Couples Coaching with Natalie Clay: Recent Episodes
Natalie Clay
Of all the emotions you can choose to feel, love feels the very best!
In this podcast, I'll share practical tools to help you develop emotional self-reliance and improve your marriage—even if your spouse isn't open to the process! We'll also spend time with real couples—to gain insights from each partner—as they work to implement these life-changing concepts in their own relationships.
I love these coaching tools and have experienced more happiness in my personal and married life because of them. I look forward to sharing this journey with you!
I recently had the opportunity to join my sister, Jody Moore, on her podcast Better Than Happy to talk all about my Engaged Couples Course! If you're engaged (or know someone who is), this episode is a must-listen. We dive into what makes a strong foundation for marriage, how to establish strong communication from the start, and why intentional preparation can make all the difference. My next class starts August 7th, and this is the perfect time to join! Listen now and learn how this course can set you up for a happy, thriving marriage. Link to sign up: HERE
Today hear my session with Ann and Bruno, as we talk through how to navigate marriage when someone decides to stop going to church.
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Marriage provides such a great opportunity for personal growth. And there are no shortcuts!
Today you’ll hear my discussion with Sharon and Jake as they share their process of growth.
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Communication is the number one thing people come to me for help with. Listen in as I coach Gabrielle and David on how to improve communication in their marriage.
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If you ever wonder why the smallest tiff can sometimes turn into a big fight, today's episode is for you.
It's easy to get caught up in who's right and who's wrong when we encounter a different approach to problem solving. Today you'll learn an easier, more honest approach where you can both be right and still support each other.
Hello! It's been far too long! I'm excited to post the conversation I recently had with Jody Moore (Better Than Happy) on her podcast. We had a great talk about my new Marriage Prep course. Hope you tune in!
Today I’m excited to introduce you to Heidi Bollard and Natalie DuLaney of Butter Your Macros. I had the privilege of going on their podcast and I’m sharing it here with you today. These incredible women provide coaching for nutrition, weight loss and stress management. They are incredible at what they do and they are all around lovable women! If you’re looking for help with your health, I can’t recommend them enough! Head to www.butteryourmacros.com to learn more!
In my experience, most people truly desire happiness for their spouse and find that even more fulfilling than getting everything they want. So why do we feel such an intense need to have things our way? Bonnie and Clyde provide us with a key insight to help answer that question.
Shame and blame are inseperable. But understanding this—and doing the work to eliminate personal feelings of shame—can transform a marriage.
A shared religious faith often helps couples more closely align their values and goals. How does a couple navigate a marriage where one partner no longer believes?
It can feel intense to make important decisions that impact our marriage or family. Clarity comes when we remember to keep our personal values front and center.
What determines equal contribution in a marriage relationship? And what are the results of trying to sort this out—for the marriage and individually?
The way our parents raised us informs the way we raise our own children. Couples often have strong, and markedly different, opinions on how it should be done. Today, I coach Christine and John on this issue.
Want to love your spouse more unconditionally but not sure how to get there? The answer may surprise you.
We often cause ourselves unnecessary stress and pain trying to mold our marriage to fit unspoken standards of what constitutes a “good” marriage. What if we instead create a marriage that fits the uniqueness of the people in it?
In sometimes large, but often small and subtle ways, we set ourselves up to fail when we shame ourselves in an attempt to become who we think we should be.
“Love languages” is a term I frequently hear from my clients. Today I speak with Ann and Tommy as they learn how to navigate their differing styles and use this information to best love themselves and each other.
Am I frugal or a spender? What value do I place on each description? Each of us has deep-seated ideas on how money should be made, saved or spent. Today I talk with Meghan and Jake about their different values regarding money.
This week I sit down with Elle and Jared Rowley to talk about how they have used the principle of taking care of their own needs to thrive within the demands of a marriage, four children and a successful business.
To connect with Elle and Jared, find them on Instagram: @ellerowley, @jaredrowley.
What story do you tell yourself about your marriage? Learn how to rework that story and watch your marriage improve!
Resisting emotion is the quickest way to go from feeling bad to worse. Today I discuss when to change your thoughts and when to allow yourself time to feel bad.
We think we know each other so well, but just as often judge wrongly as we do right. But right or wrong, what you believe about your spouse’s character or intentions is what you’ll find.
We’re great at identifying the simplest solution to disagreement. But when the solution involves molding our spouse’s viewpoint, our easy answer becomes nearly impossible.
When things are rocky in our relationships, we can decide that changing ourself to meet our spouse’s expectations will fix things. Does it?
Jobs and kids and the general stresses of life can sometimes make us feel that we are in a business partnership instead of a marriage. Today I coach Marie and Spencer.
For many of us, small day-to-day life challenges over time can bring more stress to our marriage than major events. Today I coach Belle and Paul—newlyweds who are facing the realities of joining their lives together—and offer them tools that can lessen the stresses of daily life.
I often get asked how to differentiate between unkind words and emotional abuse. In today's episode I discuss this with my Psychiatrist, Dr. Karl Martineau, to show how this topic is handled from the coaching and counseling perspectives.
Dr. Martineau runs an adult ADHD clinic with his wife and Life Coach, Kristen Martineau. To learn more about their incredible practice go to https://refocusadhdutah.com. Enjoy!
Whether dating or married, the loss of a relationship can be excruciating. Today I offer some ways to navigate the darkness of heartbreak.
Opposites do attract. But sometimes, after marriage, our differences can feel more challenging than entrancing. Today I coach Margaret and Robinson on how they can effectively navigate a key difference in their marriage.
The modern view of romance includes a whole lot of entitlement. Ridding ourselves of these expectations will help us develop true romance in our marriage. Let’s discuss.
I am so excited to welcome you to Season 2 of the podcast!
In this episode I coach Christian and Janae on differences with spending habits, conflict resolution and parenting styles.
Why do we so often gravitate to the role of victim in our marriage? This week I’ll discuss why this role doesn’t serve anyone and what you can do to get out of it.
Are you in a relationship impacted by a diagnosed mental disorder (or undiagnosed but suspected)? This week I share experiences I’ve had coaching people in these kinds of relationships and what I’ve learned from them.
This week I offer three tips to help you confront the fears and stresses of this uncertain time.
What a week we’ve all had. I held a free open coaching session this week—a lot of it, unsurprisingly, was about Covid-19 challenges—and thought it could to helpful to post it here for those who weren’t able to attend. Much love to everyone in this difficult time!
I get hundreds of emails from people asking really interesting questions. It would be impossible to get back with individual answers—as I wish I could—but here’s the next best thing: a new podcast segment where I answer some of these questions using the tools I teach.
What if a successful marriage is the result of a carefully developed skill set? I think that’s exactly what it is.
Having new beliefs about your marriage is more than simply thinking positive thoughts. Today I discuss how to develop the skill of believing new things—and feeling more love in the process!
Is it possible to improve your marriage if your spouse isn’t open to coaching or to change? Absolutely! The best way to create fast, lasting change in your marriage is to do so as an individual.
Being resigned feels better than being angry or resentful, but the damage can be just as great. Today I teach why we end up resigned and what to do about it.
Self-confidence is so essential to wellbeing in marriage and as an individual that I revisit the topic this week. I’m joined by a very special guest.
This week I have a special guest. Jody Moore and I discuss what a boundary actually is and how to establish one from a place of love.
This week I discuss the process I share with couples who are grappling with the decision of whether or not to divorce.
Pornography is a frequent issue confronting couples that I coach and, statistically, couples across the general population. This week I speak with Zach and Darcy Spafford, who share valuable insights they gained when tackling this issue.
It’s a New Year—time to shed the plot lines of our marriage narratives that don’t serve us and replace them with exciting new ones!
Our desire for a sense of control in our lives can keep us from being authentic. This week I talk about how we can simply be ourselves—and the serenity that comes with it.
Who are you? We each take on an identity as an individual and as a couple. Is the identity you’ve taken on serving you?
Today I discuss why you might consider trashing the “selfish” label so you can take care of your own needs in marriage.
This week I talk about why many of us decide to marry someone quite different from ourselves and how we can learn to approach differences not with irritation, but appreciation.
Do you feel like you are always in trouble in your marriage relationship? Today I talk about how to get free of that oppressive feeling and replace it with love.
Many of us are on 24-hour alert trying to spot the judgement we’re certain others feel toward us. This week I discuss what steps will quiet our primitive brains and remove this unnecessary pain from our lives.
Do you ever have a week where every effort you make seems wasted? Where the simplest task feels like pushing a boulder uphill? Welcome to my week. Today I share a couple of ideas on how you can face a week like this.
This week I share three techniques that will increase the connection you feel with your spouse—even if your spouse doesn’t change a bit!
Feeling bad is a necessary part of the human experience. Today I discuss ways you can embrace the bad feelings that come in order to keep them from being bad for you.
Does our view of our past lead us to self-compassion or victimhood? The perspective we choose will impact our relationships going forward.
Today I talk about why our brains give negative emotions the same gravity as death — and what we can do about it.
Just like a user manual for a car or a phone, many of us carry around a mental user manual complete with the features we expect our spouse to have and how we think he or she should operate.
This week I discuss why we often cling to the “headline” we’ve written for our marriage—even if it doesn’t increase our happiness—and how we can write a more useful one.
Parents apply simple labels like “good guys” and “bad guys”—terms that young minds can understand—to protect their children. A surprising number of us, unfortunately, carry these labels into marriage and waste time and energy trying to decide if we have a “good” spouse or a “bad” spouse.
All marriages have struggles! Guests Diana and Dan Swillinger share how they’ve worked to overcome some of the challenges encountered in theirs.
You’ve been married long enough to draw firm conclusions about your spouse. These convictions make logical sense and seem to be confirmed over and over by your marriage experience. Today I discuss why we should be very skeptical of our conclusions.
This week I draw attention to a behavior that many of us exhibit, which, left unchecked, has the power to make us feel that we’re victims and our spouses are villains.
This week I share the most valuable tool you can use to solve any problem you face in your marriage.
Whenever I work with a client who has been cheated on by their spouse, the question I’m always asked is “How can I ever trust him/her again?” This week I demystify the nature of trust to help empower you to move your marriage forward in the way YOU want.
This week I share tips to help all the soon-to-be-marrieds hit the ground running with healthy and happy marriages!
If our thoughts are filled with “shoulds,” we make decisions from fear. This week I talk about how you can take back the authority to make decisions on your terms.
Today I discuss a healthy step-by-step approach to navigating the difficult and sometimes long-lasting disagreements that can spring up in marriage—and how you can come out closer as a couple on the other side!
Resentment feels terrible. And if we’re not careful, resentment can color our feelings toward our spouse and harm our marriage. Today I’ll talk about the source of resentment and how you can take steps to get it out of your life.
Do we view our roles in our marriage as decisions we make or as responsibilities thrust upon us? Today I’ll share a few ideas on how you and your spouse can navigate ever-changing roles and draw closer together!
Each of us decides whether sex leads to intimacy in our marriage or to disconnection and resentment. Today I'll share some simple ideas on how to choose intimacy.
Our brains are biologically wired to desire human connection and pleasure. Today I’ll share some insights to keep in mind if you are faced with the decision of whether or not to seek connection outside your marriage.
The circumstances of our marriage (or our life) determine our experience with it, right? Today we'll talk about the real problem behind our "real" problems.
Should the goal of a "good" marriage be to always understand each other? Does this lead to harmony and help us avoid disappointment?
How do you view your married-life past? Our attitude toward the past profoundly impacts our future!
So excited to begin the Couples Coaching journey with you!
In this episode I'll take a brief look at some of the differences between couples counseling and couples coaching and will introduce you to my husband—the person I get to practice all these powerful tools with!