Grow Through It Podcast With Phi Dang: Recent Episodes
Phi Dang
Grow Through It, is a podcast on all things mindset, self love, energy and purpose. Hosted by Phi Dang, a clarity and confidence life coach known as ‘The Positivity Queen,’ this podcast is for you if you are looking for not just inspiration and motivation to live your best life but practical tips and strategies you can implement in your daily life.
Modern dating has never been more connected, yet so many people have never felt more confused. In this episode prompted by Lorenzo and Julia from Love Island’s appearance on This Morning, I’m joined by cultural commentator Jaz Melody for an unfiltered conversation about the realities of dating today, from exclusivity and commitment to why becoming “official” suddenly feels like such a big milestone.
We unpack attachment styles, the pressure women feel to be the “cool girl,” why so many people claim they’re “too busy” despite having full lives, and whether that’s genuine or emotional avoidance. We also explore emotional safety, love bombing, the ways men can unconsciously put women into boxes, and why so many people are outsourcing their self-worth to someone’s attention, effort or validation.
We dive into the rise of the “high value woman” and sugar baby narratives, whether they’re empowering or limiting, before sharing our hot take on the current state of the dating economy and why dating feels more exhausting than ever. Finally, we ask one simple but powerful question that could save you months of confusion: Have you actually dated this man, or have you just been talking to him?
If you’ve ever questioned where dating is headed, wondered why commitment feels so complicated, or wanted practical insights into building healthier relationships, this episode is for you.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Jasmine’s Instagram
- Jasmine’s TikTok
- Jasmine’s Agency
- Jasmine Episoda
- Jasmine’s Substack
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
- Jasmine from Love Island’s Substack
In this episode, we unpack why “influencer” has become a dirty word and explore the hidden psychology behind influencer hate, online criticism, and the way women’s success is judged in the digital age. We discuss whether society holds female creators to a different standard, the connection between visibility and misogyny, why women with platforms often become targets, and how we can separate valid accountability from unfair judgement.
Phi dives into social media culture, female entrepreneurship, beauty and lifestyle industries, jealousy, authenticity, ambition, and why women who build careers from their voice, personality, creativity, and communities can provoke such strong reactions. Is influencer criticism really about the content, or does it reveal something deeper about how we view successful women?
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
- Jasmine from Love Island’s Substack
Introduction Influencer Misogyny I saw a post recently that said something that genuinely made me stop and think:
“Sometimes hating influencers is actually a socially acceptable form of subtle misogyny.”
And I know that sentence is going to trigger people.
Because “influencer” has become one of those words that people love to hate.
It’s almost become an insult.
Someone says, “She’s an influencer,” and there’s often an assumption attached:
She’s fake.
She’s shallow.
She has no real skills.
She’s obsessed with herself.
She just takes photos and gets free things.
And I want to unpack this because I think there is a much bigger cultural conversation happening underneath the influencer hate.
Now, before anyone thinks this episode is “defending all influencers,” that’s not what I’m saying.
There are absolutely valid criticisms of influencer culture.
There are conversations around authenticity, consumerism, advertising transparency, privilege, overconsumption, unrealistic beauty standards, and people selling lifestyles that may not reflect reality.
Those conversations matter.
But I think we also need to ask ourselves:
Why has “influencer” become such a specifically loaded word?
And why are so many of the people who receive the most intense criticism women?
Rise of the InfluencerLet’s go back.
The word influencer didn’t always exist in the way it does today.
Before social media, we already had people influencing culture.
Celebrities influenced fashion.
Athletes influenced brands.
Actors sold products.
Musicians created trends.
Magazines told us what beauty looked like.
Advertising executives literally built entire careers around influencing consumer behaviour.
But when everyday people, especially women, started building businesses online through their personalities, suddenly the conversation changed.
A woman creating content from her bedroom, building a community, monetising her knowledge, selling products, creating businesses, or making money through her personal brand was often dismissed.
“She just posts online.”
But that sentence is interesting.
Because historically, women’s work has often been minimised when it exists in spaces traditionally associated with femininity.
Beauty.
Fashion.
Lifestyle.
Relationships.
Wellness.
Community.
Emotional labour.
Things that women have always been doing, but society often doesn’t assign the same value to.
Why Does “Influencer” Feel Like a Dirty Word?think one of the reasons the word influencer has become so controversial is because it challenges traditional ideas of what “real work” looks like.
There is still a belief that if you are not exhausted, struggling, or hidden behind a corporate title, then somehow your success is less legitimate.
There is this idea that work only counts if it looks like suffering.
And I think influencers disrupted that.
They said:
What if my creativity is my job?
What if my personality is part of my business?
What if building trust and community is valuable?
And that makes some people uncomfortable.
Because suddenly the person who was considered “ordinary” can create wealth, influence culture, and build a career without needing traditional approval.
Influencer GendersI think the misogyny conversation becomes interesting.
Because when we look at who gets targeted most heavily, it is often women.
Women who post beauty content.
Women who share motherhood content.
Women who talk about relationships.
Women who create lifestyle content.
Women who are visible.
And visibility has always been something women are punished for.
A woman who is too quiet is ignored.
A woman who is too confident is arrogant.
A woman who shares herself is attention seeking.
A woman who monetises herself is fake.
There is this impossible standard where women are expected to be visible enough to inspire others, but not so visible that people accuse them of wanting attention.
And I think that contradiction is worth examining.
Because sometimes the criticism is not actually about what someone is doing.
Sometimes it is about discomfort with a woman taking up space.
Influencer AccountabilityNow, I want to be really clear.
Not all criticism of influencers is misogyny.
That would be an unfair argument.
Women can absolutely be criticised.
People with platforms should be held accountable.
If someone promotes harmful products, lies to their audience, exploits vulnerable people, or creates unrealistic expectations, those are important conversations.
Influence comes with responsibility.
But the question is:
Are we criticising the behaviour?
Or are we criticising the identity?
Because there is a difference.
Saying:
“I disagree with this person promoting this product”
is different from:
“She’s just an influencer, what do you expect?”
The second one dismisses an entire category of work.
Influencer JealousyAnother thing I think is fascinating is how often influencer criticism is tied to resentment.
People will say:
“She doesn’t deserve that.”
“She just got lucky.”
“She just takes photos.”
And sometimes there is a deeper question underneath:
Why does she get to have that?
Why does she get paid for something I don’t value?
Why does she have freedom I don’t have?
And I think it’s important to acknowledge that jealousy is human.
But sometimes society has a strange way of expressing discomfort with women’s success.
We rarely say:
“That male CEO is annoying because he posts about his lifestyle.”
We rarely question whether a famous male athlete “deserves” their platform because people enjoy watching them.
But when a woman builds a career around her image, personality, taste, or community, suddenly there is a different level of suspicion.
Double Standard of VisibilityI also think there is a fascinating double standard around authenticity.
Influencers are often accused of being fake.
But every profession involves presentation.
A lawyer presents themselves professionally.
A CEO manages their public image.
A politician carefully crafts their messaging.
A celebrity has a public persona.
The difference is influencers often blur the line between personal and professional.
They are selling trust.
Their audience feels like they know them.
And that creates a unique responsibility.
But it also creates a unique vulnerability.
Because people feel entitled to judge them as if they are a friend.
Maybe the question isn’t:
“Are influencers good or bad?”
Maybe the question is:
“Why does a woman making money from her personality provoke such a strong reaction?”
Why do we celebrate someone becoming famous through traditional channels, but question someone who builds an audience directly?
Why do we respect certain forms of influence but dismiss others?
And why does being visible as a woman still come with so much punishment?
On CloseI think the healthiest place to land is nuance.
Influencers are not above criticism.
They are people with platforms, and platforms come with responsibility.
But criticism becomes dangerous when we stop looking at actions and start attacking entire categories of people.
Because sometimes what looks like criticism of an industry can reveal deeper beliefs about whose work we value.
And maybe the reason “influencer” became such a dirty word is because it represents something bigger:
Women creating their own opportunities.
Women building businesses from their voices.
Women deciding they don’t need traditional permission to be successful.
And that is a conversation worth having.
Because maybe the question isn’t just:
“Why do we hate influencers?”
Maybe it’s:
“Why do we struggle so much with women who influence?”
In this episode, I chat with cultural commentator Jasmine Melody after we connected over her viral TikTok unpacking Love Island UK. What started as conversations about Jasmine, Kavan and the villa quickly became a much bigger discussion about modern dating, feminism and the way we relate to one another outside reality TV.
Together we explore why some men struggle to date a feminist, why women are often expected to prioritise empathy over accountability, how family upbringing and culture shape our beliefs about relationships, and what dating as feminists actually looks like in the real world. We also discuss emotional maturity, masculinity, online discourse, and why Love Island has become such a fascinating reflection of modern relationships.
Whether you’re a reality TV fan or simply navigating today’s dating landscape, this conversation will challenge the assumptions you’ve been taught about love, gender and healthy relationships.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Jasmine’s Instagram
- Jasmine’s TikTok
- Jasmine’s Agency
- Jasmine Episoda
- Jasmine’s Substack
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
- Jasmine from Love Island’s Substack
Why is a woman’s absence of a father used to explain her “behaviour,” while a man’s absence from his own child is barely questioned at all?
In this episode, we’re unpacking the exhausting double standard where women are held responsible not just for what happens to them, but for how they respond to it.
Inspired by Jasmine Gaziza Müller’s essay “Gateway Misogyny & Red Pill Microdosing,” we dig into how small comments, jokes, and stereotypes act as a gateway to bigger beliefs about women and how the phrase “fatherless behaviour” shifts blame onto the woman carrying the wound instead of the person who left it.
We talk about absence in all its forms: physical, emotional, and the quiet refusal to take accountability and why someone else always seems to pick up the slack.
We also get into the strange double standard around softness: how “soft” is used to mock men for showing empathy, yet somehow becomes an insult when thrown at women too. Plus the tired “feminist vs. relationship material” myth, why gold digger accusations don’t add up, and a few real tangents on friendship, independence, and the Oscar Pistorius case – Reeva Steenkamp that still sits with us.
This isn’t about blaming all men or excusing women’s mistakes. It’s about asking why we keep applying different rules depending on gender and what it would actually look like to hold everyone to the same standard of emotional accountability.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Emma’s Instagram @emwhitnall
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
- Jasmine from Love Island’s Substack
Emma Whitnall joins us for a thought provoking conversation on modern feminism, feminine rage, social justice, patriarchy, men’s mental health, red pill culture, domestic violence, and critical thinking, challenging the narratives shaping today’s gender and culture wars.
Emma is a dear friend of Phi’s and has a masters in social justice. She was born in Sydney, Australia but is currently based in Canada.
What happens when we stop accepting surface level narratives and start asking harder questions?
In this episode, Emma Whitnall joins us for an unfiltered conversation about the complexities of social justice, feminism, and the cultural forces shaping modern society. Together, we unpack the power of truth, feminine rage, and why women’s anger has historically been feared, dismissed, and weaponised.
From domestic violence and the rise of red pill ideology to men’s mental health, incel culture, and the impacts of patriarchy on everyone, no topic is off limits. We explore the Madonna–Whore Complex, the “damned whores and God’s police” narrative, the glass cliff phenomenon, women in leadership, and how historical witch trials continue to influence the way society treats outspoken women today.
Emma also shares insights on homophobia, racism, sexism, political discourse in Australia, critical thinking in an age of outrage, and why “hurt people hurt people” isn’t an excuse but an opportunity to better understand cycles of harm.
This conversation challenges assumptions, embraces nuance, and will challenges and ask you to think beyond black and white narratives. Whether we’re discussing feminism, power, social justice, or the cultural meaning behind reclaiming language and words like “CVNT,” this episode is an invitation to question, reflect, and engage.
If you’re ready for a conversation that’s honest, challenging and deep… this episode is for you.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Emma’s Instagram @emwhitnall
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
Phi is prompted by a call from the BBC, on the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang this episode unpacks the debate raging around Love Island’s Jasmine: is she a confident modern feminist, or is she showing signs of “pink pill feminism”?
We break down what pink pill actually means (because half the internet is using it wrong), why the same assertive behaviour gets another contestant called a “baddie” and Jasmine called “pink pilled,” and the impossible double bind she’s stuck in: too quiet and she’s a pick me, too vocal and she’s performative.
We also dig into intersectionality, colourism, and implicit bias separating genuine critique from repackaged misogyny and ask the question nobody seems to want to sit with: is this feminism holding itself accountable, or misogyny that finally learned the right words to hide behind?
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
This season of Love Island UK has done something reality TV rarely manages it’s put bias on full display, in real time, with zero editing needed to make the point. Same confidence, same bluntness, same energy… but wildly different verdicts depending on who’s doing it. One woman gets called iconic. Another gets called “too much.” Nothing about the behaviour changed. Something else did.
In this episode, life coach Phi Dang breaks down what’s actually happening underneath the drama: the psychology of the fundamental attribution error, the halo and horn effect, and why our brains sort people into “give them grace” or “hold it against them” long before we’re consciously aware of it.
We’ll unpack the show’s most talked-about moments the double standards, the impossible “be confident but not too confident” trap, the difference between real support and performative feminism and turn all of it into something you can actually use: a framework for catching your own snap judgments before they run the show.
Here’s the truth this season keeps proving: bias doesn’t need your permission to operate. It’s already shaping how you’re read, and how you’re reading everyone else. This episode is about learning to see it before it decides for you.
In this episode:
- Why identical behaviour gets labeled “confidence” in one person and “attitude” in another
- The psychology behind it — attribution error, halo/horn effect, in-group bias
- The impossible double bind of “be strong, just not inconveniently strong”
- Why performative feminism collapses the second confidence gets uncomfortable
- What healthy relationships require instead of shrinking yourself to be loved
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
Everyone’s talking about Voicemails for Isabelle as a love story but I believe the real reason it’s resonating so deeply has nothing to do with romance.
In this episode, we’re exploring the deeper spiritual message behind the film: emotional safety.
Together, we’ll unpack why so many women have been conditioned to mistake intensity for love, how our nervous systems shape the relationships we attract, and why true healing begins when we stop chasing chaos and start choosing peace.
Whether you’ve seen the movie or not, this conversation is an invitation to reflect on the kind of love you’re creating in your own life… starting with the relationship you have with yourself.
We’ll explore:
- Why emotional safety is more transformative than chemistry
- How childhood patterns can influence the partners we choose
- The difference between healing and fixing yourself
- What it means to embody feminine energy rooted in peace, presence, and self-trust
- Why your spiritual journey is really about remembering who you are—not becoming someone else
If you’re ready to move beyond survival mode and create a life grounded in alignment, self-worth, and authentic connection, this episode is for you.
✨ If this conversation speaks to your heart, I’d love to invite you to continue the journey with me inside one of my transformational retreats or my mastermind community. You’ll find all the details in the show notes or DM me on Instagram.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
- Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)
My book The Great Unlearning turns three this week and somewhere along the way, it stopped feeling like mine and started feeling like yours…
In this solo life-update episode, I’m getting into a little bit of everything: what it’s actually been like watching the book take on a life of its own through your DMs and emails, the rebrand I’m genuinely so proud of (Soul Sister Collective is now The Monthly Reset), an honest dating update after the best stretch I’ve had in years, why I don’t actually think everyone should quit their job and become an entrepreneur, and why after a 2025 spent living overseas across the US, Europe, Bali, Vietnam and India I’m choosing to put down roots.
Grab a tea, this one’s a long, honest catch-up.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
In this episode Phi speaks directly to women about modern masculinity, emotional layers in men, and the hidden inner world behind confident exteriors. Using Off Campus and Garrett Graham as a cultural reference point, the episode explores how men often balance performance, pressure, and emotional suppression, and invites a more nuanced, intuitive understanding of male mental health without excusing harm or ignoring personal boundaries.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
I ended up in Sri Lanka on a complete whim; heartbroken, halfway to India, not expecting anything. What I found stopped me in my tracks. Water temples that made me go quiet in the best way. Strangers who became kindred souls within hours. The island healed me in ways I’m still grateful for, and I’ am so excited to be going back.
In this episode I share that story: the messy, beautiful, unexpected truth of what happens when you show up somewhere broken and the place meets you exactly where you are.
Then I share what grew out of it: the Play Retreat. A 7 day, 6 night inner child retreat in Sri Lanka this November, designed for the woman who’s ready to feel lighter, freer, and more herself.
We’re talking a stunning private luxury villa in the lush hills of southern Sri Lanka, a private chef, daily yoga, surf lessons, a safari, tea plantation walks, jewellery making, inner child healing workshops and the kind of women’s connection that you genuinely don’t find everywhere.
This is for you if you’ve been holding it all together for a little too long. If you can’t remember the last time you did something just because it felt good. If there’s a version of you: lighter, more playful, more alive that’s been quietly waiting for permission to come back out.
She didn’t go anywhere. Sri Lanka will help you find her.
8–14 November 2026 · From $2,800 AUD · Only 1 Room Remains → phidang.com/play-retreat
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Play Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026
In this episode, we explore what it truly means to reconnect with your sensuality and return to your feminine energy.
If you’ve been feeling numb, disconnected, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will guide you back into your body and your senses.
I’ll explain why women lose touch with their sensuality, how slowing down can awaken your inner aliveness and simple practices you can begin today to reconnect with your sensuality.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Flow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat May 24-30, 2026
Sensuality isn’t seduction or sexualityWelcome back, beautiful soul.
Take a breath with me… In through the nose… and gently out through the mouth.
A moment for yourself to just breathe.
In this moment right now, I want to take you into a part of yourself that doesn’t rush, doesn’t perform and doesn’t need to prove anything. A part of you that is just here.
You, me and this podcast.
The part of you that once felt the world with your whole body… the woman who could taste moments, who could hear the subtle pull of her intuition, who could sense what she needed without thinking. She’s still here. She might be quiet, she might be tired, she might feel far away but she’s not gone. She’s waiting just beneath the surface of your busyness, whispering for you to slow down long enough to notice her.
Sensuality is not about seduction.
It’s about sensation.
It’s about aliveness.
It’s the art of being in relationship with your own body not as an object, but as a home. It’s the ability to feel warmth travel across your skin, to notice the way your breath softens your edges, to be awake to the subtle pleasure inside everyday moments. Sensuality is presence, embodied.
Feeling and being disconnected from your sensualityMost women don’t actually lose their sensuality: they simply disconnect from it in order to survive.
We learn to silence our senses because feeling too much seems inconvenient, too slow, too vulnerable.
We move so fast that our bodies can’t keep up, so they shut down the very parts of us that make life rich and textured and deeply feminine. Today is your invitation to reopen those doors… gently, without pressure, without expectation.
Sensuality is a key dimension of the feminine.
Notice how rare it is to see men slow down simply to taste their coffee, feel the warmth of it in their hands, or breathe into the moment. Yet for women, this kind of slowing down, savouring, and sensing is both natural and transformative. It’s how we reconnect with ourselves, how we reclaim our energy and how we cultivate the radiance that the world notices before we even speak.
Sensuality through softnessAs you listen, see if you can soften your breath.
Soften your shoulders.
Soften the part of you that thinks she needs to be “on” in order to be okay. Sensuality returns not through effort, but through softening. Through remembering that you’re not meant to brace your way through your own life. You are meant to feel it — in your skin, in your breath, in your whole being. And today, we begin that return together.
Your sensual self is the woman who experiences life instead of moving through it on autopilot.
She notices warmth on her skin.
She hears her own breath.
She lets herself taste, touch, feel, receive.
Your sensuality isn’t brokenI’ve had many women through 1:1 coaching or on retreats tell me
“I feel disconnected from my feminine energy.”
“I don’t feel feminine — I feel flat.”
“I don’t feel sensual or sexy, I feel stressed”
And they say it or whisper it like it’s a confession or something horrible.
Like they’ve failed at being feminine.
Yet nothing is wrong with you.
You simply adapted to a world that taught you to override your body.
You learned to function.
You learned to keep moving.
You learned to be efficient.
You learned to perform.
You learned to meet expectations often at the expense of your own softness.
What happens to your sensualitySomewhere along the way… your senses learned to quiet themselves.
Not because you’re broken but because it was safer to disconnect than to feel.
Many of us were taught:
- to distrust our emotions
- to move faster than our bodies wanted
- to ignore tension
- to push through exhaustion
- to value productivity over presence
- to prioritise others over ourselves
Of course you lost touch with your sensuality.
Of course your body dimmed its connection with you.
The world praised your doing…but ignored your being.
Your feminine energy: your radiance, intuition, magnetism… it lives in your body and your body communicates through sensation.
What sensuality gives youWhen you reconnect with your sensual self, something almost magical happens:
Your nervous system finally exhales.
Your intuition rises to the surface.
Your presence becomes magnetic without you trying.
Your creativity unlocks.
Your relationships soften.
You start feeling alive in your own skin again.
Sensuality is what makes a normal life feel luxurious.
It is the difference between drinking tea…and savouring tea.
Between getting dressed… and adorning your body.
Between rushing through your day and being attuned to the way the air feels on your skin.
This is not superficial.
It’s spiritual.
It’s somatic.
It’s feminine.
It reminds you:
You are not a machine.
You are a woman.
Sensuality Practice 1: The Sensory BreathI wanted to share 3 simple, short and sensual practices to help you reconnect more with your sensuality.
Let’s drop into your body for a moment.
Take a slow inhale…
Feel your chest rise…
and let the exhale melt through your lips.
Now scan your body.
Notice one sensation.
Maybe your legs feel heavy…
maybe there’s warmth in your belly…
maybe your jaw is tight…
maybe your fingers feel cool…
There is no right sensation.
There is only honesty.
This is how you start relearning your body’s language.
Sensuality Practice 2: The Awakening TouchGently glide your hand over your arm…
slowly… luxuriously…
the way you would touch something precious.
Feel the texture.
Feel the temperature.
Feel the softness or roughness.
Feel the energy beneath the physicality.
Don’t judge… just receive.
This alone can reconnect you with your feminine essence.
Sensuality Practice 3: The Ritual SipIf you have something to drink, bring it to your lips.
Pause before the sip.
Smell it.
Feel the warmth in your hands.
Let one slow sip move through your mouth.
This is sensuality:
presence + pleasure + slowness.
It doesn’t require a new lifestyle… just new awareness.
The Sensual truth your body already knowsYour sensual self is not someone you need to become.
She is someone you return to.
She is the woman you were before:
- you hardened
- you rushed
- you shut down
- you carried responsibility
- you forgot your softness
She is your most natural state.
Your most radiant state.
Your most feminine state.
And she has been waiting… patiently…
for you to come home to her.
A soft invitation for a luxury feminine retreat experienceIf something inside you stirred during this episode…
if your body whispered, “I want more of this…”
if you felt your shoulders drop, your breath deepen, your heart soften…
Then that is the exact energy I created my luxury feminine energy retreat Flow for.
A space where your nervous system gets to rest — fully.
Where your sensuality is not rushed or judged, but nurtured.
Where beauty, softness and presence are your environment.
Where your body is invited back into wholeness and pleasure.
Where you are held: emotionally, energetically, physically.
Imagine mornings that feel slow and sacred.
Food that feels like nourishment, not fuel.
Warmth, softness, spaciousness… everywhere.
A place where you don’t have to be “on.”
A place where your body finally unclenches.
If this episode resonated…the retreat will feel like stepping into the version of you your soul is craving. Flow the Vietnam Retreat launches next week on Monday 1st December 2025. May 24th – 29th in Hue, Vietnam 2026 at a 5 star luxury wellness resort. More details to come!
In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden layers of beauty beyond appearance and societal expectations exploring how feminine energy, emotional healing and self worth shape the way we experience and create beauty.
Understand how to embrace your inner and outer radiance, reclaim self permission, and reconnect with the sacred, nurturing aspects of feminine energy that make everyday life feel more vibrant, meaningful and aligned.
Keywords: feminine energy, self-worth, inner beauty, emotional healing, mindfulness, slowing down, self-care for women
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- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
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- Flow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat May 24-30, 2026
General thoughts on beautyHello my love,
You may have seen my recent Instagram post last week where I spoke about healing is in the feeling, in that very same meditation what I felt came through was the desire to speak about beauty. It came through softly, an invitation from the divine and universe to explore more about feminine energy, that’s both magnetic and complex. To be honest it doesn’t come as a surprise to me as Flow, the luxury self care feminine energy retreat I will be running again in Vietnam next year in May 2026 will be launching at the end of this month (if you’re interested please get in touch!).
When we talk about beauty, so many different feelings arise. For some, it’s admiration or inspiration. For others, it’s comparison, longing, or even discomfort. Beauty can be something we desire, something we chase or something we feel the need to downplay. It brings up questions of worthiness, identity, visibility and validation.
Beauty is multifaceted for womenIn the feminine journey especially, beauty holds this multifaceted energy it’s something we’re often taught to seek and celebrate, yet it’s also something that can bring unwanted attention, judgment, or pressure. Society tells us beauty is power, but it also tells us to be careful with it, to not shine too brightly (especially tall poppy syndrome which I’ve mentioned a few times on the podcast). Beauty is something you may have complicated relationship with something that, in its essence, is natural and sacred.
In today’s episode, I want to unpack that. What beauty really means beyond the surface, how it shapes our sense of self and how we can begin to reclaim it as something soulful, embodied, and free.
Learning and unlearning beautyThere’s so many layers to beauty from such a young age, we’re shown what beauty should look like in magazines, on screens, in the faces and bodies that get shown to mass audiences. Somewhere along the way, we start to measure ourselves against those images. We learn that beauty equals approval, attention, acceptance. It’s like this silent curriculum that teaches us how to be seen, sure, but not necessarily how to see ourselves.
Then as women, we live this strange contradiction. We’re told beauty is our currency, but also that it’s dangerous. It’s confusing bringing alive different parts of our self: one part of us craving to feel beautiful, radiant and alive and another part shrinking from the attention or judgment that might come with that.
What if the unlearning is that beauty is simply the energy of being fully yourself…. fully present, fully alive? The way you move when you’re connected to your truth. The light that radiates from you when you’re at peace in your body, in your heart, in your mind, in your life. That’s a different kind of beauty = one that doesn’t depend on validation or visibility. It’s raw, it’s sacred, and it’s yours.
Healing and beauty intertwineWhen I think about healing and beauty together, I realise they’re not that different. Both ask for honesty. Truth. Very much the collective energy we are being asked of with the recent super full moon in Taurus. Both ask us to feel, to soften, to come home to ourselves.
So if we expand this thread of beauty as energy that’s what I feel the yearning and desire to speak to you about.
The feminine desire to make things beautifulThere’s beauty in the pure desire to make things beautiful. One of my dear friends Aimee really inspires me in this regard. Like she will really think of the aesthetics of the room, she’ll light beautiful pillar candles when she journals.
Honestly, how lucky are we as women to be the ones who create beauty in the world and stereotypically seen as beauty too (don’t get it twisted men are beautiful too!). To gather around long, sunlit lunches with decorations and custom menus like as women we’ll choose colours and textures, to make the table itself part of the story and experience itself. There’s something so innately feminine about that… the way we make spaces feel alive, loved, intentional.
It’s not about extravagance. It’s about care. It’s the Venus, Aphrodite likeesque in us that impulse to bring warmth and sensuality into the ordinary. To say, “this moment matters enough to be beautiful.”
Those little things: a table laid out with fresh bread, a linen napkin, jazz music playing in the background — it feels like ceremony. Like we’re weaving beauty into life and maybe that’s what the feminine does best: we beautify as a way of blessing.
It’s easy to dismiss those gestures as trivial, but they’re not. They’re sacred. They remind us that beauty doesn’t have to be grand to be meaningful it just has to be felt. The simple act of creating something lovely is its own kind of prayer. It nourishes not only the people around us, the universe itself and our own sense of aliveness.
In this way beauty is nourishment. It feeds the soul the way food feeds the body. When we honour that when we allow ourselves to revel in it without guilt we remember that being a woman is, in itself, a celebration of life.
There’s beauty in painThere’s also this other side of beauty that I can’t ignore: the beauty that lives inside pain. I think part of this comes from being an emotional authority in Human Design and having so much water energy in my astrology chart. My world is felt before it’s understood. Everything moves through me like a tide, the ocean you’ll know when I do human design readings I talk about emotions being like waves and sometimes, that means I experience life in this really tender, liquid way. Honestly… I find that beautiful. I really do.
Not always easy but beautiful. A privilege to feel really. Is it weird that I find crying beautiful? There’s something so exquisite about it the way emotion builds and releases, the way your body becomes the ocean for a moment. It’s this sacred raw honesty that can’t be faked (for a moment can we suspend crocodile tears manipulative. When you’re an authentic genuine person you’re crying, you’re not pretending. You’re not performing. You’re just… real. There’s so much beauty in that. Realness.
Water in it’s purest alchemy: washing away what’s heavy, softening what’s tough and rigid, clearing space for something truer to come through. That’s what emotional authority feels like to me: not control but permission. Permission to feel it all. Permission to let the waves move through. Beauty is not the absence of pain but the willingness to meet it with tenderness. To stay open, even when it hurts. To find grace in the breaking.
When we allow ourselves to feel fully, even the hard things start to shimmer. The tears catch the light. The pain becomes poetry. To me, especially as someone who loves words, writing and communication that is one of the most beautiful experiences we can have as humans: that raw, unfiltered intimacy with our own hearts.
There’s beauty in darknessThere’s beauty in darkness. there’s beauty in the darkness those moments and experiences that feel heavy, uncertain, or lonely. We need the dark to see the stars; without it, their light wouldn’t mean as much. It’s the same with us our beauty isn’t only in our light, it’s in the contrast. The way we break and mend, hide and reveal, die and bloom again.
When you ask for flowers don’t be surprised when it rains. Can’t have one without the other.
The darkness feeds the growth. The tears water the soil and that links back to what I said earlier The things that feel messy or inconvenient are often the very things that make us real.
I think the feminine understands that better than anything that creation and destruction, light and shadow, beauty and pain, all exist together. There’s no shame in the dark. It’s fertile, it’s necessary, it’s beautiful in its own quiet way. Beauty isn’t about avoiding the dark, but embracing it: trusting that every season, every storm, is part of our artistry. When we let the darkness do its work, we start to glow differently. Softer. Truer. From within. This is the oracle, the feminine, the intuitive within us.
There’s beauty in messIn the conscious intentional curation there’s beauty as I said earlier and the duality and what can also exist is there’s the beauty in mess. The honest, lived in, unpredictable kind. The pile of laundry on that chair, the kitchen counter splattered with ingredients after cooking (goodness me and a spaghetti bol), children’s artwork taped crookedly on the wall. The scattered notebooks, the tangled cords, the half finished projects. It’s life in motion. It’s evidence that you are doing, trying, living. There’s rhythm, there’s texture, there’s human. There’s a way it makes you pause, laugh, sigh or feel deeply.
Mess reminds us that beauty isn’t only about perfection or intention. It’s about presence. It’s about noticing, even in chaos, the small sparks of order, love, and colour. It’s about embracing the imperfection and seeing it as part of the story, not as a problem to fix.
So if your life feels messy, or if the world around you feels cluttered, remember that too is a form of beauty. Not polished, not perfect, but definitely alive and human: the most human kind of beauty there is I’d say.
There’s beauty in slowing down and being mindfulThere’s certain mindset insights when it comes to beauty.
There’s the beauty in simply being slowing down enough to notice the world and yourself in real time. It’s different from the beauty in pain, in mess or in creation. This beauty isn’t about doing or fixing or feeling. It’s about presence.
It’s in the way light hits a table in the afternoon making a rainbow love that, the sound of leaves rustling outside your window, hearing the rain fall down the window, noticing the way your own breath moves in your chest. It’s in pausing long enough to notice the small details you normally rush past. The beauty is in attending, in leaning into the moment fully, without expectation or judgment.
Slowing down allows beauty to reveal itself quietly in textures, colours, sounds and rhythms that are usually drowned out by the noise of doing. It’s not flashy, and it doesn’t need anyone else to validate it. It’s subtle, intimate, humming, living a reminder that the world is full of wonder if we simply take the time to see it.
This is the kind of beauty that feels gentle but powerful. It nurtures the soul without demanding anything from it, and it invites us to practice simply showingup with our senses wide open.
Beauty reveals if you can receiveMore mindset driven insights emerge when we examine our relationship with beauty not just how we see it, but how we value it. The ways we invest in beauty, or choose not to, often reveal deeper stories we’ve carried about ourselves, worth, and survival. For example, if you feel like spending money on beauty is frivolous or “not worth it,” that hesitation might not be about vanity at all. It may reflect an internalised sense of scarcity, a survival mindset that you don’t have enough so you need your money for something else even when honestly you actually do have an overflow of money for example.
It might reveal a pattern of putting others first, of believing that your needs, your pleasure, or your self expression are secondary. In this sense, beauty reveals your relationship to abundance, self permission and care. Perhaps beauty dances with deserving. Do you feel worthy of receiving pleasure, adornment, and care?
Unpacking beauty through resistance and rejectionI’ts not about guilt or judgment. It’s about awareness. Noticing these patterns allows us to explore the subtle ways we either honor ourselves or deny ourselves. Choosing to invest in beauty, even in small ways, can be a radical act of self recognition and self love. It’s a declaration that you are worthy of attention, delight, and care: that your body, your presence, your being matters.
Sometimes, the act of adorning yourself, of surrounding yourself with beautiful things, is less about the things themselves and more about what you’re saying to your own soul: I see you. You are valuable. You deserve to feel pleasure and delight.
Rejecting beauty entirely can also be informative. It can reveal resistance discomfort, or even fear perhaps from experiences where beauty attracted unwanted attention, judgment, or pressure. It may be tied to beliefs that beauty is a performance, a currency, or a trap. In recognising this, we can begin to separate external pressures from our own authentic desires. I suggest you start asking yourself: what kind of beauty serves you, nourishes you, and reflects you inner truth? Beauty is a a language, a form of self expression and a tool for understanding and embracing our relationship with ourselves.
Beauty in excess?Remember beauty doesn’t have to be about excess or indulgence. The paradox is that you can fully enjoy beauty without overextending yourself or going into debt. Mindful conscious engagement with beauty keeps it grounded and sustainable. It’s about intention, presence, and discernment: choosing what resonates with you, caring for yourself in ways that feel authentic, and allowing beauty to enhance life rather than become a source of pressure or performance.
The beauty you see in the world is the same beauty that lives within you.The way you pause in awe of a sunset, the way your heart softens at the sound of laughter, when you catch your self smiling at the married old couple or the girlfriends have a giggle over wine, the way you notice the shimmer on the ocean that recognition isn’t random. It’s resonance. It’s life showing you yourself.
The beauty you see in nature, in art, in another person’s face… it’s a mirror. It’s the part of you that’s awake enough to notice it. You are that beauty, perceiving itself.
That’s why beauty feels so personal, so moving. Because it’s not just “out there.” It’s in you, looking back. It’s in your eyes, your soul, your presence. It’s in your willingness to see.
So when you catch yourself captivated by something beautiful: a moment, a texture, a scent, a light remember that what you’re really witnessing is your own soul saying, this is me.
Beauty in nature. Beauty in creation. Beauty in you. It’s all the same pulse of the same divine frequency expressed in a thousand different forms. Oneness. It’s like hey the universe created beauty around you for you.
Feminine energy and beautyUltimately, beauty is both a reflection of and a conduit for feminine energy. It’s the part of us that creates, nurtures, and embodies pleasure, care, and presence. It’s when we notice the world around us, in the rituals we cultivate, in the courage to feel deeply and allow ourselves to be seen. Beauty shows up in our tears, in our mess, in the sometimes chaotic messy emotional unfolding of life, and in the devotion we bring to our own lives and the lives of others.
As we’ve explored today, beauty isn’t just external or performative it lives in pain and vulnerability, in stillness and presence, in the messy, imperfect, lived in aspects of our human experience. It’s the rhythm of creation, the pulse of feminine energy.
So as you move through your day, I invite you to notice the ways you create, receive, and recognise beauty in yourself, in others, and in the world. Beauty is not something you chase; it is something you live, feel, and allow to shine through every part of you.
In this episode, we dive into a simple feminine ritual that can instantly reconnect you to your energy and help you feel more aligned, radiant, glowy, grounded and present.
We explore subtle practices that awaken your natural rhythm, honour your body, and invite softness and flow into your day.
Tune in to discover how a few simple intentional shifts can transform the way you feel without doing more necessarily.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
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- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Flow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat May 24-30, 2026
Feminine energy isn’t built on depletion but overflowHello my love, welcome back I’m so glad you’re here.
It’s November and this month has flown by like honestly Christmas is next month, 2026 is 2 months away – wild. We’re getting into what is traditionally known as the busiest time of the year but here I am dedicating an episode on the poddy on why rest is more important than ever.
I want you to ask yourself a gentle question: When did you learn that rest was wrong?
I already know it’s not consciously. You didn’t wake up one day and say, hmm… I think I’ll deny myself rest and build my self worth around exhausted and doing things all the time
You more than likely absorbed it. Watching the women around you run on empty. Always giving. Always available. Always doing. You saw that “good women” didn’t stop… They didn’t say no. They didn’t ask for support. They didn’t nap or take long baths or lounge in sunlight.
If you’re listening I know more likely than not you want to tap more into your feminine energy and Feminine energy isn’t built on depletion… it’s built on overflow.
Signs you have a wounded feminine energy relationship with rest* So when you finally try to rest your mind is in complete resistance screaming at you
You’re falling behind.
* You should be doing something.
* You haven’t earned this.
* Everyone needs you.
* We can rest later, and that later keeps getting pushed out and further as things pop up.
Signs you have a wounded relationship with rest
- You feel anxious when you’re not doing something productive
- You constantly multitask
- You only rest when your body physically forces you
- You come up with excuses why you can’t rest right now or even later
- You can’t relax without some sort of stimulation e.g. scrolling, TV, drinking, eating
- You feel guilty spending time alone, unwinding, or doing “nothing”
- Rest feels foreign
- You don’t know what to do when things get quiet
If any of these resonate… I want you to put a hand on your heart.
Take a breath.
There is nothing wrong with you. It’s because you’ve learnt that rest is dangerous. Maybe rest means you could be forgotten, or in trouble or unloved. You are simply a woman who learned to survive.
You’re not lazy or lacking discpline when it comes to restYour nervous system remembers every moment you had to hold the world together alone. So now, when you try to soften, your body panics not because rest is wrong, but because rest was never safe before. That’s not a failure. It’s actually your brilliance. Your survival intelligence. The part of you that says “keep going” is the same part that once kept you safe. She protected you. She carried you. She made sure you survived in environments where softness wasn’t allowed.
Now she’s tired. She doesn’t know rest is safe yet and I want you to know: I see her. I see you.
You’re not lazy. You’re not lacking discipline. Your nervous system doesn’t know how to feel safe without being go go go all the time.
The healing isn’t in forcing rest. It’s in teaching your body that rest is no longer a threat. Not by shaming your resistance, but by honouring it. Listening to it. Softening with it slowly.
You don’t need to push yourself to relax. You get to ease yourself into safety. One breath at a time. One pause at a time. One permission at a time. In time your body unlearns rest as a threat and comes to embrace rest.
Rest is the doorway to receiving in feminine energyRest is the doorway to receiving. Receiving pleasure. Receiving ideas. Receiving support. Receiving love. Receiving abundance. Think about it a flower without water cannot bloom, a dried riverbed cannot nourish.
When you deprive yourself of rest, you are depriving yourself of reception: the essence of feminine magnetism.
Collapse restMy love I want you to receive sacred pleasurable rest not collapse rest.
Many women think “rest” just means crashing after exhaustion curling into bed after a long day, scrolling aimlessly on your phone or numbing out with TV or wine. That’s what I call collapse rest: it’s reactive, unconscious and often leaves you feeling empty or guilty afterward. It’s the rest of survival, not the rest of flourishing. Your body is drained. The mind is restless. You rest because you have to. You might feel guilty. Your energy isn’t restored fully.
So collapse rest is what happens when our bodies have been whispering for hours, days, sometimes weeks… and we ignored the call. It’s the crash, the numbing, the autopilot. It’s rest that arrives only after we have pushed past our limits and done too much and doth our body protests: I can’t keep going for you.
Sacred feminine energy restSacred feminine rest feels very different. It is chosen, not forced. It is intentional, sensual and nurturing. Consciously chosen. It’s not collapse, it’s conscious surrender. Instead of numbing, it awakens. Instead of escaping, it anchors. Sacred rest is the moment you turn toward yourself with tenderness. It’s lighting a candle, slowing your breath, feeling the warmth of tea in your hands, stretching your body gently, letting soft music hold you. It’s letting the nervous system soften before it breaks and letting pleasure, self love, self care not exhaustion guide the pause.
When you pick up your journal choosing a slow evening ritual, when you lie down midday just for a moment to feel the rise and fall of your breath you are communicating something powerful to yourself: You matter.
This kind of rest brings you home. Home to your intuition. Home to your body. Home to a pace that was designed for your feminine nervous system, not the demands of a world addicted to speed and patriarchal productive framework. Pleasurable rest doesn’t pull you out of life it drops you deeper into it. It’s a reunion with your energy, your sensuality, your quiet power. It is not a timeout from life, but a return to yourself. When a woman learns how to rest like this, she doesn’t become weaker she becomes luminous, glowy, grounded, and magnetic in a way that only true nourishment can create.
Rest is a feminine energy experiencePleasurable rest is an experience. It’s not a passive state. It’s actively claiming softness, safety, and your own devotion. It’s a form of self-love that the world often doesn’t make space for, but that your feminine energy thrives on.
Examples of sacred pleasurable feminine energy rest:
A warm bath with essential oils and candlelight
Tending to plants slowly and mindfully
Making infused water with fruits and herbs, sipping with spaciousness
Journaling in the sun, barefoot on the grass
Watching the sunrise or sunset with complete stillness
Drawing and painting for fun and expression
If listening to this has your body whispering for more softness, more space to simply be and slow down then imagine what it would feel like to fully immerse yourself in that energy for a week. That’s exactly what we’re creating in our upcoming Flow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat Vietnam May 24th to 30th, 2026 immerse yourself in mineral-rich spa waters, nourish your body with delicious, fresh meals and gentle movement, and simply be held in the presence of women who honour the sacred power of rest and the feminine. It’s more than a retreat; it’s a return to yourself, your true feminine nature: a pause from the world and a chance to step into your feminine energy fully and luxuriously. Flow will launch at the end of this month but if you already know DM me on Instagram or email me!
Feminine Energy Shift: Micro rest momentNow that we’ve explored what sacred, pleasurable rest can feel like, let’s talk about how to start bringing it into your daily life. Here are some simple, intentional ways to start rewriting your relationship with rest, beginning with micro-rest moments.
Micro-Rest Moments
- 60 seconds of breathing
- 5 minutes of mindful tea
- 3 minutes with your eyes closed
- Lying on the floor for one song
- Putting your phone in a drawer while you eat
Feminine Energy Shift: Ritualise restMake rest a part of your routine perhaps its through:
- Wearing a robe
- Warm weighted blanket
- Soft music
- Candle or incense
- Hair out loose
- A warm cosy drink
An innate part of the feminine responds to beauty and sensuality.
Feminine Energy Shift: From guilt to gratitudeReplace Guilt With Gratitude
When guilt arises, shift to gratitude:
- “Thank you body for guiding me.”
- “Thank you rest for nourishing me.”
- “I honour myself by slowing down.”
Rest does not take from you: it gives back to you.
Feminine Energy Shift: Give yourself permission to restThank you for taking this time to slow down and reconnect with yourself today through this podcast.
Remember, rest isn’t just about sleeping or stepping away from life it’s a beautiful intentional practice of nourishment, presence and self love. Each moment of intentional rest no matter how small or even if it’s 30 seconds rewires your body, calms your mind and reconnects you with your feminine energy. May you continue to honour yourself and sacred pleasurable rest. Giving yourself to rest is one of the most powerful things you can offer yourself.
In this special birthday episode, I reflect on a year of growth, travel, and heart centered discoveries. From London to Lourdes, New York to San Sebastian, Vietnam to Bali;
I’ve journeyed through sacred spaces, received beautiful signs guiding me back to one truth revealed in this poddy. I share what I’ve learned and unlearned about love, mothering and the cycles of life, celebrating moments that have shaped the year thats been. Consciousness, celebration, and yes… cake honouring life as the deeply beautiful sweet gift that it is. Thank you for being here!
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- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
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- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
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In this episode, we explore the quiet underrated and often misunderstood power of softness… not as weakness but as one of the greatest strengths we can embody. Drawing on themes that emerged during my Bali Radiance Retreat, we dive into what it really means to soften in a world that often asks us to harden, to armour up, to stay closed and unshakable.
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- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
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- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
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Softness is a strengthHello my love, welcome back to the Grow Through It Podcast with me Phi.
I’m back from Bali where I recently ran my Radiance Retreat hence why softness actually has been on my mind a lot lately. It was a huge theme that surfaced during the recent retreat how gentleness, presence, and the ability to soften are not weaknesses, but deep forms of strength. As we explored this on retreat I shared with the beautiful women the realisation that softness doesn’t exist without shadow: the parts of ourselves we hide, suppress like our fears and parts of us, our feelings that we deem as too much or perhaps negative.
The world teaches us to harden and armour upToday, I want to talk about both: how softness and shadow live and dance together, and how embracing both can lead to real growth, presence, and connection. We’ll dive into what it means to soften in the face of life’s challenges, to meet our shadows with curiosity and care and to embody strength that is tender yet deeply powerful. For anyone listening, I’ll be diving even deeper into softness and shadow in Flow (luxury feminine self care) Vietnam Retreat next year at the end of May 2026launching very soon, so DM me for more info. Let’s get into it.
We all harden at some point in our lives, maybe you are still hard and it’s because you learnt to be this way. The world teaches us to harden. To brace. To armour up.
We tighten our shoulders against bad news. We build walls around our hearts after heartbreak.
We try to be unshakable in a time that keeps shaking us. While that armor can protect us, it also traps us. We stop feeling the sun on our skin. We stop noticing the rhythm and depth of our own breath. We hesitate to be vulnerable with others, afraid they might hurt us or break our hearts and ironically, it is that very fear that can keep love from flowing in at all.
Softness is like waterSoftening is not about losing strength. It’s about remembering that gentleness is a kind of strength. It means letting the body breathe again. It means letting your jaw unclench, your shoulders drop, your grip relax. Think of it like flow and water. Water flows around obstacles but it shapes mountains. Softening isn’t becoming less.
You become vast: spacious enough to hold both strength and surrender, both clarity and compassion. Softening is power and it’s something I return to time and time again working with clients: strength isn’t hardening after you perceive the world or someone or something wrongs you or hurts you… strength is in healing yet remaining true to your nature and if you’re listening to this I have a feeling your nature is loving, kind and respectful. It’s the part of you that keeps choosing softness, even after life gives you every reason to close.
Reclaiming softness as the feminineSoftness is not your weakness. it’s your essence. It’s your truth. No wound, no betrayal, no disappointment can take that away from you…unless you let it. Softness doesn’t erase the hurt; it simply gives our hearts permission to move through it, to hold both the pain and the possibility of joy.
Softness is often seen as a gentle, almost fragile quality but for women, it’s deeply resonant because it’s about reclaiming something that society frequently asks us to suppress. From a young age, many of us are taught to be “strong” by being hard, self sufficient and accommodating. We push down emotions, shrink ourselves to fit expectations, and prioritise others over our own presence.
In a safe space such as recently on Radiance Retreat in Bali, softness comes alive because the container itself allows women to feel safe to drop their armor. In that space, there’s no need to perform, compete, or over explain. Softness becomes a shared language: a way to feel deeply, to connect with our bodies, our intuition, and each other. It resonates because it’s a return to essence as the feminine: our natural capacity to be tender, open, and receptive, without it being a weakness.
Softness allows the shadow to emerge safelySoftness on retreat also allowed for reflection on shadow parts anger, grief, fear or self-doubt: that are often ignored in everyday life. By leaning into softness, we can meet these hidden parts with compassion, not judgment, and feel the relief, clarity, and empowerment that comes from integrating all aspects of themselves. Ultimately, softness resonates because it is both radical and restorative: it is the courage to be fully human, to honour your body, your heart, your voice, your soul and to feel again all together.
Mini softness somatic meditationIf it feels safe to do so, I invite you to take this moment for yourself, a pause. Let your breath come in through your nose, slowly. Then out through your mouth. Notice where you’re holding tension. Your jaw. Your stomach. Your hands. Your thoughts. Now, imagine those places softening not collapsing, just… loosening. Imagine sense feel perceive receiving permission for this moment to hold you instead of the other way around. Sometimes softening starts in the body, and the heart follows and other times, it starts in the heart and the body finally exhales
Softening is not just personal… it’s relational. It’s how we listen when someone disagrees with us. Do you listen to understanding or do you listen to win or be right or be better? It’s how we respond when a friend needs space instead of advice. It’s how we meet ourselves on the days we can’t do everything.
Softness is feminine and masculineSoftness isn’t feminine as stereotypes would dictate. It’s human. It’s the way it moves through masculine and feminine energy has a different rhythm, a different texture. The feminine’s softness is fluid: it flows, it surrenders, it opens. It’s the softness of water: intuitive, receptive, magnetic. It expresses itself through feeling, through presence, through allowing.
The feminine softens when feeling safe and in trusting: trusting her body, her intuition, the natural unfolding of life. The feminine says “I don’t need to control the outcome. I can stay open and receive what’s meant for me.”
The masculine’s softness is spacious: it steadies, it holds, it protects without possessing. It’s the softness of the mountain: firm yet yielding, powerful yet still. It expresses itself through groundedness, clarity, and listening. The masculine softens by releasing rigidity by allowing himself to feel without losing presence. He says: “I can be strength without dominance. I can hold space without control.”
When both soften, harmony is born. The feminine feels safe to open and the masculine feels safe to be vulnerable. Softness becomes the meeting point where heart and soul meet, flow and focus, begin to dance. That’s where real connection lives. This sacred meeting of strength and surrender each softened enough to see the other.
Soft man? Soft men?Working with male, females and couples I get asked well do women want a soft man… yes but not in the way softness is often misunderstood. When most women say they’re drawn to a soft man, they don’t mean weak, passive or unanchored. They mean a man who is emotionally intelligent, self aware, and open hearted someone who can meet them in presence rather than power struggle.
A “soft man” in this sense is: grounded but not controlling, strong but not aggressive, kind but not submissive, can access both his masculine and feminine energies. He can lead and listen without dominating, aggression and can be the calm in the eye of the feminine emotional storm.
Softness and ShadowsSoftness isn’t the absence of darkness. In fact, it lives alongside it. Our shadows the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide, the fear, the anger, the grief are not enemies. They are pieces of the whole self that, when met, teach us depth, compassion and resilience.
When we soften, we don’t disappear into our shadows; we let them be seen, heard, and understood. Softness gives space for anger without letting it dominate. It gives space for grief without letting it define us. Shadows soften when they are acknowledged rather than suppressed.
Shadow isn’t the opposite of light; it’s duality and a teacher. The feminine learns where her boundaries have softened too far. The masculine learns where his rigidity masks fear. Both shadows, when met with gentleness, transform into wisdom.
We all carry shadows. They are the pieces of us that we’ve tucked away because they felt too much to bear, too unlovable, or too dangerous to show. Sometimes, they show up as anger that surprises us, sadness that lingers too long, or fear that whispers we’re not enough. Shadows are not mistakes or weaknesses they are the human parts we’ve been taught to hide. Yet, when we soften toward them, when we breathe into them instead of running, we can grow.
Softness and Shadow work togetherSoftness and shadow are not opposites… they are partners. To be soft does not mean ignoring the darkness inside us; it means creating space for it.
Shadows need acknowledgment, not judgment. They need attention, not suppression. When we meet them, face them head on, they transform. They teach us patience, depth and the courage to stay present with ourselves and others.
Our shadows show themselves differently depending on our energy, our life, our history. The feminine shadow might appear as over giving, fear of rejection or loss of voice. The masculine shadow might appear as rigidity, control or emotional avoidance. When we soften toward these aspects, something shifts: boundaries become clear, presence deepens, strength is reclaimed. Softness becomes the bridge between who we are in the light and who we are in the dark. It is the space where healing and understanding live.
Softness always winsFrom today I hope you take out that softness is a strength and your shadows are not enemies; they are parts of your story, parts of your strength, the edges that make you and your light meaningful. Hold your shadow gently, be aware of it, let it sit beside you, not behind walls, not buried, but fully acknowledged. When you allow your softness to embrace your shadow, you step into your full self: grounded yet fluid, strong yet tender, whole, human and unafraid.
Softness doesn’t always look like it “wins” in the ways the world measures success. It doesn’t shout the loudest, move the fastest or push the hardest in fact it can often move quietly, slowly: attuned… listening, feeling, responding over reacting. The world we live in may feel as if it often rewards sharp and striving making softness can seem like it’s at a disadvantage.
Softness wins in a different way. It wins in depth, not dominance. It wins in connection, not competition. Softness is what allows us to stay human when life gets hard — to keep our hearts open when it would be easier to close. It’s what allows love to grow, creativity to flow and healing to happen.
Softness doesn’t mean you let people walk over you. It means you stand in your truth without losing your tenderness. You can say no with love. You can hold boundaries with grace. You can face challenge without becoming hard.
So yes… softness does win but not by defeating or overpowering. It wins by enduring, by transforming, by outlasting everything that isn’t real. Because what’s truly strong doesn’t need to fight to prove itself. It simply is.
In this episode of the Grow Through It Podcast, Phi speaks with Hayley Morcom, holistic wellness coach, author and founder of the Naturally Well program. Hayley shares her journey from the fitness and media industries into holistic health after experiencing peri and postnatal depression. She explains why traditional dieting and calorie counting often fail and how lasting transformation comes from addressing mindset, identity, and self worth.
Together, Phi and Hayley explore holistic weight loss, hormone balance, food values, intuition, and boundaries. Hayley offers practical insights on creating sustainable health by nourishing both body and mind, building supportive routines, and embracing a low-tox lifestyle. This conversation is for women ready to break free from diet culture and create a more balanced, confident, and joyful approach to wellness.
Recorded in March and released while Phi is in Bali for her Radiance retreat, this conversation explores what it really takes to create sustainable health and a thriving life beyond diet culture.
What is talked about in this podcast:
Hayley’s journey
From a career in media and fitness to navigating the challenges of peri and postnatal depression, Hayley’s own experiences have shaped the holistic approach to health and wellbeing she now shares with others.
Holistic weight loss vs. dieting
Why fad diets and calorie counting rarely last and how long term change comes from shifting identity, mindset and the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Mindset & identity
Exploring the hidden influence of subconscious patterns, and why building self worth is the true foundation of lasting transformation.
Food values & intuition
Learning to trust your body’s signals and develop a nourishing relationship with food free from guilt, labels or restriction.
Hormonal health
Simple, sustainable practices women can use to support hormone balance naturally, from better sleep and stress management to mindful movement and whole foods.
Boundaries & motherhood
How Hayley leads by example with her daughter, showing that prioritising rituals and setting boundaries is an expression of self respect and love.
Community & connection
The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, value aligned relationships that energise rather than deplete you.
Life scripting practice
Hayley’s guided meditation and journaling ritual that helps you connect with your future self and start living her energy today through small, daily actions.
Why listen to this episode…?
This episode is for women who feel stuck in cycles of dieting, guilt or burnout and want to reconnect with themselves in a sustainable, empowering way. You’ll leave with mindset shifts, practical tools, and inspiration to honour your health not through discipline or restriction, but through self-worth, intuition, and joy.
Resources from today’s episodeContact/work with Hayley
- Hayley Morcom’s Website
- Hayley’s Instagram
- Hayley’s Facebook
- Naturally Well Program
- Naturally Nourished Cookbook
- The Hayley Morcom Podcast
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
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In this episode, we explore the powerful Virgo Solar Eclipse at 29° on September 21, 2025 — a once-in-a-decade event that marks Act Two of your eclipse story. This eclipse isn’t just another new moon; it’s the only solar eclipse in the current Virgo–Pisces cycle (2024–2027), making it a rare and transformative reset point.
We’ll unpack what this eclipse means for your daily routines, health, work, and sense of purpose, and why so many people feel tired, emotional, or unsettled during eclipse season. You’ll also learn how this moment connects to the bigger themes that began in September 2024 and March 2025, and how to use Virgo’s energy of clarity, structure, and discernment to create practical changes in your life.
✨ Inside this episode:
- Why the Virgo Solar Eclipse is so rare and significant
- The difference between solar and lunar eclipses in astrology
- Why fatigue, overwhelm, and uncertainty often rise during eclipse season
- Practical guidance for working with Virgo energy: routines, health, organization, and mindfulness
- Journal prompts to help you reflect on your personal eclipse journey
If you’re ready to understand how this eclipse might be shaping your life and how to move forward with intention, this episode offers clarity, context, and tools to ground you through the shifts. Tune in now and explore the deeper meaning behind the Virgo Solar Eclipse.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
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Eclipse Season September 2025Hi my love, welcome back to the Grow Through It Podcast with me Phi. It’s been a busy September and one to remember.
Today, I’m going to guide and help you unpack another astrological energetic event that carries a lot of weight the Solar Eclipse at 29 degrees of Virgo happening at the end of this week on September 21st, 2025.
Before we dive into the Virgo Solar Eclipse, let’s pause and acknowledge the energy we’ve just moved through. The recent Pisces lunar eclipse stirred up a lot not just personally, but collectively. Pisces energy can feel like standing in deep water: emotions rise, boundaries blur, and suddenly the line between intuition and illusion isn’t so clear.
If you’ve felt overwhelmed by the news cycle, by floods of information, or even by your own emotions = you’re not alone. Collectively, we’ve been wading through a lot.
Here’s the message that’s been coming through spirit: discernment is everything. Not every story we read, not every post we scroll, not every emotional reaction we have is the ultimate truth. Pisces can wash us in empathy, but it can also cloud our vision. This eclipse season is a reminder to breathe, ground, and ask: What feels real for me? What aligns with my inner knowing?
Think of it this way… you don’t need to believe everything that passes across your screen, or every passing thought in your mind. Discernment is your anchor in the storm.
What is an eclipse?A solar eclipse is like hitting the reset button on life. Imagine your phone freezes, and the only way forward is a restart. That’s what an eclipse does it shuts something down so that something new can begin. Think back to last week’s Pisces Lunar Eclipse.
Now this upcoming Solar Eclipse in Virgo happens to land at the very last degree of Virgo, it carries this feeling of finality. It’s like you’re reading the last page of a novel you know the story is closing, but you’re also about to step into a sequel.
Virgo–Pisces Axis: The Bigger StorySince September 2024, eclipses have been dancing between Pisces and Virgo, and they’ll continue until 2027.
- Pisces eclipses: release, surrender, letting go.
- Virgo eclipses: rebuild, refine, organise, create order.
Here’s what makes September 2025 unique: this is the only solar eclipse in Virgo in this whole cycle. Every other eclipse in this storyline is lunar… about endings. This one? It’s about beginnings. Think of it as the one big “launch moment” in a longer process of clearing. So, if Pisces cleared the canvas, Virgo is now handing you the paintbrush.
History moves in cyclesAstrology works in cycles. The last time we had a solar eclipse at this exact degree of Virgo was in 2006. Before that, 1987. Even earlier, 1968.
If you’re old enough, think back: what was shifting for you in September 2006? Or in the 2015–2017 Virgo–Pisces eclipse cycle? Those themes might resurface now not as carbon copies, but as echoes asking for a new resolution.
Big Virgo EnergySo what does Virgo ask of us? Virgo energy is like your inner editor. It notices the flaws, the little details, the places where life feels messy. That can be uncomfortable, but it’s also a gift.
Think of it like cooking in a cluttered kitchen. Virgo is the energy that says: “Clear the counters, sharpen the knives, line up the ingredients.” Once the mess is gone, you can actually enjoy creating.
Here’s how this eclipse might show up for you:
- Work: You may see cracks in your job routines — deadlines slipping, systems not working. This is the universe nudging you to reorganise or maybe even start a new path.
- Health: Virgo rules the body. You may feel pushed to start a new fitness or wellness routine, not out of guilt, but out of self-preservation.
- Routines: The little things — your calendar, your sleep habits, your daily rituals — may suddenly feel unsustainable. This eclipse says: rebuild smarter.
In short, it’s time for a life software update. Patch the bugs, clean the code, and streamline the system.
Karmic Emotional UndercurrentBecause this eclipse sits near the South Node in Virgo, it comes with a release process. You might feel drained, or like something needs to be let go before you can move forward.
Here’s a metaphor: imagine moving houses. Packing up is exhausting, and you have to let go of things that no longer fit. But once the boxes are moved, you step into a fresh space that supports who you are now. That’s what this eclipse feels like.
Virgo can get hyper-critical, but Pisces (Virgo’s opposite) steps in to remind us of compassion. Pisces says: “Yes, clean up the mess, but don’t forget the beauty in imperfection.” Balance both energies, and you’ll grow without guilt.
Northern Hemisphere Autumn Equinox meets EclipseHere’s where it gets even more powerful: this eclipse happens right on the doorstep of the Autumn Equinox in the Northern Hemisphere.
The Equinox is a moment of balance day and night are equal. From here, nights grow longer, inviting reflection. Traditionally, it’s the harvest festival: time to gather what you’ve grown, give thanks, and prepare for the darker months.
So pair that with eclipse energy (disruption, reset, revelation) and what do you get? A powerful fusion: balance meets reset. It’s like harvesting your crops, but also deciding which fields you’re going to replant next season.
Who this Virgo Solar Eclipse Impacts the MostIf you have planets or personal points the signs of especially Virgo and/or Pisces then Gemini, Sagittarius, you’ll feel this eclipse more strongly. Same for those in the early degrees of Aries, Cancer, Libra, or Capricorn.
For everyone, the message is universal:
- Declutter your routines.
- Prioritise your health.
- Build systems that actually support your goals.
- Don’t make big impulsive decisions — eclipses can distort perception. Let things settle before acting.
If you’ve been feeling more tired than usual around these series of eclipses, you’re not imagining it. Eclipses stir up a lot of energetic movement think of them as cosmic plot twists that shake loose things we’ve outgrown. On a physical level, that can feel draining, like your body and mind are processing more than usual. Just like when your computer runs a big system update, you can’t open all the usual apps at the same time… your energy gets redirected toward integration.
On an emotional level, eclipses temporarily “block the light,” which can bring up hidden feelings or buried truths. That can be heavy to sit with, even if you can’t put words to it. Our nervous systems pick up on these shifts, and the result can be fatigue, vivid dreams, or simply the need for more rest. If you’re feeling this way, take it as a cue to slow down, listen to your body, and allow space for recalibration. Eclipses aren’t meant to deplete you forever but they do ask you to pause, reset, and let your system catch up to the changes unfolding.
Therefore given this especially if you have an emotional authority in human design it’s better to wait it out and ride the waves at least until early October before making big decisions.
Eclipses and EmotionsEclipses obscure light… symbolically, this means we’re not seeing the full picture. It’s better to wait a few days before making big decisions.
Eclipses can act like emotional amplifiers. Feelings, thoughts, and even the stories circulating in the news or on social media as well as in our own lives can feel heightened, dramatic, or overwhelming. But here’s the key: not everything that comes up during an eclipse is the final truth. Sometimes eclipses bring shadows to the surface distorted versions of the story so that we can eventually see what’s real more clearly.
This is why discernment is so important. Before reacting, pause. Instead of rushing to make a decision or taking everything at face value, give yourself time to sit with what’s coming up. Often the full picture doesn’t emerge until days, weeks, or even months later.
Think of it like watching a movie trailer: you’re getting flashes of intensity, but not the whole plot. The wise move is to watch, feel, and take notes without assuming you already know the ending. Waiting and observing can be incredibly powerful, because it allows the truth to reveal itself in its own time.
Solar Virgo Eclipse September 2025 Journaling Prompts and QuestionsThe last time a solar eclipse happened at this exact degree of Virgo was in 2006, before that 1987, and earlier 1968. If you were alive, what was happening in your life during those years? Do you see echoes or similar themes today?
Think back to September 2024 and March 2025. What storylines, changes, or challenges began for you then? This eclipse is the second act in that narrative — where do you see the continuation?
What parts of your daily life feel unsustainable, chaotic, or draining right now?
If you released, reorganised, or restructured those areas, what kind of energy and freedom could open up for you?
What new routines could you create now that would genuinely support your health, energy, and wellbeing?
Where in your life do you need more structure or consistency so that your goals become easier to achieve?
Which areas of your day feel cluttered or inefficient and how could simplifying them create more space for what matters?
Virgo energy asks for balance between effort and compassion. Where are you being overly critical of yourself, and how can you bring in more kindness?
Where do you tend to focus on the “big picture” but forget the details? How could paying attention to the little things help your larger goals succeed?
Closing Eclipse Season in September 2025With the upcoming solar eclipse in virgo: It’s a moment to clean out the clutter physically, mentally, emotionally and create routines that sustain the life you actually want to live.
Yes, eclipses can feel unsettling, but remember: they don’t take away without also opening space. This Virgo eclipse is your invitation to reset, rebuild, and realign with purpose.
If you’re curious about how these cycles are playing out in your chart, or how your Human Design can give you a roadmap through change, I’d love to work with you 1:1. Together, we can uncover what this season is really asking of you and create practical steps that align with your unique blueprint. Reach out on Instagram via DM or book in via my website.
If you’re really ready for space and support to work through what is arising we have 1 final spot left for Radiance Retreat in Ubud Bali 29 September to October 4, this is my invitation to you if you’ve been thinking about it or on the fence let’s chat and join me and 5 incredible women in Bali at the end of this month.
Thanks for tuning in today. If this episode gave you clarity, share it with a friend who could use a little cosmic perspective. Until next time — stay grounded, stay mindful, and trust the reset.
In this episode, I take you with me on my live pilgrimage to Lourdes, the sanctuary of Mother Mary in France. Lourdes is a place where millions travel for healing, hope, and miracles but what I discovered here went far beyond holy water and candlelight.
I share what it felt like to walk into the energy of the grotto, the lessons I learned waiting for hours in line (yes, including a bathroom incident that turned into a teaching on forgiveness), and the raw emotions that surfaced after bathing in the sacred waters.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
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Pilgrimage to Lourdes & the Divine MotherHello my love. I’m coming to you live, raw, still in the thick of my spiritual pilgrimage to Lourdes, the sanctuary of Mother Mary in France. It’s a very personal journey for me that’s still unfolding in the present day as I’m recording live here in France. I wanted to bring you along and have a sacred heart to heart. Honestly sounds like a personal diary rather than poddy ep!
If you haven’t heard of Lourdes in 1858, a young peasant girl named Bernadette had a series of visions of the Virgin Mary. Since then, millions of pilgrims have come each year, seeking healing, peace and connection with the divine. You see people from every corner of the world — some arriving in wheelchairs, some carrying heavy burdens and some simply searching for a quiet moment of faith.
What struck me most about Lourdes is that it’s not just about Catholicism. Yes, it is deeply Catholic in its roots and traditions, and very much like an adult Catholic Disneyland where old ladies go crazy for (a story about that later on). But when you are there, what you feel goes beyond religion. It feels like a universal mother energy. It feels like the presence of unconditional love itself, waiting to embrace you.
The Energy of Sacred PlacesI’ve always believed there are certain places on Earth that simply hold energy. You step into them, and you know something is different. Sometimes it’s in nature, like a mountain or a forest, and sometimes it’s in sanctuaries like Lourdes.
When I arrived, I could feel it immediately. The air was thick with prayer and it happens the year I’ve gone in 2025 is the Jubilee year marking the universal theme of hope. There were candles flickering everywhere. It was extremely busy, and what’s so powerful is that this energy isn’t just historical — it’s alive. You can feel the devotion of millions of people here.
For me, being there wasn’t about worshiping a figure from my childhood faith. It was about standing in a place where the Divine Mother energy is so tangible, so present.
Returning to My RootsI should share a little background. I grew up Roman Catholic. Mary was always present in my childhood — her statues in churches, rosaries in the hands of family members, prayers before bed.
In fact, I had a memory flashback to being in kindergarten or year one. My first school play, I randomly got chosen to play Mother Mary in a Christmas play. My dad was religious and said if I had a Western name it would be Mary, so I would be Mary Dang to you!
Like many of us, I drifted as I grew older for various reasons (which you can read about in my book The Great Unlearning). My spiritual path expanded, I explored other traditions, and Mary became more of a symbol in the background.
Yet when I walked into Lourdes, something in me remembered. It wasn’t about dogma or rules or religion. It was about the deep comfort of the mother figure I had known all along. She was waiting there for me, not asking me to prove anything — just to receive. The mother has come to me in all forms and walks of life and this was a returning home to the original I grew up with, religiously and now spiritually.
The Humility of PilgrimageNow, I have to say, being in Lourdes was also humbling in ways I didn’t expect. English is not the first language for most pilgrims there. For me too, communicating sometimes felt clumsy, as though my words couldn’t fully capture what I wanted to express. Most people here spoke either French or Italian.
Here’s the thing pilgrimage is not about perfection. It’s about humility. It’s about stepping outside your comfort zone, sometimes feeling small, and yet realising that in the eyes of the Divine, you are seen completely.
I would smile at someone lighting a candle and they would smile back. No words needed. I would stand next to someone praying the rosary in Italian, and though I didn’t understand the language, the rhythm of their prayer carried me.
It reminded me that spirituality is a universal language and sometimes, silence speaks louder than words.
Patience & Love in the Line at LourdesOne of the big lessons I didn’t expect to learn at Lourdes came not from a vision, or even from prayer, but simply from standing in line.
If you’ve been to Lourdes, you know — there is waiting. Lots of waiting. I stood for an hour just to touch the rock of the grotto where Mary appeared. Later that day, I waited almost two and a half hours to bathe in the healing waters. Both times I was early by the way, so I can imagine others waited even longer. And I’ll be honest with you — I really had to go to the bathroom. And there I was, in this long, snaking line of pilgrims from all over the world, and no bathroom in sight.
So, I did what I had to do: I stepped out of the line, trusting that I would be able to get back in. When I returned, I explained the situation to one of the English speaking staff members, and thankfully, they understood and let me back in where I had been. Plus I had a lovely middle-aged Italian couple behind me in queue ready to vouch for me — bless their hearts.
But in that exact moment, a middle-aged Italian woman came forward. She had been waiting too, and she was upset. She pushed me, berated me in her language, insisting that she had been there longer. I was taken aback. For a moment, I wanted to defend myself: No, excuse me, I’ve actually been here longer than you, and I was already inside while you were still in the queue.
It could have turned into resentment but instead, something softened. I went ahead, still a little shaken, but trusting that love would somehow settle the situation.
And then — something beautiful happened. Later, this same woman came up to me. She looked me in the eyes, put her hands on my shoulders and said sorry. In that moment, a lesson came through: forgiveness doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it releases the weight of it.
That moment taught me that love is not just this abstract spiritual concept we talk about in prayer or meditation. It’s practical. It’s in the forgiveness we extend to strangers. It’s in the patience we cultivate in the long lines of life whether with others, with family, with friends, or even with a partner.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean swallowing everything down or pretending it didn’t hurt. It means choosing not to let resentment lodge in your heart. That’s what I experienced in Lourdes, in the most ordinary yet extraordinary way — through a bathroom break, a misunderstanding, and an apology that became a moment of grace.
After the Bathing – Heart as CathedralAfter I bathed in the waters at Lourdes, I’ll be honest — it was really intense. I didn’t walk out glowing or blissful. I actually felt irritated, unsettled. Shed a few tears and that surprised me. Here I was, in this sacred place, doing what so many dream of, and instead of peace, I felt raw.
But I’ve learned that sometimes transformation doesn’t arrive in the moment — it settles later. That’s exactly what happened. The next day, something in me cracked open. I remembered a teaching I had received earlier in Glastonbury, the place often called the heart chakra of the world. The teaching was simple but profound: “Your heart is a cathedral.”
Suddenly, it all made sense. People travel across the world, to places like Lourdes, to find healing, blessings, love. And yet, we each carry within us a cathedral that can hold that same vibration: the heart.
In that moment, I realised how lucky I am. I didn’t come to Lourdes out of desperation, or begging for a miracle. I came simply “for the vibes,” as I like to say — for the energy, for the presence, and because I got the call from Spirit, trusting in my journey.
It made me reflect on the journey it took to get here. Just a year ago, I was going through a toxic breakup, carrying heaviness and heartbreak. I never could have imagined that twelve months later, I would be standing in Lourdes, surrounded by more love than I have ever felt in my life — love from so many people in my life, yes, but also love rising from within me.
So I just rippled with gratitude. Gratitude not only for Mother Mary, not only for the sanctuary, but for the reminder that the sacred is both out there and in here. Lourdes mirrored back to me what was already waiting to be found in my own cathedral — the heart.
The Final VisionOne of the most moving moments for me happened on my final full day. I had been in Lourdes from Wednesday and was leaving Saturday. I went into meditation, sitting quietly with everything I had experienced in front of my favourite mural. A lovely woman previously came up to me and translated it: “I do not promise you happiness in this life, but in the next.”
Dropping into a meditation for the final time here I had a vision. I saw so many of my spiritual teachers, all reminding me how the Divine Mother is universal no matter your background, your culture. And then, as if the universe wanted to underline the message, something extraordinary happened. A woman I had never met before approached me. She started talking to me completely unprompted about a Mexican goddess.
Now here’s the wild part: in recent months, I had already been feeling the presence of this goddess in my own inner work. It was as if she had been knocking at my door and now here she was, showing up in Lourdes through the voice of a complete stranger.
In that moment, I knew I had just been introduced to a new teacher. Not in the traditional sense, but in the way Spirit sometimes weaves synchronicities into our lives to make sure we’re paying attention.
Learning to be a MotherWhen I look back at this past year, I realize that my journey has really been about learning how to be a mother. Not in the traditional sense, I don’t have any children right now but in the spiritual sense.
First, it’s been about being a mother to my own inner child. That tender, vulnerable part of me that longs for safety, love, and reassurance. Previously, I looked for that outside of myself as many of us do — in relationships, in achievements, in other people’s approval. Through deep inner work, I’ve been unlearning all that so I can be the one who holds her. I can be the one who comforts her when she feels scared, who celebrates her joy, who tells her: You are enough.
This same energy has flowed into my work with women — on retreats, in sessions, in the sacred spaces we create together. Again and again, I see how so many of us are carrying children inside who are still waiting to be loved. We think our struggles are about stress, or relationships, or self worth, but so often, at the root, it’s the little girl inside us who is longing for love.
Holding space for women in retreat this year has been like extending the arms of the Divine Mother outward. It’s about saying: You belong. You are safe here. You can lay down the armor and just be held by me.
This year, I’ve learned that being a mother is not just a role some women play in family life — it’s an archetype, an energy, a calling we can all embody. It’s the energy of nurture, of patience, of unconditional love. The more we step into it, the more healing and wholeness we bring — not just to ourselves, but to everyone in our lives.
Inner Child Fun is Holy and SacredOne of the sweetest parts of my pilgrimage was how strongly my inner child made herself known. Yes, there were the sacred moments at the grotto, the long lines, the prayers — but honestly, she showed up most fully in the ordinary, playful moments. In my little Airbnb, she was so happy — dancing around the kitchen, cooking simple meals, laughing at nothing, eating ice cream every single day.
She reminded me that pilgrimage isn’t only about solemn devotion or seeking miracles. It’s also about joy, play, and delight — the things that make us feel alive. In Lourdes, she wanted to have fun too. And that was just as sacred as lighting candles or bathing in the waters.
Lourdes CompassionLourdes is also a place where you see many sick and disabled people. At first, if I’m honest, it can feel confronting. There are people being carried, people in pain. Some part of me felt a little uncomfortable and for many I’ve spoken to it felt “icky” to witness suffering so closely.
As I stayed with it, something shifted. I realised: what a beautiful thing that if you are sick, or or carrying something heavy, you get to spend time in this most sacred space. Surrounded by prayer, candles, hope. Even if their bodies are in pain, their spirits are being nourished in one of the most beautiful sanctuaries on Earth.
Maybe some would feel pity, I began to feel joy for them. Because Lourdes gives people hope. And hope is medicine, too.
It reminded me again of the Mother energy. Just like a mother gathers all her children healthy, struggling, joyful, hurting so too does Lourdes gather everyone. No one is excluded.
In that, my inner child learned something very important: we are all worthy of love and belonging.
That teaching has stayed with me. That no matter what condition we’re in (physically, emotionally, spiritually) the Divine Mother makes space for us. Just maybe our job is to learn how to extend that same compassion to ourselves and others…
Unconditional LoveAnd so in closing what I want you to take from Lourdes isn’t just my story, but a reminder of what’s already true for you.
The Divine Mother is not only here in Lourdes. She’s with you, right now, wherever you are. She is the presence of unconditional love itself: love that doesn’t keep score, doesn’t ask you to be perfect, doesn’t withdraw when you fall short. Love isn’t based on what you’ve done, or how spiritual you are, or whether you’ve “earned it.” It just is.
The Universe, divine mother loves the messy parts of you, the tired parts of you, the shiny parts of you, the parts you hide from everyone else. She gathers them all up the way a mother gathers every one of her children. Nothing in you is too broken, too small, too much, or too late for her embrace.
So wherever you are listening to this, I want you to feel that truth: you are already loved, already held, already belonging. Always, always, in the arms of the archetype of the divine Mother. Of unconditional love.
Take a moment. Place your hand on your heart. Breathe. Imagine your heart as a vast cathedral, full of light, full of song, full of love. This is your sacred space. This is where the Mother meets you.
So my hope for you, encoded with the energy of Mother Mary and Lourdes is that:
May you remember you are safe.
May you remember you are loved.
May you remember you belong.
So as I carry this home to my next destination in Europe, I’m bringing not just memories, not just stories, but the living energy of the Divine Mother. I’m bringing her embrace, her unconditional love, and yes I’m literally bringing blessed Lourdes water with me.
If you’re feeling the call, I want to invite you into my final 2025 retreat Radiance in Bali, September 29 – Oct 4. I am so charged up from this spiritual pilgrimage been everywhere this year and it culminates into this retreat infusing everything I’ve received in my journey and travels this year.
Radiance is A Women’s Only Retreat to Be Magnetic. Bold. Unstoppable.
Where your Inner Fire meets your Feminine Flow.
Be Seen. Be felt. Be Unforgettable.
Radiance isn’t just a retreat — it’s an initiation into unapologetic visibility,
unshakable confidence, soulful sisterhood and bold breakthroughs.
Here, your voice isn’t just heard — it’s amplified.
Here, your power isn’t questioned — it’s celebrated.
Here, your radiance doesn’t just glow — it blazes.
Details on my website or message me on Instagram to chat.
Until next time beautiful soul
In this potent episode, we dive deep into the cosmic collision of the Aquarius Full Moon and the Lions Gate Portal — a powerful energetic gateway that’s all about activation, elevation and unapologetic alignment.
As the Sun in Leo connects with Sirius and the Aquarius Moon lights up the sky, we explore what it really means to break free from old systems, reclaim your sacred weirdness and start broadcasting a frequency that’s actually yours.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Lions Gate x Aquarius Full Moon August 2025Hi my love,
I’m recording live from my retreat Recharge & Renew with 6 incredible women here in Ubud Bali.
This retreat was timed with divine precision, aligning with the Lions Gate, when the Sun in Leo and the star Sirius flood the Earth with light, clarity, and cosmic remembrance. This isn’t just a moment — it’s a soul reset.
The Lions Gate opens the channel for deep energetic upgrades, and here, in this intentional space, you’re invited to release the weight of the past, realign with your heart’s deepest truth, and recharge from the inside out. This is more than rest, this is recalibration. A return to the you who was never lost just waiting for the right light to rise.
This lion’s gate is unique for the Lions Gate Portal peaking right alongside the Aquarius Full Moon.
This combo? Big. Bold. Charged up. Absolutely not subtle.
Let’s break it down.
What is the Lion’s Gate Portal?So every year around August 8th, we experience what’s called the Lions Gate Portal — a potent energetic alignment where the Sun in Leo, the star Sirius, and the Earth all align. Sirius is this super high-frequency star — the “Spiritual Sun” — and it’s rising in the sky just before dawn this time of year, which ancient Egyptians actually used to mark the start of their New Year.
Think of it like a cosmic WiFi upgrade: The Lions Gate opens a channel for higher consciousness, intuition boosts, and manifestation energy. Like, third-eye wide open kinda stuff.
And since the Sun is in Leo (the sign of courage, heart, and personal expression) it’s asking you:
“What are you really here to do? And are you finally ready to step up and live it out loud?”
Aquarius Full Moon EnergyNow add this: a Full Moon in Aquarius landing on or just around this same time?
That’s like lighting a match in a wind tunnel.
Aquarius is ruled by Uranus — the planet of shakeups, innovation, liberation, and cosmic downloads. It’s the rebel, the visionary, the outsider who sees the system and says, “Nope. We can do better.”
So this Moon isn’t just about lighting candles and charging crystals.
It’s about seeing the matrix and choosing to break it.
It’s likely going to bring a few plot twists. Expect surprising insights, truth bombs, or sudden emotional shifts — especially around friendships, community, and your role in the collective.
Aquarius Full Moon – FriendshipsAquarius governs “the group,” but it doesn’t want you to blend in. It wants you to contribute something only you can bring. If you’ve been hiding your genius, your voice, or your vision — this Moon is calling it out of you.
So ask yourself:
Who are my people now?
Who really sees me for who I’m becoming… not just who I’ve been?
This is a brilliant time to call in aligned friendships, communities, collaborators. I love this especially recording this on retreat day 4 here in Bali after a fun evening of girl chat and uno. Even if you’ve felt isolated, Aquarius energy reminds you: You’re not meant to do this alone.
This is also a Moon of emotional intelligence on a higher frequency. Aquarius doesn’t swim in feelings like Pisces or dig through emotional caves like Scorpio it observes from above. That doesn’t mean it’s cold = it’s clarifying. If you’ve been too entangled in other people’s emotions, expectations, or chaos, this Moon gives you the distance to see clearly. It’s the kind of clarity that says, “That’s not mine to carry,” and releases the weight without guilt. This is something huge we’ve been working through this week on retreats especially being an empathetic and naturally a giver and generous.
Aquarius Full Moon Embrace Your WeirdAlright, let’s bring this down to Earth.
This Full Moon + Lions Gate combo is the Universe asking:
“Where have you been dimming your weird? Holding back your vision? Playing it safe with your truth?”
Because Aquarius doesn’t care about keeping the peace.
It cares about freedom, authenticity, and the future.
Leo energy fuels the why: your heart’s desire, your creative spark, your unapologetic self-expression. Aquarius energy provides the how: innovation, detachment from old narratives, and a bird’s-eye view of what’s really possible.
If you feel anxious, wired, or even a little overwhelmed this week that’s not a sign to suppress. It’s energy moving. Let it move. Journal. Dance. Cry it out. Aquarius is air.
Furthermore Aquarius reminds you that your weird is sacred. Leo, through the Lions Gate, reminds you that your heart is the transmitter. Aquarius asks, “What are you broadcasting?” and Leo answers, “Make sure it’s coming from truth, not ego.” This moment isn’t about being loud just to be seen… it’s about being honest enough to be known. When Aquarius and Leo team up, they challenge you to live in radical alignment with your soul frequency; not for approval, not for performance, but because you simply can’t not.
Lion’s Gate Heart ActivationThis is personal revolution meets heart activation.
Lions Gate is solar energy all about light codes, courage, royalty, and creative power. It says, “You already are the main character — start acting like it.” Combine that with Aquarius, and we’re not just talking personal glow ups. We’re talking soul leadership. You being so unapologetically you that it actually liberates others to do the same.
So ask yourself: are you putting out a signal that reflects who you really are? Or are you distorting your frequency to fit the mold, shrink the truth, or avoid rocking the boat? Leo says you deserve to shine. Aquarius says: but only if it’s real.
So as the Aquarius Full Moon illuminates the sky and the Lions Gate floods us with light codes, remember this: you’re not here to follow the script — you’re here to write your own. Stay weird, stay brave, stay heart-led.
Limited spaces remain for the September Bali Retreat Radiance September 29 – October 4, 2025. If you’re interested hop onto my website or give me a message and let’s chat.
Until next time love & positivity
In this special episode recorded from the heart of Bali just before the second round of my sold out Recharge and Renew retreat: I’m sharing reflections inspired by the powerful 1:1 coaching calls I’ve had with so many beautiful souls this past week.
At the centre of it all? Soul contracts.
We’ll explore the idea that certain relationships, challenges, and life patterns may not be coincidences but sacred agreements made by your soul before you arrived in this lifetime.
Together consider this your introduction to soul contracts: foundations and basics. We’ll dive into what soul contracts are, how to recognise them, and what they might be here to teach you especially in the moments that stretch or break you open.
This episode is for anyone asking:
“Why do I keep attracting this?”
“Why won’t this person leave my life or people like them?”
“Is there a deeper reason for my pain or my connection?”
Tune in for a grounded yet mystical exploration of purpose, karmic ties, spiritual growth and the beautiful sometimes messy journey of being human.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Introduction to Soul Contracts from BaliHello beautiful soul, and welcome back to the podcast.
I’m coming to you today from the lush, humming heart of Bali—a place that is definitely one of my soul homes and just being here is like breathing with such spirit. I’m chilling by the pool, grounded, surrounded by lush green, and getting ready to begin the second round of my sold-out Recharge and Renew retreat.
It’s been a powerful, humbling, and deeply moving lead up to the retreat already. If you’ve ever been to Bali, you’ll know… there’s something different in the air here. Something sacred.
I’ve had so many 1:1 coaching calls and something kept coming up… Soul contracts.
Why certain people cross our paths. Why we feel instantly connected to some, and so deeply challenged by others. Why the same lessons seem to knock again and again, until we finally open the door.
So in today’s episode, we’re going to gently explore that. From right here in Bali, I invite you to come with me into a deeper understanding of the soul-level agreements that might be shaping your path more than you realise.
What if the people in your life, the lessons you keep learning, the patterns that seem to follow you—they’re not random? What if you chose them? Or, more accurately, what if your soul did?
This episode isn’t about blind belief. It’s about listening to your deeper knowing. It’s about holding a new lens up to your life and asking, “What if there’s more going on beneath the surface?
What is a soul contract?A soul contract is believed to be an agreement made by your soul before you were born about the people you’ll meet, the challenges you’ll face, and the themes your life will revolve around.
It’s not about punishment or reward. It’s about evolution.
These contracts are said to be written in the energetic realms, not in words—but in intention, vibration, and mutual agreement between souls.
Picture this: before incarnating, your soul enters a kind of council. A gathering of guides, elders, and other souls you’ve journeyed with across lifetimes. Together, you map out what you want to learn this time around. Maybe you want to understand unconditional love. Or personal power. Or forgiveness.
Then, you find other souls (some loving, some challenging) who agree to help you through a journey of learning and unlearning those things, by playing very specific roles in your life.
The roles people playThat soulmate you met in your twenties? Maybe you knew them in three lifetimes before this one.
That ex who broke your heart? Maybe they were a sacred mirror, showing you the places you still needed to heal.
That parent you struggle with… maybe their soul agreed to play that role so that you could step into your independence, your truth, your power.
Soul contracts aren’t always about harmony. In fact, sometimes they’re about friction. Because friction creates growth. It makes fire. And fire can purify.
Let me be clear: this doesn’t mean we excuse harmful behavior.
Believing in soul contracts isn’t about spiritual bypassing. It’s not about saying “everything happens for a reason” while ignoring pain. It’s about looking for meaning through the pain—not ignoring it.
You can honour the soul lesson without accepting mistreatment.
Karma, choice and free will in soul contracts relationshipsNow let’s talk about something many people ask:
If everything is chosen ahead of time, then do we really have free will?
Here’s how I understand it:
Soul contracts create the framework, not the script.
Think of life like a stage. Your soul picks the set, the other characters, maybe even the major plot lines. But how you respond—that’s up to you.
Free will is your power to shift, to grow, to say “no more.”
And karma? Karma isn’t punishment—it’s energy returning to its source. A ripple becoming a wave. So many soul contracts are about balancing karma. Healing things left unfinished. Not to hurt you—but to complete you.
Recognising soul contractsSo how do you know if someone is part of a soul contract?
Sometimes it’s that instant connection.
That feeling of, “I know you.”
It’s intense. Magnetic. Sometimes beautiful. Sometimes messy.
Other times, it’s not so romantic. It’s a boss who challenges your confidence. A friend who keeps disappearing. A child who triggers all your fears.
If a relationship feels charged—emotionally loaded, repetitive, or significant in your story—it may be karmic. It may be a soul contract.
Here’s a question you can ask when you’re in the thick of a pattern or a painful dynamic:
“What is this here to teach me?”
The lesson is the gift and once it’s learned, the contract can be completed.
So what happens when we don’t want a contract anymore?
Breaking soul contractsCan we break it? Rewrite it?
Yes and no.
Some soul contracts are meant to last a lifetime. Others dissolve when the lesson is learned. Think of it like a teacher-student relationship. Once you graduate, the class ends.
You might find that certain relationships shift completely when you stop needing them to be something they’re not. Or when you reclaim your power within them.
In spiritual practices like meditation, prayer, and energy healing, some people do consciously release old contracts especially ones that no longer serve their path, I’ve helped many clients do that.
It begins with awareness and it unfolds through intention.
Past lives and soul groupsSome believe we travel in soul groups: clusters of souls who incarnate together again and again. We play different roles each time.
This time, you’re the daughter. Next time, maybe the mother.
This time, the villain. Next time, the healer.
It’s not personal. It’s evolutionary.
When we see relationships through this lens, something softens. Forgiveness becomes easier (and remember its first and foremost for you) Compassion becomes possible.
Working with soul contractsIf you want to begin working with the idea of soul contracts, here are a few prompts to journal with or meditate on:
– Who in your life triggers deep emotion—good or bad—and why?
– What patterns or lessons keep repeating in your relationships?
– If this situation were a teacher, what would the curriculum be?
You can also try a meditation where you imagine sitting with the other soul involved. Ask, “What are we here to learn from each other?”
Sometimes, what comes up is unexpected but it’s often the beginning of true healing.
If you want to go deeper I invite you to work with me 1:1!
So, whether or not you fully believe in soul contracts, I invite you to consider this:
Until next time, be gentle with your process and soul journey.
Love & Positivity
In this episode we are keeping it short, sweet and simple. Information about the Leo New Moon (and why it make feel a little more tense this week with the astrology) taking place this week and journaling prompts to make the most of the Leo New Moon, upcoming Lion’s Gate and a mid year reset and check in.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Radiance Bali Retreat (September 29 – October 4, 2025) – Details + Secure Your Spot
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Introduction to Leo New Moon August 2025Hi my love
I’m so honoured you’re here with me today because this isn’t just any episode… this is a little sneak peek into something I’ve been pouring my heart into: the pre‑work I created for my Recharge and Renew Retreat happening around the Lions Gate Portal. Shout to the beautiful women I cannot wait to be with you in Bali at the end of next week!
Now, if you’ve been with me for a while or maybe you’re new here (hi!), you know the Leo New Moon carries this luminous energy … it’s playful, magnetic, and fiercely self‑loving. Oh by the way can you tell I am a leo rising!? As we stand here mid year, it’s the perfect moment to check in with yourself, to plant fresh intentions, and to remember that you are allowed to take up space, shine brightly, and build the life that feels like yours.
Just before we dive in, I have to say: Recharge and Renew Retreat officially sold out a little while back and oh my goodness, my heart is so full! But don’t worry, I do have a few limited spaces left for Radiance, which takes place end of September 29th to October 4th retreat. So if you’ve been feeling the nudge to join me in person and step fully into your brilliance, now is the time to reach out. I would love to see you there.
Leo New Moon August 2025 Energy + Lion’s Gate 2025The New Moon in Leo is coming up on Thursday July 24th for some and here in Sydney Australia Friday July 25th in the early hours of the morning. It’s a great moment to check in with yourself and get real about where you’re headed as we tick over to the second half of the year. Not only that it’s the official opening of the Lion’s Gate Portal which peaks on of course 8th of the 8th month.
Leo energy is often described as big and bold (heck yes which it is) but at its core, it’s about being true to yourself and showing up with heart. This isn’t about pretending to be confident or putting on some huge performance. It’s about figuring out what actually matters to you and having the guts to lean into that, even if it feels uncomfortable.
When you think about lions, they don’t walk around trying to prove they’re powerful—they just are. That’s the kind of energy this time of year can inspire. Instead of chasing validation or getting caught up in noise and drama, ask yourself: what would it look like to simplify things? To strip away the stuff that doesn’t feel real anymore?
Pluto Tension in August 2025Now, it’s not all smooth sailing. Pluto’s position means a lot of us are feeling a bit of tension or pressure. Maybe it’s a conflict with someone, or maybe it’s an internal tug‑of‑war you’ve been ignoring. That heavy feeling that something needs to change? That’s not random. It’s a nudge to take a hard look at your boundaries, your choices, and whether you’re living in a way that lines up with your values.
Mercury Retrograde August 2025On top of that, Mercury is retrograde, which has a reputation for messing with plans but really, it’s a chance to slow down and rethink things. You might find yourself asking, “What do I actually want? Am I even moving toward that?” And sometimes, the honest answer is, “I’m not sure.” That’s okay. This is a good time to sit with the questions instead of rushing for answers and I got you boo, journal prompts to come.
Over the next few weeks, you might feel like your plans or priorities are shifting. That’s not failure— that’s growth. Give yourself permission to change your mind if something isn’t working anymore. We don’t have to get everything right the first time.
This is bigger than just an individual shift, this is collective. The “old guard” energy is dissolving. The patterns of control, fear, separation… they’re unraveling. And while that may look chaotic on the surface, what’s really happening is a sacred unmaking and unlearning so that a new kind of leadership can rise. One rooted in heart, integrity, and truth.
You may feel this in your own life too. Maybe the version of you that was operating in survival mode just doesn’t work anymore. Maybe the mask you wore to stay safe or accepted is slipping off. Good. Let it. This is the moment to trust that who you are becoming is more aligned, more sovereign, and more supported than anything you’ve left behind.
Leo New Moon August 2025 Take ActionYes, the astrology can feel intense—this mix of Leo fire and Pluto’s heaviness can feel like all‑or‑nothing decisions. Yet instead of spiralling, try to see it as an opportunity. You might notice solutions popping up where you didn’t see any before, or you might suddenly realise there’s another way to approach a situation you’ve been stuck on.
And here’s the key: once you start seeing those new options, you’ve got to do something with them. Leo energy isn’t about just dreaming: it’s about stepping up. Take that insight, that idea, and commit to trying it out in the real world. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be yours.
We’re entering another one of those evolutionary portals. But here’s the catch… this time, the revolution won’t just be technological. It will be consciousness-based. How we communicate. How we think. How we decide what is true. The internet, AI, decentralized systems… it’s all coming online in a new way. And we are being invited to evolve with it or be dragged by it.
So if you feel like your mind is changing, your values are shifting, or you’re seeing the world through a new lens = you’re not broken. You’re just ahead of the curve. You’re tuning into the frequency of what’s coming.
Leo New Moon August 2025 Journaling PromptsAlas here are 5 journal prompts I’d love for you to contemplate on in the spirit of the New Moon in Leo.
What do you most want to manifest by the end of this year on December 31st, 2025?
Take a second and picture that date in your mind. If everything lined up perfectly, what would your life actually look like? What would you be celebrating? And then ask yourself, what’s one small step I could take today that would point me in that direction?
Where in your life are are you performing for approval instead of acting from your true authentic self?
Be really honest with yourself here: when do you notice you’re playing a role just to keep others happy? If no one’s opinion or guilt mattered for a moment, what would you do differently?
What do you value about yourself that you rarely acknowledge?
Think about this: what’s a quality in you that has quietly carried you through tough moments but you never give yourself credit for? Or even, if you wrote yourself a thank‑you card, what would it say?
What actually matters to you in this season of your life and what doesn’t?
Here’s a big one: what’s lighting you up right now? On the flip side, what are you still giving your time or energy to that doesn’t feel aligned anymore?
How do you want to show up for myself daily to align with your bigger vision?
Imagine future‑you looking back… what choices would they be proud you made? Also, how do you want to treat yourself on the days when things don’t go perfectly?
All in All – Leo New Moon August 2025As you sit with these questions and let your thoughts flow, remember—this isn’t about getting everything figured out today. It’s about giving yourself permission to pause mid‑year, to check in with your heart, and to realign with what truly matters to you.
The Leo New Moon is simply a reminder that you already carry the courage and creativity you need to shape the next chapter.
So take what resonated, leave what doesn’t, and trust yourself as you move forward. Until next time, keep showing up for yourself. One honest step at a time.
Love & Positivity
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In this episode, we dive deep into the potent energies of the Capricorn Full Moon intertwined with the spiritual significance of Guru Purnima with a view from human design of course.
We explore the sacred tension between releasing old karmic patterns especially in relationships—and initiating new cycles of soulful growth and alignment. With timelines accelerating, spirit calls us to embody true partnership rooted in integrity and shared evolution.
Tune in for intuitive insights, grounding practices, and reflective journal prompts in July 2025 during this Capricorn Full Moon peaking 10th and 11th of July 2025 to help you navigate this powerful season of transformation with grace and clarity.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
- Contact Phi for details Bali September Retreat (September 29th – October 4th)
Introduction to July 2025 Energy = MassiveHi my love,
Welcome back to the Grow Through it Podcast with me (Phi Dang). Take a breath with me, wherever you are… inhale deeply… and exhale it all out.
Today’s episode is a bit different—less forecasting, more feeling. We’re in a very spiritually significant portal right now, one that merges the ancient wisdom of Guru Purnima with the deep, earthy release of a Capricorn full moon. And this energy? It’s speaking volumes. So consider this your energetic update from the cosmos and Spirit alike.
🌕 What Is Guru Purnima?Let’s start with Guru Purnima or Guru Poornima. This is a sacred significant day in many Eastern traditions especially in Hinduism and Buddhism, set aside to honour the teacher, the guru. The word “guru” itself means “dispeller of darkness.” So Guru Purnima isn’t just about celebrating external teachers… it’s also about reconnecting with your inner wisdom and higher guidance. It’s a time to bow to the light that guides us home to ourselves.
In spiritual terms, this is a high-vibrational day that supports deep insight, gratitude, humility, and alignment with truth. When Guru Purnima coincides with a powerful full moon like this one in Capricorn, it becomes a double invitation to release what’s heavy and return to what’s real. The teacher may show up as a mentor, a book, a painful experience, or your own soul whispering beneath the noise.
What I’m intuitively feeling… the sacred weightThis energy feels… dense. But not in a negative way. It’s like a pressure valve that’s building because there’s a release point approaching. You know when a kettle starts to whistle because the heat builds so much that steam has to escape? That’s where many of us are emotionally, spiritually, and collectively. The heat is on. The pressure is rising. And the whistle is coming. But it’s not a warning… it’s a signal. Something’s about to break open.
I keep feeling the words: heavy but sacred. This isn’t heaviness from stagnation. This is the sacred weight of becoming It’s like the tide just before it turns, pulled back to the deepest point, gathering force for the next wave.”
Many of you might be feeling tired, confused, emotional, or unusually sensitive. That’s your body processing not just your own energy, but the collective fields shifting too.
The full moon in Capricorn adds this deep earth-based gravity. Capricorn rules structures, discipline, timelines. And when it meets the intuitive water of Cancer season, it creates a polarity that asks: What needs to be released so something real and lasting can be built?
Spirit Says — “Changing of the Guard”The loudest phrase Spirit has been whispering lately is: “Changing of the guard.” This isn’t just poetic—it’s literal and energetic. We’re witnessing the breakdown of systems, hierarchies, inner identities, and roles that no longer fit the frequency of where humanity is going. Whether it’s in governments, corporations, family dynamics, or even the roles we’ve played within ourselves… the baton is being passed.
This is bigger than just an individual shift, this is collective. The “old guard” energy is dissolving. The patterns of control, fear, separation… they’re unraveling. And while that may look chaotic on the surface, what’s really happening is a sacred unmaking and unlearning so that a new kind of leadership can rise. One rooted in heart, integrity, and truth.
You may feel this in your own life too. Maybe the version of you that was operating in survival mode just doesn’t work anymore. Maybe the mask you wore to stay safe or accepted is slipping off. Good. Let it. This is the moment to trust that who you are becoming is more aligned, more sovereign, and more supported than anything you’ve left behind.
Uranus in Gemini — A Collective Shift – A New EarthHere’s something fascinating from a cosmic perspective. The planet Uranus, which represents revolution, awakening, and radical change, has moved into Gemini: a sign ruled by thought, communication, and duality. The last time Uranus was in Gemini was in the 1940s. Think World War II. The rise of the atomic age. The early stages of computer development and the emergence of television and mass media.
We’re entering another one of those evolutionary portals. But here’s the catch… this time, the revolution won’t just be technological. It will be consciousness-based. How we communicate. How we think. How we decide what is true. The internet, AI, decentralized systems… it’s all coming online in a new way. And we are being invited to evolve with it or be dragged by it.
So if you feel like your mind is changing, your values are shifting, or you’re seeing the world through a new lens = you’re not broken. You’re just ahead of the curve. You’re tuning into the frequency of what’s coming.
7/7 Portal and RebirthThe 7/7 portal that just passed acted like a doorway. A key turning in a lock. It may not have felt like an explosion, but energetically, something clicked. And now with this full moon, we’re seeing the first peak of that new beginning energy.
It’s interesting because full moons are typically about completion. But this one has the feeling of a new chapter. It aligns with thee energy of new beginnings in Human Design,
Right now, there’s a powerful energetic push toward new beginnings—but it’s arriving in the same breath as a call to release. That can feel disorienting. Full moons usually ask us to let go, to close chapters.
And yet, something in the atmosphere is stirring with the energy of initiation—like the quiet spark before a fire, or the subtle click of a gear that hasn’t moved in a while. You might feel pulled in two directions: grieving what’s ending while being nudged toward what’s just starting. That tension isn’t a mistake—it’s a liminal space. One cycle is wrapping up, but the new one is already knocking. This moment isn’t about clarity or certainty. It’s about honoring the pause between the exhale and the next inhale.
If you’re feeling restless, emotional, or uncertain, you’re not doing anything wrong—you’re simply feeling the paradox. Let yourself tend both sides: allow space to release, to mourn, to close… and allow space for the tiniest flicker of beginning. You don’t need a plan—just presence. Begin where you are: clean a corner of your space, journal a new intention, whisper a prayer into the wind. Stay rooted in what grounds you—nature, stillness, movement. Trust that even confusion is part of the transition. The clarity comes later. Right now, the work is simply saying yes to the mystery.
This is the weird paradox of rebirth. The egg cracks before the bird can fly. And right now, many of us are in that cracking-open moment.
Clearing family karma and soul contracts in relationshipsThere’s an old saying that the family tree holds more than just your name. It carries the stories, wounds, and patterns of generations past. Lately, it feels like many are clearing heavy branches from that tree, especially in relationships. You might be noticing breakups, shifts, or uncomfortable truths surfacing. These aren’t just random endings; they’re deep, ancestral patterns breaking open, inviting healing not only for yourself but for those who came before you. It’s as if old karmic contracts are being released, making way for fresh, healthier connections to grow.
Gemini energy, with its dual nature, reminds us that love is never a solo act. True partnership takes two whole people: two stories, two hearts willing to meet, listen, and grow together. It’s not about simply having a boyfriend or girlfriend but about creating a dynamic where both souls can thrive, communicate honestly, and reflect each other’s truths. This season calls for clarity around what kind of love you’re ready to give and receive and it asks you to let go of what no longer serves the sacred dance of partnership.
Love itself is a powerful healer. Beyond the ups and downs, beyond the endings and beginnings, love holds the capacity to mend wounds: personal and ancestral alike. When you open your heart, you invite a gentle alchemy that can transform pain into growth, loneliness into connection, and old scars into wisdom. Whether through self-love, friendship, or partnership, love’s energy teaches patience, forgiveness, and the courage to keep showing up, even when the path feels uncertain.
With timelines moving rapidly and energies shifting faster than ever, spirit is calling us to step into relationships that truly support our highest path. This isn’t about casual connections or surface-level companionship. It’s about finding a partner whose soul frequency aligns with yours, creating a foundation of trust, growth, and mutual awakening. In these accelerated times, a true partnership becomes a sacred container where both people can evolve together, holding space for challenges and breakthroughs alike. Spirit is urging you to release anything less than this deep alignment, so you can walk forward hand in hand with someone who reflects your deepest values and vision.
Grounding, Praying, and Holding the EarthIf you’re feeling the collective heaviness, you’re not alone. The world is intense right now. And for those who are sensitive, intuitive, or energetically open—you’re likely picking up more than just your own emotions.
My message for you is simple but important: ground. Go outside barefoot. Breathe. Drink water. Turn off your phone. Cry if you need to. Then… pray. Send light. Imagine golden energy wrapping around Mother Earth. Speak blessings over humanity, even if things look bleak. This is sacred service. It’s part of why you’re here.
It reminds me of Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth—that moment where the pain of the old world becomes so unbearable that a collective awakening begins. You’re holding part of that awakening. You’re anchoring it through your presence.
July 2025 Journal Prompts Capricorn Full Moon
In this episode, we explore the nuanced and often tender relationship between alcohol and spirituality.
Is alcohol sacred or does it disconnect us from our truest selves?
We’ll look at how alcohol has been used in spiritual traditions throughout history from the wine of Christian communion to the abstinence teachings of Islam and how our own rising consciousness can shift our desire to drink.
This conversation isn’t about fear, shame or extremes but about awareness, intention and honouring your own unique path. Whether you’re sober curious, re-evaluating your habits or simply seeking a better understanding, this episode invites you into a more conscious relationship with yourself, your energy, and the choices you make.
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Spirits & Spirit: Alcohol & SpiritualityHi my love, thank you so much for tuning into this week’s episode. Today’s conversation comes straight from your requests and I’m going to dive deep into something many of us have wondered about: the relationship between alcohol and spirituality.
Is alcohol sacred or is it a barrier to the sacred? Let’s explore this together with honesty, curiosity and compassion.
Alcohol has played a complex role in spiritual traditions throughout history. In Christianity, for example, wine holds powerful symbolism—it represents the blood of Jesus Christ and is a key part of the sacred ritual of communion, inviting believers into a shared experience of grace and transformation. Yet, across many other faiths, alcohol is viewed very differently. Islam, for instance, forbids drinking altogether, reflecting concerns about its potential to cloud the mind and spirit.
This creates a fascinating tension: on one hand, alcohol can bring people together, marking celebrations, rites of passage, and moments of community. It can be part of joyful ceremonies and sacred gatherings. On the other hand, alcohol also carries the risk of disconnection, addiction, and harm. So, when we look at alcohol through the lens of spirituality, the question becomes = does it serve as a bridge to the sacred or does it sometimes stand in the way?
In today’s episode, we’ll explore both sides of this paradox and uncover what it means to approach alcohol with mindfulness and self-awareness on your spiritual path.
The energy of alcohol and drinkingLet’s talk energetics for a moment.
Alcohol lowers inhibition, yes. It opens us up. It also numbs the nervous system, distorts perception and can disconnect us from our inner compass if we’re not careful. It’s not just about what we feel physically, but also what’s going on beneath the surface in our subtle bodies.
If you’re someone sensitive to energy—you’ve probably noticed this. A drink might feel light and joyful at first, but too much… and suddenly your intuition goes blurry. Your dreams are off. Your morning meditation feels a little more dull. That doesn’t mean alcohol is “bad.” It means you’re tuning in. When we tune in, we get to choose more consciously. Not from fear, but from alignment.
We all have this energetic field around called your aura that acts like a protective bubble. It keeps us steady and helps us hold our own energy. Alcohol and other things that disrupt our natural rhythm can create little weak spots in this field, making us feel more sensitive or vulnerable to outside influences. It’s kind of like your personal energetic shield getting a tiny crack.
If you’re someone who tunes into your intuition or works with psychic or energetic senses, you might notice that alcohol creates a kind of haze, making it harder to connect clearly—to yourself, and to others on a deeper level. It’s why many spiritual practitioners like myself recommend steering clear of alcohol before doing any kind of energy work, channeling or meditation.
None of this is about judgment or fear. It’s about understanding how alcohol interacts with our energy, so you can make choices that feel aligned and right for you.
The rise of being spiritually soberThese days many people rethinking their relationship with alcohol for spiritual reasons. Perhaps you want clarity. You want presence. You want a higher connection.
Now, here’s my truth: I don’t really drink much anymore. Like, I’ll go months at a time without touching a drop. Not out of restriction or rules or shame. It’s just… I don’t crave it. I don’t need it. I don’t even want it. I want to arrive fully present no chaser to speak. I’ll take my suffering raw because I have a regulated nervous system, I have the tools and know how to regulate my nervous system.
These days, I’m way more of a kombucha girl. Give me something fizzy, fermented, with that tangy little punch, and I’m happy. Honestly, it feels better in my body, and it keeps my channel clear—you know what I mean?
There’s no rule or big declaration behind it. It’s not a moral thing, and it’s definitely not shame-based. It’s just that I’ve found, over time, that when I’m clear—when my system is clean—I can hear myself better. I can feel the Divine more directly. My body says thank you. I’m not anti-alcohol. I don’t believe in extremes. I think there’s space for moderation—and even celebration—in a spiritual life.
I’ve had some beautiful, sacred experiences having a glass of of champagne to celebrate a business win or just soaking in pleasure in the markets in Spain with one of my best friends oysters and red wine, divine.
If I drink I don’t drink to get out of my body. I drink to be in it. Taste it. Breathe. Stay awake. Present. I also know my limits and honour those.
A life coach’s perspective on drinking alcohol & spiritualityFrom my perspective as a life coach and personally the most important think is to be aware of your mindset when consuming alcohol and doing so with respect. When we look at ancient philosophical views Aristotle advocated for moderation in all things, including pleasures like wine, suggesting virtue lies between excess and deficiency. In the field of stoicism, some stoics permitted moderate drinking if it didn’t compromise self control, emphasising intention and inner discipline.
If you’re walking the “less alcohol” path like I am, here are a few soul-honouring alternatives as I mentioned kombucha, mocktails and cacao which I adore – Sacred, heart-opening, and deeply grounding. I’ve had some of my most connected, spiritually rich evenings with a mug of cacao and a candle—not a drop of alcohol in sight.
Why you want to drink less as you become more “spiritual” and self awareAs we grow in awareness and deepen our connection to ourselves and the world around us, something naturally shifts inside. Our cravings for things like alcohol often start to fade — not because of strict rules or pressure, but because our inner landscape is changing. We begin to crave clarity, presence and genuine connection more than any temporary escape. The subtle energies within us become more sensitive, and we start to notice how different choices affect our mood, our spirit soul and our overall sense of wellbeing. With this rising consciousness, the desire to drink lessens, replaced by a natural preference for experiences that truly nourish and uplift us.
Drinking is humanIt’s also vital to take a moment to be realistic.
Drinking is human. It’s woven into our stories, our cultures, our celebrations. It’s the wedding toast, the birthday clink, the long night of laughter with friends doing rounds and sometimes it’s also the quiet glass alone after a long day, or the reach for relief when things feel a little too much.
While yes, we can talk about being aware, intentional sipping, ritual and reverence—we also need to hold space for this truth: Alcohol is not great for your body. Alcohol does have a chemical impact on your nervous system, your body, your energy. That’s real.
The science is clear. Even moderate drinking can:
- Disrupt sleep
- Increase anxiety
- Impact liver and heart health
- Raise the risk of certain cancers
- Dull cognitive clarity—both short-term and long-term
If you’re on a spiritual path—where presence, intuition, and energetic sensitivity are part of the practice—those effects can feel even more amplified.
So why do we still drink? Because we’re human. Because it’s social. Because it’s a habit. Because it’s comforting. Because sometimes, the need to numb can feel louder than the call to heal. And that’s okay. This isn’t about guilt. This isn’t about shame. This is about compassion—for ourselves, for the parts of us that reached for the drink before we had better tools, and for the ways we’ve coped while learning to soften without shutting down.
Why do you drink alcohol?It’s okay to hold both truths I know this isn’t great for me and I’m on a journey to meet my needs in kinder, clearer ways.
What matters isn’t perfection: it’s awareness. It’s asking yourself, What is this drink doing for me right now? Is there something else I truly need?
Sometimes the answer is connection. Sometimes it’s grounding. Sometimes it’s simply a pause.
And guess what? Those are all things you can create with or without the wine.
Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. It’s not about never drinking again. It’s about learning to listen to yourself more honestly, and choosing from a place of love and consciousness —not fear.
Questions to consider drinking alcohol as a spiritual personUltimately there isn’t a right answer. For some, alcohol is a sacred part of ritual and joy For others, it’s an escape and numbing tool which blocks something deeper. What matters is your intention and your awareness.
So if you’re someone who’s questioning your relationship with alcohol not from a place of shame, but from a place of alignment—I see you. You don’t have to label yourself. You don’t have to make it a thing. Just ask yourself: Does this support the life I want to live? Does this support the spirit I want to embody?
Here are a few things to think about when you’re approaching drinking and spirituality.
When you drink, what are you seeking?
How does drinking impact your connection to yourself, others and spirit?
What does spiritual clarity mean to you?
Compassion and curiosity are key in drinking alcohol and spiritualityAs we wrap up today’s conversation, I want to invite you to lean into this journey with gentle curiosity and kindness toward yourself. Whether you choose to drink or not, the most important thing is that you do it from a place of awareness—honouring your body, your spirit, and your unique path.
Let’s work together to cultivate a more conscious relationship with alcohol and all our choices. When we bring presence and compassion to these everyday decisions, we open the door to deeper.
If this episode resonated with you, , I’d love for you to share it with someone who might need to hear this message and I also invite you to take it a step further by working with me one on one in coaching. Together, we can deepen your connection to yourself, support your healing, and create the freedom to live your truth fully.
Remember: your journey is uniquely yours, and you’re never alone on the path.
Until next time love & positivity
Two years ago, I put my most personal lessons into a book — a snapshot of my unlearning up until that point… but growth never stops, and the words I wrote then have continued to evolve as I do. In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing what it’s like to look back at my own teachings and add on with lived experience: the ways my understanding of love, family, success, self, and spirituality has deepened.
I reflect on everything from embracing seasons of effort and ease, to realising that true love blooms alongside deeper self acceptance, to unlearning inherited patterns that no longer fit.
Most of all, I explore what it means to keep becoming — to live my own story as an evolving process rather than a tidy, completed chapter.
If you’ve ever wondered what happens after you say, “I’ve learned this,” this episode is for you. Let’s honour the journey together and embrace the beautiful unfolding that happens after we put pen to paper.
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Two Years of The Great UnlearningHi there, we’re so back. Had a little mini unexpected but expected break. Things have been really busy in my world and a month ago I ran the Flow Retreat in Vietnam and this evening I’ll be running the kick off call for the Recharge and Renew Bali Retreat in August which is sold out. The final retreat I will be running in 2025 is also in Bali at the end of September if you’re interested, send me a message as it hasn’t been publicly officially launched yet.
Today happens to be the 2nd anniversary of my book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Happy birthday to my baby and in honour of this birthday and celebration I thought I would talk about my journey Two Years of Unlearning My Own Teachings. Growth is expansion.
You know, it’s funny how a book can feel like a time capsule — a snapshot of who you were and what you believed in a particular moment. Two years ago, I poured my heart onto those pages. Every word was true to me then. I guess what I didn’t fully realise at the time is that those words would also become seeds… seeds that would continue to grow in me as much as they might grow in you.
So as I reflect on these two years — celebrating this book’s anniversary — I’m less interested in rewriting what I wrote and more interested in adding on. Adding those subtle new threads that life, practice, and my own unlearning have revealed.
Unlearning SuccessExpanding on success and abundance feels like opening a wider door — beyond just seasons or mindset, into the energetic dance that happens between us and the flow of life.
Since writing the book, I’ve become more aware of how deeply our relationship to success is intertwined with our inner alignment — not just what we do, but who we are in each moment. Success isn’t just the visible achievements or milestones; it’s also the invisible states of being: the patience in waiting, the trust in timing, the surrender when things don’t move as planned. These inner states carry an energy that either opens the channel for abundance or blocks it.
I notice when I’m pushing against my own values and boundaries — when I’m forcing myself to hustle out of scarcity or fear. That kind of push drains my energy and leads to frustration and burnout. When I align my actions with what truly matters to me, honouring my boundaries and staying true to my values, I move from a place of deep alignment and joy.
This energetic awareness has become my compass — guiding me to recognise when it’s time to step forward with purpose and when it’s time to pause and protect my energy. It helps me navigate the flow between effort and ease, so I can create space for growth without losing myself in the process.
Money itself — it becomes less a goal and more a mirror. It reflects back my beliefs about worth, deserving, and security. This deep dance between who I am energetically and how I move through the world has taught me that true success feels expansive, not just productive. It invites me to celebrate the fullness of my experience — the work, the rest, the receiving, and the giving — all woven together in a cycle that’s uniquely mine.
Unlearning SelfUnlearning self has been one of the most profound parts of this journey — especially as I approached and entered my thirties.
There’s a lot of cultural noise about turning 30 — the stereotypes and fears that come with it, like it’s a deadline or a crisis point. Many people feel this pressure wondering they have arrived or are I somehow running out of time.
What feels like the best part of this decade so far is how well I know myself. The confidence and centeredness that come from years of both struggle and growth have created a steady foundation inside me. I’m less swayed by external expectations and more anchored in my own truth.
Aging is a privilege — one that allows us to shed illusions, embrace our full complexity, and move through life with a kind of grace and clarity that only time can give. Unlearning the fear around aging and the self-imposed limitations that come with it has been liberating. I welcome each year not as a countdown but as a new layer of wisdom and freedom.
Unlearning Masculine to Feminine EnergyDeepening my embodiment of the feminine has been a sacred and ongoing journey — one that touches every part of my life, especially my relationships and my work.
In my relationships, embodying the feminine means embracing receptivity, vulnerability, and intuitive knowing. It’s about allowing space for softness and emotional depth, even when the world around me feels chaotic or demanding. This isn’t about weakness — far from it. It’s a profound strength that comes from being fully present with my feelings, honouring the ebb and flow of connection, and trusting that surrender can be just as powerful as holding steady.
In my work with clients, this embodiment translates into creating a container where deep listening and gentle guidance open the door for transformation. It’s less about pushing or fixing and more about facilitating a space where clients can access their own inner wisdom and healing. Teaching from this place requires me to embody patience, compassion, and trust — qualities often associated with the feminine — which invites a different kind of growth: one that happens in cycles, not linear progressions.
The feminine energy I’m cultivating is grounded in embodiment — in knowing my body as a source of intelligence and power, in moving through the world with grace and presence. It invites me to balance action with stillness, to honor intuition alongside strategy, and to lead with heart as much as mind.
This deepening feminine presence feels like coming home to myself again and again — a reminder that strength and softness coexist, and that true power flows from embracing all parts of who I am.
Unlearning LoveThis isn’t the fairytale ending one would have hoped for, but it is a happily-ever-after story. That’s what I wrote in the chapter “Love Story,” and I still believe it. It was never just about the ending — it was about the journey and all the ways we grow along the way. In the two years since writing those words, my understanding of love and partnership has deepened in ways I couldn’t have imagined back then particularly now.
Especially moving into my early thirties and stepping into a post–Saturn Return version of myself, my priorities have shifted. I’m not just dating for myself anymore; I’m dating with my future children in mind, with their father in mind. That adds a kind of sacred weight to my choices — not pressure, but a deeper commitment to honouring what I truly value. I look for someone who can grow alongside me, someone I can build a life with, not just a fleeting romance. Be with the man who wants to be a husband and father not just one that wants a wife and baby.
As I’ve learned to embrace myself more fully — making peace with the parts of me that once felt too much or never enough — my capacity to love my partner has grown too. The more of myself I embrace, the more of them I can embrace. Love feels less like a checklist of what someone can do for me and more like a practice of showing up for one another in all our humanity. True love isn’t easy, but it can feel effortless in the sense that you want to grow together. Even when it’s challenging, there’s a shared sense that becoming wiser, softer, more real is part of the deal. That’s the version of “happily-ever-after” I wish I’d painted before — one that feels alive and evolving, just like we are.
And here’s something I’d also add on, something that only experience could have taught me: always trust your instincts. Even those small pink or white flags that feel easy to overlook — they rarely disappear. They tend to grow into the very red flags that can end a relationship. That gentle, persistent hesitation you feel? That’s your intuition trying to protect you, and honouring it is an act of deep self-love. Safety — emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual — is not optional. It’s the foundation for real intimacy. Without it, you can’t truly open, and without openness, you can’t truly grow together.
That’s what I want to leave you with now: knowing that it’s never just about a perfect ending. It’s about a truthful, wholehearted process. It’s about the courage to recognise when something is off, the compassion to grow through it, and the faith that real love will meet you where you are — in all your honesty, all your softness, and all your strength.
Unlearning FamilyYou are restoring your family to the core of what family is: love. You get to be the one future generations will remember as the remarkable soul who was the turning point of change for the betterment of the family tree… that’s the thing about family and lineage — it isn’t a closed story.
Since writing those words, I’ve come to see just how much deeper the roots go. Visiting Vietnam these past few years, meeting relatives I never knew existed, hearing their stories told in my mother tongue — all of it has opened a door in me that I didn’t even know was there.
I thought I was breaking generational patterns to make my family’s future lighter and freer, and I am. But reconnecting with my ancestry has also shown me the richness that was already there — the resilience, love and heart that carried my family through hardships I could hardly imagine. Unlearning family isn’t just about shedding pain and expectations; it’s also about rediscovering the treasures that were lost or forgotten along the way.
It’s making me proud — so proud — of my culture and my roots. I’ve realised that part of this unlearning is also cultural unlearning: releasing the shame or disconnect I inherited, embracing the beauty of my language, my food, my traditions, my people. It’s like weaving my ancestors’ strength into my present story, so my future children will grow up knowing they come from something powerful and sacred.
Most of all, I’ve learned that the most healing version of “family” is one that honours both where we come from and where we’re going. It’s choosing to hold the best parts your lineage and yourself to evolve beyond the patterns that no longer serve. That’s the real work of becoming the turning point of change: we don’t just unlearn what was painful, we also reclaim what was beautiful, so that love is truly at the core of who we are becoming.
Unlearning SpiritualityWhen I look back on my unlearning around spirituality, one of the most freeing realizations has been that God — the Universe, Source, Spirit — isn’t “out there,” waiting to be reached. It’s already here. It is me. Being human is the spiritual practice. Every breath, every misstep, every tender moment is a ritual.
In that practice, discipline becomes devotion. Showing up for myself, the divine that lives within me every day — whether it’s meditation, journaling, movement, prayer — feels less like a duty and more like a sacred tending. My teacher in India once told me that each of us is like gold underneath the dust. It doesn’t matter what life has covered us with; the gold itself never tarnishes. It only needs gentle polishing to reveal its brilliance again. That’s what this devotion feels like — a daily return to my own light.
And as I polish my own soul, I’m also honoring the sacredness that weaves through all paths. The divine doesn’t recognize the borders we draw around names or traditions. Whether I whisper prayers to Goddess Isis under an Egyptian sky, offer my heart to Ganesh and Narayani on my altar, bow to Quan Âm in Vietnam, or feel the compassion of Fatimah — it is all one light, one source moving through different hands and different histories.
That’s what I want to carry forward in my practice: that every culture, every path, every deity reflects some part of my own humanity back to me. Every ritual, every prayer, every lineage is simply a different way of polishing the same gold. And when I remember this — that my divinity is already present and my discipline is just devotion — I feel at home in my soul again.
Celebrating The Great UnlearningYour journey with this book is alive — it’s not a one-and-done experience. Even if you’ve read it once, you’re a different person every time you come back. Life changes us, and so does what we need from the words we return to. My hope for these “add-ons” is that they give you permission to read your own life the same way — as a living, evolving story that’s constantly unfolding.
Unlearning is never finished. It’s a process of peeling back old layers, challenging the stories you’ve been told, and making space for new ways of being that feel truer to who you really are. There’s so much more for all of us to grow into — more freedom, more joy, more self-love, and more connection. Sometimes, that growth happens more easily when you have someone walking beside you, reflecting your light and helping you navigate the parts that feel tricky or stuck.
If you feel called to deepen your unlearning journey, to step more fully into your power, or simply want support in creating a life that feels aligned and meaningful — I’m here for you. Working together through life and or business and or human design coaching, we can explore your unique path, uncover what’s holding you back, and build new habits, mindsets, and practices that honour the fullest expression of you.
You don’t have to do this alone. When you’re ready, I invite you to reach out, and let’s walk this evolving story together. Your next chapter deserves to be the most vibrant and best one yet.
Until next time.
Descend into the depths of the Scorpio Full Moon —an astrological and human design moment that asks us to release what we can no longer control, to surrender what no longer serves and to trust in the darkness: death and rebirth. We explore the energy at play, including that of the “Finger of God” pointing toward the Moon, inviting profound emotional reckoning and soul level redirection. I’ll share what this lunation means through the lens of Human Design’s Energy Assimilation and offer reflections, mindset shifts and journal prompts to help you honour your own inner rebirth. This isn’t about fixing yourself— it’s about letting go so the real you can rise.
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The full moon this month in May 2025 is happening in ScorpioHello my love,
How are you feeling in the thick of this full moon, arguably one of the most intense for 2025 if we didn’t already get served that with the ending of the eclipse season. The full moon is on the 12th of May 2025 and 13th of May 2025 here in Australia.
This is not a moon for surface-level insights. It’s a time of depth, transformation and truth telling. Scorpio doesn’t whisper; it pierces. In this episode I’m explore the energies at play, including powerful energetic formations and and the voice of assimilation in Human Design, a voice that reminds us that real clarity arises from the silence after we’ve surrendered control. This is your permission slip to stop trying to fix, rush, or control anything and instead, let the mystery reveal itself to you.
What planets rule Scorpio? Mars and PlutoIt’s the Scorpio full moon. Scorpio is ruled by two planets: Mars and Pluto. Mars is considered the traditional ruler, and Pluto is the modern ruler. Both of these planets explain different layers of Scorpio’s intense and mysterious personality.
Mars, in astrology, is the planet of action, drive, and passion. It’s all about how you go after what you want. Before Pluto was discovered, Mars was the only ruler of Scorpio. While Mars also rules Aries (which is bold and fast), in Scorpio, Mars shows up in a more controlled, focused way. Instead of charging forward like Aries, Scorpio’s Mars is more strategic, emotionally driven, and intense. Think of it like a slow-burning fire — it might look calm on the outside, but it’s powerful underneath.
Then there’s Pluto, which was discovered in the 1930s. Even though it’s a tiny planet (and no longer considered a planet by astronomers), astrologers gave it to Scorpio because its energy matched so well. Pluto is about transformation, power, secrets, and the cycle of death and rebirth — emotionally, spiritually, or even literally. This gives Scorpio its reputation for being deep, mysterious, and a little bit obsessed with what’s under the surface. Pluto’s influence makes Scorpio want to understand the truth behind things, even if it’s dark or uncomfortable.
Death is the beginning for Scorpio transformationTogether, Mars and Pluto explain why Scorpio energy can feel so intense because it’s driven (Mars), and it’s deep and transformative (Pluto). Scorpio doesn’t just want the surface-level version of life. It wants to go all the way down to the core: to understand, to feel, to change, and to rise again stronger.
Scorpio whispers to you that you are not here to stay the same. You are here to shed skin again and again until your essence gleams clean and true beneath the weight of all you’ve outgrown. You are here to walk willingly into the fire, not because you enjoy the burn, but because you know the ashes will teach you how to rise.
Let the identity that no longer fits dissolve.
Let the fear of being too much or too deep fall away.
Let the past version of you be honoured and buried.
Sometimes death is the beginning not the kind that ends life, but the kind that ends the pretending. The kind that clears the noise, the masks, the outdated roles. In the stillness that follows, you don’t need to rush to rebuild. Just breathe. Notice what remains. What’s true will stay. What’s real will rise. This is the quiet power of rebirth: not in becoming something new, but in remembering what’s always been beneath it all.
The Scorpio Full Moon is asking you to confront and face things head onEnergetically, Scorpio is about facing the shadows, confronting what’s hidden, and diving into the depths of our own psyche. The Full Moon in Scorpio brings to light what has been suppressed or avoided, urging us to release the emotional baggage, attachments or illusions we’ve been carrying. Scorpio energy is intensely purging, but also regenerative.
This isn’t about forcing change; it’s about allowing change to unfold through release. The Full Moon’s illumination creates a powerful moment for soul-level growth — it’s nature’s cosmic invitation to let go of what no longer serves us and to rise anew, more authentic and aligned with our truest self.
Scorpio is the Zodiac’s seductressScorpio is the Zodiac’s seductress and knowing that you don’t need to chase anything — things are drawn to you when you align with your authentic self. Scorpio teaches that true seduction is rooted in self confidence, in the ability to sit in your own power without needing validation. Let go of the idea that you have to prove anything. Let your energy speak for itself. Trust that when you are fully you, the right people and opportunities will naturally gravitate toward you
Under this Full Moon in May, perhaps the greatest act of seduction is to seduce yourself — to fall in love with your own mystery, your own depth, your own complexity. Scorpio energy is about exploring the hidden corners of your soul, uncovering truths that you’ve kept tucked away. It’s not about seeking approval or validation from others; it’s about embracing your own power and allure, even when no one else is watching.
Scorpio SensualitySeduction here isn’t about enticing others; it’s about captivating yourself. Slow down and become deeply present with your own energy. Feel the sensuality in your own existence, the way your body moves through the world, the way your thoughts and dreams intertwine. There’s a quiet allure in honouring your inner world — an invitation to fall in love with your own essence. It’s about creating a connection with yourself so deep, so unshakeable, that nothing and no one can disturb your peace.
Let go of control with the Scorpio Full MoonSomething else that strongly comes through when I channel the energy of this full moon is the invitation to release the tight grip you have on control. Do you not trust life and the universe, it’s infinite wisdom and intelligence that it created us and life perfectly?
The more you try to control the outcomes, the more you distance yourself from the flow of life.
Scorpio teaches us that surrender isn’t a sign of weakness, but of profound strength. It is in the act of letting go that you make room for true transformation. Trust that life is unfolding in a way that you cannot yet see, but will soon understand. Your attachment to how things “should” be is the very thing that blocks your growth.
Relinquish the need for certainty. Life’s most significant moments often arrive unexpectedly, and they demand your ability to trust in the process. Releasing control doesn’t mean you’re passive — it’s about being active in your trust, fully embracing the ebb and flow of life’s changes. When you trust the process, you align with the natural rhythm of the universe, and things unfold as they should. Remember, you are not in control of every situation, but you are always in control of how you respond and right now, the most powerful response is to let go.
Scorpio and the UnderworldNot only does Scorpio seduce it rules the underworld a space not of darkness and fear but of deep transformation. The underworld represents the parts of ourselves that we often bury, the emotions and experiences that we hide from the surface, fearing they might overwhelm us.
Yet, it is only by descending into this shadowy realm that we can truly know ourselves. Scorpio’s energy urges you to face the unconscious, to uncover the parts of your psyche that are waiting to be seen and healed. In the underworld, there are no pretences, no facades. What is real is revealed, and what is no longer necessary can be shed.
This Scorpio Full Moon encourages you to look into your own underworld — to confront the things you’ve been avoiding. It’s not about casting judgment on these hidden parts of yourself; it’s about understanding them, accepting them, and integrating them into your conscious being. The underworld isn’t a place of punishment or fear but of profound healing. It’s where you face your wounds, your regrets, your deep seated fears, and transform them.
May you see the darkness as treasures. Maybe you fear the dark because you don’t know it. Because you haven’t spent time with it. You don’t understand it yet.
Uranus opposes the Moon – Scorpio Full MoonDo keep in mind this current Scorpio Full Moon is opposing Uranus, it brings a time of unexpected emotional shifts and surprises. When these two energies are in opposition, it can feel like emotions are being shaken up out of nowhere, and things you thought were stable can suddenly become unpredictable.
During this time, you might experience emotional breakthroughs or even some emotional turbulence. You could find yourself reacting in ways that are out of character, or new insights might emerge that challenge your previous understanding of yourself or situations around you.
This is a time where old emotional patterns might be disrupted, and this disruption can feel jarring, but it also offers an opportunity for growth. It’s like the universe is pushing you to release what’s no longer serving you and embrace a more authentic version of yourself.
This opposition can also bring sudden changes in your personal life or your emotional state, catching you off guard. You may feel the urge to break free from old attachments or situations that no longer feel true to who you are. While it might be uncomfortable, this unexpected energy is often necessary for your personal evolution. Instead of resisting it, try to lean into the change and allow the unexpected moments to teach you something new about yourself and your emotional world.
Finger of God – Scorpio Full MoonWithout getting too astrologically technical, the moon is energetically so to speak in the middle of a formation called the finger of God, an astrological alignment is considered significant because it often indicates moments of fated change, pivotal decisions or unexpected shifts (amplified by Uranus). Jupiter in Gemini and Chiron in Aries are forming the other points of this planetary alignment, creating a situation where our emotions (Moon) are being influenced by the tension between two opposing forces: growth and healing.
Jupiter, the planet of expansion, is in Gemini, which speaks to the need to open our minds, gain new perspectives and break free from outdated beliefs that have been holding us back. Meanwhile, Chiron in Aries represents deep emotional wounds, especially those tied to our sense of self and identity. It’s about confronting painful areas within ourselves and finding healing through embracing our vulnerability and courage.
Reckoning this Scorpio Full Moon May 2025Thus the word coming through is reckoning. This reckoning when I see it visually shown to me is also like a storm passing through a dense forest. At first, the winds howl and shake the trees, uprooting old branches, leaving the forest feeling raw and exposed. However once the storm clears, the trees stand taller, the air is fresher, and the forest is ready for new growth.
In practical terms, reckoning means taking inventory. What are you still carrying that isn’t yours? Where are you forcing things out of fear, rather than allowing space for truth to emerge? This is the work: naming the avoidance, tracking your reactions, feeling what you’ve been numbing, and getting curious instead of defensive. It’s less about “fixing” yourself and more about finally facing yourself. Journaling, coaching, embodied practices, solitude — these aren’t fluffy spiritual tasks, they’re the tools that help you hold the mirror steady when your old identities begin to unravel.
Entering the void this Scorpio Full Moon May 2025And then there’s the part no one likes to talk about: the in-between. After the storm, before the new shoots. The void. Reckoning doesn’t always come with a roadmap. You might not know exactly who you’re becoming yet and that’s the whole point. The invitation is to stay present in the not-knowing without rushing to fill the space. Because in that space, real transformation begins. You rebuild with intention. You start listening differently. You choose differently. And you stop living on autopilot. That’s when the reckoning becomes a rebirth. Quiet, raw, real.
Human Design energy Scorpio Full Moon May 2025From a human design perspective the energy of this Scorpio Full Moon in May 2025 is assimilation, the voice within you that says “I know.” This knowing isn’t intellectual or forced —it’s organic, intuitive, and often arrives in moments of stillness or solitude. This is the energy of Simplification.
It takes complex inner truths and distills them into something clear and concise, something others can actually understand. Under a Scorpio Full Moon where emotions run deep and subconscious material rises to the surface, this collective energy can act like a translator for your soul. It helps you name or perhaps label what’s been hidden in the shadows. It doesn’t come from rushing or performing; it comes from trusting your internal timing and allowing clarity to form naturally.
When you’re in the shadow of this human design energy, you might feel misunderstood, pressured to explain yourself, or frustrated because your insights don’t seem to land. You might overtalk, overexplain or try to make something palatable when it’s simply not ready to be shared. Under this moon, notice where you’re trying to force insight instead of letting it emerge. Scorpio teaches us to sit with the discomfort, the unknown, the silence and this human design energy of assimilation echoes this by reminding you that true wisdom doesn’t always come with words right away. Part of the Scorpio initiation is learning to hold power without needing immediate validation.
Question: Why does it feel so intense? Like emotionally but also somehow calming. ConfusedAnswer: Because your soul already knows — it’s moved ahead, it’s aligned, it’s clear. But your human self is still catching up. That emotional intensity is the space between what you know deep down and what you’re still learning to live out loud. It’s the aftershock of a shift that’s already happened energetically, even if it hasn’t fully landed in your day-to-day yet.
After big transitions or rebirths, we often rush to do the next thing but integration takes time. Your nervous system, your heart, your habits they all need a moment to adjust to who you’re becoming. So yes, it feels intense and calm, because something has ended and something new has begun. You’re not lost, you’re actually landing.
Question: Trying to decide on what action to take, a few options opened up to me.Answer what if the most potent action isn’t doing more, but letting go? The full moon has a way of illuminating what’s been hidden, showing us where we’re out of alignment, even if we’ve been trying to push through. It’s not just a time for momentum — it’s a mirror.
Letting go is its own kind of action: one rooted in trust, not fear. And from that space of release, the next aligned choice will often rise on its own, quiet and clear.
The second thing I feel coming through is that making a decision under a full moon isn’t about forcing clarity… it’s about noticing what keeps pulling at you. The full moon brings everything to the surface, including the things you keep circling back to. Instead of asking yourself what you should do, ask yourself: where is my energy naturally flowing? What choices or desires keep returning, even when I try to ignore them?
Sometimes, what we label as confusion is really just a fear of trusting what we already know. Full moons can reveal patterns: the way we loop, delay or stay stuck but they also offer insight into what’s been quietly consistent beneath the chaos. If something keeps resurfacing, it’s worth asking why. Is it calling you forward, or is it a lesson you’re finally ready to close?
Clarity under a full moon often comes not from control, but from paying attention to your own energetic patterns and trusting that the repetition is speaking to something deeper.
After big transitions or rebirths, we often rush to do the next thing but integration takes time. Your nervous system, your heart, your habits they all need a moment to adjust to who you’re becoming. So yes, it feels intense and calm, because something has ended and something new has begun. You’re not lost, you’re actually landing.
Question: How do I make the most of this current energy of the Scorpio Full Moon?I’m glad you asked! A great segway to some journal prompts for food thought under this full moon (most potent in the lead up to, day of and 3 days after the full moon). I’m keeping it succinct with 5 but they’re pretty deep!
What part of yourself have you been hiding from the world, and why are you so afraid to show it? What would happen if you stopped hiding and allowed that part to be seen?
If you could meet your deepest fear in the underworld, what would it look like? What wisdom or strength could you gain from this encounter?
When was the last time you experienced a rebirth in your life? What did you have to let go of in order for that transformation to take place? How can you invite more moments of transformation?
What do you fear most about change and transformation? How does your resistance to change hold you back from stepping into your next level of growth?
What is the greatest illusion you’ve been living under about yourself or your life? How would embracing the truth, however uncomfortable, shift your path forward?
So if things feel uncertain right now, if life seems to be asking more questions than it answers—you’re not lost, you’re in process. This Scorpio Full Moon reminds us that before clarity comes the void, and before rebirth comes release. Let the wisdom of your own inner underworld speak. Let the truths that don’t need explanation rise to the surface. Stay tender, stay brave and let whatever is coming up transform you.
Until next time, love & positivity
Alignment is often glamourised as a constant state of flow, clarity and purpose but the reality is far more nuanced. In this episode, we uncover 11 raw and rarely spoken truths about what alignment really looks and feels like. It’s not always peaceful or polished — in fact, sometimes it shows up as discomfort, endings or a deep sense of uncertainty that’s guiding you to something more honest.
We talk about the quieter forms of alignment, like making decisions that don’t make sense to others but feel deeply right to you. You’ll hear about the courage it takes to let go of things that are “almost right,” and why aligned living isn’t about perfection — it’s about integrity, even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. This episode is both a reality check and a permission slip to honour your own unique path.
Whether you’re in the middle of a transition, questioning what’s next, or simply craving more depth on your personal growth journey, this conversation offers grounded wisdom and soulful reminders. These 11 insights on alignment will help you trust yourself more deeply, recognise alignment in unexpected forms, and walk your path with more compassion and confidence.
Keywords and themes of this podcast episode in summary:
alignment, personal growth, spiritual alignment, authenticity, life purpose, intuition, self trust, energetic shifts, inner truth, transitions, integrity, soulful living
Themes:
- The misunderstood side of alignment
- Letting go of what’s no longer right
- Following inner guidance over external validation
- Discomfort as a sign of growth
- Realigning after major life changes
- Honouring your unique rhythm
- The difference between ease and alignment
- Synchronicities, signs and angel numbers (111, 1111)
- Saying yes to what deeply resonates
- Trusting the unknown
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Celebrating 111Hello my love! Welcome to episode 111 of the grow through it podcast. That angel number alone feels like a portal, so it’s only fitting we talk about something equally powerful and often misunderstood: alignment.
It’s become a bit of a buzzword, hasn’t it? “Just align with it.” “That’s not aligned.” But what does it really mean to live in alignment? Not in an Instagram caption kind of way, but in a real, embodied, sometimes messy, deeply honest kind of way?
In this episode, I’m breaking down 11 practical shifts: truths, perspectives and tiny mindset recalibrations — that can help you actually feel what alignment is, not just talk about it.
Let’s demystify the word, anchor it into reality, and maybe, by the end, alignment will feel a little less elusive… and more actionable, achievable, possible.
It’s beautiful timing as I am getting in the creative flow zone channelling for the upcoming Flow Retreat Im running in Vietnam at the end of this month with 7 incredible and beautiful women!
Let’s dive in.
11 Things You Need to Know About Alignment (That No One Talks About)
- Alignment isn’t a buzzword—it’s a felt experience.It’s not about having the perfect morning routine, or ticking spiritual practices off a list, collective gold stars from the universe. Alignment is about truth. It’s about how honest you’re willing to be with yourself. It asks: Can you be radically honest with yourself? Can you pause long enough to listen—not just to your mind, but to your body, your breath, your subtle yes and your sacred no? Can you soften into your inner knowing before charging ahead with the next task or to-do?
Alignment isn’t aesthetic. It’s a deep, steady resonance that hums when you’re connected to your yes—and brave enough to honour your no.
Alignment is a felt sense of attunement. Like tuning an instrument, it requires presence. Your body, your heart, your energy field—these are your tuning forks. When something’s off, you feel it. When something’s in flow, you know it—not because someone told you it was the right choice, but because something inside settles. Clicks. Resonates.
There’s also a masculine and feminine dynamic at play here. The masculine in us wants to define alignment with structure: clarity, consistency, action plans, execution. It asks: What does aligned action look like? How can I make this real, productive, measurable. The feminine knows that alignment begins in the unseen. In the quiet. She doesn’t need to define it—she feels it. She invites slowness, sensing, inner listening. The feminine attunes before the masculine acts. She’s the current. The masculine is the container.
When you lead from your feminine—when you allow yourself to feel first—then let your inner masculine take aligned action from that place of truth, things begin to flow. That’s alignment: not forced, not hustled, but integrated. Rooted in the body, expressed through the spirit, and carried out with grounded direction.
It’s not about being in control. It’s about being in tune. Alignment doesn’t follow a script. It follows you.
- Misalignment shows up in the body before it hits the mind.So often we think we’re burnt out because we’ve done too much. But what if we’re tired because we’ve done too much of what’s not true? Not enough of the things that make us feel alive.
Misalignment drains life force. You might feel foggy, disconnected, resentful, or stuck in loops of overthinking. Your nervous system contracts and tightens. Your creativity shuts down. These are not failures—they’re feedback. They’re your body calling you back into rhythm.
Your body is wise. It often knows long before your mind can articulate. Misalignment begins subtly—in the gut, the chest, the breath—and only later shows up in thoughts like I’m not motivated, I’m confused, or I just don’t feel like myself anymore.
What’s happening in your inner world eventually ripples out into your external reality.
You may find yourself attracting the wrong people into your life or stuck in relationship dynamics and situations that feel like hard work. You might notice projects stall, timing is off…
So when your body speaks—through fatigue, resistance, or tension—listen. Before you try to push through or problem-solve, ask: Is this really burnout? Or is this my body protecting me from betraying myself again?
Alignment isn’t just about what feels good. It’s about what’s real.
- Your alignment might not look like anyone else’s.We live in a world that rewards sameness, but alignment is inherently personal. It’s your unique blend of energy, timing, cycles, and capacity. What works for her might not work for you. And that’s not a flaw—it’s a compass. Whether it’s your Human Design, your menstrual cycle, the seasons, or the moon, you’re allowed to orient your life around what actually supports you.
The deeper you know your own unique, natural, beautiful energetic and human design blueprint, the easier it becomes to stop outsourcing authority—and start trusting what feels right over what’s been prescribed. That’s alignment. Not fitting in. But tuning in.
- Alignment often feels like letting go before it feels like moving forward.It’s the moment you realise: I can’t keep betraying myself to belong. I can’t keep pushing through when my body says pause. It might feel like nothing is happening—but the letting go is the happening. The clearing. The choosing again. Alignment begins in those subtle, unseen pivots. And those pivots shape everything.
We tend to associate alignment with clarity, momentum, breakthroughs. But often, the first step isn’t expansion — it’s release. It’s the quiet, trembling moment when you realise: I can’t keep betraying myself to belong. I can’t keep pushing through when my body is begging for rest.
And so you let go.
Of the thing that once felt safe. The role that earned you approval. The pace that made you feel productive. The identity you outgrew. You let go — not because it’s easy, but because holding on would cost you your truth.
It might not look like much on the outside. It might even feel like nothing is happening. But the letting go is the happening. Before anything new can root itself, you have to clear what no longer fits. That’s where alignment begins.
- Aligned action doesn’t require certainty.There’s a misconception that once you’re in alignment, everything will be crystal clear. That you’ll feel 100% ready, resourced and confident before you move. Real alignment doesn’t always come with a guarantee. It often requires you to leap before you know where you’ll land. The good ol’ leap of faith, the fool in the tarot deck.
Aligned action isn’t the absence of fear — it’s movement that honours truth, even in the presence of fear. It’s taking the next step not because you’re certain, but because something inside you says this is mine to do. Not forever. Not for always. Right now.
The mind craves certainty. It wants to map out every outcome before it takes a risk. But the body? Your feminine intuition. The body knows in moments. There’s a resonance. A pull. A soft, magnetic yes that doesn’t always make logical sense but feels deeply, inexplicably right.
Aligned action says: I don’t need to know the whole path. I just need to trust the next step.
It’s deeply feminine in that way: responsive, intuitive, alive. Yet it calls on your inner masculine too; to honour the signal with movement. To protect the truth with choice.
You don’t need to be fearless. You don’t need to be certain. You just need to be willing to listen and to trust what you hear.
- Alignment is dynamic—it’s alive, changing.Alignment isn’t a one-time destination you reach and then stay at. It’s a living, breathing experience, constantly shifting, evolving and responding to the rhythms of your life.
This dynamic quality of alignment mirrors the dance between feminine and masculine energies. The feminine represents the flow, the intuition, the ebb and flow of emotion and the cyclical nature of life. She’s responsive, ever-changing, and fluid. In contrast, the masculine energy brings the structure, the direction and the clarity of action. He’s the container, the grounded force that brings what’s felt in the feminine into form.
When alignment is dynamic, it’s about learning to navigate between these energies — knowing when to surrender to the flow and when to anchor yourself into purposeful action. The feminine calls for trust and receptivity; she guides you to surrender to what is, to feel what’s true in the present moment. Then, the masculine energy takes that internal wisdom and grounds it into reality with clear, decisive action.
Sometimes, you’ll need more of one energy than the other. Sometimes you’ll be deep in the feminine, flowing through cycles and emotions, and other times, you’ll need to step into the masculine: acting on what you’ve learned, creating boundaries, or building something tangible.
This dynamic balance means that alignment isn’t about always being in one fixed state, it’s about learning to dance with change. You respond to what’s real in each moment, whether that means resting, creating, acting, or letting go. Alignment is the space where the two energies meet, constantly flowing, moving, shifting and yet always deeply, fundamentally aligned with your truth.
- When you’re aligned, your decisions become simple.Alignment doesn’t mean every decision feels easy. It doesn’t mean you never doubt or hesitate. But when you’re aligned, decisions become clear.
The more you align with your truth, the more you learn to trust your intuition. There’s a soft confidence that emerges, a deep knowing that the next step is yours to take. It might not always be the easiest step, but it will always feel right. You’ll stop second guessing and instead act from the place of knowing that you’re leading yourself in the direction that serves you—not what others think you should do, but what feels alive for you.
This is where the real power lies. No more confusion, no more overwhelming choices — just clarity, presence and a steady pulse of certainty guiding you forward.
- Alignment is flow.Alignment isn’t something you force or chase. It’s a state of flow—one that comes when you stop fighting against the current and instead start moving with it. It’s a quiet surrender to life’s natural rhythms, where everything feels just right, not because you’ve planned it, but because you’ve learned to trust the process.
When you’re aligned, you become less about pushing through and more about being. It’s like being carried downstream: where you’re still actively engaged, but you’re not swimming upstream. You’re simply following the flow, moving in harmony with the direction life is taking you. It’s not about striving for control; it’s about responding to what comes next, with clarity and confidence, knowing you’re exactly where you need to be.
So perhaps alignment is less about forcing a flow and more about recognising when you’re already in it. You begin to notice where things click into place; conversations that land, timing that feels divine, choices that energise instead of deplete. This is where life starts to feel spacious, magnetic, even magical and that’s exactly the space we’re opening inside the Flow Retreat. You start to notice the difference between pushing and participating. You soften into the knowing that you don’t have to grip tightly to make something happen. Instead, you learn to work with life, not against it.
Flow isn’t something you achieve, it’s something you remember. It’s a return to your natural state, before all the conditioning that told you to hurry, harden, or hold it all together. Flow is the essence of feminine alignment. It doesn’t bulldoze through resistance. In this state, you’re not performing your life, you’re inhabiting it.
The feminine doesn’t just want movement, it wants meaning. Flow happens when your choices nourish you while also stretching you. It’s not always light and graceful; sometimes it’s gritty, emotional, untamed. But even then, there’s a current running through you, a knowing that you’re in integrity with yourself. That you’re creating, relating, expressing, from a place that is real.
Flow isn’t about floating it’s about feeling fully. Feminine alignment invites you to stop bracing against life and start moving with it. In that movement, you begin to meet yourself again — not as a project to fix, but as a pulse to follow.
- Harmony and alignment are deeply intertwined.Alignment is the state of being true to your deepest self, while harmony is the result when all the elements of your being: mind, body, heart, soul, spirit and environment—are in balance with each other.
Think of alignment as tuning an instrument. When every string, every note is precisely in place, the music flows effortlessly. Similarly, when you’re aligned, everything inside you is in tune: your desires, your actions, your values, your energy—they all resonate at the same frequency. This is where harmony lives.
Harmony is not about perfection. It’s not about everything being exactly as you expect. It’s about the feeling that comes when the pieces of your life fit together naturally, when you’re not forcing, when you’re not pushing or struggling. Instead, things flow because you’re in tune with your truth.
When you’re aligned, you become like that well-tuned instrument, creating a harmonious sound wherever you go. There’s less friction, less resistance. Instead, there’s a steady, clear energy that draws the right experiences, people, and opportunities into your life without the struggle.
So, alignment creates harmony by helping you find that internal coherence. In that coherence, the external world begins to respond with ease and flow.
- Be with your own rhythm when it comes to alignment.There’s a natural rhythm that lives inside you — one that isn’t forced or prescribed, but deeply felt. It’s the rhythm your body and soul already know, the one that quietly leads you through life in a way that actually supports who you are at your core.
Your natural rhythm is the pace at which your nervous system feels safe, your heart feels open, and your creativity can breathe. It’s not the speed of the world around you, it’s the frequency of you. It speaks in sensations, in gut feelings, in the rise and fall of your energy throughout the day or month. It asks you to trust your own timing, even when it looks different from what others expect.
You stop measuring your worth by how quickly you move or how much you achieve. Instead, you begin to orient your life around what genuinely supports your vitality, your expansion, your peace. This is alignment — an act of self loyalty. Honouring your natural rhythm can feel radical in a world that rewards urgency. But it’s the doorway to something deeper: a life where you’re no longer constantly recovering from burnout, overthinking your next move or disconnected from your own inner knowing. It’s where your decisions come from clarity, not chaos. From inner steadiness, not social comparison.
Living a life that’s truly aligned with your soul (your actual blueprint, your human design) means coming back into rhythm with you. Not by becoming someone new, but by peeling away everything that’s not true. The Great Unlearning. Your Great unlearning. It’s a relationship. A practice.
Right now, many of us are waking up to just how far we’ve strayed from that inner rhythm. The world is loud with noise and pressure; what to be, how to live, who to become. But alignment asks something simpler, more courageous: that you return to yourself. To your timing. To your truth.
We’re in a collective moment where the old rhythms are cracking. Linear timelines, endless pushing, disconnection from self: it’s all being questioned. And in the space that opens up, there’s a chance to come back into equilibrium and balance. This isn’t about rebellion for the sake of it. It’s about remembering. That you are nature, not separate from it.
- Being in sync with your true self is one of the most profound ways alignment manifests.This was the final really juicy special point I channeled through specifically for anyone listening to this podcast on alignment! Think of being in sync as getting on the same frequency as your own soul. Being in sync is like hitting every green light on the way home. You’re not rushing, not pushing — just moving at the right pace, in the right direction, and somehow everything clears to meet you. That’s alignment. It’s not luck. It’s resonance.
Life becomes less of a chase and more like being pulled by a magnet. You don’t need to strain to get where you’re meant to go: there’s a natural pull that guides you, effortlessly leading you forward, right to where you need to be.
When you’re in sync with yourself, it’s like a garden where every plant is nurtured according to its needs. Each one grows at its own pace, but together they form a thriving ecosystem. When you’re aligned, your actions, relationships, and health naturally flourish in harmony, without forcing anything. You don’t need to chase the sun, it comes to you in the right season. Opportunities, people, and experiences bloom effortlessly, and everything feels like it’s unfolding just as it’s meant to.
It’s about learning to trust the signals your body, mind and spirit send you. The universe, or whatever higher energy you believe in, communicates with you through signs, symbols, and synchronicities. These can come in the form of angel numbers, repeating patterns, or unexpected coincidences. When you’re aligned, these signs feel less like coincidences and more like gentle nudges from the universe affirming that you’re on the right path.
When you notice these signs, it’s the universe’s way of asking you to pause and reflect: Are you truly in sync with your desires? Are you honouring the flow? Being aligned means being open to receiving these messages and trusting that they come from a place of wisdom. They push you to trust that you’re not stumbling blindly but moving in a direction that’s divinely guided.
A summary of alignmentAs we wrap up this episode, remember that alignment isn’t about perfection—it’s about tuning in to your own rhythm, trusting your inner flow, and responding to the subtle nudges the universe sends your way.
If you’re ready to explore deeper alignment and step into your full potential, I’m here to support you through 1:1 coaching, human design readings plus, there’s only one room left for the August Bali retreat, a transformative experience to immerse yourself come back into alignment, think of it as a mid year tune up bringing together and weaving manifestation, money mindset, main character energy and personal growth. I’m still deciding whether to publicly open spots for the September Bali retreat, if something in your heart is calling you—send me a message. Let’s see if it’s in alignment. Thank you for being here and listening my love, I can’t wait to connect with you soon!
Until next time love & positivity
You’ve heard of your Saturn Return — but what happens when your soul knocks again, not with pressure, but with purpose?
In this episode, we dive deep into the Nodal Return, the cosmic rite of passage that unfolds around ages 36/37/38 — a powerful checkpoint that asks:
Are you truly living in alignment with your soul’s path?
We explore:
- What is your Nodal Return and what are the nodes? (beyond the astrology jargon)
- Why it often brings changes in career, relationships, and identity
- The difference between your first Nodal Return (around 18) and your second (mid thirties)
- Why this time is less about achievement and more about meaningful alignment
- Real-life themes I see in 1:1 client sessions and Human Design readings
Whether you’re navigating your Nodal Return now, approaching it, or reflecting on it in hindsight — this episode will help you make sense of the deep shifts, honour the changes you’re feeling, and lean into the life your soul came here to live.
Key themes of this episode:
- Nodal Return Human Design
- What is the Nodal Return
- Nodal Return Astrology
- Life purpose astrology and human design
- Age 36 astrology transit, Age 37 astrology transit, Age 38 astrology transit
- Soul path astrology
- Nodal Return vs Saturn Return
- Astrology and life transitions
- Human Design Nodal Return
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
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Feeling blegh in your mid 30’s…?There’s been a sudden wave of clients coming to me over the past two weeks — all with the same quiet question under their stories: “What is going on with my life right now?” And when I look under the surface, the answer is often the same — they’re in the thick of their nodal return.
It’s a cosmic checkpoint, one that doesn’t come gently — and it’s not supposed to. Because your nodal return isn’t about comfort. It’s about course correction. It’s about remembering what your soul actually signed up for before it came back to Earth. In this episode, we’re diving into what a nodal return really is, why it can feel so disorienting, and how to navigate it with grace, truth and a whole lot of courage.
What is a nodal return (human design, astrology)?We have to start with what are the nodes in astrology, energy, spirituality and human design. They’re not planets themselves, but rather energetic points where the moon’s path intersects with the sun’s path. These points are closely tied to eclipses and are considered deeply connected to your soul’s journey. As I’m recording this, we’re in a fresh nodal cycle with the North Node now in Pisces and the South Node in Virgo (2025-2027). For the past two years, we’ve been living through the Aries-Libra axis (2023-2025).
When does your nodal return happen?Your nodal return happens approximately every 18 years when your nodes return to the position (degree, sign and energy) when you were born. This means you have a nodal return when you are around the ages of 18, 36, 54 and 72.
Why is your nodal return important?The importance of your nodal return is that it’s linked to destiny. What exactly do we mean when we talk about “destiny”? From a spiritual lens, it’s believed that your soul chose to come to Earth with a mission — a roadmap, if you will (your human design). This is the essence of destiny: your soul’s chosen path of evolution and expression.
Nodal return and eclipses = destinyEclipses, which are powered by the nodes, have always held an air of fate. Astrologers view them as moments to completely release control — a time to hand things over to a greater force; to source, the universe, God, Divine. Eclipses can feel like they bend time, speeding things up, intensifying emotions and often marking significant beginnings or closures in our lives.
Nodal return passed from 18 to 36/36/38 mid thirtiesYour nodal return marks an important passage in your 30’s. You go through your Saturn Return aged 27-31, then you have your Nodal Return at 36/37/38 before your Uranus Opposition in your 40’s. If you are approaching your mid 30’s think back to just before you started your 20’s! When this happens at 18, society declares you an adult — legally independent, able to vote, drink, marry, go to war but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, many people are only just beginning to grasp who they were. In the western world you’ve just likely completed your first early years of education and now you’re in the “real world.” It’s not just another transit — it’s a spiritual and existential threshold, one that can upend your sense of direction and identity.
Nodal return themes in your 30’sNow, during your Nodal Return, you revisit these same themes — but with 20 more years of life experience, mistakes, healing and wisdom. It’s a moment to ask:
- Are you truly living in alignment with your purpose?
- Have you matured into your soul’s true direction?
- Are you still unconsciously acting from old karmic patterns (South Node)?
- Or are you courageously leaning into the unfamiliar but deeply rewarding growth edge (North Node)?
In a way, this return asks:
“You were handed adult freedom at 18 — what have you done with it?”
“Are you on a path that fulfils the destiny of your soul? Why you came to Earth?”
A nodal return is a soul growth accelerationWhen you’re in your nodal return years, it can feel like you’re strapped into a fast moving ride. The mantra becomes “be mindful what you call in,” because manifestations and lessons can unfold rapidly. A channeled example coming through is you want to meet your person, the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with? In order for that to happen the universe has to make sure the path is clear and so is your alignment. Think tests, ex partners coming back, being dangled a less than sure commitment, commitment issues arising suddenly… These are years of quickened growth and clarity, where deeper truths come to the surface with urgency.
Divine timing and your nodal returnOne of the hardest spiritual lessons is surrendering the timeline. We think we can plan everything, but life (especially under these nodal influences) often reminds us that timing is a mystery not ours to control.
What will you discover and get out of a nodal reading with me?In readings, the nodes point to what your soul is here to remember, to release, to master. They reveal your unique gifts and the deeper why behind your presence on Earth — your soul’s purpose in motion.
Often when I work with 1:1 clients or human design readings on nodal returns it will be centered around feeling fulfilment in their life and the path of purpose and career, though it is not limited to this! Your Nodal Return is such a rich and multi dimensional initiation. While the external events and circumstances always vary — career shifts, relationship transformations, becoming a parent: the core invitation is always the same: alignment with the soul’s authentic path.
By this point in life, you’ve already lived through major initiations helping you clear out old conditioning and bring you into a deeper sense of personal truth. Then as you begin to move forward with new clarity, the second nodal return hits — and it often hits hard.
Comfort and discomfort of your nodal returnThis is the moment when the universe challenges you to align more fully with your true path, represented by the nodes in your astrological and human design chart. The trouble is, you may feel lost, stripped of old certainties but not yet grounded in the new. The inner voice that used to whisper encouragement now feels distant or contradictory. You sense that your old ways of being no longer work — but the new way forward feels unclear, and full of risk. A nodal return reading with me will give you clarity, direction and guidance on many layers: astrology, human design and intuitive guidance.
Fulfillment, Purpose & Careeryour nodal return human design and astrologyFor many, the Nodal Return shines a spotlight on career and purpose — not necessarily in terms of ambition, but in terms of meaning.
- Is what you’re doing making you feel alive?
- Are you creating impact in the way your heart and soul longs to?
- Is your day-to-day life congruent with your inner truth?
Often, clients begin to question work they once thought they wanted. High-achievers may realize they’ve climbed the wrong ladder. Others feel an urge to finally pursue what’s been whispering in the background for years. It’s less about productivity and more about devotion — to the work that truly lights them up.
Something that I love that astrologer Tom Jacobs shares about the nodes and transits is finding the balance between these two sentiments:
Just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean that’s all there is or that you should always do it. Just because you haven’t tried something before doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t.
Relationships, Marriage & Childrenyour nodal return human design and astrologyThe Nodal Return often stirs thoughts on:
- Who do you want beside you as you walk into this next chapter of your life?
- Are you still in a relationship out of comfort or obligation?
- Is your heart ready for the depth of love, commitment or family?
Some people divorce, not because they’ve failed, but because they’ve outgrown old soul contracts. Others meet or marry someone who reflects their evolved values. For some, the journey into motherhood or fatherhood becomes the new soul calling — often not planned logically, but felt deeply.
It’s not always dramatic; sometimes, it’s a gentle reorientation. But whether loud or quiet, the shift is defining. Relationships at this point are no longer about fixing old wounds — they’re about expanding into aligned love.
Spirituality and soul fulfilment your nodal return human design and astrologyThe Nodal Return can feel like life is gently — or forcefully — asking:
“Are you ready to live the life you were meant for?”
The illusion of youth has worn off. You’ve tested things out. Failed. Loved. Lost. Achieved. But now it’s about truth. It’s a crossing point between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.
It’s not always comfortable — but it’s a time of immense reclamation. I get chills, it’s such a pivotal passage in one’s life universally.
Your nodal return isn’t meant to be comfortable—because comfort lives in the past, in what you already know. The North Node points toward the unknown terrain your soul came here to explore. It’s not meant to feel natural at first; in fact, it often feels foreign, risky, or even wrong. But if it felt easy, what would be the point of returning to Earth at all? Growth demands friction. Your soul chose this life to stretch beyond its familiar edges, to step into something greater, more true, and more aligned—even if it shakes everything safe loose in the process.
What’s it like going through your nodal return?An analogy to understand your nodal return is that it’s not supposed to feel like home—it’s more like being dropped somewhere random with nothing but a gut feeling as your guide. Imagine your internal GPS glitching, refusing to reroute you back to comfort. That’s because it’s not leading you to safety—it’s leading you to purpose. It’s not meant to feel easy or comfortable. Growth doesn’t come from repetition. It comes when you’re asked to walk a path that stretches your spirit into something it’s never been before.
Nodal Return Human Design Astrology Intuitive Reading and GuidanceFeeling the shake-up of your nodal return? That’s your soul calling you forward—into the life you actually came here to live. If you’re ready to decode the deeper meaning behind this cosmic shift, I offer personalised nodal return readings that weave astrology, Human Design, and intuitive guidance. Let’s map out your next chapter with clarity and soul. Contact me via Instagram, email, or head to my website to book your session.
Your nodal return is not a punishment — it’s a portal. A window of time where your life starts to reorient around your deeper why. It might not feel natural at first, because soul-aligned paths rarely follow familiar scripts. But what’s waiting for you on the other side is something far more fulfilling than comfort — it’s authenticity, alignment, and meaning.
This season is big — but you don’t have to walk it alone. You know how to contact me if you’re craving guidance, clarity, direction and support.
Love & Positivity
In this powerful episode, we explore the grounding and transformative energy of the Taurus Supermoon in April 2025. Taurus in this new moon placement is known for its connection to stability, sensuality and self worth. A perfect supermoon to manifest.
Phi will guide you through the deeper meanings of the Taurus Supermoon, including its astrological aspects, its impact on your emotional and financial life and how to harness this energy with practical mindset shifts and journaling prompts for the Taurus Supermoon in 2025.
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Taurus Supermoon 2025, April new moon, new moon ritual, Taurus new moon meaning, astrology podcast, moon manifestation, spiritual self care, lunar energy April 2025, Taurus new moon journal prompts, energy update April 2025
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- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
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Taurus New Supermoon to end April 20252025 has felt like a big year — for the world, and maybe for you too. There’s been a sense of things shifting, old ways breaking down and new beginnings that don’t quite have shape yet. You’re not imagining it. There’s something in the air —an underlying push of change and to grow. At the end of this week we have the supermoon in the sign of Taurus, rising on the 27th and 28th.
Today, we’re diving into the spiritual meaning of Easter—beyond the chocolate eggs, bunnies and pastel colours and into the deep waters of rebirth and resurrection.
What is a Supermoon?It’s a supermoon because it’s closer to Earth, bigger and brighter in the sky, and energetically it offers a pause — a moment to return to what’s simple, steady, and real. Think: grounding, presence, beauty, body. Even in the chaos, this moon is a fresh start. A chance to come home to yourself.
A final call out before I dive into this episode the Flow Vietnam Retreat is happening on the 25th of May to the 31st, final spots available. If you’re interested, curious or feeling the pull – I invite you to message me and let’s chat about the retreat!
Pope Francis Taurus Supermoon April 2025Just as this moon rises, the world feels the tremble of change in more ways than one. The recent passing of Pope Francis marks more than the end of a life — it symbolises a shift in global authority, tradition, and spiritual leadership. Whether you follow the Church or not, his death touches something collective: a changing of the guard. We’re seeing it everywhere — in governments, institutions, culture. What used to hold power is dissolving. What once felt untouchable is being questioned. We’re entering a new era, and while we may not fully understand what’s coming, we can feel that something is being restructured — from the top down and the inside out.
Collective energy Taurus Supermoon April 2025This Taurus Supermoon, then, offers more than personal grounding. It’s a collective breath. A reminder that real power doesn’t come from control, status, or fear — but from values, integrity, and connection to what’s true. As the world reorients, you’re invited to do the same. To ask: Where have I given my power away? What do I want to build that lasts? What do I trust when everything else is uncertain?
So in this episode, we’re diving into the themes of this Taurus New Supermoon, how it ties into the bigger collective shifts we’re moving through — and I’ll walk you through a practical mindset map to help you realign with what matters most.
Taurus New Moon EnergyA new moon marks the start of a new lunar cycle. It’s a time to plant seeds — not just literally, but energetically. Intentions, choices, new habits, fresh perspectives.
This supermoon new moon is in Taurus — an earth sign all about grounding, value, beauty, and building something real. Think: the senses. Money. Food. Your home. Your body. What enough actually feels like. In a world that’s moving fast with authority structures shifting, traditions falling away, and uncertainty in the air — this moon is a chance to root deeper. To choose steadiness over speed. Integrity over image. Nourishment over noise.
This Taurus New Moon marks a return to solid ground after the cosmic intensity of recent weeks. It’s the first new moon in a while that isn’t part of the eclipse storyline.Where the eclipses may have stirred, shaken, and shifted, this New Moon invites you to anchor, to choose, to begin again—consciously.
Taurus New Supermoon, Mars in Leo, Neptune in Aquarius April 2025Do note though there’s still underlying tension underneath this super new moon in Taurus not because of eclipses because of the placements of Mars in Leo and Pluto in Aquarius creating a powerful internal and external dynamic.
Mars in Leo brings fiery ego, passion, and a need to be seen, while Taurus desires peace, steady pace and embodied presence. Meanwhile, Pluto in Aquarius stirs the pot with themes of deep collective change, rebellion and power shifts. The result is a cosmic tug-of-war between stability and self-expression, comfort and growth, who you’ve been and who the future is calling you to become. It might feel like your soul is gently whispering, “slow down,” while your shadow demands, “act now!”
But this isn’t a time for rash moves, it’s an invitation to ground deeply and channel your fire with intention. Listen to your body before reacting, and pause before you exert power. This moment isn’t about escaping discomfort; it’s about alchemising it into transformation.
Ready for some channelled intuitive mindset perspectives for this new moon?
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Slow is Sacred. Slow down to receive.We live in a world that glorifies speed — fast results, instant clarity, quick wins. Taurus is the opposite. It reminds us that slow doesn’t mean stuck. Slow means intentional. It’s like baking bread. The dough needs time to rise, to stretch and expand before it can become something fully formed. There’s no rushing the process. This week, allow yourself the space to rise at your own pace. Trust that things will come together when they’re meant to. You’re not falling behind—you’re just in the process.
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Your body knows the way: embodied abundanceTaurus is deeply connected to the body. This isn’t just about self-care routines — it’s about deep listening. Your body holds wisdom your mind can’t always access.
So pause and check in.
What does your body want right now?
What does it say no to — even if your mind is saying yes out of habit or fear?
Rest when you need to. Eat slowly. Walk barefoot. Stretch. Touch something soft. Your body is not just a vessel — it’s a guide. Especially when the world feels unsteady, your body is your home. Taurus teaches that abundance isn’t just money—it’s a state of being. This supermoon is an invitation to feel rich in your body, your senses, your life.
To me abundance in the body feels expansive, warm, and full. It’s a deep, effortless sense of being enough—of having everything you need, right here, right now. You feel a lightness in your chest, a gentle pulse of energy that radiates outward, your heart overflowing.
There’s a sense of being deeply rooted, grounded in the present moment, while also feeling open with space to receive more, without worry or resistance.There’s an openness in your shoulders, or a calm sense of peace, knowing that you’re supported in every way. It’s a quiet confidence, a soft hum of satisfaction that comes from within, not tied to external circumstances, but rooted in the understanding that abundance is always available to you.
- Build from value not lackThis new moon energy is about what you’re creating — and more importantly, why you’re creating it. Are you building from a place of anxiety and fear, just trying to prove or survive? Or are you creating something rooted in what you truly value — things like quality, integrity, peace, presence?
Taurus reminds us that long-term abundance comes from a deep place of alignment. It’s not about quick hits or validation. It’s about building something you believe in, even if it takes time to grow. Especially if it takes time to grow.
- Pleasure is productive and a portalWe’ve been taught that pleasure is indulgent — something you earn after working hard. But Taurus energy turns that upside down. It says: Pleasure is a form of power. Joy is a source of fuel.
When you’re connected to what feels good, you’re magnetic. You’re more alive. You make better decisions. So light the candle. Make your space beautiful. Sip your coffee slowly. Laugh with a friend. Let your senses be part of your spiritual practice. Beauty isn’t frivolous — it’s fortifying.
When you allow yourself to fully experience pleasure, you unlock a kind of energy that flows through your body and into every area of your life. It’s the soft invitation to surrender, to be present in the moment, and to receive without resistance. Pleasure doesn’t need to be earned; it’s already part of your inherent nature, waiting to be accessed. When you step into it, you step into a new way of being—more alive, more connected, and more in tune with the abundance that surrounds you.
- You can hold power gentlyThere’s a global shift happening right now — in leadership, in authority, in how power is held and this Taurus supermoon in April offers a different model. It’s not about domination or performance. It’s about steadiness. Quiet confidence. Clear boundaries. A calm nervous system. You don’t have to lead loudly to be powerful. You don’t have to be perfect to be trusted. This moon asks: Can you lead yourself first? Can you trust your own roots? Can you be a safe place for yourself, and by extension, for others? That’s real power — and it’s available to you now.
Pope Francis certainly brought a quieter, yet revolutionary style of leadership as pope. His approach to leadership is often seen as more humble and compassionate than his predecessors. He has used his position to challenge traditional Catholic teachings on various issues, such as poverty, climate change and the treatment of marginalised communities, including refugees and LGBTQ+ people.
His emphasis on mercy, dialogue, and simplicity has reshaped the image of the Catholic Church, focusing less on doctrine and more on compassion and inclusivity.
Taurus New Supermoon journla prompts April 2025Now without a do, journal prompts for the Taurus Supermoon this April
Where in your life are you craving stillness and where are you craving bold movement?
Explore the areas where your soul longs for slow, rooted presence—and where your inner fire is roaring to be expressed.
What would it mean to trust your timing more deeply than your fear?
Taurus teaches trust, while Mars and Pluto stir urgency. Get curious about what it would look like to trust the soil, not just the spotlight.
When have you mistaken control for power?
This square to Pluto invites a reflection on your relationship to power—especially the difference between force and influence, control and inner authority.
What does true self worth feel like in your body—not just your mind?Don’t think about the answer. Close your eyes. Breathe. Let yourself notice the sensations that arise when you no longer have to prove anything. Where does confidence live in you? Where does ease settle?
When was the last time you truly felt pleasure in your body?
What were you doing? How did it feel to be fully present, to be in your senses?
What is your relationship to money right now and how can you invite more abundance into your life?
Reflect on your financial mindset. How can you shift into a more abundant, trusting energy with money?
How does your body respond to routine and ritual, and what practices could deepen that connection?
Taurus thrives in consistency—what daily rituals could anchor you more deeply in your body?
Ground with the Taurus New Supermoon in April 2025As we close this episode on the Taurus Super New Moon, take a moment to reflect on the powerful energies we’ve discussed. The tension between stability and bold change is palpable, and it’s a reminder to slow down, to ground yourself in the present, and to trust the timing of your own unfolding.
Use this moon to embrace your desires and nurture your body. Trust that even in discomfort, transformation is at play. Allow yourself to pause, recalibrate and step forward in alignment with your values and heart. Let the grounding energy of Taurus remind you that you are always supported—your roots are deep, and your potential is limitless.
Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity
In this episode, we dive into the spiritual meaning of Easter through the powerful themes of resurrection, renewal, and divine timing —unpacking why the age of 33, known as the “Christ Year,” holds deep significance for purpose, transformation and soul awakening. Whether you’re approaching this age or reflecting on your own rebirth moment, we explore how this sacred milestone mirrors the journey of death and resurrection in your own life, inviting you into a new era of embodiment, purpose and a higher calling.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
The Spiritual Meaning of EasterHello! It’s been a whirlwind few weeks having been in LA, San Fran, San Jose, New York and Sedona. I’m now back in Australia. Such an interesting couple of weeks as I had a few posts go viral whilst being away and so saying hi and welcoming new listeners to the podcast and a warm welcome back for those here again!
Today, we’re diving into the spiritual meaning of Easter—beyond the chocolate eggs, bunnies and pastel colours and into the deep waters of rebirth and resurrection.
Who is Yeshua (Jesus)Let’s begin not with “Jesus” as we often hear him—but with Yeshua, as a Jewish man, mystic and teacher. Yeshua is the original Hebrew name for the man commonly known in the Western world as Jesus. He walked this earth not as a figurehead of a religion but as a deeply embodied soul, attuned to the divine.
He spoke of the Kingdom of Heaven not as a place far away, but as something within. To say “Yeshua” is to remember his humanity and his roots. It’s to see him as a spiritual teacher, perhaps even an ascended master who came to awaken love, compassion and truth in a time of oppression and fear.
So in this episode, when I say Yeshua, I’m not speaking of a distant religious icon this is whom I’m referring to.
There’s a part of this episode that feels deeply personal for me. If you’ve read my book The Great Unlearning you’ll know because I didn’t always feel safe with the word Jesus. I grew up in a Catholic environment—where God well not God but religion often felt distant, judgmental, or angry. Where faith was more about fear than freedom.
Where you had to confess your sins to be clean. Where divinity lived up there, not in here. For a long time, I associated Jesus with that fear. That shame. That sense of not being good enough. Not being pure enough. But something shifted when I began to explore Yeshua. Not the Jesus of institutions, but the Yeshua of love.
It was really initiated 2 years ago when I was in Bali, I had my first personal encounter of Yeshua energy on the night of a full moon. He appeared as a loving protector.
Easter as a Spiritual Metaphor for ResurrectionEaster marks the story of Yeshua rising from the dead but the deeper, spiritual meaning of resurrection isn’t just about one man coming back to life.
The spiritual metaphor of resurrection wasn’t just a moment in time but as a metaphor for your life.
How many times have you died and come back to life?
Think of the heartbreaks, the job losses, the versions of yourself that cracked open, shattered— and somehow, still, you rose.
Spiritually, resurrection means coming back to life—after something has ended, broken down or fallen away.
Spiritual RebirthWhen we speak of rebirth, we’re really speaking of a return to truth. A shedding of old identities, old stories and illusions that no longer serve us. Yeshua’s resurrection wasn’t only about life after death; it was also a radical statement about what it means to transcend fear, ego, and the worldly structures and conditioning that bind us. Spiritually, resurrection calls each of us into a deeper remembrance — that we are not just bodies or roles, but eternal souls capable of rising again and again. A divine soul having a human experience. This isn’t our first rodeo, one of many lives we’ve had in the journey of our soul.
When life breaks us open — through heartbreak, grief, change, or loss; there is always an invitation to be made new. Not in a way that erases the past, but in a way that honours it while allowing something greater to emerge. This is the essence of the Yeshua story: surrendering to the darkest hour, facing the cross and still choosing love. Still choosing light. Still choosing life. Spiritual resurrection is rarely clean or glamorous — it often happens in the quiet, hidden places. It asks for deep trust, for ego death, and for the courage to say, “I am willing to rise again — different, wiser and more whole.”
Every breakdown has the seed of a rebirth. In this way, resurrection isn’t about avoiding pain —it’s about letting pain transform you.
Spiritual tomb and EasterEvery Easter season (whether you follow Christianity or not) invites us to step into that symbolic tomb. To look at what needs to be released. What must die within you… so something greater can rise?
In a world that celebrates constant striving and forward motion, spiritual rebirth reminds us that sometimes the most sacred transformation happens in the pause — the in between — the tomb.
Yeshua rested in that space for three days. What if we allowed ourselves that too? Time to be still. Time to grieve what we’ve outgrown. Time to prepare for the rising. There is a holy patience in resurrection — a divine unfolding that can’t be rushed. It teaches us that spiritual power is not found in dominance or perfection, but in surrender, in humility and in the profound capacity to begin again.
Post Aries Libra Eclipse and Libra Full Moon 2025So if you’re in a season of loss, uncertainty, or inner death — especially after the ending of the Aries Libra eclipse series, the recent Libra Full Moon… this is not the end. This could be your resurrection moment. The Yeshua story isn’t about escape — it’s about embodiment. It’s about coming back into your life with renewed vision, fierce love and sacred clarity. Resurrection isn’t a one-time miracle — it’s a rhythm of the soul.
Easter is a Spiritual PortalJust as Yeshua faced his own death and rebirth, we too are being asked to rise from the ashes of old patterns and ways of relating that no longer align with who we’ve become off the back of the Aries Libra eclipse series and the Libra full moon in particular the context of relationships. We’ve outgrown certain dynamics, and that moon was the final invitation to let them go — gracefully and with deep love for what they once taught us.
Easter, at its heart, is a spiritual portal. A moment in the year that symbolises this deep rebirth.An invitation to shed old skin particularly in this year of the Snake. To trust the process of the in-between. To come back to life—clearer, lighter more aligned.
Whether or not you follow a religion, Easter can be a sacred time to ask:
- What are ready to let go of?
- What truth are you being asked to rise into?
- What would it feel like to come back to life?
On the deepest level, resurrection is about remembering who you really are.
Age 33 Astrology: Christ YearIf you follow me on Instagram you’ll know this episode was inspired today by having multiple clients connected to their Christ year. Yeshua was said to be 33 years old at the time of his crucifixion and resurrection.
Whether you believe that literally or symbolically, the Christ Year—your 33rd year of life—is often seen as a spiritual initiation. A time when the soul is called to deeper service, deeper truth and deeper surrender.
If you’re around that age—or reflecting on it—ask yourself:
– What parts of you are being asked to die?
– Where are you being called to rise?
– How are you being prepared to lead, to love, to live from the soul?
Because the Christ energy isn’t reserved for saints and prophets—it lives in all of us. In our pain, in our power, in our willingness to walk through the fire and come out gold.
Being 33 in your Christ Year and PurposeThe Christ Year asks: are you ready to walk with purpose, no matter the cost? At 33, you may experience initiations—career changes, endings, awakenings, or even a quiet unraveling or unlearning of who you thought you had to be. These are not punishments; they are invitations to come home to your truth.
This is not about perfection—it’s about devotion. Not in devotion to a religion or a figurehead, but to you. To your soul. To the divine spark within you that’s always known who you are and what you came here to do. It’s a year of radical self-honouring, of choosing to walk with unwavering devotion to your truth.
Not perfection. Not pressure. But presence.
This is about letting your life become the altar — where your choices, your boundaries, your joy, your rest, your becoming… all become sacred. What if this year wasn’t about proving anything to the world, but about returning home to your own divinity?
That’s what we’re leaning into.
The Christ Year is a sacred turning point. You’re not expected to have it all figured out, but you are being asked to listen more closely to your inner knowing. To stop chasing approval and start answering the call that’s been quietly whispering inside you for years. It may not look glamorous or make sense to others but when you say yes to that deeper call—when you allow yourself to be used in service of something bigger—resurrection becomes real. Not as a myth, but as the moment you finally choose to live as your whole, holy self.
Rebirth Transformation Life CoachingIf this conversation stirred something in you—if you’re feeling the pull toward your own resurrection, your own rising—know this:You don’t have to do it alone.
This is the deep work I do with my 1:1 clients. Together, we walk through the fire of transformation.
We shed the old layers, the identities that no longer fit. We get honest, courageous, and wildly devoted to who you’re here to be. Because rebirth isn’t just a spiritual idea—it’s a lived experience.
Yes… I am a Scorpio after all. Transformation is kind of my love language.
So if your soul is whispering “it’s time”, I invite you to reach out. Let’s make this your year. Your comeback. Your becoming. The link to work with me 1:1 is in the show notes or checkout my instagram @thephidang and website phidang.com
Let’s rise. Happy Easter Beautiful Soul. Until next time love & positivity.
In this episode, Phi speaks with Meg Formica, a functional nutritionist who specialises in evidence-based approaches to gut health, food sensitivities, women’s health, and mental wellness. She shares how her personal health journey led her to discover the profound impact of nutrition and how she now helps others harness food as medicine. Tune in for actionable tips and a fresh perspective on how what you eat influences how you feel—inside and out.
Resources from today’s episodeConnect with Meg
The Nourishing Nutritionist Website
On Instagram
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Meg Formica – The Nourishing NutritionistWe talk: Nourishing Your Mind & Body with Functional and Holistic Nutrition
Meg and I dive into the powerful connection between mental health, nutrition and the body, exploring why IBS is often just a symptom rather than a root cause. We also discuss blood sugar balance, practical plate portion hacks and simple yet effective ways to support your overall well being through food.
We dive into the powerful connection between mental health, nutrition and the body, exploring why IBS is often just a symptom rather than a root cause. We also discuss blood sugar balance, practical plate portion hacks and simple yet effective ways to support your overall well being through food.
What if food wasn’t something to restrict, control or stress over—but a tool for deep nourishment and healing? In this episode, we reframe the way you think about nutrition, shifting from rules and rigidity to seeing food as fuel, support and self-care. To move beyond fear-based eating and into a mindset of empowerment, where every meal is an opportunity to nourish your body and mind.
We also explore the connection between what’s on your plate and your nervous system. How does food impact your ability to regulate stress, feel calm, and support your mental well-being? From blood sugar balance to the vagus nerve’s role in digestion and relaxation, we unpack how what you eat directly influences your body’s ability to shift between fight-or-flight and deep rest: really as they say to be in rest and digest.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the idea of eating “perfectly,” this conversation is for you. True health isn’t about rigid rules—it’s about sustainability, self-compassion, and making choices that feel good long-term. We approach wellness with love rather than pressure, this episode with Meg offers a fresh, uplifting take on nutrition. Tune in and discover how intentional shifts can transform the way you feel.
In this episode, we dive deep into the cosmic shift as Neptune moves into Aries, igniting a collective call to merge intuition with bold action. Neptune: the planet of dreams, illusions and spirituality, enters Aries — a fiery sign of taking action and individuality.
We explore the key themes of this transit — trusting intuitive impulses, navigating uncertainty and redefining boundaries where imagination meets initiative. You’ll gain insights into how Neptune’s influence can blur the lines between vision and reality, and how Aries energy can empower you to move through that fog with decisive clarity.
Expect practical tips on grounding yourself when spiritual idealism feels overwhelming, learning to discern between impulsive action and divinely guided steps and staying aligned with your authentic desires without losing yourself in illusion. Whether you’re seeking to step into leadership, birth a creative project or simply feel more connected to your path, this episode offers reflections to help you navigate this transformative cycle with courage.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Neptune enters Aries in 2025 (never seen before in this lifetime!)Hello my love, coming to you live as I am currently in America during this eclipse with Neptune in Aries feels almost like stepping into a dream. LA’s energy is electric, full of freedom and possibility, and it’s been such a blast. But what really gets me is watching my inner child experience it all—seeing life the little things whole new layer of magic to everything. There’s this sense of adventure in the air, and I’m soaking it all in, embracing the chaos and beauty of it all.
This conversation has been inspired by the receptivity into what’s going on collectively at the moment.
Neptune, as an influence — is all about dreams, intuition, and the unseen. It’s the planet that rules our spiritual connection and the places where we lose ourselves in creativity and imagination. Aries, on the other hand, is bold, fiery, and pioneering—it’s all about action, courage, and new beginnings. So when Neptune moves through Aries, it creates a unique meeting between dreamy idealism with a spark of impulsive energy.
Neptune in Aries will occur from 2025 to 2039 after which Neptune will enter Taurus from 2038. Do note it will have a retrograde period around July later this year.
In this episode, we’ll explore what happens when these two forces collide, and how this transit can influence not just your dreams but your approach to taking action on them. It can be jarring after all the contrast of the signs.
What is the effect of Neptune? What is Neptune’s energy like?When we tune into Neptune’s energy in the highest expression, we tap into a deeper part of ourselves—our intuitive wisdom, our psychic abilities and our spiritual essence. Neptune guides us to transcend the material world, offering us a direct link to the vast collective consciousness. As Neptune enhances your sensitivity to the unseen forces, it deepens your understanding of the world beyond the physical realm, opening the door to clearer insights and intuitive understanding.
As you walk this spiritual path with Neptune, you may find that your intuition sharpens, but so too can your susceptibility to fantasy or idealism. Neptune teaches you to navigate the space between illusion and clarity, showing you the bigger picture over time.
Neptune is most commonly associated with illusion, delusion, and confusion in astrology and energy systems like Human Design. It is linked to the concept of dissolving boundaries and can blur the line between reality and fantasy. When Neptune’s energy is at play, people may experience heightened sensitivity, creativity, and spiritual connection, but they might also struggle with seeing things clearly or becoming disoriented. Make decisions grounded in reality, use your discernment.
Neptune is like walking through a fogNeptune, as an analogy, can be compared to walking through a fog.
Imagine you’re walking through a dense fog. The world around you looks blurry and distant. You might have a vague sense of direction, but you can’t clearly see where you’re going. The fog distorts your perception, making objects appear closer than they actually are, or perhaps further away than they seem. Sometimes, you might even feel like you’re heading in the right direction, but the path is unclear and uncertain.
This is much like Neptune’s influence in life: it blurs the lines between reality and illusion. It can create a sense of confusion, where we might be convinced of something that isn’t truly there, or we may have an idealised vision of reality that doesn’t align with what’s real. You might think you’re on the right path, but the fog distorts your sense of clarity.
Just as in the fog, you need to wait for the mist to clear, ground yourself, and trust your instincts to move forward. Neptune teaches us that while illusions may feel real in the moment, with time and patience, clarity will return. The key is not to get too lost in the fog, but to understand that it’s temporary—and once it lifts, your true path will emerge clearly.
Neptune = blurry boundariesNeptune also has a bit of a blurry effect when it comes to boundaries. Its energy can dissolve the lines that separate us from others. While this can be beautiful in the sense of creating deep connections or tapping into a collective consciousness, it can also make it difficult to know where you end and someone else begins. This lack of clear boundaries can lead to feeling overwhelmed by other people’s emotions, taking on their energy, or letting your own needs be overlooked.
When Neptune’s influence is strong and you’re not consciously aware of its power, you may find yourself being too accommodating or, on the flip side, feeling overly responsible for others. It’s like your sense of personal space and limits can become foggy, making it hard to say ‘no,’ prioritise your own well-being, or keep a healthy distance from people who drain you. This is why Neptune is often associated with the need for self-awareness and grounding practices, so you don’t get lost in the waves of emotion or escape into idealised versions of reality.
Neptune in Aries shift from collective to I consciousnessI mentioned previously in another podcast episode that the last time Neptune was in Aries there was the civil rights movement in America.
This shift aligns with what astrology and human design seeing coming as a big thing – 2027 a notable shift in collective consciousness. Neptune moves from Pisces to Aries where given astrologic patterns we are going from we to collective but distinct individual “I” energy, what makes you different. Sovereignty. Reclaiming autonomy.
Aries, ruled by Mars, is about assertion, individuality, and action. Aries does not blur boundaries; it defines them. It is the first sign of the zodiac, representing the beginning—the self, the individual, and the freedom and liberty that comes with it.
Sovereignty under Neptune in Aries is about taking back ownership of your life. It’s no longer about being swept along by collective ideals or following the expectations of others. This energy supports asserting your independence—in how you think, act, and make decisions. It’s an invitation to stop outsourcing your authority to others and to reclaim it within yourself.
There’s a sense of urgency in this energy—an impulse to take action now, to stop overthinking, and to move with the flow of inspiration. The Aries fire demands movement, and Neptune’s dreams translate into tangible actions when aligned with your true purpose. It’s not about waiting for the “perfect” moment or for everything to make sense; it’s about trusting that the pieces will fall into place once you begin to act on your own vision.
Neptune in Aries is like waking up from a dreamSince 2011 we have collectively been in Neptune in Pisces as the deep, dream-like state of meditation. In this space, you’re connected to everything and nothing, floating in a serene, boundless sea of awareness. There’s no clear boundary between you and the world around you. Your thoughts and feelings melt into one, and you feel infinite—almost like you’re suspended in a peaceful trance of spiritual oneness, exploring the mysteries of existence without a need for action or clarity.
The shift from Neptune in Aries is like waking up from that deep meditation and suddenly feeling the rush of energy to move. You’re no longer floating in a timeless, dreamy space; you’re back in the present moment, and there’s an immediate urge to act on the insights you received. There’s no time for lingering; Aries energy is all about instinctive action, bold steps, and pioneering movement. You feel a burst of vitality, a need to assert yourself, and to take what you learned from the dream-like state of Pisces and apply it with courage and determination in the real world.
In essence, Neptune in Pisces is like floating in a vast, limitless ocean, full of mystery and connection, while Neptune in Aries is making moves, going deeper, taking action.
Indulge in your Impulse – caveat: But with IntentionMy tips for navigating this transit?
Aries doesn’t hesitate, and Neptune encourages you to act on your whims—but with a deep understanding that those impulses are a sign of something bigger trying to emerge. It’s about moving fast but not mindlessly. Allow space for spontaneity, but be intentional with where it’s leading you.
Think about the last spontaneous decision you made. Was it exciting? Scary? Write about how you felt in the moment. Is there something now that you feel an urge to do, but you’re holding back? Explore what might happen if you just go for it. Explore the steps to it, a step towards it or what does a leap look like?
Ground before actingIt’s important to stay grounded to ensure your actions align with your true desires. This can be a tricky balance, but grounding practices can help you tap into your inner knowing before making big decisions. Before taking any bold action or making a quick decision, spend five minutes doing a grounding practice. It could be deep breathing, placing your hands on your heart, or walking barefoot outside. After grounding, ask yourself: “Does this action feel aligned with my truth?” If yes, proceed. If not, take a moment to recalibrate your decision.
The impulse journalAs you can see this Neptune in Aries transit, the line between impulse and intuition can blur. A great way to harness this energy is by observing your impulses and reflecting on them. The key here is not to act on everything immediately, but to track and observe your emotional landscape.
- Exercise:
Start an “Impulse Journal.” Each day, write down your spontaneous thoughts or impulses (big or small). Then, at the end of the week, go back and read through them. Are there any patterns? Which of these impulses felt like pure intuition, and which ones were more fear-driven? Reflect on how you can use this awareness to help guide future actions.
As we navigate Neptune in Aries, remember that this transit is a powerful invitation to claim your sovereignty and step fully into your personal power. It’s about trusting your inner wisdom, acting with grounded confidence, and discerning what aligns with your true self. Let this energy empower you to make bold moves, but always with clarity and purpose. Trust that you have everything you need to create the life you desire.”
Summary Aries in NeptuneIf you’re ready to dive deeper into your personal growth and take bold action in a supportive, empowering space, I’d love to invite you to join me in 1:1 coaching, a human design reading and or on one of my upcoming retreats. Whether you’re looking to reconnect with your feminine energy or step into your next level of growth, these retreats are designed to help you align with your true self and unlock your potential. Check the link in the show notes to learn more and secure your spot! Vietnam is coming up quickly at the end of May, 3 spots remain and only 1 room remains for Bali August 4th to 9th.
Until next time love and positivity.
As the Aries-Libra eclipse cycle comes to a close, this episode dives into the themes of endings, integration, and rebirth. Through journal prompts, channeled messages, we explore the raw wisdom of rewilding the feminine and balancing the masculine —where independence meets devotion, where fire softens into flow. You’ll be guided through reflective prompts to honour what’s completing, embrace the power dynamics shifting within you, and step into your next chapter with clarity and trust. If you’re feeling the pull to redefine relationships—both with yourself and others—this episode is for you.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Emotionally navigating the eclipse season March 2025Hello my love, so let me just say it the last few weeks have been something alright. As you’re listening to this it’s pre recorded because I am currently in the city of angels Los Angeles. If you’ve been feeling off, sensitive or in the ringer so to speak it thankfully it ain’t just you honey, I feel your pain.
I’ve always been someone who emotionally processes my feelings, especially with my emotional authority in Human Design and my water placements, which guide me to feel deeply and reflect before responding. I’m used to working through my emotions internally, allowing myself time to feel and then release.
But this eclipse, the Virgo one last Friday, caught me completely off guard. Instead of my usual emotional release, I found myself physically processing in a way I’d never experienced before. I woke up to rashes erupting all over my body, a full-blown physical manifestation of processing, discomfort, and overwhelm.
Physical vs emotional processing eclipse seasonIt felt like my body was communicating in a way I wasn’t expecting, forcing me to slow down and pay attention to what I’d been pushing aside. The reality of the time line approaching? The raises starting a week before a long haul flight LA the timing couldn’t have been more intense. I’ve always trusted that the universe has a way of showing us what we need to see, but this felt like a big, physical reminder to listen to my body in a new way. It was almost as though my body was saying, “Hey, it’s time to process everything—not just emotionally, but physically too.”
This unexpected physical eruption further cemented how deeply our bodies are intertwined with our emotions and how sometimes we can’t bypass what needs to be released. I’m understanding myself more that while I’ve often relied on my emotional authority to guide me, there’s also wisdom in tuning into the physical cues my body gives me.
I feel like this year I have experienced myself and held space for clients with more skin issues than usual. The skin, IS the body’s largest organ, holds deep spiritual significance, acting as a physical boundary between the inner and outer worlds.
Spiritual meaning of skinThe skin isn’t separated, it’s one, hence my rashes started flaring on my face and are also on my legs the next day you know?
It is not just a protective layer; it is a reflective surface that reveals our emotional and spiritual health. When the skin undergoes a detox process, whether through physical symptoms like rashes or through practices like sweating or exfoliating, it is often a sign that old, stagnant energy is being released. Spiritually, detoxing through the skin signifies shedding emotional baggage, past traumas, or accumulated stress that no longer serves the body or spirit. It’s a way of allowing new, fresh energy to enter, just as the body sheds old skin cells to make room for new growth.
Spiritually, the skin can also symbolise how one interacts with the world—how deeply someone absorbs or blocks external influences. When the skin reacts to toxins, it’s often a reminder to pay attention to what is being taken in, whether emotionally, mentally, or physically. If there is a build-up of toxic relationships, negative thoughts, or environments that aren’t aligned with one’s true essence, the skin can serve as a warning or a means of release. Detoxing, then, isn’t just about cleansing the body; it’s a deeper call to clear away energies that don’t support our highest good and to create a more harmonious relationship with the world around us.
The skin has its own intelligence, revealing truths that may otherwise go unnoticed. When issues arise on the skin’s surface, it often reflects the state of the inner self. A spiritual cleanse can manifest through skin detoxification as the body asks for attention, care, and love. By honouring the skin as an organ of both protection and expression, the process of detoxing can be an invitation to reconnect with one’s essence, aligning physical care with spiritual renewal.
“The Skin is the Project Manager” – Telan WadeMy beautiful friend Telan who’s a healer says the skin is the project manager of the body and reminded me that we are in the year of the snake – shedding!
What else has unexpectedly happened during this eclipse? Look to the global collective especially what’s happening with conflict restarting, stranded Astronauts returning home.
Significance of final eclipse Aries March 2025As we approach the final Aries solar eclipse in this series, we’re closing a chapter that’s been all about finding balance between our personal desires and the needs of others. Over the past two years, this eclipse series has pushed us to step into our power, challenge the parts of us that were too afraid to shine, and fiercely claim our place in the world. It’s been about standing tall as individuals while navigating the art of connection and compromise with others. And now, as we reach the end of this cycle, it’s time to reflect: how have you shown up for yourself in these last two years? Have you been truly living in your authentic truth?
This Aries solar eclipse is like a final, empowering call to action—an invitation to take bold steps toward your future. Aries, as the sign of initiation and courage, is urging you to trust in your ability to act decisively and fearlessly. It’s about stepping into the unknown, letting go of the fear that holds you back, and embracing your inner strength. If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to start something new, make a shift, or finally release what’s no longer serving you, this is it. The universe is asking you to seize the moment and trust that you have everything you need within you to make your next move.
A significant ending and beginning with the Aries Solar Eclipse March 2025For many of us, this eclipse brings a sense of closure, but also a new beginning—a chance to finally put into practice the lessons we’ve learned about asserting our needs and honouring our independence. It’s the final push to step away from people-pleasing, from shrinking ourselves to fit into spaces that no longer serve us. This is the moment to rise up with confidence, knowing that what you’re creating now will set the stage for the next chapter of your life. Trust that this eclipse is not just an ending, but a beautiful opportunity to become the most powerful, authentic version of yourself, aligned with your deepest desires and purpose.
After this powerful Aries solar eclipse, the intensity that has marked the Aries-Libra eclipse series will begin to ease up. Eclipses bring big, transformative energy, often pushing us to face deep truths and make major shifts. While the energy of this last eclipse is undeniably powerful, it’s also a moment of release and closure, which means things will start to feel lighter. The emotional intensity that we’ve been navigating may start to calm down, giving us space to breathe and reflect.
Post eclipse March 2025 after Aries LibraWhile things may feel less intense, it’s not an invitation to be complacent. Instead, this time brings the freedom to move forward with a sense of clarity and confidence, knowing that we’ve been through the fire and come out stronger. Spiritually, it’s a chance to take the lessons we’ve learned and ground them into reality, bringing more peace and alignment into our daily lives. So, yes, while the energy may feel lighter, it’s a quiet, steady momentum forward—more nurturing than chaotic, but no less transformative.
Aries Solar Eclipse – Fire meets Water 2025-2027 Pisces North NodeLiterally as I am speaking and channeling I see a vision of a wildfire meeting the ocean. The Aries North Node calls you to blaze forward—bold, fierce, unapologetic. You’re here to claim your desires, to make moves with instinct, without hesitation. But your South Node in Libra has kept you balancing scales for lifetimes, looking to others before making a move, questioning your own impulses, softening your fire for the sake of peace.
Now, the call is different. Aries demands sovereignty. No more waiting for permission. No more diluting your truth. You are the fire that ignites the path ahead.
But what happens when fire meets water? Water being the new north node in Pisces from 2025 to 2027.
If you try to control it, it sputters, resists, and drowns in the depths of doubt. But if you surrender to the alchemy, something sacred emerges—steam. Movement. Flow. Transformation.
This is your path. You are learning to trust the fire of your own soul while softening into divine surrender. It’s not about charging ahead recklessly, nor is it about dissolving completely. It’s about knowing when to lead and when to let go. It’s about passion infused with wisdom, action guided by intuition.
Your spiritual growth is in embracing the fire of Aries while learning the dance of Pisces—moving with purpose but surrendering to the greater current. Trusting that your boldest leaps are divinely guided. Trusting that your path unfolds not by force, but by faith. Very much the feelings of balancing the divine masculine and divine feminine within yourself. Chills.
This is where you become unstoppable. Not because you dominate, but because you no longer resist your own becoming.
What if the next step isn’t force… but faith?What happens when your next step isn’t about force, but faith? When life calls you not to charge forward, but to surrender?
This is the shift your soul is making with Pisces North Node. It’s not about losing your independence or dimming your fire—it’s about expanding your confidence beyond just yourself. Aries trusts its own will; Pisces trusts the will of the universe. Aries moves because it knows it can; Pisces moves because it knows it’s held. The contrast is striking, but the essence is the same. Both energies require courage—one to act despite fear, the other to trust despite uncertainty. You are learning that not everything needs to be conquered, some things must be allowed.
Your spiritual evolution is in merging these truths. You don’t have to push so hard when you remember that unseen forces are working with you. Your fire doesn’t die in the water—it transforms, becoming something greater than just your own strength. It becomes trust, intuition, surrender. When you stop trying to control every outcome and instead walk with faith, your path unfolds in ways even your boldest Aries heart couldn’t have imagined.
Chiron in Aries March 2025Do take note a few other things are happening with Aries as I mentioned Neptune in Aries a few poddy eps ago (big collective shifts) and in the background since 2018 Chiron has been in Aries collectively and will be until 2026 fully leave in 2027 (because the next Chiron sign will be in Taurus).
Chiron in Aries brings a powerful lesson about healing the wounds around your identity and finding the courage to show up fully as yourself. Aries is all about action, independence, and owning your space, but with Chiron, there’s often a deeper wound about feeling unworthy or unable to assert yourself. This energy challenges you to face the fear of not being good enough or being judged when you step into your personal power. The real work is in owning who you are, without apologising, and recognising that your unique self has something of value to offer.
This time calls you to stop holding back. Chiron in Aries asks you to stop hiding behind the mask of what others expect and to embrace your vulnerability as your strength. It’s about leaning into the discomfort and saying, “This is me—take it or leave it.” Through this, you heal not by shutting down or withdrawing, but by being visible and authentic, even when it feels risky. True courage isn’t about the absence of fear; it’s about pushing through it and showing up in a way that feels aligned with your true self.
The big takeaway here is that power isn’t just about being bold or brash—it’s about finding the confidence to act from a place of authenticity, even if that feels difficult at first. The word coming through is also to be unapologetic about it.
Chiron in Aries teaches us that it’s time to stop doubting your right to be seen, heard, and respected. When you heal these wounds, you step into a life that’s authentically yours, leading with confidence and courage—not because you’ve eradicated fear, but because you’ve learned to move with it.
To call it out further a few snippets of Chiron in Aries lessons:
Chiron in Aries: Breaking Free from the Fear of Rejection
With Chiron in Aries, you’re called to overcome the fear of rejection and own your individuality, understanding that your uniqueness is what makes you powerful.
Chiron in Aries: Owning Your Voice
Chiron in Aries asks you to finally speak your truth, healing the wound of silencing yourself and showing you that your voice matters and is worth being heard.
Chiron in Aries: Healing the Battle Within
Chiron in Aries encourages you to stop fighting against yourself, guiding you to make peace with your inner conflicts and become your own greatest ally.
Rewiliding the divine feminine energy within and balancing it with the masculine Before I share some journal prompts when channeling a message for anyone listening to this podcast three things came up: masculine, wild and family.
I really get this sense of reclamation – being the captain of your own ship—when you’re constantly trying to please everyone else or sacrificing your own needs, you lose control of the wheel. But when you learn to prioritise yourself, you can steer in the direction that aligns with your true desires and purpose. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary for navigating your life with clarity, confidence, and strength.
Another analogy is that of a fire: Imagine your energy as a flame—when you keep giving it away to others or neglecting your own needs, the flame dims, and the fire risks burning out. But when you care for it, stoke it with your passions, and shield it from external distractions, the fire grows brighter and stronger. This powerful, nourishing flame fuels your actions and decisions, giving you the energy to pursue what you truly want in life without guilt or hesitation.
Lastly, think of yourself as a well—if you constantly pour into others and never refill your own reserves, you eventually run dry. Putting yourself first is about ensuring that your well is replenished, so you have the resources—emotional, mental, and physical—to give from a place of abundance.
It feels like it’s time to reconnect with the wild, raw power that lives within you. Deep within your bones is a primal energy that has been passed down through generations of fierce, resilient women who stood strong in the face of challenges. This power is untamed, unfiltered, and unapologetic. It’s the force that once ran wild through the forests and rivers, that danced in the moonlight, and that trusted the Earth beneath its feet. This power is yours to claim, just as it was theirs. It is not bound by rules or expectations—only by the deep knowing of your own worth and the strength that flows through you.
You are meant to rise, unapologetic in your truth. To stop hiding your brilliance and your power. This journey back to your wild self is not about becoming something you’re not, but about shedding the layers of conditioning and fear that have kept you from fully embracing who you’ve always been. Your wildness is your strength, your intuition, and your ability to navigate life with grace and fierceness. It’s about being bold in your choices, trusting your instincts, and acting with purpose. It’s about giving yourself permission to be messy, real, and whole in all your beauty.
Reclaim your power, and honor the ancestors who lived fiercely and freely. Tap into the rhythms of the Earth and listen to the wisdom of the land, the moon, and the stars. Your wildness is sacred—don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. It’s time to stop asking for permission and start living as the fierce, unstoppable woman you are meant to be.
Aries Solar Eclipse March 2025 Journaling PromptsJournaling prompts to wrap up the Aries Libra eclipse series.
Reflect on what was going on in your life with these time periods:
April 2023
October 2023
March 2024
April 2024
October 2024
May 2025
In particular see how life has changed since the first portal April 2023 vs now, and reflect to around September last year where there were energies linked to this particular Aries eclipse.
Self-empowerment vs. Relationships: How has the balance between asserting your individuality and honouring your relationships shifted over the past two years? Have there been times where compromise took too much of your energy or where standing firm became necessary?
Courage & Action: Reflect on the areas where courage has led you to take bold steps. What fears held you back from moving forward in other areas, and what was learned from those moments of hesitation?
Personal Growth: Consider how self-awareness, confidence, and independence have evolved during this period. What significant changes or breakthroughs have emerged, and what lessons have been the most impactful?
Emotional Boundaries: How have emotional boundaries shifted in relationships? Has there been a newfound ability to create a healthier balance between caring for others and protecting your own energy?
Letting Go: As this eclipse cycle comes to a close, what is ready to be released? What old patterns, beliefs, or relationships no longer serve your highest good and are now ready to be left behind?
Power Dynamics: Reflect on how power dynamics have influenced relationships. Have there been moments of feeling empowered or disempowered, and what has been learned about reclaiming personal power moving forward?
Authentic Self-expression: Has there been full expression of who you truly are, or have parts of your authentic self been hidden away? What steps can be taken to show up more fully and authentically in every aspect of life?
Reflection on Love and Partnership: How has the approach to love and partnership transformed? Has there been space for harmonious connections while still maintaining individuality and personal integrity?
The Future: What vision is emerging for the next phase of life? What small steps can be taken to align more deeply with purpose and potential as this chapter closes and a new one begins?
Wrapping up Aries Libra Eclipse 2023-2025So as you walk this path, remember—your Aries fire is not meant to burn alone, nor is it meant to be extinguished. It’s learning to dance with something greater. You are shifting from self-reliance to divine trust, from force to flow, from control to co-creation. The balance of Aries and Libra, fire and water, masculine and feminine, is not about choosing one over the other—it’s about channeling both. Knowing when to lead, when to surrender. When to speak, when to listen. When to push forward, and when to allow yourself to be carried. This is the alchemy of your soul’s evolution. You are not losing yourself—you are expanding beyond what you thought you had to be. Trust the fire. Trust the water. Trust the unfolding.
Before we go quickly touching base a reminder limited spaces remain and are closing for the Vietnam flow luxury feminine energy retreat May 25-31. Limited spaces also remain for the Bali Retreats August 4-9, September 29-October 4 is if you’re interested get in touch. 1:1 spaces available and human design readings from mid April though DM me to get in earlier.
Until next time beautiful soul love & positivity
In this episode, Phi chats with Nelly Kalla, with a Functional Nutritionist, Herbalist and Holistic Health Coach who took her healing into her own hands after struggling with psoriasis. We explore the deep connection between gut health, genetics, and emotional well-being—unpacking how childhood environment, parental influence and even the womb experience shape our long-term health. Nelly also speaks about her experience running a product and service based business too. If you’re ready to rethink what healing looks like, this episode is packed with wisdom you won’t want to miss.
Resources from today’s episodeConnect with Nelly
Nelly’s Instagram
Vital Alchemy
IRRESISTIBLE by nelly (clean skin and make up products)
Phi’s Podcast episode with Nelly on her podcast Be Well with Nel
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Nella Kalla – Vital Alchemy, By NellyIn this episode, Phi speaks Nelly Kalla – a Functional Nutritionist, Herbalist, and Holistic Health Coach who took her healing into her own hands after a journey with psoriasis and liver issues. She shares how these conditions were not just physical but deeply tied to emotional wounds—especially anger and a lack of security from childhood. We explore how the environment we are born into, along with the role of our parents and even our genetic gut biome, shapes our health from the very beginning.
She shares why gut healing is often about simplicity—doing less rather than overloading the body with excessive supplements or diets. We also discuss common digestive issues, like bloating, and how to support the body in a way that actually works, rather than following trends that may not be effective for everyone. With so much conflicting advice on social media, she helps break down myths around self-diagnosing and the overwhelming flood of health trends that often cause more confusion than clarity.
Beyond gut health, we explore the unseen toxins that impact our well-being—from environmental chemicals to everyday beauty products. Nelly started her product business as a teenager whilst having her own YouTube channel: a 100% clean, chemical-free approach to beauty and skincare. She explains why what we put on our bodies is just as important as what we put in them, and how detoxing from harmful products can be a key part of overall health.
Throughout her years running her own business, Nelly also shares what it’s like to build a career in holistic wellness—balancing education, entrepreneurship and personal healing. Whether you’re curious about holistic nutrition, gut health, emotional well-being, or how to navigate the wellness world with discernment, this episode is packed with insight. If you’re ready to take your healing into your own hands and approach health from a truly holistic perspective, this conversation is one you won’t want to miss.
Be Well with Nel – Phi Dang – The Roadmap to Living Your Best LifeNelly and Phi talk all things life, spirituality & human design! We explore what human design actually is and how you can gain some clarity looking into your own chart and so many other juicy topics like Saturn returns and what to expect collectively over the next few years.
In this episode, we step into the energy of the Virgo Full Moon Eclipse, a portal of powerful purification, and quiet revelation. Rather than approaching Virgo through the lens of mere discipline and details, we channel its Buddhic essence—the energy of refined awareness, sacred service, and the devotion to embodying wisdom in the smallest of earthly acts.
This eclipse asks: How does mindfulness translate into tangible reality? Where does sacred order arise within the seeming chaos of life? How do we surrender not to perfection, but to the flow of intelligent design already at play?
Through Phi’s channeled perspective, we explore Virgo as a vessel for enlightened action, where spirituality isn’t separate from daily life but infused into love and choices. Expect insights on:
- The Buddhic mind – cultivating a spacious awareness amidst the shifting tides of this eclipse.
- Releasing over-identification – detaching from the illusion of control while still honouring deep devotion to your path.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
The current energy in March 2025: Venus Retrograde, Virgo Full Moon and EclipseHello my love,
Welcome back to the Grow Through it Podcast. If the cosmic games haven’t already started for you with Venus Retrograde and all things love, money and relationships at the end of this week on the 14th we have the Virgo full moon which happens to also be a lunar eclipse too. If you’re keep tracking since my energy update for March 2025 you’ll know this is the week before the official new astrological year in Aries kicking off on the 20th.
It’s very much the energy of letting go to do with Virgo, the collective karma at the moment. Virgo is associated with perfectionism, structure, routine, service, and discernment, this eclipse highlights areas where you may need to let go of rigid control, over-analysis or self-criticism.
Virgo Full Moon Eclipse – Channelled Intuitive MessageIt makes a lot of sense when I channeled the upcoming energy I saw the taming of the mind – as if you were training your dog or puppy you know? Off the back of it what comes through is energy of a buddhic nature.
One of my good friends recently got a puppy so I don’t know if that’s why it’s connected but I’m going to roll with it. Taming the mind is much like training a puppy. At first, it wanders freely, chasing every impulse, barking at shadows and reacting instinctively to every noise. It pulls you in different directions, darting between excitement, fear, distraction and restlessness. But just as a dog learns discipline through patience and consistency, so too can the mind be gently guided toward stillness and focus.
Imagine your thoughts as an unruly puppy—full of energy, curious, and easily led astray. You wouldn’t scold it harshly for its nature, but instead, you would redirect it with kindness and clarity. When it gets distracted, you bring it back. When it tugs toward anxiety, you soothe it. Over time, with repetition, it learns to stay present, to trust in the steady rhythm of your breath, and to sit in quiet without needing constant movement.
Like a well-trained pet, a tamed mind becomes an ally rather than an obstacle. It no longer jumps at every passing thought or reacts to every external trigger. Instead, it learns to wait, observe, and act only when truly necessary. This is not about suppression or control, but about cultivating a relationship built on trust. The mind, when guided with patience and care, can become a source of peace rather than chaos—loyal, steady, and always by your side.
Buddhist Perspective Taming the Mind – Monkey MindFrom a Buddhist mindfulness perspective, taming the mind is a lifelong practice of awareness, discipline, and compassion. The mind, like a wild animal, is naturally restless, seeking pleasure, avoiding pain and constantly wandering between past regrets and future anxieties. The goal is not to forcefully control or suppress it but to gently train it, much like a monk might train an ox or a horse—with patience, consistency, and wisdom.
One of the most well-known Buddhist metaphors for the untamed mind is the “monkey mind”—a mind that leaps from thought to thought, restless and easily distracted. Through meditation and mindfulness, one learns to observe this monkey without attachment, neither chasing after pleasant thoughts nor resisting unpleasant ones. Instead of reacting impulsively, a trained mind is all for equality, recognising thoughts as passing clouds rather than ultimate truths. Thus one of my favourite sayings: not my monkeys, not my circus.
The mind and discplineThe Buddha taught that the mind, when left unchecked, creates suffering through craving, aversion, and ignorance. However when tamed through right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration, it becomes a tool for liberation. A disciplined mind can remain steady amidst life’s challenges, free from reactivity and rooted in deep inner peace. In this way, taming the mind is not just about control but about cultivating wisdom, compassion, and a profound sense of freedom.
Devotion as loveI love how things connect and weave because I recently posted on Instagram – What if discipline was an act of devotion – that reframe. Discipline has often been framed as something harsh, something that requires relentless willpower, restriction and forcing yourself to do things even when you don’t want to.This mindset creates burnout, resentment and a disconnection from your deeper why… your purpose.
The Unlearning: True consistency comes from love, not rigid self-punishment. When you shift from force to devotion, everything changes.
Devotion is fuelled by purpose, by the deep knowing that you want to show up—not because you have to, but because you get to. The most sustainable discipline is the kind that honours your rhythms and is rooted in care rather than control. Discipline, at its core, is an act of devotion. It is the daily return to what matters, the quiet commitment to something greater than fleeting comfort or passing moods. When you shift your perspective from seeing discipline as restriction to viewing it as devotion, it transforms from a burden into a sacred practice.
When discipline is rooted in love, it stops feeling like a chore and starts feeling like a sacred commitment to your own well being. And that shift changes everything.
Eclipses 2025 and mutable astrology signsThe eclipses heavily affect those with well of course Virgo in their sign, Pisces being the north node and the other two mutable signs of astrology: Sagittarius and Gemini the shape shifters, these signs are fluid in their expression – in your natural highest nature you’re able to adapt easily, of with the flow, roll with the punches.
March 2025 Worm Full Moon EclipseThis particular full moon and eclipse in Virgo is known as the Worm Moon the traditional name for the full moon that occurs in March, marking the transition from winter to spring in the Northern Hemisphere.
The Worm Moon signifies the time when the ground begins to thaw, and earthworms reappear, bringing fertile soil and attracting birds like robins—a clear sign of spring’s arrival. It symbolises renewal, awakening, and preparation for new growth.
Worms are nature’s quiet alchemists—transforming decay into nourishment, breaking down what is no longer needed, and returning it to the earth to create fertile ground for new life. As a metaphor, worms beautifully illustrate the process of letting go, releasing karma, and embracing rebirth.
Just as worms break down fallen leaves and old roots, you, too, are invited to decompose what no longer serves you—old beliefs, past regrets, emotional burdens. This isn’t destruction but transformation. Letting go doesn’t mean erasing the past; it means allowing it to be repurposed, integrated, and returned to the soil of your being so that something new can grow.
March 2025 Eclipse KarmaKarma, like organic matter, is not wasted—it is recycled, reworked, and reborn in different forms. Every experience, every lesson, every challenge digests into wisdom, becoming the rich foundation for your next chapter. Just as the earthworms quietly work beneath the surface, your inner evolution is happening even when you don’t see it. Trust in the process. The old is not lost; it is simply becoming the nourishment for your rebirth.
Virgo high and shadow expressionVirgo, in its highest expression, brings discernment, organisation, and devotion to service, but when unbalanced, it can lead to self-criticism, rigidity, and an endless striving for “better.” To surrender these patterns is not to abandon structure, but to soften the edges—to allow room for flow, trust, and enoughness.
For example, you might notice how your mind fixates on details, endlessly tweaking a project or replaying conversations, searching for the “right” way to have done things. Or perhaps you hold yourself to impossibly high standards, feeling like you must always be improving, always doing more. Letting go of these Virgo tendencies doesn’t mean becoming careless; it means embracing the idea that things can be good enough—that you, as you are right now, are good enough.
Letting go also means releasing the need to fix—whether it’s yourself, others, or situations outside your control. Virgo energy often expresses itself in wanting to be helpful, but this can slip into over-functioning or taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours. What would it feel like to step back and trust that things will unfold without your constant intervention?
Virgo health, wellness and routinesMoreover Virgo is associated with health and wellness too. How you care for your body and structure your days directly impacts your ability to create abundance, maintain energy, and sustain long-term success. Virgo teaches that small, consistent habits shape the bigger picture—your financial health, physical well-being, and overall stability are a reflection of the systems you uphold daily.
Virgo Full Moon Eclipse Journaling Questions and PromptsAlas here are some journal prompts for this Virgo Full Moon and Eclipse
📝 Where in your life do you hold onto perfectionism? How does it serve you, and how does it limit you?
📝 In what ways do you feel the need to “fix” or “improve” things? What would it feel like to let them be as they are?
📝 What are three things in your life right now that are already “good enough” without needing more effort?
📝 If you could loosen control in one area of your life, where would it be? What’s the worst that could happen? What’s the best that could happen?
📝 What daily routine makes you feel your best? How can you commit to it more consistently?
📝 Which habits in your daily routine feel misaligned? How can you course-correct with small, intentional changes?
Venus Retrograde Virgo Full Moon EclipseBeing Venus Retrograde I may add, so in love with this energy and eclipse; Virgo energy is known for its devotion, care, and attention to detail, but in its shadow, it can manifest as overanalysis, hyper-criticism, and impossible standards—both for yourself and for others.
Themes and things to consider with this Virgo Full Moon Eclipse during Venus Retrograde:
– Perfection in relationships
– Standards in relationships
– Control in relationships
Are your standards coming from a place of self-love and clarity, or are they a shield against vulnerability? Virgo energy calls for reflection on where these standards come from—are they rooted in personal growth and healthy boundaries, or are they a way of protecting yourself from emotional risk?
Take it easy this week as we know eclipses can really trigger the unexpected or unknown. If you need help and support, I’ve got you – I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings so do get in touch should you want more specific and personalised information and a reading based on your energy, astrology and human design.
Until next time
love & positivity, phi
March 2025 is a month of profound transformation, cosmic resets, rebirths, fresh starts and quantum leaps. I’m calling it one of the biggest months of 2025, some are saying it will chaotic and crazy. There is nothing to fear – You are in the know my love with me! With eclipse season kicking off, major planetary movements and multiple collective energetic shifts, this is a time to shed outdated versions of yourself and leap into the unknown with trust.
In this episode, we explore:
✨ The themes of March’s eclipse—what’s ending, what’s beginning, and how to navigate the in-between
🌕 The key planetary shifts influencing your relationships, purpose, and inner healing
⚡ Human Design insights on how to work with the shifting energetic landscape
💫 Tips on how to move through intensity with grace, intuition and self-trust
If you’re feeling the push to evolve but also the weight of uncertainty, this episode will help you ground into the wisdom of the cosmos and move forward with clarity.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
March 2025 Energy ForecastHi my love, last week I mentioned it was a significant spiritual week with both Shivaratri and the Pisces New Moon just gone by and now we’ve got what I intuitively feel is one of the biggest energetic months of 2025.
March 2025 carries a powerful energetic charge due to several astrological and cosmic alignments that amplify transformation, awakening and deep shifts. So in this podcast I’m going to break down the energies of March 2025. This serves as a heads up and guide to what is going on energetically.
So what does this actually mean for you? I’m going to translate this energy for you as a practical guide to the week.
As an overview we have:
– Venus Retrograde
– Mercury moves into Aries
– Eclipse Season
– Lunar Eclipse in Virgo
– Mercury Retrograde day after
– It’s Aries Season! Happy Astrological New Year 2025 also known as the Spring Equinox or Autumn Equinox depending where you are
– Final Eclipse in Aries Libra Series – Aries Solar Eclipse
– Closing with Neptune moves into Aries
Venus Retrograde March 2025It really does kickstart on the 1st of March when the planet Venus is retrograde until mid April on the 12th. Venus retrograde shakes up relationships, whether you’re single or in one. Venus governs love, connection, values, and attraction, so when it appears to move backward, you’re invited to slow down, reassess and reflect.
Venus Retrograde March 2025 – In a RelationshipIf you’re in a relationship, Venus retrograde can highlight areas where you and your partner may not be seeing eye to eye. Unresolved issues tend to resurface, pushing you to have conversations you may have been avoiding. Communication can feel strained, and misunderstandings may arise more easily, requiring patience and clarity. This is also a time when deeper questions come up: Are we still aligned? Are we growing together or apart? Some relationships strengthen through this period, while others may reveal cracks that can no longer be ignored.
Venus Retrograde March 2025 – SingleFor those who are single, Venus retrograde can stir up memories of past lovers—sometimes literally, as exes/flings/one nights/situationships/past lovers- may resurface, whether in dreams, thoughts, or direct messages. It’s a chance to reflect on past relationship patterns and ask whether you’re still drawn to the same dynamics or if it’s time to break free. New relationships formed during this time might feel intense but can often be clouded by illusion, making it wise to take things slow. More than anything, this period invites self-reflection: What do I truly want in a partner? Am I honouring my own worth in love?
Venus Retrograde March 2025 – Human Design Family FriendshipsLet me emphasise: Venus retrograde isn’t here to ruin love—it’s here to refine it.
Whether you’re in a relationship or single, Venus retrograde asks you to pause and reassess. It’s not a time for rushed decisions but for deeper clarity. When the retrograde ends, you emerge with a renewed sense of what love means to you—whether that means strengthening a connection, releasing the past, or stepping forward with a clearer heart.
Now it’s just not love. This aligns with the human design energy for the first week of March 2025 – family and friendship. From a human design perspective; you may find that family and friendships are put under a magnifying glass, prompting you to reconsider your connections and values within those relationships. This transit can stir up old dynamics or misunderstandings, asking you to reevaluate what truly matters to you. Pay attention to any feelings of tension or unresolved issues, as they may offer valuable insights.
Mercury moving into Aries March 2025Do note in the background on the 3rd/4th of March, Mercury drops into Aries. This can bring a bold, fast-paced energy to communication, encouraging quick thinking, directness and a sense of urgency.
Conversations might become more spontaneous, with people feeling more inclined to speak their minds and jump straight to the point.
During this period, you may notice less patience for beating around the bush, and more emphasis on getting to the heart of matters quickly. There’s a tendency to act on ideas before fully thinking them through, which can lead to impulsive decisions or misunderstandings if not approached with care.
Now when this is paired with the intensity of eclipse season and Venus Retrograde the potential for emotional reactions or impulsive decisions can increase. Be really conscious of communication in March. It’s wise to take extra care with your words during this time. Think before reacting or speaking, and take a moment to ensure that what you express is aligned with your true feelings, rather than being driven by past patterns or temporary emotions.
On the positive side, this transit can spark creativity and inspire action, making it a good time to have bold conversations you’ve been putting off. The key during this transit is to balance your enthusiasm with a bit of patience, allowing space for clarity and precision in your communication.
Eclipse Season March 2025The big ones lets of course talk about how March 2025 this month has two eclipses. One is part of the new series in Virgo mid March and the other closes the chapter on the final Aries-Libra Destiny set of six eclipses which began in April 2023 and are ending now in March 2025.
Now if you recall for the new series we got a taste of Pisces during an eclipse last year in 2024 around mid September 18th 2024. It is going to end February 2027 so we’ve got quite the chapter collectively.
Remember with all eclipses as a general they can reveal what’s unknown, or hidden even lurking thus can bring about sudden changes, so be prepared for unexpected opportunities or challenges that can change your course. You may feel compelled to take a leap of faith or make a bold move that feels risky but aligns with your true desires. It’s important to trust the timing and allow the eclipse to guide you toward what is meant for your growth, even if the path forward is not fully clear.
A major theme linking Pisces and Virgo, as opposite sister signs on the same axis, is also why this year’s eclipses will feel especially intense. Pisces, the final sign of the zodiac, brings a sense of completion, while Virgo, positioned right at the heart of the zodiac wheel, provides a contrasting yet complementary perspective on the same themes.
The tension extends itself, Virgo is the practical, Pisces is the dreamer.
Virgo Lunar Eclipse March 2025There is a Lunar Eclipse in Virgo on the 14th/15th March, the first eclipse car the South Node. What does this practically mean? Past patterns, karma, and habits that no longer serve your growth may pop up around this time to heal particularly around Virgo shadow themes such as perfectionism, over analysing and self criticism. Perhaps where you are too practical.
This eclipse might prompt you to reflect on how you’ve been overly focused on efficiency, detail, or trying to “fix” yourself or others. There could be a pull to simplify your life, let go of unnecessary expectations or release the need for control. The karmic energy here invites you to trust that you don’t have to perfect every detail or have everything planned to succeed. It’s a time to focus on self acceptance and embrace a more relaxed, balanced approach to life (towards Pisces collectively).
Mercury Retrograde March 2025If that wasn’t enough our friend Mercury goes retrograde the day after – the usual be conscious and aware of communication.
I’m really getting the intuitive feeling to let anyone listening know all connections made during this month likely have some karmic soul contract energy to it therefore really take things slow and paced because eclipses can make things feel intense and all or nothing. By the way when I mention this it can be labelled “good karmic” as well as “shadow karmic.”
Virgo Eclipse March 2025 Human Design Crisis Love of SpiritNow for anyone who’s familiar with their human design chart, collectively in human design this week has crisis mixed in with love of spirit. If you’re experiencing a “crisis” this week, it’s a tell tale sign to look at these behaviours.
On a larger scale, alining with love of spirit collectively in human design this eclipse may prompt a spiritual reckoning—questioning your relationship with the God or Universe that you believe in. You may feel a tug toward understanding your purpose more deeply or an urge to realign with a higher calling. Trust that even though these moments may feel intense or uncomfortable, they are guiding you toward greater clarity and spiritual growth.
Astrological New Year 2025 Aries Season – Spring Equinox/Autumn EquinoxOn the 20th we officially shift into Aries Season on the 20th marking the new Astrological year so from an astrology point of view it’s officially 2025. It’s also known as the Spring Equinox or Autumn Equinox depending where you live. Happy New Year!
This moment is all about energy, action, and initiation, as Aries embodies the qualities of leadership, courage, and boldness. It’s a time when the cosmos invites you to plant seeds for new beginnings, harness your inner drive and embrace the opportunities for growth and change ahead.
Given that this new year falls in a year that may carry themes of releasing old patterns, the Aries energy offers a wonderful balance of initiating change and moving forward. While Aries pushes you to act, there is an undercurrent of revisiting how you’ve been carrying your past wounds or patterns that no longer serve you.
This is the moment to put those lessons into practice and move with clarity and enthusiasm into the next chapter, leaving behind the things that hold you back. With the equinox’s balancing nature, it offers a chance to be both assertive in your actions and mindful of the changes you’re creating, ensuring that your efforts are aligned with your deeper desires and goals.
Final Eclipse in Aries Libra Series – Solar Aries EclipseNow the final eclipse in Aries on March 29th ties up a two year chapter of lessons on assertiveness, conflict and balance in our personal relationships and collectively. Do recall Aries deals with ourself, Libra deals with Others/Relationships.
The energy of this final eclipse is very similar to one that occurred all the way back around the end of March 29th/30th in 2006 so that may be a glimpse to reflect what was going on in your life then and what is happening now. This eclipse is also the opposite of the October Libra Eclipse in October 2024 so again another check in point to reflect on.
Given it’s Aries but it’s ending I think it really points to reflecting on the last 2 years particularly at points during the eclipses in Aries Libra and using those lessons to move forward into this new personal and collective chapter in our lives.
Aries Eclipse March 2025 – Human Design OpinionsIt aligns collectively with the human design energy of opinions. The swirl of this human design energy and astrology is having the boldness and fierceness to speak up for yourself. The key is to find a balance: Aries energy can propel you forward and urge you to take the stage, while the human design energy of opinions ensures that your words have substance and depth, and that you’re offering your opinions in a way that invites others to reflect.
I still this down to be: embrace the courage to speak your truth, but also leave room for growth and change in your thinking, especially when others offer alternative viewpoints.
Aries Eclipse March 2025 – Stand Up For YourselfAs this is the final eclipse in the Aries-Libra series, you may also experience a sense of completion or closure around themes related to Aries energy: independence, assertiveness, and self expression. If you’ve been working on stepping into a more authentic version of yourself or embracing leadership roles, this eclipse will offer the final push to fully embody that path. It’s about trusting your instincts, letting go of old fears or hesitations, and stepping into the future with confidence.
My final note on this energy intertwining the Aries Solar Eclipse with the human design energy of opinions: are there anythings left unsaid or done with regards to the last 2 years of your life? What have you been putting up with, this feels like that energetic closing to stand up for yourself, to say something.
Neptune enters Aries March 2025I know this has been a lot but there’s still one more thing for March 2025. Neptune enters Aries on March 30, for the first time since 1861 to 1875.
What does history tell us?
The American Civil War started on April 12, 1861 and of significance the next day, Neptune entered Aries on April 13 of 1861. This was a time of intense ideological and cultural conflict, where the nation was split over issues such as slavery, states’ rights, and economic structures. Neptune, the planet of illusion, ideals, and collective consciousness, when in Aries, often brings forth a powerful, idealistic drive to initiate change — sometimes through conflict or upheaval.
In a broader sense, Neptune’s transit through Aries during the Civil War exemplifies how Neptune can dissolve boundaries and fuel passionate causes, but also how those causes can become clouded by illusion, division, and the challenges of trying to live up to ideals in a complex and tumultuous world.
What is also significant? Saturn will follow in two months time into Aries now that’s for another time to discuss! The next wave of Saturn Returners in 2026 will be in Aries.
With Neptune moving into Aries, the energy surrounding spirituality, creativity, and self-expression will take on a more fiery, individualistic tone.
What happens when Neptune enters Aries March 2025When Neptune moves into Aries, it brings a fresh wave of energy that encourages people to pursue their dreams with excitement and boldness. Aries is all about taking action, starting new things, and embracing challenges, so during this time, many may feel a surge of motivation to follow their personal goals, especially those related to self-expression, creativity, or spirituality. There’s a sense of urgency and enthusiasm to make things happen and to be seen for who you truly are.
However, while Aries is about courage and drive, Neptune has a more dreamy, idealistic energy. This combination can sometimes cause confusion or lead people to chase after goals that might not be as realistic as they seem. You might feel inspired to take big risks or start new ventures, but there’s a potential for disappointment if those dreams don’t work out as expected. It’s important to stay grounded, think practically, and take measured steps, so you don’t get too carried away by the excitement.
What can we learn from it’s partner Libra? Balance.
Support and help March 2025 energy spiritual mindset self loveAs you can see that was an overview of what’s to come in March 2025. As we step into this transformative time, it’s essential to reflect on the changes we want to create in our lives. How can you take bold, authentic action towards your dreams? What areas of your life need a reset, a release, or a new perspective? March 2025 invites you to take the lead in your own journey—whether it’s stepping into your power, setting new intentions, or embracing your creativity and leadership.
If you’re feeling unsure or hesitant, I invite you to take a moment to connect with your inner guidance. Reflect on what needs to be released and what you’re ready to manifest. And if you’re ready for deeper support on your journey, I’m here to guide you through this transformative time. Together, we’ll align your goals with your soul’s true desires, and create actionable steps to move forward with confidence and clarity. I do this through 1:1 coaching personal and business, human design readings as well as retreats. We have Flow in Vietnam May 2025 and Recharge and Renew August 2025 in Bali. If you’ve been feeling the call to work with me in any form I’d say March is a great start given everything going on! I’ve been sharing an overview but with my clients I go deeper looking at their personal human design and astrology charts to make sense and understand what is going on in detail for their life. This could be you too!
Now is the time to take inspired action. Step into your power, trust the process, and let this moment of cosmic alignment propel you toward your highest potential. Let’s make 2025 the year you fully step into your purpose.
Until next time.
Love & Positivity, Phi
This week, the energy is deep, transformative, and undeniably potent in February 2025. With Maha Shivaratri, the Pisces New Moon and intuitively the archetype of The Tower from the Tarot; woven together, we’re stepping into a space of dissolution, surrender, and necessary rebirth.
In this episode, we explore how Shivaratri, the great night of Shiva, invites destruction of illusion and devotion to truth. The Pisces New Moon amplifies this by dissolving what no longer serves, asking you to trust the unseen currents of your soul. And The Tower? It arrives as the catalyst—shaking the foundations you thought were stable, clearing the way for something truer.
Expect reflections and a practical guide on letting go, trusting collapse, and allowing the unknown to guide you forward. Because sometimes, the breakdown is the breakthrough.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
A big energetic week end of February 2025Hello my love, welcome back to the Grow Through It Podcast. We have a big week energetically coming up ahead with two significant things happening. First of all it’s Shivaratri, Shivratri is a Hindu festival honouring Shiva, an Indian deity, celebrated with fasting, prayers, and night-long vigils to seek his blessings for transformation, inner peace, and spiritual growth and we have the Pisces New Moon.
So what does this actually mean for you? I’m going to translate this energy for you as a practical guide to the week.
What is Shivaratri and what’s it got to do with The Tower in Tarot?For those listening to where I’m based in Sydney, Australia, Shivaratri takes place Wednesday February 26th 2025 4:38pm to Thursday 27th February 2025 2:24pm.
Shivaratri means Great Night of Shiva. Shiva is the Hindu God that represents destruction which says a lot about the energy that is taking place this week. This time last year I was blessed enough to be in India during Shivaratri and it truly activated a of necessary destruction in my life including within my previous relationship and living situation – the cracks, what was not working really started to show leading to the ultimate demise 6 months later. Cyclical truly! Now this is not something to be scared of but aware think of it like when you see the tower card pop out when doing tarot (more on that later).
I know you know, who hasn’t seen that card and put it back in to reshuffle or have fear and wish you didn’t pull cards haha I certainly have an am really practicing this year not to jump to conclusions with the cards I see coming out.
Who is Lord Shiva? Shiva the deityIn India at one point there was a celebration or significant spiritual moment everyday because I guess they wanted to celebrate every day of life and the different purposes of life which is a fun fact. Nowadays truly it Shivaratri is one of the most significant events in India’s spiritual calendar.
In Hindu tradition, Lord Shiva represents destruction and renewal—the force that clears away the old to make way for the new. He is often depicted as sitting in deep meditation, symbolising inner peace and awareness.
Shiva’s Origin StoryShiva’s origin story is vast, layered, and deeply symbolic, woven into Hindu mythology as a representation of transformation, destruction, and divine stillness. He is known as the supreme yogi, the lord of time, and the force that dissolves what is no longer needed so that new creation can emerge. Unlike other deities, who are often depicted in palaces or adorned with riches, Shiva is an ascetic who meditates in the mountains, covered in ashes, with matted hair and a third eye that sees beyond illusion.
Unlike other gods who have birth stories, Shiva is often described as being eternal—without beginning or end. In some traditions, he is one of the three principal deities in Hinduism, forming the Trimurti along with Brahma (the creator) and Vishnu (the preserver). While Brahma brings life into existence and Vishnu sustains it, Shiva’s role is to destroy, but not in a negative sense. His destruction clears away illusions, attachments, and old cycles, making space for new life and higher wisdom.
Shiva and Parvati – the love and balance of masculine and feminine energyOne of the most well-known stories about Shiva is his love story with Parvati, who is considered the feminine aspect of divine energy (Shakti). Before Parvati, Shiva was in deep meditation after the loss of his first wife, Sati. Parvati, recognising that the world needed Shiva’s active presence, performed intense penance to win his love. Eventually, her devotion awakened Shiva from his meditation, and they were united in marriage. Their union represents balance—the merging of masculine consciousness and feminine energy. Together, they symbolise wholeness, creation, and divine partnership.
Shivaratri and Darknessvratri is considered the most powerful night to connect with Shiva’s energy of transformation, making it an important time for spiritual seekers. Many people observe fasting, practice silence, and engage in meditation to align with this sacred energy. Shivratri is a time to celebrate challenge. Yep celebrate it you heard me!
Darkness plays a significant role in Shivratri. The festival takes place on the darkest night of the lunar cycle, representing the unknown, the mysteries of existence, and the infinite potential hidden within the void. Instead of fearing the darkness, Shivratri teaches that it is a gateway to awakening. It is a reminder that true wisdom and self-discovery often emerge from moments of stillness, surrender, and letting go.
One of the key spiritual aspects of Shivratri is the belief that on this night, the energy of the universe is especially supportive of meditation and inner work. It is said that those who stay awake and aware through the night can experience deep states of clarity and insight. Many devotees chant sacred mantras, offer prayers, and reflect on their lives, seeking Shiva’s blessings for renewal and inner strength.
Shivaratri 2025 – Destruction as a Path to RenewalAs I mentioned earlier: Shivaratri and the Tower card in Tarot share a profound connection through the themes of destruction, transformation, and divine awakening. Shiva’s destruction is not chaotic—it’s purposeful, clearing the old to make way for new growth. Similarly, the Tower card represents the crumbling of false structures, ego, or illusions that no longer serve you. Though the process feels intense and even shocking, it ultimately paves the way for truth and enlightenment.
Shivaratri 2025 -The Fall of Ego & Surrender to the DivineOn Shivaratri, devotees stay awake, fast, and chant, surrendering to Shiva’s energy, dissolving their egoic attachments to experience a higher spiritual truth. The Tower card symbolizes a forced surrender—the collapse of the ego and outdated beliefs—leading to a deeper understanding of one’s true self.
Shivaratri 2025 – Lightning & Divine InterventionThe Tower card often depicts lightning striking the tower, representing sudden divine intervention that shakes up life. In Hindu mythology, Shiva’s energy is likened to a lightning bolt—swift, powerful, and transformational. Shivaratri is believed to be a time when cosmic energies are heightened, allowing for rapid inner shifts and spiritual awakening.
Shivaratri 2025 – Seeing Through and Beyond IllusionsBoth Shivaratri and the Tower symbolize spiritual breakthroughs that come after upheaval.
The lesson? What seems like destruction is actually a blessing in disguise—a clearing of the old so something more authentic can emerge. Whether through ritual or revelation, both Shivaratri and the Tower card lead to liberation, clarity, and spiritual rebirth.
Shivaratri 2025 – Universal ConsciousnessEven for those who do not believe in Hinduism it’s not about religion but for spirituality, Shivratri carries a universal message. It invites everyone to embrace change rather than resist it, to find stillness in the chaos of life, and to trust in the cycles of creation, destruction and renewal. It is a night to reflect on personal growth, release what no longer serves and step into a new version of oneself with greater awareness and purpose.
How to use the energy of Shivaratri in 2025How can you participate in Shiavatri?
Meditate particularly in the evening
Doing some inner work or journaling in the evening – I may add a great night to do shadow work (I’ll share some questions in a moment for you)
Fast
Burn incense or light a candle in honour of shivatri in the evening
Chant the Shiva Mantra 108 times, “Om Namah Shivaya”
Shivaratri 2025 – Journaling Prompts and QuestionsEmbracing Inner Darkness
What aspects of yourself have you been avoiding or suppressing? How can you bring light to these shadows without judgment?
Transformation and Renewal
Shiva represents destruction as a path to new creation. What old habits, belief or attachments are you ready to release in order to make space for new growth in your life?
Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energies
Shiva’s union with Parvati represents the balance between masculine and feminine energies. How do you balance both aspects within yourself, and in what areas of your life could this balance be strengthened?
Cycles of Creation, Destruction, and Rebirth
Life is a constant cycle of creation, destruction, and rebirth. What phase are you currently in—are you in a period of destruction, creation, or renewal? How can you embrace the current cycle you’re experiencing?where you’ve been resisting change?
Personal Transformation through Stillness
Reflect on a time when you experienced significant personal growth. What role did stillness, meditation, or self-reflection play in that transformation? How can you invite more of this into your life today?
Shivaratri 2025 and Pisces New Moon February 2025What follows Shivratri as I mentioned is the Pisces New Moon taking place Australia AEDT 11:44am on Friday 28th of February 2025.
The Pisces New Moon marks the end of the astrological year of 2024, as Pisces is the final sign of the zodiac. It represents a time of closure, surrender and reflection before Aries season begins a new cycle and we have eclipse season coming (March 2025 is going to be one for the books!). In fact it’s believed the Pisces New Moon opens the Eclipse portal.
Pisces New Moon 2025 – Eclipse Portal to March 2025When a New Moon opens the eclipse portal, it acts as a doorway into fated shifts—revealing what needs to dissolve and where you are being guided next. Pisces, as the final sign of the zodiac, is already about endings, surrender, intuition, and higher wisdom, and when paired with the eclipse portal, this energy intensifies.
I’m intuitively feeling that this isn’t like a traditional new moon about manifestation – it really is not the time for forceful manifestation but rather for allowing things to unfold and trusting the deeper currents of your life. Pisces energy asks: Can you release attachment to outcomes and let yourself flow with what is?
Pisces is the most spiritual sign of the Zodiac and don’t forget collective destiny is aligning with Pisces in the north node for 2025 (January 12, 2025 – July 26, 2026). For the next 18 months collectively and especially those with Pisces in their chart will be experiencing more significantly spirituality, surrender, creativity, imagination and being in touch with our emotions.
Themes and energies of Pisces New Moon 2025Key Themes of This Eclipse Portal
🌑 Surrender & Release – What in your life is coming to a natural ending? What are you ready to let go of?
🌑 Intuitive Guidance – Pay attention to dreams, synchronicities, and gut feelings—your soul is speaking.
🌑 Emotional Cleansing – Old wounds, patterns, or illusions may surface to be healed before the next chapter begins.
🌑 New Soul Contracts – Eclipses often bring destined connections, opportunities, or closures—trust the shifts.
🌑 Heightened Sensitivity – Pisces energy is deeply empathetic; protect your energy and prioritise inner peace.
Since this New Moon is the last before eclipse season, it’s a threshold moment—what you set in motion now will unfold in unpredictable but significant ways over the next six months.
Pisces New Moon Journaling Prompts and QuestionsIntuitively I am finding it a really powerful time to tap into creativity and so my journal prompts for this Pisces new moon centre around that;
If your creativity had no limits or expectations, what would you create?
What emotions or visions feel ready to be expressed through art, words, or movement?
How does your intuition guide your creative process?
If you could receive a creative message from your higher self, what would it be?
What dreams, symbols, or subconscious themes are asking to be woven into your creative work
Pisces New Moon – Jupiter Expansion and AbundanceThe 2025 Pisces New Moon is making a connection with Jupiter, the planet of abundance and expansion so it’s a beautiful timing knowing what you let go of now will expand you now and later on. Though the shadow being it can exaggerate feelings and experiences at this time. Really this week is where the spiritual veil is thin and I encourage you to use that to your advantage really creating and making space and time for your practices that connect you more deeply to your intuition.
1:1 CoachingIf you’re ready to deepen your intuition, heal and transform, and create space for a new chapter—let’s work together. Through our coaching and or a human design reading, we’ll tap into your inner wisdom, help you release fear and doubt, and align you with your soul’s calling. Get in touch for more details and there are still spaces available for the Flow Retreat in Vietnam May 2025 and Recharge and Renew in Bali August 2025.
Until next time. Love & Positivity.
Join me as we celebrate the milestone of 100 episodes! This special episode is a heartfelt reflection on our journey together, exploring the transformation, growth, and the lessons we’ve uncovered. I’ll share the insights, breakthroughs, and the most profound takeaways from the past episodes—and as a gift to YOU, I’ll also offer a mini reading! Listen to this episode to find out how to get your free mini reading.
Alongside the celebration, I’m diving into 10 Unlearnings on personal growth that can truly shift the way you approach your own evolution. If you’re ready to embrace new perspectives, shed old beliefs, and step into a more expansive, authentic version of yourself, this episode is for you.
Tune in to feel inspired, supported, and uplifted, and don’t miss the chance to receive your own mini reading during this milestone moment. Let’s keep growing and evolving together!
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
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Celebrating 100 episodes of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi DangHi my love can you believe it this is the 100th episode of Grow Through It. I believe we’ve made it to triple digits. When I started this podcast, I had no idea how much it would grow, evolve, and connect me with so many of you. I still remember sitting in my cupboard recording my first episode when being a coach full time was a hope and dream – now it’s my reality.
The name Grow Through It is a reminder that challenges aren’t just something to survive—they’re something to transform through. Life will bring uncertainty, heartbreak, resistance, and moments where you question everything, but you don’t have to just go through it, numb or disconnected.
You can grow through it—becoming wiser, stronger and more aligned and in tune with yourself. Growth isn’t about bypassing the hard stuff; it’s about leaning in, finding meaning, and letting every experience shape you in a way that deepens your self-trust. This podcast exists to hold space for that kind of expansion—the kind that doesn’t just move you forward but moves you deeper into who you’re meant to be.
Whether you’ve been here since Episode 1 or you just found this space, thank you. Truly. Your presence, your messages, and the way you show up for your own growth mean everything.
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This is my way of celebrating 100 episodes of growth with you. So if this podcast has supported you in any way, I’d love to hear your thoughts—and send something special your way in return. Now, let’s get into today’s episode… 100 unlearnings on personal growth jokes that is a lot and genuinely in life there would be way more but I handpicked 10 from my experience working with clients that I’d love to share with you to celebrate the Grow Through It Podcast.
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- You don’t have to “fix” yourself to be worthy.The Learning: You’ve been taught that growth is about fixing—about identifying flaws, working on them, and eventually becoming better. This belief makes it seem like self-worth is something you have to earn, something that’s always just out of reach. It keeps you in a cycle of never feeling enough, because no matter how much you heal, there will always be another layer.
The Unlearning: Growth isn’t about becoming enough—it’s about realising you already are. The real work isn’t fixing; it’s remembering who you were before you were told you were broken. Your worth has never been conditional. Every version of you—past, present, and future—is already whole. When you stop striving for worthiness, you can start living from it.
I want you to remember that you don’t have to “fix” yourself to be worthy—because you were never broken. Even if you aren’t perfect you are worthy. You are always and will always be worthy no matter what.
Personal growth isn’t about patching up flaws or proving your value; it’s about uncovering the wholeness that has always been within you. Coaching invites you to see yourself with compassion, to shift limiting beliefs, and to move forward not because you need to be fixed, but because you deserve to grow, expand, and live fully as you are.
I see so many clients carrying shame, and it breaks my heart—because at its core, shame is the quiet, heavy belief that you are somehow broken. It whispers that if only you could fix this part of yourself, heal faster, do more, then you’d finally be enough. But that’s not true.
Shame isn’t a sign that you’re flawed; it’s a wound that forms when you’ve been made to believe your worth is conditional. Coaching helps you unravel that belief, not by forcing change, but by helping you see that nothing about you was ever wrong to begin with. The moment you stop trying to earn your worthiness and start trusting that it’s already yours, everything shifts—your confidence, your choices, and your ability to show up fully in your life.
- Healing doesn’t mean you’ll never feel pain again.The Learning: It’s easy to believe healing is about reaching a state where nothing triggers you anymore, where past wounds stop aching, and where you can finally say, “I’m done.” But this expectation sets you up for disappointment. The truth is, healing doesn’t erase pain; it changes your relationship with it.
The Unlearning: Growth isn’t about eliminating discomfort; it’s about leaning in – with grace and self awareness. Pain may still arise, but you no longer collapse under its weight. Instead of fearing its return, you trust your ability to meet it with compassion. Healing isn’t an end point—it’s an ongoing process of deepening your self-trust, learning that you can navigate whatever comes next.
Even as a life coach, deeply committed to growth—for myself and for others—I still experience moments of doubt, grief and uncertainty. If you’re human you will no matter how rich, beautiful, intelligent etc etc you are. I’ve been through multiple dark nights of the soul, and maybe you have too – not because we’re doing something wrong, but because healing isn’t a destination; it’s a continuous unfolding.
The difference now is that I don’t see pain as a setback—I see it as part of the process. Coaching isn’t about eliminating struggle; it’s about equipping you with the tools, the self awareness, and the inner resilience to navigate life’s inevitable challenges without losing yourself in them.
- Discipline isn’t about forcing—it’s about commitment and devotion.The Learning: Discipline has often been framed as something harsh, something that requires relentless willpower, restriction, and forcing yourself to do things even when you don’t want to. This mindset creates burnout, resentment and a disconnection from your deeper why.
The Unlearning: True consistency comes from love, not rigid self-punishment. When you shift from force to devotion, everything changes. Devotion is fuelled by purpose, by the deep knowing that you want to show up—not because you have to, but because you get to. The most sustainable discipline is the kind that honours your rhythms and is rooted in care rather than control.
This year, in 2025, I’ve really honed in on what it means to approach discipline from a place of love—especially when it comes to my spiritual practices and physical health. In the past, discipline felt like force, like something I had to do to be good enough, productive enough, or worthy enough.
But I’ve learned that true discipline isn’t about punishment; it’s about devotion. Making time to exercise, to move my body, to show up for my practices—it’s not about fixing myself, but about caring for myself. When discipline is rooted in love, it stops feeling like a chore and starts feeling like a sacred commitment to your own well being. And that shift changes everything.
- The “right path” doesn’t exist.The Learning: You’ve been conditioned to believe there’s a single “correct” path—the one that leads to success, fulfillment, or happiness. This belief can create anxiety around decision-making, making you feel like one wrong turn will ruin everything.
The Unlearning: Every choice expands you in a different way—there’s no singular “correct” way forward. Life isn’t a straight path; it’s a landscape of possibilities. Some roads will challenge you. Some will surprise you. Some will lead to detours that reveal exactly what you needed. The path isn’t something you find—it’s something you create with every step
The “right path” doesn’t exist, and that’s something I’ve come to truly embrace. We often get caught in the pressure of making the “perfect” choice, believing there’s only one way forward that guarantees success, happiness, or fulfillment. But in reality, there’s just a path—a series of choices—and none of them are inherently right or wrong.
It’s about choosing and moving forward with the intention to learn and grow along the way. I’ve shared this idea in a reel before, and it resonates deeply: even if you think you’re making the “wrong” choice, you can always make it right. The path is yours to shape, not a fixed destination waiting to be reached. The beauty of life is in the journey, and every turn you take offers an opportunity for expansion, even when it feels uncertain.
- If it doesn’t feel aligned, pushing harder won’t make it work.The Learning: You’ve been told that persistence is always the answer. That if something isn’t working, you just need to try harder, be more disciplined, or prove your commitment. But this belief keeps you stuck in things that drain you—relationships, careers, goals that no longer fit—because you’re afraid to “quit.”
The Unlearning: Effort isn’t the solution when something isn’t meant for you. Alignment isn’t about how hard you push—it’s about how deeply something feels right. If something requires constant force, if it leaves you exhausted rather than energised, it might not be your path. Letting go isn’t failure; it’s wisdom.
When clients face the frustration of pushing harder but still not seeing results, I always try to help them step back and ask themselves the key question: Why do you keep pushing? If something doesn’t feel aligned, the answer often lies not in working harder, but in understanding why you’re forcing it in the first place.
Our intuition has a way of signalling when something isn’t meant for us, but we can sometimes ignore those nudges, believing that effort is the solution. The truth is, forcing something that doesn’t align with your values, energy, or purpose often leads to burnout, frustration, and disconnect. Pushing harder doesn’t make it work; it’s about recognising when it’s time to pause, reassess, and either realign your approach or let go. When you stop pushing against the flow, you make space for clarity, ease, and the alignment that will guide you in the right direction.
- Feeling lost is not a sign of failure—it’s an initiation.The Learning: There’s a fear that being lost means you’re falling behind, failing, or making mistakes. You may compare yourself to others who seem more “together” and wonder why you don’t have clarity.
The Unlearning: Every transformation begins with uncertainty. Trust the in-between. Feeling lost isn’t a detour—it’s part of the process. It’s the space where old identities dissolve and new possibilities emerge. When you stop resisting the unknown, you can lean into curiosity and discover what’s waiting for you beyond certainty.
Feeling lost is one of the most beautiful things that can happen in the journey of personal growth. So many people come to coaching because they feel lost, unsure of who they are, what they want, or where they’re headed. And that’s exactly where the magic begins. To be lost is to be in the space of transformation, where the old you is shedding and making room for the new. It’s the process of unlearning, letting go of limiting beliefs, and finding clarity through the confusion.
The age-old saying, “You have to get lost to be found,” holds deep truth because it’s in these moments of uncertainty that you discover parts of yourself you may have never known existed. Coaching isn’t about giving you all the answers; it’s about guiding you through this initiation, helping you trust the process, and empowering you to find your own way out of the fog
- Just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it.The Learning: You might believe that if you’re talented at something, you should pursue it. That turning away from it would be wasteful or irresponsible. This belief keeps people trapped in careers, relationships, or lifestyles that no longer bring joy, simply because they’re “good” at them.
The Unlearning: Your talents don’t define your destiny. Desire does. Just because you can doesn’t mean you must. What lights you up is just as important as what you excel at. Give yourself permission to walk away from what no longer excites you and toward what calls you—even if it makes no logical sense to others.
Before stepping into life coaching, I excelled in marketing and brand strategy—I was good at it, and I loved the work itself (the crazy hours and demanding timelines not so much). It did bring me success, and even now, I incorporate those skills into my coaching practice to help clients elevate their businesses and careers.
But life coaching is something I’m deeply passionate about in my mind body heart and soul. I’m good at it, I love it, and it lights me up in a way that just marketing and brand strategy full time no longer does. This doesn’t mean I’ve abandoned my past strengths or talents. Rather, it means I’ve embraced the freedom to evolve and pursue what feels most aligned in the present moment. Just because you’re talented at something doesn’t mean you’re stuck doing it forever; sometimes, your heart calls you to something new, and that’s when true growth happens. You don’t have to keep doing what you’re good at if it no longer nourishes your soul.
- You don’t have to “be confident” before you start.The Learning: Confidence is often seen as something you need to develop before you take action. This belief makes people wait—holding themselves back until they feel ready, capable, or fearless.
The Unlearning: Confidence is a byproduct of action, not a prerequisite for it. You don’t gain confidence by waiting; you gain it by doing. Every time you take a step, you prove to yourself that you can. The more you move, the more confident you become—not because the fear disappears, but because you stop letting it control you.
In my experience, it’s the bravery to start—even without confidence—that unlocks it. Whether it’s starting personal growth work, getting help, or stepping into something new, confidence isn’t a prerequisite; it’s a byproduct of courage. You get better by doing, you gain confidence by showing up, and you learn to trust yourself more with every step you take. So if you’re waiting for the perfect confidence to appear before making a move, let this be your sign: start now. Be brave. The confidence will follow.
- Letting go isn’t about force—it’s about softening.The Learning: Letting go is often seen as something active—something you do, as if you need to rip something away, cut ties abruptly, or force yourself to move on. But this approach can make letting go feel painful, as if you’re prying something from your grasp.
The Unlearning: You don’t have to pry something from your grip; you just have to loosen your hold. Letting go isn’t an act of force—it’s an act of trust. It’s choosing to release, to surrender, to soften. It’s allowing what’s meant for you to stay and what’s not to drift away naturally.
We often think that holding on tightly is a sign of strength, but in reality, it’s the opposite. It takes far more strength to loosen your grip and trust the flow of life. When we hold on—whether it’s to old habits, beliefs, or relationships—we create resistance. We think we’re protecting ourselves, but we’re actually keeping ourselves stuck in a cycle of tension. Letting go is much harder, because it asks us to trust, to release control, and to believe that we are safe even in the unknown. The true strength lies in allowing things to evolve naturally, not forcing them to stay the same. It’s in softening that you find the peace and freedom you’ve been seeking.
- Personal growth isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about remembering who you’ve always been.The Learning: Growth is often framed as a process of becoming—as if the best version of you is somewhere in the future, waiting for you to catch up. This makes you feel like you have to chase an idealized version of yourself.
The Unlearning: The most profound evolution is a return to yourself. Growth isn’t about adding layers; it’s about peeling them away. It’s not about striving to be someone else—it’s about coming home to who you already are. Beneath the conditioning, the expectations, and the stories you’ve been told, there is a version of you that has always known the way. Trust that.
We often think growth means reinventing ourselves, becoming a “better” version of who we are, but in truth, growth is about peeling back, unlearning, the layers of conditioning, beliefs, and expectations that have accumulated over time. Your highest self, your true essence, has always been there, waiting to be rediscovered. It’s behind all the layers of learning and societal conditioning that shaped how you show up in the world. Unlearning is the key to returning to that authentic self, the person you were always meant to be before the world told you who you should be. The more you shed these layers, the more you reconnect to the power, wisdom, and truth that has always lived within you.
The key to personal growth? UnlearningAs we wrap up this episode, I want to remind you that personal growth isn’t always just about learning new things; it’s also about unlearning what no longer serves you. Sometimes, the most powerful shifts happen when we let go of the things that have held us back—whether that’s limiting beliefs, fears, or outdated stories about ourselves. It’s a journey of unlearning and rediscovery, shedding the layers that no longer align with your highest self. And in this process, you uncover a sense of clarity, peace, and authenticity that was always there, just waiting to be remembered.
If something from today’s episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to share your thoughts and leave a review. As a thank you, as I said at the beginning of the episode I’m offering a free mini reading to anyone who sends me a screenshot of their review—just DM me on Instagram or send me an email. I’ll respond with a personalised 5-minute voice or write up a note to guide you, either intuitively or answering a question you have. Thank you so much for being part of this community. I’m excited to continue growing through it together!
Until next time beautiful soul.
Love & positivity, Phi
In this empowering episode, we dive deep into the truth about good men and why many women struggle to believe in them. From societal conditioning to past heartbreak, we explore the barriers that keep us from trusting and attracting healthy, loving relationships. Tune in for practical mindset shifts and inspiring insights that will help you embrace vulnerability, heal past wounds, and open your heart to the good men already in your life. If you’re ready to shift your perspective and invite real love and connection into your world, this episode is for you!Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
Recharge and Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025 - Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
The cynicism of menHey, beautiful souls, and welcome back to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang (that’s me). With Valentine’s Day around the corner, I know this time of year can bring up all kinds of emotions—love, longing, frustration, and maybe even cynicism. You might be thinking, ‘Where are all the good men?’ or ‘Why does everyone else seem to find love but me?’ Or maybe you’re in a relationship and you’re unhappy or even if you are, aside from your partner or a few friends perhaps you’ve lost your faith in men. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.
My own personal example of good menThis episode came to me like a lightning bolt and the urge to do it perhaps because I am on my own journey. I came out of a relationship last year and it was challenging to be honest with you and it tested my good faith in men through my own projections. Recently I had an incident with my car at the beginning of the year going 100km an hour towards the beach down south here luckily on a country road because I must have run over something and it shredded my tire. I mean shredded. Only the central metal bit left. I panicked because I have no idea how to fix a tire, I was in the middle of no where, what was I to do?
I kid you 5 minutes later, a man pulled over to help me. He was in his SUV with like 4 children and without any hesitation helped me. I was so grateful and he said to me, I wanted to show my children this is what good men do, good humans really. I want to especially show my boys what it is to be a good man and I did the very thing I would do for my daughters and want other men should they be in your situation. Honestly it moved me to tears.
With my spare tyre in fact I got to the petrol station to sort it out because the rear end of my car came off and unexpectedly two men which I would stereotypically class as “bikies” helped me they were again so sweet and gave me a specific tape for cars in case something else happened when they left.
From that moment I’ve had really lovely interactions with men, I mean to the point of a nice man randomly buying me a coffee and pastry the day I had to take me car in for a service all stressed.
Why women don’t believe in good men: disappointment and hurtMany women feel disillusioned about love, especially if they’ve been hurt or let down before. Maybe you’ve given your heart to someone who didn’t handle it with care. Maybe you’ve been strung along, ghosted, or left wondering why you weren’t “enough” for someone to stay. Or maybe you’ve witnessed relationships around you that only rein forced the idea that love is hard, unreliable, or even painful. Over time, these experiences can build up, creating an invisible wall between you and the kind of love you truly desire.
Social media, men suck and no good men are out thereAnd then there’s social media—a place where heartache is turned into entertainment. Everywhere you look, there are jokes about how “men ain’t sh*t,” how modern dating is a dumpster fire, and how settling is the only option if you don’t want to end up alone. It’s easy to laugh along, repost the memes, and bond with friends over shared frustration. But what if that belief is keeping you stuck? What if, every time you reinforce the idea that “good men don’t exist,” you’re unintentionally closing yourself off to the very thing you want most?
Duality and reality of good menThis episode isn’t about pretending that bad experiences don’t exist. You’ve been hurt, and that hurt is real. It’s valid to feel frustrated, disappointed, or even wary when it comes to love. But what if you could honour your experiences without letting them define your future? What if, instead of carrying those wounds as proof that love is doomed, you allowed them to be stepping stones toward a deeper understanding of what you truly need?
Today, we’re shifting the focus. Instead of asking, “Why does this always happen to me?” we’re exploring, “How can I open to love in a way that feels safe, nourishing, and real?” Because love is real. Good men do exist. And the more you allow yourself to believe that, the more likely you are to recognise love when it arrives.
In a relationship but doubt good menMaybe you’re already in a relationship, but you still find yourself questioning whether good men really exist. Perhaps your partner is loving and supportive, yet deep down, you struggle to fully trust it. Maybe past wounds make it hard for you to receive love without skepticism, or you catch yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s not that your partner has done anything wrong—it’s just that part of you is still carrying the weight of old heartbreaks, making it hard to relax into the love that’s already here.
In a relationship but unhappyOr maybe you’re with someone who isn’t showing up the way you need, and you’re wondering if settling is just part of the deal. You see other women sharing stories about their incredible, emotionally available partners, and instead of feeling inspired, you feel disheartened. Does love like that really exist, or is it just luck? Am I asking for too much? These questions can be painful, but they also hold power—because they invite you to examine what you believe about love and what you are willing to accept.
Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically erase doubts, fears, or past conditioning about love. Sometimes, it brings them even more to the surface. If you’re with a partner who treats you well, this episode is an opportunity to soften and truly receive the love you have—without fear, without suspicion, without waiting for it to disappear. And if you’re in a relationship where you don’t feel cherished, this is a chance to reflect on whether you are settling out of fear that something better doesn’t exist. Because here’s the truth: good men exist, and you deserve to be with one.
Unlearning societal conditioning around menSociety feeds us cautionary tales about men being untrustworthy, emotionally unavailable, or selfish. From a young age, we’re conditioned to be on guard—to protect our hearts, to expect disappointment, and to believe that love is always a little bit dangerous. These messages are everywhere, subtly shaping the way we view relationships.
Pop culture often glorifies toxic dynamics—the “bad boy” who eventually changes for the right woman, the emotionally distant man who needs to be chased, the love that only becomes real after struggle and heartbreak. We’re told that passion is in the push-and-pull, that chaos is exciting, and that if a man is too kind, too available, or too stable, he must be boring. The stories we absorb through movies, music, and even social media normalise dysfunction to the point where healthy love can feel unfamiliar—or even suspicious.
Unlearning family cultural conditioning around menMany of us also grew up hearing limiting beliefs about men from the women around us. Maybe it was an aunt who told you, “All men cheat, it’s just a matter of time.” Or a friend who insisted, “You have to lower your standards if you actually want a relationship.” Or even the quiet but persistent idea that “Men are scared of commitment,” so you have to be careful not to be too much or too needy if you want one to stay. These narratives become ingrained, making it easy to approach relationships with doubt, guardedness, or the assumption that disappointment is inevitable.
But what if those beliefs aren’t truth—just echoes of other people’s experiences and fears? What if they were passed down as protection, but they’re actually blocking you from seeing the full picture? Yes, some men are emotionally unavailable, and yes, heartbreak exists. But so does deep, healthy, reciprocal love. And there are men who are present, committed, emotionally intelligent, and genuinely invested in building something real. The key is learning to tell the difference between a belief shaped by fear and a truth shaped by experience.
I love men – seriously I do!Some of the best men I know are my friends and clients. They are men who listen, who communicate, who care about their partner’s emotional world. They are men who prioritise growth, who work through their own wounds so they don’t project them onto others, and who want to build relationships based on trust, respect, and genuine connection.
I’ve seen men support their partners through life’s hardest moments—holding space for their emotions, cheering them on when they doubt themselves, and making love feel like a sanctuary instead of a battleground. I’ve worked with men who are deeply introspective, who want to unlearn harmful conditioning, and who are actively working to show up as better partners, fathers, and friends.
But these men don’t always fit the stereotype of what we’ve been told to expect. They aren’t always flashy. They don’t always dominate the conversation or make grand gestures. Sometimes, they’re the ones quietly showing up, day after day, doing the work of loving with presence and consistency. And the more you train yourself to see and believe in the existence of good men, the easier it becomes to recognise them in your own life.
So if you’ve been telling yourself that love is hopeless or that good men don’t exist, I invite you to question that belief. Not by forcing toxic positivity, but by expanding your perspective. Look around. Pay attention to the men who show up, not just in relationships but in friendships, in family dynamics, in everyday moments. You might be surprised at what you start to notice.
I really do love men because what would life be literally without them and in so many other aspects.
Healthy masculine in good menWhen you take a step back and really look, you’ll see that healthy, present, emotionally intelligent men do exist—and they bring incredible value to relationships.
Men have a natural protective instinct—not in a controlling or possessive way, but in a way that makes you feel safe, both emotionally and physically. The right man wants to shield you from harm, to make sure you’re supported, and to stand beside you as a steady presence when life feels overwhelming. His protection isn’t about dominance—it’s about care.
Many men are solutions-driven. They want to fix things, to find a way forward, to make life easier for the people they love. While this can sometimes feel frustrating when all you want is to be heard, it comes from a deep desire to help. When you learn to see this trait as an expression of love, rather than a dismissal of your emotions, it becomes clear that his need to “solve” isn’t about avoiding feelings—it’s about wanting to ease your burden.
And then there’s the beautiful balance between masculine logic and feminine emotion. A good man doesn’t suppress your feelings or tell you to “calm down”—he grounds you. When you’re overwhelmed, he reminds you to breathe. When emotions run high, he brings perspective and steadiness. Not in a way that dismisses or diminishes your experience, but in a way that helps you feel everything while knowing you’re safe. His presence doesn’t dull your emotions—it gives them a foundation to rest upon.
The more you shift your focus to the good in men, the more you’ll start to see it. The more you believe in the existence of healthy, loving, protective, and emotionally available men, the more likely you are to welcome one into your life—or recognise and appreciate the one you already have.
Vulnerability with menAllowing yourself to believe in good men requires vulnerability. It’s often easier to protect ourselves from further pain by closing off emotionally, especially after we’ve been hurt in the past. Vulnerability feels like an open wound—it’s raw, unguarded, and scary. When we’ve experienced heartbreak, betrayal, or emotional neglect, the instinct to build walls around our hearts becomes a defence mechanism. We tell ourselves it’s better to be guarded than to risk feeling that pain again.
But the truth is, those walls that protect us also keep out the love, connection, and intimacy we deserve. While our mind might think we’re safeguarding ourselves from further hurt, our hearts are also being kept from experiencing the beautiful potential of authentic, fulfilling relationships. These walls act like a filter, blocking out anything that feels too close, too deep, or too vulnerable.
The problem with staying guarded is that it limits our ability to connect on a meaningful level. When we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we miss out on the potential for real love to blossom. It’s not just about romantic relationships—being open and vulnerable allows us to form deeper connections in all aspects of life, whether it’s with friends, family, or even ourselves. The act of lowering our defences requires trust, but trust is what allows relationships to thrive.
In order to believe in good men, we need to trust that not all experiences will repeat, and not every person is going to hurt us. This doesn’t mean ignoring past pain or pretending it didn’t happen—it means choosing to trust that healing is possible, and that love can be safe again. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable opens the door to real connection, but it also invites us to receive love in a way that nurtures our hearts instead of protecting them.
Male role modelsIf you haven’t had strong male role models in your life, it can feel challenging to believe that good men exist, let alone trust them. For many women, early experiences with men—whether form the foundation for how they perceive men in adulthood. If those early relationships were fraught with disappointment, neglect, or lack of emotional availability, it can leave lasting scars on the heart. Without seeing healthy relationships modelled in real life, it’s hard to know what a good, loving, committed man even looks like.
When there are no positive examples to draw from, we can easily fall into the belief that men are inherently unreliable, emotionally distant, or self serving. We don’t have a reference point for what true love, respect, and care can look like from a man. Without seeing men who are kind, compassionate, loyal, and willing to commit, it’s easy to generalise all men based on our experiences, or worse, based on societal stereotypes.
The absence of strong male role models can also mean that we’re not taught how to engage with men in a healthy, balanced way. We might unknowingly carry fears or misconceptions into new relationships, expecting them to mimic past patterns of disappointment or dysfunction. And without the guidance of a positive male figure, we might not even know what qualities to look for in a healthy partner.
But the good news is that you can choose to start seeing positive examples in your life now, even if they weren’t modelled for you growing up. Start by looking at the men around you—whether it’s friends, colleagues, mentors, or even positive portrayals in the media. The more you expand your view of men, the more you’ll see that good, kind, and loving men are out there.
How to see the good in men practical exercises what you can doAs a life coach you know I’m not just going to talk but get into the practical. If you’re single: ”What if, instead of asking, ‘Where are all the good men?’—you started asking, ‘How can I align with healthy love?’
Expand Your Awareness
For the next week, make it a daily practice to notice examples of good men around you. This could be:
- The father at the grocery store patiently helping his child.
- The older man who holds the door open for a stranger.
- A friend’s partner who supports her career and personal growth.
- A male colleague who uplifts others and creates a positive work environment.Write down at least three examples per day. The more you train your brain to notice, the more you’ll start to see.
If this conversation has resonated with you and you’re ready to dive deeper into transforming your relationship with love, trust, and your beliefs about men, let’s work together. Life coaching can help you unpack the layers of past experiences, shift limiting beliefs, and step into a space where you fully embrace the love you deserve.
Together, we’ll explore what’s been holding you back and create a path forward, one where you trust yourself and your ability to attract and nurture healthy relationships—whether with yourself, others, or the right partner.
Don’t let old narratives keep you stuck in patterns that no longer serve you. If you’re ready to start seeing and attracting the good, let’s connect. Reach out today, and let’s begin the journey to deeper self-love, trust, and fulfilling relationships.
If you’ve been feeling called to reconnect with your feminine energy, embrace self love, and deepen your trust in yourself and your relationships, the flow retreat in Vietnam this May 25th to 31st, 2025 is the perfect opportunity to step into your full power.
This retreat is all about creating space for you to explore your feminine essence—nurturing it, understanding it, and reclaiming it. Together, we’ll dive into practices that honor your intuition, your heart, and your body, while also allowing you to release limiting beliefs and old wounds that have kept you from fully stepping into your radiance.
If you’re ready to experience a transformative journey in a luxurious, supportive environment, this is your invitation to take the leap. It’s time to nourish yourself in ways that will shift the trajectory of your life.
Join me in Vietnam this May, where we’ll cultivate deep connection, healing, and empowerment. Let’s work together to awaken your feminine energy and create lasting change.
Spaces are limited—only a few spaces remain reach out today to reserve your spot and start this incredible journey with me and other like minded women.
Happy Valentine’s Day my love.
Until next time.
Love & positivity, Phi
In this episode, Georgia Forbes, Holistic Counsellor and Coach, Co Founder of the Insight Collective & Co, joins me as we dive into the often unspoken of and unseen threads that shape life’s journey—past lives, money mindset, mystical connections, and the deep wisdom of your intuition. What if unconditional love wasn’t something to seek but something to remember? This was something uncovered on the Recharge and Renew Retreat in Bali last year. Together, we explore the ways softening allows you to receive more—more unconditional divine love, more abundance, more trust in yourself.We also unpack the layers of money mindset, shifting from scarcity and struggle to a sense of effortless flow. Through play, connection, and synchronicity, you’ll see how the universe is always speaking to you, inviting you to step into a more aligned and abundant life.
Alongside this, we explore the sisterhood wound—the deep-seated fear of being seen, of truly trusting and being held by other women. We unravel the patterns of being the caretaker, always carrying the weight for others, and how this ties into the balance between masculine and feminine energy.
Furthermore we discuss how embracing and leaning into play is so important and fun but not only that: it’s a portal to your inner child, the part of you that knows how to trust, imagine, and receive without resistance. When you reconnect with this innocence, healing happens, opening you to deeper joy, creativity, and a more expansive way of being.
Join us as we reflect on the magic of the Recharge and Renew Bali retreat—where your intuition sharpens, old patterns dissolve, and a greater sense of confidence emerges. This is your invitation to reconnect with the wisdom already within you and embrace the path unfolding before you.
Join the Recharge and Renew Bali Retreat August 2025 here.
Resources from today’s episodeConnect with Georgia
- Georgia’s Instagram: Coaching with G
- Georgia Forbes Coaching
- Email Georgia
- Insight Collective & Co
- Insight Collective & Co Instagram
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Recharge & Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Georgia Forbes on the Grow Through It PodcastResources from today’s episodeConnect with Georgia
- Georgia’s Instagram: Coaching with G
- Georgia Forbes Coaching
- Email Georgia
- Insight Collective & Co
- Insight Collective & Co Instagram
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Recharge & Renew – Bali Retreat August 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Georgia Forbes on the Grow Through It PodcastPhi and Georgia discuss the following topics;
- Past lives
- Energetic hygiene and boundaries
- Having a strong connection to a place
- Feeling into spirits and connecting with them physically too (in a safe manner)
- Unconditional love that transcends time
- Safety
- Spirituality
- Caretaking
- Masculine and Feminine Energy
- Money Mindset (Georgia had her biggest months in business following the retreat!)
- The sisterhood wound
- Connecting with like minded women instantly and effortlessly on retreat
- The importance of play and the inner child
The launch of the August 2025 Bali Retreat (Recharge and Renew). The vibes? Main Character Energy. Manifestation. Money Mindset.This intimate women’s only retreat encourages you to manifest your deepest desires and dreams, amplify your ability to bring them to life, redefine your money mindset and step into your power. Expect deep, meaningful conversations with other like minded women who become friends and your biggest fans and life long supporters and heart centered insights all while immersed in the paradise that is Bali.Secure your spotFor more information and lock in your spot: phidang.com/bali-retreat
In this episode, we dive into the potent energies of the Lunar New Year and the Aquarius New Moon in 2025, both coinciding to mark a powerful threshold of transformation. 2025 ushers in the Year of the Snake, a symbol of deep wisdom, renewal, and strategic movement. With Aquarius—a sign of innovation and authenticity—illuminating this fresh lunar cycle, this is a time to shed old skins, embrace new visions, and trust your intuition as you navigate the year ahead.Through channeled messages through Phi and intuitive reflections, we explore how these energies invite you to step into your personal evolution with clarity and confidence.
You’ll also receive a series of guided journal prompts for the Year of the Snake and Aquarius New Moon in 2025 to help you integrate the lessons of this potent time. Whether you’re seeking inspiration, direction, or a deeper understanding of the themes unfolding, this episode will offer insights to align your intentions to be in flow with the current energies. Get ready to tune into your inner wisdom, embrace transformation, and set the stage for a year of aligned growth and empowered self-expression.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Happy New Year…Again! Well Year of the Snake and Aquarius New Moon 2025Happy new year my love!
Most years I find January is slow, chilled maybe even dragged out but 2025? Oh no honey. This year has personally and professionally just been flat out that before I knew it last week was the human design new year and now today is the Lunar New Year. If you’re an astrological girly you may find the 29th of March later this year new year because it’s the first new moon of the astrological calendar.
Either way can you feel it in the energy that 2025 is going to be big!? It’s the cosmic invitation of 2025: Year of the Snake, Aquarius New Moon, and Renewal Led by the Energy of The Moon (feminine in nature, emotional, fluctuating). Because I love you guys I’m going to give two sets of journaling prompts – journaling questions for the Aquarius New Moon and Year of the Snake.
Welcome to this special episode where I’m going to dive deep into the transformative energies surrounding the Lunar New Year, the Aquarius New Moon, and the year of the Snake in 2025. First of all I want you to take a moment to anchor and let it sink in the shifting tides of the collective, tune into your own inner compass, and step boldly into a year of innovation, evolution, and authenticity.
Current Energy 29th January Astrology PlanetsLet’s start with the Aquarius New Moon which aligns with the transformative rebirth driven aligned Pluto and fuelled by the expansive, curious energy of Jupiter in Gemini. This moon whispers: What are you ready to let go of? What do you need to birth into reality?
In the backdrop, January has already brought dynamic shifts. Jupiter and Uranus turning direct have cleared the path for forward momentum, while the North Node in Pisces and South Node in Virgo guide us away from rigid perfectionism and into the flow of intuitive compassion. Uranus in Taurus continues to shake up the foundations of what we value—be it our relationships, careers, or the planet itself—asking us to redefine what truly matters.
Pluto, as always, demands deep transformation. It doesn’t let us hide in comfort zones or cling to outdated beliefs. Instead, it calls us to confront and dismantle what no longer serves, paving the way for a future built on liberation, truth, and aligned purpose.
Let’s start off the Aquarius new moon.
Characteristics of AquariusAquarius is the dreamer and the innovator, urging you to step outside the box. This isn’t just about personal evolution—it’s about contributing to something greater than yourself. Aquarius thrives in community, collaboration, and shared purpose. This New Moon asks:
How can you create something bigger than yourself?
What are you ready to give back to the world?
How can you balance visionary dreaming with grounded, practical action?
Channeled message Aquarius New Moon 2025When I channeled this particular Aquarius New Moon in 2025 it feels like a declaration that the future isn’t meant to look like the past. This is the moon phase that dares you to dream differently, break the mould, and embrace your quirks as your superpower. As the water bearer of the zodiac, Aquarius is the sign of innovation, rebellion, and collective progress. It challenges us to reimagine what’s possible, both individually and as a community.
This isn’t the kind of energy that wants to play by the rules or follow tradition. Aquarius thrives on thinking outside the box, colouring outside the lines, and asking questions that others wouldn’t dare to consider. Under this New Moon, you’re being asked to tap into your most unconventional ideas, those ones that feel just a little too weird or ahead of their time. What if those quirks are the very thing the world is waiting for?
On a personal level, the Aquarius New Moon is a time to rewrite the narrative. Who do you want to be in this new year? Not the version that checks the boxes or follows the “shoulds,” but the version of you that dares to be unapologetically authentic. Maybe it’s the year to take up that unconventional hobby, launch a passion project no one understands yet, or join a community that aligns with your values, even if it feels a little out there.
Aquarius also reminds us of the power of community, but not in the traditional sense of fitting into a group. It’s about finding your people—the ones who celebrate your weirdness and inspire you to see the world differently. This New Moon asks: where can you connect with like-minded souls who want to build something unique and meaningful together?
Most importantly, this New Moon carries the energy of rebellious hope. It’s not just about leaving behind the past year; it’s about daring to build a future that feels alive, liberated, and truly yours. This is your moment to embrace what makes you different and let it light the way forward. After all, in the age of Aquarius, the boldest moves often come from the quirkiest visions.
The energy of this new moon is forward-focused, but it doesn’t bypass the inner work.
Journaling questions and prompts for the Aquarius New Moon 2025What unique ideas or perspectives do you have that the world needs right now?
Aquarius energy thrives on innovation and originality. Reflect on how your individuality can spark meaningful change or inspire others.
In what areas of life are you ready to embrace your quirks instead of hiding them?
Aquarius celebrates authenticity. Consider how leaning into what makes you different can lead to greater confidence and alignment.
How can you contribute to a community or cause that aligns with your values?
As the sign of collective progress, Aquarius urges you to think beyond yourself. Reflect on how you can show up for a group or cause you care about.
What unconventional dream or project do you feel ready to pursue this year?
Aquarius energy supports bold, futuristic visions. Explore what passion project or idea excites you, even if it feels “too out there.”
Where in your life are you ready to break the rules or defy expectations?
Aquarius is the rebel of the zodiac. Journal about areas where conformity feels stifling and how you can chart your own course.
How can you think outside the box to solve a current problem or challenge?
Aquarius energy is all about innovative solutions. Reflect on a challenge and brainstorm creative, unconventional approaches.
How can you use technology or innovation to elevate your life or work?
Aquarius is linked to progress and technology. Reflect on how digital tools, online communities, or new systems could make life easier or more fulfilling.
What part of yourself feels the most misunderstood, and how can you begin to embrace it?
Aquarius often feels “different.” Use this prompt to reflect on the parts of yourself that might feel out of place and how they could be your greatest strength.
What does being part of something bigger than yourself look like for you?Aquarius reminds us that individual contributions feed collective progress. Journal about what “community” means to you and how you can participate in creating something meaningful.
Aquarius New Moon 2025 Aligns With The Year of the SnakeNow, layer this New Moon energy with the wisdom of the Year of the Snake in the Chinese zodiac. Snakes are symbols of renewal, transformation, and hidden wisdom. Just like a snake sheds its skin, 2025 calls you to release what’s been weighing you down—whether it’s old habits, limiting beliefs, or unresolved fears. This year is about moving with intention and grace, listening to the whispers of your inner knowing, and stepping into a lighter, freer version of yourself.
Year of the Snake 2025: PatienceThe Snake doesn’t rush. Its power lies in its stillness, its ability to observe and strike when the moment is right. What areas of your life need that level of focus? Where can you move with more purpose, instead of rushing or reacting?
The Snake is the art of patience. The snake moves with purpose, never rushing, never acting impulsively. It teaches us to slow down, to listen, and to wait for the right moment before taking action. In a world that often demands instant results, the Snake’s energy asks us to trust in divine timing. This year is about cultivating quiet strength, tuning into your inner wisdom, and trusting that the seeds you plant will bear fruit when the time is right.
Year of the Snake: IntelligenceIn Asian cultures and traditions whether it be Chinese, Vietnamese (my heritage line for example), the snake is revered as a symbol of intelligence, resilience, and love. Those born under this sign or influenced by its energy are often seen as resourceful and determined, willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish their goals.
2025 Element Wood Snake ZodiacIn 2025, the Snake is associated with the element of Wood, which brings a unique layer of growth, flexibility, and vitality to its energy. Wood represents life force, expansion, and the ability to adapt to challenges with grace. Think of a tree—it grows upward, reaching for the light, yet its roots anchor it firmly in the earth. The Snake’s connection to Wood reminds us to ground ourselves in our values and truth while remaining open to the winds of change. Personal growth this year might feel like a gentle, steady unfolding rather than a dramatic leap.
Wood also amplifies the Snake’s intelligence and resourcefulness. This is a year to lean into creative solutions and innovative thinking (which aligns with the Aquarius New Moon – mmmm I love alignment!).
If you’ve been feeling stuck, the energy of the Wood Snake can guide you to break free from old patterns and explore new ways of approaching your challenges. It encourages you to embrace curiosity and trust your intuition as you navigate uncharted territory. With resilience and intention, you can carve a path that aligns with your highest vision.
Year of the Snake 2025: Love and RomanceAt its heart, the Snake is also a symbol of love—not just romantic love, but self-love and love for the interconnectedness of all things. In a Wood year, this love takes on a nurturing quality, inviting you to care for yourself, your relationships, and the world around you. It’s a time to prioritise what truly matters, to heal old wounds, and to build connections that uplift and inspire. The Snake’s energy reminds us that growth is most powerful when it’s rooted in love. I know that may surprise you but even in Western Culture snakes can symbolise love, especially eternal love. The snake motif was popular in Victorian jewellery, and Queen Victoria’s engagement ring featured a snake.
Year of the Snake 2025: Fertility and AbundanceSnakes have also been associated with fertility deeply connected to the cycles of life, creation, and renewal.The snake’s association with fertility is also reflected in its presence in myths and stories about creation. In some traditions, snakes are depicted as creators of worlds, the force from which life emerges. In others, they are seen as keepers of sacred knowledge, guardians of the mysteries of birth, death, and transformation. Their movements—silent, fluid, and grounded—remind us of life’s natural ebb and flow, as well as the power of adaptability and quiet strength. Fertility, in this context, is not just about reproduction but about the continual birth of new ideas, new paths, and new opportunities for growth.
Year of the Snake 2025: Indigenous CulturesIn ancient traditions, snakes were often linked to the earth’s rhythms, representing the fertility of the land, the abundance of nature, and the capacity for life to continually renew itself. In Indigenous cultures, snakes can represent the relationship between people, ancestors, and the land.
Year of the Snake 2025: Kundalini Rising EnergyIn mythology and spirituality, snakes are also tied to the creative life force known as kundalini energy—a powerful, coiled energy said to rest at the base of the spine. When awakened, it rises like a snake, weaving its way through the body’s energy centers, igniting transformation and enlightenment. In this way, the fertility of the snake is not just about external creation but also about awakening your own inner power and potential. This year invites you to explore how you can channel your energy into something that deeply nourishes your soul.
Year of the Snake 2025: The Power of Silence and ObservationThe Snake in the Chinese zodiac teaches us the value of silence and observation. Unlike louder, more overt personalities, the Snake relies on quiet discernment and a deep awareness of its surroundings. This energy reminds us that sometimes, stepping back, listening, and observing can offer profound insights and solutions. It’s an invitation to slow down, assess situations with care, and act only when the time is right.
Year of the Snake 2025: Complexity and DepthSnakes are often associated with wisdom and complexity, representing the ability to see beyond surface-level appearances. This year, the Snake calls us to explore the deeper layers of ourselves and the world around us. It encourages embracing life’s ambiguities, seeing challenges as opportunities for growth, and understanding that there’s often more beneath the surface than meets the eye.
Year of the Snake 2025: Strategic Planning and ThinkingIt teaches the importance of planning, patience, and knowing when to act. Instead of rushing into decisions, Snake energy encourages you to map out your path carefully and weigh the potential outcomes. This is a year to think long-term, prioritising goals that align with your core values and aspirations.
Year of the Snake 2025: Resilience and Taylor Swift!?Snakes are known for their quiet strength and ability to endure challenges. From the zodiac perspective, the Snake embodies resilience—the kind that comes from within, not from external validation. It inspires us to develop emotional strength, rely on our inner resources, and adapt gracefully to life’s uncertainties without losing sight of our goals. It’s giving Taylor Swift Reputation Era!
Year of the Snake 2025: To be Elegant and SubtleThe Snake’s energy is refined and elegant, often associated with beauty and grace. It teaches us the value of subtlety, showing how quiet confidence can be more impactful than loud displays. This lesson encourages you to cultivate a sense of inner poise, carry yourself with self-assurance, and let your actions speak for themselves.
Year of the Snake 2025: Mastering Emotional IntuitionThe Snake is deeply intuitive, attuned to emotional undercurrents that others might overlook. Its energy invites you to strengthen your connection to your intuition and trust the subtle signals your body and emotions send you. Learning to discern truth from illusion and listening to your inner wisdom can guide you to make decisions that feel authentic and aligned
Year of the Snake 2025: BoundariesSnakes are protective creatures, valuing their space and well-being. This zodiac sign reminds us to honor our boundaries—whether emotional, mental, or physical. It’s a call to create environments where you feel safe and respected, empowering you to focus on your personal growth and self-care without unnecessary distractions or energy drains.
Year of the Snake 2025: Journaling Prompts and QuestionsWhere in your life could you benefit from being more observant or strategic, and how can you practice patience while moving toward your goals?
The Snake thrives on quiet observation and deliberate action. Consider areas where rushing has held you back and how slowing down and planning more intentionally could create better outcomes.
What boundaries do you need to set to protect your energy, and how can you honor them without guilt?
Snakes are known for their ability to protect themselves. Use this prompt to identify where your energy feels drained or misused and how setting clear boundaries could create space for your well-being and growth.
How can you cultivate a deeper relationship with your intuition this year, and what practices help you listen to your inner wisdom?
The Snake teaches the value of emotional intuition and self-trust. Explore moments when your intuition guided you in the past and brainstorm ways to strengthen that connection moving forward, like meditation, journaling, or body awareness.
What outdated beliefs or habits are keeping you stuck, and how can you shed them gracefully to make room for growth?
While the idea of shedding is common with Snake energy, focus on the grace and intentionality of this process. Reflect on what no longer serves you and how you can release it with gratitude instead of resistance.
What long-term goals feel most aligned with your authentic self, and how can you create a strategic plan to achieve them?
The Snake encourages strategic thinking and clarity in action. Write about your vision for the future and break it into actionable steps, focusing on persistence rather than instant results.
How can you embrace more elegance and subtlety in how you show up, both in your relationships and your work?
The Snake’s energy is refined and poised, reminding you that less can sometimes be more. Consider how you might embody quiet confidence and allow your actions to speak louder than your words this year.
What part of life’s mystery excites or intrigues you most, and how can you stay open to the unknown this year?
The Snake reminds us to honour life’s uncertainties and trust the unfolding journey. Reflect on your relationship with the unknown and how staying curious could bring unexpected growth and joy.
Year of the Snake and Aquarius New Moon 202 SummaryAs we close out this episode, I hope you’re feeling inspired and ready to embrace the unique energy of this year—whether it’s tapping into your intuition, letting go of outdated beliefs, or daring to dream bigger. The Year of the Snake offers us the perfect opportunity for transformation, resilience, and empowerment, and the Aquarius New Moon invites us to think outside the box and embrace the unconventional. These cosmic energies are here to support you as you step into a future filled with possibility and growth.
If you’re feeling the call to dive deeper into your personal growth journey or navigate the changes ahead with clarity, I’d love to work with you. Together, we can explore your unique energy, uncover your deepest desires, and create actionable steps for a year of meaningful transformation. Reach out to me today, and let’s start crafting the life you’re meant to live.
Bali Retreat coming soon and opening Recharge and Renew August 4-9, 2025 on January 31st 2025 spots open. 4 spaces remain for Flow in Vietnam May 25-31, 2025.
In this episode, Chloe Fox, host of We’re All Just Guessing and one of my 1:1 clients since 2023, joins me to share her journey through the raw, honest and beautiful experience of being human. Together, we explore the pain and beauty of feeling deeply, what it means to be misunderstood, and navigating anxiety. Chloe opens up about her move to Japan, adapting to a new culture, and being the youngest in spaces that often challenge her growth—including her life changing experience at the Recharge and Renew Retreat in Bali.We also dive into the challenges and wisdom of having emotional authority in Human Design, the magic of cacao ceremonies, and the power of intuition and self trust. Through Chloe’s personal experiences, we reflect on the tension between external validation and embodying your highest self. It’s a heartfelt conversation about opening your heart and leaning into life’s challenges with an open heart.
Spaces open soon for the retreat on the 31st of January. It will be in Bali once again 4th-9th of August 2025. Spaces are limited. Contact Phi for more information.
Resources from today’s episodeChloe’s Podcast
- We’re All Just Guessing
- Chloe’s YouTube
Work with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Chloe Fox on the Grow Through It PodcastChloe Fox joins Phi (me) on the Podcast. She is currently one of my 1:1 clients we have been working together since 2023 and she is the host of her podcast We’re All Just Guessing.
Chloe and Phi talk about:
– How she and I started working together
– The pain of being human (it can be so hard… life comes with pain, challenges… we feel so deeply and it is so beautiful at the same time)
– What it’s like to be misunderstood
– Navigating anxiety
– Moving to a whole new country (Japan), culture shock and adapting to a new home
– Being the youngest around people (Chloe was the youngest on our retreat at the time of this podcast she is 23)
– Moving through the waves of emotion, being an emotional authority in human design (we both are!)
– Her retreat experience at the Recharge and Renew Retreat Bali August 2024
– Cacao ceremony
– Tapping into your intuition and accessing, embodying your highest self – the wisdom!
– Opening your heart
– Feeling the pressure/desire for external validation
In this episode I have Zoe Teh, a collaboration designer and organisational psychologist. We podcast live on the final day of her private 1:1 retreat with me, reflecting on her transformative journey so far, starting with her decision to celebrate turning 30 by investing in herself and attending the Recharge and Renew August Bali Retreat.Zoe shares how stepping into and deciding to attend the retreat was both an act of self care, celebration and empowerment, opening the door to mindset shifts and coming home to a sisterhood of like minded women.
We talk money mindset and abundance, uncovering blocks she hadn’t fully acknowledged, stepping into a new relationship with wealth and her capacity to manifest. Exploring her Human Design, using her sacral authority, and navigating her soul purpose revolving around laws… rules.
As a woman of colour, she speaks passionately about the importance of representation and creating inclusive spaces where diverse voices are heard. Post-retreat, she’s taking bold steps, from manifesting love and freezing her eggs to securing her future, to taking radical ownership of her life and letting go of distractions that no longer serve her to starting a new venture. The recharge and renew Bali retreat has been a catalyst for her to redefine success and truly align her purpose with her path.
Spaces open soon for the retreat on the 31st of January. It will be in Bali once again 4th-9th of August 2025. Spaces are limited. Contact Phi for more information.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
Contact ZoeBreakingbamboocrew on Instagram
Zoe Teh on the Grow Through It PodcastZoe speaks about
- Turning 30 and celebrating by investing in herself and a retreat
- Her experience attending the Recharge and Renew August Bali Retreat
- Making friends on the retreat sisterhood
- Money mindset + abundance
- Human design she has a sacral authority and soul purpose around laws
- Being a woman of colour
- Diversity and inclusion
- Manifesting love, post retreat freezing her eggs
- Taking ownership and responsibility in your life
- Distractions
In this episode, we explore the powerful energy of the North Node in Pisces and South Node in Virgo, guiding us to shift from overthinking and perfectionism to embracing intuition, creativity, and trust in the flow of life.
We’ll discuss what this 18 and half month cycle means for personal growth and how to balance the practical skills we’ve mastered with the soulful, heart centred wisdom calling us forward.
Tune in for insights on navigating this transition, plus reflective journal prompts to help you align with this new chapter. Ready to dive deeper? Explore working with me! 1:1 coaching, Human Design readings, or join one of my three retreats this year to fully embrace your journey ahead!
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
What are the north node and south node? Astrology, spiritual growth, karma and destinyHello beautiful soul, wow of all dates 11/1 or 1/11 depending where you live what is unfolding is huge collective change karmically and in terms of our destiny. An 18.5 month chapter complete in Aries and Libra it is now Pisces and Virgo. This is all to do with what we call destiny markers what I say to simplify or the technical astrological terminology of the North and South Nodes, also known as the lunar nodes, are points where the Moon’s orbit intersects the Earth’s orbit around the Sun.
They represent the soul’s journey, with the South Node indicating past-life tendencies, comfort zones, and habits you’re meant to outgrow, while the North Node points to your soul’s purpose, growth, and the qualities you’re meant to develop in this lifetime. These points are not physical celestial bodies but carry deep spiritual significance, offering insight into karmic lessons and your ultimate path of evolution. We have collective ones as well as individual ones.
How to work out personal affect of North Node in Pisces South Node in Virgo To find out your own individual energy, look into your astrological natal chart for placements in Pisces and Virgo for this new chapter and previously reflect upon the 18.5 month chapter that is closing on Aries and Libra. Personally I am so excited as someone with a Pisces moon. Pisces is known for feeling deeply so to have that on a collective level and leaning more into intuition, the spiritual, the woo thats chefs kiss for me.
Aries North Node Libra South Node 2023-2025For the past 18.5 months, the Aries North Node has encouraged individuals and the collective to step into their independence, courage, and self-leadership. This energy has been about embracing bold action, taking risks, and prioritising personal desires and passions. It’s been a time of self-discovery, pushing past fears of conflict or rejection, and learning to assert oneself unapologetically. Aries has asked us to break free from codependency, release hesitation, and trust in our ability to carve our own paths, even when the way forward is uncertain. Themes of empowerment, resilience, and standing firmly in your truth have been at the forefront.
Meanwhile, the Libra South Node has highlighted the need to release unhealthy people-pleasing, reliance on others for validation, and an overemphasis on harmony at the expense of authenticity. This period has invited reflection on relationships, balance, and fairness, urging a shift from external approval to internal alignment. It’s been about unraveling patterns of avoiding conflict, over compromising, or losing individuality in partnerships. Collectively, this transit has sparked conversations around justice, fairness, and equality while also showing where outdated relationship dynamics, social structures, or cultural norms need to be rebalanced or let go.
North Node Pisces South Node Virgo energyThe collective shift of the destiny nodes affects everyone, highlighting universal themes of growth and release, but if these energies strongly align with your personal chart as I’ve said earlier—particularly your Sun, Moon, or Rising sign—you essentially become an astrological main character during this time. The areas of life these nodes touch for you feel magnified, calling for greater awareness and evolution. You may find yourself at the center of significant events, relationships, or inner transformations that mirror the collective themes, pushing you to grow in alignment with the current cosmic direction.
This influence brings opportunities for profound personal growth, but it also challenges you to release patterns that no longer serve your highest potential. Whether it’s stepping into leadership, letting go of old dynamics, or embracing your authentic self, your journey becomes a reflection of the greater collective shift, positioning you as an embodiment of the energies the world is being called to integrate.
What the shift to Pisces in the North Node meansThe Pisces North Node and Virgo South Node represent a collective shift from striving for control, structure, and perfection toward embracing surrender, flow, and universal connection. Virgo South Node energy reflects the collective’s overemphasis on logic, productivity, and the need to categorise and fix everything. These traits, while valuable in their own right, can lead to burnout, hypercriticism, and a sense of disconnection from the bigger picture. As a society, this energy highlights the systems, routines, and detail-oriented mindsets that no longer serve our growth, urging us to release the illusion that we can control every aspect of life.
With the Pisces North Node, the collective is being called to trust in the unseen, cultivate compassion, and open up to spiritual and creative dimensions of life. Pisces energy asks us to let go of rigid boundaries and tap into intuition, imagination, and the wisdom of interconnectedness. This shift prioritises emotional healing, empathy, and the ability to see beyond differences, inspiring collective efforts that foster unity and deeper understanding. It’s an invitation to soften, surrender to the flow of life, and recognise the sacredness in all things, moving from a place of doing to being.
What will happen future predictions North Node in PiscesThis alignment encourages shifts in areas like mental health, spirituality, and creativity, urging collective progress toward more holistic and intuitive approaches. It might bring about greater acceptance of alternative healing practices, greater focus on emotional well-being, and a heightened appreciation for art and connection. At its highest potential, the Pisces North Node can unite humanity through shared compassion and inspire solutions to global challenges that honor the whole rather than focusing solely on the individual pieces.
I’m excited for the leaning in and emergence of embracing Pisces core elements of arts, romance, and creative expression. We are going to see more emotionally authentic, soul-nourishing forms of art. The arts during this time being mystical, fluid, and intangible. Artists may feel drawn to explore themes of spirituality, dreams, and collective consciousness, leading to a period of artistic reawakening.
North Node in Pisces Art & CreativityArt will become more of a channel for healing. The collective shift encourages individuals to trust their inner voice and create without overthinking, embracing spontaneous and organic forms of expression. Art, music, dance, and all forms of creativity can serve as a bridge between the material and spiritual worlds. Expect an increase in art that connects with the unseen, celebrates mystery, and invites us to explore the depths of human consciousness and the universe. Symbolism, dream imagery, and abstract forms will gain more significance.
North Node in Pisces Love Dating Relationships Twin Flames SoulmatesWhat about oooh la la love. On a collective level, relationships and romance will increasingly move toward a spiritual, soulful dimension. The focus will shift from superficial connections toward finding soulmates, twin flames, and deeper emotional bonds. People may feel a longing for relationships that transcend the material and touch the divine.
The Pisces energy encourages us to dream big in love, but there’s also a tendency to idealise or see others through “rose-colored glasses.” Romantic relationships may be seen through a lens of fantasy, and while this can be beautiful, it may also lead to disillusionment. The collective is being asked to find a balance between idealism and reality in love, learning to let go of expectations and embrace love in its most spiritual form.
Key energetic periods North Node Pisces South Node VirgoWe can expect a lot of this to take place when we have Eclipse Seasons around March and then September in 2025; then February-March in 2026. In fact the Aries Libra chapter doesn’t officially close until the final eclipse in March 2025 handing the baton over to Pisces and Virgo.
What happened last time North Node Pisces South Node VirgoThe last time the Pisces North Node and Virgo South Node occurred was from 2006 to June 2008, a period marked by significant collective shifts that reflected the transition from control and analysis (Virgo) to surrender, intuition, and unity (Pisces). Globally, this was a time of heightened awareness of humanitarian and environmental issues, along with a growing embrace of spirituality and holistic approaches. The rise of social media platforms like Facebook (which opened to the public in 2006) began to dissolve boundaries, connecting people globally in a more fluid and intuitive way, a hallmark of Pisces energy.
In culture and media, themes of compassion and emotional storytelling took center stage. Films like The Pursuit of Happiness (2006) resonated with audiences, reflecting stories of faith, resilience, and interconnectedness.On a global scale, there were moments that pushed humanity to consider collective empathy. The aftermath of events like the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami (rebuilding efforts still ongoing in 2006) and other natural disasters highlighted the necessity of coming together in compassionate action.
On a global scale, there were moments that pushed humanity to consider collective empathy. The aftermath of events like the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami (rebuilding efforts still ongoing in 2006) and other natural disasters highlighted the necessity of coming together in compassionate action.
North Node Pisces South Node Virgo Journaling Prompts QuestionsTo make this collective shift your own, embracing Pisces energy, I have some journal prompts for you.
Reflect on the last time the North Node was in Pisces (end of June 2006- mid December 2007)—what major shifts or transformations were happening in your life? How did you move through that period, and what lessons did you learn?
What parts of your life are still shaped by Virgo’s need for control, perfectionism, or over-analysis? How can you begin to release those patterns to align more with the flow of life? Identify areas where a rigid, perfectionist approach is still guiding your decisions, and ask yourself if it’s truly serving you. Consider how this focus on precision or control may cause unnecessary stress or exhaustion.
Where do you tend to be overly critical of yourself or others? How can embracing compassion and understanding change your perspective? Acknowledge where harsh judgments, either towards yourself or others, have created distance or frustration. Ask yourself what would shift if you approached these situations with more kindness, forgiveness, and empathy. Practice seeing things from a compassionate perspective, understanding that we all have our flaws and are on our own unique journeys.
How can you create more space for intuition and creativity in your life? What small steps can you take to trust your instincts more deeply? Reflect on moments when you’ve ignored your intuition in favour of logic or practicality.
Reflect on a time when you prioritised your to-do list over your emotional or spiritual needs. What would it look like to balance both, allowing room for rest and nourishment? Think about a period when your focus on work, tasks, or duties left you feeling drained or disconnected from your true self. Consider how integrating time for self-care, rest, and spiritual nourishment could bring more harmony and energy into your life. Balance doesn’t mean perfection—allow yourself to show up for both your responsibilities and your personal well-being.
How does your current routine or approach to work reflect Virgo’s influence? In what areas could you shift towards a more fluid, holistic approach, focusing on the bigger picture? Look at your daily work routine—do you find yourself stuck in repetitive tasks, focusing only on details?
Pisces asks you to embrace surrender—what do you need to release control over in your life right now? How can you practice trusting the process more? Pinpoint areas where you may be clinging to outcomes or over-planning, which could be stifling your growth. Practice letting go of the need for certainty and control, allowing life to unfold with more trust. Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up; it means releasing resistance and opening yourself up to new possibilities.
Reflect on your relationship with spirituality or creativity—how can you bring more of these qualities into your daily life, regardless of external expectations? Think about how you currently nurture your spiritual or creative practices, and where you may feel disconnected or overwhelmed by external demands. Explore how small rituals or creative expressions can be incorporated into your routine, even in simple ways. By honouring your spiritual and creative sides, you can invite more peace and authenticity into your life.
Summary North Node Pisces South Node Virgo As we close today’s episode, we’ve explored the powerful energy of the North Node in Pisces and the South Node in Virgo, both personally and collectively. This alignment invites us to release our attachment to perfectionism and control, encouraging a deeper connection to intuition, creativity, and compassion. Remember, it’s not about rejecting Virgo’s practical wisdom but about finding balance—embracing flow, trust, and the beauty of the unknown. Let’s carry these reflections with us, allowing them to guide us toward a more authentic, harmonious way of living. If you’re looking to start this year and embrace this new 18-month chapter with clarity and purpose, I invite you to explore how you can align more deeply with your soul’s path through 1:1 coaching, Human Design readings, or one of the three retreats I’m running this year.
Until next time, stay open to the possibilities that lie in surrender, having faith in yourself and the universe and self compassion.
Love & Positivity
In this episode, we dive deep into the powerful process of unlearning in 2025.Together, we’ll explore the beliefs and habits we’re ready to release—like the fear of failure, limiting thoughts about money, and the idea that strength means doing it all alone.We’ll talk about why embracing boundaries, asking for help, and stepping into abundance are key to transforming your life this year.You’ll walk away with insights on shifting your mindset and make space for the love, wealth, and connections you deserve. This episode is your invitation to let go of what’s been holding you back and step confidently into your true potential.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
- Flow – Vietnam Retreat May 2025
- Message Phi on Instagram
- Email Phi
What to unlearn in 2025 for your growthHello my love and welcome to 2025. We are going to kick this year off with Unlearning. As you know I’m super passionate about all things unlearning because I even wrote a book about it – The Great Unlearning.
I know from working with clients and chatting to some of you that in 2024 it really tested your strength, there was unraveling old identities and forcing truths to the surface. It was a year of upheaval, heartbreak, and unexpected revelations—each challenge quietly preparing the soil for something new.
As 2025 dawns, unlearning becomes the sacred act of honouring those difficulties while shedding what no longer serves. It’s the gentle release of outdated beliefs, habits, and fears born from survival, making space for a life rooted in thriving. This year is a blank canvas, inviting you to paint it with your most authentic colors, free from the weight of expectations you’ve outgrown.
Unlearning in 2025 is about trusting the wisdom gained through hardship and leaning into the power of starting again. It’s a collective permission slip to question the rules that shaped you and rewrite the narrative to reflect who you’re becoming. As you unlearn, you’re not just letting go; you’re stepping forward—into a softer strength, a deeper clarity, and a life led by your own heart. This is the year you stop apologising for taking up space and begin celebrating it instead.
This episode is going to set up the vibe, tone and energy for 2025.
In 2025 we are unlearning… that if we don’t get what we want immediately, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with us.Hello my love and welcome to 2025. We are going to kick this year off with Unlearning. As you know I’m super passionate about all things unlearning because I even wrote a book about it – The Great Unlearning.
I know from working with clients and chatting to some of you that in 2024 it really tested your strength, there was unraveling old identities and forcing truths to the surface. It was a year of upheaval, heartbreak, and unexpected revelations—each challenge quietly preparing the soil for something new.
As 2025 dawns, unlearning becomes the sacred act of honouring those difficulties while shedding what no longer serves. It’s the gentle release of outdated beliefs, habits, and fears born from survival, making space for a life rooted in thriving. This year is a blank canvas, inviting you to paint it with your most authentic colors, free from the weight of expectations you’ve outgrown.
Unlearning in 2025 is about trusting the wisdom gained through hardship and leaning into the power of starting again. It’s a collective permission slip to question the rules that shaped you and rewrite the narrative to reflect who you’re becoming. As you unlearn, you’re not just letting go; you’re stepping forward—into a softer strength, a deeper clarity, and a life led by your own heart. This is the year you stop apologising for taking up space and begin celebrating it instead.
This episode is going to set up the vibe, tone and energy for 2025.
In 2025 we are unlearning… that if we don’t get what we want immediately, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with us.Life moves fast—too fast sometimes—and we’ve gotten used to expecting instant results. Whether it’s success, relationships, or personal growth, there’s this constant pressure to have it all figured out immediately. But that rush often leaves us feeling like something’s wrong with us if things take time. This year, we’re letting go of that mindset and choosing patience instead.
Unlearning instant gratification means realising that good things—real, meaningful things—take time to grow. It’s about trusting the process, even when it feels slow or uncertain. It’s okay if your goals don’t happen overnight or if life feels like it’s unfolding one small step at a time. That doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re building something real. This year, we’re making room for that slower, steadier pace, and reminding ourselves that patience is its own kind of power.
Like actually stop and think about when you rush and things move so quickly, do you feel good? Do you feel calm? Is your nervous system good? Not getting what you want Sarah, that guy and now you’ve slept with your old situationship and feel let down by yourself. Alexa, you wanted instant business success, dropped your prices so low and now your nervous system is a wreck with how much work you have to do for so little.
In 2025 we are unlearning… settling for less than we deserve, because love and abundance is our natural state.For too long, as women, we have been told not to ask for too much, to quiet your needs, and to accept what you’ve given—even if it doesn’t feel right. But this year, we’re letting go of those outdated beliefs. Love and abundance are not things we have to beg for; they are our natural state. Wanting more doesn’t make you demanding—it makes you in tune with your worth.
We’re also unlearning the habit of staying silent when something doesn’t sit right with us. Speaking up isn’t about being difficult; it’s about honouring yourself. Whether it’s in relationships, careers, or daily life, 2025 is the year to stop shrinking and start asking for what truly aligns with you. Because settling isn’t peace—it’s a quiet kind of discomfort. And you deserve so much more than that.
Remember love and abundance are our natural state. Why? Because these two beautiful things are rooted in who we are at our core—worthy, whole, and connected. From the moment we’re born, we are enough. We don’t have to earn love; it flows naturally from our relationships with ourselves and others. Abundance isn’t just about material things—it’s the recognition that life offers us infinite opportunities, experiences, and connections. It’s a mindset, a way of seeing the world through possibility rather than limitation.
When we strip away fear, doubt, and societal conditioning, what’s left is a sense of openness and connection—both to ourselves and the world around us. Love and abundance feel natural because they align with that truth. They remind us that we’re part of something bigger, something expansive, and that we are always deserving of having our needs met and our hearts full.
In 2025 we are unlearning… the idea that failure is the end—it’s the stepping stone to our next chapter.We’ve been taught to fear mistakes, to see them as proof that we’re not good enough. But the truth is, failure isn’t final—it’s a stepping stone. It’s how we learn, grow, and get closer to where we’re meant to be. Every mistake carries a lesson, and every misstep holds the wisdom we need to move forward with more clarity and confidence.
This year, we’re embracing the idea that it’s okay to get it wrong sometimes. Mistakes don’t define you—they refine you. The quicker you allow yourself to stumble, the quicker you learn what works and what doesn’t. In 2025, we’re leaving behind the fear of failure and stepping into a mindset of curiosity and resilience, knowing that every fall is just a part of the journey to something greater.
In 2025 we are unlearning… thinking our dreams are too big, and realising they are just the right size.At some point in our lives we have all been told and maybe even taught to shrink our vision, to be “more practical,” or to not aim too high. But this year, we’re reclaiming the right to dream unapologetically—and realising that the size of your dreams is just right for you. If the vision is in your heart, it’s there for a reason.
Being a dreamer doesn’t mean staying in your head; it means pairing your imagination with action. It’s about showing up, step by step, even when the path feels uncertain. Your dreams aren’t too big—they’re waiting for you to believe in them enough to move forward. In 2025, we’re embracing the courage to dream boldly and the discipline to make those dreams a reality.
In 2025 we are unlearning… limiting beliefs about money, and inviting wealth with open arms.Limiting beliefs that tell us money is hard to earn, doesn’t flow easily, or isn’t meant for us. For too long, we’ve held onto stories of scarcity—stories that make us feel guilty for wanting more or afraid to trust in abundance. But this year, we’re rewriting that narrative. We’re inviting wealth with open arms, knowing that it’s not selfish or greedy to desire financial freedom—it’s empowering.
Money is simply energy, a tool that amplifies who you are and what you value. By unlearning old fears, you create space for a healthier relationship with wealth—one rooted in gratitude, ease, and possibility. In 2025, we’re stepping into a mindset of abundance, knowing there is more than enough to go around and that we are worthy of receiving, keeping, and growing the wealth we desire.
In 2025 we are unlearning… believing boundaries push people away, and knowing they invite respect and love.Many of us have felt that saying “no” or asking for what we need risks creating distance or conflict. But this year, we’re reframing boundaries for what they really are—an act of self-love and an invitation for deeper respect and connection.
Boundaries don’t block love; they create space for healthy relationships to flourish. They show others how to honor us while also showing us how to honor ourselves. In 2025, we’re embracing the truth that boundaries are not walls—they are bridges to stronger, more authentic connections. By standing firm in what we need, we open the door to relationships built on mutual care, understanding, and trust.
In 2025 we are unlearning… clinging to relationships that drain us, and making room for connections that uplift us.Yes girly and this is coming from me, leaving and ending a year long relationship and seeing my inner circle and larger network change and evolve.
For too long, we’ve held on out of obligation, fear of being alone, or the hope that things will change. But this year, we’re letting go of connections that no longer serve our growth or well-being. We’re realising that it’s okay to step away from relationships that leave us feeling empty or exhausted.
Instead, we’re making room for relationships that lift us up, inspire us, and encourage us to be our best selves. This year, we’re choosing to surround ourselves with people who align with our values and bring positive energy into our lives. In 2025, we’re prioritising the connections that nurture our hearts, strengthen our spirits, and make us feel seen, loved, and supported.
In 2025 we are unlearning… believing strength means never asking for help, and welcoming support as a gift.We’ve been taught that needing others is a sign of weakness, that we should handle everything ourselves to prove our resilience. But this year, we’re shifting that mindset. We’re recognizing that asking for help is not a flaw—it’s a strength.
Welcoming support isn’t about being incapable; it’s about being wise enough to know that we don’t have to carry the weight alone. Support is a gift, both for us and for those offering it, creating deeper connections and fostering collaboration. In 2025, we’re embracing the power of community, knowing that true strength comes from knowing when to ask.
Work with Phi in 2025 – Life Coach, Human Design, Women’s RetreatsIf you’re ready to make 2025 the year you step into your true power and unlearn the limiting beliefs holding you back, I’d love to work with you. Whether you’re looking for 1:1 coaching to deeply transform your mindset and align with your purpose, a Human Design reading to unlock your unique strengths, or to join one of the three transformative retreats, Flow in Vietnam end of May 2025, Recharge and Renew beginnings of August and Radiance end of September, beginning of October I’m running this year, there’s a space for you. Together, we’ll dive into the practices, insights, and actions that help you create the life you truly deserve. Reach out to start your journey today.
Unlearning in 2025 is a revolutionAs we close this episode, remember that 2025 is all about unlearning and releasing what no longer serves you. From shedding the fear of failure to embracing boundaries, wealth, and support, this year invites us to expand and evolve in ways we’ve never imagined. Let go of the stories that have held you back and make room for a new chapter of growth, love, and abundance. Here’s to embracing the power of unlearning, and stepping into the life you’ve always been meant to live
Love & Positivity
We dive deep into the concept of feminine energy flow and how to embody it in your everyday life. Feminine energy is all about receptivity, intuition, creativity, and embracing the natural ebb and flow of life. Whether you’re navigating relationships, business career, or personal growth, understanding how to tap into this energy can help you move with more ease, grace, and alignment. We’ll explore simple, practical steps you can take to begin embodying this flow.This episode is perfect for anyone looking to get out of the hustle and into a state of balance and flow. We’ll share real-life examples, mindset shifts, and tools to help you release control, trust the process, and open up to the abundance and joy that is already flowing toward you. If you’re ready to embrace the power of feminine energy, this episode will guide you on how to start shifting from overwhelm and force into ease, intuition, and creative freedom.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Flow Vietnam Retreat – May 25th to 31st 2025
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Why flow and feminine energy?A very Happy New Year to you! As we step into this fresh chapter, I’m excited to talk about something that’s been on my heart—flow. Specifically, how you can embrace the power of feminine energy to make this year feel more aligned, effortless, and abundant.
In this episode, we’ll dive into what it really means to embody flow, how to notice when you’re resisting it, and some practical ways to invite it in—whether in your career, business, relationships, or personal growth.
As we begin 2025, I want you to feel empowered to move with the current of life, rather than against it. Let’s dive deep into a year of trusting your natural rhythm and embracing the flow of feminine energy together.
If you’re vibing this episode and feeling the call I’ll also be talking to you about the Flow Retreat I am running in a few months in May in Vietnam. I can’t wait I am so excited. Feminine energy is going to be a part of all the retreats I run this year! Flow is very much luxury self care feminine energy vibes.
Let’s start by breaking down what feminine energy really means. It’s not about gender or fitting into societal boxes. Feminine energy is about intuition, receptivity, creativity, and connection. It’s the part of you that thrives in stillness, listens to your inner wisdom, and embraces life with an open heart.
But here’s the catch: many of us have been conditioned to favour masculine energy—doing, achieving, and pushing forward. While those qualities are important, constantly operating in that mode can leave you feeling drained and disconnected.
Does this sound familiar? Maybe you feel like you’re constantly on a treadmill, chasing goals but feeling unfulfilled. Or perhaps you long for more ease and joy but don’t know how to get there. That’s where feminine energy and flow come in.
What is flow in terms of feminine energy?Flow is about aligning with the natural rhythms of your body, mind, and spirit. Think of it like swimming with the current rather than against it. When you’re in flow, you’re not forcing things to happen; you’re allowing life to unfold with grace.
Here’s a simple example: Have you ever had a day where everything just clicked? You felt confident, connected, and inspired. That’s flow. It’s not something you have to earn; it’s your natural state when you’re aligned with your feminine energy.
Diving into the concept of flow as it relates to feminine energy—a state that’s as powerful as it is misunderstood. At its core, feminine flow is about moving with life rather than against it, tapping into your natural rhythms, intuition, and creativity
Think of it as the “how” of embracing ease and receptivity—letting inspiration, emotions, and connection guide you. Flow isn’t passive; it’s an active surrender to what’s unfolding, where intuition leads and grace follows.
Signs you are out of flow in your feminine energyI’ve shared examples of what it means to flow, how about when you aren’t in flow? When you’re out of flow with your feminine energy, life starts to feel heavy, disconnected, and out of sync. One common sign is burnout—the result of constantly operating in a “go-go-go” mindset, prioritising productivity over presence. Instead of honouring your need for rest or replenishment, you push through exhaustion, often at the expense of your emotional well-being. For example, you might find yourself skipping meals, sacrificing sleep, or feeling irritable and drained even after accomplishing everything on your to-do list.
Another telltale sign is people-pleasing, where you prioritise everyone else’s needs above your own. This might look like agreeing to plans you don’t want to attend, overcommitting to help others, or staying in relationships or jobs that don’t honor your worth. In this state, you lose connection with your desires and intuition because you’re too focused on external validation or fear of conflict. Instead of flowing naturally, your energy feels stifled, leaving you depleted and resentful.
You’re also not in flow when you’re forcing or resisting what’s unfolding in life. Forcing shows up as controlling every detail to ensure a desired outcome, ignoring the signals telling you to pause or pivot. On the flip side, resisting might look like procrastination, avoiding decisions, or clinging to what feels safe even when it’s no longer serving you. Imagine staying in a job you’ve outgrown because you fear change or trying to make a relationship work when it’s clear it’s misaligned. Both forcing and resisting disconnect you from ease, creativity, and trust—the core of feminine flow.
Let’s get more practical and apply this to real life scenarios. Intuitively what came through was flow in relation to connections dating or being in a relationship as well as business.
Examples of Not Being in Flow in DatingOne clear sign of being out of flow in dating is overthinking and strategizing every interaction. You might spend hours crafting the “perfect” text or analyzing every word and gesture for hidden meanings. Oh my gosh Alex said this what does he really mean. Bob replied to me 5 hours later instead of his usual 2. Why did Graham use this emoji?
This over-analysis takes you out of the moment, making dating feel like a chore or a game to win rather than an opportunity to connect authentically.
Another example is chasing or overextending yourself to gain someone’s approval. This might look like initiating all the conversations, rearranging your schedule to accommodate theirs, or ignoring your own boundaries to appear more agreeable. For instance, agreeing to a date idea you dislike or tolerating inconsistent communication sends a message that their needs matter more than yours. This imbalance not only drains your energy but also prevents a genuine, mutual connection from forming.
Always Initiating the Conversation: You’re the one who always starts the texts or calls, even though you’ve noticed they’re not reciprocating. You might feel like you need to keep the conversation going to stay on their radar, even though it’s becoming one-sided. This dynamic shifts the balance and leaves you feeling exhausted from constantly putting in the effort while they seem to take a backseat.
Over-Scheduling to Accommodate Them: You rearrange your entire week just to fit in a date or hangout that works better for them, even if it disrupts your own plans. For example, you push aside a night out with friends or skip a workout because they suddenly have time to meet. This can quickly create resentment, as you’re putting their needs ahead of your own and losing sight of your personal priorities.
Constantly Texting or Messaging: When they don’t respond as quickly as you’d like, you might send multiple follow-up texts or even a message that asks if everything’s okay. You feel compelled to stay in constant contact, fearing that any lapse in communication might mean they’re losing interest. This behavior creates pressure and often comes across as needy or insecure, pushing the person away rather than allowing them to miss you and come to you on their own.
Lastly, resisting vulnerability can also block the natural flow in dating. You might avoid opening up about your feelings, downplay your desires, or pretend to be indifferent to protect yourself from rejection. For example, you could suppress your excitement about a budding connection or hold back from discussing what you’re truly looking for in a relationship. This resistance creates a superficial dynamic where neither party can fully show up, stalling the potential for deep and meaningful connection.
Examples of Not Being in Flow in a RelationshipWhen you’re out of flow in a relationship, one common sign is forcing connection or progress instead of allowing things to evolve naturally. For instance, you might find yourself pressuring your partner to communicate in a specific way, setting unrealistic expectations, or rushing milestones like moving in together or defining the relationship. Instead of creating intimacy, this can lead to friction and feelings of imbalance, as the relationship feels more like a project to manage than a partnership to nurture.
Another sign of being out of flow is losing yourself in the relationship. This can look like constantly compromising your needs and desires to keep your partner happy or to avoid conflict. For example, you might stop pursuing your hobbies, change how you dress, or neglect friendships because you’re overly focused on maintaining the relationship. Over time, this self-abandonment erodes your confidence and creates a dynamic where you feel unheard or undervalued.
A less obvious but equally significant example is resisting change or avoiding truth. You might ignore red flags, hold onto a relationship that no longer serves you, or refuse to address recurring issues out of fear of confrontation or loss. For example, staying silent about a lack of emotional intimacy or avoiding tough conversations about mismatched goals keeps you stuck in stagnation. This resistance to growth creates frustration and blocks the natural flow of connection and evolution in the relationship.
Examples of Not Being in Flow in Your Own BusinessOne common sign of being out of flow in your business is chasing clients or opportunities from a place of desperation rather than alignment. For instance, you might lower your prices to secure a client, agree to work outside your niche, or take on projects that don’t feel aligned with your values just to “keep the money coming in.” While this might provide short-term security, it ultimately drains your energy and creates resentment, as you end up doing work that doesn’t light you up or reflect your true expertise.
Another sign is forcing growth through hustle rather than alignment. You might over-schedule your time, constantly create new offerings, or push aggressive marketing strategies without pausing to reflect on what’s working. For example, endlessly tweaking your website or launching back-to-back promotions without a clear strategy can leave you feeling exhausted and disconnected from your original vision. This approach often leads to burnout and diminishes the joy and creativity that inspired your business in the first place.
Finally, operating from a scarcity mindset keeps you stuck in fear and resistance. You might avoid investing in tools, support, or mentorship because you’re afraid the money won’t come back to you. Or, you might overcommit to clients, saying yes to everything, because you fear that turning down an opportunity will mean losing out. This mindset stifles trust in your abilities and the abundance available to you, keeping you in a cycle of overwork and undervaluation. When you’re not in flow, your business feels like an uphill battle rather than a space where your creativity and impact can thrive.
A key element of flow in feminine energy is receptivityReceptivity is the art of being open-hearted and unguarded, allowing life to flow to you rather than always striving to chase or force things. It’s about allowing yourself to receive inspiration, opportunities, and deep connections without resistance. When you’re truly receptive, you’re no longer focused on how to control the outcome, and instead, you trust that what is meant for you will come in its own time and form. The key is to stay open, letting the universe bring you what you need, without second-guessing or doubting its arrival.
When you embrace receptivity, self-doubt has no place in your heart. Often, we block blessings because of limiting beliefs or fear of not being enough. But when you practice being open, you begin to trust that you’re worthy of receiving. This mindset shift allows new possibilities to enter your life effortlessly. For example, you might start saying “yes” to opportunities that you would’ve previously turned down, not because you have all the answers, but because you trust the process and your ability to navigate whatever unfolds.
The beauty of receptivity is that it aligns you with flow. Instead of forcing outcomes, you step into a rhythm where you are in tune with what is unfolding. The more you stay open, the more you start to notice synchronicities, coincidences, and moments of serendipity. These moments are the universe showing you that you’re aligned with your true path. Being receptive allows you to feel at ease, trusting that everything you need will flow to you when the time is right, and that there’s no need to rush or push against life’s natural current.
To flow is to trust your intuition and feminine energyTrusting your intuition is a powerful practice that enables you to make decisions that are aligned with your true self, free from the noise of external opinions or overthinking. Intuition is that deep inner knowing that guides you, and it often speaks quietly but clearly. The first step in trusting it is learning to quiet your mind and turn down the volume on external influences. When you stop overanalyzing and listen closely, you’ll find that your inner voice has always been there, patiently guiding you.
A key aspect of trusting your intuition is practicing small decisions with confidence. Start by listening to those quiet nudges for everyday things, such as choosing what to eat or what direction to take in your day. Each time you follow your gut feeling, even in seemingly trivial matters, you strengthen your ability to trust your intuition in larger decisions. The more you practice, the clearer and more reliable your intuition becomes, making it easier to lean on when the stakes are higher.
It’s also important to understand that intuition isn’t always loud or dramatic—it often comes in the form of a gentle knowing or a feeling of peace around a choice. When you trust your intuition, you release the need for perfection and control. You stop second-guessing and worrying about the “what-ifs.” Instead, you make decisions with confidence, knowing that your intuition is guiding you towards what’s best for you, even if you don’t have all the answers at once.
Creativity, flow and feminine energy work togetherCreativity is a natural expression of feminine energy, and it thrives in a state of flow. When you’re in flow, your creative ideas come easily, effortlessly, and without resistance. You don’t have to force them or think too hard about the outcome. Instead, you let go of expectations and allow the creative process to unfold as it will. Whether you’re writing, painting, dancing, or solving problems, creativity flows when you surrender to the moment and trust that inspiration will arrive when it’s ready.
Flow in creativity is about being fully immersed in the present. When you’re in the zone, time seems to disappear. You lose track of the clock and the pressure to perform. This state of deep immersion allows ideas to flow through you like a river—unimpeded and abundant. In flow, you stop trying to control the process and start allowing the creative energy to guide you. It’s about having a sense of ease and letting go of perfectionism, trusting that whatever emerges is enough.
To cultivate flow in creativity, it’s important to create space for inspiration. This means letting go of self-judgment and giving yourself the freedom to explore and experiment without worrying about the outcome. Whether it’s starting a new project or working on something you’ve been stuck on, sometimes the key to creativity is simply giving yourself permission to play. By embracing flow, you create an environment where your creativity isn’t stifled by expectations or doubts, and where ideas can flow freely and naturally.
How to start embodying flow with feminine energyThe first step in embodying feminine energy flow is to slow down. In our fast-paced world, we’re often conditioned to move quickly and constantly check off tasks. But the feminine energy thrives in the space of presence and stillness. Start by carving out moments each day to pause—whether it’s a few minutes of deep breathing, a walk in nature, or simply sipping your morning coffee without distractions. Slowing down creates space for intuition and creativity to emerge naturally.
Next, begin to trust your intuition. Feminine flow is about leaning into your gut feelings and inner knowing rather than overthinking every decision For instance, when faced with a decision, close your eyes for a moment and ask yourself what feels right, not what seems most logical. The more you honor your intuitive hits, the easier it becomes to hear and trust them in larger life choices.
Being present and practicing gratitude are two key ways to activate feminine flow. When you can embrace each moment with full presence and appreciation, you invite more of what you desire into your life. This can be as simple as noticing the small moments that bring you joy, sunrise, a meaningful conversation, swimming in the sea. The more you cultivate gratitude, the more you open yourself up to the abundance that is already flowing around you.
Release the Fear of Rejection – Feminine energy is about being unapologetically yourself and letting go of the fear of being rejected or judged. When you’re fully in flow, you can express your desires, boundaries, and emotions without hesitation. Practice showing up as your authentic self, even in situations that make you feel vulnerable. For example, if you’re dating, allow yourself to express interest without fear of being too forward or worrying about how you’ll be perceived. The more you release the need for external validation, the more aligned you’ll be with your own flow.
Flow in creativity is about being fully immersed in the present. When you’re in the zone, time seems to disappear. You lose track of the clock and the pressure to perform. This state of deep immersion allows ideas to flow through you like a river—unimpeded and abundant. In flow, you stop trying to control the process and start allowing the creative energy to guide you. It’s about having a sense of ease and letting go of perfectionism, trusting that whatever emerges is enough.
To cultivate flow in creativity, it’s important to create space for inspiration. This means letting go of self-judgment and giving yourself the freedom to explore and experiment without worrying about the outcome. Whether it’s starting a new project or working on something you’ve been stuck on, sometimes the key to creativity is simply giving yourself permission to play. By embracing flow, you create an environment where your creativity isn’t stifled by expectations or doubts, and where ideas can flow freely and naturally.
Want to go deeper and how to flow?Join Flow – The Vietnam Retreat May 25th -31st 2025.
As the year draws to a close, it’s time to pause, reflect, and align with the transformative energy surrounding us. In this episode, we delve into the cosmic shifts of December 2024, focusing on the potent influence of the Black Moon and Chiron moving direct. We’ll explore what these astrological energies mean for your personal growth and healing journey as you process the lessons of the past year.
Get ready to dive into meaningful end-of-year journaling prompts to help you release, integrate, and celebrate 2024’s wins and challenges. Plus, discover actionable strategies for laying strong foundations for an empowered and intentional 2025. Whether you’re looking to heal old wounds, set new goals, or align with your higher purpose, this episode will leave you feeling grounded, inspired, and ready to step into the new year with clarity and confidence.
Tune in to create space for reflection, embrace transformation, and start building the life you envision for 2025. ✨
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Flow Vietnam Retreat – May 25th to 31st 2025
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
You don’t need permission from the calendarHello, hello—surprise! I’m back, and I couldn’t wait even one more day. I missed this space, missed you, and I’m so excited to dive back in. At first, I thought I’d wait until 2025 to return—new year, fresh start, all that. But then I realized: you don’t need permission from a calendar to do what’s calling you. When something feels right, the best time to start is now.
So here I am, stepping back into this space with gratitude and energy, ready to pick up right where we left off. Let this be your reminder, too—you don’t have to wait for the “right” time or for things to align perfectly. Trust your timing. Begin when your soul says yes, and the rest will follow.
As I went to record this I realised I can’t plug my professional mic into my laptop because I got a new MacBook and there’s no more USB ports so here I am on the fly recording off my iPhone.
Channeled message to end 2024A strong channeled message came through for our beautiful collective community here on The Grow Through It Podcast, a theme emerged which funnily enough all of my clients spoke to as well in one form or another this morning.
That message is: Meet yourself where you are. Meet others where they are.
Meet yourself where you are, not where you think you should be. The universe doesn’t measure you by the milestones you haven’t reached or the potential you haven’t fulfilled—it meets you in the here and now, with infinite love and compassion.
Your journey is not a race, and there is no prize for rushing past the lessons you’re meant to embody. Honour the version of you that exists today, even if they feel incomplete, confused, or messy. You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be, and the simple act of meeting yourself with kindness unlocks doors to growth that force and self-criticism never will.
Extend that same grace to others. Meet them where they are, without expectation or need for them to move at your pace. Growth is sacred, but it is also deeply personal. When you release the urge to change someone or pull them along with you, you create the spaciousness for genuine connection.
Your evolution, when rooted in love, can inspire others, but it should never be a demand for their transformation. Let your growth be a byproduct of your self-love, not a tool for controlling others. Love doesn’t say, “You must grow for me.” It says, “I see you where you are, and I trust your path.”
True change, whether in yourself or others, must come from within. Anything else is fleeting and fragile. When you grow, let it be because your soul craves expansion, not because you are trying to prove something to the world or to anyone else.
In meeting yourself with love and meeting others with understanding, you allow life to unfold as it’s meant to. Trust in the timing of it all. The only person you are responsible for transforming is yourself, and in doing so, you become the light that naturally illuminates the way for others to step into their own truth—if and when they choose.
Looking to 2025: Year of the Snake, a 9 yearAs we approach the end of 2024, it’s important to remember that the energy of a year doesn’t simply reset when the clock strikes midnight on January 1st. Energetically, the transition between years is more fluid—a continuation rather than a sudden shift. December has already been a reflective month, with a New Moon in Sagittarius opening the month and a Capricorn New Moon closing it.
These two new moons offer a sense of closure, grounding us as we prepare to step into the next chapter. This period feels less like a hard reset and more like an invitation to pause, reflect, and set intentions without the pressure of an immediate transformation.
Looking ahead to 2025, I’ll be dedicating a full episode to exploring its themes, energies, and opportunities. For now, I want to focus on this in-between space—the bridge between what was and what’s yet to come.
As we enter the Year of the Snake and a numerological Year 9, the themes of shedding, completion, and transformation will take center stage. To help you align with this energy, I’ll be sharing reflective questions designed to help you close out 2024 with clarity and set the foundation for the year ahead. Whether you’re listening to this on New Year’s Eve, January 1st, or even mid-January, trust that this process will meet you exactly where you are. Energetically, the new year begins not on a fixed date but in the moment when you decide to step into alignment with your intentions.
Black Moon December 2024 Capricorn + ChironThe significance of the here and now? The black moon and change in planetary positions of Chiron (the wounded healer) emerging from retrograde since July to direct now. What is a black moon? A Black Moon, the second New Moon in a single month, carries an intensified energy of beginnings and endings.
In Capricorn, the sign of discipline, ambition, and structure, this lunar event invites us to assess the foundations of our lives. What still supports our growth, and what is holding us back? This is a time to release outdated structures, limiting beliefs, and anything misaligned with our higher purpose, making space for clarity and intention as we move forward.
Chiron represents our deepest wounds and the wisdom that emerges when we work through them. Its retrograde period often brings unresolved pain to the surface, urging us to reflect, heal, and integrate. Now, as Chiron moves direct, there’s a sense of forward motion in our healing journeys. The lessons of the past months begin to crystallise, and we’re empowered to take those insights and step into a new phase of growth.
Together, the Black Moon in Capricorn and Chiron’s direct movement signal a powerful cosmic transition. They encourage us to honor the present moment—this threshold between endings and beginnings—as an opportunity for deep reflection and intentional release. This is not just about setting resolutions for the coming year; it’s about closing out 2024 with a sense of completion, allowing ourselves to shed what no longer serves us and step into the next chapter with a renewed sense of purpose and alignment.
2024 End of Year Journaling PromptsBelow are some end of year 2024 journaling prompts I have created perfect for New Year’s Eve journaling sessions.
What has been your deepest wound in 2024, and why?Reflect on a moment or experience that felt especially challenging or painful. What emotions did it bring up, and what lessons might be hidden within it? Consider one step you can take, starting now, to begin healing this wound as you move into 2025.
What moment in 2024 felt like a true turning point in your life?
Think about a time this year when everything shifted—perhaps in your mindset, relationships, or personal growth. What made this moment significant, and how has it shaped the person you’re becoming?
What would you say was your greatest act of courage in 2024?
Explore a time when you showed up boldly, even if it felt scary or uncertain. What did this act of courage teach you about yourself, and how can you carry that bravery forward?
What relationships have deepened, and which ones have changed?
Reflect on the people in your life. Who have you grown closer to, and what made those connections flourish? Are there any relationships that have shifted or faded, and how do you feel about those changes?
How did you manage your time this year, and where could you have been more intentional?
Think about how you spent your days. Were your choices aligned with your values, or did certain things pull you away from what truly matters? How can you approach time differently in the year ahead?
When were you the most present in the moment this year, and what made it special?
Recall a time when you felt completely grounded and aware, fully immersed in what was happening. What about this experience made it meaningful, and how can you invite more of that presence into your life?
Which moments made you feel the most alive, and how can you create more of those?
Think about the times when your heart raced, your spirit soared, or joy filled every corner of your being. What were you doing, and how can you cultivate more of that energy in your daily life?
What were the biggest distractions in your life, and how did they affect your growth?
Reflect on what pulled your focus away from your goals or your deeper purpose. How can you set boundaries or shift priorities to minimise these distractions in the future?
If you had to sum up 2024 in one word, what would it be, and why?
Think about the essence of the year. What single word captures the themes, lessons, or emotions you’ve experienced?
If you could go back to January 2024, what would you tell yourself?
Imagine speaking to the version of you who began this year. What wisdom or encouragement would you offer, knowing what you know now?
What drained your energy this year, and what gave you energy?
Reflect on the activities, people, or habits that left you feeling depleted. What, by contrast, recharged and inspired you? How can you adjust your life to focus on what fuels you?
What were things you had to unlearn in 2024, and how can you rewrite them?
Consider beliefs or habits you realized were no longer serving you. What new stories or patterns can you consciously create to replace them in 2025?
What part of 2024 are you most grateful for, and how will you carry that gratitude into the new year? Think about a moment or lesson in 2024 that brought you unexpected growth or joy. How can that gratitude shape your mindset as you step into 2025? Carrying this feeling forward can be a powerful way to anchor your intentions for the year ahead.
2025 New Year Journaling PromptsBelow are some new year 2025 journaling prompts I have created to help set up your new year ahead in 2025.
What energy do you want to bring into every area of your life in 2025, and how can you intentionally cultivate that energy daily?
Energy is contagious, and the way you approach each day can influence every area of your life. Consider what energy feels aligned with your vision for the year. How can you create simple habits or reminders to bring that energy to your work, relationships, and personal growth?
What fear do you need to face head-on in 2025 to unlock your next level of growth?
Fear often keeps us in a state of stagnation, but confronting it can be the key to growth. Identify a fear that has held you back and explore the possibilities that might open up once you face it. What would life look like if you didn’t let this fear control you anymore?
How can you make room for more play and joy in your life without guilt or hesitation?
Too often, we associate productivity with success, neglecting the importance of joy and fun. What does play look like for you, and how can you give yourself permission to experience it regularly? Creating space for joy might just be the key to sustaining long-term success and balance.
If you could design a dream year of your life, what elements would make it up?
Imagine that 2025 could unfold exactly the way you want it to. What are the key elements of your dream year—experiences, relationships, achievements, or feelings? Let your imagination guide you to create a vision that excites and motivates you.
How can you show up as a leader in your own life, regardless of your role or title, and what would that look like on a daily basis?
Leadership isn’t just about titles—it’s about the way you take responsibility for your own life. How can you make decisions, set boundaries, and take actions that reflect your inner leader? Start small by identifying one area where you can step into leadership daily.
If you had to choose just three things to focus on in 2025, what would they be, and why?
With so many goals and distractions, narrowing down your focus can bring clarity and power. What are the top three things that, if you dedicated your energy to them, would make the most significant difference in your life?
What’s one thing you’ve always assumed you’re “not ready for”—and how could you challenge that belief in 2025?
Sometimes, our limiting beliefs hold us back from pursuing what we truly want. What is one opportunity or challenge you’ve been avoiding because you believe you’re not ready? How could shifting your mindset about readiness open new doors this year?
If you could borrow one quality from someone you admire for 2025, what would it be?
Admiring someone’s quality or strength often reveals something we’re seeking to cultivate in ourselves. What quality in someone you admire would make a significant difference in how you show up in the world? How can you start embodying that trait this year?
What does success look like to you in 2025, and how is it different from what success meant to you last year? Success is constantly evolving, and your definition of it may have shifted over time. Take a moment to reflect on the milestones you celebrated in 2024—what did those successes look like, and how did they feel? Now, think about the year ahead: How do you want to define success for yourself in 2025, and what aspects of your life will it encompass—career, personal growth, relationships, or something else? Recognizing how your perception of success is changing can help you align your actions with what truly matters to you in the present moment.
The 2024 season comes to an end… Thank you for joining me as we reflect on 2025 and have a taste of what’s to come in 2025. We’re stepping into a year of transformation, growth, and bold decisions, and I’m so grateful to have you along for the journey.
This year, we’re focusing on aligning with our true selves, embracing the power of choice, and rewriting the rules of what’s possible. I’m excited to continue exploring these themes with you in upcoming episodes, and I can’t wait to share even more tools and insights to support your growth.
If you’re ready to dive deeper into your journey, I’d love to work with you one-on-one through personalised 1:1 coaching or a Human Design reading. We can explore your unique blueprint and map out your path for 2025. Plus, if you’re looking for a more immersive experience, my upcoming retreats offer the perfect opportunity to step into alignment and create lasting change. Flow the Vietnam Retreat is coming up May 25-31 and the vibe is luxury self care and feminine energy, only 6 spaces have been taken and 4 spaces remain. In January I’ll also be launching the sold out Recharge and Renew Retreat in Bali, August 4-9 2025. Let’s make 2025 your year of transformation—reach out and let’s start this incredible journey together!
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In this episode, Phi explores the powerful astrological energy surrounding the lunar and solar eclipses of September and October 2024. These energetic events bring profound opportunities for release, transformation, and new beginnings.The lunar eclipse encourages us to reflect on what is no longer serving us, offering a potent time for letting go of emotional baggage, outdated beliefs, and patterns.
Meanwhile, the solar eclipse signals fresh possibilities, inviting us to set new intentions and embrace the unknown with courage. Tune in as Phi breaks down how these eclipses influence both the collective and personal level, and how you can harness this energy to realign with your purpose and create space for growth.
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Wtf is going on energetically right now?Hello my loves,
Since I was last on here I ran my first retreat Recharge and Renew in Bali and oh my gosh it really was one of the best weeks of my life. I can’t wait to do it again next year there are already 3 confirmed retreats that haven’t officially been launched yet but I hoping it will next month in October my birthday month woohoo.
I felt really called to speak to you today about the energies at present collectively cause boy it’s a lot and if you’re not feeling it, I am genuinely so happy for you, if you’re like me and many clients and people I’ve spoken to online on Instagram huge rapid changes are on the horizon.
We are in a gateway, a bridge, an eclipse sandwich in between two eclipses. What’s really interesting about this current one is from the lunar eclipse in pisces, the next is a solar eclipse coincides with a new moon on the 2nd of October in Libra.
What do the eclipses mean?Eclipses are not just astronomical events; they’re cosmic catalysts that can shift our lives significantly. Each eclipse occurs in pairs. The one that recently happened in September, a lunar eclipse illuminated our inner worlds, revealing what needs to be let go of, while the upcoming October solar eclipse represents new beginnings and fresh starts. Together, they form a dynamic interplay that encourages us to embrace transformation and change.
September 2024 Lunar EclipseThe recent lunar eclipse in September invited us to look inward. What fears or limiting beliefs have been holding us back? What relationships no longer serve us? This eclipse shines a light on the shadows, urging us to acknowledge and release what we’ve outgrown. It’s a moment to honor our past experiences, but also to recognise the need for change.
Eclipses and DestinyNow with all of this said , it’s important to also take note of the background to all of this. The shift in destiny nodes too energetically. Currently, the focus has shifted from the Aries/Libra chapter for the last year and half to now starting to introduce Pisces and Virgo energy inviting us to explore new themes in our lives.
Essentially the recent lunar eclipse was a peak of a new chapter coming in over 2025 – 2027 in the energies of Pisces and Virgo so we’re not quite there yet given Aries and Libra with the upcoming solar eclipse in Libra.
Pisces Eclipse Energy 2024Pisces emphasises spirituality, feeling, compassion, and creativity, encouraging us to embrace vulnerability and connect with a higher purpose. In contrast, Virgo is about practicality, letting go of over-analysis, and perfectionism.
Libra Eclipse Energy 2024Libra’s large influence continues still particularly in regards to our relationships. Libra encouraging us to evaluate existing partnerships and focus on balance and harmony where possible and healthy. This influence complements Pisces by highlighting the importance of empathy and emotional intelligence in our connections with others.
Aries Libra Eclipse Series 2023, 2024 and 2025All in all what I am trying to say is this is part of the whole chapter series of Aries Libra energy 5 of 6 which which are complete, so have a listen to these dates to reflect upon what is going on in your life, particularly patterns and themes repeating themselves keeping in mind lunar is endings and solar is beginnings. Furthermore if you know more about your astrology you may want to see where you have placements in Aries or Libra, even if you don’t collectively we are all impacted by this energy.
You may want to pause the episode to allow yourself to do so and I’ll also be finishing this episode with journal prompts.
Aries Libra Eclipse Dates 2023, 2024 and 2025Solar Eclipse in Aries – April 2023
Solar Eclipse in Libra – October 2023
Lunar Eclipse in Libra – March 2024
Solar Eclipse in Aries – April 2024
Solar Eclipse in Libra – October 2024
Solar Eclipse in Aries – Final March 2025
The last time we had this flavour of energy was between 2013 and 2016. There may even be full circle moments or connections from back then to now too.
Aries Libra Eclipse Karma InformationIt goes without saying there’s a karmic undertone to eclipse series. I had an episode back in March alluding to this so to recap and bring back to the forefront with the Aries Libra eclipse series; as it highlights themes of independence (Aries) and relationships (Libra). During this time, karmic patterns related to self versus others, autonomy, and partnership come to the forefront. Here’s how karma may play a role in this dynamic in your life:
Balancing Self and RelationshipsAries represents the self—individual desires, ambitions, and assertiveness. Libra, on the other hand, symbolises relationships, harmony, and cooperation. The eclipses in this series often bring karmic lessons where individuals are asked to strike a balance between personal independence and the needs of others. This can manifest as karmic situations where past imbalances in relationships, power dynamics, or self-sacrifice are brought up for resolution.
Revisiting Old PatternsEclipses have a way of revealing unresolved karma, often by bringing up people or situations from the past that trigger similar themes of individuality versus compromise. For example, if someone has been overly independent or neglectful of their relationships, this eclipse series may force them to address the consequences of that imbalance. Conversely, those who have struggled with setting boundaries or asserting their needs in partnerships might find themselves pushed to step into their personal power. Often people from the past can resurface, it’s important to tune in have they truly changed? Their actions? Their intentions so of course…
Karmic RelationshipsThis eclipse series may highlight karmic relationships—those connections where lessons are learned and patterns from past lives or earlier in this life are revisited. These relationships may surface during the eclipses, offering an opportunity to resolve old debts or heal wounds that have carried through cycles of reincarnation or life experiences.
Action vs. Peace, Force vs. SurenderAries is a sign of bold action, while Libra seeks peace and balance. The karmic lesson here often revolves around knowing when to act and when to surrender. Those who have karmic imbalances in this area may find the eclipse series pushing them toward situations that force them to confront these dynamics, teaching them the importance of timing and intention in their actions and relationships.
Why am I emotional during eclipses?Given all this, it’s common to experience emotional waves—intense feelings may surface as old wounds are reopened, new ones that arise. This can be uncomfortable but is also a vital part of the healing process. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. It’s the perfect time to reflect in however you choose to do that such as journaling or meditating.
Even look at what is going on globally collectively, we are in very much a dense upheaval phase, if you’re listening to this you’re likely an empath so very much feeling it too. Think about the nature of eclipses. An eclipse occurs when one celestial body moves into the shadow of another. In a lunar eclipse, the Earth blocks the sun’s light from reaching the moon, while in a solar eclipse, the moon obscures the sun’s light. Things are being illuminated on a global scale for example think about celebrities and what is coming to light or trying to be buried and hidden.
This dance of light and shadow symbolises the cycles of illumination and darkness we experience within ourselves. Just as eclipses bring temporary obscuration, we often face periods in our lives where clarity feels out of reach, and our path seems shrouded in shadow.
Letting go during eclipsesOne of the most significant themes associated with eclipses is the process of letting go. Things, people, opportunities whatever out of alignment will get ‘eclipsed.’ Eclipses prompt us to release what no longer serves us—whether that’s limiting beliefs, stagnant relationships, or outdated patterns. This release can feel heavy and dense, like a weight we’ve carried for too long. However, just as the moon eventually reveals its light after an eclipse, we too can emerge lighter and more liberated on the other side of our letting go.
Upheaval and the unexpected durign eclipsesDuring this time in between eclipses, it’s common to experience a sense of upheaval or disruption. Unexpected events may surface, forcing us to confront what we’ve been avoiding or perhaps has been hidden in the shadows. While this can feel uncomfortable, it is also an opportunity for profound growth and transformation. The heaviness we feel often indicates that we’re shedding layers of old energy, clearing the way for new possibilities.
What I’ve really noticed amplified particularly in this season is the unexpected which you would see in my Instagram posts of late. When we encounter surprises during an eclipse, it’s essential to lean into the uncertainty rather than resist it. The universe is presenting us with an opportunity to align more closely with our true and highest selves. Embracing the unexpected allows us to adapt and grow in ways we might not have anticipated, leading to new paths and insights.
Coming back to yourself and truthOn a final note intuitively what I feel the flavour right now is a sense of things happening or coming to an end that you essentially knew already was coming. Coming back to your true self and what you truly want. Perhaps its a truth you’ve perhaps been avoiding or not fully acknowledging.
Life often has a way of circling us back to things we’ve always known deep down. We get caught in distractions, in the stories and expectations placed upon us, but there’s always a quiet inner voice—one that whispers the truths we don’t want to face. When you reach that point where things are coming to an end, it’s not a surprise, because somewhere within, you already knew this was inevitable. It’s that sense of déjà vu, that realisation that what is unfolding was always written into the path, waiting for you to see it clearly.
As things shift and close, there’s also a homecoming—coming back to your true self, the part of you that knew what you truly desired all along. It’s a time of unlearning and stripping away what no longer serves you, so you can stand in your authenticity once more. This space, the void invites you to reflect on what you truly want, beyond the noise, beyond the expectations. It’s the raw truth that was always there, waiting for you to claim it.
October solar eclipse 2024 energyThis process is both a release and a renewal—a shedding of layers and a return to the core of who you are, the dreams you hold, and the life you’ve always known was yours to live.
Thus kicks off the October new moon solar eclipse on the 2nd presents an opportunity for new beginnings and manifesting. In this phase, take time to set clear intentions for what you want to manifest in your life. What new projects, relationships, or experiences do you wish to invite in?
Practical tips eclipse seasonWhat can really help during the in between is tapping into your intuition. The energy of the lunar eclipse has likely heightened your awareness, making it easier to connect with your inner wisdom. Spend quiet moments in reflection or meditation, asking yourself questions like, “What does my heart truly desire?” and “What steps can I take to align with my authentic self?” Trust the insights that come to you during this time. I’ve found revisiting your human design to be super helpful for many clients I am working with too.
As we navigate this transformative energy, it is so important to ground ourselves in nature whether its a beachside walk or sitting in your garden or the park, nature helps us connect with the Earth’s rhythms. It reminds us that just as the seasons change, so too can we embrace our personal transformations with grace and resilience.
Lunar Solar Eclipse journaling promptsHere are some journaling prompts to help you gain further insight into what’s going on for you personally during this time;
What is life asking you to release right now? Reflect on any feelings or situations that surface. Are there recurring patterns or attachments that no longer align with your higher self? Think about how letting go could open space for new possibilities and personal growth.
Which areas of your life feel imbalanced? Take a moment to evaluate aspects like work, relationships, or self-care. What emotions arise when you focus on these areas? Consider how restoring balance could improve your overall well-being and happiness.
Have you experienced anything unexpected recently? Reflect on your feelings around these events. Often, surprises offer valuable lessons. How might these experiences be guiding your personal growth or encouraging you to embrace transformation?
Eclipse relationship love dating journaling promptsWhat beliefs or habits related to love and relationships should you let go of? Identify limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from deeper connections. How have these shaped your past, and what might change if you released them? Imagine the kind of love and relationships you want to invite into your life and how releasing these patterns could support that.
Are there relationships in my life that feel ‘karmic’—where lessons seem to repeat or feel heavy? How can you approach these relationships with more awareness and compassion?
What are the recurring challenges or conflicts you experience in connections and partnerships? How could they be tied to past actions or decisions?
Are there past relationships or experiences where you feel unfinished business? What might you need to release, forgive, or understand to move forward?
How do any fears of being alone or overly dependent affect your decisions in this Aries and Libra eclipse series?
Where do you need to set or strengthen boundaries? Reflect on any relationships or situations that leave you feeling depleted or overwhelmed. What boundaries could help protect your energy and support your well-being?
Manifestation new moon solar eclipse journal promptsWhat qualities do you want to embody as you step into this next chapter? Think about the traits or characteristics you’d like to cultivate in yourself. Are there role models or inspirations that reflect these qualities? How can you learn from their example as you move forward?
How can you invite more joy and fulfillment into your life during this eclipse? Explore activities and that relationships that bring you happiness. What small steps can you take to introduce more joy into your daily routine? Reflect on how practices like gratitude or mindfulness might shift your perspective and allow you to savour the beauty in everyday moments.
Help and support during eclipse seasonAs we navigate the energy of September lunar eclipse and the October solar eclipse, remember to honor your emotions, reflect on your insights, and embrace the new beginnings that are just around the corner. If you’re looking for support and guidance in your corner, I am here with new 1:1 coaching spots opening up as well as human design readings though they are booking quickly so if you’re interested or curious, I invite you to find out more information on my website or message me on Instagram. Until next time, beautiful soul, love and positivity.
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A live condensed human design reading with Robyn Wilton from Bleed On It. She is a rare 6/3 Projector with an emotional authority. We discuss her Saturn Return, business journey and her karmic soul purpose.
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- Bleed On It Instagram
- Bleed On It Website
- Bleed On It Cycle Stories
- Note Robyn is open to mentoring women with regards to their menstruation and cyclical living. Please contact her for more information!
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Robyn Wilton – Bleed On It – Human DesignWhile this is a condensed full human design reading and experience, Phi dives into Robyn’s Human Design as a 6/3 Emotional Projector. We dive into her Saturn Return in terms of human design too. This transformative phase, typically occurring in the late 20s or early 30s, brings challenges, growth, and an invitation to realign with one’s true purpose. We unpack how Robyn’s Saturn return is reflected in her Human Design chart, discussing the energetic themes and personal lessons that arise during this pivotal time including her business journey with Bleed On It.
Furthermore we discuss how Robyn has a few rare elements to her chart whether it be her 6/3 personality as well as karmic lifetime.
Tune in for an intimate exploration of the power and insight Human Design can bring to life transitions.
In this episode, we sit down with Robyn Wilton, the founder of Bleed On It, to explore the profound wisdom of menstrual cycles and cyclical living. Robyn shares her personal journey, the inspiration behind her work, and offers practical advice for embracing the natural rhythms of the menstrual cycle. We delve into societal conditioning, workplace challenges, and the importance of rest, while also addressing common misconceptions about menstrual health. Tune in to gain valuable insights on how to navigate the emotional and physical aspects of cyclical living.
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- Bleed On It Instagram
- Bleed On It Website
- Bleed On It Cycle Stories
- Note Robyn is open to mentoring women with regards to their menstruation and cyclical living. Please contact her for more information!
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Robyn Wilton – Bleed On ItIn this enlightening episode, we welcome Robyn Wilton, the passionate founder of Bleed On It, to explore the intricacies of menstrual health and the art of cyclical living. Robyn begins by sharing her personal journey and the motivation behind creating Bleed On It, offering a heartfelt glimpse into her mission to empower others through education and support around menstrual cycles.
Bleed On It Bleed On It is a platform founded by Robyn dedicated to empowering individuals by providing education and support on menstrual health and cyclical living. Through resources, workshops, and community engagement, it aims to help people understand and embrace their menstrual cycles, fostering a more harmonious relationship with their bodies.
She provides a comprehensive overview of the menstrual cycle, breaking down its phases and emphasising the importance of understanding these natural rhythms for overall well-being.
Robyn delves into the concept of cyclical living, explaining how it aligns with the menstrual cycle and why it’s a vital practice for anyone seeking to live in harmony with their body’s natural flow. For those new to cyclical living, she offers practical tips to ease into the practice, acknowledging that it can seem overwhelming at first but highlighting how it can transform one’s relationship with their body.
The conversation takes a look at societal conditioning and workplace culture, discussing how these factors can often lead to the perception that menstruation is a burden. Robyn offers insightful advice on how to navigate these challenges, including how to communicate menstrual-related needs in the workplace effectively.
Rest, a key component of cyclical living, is another focus of the discussion. Robyn shares her personal strategies for rest, underscoring its importance and offering listeners actionable ways to incorporate genuine rest into their lives. She also addresses common misconceptions about menstrual cycles and cyclical living, debunking myths and providing clarity on what it truly means to live in tune with one’s cycle.
Robyn reflects on her upbringing in an open household where conversations about bodies and sex were normalized. The episode also explores her experiences such as Supper Club.
To wrap up, Robyn leaves you with key takeaways about menstrual cycles and cyclical living, ensuring that you can walk away with a deeper understanding and actionable insights to apply in their own lives.
To learn more about Robyn Wilton and her work, visit Bleed On It.
Take a journey through the mystical Lions Gate Portal, a time of heightened spiritual energy and cosmic alignment. Phi talks about how this celestial event can amplify your personal growth and manifestation abilities. Discover transformative journaling prompts and empowering affirmations designed to help you harness the portal’s energy, clear blockages, and open yourself to new possibilities. Tune in to learn how to make the most of this auspicious period and align with your higher purpose.
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Lion’s Gate Information August 2024Beautiful Soul, as this episode is released I am currently running a retreat in Bali which centres all around the Lion’s Gate episode and so I wanted to share some of the magic with you in an episode about the Lion’s Gate which is 8/8.
In the ancient tapestry of human history, the stars have always guided us, providing insights in to the secrets of the universe and providing light on our paths. The Sirius star system holds a place of profound significance, particularly in the context of the Lion’s Gate Portal.
For the ancient Egyptians, Sirius was not merely a distant star but a cosmic beacon of rebirth and transformation. Known as “Sopdet” in their language, Sirius heralded the start of the annual flooding of the Nile, a life-giving event that transformed the arid land into a fertile oasis. This celestial event was more than an astronomical occurrence; it was a sacred promise of renewal and abundance, deeply intertwined with the cycles of life and the spiritual rhythms of the cosmos.
As the Lion’s Gate Portal opens, it does so with the energy of Sirius at its core. This cosmic gateway, which peaks every year around August 8th, is a powerful alignment of our Sun with Sirius and the Earth’s position in the sky. It symbolises a period of extraordinary potential, a time when the energies of Sirius blend with the dynamic force of the Leo constellation, creating a potent moment for manifestation and transformation.
Sirius, the brightest star in our night sky, has long been associated with the divine, the mysterious, and the transformative. Its light, arriving from over 8 light-years away, illuminates not just our physical world but also our inner landscapes, offering a glimpse into the deeper realms of our consciousness. When aligned with the Lion’s Gate, this star amplifies the energies of courage, creativity, and leadership, urging us to embrace our highest potential.
The numerology of the date 8/8 also plays a role in the abundance and prosperous energy that comes with the Lion’s Gate. The number 8 symbolises infinity, balance, and material success, reinforcing themes of wealth and achievement. Many believe that the Lion’s Gate acts as a cosmic portal, elevating our vibrational frequency and making it easier to attract and receive abundance.
Let this be a time to reconnect with the ancient wisdom of the stars, to honor the cosmic cycles that guide us, and to embrace the radiant energy that flows through the Lion’s Gate. As you stand before this energetic gateway, know that the universe is aligning in your favour and the time has come to step boldly into the fullness of your potential.
How to tap into Lion’s Gate August 2024Imagine a celestial gateway opening wide, its frame adorned with the shimmering light of a thousand stars. This is the Lion’s Gate Portal, where the universe aligns in a cosmic symphony to amplify your dreams and desires.
As the sun’s golden rays meld with the radiant energy of Sirius, the Lion’s Gate ushers in a wave of potent, transformative power. It’s a time when the fierce, regal energy of the lion merges with the vast expansiveness of the cosmos, creating a celestial dance that invites you to step into your most authentic self.
Feel the heartbeat of the lion’s courage pulsing through you—a rhythm that urges you to rise, to claim your space, and to boldly stride towards your deepest aspirations. This is no ordinary moment; it’s a call to awaken the fierce lioness within, to harness her strength and her unyielding spirit to manifest your dreams.
Envision yourself standing before this majestic portal, the shimmering light wrapping around you like a warm embrace. The Lion’s Gate invites you to shed old fears, to release what no longer serves you, and to step boldly into the limitless potential that lies ahead. It’s a time for profound transformation, where you can align your intentions with the vibrant energy of the cosmos and let your heart’s true desires take flight.
Let the lion’s roar echo through your being, filling you with the confidence to pursue your passions and dreams with unwavering determination. This is a moment to embrace your inner power, to lead with grace and authenticity, and to manifest the life you’ve always envisioned.
As you walk through this cosmic gateway, carry with you the wisdom of the lion: the courage to face challenges, the strength to overcome obstacles, and the heart to follow your dreams with fierce, unrelenting passion. The universe is aligning in your favour, opening doors you never knew existed, and illuminating the path to your highest potential.
Embrace the Lion’s Gate Portal as your invitation to shine, to dream boldly, and to manifest the life you’ve always desired. Step into this radiant energy with confidence, knowing that the cosmos is conspiring in your favor, and let your dreams roar into reality.
Lion’s Gate Journal Prompts Questions August 2024How can you shift your money mindset to align with the abundant and transformative energy of the Lion’s Gate?Reflect on your current beliefs and attitudes toward money. How can you transform these beliefs to embrace abundance and prosperity, using the powerful energies of the Lion’s Gate?
How can you align your personal goals with the cosmic energies of the Lion’s Gate to create a harmonious path forward?Examine your current goals. How can you synchronize them with the expansive and transformative energies of the Lion’s Gate?
What symbolic meaning does the lion hold for you personally, and how can you embody these qualities to fuel your personal transformation?Consider the lion’s symbolism—courage, strength, leadership. How can you incorporate these traits into your life during this portal?
How can you use the Lion’s Gate Portal to deepen your connection with your spiritual guides or higher self? Explore ways to strengthen your connection with your spiritual guides or higher self. How can the Lion’s Gate enhance this relationship?
What is one significant change you wish to make in your life, and how can the Lion’s Gate energy help you initiate and sustain this transformation?Identify a major change you want to make. How can you use the powerful energies of the Lion’s Gate to begin and maintain this change?
In what ways can you honor and integrate the themes of abundance and prosperity into your life during this Lion’s Gate Portal? Reflect on how you can invite abundance and prosperity into your life. How can you use the Lion’s Gate to amplify these themes?
How can the Lion’s Gate inspire you to re-evaluate and redefine your sense of purpose and direction in life?Consider your current sense of purpose and direction. How can the inspiration from the Lion’s Gate lead you to re-assess and possibly redefine your path?
What creative or visionary project can you initiate or enhance during the Lion’s Gate, and how can you ensure it aligns with your highest aspirations? Think about a creative or visionary project you’re passionate about. How can the Lion’s Gate help you kickstart or elevate this project to align with your highest goals?
Lion’s Gate Affirmations Mantra August 2024Here are 8 affirmations and mantras for the Lion’s Gate to close this episode
“I connect deeply with my inner lion, harnessing the strength and wisdom within me.”
“I align with the cosmic energies of the Lion’s Gate, manifesting clarity and vision for my future.”
“I embrace the transformation that comes with this powerful portal, welcoming growth and new beginnings.”
“I channel the fierce energy of the Lion’s Gate to break through barriers and achieve my goals.”
“I am a creator of my reality, using this potent time to set intentions that resonate with my true self.”
“I celebrate my unique gifts and contributions, knowing they make a significant impact in the world.”
“I open myself to receive divine guidance and wisdom, trusting the universe to lead me towards my highest path.”
“I embody the regal energy of the Lion’s Gate, confidently stepping into my power and claiming my space.”
If you’re looking to work with me I have human design readings available in September as well as more 1:1 coaching spots opening up! Please get in touch with me via Instagram messages or email.
Until next time Love & Positivity
In this episode we explore the transformative energy of the Leo New Moon of August 2024, delving into how this potent lunar phase can inspire creativity and self-expression. Phi shares insightful journal prompts and empowering affirmations to help you tap into your inner lion, set bold intentions, and align with your true passions.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Life and Business Update August 2024Hello Beautiful Soul, Welcome to August 2024 and we are officially in Leo season with the upcoming new moon on the 4th. Before I dive into it a quick life and business update, July has been the biggest month to date in business this year and August is officially booked out too. New 1:1 coaching spots will open up in September with one already snapped up as well as human design readings. September is going to be a big month in my world watch this space… and I am so excited I’m literally recording this the day before I fly to Bali to hold my first retreat with 8 incredible women. Again spots will open up for the Bali 2025 retreat likely in October for August 2025 so if you’re interested in retreats, 1:1 coaching or human design please feel free to message me on Instagram or email me to get on waitlists.
Okay let’s go Leo New Moon! This is the most potent and magical time for manifestations as it tees up nicely with the Lion’s Gate portal of 8/8. The background to all this as we have been witnessing collectively is funky, big mysterious changes are ahead for all but we can’t say for sure what look at what’s unfolding in the US elections and the perception of the Paris Olympic Games Opening Ceremony.
I’m being told to focus on the inner light and not being drawn to the funk that is there. To channel big LEO energy.
Leo New Moon Energy and Vibe August 2024Imagine a stage bathed in golden light, where the spotlight finds its true home on a single, radiant figure. The main character. This is the essence of Leo—You are both the star and the stage, your heart the music.
Leo is the heroine of her own grand narrative, embodying a fierce bravery that defies the ordinary. She strides onto the scene with a boldness that electrifies the air, her every movement a testament to the courage it takes to follow one’s heart. Her path is illuminated by an inner light that refuses to be dimmed, a beacon guiding her through shadows and challenges alike.
In the grand theatre of life, Leo doesn’t just seek the spotlight—she commands it. She leads with a charisma that captivates and inspires, drawing others to her side with the magnetic pull of her authentic self. Her leadership isn’t about dominance, but about setting the stage for others to discover their own brilliance, too.
Leo’s energy is a celebration of self-expression in its purest form. Imagine a canvas where every stroke is a vivid declaration of who you are, a palette bursting with colors that have been waiting for this moment to be expressed. In the Leo light, there is no room for self-doubt; only the exuberant joy of being unapologetically you. It’s an invitation to sing your own song, dance your own dance, and paint your own masterpiece.
At the heart of Leo’s essence lies a deep connection to the inner child—the part of you that dreams without limits and loves without fear. Leo beckons you to reconnect with that pure, playful spirit, to embrace the wonder and curiosity that once defined your world. It’s about rediscovering the magic that lives in the simplest moments and allowing it to fuel your creative endeavours and personal growth.
To be touched by Leo’s energy is to feel the pulse of possibility, the call to rise above mediocrity and embrace the fullness of one’s own potential. It’s a call to harness the raw, untamed power of the heart and channel it into dreams, passions, and aspirations.
Leo calls us to embrace your inner spotlight, take bold steps towards your dreams, and lead with the fearless love that only you can give. The world awaits the story only you can tell, so shine brightly and let your light blaze a path for others to follow.
Leo New Moon Journal Prompts Questions August 2024Here are 8 powerful journal prompts that you can do to channel the energy of the Leo New Moon in August 2024;
What is a dream or goal you’ve been hesitant to pursue, and how can embracing Leo’s courage help you take the first step?Reflect on a dream or goal you’ve been holding back on. How can you channel Leo’s bravery to move forward with confidence?
How can you better express your authentic self, and what does self-expression look like for you under this Leo New Moon?Consider ways you can show up more authentically in your life. What forms of self-expression resonate with you, and how can you incorporate them into your daily routine?
What are the areas of your life where you feel like you’re not fully shining, and what actions can you take to bring more light and visibility to these aspects?Identify areas where you might be holding back. What steps can you take to let your true self shine in these areas?
In what ways can you embrace your inner child and allow her to guide you in pursuing your passions and desires?Connect with your inner child’s dreams and creativity. How can embracing this playful spirit help you pursue what you truly want?
How can you use the Leo New Moon energy to set powerful intentions for your personal and professional growth?Write down your intentions for this lunar cycle. How can you align these intentions with Leo’s themes of leadership, creativity, confidence and inspired action?
What does being a leader mean to you, and how can you embody Leo’s leadership qualities in your daily life?Reflect on your personal definition of leadership. How can you take charge of your life and inspire others while embodying Leo’s dynamic qualities?
What fears or self-doubts are holding you back from fully embracing your potential, and how can you use the Leo New Moon to overcome them? Explore any fears or doubts that might be inhibiting your growth. How can you use Leo’s fearless energy to address and overcome these challenges?
How can you celebrate and honor your achievements, no matter how small, and use Leo’s energy to build a habit of self-celebration and gratitude?Identify ways to recognise and celebrate your accomplishments. How can you build a practice of acknowledging your successes and cultivating gratitude with Leo’s vibrant energy?
Leo New Moon Journal Affirmations Mantras August 2024As well as 8 Leo New Moon mantras and affirmations to play with in August 2024:
Under the Leo New Moon’s glow, I unleash my inner fire, embrace my creative brilliance, and manifest my most audacious dreams.”
I welcome the Leo New Moon’s energy as a catalyst for my personal evolution and bold new beginnings.
With each breath, I channel the majestic energy of Leo, turning aspirations into reality with fearless grace. My heart beats with the rhythm of courage, guiding me to leap beyond my comfort zone and into greatness.
In the spotlight of the New Moon, I shed my old self and emerge as a dazzling new version of me.
My voice is a powerful instrument, and under the New Moon, I tune it to the frequency of my highest aspirations.
I am the cosmic playwright, penning a new act filled with courage, creativity, and boundless potential.
I harness the fierceness of Leo Energy to illuminate my path, fuelling my journey with passion and purpose.
I hope you have the most beautiful potent Leo New Moon my love, until next time love & positivity
Insight into the energy and vibe of the Capricorn Full Moon taking place July 21st 2024. This episode also provides journaling prompts and questions for the Capricorn Full Moon with the themes being that of family, career, letting go, endings and beginnings as well as balance.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
June and July 2024 Capricorn Full MoonThis full moon is the second in that of Capricorn with the first one taking place 4 weeks prior on the 21st of June. Think of the previous full moon laying down foundational pieces of insights and information with this full moon to conclude it. You might find you’re having a do over, second review, a second chance as to whatever was taking place around the 21st of June. Was there something weighing you down? Something that didn’t fully finish? Something you needed to take responsibility for? A boundary to put in place?
Cancer and Leo Cusp = FamilyIt’s on the cusp of Cancer transitioning into Leo season. When these two come together it’s the thematic energy of family. Cancer is the mother of all the signs ruled by the moon, the feminine. The opposing partner sign of Cancer is Capricorn seen as the father of all signs, ruled by Saturn, which we know is all about structure, discipline and hard work.
Saturn Retrograde Capricorn Full MoonSaturn is of course retrograde right now and has been since the end of June and will be until mid November this year. Paired with the full moon it’s a beautiful time to revisit, review and reassess any areas where Saturn is within your astrology and human design chart as well as general Saturninan themes such as discipline, structure, boundaries, personal responsibility and long term goals. The goal of Saturn is to establish strong foundations so keep that in mind too.
Degree of Fate endings karmaTo also note energetically the degree in which the full moon in Capricorn is taking place is in the 29th which is the last degree of any sign known as the “degree of fate” so it marks a time where what has been brought up often signifies an ending, a breaking point, a breakthrough. The full moon in Capricorn has reached her peak, full self. It’s that moment after running a tiring marathon that it’s been a journey but at last here it is in sight the end: you can almost taste it and touch it. In fact this particular full moon in Capricorn has the nickname of the “buck moon” as during this time of the year because buck, deers, have fully developed their antlers, and it is time to shed them to start again and grow new ones.
Again given Saturn Retrograde it may be the time for unfinished business or karma to resolve itself for you to address, grow and evolve.
New beginnings Capricorn Full Moon 2024This leads to well 0 degrees which is the starting point of any sign and in terms of the cosmos, the planet Pluto is in that for the sign of Aquarius which means collectively we can expect the unexpected of new beginnings.
Earth Grounding Capricorn EnergyWithout getting into the nitty gritty of everything going on in the cosmos, alongside the influences of Chiron the wounded healer in Aries, Neptune in Pisces, Mars and Uranus in Taurus it’s a dense pressure cooker with regards to internal tension and emotions arising from beneath the surface and shadows. Capricorn is an earth sign so really focus on practices such as grounding and earthing a well as spending time in nature to relax, reset and release. It’s feeling to me energetically like one of those moons that feels like a lot in the moment but afterwards and the end you feel so much better for it, lightened and lifted. Capricorn is the sea goat after all so instinctively and intuitively you know how to navigate the sometimes choppy, other times still waters of your emotions and the subconscious.
Journaling Prompts Capricorn Full Moon 2024Without further ado, let’s get into some journaling prompts shall we?
Timing + Energy
Reflect on what was going on for you at the end of June compared to now?
What is coming to an end for you at this moment in time? What do you consciously want to let go of and shed?
Can you relate to a deer and it’s time to shed antlers? Does this correlate with the season and timing of your life? Linking to the past episode I did intuitively on identity shifts. Is one taking place for you in this current cycle of your life?
How would you like to see your life shift and change in the long term, say next 5 to 10 years?
Family
What is the state of your current family relationships and dynamics?
Are there any unresolved issues or tensions within my family that need addressing at this point in time? How can you approach this from a compassion and nurturing perspective for yourself?
Career and Reputation
Capricorn is linked to career and public image/reputation.
What is currently going on for you in your career and is there anything you need to complete and/or let go of? Is there a desire or need to recalibrate within your career?
How do you think you are perceived at this point in time whether it’s personally or professionally? What can you do off the back of this information?
Emotions
How can you balance your emotional needs with your personal responsibilities?
Reflect on a harmonious balance and interplay for you between nurturing yourself and having discipline and structure. Perhaps take inspiration from deer: gentle, sweet, innocent, graceful, loving, strong, protective – they are very attuned to what is going on around them.
Are you feeling like you are changing? You might be going through an identity shift. This episode is all about what is an identity shift, why an identity shift may occur, the emotions that can come up when going through an identity shift as well as practical tips and mindset perspectives on how to navigate and embrace an identity shift happening.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Human Design, Identity Shift and The Great UnlearningHello beautiful souls, and welcome to today’s episode inspired by the 8 beautiful women I am taking on retreat to Bali in less than 3 weeks! A beautiful golden thread that weaves amongst us all is that we are all navigating and relating identity shifts whether its in regards to different stages of life or a coming of ages for example.
It’s so interesting for me to speak about it especially given my human design personally I have a completely open and undefined g centre and with that comes a common misconception especially for reflectors that it means you have no identity which isn’t true. I definitely have one and if you were to ask people who is Phi I think you’d find they would say human design expert, life coach, positivity queen, beach living, the colour orange, sunflowers and so fourth.
Thus we have this concept of self appointed identity and your true identity. There’s so many layers to this and I delve into this in greater depth in Chapter 7 Self Identity of my book The Great Unlearning available as a physical book, e book and audiobook too by the way!
I write that learning is that
You are (insert name). You are (insert number) years old. You are a (insert job here).
Who are you? Who are you really? Are you you because of you or because the world made you this way? Do you know your place in this world? How do you answer those awkward ice breakers in a group environment? Fun fact about yourself? (Cue the anxiety racking your brain for one.) Two truths and a lie? What makes you, you? You are normal, right?
Human Design as a tool to navigate an identity shiftWe have labels and ways we attempt to understand ourselves ultimately as a divine soul having a human experience. Our identity is one of those ways we make sense of the world and the best tool, modality and framework for that in my opinion is human design because it’s so incredibly powerful. It’s a map and guide to who you are through the lens of your energy, personality, where energy flows between different parts of who you are, life themes and amongst a diverse and rich set of information found in your human design blueprint which I’ll add I do readings as well as online blueprints which you can find on my website and to book in a reading with me.
Saturn Return and Identity ShiftSo how did identity shifts come into the fold of conversation well the other day last week I found myself at the beach on the sand after I swim where I used to live for four years and it dawned on me that I hadn’t been back since I moved out off the back of the breakup 2 years ago with my ex partner of 3 years.
I had this moment where I was like wow I am so different to the girl who used to come to this beach everyday whether it was 5am before work and side hustle life coaching or 11am on a Monday to soak in my new found freedom running my own business.
That in itself I had so many identities tied to this one moment time and strangely but not really because nothing is a coincidence is it, that hey I happened to also end up at this beach around the time we parted ways for good when my ex partner moved back to England.
A few of the identity interplays I had back then:
I was going through my Saturn Return at around the age of 27. Before my Saturn Return begun I had just moved to my own two bedroom apartment and planned to have a hot girl single summer before I ended up meeting my ex partner, falling in love and he moved in with me. I was in a high flying corporate job as a brand strategy manager when the pandemic happened and with reduced work hours I had the downtime to start my passion project my Instagram which led to my side hustle as a life coach by demand and now it’s almost three years full time as a life coach in my own business.
By the end of my Saturn Return my ex partner and I broke up and I moved to my dream apartment at a neighbouring iconic beach. If we take Saturn Return to extend to 31 for it’s final completion that’s still underway but here I am thriving and loving life three years as a life coach, have written a book, made multiple 6 figures in my business, about to take a group of incredible 8 women on retreat to Bali and recently celebrated one year with my new partner. Whewwww Saturn Return I know. As you can see so many different identities here: single, in a relationship, corporate identity, employee, self employed like even the suburbs I lived in previously was more a beach lifestyle, chilled settled down community to iconic, busy and bustling.
Unlearning like a phoenix with your identityIt aligns and makes sense to me of course that my book is The Great Unlearning: Awakening to living an Aligned and Authentic Life with the symbol being that of a phoenix. See that as a parallel to our identities within a life time, dying to rise and reborn from the ashes of our previous.
Such a worthwhile, life changing experience of identity shifts but not without it’s challenges, I think these two quotes could summarise my experience:
“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”
Mandy Hale
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Joseph Campbell
What is an identity shift?Identity shifts refer to significant changes in the way individuals perceive themselves and how they define their roles, values, and beliefs. These shifts can occur gradually or suddenly and can be influenced by various internal and external factors. They often involve a reevaluation of one’s self-concept and can lead to a transformation in behavior, attitudes, and life choices.
Why do identity shifts happen?Life TransitionsMajor life events such as marriage, divorce, becoming a parent, or experiencing the death of a loved one can trigger identity shifts.
These transitions often require individuals to adapt to new roles and responsibilities, leading to a redefinition of their self-identity.
“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”
John Green
When my Dad was ill and passed away when I just turned 20 I became someone who lives life to the fullest, travel, try things I would never do such as when he was sick backpacking around Europe at 18/19 solo. Going to a festival by myself at Tomorrowland. Opening myself up to new experiences I previously said I would never do or consider.
Personal GrowthAs people grow and mature, their values, beliefs, and priorities can change.
Personal development activities, such as education, therapy, or spiritual practices, can facilitate self-discovery and identity shifts.
Coming out of spiritual closet, feel more comfortable once I left my corporate job for example but if I’m honest it started earlier with me sharing updates on the moon.
Career ChangesChanging careers or job roles can significantly impact one’s sense of identity.
Entrepreneur the way I see money e.g. investment vs a debt.
Moving from a familiar profession to a new one can lead to a reassessment of skills, strengths, and professional identity.
Going back to school, higher education.
Cultural and Social influencesMigration, exposure to different cultures, or changes in societal norms can prompt identity shifts.
Adapting to new cultural environments can lead to a blending or reevaluation of cultural identities.
Going back to Vietnam sparked this in me. A sense of pride, understanding my family more, my roots, ancestry and lineage.
Health and WellbeingExperiencing a major health crisis or achieving significant health goals can alter self-perception.
Overcoming illness or making substantial lifestyle changes can lead to a renewed sense of self.
RelationshipsEntering or leaving significant relationships can prompt identity shifts.
Interactions with new social circles, partners, or mentors can influence one’s self-concept.
PsychologicalComparison to other people, self discovery
Inner reflections, midlife crises, or existential questions can lead to identity shifts.
Individuals might seek deeper meaning and purpose, prompting a reevaluation of their identity.
Identity Shift and Emotional Journey1. Confusion and Uncertainty
- Loss of Familiarity:
- Individuals may feel disoriented as they navigate new roles and identities, leading to a sense of loss regarding their former self.
- Questioning Self-Worth:
- During the transition, self-doubt and uncertainty about one’s abilities and value can emerge, challenging self-esteem.
2. Anxiety and Stress
- Fear of the Unknown:
- The unpredictability associated with identity shifts can cause anxiety, as individuals worry about adapting to new circumstances and the potential for failure.
- Pressure to Adapt:
- The need to quickly adjust to new roles or environments can be stressful, particularly if external expectations are high. You want to be like a duck on water already but it takes time.
3. Grief and Loss
- Mourning the Old Identity:
- Letting go of a previous identity can evoke feelings of grief and loss, similar to mourning a significant life change.
- Sense of Nostalgia:
- Reflecting on past roles and experiences can trigger nostalgia, sometimes making it difficult to fully embrace the new identity.
4. Excitement and Empowerment
- Opportunities for Growth:
- Identity shifts often present opportunities for personal and professional growth, leading to feelings of excitement and anticipation.
- Sense of Achievement:
- Successfully navigating an identity shift can boost confidence and a sense of accomplishment, reinforcing self-efficacy.
5. Resilience and Adaptability
- Building Resilience:
- Overcoming the challenges of an identity shift can enhance resilience, as individuals learn to adapt and thrive in new circumstances.
- Strengthening Coping Mechanisms:
- Developing new coping strategies during the transition can improve overall emotional and psychological well-being.
6. Identity Confusion and Crisis
- Struggle with Self-Concept:
- Identity shifts can lead to an identity crisis, where individuals struggle to reconcile different aspects of their self-concept.
- Existential Questions:
- Deep questioning of one’s purpose, values, and life direction can arise, leading to a period of introspection and self-exploration.
7. Improved Self-Awareness
- Enhanced Self-Understanding:
- The process of navigating an identity shift can lead to greater self-awareness and a deeper understanding of one’s values, strengths, and passions.
- Clarified Life Goals:
- Reassessing one’s identity often results in more clearly defined life goals and a stronger sense of direction.
8. Social and Relational Impacts
- Changes in Relationships:
- Identity shifts can alter dynamics in personal and professional relationships, as others adjust to the individual’s new identity.
- Seeking Support:
- Building a supportive network of friends, family, or professional counselors can be crucial in managing the emotional impacts of the transition.
9. Emotional Rollercoaster
- Fluctuating Emotions:
- The journey through an identity shift is often marked by fluctuating emotions, including moments of joy, frustration, hope, and despair.
- Navigating Ambiguity:
- Learning to navigate the ambiguity and mixed emotions associated with identity shifts is a key part of the process.
10. Acceptance and Integration
- Embracing Change:
- Gradually accepting and integrating the new identity can lead to a sense of peace and wholeness.
- Authentic Self-Expression:
- The culmination of an identity shift often results in more authentic self-expression and a more cohesive sense of self.
Identity Shift Process; Framework of Stages1. Disruption: * An event or realization disrupts the current sense of identity. * This can cause feelings of confusion, anxiety, or loss. 1. Exploration: 1. * Individuals begin to explore new roles, beliefs, and values. * This phase involves self-reflection, experimentation, and seeking new experiences. 1. Integration: 1. * New aspects of identity are integrated into the self-concept. * This stage involves accepting and embracing the new identity, leading to a more cohesive sense of self. 1. Stabilization: 1. * The new identity becomes more stable and consistent. * Individuals feel more comfortable and confident in their new roles and self-perception.
Mindset perspectives on identity shifts
“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety.”
Abrahahm Maslow
“To change who you are, change who you think you are.”
Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Who are you being? What would your highest self do?
“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.”
Steve Jobs
“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”
John C. Maxwell
Other points Phi discusses:
- Seek support
- Practice self care and patience
- Self reflection and awareness: having consistent practices such as journaling
- Values work
- An open growth mindset
- The past, present and future integration
- Balancing reflection and taking action
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do”
Brené Brown
The aftermath of what can happen after a kitchari cleanse: emotional clearing and release. Phi touches on what emerged in terms of her emotions, shadow self and aspects of self as well as touches on themes of conscious partnerships: polarity, masculine and feminine energy, feminine testing and being all of who you truly are in a relationship.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
In this episode Phi shares her experience on what it was like to do a 3 day kitchari cleanse for a physical and spiritual detox. It covers what kitchari is, how it stems from the Ayurveda and the emotional journey of doing a cleanse. As a result what surprisingly came through was feminine emotional expression and in turn sacred rage.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
1:1 coaching inner child healingHello beautiful soul,
It’s been a wonderful week here in my world! In particular working with beautiful clients and it’s so intriguing and special to be privileged to work 1:1 with incredible souls and being able to see patterns emerge within sessions too.
This week thematically for clients it’s been about career shifts, looking for jobs and inner child work and healing. What’s really at the core of all of this has been empowering clients to be in their power when it comes to their career and being a kind, loving and respectful custodian and protector to their inner child. As a result of working together I’ve seen clients in their own businesses step up their boundaries and let go of what’s no longer aligned in their business, start job searches despite resistance in the form of imposter syndrome and ego, support career moves and transitions into a different industry and reconnect with their inner child in need of love, acknowledgement and support.
1:1 coaching dating and being singleAs I speak and reflect in real time, another theme that’s come through is relationships in coaching sessions whether it’s helping a client work through a decision to break up or not going through decision and analysis paralysis as well as riding the emotional waves that comes with contemplating a break up: fear, sadness, regret which can be so hard and challenging to go through alone.
I’ve also witnessed with so much pride a client in her three month coaching package, midway through powerfully choose herself and vision for love, part ways with a man who couldn’t fully commit to her and is now dating again with more conscious awareness and stronger boundaries to ensure that now she is dating again, that she won’t doesn’t get dragged in dating someone for a while with commitment. It’s so exciting to hear she’s started dating someone new, having gone from a year dating without commitment, working with his work and life schedule over hers to now opening up coaching conversations about how her values and boundaries at the forefront of her mind. Proud coach moment!
Having talked about all these beautiful moments if you are feeling the pull, looking for more guidance and support in your life, I invite you to consider 1:1 coaching, I do have spots available more information on my website or please get in touch via Instagram to set up a free 30 minute call to chat, see if we are aligned and how I can help you.
Full moon solstice food cleanseCollectively what else I’ve noticed was the impact of that powerful Capricorn full moon and solstice. I asked you guys and everyone who voted on the Instagram poll agreed, there was some funky, dense and potent energy around.
With full moon energy it is all about releasing and letting go and so I’ve actually been on a cleanse for the past week, two different ones and today I am going to chat about the first half of the cleanse I have been doing. Before I begin, I wanted to be clear that I am sharing my own research and lived experiences. I encourage you to please use your own discernment. I am not a medical professional and what I share here is not intended to replace professional medical or dietary advice. Please always consult with a professional healthcare practitioner. Using my own discernment doing this ayurvedic kitchari cleanse was a whole body yes yes yes and then double checked with my own research and speaking to an Ayurvedic practitioner whether it was appropriate and suitable for me.
Why go on a physical dietary cleanse?So why am I going on a cleanse you may be thinking. I surprised my partner with a recent getaway and we had so much yummy, delicious, rich food and whilst I always prioritise my spiritual, emotional and mental health, I am now broadening that to ensure I make my physical health more of a priority too because I am guilty for example of foregoing exercise to coach or work on my business. So I embarked on a cleanse but not as you know it.
Typically when I think of a cleanse, I think of a juice one. Those close to me know that I do not do well when I am hungry. I am going to own it and say I get really hangry. BADLY. Like I feel so irritated, faint and when I do I am more likely to get fired up and frustrated over sad girl-ing. A juice cleanse from my perspective feels strong, intensive and very restrictive. Given I had no urgency physically nor a desire I opted to do a more simple, straight forward and gentle cleanse where I was still regularly eating however it’s obviously scaled down significantly what one would eat day to day.
Support with a physical diet and cleanseThe cleanse I did was called a Kitchari Cleanse and that was for 3 days. Please note I also did it with the support and guidance of an Ayurvedic practitioner. Being a life coach you know how important that is to me and so whilst I could have chosen to do it unsupervised, that wasn’t my vibe given I am no expert in food and wellness plus I’ve not done a cleanse before so I wasn’t sure what may come up or happened so it felt so good for me to feel safe and supported and so invested in support.
What is kitchari?So what is Kitchari? Before I can explain what kitchari is, let me share it’s foundations for you. It stems from the Ayurveda which is a long existing, traditional medical system that originated in India many thousands of years ago. The term “Ayurveda” is derived from the Sanskrit words “Ayur” (life) and “Veda” (knowledge), meaning “knowledge of life” or “science of life.” It focuses on achieving balance and harmony within the body, mind, and spirit through natural means.
What is Ayurveda?Whilst I had heard of ayurveda before, this is one of my first experiences using Ayurveda and it’s no surprise to me given as you know in March I was on a spiritual retreat in India. What Ayurveda is would and will be a whole other episode but key principles of it include the use of five key elements (ether/space, air, fire, water and earth). This then forms three primary life force energies known as doshas. Vata (space and air), Pitta (fire and water), and Kapha (water and earth). Each person has a unique combination of these doshas, which determines their physical and mental characteristics. Ayurveda takes a holistic natural approach and one key concept within it is that of balance and imbalance.
Kitchari is soul food and healingKitchari is a well known one Ayurvedic dish often eaten for detoxifying and cleansing. It’s a simple and nourishing meal. I think of it as the equivalent to chicken soup known to be Jewish penicillin or in my culture growing up with Vietnamese and Chinese heritage, I had cháo – Vietnamese Rice porridge. Food for the soul and so good when you’re feeling sick or wanting some mum energy of love and support.
What is kitchari made of?Kitchari is made from rice and beans, there are many different variations depending what rice you use, beans, whether you include additions like vegetables. I had a kitchari with just white basmati rice, split yellow moong dal and spices such as turmeric and ginger cooked in ghee. The reason for this is at its core Kitchari is easy and gentle for your your body to digest, giving your digestive system a break.
White rice is preferred in a kitchari cleanse as brown rice has it’s natural outer layer still on which is fibrous however harder for your digestive system to break down (the opposite intended effect of the kitchari cleanse). Split mung beans have the skin removed so again it’s easier for your body to digest. In ayurveda they are known to be the more easy to digest legume with detoxifying properties, anti inflammatory, low GI and rich in antioxidants.
Whilst kitchari is only rice and beans, the combination provides all the amino acids to be a complete protein. This way unlike say a full fast or juice cleanse, your blood sugar levels remain stable and supported so that you don’t get nervous system crashes and feeling light, delirious even. It’s so gentle that in India it’s a popular food for babies to eat as well as elders. Gentle as in to eat not to fast for babies and elders!
How does a kitchari cleanse work?So how does a kitchari cleanse work? It’s typically done at least 3 days, though from what I’ve researched and hear, even just having it as a one off meal is beneficial. 3 days felt like ideal, reasonable and achievable for me. It’s a mono diet meaning for 3 days I had kitchari for breakfast, lunch and dinner (again this helps your digestive system as it’s processing the same food giving it simplicity in digesting). In between I had plenty of water, herbs as well as a detox tea from my Ayurvedic practitioner.
What I loved was that kitchari supported me in still being able to live a normal day to day as I wasn’t hangry and did have energy. With full transparency I did opt to have less work during the three days of cleansing because I am fortunate to be in a position where that is possible. I know they do Kitchari cleanses on retreats, this would be even more of a luxury because you’d have someone else cook it and be away from day to day life duties and concerns. It’s still possible to do day to day with work given you are still eating three meals a day unlike an intense fast or juice cleanse.
Benefits of a kitchari cleanseWhen researching a kitchari cleanse, some benefits include:
- Digestive Health: Giving your body a break with an easy to digest meal. The spices in kitchari such as ginger have properties that sooth your digestive track, reduce inflammation, soothe your intestines and bowels, and prevent/ease discomforts such as gas and bloating. Moreover you have better waste elimination.
- Detoxification: Removing heaviness, toxins and congestion in the body. As a result you may have more mental clarity, energy and clearer skin.
- Nutrition: The simplicity of kitchari is easier for your body to absorb nutrients.
- Balance: Spiritually your doshas (life force energies), your eating habits and patterns too.
- All in all overall health, wellbeing, increased energy and vitality.
Pre cleanse – KitchariDo note that with doing a cleanse there is pre and post practices that are important to take into account too. It’s advised in the week or at least a few days prior to the kitchari cleanse to reduce and remove processed foods, dairy and animal products, refined sugars, alcohol, caffeine, tobacco and substances.
It’s also best to do the cleanse when you are not on your period, extremely busy or stressed, travelling extensively or any other intense times in your life as this isn’t the ideal environment for a cleanse and could cause more harm than good.
I started on a Saturday so I had a quiet weekend plus the Monday following off client calls but still doing voxer (messages in between clients) and business admin.
Day One, First Day – Kitchari CleanseThe kitchari cleanse isn’t just the food itself, it comes with a daily ritual as well. I loved gaining insight into different aspects from the kitchari cleanse which I have continued to implement on a daily basis in my life too.
For example the cleanse encourages a morning routine and structure which includes tongue scraping (which I love since a young girl my dad got me into this) and drinking warm water to start the day. The tongue scraping which I already did pre cleanse rids you of built up accumulated bacteria and the warm water I feel has made a huge difference to starting up my digestive system for the day. So simple yet so effective.
It’s also advised to eat around the same time everyday and stick to three meals only (no snacking in between). I’m a flow person so I do find it hard to eat exactly the same time everyday and at the end of the cleanse still felt tremendous benefits. I also realised I didn’t need to snack in between meals because I wasn’t actually hungry.
Kitchari cleanse being hungry and angryAt night when I went to bed, I did start to feel pangs of hunger. Now that I’ve finished the cleanse, I think this is because I had been eating huge portions and so it was more mental because I did end up falling asleep quite quickly after whereas in the past when I felt pangs of hunger, I could not sleep until I got up out of bed and had a small snack (yup guilty of eating cheese and crackers, risking it with the weird dreams they say you can have before bed).
What I also distinctly remembered was the feeling of anger arising in my body, sitting heavily in my jaw. There was nothing in my life particularly that angered me but it was interesting to note.
Can you see and feel the benefits of a kitchari cleanse quickly? Day twoI started to feel and see the differences in my body already. Even my partner did, we both agreed I wasn’t bloated and my belly was soft. If you’re like me and love food you know when you eat a lot or perhaps something your body does not agree with, when I get that way, my belly balloons and triples in size feeling really tough and hard to touch.
My partner and I were out and about so I ended up having five hours between breakfast and lunch. I was definitely hungry but given the circumstances and usually how I feel when I am hungry both my partner and I were surprised I wasn’t typically exhibiting my hanger symptoms e.g. moody, grumpy and short. Usually I wouldn’t even last five hours without food, I’d experience severe emotional swings and physical hunger pains. What’s interesting was that my partner said he couldn’t tell and I seemed really calm, grounded and centered.
I should also note you are meant to make kitchari fresh every meal or at least the batch for the day at the beginning of the day. I didn’t have a thermos at the time, I wish I did and I now do, because then I could’ve eaten whilst we were out. Having a quiet weekend helped because I would not like to do a cleanse and go out with people having a meal or anything like that, because you would need strong discipline and the scent and sight of food would be so tempting!
Discernment and kitchari cleanseThe biggest takeout from the second day was really starting to discern and differentiate when I was actually hungry vs thinking I was hungry for example thinking it’s lunch time so I should eat even if I’m not hungry. Further to that portion sizes – made me realise my portions have been huge and I’ve been over eating again not because I was actually hungry because probably likely greedy because food is so yum but not great when I eat so much I feel sick and bloated or perhaps stress eating (I know I’m stress eating when I really crave salt).
Moreover you start to really discern and taste each ingredient within the kitchari with appreciation whether it’s the sour of the lemon juice, the earthiness fo the coriander and slight battery pepper notes of mustard seeds.
Day three, third day kitchari cleanseLast day of the cleanse and I was feeling really good! In fact I wasn’t even hungry in the morning so ended up having two meals and effectively half my kitchari portion for the day. I didn’t feel starved or restricted, I felt content and calm.
This headspace allowed me to start reflecting on the anger that had come up and I had been feeling.
Being fieryI started connecting the dots on a sequence of comments around anger. In Vietnam, I went to see a fortune teller who said “you have a powerful fiery side” reaffirmed by my maternal family saying it runs in the family, the women are strong, fierce and “fiery.” I was quite shocked because I don’t perceive myself to be. More recently my partner in passing said I had a fiery side to me (in a really loving way by the way not one bit of contempt, judgement anything like that). Again I was taken aback and confused especially since my past partner had said I was the calmest and most peaceful person he’d ever met.
Fiery and angry in relationshipsTalking to my regular coach and mentor about this I told her and she questioned why being fiery was a bad thing. Ding ding ding. Why was it? I associated fiery as anger which meant bad and negative. Despite writing in my book in chapter 23, After The Love Story: Pleasure, Power & Liberation, the anger I felt after my break up was so powerful and a huge catalyst for me moving on and forward in my life.
I wrote, “In reality, the person I resented the most was myself. I was angry. I had diluted who I was so I could be palatable for his ego. I was angry I had shrunk myself so that he didn’t feel threatened or jealous by my happiness and success. I was angry I had dimmed my light so that he felt comfortable. I was angry I tried to break up with him six months earlier and he didn’t end up going through with it because I didn’t want to hurt him. I was angry I bent my boundaries and allowed him to live with me after the breakup where he took out his pain on me and it became toxic.”
No wonder my ex partner said I was the most calm and peaceful person he knew, I never expressed how I truly felt at times with him even when I was angry. For the most part I kept it to myself, brushed it off or just gave up I think you know when it’s deja vu, over and over again and you yeah just become despondent or accept this is just how it is… but in my new partnership I am more expressive, I have firm boundaries and strong values and he knows that hence the fiery side!
Feminine fire is powerfulMy fiery side is fierce and she enabled me to build and grow my business, to write and publish my book The Great Unlearning and to protect myself whether it’s having strong boundaries in partnership, dating and business.
There was that societal conditioning that part of me, the shadow, the ego that unconsciously played into the ‘quiet woman, subservient, meek, feminine Asian woman stereotype.’ Light bulb moment achieved. I am still unlearning the conditioning around anger for females.
Sacred rage feminine expression feminine energySacred rage is powerful. Continuing on Ch 23 in my book The Great Unlearning I write, “the anger was powerful because I had to face the blind spots in my growth. I had to own up to my own shortcoming and take responsibility for the role I had played. I had felt trapped in that relationship… I had caused a lot of my own suffering for not speaking up… why did I not speak up? I wanted to be the “good girl” liked by others.”
Maybe you can relate, repressing and caging your anger – growing up we learn that anger is not a good thing. We are not encouraged to feel any anger and as a result as women we lose our connection to anger. That sacred fire that burns brightly and boldly within us. Anger is medicine and wisdom, it’s telling us something is not right, something is wrong, pay attention.
What is sacred rage?This feminine sacred rage is often in response to injustices, oppression, or personal trauma. What makes it sacred vs say normal rage is the fact that it is rooted in a deep sense of self-awareness, authenticity, and a desire for transformation and healing. It’s not projected at someone else or something. It’s not destructive but a force of empowerment, honesty and breaking free from repressed feminine expression.
Sacred rage and goddess KaliOne particular goddess and archetype to work with when it comes to feminine energy, expression and sacred rage is Kali. I’ve talked about Kali previously on the podcast before as an introduction to her and how to work with her energies, refer to episode 40 aptly titled Goddess Kali.
You’ll know her as the goddess who often appears with many arms, in blue form and having had chopped off heads, sticking her tongue out. She is a force to be reckoned with taking on evil and destruction fearlessly. Her rage is powerful, it protects, she is a force of justice and a remover of obstacles in your life.
That was a tidbit of the depths we can go on feminine expression and sacred rage yet I think a really important part of this episode and something that’s resurfaced within my own life for my unlearning and personal growth and expansion, brought up by my body and the kitchari cleanse for which I am grateful.
Post kitchari cleansePost cleanse day four was the interesting day. I actually continued to eat kitchari but introduced vegetables in! When I got to have vegetables my palate was so excited, I got to really mindfully consciously experience the taste of spinach, the tastes of carrot and really appreciate it. I’ll continue to eat kitchari here and then integrated into my daily meals because it’s really simple and easy to make, everything in one pot, you can do other things whilst it cooks, I meditated or did yoga plus it’s really cost effective too.
So what other observations did I have after finishing my kitchari cleanse? I noticed I was not craving as much seasoning as usual, I didn’t need the pops of salt and pepper, I was satiated the amount in the food and I didn’t need any additional.
Kitchari cleanse and feeling all the emotionsWrapping it up before I go even more personal, I would definitely do a kitchari cleanse again when I feel like a reset for my body because that’s what it felt like! It was gentle on my body and I felt super effective and not excruciatingly tough, a good amount of stretch mentally and physically.
So all in all everything was going really well and overall smooth, then that’s when it started to turn
and maybe that’s because I was starting to reintroduce more elements into my day to day meals.
I intuitively believe I was still processing and cleansing because this is when I personally experienced BIG feels.
Details and more on what that was like in next week’s episode following this and it involves me being vulnerable sharing intimate details to my emotional journey as well as feminine and masculine energies and conscious relationships and partnerships. Until next week beautiful soul, love and positivity.
Join me on this special anniversary episode celebrating the first birthday of The Great Unlearning! I share the journey from inception to impact of my first debut book. This episode weaves in human design as to how I approached writing the book as well as updates from key experiences of my life I shared in the book too! Expect stories, musings and reflections.
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The journey of The Great UnlearningHello beautiful soul,
I can’t believe I am saying this and it still feels surreal, Happy 1st birthday to my debut first book – The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and authentic life. It was one year ago today on June 23rd 2023 that she was released and I’m honestly still taking a moment to reflect on the year that’s gone by and this is where this episode is coming in! Celebrations, reflections and musing in honour of TGU’s 1st birthday.
I still remember when the book was a seedling of an idea around the time I launched in her vitality which was previously my Instagram handle when I first started a mental health passion project which was that page and it’s now evolved to well me @thephidang and being a life coach.
I’ve just had a look on Instagram and I started my page on August 3rd 2019, which then became my own personal brand which was around 200 weeks ago so around the end of August/beginning September 2020! I remember I was so scared going from anonymous, to showing my face and then fully making the account ‘me.’ Shortly after that I began life coaching on demand, as a side hustle to my corporate career and in September 2021 I resigned to go all in and full time as a life coach. At the beginning of 2022 was when I signed my book deal, started writing The Great Unlearning and the publication date June 23 2023. Wow! What a journey it’s been.
A lifelong childhood dream fulfilledIt still remains and will remain as one of the best moments of my life to have fulfilled a life long dream to not only write a book but publish one, I still get so giddy seeing the book in a bookstore or having someone share their thoughts and experience in reading the book! Which I will cheekily say, it would mean the world to me to have your support, if you have read it to please leave a book review somewhere or talk about it with a friend, it helps me spread the word and get it read by more people on my mission to help everyone unlearn everything that holds you back.
Diving into this episode I thought I would take you behind the scenes of what it’s like to get an idea for a book. to write it and have it published too. From having the idea to write a book, looking back in hindsight through the lens of human design: from a young age I’ve always loved literature, my Dad was an English teacher in Vietnam and I remember him reading me books before I would sleep every night. I have this clear memory of starting school, being in kindergarten and our teacher asked us to draw pictures of what we did over the weekend. I remember drawing a soccer ball and house, writing ‘house’ and ‘ball’ underneath. The memory is so vivid because my teacher was shocked asking how did I already know how to write and I proudly said my dad taught me at home! I have really lovely memories of him reading to me but also helping me write and draw shapes.
Being seen as a hermit, 2, in human designFast forward at school English was one of my best subjects alongside business and economics which again make sense because I genuinely loved all three (well maybe definitely english and business over economics which became too math-y for my liking and enjoyment at a University level). Being a hermit (2 profile line) one of the characteristics is natural talents and I recall many people saying I was great at English and writing, it would go on to be the core of what I share with the world too on Instagram (which wasn’t always this way, I posted more heavy informational based ones or quotes by other people) until a client was like Phi, you have such a way with words when you talk, I can only imagine if you wrote them down too like I do in my sessions, I think you need to do this on your Instagram. The first time I blew up my Instagram was when I did my own writing on men’s mental health and it rapidly grew ever since stemming from my writing (which also helped me secure my book deal because I could actually write (and not have a ghostwriter which some people do, some will disclose and others don’t!).
Diving into this episode I thought I would take you behind the scenes of what it’s like to get an idea for a book. to write it and have it published too. From having the idea to write a book, looking back in hindsight through the lens of human design: from a young age I’ve always loved literature, my Dad was an English teacher in Vietnam and I remember him reading me books before I would sleep every night. I have this clear memory of starting school, being in kindergarten and our teacher asked us to draw pictures of what we did over the weekend. I remember drawing a soccer ball and house, writing ‘house’ and ‘ball’ underneath. The memory is so vivid because my teacher was shocked asking how did I already know how to write and I proudly said my dad taught me at home! I have really lovely memories of him reading to me but also helping me write and draw shapes.
Manifesting generator and how the idea forThe Great Unlearning came aboutThis is where the magic of human design comes in before I even consciously realised as a manifesting generator our strategy is to ‘respond’ to the world. Whilst as a young girl I loved the idea of writing a book because I loved books, I didn’t actually know what I would write about…
what would unfurl a lot later on in my life from my mid twenties was a series and string of things to respond to.
The first one being around 2019, 2020 in the lead up to the pandemic and during, I was starting to read more personal growth and development books, which I had done on and off over the years (again very manifesting generator to be obsessed with something for a moment, then your obsession goes to something else, and then back again!) as I deepened my own personal spirituality. I remember distinctly thinking you know what I would love to write a book someday and maybe it will be in this genre of personal growth since I love it so much. The next signal would come a year later after coaching clients for a while, the idea for the book downloaded through me in the form of an ‘aha’ moment – reflecting on coaching clients women, men, all over the world of different ages I saw a clear theme emerge in what I was talking about: unlearning!
What is unlearning?Putting that together with how I felt too because when you read a lot these books they are so inspiring but you also have this tinge of there’s so much to learn and you’ll unconsciously start seeding maybe there’s something wrong with me, maybe I don’t know enough… in our journey towards self-improvement, we tend to focus on acquiring new knowledge, skills, and habits.
However, unlearning—the process of letting go of outdated beliefs, behaviours, and mindsets— which stem from our own life experiences but also programming and conditioning, thing outside of our control, things externally as we journey through life: passed down, absorbed from our parents, caretakers, friends, family, society, culture, gender was pinging in my mind! Our lives are filled with conditioning through ingrained patterns that hinder our progress and keep us stuck in the language of “I should be…” “I need to…” “I must…” “I have to….” because…
What emerged for me was the hidden but always there gem and gold, the new paradigm of unlearning! Consciously choosing to unlearn, we create space for new, empowering perspectives and practices that align with our authentic selves and soul driven aspirations. From there I started to map out my own experiences and see how in my journey I have had to unlearn so much! It really does require self-awareness, courage, and a willingness to embrace change. It involves questioning the status quo, challenging long-held assumptions, and being open to new ways of thinking and being. It involves being so kind, patient and compassionate with your self as we are experiencing life as humans, we aren’t perfect nor are we meant to be.
Human Design, masculine and feminine, writing a bookI hadn’t come across unlearning in any books I had read and so I wanted to see if it was a strong concept and found my book mentor and coach, who had written several books and is also within the personal growth industry, she agreed so much whilst this was happening my corporate job and life was taking up all of the time, so when she reached out some time later saying Phi, you really need to take this concept and write a book (something else to respond to!). In finding my mentor I just had a feeling and intuitive nudge because I loved reading her book (thank you another to respond signal and intuition!). Really was something I was meant to do and meant for because the universe found a way to get me back on track through my book coach!
What I know of myself aligns with my human design because I am right brained (hence why I didn’t love maths in high school nor in university switching economics to marketing which I thrived along and was my gut instinct before I picked economics because looking back I thought it would be more impressive and earn more money than marketing to complement my law degree). So in terms of figuring out the book, I loved mind mapping, starting with concepts branching out, taking breaks from it to look over flesh out more with a fresh perspective. That’s my strength, ideation, and through the experience of my book coach she helped me come up with a structure for the book which felt flowy and helped me to develop the book chapters and sections.
Honesty and transparency writing a book the involves your lifeIn explaining unlearning, the best way I knew would be to draw upon my own life experiences so it was a process of reflecting, brain dumping, mind mapping. Now in drawing upon your own life experiences it is important to consider what to use and particularly if involved other people for example my family. It was important for me to let them know, know how they felt about it and ultimately their blessing as this was in alignment with my values of integrity (do what I would want someone else to do if I were in their shoes) and honouring myself (being able to have open and honest conversations). Another particular person important in this was my partner at the time and we ended up breaking up during the writing process. I ultimately got his blessing and I am grateful for that because it’s an odd and uncommon position to be in where your ex partner happens to be a life coach with an online presence and is writing a book during the time of your break up…
With full transparency I was meant to hand in the first full draft of the book around the time of our break up but I couldn’t given my heart was aching in my own personal journey and I knew in a book that deeply weaves my life, it would have a place in the book. I’m happy to say he and I are on good terms too, still to this day.
Wanting a fairytale ending in real lifeThe break up was hard with so many changes having gone full time in my own business, running it, having to move homes and well deal with a break up of a three year relationship. With my human design I am very much designed to be in flow and not necessarily routine so when I did get back to writing, I couldn’t face myself to write everyday personally, what worked best for me was when I got downloads in the moment writing them down as much as I could and then when lightning hit going with it again. I acknowledge I am super fortunate I run my own business so I could really structure out my week to support this feminine creative writing flow.
Talking about break ups, if you’ve read The Great Unlearning you know I write about wanting a partner. I kept thinking oh I’m going to get the perfect fairytale ending by the time I publish and launch the book, my new partner would be by my side. He wasn’t and on a human level yes I was a little disappointed because it would have been ‘the’ ending you know publishing a book, living in my dream home, in my dream job, with dream friends and family and a dream partner but I was so ecstatic and truly the happiest I had been in a long time, made peace with being single that it wasn’t a detriment but I felt important to acknowledge even at my book launch. The universe works in funny and mysterious ways and I swear I had a soul contract that I was not to get in a relationship until I had finished the book (a part of my soul’s mission in helping people in this lifetime) because I met my now partner almost a week after the book launch! We are still together to this day.
Being in a relationship and unlearningHow we met felt truly serendipitous, one of those stories where we really did meet at the perfect time. Any earlier, we wouldn’t have been together. When we spoke about our lives leading up to our meeting, we had been in each other’s orbits several years prior to even meeting whether it be living in the same suburb, at the same time and never meeting (for example even if we did I had a partner!). The way in which we met was again a series of things to respond to and so despite my huge resistance, thanks to two great girl friends, we met in one of those rare, unheard of stories.
In speaking to a client who’s in her season of life where she’s gone through a breakup similar timing to when I did and is still single, don’t get me wrong being in a relationship is so wonderful but that did not prevent challenges in my life still arising nor now, I’m sure anyone in a relationship will tell you that ! Life isn’t picture perfect, bow tied up, it begins a whole other new journey in other ways as does any close relationship in life.
Overcoming perfectionism in writing a bookRelationships are a commitment, writing a book is also one commitment, as is like a marathon. It requires preparation, endurance, and perseverance. Just as a marathon runner must train their body and mind over long distances, as an author you must make space, dedicate time and put in effort to develop your ideas and write, write, write! I’ve grown so much on a personal level to really overcome perfectionism in any form. In the process of writing you’ll go through so many drafts, then rewrite, then be like wait what about this word or should this punctation be this or that? You come to embrace that the first draft is never it, it’s a process of refinement. Even as I’m talking about this I’m having that feeling like ooooh I would absolutely love to coach and mentor someone interested in writing a book too. Stating that, putting it out into the universe! As well as the fact I am currently open and available to taking on more 1:1 clients and human design readings so this is your green light and signal if you’ve been thinking of one! More information on my website or Dm me on my Instagram.
Life a year after writing a bookWith undertaking something big as a marathon, as with a book it really does help you grow even more as a person. I’ve gained so much insight into myself and personal development which I think has gone hand in hand after the book having the biggest month in my business ever, having more impact and influence working with more clients around the world and now being at this point in my journey coming up to three years full time and almost four thereabouts since I started my Instagram and then life coaching, about to embark on running my first retreat in Bali 2024 in August which was almost sold out in 48 hours with the final spot going shortly afterwards. I am so excited and having been working away in the background preparing for the magic that it is going to be and already is. There also some other incredibly exciting things that I can’t quite speak about just yet but each year keeps getting bigger and better in business and that is going to continue to the end of this year in 2024 and in 2025, new offerings that I haven’t ever done before. Is another book on the horizon? I haven’t got any current plans yet but I know more than another one is within me! Watch this space.
Family lineage, Vietnam and The Great UnlearningA hint on the above and what’s to come is in the book I wrote “I’ve travelled the world multiple times, but I still have not been to Vietnam. I will one day and I am sure it will bring up a mixture of emotions.” That it did! A few months after the book I went to Vietnam for the first time before going to Bali and I loved it. It was so special and healing to meet members of my family I hadn’t before or even knew about. I gained so much insight into my maternal side of the family and truly felt the presence of my grandparents whom I never met but they were definitely pleased I went and there with me (I actually had flickering lights at night as a friendly hello!). It would have to be another episode but I went to see their resting places, immerse myself in the temples thy frequented, where my mum grew up and so much more. Honestly that back half of 2023 was an absolute dream, a time I will truly cherish for the rest of my life all kickstarting with The Great Unlearning and coming into the world.
The Great Unlearning reviewsTo this present day, with The Great Unlearning’s first birthday I want to put her in the spotlight and thought I would share some reviews about her!
The Great Unlearning is written by the talented author, Phi Dang who is an incredible woman who will get you results with her outstanding book. As I read Dang’s book, I was engrossed and wanted to know more, whenever a question would pop up in my mind while reading this book Dang eventually answered it, and so it truly is a beautiful reading experience!
One of the greatest strengths of this book is Phi’s ability to connect with readers on a deep level. She writes with genuine passion and authenticity, making the content relatable and engaging. She shares her personal experiences and challenges, demonstrating that she has walked the same path she is guiding us on.
Dang offers some thought-provoking insights into the nature of life and what it truly means to be successful on your terms. This is an inspirational book everyone needs to read.
The Great Unlearning Part 1: SuccessBased on conversations, feedback and reviews I’ve had, some pivotal chapters people really resonated with was timelines and money, money, money in the first part of The Great Unlearning on success. I think at it’s core having people really take a moment to check in with themselves, what does success truly mean to you? People jump to answers like money, fame and all of that but is it really what your soul wants and desires? It may be, it may be not, the core question being what does your soul truly want and desire, what’s the energy, intention and reasoning behind it, is it you or is the influenced learnings?
The Great Unlearning Part 2: SelfPart 2 on the self has been relatable for many whether it’s your own journey in self love and self worth based on your identity or body. Talking about pleasure has people going and I think is important to highlight too especially for women as it’s become less of an importance when pleasure is. It challenges societal norms that have historically repressed female sensuality and speaks to women feeling empowered in their own body and experiences. To hear the chapter on self-made which speaks to my journey of becoming a life coach inspiring others makes my heart so warm and I really do encourage you to go for it because you never really do know nor do you want to regret. I hope I can show you what is possible in life when you do follow your heart and soul, whilst being true and authentic to who you are.
The Great Unlearning Part 3: Inner BeingPart 3 inner being, the chapter ‘happiness is everything’ formed the foundation of a talk I was invited to give on toxic vs genuine positivity. Grief and heartbreak is a chapter dear to my heart too. Our inner being forms the foundation of how we feel and experience life itself from our thoughts and feelings, the importance of talking about mental health too (knowing you are not alone, we all have a mental health and the journey navigating it too). I think how it’s also imperative to speak about the unspoken things and bring out this aspect of self, psyche, the shadow (again very much in line with one of my main human design energies known as the game player in relation to taking rises and the leaps of faith).
The Great Unlearning Part 4: RelationshipsPart 4 relationships, the feedback I’ve received is how relatable the chapters are to dating, being in a relationship and breaking up. Hearing how many women could relate to really loving someone but knowing in their soul that they are no longer growing together and even still the heartbreak, sadness and mourning that accompanies that as I shared of my own experience in the chapter ‘Love Story.’ Also being open as to my family history and journey as an Australian Asian woman. So many have related to that without having the same background which shows how many universal experiences where we think it’s only us or we are alone, the truth is many of us do share core experiences such as no family is perfect yet the societal pressure to appear to be and in alignment with everyone else and their expectations.
The Great Unlearning Part 5: SpiritualityPart 5, on spirituality has inspired so many conversations of more women coming out of the ‘spiritual closet’ as I did and embracing, owning their spirituality. Especially those like myself who grew up religious and embracing more of a personal philosophy, of oneness in relation to source and the universe as well as ‘Gotta see it to believe it’ on the signs the Universe orchestrates and gives us alongside our loved ones that have passed away, the comfort that they truly are always with us.
Becoming an author, does it change your life?So how does your life change writing a book, having a published booked and being an author? It’s so soul fulfilling because making a difference in someone’s life alongside coaching and human design is such a huge privilege. Knowing you inspired someone to think differently or to go after their dreams! The feedback from the book I’ve received is in alignment with human design: reassuring and validating that someone knows they aren’t the only one who feels a certain way about something. It’s a permission slip to truly be yourself. Even being triggered by the book to really stop, pause, reflect and question your life is an honour. I’ve had people share that it made them realise to truly do what they want in life or start carving a path in honour to do so.
On a personal level it really embodies one of my key main life energies in human design: struggle. Stories of my struggle have turned into strengths, grief into gold, not only for me anymore but for anyone reading The Great Unlearning. It’s truly the book I wish I had earlier in my life!
Pride, achievement and alignmentI’ve met special souls through my book whether it be them taking a moment to message me about the book on Instagram, to having readers become clients off the back of being inspired and feeling the intuitive nudge to do so. You also have really great conversations with people when sharing the concept for the book because people are always so intrigued, The Great Unlearning, can you dive deeper into that? Ultimately it’s also a sense of pride and great achievement not only for me but I know my lineage, ancestry and family lines especially my mum. I think there’s that traditional stereotype being a woman to be quiet, being asian to keep things to yourself and then there’s me unlearning that and having a strong, bold, fierce voice out in the world to share my thoughts and stories with the world because that very process, journey and opportunity to is groundbreaking and shattering the condition learnings I speak about throughout the book!
In moments where I do feel vulnerable because I share my own personal experiences I always bring myself back to what I previously shared, the intention behind the book because The Great Unlearning isn’t about me. It’s about you. Your Great Unlearning.
That feels like a beautiful and aligned ending for this episode. Thank you so much for listening and supporting me, with even more love and gratitude if you’ve read the book, purchased a copy or shared with somebody or written a review it truly means the world to me and makes a huge difference, so thank you. I swear as I’ve finished this episode its 23 minutes (in alignment with the book’s launch date! Full circle!). Until next time, love and positivity.
All about experiencing your Uranus Opposition from a human design lens. Your Uranus Opposition is from your late 30’s into your 40’s. This episode explains what your Uranus Opposition means for you including a breakdown of Uranus Opposition themes, archetypes and explanations. It will provide a guide on what to expect from your Uranus Opposition and how to harness this astrological energetic transit for your personal growth and development.
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- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Uranus Opposition Human Design Reading/Uranus Opposition Human Design Blueprint here.
- Book a Foundational Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Uranus Opposition ContextHello beautiful soul,
We all know about Saturn Return, one of if not the universal pivotal transit that everyone goes through between the ages of 27-31. I have previously done a dedicated podcast episode (34) and today this episode is all about your Uranus Opposition which isn’t as mainstream as knowing about your Saturn Return has become. To simplify Saturn Return late 20’s to 30s, your Uranus Opposition is late 30’s to 40. After that comes your Chiron Return your late 40’s to entering your 50’s. They are the big 3 transits that everyone will experience in their life at the same time.
Comparing your Saturn Return to your Uranus OppositionAs with all energetic transits and changes in your life, human design can help you uncover and understand your Uranus Opposition. Your Saturn return is your coming of age, the spiritual equivalent of turning 21, it has the energy of taking a leap of faith. It is a period of your life where you mature, taking on responsibilities, being disciplined in alignment with them and making significant life decisions that shape your future. It’s about committing to a path and building a solid foundation as more of a conscious being.
In contrast, your Uranus Opposition can be likened to your spiritual equivalent of a ‘mid life crisis.’ It often happens around your 40’s and from my experience I’ve seen people as early as from their mid 30’s beginning to feel the energies of their Uranus Opposition transit. It’s when you really start to feel into what is the meaning and purpose of your life. If you’ve had a deeper human design reading with me, this is where it really shifts from where you came from to where you are going, your destiny.
What is your Uranus Opposition Human DesignYour Uranus Opposition transit is about breaking free from established patterns and embracing change and innovation. It’s less about building and more about exploring and transforming. It can symbolise a period of significant upheaval and transformation, marked by a journey and quest for authenticity and freedom. It challenges you to break away from the familiar and embrace new and unconventional paths, often leading to profound personal growth and a redefined sense of self.
Hence, your Uranus Opposition can be a shocking time in your life, Uranus itself is a planet known for change – extremes, breakdowns, breakthroughs. It’s known as the ‘awakener’ for bringing sudden shocks and changes. In fact Uranus’ energy is very electric in nature. It brings a jolt when you’re in this stage of life where you don’t feel very old but you’re not young either, you’re in between. It can feel awkward and clunky. You had all these hopes, dreams and desires in your 20’s, how has that eventuated?
Astrologically speaking when Uranus is in opposition, it’s in the exact opposite placement of where it was when you were born. It marks a turning point in your life supposedly ‘the half way point.’ It can be confronting. It can be challenging. It can be chaotic.
From my own experience of coaching clients during a Uranus Opposition and through Uranus Opposition Human Design Readings, it can be challenging yet highly liberating. What I often witness and guide clients through is this deep pull, nudge and niggle to change careers and navigate changing dynamics within relationships.
Uranus Opposition Key Theme: Sudden ChangeLet’s dive deeper into the key themes of your Uranus Opposition:
During your Uranus opposition, many people experience significant upheavals that shake the foundations of their lives. These foundations set from your Saturn Return in your 30’s. These changes can manifest in various areas, such as career, relationships, personal identity, or lifestyle. For instance, someone might find themselves unexpectedly losing a long-held job, not due to their performance, but because of organisational restructuring or downsizing. This forced change can be both a source of stress and an opportunity for reevaluation.
Similarly, relationships that have been stable for years might face sudden crises, prompting a reexamination of your compatibility and shared goals. These shifts can be incredibly disorienting, especially when they come out of nowhere and disrupt the sense of stability and security that has been built over years. Maybe you have been with someone your whole life and suddenly feel so different and you are growing apart. Maybe your kids have grown up and your relationship with your partner is changing, you realise that maybe what’s been keeping you together is your kids.
Moreover, sudden changes during this period often push people to question their personal identities. When the role you have comfortably inhabited—such as being a partner to someone, parent, or professional—are disrupted, you can become compelled to confront the essence of who you are beyond these labels. This can lead to an identity crisis, as you feel the need to redefine who you are outside of these traditional roles and labels. Lifestyle changes, such as moving to a new city, starting a new career, or adopting a radically different way of living, are also common. These changes, while initially unsettling, often pave the way for personal growth and a deeper understanding of one’s true desires and aspirations.
Uranus Opposition Key Theme: RebellionA hallmark of your Uranus opposition is a powerful urge to rebel against constraints and societal expectations. This is a time when you feel a pressing need to assert your independence and authentic identity. You may realise that your life has been overly influenced by external factors such as work, familial obligations, or societal norms, leading to a sense of entrapment.
These norms from a career standpoint: having an established career, advancing, perhaps holding leadership positions and a sense of stability.
From a family standpoint: if not being married already, a deeper pressure to do so, perhaps being a parent of children whom may be school aged and home ownership. I’ve also had clients at this point realise they don’t want to have children and so they are finding confidence in their decision with family and societal pressures especially on women to be mothers. The clients I’ve had who decided children weren’t for them often made a lot of sense in the context of their life having spent it taking care of others such as family members and karmically this lifetime is for them because maybe in previous lives they have been self sacrificing, even withstandingly it’s not selfish to not want children. It’s a personal decision.
Familial obligation can come into play maybe you have sick or unwell parents that need taking care of and support which can feel heavy and burdensome. Culturally speaking because well it’s your parents and it’s a lot to take on the role of a caretaker.
With regards to lifestyle, the expectation and pressure of being financial responsible: saving from retirement, managing investments and expenses like your child’s education. A greater focus on health as you head into your 40’s. In terms of personal development, it’s common to see greater self reflection, a desire to deepen your existing skillset and mastery as well as a call to service: helping people and the community around.
External and internal rebellion during your Uranus OppositionAs a result, during your Uranus Opposition you might take dramatic steps to break free from these constraints. For instance, if you have long been identified with your high-powered career, you may decide to quit and pursue a more fulfilling but less conventional path, such as starting your own business or engaging in creative pursuits.
This rebellion is not just about external changes but also about internal liberation. You often begin to question the values and beliefs that have governed your life thus far. You might reject long-held traditions and norms in favour of developing your own unique perspectives and ways of living. This period of rebellion can be turbulent, as it often involves challenging relationships and situations that no longer align with your evolving sense of self and values. However, it is also a crucial phase of personal development, as it allows you to unlearn and strip away inauthentic layers and embrace a life that truly resonates with your inner being, your heart, your soul.
Uranus Opposition Key Theme: Self DiscoveryYour Uranus opposition is a profound period of self-discovery, prompting deep introspection and a reevaluation of your life direction and values. As you navigate through the upheavals and rebellions characteristic of this transit, you are often driven to look inward and reflect on your past choices and future aspirations. This introspection can reveal hidden desires, talents, and passions that you had suppressed or ignored in favour of more conventional or socially acceptable paths. It is not uncommon for you to start exploring new hobbies, interests, or spiritual practices that you feel drawn to during this time.
This process of self-discovery is both challenging and enlightening. As you unlearn and peel back the layers of societal conditioning and external expectations, you often encounter aspects of yourself that you had not previously recognised or acknowledged. It can be so interesting doing human design readings particularly where people may by shocked or confused by an aspect of their design. What I often see is going deeper, people realise it is them, the core of whom they are but they don’t resonate initially because it has been repressed or pushed down by whom they think they should be and ought to be. Moreover if you don’t find and work towards spiritual fulfilment and filling up the cup of your soul you may find your life feeling empty and devoid. Your life may look good on a surface level say for example top of your career with lots of money but inside, you feel for what, miserable, that something is missing… soul fulfilment.
Your Uranus Opposition can be a time of healing, as you come to terms with past traumas or unresolved issues that have influenced your behavior and decisions. The insights gained during this period of introspection can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life path, as you align your actions and choices with your true self rather than with external pressures.
Uranus Opposition Key Theme: InnovationUranus opposition brings with it a surge in creativity and the pursuit of new and unconventional paths. This is a time when you feel inspired to think outside the box and explore innovative solutions to the challenges you face. You may discover new talents or rekindle old passions that you had set aside in the pursuit of more practical or traditional goals. This creative energy can manifest in various forms, such as starting a new business, engaging in artistic endeavours, or an interest in new technologies. Your willingness to embrace change and think differently often leads to breakthroughs that were previously unimaginable.
With innovation is often a desire to make a meaningful impact on the world. You are often driven by a sense of purpose and a desire to contribute something unique and valuable to society. This can lead to the development of new ideas and projects that challenge the status quo and offer fresh perspectives on longstanding issues. Whether it’s through social activism, entrepreneurial ventures, or artistic expression, you are motivated to push boundaries and create positive change. This period of heightened creativity and innovation can be incredibly rewarding, as it allows you to fully express your true self and leave a lasting legacy.
Uranus Opposition Archetype: RebelBreaking away from the old and embracing the new. Challenging the status quo and seeking freedom. Think of the character of an adventurer: setting off on a journey, both literal and metaphorical, to discover new aspects of themselves and the world.
Uranus Opposition Archetype: InnovatorEmbracing creativity and originality. Pioneering new ideas and ways of living as a visionary. Being a risk taker and change agent: leaving what’s known to do something different, a groundbreaking business idea or pursue a passion project.
Uranus Opposition Archetype: CreativeA quest for deeper meaning and understanding of life beyond the superficial and surface level. Spiritual and personal growth becomes a priority. You might find yourself questioning the purpose of your existence, exploring various philosophies, religions, or spiritual practices and tools such as human design! The Seeker is driven by a desire to connect with something greater than yourself and to find a sense of inner peace and fulfillment.
Uranus Opposition Life Path StorylineIf you were to look at your Uranus Opposition has a storyline in life, you may find the following plot points:
Discontentment: The main character starts feeling restless and dissatisfied with their current life.
Catalyst for Change: An event or realisation triggers the desire for change (e.g., a major work project fails, or a relationship ends).
Rebellion: The protagonist takes bold steps to break free from their current situation. This might involve leaving a job, ending a relationship, or making drastic lifestyle changes.
Exploration: They embark on a journey of self-discovery, exploring new interests, meeting new people, and experimenting with new ways of living.
Crisis and Reflection: Challenges and crises force the main character to confront their fears and insecurities. They reflect on their past choices and future direction.
Transformation: Through this period of upheaval, the main character gains a deeper understanding of themselves. They embrace a new path that is more aligned with their true self.
Getting help during your Uranus OppositionIf you are going through your Uranus Opposition or thereabouts so you would be from your mid 30’s up until 44ish or know someone who is such as a loved one, family member or friend – I invite you to consider a Uranus Opposition Human Design reading with me or getting a Uranus Opposition Human Design Blueprint done.
Especially if you’ve made it all the way to the end of this episode, enjoyed it, feel curious, the pull, the nudge… A reading and human design blueprint will help you make sense of your confusion and give you clarity on the changes and transformation taking place during your Uranus Opposition.
It will also help you understand the life themes and changes that are being brought to the forefront of your reality and how to navigate them. Moreover it provides a practical guide as to how to get into alignment with your soul and embody your life purpose and path.
Finally, it gives you the specific timing of your Uranus Opposition so you can prepare and plan life accordingly. Supported by 1:1 coaching, I am here to help support and guide in real time as these changes aren’t easy!
Until next time. Love and Positivity,
Perfectionism often holds us back from reaching our full potential, paralysing us with the fear of making mistakes. But what if we shifted our focus from achieving perfection to striving for precision? What if we embraced wobble moments, and in fact leaned into the wobble? That there is so much strength embedded in imperfection.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Inspired by wobbling, the wobble momentsHello beautiful soul, how is your heart and soul today? Earlier this week I wrote a piece on wobbling that’s on my Instagram: “It’s okay, even though it doesn’t seem or appear to be. It’s okay to wobble, to fall, to stumble, to trip. It happens when you’re doing your best outside your comfort zone. It happens when you are pushing beyond the edges of your fears to expand. This is the space, the void, where growth truly occurs, where you discover strengths you never knew you had. It’s in these moments of uncertainty, instability and challenge that you build resilience and character. Every step taken beyond your familiar is a stride towards a more courageous, confident, and capable version of yourself. Embracing discomfort is not easy, but you’re doing it beautiful soul because you’re unlocking your full potential and that’s a beautiful, brave thing. Keep going.”
Wobbling and life coachingThis was inspired by my coaching clients as I have the privilege of holding space, guiding and supporting them. Seeing wobbles in different contexts and areas of life. Please note I share these examples with strict anonymity and confidentiality. Names, situations have been tweaked and changed so I can share with you examples of life coaching and the power of it.
Emily has been feeling stuck in her job for years, dreaming of pursuing her passion for photography full-time. However, the idea of leaving the stability of her job is daunting, and she’s uncertain about whether she can make it as a professional photographer. During coaching sessions, Emily experiences moments of doubt and fear, wondering if she’s making the right decision. Through coaching and working together, Emily realises that her fear is a sign that she’s stepping outside of her comfort zone and pursuing her dreams. The fear is a wobble but her strength is aligning in her purpose, her passion.
Ashley, a client struggling with communication issues in his relationship, experiences a wobble when he and his partner have a disagreement. Feeling frustrated and unsure of how to move forward, that’s when Ashley decided to do life coaching with me. In our conversations we uncover underlying patterns and beliefs that contribute to his communication challenges. The wobbles manifest as unconsciously picking fights or self sabotaging based self worth. As Ashley gains insight into his own triggers and behaviours, he begins to see his wobble as an opportunity to deepen his connection with his partner. To do the work first within himself to improve the relationship and to open up his heart and be more vulnerable about past experiences that have led to these triggers and behaviours.
How to cope with wobbling through life coachingThese are only just two examples! If you’re feeling the pull and resonating with what I’m sharing, I have 1:1 coaching spots open and invite you to get in touch so I can set up a free call to chat with you to see if we aligned and a fit for working together to help you be happier, soul satisfied, self fulfilled, abundant, magnetic, radiant, loving and beyond.
Be willing to wobbleToday’s episode is fuelled by the wobble! Wobbling is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of growth in motion. Think about it like this: when we’re learning to ride a bike, we don’t just jump on and magically ride perfectly from the get-go. No, we wobble, we fall, and we get back up again. Each wobble teaches us something new—how to balance, how to steer, how to keep moving forward. In life, it’s the same. Every stumble, every setback, is an opportunity to learn, adapt, and grow stronger.
The core essence and message of this episode is to be willing to wobble. It’s in the wobble we realise our strength. There is strength in imperfection. Wobbling is truly a sign of giving something a go. It’s aligned with beginner’s mindset. Both concepts revolve around the willingness to try, to stumble, and to learn from every experience, regardless of the outcome.
Beginners mindset and wobblingAt the heart of a beginner’s mindset lies a sense of openness and curiosity—an eagerness to explore new possibilities without preconceived notions or judgments. Similarly, embracing wobbling requires a similar attitude of humility and willingness to embrace uncertainty. When we approach challenges with a beginner’s mindset, we acknowledge that we’re not expected to have all the answers or to perform flawlessly from the start. Instead, we’re open to the process of learning, experimenting, and growing, one wobble at a time.
Trying is the catalyst that propels us forward on our journey of growth. It’s the willingness to take that first step, even if it means risking failure or facing discomfort. When we try, we push past our comfort zones and expand our boundaries, paving the way for new opportunities and discoveries. Every attempt, no matter how small or imperfect, contributes to our learning and development, building momentum towards our goals.
Precision over perfectionismI recently came across an article by Michelle Finerty who combines her two loves of yoga and writing together. That itself I love because she is an example, an expander, of one of many people who combine their passions to find their own unique path in life. The article really spoke to me and I wanted to share two things I took out of it.
“When we allow perfection to take center stage, we set the groundwork for suffering instead of soaring.” Perfectionism is full of judgement, it stifles instead of allowing growth and expansion.
“Precision, not perfection is the goal.” Oooof. That shift from perfection to precision. This was in the context of yoga however I think it can apply to many things in life. It’s about the energy in which you approach something such as a goal or exercise. Perfection is static, there’s only one way to go about something, it’s stifling and restrictive with one ideal result in mind. There’s no room for anything but that, no spaciousness, no graciousness. Precision is about the process and progress. It’s about how are you going to get there, and yes, you can uphold high standards for yourself but it’s not impossible, weight crushing, soul stamping perfection. Precision is the how. Perfectionism is the outcome. Ponder upon this, “nature is precise, not perfect; otherwise there would be no evolution.”
Precision involves a focus on accuracy, clear communication, and thoughtful action, whereas perfection often entails an unrealistic and unattainable standard. When you strive for precision, you set achievable benchmarks and prioritise progress over flawlessness. This shift in mindset can alleviate the stress and pressure associated with perfectionism, fostering a healthier, more productive approach to personal development and goal attainment.
A practical example of precision over perfectionismWhat comes to mind from my own experience is that of learning to surf. It’s so much fun, it’s challenging and there’s many elements to consider that factor in: the waves themselves, the weather, your body, internal strength, the surfboard you choose and so fourth. When you’re first learning you’re keen and eager to stand up for the first time. If you obsess over every detail such as the exact placement of your feet to the angle of your body, you’ll be in your mind and not actually in the experience of surging.
It’s a humbling experience and the precision mindset is that of practicality. You have to concentrate on mastering the fundamental steps first, such as properly positioning yourself on the board, understanding the timing of the waves, and maintaining a balanced crouch before standing. Every time you practice and try, you have to make small, deliberate adjustments to improve your technique gradually. As I found you celebrate first being able to stay on the board, then even kneeling, then standing up and falling and then finally standing up, staying on and riding the wave. In that very process you inevitable wobble and fall over and over again!
Precision over perfectionism in yogaImagine you’re in a yoga class, practicing the Downward Dog pose. A perfectionist might strive to have every angle and line of their body match a textbook image of the pose or replicating the instructor, obsessing over getting your heels to touch the ground and your back perfectly straight, often leading to frustration and discomfort when your body doesn’t comply. The perfectionist focus on achieving an idealised version of the pose can cause tension and detract from the benefits of the practice.
In contrast, someone focusing on precision approaches Downward Dog with a different mindset. You pay attention to key elements that matter most for your body’s alignment and health—like ensuring your hands are spread wide, your weight is evenly distributed, and you’re lengthening their spine. You might not have their heels touching the ground or their back perfectly straight, but you’re engaging the muscles correctly and reaping the benefits of the pose. This precise approach acknowledges and respects your current physical state, promoting progress without the unrealistic expectation of perfection.
That’s why lately I’m finding in many classes I go to, the best teachers advise you to tune into your body, to allow it to go as far as it can in that very class instead of being technically perfect and hurting your body by forcing and contorting it.
Mental and spiritual perfectionismTake this to your spiritual growth, you can be so called perfect doing a morning routine consisting of a certain set of steps everyday yet not feeling better because again you just want to be perfect and get it done instead of actually being in the experience okay I am meditating now. It’s not about having no thoughts and that perfectionism. The precision in meditation is observing my thoughts with curiosity. If you just do the thing to get to the end goal instead of noticing the shifts, how you are responding, what is working, what is not working. What one person’s morning routine may work for them but even if you replicated it perfectly, it doesn’t mean it will work for you. Everyone’s needs are different. Everyone feels uniquely within themselves.
The beauty of precisionPrecision encourages a mindset of continuous improvement. Instead of being paralysed by the fear of making mistakes, you can embrace a growth-oriented perspective. Fumbles, falls, stumbling, wobbles, mistakes, errors are opportunities for improvement and refinement. This approach aligns with the concept of “progress over perfection,” where the emphasis is placed on incremental advancements rather than an unattainable ideal. By honing in on specific, measurable aspects of what you are trying to achieve, you can make tangible improvements that accumulate over time, leading to significant growth and development.
Wobbling in life—experiencing moments of instability, uncertainty, or even failure—is crucial for personal growth, resilience, and adaptability.
Physical wobbling strengthens youIn physical exercises, wobbling is a great thing because it challenges and strengthens muscles by engaging stabiliser muscles and improving balance and coordination. When we wobble during exercises like squats, lunges, or yoga poses, our muscles are forced to work harder to maintain stability, leading to increased strength and endurance over time.
Wobbling also activates smaller, often unused, overlooked or neglected muscles that are crucial for joint stability and overall functional movement. By challenging these muscles through wobbling, we improve our overall body awareness and strength too.
Moreover, wobbling encourages us to focus on proper form and technique, which are essential for preventing injuries and maximising the effectiveness of our workouts. Precision over perfection!
When we wobble, it’s a signal that our body is out of alignment or that we’re compensating for weaknesses in certain muscle groups. By paying attention to these cues and making necessary adjustments, we can ensure that we’re working the right muscles and reducing the risk of injury.
Furthermore, wobbling adds an element of variability and progression to our workouts. As we become stronger and more proficient in exercises, we can increase the intensity by introducing instability tools like balance boards, stability balls, or BOSU balls. These tools challenge our muscles in new ways, promoting continued growth and improvement.
Personal development and wobblingOutside of the physical, navigating life’s wobbles builds mental and emotional strength.
Firstly, wobbling fosters resilience. When we face setbacks or unexpected challenges, we’re forced to adapt and find ways to regain our footing. Each wobble presents an opportunity to learn, grow, and develop new coping mechanisms. Over time, these experiences build resilience, enabling us to bounce back stronger from adversity.
Secondly, wobbling encourages innovation and creativity. Embracing uncertainty opens us up to new possibilities and perspectives. It pushes us out of our comfort zones and encourages us to explore alternative solutions and approaches. Some of the greatest breakthroughs and innovations stem from navigating through moments of uncertainty and ambiguity.
Thirdly, wobbling cultivates humility and empathy. When we wobble, we’re reminded of our humanity, it humbles and dissolves the ego that wants perfection instantly. This humility allows us to connect more deeply with others, as we recognise that everyone faces their own struggles and challenges. Everyone has their own wobbles. It fosters empathy and understanding, strengthening our relationships and our sense of community.
Moreover, wobbling fuels personal growth and self-discovery. Each wobble presents an opportunity for reflection and introspection. By examining our reactions and responses to challenges, we gain valuable insights into our strengths, weaknesses, and values. This self-awareness enables us to make informed decisions and pursue paths that align with our authentic selves.
In essence, wobbling is not just an inevitable part of life; it’s a necessary catalyst for growth, resilience, and self-discovery. By embracing life’s wobbles with courage and openness, we can navigate through uncertainty with grace and emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient individuals. The way to go about this through the mindset and energetic shift of precision over perfectionism.
Thank you for tuning in beautiful soul, until next time, love and positivity.
This episode is a deep dive on ageing. It will provide you with powerful perspective shifts on what it means to age and get older. How to embrace ageing and why it is such a gift to do so. Expect a thought provoking podcast that will make you think.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Intuitive message on ageingHi Beautiful Souls, how is your heart and soul today? I’ve been doing some wonderful 1:1 coaching calls and human design readings and a theme that has come through strongly of lately is ageing. Now ageing isn’t unique to some people, it’s a universal passage and journey that we will all experience.
It inspired a recent Instagram post I wrote:
“And suddenly you’re older. Fear hits you like a truck as does the anxiety and panic. Here’s the the thing, what a privilege it is to age. You are also wiser. You are also stronger. You are also more resilient. Age has made you more agile and adaptable. You’ll never be as young as you are right now. Your spirit is eternal. Your spirit is endless. The sum of who you are in this moment is every age that you’ve been. Think of who you’ve been before, who you are now and who you are becoming. That is oh so very beautiful.”
Phi Dang
Astrological energetic transits ageingI’ve been doing Saturn Return readings for those currently in the lead up to and their transit 27-30 which is the spiritual equivalent of turning 21, your coming of age. Many of which this week happened to be karmic in nature.
I also did a reading for a projector who’s in her 30’s and trying to understand the purpose of why she went through what she did and the current phase after her life (because to have your Saturn Return is one thing, Saturn is about discipline after all so it’s about maintaining the lessons and growth from your Saturn Return) until you hit your 40’s whereby it’s all about your Uranus Opposition, the spiritual mid life point or for some mid life crisis vibes.
I’ve also been coaching clients this week particularly aged 20-24 and talking about how each year of your 20’s is so different.
At any given point in time there’s astrological transits to help you expand and grow more, to become more aligned with yourself – that’s an episode for another day but essentially if you’re feeling a curiosity around how you’re feeling in relation to a certain age, chances are you’re in a transit. You can find out more in 1:1 coaching or a human design reading with me!
Oracle card ageingI also pulled a collective oracle card for anyone listening to this podcast and no surprises the ‘aging’ one came out with this mantra: I am one with unlimited love, beyond all seeming restrictions of age. I am filled with joy, energy and beauty – a vessel for the divine.
Redefining ageingSociety often portrays aging, especially for women, as something to be feared or avoided. But aging is a natural, inevitable part of life that brings wisdom, experience, and new opportunities.
“It is commonly thought that time is the particular enemy of women. Because we supposedly have so much to lose: our ‘looks’, our fertility, our cultural capital… But there are other ways of looking at it. That women have timepieces built into their bodies – ‘primarily biological clocks’ and the menopause – signs that must eventually be heeded, signs that are, finally, impossible to ignore, seems to me as much a gift as a curse…It strikes me that one consequence of this bodily awareness of time is that adulthood – with all its complex responsibilities and demands – often seems to come as less of a surprise to women than it does to men (there’s a reason our folk tales are full of ‘wise old women’).”
Dianne Keaton
Further to that, as a life coach I will say that our thoughts create our reality through what we believe and Marilyn Ferguson rightly says
“Of all the self-fulfilling prophecies in our culture the assumption that aging means decline and poor health is probably the deadliest.”
Marilyn Ferguson
Growing up and being in a Western Culture, it’s definitely more youth-orientated where youth, beauty and vitality are the focuses. Aging is seen as a decline in desirability and relevance. This is compounded by a mammoth anti-aging industry.
Though things are changing, and I share the examples of women in the media. JLo is worshipped for her age defying appearance as is Anne Hathaway who seems to be “ageing backwards.”
Celebrity culture on ageingThough things are changing, and I share the examples of women in the media. JLo is worshipped for her age defying appearance as is Anne Hathaway who seems to be “ageing backwards.”
Pamela Anderson was the epitome of bombshell with her surgically enhanced body and heavy make up in her younger years and as of late has been deemed “unrecognisable,” going make up free. She’s come out saying that “anti-ageing” is a lie,” that “we’re getting older no matter what,” and that she calls it ‘life-ing, not aging.”
She penned the following poem on her Instagram “Life humbles you. As you grow old…you stop chasing the big things and start valuing the little things…alone time, enough sleep, a good diet, long walks, and quality time with loved ones,” she wrote in the caption. “Simplicity becomes the ultimate goal…
With this all threads through gender and more culture; the sensuality, sexuality of being a woman. The erotic gaze, being desired or feeling liberated from desire. The framing that men have a body where as women are a body.
Ultimately it boils down to a pro-aging revolution, whether you embrace grey hairs or cover them up, go make up-free or not, it’s about embracing the life you’ve lived so far and who you are at every age.
Different cultures on ageingWith regards to other cultures; in different cultures including Asian, South Asian and African there is respect for elders and in particular women are the matriarchs of the family, making key decisions and guiding younger generations. Getting older is seen as something to look forward to.
Within indigenous cultures, elders are seen as wisdom keepers and spiritual guides who play a crucial role in preserving and passing down traditions, stories, and cultural knowledge.
With age, yes we lose certain things but we also gain so much…
With ageing comes experienceOne of the greatest gifts of aging are the experiences we accumulate which hopefully is turned into wisdom.
“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”
Abraham Lincoln
It’s the core reason why many of us may wish to be younger but only if we can have with us the insights we’ve accumulated.
These experiences broaden how we see the world and give us different perspectives on how to navigate life, what matters and what we give meaning to.
With what we’ve gained we can also share with others, taking on a mentorship or teacher role whether formally or not.
At 18, there would be so much you would share with your 13 year old self. In your 20’s there’s so much you would share with the version of you navigating high school. What you’d tell yourself in your early 20’s by the time you reach the end of it. What you know at 30 vs 40 vs 50 vs 60 vs 70 and so fourth. Huge shifts. Different remarks.
Whilst time isn’t a guarantee, often in life it’s realising it’s never too late so long as you are breathing and alive, anything is possible!
In my book, The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life, I write:
Maybe you’re worried about going back to university and starting a new course aged twenty-nine that takes three years. By the time you finish, you’ll be thirty-two. Whether or not you do the course, in three years, you’ll still be thirty-two. You’re nervous about never meeting ‘the one’ and you meet them aged thirty-seven. Are you upset you’re aged thirty-seven or are you happily in love aged thirty- seven? The only thing that’s keeping you behind is being fixed on a specific timeline. You can’t be falling behind because who set the pace and tone anyway? You’re allowed to move at your own pace. You’re allowed to take your time. Life isn’t linear but an open and organic canvas.
Phi Dang
“Aging is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.”
Betty Friedan
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All in all don’t forget you don’t lose every age you’ve been as you get older, you accumulate it. You are all the ages up until this point 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18… you get my point! You are all the ages you’ve ever been.
Let your mind ponder this layered quote from William Wordsworth, “The wiser mind mourns less for what age takes away than what it leaves behind.”
New beginnings and opportunitiesAging is not the end of new opportunities. Many women find new passions, hobbies, and even careers later in life.
In my book, The Great Unlearning, I write:
“Lawyer Amal Clooney (née Alamuddin) met actor George Clooney when she was thirty-five, went on to marry him and have twins. Vera Wang entered the fashion industry at age forty and is now a household name. It’s now even possible for women to have children at the age of fifty with the help of medical advancements. “
Phi Dang
Quotes on the new beginnings and opportunities that ageing brings:
“When you’re young, there’s so much now that you can’t take it in. It’s pouring over you like a waterfall. When you’re older, it’s less intense, but you’re able to reach out and drink it. I love being older.”
Sigourney Weaver
“You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear, as young as your hope, as old as your despair.”
Samuel Ullman
Know that gender plays a huge role in this, men are revered for getting older, becoming “legendary” and “aging like fine wine” yet it doesn’t necessarily translate to women in society fully yet.
“When it comes to aging, we’re held to a different standard than men. Some guy said to me: ‘Don’t you think you’re too old to sing rock n’ roll?’ I said: ‘You’d better check with Mick Jagger.’”
Cher
Self acceptance and growthWhy do people tend to become more self-accepting as they age?
Resilience. As time goes on those moments you thought the world would end or you wouldn’t be okay… you realise well hey I’m still here and I’ve overcome a lot. Not only that you are more true to yourself as opposed to caring so much about what other people think and what’s happening in the mainstream. To be your true and authentic self. You develop the courage to speak your truth and do what you really want to.
“Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been”
David Bowie
“It’s good to have a sense of self and to be able to be your own best friend.”
Pamela Anderson
“I’m tired of trying to be young. I don’t want to be young. I’ve been young.”
Andie MacDowell
What also becomes apparent is that comparison dwindles down as you get older and isn’t as alert in your life as say when you’re a teenager or in your 20’s and 30’s.
“At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.”
Ann Landers
It becomes more natural to be at peace with yourself than not.
“Aging is as natural as a baby’s softness and scent. Aging is human evolution in its pure form.”
Jamie Lee Curtis
“The great thing about getting older is that you become more mellow. Things aren’t as black and white, and you become much more tolerant. You can see the good in things much more easily rather than getting enraged as you used to do when you were young.”
Maeve Binchy
“Growing old with someone else is beautiful, but growing old while being true to yourself is divine.”
Dodinsky
Physically ageingPhysical changes are a natural part of aging, and they tell the story of our lives. It’s time to embrace these changes and see them as badges of honor rather than something to hide.
I’m going to read out some quotes from various women on their perspective of physical changes to the body as life goes on.
An interesting perspective to consider is one from Eleanor Roosevelt,
“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“There is a saying that with age, you look outside what you are inside. If you are someone who never smiles your face gets saggy. If you’re a person who smiles a lot, you will have more smile lines. Your wrinkles reflect the roads you have taken; they form the map of your life. My face reflects the wind and sun and rain and dust from the trips I’ve taken. My face carries all my memories. Why should I erase them?”
Diane Von Fursternberg
“In interviews, the first question I get in America is always: ‘What do you do to stay young?’ I do nothing. I don’t think aging is a problem…Yes, my face has wrinkles. But I don’t find it monstrous. I’m so surprised that the emphasis on aging here is on physical decay when aging brings such incredible freedom. Now what I want most is laughs. I don’t want to hurt anybody by laughing — there is no meanness to it. I just want to laugh.”
Isabella Rosselini
“I don’t relate to a 26-year-old model. I don’t want her life. I don’t want her face. I don’t want her experience. I’ve earned my life. I’ve earned my wrinkles. I have been through so many highs and lows, and there’s a sweetness that starts to emerge from that, from having lived, from being wise, from being humble, from loving and losing and all of this stuff.”
Gwyneth Paltrow
“Listen, the best advice on aging is this: What’s the alternative? The alternative, of course, is death. And that’s a lot of shit to deal with. So I’m happy to deal with menopause. I’ll take it.”
Jodie Foster
The zinger?
When it comes to staying young, a mind-lift beats a face-lift any day.
Marty Buccella
In the end it’s your perspective on the physical changes that occur with age and Eva Longoria reminds us that we do not lose beauty but gain a deeper appreciation for it.
What is ageless about ageing?What is at the core within the fear of ageing comes many universal experiences we have as humans: a fear of change, a fear of losing, a fear of life (mortality itself).
There is no right way to age.
Ultimately what is ageless about ageing, is your spirit and soul. Time passes for the home of our soul, the body, the physical vehicle, however your soul is ageless in the sense that it is timeless, eternal and the core essence of you are whether in this lifetime, a past or a future one. It’s why speak of ‘young’ or ‘old’ souls it’s not about the age but the characteristic of someone’s spirit no matter their physical age.
“I’m happy to report that my inner child is still ageless.
James Broughton
“Growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional.”
Walt Disney
“Aging not just adding years to our total on earth. It is a process of humanisation, of becoming more spiritually and culturally complex. It allows us to get down to business and make life worthwhile. Over the years it is also a blending of valuable experiences.”
Thomas Moore
“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”
Sophia Loren
When I really think about it, I feel the same inside as I did 18 or in my 20’s or now 30. It’s the same consciousness within me with added experience and wisdom. Regardless of the age I am physically. It wasn’t like when I suddenly turned 30 inside completely changed, it’s been shifting and progressing the whole time since birth whether I recognise it or not, whether I am conscious of it or not.
Phi’s personal take on ageing
“Today is the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
Something that has really hit home for me and many clients I share this with is a hypothetical, that this age that you are right now, in 10 years time, if I said to you hey, if you give me everything you own, all your money and possessions, I’ll let you be 10 years younger again … you’d do it in a heartbeat.
We spend the first part of life wishing to be older and with that also comes different sets of life responsibilities and things we become aware of about life – it’s precious, fleeting nature, how quickly it can start to go… that really ultimately all you wish for is to be fully present and savour right here and right now whatever age you are.
When I was younger worrying about my school marks and now I am running my own business which isn’t directly related to my university degree yet I remember being 17 and 18 really stressed and studying to make sure I had high enough marks. I mean I got into law school but then ended up dropping out anyway because it wasn’t really in alignment with what I wanted to do in this life.
Ageing in your twenties into thirtyI’m now 30 and looking back at my 20’s I was stressing how to figure out my life when really life figured it out for me, this grander plan. My purpose came to me when I was 26 unexpectedly, out of no where yet made sense all at the same time. I enjoyed my 20’s because I lived life to the fullest and I’ve always maintained that I want more life but should it be my time I wouldn’t have regrets, that I would be really proud of myself and how I have lived my life and what I’ve achieved so far. I’m living my purpose and making a difference to this world in my own way: helping others be happier and live their best lives. That is a huge privilege. Even when I wasn’t a life coach, I was making the world a better place by doing my best to be kind and care for the important people and causes in my life.
What truly matters as you ageAll of that wouldn’t matter if it weren’t for the important people in my life, my friends and family. They, connection, community is what makes life worth living for in addition to the incredible experiences we get to have whether it be as simple as seeing the vivid colours of sunrise or travelling the world being immersed in different cultures. Consciousness is so special I mean I don’t know if animals register the full sensory experience of witnessing a sunrise – the colours, that sensation of awe, of feeling small, of feeling part of something bigger, of feeling magical and divine because what makes a sunset makes us human too.
I don’t know if anyone ever really does truly have it all and everything figured out no matter what age nor would we want to. That would make life really boring and dull. Life is a dynamic storyline continually changing and shifting to ensure we continue to evolve in this lifetime. It’s not easy, it’s quite the ride. Sometimes sweetness brings the greatest lessons and healing, and other times challenging times are required for that.
“Every year should teach you something valuable; whether you get the lesson is up to you. Every year brings you closer to expressing your whole and healed self.”
Oprah Winfrey
The core of ageing?I think it’s natural to look back when you were younger and think you were happier, but I think it’s different types of happiness and what we really yearn for is the feeling and sense of ease and carefree which is also achievable now whatever age you are.
Ultimately, what if it isn’t time that ages you? Time is constant, time is something we feel and relate to with regards to our awareness. That maybe it could be something else, “aging” you… your thoughts, your emotions and how you feel, that question in itself may it get you to reflect and explore your internal world to answer that question for yourself…
Consider yourself in reference to your biological age, chronological age, spiritual age, emotional age, mental age…
“How old would you be if you didn’t know old you are?”
Ageing is a beautiful journeyAging is a beautiful, complex journey. To end this podcast in the words of Louise Hay;
“Know that you are the perfect age. Each year is special and precious, for you shall only live it once. Be comfortable with growing older.”
Louise Hay
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All about the Sagittarius full moon taking place during Gemini season of May 2024. Found out themes related to the Sagittarius full moon such as abundance, perspective and foundations. This episode includes journaling prompts for the Sagittarius full moon in May 2024 too.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Collective energy leading up to Sagittarius full moonHi beautiful soul, how are you? It’s been a little break since the last podcast episode however this morning I woke up with a strong, clear message to do a podcast on the full moon that is taking place in Sagittarius on the 23rd of May. The portal will be open over the next few days and will likely ease next week.
It’s a beautiful one nicknamed the flower moon. Know that if you’ve been feeling heavier, denser, more tired and emotional that you aren’t alone, the collective energies have been definitely feeling that way so this is a powerful time to reset and let go. It’s also really interesting I feel like there’s been a lot of karmic healing, growth and lessons taking place, it’s something that’s been really strong in the human design readings I’ve done this week and I’m really feeling a call to do more karmic work with clients and within readings which on a side note if you are interested, I do have availability so if you’re feeling the call, I invite you to book into a human design reading with me!
Challenges and blessings of this Sagittarius full moonIt makes a lot of sense given Sagittarius is the sign of the centaur and as many of you will know of which is the symbol for Chiron, the wounded healer. This is amplified given Pluto in the sky whilst the full moon is taking place too (all about the subconscious and spiritual rebirth energy), heightening emotions, relationships and situations at this time.
We are always rewarded for doing the work including delving into our deepest wounds and shadow work, this moon very much has a lucky, auspicious and optimistic energy that accompanies it too for the blessed planets of Venus and Jupiter are meeting in the sign of Taurus which won’t happen again for another 12 years! Something of note should you have Taurus placements within your chart.
In contrast to other episodes I’ve done where I typically share journaling questions all at the end, for this one I’ll be sprinkling them throughout with the themes that arise so it’s one of those podcasts you may like to listen fully once, go back and go through or as you go pause, reflect or journal.
Let’s divine into the Sagittarius full moon taking place on May 23 2024 this year.
Perspective and acceptance What I’m feeling called to share is that this is a full moon of perspective, it’s abundant and invites us to dissolve the seriousness and heaviness into a feeling of lightness. A key to a part of this is acceptance, where are you perhaps resisting accepting something because when we can accept something, whilst we may not like it, it removes a sense of burden. Maybe you’re frustrated at doing things recently and you can’t see any progress yet. This full moon assures you that everything is adding up and culminating into the bigger picture. The littlest of things do count.
Is there anything in your life that calls for acceptance right now? Perhaps something you’ve been resistant, why? Can you find a way to accept what it is?
Reconnect with the new moon in SagittariusThis particular full moon links to the Sagittarius New Moon that took place around the 12th/13th of December last year in 2023. It’s a full circle moment so things you may have manifested then may come to fruition now.
What was going on in your life back then and how have things changed?
What were the little niggly things back then and how have the evolved now? Do they still matter? Did they get resolved?
Letting go to bloomThis full moon is nicknamed as the flower moon based on Native American Tribes in North America based on the arrival of Spring and with that comes plenty of flowers hence also abundance vibes. The old english name for this moon was the “milk moon” because it was a plentiful time where cows would be milked up to three times a day too!
What are you ready to release to make way for more and new beginnings in your life?
What are all the possibilities available to you in your life right now and in the future?
Reflect on areas of your life where you’ve experienced growth. How has this growth contributed to a feeling of abundance?
As the seasons change, nature lets go of the old and embraces new growth. How can you apply this natural cycle to your own life to foster abundance and growth?
It was such a game changer for me learning that I am meant to be what can be labeled as emotional, sensitive or moody (many of which are likely people with an open solar plexus in human design or those who themselves are not comfortable with feeling).
Foundations of the Sagittarius Full MoonThe two star signs associated with this full moon Sagittarius and Gemini (the season of which we are in) can be linked to metaphorical foundations. Sagittarius for exploration and growth (in particular spiritual and philosophically). Gemini for ideas and communication.
What foundations do you have in place for growth and change in your life right now? How have they evolved over time such as your attitude towards adventure and change as well as communication with others? Reflect on the core beliefs and philosophies that guide your life. How have your experiences and knowledge you’ve sought shaped these beliefs? How do they serve as the foundation for your decisions and actions?
It was such a game changer for me learning that I am meant to be what can be labeled as emotional, sensitive or moody (many of which are likely people with an open solar plexus in human design or those who themselves are not comfortable with feeling).
Letting go practice for the flower moonA letting go practice given all the themes discussed in this episode would be to involve flowers! It would be so beautiful to get some flowers, and with each petal imagine putting into it the energy of something you would like to let go of then plucking it off. With the petals you could either have a nice bath with it or place in a bowl of water under the full moon (and pour into the garden the next day).
Play with the flower moonThe final piece to this all is Sagittarius is know to be fun and playful so this episode concludes on a question? How can you make space to bring more joy into your life right now?
Sagittarians love to travel to expand their horizons too so it might be fun to also think about upcoming travel you have or plan a trip (even if you don’t follow through allow yourself to dream and be in the energy of it!).
Loved speaking to you about the Sagittarius full moon beautiful soul. Should you feel a calling to change, shift and pivot in your life or need support and guidance, I got you. I have spaces available in 1:1 coaching and human design readings so get in touch if you’re feeling the pull. Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity.
Let’s delve into the layered intricate world of your emotions. In this episode, we’re exploring a fundamental truth: Your feelings are always valid. In a world that often dismisses or invalidates emotions, this episode serves as a reminder that what you experience holds weight and significance. We’ll navigate the nuances of your feelings are always valid and go deeper together.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Feelings and emotions: astrology and human designThis episode is all about the feels… and you know I feel deeply with all the Scorpio in my chart (a water sign) and being an emotional authority in human design, I’m designed to deeply feel (in fact 50% of the world are emotional authorities too!).
It was such a game changer for me learning that I am meant to be what can be labeled as emotional, sensitive or moody (many of which are likely people with an open solar plexus in human design or those who themselves are not comfortable with feeling).
Cultural conditioning and emotionsGrowing up with an Asian heritage as Vietnamese and Chinese, I was conditioned to keep my feelings to myself. Emotions were reinforced as private matters, to be dealt with internally rather than expressed outwardly. This cultural upbringing instills a sense of stoicism and self-reliance, where showing vulnerability was equated with weakness. It was all about saving face, not rocking the boat, maintaining harmony even at the expense of our own emotional well-being.
Societal conditioning, women and emotionsIt’s not just cultural conditioning either it’s also societal, the stigma surrounding women and emotions often stems from outdated societal beliefs and gender stereotypes. Women have historically been portrayed as overly emotional or irrational, undermining women’s credibility and perpetuating harmful gender norms. It’s judged upon and easily dismissed being attributed to hormonal fluctuations or back to the classic irrational it doesn’t make sense (hello emotions aren’t rational!).
It’s hard to get it right because if you don’t display your emotions as a woman particularly warmth, you may be labelled as cold, unfeeling or lacking femininity. This double bind creates a challenging dynamic for women, as we feel pressure to navigate a narrow range of acceptable emotional expression.
The reality is that we we live a world that sometimes dismisses or invalidates our feelings. However I truly believe this is getting better especially post pandemic with the rising awareness, interest and social recognition on the importance of mental health now more than ever. As a coach one are in particular I work on a lot with clients is to support and guide my clients into feeling their feelings. Whilst you don’t have to understand them to feel them, a lot of clients feel better when there can be an understanding of what’s going on beneath the surface which is where I can come in with subconscious work, intuition and human design to support and assist.
Your feelings are always validAccordingly today’s episode centres around the perspective that your feelings are always valid. You always have a right to feel what you feel. The nature of emotions is subjective. It’s the acknowledgement of hello, yes as I’m existing right now, I am feeling this, right here and now in this moment. Your feelings are valid because you feel them.
It’s important to remember that validating our feelings doesn’t mean we always understand them or agree with them. Emotions can be complex and nuanced, influenced by a multitude of factors such as past experiences, societal norms, and personal beliefs. However, regardless of whether others understand or validate our feelings, we have the right to honor and respect them.
Feelings aren’t logical or rationalWhilst feelings aren’t based on logic or facts. That doesn’t take away from the importance and value of them. How we feel isn’t rational, but what we feel is very real as we experience them through our own consciousness. They stem from the depths of our subconscious. They are an integral part of what makes you human. Emotions serve as signals from your inner self, offering information and insights into your needs, desires, and experiences. Your emotions are a reflection of your unique perspective and life journey, and denying their validity can lead to repression and emotional distress.
Your feelings are always valid but how you act upon them may not beIt’s essential to recognise that while our emotions are valid, they are not excuses for harmful or destructive behavior. It’s not a permission slip to suddenly act however we want based on how we feel. We have to be conscious and considerate of their impact. Our feelings shouldn’t enable our actions to be unchecked. Instead, we ought to be responsible with how we approach them,
as signals to inform our choices rather than allowing them to control us.
This requires a level of self-awareness and self-regulation, acknowledging our feelings without letting them overpower our sense of reason and consideration of self and others around us. To simply put, it may be helpful to see it from the perspective internally how we feel is always valid but what we do with it externally may not warrant that same validation in proportion to the feeling.
It’s helpful to check in with yourself, do you have the power to be mindful of your emotions or have your emotions got power over you? Who is the driving force behind the wheel?
Taking responsibility for what you do with how you feelTaking responsibility for our actions means acknowledging the impact they may have on ourselves and others, even when they stem from valid emotions. Instead of allowing our feelings to dictate our behavior without question, we can cultivate mindfulness and self-awareness to respond to our emotions in a way that aligns with our values and principles.
This involves pausing and reflecting before acting impulsively, considering the consequences of our actions, and choosing responses in alignment with our best selves. By taking ownership of our behaviours and actions, even in the face of challenging emotions, we empower ourselves to navigate life with integrity, awareness and authenticity. This is how we use our emotions to cultivate emotional intelligence. It is also a responsibility and empowerment that your feelings belong to you. However they are.
Visceral reactions to feelingsIt gets more challenging when we have raw feelings that lead to visceral reactions that are hard to manage. It’s like being caught in a whirlwind, where every thought and sensation swirls around us magnitude and force. In those moments, it feels like you’ve lost control. Yet, even in the midst of such turmoil, it’s essential to recognise that you aren’t your emotions or feelings. They are transient states that pass through us, like clouds drifting across the sky. Understanding this can help us weather the storm with greater resilience and clarity.
Having such feelings can be scary and lead to suppression but it’s got that pressure cooker effect, they will build up until they inevitably explode, causing even more turmoil and distress. As they say the body keeps score too, and it may lead to physical symptoms within the body such as constipation and repression of feelings. In these moments it’s a call to get grounded and to regulate our nervous system such as through breathing.
Your feelings are always valid but not always trueMore over your feelings are always valid but they’re not always true. Our feelings often arise with thoughts and the creation of emotional narratives. It’s our mind taking liberty and reign to create our conditioning and programming. For example, you feel extremely anxious about an upcoming presentation at work. Your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty, and you can’t shake the feeling of impending doom. These feelings are undoubtedly real to you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean your presentation will be as dire as your emotions suggest.
In reality, you’ve they’ve prepared thoroughly for the presentation for weeks in advance and have received positive feedback from multiple people. The anxiety might stem from past experiences or a fear of failure rather than any actual indication that you will present poorly.
How to validate your feelingsGiven all this what are some practices you can introduce to validate your own feelings? At the core of it is listening. So many of us can be scared as to what arises or live in the mindset ignorance is bliss. Meditation is a beautiful way to allow yourself to observe thoughts and feelings within your own body. We shift more into the body with a conscious scan to notice physical sensations whereas journaling is a conscious scan of the mind. From there it can be helpful to express your feelings to process them whether it’s labelling your emotions to figure out the nuances or a creative means like art or dance.
Ultimately validating your feelings doesn’t mean you have to agree with them or act on them. It simply means acknowledging and accepting them as valid aspects of your experience. This paves the way for greater self awareness and consciousness in your growth journey. If you’re looking to work on feeling your feelings, deepening your emotional intelligence and strengthening your connection to your heart and emotions, I’d love to help!
I offer 1:1 coaching session and human design readings to help you. More information available on my website phidang.com or my Instagram @thephidang, please reach out I would love to hear from you. Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity.
Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching and/or a human design reading.
In this empowering episode, we delve into the art of showing up for yourself every single day and why it is so important. Discover practical strategies and mindset shifts that will help you cultivate a strong sense of self-advocacy and resilience. It’s time to step into your power and strengthen your self love and self care through showing up for yourself.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
The inspiration behind showing up for yourselfHello beautiful soul,
This episode is inspired by a post I shared on Instagram this week about showing up: Show up when things get difficult. When things get out of hand. When things feel dark. Show up, not for the world. Show up, not for anybody else. Show up for you, in whatever way you need to. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about honouring your heart and soul. Be kind to yourself. Be loving in the way that you need. Take care of yourself and watch as you bloom, watch as life and the universe show up for you too.
The message of showing up really came through as a strong clear message as I channeled earlier this week because collectively it’s been energetically dense lately, there’s been a lot of with eclipse energy, Scorpio full moon and Mercury retrograde. It can feel heavy and so I wanted to share something practical that anyone can do, right now, no matter what is going in your life and that is: showing up.
Before I begin, I wanted to show up for you listening to let you know I am here if you need support and guidance. I have availability for 1:1 coaching as well as human design readings so if you’ve been thinking about it or feeling the pull, this is your sign to get in touch and let’s chat to figure out how I can best help you with everything going on in your life and within yourself right now.
What does showing up for yourself mean?Showing up is so personal to everyone, it changes and is subject to different circumstances yet ultimately showing up is honouring yourself, making yourself a priority and taking care of yourself. Showing up is to live intentionally and to be an active participant inside of your own life daily.
You can thinking of showing up as being the captain of your own ship, navigating the waters of life. Showing up for yourself means taking control of the helm, by making intentional choices, and steering your life in the direction you want to go. Now do note, just because you’re in charge doesn’t mean you have full control: there are still circumstances you can’t such as the wind direction, temperature and the sea in which you are in. So as captain you have to stay attentive and mindful of the changing currents and conditions. Showing up requires your conscious awareness, adaptability and resilience in the face of the dynamic nature of life and potential challenges.
Showing up for others is easierIn most cases and this may apply to you, it’s much easier to show up for someone or something else. Showing up at work out of a sense of duty, obligation and work ethic. Showing up for a family member or friend because you really love them and want to help.
What about yourself? Who is showing up for you? Are you showing up for yourself? If you get on that spiral of but if I choose myself first how can I show for others well it’s a win win because when you show up for yourself first, your capacity and bandwidth expand so that you can show up for others. It’s not about being selfish or not wanting to help others, it’s about making sure you’re also taking care and loving yourself to as the beautiful, kind, generous and loving soul that you are.
Showing up in contrast to self abandonmentYou may be unconscious that showing up for others is a habit giving away as opposed to conscious and intentional decision. On Autopilot. When it comes to personal development and growth, abandonment often surfaces in relation to others but a blindspot I’ve noticed working with clients is what can happen is you may unintentionally abandon yourself automatically putting others needs and wants first, without consideration of your own.
This quote by Howard Thurman summarises it nicely: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
Real life examples of showing upAn example of how I have been showing up for myself daily is going for walks after eating, it helps me to step away from the laptop (as most of my work is done there) as well as helps with digestion. Creatively showing up for myself has been writing more and committing to writing everyday! Writing my book The Great Unlearning was a huge journey, it’s over 110,000 words and it was released almost a year ago. Recently my creative juices has been flowing from just starting to write for fun and then writing to share on my Instagram and share messages I think that will help the community.
Working with clients, I’ve seen one client who has previously had limiting self beliefs around being creative, show up for herself by realising creativity doesn’t need to be art as an example and in turn she’s creatively reworked her resume for a new industry as she seeks to change careers.
For several clients, showing up has meant returning home to visit family and friends (expats who have moved overseas) as their most authentic selves. There can be a fear of fully shining and making others feel perhaps their lives aren’t as exciting or they haven’t had as much growth but for these clients showing up for themselves means honouring their full experience, the challenges yes but also the highs and the wins unapologetically.
For other clients, showing up has meant confronting and facing past memories that have been painful in order to feel them and move forward whether that be grieving a breakup or death of a loved one. For another client showing up always happened for her work but not herself, and so showing up this month meant setting time aside for herself to plan and reflect things for her on a personal level.
Showing up is important Showing up is committing to yourself now in the present moment as well as committing to your future. Showing up is important because you are important and you matter. Showing up creates momentum. When you show up regularly for yourself whether it’s practicing a new skill or pursuing a passion, you create a momentum that propels you forward. This momentum makes it easier to stay motivated and inspired, leading to greater progress and achievement over time.
Now remember showing up isn’t always striving forwards in terms of your actions, for example at times showing up for yourself requires honouring the need to rest and slow down. Whilst you may perceive this to be a backwards step or failing to show up, ultimately you are. Taking care of yourself prevents further pain, stress and burnout so essentially you slow down, in order to speed up.
Showing up: Accountability and resilienceShowing up also cultivates accountability to yourself (your integrity: your commitment to yourself) as well as resilience. We can show up for ourselves no matter what, because showing up is unique to that day and moment.
You are facing the world in whatever way you need to instead of hiding away and leaking your power. Setbacks may and lets be real will happen but when you continually show up, it doesn’t feel like it chips away because you know that no matter what happens you will honour yourself and that attitude in itself allows you to bounce back quicker, one of my favourite Chinese proverbs “fall down seven times, get back up eight,”
Showing up is stepping into your power and strengthens your self esteemShowing up leads to a fulfilling life because you are an active participant. You’re not just at the mercy of the universe and circumstances. You aren’t a victim. You are choosing to do what you can. You are choosing the mindset of being empowered. This ties in with episode 70 where I spoke about the butterfly effect. Showing up can feel small and you can question it’s significance but as we know with the butterfly effect it creates ripples and greater impact and influence beyond what you can perceive in the moment.
Ultimately what matters is showing up influences what is important: what you think of yourself. Being proactive and actually caring. When you are someone who shows up for themselves no matter what, that’s going to cultivate self love, self care and self commitment.
To show up is to be presentShowing up for yourself starts by being in the present moment and acknowledging your present state internally. Be in the state of observation and noticing. Take the framework of checking in with mind, body and soul. Can you pause, lay down judgement and allow it?
How are you feeling? What is going on in your life? What is the state of your physicality? How are you mentally? How does your soul feel? How does your heart?
To show up is to be self awareCheck in with yourself to see what you need and desire for yourself based on your assessment. This is going to change one day showing up might mean taking a break for yourself where as another time is may require discipline such as setting time aside to exercise because your health is one of your biggest priorities right now. When life feels draining and happiness is dry, showing up may mean doing something fun and pleasurable.
Show up for yourself by doing what you need to do to get into full alignment before taking on the demands of the world and other people’s energy. Know that when you are being your most authentic and aligned self, that everyone gets to this best version of you too.
Some form of journaling is a beautiful practice because being able to get your thoughts out from your head onto paper, can help in expressing yourself leading to self validation as well as the opportunity to understand yourself better for example you may see thought patterns emerging or consistent emotions arising to the surface to reveal something.
Showing up is a commitmentShowing up for yourself means being all in on you. Understanding that you are priority, in fact the #1 priority. Self-commitment that lays the foundation for personal growth, fulfillment, and well-being. The one person that is there from the moment you are born until the moment you pass, will only be and always you. You are important, have your own back!
When you consistently show up for yourself and your vision, you demonstrate a commitment to your personal growth and development. You embody what it means to love yourself, to take care of yourself and step in to your power.
Think of this scenario, your dream is to become a pro footballer. Do you show up only when you’re winning in matches and feeling good? Do you show up even when there’s setbacks like not making the cut for the next level team? In winter, if you are healthy and well, do you continue to practice even though it’s cold and miserable outside?
A quote attributed to Tanner Christensen states: “Even on the days you don’t feel like it, showing up can make all the difference. If you show up and start the work – even though it feels so heavy to do so – what you end up making could be all you need to keep moving, to keep creating.”
To back yourself is to show upShowing up is knowing what you want and allowing yourself to be in positions, opportunities and environments to make that happen. For example if showing up for yourself means advancing your career, it’s about honouring what is in your control to make that happen such as you having a discussion with your boss about opportunities to progress in your company or proactively asking for more training and development. It may involve uncomfortable scary conversations like asking for a pay raise in honour of you recognising how much work you do and your needs for more money (such as to save for something you really want like a house, car or course). It could mean stepping into leadership positions and putting your hand up for projects you desire.
You could have the best idea in the world but it’s nothing if you don’t show up for it and make it an actual reality.
Showing up is be to an advocate for yourselfThis threads through with my next point on how to back yourself which is to advocate for yourself. To speak up for yourself. Often we don’t out of perhaps fear, confrontation, being too loud or annoying or even thinking that it’s silly to.
How you feel is never wrong because how you feel is always valid (that’s a podcast episode for the future) but can you adopt the perspective that a feeling is neither “right” nor “wrong” but simply is? What we do with how feel is up to us and that can lead to decisions and choices that we fully own whatever the outcome is.
How to advocate for yourself again changes based on the circumstances and context for example it may be inappropriate to blow up at someone for something going wrong in the workplace, but it it may be appropriate to have a private conversation afterwards once you’ve cooled down.
I’ve led the discussion on how to show up for yourself in terms of practical actions and I also wanted to share 3 key mindset perspective shifts that are also important.
Showing up isn’t about perfection it’s an energy and attitudeIt’s saying, I’m here. To wrap your head around this one, an example is in relation to other people. Say you have an important event coming up, you’ve been working on this project for years and the big moment is here. Imagine someone you loved didn’t show up because they were worried about how they looked. Ultimately you don’t care because it’s more important the fact that they showed up, even if they were late, even if they could only be there for five minutes.
What about when you’re feeling down and someone reaches out to you. They are currently overseas so they can’t be with you physically but they want to show up virtually through an online meeting or call. Imagine they didn’t do it in the first place because they couldn’t do it in person and thought why bother?
It’s that feeling as a kid, doing a school play and looking out into the audience with the confidence of hey my parents are going to be there no matter what. That security. That comfort. That reliability. Whether your parents could or did is another matter but ultimately you can give that to yourself right here and now, for the rest of your life, showing up as that for you. Being the parent or partner or friend you always wanted or needed. You are capable of doing that.
You never know where showing up will take youYou’re wildly passionate about yoga and so you’ve taken teacher training and you’ve now you’re ready to share the power and magic of yoga with the world. You’re nervous about putting on a paid class for the first time. Will anyone come? What if no one does?
Show up. Even if no one is there, you get to embody your practice and new found skills. How deeply do you care and love yourself to do that? Plus if no one else shows up how would anyone else actually know but you. Whilst many feelings may arise to the surface, they can be great teachers. Feeling rejected yet showing up despite no one coming, you didn’t reject yourself. Feeling not good enough, taking a moment to assess the circumstances: did people know about your class, what was the pricing in relation to the industry, did you try different avenues to get people to come to the class?
Let’s say you show up but you feel disheartened because there’s only one person there. You could change that one person’s day or even life. They showed up because they are struggling but your class came at the right time happened to be intimate and private to help them through a season of difficulty and darkness in their life. You became the light because you showed up. You focused on your mission: to share the magic and power of yoga, you delivered! Perhaps a few weeks later, this person reaches back out because they happen to work in the HR department of a massive tech company and would love to pay you to run weekly yoga sessions in their office.
You’re listening to me on my podcast because of this very sentiment and the journey on how I became a life coach. I showed up online consistently everyday posting even when I had 0 followers, likes and comments. I showed up anonymously at first because the fear of people I knew in real life seeing what I was doing scared me. I was scared to be seen. Posting about my passion of mental health. Fear of judgement. I didn’t let that be an excuse so I found a solution to be anonymous. I showed up even though I didn’t started trained as life coach, I showed up because of my passion and genuine desire to help people. All of this led to where I am now, in my third year full time in my own business doing what I love. My soul is fulfilled. My soul is free. My soul is abundant.
Showing up is a significant step towards success, if not really success in itselfWhat comes to mind is the 2002 Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City. Steven Bradbury, an Australian athlete was competing in short track speed skating which is chaotic in itself, people are jostling and bumping into each other, they are required to wear helmets.
Steven Bradbury getting into the final was an amazing feat itself given he was an underdog, the official Olympics website even states “he had never excelled at any major competition, other than in relay events, prior to the Salt Lake City Games. Before 2002, the Australian’s highest finish in an individual Olympic competition was the eighth place he achieved in the 500m race in 1994.” In the lead up to the Olympics, Bradbury faced multiple setbacks in his journey including a thigh injury where he lost litres of blood, required 111 stitches (cheeky angel number wink there hey) and took 18 months to fully recover.
His journey to the finals were no easy feat, in the quarter finals everything was against him, the favourites to win and he did not technically finish in the top two to advance however he ending up doing so as another racer was disqualified. Ultimately in the final, after consulting with his coach the strategy was to stay back as he acknowledged he could not match the pace of the top competitors. What ended up happening was a huge collision taking out the majority of the race except Bradbury skating on through to win the gold medal, coming first and securing his place in history as the first Australian to win a Winter Olympics gold medal.
On the decision to accept the gold medal, Bradbury said I’ll accept this gold medal. But not for the 90 seconds of the race – I’m going to take it for the 14 years of hard work.” Bradbury’s win resonates with the importance of showing up (as well as luck and strategy). The other competitors may have been faster, more athletic but ultimately it didn’t matter in the end for that particular race. Bradbury’s win serves as a reminder that perseverance and dedication are important and often rewarded (though it may take time!).
Showing up beyond traditional successIn essence, Stephen Bradbury’s gold medal win is more than just a sporting achievement; it’s an inspiring embodiment to the power of showing up, persevering in the face of adversity, defying the odds and seizing opportunities when they arise. All of which stemmed from showing up and not discounting himself out of the race beforehand.
A beautiful insight I wanted to share by Robert Holden is “To be successful in life, work, and relationships, you have to do one thing first—you have to show up. In other words, you have to be willing to show the world who you are and what you believe in. And you have to keep showing up in spite of the setbacks and the heartbreaks. The temptation to edit yourself and to hide will only leave you feeling dead inside. Yet the more authentic you are, the more true success you will enjoy and the more alive you will feel.”
You can’t afford to not show up for yourselfHis insight came about from the Zulu people of South Africa, how they powerfully greet people in two parts: one part says: “I am here to be seen” and the other part is “I see you.”
Ultimately bringing this episode on showing up to an end, perhaps it’s the perspective that you can’t afford not to show up, because showing up represents so much with many benefits as I’ve shared throughout this episode. To not show up is to deny your value and existence. As Tanner Christensen puts it “Your brush or pen strokes are uniquely yours, nobody else can make them for you. The same goes for the words you write, the songs you sing, the pictures you take, the moves you dance, or the floor plans you draw-up. Your ideas and the way you execute them are strictly your own. They are a great part of the value you provide. To not show up is to deny your work and your ideas existence. So we have to show up, whenever physically able. At least for a moment, for a few key presses or a few flicks of the brush.”
To end this episode, what is one actionable thing you can do right now to show up for yourself?
I’ll leave you on that question beautiful soul and know that showing up for yourself may also mean getting, receiving and having support. We all need support in life, it isn’t something we are meant to do alone nor is it enjoyable, it can be a lonely and difficult journey.
Should you want or need support, guidance in your life whether it be showing up for yourself, your dreams, desires, career, relationships, happiness, abundance — I’m here for you! I’ve got your back as someone to speak to and bounce thoughts and ideas with.
I offer 1:1 coaching session and human design readings to help you. More information available on my website phidang.com or my Instagram @thephidang, please reach out I would love to hear from you. Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity.
Let’s work together through 1:1 coaching and/or a human design reading.
Find out information on the Scorpio Full Moon taking place in April 2024 and what it means for you. This episode covers the Scorpio Full Moon energies and themes such as transformation and diving deeper into your inner world. There are also channeled intuitive messages as well as journaling questions for the Scorpio Full Moon.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Scorpio Full Moon April 2024 SummaryWe have the full moon in Scorpio on the 23rd or 24th of April pending where you are. It’s been a big time of emotions and fluctuations given the recent eclipse season and now Scorpio’s energy enters the picture. When you have scorpio in the air, especially in a full moon, you know there’s going to be transformation and intensity. You know that it’s going to dive into your inner workings, your subconscious, your emotions and your shadows. It embodies the cycles of life, death and rebirth.
The dynamic nature of lifeTo be alive is to be constantly in the process of change and transformation because life is dynamic not static. It is simply the nature of life.
We see this everywhere around us: in nature – the environment around us whether it’s trees shedding leaves or flowers blooming to animals adapting to the changing world (a recent example I saw was the incredible footage captured of emperor chicks bravely jumping off 15 metre/50 feet ice cliffs in Antarctica in to swim for the first time because of depleting sea levels, the leap is greater than ever than what it used to be).
Yet we as humans resist it because we fear change and the uncomfortable feelings and thus the energy of the Scorpio full moon plays its hand to encourage us to face this truth whether we are willing to or not.
The tension and discomfort of the Scorpio Full MoonI remember reading somewhere describing when Scorpio enters the picture with the influence of Pluto (the biggest planetary influence in conjunction with this full moon) is also in the air it’s like the awkward family reunion you’ve been avoiding but knowing you have to face and confront, it can be awkward and uncomfortable but ultimately so rewarding and rich in growth. Taurus the backdrop to everything is a fixed sign and change adverse, as is Scorpio so there will be tension, maybe that sensation or feeling of the universe dragging you by your feet.
Channeled messages for the Scorpio Full Moon April 2024A really interesting channeled message that came for anyone listening to this podcast was that there’s freedom in everything that falls apart. Surrender is that willingness to let what is happening to happen. We think freedom is peace, and it is but it is also the absence of resistance to give way to flow. I also wanted to shout out the word that kept coming through was “dissolve.”
Let life do what it wants. Have faith in the process of why things are unfolding the way that they are. How can you reflect and reassess on being attached vs unattached? How does the ego or non/false sense play into what is going on in life for you? What can become less of a struggle with awareness that may dissolve the intensity and pressure of what you are experiencing?
Scorpio Energy and Taylor Swift – The Tortured Poets Department (TTPD)The scorpio full moon is a powerful and raw time to go deeper. A time for realisations and reflections. A time for letting go. A time for liberation. Relating this to what is unfolding real time, I think Taylor Swift’s new album ‘The Tortured Poets Department’ really embodies the energy of the Scorpio full moon. She pleas temporary insanity and reflects upon getting out of the slammer into the tidal way in her summary poem that accompanies the album speaking to the spectrum and amounts of feelings she’s been through in the past year and beyond.
We gain insight to the full spectrum of emotions she has been through and the contrast of it all from “I’m trying to stifle my sights, cause I feel so high school every time I look at you” to “You hung me on your wall, stabbed me with your push pins. In public, showed me off. Then sank in stoned oblivion.”
High expression and alchemy of ScorpioTruly Taylor Swift leans in and embraces the high expression of Scorpio which is the alchemy of turning emotions that can be perceived as dark and negative such as heartbreak, grief, anger, sadness and disappointment into raw powerful songs that so many can relate to and ultimately for her hit songs, greater recognition as an artist and abundance (I mean a huge aspect of her success stems from being inspired by her emotions and experiences greatly heartbreak and she’s now a billionaire!). She even acknowledges and recognises her own power, “You know you’re good when you can do it even with a broken heart.”
Closure with the Scorpio Full Moon in April 2024In conclusion the Tortured Poets Department album and anthology serve as her closure, “This period of the author’s life is now over, the chapter closed and boarded up. There is nothing to avenge, no scores to settle once wounds have healed.” This speaks to another theme of the Scorpio Full Moon: closure.
Closure provides one part to a framework for letting go to occur particularly within yourself: acknowledgement of what is coming to an end or perhaps even a ritual to indicate so.
Without a form of closure it can be challenging to let go because of this sense of unfinished business or something is unresolved. It is closure that sets the stage to letting go. Perhaps take a moment as you listen to this to reflect on perhaps if there’s anything in your life that you feel needs closure? If there’s been closure for you, what is the next step for you in consciously letting go?
Journaling questions Scorpio Full Moon April 2024As we delve into the realm of the Scorpio full moon the advice that I can share is tune into your intuition and deeper knowing, it isn’t about logic, it’s about your truth. This is a time of getting really intimate with yourself, in many ways.
Journaling questions for the Scorpio Full Moon in April 2024 here we go:
Take a moment to check in with yourself. How have you been feeling? Check in moments of time being the lunar eclipse around the end of March this year, the solar eclipse at the beginning of this month in April and last week leading up to this Scorpio Full Moon.
Where do you fear change in your life right now? Is it holding you back?
What do you want to let go of and surrender with this Scorpio Full Moon?
Does resistance currently show up in any area of your life right now, and if so why?
What process of alchemy can you utilise in your life right now. Where or what is the coal that can be transformed into gold?
Reflect in your life the cycles of birth, death and rebirth and where your current life experiences and emotions fall under each category.
The new moon to this full moon was around November 13/14 2023, reflect on what has changed since then within yourself and life? What did you manifest with this new moon and how is it unfolding now?
Scorpio Full Moon April 2024 PracticesOther practices to consider: how to unleash any pent up energy with this Scorpio full moon through your emotions, expression and even sensuality and sexuality (after all Scorpio governs the genitals and is the sign most associated with sex).
I get channeled images of setting a timer to do unfiltered writing or putting on a playlist and letting your body move the way it wants to and feels called to.
Our emotions are known to be stored in our hips so if you’re moving, sway those hips or do yoga poses or practices to open your hips. Run a bath to physically and metaphorically sit with yourself including the ick and dirty then cleanse and let it wash away.
Create a practice of meeting your shadows, writing down familiar patterns that seem to have you stuck, things you seem to routinely do that don’t serve you and brainstorm ways to move through them, get help and break free (we can’t change what we don’t know!). Perhaps it’s the need to bring back pleasure into your life, because life can get heavy and serious, injecting moments of feel good or getting out of your head (which is what pleasure can do!).
May you harness the power of the Scorpio full moon to go beneath the surface of your inner world, to shed what no longer serves you and kickstart a new cycle of life and rebirth. If you need or would like help, support and guidance I have 1:1 coaching sessions and spots available as well as human design readings. If you’re not sure which would best help, feel free to do DM me on Instagram @thephidang or email me and together we can figure it out!
Elana Feldman is a Health, Wellness and Empowerment Coach on a mission to calm your body, mind and soul. For the past number of years she has been working in particular with seniors, cancer patients and children.
She is a 4/1 sacral generator with the soul purpose of intuition, hers in particular is actually rare a bridge between a personal and karmic destiny. She truly embodies the belief that age is but a number. In our conversation we explore how choices can shape our journey and how embracing movement as well as a mindset of choice, positivity and spirituality can lead to a life that embodies purpose and fulfilment.
Elana Feldman -Episode SummaryIn this episode, we delve into the transformative power of holistic well-being, human design, movement and mindset. Elana shares her personal journey being involved in an accident at a young age, which not only happens once but several times which will likely shock you what she’s been through (it’s also one of her main life energies!).
This has shaped her inspiring journey of her purpose in going beyond labels especially age within herself being young in her forties and working closely with seniors and cancer patients in particular. She shares beautiful insights from their accumulated wisdom and experiences including a recently 100 year old client!
We speak about how her human design has shaped her self awareness, intuition and decision making process including being a generator, sacral authority, having a completely open solar plexus and defined spleen. She is also going through her Uranus Opposition whilst the destiny nodes are in Libra and Aries (which she also has!) meaning a huge amplified energetic transition for her.
We also cover:
– Inner child
– The importance of exercise and movement in promoting holistic well-being as well as adopting an empowering, choice driven mindset.
– Sexuality, intimacy and the body in the latter years of life
– Trusting your intuition and deeply knowing your life purpose
– The depth of connections: on a soul level
– The sweet bonds between children and seniors without judgement and of pure love
– Embracing getting older in life
Resources from today’s episodeElana Feldman
- Elana’s Website: Your Health Vibes
- Elana’s Contact Details
- Elana’s Instagram
Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Information on the Aries New Moon Solar Eclipse taking place April 2024 on the 8th and 9th. Phi reveals how the Aries New Moon Solar Eclipse may impact you individually as well as collectively with themes of new beginnings, purpose, destiny and healing. Within this episode are also journaling prompts and questions for the Aries Solar Eclipse.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
New beginnings with the Aries Solar Eclipse in April 2024Hi beautiful souls, the time has come and it is the Aries new moon solar eclipse visible across North America on the 8th of April! This will be Tuesday the 9th of April if you’re in Australia like me. Though as we know we can feel the energy strongly a few days either side of the peak. This is the partner eclipse to the Libra full moon eclipse that happened towards the end of March a few week backs around the 23rd/24th if you recall. Whilst Libra will return later in the year with more eclipse energy to come, we won’t see eclipse energy in Aries again for the rest of 2024 until it returns at the end of March in 2025.
Thus sets the scene with another bonus new year energy start if you haven’t felt that yet with all guns are blazing with this energy about new beginnings and fresh starts. Aries kickstarts the zodiac as we know and with the eclipse chapters, Aries points towards our future and destiny astrologically.
Energy, life force and self with the nature of the Solar EclipseThe solar eclipse will temporarily have the sun, representing our life force and energy, disappear. Eclipses energetically impact people differently, either you may be highly energised perhaps even restless and impatience. On the other hand it can also trigger intense emotions and exhaustion too. Do note this energy remains for the next six months if you aren’t necessarily feeling any changes immediately again this is very personal and depends on each person and their chart.
With the momentary darkness it’s also symbolic of being cosmically guided to turn within, as with the eclipses some believe it is not about manifesting as traditionally with a new moon but more being aware of the present moment, taking a moment to reflect and pointing our intentions towards the future. This is further amplified by the independent nature of Aries as opposed to Libra in the lunar eclipse last time where I talked about how relationships were more of a thematic.
Mercury Retrograde and the Aries New Moon Solar EclipseAs part of the current collective energies, take note we are currently in Mercury Retrograde since the beginning of April until the end around the 25th so take extra care in ensuring clear communications and the well known potential impacts on technology and travel too. Especially with Aries collective energy it can be easy to let fiery energy take over in communications so be mindful of passion, anger, zest and blunt honesty.
Chiron and the Aries New Moon Solar EclipseChiron the planet representing the wounded healer will also be taking part of the action, astrologically aligning in the heart of the solar eclipse. Energetically, traditionally Chiron in Aries collectively may bring up the following themes:
Wound of the self: confidence and being self assured
The sun represents the masculine and Aries is ruled by Mars which is also headstrong and masculine in nature; so perhaps anything around the masculine including male figures such as father ones and qualities like taking action, guidance and protection.
Chiron Solar Eclipse Journaling PromptsTaking all of this into account with the new moon solar eclipse; here are some journal prompts to consider;
What new insights or paths are being illuminated for you right now in your path of healing?
If you are feeling off track, what is being revealed to help you get back on track with your destiny in this lifetime?
Have you been stopping into your power by taking actual action in regards to your desires and dreams? If not what’s holding you back from taking action and how could you potentially overcome this?
In what area of your life, have you been giving power away or leaking power in your life?
In what way has a dominating energy triggered you into feeling less of your full powerful self?
Check in and reflect on your current perspective of your self worth and sense of identity.
The last time Chiron in Aries was temporarily between April – September 2018 and February 2019, you may want to reflect what was going on for you in terms of the above for further context and check in from then vs now. More Aries new moon eclipse journaling prompts later on in this episode.
Pisces is also a part of the cosmic forces and it’s presence is highly spiritual reminding us to hold steady with our faith and belief with everything unfolding, that it is helping us to be more aware and grow (even when it doesn’t actually feel like it at this moment in time right now).
Channeling the Solar Eclipse energyFeeling into my personal perspective and channeling on the current collective energies and April 2024 generally: l I really believe it’s all about tapping into our inner fire: think themes of renewal, resparking the flame, processing anger that may be within ourselves in a healthy and motivating manner.
There’s a momentum, energy is moving as opposed to slowing which was really felt heavily at the end of March. With the fire comes the light, there’s been a huge density between the lunar eclipse to now: heaviness, emotions, anxiety; so much more light is trickling in and thus forcing out denseness to emerge and be lifted and cleansed.
It doesn’t feel quiet nor calm, I know I said at the beginning going inwards but more feeling an energy. The theme of chaos comes up but it’s more like a lot is going on, embracing all that pops up and navigating with a sense of adventure as opposed to overwhelming destruction.
Aries New Moon Solar Eclipse Journaling Prompts April 2024Rounding out this episode and the journaling questions for the Aries new moon solar eclipse in April 2024 are the following:
In what ways are you battling yourself? Are you fighting or at war with yourself? If so how can you realign with support?
The last time there was a similar Aries eclipse to the current was in April 2005, this may serve as reflection point for you during this time to consider.
Where do your current passions in life lie and where have you lost passion in your life? Is it time to let go for a new one or can it be resparked? Where could you be more fired up in life?
What clarity do you currently have on your purpose and destiny? How can you put this into action moving forward over the next six months?
Thinking of you during this solar eclipse and should you need further support and guidance, I invite you to connect with me for either 1:1 coaching or a human design reading, currently there is plenty availability in April! Grateful for you beautiful soul, until next time: love & positivity.
Unveiling the butterfly effect in this podcast episode to dive deeper into your personal development and growth journey. What exactly is the butterfly effect? What role does the butterfly effect play in your life? This episode shares real examples of the butterfly effect and how it intertwines with universal laws and concepts such as karma.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
The signs of the butterfly effectHi beautiful souls, today’s podcast is all about the butterfly effect. It’s seemingly following me everywhere and I felt called to speak about it after my most recent Instagram post and then one of the books I’ve been reading ended funnily enough with an epilogue titled ‘The Butterfly Effect.’
The metaphor of the butterfly effect isn’t actually spiritual in nature, in fact it’s origin came from two sources according to the research I’ve done. In fact the butterfly effect has been adopted to various areas of life from relationships to marketing in businesses.
Edward Lorenz and the butterfly effectThe most well known origin of the butterfly effect is that of mathematician and meteorologist Edward Lorenz who asked the metaphorical question in the 1960’s of does the flap of a butterfly’s wings in Brazil set off a tornado in Texas?
From that perspective came of how a single flap of a butterfly’s wings can be so instrumental in creating an impact, such as a tornado. This is rooted in chaos theory which from my understanding put simply is the study of surprises and the unpredictable.
A Sound of Thunder and the butterfly effectAnother is 1950’s short story titled ‘A Sound of Thunder’ by Ray Bradbury which exemplifies the butterfly effect metaphorically and somewhat physically. It is set in 2055 where time travel is possible and wealthy adventurers have the opportunity to make use of this so they go back to the age of dinosaurs. One particular adventurer wanted to hunt dinosaurs and had been told the importance of sticking to the marked trail, one thing leads to another and he carelessly steps on a butterfly in pursuit of a dinosaur changing the course of history in the future. The adventurers return to 2055 where the world has been altered for the worse, language no longer makes sense, an evil dictator is in charge only to be confused and see the crushed butterfly under his boot.
The butterfly effect on social media: Instagram and TiktokThe butterfly effect is back in the spotlight recently making waves on social media with people sharing how the smallest of things have had the biggest influence in their lives such as myself simply deciding to start an anonymous Instagram page out of my passion for mental health has now led to me being a life coach full time for almost two and a half years coming up three soon, wild!
The butterfly effect in real life can play out in all sorts of ways such as missing a plane which ended up being in an accident, or in a change moment deciding to go to a dinner you didn’t want to go to where you end up meeting the love of your life. For example stubbing your toe so you can no longer go out on a Friday night and you’re bummed that you’re missing out on fun evening but then receiving an important call with news that you may have otherwise ignored or missed.
The star thrower and the butterfly effectA really beautiful story that I came across recently resonated with the butterfly theory and how the it can truly be the little small things that make a huge difference. This story is called ‘The Star Thrower’ by Loren Eiseley an American anthropologist.
Once upon a time, there was an old man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach every morning before he began his work. Early one morning, he was walking along the shore after a big storm had passed and found the vast beach littered with starfish as far as the eye could see, stretching in both directions.
Off in the distance, the old man noticed a small boy approaching. As the boy walked, he paused every so often and as he grew closer, the man could see that he was occasionally bending down to pick up an object and throw it into the sea. The boy came closer still and the man called out, “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?”
The young boy paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean. The tide has washed them up onto the beach and they can’t return to the sea by themselves,” the youth replied. “When the sun gets high, they will die, unless I throw them back into the water.”
The old man replied, “But there must be tens of thousands of starfish on this beach. I’m afraid you won’t really be able to make much of a difference.”
The boy bent down, picked up yet another starfish and threw it as far as he could into the ocean. Then he turned, smiled and said, “It made a difference to that one!”
Story Source: Carol Jennings
Spiritual meaning of butterfliesButterflies are generally a huge symbol spiritually in themselves they represent metamorphosis, change and transformation. They are a symbol representative of life: the soul, new beginnings, re birth, a sign from the other side that our loved ones are still with us (again beautifully something seemingly small and simple as butterfly can give great comfort, reassurance and meaning). Butterflies are known to be messengers from the spiritual realm. Butterflies are sign of progression and evolution: expansion, going through hardship making it to the other side: freer and lighter.
Harnessing the power of the butterfly effect: actionTaking all of this in, how can you harness and make the most of the butterfly effect?
We often focus on the big pivotal moments yet it often truly is the so called little things. This is part of one of the chapters in my book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to living an Aligned and Authentic Life, Chapter 4: Massive Action or Is It? where I talk about as a society we’ve learnt: Go hard or go home.
Success is all about big, bold moments and quantum leaps that result in instant success. Acknowledging how these moments are instrumental and a part of the journey but in my own experience looking back at how I am where I am now, it isn’t only that!
The importance of simply just doing: consistent imperfect action. In fact I start the unlearning section of the chapter by writing: “Rome wasn’t built in one day, and neither are you or your dreams. An age-old saying attributed to Desmond Tutu goes, ‘There is only one way to eat an elephant: a bite at a time.’ Every little bit counts because it all adds up.’
When the little things aren’t so littleA quote that really brings this home is by Bruce Barton, “Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things. I am tempted to think there are no little things.”
Know that your actions are important and make a significance to this world and you may not even realise it. A moment of kindness like a smile at someone has stopped someone from potentially harming themselves and believing in the goodness of humanity as an example or leaving a tip when you’re able to makes a difference to someone being able to pay rent or have a meal that week.
Know that something you do could inspire someone else in such a big way such as if you were a nurse caring dutifully for a patient, that could inspire a young woman whose Grandma is being cared for and inspire her to be a nurse in the future. You may never even know unless that person decided to share how you have inspired them.
Alexander Flemming and the butterfly effectThe butterfly effect puts you in a position of power and action, everything you do will have an impact whether directly impacting you or someone else or thing in this world. Everything is interconnected.
We can apply the Butterfly effect to a real example of something inconsequential something going wrong leading to something very right. Scottish researcher, Alexander Flemming in a lab had been experimenting with influenza. He went away for two weeks returning to see mold had formed on the plate he was using. This would change the world. Published reports have Fleming saying: “One sometimes finds what one is not looking for. When I woke up just after dawn on Sept. 28, 1928, I certainly didn’t plan to revolutionise all medicine by discovering the world’s first antibiotic, or bacteria killer. But I guess that was exactly what I did.”
Feeling down and the butterfly effectTo powerfully extend this I think of when you’re feeling down, you never realise how something so small such as getting out of bed, getting some sunlight or movement can really shift your state and how you are feeling. In these states it’s often called for gratitude and I think about how the world could do with more appreciation, and how simply appreciation can have huge effects on our own mood and it’s expression; the people we appreciate.
Let things compound with the butterfly effectIn a different state when going after your dreams, desires and manifestations it’s about taking a step towards it – that may indeed have the butterfly effect. If you want to be able to run a marathon, start by buying the pair of shoes and going for a walk. If you want to be a famous singer, carving out time to practice and working your way up to perform. If you want to be healthier, it may be incorporating more movement into your day, even 5 minutes whilst seemingly insignificant with the butterfly effect can compound and become more.
Karma, the law of cause and effect with the butterfly effectWith this, there is also this sense of a responsibility to do our best in being conscious of what we do relating to karma! Everything leaves an impression and karma has us accountable whether in this lifetime or next, and it can also be a perspective of seeing your life as it is now too.
Karma can be quite an activating term with an emotional charge, there are so many facets, layers and understandings on it. I say this with great compassion and urge whilst there can be many perspectives that may explain circumstances and situations we find ourselves in whether it be ourselves or things out of our hand, completely beyond our control: we can’t ever know for sure why things happen in our lives, the important thing is to focus on the present and what we can do in our control and how we respond to that outside of it.
Cause and effect, karma can also intertwine from the perspective of the universal law of cause and effect along the lines of Newtown’s third law: “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” This highlights the importance of yes what we do but also who we are being.
What is your butterfly effect?I hope today’s episode has a butterfly effect in your life whether it’s hearing something that sparks and ignites something within you, that it contained a sign you were asking for or even by sharing this episode with someone it could help them! To end this episode I’d like for you to consider this question and journal prompt, “what is your butterfly effect?” Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity.
The astrological air right now is thick and intense! This episode is all about the Libra Lunar Eclipse taking place in March 2024. Phi shares the themes of the lunar eclipse as well as journaling prompts to help you gain greater insight into your shadow, karma and relationships.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Personal feelings of the Libra Lunar EclipseI’ve just come back from some time in India and Vietnam which I’m processing and whewwwwww we are in the thick of some astrological air aren’t we! It’s all been leading up to here.
We are officially in the astrological new year which begins with the first sign of the Zodiac Aries that happened a few days ago March 19th. Personally returning home with this eclipse energy, I’ve been sleeping and napping more than ever. It feels like a big detox and purge feeling more tired and sick than usual. Also a lot of vivid dreams and random downloads during meditation. Feeling more inward, introverted and hermitting than usual.
Aries Libra Lunar Eclipse SeriesSo what’s going on? We happen to be in the middle of a cycle of Aries-Libra eclipses that started last year in April around the 21st and will end next year at the end of March 2025.
Last year it was one foot in the old series of Taurus and Scorpio, but this year we are all in on Aries and Libra focusing on the push pull tension of independence, autonomy vs in relationship and connection.
Eclipses come in opposing pairs and each pairing happens every 18 years. The last time the Aries and Libra pairing occurred was between 2004 to 2006, so it may be worth reflecting what happened for you then.
Aries Libra Lunar Eclipse SeriesSo what’s going on? We happen to be in the middle of a cycle of Aries-Libra eclipses that started last year in April around the 21st and will end next year at the end of March 2025.
Last year it was one foot in the old series of Taurus and Scorpio, but this year we are all in on Aries and Libra focusing on the push pull tension of independence, autonomy vs in relationship and connection.
Eclipses come in opposing pairs and each pairing happens every 18 years. The last time the Aries and Libra pairing occurred was between 2004 to 2006, so it may be worth reflecting what happened for you then.
Libra Lunar Eclipse IntenseThere’s no denying eclipse season is intense as the energy supercharges the full moon and new moon by tenfold. Remember intense doesn’t mean bad! Bursts of intensity can be helpful and I’m sure that’s something Aries teaches us.
Over two weeks so much growth, change and transformation can occur. It all starts on on March 25th with the Full Moon Libra lunar eclipse bringing into play Librian areas of life: relationships, balance.
Before the Solar Eclipse in Aries brings new beginnings, the Lunar eclipse can often bring endings and a magnitude of emotions.
Feminine Energy and Libra Lunar EclipseThe lunar aspect being the moon signals and indicates our inner realm and rules over our emotions, internal motivations and the feminine aspects of who we are. PSA with these feminine energies at times this can involve a female in our lives whether that’s a mother, sister, cousin, friend, boss etc.
The eclipse moon is different to the full moon in that it brings out the shadow (the Earth’s shadow falls on the face of the moon) – so what can emerge is more information, insights, revelations as well as resurface shadow aspects that previously have been blocked, hidden or unseen.
Simply put dredge up stuff you’ve not been aware of or ignoring really. At this time the veil is also thin between past, present and future, it’s a beautiful time to go more inwards and receive information and downloads such as through meditation or any other practices that help you to go within.
Libra Lunar Eclipse Theme: RelationshipsIn particular this eclipse hones in on relationships (platonic, professional and romantic) with Venus conjunct Saturn. Venus rules Libra and represents relationships. When we introduce Saturn into the realm of relationships this is about discipline and reality checks.
Saturn can also cause a slow down or delay forgoing instant gratification and leaning into the more long term, aligned, practical and a test of commitment.
When we factor in that this full moon brings in karmic destiny energy it represents letting go of what no longer serves, what we’ve outgrown and what we need to leave behind in order to move forward. People that often enter or exit during these periods can often feel karmic too. This is a clearing of past karma in play.
Eclipses are here to cleanse and clearThus prepare yourself for what can be seen as a cosmic cleansing and course corrections. This is against the backdrop of Pisces planetary positions which can be dreamy, moody but ultimately spiritual. Not only that off the back of Pisces season, a time that teaches us about letting go and surrender, trusting in higher frequencies meant for us.
March 2024 Lunar Eclipse Journaling PromptsWho are the most important relationships in your life?
What relationships are you holding onto that no longer serve you and have run their course? Where are you stuck in those relationships out of guilt, obligation, fear or comfort?
Are there any current dynamics at play in relationships that don’t serve you? Any patterns or repetitions you can see emerging? Examples being people pleasing, avoidance, triggers, lack of boundaries, holding back the truth, seeking validation and approval
Do you feel that your current relationships are fair and balanced?
Are you seeing relationships for what they are or are you perhaps blinded by idealisation or ignorance?
What has been holding you back in relationships?
What don’t you like about the way you behave in relationships (the shadow aspect of self)?
What role does feminine energy play in your relationships?
Where in your relationships perhaps healing and forgiveness needs to take place?
Which relationships in your life are cultivating greater spiritual growth and evolution for you?
What situations call for more harmony?
Is there any person that comes to mind repeatedly during this time period which may be a sign of unresolved karma?
Reflect back to the solar eclipse of October 14th 2023 last year as the starting point to this full moon, when the new moon was in Libra. Things maybe circling back or coming to a full circle moment here. The prelude to that was when the whole eclipse series began July 2023. Thus the final journaling prompt, how have your relationships changed since mid October last year?
Eclipse timelines Eclipses have this funny way of speeding up and changing timelines, it can feel as though life has sudden, unexpected, rapid and abrupt changes that unfold with great speed or momentum out of nowhere. Given eclipses have such great energy and power, the universe can really force us to change and move if we have been stuck, stagnant or caught in old cycles, the pressure is turned up.
What to do during the 2024 March Libra Lunar EclipseLunar eclipse season is a time to lay low and lather on self care: slowing down, grounding, resting, naps, salt water baths, being gentler, reflection, meditation and journaling can be helpful. Unexpected things can pop up so create more space in your calendar and schedule in longer time than usual to complete big projects. Letting go practices such as letter writing, burning what no longer serves you, decluttering, cleansing spaces can be beneficial.
Wishing you a powerful release with this eclipse season beautiful soul, until next time.
Love & Positivity.
Phoebe Greenacre, is a Certified Somatic Movement Therapist, Conscious Business Coach with a background as a Yoga Teacher and Meditation Guide.
A 2/4 Manifesting Generator with a sacral authority, Phoebe is a harmonious blend of heart and hustle, embodying the spirit of holistic wellness with a savvy business acumen. Based in Bali, Phoebe’s expertise shines a light for online holistic therapists seeking to flourish authentically in the digital realm.
Resources from today’s episodePhoebe Greenacre
- Phoebe on Instagram
- Phoebe’s Website
- Phoebe’s Self Care Membership
- Phoebe Consciously Alive Online Business Accelerator
Phi
- Phi on Phoebe’s Podcast Consciously Alive
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Phoebe Greenacre -Episode SummaryIn today’s podcast, Phoebe shares her journey throughout the corporate world as well as starting her own businesses, selling her business and using her strategy prowess to now nurture heart-centered enterprises.
Phoebe is an avid traveller having been to over 70 countries, lived in Australia, Japan, London and now Bali, she brings a global perspective into her practice, further deepened by her International Business Degree.
She has a Piscean intuition and the dynamic energy of a Manifesting Generator, welcome Phoebe Greenacre to the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang.
Phoebe Greenacre – What we discuss* Phoebe’s journey including a stint as a travel blogger, a desire to be a spy to defying societal traditional timelines * Phoebe’s Saturn Return: Going from rock bottom at 29 to starting again, reinventing herself and thriving * Phoebe’s career experience including creating an activewear brand in London * How entrepreneurship has changed * Going from a physical product to a completely online business * The freedom lifestyle * How home is within * Being connected to your body * Starting a business and side hustle * Letting go of ego and stepping into authenticity and alignment * Getting married at 35 to her husband Alex (breaking up and coming back together) * Growing together as a couple * Knowing what you want in dating and the importance of self worth, not waiting * Motherhood, becoming a mother at 39 to a beautiful baby girl
Sammie Purdie is a 6/2 Manifesting Generator with an Emotional Authority. She is a previous client of Phi’s having worked together 1:1 and undergone an amazing transformation including now being a Human Design Women’s Mindset Coach running women’s circles in Adelaide and running her current program: Her Dream Life. Sammie is also a proud mama to a beautiful boy Archie.
Resources from today’s episodeSammie Purdie
- Sammie on Instagram
- Email Sammie
- ‘Her Dream Life Program
Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Sammie Purdie – Episode SummarySammie shares her personal journey struggling with self worth and scarcity to now thriving in abundance, self love. Being a mother deeply healed her and now she is fully embodied and empowered in who she is as a mum and beyond.
She went from running a successful lash business to now pursuing her passion and purpose becoming a coach.
Sammie Purdie – What we discuss* Trusting your gut and intuition, feeling your energy, the process, divine timings * Communicating with the universe * Sammie’s journey and experience working 1:1 with Phi * Foundations for success and abundance, investing, rewiring and working on your money mindset including not having an income at one point * As a women’s coach the biggest struggles she sees * The power of human design * Masculine and feminine energy * Receptivity * Sammie’s self worth journey * Sammie’s motherhood journey: resistance and surrender, identity loss, finding her self again * Starting your own business * Feeling feelings, being an emotional authority * Sammie’s take on women the three pillars of a strong foundation
This episode is short and sweet all about the Leap Year in 2024, the 29th of February 2024. Phi talks about the energetic themes emerging from this special day that happens once every four years.
This episode also provides some journaling prompts for the Leap Year in 2024.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Leap Year February 2024Happy Leap Year Day! As we speak I’m getting ready to head to India and Vietnam for work so this episode is going to be short, sweet and punchy. I’m really excited about the guests that’ll be featuring on the podcast whilst I’m away for two weeks. As you all know I am running a retreat in August later this year in Bali that’s sold out and before I hold space and facilitate, I am also attending a retreat in India! I’ve never been before so a whole new adventure awaits. The lead up to it has been interesting, lots happening and I’m sure lots to transpire and share after.
Today is February 29th as I record this episode and it’s a leap year that comes every 4 years. The last time we had a leap year was amongst the huge global change and shift in consciousness that was in February 29th 2020. Given leap years don’t happen all too often, this date I feel energetically holds space to reflect. What was life like for you 4 years ago around this time?
A leap year is about balanceA leap year is made to account for lost time, giving us an additional calendar day every four years. In this is also an opportunity to get back into balance and harmony especially given the last few weeks have been energetically intense. Where do you need more balance and harmony in your life right now?
Numerology of the leap year in 2024Every leap year holds the master energy of 11 which I’ve spoken about in a couple of energy updates already this year but to remind you its the number of the master architect, it’s about the vision, the plan and intuition.
The numerology of the leap year 2+9+2+2+0+2+4 = 21 = 2 + 1 = 3. The number 3 in numerology is linked to Jupiter which is all about abundance and being an 8 year of course, the energy is strong for abundance. It could be a time to look at your finances, to work on your money mindset and/or manifest money. There’s also that saying that goes good things come in 3…
Astrologically Mercury is harmoniously dancing with Jupiter at the moment so despite there being some thick and heavy karmic energy in the air, this portal represents optimism, hope and joy.
A leap year is about faithA leap can also be embodied by well the leap of faith, the fool tarot card, symbolising a jump into the unknown, anything is possible! A leap of faith is also akin to a quantum jump, timelines can shift, massive growths, a surge in your transformation and changes can happen all in a moment. There’s a window for breakthroughs to occur. There’s a window for spiritual awakenings to happen.With all portals yes it’s most potent on the day of but the portal opens for a few days aside. As with any portal pay attention to signs and synchronicities that pop up, the cosmic coincidences that are at play.
Today is February 29th as I record this episode and it’s a leap year that comes every 4 years. The last time we had a leap year was amongst the huge global change and shift in consciousness that was in February 29th 2020. Given leap years don’t happen all too often, this date I feel energetically holds space to reflect. What was life like for you 4 years ago around this time?
A leap year breaks traditions and is about being boldIn ancient Irish Folklore it was said that Saint Brigid, like the Goddess Brigid of light made a deal with Saint Patrick where back in the day a deal was struck where women could propose to men to balance things out and make it even. In Illinois of 1948 women flirty took the power from men and supposedly jokingly arrested men who were unmarried and single. Nowadays times have certainly changed but I like the sentiment of being bold, breaking through traditions amplifying leap of faith and confidence as an energetic thread for today’s leap year day.
2024 leap year journaling promtpts To end, I thought I would share a few journaling prompts if you’re feeling the call to use this additional day thanks to the leap year and portal to reflect:
- What was happening in your life around February 2020, 4 years ago? What change has transpired, is it still relevant and pertinent to your life today? Have any patterns, behaviours or beliefs shifted?
- Currently in your life what is out of balance and how can you rectify this?
- What are you grateful for in your financial life right now? Where is abundance showing up in your life right now?
- Where do you require more faith in your life at this point in time? What’s that next leap for you? That edgy, scary, exciting, potential step?
- Do any traditions or what you believe to be societal norms weigh you down or hold you back in your life right now? How can you subvert this and be bold?
Thanks for tuning in beautiful soul, wishing you all the luck, abundance and joy with this leap day in 2024. Until next time, love and positivity.
This episode unpacks and explains the 222 Portal in February 2024. The significance of angel number 222. This year particularly in 2024, the 222 portal heavily leans into manifestation and all things love, dating, romance and relationships. Other 222 portal themes will be shared including a 222 portal manifestation technique with a twist!
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Heartful – Live Self Love Workshop on 27th February 7:30pm AEDT
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Heartful – Self Love WorkshopHello beautiful soul,
You must be listening and here for the tea on the 222 portal in 2024! Before I go into that I wanted to share with you that next week I’m doing a live self love workshop yes! This month is February or should I say Feb-you-ary and in recent times everyone talks about being mindful… but what about being heartful? Heartful is the live 60 minute workshop I’ll be doing next Tuesday on the 27th at 7:30pm AEDT Sydney time and if you can’t make it, there will be a replay sent out within 24 hours! It only costs $44.44 AUD which is roughly $30 USD.
222 Angel Number MeaningNow let’ s talk about the 222 portal for 2024. 222 is an angel number for balance, trust, cooperation and harmony. Some believe this portal has been open since 2/2 which is the 2nd of February and the 22nd representing 222 is when the energy is at its peak.
Let me break it down for you with themes that arise for the 222 portal in 2024;
222 portal – Love and Partnerships / Masculine and FeminineThis year in particular there is the energy of love and partnerships. During the 222 portal, legendary lover planets, the ultimate power couple Venus and Mars are coming together in the sky. This happens every 2-3 years. Thus in February 2024 with this meeting, you can see it as kicking off a new cycle in terms of love, dating and relationships.
Venus represents feminine energy, and is all about love, beauty, money and harmony.
Mars represents masculine energy and is all about taking action, assertiveness and growth.
This is symbolic of union in relationships as well as balancing masculine and feminine energies.
Themes to consider: sensuality, sexuality, desire, attraction, magnetism and willpower.
The last time Venus and Mars linked up was in March 2022 so it’s worth reflecting on your attitude, approach and actions towards love, partnerships and the balance of feminine and masculine energy.
Not only that this is taking place in a year where we have Aries in the north node (all about independence) and Libra in the south node (all about partnerships).
Manifesting love with the 222 portal in 2024Very well during this time it’s a great to manifest and call in love. What are you desiring in partnership? It’s also good to be discerning about dating around this time because the Venus Mars transit may activate soul contracts: it could be karmic, it could be your soul mate or twin flame or it could be a soul that’s here to activate and teach you.
Relationships during the 222 portal in 2024If you currently have a partner, this transit is a great time to pause and reflect on how you are feeling in your relationship — is it time to rejuvenate and revamp? Reset – getting back on the same page? Refocus – if you’ve been neglecting your relationship and partner as a priority? Recement your connection with romance? There could be the opportunity to respark a relationship, reigniting attraction, being more playful and deepening intimacy, vulnerability and connection.
Breakups and heartache during the 222 portal in 2024If you are going through a break up the 222 portal has beautiful energy around healing and finding your own two feet again. It takes two to tango in a relationship so perhaps it’s prompting reflection on your role and their role in the break up. 222 is also an angel number for peace, so perhaps it’s finding peace within yourself and why the separation has occurred.
Balance 222 portal 2024Individually this portal speaks to us reflecting on balance and harmony within ourselves and our lives especially when the south node is in the sign of the scales Libra.
Where is there an imbalance in your life currently?
What areas of your life require more co-operation or collaboration perhaps?
Creativity and beauty with the 222 portalWe have beauty from Venus and the fire of Mars coming together it’s also a great opportunity to get creative!
How can you creatively represent your manifestation? We know writing and vision boards, how about a painting? A song? A poem? A sculpture?
Perhaps you will be inspired to be amongst beauty and let your beauty shine too.
Duality during the 222 portal in 2024Particularly tuning into the energy of this week it has been very intense and the 222 portal if you are feeling a lot and going through a lot is a beautiful reminder of the duality of life. You can have amazing things going on in your life as well as challenges. You can be happy and sad at the same time.
Duality also reminds us that when we are going through a tough or difficult time, what could be on the other side.
Is a clearing and crumbling taking place in your life to allow the new to be planted and grow?
Is one door closing so that another can open?
222 portal 22 numerology master numberA playful technique to get you in the vibe of the portal is the 2 x 22 manifesting technique. Manifestation is the vibe with the 222 portal given ’22’ itself is a master number known as the ‘master builder’ or ‘master architect’ number.
Master Architect 22 the dreaming as in having and holding a big vision, seeing it through the lens of a bigger picture perspective.
Master Builder 22 the embodied action of bringing ideas and concepts into reality as the builder. It speaks to practicality, making it achievable, breaking it down that’s how things get built! A master builder number is about doing the work to make it happen too.
222 portal manifestation 2 x 22 methodPick a manifestation to focus on and write down a present version affirmation.
For example instead of I am manifesting a partner, write I am so excited about dating and meeting my partner. I feel so loved, happy and grateful.
The portal peaks of course on the 22nd of February but it’s still open for a few after, so if you’re listening it’s not too late! And that 7 dates later it’s the 29th of February because this year happens to be a leap year!
Write down your manifestation down 22 times, twice a day for two days in a row! Alternatively or additionally say it out loud too!
As we know manifestations mean nothing if there isn’t an element of feeling and really believing the manifestation is possible so imbue it with as much feeling and conviction mentally and within your body as possible. My own twist I suggest to the 222 manifesting technique is to think of 22 ways to get started on making your manifestation a reality or dedicating 22 days in a row to taking action towards your manifestation. Two’s company, get together with a friend or loved one and amplify your manifestations by doing a little ritual and celebration of 222 and speaking about it with each other.
Who would’ve thought that spiritual tantrums would offer some profound insight into who you are on a deeper level. This episode unpacks spiritual tantrums and how to navigate spiritual tantrums including perspectives on how to shift the way you see and feel about spiritual tantrums in your personal growth and development journey.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Spiritual Tantrums – All the feelsHello beautiful soul, how have you been feeling this week?
Collectively in human design we’ve had the energy of the feels. Deep feelings.
I’ve observed this within myself as an emotional authority in human design as well as in sessions with clients too.
It’s those heavier, harder hitting feelings. The feelings you can’t run away from or ignore. The acute awareness and pressure of how deeply you are feeling something.
When we feel so much it can bottle up and then come exploding out. At times we don’t know what to do with all these feelings and so accordingly, I thought it would be really interesting to delve into the concept of spiritual tantrums this week.
What are spiritual tantrums?Spiritual tantrums are those moments when our emotions seem to spiral out of control, challenging our ego and inner peace. Things aren’t going the way we want. It renders you feeling powerless, helpless, defeated, deflated and disheartened.
It’s not just children who have tantrums, as adults we do too. Perhaps our inner child within feeling frustrated at how life is going and what is unfolding for us.
Thus a tantrum arises, we want to scream, beg, kick, cry and twist the arm of the universe to have something done exactly in the way we want, how we want it and when we want it. If only! We know life doesn’t work like this.
Even though we know deep down what needs to be done and letting self discipline and self responsibility kick in… no I don’t want to adult today. No I don’t want to be conscious and aware today. No I don’t want to be here now in the present moment. No this sucks, it’s not real, everything I’ve been trying to manifest hasn’t happened yet it’s all fake.
Spiritual tantrum meaningsSometimes the tantrum calls for a deep frustration, rage that has us boiling, figurative steam blowing out of your ears – the ego cries it’s not fair!
Other it calls for retreating into a corner or fetal position sulking and sadness, feeling sorry for oneself – the ego cries poor me.
Some moments you hear yourself whispering but it’s not fair, I did everything I was supposed to. I do all the right things yet nothing – the ego cries I’m feeling entitled.
The ego jumps into default, why is this happening, what did I do to deserve this?
Are spiritual tantrums bad?All valid responses too I might add, we are human after all! When things aren’t going our way it does suck. It can induce anger. It can induce tears.
What spiritual tantrums mean for your growthA spiritual temper tantrum is normal. It’s often a symptom things are changing around you in a way that’s stretching your normal tolerance, it’s uncomfortable, it’s edgy. It’s showing you that you’re going beyond your established limits, to break free often from repetitive patterns and anything else that holds you back. It’s an authentic part of the human experience.
Like most children who have a tantrum, throwing every toy possible out of the cot, getting louder, whining, getting mopier, begging, pleading, bargaining… we hope that through the outburst things will go away, but cooling reality quickly comes into play. You can throw as many tantrums as you want, it doesn’t mean you’ll get your way. It doesn’t mean you’ll get the full undividing attention of the universe.
The universe is your loving parentSeeing the universe as our parent, the most loving and strongest force will not give into our tantrums because the universe and life itself has a grand plan for our greatest growth and expansion. The greatest commitment the universe made to you is taking on the full responsibility to see your highest evolution in this lifetime.
Spiritual tantrums can be healthyHaving a spiritual tantrum from time to time is healthy, in honouring the emotions that arise but we ought to be conscious of how this plays out in our life, if this impacts other people, doing it publicly vs privately within a safe space with support.
Spiritual tantrums journaling promptsCan we see that when we throw a tantrum that this is an invitation from the universe to go deeper within ourselves. The tantrums aren’t bad, they give us an opportunity to get to courageously face our inner turmoil head on and reveal where are needs aren’t being met (by ourselves, not the universe… what if the outward tantrum isn’t to the universe but a mirror to ourselves and perhaps our inner child seeking our full attention.
Perhaps these emotional eruptions are not random; they are messengers, delivering important insights about our inner landscape. Can you ask yourself some questions such as:
What is the underlying cause of my emotional reaction? What is this really about?
What unmet needs are driving these intense feelings?
What patterns or beliefs am I holding onto that no longer serve me?
Am I feeling empowered or hindered?
Cause of spiritual tantrumsThe answers will vary from person to person but often the root cause can stem from unmet expectations. The clash and contrast between our internal expectations and external reality. Maybe it’s a result of spiritual bypassing, ignoring and pretending things are okay, that we are at peace and not honouring the truth and shadows within bubbling to the surface.
What to do when having a spiritual tantrumTake inspiration from dealing with tantrums whether toddlers or adults (I’ve seen my fair share back in the day especially working in retail!) that time out, taking a step back and space can do wonders, that kindness and love help. That guidance and talking to someone can be soothing.
Spiritual tantrums mindset shiftIn closing of this episode, amongst my own musings, some pearls of perspective to share to help you shift out of spiritual tantrums:
- That underneath it all we do are not in control of the timing and timelines of life, the universe is. We don’t know for sure what will or could happen in 5 minutes let alone a month or 5 years.
- That sometimes we want to run when we haven’t mastered walking yet. That maybe you haven’t done all the necessary ground work yet.
- You can’t eat non stop or you would get bored and sick. You need time to chew, swallow, digest and have a break even if the banquet is incredible.
- The age old quote: “Sometimes what screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how is it supposed to be.” Perhaps the universe has the knowledge and vision of what is in our best interests and not ourselves.
Spiritual tantrums are a stark, tough yet beautiful reminder that the path of spiritual growth and development is not always smooth or linear; it’s messy, raw, and very human. By meeting spiritual tantrums with curiosity, self awareness and compassion we can use them to further springboard our growth and development. May we continue to honour the full spectrum of all our emotions to be more aligned and authentic in life.
This episode is all about the Aquarius Super New Moon taking place February 2024 this week ushering in the Year of the Dragon. Phi shares updates on the energetic themes at play which are intense (planetary pile up in Aquarius) and shares soothing affirmations and journaling prompts to tap into the energy of the Aquarius Super New Moon too.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode Introduction – Aquarius Super New Moon February 2024Hello beautiful soul,
Well well well we are in for a cosmic ride! Last week I spoke about the upcoming Lunar New Year and just before it to end the week is the Aquarius New Moon that precedes it. The 9th in the northern hemisphere and 10th in the southern if you’re in Australia like me. It’s not just any new moon, it happens to be a super new moon. As it’s a new moon it’s not visible in the sky, so think of this as a blank canvas and reset.
Astrologically there’s a lot going on and I always like to channel and distill the important parts that I think are relevant to you listening to this podcast. I won’t beat around the bush by saying off the bat this isn’t a grounding, nourish new moon this is an electric charged, potent super new moon pushing into the new out of your comfort zone. After all it’s an Aquarius Super New Moon bringing in the year of the Dragon for 2024.
It really is all about Aquarius with this energy, you’ve got a planetary pile up; the sun, moon here, Pluto, mercury with Venus and and Mars to join too.
An energetic reset and a whole lotta energies!This super new moon you can think of an energetic reset as I’ve said earlier some deem it the true new year. The super new moon aspect think of it just amplifying and magnifying the energies so things feel more intense. Your emotions feel more intense. Your thoughts feel more intense.
More over with this super new moon what I’m feeling into is funky, and yes uncomfortable and unpredictable. There’s a feeling of restlessness in the air. A sprinkle of existentialism.
This is set in motion for a first in our lifetime event when Mercury (the planet of communication) enters Aquarius and aligns with Pluto (the truth teller). In addition to that we have the new moon in a challenging position squaring Uranus (the unexpected) in the sign of Taurus (fixed aspects, stubborn nature).
Expect shakes up. Truths to come up. There’s tension. There’s pressure. Things from the past re-emerge once again (to be cleared). It’s this feeling and sensation of wanting to break free and we are being challenged to let go, surrender and move forward with courage and authenticity.
Communication and Confrontation with this Aquarius Super New Moon February 2024With this influence we may need to say and speak up what we don’t often want to, confronting things to say out loud (Aquarius and Mercury together are all about communication, ideologies).
Aquarians are known to have a tough exterior and it feels like with all these planetary placements, it’s been astrological organised to have a cracking open experience and sensation which can be painful at first but ultimately for the best to open us up, unravelling deeper layers of ourselves, to shed what no longer serves us.
This is about confronting ourselves and being willing to go beneath the surface, into our psyche and subconscious. In this we can find the underlying cause, the root of the problem which is the medicine and the healing. If you know of Chiron (the wounded healer) is inching closer towards the North Node (fate and destiny) which will culminate in April so for now we are getting a taster of intense confronting healing taking place (can’t hide with the astrological energies at play).
There is tension here because the moon rules our inner world, our emotions yet it’s in Aquarius known to be more emotionally detached and the archetype of the thinker.
Astrology and Human Design Align: RevolutionIt’s not all dark and heavy, unexpected things aren’t always negative in nature though that’s where our mind jumps too it can also be positive. It’s really about the emergence of astrology aligning with human design: the theme of this new moon is revolution, think of it as your rebirth. Through the means of Aquarius which is going introspective, doing the thought work.
Aquarius: Head vs HeartWhen the strong emotions come up from surprises and the past, the Aquarian energy in the air asks to bring objectivity into it – noticing where is there a strong emotional charge, using the mind to get curious and investigate further. A meeting of the heart and the mind. Finding the right balance (as is where the name Aquarius stems from the latin meaning of water-carrier and the symbolism of the water-bearer).
An exercise that may help you during this Aquarius super new moon is when you’re making decisions imagine scales or weights a balance. On one side is your heart and the other your head. If you’re really heady into something, imagine counterbalancing with what your heart is saying and vice versa if it feels really heart driven also give your mind and opportunity to offer some thoughts this will give you a holistic perspective on a situation.
Aquarius PositivityThis new moon is going to help us be less rigid and more flexible with everything that may arise. Rolling with the punches. Aquarius plays the long term game, so whilst it feels tough and sticky now, it’s ultimately benefiting for your future and what’s to come. There’s optimism and hope within it (as we known Aquarius is about the collective, for the people, social justice, equality).
Aquarius Super New Moon February 2024 AffirmationsI’m really being called to share some soothing affirmations which can help during this period and I’ll phrase them as I am speaking to you but of course when you recite out loud or in your mind you’ll say “I”.
You are capable of handling whatever comes your way.
You are safe and supported even in times of uncertainty.
You are resilient, every challenge makes you stronger.
You are worthy of love, compassion and kindness always and especially during tough times. You are worthy of your own love, compassion and kindness that you also offer to others.
You have the power to find moments of peace, calm and joy despite chaos and shake ups.
Aquarius Super New Moon February 2024 Journaling PromptsJournaling questions to close out this episode to make the most of the super new moon energy;
Has anything surprising or unexpected come to the surface this week for you? If so is there a general theme that emerges? How can going deeper on this theme help you move forward in 2024?
With any challenges or obstacles that have arisen so far, what would happen if you now come up with 3 different approaches you haven’t had before
1: Out of the box thinking
2: Creativity led
3: Unconventional
Reflect from the 1st of January until now, is there anything that has happened or come up that you’d like to set the intention to let go of, clear and start afresh?
If you have set any intentions from the 1st of January do they still feel in alignment at this point of time? Have those intentions been acted upon and how are you tracking?
What seeds and intentions do you want to set up for the year ahead at this moment in time taking advantage of the super new moon and lunar dragon energy too?
When was the last time in your life you experienced something unexpectedly? What happened, how did you feel, how did you navigate it and what was the end result?
Right now in your life where do you need a shake up or revolution and how can you go about this?
What would be really uncomfortable to talk about in your life right now? Why is that so? What insights does this give you about yourself and where you are in your life right now?
What support systems or resources can you lean on during times of uncertainty or change?
To close out this episode, give those journal prompts a good contemplation, it’s not really about the answer but the thought process that goes behind what automatically is being prompted within you. In true Aquarian nature, yes use your mind but don’t forget to let your body feel all that is coming up and release these feelings with compassion.
Until next time beautiful soul, love and positivity.
This episode is all about tapping into the Lunar New Year 2024 energy of the Wood Dragon. Drawing parallels between the lunar energies, Chinese Zodiac and personal development, you will be taken on a journey to reflect on your own life exploring personal power and your emotions. The episode concludes with a meditation to connect with your inner dragon.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode Introduction – Lunar New Year Wood DragonHello Beautiful Soul,
Can you believe it’s already February. Personally for me this is the fastest January I’ve had go by in my life, most years January feels quite slow and paced but not in 2024! Speaking of which going by new years we have the upcoming Lunar New Year on the 10th in the Chinese Zodiac sign of the Dragon. This episode is all about dragon energy and personal power.
Chinese Zodiac Dragon SymbolismThe dragon represents power, success, good fortune, courage in the Chinese Zodiac.
Chinese Zodiac Wood ElementWithin the subset of dragon, the element this year is that of wood. The last time we had the year of the dragon was in 2012 however that was the year of the water dragon. The wood element in the Chinese Zodiac is rooted in that of mighty trees.
Wood is about expansion, growth, pushing, changing, movement and progress. Wood of all the elements is alive and dynamic.
Wood is patient, grounded and down to earth.
Wood has structure: strong, reliable, organised, diving deep into the details and inner workings.
Wood seeks direction. Wood grows in the dark and moves towards the light. Just as humans do, we can grow from the darkness: the struggles and challenges. As our highest selves we move towards the light, we remember the light, we remember we come from both the dark and light.
Wood is sociable, think of the underground networks of trees of the interconnection, interaction, cooperation.
Wood is associated with the Spring Season – freshness, new beginnings, coming back to life.
Wood Dragon EmotionsThe emotion of wood in the Chinese Zodiac is anger and frustration. Think of it being pent up, repression, to become wooden, hard, inflexible instead of swaying with the wind, snapping in the wind. Repressed anger comes to the surface as sarcasm, bitterness and being cynical.
Drawing from the lineage of the wood element, in the Chinese Zodiac this is linked to the element of water. From a Chinese Zodiac perspective, anger is rooted in fear. Anger is in response to fear. Anger speaks from a place of “I am scared and I need to protect myself.”
Wood Dragon – Traditional Chinese MedicineThe body parts in Traditional Chinese Medicine associated with wood are the liver and gallbladder. These organs are in charge of detoxification. So of course repressing anger, it builds up, it isn’t cleared but stuck energetically in the body. When we want to escape from our feelings or ignore them what happens societally speaking? We turn to alcohol and substances that greatly impact the liver.
Wood Dragon ReikiDrawing from research found through the lens of reiki it says if we can’t turn aggression into expression, purpose, fuel and striving towards bettering ourselves and goals that it can lead to gout, arthritis, stiff body parts, constipation, auto immune or auto aggressive disorders. Interestingly, these conditions are more often found in women, and in patriarchal cultures women have less opportunity than men do to express themselves, especially when it comes to carrying through with an idea or venting their anger.
Source: Reiki Evolution
Wood Dragon – Perspective on AngerAn interesting perspective next time you feel angry at any point this year, ask yourself where is the fear here, what am I scared of? For example boundaries, being angry someone crossed it because the fear of what happens when they do – it leaves you vulnerable and at a disadvantage.
Ask yourself have I been able to express my anger in a healthy and appropriate way?
Anger is powerful weaving this all in, when we have sacred rage, there’s heat, there’s energy we take action, it motivates and drives us. Anger is something we can also hold over people in the shadow because it makes us feel powerful. Anger can give us direction, do we use our anger to move forward and away from the shadow towards the light (freedom).
Wood Dragon – Emotional AlchemyIt’s about transmuting the raw nature of anger into being assertive. Of course what’s being channeled through as I connect the dots to what I initially did for the 2024 energy is that of boundaries. When we are angry we decide, I don’t like this, I am not putting up with this, I am moving away from this.
The shadow of wood? The focus on expansion and growth can lose sight of the groundedness, rapid expansion in the name of ego. With ego our anger can turn to revenge and retribution – feelings of hatred, rage, aggression and fury. With ego our anger can turn to being and feeling a victim instead of stepping into our personal power.
The key with the wood element: flexibility – not being too rigid and stuck where you aren’t move but not too much that there’s no foundation and it’s easily broken. Having just spoken about power…
PowerI think the term ‘power’ is interesting because it’s quite an emotionally and energetically charged word. Power can be seen as positive or negative depending on your life experiences and upbringing. There are distinctions within power, spiritual power – that is of self and your inner world, it could be physical power of strength, it could be cultural power – the influence of the media, social institutions, systematic power such as hierarchy, religions and politics.
Wood Dragon – Spiritual PowerIn the context of spirituality power is framed around your energy, the force within you. With lunar new year let’s take inspiration from the dragon, how can you unleash and tap into your inner dragon? Dragons are considered powerful from a Chinese perspective because they have cosmic breath which is pure life force energy to create and transform. Dragons are believed to be ascended serpents which takes root in kundalini energy.
Wood Dragon – Human DesignI personally love this because I see that link to human design for generators and manifesting generators especially – when you feel most alive that is when you are most magnetic, your sacral, pure life force energy. From there anything is possible, you become magnetic to manifest, you have that flow to take inspired action and do the work.
The sacral isn’t just limited to generators and manifesting generators, we can tap into our sacral and life force energy even as a manifestor, reflector or projector too.
Your Inner DragonDragon energy is power and strength because it is to be resilient. Dragons can survive in all sorts of environments whether its land, sea or sky. With their cosmic breath they can create, they are powerful manifestors. Reflect on moments in your life where you demonstrated strength and resilience. How can you channel and cultivate this inner strength, similar to a dragon facing challenges?
Your Inner Dragon – AuthorityDragon energy is powerful because of their commanding presence creates authority. What does authority mean to you? How do you perceive your own authority and leadership potential? Reflect on your past leadership achievements, no matter how small. How can you acknowledge and celebrate your successes as a leader? Imagine yourself possessing a commanding presence similar to a dragon. How can you enhance your presence in various aspects of your life, whether it’s at work, in relationships, or within your community?
Your Inner Dragon – Balance of Masculine and Feminine EnergiesDragon is yang energy (masculine and active) complemented by Phoenix energy which is (feminine and flow). Tapping into the yang masculine energy, how can you adopt a more strategic approach in your decision-making and planning, both in your personal and professional life? With these ancient wisdoms, how can you draw upon wisdom that has been perhaps shared with you?
Dragon VitalityDragons are known for energy that gives way to rebirth and revitalisation. What very much comes to mind is that quote on Instagram:
“A lot of people feel burnt out because they feel like they’re doing too much when actually they are doing too little of the things that make make them feel alive, too little of the things that matter.” What are the things that make you feel alive and matter to you?
Year of the Dragon 2024 Opportunities Dragon energy is prosperity and what I’m really channeling through is opportunities. How can you create more opportunities in your life? What opportunities are untapped within yourself, life, career and network currently? I think we are also so used to focusing on the lack and scarcity when it comes to money, so let’s flip this: reflect on the milestones and achievements in your pursuit of prosperity. How can you celebrate these victories, acknowledging the progress you’ve made?
Wood Dragon 2024 Meditation To end this podcast episode I’d love to invite you to take part in a meditation to connect with your inner dragon.
Begin by finding a quiet and comfortable space. You may sit or lie down in a relaxed position or what I’m really channeling for effectiveness is if you can, to stand up doing this meditation. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to center yourself. Inhale slowly through your nose, hold for a moment, and let it all out through your mouth, we are channeling the dragon after all. Release your breath as you think a dragon would. Allow any tension to dissolve with each breath.
Draw upon the element of wood. Imagine grounding into the earth as if a strong mighty tree. Feel the solid ground beneath you, supporting and grounding you. Feel yourself putting down networks of roots within Mother Earth. Picture the energy of the earth rising through your body with each breath, creating a strong foundation.
Now I want you to set the intention of invoking the presence of your inner dragon. Visualise a warm light surrounding you. This light transforms into a magnificent dragon, coiled around you protectively. What colour is the dragon? It’s scales? How does it feel to look into the eyes of the dragon? How do you feel around this dragon?
Feel a sense of familiarity and trust as you recognise this as your inner dragon. Imagine the dragon’s breath as a radiant rainbow or golden energy. Inhale deeply, drawing in this powerful energy through your breath. Feel it entering your lungs, circulating through your body, and filling you with strength, courage, and vitality.
Imagine the dragon’s energy merging with yours. Feel the strength and power of the dragon infusing every cell of your being. Sense the warmth and light spreading through your body, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Feel the dragon energy igniting a fire within you—an unyielding determination and belief in your abilities. Sense the courage and confidence flowing through you. As you bask in this powerful energy, know that you are capable of overcoming challenges and manifesting your dreams.
Now, in the presence of the dragon energy, I want you to feel truly interconnected as one with your inner dragon. Imagine your third eye merging with the eye of the dragon. What clear visions and intentions are you being shown? What are the next steps you need to take? What advice does the dragon have for you? How your dragon communicates to you may be hearing a voice, perhaps seeing a picture or symbol, a feeling within your body.
After you’ve received what you need to see, hear, feel, sense of perceive feel the bliss and gratitude you have for your inner dragon thanking it for it’s guidance, wisdom and protection. Know that your inner dragon is always within you, ready to be activated and connected to. Slowly bring your awareness back to the present moment. Slowly bring your awareness back into your body. Take a few deep breaths, gradually returning to your surroundings. When you feel ready, gently open your eyes.
Tapping into Wood Dragon 2024 Energy In conclusion, exploring the energy of the Lunar New Year Wood Dragon offers us profound insights into our own personal power and potential. The dragon, with its majestic presence and mythical qualities, serves as a powerful metaphor for strength, transformation, and prosperity.
Much like the dragon, we have the capacity to face challenges with courage and navigate the ever-changing tides of life with strength and power.
The dragon’s association with good fortune encourages us to reflect on the prosperity of life and what we have already achieved on the path to having more.
Each one of us has an inner dragon which is pure life force and untapped potential ready to be unleashed. Happy Lunar New Year Beautiful Soul, until next time, love and positivity.
Happy Human Design New Year. It’s officially 2024, new year in terms of human design. Dive deep into the energy of the human design new year: fantasy and contraction. Discover how to tap into these energies and how imagination can be a powerful tool to utilise. Phi also touches on how pleasure and sex magic (magick) can amplify this human design new year energy too.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode Introduction – Human DesignHappy Human Design New Year my love!
It is now the new year in terms of human design woohoo which is what this episode will be about however like I said in the energy update for 2024, for some you may not be feeling it yet and that’s so okay, however if you are that may be a sign you resonate and align with human design energies or even astrology with the shift in Pluto to Aquarius (a new 20 year chapter) as I mentioned in Episode 59.
If you don’t know human design, I have lots of information on my website, a podcast episode 31 – What is Human Design. You can book in a foundational human design reading with me through my website or purchase a human design blueprint. I’ve also been doing 2024 readings, energetically looking into your year ahead from the lenses of human design and energy. To book head to my website phidang.com
Before we begin my heart is so FULL and so EXCITED to announce that the Recharge and Renew Retreat is sold out! It did in 3 days which is absolutely incredible and I am definitely looking to run it again next year and more in Australia too so if you’re interested send me a message on Instagram @thephidang or email me hi@phidang.com to be put on the updates list.
Human Design New Year Motivation – HeartThe way human design sees the new year is a whole new cycle of experience. Human Design New Year for many is very much about intentions over resolutions or goals because the majority of the population have an open heart, which is the centre for motivation and willpower.
When it’s open you have inconsistent access to your own motivation and willpower therefore if you do happen to have an open heart, please don’t beat yourself, get annoyed and frustrated when you seemingly seem so motivated one minute and the the next not, that’s how you are designed and built to be in human design.
From my experience doing hundreds of reasons, it is about unlearning the societal expectation to always be working towards something and instead getting you to shift into the being. We all have some seasons, move and flow with your energy instead of blocking it.
How your open centres impact your Human Design New YearNow add in all the other open centres and other things will pop up like the open ajna beating yourself up for not being able to land on concrete intentions/goals (even though you’re not supposed to and be mentally fluid) or the open root the centre for stress, feeling all this immense pressure on yourself to do something in relation to the new year or for manifestors, projectors and reflectors having an open sacral leads to having challenges prioritising with regards to the relationship of over promising when caught up in the sacral energy of generators and manifesting generators.
Of course there comes into play structure and self discipline but that’s a conversation for a different day and again with human design it’s so personal to your unique energetic blueprint so if you’re interested let’s chat!
Practical Example Human Design New Year Energy Flow (Strategy and Authority)I have an open heart in human design and how it played out for me was that last year when in September when I was in Bali, I had a strong full body urge to run a retreat. I let it marinade, life got busy and then it came to the end of the year when it kept popping back up (hello Universe!). However then another open heart centre trait I started to question myself with fears like what if no one comes to the retreat at the beginning of this year.
Using my human design strategy, I responded to what was being presented – the universe continually giving me signs about running a retreat from friends, clients and community. Literally so obvious whether it was the sign of repeated posts on Instagram or even walking on the street hearing people talking about retreats just as I walked past.
I had to ride the waves as an emotional authority and then boom it was like lightning. As a manifesting generator in the lead up to the retreat I was waking up at 5/6 am and sleeping at 11pm/midnight because I was so in the flow and inspired to working on the retreat. Using my human design strategy, I responded then followed my emotional authority and the result was magnetism as a mani gen with the retreat being a buzz, selling out 90% in the first 24 hours and our final beautiful joining us within 72 hours!
What is the Human Design New Year energy?So what is this very energy that starts the Human Design New Year? The energy that kickstarts the Human Design New Year is known as Fantasy or Contraction. It’s all about feelings with this one. It’s standing on the threshold of unexplored territory and unlimited potential.
There’s a palpable sense of anticipation, a fluttering excitement that dances in the chest, as if the possibilities are endless and the canvas of life is untouched, empty awaiting for you to do something with it.
The air feels charged with a mix of hope and maybe even uncertainty, much like the first rays of dawn breaking through the darkness.
New beginnings often bring a surge of motivation and optimism, offering the promise of growth, expansion, and the chance to redefine and reinvent.
In the lead up the past is acknowledged but not a burden, and the future is an open book waiting to be written.
Whether marked by a new job, a move, a relationship, a change, an exciting event to come or a personal project, the sensation of embarking on a new chapter is something to relish in this week.
How to tap into Human Design New Year EnergyHow to tap into this delicious, scrumptious energy? Well play into new. What’s something new you can do for yourself? New recipe to cook? Taking up something new that you’ve always wanted to? New way to travel to work?
Play into anticipation. What are you looking forward to this year? If you haven’t got some things to look forward to, that is something to plan! The simple visual and energy I’m getting here it’s like ordering something at a restaurant and waiting for it to come out. That anticipation for when the meal finally arrives – you see it in front of you, your mouth wants to drool, you can smell how good it is, imagine the crunch of biting into something crispy. The other is that of well a sensual nature. Desiring someone. What it feels like to be with them. To touch them. When their lips meet yours. The anticipation is the chemistry and tension in the air. The banter. The flirting. The foreplay.
Human Design & Sex Magic (Magick)Play into sensuality. There is a field of manifestation that is called sex magic “sex magick”. Sensual energy is a potent force that can be harnessed, focused and directed towards your manifestation. Sensual energy is life force energy, it’s that sacral womb energy. Sex is life energy because it creates… life for example with children. Think of your sexual energy as the seeds and the universe as the fertile womb. You can also think of it of pleasure driven mindfulness.
Channeling that towards your dreams and desires is akin to giving life and energy towards your dreams and desires. For example when you are aroused this week that’s creation energy in itself, imagine directing that energy towards your dreams and desires. Again it’s about the anticipation and holding that, a state of maximum tension and holding it. Think of the technique of ‘edging’ when you feel like you’re about to orgasm, backing off, building up, backing off. Teasing. Then ‘detaching’ and letting go with release, ‘orgasm’ that climatic state. You could create a beautiful ritual to get in the mood with candles, indulge in self care – a warm hot bath, oils, textures.
If you and your partner have a shared dream in mind, you could consider asking your partner if they want to do the same, I mean it’s about having fun here! This is about experiencing pleasure and directing that energy whether it’s self or with a partner. Visualise the energy radiating from your pelvis merging with your dreams and desires or even powerfully shooting towards.
Human Design & PleasureYour dreams don’t have to be of a sexual nature to turn you on… this is about pure life energy that sensation of not just living but being truly alive. In this field of manifestation safety is the number one thing. Feeling safe to feel turned on within your mind and body.
We need to feel safe in order to mentally let go and be in the moment when we are intimately connecting with ourselves or another. If at any time this does not feel good or safe, do not do it. There are so many other ways to give energy to your dreams and desires. Pleasure isn’t just sexual, it could be an experience like being in the ocean, feeling the sunshine on your skin, spoonfuls of gooey chocolate cake, the refreshing sip of lemonade. Even exercise can turn us on think pelvic floor muscles, hip bridges and thrusts.
Deep breathing can also bring us into a state of pleasure in our being. Full, long, slow deep breaths down to your womb and belly, holding and creating energy there and releasing each breath towards your dreams and desires.
Pleasure is presence.
Human Design New Year ImaginationAll these feelings of desire and dreaming need an outlet. It’s imagination. Imagination is a powerful tool. Albert Einstein said “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” William Arthur Ward said “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it.” Our imagination is something that is actually active 24 hours, 7 days a week… whether we are awake or even dreaming/processing in our sleep.
You might say oh I’m not creative or imaginative yet observe your mind. It’s the natural state of the human mind to imagine the worst case scenario, why and how everything might go wrong… I mean your mind is even creating imaginative things about you. Why you aren’t good enough. Why you’re this kind of person. Why you don’t have that. As Walt Disney says “worry is a waste of imagination.” Channel your imagination into a different energy and frequency. Instead of what could go wrong… what could go right and how that unfolds for you.
Human Design New Year ShadowThe shadow of this energy is it remains a fantasy. Too Dreamy. Spacey. Delusional, no anchor to reality whatsoever. As Les Brown so powerfully said, “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
Human Design New Year Manifestation DetachmentThe other side is obsession and being so focused on your desires that nothing else matters and your whole being and existence is consumed of it. Thus ties in a common manifestation principle of detachment. Not just in theory “detaching” and saying you don’t care but a genuine, I’m at peace and I’ll be okay if this does or doesn’t happen. That’s when the magic happens because your happiness and existence doesn’t lie in something outside you, it’s within you. Letting go of expectations. Anticipation is not the same as expectation.
I had two distinct channeled messages for you listening. Please use your discernment and take what resonates.
Human Design New Year Manifestation DetachmentThe other side is obsession and being so focused on your desires that nothing else matters and your whole being and existence is consumed of it. Thus ties in a common manifestation principle of detachment. Not just in theory “detaching” and saying you don’t care but a genuine, I’m at peace and I’ll be okay if this does or doesn’t happen. That’s when the magic happens because your happiness and existence doesn’t lie in something outside you, it’s within you. Letting go of expectations. Anticipation is not the same as expectation.
I had two distinct channeled messages for you listening. Please use your discernment and take what resonates.
Channeled and intuitive Human Design New Year MessagesOne branch says less is more, and to really check in with why you want something. It’s one thing to desire something and manifest it but as we all know manifesting isn’t just wishful thinking, we have to take inspired action. Even then the vibe is not to be “entitled” because whilst I truly believe hard work always pays off, when and how isn’t in our control, that is in the hands of the universe trusting in perfect divine timing always and that what is meant for you, is yours, you cannot mess it up and it cannot be taken away from you.
The other says go for more because you are shrinking yourself and watering your desires down. Ignite that flame! Shoot for the moon and if you miss you’ll end up amongst the stars. This is about overcoming fears and getting out of your own way. You’re allowed to be a dreamer as this very energy gives you permission to do so, and whether you have it defined in your chart or not collectively we are all tapping into this energy this week.
A message thread for both branches was that it’s your job to dream, have, hold the vision and take inspired action, it’s the universe’s job to listen and figure out the how and transmit that message to you through signs and for you to receive by connecting to your heart and intuition. Another Albert Einstein goodie ““Logic will get you from A to Z; imagination will get you everywhere.”
I had two distinct channeled messages for you listening. Please use your discernment and take what resonates.
Human Design New Year MagicThank you beautiful soul for joining me on this exploration of the Human Design New Year energy and the enchanting realm of fantasy, imagination and contraction. As we wrap up today’s episode, I want to leave you with a lasting mantra: Embrace the magic and the aphrodisiac of all the potential and possibilities already within you.
Allow yourself to dream big, to envision a future that reflects the most aligned and authentic version of yourself. Dreaming and fantasy aren’t just about escaping reality; it’s about giving yourself permission and the courage to let your imagination run wild, and propel you forward. It’s about being committed to making it your reality through inspired action and tuning into your internal navigation system: your intuition.
Wishing you a Happy Human Design New Year, anything can happen this year and that is very exciting indeed. Love & Positivity.
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In this January 2024 Energy Update podcast, we dive into the cosmic currents shaping our world. Join Phi as she explores the heightened celestial activity, with a special focus on solar flares and how that can spiritually influence those sensitive to energy. Discover the profound implications of Pluto’s shift from Capricorn into Aquarius.
January 2024 Energy Update SynopsisGain insights into how these astrological events of solar flares and Pluto’s transit into Aquarius from Capricorn impact our personal and collective energies, as well as find guidance on navigating this dynamic cosmic landscape.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
January 2024 Energy IntroductionHi Beautiful Soul,
This week in the cosmos, the collective there is so much energetic activity! Radical changes are about. If you’re feeling different and you don’t quite know what is is, I’m here to reassure you that you’re not crazy, you’re not broken and something isn’t wrong. It’s the collective energy and shifts taking place right now as I’m speaking mid January 2024.
If you’re like me you’ve noticed a shift and change in your personal energy and disturbances in your sleep, I noticed that from the beginning of last week on the 8th of January. Maybe you feel really buzzed, wired and plugged in so to speak or exhausted, grouchy, even a big moody. Maybe you’re oscillating between the two states!
Right now there’s a lot happening that I feel called to explore and share with you listening. We’ve got the backdrop of the last few episodes culminating to the Human Design New Year coming up. The two other factors right now I want to discuss is the pivotal shift of Pluto changing signs from Capricorn to Aquarius, which takes place this year in 2024 until 2044. What’s also come through and something I never really paid attention to as much until now, which is the influence of the Sun and solar flare activity on our energy.
What Pluto represents spiritually astrologicallyLet’s start with Pluto. This tiny planet packs a punch and is going to greatly influence the next 20 years of what we see unfolding collectively by making a once-in-a-lifetime transition into the sign of Aquarius from Capricorn on January 20th. This is a new collective chapter that will unfold leading to great shifts for everyone on a societal level and personally.
I like to think of Pluto as the dark horse of the planets. It’s ruled by Hades and the Underworld (throwback to the Hercules movie!). It’s mysterious. Pluto likes to move slowly and subtly, the changes creep in and build up. Pluto is on the outer edge of the solar system, and likes to take its time staying in a sign anywhere between 12 to 30 years. Ultimately it takes 248 years to move through the whole zodiac! It’s very much seen as a generational influence because of this.
On a personal level Pluto is the planet of shadow work, the hidden, the repressed, the unseen – follow it’s timing imagine knowing someone for 1 year vs 20 years… you really get to know someone. Things will emerge you never knew over time. Pluto is transformation, the phoenix, pain into power, composting negativity and gunk into goodness.
Pluto in Capricorn Wrap Up SummarySince 2008 Pluto has been in Capricorn entering our collective era with the global recession. The chapter of Pluto in Capricorn was about the tension of conformity and tradition as well as career, we’ve seen over the last 15 years a shift on how we define success and achievement especially off the back of the pandemic. It led to new career orientated changes, the recession created new start ups such as Uber and Airbnb with a greater focus on social media (creating even more career choices and paths).
Now Pluto is moving into Aquarius. We had a sneak peak of this in 2023 when Pluto was temporarily in Aquarius from March to June 2023 last year. This first movement is a dip again because Pluto will temporarily go back into Capricorn around September before returning and staying in Aquarius from mid November 2024 until 2044.
What Pluto in Aquarius means spiritually astrologicallyAquarius rules justice, equality, social connections, community, humanity, innovation, technology, science and independence. So what can we expect? Collective themes of freedom, revolution, social activism as well as major scientific, medical, and technological discoveries. There will be a focus on inequality, injustices leading to power shifts, systematic and structural changes for independence, equality and emancipation. The spirit of rebellion and revolution.
What happened last time Pluto was in Aquarius?Historically, the last time Pluto was in Aquarius was from 1778 to 1798 which historically saw the people movement. People over systems. We saw royalty and monarchs fall such as fall of Marie Antoinette and the last king of France Louis XVI during the French revolution.
What also happened was the declaration of independence and the introduction of the American flag and this is interesting with the American elections taking place this year. Cyclical yes! No doubt America as we know it will be different by the end of this era.
It was the beginning of the industrial revolution and establishment of the stock exchange in Britain (again look at what’s started to emerge the era of the people’s own money system and power shift from financial institutions with the creation of cryptocurrency).
The Pluto in Aquarius chapter also had the starting of movements for women’s rights in the French Revolution with playwright activist Olympe due Gouges (O lamp de gouuuuj) writing the Declaration of the Rights of Woman and Female Citizen, which did not come to fruition as hoped and she was executed for doing so. Captain Cook also discovered Australia and New Zealand. A huge authority figure also taken down and killed in Hawaii.
Pluto into Aquarius and TechnologySo what can we expect in the modern day for Pluto’s shift from Capricorn into Aquarius?
Free thinking, more voices emerging because technology has allowed everyone to have a voice. So many platforms available now whether it’s creating your own website, social media, live streaming, podcasting — for sure we will see more opinions and thought leaders emerging. Whilst it’s not so much about the monarchy now, there’s a shift of power from the idealised such as celebrities and blurring of that to more influencers, and grassroots community leaders, the people’s people.
The role of technology is sure to expand with the kick off AI. Technology helping bring us more together, online communities and even in person should AI see more automation and less hands on human work. Amongst spiritual circles we are in the Age of Aquarius which ushers in the return and rising of the divine feminine (again coinciding historically with feminine movements as previously stated).
How Pluto in Aquarius will affect youHow will this personally affect you? If you do deeper human design readings with me look at your rebirth section. Astrologically look at your natal chart and see where you have Aquarius placements as well as Scorpio because Scorpio is ruled by Pluto.
In relation to the collective, Pluto may excavate and bring to light things to do with social connections, community, care for the collective in terms of themes such as justice, equality and fairness.
What about your inner rebel, your voice, your influence? How do you use technology? How can you get involved in your community? What community issues do you care about? What’s your relationship to your feminine energy?
Are you due a feminine energy rebirth and rising as have so many women after being in our masculine for so long whether it’s to be successful in our careers, thinking we have to force and hustle our way into what we want or protecting ourselves? The balance between masculine and feminine, being interconnected yet independent too.
What is the spiritual meaning of solar flares?Whewww so we’ve talked Pluto now let’s talk about solar flares and solar storms in terms of spirituality. They are of note because they are to do with the Sun. Spiritually the sun rules our day to day, how we see ourselves, our ego, our self esteem and our confidence. The impact of the sun is undeniable also to our moods such as seasonal depression from the lack of sun and perhaps constant rain or shift from Summer to Winter. Mystical Yogi Saghuru talks about solar flares and activity being linked to consciousness.
I’m not a scientist by any means but from my research and understanding: Solar flares are sudden charged bright bursts of energy and radiation coming from the Sun. That energy comes primarily from the Sun’s magnetic fields and is released (a build up of magnetic energy).
January 2024 and solar flare activityI came to awareness of them because at the beginning of last week my sleep patterns randomly and suddenly changed. I couldn’t sleep. I noticed I was having more visions than usual. That’s when I found out around that time was strong solar storm and flare activity classed X (the strongest). It actually caused a temporary but strong radio blackout across parts of South America, Central America and the Pacific Ocean, according to the U.S. Space Weather Prediction Centre. Not only that 2024 started with the biggest flare up in 6 years!
Just like how the moon can impact us, you may or may not feel the impacts of solar activity.
2024 2025 Solar Flare Spiritual2024 and 2025 are set to be the maximum of the latest cycle which is the 25th which started in December 2019 coinciding with the beginning of the pandemic. Overall this is the most in 20 years of sun activity.
According to Russian scientist A.L. Tchijevsky, 80% of the most significant human events occurred during a 5 year period surrounding the peak of solar activity.
One can look to the Carrington Effect which took place on September 2, 1859 where history’s greatest solar storm caused havoc to technology, communication systems going haywire and strange displays of the aurora in tropical places. Researchers have estimated that a Carrington-class event today would result in between $0.6 and $2.6 trillion in damages to the U.S. alone, according to NASA spaceflight.
Spirituality and Solar Flare ImpactsSpiritually speaking solar flares and activity are an ascension process as they say. It spiritually shifts from your physical body to your light body – think in terms of your energy body, higher dimensions, astral body, expansion outside your physical energy field, connection point of spirituality, chakra energy centred — famous symbol of the merkaba 3D 8 pointed star mer light ka spirit ba body ancient sacred geometry, chariot of light.
Receiving more light, higher levels of consciousness, illuminating what needs to come to the surface even old previous things you dealt with and thought were resolved will resurface.
Feeling the impacts? It doesn’t come as a surprise, even ancient civilisations like the Aztecs and Mayans tracked the sun. Our bodies have an electrical charge present in every cell through ions.
How to remedy solar flare symptomsSo what to do if you are feeling the impacts of solar flares?
Prioritise yourself. Focus on y our energy, what is nourishing, feeding and giving you energy vs what is depleting it. It’s likely temporary and if it lingers, feels intense unbearable and affects you on a day to day level seek the help of a professional medical practitioner.
Meditation is a great way to tap into your energy and receive insights.
Salt is great to cleanse and soothe, think a bath with lots of magnesium or a swim in the ocean if possible.
Minimal caffeine and alcohol which can already make us feel more wired and anxious.
Grounding time in nature, reduce technology and screens. I’m getting visuals of child’s pose with your third eye to the ground or even the pose where you are lying face down hands to your sides.
It’s also been suggested solar storms impact our pineal gland (third eye) which is responsible for melatonin that regulates our inner body clock through circadian rhythms. It may help to sync up with the sun, waking up with natural light, sleeping as it gets dark.
Solar Flare Soothing MeditationI’ll end this podcast with a meditation I channelled if you’re feeling the impacts of solar flares but it’s also nice as an activation to open up your intuition too.
Find a comfortable position in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Relax your body either sitting up or lying down. Have your palms faced up and close your eyes.
Take a few deep breaths in and out to center your body.
Imagine, sense, feel of perceive a golden sphere of light above your head, radiant and glowing with a warm and comforting energy. It’s almost like honey.
Visualise this light sending out a golden wave, washing all over your your body and flushing out any physical or mental ailments or disturbances. Imagine the golden light removing any heavy dense energy, the visual that I’m getting is it’s like removing lint from the dryer or your clothes. You may also feel called to run your hands all over your body in a sweeping motion again imagining yourself being cleansed.
Come to a still point and then visualise, sense, feel or perceive this beautiful golden light now enveloping your entire body in a cocoon of warmth and tranquility. Feel the soothing energy as it flows down through the crown of your head, gradually permeating every cell, every muscle, and every organ in your body.
As the golden light continues to flow down, direct your focus to the area of your pineal gland, your third eye located in the center of your forehead, just above and between your eyebrows. Imagine this golden light specifically targeting and activating your third eye.
Envision the golden light swirling around your third eye, clearing any blockages or imbalances. As the light works its magic, sense a gentle expansion and opening in this area. Feel a heightened awareness and connection to your inner self.
This energy starts to build and expand beyond your third eye, beyond your physical body creating a gold shield of protection around you. Visualize this shield acting as a buffer, absorbing and transforming any intense energies from the solar flares and collective energy into positive, harmonious, healing energy.
With each breath, allow the golden light to amplify within you and around you, creating a powerful and nurturing aura. Feel the support of this golden energy as it protects you.
Take a moment to bask in the warmth and serenity of the golden light surrounding you. Know that you are connected to the universal energy, and you are protected and supported.
When you’re ready, slowly bring your awareness back to the present moment. Wiggle your fingers and toes, and gently open your eyes.
Carry the sense of golden light with you throughout your day, knowing that you can return to this meditation whenever you need to balance and harmonise your energy.
May you be surrounded by the healing and protective energy of the golden light.
As always here to support you and guide if you feel the call. I have an exciting in person offering launching tomorrow on Friday the 19th of January which I cannot wait to share with you! I also offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings so if you’re interested, get in touch and let’s chat!
Until next time, love & positivity.
As we stand on the threshold of a new year, there’s a powerful yet challenging energy that surrounds the final days of the year according to Human Design.
In this episode, Phi explores this final energy, understanding its significance in shaping our transition into the Human Design new year ahead.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Podcast Episode IntroductionHow are you? There’s a lot happening energetically so you’re going to be hearing from me in succession with a few podcast episodes lined up for this week especially with something very exciting launching on Friday that I’ve never offered before and I am bursting with excitement and joy!
Think of this episode as a motivational and inspirational quickie!
It’s almost the new year in terms of human design and as I’ve mentioned in previous episodes there are four stages. We are now in the final stage in the lead up to the new year on the 22nd/23rd January 2024 which is the energy of limitations and acceptance.
Reframe limitationsLimitations already off the bad has connotations of negativity but I like to reframe it as resourcefulness because limits aren’t just bad, if you think about it you hit a limit when you’re growing, you’re expanding, you’re stretching.
Perspectives on letting goThe creator of human design says this energy is about letting go fitting because it’s the equivalent energy of new year’s eve happening.
Some perspectives to contemplate when it comes to letting go?
Sometimes letting go isn’t getting rid of something completely but letting it be.
Sometimes you lose, in order to gain.
Sometimes strength is holding on and other times it is letting go.
Letting go sometime’s isn’t a once off or final act, but a repeated one, over and over again.
Sometimes it’s letting go of something good, for greater, for better. If you want to fly in the sky you need to leave Earth.
Letting go and a glass of waterLetting go is like a glass of water. It’s not about how much water is in the glass, there could even be no water. It’s about how long are you holding that glass.
For a few moments, not a problem. For an hour it starts to get niggly. How about half a day? The longer you hold it the heavier it becomes.
This is like your problems, thinking about it for a few moments isn’t harmful. Longer, it begins to hurt. All day and beyond? Excruciating, paralysed. Therefore put down your glass.
Limitations and acceptanceThe creator of human design also says that limitation is extraordinary because it’s about transcendence, the minute you accept it — it doesn’t exist. Acknowledging limitations doesn’t mean admitting defeat; it’s not a weakness. It’s about gaining clarity on what you can and cannot control. It’s not about the limitation itself but our attitude and perspective towards it. This self-awareness is a powerful tool for personal growth.
Simply put acceptance is to not offer any resistance. Coming to terms with what is, not necessarily what you want.
The 4 A’s of AcceptanceHave you heard of the 4 A’s of Acceptance created by Russ Harris? Acknowledge. Allow. Accomodate. Appreciate.
Breaking that down in my own elaboration;
Acknowledge – Hello it’s here. Awareness, naming it, calling it out.
Allowing – It’s ok to be here (doesn’t mean I like it or want it, but it’s here, it’s reality, the now).
Accomodate – It’s here, making space for it. Not trying to make it smaller/repress/disappear (the irony is usually following this framework the mental suffering dissolves and gets smaller on its own with repeated practice).
Appreciate – How can I grow and expand from this?
Now to the benefits of accepting and limitations.
Beyond limitationsWhen it comes to limitations themselves, they exist yet somehow humanity we always find a way to transcend and overcome them. For example we can’t fly personally but we have airplanes. The supposed limits of what is possible for the human body, yet records are broken all the time. The supposed limits technology and now we have AI and even deep fake technology.
I mean a modern example that comes to mind is people used to think you can’t filter and edit video in real time but now you can and it’s getting very good (in the context of the wellness and fitness influencer space to perhaps look slimmer or more curvier).
What about a creative? Maybe in the moment inspiration feels limited. The more you try to fight it, the more frustration sets about. The moment it’s acceptance, it’s like a sigh of relief. It’s the void. It’s silent. Yet somehow one day the creativity will return. Perhaps it was there all along but unseen, building, growing, incubating.
Expansion through limitationsWhen limits are put in place, it forces us to be more creativity. To open up to different ways of thinking and possibilities. To approach it an abstract manner.
I really love this quote as a perspective, “The size of a person’s head does not determine his sense of reasoning, neither can the size of their leg determine how far they can go in life.”
This energy sits in the root chakra, so you may be feeling a pulsing sensation, on and off, on and off, even a pressure to be growing, transforming and letting go this week. Pressure isn’t necessarily good or bad, pressure is about the right amount that motivates you but doesn’t harm or cause doubt within you. Not enough, there’s no action or momentum. Too much at it’s constricting.
Structure supports overcoming limitationsThe human design energy of acceptance and limitations is also an energy that thrives off the support of structure.
In James Clear’s book Atomic Habits he writes about a study of participants who wanted to build better exercise habits. The most successful group with 91% doing so was because they had formulate a plan about when they were excessing, where and for how long which led to more likely follow through. Having a plan was structure.
Structure which is often explained in terms of masculine and feminine energy, in order for the feminine (water) to flow freely it needs to be supported by structure (the masculine) otherwise the water would go everywhere, aimlessly, without direction, feeling unsupported and lost.
What do you need to feel strong and supported?
What acts, practices, rituals and routines nourish you and help you accomplish what you desire?
Do you like to structure in bits like day to day, or is it more week to week, month by month?
If I were to sum up this human design energy in a quote it would be this by Meister Eckhart: “For the person who has learned to let go and let be, nothing can ever get in the way again.”
I hope this inspires you today to let go of what no longer serves you, to accept and to transcend your limitations.
Love & Positivity Phi.
Unlock and understand the mysteries and energetic significance of the 111 portal this year in January 2024 which also happens to fall on the Capricorn New Moon. This 111 portal isn’t like other years and Phi reveals why. She also shares practical exercises such as journaling and custom affirmations in addition to a channeled meditation to make the most of the 111 portal in 2024.
Summary of the 111 Portal in January 2024v and the Capricorn New MoonThe significance of the number 111, a triple-digit sequence that is believed to hold powerful vibrations and cosmic alignments. We’ll explore how this unique portal of 111 opens up a powerful gateway into insight, intuition and alignment.
The 111 portal happens multiple times throughout the year but this one is very special and Phi will reveal exactly why on this episode in addition to talking more about the astrological themes of Capricorn for 2024’s first new moon. Phi also speaks about this week being the third week of the Human Design New Year and what that entails.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
The 111 Portal IntroductionHi Beautiful Soul,
How have you been taking to 2024? This episode continues the conversation from last week about now being in the third stage of energy towards the human design new year on the 20th of January which will be at the end of this episode, but the forefront for this week? The release date of this episode for the 111 portal and the Capricorn New Moon.
Why the 111 portal is more special this year in January 2024?This year’s 111 portal is more potent than usual because in terms of numerology the date 11/1/2024 if you add 1+1+1+2+0+2+4 = 11 which is a master number and of course it falls on the Capricorn New Moon. 11 is known as the master intuitive number. 11 is associated with intuition, enlightenment, alignment and limitlessness.
With portals it may happen on the day but the energy can be felt days before and after. Perhaps pay attention if you’re seeing 1’s, 11’s and 111’s as a sign for a new beginning and a call for alignment.
Channelled message and guidance for the 111 portal in January 2024It’s the first manifestation day of 2024 and the year but it won’t be the only one. It’s the opening. I had a strong intuitive message to share with everyone that it’s okay if you don’t know what you want yet exactly or what you want to manifest. Don’t place unnecessary additional pressure and stress on yourself. If anything you can simply in a way ‘make a wish’ it could be as simple as to experience more joy in 2024 or to have a better year than last.
If anything the intuitive guidance I am receiving for the 111 portal is it’s actually more of a portal to receive downloads and insights for the year ahead. Create stillness and silence to receive information that is ready to be downloaded to you: it may feel like a hunch, hearing the same message, a feeling — be open to what the message may mean.
Given this here are my top activities and suggestions to make the most of the 111 portal.
Tapping into your intuition on the 111 portalTap into your intuition there are several ways this comes to mind including:
- Automatic writing, setting a timer and putting pen to paper to see what emerges.
- Meditation for at least 11 minutes (might as well play on the 111!)
Manifesting with the 111 Portal through affirmationsApproach manifestations and intentions through the voice of 11 energy which is … “I am”
Instead of writing in the future tense that I would like to be and the qualities you would embody… write it as if you are already now. I am… for example instead of I would like to be more abundant, you would write “I am abundant,” “I am building the life of my dreams,” “I am making my dreams happen.” Again perhaps try to write at least 11 ‘I am’ affirmations.
Another way you could write this out I’m being told is starting your affirmations with “I have faith…”
“I have faith I will be abundant this year”
“I have faith things are going to work out for me in 2024”
New beginnings with the 111 portalStart something new, plant the seed. That idea that has been floating inside your head for so long, perhaps today with the 111 portal you can do something about it. Wanting to start a business? Give yourself an hour to brainstorm, maybe you won’t know exactly what it is but you’re taking inspired action and showing the universe: hey I want to start something new. Tap into the energy and emotions that arise when you feel into starting fresh in certain areas of your life.
Putting yourself first with the 111 portalGiven the energetics of new beginnings, the first: this is the day to put yourself first. Indulge in self care. Really tune into what you want. What does alignment look like and feel like for you?
111 Portal Journaling QuestionsConnect with your inner guidance with these 11 journaling questions:
- What does a “new beginning” mean and look like for you at this moment in time?
- What aspects of your life are currently in alignment with your true self? What is not?
- What adjustments can you make to bring your thoughts, actions and beliefs into greater alignment?
- Reflect on moments in your life when you felt truly aligned recently.
- What are your intentions for the future? What do you want to manifest this month, over the year and beyond?
- How well are you listening to your inner guidance, truth and intuition?
- How can you align your thoughts and actions with your intentions on the 111 portal?
- As you open the door to new beginnings, what can you be grateful for on your journey to new beginnings?
- Reflect on the number 1, 11, 111 and 1111 in your life. What significance does it hold for you. What do these numbers personally mean to you?
- If your intuition could speak out loud to you right now, what would it say?
- Where do you need to put yourself more first in your life?
Capricorn New Moon January 2024What’s interesting about the Capricorn New Moon is it’s the first new moon for 2024 and this year will also end with a Capricorn new moon on December 30, so astrologically speaking this is a new moon asking you to think about long term in the sense what are you planting at the beginning of this year to fruition at the end.
Setting intentions now that build momentum to the end of the year. The check in point will be when June in the Northern Hemisphere coinciding with the Summer Solstice – the longest day of the year or in the Southern Hemisphere, the Winter Solstice – the shortest day of the year.
Capricorn New Moon January 2024 MantraAstrologically speaking this day also marks a turning point where all the majority of planets are moving forward and not in retrograde which means less miscommunication, challenges and curveballs. However the irony being Capricorn energy isn’t necessarily fast moving: it’s a planner, it plays the long term gain.
So I think the Capricorn Mantra for this New Moon is Turn Inwards, Slow Down in Order to Speed Up. Set up the foundations right so when you feel into your internal rhythm it’s time to get moving, you can and you will with ease because the foundations are set up.
Capricorn Structure and FoundationCapricorn is an Earth sign so again it’s about being grounded, setting up strong foundations and roots. This is about setting things up that are actionable. Capricorn is a sign of structure so it’s worth thinking about what systems, support, habits, discipline and accountability do you need to put in place to bring your manifestations into reality?
Capricorn New Moon SecretNow as I’ve been saying energetically for some it may still not feel quite right to be able to fully land your intentions and manifestations, my suggestion to take advantage of the Capricorn New Moon is to get back into habits and routines that set you up for success such as perhaps your morning routine, or after work, evening too. What practices nourish your soul and revitalise you? Things you can do for yourself that give you energy and life force, not forcing yourself to do things that take away from that. What preparations can you start now for the year ahead in 2024?
For example if you’ve been following my Instagram stories you’ll know this year I have a greater focus on my health and wellbeing, because I am guilty of neglecting it in favour of work. I know that it would be a huge stretch for me to run and exercise every single day so I am personally making myself the promise to attempt daily walks, or for the most part 5 days a week as well as 3 days of exercise. That’s from my personal perspective is achievable and a bit of a stretch at the same time.
Capricorn Structure and FoundationCapricorn is an Earth sign so again it’s about being grounded, setting up strong foundations and roots. This is about setting things up that are actionable. Capricorn is a sign of structure so it’s worth thinking about what systems, support, habits, discipline and accountability do you need to put in place to bring your manifestations into reality?
Capricorn EnergyCapricorn energy for you at this time may be shifting into the energy of being grounded, centered, clear and ready to receive intuitive downloads and setting the intention you are desiring to energetically start your year.
Distilled further to another beginning step is to pick a focus – Capricorn is ruled by Saturn so that is all about discipline and commitment.
Capricorn CareerCapricorn is also astrologically traditionally associated with career, so this is a great time to connect to your work, your life’s purpose and what you want for your work this year?
Given the flavours of the 111 portal this is asking you the questions: do you feel aligned in the work that you do and if not how can you bring more alignment to it? Are you receiving any insights and nudges as to what to do with your career? How do you want to feel when you are working?
If you’re needing support and guidance, I do foundational human design readings which speak to your overarching soul purpose and through 1:1 coaching we can go even further into the purpose path which speaks to your soul radiance and evolution, how your soul purpose plays out and your life’s work so if you’re interested get in touch!
Capricorn Masculine/Feminine EnergyContinuing my predictions in the last podcast about the interplay of masculine and feminine energy being prevalent this year, Capricorn rules father figures and the masculine. Just a side note for awareness and consideration if that’s relevant for you… tying it all together with the themes above what emerges is responsibilities and your relationship to your responsibilities.
Human Design New Year: MysteryStage 3 before the human design new year: Mystery, Inner Truth and Downloads.
To recap the human design stages towards the new year, the first stage was exploring tension and resistance, the second stage last week and first half of this week ambition and drive, this back half aligns with the 111 portal for downloads! That of inner truth and downloads.
In this stage it’s delving into the mysteries and unknown. Asking questions. Dreaming. Wanting answers. This is an ideal time like with the 111 portal and overarching message: set the intention and be open to receiving insights and downloads such as through intentional meditation. Human design posits in order to receiving this the potential is in silence.
The silence allows for you to tune into your own internal guidance and receive that from outside of you in the universe. To hear your inner voice. To hear your inner truth. To internally to your inner experiences. To be open to receiving inspiration. This is the energy of the mystical and the magical. To ponder and muse on what your inner ‘truth’ is right now and for 2024. To have the mindset of curiosity and wonder with the patience to receive too. This energy goes deep too, so it’s about getting beneath the surface of your intentions in 2024. The Why.
Human Design Intuition Insight MeditationI’m now going to share with you a channeled meditation to help you tap into this energy of mystery, insight and divine downloads.
Begin by finding a comfortable and quiet space where you won’t be disturbed. Sit or lie down in a relaxed position, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths to center yourself.
As you settle into this moment, bring your awareness to your mind and all the thoughts rushing around. It’s okay. This is your mind self. We want to give permission for your mental self to step to the side and allow for your true self. Your authentic self. Set the intention to connect to your true self.
Take a few more deep breaths, allowing any tension or distractions to dissolve with each exhale. Imagine a door within your being, a door that leads to the vast universe of intuitive insights waiting to be discovered.
Visualise this internal door before you. What does the door like like?
As you approach the door, feel a sense of anticipation and excitement. This door is a gateway to the universal intelligence that is always available to guide you. With each breath, allow yourself to release any doubts or resistance, trusting in the process of opening up to your innate wisdom, your intuition.
Place your hand on the doorknob and turn it gently. As the door creaks open, feel a rush of energy, a warm and inviting light pouring through the opening. Step through the doorway into a space of infinite possibilities.
You find yourself in a serene garden, surrounded by vibrant colors, fragrant flowers, and the gentle rustling of leaves. This is the garden of your intuition, a sacred space where the universe communicates with you.
Take a moment to explore this garden, sensing the energy that emanates from the plants, the earth beneath your feet, and the air around you. Feel the interconnectedness of all things, and know that you are an integral part of this web of existence.
As you walk through the garden, allow your mind to quieten, releasing any thoughts that may cloud your intuition. Imagine a pool of still water at the center of the garden, reflecting the wisdom of the universe.
Sit by the edge of the pool and gaze into its depths. With each breath, let go of the need for answers or solutions. Instead, open your heart and mind to receive insights from the universal intelligence. Embody the essence of surrendering and being open to the unknown.
Declare and say to your self:
I surrender to the divine mystery of life and the universe.
I am ready to receive divine inspiration and downloads.
I open the door to receiving all that I need to hear, know, see and perceive.
As you do this, notice any images, feelings, or subtle nudges that arise within you. Trust the process, knowing that the universe is speaking to you in the language of intuition.
Take your time in this tranquil space, absorbing the wisdom that flows to you. When you feel ready, express gratitude for the insights received and slowly make your way back to the doorway.
As you step back through the door, bring the wisdom of the universe with you, carrying it into your daily life. Remember that the key to unlocking intuitive insights lies within, and you can access this internal door whenever you need guidance.
Take a few deep breaths, feeling the ground beneath you and the awareness within. When you’re ready, gently open your eyes, carrying the essence of intuition, insight and universal intelligence into your awakened state.
Mmmm what an experience that was going within, how are you feeling beautiful soul? Take a moment of pause to integrate the experience that you just had. I highly suggest journaling and taking note of what you’ve taken out of today’s episode and the meditation we just did.
Chat to you next week beautiful soul, have a great week ahead. Love & Positivity.
Phi unveils the energetics of the new year ahead in 2024 through different lenses including human design, astrology, numerology, the chinese zodiac and her own personal take and channelling. This podcast episode will shed light on the cosmic energies and the prominent themes that emerge for 2024 to have a fulfilling and prosperous year ahead.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
The traditional new year: Gregorian CalendarHi Beautiful Soul, how are you?
Happy New Year! I hope you had time to give yourself a break over the festive period. I did for the first time I can remember in a while and it was so rejuvenating but also overwhelming. For the first time in a long time I had a very busy jam packed Christmas and New Years on a personal level.
I spent time with family, my partner who got us a trip to the wine region here in Australia and friends camping over new years. I feel so happy and content but I had to take a mini break for my break if that makes sense to recharge my social batteries and energy levels… now here I am!
It’s 2024 and I wanted to start the year by chatting about the vibes and energy of 2024.
From a traditional sense, there’s a huge collective pressure and energy placed on the 1st of January symbolising new year based on the Western Gregorian calendar and it certainly brings a ‘new feeling to it’ however let it be known that different cultures around the world celebrate ‘new years’ at different times.
Energetic New Year: PerspectivesEnergetically speaking as I posted on my Instagram, energetically new years falls at different times between a time frame of January – March this year.
Going by human design, the new year kicks off January 22nd in the Northern Hemisphere and 23rd in the southern Hemisphere and there’s actually four phases that occur prior to this date. More on that later in this episode.
My background is Vietnamese so I celebrate Lunar New Year too which changes every year and this year falls on the 10th of February. Lunar New Year is based on a lunisolar calendar that combines moon cycles and sun cycles following the orbit off Jupiter (that planet representing good fortune and expansion around the sun). It ends up being on the day of the second New Moon after the December solstice.
Particularly in the northern hemisphere, in terms of energy; New Years truly kicks off March 21st which is the first day of the Spring Equinox. This is because in past times, the equinox marks a shift when the day has become longer than darkness which represents new life and growth.
Based on the above, there’s an absolute permission slip in place for January, February and even March to still be digesting and processing the year that has just happened in 2023. Let there be more time and spaciousness for things to reveal themselves. Again it’s not restricted to these but I would say energetically the new year falls between end of January to mid March this year.
When is it your energetic new year? Honestly there is no standard one size fits all approach, everyone is unique. You might be listening feeling raring to go, goals set or maybe you’re feeling tired and frustrated because you haven’t felt that ‘new year vibe’ yet. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’ Give yourself permission to go with your own internal timings.
To kickstart the year I thought it would be really interesting to share different perspectives of what 2024 has to hold through different lenses and I’ll leave my own personal interpretation and channeling to the very end.
Numerology of 2024: 8More specifically on 2024, in terms of numerology we’ve gone from a 7 year (which is 2+0+2+3) to now 8 (2+0+2+4). We are shifting from a 7 year of personal growth and introspection to a universal 8 year of prosperity.
An 8 year has themes of success, achievement, financial abundance, power, and balance. In numerology, it is considered a powerful and ambitious number. It an 8 year there may be more of a focus on your career, finances and achieving dreams and goals. It’s a year where significant progress can be made.
The 8 in terms of balance and the infinity sign can also be seen as recalibration.
An 8 year is also of faith and harvesting, repeating the bounties of previous investments and seeds you’ve planted.
How to work out your personal numerology for the year 2024The 8 is the backdrop and like all perspectives whether it’s human design or astrology, you also have your own personal number. For numerology that’s done by individually adding up the digits of your birth date, birth month and the number 8 until you get a single digit.
For example if your birthday is December 23 it would be
2 + 3 + 1 + 2 + 8 = 16
1 + 6 = 7.
A guide to numerology summary meaningsAll numbers have different meanings but a quick summary below:
1 – New Beginnings: Initiation, Energy, Putting yourself as #1
2 – Relationships: Partnerships, Harmony, Balance
3 – Creativity: Imagination, Social, Expression, Truth
4 – Foundation: Stability, Structure, Doing the Work
5 – Change: Freedom, Adventure, Flexibility
6 – Harmony: Family, Responsibility, Nurturing
7 – Introspection: Reflection, Personal Development, Insight
8 – Abundance: Success, Achievements, Power
9 – Completion: Closing the cycle, Endings, Reflection, Transformation
Chinese New Year Zodiac of 2024 DragonYear of the dragon symbolising strength, power and good fortune. The dragon like the number 8 is seen as the most auspicious and luckiest of the 12 animals of the zodiac recementing 2024 as the year of opportunities and prosperity. The characteristics of the dragon are intelligence, leadership, ambition and charisma.
Note Chinese Zodiac goes by the year of your birth.
From what I’ve seen the luckiest animals that align with this year of the Dragon are: Pig, Monkey, Rat, Goat/Sheep and Rooster.
Human Design New Year 2024Transits in human design last for 5-6 days. Think of transits in general as a spotlight on a particular energy collectively. For human design that revolves around the sun, so illuminating a particular theme to look at for the week.
Do note that transits also apply to certain moments in time or even the year such as a Saturn Return or a yearly chart reading – think of this like the weather forecast for your life ahead. I’ve started doing readings again for the year so if you’re interested message me on Instagram or check out my website.
In terms of human design transits: the week that has just gone was the energy of tension, a provocative energy to think about how the challenges and obstacles you faced in the year that’s happened and what your drive is for the year ahead, what is worth fighting for? The backdrop to this all is contemplation of your purpose and your spirit in the year that happened.
Human Design 2nd Phase: Ambition January 5-10In this current week as the podcast goes live (second week of January) the energy leading up to the new year is ambition. This is where going off human design you may be now beginning to look towards the future. How can you start to tap into your drive and ambitions for the year? This is the week to be open to receiving energy and downloads around your intentions and goals. You can think of this in terms of archetypes as the achiever or entrepreneur.
It is a root energy so it can also bring this pressure to start something new again tune into your own timings as this may very well be the week you launch or it starts to stir up some energy as you bring in your energetic new year. Check in with your energy: are you stressed? are you high on adrenaline?
Things to consider and contemplate for the week:
What are your aspirations for the year? The download I’m getting here is to allow yourself to dream really big, that energy of shoot for the moon and if you miss you end up amongst the stars.
What is your definition of success and ambition? For you maybe it’s progress in your career or perhaps its this year focusing on your health and wellbeing.
Then we hone in and focus on bringing in ambitions into physical reality…
Do your actions align with your ambition?
What inspired actions for the year ahead are coming through?
Who are the people or resources you need to achieve your ambitions and feel supported?
What is coming through for you to start? Is there an idea or project that you’ve been thinking about where it feels right to birth and implement at some point this year?
This energy is also linked to the material plane, so money and financial considerations may also come through.
Human Design The Shadow of AmbitionThe shadows to consider here of ambition is well blind ambition right?
This goes two ways perhaps being completely unrealistic of goals or being so focused you become so strongly fixated on achieving that you become blind to other factors such as your health e.g. overworking or perhaps doing things that aren’t in alignment with your values ethically and/or morally. How do you find that sweet spot of balancing ambition and also surrender (because not everything is in your control!).
Ambition’s shadow also has a way of bringing out the comparison within us and it can be so easy to have that negative self talk of you’re not good enough, you’re behind, which can lead to feels of discontent and dissatisfaction.
From human design some checks and balances in addition to your contemplation above;
Confidence: The importance of confidence and from societal conditioning we think that it comes from our achievements instead of looking within, do you believe in yourself? Confidence is an inside job.
Resolve: how do you hold the vision and trust in the journey regarding your ambitions and aspirations? What is the interplay between success and failure?
Integrity: how do you be ambitious in a way that you are proud of? That considers the impacts of your success and how you become successful. That sometimes the short cuts or being compromised aren’t worth it.
Spirituality: It’s okay to desire success on the material plane, but what are your ambitions when it comes to your personal growth and development too?
Astrology New Year 2024There are so many events I couldn’t simply talk about the whole year so based on who listens to this podcast I’ve intuitively been guided to speak about milestone markers to be aware of this year in 2024 with regards to astrological events.
Venus Retrogrades 2024One of the most markable things is that there will be no Venus Retrograde. Venus is associated with love, relationships, beauty, aesthetics, harmony and a tinge of money in astrology. When Venus goes retrograde, it often triggers reflection and reassessment in these areas of life.
If you want to reflect, Venus Retrograde happened last year in 2023 around July 22nd – September 3rd, may be worth reflecting to see how you may have been impacted in terms of relationships and finances around those dates. Honing in perhaps you experienced challenges or delay in the matters of the heart, old wounds emerging around past relationships or ex partners resurfacing, a makeover or experimenting in terms of your beauty or personal style such as hair, make up and clothing.
This is a great sign particularly if you are calling in and manifesting love, there are less likely to be setbacks, challenges and difficulties in a year without Venus Retrograde. Hint hint I am looking to have an offering in February around Valentine’s Day, watch this space!
Mercury Retrogrades 2024We’ve just come out of one as we entered 2024 and this year there will be three retrograde periods in April, August and at the end of November. All three will be in the fire sign indicating more miscommunications, confusions and therefore clarity and reassessment in terms of our passions, desires and relationships. Particularly around expression: how can we express ourselves and be conscious perhaps shadows: ego, hot headedness, being firey and stubborn.
To be aware we may become more frustrated, triggered and angry around our desires how to best express them to others and if others don’t share that same passion and energy.
Eclipses 2024Recalling 2023, we finished a major year series of Taurus and Scorpio partnered eclipses (January 2022-July 2023). In this chapter it was the interplay between the material world represented by Taurus and the metaphysical spiritual realm that Scorpio rules. The themes I felt apparent being money/security/foundation as well as the Scorpio bringing out the internal transformation: birth, death, rebirth, shadow work.
From July last year we entered the new collective destiny markers in the signs of Aries and Libra (July 2023 – January 2025). Eclipses can be energetically intense and this year we will see eclipse action happening;
March 25 – Lunar Eclipse in Libra
April 8 – Solar Eclipse in Aries
September 17 – Lunar Eclipse in Pisces
October 2nd – Solar Eclipse in Libra
Destiny Astrology Aries and Libra 2024This next chapter which kickstarted from July last year in 2023 until January 2025 what I’m feeling into the balance between self and another. Aries being bold, centre stage, inspired action, passionate and heated whereas Libra is about harmony, justice and balance. This I predict will see relationships being a focal point with regards to boundaries, compromise and harmony. On a collective stage Aries symbolises war and we can see that having emerged from mid last year the tension between Aries fire of ambition and charging forward contrasted by Libra justice, fairness, equality, peace and love.
When Aries is in charge things tend to move quickly too an accelerate so I’m getting quantum leaps energy, it’s about trusting in the timing, once things happen they’ll go fast so don’t stress, continue to take inspired, consistent action and the universe will take care of the rest.
This Aries energy is going to shine with the backdrop of numerology of ‘8’ and power we are going to see collectively more drive, ambition, motivation, striving towards goals and really owning what you want.
The last time a hint of this Aries energy leading the way interns of collective destiny was in the air was back at the end of 2004 in December and lasted until June 2006. This is 10 years ago, so perhaps things that happened a decade ago may pop back up to reveal how far you’ve come and what’s next.
Phi’s personal interpretation of 20242023 was seen as a building year for many, and I know collectively it had it’s challenges but 2024 definitely has an energy of optimism, more light, a brighter future and so much potential. It won’t be without difficulties but it’s that energy of a rainbow after a storm.
2024 is a year of power, if you look at numerology the number 8 infinite, representing power and abundance and I mean look at the Chinese Zodiac the epitome of power in the dragon. The backdrop astrologically of Aries and Libra also about power – Aries being bold, stepping into it and the shadow aspects of conflict, clash and fieriness in balance with Libra and I interpret as power dynamics in relations to others too.
When I channel the word ‘leadership’ also comes through: stepping up, stepping into your power, stepping into your potential, stepping into the spotlight, being a leader, self leadership and leading yourself.
Manifestation also springs to mind but the actualisation of all you desire. If 2023 was the dreaming, 2024 is making it happen. It’s about taking the inner work of 2023 and embodying it in 2024.
8 is also the number of the divine feminine. I think this year masculine and feminine energetics will be something more of note finding that balance (again that 8 symbolism of the infinity) and given the 8 year a definite awareness to accessing divine feminine power and energy: to be feeling confident, courageous and empowered.
All in all 2024 is set to be another transformative year with a lot of hope and positivity to look forward to. This is the human design week to starting aligning our energy to that of our ambitions knowing the backdrop is of good luck, fortune and opportunities in 2024.
Work with Phi in 2024 – Life Coaching Human DesignIn terms of what I have to offer in 2024 I am putting the call out for 1:1 coaching I would love to start the journey with you in making 2024 your best year yet. If you’re interested please reach out and let’s chat about coaching and how I can best support you.
I’ve also got human design readings and in particular a yearly 2024 reading may serve you to know the themes of your year ahead and how to best navigate and tap into the most helpful energies to boost and support you.
I’m working on an offering next month around Valentine’s Day to do with self love and of course something major in August which will be an intimate women’s only retreat in Bali.
I’m here to help you so if you need anything DM me on Instagram that’s where I’m most active.
Chat to you next week beautiful soul. Have a good one!
In this deeply reflective episode, Phi shares her personal insights on grief a decade after losing her dad when she just turned twenty. Grief is a complex and evolving process, and in this episode, we explore 10 things Phi had to unlearn since losing her dad that have shaped her understanding of grief. Each unlearning shares a powerful perspective shift.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
What is discussed: What to unlearn about Grief Moving Beyond Closure: The myth of closure and how embracing the idea of ongoing connection with the departed has brought comfort and healing. * The Fluidity of Grief: Grief is not a linear process but a dynamic journey consisting of ebbs and flows of grief. * Leaning into Change: Grief prompts a reevaluation of one’s identity and priorities. * The Myth of Time Healing All Wounds:* Phi challenges the common adage and other misconceptions about grief
What to unlearn about griefHi Beautiful Soul. This week marks 1/3 of my life without my dad. 10 years, a decade without him. So surreal. I wanted to do this podcast on the day inspired by grief into gold, pain into power but sometimes you can’t make your pain productive, you can’t channel your pain into purpose. And that was yesterday for me. I had this idea that I would grieve for an hour and then do something inspired by my dad which was to clean (he was obsessed with cleaning) and help others by doing a podcast on my unlearning with grief.
Expectation vs Reality of GriefThe day had other plans for me. I was deeply sad and stayed in bed until 2pm. I didn’t feel like doing anything at all. I meditate for 20 minutes in bed but that was a struggle. Then I dragged myself to the beach for a swim. That did make me feel better but I was disgruntled at how many people were at the beach and how close the waves were breaking to shore. It was that type of vibe, focusing on the negatives instead of the positive such as I only had to cross the road to go to the beach and being in the water was so rejuvenating and healing. I mainly wanted to stay inside but with my partners encouragement we went out, did Christmas shopping together and he cooked a delicious dinner for us. Bless him.
Over the past ten years, I’ve navigated the intricate layered landscape of death, darkness, depression and shadows and truly the light I’ve seen, found and experienced despite it is a testament to us as humans and our ability to live and heal. Our profound ability to be resilient, adapt and a testament to how deeply we can love. Ten years ago my whole life was turned upside down when I had just turned twenty when I lost my dad to bowel cancer. The pain, heartache and suffering that followed were some of the hardest moments of my life yet at the same time beautiful seeds of hope, purpose and light were planted in the darkest of moments.
In this episode I am sharing 10 unlearning I’ve had after losing my dad 10 years ago. Unlearning doesn’t mean dismissing or erasing the memory or significance of loss nor does it mean forgetting. Unlearning is about authenticity, adapting and navigating to the reality that is post loss, processing ways to cope and grieve as well as honouring one’s emotions associated with loss and grief. Unlearning involves adapting to the new reality, finding ways to cope, and gradually shifting one’s relationship with the emotions associated with grief.
Disclaimer: Trigger Warning; Episode talks about death, depression, suicide, shadow work
Grief is bad and means something is brokenThe learning: Grief is negative and something to be fixed.
The unlearning: Grief isn’t negative or something to be fixed, it doesn’t need to be repressed but expressed and honoured. Grief is a journey to be navigated.
Grief is not something to be ashamed of, grief does not need to be hidden. We’re conditioned to view sadness as an inconvenience, a disruption to our otherwise “normal” lives. The truth is, grief is a complex and individual process that cannot be neatly packaged into a one-size-fits-all. When we just label grief as negative, it’s a blanket assumption and we are overlooking the profound growth and resilience that can emerge from facing loss head-on. Grief isn’t a sign something is broken if anything it’s a sign it’s all working, we are human, we feel, we connect, it is an inevitable part of life.
So why do we often see grief as a problem to be fixed? Society’s discomfort with the unknown, the unpredictable, the uncontrollable, plays a significant role. We are attuned to instant gratification and quick fixes and instant gratification, leaving little room for space and life unfolding at it’s own place that we cannot control or change. It’s toxic positivity, that it isn’t okay to be in a less than happy or perfect space.
Acknowledging grief as a natural response to loss, we create space for healing and self-discovery. Trying to suppress or eliminate grief only perpetuates the misconception that vulnerability is a weakness, hindering the natural progression toward acceptance. Imagine growing up where grief is as normal as happiness. Where grief is as openly demonstrated and shown as happiness.
People mean well when they grief won’t last forever, everything will be okay, they want you to be happy, to keep pushing and moving forward but when you’re in the thick of grief you are craving acknowledgement of what’s happened rather than solutions and repair. It’s the validation and recognition something painful and traumatic has happened that will forever change your life. It’s the acknowledgement an integral part in the journey of life has taken place. Grief plays a part in the fairytale and dream. You can experience grief and still have a dream life or “fairytale ending” if you will.
Grief is mental: thoughts and perspectiveThe learning: Grief is to be processed mentally.
The unlearning: It’s so important to grieve in your body.
In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), the concept of organs extends beyond their physiological functions to include emotional and energetic aspects. Each organ is believed to be associated with specific emotions, and the lungs are linked to grief. The lungs are the seat of grief where grief is stored. It feels like the tightening of the chest, or it’s hard to breathe, or shallow quick breathing. It’s when it’s hard to breathe slowly and deeply. Other symptoms which may indicate grief in the lungs: coughing, allergies, a tendency for or constant colds and flus, respiratory symptoms, weakness in voice, voice loss, chest congestion, bronchitis as examples. The partner organ of the lungs is also the large intestine so anything related to bowel and digestion issues can also indicate stored grief such as indigestion, constipation, difficulty or pain going to the bathroom signifying ‘difficulty to letting go’ – physically and emotionally.
Now off the bat, I want to make it clear that this is from a holistic, spiritual perspective taking into account the mind, body, spirit connection. I personally advocate traditional and modern medicine working together. Please use your discernment and I always say to experiment and try to see if this is true and resonates with you and your body.
Given this line of thinking, breathwork can assist with processing, moving and shifting grief. I did an Instagram reel visually showing the meridian points you can gently press on whilst breathing in and then release as you breathe out. It’s essentially underneath your collar bones so the way to do it almost looks initially like a soothing hug — sweet right?
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Grief is mental: thoughts and perspectiveThe learning: Grief is to be processed mentally.
The unlearning: It’s so important to grieve in your body.
In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), the concept of organs extends beyond their physiological functions to include emotional and energetic aspects. Each organ is believed to be associated with specific emotions, and the lungs are linked to grief. The lungs are the seat of grief where grief is stored. It feels like the tightening of the chest, or it’s hard to breathe, or shallow quick breathing. It’s when it’s hard to breathe slowly and deeply. Other symptoms which may indicate grief in the lungs: coughing, allergies, a tendency for or constant colds and flus, respiratory symptoms, weakness in voice, voice loss, chest congestion, bronchitis as examples. The partner organ of the lungs is also the large intestine so anything related to bowel and digestion issues can also indicate stored grief such as indigestion, constipation, difficulty or pain going to the bathroom signifying ‘difficulty to letting go’ – physically and emotionally.
Now off the bat, I want to make it clear that this is from a holistic, spiritual perspective taking into account the mind, body, spirit connection. I personally advocate traditional and modern medicine working together. Please use your discernment and I always say to experiment and try to see if this is true and resonates with you and your body.
Given this line of thinking, breathwork can assist with processing, moving and shifting grief. I did an Instagram reel visually showing the meridian points you can gently press on whilst breathing in and then release as you breathe out. It’s essentially underneath your collar bones so the way to do it almost looks initially like a soothing hug — sweet right?
Grief looks a certain wayThe learning: A good griever looks a certain way.
The unlearning: There are no prizes for being the griever that appears to and suffers the most, grief doesn’t have a universal appearance; it isn’t just crying, grief can also look like being on holiday or celebration.
Grief is so personal and different for every individual. You don’t have to be the matyr that appears to be sad and suffering all the time. Stereotypically when we visually think of grief we see crying, sadness, and depression. Some people react differently.
Grief doesn’t look a certain way. Some may express their sorrow openly, while others may internalise their emotions. Some people may do it publicly and others in private.
There is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve. At times it’s silent tears or screaming in rage and frustration. Other times it may be laughing and jovial as you reminisce on fond memories and good times. You can be grieving and still show up.
It’s interesting too how different cultures grieve, some see it as a mourning and loss whilst others celebrate life in a joyful manner.’
I think about how when I first lost my dad yes tears upon tears but I also did put on a happy face at times and even though I was smiling and laughing, deep down I was still sad and grieving. Some years across the decade that’s been, I cry and other times I don’t shed any tears but I’m still feeling a lot within.
Don’t love again because you’ll lose…The learning: After grief you fear love and loss.
The unlearning: Its okay to lose and be scared of loving deeply again but don’t let that stop you.
You have this phase of yolo inspired and maybe at some point the fear of loss creeps in again because you’re scared to lose because maybe it will be too difficult. Realise that can be traced to the fear of vulnerability which is necessary in forming meaningful connections. It’s grappling the anxiety of what it means to emotionally invest again after loss because you are terrified of separation through death or something come to an end again. It’s the mental game and anticipation of intense pain which can lead you to adopt a guarded walls up approach.
Love and loss after death can hinder connection or you can let it enrich your life. Love is magical. It is worth the pain, sadness and inevitable end in one way because of how much joy and fulfilment it can bring. Love compels us to do beautiful, crazy, amazing things. Loss is inevitable but it doesn’t have to overshadow the beauty and transformative power of love. Impermanence can be embraced. Nothing lasts forever and that’s duality: good and bad.
Being ‘normal again’ after the loss of a loved oneThe learning: You should go back to who you were before grief.
The unlearning: After grief is a different you, there is ‘no normal’ and that’s more than okay.
Grief forces us to confront the fragility of life and the impermanence of our existence. In the face of loss, we are compelled to reevaluate our priorities and focus on what truly matters. This reassessment often leads to a deeper appreciation for the people and experiences that bring meaning and joy into our lives. Grief helps us to be more grateful and mindful. Grief changes what we value and how we view life.
Grief prompts you to re-evaluate who you are, I mean how can you be the same after a traumatic life changing event? Ultimately I personally think grief made me a better person. You become more attuned to the suffering of others and a deepened capacity to feel and have empathy. You value relationships more: you never know when it will be the last time you see or speak to someone.
Happiness is a sign of progress after grievingThe learning: A sign of progress is being happy and joyful again.
The unlearning: Heartbreak, feeling and crying are signs of progress too.
The ability to feel everything, rather than solely pursuing happiness after death again, is a hallmark of progress in the grieving journey. In the initial stages of grief, there is an overwhelming intensity: of sadness, despair and sorrow. Progress is to acknowledge and feel these: they are a testament to the journey of feeling your feelings. It’s multifaceted: then in the stages of grief perhaps its anger another complexity dabbled with moments of unexpected joy and laughter despite the grief. The co existence of joy and sorrow.
It’s crucial to acknowledge that the goal isn’t merely to be happy again; it’s about truly integrating the experience of loss into one’s life in a way that is authentic, sustainable and meaningful. Society often places a huge emphasis on external markers of progress, such as returning to work, being present in social activities again or returning to activities that you’re known to love.
These are positive steps but alot of progress happens internally that can’t necessarily be seen. Eventually they will be but not always immediately.
The myth that time heals after the death of a loved oneThe learning: Grief gets better with time.
The unlearning: Grief changes and reshapes with time.
Not so much the amount, the pain is the same but you get upset less frequently or triggered
We grow around it.
Grief can be like jumping in and out of puddles one day and another you’re in a river stream and it’s hard to get out.
What is more true to this statement is the journey and process of adapting and integrating. As time passes, you develop new coping mechanisms, insights, understandings and grief changes form. What was once harsh and pronounced can soften and weave in with life itself.
Pangs lessen, there is a sense of acceptance, the yearning and longing are less, your thoughts aren’t just dominated by the loss, you are able to hold more: to enjoy being around people again and experiencing life.
Grief is a one time thingThe learning: You go through grief once and it’s done.
The unlearning: Grief involves revisiting it.
It’s not resolved in one go, things pop up back. Grief is not a one-time or one-off event but a complex and recurring experience that unfolds over the course of your life. Many people mistakenly believe that once they navigate through the pain of loss, they have completed the grieving process. However, grief is a dynamic, layered and evolving experience. It’s impact can resurface in various forms at different stages and moments in life.
I thought well I had delayed grief so I essentially then grieved for another year and surely that’s done right? No. Grief over my dad would come back during birthdays, milestones anniversaries, holidays and random unexpected seemingly average mundane ordinary days.
Grief’s recurrence is not an indication of an inability to move on or a lack of progress; rather, it highlights the ongoing nature of the human experience.
These moments serve as opportunities for reflection and provide an opportunity to revisit grief as the familiar visitor that it is.
Grief needs to be processed at the time of deathThe learning: Grief has to be processed at the moment of the death
The unlearning: It’s never too late to process grief
For many the death of a loved one is an overwhelming and surreal life experience. In an ideal world yes you would process it in the lead up (should you have had the opportunity) and in the moment but life isn’t perfect. Even in my own case, I had delayed onset grief symptoms a year later. I repressed the grief and became numb because it was too overwhelming, I didn’t know what to do. A tidal wave of loss and all the feelings, so many I couldn’t really decipher and unpack each one. I was unable to process such a huge shock to the system at that time as the person I was. I repressed grief and ignored it because I needed to survive in the day to day. There’s delayed grief such as in this instance but with clients I’ve also seen unresolved grief where someone has not fully come to terms with the loss, perhaps denying reality and continual yearning that impacts their day to day living. Another layer to grief can be disenfranchised grief where one doesn’t feel like it’s acceptable to openly grieve for example death by suicide, premature loss of a baby.
We all know if answer oh I’m fine… Fine is ‘Feelings Inside Not Expressed.’ Emotions do not adhere to a strict timeline to be processed. Grief is not a linear experience with a fixed endpoint; rather, it is a fluctuating and evolving journey. At any point you can revisit grief and with time you process it in different ways having accumulate life experiences, perspectives with a different mindset, emotional capacity.
Maybe you’ll look back and realise when the triggers are sharp, hey maybe I haven’t fully healed. Maybe I did some healing at the time and I wasn’t ready until now to face the full magnitude of the grief that is. Know that it’s never too late.
Grief and death are meaninglessThe learning: You think the pain and grief are useless.
The unlearning: Your pain and grief isn’t wasted, it adds more to your life.
We deem pain and grieving as negative, it’s seen as an unwanted aspect of the human experience yet both pain and grieving can play play a profound and meaningful role in life.
They are natural responses and are manifestations of the deep emotional connections we form with others. The intensity of our sorrow is a testament to the significance of the bonds we share with those we have lost. Grief is a paradox in itself, harrowing, haunting yet beautiful at the same time. Grief, in all its rawness, cracks us open to the depths of how much we can feel, the fragility and non guarantee of life and the resilience of being human.
Through grief we can gain purpose and meaning to life, to embrace it in all of its fullest to not just be alive but truly live. For some like me, it was the catalyst leading to what I eventually do now as a life coach but that doesn’t mean you have to. You could or it could simply be from your experiences being able to comfort and support someone else going through grief. It’s your ability to be able to connect and understand to a degree what someone else is going through. A sense of unity despite adversity.
Death is finalThe learning: They’re gone forever.
The unlearning: They truly are there with you.
For me it’s that obvious angle from a spiritual energetic perspective. Signs and symbols take on new meanings. For many it could be an animal, a song, a symbol like a feather or flower, lights flickering and electronics misbehaving, dreams, coincidences, synchronicities. You can talk to their spirit.
That aside whether you believe it or not, the legacy of a loved one transcends the physical realm. They live on: in the stories we share, the traditions we uphold, and the values we carry forward. Their presence becomes a part of us in our identity, in our heart. It could be a piece of advice or a recipe passed down. They inspire you and others on how they lived and the kind of person they were. We can have rituals such as in Asian culture we leave out meals for loved ones who have passed or light candles and incense.
Their impact in our lives is not forgotten whether it was a kind act they did or the remembrance of their favourite song.
This wraps up today’s episode on 10 unlearning on grief I’ve had, 10 years after losing my dad. Unlearning is all about shedding societal expectations, debunking myths, and allowing for a more authentic and compassionate experience of loss. The journey unlearning grief is an ongoing one that is all about self compassion, patience and leaning into, feeling and embracing our emotions, all part of the amazing thing we have called life.
In this episode Phi takes you through the alchemy and transformative art of discovering magic in the mundane. She shares personal stories, insights, and practical tips for embracing the enchantment hidden within the everyday. It’s what makes the ordinary, extraordinary. The familiar fresh. To see the beauty and be mindful in your life.
Resources from today’s episodeWork with Phi
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
What is discussed: Finding the Magic in the Mundane* Practical tips and strategies to cultivate and discover the magic in the mundane, the extraordinary in the ordinary. * Things become extraordinary when we give them our full attention. Paying attention with purpose, the things we can take for granted. * Simple meditations you can do in everyday life moments to bring out more magic. * Different approaches and perspectives to unlocking the magic within yourself and the world around you. * The secrets to what actually makes up the magic in our lives that can easily be missed or forgotten…
Finding the Magic in the Mundane Episode TranscriptHello beautiful soul!
Today’s episode is all about finding the extraordinary in the ordinary – making the mundane magical. It was inspired by recently having attended a few tea ceremonies. I had one of those ‘aha’ moments because for me usually tea is made in a rush whether it’s in between meetings and in a way can be mindless and automated. Boil the kettle. Get the cup. Put the tea bag in. Pour in water. Even times I forget about the tea in the first place or I’ve left it too long. I’m not really thinking deeply about the tea you know? It’s just tea, or so I thought.
The Magic of Tea CeremoniesThis is in contrast to attending a 45 minute ceremony with tea being the heart of it. It was an art. Every step was conscious, deliberate from the choice of tea to boiling the water. The environment set up to be serene, calming: beautiful bowls, traditional tea utensils, calming music.
A tea ceremony involves a choreographed set of movements, precise measurements of tea level and water ratio, and a deep appreciation for the process it takes to make tea. Tea went from a simple drink to a profound meditative experience. It was sensuous: watching it unfold, tasting the tea and the different layers of flavour, the aroma of the tea, the warmth that comes from holding the cup, the temperature as the tea hits your tongue, feeling the steam billowing in your face, hearing the sounds around.
The slow, deliberate pace of a tea ceremony was a stark difference to the fast-paced nature of our daily lives. In the mundane, I saw and felt magic. It’s the concept of elevating the everyday into something sacred, something meaningful. In my example it was tea but can you imagine this approach to your morning workout or even making breakfast?
An attitude of AweHave you ever noticed how the simple, everyday moments have a way of slipping through the cracks of our attention? We’re often so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget to see the beauty that surrounds us even in the ordinary. Even the simplest of things. Like it’s pretty amazing that with a click of a button you can create fire or turn on light!
Things become extraordinary when we give them our full attention. Pay attention with purpose, the things we can take for granted. Recently at my partner’s place there was a blackout and we were in total darkness – it was strange, we were so used to electricity. It really took the absence of it for us to notice. Electricity is the norm and expected. What about sunrises and sunsets? Just because I know the sun will rise and go down again, does that make it any less of a miracle? As W.B Yeats says, “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”
Savouring the Magic in the Mundane What about the idea of savouring something? I really think that about food, gosh if I’m eating something delicious I have the instinct to devour it. I want to gobble it all down, I want more more more that I suddenly am no longer in it and before you know it, it’s all gone. Making it a meditation in savouring. Being mindful and conscious of eating. Setting an intention of gratitude to all the energy, time and effort in the ingredients of my meal: what went in to grow, harvest and prepare it. Taking small bites. Chewing. Pausing in between bites.
Child like Wonder and MagicIt’s approaching the world like a child again. Nothing is overlooked. Everything is exciting, captivating. I love the innocence of children, like realising my nephew who just turned one didn’t love the expensive gifts and toys but got so much out of even the box it came in or a simple sensory caterpillar toy. Children have boundless enthusiasm because everything becomes fascinating, as they find joy in the simplest of things—their reflection in the mirror, a fluttering butterfly or seeing animals in the form of clouds. They remind us that magic isn’t just in fairytales or movies, it’s through a lens in which we choose to see the world.
Inspired by children, cultivating curiosity can unlock a sense of wonder and magic in the mundane. The wonders of the familiar. They ask questions. They don’t assume. It’s the realisation that every seemingly routine, boring details can hold a universe of intrigue and beauty, inviting us to see the extraordinary in the ordinary, and to find enchantment in the most unassuming parts of our daily lives. Can we invite ourselves to be more creative, to let our imaginations take over even if just for a moment. It’s what turns a normally tedious and boring wait in line into something magical. Allow your thoughts to roam. Give them free rein and see where they take you. Can you be transported into the magic from the mundane whether it’s listening to music, engrossed in a book you can’t put down or allowing yourself to be fully immersed in a movie? With this time ceases to exist. We become fully present.
Play unlocks the Magic in the MundanePlay is something else that brings magic into our lives. A theme I’ve noticed in client sessions as of late is taking life very seriously and being constricted by serious things: we know, got to work for money, got to clean the house, got to make dinner and all of that but even for a few minutes in a day can you be silly? Can you have a laugh?
Can you embrace more of the unknown and unexpected? Changing things up may lead to an adventure or a chance meeting. Something insignificant could have a lot of significance for example you going to get the groceries, yeah boring but maybe you’ll have a chance meeting with someone you’ll fall in love with or become best friends with, maybe you’ll run into someone you haven’t seen in years. If it’s not happening to you maybe you’ll be privileged to witness it! A random act of kindness such as paying it forward. Who knows! Anything could happen if you’re open to it. I mean think of synchronicities, signs, and even angel numbers! Magic. How can you not believe in magic, miracles and manifestations with things that are beyond ‘coincidence’ indeed the magic of energy and intuition.
Play unlocks the Magic in the MundanePart of breaking the mundane makes it magical and this is fresh hot off when my partner and I had the day off. Life’s been busy, it’s that chaotic end of year and personally I’ve been really tired. On my day off if I had it my way was to take it really easy, relax and sleep in — that’s what I’ve been doing as of late. My boyfriend surprised me by waking us up at 3:30am for an adventure. My mind was going oh I just want to sleep, do we have to? My mind racing with thoughts and responsibilities: I had also planned to record this podcast earlier but I hadn’t got around to it because it’s been a full week of clients.
We would end up having an epic full day from sunrise to sunset which he fully planned and executed: doing a hike up the coast to see the sun rise, spending the day at the beach which included my favourite ocean swims and I did manage to get a nap in, he did a bbq at the beach and finishing the day with a refreshing drink at a beautiful venue. When I first got up a part of me was like ehhhh do I really want to do this? The mundane was doing the ordinary and I guess that part of me that wanted to do the ‘responsible’ thing to catch up on sleep and do the podcast but the magic happened by embracing a different day which when I think about it is everything I wanted in a relationship so I had to get out of my own way to let the magic happen!
So on that break routines, if it’s not physically is through the mind. It’s challenging ourselves to see something with familiar eyes with a fresh set. Perhaps challenging ourselves to see it from a different perspective or an unfamiliar way. Roald Dahl’s quote sums it up nicely; “And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”
Being interconnected is magicalWhat about the magic of being interconnected, belonging to something bigger, it’s that same feeling when you look up at the stars and almost feel so small and big at the same time. We are connected to Mother Earth. We are connected to the sea. We are connected to the trees. We are connected to each other, to animals, to life force itself. “There’s a flame of magic inside every stone & every flower, every bird that sings & every frog that croaks. There’s magic in the trees & the hills & the river & the rocks, in the sea & the stars & the wind, a deep, wild magic that’s as old as the world itself. It’s in you too, my darling girl, and in me, and in every living creature, be it ever so small. Even the dirt I’m sweeping up now is stardust. In fact, all of us are made from the stuff of stars.” – Kate Forsyth
The most magical of all? LoveIn that same vein love is magical. When we are filled from it within and extend it out, there’s a radiance to it, a light, a glow. I mean it always somehow comes back to love doesn’t it? Love is the essence of magic. Love is connection, Love is a lens in which to see this world. It’s your love that elevates an experience. Something as simple as holding hands is magic. Looking into someone’s eyes is magic. Feeling this profound sense of love for someone is magic. Love cannot be explained. Love is not logical. Love is magic because it transforms. Love is of it’s own kind, it’s own mystery, it’s own magic. Is it not magic simply the fact that we exist? That we have consciousness and the capacity to be aware of this all and to take it in?
That concludes today episodes beautiful souls, I hope that what you take away from this is that there’s magic in the simplest and smallest of things. You are surrounded by magic even in the mundane. Can you keep the magic alive or at least find it in one moment of your day, everyday for the rest of your life? How beautiful that would be… until next time beautiful soul.
Today’s episode features Kim Tran-Flores of Kimlligraphy who is a Modern Calligraphy artist and mindfulness advocate. She is a 1/3 Manifesting Generator with an Emotional Authority. This is a raw, vulnerable and beautiful episode where Kim shares her journey as an ‘unexpected artist’ without a creative bone in her body to becoming a businesswoman in a world that underestimated her and becoming a mother (conceiving, miscarriages and all).
Resources from today’s episodeKim Tran-Flores
- Kimlligraphy
- Kim Tran-Flores Instagram
- Kim’s Podcast: Mindful Creatives
Phi
- Phi’s Episode on Kim’s Podcast: How to overcome creativity blocks through life’s ‘unlearning’.
- Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.
- Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.
- Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode SummaryHi Beautiful Souls, on today’s episode we have Kim Tran-Flores, a Modern Calligraphy artist, mindfulness advocate and founder of Kimlligraphy – a service and educational platform that showcases and demonstrates the transformative power of Mindful Modern Calligraphy.
She is an ‘unexpected artist,’ in her own words as someone growing up who didn’t have a creative bone in her body. Inspired by her grandfather whose life was cut short, Kim embarked on a transformative journey to become the woman she is today whose mission is to empower busy women, alleviating stress, nurturing the present moment, and igniting their creativity. Along the way she’s won multiple awards such as recently this year being a recipient of the Fairfield City Women’s Day Award. Her mission
Kim and I met at a networking event and the rest is history as they say. Kim is also a wife and beautiful mother of one, Hendrix (he is so sweet and my mum is absolutely obsessed with him). I personally attended one of her workshops earlier this year with my mum incorporating mindfulness with calligraphy and painting which we loved and really brought us closer together.
Enjoy today’s episode!
What we discuss* How Kim got into calligraphy * Kim’s journey (not going to university and leaving the corporate world) * Her fertility journey including trying to conceive, miscarriages, considering IVF and how calligraphy helped * Her upbringing as an Asian woman * How being a mother has changed her and being labelled, boxed in as a mother * Navigating relationships with important women (parenting styles and advice) in her life (her mother and mother in law) * Her relationship with her husband Mark Flores such as navigating having different religions and being with a more ‘conscious’ man
On today’s episode we have my virtual assistant Ellie Simpson! She is a 5/1 manifesting generator with an emotional authority in human design.
Ellie runs Virtual House a high-end virtual assistance agency specialising in administrative & creative support. Virtual House’s mission is to help powerful women in business get back the time they deserve.
Resources from today’s episode* Virtual House * Ellie Simpson’s Instagram * Ellie Simpson’s LinkedIn * Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. * Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode SummaryThe questions I put to Ellie are as follows;
- In your own words, what does a virtual assistant do?
- When would someone need a virtual assistant and who are your ideal clients?
- How did you get into the world of virtual assisting?
- What’s the top advice you will give to newbies if they are interested in being a virtual assistant?
- Side hustle full time – how did you know when it was the right time?
- What’s the best advice has ever given you about being a virtual assistant?
- What are the most helpful resources that have helped you along the way?
- What’s a common myth or misunderstanding about virtual assistants?
What is the most crucial traits and skills someone needs to posses in your role and to help them succeed?
Celebrating 2 years full time in her own business as a life coach, Phi shares insights on what she’s had to unlearn in here journey.
Get ready for a thought-provoking discussion on how unlearning has become a crucial mindset and skill in navigating the ever-changing world of business and personal development.
Resources from today’s episode* Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. * Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Episode IntroductionHi Beautiful Soul, welcome to this week’s Grow Through It Podcast Episode and in exciting news I wanted to share at the beginning of this month November 2023, I crossed over the line of having my own business as a full time life coach for 2 years now.
I’ve been busy (hello manifesting generator with the channel of charisma and power) as well as hibernating (that’s my 2 profile line) and I’ve finally had an intentional week of slowing down, nourishment, rejuvenation and pause to reflect and take this in!
It’s been so nice to reflect and I did my best to capture 2 years in an 11 second reel on Instagram but that’ll never do it justice! Watching it made me smile for all the amazing moments.
Rages & Riches: Scarcity and AbundanceEven though its been a couple of weeks hitting that milestone it still feels so surreal especially thinking of my second year in business and trust me it’s been a rollercoaster. In the second year so much has happened. I’ve had wobbly moments where I was very scarce and tight on money just barely paying for my expenses contrasted with the biggest months in my business in overflow of abundance.
I was reflecting with some girlfriends last night how at one point earlier this year we went to dinner and I didn’t eat because I was on a tight budget so for a month or two I remember I was eating at home before going out with friends, I didn’t drink and what not to now the contrast of having excitingly bought a new dyson vacuum, previously paying for a retreat in instalments and now paying for it in full with overseas flights and upgraded seats next year and had a big birthday month of spending. For my birthday I had never spent so much in my life for individual things such as the dress I wore was $450, my nails cost $150, blow dry $200, cake $200 and so fourth.
Clients, book and podcasthttps://www.amazon.com.au/Great-Unlearning-Awakening-Aligned-Authentic/dp/0645344494In terms of clients I’ve had lean months the first in a long time but also contrasted by seeing the most clients I ever have in my business whether it be in a day, month, year or quarter. I think despite it all whilst a lot has unfolded for me personally over the last 2 years whether it’s quitting my corporate job, relationship changes, moving homes it’s been really grounding to have my business as the most stable core in my life: the essence of what I do and being able to return to my grander purpose which is to make the world a better place and help people live their best lives: at peace, happy and soul fulfilled. Really trusting and returning to that in moments of fear, doubt, worry has been humbling and gratifying.
On June 23rd this year I released my debut book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life which was a year and a half journey in the making and two years from the idea of the book conceived whilst I was side hustling as a coach and full time in my corporate career landing a book deal, writing the book and editing process. The excitement as it hit #1 in Amazon for particular categories in Australia and did well in the top 3 or was it 5 in the US too, trending domestically on Booktopia when it first released too.
This has also been the year of being a guest on other podcasts such as with Georgie Stevenson on Rise & Conquer and I’m really feeling the desire to consistently do more podcasting on my own here on The Grow Through It podcast too. I’ve been so fortunate to travel extensively this year for personal reasons such as going back to my ancestral roots and lineage on my mum’s side in Vietnam and work including recording my talk unlearning and unbecoming through writing with Janelle Hardy for Day 2: Taking the lid off grief and rage the Healing Through Writing Festival from a gorgeous 5 star retreat in Bali, visiting clients and doing in person coaching and business sessions and what’s been really exciting is working with business teams in terms of planning, strategy, energetics and human design of course.
I was reflecting with some girlfriends last night how at one point earlier this year we went to dinner and I didn’t eat because I was on a tight budget so for a month or two I remember I was eating at home before going out with friends, I didn’t drink and what not to now the contrast of having excitingly bought a new dyson vacuum, previously paying for a retreat in instalments and now paying for it in full with overseas flights and upgraded seats next year and had a big birthday month of spending. For my birthday I had never spent so much in my life for individual things such as the dress I wore was $450, my nails cost $150, blow dry $200, cake $200 and so fourth.
Client results and testimonialsThe growths and changes in the clients I work with has been so incredibly rich and rewarding in year 2, my heart feels all warm and fuzzy and I get teary thinking about it. The biggest trends I’ve seen with my clients are working more with entrepreneurs or people wanting to start their own business, younger women starting their personal growth and development journeys at 18-24 (hats off to you, I can only imagine how different my life would’ve been having the tools, mindset and support from a coach in my early 20s vs starting later), beautiful mamas navigating life in all facets and in particular getting to the core of their identity and self outside being a mother, couples (a lot of work coaching couples, reconciliation or transitioning to a conscious uncoupling) and men — at one point this year half my clients were males aged between 28-47. Moreover this year has been deeply intense work in terms of the feminine: sensuality, sexuality, slowing down, embracing cycles whether moon or menstrual and womb healing.
To name a few of the amazing achievements in year 2 so far, clients that I have in e-commerce and manufacturing have doubled their revenue since I’ve started working with them and I’ve also seen clients break through income plateaus and receive pay rises and promotions. Clients have fallen in love (yay) and met a significant other whilst working together. Clients have left jobs and religions that are no longer in alignment with them and sought out more soul fulfilling and gratifying paths. Clients have moved homes and countries and started a new chapter in their life. Clients have broken familial and ancestral patterns and chains holding them back in particular being that support person for the family at their own expense. Clients have moved past and healed from heartbreak and break ups. Clients have reconciled in important relationships whether romantic, friends or family.
Honestly I could go on, so much has happened and I can’t even do it justice talking about it because when I hear from clients about how they’ve grown and changed so much, talking about how they can’t even put a price on their transformations it’s truly mind blowing and blows the water on what one think can logically happen when you work and invest in yourself.
Phi celebrates 2 years in businessIn honour of this 2 year milestone, I thought I would share a few musings of what I’ve had to unlearn in my journey thus far particularly in my second full year of running my own business…
I don’t know why I had so much resistance to recording this episode: I felt bad for missing a week of podcasting last week with personal things arising to the surface and so ultimately I’m preaching done is better than perfect! Knowing why I want to do the podcast, it’s not about me it’s about you the listener.
Freedom in your own business full timeHaving your own business means complete freedom and so you’ll be happy all the time – I would say for the most part it really is true!
I have to say one of the best parts is not having to be bound by a certain time to wake up and hear that pesky alarm. It’s true being able to go on holiday whenever you want, being able to work from anywhere you want — that’s a dream! Being able to set your own schedule and shuffle it around for appointments or to help out friends and family is a blessing too.
Not forgetting freedom in terms of this poignant point that remember why you started your business and personally for me one of the driving factors was freedom. So I always come back to applying that principle – I get to do business my way and forge my own path. I get to show up in a way that I want to not what the industry standard/expectation is or what some person online says.
I have found my flow in creating content I really love which is writing turned into a book this year (The Great Unlearning) and at the moment online reels, in turn clients are able to find me to do 1:1 coaching and human design readings despite not actually ever posting content about that. Logically one may say it doesn’t make sense but hey it works for me!
Again it’s not about this method working for you but the core message is give yourself full permission to do business and run your business in a way that lights you up and really excites you, that feels really good in your soul. I think that’s coming up for me next year, now I’m less in ‘survival’ mode in business and serious, how can I have more fun and pure joy that tingles up my sacral in true manifesting generator magic?
Change is a part of life and business, I remember everyone saying you have to be on TikTok but again my main platform is Instagram and I’m still getting my work out there and having clients without necessarily having to follow trends, pay for advertising and show my face all the time. Although I’ve definitely pivoted and done more reels because I love having the visual and audio aspect accompany my words. I want someone to see a piece of content and really feel the message I am conveying in all senses.
Gratitude vs guilt in business full timeIntertwined with this all, is a deep genuine to the core, heart and soul feeling of being really grateful that you are able to do what you love everyday. I think that’s why you don’t hear many people talking about the downsides to running your own business at least for me I feel a resistance because it’s like I should be so grateful you know? It’s also that whole everyone wants the success but don’t realise that with it comes other things too: as I always say new level, new devil.
Loneliness in business and entrepreneurshipSuch as life, no matter who you are, how much money you have, how much personal development work you do and what you do — it’s not always happy! I have definitely struggled with bouts of loneliness and I’m a natural hermit too. Especially the beginning of this year where everything was perfect on paper yet I live by myself, work by myself and was single. It was exacerbated as I live at the beach known to be it’s own bubble and the majority of my friends live half an hour to an hour’s drive away. I was humbled by a friend who reminded me it was my choice to live at the beach as I could also easily live closer to my friends in the suburbs. It’s true I value the beach lifestyle and environment so much, it’s the glitter for my soul.
There was no where to hide by just throwing myself into work so I really spent the beginning of this year in contemplation and making the most of the time I have alone. It taught me to put more of an effort in to connect with people whether driving to see friends or really savouring a conversation at my local cafe or a kind stranger walking by at the beach because apart from clients at time was my one piece of personal interaction for the day!
Not everyone has the same lifestyle as you so therefore even though I can work anywhere from the world, I’ll likely be by myself unless a friend and partner can take that time off work for example. You can go the beach at 2:30pm on a Wednesday but not many people you know will be able to unless their circumstances are similar. You can work overseas for 2-3 months straight, again doesn’t mean your partner can too.
The things you think about and experience again will be different for example the way you approach money and investments. One of your main interests naturally will be your business and the nature of business: growth and the pains that come with it. You’ll be questioning “do people get me?”
I’m the first in my friend group to have my own business, so it’s quite an adventure on your own and wondering do other people experience this or feel that way? The answer is yes! The absence of colleagues or a team makes it important to find community in the day to day and have a support network.
With success I also found it interesting to see who have been the people that have supported me from day 1 vs now especially when I released my book I found it interesting people from my past that suddenly reappeared again acting all friendly when I hadn’t heard from some of them for at least 5 years!
Less proving, more being, living, working an presenceFeeling less of the need to prove myself. I used to feel the need to be online 24/7 showing off being achievements or luxurious purchases/holidays. It could be the fact I have a 2 profile line hermit yet nowadays I like to keep some things private and sacred for myself. I don’t feel as though I need to post all the time my successes and testimonials because I’m grateful to have built my business that the work speaks for itself and the majority of clients I get are from referrals or content I put out online.
I feel at peace but of course you still have the shaky moments from time to time where you fear oh my gosh what if I don’t have enough money as an example but that happens less now, it’s like my brain can now logically click well it’s been 2 years and I’ve been doing this full time without a need to get a second job or a casual job for sustainable income.
In saying that achieving things, it can be so easy to tick it off and move onto the next. It’s so important to celebrate yourself and hitting achievements and milestones. This year I really allowed myself to do that financially as well as with taking time off. I really went all in on celebrating with my book launch earlier this June, having a month in Bali and Vietnam and throwing a huge party for my birthday in October. It can be big celebrations but I also had the practice of celebrating solo with Uber Eats and a kombucha on the couch too.
Don’t be afraid to spend moneyHence the next unlearning: Don’t be afraid to spend money. I feel that the initial first few years of business even now still the majority of money is being reinvested back into myself and the business in terms of scaling, growing and expanding. It’s true what they say spending money to earn money of course getting to that sweet spot. My money mindset has rapidly expanded because have you ever noticed that rich people keep spending money? They don’t stop and hoard. That’s what people do with less money and a poverty mindset. The richer get rich because they invest… whether that’s in stocks, property, other businesses, themselves catapulting them to create more money in their existing business by scaling or even starting more businesses. It’s something I’m definitely thinking of doing and looking to in the future whether it’s another service business or an e-commerce one.
Just because you can doesn’t mean you shouldJust because you can doesn’t mean you should – It’s realising I can do many things and I am good at many things but where does my joy lie? I’m at a point where I can do less jobs in my business, whereas the first year I was the coach, admin, accountant, marketer etc. Where is my effort and energy bests place within my business? What is the opportunity cost of me doing a instead of doing b? What is the cost of me doing something I dread vs love? How do you put a price on that? Financially? Mentally? Physically? Emotionally? More than ever I really value my time, energy and input.
Business and boundariesThis year I’ve had to drop out of plans even though I felt bad because I had to honour my body or mind being tired or just not feeling it or being in the mood for it. I’ve had to have firmer boundaries especially with family, friends or strangers seeking guidance, advice or to pick my brain. I truly honour my clients, prioritise and put them first and give them my all when it comes to my life coaching and intuitive abilities. That put an end to receiving voice notes from people that went from anywhere between 2 to 10 minutes, I simply didn’t have the energy for that after working with clients all day.
Working with your energy vs against itWith that I’ve really had to honour my natural working flow and style instead of working against it: it’s taken the majority of the year to come to my conclusion that I have a maximum amount of clients I can see a day with at least 15-30 minutes in between, I do not work weekends and the majority of my work is done during the day, not too early because I love a sleep in now and it takes time for my brain to wake up and not at night where I feel tired and taking into account insights previously where I was guilty of that one when I was single I would work days and nights but now I have a partner I prioritise our relationship). I was definitely guilty before of putting work before my relationships and perhaps even having a sense of getting complacent or taking it for granted prioritising work you know?
Investing in yourself2 years in business I can afford to invest more in myself and business and that has resulted in me going on a retreat at the beginning of this year, having just paid for one in India next year as well as being able to have my virtual assistant work more hours to support me in the things that I don’t enjoy such as admin work: reposting my content to my website, sorting out my inbox, scheduling in my calendar. This is an area I continue to identify as something for me to work on as I can really be in the feminine flow and I really crave and need to plan, organise and structure my business. I used to think it slowed me down but I needed to slow down in order to speed up. All of this makes for the second year in more refined, I feel more on top of business and it’s manageable whereas the first year for me was experimenting, trial and error: figuring it out.
Consistent mentorship and beginner mindsdetHaving regular consistent mentorship is a game-changer too, I really honed in on having a mentor for the year consistently which is dedicated time for me to reflect, express myself and access new perspectives or guidance. Once your business is established I find it’s more personal things that I discuss and work on as opposed to necessarily business problems. It’s always refreshing to see things from a different perspective.
You don’t know everything and that’s a beautiful thing. I never want to get to a point where I think I know it all. In fact I would prefer to be the beginner in a room and take the most out of speaking with people than being the expert, that’s how I grow the most. Your interactions with people help you to grow, especially in the field I work in, a lot of the times the things i’m coaching a client are resolidfying insights and experiences I have so really adopting all connections and relationships as a valuable mirror and opportunity to grow.
Exponential growth vs sustainable growthIn saying that I think people have this idea your business has to always grow year on year a crazy exponential amount and I’ve come to realise that’s not sustainable or enjoyable (for me at least anyway). My business has undoubtedly grown in it’s second year but part of it is the ebbs and flow. I launched a book and a part of me felt the pressure to do even more however when I tuned in with my soul it said the book is huge, this is enough. You don’t have to do the group coaching program or retreats until next year (hence watch this space!). Just like personal development we need integration time, stabilisation time, like the new norm for me is like it’s okay, I have a consistent stream of clients, I won’t die and run on out of money. I don’t need to show up online all the time to make money. In fact this year I’ve shown up the least and I’m okay! Which comes to another insight yes consistent revenue is important to sustain your business and self especially soothing your nervous system.
The importance of health and restThis was the year I truly understood how much I need to pause, rest, integrate and recharge. Business is a marathon not a sprint. Essentially you are the driving engine and compass of your business. You need to be on top of your energy to have the desire, drive and motivation to keep your business going. This is an area I want to focus on particularly next year consistency in my health: fitness, diet and meditation. Knowing myself when it gets busy I prioritise work and in turn work out less, eat bigger portions for comfort and energy or do the opposite I forget to eat and all I’ve had is a coffee until dinner, meditate less… or I’m so tired I lack the energy and feel lazy: I’m not swimming as much or walking as much — always areas to improve and work on!
Purpose and the long haulNo matter what happens it’ll always come back to this: keep going! The journey is never going to be perfect and you won’t be ‘put together’ all the time. In life naturally challenges and obstacles arise and what I’ve found is that the anxieties and fears in my head, are always worse and scarier than what actually unfolds in reality.
I still remember my first day in business and now two years later, the life that I live today is far greater than I envisioned for myself. If you told me where I would be today when I started I would’ve been like what you’re crazy, how!?
And that’s thing for me really knowing my own human design, responding to the world, following those intuitive nudges and breadcrumbs to take inspired action step by step has led me here. Knowing I am here because of the me that made decisions despite fear, worry, doubt and insecurity a month ago, six months ago, a year ago, two years ago…
If you’re listening with an idea or passion of something to do, this is your sign to go for it, see what happens – it might not work out but what if it did… that is something powerful enough to pursue in itself! Thanks for listening beautiful soul, until next week but in the meantime if you’d like to work with me I offer 1:1 coaching and human design readings. Details on my website phidang.com or message me on Instagram @thephidang.
Phi returns to the podcast and shares super exciting life updates including something very special and spills the tea on what happened during her month away in Vietnam and Bali.
As she’s turned 30, she also shares the top 10 juiciest things she had to unlearn in her 20’s to be the happiest in her life she’s ever been.
Resources from today’s episode* Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. * Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. * More on a Saturn Return Human Design Reading and booking a reading with Phi. * Phi’s book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. * Saturn Return Podcast Episode (34)
Episode IntroductionSo usually when you turn 30 you see those top 30 things I learnt by 30 or what I wish I knew in my 20’s – but in Phi Dang style, of course I’m going to share the top 10 things I unlearnt by 30 to honour my book The Great Unlearning.
The book really does capture my 20’s if you’re interested and has 29 full chapters of unlearning. These are my own musings pulling from the book and reflections in this present moment. It’s honestly so hard to pick only 10 so I’m going to tune in and trust my intuition that I’ve chosen these specifically to resonate with you listening to this podcast!
- TimelinesTHE LEARNING
There’s a set timeline of key milestones in life you need to achieve in order to be happy and fulfilled.
THE UNLEARNING
There are no set timelines in life.
Truly because I think 30 is one of those ages we build up in our heads and decide we have to get everything done, yet funnily enough the less pressure I put on myself, trusted in my own path and timeline, the more amazing things I’ve achieved unexpectedly. I mean my unexpected biggest month in business happened only a few months before turning 30! Anything can happen.
Some excerpts from the book to share:
“Timelines have been mostly imprinted subconsciously on our minds. We seem to be always working towards a timeframe, often speeding towards it. In fact, it’s made us feel like we’re always rushing to hit our next life milestone, whether it’s love, money or career.”
“The problem is that when we don’t hit these timelines, we feel like failures. We feel like we’re moving slower than those around us and it quickly turns into a crippling game of comparison. It’s important to remember that life isn’t a race and it isn’t a competition.”
- SuccessTHE LEARNING
Success means having money, being in a relationship and at the peak of your career.
THE UNLEARNING
Success isn’t clear-cut or one size fits all, it’s something you define on your own.
The old status symbols for success were a fast car, a big house and millions… billions of dollars.
The ultimate new flex is freedom, joy and inner peace—to live a life where your soul is pure love and happiness; where your highest self is realised; where your inner child is seen, heard and loved; where you find security in yourself and not others or things. It’s a life that your ancestors would be proud of; a life that’s a dream. Unlearn what you think you know is success and redefine what it means to you.
Some excerpts from the book to share:
“A lot of sayings we know are for a reason and it really is true. You hear it thrown around casually and in all the self-development books that money doesn’t buy you happiness. I would always roll my eyes and think deep down well, maybe not, but I’d rather cry in a mansion and Ferrari, that’s for sure. However, have you ever actually stopped for a moment to consider what your definition of success is and why?”
“Having had the taste of success, money, status and achievement at the height of my career – something still felt missing. Being in a relationship with what on the outside superficially a handsome man that loved me – something still felt missing. I mean even the bloody beginning of this year everything except a partner – something still felt missing. It had to hit home time and time again, success isn’t what it looks like and what you have. For me it really is a feeling and ultimately that feeling is inner peace, being content and self love. Not only that success is different for everyone, I never thought I could work for myself doing what I love yet again here I am! Success beyond what I thought was possible for me”.
- MoneyTHE LEARNING
Money is hard to make but it will solve all my problems.
THE UNLEARNING
Money doesn’t have to be hard to make, but it won’t solve all your problems either. Wealth is the consciousness of abundance and poverty is the consciousness of lack.
Do yourself a favour and seriously understand that money is mindset led. Once you can identify and understand your beliefs you can do amazing work to unlearn limiting money beliefs.
I used to be someone so scarce all the time and hoarding money. Now I don’t even need to check my bank account for purchases. Everything I want, I can afford. Do I buy everything? No because I have different priorities.
Right now in my life I am in the enjoying phase because why work hard not to harvest the bounty you planted (which is also why I’ve been less online social media and more living life and actually coaching/working with clients).
What I will also say is that throughout by 20’s I’ve been a lot of debt and I’ve had a lot of money, it continues and will continue to fluctuate. I don’t attach myself so deeply to money, I’m in flow with it, I trust it and somehow always it comes to me in any way!
I remember being petrified going full time in my business, being afraid I’ll have no money and die. I told myself I can get a part time or casual job to support myself in the worse case scenario… two years later that’s never happened. I’ve always been financially supported by my business.
- Having it allTHE LEARNING
You can’t have it all.
THE UNLEARNING
You CAN have it all.
Seriously here right now in this moment, I have it all. I have everything I desire and dream of. I write in my book The Great Unlearning, We’re conditioned to have things in life as ‘good enough’—good enough sex, good enough money, good enough relationships, good enough jobs. But what about great? What about excellent? In fact, we’re shamed for wanting more—more pleasure, more money, more appreciation.
We’ve been conditioned to equate wanting more as superficial, dirty and to the detriment of others. We’re told it’s ridiculous to believe we can be an amazing partner, mother and career woman at the same time.
Our culture celebrates sacrifice through these beliefs: If you want lots of money, you have to work lots. If you want to be successful at work, you have to spend less time with loved ones.’ I say screw that you can.
At times this changes, everyone’s definition is different, maybe you have the majority of what you want at one moment in time and that flips in another… but for you listening I dare you to not only dream of having it all but know that you can have it all.
If I can, so can you, why not?
- Self-identityTHE LEARNING
You are (insert name). You are (insert number) years old. You are a (insert job here).
THE UNLEARNING
You are a soul having a human experience. Your identity is a costume you wear and you’re the one that gets to decide what that looks like.
I think in your 20’s it’s a normal and common experience to question who you are (especially my fellow open g centres in human design). Again through conditioning I felt as if I had to know who I was? But I can say I’ve changed every year in my 20’s leading up to my 30’s.
I used to identify so much with my material possessions and appearance in my early 20’s then in my mid 20’s to end my career… now I just know who I am and I know I am beyond all of this stuff which is human.
I’m a soul underneath it all. I honestly didn’t have it figured out for a long time and that’s okay, embrace the unknown and process of figuring it all out in your 20’s.
So I ask you… Who are you? Who are you really? Are you you because of you or because the world made you this way? Do you know your place in this world? What makes you, you?
- Self loveTHE LEARNING
It’s easy to love others but hard to love yourself.
THE UNLEARNING
What if it’s not about loving yourself but loving being yourself?
Self love has evolved rapidly in my 20’s to now being 30. At times even in the book I mention feeling sad and now ultimately having so much compassion for myself in my 20’s in my self love journey.
I used to be someone who needed to be externally validated especially by men and social media. It’s funny that this year I’ve been on social media less in my business yet incredibly abundant despite changing algorithms too. I’ve been less on social media in personal life and more happier and carefree than ever too. Again not to go to extremes because I also love social media as a conscious tool to connect and help people!
Something that really made me question things is how I start the Self Love chapter in The Great Unlearning.
“If I were to ask you to name all the places, things and people you love, I can almost guarantee that your name is last, if it is even on the list at all. It’s about unlearning that self love can’t be bought. It can’t be earned by being pretty, smarter, more successful and so fourth. Self love takes work. Self work is a conscious on going journey”.
- Your ThoughtsTHE LEARNING
Everything you think is a fact and must be true.
THE UNLEARNING
Your thoughts are not facts, but they do form your reality.
A simple game changer for me that really unlevelled my awareness and consciousness.
At the end of the day, your thoughts are just thoughts. We are conditioned to believe our thoughts should be or need to be a certain way but they don’t. Our minds are great storytellers!
- HappinessTHE LEARNING
You should be happy all the time (everyone else is!).
THE UNLEARNING
You don’t have to be happy all the time. You say you want to be happy but only when you’re a certain way or something in particular has happened in your life. That’s not happiness. That’s self-imprisonment.
This stemmed from toxic positivity culture and well-meaning socio-cultural conditioning having been raised Vietnamese Chinese in Australia. It was so freeing to understand it’s okay not to be happy all that time and it’s normal not to be happy all the time.
Sure, you can chase happiness but really it can’t be bought, caught or obtained. You see, so many people seem to miss that happiness doesn’t suddenly start in the relationship, the job, the degree or money… happiness isn’t an object.
Which goes in to my next unlearning.
- FeelingsTHE LEARNING
Feelings are scary and should be avoided at all costs.
THE UNLEARNING
Feelings aren’t scary. They are what make us human.
We live in a society that is ruled by the mind. We must do the logical thing. We must analyse it. Feelings have become foreign. We are scared of feelings. Feelings are uncomfortable.
Again learning my human design was a game changer – I am an emotional authority. We are all built to feel our feelings that’s why we are humans and especially as an emotional authority my soul has been designed and orchestrated to really feel it all as part of my life’s storyline in this lifetime. That yes indeed sensitivity isn’t a curse it’s a superpower and blessing.
My sensitivity helps me attune to clients energy and channeling to receive messages for them. My sensitivity is beautiful because I get to feel the lowest of lows and highest of highs. The two go hand in hand. Duality.
Leading to…
- Spiritual BreakthroughsTHE LEARNING
Spiritual breakthroughs are sudden epiphanies after dedicated practice and learning.
THE UNLEARNING
Your biggest spiritual breakthroughs won’t be found on a yoga mat or in meditation. You’ll find them through the greatest spiritual practice of all: your life.
I chose this unlearning to best encapsulate the majority of my life experiences navigating difficult circumstances, tough emotions and moving through mental health whether it be deep grief from losing my dad at 20 or the grief that came with leaving my corporate job even though it was what I wanted, my ego death of who I thought I was before becoming a life coach, the end of a three year relationship, moving out of my dream home at the time that had so many significant memories such being able to afford an apartment by the beach due to a promotion and pay rise in my corporate career, as where I started my side hustle turning business/career, where I first lived with a partner for 3 years.
My biggest breakthroughs happened in my biggest breakdowns.
We can know this and still feel how difficult it is because alas the experience of being human.
The Wrap UpThis leads to my wrap up in a big beautiful bow because turning 30 coincides with the end of your Saturn Return which is the equivalent of turning 21 spiritually.
Thus turning 30 this is only the beginning… I’m sure many more unlearning are to come and be shared with you.
If you are in your 20’s and 30’s wanting help, guidance and support from me I strongly recommend reading my book The Great Unlearning which can be purchase online via Amazon and other retailers, as well as in store (you can get your book store to order it!) as well as getting a Saturn Return reading with me and 1:1 coaching.
All details can be found on my website otherwise you can DM me on Instagram @thephidang or email me hi@phidang.com.
Phi shares practical tips and journaling prompts to harness the celestial energies of the Lions Gate Portal and Venus Retrograde in 2023. Get ready to align with the stars, planets and open your heart.You’ll want to, grab your journal for this episode beautiful soul to write notes and answer powerful journaling prompts to navigate all this energy with awareness and intention.
Resources from today's episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Episode Introduction Hi beautiful souls, welcome to a special episode of the Grow Through It Podcast today that's all about empowering you to harness the celestial energies of the Lions Gate Portal and Venus Retrograde! Today, we dive deep into the mystical realms of astrology and energy, exploring the powerful convergence of energies that can guide us towards profound transformation and self-discovery. My friend Japna who is an energy healer and I ran the most beautiful ceremony over the weekend and I felt really inspired to share the insights that came from the channeling I did for the event. My heart is so full and we had so many incredible moments at the ceremony such as mother and daughter healing and bonding, souls moving on from heartbreak, souls calling in love and a real desire to step in to one’s power and true authentic self. Get ready to align with the stars, planets and open your hearts, as I share practical tips and journaling prompts to help you make the most of this cosmic energy. The Lions Gate Portal, a powerful cosmic alignment that occurs every August, brings with it a surge of heightened energy and spiritual insights. It’s been open since the end of July, peaking on the 8th of August and closing on the 12th of August. It connects us to ancient wisdom and empowers us to tap into our inner strength and courage. But that's not all! We also have the magical influence of Venus Retrograde, coming to a new height this week — urging us to look inward, examine our values, beliefs, and patterns around love, relationships, and self-worth. This is a time of deep reflection and healing, as we let go of old emotional wounds and make space for more authentic connections and fulfilling experiences. You’ll want to, grab your journal for this episode beautiful soul to write notes and answer powerful journaling prompts to navigate all this energy with awareness and intention. The stars and planets are in true alignment this week and I’m here to help you make the most of this and get ready to shine bright like Sirius herself, the Spiritual Sun associated with Lions Gate as well as Venus, our planet of love, values and money. Let’s get into it! Lion's Gate Portal 2023 Cosmic Alignment: Sirius is the brightest star in the night sky. Sirius means “Glowing” in Greek. It is often associated with spiritual awakening, enlightenment, and higher consciousness. Many spiritual beliefs consider Sirius to be a source of divine energy and light. Ancient Civilisations: Throughout history, various ancient civilisations, such as the Egyptians, Sumerians, and Dogon people of Africa, revered Sirius and incorporated it into their cosmology and religious practices. The Dogon tribe, in particular, is known for its extensive knowledge about the Sirius star system, which they passed down through oral tradition. Divine Feminine Energies: In certain spiritual beliefs, Sirius is associated with the divine feminine energies and is seen as a symbol of the sacred feminine principle. It is often linked to the Egyptian goddess Isis and her nurturing, protective, and healing qualities. Isis is one of the most influential goddesses in ancient Egyptian mythology. She is considered the epitome of the divine feminine and is associated with motherhood, fertility, magic, wisdom, and protection.
In this episode Phi shares an update of the collective energy in August 2023 which promises to be a celestial spectacle with two supermoons in Aquarius and Pisces, the Leo New Moon, and several planets in retrograde. She also touches on the the heart chakra, love, soul mates, starseeds and light councils.
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August 2023 Energy Update Hi beautiful souls, can you believe it’s August 2023 already!? By demand this episode is all about the energetics of August and there is a lot going on and to be honest I think I’ve said that about most months this year. It feels like 2023 is this huge energetic shift all year setting up for what is going to be a BIG 2024.
This month promises to be a celestial spectacle with two supermoons in Aquarius and Pisces, the Leo New Moon, and several planets in retrograde. So, let's dive right in and uncover the cosmic influences that will shape our spiritual paths. Supermoons and Full Moons 2023 August begins and ends with two super full moons. At the time of recording this we've just had the Aquarius full moon and the majority of many have been feeling all the feels. It’s interesting because this moon in particular is known as the "Sturgeon" moon, named after the fish and is symbolic of the older parts of ourselves that may be hidden and want to come to light — hence the super full moon illumination.
Full moons are about release and emotions (the moon symbolic of the feminine and emotions) yet the Aquarius flavour gives us a practicality and groundedness to it. A full moon represents the closing of a chapter so this one links to the Aquarius New Moon that happened in January 2023. Compare where you were then and how you were feeling vs where you are now.
What’s the difference between a Supermoon and normal full moon, well everything is amplified and heightened! Already the case with a full moon and even more so with a supermoon. Energy becomes more intense. Emotions become more intense. Intuition becomes more intense.
Now I will intuitively let you know that the Supermoon that closes the month will be way more emotional than the one that opened because it’s Pisces energy and the beginning was Aquarius. Pisces is a water sign known to be sensitive and in the depths of the feels. Starseed, Aliens and Light Councils Another aside is the strong Alien/Starseed/Light council energy we have coming to the forefront in August. Starseeds are souls that have incarnated on Earth from other star systems, dimensions, or planets to serve a specific purpose. They are believed to have special gifts, knowledge, or abilities that can be used to assist in the spiritual evolution and transformation of humanity and the planet. You can tell if you have star seed origins based on your natal chart and for example I know I come from an Arcturian background. A great way to tap into this all is through meditation setting the intention to connect to the light and spending time in physical sunlight too. Lion's Gate 2023 On August 8th of course we have the Lion’s Gate portal. We move from water into the fires of Leo season to transform our emotions into propelling us to new heights of our best selves.
The Lion’s Gate portal has it’s roots in Ancient Egypt and is linked to Sirius, one of the brightest stars in our sky known as the ‘Spiritual Sun.’ It is a special time to align with your highest self and receive energetic upgrades and downloads because of the powerful portal created when Earth aligns with Sirius and the Sun.
On a side note, if you are based in Sydney Australia I will be running an in person event on Sunday 6th of August in Newtown with my beautiful friend Japna. Themes we will explore in this ceremony: Connection. Courage. Manifestation. Abundance.
In today's episode Phi speaks with Michi Kwan, who like Phi, left the high paying corporate world to pursue her own passion. Michi is now an alternative health practitioner focusing on subconscious reprogramming and EFT. We speak about entrepreneurship, inner child activation and healing, being your highest quantum self, discipline, masculine and feminine energetics in dating + so much more!
Resources from today's episode and connect with Michi Kwan from the Source of Truth Podcast Michi's InstagramMichi's Podcast: Source of TruthMichi's Website Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Chatting to Michi Kwan from the Source of Truth Podcast Michi in terms of human design is a 1/3 manifesting generator with an emotional authority. Michi also has her own podcast: Source of Truth which bridges everyday topics with spirituality all about energy, the laws of the universe, channeled messages from God and pure love.This episode covers topics such as:Michi's corporate career as a consultant and advising Fortune 500 companiesHer journey and passion for entrepreneurship Showing up and being seenVulnerabilityEmpathy compassion inner healingThe gift of her 3 profile line in human design - her approach to business and entrepreneurshipDiscipline, self sabotage, inner child work, subconscious work, shadow work, emotional freedom technique (EFT) and self healing toolsStarseed being and owning your weirdExploring spirituality and religionSpiritual awakening and the spiritual path in lifeMasculine and Feminine energies & dating
In this magical interview, Phi and Paige interview each other. Paige Kane is a shaman, volva, psychic, intuitive and mentor in her business Feed Your Intuition. She also has a podcast 'The Powerful Practitioner Podcast.'This episode will take you on a potent and powerful journey of unlearning and unlocking your intuitive potential as we dive deep into these enlightening topics, including Paige's personal story becoming a shaman, leaving her hospitality career, the recent shift in her business creating new space for alignment, her life's work and purpose and healing the throat chakra.We also talk about love and money, two universal themes, come into focus, as we delve into personal growth and the transformative nature of relationships.You’ll hear about the unlearning process surrounding love, and the power that arises from embracing one's challenging experiences.You’ll also learn the basics of Human Design, how it compares to astrology and the importance of honouring your unique energy. You’ll gain insight from highlights of Paige & Phi’s charts throughout the episode - giving practical guidance on how Human Design can be seen (and applied) IRL.
Resources from today's episode and connect with Paige Kane from the Powerful Practitioner Podcast and Feed Your Intuition Feed Your IntuitionPaige's InstagramPaige's Podcast The Powerful Practitioner Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Chatting to Paige Kane from the Powerful Practitioner Podcast and Feed Your Intuition I am so excited for this podcast episode with Paige Kane. Paige is a shaman, volva, psychic, intuitive and mentor. She is a 6/2 Sacral Generator, Capricorn Sun, Cancer Moon and Cancer Rising. She’s been in the industry for over 6 years! I’ve done energy healing and readings with Paige myself meeting her through a friend and client who recommender her. This episode was incredibly potent and powerful as we both were in the flow zone of channeling and sharing messages from our respective spiritual teams. We interview each other in this episode so it’s really fun and there’s so so much to take out of this episode. Paige has her own podcast the Powerful Practitioner Podcast too. Paige actually started her career in hospitality which led into luxury 5-star Beverly Hills Hotel Management. While working a part-time job, she went for her Master’s in Nutrition. Doing this time she found her spiritual mentor and went to Shaman school. Paige’s business is called Feed your Intuition helping to unlock your intuition, step into your power and live the life. Enjoy today’s episode beautiful soul!
This episode features Courtney Wallbank from the Proudly Imperfect Podcast. In this episode we talk all things anxiety, self love, perfectionism, fear of failure, money mindset, moving countries and so much more. You're in for a juicy episode as Courtney shares more on how to truly be proudly imperfect as well as Grow and Glow!
The Proudly Imperfect Podcast with Courtney WallbankCourtney Wallbank's Instagram (@thegrowclow.co)Connect with Courtney's resources Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Chatting to Courtney Wallbank from the Proudly Imperfect Podcast Courtney's Human Design: 5/1 Sacral GeneratorHi beautiful souls, I am so happy today to have Courtney Wallbank on the Grow Through it Podcast. I was recently on her podcast Proudly Imperfect. Courtney is a NLP and Mindset Coach who helps you break free from the chains of anxiety and fear so you can grab life by the tits and be unapologetically you.Would you be able to let everybody know in your own words who you are?We discuss how we met by Courtney sending me a message in 2021 when I announced I was going from my full time corporate job and you were at the beginning of your journey. She was part of a free masterclass week I held and won a human design reading.We also cover how Courtney got into personal growth, her journey, handling projections, shadow work, self love, money mindset, being proudly imperfect, perfectionism: that it’s a learned behaviour and you have the power to unlearn it. It can also be interpreted as a trauma response as a coping mechanism.Courtney shares her tips about perfectionism, how she personally handles perfectionism, the fear of failure as well as her Instagram handle of Grow and Glow.Not only that we talk about anxiety, her brave move from Manchester in the UK to Sydney Australila.
Happy Launch Day! Phi's debut book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned And Authentic Life is now available worldwide!
In this episode she shares a preview of the audiobook (Chapter 2: Timelines). You can purchase the book in store, online, ebook or audiobook.
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This episode features Ell Duclos and Courtney from the Thoughts That Manifest Podcast. We chat all things about their friendship, family, abandonment wounds, loss and grief, self care and astrology + so much more. Ell is a Manifestation and Mindset coach and Courtney works in Critical Care. A powerful episode on all things deep, dark and beautiful in life.
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Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Thoughts That Manifest Podcast Thoughts That Manifest Instagram Ell Duclos - Instagram Ell Duclos - Website Courtney - Instagram Phi on The Thoughts That Manifest Podcast
Chatting to Ell Duclos and Courtney from the Thoughts That Manifest Podcast Hello Beautiful Souls, today I am so excited to have Ell and Courtney from the Thoughts That Manifest Podcast which is all about inspiring people to awaken their mind to their limitless potential. I was recently on their podcast a couple of weeks ago and I’ll link it to you in the show notes it was such a beautiful deep conversation on uncovering your soul purpose through human design. We also discussed all things related to self love, self care and soul alignment! Ell Duclos and Courtney Human Design
Ell - Manifesting Generator 5/1 Courtney - Emotional Projector - 4/6
What's covered speaking to Ell and Courtney from the Thoughts That Manifest Podcast
Describing each other, Ell and Courtney's friendship of over 20 years! Having other friends Long distance friendships and navigating that Looking at their charts together I found it interesting that their energies overlaid to become one channel that’s activated is struggle - Ell has the energy of fear of purpose in the sense not living up to your full potential or that life is meaningless, Courtney has the energy of the fighter. Abandonment Wounds Feeling and being alone Loss and Grief Being Parentless Drugs and Addiction Book Recommendations: Mother Hunger Trigger Warning: Suicide, Death Feeling like a saviour matyr The channel of Judgement in Human Design Emotions such as anger Inner Child Work Running your own business Manifesting New Moon June 2023 Gemini Self Care Unlearning
This episode is all about how your period syncs up to the moon cycle in different phases. The most commonly known are the white moon cycle or red moon cycle, however did you know there is also the pink moon cycle and purple moon cycle? Learn more about your period, menstruation and moon cycles.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.Rise & Conquer - Phi's episode with Georgie Stevenson on Spotify Part 1Rise & Conquer - Phi's episode with Georgie Stevenson on Spotify Part 2 Introduction Hello beautiful soul! Wow what a momentous week it has been. I started off the week not feeling great if I’m honest. On the dot of the peak full moon in Sagittarius we had last week, I got one of the heaviest periods I’ve ever had in a long time. We are talking no match for my period undies. So much so for two days I could barely get out of bed, I couldn’t even cross the road to the shops to buy pads. Bless my mum had to come help me this week as it was quite crippling and debilitating. She was so lovely despite the fact I was tearing up, frustrated and angry because I was triggered by a conversation we had. It took a lot for me to ask my mum to come help me as I live alone and I don’t like to rely on anyone really. I was annoyed finding myself wishing I had a partner who could help me you know? Life coaches have triggers too Don’t get me wrong I am so happy and I do enjoy being single. It’s given me so much time to reflect, work on myself and business after a break up which again was around a year ago. It’s crazy how life changes on the other side and no regrets. I am truly living my best life but I still have my moments.It was a triggered reminder despite how successful and happy I am in life with my business, friends that I was single and love seemed to be evading me. A very human moment and I ultimately am so grateful my mum was able to help me. Even as a life coach, I still get triggered. What matters is I face my triggers, I don’t run from them. That meant throwing a tantrum in the moment and apologising to my mum after. That meant going into shadow work about why I felt ashamed being so successful but wanting love too it felt weak but it’s not, it’s a very human desire. Looking at my human design helped too because I am single definition which means I am actually naturally wired to be independent and not need anyone, that doesn’t mean I can’t want someone and to be transparent that’s where I am at. I don’t need a partner for financial, emotional support or connection but yes I do desire it! Phi Dang x Rise & Conquer Podcast What else has been happening? In divine timing my episode with Georgie Stevenson on the Rise & Conquer podcast came out which was very exciting. Thank you so much for all your beautiful messages and I am so happy to be meeting everyone through human design readings. I have opened my calendar up with more availabilities so if you’d like a reading please book in, I would love to connect with you and read your human design chart. It’s been incredible what’s been uncovered in the readings I’ve had this week from loved ones who have passed away making appearances, picking up on pregnancies as well as uncovering karmic relationships and predicted ex’s returning for clients!If you haven’t listened to the episode with Georgie, I’ll link it in the show notes because I do a live reading for Georgie if you have ever been interested as to what goes on in a reading. She said it was one of the most mind blowing interviews she has done which made my heart so happy. If you love this podcast, you’ll absolutely love her podcast Rise & Conquer too. 2 weeks until book launch! Not only that I cannot believe that we are under 2 weeks away from my book T...
This episode is all about the Sagittarius Full Moon in June 2023. Learn more about the energies and what to expect during the Sagittarius Full Moon. There are also journaling prompts for the Sagittarius Full Moon in June 2023.
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Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
Sagittarius Full Moon June 2023 Hello beautiful soul and I cannot believe it’s June 2023. At the end of this month on the 23rd my book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life will be released globally. It feels quite surreal, I still remember coming up with the concept and it will soon be in your hands!
This weekend we have the Sagittarius full moon. This will fall over the weekend on Saturday June 3rd or Sunday 4th June 2023 depending where you are. If you’re based in Australia like me, this falls on Sunday afternoon. Full moons are all about illumination and letting go. You may find more clarity with insights and revelations that trickle in to your world during this time. Depending on your personal chart details you may find this new moon energising or exhausting.
What are you ready to let go of and release under this upcoming full moon? Who is most impacted under the Sagittarius Full Moon in June 2023 Sagittarius is a mutable sign which falls under the category of being flexible, adaptable and accordingly fellow signs Pisces, Gemini and Virgo are more likely to feel this full moon. However there are other energetic influences at play like Mars and Uranus to name a few amongst many that will also have an impact.
Remember it's no one size fits all in astrology or human design it’s too simplistic to know your energy based on one layer such as your sun sign or type — it’s the bigger picture on how it all comes together. If you’re looking for support here I do offer human design readings and for 1:1 clients depending on your container I offer weekly guidance personalised to you! More on that in the show notes or DM me for information on Instagram. Sagittarius energy and archetype Full Moons can be emotional and uncomfortable times with releasing what no longer serves us but this one will have some optimism with Sagittarius. Sagittarius is known for being the great wanderer and traveler, the teacher and philosopher, the student of life, the independent truth seeker which is half human, half horse.
This Sagittarius full moon is here as your teacher to impart wisdom on you, and it would be wise to take notes (journaling) of what is revealed to you in this lead up to the full moon and the three days after. Whilst you're at it, you may like to reflect on what your personal philosophy is right now and who are your greatest teachers? Sagittarius: The Bigger Picture Fun fact for you, full moons will always take place when the moon is in the opposite zodiac sign from the sun. At times due to this the full moon can bring up experiences and feelings of conflict internally and externally. For the Sagittarius full moon this is in Gemini season.
Gemini’s are known to be details and fact orientated, whereas this Sagittarius full moon will shed light on the big picture about what truly matters over the little trivial things and minute details. Again the philosophical, infinitely bigger cosmic approach that Sagittarius is known for. Like the arrow of the Sagittarius archer, focus on what is really important to make your life easier during this Sagittarius full moon.
How can you aim higher?
Where is best to place your attention and focus here and right now?
That is your power, your choice, if you are open and willing to, see the higher meaning and purpose to be found in your life here and right now, despite any heartbreak, pains and disappointments.
What bigger picture thinking do you need to invite into ...
This episode is all about the Goddess Kali, known for death, destruction and rebirth. She is the epitome of raw power. The dark divine feminine. Learn how to channel your inner Kali to overcome obstacles in your life.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Kali in a dream - her meaning Hello beautiful soul,What an eclipse season it has been! I’ve been called to chat about Kali in today’s podcast episode. She came to me vividly during eclipse season and called upon me to share more about her and that I will do! I actually had a dream where she was eating me alive and instead of resisting, I leaned into the experience only for us to make love — yup! Felt like a real metaphor for surrendering to change, including what can seem ‘bad’ but actually ultimately becomes ‘good’ because you learn, you grow and you expand. Who is Kali? The Hindu Goddess Kali is a Hindu Goddess who is quite misunderstood. Visually she’s so striking, often portrayed with vibrant blue skin sticking her tongue, sometimes with multiple heads, out holding her sword and decapitated head or wearing a necklace strung with severed heads. Kali was born during a battle with evil demons and defeated them, hence this imagery. She is said to be a form of Pavarti, a benevolent sweet, loving, gentle goddess. Kali is true authenticity and power, she isn’t here to be like or traditionally beautiful. She isn’t here to be subservient to men, subtle, submissive or dutiful. She isn’t the performative feminine. She is raw. She is untamed. Kali is powerful She’s truly powerful, fierce and ferocious. She symbolises death, destruction as well as rebirth and is seen as a keeper of time too. She is the counterpart of Shiva the destroyer, bringing death to ego and attachment. She’s scary because she brings about change. Not one to be complacent, she ushers in massive changes instantly, as if all at once. Life changes at the blink of an eye without warning. She brings upon your next level. Kali is a force Kali is a force to be reckoned with and she comes into your life to destroy anything that is not serving you. It’s often not subtle either. She enters your life as a force. You often don’t call upon her, she calls upon you. I’ve personally never called her into my life, she’s come to me. Take warning, if you call her into your life this isn’t child’s play, she truly means business as the goddess of war and battle too. She’s tough love. She reminds us that we need destruction in our lives, to let go of the old, have a clearing for the new to come in. Death is a natural part in the cycles of life. At times she sees things that are hidden, that we not be able to perceive as we are blinded or ignorant. Kali helps you let go and surrender Kali in practical terms is the archetype of surrendering, letting go of what no longer serves you and if you cannot take action, she will take it upon your behalf and make it happen. She helps us break free from attachments. Kali is a protective divine mother. She shows us that even in painful times, there is always purpose. Kali is the dark divine feminine What really strikes me about Kali is that she is the divine dark feminine, shakti but not as what we know it. She shows the fierce power of the feminine. She gives us what we need, not necessarily what we want. She’ll strip away your comfort, taking away the safety blanket to help us navigate the waters of the uncomfortable. How to channel your inner Kali Sometimes we need to channel our inner Kali, to be strong, to be unchained, wild, free, liberated. Unleash your inner Kali when it’s time to be bold and brave. To speak your truth. To face your demons. To stand in your power.
This Saturday May 6th, I will be holding an in person Divine Feminine Day Retreat in Newtown, Sydney, Australia with my beautiful friend energy healer, yoga & meditation teacher Japna Singh Dussol. It happens to align and coincide with the Scorpio Full Moon Lunar Eclipse (unplanned but so divine!) This episode provides more information about the event and the energies at play at the moment (tiring and emotional!).
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Tickets to the Divine Feminine Day Retreat on the 6th of May Japna's Instagram Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.
The Divine Feminine Day Retreat Series - Autumn May 6th 2023: Newtown, Sydney, Australia Magic happens when women gather in circle.
Honour your heart and soul with a nourishing day retreat with like minded women to rest and recalibrate with the changing of the seasons.
With the end of summer, the days are getting cooler, the nights are getting longer and we are being called to journey within.
To align with the rhythm and cycles of nature, the winds of change are here.
Autumn is upon us, as we prepare for a period of rest with Winter. We are invited to slow down and surrender.
To reflect and find balance: masculine and feminine, light and dark, past and future.
To land here in the present and be grounded after the intense energies to kickstart 2023.
Unwind, relax and release as we dedicate a day to self care. To let go of what no longer serves you, like the falling of leaves, bringing balance back into your mind, body and soul. To be held and supported in safe, sacred space and shift into a new energetic season.
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share circle and seasonal masterclass (letting go and surrender)
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gentle yoga and meditation
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sound energy healing
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yoni steaming circle and sacred ceremony
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connection to Mother Earth
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journal prompts
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morning tea and lunch
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When: Saturday 6th May 2023
Where: 11-13 Darley Street, Newtown, Sydney
Investment: $250 AUD
We look forward to holding space for you! If you have any questions, reach out to either of us:
Instagram: @thephidang or @japnasinghdussol
Email: hi@phidang.com or japnadussol@gmail.com
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Scorpio Full Moon Lunar Eclipse Energy Update We’ve had the new moon solar eclipse in Aries last week and now we are heading into a lunar eclipse full moon with Scorpio (which happens to be my sign!). This eclipse is linked to the previous one because it’s the perfect time to let go of anything that arose back then and is part of a long series of Taurus and Scorpio eclipses, in fact the second last marker in this journey that began in November 2021 and will end in October this year around my birthday too, so I’m all too well of the feelings and energies of this one.
Take a moment to reflect on what was unfolding in your life since and back in November 2021 to zoom out and shed light on the storyline that is being divinely created and orchestrated in your life for your highest growth and expansion.
Scorpio represents the south node which is karmic and the past therefore it can particularly stir up karmic relationships and situations, residuals that may have previously begun with the solar eclipse last week to fall away because it no longer serves you. Think of it as a spiritual karmic detox and purge. I’m personally really getting the download for anyone listening here to pay attention to karmic relationships whether that be romantic, family, colleagues or friends.
The solar eclipse is about new energy and beginnings whereas a lunar eclipses is about completion or moving into a new direction. The moon represents the subconscious and feminine, so one can expect this full moon eclipse to be emotionally charged in some way.
Your personal growth journey can't always be consistently fast growth, there needs to be rest and integration too for it to be sustainable. In this episode I share an approach and practical ways to rest and integrate in your personal growth journey.
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My book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life is now available to pre-order all over the world! This episode is the announcement that Phi's debut book can now be pre-ordered all over the world; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life. The book will be available in all good book stores and online retailers.Phi also shares an exclusive sneak preview of part of the first chapter in the book; Success.
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All about the Libra Full Moon in April 2023 This episode is all about the Libra Full Moon in April 2023 and also mentions the Day of Miracles and the alignment of the Divine Feminine energetically too.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Pre-order Phi's debut book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. The energy shift from March to April 2023 If you’re listening to this congratulations because what a March that was full of cosmic planetary shake ups, twists and turns. Still feeling the impacts of March? You’re not alone, allow yourself the time and space to integrate what has happened for you. April may spark up some feelings given the overall general energy of relationships and healing wounds from them with this Full Moon too. Speaking of which, I had planned to record an episode on integration last week but ironically I was needing time and space to integrate after a huge month of soft launching my debut book The Great Unlearning which is now available to pre-order before it releases on the 23rd of June 2023 (more information on my website) and then going into my own self care by attending a retreat after! So that will be next week’s episode. This week is all about the upcoming Libra Full Moon and as an added bonus I’m going to be talking about the day of miracles that is also happening in April. The Libra full moon is the first full moon of the astrological new year. Libra Full Moon Energy in April 2023 Full moons are a time about completion and letting go so you’ll want to incorporate that into your week by taking note of what you would like to release.This full moon occurs on the 5th of April 2023 or 6th of April 2023 depending where in the world you are, the 6th for those like me in Australia.This full moon is closing the cycle out of the new moon in Libra which was around the 25th/26th September 2022 pending if you live in the northern and southern hemisphere respectively. Take a moment to pause and reflect on what was happening in your life then and how it has played out now.The full moon illuminates what is coming to a close and we receive signs we are in alignment and on the right track otherwise with it being in Libra, we’ll receive signs exposing where we may need adjustments and rebalancing in our lives. This is further magnified by the presence of Chiron, the wounded healer and represents our greatest wound in life is present next to the sun. Libra and the Divine Feminine in April 2023 Libra is ruled by Venus, the goddess of love, beauty and relationships. Venus is the epitome of feminine and it’s currently in the house of Taurus (the other sign it rules) therefore the full moon is the culmination of the divine feminine. The moon is a beautiful time to celebrate the divine feminine with you! Think slowing down, luxury, sensual and feeling safe and secure. Some simple ways could be pampering yourself, think bath, face mask, beautiful body lotions or oils and yes you can buy yourself flowers! Savouring hot chocolate or sipping on champagne. Making the extra effort for the little details: lighting up candles, garnishing your meals, fresh crisp sheets. It’s not what you do necessarily but the intention behind why you are doing it — for you, to honour the divine feminine in you, the divine goddess that you are. Furthermore being in Venus we are invited to be in our senses for the healing the full moon presents, through movement, through art, through pleasure and through play. This quote by Teri Dealer sums it up “When you feel you are being moved by the creative spirit, you are in fact being moved by the divine feminine.”Do note that the divine masculine embodied by Mars is currently in the sign of Cancer (which isn’t natural given Cancer is watery,
My book The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life is now available to pre-order This episode talks about the book finally being unveiled for the first time the title and cover. Not only that Phi shares an excerpt of the book, the introduction of The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living An Aligned and Authentic Life.
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What is your Saturn Return? This episode is all about Saturn and the transit known as your Saturn Return. What is your Saturn Return and how a Saturn Return Human Design Reading can help you alongside tips to navigating your Saturn Return with my own personal examples.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Book a Saturn Return Human Design Reading with Phi here.Sign up for updates on Phi's Book here. Show Transcript Hello hello beautiful soul today’s episode is all about your Saturn Return. What is a Saturn Return? Saturn Return is when the planet Saturn returns to the position it was in the cosmos when you were born. For Saturn it’s orbit takes typically every 27-29 years to return to this position. When you get a reading done such as with me in a Saturn Return Human Design reading, you are given the exact time and date that Saturn returns to it’s original position. It’s influence is felt in the lead up to returning to that very position and afterwards too, that’s why we typically see it influencing someone between the ages of 27-31. What information do you need for your Saturn Return? In order to find out your Saturn Return date you’ll need to know your birthday, time of birth and where you were born. Do note your Saturn Return begins when there’s the collective shift into a different sign but the peak is when it’s in the original position. You can find this out in a reading as I just mentioned but there’s also free calculators online to work this out however if you want to go in depth and know all the details and what it means that’s when you’d want a reading! What does Saturn Represent?
Saturn is the planet that represents responsibility, discipline and accountability. Saturn can also be known as the ‘taskmaster,’ ‘teacher,’ and dad’ of the zodiac. Think of Saturn as your teacher that wouldn’t just let you watch movies and skip homework. Saturn is the type of teacher that really wants to teach you the substantial stuff, may set really hard exams and later down the track you’re thankful because you realise you learnt so much as difficult and painful as the process was. Likewise think of Saturn Return the experience like a Master’s at the university of life. Before it takes place you have a degree or advanced diploma (think of this as your 20’s experiencing life). A masters takes dedication, hard work and can be tough but ultimately so worth it just like your Saturn Return. Saturn Return, authority and parents Collectively Saturn is authority so think your parents, bosses, institutions and government — here to keep things in order and check. By those same energies think themes that can come up in your return authority, restriction and responsibilities. Your Saturn Return particularly half way through towards the end has us free, liberated and emancipated from our parents as we truly become our own. You may be even more likely to be forgiving and understanding of your parents having seen what it takes to be an adult on your own and ready to take full responsibility for yourself and the way you are (as we always say no parent is perfect, they are human after all but at some point in your life you come to realise I can’t change my childhood but I can take responsibility by stepping into my power to work through what has come up as a result of it. Saturn Return and Karma Saturn also represents karma. You reap what you sow during this period and karmically speaking in ways. Rewards and harvest are plentiful for those who have done the work for example consistently doing your best at work in a job you love that may mean a huge promotion or a secondment abroad. Maybe you previously you used to ghost many people and then you end up being ghosted in a devastating way that may not be romantic,
The cosmic changes of March 2023 and the Virgo Full Moon There is a lot going down in March 2023 energetically, spiritually and astrologically. This episode explains what to expect, how to work with the themes and energies including the Virgo Full Moon, Saturn shifting into Pisces from Aquarius and Pluto shifting from Capricorn into Aquarius.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Sign up for updates on Phi's Book here. Show Transcript Episode 33 - March 2023 Energy Update and Virgo Full Moon Hi Beautiful Soul, I’m so happy and grateful that you are here listening and there is a lot to share. Before I do I just wanted to say oh my goodness on 2/3/23 I received the first physical copy of my book and wow it felt soooo aligned. As a listener of this podcast I’m going to have a huge announcement about the book towards the end of the month but watch this space! The book is going to be released in June. It felt so surreal to hold in my hands a body of work that I have poured my heart and soul into all of last year in 2022. If you want to be the first to know about this news, head to my website phidang.com/book and sign up to the book updates mailing list! What is going on energetically in March 2023? Now getting to today’s podcast episode. I felt really drawn and compelled to speak about what is going on energetically, spiritually and astrologically in March 2023 because there is so much happening - we see major planets changing signs which I will also cover in todays' episode. A portal of change. March Madness. Likely the biggest astrological shifts and cosmic changes we will see for the whole year are happening in March. March 2023 is a brand new astrological cycle The vibe I am collectively sensing is by the time March is over we will all be saying woah and without a doubt experiencing change. In saying that maybe not everyone will experience visceral noticeable changes, but for sure seeds are being planted that will be revisited. March is the month of movement, where the real astrological new year begins (a brand new cycle of 12 months starts March 20th). I strongly recommend journaling throughout the month of March, it will prove useful as the year unfolds and you can revisit what themes are coming up for you. Virgo Full Moon in March 2023 The release of this episode coincides with the Virgo Full Moon in March. With full moons they are the close of a cycle, a time to release, surrender and let go of what no longer serves you. This one in particular links back to August 2022 in particular around the 27th/28th of August. I highly recommend flipping through old journals, photos and calendars to see what was going on in your life back then. What did you start, what intentions did you set and how is this playing out now? For me it’s wild to think about this because this coincides with my break up last year as well as moving homes. I was also so busy with human designs, facilitating readings at a retreat and getting stuck into writing the book, which is now obviously finished and done. I’m feeling much more grounded and I’ve energetically landed since those big life changing moves. It’s also worth checking in with any intentions you set 2 weeks ago with the new moon energy. I’ve felt personally that the theme has been surrender particularly with an overactive mind. Virgo traits and qualities Virgo itself as a sign is all about organisation, logical, practical, prim, proper, grounded in contrast to Pisces where the sun is right now which is head in the clouds, dreamy, emotional, spiritual, creative vibe. Think of these energies as contrasting yet complementary like yin and yang. With all the energies at play, what’s emerging is finding peace in stability thanks to Virgo: your home being clean and tidy,
All about Karma. This episode is all about Karma. What is Karma. The different types of Karma. The 12 laws of karma. How to work with karma. Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding you? Karmic relationships. Karmic contracts.
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Show Transcript Episode 32 - What is Karma and the 12 Laws of Karma This week what has come up for myself and clients is karma. So I decided to do an episode all about it. When you think of karma, you probably think what goes around comes around but there’s actually so much more to it. What is Karma? Karma comes from the Sanskrit word karman which means action, the root of the word which is ‘to do’ or ‘to make.’
Karma to me is something as a concept that gets us to be very conscious, intentional and aware of what we are doing, which isn’t a bad thing.
Living a life by design gives us more fulfilment and we have greater impact. Imagine everyone did, it would truly be a win, win!
Karma is a bridge between our lifetimes if you believe in the spiritual viewpoint that our soul has lived many lives. Over the lives we live there may be things that are unresolved and unfinished. It’s taking this broader, wider perspective on life that it isn’t just your soul as it is right now, it’s the complete timeline and history of your soul — all the lives you have lived. The universe takes care of karma, you don't have to or need to So think of it this way — you never have to go out of your way to teach someone a lesson or if you’ve been deeply hurt and wronged to enact your own justice because trust me the Universe has already set it all up. It’s not worth your time, energy or effort especially when it drags you down to their level / a lower vibration. Is karma a good or bad thing? Is the universe punishing or rewarding me? The perspective I take is that karma isn’t a bad good bad thing. It simply is. Karma simply repeats and loops itself (in what can make you feel insane) in order to create new results but in order for that to happen, something different has to change. Take the perspective it’s about accumulating awareness and knowledge to decrease ignorance.
The perspective that karma is simple a feedback system to help you be your most highest and aligned self. Karma is the mirror held up to you. So karma isn’t punishing and rewarding, it simply reflects and is neutral like a mirror. If you don’t like what you see it isn’t the mirror, it’s you. The mirror is the vehicle and channel. Karma is here to evolve your soul. Karma is a mirror I love this quote by Shannon Adler, “Karma isn't revenge; it is a mirror of your souls mistakes and for those that wish bad karma for you it is also a mirror for their mistakes. Karma was never meant to be a punishment. It is a reminder of your soul's true self to be better than all the insecurities that hurt others because of your own fear and lack in faith that God has a plan for you.” How do you know if something is karmic? How do you know if something is karmic?
Often it feels very repetitive, something that keeps coming up over and over again until we move through it and gotten what we needed from that experience whether it’s a learning or unlearning. It often involves needing to confront and face your fears.
For example I think many of us can relate to seemingly dating the same type of person. Different person but maybe the same issues come up such as emotional unavailability or feeling like you need to win someone over in order to prove you are loveable. Now I want to put it out there karmic relationships aren’t just in romantic situations, it could be that boss of yours who is hard to get along with or a friend/family member that really triggers you. Karmic Contracts In this way comes the concept of karmic contracts. Think of them in the feedback system of balancing eve...
What is Human Design? This episode explains what Human Design is and how it can help you.
Featured Resources on the episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. Show Transcript Episode 31 - What is Human Design Hi Beautiful Soul, I am so excited about today’s episode because it is about something I am very deeply passionate about which is human design! I also love how more mainstream human design is becoming because the information within human design is so powerful and truly life changing. What is Human Design? So what is human design exactly? Human design is a system which helps you to better understand yourself, your human personality self which is termed your conscious self and your unconscious self which is what we call your design, your soul. It’s a blend of spirituality and science of the modern day and the ancients pulling together astrology, I Ching the Chinese book of truths, Kabbalah, the Chakra System, Vedic Philosophy and quantum physics through neutrinos which carry energetic information passing through your body every second as examples. It has been called the ‘science of differentiation,’ ‘the next generation of self knowledge,’ ‘new astrology,’ the ‘science of the aura,’ ‘the intersection of science and spirituality.’ It’s known as a guide, map, manual to your life as well or a snapshot of your unique energy.It was channeled by Alan Krakower who went by the name of Ra Uru Hu in the 80’s/90’s after having a mystical experience where he was given the system what we know as ‘the voice’. It’s only recently become more well known and mainstream.Human Design is based on a body graph and you’ll see a lot of numbers, symbols, shapes, lines which can be very confusing and that’s where I come in to read your chart and interpret your manual to yourself. The right hand side of the chart represents your conscious self at the time you were born whereas the left hand side represents your design imprinted three months before you were born. Why Human Design? There are many tools and modalities which can help you understand yourself better whether its astrology, personality tests like enneagram or Myer Briggs, tarot cards but for me what stands out is human design because of the depth of information and the practicality of it. It’s not just a map to understanding who you are it, also gives you the insights and tools on what to do with this information, how to live, how you can apply it to any area of your life which I have seen with clients whether its business, career, your love life, making money, your life’s purpose and so fourth. Human Design is a tool for understanding yourself better and how to best apply yourself in the most authentic and alignment way. It shows you how you are unique, there are literally over 2 billion different combinations of human design. You can have the same energy type as someone and be completely different because there are so many different parts to your human design: your energy type, your authority, your profile lines, your variables, your life energies, energetic channels, actual variables the list goes on! The thing I hear the most from people who have had a reading is how validated they feel. They go ahhhh this is why I am the way I am which is a beautiful thing. To release fears that you aren’t ‘normal’ or perhaps that you’re ‘broken and messed up’ because you aren’t. Working with clients the way I like to help people understand this is through this perspective. Your soul chose to come to Earth. It chose to be in your body, with your personality and agreed to various things/circumstances/people in your life to learn the curriculum it wants to. In spiritual terms, karmic bonds, soul lessons and so fourth. When we approach life like this, there’s this relief. The universe and your highest self isn’t making life difficult on purpos...
An interview with Shule Ozek from the Closeted Soul Podcast. We talk all things spiritual, tarot cards, mental health and the esoteric world.
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Understand how fear impacts your life and the role your brain plays in the perpetuation of fear. Inspiration on overcoming fear.
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It is so important to normalise having boundaries and that especially includes your family. Family is the foundation for boundaries.
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Toxic positivity is positivity in disguise. Learn more about how toxic positivity can be quite harmful and damaging.
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What is a vulnerability hangover? What does it feel like and how to move copy with having a vulnerability hangover.
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Just like the weather, you too and your emotions will experience Summer, Spring, Autumn and Winter. Learn more about the flow of life here.
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All about the Aries New Moon in April 2021. Aries brings the energy of fire, new beginnings and is a beautiful time to plant seeds!
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An inspiring and motivating episode on possibility. There are SO many possibilities in your life avaliable and possible for you. Learn more!
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I share my first time in a float tank. What did it feel like to be in a float tank? What happened in a float tank? Would I float again?
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TJ Shana podcast episode. TJ Shana discusses everything. From grief, loss, mortality, men's mental health, self love and motivation.
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Money is just energy. So if that's the case why are there so many sayings and stories. Why is it scary to invest in ourselves?
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Your brain is a liar. It lies to you all the time. Learn about 13 ways in which your brain lies to you in this podcast episode.
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Find out what is the #1 barrier to love, what is blocking you from love and keeping you away from love in your life.
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Learn all about how the relationships in your life act as a mirror. This episode dives into the 7 Essene Mirror Principles.
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Part 3 of 4 of the brand new L💘VE SERIES. Learn how to be a super charged magnet to attract love into your life in an easy and effortless way through energetic principles.
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This is this second part of four of the brand new L💘VE SERIES. This episode is all about practical tips on how to make self love a priority in your life all day, every day. Everything from priorities to boundaries, you don't want to miss this episode.
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Your mindset impacts every part of your love life. In this podcast I share 7 mind blowing shifts you can to increase the love in your life.
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Understand why you feel negative and learn practical tools and strategies to become less negative and feel better instantly.
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As children we soak up the world like sponges. Learn how your inner child shapes your reality today as an adult.
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Learn the biological reason why you worry, what is a warrior mindset and how to be a warrior not a worrier through practical strategies.
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Episode 9 of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang is all about how to create and have success in 2021 through practical strategies.
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2020 has been a year like no other. In this episode of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, I share 20 eye opening lessons learnt.
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Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 07: Christmas Holiday Survival Guide This episode covers everything you need to know about the chaos and anxiety that can be Christmas. This episode provides practical tips and strategies to cope and have a calm Christmas. It covers everything from expectations, feeling distant from […]
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Episode Summary of The Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, 06: Forgiveness This episode covers everything you need to know about forgiveness. What truly is forgiveness, how to forgive using one powerful and free tool you already have, whether anything and everything is forgivable, how to forgive yourself and conundrums and quarrels that come […]
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This episode is all about when you are in the river of misery, a deeply uncomfortable place between where you start and where you want to be.
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You go the gym to work on your body and get fit. Why wouldn’t you take your brain to the gym? This episode is all about your mental health and fitness. Learn how to work out your brain. A powerful exploration of your mindset.
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In this episode I explain the 12 universal laws of the Universe. I cover how they impact your life and how you can use them in your daily life through practical examples. It goes beyond the Law of Attraction and covers ones you may have never heard of such as the Law of Correspondence and the Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy.
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You are the author of your book. In this episode of the Grow Through It Podcast with Phi Dang, learn how your life is like a book.
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Grow Through It honours life and life’s experiences. Life is happening for you, not to you. Learn all about what the Grow Through It Podcast is about including the four pillars of mindset, self love, energy and purpose. Get to know me, your host, Phi Dang - A clarity and confidence life coach based in Sydney Australia known as The Positivity Queen.
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The trailer for Phi Dang's Podcast, Grow Through It With Phi Dang.
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