Toula's Tips for Caregivers: Recent Episodes
Toula's Tips For Caregivers
Toula Wootan is a nationally recognized caregiver and caregiver advocate. Her show offers advice, counseling and care. Guests include national experts and caregiving celebrities.
You are doing your best.
No one prepared you to be a caregiver. You did it because you care. I know you care because you are here.
I know you want to be a better caregiver because you listen to these podcasts and visit important websites, like CircleOf.com.
Your next step is to take some action. I want to help you to begin the New Year right. I want to show you how you can become a better caregiver in 7 days!
In this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, my friends from CircleOf.com, Kerry Lange and Alanna McLeod, and I reveal seven simple steps that you can take – and repeat every week – to make your caregiving life easier for you and for your loved one.
Do you want to learn more, read my Blog on CircleOf.com.
With all you have to do, I want to make it easy. But by taking these little steps each day in the week, you will find yourself healthier, more prepared, and less stressed. Even better, your loved one may be happier.
Wishing you many blessings in 2022.
Will your holidays be Merry and Bright?
Christmas is supposed to be a joyous and holy time for us all.
However, for caregivers, like you and me, it can also be a stressful, difficult time. The extra stress of trying to make the Season special and meaningful for our loved one is hard enough. Adding in family dynamics can really change the mood fast.
That is why you need to listen to this Podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. My friends from CircleOf.com, Kerry Lange and Alanna McLeod, and I enjoyed an inspiring conversation sharing many helpful suggestions on how to make the Holidays meaningful and special for your loved one and for you.
Kerry and Alanna also conveyed their “8 Tips on Creating a Care Calendar”, which is available on their web site, https://circleof.com/featured-content/
We know you will enjoy listening to our conversation. We want you to come out of the holidays without that burned-out feeling. You will be more light-hearted by knowing you did your best.
OUR BEST ADVICE - Focus on the real meaning of Christmas: Family time and what is in your heart.
We wish you Many Blessings for this Holiday Season. Don’t forget to visit the CircleOf.com web site and download their FAMILY CAREGIVING APP.
Caregiving requires Teamwork
Do you want a team of people around you for when you need help or advice? My new friends at “Circleof.com” can help.
With their new APP, you can reduce the stress and hassle of finding people to help. You can create a circle of people around you to provide support. AND, you can make it easier for those around you to help you
This App will keep you from wondering, “where to go when you don’t know where to turn to turn for help”.
In this podcast of “Toula’s Tips for Caregivers”, Kerry Lange, COO and Chief Evangelist of CircleOf explains how their new APP will make a difference to you.
Best of all – the App is FREE. (Visit CircleOf.com to download the FREE App)
Kerry knows. She was caregiver for her father, mother and then stepfather. She lived with the stress and feelings of being overwhelmed. As Kerry explains, that is why she went to work with the developers of this App. She wants to help other caregivers
There are many people in your life who want to help you, but don’t know what you need. They just want to be asked.
You know that I always look out for you. I let you know about any resource that can help you as a caregiver. I believe this CircleOf app will really help you.
Are you taking care of yourself “from the neck up”?
You should – your brain is also the only one you will ever have.
That is why, for all my veterans friends and caregivers of veterans, I WANT YOU to REGISTER today for a Free “Brain Health Awareness Webinar this Tuesday, June 1st, from 11am to 12Noon.
Register at alzfdn.org/event/veterans/
The webinar is provided by the Alzheimer's Foundation of America to help serve those who have served us. They recognize that Veterans may be at a higher risk for dementia based on their military experiences.
You will want to participate. You will be able to get answers to your questions.. The webinar will provide you with information and facts to understand dementia, be proactive about brain health, and learn about services and benefits available to help.
Listen to my podcast interview with Charles Fuschillo, CEO of the Alzheimer's Foundation of America, as he explains how this webinar will help you to live a better life. Charles will also talk about the many programs that the AFA offers for free.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
If you have more questions, you can call the Alzheimer's Foundation of America HELP LINE at any time (24 hours per day, 7 days a week). Simply dial 866.232.8484.
A Licensed clinical social worker, dementia specifically trained, will talk with you, answer your questions, and, most importantly, provide comfort and support. The Help Line is FREE and Completely Confidential.
If you prefer an online CHAT, you can visit the AFA web site at alzfdn.org/afahelpline/
I encourage you to REGISTER TODAY, as your first steps for “Check Up From The Neck Up".
Should you say, “It’s a RAPP”?
If you want to help build a stronger community of seniors and caregivers, you should.
If you want to help the many grandparents and relatives who are caring for their grandchildren or school-age relatives, you must.
Most Importantly - I NEED YOUR HELP in spreading the word about Aging True’s RAPP Program in Duval and Clay Counties, Florida.
In this podcast, my guest Jacinda Legions, Community Liaison with Aging True, explains how the “RAPP” program – “Relatives As Parents” Program – is making our community stronger by helping many senior and caregivers like you who have taken on the responsibility of raising children, either their grandchildren or close relatives.
May is Older Americans’ Month. This is when we celebrate the strength of older adults and the Aging Network, with special emphasis on the power of connection and engagement in building strong communities. The RAPP Program is an essential part of this effort in Duval and Clay counties.
RAPP is a voluntary program open to grandparents and relative caregivers ages 55 and above, caring for children under the age of 18. This support program is designed to assist the caregiver in resuming healthy aging practices and is tailored to best suit the participants’ needs. The program delivers educational training’s, monthly support groups in a comfortable and relaxed setting, transportation, long-term goal planning, bi-monthly newsletter with resources, yearly stipend for children’s summer camp and more. RAPPJAX is supported by a grant from the Delores Barr Weaver Fund.
If you or someone you know is a grandparent or relative caring for a young child, learn more about RAPP by contacting Aging True at 904.807.1203, or visiting their website at agingtrue.org.
Aging True is also looking for donations to maintain and expand the program. If you know of some organization who is willing to financially support Aging True and the RAPP Program, please call Jacinda directly at 904-807-1266 or by Email at jlegons@agingtrue.org
It is a stressful decision. But you know that it will be the best decision for your loved one.
You know that someday you may have to think about bringing your loved one in a place that can provide more care. It may be a rehab facility, an assisted living facility (ALF), or a nursing home.
Your loved one comes first and most important.
I want to help you to prepare NOW for the crucial questions. WHEN? WHERE? HOW?
•When will be the right time?
•Where is the best place?
•How will you be able to afford it?
YOUR FIRST STEP – Listen to this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. My two guests are EXPERTS at helping you find the best answers for you and your loved one. The advice they share on this podcast will give you the answers and directions you need.
Esther McMillan is the Daily Money Management Manager at Aging True Community Senior Services. She also is a National Certified Guardian. Aging True can help you to know when is the right time – or whether there are OTHER OPTIONS. (Visit their web site https://www.agingtrue.org/)
Michael Saffy is owner of Silver Link consulting. They help you find the care your love one deserves (Visit their web site https://www.silverlinkconsulting.com/).
Both have important suggestions on how to afford this care.
I know how wrenching the decision will be. When we had to place my Mom in a memory care facility, it broke my Dad’s heart. When we placed my Dad in an assisted living facility, it broke my heart.
I recognized how important that the advice and support from knowledgeable professionals would help me – and you – to make the best decisions for our loved ones.
They are my guests on this podcast so that you, will be better prepared when the time comes to make that decision.
When that time comes, I encourage you to seek out Aging True and Silver Link Consulting.
If you need more, I am always here for you.
Blessings
Toula Wootan
The tables have turned for you. Are you okay?
It used to be that work was the most important duty in your life. Your family and loved ones were there for love and support.
Now, you are caring for that most important loved one. But you still have to work.
I understand. The tables turned on me in 2012, when I became the main caregiver for my parents.
But I still had to work, providing outreach and support for caregivers in Northeast Florida. And I still had to do my live radio show, every week.
I admit. Sometimes the stress almost overcame me.
The tables turned in this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, also. I am the “guest” of the day, being interviewed by Nicole Egan, Care Services Director for Aging True. She wanted to hear more of my caregiving stories with my parents, especially while still working. As we talked, I shared some important tips that helped my success as a working caregiver.
You are not alone. There are others going through what you are. There is help and support. Some of the valuable tips we talked about will help you:
Talk to your bosses. Let them know your situation. Ask how they could accommodate.
Know your company’s policies and programs. They are changing to keep valuable employees like you.
Talk with other working caregivers.
Find local agencies – like Aging True – whose mission is to provide care and support for you.
You already know. Caring for your loved one will be the most meaningful and rewarding work you will ever do. But you don’t have to do it alone.
You can learn more about Aging True’s services by visiting their web site (https://www.agingtrue.org/) or calling 904.807.1203. Their Customer Relations line for more detailed information, is 904.807.1225.
If you need more, I am here for you. And Aging True is here for you, also.
Blessings
Toula Wootan
Caregiving is a reflection of your love.
All that you do for your loved one (often unappreciated), and all the mistakes you feel you made by trying to be a better caregiver. The times you resist the urge to fix your loved one’s problems.
That is your Valentine Story.
In this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, my guest shares her Caregiver Valentine Story with you.
Terri Barton, CEO of Aging True, Inc, also cared for her husband, Bill, for five years, until his death in 2019. In the podcast, she shares her Valentine Story about those times and the lessons she learned.
Terri explains why she is so appreciative of being given that time as Bill’s caregiver. She also admits that she made mistakes. She learned that it was important for to make Bill feel as independent as he could be. She also recognized that it was important for her to take time for herself, through diet, exercise and time away.
In this Month of Love, highlighted by Valentine’s Day, Terri’s Caregiver Valentine Story will inspire you and encourage you.
Wishing you a very Happy Valentine’s Day and a Blessed month of love and good care for you and your loved one.
You are not alone in your caregiving role.
I know. You hear me say that all the time. That is why I introduce new people who are here to help you.
In Northeast Florida, there is another MAJOR PLAYER for caregivers and seniors like you. Aging True is a non-profit, charitable organization that enables seniors to stay home and be independent.
In this podcast, I talk with Megan Taylor, Care Transitions Program Manager, about all the services that Aging True is providing to support seniors and caregivers during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Meals. Household items. Counseling. RESPITE. Home Health aides. RESPITE (yes – I said it twice. You need a break). Their Caregiver support program assists clients and/or caregivers in crisis.
Aging True has a legacy of providing concern, compassion and care for seniors and caregivers. Megan and the Care Transitions Program team have been at the forefront of helping seniors and caregivers during the pandemic.
You can learn more about Aging True and their programs by visiting their web site, http://agingtrue.com/, or by calling them at (904) 807-1203.
I am proud to connect you with Aging True. I encourage you to get in touch with them today.
Blessings
Toula
My latest podcast is because I care for you.
I share this message with you every year – Take Care Of Yourself, especially during the holidays.
ESPECIALLY DURING THIS COVID-19 PANDEMIC.
My podcast is the recording of my presentation during the Caregiver Coalition of NE Florida’s recent webinar.
I talk about how you can be COPING WITH THE HOLIDAYS. I share some important information and advice.
This year I discuss extra precautions we are asked to take (and should follow) to protect ourselves and our loved ones from the COVID-19 virus.
I wish you a Very Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year. I look forward to working together with you (and, hopefully, seeing you in person again) in 2021.
Stop what you are doing and sit down!
You are amazing. You don’t tell yourself that enough, but you are.
Do you feel happy? With all the craziness of caregiving that you deal with every day, and the frantic pace you set for yourself from morning to night, it may be hard to be.
Happiness is overrated. So, sit down, be still, and listen.
My guest and I talk about this on my latest podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. For 35 years, Peter Rosenberger has been caregiver for his wife, Gracie, who lives with severe disabilities. Through his books, music, radio show and podcast, Peter demonstrates an unswerving commitment to strengthen fellow caregivers. LEARN MORE ABOUT PETER and his show, books and music at https://hopeforthecaregiver.com/music/
Peter knows that happiness is fleeting. What is more important is to feel JOY. Feel PEACE. Find Joy and Peace in the knowledge that you are doing something wonderful for your loved one. Joy and Peace in the knowledge that God is with you, supporting you, protecting you.
Peter encourages you to take time for yourself. Find an activity you like just for yourself, even if for just a few minutes. Find your Joy. Find your Peace.
Take time to feel God’s presence. Listen to the Lord supporting you, helping you, encouraging you. God is saying that He is proud of you.
Remember Scriptures.
• Psalm 46:10. Be still and know that I am God
• Psalm 62 5,6 Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress; I will not be shaken.
So many find their worth in business. Joy and strength only in Him.
I know you will find a new peace after listening to this podcast.
Many Blessings
Toula
You are not the only one dealing with this stress.
There are millions of working caregivers like you, struggling to be a good, productive, and valuable employee while still giving your loved one the care and attention necessary for a life of quality.
I understand. I worked for five years while taking care of my parents. Sometimes the stress was overwhelming.
I have one strong suggestion for you. My guest on this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers shares the same advice in our conversation.
TALK TO YOUR EMPLOYER. Let them know of your needs. Ask them about programs they have that can help you.
Larry Nisenson is the Chief Commercial Officer for Genworth Financial, one of the largest national Life Insurance companies. They also have a unique program for employers, called CareScout® Caregiver Support Services. (FOR MORE INFORMATION VISIT https://www.carescout.com/ CareScout is an innovative program designed to provide expert guidance and personal support for working caregivers struggling to find the right help for their loved one.
When you listen to the podcast, make note of the advice and resources that Larry and I reveal.
There is NO COST to employees to use the CareScout® Caregiver Support Services. Your employer can purchase it from Genworth as a benefit to you and your fellow employees.
Your employer should understand: It SAVES the company money and productivity to help and keep a productive employee (like you).
You should not have to sacrifice your job to take care of your loved one. You should not have to neglect your loved one to keep your job.
CareScout and Genworth can help you. I will help you.
Blessings
Toula
Take care of yourself first.
That has always been my message to you. I care for you. Take care of yourself so that you can take good care of your loved one.
But there is more. Some day you will no longer need to be a caregiver. Are you prepared for that reality?
On this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, my guest Chris MacLellan (“The Bow Tie Guy”) and I talk about adjusting to life after caregiving. Chris lost his partner, Richard, in 2015. As you know, I lost both of my parents in the last two years. The transition is difficult.
Chris transferred his grief into a role as a spokesperson and advocate for other caregivers. He is using his podcast, “Healing Ties”, and his Whole Care Network (https://www.thewholecarenetwork.com/), which brings together other caregiver advocates, to share advice, resources and encouragement to you and all caregivers.
Listen as we talk about how all the tips we share with you for taking care of yourself will also help you after your role as a caregiver is over. Taking time for yourself, staying involved in activities you like, having caregiver buddies. These will help protect and prepare you.
By protecting your identity now, as a caregiver, you are also protecting your individual identity for that time.
Protect Your Identity: Now and After Caregiving
Blessings
Toula
You are not alone.
I know the stress can be overwhelming. You have more demands as a caregiver while doing your part to stop the COVID-19 pandemic. This is an uncertain time. We feel forced into isolation.
There is HOPE. I want to help you learn activities that will help you, and resources to support you.
In this podcast of TOULA’S TIPS FOR CAREGIVERS, I talk with two authorities on caregiving and dealing with stress. They also have the resources to help you.
Dr. Christine Caufield is CEO of LSF Health Systems and Executive Vice President, Lutheran Services Florida at Lutheran Services Florida. Terri Barton CEO Aging True, Jacksonville FL which provide seniors in Duval and Clay Counties, Florida, with the care and assistance they need to live independently.
Chris and Terri reminded us of several crucial resources for you:
•Aging True’s Telehealth Mental Health Counseling Program is available by calling 904.807.1243 (You Need To Talk To People)
•Lutheran Services Florida a “24/7 Access To Care” Line available at any time, by calling 877.229.9098.
•Aging True can conduct regular “Wellness Checks” to make sure you or your loved one are safe.
•Aging True is still delivering meals to seniors; for some, they are delivering three meals a day for seniors.
•Several organizations provide in-home respite (you can get help to take a break)
We also collectively identified actions that you can take to help you and your loved one:
•Find a “safe place” (as, your back yard) to retreat, enjoy nature and fresh air
•Exercise (go for a walk or jog; tune into YouTube or TV exercise videos)
•Read books has
•Journal every day; make notes of your day, of your feelings, and of your dreams
•Start a Gratitude Journal; every day list 3 blessings or joys
•Pray. Meditate.
•WATCH LESS NEWS
•Focus on what you can control; adjust your daily routines
•If you feel sad, or overwhelmed, REACH OUT FOR HELP
You are stronger than you know. You are a caregivers (caregivers are strong). You are older (you needed strength to get this far). You ask for help when needed (a major sign of strength).
Remember what HOPE means: Hang On. Pain Ends. This will end.
Blessings
Toula Wootan
I have a new challenge for you.
I want you to get out of your comfort zone; do something different.
It will energize you. It will make you a better caregiver. It may even inspire others who you have never met.
My guest on this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers is a great role model for you. Lynette Hipsher is Ms. Senior DIVA 2019. Although she had never even thought about being in a pageant before, she challenged herself. Now she has found that she is encouraging and influencing others, and gaining more confidence in herself.
Lynette is also a caregiver, specializing in Alzheimer’s and dementia patients. That has been her platform as Ms. Senior DIVA for the past year. As Ms. Senior DIVA, Lynette has been an advocate for the State of Florida for Alzheimer’s and dementia causes.
Lynette is a certified nursing assistant. She started by caring for her grandparents. For 15 years, Lynette owned and operated her own private in-home daycare business. Now she is a private professional caregiver, specializing with Alzheimer's and dementia patients.
As her one-year term ends, Lynette asks YOU to compete to be the next Ms. Senior DIVA in Jacksonville. She believes in you. And, she wants you to experience the joys of growing bolder, learning more and continue to flourish.
The Ms. Senior DIVA Pageant is open to all women ages 50 to 59. For women 60 or better, you can compete for the Ms. Senior Jacksonville title.
Visit www.aseasonedaffair.com/senior-pageants.html to learn more and to submit your application. If you have any questions or concerns, email the Founder and Director, Kenyonn Demps at aseasonedaffairpageants@gmail.com or call (904) 323-2063.
One way to be a better caregiver, to take better care of yourself, and to inspire more people, is to have more experiences.
I hope you will accept my challenge. I promise that, if you do, I will have you on my podcast next year.
Blessings
Toula
Are you protecting yourself with self-quarantine and social distancing for the Coronavirus? GOOD!
Are you feeling more isolated? PLEASE DON'T.
There is help. Just because you are avoiding contact with others does not mean that you should feel isolated, especially if your loved one has dementia or Alzheimer’s.
In this podcast of _Toula’s Tips for Caregivers,_ my guest Charles Fuschillo, CEO of the Alzheimer's Foundation of America (AFA), explains the many resources that AFA provides for you.
The AFA web site offers many online resources for caregivers, with home therapeutic activities to help you stay engaged during Coronavirus isolation. VISIT The Web Site (https://alzfdn.org/)
Their National Toll-Free Helpline (866.232.8484) is staffed by compassionate licensed social workers who are specifically trained in dementia care.
In my podcast, Dr Fuschillo talks about the many simple activities that the web site can show you how to do at home, such as:
• Reminiscence activities, as looking through family picture albums, listening to music, or dancing to favorite songs
• Tactile sensory stimulation, as flower arranging, small tasks or chores
• Brain exercises to keep your mind active, enhance memory.
• Social stimulation: as, video chats, text messaging, sending emails, telephone calls, or mailing letters.
We care about you and your loved one. Check out the AFA resources. CALL THE Toll-Free Helpline (866.232.8484)
I want you and your loved one to be safe and healthy. You are not here alone.
Blessings
Toula
Are you ready for a new adventure?
My special guest on this podcast, Brenda Griffin, Ms. Senior Jacksonville 2019, wants you to try something new.
She also wants you to be financially secure..
Brenda is an inspiration to us all. She is an ordained minister, Bible Teacher, Financial Wellness Advocate, Information Broker, and an Influencer. She is most proud of being a wife, mother and grandmother. She is also a caregiver for her father, helping him navigate the health insurance programs, protecting his finances, protecting him from scammers.
In the podcast, Brenda leaves us with several helpful suggestions from her years as a caregiver.
Brenda shares a secret: having been named Ms Senior Jacksonville has given her a unique advantage to promote her cause and influence others to achieve more.
YOU, too, CAN HAVE THAT OPPORTUNITY. Brenda encourages you to be a contestant in this year’s MS SENIOR JACKSONVILLE PAGEANT and the INAUGURAL MS. SENIOR DIVA PAGEANT (for women 50 to 59). Visit the ASesaonedAffair.com website to learn more
One way to be a better caregiver, and to take care of yourself, is to have more experiences, so that you can inspire more people.
You can stop feeling isolated.
As a caregiver for someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s, I know that too often it is difficult for you to find places where you can feel safe, respected, and understood.
That is why the Mayo Clinic and Eldersource have partnered with the Edward Waters College Disparities Center and community volunteers to help the New Town/College Gardens neighborhood become a dementia caring community.
My guest on this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, Catherine Powell, is an Assistant Coordinator for events at the New Town Memory Café. Catherine talks about the mission and the upcoming activities designed to respond to the needs of dementia patients and their caregivers.
The Memory Café is a safe and comfortable space where people with memory loss and their care partners can socialize, have fun, offer each other support, and exchange helpful information. It is free and open to all community members with memory loss, Alzheimer's disease, or related dementia & their care partners.
I am excited to share this information with you about the New Town Dementia Friendly Community and the Memory Café.
Blessings
As you get older, are you noticing that your memory is not as good as it used to be? Do you want help?
Does your loved one have of a memory disorder, as Alzheimers or Dementia? Do you pray for help?
BE ENCOURAGED. There are amazing people working on helping you.
That includes my guest on this podcast of _Toula’s Tips for Caregivers_. Dr. Alan Snow is at the forefront in the diagnosis and treatment of brain aging and memory disorders. He has over 340 issued patents on new drugs, nutraceuticals, and screening technologies.
He and his professional partner, Dr. Rudolph Tanzi, have created new programs and new medications to improve your memory. They are finding new medications to slow those diseases.
In the podcast, Dr. Snow shares some exciting news about new treatments for memory disorders, both current and in the near future.
His new “Vitamin For The Aging Brain” is PERCEPTA, a natural plant-based dietary supplement, available on their web and on Amazon.
In the podcast, Dr. Snow also shares an important way that you can change your brain TODAY. Dr. Snow and his partner, Dr. Tanzi encourage you to change your lifestyle with SHIELD: Sleep, Handle Stress, Interact, Exercise, Learn New Things, and Diet.
I hope you to be encouraged, and be changed by my interview with Dr. Snow.
Blessings
Toula Wootan
This Holiday Season is supposed to be the most joyous time of the year. For most people. But not for all of us.
How do you feel, Toula? Are you singing, "HO. HO. HO.", or "NO. NO. NO."?
Do you know others who are dealing with the STRESS of the season? Or the GRIEF of missing a loved one now? Or maybe someone having “anticipatory grief” for someone who is very ill?
I understand. I still miss my Mom and Dad, and my son.
But there is still joy to be found in this Season. And, it is okay to feel sad and glad.
My special guest on this podcast is a friend who can help you. Rachel Weinstein is an authority on the topic of grief. She holds a Master's Degree in Education, with a specialty in Counseling and Counselor Education, from Indiana University. Rachel spent the early part of her career as a general psychotherapist, and later began specializing in the area of grief, loss, and life transition.
Rachel is also an expert because she has lost people close to her, and has had to deal with those conflicting emotions.
In this podcast, Rachel shares some practical ways we can cope with our feelings. She offers some simple actions we can take during the holidays to honor those we are grieving.
Rachel is here to help you. If you find yourself having difficulty coping with a loss, and coping with the Holidays, contact Rachel by calling: (409) 540 – 4950, or email her at JaxCenterForGrief@gmail.com.
I hope you also will gain some insight and comfort from this podcast.
Holiday Blessings
Toula Wootan
Are you scared every time your loved one gets behind the wheel of the car?
Are you sure there is something wrong? Are you ready to have “the talk”? Will you be able to do what is needed?
Let’s face the truth. Some seniors should not be driving any more. But it is so difficult for family to do anything about it.
My guest on this podcast, Matt Gurwell, CEO of Keeping Us Safe, LLC, can help you “have the talk”. He can help you to know whether your loved one should still be driving. He even created a comprehensive “Self-Assessment Program for Older Drivers” to objectively evaluate driving performance.
Matt knows why this is important. He is retired from a very distinguished and successful 24-year career as an Assistant District Commander with the Ohio State Highway Patrol. He says he started “Keeping Us Safe” because, “It was the result of 20-plus years of holding dying people in my arms at terrible car accidents, and delivering dozens and dozens of death notifications to families. I would much rather work with families to bring a peaceful resolve to this sensitive and uncomfortable issue now, rather than have them deal with it when a State Trooper is knocking on their front door".
If you want to know more, visit Matt’s web site, www.keepingussafe.org.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING
How old do you have to be to be a caregiver for your parents?
You are probably thinking the answer is middle-aged or older adults, in our 40s, of 50s or better.
Sadly, more and more millennials (20s to mid-30s) are becoming caregivers every day. Actually, up to 25% of caregivers in the U.S. are millennials, caring for their aging parents. That is 30 years earlier than you expected!
In this podcast of TOULA’S TIPS FOR CAREGIVERS, Adrienne Glusman shares her caregiving story with us. Adrienne became a caregiver for her mother at the age of 29, and, ten years later, is still caregiving for her mother while trying to manage her own career.
The challenges of being a millennial caregiver are unique as this role comes unexpectedly at a time in their lives when they may be in college, just starting their careers, getting married or planning a family. Adrienne and I discuss these challenges and list ways others can support them.
Is being a millennial caregiver different than for older caregivers? Tune in to the podcast to find out.
This important subset of caregivers needs more attention from social organizations who support caregivers. Listen to this bright young lady tell her story, and think about ways we can support millennial caregivers.
When is the last time you had a drink?
I don’t mean alcohol. When was your last glass of WATER? When was the last time your loved one had some water? You know that you and our loved one need to stay hydrated. It may be difficult to convince your loved one to drink. But it is critical to their health. It can easily land your loved one in the hospital.
On this podcast, we will talk about how to persuade your loved one to drink water and stay hydrated. There are simple ways that will keep you sane and your loved one calm.
Toula’s guest, Dr. Oscar Rodriguez, is a passionate physician, educator and innovator, who cared for his mother through two hip surgeries, knee replacement and heart attack. He is someone you will want to hear.
Need more help? Dr. Rodriguez co-founded Care|Mind® an award-winning iOS (Apple iPhone) app that helps caregivers like you to monitor the activity, medications and vital information of their loved ones so that they can then share this with healthcare providers. Imagine how helpful this will be to optimize the care they receive.
As a caregiver, YOU play a critical role in keeping your loved one healthy. Dr. Rodriguez and Toula want to help you to be prepared and stay healthy.
Are you ready for your role when you bring your loved one to the doctor (or hospital)?
It is hard. The medical staff look to you to be the voice, to answer their questions, and to make the critical decisions. You feel overwhelmed, and feel like you are invading on someone else’s personal issues. But when you are prepared, you can help optimize the care they receive.
This is even a formidable task for a physician who is also a caregiver. So, who better to give advice that will help you (and me)?
In this podcast, Toula’s guest, Dr. Oscar Rodriguez, is a passionate educator and innovator, who became frustrated by the ever-growing gaps in formal healthcare he experienced as a physician, patient and while caring for his mother through two hip surgeries, knee replacement and heart attack. He is someone you will want to hear.
Dr. Rodriguez co-founded Care|Mind® an award-winning Smart Phone APP that helps caregivers like you to monitor the activity, medications and vital information of their loved ones so that they can then share this with healthcare providers. Imagine how helpful this will be to optimize the care they receive. (To Learn More, go to: http://caremindapp.com/)
As a caregiver, YOU play a critical role in the healthcare system. Dr. Rodriguez and Toula want to help you to be prepared to be an effective advocate for the best care for your loved one.
Blessings
Toula Wootan
You will want to meet the new “Leaders Engaged on Alzheimer’s Disease”.
YES. There are Leaders around the world who are working together FOR YOU and your loved one.
The LEAD Coalition (Leaders Engaged on Alzheimer's Disease) has over 100 multi-national organizations committed to stopping Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia. They are making progress in the fight against Alzheimer’s.
You will be thoroughly captivated by all that you will learn In this interview with Ian Kremer, Executive Director of the LEAD Coalition.
There are 5.7 million people in the US with Alzheimer’s disease. Today, another person develops Alzheimer’s every 65 seconds.
The LEAD Coalition do not just want to find a cure. Yes, they are working to increase funding for Alzheimer's research and support for those living with this disease
They also are supporting efforts to make your job as a caregiver for an Alzheimer’s patient easier and more effective. They are supporting legislation that will fund training and support services for family members and caregivers.
You can learn more about the LEAD Coalition on their web site, Leadcoalition.org.
You will be encouraged and excited about the major changes, new programs and funding, and worldwide attention that is being given to Alzheimer’s. You will enjoy this interview with Ian Kremer.
Blessings
Are you afraid of getting Alzheimer’s? We all are.
What if you could reduce your risk of getting Alzhiemer’s by eating? Would that catch your attention?
Yes! You can. Toula’s guest on this podcast, Cari Eyre, will tell you how. Cari is the Associate Director of Programs for the Alzheimer’s Association, North Florida Region.
It is called The Mind Diet! And, it works. Recent studies have shown that following this diet can reduce the risk of getting Alzheimer’s by 53%
Of course, you cannot just eat anything you want. There are some foods that you should and should not eat (Oh, dear. Steak, hamburgers and French fries are not on the list. But, YAY. Red wine is on the diet (in moderation)).
The MIND Diet is actually a hybrid of the wonderful Mediterranean Diet and the DASH diet, plus some enhancements to help you to reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s.
Good news. Even if you don’t follow the diet strictly all the time, by staying on the diet consistently (minimize that cheating), your risk could still be reduced by 35%.
It is true that you need more than just the Mind Diet to reduce your chances of getting Alzheimer’s. Exercise (your body AND brain) and socialization are also important. Cari and I talk about several ways to help you.
Your next steps are important. Listen to this podcast. Learn more about the Mind Diet. Then begin to change your eating habits.
Toula wants to help you stay healthy by keeping you informed. Cari and the Alzheimer’s Association believe the Mind Diet could change your life. Listen to them.
Blessings
Do you take better care of your car or home than your own brain?
When is the last time you brought your car in for a checkup and oil change? When is the last time you brought YOURSELF in for a checkup? Oh, dear.
May is Older American’s Month. It is a month to make sure that you are doing what you need to do to stay healthy, including brain health.
Our friends in New York, the Alzheimer's Foundation of America can help you to stay healthy - and to be a better caregiver.
On this interview with Charles Fuschillo, CEO of the Alzheimer's Foundation of America (AFA), he explains the many resources that AFA provides for you. AFA even offers a Free Memory Screening that you can take to give your brain a checkup. They are quick (10 minutes), easy, non-invasive and completely confidential. You can take it on-site at a location near you. Schedule an appointment for a free memory screening by calling AFA at their toll-free helpline, 1-866-232-8484. Listen to the full podcast to learn what other programs that AFA has to help you and your loved one.
The Alzheimer's Foundation of America is a network of over 2,600 member organizations throughout the United States who provide optimal care and services to individuals confronting dementia, and to their caregivers and families!
You can learn more about AFA by going to their web site (https://alzfdn.org), or by calling their toll-free helpline, 1-866-232-8484.
Blessings
Toula
Toula’s Tips for Caregivers
Toula@ToulasTipsForCaregivers.com
When you hear, “football player”, what is the first thought that comes to your mind?
Is it “a caregiver”?
It will be after you listen to this podcast.
Toula’s special guest in this podcast is former Jacksonville Jaguar defensive back Donovin Darius. Donovin was a first-round draft pick for the Jaguars in 1998, and played nine seasons with the team. He retired from football in 2013.
More importantly, Donovin has been a caregiver for his mother, who became ill with various situations. Donovin said, “I knew that I had to do whatever I could do - staying with her, having her live with me, taking her to the doctor and the hospital. To me, it was the least I could do for her.” Since he retired from football, Donovin has been active in other careers, as an author, motivational speaker, fitness trainer and, through his Donovin Darius Foundation, host of empowerment and athletic camps for youth and families (To learn more, go to donovindariusfoundation.com.)
Donovin has an amazing story to share with you and other caregivers. That is why he was named as the Keynote Speaker for the 2018 Caregiver Coalition of Northeast Florida’s Caregiver Expo. (To learn more, go to MyCaregiverConnection.org)
Are you afraid that you could lose your home, and all of your hard-earned savings? If you don’t plan ahead, you someday could be facing financial catastrophe. You Do Not Have To Lose It All! Toula's special guest on this podcast has the answers you need.
As a long term care specialist for over thirty-five years in Jacksonville, FL, Kim Magdalein has been offering financial plans to protect caregivers' assets during their retirement years. Kim was named one of the top five advisors in America by Senior Market Advisor magazine. He has written two books, and is a leading columnist on income planning to avoid financial catastrophe.
In this podcast, they talk about the important steps you can take to be prepared. We all recognize how financial hardship leads to declining health. Please don’t wait.
Why is everyone talking about caregiving? As former first lady Rosalynn Carter, founder of The Caregiver Institute, said, "You either Are a Caregiver, Will Be a caregiver, Have Been a caregiver, or will be a Care Receiver." This podcast is replay of Toula Wootan's presentation to the Caregiver Workshop in March 2018 in Jacksonville, FL. In it, she talks about being in all four phases of caregiving.
I believe that grief is a journey that should not be walked alone. Do you agree?
All of us will endure grief more than once in our lives. Are you going through that heartache now? I am.
My special guest on this podcast is a friend who can help you. Rachel Weinstein is an authority on the topic. She holds a Master's Degree in Education with a specialty in Counseling and Counselor Education, from Indiana University. Rachel spent the early part of her career as a general psychotherapist, and later began specializing in the area of grief, loss, and life transition.
Everyone deals with loss in a different way. In this podcast, Rachel shares some of the most misunderstood aspects of grief, and how we can help someone who is suffering from a loss. Our conversation was helpful to me as I continue to grieve the recent loss of my Father.
Rachel continues her practice of helping grieving families at convenient hours on evenings and weekends. If you find yourself having difficulty coping with a loss, Rachel can be reached by calling: (409) 540 – 4950, or emailing JaxCenterForGrief@gmail.com.
This is a difficult topic for Toula. I expect it is for you, too.
Death is a natural and important part of our life cycle, yet end of life care is often misunderstood and ignored. In fact, one in three Medicare dollars is spent on people who are in their last 6 months of life.
On this podcast, Toula talks with Dr. Sebastian Sepulveda, author of a new book, "At Death’s Door: End of Life Stories from the Bedside".
Dr. Sepulveda believes there is a better way to navigate end of life care. He specializes in internal medicine, has 17 years’ experience treating inpatients as a hospitalist. He is passionate about end of life care and helping patients and families to deal with dying.
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In his book, "At Death's Door: End of Life Stories from the Bedside”, Dr. Sepulveda shares his firsthand accounts of working with dying patients, exposing a profound lack of acceptance of death even under the most obvious circumstances.
During the discussion, he talks about practical options available to patients and their families, how to avoid prolonged suffering when your loved one is terminally ill, and how to avoid burnout while taking care of a terminally ill loved one
Toula lost her dear father, “Papa Nick” last November. She experienced all of these issues. She still feels the pain of his loss. She shares some of her thoughts with Dr. Sepulveda. We hope that you also will gain some insight and comfort from this podcast.
Caregivers do have friends in Washington D.C., who are looking out for you.
In this podcast, Toula talks with one of those friends, Dr. Marian Grant, Senior Regulatory Advisor for The Coalition to Transform Advanced Care (or, C-TAC). C-TAC is dedicated to the ideal that all Americans with advanced illness, especially the sickest and most vulnerable, receive comprehensive, high-quality, person- and family-centered care that is consistent with their goals and values and honors their dignity. C-TAC accomplishes this by empowering consumers, changing the health delivery system, improving public and private policies, and enhancing provider capacity. C-TAC is funded by grants and the support of members.
In this podcast, Dr. Grant reveals to Toula some of C-TAC’s federal policy work and our caregiving research currently underway.
Did Hurricane Irma disrupt your life? Or, Harvey, or the fires in California, or any of the other major natural disasters that have hit the USA this year?
Have you put off doing other important things because of it?
If you put off applying for Medicare (for you or your loved one), or updating your plan, you have had some little relief – but now is the time to act fast. Your deadline is December 31st.
Sometimes a different Medicare plan can better help us in our situations. You always have options – but only until December 31st this year (if you were in the Hurricane area).
My special guest on this podcast, Beth Torre, will explain more. Beth is a Broker Manager for the Medicare Division of AETNA serving Northeast Florida. She and the national team at AETNA are ready to help you and others get the coverage you need before it is too late.
My goal is always to help to make your role as a caregiver. Medicare can be essential to you. Listen to this podcast and act quickly.
Blessings.
Advanced Illness Care is a topic that most people avoid. In this podcast, Toula interviews Bill Novelli, Co-Chair of the Coalition to Transform Advanced Care (C-TAC), at their national Summit on Advanced Illness Care. Learn what is being done to help caregivers and their loved ones.
Toula shares her own caregiver story with her friend and fellow caregiver-expert Chris MacLellan, the Bow Tie Guy.
In May 2017, MSNBC Weekend Anchor Richard Lui spoke to an audience of over 800 caregivers at the Caregiver Expo of Northeast Florida (which I (Toula) organized. He told about his experience as a caregiver for his father, with Alzheimer's disease. Richard works weekends for MSNBC in New York so that he can fly back and forth from San Francisco to help care for his dad during the week. Richard's caregiving story has been highlighted by AARP.
Interview with Dr. Eloise Stiglitz, owner of Embrace Your Aging. She is a life coach who helps Seniors and their Adult Children. Toula interviewed Dr. Stiglitz at the American Society on Aging conference in Chicago.
The Alzheimer's Foundation of America (AFA) is a network of over 2,600 member organizations throughout the United States who provide optimal care and services to individuals confronting dementia, and to their caregivers and families. In this podcast, Toula interviews Charles Fuschillo, CEO of the Alzheimer's Foundation of America to learn how the AFA can help you.
It hurt. Didn’t it?
Sometimes it still does. It was a turning point in your life.
I understand. We all have had (more than one) time when something happened that changed us. Was it a mistake? Or, an accident? Was it “that diagnosis”? Did you lose someone close to you?
But look at you. You survived. You have grown stronger. The worst is behind you.
Do you want to feel better? Do you want to continue your healing process?
My two guests on this podcast can show you how. They know because they have gone through major losses. They both have learned through their pain that there can be more.
Joni Aldrich, a good friend and regular guest here, lost her husband to cancer in 2009. Chris Jerry lost his daughter to a hospital error the same year.
Their message – you can heal and help others by being an advocate. YES, YOU! In fact, they wrote a book about it Advocacy Heals U
It may simply speaking up for yourself, or for someone else. Or, you can speak out for a cause. Just do something to help others. There has never been a better time to combine networking, the ripple effect, and social media tactics to make a difference in someone else’s life.
When you do this, you help others to heal. When you help others, you help yourself to heal. Joni and Chris call this, “The Event. The Need. The Call.”
You do not need a doctor to tell you that you or your loved one is getting old.
The aches and pains, the slow reactions, and the full medicine cabinet already tell you that. (I almost forgot – there also may be memory loss.)
But you do need a special doctor – a Geriatrician – to make sure that your loved one is getting the proper care. As we get older, and our minds and bodies change, our systems react differently to treatments and medications.
What should you do? My guest on this episode of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers is Dr. Raphael Balbino, is a Geriatrician with the AgeWell Institute at Baptist Medical Center. AgeWell is the premier health care program for seniors.
More importantly, he can help you to get the best care for you and your loved one, to relieve the stress and sense of loss that we all sometimes feel.
Does it really feel like a “NEW” year? Or just more of the same?
It can be different. You can find strength. You can be a better caregiver this year. I can help you to step into your power.
That is why I have asked my good friend, and now a life coach, Carol O’Dell, to be my guest on this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. Carol will help us to make this a real “new” year. Carol was a caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer’s, which she recalled in her book, Mothering Mother: A Daughter’s Humorous and Heartbreaking Memoir. Now Carol is a life coach, helping caregivers and others become more fit both physically and emotionally.
Carol will give us some practical tips. She knows that, when we feel better, we can be stronger emotionally as well. We can make the tough decisions. We can handle the difficult times. AND, we can avoid our own serious illnesses.
She has achieved what most of us caregivers don’t think that we can. She will talk about how caregiving affected her, and the road to wellness that she has been on the last couple of years. It took determination. Carol will reveal what motivated her.
Do you like paperwork?
You know what I mean. Filling out application forms, collecting bank statements, making copies of documents. FINDING all those old records.
I don’t like it. Not at all.
But sometimes the paperwork can make the difference between getting help or getting no help at all.
When it comes to Medicaid assistance – something that all caregivers may need someday – the application process can be overwhelming (read, “frightening!”).
When I recently needed to apply for Medicaid for my mother, I needed help. I really needed help.
My guest on for this episode was a true “godsend.” Our first step was to gather together a long list of documents. I called Colleen Dedenbach, a dear friend and owner of Medicaid Assist Services of NE FL. Within a few hours, Colleen worked with my Dad to collect EVERYTHING we needed. I was expecting this to take weeks.
On this episode, Colleen will talk with us about the whole Medicaid application process. She will actually make you and me more comfortable, less afraid.
Colleen was a great help to me. She will be a great help to you.
Do you remember when you realized you were a caregiver?
Did it seem like it happened “in an instant”?
It can happen to us all – even celebrities, like my first guest on this podcast.
Lee Woodruff is a writer, a contributing reporter for “CBS This Morning” and a contributing editor for Working Mother magazine. She also is the wife of Bob Woodruff, the journalist who succeeded Peter Jennings as the co-anchor of ABC World News Tonight in 2005.
In January 2006, their lives changed “in an instant”, when Bob was critically injured by a roadside bomb while covering the war in Iraq.
In an instant, Lee became caregiver for her husband with a traumatic brain injury.
My second guest is Danielle Porter, a Music Therapist from Brooks Rehabilitation’s Bartram Park campus. Danielle uses music to improve the quality of life for their residents. With her will be Danielle McGrath, Director of Marketing for Aging Services for the Bartram Campus. Together, they are helping their residents to find closer sense of community, so that they can achieve the highest level of recovery and participation in life.
Because we love. Because we care.
Their caregiving story is touching and compelling.
Just like yours.
Their story is unique. Just like yours.
There were difficult discussions. And hard decisions. Just like you.
They showed – it is about love, respect, and honoring your loved one. Their story may receive a Pulitzer Prize nomination for an Orlando Sun-Sentinel reporter.
As caregivers, we understand what it means to truly say, “In sickness and in health.”
My special guest on this podcast is Chris MacLellan, will share his story with us.
In January 2014, Chris lost his partner, (Bernard) Richard Schiffer, to cancer. Chris cared for Richard during his extended illness.
As a caregiver and his loved one, they faced many of the issues, conflicts and tough choices that we face. As a gay couple, they dealt with their own unique obstacles.
How much sleep do you really need?
The best answer I have heard is, “just five minutes more!”
I wasn’t the first one to say that. But I may be saying it more often. Do you agree? Do you want to say it to your loved one? To your family?
Unfortunately, the normal answer from caregivers is, “I will sleep when my work is done.”
Sleep! Who needs sleep?
Yes. You know you do. I worry that you aren’t getting enough. I worry that it will affect your health.
There is only one thing that I can do – call in an expert. So I did.
Robert Trenholm is an educator with the AgeWell Institute of Baptist Medical Center. He started his professional career in a sleep lab. He understands what happens when you do not get a good night’s rest.
Robert will help you to sleep better. He will explain what may be causing you to have restless nights, or sleepless nights. He will share some important tips for you to be able to wake up feeling refreshed.
Yes. Even caregivers can sleep well. Find out how. Listen to Robert now.
Can I trust you with my secrets?
No. I don’t want you to keep them. I want you to SHARE them! Let your loved ones, your family, your friends, your co-workers, and even your boss know them.
These secrets are too important! Everyone must know!
These are secrets about how to be a better caregiver.
You have told me some of your secrets, like how you skip meals, or forget your own medications because you are taking care of your loved one.
Have you ever postponed medical treatment because you don’t have time, or because you don’t have anyone else to care for your loved one? DON’T LET ME HEAR YOU DOING THAT! You have to learn ways to put yourself first.
As caregivers, we often put the needs of our family members ahead of our own needs – even to a dangerous extreme. I admit, I’ve done it…and later regretted it.
In this podcast, Troy Doughan, In-Home Program Director with Apex Home Health Care, and I discuss this topic. We will have some revealing talks about caregivers (maybe about someone like you).
Do you remember how proud you felt?
Weren’t you proud as a little child, being able to say the full alphabet, in order? Did you have your biggest smile when you spelled a new word?
Now, as a caregiver, do you know the “caregiver alphabet”? Can you recognize all those new caregiver terms?
What is SNF? (No, it is not “Saturday Night Fever.”)
What is LTC? (No, it’s not “loving, tender care,” but you are close.)
On this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers,” we will talk about all the acronyms and terms that you need to know as a caregiver.
My special guest on this podcast is Landry Arnold, Sales and Marketing Director of Allegro Senior Living in Fleming Island. Landry will help. Being in sales and marketing, she has to know all the jargon. She will be able to help you.
BTW – You may even ROFL a little by the time we finish.
(Okay. BTW means “by the way.” ROFL means, “roll on the floor laughing.”)
Did your parents share any of their recipes?
Their recipes for caregiving, I mean.
You may be taking care of a parent or grandparent. Just like your parents did. And their parents. Maybe they were part-time, or long distance caregivers. It is still caregiving. You know how that works.
What did you learn from them? Did they have any advice for you?
A little bit of this. A little bit of that. Turn up the heat. Add some time in the pressure cooker. In the end, we all appreciate the experience.
That is called “Generational Cooking.”
My guest Linda Phyllis Ratzthompson, has written her own “cookbook” about her life and becoming a caregiver. It is called GENERATIONAL COOKING.
She also has a web site dedicated to the book and her experience
Linda is the latest in a long line of family caregivers. She learned the true meaning of caregiving through the examples of her parents and their parents. She cared for her grandparents, her mother-in-law and now her parents.
She and her husband read many books and articles about caregiving. But, as the saying goes, “experience is the best teacher.” Now she wants to help others by sharing her lessons. That is why she wrote the book. Enjoy the show!
Are we changing against our will as we get older? Do things get worse for us as we age?
Is getting old really “Life’s Most Dangerous Game”?
What do I think? When I look at photos of my past, and my parents’ past, I think that what I was told is true.
But not everyone believes this. My exceptional guests on this podcast do not.
These myths are FALSE, says Dr. Bill Thomas – an internationally acclaimed longevity expert, author, musician, teacher, and physician. Among his many credits, he created The Green House® model of care for people with memory disorders that is used by our friends at Brooks Bartram Lakes. He also shares his thoughts on his blog site, “ChangingAging.org.”
Dr. Thomas is currently traveling across the country on “The Age of Disruption 2015 Tour.” He shows audiences how to turn the tables on “Life’s Most Dangerous Game” and how to approach aging with the skill and enthusiasm it requires.
Also with us will be Elaine Martini and Danielle McGrath of Brooks Rehab – Bartram Lakes Assisted Living. They will talk about the care and support that Brooks Bartram Lakes offers to our Elders, especially in their Green House unit.
You will also be one of the first to learn about their new Caregiver College, a free program sponsored by Bartram Lakes and the Alzheimer’s Association. The College will offer three classes at their Assisted Living facilities, talking about HEALTHY HABITS, THE 10 WARNING SIGNS of ALZHEIMERS, and THE BASICS OF MEMORY LOSS, ALZHEIMERS AND DEMENTIA.
We have a lot of great information for you. You won’t want to miss it.
Are you giving thanks this holiday season? Why? How will you show it?
We as caregivers have so much to be thankful for. But we also don’t have enough time to reflect on it.
In this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers, my wonderful guests and I will share our stories of Thanksgiving. We also want to hear your story.
Joni Aldrich is a nationally-recognized caregiver advocate, and a regular guest here. Chris MacLellan, “the Bow Tie Guy,” is a caregiver advocate, radio talk show host and author living in the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area. Amy Goyer has found many golden moments in her roles as a caregiver for her parents, as an author and speaker, and as a Family Expert for AARP.
We all have different lives, except for one – we are or have been caregivers. Just like you.
I have a great suggestion for a Christmas present for you and your loved one.
A VACATION!!! Maybe a short one. A weekend? A day?
I can already hear your excuses. It wouldn’t be possible. You can never leave your loved one’s side. Your loved one won’t let you out of sight. It will be too complicated. No one else can do what you do. It will be too expensive. You are afraid your loved one won’t be treated right.
It is a scary thought, to leave someone in charge of your family. You feel guilty getting away.
But none of that is true. You deserve and need a break once in a while. Your loved one needs a break from you, too!
It’s called RESPITE CARE. Respite care is a short-term stay that helps the caregiver take time to decompress, and set aside the responsibilities of full-time care for a period of time- ranging usually from a week to a month.
My guests this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers Show know all about respite care.
Janice RyallsJanice Ryalls is Executive Director of Elmcroft of Timberlin Parc. With her will be Lynn Ford, her Community Relations Director. Elmcroft Senior Living offers assisted living and memory care services; they are well-known for their smaller, home-like, family environment. Elmcroft is dedicated to providing compassion and kindness to their residents and employees.
Elmcroft has been on of the wonderful sponsors who help bring Toula’s Tips for Caregivers to you.
We have some other gift ideas to share with you, too. You will have to listen in to learn more!
In this podcast, I announce some BIG CHANGES for "Toula's Tips for Caregivers: HELP IS ON THE AIR." I want you to be the first to know when I talk about my plans
I have been doing my radio show, Toula’s Tips for Caregivers Show for seven years on WBOB Radio AM600 and FM100.3 in Jacksonville FL. I have had many local and national guests on the show. They have shared their advice and their stories with you. As we approach 2017, after listening to you, I realized that I must change the format to reach more caregivers more conveniently for you.
This show is an important step for you, for me and for "Toula's Tips for Caregivers."
Where do you go to find something fun to do?
WHAT? A Caregiver can have fun, too?
Yes. Of course. That is my constant message to you – take care of yourself. That includes doing fun things for yourself.
Our local AARP office agrees. They are doing a lot to make Jacksonville “livable” for older adults. They want all of Florida to have “livable communities”, with safe, accessible and vibrant environments so that we can age in place. You can see a movie, take classes, visit museums. Don’t forget all those AARP discounts.
My guest on Toula’s Tips for Caregivers is excited to tell you all that AARP is doing for you. Justine Conley is the Jacksonville Field Coordinator for AARP, as well as an AARP Florida Associate State Director. You know Justine. You have seen her on TV in AARP-Jacksonville commercials
Find out what AARP is doing for you. Tune in to this episode of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers Show.
Do you like to ride roller coasters?
My husband likes them. He likes all the rides that spin and turn and go upside down.
I think he is nuts.
Besides, I am riding my own “roller coaster” – the caregiving roller coaster.
You know what I mean. Caregiving has its own emotional ups and downs, and its own spins and turns – often sudden, like a roller coaster.
My husband says that, to enjoy the roller coaster, you need be prepared for when the coaster turns and spins. That’s how it becomes fun.
He’s right. We also must know how to be prepared for riding our caregiving roller coaster. That is how we can feel our reward.
On this episode of Toula's Tips for Caregivers, my two special guests will guide you on how to prepare for riding the caregiving roller coaster.
Danielle McGrath will be my guest host for this show. Danielle is a frequent guest on Toula’s Tips. She is the Director of Marketing for Aging Services for Brooks Rehabilitation. Danielle will be joined by Dr. Alaina Breitberg, a neuro-psychologist with Brooks Rehabilitation.
Alaina and Danielle will talk about managing the difficult emotions and choices we face as caregivers. They will define “Compassion Fatigue”, explain the warning signs and give tips for overcoming the feelings of sadness and anger tat accompany caregiving.
If you could not tell us what you wanted, is it okay for us to make the choice for you?
Do you trust your loved ones to make the right choices for you?
That may not be a problem if it is a choice of what to eat, or what to wear.
But what about those more serious issues – like being placed on a ventilator, or being revived if your heart stops?
You need to know what you want. Your loved ones need to know. Your doctor needs to know.
I agree. It is hard to talk to anyone about it.
My two guests on this podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers Show understand. They can help you to have that talk, and to make those decisions.
Jamie Buller is Director of Advance Care Planning with Community Hospice of NE Florida. Bonnie Bedenbaugh is Manager, Advance Care Planning at Community Hospice. They talk with many people about making informed choices and documenting them. They recommend “Honoring Choices Florida” – a nationally recognized program to help you and others to prepare your ‘advanced care directive”, and to talk with your loved ones.
Join Jamie, Bonnie and me this Saturday at 11AM on “Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. HELP IS ON THE AIR”. Begin the important steps of making your own health care choices. We will honor them.
Are you still a caregiver if your loved one doesn’t live with you?
Of course you are. Many of us are “long-distance caregivers.”
Our loved ones are in other facilities, maybe other cities, or even other states. We still accept the responsibility of making sure that they are safe, healthy and secure.
The responsibility of caregiving does not decrease with mileage.
But the difficulty of being a caregiver does.
What happens if your loved one needs help? Is she receiving the care that you would give if you were there? Can you trust those who are watching and treating him every day? Are you missing any signs of self-neglect because you are not there?
These are serious issues. There are good responses. There is help.
My guest co-hosts on this Podcast. will help you. Chris MacLellan, “the Bow Tie Guy,” and Troy Doughan, In-Home Program Director with Apex Home Health Care are warm, energetic and very positive about life.
Chris is a caregiver advocate and radio talk show host living in the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area. He has published several books on caregiving. Troy Doughan has helped many caregivers through his important role with Apex.
Together, they will help to answer your questions about being a “long-distance caregiver.”
Is being a caregiver for a veteran different than for other loved ones?
If you are caring for a veteran, then you know already that the answer is “YES.”
That is why YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO Deborah Grassman, the Country's Foremost Expert on Hospice and Veteran's Affairs issues. Deborah's book, Peace at Last: Stories of Hope and Healing for Veterans. Deborah is my special guest on this Podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. Deborah’s book is used by many agencies to help veterans cope with the effects of past trauma during the dying process. Learn how you can be a better caregiver for your veteran loved one.
How much was your last bill from the doctor or hospital? If it was like mine, the answer is, “Way Too Much.”
It seems like they charge us for everything, including our own kitchen sink.
Did you know that your bill may be wrong? Yes. Hospitals and doctors’ offices make mistakes. Often. But those bills are so detailed, and so complicated, it is impossible for us to tell.
That is when we need help.
Mary Daniel is a Medical Claims Specialist and owner of ClaimMedic. She actually can understand your medical bills. WHICH MEANS – she can explain them to you, quickly spot billing errors, and even help you to lower your bill or help to get your insurance company to pay their fair share of the bill.
On Saturday, Mary will give some tips to help you to understand your medical bills, and explain how you can reduce your medical costs. She will tell you about the most frequent medical billing errors so that you can spot them yourself.
Pull out your last bill. Get ready to compare them to what Mary says.
Blessings,
Toula
How much is being a caregiver worth to you?
Caring for your loved one has been invaluable to you. You wouldn’t trade it for the world. You have made a difference in your loved one’s life.
But what has it cost you, not only now, but to your long-term financial future?
It doesn’t matter what your situation is today. What matters is that you begin to prepare for your financial future, especially a future after your loved one is gone.
My guest on this podcast of Toula’s Tips For Caregivers is an expert who specializes in helping women to regain their financial stability. Nowhere are the differences between men and women more clear than in the areas of money and finance.
Jeannette Bajalia founded her company, Women’s Worth, to bring a woman’s perspective to retirement and lifestyle protection planning. She counsels her clients on a range of issues, from lifetime income planning to the effects of money matters on the emotional and physical health of women.
On this podcast, Jeannette will reveal the most common mistake that women make when planning their future. She will leave us with some important tips to help us be fiscally safe and secure as we grow old.
What can we learn from a Crash Test Dummy?
Crash Test Dummies are not just for car commercials. They help us learn a lot about crashes BEFORE WE GET INTO ONE!
Wouldn’t you like to have a “Crash Test Dummy for Caregivers”? Someone who will make all the mistakes before we do, so that we can be safer?
GREAT NEWS. That “crash test dummy for caregivers” will be on this Podcast.
Peter Rosenberger is the founder of Caregivers With Hope. Peter has personally traveled the path of the family caregiver. In an unparalleled journey with his wife, Gracie, he has navigated a medical nightmare that has mushroomed to 78 operations, the amputation of both of Gracie’s legs, treatment by more than 60 doctors in 12 hospitals, 7 medical insurance companies, and $9 million in medical bills.
In the process, he has learned that a caregiver cannot only survive, but thrive in the midst of oftentimes grim circumstances.
Since 2013, he has carried his message of health and hope for the caregiver to the airwaves, hosting his own weekly show in Nashville. His latest book, Hope for the Caregiver, provides practical tools and encouragement for the caregiver.
Peter calls himself the "Crash Test Dummy for Caregivers." He wants to help us avoid making the same mistakes he has made. On this Podcast, Peter tells his story of caring for Gracie, and talk about the importance of maintaining balance and a sense of humor.
This show will help you with practical advice and inspirational stories.
What does Memorial Day remind you of?
Of course - our veterans and their sacrifices to protect our freedom.
To all our Veterans - Thank You For Your Service.
And a special thanks to you, the "quiet heroes"- the family members who are caring for them.
We want to be here for you.
I want to make sure that you know about the support the Veterans Administration (VA) has for veterans and families who are caring for a veteran.
How is caring for a veteran different from caring from someone who isn't a veteran? What services are available to support those caregivers?
My special guest is Felicia N Santos, LCSW and Supervisory Social Worker with the Orlando VA Medical Center. She will reveal the answers. You will be surprised at the wealth of services they have for you.
Felicia will also tell us about two important VA programs that can help caregivers.
Building Better Caregivers is an online program that provides information and support, including a six week workshop. The Peer Support Mentoring Program matches New Caregivers to more experienced Caregivers. These are both available to VA Caregivers of ALL eras.
This show will offer practical advice, information on important resources and inspirational stories.
Are you trying too hard to relax and feel better?
Or are you not trying at all?
Would you like to learn about easy, fun and proven ways to relieve stress, back pain and all that tension that caregiving brings (from the time you get up until after you go to bed)?
My guests on Saturday, Belinda Casper and Curt Coenen will help. They were one of the many popular exhibitors at our Caregiver Expo in May. So many caregivers mentioned them that I thought you would like to hear more.
Tune in to this Toula’s Tips for Caregivers Podcast to learn what you can do.
Belinda is a yoga instructor trained in the “yoga as therapy” approach. Belinda and Curt also distribute “Young Living Essential Oils.” They will explain how simple things using yoga and aroma therapy can help you to relieve our stress and your back pain, relax and feel good again.
Did you know that there are twelve (12!!!!) “Healing Oils” referenced in the Bible that can benefit your health and wellness? Belinda and Curt do. I am looking forward to hearing about their Lavender Oils.
It is not much fun to be in a hospital. Do you agree?
It is not fun for your loved one. It is less fun for the caregiver, like you.
Some people are at high risk for hospitalization. Patients suffering with CHF or COPD, those prone to falls, and those with medication issues too often are visiting the hospital.
Did you know that there are things that you can do for your loved one?
Learn more on this Podcast of Toula’s Tips for Caregivers. My special guest will be Mark Devitt, Executive Director of Almost Family (Apex Home Health Care). He will talk to us about their unique High Risk for Hospitalization Program, which they have developed to keep your loved one from going back into the hospital.
Apex is a leader in home health nursing, rehabilitation and personal care services. I have used Apex to help care for my parents.
Mark will help you to understand how Apex can help you to be a better caregiver.
Have you noticed how you have become a better caregiver over time?
As you continue to care for your loved one, you learn better ways to provide the care, and to take care of yourself. You listen to my show and my wonderful guests, who share their suggestions and resources.
This also is true for the great agencies in Jacksonville who are here to help you.
On this Toula’s Tips For Caregivers Podcast, we will learn more. My guests are Elaine Serio, Administrator of the Brooks Bartram Lakes campus, and Danielle McGrath, Director of Marketing, Aging Services for Brooks.
Brooks Bartram Lakes already provides exceptional care for seniors and those with memory disorders. Their assisted living facilities offer a safe and engaging environment. Their Green House Residences are the model that others try to follow to care for persons with Alzheimer’s and dementia.
But Brooks didn’t stop. They have continued to improve their programs and provide more help for you and your loved one. They want to share with you what they learned about fall prevention strategies, outings and activities, and “adventures in dining.”
Is your loved one feeling gloomy or sad?
Is it happening more often? Are you worried that it could lead to depression?
More and more, caregivers are reporting that their loved ones are falling into a state of depression. What can we do?
Talk to an expert!
An expert like Doctor Michael Solloway, a Geriatric Psychiatrist with Baptist Behavioral Health and AgeWell Center for Senior Health. He is my special guest on this Podcast of Toula’s Tips For Caregivers.
No. Depression is not normal in seniors, but it is more common than you would expect. There are signs that you, as the caregiver, should know. Dr. Solloway will explain. He even has some “Toula’s Tips” to offer to you and other caregivers.
Blessings,
Toula
Are you prepared?
So often I ask if you are prepared for the many challenges that we have on our caregiver journey.
Now I want to know – are you prepared for the end of the journey, and your new life afterward?
I am talking about YOUR life after your loved one passes on.
We certainly do not want to face it. But, we do need to prepare for it.
My special guest on today's TOULA'S TIPS FOR CAREGIVERS is well aware of how difficult – and important – this topic is.
Chris MacLellan, “the Bow Tie Guy,” is a caregiver advocate and radio talk show host living in the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area. He has published several books on caregiving. In January 2014, Chris lost his partner, (Bernard) Richard Schiffer, to cancer.
Chris will talk about caring at end of life, the transition, and what it takes to fill your life up again once you have lost your loved one. He will explain the four emotions after Caregiving ends…Relief, Sadness, Guilt and Acceptance
Chris knows that there is no magic formula. But, having a plan in place will help relieve some of the burden and trauma this day might create.