Yes! You are in! There's a battle around your mind. Doubt me? Lots of companies tracking, monitoring and feeding you. You talk about cruised and hey, there's a pop ad for a cruise line. Coincidence? I think not. How do we counter that? Stick around, we'll tackle it, here you go...
Thanks again for clicking in. For podcasts also can shape minds. That's a good test. Look at your podcast line up. How many strengthen you? Encourage your heart? On the flip, how many whip you up? Get you agitated? Hint: news will most likely agitate. So how about some Good News?
What % of your time is in the Good News? The Word? I bet you and I have room for improvement. As my Brother John Paul of the MonDudes says, "You got to get in the Word, man!" He's right, Pretty simple truth.
So let me ask in a different way, what % of your time is in the Word vs. Ways of the World? You know the difference. The Word has 66 books. Confession, I mainly leverage the screen version, YouVersion Bible App. More convenient. My phone is almost always with me. So instead of hitting the news app or social media apps first. The Word gets first. Ideally, it gets more screen time too.
All that leading to this verse that my TuesDudesPM is tackling and marinating in...
1 And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Source: Bible.com, NLT Version
Ending on a prayer note...

Yes! You are in! This is TommyP aka Tom aka Tomas aka Loco, and today we will be discussing Al Capone, Scarface. Odds are you are too young to fully know that name. Heck, he was before my time and I'm Gen X. Yet, he does have a lesson for me. Yes, that notorious dude has a lesson for you and me. Here is Dr. Loritts, one of our greatest teachers of this generation, I declare, here you go...
For more of that message from Dr. Loritts, please click here...
https://youtu.be/OZMdyWLcef4?si=D0cRspPNrMFk-0k_
Did you waste your life? I know CEO's and government leaders who are now retired. I know celebrities that are now dead. They don't matter anymore. Not really. Ok, to a few they do yet that will fade in more time. So you were a big deal in 2009? Who cares. Ecclesiastes vibes for any of the versed ones out there
Wait a minute Tom, you are Mr. Positive. Mr. 1 Thes 5:11. I am. I'm stil here. Just a wake up call for some of you or someone you know. There is a bigger picture I declare. I'm simply echoing Dr. Bryan Loritts who is echoing Paul who wrote that letter to the Church of Philippi over 2,000 years ago.
Are you still breathing? Well, you are not done yet. You have room for improvement. Confession, so do I.
I've done some dumb things. I dug crazy holes of debt chasing things. Avid listener, that will not be news to you. All of that is going to pass, one way or another. For now, I owe so off to work I go.
There's a bigger picture. This world isn't just it. So have you learned to be content in all circumstances? Not happy. Content. Big difference.
Despite your mistakes, are people going to know you for encouraging others in Jesus Christ? How well do you know Jesus Christ? If your prayer and share log presented like your phone or social media, how often do you two talk?
Odds are you are a believer and empowered follower of Jesus Christ if you are listening to this. If not, welcome. Better is ahead. Your choice. Back up and you'll here episode after episode of legacy and transformed hearts: Kenny, John of Mecca, James of Compton, Casey, The Jogging Jesus, Gary, Scooter and on and on. Learn from them.
Get in the Word everyday. Philippians is a great book. Empowering!
Isn't it interesting that when we think of a great life, even atheists will mention Mother Theresa or Martin Luther King Jr (both followers of Christ, living a life of heart impact). Not Marilyn Monroe or Elvis or Rockeller, as talented as they were, those are tragic endings.
What's your legacy, working, retiring, golf or maj, consuming?
If you think it's too late, check the vineyard workers story. Matt 20. It's not too late.
Ending on a prayer note...when you die, will people say you were on fire for the Lord? Will they say you shared the Lord? Will they say you went beyond words and shared and helped like the Lord?

What is a narcissist?

How not to be a narcissist.

This episode tackles anxiety. You either deal with it or you know someone that does. So we best share what works to minimize or eliminate anxiety.

https://thetrek.co/pacific-crest-trail/five-ways-hiking-reduces-anxiety/

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Yes! You are in! For those listeners in the United States, most of us will celebrate 4th of July (our freedom). 250 years. Is the United States the greatest country in the world? Let's tackle it...I'll be back...
Thanks for tuning in. When worthy, thank you for sharing. Is the United States the greatest country in the world? Let's do a survey. Avid listener, you know we love math, science and logic in this dojo.
Are we free?
Do we have freedom of speech?
Do we have freedom to protest?
Do we have freedom of religion?
Have millions of migrants recently entered this country?
Why would you encourage anyone to come to a country that is systemically racist?
Why would they want to come here?
For resident of the United States, you stay here.
Do we have the greatest GDP in the world?
Do we have a king?
Hint: Dictators and Kings don't allow you to do above. Who has dictators today? Russia, China, North Korea, Cuba, others (far left). Iran, Saudi Arabia, Hamas, etc, (far right).
Gallup.com, whom I trust and have quoted on this podcat before, say we are are at a 20 year low in morale. Why? Definitely the Negative News is in full effect. Yet, thanks for brining patient with me as I bring the Word finally in...Phil 4: 6-8, NIV...
6Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
So ending on a grateful prayer note...
Thank you Lord for...
Freedom.
Those that have sacrificed, served and died for us and our freedoms.
That we choose/elect all races, creeds, women and men. Is there a more diverse government on this earth? Your Heaven is absolutely diverse and you teach us to love all. Matt 22: 36-40.
Thank you for our economy and the generosity of so many that live here.
Thank you that the opportuities are so many here that migrants from all over the world are here and striivng to get here for these freedoms.
Thank you for our Democrats, Republicans, Inddependents and others that get this and support our freedoms.
Thank you that we can elect our leaders and they will come and they go. That we don't have a dictator or a king. And that we still have checks and balances for that....designed so long ago.
Thank you for freedom of religion. That you give us a choice of what to believe so why should we do the same. Human tendency is to want to force feed what we believe. Your design is better. Our founding fathers understood that and why freedom of religion is in the constituion.
Thank you that we abolished slavery so long ago. One of the first countries to do that. If we truly follow Matt 22: 36-40, there is no slavery. There is no racism. For Love is greatest of all.
In this world, there are Negative Ned's and Nancy's and Positive Paul's and Paisley's. Speaking of Paul. He once was Saul. You transformed his heart to Paul. Who is next? Who is that Saul in our life that needs encouragement? As for Paul, he gives us a great formula in Phil 4: 6-8. So we give thanks to you dear Lord for what is worthy and I ask for your wisdom over this land and both are Democrats and Republicans, Independents. For we are certainly flawed. We need you. I love you and thank you Lord. Amen.

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Yes, you are in! Where did God come from? An excellent Deeper question for your next date night or small group ice breaker or family time. Inspired by a comment i made on the previous Algorithms episode. We'll tackle it. Here you go...
Thank you sincerely for clicking in. When worthy, thank you for sharing.
Avid listener, you know my odd fixation to share Rom 3:23. For we are all flawed. I am a flawed dude. Not everything that comes out of my mouth is correct. I will make mistakes. If you believe in God and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit, then let the Word be your ultimate guide. Use that Owner's Manual for Life to quality control check any book or sermon or episode you hear or watch. Of course, make sure to take the whole Bible in consideration. Isolating on just one verse not in context can be equally dangerous.
So considering all that. Where did God come from? In the previous episode you hear me hypothesize about what preceded us. We spoke about Algorithms and that AI can finally get through are thick skeptical heads that there can be and is something much more smarter and powerful than us. Up til the latest tech, atheists that they were the smartest.
I hypothesized what if there was a previous civilization. Hypothesis is the key word. To be clearly, it was merely an attempt to help that skeptic find that mustard seed of faith. That existed before you, me, and humanity alone.
To be clear, I do believe in the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. That is my Faith. Something absolutely started this. That a code (your DNA code and mine) cannot exist without a coder.
So where did God come from? Where did our coder come from? How did our coder become the coder?
Short answer, I don't know.
What I do know is something can't come from nothing. Even an atheist scientist has to grapple with that statement.
As for believers, where in the Bible does it explain where God comes from? If you see something that I don't, please let us know at the Contact Us page at fridudes.com.
What I do know is that we have an explanation of a Creator. An all knowing Creator that designed and created us. And as I just confess, that sounds a bit crazy until GenAI came along. Now an all knowing creator is more understandable. Yet great is your Faith that believed in this possibility before we had ChatGPT and Gemini and Claude, etc.

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Yes! You are in! Ask anyone if they are religious and the odds are they will say no. Ask them to see their phone/screen and the algorithms will definitely tells us where each person is religious. Big data knows exactly where you are religious. Intrigued, stick around as we dive deeper on algorithms...

Thank you again for clicking and listening, reflecting and sharing when worthy. Ironically, we may be part of your algorithm. Odds are you are listnting to this because you are open minded, like to get real, pursue truth...what works in life and what doesn't. Either that or someone that fits that profile shared this with you. Regardless, thanks again for listening in.
Avid listener, you know I like finding inspiration from unlikely spots. I love it when secular points to spiritual and deeper thinking. And the unlikely source this round is NPR. Yep, they get full credit. Link to the article that inspired this in the show description. Shout out to reporter/author Scott Neuman. Excellent job!
https://www.npr.org/2026/06/11/nx-s1-5848013/algorithm-word-week-etymology
An algorithm is a set of instructions.
So maybe a better way to look at it is Big Data has algorithms on how to measure you vs. Big Data having it's own algorthithm for you. Does that make sense? In other words, they use the same algorithm to measure all of us. It's the data report that tell them who you are. For example, if Casey clicks on Francis Chan, the algorithm says feed more Francis Chan and others like him. Part of the algorithm also says x% also like this or buy that if they like _________.
Side note, I'm working on a video that we are all religious. All of us. Even atheists. That can be a common question. Are you religious? We all are. Show me your phone and I'll show you where your religious. For some of you, your church is your screen.
Matt 22: 36-40
Is that the outcome of the algorithms that track you?
AI, finally, some can finally comprehend that there is something much smarter than you. That can track you.
Ending on a prayer note: Thank you God for math.

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Overview of the shortest book in the Old Testament and how a prophecy over 2800 years ago still very much applies to today.

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Yes! You are in! Thank you for joining and when worthy, thank you very much for sharing. Extra thanks for Two Tall for that opening hook. Extra thanks to ThursDudesPM for bringing it last week. As for this round, why do you work? Why are we designed to work and contribute? Here's your mic drop, your hammer coming from a letter written to Thesselonica...

We talked about the importance of the Living Word last week. You read it and it reads you. This hit me like hammer this week. Side note, not my first time reading it. I've ready it countless times. Yet that's the Living Word, it can impact you differently at different times in your life. Hence, it's Living.
A reading from 2 Thes 3...
Have you ever noticed that depression and idleness are closely related?
How about addiction and idleness?
Col 3:23
I always feel good after a hard day's work, work out...ministry outreach. It feels good and overflows the heart to serve. To be of value to others.
To be careful, we are not to be workaholics either. Some of us are bad at that too. Resting. We are commanded to Sabbath for balance.
Have you seen a divide in the USA? Do we encourage idleness? Do we give people what they want for our power and votes? Do we encourage their addiction? Last week's reading warned us about helping people stumble. Think about that.
On the flip side, I serve the homeless. Jesus encourages us to serve the poor, Matt 25:40. To take care of orphans and widows. Yet I don't shower and clothe my neighbors on the streets to keep them there. I don't give them pipes nor syringes. I serve to give them Hope. To get them off the streets and into a life of Purpose.
2 Thes 3 is really one of the mic drops for that. An idle society is a miserable society. For those in the States, you enjoy the fruits of that country by those who worked their butts off and sacrificed. If you think I'm trying to play a particular political angle, I also witness immigrants here in the Coachella Valley working their butts off in the hottest of days. Their work ethic blows me away.
Did you know that retirement is not in the Bible? A warning about being a glutton is. God did not just put you on earth to golf, eat and drink. If by chance you are able to retire, good job on your hard work and stewardship. Now you have more time to serve the Lord, his Kingdom and your neighbors.
Clearly, I'm not retired. If I could, I would still love and serve others. Whether you are 20 or 70, this may be your wake up call. The Idle Check Engine light may be on.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes you are in! Meet the ThursDudesPM! A bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. If you are in a Bible Study or looking to start one, check out how Brother Ish masterfully initiates and facilitates it. Note the 'No Forced Agenda/Set of Questions'. Going with the flow with the Holy Spirit Guide and letting the group breath and reflect. I notice too many groups forcing a set amount of questons. Not these Dudes. You'll observe how they get washed in the Word.

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Yes! You are in! I love finding Hope in unlikely places. Like an ultra racer's documentary. Meet Max Joliffe and and Cameron Hanes. Both of these guys have won the Cocodona 250 among other extreme races. The Cocodona is 250 miles. Up mountains and over deserts. So imagine running 10+ marathons with thousands of feet of elevation gain. Imagine the physical pain. Here is what they have to say and perhaps not what you are expecting...
Thank you Max and Cameron. You can watch that entire YouTube at this link..."A Day with Max Jolliffe" by Cameron Hanes...
https://youtu.be/d6jSdsH7GKU?si=06cVU9pQWYIdCBV9
Odds are you are not an ultra racer but I bet some of you have and are running ultra races in life. Like brutal tests. Loss of a loved one. Terminal diseases. Betrayal. Depression. Violation. You are not alone. I testify the strongest people I know have gone thought the hardest things. Thee strongest people did it with the Ultimate Power Source aka God aka the Heavenly Father who also offers up His Son, Savior, Lord and Holy Spirit Guide. The greatest stories of resilience I have ever heard of all those in common. Some of you are living it right now.
When times get tough, you don't get mad at God, you draw near. That is part of the test. Who wouldn't love someone when things are perfect? That isn't a test.
My wife Lori, she's been battling Stage 4 cancer for years now. Do you hear me angry? She didn't run away. She drew closer to the Lord. Just like Max and Cameron. Different pain and yes you can argue self inlficted for some. Yet there is Truth in the saying no pain, no gain. Truth God's best went through the worst. How would you like your son tortured and nailed to a cross?
The comfort zone = the fade zone. So why do we crave the comfort zone? The flesh. Rom 3:23. Counterpoint, yes, we would rest. That is why God gave us the Sabbath. How are you doing with that BTW?
I always tell my Dudes that we are fooling ourselves if we don't get into the Word. So here are some verses to bless you...
2Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. James 1: 2-3, NLT).
1Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. 2We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Heb 12: 1-2, NLT
Ending on a prayer note...

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Do you know what is the Good News?
The Gospel?
If so, can you share it in less than two minutes?
Lovingly simple.
Here's the YouTube version...
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/GMTadZx2PME

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Yes! You are in! Well, this one will definitely be different. What happens when you die? Is life a test? We've tackled those subjects before. However, I have never done it with video. Gulp! So, you get first access. Bonus, the scientific method and actual math is involved. What? Faith and the scientific method and math? Stick around and I'll explain more.
Thank you Two Tall for that opening hook. For those new, you can learn more about him by going back a few episodes.
Is life a test? What happens when you die? Deep questions. How well can you answer them? And I don't mean just blurting out, "There is a heaven" or "You are worm food..."eventually. Can you back it up with logic, science and math? I bet the average atheist thinks they can. I bet the average Christian can't.
So that is what we tackle. Can faith and science co-exist? Absolutely. Science is simply the pursuit of truth. And good science will not be afraid to correct itself. Good science cannot ignore math. Good science should not be politicized. We flawed humans do that.
So some of you have lost someone profound. Some of you fear death. Some of you are not so sure.
That's why this podcast started over 7 years ago. And since we are trailblazers in technology... that's tongue in cheek. I'm testing video. This is where DeepHikes, Deep Bikes was born. I got the vision to enter the wilderness and ask the toughest, deepest questions. Questions that you can use at your next small group, date night or family event.
So here is the YouTube link. Notice it is still unlisted. Why? Refinement. Well, it also scares the crap out of me. Part of me likes hiding behind a mic. With video, you are literally out there. Back to refinement, I'm GenX. On this front, who better to ask for mentors than GenZ. So special shout out to Tanner Dude and Antoine Dude to help shape these. We'll see if we graduate to Tik Tok and Instas. One thing I do know: we need more Hope on this broken, brutal frustrating planet. So here you go. Some hopeful Light for your day in a different way. Oh and if you have suggestions for improvement, please let us know. Simply comment in that video. Bonus: You may have a Deep question. If you think worthy, you are welcome to share. Oh right, please find the link below...
https://youtu.be/YZUo8JQF0Rc
Now, go, love, serve, encourage someone out there today.

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Yes! You are in! In for a treat from a dude named Theo Von (making his FriDudes debut) and an anonymous caller struggling and wrestling. So if that's you or you know someone like this. I love the rhetorical question: Does this broken planet need more Hope or Hoplessness? Here's some hope; check out how raw this caller and Theo are.

So real and raw

FriDudes has featured a lot of pastors and very smart people. Theo, that is one of my favorites plays of all time. And special thanks to that caller. To hear the rest of that call, here is the YouTube link...

https://youtu.be/CihTN2GQymc?si=V28a0Hn9cIkM4FyZ

Theo wants a new story. Caller dude sounds like he wants a new story. Anything is possible with God. I think Theo's prayer advice is excellent. He sounds as real as David or Paul. Why do I do what I do? That's what I heard. Inviting him into the areas where he feels he is lying. Most versed listeners, I bet you can relate to that. If your pride allows it. Do you truly want to be healed? Confession, avid listener knows that I'm still working through stuff. We are works in progress until the end.

Check Romans 7: 15-20

Getting Real. Pursuing Truth. We are in the Hope and Encouragement business.

Either you want a new story OR you know who does. Share what works. Share that listen.

With my 20+ years of Dudes Ministry and Counseling. Let me share a few more verses that come to heart...

James 5:16. That is exactly what you just heard. Confess your sins to one another so you may be healed (a new story).

Matt 19:26, Anything is possible with God.

I have witnessed countless lives for the better. Where that dude was, where Theo was—they are 100x better. Why? Jesus Christ. You can debate God yet you can't debate results.

Caller, the reason that you are down is that I believe you are not living your full Purpose. I know that may sound kinda hokey to some of you. Yet that dude is down. Period. So are some of you. If you have a code then you have a coder and a coder designs for Purpose. Theo is absolutely finding his Purpose. He's getting there. Oh yeah code, you have a code. It's called DNA and you have about 3.2 billion pairs of code that define your strengths and weaknesses. One benefit of AI agents and apps is that it can become clear to you that they are designed for a purpose. So are you.

This podcast is full of new stories for better and stronger. They are timelesss. Go back and listen to Aftyn or Gary or the homies from the Central Valley or Scooter or BW going from the crack house to His house. You can debate God, yet you can't argue their results via Christ. Real results. Reals stats for better.

Ending on a prayerful Hope note...

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Yes! You are in! People can be dicks. Yes, even people in church. Why? How? Versed ones. You know the answer: Rom 3:23. We are flawed. Hence, that make church a room full of flawed people. So how do we navigate that?! Here is your Play of the Day...
Yes! Dr. Loritts! One of my favorite teachers. Find your favorite voices that motivate me to be more Christ like and less flawed.
Here is the YouTube link for the entire message...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RMXSBl9R99E
If you go to a bad restaurant. Is that it? Do you really swear off all restaurants?
I don't mean to minimize your pain. I have been hurt. Yet I don't want to maximize your pain either. Don't let that hurt become your God.
Rom 8:28
How does anyone get stronger without resistance?
Content in all circumstances.
Philippians 4:11-13
New International Version
11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

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Yes! You are in! Thank you so much for listening and when worthy, sharing! Super fun to see some of those older episodes get further leveraged. For wisdom never ages. A lot of wisdom in those episodes by the Jogging Jesus, BW, Aftyn and so many others. Getting Real and Pursuing Truth. What works in life and what doesn't. If you went to business school, you'll know the term SWOT (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats). Well BW has his own version of with a twist and actually spells it SWAT, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! BW is back. Here is his encore message on love. Whether you listen to this before or after Easter. There is no greater love than what Jesus Christ did for you. Your choice whether to accept it and share it or not. Yet you know I love my rhetorical questions, does this broken planet need more love or hate? More love please. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Casey, the Jogging Jesus, my brother from another mother is back! No, he's not Jesus. Of all my brothers over 5 decades, he is one of them that acts most like Jesus. He's not perfect. He simply loves like very few on this broken planet. Special shout out to Creative Love Church in Bloomington, MN. You are a good tree producing good fruit. Oh and listener. If you would like the YouTube link to this. Simply look in this show description. Casey even kinda looks like Jesus. Here you go
https://www.youtube.com/live/aPuAuMNicm0?si=JS7mYuvpjaKmpSIm
Is your Flock like a Flock of Seagulls?

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Yes! You are in! Well, I was supposed to interview Spirit Filled Matthew and he got busy. Many are the plans of men yet God's plans will prevail. Pro 19:21. That is a very important lesson to learn when your plans do not go according to plan. That would help solve a lot of anxiety too. Be prepared that your plans won't always go according to plan. So what did God have planned for you and me? Two Tall! Aftyn. What a bright light! Oh and that new opening hook, that is him! Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Why does accountability often lack in community and friendship groups? Because accountability is annoying. I've been fired multiple times for following up. In fact, my two most recent cases, they are now both dead. Not from me. From choices. Here you go...
Ok, bonus episode as God willing I'm scheduled to interview Spirit Filled Matthew today.
As for a hard look in the mirror, accountability is so annoying. This is why our accountability groups lack so much. We will avoid accountability. It's human instinct. It adds friction.
As for the deaths, brutal. Both died to what we were trying to tackle.
As for me, avid listener, you know I'm flawed. My dirt is all over it. In fact, I added another accountability brother and he was in my face. I'm further working on my financial plan. Getting rid of other debt that I have been procrastinating on. Are you good at procrastinating? Depends on what it is right? I'm too good at procrastinating. I confess. It is why I am where I am today. If you want the full story, go back to the summer of 2020.
We don't just need accountability partners. You've heard me mention Ola. I forgot to put the link in the last episode. You can find it right here in the show description page...
https://ola-by-gcross-surf-3f7a020f.base44.app
It is still in beta stage. Yet, listeners get early access. It works. In fact, it works very well. New users should check the in-app guide and read the prologue, which better explains where I dug my holes.
Matt 22: 36-40. Ultimately, that's all that matters. As for Loving God with all your heart and soul, that does mean coming clean. You honor your Abba by following His Word. Yes, you and i trip up. Check Rom 3:23. It why we all need Rom 8:1. Yet part of our journey is to honor our Lord with correction. Repentance means to turn. We all need to run at times. Oh and loving your neighbor includes tough love. Not rude love. Tough love means lovingly telling someone what they need to hear versus what they want to hear. want to hear. If you see someone drinking themselves to death or cheating on their spouse, you can't be down with that. That does not honor your Heavenly Father or your neighbor.

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Yes! You are in! Your Mission Field Is Out There. What does that mean? Here is blog post and photo to explain more...

https://www.fridudes.com/post/your-mission-field-is-out-there-velinda

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Yes! You are in! Thank you new ones. Thank you returning ones. I got some key updates for you. Some things that you can hold me accountable for. Yes you. Here you go...
Avid listener, you know I had some rough seas lately. Welcome to humanity! For we all have tough times, John 16:33.
I've also had some amazing answers, Rom 8:28.
Giving God thanks for what is worthy, Phil 4: 6-8.
On the horizon, Spirit Filled Matthew and more dudes like them sharing their hard fought lessons and why they have Hope.
Special shout out to Tanner, my twenty something old coach. Yes, I'm not kidding on that. He's pushing this from audible to video. Shot first pilots and now refining. Fear!
Special shoutout to Pastors Chris and Josh of Wellspring church in Indian Wells, CA. That is my home church and had some major epiphanies and affirmations.
Got something called DeepHikesDeepBikes coming your way. In fact, you are going to have the opportunity to join us on some of those.
When in trouble, hit your knees, pray and flat out ask God. Then seek wise counsel. You will get answers...sooner or later.
Oh bonus share, check out Ola, an app fueled by GCrossSurf, it is in beta and we would love your feedback. If you are looking to better incorporate deeper, planning and accountability...check out Ola. Here is the link...
https://ola-by-gcross-surf-3f7a020f.base44.app
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes! You are in! We have another BW Holy Ghost Nugget for you! This one is on discipline. Confession, I have been working on this. So have most of you...for it is a constant process. Check Rom 3:23. I have yet to meet a perfect Christian on this broken planet. My biggest area of need has been finances. Avid listeners know that. You can find my dirtiest dirt and confessions in the summer of 2020. Another confession, you may have noticed that I took a break around the holidays. I dried up. When I stopped publishing, other things dried up. So God sends BW and these timely messages. Coincidence? I think not. Here you go...

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Yes! You are back! So is BW. He has another nugget for you. Oh, hey there first timer. What's a BW Holy Ghost Nugget? You frustrated with this broken planet? You ever ask why? Me too. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in. I hope you had a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. On this side, not so Merry and Happy. I am content...there is a big difference. Yet life isn't always happy and merry and the wise will give thanks for what is worthy. Check Phil 4: 6-8. I lost a dear Brother James from Compton. He has 3 episodes on this platform. You can simply go to Fridudes.com, click blog and search James and/or Compton. What a blessing he was and is with those recordings and his overall impact on my and many others hearts. I still believe his life story could become a movie. Speaking of another blessing, Brother Willie from the Bayou. You can also search all of his episodes the same way via Brother Willie or BW. For now, check out this beautiful blessing and very wise perspective...

Thank you my dear BW...

God takes care of it, the birds, you. Matt 6:26

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Yes! You are in! Meet Young Buck Andy. Gen Z and full of Hope! Why? On this broken planet full do doom and gloom, depression and anxiety? Skeptic will scoff. So we just share what works. That is exactly what Andy did. 19 years old. Sorry in advance for the kitchen staff banging around. they are just doing their jobs. Yet this convesation is priceless. Well minus me trying to anticipate his answers too much. Check out his wisdom and Hope already, here you go...
Special shout out to Rogelio!
Thank you Young Buck!
Shout out to Oscar! Who do you invite? Who do you encourage in Christ? Who are you an Oscar to? Think back to Rudy episode too. And that dude that wouldn't leave Rudy alone. The Rudy turns into the father that wouldn't give up.
Bullying, we are ALL flawed, Rom 3:23, not matter what race or creed.
Depression, anxiety, solution.
Psychadelics.
Andy tried everything. Nothing would fully satisfy until the Ultimate Power Source.
Crying out. Desperate. Surrender. Going from wondering to believing to harnessing/following/benefitting.
Didn't get an immediate answer.
Do you encounter Jesus?
Mind and heart not aligned. Defeated.
Felt useless. Heavy heart.
Ask Grandma to pray for you. Never asked someone to pray for him before. You? 1 Thes 5:17
Feeling, something is going to happen. Washed. Good tears. Cleansing. He knew it was Jesus.
Creation knows creator. It's in the DNA.
9 months at that time. Quite a change. Hope.
Andy knew something missing. He found Hope.
Andy prayed on how to reach more people. 1 Peter 3:15. You?
Ask for that Higher Power. Ask. Pursue. Take your depression the the Ultimate Power Source. Surrender, hand it over at the altar.
Cherry on top

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Yes! You are in! How powerful are these brothers from Life Church, Visalia, CA? Special thanks to Bold Franky, Rubben and now Rudy. The father of Ruben. And you want to talk about getting real? Check out how he comes out swinging, boldly sharing the darkness of where he was. Here you go...
Wow! Thank you Pastor Rudy! Father of Ruben. Listener, skeptic, think about where they were (hopeless) and where are they today (Hope/productive). Encouraging lives for the better. You know I love my rhetorical questions. Does this broken planet need more Hope or hopelessness? Function or dysfunction?
We all pay the price for dysfunction to some degree. Doubt me? Go to downtown Los Angeles. It looks like a garbage dump.
Ok, most of you don't live in LA. I bet there is dysfunction even in your own little paradise. How do I know that? Rom 3:23. It is what we flawed humans do really well.
So what didn't work for Rudy and Ruben? What did?
Have you ever given up on yourself? You are not alone.
So low, So lost. You are not alone.
Yet there is hope. Do as Rudy did for the better/stronger.
Holy Spirit hovering over you. Light, Hope.
Rehab worked.
Coming to Jesus moment worked.
Polite persistence.
Holy Ghost Set Up.
Are you tired? Are you lost? Is this real?
God is real. The Word is active and alive. The Holy Spirit is real. Jesus Christ is real. Skeptic, there is one way to find out. Do as Rudy did...what did work.
Slayed in the Spirit.
Spiritual Surgery.
Acts 16, cleaning house.
Loving a child even if they screw up. Prodigal Son.

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Yes! You are in! You like power stories of redemption? Of course you do, that's why most of you are here. For we are in the Hope and encouragement business. Next up, Ruben. Bold, courageous Ruben! He is also part 1 of an amazing father/son story. Here you go...
Wow! Thanks again Brother Ruben! Thank you for taking a leap of faith with Loco Tomas. Sorry, third person speaking there. More of a tongue in cheek nickname that I've earned on the streets of California. Why? I'm crazy enough to pray Lord, who do you want me to meet? Whose story do you want told? Then I carry my phone and a mic and and not normally ask, can I record you?
Ruben, I don't blame you at all with any hesitation with me. Yet, you went for it. Now your Light is now shining to help people beyond the Visalia and California area.
You boldly share what worked and didn't.
You help remind us that even when we accept Christ that doesn't guarantee we will stay on the path. I can testify to that too. Following is harder than simply believing.
Narrow Door, check Matt 7: 13-14
Does this broken planet need more Hope or hopelessness?
Function or dysfunction?
Government will say give us your money and we'll solve this. Government has a role, don't get me wrong. Yet I do see the most powerful and effective results coming from heart transformation via Jesus Christ (churches and non-profits that cost you $0). That is a fact Jack and the truth Ruth.
Ruben refers to 1 Cor 13:11...
1 Corinthians 13:11 (NLT)
When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.
Okay versed one, are you ready with your 1 Peter 3:15? Bonus, share others' stories with your favorite skeptics. Share Ruben.
Easy to debate God, hard to argue results.
Jer 29:11
Pops never gave up! And he's coming up. Next episode.
Ending on a prayer note, staying the course, Lord, you are real. Walking with us, ups and downs.

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Yes! You are in! It's that time of year again. I went back to the Spirit Filled Mountain Top Men's Camp and God blessed me with some new Hope stories to share. Wow! So first up, meet Franky. He has a power story to share, here you go...

Thanks again Brother Franky! The first to boldly step up that weekend! Life Church in Visalia, CA. You are a good tree producing good fruit. Sent up 33 brothers this last round.

Special shout out also to Spirit Filled Church out of Indio, CA. Pastor Jose, Matthew, Georgie, brothers Mike C, Andy and the rest of a crew. What a blessing and also another good tree producing good fruit.

Back to Franky. Could you do that? Are you ready to share the reason why you have Hope? 1 Peter 3:15? Absolutely epic.

Some of you are thinking, well, my story isn't as dramatic as Franky's. Don't think that way. Also be careful if you say your story is boring, I used to say that. Then God made my story a lot more interesting...aka in other words challenging.

Back to Franky. Think about where he was. And where he is today. Back to my favorite rhetorical questions: Does this Broken Planet need more Hope or Hopelessness? More Function of dysfuntion?

We have the answers to society's ills. Problem is many of you don't want to accept them. For the answers are in the Word.

Of course, skeptics can debate God. Yet they can't argue Franky's story. Nor Rogelio's or Paul's or Daniel's or Richard's stories from last year. Results are results. Good fruit.

Share what works. Special thanks for sharing this podcast of Hope when worthy.

Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes! You are in! Thank you for coming back. Thank you for sharing when worthy. Thank you new one. If you listen to the last one with Dr. Loritts, I do have a follow up. A QC follow up. I got the pull. So here you go...
Play of the Day, link
https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/devotional/who-will-be-in-heaven-because-of-you-2025/series/daily-hope-tv?view=we-are-members-of-gods-family---part-2
Ok, short and sweet on that one. Previous episode 'Buckle Up' is aptly named. I imagine some of you were whoa that was a bit harsh. It definitely was tough love. Here is where I'm getting the pull. Dr. Loritts talks about the relationship with the church and if you don't have one then how can I have a relationship with you. First, QC pull, he is talking about Jesus. Next, I'll just speak for myself. I definitely have relationships with those that don't go to church. Heck, I have relationships with those that don't even believe in God. Why? I don't give up easy. I'm called to love (Matt 22: 36-40). I keep encouraging them with the Lord. You never know if you have a Saul to Paul. Mary the prostitute to Mary Magdalene faithful servant to the Lord. You never know. So I keep loving.
The point I hear Dr. Loritts say that for those of you in a relationship with Jesus Christ...or at least you think you do...how can you if you reject his bride? At a minimum, it makes the relationship challenging. Jesus Christ died for the church, you and me. Here's another way to look at what Dr. Lorrits analogy...think hot coal analogy.
Not all churches were created nor serve equally. Find your church that is based on Jesus' Words.
Also, remember if you are frustrated with bad churches and/or religion...so was Jesus. Look how many times he says hypocrites. He was showing us the bigger picture...not just wolves and dens of thieves...yet he definitely warned us. Check Luke 19:46.
When you go to a bad restaurant, do you give up on ALL restaurants?
Do as your Lord did. Practice the Way. If you claim Jesus then your Lord Jesus went to church aka synagogue. He also got baptized. He also had a small group. Do you? Do as your Lord did.

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Yes! You are in! You ready for a ride? Buckle up. Put your trays in the upright and locked position. Here you go...
Thank you Dr. Loritts. Power teacher. That's what I call you. I am so grateful for you. Listener, if that dude is new to you. You need to check him out. You can hear the rest of his message and more at the link below...
https://www.youtube.com/live/S6QdJlFxw-s?si=Smr1Cy3JA1FepzUu
Rom 3:23
Race and religion
Politics and religion
If you are a believer, better yet a follower, The Word comes first
Blue kool aid vs. Red kool aid. Crips and bloods. And I'm witnessing my brothers and sisters getting fed certain algorithms. It's sad, I literally have Christian brothers and sisters that don't want to talk to each other...because they think they are correct. They are choosing politics over what Jesus says we should do. That sounds like idolatry to me. Are you turning the cheek? Check Matt 5:39. He told us not to judge, are you doing that? Can you see how the enemy is dividing you? Check Matt 7: 1-6.
7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. * Confession, I wrestle with this. Just ask my wife. So, I've had to make my own more conscious effort to do less news and social media and more in the Word. Avid listener, do you remember when I got stood up on my bike. I was complaining about Gavin Newsome (CA Governor) in my head. Inner voice that stood me up as if yelled out loud, Thomas, you need to be praying for you leaders, not cursing. Check 1 Tim 2: 1-2.

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Yes! You are in! You ever pray for something and not get it. Of course. I always say when you pray your answer will be Yes, No or Not Yet. An interesting take on that, here you go...
Thank you Pastor Rick, on a roll, one of my favorite teachers, if you would like to hear more on that one, simply click on his link in the show description...
https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/series/seeking-god-for-a-breakthrough-2025?view=why-must-i-keep-on-praying-persistently---part-3
Versed ones, I'm going a different gear on this one. Think of your prayer life. Now think of Peter. You will be tested. Some of you can talk a great game. Can you imagine walking with Jesus Christ for 3 years? Eye witnessing his miracles vs. reading about them and choosing to believe them 2,000+ years later. Smash cut, being told by your Lord that you will deny Him. So you even got a heads up. You say no way. And when push comes to shove, yes way, you deny him 3x.
That's your prayer life. If you haven't asked Why yet, you haven't been fully tested. You haven't been pushed enough. Versed ones, even your Lord and Savior asked his Father why? Check Matt 27:46
Faith does NOT exist without doubt.
So when you pray, there's a reason you don't get everything you want. If you did, we call that a spoiled brat.
No, Grow, Slow, Go is for your ultimate strength building and refinement.
Ok, we are going to go Deeper.
Losing a loved one sucks. No doubt. Yet do you love that person more than your Heavenly Father that created you both? That's a problem. God did not gift you loved ones for them to become your Gods.
Why do we all have to get sick and die? Why are all miracles temporary? Rom 6:23
Do you not have faith in John 3:16 and Rev 21:4? That's a problem.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes, you are in. You know that feeling when you lost signal. It's wild how dependent we've gotten on mobile/internet connection. When desperate, we have all asked for the WiFi password. So we tackle something better today. Your next play of the day. Here you go...

Thank you Pastor Rick, you can hear more of that play of the day at this link...

https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/series/hearing-the-voice-of-god-2025?view=how-god-talks-to-you---part-2

I'm going to start off with one of my favorite/funny stories about hearing from God. Once upon a time, when I lived in the Land of 10,000 lakes, my primary church was Hosanna in Lakeville, MN. At that time was a very funny pastor named Derek Rust. A witty Englishman that loved the Lord found his way to that church thanks be to God. The season didn't last long enough for my liking yet that's life and I digress. He once shared that a lady approached him after one of his sermons and said, "Pastor Derek! I spoke with God and he said you should watch my cats while I go on vacation." Pastor Derek replied, "Hmmmm, that's funny because I talked to God and he said I'm not the one to watch your cats." One of us is listening to the wrong God."

On a lighter note, that is super funny.

On a darker note, we all have seen in the news or maybe even know the person that says "God told me...". So how do we know they are really hearing from God? A few key pointers...

It must reflect Matt 22: 36-40. Loving God and loving others. If you are using that voice that goes against Jesus Christ's words, your savior and Lord, that can't be the right voice.

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Yes! You are in! Do you have a reputation that you want to change? Not happy with past mistakes. Welcome to the Club and here is a case study on how to move forward. Here you go...
Yes, thank you, once again, Dr. Lorrits. You can hear more of him at the Bryan Lorrits podcast. Simply click on the link in this episode's description...
https://www.youtube.com/live/qjpCWov6c0Y?si=2ggetogt4YF-59gz
The Bible as what I like to call the Owner's Manual for Life is full of jaded, flawed characters being redeemed. Chosen.
As stated, if you think you are the least likely and especially if those around you think you are the least likely to do something amazing for/with the Lord, you are prospect A1.
Woman at the Well...check John 4. Checkered past. Looked down so much by her community that nobody would affiliate with her. She had to go to the well in the heat of the day to avoid bullying and judging and cruelty. And Jesus Christ chooses her. She wasn't even Jewish like the other disciples. She was a Samaritan. In other words, think of who is your enemy...that person.
David, side note, very interesting series on Prime if you have it. Extra side note, interesting to see MGM inspired by Angel Studios to go for that series. David was seen as a loser to his family and brothers. Dad didn't even round him up when Samuel asked to see all his sons. A literal sheep shepherd is chosen to take down the mightiest warrior the Philistines had. He rises to power. He screws up in a massive way. And rallies himself again.
As for your life, anything is possible with God. Matt 19:26
Some of you may be thinking, aren't you beating this drum too much? No. I think we keep going until everyone has Hope and living their best life that honors/loves God and our neighbors. In other words, we are not done until Jesus Christ comes back or until we die.
BTW, for returning listeners. How much has happened to fade you from Hope of the last message. I bet a lot. That is what the enemy does. Want to confuse you, make you busy and make yourself think you are a loser and to stay down.
As for this podcast, we are in the Hope and encouragement business. 1 Thes 5:11. Thank you for sharing when worthy. As for your loved ones, they may seem good. I bet they are not. Ask how are you really doing?
Ending on a prayer note...Lord, who does this listener reach out to? Will you put specific names on their hearts? As for their life, what have you chosen them to do shines your light and Love Matt 5:16?

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Yes! You are in! Thank you for sharing when worthy. We'll see how this one stacks up. Did you know you are a surfer? Ok, maybe you've never touched the ocean. You are absolutely surfing waves called life. Some waves can be thrills of a lifetime. Some waves can wreck you, destroy relationships and even you. Here you go...
Thank you Pastor Rick Warren, Daily Hope and Saddleback Church. I start off almost every day with Daily Hope. How about you? Do you start your day with something uplifting and strengthening or the news or Fakebook or Instabrag?
When I have my A game. I start the day in the Word, prayer and iron sharpens iron listens. Oh, to hear more on that one, please click below...
https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/series/a-toolbox-for-life-2025?view=learning-to-be-both-fast-and-slow---part-1
So I do call SoCal home. I do surf. And that's when the vision came to me. To catch waves you need intention. You need to train. You best take some lessons. Better yet, you go with a pack so you can keep an eye on each other.
When it comes to Life Planning, that's how GCrossSurf was born. My wife still thinks we should rebrand and maybe we do. What was fun to learn that Pastor Rick and team also use waves for teaching. I love affirmations. I had no idea. First time I ever heard him mention waves. And I pretty much listen to him 5 out of 7 days per week.
Anyway, smarty pants out there will say you can create waves behind a wakesurf boat or wave pool. Yet that isn't what Pastor Rick was teaching on. In life, you hop into the ocean called this broken planet. And you have to ride with what God gifts you and also what this broken planet will serve up.
If we could all just create our own destinies then we would all be Michael Jordans or Lebron James or Taylor Swifts or Lord knows what.
The woman at the well had waves of failed relationships. Check John 4. Joseph's brothers threw him into a pit to die. Genesis 37. Daniel was enslaved by Babylonia. Check the book of Daniel. Moses thought he was leading his people out of slavery in Egypt and ended up enslaving themselves in the desert. Check Exodus.
And we can go on and on. Some fair, some deserved, some definitely not deserved, all crappy waves that eventually turn into beautiful surf of life...for those that love and seek Him. Rom 8:28
Odds are you are in crappy surf right now. Maybe you are in the best surf of your life. Ok, enjoy it while it lasts. Give God thanks. Yet for those in crappier surf, learning to be content (not happy) content (big difference) shows your might faith and strength. Knowing that Rom 8:28 waves are going to pay...someday is mighty Faith.
So if so inspired, hit us up at FriDudes.com and we'll give you a free GCrossSurf workbook. Planning and riding the most important waves of life. If you are tech savvy, we'll even give you early access to the beta web app. For it needs some lovin and shapin.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes you are in! I'm a smurf? You are a smurf? What in the world does that mean? One, it means we live on a very broken and brutal planet. The earth is not perfect and neither are you...why? Here you go!
Thank you Dr. Loritts! Making his way back and so grateful for teachings. You can hear more of him at the Bryan Loritts podcast. That one is entitled 'How to be a Godly Sinner'. Or you can just click on the link in the show description...
https://www.youtube.com/live/qjpCWov6c0Y?si=2ggetogt4YF-59gz
If there ever was a Play of the Day for my weekly Rom 3:23 humble reminder...that may be the mic drop. Epic!
We are all flawed. Hence, we all need Rom 8:1. As you may look down on others, they need Rom 8:1 just as much as you.
I love that Smurf analogy. It makes me smile. Not that we are all flawed. There's something about that simple analogy that should help take you and me down a notch or two. To avoid the yeast of the Pharisees and religious hypocrites.
Remember, Jesus used the words hypocrite quite a few times. Who was part of his battle? The Religious.
So this explains why some churches are major atheist factories. Pick your favorite pastor...still a Smurf. We are all Rom 3:23 hence we all need Rom 8:1.
On the other side, for those that call ourselves Christian, including me, we best be one of the most loving Smurfs there are. Matt 22: 36-40. Yes, we need to hold the line. When in doubt, simply let Jesus' words guide you. When we have our A-games, we are to be more Christ-like each day. And instead of looking down at people that appear to be more flawed, ask and pray, could this be the next Saul to Paul, Mary Magdalene or Woman at the Well? What does Jesus see in them that I don't?
One more Smurf observation and then we'll get off this train...for now. Don't be Grumpy Smurf. I can be Grumpy Smurf. Who likes hanging out with people that are grumpy. Misery that loves company. Not saying you shouldn't be sad at times. Jesus wept. Not saying that righteous anger isn't a thing. Jesus did flip tables. Just do it in a loving way. And remember, if the world hates you for being Christ-like, remember hit hated Jesus first, John 15:18
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Yes! You are in. Thank you for clicking in. When worthy, thank you for sharing. How does a code exist without a coder? One of my favorite questions. Why does your code (aka DNA) have certain strengths? That is what we tackle today. Next up, your play of the day and a very familiar voice...
Thank you Rick Warren, another play of the day and another excellent series,,"Maximizing Your Strengths". You can hear more at this link...
https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/series/a-toolbox-for-life-2025?view=maximizing-your-strengths---part-1
So whether you realize it or not, you are uniquely and wonderfully made...
Psalms 139:13 NLT
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Psalms 139:14 NLT
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/home.aspx
Gallup's Clifton Strength Finders is one of my favorite corporate/secular tools. If you work for a large company, odds are you already took this test. You can also find that link in the show description.
Even corporate America realizes you are coded uniquely. It only makes sense if they invest in you that they would want to maximize your strengths.
So are you maximizing your strengths for your Ultimate Power Source, Creator, Abba? Are you overflowing with Joy? Are you content in all circumstances? Well, then you and I have some more exploration to do.
On the flip side, I meet way too many dudes that are down and out. If that is you, you are definitely not alone. You are in the majority. Why? You are leaning too much on your own understanding and the rest of the broken people on this broken planet. Odds are you are also leaning on some kind of substance to mask your hurts and what you are missing.
Next Steps: Listen to the series mentioned "Maximizing Your Strengths". Buy Gallup's Clifton's Strength Finders and take the test. Hit us up at FriDudes.com and we'll give you a free digital copy of GCrossSurf (Planning and Riding the Most Important Waves of Life).
For the Versed Ones, you know Matt 22: 36-40. Maximizing your strengths to love your Creator and God with all your heart, soul and mind is your duty...and just like it is to love/serve others/your neighbors. Not to maximize your strengths for yourself. Nor to minimize your strengths. Noodle on that...
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Yes you are in! And I'm back. About 3 weeks investing time with family and friends in the Land of 10,000 Lakes. Ironically, some of those very loved ones can hold me back. Even myself. How about you? Your play of the day, here you go...
Thank you Rick Warren! Back on the board. A great series on Naysayers. You can hear more of that at this link...
https://www.pastorrick.com/current-teaching/series/a-toolbox-for-life-2025?view=ignoring-the-naysayers-part-2-2025
Who are your naysayers? As you reflect on that, let's pick on me. I can absolutely be my own naysayer. No doubt about it. Who do I think I am? Is this podcast really making a difference? Is it helping anybody? What if I'm wrong? Well, at least I cover that with Rom 3:23.
Next, absolutely loved ones and some of those closest to me. Think about it this way. I best some of the dumbest and/or meanest things you have said has been to a loved one. Why? Because we are closest. The closer you get the more friction that can occur...Rom 3:23.
Too old? Too young? Too dumb? Too many mistakes? Anything is possible with God. You have the Ultimate Power Source if you so choose. Matt 19:26. Oh and God loves to leverage the least likely to do the greatest works. It's all over the Bible. So if you think you are the least likely and others tell you are the least likely you may be Prospect A1.
Versed ones, you know it is absolutely all over the Bible. Rick talks about David and Moses. Think about Joseph and his brothers. Think Jonah and himself wrestling with God abut going to Nineveh. Think Jacob wrestling with God. Think Jesus and his disciples. Think Jesus and the public that crucified Him. Think Paul and his resistance. Need I go on?
So now you know you are not alone. What does your Heavenly Father want you to do that you've let others or even yourself get in the way?
On the flip side, who encourages you to do the right thing that honors your Heavenly Father and loves others? Matt 22: 36-40.
Luke 4:24 NLT
But I tell you the truth, no prophet is accepted in his own hometown.
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/luk.4.24
A special shout out to listener Aftyn. A 20 something year old listener and encourager. As I was wrestling with what I'm doing here, as if his timing was perfect, he chimes in on how much he loves the listens. So much that he digs back on the older ones. Thank you Lord for Aftyn and his timely encouragement.
Bonus, I ended up learning that Aftyn has a gift in music. Stay tuned as I will encouraging him back. Sharing his music and maybe even getting to interview him and sharing Aftyn with you. You are going to want to meet this Young Man. He is gifted.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Accountability is Annoying
Dr. Loritts brings it again. You can hear more of that brilliant message at this YouTube link...
https://vimeo.com/1099322108
Marcus Rogers, Best Life, please buy and subscribe to his music.
Under construction. What do you need to have built, rebuilt or renovated in your life? Who have you entrusted/shared that with? Are they encouraging you to do so? Have you tasked them to hold you accountable?
20+ years of men's and couple's groups. Without a doubt, this is one of the most challenging fronts...accountability. If you are so bold and motivated, you will share with select trusted others your dreams and struggles and ask them to hold you accountable. Odds are over time, that will fail. Either they won't care enough to ask you over time. Or you won't care enough to be uncomfortable and get pushed for better at times.
The comfort zone = the fade zone.
If you are coasting, you are going downhill.
BTW, I don't share this to look down at you. I share this to look up to you. I need this. I need this so much that I helped my brother Greg (who has been featured multiple times on this podcast ) with his vision of accountability tools. We created a workbook and even have a basic web app. If you would like to learn more for your group, simply let us know at the contact us page at FriDudes.com.
Yet, how tough is this? I have been fired multiple times as an accountability partner. Maybe I'm too tough? Perhaps. Yet in a way, isn't that what we need at times. Why does God let you go through uncomfortable times?
Iron sharpens iron, Pro 27:17
Proverbs 27:17 (NLT)
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
https://www.bible.com/search/bible?query=proverbs%2027%2017
Who on this broken planet is sharpening you?
Who are you sharpening?

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Yes, you are in! Welcome to Scooter month! How kind and gracious of Scooter to give us 4 episodes fo getting real and pursuing/sharing truth on what has worked in life and what didn't. That is wisdom. That is a gift. Here you go...
Cherry on top. Thank you Brother Scooter, the bold one.
Too late? You can change at 60, 70. If you are still breathing, you can change for the better.
Injury leads to a new mission field. Bridges2Hope
Romans 8:28 NLT
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/ROM.8.28
God extended Scooter. Why did God extend you?
https://thebridges2hope.com/
If you are ready...you have to be ready for change.
Matthew 16:24 NLT
Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow me.
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/mat.16.24
From dead on the rail road tracks to being baptized and in Purpose, 6 months later.
What if Scooter didn't go? What if you don't go?
Why are you here? How are you making this broken planet better while you are here? Are you ready to give account?
Romans 14:12 NLT
Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God.
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/rom.14.12
If you are willing and able, will you pray this with me? Heavenly Father, thank you for having a plan for me. What do you want me to do for the rest of my life? Some of these listeners like Scooter know exactly what they should do now. Some of these listeners don't. As they are willing to listen and see, thank you in advance on how you will tug on their hearts where they should serve more. Thank you for giving them certain strengths to uniquely serve others. In Jesus name we ask and pray, Amen.

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Yes! You are in! Part 3 of Scooter, he keeps bringing the boldness and wisdom. Sharing more on what worked after about 50+ years of suicidal thoughts. Does this world need more hope or hopelessness? Some of you need to break some chains. Some of you know somebody that needs to break some chains. Here's some more Hope to share...

If you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life. Please buy/subscribe to his music.

Navigating the Blame Game

If you can't forgive, you can't move on

Breaking those chains

Go to this post for all the key organizations mentioned in this series...

https://www.fridudes.com/post/scooter-from-hopeless-to-full-of-hope

Serving Overflows the heart

The more Scooter served; the more he felt better about himself

https://www.handsofmercy.com/

2 Corinthians 9:12
New International Version
12 This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God.

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Yes, you are in! Scooter is back for Part 2. If you haven't heard Scooter yet, back up one to Scooter, Part 1. On this one Scooter shares how a young son helps him see different. Here you go...

Thank you Scooter! Bold and brave. 1 Peter 3:15. Could you share like that? Hit us up at FriDudes.com and let's get your testimony lined up to help others...just like Scooter.

I've heard the stories how one can go to church for years and not believe. Going through the motions. Box checker. Once you get out of church, do you just do what you want to do?

8 times trying to commit suicide.

Getting past molestation.

What a bold confession.

We always say here, mental illness is as real as cancer.

Celebrate Recovery is for more than just addiction.

We have another saying here, we have never met anyone better from drinking or using.

I have met countless people that are stronger from Celebrate Recovery. Countless! Getting real. Pursuing Truth. Sharing what works.

Never read the Bible.

I've never met anyone stronger from not reading the Bible.

I've met countless people stronger after reading the Bible. The Owner's Manual for Life.

The importance of Serving. Serving overflows your heart. If you are down, go out and serve.

1 Peter 4:10 NIV
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.

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Yes you are in for another treat! Meet Scooter! We say here at FriDudes that we are in the Hope and encouragement business. For about 60 years, Scooter was suicidal and lost. He enjoyed the motorcycle and the party yet something was missing. What could that be? Well, here you go...
Website references mentioned during the Scooter episodes...
https://www.brokenchainsjc.com/
Scooter's Anti-Trafficking Mission, you can contact Scooter at...
Scootei10beat@gmail.com
https://thebridges2hope.com/
https://www.hopepd.org/
https://www.overflowshowers.org/
Thank you so much for listening. Extra thanks for sharing! Somebody else needs to hear Scooter's story. For we ALL need Hope and encouragement at times. As for now, I have 3 more parts/chapters from gracious Scooter that will be released in the near future. Stay tuned.
Lastly, when I have my A game, I end each episode with Matt 22: 36-40..
36“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
37Jesus replied: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
https://www.bible.com/bible/111/MAT.22.NIV
Love your neighbor includes people that look like Scooter. We'll get his picture up on the Fridudes.com blog. The average person will judge someone based on appearance. Just because they look tough on the outside does not mean they are not hurting on the inside. This sweet soul Scooter was hurting and suicidal until he found Hope. So please keep that in mind the next time God 'tees you' up with a person that doesn't look like you. Do not judge a book by its cover. Give them a smile, perhaps a kind gesture and boldly pray, God how can I encourage this person. If you want me to, what can I say or do to better love on this son or daughter of yours?
Now go, Love, serve.

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Yes! You are in! Bill Bohline is back! Some of you ask who is Bill Bohline? Well, one of my favorite teachers ever. And he has a mic drop for you and me. Check this out...here you go...
Thank you Pastor Bill Bohline and Hosanna Church in Lakeville and several campuses around the south metro of the Twin Cities of Minnesota. That was my home church for about 20 years until God called me to the mission field of Crazy Cali. My family and community was blessed with that teacher for over 20 years. He is gifted and anointed. He's not perfect and what a leader to even mention that in that message, in fact, I encourage you to listen to that entire message, you can find it right here by clicking on the link below in the show description...
https://www.youtube.com/live/-2fZ4O9fC74?si=_2xxpvmblWzTW5Gw
Bonus listen, Bill actually has his own episode right here as he graciously allowed me to interview him, click on the link below in show description to listen to that one...
https://www.fridudes.com/podcast/episode/801da61f/bill-bohline
Ok listeners, odds are if you are listening to this that you are believers in Jesus Christ. Some of you are not sure and I sincerely thank you for even listening and being open to a better way. Some of you have been believers for a long time.
So let's go back to Bill's point. If you have been married for a really long time and you never mention your wife...that's a problem. As you get to know me better and I never mention my wife of 30 years, Lori, that is a problem.
Do you recall in my previous episode where I said we are ALL "Religious" in something(s). I also said if you give me about 10 minutes I can tell you where you are religious. If you ask me what I do for a living, that tells me you are religious with work and money. If you are wearing a Patriots hat, that tells me you are into football. If you are getting distracted and looking at beautiful women while we are talking or your phone, you are showing your cards.
If you never mentioned Jesus Christ and what he has done in your life, that's a problem and flag.
Matthew 10:32 (NLT)
“Everyone who acknowledges me publicly here on earth, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven.

Matthew 10:33 (NLT)
But everyone who denies me here on earth, I will also deny before my Father in heaven. * Scary verses! They are in there. Those are two of them and they should be like smelling salts for some of you. * How can we be followers of Christ, married to Christ? Without ever mentioning Him? Not reading his love letters? The Word? * You get the point. Conviction is a blessing. We all need 'areas for improvement' to flash up on our dashboard. * Pray on it. God will tee you up.

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Yes! You are in! Are you a strong man? Are you a strong woman? What is a strong man? Whoa, lot's of questions. That's what we do here. Getting Real and Pursuing Truth, oh and if you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life, please buy/subscribe his music, here you go...
Thank you Robert D. Wooten, making his debut as the play of the day on FriDudes. NPHX not your debut yet major kudos for having that strong man speak. I strongly encourage you to listen to the rest of that message, which can be found at this link in the show description...
https://youtu.be/5bneMdVZHxM?si=nhoBZHQ4eDIFhkHG
Ways of the world will judge and say what is toxic. Toxic masculinity? You know what I call toxic? Saying that if you are a certain gender or race that you are automatically toxic. That is discrimination. The Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King Jr., a black life with whom we celebrate and even honor with a national holiday says, "Let us select by content of character...not by color of skin.". Gender can apply to that statement too.
"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."
Didn't we just have an episode on about not judging? Yes! And I so appreciate MLK Jr.'s words. If we are to be judged, let it not by something trivial like skin color or gender, etc. Character. I
So let's get real and pursue some truth more. We know the danger verse of judging (if not, back up one episode). We know that verse that we are all flawed...Rom 3:23. So we know there is no perfect character. Yet we also know there are stronger characters than others. We know a stronger character will show fruits of the spirit...
Galatians 5:22 NLT
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness
NLT: New Living Translation
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/gal.5.22
So a Strong Man = Strong Character. Same with a strong woman. Think about your favorite people. Do you love people that take advantage of you or treat you with respect, the fruits mentioned above with character? Yes, I love rhetorical questions.
Confession, at times, I have not been a Strong Man. Avid listener, you know my dirt....if not back up, perhaps even to episode 1...if you dare.
Yet a Strong Man will confess in order to be healed, James 5:16. A strong man will turn where needed and correct what can be corrected. In progress right now.
Are you worthy to be served/submitted? Many religious like to point out wives submit to your husbands. Not many point how it opens in Ephesians 5.
21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph 5:21
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/EPH.5.NLT
Confession, it is much easier to serve one another when we have our A games. However, on the days we don't, what did/does your Jesus Christ do for you? Does he forgive you? If you believe and choose John 3:16 and Rom 8:1, then, yes, absolutely. That's a Strong and Amazing Grace Savior.
Matt 22: 36-40

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Yes! You are in! Have you been judged lately? This broken planet has gone bonkers on judging each other...super fueled by biased media and algorithims to feed you only one side of a story. Everyone is convinced they are correct. So how do you stand out? If you are so brave, here you go...
Thank you Kenton Beshore, guest speaker at SW Church in Indian Wells, CA. Kenton is one of my favorite teachers. I so appreciate how God has wired him. He's edgy yet comes with the Word and Truth. Tough love. Makes his audience respond. Very interactive. You can hear more about that message at the YouTube link right here, in the show description...
https://youtu.be/ZAiEf_uhMEg?si=3YbuSdQ1ReA7aR0N
So how about you? I know you are being judged too much. How about in return? How's your judging ratio?
Confession, I can improve. My two weak points seem to be politics and the road.
Matt 7: 1-6
1 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. 2For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.
3 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? 4How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? 5Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.
6 “Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.
Matt 7: 1-6, NLT
https://www.bible.com/bible/116/MAT.7.NLT
One of my favorite sayings, "We are all religious...in something(s)." That is a fact Jack and the truth Ruth. Some of you say religion is a crutch and I'll ask you back, what is your crutch? You don't get to say nothing...for it is something: love interest, money, sex, drugs, alcohol, politics, cars, boat, house, a movement, pick your topic du jour., free this or that change or no ______.
We can see via your social media or just give me 10 minutes with you and I'll be able to tell real quick what is your religion.
For with any hard core religious person comes...judgement! They will judge you...whether you be blue or red or purple.
So when someone is coming down hard on you, simply say, ooooooh, religious. You are really religious with that.
If you happen to call Christianity your religion, well are your Jesus' words in Matthew enough for you? They should be. Me too. I'm going to work on that...every day until the day I die.
Matt 22: 36-40.

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Yes! You are in! Just like Mother's Day, Father's Day can be a tough time for most. For many of you did not have the best parents. How do I know that? I ask...plus Rom 3:23. Yet there is a solution that some of you leverage that can guarantee you have the Ultimate Father. Here you go...
If you dig that opening hook that is Marcus Rogers, best life.
Ok, reflection time. Good dad or bad dad? Probably somewhere in the middle. Here's a good test. When you walk down the card aisle, can you pick any of those cards? The sappiest of the sappiest. Oh Dad, you are the greatest! #1 Dad! If you can't, you are not alone. In fact, I would say you are in the majority of this broken planet. Survey of FriDudes says that about 75% did not have the best dad. You see that's the key fact. We live on a broken planet. Even if your parents were good, they weren't perfect. How do I know that? Rom 3:23.
So when my kids take something to me (I have 3 kids with my wife Lori of 30+ years), if I have my A game, I'll ask them, did you take this to your Ultimate Father first? As for me, I'm far from perfect. I've dug many holes. Granted, I can also teach them what not to do (avoid my mistakes). On top of that, my mood can vary. That can swing advice.
No matter what your earthly Dad was/is, you do have a perfect Heavenly Father. The Ultimate Power Source. The Creator of Heavens and Earth. You don't think He knows best?
My best decisions came when I put Him first. My worst decisions came when I put myself first. It is that simple of an equation.
Your choice and freedom to who you put First.
My earthly Dad got that. He didn't have the best earthly dad. In fact, he had a violent alcoholic dad. How did my dad change course? You can actually hear his story. Click here in the show description for that link...
https://www.fridudes.com/podcast/episode/4a190612/fathers-flaws-jon-denzel-maya-and-the-way-what-works-and-doesnt-in-life
Now go love, your Ultimate Heavenly Father and Guide. Next, love others, such as your flawed parents. So if they need mercy and grace, surely I say, you will need grace and mercy too.

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Yes, you are in. People do peoplish things. Got the pull to share more. BTW, if you dig that opening hook that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life, please buy, support his music, here you go...
Thanks for listening. If worthy, thank you so much for sharing. FriDudes are in the Hope and Encouragement business. Last time, I checked, yes, this broken, frustrating planet needs some more Hope.
So people do peoplish things, Rom 3:23.
Where I got the pull was 'Practicing the Way'. Great book and teaching series by John Mark Comer. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, this one's for you. If not, you are off the hook.
People may do peoplish things, including you, yet that doesn't give us an unlimited card to do whatever you want...well at least if you call yourself a Christian.
One, you are not allowed to hate anybody. Matt 22: 36-40
You are to forgive everybody. Matthew 6:14-15 New Living Translation (NLT)
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.
You are to do kind things for your enemies.
Matthew 5:44 (NLT)
But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
Odds are you have some work to do if you want to call yourself a Follower of Christ. Me too. Truth, we will until the day we die. As we approach each day closer to death, for it is certain, Rom 6:23. We will no longer strive to please this broken planet. We best be pleasing our Creator before we meet. Rom 14:12
I am not perfect. So don't expect perfection from me. Yet, you should expect that I'm striving to be more Christ like each day. If you were to ask my wife, kids, loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, etc., they should tell you that I was loving and caring. Honoring Matt 22: 36-40. They should also tell you that I loved God and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. They best know the reason why I love them through their flaws too.
So how about you? You are not alone. I'm not picking on you. I'm trying to encourage you to step your game up. For if you do, your heart will overflow. Not my design. Your creator's.
If you haven't yet, check out John Mark Comer's book, Practicing the Way. If you are in a small group, excellent, hold each other lovingly accountable. Oh bonus, you can find our Small Group Best Practice Guide on our latest post at FriDudes.com, here's the link...
https://www.fridudes.com/post/dudes-guide-for-small-group-engagement-and-growth
Now go, love God, love others, take at least one step forward each day on being more Christ-like.

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Yes! You are in! Does this world need more Hope or Hopelessness? Yes, I do love that rhetorical question. As for the FriDudes and others that meet everyday of the week, we are in the Hope and Encouragement business. Part of Hope is getting the wisdom to draw from the ultimate source. For you have all been betrayed by someone. For People do Peopleish things...here you go...
If you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life, please buy/subscribe to his music...
Thank you Pastor Ricky Jenkins for that play of the day. For there is a church (Southwest Church) out in the oasis of the desert, the valley of Coachella, Indian Wells, California, where you can find more of his brilliant teaching. For those interested, here is the YouTube link to hear more...
https://youtu.be/Qnl4LHMFy8A?si=UV9F0tPoYElTHl70
Avid listener, you know I love to share Rom 3:23. For many, such an odd verse for you. I've had some flat out ask me, why, why do you keep saying Rom 3:23. For it is Truth and it explains a lot. It absolutely explains the play of the day you just heard. It explains why someone cheated, betrayed, hurt, ________ you. We are all flawed. It doesn't excuse those hurts. It simply explains why People do Peopleish things.
So if you put all your Hope in people (that even includes your pastor, parents, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, politician, etc.). You will get stung. Not a matter of IF, it is a matter of When.
Give me enough time and I'll tick you off. I may have already. For I am flawed. I've dug major holes with my ego, my pride. Yet, I strive to shine a little beacon on my flaws and say my Hope goes beyond the flawed people on this earth (including myself). My greatest moments have come when I love my Abba, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit guide first.
You may not be there yet. Or you may believe yet how much do you really trust? Are you a follower too? If you are, you will learn to be content in all circumstances. Not happy, content. Big difference. Phil 4: 11-13. Black belt vs. yellow belt Christianity. We have believers. Not enough disciples. Definitely not enough Disciple Makers. Check Mat 28: 19-20. You love Jesus? He tells you exactly what your mission should be while on this broken planet. Are you doing that?
Quit expecting perfection for people. For Expectations - Reality = Disillusionment. That's why many of you are depressed and/or anxious.
You want Hope? Invest in the Ultimate Power Source. More Hope, more Love. Matt 22: 36-40

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Jogging Jesus is back! Versed listener, you know the blessing that is coming. New listener, you are in for a treat. Special thanks to Creative Love Church in Bloomington, MN for this one. You are a blessing to Casey and he is a blessing to you. I love God's design and plan. What a gift to share! If you find yourself in Bloomington, MN, check out and support this beacon.
Before we roll to Casey, here are some questions for you as you listen...
Not sure on your purpose? This message is some clarity for you. A strong history reflection. A reminder of life on this broken planet is not fair.
Are you a black belt Christian or a yellow belt? You are going to hear what I call a Black Belt Christian to help encourage you step your game up.
Your mission field is out there...wherever you are...do you see it that way? Case in point, make sure to hang out for gripping testimony at the end of this message.
Are you beyond a Sunday box checker?
Do people know your love for Jesus Christ? Do you shine Matt 5:16 Light and Hope?
"Your Busy" defines your Priority.
This world is desperate. So are you sharing Hope or Hopelessness?
Stick around for that testimony at the end Wow!
To follow Creative Love Church, check out the YouTube link in this episode's description page...
https://www.youtube.com/live/b1-eSC5kgtw?si=y24Iw5tr_tUnZYZL
Oh and if you dig that opening hook, that's Marcus Rogers, Best Life, please support/buy/subscribe his music.

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Yes! You are in! I got a funny for you. I went legit LOL on this one. Yes, Mother's Day is done, yet for some of you, you shouldn't be done...loving, here you go...

Once again a secular source to help me point to Biblical Truth. The Half-Assed Morning Show making their debut. What a life long accomplishment for them. Yes, that is tongue in cheek. And you can find more on that on at the show link in the description. That episode is called 'Thunder Nugget' published on May 9th, 2025

Comedy aside, several angles on that one.

https://www.93x.com/shows/half-assed-morning-show/hams-podcast/

One, some of you do not have the best mom's. I've learned that first hand dealing with all the dudes. So for many of you, it is truly a challenge to love someone that wasn't/isn't so loving. Picking out a card can be next to impossible for some of you.

Deeper take, if you call yourself a Christian, here's a verse for you, washing other's feet.

John 13:14 NIV
Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.

And that means the not so lovable. Easy to serve someone you love. Jesus is crystal clear on loving the ones that need a doctor (mentally, spirtitually or physically).

Forgiveness? You know I have to go there...for some of you are holding on to grudges for far too long, in particular what your parents did or didn't do...

Matthew 6:14 NLT
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.

Ephesians 6:3 (NLT)
If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”

Matthew 15:6 (NLT)
In this way, you say they don’t need to honor their parents. And so you cancel the word of God for the sake of your own tradition.

Ten Commandments

Simply shows you how important the family structure is for our Heavenly Father

Bigger picture, if you are married, you should love your wife everyday, not just on anniversary or Valentine's Day. C'mon player, you can do better. Have kids? Go beyond the birthday. Father's you go it.

Most important, good or bad parent, you have the ultimate parent. Don't forget that. Give you Abba praise first, every day, throughout the day. Ask the ultimate for guidance first before any other.

Matt 22: 36-40

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Thank you Dr. Bryan Loritts, another play of the day. Thank you Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, TX, for hosting and sharing. We both agree. Bryan is an annointed speaker for a season such as this. I strongly encourage you to listen to the rest of that message. Simply click the YouTube link in the show description or search "Your God is Too Small" and Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship.

https://www.youtube.com/live/qg02n4VfoSM?si=Z7KAiIg7iMKBwyQK

That is such a mic drop that I'm a bit speechless. Do you know a story like that? If so, please let us know at FriDudes.com.

On the flip side, I know people that filed for divorce for a lot, lot, less. Heck, I've been upset with my wife of 30+ years for a lot, lot less. As I've said countless times on this podcast, any relationship you care about, you don't have to be married to get this, any relationship you care about...will not last without grace. Choosing to give grace, forgiveness. Choosing to love.

For those 'IN LOVE', falling in and out of love is for rookies. Sooner or later, you are going to have to choose to love on certain days. Most certainly, you are going to need to choose forgiveness and grace to keep going.

Back to you, that is your relationship with God. You've cheated on God somewhere. How do I know that? Rom 3:23. Yet we have this amazing gift in Rom 8:1. Wouldn't we be the ultimate hypocrites is we didn't extend the same. As stated before, doesn't mean you need to hug it out with that person that hurt you. It does mean you hand over that hurt to God. Quit carrying that hurt around like a tattoo on your face.

As for that unbelievable dude in that Play of the Day. Think about it. His selflessness kept a family together. It kept a marriage together. Most important, it added a new member to the forever kingdom. A truly amazing story that I am already relaying. Maybe you too. Spread what works.

Matt 22: 36-40

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Yes! You are in. A lot of hate out there. How about you? Do you love or hate more? Christians, this play of the day will be a big challenge for some of you? Here you go...
Thank you Marcus Rogers for that opening hook, Best Life. Please support, buy, subscribe his music. I do via Apple.
Thank you Pastor Rick Warren for another/countless play of the day. You can hear more of that listen at Daily Hope, pastorrick.com. That one was published on the 1st of May 2025, entitled. "You've Got to get Connected, Part 2"
Alright you. Are you a lover or a hater? If you are not a Christian, you are off the hook. If you claim Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you are obligated to love. In fact, I loved the simplicity of that Play of the Day. We are not allowed to hate people. We may hate their actions/flaws. Does everyone approve of everything you do or say? Are you married? You don't even need to be married to answer that question. Of course not, you are flawed, Rom 3:23. So are your most annoying people. So do you pray for or curse them?
You don't have to take my words for it. Nor even Pastor Rick's. What about your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ's?
“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matt. 5:44)
Your heavenly Father will forgive you if you forgive those who sin against you; but if you refuse to forgive them, he will not forgive you. Matt 6:14
Doesn't mean you need to be besties with those that hurt you. Not at all. Trust must be earned...and some never will. It does mean you let God do what he does best, justice. On this broken planet or after. You give that hurt to your Heavenly Father. Say Abba, this is between you and that person that hurt me now. I'm tired of carrying that hurt around like a ball and chain.
My brother-in-law Chad, whom I love very much, is an atheist. He gets quite wrapped up in politics and likes to point out hypocrisy on just one side. He does have valid points at times. He shares something about how a book hasn't killed anybody but we will ban books and not guns. After thought and prayer, I replied, if we all followed Jesus Christ's words in a book called the Bible, there would be no wars, no racism, no hate and no definitely no mass shootings. Yet there are many that want to ban that very book (far left and far right depending on what sect). So what does Love got to do with it? EVERYTHING
Matthew 22:36-40
New International Version
36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

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Yes! You are in! HotRod is in the house! You don't know HotRod? Well you are in for a treat. One of the most unique Christians I have ever met in my life. And he has a new calling, here you go.

To support Rod and the FCA, check out...

Minnesota FCA hockey home team support page

https://my.fca.org/?form=rodschwarze

Minnesota FCA hockey

https://www.minnesotafca.org/hockey

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Normally I say Yes you are in. This one is a tough lift. This one is dedicated to you going through a really tough time and asking Why...here you go...
Thank you Chris Brown, guest speaking at SW Church, Indian Wells CA. You can find that one on YouTube. A Heart of Surrender, published on April 6, 2025. You can find the link in the show description if so desired.
1 Sam 4
https://youtu.be/gHmHLCidCCA?si=XjdVK2pSh_2xGkYI
Chris Brown, guest speaking at SW Church, Indian Wells CA
You can find more of Chris Brown at North Coast Church in Carlsbad and multiple areas mainly in San Diego area, CA
https://www.northcoastchurch.com/locations/
Minute 9:20?, 1 Sam 4 reading, why?
12:49, why?
13:20 mic drop
23:30 reading and summary
25:20, have you ever wanted your money back?
26:00, it gets worse
Minute, 27:00 yep, go! Sunday School never taught this one
As some of you are going into Easter weekend or if listening later. This quote happened during that Holy Week... Father, why have you forsaken me? Matthew 27:46 and Mark 15:34
So if you asked Why. The Lord and Savior Jesus Christ even asked why. Chris Brown is correct. They don't teach that enough in Sunday School or any day for that matter for kids or adults. Sometimes life is simply really, really hard...and it doesn't get better fast. Yet what I respect about the Word is it doesn't sugar coat. We humans can sugar coat it. That is a mistake. God doesn't sugar coat. Jesus Christ does not sugar coat it. We are told there will be times to mourn Ecc 3:4. We are told we will be mocked and hated, Matt 5:11. That we will ALL get sick and die, Rom 6:23. So why are we suprised? I'm not saying you should like it. Versed ones, why are we suprised? Why are you expecting perfection?
Here is where you can expect perfection, Rev 21:4. When we get away from this broken, brutal planet, for those that 'choose' John 3:16 and Rom 8:1 and Rom 10: 9-10, we get...
Revelation 21:4 NLT, Bible.com
He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.”

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Non-Profits featured in this episode that help the homeless...

https://ochn.org/

https://www.overflowshowers.org/

When you live on this broken planet long enough, you will get teed up to help/serve and share with someone. In other words, somebody is going to ask you for something. It could be someone you know or a stranger. I'm flashing back to the guy with a young Indian family (to be clear, immigrants from India) in the middle of Nebraska. You can hear that episode here. He drove up to me with two young kids in the back and a wife that was on the verge of tears. He claimed that he lost his wallet. Old me would have probably ignored him. He doesn't have back up cards? No digital cards on his phone? Perfectly understandable human questions and doubts...

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Yes! You are in. Confession, procrastination is an area of struggle for me. It is. My biggest holes dug have been via procrastination and pride. Here you go...
If you dig that opening hook that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life. Please buy his music.
Word! Pastor Ricky Jenkins is that Play of the Day. Southwest Church, Indian Wells, Ca. That came from YouTube and you can find it at the link below (in the episode description) or simply search "What Would Jesus Say to the Procrastinator", March 24, 2025.
https://youtu.be/MI2gNwBp_qk?si=ojDCx6ZvSyhq51x8
If that resonates, I highly recommend you listen to the rest of it.
Well, one thing I learned is that I'm not alone. You all procrastinate somewhere. Yes, some do better than others. Yet take a look in the mirror (health, marriage, a strained family relationship, Faith, obeying God?). Think about it. You have a weak spot somewhere. Otherwise, you would be perfect and don't need Jesus Christ. Yet, I know you do via Rom 3:23 and your flawed nature.
Now, I bet you are really good and proactive at some things. For example, health comes super easy to me. I exercise just about every day. I eat healthy almost every day. I fast often. I can control my food and liquid intake. How about you? So you are procrastinating somewhere.
Where do I stumble? Finances. I've been clear on that over this podcact. Accounting for me is like eating spinach for some of you.
So I'm taking Pastor Ricky's advice. I'm starting with a little bit or step each day. So far, this week, I've done it. I've already done more about my procrastination then I have in a long time. By taking little, baby steps.
Where do you need to improve? What have you been delaying? Who do you need to talk to? Write it down. Challenge yourself a little bit 6 out of 7 days per week.
James 4:17 - Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it. New Living Translation
Man that verse cuts. I don't share it as a guilt check as much as a reality check. We all have room for improvement. Also, be free in knowing we all have room for improvement. And then honor your Abba and say ok, here is where I'm going to start at better. Please God, here is my area, guide me.
Lastly, whatever you are trying to do, do it with love. Love God, Love Others. Matt 22: 36-40. Everything else you are trying to do...even overcoming procrastination hangs on doing those two commandments first, loving God. Loving Others. Doing what you know you should be doing is loving God.

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Yes! You are in! We are getting Real and Pursuing Truth. Going through some tough times? Welcome to the club. An agnostic makes the play of the day, yeah you heard that right, atheists and agnostics have made the plays of the days. Personally, I love it when secular points to Truth and the bigger picture. Here you go...
Right on! As much as we may not like resistance, it can serve a purpose.
That Play of the Day came from the Adam Carolla podcast. Not his first play on this platform. Like I said, I have no problem using secular when it points to Truth and the bigger picture. The guest is Joel Lambert, former Navy Seal.
Oh side note, this an independent podcast. When it comes to politics and the bigger picture, one of the best pieces of advice came from one pastor Named Kenton Beshore of Mariners Church in Orange County, CA. He said if a church chooses a side (in this case Democrats and Republicans) you put a wall to the other side.
John 16:33
New International Version
33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Avid listener, you know I've brought this up many times. The Greatest in the Bible went through the hardest times. Do you want to be the greatest? Maybe not. If you want to be part of the greatest, you are going to understand this.
Let's go to science for a bit. How do you get stronger? Physically? Mentally? How do you run a marathon or get a PHD? A lot of resistance.
I am convinced the anxiety and depression that plagues this nation has a lot to do with avoiding resistance. Wanting or getting things handed to us.
Ferverent prayers, you know that you don't get everything you pray/ask. Well, you do, just not the way you expect. Yes, I know the verse of what you ask you get. I believe God is much more concerned about your and my character than comfort.
Side note, I'm still being refined, especially economically. Hasn't come easy. I'm not a super wealthy man, monetarily. Maybe that's to keep me humble. So I owe and off to work I go.
How about you? Are you striving for more comfort or strength? Hey, I don't blame you for going for comfort. I've done the same. Yet the wise want stronger. Stronger in the Word. Stronger in the Lord. Stronger in the mind and heart. So be reaffirmed your suffering/resistance has purpose. Jesus was whipped, tortured and nailed to a cross...and it wasn't for nothing...and you benefit from it...if you choose.
Romans 8:28
New International Version
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
John 3:16 NIV: For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Side note, some of you are enduring or have endured some really hard things. To be clear, I'm not trying to minimize them. I'm not excusing that person or people that hurt you. I am going to encourage you to handle it like Jesus Christ. Hint: what did he say to those people in the peak of his pain on the cross?
Victim or Victor. Your choice.
Lastly, put your hurts to use and help others. Who better to help someone with cancer than one that knows that battle? Where have you suffered the most? There you go. That is the key to have your heart overflow.
Now, go Love

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Yes you are in! Did you get attacked this week? Welcome to the club. For we are guilty of both. Why? You know we are in the Hope and Encouragement business. Part of Hope is learning and understanding flaws yours and mine. Here is your Play of the Day...

Thank you Pastor Rick Warren for another mic drop. We don't have an official count yet I believe you are our mic drop leader. Lots of wisdom in Daily Hope. What a teacher. God has blessed you for an extended season of wisdom.

Opening hook, Best Life by Marcus Rogers.

Okay, how about you? Does that make sense? Avid listener you know I play the Rom 3:23 card pretty much every week. Why? Because we are ALL flawed. Ok, some more than others yet that verse explains a LOT!

Most of us attract people with our best behavior. Then, over time, our flaws get exposed. Flaws = friction.

The best relationships you know don't avoid friction. They just navigate friction very well. Whether you believe in Jesus Christ or not, your relationships will not last without implementing his teachings. Matt 7: 24-27 is one of my favorites. Jesus' words...

What are Jesus' teachings, fruits of the Spirit: Grace, Forgiveness, Serving one another, Love, Choosing to Love.

Blessed are the peacemakers. Doesn't mean you are supposed to be besties with everyone. Some people you are best to keep your distance. As for those that you took an oath in marriage in front of God or your children or best friends, you will navigate friction well by following Jesus' teachings. Lori and I have been married for 30+ years now. Jesus is the reason and why we have navigated some very hard times/storms. Share what works.

Confession, My worst holes dug and I have dug some biggies have come when leaning on my own understanding and pride.

Tough Love is part of love. Jesus gave tough love. If you listen to the rest of that Daily Hope, "What Destroys Relationships and What Builds Them Up, Part 3", published on 7 March 2025, Pastor Rick gets into it. As the saying goes, friends tell you what you want to hear. True friends will lovingly tell you what you need to hear. Confession, I have lost friends over this. Not everyone wants to hear what they should hear. For the record, I will welcome them back with open arms. I will also keep telling them what they need to hear. Their choice to stick around.

How do you know if you are sharing great advice? Crucial question. Let the Owner's Manual for Life be your guide. Then let those that know the Owner's Manual for Life best also be your quality control.

James 5:19-20 says, "My brothers and sisters, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone should bring that person back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins

Proverbs 12:1
New International Version
12 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
but whoever hates correction is stupid.

Matthew 18:15-17
New International Version
Dealing With Sin in the Church
15 “If your brother or sister[a] sins,[b] go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’[c] 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.

When in doubt, Matt 22: 36-40

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Yes, more wisdom coming your way. James from Compton is back! 3rd episode. I love this brother from another mother. His voice has power. He is tuned into the Ultimate Power Source. He shares what didn't work in life and what did. You get to benefit from it. Share it. Here you go...

If you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Roger and 'Best Life', subscribe and buy his music.

If you dig and would like more James from Compton. Back up and listen to his extended episodes on 9/29/2023 and 6/28/24 (with his lovely wife Cathy).

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Yes! You are in! I'd say you are in for a treat. This is way bigger than a snack treat. This is some serious wisdom. Meet Gary Paxton. Former CEO of Dollar Rent A Car. Made a ton of money yet something was missing. He chooses to address the TuesDudesPM, a bunch of 25 year old men seeking wisdom with this them, "What Advice Would Gary Give His 25 Year Old Self?" Confession, Gary gets real and raw. The recording is a little choppy too as we deal with bandwidth issues. Yet, you'll get the overall message. Thank you Gary! Thank you Young Bucks for choosing to tune in.
Oh, if you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life, give him some love. Buy/subscribe his music, here you go...

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There are times in life where you will get Whoa moments. So stunning and amazing that you are gifted to witness and share it. I had one of those this week. Stunning! Since this is a podcast, I'm going to ask you to go to FriDudes.com and check out the video on the blog. Or if you trust me, let me describe it for you.

I'm driving my way to MonDudesPM in La Quinta, CA and I see a luminescent cloud stream in the air about the mountain. Kind of like Northern Lights yet very distinct. So compelling, I had to pull over and get out of my car to get a closer look. As I veer to my left, I see what looks like a spaceship flying through the sky. Okay, before some of you get too excited, it wasn't an alien. It was SpaceX and their Falcon 9 over the SoCal sky. So cool! The video doesn't do it justice yet at least will give you an idea.
So how do I steer this to Deeper? Oh yeah, you know I'm going to go there and encourage you. Just like those brilliant engineers behind that rocket, you are gifted and called for an even greater mission. Greater than that?! Greater than that.
Think of those engineers behind the rocket. Literal rocket scientists. They are gifted. Gifted with big brains for science and math. What about you? You may not be a rocket scientist yet I guarantee you are gifted...in something. How do I know that?
Psalm 139:13-14
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13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
You are not here by accident. You are here for a reason. It is your job to tune in and know why. Perhaps why you are listening to this right now. By the plans to do good and to love, if you are not doing that well, then you know you are on the wrong path or not. As for good and plans to prosper you, check this out...
Bonus, if you dig that opening hook, check out Marcus Rogers! Subscribe by his music. That song is called 'Best Life'!

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Yes, you are in! If you dig that opening hook, that is Marcus Rogers, Best Life. Please subscribe/stream$ that music. I bought his albums and love them. Very strong! Especially if you like high energy/pump up music.
How often do you write things down? How about your goals? New Year's Resolutions dead? What actually works? Here you go...
This is a lot of work. You are right. Do or drift. 95% of all American do not have any written goals. Only 5% and they also happen to be the highest earners.
Is the next 10 years of your life worth a few hours of reflecting, planning and reviewing?
Thank you Pastor Rick. You can learn more from that Play of they Day at Daily Hope, that episode is entitled, "Your Choice - Blessed or Stressed - Part 2", published on the 21st. of January 2025.
If you were motivated by that, will you let us know. Simply hit us up at the Contact Us page at FriDudes.com. We have a program called GCrossSurf and we would love to tell you more about it. Living your Best Life starts by writing it down.
As for money, versed ones, you know that money isn't everything. This goes way beyond money. This goes to did you live your Best Life while on this broken planet. Some of you are already getting played by the enemy and thinking you made too many mistakes. Are you still breathing? Then you can start rallying. It's not about how you start. It is about how you finish. Finish strong.
2 Tim 4 Verses 6-8
7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 8 Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken (Matthew 12:36). So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore, let us stop passing judgment on one another (Romans 14:12)
Are you in the 5%? Start praying and writing it down. Ask God boldly, why am I here? What do you want me to do today? In the next 10 years? If looking for more inspiration, check out Pastor Rick's book 'Purpose Driven Life'. Next contact us at FriDudes.com and we'll introduce you to the GCrossSurf, Best Life Planning Book.
Now go, love God, love Others, that should absolutely be at the top of your plan. Check Matt 22:36-40. Everything else you are trying to do correctly hangs on doing those two first. I love you. Go...

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Normally I say Yes, you are in. Definitely thanks for choosing to listen in. Extra thanks when you give us input at FriDudes.com. We hear you. More group and interviews on the way. As for today and the subject of fires, I call Southern California home. Yet even if you live in Alaska this will apply to you. A reflection on fires, you all have them in life either figuratively or literally. Here you go...
Shout out to Marcus Rogers on that opener. I bought and listening to his albums. Some of my fave new music. Please do the same if you dig that opening hook. Give thanks for what is worthy. Phil 4: 6-8, good segue as we talk fires.
What fires do you have in your life? Relationships stressed? Finances? Addiction? You do have fires. How do I know this? Rom 3:23.
Granted some worse than others. On January 7, 2025, the LA fires have been a huge wake up call and some serious humble pie for some of the most proud and rich. Instantly makes me think of an Insta post by my wife of a LA celebrity. This celeb is known for her brashness. I'm not going to name her. For she has been humbled. She asked that others avoid shallow posts based on beauty, etc.
Ironic part, didn't ask to pause those during the hurricanes in FL or pick your disaster of the day on this broken planet. Truth, there are disasters and tragedy everyday for somebody on this broken planet. For most, you only get proper perspective when it happens to you. Think Job or any other MVP in the Bible. That book is a tough read.
Whatever gets your mind gets you. Rick Warren
So many verses and so many directions we could go with this. What gets your mind? Which fire, good or bad? Your wealth or desired wealth? Your health? Your home? A relationship? A drug? Phil 4: 6-8
Lastly, back to the MVP's, bad things do happen to good/great people. A news bite I recently watched was of a man who lost his home in the Eaton Fire (Atladena), next to him was his neighbors house that looked untouched and now called 'Touched by God". The reporter asked him why God didn't save his house. His reply, "I guess God doesn't care about me.".
I do get that initial reaction. I'm sure some of you do too. Yet, it is a lie he is believing. Versed ones. You know what Jer 29:11 says. You know what happened to Job and Moses and Elijah and Jacob and David and Daniel, jump ahead the disciples and Paul and most important God's own son. Did God not care about seeing his son who was tortured and nailed to a cross? Terrible things happen to the best. Yet versed ones, you know Rom 8:28. This podcast alone is full of stories of Hope and redemption out of awful.
Back to the LA fires, if you want to help. Lots of options. We have chosen to support Convoy of Hope. As for further ideas hit us up and/or stay tuned.
Learn from these fires. Palisades started with a spark. And apparently a lack of preparation (water!) and resources. Ironically, I can relate to that when my finances caught on fire. I'm still working on that fire. That's how big it was. It's another reason I'm so passionate about Greg's GCrossSurf ministry, life planning with the Lord and infusing accountabilty in our lives. Something I see sorely lacking in most small groups.

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Yes! You are in! How are you doing with your New Year's resolutions? 1&Done? More likel NoneDone Per Greg, most people fail their resolutions by January 14th! So you are not alone. What works? Lasting change? Here you go...
Yes, thank you again Marcus and the ThursDudes for that priceless nugget. Listener, you are trying to do all these things yet do you have the Ultimate Power Source involved? Do you know the verse Pro 19:21?
Proverbs 19:21 says, "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails".
Pro 16:9 says, We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.
Pro 16:3 says, Commit your actions to the LORD, and your plans will succeed.
Doesn't mean you don't plan and go for it. It does mean you best check your goals with God. And also don't be surprised when your plans change. Can you imagine how much better our anxiety levels would be if we could make peace with that. Confession, I'm still working on this.
Versed listeners, your goal for life is clear, to become more Christ like each day. Can you imagine this world if we all did that? No more wars, no more killing, no more terrorist strikes, no more mass shootings, etc.
Ok, odds are that you don't commit horrific acts. Yet being more Christ like is loving God with all your heart, soul and mind. This includes daily in the Word, praying, fasting and of course loving others. Check Matt 22: 36-40. Confession, I have room for improvement. So do you. How do I know that? Check Rom 3:23. If you think your poop doesn't stink, that is a serious problem right there.
For those inspired, I am reading Practicing the Way by John Mark Comer right now. Next you need a small/accountability group. To learn more about Marcus, Greg, the Dudes, Alpha, Rooted, GCrossSurf, hit us up at the contact page at FriDudes.com
Now go, Love God, ask him what you should be doing this year, read the Bible to get your answers, all of it, not just an isolated portion to justify something (that's where people go rogue and justify evil in their minds). Next love others, that includes the ones not so lovable. I love you, go...

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Yes! You are in! What a great way to start the year! Happy New Year! And if you happen to be listening to this in July, you can start in July. You don't have to wait for January to start a new initiative. So how about you? Are you maximizing your God-given gifts for the greater Purpose? Meet Marcus, here you go...
Thanks for joining. Yes there is more, stay tuned for Part 2 of 2. Do you detect wisdom via Marcus? I sure do. I verify to you he is truly and Iron Sharpens Iron brother. If you haven't fasted yet, back up and check out Casey and the Fast and the Christmas. Get closer to your Heavenly Father. Ask Him why he wired you the way he did? What you can do more with the strengths that He has gifted you. Write it down. Share with a few selected/trusted others to hold you accountable.
Oh if you would like to learn more about Alpha or GCrossSurf or Rooted, hit us up at FriDudes.com.
Living your Best Life and if you dig that opening hook that is Marcus Rogers and the song is called...'Best Life'. Give him love and buy/stream his music.
Now go, love your creator and Heavenly Father with all your heart, soul and mind. That includes better tuning in and using your gifts to honor Him and also leverage those same strengths to better love on others. Get it? Got it. Good. Check Matt 22: 36-40. Everything else you are trying to do well hangs on doing those two first. Now go...

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Yes! You are in! Merry Christmas! For many this can be a season of indulgence. Confession, I will be eating some fun food. Confession, I also love eggnog. Shhhhh. And today we are going to talk... health and fasting. Haha! Leave it to a calling by Greg and answer by the Jogging Jesus, oh and if you dig that intro check out Marcus Rogers and his song Best Life. Give him some love. Here you go...
Bonus points for you to listen about fasting and health (spiritually and physically). Even if by chance you are listening to this in July, this will apply. For those that loved the Lord and wanted to get closer to God, that wanted to hear God better...fasted. How about you?
Hey, you heard my confession. I got this much later in life. So if this is a new challenge for you, go for it. Test it for yourself. If you really love Jesus then follow His lead.
If you by chance are a pastor, that listen is a gut check. Casey is right. Many pastors don't talk about fasting enough. Case in point, I grew up in church. I can't recall a fast growing up. I don't recall any pastor talking about it. I can think of giving something up for lent. If you have preached on fasting and challenged your church, well done. Keep going.
On the spiritual or physical health front, odds are there is or will be room for improvement for you. Me? Heck yeah. For we are all Rom 3:23. There is always room for improvement. So as you think about your goals for 2025 and beyond, if you would like to learn more, have questions for Casey or Greg on fasting or GCrossSurf and life planning, hit us up at FriDudes.com.
So now go, love God, with all your heart, soul and mind. That includes fasting. Fasting is absolutely a way to show God how much you love. Next, love others. Encourage some loved ones to do this with you. For you all will be stronger for it. Matt 22:36-40. Merry Christmas

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Yes! You are in for seconds with Resilient Richard. First time? Back up one episode if you will. What gifts from God, these Dudes have been from the Central Valley of California. Do you love or need a story of Hope and redemption? Me too! As I love to ask the skeptic, does this broken planet need more Hope or Hopelessness. Hope, here you go...

Wow! Thank you Richard! And thank you Daniel the Faithful, Rogelio the Real and Powerful Paul. Thank you Spirit Filled Church in Indio, CA and getting me up near Big Bear, CA. Thank you Life Church, Visalia and the others in that area for sending me those Bold Brothers. What a series! What a gift! Note that, I prayed and asked specifically. God delivered exactly what he thought best. Not what I was thinking. What he was thinking. We are all blessed by it.

If you haven't seen the article posted, you can find some pictures of the guys and event here...https://www.fridudes.com/post/giving-thanks-for-visalia-ca

A few challenges for you...

Most important, are you ready to give a stranger or loved one the reason that you have Hope? 1 Peter 3:15. Each of these brothers were ready. Practice and then pray for God to tee you up. Get ready, you will be sharing and encouraging more shortly.

Next challenge. Since many of you listen across the states and some around the world, pray on making a pilgrimage to Cali. You have brothers and sisters here. If you haven't seen Sequoia and Yosemite yet (check that post), schedule that trip and add Life Church in Visalia to your itinerary. Fresno is nearest airport.

And/or come to the Coachella Valley. You have brothers and sisters here too. Palm Springs is nearest airport. You could also fly into Ontario, LAX or San Diego. Check out overflowshowers.org calendar for service sights and locations. Check out Spirit Filled Church, Victory in Christ, RedDoor, Abundant Life Churches in Indio and Southwest Church in Indian Wells.

Want to learn more. Questions for the brothers and/or sisters, hit us up at FriDudes.com. Bonus, sign up and qualify for a Deep Hike in the region (actual hiking and Bible study in the desert and/or up in the surrounding mountains). Hint: Check out Joshua Tree National Park or Painted Canyon in Mecca).

Philippians 4:6-8, New International Version
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

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Yes! You are in! Meet Resilient Richard. About 20+ years ago, he was on his deathbed. So he and those involved thought. What happened? Glad you asked, here you go...
https://www.behindthewalls.com/
https://www.fridudes.com/post/giving-thanks-for-visalia-ca

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Yes! You are in! Meet Daniel the Faithful. Why Faithful? Let me tease this, you listen to what happened to Daniel and then I'll ask you. Would you still go to church after this happened to you? Would you stop believing in God? Daniel didn't. He kept going and now he's realizing Rom 8:28. It is quite and amazing testimony. It stopped me in my tracks. Daniel the Faithful, here you go...
Thank you Daniel! Super bold. Super brave. I know people who left church after a lot less. I know people who became atheists for a lot less. That is an amazing testimony of Faith, perseverance and Rom 8:28. Avid listener, versed ones, you know that Rom 8:28 is one of the best promises in the Bible. For Good and better yet Amazing will come out of brutal.
So for you that are done and out. Heart broken. This is for you. Your Best Life is coming if you so choose to embrace and believe in God's promise in Rom 8:28. Don't give up. Keep going. Love God with all your heart, soul and mind. Next, love others. Matt 22: 36-40. Side note, show me someone doing that despite brutal, that is Faith. That is a powerful testimony. Think Daniel the Faithful. Now go live your Best Life. If you dig that opener, check out Best Life by Marcus Rogers, give him some love, buy his music and support him. I love you. Thanks for listening. Now go love...

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Yes! Casey is back. Back again! The Jogging Jesus going Old School and sharing lessons from thousands of years ago that are still so relevant to today. Our land does need some healing. Here you go...
Opening Song: "Your Peace Will Make Us One" by Audrey Assad, give her some love and buy/support her music.

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Yes! You are in! Rogelio the Real is back! Rogelio is a gift from God. Thank you dear Brother for being so real and bold. Sharing Truth on what didn't work in your life and what did. Talking tattoos and past decisions and further reflections.
Thanks again my dear Brother Rogelio. Getting Real and sharing Truth. A shout out to Rogelio's sister. You are seen faithful one. Good and faithful servant. You suffered profound loss and yet you still believe in God. God bless Julian. You will see him again. Rev 21:4. For now, you know, Julian helped bring your family back together.
Blue the Dog, how about you? Are you guilty for loving an animal too much? I do believe God gifts us certain animals. We get a taste of unconditional love through many of these pets. No judgement. Quick to forgive. Why do most people love and get along with animals because they can't talk back...haha!
Dad's. Most of you have/had challenging ones. A few of you have/had awesome earthly Dad's. I had one of them. However, you see your earthly Dad or don't for that matter, you do have the Ultimate Heavenly Father. He loves you dearly. Every testimony recorded on this podcast reflects that. We think we are unbreakable until we get broken. Truth, we were broken from the start...Rom 3:23. Hence, we all need Rom 8:1. So knowing that love your Heavenly Father with all your heart, soul and mind. And just like that. Love others. Especially the ones hardest to love. Pray for your enemies. Do acts of kindness. Everything else you are trying to do correctly hangs on doing those first two. Not my words. Your Jesus Christ's words, check Matt 22: 36-40.
Speaking of Love, give some love and support
Can you hear Rogelio striving to live his Best Life? Getting past the temporary highs that let us all down eventually? Roger that! Ending on an upbeat, Best Life by Marcus Rogers. Buy it, add it, stream it, give him some love. If you dig, please share with someone else also looking for an upbeat and a Best Life...I love you, now go love some more...

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Yes! You are in! Meet Rogelio the Real. Powerful Paul blazed the trail getting Real. Enter Rogelio and he flat out brings it. Getting Real...sharing what didn't work in life. Pursuing and Sharing Truth on how is life got way better. Buckle up, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Meet Powerful Paul. My name for him. He struggled with porn and co-dependencies. Now free and stronger. We tackle what works. Getting Real and Pursuing Truth. God put him on my path up the top of Pali Retreat near Big Bear, CA. Showed me a good tree producing good fruit, ironically quite a few from the region of Visalia, CA. This one called Life Church. Speaking of good trees producing good fruit, a Special thanks to Spirit Filled Church in Indio, CA for getting me up there. You think California is Godless. Think again...here you go...
WOW! Epic. Do you pray for God to put people on your path that you may encourage and sharpen? In return, they can sharpen you. Iron sharpens iron Pro 27:17. What are you wrestling with? Paul opened my eyes on Celebrate Recovery. I thought it was just alcohol and drugs recovery. Thank you for enlightening me and others, Paul!
As usual, questions and comments? Let us know at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com.
If you are so moved by Paul's testimony, you can check out https://celebraterecovery.com/
Now go, Love God, Love Others, whatever else you are trying to do hangs on doing those two correctly first. Not my words. Jesus Christ's word, Matt 22: 36-40. I love you, now go love. Pray for that next person that God will put on your path.
How about that new opener? Strong! Best Life by Marcus Rogers...if you dig, give him some love and buy that music

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Yes! You are in! Meet Brother Gilbert aka Gilberto. He was dealing drugs. Now he's dealing Hope. If you like success stories, case studies, results, getting real and pursuing Truth…I'm stoked to share part of his story with you. Here you go...

Thank you my dear Brother Gilberto of Victory in Christ Church, Indio, CA. A beacon for Christ. Shining Matt 5:16

NIV In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

If you are so moved, please reach out to him. You frustrated with this world? Invest in sources that work.

Odds are that you know an addict. Avid listener knows that I am active in streets of the homeless with my brothers and sisters of Overflowshowers.org. Working with key church partners like Spirit Filled, Abundant Life, Southwest, RedDoor and sweet Brother Gilbert and Victory in Christ church. So we know addicts. The bulk of those on the streets are addicted...contrary what others will tell you as they ask for your dollars. Brother Gilberto is another living, breathing example that changed hearts = changed lives. Giving God thanks for the merciful judge. What a story! Please share that one. Please rally around Pastor Gilbert and his efforts. Pray on it? Ask what you should do next.

Now GO, love God and love others, Matt 22: 36-40. Everything else you are trying to do correctly hangs on those two.

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Reflections and some Deep Takes from some of the most beautiful places on this earth.
For pics and vids, go to...
https://www.fridudes.com/post/sequoias-to-sierras-oh-my

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Yes! You are in! It's been awhile. Where have I been?! In the mountains! Yes, epic trip to the Sequoias, Sierras, Yosemite, Tahoe. Some of God's masterpieces. That will be a future episode. For now, some more good fruit from good trees. Another Abundant Life and Overflow story that must be told. Do you love inspirational stories? Life change? Impact? Me too!!! Meet Misty and Donna, on site at Abundant Life Church in Indio, CA, serving the unhoused and shower services provided by Overflowshowers.org. We discuss where and how Misty and Donna got involved and created something called Compassion Cafe, maybe just maybe you'll be next to do the same or maybe you will help them/us, here you go...
What a bright light! Love it! Praise God! If you are so moved, hit us up at FriDudes.com for more information. You can also learn more by going directly to Abundant Life Church in Indio, CA. You can also learn more at Overflowshowers.org. If you call yourself a Christian then your Jesus's words are crystal clear in Matt 25:40. Do onto the least of these and you do unto me." Jesus' words. That's what I see with Spirit Filled, Abundant Life, Overflowshowers.org and their other locations. If you are part of that in anyway, donor or volunteer, you are part of this story. For you that are not quite sure, where are you complaining the most? That's usually an indicator of where you best serve. Just a humble reminder, I used to complain about the unhoused. So be careful where you complain. I would ask what is wrong with them. Why don't they just get a job? And for the ones that get involved. You learn it is much more complicated than that. It also explains why governments and their billions can't fully solve it either. For this is a heart issue. Heart change = life change. Now go, love God, love others. Matt 22: 36-40. That is exactly what you just heard. Everything else you are trying to do, everything, hangs on doing those two first...Loving God, Loving Others. It is that simple. We humans can make it complicated.

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Yes! You are in! Thank you!! You are in for a treat. For I get to introduce you to a very special person: Robert. He was hopeless, homeless and hooked on fentanyl. What turned things around for him? Here you go...
Thank you Robert, what a shining Light! Think about that. Hopeless, homeless and addicted to fentanyl. Now full of Hope. Jesus Christ in is in the heart transforming business. A skeptic can try and debate. One can't argue that result.
Special thanks to Abundant Life Church in Indio, CA. If this tugs on your heart and you would like to look into starting your own Compassion Cafe for those unhoused. Check out this beacon. Misty, Chris, Beto, Gilbert, Jonathan, Tammy, George and so many more. I'm blown away by their volunteer ratio.
Special thanks to Overflowshowers.org (Gary, Jackie, Ryan, Katie, Lori, Matthew and so many volunteers and very generous supporters). All making that moment recorded and so many more possible. If you served and donated in any way, you are a part of that. Extra thanks to a good and faithful servant named Laguna Dave who got me out in the streets for the first time serving the homeless in the streets of Coachella Valley. Opened my eyes to see others like Robert and Taylor for the sons and daughters that they are.
Co-founder Gary once said that government won't solve this...and he's right. CA is up to $24B in tackling this issue in the last few years and it got worse. $24B!
Go back to Robert. This is a heart issue. If you are an addict or know an addict, you are not getting better until you really, really want to get better. The heart must change.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes! You are in! We are all wrestling with something. How do I know that? Rom 3:23. For where there are flaws, there is friction. So how do we solve this? Here you go...
Dr. Lorrits, back for another play of the day. You got to Name it to Tame it. Brilliant! If you would like to hear more of that play and I highly recommend it, check out the Bryan Lorrits Podcast, "Scarlett Letters: Overcoming Shame", published on the 14th of July 2024.
Avid listener, you know my wrestling matches and my biggest holes dug. I've confessed my debts and I am still a work in progress.
James 5:16
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16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
For the avid Bible reader, you know about Paul's wrestling match.
Romans 7:15 in the Bible says, "For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate".
You ever notice that he doesn't Name it. He doesn't name his struggle. In fact, the MonDudes group was just discussing this. Wondering what it is. What was the struggle? For those heaven bound, perhaps we will find out.
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Yes! You are in! Once upon a time, we did an episode called 'Expectation - Reality = Disillusionment'. Odds you are disillusioned somewhere in life right now. Or you know someone that is, so this 'Play of the Day' is for you. Whether you are married or not, this applies. You went into something thinking one thing. And now it is quite another. Here you go...
Wow! He's baaaaaaack! Pastor Warren works his way. We only share mic drops on this podcast and this is definitely one of them. You can hear the rest of that one and the entire series for that matter at DailyHope.com. As for that Play of the Day, check out 'Learning to Trust God, Part 1', published on the 12th of July 2024.
Wisdom is perspective.
This message doesn't have to apply if you are married. Maybe it is a broken relationship. Maybe it is your job. Maybe it is a trip. Maybe it is your church. Your pastor. This podcast, haha!
This is a test.
Live on this broken planet long enough and you will be disappointed. How do you handle it? Are you content in all circumstances? When I have my A game I am. Problem is that I don't always have my A game.
Phil 4: 11-13
Philippians 4:11-13
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11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Easier said than done, I must confess. You think you have this locked down...oh perfect one! Have you been fully tested? Raped? Lost a child? Then you haven't been fully tested. You are not done until you are done with this broken planet.
Best check yourself before you wreck yourself. You are not perfect. Rom 3:23. That's why you do need Jesus Christ, Rom 8:1. And since we know that nobody is perfect then why on earth are you expecting perfection during events and human relationships?
Nobody in their right mind wants to be betrayed. And nobody likes being let down. Yet it happens. To all of us to a degree. So wouldn't we be wise to keep expectations in check. Lord, I want Italy yet if you want me in Bangladesh. So be it. Lord, show me Rom 8:28 out of this unmet expecation. That's ultimate Faith. It's easy to declare Fatih if everything is perfect. Show me someone that has endured hardship and still shines Faith and I say there is Power. There is Light. Matt 5:16.
Ending on a prayer note,

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Yes! You are in! If you've been rocked with a loss, this one is for you. If not you, then give it a listen and you'll know who could be strengthened by another Abundant Life story. Meet Brother Gil. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Meet Beto, my back up brother. Literally, he helps me back up the Overflowsshowers.org trailer into place at the Compassion Cafe at Abundant Life Church in Indio, CA. Better yet, he shines Light. Check out his story...here you go...

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Yes! You are in! In for another treat! James from Compton is back! This time with his bride, Sister Cathy the Versed. My nicknames for both of them by the way. Terms of endearment. What good can come out of Nazereth? A LOT! Compton? A LOT! An unlikely meeting in an unlikely gated community. Reads like many Bible stories. Least likely doing amazing things. A story of hope for any of you feeling imprisoned (literally or figuratively). Does this broken planet need more Hope or hopelessness? More Hope coming up, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Meet John from Mecca, my brother from another mother and one of the most interesting people you'll find in the Coachella Valley of California. Odds are that you dig money. Preface, I'm not a fan of the prosperity gospel. It's clear that God doesn't give us everything you/I want. Yet how much do you trust? Can you out give God? Maybe you believe and practice all what you are about to hear, yet would you back it like that Sunday School teacher did to John from Mecca? Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Father's Day on the way or not past as you hear this. Bottom line, odds are you had a sucky dad. Even the best earthly dads are flawed. Yet this isn't a downer message. It is meant to be encouraging. Here you go...

Short and sweet on this one. Bottom line, you do have a perfect Father. Most of you get that. Most you still need to be reminded of it. The wisest of you also know him as Abba. No, not the super Swedish band from the 70's. Abba as in Daddy or one of the sweetest terms of endearment you can say in your relationship with the Heavenly Father.

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At times, my wife seems obsessed with Facebook Marketplace. Ok, she's not obsessed...normally. It is not her idol. She does love good deals. So in a way, I should be grateful for that. Better that then insisting on going to boujee shops on El Paseo.

So one Sunday morning my wife is eyeing some CA beach prints. She already asked to stay home and stream church as she threw out her back. I was understanding. She has been walking like the hunchback of Notre Dame. It is best that she rests. Ok, sweet! A chilled laid back Sunday morning. Drinking my coffee and going to stream the 9AM of Southwest Church (Indian Wells).

At about 8:50AM my wife approaches the living room and says, "Ok, don't be mad". That's like showing a T-bone steak to a dog and saying don't be hungry. She then proceeds to inform me that the woman with the beach prints needs to sell ASAP as she needs gas to drive to San Diego. Red flag one.

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Yes! You are in! Do you get anxious? Do you have a child that get anxious? That is what we tackle in this episode. Getting real and pursuing Truth. Here is your Play of the Day...

Interesting! Things that make you go hmmmm. We don't shy away from science or math on this podcast. And we don't shy away from secular or even two atheists talking to point to a bigger picture. BTW, that was the Daily Show, published on that 7th of May 2024, you can find the YouTube link in the episode description...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tcr0yg7Mvg8&t=718s

As for Jonathan Haidt's book, I bought it. That is called "The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt

When I hear an atheist talking about Faith, you have my attention.

As for anxiety, and a parent of this generation, all my three kids were born after 1995. I also coached and mentored their classmates. I witness this tsunami of anxiety. We parents would and can still be asking each other, what is going on?!

And if you were born after 1995 and listening to this, I hope this helps set you free. You are not alone. You have to deal with a wave of technology at a formidable age that none of us had to deal with.

So let's tackle what works.

Less phone, screen time and social media works.

Exercise works! Back up one episode to Deep Hikes.

Faith works! Listen to that Atheist. He says it himself. As perplexing it is for them, I am very grateful to Jonathan for not burying that Truth. Why does Faith work?

Hopeless or Hope, that is your choice.

As I've said countless times now, I can't show you God, I can show you results. Math and science above in full effect on the benefits of Faith.

Do not fear, 365 times in the Owners Manual.

Tough times explained in the Owners Manual.

Therapy works...especially a Christian therapist that combines the best

Don't be anxious formula is in the Owners Manual. Phil 4: 6-8

Philippians 4:6-8 NLT

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

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Do you get away to pray? Pray for more than an hour straight? Deep Hike? Or prayer walk? Run? The MonDudes are going through Matthew right now. We read Matt 15 and Jesus getting away caught my eye. When times get tough, how often do you get away to pray and reflect? Get away as an adventure, whether that be in a boat or out into the desert, mountains, etc.?

Confession: as for me, definitely not enough. I'm better at SnapChat prayers (at least that's what I call them). I'm in contact throughout the day in bite size pieces. Lifting prayer requests and praises in the moment. Very rare for me to go even an hour in prayer. Even more rare to get away alone somewhere. Yet on a Saturday in May, I was up early, very early with excitement to get on the trail to something called Bear Creek Oasis (La Quinta, CA). Normally, I'm pumping tunes or podcasts through my headphones. Not this round. About 4+ hours of praying and listening and singing to God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit.. Yes, even singing out loud. Not normally my vibe. Fortunately, I was alone.

The result. One of my most rewarding hikes ever! Physically, it was a tougher hike. Oh and my first rattle snake encounter! Safe and sound for both of us thanks be to God. 9.1 miles and about 1/2 of it a decent climb (about 2300 feet)...
https://www.alltrails.com/trail/us/california/bear-creek-oasis-trail

Spiritually, one of the coolest things I've done. 4 hours allows you to lift a lot of people by name. Think family and friends and all the Dude prayer requests. Phil 4: 6-8 while in motion. Eyes to see and ears to hear. Surrounded by some of God's masterpieces of beauty.

Here are a few pictures and observations...
https://www.fridudes.com/post/deep-hikes

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Yes! You are in! As promised, more shares, testimonies and interviews. ThursDudesPM Troy is back and telling his deeper story of hopeless to Hope. Is that you? Giving God thanks for this Dude and his courage to share and your willingness to listen. Here you go...

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As hate and cancellation roil over U.S. campuses, there are others that shine love and peace. At the end of the day, isn't that what most of us hope for Peace and Love? Respect, dignity?
The Tale of Two Campuses. In the Phoenix area of Arizona you can find two of America's largest campuses. Arizona State University (145k+, around 80,000 across campuses) and Grand Canyon University (118k+, 25k+ on campus).
Over the weekend of April 26-28 of 2024, one campus (Arizona State) was in turmoil. 72 arrests. The other (GCU) in peace, no arrests.
Source: https://www.12news.com/article/news/local/valley/asu-pro-palestine-protest-timeline/
At GCU, no hate raging. In fact, peace and harmony during 5 graduation ceremonies and aptly playing during some of it, "Amazing Grace".

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Yes! You are in! Confession, I've been dragging my heels on this one. Why? An atheist is back for the play of the day. Yet, once again, it points to Biblical Truth. Here you go...

Bill Maher, two weeks in a row?! The Pharisees and religious hypocrites are outraged. Yet I greatly appreciate people who tackle tough subjects. For your ratings can also be adversely affected as the masses don't like seeing the error of their ways. Ways of the world.

For those versed, you heard the beauty of that. You have ears to hear and eyes to see. And you are seeing some Truth reflected from perhaps a surprising voice.

Ways of the world say love money, money, money! Confession, I like getting paid. I don't know many that don't. Which unearths this timeless lesson, money is not evil. It can be used for evil. It can also be used to do a lot of good. Just check out Overflowshowers.org and climbing to 1,000 showers of Hope and clean clothes, tackling homelessness. Countless nonprofits using money to do major good. Churches need money and many do amazing work. There's a purpose for tithing. A test to you and me from God. Do we put money in front of God? Confession, I have. You?

1 Timothy 6:6-7 New Living Translation (NLT)
Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth. After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it.

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1 Timothy 6:10 New Living Translation (NLT)
For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. And some people, craving money, have wandered from the true faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows.

Hey, I read that one out loud! Newer listener, sometimes I'll just give you the verse reference for example Rom 3:23, Rom 8:1, Matt 22: 36-40. Because I want you to get into the Word and read it with your own eyes.

Going full circle, Ways of the World says love money! Look at me! Look at what I got. Most get jealous and covet. The Bible is clear, don't get jealous, don't covent, don't love money. Confession, easier said than done.

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Yes! You are in! Ready to get uncomfortable. I didn't think so. This play of the day is a doozy. I'll let it speak for itself and then we'll break it down. Here you go...
Whoa! Dang! Some of you are thinking, what are you doing playing an atheist on the play of the say. First, not the first time we've had an atheist on as the play of the day. Why? If it points to the Truth. We'll use it. Think jiu jitsu. If you are not sure what that is, then look it up. Bottom line the enemy all the time twists what was meant for good and turns it to bad. Or flat out will just use someone's bad where they should be good, think hypocrite and say, you see!

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Yes! You are in! I used to complain about the homeless. What's wrong with them? Why don't they get a job? Do you wonder the same thing? How did we get here? Here you go...
Greetings from Encino, CA. That's where one of my daughters calls home. About 15 miles away is Beverly Hills where my wife was getting some testing done at Cedars Sinai. If you have ever been to L.A. then you'll see the homeless. What used to be the home of glitz and fame has turned into the capital of homelessness. It wasn't always like that. Well, there has always been the poor and the rich. Even Jesus says we will always have the poor. See Matt 26:11.
We didn't always have tents all over the place. Despite that. The California government has spent $17B in the last few years to solve homelessness. $17B! And it got worse. How is that possible?

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Yes! You are in! The news is full of sucky news. For we live on a broken planet. So how do we possibly have Hope? Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Work. Most of us complain about it. Yet very interesting play of the day. The correlation of free time and depression. Make sense, if you are living life and feel like you are not fulfilling a purpose, that can be depressing and empty. Here's the good news. You do have a purpose. You are here for a reason. Here you go...

Thank you Pastor Rick Warren, a mainstay on our play of the days. If you would like to hear more of that play, check out Daily Hope, that one is entitled "The Purpose of Work, Part 2", published on the 11th of March 2024.

You have a purpose. You do. How do I know that? Jer 29:11. You don't believe that? Well, that's on you. Your choice. For those that believe, that is an epic verse and promise.

A few years back, the FriDudes tackled a book called "Halftime" by Bob Shank. Epic read. Life changing for some of us. Further back, we also read "Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren. Yes, that Rick. Game changing for some of us. Why just some of us? Your choice. Your choice to read and your choice to implement.

So game changing that we have a FriDudes named Greg. He's been featured before. He was so moved by especially Half Time that he created something that we call Gcrosssurf.org. In the midst of a rebrand. Things in the works. Stay tuned. Bottom line, Greg set out to better identify, goal/life plan/God's plan, write it down make it happen. Identify strength and confess weaknesses. Super bold. Not for the faint of heart.

Back to the HalfTime book, tracked a bunch of guys that made a bunch of money. In particular some Exxon retired execs. Worked hard, retired, comfy, played, golf and on average died 10 years too early on average. Many depressed, lost their purpose. Their former jobs were their identity. No longer needed. Again, lost. Some of you are now way, you are saying I never have to worry about money and I can be depressed and empty? Yep, have you read David or King Solomon? Then, yes! Ever wonder why the rich and famous overdose and die...repeatedly? There you go.

“Everything is meaningless,” says the Teacher, “completely meaningless!” What do people get for all their hard work under the sun? Generations come and generations go, but the earth never changes.

Ecclesiastes 1:2-9 NLT - Bible.com

Hang in there. Full circle. Yet if you tune in. Ask God why and keep pursuing, match your gifts into service and your heart will overflow...

Jeremiah 29:11
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11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Romans 8:28
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28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.

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Yes! You are in! Some of you are oh wow Bill! And some of you are who's Bill? Either way, you are going to be blessed. Bill is one of my favorite teachers and speakers. We believe the Lord led you here, to this message, here you go...

Thank you Bill Bohline, what a gift! Thank you Nancy and family, founding members and all contributors to the ongoing Hosanna story. Sacrifices, yes. What a legacy. Wherever you are. What is your legacy? Why did God put you here? Just like Bill. It is your job to tune in and ask. You are all not destined to be pastors of large churches. I do believe you are destined to be a blessing to someone each day.

If you digged that one, have a question for Bill? If there will be a part 2, what would you like to know? Let us know at FriDudes.com. Now go, love God, love others, Matt 22: 36-40. Everything else you are trying to do correctly hangs on those two. I love you. Share love, be a blessing to someone today and each going forward...

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Thank you Dr. Lorrits! That is getting real and pursuing Truth. How do you handle when things don't go your way? Prayers not answered? That is key part of the test of life and Faith. If you would like to hear more of that play of the day, check out the Bryan Lorrits Podcast, that episode is entitled, "Jesus, Bread of Life...John 6", published on the 11th of March, 2024.

What is blessed? Perhaps you have everything perfect in your life right now. How about that person who lost a child? Or battling cancer? Are they not blessed? Before you answer that, for you that are versed in the Word, did the best go through the best or the worst? Job, Moses, Abraham, Isaac, Joshua, Ruth, Joseph, David, Jesus, almost all his disciples. They all went through brutal and unfairness.

Show me a person going to church and treating God like a genie in a bottle and I'll say that's human. Show me still going to church and praying and keeping the Faith despite hardship and unanswered prayers and I'll say that is a strong, true follower of Christ.

My wife has been battling cancer for years. She could have stayed angry and asked why her. She has only gotten closer to the Lord during her trials. That is the test. She inspires me.

When tragedy strikes, there are those that will run from God...angry. And there are those that get closer to God. I can't blame the former. For that is human. You and I really don't know what we would do until we are in that situation. You say no way. And that reminds of someone, Peter. Peter said no way. Then he got tested and failed, 3x. Check Matt 26.

My wife has been tested many times. And she has responded. People that are closest to Lori yet maybe not the Lord, notice her Faith. Her strength.

As for me, if you have listened long enough, you know my trials and tribulations. Finances have been a wrestling match. Once upon a time, money used to come easy. Too easy. Now, for about 15 years it has been a struggle. Don't get me wrong. There are others in worse situations. I'm just trying to say vs. most of my peers, my path has been challenging. Easy to pay bills when it flows strong. When it doesn't, ok Lord, what are you going to do in this struggle? I look forward to Rom 8:28. This is going to be solved one way or the other. I'm still hoping to hit the jackpot and make it all right. I keep working and digging for wells. We'll see if Brother MikeC's words come true as he tells me to keep working/digging and I'll hit the wellspring. If/when I do, I'll think I'll be more appreciative than the one that takes it for granted. Perhaps that is part of the refinement.

What's your story? Wrestling match? Are you closer or further from God, let us know at FriDudes.com

Now go, lift your struggles, know they are part of the test. Know the best go through the worst. Those going through the worst, loving God with all your heart, soul and mind is amazing. For those going through better times, recognize the season and give thanks for what is worthy. Love others. Matt 22: 36-40. Everything else you are trying to do or pray about hangs on those two. I love you. Keep going. Get stronger.

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Yes! You are in! Noe works his way to the play of the day and he talks about the dangers of the prosperity gospel. Why do you get sick? Tough times? Here you go...
Thank you Pastor Noe Garcia, you can find more of that play of the day at the NPHX podcast, entitled "Faith in the Storm" published on the 2nd of March 2024
For the avid listeners, you know this. Yet even the most avid listener needs reminders. It is why we best keep going to the Word and memorize certain verses for certain situations. Don't need to know all of it. Best equip yourself with key pieces of armor along with the sword aka The Word. Eph 6: 10-18
Jesus makes it clear, you follow Him, you will have tough times. You will have storms. Matt 7: 24-27
Not a follower of Jesus and still having tough times? Rom 3:23
We live on a broken planet. This life is a test. You will get experiences of heaven and hell. Then you will choose where you want to go for eternity. I view it that simply. Your choice. God gives us a choice.
While we are on this broken planet, we also have a choice. Some choose Hope, some don't. Some choose not to be anxious about anything, Phil 4: 6-7. Some of us have to work at it harder. Some of us choose to be content in all circumstances. Not happy, big difference. Content that we know there is a purpose for our pain. Content knowing there is an amazing promise in Rom 8:28.
Confession, I don't like pain. Yet the strongest people that I know have gone through the most pain. Put that in your comfort pipe and smoke it and ponder for awhile. You want to be weak or strong?
Confession, 20 years of business ups and downs. Pain on striving to keep up with bills. Owing, paying taxes. You can get the rest of that dirt in the summer of 2020 in this podcast series. At times, I question whether I should put a pause on all this? I turned down an offer to be an elder for my church because of this. Why do I struggle with this when it comes so easy to you? I'm not sure, why do you struggle with ______________? Rom 3:23.
So if you are a newer listener, please know I'm not perfect. Don't even pretend to be. I need this. If/when this stops you'll know why...it will most likely either be that or death.
For now, I keep going. Keep praying. I fall down yet keep getting up to run, to finish the race. Acts 20:24, 2 Tim 4:7, Gal 6:9.
I'll humbly ask for prayers there. How can we best pray for you? Let us know at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com
Now, go, love God with all your heart, soul and mind. Next, love others. Everything else you are trying to do correctly, hangs on those two. Matt 22: 36-40

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Yes! You are in! Casey, CK is back! The Jogging Jesus! No, he's not Jesus, just looks like we may think Jesus looks like and loves Jesus more than most people that I know. And this message is definitely Deeper into Truth. Audio is a bit challenging in the beginning yet please stick with it. An amazing ending of Hope...
If you would like to see Casey for yourself...here is the actual video, yet you will feed Facebook to view...only option at this time...oh and a special thank you to Creative Love Church for giving our dear Brother Casey an opportunity to speak. Quite amazing that a boy from Thief River Falls, MN, that could hardly read ends up becoming an engineer and now delivers this message without a PhD in Theology. Anything is truly possible with God.
https://www.facebook.com/creativelovechurch/videos/deeper-into-truth/695444576059077/

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Yes! You are in! You busy?! Odds are that you are. Here you go, your play of the day...

Mic drop! Thank you Dr. Lorrits! Back in the Play of the Day. After an amazing run of interviews, and more of those on the way, thank you for all your positive feedback. More of those interviews and case studies are on the horizon. You can hear more of that message on the Bryan Lorrits podcast. That message is entitled, "The Discipleship Ride - 2 Timothy 2" published on the 19th of February 2024.

Several key things jumped out at me. FriDudes is in the discipling business. Yes, we are still in the Hope and Encouragement business. Yes, we get real and pursue Truth. We also have a crazy goal of 1 million disciples. Sure, we have a ways to go yet we are multiplying. Jesus started with a small group. How about you?

I'm with Dr. Lorrrits' father. I've been part of mega churches for over 20 years. My greatest growth has come from small groups. I still attend larger churches. I also will attend smaller churches. I average once per week in a bigger church. Yet, I average 3-4 times per week in small groups. Dr. Lorrits says 8 peeps. Awesome! Yet I have also had some of my best experiences with groups of 2-3. A cool promise with small groups of 2-3. Matt 18:20. Check it.

A pastor that has spoken to an arena of 80,000+ plus and he says give me 8 hungry dudes at 5:30AM! The FriDudes and other early morning Dudes will get that one. Why so early?! Because it is really hard for you to be so 'busy' that early. The only excuse most of you can give is you want to sleep in more. Trust me, we run groups at lunch time, later in the afternoon and evenings. Early mornings are very hard for most to find an excuse for why not to go.

Relationships. Very hard to build relationships in a large group with one speaker. Very hard to really get to know someone. 8 people, easier. 2-3 much, much easier.

Why do this at all? Let me go back to some of my favorite rhetorical questions. Do we need more love or hate in this world? More hope or hopelessness? The Bible, the Owner's Manual for Life is full of Hope and Love. It says love is the greatest of all. Can you imagine if everyone practiced that? That is why we create disciples. Well, that and it is exactly what Jesus told us to do. If you truly love Jesus, you will want to be discipled and make disciples. Check Matt 28: 19-20

Back to the song of the day, Lauren Daigle, this song raises my mood, I hope it does for you too, if you dig, add it, buy it, here is a little taste...

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Yes, you are in! You either have been lost or you know someone that is. In a funk. Spinning wheels and flat out stuck. I've seen part of Gen Z paralyzed. I've seen part of Gen Z absolutely thriving. Why? Brothers and sisters, meet Z, my brother from another mother.

Thank you Z! Thank you Spirit Filled Church, Indio, CA, for being that good tree producing good fruit! Thank you for hosting Overflowshowers.org. Loving on many and sharing more Hope and Matt 25:40. Special shout out to Pastor Jose, Linda, Mike C, Z, Remmy and you all. Extra special thanks to Z bringing it and shining some Light, Matt 5:!6.

So back to you. Will you share what works? This episode with someone that needs some Hope. And if you are on the receiving end of this, we all can get down. Just read David in the Psalms, holy roller coaster. You are not alone. You are simply loved. Big pharma just wants to give you a pill or someone wants to sell you something. Temporary hits and temporary relief. Hey, sometimes we need medicine. Yet how many of us go to the ultimate source. That's what Z did. That's what Gerald did. That's what Brother James did. That's what Kenny did. You see a theme here? Real case studies. Real results. Share what works. Build up and encourage others, 1 Thes 5:11. Oh and if you have the guts to share your testimony, let us know at FriDudes.com

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Yes! You are in! I love stories of beating monsters. As I've wrestled with a few. Odds are so have you. Brothers and sisters meet Kenny, my brother from another mother, fellow MonDude making his debut on FriDudes and talking about his path to stronger and sobriety, easy to debate God, very hard to argue with His results, here you go...

Thank you Kenny! Epic. So intriguing to me that one's biggest wrestling match can become a mighty platform of triumph and to help many with their wrestling matches. Rom 8:28 right there.

If you have follow up questions for Kenny or perhaps have your own testimony to share, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com.

Ending on an encouraging song note, this is one of Kenny's favorites. His words, "Awesome man, I know it's predictable, but this version in particular has been my theme song for a long time, thru the trial and relapses and repentances. My chains are gone, I've been set free, my God my savior has ransomed me. And like a flood His mercy reigns. Unending love, Amazing Grace. Hallelujah! Hallelujah indeed. Okay Kenny bro, here you go and I have a feeling someone else needed to hear this as well. If you dig, this is Chris Tomlin's version of Amazing Grace. About 10 seconds to respect the rights and the artist. If you like, please support the music industry and buy and/or subscribe to this song and add it to your daily inspirational playlist.

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On this dark, frustrating, broken planet, I love bright Lights. Listener, you are in for a treat! Meet Gerald. Was homeless, down and out and one of the most content people that I have ever met in my life! Why do content? Well, here you go...
Thank you again Brother Gerald! As we often say on this podcast, we are in the Hope and Encouragement business. Getting Real. Pursuing Truth. Case in point, 1 Thes 5:11. Avid listener, you know my favorite rhetorical questions. Does this world need more Hope or hopelessness? More Love or hate? Jesus says Love is greatest of all. Jesus speaks very highly of the poor and that for those that can to take care of them Matt 25:40. So those that slam on Jesus, that is what you slam on. And I know, some of you have been burned by hypocrites. Many people that call themselves Christians aren't or they are not doing a very good job at the loving part...see Matt 22:36-40.
Cathy, Jade, Gerald, Jose, Linda, Matthew, Mike C, Z, Remmy, Gilbert, Gary, Jackie, Ryan, Kaite, Lori, Matthew, Patty and so many more that I could name. The countless donors behind Overflowshowers.org, Spirit Filled Church Indio, Victory in Christ Church Indio, Templo Hermosa Coachella, Red Door La Quinta, Southwest Church Indian Wells, Martha's Kitchen Indio, Coachella Valley Rescue Mission, Our Lady of Gualdalupe Palm Springs, Ramona Tire Palm Desert, Dr. Vines, Nurse Peggy...and I'm just scratching the surface of Faithful servants and businesses striving to share Jesus and Hope and Love in the Coachella Valley of California.
As for you, if you complain about homelessness or California, speaking from personal experience that most likely means that is where God wants you to serve. Too far? Ok, how about then at least pick one of those organizations mentioned and donate. Put your resources in motion that God has blessed you with to help address what concerns you the most.
I love you. God loves you way more. Just listen to Gerald. He feels loved and shines Love...meanwhile others sit in their giant homes and contemplate their lives and wrestle depression. Ironic indeed.
Ending on a song note, My Tribe by Blessing Offor, Gerald, Spirit Filled, Southwest and all those mentioned above our part of my tribe, your tribe too, if you so choose...give Blessing Offor some love, buy it, subscribe it, get KLove to play it!

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Yes! You are in! Hello new one! And welcome back versed one. If you would like to see less homeless, less drugs/addiction on the streets, then you need to meet and or support Pastor Joe and Spirit Filled, share what works, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Hello new one! Welcome back faithful one. If you ever scratch your head about California and if you are hoping for some encouraging news, well, you are in the correct place, here you go, your play of the day...

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Yes! You are in! Hello new one. And hey old one, you are back. As we get real and pursue Truth. Let's face it. Truth isn't always popular. In fact, quite the contrary. Your Play of the Day, here you go...

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Everyone has holes in their theology. I agree. How dare you says you? Here is your play of the day...let us know what you think at FriDudes.com, here you go...

Special thanks to Young Buck Matt and G-EZ

Rick Warren vs. Todd White. Lorrits vs. Keller. Chan vs. Michael. Osteen vs. Ricky Jenkins. My church vs. yours. Versed ones. We do this. Which simply shows we do have holes in our theology.

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Yes! You are in. As I often say, this broken, flawed planet can chew you up and spit you out. My wife went to the hospital right before Christmas. Here is the recap...here you go...
You are going into a storm, in a storm or coming out of the storm.

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Yes! You are in! The doctor is back in the house. Dr. Lorrits that is, here is your play of the day to put into "Perspective", here you go...
Thank you Dr. Lorrits. You can hear more on that one at the "Bryan Lorrits Podcast", that one is from "What Do I Do When It Doesn't Feel Like Christmas", published on the 18th of December 2023
If you are an avid listener, then you know we are big on Perspective. Huge! If you are new and dig, simply drill down on the 250+ episodes. We are constantly striving to see and hear things clearly. For this broken planet will get you down, very fast. Despite unfairness, how do we stay in the Hope and Encouragement business? You must tune in.
If you wanted to master a game or a job, what would the wise do? You would study and observe those that are successful. The world will tell you that success is how many followers you have or dollars in the bank. Doesn't mean jack if you are miserable. We know plenty of famous and rich people that are divorced, miserable and/or overdosed/dead.
What about the person that is content? Despite hardship? What about the person that shines Light in darkness? Who is grateful? As some of you heard in the previous episode, Adam would pay you $10 million dollars for half of what some of you have. He has the money too.
Confession, as some of you heard before, I would love to say I'm content all the time. I'm not. I catch myself in moments and I repent and turn it back to God. Yet I have a signal. It doesn't take me long to realize I need to change my mind/heart. A key problem is many of you don't have that signal or signal strength.
So let me share a vision that I had in church yesterday, You let me know what you think at FriDudes.com? Avid listeners know my video game analogy. If you know how to play the game, if you have the Owner's Manual, read/study it, you'll do well. Especially if you start getting involved with study groups dedicated to best practices.

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Yes! You are in! This play of the day is unique. We don't always go to the preachers. Here is an intriguing conversation between an atheist and a believer, here you go...
Very intriguing! Thank you Adam Carolla, the controversial atheist...well perhaps agnostic that isn't afraid to have Christians, Jews, Muslims, others on his program. You may not agree with him. Yet you can't accuse him of censoring. In fact, ironically, it has been the censoring and control of the left that has pushed him toward believing or at least envying believers and faith in a God.
Next, kudos to Neil McDonough. You may need to web search to recognize him. When you see him, you'll probably say, oh yeah, that guy. Now, I definitely want to check out this movie called The Shift...and I will. Props to you Neil for speaking up. Most of Hollywood wants to cancel you...yet that has Rom 8:28, created a new opportunity. Studios like Angel and the Robertsons are pumping out great movies and content. This year alone I saw Jesus Revolution and The Stand...amazingly well done and brought tears to my eyes.
If you would like to hear more of that Neil McDonough interview, check out the Adam Carolla podcast, "Rob Schneider, Intimacy Coordinators and Movie Accents" published on the 13 of December 2023. And yes, Neil is on that one, roughly about the last hour of that podcast.
So some of you are asking, why do you listen to an atheist/agnostic? Let alone promoting? Call me a hopeless romantic, I believe in people. Yes, they are flawed. Adam is flawed just like Pastor Rick Warren or the Pope or ____________. We are all flawed Rom 3:23. We all need Jesus, Rom 8:1. Rom 10: 9-10. That's a fact Jack!
Okay versed ones, when you read the Bible. Who is out of line? Who rises up? I tell you all the time. Think of the least likely in your group. That could be your Paul or Mary Magdalene. I truly believe Adam could be a Paul (Saul to Paul). It's interesting to see him shift to Agnostic. What does Jesus say about a mustard seed fo faith? Check Matt 17: 20-21
As for that clip, that is Matt 5:16. Neil is shining Light big time and Adam is letting him.
As for the environment, avid listener knows my comments. God created this earth. If you believe in God, we best take care of this earth. No debate. Yet keep God our God. Jesus Christ as our saviour. The Holy Spirit as our guide. I hear and see what Adam is saying. Many make movements their religion.
Ending on a prayer note...

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Yes! You are in! You ever complain about the homeless? I did...and then God introduced me to a man we call Laguna Dave. Now, we are making a difference on something we used to complain about. Complain or solve. Let's solve. The Jogging Jesus joins us to learn and best practices. Here you go...

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How to be happy no matter what? That's a deep take. I still wrestle with that. Even the most versed ones I know, haven't mastered it. How about you? If not, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Did you know that gratitude leads to peace? Feeling anxious, how much do you give thanks? Simple solutions can lead to amazing results. Here you go...
For those living in the United States, the holiday of Thanksgiving has a simple beauty to it. Throw politics to the side. They wrecked plenty of dinner conversations. Booze and politics, Lord have mercy.
Living on this broken, at times brutal, planet, odds are that you don't have peace beyond all understanding. Yet, there is a promise. You simply need to choose and practice it. And you are promised peace beyond all understanding. Sound too good to be true? I get it. I'm a natural skeptic. Yet this natural skeptic is an example. I can tell you that it truly works. Yet it isn't one and done. It is a lifestyle choice.
First of all, think of your favorite people. Are they grateful? Or selfish? Do they tell you thanks? Or do they complain? Do they appreciate you or take you for granted? Do they do/say kind things for you? You are getting the point.
Now you. Let's focus on you. If we polled those closest to you, what would they say about you? Which side do you reflect?
Truth, I can be both. I was once voted the worst boyfriend in the world, not once but twice by two different women (one my eventual wife). So I rallied some, how?
Phil 4: 6-8, if you want to be great. I believe this is one of the greatest verses for Giving Thanks!
Whether you believe in God or not, check out this verse and promise...
Philippians 4:6-8
New International Version
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. * Peace beyond all understanding?! Could we use some more of that? Of course. Even an atheist would want that. Who wants to be around some one bitter and edgy? Yet here is the key. Instead of going to __________ your coping mechanism. I'm going to challenge you to pray. You may be lifting this verse 100X. There have been days that I have. Memorize it. Then you lift to God what plagues you. Tell Him what you don't like. And then, here is the key, look for the good. Give thanks for what IS worthy. Keep doing it. Surround yourselves with like minds/hearts committed to doing the same. You will experience peace beyond all understanding. I'm living proof and I know many others that will tell you the same. When in doubt, try it. Faith does not exist without doubt. * So challenge for your and your loved ones when you gather in November or July. Any time. Practice above. Share where you are grateful. Share what you appreciate about who sits in front of you. * Ending on a gratitude note. A special thanks to my dear Brother James from Compton and my dear Brother Casey for some of the most interesting episodes we have ever had. Giving God thanks for you for listening, supporting and sharing 1 Thes 5:11. Lord knows this world needs more Hope and Love.

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Yes! You are in! Let's talk about you. Have you been asking why lately? Why are you going through what you are going through? How do you get the strongest you? Your play of the day. Here you go...
Thank you Pastor Rick of Daily Hope. We've played similar and definitely getting the pull to post up again. This world will chew you up and spit you out or eventually swallow you. Your body. You soul. You'll choose where to go. With whom to surround yourself. If you would like to hear more of that Play of the Day, Check out Daily Hope, "When You Feel Like Giving Up, Part 3, published on the 9th of November, 2023.
So you feel like giving up? Don't. Also, I understand. Most of us feel like giving up at some point in our lives. Yet don't. Please don't. You have Purpose. The tide does go out and it will come back in. Always. The sun goes down and comes up. Need another cliche? Peaks do not exist without valleys. Keep hiking.
I may not be a licensed therapist yet there is 20+ years on my resume of coaching and encouraging young people and old for that matter. Shout out to those that have the courage to share that they are not doing well. To confess when they are struggling and asking for help. I love you. I thank you. That is a huge step for healing: confession.
Truth, my words can only help some of you so far. My actions perhaps further. With God, it is unlimited.
For the avid listener, you've also heard me say that depression is as real as cancer. If you think about taking your life or giving up, then you know you have it. If you have a hard time getting out of bed and being motivated to live your purpose, then you have it....at least for a season or temporarily.
So if you were to tell me you have a throbbing toothache, my words could only carry you so far. I'd tell you need to go see a dentist. If you tell me you can't afford one, I'm going to say you need a job with proper insurance. Some of you tell me that's hard and I'll say not really. In n Out burger, Walmart, Target, Starbucks are all hiring and they have insurance. Tough love. The In n Out burger in La Quinta, CA is hiring starting at $19 per hour plus benefits. Pride getting in the way? Yeah, I know that one...unfortunately too well.
Serving the homeless now via Overflowshower.org, I've learned some important lessons. It's not about just getting a job. Other things are holding you back. Spiritual, mental and addictive issues. Some of you are not ready yet. I'm wise enough to recognize that now.
So I'll drive you to the dentist. I'll help you get set up with Cal insurance. I'll even help you pay for it. You wouldn't have to pay me back. Yet, I'm absolutely going to encourage you on the path to being self-sufficient. And someday, may you do the same for someone else if you aren't already.
So some of you need to go to a mental health expert. Some of you need a medical doctor/PA. Some of you need a dentist. For me, I need all those at times and I definitely need to keep going to my accountant.
So who is holding you lovingly accountable? Tough, lovingly accountable? Who knows your darkest secrets? Who knows what is best for you? Truly what is best for you? You need a group that is going to give you 1 Thes 5:11, Pro 27:17.
Side note, Greg and I started gtsurf.org. We haven't cracked the code yet.
In the immediate term, if you don't have a small group that is helping you with the above, contact us at FriDudes.com.

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You're still with me? Thank you. Tough time in history. I've been wrestling with to play it. I kept getting pulled to it. CK posts up some sad stats on the situation. I share that I"ve been praying on sharing this heavy play of the day. CK replies with, "
From the words of a bold pastor who was killed during World War II for speaking up for Jews.

“Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless.
Not to speak is to speak.
Not to act is to act.”
- Dietrich Bonhoeffer

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Yes! You are in! Why is there so much controversy around Israel? Casey's back and breaks down the Bible from Noah to today and how it all points to one direction.

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Yes! You are in! And Casey is back! The Jogging Jesus. He isn't Jesus. He just loves Jesus more than most than we know. And he's got some serious reflection on what has led up to the current war in Israel/Palestine and a much bigger picture.
As some of you, you were led here with purpose. It's time for more eyes and ears to be opened to what is truly going on and will happen.

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Yes! You are in! Do you love stories of redemption and restoration? Please meet my dear Brother James of Compton. He has a story of Hope for you.

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Yes! You are in! Bryan's back! You feeling the heat of life and this broken planet? You about ready to lose your mind up in here, up in here? Here's a solution for you. A prescription written by Dr. Lorrits...here you go!
Wow! Thank you Dr. Lorrits. I'm very grateful for you and your words of wisdom. BTW, if you would like to hear the rest of that message, check out, "Patience, Pearls and Crockpots", published on September 17, 2023 via the Bryan Lorrits Podcast.
Patience. Argh. I should have been more patient. My biggest holes dug were from not being patient. Avid listeners know. If you are a newer listener, go back to the summer of 2020 and all my dirt is there. Well, the financial dirt and holes dug.
If you are human (tongue in cheek) you have dug your holes somewhere. You are wrestling with something. If you think you are perfect, this is not your podcast. Rom 3:23 is a recurring theme. Being real and confessing and repenting of our flaws and pursuing Truth for better days. You may not be physically in prison. Many of you are in some kind of figurative prison: anxiety, depression, addiction, adultery, porn, anger, resentment, money (too much or not enough), too much?! Not possible, You sure about that. Jesus says himself that it is harder for a rich man to get in heaven, it's like a camel going through the eye of a needle. Check Matt 19:24. Blessed are the poor for the kingdom of heaven will be theirs..Check Matt 5:3. Yes, too much money and/or comfort can be a blocking wall. Think about it. How truly happy are people in Hollywood? How many marriages stay in tact? How many die of alcohol or drug abuse trying to fill in those holes? Ok, back to task...
Some of you are so fed up, so sick and tired that you want to end it. Don't Jump. There is a purpose for your pain. If you are not in pain, then you know someone that is. Please share with and encourage them. You are here for a reason. You have a purpose. Your pain has a purpose. I'm not excusing what someone terrible did to you. I am saying don't let that terrible define you. God works ALL things for good for those that seek him. Check Rom 8:28.
Never underestimate your words of encouragement. An article caught my eyes not too long ago from NPR. Yes NPR. Whether you like them or not, the article is great. It is called Don't Jump and you can find that link in this podcast description or on our blog at FriDudes.com, entitled Heat.
https://www.npr.org/2023/09/14/1198800011/a-comment-shouted-from-a-stranger-in-a-passing-car-saved-her-life
As a capper on this one, I'm going to read from James 5: 7-11, here you go...
James 5: 7-11. 7 Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains. 8 You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. 9 Don’t grumble against one another, brothers and sisters, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door!
10 Brothers and sisters, as an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. 11 As you know, we count as blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.

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Yes! You are in. Do you have faith? Did you have faith that the Covid vaccine would work? How about if your favorite sports team will win? Ok, not a sports person, how about the love of your life and will that person remain faithful to you? You do put faith into things and people. Now for your play of the day...here you go...

Faith, we all use it. Even an atheist puts faith into that there is nothing.

Some of you just aren't sure. For those that think you are sure, you are still riding on Faith.

Some of you heard my video game analogy, seems like a perfect time for it. You and your atheist friend are in a video game. In fact, you both know you are in a video game. The atheist says, we just go here. There was an explosion and now we are in a video game. The believer says, that doesn't make sense. I believe/putting in faith that there is a designer behind this video game. Somebody wrote the code. Built the scenes with artistry so striking and beautiful that even atheists admire it and want to spend time amongst the beauty. The hardened atheist replies, yeah but I can't see any code and I don't see any designer. The believer says well ok, good point, I don't see a designer, I'll give you that. However, science says there is a code. Math defines and solves a lot. On top of that, we learned that your body and mine and every living creature has a code. They call it DNA. 30 billion+ lines of code that define every aspect of you and me. It can even tell us who truly are our parents and where we have been and where are ancestors come from. So we do have a code. Atheist replies and says ok, we have a code but it magically appeared from an explosion. Which do you believe? Which side are you putting your faith into?

For the believer, okay you believe in God...a designer. Jewish, Muslims and Christians most believe in the Torah and the prophecies found there.. All put faith into a God/designer. Christians believe in/put faith into Jesus as the messiah promised in the Torah and beyond. People debate if Jesus existed. Yet hardly anybody debates if Julius Caesar existed. Yet there are a ton of historical documents on both of them. Our world calendar is based on Jesus. To put it quite simply, Jesus was either a iiar a lunatic or Lord. You get to choose. You will put your faith into one of those three. One can't be a great teacher and say one is God and isn't.

So if you are a believer in Jesus, kudos to you. You are 2,000+ years later. And you are living those words in the 'Play of the Day'. How are you at sharing your Faith? Odds are you have room for improvement. Me too!

Oh, if you would like to hear more of that Play of the Day. Check out Daily Hope, Expecting the Best, Part 1, published on the first of September, 2023

Now go, continue in Faith and show your Heavenly Father your love. Love God with all your heart and soul. Next love others...especially the more challenging ones. Everything you are trying else you are trying to do hangs on those two...Check Matt 22: 26-40. I love you, thanks for listening and when worthy, thanks for sharing and encouraging someone else. If you are listening to this because of someone else, just know they love you...

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Yes! You are in! I love affirmations from unlikely sources. And this Play of the Day is a first from this platform and from one dude who suddenly went from unknown to limelight.
Wow! So interesting. Thank you Casey for bringing that listen to my attention. That was Oliver Anthony singer/songwriter who got thrusted into fame with his heart rendering song of Rich Men North of Richmond.
Joe Rogan is no Bible Banger. Some things he says I agree with and others I don't. Yet I'm grateful when any interviewer will actually harness free speech and let someone share their Faith. That is what happened on this episode.
And as much as people want to politicize Oliver Anthony, some read claim him and some blue claim him, he spoke/sang from his heart. Whether you are red, blue, purple or other, we can't deny that we have a serious anxiety and depression problem with our civilization. And we have a solution that is way more effective than drugs for drugs and alcohol are temporary. It's like putting a band aid on a massive head wound. Anthony shares how 99% of that angst went away when he started turning to God.
This rag-tag podcast has been at this for 200+ episodes, getting real and pursuing Truth. Sharing what works. And even though this podcast is a fraction of a fraction of Joe Rogan's audience, I'm so grateful that Oliver had a chance to shine Light on such a large stage.
You've also heard us say that we are in the Hope and Encouragement business. That Play of the Day is absolutely Hope.
So how often are you in the Word? And are you reading to try to be good or do you truly want wisdom and strength. For the latter will be rewarded. Ask for wisdom and it will be given to you...check James 1:5.
Of course also check Proverbs. A ton of wisdom in that ancient Jewish book.
Did you catch the Romans 3:23 moment in that play of the day? Versed listeners, you know what I'm talking about.
For the super versed there was also a GTSurf.org moment, profoundly. We can make all the plans in the world. We are fooling ourselves if we don't check them with God. For God's plans will prevail. Check Pro 19:21. Super hard and most dudes don't want to do that. Heck, it's a battle just getting Dudes to show up for Bible study and actually want wisdom.
To hear more of that episode, I'm warning you it's not squeaky clean yet it is raw with moments of Light. You can hear more at The Joe Rogan Experience, #2027, Oliver Anthony
Thank you Joe Rogan for letting Oliver speak freely. Oliver thank you for having the guts to share the Word on such a large stage. I don't think it is an accident that God is leveraging you. Anyone that is versed in the Bible knows that God loves to use the least likely to do his greatest works.
So now Go, love God with all your heart, soul and mind. Getting into God's Word is a great way to do that. My favorite is the book Matthew in a New Living Translation Bible. Definitely check out Proverbs and John and James and so many more. And love others, share Hope with them, encourage them. As we all know, this world definitely could use some more Love and Hope.

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Yes! You are in! Another mic drop for you, this one coming from North Phoenix, this is some advanced lifting so the deeper should dig it...here you go...
Wow! Thank you Dr. Noe Garcia, North Phoenix, you are a gift for this season. I know you have some great speakers in the area. Noe is an excellent teacher. He makes the play of the day again. If you dig, you can hear more of that message at North Phoenix Baptist Church, that message is entitled "I Will" and it was published on the 20th of August 2023.
If you are a newer believer or an old one, this is a key learning point for some of you. There's your answer to Why. Jesus got brutally nailed to a cross for you, why do you think life should be easy. This broken planet is brutal. Knowing that, who or what are you clinging to?
Confession, I've clinged to the wrong things and people at times. It's easy to do. The wise cling to God, their saviour Jesus Christ and their Helper the Holy Spirit. There's no bettter place to go in tough times. And bonus points for you that cling to God during great and indifferent times too.
Bonus story! I love Miracle Stories. Who doesn't? Once upon a time, FriDude Casey told his Windshield Cash story that totally blew my mind. You'll have to dig back for that one in the podcast. Yet today, I have a new one for you. 23 year old Diggin Dirt Deep Matt, a current contributor to ThursDudesPM, was in Walmart in the state of Wyoming. n the Wow Factor, this praise report ranks up there with the Casey Windshield miracle story. Diggin Dirt Deep Matt (23) currently with ThursDudesPM was at Walmart this week. He had a young woman struggling with payment in front of him. She was trying three different cards. On top of that embarrassment someone else in line was giving her a hard time. Matt steps up and pays for her...around $250! That alone is a cool story for grace. There's more. Matt just got a new job with the railroad. Getting transferred to Wyoming. Moving his young wife and child from El Paso. So he's off to meet his new landlord for the place he's going to rent. Upon arrival, he sees that same young woman. Befuddled, he walks up to learn that young woman is the grand daughter of the landlord. She was recently laid off and living with him. The landlord was so moved to hear the story of the Young Buck's Christian heart that he waived first month's rent and the security deposit. Wow! Father God, you never cease to amaze me!
Now go, cling to the Heavenly Father God in tought times in good times, love Him with all your heart soul and mind, then love others just like Matt in that Walmart line or wherever God tees you up. Everything else you are trying to do correctly on this earth, hangs on those two, love God, love others, check Matt 22: 26-40. I love you, yes even you that i really don't know. This is why I do what I do.

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Yes! You are in! I love mic drops. And I love sharing some of the best ones. This one goes out to anyone striving to make marriage work. Here you go...
Thank you Pastor Rick Warren. If one of the best selling authors and pastor of over 40 years can say that, then all of you will have marriage issues at some point. As I've said probably too many times, if you haven't had marriage issues you haven't been married long enough. It's just a matter of time before the storms arrive.
What's missing in too many relationships today is commitment. It's the key difference between those living together and those that took an oath in front of God and perhaps family and friends. Even those that do a formal wedding with oaths of commitment seems to let it fade after 7 years or so.
If so inspired, and you are looking for more dirt, you can catch my whole audio book, "Myth of a Perfect Marriage" published in the Summer of 2020. Simply dig back into this podcast to find it. Challenging questions at the end of each chapter for you and your spouse and hopefully couples group. If you don't have a couples group, it's time. You are kidding yourself going through these challenges alone. It helps to have other couples to help hold you both accountable. Find the Christian Church nearest you that has a dedicated married couples small group program.
Work! You see that's one of the key challenges for most couples. Work?! Yes, work. Too many of fall into the lie that your soul mate is out there and this must not be it because you have issues. Fatal flaw. The soul mate myth. Covered this before, let's cover it again. For those that watch 90 Day Fiance, for the record, I'm not a fan but my wife is...shhhhhhh. Part of the draw is the excitement of new romance. Most of you get that. Here's the challenge, new romance becomes old romance. Soul mate becomes pain in the ass. Then those two are going to have to make a choice. Are we going to work at this? Baby? Most don't and that's why over 50% of you are divorced or will be divorced. Somebody was Lazy. No commitment. Somebody stopped trying. Somebody stopped choosing 'Commitment'.
In conclusion, to the previous episode and Beach Reflections. Don't stop dating your spouse. Don't stop trying and trust me and Pastor Rick, there will be times you want to stop trying. It happens to all of us...at least those with the courage to confess it. And if you think you are all high and mighty and never got angry or thought about quitting, give it time, you will be challenged. How do I know that? Rom 3:23. Avid listener knew I had to work that in. We are all flawed. Even when you put to people together that are so in love...they are still two flawed people. In time, flaws, create friction. And just because you have flaws doesn't mean you get to stop trying, well you can stop and watch another relationship burn to the ground. Or you can choose to love and work on your flaws such as addiction or finances or _____________.
Oh lastly, if you would like to hear more of that listen and series, that is one of my favorite teachers, Pastor Rick Warren of Daily Hope. That one is entitled "How to Connect with People - Part 3", published on the 22nd of August, 2023.
Now go, honor your commitments, be a person of integrity, honor your God by honoring your oath to your spouse that you made in front of Him. Much love, keep going, let commitment be part of your legacy.

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Yes, you are in! Back to the beach and some further reflections.

Seeing Beauty! For those that have eyes to see will see.

Have you ever calculated the odds/math it took for you to be here?

Relationship/dating advice coming from someone that has been married for 28+ years.

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Yes! You are in! In the last four years, California has spent 17.5 billion on homelessness and it actually got worse! That is according to CNN and many other news outlets. So if 17+ billion won't solve it and it actually got worse, how can we possibly solve this? We have a solution. It is proven yet many of you will reject it. What is it? Well, here you go...
https://www.cnn.com/2023/07/11/us/california-homeless-spending/index.html
First of all, too many blowhards are spewing their vents about a variety of issues plaguing this broken planet. As for this one, please know, I am personally serving the homeless. That's right. The non-profit organization that I support and serve, overflowshowers.org is making an impact. We currently serve 6 outings per month in Palm Springs, Palm Desert and Indio, CA.
Also referenced, check out Coachella Valley Rescue Mission https://www.cvrm.org
So for what you are about to hear, please know I'm first hand in the trenches of homelessness. I love and serve these people. I see them for the daughters and sons that they are. They have opened my eyes and ears to their challenges and now I get to share with you what is working and what is not.
In order to solve a problem, you must first properly diagnose it. What is the primary cause? Well, if you listen to the government, you'll most likely hear them say "affordable housing". I wish it was that simple. If it was, then $17.5 billion spent alone in California would have made a dent. So what are the primary causes?
Addiction. Addiction is #1 by far the reason most are on the streets. Up to 70% of all homeless. Alcohol, opioids, fentanyl, heroin, crack, meth, etc. I see the pipes and needles. So why don't they just get a job? Hard to keep a job when you don't want one. In all fairness, some want jobs yet can't or won't get hired due to their addictions. Here's the hard part that any addict or addiction expert will tell you, you are not going to get an addict to stop until they really want to. Most don't want to or aren't ready to stop. Affordable housing won't solve this.
2: Mental Health. Yes, addiction and mental health overlap. Many that I interview don't trust the government. A lot of conspiracy theories. A lot of disillusionment. It's usually always someone else's fault. Anxiety, depression treated with illegal or legal substances. Putting a bandaid on a massive head wound. I'd say abou 15% are very serious mental health cases where schizophrenia and other major disabilities. So blend the top 2 causes together and I would say that covers about 75-80% in the streets.
3. In transition. That leaves about 20-25%. They have a handle on addiction and their mental health. They are really trying to get off the streets. And they will eventually. Overflow is wired with the Christian non-profits, churches as well as non-religious entities such as county and city services to all work together.

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Yes! You are in! Greeting from Northern MN and the land of 10,000 muzzles. Yes, I got muzzled, shut down. We will get to the rest of the story, yet first your play and challenge of the day...here you go!

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More Windshield Wing It, Denver to Minnesota and God tees up a test in the middle of Nebraska. Curious to know what you would have done? Let us know at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. Here you go...

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Now over 250+ episodes and still one of my favorites ever. A priceless answer for a problem that will plague our society until the end.

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Yes! You are in! Do you have cousins that you really, really love? My cousin Wado is one of them. And sometimes you don't always see eye to eye with your loved ones. Here are some Deeper reflections from the CO road on the way to MN.

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Yes! You are in! More from the roadie. You feeling down? One, you are not alone? Two, this episode tackles some promises and best practices of rising above darkness. Here you go!

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Yes! You are in. Road trip from Southern California to Minnesota. If you and I were sitting in a car, here are some nuggets that would either drive you crazy or maybe you would say 'Cool!' ;). If you dig, then please share with and encourage someone else that maybe should go on a road trip with you.

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DT is in the hizzy! DT was a key founding member of FriDudes about 20 years ago. He also once told us we were too inward looking. This guy will push you out of your comfort zone in a great way. Buckle up, here you go!

Early days, history lesson

Community outreach

Lessons learned

Shifting to Gospel centered service approach

The difference to inviting to church vs. guaranteed sharing of Good News

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Yes! You are in! Thanks for making it in. You ready for some reflection? You called? You sure? This is Tom back at ya...aka...TommyP. As you heard in the last episode, things went dry for me. It happens. It's part of the test. There will be times when things go dry for you too. What happened to the flow? Pause, pray and reflect is what you need to know. So I prayed, and then Casey stepped up. And now Bob Shank comes at me and you get this nugget of wisdom, here you go...

Are you called? Are you sure? Many of you don't know. So thank you for tuning in. For those not sure, you are here for a reason. You're listening to this right now for a reason. You have a purpose. Don't let the enemy or others tell you different. How do I know you have a purpose, check Jer 29:11.

Yet it is your job to ask. To pray. To tune in. How often do you do that? It should be daily. Every day, you ask God. Every day you check in.

Often are flawed human minds complicate things. So we need teachers and mentors that can speak common sense into our lives. The Bible is full of them. There's a reason it's the top published book in the world. Start in Proverbs. Amazing wisdom in that book. My favorite teacher is Jesus. Simply to Matt, Mark, Luke and John. Or if you are visual, I really like the Chosen series.

Then you find mentors and teachers that are good with sharing above. I like podcasts like Daily Hope, Unashamed, Dr. Bryan Lorrits, Southwest Church with Ricky Jenkins, Noe Garcia with NPHX, Tim Keller, Francis Chan the list goes on.

What about my calling? Oh yeah. Here's another mentor of mine. Bob Shank. He founded something called The Master's Program. I studied under him for 3 years. Bob was mentored by Bob Buford the author of the best selling book Half Time. Both Bob's were mentored by Peter Drucker, the leadership and business legend. Who is quoted in just about every business school in the world. Serious wisdom. So here's a nugget for you shared by Bob...

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Yes! You are in! Casey...the Jogging Jesus is back! He's not Jesus. He just looks like him and loves him more than most Christians that I know. For the avid listener you will notice seasons of dryness with the FriDudes podcast...gaps between episodes. Confession, I went dry. And I wasn't going to force content just to keep up with a schedule. I simply prayed on it. God, what's next? Here's next!
Tackling marriage and family. What is vastly broken in this world. And the solution for those with eyes to see and ears to hear.
Many of you won't like this message for it goes against the ways of the world. Truth, marriages and families are broken. More divorce than stay married. Why? Husbands failing to step up. Dads failing to step up. This is a hard look in the mirror. If you are insecure, this may be too much for you.

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Yes! You are in! BW is back! And I must confess, I'm guilty of this. Coming with rules vs. leading with love. I can be a hypocrite. Hey, if something does need to be corrected, then we are commanded to do it in a loving way, check James 5: 19-20. For we are all flawed, Rom 3:23. So anyone wishing to correct you is also flawed. Hence we all need Rom 8:1. Intrigued? Here is the latest from Brother Willie...

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Yes! You are in! Deeper is back. Deep takes for the select few that can handle them. Rehma...what is that? Confession, I didn't know until Casey shared the world. No matter how smart you think you are...there is always room for improvement. So here you go for those pushing themselves to go Deeper...

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Yes! You are IN! Casey is back. The Jogging Jesus brings it again. If you any of you are frustrated with religion...here you go...

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Yes! You are in! And Casey is back! Aka the Jogging Jesus with some more Deep takes. Most of you don't. Don't what? Glad you asked, tune in and find out...here you go!

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Yes! You are in! It has been a few weeks of delays. Somebody doesn't want this published. Yet, perseverance and patience pays. Here is Chapter 7, 'Something Positive' from 'Test to Testimony'.
No matter how dark and terrible something is. There is Light. It is your choice to go and pursue that Light or wallow in the darkness. Oh and it can still be challenging as you pursue that Light. Yet, there is a promise for you, Good will come out of bad for those that seek Him. Rom 8:28
That is the point of this whole story from one Simon...Test to Testimony

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Yes! You are in! Simon's got more. You ready? Restored is a powerful and fulfilling word. We all seek peace and acceptance. For those wrestling, here are some encouraging words for you...here you go..

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Yes! You are in! Simon's back. We are dealing with some Interference. You too? When you get on the right path, the enemy will play. You are not alone. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! On a roll with Simon, struggling in a land of distraught...yet not giving up while walking through that valley, here is Chapter 4, 'God with You in the Desert'...

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Yes! You are in! This may be one of the craziest interviews I've done. Not that Simon is crazy. Just what was said and done to him. Question, how would you handle this Bomb?

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Yes! You are in. Simon forges ahead recapping his trippy dream to several quite remarkable experiences bridging the gap and bewildered on what just happened and what it all means. Going from the dream(s) and now working back into awake.

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Chapter 1, The Dream

From Test to Testimony: How God prepared me, removed me, then restored me

From what many would consider to be the perfect life, a man receives a gift in a dream. This dream would turn out to be preparation for the ending of his life as he knew it, ending his marriage of 22 years, and mapping out a new path with God as the GPS.

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Yes! You are in! And Simon makes his debut. Have your ever gone from 'things are going really good' to what the blank is going on?! Ever had a vivid dream that proceeded it and now helps make sense of things? Things that make you go hmmmm. Bottom line, if you are feeling hopeless right now, so did Simon. He shares from how he went from hopeless to full of Hope.

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Just about everybody wants to avoid a crisis (for themselves). The media feeds off of it. Whatever happened to Murder Hornets anyway? What good can come out of a crisis? A lot. In fact, it can be life changing for the better...forever. Here is some wise perspective as you reflect on where you have been, where you are and where you may be...

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Yes, you are in! And another BW HG Nugget! Storms of life, you know them. We are promised tough times. For those in the storm, we need to hold onto our Faith. This a a great reflection on this subject.

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Yes! You are in! Buried Treasure Recovered and a gift for you or perhaps your loved one with whom you are sharing this. Many do not realize the ancient Jewish manuscripts and how they point to the greatest give you can ever receive. This is from a couple of years ago, yet priceless...here you go...Merry Christmas...

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Yes! You are in! BW is back with another HG Nugget! This one is short and sweet...like a stocking stuffer. By the way, if you have something to say, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. For now, here you go....
Needs vs. Wants.
Simple and straight to the point.
Contentment vs. Happiness.

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Why? What? How? When? Yes! You are in and here is your Play of the Day.
Thank you Pastor Rick! You can find more of that at DailyHope, "God Tests Your Faith, Part 3" on the 12th of December 2022
Tests, life is a test. And at times it can be super crappy
Do you have Faith when you don't know the answers?

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Yes! You are in! And BW is back! I miss that Brother and he has another Holy Ghost nugget for you. Talking about your gifts, anointing and purpose. Here you go....

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Yes! You are in! And the FriDudes are BACK! Getting real, pursuing Truth and reacting to all the sex talk. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Okay, here you go and for some of you this will be a big piece of steak. Some will choke on it. Some of you can only handle liquids. Honestly, it may be the ones that call themselves Christians and that are married that may have the toughest time with this download. So without further adieu, here is the latest from Casey...

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Casey is back! He has another download for you and this time it's sex! Sex sells and captures most peoples attention. Here is the pre-game primer episode.

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Yes! You are in! Paradigm shifts are ways to see things differently. Ideally, you should be learning until the day you die. There is always room for improvement. So here's your play of the day...

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Yes! You are in! And you are in for a treat. I was blown away by this dude named Darrell. How does one go from not really going to church for decades to becoming a missionary in Mexico? Building homes for those that don't have one? Meet Ensenada Darrell...

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Buried Treasure Recovered, this one from 2020 and a heart-felt thanks and reflection for those that defend us.

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Yes! You are in! Do you want most things instantly like me? Yay, I'm not alone. Truth, most things worthy take a longer time to achieve or overcome...incremental growth. That's what we tackle on this one...

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Yes! You are in! This one is for the versed. For the ones that complain that maybe this podcast isn't Deep enough. You want a challenge? This is the deep, deep, deep end. As for the skeptics, keep your wallet in your pocket. Here you go...
Wow! That is a mic drop moment. Thank you once again to Francis Chan. I only know of two preachers on this earth that claim to give 90% of their earnings away...Francis Chan and Rick Warren. And some of you, including me, question 10%?
Looking back, I grew up as an 80's kid in suburbia. A lot like those 80's movies and Netflix Stranger Things, without Hawkins Laboratory and weirdness. I grew up fearing the Soviets and a nuclear strike. We practiced sheltering that vs. shootings. I also grew up fearing TV evangelists. I still don't trust them. So many falls within that group. Where money took center. The most notorious may be Jim and Tammy Faye Baker. Okay, pump the brakes. You know I'm flawed. We are all flawed. Just know you are normal if your guard goes up when you see someone that is a full-time preacher riding the tithes and giving into mansions and private jets. On the flip side, you have a Francis Chan and Rick Warren, also flawed, yet living on 10%. That's fascinating to me. If you are versed, if you call yourself a believer this is a looking in the mirror moment. For me too! What do you truly need to be happy? If you really believe in Jesus and your versed than you know this exchange that I bet makes most of you uncomfortable...
Mark 10:17-31
New Living Translation

The Rich Man

17 As Jesus was starting out on his way to Jerusalem, a man came running up to him, knelt down, and asked, “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
18 “Why do you call me good?” Jesus asked. “Only God is truly good. 19 But to answer your question, you know the commandments: ‘You must not murder. You must not commit adultery. You must not steal. You must not testify falsely. You must not cheat anyone. Honor your father and mother.’[a]”
20 “Teacher,” the man replied, “I’ve obeyed all these commandments since I was young.”
21 Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine love for him. “There is still one thing you haven’t done,” he told him. “Go and sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
22 At this the man’s face fell, and he went away sad, for he had many possessions.
23 Jesus looked around and said to his disciples, “How hard it is for the rich to enter the Kingdom of God!” 24 This amazed them. But Jesus said again, “Dear children, it is very hard[b] to enter the Kingdom of God. 25 In fact, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God!”
26 The disciples were astounded. “Then who in the world can be saved?” they asked.
27 Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But not with God. Everything is possible with God.”
Confession, I was terrible at giving and savings. A lethal combination. If you like dirt, all that direct can be found during the 'Every Marriage is Flawed' series back in the summer of 21.
YouTube, CrazyLove Channel, "Francis Chan: What Do You Need To Be Happy?", Minute 36:20 - 40:20

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Yes! You are in! For those that have listened to this podcast long enough. You know I love results. Easy to debate God. It is why we have so many atheists. For the versed you know, the Bible is full of questions and doubters. For without doubt, faith cannot exist. Yet listen to these results from a failed suicide attempt. Atheist or not, most would agree we have way too much depression and anxiety in this world. Here is a solution with results...

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Yes! You are in! Think back to school. Some bad teachers. Some good. Many in the middle. Then there are your favorite teachers - phenomenal! A special breed. It's Keller Time!
A unique view of what you and a dude named Jonah have in common.
Another affirmation that even if you are an atheist - you are very religious...in something.
What you complain about the most and run from could be where you should...

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Yes! You are in!! Brutal. That is what we tackle today. If you live on this broken planet long enough, you will deal with brutal. And then you'll ask Why? Why do some people have easier lives? Why do some people get healed and others don't? Why do bad things happen to good people? Here you go...

Buried Treasure Recovered: November 19

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BTR (buried treasure recovered) and one of my favorite recordings of all time. Why? Because marriage is hard and we best tune into what works.
If you have your own marriage case study and would like to share, hit us up at FriDudes.com

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Yes! You are in! BTR is back and another nugget uncovered from 19. Are you bitter or better? Bitterness can can get the best of us at times. Terrible things can bog us down. This is what this rag-tag-bunch-of-flawed dudes tackle in this sesh...
Side note, thank you so much for sharing when worthy. Extra bonus, join us at FriDudes.com, get more insight, invites, join in and add your favorite tough question...here you go....

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Yes! You are in! You hear that opener, you know it's BTR. Buried Treasure Recovered, another one back from 19. Whether you are married or in a relationship, note this, falling in and out of love is for rookies. The pros, sooner or later need to choose to love. Relationships are work and effort. Marriage will be hard. Math tells us that. If there was more courting in marriage there would be less marriages in court. So, reflection question, would you want to be married to you? If you are a husband, are you and Ephesians 5:25 husband? Confession, at times, 'No' I'm not and wouldn't want to be married to me. So how can we step our game up?

Ephesians 5:25 — New Living Translation (NLT)

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her
Hint, if you are actually choosing to do above, everyday, that would be hard to leave. At least the blame wouldn't be on you. Further reflection on its way, here you go...

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Praising God for eyes to see. Some see mountains with some clouds. Look closer and understand the area below the mountains is one of the least rainy in the world. Droughts are growing in China, Europe and the Western United States. However, this area of the world, the Coachella Valley has sustained life with virtually no rain for 1,000s of years. How? Those mountains. Look closer and you'll recognize those are thunder heads. Cool Pacific ocean air rides into the mountains. The cooler climate up top, 5,000-7,000 feet up allows the clouds to form and hold. The heat from the valley makes it rise and steam up. Bizarre to see 'Flash Flood' alerts while living in the 100F+ heat of the summer in the desert. That rain comes down the surrounding mountains (San Jacinto, Santa Rosa and San Bernardino) into the Coachella Valley and fills one of the largest underground aquifers in California. It is what puts the 'Springs' in the Palm Springs area. A true oasis in the desert.

So what are the figurative mountains in your life? Do you perceive them as a blessing or a curse? As a roadblock or a source? Did God put them there for a reason? If you need clarity, will you pray this? Heavenly Father, life on this broken planet can be extremely frustrating. I don't understand it all. Will you help me see things more clearly? Why did you put those mountains in my life? Or did I create some of those figurative mountains with my choices? Will you give me eyes to see what you truly see and understand?

We will have the precious gift of eyes to see and ears to hear. I so testify in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, amen. Matthew 4:24–25

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Yes! You are in! 51 countries and counting. Special shout out to our listeners in Germany and Denmark and New Zealand. Greetings from the Coachella Valley, CA. Home of the thee Coachella Music Festival...where the biggest names have played and where the smaller names get their break to the world music scene. And Yes! We get Deep here in Crazy Cali. James from Compton and I are running with Coachella Dudes. If you are in the area, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. Or if you are starting your own Dudes group let us know and we'll put you on the map. Not sure what to do, learn and emulate how these flawed dudes tune in and determine truth. Case in point, another BTR from 19...Why do we write things down? Here you go...oh side note, for those scratching your heads this was recorded back by the Minnesota FriDudes...

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Ready to get in a group to further tune into your purpose and sharing with others to hold you accountable? Go to GtSurf.org

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Yes! You are in! Another BTR recovered from 19. We all deal with Bullies. At times, some of us can be Bullies. This rag-tag-bunch-of-flawed-dudes, get real and pursue Truth on this subject. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! A little treat for you. BTR: Numero Uno! Pieces of the very first episode ever...back in 19. Reading Acts 2 and the gift called the Holy Spirit. For some of you, that sounds crazy. I get it. Yet, once you truly tune in and experience this special gift, it is as real as the sun. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! BTR, buried treasure recovered from 19, a rag-tag-bunch of flawed dudes, getting real and pursuing Truth about addiction. If that be you or someone you know, please reflect and share...here you go!

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Yes! You are in! BW is back and with some corrections. Hey, as in the tag line, we are a rag-tag-bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. Sometimes we get it wrong. True media will go back and correct it and even apologize. Wouldn't that be refreshing in today's news? Can you imagine a media company saying, "Oh snap, we got it wrong. That turned out to be true. We are so sorry. We are also sorry for cancelling that person." Haha! Yeah, that would be something. Listener, you want to know when someone or something is corrupt, they will bury it. Pretend it didn't happen. Pride and control get in the way. Sure, I can keep calling out media companies or politicians. Yet, how about churches? Yep, some definitely get it wrong. Do they own it? Do they repent? How about you and me? Do you own it? Will you apologize sincerely and change it?
As for the ways of the world today, check out these nuggets of wisdom written so long ago yet so relevant to today...
2 Timothy 4:3-4 ESV
For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.
Matthew 7:15-20
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. ...
Matthew 24:24 ESV
For false christs and false prophets will arise and perform great signs and wonders, so as to lead astray, if possible, even the elect.
Wow! Word! Do those resonate with you? For more insights and invites, join us at FriDudes.com. Oh and back to BW, listen to his heart and lament. Curious to know if you even caught his error. Yet he owns it and corrects it. So this one is short and sweet...here you go!

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Yes! You are in! BW is back. For the avid listeners, you know my love for Brother Willie. I love diverse voices and cross checking them with scripture. We have a lot of range with FriDudes. Just like you and me, BW isn't perfect yet he is in the Word and going for it. This is a great reflection of your mind and the battle around it...

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Yes! You are in. Recovered some buried treasure for you. Timely as we are due to have Patrick Ray back in the studio for an update. For now, a great reflection on what ills our society...what works and doesn't...

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Yes, you are in. BW is back! On a roll getting his downloads. If you have something to say, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. Sign up to get exclusive invites and insights like Dudechella happening on July 16th. As for this listen...

Forgive them Father, for they do not know what they do. For you that choose to Believe and struggle with others, here you go. When in doubt, check Rom 14: 12-13. Do not be a stumbling block. You best love and forgive as your God loves and forgives you.

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A key question that just came to me via my daughter. A gift that she gave called StoryBook (not a sponsor)...very creative. Here is my answer...

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Yes! You are in. BW is back with another nugget of wisdom. As we all painfully know, some men don't know better. Talking about anger, healing, why, why not. Here you go...

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Yes, you pushed play and you are about to receive a gift. Some of you had terrible or absent Dads. There is hope and you are not done yet. What works in life and what doesn't, we pursue Truth, here you go...side note, this was recorded back in June 19th, 2020...repurposed for the audio book, "Every Marriage and Family is Flawed". You can find that audiobook in its entirety shared right here back in 2021. It's a timeless lesson reflected during a very contentious time. BTW, how much have we solved since then? Better or worse? How about all these political promises and re-imagining everything? As stated, you are not changing anything without changed hearts. There is one ultimate solution and many reject it. Here you go...

Man! So good! Thank you Dad! Skeptic, how many societal problems could we solve with men like that. This is the Order. We have the blue print. Yet, as humans we love to do it 'our' or 'my' way. God's way works...if you are properly tuned in. Getting the pull to some of you that didn't have a Dad or maybe you weren't a great Dad. If you didn't have a great Dad like Maya or Bold or like my Dad, may you realize like them, your ultimate Father is up there. Tune in like they did and feel that love you have never felt before. Take my Dad's suggestion and start in Ephesians. For those with kids and or older, if you are still breathing you can still make a difference. Apologie to the ones you hurt. Serve them and their kids if you can. Bonus challenge, pick a community nearest you that you know has been hardest hit via COVID and/or racial tensions. Google for churches in that region, pick one and tell them you would like to step up as a mentor for youth in need. Super bonus, will you share this with every Dad you know? Could you imagine this world if we had more Denzel's and Jon's and Maya's in this world? Share what works.

Ending on a song note, one more share request, could you share this with anyone that hasn't had a great Dad? A reason for hope and encouragement, listen to the words from Maya Moore or Jon Penton. You have a flawed earthly Father. You have a Heavenly Father that loves you more than you may ever realize. Now to the song, I have to go here, can you imagine being a child awoken with this saying and what kind of mindset you would have going into each day no matter how bright or challenging, "This is the Day", a soulful, beautiful version by Brian Courtney Wilson. If you dig, please give Brian some love and subscribe to his music. If you believe, share that verse with your kids daily. Now, go and love, love your true Heavenly Father, if you have kids, love your kids' mom, model that for your kids, it is one of the greatest gifts you can give them...legacy...

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Yes! You are in! When you get down in the dumps, do you have key people to help lift you. BW is one of them for me. The timing of his messages for me are amazing. So, as an ode to my Brother Willie, revisiting, part 2 of his testimony. Here you go...
Side note, you want to solve addiction and the ills of this world? You won't be doing it without changed hearts. Case in point, right here. Think about where BW was and where he is today.

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Yes! You are in! When you get down in the dumps, do you have key people to help lift you. BW is one of them for me. The timing of his messages for me are amazing. So, as an ode to my Brother Willie, revisiting, part 1 of his testimony. Here you go...
Side note, you want to solve addiction and the ills of this world? You won't be doing it without changed hearts. Case in point, right here. Think about where BW was and where he is today.

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Yes! You are in!! FriDudes are back and after that last episode, you need a palate cleanser. A shot of ginger after that spicy roll. A shot of milk after that spicy wing. And for those that can handle it...some steak, here you go...

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Normally I say, "Yes! You are in." Well, one thank you very much for tuning in and sharing when worthy. I do have the FriDudes on deck yet these latest shootings make me revisit this subject. You really want to solve mass shootings? Truth, most of you don't want the answer. Even if you agree with me, most people you know don't want to hear this. That's probably why we are the rated one of the least listened to podcasts. So on that note, welcome, we need more people choosing Truth over popularity.
Side note, this excerpt came from the book "Every Marriage is Flawed, Chapter 22". Which really just segues into every country is flawed. So please note, this one is for everybody that wants to contemplate. If you are married, please check out the rest of that audiobook published on this platform back in 2021.
Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Casey is back. Deeper on the deeper. Talking about his latest message and the attacks that came in before and after.

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Yes! You are in! Casey is back!! The Jogging Jesus. He doesn't think he's Jesus. He just kind of looks like how we think he looks like. Oh and he runs and jogs and prays for people.
As for this message, a very interesting look at cancel culture. Yesterday, way back and today.
Ending on a sweet note about your worth. You are not done yet. You have a Purpose. Keep going. Keep asking and tuning in.

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Yes, you are in! BW, our Brother Willie is back with another Holy Ghost nugget. For you that are Deep, this will resonate. For hard times exist, especially with those with a target on their back. For those that are more shallow, we'll see if this resonates. Do you believe in Good and Evil? All you have to do is read the daily headlines of this broken planet. Side note, I love how BW talks. He's not perfect. He's not a super slick, cheesy announcer voice with perfect grammar. He's real and raw and he pursues Truth. And I love him. He is my Brother from another Mother, a Brother in Christ. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in! You smarter than a dead Russian? I sure hope so. Yet for this Russian, most of you are not. Truth, we all could learn from this Russian named Tolstoy. You'll need to listen to the rest of this before you can properly answer. Here you go...

Word, special thanks to Dude Greg, G-EZ, Young Buck Alex and Grant the Guide. In all sincerity, once again thanks for the comedy Alex. You reminded me of when I was in class, daydreaming and the teacher calls on me. In your case, you have an excuse. Puppy duty!

2 Timothy 3:17 says, 17 so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Are you tuning in? Are you asking God what you should do on every decision? What you should do for the rest of your life? How do you know that voice is real? It's the positive voice that encourages you to love God and love others...see Matt 22:36-40. Get into the Owner's Manual for Life daily to quality control check your decisions and answers. If I only did that sooner, oh well, learn from my mistakes. For you that are also haunted for mistakes, Rom 8:28 is your promise. God will make Good out of bad for those that seek Him.

If this resonated, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. You can also find that letter written by Bob Shank on the blog section of FriDudes.com. Check out GtSurf.org while you are at it and of course for those with deeper callings, check out the Master's Program at priorityliving.org

Now go, love God, love others, ask what God wants you to do with the rest of your life, keep asking, write it down, share with trusted others, get it done

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Yes! You are in! What year is it? Why is it that year? What event triggered us to start counting and the whole world follows? Matt explains a lot. A very cool read and react led by our beloved FriDude Bold Brian.

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Yes! You are IN! We have a treat for you today. A testimony treat. We love results! So do you. As I like to say, "Easy to debate God, very, very, hard to argue results. Nick the Scribe is an original FriDude. He now helps us boost ThursDudesPM and is active helping with GtSurf.org and our emerging accountability tools and groups. If you are ready to jump in more, simply hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com.
Now, if you want a world with more love and less addiction? A story of redemption. Perfect, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Deeper! Casey is back! Getting Deep on the subject of supper. Buckle up! Here you go...

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Word! BW is back. Wars should not surprise us! Yet they do for some reason. Wars are the results of humans making themselves Gods, ego maniacs, selfishness, money unmet expectations, jealousy, fill in the blank. This is what BW tackles...here you go...

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Yes! You are in! The FriDudes are back! Well, some of them. So thankful for these flawed Dudes, getting real, and pursuing Truth. Why do certain people get healed? Others don't? A very fair question. That's part of what we tackle on this one. Here you go...

Word! So thankful for these Dudes. So thankful for you! Thank you getting real with us and pursuing Truth. Thank you for sharing with others and encouraging them.

Thank you for sharing with other flawed Dudes to let them know they are not alone. So are you getting real and pursuing Truth with others? Do you understand the Bible? If you would like to start or join a dudes group, hit us up at the 'Contacts Us' page at FriDudes.com

First, let me go to HotRod and his reverence for Jesus. Rod and I share a lot in common. We love Jesus and we also love to push the edge. In context, I absolutely see where Rod was coming from in in his choice of word to describe Jesus. For the puritans and Pharisees out there, that most likely rubbed you the wrong way. What Rod was saying was Jesus was a rebel. A rebel against the ways of the world. A rebel against organized religion becoming more important than God and his Love. If you are frustrated with religion, then you and Jesus are simpatico. Jesus used the word hypocrites many times to describe the religious. We humans love to make rules and enforce them on others. We often love those rules and politics more than loving God and others as ourselves. So put that in your religious pipe and smoke it. Ponder that. More important. Go to Luke and read Jesus words for yourselves, again and again and you will see it.

Second, why do certain people get healed? Why do others don't? Why do babies have to die? If you were truly listening to this episode then you at least got a better understanding. It's not perfect. This world is not perfect. In fact, this world is brutal and broken where babies die and kids get raped. Sadly even under the disguise of someone pretending to be religious. So let me retort. Why do we want to live on this broken planet forever? Why don't we want Rev 21:4? Truth, most of us don't believe in heaven...that's why. The Bible warns us not to fall in love with this broken planet and its ways. It is clear as day. Yet we all can fall for it - even the best, except one. Jesus is the one. When in doubt, read his words. He has and can heal. Some of you will ask and be healed...thanks be to God. Casey's right, some of you will be healed with Rev 21:4 via Christ. In fact, since earthly healings are temporary, the ones that choose John 3:16 will have eternal healing and life. Your choice.

Disclaimer, as frustrating as this broken planet is. As real as depression is for some of you. I will always encourage you to live your best life here. This is your test. And yes, some of you have had a much tougher test than others. That part I don't fully understand. What I do understand is that it is temporary. It may be 40+ years but it will end. Just like earthly healing are temporary, so are hardships. If you want to live your fullest life here, then fill it with Jesus. Live your life as much with Jeus and you will be more content as Paul writes in his final words. That is a fact Jack and the Truth Ruth. Your choice.

Now go, Love God and Love Others, double check your purpose with Matt 22: 36-40

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Yes! You are in! You on the baby beach or the big waves? Buckle up. Here is your 'Play of the Day'...

Word! Thanks again to Pastor Rick Warren and Daily Hope for the inspiration. Thanks to Nick and Alex for helping carry this episode.

So where are you? You hanging in the baby beach too long? Wading in the shallows and riding baby waves? First of all, baby waves aren't very exciting. You were not meant to be in the shallow end for too long. You are meant to ride. Anything is possible with God. What are your dreams? Have you been given any? You hanging in a fish bowl or the ocean of life?

Ending on a prayer note, For you not sure, "Jesus, you say that whoever believes in you will have eternal life? I want that. If you already accepted that than boldy ask, Heavenly Father, where do you want me to go next? How deep do you want me to go? How big of waves do you want me to surf of life? May I never limit the waves you want me to ride and tackle. You are in control. Will you show me where to go? What to do? I'll write it down and you'll help me make it happen. Even if it takes me 40+ years. Amen!

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A deeper dive on the benefits of fasting (spiritually, mentally, physically).

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Yes! You are in! Whether you are sacrificing something now or maybe adding something. Whether Lent or any time of the year, there is room for improvement. An opportunity to step your game up. Going back to Casey, the Jogging Jesus, recorded last year on the why fasting, here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Why are you here? Why do we go to war? Deep questions. That is what we tackle. Flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth, here is your Play of the Day...
Word! Thank you Pastor Rick, you are on a roll! If you dug that, please check out 'Daily Hope', simply search that and it will be your first result, I bet. That 'Play of the Day' came from "What on Earth Am I Here For? - Part 1", published on the 24th of February 2022.
Love that Mark Twain quote. Two of the most important days is the day you were born and then discovering why. I'll add on to that. Discovering and accepting who is your savior from this brutal, broken, frustrating planet is thee most important day. Interesting that this publishes on the day Russia invades Ukraine. What will happen? World War? I don't know. God knows. As my Brother Casey the Jogging Jesus says, the Bible tells you what has happened, is happening and will happen. We flawed humans create wars. Wars between countries, between families, between marriages. It is what flawed humans do. Should we be surprised? And the ignorant say we don't need a guide.
As many people make fun and mock us. I simply retort in a factual way. Atheists, you bet on hopelessness. We bet on Hope. Atheists bet on self-centeredness. True "Christians" bet on something much, much larger than themselves. Side note, we all wrestle with 'self-centeredness and pride' to a degree. We simply have a guide and choose to tune into it or not - the Owner's Manual for Life, the Bible. We bet on Love. Love for the creator that created you. Love for others (whether they like us or not). So counter intuitive. Some of us want to cancel, some of us want to love and encourage.
Okay, so here is one of the dopest verses, can you say dope verse? Hmmmm, this is probably why I rub some of you the wrong way. Let's just say this, it is an epic verse, Psalm 139: 13-18
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.
There's a saying out there, We may think we have accidental pregnancies. However, God does not make accidental lives. That's something to put in your contemplation pipe and smoke it. Your parents may have not have planned you. Yet your Heavenly Father, absolutely planned you. You are not here by accident. You are here for a reason. You have a purpose. Jeremiah 1:5...
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew[a] you,
before you were born I set you apart;
For you beating yourselves up right now, all your past mistakes and regrets, Rom 8:28 is for you.

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Yes! You are in! You don't have to be a farmer to plant seeds. You plant seeds everyday. Yes you. You may not even realize it. No, I'm not talking physical seeds although they certainly apply. Here is your 'Play of the Day'.

Ah! Word! Thank you Pastor Rick! You dig that like me. You get it? Dig it? Plant it? Sorry! Check out 'Daily Hope', that 'Play of the Day' came from "What Seeds Will You Plant This Spring? - Part 2, published on the 17th of February 2022.

Okay, so now you get the intro. What seeds are you planting? So many angles to this.

Mental and spiritual warfare. What kind of seeds are you planting? Deeper take, what kind of seeds are you allowing others to plant within you? Who are you listening to? Who are you watching? Who are you reading?

Physical health. What are you eating? What are you drinking?

I don't want to feel guilty. That's part of the problem. None of us want to feel to feel guilty. Yet if the 'check engine' light doesn't come on in your car, is that good? Do you really want to keep driving your car until it's too late? Do you need a cancer diagnosis to change? God wired us to feel and know better so we can change our minds. It's part of the test of life.

Acts 2:38
Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God, and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. Then you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.

Have you planted that seed? Have you changed your mind and your heart and lifted your negative seeds? Do you have the gift of the Holy Spirit? You'll know if you do. It's a spiritual high and whoa moments that will blow you away in a good way.

Every day, every minute, you are planting seeds. Positive thoughts. Negative thoughts. Breathing in. Exhaling.

You reap what you sow

Galatians 6:7New Living Translation7 Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant.

Anxiety? Phil 4: 6-7. Most of your anxiety is a cause of the seeds you are taking in and planting. Expectations. Thinking others' lives are perfect. News that the world is going to hell in a hand basket. I'm not saying to be ignorant. But do you need to listen and read about seeds of despair all day? Or are you lifting the negatives and giving thanks for the positives in your life. And as stated before, give Phil 4: 6-7 a chance. 100X a day if needed. Lift the negatives. Tell God what you don't like. Ask what you should do? Then give thanks for what is worthy. Keep planting those seeds and you will experience peace beyond all understanding. Lastly, if that isn't working for you. Sometimes, positive thougths won't get rid of a cavity. Part of life and God's lesson is to learn to lean on others. That could be a pastor or Christian-based therapist or doctor.

Lastly, for you those of you that believe in all of this. How are you doing planting seeds of encouragement in love for Christ? Jesus' last words in Matthew say it all. Could you imagine how peaceful this world would be with more true Christians? This week I just saw a Tweet from Tony Evans that said something along the lines of "If we really want to change our country (world) for good, we should just get Christian to live as Christians." Mic drop.

Now go, plant the good seeds, in your mind, body, soul and in encouraging and loving others via Christ.

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Yes! You are in! Ok, we may be tired of talking about the Vid. Very interesting to back and dust this one off in early 2020. Including what the news and "experts" like WHO were telling us back then. Judge it for yourself. Does it still ring true?

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Yes! You are in! KPI's and MBO's? Yes, we discuss them. If you don't know what they are, you will learn. ThursDudes are back on this one and Grant the Guide helps lead the way.
Thanks for checking in. Whether you learned something new or not, I hope you got something out of this one. If you know someone else that is looking to step their game of life up, will you share this with them? We are in the hope and encouragement business. We build each other up around you. 1 The 5:11
If you would like more information or free access to GtSurf.org, hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com
Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener. They are not here by accident. You wired them with a purpose. You tell us that we will give account for our life someday. Just like a vehicle has a dashboard to tell us what's going on. Why shouldn't we do the same with our lives? Well, you see it all anyway. Some of us need to better see it. You wired us to help hold each other accountable and to encourage and build each other up via Christ. Speaking of Christ, thank you for Romans 8:1. Despite our past flaws and those that may show up on a dashboard, thank you that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. You gifted us with Life. We are still here on this broken planet. So may we best build each other up and live out Christ's last words in Matthew in all nations (from Germany to Japan to the Philippines to the Americas and everywhere in between). Father, thank you for reminding us that we matter and wherever this listen is, their mission field is right there. Now, may we go, shine Light, hope, encouragement and love in the name of your son and our savior Jesus Christ. Amen

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BW is Back! If you are versed, then you know the warnings of getting swept up in the ways of the world. It seems like a new religion (it's actually a very old religion). You must talk like this and don't talk like that. Worship this and don't worship that.

BW points out how do we know which path is True? The right path. For those versed, it is crystal clear. For you will have eyes to see and ears to hear. Are you calling out to the right name?

Without further adieu here is our dear Brother Willie, I love this brother...

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Yes! You are in! ThursDudes are back! It is such a gift to be part of a group like this. I hope you are surrounding yourself with healthy AP's the same. You've heard this 'Play of the Day' before, bringing it back and this time the ThursDudes react. Here you go...

Word! So good! Special thanks to G-EZ, Young Buck Alex, Grant (nickname pending) and David the Sage for this round. Young Buck Alex brings this saying to me after the recording, "Boat are safest in the harbor. That is not for what they are built." Strong! You are safest in the harbor. You are built to get out there. Your mission field is out there. God built you for a purpose. You are built to ride the waves of life.

Again, special thanks to Dr. Lorrits for his words of wisdom and inspiration. You are one of my favorite teachers. And I'll say this back to you, you being attacked, tells me you are standing up for Truth. For those with eyes to see and ears to hear, you are clear as a bell and it is beautiful. Keep going! God's best go through some of the worst. Please check him out at Bryan Lorrits Podcast.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for AP's - accountability partners. We want them but we don't. Our anxiety tells us to sit in the harbor. Sometimes we need to be in the harbor (to rest and get repairs). Yet, you designed us to ride those waves of life. You built us to do some amazing things in Jesus name...things far beyond a title and just earning a bunch of dough. Thank you for this listener. They are not here by accident. Thank you for hope and inspiration and the wisdom of these dudes gathered in your name. Step by step, rep by rep, we get stronger. Amen!

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Re-broadcast of MLK reflection from January 2021...

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Yes! You are in! This 'Play of the Day' is in your face. They call him Dave and he's making his FriDudes debut. Don't let the word 'single' throw you, this applies to you married dudes too. Here you go...
Word! That is strong. Dave Ramsey can drive me nuts at times. That is solid! To hear more of that 'Play of the Day' check out 'Focus on the Family: Getting a Handle on Your Family Finances, Part 2 of 2, published on the 5th of January 2022.
So how are you doing with your New Year's Resolutions? Crash and burn yet? You are definitely not alone. Doing ok? As I record this, we are 12 days in. Haha! So how about last year's resolutions? Do you even remember any of them? Odds are you are missing an AP. No, not Adrian Peterson. He's busy.
So pop quiz. Do you need to wait for only January 1 to make goals? Of course, you can start right now, whenever you are listening to this.
Are closer to God than you have ever been? Ok, there is one major goal right there.
If you are married, is your marriage stronger than it has ever been? Ok, for most of you, that is another goal.
Are you the healthiest you have ever been in your life? 99% of you say no. Oddly, this is an area that comes easier to me. Way, way easier than financial fitness. We are all wired for different strengths. Since working with GtSurf.org and those AP brothers such as Greg and Milk and Jogging Jesus and One&Done and the Finisher and HotRod, I have kept my goal weight for over 2 years now. Accountability works!
Do you have AP's in your life to help you achieve your goals? Most of you don't, let us help you there. I'm very serious. Hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com and put 'Stepping My Game Up' in subject header and we will rally around you.
What IF you had some accountability partners that you could trust? Ones that will tell you what you need to hear vs. what you want to hear. AP's that believe in Phil 4:13, that anything is possible in Christ which strengthens me. What is you had AP's that absolutely sharpen you just like iron sharpens iron, Pro 27:17.
So ending on a prayer note, another one short and sweet! Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener. They are not here by accident. They are here for a reason. You wired them for a purpose. You designed us to thrive with AP's we can trust. Put those AP's in front of them. Either here or there. You tell us that we will give an account for our life someday. Thank you for that heads up. Guide us. May we ask you each day, Lord, what do you want me to do today? Do my goals line up with your plan? Amen

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Yes! You are in. Dr. Lorrits is baaaaaaack! So hard to narrow down this play of the day. Here you go...
Thank you Dr. Lorrits! You are going to want to hear the rest of this. Of course, you need to hear about the plane engine going out and then some. Check out the Bryan Lorrits Podcast. That's Bryan with a Y. Those plays of the days came from the "Last Spike", published on the 3rd of January 2021.
So let's break down those plays of the days.
First, we are all really, really good at first spikes. Well, what does that mean? You really need to listen to the entire podcast. We are all good at starting things. Are we good at finishing them? Oh snap.
Second, most of us are really, really good at legalism. Especially in this day and age. Do this. Don't do that. We love to tell people what to do. More so than ever.
Maybe you are broken and hopeless. Maybe you are fighting so hard and going through hell with legit asking why?! Thanks to Dr. Lorrits, I learned a new word today. "Agonizomai": which means to fight, struggle be it an athlete getting pounded on in a game or someone in a hospital or on the street. Please know this, if you are suffering, you are in elite company. Check out James 1. Check out the verses that Dr. Lorrits mentions about Paul and 1 Cor 11. The Bible is clear on that. The best of the best went or go through the worst. So, are you at a level worthy of attack? Ever thought about it that way? You sticking out like Jesus with your goal and life plan or are you going with the flow of the ways of the world? Better at judging or loving Are you really good at starting out doing something strong? Can you finish?
Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! I'm feeling judged. Haha! Well hopefully, you can laugh at that. I am not judging you. I am with you. I feel like I've been the cocky pharisee and that hypocrite pastor. You heard my confession on finances/other. If not, back up to previous episodes. I need this just like you. I am Rom 3:23. I need to finish better. I need to put in more last spikes. I want to finish strong with Jesus. I want to hear well done.
So, do you have a group of like minds that will push you and hold you accountable? Don't just go through the motions. If you don't, hit us up at FriDudes.com and we'll get you matched in a group. Simply hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page. If you are super fired up, check out GtSurf.org. Let's not just start this year off right. Let's finish strong! Start writing it down. Pray more and read more in that book that is called the Owner's Manual for Life. The Bible. If you need one, we will send you one. For free. Legit.
Ending on a prayer note, "Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener. There are not listening to this by accident. You have a plan for them and for some they are realizing it for the very first time. Life on this broken planet can be so frustrating. Thank you for a better understanding and perspective of 'Agonizimai'. Thank you for the promise of Rom 8:28 that good will come out the bad. That we can get stronger from resistance. That we are in elite company. That we want to finish strong. With Jesus Christ, we can. Thank you for that gift and perspective today. Amen.

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Yes! You are in! As 2022 fast approaches, this is always a natural time of year where we reflect and start setting goals. Many call them 'New Year's Resolutions' and they will crash and burn before January is even done. Why? Well, I love that question. That is exactly what this episode tackles. You ready to get stronger? Here is your 'Play of the Day'. Perfect timing. Here you go...
Thank you Pastor Rick for that latest. Did you dig that one like me? If it resonates, you are driven, at least for the moment, to do more in your life in 2022. Check out Daily Hope's latest series. That excerpt came from 'Pastor Rick's Daily Hope', entitled "Setting Personal Goals by Faith, Part 1" published on the 27th of December, 2021.
If you have been following FriDudes for a while, then you know why that 'Play of the Day' impacts big time. We call them 'affirmations' in the Faith business. For you the listener, you are not listening to this by accident. Do you really think God wants you coasting through life? Of course not. This life is a gift. Each day is a gift and opportunity to rise above. Of course, some days are sucky. Some are horrific. Yet, you are still alive. You are here. Listening to this right now. You may be depressed. You may be beat up. You may feel hopeless. Or maybe you are "good". Regardless, you absolutely have room for improvement. How do I know that? Check Rom 3:23. So for you in the 'sucky' part of life. You want out? Of course you do. If life is 'good', I bet you are in the comfort zone. Comfort zone = the fade zone. You are fading in parts of your life and you may not even realize it until you get blindsided with a heart attack or finding out someone has chosen to stop loving you. Brutal? Yeah, we don't sugar coat here. Some of you need tough love. Truth, we all need tough love at times.
Most important, many of us are not checking these goals with our Heavenly Father. Our creator. The One that gave us the gift of life and wired us for a purpose. No wonder why most of us are depressed. No meaning = no Hope. Meaning = Hope.
In order to have accountability, you actually need to write things down, review just about everyday with God and share with a few trusted Brothers or Sisters (in return, they will do the same with you). You'll need some tools and motivation. So next, check out the rest of Daily Hope's "Faith and Goals series". Then check out GtSurf.org aka GcrossSurf. For now, it is still free if your church is signed up OR you simply go through FriDudes.com. Hit us up at the 'Contact Us Page' write 'GcrossSurf' in the header and we'll equip you. If you don't have a small group, we'll get you in one that will empower you and build you up just like 1 Thes 5:11.
So Happy New Year to you. Maybe this is the fire needed to be lit under your butt. Whether is it January or July when you are listening to this, welcome to a new day for the rest of your life. No matter how you started your life...finish strong! Now go, pray about your goals and purpose, check it with God, write them down, don't be afraid to make changes, live the rest of your life with Purpose as your creator designed for you so long ago. Phil 4:11 is possible. Doubt me? Just keep going to Phil 4:13.

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Deeper is back in a Christmas way! This one is from a year ago yet the overall message is still priceless and timeless, here you go...

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Christmas Kids Special! From the real Christmas Story to why HotRod is a bad driver.

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Blast from the past, well back to 2019 and one of the first episodes. How this party got started. Gathering before what we knew what Covid 19 was. We gathered in a back room of a Perkins Restaurant somewhere in MN, USA. Bizarre to hear the "Killing Me Softly" song over the speakers, then going to Acts 2. Hearing the coffee poured. Pondering eclipses, and the sun, moon and the universe. We don't reject science like many reject us. True science seeks the Truth. It's why we have hypotheses and theories. True science will correct itself. Politicized science will not. We even ponder mass shootings. Here is a bunch of flawed dudes, getting real and pursuing Truth...

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Yes! You are in! It's been awhile since we discussed GcrossSurf. Some of you have know idea what that is. Here's what I do know. You want to win. You want to win in life. Most don't want to be miserable and just go through the motion of life. Yet, odds are you are trying to do life and your desired changes on your own, No plan and definitely limited vision. That's what we tackle today. The power of Vision. To see things clearly and have trusted others around you to help hold you accountable. So here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Deeper! Casey aka the Jogging Jesus is back. No, he's not the real Jesus. He just kinda looks like what we think Jesus looks like. Plus he does jog, has raised thousands of dollars for clean water via Team World Vision and will randomly pray for strangers on his runs.

So, what I love about Casey is that he won't sugar coat. I'm going to encourage you to listen 'ALL' the way through. I love the way Casey opens up talking about his love for the United States, our freedoms and for those that seek to protect us. As he continues, you may bristle like I did with having to review some history. Hey, sometimes we don't like looking back. Yet the wise will learn from their mistakes. History can be a great teacher so we don't make the same mistakes. As I shared back on Veteran's Day 2020, I challenge anyone to show me a more diverse country with the same freedoms. You can't. I don't see anyone looking like Barak Obama that has led China or Japan or Saudi Arabia or England or even Canada! Not yet.

Oh right, Casey, sorry. This dude tackle racism, word play, abortion, bullies, just about every 'hot button' that people go nuts over. And he does it with grace. So without further adieu, here is another Deeper sesh by Casey giving you some things that wiil make you go hmmmmmm...

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Things that make you go hmmm. At FriDudes, you know we love to challenge. We push out of comfort zones, get real and pursue Truth. For those of you in the United States, most of you will be giving thanks tomorrow with family and/or friends. If you are alone or outside the United States, we know gratitude is healthy. The wise also know it's best to give thanks each day, not just one day. Whether you are Deep or not, this is a cool take below. Could qualify for a 'Spiritual Bong Hit'. It actually came from my wife via her 'Prayer Team Leader' at work. Yes, a private yet secular workplace. Here you go...

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Yes! You are in for another Spiritual Bong Hit! Casey joins us this round. And an amazing story about his windshield.

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Brave B makes his debut! How many of you could share like Brave B? It takes major courage to share 'roller coasters' like this. Now, some of you will learn that you are not alone with certain struggles.

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We are sharing highs from experiences that cannot be beat by any shortcuts that we humans try to fabricate or take. Chasing and experiencing Whoa moments! Encouraging you to do the same. BTW, if you have a Whoa moment, will you let us know and let us share it? Simply hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com
Does God have a sense of humor?
Did Jesus tell jokes?
Bentley story.
HotRod gets an answer for two bathrooms.

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Brother Willie's story revisited. Part 2 of 2. From the crack house to His house.

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I love testimonies and case studies. I love results. What is social justice? Many argue more government. Then there is BW's case study. A non-profit called MN Adult/Teen Challenge and some changed hearts. Side note passionate ones, you are not changing anything without changed hearts. Here is BW, revisited...

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Deeper! Yes, Deeper is back! Casey is back! Aka the Jogging Jesus is back! If you are Deeper, you know the Good News. If you are Deeper, you know how to best share it. Truth, someone in your life needs some encouragement. Listen, reflect and then share with those put on your heart. It's Your Turn.
This message was given at Hosanna, Shakopee, MN, 10/13/2021

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HotRod, you are helping us lead a new series called 'Spiritual Bong Hits with HotRod, Getting Natural Highs', a fun title for one of the most fun Dudes. Aptly named for you Brother! You love to question. You love Deep, Fringe, pot stirring questions that push people to think and go 'Whoaaaaaaaaaaa!'.

HotRod talks finding ultimate highs in Canada, Mexico and beyond, hitting a train and walking away and more...

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If this is your first episode and you dig, go back to the beginning of season 1, episode 1. Plenty of HotRodisms scattered through those episodes.

So my Brother, for this round, we are going to visit your story. Listener needs to better understand your wiring. You and I have been chasing adrenaline, superficial, natural and spiritual highs our whole life. Where would you like to start Brother?

That song comes from Dude Nathan Schutes aka Vaquero Gupao, "A Heart Like Mine". We've used it a few moons ago during The Fringe Series. Love that Dude. You know who else has a heart for the Fringe? HotRod! Welcome!

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Rules of the Universe…Rules of a Successful Marriage

What makes us tick?

I’m fascinated with the odds, numbers and rules that govern this world we live in. Even the atheists can agree with me that math defines a lot of this world and universe.

There are more stars in the sky than there are grains of sand on this earth. That simple fact is mind boggling to me. For you to be here, the earth has to be the perfect distance from the sun (93 million miles). We move closer and we are burning up. We move further away and we are frozen. We are just right...pending any self destruction. Starting to sound like Goldy Locks and the Three Bears? Meanwhile, our astronomers constantly study the stars trying to find a similar situation that can create life. Ask them, it’s not easy. Fact, the odds are astronomical (pun intended) that you are here.

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Affairs and Getting Screwed

I would love to see the stats of how many readers go to this chapter first. It may be a tie between this one and Sex! Of course, they go hand in hand.

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Oh man, my least favorite chapter and probably will be the least listened to chapter/episode ever. The 'D' word. Sigh. Thank YOU for your boldness to give this a shot. If worthy, you will know somebody that is going to need this, here you go...

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“Ugh, I want to leave this person!”. “Who is this person?”, “Did he just say that?”, “I just can’t even talk with you right now.”. If you have never said a version of this, then you haven’t been married long enough. Wait, “What?” some of you ask. Ok, maybe it’s more like “Who is this person?” or you are angry, you yelled at them or on the other side maybe it’s the silent treatment or cold shoulder. Now, it’s starting to come into focus for most of you. You may be feeling this for years or may have been an hour so far.

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The Fade
Every couple experiences the ‘The Fade’ at multiple points of their marriage. As a recurring theme in this book, it is not a matter of ‘IF’ it is a matter of ‘WHEN’.

There are a ton of factors that create or eliminate the fade. We call them spacers and magnets...

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It was posted shortly after the Thousand Oaks shooting. I love what he was trying to say. Something along the lines that even if it is a fairly-tale God, we had a societal fear of retribution. He said that we’ve always had mental illness and guns (well at least since the creation of this country). Narcisside is a newer development. Narcisside are narcissists that want to take themselves out, innocent lives with them and get infamy after. That is one of the ultimate depths of evil.

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Small Town, Minnesota, roughly 30 miles from Minneapolis and St. Paul. As an 80’s kid, it was a great place to grow up. You were 15 minutes from shopping malls but you were far enough away to feel in the country. 30 minutes to get to work in The Twin Cities. My town hosted one quaint elementary school built in the 1920s. The school was conveniently located next to the IGA grocery store for an after-school candy fix. When weather permitted, we rode our bikes to school every day. No parental escort. Kidnapping? What the heck was that?

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Opposites Attract

Speaking of ‘Irreconcilable Differences’, well that means opposites work against each other. Truth, we choose whether to let those differences become irreconcilable. We choose whether to change from abusive/destructive to healthy/loving behavior. We also choose to embrace and actually benefit from certain differences. Study any successful couple and you will note they can be very different. Each person brings certain strengths and weaknesses to a relationship. Often the other side counters the weaknesses with strengths. When you really think about it, it is a brilliant design.

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Love at first sight?

So Lainey and I married on a beautiful day on October 1, 1994. It was a gorgeous day. We were married in St. Cloud, MN at St. Mary’s Catholic Church. We met at St. Cloud State University. I would like to say it was love at first sight, but it wasn’t. Don’t get me wrong, I thought she was hot. That wasn’t quite her first impression of me. . .

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Irreconcilable Differences: Rally it?! LOL

Rally it?! Some of you are laughing at yourselves right now. Haven’t you ever heard of irreconcilable differences? Hmmmm, that sounds familiar. Oh yes, you mean the primary reason that most Hollywood (and American) couples use to justify a divorce? Yeah, I know that one. In most cases, ‘irreconcilable differences’ should simply…

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Who Should Have Better Sex than Anyone?!

Who doesn't want better sex?! Christians, you know I like to pick on you including myself. Newlyweds excluded, those married 5 years or more, are you having better sex than most? If you are normal, you will say no. If you say yes and are married over 10, 20+ years you are exceptional! So again, the wise will study what works and avoid what doesn’t. Here we go...

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Not a God Person

Not a God person, but you want to make marriage work? Ok, I understand. To my atheist friends, thank you for making it even this far. You have come to your atheistic conclusion based on logic. So, for the sake of logic, at least factor this…

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It is dumbfounding how many adults do not factor this question in their lust decisions. My happiness. My, mine, mine, mine! The very things you struggled to teach your young ones to learn...selfishness vs. selflessness.

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There is no such thing as a soulmate. Oh, how some of you just bristled. “Yes, there is!”, you proclaim. You will add, “My wife is my best friend. Who are you to tell me different?!”. Your wife may currently be your best friend. You may proclaim her your soulmate right now. Perhaps let me rephrase this, you don’t fall into a best friend or soulmate. You earn and maintain soulmate status.

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Yes! You are In! And looking for more best practices for life. If you are married, this is an important lesson. Most don't marry to divorce. The ultimate measure of success in marriage is to make it to 50+ years. How does one get there? Here you go!

Questions for your Couple/Couch Time…

Do you know any marriages that lasted beyond 50 years?
You may not believe in Jesus, do you believe in love, grace, mercy and forgiveness?
Do you know that is what Jesus taught?

Odds are that you know someone struggling with marriage. Please forward this to them. Truth be told, it should be shared with every marriage that you care about. Usually, marriages don't seek help until years of damage and fade. What if everyone implemented the above 'best practice'? I don't believe we would have any marriages in divorce court.
Truth, that's a fact Jack.

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Yes! You are in for more dirt and learning from others' mistakes. Ben & Kate, I bet you know a couple like this. The couple that seems perfect? Let me tell you a little secret, they are flawed. Just like you and your spouse and every marriage on the planet.

Questions for Couple Quality Time, Date Night or Couples Group...

1. Who seemed like a strong couple to you and then divorced?

2. Who seemed like not so strong a marriage and is still going? Why?

3. Have you taken the online quiz Love Languages? If so, do you strive to do something each day that relates to your spouse's love language? Side note, if you are not sure what are Love Languages. Look it up by Dr. Gary Chapman. The online quiz is free.

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Yes, you are in! Some of you are great money managers. Many of you need to step your game up, including our governments. Yes, we are going there. Here you go Chapter 11, Learning from Financial Failure, Part 3...

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Learning from Financial Failure, Part 2
Questions for Date Night, Couples/Small Group Time...
1. Do you operate off a budget? Do you tell your money where to go and how much? Or do you check your balance and wonder where it all goes?
2. Do you review finances as a couple weekly? Monthly? Are you on the same page and mutually approve any purchase over $100?
3. Look up Matt 7: 24-27 and read together. What are your storms thus far? Which ones have tested your marriage? Which teachings help keep your marriage on that rock foundation? Which ways of the world put your marriage on that sandy weaker foundation?

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Yes, you are in. So we discussed Bezos and the Amazon Marriage Fail. That covered for rich or richer and how marriages can melt down. What about for richer or poorer? A key part of another's testimony featured in this chapter.

Questions for Date Night, Couple Small Group Couple time...

1. What is your 600 lb life? What decision do you wish you could go back in time and reverse? What previous decision or neglect has been weighing you down? Pause and reflect.

2. Do you view past mistakes with that view shared by Dr. Lorrits? Do you share what didn't work and what you did or are doing to correct it? Share and reflect. Pause and reflect.

3. What has your spouse done that really hurt or still hurts? Has it been resolved? Have you forgiven? If it still lingers, have you consulted a professional, trusted counselor to help you navigate?

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Yes, you are in! Extra credit points for you! As most people neglect their marriages. You are tuning in. Sharing these best practices with others. Striving for stronger everyday.

Odds you buy something from Amazon. Odds are you fight about money with your spouse. If you only had as much money as the Bezos (founders of Amazon), you would be golden right? Wrong.

This chapter is of two tales. For rich or richer? And the other, of for poorer and a couple still striving to make it work. Here you go...

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Chapter 9

The Two Greatest Rules for Marriage

For this chapter, I only get to pick on the Christians. So if you are an atheist or other, you get to kick back. If you are not a Christian, you are not obligated to do any of this. However, if you do have a Christian family member or friend, you may want to challenge them on this. Ask them, “You call yourself a Christian, but do you know the two greatest commandments?” More important, do you really follow them?

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Chapter 8: Holiday Choice

This section was written on December 23rd of some year before we knew what was COVID. For those that celebrate Christmas and New Year, you know this can be a season of great joy and/or dismay. With the pomp and circumstance can come tension. I’ve seen and even felt it too many times. So ironic that a time of peace and celebration can go ugly. Don’t get me wrong, the Jesus part is right. You will find peace there if you look for it. The tension comes from the human side. Our flaws exposed. If you read enough of these chapters, you are seeing/learning a theme. Our egos and flaws create tension. Get us in a room with a bunch of flawed people - look out! Get ready for entertaining a bunch of flawed family - ay caramba!

Despite the storms, what will you choose? If someone is rude, are you going to counter like Jesus or Trump via Twitter? You do control your reactions. You really do. And this author has certainly had a fair share of failures. Much easier said than done. With practice, it gets easier.

Overall, I’ll guarantee you this - your best holidays and vacations had love at its center. In that environment, it gets even easier and full of joy. On the flips side, when that storm/attack hits, how will you choose to react? Your choice.

Questions for you and your spouse…

What was your greatest regret during the last week?
What would you choose to do differently?
What has been your best vacation or holiday celebration? Why?

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Chapter 7

Nicker and Chad

A message for a young couple getting married during the summer of 2018. Whether you choose to get married, striving to stay married or want to learn how to better love...a highly recommended point of reflection to consider.

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Yes! You're in! One noticed that we did not end the 'Phil and Amy' audio episode with discussion questions for you and spouse and/or couples group. Respect! Thank you! BTW, while we are at it, if you ever have a burning question or suggestion for improvement, you can hit us up anytime at FriDudes.com.
So if this is the first episode you are catching these questions may puzzle you. Back up one episode and these questions will make total sense. For those ahead of the game, here are your Chapter 6 questions...
BONUS QUESTIONS for your next date, couple or group time...
1. What was your favorite part of what Phil and Amy shared? Why?
2. This will take some guts to answer. Just like Phil and Amy boldly shared, which behavior(s) do you need to change? Since we are all flawed, there is always room for improvement. Do not let your pride get in the way. You confess what you could work on and then ask your spouse/significant other what you could work on. BTW, this question is ongoing for the life of your relationship. At least monthly, review and audit.
3. Based on your answers above, how long have you been trying to change this behavior on your own? If for longer than a month, have you consulted a professional such as a therapist, counselor, pastor, etc, or relevant group that addresses above? Would you? When?

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Yes! You are in!! Whether you are married or not, I bet you can relate to a relationship that starts off HOT! Eventually, it will go colder or even ice cold and you two will need to make a choice. Yes, love becomes a choice. Eventually to keep any relationship alive, you are going to have to make some choices. Do we keep working on this? Choosing to try. Choosing to forgive, show grace, mercy and choosing to Love with action. Action, sometimes, means change. Changing destructive behaviors and adding constructive ones. And yes, sometimes we need a counselor or coach to get there. So, without further adieu, here is Phil and Amy, getting real and pursuing Truth. Some of you may recall this interview from a couple of years ago. In my mind, it is priceless and timeless and it makes the "Every Marriage is...Flawed" book. Sharing what works and didn't in their marriage...

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Speaking of truth, I was an a-hole. Ok, depending on who you talk to today, I can still be an a-hole. Just ask any of my family, friends and fellow citizens.

You will find ‘Worst Boyfriend In The World’ (WBITW) on the opposite end of the ‘Soulmate’ spectrum. If you were to look up ‘Soulmate’ in the thesaurus, WBITW would surely be the antonym, not the synonym.

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Unmet Expectations - Reality = Disillusionment.

The formula applies to everyone. Your expectations of your spouse (or anyone or anything for that matter) on any given day minus the reality of what he/she is going to do = your disillusionment.

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Yes! You are in! I couldn't resist this one. Dr. Lorrits strikes again and it fits in perfectly as a Chapter 3 Bonus.

Jon is a Tailwind Dad. If you have no idea what I'm saying. Back up one episode to "Every Marriage is...Flawed, Chapter 3, Do Father's Matter?".

Yes, Dr. Lorrits! Hitting another 'play of the day' out of the park. Here's the connection.

Jon made a decision. He was going to be different. He was going to be a dad that is present and love, encourage and yes discipline his kids in the way they should go.

Now, you listening to this. You are either a parent and you still have time to further improve. If you blew it as a parent, you still have time as a grandparent to be the best you can be for the rest of your life. If you don't have kids, you can absolutely mentor and coach. Your call. Your legacy.

If you dig this podcast, thank you for rating and sharing it. You can learn more at FriDudes.com. Subscribe for there for more insights and invites. If you would like some of the FriDudes to speak at your next event. Simply contact us at FriDudes.com

BTW, to find more of Dr. Lorrits, search the 'Bryan Lorrits Podcast'. That play of the day came from "Tailwind Dads", published on the 20th of June 2021.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for being our ultimate Father. No matter how flawed our parents were or is this listener, you have the listeners back. It is their choice to get closer to you. Thank you for Dr. Lorrits and giving him such a great voice. Lord, I lift this listener up right now. They have a purpose. You wired them with strengths. There is still time for them to make a difference. If they are feeling heavy with their flaws or someone else, thank you for Romans 1 that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. Lastly, thank you for Tailwind Dads and Moms for that matter. Amen!

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In Chapters 1 and 2, we looked at flawed marriages and families. Most of those have very flawed husbands and fathers. Many fathers are absent as in gone/gone or married to their jobs. One side of our society say that Fathers don't matter. They say the nuclear family is dead. Truth, where I see the nuclear family dead or lacking, I see a lot of problems. In our largest cities to the suburbs, I see a lot of chaos.

Speaking of unmet expectations, some of you have been let down big time by your dad. You either had a terrible Dad or a good Dad or somewhere in between. Some say that has no impact? I bet we all can agree a bad Dad can have a negative impact. Yet, some say a good dad doesn't matter. I call BS on that. So does Maya and many more. Here is the Good News, you do have an ultimate Father that loves you more than you can ever realize. I'm not talking about your earthly Dad either. Of the 140+ episodes so far via FriDudes this is one of my faves and it makes the book. This one aired just before Fathers Day 2020. Here you go, Chapter 3, Do Fathers Matter?

Discussion Questions

How does your earthly Dad rank?
Do you believe there is a heavenly Father that loves you more than you can imagine?
Regardless of your answers above, did this Chapter 3 make sense? Do you see where Maya and others are coming from on the hope/love side?

Thanks for sharing! If you would like more insights and invites or would like to one or several of the FriDudes to speak at your next event, hit them up at FriDudes.com. Now, go, love and serve others. If you can follow that order, Your Heavenly Father, Your Spouse of your kids, and then your kids and others.

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Myth of the Perfect Family

Let me tell you a story of a family I knew growing up. We’ll just call them the ‘Perfects’. Growing up, the Perfects were awesome. They were so much fun! They were the ‘IT’ family. Everyone wanted to hang with them. They were a model family in our church. We would take family vacations together. They were so charismatic. They were beautiful. I never saw them fight. I truly believed they were the perfect family. Overall, we made one big family with several other families from church and past small groups. I loved the Perfects. I considered them the ‘Gold Standard’.

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If you are married or looking to get married, this series is for you. The audiobook version of "Every Marriage is...Flawed".

Truth, a book that I've been chicken to officially publish for over 10 years. Ironically, waiting for things to be perfect. No more. So, will you listen to this with your spouse or spouse-to-be. If you are in a small group, listen and discuss with them. If you feel worthy, share with any marriage you care about.

Let's break some of these myths vs. buying the lies that we are supposed to be 'happy' and 'perfect' all the time.

If you dig, you can learn more at FriDudes.com. Subscribe for more insights. Message us if you are open to some more coaching, counseling or perhaps a speaker at your next event.

Without further adieu, here is Chapter 1: The Perfect Marriage Lie

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Yes! You are in! BW is Back! Do you really know who and how powerful is your Heavenly Father? Many think it's a mythical bearded dude up on a cloud firing down lightning bolts. BW gets real and gives another nugget of encouragement for you. As you listen, I always say that God is not a genie in a bottle. You don't always get everything you want in life. That's part of the test. On the flip, I also echo what the Owner's Manual says that anything is possible with God. Do you ask? Do you know how to ask? Do you realize the power behind the one you ask? BW has a cool nugget for you on this subject. Buckle up, here you go...

Perspective

Train your mind

God's property

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Wherever you are in the world, someone has sacrificed for you. If you live in the Unites States, Memorial Day is often overlooked. Just an excuse to have a long weekend and perhaps complain about our country and not fully appreciate our freedoms. Truth, for those fortunate enough to live in the United States, we have a lot of freedoms. Immigrant after immigrant has arrived to this country and thrived. On the flip side, sure we have flaws. Every country, church, group, family and marriage has issues.

Truth, the United States may have the most diverse leadership compared to any country. I'm talking about all races, not just one race. Hey, some just love to belly ache. It's in their blood. At FriDudes, we know better. We pursue Truth and we know many have sacrificed and given their lives for our freedoms - including the ability to produce and air this podcast. Thank you from the bottom of hearts to those that truly serve, protect and sacrifice(d) for our freedoms.

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Word! Thank you Pastor Rick Warren, he logs in another 'Play of the Day', he's got a few. Bryan Lorrits still has the lead. Strong voices for those that strive to be stronger.
Whether you think Adam and Eve is a fairy tale or not, one can still learn from it. One can learn a lot from it. Whether you are married or not, you can learn. Every single relationship on this earth will have conflict...eventually. Either that or you don't invest enough time together. Put two flawed people together and you will have...you guessed it, flawed situations and conflict.
How about you church going folk? Churches are boats with holes. Full of flawed people including leadership. For a church to survive it must bail out the water that leaks in through those holes. The boat will stay afloat with Jesus' teachings of love, grace, mercy and forgiveness.
You know what resonates? When we do wrong or in conflict with God, we want to hide. We go distant. I definitely have and can still do that. For some reason we think not going to church or not praying about it will solve it. Hint: God knows EVERYTHING and knows exactly where you are at all times and what you are thinking. So wouldn't we just be better off owning it - of course. If doing the right things was easy, we would all do it and be kumbaya with God.
So, moving forward. Do you have any grudges? Any ongoing conflicts? Time to step your game up. Be the bigger person, screw pride and your ego. Ha! Much easier said than done. So "Christians", let's review what the Owner's Manual for Life says for you...there is a ton!
You must forgive in order to be forgiven. Matthew 6:15. New Living Translation ... But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.
How many times do you forgive? 77 x 7 and then keep going. Matthew 18:21 NLT. Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?”
Many of the egos out there say that is weak. According to the ways of the world, it is. We are not supposed to be conformed to the ways of the world of selfishness and screw you. You want to be different? Counter-cultural? Do you want to stand out and truly shine Christ's Light? Then you will do what Jesus did and does. You do what you truly believe. Do you consider yourself part of God's family? A child of God?
Blessed are the peacemakers. Not the conflict makers. Matthew 5:9. New Living Translation ... God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God.
There's so much more there. Some of you are saying, yeah I know all this. Ok, how are you lovingly encouraging others? Are you digging in with your loved ones or strangers or are you rising above and navigating conflict in a healthy way? Do you realize if we did above we would have world peace? We wouldn't have divorce? So, we have a lot more work to do. You and me. As BW says, train your mind, daily, get in that book first thing in the AM and let it set the tone of each day for you and your loved ones.
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Yes! You are in. Politics, I usually avoid it like the plague...and for good reason. We all can...including myself....get so whipped up. This Play of the Day breaks it down quite simply...at least for all those out there that call themselves "Christians"....

Word! Thank you Unashamed crew and the Robertson family. That was Gold right there. For those that know that family well enough, they definitely have some leanings. You may not always agree with them. I may not always agree with them. That sound byte is spot on for me. Maybe you still disagree. Let's. break it down a bit more.

For the avid listener of FriDudes, we have tackled this subject multiple times. Politics can get the best of us. It will divide a family and destroy Thanksgiving just like Covid.

On the flip side, I love affirmations. Go back to previous episodes and you'll hear Casey aka Jogging Jesus talk about the importance of the hearts. We need changed hearts to change society, not just laws. Listen to BW, do you even hear him talking politics or systemic racism or victimization? Not once. BW also talks about how Jesus is in the heart changing business. Go back and listen to BW's testimony. From the crack house to His house.

If I was ever to run for office, haha! Ok, don't worry, I don't have plans nor have been called...at least as of 2021. I would take the best of the Democrats and the best of the Republicans and run independent. I'd run on platform of Christ and that we are best to love God and love Others.

My guess is I would get the same reaction as Phil. "You're crazy!" Love God?! Others?! Until enough hearts change, I'm guessing that platform has zero chance. Then again, anything is possible with God. So you and I will stay encouraging and building up others' hearts. Truth, politics will come and go. Heaven is forever and simply strive to be at peace that all is solved there.

I vividly recall Dr Lorrits jokingly pointing out, hey there's the CNN church and there's the Fox News church. Truth, if we really focused on the top two commandments of Loving God and Loving others, we wouldn't have time to be CNN or Fox. We would be center wing. Focused on the hearts and loving on those we agree and disagree.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, forgive us when politics becomes our religion. Forgive us when we'd rather destroy a relationship over politics and ideology. Please forgive me if I got anything wrong above. Thank you Jesus for making things clear for those that want to see and hear. Love God, love others. Those are our 1 and 2 mandates. Every other law and concern and correct thing to do hangs on that 1,2. As we meet more with friends and family, Holy Spirit, will you raise us up above the rhetoric of the far left and far right. May we best change and encourage hears with Truth and not yelling and screaming. For that listener, right now, you are putting hard-hearted people on their minds. May they be encouraged, that if you can turn Saul the Hater and Killer into Paul the lover and Christ follower, you can do that with anyone. With you, heart by heart, we can make this country and world a better place until it is our time to leave this broken planet. To be in a world of no more tears, no more hate, no more sickness. Thank you for that promise Jesus, in our name we pray to shine your love and clarity. Amen.

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So we have been talking a lot lately about how you matter. Whether you are a skeptic and not sure of all this or Super Christian Boy that has been going to church for 50 years, you matter. You are not done yet. Ironically, the skeptic may be in a better position to grow. The skeptic may actually have better vision as they are seeing things different for the first time. Where the older believers could very well be stuck in routine and a comfort zone of fade or complacency.

Thank you Dr. Lorrits. Welcome back to the 'Play of the Day'. If you would like to hear more on that message check out the 'Bryan Lorrits Podcast', that one is entitled "Sign Posts to Destiny '' published on the 17th of May 2021.

Honestly, "I'm Good" is one of the most dangerous phrases you can use. You are not good. At least not all the time. In fact, you are flawed and in fact for that one in your life that thinks their poop doesn't stink, share Rom 3:23 with them.

If you back up one episode, you'll hear BW talk about the importance of "Training Your Mind". If you didn't listen to that, please do. I don't care how good or smart you think you are. We need to train everyday. There is a battle over your and my mind each day. If you want to stay in Marathon shape for your mind and soul then you must train. You must read and listen and journal almost every day. The Owner's Manual for life will guide you from 9 to 90+. Legit.

The Owner's Manual for Life will give you Vision for every single part of your life: worry, anxiety, money, marriage, loved ones, children, depression, sex, conflict resolution, work, rest. EVERYTHING!

On the flip side, it also explains ignorance...

Luke 6:39. New International Version ... He also told them this parable: “Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into a pit?

Mark 8:18, NIV: "Do you have eyes but fail to see, and ears but fail to hear? And don't you remember?"

So how often do you read the Owner's Manual for Life? Daily?

How often do you meet with a small group doing the same and discussing it and how it applies to life?

How often do you gather with similar people and start writing down your Vision and strengths and discovering what you should do for the rest of your life?

As pledged before, we are in the Hope and Encouragement business. If you don't have that yet, hit us up at FriDudes.com and we'll get you set up.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for Vision. Holy Spirit, thank you for tugging on this listener's heart that there is room for improvement. Thank you for tugging on this listener's heart that there is someone else they can share with this and also encourage. Until our time is done here and depression and anxiety is no more, we will keep going. Keep Shining. Keep encouraging others and building them up via Christ. For we are flawed and why we need a Saviour for this frustrating broken planet and beyond. Amen.

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BW is back and bringing another Holy Ghost nugget! We all need nuggets of wisdom. We also all need to train our minds. We all have flaws...even the best you know. They pretend they are perfect and they are not. Check it out, BW and the Owner's Manual for Life...

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Yes! You are in. You matter. You absolutely do. That includes you tuning in from Germany, Hungary, Russia, The Philippines, America. You matter. It is also your job in life to tune into why. I'm loving this series and based on you sharing it with others that could use some hope and encouragement, you do too! Thank you! Here's your next 'Play of the Day'.

Word! Wisdom, it is worth more than gold. How many of us are truly pursuing wisdom? How many books do you read encourage wisdom? How many of those books are 2,000 to several thousand years old and still resonate today? Many call it, including me, the Owner's Manual for Life. Most consider the Bible just a book of fairy tales. For the wise, they know better. Pastor Rick and countless others are living, breathing examples of that. Flawed people tuning into wisdom.

So, back to you. In order to know you matter, you need to read, see and hear things that affirm that. If you are not doing it already, I'll challenge you to read the Bible daily. Start with 5 minutes a day. Start John or Matthew. If you are really digging wisdom go to Proverbs.

Validation will fuel your matter index. As Pastor Rick states, you will raise fulfillment levels by employing your experiences - good and bad. Who better to help empathize with someone that has experienced a similar bad/traumatic experience: from losing a child, to sexual abuse, to war, to addiction, cancer, depression fill in the B.S. sandwich. This world is full of brutal. It will test the best of us. And the best of us will share what worked/works in life and doesn't.

You need coaches. You also need to coach/serve others. That is a key part and test of life. Will you check your pride/ego and seek both sides of that test? I guarantee you that you will feel better the more you do that. In fact, it's not my promise, it is God's promise, check Romans 8:28.

Thank you Pastor Rick Warren for another gold nugget of wisdom. If you would like to hear that entire message, check out Daily Hope, "Employing Your Experiences - Part 3" published on the 11th of April 2021.

Ending on a prayer note, Thank you Heavenly Father for your wisdom and calling on those to write it down. Thank you for this listener tuning in. Thank you for this listener sharing this listen and encouraging someone else that needs it. Holy Spirit, put the names on this listeners heart that they need to reach out and build up. Listener, write those names down and go for it! In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.

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If you are a parent, you need to hear this. If you are a kid, I love it that you are hearing this. You matter. You absolutely do. Here is a 'Play of the Day' examining thriving vs. depressing and what works.
Thank you Dr. Drew and Michele Borba for that captivating analysis. As we go into Mother's Day, Moms, I can guarantee that resonated with most of you. The mother's heart can be such a special thing. Giving thanks to God for those Moms and positive female mentors out there that love on these kids. My wife and the mother of our kids is absolutely amazing. Anyone that knows Lori, knows that. I may talk a good game, but my kids naturally go to their Mom first...and for good reason. She is action in love. As for my Mom, I love you Mama Mia. If you dig these podcasts then my Mom, gets some credit. She encouraged me in Christ so long ago. Moms and Dads that will be one of your greatest gifts you can give them. Encourage them in Christ. If they get Christ, then the kids know they matter, they know they have a purpose.
So going a bit Deeper, I find it fascinating when a secular show and atheist discovers what the Bible tells us has worked all along. It is not by accident that they identified Faith as a key component. Going above self. Being able to rise above self-centeredness. Realizing there is a greater purpose. Realizing the more you serve and love others, the better you will feel. Knowing you were created with Purpose and your designer is far greater than any parent you could have on this earth. That is heart and mind changing. Maybe you had a good parent. They are still flawed.
So if there is a God, then you have a purpose. Then there is Hope. You were designed, flaws and all before you were born.
"I knew you before I formed you in the womb; I set you apart for me before you were born; Jeremiah 1:5
Ok, we are not going to solve all this in a 15 minute podcast. Hopefully it got you thinking more. If a skeptic, listen to the experts, there is something to this Faith and Purpose angle. Keep tuning in. More on the way.
If this is the first time you've heard this podcast and you are intrigued, back up to the previous episode of "You Matter: Unwrapping your Gifts"
Oh and to hear more from Dr. Drew and Michele Borba, check out the Dr. Drew Podcast, entitled 'Michele Borba', that one was published on the 29th of April, 2021.
Ending on a prayer note, if you are willing and able, here we go, Heavenly Father, thank you for wisdom. Thank you for insight. Thank you for Hope. May the listener know they are not listening to this by accident. They have a Purpose. You wired them with strengths. You make it clear in the Bible that is our job to tune in to you and ask. You are in the Hope and encouragement business. Hope vs. hopelessness, that is where some of these listeners find themselves at the crossroads. May they choose Hope. For some, part of your plan for them is they need to check their pride. I have and still do need to check my pride. Some of those listening will be healed instantly. Some still need to see a doctor or therapist. You teach us that it is okay to lean on others. It is how we learn and serve one another. Loving you Father and learning to love others the two greatest commandments you gave us via Jesus. It is the key to contentment. You didn't put us on this broken planet to be happy all the time. That isn't realistic. May the listener be freed in knowing that. Amen!

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Yes! You are in. Some of you need some encouragement today. If not you, then you know somebody that does. If worthy, please share. You matter. You absolutely matter. Doubt me? Here is your 'Play of the Day'...

Thank you Pastor Rick Warren for that epic play of the day. He has been crushing the ball lately out of the park with the recent Daily Hope series. If you liked that play of the day, there is a lot more there. That one came from "Unwrapping Your Spiritual Gifts - Part 2", published on 4/23/2021. Just search Daily Hope and you'll find it. You will also find a treasure trove of inspirational content before and after that episode on why God shaped you the way he did and following your heart and using your abilities.

For the avid listener to FriDudes, you know that we are in the Hope and encouragement business. We build each other up in this dojo. 1 Thes 5:11.

You also know that we have had a wave of depression, anxiety, especially with our youth. If that is you, you are absolutely not alone. You matter. You absolutely do. Don't believe the lies by others or those in your head. You matter. The sooner you realize that. The sooner you will see the Light and Hope.

Now, you have heard me often say, depression and related illnesses are as real as cancer. Some of you, even after you realize you matter, need therapy and possibly medication. Wherever you are at, I'm going to encourage you to make a major step for yourself and your loved ones. Assessment time, listen and answer these questions...

Do you know your strengths? Have you read the book Strength Finders and taken the quiz? That will help reveal how God wired you.

Are you part of a small group that encourages you?

If so, does your small group have an accountability tool, such as GtSurf.org, that holds you and them accountable? Do they know all your struggles and do you know theirs? Do you all know each other's strengths, goals, wishes and dreams? Have you written them down and shared them?

If you are not sure of any above, hit us up at FriDudes.com and we'll get you set up and matched with a group. Legit.

If you are not sure about this God thing, then I'll encourage you to take the challenge. Try above. I'm convinced that many that struggle are not living their true purpose via their strengths. If we did, we would have more people thriving, not just living, hopelessly. Hope is fuel. We all depend upon it.

BTW, stay tuned, more on this subject. We are not done yet. More secular and Faith sources confirming above.

Ending on a prayer note, "Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener. They are not hearing this by accident. Either you directed them here or another loved one did via your encouragement. It's mind boggling to think that you knew us before we were even born. You wired this listener with strengths. If they are not sure about you, you will show them more. For others that are further along, then may they know they need to move. Tuning into you daily and asking you, am I doing what you want me to do today? What am I missing? May they have clarity to do what you are blessing vs. just asking that you bless what they're doing. May they see that paradigm shift. As much as this world hurts, may they be free knowing that the more resistance they feel is merely an opportunity to be that much stronger. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.

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BW is back! Sharing what is heavy on his soul and spirit. Paving the path for others. Helping our leaders and the generation coming up.

Do you really want to help solve society's ills? Most do, truth, they just don't want the actual solution to solve the problems.

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Deeper is back. Casey is back. Here's a subject that most love - SEX! However, most don't like to take a Biblical view of it. Why? Because it will convict pretty much everyone listening to this. Why? We are all flawed. Rom 3:23
This is such a serious and meaningful subject that I'm going to put a larger preface on this one.
First of all, let's start with my confession. I wrestle with parts of the Bible. If you have listened long enough, you know that I can grabble with 7 literal days vs. what is a day to God. God is not bound by human time. I grapple with the flood, Jonah and the fish. Moving ahead, I can get side tracked with parts of the New Testament. For example, it talks about how to treat slaves, women as pastors, etc. Controversial stuff, especially in this day and age. Check Eph 6, 1 Cor 14, 1 Tim 3.
We are a bunch of flawed Dudes, getting real and seeking Truth. We are not going to pretend it isn't written. We will not sugar coat.
A flashpoint for many is homosexuality. If you are homosexual, for the record, know that I care about you. I have no hate for you. I have love for you and will encourage you with Truth the best I can. As one of my favorite speakers, Pastor Bill Bohline, since retired, from Hosannalc.org once said, may we all meet at the foot of the cross. Homosexual or heterosexual or whatever sexual, we are all flawed.
As much as some can pick on homosexuals, here is a counterbalance. Heterosexual men, so many of you that are judgmental, did you know that Bible says that even if you look at a woman with lustful eyes that you commit adultery. Matt 5: 27-28. That pretty much wipes us all out. I'm not just talking porn either. If you look at a woman too long in a bar or at the beach or __________. You're guilty. So let's get off our high horse.
Moving forward, as you listen to Casey. First and foremost listen to how he opens. He picks on himself. When he continues on, just know he is reading from the Bible including what it says about marriage. You can wrestle with that like I do with the other stuff.
Lastly, how do I overcome wrestling with all of the above? The Big Story. Love is greatest of all. Love God and loving others (including those you do not align with in a sexual or any other sense is our mandate). Matt 22: 36-40. We are told to pray for our enemies. To do kind things for them not just the ones you like. If we are all flawed, then we all need the promise of Jesus, John 14:6. That's the Truth Ruth. Without further adieu, Casey...

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Thanks for joining another BW Holy Ghost Nugget. Some of you love grudges. Grudges are poison pills you choose to take in hopes the other person dies first. Grudges and hate are passion. In essence, some of your a dedicating too much passion to the person that hurt you.

BW takes on the subject and importance of forgiveness. If you call yourself a "Christian", then you should know this challenging verse...

14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Matt 6: 14-15

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Yes! You are in. The Dudes are back! The play of the day is back! Frustrated with this world? More gut check and looking in the mirror time. Here you go...

Word! So are you frustrated with this World? Frustrated with a neighbor or friend or sibling? Of course you are. It's part of life. No matter what is your gender, which brother do you identify with right now? Are you broken and in need of change? Or is your chest puffed out, sitting on your high horse looking down? Ironically, you will be both and somewhere in between for most of your life.

For those newer or maybe it is just time to revisit, mass shootings and injustice continue. We've tackled these subjects. Just go back and listen to previous episodes. Do we really want thee solution? Hint: it's not politicians and new laws. It starts in the heart. One needs loving hearts to follow laws. We have serious moral and mental health issues to solve. I'm convinced most just want to complain. What are you doing about it? Are you on a high horse looking down? Are you loving your neighbors? Are you loving the ones in which you disagree? Are you praying for your enemies? So counterintuitive, yet that is exactly what Jesus tells us to do. Check Matt 5:44. Actually check all of Matt 5 and beyond.

Special thanks to Dr. Lorrits again. We'll keep highlighting your messages of inspiration if you will let us. The challenge for me is choosing which soundbyte of his to highlight. He is crushing the ball right now. I highly encourage you to check out the rest of that message and also beyond. Go to the Bryan Lorrits podcast. That episode is called "A Dad and Two Lost Sons", younger son view, published on 3/30/21.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener, thank you for Dr. Lorrits, thank you for the contributing FriDudes, thank you for the freedom of an open dialog without attacking one another. Forgive me Father when I'm the son that sits on a high horse and judges and condemns, failing to see my hypocrisy and bitter heart. On the flip side, forgive me when I'm the other son that went rogue. I'm flawed. All of us listening to this right now are flawed and guilty of being both up high looking down and down looking up. Thank you for the solution of your son Jesus Christ. Thank you for being that Father that will welcome us back, despite our stupidity. May we shine your Light properly coming out of this and going forward loving and encouraging others the best we can, in the name of Jesus. Amen!

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Yes! You are in. Frustrated with social unrest? Me too. We need more BW's. Tuning and transforming our hearts and minds for the greater Good. Could you imagine our society and world if we had more BW's? We are in the Hope and encouragement business. Here you go...

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Yes! BW is back with another Holy Ghost nugget. Do you dare to believe? Making things new. Easter may be done, making things new keeps going. You may scoff, you may doubt or flat out reject. If not you, then you definitely know somebody. Your choice. If in the doubtful category, go back and check BW's testimony: before and after. Who has a stronger life? Who has been redeemed and has Hope like never before? Easy to debate God, very, very hard to argue results. Without further adieu, here is BW...

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Good FriDudes? Sometimes. These guys are bringing it today. Going old school again. Reading and reacting. Matt 26 and the events leading up to the betrayal and brutality and eventual miracle of why a billion+ people recognize the importance Easter weekend, here you go...

Word! Thanks for making it in. Bonus recap. If this is the first time you have heard that reading or simply not sure about this, thank you for giving us a listen. May I recommend checking out the book by a former ardent and pretty ticked off atheist named Lee Strobel. Lee is a former investigative reporter for the Chicago Tribune. He set out to prove this all wrong. The results? Check out the book "Case for Christ".

If you have not accepted Christ and ready to make that leap, will you repeat after me, "Father, I don't understand all this. I would like to understand it better like these Dudes. If G can get that versed in a year, so can I. Will you help me see what I need to see, help me better understand the Bible when I read it, better hear what I need to hear. Jesus, I'll take a chance on your promise in John 3:16. That whosoever believe in you shall have eternal life. I want eternal life in heaven with my loved ones. This broken planet hurts. It is frustrating. Today, I received a better understanding of the betrayal, hurt and suffering that you endured for me. Thank you! Amen!

There you go! Welcome to the family. If you are already in, how are you at selling this? Welcoming others in? There is always room for improvement. Will you be bold enough to share this? Do you share Hope or hate? We FriDudes are in the Hope and encouragement business. Thanks for joining. Now go, love, serve, share the Hope of Jesus.

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Yes! You are in. FriDudes are back to the basics for this round, going old school simply reading and reacting. You frustrated with religion? Hypocrites? We jump in mid stream with Bold Brian reading Matt 21 and the challenges to follow. Well, perfect, here you go!!

Thank you Bold Brian. You definitely could narrate books. Thank you Jogging Jesus and G and One&Done and Quip and HotRod for your contributions for this round. BTW, there is more. We get into sex later into that recording. I'm saving that for after Easter. Yes, sometimes sex has to wait as some of you painfully know.

Ending on a prayer note, Bold Brian caps this one off, keep tuning in, read Matt for yourself, hope you make it a great week...

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Brother Willie, BW is back with another Holy Ghost nugget. So if you dig, more to come! This is called 'Jesus Misses Nothing', good or bad. Jesus sees the hurts and struggles in your life. You ask why. Even Jesus asked why. He suffered brutally for you and me. The more you tune in, the more that will become clear. Anyway, less of me, more of BW! Here you go...

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Yes, you are in. St. Patrick's day is over. Some of you were hungover. Been there and done that. If you are an avid listener, we are a bunch of flawed dudes pursuing Truth.

Vision leaks. Truth gets distorted. We humans love to do that. We twist and turn Truth to fit our agendas. What we've done with St Patrick is an excellent example of that. Some of you knew that. Most still think it is meant to be a day of luck and getting f'd up. As said in the opener, if you think I'm trying to rip on you, I have been there and done that. On this front, I can't point fingers. I can just share the Truth.

Source: https://www.history.com/topics/st-patricks-day/who-was-saint-patrick

Here's the deal. When you stand up for Truth. You are most likely going to get knocked down. You will be mocked. You may be persecuted especially when it goes against the ways of the world. That is the truth Ruth! Check Matt 5 and pretty much the whole Bible.

Here's the deal. Do you share Truth in a loving way or an arrogant way? There is a big difference. There is a reason one of our top episodes is the Fringe: Thou Shall Not Be a Dick.

Just know this, If you share Truth in a loving way and are mocked, now you have a feel of what Jesus walked through. Ponder that.

Ending on a song note, this is 'Stand My Ground' by Zach Williams. I'll confess this from a self-proclaimed people pleaser, this is much easier said than done. So if you do stumble, cower or flinch, give thanks for the grace, mercy and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. You will not stand ground without his Strength. Give Zach some love and add this to your 'Standing Your Ground'; play list, now go, love others, share Truth in a loving way, serve them in a loving way, the more you do that, the more likely they'll be open to Truth...

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Yes! You are in. You live long enough on this earth, you will get wounded by betrayal...especially by those you love and trust. And yes, some of those people call themselves "Christians". Here is the next of what Brother Willie calls Holy Ghost Nuggets...it's real, it's raw, it takes a hard look at the church...here you go...

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Yes! You are in! Whether you believe in God or not, you are wired to worship someone or something. That is the Truth Ruth! Here is your Play of the Day!

Word! Thank you Dr. Bryan Lorrits, he just keeps crushing those balls out of the park. Plays of the Days - earned. Legit! You can find more of that Play of the Day at the 'Bryan Lorrits Podcast'. That Play came from "God at Work: Making History in Babylon (Part 5 of 6) published on the 8th of March 2021. Shout out to ALCF in Mountain View, CA.

Thank you Casey aka Jogging Jesus for the prayer note. Special thanks to Bold Brian, G, Quip, HotRod and others for your contributions. If you would like to join us, have a question, doubt, subject, play of the day nomination? Hit us up at FriDudes.com

Ending on a song note, we are going to end with our current open hook in its entirety. Special thanks to Casting Crowns, this is "Start Right Here". Please give them some love and add it to your Life Soundtrack. If you agree about starting right here, if you are sick and tired of seeing churches spinning their wheels, all show and no go. We are about Go. FriDudes is all about Go. All about recognizing the voices that are pursuing Truth and real world impact with Hearts striving to be like Jesus. We are about being the church on Monday too and Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Loving God, loving others. Real, Jesus-changed hearts in action...

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Yes! You are in and thank you for joining this rag-tag bunch of flawed Dudes pursuing Truth. Dr. Lorrits is back and gets the 'Play of the Day' once again. You really want change?! Here you go...

Most of us are passionate about change. Some of us for our own lives. Most of us for others' lives. We'll change laws and remove books in order to try and do it. Make no mistake, Dr. Lorrits is 100% correct. You will not see true change without the heart. You are fooling yourself. Whether you believe in God or not, you are not changing anything without heart. To the trivial, you won't quit smoking unless your heart wants it. You absolutely won't eliminate racism and other forms of hate without changing the hearts. For so many that mock the Bible, that is exactly what it says. Love is greatest of all. Hate is the opposite of Love. Check 1 Cor 13:13.

On a micro level, back to you, G and GtSurf.org will tell you the same. AA will tell you the same. You are not changing anything in your life without a change of heart.

Christians, before you puff your chest out too much, Vaquero Guapo will tell you to keep yourself in check. When in doubt, go back to the Fringe episodes. Love is kind. Love does not boast. Back to 1 Cor 13: 4-8.

We must love each other. You want to build a bridge to someone? Love and love means way more than words, it means action. Do kind things for your neighbors and strangers. Do that enough and you will build bridges. You will see change in you and them. Check James 2: 14-26.

Oh, of course, shout out to Dr. Bryan Lorrits. If you haven't yet, you must add him to your listen/reflection list. You can find him by searching the Bryan (with a Y) Lorrits Podcast. Thank you Dr. Lorrits! Thank you God for working through Him.

Ending on a prayer note, Heavenly Father, thank you for this listener. Please let them know they are not here by accident. Holy Spirit tug on their hearts where they need/want change. Maybe it is less hate. Less jealousy. Less frustration. Less addiction. More Joy. More Peace. More Wisdom. More Truth. More Hope! In Jesus name we pray and ask for this Father, Amen.

Ending on a song note, what Dr. Lorrits says is 'Undeniable' at least for this rag tag group. This is 'Undeniable' by Josh Wilson. It's been 2,000 years and hearts still change. Please add this to your "Heart Change" playlist. One heart at a time, that is how we will rally our neighborhood, society, country and world. Now, go, check your heart, love more...

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"Man of La Mancha" - Impossible Dream - Opener! What's impossible? For anything is possible with God. Matt 19:26

Yes! More BW! Brother Willie bringing it again and not holding back. Getting real. Pursuing Truth.

Part 1 Recap, went through a tough childhood, growing up in Baton Rouge, LA. To moving to Milwaukee, getting reunited with your birth dad that unfortunately encouraged you down the wrong path of drinking and crack. Your brother was brutally shot and you find yourself needing to move away from your birth dad and get away for a healthier life. This is where we pick up. If you did not listen to Part 1, please do so. It is riveting.

Word, thank you Brother Willie! Bold, brave, real and raw, pursuing Truth. Are you catching the common denominator of where BW and others were hopeless to hope? Note what works. Avoid what doesn't. Jesus works.

Ending on a song note, what I love about BW is he opens my mind and heart to what else is out there. I didn't even know Kirk Franklin until BW shared it. Here it is 'Conquerors' by Kirk Franklin. Give Kirk and his family some love and add it to your 'Hope and what you need to Conquer' play list...now go, love others, share what works, share Jesus...

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Getting real and raw with this Brother's testimony. Brother Willie makes his debut. He is one of my favorite encouragers. He definitely walks it like he talks it and does not hold back. Buckle up!

The theme resonates again as another tough childhood converts to Hope. Why? Oh BW, will tell you. We already have BW's Holy Ghost Nuggets waiting in the wings. For now, we tackle his testimony so you can get to know this man, my brother and yours, that I love and appreciate so much.

There's a lot more coming from BW. Here you go...Part 1 of as many as he needs...

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Yes! Friends. Some say friends are the family that you choose. Truth, most friends are shallow. An elite few are special, in other words DEEP, you can discuss anything. They know your good, bad and ugly. Maybe some of you need more of those friends/brother or sisterhood, here is your 'Play of the Day'.

Word! So good. Special thanks to the Southside Rabbi for the inspiration. If dug that 'Play of the Day', you can find more of them at the 'Southside Rabbi'. That particular episode was "Friendship and Intimacy", Season 1, Episode 8, published on the 26th of November, 2019.

So, looking in the mirror. How are your friendships? Do they know you're good, bad and ugly side? Do they know your struggles? Do you know theirs? Or are you on that fake Love Boat riding on shallow. Are you getting your fulfillment from Fakebook or Instabrag or sincere, looking each other in the eyes, intimate relationships. And as Casey astutely pointed out, not sexually intimate. Soul intimate.

To be blunt, I am done with conversations such as "My marriage is in trouble, we are getting divorced." What?! I had no idea. You never said anything. You two alway put up a front that all was 'good' or 'fine'. WTF?

Get Real and Pursue Truth. If don't have that group, put one together. Hit us up at FriDudes.com.

Lastly, if you have the friends that you love and just want deeper and not sure how to go about it. Here's my tip. Be real. Tell them how much they mean to you. If they are not into Jesus yet, simply meet them where they are at. Then tell them, "I'm nervous to share this. I care about you. I don't want shallow friendships. I want to be real. And I want you to be comfortable to trust me with your real. I know you doubt this God stuff. Just know, if heaven is real, I don't just want to be friends on this broken planet. I would love to be friends for eternity. That is how important you are to me.

If they rebuff you, they are not a true/deep friend. I'm sorry. It's true. Doesn't mean you give up on them. Just means they are not ready for Deep and real. So, you keep going and praying for who they are. Got it? Get it? Good!

Ending on a song note, Jonathan Traylor cracking the FriDudes playlist. "I Trust You". A great song especially when life isn't going according to your plan. When you have the Oh Snap moment that you need to trust God with his plan despite the brutal and/or frustration. Taking it one step further, you need friends you can trust. Ones that you can go deep and be not afraid they will talk behind your backs. So ponder that and give some love to Jonathan Traylor and add this to your I need to trust more 'PlayList", now go, find those selected few you can trust, confess, live life, get DEEPer...

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Yes! You are in and about to hear one of our most listened to episodes. This is back in June 2020 but don't let that throw you. One of my favorite things from 2020. It's timeless. What does Joker, Jon, Maya and many of you have in common? A tough childhood. Maybe you didn't. Serious wisdom from Jon. Listen or listen again, absorb, here you go...

Do you really want to solve the ills of our society? Tune into what works.

Are you married and want a fulfilling marriage that will last? Be an example for your kids? Tune into what works.

Had a tough childhood and want to be a stronger parent for your kids? Tune into what works.

If any of this resonates, that is exactly what we tackle in this listen. If you dig, will you please share?

Change starts in the heart. For Love is greatest of all.

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Despair = Suffering without meaning. A lot of despair out there on this broken planet. Lack of meaning is absolutely out there. Many of us put our Faith into things like social media or people who in time will let us down. Money? Never enough for most. Do you really want wisdom and understanding and Hope? Listen to these flawed Dudes pursuing Truth and shining it. First, back to the 'Play of the Day' and then more of their reaction...

Thank you HotRod and his wild ride. He also brings up an excellent point that suffering does come from the enemy or it can come from your own actions or lack of them. God will use that suffering to develop you if you let Him. Thank you Quip for sharing the pressure of the rat race vs. a true decision to follow God. Your way vs. God's way. Thank you One&Done aka Re-Quote and the call to action. Thank you Jogging Jesus aka Casey and Deep takes. to be frank, I don't know many more versed than him yet truly walking it. I know a lot of people versed yet in pharisee/judgement mode. I know you do too. In fact that is what pushed many of you away from church. Lastly, thank you G and bringing in the average of 6,000 thoughts per day. That is a lot crap and hopefully some profound. Are you walking it and not just talking?

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Yes! You are in for more perspective. FriDudes speak up on suffering. You are either suffering right now or you know someone that is. You are not alone. We tackle depression and suffering. Here is part 1 of 2.

Thank you FriDudes and thank you for joining. Thank you Pastor Ricky Jenkins of Southwestchurch.com. If you digged that 'Play of the Day' you can find more of him and his styling, musings, perspectives and wisdom. That one originated from Keep the Faith: Week 4. Published on the 25th of January 2021.

Wrapping on a Deeper thought, if you had kids would you want them to be Hopeful or Hopeless? Yes, rhetorical, yet I truly believe we don't give that question enough attention. The FriDudes are in the Hope and encouragement business. As many slam the Bible, it sells hope. It explains exactly why we suffer. It also explains the greatest of the greatest will suffer.

Some of you are suffering unfairly. That may even be an understatement. Did Jesus suffer unfairly? You have something in common. Jesus experienced one of the worst deaths imaginable and didn't deserve it.

Suffering without meaning equals despair. If despair lingers too long it becomes depression. If depression lingers too long you get dark voices in your head to kill yourself. Please, I beg of you, do not listen to those dark voices. Recognize them for their darkness and get help. Reach out to a Christian church. If they are the right church, they will have compassion and resources or at least can direct you to a strong therapist. If they don't, avoid that church. it most likely means they went dark too. That may sound a bit harsh yet true. A properly tuned in Christian church will serve and love like Jesus.

If you had cancer, you would get treatment. If you have an unbearable toothache, you go to a dentist. If your depression persists, especially to the point of wanting to take your or someone else's life, you need to see a pastor and therapist. Make sure they are Christian. Make sure they are in the hope and encouragement business as well.

Truth, many of you in despair go to alcohol or drugs to lift. Temporary short cuts is what they are. They mask and only accelerate that depression. You ever notice they are never enough? Maybe for an instant, yet we always want more.

Suffering with meaning = Hope. Knowing this broken planet isn't it is a massive relief. Your choice. Your perspective to go after Truth.

Do we really want Truth? Or does our pride get in the way that we really, really, really don't want to be wrong. We overplay the latter. We triple down on stubbornness on argue with others doing the same thing on social media.

More Truth means more of the Owner's Manual. Whether you are Deep or not, there is always room for improvement. Read James 1 to better understand suffering. Proverbs for wisdom. Matt, Mark, Luke and John to really know Jesus

Despite the pain, we strive to make the most of this life and loving others. Someday, you will actually see and feel the world and promise explained in Revelation 21:4, Revelation 21:4, KJV: "And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away." For now, we press on. We encourage others. Don't always assume 'all is good' with your loved ones or that stranger. If you lack the words, share this episode if you feel worthy. When in doubt, speak up and encourage someone else. This is Lauren Daigle and Rescue...

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Yes! Deeper is back. You want to go Deeper. You are in the right place. We believe God led you to this podcast and at least this episode. You matter. You absolutely matter. Often, we need patience and discovery in order to realize that. We absolutely need encouraging voices. 1 Thes 5:11 exists for a reason. When and to whom you get the pull, would you share this episode with someone else that matters to you?

If God can do this amazing work through a guy that once was a 'special ed kid', imagine what God can do through you.

BTW, this message was given to High School Ministries at Hosanna, Shakopee, MN on 1/27/21.

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PAUSE, film review. For those stubborn like me, who say I lease for this tax advantage and I borrow and have never missed a payment and still want more...

Please be honest to yourself here...at least for those married Has your marriage or life gotten better or worse as your houses got larger and you accrued more stuff? Has your marriage gotten better or worse as your vehicles have become nicer? Has your marriage gotten better or worse as you work more hours? I don’t want your short-term answer either. I want your long-term answer. If you just moved to a new, huge home, you have another honeymoon phase…for awhile. Sooner or later, we want more.

Some of the worst dads I know are traveling CEO’s. Oh, they certainly provide financially. Big time in most cases. But they are poverty poor in the relationship department. Many are so successful on the business or fame front, but are colossal failures on the relationship front. I’ll never forget the college kid I hired as a summer intern. His dad was a CEO at a major healthcare company. They attended church each week. He and his brother and sister attended excellent schools. They had the best. They grew up in a huge house out in the country with a bunch of land. He also told me that his dad was gone all the time. He really didn’t have a dad growing up. He later stated that his dad’s job was his family – not them.

So some of you are saying, “Hey, at least he grew up rich!”. Yes, he did grow up monetarily rich. He also grew up relationship poor. What dream exactly are we chasing in the United States? Is our dream to really keep up with the Kardashians and have broken relationship after broken relationship?

Do we really want things at the cost of our most important relationships? At the end of life, they don’t talk about all your things at a funeral. They may fight about them. They certainly don’t list them all and hand them out like a corporate annual report at the funeral. They reflect on how good of human being the person was (spouse, parent, citizen, servant).

If money guaranteed happiness, Hollywood would be the mecca for the best marriages and families. If that was true, nobody would divorce there, right?!

May we find that truth. Let’s go!

Questions for Quality Couple Time/Date Night...

Do you fight about money?
Do you work off of a budget of 10/10/80 (10% give, 10% save, 80% spend)?
Can your family survive on one income? What would happen if your family income was cut in half?

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2008 going into 2009, BOOM! If you want a history lesson, watch the 'Big Short' movie for a crucial history lesson. The entire United States financial infrastructure almost melted down. Prior to the collapse, I wasn't paying much attention. I was wondering how people earning far less than us were affording these big houses. Turns out the banks were handing out mortgages (mainly not qualified) like they were candy (insuring and selling them off to another who would insure them and then sell them off to another...repeat and repeat and repeat.. In my naivete, I was thinking the housing market was never going to go down. Prices kept going up...Little to my knowledge then, fueled by faulty mortgages. Me, being the financial genius (tongue in cheek), bought near the peak (my latest properties). Collapse. Wells Fargo, Bank of America, JP Morgan Chase, Citi and the other big banks and investment firms, General Motors, AIG and many other 'Too Big to Fail' got their bail out. No bail out for this total fool.

PAUSE, further film review, I went from sole provider with a very comfortable living to owning and borrowing for a lot of crap. After the Great Recession I went to about 50% of the cash flow to cover it. BTW, that includes Lori’s job! Worse yet, when times got tough, I neglected finances. Put my head in the sand. My ignorance/recklessness almost destroyed our marriage. In fact, I'm still not out of the woods yet. The rest of the story will be shared someday. For now, I had to make some painful changes. Lori 'chose' to stick with me for poorer. In this day and age, that is not easy. You may even say it is rare. Heck, even when you're the richest couple in the world (see the Bezos/Amazom.com) they divorced. When I have my A game, I give thanks for her everyday and ask here "What can I do for you today?". For those that know Lori, she is a beautiful woman. This was not her fault. She easily could have divorced me and found a much wealthier man that could give her that big house and new vehicle.

Pause: film review, mark my words. If Lori and I didn't have Jesus Christ as our foundation, all those Sunday sermons and our blessed couples' small group, we would not be married today. Check Matt 7: 24-27.

So for those versed and Deeper, you know the Bible (the Owner's Manual) says, if you are in debt, you are slave to the lender. Proverbs 22:7 (NIV), “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.” You don't feel like a slave when times are good and you can pay everything monthly and have surplus left. Try missing some payments, compound interest can be a bitch and you don't own jack sh#!

Pause, film review. For those striving to save and give more, compound interest rates can be your best friend or your worst enemies. You ever notice which buildings are the tallest in your cities? Whose names are on the majority of the stadiums: Wells Fargo, Bank of America, Chase, etc. All fueled by the power of compound interest rates that drive your loans. As long as you pay your bills, they will lend you more. More money for them, less money for you. BTW, if you think this is some side tangent of hate for financial institutions, wrong. Some of you work for them. Just be wise. Understand they are in the business to make money. The more you borrow, compound interest rates can build you a 'Hell Scraper'. Gulp, I don't know. What is the opposite of a sky scraper?

Back to my mess...

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FriDudes: “We Have a Dream”

Special play of the day goes to MLK!
You into racial harmony, welcome to the FriDudes family.
If you are into loving others, you are in the right place.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. is one of my favorite speakers ever. A Christian pastor. Sure he was flawed like you and me. God has clearly gifted this man to speak. It still brings tears to my eyes to this day.
You want to heal this country and world. It starts in the heart

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Yes! You are in. Most people, really, really like money. Many love it. To be frank, I've made too many mistakes on this front. Some of you have already heard this testimony. For some of you this will be the first time. It's a painful lesson of mine that will help some of you that like to spend like...I used to...especially our young adults as they become earners.
First, a 'Play of the Day' by Dr. Lorrits on the importance of reviewing game film. Whether you are an athlete or not, you will get this. You play over and over in your head some successes, yet mainly the failures in your own life. Here is a new way for some of you to look at the importance of your failures. Mine included...
I love that Dr. Bryan Lorrits, if you would like to hear more of him. Check out the 'Bryan Lorrits' Podcast. That's Bryan with a 'Y". That excerpt came from '2020: The Year We Must Never Forget', published on 1/4/2021.
Ok, you ready for some dirt? First, notice the tagline of FriDudes. "Getting Real. Pursuing Truth." Part of getting Real is talking about what doesn't work in life. Pretending your life is perfect is... FAKE. As Dr. Lorrits astutely points out, the wise will learn from their failures. For the wise, there are no wasted experiences. God will absolutely use your failures if you seek Him. Check Rom 8:28.
I recall seeing a recent episode of 'My 600 Pound Life', if you are not familiar with that show it follows overweight people trying to get healthier. Thinking to myself, oh wow, I'm glad I'm not that person. Of course, a quick heart check and a pull and it comes to my mind, I do have or at least had a 600 pound life...financially.
Truth, most of us have a 600 pound life somewhere. It could be physically or debt or a sucky marriage and infidelity or an addiction to work, money, boos, porn, social media, or politics or anger management or _____________. Here is my 600 pound life with debt...

Do as your Country does...The American Dream...Debt

For Rich or for Richer?

For Poor or Poorer?

By the way, remember when I said we are all flawed. I am definitely flawed.

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Yes! Yes you are back for more Deeper and Stronger. I love it! Now You get super extra credit points for clicking on a podcast that relates to Fasting, part 2. Which I thought was weird and a waste of time. Be prepared to be inspired for a deeper/stronger way...

Thanks for joining for Part 2. So what do you think? Give it a go? Crawl, walk or run? Start with a 24 hour? Scared? Ok, don't forget that I once that this was dumb. Maybe start with missing lunch. Grow from there. Every time you think of food, lift a prayer for someone. Every time you think of food, reach out to someone via text or a call and give them some love and encouragement.

On the flip side, maybe you are the fasting master. Encourage someone else. Share the benefits. Share the greater Hope and Light of Jesus Christ. If you are not sure what to say, share this...if you feel so worthy. You can use weird dudes as the ice breaker.

There are health benefits to healthy fasting. Get ready for additional spiritual benefits. If further intrigued, check out the blog post "Fasting: That Sounds Weird" at FriDudes.com. You can find that in the 'Blog' section and dated. August 31,2020

Ending on a song note, where to go today. Are you too comfortable, too scared to walk out of this tomb? Rise Up by by Cain. If you dig, please give Cain some love and add it to your 'Fasting/Stronger/Deeper' Play List. Now go, lift the negatives, build some more spiritual muscle, pray about what you don't like about your country and life, give thanks for what you do like about it, fast for answers and insight, boldly ask for wisdom, let's grow!

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Yes! Yes to you that are pushing for Deeper and Stronger. I love it! You already get extra credit points for clicking on a podcast that relates to 'Fasting'. Which I thought was weird and a waste of time. Be prepared to be inspired for a deeper/stronger way...

Thanks for joining for Part 1. Good, you want more? Intrigued, Part 2 on its way. Unless you are listening to this later in the year and going in reverse order.

Ending on a song note, you want to feel younger. Try fasting. You want more energy. Try fasting. You want to feel closer to God. Ha! Yep, try fasting. We are the Young Gunz yeah. A fire in our soul let's light it up. This is "Young Gunz" by...yep, Social Club Misfits. Casey may not love Hip Hop but he is a Young Gun...at least to me. I just strive to stay fit and when I do, I definitely feel younger. If you dig, add this to our "Deeper/Strong" playlist, now go, fast, treat your body better, feel better, get closer to God...

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Yes! You are in! Buckle up! Going back to Dr. Lorrits and an amazing 'Play of the Day' recorded before the latest crap hit the fan in DC. Here you go...

If you dig the Play of the Day, check out the Bryan Lorrits podcast. This one was published on 1/4/21

Word! Who or what is your King Uzziah? Some of you don't know because it hasn't been threatened yet. Some of you painfully know what it is now as it or he or she is gone now and you are in a tailspin.

BTW, you think I'm picking on you but I pick on me. We are all guilty of this at times. All of us. Rom 3:23. For me, finances was one of the areas. I'll be sharing more on that, most likely in the next Stronger series.

As for politics or whatever you are fighting about with your spouse or a family member or co-worker or stranger, please listen to the wise. If you call yourself a "Christian', Jesus Christ gave you a clear mandate in Matt 22: 25-40 and Mark 12: 28-34:

36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

You follow Jesus words and you will be fighting a lot less. Love and serving one another is the key for your marriage to work, any key relationship you care about to work and for any kingdom to survive.

Ending on a song note, going back to Jeremy Camp and 'Out of My Hands". When your cage gets rattled, when worry/anxiety/depression bogs you down. Lift Phil 4: 6-8. Lift and pray on what you can't control. Give thanks for what is worthy. If you do this enough, you will experience God's peace. Now go, reflect on what are your King Uzziah's in life, take it to the ultimate source God, love God, love others...and remember God wins in the end...pick the winning side...

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Yes! You are in. We forge ahead with Stronger. Weight loss plans all over the ads and for obvious reasons. Most of us weigh our heaviest this time of year. Here is your play of the day.

Whether you want to weigh less or more. Eat better or less. Drink less. Whatever goal that can make you healthier. I bet if you try Dr. Leman's recommendation, you would be 10X more likely to succeed. Now, I know that would be extremely embarrassing for most of us. So, take my earlier advice, share it with a few trusted confidants that will be sure to encourage you long after January.

For those that believe in God, fact check. Did God put you on this earth to punish your body? I think we can call that a rhetorical question. So, how are you doing taking care of that body God gave you? For you that are Deeper, you know the importance of nutrition in Daniel. God gave us perfect foods. Just like everything else, we humans twist and process everything to the point it hurts us.

If you are overweight or an addict, of course God still loves you. Don't let this turn into a negative. We are into fact checks here. You and I have something that we can do stronger to honor our God and this life and body that has been gifted to us.

Now, for those that do search Dr. Leman, you may say to yourself, he probably could follow his own advice on the health side. Couldn't we all? I love to encourage others yet I have plenty to work on. Dr. Leman is flawed, just like you and me yet he still has great advice. We all would do better actually following some of our own advice to others.

For those married, Dr. Leman did write one of my favorite books, that confession, I have to keep working on. It is called 'Sheet Music', if you are married and looking for some more heat, check that one out.

So those looking for a stronger body, here is what has worked for me. Way less sugar and carbs during the week. More protein and vegetables. Strong vegetables, green is good: broccoli, spinach, brussel sprouts, etc. I move my body at at least 4 times per week for 30 minutes. Walks are good. I don't kill myself on runs. I strive to keep my heart rate in zone 2. According to science, that is your fat burn zone. What is zone 2? 180 minus your age. If you don't have a smart watch to tell you your heart rate, Zone 2 is comforable. You would be able to have a conversation in Zone 2.

Of course, we are going to lift it to God. All things are possible in Christ which strengthens me. Phil 4:13. I believe that verse can apply to being healthier and/or getting through the darkest times in your life. Ask God, do you want me to be healthier? If so, with whom should I share this? Who are the best people to help encourage me?

Truth, this is exactly what I did in January 2020. I set a weight loss and maintenance goal and I not only achieved it but maintained it throughout the year including through the holidays.

Fasting was new to me in 2020. Casey, aka Jogging Jesus, gets credit for encouraging that. There are clear spiritual and health benefits to it. I was so amazed that I wrote a post called "Fasting: That Sounds Weird" published on 8/31/2020. You can find that in our Blog at FriDudes.com. I strongly encourage you to check it out. I was shocked on how little I really need to function.

Oh and if you would like to hear more of Dr. Leman, check out "Starting Off the New Year Right" 1/1/21. Focus on the Family...

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Yes! You are in and starting off 2021 Strong! Happy New Year! And in all sincerity a Stronger New Year. Strong start, strong Play of the Day, here you go...

Whoa and Word! Thank you Pastor Rick for that strong message and challenge. Some of you, including myself are in the shallows of life too much. Truth, we all have areas in life where we need to put "Big Boy Pants" on. Think you don't? Well, there is your answer. You need 'Big Boy Pants' for your ego.

Truth, we all have areas to get stronger. So Pop Quiz...

Could you be stronger and deeper in your Faith?

Are you fully living your Life's Purpose? Do you even know your purpose? Are you up to further discovering that?

Could you read the Bible more? Do you really understand it? Can you communicate it effectively?

How are you at selling Hope? Do you know the Gospel? How many people did you encourage with it in 2020?

For those married, is your marriage the best it has ever been?

For those with kids, could your relationships be stronger?

Could you better love and serve your neighbors?

Is there a friend or loved one in your life that needs more encouragement and love in 2021?

Could you eat better? Do you need to cut alcohol or eliminate it all together? Have you ever tried fasting?

Are you investing more time into social media and/or porn than your God and your spouse and family?

Could you spend less and give/save more money?

Oh man, did I offend you yet? Touch a nerve? Be set free that we are all flawed, we all have room to get stronger. Romans 3:23. It is also why we need a savior.

As you may already know, FriDudes are in the Hope and encouragement business. We are here to help build you up, 1 Thes 5:11. In turn, you help build others up. That is part of your call and life purpose.

So assignment, listen to those questions again. Will you pray on them? Will you dare ask God where you can be stronger in 2021? Listen, start writing it down and stick with us and the Stronger series. We have a ton of inspiring content to further build you up.

Oh and if you dug that Play of the Day, check out 'Daily Hope', "What Happens When You Have Faith - Part 3", 2:07 - 5:07, published, 12/30/20

Matt 13:58

Matt 9:29

Ending on a song note, you are still here. You are not done. The darkness surrounds you. The shame is unbearable for some of you. To move forward, you and I need a 'Savior'. You are stronger with a Savior. In fact, anything is possible with this Saviour. Check John 3:16. Check this song, 'Savior' by the Social Club Misfits and Jeremy Camp. This is from their 'Feared by Hell' album. Bold album cover. If you Dig, add it to your 'Stronger' Play List. Now, go, assess your gaps/weaknesses, pray on where you can be stronger in 2021 and beyond, write it down, share with some trusted confidants, let's grow!

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Yes! You are in and into a new series! 'Stronger'', I'm not sure if we'll stick with that label. But it is pretty clear and defined. Each day, you are either getting stronger or weaker, bitter or better.

Christmas is now done for most and as the New Year approaches, people love to ask about New Year's resolutions. A fresh year helps inspire many to make goals...and then 99% of those goals crash and burn in the first weeks.

Why? Why do they crash and burn? Because you are trying to do them on your own. I can guarantee that most do not get God involved. In addition, most of do not get others involved either because, well as HotRod would say, "Accountability is Annoying!". Pride also gets in the way.

So do you really want to step your game up in 2021 and beyond? Is there something in your life you want to get better? This is your series.

G will be joining me. In fact it is G's vision that helped shape this. He has created some great tools. Many of the Dudes are already leveraging them, testing them and improving them.

We'll be leaning on some great motivational speakers and quotes. We will be encouraging you and strive to build you and each other up. Check 1 Thes 5:11.

Oh and this doesn't end in the first week of January. We've already been doing this through out all of 2020...well not the Better podcast series, this is the first one of that. We've been working on goals all last year and we have a ton of great to stuff to share. What works: health, finances, marriage, kids, dreams, visions, charities, ministries, etc. Real goals reached, surpassed and maintained.

As I love to say, "Very, very, hard to argue results."

Hey, you're alive today. So what are you going to do? If you are a believer, then you know we will give an account for your life someday. Check Romans 14:12. If you're an atheist, you can still benefit from this. Why wouldn't you want to be better? What will be your legacy?

Almost everyday, I'll pray, God, father, thank you for this day and another opportunity to make a difference. What do you want me to do today? Do my goals line up with yours? Who shall I encourage today? Where can I be stronger?

So stay tuned, this is just the trailer. If you want a better understanding, check out GtSurf.org. Pray to God and boldly ask, what do you want me to accomplish in 2021. Start writing down what you want to achieve. And join us on the road and team of accountability. Let's Go!

Ending on a song note, you know we like energy, we are not afraid of hip hop, we like the Social Club Misfits, this is "To the Top", give them some love and add it to your "I'm Stepping My Game Up" play list. Now, go, boldly ask where you can be better, write it down, pray on it, get ready, set, go...

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Yes! You are in! The Deeper is back. Casey brings it again and puts a bow on how Daniel connects the greatest give you can ever choose to receive.

Casey also ends this listen on a 'Deep Note' and one of the strongest things he has heard ever with regards to Christmas. For you that are experiencing a darker Christmas this year, this will hopefully be soothing for your soul. For this Hope is real...

BTW, the listen selected comes from Focus on the Family: Christmas Stories, Season 1, Episode 4, starting at about minute 12. Check them out for the entire listen.

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Yes! You are in. Back in the day, we used to go to restaurants and we liked it. This is a priceless recording, in 2019, of several brave kids willing to shine some Light. My how much can change in just one year. If you have kids, please listen with them and praying for a Merry Christmas for you. If it is dark, then you need some Hope and Light. Praying that you will hear and see the Light from these young ones.

Love that! Thank you Poppy, Lauren, Aly, Adam, Levi, Eva, Savannah, Daulton, Alyssa Paige!! Your voices live on to help encourage someone else.

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Is Christmas 2020 going exactly as you planned, wished and hoped for? 99.5% of you are saying no. This is exactly what we tackle today.

Word! Things that make you go hmmmmmm. If that resonated, and you want to further tackle God's plan for your life. We have a gift for you. Hit us up at FriDudes.com at the 'Contact' page, put GtSurf in the message box. The FriDudes will pay for you. Ignore the pricing on the GtSurf.org page and we got your back this round.

If you would like to hear more of the Play of the Day, I strongly encourage it. Check out Daily Hope, that episode is entitled "The Three Wise Women of Christmas - Part 2". Published on 12/18/20.

Ending on a song note, a Special and warm Merry Christmas prayers for you all out there. Thank you for tuning in from Indonesia to Iowa, from Nebraska to New York to the Netherlands. From Maryland to Minnesota. From California to North Carolina. Wherever you may be, Christmas is going to happen. For some this is one of the darkest Christmases. You are not alone. Brighter days are ahead, for any that choose John 3:16 and Rev 21:4. And so many other promises and gifts written there for you so long ago.

As for the song, this one resonated for a more heart-felt moment. This is 'Call of Christmas' by Zach Williams, if you dig, give Zach some love and add it to your 'Ok God, this wasn't my plan, but help me better understand your Call and plan for me this Christmas and beyond...now go, ask God boldly what you should do today and what you shouldn't, love God, love your neighbors....

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Wondering about wonder or Mary did you know? Those were the two titles to this deeper series. Casey aka Jogging Jesus is back and gives his latest message on Wonder. If you dig the universe, that is wondrous. Casey ties that in with a Deeper message. Here you go...

Word! Thank you Casey. And thank you for checking in. If you think worthy, thank you so much for sharing this with someone else that is having a tough time this Christmas. You shine Light. You encourage where you can.

BTW, for those curious, Casey spoke at Hosanna High School Ministries at the Shakopee, MN campus. He video'd in for that one. For those that attended, they met state COVID guidelines and were spaced and masked. Some of you don't care about that. Some of you do. I know some of you are wondering. I am happy to say that they have had zero outbreaks from campus thus far. Thank you God as we strive to do the right thing.

Ending on a song note, Mary Did You Know does get the end cap. Here you go and please stay tuned as we will go Deeper and back to Daniel and how that ties into Christmas in the coming weeks. For now, here is Mary Did You Know by Carrie Underwood, yes! Carrie Underwood. She can get Deep. If she can, you can. Give her some love and add this one to your 'Wonder' Christmas music list this season....

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What's Your Stick?

For many of you, the Bible sounds like a bunch or fairy tales. For me, confession, I struggle with certain stories in the Bible. The Immaculate Conception can be one of them. That is a trip; for lack of better words. A baby conceived between a woman and a Holy Spirit is mind boggling. At least for us humans that think too much. For some of you, you have the gift of a simple faith. For most of us, we think too much. We are critical thinkers and natural skeptics. The more we do that, the more likely we like to control others and try to play God. Here is your play of the day...

You heard my earlier confession. Despite the fairy tale-type stories, why do I still choose to believe? First, I've read the whole book and certain parts over and over. When you do that, the whole book makes way more sense then if you isolate certain parts.

Two, if you choose to believe in God than anything is possible.

Three, the saying Truth is stranger than fiction exists for a reason.

Four, so many prior to us and many after will attempt to prove this wrong. The deeper they dive in to tear it down, the stronger of a believer for God they become. See Lee Strobel, Dr. Francis Collins, C.S. Lewis and countless others.

Back to Mary, let's just use some deductive logic...

If we were to have a Messiah that would never sin. It is fair to say that it would be impossible for that human to come from two humans. We are all flawed. God would have to be in the mix.

For Joseph to hang around, especially back then, God would have to be involved. Not just Joseph, think about Mary's family. Getting pregnant in 2020 out of wedlock is the norm. Over 2,000 years ago, it was severely taboo. In Mary's society, if you were caught getting pregnant before marriage, you were stoned to death.

More important, this little baby grows up to change the world. Fulfills all the prophecies written in the Torah, Nevi'in, Tanakh, Old Testament. Jesus even works his way into the Koran and major Roman, Greek and other historical documents. He shaped your calendar.

Most important, this baby grows up and fulfills the promise and key to you and life eternal in heaven. You still doubt me, go back to the episode of "What Happens When You Die?".

From the heart, wishing you a very Merry Christmas! If your Christmas is dark this year, you are not alone. When in doubt bet on Hope. Bet on the greatest gift of your life - John 3:16.

If you dug that play of the day, check out the 'Bryan Lorrits Podcast', episode the 'Virgin Birth' published on the 6th of December 2020.

Ending on a song note, have to end on a Christmas song. You may not be joyful. Would you say we need some more joy? Absolutely we need some more joy, hope and Light. So let us strive for that. No matter how down you may be, give joy that this broken planet isn't it. Give joy that there is an eternal gift and promise of a life with no more tears. For now, I promise you will find more joy as you tune in more and serve others more. Now go, take Casey's cue a the end, check in with your neighborhood. You will get joy by bringing joy to others...

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There's a sequel to "What Happens When You Die?". Yes, a bit ironic. Remember in previous episodes where I say we are all flawed? Well, I didn't like the way Part 1 ended. I went back in to adjust the song and add some additional words of hope and ended up deleting the whole group conversation in the master copy. The group conversation lives on in the cloud and the podcast published on December 4th.

Some of you are saying that's what you get..haha! You may be be right. At least, I get a shot at a sequel or a preface depending on the order you are listening to this. So here is part 2 on how I was going to edit it.

Phil 4:13 says "I can do all things in Christ which strengthens me". Early in my faith I thought that meant I can do anything. Which it also says anything is possible with God. As I get deeper in my faith, I think Paul meant that we can get through anything with Christ. That means the worst things on this earth. Whether someone stole from you, violated you, took a loved one or even took your life. Christ will get you and your loved ones through it and including your own death here to the ultimate life.

So are you going to invest more time in your hurts or your hopes? Are you going to put in as much concern into eternity vs. identity theft? Are you going to invest more time into worrying about the news, Covid, politics, __________? Or will you shift that worry time to worship the one that promises you freedom from all of that?

If you are still a doubter, I will challenge you to prove it wrong. Just like that cardiologist mentioned earlier, or Lee Strobel or Dr. Francis Collins or C.S. Lewis. All former atheists and agnostics that are most likely much smarter than you and me. They all now believe.

The afterlife is real. We are all going to find out. 1 in 25 Americans currently living has already experienced it. You will doubt. Others will say you can't and won't. Don't believe the lies. Bet on Hope and Truth. "Anything is possible in Christ with strengthens you."

Lastly, I know some of you already believe this. Good. Now do a better job sharing and selling hope. If you still struggle, simply share this and tell them I love you so much that if this heaven is real, I want to be with you there forever. Will you give it a shot?

Ending on a song note, some of you for the first time are seeing life through a different lens. You now know what it means to live and not just be alive...on this broken planet and long after you leave it. If you doubt, you are human. We all do it. "Say I Won't', we all get corrected.

We can be made right by Christ. Your choice. The ultimate gift. This is "Say I Won't" by MercyMe. If you dig, please add it to your "I want to live and not just be alive" playlist. Now go, live, love others while you are here, make the most of this life and be at peace you will be with loved ones in world a million times better than than this one someday...

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To be frank, we haven't tackled this subject enough. What happens after you die? For those that lost loved ones, this is so important for you to hear. You need Hope. You need evidence. Thus far, we've fallen short on discussing proof of life after death. Here you go...

Word! We love Hope. FriDudes are in the Hope and encouragement business. It's one thing for a random podcast to give Hope, which by the way I believe is no accident you are listening. How about millions of Americans that can vouch for what happened after they died and before they came back?

Intrigued? Good. For everything you are concerned about on this broken planet. Eternity and what happens after you die should be #1. Check out the book Imagine Heaven. If you would like to hear more of that episode featuring the author John Burke. Go to "Holding on to the Hope of Heaven", republished at Focus on the Family on December 2, 2020.

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/holding-on-to-the-hope-of-heaven/

Pastor John Burke offers hope and encouragement found in his best-selling book Imagine Heaven: Near-Death Experiences, God's Promises, and the Exhilarating Future That Awaits You. Jim Daly's wife, Jean, joins the conversation.

If you are looking for more verses to help validate above, G recommends Phil 3:20. Casey mentioned 1 Cor 15. One of my favorites is Rev 21:4. "And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away."

Who wouldn't want that? If you really love your loved ones, that is where you will want them and you together forever. When in doubt, bet on hope. If you need more evidence. It is there. You just need to go look for it.

Ending on a song note, some of you for the first time are seeing life through a different lens. Know what it means to live and not just be alive...on this broken planet and long after you leave it. If you doubt, you are human. We all do it. "Say I Won't', we all get corrected. We can be made right by Christ. The ultimate gift. This is "Say I Won't" by MercyMe. If you dig, please add it to your "I want to live and not just be alive" playlist. Now go, live, love others while you are here, make the most of this life and be at peace you will be with loved ones in world a million times better than than this one someday...

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Yes! You are in. Just you and me today. I know. They'll be back. Casey is blessed with work and a deadline. The other dudes are investing time with their wives and kids. That is how we roll.

As we reflect and many have given thanks, there are some of you...actually...a lot of you that are struggling out there. How do I know that? Well, half of our country is medicated..at least. We have an epidemic in our youth with a wave of depression and anxiety like I've never seen before. BTW, that was all before Covid.

Prior to Covid, I've seen countless dudes and youth come in absolutely broken and hopeless. Note, I've already brought up the Vid three times in about as many sentences and I am doing that to make a point. Life was hard for so many prior to the latest pandemic. Once we get vaccines and/or immunity, we will press forward. Yet, do we really think everything will be perfect from that point on? Some of us naively do. Not us. The wise know better.

At this point you are thinking, well thank you Dougie Downer, I'm so glad I chose this uplifting message amidst my darkness. Thanks a-hole. Stick with me. Not done quite yet...

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Yes! You are in for a little Thanksgiving Treat! Levi (9) and Daulton (9) and sweet little Savannah (6) help bring in some smiles and laughter into this episode. Whether you are listening to this in November or July. This is a Priceless perspective for everyday. Here is your "Play of the Day"

So sweet! Thank you Savannah and Daulton and Levi for sharing some light and laughter and perspective on what is a darker Thanksgiving for many.

Phil 4: 6-8, that is one of my favorite gotos in trying to find thanks in more challenging times. You lift what you don't like. Find the things, no matter how little on what is worthy to give thanks. If you do that enough, you will experience God's peace. That is not my promise. That is God's.

Ending on a song note, I wrestled with this one. This song was firmly in my head this morning. I needed to hear it. You need to hear this too. When times are challenging, it can be hard to give thanks. Learn from Daulton and Levi and Savannah. Find the positives. Give thanks. Lift what you don't like. This broken planet is tough. We are all terminal. Our test is to make the most of our life here for someday we will give an account (check Romans 14:12).

Sooner or later you will find the victory. Hint, the ultimate victory is not on this broken planet. Your choice. Most of you ask why and I answer back with a logical question back. For your lifetime, would you rather have humans that choose to love you and want to be with you or would you rather have someone programmed to love you? A DEEP question to ponder, for now here is "See a Victory" by Elevation Worship, if you dig please give them some love and add it to your "I need better perspective of this broken planet list". Now go, find the simple things in life to give thanks like Savannah, and Levi and Daulton. Lift the negatives. Experience God's peace...

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Yes! You are in! We humans love to play God. We love to judge. I'm not just talking about atheists either. Almost all of us. You frustrated with people judging you? You like to judge others? Here is your 'Play of the Day'...

Words to reflect and live by. Matt 7: 1-6 that is. And please listen to my confession, much easier said than done. The ego loves to control. Humans love to control. Some of you are technically correct. The key question is, are you handling it like Jesus or Pharaoh or a Pharisee? If you are versed and deep you know what I'm talking about.

If you would like to hear more of that 'Play of the Day'. Check out 'Daily Hope'. That episode is called, "A Faith That Keeps Me From Playing God in the Lives of Others - Part 1", November 16, 2020.

Ending on a song note, Casey's suggestion. Check these lyrics out, "Jesus, friend of sinners, we have strayed so far away. We cut down people in your name but the sword was never ours to swing." Whoa! This is "Jesus, Friend of Sinners by the Casting Crowns. If you dig, please give them some love and add it to your "I best check my tongue and correct my heart before I speak" play list. Now go, keep looking in the mirror, apologize where necessary, leave the judging to God, serve, love and pray for others, even the ones with whom you disagree.

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Deeper is back and Casey has some deep takes. If you are willing to look into the mirror and reflect, here you go...

Word! So how are you doing? Are you encouraging or attacking? I'm serious with that question for you and I both. If your ego gets the best of you, welcome to the club which is also the rest of the world. Have you been mocked for your beliefs in Christianity? Well, then you are in good graces. It is exactly what Jesus say will happen to you. Check Matt 5:11 or Luke 6:22.

If you are mocked and turn the other cheek just like Jesus, well then you are in very elite company. I fail in that regard often. Just being real. It is something I must continue to work on and ask Jesus for assistance.

I take Casey's advice very seriously and I advise you to do the same. If you have gone out attacking, change your mind and heart and apologize. Own your mistakes with those you have attacked and expect nothing in return from those you have struck verbally or beyond. God has shown you and I great mercy and grace already. Romans 8:1.

Ending on a song note, humble pie for most of us that will own it, no? You really believe in Jesus? Well then let God do what God is most "Famous For" and let us flawed believers stick to the encouragement business. Deal? I'll keep working on it and may you as well. This is "Famous For" by Tauren Wells. If you dig, please add it to your "I need to remember what my God can do". Now, go, check yourself, apologize where necessary, speak hope and love vs. hate and condemnation...

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Yes! You are in! We love stories of victory. Some of you are feeling absolutely broken. Truth, we are all broken in some way. Need some encouragement or know someone that does, please share this Play of the Day.

Word! So good. As the avid listener knows I like to say, easy to debate God. Very, very hard to argue results. FriDudes are in the hope and encouragement business! If you have a testimony of brokenness to wholeness and would like to share on FriDudes, please hit us up at fridudes.com at the contact us page.

Play of the Day goes back to Pastor Ricky Jenkins. If you would like to hear his entire message, which I highly recommend. Check out southwestchurch.com. "Made Over: Brokenness to Wholeness". Week 1 published on November 9, 2020.

Ending on a song note, we are going back to Vaquero Guapo. Speaking of brokenness to whole, Lord knows, Vaquero has some amazing testimonies. You can hear more of him on any podcast with the Fringe label in front of it at FriDudes. Back up a bit and you will find him.

Vaquero amazes and inspires me from where he was to where he is today. 17 years ago, Nate lost his brother Jason. So for any of you that lost a loved one, take this song to heart. This song is called "Already There". Vaquero's favorite part is this: You’d forget what went wrongIf you’d see the streets I’m walking on (Rev 21:12)Don’t lose hope whatever you doIn the house I’m in there’s room at the table for you (John 14:2)

Don't give up. Keep going! Ask God to help you make something beautiful out of those broken pieces. Rom 8:28, check it, one of the greatest promises in the Bible. Now, go, share with someone, encourage someone, love and serve...

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Whether you are listening to this on 11/11 or many days after, I strive to give thanks everyday for our freedoms and veterans and others that sacrifice for our freedoms. We have veterans in this FriDude mix and beyond like Milk Man, Peter or Young Buck Matt or the other Matt aka Tattoo Matt or aka Mouthy Matt in El Paso, TX.

For the listeners in the U.S. and those outside, here is some food for thought. If you listen to some, you would guess that the United States is the worst country in the world. So what do we do here? We stick to our theme as a bunch of flawed dudes pursuing truth and perspective.

First, I don't want war for anybody. Veterans, you know better than most the pains of war. Sincerely from the heart. If you study the Bible, war happens. Whether you want it or not, flawed people will create flawed situations. Jesus says love is greatest of all. That we should love God and our neighbors. If we all did that, there wouldn't be war. Unfortunately, we don't all follow Jesus and his words. So we have wars. The brave fight for our freedoms. Humankind since the beginning wants to be their own Gods and tell everyone else what to do, say and not do and not say. That's a perpetual problem.

So for the United States, here is what I give thanks for. We have freedom of religion. We have freedom of speech. We have freedom to protest. We have freedom to vote. We have the freedom to change our minds and hearts. And who defends those freedoms? Our veterans, our active duty and most of our politicians. For those that defend our freedoms, I give profound, heartfelt thanks.

For those that want to control speech and other freedoms. Look out. That is a slippery slope. Big tech take some notes. Contrast point. Do you have freedom of speech in China? Iran? Russia? North Korea? Hong Kong used to have it. I know those are extreme examples. Freedom to protest? How about voting? Could Barack Obama or someone of African descent be elected as the leader in any of those countries? Kamala Harris? Where is Ilhan Omar more powerful? Where has she risen to power? In the United States or Somalia?

Veterans that have helped preserve our freedoms. Thank you. Active duty that believes in above freedoms...thank you. Democrats, Republicans, Independents that believe in those freedoms. Thank you!

God almighty, for as many reject you, we embrace you. We are flawed. All of us. Thank you for promises like Romans 8:1 that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesuse. Thank you for the freedoms to choose. One cannot force one to love. It is a choice and that is part of your test.

As for the United States, sure, absolutely there is room for improvement. 300+ million flawed people living here. For those that think the U.S. is the worst, well this something to ponder. Study other counties. Study their leadership structure and how diverse they are. Study their freedoms. Understand the Truth and then give thanks for what is worthy.

Listener, if you agree with above, would you be so kind and share this with a veteran you love? The suicide rate amongst our veterans is way too high. Encourage someone. Give thanks. Encourage and build someone up. 1 Thes 5:11.

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Accountability is annoying. You really want to step your game up? Learn from what works and what doesn't. This is what we pursue today. Here you go...

Word! Hard to argue results, right? When you are stuck and stay stuck, you keep hitting the accelerator and spinning your wheels, the more stuck you get. What if you had some guys on the back. Some on the front, pushing and pulling. What if you had a guy show up with a truck and a tow strap? Of course, that would help. Why are you rejecting that?

For those down and out right now on our societal ills, we are so good at complaining. Too good. Anyone on social media or that reads/listen/watches the news knows that. Can you imagine a society where we held each other accountable in a loving way? Imagine small groups across this country where one calls or texts another to ask how they are doing? Really doing. Asking about their struggles whether that be marriage or unemployment or health/addiction, depression and actually not just asking but pouring in and encouraging each other. We would solve a lot of our societal ills. That's the truth Ruth and that's a fact Jack.

Ending on a song note, going soul this time. This is 'Accountability' by Lisa McClendon, if you dig, give her some love and add it to your "I Need Some More Accountability in My Life" playlist. Now go, form your small group, confess where you need to improve with those you can trust, empower them to do the same for you, follow up with each other in love and consideration, build each other up...

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Deeper. Some of you are ready to go Deeper. I don't care how old you are or how long you've been going to Sunday school, there is always something deeper that you can learn. There is always room for improvement. We get into more history, Casey brings more, here you go!

Word! So good. Have you ever considered why certain historical figures or events get debated? If you really study it, good vs. evil is behind it. What other force would try to change history that the holocaust never existed, think about it? What other force would try to steal away the promises of Jesus? Or the amazing documentation by Daniel? We get real. We get raw. We pursue Truth.

Ending on a song note, which side of history are you on? Do you want the Truth? For the avid skeptic, there's more there than you think. As for me, I love history and I love science. Yeah, you heard me right. Stick with us as we continue to pursue Truth. Speaking of Truth, you know what I love most of all, a faithful God that loves us and fulfills promises such as our saviour Jesus Christ. Your choice. This is 'Faithful God' by I am They, if you dig, please add it to your I need a faithful God in this back stabbing, frustrating, broken planet. Now go, study history, study science and most important study the Bible, I think you'll be surprised how much actually lines up, to be continued on that front...

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If you want to know if something is true, the wise will look for evidence or lack there of. That's how our court system works. That's how science works. That is how investigative reporters should work. Here is some 'Stranger Evidence', hard to argue results, here is your play of the day...

Word! So, who are you going to encourage this week? Next week? Next month? For the rest of your life? If you dig, we are in the Hope and encouragement business. You know this broken depressed planet needs more Hope. What are you doing about it?

Rod brought up a great point after we were off mic. Start your day with God. Boldly ask like that lady on the sidewalk. If you are already deep, then boldly ask who can you encourage today. Then get ready. Get ready for that inner voice or pull to that stranger or loved one. You will wrestle with it at times - I don't want to do that. Ill look weird. That just means you are normal and human. Like Casey said, no regrets.

If you are like Rod and me, yes, I have some regrets and lessons learned. For fear of being weird, just know you will only be guilty of caring too much. What an amazing legacy, you cared too much. Much better than being a narcissist that won't even acknowledge someone exists.

If you would like to hear more of that 'Play of the Day', you can find Chris at Hosannalc.org. That episode was called, "Trusting God - Week 1", published on 10/25/20.

Ending on a song note, definite pull to this one! In fact, I wrote it down before I even knew what this podcast would be. Hard to argue results. We all want evidence to believe, right? Well, most of us. This is "Evidence" by Josh Baldwin. If you dig, please add it to your "I need to Hope and Re-assurance or courage to approach that stranger or loved one" play list. Now go, love, serve, encourage that person that God pulls you to..

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Yes! You are in. We are a bunch of flawed dudes pursuing Truth. Are you walking it like you talk it? Listening to previous intros and I'm going to correct myself. We are flawed so we are going to do that from time to time. Instead of saying that I'm picking on Christians, better to clarify that I'm picking on myself and those like me. I can talk a very good game. How am I walking it? My wife can be one of my toughest critics and I'll say rightfully so. She knows me better than just about anybody. To her and many, actions speak much louder than words. If I'm not being real about my debt and other struggles and pretending everything is perfect, well then I'm fake. I don't want to be fake. If I'm talking a strong and real game then I best be walking a strong game. GtSurf.org helps me look in the mirror and be a better Christian, husband and father. FriDudes is a platform to be real. That's the truth Ruth. Remember there is no such thing as a perfect marriage or family or person on this broken planet. Don't fall for those lies on Fakebook or InstaBrag. Be real. Pursue Truth, let's go!

Go deep! Go deep! Casey is back with some deep, deep takes. History buffs you get some snack treats. For some of you get ready to be wowed and whoa'd. Here you go!

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Word! Thank you Casey! Thank YOU for joining and pursuing some Truth and history and hope with us.

Toughest Questions: some of you have some tough questions. We'll take that challenge. We'll either address in the Deeper or general or maybe get Vaquero back and tackle in the Fringe. Please bring us your question and subject challenge at FriDudes.com, contact us page.

Ending on a song note, Casey's choice and going with "Truth be Told" by Matthew West. If you dig, please give Matthew some some and add it to your "Tell me some more truth playlist". Now go, pursue truth, don't be afraid of going deeper, bet on hope, hopelessness sucks, now go serve, read, love...

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Yes! You are in. What do you think of when you hear the word repent? If you are like me, your knee-jerk reaction may be to - run! I think of going to Metallica concerts and seeing guys holding signs and screaming repent or hell fire. I never liked those guys. Wrong approach. Jesus did not meet people that way. He met them where they were at, met them with love and asked questions he already knew the answers to. As for repent, I have never heard the word explained this way before. I'm curious if you have? Here is your 'Play of the Day'...

Word! Some of you have been beat up with repent, yelling and screaming. That pains my heart. If that is you, be freed by the Truth. Know Jesus is about love and changing minds and hearts for the better. If you are about positivity and Truth, this is your podcast...at least one of them. 1 Thes 5:11, we will encourage you and build you up. This what we are all about.

If you would like to hear more of that message by Pastor Rick Warren, check out Daily Hope: "Learning to Think Like Jesus - Part 3", published 10/22/20.

https://pastorrick.com/player/?id=20318

Special thanks to you that are sharing this. If you lack the words, many of you use this podcast and share it with someone that needs that encouragement and then you discuss it together. Brilliant!

If you haven't joined the brotherhood yet, want to host your own or join a local dudes group, simply go to FriDudes.com and sign up for exclusive invites and insights. If you would like to join the program or have a challenging question or next subject suggestion or would like us to join your next event virtual or in person, hit us up at the contact page at FriDudes.com

Ending on a song note, where to go today? This song is clearly about a dude chasing someone else for a relationship. Have you ever considered that God is pursuing you for a stronger relationship? God is. Even if you have a good relationship. God can always take you deeper. Your choice. You choose to change your mind and actions and open yourself up to how deep you can go. This is "Change your Mind" by the Killers. Yes, you know we are not afraid to end on bold notes. That band name is clearly tongue in cheek. They are not killers. I will say this, I would love to kill the negative thoughts that are in your and my head that weigh us down. The enemy wants us down. Jesus wants to build you up, now go, serve, change your mind for the better, focus on what is good and worthy and give thanks...

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Yes! You are in! Politics, man some of you are so obsessed. If not you, then you know who they are. 'Play of the Day' goes back to Pastor Ricky Jenkins on the subject of politics. Here you go...
Word! So, are politics your religion? Here is a quick survey that will help answer that for you. 1. Do you invest more time into the news/politics vs. prayer, reading the Bible, being in community, Christian podcasts or music? 2. When you gather with friends/family are you more apt to talk politics or love on them? 3. On social media, are you more apt to react/read/post political or faith posts? 4. Do you try harder to convince people of political views vs. why you believe Christianity is true and gives you hope?
BTW, maybe politics are not your religion. How would other things stack up such as Netflix or porn or drinking or _____________?
Whatever your answer, please know we are in the business to build each other up. This is not meant to be a guilt check. Just a fact check. We are all flawed. We all have room for improvement.
I love HotRod's take a few episodes ago. Whoever wins the next election. Roughly half of you will be very disappointed or jubilant. If disappointed, that will be your leader for now. Go back to the Deeper episodes and learn how Daniel handles a once terrible leader named King Nebekenezzar. If jubilant, remember politicians love to make promises and most often fail to fulfill them. It doesn't mean you don't vote for who you think can do the best job. Just keep yourself in check that you are voting for a flawed person. No politician will end racism, nor homelessness/poverty. Change will only happen with transformed hearts. What I can guarantee is that they will charge your/our country's credit card which is currently at $27 trillion! That is about $217,000 in debt per tax payer! I've said it before, I'll say it again, either we can pay off that debt or we are one of the world's largest ponzi schemes. Give me a politician (blue, red, purple, green, whatever) who is bold enough to say we need to pay that debt off and spend less. Check out https://www.usdebtclock.org/
For the avid listeners, you've heard my confessions on the dangers of debt. I'm being held accountable. You and I both need to pay our taxes and balance our budgets. Shouldn't our country do the same?
So, do you really want to end racism? Solve poverty? Have a better environment? Fiscal responsibility? Human rights? Check out Jesus words. We are commanded to love others...Matt 22: 36-40. We are told to give to the poor...Matt 19:21. We are told to take care of our earth - God's creation..Psalm 65:9. As for debt, we are told to stay away. Those that are in debt are slaves to the lenders...Proverbs 22:7. The movement that many people scoff or hate is actually the solution. Changed hearts that love and serve more will change this world.
So where are you investing most of your time and faith? Flawed politicians or a perfect God.
If you are digging on Pastor Ricky Jenkins like me, you can find that full episode at Southwestchurch.com. "Surrendered: The Gospel Path to Victory - Week1", published on the 12 of October 2020.

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Moving forward, are you a Negative Nelly or a Positive Pete? Guess which one most people like to be around? Hint: most people like being around encouraging people. As for the negatives, misery loves company. So the Owner's Manual of life definitely has something to say about this. Here is your "Play of the Day", back to the Daily Hope well. Full episode details will be available at the end of the show. Here you go...

"Why You Need to Think About What You Think About?" Part 1, published on 10/14/20. Go to PastorRick.com/listen

Word! So good. Who makes you angry? Who drags you down? Reminds me of a childhood story that I've shared before. My sister (whom I dearly love), we used to fight a lot when we were young. I would tell my Dad (a psychologist), "she makes me so angry". His response, you choose to give her power to make you angry. You choose to allow her to own and motivate your emotions. He was right.

So what are you choosing with that powerful brain of yours? Are you choosing to let others control you in a negative way? What do you choose to tune into in a positive way?

God is the ultimate source of your hope. God gave a promise via Jesus. God then chose Paul and a literal 'coming to Jesus' moment on the road to Damascus that ends up yielding the awesome promise in Phil 4: 6-8. God leverages Joker to get real and share that verse as his reason to hope and rally.

At FriDudes, we are flawed, we pursue Truth and you chose to tune in. Thank you! If you haven't yet, please join us for deeper insights and words of encouragement at FriDudes.com. Hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page and join the positivity movement. This world needs more of you.

As you know, we are not unashamed to promote others. If you are looking for more positivity in your life, choose the Bible. If you are new, start in John. Choose podcasts such as Daily Hope, Unashamed, Francis Chan, Dr. Byran Lorrits, Pastor Ricky Jenkins at Southwestchurch.com. Choose less negative and listen to more positive.

Ending on a song note, if you are an avid listener, you know we have range. Been on a hip hop binge lately. We've also played Pink Floyd, Ozzy Osbourne (who still has an open invite), hasn't responded yet. C'mon Ozzy, join us. So where do we go next? Dolly Parton. What? Yes, Dolly and Zach Williams. Definitely a country vibe on this one and a message of hope and positivity.

No matter what you are going through. Mountains, valleys, fires, sickness, shadows, "There was Jesus". This is "There was Jesus", by Zach Williams and Dolly Parton. If you dig, please give them some love and add it to your 'I need Hope Play List', now go, choose Jesus, choose love, choose positive voices for the rest of your life...

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Yes! You are in! More Jogging Jesus! Casey speaks to a group of high schoolers at Hosanna, Shakopee, Minnesota, oh yeah, you betcha!!...meeting COVID guidelines of course...if I could have every youth in this world listen to this...I would. For a full-time engineer. He really knows how to be real, raw and shine Light.

Word! If you have a teenager or college age kid, will you listen to this with them or share and then discuss? So important. Depression and anxiety are more real and more prevalent than ever these days. If you have either, you are absolutely not alone.

If you can't have these 'Deep' conversations with your loved ones...when can you? No regrets. Worst case scenario, you will be known for caring too much.

Ending on a song note, this was the song that concluded Casey's sermon, this is the live version of "Cornerstone" by Hillsong. Please add it to your "When life gets tough and the fires get hot, I need a rock, a refuge, a cornerstone" play list. Now, go, share, serve, love, shine more Light...

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Yes! You are in! "Worrying is Futile", it is inevitable at times and it is also futile. Unless you have magic powers to change something - you don't. So here is the Play of the Day. Another Dr. Lorrits. If you dig, full show details where you can find that entire message at the end of this episode. Here you go...

Word! Joker mentioned Phil 4:8 last week. That you need to Phil 4:8 it. I'll say Phil 4-6-8 it. Do not worry about anything. Pray about anything. There is your worship instead of worry mindset. Turn worry into worship every time. Lift what you don't like. Give thanks for what is worthy. If you do that enough, you will experience God's peace.

If you listened to FriDudes long enough, you'll know we believe God also put us on earth to lean/need others at times. Find your group of people that think like Marcus, Casey, Rod, G, Nate, Milk, Peter, etc. Find the positive voices. Minimize the negative voices. That may mean less social media as well.

It also may mean you need a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist. I've used them all and I give God thanks for those trained to help heal.

To hear more of Dr. Lorrits. You can find that one back at the Southwest.com well. Man, they have been putting out some great stuff lately. "A Special Message from Dr. Crawford Lorrits", published on 10/5/2020.

Ending on a song note, HotRod striking again. A fun, light song, not super deep, this is "Don't Worry" by Bob Marley. Everything is going to be alright. For some of you, I know that may be hard to believe. This is where taking a chance and faith comes in. Jesus promises tough times for the best of the best on this broken planet. Also promises, an amazing life away from sickness, tears, hate, etc. That is where it will ultimately not just be alright, it will be amazing.

Now go! Keep going, keep praying, keep finding the right hearts to encourage you. keep your head up. Much love...

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You are in. You get a special snack treat today. Way more Jogging Jesus today. This is one of Casey's first sermons. The man has some chops. Amazing that he is a full time engineer. Here is your Play of the Day....

Word! Thank you Casey aka Jogging Jesus! Getting Deep and pursuing and shining Truth.

I love the way he opened up about the oceans currents and the ways of the world. There are not absolute Truths?! Saying there is no absolute truth is...well...an absolute truth! Put that into your intellectual pipe and smoke it.

As you look in the mirror, are you your own God? If, yes, well so is Kim Jong Un, Stalin, Lenin, Karl Marx...and every narcisistt you know. Just think of the worst dictators. Confession, when I'm at my worst, I'm absolutely being my own God. So I'm not just picking on you.

If you haven't make God your God, and you want to strive to do so, will you bow your head and repeat after me. God, I'm sorry when I make myself my own God. Those moments weren't very pretty. When I heard Casey, he said that you love me even with those flaws. Thank you! I'll gladly receive your love and gift of Jesus for eternal life. This world is broken. So am I. With you, I am made whole. And I'll better tune in each day, praying and reading your Word to better understand what is right and True. Amen

If you have a question for Casey, you can reach him at FriDudes.com, 'Contact Us' page. Just fill out the form and will relay.

Ending on a song note, this is "Love" by We Are Messengers. If you dig, please add it to your 'I need to feel more love playlist'. Now go, make God your God, less of you, more of Jesus, love others...

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You are in! Up top! We have a treat for you today. Ricky Jenkins bringing some serious heat for our 'Play of the Day'!. Check it out. If you dig, the whole message by Ricky will be made available at the end of this pod or can be found on our show page.

Word! So good! You see what happens when a bunch of flawed dudes show up and pursue Truth?

If we have our 'A' game going we are encouraging you. Then you go out and encourage someone else. Chain effect in full effect. Your choice. You can either promote hysteria or Hope. We choose hope.

Speaking of encouraging someone else, thank you so much for sharing this...when worthy. IA to NC to France to Russia to CA, we thank you!

You want more? Check out FriDudes.com. Lots of relevant/life blog posts there. If you have your own 'Play of the Day' or tough question that you would like us to tackle. Just hit us up at the 'Contact' page also at FriDudes.com

For those moved by Pastor Ricky Jenkins' words, check him out at Southwestchurch.com, that particular sermon was posted on 9/29/20 entitled, "Vision Days: Week 2, Find Your Forward".

Ending on a song note, Pastor Ricky Jenkins brought the heat. I have to go back to some hip hop heat in return. This is tempting..."Stand Up" by Ludacris came to mind. Rule alert! Best we go with a different trac. This is "Up" by the Social Club Misfits. If you dig please give them some love and add it to your "Dust Off. Stand Up. Step In" Playlist

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Getting deep and calling an audible. We are going to open with a 'Play of the Day', this is Rick Warren from Daily Hope, Don't Let Anyone Steal Your Identity, published 9/25/20, this is from minute 13:30 - 15:45.

Word! You looking for a group, hit is up at FriDudes.com 'Contact Us' page. Tell us what you need. Skeptics, we will also challenge you to give us your toughest questions. You can also do that at FriDudes.com or email Casey direct at 10spelledout@gmail.com.

So, who are you making priority #1 that defines you. Daniel was clear on where he tuned in and who he put first. You putting your faith into flawed people or the one that promises a life free of condemnation?

If you are not sure, here is my simple recommendation. God, if you are real, will you show me? Hearing Casey I understand it is usually much more than just raising my hand. If I keep tuning into your Word, will you show me how things pop like they do to Casey and others. Jesus, I want that life free of condemnation as promised in Romans 8:1. I choose you and your gift of eternal life. Amen

That's it. Now as a humble reminder. Just like your phone or app, your relationship with someone is determined in frequency and meaning of contact. Keep praying each day. Move God up to hopefully #1 on your contact list. Read the Word and Truth, if you haven't started already, start in John. Let the Truth set you Free

Ending on a song note, okay, okay, I'm going to veer off hip hop...for a least one song. This is 'Run at the Giant' by Jack Cassidy. Absolutely fits in with the testimony of Daniel. If you dig, please add it to your running at your giant play list. Now go, make Jesus your #1 validation of who you are, hope works, hopelessness sucks, keep tuning in...

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Thanks for checking in Russia, England, to Virginia to Iowa to California and wherever you are today. Humbled that you would give this rag tag group pursuing Truth a shot.

The 'Play of the Day', going back to Pastor Ricky Jenkins. You can find more of him at Southwestchurch.com, this is from "Vision Days, Week 1, Find Your Thank You". 9/21/20. Minute 40:50 - Minute 43:50. Here you go...

So good! Pastor Ricky Jenkins is quickly becoming one of my favorites. Mentored by one of my other new favorites, Dr. Bryan Lorrits.

Can you find your 'thank yous' in the midst of the chaos? Think of the most encouraging people in your life. They know how to find their 'Thank You's. Did you know that it's Biblical? Speaking of one of my other favorites, Phil 4: 6-7.

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Lift the negatives. God, I don't like ___________. God, I can't understand this. Then lift the positives. No matter how bad you have it. I guarantee there are some positives. It is all a matter of perspective. Find them. Give thanks for them. If they are people, let them know your gratitude. Lift them up. If you do this enough, you will experience God's peace. That is not my promise. That is God's promise via the words of Paul.

Ending on a song note, yes! Another short and sweet pod today. Some of you may be asking where are the other FriDudes? They'll be back. They deserve a break at times. You deserve a break at times. In fact, Casey brought up the importance of taking a rest. What is your Sabbath? Do you know God designed that for you for you? Are you taking a day of rest? Are you taking a break from social media? Work? Sports?

As for the song, I'm going back to Lecrae and his Restoration album. Yes, I appreciate his lyrics, his prose. Jogging Jesus recently said, "Man, you love hip hop". Truth, I do like it. It is not my #1 genre. If you are an avid listener or back up on previous episodes you'll hear Red Hot Chili Peppers, Ozzy Osbourne, Pink Floyd, etc. Of course, we will also go to certain Christian artists. If the song fits the greater Truth message, we'll use it. Secular or not.

Back to Lecrae, oh, he had chaos and deep darkness. This work of art may sound dark. He speaks about what brought him out of darkness. What works. Real. Raw. Pursuing Truth, this is 'Over the Top', if you dig, please give Lecrae some love and add it to your 'Perspective Play List', now go, find your thank you's, get perspective, rest, experience more of God's peace...

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You want go Deeper? You are in the right place. Any of you going through fires in life, this is your episode. Casey, brings the heart. Buckle Up! Here you go...

Deep! If you are looking for a Dudes Group, will you let us know at FriDudes.com. We will help build you up. If you have your own Dudes group and open to taking more, will you let us know? You can also reach Casey direct at 10spelledout@gmail.com. Can you imagine this world with more hope and restoration?

Ending on a song note, Casey's choice. Going back to Hillsong and 'Another in the Fire'. If you dig, please add it to your what's up with this fire and how do I get through it play list. Now go, know you are not alone, surround yourselves with other caring hearts that will build you up, not tear you down...

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Who Are You Trying to Make Happy? That's what we tackle this week. 'Play of the Day' goes to Jace Robertson and the 'Unashamed' podcast. Here you go...

Short and sweet! Just like the Play of the Day. BTW, if you would like to hear more of Jace. You can find them at the 'Unashamed' podcast. That quip was from the tail end of Episode 144. Comment comes at tail end after Phil shares a young woman declaring that she was going to start putting Jesus first over her worship of politics.

BTW, whichever side you may fall on politically, this is an open door. We are not a political organization. We have all colors in this group. We strive to put God first...or at least we know better that we need to do that more.

If you further dig, please be sure to tune back into the Deeper series. Casey made a great point after recording on how Daniel had to make some very difficult decisions by putting God first vs. the king and people.

Ending on a song note, where to go today. BTW, if you have a favorite song or say, oh, this song would have been perfect for that episode! Hit us up at FriDudes.com 'Contact Us'. Back to the song, back to Lecrae and his album 'Restoration' the song is called 'Wheels Up'. If you dig, please add it to your 'Putting God First' playlist. Tuning and getting perspective. Now, go, put God First, love the flawed ones after that...

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Deeper! Back at it and digging deep for some more truth and perspective. Casey has some more nuggets for you and you can hear him strive to get them in for you. In due time, here you go...

Word! Did you ever think we could get this much material out of just a few chapters? The Owner's Manual says to be slow and soak up the Word. Meditate on it. For that reason, we are not rushing through it.

Think about a fine wine. An expert will not slam it. Slow. Or Christmas gifts around the tree. You can either rip everything apart in 5 minutes. Or slow. One person and one gift at a time. Enjoy and soak up the process.

That's probably why God isn't answering your prayers or mine as fast as we want. Slow. Keep your ego in check. Don't let pride take over. Give you some more weight to make your spiritual muscles even stronger.

Ending on a song note, for the versed listener, you know we've used Kanye in outro's before. I love some of his gospel music. As for the upcoming election, I'm not giving you any endorsement. I will give thanks for freedom. That we still have freedom to choose who we think will be best. And not matter who that leaders ends up being, God is your ultimate leader. Even the leader you detest has to answer to God. Let Daniel and King Nebekenezzar be a humble and encouraging reminder of that. With that note, yeah, a song, you need to be restored. Need to build back up. This is Lecrae, from his album 'Restoration' the song is 'Restore Me', feel his pain and then answer of what worked. Now go, slow, be patient, soak up this life and have patience that these weights of life will make you stronger...

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What up? You walking it like you talk it? Stepping up, loving God and better loving and serving others. 9/11 today and a humble reminder of another dark day and time. So what ever darkness or pit you are experiencing, question, did we move forward? Did good come out of bad? Depends on your perspective. I absolutely saw good come out of bad. If in doubt, check out the deeper series. For now, Rom 8:28 is your promise. God will make good out of bad...for those that seek Him. God is in the Hope business. If you are looking for encouragement and hope, you are here for a reason. Either to soak it up or share it. BTW, thank you so much for sharing this. Slowly but surely, we are another beacon seeking Truth - what works and doesn't in life. You are part of it.

So, two things teed up for you. One, back to the Pastor Rick well and Daily Hope. Full message details will be at the end. Two, a secular source. Yes, we will go there sometimes. Hey, we invited Ozzy Osbourne to FriDudes. We are an open door. Adam Carolla Show. Here you go...

Word! The wise will tune in, travel the horizontal by verifying it with the vertical. Think about it. That is how navigation works. You tell your phone app where you want to go, it lifts via Internet via GPS and talks to a satellite to track and guide you. Ha! From the beginning of time, that is how God works. You can try to find your way on your own and walk around aimlessly and lost. Or you can check your pride and lift it. Put in the request and ask for guidance. Your choice.

If you dug the earlier podcast snippets. You can find more at PastorRick.com/listen. A Faith that Keeps me Hopeful - Part 1. Published on 9/9/20. As for the Adam Carolla Show, isn't it interesting how God will use secular sources and even atheists to make a point? Whether you realize it or not, you answer to God. Everyone does. King Nebekenezzar, Pharaoh, Ceasar, Kim Jong Un, Putin, Trump, Obama, Clinton. Yes, you too! If your pride is getting in the way of that. Check out the Deeper Series and King Nebekenezzr's pride and then humble pie history. Back to Adam Carolla, you can find that episode at the Adam Carolla Show, interview with Jay Shetty the former monk, Part 2, published on 9/9/20.

You ready for more positive change and perspective? Create your own Dudes group. Subscribe at FriDudes.com for more insights, invites and notes of encouragement. Oh and check out GtSurf.org to start writing down and quality control check your life goals. Striving for your True Purpose.

Ending on a song note, I've been waiting to pimp this one. Some of you are absolutely drowning in life. Drowning in social media, hate, news, your work or unemployment, alcohol, drugs, depression, anxiety, fill in the blank. God is in the hope and restoration business. We are here to build you up. Encourage you. Then you go out, reach out, share and encourage someone else. This is 'Drown' by Lecrae and featuring John Legend. Please listen to these lyrics. If you dig, please add it to your 'Encouragement' playlist. Now go, don't listen to the lies in your head, you matter, you have purpose, lift the negatives, give thanks for the positives, set yourself free and help someone do the same...

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Welcome back to the Deeper Series! If you are new to the series, you can find three more Deeper episodes preceding this one. Debut episode was on August 18, 2020.

Casey has some cool nuggets that I hope will blow your mind. You think the Bible isn't historical. Well, here you go history buffs...

Word! Thank you Jogging Jesus...aka Casey. You down? Depressed? You are not alone. Please don't believe those lies in your head that you don't matter. You absolutely matter! Look how God rises up Daniel from the depths of despair. God uses tough times and bad people to help fertilize the ground for the good to sprout out. Rom 8:28. We complain about tough times yet we can't get stronger without resistance. Think about it.

Start lifting your negatives to God and then start asking God how he plans to leverage you like God did Daniel.

Ending on a song note, Casey sent some good ones. Cornerstone by Hillsong. My Hope is Built on Nothing Less by the Island Sing. Check those out. As for this one got a strong pull for an audible for any of your doubting. This is called 'Believe' by the Social Club Misfits. Really digging on those guys...the whole album. Check 'em out and please add them to your 'need a lift' list...now go, lift the negative, bet on hope, keep asking for the purpose, love, serve...

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Alright! Thanks for checking in CA, MI, KS, OH, TX and wherever you may be today. You are not listening to this by accident. Most of you are very striving to get more real and pursue some Truth. Implement what works on this broken planet and avoid what doesn't. We got 2 plays of the week for you! 2! Double your money. Going to start off things with Gemechis Buba talking about 'Horizontal vs. Vertical' thinking and your mindset in life. Then going to relay it back to Dr. Bryan Lorrits. He is quickly becoming an All-Star FriDude and a favorite here. You get to break it down and implement as you wish. If you dig, more details on where to find their entire messages, links, etc. Here you go...

I love Gemechis' take on 'Horizontal vs. Vertical' thinking. Which way do you lean more? Clearly, we are all about getting more vertical. Are you familiar with that saying street smart and book smart. Horizontal really explains them. Think of a college professor or that super smart kid in school. So book smart, yet can be so clueless in other ways. So here is a concept that I bet not many have heard. Are you God Smart? Jesus Smart? Holy Spirit Smart? That would be the vertical thinking that Gemechis was talking about. If that sounds silly to you then it's fair to say you are definitely more horizontal and relying on this broken planet to satisfy you - which will eventually be abject failure. You are putting our faith to flaws and flawed people. So for the vertically inclined, that is why you are here. You are seeking wisdom. You are intrigued or fully engaged with the vertical. God is the ultimate source of wisdom. You need to crack the book, the Owner's Manual, and then ask for understanding. And then it starts popping and it will for the rest of your life. It is that fact of why we have the 'Deeper Series'.

As for Finishing Well, I love Dr. Bryan Lorrits' style. He uses the vertical to explain how to navigate the challenges of the horizontal. You have a 100% chance of dying from something. If you believe in the Bible, you know it says that will give an account for our life here. So of course, finish well. Finish strong. It is our goal to keep encouraging you to do that.

As promised, if you would like to listen to the entire message of Bryan and Gemechis. For Bryan, search for the Bryan Lorrits podcast, "Finishing Well" published on August 27, 2020. For Gemechis Buba, you can find his message at Hosannalc.org, 'James - Week 5' published on August 30, 2020.

Ending on a song note, you want to go more vertical? What you tune into will help determine that. This is "Yes I Will" by Vertical Worship. If you dig, please add it to your going more vertical playlist. Now, go, get more vertical, love, serve...

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You ready to go Deeper? If yes, you are in the right place. We are going to talk about a dude named Daniel and the crap sandwich he was given. You think life is unfair? Check out Daniel. Then check out the greatness that comes out of that darkness. Here you go...

Word! Thank you Casey! If you are feeling down or heavy, welcome to the club. Casey wanted to make sure to encourage you. What we tackle is heavy but the end of the story is triumphant and amazing. We are set free by Jesus in John 3:16-17.

Do you feel a bit wiser? I hope so. Stick with us. We are striving for more wisdom. Speaking of wisdom, do you know why I appreciate the Bible? Well, one, there is a ton of wisdom. Two, it doesn't sugar coat. It tells your short life on this broken planet will be tough. In fact, the elite all stars (Moses, Ruth, Daniel, Jeremiah, Joseph, Jesus and all his disciples) experienced brutal. They all endured man at his worst. Slavery is in there. Again, show's man's ugliness and making oneself God to control others. Slavery is man made. Also shows how God's chosen ones endured it and triumphed.

It's safe to say we are all appalled by slavery. Flip side, odds are you are enslaved to something. You may not even realized it until now. Debt, addiction, alcohol, opioids, sugar, overeating, money, your job, adultery, another person, porn.. Need I go on? As Casey encouraged, God is in the freedom business. Jesus will take what ails you and help you triumph. God's Holy Spirit will guide you. You need to ask. You also need to be ready that it won't be an instant answer. One cannot get stronger without resistance. The more resistance you encounter, the greater the opportunity for strength and triumph. God wants his people strong...and that includes you.

Ending on a song note, you need to see a victory. Trust me, stick with Jesus and it's coming. Despite your darkness, God sees you. You are listening to this for a reason. As Vaquero would tell you, "You Matter'. This is "See a Victory" by Elevation Worship. Give them some love and add it to your, "I need Encouragement and Wisdom" play list. Now go, tune in more, lift those weights that are weighing you down to God. Ask for guidance and direction on what is your best path to Victory...

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You are in! For those coming back, you are either on the Hope train or striving to find it. As frustrating as this world can be, there is Truth and Hope for those willing to read and listen.
Man, shootings and riots and Covid and __________. You want change? It starts in the heart. So what's feeding your heart? Is your heart bitter or are you looking for what's better? This week, we are going back to the Ricky Jenkins Well, Pastor of Southwest Church in Indian Wells, CA. If you dig, stick around and we'll share where you can hear his entire message. Here you go...
Word! Thank you Pastor Ricky Jenkins and HotRod for leading this sesh. As we pursue Truth, I like to think of us as a rag-tag-bunch of flawed Dudes finding highlights like ESPN's game or play of the week. So those that dug what Pastor Ricky was dishing. You can hear his entire message at Southwestchurch.com, "Legacy: The Bibilica Vision of Discipleship, Week 6, published on 8/23/20.
Side note, for the avid listener you'll note both Pastor Ricky and Jogging Jesus quoting some similar statistics. Both recorded days apart with no knowledge of the other. Thank you God when you affirm through others.
As per HotRod's lead, yes, please check out James for yourselves. Read and soak it up. He read from James 3:13 - 4:17. If you really dig, Hosannlc.org has given a great series on James. One of my favorite books.
Ending on a song note, we going back with an encore to the Social Club Misfits, song is called "Enough". One of my favorite lines, "You can't hear God's voice when the book is closed." It's hard to understand God's voice until you tune in. The Bible will pop to life if you ask for it and tune in enough. You will get Hope. You will get a better peace of mind. For any doubters, just know that I don't hear a loud audible voice of God. It is an inner voice that is always right. At times, the inner voice can be quite clear. It will tell you that you are loved and to love and serve others. When you open the Bible, you will get even more clarity if you ask for it. Pray for wisdom and understanding and to be peace of mind. It's not normally an instant solution. It is a life long quest. Now go, read the Bible, pray, love God and love others...

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What are your toughest questions?

How do we know the Bible is true?

Which books of the Bible befuddle you the most?

The 'Deeper Series' continues. Jogging Jesus is back. We discuss 'Why'. One more appetizer before we get intoto some main courses. Let's go...

Thanks for joining us this week. You want IN? What's your toughest question. Can you let us know? Just hit us up at the 'Contact Us' page at FriDudes.com. How do we know this is true? One, I don't want to waste my time or yours. I'm not getting paid for this. You are not making money listening to this. One, I've seen too many lives get better and stronger after tuning into the Bible. I've also seen many twist the words for their benefit. For now, we'll just call them wolves in sheep's clothing. The Bible even warns us about them. Check out Matt 7:15. Don't let them get in your way of Truth. Read and judge it for yourself.

Ending on a song note, going back to Casey's list. Some of you are running on empty. Spending your whole life chasing what is missing. When the world leaves you high and dry, come to the Well. The Well is deep and where you often find the best water. This is the "Well" by the Casting Crowns. If you dig, please give them and yourself some love and add it to your 'Deeper' playlist. Now, go, deeper, start or go back to reading Matt or John and further open your eyes and heart, then go serve and love...

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Hey, hey, hey! Special shout out to our listeners in Pakistan and Ireland and in Virgina and California to name a few. Wherever you may be today, I bet many of you are asking "What in the world is going on?!" You've been beat down? For those that have stuck with us long enough, you will be challenged. You are not listening to this by accident. You have a purpose and we will encourage you. For today, we are going back to the Dr. Bryan Lorrits well. He helps explain how we can be different during the tougher times on this broken planet. We listen to it and discuss. If you would like to listen to the entire message go to the 'Bryan Lorrits' podcast given at Summit Church in NC. Published on 8/4/20, entitled "Same Different as He". BTW, this is the same guy that gave us 'Strange Love', one of my favorite messages ever that we discussed back on July 4th, season 2, Episode 37. Let's go!
Word! Check it out, 1 Peter 4. Tough times are promised. They can be brutal and you are not alone. Thank you Dr. Lorrits for your excellent take on this. You can hear his entire message at 'Bryan Lorrits' Podcast, entitled "Same Different as He", published on 8/4/20.
We are absolutely seeing a big increase in confusion, anxiety and depression. If that is you, will you let us know at FriDudes.com/contact us? We will encourage you. We will pray for you. You are absolutely not alone. You have a purpose. You may feel helpless right now. Just know God sees you and loves you. This hurt isn't from God. This hurt is from this broken planet. Keep tuning to the voices that build you up. Seek therapy if needed. Depression is as real as cancer. Lean into community as Dr. Lorritts suggests.
One last perspective and then song time to reflect. One cannot get stronger without resistance. In addition, some of the best to help others is one that knows your pain...whether that is a loss of a loved one or dealing with cancer or addiction or ___________. You can help someone else someday. I believe that is part of your healing path. That can be part of your legacy.
Ending on a song note, this is the song "God I Look to You" that was in his message...this version is by Bethel Music and Francesa Batistelli, if you dig, please add it to your playlist, now go, lean into the community that will build you up, serve and love...

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Welcome to the 'Deeper Series'. We alluded to it in the Fringe 10 episode. Some of you are ready or are already deeper. We are going to dig deeper. In search of more wisdom and truth. This episode more sets the stage. Make not mistake...we will be going deep.

Thanks for giving it a shot. Now, you may know us a bit better. Next up, we are going to better tackle 'Why' of deeper. Can't wait to share those insights with you...stay tuned. Ending on a song note, Casey's choice, this is Cody Davenport, "Set a Fire". Stating the obvious, there are good fires and bad fires. We clearly want to encourage you with the good fires that benefit you and our loved ones and even ones you don't know yet. Give the lyrics a listen and reflect, give Cody some love and add it to your playlist, now go, serve, love and dare to go deeper in your reading, studying and understanding...

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Alright, on to a deeper path. Do you think forgiveness is weak? If yes, I will say you are in the majority. If you are in the majority, does that make you right? Deep! Put that in your 'I'm always right pipe" and smoke it. We discuss it. Flawed dudes, striving for Truth and wisdom. Here you go!

Word! Thank you for joining this week. Do you feel a bit wiser? I hope so. That is our goal. Truth works. So, what hurt are you holding on to like a blankey? Many of you haven't thought of it that way have you? Love and hate are passion. How much time and passion are you giving to what you hate?

I call that an "Oh Snap" verse. Hard to debate it right? So you are flawed. You have screwed up just like Jonah. You clearly want to be forgiven. Then you must forgive others that have hurt you too. Two-way street.

If you are ready to let go and let God, here is a suggested prayer that for some of you will feel like taking a 1,000 pounds off your shoulders. Father, you know my hurts. You know my grudges and struggles. I give them over to you. I'm sick and tired of holding on to these burdens too long. You know how to handle these people that have hurt me. You know how to handle these circumstances better than me. I give them to you as I humbly ask you to forgive me. Amen.

There you go. Feel lighter? I hope so. BTW, some things are impossible to forget. When they creep in, simply lift it back to God. You may be lifting daily. Do it enough. You will experience peace. Not my promise. It is God's, check out Phil 4: 6-7.

Ending on a song note, this new gem just made it on my run list. This world will chew you up and spit you out. For those keeping the Faith, despite the crap, this one is for you. This is 'Enough' by Social Club Misfits, if you dig, please give them some love and add it to your play list, now go go, serve, forgive and love...

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Well hello! Thank you for giving this rag-tag-bunch of flawed dudes a shot as they pursue Truth. Thank you for your willingness to pursue Truth. What works in life and what doesn't. When it is worthy, thank you so much for sharing this podcast. Special shout out to the UK, India, New York, Virginia and wherever you may be today. How are we doing is the question. How are we doing with this flawed podcast. How are you doing? How are we doing as a world?

Depending on your news source, you may be very well in deep depression. Hang in there. You have a purpose. You are not here by accident. You want to be more content and less dismayed, increase serving others. I guarantee your heart will be filled. That's not my promise. That is God's. Listen to these dudes' hearts. The more you serve and love and give to others, the more you will be fulfilled. Bonus, you are making this world a better place. How do you want to be remembered? Legacy.

With all that in mind, we are going back to Patrick and the #3 most listened to Fringe. This world needs more Patricks. Living and serving and building up our hardest hit areas. In this case, Minneapolis and the recent epicenter of racial tensions (via George Floyd's death) that spread across the world.

One can pass new laws. One can try to abolish or re-invent the police, mark my words, nothing is going to change without changed hearts (all sides).

Patrick is in the heart changing and building up business. His most recent episode immediately follow this one. Suggested two options. One, serve more like Patrick. Two, if you are working and doing well, give to those making a difference. You can find Patrick's link on the 'Action Page' at FriDudes.com

Now, go, serve, love...

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One can pass new laws. One can try to abolish or re-invent the police, mark my words, nothing is going to change without changed hearts (all sides).

Now, go, serve, love...

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Good day! Well, last week we tackled the Prosperity Gospel. Tackling frustrations with churches and pastors obsessed with money over heart. As per Casey's suggestion, what about the other side? Are you frustrated with this world and want to change it for the better? Giving to churches and non-profits that are helping serve the poor and encouraging and building people up and the greater community, sharing the true gospel? Some very interesting case studies and takes on how others give and receive.

Word! Thanks for joining this week. Let me say something a bit counterintuitive, personally, I'm not telling you what to do with the money currently in your checking and savings account. If you believe in God, a challenge. Pray on it and ask God, where and to whom should I give? Pray it everyday. Listen for the quiet/inner voice. If you are bold enough to listen and act like that lady that left her money on Casey's window, get ready to be amazed. As Pastor Rick Warren says, you can't out give God. Whether you like him or not, Rick claims to give away 91% of his income. 91%?! You and me, may be challenged to give 10% or more. And for any of you not working right now, we lift you. I pray for the right jobs to come your way. Personally, I know how disheartening that feels. Once you are earning again, you know good it feels to help others.

Oh, and to the Fringe, thank you so much for letting us know your frustration about money and churches. I hear Rod in saying we need to be careful to judge. On your side, you get hurt by pastors that are more about themselves and less about Jesus and living his True Word. Loving God. Loving Others. So this one is for you Fringe, if a pastor thinks they need a G6 private jet, here is my recommendation. Fly coach. Take the savings and give it to the poor. Jesus rode into town on a donkey, not a stallion or a chariot. See Mark 11: 1-11. So pastors more about money, put that in your spiritual money pipe and smoke it.

Ending on a song note, HotRod had a great suggestion. Going secular again to help make a greater point, this is Give It Away Now, by the Red Hot Chili Peppers. Give them some love and add it to your playlist. Every time you hear it, ask yourself, how am I doing in giving it away and helping others? Now, go, serve, give, love...

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2 most-listened-to-episode of the popular 'Fringe' series. For those new, what is the Fringe? Those on the sidelines or off the grid of Christianity due to frustration and hypocrisy. So if you are frustrated on the religious front? Do you know someone that is being a dick in person or on social media? This is your listen. And perhaps an episode you can share with the one that frustrates you. So, without further ado, the very next episode is the Best of...Don't Be a Dick episode in its entirety.

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2 most-listened-to-episode of the popular 'Fringe' series. For those new, what is the Fringe? Those on the sidelines or off the grid of Christianity due to frustration and hypocrisy. So if you are frustrated on the religious front? Do you know someone that is being a dick in person or on social media? This is your listen. And perhaps an episode you can share with the one that frustrates you. So, without further ado, the very next episode is the Best of...Don't Be a Dick episode in its entirety.

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Although technically this is not a 'Fringe' episode, how many of you are frustrated with churches/pastors being more about money? Well, this is your listen. Some call it the 'Prosperity Gospel' and it draws in many and pushes away many. Here you go...
Heck, my wife and I don't agree on everything. I do take his words seriously and I will further vett this. Just know it is okay to question. Faith does not exist without doubt. May a pastor never be considered greater than Jesus. May a building never become greater than the Bible.
You heard me say it before, if you are looking for a church or a new podcast or mentor, my recommendation is the following: God/Jesus centered. Bible centered: Genesis through Revelation. Primary focus is on Loving God and Loving Others. Jesus' top two commands. If they are all about money, look out. I thought both Casey and Rick made great points. Jesus first. Yet Rick astutely mentioned certain churches grab Jesus and then add 1,000 hoops to it - like the Mormons or Jehova Witnesses or name your next cult. Some of you react, that isn't very loving. You ask my mormon friends, I love them. Ask my atheist friends, I love them. Ask HotRod in which he is a huge fan of other preachers that aren't my cup of tea, I love him. Ask HotRod about Rick Warren being my favorite teacher and one of his least, he still loves and cares about me. May we never put any man or woman or thing above Jesus and our Heavenly Father. That would be commandment #1. #2 You love others, even the ones in which you disgree. If you must share where you disagree, best to do it in a loving, factual, truthful way. Then be prepared to love them whether they agree with you or not.
I love Casey's words about praying for those that you disagree. Very wise. Jesus tells us to do exactly that. I pray for my mormon friends. When they challenge me, I'm ready. In a loving way I've told them, I love it that you have Jesus involved. I don't like it that Joseph Smith added a 1,000 hoops back on top of Jesus saying that is what is needed to go to heaven. For those buying into that, I love you and I believe that is a lie. Jesus words are enough for me. Jesus came to take the silly hoops away. Jesus came to correct churches not to be all about money and even flipped over their tables. Mormons, Jehohav, fill in the blank, you show me where in Jesus' words he says that he's not enough. Jesus flat out said, "I am the Way, the Truth and the Life, nobody comes to the Father except by me. Check out John 14:6. You don't need a new age prophet or pastor that works in Jesus yet redefines the rules on what it takes to get to heaven. That's a major flag. Of course I encourage you to read. Matt, Mark, Luke John, read Jesus words' for yourself and then judge for yourself. Don't take my words for it. I'm not Jesus. I look up to Jesus to answer these tough questions. That is the Truth Ruth!
Whew! Seriously lifting today. As you know, I'm not afraid to land on a secular song. Rule alert! Haha! I do love picking a secular song that helps put an issue into focus. Helps, you, me and perhaps a church and pastor to look in the mirror. Are you all about money? This is "Money" by Pink Floyd. If you dig, give them some love, add it to your playlist and may it from now on be a reminder to question a church's intention with money and also your heart for where to properly give to those truly in need and/or doing great works...now, go, read, search for Truth and Love...

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Yes, Fringe, you are hanging in there and do we have a grand finale of fireworks for you! Vaquero brings it! For those frustrated with too much religion, stumbling blocks and not enough heart, here you go...

Word! Thank you Vaquero. Thank you for the ride of ups and downs. Thank you for your heart and insights. Thank you Fringe for sticking with us, even when we don't always agree. As we discussed, Jesus was very frustrated with the religious elite. In fact, it was the religious elite that nailed Jesus to the cross. So if you have been pushed away from Jesus, will you let those "Christians' know how they have put stumbling blocks in your way? For the Christians, that have stuck with us through this series, will you boldly ask your loved ones on the Fringe if/how you may have pushed them away?

For any on the Fringe listening, despite any frustration/doubt, here is a simple prayer for you. God, if you are real, will you show me? You know the ones that pushed me away. You know the frustrations and confusion that I have. Jesus says in John 3:16 that if I choose to believe and accept the give of eternal life it is mine. Despite doubts and that sounds too good to be true, I'm going for it. Will you help me and surround me with loved ones that will help me better understand it? Amen.

If you just prayed that, it is that simple. And forgive us or those that make it too complicated. If you stick with us, we are going to go Deeper and better explain the best selling book in the world - the Bible. If you haven't yet, sign up at FriDudes.com and we pledge to keep encouraging you along. In fact, you can input there what you would like to see more/better understand.

Ending on a song note, going back to the song that capped off the very first Fringe episode. Liars Club aka Heart Like Mine, written and performed by Vaquero/Nate. Now, go, serve, love...

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Thanks for joining us this week. You frustrated with others lately? Angry? Depressed? Anxious? This is your listen. If not, you know someone that is and perhaps you can share and help encourage them? Here you go...

Word! You ready to change what you can change? G has a blueprint and program that works. If you would like to join and help shape the program and yourself, please sign up at FriDudes.com and put in the message box, "Operations: Bitter or Better". You cannot control everything around you. You can definitely control you and how you react. That's the Truth Ruth!

Special shout out to our listeners in CA. You are currently our #1 market. Thank you for sharing! If you are not subscribed yet, you can subscribe to FriDudes at Apple, Stitcher, Spotify or at FriDudes.com

Ending on a song note, congrats to Jake and Miyay on their wedding! From the heart, may this message bless your marriage and every marriage listening to this. Over time frustrations and grudges can build, as much as you want to change your spouse, you can only encourage them. Ultimately is is their choice. Ultimately, it is your choice to change what you can change, most notably you and your reactions. A Jesus-centered marriage works! Check out Matt 7:24-27. "Clean" by Natalie Grant was the song sung by Jared to Jake and Miyay

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Are you frustrated with religion? Welcome! This is your episode. I love Vaquero's heart on this one. It is the most listened to episode of the Fringe. Give it a shot. If you know anyone frustrated with religion, will you please share?

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If you are frustrated with religion, this is your episode. A critical take from a PK (pastor's kid). As of 7/21/20, this is the most listened to Fringe episode. If you dig, can you please share with anyone else you know that is frustrated with religion?

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Greetings and refections from Avalon Beach.

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What works and doesn't in marriage.

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Yes! You're here. Question for you? You ever feel like you were judged for not following the rules? Ever been frustrated with the moral police? Has it kept you from church or avoiding certain family members? This is your episode. Here you go...

Rules. Okay, rule followers, yes, we do need structure. Structure does help. Society and order are nice to have. You know who else has a lot of rules and order? North Korea, China, Iran, Saudi Arabia. Do you want more rules or do you want more heart? Do you enjoy being married to an a-hole that needs to be right all the time? Who in the right mind wants to go to a church or family where they feel belittled? Are you really passionate about Jesus? Then you will love like Jesus. You will follow his most two important commands: Love God, Love Others. All the other rules that you may be passionate about mean nothing if you don't get those first two right. So religious elite, put that in your spiritual pipe and smoke it. And for those that feel/felt belittled, you are now empowered with Truth. Strange Love works. Love is greatest of all. If you are versed, you know that. Let us all, including myself, practice that more. For those confused, here's a prayer for you. God, I may not get all of this. I do know I want and need more love. Can you open my eyes to this Jesus love you promised me. I choose to accept. And for those that chose to accept it already, will you show me them how to better love and less judge. In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

Ending on a song note, HotRod suggested 'All you Need is Love', fitting. Yes the Beatles are flawed. We are flawed. I'm getting the pull to another song that you have never heard before. Another secular? Rule alert, rule alert. Some of your rules say we should end on a Christian song. We don't. In fact, I love to find and connect God's Light via secular sources. Case in point. I'm certain most of you have never heard this song. And if you just heard it without context you would ask, what is up with that song and how does it fit? In fact she uses the f word! Rule alert. Rule alert! Here is the context. Listening to this song it reminded me of Gomer, the former prostitute that married Hosea. It made me think of what she could have been telling herself before Hosea forgave and rescued her back. She screwed so up many times. She f'd up. She feels likes a loser. Doesn't feel worthy. Now feeling lonely. This is Supalonely by Benee. Please give her some love and add it to your playlist. BTW, shout out to NZ! Benee is from NZ. I bet she never thought her song would be promoted via a Christian men's group. Shout out to NZ Emily! One of our favorite listeners and authors of one of the nicest reviews written about us on Apple Podcasts. Extra challenge, when you hear this song, Google or get yourself a Bible and actually open the book of Hosea and read about Gomer. Or if you feel like you have been judging too much lately. Go back to the Strange Love episode on July 4th. No matter how much you have screwed up, God loves you. You don't have to be lonely. You don't have to feel like a loser. God will have mercy on you just like God did with Gomer and even Hosea. Love works. Jesus works. Now go, serve, forgive, judge less and love more...

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Yes! You are in! You ready for some strange love? This is one of the best messages I have ever heard on the subject of love. So good, that is my dream that all in this world will hear it, understand it and best of all practice it...Strange Love by Dr. Lorrits…

Amazing! Strange Love. You need it. I need it. They need it. Everyone needs it. You want to live in a fractious home or society? Of course not. Christians, it should start with you. You are commanded to do this…strange love. You may think you are high and mighty. Go back to Hosea and read God’s words to him. You are flawed just like the one that drives you crazy. Ok, flawed in different ways perhaps, flawed never the less. Would you please forward this to every Christian you know? In fact, Google or YouTube Southwestchurch.com. Special message from Dr. Bryan Lorrits on June 6, 2020 and get the entire service and message from from him and Pastor Ricky Jenkins as well. We will also have the YouTube link up on the show page.
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So Christians, are you going to swallow the bait of provocation or will you offer strange love? Easier said than done, I must admit. Are you trying to change someone or are you loving them? Easier said than done. Is your goal to win a debate and lose the love war? Which relationships have your burned or destroyed over your ego? Which ones will you destroy over your ego? Is Jesus really your savior? If so, time for some of you including me to step our game up. Strange Love wins. Love is greatest of all.

Ending on a song note, any 80’s kids out there? So I Googled ‘Strange Love’, a few songs showed up. One by Halsey. Definitely not the one to end on. And then I see ‘Strange Love’ by Depeche Mode. Googled the lyrics and they are interesting to say the least. Hey, if you been sticking with us long enough you know we are not afraid to end on a tongue in cheek song. We are not perfect. We need ‘Strange Love’ and so do you. So give Depeche Mode some love and add it to your play list and also bookmark’s Dr. Bryan Lorrits is Strange Love on your YouTube. Odds are you are going to need to listen to it again and again and again. Now, go, serve and love, especially strange love...

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Preface: At FriDudes we seek truth. What works and doesn't in life. You'll also see that we admit we are flawed. Truth, we are all flawed to some degree. Hence, why we need guidance and seek wisdom. Sometimes we get it right. Sometimes we get it wrong. As for this editorial opinion, some FriDudes may agree with me, some may not. May we never cease to pursue Truth. Here you go...

Please don't kill math! "But, I just feel..." Emotions and feelings over statistics can be a scary thing. Wait, is this a Christian or Atheist blog? We love math! Well, most of us. At least us critical/logical thinkers. So maybe you are an atheist or maybe you are Christian, if you love math, welcome! Math is truth. 2+2 = 4. True? Of course. Do you want Truth? If you are smart, you say yes. Math explains a lot about this world...distance, speed, velocity, aka physics. To me, math just like DNA is proof that there is a designer behind all this...in other words God. There's a lot that can be explained with formulas yet we take it for granted. Some people think math just appeared out of no where. Atheists, you may think this world and universe just appeared out nowhere. If you agree with that than math also came out of nowhere. Math will also tell you we sit exactly the perfect distance from the sun to support life. Yet most of us take all that for granted...just like our health and bodies. Yes, math also helps explain diseases and what is most likely to kill us.

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Man! So good! Thank you Dad! Skeptic, how many societal problems could we solve with men like that? This is the Order. We have the blue print. Yet, as humans we love to do it 'our' or 'my' way. God's way works...if you are properly tuned in. Getting the pull to some of you that didn't have a Dad or maybe you weren't a great Dad. If you didn't have a great Dad like Maya or Bold or like my Dad, may you realize like them, your ultimate Father is up there. Tune in like they did and feel that love you have never felt before. Take my Dad's suggestion and start in Ephesians. For those with kids and or older, if you are still breathing you can still make a difference. Apologize to the ones you hurt. Serve them and their kids if you can. Bonus challenge, pick a community nearest you that you know has been hardest hit via racial tensions. Google for churches in that region, pick one and tell them you would like to step up as a mentor for youth in need. Super bonus, will you share this with every Dad you know? Could you imagine this world if we had more Denzel's and Jon's and Maya's in this world? Share what works.

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Another look at race, legislation, solutions, hearts, the Fringe, Christianity.

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Are you afraid to die? If you say yes, you are the majority of this world. This group is clearly not the majority. Their answers may very well surprise you. Why? Here you go...

Thanks for joining FriDudes this week. Are you still afraid to die? It's okay. It just means you are human and not sure of all this. Or maybe you're sure or kind a sure yet you are having a good time on this broken planet. As hard as life can be on this earth, and yes it can be brutal and some of you have lived it. The earth can also have moments of joy and love. My theory. This life on this broken planet is a test. We get a taste of what heaven is like at times. We also get a taste of what hell can be like at times. Then you get to choose. Do you want the life that tasted like heaven or hell? I bet most of you never thought of it that way before. You are just living in the moment, whether good or and s-sandwich. I believe God put the loved ones that you so cherish in your life to teach you how to love. God put them there to show you how much God loves you. For those that have suffered a severe loss, you are not alone. Many within FriDudes have as well. So why do they press on in Hope? Because this broken planet isn't just it. It is a test. For those still doubting, check out Imagine Heaven that Greg and Casey endorsed and judge it for yourself. Then Google John 3 and judge it for yourself. Hope rules. Hopelessness sucks. If you are able, and still in doubt, will you lift a prayer with me? God, if you are real will you show me? In John 3 it says if I choose to believe in Jesus that I will have eternal life away from this broken planet. An eternal life what is the best and beyond of this world. You gave me a taste of that beauty with your nature and the loved ones that I whole dear in my heart. I would love the clarity and confidence. Will you please give the wisdom to help better understand? In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

If you prayed that, would you let us know? Simply go to Fridudes.com and hit the 'contact us' page. One of us will follow up with you to answer any questions. We'll even send you a free Bible to help you better understand. Bonus, we'll send you "Imagine: Heaven". book as well.

On the flip side, maybe you get all this stuff. Ok, how are you doing sharing this Hope with your loved ones? I bet most of you are struggling. Here's my best practice. Tell them you love them. Tell them if heaven is for real then they are absolutely someone you hope to be with in eternity. If you struggle with the words then will you share this? Ask your loved one to give this episode a shot and ask if you can discuss it over coffee or lunch or _________. At a minimum, they may think you are weird, at least they know they are someone that you cherish that much for eternity. That's the Truth Ruth!

Ending on a song note, so many of you are hurting and struggling. This is part of your test. How do you handle it? Whom or what do you go for help? God knows and I'm going to encourage you to go to Him more. Build a relationship with Him like Casey or Bold or Rick or Nate or Peter or _________. This is "God Only Knows" by King and Country. If you dig, will you give them some love and add them to your play list? Now, go, serve, love your neighbors and neighboring communities...

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Despite the mayhem, you are here! Thank you! We strive for peace. We strive for solutions to racial harmony and justice. We start off with some wise words from Denzel Washington. Here you go...

Word! Thank you Mr. Denzel Washington and your words on the importance of fathers in the home. That is part of the solution. As for us, we are flawed Dudes seeking Truth. Sometimes we get it right, sometimes wrong. Ideally, and this is the operative word 'ideally', a father (properly tuned in) will help guide and raise the child in the way they should go. Realistically, it may be a single Mom or grandparents or __________. I love the way Casey closed the prayer. Some of you don't have the luxury of a strong earthly father. Casey is right, your ultimate Father is above if you so choose. If you are an earthly father and have been gifted with children, keep tuning in, we want to build you up. We all have room for improvement, I don't care how 'good' you think you are. There is room for better and looking in the mirror and quality control checks.

Ending on a song note, giving honor to our ultimate Father, let's go to "The Father's House" by Cory Asbury, if you dig, please give Cory some love an add it to your playlist. Now, go, serve, love, whether that be your ultimate father, your earthly father, your kids if you have some or your neighbors and neighboring communities...

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Despite the mayhem, you are back! Thanks for joining another special sesh. Racists, white supremacists, anarchists causing hurt and destruction. On the other side, you got people like Patrick. I believe he is part of the solution. Pulling night shifts with his neighbors, loving and protecting in N Minneapolis.

Word! Fringe you can debate God and Jesus and best path forward, very, very hard to argue results. Do you want a world with more hate or more love? Do you want a selfish/a-hole as a neighbor or someone like Patrick or Vaquero? If Patrick, he would stay up with you all night to help protect your house or business. If Vaquero, well, I know he'll at least lovingly correct you. Yes, that's a bit tongue in cheek. In all sincerity, we need more Patricks and Vaqueros and Phils in this world. BTW, you want some more Patrick. He debuted on Season 1, Episode 2, "Real Change. Positive Impact...in North Minneapolis, published on 10/5/19. Real interesting perspective on the deeper issues affecting our society and how he proposes to solve.

You want to be pro-active? Here's Patrick's email and link to give to his church and neighborhood....patrickray1993@gmail.com...North Side Neighborhood Church...or click here and look for the box for North Side Neighborhood Church...

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Give some love to the businesses mentioned by Patrick...http://sammysavenueeatery.com/...https://www.gofundme.com/f/rebuild-fade-factory

Ending on a song note, Patrick's choice and of course he's going Deep. Hey, he's a pastor with a loving heart. Here's, A Mighty Fortress is our God by Elevation Worship. If you dig, please add it to your playlist to help you chill out and get inspired to serve more. Now, go, serve, love your neighbor and neighboring communities...

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Heavy week at FriDudes as many of these guys live in the Minneapolis/St, Paul area. George Floyd's life was taken and a societal bomb went off in the Twin City area and beyond. What do we have to say about racism? Here you go...

Thanks for joining us on this heavy week. We will tackle brutal. We will tackle the biggest problems that ravage our world. What if we all did that? What if we all stood for peace and love and harmony? If you are a Christian, that is your mandate. If you know a Christian that isn't doing that, then lovingly call them out. If you truly love Jesus, I don't know how you can be racist. It goes against everything that Jesus stood for. For you that mock Jesus and his followers, you are mocking peace and love. “God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. Matt 5:11. Racism = hate. Jesus = Love. If you truly study His words and implement that, you get that. You will shine it. If not, you're just a poser.

Speaking of Love and Truth, it is why these Dudes gather. Focusing on love striving to be better husbands and fathers and neighbors. Some of those Dudes are police officers and others are hard working citizens with different shades of skin color. Together, we are united in love for Jesus and our families and communities. We choose love. How about you? If you choose love, welcome to the brotherhood and sisterhood. BTW, in honor of Dude Jared and his heart to better give. If you have an idea or a favorite charity that focuses on race relations and building up communities - let us know at FriDudes.com and we'll plug you. May we truly walk it like we talk it...

Ending on a song note, you heard my declaration of Martin Luther King Jr. as one of my favorite speakers ever. Jesus may by #1. MLK is in the upper echelon. So with MLK in mind and for what he stood for and what we stand for, I'm dusting off, "In the Name of Love" aka Pride by U2. Written about the night that MLK Jr. was killed as a shot rang out in a Memphis Sky. If honor of MLK JR and for those wrongly killed like George, please add it to your play list. Going forward, ask yourself, what am I doing out of LOVE to help serve my neighbors and neighboring communities...no matter what their skin shade or beliefs? Now, go, love, serve...

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Yes! Vaquero Guapo is back! You are in. Fringe 7. What happens when we get it wrong?

Thanks for joining the Fringe this week. What happens when we get it wrong? A lot! It's why many of you have stayed away from church. A church becomes more about jumping through hoops or protecting the abuser vs. the abused. It can go sideways fast. That's why I firmly believe in the separation of church and state, and that's coming from a Jesus believer. For your favorite Fringer that you know has been pushed away or ran away from church, would you share this podcast with them? Break it down. Talk about the Good, Bad and Ugly. When and if you decide to go back to church, my rule of thumb is simple. One, the church has to be more about Jesus and loving others vs. loving themselves. Do they work with the entire Bible? Not just bits and pieces that fit their agenda of hate or oppression or justification. Are they more about loving others than money for themselves? There's a Christian church out there for you. When things lift, I encourage you to give it another go. If you do have a church that you love and gets above right? Let us know and we'll plug it and let that community know it is Fringe friendly. Hit us up at FriDudes.com and send us a message on the 'Contact Us' page.

Ending on a song note, you know what I love about the Fringe? I don't feel the pressure to end on a perfect song. Often, we get to end on an edgy song. Now, this song isn't Vaquero endorsed. We'll see what he has to say about in Fringe 8. Confession, I really like Metallica. Shhhhhh. Don't tell anybody. What happens when we get it wrong? Master of Puppets comes to mind. Hey, I'm not just picking on certain churches here either. Think of North Korea or China or Russia. You don't talk like us. You don't believe like us. You are out. Listener. You are smart. You've been sticking with us because I'm certain you are not afraid to question. What is Truth? Does the Truth set you free? Who really wants Truth and who really just wants to control? You are most likely book smart. You may be street smart. Are you spiritually smart? Or are you just a puppet? This is Master of Puppets by Metallica, if you dig, give them some love and add it to your very eclectic/independent minded music mix...

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Welcome back to FriDudes. Bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. Today we go Old School. Reflecting on what happened and was written thousands of years ago and how it applies and helps us better understand what you are going though right now.

Thanks for joining us this week. It an honor to reflect with these Dudes. Did you hear their wisdom? Versed and wise. This is what we strive for...what works and doesn't in life learning from kings and prophets thousands of years ago that still applies today in life. Knowledge is one thing. Wisdom is the ultimate understanding via God. There is a reason the Bible is the best selling book ever. If you are not sure where to start. I like Matt or John. Or download the YouVersion of the Bible app and start with the verse of the day. NLT or NIV version for easiest reading. Get your wisdom on!

If you dig, deeper insights and invites waiting for you at FriDudes.com. Check out the blog from 'Deep Thoughts' for the thinkers or 'Marriage' best practices for those that like to get laid. Yeah I said it. If you believe in God then God definitely invented sex and it is an epic form of love when you have your A game going. For those married, step your game up! Fridudes.com. Click on Blogs, then Marriage.

Ending on a song note, the wiser you become the more bullet proof you become. Meaning you can better handle these toughest of times here and be ready for the life promised after this broken plant. This song is called BulletProof by Citizen Way, if you dig, please give them some love and add it to your play list. Now go, dive deeper, get wiser, love better...

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Welcome back to a special edition and recording for a COVID update. Warning this is part reported fact and part opinion/reflection. These are my reflections and not of all the Dudes. That I can promise you. Fringe lovers, no worries, we'll get Vaquero Guapo back. He has some work to do at his real job. Contrary to what many of you may think with this amazing production quality, sarcasm alert, this is not our daytime job. We don't make a dime. In fact, it costs us money and time. We won't be quitting our day time jobs soon.

19th of May 2020, a collection of thoughts on the current state of the world. Not sure if this will make any difference. Simply getting the pull to right down more observations and opinions. Only time will tell and future generations will be able to say true or not.

First and foremost, I give God thanks that we don't live on this broken planet forever. At times, this can be a world of tears and pain and yes death for all. At other times, it can be full of joy and laughter. A taste and a test of which side we want to choose. For those that need some encouragement, I keep going back to Revelation 21:4. I love that verse for anyone hurting. 'He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death' or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed.

Going Old School, I am working my way through the Old Testament again with some of the Dudes. It's as difficult as I remember it. Heavy and dark with moments of inspiration. Full of plagues and brutal and repeats of what some call the "Sin Cycle". Integrity-to-temptation-to-fall-to-destruction-to-repentance-to integrity to...repeat. Round and around we go and it continues to this day. Sincerely, how much have you been into God...I mean in a real, sincere, loving way? How much has our society and this world? When you read the Old Testament, today and all this crap seems to make more sense in an odd way.

On 2/29/20, recorded a session, before the virus crap hit the fan, entitled the 'Coronavirus Breakdown'. I encourage you to go back and re-listen and judge it. I'm so glad that was done. Gives us a watermark to reference. Discussed stats, projections, truth and logic. WHO and CDC projected then to have a 1-2% death rate. Stated that we are 10X+ more likely to die from cancer or heart disease. Ironically, COVID could match the depression/suicide rate. Only time will tell. Yes, it could end up being way worse. Regardless, said to take lives very seriously.

Most embracing defending innocent life for this COVID campaign...which I respect of course. Isn't it interesting that deep down we want to defend innocent life? Altruism. That may look like a no brainer question. Let me reposition. As stated in previous podcast, what if we had a virus that prevented many women from having babies full term? Think Handmaid's Tale. The virus took them earlier stage. Taking an estimated 50 million lives since 1974? 25 million future women denied their opportunity to live? Oh snap! Quandary. Think about it. Do we really want to defend 'all' innocent life? How truly pure are our hearts for others? What are the impacts of our 'choices'? We are being tested in so many ways.

Truth, as a Christian it is our duty to respect and honor life. This is still a quandary for us too. What are the impacts of our 'choices'? Get the irony there?

Truthfully, I really don't know the best path for COVID-19. I simply wonder. Time will tell. May the True Light shine. God, I pray for mercy and the best path forward. Amen.

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Heat! If you make it to the end, you are going to hear some carolina and ghost pepper talk. How passionate are you for life? For those that say one death is one too many, you are going to be challenged. This is a test. Here you go...

Whether you are missing church like Jared or experiencing frustration with a bunch of entitled, crabby people crammed in a space demanding their food or you miss just hanging in a bar with some buds, burgers and suds, you are not alone. We are all sacrificing to a certain degree. I believe this is a major test. You are all being challenged. For those passionate for life and are convinced the 'lock down' is the way, so are you truly passionate for all life? 'ALL' life? Politicians thank you for showing your cards. Those for life, will be called to defend all innocent life. As for my Christians brothers and sisters, this is a test for us too. How much are you truly willing to sacrifice to help others and respect life? All life? Are we truly loving God and others as Jesus commands us?

Ending on a song note, we got to go deep and end on a positive note. This is called 'Good Grace' by Hillsong. I love this song and I think it is perfect for this day and age. If you dig, please give Hillsong some love and add it to your playlist...

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Oh man, I can't believe it. You are back! Two weeks of eating vegetables and the darkness of politics and you are still here?! Yes! The good news, we are moving forward...

Word! Thanks for joining the Fringe this week. Thank you Vaquero! That was a breath of fresh air. We are not afraid to take the tough/crticical questions. How about you? Think about your friend family member or colleague that is super defensive. I guarantee you the more defensive the more insecure. A well educated and versed individual will listen, cross examine in a logical, truthful way - just like Vaquero's wife! So if you get your undies in a bunch, that's on you. So which are you? Are you an effective communcator or just full of hot air and silly meme's? For those that want confidence and truth and not afraid of critical questions. Speaking of critical questions, what is the difference between Santa and Jesus? Shorter answer, I have yet to see one get sober because of Santa. I have yet to see a marriage/family restored by Santa. I've witnessed countless hearts changed for the better via Jesus. On the flip side, if you have been hurt. Please know, that was by a wolf in sheep's clothing. Perhaps by someone that was more in love with their church or religion or power or selfishness vs. what Jesus commanded them to do which was truly loving God and loving others. That's the truth Ruth! Stick with us as we'll continue to break this down and expose hypocrisy. In the meantime, please continue to share with your favorite critical thinkers and create your own small groups to discuss.

Ending on a song note. You feeling beaten down? As right as you think you are, something is still wrong inside? You are not alone. We are all, well most of us are on a life long quest for truth and and purpose. This song is called 'Truth' by Seether. You can feel the tension and the struggle of this song. As for you, keep seeking Truth as it is Truth that will set you Free.

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Love these Dudes! Do you have that group that will strengthen you in a great way? You have a group where you can go DEEP? Talk life/marriage/family best practices? What works in life, what doesn't? You looking for a job? Perfect. This pod's for you! Here you go...

Word! Love these Dudes! And we care for you and thank you for giving us a shot. If you made it this far, odds are you feel stronger. You feel more 'gung ho' to tackle the day. Each day is a gift. Even in the toughest of times. For it is an opportunity to get stronger. It's all a matter of perspective. There is a time to mourn. Then there is a time to start lifting the weights and run the race of life again. For those of you that have lost loved ones, you are not alone. In fact, we all have to deal with this day. Yes, some harsher than others. You can either choose to stay in hopelessness and darkness or you can choose Light and Hope. These flawed Dudes choose Light and Hope in Christ. We are promised an eternal life of no more tears, check out Rev21:4. If you still struggle with that promise and the ability to see your loved ones again, then just listen and judge these Dudes. Ask yourself, are they living a better life here despite struggles? Is there something about them that you want? Clarity and hope and strength. It is yours for the taking. Keep tuning in! And please keep sharing this with people you want to encourage...

Ending on a song note, going to end on a crazy note again. Some of you are fighting for your lives or others lives or your marriages and/or families. We are going Rocky for these rocky times. Why is this movie so good? Tough times, losses, defeats, tension, unemployment, poverty, yet he keeps fighting and believing to Triumph. Keep fighting! Get your butt out of bed and dare to ask God what you should be doing today. Then do it! Go do, serve, love!

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Welcome to Fringe 5 and a shot at redemption. Listen, when you attempt to tackle politics, one can fall and get hurt at times. We won't stay here forever. Just have some very important bridge builders to contemplate with Woke to Awake. Here you go!

Thanks for joining the Fringe this week. Love that Vaquero Guapo! He is great quality control for me. Point. Counterpoint. Point. Counterpoint, Well for some on the fringe, hopefully you learned that not all "Christians" are as far right as you thought. We are called to care about this earth, the poor, the widows, human rights, people of all color and creed or gender. We are against racism. We are for free speech and ironically freedom of religion. If you know a "Christian" that doesn't quite act that way, will you share this with them and send them our way? Simply tell them, your Christian brothers are calling you out on the hate.

Ending on a song note, well since this isn't your squeeky clean, super religious podcast, we'll end on an edgy note. Hey, we say 'donkey balls' for crying out loud. If you find yourself frustrated with either political side, well then I guess you 'Rage Against the Machine"...Killiing in the Name Of...just know this... Jesus was killed in the name of hate. He stood for Love. Which side are you, hate or love? If for Love, then let's keep building this bridge of Truth and understanding...

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Yes! Welcome back to FriDudes and good to see you again! Oh hey, you’re new. You need a lift? Striving to better understand this broken planet? Need some hope amidst hopelessness? You have the right pod. Today, we give tribute to Mike. A good reflection for you and your own life. Mike bet on hope. Mike impacted/encouraged many. How about you? Here you go...

Deep! Thank you Bold Brian! Thank you Mike for your impact. Thank you that God can use a man that most listening to this didn't even know and it still inspires them to be better and fortify on Hope. Speaking of that, getting the pull as a tribute to Mike and his Faith in Jesus. Will you lift this prayer with me? God, you know my heart. You know where I struggle. With whatever life I have left on this broken planet, may I live it with Hope and impact/encourage as many hearts as I can like Mike. And just like Mike, I ask for Jesus and the gift of hope and eternal life or for those already there, I re-affirm my heart and life to you via Christ. Please open my eyes and heart to your will and how to best live my life here. Amen.

Ending on a song note, this dedication is to Mike. Let me give you a bit deeper take on this song that so many of you heard. Knee jerk, I know what some of you are going to say already. This song is depressing, because you just think of death. Truly, we all want 'Amazing' in our life right? Amazing is a great and exciting word. As for the word, Grace, that is one of thee most important words in the English language. Think about it. You don't stay married without grace. You can't work without grace. You will never progress with relationships with your kids or any loved ones without grace. Lastly, you don't get into Heaven without it. We all need Grace. This version is by Chris Tomlin. If you dig, please give Chris some love and add it to your playlist...

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Oh no, you clicked play on this one. I'm not sure you want to listen. It's going to get really uncomfortable. I'm warning you, if you are weak or thin-skinned please bail right now. Fine, ok, you want to stick around. That's on you. We are going to eat some Vaquero vegetables. Here you go...

Ummmmm, can I have some dessert please to help wash down the taste of these vegetables? Thanks for joining this week. You fall somewhere on this political spectrum. Wherever you fall, are you at peace or angry. Based on recent comments, the media and social channels, a LOT of anger. Let me end on a bonus story. My dad is a psychologist. When I was a young boy I would fight with my sister a lot. One day, I went to my Dad and said, "She makes me so angry!". My dad calmly replied, your sister doesn't make you angry. You choose to be angry. I chose my reaction. You choose your reaction. You choose to fight on social media. You choose to fight at the dinner table. Hate is a choice. For a deeper take, check out "Hate is a Choice" in the blog at FriDudes.com. What you "choose" to post there can also be seen at FriDudes.com. Lastly, whether you love the current president or hate. Remember, love and hate are both forms of passion. Some of you are giving way too much of your attention and passion to something you detest. For those that love to defend, especially for you that call yourselves "Christians" then defend with love and honor. Think about it...

Ending on a song note. Hey, we don't take ourselves that seriously. Hopefully this one will crack a smile on your face. This is "Why Can't We Be Friends", by WAR. Yes, ironic. If you dig, please give them some love and your loved with whom you disagree and add it to your playlist...

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Oh yeaaaaaah! You are in! The Deeper side of FriDudes as we take a hard look and strive to make sense of this broken planet. What works in life and what doesn't.

Thanks again for joining us this week. If you made it this far, I bet you feel lighter. Hopefully a bit wiser. Some of you have been affected by COVID-19 big time! You or someone you know is fighting for their lives or livelihoods. Truth, this is Life. Prior to COVID-19 we had people fighting for their lives or livelihoods or painfully experience major loss. Certain Dudes have lost children. Lost jobs. Battles with cancer, etc. And as you just witnessed, a few Dudes boldly disclosing their battle with depression/anxiety and wanting to take their own lives. COVID-19 is serious. Truth, so is Cancer, and Depression and Addiction and Heart Disease and _________. So, what are you doing to train your soul and mind for these moments? As stated in 2/29 episode of the Corona Virus breakdown, right before crap hit the fan, you have a 100% chance of dying of something. For some of you this is a wake up call. For others, they already had theirs, long before this latest pandemic. In fact, if so on your heart, reach out to that person who has already gone through their own tragedy. Give them some encouragement. If needed, apologize and let them know they are on your heart as you now have a better understanding or at least a sliver of the pain they have already endured. Truth, Hope works. Hopelessness sucks.

Ending on a song note, a deep session likes this should end on a deep song. If you try to make yourself a God, you will struggle mightily in tough times because there is no hope. Turn to God like these Bold Dudes speaking up and you will get Hope to press on. Don't take my word for it. Challenge God on it. Ask for it. Start tuning more into the Truth and set yourself free. This song is called 'The Blessing' by a newer group that has quickly become one of my wife's favorites. Kari Jobe, Cody Carnes and Elevation Worship. If you dig, please subscribe to them on your favorite streaming and give them some love and support...

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Thanks for joining the Fringe this week. There's plenty on this segment to think about. Why do you always want more? Why do you always want to be right? Why are we willing to be so right that we will damage a relationship for it? Skeptics let me equip you some more. If you know someone that calls themself a Christian yet is boastful/strongly opinionated ask them the following. 1. You are a Christian right? 2. You believe in this Jesus Dude? 3. What did he say were the two greatest commandments? (pause, wait and see if they actually know the answer to it). Whether they know the answer or not, it is Love God and Love Others. If you need to educate them, good. If they know it, even better. 4. Based on that, it seems to me your Jesus Dude was more concerned about the hearts of others vs. winning debates. 5. Do you know what your Jesus Dude called the religious elite that would make themselves high and mighty and look down on others? Hypocrites.

Ending on a song note, this is an old school grab made by an artist named Rodriguez made famous by a documentary on Netflix. A wild story who was living in poverty in Detroit and was very famous somewhere else in the World and didn't even know it. I'll try to save some mystery for you. If you dig, please give Rodriguez some love and subscribe to his music, this is 'Crucify Your Mind' by Rodriguez...

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Right on! You pushed play. You're back! Special thanks to those joining for the first time. Special edition today. Easter - Good Friday FriDude edition. Many of you know the history. Some of you have read it. I bet most of you have not heard it read like this. Here you go...

Word! Word backed up with real results. Real case studies. You can debate history. Very hard to argue results. Can you argue having more G's and Jeff's in the world? Striving to be better husbands and fathers and neighbors. This world needs more G's and Jeff's and you striving and achieving better.

Ending on a song note, special thanks to Casey, aka Jogging Jesus for executive producing this episode. He gave me two songs and told me to choose one his 'He's Alive' by Don Francisco. The other is 'O Praise The Name' by Hillsong.

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Yes! Welcome back to the Fringe series. As we further delve, this is going to get more uncomfortable. We look at the good, bad and the ugly. If you are looking for a squeaky clean, perfect pod, you've got the wrong one. Here you go...
Thank you so much for joining The Fringe this week. We are real. We are raw. NZ Emily is right, we really do care and we try to see this and empathize with both sides of the Fringe. We are not afraid to look in the mirror. How about you? You willing to admit when you are wrong? If you are right, are you a jerk about it?
So Christians, as we go into this Easter weekend, what were Jesus last words to you? I'm curious to know how many people who call themselves Christians even know the answer to that question. Fringe, let me equip you and you can educate some them. I"m serious. Ask someone you know who calls themself a Christian ask if they know Jesus' last words. Before you do that, check out the last words in Matthew. Did he say go out into the world and alienate and agitate? Nope. Go out in the world and make disciples and follow his commands. If you further study his words, he says the two greatest commands are Love God and Love others. We best encourage one another. Build each other up. Not tear each other down. Please forward this podcast to them and then discuss. Which let me parlay this to the political fringe. Any politicians who call themselves Christians, may you truly lead like Christ. Since you are not Christ and you are human, please admit when you are wrong. Do what is best for your people. Love God. Love Others and you know better that others also means people not like you. Lastly, if you think I'm picking on one side, I'm not. I'm imploring both sides: blue and red. Enough with the grandstanding. You are not always right. In fact, it is impossible to always be right, check Romans 3:23. Can you please work together like you did after 9/11 or the Great Recession? Now go. Serve. Apologize where needed and LOVE. Amen.
Ending on a song note, In a world of Hate, be a Light...this is 'Be a Light' by Thomas Rhett and featuring Reba Macintire, Hillary Scott, Chris Tomlin and Keith Urban! For those that know country, that is quite a crew. If you dig, please add it to your play list. Be a Light...

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Welcome back to FriDudes! May what you are about to listen make you and those you love stronger. If not, we don't deserve your return. That's the truth Ruth. Here you go...

Word! Thank you so much for joining us. Do you feel a bit stronger? A bit lighter, better. If so, can you share it with the ones you know could you use a lift? Maybe even create your own Dudes group. Back to the thick of it, tough times suck. So does lifting weights or running farther than you have ever before or studying for a law degree. You cannot get stronger without resistance. As for our generations and the ones to follow, do we really want to raise a bunch of spoiled brats and narcissists? Of course not. Hence, the paradigm shift. Great innovations and strength emerges out of times of crisis. The kids of today will be telling their grandkids about this time in history. Just like kids of the Great Depression that became grandparents and told some of you. Looking forward, there's one side of our society that is glass half empty and and swim in a sea of negativity. On the other side, Glass half full says when you wake up in the morning, give God thanks for another day, another opportunity to innovate and make a difference. So question. With whom are you surrounding yourself? Glass half empty or glass half full people? Welcome to glass half full with the FriDudes which ideally becomes a glass full of peace via Christ.

Ending on a song note. Talking about raising our kids properly. Confession, I've heard this song countless times and never thought much about it. This version is a slower version that made me listen to the lyrics. If you listen carefully, you'll hear a grown man recounting a time his Mama sat him down, preparing him for tough times, and how they will pass, and not to forget the one above. Never noticed that before. This is 'Simple Man' performed by Shinedown. If you dig, please add it to your playlist as you tackle these troubled times. Also, check out FriDudes.com for some more positivity and perspective and sign up, Now go. Serve. Love...

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Yes! You clicked play. Thank you so much for giving the Fringe Series a shot. If you are frustrated with religion, this is your podcast. We are going to take a hard look. Tackle the brutal that has pushed many of you away. Here you go...

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Welcome back to FriDudes! Bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. For the newbies, thank you so much for giving us a shot. As for the understatement of perhaps year if not decade, very interesting times lately. We are living history. Here you go...

Thank you so much for joining us. Special thanks to Vaquero Guapo to help set those free that are bogged down in some worry, anxiety or depression. You are not alone. Tough times will test the best of us. As stated, just ask Peter. If he can freak out and doubt, you will have times yourself of freaking out or doubt. Don't let your pride get in the way. We believe God looks for an authentic heart of integrity not a fake heart of fake perfection. For those of you that call yourself Christian, how are you sharing your Faith and hope in tough times? Do you do it with gentleness and respect? As I eluded towards the end of this pod, Pastor Michael from Hosanna Youth gave a great example of this in 'As you Go' series published on 3/4/20. You can Google it for the whole message. Short version, you've seen a movie that you love and our passionate about. In this case, he used the movie Miracle that he has not seen. Do you approach it with an attitude of "What?! You haven't seen __________ yet? You are so stupid. How have you not seen it yet?". Or with gentleness, respect such as, "Oh wow, you get to see _______________ for the first time. That is so cool. I hope it impacts your heart like it did mine. Once you see it, let's compare notes of what is to love about it." Can you detect the difference? Your tongue reflects your heart. You can be a jerk and be right. I don't want to be that. Ideally, we are loving and correct while humble enough to know we are flawed. A balance much easier said than done. Here is the Good News, God already knows that about you. You are fully known. Flaws and all. You are loved so much that you are forgiven and encouraged in Christ via the promise in John 3:16. Your choice to accept that love, mercy and grace. On that note, this song request came in from Rod, "I'm Fully Known" by Tauren Wells. If you dig, please add it to your playlist and reflect/remind yourself of that fact...

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What? Your back again? Thanks for coming back. If you are new with us, thanks for giving us a shot. This pod is a bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. This week, Bold Brian comes back profoundly. He had a wake up call at 3AM and a major download. Now, you get to listen to it, share it, validate it or debate it.

Whoa! Bold Brian! Okay skeptic, Brian is either crazy or that was absolutely a download from God. I'm betting on the latter. As Rockin Rick astutely observed, is what Brian saying matching with what the Bible says. We need to do that with any speaker/writer. On the flip side, we all know/heard others that are doing devastating things and saying God told them to do it. A lot of damage has been done by HypoChristians and other religions in the name of God but don't match God's instructions in the Owner's Manual the Bible. That is our quality control marker. Case in point, if you own a car then you have an Owner's Manual for it. It tells you everything you need to do to take care of it properly. If you were to tell me that God told you to put sand into your oil tank, I would say no way. The Owner's Manual does not say to put sand in your oil tank. It says exactly what kind of oil and how often you should change it. The Bible has similar instructions for your life. Your choice whether to actually read and follow them. On that note, song time. This is an amazing live version of 'Way Maker' by Leeland. Fits in perfect to today's message. If you dig, please add and enjoy. Now, go and share Light!

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Welcome to a special edition of FriDudes. Today, just one dude, DJTommyP, getting real and pursuing Truth. Why? Well, I was on the road, CO, UT and AZ this week for work. So I don’t have the luxury of the other dudes to lean on. So, solo special this week.

As I fly and see more people in protective masks more than ever, we are going to tackle coronavirus this week. You can’t avoid it in social media or conversation - it is everywhere! Growing up with the threats of Zika, SARS and other virus, it is hard for this dude not to be a cynic. It doesn’t mean you should take it seriously. In fact, I’m going to implore you to use the opportunity of corona to take your life very seriously.

So if you listened to Dudes long enough, we tackle brutal with truth and logic. We will then back it with scripture out of the Owner’s Manual of Life…aka the Bible. You may not believe in the Bible. You will at least hear how we find answers in the Bible that explain what has happened and what’s going on today. You get to listen, share with a friend and then debate or validate it.

So truth and logic. According to multiple news sources and WHO, current stats say if you were to contract the virus you have a 2% chance of dying. 2%. Ironically, the about the same percentage of those whom suffer from depression and commit suicide On the flip side, according to the National Safety Council, nsc.org. You are 10x more likely or 20% likely to die from cancer. 23% to die from a heart attach. 98% more likely to die from something else. You have a 100% chance of dying from something. Thank you Dougie Downer!

Here’s my point. We love to get whipped up in a frenzy. The media knows it and wants your eyeballs and ears. With your eyeballs and ears, they make money. They feed your fears.

Truth. You are going to die. We don’t need the media to know that. You may be destined to get corona. You could slip on the floor. You could get hit by a drunk driver. So are you ready? Not just for corona virus, all of the above.

So what does the Owner’s Manual say? One, the wages of sin is death; Rom 6:23 We are all flawed; Rom 3:23. We are all leaving this broken planet…eventually. Frankly, I’m glad we don’t live on this broken planet forever. Who wants cancer, or corona virus or depression or rape or children dying too early or ____________.

On the flip side, the Manual says we need to make the most of the life we have here. We shouldn’t intentionally cut it short. The trials and tough times build our character and teach us how to love. James 1. We should love God and love Others Matt 22: 36-40.

Despite tough times, the manual tells us 365 times each day not to be afraid. This isn’t it. Your choice. You choose hope in John 3:16 or you choose hopelessness in being your own God or another religion. If you do believe in a heaven, take heart of ____________ , I’m the way, the truth and life, nobody gets to the Father but through me. John 14:6. That is either absolutely true or Jesus was a liar. I’m betting true. Your call.

If true, I’m taking the vaccination of John 3:16 and running with it. I implore you to do the same. 100% chance you will die on this broken planet. 100% grantee you go to a heaven and no more tears, no more_______, Rev 21:4.

How do I know this is true? I’ve read that book backward and forward. Honestly, it would be easier to live life as an atheist. You get to be your own God...

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Thanks for joining FriDudes this week! Bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth. If you are married or want to get married, buckle up. This is your episode.

Right on! You can debate God. Very, very hard to argue results. If you are married, you will have storms. If you tell me everything is perfect, amazing, puppy dogs and fairy tales, I'm going to tell you that is a red flag. You haven't been married long enough. Speaking of logic and Truth, I have the stats to back me up. In our society, 50+% of first marriages divorce. 60% of second marriages will crumble. 70% of third marriages will fail. So if you want to be successful in marriage, if you want to model for your children and grandchildren what marriages is...wouldn't you be wise to study what works and what doesn't? Implement what works. Avoid what doesn't. Truth and logic. Speaking of a best practice, Jeffrey shared one after we wrapped. Before Jeffrey can initiate an argument, he writes it down and reflects on it. Instead of reacting in rage and emotion he contemplates and rationalizes it. Guess how many heated arguments he has now avoided with his wife? Countless. Can you be better? Absolutely, you can. Keep tuning in. On that note, hitting on the theme of Matt 7: 24-27, any relationship that you care about is doomed without choosing love, grace, mercy and forgiveness. You will need to implement all above at some juncture/storm in your relationship. So here is a little ditty on that subject, quit holding on to hurt like its your teddy bear. For give those hurts over to God. Doesn't mean you forget. Trust is earned. Quit weighing yourself and the ones you love down with the hurts. On that note, this song is climbing up the charts, Holy Water by We the Kingdom. Don't just listen, add it to your playlist, more importantly, practice it, sweet forgiveness.

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Thanks for joining us at FriDudes! We are a bunch of flawed guys getting real and pursuing Truth. What works in life and not. Today is St. Valentine's Day, so of course we continue talking about love. No matter how hard and cold you or someone that you know may be, you/they are wired for love. We get into what many say is the greatest Valentine's promise ever. Stick with us and Strong John ends with a love letter from his Grandma - brilliant!

Love is greatest of all. Some of you listening are down and out. Please trust me that all these guys speaking have gone through some serious darkness and/or depression. Do you hear hope in their voices? Do you want hope? Over 7,000 promises of hope and love in the Bible. Your choice to better understand and embrace them. This world will break you...no matter how strong you are, you will die some day. Accept these promises in love now to better navigate your lives here. Most important, embrace the ultimate valentine of John 3:16. A world of eternal love, away from the brokenness and tears. Love and hope rule. Hate and hopelessness suck. On that note, here's another song on the subject. God knows (Must Be Love) by Andrew Ripp. This is for anyone beating themselves up. Know you are forgiven if you simply ask. Be free. Soak it up. If you dig, please add it to your play list. Show Andrew some love. Go. Do good. Better tune into the Word and love.

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LOVE - one of the best topics to discuss. Everyone wants it. We are all wired for it. Whether you are married or not, have kids or not, this applies to you. Truth, love requires work and action. Whether you are hopeless right now or hopeful, this listen is for you. Love will give you/increase your hope.

So good! Thank you for joining this week. Whether you agree with everything stated in this episode, I can guarantee you one thing. You want to be loved. Whether you want to admit it or not. You are wired to be loved. Your heart is most full when you serve and love others - especially God. Love God. Love others. As per Jesus, those are the two most important commandments. So going back to 1 Cor 16:14, do you do every thing out of Love? For the skeptics, can you imagine this world, our marriages, our families if we all did that? On that note, here is another song and again a bit tongue in cheek. So many songs to choose from with the theme of Love. Some of you harp on us for choosing secular songs. Truth, I love to tie in secular to Jesus. Building a bridge. Jesus, says LOVE is greatest of all and that is why I follow him. Here you go...

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Thank you for joining us at FriDudes. Where you get to listen to a bunch of flawed dudes getting real and pursuing Truth - what works and doesn't in life. This week, John (age 28), steps up to talk about his trauma as a child (being abused and molested). Either you or someone you know needs to listen to this. For any weighed down on this front, you are definitely not alone. Lifting it will bring you strength...check it out...

Man, thank you so much John for leading the charge this week. When something goes bad in life, especially so dark, the ways of this world is to bury it. Just because you bury it doesn't mean it goes away. Think about a weed. Think about poison ivy. Did you notice with John's bold confession (with ones that he can trust), how others stepped up to share? That's God's design. Get yourself in the right group and/or with a therapist/pastor/coach/mentor that you can trust and you will make lemonade out of lemons. Not only do you get stronger. You help someone else get stronger. Romans 8:28. On that note, as the song mentioned by HotRod, here is a sample of Lemonade by JC Stroebel, you can also find more at John Chuck and the Class. If you dig, please add it to your play list...now go make lemonade out of lemons.

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Hey, welcome back to FriDudes! For those joining us for the first time, thanks for giving us a shot. Disclaimer, we are a bunch of flawed dudes pursuing Truth. Not everything that comes out of our mouths is right. Normally, I'm pumped to post up an episode like 'Bold Brian'. This week I feel heavy. We tackle abortion. If you boldly listen, can you do me a favor and make sure to listen until the very end for my recap? HINT: the above title aims at Christians (or better stated HypoChristians) that love to pick on others flaws without considering their own. Love vs. hate. Buckle up, here you go...
Argh, that was heavy. For those that stuck with it and got to this point, would you level with us? Did you feel love, grace and mercy? Have you been hurt/pushed away by someone in the name of religion? If possible, I would like to share your story. On the abortion front or a different one. Please email me at djtommyp413@gmail.com. For any feeling guilt, and you have a HypoChristian belittling you, please know this. Rom 3:23 tell us that we are ALL flawed. Whether you had an abortion, contributed to one or whatever may be weighing you down, know we all are flawed. The Pope, the pastor of a mega church, your Mom or Dad, your neighbor, anyone that you heard on this podcast, all flawed. So if anyone is verbally beating you up from the HypoChristian side, you remind them of Rom 3:23. Next, ask that person who calls themself a Christian, what does Jesus say are the two greatest commandments? Short answer: Love God, Love Others. Tell them, I'm not feeling that from you right now. Do you really believe in Jesus' words? Shouldn't you practice what you preach? Lastly, God loves you. God wants a relationship with you...no matter how flawed you are. God loves building up the flawed. No matter your guilt, "For God so loved the world (that means you) that he gave his only Son Jesus, that whomever believeth in Him will have ever lasting life." That's it. Simple. You are forgiven if you seek forgiveness through Jesus. That's not my promise. That is God's - see John 3:16. So if you have anyone Lording over you with guilt, tell them to put that in their spiritual pipe and smoke it. Yeah, I'm fired up. Hopefully in a good way, hopefully you too. On that note, we go to 'Get Up' and get a Move On. So I'm going back to Shinedown and the song I referenced last week from the Bold Brian episode. Now go and do Good in Love and Mercy and Grace...

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Thanks for joining us at FriDudes! This week we are led by Bold Brian. Forgive me as we had some recording challenges in the beginning, but we got most of his story on his brain injury and how he is handling it. Very moving! Powerful! We end in a showdown between Rockin Rick Ravage and Vaquero Guapo. Listen in and judge for yourself. Here you go...

Wow! First and foremost, thank you Bold Brian for opening this podcast with impact. Some of you know someone dealing with a brain injury or dementia or alzheimer's or ____________. Maybe it's you. Did you hear the wisdom from Brian? Would you be willing to pass his message on to someone that needs it? Iron sharpens iron. On the end note, leave it to Rockin Rick Ravage to stir the pot. Nate (aka Vaquero Guapo) making a stand. That's life by the way. In fact, go back to the previous episode of "You wanna fight?". Nate and Rick handled it with calm. To be continued. We are not done on this yet. We'll further discuss boats and their holes. In fact, if you have any advice, comments or challenging questions, hit me up at djtommyp413@gmail.com. Ending on a song, which we always do. Going back to the secular side, we are all boats with holes and we all have various 'Monsters' in life that we have to fight, tackle or avoid. You can try to do it all by yourself. Or you can bring it into the Light with a group you can trust. Your choice. Your life. This is 'Monsters' by Shinedown. If you dig, please add to your playlist and reflect. If you really dig, then check out the song 'Get Up' also by Shinedown. Now go, Shine some Light! Encourage someone.

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Welcome back to FriDudes! For you first-timers, buckle up. We are a bunch of Flawed Dudes, getting real and pursuing Truth. This week we tackle 'I don't wanna go!' Most of you didn't or still don't want to go to church. Maybe the church sucked or maybe you just aren't/weren't ever in the mood. Maybe you think this is a complete waste of time. We talk about our kids but make no mistake. We are talking you and me as well. Most, if not all of us go through this season of the 'Church of Me' and doubt.

Getting Real and Pursuing Truth, where do you want do get stronger in 2020 and beyond? As you are quickly learning, we are not just about talk. We strive to walk it like we talk it. That means we tune into Truth and get stronger in Faith in Christ and all aspects of our lives (health, physical, marriage, parenthood, etc.). If you are getting the pull, come along with us on the path of intentionality. Words into action - real results. Email me at djtommyp413@gmail.com and we'll give you these life sheets/plans that we are implementing. As we wrap, for those parents that grew up in the 90s, you'll remember this one. Empathize with our kids when they questions you, because this is exactly what you did.

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Merry Christmas and welcome to a very special, bonus kid edition of FriDudes. Some select brave and bold kids will be reading the original Christmas story. I love the innocence and sweetness of their voices. As for us parents, you know your heart for your kids. Share this listen with them and discuss? As I like to say, this story is either totally true or bull. You get to choose. I choose true. If true, then this is one of the most important lessons we can teach our kids. As Rod says, we bet on hope. This is a message and a promise of hope.

Special thanks to all those brave kids. For the kids listening to this, if you are depressed or have anxiety or not feeling well. You are definitely not alone. This message about Jesus is about Light and Hope in what can be a very dark, frustrating, broken world. You can be these kids and shine Light. God says you are here for a reason. You absolutely have a purpose. Your job is to ask God and find out what exactly is that purpose. Some of you can sing or play music, some of you are really good at science or math some of you are good at sports and may coach. The more you invest into a relationship with Jesus the clearer your path will become. You will have hope. You will better endure the tough times and bullies. On the flip side, you can choose to try and make yourself God. You can try to control everything...which is impossible. I'll also bet you might be your worst bully listening the voice in your head that says your are not good enough, not pretty, not smart enough, etc. That is only a path to hopelessness. Please Don't listen to those negative voices. Choose hope. Choose love. Choose to surround yourself with others that choose hope and love. Choose to love God. Choose to accept the hope of Jesus. And then take that hope and love and skills/gifts and serve others on this earth. If you do that, your heart will fill up. That is not my promise, that is God's and the gift of hope in Jesus.

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Leading into Christmas. We take a look at the beginning of Matthew. A long, long, time ago, there was a savior/messiah promised. The greatest names back in history that the Jewish, Muslim and Christian faiths admire (Moses, David, Isaiah, etc.) prophesied this would happen. Many, many years it happened. Our own calendars reflect it. Today, you get to choose.

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Bless your hearts that want to share with and encourage others. If you are hesitant, you are absolutely not alone. You don't want to freak people out. On the flip side, you don't want to miss an opportunity to encourage someone. Reminds me of the time Rick shared on seeing a mutual friend of his wife's. They small talked and one week later that guy died. Rick regretted/wondered if should have share more/offer prayer. I feel him. Personally, I've missed many opportunities by being in a hurry or chickening out. When in doubt, pray, serve them in love, then ask. If they are ready, be ready. If they are not ready, respect that. Repeat above. Hard not to respect someone that repeatedly loves and cares for you. On the flip side, easy for one to resent someone that is trying to force feed, Bible bang, judge and condescend. Look up, not down.

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If we are bringing our A game, you should be stronger after every listen. If not, we don't deserve you. For the Christian believers to the atheist/skeptics, there will be points in life in which you ask why. God, if you are real, why do kids get cancer? Why did my loved ones have to die? Why are things so hard for me and easier for others? These are legit questions. Please know even Jesus asked why. Google Matt 27:46. Life on this earth can/will be brutal. This is a broken planet. The greatest people in the Bible all had hardship and unfairness. For those enduring tough times, you are in elite company. The greatest lived a promise reflected in Romans 8;28 that good will come from bad for those that seek God. For those that choose to receive the promises like John 3:16 or Acts 4:12., God promises a life away from this broken planet - free of tears, evil, sickness, death. You don't have to pay money for it. You don't have to do a million good things to get it. You simply choose the gift. When you choose that gift and strive to tune in daily via reading the Bible and gathering with other properly tuned Christian brothers and sisters, you'll know it. You'll better navigate the hardships of life. Your heart will change for the better. You will want to serve and love more: God and others. Keep tuning in, let's go.

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Phil and Amy have been married for 14+ years and counting. They have three young children. They get real about the challenges of marriage. How they started out awesome and then found themselves in a very dark/challenging spot. They courageously share what works in their marriage and what didn't.

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A hard look at religion and what pushes people away. On the flip side, what keeps others coming back. We discuss Truth and the gospel. What really is the Good News? Why is it so simple yet we humans make it so complicated?

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Would You Want to be Married to YOU?! Love this question. When we get into a disagreement or especially when we attempt to justify divorce, we point the fingers at the other side. This question makes you look in the mirror. We discuss this. What has worked in our marriages and what has not.

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Welcome back to FriDudes, a bunch of flawed dudes getting real and seeking truth. Question, do you really want positive change in your life? This week we talk about the importance of writing stuff down and sharing with trusted others to hold ourselves accountable. Give it a listen, then start writing down and doing. Otherwise, as Tim astutely states, it's just a dream.

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Wow! Heavy lift session, the price and challenge of addiction and pride, as several in this group needed to stop using and/or drinking or ____________. Hey, it's very easy to debate if God exists or not. It is very hard to argue results. Many of these FriDudes saved and fortified their marriages by breaking the chains of addiction and/or destructive behavior. Some were too little too late. You can learn from their mistakes as well. Give it a lesson and please feel free to share with others that have changed or want to change for the better. Tune into what works...and implement.

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Getting real with Patrick Ray! We talk about hypocrisy of certain churches chasing money vs. churches that strive for real, positive impact in their neighborhoods. Patrick shares on what he sees not working and what does in his North Minneapolis neighborhood.

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