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Amber Slocum
A show about finding yourself, true and genuine self love and care, and creating a life you love and want to wake up to each and every day.
Let's talk about 2023 goals. What are mine, how did I come up with these goals and how am I prioritizing things? As a person who is autistic, bipolar, and possibly/most likely ADHD I have had a love hate relationship with goal setting and I wanted to sit down and talk about that, how I measure success, and failure these days and what specifically my goals are. I hope that in listening to this you can sit down and set some realistic goals for yourself and all that comes with that!
I've spent the last two years creating and emphasizing the importance of boundaries. One of the hardest parts of creating and managing boundaries is when we have to communicate a new boundary and we get pushback from the person in question. Today I'm going to talk about a situation I just came up against and how I managed it and my hope is through that story you can find the courage to create and hold your boundary in a way that is respectful for all parties involved...I have been on the receiving end of someone being incredibly rude regarding a boundary they had put into place and I just don't want to be that person if that makes sense.
We are going to talk about some of the struggles of budgeting as an entrepreneur, what starting the candle business has meant for my finances, and how i'm planning for the next few months and prioritizing my funds.
Sometimes in life we make changes and then realize that we have made a mistake. That happened. Let's talk more about mistakes and why i'm changing the name back to Find You Fall In Love. Thank you for your patience with me as I mess up and learn from my mistakes. Deep love to you all!
You know the should's...i should eat healthy, i should exercise, i should go on dates, i should journal...all those things and all that pressure we place on ourselves to do the self care, while being a good human, while trying to be healthy, while raising a family...oh and work...sheesh! You get the idea but no wonder our mental health is in the toilet. Today I want to give you a reframe and help you unpack some of that. If you are interested in creating a solid routine for yourself in the manner described in the podcast click below to have it sent to your inbox.
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Today I wanted to connect and look back to where we started and talk about all the awesome things I want to do with this podcast. What lies ahead for our future together. We are moving toward a name change, finally, that I think will absolutely align with, not only where we came from and continue to find ourselves, but also where we are going. I'm going to leave all the old podcasts in here but a name change is coming in the next week. Budgets and boundaries will allow new people to know that this podcast isn't about relationships - well it is to a degree but that's not our main topic and will allow me to talk about more things I'm passionate about - like becoming financially independent myself and helping other women to become so as well. I hope you'll hang about but if you find yourself disconnected from this venture I wish you all of the best in your podcast travels and hope maybe you'll come back around someday.
I know we started this conversation a few months back but things have gotten real now and I have worked so much on the shame and other money mindset stuff that was holding me back. Ready to follow along?
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Today we are going to talk about a struggle I've been having in my life. Do we move somewhere where my principles are upheld and well regarded...or do we move somewhere where I will feel good most of the time.
Today near the end of pride month i want to talk about courage and what being an ally really looks like and how that could help the youth of today find themselves quicker and fall in love with themselves easier. My hope is that it will inspire you to help save the life of a youth or young adult. The world we live in right now is incredibly scary. Helping others feel safe is the easiest thing to do to preserve life and foster a better world.
Today we are going to talk through where i've been what's going on over the next few weeks and the new creative outlet i've found. To get your ticket to the summit click here: https://aslocum83--delightfullydesigning.thrivecart.com/spark-pass-fast-action/624dcba287d19/ To join the mailing list for Sacred Balance Candle co: https://amberslocum.ck.page/001395712e
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Happy new year! I wanted to talk today about intention and what that really looks like when you practice it fully. Let's dive in to it!
I've been spending and enormous amount of time lately really diving into my neurodiverse brain and I wanted to update you on some things and share with you what I've found and how that might inform the podcast/blog going forward. Look to amberslocum.com in the new year to get more info and read about it all.
Today we are going to talk about what chaos is, how it affects us, and a huge epiphany I had around this idea of being a co-creator with the universe. I'm starting to fully grasp the concept and SEE more clearly what's been happening in my life. It's almost as if I've had these sun glasses on and I haven't been able to truly see things in the way they should be seen. Anyway, give a listen and email me and let me know your thoughts.
As promised, I'm sharing my income from month to month as I journey toward financial independence. This is the one for September
I am in the midst of a health scare and I want to share how we got to the point we are in the hopes of helping to save a life. I will keep you all up to date with biopsy results and the rest as it comes. But touch your boobies and feel your other various body parts! Deep love and hugs.
I have a big goal of becoming financially independent within the next few years. And because I do better with accountability I have decided to share this journey with you. Follow along with this once a month series where I lay it all out there. What has gone well that month and what hasn't. Click below to follow on instagram and get email updates about my journey.
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Comparison is the thief of joy (I've researched this quote and cannot find the original person who said it. It's been said by a lot of folks)...but is it? Is it comparing ourselves to others or is it the jealousy that comes from seeing others and feeling as though they are having an easier time and not struggling as you are.
Let's discuss that and the shame that comes around when we DO feel the jealousy. How do we let go of that and do it better?
Let's talk a little bit about self sabatoge and what it looks like and how to knock that crap off.
How and why are you rushing through your daily life? Where do you need to slow down simply because it makes no damn sense to keep rushing? Let's talk about that.
Today we are going to talk about how I recognized that I was disrespecting a boundary my child needed and how I corrected that problem and what that process looked like. And then we dive further in to respect and thinking about how we parent our kids based on how we were parented and how we learn as adult humans.
Fear has a really important purpose in our lives but it can also cause us not to act. I wanted to share an approach that has radically changed my self love, self confidence, and self esteem game!
Blog post: https://findyoufallinlove.com/working-through-…ove-and-kindness/
I wanted to share a guided meditation with you today! A reminder - do not do this while driving! Settle in and let's create a shift in mindset.
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An update to one of my first episodes...how to work through grief. This episode is incredibly important for mommas with boys or the men who may listen to this podcast. Really it's important for everyone!
I apologize for the very brief interruption. My app is having difficulties in editing and this is too important! I may go ahead and edit it at some point but the world needs this.
Today we are going to dive into overwhelming and insurmountable tasks. I wanted to walk through the steps i've taken in the past to really conquer the overwhelm monster and really take a HUGE task and break it down into smaller steps.
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Today we are going to discuss how you clear out mental space and create a solid foundation for growth and expansion. I also discuss how to clearly identify what is your thought, belief, and feeling and what is society and everyone around you.
As of recording this we had JUST hit 5000 downloads and that is SO damn exciting. I wanted to talk about some of the struggles I've had with celebrating wins and a few revelations that happened AS I was recording this. I am SO beyond grateful to have you here with me. Find out more on amberslocum.com!
Alert - i mention sex in this podcast - no details but if you are not wanting kiddos to hear it mentioned this is def a headphones one :)
Today we are going to talk about choices and what it really looks like to choose yourself and choose the moments you are present for. I found myself rushing through my life - always since forever ago and it's taken a major toll on my mindset and my relationships with my family and my child. I wanted to dive deep into what that looks like and ask you what you might be rushing through and how you might choose something different.
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It's that time of the month for me to get super vulnerable and start thriving.
And today we are going to get super deep. Underlying why's revisited and let's talk about your purpose and what it means to step into it.
F-bomb alert - snag those headphones if you've got little ears.
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I've been really focusing on raising a kiddo who is secure in who he is. And with a state of emotional intelligence that allows him to ask for help when he needs it. Knowing that it isn't weak. It's just what he needs in that moment.
Here's that Brené Brown and Lewis Howes chat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbsRU-crgsc
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This week we are going to talk about leaning into ease. What does that even mean? And how I'm finding deep meaning in recognizing that as humans we can only accept advice up to our current belief system. Be kind to yourself my dear friend.
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I've been dealing with imposter syndrome this week and I was reminded of a time when I did something that seemed very hard in the moment. I'm going to tell you the story and bring you through to how that has helped me this week.
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We don't often understand what causes certain behaviors and patterns in our lives. But once we identify it and process it - it IS our responsibility to move on and in my case I believe it's my responsibility to help others. So today we are talking about perfectionism and how i'm embracing the "done is better than perfect" ideal.
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Are you judging a book by its cover? Let's really dive into that. I seriously took a look at myself and my thought processes and how I was judging others by their looks. Let's dive into people's motivation for doing what they do!
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Man 2020 has been a hell of a year. Today I am talking with you about hard choices and about a crossroads I'm currently sitting at and what I've decided to do.
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Can you imagine what would happen if you were to get out of your own way? I've been dealing with this as of late and I have also been working with some clients on this particular issue. So let's talk about that!
This is a long awaited interview with a good friend of mine. We went to school together and have kept in touch. I wanted to step outside of my comfort zone and really dive into some deep questions and get her take on everything going on in the world today.
This is an intro to a much longer podcast which I am also sharing today plus I wanted to cover some things that are coming for the podcast. Have an amazing day all!
I talk a lot on my youtube channel about brain dumps and how you to do them but we never talk about the advantages and disadvantages of doing them. So today I want to cover that and give you some solid tips on how to overcome those disadvantages. Enjoy. Check me out on youtube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPhUl4LCceD51v4KDw4kHBw
I know the world seems crazy right now but I wanted to tell you a little of my backstory and a huge shift in perspective I had right before my birthday. Things really can get worse.
Today I wanted to expand on some things I talked about during episode 62. I dive deep into a relationship block I've been dealing with and trying to bust through for the past 5 years. This is also an aspect of my fear of success. I start to question what drives people to success and to be successful. Let's talk about it.
I have finally made some decisions about the brand. Some exciting things are coming!
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Girl, this has been a WEEK and it's only Tuesday. LOL Seriously, we are in the middle of a HUGE paradigm shift and it is bringing up all sorts of blocks and removing any ability to keep using the same old excuses. So what does that mean?! Let's dive into that.
This is definitely a headphones episode if you are not okay with the kiddos hearing curse words. Enjoy!
I've spent the last two weeks working to step back and figure out my path...a deeper dive into me if you will. And what has been coming up is fear...not of failure...but of success. So let's talk a little about that and what that means.
trigger warning - child sexual abuse and ptsd - skip to 6:30 to avoid that. I keep trying like hell to set goals and i'm struggling deeply with that right now. So let's talk about that and a few questions that you can ask yourself to move forward.
We all have pre-concieved notions about ourselves and others we encounter. We make snap judgements and they can impact how we view the world around us and each other. Even ourselves. Today I'm going to talk more deeply and openly about some judgements I made about some family members and how that affected how I saw them. At the end I detail an exercise that will help you begin to dive into this part of your shadows.
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Becoming a parent doesn't come with a manual. You're going to screw it up.
The only thing you can really do is show up, be there and do the very best you can with the information you have available to you.
Trigger warning: sexual abuse and rape - strong sexual language
Today I'm going to share part of my story and hopefully help to change the narrative around rape and body autonomy. After years of not talking about it, I'm attempting to heal from it. I'm going to discuss the steps I'm taking to regain my autonomy or establish it in the first place and also how i'm coping.
We are in a period where we are being called to unlearn old patterns and way of thinking and relearn new history and new ways of thinking. At a time when I believe we all may have lost our ability to trust certain people IF you ever had the ability to trust to begin with. I find that for me personally when my trust in others was violated it also impacted my ability to trust myself so I wanted to connect with you on that and give you steps to take to regain your own self trust and love.
I recorded this episode at the end of May and I feel it's as relevant if not more relevant. It all begins with us as individuals and frankly yall parenting is HARD! I love you all and honestly make sure you check out episode 13 on How to Bounce back after a bad mom day. I love you all and i'd love to hear your thoughts!
This month is pride month. A time of celebration of LGBTQ+ lives. I really wanted to touch on something very important to me. I'm telling a little of my story and also speaking to those who are still closeted. <3 You are loved.
This time can also bring up a whole lot feelings and stress for some and with the chaos going on in the world it can amplify that.
A few things mentioned in the episode:
The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org and their hotline is 866-488-7386
National Suicide Hotline - 800-273-8255
We have chords that attach us to other people. Sometimes the relationships with those people are toxic and the chords need to be cut. But could there be another way if the relationship isn't toxic? Could those chords to be healed? Let's talk about that
When we sit and think about money we can often times approach everything from a negative mindset. And today I want to help you flip the script simply by changing the question that you ask yourself.
It's okay to be overwhelmed and stressed out during this time. I'm going to dive into this a bit deeper.
Question everything you were doing before you went into quarantine. And then follow the breadcrumbs.
Oh my goodness y'all! It's been one year since I launched this podcast! How crazy is that. 50 was a milestone in and of itself but 50 AND it being 1 year is just so fabulous...and special. I'm so stoked.
This episode is a huge thank you to you all and I discuss some of what I've learned over the last year and also talk about the future. www.amberslocumwellness.com has launched and this is where you can sign up for the resource library! Click on the contact me tab to shoot me a message and sign up for services as I build out the services page. That's also where you can see this podcast.
This is one of my fav quotes from Bill Engvall a comedian I've loved. It's usually in reference to something completely different but today I'm using it to tell you that this is your sign to do the thing. Here's the permission you've been looking for to take the chance, to get messy, and to make mistakes. (yep i'm a huge Magic School Bus nut)
This episode features a walkthrough of an exercise I'm using along with some other tools I have available to me to work through my anxiety when I get a flare up. All the tools combined have really helped me focus my attention and work through things as they come along. I hope this helps you too.
Some days getting out of bed and taking a shower can be considered success. Done is better than perfect. And during this time we need to give ourselves grace. I hope you are giving yourself grace on the hard days.
Today we are going to talk about money mindset and how to shift your perspective to a more positive and impactful type of thought process.
In these uncertain times I see a lot of people saying you must be productive or you lack discipline. I disagree. Today we are going to dive into that! Drop the guilt. You are loved and you are seen.
The world we knew is gone. In some ways this is an amazing gift and in others this is causing a massive upheaval for a lot of people. A lot of pain. I've been struggling to find the words the last few weeks. I've also been struggling to find my place in all this mess. I think I finally have.
Personal responsibility is a huge thing. It's important to remember that we are one human in a collective of humans. And what we do matters. What you do matters. You matter. So I wanted to dive into that a bit today.
I learned this weekend that all the systems I've used aren't the problem...at the base level...it's me, I'm the problem. When consistency is king and you're terrible at it...how do you move beyond that?! Where do you go from there. That's what we are going to talk about today.
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Often times when we feel that we are super behind in this or that it's because we are looking at only one small piece. In the grand scheme of things it's simply that we cannot see the big picture and we can't see all the things going right. Today I'm going to discuss this!
I took a ride on the petty train this week and it didn't do anything positive for my mindset. Until I sat down and really started to analyze the why behind the pettiness and what the ramifications were if I continue on this particular path. So today I'm going to talk with you about taking responsibility and how that impacts our mindset and our behavior moving forward.
Some days are hard as hell and that's okay. It's okay to NOT be okay. But I want to teach you how I get through days like this. My hope is this will save a life, either yours or someone you love because you had them listen to it. A life that is valuable and worthy.
Know that you are loved.
I have had a huge mindset shift around money and my own trauma. I wanted to share that with you. Enjoy!
I've heard a lot recently that anxiety is just you being afraid of disappointing folks and that's crap! True anxiety is about brain chemistry and gut health.
But there is also fear. So today I want to cover both of those things for you and talk about how I'm doing my best to combat my genuine anxiety and while it isn't always perfect it's better than it was before.
Healing isn't always pretty...in fact it usually isn't. But what comes out of the process is a greater sense of self and a full understanding of the boundaries we need and the other things we need. And sometimes those lessons are born of pain and sometimes they just come at random. Today we are going to talk about love, healing, pain, and asking for help.
I'm going to describe a huge change in perspective, share with you a growing level of self awareness, and how to combat fear. Your life doesn't have to be driven by fear.
I'm going to apologize now for the first few minutes. My mic was acting super funky...you deserve happiness and bliss but as I walk through this time and I learn it's not about avoiding the bad it truly is about Feeling Your Feelings! You can move through things so much faster if you embrace it all and let it flow.
This is a new year and you have all rights to claim your power no matter your story up to now! It's time to take back whatever level of control you can over your life and your story! You can do this!
In this episode we are going to talk about the blocks I've recently been coming up against and how to push through this rough period and keep going even when it feels impossible.
I wanted to cover some of the things that have come to light over the last few weeks. I've broken it down into 3 lessons and I dive deep into each one with action steps to take to help you overcome these things just a bit faster than I have.
Happy and safe holidays to everyone!
Often times we get blinded by the walls in front of us. The overwhelm sets in and we just can't seem to move beyond it. Today I'm going to give you practical tips and strategies to make up-leveling and busting down those upper limits as easy as crossing the border wall.
When things go differently than we expect we have to figure out how to grow, learn, and shift and today I'm going to talk about how you do that. This one includes action steps and learning how to plan ahead.
Life throws really great stuff at us and it also throws really negative stuff at us sometimes. The things that happen aren't as much important as our reaction to those things. Today I'm going to dive into some big mindset shifts that have helped me move myself forward and change my entire life.
This audio is from a masterclass I did around affirmations and it details how I've used affirmations in a completely different and successful way. So if you have tried them and they haven't worked or made things worse it's time to give this a listen.
Even in the darkest moments and the darkest places of our lives there has to be light somewhere. ~Amber S.
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Street Sweeper Speach by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
https://youtu.be/ZmtOGXreTOU
I want to give you actionable tips to really figure out your why and really take action to make sure that each and every step you take aligns with that why.
Let's figure out the core why.
Things we will talk about here
-getting out of debt
-my fitness journey
-affirmations and mindset
-dreams and goal tracking
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Perseverance is one of the greatest muscles you will ever build. Being able to get up after you fall down, and make no mistake you will fall down, is one of the hardest and yet most useful skills you will ever nurture in your life. So today I'm gonna talk ALL about falling down and getting back up.
Today we are going to talk about your mindset around money in a different kind of way...how affirmations can help you with the process of changing your money mindset, and also I'm doing a guided meditation around money and noticing where you hold the tension in your body....how to release that.
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Today we are going to talk about one aspect of why affirmations may not be working for you and I will also be hosting a workshop with choices of Monday October 14th and Friday October 18th. If you'd like to sign up please click below.
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One of the biggest struggles I have had in life and business is the concept of growing and shifting and simply changing my mind...so today we are going to talk about this concept in some depth and I am going to help you release some of the guilt often associated with the concept of failing and changing.
Today we are going to talk about figuring out when it's time to let a relationship go. I dive into some steps to take to remove the connection both mentally, physically, and emotionally. It's a process and sometimes you need to know where to start.
How do you move through disappointment? What the heck do you do next?! Let's talk about that in this super short but incredibly actionable episode!
Today we are going to discuss mental health and how you HAVE to advocate for YOURSELF.
Trigger warning - we are discussing suicide and suicidal ideation and this may bring up some things. I encourage you to reach out to someone if you become depressed or feel suicidal. Please call this hotline - 24 hours a day 7 days a week - 800-273-8255.
That said I'm going to discuss my health and some things I'm currently dealing with to warn/help you know when to get help.
Accepting who we truly are and not constantly fighting ourselves allow things to be so much easier. Let's dive into this a bit more.
Have you ever had one of those days where it just felt like everything was going insane and then the kids drove you into madness? I have and I remember going to bed and reliving the day and feeling terrible about how I acted and just berating myself and living in the "I'm a horrible mom" world. I want to talk about this and what has worked in our house for the day after those kinds of days and how I'm raising an emotionally aware child. I hope this helps you move into a space where you do better with yourself but also know that this happens. Let's dive deeper with this!
This episode is about how we let feat keep us from doing things we REALLY want to do! It's also about conquering this habit and changing your life in the process.
I want to talk about the pursuit of work life balance. Is it a real possibility? And if you are overwhelmed as can be how do you fix it? Let's unpack that!
I've figured out that there are two types of why's...surface level why's and then some that I'm calling underlying why's. These are extremely deep seeded and they drive your actions - what you do, where you go, and what you talk about. How do you figure out what those why's are and once you figure it out what do you do with that information.
Today we are talking about SPOONS! You only get so many each day so make sure you use them wisely...have absolutely no idea what I'm talking about? Then go ahead and give it a listen and tell me what you think!
Oh body image. One topic I am so deeply passionate about because I spent most of my life absolutely hating myself and my body. We are going to talk about the highs and the lows and how to start the process of loving your body as it is right now. I feel like that's the first step to changing things. It's the first step you've got to take before you make big changes. You've got this!
In this episode I break down my goal setting process, how I do it, why I do it that way and the whole nine yards. I also talk about defining success. The how, the why, and everything like that. With a ton of bonus' that are on my website this is a killer show!
This is the co-pilot to the Living in Lack episode. In it we talk about your self worth, how it's impacted, how to grow into it...and why it's so damn sacred!
In our time in this world and through our conditioning from a young age we can develop bad habits. In this episode I discuss some examples and ask you where in your life could lack be hiding and how you can undo that conditioning.
This episode discusses money mindset and a quote that I heard the day before I recorded this "You all have a number that if your bank account goes above you get nervous and feel the need to spend." This hit me hard y'all and I felt compelled to discuss it. Enjoy!
We are going to break some of the rules today. You have bills to pay! I want to give you permission to handle your business and even more...
This episode includes practical tips on how to move through the grieving process and still get through life and get things done. Light and love to you if you are in this space and going through it.
In this episode I introduce myself and the podcast in general. I explain what brought me to create this podcast, what happens when I create any longterm plan...hint hint it's the show title...and I also dive into the types of content I will be sharing.
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