Boldly Becoming You Podcast: Recent Episodes

Tasha Skillin

The Boldly Becoming You Podcast is your bi-weekly invitation to become who you were born to be. Underneath the layers of rules and expectations you have adopted over your lifetime, in an effort to connect and be accepted, you’ve lost much of who you were when you entered this world. Twice a week I will call on you to answer that whisper from your inner wisdom that you have been shushing for years and begin the redesign of your life.

On Mondays I’ll share truths about the human experience and highlight opportunities to deepen your connection to yourself so you can show up in all areas of your life in full alignment and with a meaningful impact. In these brief episodes, you will be reminded of your responsibility to yourself to become the person you have always wanted to be.

On Thursdays, I’ll introduce you to people who have lived both lives - the one where they agreed to what others expected of them, following the same arbitrary rules we all agreed to AND then had the courage to finally listen to their gut telling them there was something more. We will learn how to navigate the sometimes messy experience of listening to our truest selves from their collective journeys and then redesign daily life to pursue our respective purposes.

In reality, there are no Universal rules about what is right and wrong or good and bad in parenting, partnership, friendship, etc. It’s about what is aligned with your purpose...and what is not. Boldly Becoming You will help you challenge the rules you may not even know you are following so you can get on with living an authentic life that fills you up and allows you to have meaningful connections while practicing your purpose.

What do I want????

Whether you're deep in burnout, running on autopilot, or just feeling disconnected from yourself after years of being useful to everyone else… I get it. This episode walks you through the 5 mistakes that keep so many of us stuck in survival mode, waiting for clarity that doesn’t come and the first 3 steps to figuring out what you actually want.

Where you gently unhook from urgency, listen to your nervous system, and stop trying to solve your life like a math problem.

Here’s what we get into:

The biggest lie about “clarity” that keeps high-achievers spinning
Why your body needs to access that truth
And why desire isn’t a luxury, it’s a survival skill

If you’ve been trying to “figure it out” but everything just feels heavy, uncertain, or like too much work, it’s not you. You’re not broken. You just haven’t been taught how to do this in a way that actually works for your life.

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Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

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In this episode, we unpack what’s actually going on when you “can’t stay consistent,” and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve.

We dig into:

Why discipline only works after you’ve built capacity
The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day
What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you
Why being “too tired to function” or “constantly behind” is not a personal failure and what it really means
How to tell if you’re living from survival mode (even if everything looks fine from the outside)

You’ll hear real examples from our own lives, from our clients, and from people just like you who thought they had a discipline problem, but were actually overdue for a total capacity recalibration.

By the end of this conversation, we’re asking better questions:

What do I want and what do I need ... today? What’s actually mine to carry? How can I build a life and business that supports my reality, not just my ambition?

If you’ve been forcing, pushing, and blaming yourself for not “doing it right” - this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start restoring.

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The Reel that started this conversation

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In this episode we dig into:

What actually happens when you stop living in survival mode and your nervous system finally chills the fuck out? Spoiler: it’s weirder than you think.
Having time doesn’t mean you magically know how to enjoy it. Sometimes the pause feels like a loss you didn’t see coming.
The very real tension between finally having space to create and just wanting to nap, zone out, or do absolutely nothing.
Your brain isn’t reacting to the moment, it’s predicting based on old chaos and current circumstances which means sometimes you kinda short-circuit.
Being regulated doesn’t mean life is easier right away. Sometimes it just means you’re awake enough to see what’s really going on.
Navigating art, chronic illness, parenting, and business in a house where everyone’s got complex life stuff... it’s not cute, it’s logistics and emotion every damn day.
Some of what feels "true" is actually just what you’ve been surrounded by your whole life. When you question it, a whole new world opens up.
The hardest part of starting something isn’t always the work, it’s believing you’ll be able to keep going, especially when you have a pile of complex life circumstances
If your environment feels like too much, it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because your body is telling the truth about what’s happening around you.
A behind-the-scenes look at how Brandon and I have restructured our life and business to actually feel like us, without making each other fit into someone else’s idea of partnership.
Two very different relationships to work, rest, and passion, and how we’re finally letting both be valid and valuable.

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If you've ever wonder what it's like for 2 coaches to live and work together, pursuing their own goals and holding each other accountable - this episode is the most transparent we've been I believe. We have a real conversation about each others goals, boundaries around them and the ways we will and will NOT be holding each other accountable. We get really granular so below I gave you some time stamps to help figure out where you want to jump to or go back to if something resonates while you are multitasking while listening.

Timestamps:

Intro, catching up on 2025 until 37 min

37min: B talks through T's goals, boundaries and plan

1 hr, 45 min: T talks through B's goals, boundaries and plan

2 hour 42 min: Sharing some recent client wins we're excited for

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2024 goals, patterns of addiction and learning about what each other has figured out in these first few weeks of 2025

Parenting, codependency, eating disorder, caffeine, plans and healing - we cover a lot in this first-ever unedited 2+ hour conversation.

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If you’ve ever felt like you were carrying the weight of the world alone, this episode is a reminder that none of us gets through life—or big movements—on our own. I shared raw insights into my journey, showing how leaning into community and prioritizing self-care made it possible to heal, rebuild and thrive.

In this episode I dig into

The inner tug-of-war between feeling powerless and the drive to contribute to something bigger
The exhaustion of navigating chronic illness and burnout while maintaining responsibilities.
The bravery it takes to reimagine life and purpose when everything you’ve known shifts unexpectedly.
The moments where I’ve relied on others to carry me forward and how those connections have shaped your path.

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I woke up Monday morning AGAIN feeling very clear that my last 20 years of professional experience and personal healing led me to this season of humaning. Like all of us, our family has been processing the results of last week's election while holding space for all the emotions and thoughts flooding in.

One thing I know for sure is that the leaders guiding humanity through these next 4 years will need massive support to meet the demands of communities and their own families. I know this is part of my purpose, my calling and although it feels a little clumsy in how I can describe the vision and the path to it, I FEEL its truth deeply.

And as a result of Brandon's encouragement that opened the floodgates to this episode, I also recorded a 4ish minute free audio to activate the leader inside of you. DM LEADERSHIP on Instagram or Facebook to receive it...and potential future audios to add to it.

It's going to take all of us leaning into our strengths and gifts to carry our fellow humans through this next administration.

As always, we want to hear your feedback and if this episode resonates with you, share it your fellow badasses.

Thanks for being here

What are you avoiding right now? What are the rules about doing it “right” that are keeping you stuck?

Get unstuck, move out of perfectionism, avoidance procrastination and into action that feels good again.

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You were taught to abandon yourself in small and discreet ways through your whole life and now, as an adult, you feel like garbage because you don't do the things you say you're going to or you don't "follow through" (go back to ep 223 to listen).

In this episode, we give you the first 3 steps to stop abandoning yourself so make sure you grab paper and pen to take notes. Let us know what you discover as you put these into motion - we LOVE hearing from you.

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What if you aren't actually bad at follow through?

There are some sneaky rules about "follow through" that are making it impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality. If you don't real about your complex life and the reality of living in survival mode the last 2-3 decades, you will never see or feel a difference.

When you redefine follow through, consistency, success, etc. you get to live more fully AND you inevitably see more progress.

If you like actionable steps, this episode has 2 homework assignments for you and we want to hear how they go so DM us when you do them.

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I don't understand how this is something more people aren't talking about but there is a mountain of evidence showing this is a non-negotiable piece to a healing burnout and cPTSD. Humans are not meant to do life solo - we are co-creators, we rely on one another for feedback, encouragement, challenges and passing on wisdom.

In this episode, Brandon and I talk about the impact of relationships and how they will make or break your healing journey.

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Working the hardest and the longest has NOT brought you the results you've been looking for. In this episode, we break down the S.H.E. Method and give you homework so you can move out of the hustle and grind pattern and finally focus your energy and attention on what matters. And there is a great question at the end that might resonate with you a lot.

You'll see the progress and momentum you crave when you implement these 3 factors.

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In this episode, I share from my heart about why I am so passionate about the work I do. I have been doing intense healing over the last year and something clicked in the last week making it feel easy breezy to share from my heart vs the overthinking, research based, data oriented place I forced myself to work from for years.

If you want a shot of mojo, this episode is one to save.

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In this episode, we talk about why your day has become about other people's goals and dreams, the questions Brandon and I habitually ask ourselves, and how Brandon's phone countdown timer has helped him ask himself: What can I do right now? What new choice can I make right now that is aligned with any of my goals?

We dig into the difference between reacting and responding to the demands from the outside world vs proactively deciding how you're going to start your day and prioritizing YOU.

And what to do if you don't know how to make your dreams and goals the first thing on your to do list.

The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is June 22 & 23 and I'd love to guide you through my signature process of making yourself the main character in your life without losing what you already love about it.

DM us on Instragram or Facebook to let us know what came up for you.

How does burnout REALLY happen? What is happening in your body?

What is happening in your everyday life that could be fast tracking you to burnout?

In this episode, Tasha gets a little nerdy with some of the science of allostatic load, stress vs stressors and 4 specific actions you can start doing today to decrease the impact of stress on your mind, body and soul while also moving away from burnout.

Ep 193: How to do the "I'm Proud of Myself" Daily Practice

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski

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I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you to move through it with less overwhelm and more ease.

When your perspective filter has been set to "what is the worst possible scenario? and what do I need to do to prevent it or at the least, prepare for it?" ...it's really hard to see and receive the goodness that accumulates as you do the work of boldly becoming you.

It takes practice, knowing what to do in the transition period and genuine safe support. This is part of the healing journey humans cannot do alone - it's simply not how we're all wired.

But knowing what's ahead and how you can navigate the swamp of accumulating the new evidence to see how safe, and lovely, your life has become can make it a shorter journey, I believe.

I would love to hear if this episode resonated with you. Do you have a hard time experiencing the joy and seeing the goodness, despite it being right there in front of you? Do you find yourself constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop?

You're not broken, and it's not that something is wrong with you. You just need some practice clocking the safety in the new reality you've been creating.

Tag @rulesandrebellion if you share this on social, it means a lot to me, and it helps get these ideas to other people, which helps our community grow with more support and attunement.

If you want help in navigating this swampy healing journey, you can schedule a clarity call to chat to see if we're a good fit.

In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship.

A time without communication. A time…without boundaries 😱😵😵😱

We cover:

How the older you get, the more overwhelming boundaries can become
How capacity but also the fear of being a burden, inconveniencing someone else and what we see others do inform our ability and willingness to identify our needs.
An important question to ask if you are in a relationship that has a long future
🌞😎 And the life-changing tip we learned in therapy 💃💃

We would love to hear what came up for you. DM us on Instagram

Share this episode with a friend or on your stories and tag us @rulesandrebellion…and don’t forget, all month long our Nervous System Regulation mini-course is only $17!

Schedule a clarity call if you're ready to put your needs at the top of your list.

This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little.

The reality is…you’re a problem, you’re a real problem.

But so were we.

In this episode, we talk about:

Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other

How I kept telling myself, I just don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do

How Brandon’s title as the “perfect husband” was BAD for both of us

You want to follow through, you want to show up for the people you love and you want your life to feel…more better more of the time.

The answer is definitely in this episode. (the answer is definitely Nervous System Regulation + Boundaries 🤫)

Schedule a free clarity call to figure out the best way to work together here.

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What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it.

One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'll get better. And you'll be lucky, you'll be lucky to not get worse."

In this episode, I share some of that journey and the bigness of one of my 2024 goals to see 10 waterfalls in 1 day by hiking 8 miles, or 18291 steps.

I have used vision boards every step of the way over the last 6 years to keep me focused and believing in myself. And this next goal is not different.

I would love to show you how to create these same beacons of light and inspiration for you in your goals. Register for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here and join me for a life changing, inspiring and energizing weekend.

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If you’re a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it’s not on a list, it ain’t happ’nin.

So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards?

…is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else?

Or maybe it’s because no one ever told you how you are actually supposed to use the damn thing.

In this episode we talk about how to unlock the magic of your vision boards so you can fully unlock them as the powerful tool they are (hint: you just move ‘em around)

Ps. it’s not “magic,” it’s nueroscience that makes so much sense.

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In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective.

As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken.

Seats to The Boldly Becoming You Workshop are currently $97. If you’re fed up with trying to figure out a system to make your goals actually happen, this is where you want to be February 24 & 25. Grab your seat here.

Visualization mentioned:

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In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone.

Capacity.

Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”.

AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue.

This is a big deal, because without understanding the capacity you have, setting and achieving your goals is going to be impossible.

You wouldn’t go on a 5 hour drive without looking to see if you had enough gas to get there, don’t start on a journey towards your goals without knowing how much energy, time, and ability you actually have available to you.

And just in case you missed it, here is the replay link to Tasha’s live masterclass The SHE Method - where you learn the 3 factors responsible for making your goals a reality.

DM us on Instagram and let us know what you think about today's episode.

Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want”

In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselves and our results.

Specifically:

Being too tired and overwhelmed to even think about setting goals past sleep
Wanting to want to have the energy to set goals
That frustrating feeling of getting started but not having the energy to keep things going

This one’s a good one for all of you go-getters out there.

Oh and…we did a new thing on the podcast to keep us “on time”...and it sort of worked…ish

DM us what came up for you in this episode!

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I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That’s because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st.

At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready to go by the end of December is based on a bunch of arbitrary rules that throws perfectionists into anxiety fueled fight/flight survival mode.

You’ve got a real life and rarely, if ever, does it line up with a calendar.

Today's episode is all about picking a word/intention for the year. It came out mid-month because you deserve the time and grace to join the party when you are ready and able.

The intention behind picking a word of the year is to have a mental filter to align yourself and your actions with. With that chosen word, you create a guiding principle to keep coming back to, and make decisions with, no matter what kind of weird shit happens between now and 12 months from now.

Picking a word for the year isn’t a brand new concept, but…do you actually know how to use your word of the year so that it's not just some woowoo exercise you forget about in a week?

In this episode we talk about what our words are and why we chose them, but also what the hell to do with them next.

DM us on IG with your word so we can celebrate with you!

And if you want to use this word as a spring board to create a year that you become the boldest, truest version of you, book your clarity call here today.

2023 was a BIG year for my personal growth and healing. It was a lot of inner work and in this episode I share the big lessons I learned including the new non-negotiable I made a vow to do before I touched anything I care about.

As a result of the commitment I made last year to keep facing my fears, and having the support I needed to stick with it, I grew my capacity and am dreaming bigger, attracting more abundance than I ever have as a result. My ability to see a more expansive future for myself feels surreal. I've never felt this calm and confident about such enormous goals for my future.

I can't wait to hear what comes up for you from this reflection and what resonates with you. Shoot me a DM on Instagram and let me know which parts stuck out for you.

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If you’re like I was, a successful business owner making 6 figures for multiple years, but thinking that one more hour, one more call, one more post was going to be the thing that makes or breaks your business, you need to listen to this episode.

I share a very personal story about a distressing couples' therapy session that had me REELING, raging and angry sobbing the rest of the day. But ultimately, was the catalyst for so much growth, healing and expansion into a life I am grateful to live now.

Since then, I've learned to stop beating myself up for making the "wrong" decisions, have gotten crystal clear on what, and who, the non-negotiables are in my daily life and allowed myself to explore fun and what play looks like in my life without guilt.

If this episode resonates with you, schedule your clarity call to see if our 5 Essential Pivots program is the right fit for you. We can answer your questions and see if we all mesh. And if so, you'll be well on your way to breaking free from that toxic hustle culture to find your joy and inspiration, while still making bank.

Doom scrolling IG and binge-ing New Girl and Schitt’s Creek are not hobbies or special interests 😉 my friend. But if you're like me, or Brandon, you have a complicated relationship with fun, creativity and "leisure time" because ...like who has time for that?

In the long-term, not having activities that are exclusively for your joy or pleasure will 100% land you in burnout. And not just the I’m tired and unmotivated stage, the full-fledged body shutting down, chronic health issues burnout.

Research shows that the long-term benefits of hobbies drastically improve your quality of life and longevity. In the short term, you get to bring new energy and inspiration to your relationships, your work, your clients, your art.

In this episode, we cover 3 specific signs it is absolutely time to discover some hobbies AND the practicality of having hobbies with your perfectionist dysregulation and limited energy.

If you are someone who has a successful business, you know you can make the hard stuff happen - you've been doing it your whole life but the easy stuff like hobbies and enjoying your days feels hard - you need to schedule a clarity call.

Whether you want to etch glass, take walks wandering your area, crochet wobbles or write poetry, we're ready to help you make 2024 the year you put YOU back at the top of the to-do list.

In this episode, Brandon shares part of his journey to create his first 2 originals in his clothing line. You'll hear the story behind the Introvert Hoodie and the power of having art you can wear that speaks to your needs and desires.

Plus, how mean girls on the internet started a ripple of love and authenticity to Brandon's self-expression this year adding more validation and affirmation for the genderqueer layer of their identity. "The BB Pullover is a love letter to Tasha" and in this episode, you'll hear why.

You can still pre-order your Introvert Hoodies and the BB Pullover here

Check out The Trevor Project

And Brandon's viral reel that launched the BB Pullover

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Being seen, listened to, understood, and validated is a CRUCIAL missing piece from our respective childhoods. And it continues into our adult lives, for many reasons, deteriorating your ability to see how truly brilliant and meaningful you are.

In this episode, I share a story about a birthday cookie that made me feel invisible and one of the MAJOR differences between how we coach our clients...based on a lifetime of being treated like just everyone else and one of the super powers we use with every one.

Book your complimentary clarity call to chat about your next season of transformation.

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How a hard conversation led to one small habit and the massive ripple effect a year later. Brandon shares his experience including the adventures and creativity he's been inspired by, as well as the Introvert Hoodie and BB Sweatshirt he launched last month. (you can pre-order yours here)

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Nell was fed up with her business being so hard, waking up with her heart racing, pressure in her chest and flushed with anxiety and panic as she launched into action to get her business WORKING. Her confidence was on a roller coaster, depending on how her social media content was performing, and she was angry, flooded with emotion and was close to throwing in the towel despite having a solid foundation of engaged and aligned followers AND having had genuine success in selling her courses and programs in thepast.

Nell's post-concussion syndrome, ADHD, fluctuating hormones from her monthly cycle and chronic dysregulation had her stressed and anxious, operating in full-on masculine energy, draining her and leaving no room for inspiration.

But Nell joins us in today's episode to talk about her transformational experience in our 5 Essential Pivots program. She talks about how she found her footing, the new relationship that has her glowing, how she feels about her business today and her exciting next season of expansion.

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If you're like me, for most of your life, you've been told to not make excuses for "bad behavior" or when you didn't get something done that you were supposed to. And as a result, you haven't been able to actually give yourself the grace and compassion you deserve for all the times, and all the ways, your good intentions and thoughtful planning didn't turn out the way you had hoped.

In this episode, Brandon and I cover the difference between an excuse and an explanation, specific aspects of your life that are NOT excuses but DO need to be acknowledged if you want things to not be so hard and some challenging things to expect if you've been operating under this "no excuses" gaslighting doctrine for most of your adult life.

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TWO HUNDRED episodes and it's been a full evolution. In this episode I share some of the things I have learned, let go of and what's coming up next in this season of expansion, releasing MORE perfectionism to make room for BIG Bold worthiness and joy.

Thank you for being on this journey with me and I love how we keep showing up to do this together.

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We've all heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But the tricky thing with Perfectionism and trauma response patterns in general is that it often doesn't feel like you have much choice.

And until you understand how your micro-decisions send a ripple into your daily life, you can feel powerless. In this episode, Brandon shares an experience from last night where he made a decision that was breaking his own rule - a rule that he made that was in alignment with his goals and that breaking it opened the floodgates to a slew of other, also powerful, inspired decisions.

We also talk about the experiment we did earlier this year of 90 days of new decisions with our relationship with money. This is a jam packed episode - I know you'll love it. Thanks for listening and sharing this with your people!

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In this episode, I share some recent thoughts on ...thoughts. And I invite you to challenge yours - are they true? How do you know? What would happen if they aren't yours?

What's available to you if you don't keep believing them?

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In this teary episode, we talk about:

our biggest lessons, takeaways, and gratitudes from our 15 years of choosing each other.
Brandon shares his journey with a recent art project that is PERFECT for the introvert in the fall and winter season.
Brandon secretly created a thoughtful and surprise love note as an anniversary gift.

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Our environments heavily influence us in daily life and in long-term achievements, satisfaction and creativity. If you aren't actively and intentionally choosing the people, places and things that influence you, it's likely you have some undetected resistance happening in daily life, adding to your frustrations, disappointments and false starts.

Great news, although we can't change the governement overnight or the social systems we live among, we do have a lot more choice in our daily life than you realize or were given permission to explore.

The homework in this episode is simple and powerful so make sure you give yourself permission to take the few minutes to DO it. 😉

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Another fabulous LIVE session on IG and FB turned into a podcast episode 🎉

Myths about habits: - It takes 21 days to create a habit ❌ - If you don’t do it EVERY day, you aren’t being consistent ❌ - Bad habits are just because you aren’t committed or motivated enough ❌

A habit is a behavior or thought that repeats. You know that your habits make up most of your daily life and that there are some habits you want to or wish you already had locked down and there is a mile long list of "bad" habits you feel guilty for not getting rid of already. What if I told you that those “bad habits” were actually crucial for you to get to where you are now and are actually a result of your chronically dysregulated nervous system? Those are how you have survived this far 🤯 and they can disappear if you focus on 2 specific habits we talk about in this episode. Let us know what resonates with you the most from today’s masterclass - DM us on Instagram

And make sure you catch the first part of the series on episode 194: Skills and Ep 195: Environment for the rest of the S.H.E. Method to achieving your goals aka having what you desire.

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A 'skill' is the ability to do something well. <-- This is multi-layered and complicated for perfectionists, particularly when efforting to achieve a goal.

The practicing part, the assessing what "well" means, the procrastination, people pleasing, hyper-productivity and pickiness - all contribute to that Perfectionist fight/flight skill development derailment.

But you can do it differently when you understand what's happening with your real life and your nervous system.

You're going to want to listen to this one a couple times so make sure you save it and share it with your recovering perfectionist friends.

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This life-changing SUPER simple daily practice has been a game changer for myself, Brandon, (our kids, but ssshh, they don't know that I'm building their belief in themselves) and all of our private coaching clients.

This is the audio of a Instagram/Facebook Live we did on 9.27.23 and we had a lot of great responses and engagement with this topic so I wanted to make sure you had it too.

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Do you have days where you are super optimistic and hopeful, feel confident and walk with an extra little pep in your step, and then the next 2 weeks you wonder where she went? Why can't you access that incredible magnetic super charged version of yourself?

This is was a lifelong challenge and it's a huge factor in not only how you show up in your work, in your relationships, and your creativity/passion projects - it's also done a number on your confidence long term.

This is another layer of women's health being ignored for the sake of "ease" for the society built to serve the male biology, and it's wreaking havoc on everything.

You deserve kindness and compassion no matter what day or phase you're in, but it's especially crucial to shift your expectations and activities in the Luteal phase. I share a few shifts I've made to create a different experience for me, and all the things I do and the people I love.

And if you like productive homework, I give you some at the 6 minute mark.

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If you struggle with intrusive thoughts or a racing mind, that often doesn't take you anywhere you would voluntarily go, this episode is for you. I know you're going to have BIG relief in separating yourself from your thoughts and practicing this awareness.

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In this episode, we get personal, again. I share a bit about the last 8 months, a big shift in March and some milestones I made it through while building more confidence in myself than ever before.

This is one of my messy shares and I know you're going to relate to a lot of it, even if the circumstances aren't exactly the same. I mentioned how often I used the practices from the Regulated AF 10 Day Anti-Challenge, so here is that link.

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EVERYONE gets overwhelmed occasionally. The difference of getting overwhelmed and STAYING in overwhelm is in these 4 tips.

During a recent clubhouse conversation, I offered an artist 4 tips to move through the overwhelm of her new project, including some common misconceptions in the pop-psychology and coaching rhetoric.

Would love to hear what you think and what resonated with you.

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Fatigue is the number 1 symptom fo burnout and many chronic health issues that our clients navigate. In this episode, Brandon and I dug into Fatigue on a livestream on FB and IG and it was so well received and we had so many questions and follow up messages, I wanted to share this here with you.

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Whew, do I wish I had been more open to hearing this truth SO much earlier in my journey. I spent decades wanting to be seen but never wanting to admit I had those needs. I would pour into people, into projects and work longer than anyone - just so I could feel like I'd done enough to rest, relax and maybe even have some fun.

It wasn't until I was deep in burnout that I learned how crucial this one thing is to the human condition, in particular for healing from perfectionism burnout.

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In this short episode, I share a couple stories of how I struggled to take up space and the practice I use to continue to expand in small ways throughout each day. I hope you love this quickie episode and share it with your friends who are also learning to take up all the space their are meant to.

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In this episode, Brandon joins me as we reflect on the adventures, lessons and updates from our 1 year anniversary of traveling full time as a family of four, as business owners and other unique life circumstances.

We also answer some questions from you! about what was hard, did we argue, what needs became easier, did we wish we brought things we had sold or donated and more. I know you'll love this fully transparent episode and can't wait for you to listen!

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How you start your morning is often how you feel throughout your whole day. And most people are muddling through their morning hours reacting and responding to the world around them, feeling defeated and unsatisfied with their productivity by the time they go to sleep.

I used to feel like I was failing when I didn't do all 5 things on my morning routine list. And that meant that I was starting the day with this dread of "I couldn't even do that right."

In today's episode, I share some observations, my morning practice currently, and some tips on how to shift your relationship with a morning routine so that it inspires you and sets your mental filter for the day.

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Whether you've made a vision board and loved it, made one and felt like it fell short or you thought about making one and never got around to it - this episode is going to shed light on why you feel that way.

Brandon joins me on this episode to talk about our mistakes 16 years ago and how things have shifted for us and our whole family as a result of this pivot from conventional vision boarding.

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When you have these Unique Life Circumstances - ADHD, menstrual cycle, cPTSD and you own a business - you need to include these 3 goals or you are 100% going to end up in burnout.

But more than just avoiding burnout, you need them in your life because you are not here to PRODUCE. You are here to LIVE.

You deserve them. Your future self will thank you for them. Your inner child will heal as a result of them.

Referenced: Elizabeth Gilbert's book Big Magic

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We've all heard the same advice from "experts" about how to achieve your goals and have success. Set goals, have a positive attitude and work hard. But when you look around, you see people doing exactly that and yet it's not enough. You've tried to do this and it hasn't worked either, right?

It's not you. But there is a HUGE missing piece of the puzzle to have the business and life you desire. Whether it's more adventure, fun, courage, confidence, ease, energy - "working hard" isn't going to get you there.

Brandon joins me in this episode today to dig into what's really going on after decades of trying to put all the "guru" advice into action.

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Negative thoughts are part of being human, it's part of the brain's survival mechanisms but it's incredibly inconvenient and limiting for your soul and spirit. When you go through life giving your negative thoughts the power to decide what you say yes and no to each day, you are sacrificing so much of what you could be enjoying, so much of what you actually desire.

In this episode, I share with you the impact of negative thoughts and how to start shifting your experience in daily life to trade out those negative thoughts for TRUTHs and forward momentum so you can have more fun, more adventure, more peace and courage and confidence.

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In this episode, I break down the 2 components to real authentic confidence in yourself and give you the first 3 steps to start developing it for yourself. You will be a truer more brave and energized version of yourself in no time!

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Quick episode with a daily practice I started that continues to make the true story about myself brighter and louder. You're going to love how much better you can see yourself in this simple daily exercise.

Invite your friends to do a daily check in for this simple exercise, if you are a parent, consider doing this with your kids, and doing this with your partner is a big connector as well.

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I found my way back to myself and my mission after many months of surfing life's waves. This is NOT the episode for you to listen to today if you are feeling fragile around the topic of death, chronic or terminal illness.

This is also a messy, imperfect telling of my story, my mission and what to expect going forward. Please share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode.

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After 3 hours of preparing and even recording several episodes, I gave up because nothing felt authentic. I felt like I was forcing it, I was not in the flow and decided to pack it in for the day and try again later.

And then just before I headed out to go home, I pushed record. Where in your life are you feeling resistance? Where are you worried about disappointing people?

Is it time to pul back a little? To lean in to getting someone else's perspective? Let me know on Instagram @rulesandrebellion

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In this episode, I pick a fight with the coaching and psychology industry and I'm just getting started. 😅 I give 3 reasons why using the term Self-Sabotage is problematic and invite you to be skeptical of anyone who enthusiastically tells you that is your problem.

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Habit Magic is still open for a few more days so make sure you check that out if you haven't already. Similar to this take on Self Sabotage, this is a completely different approach to habits and making them work FOR you instead of you being enslaved to the "success" routines and habits you've been told you are supposed to have.

After 6 weeks, I'm back to share where I've been and where I am GOING 🤩🥳 . And In this episode I invite you to take on a practice I have started that has DRASTICALLY shifted my confidence and is currently transforming my daily life in my morning practice.

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I love you and am so excited to share this journey with you in 2023 but mostly excited to hear what life you are creating this year. DM me - I LOVE hearing from you.

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I've been out of my rhythm and routine for the last few weeks and in this episode, I share some of what's been going on as well as a couple happy holiday moments, with a train in the background.

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My youngest told me a few weeks ago that they weren't feeling sad about turning 13 next month. In this episode, I share that conversation and the new mission we are on together, as well as a few other goals that I'm going after in the near future.

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We all know by now that the hustle & grind approach to goals is a disaster. But what is the alternative? What are we freaking missing? In this episode, Brandon and I talked with some friends in Clubhouse abot the 4 missing Rs + one extra R that is a BIG deal underneath a lot of burnout and anxiety about time running out.

Make sure you are following us on Instagram and checking our stories each day for behind the scenes and tips for setting goals, regulating your nervous system and more help on your healing journey.

I mention the waitlist in this conversation but here's the link to Boldly Becoming You Workshop that's coming up November 5 & 6 2022. GAME CHANGER. And as a loyal podcast listener you get a huge discount so get on in here.

I invite you to listen to this episode with an open heart and compassion for yourself, as well as the other people in your life who may struggle to feel the love you have tried to offer.

The cliches that love is everywhere, that love heals, that we are each love are not wrong - but it is a bit more complex than we have been giving it credit.

I don't think humans generally lack loving as a verb - I believe we struggle to receive it. As well as the other things we crave but never seem to get close enough to accept.

I wonder where this lands for you and I would love to hear your thoughts. Shoot me a message on IG with what came up for you.

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In this episode, I go beyond SMART Goals and share what I've been focusing on these last 6 months of traveling full time. In reflecting for the BBYW coming up, I saw my process, my signature method in a new light. I also share the themes for the goals some of our community members shared with us.

This trauma informed approach to setting goals and achieving them is ground breaking. It's not been done this way before and using my method to design and go after your goals is going to blow your mind. Once you see it this way, you can't unsee it. And it comes with a huge sigh of relief.

The Boldly Becoming You Workshop on Nov 5&6 is only $97 for Boldly Becoming You podcast listeners. Replay is available.

Can't wait to see you there!

As a high achieving, ambitious and driven creature, you likely have some relationship with setting goals. If you are also a perfectionist, people pleaser, have hyper-productivity patterns and want everything to be done right or not at all - you likely have a wonky relationship with goals.

In this episode, I dig into 4 myths that I've noticed surround goals for many of us with this complex trauma growing up in the era we have.

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Make sure you follow along on Instagram stories to get extra intel about how to approach your goals with a fresh, trauma-informed approach.

A candid conversation about the journey to incorporating the awareness of nervous system regulation and the varying aspects of menstrual cycle in daily real life. So much of our self-story is false based on the expectations we had and were put on us that weren't designed for our well-being or lived experience.

This is biology, it's science and we have to start to acknowledge how much of our lives are dictated by someone else's biology. Not to judge anyone or anything but to just be more effective and to live a more full life.

This has an impact on literally every aspect of your life if you are a person with a uterus or are in relationships with people who have a uterus. Crucial conversations for all people, families, business owners, etc.

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In this episode, Brandon interviews ME about my long, complex history with achieving goals and how I am shifting the self-sabotage patterns I had carried with me for so long with a completely different focal point.

This was recorded in the same foodtruck pod in Portland and although my voice was struggling at the end, I think you'll like this episode a lot.

The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is coming. Mark your calendars for November 5&6 but there are all kinds of fun things happening before then so make sure you are following us and watching our IG stories each day. There is a free masterclass coming up, IG lives with a bunch of value and so much more.

Also check out our private coaching options on our new page here!

In this episode, Brandon tells us how he transformed his relationship with goals from avoiding them to dreading them to LOVING the journey to them and why THAT is a crucial shift.

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Let's just agree that we all are, at least to some degree. But fortunately Nell is here to share with us some of the crap we believe because of our collective conditioning AND how to start moving out of that mess. You're going to love her and the contagious freedom she brings. Make sure to check her out on all the platforms - she's incredibly hilarious and relatable in many ways.

Make sure you share this with your friends too!

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After a few weeks of excavating another few layers of conditioned self, I finally resurfaced and discovered I had done some healing. This episode is a little messy, as I warn you at the beginning but I hope you find yourself in some of the ideas I shared.

I mention self-paced masterclasses, private coaching and Badass & Regulated in this episode - make sure you check out some of that here and shoot us a DM on Instagram to learn more about the other options.

Happy 5 year anniversay of ME/CFS diagnosis and the road to recovery really beginning! We're doing it!

In this Clubhouse conversation, Jacqueline shares the Girl Boss era and the problems with it for women who aren't taking their 4 phases into consideration when they are building their businesses.

Her program Feed Your Phase was a game changer for me and for many women who want to honor their cycle but refuse to give up on their goals and dreams, especially when it comes to their business.

And Jacqueline even shares what we all should have been taught in our first 3 years of having our period and so much more.

Check out her new program coming out this month called Menstrual Mogul.

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Whew, this episode was HARD and I thank you in advance for holding this space for me today. In these 23 minutes, I share the 2 emotions I am still learning to feel, the identity I'm still making peace with and the biggest goals I've ever set.

Thank you for sharing this with your friends and family.

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You deserved to be protected and in this episode, I share 4 ways you can start doing that for yourself this week. Showing up for yourself in a variety of ways helps you build trust with yourself again and I'm excited to hear what you do with this invitation.

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Here are some of those self-paced courses I mentioned 😉

Whether it's about savings or debt or creating wealth in the future - you have to return to your inner wisdom, your intuition repeatedly, which requires you to untangle your beliefs from the rules, obligations and expectations from the outside world.

In this episode, you are invited to ask some specific questions in your exploration of your relationship with money. And also what to do when you are irritated with your monthly bill paying experience.

Badass & Regulated is our foundational group coaching program that includes Safe with Money, the lessons I mentioned in this episode, to create a new relationship with money. B&R also has over a dozen other masterclasses, all future modules and lessons added (at no extra cost) and lifetime access to the Badass & Regulated private Village community, which includes a private online community and monthly live Q&A calls to personalize your experience.

Feel free to message us on Instagram to ask questions, check out our stories and follow along our journey.

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Whew, money is a BIG trigger for all of us. In this episode I break down different categories of money that you might have a trauma response within, the 3 most common signs I have seen with our clients and in my own healing work, and the first 3 steps to moving out of that devastating pattern.

Most importantly - you didn't do anything WRONG. This is not a moral failing of yours. It's a lack of nervous system/trauma/human body education that all of us are just now beginning to unravel.

I mention the book Tapping Into Wealth by Margaret M Lynch and the Badass & Regulated Program we just launched. If you have questions, make sure to DM us on Instagram!

Survival mode has been used in many cases to describe physical survival and therefore when someone says survival mode, you may not be clocking it as something to pay attention to.

In this episode, you'll learn what current day survival mode looks like, feels like, sounds like so you can be certain whether you are there or not.

And when you figure it out, you'll know what to do next.

I mention these 3 courses in the episode because they are THE best resources for moving out of survival mode sustainably.

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22

Badass Core Values $27

Boundaries AF $45

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In this episode, I go off script and share a recent amendment to a boundary I added for people in my inner circle. I found myself unintentionally bringing my trauma response filled past into my daily life with this common social media feature and ...chose not to abandon myself again.

Here is the free video series on the Perfectionims Healing Journey - just drop in your email and you have the 5 Pivots explained.

Boundaries AF is our low-cost, high impact trauma-informed Boundaries Masterclass with THE 7 steps to put boundaries in place. You can grab that here for only $44 and use it in every relationship you have.

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In the second half of this conversation, we talk about what it feels like in your body, how the 4 week cycle for people who menstruate have a complex challenge, what Brandon has gained from this experience, regulation within our partnership and so much more.

Nervous System Regulation is a crucial part to sustainable change in lifestyle, habits, achieving your goals and anything that allows you peace.

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22

Remember to DM us on Instagram if you have any questions.

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Nervous System Regulation has been the catalyst for so much sustainable change in my life - there isn't an aspect of my personal or business life this information hasn't drastically benefitted me and dozens of the clients we have introduced it to since we started publicly talking about it about a year ago.

But this is the podcast episode that I have ever talked about it to my knowledge but definitely with this depth. And there will be many more to come because so much of what you're trying to do in your healing journey is limited or hits a wall until you integrate this factor.

I mention the Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time quickie course ($22) in the episode so here's the link to better understand the Vagus nerve and choose from 20+ techniques to test out.

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During a recent Rules & Rebellion Village Group Coaching Call, one of our members said this "I don't respect other people's boundaries." After some digging, we discovered that wasn't necessarily true for every one of her relationships but there were patterns from her family of origin that I am also very familiar with.

In this episode, I share some lessons I learned about how easy it is to unknowingly overlook your own boundary crossing when it feels like you are trying to help.

Perfectionism patterns are sometimes super sneaky and this one is something that isn't talked about enough. I hope you enjoy the episode.

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Stay tuned for the free video series we are launching for to guide you through your perfectionism healing journey!

In this vulnerable episode, Brandon and I share our experiences with my long-standing trauma response of Hyper-Productivity. This survival mechanism has had a huge impact on every aspect of my life from my health to my businesses and my friendships and in this episode, you'll hear both of my marriages as well.

Please share this with your friends and family if you relate to any of the episode so that they may understand you better. Send us questions on Instagram and tag us at Rules & Rebellion on Instagram when you share it to your social media so we can thank you!

In today's episode, I share my reflection on the kind comments I've been getting on social media as we share our full-time traveling lifestyle as well as my journey to uncover my inner teenager who was shut down by the rules of being a "cool kid."

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Make sure you are checking our Instagram stories Monday through Friday for the behind the scenes of our full time travel, BIG business updates coming and helpful tips on Burnout Prevention, Perfectionism Healing Journey, etc.

Although it's not uncommon to find yourself unsure of who you are or what you're doing in your daily life at some point in the healing journey, it can be overwhelming and even scary to try to find some sense of clarity.

In this episode I share 3 of the things I had to do to resurrect my true self at the beginning of the journey. I'm positive these will help you find some grounding for yourself and offer insight that wasn't necessarily available when you were still unknowingly in survival mode.

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Core Values are part of the Perfectionist Healing Journey Starter Masterclass Bundle. You can snag that here.

This episode is based on a question asked recently about how to get out of working longer and longer as an entrepreneur. Since this exact issue is a major reason I ended up so sick and in bed for those 2 years, we need to address it.

I recommend 3 things that are essential for entrepreneurs to not burnout that can be applied to anyone who has a professional career they are passionate about or that is all-consuming.

Would love to hear your thoughts and any questions you have - message me on Instagram @rulesandrebellion.

Make sure you are following along on our IG stories as we travel full time through the Pacific Northwest this summer!

In this episode, I share some of the surprises, disappointments, and lessons learned in this first leg of our full-time traveling adventure, including how healing from Perfectionism is REALLY helping this whole process.

The audio quality in this episode is a little wonky - so thank you for your patience while I learn to travel and record episodes.

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We've been conditioned to believe hard work is exhausting but what if that word was removed and instead we used ALL the other definitions that DIDN'T end in burnout, illness, suffering, struggle?

In this episode, I share what I have come up with and invite you to consider some ways to redefine working hard so that your ambition doesn't drive your health, passions, and purpose into the ground.

Thank you for sharing on your social media platforms and sending this episode to your friends! Tag us at Rules & Rebellion on Instagram so we can thank you!

P.S. Keep an eye out for some exciting new R&R content on Instagram STORIES 😉

Over and over I hear people wanting to be more motivated and to feel more fired up to do the things that they have on their to-do list and on their on their wishlist, in their dreams and the vision and the goals that they have.

And the problem with this is that we are misunderstanding how motivation really works, especially for Perfectionists.

In this episode, I break down how this false narrative of motivation has compounded your Perfectionism patterns and offer some questions to get back to safety.

Want me to dig into a topic on a future episode? Message us on Instagram or email us at rulesandrebellion@gmail.com.

Make sure you're following us and checking out our Instagram stories daily because that's where we spend most of our social media time.

XO

Trust is one of the most important factors in healing from Perfectionism and it's often not discussed in an honest way, ironically. In this episode, I share my recent bout of transparency vs privacy and why it can be challenging to know when to shift gears as a leader and coach for the journey our of perfectionism.

I offer you some questions at the end to consider in your own healing journey with Trust. I hope this inspires you to explore your relationship with Trust, Transparency and Privacy so you can move the needle on your healing journey.

Make sure you are following our stories on Instagram (or Facebook) and share this episode with someone who struggles with boundaries, privacy, trust, etc.

Thank you for listening. XO

If you are on a healing journey, it may sometimes feel like you are always going to struggle. You may wonder why you keep putting yourself through these difficult and sometimes painful questions of why, how and when.

In this episode, I share with you some clarity I've gained in our recent lifestyle shift about the aftermath of healing I didn't know could exist in my life.

I hope you find encouragement in this episode and I love hearing about where you are on your healing journey. Message me on Instagram or email us!

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A quick personal story and share of our last weekend, and event, in Richmond, VA as we pack up the last of our things to start living on the road full time.

When you focus on preparing for the goals you want to achieve instead of being busy trying to MAKE it happen, you show up relaxed and confident to cross that finish line. Who knew?!😉

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What do you want that you are scared to say aloud? Until this week, I had been silently preparing in my first steps of becoming a global speaker who is NOT burnt out and who is well paid. And because of that work, I was ready to declare it because saying it aloud actually is another step in my preparation.

It's time to PREPARE for the life you crave.

The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is open for enrollment. Can't wait to see you there!

Use the code: PODCAST to get an exclusive BBY podcast listener discount 🥳

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In this episode, I share the epiphany I had to add another layer of releasing perfectionism patterns and invite you to consider answering some incredibly valuable questions for yourself about what it means to do your best.

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This is a problem for many highly ambitious, passionate and brilliant perfectionists. Lots of ideas, so many opportunities and incredible dread about the whole process.

In this episode, I dig into why that happens and what to do to move out of it.

The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is open for enrollment. Can't wait to see you there!

Use the code: PODCAST to get an exclusive BBY podcast listener discount 🥳

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In this episode, we talk about the fear of success and the two specific categories of fear that women in particular, most definitely protectionists struggle with. I've seen these two things hold me back on multiple occasions in my life and thousands of women over the last 20 years of coaching.

Also, BBY podcast listeners receive a special discount for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop coming up April 23 & 24. Go to www.rulesandrebellion.com/boldlybecomingyou to register and use code: PODCAST to get your listener special deal for the event that is going to change your life.

Thank you for listening. XO

A special announcement, one of my favorite topics and an opportunity to contribute in a meaningful way.

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Achieving your goals often includes a lot of grief.

Some aspects of your previous life, your previous self won’t make sense, it will feel like you are wearing someone else’s clothes or looking through someone else's glasses.

Grief doesn’t make sense a lot of the time but it's easier to navigate it when you expect it and you create time to process it.

Vision Board Workshop April 23 & 24

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Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

Boundaries are a crucial piece of your healing path and in this episode, we're talking about the three common mistakes we see not only clients make putting boundaries in place but also our own past.

Boundaries AF - A Masterclass for Perfectionists is available here.

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Why saying no is still so hard for you? This has been a challenge for so many of us, especially if you've been on the personal development journey for a while, and you've been navigating, excuse me, the process of moving towards your goals.

The only way to do that, the only way to achieve what you wanna achieve accomplish your goals, actualize your dreams is to say no. And so many of us struggle with this process because there are things that we have not learned about why saying no is hard. And so that's what I demystify for you today.

Register for the Boundaries AF Masterclass HERE!

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Today I’m sharing a personal reflection that I hope gives you some relief.

Do you really need to challenge yourself in every area of life right now? How often are you telling yourself you need to meet your full potential?

In this episode, I share my recent personal experiment with underarm hair, and the decision I made, as well as the grace I invite you to give yourself in the growing seasons of your life.

Here is Alok Menon's Instagram account that I mention in this episode.

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The Rules & Rebellion Village is our membership community where we guide our recovering perfectionist members through integrating these ideas into daily life and make sustainable changes that give them the space, energy and practices to create a lifestyle they love. You can join us at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

The reality of leveling up, healing, expanding and receiving is just like all the other phases of transformation and growth - it fucking sucks at first.

In this episode, I share my intense resistance and my commitment to do it anyway. Thank you for being on this journey with me.

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The Rules & Rebellion Village is our membership community where we guide our recovering perfectionist members through integrating these ideas into daily life and make sustainable changes that give them the space, energy and practices to create a lifestyle they love. You can join us at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

Motivation and self-discipline are often credited for success on many levels. They are also credited for developing successful habits.

Which has translated to people feeling badly about themselves when they don’t currently have the habits they believe they SHOULD have in this moment.

The problems with habits and how people have talked about them is the same problem we have with success strategies for health and fitness, for business, for productivity, for efficiency, for creativity - the quotes and systems were all designed by and for a specific plug and play lifestyle.

In this episode, I cover 3 problems with the way conventional "wisdom" teaches us to develop habits.

Also, Coaching Week is back! And on day 3 we are walking you through how to create the path, aka the habits, from where you are now to the lifestyle you want.

Sign up for Coaching Week aka The Village Experience here.

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The Rules & Rebellion Village is our membership community where we guide our recovering perfectionist members through integrating these ideas into daily life and make sustainable changes that give them the space, energy and practices to create a lifestyle they love. You can join us at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

Answering the question - who do I need to become to have the life I crave? After writing 7 pages of notes, trying to figure out how to say it "the right" way, so I wouldn't be misunderstood, I wouldn't offend or put anyone off... I laughed, got some water, regulated and just spoke from the heart.

Embodying all the sides, parts and pieces of me is going to take some more healing. I'm in. How about you?

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Pre-Vision Board Clarity questions I mentioned in this episode are here.

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

The Rules & Rebellion Village is our membership community where we guide our recovering perfectionist members through integrating these ideas into daily life and make sustainable changes that give them the space, energy and practices to create a lifestyle they love. You can join us at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

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Procrastination, being a procrastinator and everything to do with putting off doing something has been demonized in our society. What if that was all wrong and you actually NEED to procrastinate to achieve your goals and reach new levels of success?

In today's episode, we talk about that and I offer an affirmation to you for embodying this new truth.

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The Rules & Rebellion Village is our membership community where we guide our recovering perfectionist members through integrating these ideas into daily life and make sustainable changes that give them the space, energy and practices to create a lifestyle they love. You can join us at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

In this episode, I share some of the things I've learned that have made it easier to experience this very messy, very unpredictable often hijacked life that we live on a daily basis.

What is your default choice? When something doesn't go as planned what have you been practicing as a response?

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Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

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In the 3 hours I sifted through this box - one thing kept bringing me to tears and filling my heart. I have a VERY different story about who I was and how other people felt about me and in this episode I share with you what healing and learning to RECEIVE love, support and gratitude can do for you.

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Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

NEW Course and Group Coaching Program: Badass by Design

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

Each relationship is made up of a dozen or more people’s ideals, rules, expectations, etc. We each bring our parents' rules, their parents’ rules and the other immediate caregivers' rules of our childhood into our partnership. And with all that noise, we often aren’t showing up as our truest selves in conversations and certainly not arguments or conflict.

We have generations of baggage in our nervous system and in our thoughts so we have to consciously choose to unravel all of that and find ourselves.

In this episode, we talk about why you need your Core Values to be calm and not tired as well as where to use them in your life.

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Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

NEW Course and Group Coaching Program: Badass by Design

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

For those of us with perfectionism tendencies, in particular avoidance procrastination, this mindset shift is a crucial piece to being able to take action and move forward in everything you crave progress in or relief from.

In this episode, we talk about what Draft Mode is, how we use it and share the many ways we've experienced a deeper connection and moved through arguing and into being on the same team as a result.

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Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time $22 Mini course about first steps in regulating your nervous system

Free resource: 4 Tips to EASILY Start Hard Conversations

Clubhouse is free and AMAZING! Join us here.

Compassionate Curiosity is one of the 5 Essential Pivots we discovered in our journey of healing and uncovering our truer selves. In this episode, Brandon dig a little deeper and talk about 4 aspects of Compassionate Curiosity that are at the foundation of it's purpose and it's impact. I can't wait to hear where you use it and how it transforms your relationships as well.

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Join us on Clubhouse for these conversations and more about procrastination, perfectionism and burnout.

Many of us have assumed and were often even told, that your disability or chronic illness would prevent you from achieving your goals or limited your dream fulfillment potential. And if we keep trying to use the hustle culture model, that will be true.

Today we are talking about what we’ve learned in our last 8 years with chronic illness, 2 years of that I was bedbound, and how we have used the perspective shift to deconstruct the systems and methods offered by mainstream culture to extract what is realistic and practical for all of us to go after our wildest dreams, our most delightful and restorative days and to not sacrifice our health in the process.

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There's so much of what you do in your day to day experience, that makes it impossible to feel like you're ever getting enough done. Procrastination has had such a negative connotation for so long that you aren't able to see the benefits of delaying action because you are busy trying to avoid the "bad" thing. You're used to feeling immediately guilty or immediately frustrated because you are procrastinating on some aspect of life.

But what if you could turn some of your procrastination abilities into a super power? That's what we talk about in today's episode.

And this is your last chance to grab your seat at the Year of Healing AND Winning Masterclass this Saturday. Here is the link to register if you haven't already.

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So much of our human interaction, especially when it goes awry, is based on simple miscommunication and THAT is a result of not learning basic humaning skills. Knowing what to do to connect, share with and receive information from one another is a crucial skillset that helps us feel seen, heard and loved.

There are dozens of skills we need that most of us didn't get and at the Year of Healing and Winning Masterclass, we are digging into what those 3 stages of skills are that you can build on over time and eliminate overwhelm in your personal development and self awareness journey.

You can register here.

Make sure you are following us on Instagram and in Clubhouse.

Your power is not the same as your confidence. In this episode, I share a personal ah-ha moment and invite you to remind yourself of your own power.

If you love this episode, please share it and tag @rulesandrebellion. And when you accept the invitation I extend, please DM me on Instagram so I can celebrate you with you.

The Year of Healing AND Winning Masterclass is open for registration and you can grab your seat here:

www.rulesandrebellion.com/healwin

In this episode, Brandon joins me and we share the decision we made to pack up our family of four here in Richmond and head out for adventures. We are excited to share this journey with you and take you along for the ride. Thanks for sharing this episode with friends and to your socials - make sure you tag us @rulesandrebellion on Instagram.

www.rulesandrebellion.com/links for free resources, upcoming events and self-paced programs.

Register for the Year of Healing and Winning Masterclass here

I could have waited to share this until next Monday but I couldn't shake the urgency I felt in my body when I thought about our friends, about all of us in this weird hard season of life.

This love letter is to YOU and FOR you to send to your friends. I hope these 8 minutes makes it easier for you to share your concern and compassion for the people you love.

If you want to share this others, you can use the share option within your podcast app or screenshot it and tag @rulesandrebellion on Instagram or Facebook.

There is so much you blame yourself for AND so much you end up having to clean up in relationships and other areas of life because you don’t know the power of your nervous system. In this episode Brandon and I discuss why knowing about this aspect of the human body is crucial and how it touches every aspect of your daily life.

We also talk about the new Beat Burnout 5 Minutes at a Time mini-course I created. You don't have to force yourself to meditate for hours every day to be at peace in your body.

If you love this episode, screenshot while you listen, share it to your social and tag @rulesandrebellion.

Another personal reflection episode sharing my most recent encounter with my inner child, my greatest emotional fears and how I am doubling down on my healing practices while I embody the worth of my work.

Whew, lots of nervous system regulation efforts in this. If it resonated with you, please screenshot and share it on Instagram or Facebook and tag @rulesandrebellion.

If you are feeling rushed and major pressure to DECIDE what you will PRODUCE in this calendar year, please listen to this episode and unsubscribe from those accounts.

In this episode, I invite you to not bypass THE single most important part of achieving goals and creating "new year habits." Instead, asking questions and giving yourself to level up the quality of your answers.

And the 60ish minute mini course, Habits While Being Fully Human, is now available. For this week, you'll get a sweet discount but no matter when you dig in, it's going to change your life. You can grab that here.

Thank you for starting the new year with me here. If you loved this episode, screenshot and tag us on Instagram @rulesandrebellion so we can cheer you on.

These are the five habits that will guarantee your success in 2022, because when you are engaging in these ideas you will be more likely to say yes to opportunities and to lean into them.

Screenshot and share this on your social media if you love it and make sure to tag @rulesandrebellion and/or @tashaskillin. THANK YOU for another incredible year together.

I promise you 2022 is going to blow your socks off. Big plans for getting even more confident in Boldly Becoming You.

You deserve to know how incredible you are - this year was NOT easy and you deserve to see truly how you did it. AND in general, we are ineffective at best in assessing our own progress without truly looking at the facts.

In this episode I offer a slew of questions you can use to reflect on your year as well as 6 unique methodologies to access various parts of yourself throughout the year no matter how busy you've been.

If you end up loving it, screen shot while you are listening, share it to your Instagram stories, tag me at TashaSkillin and Rules & Rebellion, tag some friends. I appreciate it so much.

Thank you for coming back here each week and for the energy and attention you are giving yourself in each show you listen to.

There is not a person in history who has recovered from burnout without adjusting or implementing new boundaries. If boundaries have felt hard, or you find yourself having false starts, this episode is going to clarify why. Putting boundaries in place requires an entire skillset that we didn't learn.

Listen and share this episode, screenshot it and tag @tashaskillin and @rulesandrebellion on Instagram.

You can join the Rules & Rebellion Village with this link to receive $10 off your monthly subscription exclusively for Boldly Becoming You podcast listeners. Or use the code BOLDLY at checkout when you go to www.rulesandrebellion.com/village.

How do you set boundaries with parents who are triggering?

How can I stop feeling guilty when I am putting boundaries in place with family?

How do you set boundaries when you aren’t ready to talk about why or dig into the trauma?

This week I answer 3 questions from listeners about boundaries.

Do you have a question you’d like us to answer? Send a text to 804.207.4028 and I’ll answer it here on an upcoming episode.

For more on Boundaries, listen to episodes 35, 40, 74 and make sure to join us in Clubhouse this week as we talk about boundaries and burnout.

Enrollment for the Rules & Rebellion Village Membership is open through Monday, Nov 22, 2021. Tap the link above or use the code BOLDLY to receive $10 off your monthly subscription, to this life-changing community.

Today we dig into your relationship with time, what productivity really means and the actual input we have available spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Ultimately, are you ready and prepared to RECEIVE?

Take the time to answer some of the questions toward the end. I am looking forward to seeing what comes up for you.

Remember to take a screenshot and share this with your social media community if it resonates. Tag us at @rulesandrebellion

And you can grab your seat at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village for The Village Experience that begins this weekend, November 14-19. Can't wait to see you there!

Perfectionism isn’t who you are, it’s what you learned to do. But do you know why? Do you know where it came from? Do you know how it's impacting your kids? And the ticket out of being in perfectionism anxiety hell is the exact thing that perfectionists are the most scared of.

Screenshot this episode, tag @rulesandrebellion and let us know which question you are going to dig into this week.

The last Village Experience for 2021 is coming up so grab your ticket at www.rulesandrebellion.com/village. Get a front row seat to the connection, clarity and community only available in our Rules & Rebellion Village membership community. It will change your life. 🤗

One of the major reliefs for me in my journey to self discovery and increasing my self awareness was learning the Introvert vs Extrovert characteristics.

In this episode, I offer the 2 simple differences between these personality traits and how not knowing this impacted every aspect of my life. At the end I offer you some questions to dig into if you discover your introvertedness was not recognized earlier in life.

Leave a review and share it with your friends, if you loved this episode. Thank you for leaning into Boldly Becoming You.

I "came out" a few weeks ago as not straight. In this episode I share with you why as well as offer some questions in hopes you find some freedom and relief in being another step closer to who you were born to be.

Last call for the Vision Board Workshop this weekend.

Grab your virtual seat here and join the rest of us who are taking up all the space we are meant to inhabit and set yourself free.

If you share this episode on social media, please tag us @rulesandrebellion on IG and FB. Thank you for spreading our messages!

There is nothing wrong with you and in this episode, I highlight some major short comings of the systems and methodologies we have been told are THE way to success which is why you believe it's your fault you don't have this "dream life" people talk about.

I'm over it and I hope this helps you release some of the pressure you have carried for the last few decades.

I love you.

Grab your virtual seat at the Vision Board Workshop on Oct 23 & 24 and start upgrading your approach to all things so that you can continue Boldly Becoming You.

In this episode, I share my stagnation and uncertainty since we came back from our trip to California. And what I learned about myself as well as the catalyst for moving toward my goals and vision again AND a big audacious goal that made me sweaty recording it.

The Vision Board Workshop is coming up again on October 23&24 so grab your spot at www.rulesandrebellion.com/visionboard

Don't forget to leave a review and share this episode to your social, tagging @rulesandrebellion on IG and FB.

Extreme Independence is out, community and collaboration is in and not because it's a trend or a fad. But because it's truly the only way to do everything you want and need.

Being intentional about who you allow into your world and building a community who is 100% team YOU is not something we learned how to do. We learned to swallow our feelings, make other people comfortable and at ease, even at the expense of our own peace.

But when you have a village who is genuinely interested in your well-being, your purpose, your unique contributions to the world, you become unstoppable.

Share this episode with the friends you want to be in your village. And let us know what came up for you in answering the questions.

Enrollment for The Rules & Rebellion Village is now open through Friday, September 24 so go to www.rulesandrebellion.com/village to become a Founding Member of this life changing community. We will see you in there!

The world shifts modes when school starts, with or without kids, and in this episode we talk about how to sail smoothly into the next season without overwhelm or burning out trying to keep all your habits the same.

We have been living with a certain set of habits and routines over the summer months and now all the cues and prompts, ability factors and maybe even motivations are shifting.

What your family does in the summer isn’t the same as what it does in the fall, winter, spring. But you still expect yourself to maintain the habits of the previous season and it's draining you.

Share this with your friends, especially those mamas and friends who work in education!

Last chance for Coaching Week! You can sign up here and access all the goodies through Sunday September 19.

And next week the Rules & Rebellion Village opens for enrollment so keep an eye out so you can make an educated decision for this next season of life.

In this episode, Brandon and I dig into the 5 Phases of Transformation that we all move through when we are intentionally evolving as people. We wish we had known these phases existed, what to do in each of them and what to expect because maybe it wouldn't have been so lonely.

As always, our goal is to shorten the path for you from where you are to where you want to be and in today's show, you'll be able to identify where you are and what you can do to move toward the next phase.

And Coaching Week is designed to accelerate your clarity and get you closer to feeling settled, focused and energized instead overwhelmed and burned out.

It starts next week so grab your seat now at www.rulesandrebellion.com/coachingweek. See you there!

Super personal episode with a trigger warning for child abuse. Ultimately I hope this episode helps you on your journey to healing and setting yourself free.

I will no longer abandon myself and I am hopeful you'll do the same for your truest self. But if it is not yet time, you'll know I'm cheering you on when you do.

Coaching week is coming up - grab your seat now for this life changing event - only $7.

In this episode, we dig into the specifics on having hard conversations in our adult friendships. This was a very active Clubhouse conversation and after I shared these 5 things to consider, the Clubhouse room was alive with women sharing, asking questions and supporting one another in deepening their friendships and navigating hard conversations.

Did you sign up for Coaching Week yet? Get on in here!

Are you on Clubhouse yet? We'd love to have you join us.

Have a question? Hit us up on IG and we'll answer it on a podcast!

What does community really mean? How does it impact our growth? What are doing next?

In this episode, Brandon and Tasha dig into the journey to episode 100 of the Boldly Becoming You Podcast AND what the accumulating lessons are pointing to next.

Here is the link to our Clubhouse Club: Rules & Rebellion.

We are excited to see you at the launch party!

Thank you for being on this journey to 100 episodes with us! XO

www.rulesandrebellion.com/coachingweek

99 episodes in and I am here to open up more, share more and something you'll hear from me way more often, I love you.

Thank you for going on this journey with me. Imagine what we will uncover in the next 99 episodes together :)

www.rulesandrebellion.com/jumpstart for the questions to get you started on the journey back to yourself.

Share this episode on Instagram and tag @rulesandrebellion so we can say thank you!

There are many rules we have learned about "family" and what it means to be in one, to stay in one and what parts of yourself to deprioritize because of family. And for many family members, it doesn't matter how toxic the behaviors are.

What are the signs? What do you do? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener "How do you know if a family member is toxic?"

Power & Peace Through Purpose waitlist is here.

If you haven't gotten, these SUPER clarifying questions yet, go grab them here!

Gotta a question you want us to answer on the Podcast? DM us on Instagram or shoot me a message on Clubhouse!

There are several problems I noticed in my journey of setting goals, making vision boards and experiencing "success. In this episode, Brandon interviews me about where this process started and why I flipped the Vision Board process on its head so that anyone could find inspiration and actually see them work. He also makes me cry so...there's that.

The Vision Boards to Beat Burnout Summer workshop is July 31 and Aug 1 12-3pm EST. Grab your seat at www.rulesandrebellion.com/visionboard - can't wait to see you!

Our entire life we have been conditioned to push, hustle and never slow down. We’ve been judged not only by our success but by the goals themselves. If we aren’t striving for more, bigger, better, newer we are dismissed and passed over, so in turn we “level up” and grind it out. But at what cost? How much of your life and your relationships are you willing to sacrifice to achieve them?

Brandon and I dig into our experience with this and share what we discovered in the journey out of burnout mode.

Vision Boards to Beat Burnout is coming up on July 31 & Aug 1 12-3pm EST both days. Grab your seat here!

We are used to seeing happy shiny people AFTER their glow up aka transformation but that's not the whole story. In this episode, Brandon and I talk about 3 things you have to say goodbye to when you are going through a transformation AND I clear up what transformation really is.

Can't wait to hear what resonates with you. And as always, we invite you to answer a question for yourself as you navigate transformation in your own life.

Don't forget to check out the NEW and UPDATED Pre-Vision Board Clarity questions at www.rulesandrebellion.com/vbquestions or snag them when you sign up for the Vision Boards to Beat Burnout 2 part workshop on July 31 and Aug 1.

Grab your seat here: www.rulesandrebellion.com/visionboard

We're in California after a cross country road trip that was EPIC. In this episode, Brandon and I share what we had to do, let go of and rules we intentionally broke to make the trip what it was.

Clarity from every direction - our students, about our family's well being, how we ended up in California and what's coming up.

Special note: Our Instagram account has been updated to reflect the name of our company rather than just the podcast so make sure you are following us here: Rules & Rebellion

And head over to www.rulesandrebellion.com/links to check out all the resources, workshops and courses coming up.

What does being positive mean? And how have we turned what was intended to be a powerful option for maintaining a healthy attitude into a toxic pattern that actually limits our abundance and creates challenges in the moment and long term?

Where is the line between a positive attitude and dodging real life with a toxic positive mindset? One will set you in motion for abundance, the other will block all you are meant to have.

That’s what we are digging into today.

Check out the NEW and Updated Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions here!

Gratitude isn't just "thank you" - it's all the ways we show that we see, hear, understand and appreciate someone. In this short episode, I invite you to consider the ways you can activate your gratitude with a variety of appreciation to the people who need it the most in your life.

When you say thank you, in any of the many ways you can appreciate someone, you invite more of that into your life. What are you attracting more of into your world?

The Vision Board to Beat Burnout Workshop is coming up. Grab the Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions here.

Whether you are looking at your health practices, your content for your business or saving money, "consistency" seems to be the cure-all for anything you want to do in life.

But doesn't is feel like a lot of pressure to do it EVERY DAY, no matter what, whatever "it" is? If you have goals in all areas of your life, it's not possible to consistently produce every day for all of your life and for many of us, it results in feeling like we've failed.

What if your commitment to consistency was pointed at the wrong thing? That's what we dig into in this episode.

And don't forget to snag the Pre-Vision Board Clarity questions at www.rulesandrebellion.com/vbquestions

Do you remember the last time you received a compliment from a stranger? Someone told you that you had a nice smile, they liked your jacket, your work was well done? What did it trigger in you? Did you feel shy or nervous or uncomfortable?

Today's episode is longer than most of the Monday episodes so you'll hear some changes at the beginning and end.

Screenshot this episode and tag @boldlybecomingyou on Instagram.

And Power & Peace Through Purpose is NOW open! Grab your spot and get ready for a life-changing experience with other brilliant recovering perfectionists who refuse to let burnout steal their dreams, purpose and impact.

Loyalty to someone other than yourself is the breeding ground for inauthenticity and for surrendering your autonomy. Autonomy is the antithesis of codependency and a crucial ingredient in interdependence. Today’s show is an invitation to look at where in your relationships perfectionism - the rules, expectations or obligations, have overpowered autonomy.

AND Power & Peace Through Purpose opens this week. Head on over to www.rulesandrebellion.com/p3 to learn more about this transformational course. We can't wait to see you in there 🤩

Acknowledging your co-creators throughout your life opens the doors for more collaborative efforts, less loneliness and exponential impact and abundance. Your trauma-response independence is blocking your abundance.

Today I'm inviting you to reflect with some insightful questions at the end of the episode.

For more questions to reflect on, head over to www.rulesandrebellion.com/jumpstart to download the 16 Qs to Jumpstart Your Journey Back to You.

Being loyal to your own core values, your truest and highest self is the most effective long term strategy for health, happiness and fulfillment but most of us have agreed to loyalty in many areas of our lives.

Loyalty to anyone outside of yourself is going to create resentment, lost time and inauthenticity and delay your efforts to be the person you were born to be.

Wanna start your journey back to you? Use these questions as a practice and get back to the incredible person who is here to have a meaningful impact.

One of the reasons I didn’t express gratitude is because of the rules I assumed and adopted about the right and wrong way (perfectionism) to say thanks. I watched adults and peers deny thanks, defer it, deflect it and expect it. We will dig into these topics in this series but today we are talking about the rules that say there is a right time, a right way and by default the wrong way to express thanks.

A review would mean the world to me. Thank you for joining me on this journey and sharing how this podcast has helped you.

Don't forget to snag your 16 Qs to Jumpstart Your Journey Back to You!

At the end of the day, are you deciding it was a good day vs a bad day based on the number of things you got checked off your list?

Do you feel annoyed at others who are resting, playing or relaxing when there is so much to do?

These are just a few examples of productivity-based self worth. In this episode, I give you 8 signs you are operating from this productivity-based self worth and 6 steps to start shifting into alignment and fulfillment.

Screenshot while listening and let me know how this lands for you @boldlybecomingyou on IG!

This is the beginning of a series about how gratitude has plateaued for so many of us and how to multiply the impact personally and globally.

What if journaling gratitude was just the beginning of the power and impact you could have in your own life and in the world?

This is a game changer and I'm excited to share this journey with you.

If you are on Clubhouse, make sure to follow me there @tashaskillin. You can also text Clubhouse to 804.207.4028 and you'll receive info about upcoming rooms I'm hosting or guest speaking in.

Also, make sure you grab the 16 Qs to Jumpstart your Journey Back to You!

As recovering perfectionists, we are unlearning the patterns and habits of people pleasing, procrastination guilt, performative based self worth and preoccupation of flaws.

But as humans we crave meaningful impact and a sense of purpose - above all we want peace, ease and joy.

So how do you close the gap between the anxiety of how to get it all done and the "hard work" of achieving goals to becoming a person who enjoys life, feels at peace and accomplishes dreams?

What is the KEY ingredient to moving from where you are to where you want to be?

That's what we dive into in this episode. Thanks for listening.

Want to get to know yourself a bit better? Download and use these questions to continue the journey back to your truest self.

If you are like me, you've been working hard to reach your goals for most of your life. And you have found yourself exhausted, occasionally defeated and most definitely burnt out.

What if that wasn't actually how all the successful people we look up to actually achieved their success? What if the path to accomplishing dreams and having everything we want was about NOT focusing on the goals, but something different?

I pivoted from this path of a goal-driven life a few years ago...and it's been working.

Have you shared this episode with your friend, sister or coworkers yet? Do it! You are part of the community of healers and co-creators passing along messages that matter.

Thank you for listening! More goodness is coming up in the next few months so stay tuned!

Free resources here

In this episode, we do a deep dive into questions and practices that provide self-awareness and how it benefits the many aspects of day to day life.

You will want to grab pen and paper, or open your notes section in your phone, to capture some of these questions.

Thank you for your support during this relapse. Looking forward to being live more often with you soon!

Snag your 11 Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have. And join us April 10&11 for the Vision Board Workshop!

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

I've had my share of setbacks, as have you. And when you are a perfectionist, even in recovery, it feels especially challenging to navigate unexpected delays and obstacles when there was a well-thought out plan or strategy.

In this episode, we talk about how to deal with setbacks and what you can do to move through them with less loss time and more grace.

The Vision Board Workshop is April 10&11 and registration is now open. Snag your seat at www.rulesandrebellion.com/visionboard

Make sure you download the free resource, 11 Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions, to dig into what you may want/need that is underneath all the rules, obligations and expectations you unknowingly adopted through the years.

Where does abundance come from? What does alignment really mean? In this episode, we dig into answering both of those questions and clarify the importance of including all areas of your life in your future vision.

When you open your definition of abundance beyond cash and include the many ways your truest self can manifest, you end up looking around saying "OMG, this is really happening!"

Snag your 11 Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

Vision boards can be fun and pretty and inspirational but they are ultimately TOOLS to manifest the life you are meant to live.

Vision Boards are visuals that you create that include images and text that conveys the life you want or crave to live. It is the visual representation of the dreams and goals achieved when you are aligned spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally.

In this episode, I talk about 2 different ways to use your Vision Board to manifest the life you dream of and have the meaningful impact you are meant to have.

Make sure to get on The Vision Board Workshop waitlist to be notified when the April Vision Board workshop registration opens up!

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

In this episode, I share what you may be doing that is creating a direct, fast track path to burnout AND what the two basic stages of burnout are. You may want to grab paper and pen for this one - it's interactive.

Thank you for sharing this episode and others that resonate, with those you love. Let's keep collaborating on supporting one another OUT of these perfectionism patterns that are stealing years, even decades, of this one precious life.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Perfectionism leads to limited connection and vulnerability in friendships, often an imbalance of pouring into others and then feeling underappreciated or drained.

And the people pleaser in the perfectionist patterns avoids conflict and has many ambiguous friendships which keep you stuck trying to make sure you are likeable rather than being the truest you.

What would happen if you got clear on what you want a friendship to provide you?

What kind of connections could you develop if you just had the conversation about intentions?

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

You've tried all the hacks, all the strategies and the systems and still you feel defeated, constantly behind, exhausted and unsatisfied with what you've gotten done at the end of the day. I get it - I lived that life for almost 20 years.

Here's the thing, those systems were not designed for people like us. They were created by old white dudes who weren't responsible for the emotional well-being of their family and communities. Those systems weren't created with the flexibility we need for how real life happens - moments, hours and sometimes days or weeks hijacked by taking care of people - which we love but also takes time.

So no more controlling time - Time Integrity is a whole mood and today's episode is just the beginning.

NEW! You've heard us mention the course we are launching in March to pass along the tools and the systems we developed as we moved out of the Burnt Out Perfectionist life into the Confident Connected Rebel lifestyle. Enrollment will be opening soon but snag your spot on the waitlist to be the first notified when we open up the limited number of seats for our Beta run of this course at a ridiculously low investment this one time.

Sign up here!

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

In this episode we talk about a few of the challenges that you face when first implementing boundaries in your relationships and with yourself.

Sure, boundaries are hard, but why? Is it the fear of hurt feelings, possible rejection, change? Maybe it's that you feel like you don't have a good track record following through with things, so why bother?

Whatever the reason, we're here for ya. Thanks for listening.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion.

We have been taught to look outside of ourselves to determine what we do, how we love, where we give our attention and energy. So after decades of that conditioning, it's time to go back inside yourself.

This short episode is packed with some powerful questions. One specific question that will provide direction and clarity in how to have a joy-filled and meaningful impact.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

What is the meaning of life? What makes life worth living? These are questions philosophers, and scientists, have been working on for thousands of years. The answer continues to be having a sense of purpose - delivering a meaningful impact on the world at large. And yet, so many of us hold ourselves back from doing the things we are passionate about. Where do these fears of ridicule, imperfection and inadequacy come from? Why does it feel so hard to figure out what your purpose is?

In this episode, we talk about what's stopping you and what to do to move into a meaningful life filled with purpose and joy.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

People Pleasing: What is it, what does it look like, and how does it affect your life and relationships? Do you even know if you’re doing it?

In this episode we share our respective journeys through people pleasing and how identifying it changed our relationship with each other, our parenting and ourselves. People pleasing has multiple layers and offers a chance to be the hero in a lot of stories.

But what if by releasing the identity of “hero”, you could find deeper connection in your relationships, encourage resiliency and confidence in the people you love, all while becoming that person you know deep down that you truly are?

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, we'd LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion.

We have been told that people who procrastinate are lazy, unmotivated, non-committal and a slew of other offensive and damaging things. But what if we approached procrastination from a completely different angle? What if the people we love could move out of procrastination - we could move out of the pattern of false starts and piles of incomplete projects - by asking a question rather than blaming and assuming?

The impact of the habit of procrastination is huge, especially over the span of a lifetime or a relationship. In this episode, you'll hear some alternatives in parenting, partnership, friendships and professional relationships so you can reconnect and work together on overcoming the ever present fears.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you on Clubhouse? I host a daily Boldly Becoming You room Mon-Sat at 7am EST @tashaskillin

Your relationship with money may be the missing link to the security and impact you crave. Even with all the strategies and budgeting tools, if you still feel anxiety, fear, dread or anger when interacting with money - it's time to consider a different approach to your money.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

In order to have the meaningful impact you are designed to have, you have to pursue the nudges that come up to explore an idea or make changes in your life. But for so many, doing this in the past has led to someone labeling you selfish or you feeling guilty because someone you love or care about is not immediately on board with the shifts you made.

You aren't selfish for going after what lights you up. You are selfish if you don't. Listen to this episode to dig in a little deeper about how crucial it is that you do the things calling to you.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Motivation, self discipline and will power have held the #1 position in the ranking of who gets to be successful in personal and professional goals and dreams for far too long.

But what if what you have achieved and not achieved in your life is not a result of motivation or lack thereof? What if you just didn't complete the process and journey to success because you didn't have all the information?

In today's episode, I share with you the life-changing work of BJ Fogg and how I've seen this information transform my life and the lives of so many others who apply it.

Snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

In this quickie conversation, we take a moment to talk about the journey here and introduce the next chapter of the Boldly Becoming You podcast. New beginnings and growing authenticity.

Don't forget:

The first Vision Board Actualized Workshop is this weekend! Snag your seat - go here to set up for an epic 2021.

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If you answered "myself" you are not alone. Guilt, remorse and shame are often based on a false foundation yet stop most of us from taking risks and dreaming big enough.

Most of what you feel guilt about, as well as things you want to forgive yourself for, are eating up space in your mind and depleting your energy. In this episode, I offer another angle and some relief as you move into your renewed habits and practices for self-care and fulfilling your purpose in 2021.

The first Vision Board Actualized Workshop is this weekend! Snag your seat - go here to set up for an epic 2021.

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Brandon has been a professional artist for 20 years, focusing mostly in theatre, design, and the event industry. During that time he has grown to fully embrace the strength and benefits that collaboration and the creative process afford everyone.

As a Creativity Coach, Brandon helps people identify their own unique version of creativity and how to better express it, and ultimately themselves. Whether it is navigating daily tasks like cooking and scheduling, designing your personal space, or making “art”, creativity is at the center of it all and tuning in and embracing it is one of the key elements to living a full, bold, meaningful life.

In this episode we discussed:

Parenting
Relationships
Creativity
Toxic Masculinity

Follow Brandon on Instagram

The Vision Board Actualized Workshop is January 9&10 2021. Enrollment is open - go here to grab your seat!

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Rules & Rebellion @rulesandrebellion or @TashaSkillin.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

This year brought so much unexpected chaos but more importantly, massive clarity. Clarity means you can see more choices in your daily life than you have ever seen before - and at first, this is extremely overwhelming. What in the hell do you do with all this new information about yourself, your relationships and the world you have been living in?

In this episode, I am getting real with you about what true awakening is like (spoiler - it's a freaking mess) and several (6 to be exact) recommendations I have for you to make the transition into 2021 for your boldest self a little more smooth and manageable.

The next Vision Board Actualized Workshop is in January 9&10 2021. Enrollment is open so go here and snag your seat now!

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Ainsley Skillin is an aspiring 11 year old who is an artist, baker, maker of paper maché, and lover of good stories. For the past few years she has had to learn how to navigate the challenges and frustrations that come with having chronic illnesses and how they impact daily life, learning, and friendships.

She has learned to manage her feelings, her health and curiosity through art, patience, and acceptance...and sometimes beating the crap out of a pillow, and we couldn’t be more proud.

In this episode we discussed:

Patience
Meditation
Health
Unschooling
Chronic illness

Ainsley’s recommended reading list:

The Land of stories series by Chris Colfer
The Magic Misfits series by Neil Patrick Harris
The School for Good and Evil series by Soman Chainani

The first Vision Board Actualized Workshop is in January 2021. Enrollment will be opening within a couple days so go here to be the first to know when it opens!

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

After doing vision boards for over 17 years, I've learned what works and what doesn't. Vision boards have varying degrees of effectiveness but only when you apply the watered down version of the Law of Attraction to it and completely disregard how the human mind works. I certainly had years when I was disappointed in the lack of reality from the vision board I created and I have had years, like this one, where I can see the reality of those dreams and goals actualize regularly.

In this episode, I share the 5 most common reasons that vision boards haven't worked - the last one is a "Wow!" moment.

Want to make it easy and have guidance and year long support with your vision boards for 2021? Register for the Vision Boards that Actually Work event here.

Snag the free checklist with 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

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Episode 60 ”Don’t wait around!”

Martinique Mims is a slam poet and children’s book author. She writes looking through the lens of history, and the triumphs and challenges people face, especially communities of color at the transformative times we are in. Her goal is to uplift children through her stories, encourage them to be who they are and to realize they are somebody and shouldn’t think less than.

When she is not busy writing inspiring and self-empowering books for children, She enjoys dancing, singing, and finding new styles for her natural hair (which she loves). This is her debut children’s book.

Note: Listen until the end you don’t want to miss it!!

In this episode we discussed:

Finding yourself
Lessons of the ego
Activism
Actively following your passion

Things you might want to check out based on this episode:

https://www.naacp.org/act-so/

https://www.cityyear.org/

Follow Martinique on Facebook, Instagram and on her website.

And on YouTube: Generation Lyght

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The first Vision Board Actualized Workshop is in January 2021. Enrollment will be opening within a couple days so go here to be the first to know when it opens!

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

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If you want to have a life that lights you up and energizes you on a daily basis, you have got to set that intention in your every day real life experiences. It's 100% more effective to have a solid visual reminder that is custom created by YOU for YOU to create the life you love. You will have the meaningful impact you are meant to have when you are regularly forward focused and filtering for what will move you closer to the life of your dreams.

There are 3 steps to creating vision boards that actually WORK and I've narrowed down my 17 years of doing them (a bunch of different ways) to shorten your path.

The first Vision Board Actualized Workshop is in January 2021. Enrollment will be opening within a couple days so go here to be the first to know when it opens!

And until then, snag your free 11 question checklist to get started manifesting the life you want and were born to have.

You can snag the 11 Pre-Vision Board Clarity Questions here

Gwen is a Certified Fashion Stylist specializing in Personal Brand Styling, she implements game changing methods, turning clients' wardrobes into assets and creating brand identities to resonate with their specific audience, giving women back their power by yielding others perception. But it was a journey of healing to get to this confident, embodied, strong woman who is allowing her creativity to guide her.

In this episode we discussed:

Perfectionism
Parenting
Creativity
Journaling

Gwen’s suggested book: The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love By: Sonya Renee Taylor

Follow Gwen's journey on Instagram, Facebook and her website

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

For some of the most overachieving people on the planet, it doesn't sound likely that perfectionists would have a hard time setting goals or dreaming for the future. In this episode, I share some of the shifts in perspective and definitions I have made to open up the floodgates to abundance and more joy on a regular basis.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Pasha Marlowe is a marriage and family therapist, life and laughter coach, and inspirational speaker. Her passion is healing with humor and has created a groundbreaking coaching program called ROAR with LAUGHTER where she leads clients from rupture to rapture and empowers them to tell their personal stories on a live comedy stage. Pasha lives in Maine with her husband and youngest son, Jamie, who inspired this work during a medical crisis.

Tigger Warning: This episode includes conversations about suicide, chronic illness and death.

In this episode we discussed:

Navigating chronic illness
Life transitions and the signs to know when you’re ready for one
Mental health
The healing power of comedy

Follow Pasha on Facebook, Instagram, and her website.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

And be the first to know when the next Vision Board workshop opens up for enrollment.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Being a perfectionist used to be a glowing characteristic for many of us - our attention to detail, our high quality of work and deliverables in personal and professional experiences. But we now know the perfectionism tendencies are extremely limiting and often times responsible for missing opportunities to be seen, heard, and loved as the full humans we are.

In this episode, I break down some of the well-known and not so well known aspects of being a perfectionist and how to move away from this anxiety-producing mindset.

I also promise to give you this link in the episode so here it is: Rule Breaker's Society

BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits book is a game changer!

Michelle Bolden shares her journey of healing, being a single mom to 3 beautiful black boys, and the multi-layered challenges of being the "strong angry black woman." She shares how she has prioritized her self care to find herself again.

An old friend, beautiful soul, and overall badass,

Catch her show PTSD of a Black Woman with her powerhouse cousin Moody on Thursday nights on Instagram.

In this episode we discussed:

Racism and the educational system
Meditation, prayer, breaking generational curses
Trusting yourself and there is no one right way

Follow Chelle on Instagram, Facebook and on her website.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Traditions, family connection and holiday cheer are all being challenged by the pandemic infused holiday season. In this episode, I invite you to take the pressure off of you and everyone else, give you some ideas on how to recreate connection from afar and consider being completely honest with yourself about the holiday seasons from the past.

Sending you a ton of love while you navigate the challenges and invite the adventure for this year's holiday season.

**I was a little under the weather when recording this episode so thank you for allowing me to show up fully human. XO

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Growing up in the Foster Care system and then the prison system, Scott Hampton has a true understanding of how and where these institutions fail to teach and emotionally care for the youth of this country. It was in prison that Scott began to understand how the lack of acknowledgment of a person’s experience in the Foster Care system could truly impact them and hold them back from the growth and acceptance that they deserve.

It was from this realization that Scott began to do his own research on the “Foster Care to Prison Pipeline” and began to develop a mentorship program to help those who, like him, did not receive the empathy and support needed to live a full and happy life.

In this episode we discussed:

Feedback
Judgement
Acceptance
Perseverance

Follow Scott's journey on Facebook or contact him to learn more about his program.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

I get a little vulnerable with you in this episode and invite you to consider what phase of transformation you are in.

It's a bumpy ride to become who you were meant to be but knowing what the transformation process looks and feels like, may help ease some of the anxiety and self doubt you feel.

Sending you so much love while you shed what no longer serves you and open up to what does.

To find the questions and the waitlist for Rule Breaker's Society, go to www.rulesandrebellion.com/links

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Jowarnise is a visual artist and designer who explores the human condition with themes involving race, social class, and culture through her naturalistic portraits of women in eloquent poses. She often focuses on the female African American experience. Her work has been exhibited at the Black History Museum and Cultural Center of Virginia, the Meredith Gallery at Virginia State University, the medical campus of Virginia Commonwealth University, and the Virginia Museum of History and Culture. She was awarded in 2012 by the National Arts Program and in 2019 by the Visual Arts Center of Richmond. She is based in Richmond, VA.

In this episode Jowarnise and I sit down and talk about her journey from following the path that she was “supposed” to take to following the path that she was truly meant to be on - living her passion and following her curiosity. She’s charming, inspiring, and wonderfully honest and I know you will thoroughly enjoy listening to her talk about how she gave herself permission to boldly become the person she is meant to be.

Check out her website and follow her on Facebook and Instagram!

In this episode we discussed:

Listening to your inner voice
Being open and trusting the journey
Finding the courage to say “Yes”

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Snag the 11 Questions to gain massive clarity in your vision for Boldly Becoming You.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

As we enter the season of winter, it's common for those who are managing mental health challenges to struggle more often. With the global pandemic still going strong in many parts of the world and certainly the U.S., families and individuals are facing hard decisions and potentially more isolation than ever before.

Depression often deepens in the winter months and 2020 has offered many challenges to our collective mental and emotional well-being. In this episode, I invite you to join our effort to keep our heads above water as we all lean into doing the hard things, together.

Don't forget to screenshot the episode, share it with your 3 people and let us know your 3 and 3 by tagging us in your social media posts. Together we can lessen the mental health crises in our communities and support one another in meaningful ways.

Love you all!

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

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So much good stuff friends!!!Today’s conversation is with Kristy Ware, Kristy is a high energy and enthusiastic Health Coach, Speaker, Author, and Corporate Wellness Program Facilitator. She motivates and inspires men and women to lead vibrant and confident lives through sustainable fitness, eating and self-love.

From talking about “who gets the good computer”, LGBTQ representation in children’s books, and following your passions one step at a time, this interview was energizing and so much fun. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

In this episode we discussed:

Boundaries
Communication
Spirituality/meditation
Entrepreneurship
Blended families/representation

Books by Kristy:

Sky Rider
I WILL BE ME
I’m A Rainbow

Book Recommendations:

Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
No Sweat by Michelle Segar
The Universe has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein
Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo
You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero
You Are A Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero
Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg

Follow Kristy on Facebook and her website

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Grab the 11 Questions you need to answer to make a vision board that actually works!

Why does saying thank you feel so hard sometimes? Where does this friction and internal resistance to expressing our gratitude actually come from?

And most importantly, how can we move through that in an effort to amplify the human experience for ourselves and others?

All of this in today's episode.

Also, don't forget to snag the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Janessa is a Business Coach & Brand Strategist, and host of the Elevate Podcast. Through her work she helps coaches, course creators, creative entrepreneurs and online experts who are ready to tap into their true badassery.

In this episode we discussed:

Mindset
Overcoming trauma
Unlearning rules

Connect with Jenessa on her website, as well as Instagram and Facebook

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Practicing an attitude of gratitude is a great step towards not only joy and internal peace, it has a physiological impact on your stress response and your health. But perhaps even bigger than that, when you take your gratitude into action - it significantly improves the confidence and joy factor for you and the person you chose to express it to.

Keep writing your gratitude in your journal, for sure. And start your gratitude in action list so you can start amplifying your gratitude experience with next week's episode.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

You guys, this one was so much fun! In this episode, I chatted with Heather May, a multifaceted, multitalented entrepreneur and fellow podcaster. I hope you enjoy listening to us geek out about transformation, boundaries, mindfulness and a slew of other things that aided in her journey to intentional self-discovery and ultimately finding and embodying the truest, boldest version of herself that she now shares with her audience.

In this episode we discussed:

Boundaries
Codependency
Starting over
Mindfulness

Follow Heather May on Facebook and Instagram and definitely check out her website to listen to her podcast, Flipping Dreams!

Rule Breaker’s Society is now open but only for a few days. Learn more about this life-changing membership community here.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

There are several layers of implementing boundaries for a healthy relationship that can be challenging including the one with your parents, partner and friends. One of them is knowing what words to actually say to start the boundary process.

In this episode I share with you 3 ways to start conversations with common unhealthy relationship patterns that you have likely experienced on some level.

And some other tips about boundaries I wish I had known when I started.

And jump on this link because the Rule Breaker's Society is opening again soon! www.rulesandrebellion.com/rbswaitlist

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Becky currently serves as the Little People of America (LPA) Employment Chair as well as on the Board of Advisors for the National Center For Disability Journalism (NCDJ) at Arizona State University.

In this episode, she shares why she works to advance disability inclusion and equality in the corporate world and in the school system, and the challenges she’s overcome in her journey to create connection in all communities. She’s an incredible example of leading with your heart and boldly becoming your truest self.

In this episode we discussed:

Advocacy and Inclusion
Overcoming other people’s impressions and limitations
Disability challenges
Mindset

Follow Becky on Facebook and Instagram after you check out her website!

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

In this episode, I share a major face palm moment as I figure out what has been holding me hostage these last few months in terms of my journey to be my truest self. If you are in a rut - this is for you (us).

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

In this episode, my friend Sarah Zimmerman shares her 12 year journey as a writer and how she continues to find new motivation and strength to be more honest, open and vulnerable so that she can speak her truth as a mom, wife and creative.

Follow Sarah on Facebook, Instagram and on her blog on Medium.

In this episode we discussed:

Unlearning life’s lessons
Creating boundaries to follow your passion
Detaching from ego
The Untamed book club on Facebook
Robotic surgery doesn’t mean that robots are doing surgery

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Self awareness isn't just knowing yourself, it's a continuous practice of getting to know your truest truth in the moments day to day. In this quick episode, I share some of the questions I use(d) to get back to my Self regularly.

If you want the full list of questions, I regularly return to, download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Erin is a mom of 2, who recently began the journey of homeschooling her kindergartener in addition to running her own business. When Erin and I first started working together, she was feeling super overwhelmed with her ability to manage not only her personal challenges but also her growing business all while trying to be a mom and wife(sound familiar?).

She has had so much growth in such a short amount of time! I’m really excited for you to hear her talk so openly about her ability to communicate what she needs, listen to her inner voice and release the self-imposed rules she had been following.

In this episode we discussed:

Finding your creativity
Alone time
Health - intuitive eating
Effective communication with your partner
Identifying and breaking rules

To dig a little deeper:

BBY Ep5: The rules we bring to our partnership
BBY Ep9: Communication and conflict in partnership
BBY Ep13: The human body and your health
BBY Ep19: The science of sleep

Follow Erin’s journey on Instagram and Facebook!

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

Accountability can feel like a sting or a scary deadline for many of us. It started when we were kids when we didn't do our chores or our grades were less than ideal. This version of accountability doesn't encourage us to show up and BE, DO and Have - it tells us to hide, feel guilty and question our worth.

This doesn't allow growth which means your journey to become the boldest version of you will be limiting and stunted.

What if accountability was encouraging, exciting and joyful? I give you the necessary pieces to create compassionate accountability that actually WORKS for reaching your goals and boldly becoming you.

I reference Episode *33 4 Red Flag words to avoid to be your truest self* so if you haven't listened to that yet - slide back a few episodes.

Download the free Boldly Becoming You Jumpstart Checklist to fast track your journey to your truest self.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Amanda and I talk about her journey from a “perfect” corporate CPA, wife and mom life to living on purpose and passion. As a coach, she helps people navigate their relationship with abundance and money as well as finding their vision. Coaching by example, she continues to navigate life’s hiccups bringing a curious and open mind. I had so much fun geeking out with her about coaching and the never ending pursuit of living our fullest and boldest lives(detours included).

In this episode we discussed:

Codependency & Boundaries (surprise surprise)
Money
Abundance
Personal growth

To dig a little deeper:

Episode 11 Boundaries, Codependency and Interdependence in Partnership

Get in touch with Amanda on her website at Flowintopeace.com and follow her journey on Facebook and Instagram.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Boldly Becoming You requires you to trust yourself on every level. Learning to trust your abilities, your intentions and your inner wisdom is a practice that gets easier over time. In today's episode, I share some of the reasons we don't trust ourselves now and 3 ways to build confidence and integrity essential having the meaningful impact you are meant to have. Discover your truest self and realize your purpose through trusting your voice above all else.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Are you part of our community yet? Come check out the conversations about purpose, impact and self discovery in the Boldly Becoming You village online.

Moving to the US from Serbia in 2001, Nataša Vušković began pursuing a career in health science and started a family. It wasn’t until years later that she began to confront the questions and the feelings she had internalized that ultimately led her to return to her true passion and calling: creating music.

It's been my pleasure to collaborate with Nataša since she became a client more than 4 years ago. I’m positive it will be yours also, to travel this road with her as she explores herself, the rules she was handed growing up and answers the question “Do I have another story to tell?”

In this episode we discussed:

- Creativity

Finding your purpose
Giving yourself permission to fail and follow your dreams
Challenging the rules we are handed as kids

Follow Nataša on Instagram, Facebook and Spotify. You can listen to her music on all music players.

To dig a little deeper check out:

Boldly Becoming You Podcast Episode 27 Are you being selfish?

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Shifting these 4 words and phrases out of your everyday vocabulary will thrust you into finding your truest self by discovering what you really want to be, do and have.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

In this episode, I sit down with Ria Rustagi, an engineer turned entrepreneur who transformed the pain and heartache she experienced from the loss of her sister and best friend into a passion for understanding those who are suffering from trauma.

Please come listen as she walks me through the turning point moments in her life that lead her to create a device that can tell you when and how you are reacting to trauma by reading your mind!! Yep that’s right! And then it is able to suggest meditation techniques and music that will help you to retrain your brain to move through your trauma and bring you back to calm and secure.

Join me as I geek out on this journey of self discovery and the science of holistic mental health!

In this episode we discussed:

- Loss and grief

The healing power of meditation
Identifying trauma as real issue and not a “phase”
Binaural beats and the frequency that works for you

https://www.neuphony.com/

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If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

What if you could exponentially increase the happiness and joy level of everyone who has had a positive impact on you?

What if part of your meaningful impact was to help others to be the truest and boldest versions of themselves?

In this episode, I'll tell you what you can do.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

In this episode, I sit down with Keely Stawicki, a badass entrepreneur whose passion for turning "junk into treasure" led her down the path of entrepreneurship at an early age. From horses to vintage clothing, and soon launching her online business where she helps small business owners to become empowered in their businesses through Facebook advertising and digital marketing systems.

Although her professional successes are impressive, I think what you will find to be the most remarkable is her willingness to not give in or give up on herself as she navigated her way through narcissistic relationships and codependency to be able to find the boldest version of herself. Stay in touch with Keely on Instagram and Facebook and check out her new business at https://www.rebelfunnels.com. In this episode we discussed: - why you should think twice before homesteading (rats the size of Chinchillas!) - Codependency - identifying and overcoming narcissistic relationships - anxious attachment styles - the power of recognizing and acknowledging what is holding you back To dig a little deeper check out: - BBY podcast Ep 11 Boundaries, Codependency and Interdependence in Partnership - BBY podcast Ep 9 Communications and Conflict in Partnership - Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes With It - Boldly Becoming You FB group where we talk about real shit in a real way

Who you think you are is a collection of ideas and feedback you received over your lifetime. You are also responsible for encouraging or discouraging the people in your life: how to exist, what to pursue, what to avoid ever doing again.

Feedback is subtle and blatant but most importantly, it can be liberating if you are aware of the way it works and how it's happening in your life every day.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Who you think you are is a collection of ideas and feedback you received over your lifetime. You are also responsible for encouraging or discouraging the people in your life: how to exist, what to pursue, what to avoid ever doing again.

Feedback is subtle and blatant but most importantly, it can be liberating if you are aware of the way it works and how it's happening in your life every day.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Who you think you are is a collection of ideas and feedback you received over your lifetime. You are also responsible for encouraging or discouraging the people in your life: how to exist, what to pursue, what to avoid ever doing again.

Feedback is subtle and blatant but most importantly, it can be liberating if you are aware of the way it works and how it's happening in your life every day.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Ronnisha Anderson struggled with codependency and it limited her ability to find and feel her most confident. Now she is a certified life coach, getting her masters in Marriage and Family therapy and a "Personal Purpose Pusher."

In this episode we geek out about the impact of finding your purpose and Ronnisha gives solid advice to start moving toward the meaningful impact you are meant to have.

Connect and follow her:

https://www.ronnishaalaine.com

Instagram

Facebook

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Selfish is the undercurrent for so much of what we don't do. This belief that selfLESS is the ultimate good so by default, anything for the self is selfish.

Are you being selfish by answering that pull from within to DO something new? To BE more than what you've been?

In today's episode, we dig into what all of this means, and the purpose of life.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Kathleen Glen, LCSW, is a kidney transplant medical social worker in NY. She’s a mom, a wife, sister, and friend to many. But to me? She's my soul sister for 22 years and my number one teacher about how to be the friend I want and need to be. We hash out our friendship values, how we navigated lost friendships and the expectations we have at 40., uncensored.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

The relationship we NEVER talk about enough is Friendship. Today I dig into why friendships are essential for your journey to become the boldest version of yourself and I share what my core values are in a friendship. We have more friendships in our lifetime than we do parents, children and partners combined - it's time to elevate this relationship and acknowledge weight it actually has in our lives.

If this episode lights you up in some way or inspires you to question something, I’d LOVE to hear about it! Take a screenshot of your listening on your device, post in to your stories on FB or IG and tag Boldly Becoming You @boldlybecomingyou or @TashaSkillin.

Make sure you grab our free mini course to stop the people pleasing, perfectionism and constant accommodating you are habitually doing in your relationships without flipping your world upside down:

Cutting Through Codependency and the Crap that Comes with It.

Jackie Lee found herself losing faith after being diagnosed with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (M.E.) in 1992 when she was told she'd be in a wheelchair and prescribed painkillers to numb her experience. She battled guilt and poured her energy into her mindset shifts and now lives in Lanzarote, which is on a Spanish island off the coast of Africa with the life, and man, she dreamed up for herself. In addition to being a well known wedding celebrant on the island, she is the fairy godmother to women age 45+ helping them to reconnect with themselves, to feel supported and safe whilst creating their best life and having fun.

You can find her on Facebook and Instagram, and on her website.

** in this episode we discuss the ability to manifest what you desire and the life you are meant to live. Although this is true for many, this concept has not always been easily executed by those who exist in marginalized communities who are systemically oppressed or discriminated against based on race, religion, gender, ability, etc.

I recognize the white privilege filter used in many current spiritual and "achievement" based conversations, including my own in the past, and the problematic application of these ideas to “all” people when “all” people aren’t safe to walk outside their home, much less take bold and unapologetic action. When all people are treated with respect, this idea of manifesting and pursuing your dream with the steps we discuss, will be the magic for all that is has been for privileged white, and many but not all others, for hundreds of years in this country.**

Regardless of how you became a parent, how you show up is completely up to you; this includes the mom and dad, as well as the bonus mom and bonus dad,. And the weight you feel to do it right is warranted because how we parent does determine how our kids feel about themselves and what they believe they can do or achieve, at least initially. This sometimes translates into the desire to perfect our parenting approach, be the perfect mom or dad in every moment of our children’s lives but I want to propose a different option: Intentional parenting.

The free mini course will be available soon. Sign up here to get access to it as soon as it's ready!

www.rulesandrebellion.com/cuttingcodependency

Valarie Stephens shares her incredible metaphor of the 3 little pigs houses. The straw house, her stick house and now the house she has created with brick that is the truest and most beautiful life she can imagine for herself. I'm really excited for you to hear her journey from deflecting her leadership in an early relationship to guiding hundreds of families through incredible transformations to healthy and happy connection.

Stay in touch with Valarie here:

https://www.yourfamilyguru.com/

https://instagram.com/yourfamilyguru

https://m.facebook.com/yourfamilyguru/

As we continue our journey to uncover our truest selves by peeling back the layers of rules, expectations and obligations we unknowingly agreed to, we will be digging into each of the relationships we have a role in. Today, I share the 3 rules that I struggled with and then released to make room for my efforts to be an intentional mama. No matter how or what your specific parenting role is, today's episode will deepen your relationship with your kid(s) while also empower them to be their truest, boldest selves.

Go to www.rulesandrebellion.com to learn more about our communities and connect with others on you BBY adventure.

She was a musician and studied music through college when she injured her hand changing the trajectory of her career. Dr. Jessica Pizano shares her story of musician to Doctor of Clinical Nutrition, nutritional genomic counseling, and treating rare diseases such as mast cell activation disorders and connective tissue disease. I'm thrilled to introduce you to the expert who finally cracked the code for my mystery symptoms and led me out of the ME (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis) 4+ year haze and continues to support my whole family in our health journey.

Follow her on Facebook

www.mastcelladvanceddiagnostics.com

We wear lack of sleep as a badge of honor and proof that we are working harder than our peers to achieve more and reach epic levels of success. This is especially true in the world of entrepreneurship but also in parenthood and other areas of adulting.

We have heard news reports, read articles and listened to the gurus talk about how important sleep is but why?

What actually happens when you sleep that is so important? If I can run on 4-6 hours of sleep with a little (or a lot) of help from caffeine, what's the big deal?

In this episode, I give you the skinny on what's happening in your body now while you trade sleep for "productivity" and the sneaky truth of long-term sleep deprivation.

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Mikaila Henderson was on the fast track to a purposeful life in her mid 20s when her dad became ill and died within 4 months of diagnosis. Her spiritual journey took a detour as she went into denial of losing him. 6+ years later, she was celebrating her first wedding anniversary, in her doctorate program for forensic psychology and she was diagnosed with a rare cancer. But that wasn't the traumatic part for her.

After having a traumatic first round of chemotherapy, she found her way to hypnotherapy as a way to heal the pain. Now she offers this life-saving support to cancer patients and beyond.

https://www.facebook.com/mikailahendersoncht/

https://hypnosis.edu/hypnotherapists/mikaila-henderson/

It's not a mystery why so many of us are experiencing extreme stress over the last few months. While we try to keep our heads above water with remote work, remote learning for our kids and the herding of all the cats in our lives, our bodies are working overtime to make every day happen.

Prolonged stress - chronic stress - has major health implications. We hear this all the time, right? But what does that mean? What's going on in your body every time you have to make a new decision? Every time life throws another curve ball? Why does it feel like I'm running from a bear on some days?

In this episode, we dig into what is going on in your body while you are answering a million and one questions every day AND the 3 simple things you can do to protect yourself, and your family.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Gwen Williams, a hospitalist, who has experienced racial bias as a medical student and a practicing physician, we unpack some of the most alarming statistics on infant mortality rate and cancer death rates that are more than twice likely to affect the black and brown communities. We discuss the complexities of these statistics and Dr. Williams gives us insight on how to move to an equitable healthcare system for all people.

You can follow along on her journey here:

https://www.facebook.com/williams.gwendolyn/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/gwendolynwilliamsmd www.Instagram.com/GwenTheDoctor

Often we try a supplement because we hear it will help us...sleep, lose weight, have more energy, get fewer headaches, etc. And we try it and ...no relief.

In this episode I will tell you WHY your efforts with supplements haven't worked and I geek out on THE most important mineral we have in our bodies that is responsible for over 300 biochemical reactions. I was drastically deficient in this one (spoiler - you are too).

Don't forget to grab your free My Body Health Guide to shift out of following the rules and get into your body in a way that feels good AND is effective.

www.rulesandrebellion.com/mybody

Dr. Gwen Williams knew at 4 years old she would be a doctor. She was raised by first generation immigrant parents who empowered her confidence by living the example of making the world a better place, to be kind, to have compassion and self-aware.

Having grown up in NYC, she was used to all flavors of diversity and was exposed to the historic truths of race in America by intentional community leaders. During medical school she was corrected by fellow non-white students to "behave" and she began to see a different side of the world she didn't anticipate.

Her story is compelling, her optimism is contagious and her perspective is invaluable which is why this conversation has been split into Part 1 and Part 2. Enjoy Part 1 today.

Follow her journey:

FB: https://www.facebook.com/williams.gwendolyn/ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/gwendolynwilliamsmd Instagram: @GwenTheDoctor

What if we stopped addressing our health concerns about weight, strength, stress and sleep from the outside and actually got to the root of the problem...for free?

What if we stopped trying to FIX our bodies and instead understood how to support their function?

What if we shifted our relationship with the human body from aesthetic opinion to how our bodies can give us more energy and presence to fulfill our purpose?

This month we are flipping health as we have known it on it's head and finding the way to TRUE health and the alignment that fuels the meaningful impact we are meant to have.

Dr. Michael Wild knew from the age of 12 that he would become a health and wellness professional healing the world. He didn't anticipate the depth of purpose, or personal loss, in his journey over the next 30+ years, including losing the love of his life, Linda. In this episode, you hear a story of incredible resilience and also gain human body education that will be life-changing.

You can find Dr. Wild at www.drwildcanhelp.com.

Boundaries and codependency have a weird stigma in the world of social media meme culture and have been watered down, thus ineffectively used in the effort of supporting healthy and connected relationships of all kinds.

I see dozens of posts regularly in the "relationships" category on all platforms about using boundaries when you find yourself in a "toxic" relationship. We will cover how ridiculous the term "toxic relationships" is in another episode but today we are pulling back the veil on the terms boundaries, codependency and INTERdependence (not the same as independence).

What they actually mean, the clarity on how to identify the tendencies (and not get distracted by the label)...and the truth about rewiring those habits that are inhibiting you from becoming the truest version of yourself.

Jenn Dragonette shares her story of unaddressed chronic pain, an undiagnosed eating disorder, her addiction to being busy and how her journey began at 3 when she performed Reiki on her grandfather.

After chasing fad diets and being prescribed medications for 20+ years, she worked with a functional medical doctor and acupuncturist, and discovered intuitive eating.

She launched her podcast Feed Your Body With Love this past spring and you can follow her on her incredible journey at www.jdragonette.com.

Communication is the vehicle to connection and it's essential to use effective communication in our partnership relationships. Knowing how to talk about what you need, what's bothering you and how to receive the same from your partner requires practice and an unlearning and reframing of rules you brought with you into your relationship. In this episode, I'll offer some questions to consider, share some of the challenges I have to work through in my partnership and the number 1 tip I got from a therapist that REALLY made it so much easier to have effective communication.

Becky and Chris Barr left the busyness of what so many of us experience in 2015 to become homesteaders to achieve a self-sustainable life. After a handful of long awaited camping trips and a gift from Chris’s father who unexpectedly passed, their 5 year plan to go off the grid was expedited and they have been living in their solar powered homestead including alpacas, goats, chickens and more and have never been happier or more connected to each other or nature.

Check out their journey, alpacas and goats included, on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEIh8qPfHwcPKLktIVVI4Rg

IG: https://www.instagram.com/barrnoneoffgrid/

What do you do when you are speeding down the personal evolution highway and can’t get your partner to even look in the direction of where you are going?
We cover this challenge and potential solutions in this episode.

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www.rulesandrebellion.com/jumpstart

After postpartum depression, the premature birth of her son, two businesses and losing her sight for 4 months, Heather Angell finally found the clarity in her purpose. After working with a business and life coach who suggested she read the Miracle Morning, she stopped asking for permission and her life changed forever. Now she is grateful for the lessons she learns as her life journey twists and turns and helps others realize their dreams as well.

www.heatherangell.co.uk Check out the FREE mind-blowing training we talk about on the episode here. www.jameswedmoretraining.com/a/28723/s9hFbNQ6 Check out the FREE mind-blowing training we talk about on the episode here.

Are there really only 2 people in your partnership? What do you expect from this long-term committed relationship? Partnerships are complex, multi-layered and can be an incredible part of your support system to become the boldest and truest you. But there are likely some factors you haven’t considered that could be delaying your deeper connection or cutting it off completely. Today’s conversation will offer some insight into where to start digging around so you can close those gaps.

www.rulesandrebellion.com/

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After 36 years of undiagnosed autism, including challenges in work, relationships and health, Becca Lory Hector found the missing piece to explain why she experienced the world differently. Over the last 8 years, Becca has become a dynamic autism advocate, consultant, speaker, and author.

You can see the work she does, and connect with her close-knit community at www.beccalory.com

ASAN is also mentioned in our conversation so head over to https://autisticadvocacy.org/ to learn more about Autistic Self Advocacy Network.

We all learned and adopted rules about how, when and what emotions are acceptable to have, express and acknowledge. These rules have limited your ability to connect with the people in your life but most importantly with your inner wisdom and alignment. In this episode, I walk you through the questions you can ask yourself to continue the journey of Boldly Becoming You.

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After growing up incredibly shy and moving around a lot, she found herself going to college at 16, captain of the speech and debate team at 17 in her college and eventually on local and national broadcasts both for TV and a prominent YouTube channel. It was at that YouTube channel where Gwendolyn Gay experienced the necessary friction to launch herself into a business that provided some hard lessons and ultimately the path to her joy and freedom to be who she was born to be.

You can find Gwendolyn at

www.simplifiedcontent.com

https://twitter.com/gwendolyngay

https://www.instagram.com/simplifiedcontent/

https://www.youtube.com/simplifiedcontent?sub_confirmation=1

You have everything you need to make your mark on the world but you keep letting things from your past stop you. End that today.

Tasha Skillin invites you on a journey to rebel against the rules that hold you back from living a meaningful life with purpose and impact through interviews with those who bravely answer their calling from within and her personal lessons on relationships and self discovery.