Unchaining Me: Recent Episodes
Tiemert Letike
Have you ever stared at your reflection in the mirror and asked
“what is wrong with me?” or “why am I the way I am?”
I have. Countless times! Accompanied by tears and growing hopeless by the episode.
We all face some kind of inner blocks, self judgement and our own thoughts and emotions holding us back from living the life we feel and desire to live. Some of us more than others. The key is, are we really asking the question “why am I the way I am?” Or passing it as self judgement?
What if we asked “what happened to me?” Instead of “what’s wrong with me?”
Find out in this podcast how to deal with your inner critic and internal blocks that keep you from showing up the way you want to in life.
Thank me later.
Or just share it so it serves someone else
It is not only a good personal development skill, it also your your birth right. Everything in nature intuitively knows when and how to be resilient. Why not you? So, how can you master the art of getting back up?
In this episode, I talk about my recent read Atomic Habits, a powerful book by James Clear and the life changing effects it is having on me.
If you are wondering how to build good habits and break bad ones but don’t know where to start, this episode is for you!
Why ignore it? Conflicts happen! Especially when you have your values, expectations, fears, desires and heart at the center of a relationship. We all go though it, we all fight.
In this episode, me and my husband Nebiyou share how we handled our conflicts in the past, how we have unchained through our fights, grown into better versions of ourselves and continue to establish deeper connection with each other by utilizing our conflicts.
When was the last time you did a values check? Do your values stand the test of your self awareness and authenticity? Or maybe you’ve never really taken the time and conscious attention to explore what your values are. All you know is that there are feelings of misalignment , confusion, debilitating yearning for something you’re not sure of, a pull away from something or someone. You know you’re being spoken to.
You need a values tune-up.
This episode is for you.
I’m back from a few months of selfless sacrifice in service of 11 humans who inhabited our home for the summer. Selfless, or so I thought.
Until I got exhausted, drained and started resenting it all.
**Naturally, I’ve chosen to talk about selfishness for the first episode of the 3rd season of Unchiningme Podcast.
Why oh why do we worship selflessness? Is it really benefiting those we say we love? At what cost?**
Listen in and begin your own selfishness revolution!
You unchainers have send me some deep and insightful questions and I share with you my honest and unfiltered responses in this episode.
You deeply care about what other people think and say of you but you are also sick and tired of doing so. This episode is for you!
It’s the prescriptive least considered; that of the individual in a relationship with a person suffering from depression.
In this episode, I ask my husband to share his experience, realizations, rock bottom moment together with helpful tips, do’s and don’t s for supporting your loved one on their mental health struggles without putting your own at risk.
It's no secret, we women have suffered alienation from our sense of self worth and authenticity. In this soulful chat with Adey Chekol, we explore where and how we lost our true selves to all the layers and years of conditioning in a patriarchal society. Adey leads us to a place within us that intuitively knows it's power and is rooted in it's worth.
You may not even be aware of just how much of it you do. You probably have a list of labels you have attached to yourself, limiting and chaining your soul. And of course you unconsciously move about the world labeling all that you see, most importantly, people you come across.
This episode highlights just how unfortunate and dangerous this compulsive labeling is. It will challenge you to see things from a different perspective, bring powerful awareness to the present moment, give you some tools to practice non-labeling and benefit from the true connection and joy it offers life.
I've become somewhat of an expert in weaving out silver linings from challenging situations in life. Nevertheless, finding the good dealing with depression has brought to my life took a long while. In this episode, I share profound lessons and insights I know I cold not have learned and practiced had it not been for those dark seasons.
I also add a list things to say to the person in your life who is currently suffering from depression, yes, even if it is you.
When you have a why, they say you can bear almost any how. That’s how powerful a life lived on purpose is.
This week, I bring to you a chat with a dear friend of mine who also motivates and Inspires me as she does many other women, men and youth. She is a John Maxwell certified life coach, international leadership trainer and speaker doing wonderful things using her passionate teachings, one soul at a time.
We dive deep into a life of purpose with a powerful example of Helina’s life. You don’t want to miss this! Grab your favorite drink, walking shoes or notebooks. You’ll be glad you got on this ride with us.
She is the essence of strength, wisdom and love in an imperfectly perfect way. She is as human as they come and as divine as a pure soul. She errs, she is vulnerable and courageous to begin each day anew. She is the conscious Mother.
In this episode, we talk all about her and this This Mother's Day, we celebrate her.
We are back with Season two ya'll! In this episode, I reflect on how transformative my time way has been and how I am moving on to a different season as I resurface from a period of dormancy.
Using a powerful analogy of a game of cards, I dive into the stages of change: what each of them are characterized by, what each demand from us and how best we can make use of them.
Let's embark on a new season together!
Why do we resist change? Why do we fear transitions, slowing down, speeding up? Why must we remain at peace with the ever changing realities that govern life?
This is my reflection on what I contemplated in the span of the last several weeks. Election in America, looming civil war in Ethiopia, my personal and familial needs and limitations which demand a slower pace....I fought and resisted it all.
Listen in for the realization that was born out of it all.
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She was born in Ethiopia to Ethiopian and Eritrean parents. After her family moved to Washington DC when she was only 3 years old, her life as what she calls “Nerdy Black Immigrant Tomboy Buddhist Weirdo” would take her deep into herself in a yearning to find True Belonging.
At almost 50 years old and after surviving a three-time death sentence ushered by stage 3 and 4 cancer, she found her purpose and light being a meditation teacher, author and speaker.
She met with me over a zoom call to chat about her life, her book “You Belong” and her Ethiopian-Eritrean background as it relates to her journey.
You want to listen to her share her story and unpack what True belonging is, how we lost it and where we can find it.
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Why is it so hard to ask for help?
What are things to keep in mind for when we do ask for help and how do we increase our chances of getting it?
September is sucide awareness month. What better time to talk about knowing when to ask for help when we need it?
In this episode, I share about my own struggles in asking for help and how doing so LITERALLY saved my life.
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Stop squandering your talents and gifts. Have a rebuttal for whenever your self doubt surfaces. Stuck the ego out of your purpose.
These and more life altering lessons I learned in the three years of launching UnchainingMe.
Keep your dreams and ambitions in mind and take a listen. Your shift awaits!
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Procreation? Companionship? Status, need, convenience, financial comfort and maybe sometimes love?
What is the purpose of partnering with another individual through a loving relationship or marriage? Is it conscious, empowering, mature? Can it ever be?
In this episode, me and my husband dive into how our purpose for love changes through the years. From the marriages we formed young and broke to our perceptual shifts after meeting each other.
Take a listen!
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Are you happy? When will you be?? Seriously, what are the conditions you set to experience joy?This podcast will convince you to list those conditions and set the list on fire! It Will make you more, not less motivated to achieve your goals AND ensures you experience joy while on the way there. Go ahead, take a listen!
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Me and my co-host, the Mr, go DEEP into the beginning days of our long distance relationship to discuss our intentions with each other. We talk about the fears we brought into the relationships and the assumptions that we kept making about each other, that brought so much pain and suffering our way. Listen in!
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Our relationships are vital components to a life of joy and meaning, but are we showing up whole and seeing whole beings in others? How mindful are we about what we want, why we want it, how we communicate that and how we give that which others want from being in a relationship with us?
Listen to an introductory episode kick starting a monthly series on mindful relationships based on the book
"Mindful Loving, 10 Practices for resting Deeper Connections" written by Henry Grayson, PH.D
Please join me next week with part one of the series and stay through the process to learn ways to overcome our unconscious limitations and form meaningful and satisfying connections with other people.
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Power is the way we afford ourselves a place in the world through which we present ourselves. Are we utilizing it with awareness? What kind of power do we emulate and how does that enhance or diminish our connection with others?
Find out in today’s episode.
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The quest for meaning is a common one for humanity. “Why am I here?” “What am I to do with my one precious life?”
Today’s episode challenges you to learn deeper into this quest and suggests a fire steps to follow to uncover your purpose.
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Social interaction is a crucial part of being a human being. The world has become a place that even in quarantine, we are still able to maintain a constant flow of interaction through technology and social media. This allows us to stay connected but it also exposes us to not-so-positive interactions with others. While misunderstandings and conflicts are unavoidable, the mistake we often make is assuming the unpleasant comments aimed at us are really about us.
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Pain-free is an illusion. Suffering is though a choice we make. Which one do you prefer?
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Someone has wronged you individually or a group of people you identify with. Something unwanted keeps happening in your life, in your world. You feel as though life is unjust, cruel, dominated by evil forces. This episode challenges your rage, powerlessness and victim identity and points you to a wholesome and sustainable way to be an instrument of peace and love.
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It is the leading cause of disability in the world. Making many suffer behind closed doors. Chances are you love or know or may even be someone who suffers from the debilitating effects of depression. But what exactly is it and how can you tell if you have it?
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Fear is everywhere. It is a primitive response rooted deeply in our biology. The default may be to resist the discomfort, to ignore the threat. Or to be consumed and overcome by the fear. Is there a healthy alternative? A happy middle ground?
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It’s about time we faced it, the guilt most of us Mothers are immersed in. Boiled down to roles that emphasize looks and child bearing, we’ve accepted society’s burden on perfecting those roles as our own. Our souls are burdened. We must learn to love our flawed humanness and see what see what we find out through a constant practice of self-compassion.
A question we seldom lose sleep over, Isn't it? Not because it doesn't matter to us but because we seem to already have it defined and accepted. More often than not, our definitions are erroneous, limiting, isolating from the oneness of all things. What am I talking about? Tune in and find out!
It does NOT mean suppressing what you want, it is NOT being lazy or passive towards changing what you can. It is saying "YES" to the present moment whatever shape or form it may take. It can and will transform your life.
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Unchaining can't happen without examining our thoughts. Our thoughts, our narration about our situations, the stories we tell ourselves. This episode offers a glimpse into when how and why we must approach our very thoughts with curious questioning and investigation instead of automatic identification.
You are here! Welcome and thank you for choosing to spend your time and attention listening to my podcast! In this brief introduction, I discuss how UnchainingMe was born into existence and what my intention is for it. I hope you keep coming back to unchain and help others do the same!