Want You To Know) - Hot, Holy & Humorous - guest post by Scott Means
- You Would If You Loved Me! - Hot, Holy & Humorous - guest post by Paul Byerly
- Love Your Man: Should Your Husband's Sexuality Be Like Yours? - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Don't assume your wife understands your sexuality. Rather, when she seems confused or asks questions about why you do what you do or feel what you feel, take time to explain how your sexuality works.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
J and Chris talk about the many ways your wife's hormones can affect her sexual interest and her ability to respond and enjoy sex. If you've wondered about her monthly cycles or the impact of menopause, be sure to listen!
Resources * 13 Things I Heard at a Sexual Wellness Class | The Forgiven Wife * Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife * Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? | The Forgiven Wife * 5 Tips for Choosing a Personal Lubricant | Hot, Holy & Humorous * How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life | Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife about how her hormones affect her, and then ask how you can help.
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Yes, on a sex podcast, we're talking today about romance for your wife. Not only does romance keep your relationship emotionally intimate—it can create a better atmosphere for physical intimacy as well! So, should you bring her flowers? Tell her she's pretty? We address what counts as romance to a wife.
Resources
- August Is Romance Awareness Month - Hot, Holy & Humorous (with tips)
- Cultivating Romance and Awesome Sex in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 50: How You Treat Her Children
- How Love Looks - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Do something romantic for your wife.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
We're often asked how a husband can get a wife to go to therapy for their sexual intimacy. J and Chris discuss some ideas.
Resources * Faithful Counseling - online therapy resource * Have You Received Bad Marriage Counseling? - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous * The Power of One - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway Research counseling and/or marriage resources to see what's involved and what might interest your wife. Then share what you've found and invite her feedback.
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other ways. What do wives think about these options?
Resources * Why Doesn’t She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 8 Reasons That Are Not About You * Why Doesn’t She Want to Give You Oral Sex? 5 Reasons That Are About You (and What You Can Do About Them) * Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Dealing with Pain | The Forgiven Wife * Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex Isn't Possible | Worthy Bible Studies (this post is a guest post written by Chris Taylor) * Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her
This Week's Takeaway When intercourse cannot happen, ask your wife, "How would you like us to stay intimate during that time?" Have a conversation.
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It can be fun and intimate to add something fresh and exciting to their marriage's sexual repertoire! But that desire can also come from another place: fear of missing out. Chris and J tackle the issue of sexual FOMO.
Resources
- Spicing Up Your Bedroom – Webinar Replay
- Q&A with J: Resources for Spicing Things Up in the Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 45: Help Your Wife Learn What She Likes in Bed
- Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Consider something you want to try in the bedroom, then dig deeper for the why. That is, ask why you want to do that new thing, answer the question, then ask "why?" again and again and again, until you reach the core reason. (Do it more than once to discover if you have more than one reason.)
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Over and over, we've heard and experienced how the way a husband treats the wife's kids impacts her sexual interest. If you want to get into her bed, consider getting into her heart by caring for the ones she loves.
Resources * Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson's tea party with his daughter * Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy * The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver
This Week's Takeaway Do something with or for a child. Depending on your circumstances, that could be your child, her child, or a child outside your family.
"Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.." – Ephesians 6:4
Research shows that men are far more likely to have an orgasm during sex than women are. This difference is referred to as the Orgasm Gap. J and Chris help you understand why this gap exists and how you can address it.
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Resources
- Webinar - Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure ($10)
- What Does Her Orgasm Mean?
- 3 Things Your Wife Wants You to Know About Her Sex Drive
- What Else Does Your Wife Want You to Know About Her Sex Drive?
- What Is the Orgasm Gap? | Forbes
- The Orgasm Gap: Simple Truth and Sexual Solutions | Psychology Today
- How to Close the Orgasm Gap, According to Sex Experts | Men's Health
- Bad Orgasm | The Forgiven Wife
- Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Love Like a Woman | The Forgiven Wife
- These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Q&A with J: "How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?" - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Read one (or more) of the articles listed above and think about how you can apply what you've learned in your own marriage.
"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." – Romans 12:10
What does your wife really think of your sex drive? We share what we've experienced and, more importantly, what we've heard from wives. Resources
- What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife
- Your Husband's Libido May Not Be What You Think | The Forgiven Wife
-
1 Myth Christian Men Learned About Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous (about desire being good)
- Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 12: Guy Talk – The Importance of Sex (Chris's interview of five husbands)
- Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar from Sex Chat for Christian Wives (only $5 for a limited time!)
This Week's Takeaway
Express to your wife what your sex drive feels like, emphasizing the emotional and intimate aspects of your desire for her.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
What if you had a sexual experience before marriage? How can you help your wife—especially if she was a virgin bride—deal with your past? We answer this listener question.
Resources * Does Your Spouse Think about Previous Lovers? - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Entering Marriage with Sexual Baggage - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Does Your Wife Get "Historical"? - KHS Ministry * What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - KHS Ministry
This Week's Takeaway Communicate to your wife, verbally or in writing, a message that conveys you only have eyes for her.
What goals do you have for sex in your marriage this year? Chris and J share three goals that could help awaken your wife's sexual desire.
Please pardon the lesser audio quality this time! J's input was not as good, because her schedule required her to record from a hotel room. ~smile~
Resources
- Webinar: Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex
- Webinar: Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure
- Webinar: Spicing Up Your Bedroom
- Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her
- Married Dance Christian Sex Toy Store (also lubricant, games, and more)
- Mentionables - model free lingerie shopping
- 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 5 Ways to Feel More Sensual – Simple Ideas for Busy Wives and Moms - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
- Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
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Takeaway
Choose one of the three goals, write it down and/or put it on your calendar, and commit to following through.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Have you asked your wife what she likes in bed, only to hear her say that she doesn't really know? As unbelievable as this may sound to you, it's pretty common. J and Chris share some ideas to help you help your wife figure out what she wants.
Resources
- Webinar: Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure
- Episode 43: Rebuilding Her Trust, with Jessica McCleese
- Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work?
- Creating an Inviting Bedroom
- 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try.
Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try.
Have a conversation with your wife about what strategies from this episode she would like to try.
Visit the website: khsministry.com
A husband in our KHS Community recently asked about staying hopeful through the sexual ups and downs in marriage. J and Chris share some ideas that can help you maintain hope.
Resources * Are You Bitter in Your Marriage? So Was I. * How Having Friends Is Good for Your Sex Life * Work on Yourself (Even if Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice * He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results. | The Forgiven Wife * Slow Progress: A Good Thing | The Forgiven Wife * How Growth Looks | The Forgiven Wife * Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Give Him the Gift of Happiness - Hot, Holy & Humorous (or give her) * Dealing with Discouragement | The Forgiven Wife * Get Rid of All Bitterness | The Forgiven Wife * The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science (gottman.com) * When My Marriage Seemed Hopeless, What Made Me Stay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous * "Treat people the same way you want them to treat you." Luke 6:31 (NASB)
This Week's Takeaway Keep a gratitude journal. Every day make note of a few things you're thankful for with your wife.
With Chris out today, Dr. Jessica McCleese joins J to discuss how a husband who may have mishandled sexual intimacy in the marriage before can rebuild his wife's trust in the bedroom and beyond.
Resources
- Dr. Jessica McCleese's website
- FREE webinars with Jessica and J. Parker: Let's Talk About Talking Dirty and Negative Teaching About Sex: How It's Hurt Your Marriage and What to Do About It
- Two Words That Could Change the Course of Sex in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Are You Listening to What Your Spouse Says about Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 3 Barriers to Communicating with Your Spouse about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker
- Rebuilding His Trust - The Forgiven Wife
- He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results. - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife the three questions posed by Dr. Jessica McCleese, even weekly until your wife feels your trustworthiness.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
We welcome special guest Dave Barringer, senior pastor of Kalamazoo First Assembly of God and author of Mosaic Marriage, to talk with us about foreplay in and out of the bedroom.
Resources
- Dave Barringer's website
- Launch Point book site
- Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer
- Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? - KHS Ministry
- Freshen Up Your Foreplay - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Give your wife 8–10 positive words (affirmation, compliment, encouragement) each day without expectation to deepen intimacy.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Chris and J tackle four truths about sex that husbands should know, especially those who long for better physical intimacy in their marriage.
Resources * Why Doesn't She Initiate? * Work on Yourself (Even If Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice * The Power of "And" | The Forgiven Wife * I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife * He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results | The Forgiven Wife * Silence the Lies | The Forgiven Wife * Why Doesn't She Initiate? * Work on Yourself (Even If Your Husband Is the Problem) | Honeycomb & Spice * The Power of "And" | The Forgiven Wife * I Worked on Sex, and Then He Got Angry | The Forgiven Wife * He Doesn't Care About Progress. He Just Wants Results | The Forgiven Wife * Silence the Lies | The Forgiven Wife * Praying for Grace in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous * As You Work on Sexual Intimacy, Be Sure to Do This! - Hot, Holy & Humorous * How to Turn Your Marriage Around - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Are You Bitter in Your Marriage? So Was I. | KHS Ministry * 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) – "Love is patient, love is kind..." * Faithful Counseling online therapy (Sex Chat for Christian Wives affiliate link)
This Week's Takeaway When your mind goes to negative thoughts about your wife, replace them with a positive thought, scripture, or a prayer for your wife.
Being touched in nonsexual areas can be a real turn-on for your wife. J and Chris talk about where some of these areas are and give you suggestions for learning your wife's body.
Resources
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 6 Kinds of Touch Every Marriage Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why woman are different from men and vice versa by Amanda Gore
- Sexual Timing Matters - Knowing Her Sexually
- How Much Foreplay Does She Need? - Knowing Her Sexually
This Week's Takeaway
Explore your wife's body!
The Increasing Your Wife's Sexual Pleasure webinar says a lot more about learning about her body and includes the Mapping Her Body printable. Or, you can purchase the printable without the webinar. (Members of the KHS community have free access to these products.)
Purchase the webinar
Purchase the printable
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Your grooming and hygiene can have an impact on your wife's interest in sex. J and Chris explain why in today's episode.
Resources
- What About His Grooming and Hygiene? | The Forgiven Wife
- Q&A with J: What about “Manscaping”? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why She Needs Him to Shower | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Mentioned in the episode: NPR's Delicious Dish: Schweddy Balls - SNL - YouTube
- And a recommendation: Fresh Balls Hygiene for Groin Area (Amazon affiliate link)
This Week's Takeaway
Next time you and your wife have sex, bring your cleanest and best-groomed self to bed.
Visit the website: khsministry.com
Today we take on the question Chris's husband and many other husbands have: "Why didn't your wife come with a manual?" That would be so much easier, right?
Resources
- What Does Her Orgasm Mean?
- The Romantic Vineyard, by Tom & Debi Walter
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife this question: "If marriage to you came with an instructional manual, what would the most important instruction be?"
How could sex be "risky" when it happens in marriage with the one you love? Chris and J discuss three ways sex can feel risky for some wives.
Resources
- What Are Your Sexual Fears? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 7 Reasons You Don't Want Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Which Words Do You Use? | The Forgiven Wife
- What Were You Taught About Sex? | The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Ask yourself what about sex feels risky to you and then try to address that issue.
In this episode, J and Chris tackle that age-old question, "What do women want?" It might be more simple than you thought!
Resources
- What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?)
- Security in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What Do Women Really Want? - The Gottman Institute
- Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection - The Gottman Institute
- Praying Together for Your Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Work on Yourself (Even if Your Husband Is the Problem) - Honeycomb & Spice
This Week's Takeaway
Does your wife feel emotionally safe? Click HERE to take a quiz and find out!
Visit the website: khsministry.com
Today, we are not just two Christian wives, but are joined by guest Kevin A. Thompson to discuss his blog post, "I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either," and its great takeaways.
Resources * I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson * Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com * Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson * Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson * Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson * Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!) * Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? | Knowing Her Sexually * The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually * Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife this simple question: What are the times you feel most loved by me? Listen to what she says and start doing more of that.
Chris and J tackle a question some husbands have asked: "Why won't my wife engage in a specific sexual activity with me when she did with a previous boyfriend?"
Resources
- Your Wife’s Past - Knowing Her Sexually
- Entering Marriage with Sexual Baggage | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex | The Forgiven Wife
- Transforming the Scars from a Premarital Past | The Forgiven Wife
- Do I Have To? | The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Pray for your wife to heal from her sexual baggage.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Is sex painful for your wife? J and Chris talk about what causes pain and how you can help your wife deal with it.
Resources * Episode 32: What Does Your Wife Need Before You Enter? * Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife * DIY Sex Swing - The Forgiven Wife * When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife * Working Through Physical Pain in the Marriage Bed | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Having Sex When You Have a Disability | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Q&A with J: "Pain and UTIs Have Shut Down My Sex Life" | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube * Wedge pillows (affiliate link) * Penis sleeve (affiliate link) * Sex swings (affiliate link)
This Week's Takeaway Ask your wife if she has experienced pain during intercourse.
How do you know when your wife is ready for your penis to enter her vagina? It may not be what you think. J and Chris clue you in on what to look for.
Resources
- Why woman are different from men and vice versa, by Amanda Gore
- Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube - Knowing Her Sexually
- Let's Talk Lube | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Good Clean Love Almost Naked Organic Water-Based Personal Lubricant
- Sliquid Naturals – Silver Silicone Based Personal Lubricant
- Jo Classic Hybrid Personal Lubricant - Married Dance
- Coconut Oil (made for the kitchen but works great for sex!)
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This Week's Takeaway
Next time you and your wife make love, continue foreplay until she asks you to enter her.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
A woman's sexual interest is affected by everything else going on in her life, yet many overextend themselves so much that they don't have time or energy for sex. Chris is joined by Gaye Christmus from Calm.Healthy.Sexy. to explain why this happens and give husbands suggestions for how to create a change.
Resources * Calm.Healthy.Sexy. * Where Do You Need to Say "No" to Say "Yes" to Your Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Don't Touch Me: I'm Busy! | Hot, Holy & Humorous * 5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say * Husbands, How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy Again * How to Manage Your Family's Schedule this School Year * 4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress in Your Life and Marriage * Calm. Healthy. Happy. - 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and Create Your Best Life as a Woman, Wife, and Mom
This Week's Takeaway For overextending with outside responsibilities, make an agreement with your wife that before either of you takes on a new responsibility, you'll talk with each other about it.
For overextending herself at home, ask her what is causing her the most stress and offer to take on the responsibility for those things.
Quite a few emails and comments we receive express hurt and frustration about wives avoiding sex. In todays' episode, J and Chris talk about what wives should be doing—and we share some insight about what you can do to help.
Resources * Your Husband's Hurt - The Forgiven Wife * You Go First - The Forgiven Wife * Why Is He Trying to Fix Sex When It's the Relationship That Is the Problem? - The Forgiven Wife * Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Sex Chat for Christian Wives
This Week's Takeaway Write out the ways you think your wife might be hurting and pray about what you've noted.
It's a common question we receive from husbands: How can he get his wife to read resources about sexual intimacy? He knows it would help, but she's reluctant. What's a husband to do?
Resources
- The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science (Gottman Institute)
- The Generous Wife - a daily reminder to grow your marriage
- The Generous Husband | Daily rants on being a better husband
- CalmHealthySexy - Healthy ideas for your life and marriage
- Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker
- 11 Tips for Husbands - The Forgiven Wife
- The Power of One - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Choose one of the ideas we shared within the episode, about approaching your wife with a resource, and put it into practice.
A listener asks about his wife not touching her vulva or his penis. J & Chris address possible reasons and ways to encourage a hesitant wife.
Resources
- Episode 28: Male Anatomy - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Get to Know His Penis - The Forgiven Wife
- Q&A with J: How Can I Feel More Free Around His Naked Body? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Explain to your wife how you view her vulva in its beauty and what it means to you.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
What makes you attractive, appealing, or even "hot" to your wife? It may not be what you expect.
Visit Our Sponsor Click to Buy or Learn More Resources * Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually * Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On | Hot, Holy & Humorous * What’s So Great About Men? – Knowing Her Sexually * Praying Together for Your Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week’s Takeaway Share with your wife something that you find attractive, and even sexually appealing, about her that is not a body part or sexual activity.
Both wives and intimacy experts often advise husbands to "take it slow" when it comes to sex. But what does it look like to go slow?
Visit Our Sponsor Click to Buy or Learn More Resources * The One Sex Tip I Give Husbands Over and Over | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – Webinar Replay * Episode 13: The Timing of Sex * Sexual Timing Matters
This Week’s Takeaway Go slow. You can use a timer or music to help you pace yourself.
How do you and your wife deal with sexual intimacy during her period? J and Chris share some ideas to help you both get through that time of the month.
Visit Our Sponsor Resources * Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Q&A with J: Sex During That Time of the Month? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * How Well Do You Know Her Cycle? | The Generous Husband * 11 Best Period Tracker Apps For 2021, According to Ob-Gyns
This Week’s Takeaway Get to know your wife’s cycle.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Your wife said no, not this time, and you’re feeling disappointed, frustrated, even lonely. What now? Well, since we want you gents to get a “yes” next time, today we’re talking about how your response to her rejection can impact her sexual interest.
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Resources
- The Power of "And" - The Forgiven Wife
- Climate Change - Honeycomb & Spice
- How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Are You Bitter in Your Marriage? So Was I. - Knowing Her Sexually
This Week's Takeaway
Begin to pay attention to how you respond when your wife says no. What are your words? Your facial expressions? Your actions?
Visit our website: khsministry.com
With Valentine's Day approaching, J and Chris share what wives tell us they want from their husbands on this holiday of love.
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Bonus: Insight from Other Wives * I always say that it’s “just another day” and I don’t want to do anything big, but then I find myself sad when he does what I say! (why am I like this?!) He says the same, but I always cave at the last minute and get him something. * I think of it as a day to act out your love. Yes, we should be doing it every day but V-day is a day to pull out the stops! * Valentine’s Day does not need to be a day of extravagant gifts for me. My husband giving me a thoughtful present makes me happy. * I've told my husband that for any special occasion, I only want two things—not to have to cook and sex. Not sure if that would be anyone else's preference though! * It's not really a joke when I say I want a clean house. * It might seem a little odd, but if you are feeling rather distant and lacking intimacy, then a gift or date on Valentine’s Day can feel fraudulent and unwelcome. * I think what a wife wants for Valentine's Day would depend on her love language. Sometimes the love language thing can be overdone but knowing what brings joy to your spouse is huge. * I'd love something special and out of the ordinary. * Him planning something special that he knows that I would enjoy is on the top of my list. * I appreciate his thoughtfulness, his planning, his plotting to show me love, big or small.
Resources * Do You Have to Celebrate Valentine's Day? | Hot, Holy & Humorous * 6 Worst Things You Can Give for Valentine's Day | Hot, Holy & Humorous * Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work?
This Week’s Takeaway Click here to download our list of the five tips, then ask your wife to mark which one is most important or to rank the five in order of importance. Do her top one and at least one more!
J and Chris answer a listener's question about whether it is common for a woman to not want any kind of touching or exploration of her vulva. We talk about some reasons a wife might want to avoid this kind of touch, and we share some ideas on what to do about it.
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Resources
- Beautiful | The Forgiven Wife
- He Can’t Really Be Happy with My Body – J’s guest post | The Forgiven Wife
- Let There Be Light: Out of the Zone – a reader’s guest post | The Forgiven Wife
- How Do You Like to Be Touched? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- How to Help Your Wife Get Naked | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- You Say Your Wife’s Attractive, She Says No. Now What? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Selected Georgia O'Keeffe Paintings
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife to help you understand why she doesn’t like to have her vulva touched.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
It's the time of year when we think about rebuilding and renewing, even when it comes to sexuality. J and Chris talk about how you can reboot your sex life.
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Resources
- 11 Tips for Husbands | The Forgiven Wife
- Where All Marriages Should Start Improving Their Sex Lives | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- How to Talk about Sexual Problems with Your Spouse | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Launching the Conversation About Sex in Your Marriage (with Downloadable Sample Chapter of Pillow Talk) | Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Resolution Week: "And Now for Something Completely Different..." | Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Approach your wife with something you're going to change or do for her.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
How can you give your wife a gift that speaks to her heart? A great gift can create feelings of being seen and valued that encourage the trust and vulnerability she needs for sexual intimacy.
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Resources
- The Ultimate Gift List for Married Couples, 2020 Edition - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker ("Cultivating Romance" chapter has specifics on writing a love letter)
- 'Twas the Intimate Night Before Christmas: A Marriage Poem - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie - The Forgiven Wife
- 2020 Gift Shopping Links - The Forgiven Wife
- Use Scent to Enhance Your Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife
- More Than Bacon - The Forgiven Wife
Note from Chris: In the episode I mentioned writing a sexy version of If You Give a Mouse a Cookie. Unfortunately, it was not on my blog but on a discussion forum that no longer exists and I no longer have a copy. However, you can get the original book at Amazon, as well as a fun Cookie Sutra book.
This Week's Takeaway
Give at least one gift that shows your wife you really see her and honor her for who she uniquely is.
Visit our website: khsministry.com
Many couples report that sex and intimacy don't happen as much during the holidays. How can you keep up or even increase intimacy with your wife this holiday season? We share ideas.
Visit Our Sponsor Click here to shop! Resources * 10 Intimate Things to Enjoy for Christmas - Hot, Holy & Humorous * My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Bow-Dazzle! and 10 Other Ways to Keep Your Sex Life Alive During the Holidays - The Forgiven Wife * Overwhelmed During the Holidays? The Forgiven Wife * Weathering the Holiday Storm - The Forgiven Wife
This Week’s Takeaway Come up with something romantic to do with your wife. Bonus idea: Make a sexy Christmas playlist—and invite your wife to dance!
What happens at the end of a sexual encounter? Today we talk about what wives have to say about what happens after sex. Hint: It matters.
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Resources
- What Does Her Orgasm Mean?
- After the Lovin’: What Happens after Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Does Sex Wake You Up or Make You Sleepy? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Love Languages Quiz
This Week's Takeaway
Do something more at the end of sex than you do now. If you know your wife's love language, try something that speaks love to her.
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How well do you know your wife’s body? Just because you’ve interacted with it a number of times, up close and personal, doesn’t mean you know all of its ins and outs. Today, we’re going to be talking about how women’s bodies and sexuality actually work—their anatomy and physiology.
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Resources
5 Sexually Sensitive Spots on Her Body You Should Know - Hot, Holy & Humorous (with a great animated video about the clitoris)
Nature partner journals - Real-world menstrual cycle characteristics of more than 600,000 menstrual cycles and Table 1
No More Period, Period. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Why Your Wife Needs Extra Lube
ABC News – Female Orgasm May Be Tied to 'Rule of Thumb'
Mega interesting – Napoleon Bonaparte's granddaughter's unique orgasm study
Hormones and Behavior – Female Sexual Arousal: Genital Anatomy and Orgasm in Intercourse
21 Weird Things Men Don’t Know About The Female Body
17 Facts About Women's Bodies Men Probably Don't Know
This Week's Takeaway
Share our quiz with your wife and have fun checking out how some of this works for her body.
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Most men love their wife’s chest. But what’s the best way to touch her there? Chris and fill-in host Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage advise husbands what to do with a wife’s breasts.
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**Click here to sign up!** Resources * Rhythm Can Rock Her World
- Episode 13: The Timing of Sex
- Increasing Your Wife’s Sexual Pleasure – webinar
- Q&A with J: “What Are the 7 Erogenous Zones?” – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) (including breasts) – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- What about “Breast Sex”? – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Sexually Delighting in a Wife’s Breasts: A Turn on for You and Your Spouse – Intimacy in Marriage
- A Wife’s Breasts Have History! – The Forgiven Wife
- Get Flashy! – The Forgiven Wife
- He Can’t Really Be Happy with My Body – J. Parker guest post on The Forgiven Wife
- Episode 78: Breasts and How They Impact Female Sexuality – For Christian Wives podcast
This Week’s Takeaway Set aside an amount of time to try different types of touch on your wife’s breasts and see how she responds.
Communication is another way couples connect, and how well your wife feels understood can have an impact on her sexual interest. Today, we talk about what wives want most in conversation with their husbands.
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Click here to sign up! Resources * Why She Communicates the Way She Does (and It May Not Be What You Think) – J’s guest post on The Generous Husband * When Men and Women Struggle to Communicate – Hot, Holy & Humorous * 11 Tips for Husbands – The Forgiven Wife * You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen * Spiderwebbing – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (video) * It’s Not About the Nail from Jason Headley (video) * Understanding the Wife’s Code from Jeff Allen / Dry Bar Comedy (video) * Conversation? Sex Roles Reversed from Jay & Laura Laffoon (video) * Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker
This Week’s Takeaway The next time your wife shares something with you, ask her what kind of response she’s looking for from you. Does she want you to just listen, to suggest solutions, or something else?
Plenty of husbands feel their wife pulled a "bait-and-switch," meaning she reeled him in with sex and switched to disinterest. What happened?
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Resources
- Why "Why" Matters - The Forgiven Wife
- Where Did Your Sexual Interest Go? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 7 Reasons You Don’t Want Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, insight for husbands)
- Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex - The Forgiven Wife
- Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Write down 2-3 reasons why your wife's sexual interest may have changed.
WHEN you have sex can have an impact on the quality of the experience. J and Chris share some ideas on how to think about the timing of sex.
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Resources
- How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? – The Forgiven Wife
- When I Rejected My Husband’s Advances Outright – Hot, Holy & Humorous (repeats the story J told about being awakened)
- 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week’s Takeaway
Ask your wife to choose the day and time of your next sexual encounter, and put it on both your calendars.
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Does your wife believe you when you tell her she's beautiful? J and Chris talk about some of the struggles women have and then give you some ideas on how you can help your wife.
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Resources * A Wife's Breasts Have History! - The Forgiven Wife * How My Husband Sees Me - The Forgiven Wife * The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas * The Most Beautiful Woman in the World - My Beloved Is Mine! * Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful - Hot, Holy & Humorous * You Say Your Wife’s Attractive, She Says No. Now What? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week’s Takeaway Tell your wife three things you find beautiful about her, and be specific about why.
How can you introduce new sex positions in your marriage?
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Resources
- Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - The Forgiven Wife
- "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design
- Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Should You Get a Sex Pillow? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Sex pillows and wedges
- Sex Position Cards
- The Cookie Sutra: An Ancient Treatise: That Love Shall Never Grow Stale. Nor Crumble.
This Week's Takeaway
Suggest to your wife that you each come up with a position that you'd like to try, and talk about what appeals to you about that position.
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What are some ways you can pray for your wife—and what does prayer have to do with sex, anyway?
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Resources * If You Don't, Who Will? - The Forgiven Wife * 11 Tips for Husbands - The Forgiven Wife * Climate Change - The Forgiven Wife * Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous * I’m Praying for My Sex Life. When Will God Answer? - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Praying for Unity in Your Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Praying Together for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous * Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (conversation guide with prayers)
This Week’s Takeaway Pray for your wife.
What does “make-up sex” mean for a wife, and how is that different from what it may mean for you? We explore this topic with our special guest, Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage.
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Learn about the webinar Resources * Don't Touch Me: I'm Angry! – Hot, Holy & Humorous (much older post) * Q&A with J: How to Handle Arguments in Your Marriage – Hot, Holy & Humorous * What Detractors Have Taught Me about Resolving Marriage Conflict – Hot, Holy & Humorous * Intimacy in Marriage, Julie Sibert's website * Better Sex in Your Marriage Video Series – Intimacy in Marriage
This Week’s Takeaway Next time you experience tension or conflict with your wife, be the first to initiate resolution, reconciliation, and/or restoration. Make sure you really make up before initiating the make-up sex.
We asked wives what they wish their husbands understood about their sexuality, and they came through! In this episode we share their responses with you.
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Resources
- Webinar - Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex
- Hot, Holy & Humorous question for wives (just for your reading enlightenment, guys!)
- Honeycomb & Spice community (If your wife wants a safe place to talk about sex with other wives, this is the place!)
- Episode 5: Getting Her to Talk About Sex
- Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work?
- Yada, Yada, Yada…Talking During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Speaking Seductively to Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Share with your wife something you wish she understood about your sexuality—and maybe ask her what she wishes you understood about hers too.
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Romance novels, movies, and TV shows promote myths about sex that we must correct, but also give clues on what kind of intimacy appeals to women. We discuss illusions and insights of romantic stories.
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Resources * Common Myths of Romance Novels – Hot, Holy & Humorous * What Romance Writers Teach Me About Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous * Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On – Hot, Holy & Humorous * Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? The Forgiven Wife * A Shaded View of Romance – The Forgiven Wife * A Romance Book You Can Read – Hot, Holy & Humorous * Movies to Inspire Romance – Hot, Holy & Humorous * A Marriage Movie: My Review of THE SONG – Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week’s Takeaway Watch a romantic movie or show together and discuss what you like about it.
It is said that sex starts in the kitchen. In other words, husbands who help out in the kitchen get more sex. In this episode we talk about what is true about this idea—and what isn't.
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Resources
- A Place Deep Inside - The Forgiven Wife
- Climate Change - The Forgiven Wife
- Is Vacuuming Foreplay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- 4 Research-Based Tips for Better Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife, "What can I take off your plate for you?"
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It can be difficult to get your wife to talk about sexual intimacy. Why is she resistant, and what can you do to invite her into conversation?
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Resources
- How to Talk about Sexual Problems with Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Are You Listening to What Your Spouse Says about Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Chonda Pierce: “Naked, Naked, Naked” (visit her website here)
- Ben Franklin effect (doing a favor for another fosters positive feelings toward them)
- Sex Talks - The Forgiven Wife
- Six Things to Know About Emotional Disconnection - The Forgiven Wife
This Week's Takeaway
Ask your wife what she would like you to do to be a better husband.
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Women's sexuality is often misunderstood—by both husbands and wives. Why is this?
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- As Bad As Porn? - The Forgiven Wife
- Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife
- When You Need Help Getting in the Mood: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Desire Throughout the Day - The Forgiven Wife
- Q&A with J: “How Can I Orgasm with Penetration?” - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Why She Communicates the Way She Does (and It May Not Be What You Think) - J. Parker guest post on The Generous Husband
- 6 Ways to Help Her Have a Orgasm - Psychology Today
- Women's Motivations for Sex: Exploring the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fourth Edition, Text Revision Criteria for Hypoactive Sexual Desire and Female Sexual Arousal Disorders - The Journal of Sexual Medicine
- Narratives of Desire in Mid-Age Women With and Without Arousal Difficulties - The Journal of Sex Research
- A qualitative exploration of the meaning and experience of sexual desire among partnered women - Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality
- Women's sexual desire: Disordered or misunderstood? - Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
- Definitions of women's sexual dysfunction reconsidered: Advocating expansion and revision - Journal of Psychosomatic Obstetrics & Gynecology
- Why women are different from men - Amanda Gore
- Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality - Sarah Barmak
- Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire - Pam Costa (TED talk)
This Week's Takeaway
Take a look at some of the articles, posts, and videos in our resources above.
Chris and J discuss the challenge many wives face of shifting their attention to sex and maintaining that attention even after intimacy has begun.
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This Week’s Takeaway Do something that helps your wife make the mental transition to sexual intimacy.
Chris and J share tips for initiating sexual intimacy with your wife. We cover some approaches that likely won't work and some that may!
Visit Our Sponsor Resources * Your Wife Has Been Sexually Harassed * Q&A with J: Sexual Wants Vs. Needs * How Do You Initiate Sex? * When He Wants You to Initiate * Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar * Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples
This Week's Takeaway Talk to your wife about what helps her want to step into that invitation to sexual intimacy with you. Bonus: Ask if anything you're doing when you initiate sex turns her off.
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The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex
#1 Myth Christian Men Learned About Sex
What Does Her Orgasm Mean?
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