Helping Families Be Happy: Recent Episodes

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Host Christopher Robbins interviews author Deborah Williams about creating meaningful bedtime routines that prioritize security over perfection. Williams shares insights from raising nine children and observing her grandchildren across two vastly different family schedules—one highly structured, one flexible—revealing that consistency in love matters far more than rigid routines. Through charming anecdotes about unconventional security objects (from pizza crusts to hammers) and a chaotic household filled with animals, Williams demonstrates that children thrive when they feel safe, loved, and connected through bedtime stories, regardless of the specific routine.

Episode Highlights

00:02:15: Christopher introduces Deborah Williams and her refreshing philosophy that there is no one perfect way to handle bedtime routines.

00:05:30: Deborah discusses her observation of two different parenting styles in her own family—one highly organized Seattle schedule and one flexible restaurant industry rhythm—with equally successful outcomes.

00:08:45: Deborah shares the story of her adopted son from Korea who found comfort in sleeping with a pizza crust under his pillow for several nights.

00:12:20: Christopher recounts his own family's unusual security objects, including his daughter sleeping with a garter snake named Bubba and a son who still sleeps with a pocket knife at age 34.

00:16:50: Deborah describes the chaotic household pets, including Tootsie Roll the pig that grew much larger than expected and a cat named Popcorn who gave birth to kittens in her daughter's crib.

00:22:30: Discussion of why dinosaurs were chosen as the main characters for "Nighty Night Dinos," emphasizing that dinosaurs are comforting because they're not real and give children a sense of control.

00:26:15: Deborah reflects on her lifelong love of dinosaurs, stemming from finding an actual dinosaur bone as a first grader in upstate New York.

Key Takeaways

• Perfect bedtime routines are less important than consistency in love and security; children thrive when they feel emotionally safe regardless of schedule structure.
• Unconventional security objects—whether pizza crusts, hammers, or snakes—serve a legitimate developmental purpose and should be respected rather than dismissed.
• Bedtime stories are the universal anchor across all family types; this consistent practice matters more than the specific timing or format of the routine.
• Flexibility in parenting approaches allows families to adapt to their circumstances while maintaining the core element of emotional security for children.

Quotable Moments

"Whatever gets you through the night, it's all right." — Deborah Williams (attributing John Lennon)

"Kids are flexible. Families are different. Families are flexible also. And you just do what works for your family with love and keeping the kids secure." — Deborah Williams

"I think dinosaurs are comforting to kids. For when they're not around, you know, they're not real. They're big animals that the kids can be in charge of." — Deborah Williams

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Raising Nature Lovers: Why Every Child Needs a Bird Book

Christopher Robbins hosts a conversation with Zev Labinger, a visual artist, musician, and ecologist, about the newly published book "Hear Them Sing: Songs and Calls from North American Birds." Labinger, who immigrated to Israel in 1986 driven by his passion for ornithology, shares how his lifelong fascination with birds—beginning in fifth grade—shaped his career as both a wildlife biologist and accomplished nature artist. The episode explores the intersection of art and science, examining how drawing and observation deepen understanding of the natural world, and discusses the transformative power of bird books in inspiring children to appreciate and explore nature.

Episode Highlights

00:02:15: Zev's origin story—how a fifth-grade teacher's bird group inspired him to draw birds on index cards, launching a lifelong passion that ultimately led him to Israel.

00:05:30: The revelation that birds are modern-day dinosaurs, connecting childhood fascination with dinosaurs to contemporary ornithological understanding of avian evolution.

00:08:45: Zev's discovery of painting bird eggs for the book—a new artistic challenge that revealed unexpected diversity in egg shapes, colors, and sizes across North American species.

00:12:20: Scientific explanation of egg coloration: cavity-nesting birds have white eggs (no camouflage needed), while ground-nesting birds have speckled eggs for protection, though robin's egg blue remains somewhat mysterious.

00:18:30: The distinction between illustration and art—illustrators plan precisely before execution, while artists search and evolve throughout the creative process, discovering meaning as they work.

00:22:45: Zev's childhood relationship with bird books as a "lifeline" before digital media, particularly the illustrated works of Roger Tory Peterson and Arthur Singer.

00:28:15: The emotional impact of seeing children worldwide enjoying the book through social media, described as "one of the greatest feelings you can have."

Key Takeaways

• Drawing and careful observation force deeper understanding—to accurately depict something, you must understand its three-dimensional form, function, and details in ways that passive viewing cannot achieve.
• Bird books serve as gateways to nature appreciation; they create bidirectional connections where children recognize birds from books in nature and later identify real birds through illustrated references.
• The creative process differs fundamentally between illustration (predetermined execution) and fine art (exploratory discovery), though both require mastery and can coexist in an artist's practice.
• Nature study through art reveals ongoing mysteries—even experts cannot fully explain phenomena like robin's egg coloration, preserving wonder and inviting continued investigation.
• Sharing creative work with the world, particularly when it inspires children to engage with nature, provides profound fulfillment that extends beyond personal artistic satisfaction.

Quotable Moments

"It's all about the birds. It's all about the birds, yeah. It's been a major part of my life."

"To draw it, you have to really understand. You have to understand it in three dimensions. You have to understand everything, what all the pieces are in there."

"An illustrator figures out exactly what they're going to do before they do it and they execute it exactly like they want it. And an artist is searching all the time."

"Books were a lifeline, you know, especially as a kid... when I had my bar mitzvah at 13, almost everybody gave me bird books." "I think birds can be like a stepping off place to just appreciating nature and wanting to go out and see nature."

"The thought that there's all these children around the world now that are looking through and getting excited or enjoying the book... is probably one of the greatest feelings you can have, I think."

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Phyllis Harris, author-illustrator of the wordless picture book Claude, joins host Christopher Robbins to discuss how inspiration strikes during life's mundane moments—bike rides, driving, mowing—when the mind is free from digital distractions.

Harris reveals that her debut picture book was inspired by Claude Monet's paintings and her own dog, Brinkley's, interruptions while she works, ultimately teaching readers that perfectionism stifles creativity and "glorious accidents" often produce the best art. The conversation celebrates wordless picture books as confidence-builders for reluctant readers and emphasizes that creative play trumps perfectionist precision.

Episode Highlights
00:02:15: Phyllis introduces Claude, a wordless picture book inspired by Claude Monet paintings and her dog Brinkley's interference with her creative work.

00:04:30: Harris explains the organic decision to make Claude wordless after realizing words weren't necessary and discovering wordless books build confidence in early readers.

00:06:45: Phyllis shares her 25-year journey from illustration (starting 1999) to becoming an author-illustrator with multiple traditionally published works.

00:09:20: Harris reveals her creative inspiration comes during low-tech moments—biking, driving, and mowing—when her mind is free to wander without phone interruptions.

00:11:40: The core message of Claude: perfectionism is creativity's enemy; the masterpiece emerges through play and releasing the need to be perfect before starting.

Key Takeaways

• Wordless picture books are powerful tools for building reading confidence and encouraging imagination in reluctant readers, allowing them to interpret emotion and action independently.
• Creativity flourishes during unstructured, screen-free moments; protect time away from digital distractions to let your mind wander and generate ideas naturally.
• Perfectionism is the enemy of creative work; embrace "glorious accidents" and prioritize playful exploration over flawless execution to discover your best ideas.

Quotable Moments

• "I really feel like that's not a friend to creativity. So I'm hoping they realize you don't have to be perfect before you start that you can just play and have fun."
• "And that's usually when the masterpiece comes about when you're not trying so hard to be perfect."
• "I think that's because I realized I'm not being constantly on my phone on the screen or constantly interrupted and having my mind elsewhere. I have a lot more time to just really focus and think that's when my imagination, I guess it goes crazy."

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Finding Hope After Suicide Loss

In this powerful episode, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Lisa Sugarman, author, mental health advocate, and three-time suicide loss survivor. Lisa shares her profound journey of discovering at age 45 that her father—whom she believed died of a heart attack when she was 10—actually died by suicide. The conversation explores how language shapes stigma around suicide, the importance of direct communication when someone may be experiencing suicidal ideation, and Lisa's work as a crisis counselor with The Trevor Project. Lisa discusses her creation of the Help Hub, a comprehensive digital resource connecting people to trauma-informed support tailored to specific communities, and emphasizes that surviving means choosing to stay, finding meaning, and using one's pain to help others feel less alone.

Lisa shares insights from her latest book, Surviving: Finding Hope After Suicide Loss.

Episode Highlights

00:03:45: Lisa reveals learning the truth about her father's suicide 35 years after his death during a random family conversation, fundamentally reshaping her understanding of his life and her own grief journey.

00:08:20: Discussion of the Help Hub's creation out of necessity to provide centralized, community-specific mental health resources in one accessible digital space for people in crisis.

00:12:15: Lisa explains why language matters: using "died by suicide" instead of "committed suicide" removes stigma tied to crime and sin, restoring dignity to those who struggled with mental illness.

00:16:40: Christopher shares his own experience asking a child directly about self-harm and suicide ideation, validating Lisa's emphasis on direct, honest communication as potentially life-saving.

00:22:05: Lisa describes her four years as a crisis counselor with The Trevor Project, the largest LGBTQ crisis hotline for at-risk youth, and how it shaped her understanding that hope exists in small moments of human connection.

00:28:30: Lisa emphasizes the power of storytelling in breaking silence around painful experiences, allowing others to feel less alone and realize they're not the only ones dealing with grief, loss, and mental illness.

00:35:15: Discussion of sitting with grief rather than rushing through it—grief is not linear and doesn't pass, but weaves into our psyche as something we learn to carry while honoring what we've lost.

Key Takeaways

• Language profoundly shapes how we understand and stigmatize mental illness; replacing "committed suicide" with "died by suicide" restores dignity and removes associations with crime and sin.
• When someone may be experiencing suicidal ideation, showing up, staying present, and asking directly—"Are you thinking of taking your life?"—is more helpful than finding perfect words or trying to fix the situation.
• Sharing our painful stories breaks silence, helps others feel less alone, and redistributes the emotional weight we carry, making healing possible through human connection rather than isolation.
• Grief is not linear and doesn't end; healing comes from sitting with pain intentionally, honoring what we've lost, and learning to carry grief as part of our ongoing story.
• Technology like the Help Hub bridges digital access to resources with real human connection, recognizing that while platforms open doors, people walking through them together is what creates healing.

Quotable Moments

• "Learning that didn't actually shift the story. It really just blew up and reshaped my entire life."
• "You would never judge or stigmatize someone who was killed in a car crash or who died of heart failure. But we do that with people who suffer from mental illness."
• "The most important thing that you can do is just to show up, just to show up and to stay with that person. We don't have to find the perfect words."
• "Hope doesn't have to be big and loud. It can be just getting through the next 10 minutes or the next day. And sometimes it's just one person listening without judging."
• "The real strength is actually in showing your vulnerability and being open and honest."
• "Grief is not something that you move through on a timeline. It's not linear the way maybe we think it is, or maybe we wish it could be. It's just something that we learn to carry."
• "Surviving means using everything that I personally have been through to help somebody else feel less alone and that they can find hope and that they can move forward."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes author Tracy C. Gold to discuss her picture books "Call Your Mother" and "Call Your Father." Tracy shares insights from writing these books, which celebrate the importance of staying connected with parents across generations. The conversation explores how to avoid stereotypes about parental roles, emphasizing that fathers are equally capable of nurturing, comforting, and caring for children. Christopher and Tracy discuss the reality of modern parenting, including how different children have different communication styles—some call frequently, others prefer texting or memes—and how grandparents play vital roles in family support systems. The episode highlights the privilege of maintaining parent-child connections throughout life and the bittersweet reality of watching children grow and leave home.

Episode Highlights

00:00:45: Introduction of Tracy C. Gold, author of children's books including "Call Your Father" and "Call Your Mother," which inspire connections between families and nature.

00:03:15: Tracy explains the origin of "Call Your Mother" from a family joke where her grandfather would tell her father to call his mother, sparking the book series idea.

00:05:30: Discussion of intentionally avoiding stereotypes in the books—showing fathers performing all childcare duties including newborn care, potty training, and emotional support.

00:08:45: Christopher shares his personal experience with nine children, noting that communication styles vary greatly—some call daily, others text memes or never contact him.

00:12:00: Tracy emphasizes that the books celebrate fathers comforting children through failure, handling bathroom emergencies, and addressing bullying—roles traditionally attributed to mothers.

00:14:30: Discussion of intentionally not showing a partner in the books to avoid depicting one parent as idle and to represent diverse family structures (single parents, military families, same-sex couples).

00:17:45: Tracy reveals her favorite humorous moments are the "potty pages" that get big laughs from children during readings.

00:19:30: Christopher reflects on the 36-year parenting journey with his wife Michelle, emphasizing equal partnership in all household and childcare responsibilities.

Key Takeaways

• Fathers are equally capable of all aspects of childcare and emotional support—challenge stereotypes by expecting and allowing dads to nurture, comfort, and guide children through life's challenges.
• Connection with parents takes many forms; not all children call frequently, but texting, memes, and group chats are equally valid ways to maintain relationships and stay connected.
• Parental partnership requires intentional effort and shared responsibility across all tasks—cooking, cleaning, diaper changing, and emotional support should not fall disproportionately on one parent.
• Grandparents are valuable family assets who can provide essential childcare support and intergenerational connection when parents allow their involvement.
• Representation in children's literature matters; books should reflect diverse family structures and show parents of all types succeeding in their roles.

Quotable Moments

"I really wanted to show that dads can do everything that moms can do, except for some biological things, perhaps, and that we should support them to do that."

"Change the diaper. Yeah. Do the vacuuming. I don't know if a woman can find anything more sexy than a man vacuuming the floor."

"You've succeeded as a parent when they're able to" [leave home].

"I have succeeded if you put down these books and you call your mom, your dad, or anybody who's served that role for you in your life."

"One step at a time, calling your parents. Every day you can make the world a happier place."

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Central Park: Adventures Through the Seasons

Join host Christopher Robbins as he explores the magic of Central Park with librarian and author Christina Ergenay in this delightful episode about urban green spaces and seasonal adventures.

Through discussion of Ergenay's beautifully illustrated children's book "Central Park: Adventures Through the Seasons," listeners will discover why urban parks are essential sanctuaries in bustling cities, how they combat anxiety and stress, and what families can gain from exploring nature together. This episode celebrates the importance of shared reading experiences, outdoor exploration, and the transformative power of green spaces in creating happier, healthier families.

Key Takeaways

• Urban parks like Central Park serve as crucial reset spaces that lower blood pressure, boost mood, and provide relief from the stress and overstimulation of city life.
• Reading aloud together as a family - especially rhyming picture books - strengthens language development and creates meaningful bonding time while exploring nature through imagination.
• Cities that invest in maintaining green spaces contribute directly to the health and well-being of residents and visitors by providing accessible nature experiences regardless of age.
• Limiting screen time and encouraging park exploration can help address anxiety and stress challenges, particularly in young people struggling with the pressures of modern life.
• Central Park offers diverse experiences for all ages and interests, from frisbee in Sheep Meadow to birdwatching in the Ramble, making it a destination for every family member.

Quotable Moments

• "Urban parks really have that effect. And I think it's nice, especially to draw attention to Central Park, which is really such a favorite of mine."
• "Connecting with nature can really boost our mood and just by going for a walk, just by kind of quieting the sounds."
• "I really hope that families want to explore this park. It's just this amazing park."
• "I love the way he creates motion from illustrations. So whether it's a soft snow flurry or the flapping of butterfly wings, he really does such a beautiful job of capturing that kind of dynamic motion."

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A Walk in the Forest with Cathy Goldberg Fishman

Host Christopher Robbins welcomes children's book author Cathy Goldberg Fishman to discuss her new book, A Walk in the Forest, which celebrates trees from around the world and their cultural significance. Fishman, a former teacher and bookstore owner, shares her thoughtful selection of representative trees for ten countries—including the sequoia for the United States, the banyan tree for India, the olive tree for Israel, the ginkgo for China, and the beech tree for the United Kingdom. Each tree was chosen to highlight both ecological importance and cultural meaning, while the book also teaches children to count from one to ten through beautiful illustrations by Melanie Hall. The conversation emphasizes that tree celebrations exist
worldwide, demonstrating our shared global commitment to preserving forests and recognizing their vital role as planetary lungs and sources of cultural identity.

Episode Highlights
00:02:15: Introduction of Cathy Goldberg Fishman and her background as a children's book author, former teacher, and owner of Eeyore's Tale bookstore.

00:04:30: Fishman explains her choice of the sequoia for the United States, influenced by her son's work on environmental issues at the Bipartisan Policy Center.

00:06:45: Discussion of the banyan tree for India, which uniquely grows roots down from branches to form new trunks, creating an upside-down appearance.

00:09:20: Exploration of the olive tree's significance for Israel, its role in Hanukkah traditions, and its symbolism of peace.

00:12:50: Detailed discussion of the ginkgo tree from China, called the "living fossil," with fan-shaped leaves that turn gold in fall.

00:15:30: Fishman's selection of the rubber tree for Brazil and its connection to rainforest preservation and the planet's ecological health.

00:18:45: Favorite illustration featuring the beech tree from the United Kingdom with children at a picnic, symbolizing friendship and inclusion.

00:21:00: Revelation that every country featured has its own tree celebration day, demonstrating universal recognition of trees' importance across cultures.

Key Takeaways

• Trees serve as powerful cultural symbols and are celebrated worldwide through designated tree celebration days, showing shared global values across diverse nations.
• Children's literature can simultaneously educate on multiple levels—teaching about environmental conservation, cultural diversity, counting skills, and the importance of friendship and inclusion.
• Preserving forests, particularly rainforests like those in Brazil, is critical because they function as the planet's lungs and support biodiversity and human survival.
• Individual trees possess unique characteristics worth celebrating: the sequoia's size, the ginkgo's ancient lineage, the banyan's architectural uniqueness, and the beech's sheltering capacity.
• One person's awareness and action—whether planting a tree on Arbor Day or choosing to feature endangered species in literature—can inspire global consciousness about environmental stewardship.

Quotable Moments

• "I chose the sequoia. I was going to go with another one, but then I talked with my son, who is very involved in environmental issues through the Bipartisan Policy Center in Washington, D.C. And he said, Mom, we just talked about the sequoia and how endangered it is."
• "The ginkgo tree is sometimes called the living fossil, and it's one of the oldest tree species in the whole world."
• "Every country I've chosen has their own tree celebration, whether it's in July or January or October or November, the countries have tree celebrations. And the reason I think this is important is because it shows us that we all have things in common, that all over the world, trees are important and all over the world, they should be celebrated."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews New York Times bestselling author Richard Eyre about his latest book, "The Grandparenting Blueprint." Richard, a father of nine with 34 grandchildren, shares his insights on modern grandparenting and the importance of teaching life lessons to grandchildren.

The conversation explores the "12 secrets" Richard has developed to pass on to his grandchildren at different ages, covering topics like joy, choices, popularity, money management, and decision-making. Richard emphasizes the critical balance grandparents must strike between being involved and supportive while respecting that parents are ultimately in charge, advocating for proactive grandparenting that can profoundly impact future generations.

Episode Highlights
00:00:15: Christopher welcomes listeners to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and
introduces himself as co-founder of Famis, husband, father of nine, author, fly fisherman, and backpacker based in California's central valley.
00:00:15: Richard Eyre is introduced as a New York Times number one bestselling author with more than 50 books in print who speaks to audiences in over 60 countries and now focuses on grandparenting and three-generation family management.
00:01:16: Christopher explains that the podcast aligns with the Famis 10 Habits of Happy Families and directs listeners to the Habit Hub blog and YouTube channel for more resources.
00:01:16: Richard welcomes the opportunity to discuss grandparenting with a fellow father of nine, noting the difference in their grandchildren count—Christopher has two while Richard has 34.
00:02:20: Christopher asks Richard why "The Grandparenting Blueprint" is so important to him and what motivated him to share his experiences.
00:02:58: Richard explains that writers do their best work when writing about current experiences in their lives, and grandparenting is now his daily reality with abundant material.
00:02:58: Richard describes how grandparenting is becoming a science similar to how parenting evolved, with people actively seeking knowledge on how to be effective grandparents.
00:04:00: Richard notes that grandparenting used to be something that just happened to people, but now it's becoming intentional as people realize they may be grandparents for 40 years.
00:04:50: Christopher begins to discuss the 12 secrets organized by age groups (8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 18) that Richard shares in his book.
00:05:18: Richard explains the book has two parts—the first covers the basics of grandparenting using the TEAM approach acronym, while the second part presents the secrets.
00:06:13: Richard details the TEAM approach: Trunk (connecting family branches), Ear (listening to grandkids), Assembler (gathering family together), and Match (matching funds rather than just giving money).
00:07:07: Richard shares how calling principles "secrets" captured his grandchildren's attention far better than presenting them as lectures or lessons.
00:07:54: Richard reveals that the grandchildren contributed to the book by sharing their reactions and perspectives on each secret at a family reunion.

00:08:49: Christopher lists all 12 secrets: joy, leadership, choices, popularity, the single tree, magic words, faith, transforming, money and work, the ring of truth, weekly planning, and advanced decision making.
00:09:03: Christopher focuses on the secret about choices, relating it to his own teaching that people are free to choose but not free from consequences.
00:09:37: Richard explains there are two types of choices—those that can be made in advance (like decisions about drugs, smoking, drinking) and those that cannot (like who to marry or what career to pursue).
00:10:31: Richard describes how he has grandchildren make lists of decisions they can make in advance before facing crisis moments.
00:11:24: Richard explains the process for big decisions that can't be made in advance, involving thinking, analyzing, meditating, seeking advice, and pondering for confirmation before finalizing.
00:12:11: Richard shares that he had to get permission from his grandchildren at a family reunion to share the secrets in a book.
00:12:32: Christopher jokes about the Eyre family wanting a competitive advantage, and Richard responds that the grandkids agreed but wanted part of the royalties.
00:12:45: Christopher highlights the popularity secret for 10-12 year olds: good popularity comes frombeing nice to everyone and lasts, while bad popularity comes from only being nice to certain people and doesn't last.

00:14:03: Richard explains why ages 10-12 are critical for this message, as it's when girls become clique- ish and boys face bullying issues in middle school.

00:14:03: Richard shares how grandchildren have memorized the secrets and how he has used small bribes to encourage memorization.
00:15:06: Christopher moves to the money and work secret for age 16, which teaches that work is a blessing and money is a means, not an end.
00:15:54: Richard emphasizes the importance of teaching that there's no free lunch and the need to work for what you get.
00:16:45: Richard stresses the importance of not overstepping boundaries with adult children by criticizing their parenting approaches to money and work.
00:17:44: Richard describes the grandparents' bank concept where grandchildren can deposit money and earn generous interest to learn about saving.
00:17:44: Richard explains the 10-20-70 principle: give away 10%, save 20%, and use 70% for living expenses.
00:18:43: Richard shares that with parental permission, he takes 16-year-old grandchildren to open Schwab accounts to begin real investing.
00:19:11: Christopher emphasizes that you don't need to be wealthy to be a decent investor, sharing his own experience of starting with $25 per paycheck in a 401k.
00:20:13: Richard explains how he opens custodial Roth IRA accounts for grandchildren at 16 and
matches whatever they contribute to encourage saving.
00:20:33: Christopher asks how to navigate the reality that grandchildren have parents who may have different values and viewpoints.
00:21:36: Richard advises taking parents to dinner monthly or quarterly to ask how grandparents can help while acknowledging parents are in charge.
00:21:36: Richard describes the five facet review process: asking parents about grandchildren's physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual development.
00:22:46: Richard emphasizes that establishing a supportive rather than takeover relationship deepens connections with adult children and increases time with grandchildren.
00:23:27: Christopher shares a powerful story about his grandfather taking him to Hawaii for two weeks when he was 12 and his grandfather was 92.

00:24:10: Christopher describes how his grandfather asked him about what type of person he wanted to marry, which profoundly influenced his dating and marriage choices.
00:25:08: Richard amplifies Christopher's point about the social distance between grandparents and grandchildren allowing for instant trust and better listening.
00:25:08: Richard encourages grandparents to be proactive rather than retiring from family involvement, as it makes a real difference in grandchildren's lives.
00:25:19: Christopher asks where listeners can find Richard online, and Richard directs them to
valuesparenting.com.
00:25:37: Christopher concludes by thanking Richard and providing publication details for "The
Grandparenting Blueprint," available March 2026 from Familius.

Key Takeaways

• Grandparenting is evolving from something that just happens to an intentional practice requiring knowledge and skills, especially as people may be grandparents for 40 years or more.
• The TEAM approach provides a framework for effective grandparenting: be the Trunk connecting family, the Ear listening attentively, the Assembler gathering everyone together, and Match funds rather than simply giving money.
• Teaching life principles as "secrets" rather than lectures captures children's attention and makes them more receptive to learning important values.
• There are two types of choices: those that can be decided in advance (like avoiding drugs or drinking) and major life decisions (like marriage or career) that require careful thought, analysis, and confirmation.
• Good popularity comes from being nice to everyone and lasts, while bad popularity from being selective doesn't last—a critical lesson for 10-12 year olds facing cliques and bullying.
• Teaching financial literacy early through concepts like a grandparents' bank, the 10-20-70 principle, and custodial investment accounts prepares grandchildren for financial independence.
• Grandparents must respect that parents are in charge by regularly consulting with them, asking how to help, and never overstepping boundaries or criticizing parenting choices.
  The social distance between grandparents and grandchildren allows for unique trust and listening opportunities that parents may not have due to daily responsibilities.
• One-on-one time between grandparents and grandchildren creates lasting memories and profound influences that children remember throughout their lives.
• Proactive grandparenting involvement rather than retirement from family life makes a significant difference in grandchildren's development and future success.

Quotable Moments

• "I think all writers, certainly in my case it's true, do their best work when they're writing about something, that they're actually doing something that's current in their own lives."
• "Grandparenting is sort of where parenting was maybe 50 years ago. I mean, it, it's, it's just becoming a thing...they've realized that they may be grandparents for 40 years."
• "The minute I put the word secrets on it, hey, I gotta take, I got a couple of secrets for you. At least I had their attention."
• "You are free to choose whatever you want, but once you choose, you are no longer free of the consequences, which follow and consequences are both good and bad"
• "If you make a decision and then you ponder it, you think about it for a while and you, if you're a praying person, you ask God to confirm that decision."
• "Good popularity comes from being nice to everyone and it lasts. Bad popularity comes from only being nice to certain people and it doesn't"
• "Kids, even young ones, they are smarter than we think they are."
• "Work is a blessing and the money it earns is a means and not an end"
• "If you go in thinking you are in charge, you're gonna, you're gonna fail and you're gonna drive a wedgevbetween you and your children."
• "Once a month or even once a quarter, go to dinner with the parents of that grandchild."
• "There is a social distance between a grandparent and a grandchild that allows for a more instant kind of trust and listening and awareness."
• "Be a proactive grandparent. Don't, don't sit in the corner and watch, don't retire."

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In this episode, we sit down with Andrew Dutton, a middle school digital media teacher, photographer, and sneaker enthusiast with over 400,000 Instagram followers. Andrew shares his journey from childhood basketball player captivated by athletic footwear to becoming a recognized sneaker photographer and collector. He discusses how he integrates his passion for sneakers into his teaching, using them as conversation starters and creative assignments for his students. The conversation explores the intersection of art, fashion, and function in sneaker culture, as well as Andrew's process for balancing his professional life, family responsibilities, and creative pursuits.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest Andrew Dutton, a photographer and middle school digital media teacher who has built a following of over 400,000 on Instagram through sneaker photography.
00:01:49: Andrew thanks Christopher for having him on the podcast.
00:01:52: Christopher discusses his own limited knowledge of sneakers, mentioning Chuck Taylor
Converse sneakers from his youth and a recent experience unknowingly purchasing Hokas.
00:02:15: Andrew responds that original Chuck Taylor sneakers would probably be worth something nice today.
00:02:23: Christopher shares his story about buying Hoka sneakers without realizing their brand
significance until a fashion-conscious friend pointed it out.
00:03:01: Andrew explains how his love of sneakers began with childhood basketball, watching NBA players on ESPN, and receiving Eastbay catalogs in the mail where his parents would order shoes.
00:03:50: Andrew describes keeping those Eastbay magazines and dreaming about Air Jordan shoes that were too expensive for his family, and how wearing cool basketball shoes after the season made him feel important.
00:04:37: Andrew discusses how the feeling of wearing special shoes has stayed with him into adulthood, now viewing sneakers as wearable art created through collaborative design processes.
00:05:43: Christopher asks when Andrew transitioned from viewing sneakers as products to seeing them as art.
00:05:55: Andrew explains that after college and entering teaching, he began questioning his desire for footwear more deeply and appreciating the artistic process, including hand-sketched designs of early Michael Jordan shoes.
00:07:08: Christopher asks about Andrew wearing different shoes every day as a middle school teacher and how it has become a focal point in his classroom.
00:07:22: Andrew confirms he wears his extensive sneaker collection to class as part of being authentic to himself, using shoes as conversation starters to build relationships and trust with students.
00:08:09: Christopher inquires whether Andrew uses shoes to teach specific principles.
00:08:16: Andrew describes a signature assignment where students design their own dream shoe after mastering Adobe Illustrator and Photoshop, encouraging them to tell personal stories through footwear design.
00:09:32: Christopher praises Andrew for inspiring creative thinking in the next generation and asks about his Instagram account with over 400,000 followers

00:09:55: Andrew explains that his Instagram journey began during the pandemic when he couldn't spend time with friends who shared his interest in sneakers, combining his existing photography passion with his love of footwear.
00:10:40: Andrew details how boredom during COVID led him to experiment with photographing shoes using his camera rather than just taking phone snapshots, combining two passions into a never-ending creative process.
00:11:30: Christopher poses a financial question about how Andrew budgets for purchasing so many shoes on a teacher's salary.
00:11:37: Andrew explains his approach of buying and selling shoes over years of patient collecting, advising that no sneaker is worth going into debt for and describing a carousel system of funding new purchases through sales.
00:12:20: Christopher asks how Andrew balances teaching, parenting two young children, and his sneaker passion.
00:12:31: Andrew describes his routine of working during the day, spending time with family after school, and then unwinding in his basement studio taking pictures after the kids are in bed.
00:13:10: Christopher asks for Andrew's advice to people wanting to lean into their creative passions.
00:13:38: Andrew advises not being afraid of failure, explaining that learning is a process of figuring out what works and doesn't work, and encouraging people to enjoy the creative process rather than expecting immediate mastery.
00:14:31: Christopher asks about Andrew's favorite pair of sneakers
00:14:38: Andrew explains that his favorite changes constantly with new releases, but the Air Jordan 2 model holds special significance as the first signature Jordan shoe he could afford as a junior or senior in high school.
00:15:32: Christopher asks where listeners can find Andrew online
00:15:52: Andrew directs people to his Instagram account at Ad double Sneaks and mentions having a YouTube channel though he's not active there.
00:16:07: Christopher concludes the podcast by thanking Famis for support, encouraging listeners to subscribe and leave reviews, and promoting Andrew's book "The Art of the Sneaker: Form and Function through the Lens of a Collector"

Key Takeaways

• Passion can evolve from childhood interests into meaningful adult pursuits that combine multiple skills and interests, as Andrew's love of basketball footwear developed into professional photography and teaching.
• Authenticity in professional settings, such as bringing personal interests into the classroom, can be a powerful tool for building relationships and engaging students in creative learning
  Creative hobbies can be financially sustainable through strategic buying and selling, rather than requiring unlimited resources or going into debt.
• The key to pursuing creative passions is overcoming fear of failure and embracing the learning process, understanding that mastery takes time and experimentation.
• Sneakers represent more than functional footwear—they embody design artistry, cultural significance, personal expression, and storytelling through material choices, colors, and collaborative creative processes.
• Work-life balance is achievable by intentionally scheduling creative time as a form of personal
  rejuvenation, rather than viewing hobbies as competing with family responsibilities.

Quotable Moments

• "I don't wanna separate who I am from what I'm teaching, so like, I'm gonna be myself, whether, you know, I'm talking to you on a podcast or whether I run into you in the grocery store or whether I'm teaching kids in the classroom, I'm, I wanna be myself all the time."
• "No sneakers worth going into debt for, so please don't do that."
• "My unwind time and my mind freeing activity is just taking pictures."
• "Don't be afraid of failing, because I feel like that's the biggest hurdle that people have to get over is if you start something and you do what you're creatively pursuing and you think that it's not good quality or it doesn't meet whatever standard that you have in your mind, you're just starting. It's okay."
• "Learning's not an easy process. It's a process of figuring out what works and what doesn't work. And if you can learn to enjoy that process, then your creativity will just continue to blossom because you're having fun figuring things out."

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In this episode, Christopher Robbins speaks with Lee Wind, Chief Content Officer for the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA), about the vital role independent publishing plays in bringing diverse voices and stories to readers. They discuss IBPA's history and mission, the advantages of mission-driven publishing over purely profit-driven models, and how independent publishers create communities around their content. The conversation also addresses the concerning trend of book banning and censorship, and IBPA's innovative "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program that buys and donates two books for everyone book challenged. Lee provides valuable advice for aspiring authors and publishers, emphasizing the importance of professional development and community collaboration in the independent publishing world.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and himself as co-founder of Familius, husband, father of nine, author, and various outdoor enthusiast based in California's Central Valley.
00:00:59: Introduction of guest Lee Wind as Chief Content Officer for the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA), the largest trade association for publishers in the United States.
00:01:13: Lee's personal mission described as writing books that would have changed his life as a gay Jewish kid and teen, including his award-winning non-fiction books "No Way They Were Gay" and "The Gender Binary Is a Big Lie."
00:01:35: Discussion of the "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program that buys and donates two books to offset every one book challenged, run by IBPA with the American Library Institute and over 75 industry partners.
00:01:59: Lee expresses enthusiasm about joining the podcast to discuss book publishing.
00:02:12: Christopher shares his history with IBPA, having served on the board and participated in strategy that helped the organization grow.
00:02:34: Lee explains IBPA's origins in 1983 when about a dozen Southern California publishers pooled resources to send one representative to a major New York trade show.
00:03:27: Discussion of how IBPA has evolved while maintaining its core mission of advocacy, education, and tools for success to level the playing field for independent publishers.
00:04:15: Lee emphasizes the importance of independent publishing to prevent four or five corporations from deciding what everyone reads, highlighting the diverse and mission-driven approaches of independent publishers.
00:05:21: Christopher encourages the audience to explore independent books, music, and film as sources of exceptional content.
00:05:35: Christopher shares a personal memory of Jan Nathan, IBPA's founder, inviting him to dinner in 1990 and being welcoming and encouraging to him as a young industry newcomer.
00:06:20: Lee discusses how mission-driven independent publishers differ from corporate publishers focused solely on financial bottom lines, using examples like Patagonia and Just Us Books.
00:06:53: Christopher compares this to Familius's philosophy that revenue is simply fuel for the mission.

00:07:26: Lee explains how independent publishers understand the power of community and niche markets better than corporate publishers, with four out of five books in bookstores from corporate publishers but that fifth book representing hundreds of different independent voices.
00:08:38: Discussion of the advantages of direct-to-consumer sales for publishers vs. sales through major retailers like Amazon, where publishers don't own the customer relationship.
00:09:31: Lee cites Brandon Sanderson's successful Kickstarter campaign as an example of authors leveraging their platform and community.
00:09:45: Christopher mentions that Brandon Sanderson teaches at his alma mater BYU and that his niece has been one of Sanderson's test readers.
00:09:56: Lee shares that some of Brandon Sanderson's BYU lectures on topics like world building are available on YouTube.
00:10:15: Christopher discusses how Famis provides value to nearly 50,000 engaged subscribers through biweekly free content about helping families be happy.
00:10:45: Christopher acknowledges the highly competitive nature of the book industry, particularly regarding physical shelf space where getting one book on a shelf means removing another.
00:11:14: Lee shares IBPA's motto "helping each other achieve and succeed" and explains that bookstore sales are actually a small portion of most publishers' revenue.

00:12:09: Discussion of how quality books naturally generate word-of-mouth marketing and how AI- generated content makes quality even more important.

00:12:48: Christopher introduces the topic of book banning and censorship through Famis's book "Down with Lime Books," expressing his discouragement with how some have weaponized religion to deny people their own voice.
00:13:59: Lee agrees that while parents should have input into what their own children read, they shouldn't control what other people's children read.
00:14:53: Lee explains that book banning creates a chilling effect that makes schools and libraries afraid to bring in diverse books, resulting in sales drops of up to 50% for some independent publishers focused on marginalized voices.
00:15:55: Lee provides the example of "Everywhere Babies" illustrated by Marla Frazee, which depicts diverse families including same-sex parents and has been called pornography despite being innocent family scenes.
00:17:02: Christopher simply states "love your neighbor" as his religious perspective on book banning.
00:17:08: Lee describes meeting with Dr. Tessel Magnusson and creating the offensive strategy of buying and donating two books to offset every one book challenge.
00:18:10: Christopher shares that he always recommends aspiring authors get involved with IBPA to help them succeed.
00:18:35: Lee explains that IBPA helps people become professional publishers, with membership
including about 1,200 authors who publish their own work and 2,000 independent companies of various sizes.

00:19:35: Lee directs people to his personal website at LeeWind.org and IBPA's website at ibpa-online.org.

00:20:04: Christopher concludes by thanking Familius for supporting the podcast and encouraging listeners to subscribe, leave reviews, and choose independent books for their next reading adventure.

Key Takeaways

• Independent publishing is essential for maintaining diversity in what people read, preventing a handful of corporations from controlling all published content.
• Mission-driven publishing creates different outcomes than purely profit-driven publishing, allowing publishers to maintain control over their values and production methods.
• Building a community around your content and selling directly to consumers creates stronger relationships and more sustainable success than relying solely on major retailers.
• Book banning is not about the content of specific books but rather an attempt to create a chilling effect that erases diverse identities and perspectives from libraries and schools.
• Quality content will ultimately win out even in an age of AI-generated material, as authentic books generate word-of-mouth recommendations that drive long-term success.
• The "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program demonstrates how the publishing community can go on offense against book banning by buying and donating two books for every 1 book challenged.
• Aspiring authors and publishers should join professional organizations like IBPA for business guidance while also developing their craft through specialized groups like the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators.
• Independent publishers understand niche markets better than corporate publishers, creating content that serves specific communities rather than trying to appeal to the broadest possible audience.

Quotable Moments

• "The idea of only four or five corporations deciding what everyone reads is a really terrible idea."
• "If the bottom line is financial, it's a very different outcome than if the bottom line is a mission, a vision for our to make our world a better place through books."
• "The revenue that we generate is simply fuel for the mission."
• "The magic of it is that if you have a community, if you have a niche and or niche and you're publishing books that are what those people really want, then that's sort of the recipe for success."
• "We have a motto at IBPA, it's helping each other achieve and succeed."
• "In this age of AI slop that we are on the cusp of, it's nice to know that quality will win out."
• "The idea that I should be able to control what your kids read is really wrong."
• "They're attacking books because books help people have empathy and I think that empathy is in short supply these days."
• "Love your neighbor."
• "We don't have to just sit back and let this ridiculousness continue. We can fight back"

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In this episode, host Christopher Robbins welcomes Kelly Conroy, a picture book writer and poet who is the cousin of Jan and Stan Berenstain, creators of the Berenstain Bears. Kelly discusses her new children's board book "I See You in the Stars," which explores the twelve signs of the zodiac in a fun, educational way for families.

The conversation delves into how Kelly was inspired to create a rhyming guide to help people memorize the zodiac signs, similar to learning the 50 states alphabetically. Kelly shares fascinating astronomical facts about how the zodiac constellations work, including the surprising detail that you cannot see your own birth constellation during your zodiac period because the sun blocks it from Earth's view.

The episode emphasizes learning together as a family and finding positive attributes in each zodiac sign to build self-esteem and connection to the universe.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest, Kelly Conroy, a picture book writer who is 50% silly fun-loving kid and 50% analytical former actuary, and cousin to the creators of the Berenstain Bears.

00:01:39: Kelly thanks Christopher for having her on the podcast.

00:01:40: Christopher asks Kelly about the inspiration behind her children's book "I See You in the Stars," which explores the signs of the zodiac.

00:01:53: Kelly explains she's always been fascinated by stars, astronomy, and astrology from a place of curiosity rather than expertise, and was inspired by a song that helps people memorize all 50 states alphabetically to create a similar rhyming system for the zodiac signs.

00:02:33: Christopher shares that he used to know all 50 states but couldn't name all 12 zodiac symbols anymore, though he knows he's a Sagittarius and has noticed common traits among people with that sign.

00:02:56: Kelly humorously notes that Sagittarius was the hardest sign to find positive aspects for, describing them as strong-willed and focused on doing what they want, which are great qualities but not always easy for others, relating it to her oldest son who is also a Sagittarius.

00:03:18: Christopher agrees that every Sagittarius he's met is very strong-willed and finds ways to do what they want, though these traits can be tempered.

00:03:32: Kelly adds that Sagittarians are also honest and funny, which is what she focused on in the book.

00:03:37: Christopher asks Kelly to explain how she added descriptions and characteristics to make the zodiac rhyme work in her book.

00:03:53: Kelly describes her process of starting with just the signs, then adding details like describing Scorpio as having a "forceful tale," and eventually expanding to include symbols, positive characteristics, and seasons as readers wanted to know more about their signs.

00:04:35: Christopher asks Kelly to help explain where the zodiac sign symbols come from and what they represent.

00:04:49: Kelly explains that the zodiac starts with Aries on the first day of spring, and the way zodiac signs work is that the constellation is opposite the sun from Earth's standpoint, meaning it's the one you can't see during that period.

00:05:48: Christopher realizes and confirms with Kelly that during his birth month in November, he cannot see the Sagittarius constellation because the sun blocks it.

00:06:21: Kelly clarifies that while you can't see your constellation during your sign period, astrologers say "the sun is in Sagittarius" during that time.

00:06:34: Christopher finds this information really interesting and realizes most people probably didn't know this fact, which also explains the relationship between zodiac signs and seasons.

00:06:47: Kelly confirms that Sagittarius is a fall sign, with winter starting in December.

00:06:48: Christopher asks Kelly about the most interesting things she learned during her research about the zodiac or people's interest in their signs.

00:07:07: Kelly shares that more people were excited to learn about their signs than she expected, and if she left out details of any sign, someone with that sign would ask about it, noting that the book applies to everybody rather than having separate books for each sign.

00:07:53: Christopher asks for confirmation that Kelly said Sagittarians have a personality trait of being funny.

00:07:57: Kelly confirms that Sagittarians are honest and funny.

00:08:00: Christopher jokes that he knows a few Sagittarians who aren't funny at all but acknowledges he is funny so it works for him.

00:08:13: Kelly clarifies that astrology isn't a science like chemistry.

00:08:14: Christopher asks Kelly what sign she is.

00:08:16: Kelly reveals she's a Gemini, the twins, and explains they can have high and low emotions, describing herself as usually either hyper or asleep.

00:08:29: Christopher asks if Kelly has enough information to quickly go through each sign and give the key attribute for each.

00:08:39: Kelly goes through all twelve zodiac signs with their key attributes: Aries are purposeful, Taurus are loyal friends, Gemini are social and playful, Cancer are kind and caring, Leo are good at sharing and leading, Virgo are organized, Libra are balanced, Scorpio are forceful and strong-willed, Sagittarius are honest and funny, Capricorn are focused, Aquarius are studious, and Pisces are sympathetic.

00:09:55: Christopher asks Kelly which sign she would choose to be if she could pick any other than Gemini.

00:10:00: Kelly says she would choose Virgo because the Virgos she knows get stuff done and it would be nice to check more things off her to-do list.

00:10:11: Christopher notes that we can learn from everyone around us and adopt their good attributes while working to improve ourselves.

00:10:33: Kelly shares that her goal aligns with Familius's mission—she wants to make people smile and hopes the book gives people self-esteem and confidence, helping them see they're part of the universe and appreciate the good parts of themselves, their family, and friends.

00:11:05: Christopher notes this aligns with their mission to help families be happy no matter what kind of family they have, then asks where guests can find Kelly online.

00:11:14: Kelly shares that her website is kellyconroy.com and she's most active on Instagram @kellyconroybooks.

00:11:31: Christopher encourages everyone to pick up "I See You in the Stars" published by Familius releasing December 2025, thanks Familius for supporting the podcast, and asks listeners to subscribe and leave reviews, concluding that one zodiac sign at a time, we can make the world a happier place.

Key Takeaways

• Zodiac constellations are positioned opposite the sun from Earth's perspective during their respective periods, meaning you cannot actually see your own birth constellation during your zodiac sign's time frame.
• The zodiac calendar begins with Aries on the first day of spring and progresses through the seasons, with each sign aligned to specific times of the year.
• While astrology isn't a hard science, exploring zodiac signs can be a fun way for families to learn together, build self-esteem, and appreciate positive personality traits in themselves and others.
• Creating educational content for children works best when it's accessible to everyone rather than segmented, and adding rhyme and rhythm helps with memorization and engagement.
• Teaching children about astronomy and their connection to the universe can help them develop confidence and a sense of belonging to something larger than themselves.

Quotable Moments
-"My goal in life is to make people smile."

-"When I realized that Sagittarius and Aquarius rhyme, I knew I was gonna be able to pull it off."

-"The constellation is opposite the sun from the standpoint of the earth at that time. So it's the one you can't see."

-"More people were excited to learn about their signs than I thought they were."

-"The whole universe is one universe, we're part of the universe. It's all the same matter, and it's just amazing and wonderful."

-"One zodiac sign at a time. We can make the world a happier place."

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In this episode, Christopher Robbins interviews Richard Hill, the first adoptee to identify his birth family through genetic genealogy. Hill is the author of Finding Family: My Search for Roots and the Secrets in My DNA .They discuss DNA testing for ethnic ancestry, exploring why results often surprise people due to the randomness of DNA inheritance and thousands of years of human migration and mixing. Richard explains the differences between major testing companies' databases, recommends 23andMe for ethnicity testing based on his research, and addresses common questions like why Native American ancestry often doesn't show up in tests. The conversation emphasizes that while ethnicity results are interesting, the real value lies in genetic matching for genealogy and finding biological relatives.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Christopher Robbins welcomes listeners to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and introduces himself as co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, and Central Valley California resident.
00:01:12: Richard Hill shares that he has been married for 57 years and lives in Michigan with his wife and two cats.
00:01:14: The episode focuses on DNA testing, ethnicity, family history, and available resources and strategies for exploring roots and branches, aligning with Familius habits of Learn Together and Love Together.
00:01:45: Richard thanks Christopher for having him on the podcast to discuss DNA testing.
00:01:47: Christopher asks Richard to explain what DNA testing for ethnic ancestry is.
00:01:51: Richard explains that over 53 million DNA tests have been done by companies like Ancestry, 23andMe, Family Tree DNA, and MyHeritage, with about half at Ancestry which has the biggest database.
00:03:31: Christopher asks how people get tested and why many are surprised by their results.
00:03:39: Richard describes the testing process involving ordering a kit online, either spitting saliva into a tube or rubbing cheek swabs, then sending it back for results in a few weeks.
00:04:33: Richard explains the randomness of DNA inheritance, noting that while you get 50% from each parent, which 50% is random, meaning you may not get an even 25% from each grandparent.
00:05:32: Richard discusses how ethnic groups have been mixing for thousands of years, using Vikings as an example of migration patterns that occurred over a thousand years ago throughout Europe.
00:06:20: Christopher summarizes that different company databases and DNA randomness explain why siblings might see different results.
00:06:38: Richard confirms that each child is a different conception with a different random mix, so siblings might get vastly different percentages from the same grandparents.
00:07:09: Christopher asks why Native American ancestry often doesn't show up in DNA tests despite family histories suggesting it.
00:07:21: Richard explains that Native Americans originally migrated from Asia 10-20,000 years ago, but have been mixing with Europeans for 400-500 years, diluting the distinctive DNA signature.
00:08:47: Christopher asks which companies Richard recommends for ethnicity testing given the different databases.
00:09:04: Richard describes his popular presentation comparing DNA ethnicity estimates using his wife as a test subject since she is 50% Croatian through her father's parents.

00:10:14: Christopher asks why this information is important beyond curiosity and what people can do with it.
00:10:32: Richard emphasizes that genetic matching for finding relatives and common ancestors is more important than ethnicity results, though ethnicity can provide clues about which family branch connects you to matches.
00:11:16: Christopher asks where listeners can find Richard online.
00:11:34: Richard shares his website: DNAfavorites.com.
00:11:38: Christopher concludes by thanking Famis for support, encouraging listeners to subscribe and leave reviews, and reminding them that one step at a time they can make the world a happier place.

Key Takeaways

• DNA inheritance is random, meaning siblings can receive vastly different percentages of DNA from the same grandparents, leading to surprising ethnicity results.
• Ethnicity estimates are not as accurate as genetic matching because they're based on reference populations that vary by company and are affected by thousands of years of human migration and mixing.
• Native American ancestry often doesn't appear in DNA tests because most Native American populations have mixed extensively with Europeans over the past 400-500 years, diluting the distinctive genetic signature.
• Different DNA testing companies have different databases and reference populations, which significantly impacts ethnicity results; 23andMe currently provides the most accurate ethnicity estimates based on comparative testing.
• The primary value of DNA testing lies in genetic matching to find relatives and trace family trees rather than in ethnicity estimates, which serve more as interesting supplemental information.
• Over 53 million DNA tests have been conducted, with Ancestry holding the largest database at approximately half of all tests.

Quotable Moments

• "I was the first adoptee to identify his birth family through genetic genealogy, DNA."
• "There's over 53 million tests have been done nowadays, and about half of them at Ancestry, which has the biggest database."
• "You get 50% of your DNA from your mother, but which 50% is random."
• "The ethnic groups have been mixing for thousands of years. A good example is the Vikings."
• "Today's Native Americans pretty much most of 'em all have a mixture of ancestry. They don't have just that pure original Native American ancestry."
• "To me the main information that is the most useful is the genetic matching. Who are you related to?"
• "One step at a time, one genealogical tree at a time, you can make the world a happier place."

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In this inspiring episode, former world surfing champion Shaun Tomson shares his powerful methodology for finding purpose and transforming mindset during challenging times. Tomson discusses the creation of his book,"The Surfer and the Sage," co-written with philosopher Noah benShea during COVID-19, which addresses the widespread feelings of stress, anxiety, depression, and disconnection. He introduces "The Code" - a transformative 12-line exercise where each line begins with "I will" - that has helped millions worldwide shift from negative to positive mindsets. Through compelling storytelling, including the beautiful "Sacred Story
Stone" legend, Tomson demonstrates how personal transformation comes not from inspirational words of others, but from writing and sharing our own words of commitment and purpose.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes Shaun Tomson, former world surfing champion, leadership mentor, entrepreneur, and author of "The Surfer and the Sage."
00:01:09: Tomson explains his work as an ambassador for Boys to Men mentoring and the annual 100 Wave Challenge fundraiser that guides boys through their journey to manhood.
00:01:54: Tomson shares the origin story of "The Surfer and the Sage," describing how he met co-author Noah benShea during COVID and conceived the book concept in just five minutes.
00:02:43: Tomson describes his interactive presentations where he asks audiences to text words describing how they're feeling, creating word clouds that revealed widespread stress, anxiety, depression, and disconnection even among fully employed workers at successful companies.
00:03:39: Discussion of how the book addresses the "sad mind state" and creates 18 chapters (a sacred number in Judaism) designed as journeys from darkness to light, despair to hope, and powerlessness to empowerment.
00:05:25: Tomson expresses gratitude for the book's impact across multiple sectors, from Kellogg
Business School to Harvard Kennedy School to large resort groups in Mexico, demonstrating its universal appeal.
00:06:11: Christopher asks Tomson to share what he tells audiences to help them find greater purpose in turbulent times.
00:06:48: Tomson emphasizes the power of storytelling over facts and data, citing Stanford research showing stories are remembered 27 times more than data, and explains that stories serve as both mirrors and windows for people.
00:07:49: Description of Tomson's presentation structure: telling four key stories about the Code's origin, perseverance and resilience, courage and commitment, and deep emotional connectivity.
00:08:49: Tomson explains the Code writing process where everyone writes 12 lines beginning with "I will" in 12 minutes, then shares their codes with the group.
00:09:38: Discussion of how the Code reveals the two halves of life's meaning and purpose: "I'll be better" and "I'll help others be better," with participants texting lines from their codes that display positive values.
00:10:24: Tomson defines purpose as "a committed intention to realize goals that are meaningful for oneself and for the broader world."

00:11:21: Description of the transformation that occurs during presentations, with mindset shifting from 80-90% negative at the beginning to 99-100% positive by the end.
00:12:52: Discussion of how great leaders' words inspire but personal transformation requires writing one's own words, with reference to JFK's famous quote (originally from Cicero).
00:13:46: Tomson explains that the Code method is "open source" and can be used by anyone, particularly families, to bring people together around shared purpose.
00:14:18: Christopher sets up the context that the episode will air at the beginning of 2026 and asks for a story to help engage listeners in the new year.
00:14:39: Tomson introduces his mission to create a "positive wave tribe" with the simple formula: "Drop a stone, create a ripple, build the wave"
00:15:45: Tomson begins telling the Chumash legend of the Rainbow Bridge, explaining how the
Chumash people lived in Santa Barbara 13,500 years ago before any Western religion developed.
00:16:48: The legend describes how the earth mother planted a magic seed on Santa Cruz Island, and people crossed a rainbow bridge to the mainland, with those who looked down being transformed into dolphins.
00:17:28: Description of Hammonds Reef and Shaa Meadow, dedicated to the Chumash people, with its memorial bearing the inscription "The sacredness of the land lies in the mind of its people."
00:18:20: Tomson shares a personal story of visiting the beach with his son Matthew, where they were the only two people present.
00:19:04: Matthew creates a sacred story circle out of cobblestones with a stick decorated with feathers and kelp, establishing a rule that whoever holds the stick tells the story while the other listens.
00:20:09: Tomson reflects on this as one of the best times he's ever had on a beach, emphasizing the deep emotional connection created and how rare such moments are in modern life dominated by cell phones.
00:21:02: Matthew reveals he kept a "sacred story stone" from the circle, explaining that all their stories are contained within it, demonstrating the concept of "speaking in spirit language."
00:21:53: Discussion of the Hawaiian concept of "mana" (life force) and how ancient Hawaiians believed it could be contained in inanimate objects.
00:23:17: Christopher thanks Tomson for the beautiful story and asks where listeners can find the Code worksheet online.
00:23:37: Tomson directs listeners to shauntomson.com where they can download the Code worksheet for free and use it with families, sports teams, business groups, or educational settings.
00:24:41: Tomson shares a testimonial from a tech company CEO who credited writing his Code seven years earlier with inspiring him to start his company, which had just reached unicorn status (billion-dollar valuation).
00:25:30: Tomson reflects on the journey that began with empowering students facing an environmental problem at Rincon surfing beach, leading to collaboration with Professor Patrick Moser and the publication of Surfer's Code.
00:26:25: Christopher concludes by thanking Familius for supporting the podcast and encouraging
listeners to subscribe, leave reviews, and explore Familius books.

Key Takeaways

• Stories are 27 times more memorable than facts and data, making storytelling essential for creating lasting impact and inspiration.
• The Code method - writing 12 lines beginning with "I will" - provides a simple yet powerful tool for finding and defining personal purpose that can shift mindset from negative to positive
  True purpose encompasses both personal growth ("I'll be better") and service to others ("I'll help others be better"), creating meaning that extends beyond ourselves.
• Personal transformation requires using your own words rather than relying solely on the inspirational words of others - "words of great leaders inspire us, but your own words transform."
• Deep emotional connectivity through practices like creating "sacred story circles" with family members combats the disconnection epidemic created by technology and modern lif.
• Purpose is defined as "a committed intention to realize goals that are meaningful for oneself and for the broader world."
• The simple formula "Drop stone, create a ripple, build the wave" encapsulates how individual actions of purpose can create collective positive change.
• Writing and sharing personal codes with family members creates powerful bonding experiences and helps establish shared values and commitments.

Quotable Moments

• "Facts and data don't move people. And I have found that, that if you tell a story, it brings people close to you. And a story is both a mirror and a story is a window.""Stories are remembered 27 times more than data. So you want to get someone to remember something,
  tell 'em a story."
• "If you want to inspire people, tell them a story. But if you want people to create personal transformation, they have to use their own words."
• "The sacredness of the land lies in the mind of its people."
• "Dad, this is a sacred story circle and we're gonna sit inside the sacred story circle on the rocks and we're gonna tell each other stories. He said, there's just rule. Whoever's got a stick the story and what does the other person do? The other person just listens."
• "We think the cell phone is a tool of connection when often the cell phone's a tool of disconnection and we just need to turn it off."
• "When you spoke to your son, the Hawaiians call it speaking in spirit language."
• "Every line of the code is a story. Every line of the code that people write is a sacred story. Every line begins with I will. That's a promise."
• "Words of great leaders inspire us. You want words of transformation? Write your code, your own words, because your own words transform others inspire your own words."
• "Purpose. A committed intention. That's what purpose is. A committed intention to realize goals that are meaningful for oneself and for the broader world."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with award-winning author Jessica Spear about the critical challenges of social media and AI safety for teens and preteens. They discuss the irrefutable data showing how social media is negatively impacting youth mental health, the emerging concerns around AI companions and chatbots that teens are using for emotional support, and practical strategies parents can implement to protect their children. Jessica emphasizes the importance of ongoing conversations, coming from a place of curiosity rather than judgment, and creating family tech plans together. The discussion highlights that while technology offers benefits, current platforms lack adequate safety guardrails for young users, making parental engagement essential.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Christopher introduces the podcast and welcomes guest, Jessica Spear, an award- winning author specializing in books for preteens and teens about friendships, safety, and technology use.

00:01:47: Jessica thanks Christopher for the introduction and expresses enthusiasm about tackling the important topic of social media and AI safety for young people.

00:01:56: Christopher praises Jessica's book "The Phone Book" and recommends it for every family with children who have smartphones.

00:02:03: Jessica explains that while her book is written for preteens and early teens, it's really for all families and encourages parents to read it alongside their children to facilitate conversations about navigating technology.

00:02:26: Christopher references Jonathan Haidt's book "The Anxious Generation" and notes that global statistics show teens and preteens are suffering due to social media abuse, then asks Jessica what parents need to know to help children stay safe.

00:03:01: Jessica acknowledges the nerve-wracking nature of parenting in the tech age and emphasizes that helping kids navigate technology is one of the biggest parenting challenges today, requiring lots of conversations starting early and happening often.

00:04:18: Christopher notes that social media can be problematic even for adults, interfering with real life.

00:04:26: Jessica discusses how innovation has outpaced child protections in social media, mentions Meta's 2024 teen account safety features, and notes that a 2025 report found these features ineffective, emphasizing that parents must be aware these tools weren't built for kids.

00:05:52: Christopher transitions the discussion to artificial intelligence as another challenge, asking what's happening with AI use among teens and preteens.

00:06:18: Jessica reports that 70% of teens have used AI and 50% use it regularly, primarily for fun, entertainment, schoolwork, and concerning companionship, noting that AI companions validate rather than challenge unhealthy thinking patterns.

00:08:05: Christopher asks Jessica to repeat what research shows children are doing with AI that is concerning.

00:08:20: Jessica explains that while curiosity-based AI use is fairly safe, the problem arises when kids seek emotional support from AI, which is not built for kids and cannot provide safe counseling, mentioning a lawsuit where parents claim their son committed suicide due to bad advice from ChatGPT.

00:09:43: Christopher summarizes that teens are creating artificial companions that appear as people on screen, creating asynchronous relationships that compound the challenges already present with social media.

00:10:22: Jessica discusses potential guardrails, mentioning ChatGPT's announcement to create age-based content filtering, but expresses skepticism based on Meta's failed guardrails, and emphasizes that parents keeping conversations going and testing technologies themselves is the safer approach.

00:11:50: Christopher summarizes that parents and mentors need to be engaged with children, maintain trust relationships, and help guide wise choices given that companies profit from children's attention.

00:12:39: Christopher asserts that no artificial intelligent therapist can replace a loving, caring, wise, experienced parent.

00:12:51: Jessica asks if the.re's anything else to share about AI, social media, and resources for parents, coaches, mentors, and teachers.

00:13:04: Jessica recommends "The Anxious Generation" and "The Phone Book," encourages parents to stay calm and authentic in conversations, and suggests families create tech plans together that outline screen-free times and appropriate technology use.

00:14:34: Christopher lists Jessica's books and asks where guests can find her online.

00:14:54: Jessica provides her website (jessicaspeer.com) and mentions her free e-newsletter, inviting people to reach out with questions.

00:15:11: Christopher concludes the podcast by thanking Famlis for support, encouraging subscriptions and reviews, and sharing the mission of making the world happier one parent-child relationship at a time.

Key Takeaways

• Social media platforms currently lack effective safety guardrails for children and teens, despite recent attempts by companies like Meta to implement protective features.
• 70% of teens have used AI and 50% use it regularly, with concerning trends showing kids seeking emotional-support from AI companions that validate rather than challenge unhealthy thinking.
• Parents should approach technology conversations from a place of curiosity rather than judgment to keep communication channels open with their children.
• Creating a family tech plan together that establishes screen-free times and appropriate usage guidelines is an effective strategy for managing technology in the home.
• Parental engagement, trust-building, and ongoing conversations are essential since technology companies profit from children's attention and innovation has outpaced child safety protections.
• AI chatbots and companions are not safe substitutes for trained counselors or trusted adults when children face emotional challenges.
• Parents should test technologies themselves and have children demonstrate what they're doing online to better understand and guide their digital activities.

Quotable Moments

• "Helping kids navigate tech is the new challenge in parenting. It's really one of the biggest challenges that parents face these days." - Jessica Spear
• "The innovation has flowed much faster than protections for kids, especially when it comes to social media." - Jessica Spear
• "We're still in a world where those tools were not built for kids. They are not very safe." - Jessica Spear
• "AI now really just kind of validates and supports those [unhealthy thoughts]. So that's where there brings some concern when kids are using AI for some emotional support." - Jessica Spear
• "No artificial intelligent therapist can really take the place of a loving, caring, wise, experienced parent." - Christopher Robbins
• "If we're coming from a place of curiosity and wanting to learn, they're less likely to shut down 'cause they're afraid they're gonna get in trouble." - Jessica Spear
• "As much as we can staying open to hearing their side of things and putting together a plan together, I encourage families to come up with a family tech plan." - Jessica Spear

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In this episode, host Christopher Robbins interviews Christopher Mannino about his new book "Making It Up: A Revolutionary Way to Bond with Kids Through Play." Mannino shares how parents, teachers, and caregivers can strengthen their relationships with children through just 10 minutes of daily imaginative play using improv techniques. The conversation explores the two pillars of Mannino's method: improvisation skills for engaging with children and "anchor" techniques from method acting to help adults stay calm and present. Through practical examples and personal stories, Mannino demonstrates how this approach not only deepens bonds with children but also helps adults manage stress and create lasting memories.

Episode Highlights
00:00:00: Host Christopher Robbins welcomes listeners to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and introduces guest Christopher Mannino, author and former theater teacher now living in Malta.
00:01:30: Christopher Mannino thanks the host for having him back on the podcast.
00:02:05: Mannino explains that his book is about strengthening bonds through play, dedicating 10 minutes a day to active imaginative playtime, which builds resilience and emotional regulation for both adults and children.
00:03:52: Mannino provides the tea party scenario as a simple example of improvised imaginative play, explaining how to accept and build on children's ideas using the "yes, and" principle from improv.
00:06:19: Discussion of the two pillars of the method: improv-based techniques and method acting skills that help adults stay calm during stressful moments.
00:08:00: Mannino shares a powerful memory from the first day of pandemic homeschooling when he and his son built an imaginary rocket ship and explored the solar system, creating a song they still sing years later.
00:10:48: Host Christopher Robbins shares a story about his wife teaching violin to their son by dressing up as a different character, transforming the lesson into imaginative play.
00:12:29: Mannino explains the "established pivot" concept, describing how offering a new idea helps children's developing brains get unstuck and transform non-fun activities into enjoyable experiences.
00:14:31: Discussion about setting boundaries with children while maintaining the practice, and introduction to the "anchor" technique for managing parental burnout.
00:16:23: Mannino explains the anchor technique in detail, describing how to use recent positive memories to center yourself and maintain emotional presence with children.
00:18:10: Mannino shares his current anchor memory of seeing polar bears at the Munich zoo with his son, demonstrating how this memory helps him stay present and engaged.
00:19:38: Closing remarks with information about where to find Christopher Mannino online at christophermannino.com

Key Takeaways

• Just 10 minutes of daily imaginative play using improv techniques can significantly strengthen bonds between adults and children while building emotional resilience
• The "yes, and" principle from improv—accepting children's ideas and building on them—transforms ordinary moments into meaningful play experiences.
• The "anchor" technique from method acting helps adults manage stress and stay emotionally present by tapping into positive recent memories
• Pivoting or offering new ideas helps children get unstuck when they resist activities, transforming resistance into engagement.
• Setting boundaries is acceptable—you don't have to play every time a child asks, but dedicating consistent quality time makes a lasting impact.
• Imaginative play creates core memories that children carry with them for years, strengthening long-term relationships.

Quotable Moments

• "If you can dedicate that 10 minutes a day to real active, imaginative playtime, and then you try the method and you try these, these new techniques, they're really easy and they're honestly really fun."
• "It's not just about fun and building, it's also about resilience and emotional regulation for you as the adult."
• "Kid runs in and their arms outstretched and says, dad, I'm flying. And what's your instant reaction?
• Because most people in that moment are like, okay, you have fun with that, or, I'm gonna keep cooking, or, eh, are you, but what happens if you say yes?"
• "Flash forward to today, years later, we still sing the song that we ended up writing from that trip around the solar system."
• "I never do anything, whether it's an interview or going to work or going shopping or just waking up in the morning without an anchor at the ready."
• "You're gonna take that same technique and just feel happy. You don't have to tap into like a million different emotions."
• "Once you start doing it a few times you're gonna realize it can be really fun and b, if you use that, anchor, that memory to get you centered right before suddenly it doesn't feel like work."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Paul Mandelstein, author of "The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce,"about navigating the holidays as a divorced or separated parent. Paul emphasizes reframing divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than a "broken home" and stresses that holidays should focus on the children's wellbeing, not parental conflict. He provides practical advice on managing holiday gatherings, creating new traditions, and developing a positive collaborative co-parenting approach. The conversation highlights the importance of putting aside ego and hurt to ensure
children feel loved by both parents during what can be a challenging time of year.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes guest Paul Mandelstein
00:00:11: Introduction to Paul stein's background as founder of Father Resource Network and his extensive publishing career.
00:01:09: Discussion of Paul's authored books including folk tales and "The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce."
00:01:57: Paul thanks Christopher for having him on the show
00:01:59: Christopher shares his friend's difficult divorce situation and asks for holiday advice.
00:02:34: Paul reframes divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than a "broken family."
00:04:06: Paul discusses choices parents have when invited to ex's house, emphasizing not disparaging the ex in front of kids.
00:05:19: Advice on being flexible with holiday schedules and planning ahead.
00:06:46: Suggestion to have separate holiday celebrations if parents can't get along peacefully.
00:07:40: Christopher asks about the positive collaborative co-parenting plan.
00:07:49: Paul explains men should take the lead in creating new family culture.
00:09:39: Christopher emphasizes advice applies to children of all ages.
00:09:48: Paul discusses how the relationship with an ex continues even after divorce.
00:10:42: Discussion of admitting fault and working on self-improvement.
00:11:02: Paul shares how listeners can contact him for consulting.
00:11:28: Christopher concludes with thanks to Famis and encouragement to subscribe.

Key Takeaways

• Reframe divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than viewing it as a "broken home."
• Keep holidays focused on the children's happiness and wellbeing, not parental conflicts or hurt feelings.
• Never disparage your ex-partner in front of the children, as they still love both parents.
• Be flexible with holiday schedules and plan well in advance to avoid conflicts.
• Create new traditions in your own home that work for your unique family situation.
• Take the lead in establishing a positive collaborative co-parenting relationship, even if your ex doesn't initially reciprocate.
• Put aside ego, blame, and the need to be "right" for the sake of your children.
• If you can't be civil together, consider having separate holiday celebrations rather than creating tension.
• Remember that you and your ex once loved each other, and that love created your children

The relationship with your ex continues after divorce, especially when children are involved.

Quotable Moments

• "We're not a broken family when we divorce. We're an extended family."
• "Happy holidays are not about you, they're about the kids. They're not about your ex, they're about the kids."
• "This is an opportunity for you to learn compassion and to basically grow up."
• "It's important to never disparage your ex in front of the kids because they still love their mom or their dad."
• "Just don't be a jerk. Don't look for a way to prove that you were right or you or they were wrong."
• "If you've never been nice before, some people haven't. Let's face it."
• "It's an opportunity. And my book lays out a path that if you follow that path, even if your ex is, is not agreeing with you and is still adversary over time, the kids and your ex perhaps will realize that you're not the bad guy anymore."
• "I'm asking men to take the lead and be the bigger hero. Be the hero. If anything divorces, the hero's security to go through it."
• "The most important thing is for the kids to feel like they're not in an adversarial relationship where they have to pick one parent over another."
• "You'll realize even divorce your relationship with your ex is not over, especially if the kids are teen, young kids, teenagers or even young adults."

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You Deserve Flowers with Devon Blow

In this episode, host Adina Oberman interviews Devon Blow, a dynamic artist and illustrator from Los Angeles who specializes in illustration, design, writing, and social justice advocacy. Devon discusses her debut book "You Deserve Flowers," a pocket-sized collection of affirmations and poetry that originated from a therapy assignment focused on self-affirmation. The conversation explores Devon's creative process, her passion for representing diversity and marginalized communities in her work, and her upcoming projects with Familius, including "Life's Best Bits" and a picture book. Throughout the discussion, Devon emphasizes how her art is deeply connected to social justice work and her desire to bring hope and encouragement to people from all walks of life.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and welcomes guest Devon Blow, describing her impressive background as an artist working with major clients like Netflix, Oprah's Book Club, and the United Nations.
00:01:42: Devon thanks Adina for having her on the podcast and the conversation begins.
00:01:44: Adina expresses excitement about discussing Devon's new book and their working relationship.
00:01:59: Devon introduces "You Deserve Flowers" as a pocket-sized book of affirmations and poetry designed to provide encouragement whenever readers need it.
00:02:27: Adina asks Devon to share the inspiration behind the book and her creative process.
00:02:37: Devon reveals the book originated from a therapy assignment where she was asked to write affirmations for herself as if speaking to others, since she found it easier to affirm others than herself.
00:03:26: Adina shares several affirming messages from the book, including "Loving yourself isn't arrogance, it's survival" and discusses the beautiful artwork.
00:04:16: Devon identifies the rain/puddles page as one of her favorites from the book.
00:04:19: Adina highlights Devon's artistic signature of including little hearts on characters' cheeks throughout the book.
00:05:14: Devon explains that people and diversity inspire her creative work, and she finds beauty in everyone's unique features and cultural backgrounds.
00:06:00: Adina asks Devon to elaborate on how her work connects to her passion for social justice.
00:06:18: Devon discusses how community and hope are central to her social justice work, citing influences like James Baldwin and bell Hooks, and emphasizing the importance of embracing differences.
00:07:28: Adina asks Devon to share information about her upcoming projects.
00:07:47: Devon announces her second book with Familius titled "Life's Best Bits" featuring over 190 illustrations about simple joys, plus a picture book project and a middle-grade fiction book she's currently writing.
00:08:41: Adina expresses excitement about Devon's upcoming work and asks where listeners can find her online.
00:09:00: Devon directs listeners to her website and social media at @DevthePineapple across all platforms.
00:09:12: Adina thanks Devon for joining the podcast.

00:09:14: Adina concludes the episode by thanking Familius for their support and encouraging listeners to subscribe and leave reviews.

Key Takeaways

• Self-affirmation can be challenging even for those who naturally affirm others, and therapeutic exercises like writing affirmations can be transformative creative outlets.
• Art can serve as a powerful tool for social justice advocacy by representing diverse communities and providing hope during difficult times.
• Small, accessible formats like pocket-sized books of affirmations can provide encouragement and support in everyday moments.
• Embracing and celebrating differences in people's backgrounds, cultures, and appearances is essential to moving forward as a society.
• Creative work that centers love, community, and inclusivity can have meaningful impact beyond aesthetic value.
• Finding inspiration in the beauty of everyday people and their unique features can fuel authentic and representative artistic expression.

Quotable Moments

• "Loving yourself isn't arrogance, it's survival" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers"
• "This rain won't stop you. The puddles remind you, you survived" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers."
• "Trust your feelings, but don't forget to let the joy in" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers."
• "I think if we can inspire each other and just be kind to one another, which sounds really cliche, but it's true" - Devon Blow on her approach to social justice work.
• "I think embracing all of our differences is what will push us forward" - Devon Blow on diversity and community.
• "I love affirming others, but I struggle with affirming myself" - Devon Blow on the origins of her book.
• "I think all of our unique features and things makes us really beautiful" - Devon Blow on her artistic inspiration.

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Celebrating Christmas Around the World

The podcast episode of "Helping Families Be Happy" features host Christopher Robbins and guest Stephanie Campisi, an Australian author based in Southern California. The discussion revolves around global Christmas traditions, inspired by Stephanie's book, "12 Little Elves Save Christmas." The book takes readers on a journey through various countries' unique festive customs, celebrating the diversity and richness of worldwide holiday practices. Through this exploration, the episode highlights the importance of understanding and appreciating cultural differences, fostering empathy and connection in a global community.

Episode Highlights
00:00:14: Introduction of the podcast and guest, Stephanie Campisi, an author discussing global Christmas traditions.
00:01:39: Stephanie shares the adaptation of wishing Merry Christmas in Australia with a cultural twist.
00:02:33: Discussion of Stephanie's book and its research into global Christmas traditions, including Australia's practices.
00:04:02: Exploration of similarities and differences in holiday traditions between Australia and the US.
00:05:10: Stephanie shares experiences spending Christmas in Japan, noting unique Japanese holiday practices.
00:06:08: Insight into Venezuelan Christmas traditions like roller skating to church.
00:06:58: Explanation of Lebanese nativity crib traditions, emphasizing cultural nuances.
00:08:00: Overview of countries featured in Stephanie's book and the selection process for representing diverse traditions.
00:09:05: Stephanie discusses her family's Christmas traditions evolving between cultures.
00:13:32: Highlighted favorite global Christmas traditions include German markets and Swedish celebrations.
00:14:23: Discussion on the book's potential to foster cross-cultural understanding and empathy.
00:15:11: Ending remarks and where to find more information about Stephanie Campisi's work.

Key Takeaways

• Understanding global Christmas traditions can enrich holiday experiences by recognizing cultural diversity.
• Sharing stories through books can foster empathy and a greater appreciation for our global neighbors.
• Adaptation of traditions when moving to a new culture can create newly meaningful personal celebrations.
• Christmas traditions worldwide offer varied ways to appreciate the season beyond traditional narratives.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Reading is how we connect and cultivate empathy and understanding among cultures." -Stephanie Campisi
• "A book is a little olive branch extending a connection to other cultures." - Stephanie Campisi
• "One great holiday tradition at a time, we can make the world a happier place." - Host, Christopher Robbins

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews parenting expert Donna Tetreault about building trust within families. They discuss the foundational importance of trust in parent-child relationships, drawing on insights from Stephen M.R. Covey's work on trust. Donna emphasizes the difference between smart trust and blind trust, explaining how parents can give age-appropriate autonomy while maintaining necessary boundaries. The conversation covers practical strategies for handling broken trust, encouraging self-advocacy in children, and the importance of natural consequences. Donna also stresses the need for parents to trust themselves in their parenting journey and extend grace to both themselves and their children.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes guest Donna Tetreault, a national TV parenting journalist, author, and educator who shares parenting strategies on major Los Angeles television stations.
00:01:40: Donna expresses excitement about being on the podcast.
00:01:43: Christopher discusses the importance of trust, referencing Dr. Stephen R. Covey's work and Stephen M.R. Covey's book "The Speed of Trust," establishing trust as the foundation of all relationships.
00:02:48: Donna explains the importance of trusting children in their decision-making process, citing Maria Montessori's quote about never doing for a child what they can do for themselves, while emphasizing the need for boundaries and coaching.
00:03:56: Christopher asks Donna to explain the concept of self-advocacy.
00:04:02: Donna defines self-advocacy as allowing children to build their own lives and make decisions, using the example of choosing friends rather than parents arranging all social interactions.
00:05:16: Christopher introduces the concept of smart trust versus dumb trust, using the humorous example of letting a newly licensed teen drive a brand new Ferrari.
00:06:02: Donna provides practical examples of age-appropriate trust, including bedtimes and technology use, explaining how to gradually increase responsibility as children demonstrate capability.
00:07:13: Donna discusses homework as an example of building trust and autonomy, encouraging parents to step back when children show responsibility rather than hovering.
00:08:02: Christopher introduces the concept of check-ins or mileposts, suggesting a "trust but verify" approach.
00:08:33: Donna agrees with the check-in approach, noting that younger children need more frequent check-ins while older children should require fewer as they build autonomy.
00:09:20: Christopher shares his personal experience as a father of nine, noting that different children require different levels of check-ins.
00:09:30: Donna emphasizes that every child is different and parents should trust themselves to read their children's individual needs.
00:09:53: Christopher asks how to handle situations when children break trust.
00:10:11: Donna advises against harsh reactions, recommending connection and compassion instead, and introduces Tina Payne Bryson's concept of saying children have "bent" rather than "broken" trust.

00:11:47: Christopher appreciates the phrase "bent my trust" as valuable advice.
00:11:53: Donna and Christopher agree on the value of the reframing.
00:12:15: Donna role-plays how to approach a teen who hasn't been attending school, emphasizing getting curious rather than immediately punishing.
00:13:18: Christopher shares his personal story of not attending high school for weeks and how his
stepfather handled it with trust and a simple question.
00:13:36: Donna expresses surprise at Christopher's story.
00:13:53: Donna asks why Christopher wasn't attending school.
00:13:56: Christopher explains he wanted to do other activities like skiing and fly fishing, finding school boring.
00:14:29: Donna agrees with Christopher's philosophy.
00:14:31: Christopher emphasizes that parenting is a marathon not a sprint, using the phrase "never judge a man by his youth," and asks about experiencing natural consequences.
00:14:55: Donna discusses the importance of natural consequences rather than arbitrary punishments like taking away phones, allowing children to experience real-world results of their choices.
00:15:37: Christopher notes that sometimes natural consequences can be quite severe.
00:15:44: Donna acknowledges severe consequences and discusses how parents can support children through making up missed work while maintaining appropriate boundaries with teachers.
00:16:41: Christopher asks if there's anything else Donna wants to share.
00:16:48: Donna encourages parents to trust themselves, acknowledging that parenting is difficult
regardless of expertise, and emphasizes giving oneself grace as a model for children.
00:17:28: Christopher asks where listeners can find Donna online.
00:17:34: Donna directs listeners to her Instagram account at Donna Tetreault.
00:17:41: Christopher asks Donna to spell her last name.
00:17:43: Donna spells out her name: T-E-T-R-E-A-U-L-T.
00:17:49: Christopher concludes the podcast, thanking Familius for support and encouraging listeners to subscribe, leave reviews, and extend trust one step at a time.

Key Takeaways

• Trust is the foundation of effective parenting and should be extended to children in age-appropriate ways, allowing them to develop autonomy and decision-making skills.
• Practice "smart trust" rather than "blind trust" by setting appropriate boundaries while giving children opportunities to demonstrate responsibility.
• When trust is broken, use compassionate language like "you've bent my trust" rather than harsh accusations, and focus on rebuilding rather than punishing.
• Allow children to experience natural consequences of their actions rather than imposing arbitrary punishments, as real-world results are often more effective teachers.
• Different children require different levels of oversight and check-ins; trust yourself as a parent to recognize each child's individual needs.
• Self-advocacy begins early by allowing children to make age-appropriate decisions, from choosing friends to managing homework and bedtimes.
• Parents should extend grace to themselves and trust their own parenting instincts, modeling self-compassion for their children.
• Get curious rather than punitive when children make mistakes, asking "what's going on?" instead of immediately reacting with anger.

Quotable Moments

• "Never do for a child what they can do for themselves" - Maria Montessori quote shared by Donna Tetreault
• "We're trying to tell our kids that we trust you in the process of your life" - Donna Tetreault
• "Instead of telling your child that you have broken my trust, you can say, you've bent my trust" - Tina Payne Bryson concept shared by Donna
• "You should never judge a man by his youth" - Christopher Robbins
• "We want our kids to know that we believe them to be capable" - Donna Tetreault
• "Trust yourself to know that you're doing the best that you can and honor that and give yourself grace" -Donna Tetreault
• "It doesn't matter if you've written a book, if you've studied it, if you're a former teacher, if you're a psychologist, it just doesn't matter. It's very difficult parenting in this day and age" - Donna Tetreault

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Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Dr. Emily Edlynn, PhD

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Dr. Emily Edlynn, a licensed clinical psychologist and author of "Autonomy-Supportive Parenting." Dr. Edlynn explains how autonomy-supportive parenting, based on self-determination theory, nurtures three fundamental human needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. She discusses how modern parenting culture's intensive approach often leads to controlling behaviors that undermine children's development, and provides practical strategies for parents to foster independence while reducing parental burnout. The conversation covers real- world applications of these principles, including how to help children solve their own problems and develop financial independence.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Host Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Dr. Emily Edlynn, highlighting her credentials as a licensed clinical psychologist and author.
00:02:06: Light-hearted exchange about parenting experience with Christopher mentioning he's a father of nine children.
00:02:50: Dr. Edlynn defines autonomy-supportive parenting as a science-based approach that nurtures three fundamental human needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.
00:04:07: Discussion of the three core needs, with Christopher seeking clarification on each component.
00:04:40: Dr. Edlynn explains relatedness as the foundational need involving belonging, connection, and feeling understood and accepted.
00:05:14: Connection made to Daniel Pink's book "Drive" and its relationship to motivation theory.
00:06:17: Christopher acknowledges the challenges of parenting, describing it as sometimes being "a grind."
00:06:28: Dr. Edlynn identifies two primary barriers: overwhelming parental stress (declared a public health crisis) and intensive parenting culture.
00:08:10: Discussion of how control is the antithesis of autonomy-supportive parenting.
00:08:33: Dr. Edlynn explains how parents often do too much for their children, preventing skill
development and confidence building.
00:09:36: Christopher relates the advice to leadership principles applicable beyond parenting.
00:10:25: Christopher shares his parenting approach of encouraging children to solve problems
independently.
00:10:56: Dr. Edlynn validates Christopher's approach based on its effectiveness.
00:11:34: Humorous exchange about background music making parental advice more appealing.
00:11:48: Christopher asks for key autonomy supportive strategies to implement immediately.
00:11:56: Dr. Edlynn provides specific strategies including expecting more independence and expressing trust in children.
00:13:28: Application of strategies to a real scenario involving a child who needs to become more
financially self-reliant.

00:13:47: Dr. Edlynn walks through the process of addressing the financial independence issue
collaboratively.
00:15:00: Christopher acknowledges learning new parenting approaches after 33 years of experience.
00:15:38: Discussion of how autonomy supportive parenting relates to good leadership principles.
00:16:19: Exploration of short-term and long-term benefits of autonomy-supportive parenting.
00:16:35: Dr. Edlynn outlines benefits including reduced stress for parents and increased confidence for children.
00:17:25: Christopher reflects on accepting that children will grow up to be themselves, not replicas of their parents.
00:17:54: Dr. Edlynn emphasizes the importance of seeing children for who they truly are.
00:18:01: Acknowledgment that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint.
00:18:15: Important clarification that parents don't need to be autonomy supportive every moment to be effective.
00:19:12: Dr. Edlynn shares her contact information and online presence.
00:19:24: Closing remarks and podcast subscription information.

Key Takeaways

• Autonomy supportive parenting focuses on nurturing three fundamental needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.
• Modern intensive parenting culture often leads to controlling behaviors that undermine children's development.
• Parents should ask children "What are you thinking?" before offering solutions to encourage problem- solving skills.
• Expecting more independent behaviors from children reduces parental stress while building children's confidence.
• Approach children's mistakes with curiosity rather than judgment to maintain connection and facilitate learning.
• Scaffolding approach works best - implementing changes step by step rather than expecting immediate complete independence.
• Autonomy-supportive parenting leads to higher self-esteem, better academic achievement, and stronger social relationships in children.
• Parents don't need to be perfect - creating a general environment of autonomy support is what matters most.

Quotable Moments

• "All of us, regardless of our age or where we live in the world, we thrive when we have these three needs met."
• "We feel like this anxiety that we have to curate this perfect life for our kids. And so what we end up doing is we do too much for our kids as a way to love them."
• "I want you to pretend that there's no one here to solve this problem and your life depends on solving this problem. And I bet you can solve it."
• "We just undermine or underestimate our children. We underestimate what they have to offer and they'll feel that over time."
• "One of the best things we can do is let go of our image of them and really see them for who they are."
• "Parenting is not a hundred yard dash. It's a really long ultra marathon."
• "You do not have to be autonomy supportive every minute of every day to be an autonomy-supportive parent."

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Kitchen Secrets for the Holidays with Jason "Chop Happy" Goldstein

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, Christopher Robbins hosts food blogger Jason Goldstein. Goldstein, known as Chop Happy, shares insights and tips for preparing stress-free holiday meals, highlighting the importance of creating a positive kitchen environment. He provides innovative kitchen hacks, including using a mason jar to peel garlic and a lint roller for cleanup. The episode also explores creative ways to handle leftovers and suggests easy, no-fuss baking ideas for people who don't enjoy baking, rounding out with ways to contact Goldstein online.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast along with
guest Jason Goldstein.
00:01:11: Jason Goldstein is introduced as a food blogger specializing in comfort dishes and
easy recipes.
00:01:57: Jason shares tips for reducing holiday stress and creating a happy kitchen atmosphere.
00:03:45: Discussion about the benefits of garlic and an innovative method for peeling using a
mason jar.
00:04:37: Jason shares cleanup tips using butter spray on cheese graters and utilizing a lint
roller.
00:06:25: Advice on cooking bacon, suggesting oven baking as the best method for avoiding a mess.
00:07:15: Ideas for handling leftovers, including making vegetable stock and casseroles from
scraps.
00:09:28: Suggestions for gifting hosts, like bringing breakfast or prepared foods for the morning after.
00:09:58: Discusses less desirable recipes and how to make baking easier with store-bought
mixes and alternatives.
00:12:32: Ways to connect with Jason Goldstein online and learn more about his work.
00:12:59: Conclusion of the podcast with a thank you to the audience and Famis for their
support.

Key Takeaways

• The kitchen should be seen as a happy, nurturing environment where cooking becomes an
  enjoyable activity.
• Innovative cooking and cleanup tips can greatly reduce holiday meal preparation stress and
  save time.
• Effortlessly handling leftovers can save money and make use of the remaining ingredients
  creatively.
• For less enthusiastic bakers, simple substitutes and alternative baking methods can make
  dessert preparation hassle-free.
• Thoughtful gift ideas for hosts include preparing meals or breakfast items to offer after holiday gatherings.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Think of the kitchen as a canvas and cooking as painting, with every dish nourishing your soul." - Jason Goldstein
• "Chop Happy: Create a positive kitchen environment for a stress-free, enjoyable cooking
  experience." - Jason Goldstein
• "Make an extra casserole from holiday leftovers and save money while reducing food waste." -Jason Goldstein

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Language is Fun! The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt with Kimberlee Gard

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews award-winning children's author Kimberlee Gard about her newest book "The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt," part of the Language is Fun series. Kimberlee shares her personal journey of overcoming dyslexia and her mission to create engaging books that inspire a love of reading in children, especially reluctant readers. The conversation covers practical strategies for parents and teachers supporting struggling readers, including the use of high-interest low-level books, audiobooks, and incorporating reading into everyday activities. Kimberlee also discusses her collaboration with Familius and illustrator Sandy Sonke in bringing compound words to life through an adventure story that makes learning fun and interactive.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest Kimberlee Gard, an award-winning children's author who overcame dyslexia to write books that inspire love of reading.
00:01:29: Kimberlee expresses enthusiasm about returning to the podcast and discussing her work
00:01:34: Discussion begins about Kimberlee's newest book in the Language is Fun series
00:01:48: Kimberlee introduces "The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt" featuring new characters going on an adventure while discovering compound words
00:02:21: Adina requests more details about the compound word book and the broader Language is Fun series.
00:02:30: Kimberlee credits Familius founder, Christopher, for the book's concept and praises illustrator Sandie Sonke's work in bringing the interactive story to life.
00:03:38: Kimberlee explains her mission to inspire love of reading, especially for reluctant readers and children with dyslexia like herself.
00:04:19: Adina discusses how the books resonate with families and are available on educational platforms including Netflix, making them accessible in classrooms.
00:05:52: Kimberlee provides comprehensive advice for supporting reluctant readers, emphasizing the importance of recognizing reading difficulties and potential learning disabilities early.
00:07:14: Detailed strategies shared including high-interest low-level books, audiobooks, incorporating reading into daily life, and creating reading routines
00:08:13: Additional tips include using rewards, bedtime routines, car audiobooks, visiting little free
libraries, and modeling love of reading
00:09:28: Idina appreciates the practical on-the-go strategies and shares how podcasts have inspired her
children's reading interests
00:10:56: Kimberly suggests summer reading challenges and charts as additional motivation for children
00:11:17: Discussion of creative approaches like planning mini-adventures based on books being read
00:12:29: Kimberly teases future books in the series and emphasizes the value of author school visits for engaging students.
00:13:47: Idina asks for contact information and where listeners can find Kimberly's work.
00:13:57: Kimberly provides her website and mentions books are available nationwide, offering to help with reading struggles.
00:14:23: Information about the new book's August release date and availability.
00:14:37: Closing pleasantries and thanks.
00:14:39: Host concludes with thanks to Familius and encouragement for listeners to subscribe and review.

Key Takeaways

• Early identification of learning difficulties like dyslexia is crucial for getting children the resources they need.
• High-interest, low-level books can help reluctant readers feel capable and accomplished
  Audiobooks and read-alongs significantly improve fluency and comprehension while reducing reading pressure.
• Incorporating reading into everyday activities (menus, signs, recipes) makes it feel purposeful and fun.
• Creating consistent reading routines, whether through bedtime stories or car audiobooks, builds positive associations.
• Parents modeling enthusiasm for reading directly influences children's attitudes toward books Interactive and engaging educational content can make learning grammar fundamentals feel like entertainment rather than academic work.
• Author visits to schools can significantly boost student engagement with reading and writing.

Quotable Moments

• "If you can make learning fun and engaging, it just takes the work of reading away and they can get excited about it." - Kimberlee Gard
• "Reading is hard. It is really hard for children to learn and some children pick it up really quick and others struggle a little bit more." -Kimberlee Gard
• "If your kids see you excited about books, excited to go to the library, excited to go to the bookstore, excited to have reading time, they can start to enjoy it as well." -Kimberlee Gard
• "My hope for all of the books in the Learning is Fun series is just to inspire kids to have a love for reading." - Kimberlee Gard

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Cooking Up French Cuisine with Your Kids Barbara Beery

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Barbara Beery, founder of Foodie Kids Culinary Center and author of 20 cookbooks, about her newest release "Ooh La La Kids Cook French" launching November 2025. Barbara shares her passion for teaching children French cooking techniques through approachable recipes that emphasize fresh ingredients and family bonding. The conversation explores how cooking with children builds confidence, creates lasting memories, and provides valuable life skills while making sophisticated cuisine accessible to young chefs aged 10-15.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest, Barbara Beery, founder of Foodie Kids Culinary Center and author of 20 cookbooks.
00:01:22: Barbara expresses gratitude for being on the show.
00:01:25: Discussion begins about Barbara's new cookbook "Ooh La La Kids Cook French" and its origins.
00:01:43: Barbara shares her childhood cooking experiences with her German mother and how "Mastering the Art of French Cooking" became her first cookbook inspiration.
00:02:34: Barbara explains how children naturally learn cooking without fear of failure and discusses the target age group (10-15) for her new French cookbook.
00:03:34: Adina asks about favorite recipes and highlights from the cookbook.
00:03:49: Barbara discusses her love for crepes as a versatile and simple recipe, along with French pesto made with parsley and various desserts like cream puffs.
00:05:17: Adina praises how Barbara makes French cuisine approachable for families and mentions the fondue recipe.
00:06:23: Barbara acknowledges forgetting to mention the fondue recipe initially.
00:06:32: Discussion about Barbara's experience teaching fondue in cooking classes.
00:06:42: Barbara describes the popularity of French cooking in summer camps and the herb garden experience that amazed children.
00:08:01: Adina reflects on the importance of hands-on experiences for children and asks about recommended starter recipes.
00:09:06: Barbara suggests soup as the most forgiving recipe for beginners, along with crepes and fondue.
00:10:04: Discussion about chocolate fondue and Valentine's Day traditions.
00:10:30: Adina emphasizes how cooking creates lasting memories and family traditions.
00:11:05: Barbara shares key takeaways about empowering children through cooking and the immediate gratification it provides.
00:12:02: Adina agrees and highlights the focused quality time cooking provides between parents and children.
00:12:27: Barbara emphasizes that cooking with kids is about the journey, not the destination.
00:12:39: Adina asks about how listeners can find Barbara online.
00:12:55: Barbara provides her website (barbarabeery.com) and Instagram information
00:13:21: Information about where to purchase the cookbook when it releases in November 2025
00:13:34: Barbara thanks the host for the interview.
00:13:37: Closing remarks and credits from host Adina Oberman.

Key Takeaways

• French cooking can be made accessible to children through age-appropriate recipes that focus on fresh ingredients and simple techniques.
• Cooking with children builds confidence and provides immediate gratification, unlike activities that require years of practice to master.
• Starting with forgiving recipes like soups, crepes, and fondue helps children develop cooking skills without fear of failure.
• Hands-on experiences, such as cutting fresh herbs from a garden, create lasting memories and deepen children's appreciation for fresh ingredients.
• Cooking together provides quality family time focused on connection, learning, and creating traditions that span generations.
• The process of cooking with children is more important than the final product - it's about the journey and shared experience

Quotable Moments

• "Children can learn anything if they're taught and it's done in segments and it's something that's appropriate for their age level, they have no qualms about cooking like a lot of adults do." - Barbara Beery
• "Doesn't have to be something fancy, it needs to be fresh, and your ingredients are what your meal is about." - Barbara Beery
• "I don't think there's anything better we can do for our kids than that [providing them with something they can own and feel proud of]." - Barbara Beery
• "With cooking with kids, it's not about the destination. It really is about the journey." - Barbara Beery
• "Those are the kinds of things that people remember. You know, that's what you can pass on to your kids." -Barbara Beery

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What to Consider when Medicating Children with Doctors Pilar Trelles and Robert Jaffe

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins is joined by Dr. Pilar Trelles and Dr. Robert Jaffe to discuss their book, "A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow When Medicating Children." The episode delves into the complexities of pediatric psychiatric medication, addressing common questions and misconceptions that parents might have. Both experts emphasize the importance of having a strong relationship with a psychiatrist and approach psychiatric medication as a part of a comprehensive treatment plan for mental health conditions in children. They stress a methodical approach to medication, aptly summarized by their book's title, "Start Low and Go Slow."

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and its host, Christopher Robbins.
00:01:40: Introduction of guests, Dr. Pilar Trelles and Dr. Robert Jaffe, and their credentials.
00:02:00: Discussion about the catalyst for writing the book concerning medicating children.
00:02:41: Acknowledgment of the stigma and misconceptions surrounding mental health medication for children.
00:03:42: Explanation of the role psychiatric medications can play in treatment and improving children's life trajectories.
00:05:35: Emphasis on the importance of a good relationship with a psychiatrist.
00:06:30: Overview of what the book covers, including different issues related to medicating children.
00:08:31: Addressing myths versus facts regarding psychiatric medications for children.
00:09:30: Discussion on a thoughtful approach to medication alongside therapy and good doctor
relationships.
00:11:39: The importance of the comprehensive decision-making process in pediatric medication.
00:13:15: Final thoughts from Dr. Jaffe and Dr.Trelles on the key takeaway messages for parents.
00:16:23: Conclusion of the episode with insightful reflections from both the authors.

Key Takeaways

• Establish a strong relationship with a child's psychiatrist to ensure well-informed treatment plans.
• Mental health medication for children should be considered carefully and is not always required as the sole solution.
• The book "A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow When Medicating Children." aims to demystify psychiatric medication, guiding parents to make informed decisions.
• Psychoeducation for parents can lead to better advocacy and more effective outcomes for children in mental health treatment.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Start low and go slow; that's our mantra for medicating kids responsibly." - Dr. Robert Jaffe & Dr. Pilar Trelles
• "Medications, if prescribed wisely, can be life-changing for children with psychiatric conditions." - Dr. Pilar Trelles
• "Parents are their children's experts; we're here to provide knowledge and support." - Dr. Robert Jaffe

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Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month with Ericka Sanchez

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Ericka Sanchez, a Mexican-born recipe developer, food stylist, and creator of the award-winning blog Nibbles and Feasts. Ericka shares her journey from documenting family recipes to becoming a successful cookbook author with four published books. She discusses the deep influence of her grandmother and mother on her passion for Mexican cuisine, the importance of breakfast in Hispanic culture, and meaningful traditions like Día de los Muertos. The conversation explores how food serves as a bridge to cultural heritage and family connection, while Ericka offers practical advice for those wanting to explore Mexican cooking and incorporate its flavors into their own kitchens.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes listeners to explore family, love, and relationships.
00:00:10: Introduction of guest Ericka Sanchez, Mexican-born recipe developer, food stylist, and food photographer.
00:00:10: Background on Ericka's immigration from Torreon, Mexico to El Paso, Texas at age eight.
00:00:10: Discussion of Ericka's bicultural life and cooking memories with her grandmother and mother.
00:00:10: Overview of Nibbles and Feasts blog started in 2010 to catalog family recipes.
00:01:18: Mention of Ericka's four cookbooks including Aguas Frescas & Paletas, ¡Buen Provecho!, ¡Buenos Días!, and Spicy Sauces and Moles.
00:01:18: Recognition of Ericka's features in publications like Oprah Daily, Parents, and Eating Well.
00:01:18: Discussion of Ericka's cooking series on Recipe TV Network.
00:01:18: Background on Ericka's 20-year career in marketing and social media.
00:01:18: Christopher shares his personal experience living among Hispanic communities in the 1980s.
00:02:52: Ericka expresses happiness about finally talking with Christopher.
00:02:56: Discussion begins about the origin of the blog name "Nibbles and Feasts."
00:03:08: Ericka explains the blog started during the mommy blogger era as an outlet after her son was born.
00:03:08: The name originally covered all types of recipes before focusing on Latin-inspired cuisine.
00:04:00: Ericka describes wanting to create a recipe catalog for her son to access as he grew up.
00:04:02: Discussion of how the blog evolved from personal project to successful business.
00:04:25: Christopher asks about specific memories that sparked Ericka's passion for cooking.
00:04:45: Ericka shares memories of visiting her grandmother's bodega-style store in Mexico during summers.
00:04:45: Description of helping grandmother prepare and sell food, particularly breaded fish.
00:05:33: Discussion of Hispanic traditions important to Ericka's family beyond cooking.
00:05:50: Ericka explains the importance of Día de los Muertos celebration with altars, flowers, and food.
00:06:27: Christopher shares his observation of brightly decorated Hispanic cemeteries in Central California.
00:07:15: Ericka describes her dream dinner party menu featuring traditional mole with rice and beans.
00:07:15: Guest list includes her grandmother, Mexican President Claudia Sheinbaum, and Frida Kahlo.

00:08:17: Discussion of essential pantry staples in Ericka's kitchen.
00:08:29: Ericka identifies dried chilies as indispensable for adding flavor to dishes.
00:08:58: Discussion of cilantro as both pantry staple and experimental ingredient in sauces and broths.
00:09:26: Brief tangent about people who experience cilantro tasting like soap.
00:09:37: Christopher asks for advice on learning about Mexican cuisine and culture.
00:09:55: Ericka recommends starting with familiar ingredients and asking questions at stores.
00:09:55: Suggestion to compare Mexican cheeses like cotija to familiar options like feta.
00:10:54: Christopher shares his favorite Mexican-inspired breakfast with eggs, avocado, and pico de gallo.
00:11:34: Ericka explains why breakfast is significant in Hispanic culture as family gathering time.
00:11:34: Discussion of breakfast as opportunity for conversation and connection regardless of busy schedules.
00:12:26: Introduction to Ericka's existing cookbooks including Buenos Días and Spicy Salsas
00:12:49: Ericka reveals upcoming taco-focused cookbook currently in progress.
00:12:49: Discussion of future book on Mexican cooking essentials aimed at college students and those reconnecting with roots.
00:13:39: Christopher refers to future project as "Mastering the Art of Mexican Cooking."
00:13:59: Ericka shares where to find her online at nibblesandfeasts.com and social media
00:14:17: Christopher concludes with thanks and encouragement to subscribe and leave reviews.

Key Takeaways

• Food serves as a powerful connection to cultural heritage and family traditions, preserving memories across generations.
• Starting with familiar ingredients and asking questions is the best approach when exploring a new cuisine like Mexican cooking.
• Breakfast holds special significance in Hispanic culture as a time for family connection and conversation, not just sustenance.
• Essential Mexican pantry staples like dried chilies and cilantro can transform everyday cooking with authentic flavors.
• Cultural traditions like Día de los Muertos help families maintain connections to their roots and honor those who came before.
• Passion projects that start as personal endeavors can evolve into meaningful careers when they authentically reflect one's heritage.
• Comparing unfamiliar ingredients to similar familiar ones (like cotija cheese to feta) helps overcome intimidation in trying new cuisines.

Quotable Moments

• "It was just more of just having a recipe catalog for my family" - Ericka on the original purpose of Nibbles and Feasts.
• "Every time I see breaded fish, I'd always think of her" - Ericka remembering her grandmother's specialty dish.
• "Hispanic heritage, one in my house, there's, it's an everyday thing" - Ericka on celebrating culture daily.
• "I feel bad for those people" - Ericka responding to those who taste cilantro as soap
• "We always eat breakfast, even if it's a Wednesday morning. We sit and we eat breakfast" - Ericka on the importance of breakfast in Hispanic culture.
• "It's just a way of bringing everybody together and talking about our day" - Ericka on breakfast as family connection time.
• "You have to experiment and find out how it's used" - Ericka's advice for exploring Mexican ingredients.

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Building Routines & Positive Behavior Strategies with "Academically April"

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman talks to April, an educator and member of the PBIS team in her California school district. April shares her strategies for building effective classroom routines and the importance of positive behavior interventions. They also discuss how parents can implement similar routines at home to encourage consistency and set clear expectations for their children. April emphasizes the importance of moving from tangible incentives to intrinsic motivation for students, both in the
classroom and at home.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast episode and guest April's background.
00:01:39: Discussion on building effective routines and strategies for classroom management.
00:02:56: Techniques for establishing and maintaining classroom routines, emphasizing the initial weeks.
00:03:41: The importance of consistent routines for children, both in school and at home.
00:04:15: Suggestions for parents on implementing effective routines at home.
00:05:28: Tips on using timers and visual schedules to create home routines.
00:06:19: Visual aids as a helpful tool for children to understand daily scheduling.
00:08:10: Explanation of Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS) and its implementation at April's school.
00:10:16: The role of community, including teachers and parents, in reinforcing positive behaviors.
00:11:45: The connection between school and home expectations through positive behavior strategies.
00:13:56: Encouragement to transition from incentives to intrinsic motivation for children.
00:14:48: Discussion on building values and community engagement within children.
00:17:00: Information on how to connect with April online for further insights.

Key Takeaways

• Establishing consistent routines can significantly aid in children's adaptability both at school and at home.
• Implementing visual aids and timers can help children better understand and follow daily schedules.
• Positive behavior interventions require collaboration between schools and families to be most effective.
• Parents should work towards fostering intrinsic motivation in children to encourage self-motivated positive behavior.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Consistency makes kids really successful." - April, Educator and PBIS Team Member
• "We want those incentives to go away so children act because they feel good about it." - April, Educator
• "A community approach is essential for positive behavior reinforcement in children." - Adina Oberman, Podcast Host.

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Helping Children Learn Sportsmanship with Dr. Frank Sileo

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes Dr. Frank Sileo, a New Jersey licensed psychologist and author, to discuss sportsmanship as an important value for children. They explore the role of parents, coaches, and teachers in modeling good sportsmanship and the impact of competition on a child's ability to develop empathy and teamwork. The conversation also covers strategies for helping children handle losses gracefully and address struggles with anxiety and emotional regulation related to competition. Dr. Sileo emphasizes the need for parents to observe their children's behaviors and engage in meaningful conversations to foster positive sports experiences.

Episode Highlights00:00:10: Introduction of the podcast and its host, Christopher Robbins, who introduces the guest, Dr. Frank Sileo.
00:01:17: Overview of Dr. Sileo's credentials and his work in psychology and literature.
00:02:27: Introduction to the topic of sportsmanship and its importance in childhood development.
00:02:45: Discussion on the significance of parents modeling good sportsmanship behavior.
00:03:13: Insights on how competition can influence children's empathy and teamwork abilities.
00:05:11: Addressing the cultural emphasis on winning and how to nurture graceful losing in children.
00:06:09: The role of adults in framing competition for children to promote healthy behaviors.
00:08:23: Recommendations for helping children handle losses with perspective and humor.
00:11:43: Strategies for effective communication with children struggling with competition.
00:14:51: Recognizing signs of struggle with competition and suggested responses.
00:18:58: Resources for parents to help children improve sportsmanship and emotional regulation.
00:22:08: Announcement of Dr. Sileo's upcoming book, "Meatball Sunday," and its themes.
00:23:17: Information on where to find more about Dr. Frank Sileo online.
00:23:45: Closing gratitude to the podcast's supporters and listeners, along with a call for feedback.

Key Takeaways

• The behaviors parents model have a significant impact on children’s sportsmanship and emotional development.
• Healthy competition can enhance children's empathy and teamwork if framed positively by adults.
• Normalize losing and view it as an opportunity for learning and growth rather than failure.
  Maintain open, supportive discussions with children about their feelings related to competition.
• Be attentive to a child’s non-verbal cues, as they might indicate stress or discomfort with competition.

Tweetable Quotes

• "You've won if you've had fun." – Dr. Frank Sileo
• "Sportsmanship lays the foundation for how children treat others beyond the field." – Dr. Frank Sileo
• "Life is about the process, not just the results." – Episode Discussion
• "Use your relationship with your child to open doors for important conversations." – Dr. Frank Sileo.

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How Lunch Makes a Happier and More Successful Family

In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," Christopher Robbins welcomes Bri DeRosa to discuss the importance and benefits of family meals, not just during dinner but also lunch. They highlight research showing that sharing meals improves happiness and mental health across all ages. The conversation delves into the impact of shared meals on children, touching on topics like academic performance, reducing anxiety, and promoting early literacy skills. The episode also offers practical tips on simplifying lunch preparation and encouraging children to pack their own lunches to foster independence.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Christopher Robbins, and guest Bri DeRosa, who discusses the value of family meals.
00:01:48: Bri expresses her enthusiasm for talking about lunches and family meals.
00:01:58: Christopher transitions into discussing research about shared meals and their importance in making people happier.
00:02:20: Brie discusses the global research findings that shared meals, such as lunch, contribute significantly to happiness and well-being.
00:03:29: Christopher asks about the specific benefits of eating together for children, such as reduced anxiety and improved academic performance.
00:03:50: Bri affirms the benefits and elaborates on how shared meals positively impact children's mental health and educational outcomes.
00:05:35: Discussion about introducing vocabulary and literacy through shared meals, emphasizing the benefits of exposing children to novel words.
00:06:13: Transition to the practicalities of packing lunches, with Bri providing simple strategies for meal prep.
00:06:29: Bri advises that lunch preparation need not be elaborate, focusing on what children will enjoy and eat easily.
00:08:39: Discussion about the sensory and social challenges children face during school lunches and tips on mitigating them.
00:09:55: Advice on simplifying school lunches and helping children manage lunchtime stressors with an introduction to self-reliance in meal preparation.
00:13:02: Encouragement for parents to involve children in packing their lunches to foster independence.
00:15:35: Christopher and Bri discuss dinner leftovers as a resourceful way to prepare lunches, offering creative ideas.
00:19:36: Christopher concludes the episode, encouraging families to eat together more frequently and highlighting resources like the Family Dinner Project.

Key Takeaways

• Shared meals, whether breakfast, lunch, or dinner, contribute significantly to individual happiness and family bonding.
• Family meals improve children's mental health, reduce risky behaviors, and enhance academic performance.
• Encouraging children to participate in meal preparation fosters independence and builds self-reliance from a young age.
• Incorporating literacy and vocabulary into mealtime conversations can bolster children's early literacy skills.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Sharing meals with others makes you a happier person, even more so than employment or health status."- Bri DeRosa
• "Eating with your kids boosts their early literacy skills and reading scores even more than reading to them." - Bri DeRosa
• "Don't be afraid to give kids responsibility in packing their own lunches; it builds self-reliance and independence." - Bri DeRosa

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Raising a Happy and Thriving Only Child

In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins and guest Rebecca Greene, a mental health therapist, delve into the complexities of raising an only child. Rebecca shares insights from her book "One and Done: The Guide to Raising a Happy and Thriving Only Child," addressing common concerns such as loneliness, social skills, and the pressures on an only child. The discussion covers the importance of socialization, balancing extracurricular activities, and the significance of finding solitude over loneliness. The conversation also touches on the positive perspectives of adult only children, emphasizing that a single-child family can indeed thrive.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and host Christopher Robbins, discussion on family and
relationships.
00:01:12: Guest introduction, Rebecca Greene, her background, books, and focus on one-child families.
00:02:19: Host's perspective on being an only child and having nine children; introduction to common concerns of raising an only child.
00:02:50: Discussion on concerns like loneliness, selfishness, social skills, and future caregiving
responsibilities of an only child.
00:04:15: In-depth discussion on the myth of the "lonely only" and the findings that only children are not lonelier than those with siblings.
00:05:54: Suggestions for parents on how to reduce loneliness via early socialization and engaging in extracurricular activities.
00:07:17: Benefits of team sports and activities as tools for building family-like relationships outside of school for only children.
00:08:31: Exploring the difference between solitude and loneliness; red flags indicating loneliness in only children.
00:11:18: Tips on avoiding overscheduling and ensuring a balance between structured activities and free play.
00:13:57: Importance of mental respite and moments of creativity found in unstructured time.
00:14:39: decision factors for having one child and insight into therapy for processing this decision.
00:16:18: Positive feedback from adult only children on their childhood experiences and benefits.
00:17:51: Finding happiness in any family structure and information on where to find Rebecca Greene's work.

Key Takeaways

• The stereotype of the "lonely only" is largely unfounded, with research indicating no significant difference in loneliness between only children and those with siblings.
• Early socialization and participation in extracurricular activities can significantly benefit an only child, reducing feelings of loneliness and improving social skills.
• A balance between structured activities and free play is crucial for children's development, avoiding potential overscheduling and allowing for creativity.
• Parents of only children should be attentive to signs of loneliness and should actively create opportunities for social engagement.
• Many adult only children reflect positively on their childhood experiences, enjoying the benefits of being the sole focus of their parents' attention.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Research shows only children are no more lonely than children with siblings." - Rebecca Greene
• "Socialization and team activities are key to reducing loneliness in only children." - Rebecca Greene
• "The difference between solitude and loneliness is crucial for a child's development." - Rebecca Greene
• "Finding balance in structured activities and free play is essential." - Rebecca Greene
• "Many adult only children cherish the unique benefits of their upbringing." - Rebecca Greene

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The Ten Habits of Happy Families

The podcast episode, introduced by Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius, focuses on the 10 habits of a happy family. Christopher shares a personal story about his grandfather's influence on his understanding of habits and character. The episode dives into the essential family habits like eating, healing, laughing, learning, loving, playing, reading, talking, working, and giving together, emphasizing their impact on building a successful, happy family environment.

Christopher also highlights the importance of serving others, especially during challenging times like the COVID pandemic, to cultivate happiness and improve social connections within families.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher welcomes listeners to the Familius Weekly podcast and explains the
motivation behind the podcast's focus on family habits.
00:01:06: Christopher recounts a memorable vacation with his grandfather and shares a favorite quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, emphasizing the importance of thoughts and habits in shaping character and destiny.
00:02:02: Christopher discusses the challenges and realities of family life, recognizing happiness and sadness as part of existence and the role of habits in maintaining a happy family.
00:02:55: The first habit discussed is "Eat Together," highlighting the benefits of family meals, including reduced risk of eating disorders and improved self-esteem.
00:03:47: "Heal Together" is introduced as a family habit, focusing on the importance of collective healing through support and kindness during difficult times.
00:04:46: "Laugh Together" is covered, illustrating the health benefits of laughter, such as increased resilience and creativity, and its role in alleviating family stress.
00:05:50: "Learn Together" highlights the lifelong benefits of collective learning, promoting curiosity and expanding knowledge within the family unit.
00:06:47: "Read Together" discusses bonding through reading, citing personal family experiences and the benefits of improved vocabulary and life lessons.
00:07:42: "Talk Together" emphasizes effective communication as fundamental to building trust and resolving issues within the family.
00:08:41: "Work Together" advocates for collaborative efforts in family projects to instill perseverance and character-building.
00:09:35: "Give Together" explores the happiness derived from serving others and how contributing to the well-being of others positively affects family dynamics and personal fulfillment.

Key Takeaways

• The foundation of a happy family lies in cultivating positive habits that foster love, communication, and collaboration.
• Engaging in activities such as shared meals, laughter, and communal learning strengthens family bonds and improves individual well-being.
• Serving others as a family not only enhances social connections but also instills a sense of purpose and collective joy.
• Balancing work and play and maintaining open communication are critical to handling family challenges effectively.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Sow a thought and you reap an action. Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit, and you reap a character; sow a character, and you reap a destiny." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
• "The family who eats together stays together." - Christopher Robbins
• "We work to fall in love, but without work, we can fall out of love." - Christopher Robbins
• "Losing ourselves in the service of others makes us happy and improves our outlook." - Christopher Robbins

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Better Family Photos with Matt Payne

This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast is hosted by Christopher Robbins and features guest Matt Payne, a professional landscape photographer from Colorado. They discuss the intersection of photography, family experiences, and nature, with insights into making photography an integral part of family moments. They explore how to capture authentic family moments, overcome children's reluctance to engage with nature, and create a mindful connection with the outdoors. Matt also shares his insights on the importance of creativity in
photography and preparing to publish a book focused on Colorado's natural beauty.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and today's guest, Matt Payne, with a brief overview of his
background and achievements.
00:01:17: Matt's work and passions are discussed, emphasizing his advocacy for family and children engagement in nature.
00:02:02: Conversation on the challenges and joys of parenting, especially with a large family, with humor and personal anecdotes.
00:02:49: Matt explains how his early experiences in nature influenced his passion for photography and shaped his values and ethics.
00:04:06: Discussion of a childhood memory that underscores the powerful lessons of respect and reverence for nature.
00:06:13: Advice on focusing on capturing authentic family experiences in photography rather than technical details.
00:08:19: The value of capturing candid life moments rather than staged photos is discussed.
00:09:42: Strategies for encouraging children to enjoy outdoor activities and engage with nature.
00:11:34: Use of phones for both entertainment and photography in natural settings as a tool for
engagement is suggested.
00:12:36: Nature as an analogy for parenting and as a source of lessons and inspiration.
00:14:27: Opportunities for photography in everyday settings right outside one's front door are
encouraged.00:15:38: Tips for improving photography by focusing on creativity and dismissing negative self-
perceptions.

00:16:46: Starting photography with a smartphone as a practical first step for beginners.
00:17:31: Discussion of Matt's upcoming book celebrating Colorado's awe-inspiring landscapes.
00:18:21: Closing remarks with information on where to find more about Matt Payne's work online.

Key Takeaways

• Photography is about capturing the essence of experiences and emotions, not just technical perfection.
• Encouraging children to engage with nature can start with simple, fun activities, linking interests like photography and creativity.
• Allowing children to make mistakes and learn from their experiences outdoors is crucial for developing independence and problem-solving skills.
• Great photographs can arise from capturing everyday life moments and authentic interactions, not just grand, planned photo shoots.
• Using a smartphone camera can be an excellent way to start exploring photography without a major investment.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Focus on celebrating those experiences and those magical moments you have with people that you love." - Matt Payne
• "Nature is an amazing place but it's also a dangerous place and you need to give it respect." - Matt Payne
• "Let nature be a good teacher and let people make mistakes. You're gonna learn a lot faster from them than just preventing the mistake." - Matt Payne
• "Nature is providing pretty much everywhere, even in your own backyard, with bugs and plants and weird things you find under nooks and crannies." - Matt Payne

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A Couple's Guide to Happy Retirement and Aging

The Helping Families Be Happy podcast, hosted by Christopher Robbins, features Dr. Sara Yogev, an experienced clinical psychologist. They discuss the effects of retirement on personal identity and relationships, emphasizing psychological and emotional preparation in addition to financial planning. Dr. Yogev highlights the common issues retirees face, such as changes in relationship dynamics, communication challenges, and the need for meaningful engagement in retirement. Key strategies for maintaining healthy relationships include open communication, understanding, and compromise.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, hosted by Christopher Robbins, highlighting its focus on family, love, and relationships.
00:01:19: Introduction of guest Dr. Sara Yogev, her background as a clinical psychologist, and work on dual-career couples and retirement.
00:02:12: Discussion on the topic of gray divorce and how divorce rates have increased for those over age 50.
00:02:28: Introduction of personal anecdotes, noting changes in family dynamics as children leave home.
00:02:53: Exploration of how retirement affects relationships and the importance of psychological and emotional preparation.

00:04:30: Discussion on the individual impact of retirement and the necessity to find a new purpose post- retirement.

00:07:00: Emphasis on preparing psychologically for retirement and planning how to spend time during this stage of life.
00:08:24: Analysis of retirement’s impact on marital relationships and the need to renegotiate time spent together and apart.
00:10:19: Importance of maintaining good communication to navigate retirement transitions.
00:12:45: Negotiating time with friends and family as another domain of focus during retirement.
00:14:06: Potential issues related to division of household work post-retirement.
00:16:15: Discussion on changing financial dynamics and spending habits in retirement.
00:18:21: Highlight of real-life examples where expectations differed within retirement plans.
00:19:07: Importance of successful communication, listening, and understanding in retirement
relationships.
00:22:40: The potential beneficial role of therapy in retirement for better communication and relationship management.
00:23:13: Personal insights from Dr. Yogev on her own experiences with retirement negotiations.
00:23:41: Conclusion with advice on the importance of flexibility and continuously adapting within
relationships.

Key Takeaways

• Psychological and emotional preparation are as crucial as financial planning for retirement.
  Retirement can drastically change relationship dynamics, requiring open communication and renegotiation of roles.
• Finding a purpose post-retirement is vital to maintaining mental health and personal fulfillment.
• Therapy can be a valuable tool for couples to navigate the challenges of retirement successfully.

Tweetable Quotes

• "It's important to prepare not just financially, but psychologically and emotionally for retirement." - Dr. Sara Yogev
• "In retirement, find a reason to get up in the morning to feel more fulfilled." - Dr. Sarah Yogev
• "Good communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, especially in retirement." - Dr. Sara Yogev
• "Remain flexible; the dynamic of your relationship will evolve as you navigate retirement together." - Dr. Sara Yogev

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What You Need to Know if You Live Abroad with Melissa Dalton Bradford

This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast features Christopher Robbins in conversation with Melissa Dalton Bradford. Melissa, an experienced global citizen, shares insights into the intricacies of living abroad and raising a family across multiple countries. They discuss practical aspects such as learning the local language, understanding legal regulations, education options for children, and the emotional impact of frequent relocations. Melissa reflects on the personal growth and resilience developed through her family's international experiences, while also acknowledging some challenges and solutions learned along the way.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and host, Christopher Robbins.
00:00:41: Introduction of guest, Melissa Dalton Bradford, and her background.
00:02:02: Melissa talks about adjusting to Germany's weather and nature.
00:03:22: Discussion on the importance of learning the local language for integration.
00:04:18: Overview of the countries Melissa's family has lived in and the languages they speak.
00:06:40: Challenges and considerations of living abroad with children.
00:10:23: First experiences of moving internationally and encountering language barriers.
00:15:19: Strategies for helping children adapt to new school systems and environments.
00:21:55: Considerations for deciding the duration of living abroad and integration level.
00:24:40: Necessity of healthcare coverage and other financial aspects for expatriates.
00:25:08: Personal reflections on the benefits and challenges of living abroad.
00:29:59: Information on where to find Melissa Bradley online.

Key Takeaways

• Learning the local language is crucial for true cultural integration and building meaningful connections.
• Research legal regulations, health care requirements, and residency permits before moving abroad.
• Understand educational options for children to ensure their smooth transition and academic success.
• Balance commitment to new cultures with maintaining psychological stability for children and adults.

Tweetable Quotes

• "You can get by in English, but you can't get in." - Melissa Dalton Bradford
• "For every author, there's never enough publicity and the royalty checks are never large enough." -Christopher Robbins
• "I know how to make this work. I'm gonna make it work." - Melissa Dalton Bradford

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The Nature of Color with Kimberly Collins Jermain

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins introduces Kimberly Collins Jermain, a painter, teacher, and architectural color designer. They discuss Kimberly's new book, "The Nature of Color," which serves as a field guide for exploring color in the natural world. The conversation delves into the science of how humans perceive color, differences in color perception between men and women, and the emotional and relational impact of color. Kimberly emphasizes the importance of being outdoors to truly appreciate and learn from nature's palette.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and Christopher Robbins.
00:00:10: Christopher introduces guest Kimberly Collins Jermain and her work as a painter, teacher, and author focused on color.
00:02:03: Kimberly shares her journey of creating a more engaging approach to color theory for her students.
00:03:09: Discussion on how humans perceive color through the eyes' rods and cones.
00:04:44: Differences in color perception between men and women are explored.
00:06:01: Understanding that individuals may perceive the same color differently and its impact on art and architecture.
00:07:15: How color influences mood and family dynamics is discussed.
00:09:06: Kimberly explains why nature is crucial for learning about color.
00:10:07: Insight into using "The Nature of Color" book as a field guide for personal exploration in nature.
00:11:41: Kimberly's approach to appreciating different artists and how personal interests guide artistic exploration.
00:13:02: Christopher shares his admiration for Van Gogh's unique painting style and its possible origins.
00:14:48: Kimberly's hopes for what readers will gain from her book.
00:16:45: Discussion on experiencing vibrant fall colors and the natural world.
00:17:00: Encouragement to engage with nature and use the book as a simple guide.
00:17:32: Kimberly provides information on where to find her work online.
00:17:55: Conclusion encouraging subscription to the podcast and exploring books from Familius.

Key Takeaways

• The perception of color is subjective and can vary between individuals, genders, and environments.
• Nature serves as a rich, diverse palette that can teach us about color theory and its application in our lives.
• Color significantly affects human emotions and should be consciously used in personal and architectural spaces.
• Kimberly's field guide offers a practical method for documenting and understanding color experiences in nature.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Nature is the source for everything, and that's where we learn the most about what's important to us as humans in this great cosmos." – Kimberly Collins Jermain
• "Explore outdoors and find where your interests lie and how color makes those interests more lively and important to you." – Kimberly Collins Jermain
• "It doesn't really have to be called a hike if you don't wanna call it a hike. Just find ways to enjoy using the resources that we have in our environment." – Kimberly Collins Jermain

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How to Connect with Family When on the Road

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Brian Brown about parenting on the road while maintaining a full-time job. Brian shares his experiences and strategies for staying connected with his family despite travels that take him away from home. The discussion covers the importance of genuine communication, creating traditions such as collecting books from different locations, and involving children in understanding the parent's work life. Listeners will find valuable insights on nurturing relationships with their children while balancing professional commitments.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and guest, Brian Brown, and the focus on parenting while working full-time away from home.

00:01:42: Brian expresses pleasure in participating and remarks on the importance of being real to maintain family connections.

00:01:46: Exploring how to be an engaged and loving parent even when miles apart by prioritizing real and honest communication.

00:03:09: Brian discusses making proactive efforts to call at times that are suited to his and his daughter's schedules, reflecting prioritization.

00:04:17: Introduction to the power of parental gifts, with focus on tangible and intangible gifts, and Brian's book collection tradition.

00:05:09: Brian describes his tradition of buying children's books from local bookstores worldwide during his travels.

00:07:21: Encouraging children to appreciate the parent's work life by involving them in meaningful conversations and sharing experiences.

00:08:07: Engaging children in genuine conversations by asking specific questions that elicit better and more extensive responses.

00:09:59: Host Christopher Robbins summarizes the recommendations and invites listeners to connect with Brian on LinkedIn.

00:10:21: Closing comments thanking participants and encouraging listeners to explore literature to engage families and improve happiness.

Key Takeaways

Prioritizing real and honest communication builds stronger connections with family members even when physically apart.

Being proactive in scheduling calls during travel demonstrates prioritizing family over work engagements. Creating a tradition, such as collecting local books, can reinforce thoughtful engagement with family while providing meaningful memories.

Encouraging genuine conversations through specific questions helps build deeper relationships and better understanding between parents and children.

Involving children in understanding the parent's work life can lead to increased appreciation and engagement in both lives.

Tweetable Quotes

"Being real in our conversations often builds the bridge back home, no matter how far the distance."

"A simple book from the road, with memories inscribed, can connect us back to those we cherish the most."

"Ask your kids something specific about their day—it's where the true stories unfold." "Quality time is less about where you are and more about where your heart is."

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How to Name Your Little All Star with Scott Rubin

In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Adina Oberman welcomes guest Scott Rubin, an author and toy collector. Scott discusses how his journey into writing baby naming books began with personal experiences during his wife’s pregnancy. The conversation focuses on his books "Naming Your Little Geek" and "Naming Your Little All-Star," which cater to parents interested in names related to geek culture and sports, respectively. Scott shares the process and extensive research involved in creating these thematic naming books, highlighting inspiring stories behind some names.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, hosted by Adina Oberman, and guest intro of Scott Rubin.

00:01:22: Scott expresses his excitement to be part of the podcast.

00:01:24: Discussion on Scott's journey and process behind creating his books on baby names inspired by geek culture and athletes.

00:03:37: Insight into Scott's love for research and extensive process in compiling names for his books.

00:04:45: Exploration of unique names and stories about athletes from around the world, including those in Paralympics and eSports.

00:07:00: Enriching stories about athletes like Chuck Vinci and the journey behind their names.

00:09:53: The contrast between mainstream athletes like Tiger Woods and the discoveries made about lesser-known athletes.

00:12:12: Scott talks about different social perceptions of naming and its uniqueness, and his approach to naming his own children.

00:15:15: Adina shares a powerful message from a children's book about the significance of personal names.

00:16:27: Details on how to connect with Scott Rubin via social media.

00:16:59: Closing remarks and thanks to Famis for supporting the podcast.

Key Takeaways

Baby names carry significant emotional weight and can reflect cultural, personal, or thematic values. Unique names can offer children individuality and a connection to their family's creativity and identity. Parents can benefit from exploring thematic naming books for deeper stories and meanings behind names. Comprehensive research enriches thematic books, offering insights into names beyond traditional lists.

Tweetable Quotes

"A name is a gift. When you get a gift, you can do whatever you want with it." – Scott Rubin

"For both of my children, I was like, you know what? I want to give them more options." – Scott Rubin

"If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky, they can learn how to say your name." – Adina Oberman

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Homesteading with Kids

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews author and homesteader Carolyn Bennett Fraiser. Carolyn shares her journey into modern-day homesteading, emphasizing the movement's focus on self-sustainability and healthy living. She talks about her new children's book, M is for Mason Jar: A Homesteading Alphabet , inspired by the principles of homesteading and the experiences of creating it. The conversation explores how families can incorporate homesteading practices into their lives, no matter their living situation, and discusses the broader messages of lifestyle reflection and education conveyed through her book.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and guest Carolyn Bennett Fraiser, who is a homesteader and author.

00:01:12: Explanation of modern-day homesteading and its distinction from pioneer homesteading.

00:02:09: Carolyn shares her personal journey into homesteading, initially sparked by health issues.

00:03:35: The inception of Carolyn's children's book during the COVID pandemic as a challenge from her husband.

00:05:14: Discussion of the various applications of homesteading and the importance of self sustainability for families.

00:08:44: Carolyn emphasizes that homesteading is a family activity involving every member.

00:09:27: The book aims to introduce children to homesteading concepts and serve as a resource for families.

00:12:19: Carolyn hopes the book inspires conversations within families about homesteading practices.

00:12:51: Information on where to find Carolyn's book and online presence.

Key Takeaways

Homesteading is adaptable and can be practiced in various environments, emphasizing self sustainability and healthy living.

Engagement and encouragement from family members can play a pivotal role in pursuing creative endeavors.

Homesteading can serve as an educational tool for children, introducing them to concepts of self-sufficiency and environmental care.

The book provides both a reflection for homesteading families and an educational window for those unfamiliar with the lifestyle.

Tweetable Quotes

"Modern day homesteading is more of a movement, a state of mind where we focus on living off the land and using our resources properly."

"Wherever you are, you can make it work on some level. It's just a matter of stepping in and trying it out."

"Homesteading really is kind of like a family activity. You just can't have one person in a house who's into homesteading and it doesn't involve everybody else."

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Book Banning with Jan Zauzmer

The podcast episode explores the topic of book banning and features guest author Jan Zomer discussing her new children's book, "Down with Lime Books." The book addresses the theme of censorship through a metaphorical story using lime-colored books. Jan shares her inspiration for writing the book, highlighting the surge in book banning attempts and her desire to present big civic topics to children in an engaging and educational manner. The conversation also delves into the creative process behind the book and its potential to foster meaningful discussions about freedom of expression.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest, Jan Zomer, discussing her book, "Down with Lime Books," which addresses book banning using lime-colored books as a metaphor.

00:01:20: Jan Zauzmer shares the inspiration behind her book and the theme of book banning, aiming to raise awareness among children about the freedom to read.

00:02:06: Description of the book's story, where lime green books are removed by a town official, and children stand up for their right to read.

00:02:36: Jan explains the choice of the color lime for the book, highlighting its symbolism and appeal for children.

00:04:02: Discussion of the book’s symbols, including Paige's megaphone and the power of youth to make their voices heard.

00:05:13: Jan describes a favorite scene, highlighting the importance of civic participation and the creative process involved in writing the book.

00:07:02: The book's relevance to current discussions on book banning, its timeless themes, and efforts to document bans by organizations.

00:09:34: Jan expresses her hopes for the book's impact on children, encouraging them to cherish and protect the freedom to read.

00:11:00: Insights into Jan’s research process, including reading reports and articles on book banning and censorship.

00:13:18: Jan shares her journey to becoming a children's book author, emphasizing her goals to introduce important societal topics to children.

00:15:21: Jan acknowledges her team and family for their support, concluding with hopes for the book's success and impact.

Key Takeaways

Children can be introduced to serious topics like censorship through engaging stories that incorporate symbolism and metaphors.

Rising book banning highlights the importance of freedom of expression, revealing an ongoing need for advocacy and awareness.

The collaborative effort in publishing, from writing to illustrations and marketing, plays a critical role in bringing a book to life.

Fostering conversations about book bans and civic participation can empower both children and adults to stand up for their rights.

Tweetable Quotes

"Will the kids take a stand when the line books are banned?" - Jan Zauzmer

"I want the kids in the real world to grow up to celebrate and protect books from those who would snatch them." - Jan Zauzmer

"Book banning is nothing new. Censorship dates back hundreds of years." - Zauzmer

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Earth Rover Mission with Taylor Woolley

In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman chats with Taylor Woolley, an author and illustrator based in Atlanta, Georgia. They discuss Taylor's book, "Earth Rover," which is inspired by her late mini dachshund, Snoopy, and explores themes of S.T.E.M through imagination and storytelling. Taylor shares the creative process behind her story and its alignment with themes of dreaming big, perseverance, and challenging stereotypes. Additionally, she announces her upcoming work "Birthday Bash" and invites listeners to connect with her through her website and social media.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and special guest Taylor Woolley, discussing her background and the inspiration behind her work.

00:01:28: Taylor expresses enthusiasm about being a guest on the podcast.

00:01:30: Query on the origin of "Earth Rover" and the influence of dogs on Taylor's storytelling.

00:01:46: Taylor recounts the inspiration derived from her late dog, Snoopy, and how it led to the creation of Rover's character.

00:02:54: The story of Rover and the creative process behind his character evolution. 00:03:33: Discussion on familial support and dedication during the book's production phase.

00:04:08: Observations on how the book reflects Taylor's passion, leading to intriguing storytelling.

00:05:03: Insights into S.T.E.M importance in storytelling and the significance of role models in various professions.

00:06:04: The book's underlying message on assumptions, perceptions, and the limitless possibilities for dreamers.

00:07:27: Creative process in blending pet ownership with the imaginative exploration of space.

00:08:27: Impact of real-world events on creative storytelling and Taylor's thoughts on narrative inspiration.

00:08:57: Announcement of Taylor's new book, "Birthday Bash," and her enthusiasm for upcoming projects.

00:09:23: Final engagement techniques and how listeners can connect with Taylor. 00:09:45: Information on where to purchase "Earth Rover" and concluding remarks. 00:09:57: Closing, appreciation for listeners, and encouragement for further engagement.

Key Takeaways

The importance of combining personal experiences with creativity to inspire storytelling. The value of exploring STEM topics through imaginative and relatable narratives. Encouragement for young audiences to dream big and challenge traditional roles and assumptions.

The influence of real-world events on creative inspiration and storytelling.

Tweetable Quotes

"Dream big regardless of whether you can see somebody else in that situation already." -Taylor Woolley

"Just because somebody doesn't look like you in the role currently doesn't mean that you should dream smaller." -Taylor Woolley

"Imagination knows no bounds, especially when your storytelling is inspired by a special companion." -Adina Oberman

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Four Walks in Central Park with Aaron Poochigian

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins engages in a conversation with Aaron Poochigian, a poet and classicist, about his new book "Four Walks in Central Park." The book is notable for its unique genre, a poetic guidebook to Central Park, a renowned urban park in Manhattan. The conversation delves into the historical significance of Central Park, its planning and construction phases, as well as the park's evolution over time. Aaron also shares insights into the discipline of didactic poetry and how it can serve as an instructional yet engaging form of literature.

Listeners can explore the intricacies of Central Park and its details through Aaron's poetic depiction, which aims to provide an immersive experience akin to experiencing the park itself.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and guest Aaron Poochigian, discussing family, love, relationships, and Aaron's credentials and upcoming book.
00:01:52: Aaron thanks for being on the show and notes the rainy weather in New York.
00:02:01: Conversation on being on different coasts and the benefits of technology for
communication.
00:02:14: Aaron provides a brief history of Central Park, its origins, and important figures like Frederick Olmsted.
00:03:32: Details on the landscape design competition and the contributions of Olmsted and Calvert Vaux.
00:04:45: Discussion of Seneca Village and the transformation of the area for Central Park.
00:05:49: Exploration of the theme of artificial nature and the park's construction process.
00:06:42: Explanation of what constitutes a "landscaped park."
00:07:50: Details on the creation and design elements of Central Park, like the reservoirs and drainage systems.
00:08:28: Mention of the park's completion and opening, including the establishment of the zoo.
00:09:10: Conversation about Central Park's decline in the past and its revitalization in the
1980s.
00:10:11: Historical context on the park's periods of decline and renovation.
00:10:52: The role of the Central Park Conservancy in park maintenance.
00:11:56: Introduction to Aaron's book and the concept of a guidebook in poetic form.
00:12:56: Aaron explains why he chose poetry as the medium for his guidebook.
00:13:41: Discussion of how poetry helps avoid rambling and focuses on sensory details.
00:14:25: Inspiration behind creating a poetic guidebook to Central Park.
00:15:27: Connection to ancient didactic poetry and the revival of the genre.
00:17:04: The importance of new poetry genres and Aaron’s contribution.
00:17:54: Linking Japanese forest bathing with Central Park and Aaron's book.
00:19:39: Aaron's favorite place in Central Park—The Delacorte Theater.
00:20:27: Discussion of Central Park's ongoing construction and renovation projects.
00:21:26: Conclusion of the episode with information on where to find Aaron and purchase the book.

Key Takeaways

• Didactic poetry offers a unique method of storytelling and education, merging immersive sensory details with instructional content.
• Central Park’s creation was a monumental task involving transformation of undesirable land into a vibrant urban oasis.
• The park’s history of decline and rejuvenation underscores the importance of conservation efforts and community involvement.
• Mindfulness and intentionality, akin to Shinrin-yoku, can offer substantial wellness benefits and enhance one's experiential quality of life.

Tweetable Quotes

• "In the poetry, where I hope the poem will be immersive, that's where Shin Rin Yoku comes in." – Aaron Poochigian.
• "Poetry serves its purpose well, in the book for a number of reasons...I wanted the book to be an immersive experience." – Aaron Poochigian.
• "Central Park is like a giant birthday cake where nature is the icing on it." – Aaron Poochigian.
• "Didactic poetry serves to teach but in a beautiful, enduring way." – Aaron Poochigian.
• "There's a lot of construction in Central Park right now... it's like Manhattan, forever under construction." – Aaron Poochigian.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, the host, Adina Oberman, is joined by Aly Romero, a private chef and cookbook author. Aly shares insights into her culinary journey and the inspiration behind her cookbook, "Gas Fire Heat," particularly her passion for outdoor cooking.

The conversation highlights her experiences and techniques with grilling, smoking, and griddling, encouraging listeners to explore these as enjoyable family and social activities. Additionally, Aly discusses her collaboration with Traeger and provides a glimpse into her upcoming book, set for release in 2026.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and today's guest, Aly Romero, a chef and cookbook author, focusing on her culinary background and experience.
00:01:11: Discussion about outdoor cooking with a focus on grilling and smoking, and an introduction to Aly's first book, "Gas Fire Heat."
00:02:04: Insight into the philosophy of taking traditional barbecue to a new level with cultural and flavor enhancements.
00:02:43: Aly's inspiration for outdoor cooking, emphasizing family engagement and lifestyle experience.
00:04:16: Tips for newcomers to grilling, leveraging familiarity with indoor cooking techniques outside.
00:05:41: Introduction to Aly's upcoming projects and her unique approach, including influences from diverse cuisines due to extensive travel and personal cultural connections.
00:07:31: Explanation of griddling techniques and how they can expand outdoor cooking potential beyond traditional methods.
00:09:19: Sneak peek into Aly's new cookbook, highlighting creative uses and practical cooking tips.
00:11:08: Aly's work with Traeger and the enriching experience at the Traeger Summit, showcasing communal passion for food.
00:14:07: Reflection on the versatility and practicality of her cookbook as a gift for occasions like Mother's and Father's Day.
00:15:08: Information on how listeners can follow Aly Romero online and access further cooking resources.
00:16:12: Conclusion of the podcast episode, mentioning the publishing timeline of Aly's upcoming book.

Key Takeaways

• Outdoor cooking can seamlessly integrate into family life, creating enjoyable and interactive meal preparations.
• Grilling doesn't have to be complex and can draw from familiar indoor cooking skills to provide a new dimension to culinary experiences.
• Embracing a wide variety of cultural influences can revitalize traditional barbecue dishes, adding unique flavors and techniques.
• Community and common love for food foster exceptional learning and sharing experiences, as exemplified by Aly's experience with Traeger.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Anything you can cook inside, you can cook outside.”
  “Take the cooking out of being a chore and make it more of a lifestyle experience.”
• “Grilling is not rocket science; it opens a whole new world of being together outdoors.”
  “There's always something new to learn when it comes to authentic ways of cooking.”
  “Food brings everybody together from all walks of life.”

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In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman converses with Melissa T. Shultz, discussing her latest children's book, "What Will I Do if I Miss You." Melissa shares intimate details about the inspiration behind the book arising from a heartfelt moment with her son, Alex, and how it serves as a valuable tool for empowering children during transitions such as starting school. They further explore strategies on introducing this comforting technique to children and how it aids in managing concerns related to separation from parents. Both the guest and the host emphasize the importance of parent-child communication in helping children adapt confidently to new experiences.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and hosting guest Melissa T. Shultz.
00:01:26: Melissa expresses her delight in joining the podcast.
00:01:28: Discussion on how Melissa’s book "What will I do if I Miss You" is relevant to families preparing for school.
00:01:46: Melissa explains the true story and inspiration behind her book, involving her son Alex’s feelings about starting school.
00:02:50: The concept of feeling connected through a heart-beating technique is introduced as a comforting tool.
00:03:08: Adina praises the book scene that resonates with parents experiencing separation from their children.
00:04:04: Conversation continues on how Melissa invented the method of using heartbeats to connect with her son.
00:05:01: Melissa reflects on parenting and the shared strategy between parents for new experiences.
00:05:58: Adina appreciates Melissa's approach and relates it to preschool teaching experiences.
00:06:46: Adina shares a personal experience with teaching transition strategies to children.
00:08:06: Highlighting the role of the book as a recurring tool for varying life transitions in children.
00:09:05: Melissa shares how communication with teachers can be helpful to support the child's transition.
00:09:50: Emphasizing the importance of normalizing and verbalizing worries to children.
00:10:46: The practice of reminding children about their parents’ presence during challenging transitions is discussed.
00:11:54: The story about Alex's adaptation to school using the signal technique is shared.
00:12:30: Adina highlights the value of special jobs and visits to classrooms to ease children into new environments.
00:14:07: Introductory moments for discussing new experiences and transitions with children are suggested.
00:15:14: Melissa shares tips to introduce comforting methods to children in a relaxed space.
00:18:02: Melissa discusses holding meaningful late-night conversations with her sons.
00:19:28: Melissa provides information on where listeners can find her work online.
00:19:59: Concluding the podcast with thanks and an invitation to join future book adventures with Familius.

Key Takeaways

• Using simple, comforting techniques like feeling a heartbeat can ease children’s worries during transitions such as starting school.
• Communication with educators about your child’s strategies can beneficially support their adaptation process.
• Creating safe, calming spaces for children to express their feelings can strengthen parent-child relationships.
• Emphasizing clear communication and acknowledgment of children's emotions can empower them in challenging situations.

Shareable Quotes

• "Even if Alex had not said anything to me about being worried, I think you don't know what your child's going to feel like when they approach the school." - Melissa T. Shultz
• "I remember saying to Alex, 'I felt you, I got your signal, did you get my signal back?' And so it was kind of playing along with that." - Melissa T. Shultz
• "The book serves as a valuable tool for empowering children during transitions such as beginning school." - Adina Oberman

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In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, host and co-founder of Familius Publishing, converses with author Kelly Bennett. They delve into Bennett's book "Out of the Mouth of Babe," which explores the life and legacy of baseball legend Babe Ruth.

The discussion covers Ruth's early life challenges and his indelible impact on baseball and popular culture. Bennett shares anecdotes and quotes from Ruth, illustrating how his character and achievements offer valuable lessons in perseverance, teamwork, and positivity. The episode highlights how understanding Ruth's history can inspire both children and adults today.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and Kelly Bennett's background as a writer and her fascination with Babe Ruth's legacy.
00:01:13: Description of Kelly's career and personal interests, including her MFA and lifelong love for storytelling and baseball.
00:02:25: Discussion on Kelly's four grandsons and their baseball activities, emphasizing that baseball is a major part of their lives.
00:04:02: Insight into Babe Ruth's early life, highlighting his upbringing in an orphanage and the
challenges he overcame.
00:05:17: Kelly discusses how Ruth's passion for sports and perseverance led him to greatness, despite a difficult start in life.
00:07:03: Introduction of quotes from Babe Ruth reflecting his understanding of teamwork and life
lessons.
00:08:07: Discussion of Babe's articulate nature and ability to inspire teammates and the public with his words.
00:10:01: Kelly talks about Ruth's status as the first superstar athlete and how he became a cultural icon.
00:12:18: The story of Babe Ruth's kindness and genuine enjoyment in mingling with fans and children.
00:13:30: Anecdote about Ruth's interaction with a young boy, Ray Kelly, proving his positive influence on kids.
00:16:23: Closing thoughts on Babe Ruth's enduring legacy, the release of Bennett's book, and her blog for further engagement.

Key Takeaways

• Babe Ruth overcame significant childhood adversity, displaying resilience that propelled him to legendary status.
• Ruth's legacy is celebrated not only for his athletic accomplishments but also for his generosity and connection with fans.
• Understanding Babe Ruth's approach to life and baseball offers valuable lessons in perseverance and teamwork.
• The episode provides insight into how storytelling can capture the multifaceted nature of an iconic sports figure.

Shareable Quotes

• "A fellow has to have something besides curly hair about his shoulders. He's gotta know his onions." - Babe Ruth
• "You've gotta practice and practice and practice some more. That's all it is to baseball." -Babe Ruth
• "The greatest curveball in the world isn't worth a dime if you don't know what to do with it."
• • Babe Ruth

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Christopher Robbins, the founder of Familius. The discussion primarily revolves around stargazing, encouraging families to look up at the night sky, and immersing themselves in the wonders beyond our world. Christopher shares personal anecdotes and offers suggestions for engaging with space and astronomy. The episode also promotes some of Christopher's published works, including his latest book "Space Train," and provides resources for those keen to start their star-gazing journey.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and welcome to Christopher Robbins.
00:01:40: Christopher discusses the importance and joy of stargazing and putting down phones
to experience the universe.
00:02:04: Christopher shares a personal story about watching a meteor shower at Lake Powell.
00:02:57: Advice on putting down phones to enjoy and explore the night sky.
00:03:33: Challenges of disconnecting from phones and the impact of creating family memories
while stargazing.
00:04:23: Discussion on what is visible with the naked eye during stargazing.
00:05:19: Reflection on human history and navigation using stars like the North Star.
00:06:36: Explanation of visible planets and celestial bodies such as the Andromeda Galaxy.
00:07:37: The significance of understanding perspectives in the context of space.
00:08:40: Christopher's favorite galaxy and its significance.
00:09:25: Personal family experiences of stargazing and its impact.
00:10:14: Christopher's perspective on conservation in the context of space exploration.
00:10:37: Resources and tools for beginner stargazers, including online sites and apps.
00:13:13: Combining phone apps with naked eye stargazing for a hybrid experience.
00:13:41: Discussion about earthsky.org to check visibility and cloud cover for stargazing.
00:14:20: Christopher shares about visible Northern Lights and local stargazing opportunities.
00:14:41: Closing details about connecting with Christopher and finding his books online.
00:15:28: Promotion of other books related to space offered by Familius.

Key Takeaways

• Encourage family bonding and appreciation for the universe by engaging in stargazing.
  The importance of reducing screen time to engage with the real world and create lasting
  memories.
• Basic astronomical knowledge can be appreciated without fancy equipment; curiosity and
  initiative are key.
• Utilize online resources and apps to enhance the stargazing experience and educate further.
  Respect and conservation of our planet are emphasized through the perspective gained from
  space exploration.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Put down the phone, go outside and look up." - Christopher Robbins
• "Looking up at the stars, we're reminded of our place in the universe." - Adina Oberman
• "Curiosity is contagious, right?" - Christopher Robbins
• "We are on an island in the middle of the universe." - Christopher Robbins

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In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Adina Oberman converses with Megan Murphy, the founder of the Kindness Rocks Project and author of the children’s book "Kindness Rocks." Megan shares the impactful journey of her grassroots initiative which encourages spreading kindness through painted rocks, a project that has garnered global participation. They discuss the project's significance, how it beautifully intersects with art therapy and emotional healing, especially in times of trauma, and Megan’s personal experiences that shaped the project. The episode highlights the transformation possible through small acts of
kindness and the importance of being mindful of the environment while engaging in these activities.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and host Adina Oberman.
00:01:25: Guest Megan Murphy is introduced, highlighting her initiatives and works.
00:03:01: Megan Murphy expresses excitement about discussing her new book.
00:03:06: Megan describes the origin and personal motivations behind the Kindness Rocks Project.
00:05:29: The positive impact of the project on people is discussed, with personal stories shared.
00:09:06: Megan shares details and the intentions behind her children's book, "Kindness Rocks."
00:11:28: Discussion on how the project aids communities during traumatic events.
00:14:02: The importance of the Leave No Trace principle in relation to kindness rocks.
00:15:58: Key takeaways intended from the book "Kindness Rocks."
00:18:50: How listeners can connect with Megan Murphy and learn more about the project.
00:19:19: Conclusion of the podcast episode.

Key Takeaways

• The Kindness Rocks Project emphasizes spreading kindness through small, meaningful gestures.
• Art therapy and community engagement can aid in emotional healing, especially for children.
• The book "Kindness Rocks" serves as a conversational tool for discussing emotions and kindness with children.
• It’s important to practice environmental mindfulness with Leave No Trace when placing kindness rocks.

Shareable Quotes

• "One kindness rock at a time, we can make the world a happier place."
• "We never really know who's in need of kindness."
• "The essence of Kindness Rocks is treating everyone with kindness, not knowing what could be going on behind the scenes."
• "Focusing on happy little shiny moments in your day is really important."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Jessica Spear, an award-winning author, about the complexities of relationships, particularly among preteens and teens. They discuss how to handle situations where friendships suddenly turn difficult and offer guidance for parents helping their children navigate these challenging times.

Speer emphasizes the importance of empathy, co-regulation in emotional situations and offers valuable advice for maintaining and mending friendships even amidst differences. The episode also offers strategies for adults feeling isolated, highlighting the significance of close friendships and how to nurture them over time.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Jessica Spear, discussing her books and expertise in navigating friendships.
00:01:10: Jessica Spear describes her writing focus and educational background, framing the discussion on relationships.
00:01:51: Dialogue begins with a focus on the complexities and challenges of modern relationships in a divisive world.
00:03:11: Christopher shares a personal story about his daughter's upsetting experience with a friend.
00:04:05: Jessica offers advice on empathizing with children when friendships falter, emphasizing the learning nature of social skills.
00:06:11: Discussion on how stress and anxiety impact decision-making and the importance of calming techniques.
00:06:48: Role of parents in emotionally supporting children through co-regulation and healthy emotional management.
00:09:11: Introduction to another personal scenario about feeling isolated despite being friendly and outgoing.
00:10:24: Jessica explains that feelings of loneliness are common and offers strategies to help children find connections.
00:12:26: Christopher shares his method of maintaining lifelong friendships through regular, simple
gestures.
00:14:22: Addressing conflict within close relationships, Jessica discusses strategies for setting boundaries and apologies.
00:18:13: Jessica’s final thoughts include the importance of controlling our own actions in improving relationships.
00:19:18: Christopher concludes the podcast, providing information on where to find Jessica Spear's work and advice on nurturing friendships.

Key Takeaways

• Fostering emotional intelligence and empathy in children is crucial when they face friendship challenges.
• Close friendships are rare and valuable, and they require effort and understanding to maintain.
• Parents play a crucial role in co-regulating children's emotions and setting a calm example.
• Boundaries and effective apologies are key in repairing and maintaining strong relationships.
• Regular, thoughtful gestures can help sustain lifelong friendships.

Shareable Quotes

"We can only control ourselves, and there's so much we can do in any situation right now." – Jessica Spear
"Close friendships are hard to find, and that's perfectly normal." – Jessica Spear
"Help children recognize and manage big emotions when hard things happen." – Jessica Spear
"Remember, it's not what you said, but how you made them feel that people remember most." – Jessica
Spear
"Emotional intelligence can help in navigating the messy world of friendships and family dynamics." –Christopher Robbins

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews musician Tyler Hilton, discussing the intricacies of blending fatherhood with his musical career. Hilton reflects on his time as both a touring musician and an active dad, with a special focus on how the pandemic afforded him a unique bonding opportunity with his young children. The conversation delves into the inspiration and creative process behind his new children's book, "Daddy Live in Concert," emphasizing the special bond between parents and their children and the power of music in fostering this connection.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Host Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and presents Tyler Hilton as a guest.
00:01:19: Oberman elaborates on Hilton's background in music and acting, mentioning his roles and collaborations.
00:02:02: Hilton updates his bio to include the recent addition of his eight-month-old son, expressing the chaos and joy of early parenthood.
00:02:29: Discussion begins regarding Hilton's new book "Daddy Live in Concert" and its inception following the birth of his daughter Winnie.
00:03:34: Hilton shares the evolution of playing music for his children and the broader idea for connecting parents and kids through music.
00:04:28: The process of turning home concerts into live-streamed events during the pandemic is described.
00:05:39: Hilton candidly talks about his daughter’s changing reaction to his singing, highlighting phases of children’s growth.
00:06:20: Music’s impact on young minds is discussed, and Hilton mentions his son’s current enjoyment of his music.
00:07:01: Hilton explores similarities between playing music for different audiences — from hospital patients to children.
00:07:50: Oberman refers to another popular parenting tool, the show Bluey, for its lessons on imaginative play.
00:09:36: Hilton explains the book’s perspective from a child and the magical view children have of their parents’ abilities.
00:12:39: The conversation on how parents should embrace imaginative play ensues.
00:13:16: Hilton shares his strategy for creating a song list tailored to his children’s tastes for ease and engagement.
00:16:34: Oberman asks about Hilton’s upcoming children’s album and his current tour details.
00:17:22: Hilton talks about his worldwide tour and its focus on One Tree Hill music, along with hints at future kid’s album plans.
00:18:05: Discussion on the differences between performing for children and for other audiences.
00:18:25: Information is provided on how to follow Tyler Hilton and access his music and tour dates.
00:18:51: The episode concludes with gratitude towards Tyler Hilton and the hope for future collaborations.

Key Takeaways

• Parents don’t need to be professionals to entertain and engage with their children through music; it's about presence and enthusiasm.
• Encouraging imaginative play fosters a deep connection between parents and children and creates lasting memories.
• Music can bridge the gap in communication with young children, tapping into their emotional understanding.
• The perspective taken in "Daddy Live in Concert" highlights a child's view of their parents as heroes.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Music is so great for kids anyway, whether it's being played on a speaker, but when they hear it live... it's a soul thing." — Tyler Hilton
• "Kids are just looking for reasons to have fun and be silly or stupid with their parents." — Tyler Hilton
• "Parents are the coolest people in the room for only a short time. This book encapsulates that magic." — Tyler Hilton

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes Rebecca Fox Starr, a writer, therapist, and advocate dedicated to maternal mental health. They discuss Rebecca's new book, "Am I Doing This Right?" which is a unique choose-your-own-adventure book designed to help parents navigate the complexities of parenting with humor, actionable tips, and therapeutic tools. The episode emphasizes the importance of normalizing mental health struggles and setting boundaries, while also offering real-life applications of the skills provided in Rebecca's book.

Episode Highlights
00:00:00: Silence marks the beginning of the episode.
00:00:10: Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest
Rebecca Fox Starr.
00:01:54: Rebecca Fox Star expresses her pleasure at being on the podcast.
00:02:00: Adina delves into Rebecca's new book, asking for a summary of what readers can expect.
00:02:14: Rebecca describes her book as a choose-your-own-adventure guide helping parents cope with guilt through various stages of child-rearing.
00:03:29: Adina praises the book's balance of reality and social media pressures, and Rebecca shares avrelatable vignette from the book.
00:04:39: Adina and Rebecca discuss the ongoing challenges of parenting and the need for supportivevdialogue.
00:05:31: Rebecca highlights how perceptions on social media often don't reflect real struggles,
emphasizing the importance of normalizing these experiences.
00:06:48: Discussion on challenges evolving with children's growth, and how Rachel's book mirrors thisvevolution.
00:08:28: Rebecca shares practical tools from her book, such as DBT skills and boundary-setting, to help parents cope.
00:10:13: Rebecca emphasizes the inclusion of badges as rewards for achieving certain skills, drawing on personal experiences as inspiration.
00:11:42: The development process and personal anecdotes related to the book's vignettes are shared.
00:17:42: Adina appreciates Rebecca's authenticity and how the book's format allows for multiple readings with new insights each time.
00:19:58: Rebecca provides information on where listeners can follow her and learn more about her work.
00:20:01: Adina thanks Rebecca for her participation in the podcast.
00:20:03: The podcast closes with Adina acknowledging Familius for their support and inviting listeners to leave a review.

Key Takeaways

• The book “Am I Doing This Right?” aims to provide parents with tools to cope with parenting challenges
  across various stages of child development.
• Rebecca Fox Starr's book uses relatable vignettes and humor to tackle issues of parental guilt and self-perception.
• DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) skills are integrated into the book, focusing on emotional coping and boundary-setting.
• Parenting challenges evolve as children grow, and the book reflects these transitions through its progressively complex scenarios.
• Authenticity and sharing personal experiences are fundamental in helping normalize mental health struggles amongst parents.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Every choice in life can lead you to a place where you can cope, even if there are negative feelings." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "Everyone has their own story, and especially with mental health, almost everyone knows someone who is struggling." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "Bigger kids, different problems." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "The book aims to make heavy concepts more digestible through its unique format." - Rebecca Fox Starr.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman talks with Dr. Tamara Girardi about her work as an award-winning author focusing on children's literature. Tamara delves into her "Curious Cubs" series, celebrating childhood curiosity and encouraging young readers to embrace their natural inquiry. As both a parent and academic, she shares insights into the diminishing phenomenon of questioning as children age and offers strategies to nurture inquisitive minds. Additionally, Tamara discusses her personal balance between
professional endeavors, family life, and her observations as a college educator.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and host Adina Oberman.
00:01:43: Introduction to Dr. Tamara Girardi, her background, and books.
00:02:17: Tamara expresses gratitude for working with Familias on her book series.
00:02:34: Discussion on the "Curious Cubs" series, series for children and its themes.
00:02:50: Tamara highlights the origin and purpose of the "Curious Cubs" series inspired by her children.
00:03:45: The importance of including hugs in both books for their emotional impact.
00:05:31: Discussion on magical moments in children's literacy and reading together.
00:06:19: Challenges of writing a children's book due to the necessity of word precision.
00:07:26: An example question from the series inspired by Tamara's son.
00:08:49: Importance of understanding children's perspectives through books.
00:10:07: Encouraging children's questions and embracing their curiosity.
00:11:05: Decline in questioning as children age and the importance of inquiry in learning.
00:14:22: Strategies to keep children curious and engaged in questioning.
00:16:22: Introduction to the grandpa and grandma books in the "Curious Cubs" series.
00:17:08: Tamara's future projects, including nonfiction work and family activities.
00:20:44: Challenges as a college professor and developing student inquiry skills.
00:23:28: Balancing family life with writing and professional goals.
00:25:28: Information on how listeners can connect with Tamara Girardi online.
00:25:34: Closing remarks and gratitude from the host.

Key Takeaways

• The "Curious Cubs" series celebrates childhood curiosity and encourages children to ask questions.
• It’s essential to nurture an environment where questioning is appreciated to support cognitive
  development.
• Despite busy schedules, parents and educators should find time to engage with children's inquiries actively.
• Balancing personal, professional, and family duties is crucial for personal fulfillment and family happiness.

Shareable Quotes
"Nobody asks more questions than a 4-year-old."
"Questions really are the heart of inquiry and how we learn."
"Hugs carry so much power—they reduce stress and improve health."
"Celebrating childhood curiosity is paramount, especially in an overstimulated society."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Kristie Graves, author of the debut children's book "On the Night Before You Turn One." Graves shares her inspiration behind writing the book, which encapsulates the emotional journey every parent experiences as their baby turns one.

The conversation touches on the transitions of parenting, the significance of the first birthday as a milestone, and the dual emotions parents face watching their children grow. Graves also shares her personal connection to the book's illustrator, Gregorio De Lauretis, whose previous work she admired.

Episode Highlights
00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and the host, Adina Oberman.
00:01:25: Introduction of guest Kristie Graves, and her book "On the Night Before You Turn One."
00:01:45: Graves shares the inspiration and process behind writing her book.
00:03:05: Adina and Graves discuss the emotional experience of a child's first year.
00:04:36: The significance of celebrating a child's first birthday.
00:05:35: The message Graves hopes readers take from the book.
00:06:46: Discussion on the illustrations and the illustrator's role in capturing the book's emotions.
00:09:21: Graves’s connection to the illustrator’s previous work.
00:10:29: Graves discusses potential future projects and her current focus on family life.
00:11:02: Advice for parents approaching their child's first birthday.
00:12:55: Details on how to connect with Kristie Graves online.
00:13:23: Conclusion and thanks to Famis for supporting the podcast.

Key Takeaways

• The first birthday is a dual milestone celebrating both the child's growth and the parents' achievements.
• Balancing emotions and staying present can enhance the experience of parenting's early stages.
• Connecting personally with the book's creation can make it more meaningful for both the author and readers.
• The illustrations in children's books can significantly enhance the storytelling by capturing emotions vividly.
• Parents should cherish each moment with their children while looking forward to what lies ahead.

Shareable Quotes
"The first birthday is for mom and dad because you made it." - Adina Oberman
"A great big hug to share with other parents: I've been there too." - Kristie Graves
"You did it. Congratulations and there's more to come." - Kristie Graves

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes June Smalls, an author with a keen interest in honeybees. June discusses her fascination with bees, sparked by serendipitous conversations with her dental hygienist, who is also a beekeeper. Through this dialogue, June shares intriguing bee behaviors, such as their unique way of navigating and the multiple roles they undertake throughout their lifetimes. The podcast also touches on how individuals can learn more about bees and their significant role in
pollination. June discusses her latest book, They Work: Honeybees, Nature's Pollinators

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and today's guest, June Smalls.
00:01:37: June expresses her enthusiasm and gratitude for being on the podcast.
00:01:38: Christopher asks June about her initial interest in bees.
00:01:44: June talks about her early fascination with bees and her dental hygienist's influence.
00:02:32: Christopher comments on the correct terminology for beekeepers.
00:02:37: June explains how her dental hygienist uses honeybee products.
00:02:54: Christopher inquires about providing water to bees and how it's done.
00:03:05: June describes how to set up a bee-friendly water source.
00:03:23: Christopher shares his appreciation for bees and how he uses honey.
00:03:37: June and Christopher bond over their shared love for peanut butter and honey.
00:03:45: Christopher shares a tip for making a less messy peanut butter and honey sandwich.
00:04:04: June explains the broader importance of bees beyond honey production.
00:04:47: Christopher reflects on the importance of pollinators in agriculture.
00:05:00: June suggests working with local beekeepers for mutual benefit.
00:05:25: They discuss how honey flavor varies based on what flowers the bees pollinate.
00:05:45: Christopher asks June about what she found most interesting about honeybees.
00:06:08: June shares her new insights into the life and roles of worker bees.
00:07:11: They discuss how bees' developmental roles relate to children's development.
00:07:26: June shares more insights into bee behavior and hive dynamics.
00:07:31: Christopher asks for additional interesting facts about bees.
00:08:33: June describes the architectural and navigational genius of bees.
00:09:07: Christopher marvels at bees' navigational abilities.
00:09:15: Christopher asks for other resources to learn more about bees.
00:09:33: June recommends resources for learning about bees and mentions her educator guide.
00:10:23: Christopher concludes with June's book recommendation and encourages bee exploration.
00:10:44: June shares her website information for further contact.
00:10:59: Podcast conclusion with appreciation for the sponsor and encouragement to subscribe.

Key Takeaways

• Honeybees play a crucial role in the pollination of approximately one-third of the food we eat.
  Worker bees perform different roles throughout their lives, showing a natural progression similar to human growth.
• Local beekeepers can be valuable allies for communities, offering knowledge and services that support agriculture and education.
• Despite their small size, bees display sophisticated engineering and navigational skills, such as creating hexagonal combs and performing precise dances for communication.

Shareable Quotes

• "Bees perform all tasks of the hive throughout their lives, showcasing a natural progression much like human growth."
• "Without bees, we'd have to manually pollinate our crops, making food more labor-intensive and expensive."
• "Bees are engineering and navigation geniuses, with their hexagon combs and mathematically precise waggle dances."

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes
gardening expert Caleb Warnock to discuss the joys of gardening and how it can foster family and
community bonding. Caleb, an experienced author and blogger, shares insights on maximizing the
benefits of gardens at any skill level, from utilizing advanced techniques like geothermal greenhouses to making gardening accessible for beginners. They also explore the importance of engaging younger generations in gardening activities and Caleb's upcoming book on creating botanical colors from plants. Listeners are encouraged to harness the therapeutic and unifying power of gardening, fostering connections and self-sufficiencyEpisode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and guest Caleb Warnock,
highlighting his expertise in self-sufficiency and gardening.
00:01:32: Caleb expresses his excitement to be on the podcast and introduces his gardening
setup with geothermal greenhouses.
00:01:35: Christopher discusses advantages of year-round gardening in California and inquiries
about Caleb's gardening activities in Utah.
00:02:08: Caleb explains how he gardens year-round using geothermal greenhouses in Utah.
00:02:37: Discussion on making gardens a place of community, family, and friendship.
00:03:43: Example of a neighbor using her garden to foster community interactions.
00:04:23: Insights into how gardening connects people and provides emotional balance.
00:05:03: Humor and wisdom in embracing edible weeds in gardening.
00:06:09: Tips for beginner gardeners on choosing the right garden location and focusing on
crops that matter most to them.
00:08:32: Strategies for maximizing the output of small gardens and ensuring alignment with
family consumption habits.
00:10:24: Resources and methods for improving gardening skills across different levels.
00:13:34: Tried and tested tips for maintaining a weed-free garden.
00:14:56: Engaging children in gardening to build long-lasting relationships with nature and
healthier eating habits.
00:19:18: Overview of Caleb's new book on using botanical sources for natural dyes and paints,
and its significance.
00:22:46: Encouragement to explore gardening literature and community resources for
enhancing gardening experience.

Key Takeaways

• Gardening can significantly contribute to family and community bonding by providing a shared, rewarding activity.
• For beginners, focusing on manageable space and crops that align with family needs can
  enhance the gardening experience.
• Advanced gardeners can explore year-round gardening techniques and expand their gardens
  with perennial foods for increased self-reliance.
• Teaching children about gardening fosters a connection to nature and introduces them to healthy food choices.
• Caleb's upcoming book, 1000 Botanical Colors, highlights the forgotten art of deriving beautiful, natural colors from plants for creative and safe use.

Shareable Quotes

• "You can't be angry when your hands are in the dirt." – Karen Wood
• "It's better to have a small weed-free garden than a large garden full of weeds." – Caleb
  Warnock
• "Engage with your friends and neighbors by giving things away out of your garden." – Caleb
  Warnock
• "If you don't have a community of people who can help you, turn to someone who can give you consultation to design your garden right the first time." – Caleb Warnock
• "The best way to improve your soil is to put it inside a geothermal greenhouse." – Caleb
  Warnock

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In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews award-winning author Dallas Woodburn about her inspiring book, 1001 Ways to Be Kind, and her transformative year-long kindness journey. Dallas shares how small acts of kindness can create a ripple effect, impacting others and enhancing our own lives. Together, they discuss how incorporating kindness into everyday family routines can help raise compassionate, happy children. This episode aligns with the Familius habits of "Give Together" and "Heal Together."

Episode Highlights:[01:05] Meet Dallas Woodburn

• Introduction to Dallas, her achievements, and her life-changing year-long kindness challenge.

[05:30] The Journey of Weekly Acts of Kindness

• How a challenging year inspired Dallas to complete 52 unique acts of kindness and document them on her blog.

[12:15] Creative and Stealthy Kindness Ideas

• Dallas shares examples like paying for someone’s coffee or scattering lucky pennies on playgrounds to brighten others' days.

[18:40] Parenting with Kindness

• Incorporating acts of kindness into family life and parenting.
• The importance of being present and fostering kindness in children.

[26:00] Highlights from the Book

• Adina reads touching examples from 1001 Ways to Be Kind, for new parents, busy families, and everyday moments.

[32:10] Self-Kindness Matters Too

• Discussion on the importance of self-care and the “Self-Kindness” section of Dallas’ book.

[35:40] How to Connect with Dallas

• Social media links, her website, and details about her podcast, Thriving Authors Podcast.

Key Takeaways:1. Small Acts Create Big Impacts: Whether buying coffee for a stranger or leaving kind notes, even small gestures can ripple outward to inspire more kindness. 2. Kindness is Therapeutic: Dallas’ year-long kindness journey helped her navigate personal challenges, showing how giving can heal the giver too. 3. Parenting with Purpose: Modeling kindness to children helps nurture their compassion, emotional intelligence, and connection to others. 4. Accessible Kindness for All: Ideas in 1001 Ways to Be Kind are simple, affordable, and suitable for every lifestyle. 5. Self-Care is Essential: Self-kindness helps you recharge, enabling you to give to others effectively.

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In this episode of the Helping Family Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes guest Jason Goldstein, also known as Chop Happy, a chiropractor and food blogger, to discuss his new book, "101 Kitchen Secrets". Jason shares his culinary passion,
offering simple hacks to make cooking easier and more enjoyable. They discuss various kitchen hacks, including sheet pan meal prep and using a lint roller for cleanup. The episode aims to help listeners save time, money, and effort in the kitchen, while also discussing the topic of making pizza at home and offering insights into dining in
New York City.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest Jason Goldstein, highlighting his culinary blog and achievements.
00:01:20: Jason expresses gratitude for being on the podcast and introduces his book 101 Kitchen Secrets".
00:02:33: Adina and Jason discuss how the book offers compact, useful hacks for kitchen efficiency.
00:04:06: Jason shares his viral sheet pan meal prep hack to reduce cleanup effort.
00:05:31: An innovative lint roller hack is shared for quick kitchen crumb cleanup.
00:06:49: Jason advises using a cutting board for charcuterie to save money.
00:07:54: Tips for poaching eggs in a muffin tin for easy group hosting are detailed.
00:08:30: Jason introduces his upside-down pizza hack for creating a crispy crust at home.
00:11:06: Discussion on New York City dining culture, highlighting Bleecker Street Pizza.
00:12:39: Information on where to find Jason Goldstein online and further engage with his content.

Key Takeaways

• Smart kitchen hacks can significantly streamline meal preparation and cleanup.
  Using common household items, like a lint roller, can effectively address kitchen challenges.
• Efficient strategies for entertaining can reduce stress and enhance hosting experiences.
• Embracing innovative cooking techniques, such as upside-down pizza, can improve home-cooked results.

Sharable Quotes
"It's the dishes that roadblock me from cooking, not the actual cooking process!"
"Use a lint roller in the kitchen to pick up crumbs effortlessly."
"Upside-down pizza is the secret to a perfectly crispy crust at home."
"Make your kitchen time easier and happier with smart, simple hacks."

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In this insightful episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Dr. Alexander Kolevzon, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and co-author of A Parent’s Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow. Dr. Kolevzon provides an in-depth discussion on the role of medications in addressing childhood mental health challenges such as anxiety, ADHD, and autism. The conversation focuses on how parents can approach these decisions thoughtfully, emphasizing collaboration, education, and the importance of a "start low and go slow" approach to treatment. This episode aligns with the Familius habits of "Talk Together," "Heal Together," and "Learn Together."

Episode Highlights:[01:10] Introduction to Dr. Alexander Kolevzon

• Overview of his expertise in child psychiatry and the inspiration behind the book.

[04:25] The Mental Health Landscape for Children

• 20% of American children experience mental health challenges, but only 10% are on medications.
• Addressing the gap in care and access.

[07:45] Medications: Treating Symptoms, Not Labels

• Medications are symptom-focused rather than diagnosis-driven.
• The importance of understanding individual symptoms over generalized labels.

[12:30] What Does “Start Low and Go Slow” Mean?

• The philosophy of beginning treatment with the lowest effective dose and adjusting carefully.
• The importance of thorough evaluations and exploring non-medication alternatives.

[17:15] When to Seek Help

• Guidance on distinguishing normal childhood behaviors from those requiring professional intervention.
• Signs such as severe distress, school avoidance, or functional impairments.

[22:00] The Role of Social Media in Youth Mental Health

• Discussion on the links between social media, anxiety, and depression.
• Practical strategies for parents to help children regulate social media use.

[28:40] Insights from the Book

• Accessible, Q&A-style format designed to address common parent concerns.
• How the book demystifies medication options and their appropriate uses.

[34:00] Trust and Collaboration with Medical Professionals

• Tips for building trust and ensuring a collaborative relationship with your child’s doctor.
• Recognizing parents as experts on their children.

Key Takeaways:1. Medications Are a Tool, Not a Cure-All: They address specific symptoms and should be part of a broader treatment plan that includes therapy and environmental adjustments. 2. Start Low, Go Slow: Introduce medications cautiously, ensuring they are tailored to the child's unique needs and minimizing side effects. 3. Know When to Seek Help: Significant distress, avoidance behaviors, or impaired functioning are indicators to consult a professional. 4. Social Media’s Double-Edged Sword: It can exacerbate mental health issues but also provides support networks. Parents should guide responsible use. 5. Collaboration is Key: Trust between parents and medical professionals is crucial for effective treatment and long-term success.

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In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Adina Oberman welcomes guest Pam Lobley to discuss her memoir, "Why Can't We Just Play." Pam shares her experience of letting her overscheduled children have a summer of unstructured play and the positive impacts it had on their stress levels and family life. The episode also explores the importance of unstructured time for children’s development and the challenges of balancing scheduled activities. Additionally, Adina and Pam discuss creative and meaningful ways to celebrate the 100th day of school, focusing on giving back and making learning fun for children.

Episode Highlights
00:00:09: Introduction to the podcast and introduction of guest Pam Lobley.
00:01:30: Pam expresses her excitement about being on the podcast.
00:01:45: Pam summarizes her book "Why Can't We Just Play" and discusses the summer her kids spent with no structured activities.
00:02:55: Adina praises Pam's book and discusses its relevance to modern parenting challenges.
00:04:22: Pam shares her perspective on the 100th day of school celebrations and advice for parents.
00:05:12: Pam discusses making 100th day activities self-directed for children.
00:06:06: Discussion on the educational value of counting and grouping activities for children.
00:08:48: Ideas for engaging children in counting collections of items to visualize the number 100.
00:09:10: Adina shares ways to tailor activities to a child's interests and learning style.
00:10:09: Importance of chunking work into manageable parts for children.
00:12:22: Pam shares an example of making spelling tests fun with physical activities.
00:13:09: Discussion on classroom celebrations and meaningful 100th day projects, like giving back to the community.
00:15:21: Adina shares an idea of donating 100 items to shelters and food pantries.
00:16:42: Pam shares her social media details for connecting with listeners.
00:17:06: Conclusion and thanks to the podcast sponsor and listeners.

Key Takeaways

• The importance of unstructured playtime for children's development and family well-being.
• Creative ways to engage children in learning, such as tailoring activities to their interests and learning styles.
• How to make special occasions like the 100th day of school impactful and educational without overwhelming parents.
• Incorporating charitable activities into learning to teach children the value of giving back.

Tweetable Quotes
"When your kids are stressed, you're stressed. It was really time to dial it back." - Pam Lobley
"The work of early childhood is to play, and that is how kids learn, even older kids." - Adina Oberman
"If you can resist the pressure and let your child take control, that's where the real magic happens." - Pam
Lobley
"You don't have to do a lot to really make a difference when you're part of a group." - Pam Lobley

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman speaks with Jenny Sundstedt, debut picture book author of In Our Solar System. Jenny shares her personal journey from childhood stargazing with her father to creating a whimsical, rhyming picture book that teaches kids about the cosmos.

She offers insights into her creative process, the inspiration behind her book, and how it fosters STEM learning through storytelling. Jenny also highlights ways educators and parents can use the book to make space exploration accessible and engaging for young learners.

This episode is ideal for parents, teachers, and caregivers eager to nurture curiosity, creativity, and a love for science in children.

Episode Highlights [00:30] The Origins of Jenny’s Love for Space
Jenny shares how stargazing with her father and growing up with a backyard observatory sparked her lifelong fascination with the cosmos. * [02:00] The Creative Journey Behind In Our Solar System
Jenny discusses how she developed her rhyming picture book, inspired by the structure of Over in the Meadow*, and how her critique group encouraged her to bring the manuscript to life. * [04:00] Making Space Fun and Accessible for Kids
Jenny explains how anthropomorphizing planets and using engaging, action-packed language helps young readers relate to and enjoy learning about the solar system. * [06:00] Tips for Using the Book in STEM Learning
Jenny offers suggestions for educators and parents to use her book for interactive activities, such as dramatic play and group reading, to spark curiosity and teach STEM concepts. * [07:30] Collaboration with Familius and Bringing the Book to Life
Jenny describes the collaborative process of working with editors and illustrators to refine her story and bring it to its final, vibrant form.

Key Takeaways1. Inspire STEM Curiosity Early: Use books like In Our Solar System to make abstract science topics accessible and fun for young learners. 2. Make Learning Relatable: Anthropomorphized characters and rhyming text help children connect with complex concepts like the solar system. 3. Encourage Hands-On Activities: Complement reading with activities like dramatic play, stargazing, and creative storytelling to deepen understanding. 4. Build Connections Through Storytelling: Books that spark curiosity about the natural world help children develop a lifelong love for learning. 5. Embrace the Power of Collaboration: Jenny’s journey highlights how editors, critique groups, and illustrators contribute to creating impactful children’s literature.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman chats with Emily Lauren Dick, author, activist, and creative marketer. Emily discusses her upcoming children’s book, I Love Me from A to Z, a beautifully illustrated board book that promotes body positivity, self-love, inclusion, and body safety for the youngest readers.

Drawing on her extensive research into body image, Emily shares actionable tips for parents to help children build confidence, recognize their self-worth, and embrace their uniqueness in a world filled with external pressures. She also highlights how starting these conversations early can create a foundation of resilience and authenticity for kids as they grow.

This episode is packed with practical advice for parents and caregivers to foster body positivity and teach children the importance of self-care and inclusion.

Episode Highlights [02:10] The Inspiration Behind I Love Me from A to Z*
Emily shares how her research into body image and experiences as a mom inspired her to create a resource for young children that promotes self-love, confidence, and inclusion. * [06:30] Why Body Image Conversations Should Start Early
Studies show that children as young as three are influenced by body image issues. Emily explains how starting conversations early equips kids with the tools to build confidence and navigate a world filled with media influences. * [10:45] Key Themes of the Book: Positivity and Empowerment
Emily describes how each letter in her book serves as a positive affirmation or statement to inspire kids, teaching concepts like body safety, kindness, and challenging societal expectations. * [15:20] The Power of Language and Visual Representation
Learn how the book’s vibrant illustrations and inclusive imagery foster understanding, representation, and emotional connection for children of all backgrounds and abilities. * [20:10] Teaching Body Safety and Self-Advocacy
Emily emphasizes the importance of empowering kids to set boundaries and say “no,” laying the groundwork for healthy relationships and self-awareness. * [24:30] Equipping Kids for Resilience in a Media-Driven World
Discover tips for parents to combat negative messaging in media, foster mindfulness, and help children reconnect with their authentic selves.

Key Takeaways1. Start Early with Body Positivity: Introduce concepts like body safety, self-love, and inclusion through simple conversations and engaging books. 2. Empower Kids to Set Boundaries: Teach children to say “yes” and “no” confidently, helping them advocate for their feelings and personal space. 3. Celebrate Uniqueness: Promote representation and inclusion by exposing kids to diverse stories and imagery that reflect different abilities, sizes, and backgrounds. 4. Combat Negative Messaging: Equip kids with tools to navigate a media-driven world and maintain a strong sense of self-worth. 5. Use Positive Affirmations: Reinforce confidence and resilience through affirmations that encourage kindness, empathy, and self-care.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman speaks with Sarah Winkler, an experienced preschool teacher and mom of three. Sarah shares her expertise in play-based learning, emergent curriculum, and hands-on activities that inspire creativity, confidence, and curiosity in young children.

Sarah explains how parents and educators can use simple, everyday moments to create meaningful learning experiences. She highlights the social, emotional, and cognitive benefits of play and offers practical tips for setting up engaging activities at home and in the classroom.

This episode is packed with actionable advice for parents, caregivers, and teachers looking to nurture early childhood development and build stronger family connections through play.

Episode Highlights* [02:10] What Is a Lab School and How Does It Work?
Sarah describes her unique teaching environment, which emphasizes hands-on, play-based education and training for future educators. * [06:30] Why Play Is Essential for Early Childhood Development:
Discover how play builds cognitive, social, emotional, and physical skills—and why it’s a child’s most important job. * [10:45] Meaningful Play Activities for Home and Classroom:
Sarah shares tips for creating simple, interactive activities like sensory bins, water play, and nature walks that promote learning and exploration. * [15:20] Building Social and Emotional Skills Through Play:
Learn how play encourages problem-solving, teamwork, and emotional regulation while laying the foundation for future academic success. * [20:10] Encouraging Curiosity Through Scientific Inquiry:
Sarah explains how activities like shadow exploration and melting ice experiments spark curiosity and teach basic STEM concepts. * [24:30] Empowering Kids Through Emergent Curriculum:
Sarah discusses how building lessons around children’s interests fosters confidence, creativity, and a love for learning.

Key Takeaways1. Play Is Learning: Play isn’t just fun—it’s how kids develop critical thinking, social skills, and emotional intelligence. 2. Simple Activities Create Big Impact: Everyday objects like water, sand, and blocks can be transformed into meaningful learning tools. 3. Follow Children’s Interests: Let kids’ curiosity guide activities to deepen engagement and foster a love for learning. 4. Encourage Conversation During Play: Ask open-ended questions to build vocabulary, math skills, and problem-solving abilities. 5. Support Emotional Growth: Teach kids self-regulation, empathy, and cooperation through hands-on play and social interactions.

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Episode Note: We are deeply saddened to share that our beloved author Carol Gerber has passed away. Carol touched countless lives through her heartfelt books, inspiring a love for nature, reading, and creativity in children and families alike.

This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, featuring Carol Gerber, marks her final interview.

We honor Carol’s legacy and the joy she brought to readers everywhere. We invite you to listen to this special episode and celebrate her life, work, and enduring impact on families and children.

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Adina Oberman sits down with award-winning author and poet Carol Gerber. Carol shares her passion for nature, trees, and poetry, as reflected in her acclaimed picture books like A Tree for Me.

Drawing from her experience as a children’s author and volunteer nature guide, Carol reveals how parents can use books and outdoor exploration to foster curiosity, creativity, and a love of reading in children. She also offers a sneak peek into her upcoming book, Venus Flytrap, which introduces kids to the wonders of plants through interactive storytelling.

This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and caregivers looking for ideas to boost early literacy, encourage outdoor play, and build stronger family connections through nature-based learning.

Episode Highlights [02:15] The Story Behind A Tree for Me:
Carol explains how her love of nature and trees inspired her latest book and why she chose to feature a father-and-son relationship to promote family bonding. * [06:30] Engaging Kids with Nature Through Books:
Carol shares her experience as a nature guide, teaching kids to connect with trees, feel bark, and observe leaves—lessons that inspired her writing. * [10:45] The Importance of Outdoor Play and Exploration:
Discover why Carol believes time spent outdoors helps children build curiosity, develop confidence, and form lasting family memories. * [15:20] Building Early Literacy Through Nature-Themed Books:
Carol emphasizes the role of books in teaching children about science, empathy, and the natural world while nurturing a love for reading. * [20:10] Preview of Venus Flytrap*—Carol’s Upcoming Book:
Carol introduces her next book, which uses humor and plant science to spark kids’ imaginations and inspire a deeper interest in nature. * [24:30] Tips for Parents—Interactive Reading and Outdoor Adventures:
Carol provides actionable advice for incorporating books, nature walks, and hands-on activities to make learning fun and memorable.

Key Takeaways1. Start Early with Nature-Inspired Books: Introduce kids to books about nature to inspire curiosity and early literacy. 2. Encourage Outdoor Exploration: Use family walks and hands-on activities to connect kids with trees, plants, and the environment. 3. Make Reading Interactive: Choose books with rhyme, rhythm, and humor to engage young readers and make learning enjoyable. 4. Foster Curiosity with Science and Storytelling: Combine books and real-world exploration to teach kids about biology and ecosystems. 5. Prioritize Family Bonding: Spend quality time outdoors or reading together to strengthen emotional connections and build shared memories.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins talks with Antonia Squire, a veteran children’s bookseller and children’s buyer at The King’s English Bookshop. Antonia shares expert tips on building a children’s library, starting from baby showers to chapter books for older kids.

The discussion highlights the importance of reading aloud to children at every stage of development, the role of books in building empathy and curiosity, and specific recommendations for timeless and engaging titles. Whether you’re looking to create a starter library or expand an existing collection, this episode offers practical advice to foster a lifelong love of reading in your children.

Episode Highlights [02:15] Start Early—Baby Books as Gifts:
Antonia suggests building a library as early as baby showers, encouraging parents to replace cards with books inscribed with personal messages. * [06:40] The Importance of Reading Aloud at Any Age:
Reading aloud fosters connection, emotional bonding, and early literacy skills. Antonia emphasizes that children are never too young—or too old—to enjoy storytime. * [10:30] Interactive Books for Toddlers:
Recommendations like Tails and Pout-Pout Fish highlight the value of tactile and rhythmic books for engaging young readers. * [15:20] Picture Books for Growth and Humor:
Titles such as I Eat Poop and The Gruffalo teach humor, resilience, and irony, making them perfect for ages 3 and up. * [20:50] Chapter Books That Build Reading Confidence:
Antonia highlights Ramona the Pest and Charlotte’s Web* as must-reads for early readers, blending timeless storytelling with life lessons. * [26:30] Building Empathy Through Fiction:
Books help children experience life through different perspectives, improving emotional intelligence and decision-making. * [30:10] Creating Access with Nonprofits Like Brain Food Books:
Antonia introduces Brain Food Books, a nonprofit focused on providing books to children without easy access, and explains how just 10 books in a home can improve a child’s success.

Key Takeaways1. Start Early with Books: Build your child’s library starting at baby showers to set the foundation for early literacy and bonding. 2. Read Aloud at Every Stage: Continue reading aloud as children grow to keep them engaged and foster imagination and comprehension. 3. Choose Interactive and Fun Books: Books with humor, rhyme, and touch-and-feel elements captivate young readers and keep them coming back. 4. Include Chapter Books for Growth: Introduce longer stories like Ramona the Pest and Charlotte’s Web to deepen literacy and emotional connections. 5. Focus on Empathy and Imagination: Fiction helps children understand different perspectives and make thoughtful decisions.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, produced by Familius Publishing, host Christopher Robbins chats with author and former theater teacher Christopher Mannino about how parents can transform their relationships with children through the power of play. Drawing from his upcoming book, Making It Up: A Revolutionary Way to Bond with Kids Through Play, Mannino shares theater-inspired techniques like improv, emotional recall, and role-playing to help parents strengthen emotional connections, manage stress, and make everyday moments magical.

This episode is filled with actionable tips for parents, caregivers, and educators who want to boost child development, encourage creativity, and build lasting family bonds—all in just 10 minutes a day.

Episode Highlights [02:00] Why Play Matters in Parenting:
Manino discusses how intentional play builds emotional connections and creates “core memories” that last a lifetime. * [06:45] Using Improv to Spark Imagination and Bonding:
Learn how the “Yes, And” technique from improv theater can validate children’s ideas, encourage creativity, and deepen parent-child relationships. * [12:15] Emotional Anchors: Staying Present with Your Kids:
Discover how emotional recall techniques from acting can help parents tune out distractions and focus fully during playtime. * [17:30] Managing Tantrums and Stress Through Playfulness:
Manino explains how humor, role-playing, and dramatic distractions can quickly defuse tension and improve emotional regulation for both kids and parents. * [23:10] Real-Life Scenarios for Play-Based Parenting:
Practical examples highlight how parents can turn challenging moments into bonding opportunities by incorporating play. * [28:40] Inside Making It Up*—A Guide to Playful Parenting:
Get a preview of Manino’s upcoming book, packed with strategies for making playtime more meaningful, fun, and transformative.

Key Takeaways1. Prioritize Focused Playtime: Spend at least 10 minutes daily in distraction-free, imaginative play to build stronger emotional bonds. 2. Say “Yes, And” to Creativity: Use improv techniques to encourage kids’ ideas and boost their confidence. 3. Stay Present with Emotional Anchors: Focus on positive memories to stay grounded and engaged, even during stressful days. 4. Defuse Stress with Humor and Playfulness: Role-playing and humor are effective tools for managing tantrums and shifting moods. 5. Make Play a Habit: Consistent, intentional play can strengthen communication, trust, and joy in parent-child relationships.

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In this Helping Families Be Happy episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes Erin Clark and Kate Witherington, the creators of Storybook Basics, a platform aimed at helping parents, caregivers, and teachers connect with children through picture books. By using their BASICS approach—Book, Activity, Snack, Ideas, Connections—Erin and Kate provide simple, low-prep ideas to foster parent-child bonding, early literacy, and joyful play. Their tips and strategies offer practical support for busy families who want to nurture literacy and emotional connections in an accessible, engaging way. This episode is packed with insights for parents and educators looking to enhance family bonding time and create lasting memories.

Episode Highlights

• [02:10] Creating Storybook Basics for Parent-Child Bonding:
• Erin and Kate share how they developed Storybook Basics as a resource for parents to connect with their kids through storytelling and play, inspired by their backgrounds in teaching and early childhood development.
• [06:00] BASICS Approach to Family Bonding:
• They outline their BASICS method—Book, Activity, Snack, Ideas, and Connections—which helps parents make reading time an enriching bonding experience. Each week, they feature a quality book, a simple activity, an easy snack, and discussion questions to encourage meaningful conversations.
• [10:15] Serving Busy Parents and Educators:
• Erin and Kate explain how Storybook Basics is designed for busy parents, grandparents, and teachers who seek easy, cost-effective ways to incorporate bonding activities, early literacy, and kid-friendly play.
• [14:00] Making Story Time Accessible for All Families:
• They emphasize that bonding over books doesn’t require expensive materials; libraries, budget-friendly books, and everyday items can create memorable family playtime and storytelling experiences.
• [17:30] Tailoring Reading to Your Child’s Learning Style:
• Erin and Kate offer tips on adjusting storytime for different learning styles, such as using sensory tools to help active kids focus. These methods ensure an inclusive approach to nurturing early literacy skills.
• [22:45] Vocabulary Building Through Picture Books:
• Picture books contain 70% more rare words than typical conversations, making them a powerful tool for building vocabulary, supporting early literacy, and enhancing children’s communication skills.
• [26:30] Embracing Slow Living and Mindful Parenting:
• Erin and Kate close with their motto, “Slowing down childhood one picture book at a time.” They remind parents that picture books offer a chance to slow down, be present, and nurture strong parent-child connections.

Key Takeaways

1. Prioritize Family Bonding with Picture Books: Picture books create rich moments for connecting with your child and reinforcing family bonds.
2. Adapt Storytime to Your Child’s Needs: Tailor reading sessions to your child’s personality and learning style to make literacy and bonding effective and fun.
3. Foster Vocabulary and Literacy Growth: Reading picture books introduces new vocabulary, supporting early language skills and communication development.
4. Practice Mindful Parenting: Slow down and cherish small, memorable moments with your child through shared reading and playful learning.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and author of Parenting with Pride: Unlearn Bias and Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ Teen. Heather shares her personal journey of parenting LGBTQ children and provides actionable strategies for navigating family gatherings during the holidays with compassion and confidence. This insightful conversation covers setting healthy boundaries, supporting your child, and fostering open communication, all while promoting acceptance and love within families.
Episode Highlights

[02:15] Heather’s Journey and Parenting with Pride
Heather introduces her book, which draws from her family’s experience of parenting LGBTQ children, and explains how it helps parents unlearn biases and embrace understanding and empowerment.

[07:30] Setting Boundaries at Family Gatherings:
Heather discusses how to handle challenging conversations with family members who may not be affirming of LGBTQ identities. She emphasizes the importance of protecting your child and modeling self-respect.

[12:45] Simple Strategies for Difficult Conversations:
Learn how to deflect confrontational topics by providing resources or redirecting conversations. Heather explains why it’s not your responsibility to educate others and how to prioritize your child’s well-being.

[18:00] Empowering Your Child Through Support:
Heather highlights the importance of allowing your child to make decisions about their participation in gatherings. By showing them respect and standing by their choices, parents can empower children to set their own boundaries.

[22:15] Recognizing and Managing Emotional Triggers:
Heather shares tips for managing emotional reactions during heated discussions, including pausing to respond thoughtfully. She encourages parents to model calm, intentional behavior for their children.

[26:30] Teaching Self-Love Through Boundaries:
Setting and maintaining boundaries isn’t just about family dynamics—it’s about teaching children how to advocate for themselves and love themselves.

[30:00] Final Advice for Navigating Family Dynamics:
Heather advises parents to stay present, trust their instincts, and have their child’s back in any situation, even when caught off guard by challenging family dynamics.

Key Takeaways

Set Healthy Boundaries: Protect your child by setting clear limits with family members who are not affirming.
Empower Your Child: Support your child’s autonomy in deciding how to navigate family gatherings.
Model Emotional Awareness: Teach by example—respond thoughtfully to challenging situations instead of reacting impulsively.
Provide Resources, Not Arguments: Redirect confrontational conversations by offering educational resources, not personal debates.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Adina Oberman speaks with Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist and expert in personal transformation, to discuss strategies for setting healthy boundaries during holiday gatherings. With holidays often bringing together family and friends, Dr. Manley offers practical tips for navigating potentially invasive questions with grace and respect. This conversation is perfect for those seeking to create a positive, self-respecting environment during social events, allowing families to enjoy gatherings with mutual understanding.

[00:00] Host Adina Oberman introduces Dr. Carla Marie Manly, highlighting her expertise in relationships, personal growth, and boundary setting, especially relevant during the holiday season. Dr. Manly explains her holistic approach to helping others navigate relationships with a foundation of self-respect and resilience.

[04:15] Dr. Manly describes common holiday challenges, such as invasive questions, and emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries. She encourages listeners to view boundaries as emotional “fences” that protect well-being, offering examples of how to respond calmly to probing questions.

[09:30] Dr. Manly discusses the impact of the word “should” on boundaries, noting that feeling obligated to answer personal questions can lead to boundary violations. She encourages families to set limits confidently and gracefully, re-framing boundaries as a means of self-care.

[13:50] The conversation covers practical responses to common intrusive questions (e.g., about relationships or family planning). Dr. Manly shares polite, direct phrases for redirecting conversations and maintaining personal privacy.

[18:20] Dr. Manly emphasizes the value of role-modeling boundaries for children, highlighting how parents can demonstrate self-respect in social settings. She also suggests practicing boundary-setting phrases to build confidence before gatherings.

[23:30] Dr. Manly explains the “three strikes, you’re out” approach to reinforce boundaries, advising listeners on handling persistent boundary crossers by politely exiting conversations if necessary.

[28:45] Dr. Manly addresses handling conversations with individuals under the influence of alcohol, explaining how to navigate these situations by disengaging if needed, to maintain emotional safety and peace.

[32:15] Dr. Manly shares advice on avoiding discussions around politics or sensitive topics at family gatherings, including using “timeouts” as a graceful way to step away from uncomfortable conversations.

Key Takeaways:

• Healthy boundaries allow you to maintain self-respect and enjoy holiday gatherings more fully.
• Polite, direct responses can help redirect intrusive questions without damaging relationships.
• Role-modeling boundaries for children reinforces the importance of self-respect.
• Practice boundary-setting phrases to build confidence in social settings.
• Using a “timeout” can provide a graceful exit from difficult conversations, especially when sensitive topics arise.

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In this Helping Families Be Happy podcast episode, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Paul Mandelstein, founder of the Father Resource Network and author of The World’s Best Dad During and After Divorce. Together, they explore the challenges and joys of celebrating the holidays post-divorce, providing divorced or separated parents with advice on handling co-parenting dynamics and creating meaningful, stress-free holiday traditions for the whole family.

Episode Highlights

[02:15] Prioritizing Flexibility for Kids:
Paul advises parents to adapt holiday plans around their children’s needs, even if it means adjusting co-parenting schedules.

[06:45] Kindness and Agreement-Keeping:
Practicing kindness and sticking to agreements with co-parents helps create a positive holiday experience for the entire family.

[12:30] Embracing Personal Growth:
Holidays post-divorce offer opportunities for self-reflection and growth, which can contribute to a happier, healthier family dynamic.

[16:10] Practicing Forgiveness:
Forgiveness isn’t just for others but is a healing step for oneself, easing tensions and fostering a peaceful holiday season.

[21:00] Building New Traditions:
Creating unique family traditions allows everyone, including new family members, to feel included and helps children adjust.

[25:30] Avoiding Over-Gifting:
Instead of compensating with gifts, Paul encourages parents to focus on quality time, as it creates more meaningful holiday memories for kids.

Key Takeaways

Prioritize Kids’ Needs with Flexibility: Be adaptable to give children the best possible holiday experience.

Be Kind and Keep Agreements: Kindness and reliability strengthen co-parenting dynamics and ease holiday tensions.

Use Holidays as Growth Opportunities: Embrace self-reflection and personal growth for a fulfilling holiday season.

Create New Traditions and Avoid Over-gifting: Develop traditions that honor your new family setup without excessive gifting.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes leadership expert Barry Relaford. With decades of experience in leadership development and trust-building, Barry shares insights on fostering a positive family environment through authentic leadership, building trust, and creating a lasting legacy. This episode is essential for families wanting to strengthen bonds, instill strong values, and positively impact future generations.

[00:00] Host Christopher Robbins introduces Barry Relaford, noting his work with leaders worldwide and his current focus on mentoring emerging talent. They discuss how leadership and trust-building principles apply directly to family relationships.

[05:20] Barry defines leadership as positive influence and explains that every family member can lead by setting a good example. This approach fosters trust, strengthens bonds, and encourages growth within the family.

[10:30] Reflecting on his family experiences, Barry highlights the powerful role of family legacy, emphasizing how the values we pass down shape future generations.

[15:45] Barry shares the quote, “It’s a greater compliment to be trusted than to be loved,” underscoring that trust is crucial in family relationships and often outweighs likability.

[22:00] Barry explores the process of rebuilding broken trust, emphasizing that it requires trustworthy actions and consistent boundaries to restore family harmony.

[30:15] Barry discusses the link between trust and leadership in family dynamics, stressing that parents should model integrity and accountability to foster a secure, supportive home.

[35:40] Barry concludes with optimism for future generations, encouraging families to support young leaders, as they are key to creating a more positive society.

Key Takeaways:

• Family leadership is best expressed through positive influence and setting a strong example.
• Trust is foundational to family relationships and should be prioritized over simply being liked.
• Rebuilding trust requires consistent, trustworthy actions and clear family boundaries.
• Family members play a critical role in nurturing future leaders and instilling strong values.
• Supporting young family members in leadership roles encourages a hopeful future.

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman speaks with Alma Guzman, founder of Libros con Alma (Books with Soul), a community-driven project based in Southeast Los Angeles. Alma shares her journey of launching Libros con Alma in 2021 to address the lack of bookstores and accessible Spanish-language and BIPOC-authored books in her community. By organizing book pop-ups, engaging in cultural events, and creating the recent exhibit Cuentame, Alma fosters a love for reading and storytelling in underserved areas. Alma discusses her unique approaches to connect with her community, including collaborations with local artists, the “Spanglish Book Club,” and her aspirations to establish a bookmobile. This episode emphasizes the power of community, representation in literature, and the transformative potential of accessible stories.

Episode Highlights

1. Origins of Libros con Alma: How Alma launched her initiative to increase access to Spanish-language and BIPOC literature in Southeast LA.

2. Impact on Community: Alma’s insights into the significance of offering free, take-home books in her community and the reactions from local readers.

3. Cultural Engagement: Highlighting Cuentame, an art exhibit showcasing book recommendations and stories from Southeast LA residents.

4. Upcoming Projects: Alma’s plans for the “Spanglish Book Club” and her long-term goal of creating a bookmobile.

Key Links:
Libros con Alma on Instagram – Follow Alma’s journey, pop-up events, and upcoming projects.

Familius 10 Habits of Happy Families – Explore ways to foster happiness through learning and conversation.

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In this episode, Kenya Kirkman, founder of 18 August Avenue, joins host Adina Oberman to discuss her mission of empowering BIPOC families through diverse children’s books and community-building events. Kenya shares how the stillbirth of her twin sons, Aiden and Carter, inspired her to create a space where Black and brown families can see themselves represented in literature. She talks about the importance of offering resources for parents, connecting with educators, and fostering a sense of belonging for marginalized communities. Kenya also provides advice for aspiring entrepreneurs and shares her vision for the future of 18 August Avenue.

Episode Highlights:1. Introduction to Kenya Kirkman and 18 August Avenue
Kenya shares the inspiring story behind founding 18 August Avenue, a children's bookshop that amplifies BIPOC voices, inspired by her twin sons, Aiden and Carter, who were stillborn in 2019. 2. Turning Grief into Purpose
Kenya discusses how the loss of her sons led her to create a space for expectant parents and families, providing diverse books and resources that reflect their lived experiences. 3. Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs
Kenya offers heartfelt advice to listeners considering starting a business: stay authentic, pursue what feels right, and ensure your passion aligns with your purpose. 4. Breaking the Stigma Around Stillbirth
Kenya opens up about the challenges of sharing her personal story, how it shapes her work, and how her bookshop events center on supporting parents and families in ways that are healing and inclusive. 5. 18 August Avenue's Impact on the Community
Kenya reflects on how her pop-up events, curated books, and resources are helping families and young people feel seen, supported, and connected. 6. Looking Ahead: Future Plans for 18 August Avenue
Kenya shares her hopes for expanding her business, with fingers crossed for a physical location in Brooklyn, and upcoming events designed to engage educators and young readers. 7. How to Support and Connect with 18 August Avenue
Kenya provides details on where to find her online, upcoming events in the Brooklyn area, and how people can support her mission of empowering BIPOC families through books. 8. Closing Remarks
Host Adina Oberman thanks Kenya for sharing her journey, encouraging listeners to follow and support 18 August Avenue. She reminds the audience to subscribe, leave a review, and explore more family-centered books through Familius.

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman is joined by Sarah Gundell, a passionate book blogger and advocate for children's literature. Sarah shares her journey from her early involvement with the Twilight fandom to her current focus on promoting a love of reading through her Instagram account, Novel Novice.

Sarah discusses her unique approach to engaging kids with reading by connecting their interests to the books they read. She also addresses the value of audiobooks and diverse reading formats, emphasizing that the key to fostering a love for reading is to allow children to explore what they enjoy.

Key Takeaways:

1. Align Reading with Interests: Discover how connecting reading material to children's personal interests—whether it's sports, crafting, or graphic novels—can ignite a lifelong love of reading.
2. Embrace All Forms of Reading: Audiobooks, graphic novels, and genre fiction are all valuable. The important thing is engaging with books in any format that resonates with the reader.
3. Model Reading Behavior: Demonstrate your love for reading to your children by making time for it yourself. This models positive reading habits and emphasizes reading as a rewarding activity.
4. Utilize Libraries and Bookstores: Take advantage of local libraries and bookstores to provide diverse reading materials, making books a regular and exciting part of family life.
5. Read Together: Incorporate reading into daily routines and special moments with your family to build a shared love for books and create cherished memories.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sarah Gundell’s Instagram: @novelnovice
• Sarah’s Blog: novelnovice.com (for archived book reviews)

Quotes from the Episode:

• “The goal is to keep kids engaged with reading in any form.” – Sarah Gundell
• “Books are accessible to everyone. Go get a book and discover reading.” – Sarah Gundell
• “I like to say, read by example.” – Sarah Gundell

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Mental Illness and Virginia Pillars

In this episode of 'Helping Families Be Happy,' host Adina Oberman engages with guest Virginia Pillars, the author of 'Broken Brain, Fortified Faith' to discuss the complexities and journey through mental illness within a family context. This episode dives into Pillars' personal experience with her daughter's schizophrenia diagnosis, the impact on family, and the power of hope, education, and faith in navigating mental illness. Contributions from both speakers shed light on vital resources, self-care for caregivers, and the importance of ongoing learning and community support.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09 - Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast focus on family, love, and relationships and presents guest Virginia Pillars, an advocate for mental health, sharing her start as a mother and author dealing with her child's mental illness.

00:01:15 - Virginia speaks about addressing mental illness in families, emphasizing the necessity of faith, mental wellness, and education through her certification in First Aid for Mental Health and her awarded memoir.

00:02:28 - The initiation of the conversation where Virginia expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share her story, setting a tone of mutual respect and eagerness for the dialogue.

00:02:30 - Pillars touches on the inception of her book 'Broken Brain, Fortified Faith', discussing the loneliness felt by families dealing with mental illness and her hope to provide solace and understanding through her writing.

00:04:16 - An intimate discussion on the persistency of hope and the importance of lifelong learning and indulging in one's craft to contribute positively to family and personal growth, despite the dark times.

00:06:00 - Virginia recounts the initial signs of her daughter's schizophrenia, the emergency that signified a major change in their lives, and the critical role this moment played in sparking a relentless quest for help and understanding.

00:08:32 - Dive into the Pillars' family's journey towards recovery, detailing their unwavering effort, exploration of resources, and the eventual success in facilitating an independent life for their daughter.

00:09:44 - Overview of valuable platforms like NAMI for support and education for families encountering mental illness, reinforcing the power of community and shared experiences in healing.

00:11:23 - Virginia shares the personal transformation from questioning faith to drawing strength from it, underlining the spiritual journey intertwined with coping with family mental health issues.

00:14:08 - Emphasis on the criticality of self-care for caregivers, using a compelling analogy with the airplane oxygen mask to highlight the necessity of caring for oneself to effectively care for others.

00:16:01 - Pillars explains how her faith was 'fortified' through adversity, detailing her morning routine of reflection and prayer that provided her with the resilience required for her challenging journey.

00:19:35 - The close of the episode, with Virginia sharing avenues through which listeners can connect with her and learn more about her work, encouraging outreach and dialogue on mental health issues.

Key Takeaways

1. Hope and education are crucial elements in navigating the journey of mental illness within a family.
2. Community support, like that offered by NAMI, plays an indispensable role in understanding and coping with mental health diagnoses.
3. Self-care for caregivers is not just necessary but paramount in ensuring the wellbeing of both the caregivers themselves and their loved ones. 4. Maintaining faith or personal beliefs can offer profound strength and perspective during times of adversity.

Tweetable Quotes

"Hang on to the hope, because hope is always there no matter the darkness." - Virginia Pillars

"Self-care put on our own oxygen masks so that we can continue to care for other people around us." - Virginia Pillars

"We've taken not the question of why but, this has happened now what do we do with it to move forward?" - Virginia Pillars

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman welcomes a celebrated YouTube storyteller known for her Kid Time, Story Time channel, which is particularly popular among kids for its engaging book readings augmented by a cast of entertaining puppets. They dive into the significance of Hispanic Heritage Month, discussing the importance of cultural identity, pride, and bilingualism, particularly within the context of children's literature and upbringing. The storyteller shares her own Cuban-American background, emphasizing the value of maintaining one's heritage language and the profound impact of seeing oneself reflected in media and literature. The conversation also explores broader themes of authenticity, joy in education, and the role of children's literature in shaping a generation's understanding of themselves and their culture.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09: Adina introduces the podcast and welcomes the guest storyteller, highlighting her achievements with Kid Time, Story Time YouTube channel, and her contribution to children's literature and bilingual education.

00:01:13: The storyteller's background as a Cuban-American and her emphasis on the importance of Hispanic Heritage Month are discussed, with a nod to her role as a modern Mr. Rogers. 00:01:56: The storyteller comments on the 'messy' nature of life and the synergy between her work and the podcast's themes of reading, laughing, and learning together.

00:02:25: Discussion moves to how parents and educators can help kids develop a strong sense of self and cultural identity through modeling behavior and embracing their culture joyfully.

00:04:04: Emphasizing the importance of maintaining one's heritage language within the family to preserve culture and identity.

00:07:31: The power of children seeing themselves represented in literature and the influence of authentic experiences and characters are discussed.

00:08:34: The storyteller reflects on her own influential figures, including family members and Celia Cruz, in shaping her personal and professional life.

00:12:22: There's an exploration of the importance of authenticity in creating content and the impact of genuine connection with audiences.

00:15:22: Adina and the storyteller delve into the role of children's literature in helping kids understand and appreciate their cultural identity and the diversity of stories necessary for a comprehensive cultural representation.

00:20:40: The storyteller shares her closing thoughts on the importance of authenticity, joy, and education in shaping children's lives.

00:26:32: Information on where to find Kid Time, Story Time content online is given alongside a message of gratitude to listeners and supporters.

Key Takeaways

• Embracing and preserving one's cultural heritage, especially through language, is essential for maintaining a strong sense of identity and pride among children.
• Children benefit significantly from seeing themselves represented in literature, which can foster a sense of belonging and self-esteem.
• Authenticity and joy are crucial in educational content creation, as they build genuine connections and make the learning experience enjoyable and meaningful for children.
• The diversity of stories in children's literature plays a vital role in shaping how kids understand and appreciate their own cultures and those of others, promoting empathy and inclusiveness.
• Family members and cultural figures can be influential in a child's development, serving as inspirations and role models in their journey of self-discovery and cultural appreciation.

Tweetable Quotes

"Life is messy, and embracing it together through reading, laughing, and learning is what makes us grow." - Adina Oberman

"Being bilingual is not just about speaking two languages; it's about living two cultures, enriching your identity and your world view." - Guest Storyteller

"Children are like sponges, they absorb every detail around them, which is why it is so important for them to see themselves reflected in books and media." - Guest Storyteller

"Authenticity unlocks a special connection between us and our audience, making every shared moment and every taught lesson deeply impactful." - Guest Storyteller

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman explores the intricacies of the college application process with Cynthia Munchick, an educational consultant with over 25 years of experience. Cynthia offers invaluable advice on navigating the often challenging journey to college, from understanding the importance of well-rounded experiences to managing stress during senior year. The conversation provides insight into fostering independence in teenagers and the vital role of parental support without overstepping.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10 - Adina introduces the podcast and welcomes Cynthia Munchick, highlighting her extensive background in education and dedication to helping families navigate the college application process. The introduction sets the stage for a detailed discussion on preparing teens for college and the parent's role in this pivotal time.

00:02:07 - Cynthia expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share her insights, illuminating the recurring theme of gratitude and collaboration between educational consultants and families striving for a common goal: the success and well-being of the students.

00:02:51 - The importance of using summers strategically is discussed, with Cynthia advising on the value of balancing rest with activities like volunteering or part-time jobs to enrich a student's high school experience and college applications.

00:03:41 - Cynthia advocates for open communication between parents and teens, emphasizing the need for parents to offer support in managing the bustling schedule of high school life without being dominating, pointing towards fostering independence and self-management skills in students.

00:05:38 - Cynthia shares practical advice for families with underclassmen, stressing the significance of proactive planning and parental support tailored to the unique needs of each student, ensuring they are well-prepared for the college application process.

00:06:16 - Discussion shifts to the unique challenges faced by seniors and their parents. Cynthia reflects on her personal experience as a parent of a rising senior, highlighting the delicate balance between support and allowing independence.

00:08:43 - Cynthia emphasizes the congestive nature of the senior fall, underscoring the importance of time management, strategizing college visits, and dealing with the academic and emotional load during the final high school year.

00:10:40 - The conversation delves into the emotional aspects of navigating senior year, with Adina and Cynthia discussing the importance of giving teens space, understanding, and the permission to manage their responsibilities, highlighting a common thread throughout the episode: the delicate balance of parental involvement.

00:12:23 - Cynthia discusses the concept of "pointy" vs. "well-rounded" students, stressing that neither is inherently superior and encouraging parents to support their children's genuine interests, even if they lead to a more focused set of skills or experiences.

00:16:07 - Cynthia and Adina explore the importance of self-awareness and self-care among students, emphasizing the permission to quit activities that no longer serve their growth or happiness, advocating for mental health and well-being over a packed schedule.

00:20:13 - The episode concludes with a discussion on the first-generation college application process, with Cynthia providing practical advice for navigating this unfamiliar territory and highlighting the abundance of resources available to support these families.

Key Takeaways

1. Summers should be utilized strategically to enhance personal growth and college applications through volunteering, work, or leisure activities that foster new skills.
2. Open and supportive communication between parents and teenagers is crucial in managing the stress associated with high school and college applications, with a distinct emphasis on promoting independence and resilience in students.
3. There is a critical balance in parental involvement; too little can leave a student feeling unsupported, yet too much can hinder their development of necessary life skills.
4. Emphasis on mental health and well-being over achievement, showcasing the importance of allowing teens to quit activities that no longer serve their happiness or growth.
5. First-generation college applicants have a wealth of resources at their disposal; it's about asking the right questions and seeking out support within their communities and schools.

Tweetable Quotes

"Use summers strategically for growth beyond academics." - Cynthia Munchick

"Support, don't smother - the delicate balance of parenting high schoolers." - Cynthia Munchick

"Independence in high school breeds resilience in college." - Cynthia Munchick

"Permission to quit can be the greatest lesson in self-care." - Cynthia Munchick

"First-gen college applicants, seek out resources - they're plentiful." - Cynthia Munchick

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Carly Shoulders Podcast

In this episode, Adina Oberman, a mom and former preschool teacher, explores the themes of work-life balance and making life with kids easier with Carly Shoulders, a former educator turned insurance professional and resin artist. They delve into the challenges and insights of parenting, the pressure to "do it all," and the personal journeys that led them to make significant career and life changes to prioritize family and self-care.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, focusing on the messy yet beautiful aspects of family, love, and relationships. She welcomes guest Carly Shoulders, highlighting her background as a mother, former educator, and her current roles in the insurance industry and as a resin artist.

00:01:13 - Carly shares her journey from being an educator to finding a balance that allows her to pursue her passions and spend more time with her family. This transition was sparked by the realization that her job was not allowing her to be the parent she wanted to be, leading her to seek a career that offered better work-life harmony.

00:02:16 - The concept of giving 100% in life is discussed, with Carly explaining how splitting her energy between work and family has led to a healthier balance for her. This ideology is rooted in an understanding that it's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day.

00:03:23 - Carly discusses the pivotal moment when she realized that her professional life had to change. Seeking advice from a counselor, she faced the question of whether her current path was what she truly wanted for her life. This led to a deeper reflection on her values and what it means to be fulfilled.

00:04:19 - The topic of self-care and how it relates to being a parent and professional is addressed. Carly and Adina talk about the importance of assessing one's capacity daily to adequately allocate energy to different aspects of life, including self-care. 00:05:12 - Carly emphasizes the societal pressure on women, particularly mothers, to "do it all" and how unhealthy this expectation can be. She advocates for a more balanced approach that allows for personal well-being and fulfillment.

00:06:03 - Adina reflects on her own experience, resonating with Carly's journey. They discuss the societal and internal pressures parents face, highlighting the importance of making personal choices that lead to happiness and balance.

00:07:07 - Carly recounts a breaking point caused by workplace toxicity, which reinforced her decision to change careers. This moment of clarity led her to prioritize her well-being and family life over societal expectations of success.

00:08:07 - The positive impact of Carly's career change on her family is highlighted. Working from home and having more control over her work-life balance has led to a more fulfilling and happy family life.

00:09:09 - Carly speaks to the empowerment that comes from making life changes for one's happiness and well-being. She encourages listeners to not be afraid of changing their path, as personal growth often requires new directions.

00:10:03 - The discussion shifts to how societal expectations can clash with personal needs and happiness. Both Carly and Adina share their experiences with career changes and how these decisions were critical to finding personal and family happiness.

00:11:06 - Carly's entrance into the world of resin art as a form of self-care and creative expression is explored. This new passion provided her with a therapeutic outlet and a way to connect with her interests and talents.

00:12:24 - The conversation concludes with a focus on Carly's social media presence, where she aims to support other parents with resources, tips, and personal experiences. Her journey underscores the importance of finding one's path to happiness and fulfillment.

Key Takeaways

Finding a balance between professional aspirations and family life is crucial for personal happiness and well-being. The concept of giving 100% doesn't mean splitting your energy equally among tasks but understanding your limits and allocating your energy in a way that aligns with your values and needs.

Social support and community can significantly impact mental health and parenting. Finding or creating spaces that offer support and understanding can be incredibly beneficial.

Self-care is not only about personal relaxation but also about making life choices that reflect one's true needs and desires, even if that means making significant changes.

Tweetable Quotes

"You're enough, no matter what you're giving and no matter what your situation is." - Carly Shoulders

"It's not feasible to give your all to every aspect of life every single day." - Carly Shoulders

"We're all human, we're all in this together, and you are enough no matter what." - Carly Shoulders

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In this episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes John Schlimm, a Harvard-trained educator, artist advocate, and author, to discuss the complexities of Generation Z, focusing particularly on their mental health challenges and societal impacts. Exploring John's journey into becoming an advocate for Gen Z's mental health, the episode delves into the reasons behind the high suicide rates in this generation, the role of social media, and how Gen Z is reshaping the conversation around mental health. The discussion also touches on the importance of communication across generations and offers insights into tackling mental health issues head-on.

Episode Highlights:

00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and today's guest, John Schlimm, highlighting his work on unveiling the multifaceted identity of Generation Z, beyond stereotypes and media profiling. She underscores John’s innovative collaborations in art and mental health initiatives, aiming to foster a deeper understanding of Gen Z’s unique challenges and strengths.

00:01:21: John shares his initial engagement with Generation Z, noting the generational shift he experienced while teaching. His story reveals an unexpected journey into the heart of Gen Z’s world, highlighting their openness and bravery in discussing mental health issues, which markedly sets them apart from previous generations.

00:02:35: A dialogue on the importance of educators in understanding and connecting with Gen Z unfolds. John emphasizes the value of sitting down and engaging directly with young people, urging fellow educators to listen and learn from their students' experiences, especially regarding mental health.

00:03:39: John dives deeper into the mental health crisis facing Gen Z, discussing its complexity and the lack of a single, definitive reason behind the high suicide rates. He challenges common assumptions and sheds light on the disparity between Gen Z's willingness to discuss mental health and society’s readiness to listen and support them.

00:06:10: Unpacking the paradox of Gen Z’s high suicide rates alongside their forwardness in discussing mental health, John suggests that societal and individual factors play significant roles. He stresses the need for genuine conversation and listening to understand the depths of Gen Z’s experiences without simplifying their struggles.

00:09:12: Addressing stereotypes and misunderstandings about Gen Z, John advocates for a shift in perspective among older adults. Reflecting on how stigmas and preconceptions affect both the listener and the sharer, he highlights the transformative potential of open, non-judgmental communication in bridging generational gaps.

00:10:44: An unexpected moment with surprise fireworks becomes a metaphor for the unpredictability and vibrancy of working with Gen Z. John connects this delightful interruption to the essence of embracing unexpected insights and joyful interactions that can emerge from genuine engagement with young people.

00:12:39: In discussing broader mental health implications, John suggests that lessons from engaging with Gen Z can be applicable across all ages, including surprising demographics such as senior citizens. He emphasizes the universal need for more open conversations about mental health and suicide prevention.

00:21:52: As the episode wraps up, Adina thanks John for his insights and shares with the audience where to find more information about his work. The conversation concludes on a note of hope and encouragement for continuing to build bridges of understanding and support across generations.

Key Takeaways:

• Generation Z is unprecedentedly open about mental health issues, setting a new standard for discussions around depression, anxiety, and suicide. Their readiness to share presents an opportunity for societal advancement in mental health awareness.

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• The high suicide rates among Gen Z underscore a complex interplay of individual, societal, and systemic factors, with no single cause. It calls for a nuanced, empathetic approach to mental health discussions and support.

• Engaging directly and respectfully with Gen Z (and all individuals facing mental health challenges) can lead to deeper understanding and solutions. Open dialogue, free from judgment and preconceptions, is crucial.

• The episode emphasizes the importance of listening and learning from younger generations, highlighting that mental health is a universal issue that transcends age and other demographics.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "By merely saying words like anxiety and depression, Generation Z has made a historical leap in mental health awareness." - John Schlimm

• "Sitting down and talking to young people will teach you more than any research study or book ever could." - John Schlimm

• "We're not pointing fingers; let's just have a conversation." - John Schlimm

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In this episode of the Helping Channels Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Leah Day, a former clinical social worker turned cycling enthusiast and shop owner. They delve into Leah's journey from counseling to cycling, her family adventures, and how these experiences culminated in her decision to write a memoir. Listeners will get a glimpse into the transformative power of pursuing one's passions and the unexpected paths life can take.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, its goals, and today's guest, Leah Day. Robbins outlines his background and sets the stage for an engaging conversation about the intertwining paths of family, love, relationships, and personal growth through Leah Day's experiences.

00:01:00 - Leah shares her transition from a clinical social worker to opening Lighthouse Bikes, reflecting on how her previous career and passion for cycling merge to create unique experiences for her and others. Her story underscores the theme of finding new avenues for personal and professional fulfillment.

00:01:58 - The discussion turns to Leah's extensive biking journeys, including her acclaimed bicycle ride across the United States with her youngest son, Oakley. She touches on the impact of adventure and challenge in fostering growth and transition, highlighting her contributions to adventure cycling publications and other media.

00:02:38 - Leah opens up about recent biking adventures in Morocco and Spain, bringing to life her experiences in the Riff Mountains and the unique situations she found herself in due to the locales she chose to explore.

00:03:49 - The conversation shifts to Leah's memoir, "Changing Gears," focusing on the motivation behind documenting her and her son's cross-country cycling journey. This segues into a deeper discussion on the therapeutic aspects of writing and journaling.

00:06:04 - Leah and Christopher discuss the process of writing a memoir, including the initial challenges, the role of blogging and journaling, and the importance of making personal stories public for broader impact.

00:08:14 - Leah reflects on the feedback from readers of her memoir and how sharing personal stories can inspire and support others in their own life journeys.

00:11:31 - The episode culminates with Leah sharing her favorite part of her memoir, a profound moment of role reversal with her son, which encapsulates the theme of growth and the deepening of their relationship through their shared adventure.

Key Takeaways

• Transitions in career and life can lead to fulfilling new paths that weave together personal passions and professional experiences.
• Documenting journeys, whether through blogs, journals, or memoirs, can be therapeutic and offers a reflective insight into personal growth and understanding.
• Stories hold power, and sharing them can inspire, connect, and impact others in meaningful ways, encouraging everyone to explore their own adventures and challenges.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Part of the journey is becoming the kind of person who could take care of somebody else." - Leah Day
• "Writing about it really helped me figure out what was exciting to me for the next chapter of my life." - Leah Day
• "If we tell each other our stories, we're actually helping each other. We're not just talking about ourselves." - Leah Day

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In this episode, Host Christopher Robbins and guest Mary Potter Kenyon dive into the art of memoir writing, exploring the importance of honesty and transparency in documenting life stories. They discuss the challenges and rewards of writing memoirs, providing insights on how to share personal stories with truth and courage. Through their conversation, listeners are encouraged to embrace their voice and experiences, whether writing for personal reflection or publication.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, himself, and guest Mary Potter Kenyon. The introduction frames the episode's focus on memoir writing, emphasizing the value of recording life's significant moments. Christopher's extensive personal background sets a welcoming and relatable stage for the conversation.

00:01:37 - Mary Potter Kenyon expresses gratitude for joining the podcast. This brief interaction establishes a warm and engaging tone between the host and guest, setting the stage for a deeper exploration of memoir writing and its impacts.

00:01:39 - Christopher queries Mary on her extensive writing experience, leading to a discussion on the volume of words one writes over a lifetime. This segment humorously segues into contemplation on the journey and effort involved in refining writing skills.

00:02:36 - Mary differentiates between memoir and autobiography, highlighting memoir as a space for capturing specific life episodes with emotional depth. This segment illuminates the memoir's purpose in storytelling, underscoring its personal nature.

00:03:29 - The dialogue evolves into the structure of memoirs, distinguishing between short memoirs and book-length narratives. Mary offers insights into the craft of writing concise yet meaningful narratives, emphasizing the importance of each word in conveying personal stories effectively.

00:06:34 - Transparency in memoir writing is examined, with Mary stressing the necessity of honesty in sharing personal stories. This part deepens the conversation about the ethics and responsibilities of memoir writing, reflecting on how personal truths can connect with and impact readers.

00:09:08 - The discussion shifts to the therapeutic and healing aspects of memoir writing, exploring how writing can serve as a tool for personal reflection and understanding. Mary shares personal anecdotes to illustrate how writing can be a powerful means of processing and expressing experiences.

00:12:23 - Mary provides practical advice for aspiring memoir writers, including the importance of identifying the memoir's purpose and capturing life's pivotal moments. This guidance offers listeners a starting point for their writing journey, encouraging reflection on what stories they wish to tell.

00:17:31 - The topic of finding one's voice in writing is broached, with Mary discussing the authenticity required to make memoirs resonate. This segment demystifies the process of writing in one's voice, encouraging writers to be genuine and unafraid of expressing their true selves.

00:20:49 - Mary concludes with encouragement for potential writers, emphasizing the act of writing itself over the pursuit of publication. This closing message reinforces the episode's theme of memoir writing as a valuable and rewarding practice, regardless of the outcome.

Key Takeaways

Writing a memoir requires honesty and transparency to truly resonate with readers and provide therapeutic benefits to the writer. Memoir writing is a versatile form allowing for both short-form essays and longer, book-length narratives, each serving to capture and share fragments of life's experiences.

The practice of writing memoirs can serve as a powerful tool for personal healing, reflection, and connection with others, highlighting the uniqueness of individual stories.

Finding one’s voice is essential in memoir writing, emphasizing authenticity and encouraging writers to stay true to their experiences and emotions.

Tweetable Quotes

"Memoir is a glimpse into a person's life that serves to connect us through shared human experiences." - Mary Potter Kenyon

"Be brave and transparent in your writing; it’s through vulnerability that we truly resonate with others." - Mary Potter Kenyon

"Don't write to publish, write to express, to heal, and to share. The rest will follow." - Mary Potter Kenyon

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins and guest Richard Hill delve into the transformative power of genetic genealogy for adoptees searching for their roots. Hill shares his personal journey of discovering his biological family through DNA testing and discusses the evolution of genealogical research tools. The conversation illuminates the emotional and practical aspects of unearthing one's origins, marking an inspiring intersection of technology and human curiosity.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast episode, highlighting its focus on family, love, and relationships. Robbins details his background and introduces guest Richard Hill, who discusses his experience as an adoptee finding his biological family through DNA tests.

00:01:44: Richard Hill expresses gratitude for being part of the episode and anticipates sharing his story.

00:01:47: Robbins probes into Hill’s motivation for exploring his family history. Hill elaborates on his late discovery of being adopted and his subsequent quest to uncover his biological origins, emphasizing how societal norms of the past differed from today. 00:03:26: Hill recounts the process of finding his biological family, underscoring the years of research involved, the eventual identification of his birth parents through DNA analysis, and the expansion of his family tree with newfound relatives.

00:05:13: The conversation shifts to the broader impacts of Hill’s journey, discussing the lessons learned, the significance of understanding one’s roots, and the legal barriers adoptees face in accessing their original birth records.

00:06:03: Discussing the evolution of research tools over the decades, Hill highlights how advances in technology, especially the internet and DNA testing, have revolutionised genealogical research, making it accessible to a wider audience.

00:07:22: Robbins jokes about the potential for discovering family secrets through DNA testing, illustrating both the intrigue and the cautionary aspects of delving into genetic genealogy.

00:07:31: Hill shares practical advice for individuals interested in exploring their family history, stressing the value of DNA testing and online genealogical resources in piecing together one’s heritage.

00:10:15: Hill explains his decision to document his search in a book, aiming to guide and inspire others in similar quests. He reflects on the supportive feedback received from readers and the broader genealogical community.

00:12:16: Robbins highlights the positive reviews of Hill’s book and inquires about feedback from readers. Hill shares experiences of connecting with others through his story, emphasizing the transformative power of understanding one’s origins.

00:13:20: Offering advice to those new to genealogy, Hill recommends starting with foundational research and embracing DNA testing for its potential to unlock personal histories and connect with biological relatives.

00:15:19: Hill shares resources and ways for listeners to engage with his work and learn more about DNA testing, directing the audience to his website and social media profiles.

Key Takeaways

Understanding one's origins through DNA testing not only satisfies curiosity but also enriches one's sense of identity and connection to the past.

Technological advancements have dramatically increased accessibility to genealogical research, empowering individuals with tools and resources to explore their family history.

The legal and societal barriers that once hindered adoptees from accessing their birth records are slowly being dismantled, thanks in large part to the advocacy of individuals like Richard Hill.

Embracing one's family history, whether biological or adopted, adds a significant layer of depth to personal narratives, fostering a greater appreciation for the complexities of family and identity.

Tweetable Quotes

"You just really can't have too much family." - Richard Hill

"DNA has led to many surprises." - Richard Hill

"90% of the surprises are either good or neutral, but be prepared." - Richard Hill

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In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Adina Oberman welcomes Ashley Marie Mireles-Guerrero, a prominent figure in the book industry and co-founder of Judging by the Cover, a bookstore that focuses on amplifying historically marginalized voices. Together, they discuss the importance of accessible reading, the challenges and triumphs of running an independent bookstore, and the societal impact of inclusive literature.

Episode Highlights

00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast "Helping Families Be Happy," guest Ashley Mireles-Guerrero, and shares her professional background in the publishing industry and her advocacy for children's literature. This opening sets the stage for a discussion on the power of books in shaping family dynamics and child development.

00:01:47 - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero shares her journey into the book world, highlighting her multifaceted career and her role on various boards, reflecting on the impact these experiences have had on her perspective towards publishing and her drive to co-found Judging by the Cover bookstore.

00:02:20 - The conversation shifts to the experience of switching roles from a podcast host to a guest. Ashley touches on the unique experiences that come from her varied roles in the book industry and the fulfillment she finds in championing books and authors.

00:03:18 - Ashley dives deep into the motivations behind starting Judging by the Cover, incited by local library book challenges and the lack of independent bookstores in Fresno. She outlines the mission and goals of the bookstore to center historically marginalized authors.

00:04:15 - They discuss the rapid development of the bookstore, fueled by participation in a business incubator and community partnerships. This segment showcases the power of community and shared goals in creating impactful businesses.

00:05:18 - Ashley highlights the importance of Fresno's literary scene and the role Judging by the Cover plays in showcasing local authors and poets, emphasizing the bookstore’s dedication to promoting local talent and diverse voices.

00:06:13 - The conversation takes a closer look at the bookstore's unique approach to book curation based on themes rather than genre, aiming to make a wider range of books accessible to diverse audiences and promoting inclusivity through literature.

00:07:11 - Ashley elaborates on their thematic selection process for stocking books and organizing pop ups, which focuses on amplifying diverse voices and supporting small presses, revealing the careful thought and strategy behind their inventory choices.

00:08:16 - They discuss the challenges indie bookstores face in competing with Amazon, highlighting the importance of human connection in the book selection process, and sharing insights into the nuanced, hands-on approach that distinguishes independent bookstores from online retail giants.

00:09:14 - Ashley shares insights into the complexities of the book industry from a behind-the-scenes perspective, elaborating on the intricate process of book creation, distribution, and the pivotal role of indie bookstores in fostering a rich, diverse reading culture.

00:10:13 - The topic shifts to the economic and community impact of supporting independent bookstores over Amazon, underscoring the significance of keeping money within the community and supporting a diverse range of voices and stories.

00:11:05 - Ashley discusses the limitations of shopping for books on Amazon, pointing out the advantages of indie bookstores in discovering and supporting indie gems and BIPOC authors that may not be visible on major online platforms.

00:13:00 - Closing the discussion, Ashley highlights the importance of local community support for indie bookstores and shares how listeners can engage with and support Judging by the Cover, both online and in-person.

00:13:57 - Ashley mentions alternative ways to support indie bookstores, such as bookshop.org, providing a strategy for readers to contribute to the sustainability of indie bookstores while still enjoying the convenience of online shopping.

00:15:02 - The episode concludes with Ashley sharing where listeners can find and engage with Judging by the Cover online, encouraging support for indie bookstores and highlighting the importance of reading diverse stories.

Key Takeaways

Independently-owned bookstores play a crucial role in promoting diversity and inclusivity in literature by spotlighting historically marginalized voices and offering a curated selection that challenges mainstream narratives.

Community and shared values are powerful drivers for change and innovation within the book industry, as demonstrated by the rapid growth and impact of Judging by the Cover: A Bookstore.

Supporting indie bookstores over large online retailers benefits both readers and communities, enriching the literary landscape with diverse perspectives and ensuring that more voices are heard and represented. The personal touch and expert knowledge provided by indie bookstores offer a valuable and irreplaceable resource for finding books that speak to a wide array of interests and experiences, encouraging exploration beyond mainstream selections.

Tweetable Quotes

"It's kind of like a joke that Fresno is the armpit of California, but we have national bestselling authors." - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero

"You can't type that into Amazon and get a good book as a result." - Ashley Mireles-Guerrero on the importance of human interaction in finding books.

"One step at a time, we can make the world a happier place." - Adina Oberman on the mission of their podcast.

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In this heartwarming episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes award-winning author Kimberlee Gard to discuss the power of storytelling, overcoming reading challenges, and the importance of accessible literature for children. Kimberly shares her personal journey with dyslexia and how it led to the creation of her beloved "Languages Fun Series." The conversation delves deep into strategies for supporting children with language development, embracing the joys of reading, and the impactful role of books in family life.

Episode Highlights:

00:00:09 - Introduction: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, its goals, and today's guest, Kimberlee Gard. She outlines Kimberly's accomplishments as an author and her contributions to children's literature through engaging storybooks featured on streaming platforms.

00:01:18 - Kimberly's Inspiration: Kimberly shares the origins of her "Languages Fun Series." Growing up with dyslexia, she faced significant challenges in reading, which led her to craft books that transform letters and punctuation into relatable characters for children. Her personal experiences with her children influenced these creations.

00:02:04 - Welcoming Kimberlee Gard: Kimberly expresses her excitement about being part of the podcast, acknowledging the positive reception of her books among parents, teachers, and children.

00:02:37 - The Genesis of Languages Fun Series: Kimberly delves deeper into the conceptualization of her series, emphasizing the struggles she observed in her own children with reading. This observation sparked the creative process behind making learning materials that are more approachable and memorable for young readers.

00:03:44 - Journey to Publication: Guard discusses the lengthy journey from the idea inception to the publication of her books. She stresses the patience and persistence required in the publishing industry, alongside the importance of marrying visual art with storytelling through collaboration with illustrators.

00:04:34 - Addressing Reading Challenges: Through sharing personal stories, Kimberly highlights the universal struggle of learning to read and how challenges can foster creativity and innovative solutions, such as her book series.

00:06:08 - Supporting Children with Learning Differences: Guard provides invaluable advice for parents and teachers on recognizing and nurturing children's unique learning styles. She advocates for early assessment and intervention to empower children with the tools they need to succeed.

00:07:14 - The Importance of Understanding Learning Differences: Kimberly discusses how identifying and understanding her son's dyslexia helped her family approach learning in a more tailored and effective manner.

00:08:36 - Simple Tools for Reading Success: Sharing practical tips, Kimberly illustrates how small adjustments and tools can make substantial differences in aiding children with dyslexia.

00:09:43 - Advocating for Early Intervention: Adina and Kimberly discuss the benefits of early diagnosis and tailored learning strategies for children facing reading difficulties.

00:10:33 - Embracing Individual Learning Paths: Adina reinforces the concept that acknowledging and strategizing around each child's specific learning needs paves the way for their success and confidence.

00:11:55 - Addressing Educational Challenges: Kimberly points out the systemic challenges in classrooms that can hinder individualized attention and emphasizes the role of parents in filling these gaps.

00:12:56 - Empowering Children through Understanding: Through anecdotal evidence, Guard illustrates the transformative power of understanding and aligning educational efforts with a child's unique perspective and challenges.

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00:13:55 - Finding Motivation in Interests: The conversation shifts towards leveraging children's interests to fuel their passion for reading, showcasing the effectiveness of tailored content in engaging young readers.

00:16:12 - Exploring Creative Reading Initiatives: Kimberly and Adina touch on the joys and benefits of community resources like Little Free Libraries in encouraging reading and sharing among children.

00:16:58 - Sneak Peek into New Book: Kimberly provides a glimpse into her upcoming book in the "Languages Fun Series," emphasizing its educational value and the incorporation of themes around diversity and empowerment.

00:18:36 - Conclusion and Thanks: Adina concludes the episode by thanking Kimberly for sharing her insights and encourages listeners to explore Fami's resources for more inspiring stories and educational content.

Key Takeaways:

1. Identifying and addressing reading challenges early can make a significant difference in a child's educational journey.
2. Personalized learning strategies and tools are crucial in supporting children with dyslexia and other learning differences.
3. Books and stories that resonate with children's interests can greatly enhance their motivation and love for reading.
4. Understanding a child's unique learning needs allows parents and educators to adopt more effective and supportive approaches.
5. Community resources and innovative projects like Little Free Libraries can inspire a love for reading and sharing among young learners.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Transforming letters into characters can turn reading challenges into engaging adventures." - Kimberlee Gard

• "Every child learns differently. Embracing this can change the way we approach education." - Kimberlee Gard

• "Books are not just about reading; they're about exploring, learning, and growing together as a family." - Adina Oberman

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In today's episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes Melissa Taylor, founder of Imagination Soup, former teacher, and a passionate advocate for reading among children. Together, they delve into strategies for encouraging young readers, especially those hesitant or reluctant to pick up a book. Their conversation also explores the role of technology in reading, summer reading tips, and how to make reading an enjoyable and integral part of family life.

Episode Highlights:

00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, its alignment with Fami's habits of "Read Together and Learn Together", and her guest Melissa Taylor. Adina's background as a mom, former teacher, and creator of Big Books for Little Hands sets the stage for a rich discussion on children's literature and engaging young readers.

00:01:18: Melissa Taylor shares her journey from a preschool teacher to the founder of Imagination Soup, highlighting her passion for connecting parents, teachers, and children with enriching reading materials. This segment illuminates Melissa's extensive experience and dedication to inspiring a love of reading in children.

00:02:55: The conversation pivots to strategies for encouraging reluctant readers, emphasizing the importance of linking reading material to children's interests, such as sports or other hobbies. Melissa underscores the value of patience, personalization, and persistence in fostering a child's love for reading.

00:03:58: Melissa and Adina discuss the challenge of competing with screens for children's attention and the potential of diverse materials, including magazines and graphic novels, to engage young readers effectively. This part of the episode offers practical advice for expanding beyond traditional books to captivate young audiences.

00:04:45: Tips for maintaining reading momentum during summer are shared, focusing on the significance of choice and ownership in what children read. Melissa suggests approaches like book picnics and pairing books with related activities to make summer reading more appealing.

00:06:21: The conversation underscores the crucial role of setting up children for successful reading experiences through strategies like the five finger test and simplifying the book selection process. Melissa's insights demonstrate how proactive support can enrich children's reading journey.

00:07:14: Melissa and Adina highlight the importance of incorporating reading into daily routines, suggesting innovative approaches such as reading during meals to create dedicated time for books amidst busy schedules.

00:08:04: They explore the potential of nonfiction books to retain interest among children who may not be drawn to traditional narratives. This segment acknowledges the broad spectrum of reading materials that can captivate young minds.

00:10:45: The role of technology in supporting reading is examined, with a focus on eBooks and audiobooks as valuable resources for interactive and engaging reading experiences. Melissa recommends leveraging digital tools to enhance accessibility and engagement in reading.

00:13:18: Adina and Melissa discuss the educational power of audiobooks, highlighting their ability to build vocabulary, comprehension skills, and a love for storytelling through listening.

00:15:09: The significance of perseverance in finding the right reading strategies and materials for each child is emphasized, with Melissa sharing her belief in the value of experimentation and flexibility in cultivating a reader's mindset.

00:17:06: Melissa shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the enduring relevance of picture books and the joy of rediscovering them as children grow. This segment serves as a reminder of the timeless appeal and educational value of picture books in developing literacy.

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00:20:46: The episode concludes with Melissa providing her contact information and inviting listeners to explore more resources on Imagination Soup, encouraging continued engagement with reading strategies and support.

Key Takeaways:

• Personal interests play a crucial role in engaging reluctant readers; by tailoring reading material to individual hobbies or preferences, parents and educators can spark a genuine interest in reading.

• Technology, when utilized thoughtfully, can be a powerful tool in promoting reading, offering interactive and immersive experiences that complement traditional reading.

• Consistency and flexibility in reading routines are essential for maintaining engagement, especially during breaks like summer. Incorporating reading into daily activities ensures that children continue to explore and enjoy literature. - Audiobooks offer a unique avenue for developing listening comprehension and storytelling skills, proving to be an effective alternative to traditional reading for many children.

• Perseverance and adaptation are key in fostering a reading habit; what works for one child may not work for another, emphasizing the need for ongoing experimentation and open-mindedness in encouraging reading.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Connecting a child's personal interests to their reading material is the first step towards unlocking a world of literature." - Melissa Taylor

• "Technology and books are not opponents; when used together, they create an enriching reading experience." - Melissa Taylor

• "Never underestimate the power of a book in the hands of a curious child." - Melissa Taylor

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In this episode, host Adina Oberman welcomes John Schlimm, a Harvard-trained educator, artist advocate, and author, to discuss the complexities of Generation Z, focusing particularly on their mental health challenges and societal impacts. Exploring John's journey into becoming an advocate for Gen Z's mental health, the episode delves into the reasons behind the high suicide rates in this generation, the role of social media, and how Gen Z is reshaping the conversation around mental health. The discussion also touches on the importance of communication across generations and offers insights into tackling mental health issues head-on.

Episode Highlights:

00:00:09: Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and today's guest, John Schlimm, highlighting his work on unveiling the multifaceted identity of Generation Z, beyond stereotypes and media profiling. She underscores John's innovative collaborations in art and mental health initiatives, aiming to foster a deeper understanding of Gen Z’s unique challenges and strengths.

00:01:21: John shares his initial engagement with Generation Z, noting the generational shift he experienced while teaching. His story reveals an unexpected journey into the heart of Gen Z’s world, highlighting their openness and bravery in discussing mental health issues, which markedly sets them apart from previous generations.

00:02:35: A dialogue on the importance of educators in understanding and connecting with Gen Z unfolds. John emphasizes the value of sitting down and engaging directly with young people, urging fellow educators to listen and learn from their students' experiences, especially regarding mental health.

00:03:39: John dives deeper into the mental health crisis facing Gen Z, discussing its complexity and the lack of a single, definitive reason behind the high suicide rates. He challenges common assumptions and sheds light on the disparity between Gen Z's willingness to discuss mental health and society's readiness to listen and support them.

00:06:10: Unpacking the paradox of Gen Z's high suicide rates alongside their forwardness in discussing mental health, John suggests that societal and individual factors play significant roles. He stresses the need for genuine conversation and listening to understand the depths of Gen Z's experiences without simplifying their struggles.

00:09:12: Addressing stereotypes and misunderstandings about Gen Z, John advocates for a shift in perspective among older adults. Reflecting on how stigmas and preconceptions affect both the listener and the sharer, he highlights the transformative potential of open, non-judgmental communication in bridging generational gaps.

00:10:44: An unexpected moment with surprise fireworks becomes a metaphor for the unpredictability and vibrancy of working with Gen Z. John connects this delightful interruption to the essence of embracing unexpected insights and joyful interactions that can emerge from genuine engagement with young people.

00:12:39: In discussing broader mental health implications, John suggests that lessons from engaging with Gen Z can be applicable across all ages, including surprising demographics such as senior citizens. He emphasizes the universal need for more open conversations about mental health and suicide prevention.

00:21:52: As the episode wraps up, Adina thanks John for his insights and shares with the audience where to find more information about his work. The conversation concludes on a note of hope and encouragement for continuing to build bridges of understanding and support across generations.

Key Takeaways:

• Generation Z is unprecedentedly open about mental health issues, setting a new standard for discussions around depression, anxiety, and suicide. Their readiness to share presents an opportunity for societal advancement in mental health awareness.

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• The high suicide rates among Gen Z underscore a complex interplay of individual, societal, and systemic factors, with no single cause. It calls for a nuanced, empathetic approach to mental health discussions and support.

• Engaging directly and respectfully with Gen Z (and all individuals facing mental health challenges) can lead to deeper understanding and solutions. Open dialogue, free from judgment and preconceptions, is crucial.

• The episode emphasizes the importance of listening and learning from younger generations, highlighting that mental health is a universal issue that transcends age and other demographics.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "By merely saying words like anxiety and depression, Generation Z has made a historical leap in mental health awareness." - John Schlimm

• "Sitting down and talking to young people will teach you more than any research study or book ever could." - John Schlimm

• "We're not pointing fingers; let's just have a conversation." - John Schlimm

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In this inspiring episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins sits down with Louise Webster, author and founder of BeyondtheSchoolRun.com, to explore revolutionary approaches for mothers to utilize their skills and talents while their children are at school. The conversation delves deep into the potential for parents to maintain their professional growth and personal fulfillment during the parenting years, highlighting the importance of flow, autonomy, and purpose in achieving a balanced life.

Episode Highlights:

00:00:10 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast's focus on family, love, relationships, and the day's guest, Louise Webster, discussing her mission with Beyondtheschoolrun.com and her book, "A New Way For Mothers." Robbins ties the discussion back to the Famis habits' theme of learning together, establishing the episode's purpose to explore how mothers can integrate their professional and personal growth during their children's school hours.

00:01:23 - Louise Webster expresses gratitude for the platform to share her work and book, setting the stage for a comprehensive exploration of Beyond the School Run's goals, her inspiration for its creation, and the impact it aims to have on mothers looking for fulfillment beyond traditional parenting roles.

00:01:43 - Webster details the inception of Beyond the School Run, its mission to empower mothers personally and professionally, and her motivation stemmed from personal experience and the observed need for a supportive community for mothers in transition periods. This initiates the discussion on the movement towards flexible, meaningful work aligned with parenting responsibilities.

00:04:33 - The conversation shifts towards the evolving landscape of work opportunities for mothers and parents at home, highlighting the shift in corporate attitudes toward remote work and flexible schedules. Webster underscores the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency, responsibility, and the unique perspectives parents bring to the professional world.

00:07:48 - Christopher Robbins links the discussion to the broader theme of autonomy, mastery, and purpose in unlocking personal motivation, touching on societal shifts towards accommodating and valuing the parenting role alongside professional aspirations.

00:08:43 - The focus turns to practical advice for parents looking to rediscover or redefine their professional interests and talents during the limited hours when their children are in school. Webster offers strategies for self-exploration, staying present, and testing new paths, illustrating the process of aligning personal growth with parenting.

00:12:27 - Webster shares insights on the diverse skill sets and professions of individuals within the Beyond the School Run community, highlighting the emergence of new business models and career paths catalyzed by parenting experiences. This segment showcases real-world examples of mothers transitioning into fulfilling careers by harnessing their experiences and skills developed through parenting.

00:16:48 - The concept of "the genius of the and" is introduced, celebrating the ability to fulfill parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams and professional goals. This key moment underscores the episode's message of empowering parents to embrace both family life and personal aspirations without compromise.

00:18:22 - As the episode nears its conclusion, Webster encourages parents facing the transition of their children back to school to take proactive steps towards their own personal and professional development. She emphasizes the importance of vocalizing and acting on their desires as a pathway to fulfillment and empowerment.

00:20:17 - Louise Webster shares where listeners can find more information about Beyond the School Run, including her book, "A New Way For Mothers," her platform's growing community, and the resources available to support parents in their journey towards integrating parenting and professional growth.

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Key Takeaways:

• The landscape of work and parenthood is evolving, with increasing opportunities for mothers and parents to pursue professional interests and personal growth alongside their parenting responsibilities.

• Autonomy, mastery, and purpose are key to unlocking personal motivation and fulfillment, especially for parents navigating the balance between family life and professional ambitions.

• Open conversations and community support are vital in helping parents identify and pursue their passions and talents during the parenting years, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Empower mothers personally and professionally through Beyond the School Run." - Louise Webster
• "Unlock the untapped value in the parent workforce, emphasizing efficiency and responsibility." - Louise Webster - "The genius of the and - fulfilling parenting roles while pursuing personal dreams." - Christopher Robbins

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In this engaging episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman taps into the wisdom of writer and memoirist Pam Lobley to tackle the challenges of modern family schedules and the lost art of free play. Pam shares insights from her own experiences of letting her children enjoy a summer free of scheduled activities, diving into the benefits and hurdles of unstructured playtime. The episode serves as a reminder of the value of simplicity in our fast-paced world, emphasizing the importance of fostering creativity and imagination in children through the power of play.

Episode Highlights:

00:09: Adina Oberman warmly introduces the podcast, sharing her multifaceted role as a mom, former preschool teacher, and a member of the Famis marketing team, as well as her enthusiasm for children's literature through her project, big books for little hands. She welcomes Pam Lobley, a renowned writer recognized for her columns in major publications and her memoir focused on the joys of unstructured play for over-scheduled children.

01:40: Pam expresses her excitement about joining the podcast and delves into the backstory of her book "Why Can't We Just Play?" She illuminates the overwhelming nature of modern parenting, where the pressure to enroll children in numerous activities can overshadow the simple pleasures of childhood.

02:49: Through a heartfelt recount of a night that changed her perspective, Pam describes her realization that her children craved unstructured play. This epiphany led to a transformative summer where her family embraced the freedom of play without the confines of a packed schedule, exploring the resulting benefits and challenges.

04:11: The conversation shifts to the critical difference between structured and unstructured play, with Adina and Pam discussing the invaluable role of free time in fostering children's creativity, decision-making, and self-exploration, contrasting this with the often achievement-focused nature of scheduled activities.

05:34: Pam offers practical advice for parents struggling to incorporate free play into their daily routines. She emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries around screen time and creating opportunities for children to engage in self-directed play, advocating for parental involvement without directing the play itself.

07:32: Highlighting the educational aspect of play, Pam underscores how unstructured playtime can teach children crucial life skills such as empathy, self-awareness, and moral judgment through natural interactions rather than adult instruction.

09:36: Reflecting on the modern parenting dilemma of balancing technology use with active play, Adina discusses the common scenario of parents being physically present but mentally distracted by devices. Pam stresses the importance of being fully engaged and setting an example of prioritizing real-world interactions over screen time.

11:31: Pam shares strategies for managing screen time, including establishing specific rules around its use based on weather and time of day. She advocates for consistency in enforcing these rules and believes that, over time, children come to appreciate and prefer the freedom and joy that comes with less screen dependence.

14:13: Offering further advice, Pam highlights the importance of community and spousal support in facilitating unstructured play, suggesting that parents connect with like-minded families and work together with their partners to create a supportive environment for their children's free play.

19:28: As the episode concludes, Pam provides listeners with ways to connect with her online and reiterates the significant value of embracing the freedom of summer to foster happy, well-rounded children.

Key Takeaways:

• Structured activities, while beneficial, need to be balanced with ample time for unstructured play, which is critical for children's creativity, emotional growth, and physical well-being.

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• Parents play a crucial role in setting the stage for free play by minimizing screen time, establishing clear routines, and actively encouraging children to engage in self-directed activities.

• Building a support system, whether through family or community connections, is essential in promoting and sustaining the practice of free play in a technology-driven world.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Simplicity in play opens the door to boundless creativity and learning for children." - Pam Lobley

• "Being present isn't just about sharing space; it's about sharing moments." - Adina Oberman

• "The best gifts we can give our children are time, freedom, and the space to explore." - Pam Lobley

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In this enlightening episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman is joined by Emily Liebel, an enthusiastic advocate for combining children's literature with outdoor adventures to create enriching experiences for families. As they delve into the concept of micro-adventuring. They share practical tips on making outdoor activities both accessible and educational, leveraging local landscapes to spark creativity and learning. Their conversation underscores the importance of incorporating reading into family routines, especially in connection to exploring the natural world.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00:09 - Adina Oberman introduces the podcast, emphasizing its focus on family, love, relationships, and the unique blend of reading and outdoor activities to enrich family life. Adina highlights her background and passion for children's literature and introduces guest Emily Liebel, who shares her insights on using books to enhance outdoor adventures.

• 00:01:21 - Emily rejoins the podcast to delve deeper into the concept of micro adventuring, explaining its origins and how it can be tailored to fit any family's lifestyle. This part of the conversation offers families a new perspective on adventure, making it simple, accessible, and a source of joy and discovery close to home.

• 00:02:23 - The similarity between micro adventuring and the concept of "staycation" is discussed, reflecting on how the pandemic inspired families to find adventure close to home. Emily and Adina talk about the simplicity of micro adventures and how they can make everyday surroundings exciting and new for both adults and children.

• 00:03:20 - Emily shares her approach to inclusive planning for micro adventures, incorporating her children's interests to ensure every family member is engaged and involved. This segment stresses the importance of including children in the planning process, enhancing their investment in the activities and their outcomes.

• 00:04:27 - The conversation reveals how micro adventuring also serves as an educational tool, making each outing a hands-on learning experience through simple observations and explorations of local environments. Emily's practice of involving her children in planning helps tailor each adventure to their interests, fostering a deeper connection to the natural world.

• 00:05:49 - Emily recounts her family's experiences during the pandemic, utilizing nature preserves for micro adventuring as a means to engage her children with the environment in distinctive, educational ways, including observing wildlife and crafting homemade binoculars.

• 00:07:40 - Literacy and outdoor play are intertwined as Emily discusses using books like "Thankful Animals Thankful Me" and "A Tree for Me" from Famis to inspire and inform their outdoor adventures. This segment highlights how literature can deepen children's experiences and connections with nature through guided exploration and observation.

• 00:09:49 - Effective teaching methods that parallel outdoor micro adventuring experiences with classroom strategies are compared, celebrating the organic, powerful learning moments that arise when children engage deeply with both literature and nature.

• 00:10:56 - Emily offers practical advice and tips for families looking to embark on micro adventures, specifically during the summertime. She emphasizes the importance of simplicity, preparation, and making adventures accessible, regardless of a family's location or resources.

• 00:12:09 - Detailing a specific summer micro adventure, Emily describes how her family biked the Jordan River Trail, highlighting the value of exploring local areas and the joy found in simple, planned activities that focus on exploration and spending time together.

• 00:17:55 - Emily shares how inclusive library and Famis books integrate with the concept of micro adventuring, reinforcing the habits of happy families learn together, read together, and play together. This part underscores the natural synergy between reading, learning, and outdoor activities in fostering family happiness.

• 00:19:01 - The episode concludes with Emily offering final thoughts on the enriching benefits of micro adventuring, coupled with reading as powerful tools for family bonding, learning, and creating memorable experiences.

Key Takeaways:

1. Micro adventuring provides a simple, cost-effective way to explore the world around you, turning the familiar into avenues of adventure and discovery.
2. Inviting children into the planning process of outdoor activities not only fosters their creativity and investment but also enhances their learning and enjoyment.
3. Leveraging children's literature in connection with outdoor activities enriches the adventure, deepening the educational and emotional impact of those experiences.
4. Embracing the unplanned and spontaneous moments during micro adventures can lead to meaningful learning opportunities and deeper family bonds.
5. Incorporating the principles of Famis's happy family habits - learn together, read together, and play together - into everyday activities can create a well-rounded and joyful family life.

Tweetable Quotes:

• Micro adventuring turns the world around us into a playground of learning and discovery. - Emily

• Involving children in planning adventures not only deepens their engagement but also their connection to nature and learning. - Adina

• Books are windows into the world, and when paired with outdoor adventures, they become doors we walk through into new experiences. - Emily

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In this heartfelt episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familiars Publishing, engages with Lisa Sugarman, a noted author, nationally syndicated columnist, and mental health advocate. They delve into improving relationships and understanding when a loved one comes out as LGBTQ+. Through Lisa's professional and personal insights, the episode illuminates the complexities of family, love, and acceptance within the context of LGBTQ+ experiences.

Episode Highlights

• 00:00:09: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast theme, focusing on family, love, and relationships, and introduces Lisa Sugarman as the guest. He outlines her extensive background as an author, mental health advocate, and her involvement with the Trevor Project, underscoring her commitment to supporting LGBTQ+ youth.

• 00:01:18: Lisa's contributions to mental health awareness and LGBTQ+ advocacy are highlighted, including her writing and her role in supporting individuals facing suicide risk. Their discussion promises to explore navigating family and friend relationships within the LGBTQ+ context.

• 00:02:11: Lisa expresses her excitement about the conversation, setting a positive and engaging tone for the discussion. This moment further establishes the rapport and mutual respect between the host and guest, encouraging open dialogue.

• 00:02:16: The conversation shifts to the Trevor Project, with Lisa explaining its significance as a crisis support hotline for LGBTQ+ youth. She articulates the kinds of support provided, emphasizing the project's vital role in offering a lifeline to at-risk youth.

• 00:03:07: The discussion takes a deeper dive into the necessity of supporting LGBTQ+ individuals, with a particular focus on 'holding space' for those coming out. Lisa clarifies the concept of 'holding space' as a non-judgmental, supportive practice that acknowledges and validates personal experiences.

• 00:05:09: Lisa shares a poignant analogy to underline the importance of simply being present and listening when supporting someone who's grieving or revealing a significant part of their identity.

• 00:05:22: The role of genuine listening and asking open-ended questions when engaging with LGBTQ+ individuals is explored. This approach fosters a safe environment for personal revelations and strengthens support systems.

• 00:06:31: Lisa details how the Trevor Project approaches calls from individuals expressing suicidal thoughts, focusing on de-escalation and empowering callers to seek supportive resources. This segment underscores the critical nature of immediate and empathetic response to mental health crises.

• 00:08:43: Avoiding assumptions and the importance of understanding individual stories without prejudice are discussed. Emphasizing the necessity of keeping personal biases in check to support effectively.

• 00:09:21: Strategies for respectfully addressing and acknowledging people's preferred pronouns and identities are shared, underscoring the value of personal recognition and respect in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals.

• 00:10:25: Lisa reflects on her personal experiences with coming out stories within her family, emphasizing the transformative power of listening and accepting.

• 00:12:19: The significance of language and correct pronoun usage is highlighted as essential for validating and respecting individuals’ identities, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance.

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of empathy and action. Lisa encourages leveraging privilege to uplift and support marginalized communities.

• 00:16:08: The conversation concludes with an emphasis on love and respect for all individuals, regardless of their background or identity, reflecting on the potential for a more inclusive and compassionate world.

• 00:16:34: Christopher and Lisa encapsulate the core message of the podcast: meeting oneself and others with understanding and acceptance, no matter where they are in their journey.

Key Takeaways

• The importance of 'holding space' and listening non-judgmentally to support individuals as they share personal aspects of their identity.

• Effective communication, including correct pronoun usage, fosters respect and validation for LGBTQ+ individuals, contributing to their sense of safety and belonging.

• Leveraging privilege to advocate for and support underrepresented communities is crucial in building a more inclusive society.

• The power of empathy and unconditional love in creating supportive environments for individuals navigating their identity and mental health challenges.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Holding space for someone is not complicated; it is about listening in a non-judgmental way and letting them offload what’s on their heart." - Lisa Sugarman

• "The best thing we can do is close our mouth, open our ears, and listen." - Lisa Sugarman

• "We all have some kind of privilege; understanding that and leveraging it for the benefit of others is key." - Lisa Sugarman

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In this heartwarming episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman engages in an insightful and deeply personal conversation with Christopher Robbins, a devoted father of nine and the founder and CEO of Familius. Through their dialogue, they explore the multifaceted experiences of fatherhood, from the pivotal moments that define one's journey as a parent to the broader impacts of fatherhood on personal and professional growth. Christopher shares his unique perspectives on nurturing family relationships, maintaining work-life balance, and cultivating a household centered around love, learning, and laughter.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00:10: Adina warmly introduces the podcast, setting the stage for a discussion that delves into the complexities and joys of family life. She briefly outlines her background and her passion for connecting families with impactful literature, segueing into Christopher Robbins' rich history as a father, publisher, and advocate for family happiness.

• 00:01:19: Christopher recounts his journey from launching an arts magazine in Utah to becoming the CEO of Gibb Smith, highlighting his successes in the publishing industry alongside his growth as a father. This segment illuminates how his personal and professional lives intertwine, shaping his mission to support families through literature.

• 00:02:57 -“ 00:03:35: A lighthearted exchange reveals Christopher's nervous excitement about being on the other side of the mic, setting the tone for a candid and engaging conversation. His humility and openness pave the way for deeper discussions on fatherhood.

• 00:03:35: Christopher shares a transformative moment upon the birth of his first child, encapsulating the profound sense of responsibility and love that defines fatherhood. This anecdote serves as a powerful introduction to the theme of fatherhood as a journey of continuous learning and adaptation.

• 00:05:10 -“ 00:06:43: The discussion shifts to the meaningful shifts that occur once children enter one's life, focusing on the sacrifices and changes in priorities that parenting entails. Christopher's personal anecdotes provide tangible examples of how fatherhood necessitates a reevaluation of one's passions, interests, and daily routines.

• 00:07:25 -“ 00:08:07: Adina and Christopher discuss the challenges today's fathers face, comparing and contrasting them with those of past generations. The conversation highlights the impact of technology, societal expectations, and the changing landscape of parenthood.

• 00:08:07 -“ 00:12:02: Addressing the importance of mentorship and the role of fathers in model resilience, the discussion delves into strategies for navigating fatherhood amidst modern challenges. Christopher emphasizes the value of being present, the role of discipline balanced with understanding, and the long-term impact of imparting wisdom through action and example.

• 00:13:32 -“ 00:14:22: Light-hearted moments intersperse the conversation, underscoring the joy and humor that accompany the trials of parenting. Adina and Christopher share personal experiences that illustrate the unpredictable and rewarding nature of raising children.

• 00:14:22: Christopher offers sage advice to parents, stressing the significance of prioritizing family over career, sharing meals together as a way to foster communication, and setting aside quality time to strengthen family bonds. His reflections on nurturing relationships within the family unit are invaluable for anyone navigating the complexities of parenthood.

• 00:22:28 -“ 00:26:20: The episode concludes with Christopher's reflections on his upbringing and the mentors who shaped his approach to fatherhood. He advocates for the positive influence men can have in their communities and within their families, emphasizing the lasting impact of mentorship and engaged parenting.

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Key Takeaways:

1. Embrace the Journey: Fatherhood is a continuous process of learning, growth, and adaptation. Embrace the responsibility, love, and challenges that it brings.
2. Prioritize Relationships: The richness of family life comes from prioritizing relationships over material success. Time spent building and nurturing family bonds is invaluable.
3. Cultivate Open Communication: Shared meals and dedicated family time are crucial for fostering open communication. These moments are the foundation for a supportive and understanding family environment.
4. Balance Discipline with Love: Effective parenting involves a balance between discipline and understanding. By setting boundaries while showing love and support, parents can guide their children through life's challenges.
5. The Impact of Mentorship: Fathers and male mentors play a critical role in guiding the next generation. By leading with kindness, responsibility, and wisdom, they can leave a lasting impact on their children and communities.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Fatherhood is an adventure in patience, love, and laughter. Embrace every moment." -“ Christopher Robbins

• "Prioritize your family, your relationships, and the joy of being together above all else." -“ Christopher Robbins

• "In the journey of fatherhood, the best lessons are learned through love, laughter, and sometimes, a little bit of chaos." -“ Adina Oberman

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In this enriching episode, Christopher Robbins dives into a captivating discussion with Brad Berger, the ingenious mind behind countless family games. They traverse the realm of game creation and its profound impact on forming personal connections, enhancing family bonding, and fostering discoveries through play. This exploration uncovers the essence of games as tools for learning, engagement, and understanding within the dynamics of family and relationships.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00:09 - Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, setting the stage for an exploration into the significance of games in family bonding and relationships. Robbins, a father of nine and a figure of diverse interests, shares his vision of bringing insightful content on love, family, and life. His introduction lays a foundation for an engaging dialogue that promises to unravel the layers of creating meaningful connections through games.

• 00:01:10 - Brad Berger is introduced, offering a glimpse into his lifelong fascination with games and their developmental potential. This segment highlights Berger's journey from inventing games in childhood to using them as tools for education and social bonding. The narrative delves into how Berger's passion for games is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections among people, irrespective of their geographical locations.

• 00:01:54 - A warm exchange signals the start of the conversation, with Brad sharing his extensive experience in game creation. Through laughs and anecdotes, Brad reflects on how his unique approach to everyday conversations turning them into games reveals much about his creativity and passion for engaging people. This interaction not only opens up Brad's world of game invention but also sets a lighthearted and curious tone for the discussion.

• 00:03:01 to 00:03:37 - Brad discusses the sheer volume of games he has created, emphasizing his dedication and innovative approach to game design. He shares insights into his creative process, showcasing how constant experimentation and feedback have been crucial in refining his ideas. This portion offers listeners a behind-the-scenes look at the mind of a prolific game creator, highlighting both his creative prowess and the impact of his games on fostering connection.

• 00:04:05 - The discussion transitions into what games reveal about people, from competitiveness to creative tendencies. Brad's classification of players into quadrants based on their competitive nature provides a framework for understanding diverse personalities. This segment enriches the conversation by bringing to light the nuanced ways games can serve as mirrors to our behaviors and inclinations.

• 00:07:01 to 00:07:36 - Brad's observations on how people's competitive spirits evolve with age lend depth to the dialogue, revealing the transformative power of play across different life stages. This reflection on changing dynamics adds a layer of complexity to understanding how games can be adapted to suit varying age groups and competitiveness levels.

• 00:08:31 - The narrative explores the fundamental allure of games, touching upon the inherent human love for play, competition, and the journey of the game itself. Brad's insights into why games captivate us beyond mere winning unravel the emotional and psychological dimensions of gaming, making this segment pivotal in understanding games’ universal appeal.

• 00:10:04 - With a focus on crafting engaging games, Brad shares his methodology, revealing the diversity in game categories and the thoughtful consideration behind each creation. This detailed breakdown not only sheds light on Brad's creative process but also offers potential game designers valuable insights into crafting compelling gaming experiences.

• 00:14:01 - The conversation takes a practical turn, with Brad suggesting games suitable for road trips, illustrating his ability to tailor game experiences to different settings. Here, listeners gain practical tips on incorporating games into family travels, enriching the journey with interactive and fun learning moments.

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• 00:17:37 - As the discussion shifts towards dinner table games, Brad presents easily implementable game ideas that encourage family interaction and bonding during meal times. This advice underscores games' versatility and their power to transform mundane moments into opportunities for connection and discovery.

• 00:20:26 - Brad elaborates on adapting game experiences for various environments, including business settings, emphasizing preparation and customization. His approach to creating meaningful engagement across different contexts showcases the universal applicability of games as tools for connection.

• 00:22:03 - The episode touches upon resistance to game participation, with Brad recounting instances where individuals were initially reluctant yet ultimately drawn into the game's allure. This anecdote highlights the infectious nature of well-designed games and their ability to captivate even the most hesitant participants.

Key Takeaways:

• Games serve as powerful tools for education, bonding, and personal discovery, transcending mere entertainment to foster deep connections among participants.

• Understanding participants' competitiveness and preferences can enhance the gaming experience, tailoring it to suit diverse personalities and engagement levels.

• The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the importance of the process and shared experiences over winning.

• Creativity and adaptability in game design can turn ordinary moments into opportunities for engagement, learning, and meaningful interactions across a variety of settings.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Game creation is not just about entertainment but about fostering personal discovery and connections." - Brad Berger

• "The journey of the game, rather than the outcome, holds significant appeal, emphasizing the process over winning." - Brad Berger

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In this heartwarming episode of Helping Families Be Happy, Christopher Robbins engages in a profound conversation
with Tal Iyer, exploring the multifaceted role of fatherhood, the impact of authoritative parenting, and the art of creating deep
connections with children. Iyer, known for his significant achievements across various spheres, delves into his personal
journey of embracing 'dad mode,' sharing insights from his book, "Dad Mode: 25 Ways to Connect With Your Children."
Through stories of personal growth, the necessity of intellectual humility, and the power of stories, Robbins and Iyer unfold
a guide for fathers striving for meaningful relationships with their offspring.
Episode Highlights:
- 00:00:09: The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins warmly welcoming listeners and introducing the
podcastâ€TMs mission to explore family, love, and relationships. Robbins introduces Tal Iyer, highlighting his diverse
background from athletics to international business, and sets the stage for a discussion on the essence of 'dad mode.'
- 00:01:08: Tal Iyer corrects the pronunciation of his spouse's name, setting a humorous and light-hearted tone for the
episode. This moment not only breaks the ice but also humanizes the conversation, inviting listeners into a more intimate
dialogue about family and fatherhood.
- 00:02:21: Iyer shares his enchantment with the Swiss Alps, drawing a vivid picture of his idyllic family life, which serves
as a foundation for the podcast's exploration of the art and effort involved in creating meaningful connections with children.
- 00:03:03: The concept of 'dad mode' is introduced by Iyer as an art of focused effort toward building a warm emotional
connection with children. This insight emphasizes the episode's core message: effective fatherhood transcends perfection
to embrace presence and effort.
- 00:04:19: Iyer discusses the applicability of 'dad mode' across various stages of a child's life, highlighting its relevance
not only for young children but also for maintaining connections with adult offspring. This part of the conversation brings to
light the universality of paternal love and the ongoing nature of fatherhood.
- 00:05:53: The discussion shifts to authoritative parenting, where Iyer shares insights into balancing supportiveness
with demands. This approach, as described by Iyer, encapsulates the essence of effective parenting, where expectations are
coupled with empathy and encouragement.
- 00:07:52: A practical conversation ensues on managing screen time, a contemporary parental challenge. Iyer shares his
strategies, blending authoritative parenting with practical tools like a bamboo box for phones. This segment is particularly
relatable for listeners grappling with similar issues.
- 00:10:52: Robbins shares his experience with technology and parenting, emphasizing the value of delayed gratification
in the digital age. This reflection prompts a broader conversation on setting expectations and norms within the family
structure.
- 00:12:27: Iyer champions the power of observation in parenting, inspiring fathers to engage in the reflective practice of
noticing and appreciating the unique characteristics and interests of their children.
- 00:16:19: Intellectual humility in parenting is explored. Iyer makes a compelling case for acknowledging fallibility and
demonstrating growth, reshaping the narrative around parental authority and mutual respect.
- 00:19:02: The episode delves into creating family vision and mission statements, a process that strengthens familial
bonds and clarifies collective values and aspirations.
Key Takeaways:

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- 'Dad mode' is more about presence, effort, and consistent engagement with children than aiming for paternal perfection. -
The balance of supportiveness and demands encapsulates effective authoritative parenting, fostering resilience and growth
in children.
- Intellectual humility and the ability to admit when one is wrong are pivotal in nurturing a healthy and respectful family
dynamic.
- Crafting family vision and mission statements can profoundly unify and guide the family toward shared goals and values.
Tweetable Quotes:
- "Being in 'dad mode' means embracing the artful journey of connecting with your children through a consistent, loving
effort." - Tal Iyer
- "In parenting, as in life, intellectual humility opens the doors to growth and deeper connections." - Tal Iyer - "Family vision
and mission statements not only define our aspirations but also chart the course for achieving them together." - Christopher
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In this heartfelt episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins converses with author Abigail Calkin, exploring the nuanced world of military families, love, relationships, and the challenges of PTSD. Abigail shares her journey as a military spouse and discusses her book, The Soul of My Soldier. The discussion also delves into the importance of understanding and supporting veterans with PTSD, and the therapeutic power of writing and poetry in healing and coping with the aftermath of military service.

Episode Highlights

• 00:00:10 - Introduction: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast, focusing on the complex dynamics of family, love, and relationships. He outlines the episode's objective of understanding and supporting military families through the lens of Abigail Calkin's experiences and literary work.

• 00:01:14 - Abigail Calkin's Background: Robbins details Abigail Calkin's achievements and publications, highlighting her literary contributions that span poetry, fiction, non-fiction, and analyses of behavioral psychology. Calkin's diverse work reflects a deep exploration of human emotion, relationships, and the psychological impacts of military life.

• 00:02:32 - Welcome to Abigail Calkin: Robbins warmly welcomes Abigail Calkin to the podcast. This introduction sets the stage for an intimate and profound discussion about military life, love, and the power of writing.

• 00:02:45 - Building a Life in Alaska: Calkin shares her intriguing journey to Alaska, where she and her family built a life, highlighting her hands-on approach and the significance of community and environment in her writing and personal growth.

• 00:03:20 - Inspiration behind The Soul of My Soldier: Calkin discusses the emotional triggers and inspirations for writing her book, rooted in her experiences and observations as a military spouse, particularly during her husband's deployment to Desert Storm.

• 00:06:30 - A Reading from The Soul of My Soldier: Abigail reads a poignant excerpt from her book, conveying the profound emotional and psychological scars left by war, not only on the soldiers but also on their families.

• 00:09:17 - Understanding Veterans and PTSD: Calkin provides insight into living with and supporting veterans with PTSD. She emphasizes patience, understanding, and the importance of communication, sharing personal anecdotes to illuminate the challenges and strategies for coping.

• 00:11:28 - Audience Engagement and Reception: Robbins and Calkin discuss the diverse reactions to The Soul of My Soldier from military and civilian readers alike, highlighting the book's impact and the varied perspectives on military service and its aftermath.

• 00:16:22 - Honoring and Supporting Veterans: Calkin articulates thoughtful and meaningful ways to honor, support, and understand veterans. She reflects on both personal gestures and broader societal acknowledgments that contribute to recognizing and appreciating veterans' sacrifices.

• 00:20:25 - Closing Remarks and Contact Information: The episode concludes with Robbins thanking Calkin for her insights and contributions. Calkin shares her contact information, inviting listeners to explore her work further.

Key Takeaways

• The emotional and psychological challenges faced by military families, particularly those dealing with PTSD, require patience, understanding, and open communication.

• Writing and poetry can serve as powerful therapeutic tools for expressing and coping with the complexities of military life and its impacts on soldiers and their families.

• Honoring and supporting veterans involves both personal gestures of kindness and societal efforts to recognize and appreciate their sacrifices and service.

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Tweetable Quotes

• "Understanding and supporting our veterans with PTSD requires patience, compassion, and the willingness to listen." - Abigail Calkin

• "Writing can be a powerful therapy for the soul, helping military families navigate the enduring impacts of service and sacrifice." - Abigail Calkin

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In this heartfelt episode of Helping Families Be Happy, host Adina Oberman, a devoted mother and children's book enthusiast, invites Dr. Cynthia Weill, a renowned art historian and Director of the Center for Children"s Literature at Bank Street College, to dive deep into the significance of children"s literature in early education. Together, they explore the transformative power of books in nurturing young minds, the invaluable resources offered by Bank Street College, and Dr. Weill's personal journey in the realm of children's literature.

Episode Highlights

00:00:10 - Introduction

Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and its alignment with Famis habits, welcoming Dr. Cynthia Wilde to discuss her extensive work in children's literature. Adina shares her background and excitement about discussing early childhood and literature, setting the stage for a conversation centered around educational practices, children's books, and their impact on families and educators.

00:01:39 - Dr. Cynthia Weill Joins the Conversation

Dr. Weill expresses her gratitude for being part of the podcast and sets a warm and engaging tone for the discussion that follows.

00:01:43 - Bank Street's Contribution to Early Childhood and Literature

Dr. Weill provides an in-depth overview of Bank Street College's history, its educational philosophy influenced by Lucy Sprague Mitchell and John Dewey, and the institution's comprehensive approach to child-centered, experiential learning. The conversation sheds light on Bank Street's transformative role in the world of early childhood education and its innovative contributions, including the development of the Bank Street Writer's Lab.

00:02:17 - The Evolution of Children"s Literature

Expanding on the history of children's literature, Dr. Weill discusses the pioneering work of Lucy Sprague Mitchell in promoting books that reflect the "here and now" of a child"s world. This segment offers listeners insight into how children's literature has evolved over the years, emphasizing Bank Street's historical impact on this transformation.

00:05:16 - Bank Street"s Best Book Lists and Awards

Dr. Weill delves into the criteria and process behind the Bank Street Children's Book Committee's selection of the best children's books, highlighting the importance of these resources for educators and families. She underscores the value of curated lists in guiding book selection, thereby enriching the educational experience for children.

00:06:43 - Advocacy and Diversity in Children"s Literature

The conversation turns to Dr. Weill's advocacy for quality children's literature, including efforts to curate a comprehensive list of exceptional Spanish-language and bilingual books. This segment emphasizes the need for diversity and representation in children"s books and Bank Street"s role in promoting these values within the publishing industry.

00:07:55 - Using Bank Street Resources

Adina asks for advice on leveraging Bank Street's assets to discover quality children"s books. Dr. Weill introduces the newly created database, highlighting its utility in helping families and educators find books on specific topics, illustrating how Bank Street's resources can simplify the search for impactful children's literature.

00:10:29 - Importance of Advocacy in Children's Publishing

Dr. Weill discusses the influence of Bank Street's advocacy on publishers' decisions to produce and recognize high-quality children"s literature. This part of the conversation provides an inside look at how recognition and awards can motivate publishers to prioritize significant works for children.

00:19:05 - Dr. Cynthia Weill's Personal Journey

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Dr. Wilde shares her journey from a Spanish teacher to an artist collaborating with Oaxacan artisans to create bilingual children's books. This segment offers a unique perspective on integrating cultural art and education within the realm of children's literature, highlighting Dr. Weill's passion for her work.

00:21:40 - Conclusion and Contact Information

The episode wraps up with thanks to Dr. Weill for her contributions and information on how listeners can access Bank Street's resources. Adina encourages listeners to explore the rich world of children's literature through the lenses provided by Dr. Weill and Bank Street College.

Key Takeaways

• Children"s literature plays a crucial role in early development, reflecting the everyday world of the child and fostering a deeper connection to learning.

• Bank Street College serves as a vital resource for educators and families, offering curated book lists, awards, and a comprehensive database to aid in the selection of quality children's books.

• Advocacy and recognition by esteemed institutions like Bank Street can significantly influence publishers' efforts to produce diverse, high-quality children"s literature.

• Integrating cultural artifacts and stories into children"s books enriches the educational experience, providing children with a broader understanding of the world.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Books should mine the world of the child." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

• "A best book is what you like to read and share." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

• "We're trying to get the best work out there all the time." - Dr. Cynthia Weill

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In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins, an author, husband, and father of nine, engages in a heartfelt conversation with Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and advocate for LGBTQIA+ adolescents. They delve into the complexities and beauties of parenting LGBTQ+ teens, drawing from personal experiences and Heather's recent book, "Parenting with Pride." This discussion offers valuable insights into embracing and supporting LGBTQIA+ children with understanding, love, and empowerment.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00:09: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and its mission to explore family, love, and relationships. He shares his background as a co-founder of Famis Publishing and a father of nine, emphasizing the podcast's commitment to providing real-life insights into nurturing family dynamics and supportive environments for all family members, including LGBTQIA+ teens.

• 00:01:17: Heather Hester is introduced as today’s guest. She talks about her role as the founder of Chrysalis Mama and her efforts to support parents and allies of LGBTQIA+ adolescents through education and empowerment. Heather shares her anticipation for the release of her first book, "Parenting with Pride," which aims to guide parents in embracing, empowering, and loving their LGBTQ+ teens.

• 00:02:23: Heather expresses her gratitude for being a part of the podcast and delves into the origins of her podcast, "Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen." She discusses the importance of sharing personal experiences and hosting guests with diverse expertise to support and educate parents navigating their journey with LGBTQ+ adolescents.

• 00:04:29: The conversation shifts to the core message of Heather's book. They discuss the challenges parents might face when their child comes out as LGBTQ+ and the significance of approaching these challenges with love, understanding, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases.

• 00:05:20: Heather emphasizes simplicity in dealing with complex emotions and scenarios that arise when a child comes out. She encourages parents to see their child for who they are, reassure them of their unconditional love, and engage in self-reflection and learning to support their child effectively.

• 00:06:16: The discussion underlines the universal needs of children to be seen, heard, and loved. Christopher and Heather talk about the power of genuine curiosity and open communication in strengthening the parent-child relationship, especially when navigating the child's journey of self-discovery and expression.

• 00:08:04: Love as a verb is highlighted, with a focus on demonstrating love through actions and behaviors. This part of the discussion serves as a reminder that showing love and support plays a crucial role in modeling healthy relationships and emotional well-being for children.

• 00:09:03: Heather and Christopher explore the positive impacts of embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children on family dynamics. They share personal stories that illustrate the strength and closeness that can result from navigating these experiences with compassion and understanding.

• 00:09:55: Educational resources and strategies for unlearning bias are discussed. Heather provides recommendations for organizations and resources that offer valuable information and support for families and communities striving to better understand and embrace LGBTQIA+ individuals.

• 00:12:29: Heather shares her hopes for readers of her book. She wishes for them to recognize the inherent capability within themselves to love their children unconditionally, become strong allies, and find freedom from fear through education and open-heartedness.

• 00:14:14: Closing thoughts emphasize the enduring and evolving journey of acceptance and love within families.

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Heather shares updates on her family and the positive outcomes of embracing the principles discussed in her book and throughout her advocacy work.

• 00:14:57: Contact information for Heather Hester is provided, offering listeners further opportunities to connect with her work and access additional resources through her website, Chrysalis Mama.

Key Takeaways:

1. Embracing and supporting LGBTQ+ children begins with unconditional love, open communication, and a willingness to learn and unlearn biases.
2. Genuine curiosity about a child's experiences and perspectives can strengthen the parent-child relationship and foster a supportive environment for self-discovery.
3. Education and resources are available for families seeking to better understand and navigate the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ children, emphasizing the importance of community and expert guidance.
4. The journey of embracing LGBTQ+ children is ongoing, filled with opportunities for growth, understanding, and deeper familial connections.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Your child just needs to be seen. They need to know that you love them for who they are right now." - Heather Hester

• "Love is a verb; it requires action. In our behavior and actions, we actually show love." - Christopher Robbins

• "It's all been in them all along... they can be the ally that their child needs." - Heather Hester

Resources Mentioned:

Helping Families be Happy Podcast

Chrysalis Mama

Heather Hester

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to author and illustrator Liz Swenson. Liz has written two survival guides for parents: "You Got This, Mama: From boobs to Blowouts, a Survival Guide for New Mothers" and "Raising Tiny Humans: From Potty Training to Prejudice, The Survival Guide for the Wild Toddler Years." The discussion focuses on raising toddlers and includes valuable insights into teaching children about dehumanizing language, separating behavior from the person, and fostering executive function skills.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:30: Christopher extends Valentine's Day wishes and delves into the evolution of Liz's books, "You Got This, Mama" and "Raising Tiny Humans," laying the foundation for the discussion.
• 03:04: The focus shifts to a critical aspect of parenting toddlers: teaching them about dehumanizing language and its subtle yet impactful nuances.
• 05:07: Liz emphasizes the significance of distinguishing between a child's behavior and their core identity, encouraging a healthy understanding of hurtful actions.
• 06:29: Exploring the concept of "hurt people hurting people," Liz sheds light on how understanding this dynamic can help address negative behaviors in toddlers.
• 08:00: The conversation turns to the development of executive function skills in toddlers, with Liz underlining the importance of explicit teaching in this area.
• 09:49: Liz discusses the necessity for parents to undergo mental shifts, specifically reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior.
• 11:42: The podcast delves into the crucial topic of prioritizing parental well-being and self-care, acknowledging the challenges of navigating parenthood.
• 13:50: Liz shares valuable insights gained from her journey of writing books and raising toddlers, offering a glimpse into the lessons learned along the way.
• 16:51: Liz share practical tips for "levelling up" parenting emerge, emphasizing the importance of taking intentional breaks and being mindful of language choices.

Key Points:

1. The conversation highlights the importance of nurturing executive function skills in toddlers through explicit teaching, breaking down tasks, and promoting resilience, contributing to overall cognitive and emotional development.
2. Recognizing the challenges of parenting, the discussion underscores the significance of parents prioritizing their well-being, taking intentional breaks, and practicing patience to create a supportive environment for both them and their toddlers.
3. By reframing tantrums as expressions of significant emotions rather than mere misbehavior, parents can navigate challenges with patience and empathy.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Teaching toddlers isn't just about ABCs; it's about nurturing their executive function skills, breaking tasks into steps, and fostering resilience." - Liz Swenson
• "Parenting is a journey of self-discovery. Prioritize your well-being, take breaks, and grow alongside your child for a more fulfilling experience." - Christopher Robbins
• "Words matter. Reframing language to separate behavior from identity helps create a positive environment where toddlers learn empathy and understanding." - Liz Swenson

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• https://lizswenson.org/
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Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Episode: Laugh Together with Author Gabe Jensen
In this engaging episode, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius and an avid author and outdoor enthusiast,
invites Gabe Jensen, a renowned author known for his humorous children's books, to delve into the significance of laughter
and humor in strengthening family bonds. Through personal anecdotes and shared experiences, they explore how humor
can reduce stress, connect family members, and create a rich tapestry of shared memories.
Episode Highlights:
00:00:09 - The episode kicks off with Christopher Robbins introducing the podcast's theme and its focus on family, love,
and relationships. He outlines his background and the foundation of his interest in promoting family happiness. The
introduction establishes the episode's objective of exploring the role of laughter and humor in enhancing family dynamics.
00:01:39 - Gabe Jensen, with a hearty laugh, enthusiastically joins the conversation, setting a lighthearted and engaging
tone for the episode. This candid exchange serves as a prelude to the in-depth discussion on laughter as a pivotal element
in family cohesion and mental health.
00:01:41 - Robbins humorously states his readiness to laugh, indicating the episodeâ€TMs direction towards examining
the elements that contribute to levity and joy in family settings.
00:02:07 - Jensen discusses the importance of shared experiences as a foundation for family humor, suggesting that
such experiences are vital for creating a repository of inside jokes and fond memories that foster a sense of belonging and
joy among family members.
00:03:59 - Through a personal anecdote involving his son, Robbins illustrates the power of humor to diffuse tension and
enhance connections within the family. This story highlights the universality of such moments across families and the role
of parents in initiating humorous exchanges.
00:05:12 - The conversation shifts towards favorite funny movies as a source of shared laughter, with both Robbins and
Jensen sharing their top picks and how these films have become a part of their family's culture and humor.
00:07:26 - The duo discusses engaging in outdoor activities and expeditions as a means to create humorous and
memorable family experiences. Jensenâ€TMs anecdote about searching for a British accent underscores the uniqueness of
family bonding moments centered around humor.
00:09:12 - Creative endeavors and the importance of participating in children's play and imagination as an avenue for
laughter are discussed. Jensen shares insights on how engaging in activities at the childâ€TMs level, both physically and
creatively, can deepen familial bonds through shared joy and silliness.
00:11:38 - The conversation explores the delicate balance of incorporating potty humor in family settings and children's
media. Jensen argues for understanding such humor as part of children's developmental process and a gateway to
addressing complex topics in a lighthearted manner.
00:14:12 - Gabe Jensen talks about how he incorporates humor into his children's books and the importance of
remembering that children appreciate and need laughter. This segment emphasizes the role of authors and parents in
ensuring that children's literature serves as a source of joy.
00:15:45 - The role of fathers in injecting humor into the household is examined. The discussion reveals that irrespective
of which parent brings humor, its presence is crucial for fostering a joyful and resilient family environment.
00:17:29 - The episode wraps up with Gabe Jensen sharing where listeners can find him online, followed by Christopher
Robbins thanking the sponsor FS publishing and highlighting the significance of laughter in creating a happier world.

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Key Takeaways:
- Shared experiences and memories are the bedrock of humor in family relationships.
- Humor and laughter are not just about amusement; they're vital tools for reducing tension, fostering
connections, and facilitating communication within families.
- Creativity and silliness, especially when initiated by parents, play a crucial role in building a joyful
family environment. - Addressing complex or embarrassing subjects through humor can offer children a
palatable means to engage with and understand these topics.
- Fathers and mothers both have unique roles in integrating humor into family life, contributing to a
balanced and nurturing home.
Tweetable Quotes:
"In our family, laughter is the bridge between hearts." - Christopher Robbins
"Building shared experiences is the foundation for family humor and laughter that lasts for years." -
Gabe Jensen
"Laughter can be a stress reducer or a friction reducer in family dynamics." - Christopher Robbins
"Watching a movie together can be a very social experience, more social than everybody plugged into
their individual device." - Gabe Jensen
"Engaging in creative endeavors with kids is a prime opportunity for laughter and bonding." - Gabe
Jensen
"Potty humor is a way for kids to process and understand complex subjects about social constructs." -
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Caroline Saunders, a Bleu-trained freelance food writer and recipe developer. Caroline is known for her work in climate-friendly cuisine, discusses sustainability practices that start at the end of the fork, emphasizing the importance of making eco-conscious choices in daily life. The discussion focuses on exploring sustainability in the kitchen and how individuals can become better stewards of the planet through their food choices.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:51: Caroline discusses the significant role of food in the global climate crisis, emphasizing that the food system contributes to about one-third of global carbon emissions annually.
• 02:39: Caroline talks about food waste and its impact on the environment, mentioning that food waste drives about 80% of global carbon emissions. She provides insights into the challenges of food waste and how individuals can address it.
• 04:20: The conversation shifts to practical tips for reducing food waste. Caroline introduces strategies like the "first in, first out" method and befriending the freezer to minimize waste.
• 05:44: Caroline addresses the issue of food waste, pointing out that 80% of global carbon emissions come from food waste. She provides practical tips, like the "first in, first out" method, to reduce food waste at the household level.
• 09:48: Christopher addresses the issue of increasing meat consumption and its implications and asks Caroline about practical steps and considerations for reducing animal product intake.
• 10:08: The focus turns to the environmental impact of consuming animal products. Caroline emphasizes the importance of making more sustainable choices, such as opting for chicken over red meat, eggs over chicken, and so on.
• 11:42: Caroline highlights the connection between biodiversity, health, and longevity. She mentions the "Blue Zones" concept, where regions with centenarians share commonalities like plant-forward diets.
• 12:08: Christopher shifts the conversation towards healthier eating and asks Caroline for guidance on starting a journey towards a more sustainable and healthy diet.
• 14:30: Caroline introduces the concept of climate-friendly desserts. She explains her passion for sustainable dessert recipes, emphasizing plant-forward desserts and using leftovers creatively for desserts.
• 17:32: Caroline delves into the role of dessert in sustainability, discussing plant-forward desserts and the versatility of desserts in utilizing leftover ingredients.

Key Points:

1. Food contributes significantly to global carbon emissions, prompting the need for sustainable eating practices.
2. Reducing food waste and shifting towards plant-based diets are pivotal in combating climate change.
3. Lowering meat consumption, especially red meat, is essential for both personal health and environmental sustainability.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Health and sustainability go hand in hand. A plant-forward diet not only benefits us but also nurtures the biodiversity crucial for a resilient food system." - Caroline
• "Every meal is an opportunity to make a positive impact on our planet. Small changes in our food choices today lead to a healthier and more sustainable future tomorrow." - Christopher
• "Desserts aren't just sweet treats; they're solutions. Embrace climate-friendly ingredients and turn leftovers into a delightful part of your sustainability journey." - Caroline

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.caroline-saunders.com/
• https://palebluetart.substack.com/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Kathryn Thompson. Kathryn is a web designer and consultant for small businesses and non-profits, with a passion for knitting and a penchant for Taylor Swift songs. Kathryn is also the author of three books: "Drops of Awesome," "Buckets of Awesome," and "532 Ways to Be Awesome." The focus of today's episode is on the significance of laughter and play in family dynamics.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:00: Kathryn shares the origin of the awesome concept during a challenging period of postpartum depression. She explains how the concept emerged as a way to shift her perspective and find humor in difficult situations.
• 03:16: Kathryn discusses the visualization of "drops of awesome" and how it became a tool for building momentum in her daily life. The metaphorical bucket of awesome is introduced as a way to celebrate small victories.
• 04:52: Kathryn shares her experience with overcoming the negative voice in her head and how the concept of drops of awesome helped her focus on the positive aspects of her life. The discussion touches on the motivation that comes from celebrating small victories.
• 05:16: Positive reader feedback is highlighted, with Kathryn sharing a specific story of a reader who found inspiration and permission to recognize their own drops of awesome. The transformative effect of the concept on people's lives is discussed.
• 07:03: Christopher discusses challenges in Kathryn's life, such as postpartum depression, her husband's layoff, and health issues. He prompts Kathryn to share stories illustrating how humor and laughter helped during these difficult times.
• 08:01: Reflecting on the job loss, Kathryn stresses the importance of finding ways to connect and solidify family relationships through humor. She shares how they turned a challenging situation into a memorable play day.
• 10:12: Kathryn recalls the laughter and joy she and her husband experienced while creating the humorous LinkedIn profile. She shares the positive outcome of the job search, emphasizing that their attitude and approach shifted the entire tone of the experience.
• 11:43: Christopher addresses how humor can be used to emotionally strengthen during serious health issues, referring to Kathryn's experience with her daughter's thyroid cancer diagnosis.
• 13:20: Kathryn details their humorous approach to her daughter's surgery, including a knitted stocking for the thyroid and a playful sword to "fight" cancer. The family continued finding humor in the post-surgery period, creating jokes around the scar and even displaying a stuffed thyroid in a jar.
• 14:38: Kathryn emphasizes that their humor was never at the expense of her daughter, Claire, and it always followed Claire's lead and sense of humor. The family's approach helped them find joy during challenging times.
• 15:36: Kathryn advises not to take oneself too seriously during challenging times. She suggests stopping and asking, "What is funny about this situation?" as a way to shift perspective and find humor even in the darkest moments.

Key Points:

1. Kathryn introduces the "drops of awesome" concept as a coping mechanism during postpartum depression, celebrating small positive actions to shift perspective.
2. The conversation explores using humor and play during challenging times, including a layoff turned into a playful family day and finding humor in a daughter's thyroid cancer journey.
3. Kathryn advises to ask, "What is funny about this situation?" as a practical way to use humor during tough times, emphasizing the importance of not taking oneself too seriously.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "In the midst of challenges, celebrate the small victories as drops of awesome to shift your perspective and build momentum." - Christopher
• "Humor is a powerful tool to navigate adversity; finding light in dark situations strengthens family bonds and fosters resilience." - Kathryn
• "Amidst life's challenges, let humor be your ally. Laughter not only lightens the load but strengthens bonds, making even the darkest moments brighter." - Kathryn

Resources Mentioned:

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://kathrynthompson.net/
• https://dropsofawesome.com/
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In this insightful episode of "Helping Families Be Happy," host Christopher Robbins engages with Christopher Mannino, a former theater teacher turned author, to explore how the principles of play and theater can significantly enhance parent-child relationships. The discussion delves into practical techniques and personal anecdotes that highlight the transformative power of play, offering listeners a blend of theory, actionable advice, and inspiring examples to foster deeper connections within their families.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:00:09: Christopher Robbins introduces the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, setting the stage for a dialogue on using play to strengthen parent-child relationships. Robbins, a father of nine with a diverse background, shares his passion for bringing real-life, nurturing information about love, family, relationships, and life to listeners.
• 00:01:39: Guest Christopher Mannino expresses gratitude for being part of the podcast and sets the tone for a conversation focused on the art of playful interaction and its role in family dynamics.
• 00:01:43: The concept of transforming parent-child relationships through play is introduced. Mannino provides context by reflecting on his experiences as a theater teacher and a stay-at-home dad, emphasizing the natural yet overlooked importance of play in building strong familial bonds.
• 00:02:54: Mannino advocates for dedicated playtime, suggesting a minimum of ten minutes daily to deeply engage with children. He shares how meaningful these moments can become, transforming ordinary play into cherished memories that bolster the child-parent connection.
• 00:04:11: The conversation shifts to specific theater techniques that can enhance play, with Mannino offering practical advice on engaging children and entering their imaginative worlds through the principle of "Yes, and."
• 00:07:34: Another theater technique, emotional recall or using an "anchor," is discussed. Mannino explains how drawing on vivid, positive memories can help parents become more present and emotionally available during playtime.
• 00:11:46: Strategies for changing negative dynamics, especially after a child has had a tough day, are explored. The significance of maintaining a playful and affirmative approach to diffuse tension and shift the mood is highlighted.
• 00:14:35: The conversation concludes with insights into Mannino's upcoming book, which aims to provide parents with tools to revolutionize their playtime interactions and deepen familial relationships through simple yet effective theater-inspired methods.
• 00:17:01: Robbins wraps up the discussion by thanking Mannino for his insights and asking about ways listeners can connect with him online, leading to the sharing of Mannino's contact information.

Key Takeaways:
1. Daily, dedicated playtime can significantly enhance the parent-child connection, turning routine interactions into lasting memories.
2. The use of theater techniques like "Yes, and" and emotional recall can deeply enrich play experiences, fostering creativity, acceptance, and emotional bonding.
3. Addressing negative moods and dynamics through playful engagement, rather than confrontation, can effectively transform challenging moments into opportunities for connection and joy.
4. Introducing structured yet flexible play exercises from theater can provide parents with powerful tools to engage and connect with their children on a deeper level.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "The more you play with your kids, the richer the memories and the stronger the bond." - Christopher Mannino
• "Saying 'Yes, and' to your child's imaginative ideas can open up a world of creativity and connection." - Christopher Mannino
• "Using positive emotional anchors can help us be more present and engaged during playtime with our kids." - Christopher Mannino

Resources Mentioned: Christopher Mannino: https://www.christophermannino.com/

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman talks to Sarah Jayne, a content creator and blogger based in Pennsylvania. The mission of her blog and social channels is to inspire parents to embrace cultural experiences and travel with their kids.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:48: Sarah shares the origin of her blogging journey, driven by the desire to connect with other moms during maternity leave amid the COVID-19 pandemic. She also discusses the unexpected growth and opportunities that unfolded in her content creation journey during the pandemic.
• 03:59: Adina reflects on the relatability of Sarah's story for many parents navigating challenges during the pandemic.
• 05:02: Sarah elaborates on her multicultural family background, highlighting the importance of raising bilingual children and incorporating intentional choices in cultural learning.
• 06:41: Sarah discusses specific strategies for cultural learning, including reading books, watching TV shows, and spending time with Spanish-speaking family members.
• 09:45: The discussion delves into the impact of intentional parenting choices and exposing children to diverse experiences, both culturally and in other aspects of life.
• 10:44: Sarah empathizes with the challenges of parenting and acknowledges the victory in simply getting kids ready on time. She mentions the commonality of parenting stress and the added challenges, especially when it involves traveling with kids.
• 11:27: Sarah encourages a shift in mindset towards exploring diversity locally and exposing kids to different cultures without the need for extensive travel. Adina agrees and acknowledges the wealth of diversity available within neighborhoods.
• 12:41: Sarah emphasizes evaluating the pros and cons of traveling with kids, highlighting the positive impact on children. She mentions the strategies, tips, and tricks she has learned for successful family travel.
• 14:14: Adina appreciates the point about accepting that meltdowns can happen anywhere, not just during travel. They discuss the inevitability of meltdowns and the importance of not letting the fear of meltdowns limit travel experiences.
• 15:14: Sarah suggests connecting with the local tourism board as an excellent starting point to discover cultural events and resources. She recommends looking for multicultural events, passing through the area, or featuring different cuisines.
• 16:28: Adina discusses additional resources for cultural experiences, mentioning local libraries offering museum passes. She highlights the benefits of such resources, including free passes and the flexibility to handle meltdowns without significant financial investment.
• 17:52: Sarah reveals that her family is currently going through the adoption process to complete their family of five. They became home study approved at the end of 2023 and are eagerly awaiting a match.
• 19:26: Adina appreciates Sarah's openness in sharing her adoption journey, acknowledging the messiness of family life and the contrast with the curated perfection often portrayed on social media.

Key Points:

1. Tips and challenges of family travel are shared, focusing on the positive impact on children and strategies for managing inevitable challenges.
2. Sarah suggests utilizing local resources like tourism boards, social media, and library museum passes for cultural learning experiences.
3. The conversation touches on family, multiculturalism, and travel, emphasizing local resources for cultural learning and offering insights into family travel challenges.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Traveling abroad is amazing, but you don't need to go past your neighborhood to expose kids to diversity. Shift your mindset to explore local multicultural opportunities." - Sarah
• "Local libraries offer free museum passes. It's a great way to introduce kids to something new without financial pressure. Check your local library for these resources." - Adina
• "Family life is messy, far from perfect. Sarah's openness about their adoption journey adds depth to our understanding of real-life experiences." - Sarah

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.sarahjaynexplores.com/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Antonio Sacre, a bilingual Cuban and Irish American writer. As a writer in television, Antonio focuses on multicultural family dynamics, telling universal stories with authenticity and culturally specific details. He is a featured storyteller at the National Storytelling Festival and other global events, inspiring audiences to embrace their family narratives. Antonio's stories, published in award-winning books like "My Name is Cool," and audio recordings, highlight the power of storytelling in fostering resilience and strengthening family relationships.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:46: Antonio introduces himself as a storyteller, emphasizing curiosity and the art of asking questions. He shares his journey into storytelling, starting with family inquiries and later discovering storytelling as a profession.
• 03:07: Antonio discusses the value of storytelling in family environments, emphasizing its role in building connections, creating joy, and fostering easier communication between parents and children.
• 04:20: Antonio suggests incorporating storytelling into daily activities, such as car rides, meal preparations, and walks. He highlights the importance of creating a storytelling space and being present by minimizing distractions like devices.
• 06:56: Christopher and Antonio delve into the essence of storytelling, touching on the idea that the details of a story may not matter as much as the overall message or connection it conveys.
• 07:54: Antonio advises parents to realize they have stories to share, even if they don't see themselves as storytellers. He encourages exploring family history, using car rides for storytelling, and finding opportunities to share stories during daily activities.
• 08:11 Antonio encourages individuals to recognize the abundance of stories in their lives, offering suggestions on where and how to tell them.
• 11:44: Antonio explains the concept that details don't matter in storytelling unless they are crucial to the point of the story. He shares an example of forgetting the chalk bag during a climbing competition and how a coach's story helped his son in a similar situation.
• 13:37: Christopher and Antonio discuss the role of reading in storytelling. Antonio recommends starting with family stories and then expanding to collections of folk tales from the library, emphasizing the importance of librarians in this process.
• 16:54: Antonio emphasizes the power of stories, drawing from personal experiences with his own family's stories, the brain's response to storytelling, and its impact on literacy. He shares Maya Angelou's quote about the lasting emotional impact of storytelling.
• 18:23 Christopher interjects with a remark about the significance of libraries, citing David McCullough's comment that there are more libraries than McDonald's, which Antonio appreciates.
• 23:10 Antonio highlights the impact of stories on brain activity, language acquisition, empathy, and reading skills.

Key Points:

1. Storytelling is crucial for creating strong bonds within families by sharing personal experiences and traditions.
2. Rather than getting every detail right, prioritize the core message of a story to deepen the emotional connection and understanding.
3. Research suggests that storytelling activates specific brain circuits, contributing to improved language acquisition, prevention of conditions like Alzheimer's, and enhanced literacy skills in children.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Family stories weave the fabric of connection, creating a tapestry of shared experiences and traditions”. - Antonio
• "Immerse your family in the power of shared narratives; it's the secret sauce that fosters resilience in tough times.” - Antonio
• Storytelling is the universal language that binds generations – a timeless gift passed down like a cherished heirloom.” - Antonio

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.antoniosacre.com/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman talks to Jackie Gill, a mom and freelance content creator specialising in DIY arts and crafts, particularly in the holiday space. Jackie is passionate about creating various life moments, both big and small, and she shares her creative ideas on her Instagram page and blog.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:41: Jackie talks about her crafting journey, mentioning her creative side and how she began sharing it on Instagram during the Covid lockdown. She emphasises the desire to bring positivity and creativity to those stuck at home.
• 03:37: Jackie candidly discusses the inevitable crafting fails, mentioning that for every successful project shared on Instagram, there are around 10 fails behind the scenes. She acknowledges being a perfectionist but highlights the importance of embracing the messiness, especially when crafting with kids.
• 05:12: Adina and Jackie share a laugh as they recall a memorable crafting fail involving a garland dyed with fabric dye that ended up looking like a crime scene.
• 06:08: Jackie underscores the significance of sharing both successful projects and failures on social media. She emphasises that her intention is not to project perfection but to authentically connect with others and create a sense of community around the messiness and fun of crafting.
• 07:29: Reflecting on the twists and turns of crafting, Adina appreciates the unexpected outcomes, finding beauty in the creative process. She emphasises the joy derived from the unpredictability of crafting, transforming unexpected outcomes into something beautiful and memorable.
• 08:37: Adina reflects on the lasting memories formed with children during messy and creative moments, emphasising the gift of quality time and memorable experiences. She underscores the value children receive—quality time and messy, memorable moments with their special grown-ups—rather than solely focusing on the end result.
• 10:33: Stressing experimentation, Jackie recommends saving beginner-friendly projects and gradually refining skills, fostering a sense of confidence. She advises taking the plunge, especially with kids, exploring beginner-friendly projects, and gradually finding preferences through experimentation.
• 11:19: Jackie recommends picking projects based on individual strengths and interests, avoiding overwhelm. She advises organising materials by type to maintain clarity in crafting projects.
• 13:34: Adina asks for tips on organising craft materials, and Jackie recommends grouping materials by type, making it easier to find what you need.
• 15:37: They discuss the idea of trying new crafts by sharing materials with friends, making it a low-risk and collaborative venture. Jackie shares her strategy of decluttering by repurposing or giving away unused materials, fostering a sense of community with a craft-sharing circle.
• 17:10 Adina recaps the advice, including starting without overthinking, focusing on the process, organising materials, planning purchases with project ideas, and sharing unused materials.

Key Points:

1. Overcome the fear of not being good enough or making a mess. Start with small, beginner-friendly projects, and don't be afraid to try different crafts to discover your preferences.
2. When crafting with kids, prioritise the experience and memories over achieving perfect results. Embrace the mess and chaos that may come with involving children in crafting activities.
3. Use social media platforms like Instagram for crafting inspiration. Look for beginner-friendly projects and ideas that require minimal materials.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Crafting is a journey of growth; from the chaos of Covid lockdowns to becoming a parent and content creator, my skill set has blossomed." - Jackie Gill
• "Crafting is not about perfection, but about creating memories with your kids. Embrace the mess and enjoy the process! - Jackie Gill
• “Don't fear a craft store overwhelm. Start small, focus on projects you love, and share unused materials joyfully.” - Jackie Gill

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.instagram.com/jackiegblog/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Laura Carter, about influential women who have influenced science, technology, engineering, and math, and even art. Laura Carter is an Oxford, AL native with a Bachelor of History and a Master of Education from the University of Montevallo. Laura, a high school history teacher since 2013, is also certified in English language arts. She is an accomplished author in children's literature, starting with "The Elect and Restoration" in 2013.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:15: Laura shares the inspiration behind her exploration of women in STEM, referencing the term "feminist" and her experience teaching at a STEM magnet high school in Huntsville, AL.
• 04:09: The discussion delves into the various STEM disciplines covered in Laura's book, highlighting mathematicians, programmers, astronauts, physicists, therapists, physicians, and more.
• 05:19: The conversation introduces notable women, starting with Dorothy Vaughn, known for her role as NASA's human calculator, featured in the film and book "Hidden Figures."
• 07:13: Laura advocates for increased recognition of women in STEM fields, expressing the importance of acknowledging the accomplishments of female professionals in various STEM disciplines. Laura also shares surprising statistics about the representation of women in professional STEM fields, revealing that around 30-34% of professionals in STEM are women.
• 08:18: Laura reflects on Mary Shelley's ground breaking role in science fiction, noting her significance as a woman in a male-dominated field.
• 09:35: Laura emphasizes the significant involvement of women in education, citing Maria Montessori's student-led approach and the prevalence of women majoring in education in college.
• 10:44: Christopher acknowledges the holistic nature of STEM education, incorporating STEM-related fields into a comprehensive educational experience.
• 11:29: Laura discusses the changing landscape of computer science, noting the increasing participation of women in tech companies and the start-up scene. She highlights the evolving opportunities in the field.
• 12:05: Laura emphasizes the changing dynamics in computer science and expresses awe at the remarkable programming skills demonstrated by her students, reflecting on missed opportunities in her own educational choices.
• 14:06 Laura mentions Phyllis Wheatley, the first published African American woman, known for her support of George Washington. Also, Rachel Carson, an environmentalist who authored "Silent Spring" and initiated the environmental movement.
• 15:34 Laura expresses the desire for families and kids to recognize that entering STEM fields is achievable, emphasizing the integration of STEM with humanities and arts. Encourages children not to be afraid and to realize the world is open to them.
• 17:05 Laura encourages young women to believe that STEM is possible for them, emphasizing that the only barrier is oneself. She urges them to read, discuss with teachers, parents, or friends, and find an area of interest to explore, promoting the idea of being a lifelong learner.

Key Points:

1. Laura Carter, author of "STEMinist Force," discussed her book on a podcast, emphasizing the importance of showcasing diverse women in STEM.
2. The book aims to inspire girls to explore STEM fields, particularly addressing the underrepresentation in computer science.
3. Laura encourages a lifelong learning mindset and highlights the diverse range of STEM fields beyond the commonly associated ones, such as mathematicians, programmers, astronauts, physicists, therapists, teachers, and more.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Laura Carter highlights the fascinating blend of feminism and STEM, encouraging young minds to explore the world of science, technology, engineering, and math.” - Laura Carter
• "STEM is a quiet but powerful force shaping our world, extending beyond computer desks and laboratories. Laura Carter emphasizes the importance of recognizing STEM in our everyday lives.” - Laura Carter
• "Aspiring to be a lifelong learner is the key takeaway from Laura Carter's insights. She encourages young minds to find their interests, dive into STEM, and realize the potential to make a difference.” - Laura Carter

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• https://laurawcarter.com/author/laurawcarter/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Manuela Bernardi and Kathy MacMillan.

Manuela is an author and screenwriter from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, has contributed to award-winning films and written for various TV channels, including TV Global, TBS, The History Channel, and Amazon Prime Video. Kathy MacMillan, a writer and nationally certified American Sign Language interpreter based in Baltimore, MD, is known for her picture books, children's nonfiction, and young adult fantasy novels. They will discuss their books, "She Spoke" and "She Spoke Too," highlighting the stories of 28 remarkable women who raised their voices and changed the world.

Episode Highlights:

• 03:29: Kathy shares the origin of the project, initiated by David Miles at Families Press, and the unique concept of combining a nonfiction picture book with an audio panel featuring the voices of women.
• 05:10: Manuela discusses the modification of the book's title to emphasize the challenges women face in being heard, changing it to "She Spoke: Supporting Women Who Raised Their Voices and Changed the World."
• 06:53: The duo discusses the evolution of the project and introduces the upcoming release, "She Spoke Too," featuring 28 inspiring women.
• 06:57: Christopher appreciates the diverse representation of women in the books, spanning artists, professional athletes, environmentalists, scientists, and social changers.
• 07:18: Manuela expresses her admiration for Shirley Chisholm, a woman she initially knew little about. Manuela details Chisholm's ground breaking run for president, where she garnered 10% of the votes in the primaries, breaking barriers for black women in politics. Chisholm's fiery spirit and her famous quote, "When they don't give you a place at the table, bring your chair," resonate with Manuela.
• 09:43: Kathy reflects on Patsy Takemoto Mink's role in the second book, "She Spoke Too," and her significant contributions, including being a driving force behind Title IX. Kathy emphasizes Mink's lifelong commitment to fighting for equality, from her high school days to her impactful career in Congress.
• 11:12: Manuela interjects, emphasizing that Shirley Chisholm and Patsy Takemoto Mink inspired them to include a crucial question in the book: Why do women do what they do? They point out that not all actions are driven solely by the desire to win; often, women strive for change and empowerment, even without securing victory.
• 14:57: Christopher highlights the powerful aspect of the books—being able to hear a 20 to 30-second clip of these women sharing inspiring words that moved nations, influenced laws, and made a positive impact on the world. He then asks for examples of more visible figures included in the books.
• 15:27: Kathy mentions well-known figures such as Malala Yousafzai, Hillary Clinton, Maya Angelou, Kamala Harris, Linda Ardern, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Greta Thunberg, and Dr. Mae Jemison. Manuela adds Maria Ressa, a journalist from the Philippines who recently won a Nobel Prize for fighting against misinformation.
• 16:51: Manuela shares her enjoyment in learning that many of these women, while intellectual and outspoken, embrace their feminine side without shame. She highlights examples like Mae Jemison's passion for dance and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's love for fashion.
• 18:42: Manuela mentions Leymah Gbowee from the first book, who used community and organization to bring women together to pray and stop a war. The importance of having a community and organization to amplify one's voice is emphasized in the book's prologue.
• 19:41: Kathy expresses the hope that the voices of these women become as familiar as those of well-known men. She shares the joy of seeing children reciting the clips and hopes the books appeal not only to the intended age range but to a broader audience, including younger children and older individuals.
• 22:29: Kathy mentions the "Your Turn to Speak Up" section with discussion questions designed for reflection. She is proud of these questions, as they encourage readers of all ages to relate the women's stories to their own experiences and consider their reactions in similar situations.
• 23:34: Christopher addresses the issue of women not being heard in patriarchal societies and asks what men can do to better appreciate women's contributions. Kathy suggests men should listen more, emphasizing that women's voices should be as familiar as men's.
• 26:20: Manuela emphasizes the importance of men recognizing women's experiences as valuable for their own enrichment and knowledge. She adds that men should see women as complete individuals and recognize their value beyond a relationship context.

Key Points:

1. Kathy and Manuela discuss the inspiration behind their books, "She Spoke" and "She Spoke Too," emphasizing the diverse backgrounds of the 28 women featured, spanning various fields, from politics to science.
2. The authors express their hope that the books will empower both girls and boys, encouraging them to speak out and make positive changes.
3. Kathy and Manuela suggest that men should listen more attentively, recognize women as complete individuals, and strive to understand and appreciate their experiences beyond predefined roles.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Discover the hidden stories of extraordinary women, from astronauts to activists, in 'She Spoke' and 'She Spoke Too.’ Let their stories shape a more inclusive narrative.”
• "Empowerment knows no gender. Kathy and Manuela encourage all, young and old, to listen, learn, and amplify diverse voices.”
• "In the symphony of life, let's amplify the voices of women, as loud and clear as the familiar tunes. These books make history resonate for every generation.”

Resources Mentioned:

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.instagram.com/just.add.glitter/
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• https://kathymacmillan.com/
• https://brlab.com.br/en/participante/manuela-bernardi/

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Dr. Carla Marie Manly about love and the important relationships in our lives, including ourselves. Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing clinical psychologist and author based in Santa Rosa, CA. She focuses on a mindfulness-based holistic approach to help individuals achieve joy and balance from the inside out. She is the author of several books, including "Aging Joyfully," "Joy from Fear," "Date Smart," and an upcoming book on imperfect love and healthy relationships.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:26: Christopher reads excerpts from the book "The Joy of Imperfect Love" introduction, highlighting societal pressure for perfect love and the false promises of quick fixes, leading to unconscious stress.
• 04:45: Christopher poses a question to Dr. Manly about why she wrote the book and the significance of its message, inviting her insights into the societal emphasis on perfectionism.
• 06:45: Carla responds, sharing the inspiration behind the book from her experiences as a clinician, wife, and family member, addressing the negative impact of perfectionism on relationships.
• 08:23: Carla explains the stepwise approach in the book, emphasizing self-love and the potential for individuals to earn secure attachment, leading to reduced anxiety, decreased depression, and increased joy in interpersonal relationships.
• 09:10: Carla defines love as a divine quality, replete with unselfishness, kindness, and goodness. She emphasizes the ideal of love as a guiding force across various spiritual beliefs.
• 10:13: Carla elaborates on imperfect love, describing it as a human attempt to reach the state of pure love. It involves a continuous quest to improve, learn from mistakes, and take actions guided by awareness and intention.
• 13:36: Carla introduces false love, often mistaken for pure love. She notes its prevalence in new relationships where initial projections fade, and individuals realize the love was not genuine.
• 14:45: Carla delves into self-love, emphasizing the need for self-awareness. She contrasts self-love with selfishness and explains that loving oneself requires understanding strengths, weaknesses, and boundaries.
• 18:01: Carla provides a personal example of self-love, encouraging acceptance of perceived weaknesses, emphasizing the importance of making friends with one's vulnerabilities and strengths.
• 20:28: Carla emphasizes the importance of humility and awareness in personal growth, stating that the willingness to learn, accept coaching, and seek therapy contributes to creating self-wealth rather than hindering progress with defensiveness.
• 23:25: Christopher transitions to discussing the subtitle of Carla's book, focusing on the term "attachment." He seeks clarification on the concept of secure attachment in relationships.
• 25:20: Carla delves into the challenges of interpersonal relationships for those with insecure attachment styles, highlighting the difficulties faced by individuals with disorganized attachment due to the absence of a secure and consistent caregiving environment.
• 26:49: Carla discusses her training as a Jungian psychologist and her journey into attachment theory, expressing her fascination with observing attachment dynamics in her clients' lives. She notes how healing attachment styles can transform relationships, even when partners have different attachment styles.
• 28:46: Carla expresses optimism by highlighting the brain's neuroplasticity, explaining that with effort and a desire for change, individuals can absolutely transform. She appreciates the privilege of working with people who want to evolve and become better versions of themselves.
• 29:29: Carla underscores the importance of the desire to evolve, labelling it as the foundation of joy and perfect love. She notes that the journey involves continuous self-improvement and the willingness to work on various aspects of oneself.
• 31:35: Christopher shares his interpretation of the metaphor, comparing individuals to rough stones that accumulate nicks and scratches through life experiences.
• 32:03: Carla emphasizes the power of choice, highlighting that individuals can choose how to channel the energy inherited from their parents. encourages acknowledging the lack of control over past events but emphasizes the power of choosing wisely each day to shape a different future.

Key Points:

1. The conversation revolves around imperfect love, self-awareness, and the power of choice in fostering personal growth and positive relationships.
2. Carla explains attachment theory, emphasizing the impact of childhood attachment on adult relationships and the potential for earning secure attachment through self-awareness and self-work.
3. Dr. Carla stresses that acknowledging imperfections, embracing self-awareness, and choosing to evolve contribute to becoming a better individual, partner, parent, and community member.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Embrace the privilege of continuous self-improvement in the realm of imperfect love." - Dr. Carla Manly
• "Acknowledge imperfections, embrace self-awareness, and choose to evolve every day in the journey of imperfect love." - Dr. Carla Manly
• "Love is a learnable skill. The transformative journey of self-discovery fosters resilience and emotional well-being." - Dr. Carla Manly

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• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://drcarlamanly.com/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Olivia Bruno. Olivia is the head of children's services at her local library, which includes supervision of children's programming, children's librarians, the readers advisory program, and so much more. We're fortunate to have Olivia joining us today because February is the library lover’s month and she's the perfect person.

Episode Highlights:

• 1:29: Olivia shares her lifelong passion for libraries, having started volunteering at age 12 and progressing to become the Head of Children's Services.
• 2:50: Adina and Olivia discuss how families can make the most of their local library's resources and programs, emphasizing the importance of visiting the library, exploring calendars, and engaging with online platforms for event listings and book recommendations.
• 4:19: Olivia encourages families to ask questions, assuring that library staff are eager to help patrons discover resources and programs tailored to their needs.
• 6:55: Adina emphasizes the importance of being prepared in advance when visiting the library and asks Olivia about underutilized resources. Olivia mentions the Museum Pass Program, where patrons can check out passes to local museums for free, highlighting its educational and cost-saving benefits.
• 8:23: Olivia also discusses libraries offering free homework printing services for kids, addressing challenges faced by families without printers.
• 10:02: Olivia expresses her love for picture books and shares her initiative of showcasing picture books on social media to encourage people of all ages to enjoy them.
• 11:07: Adina commends Olivia's thoughtful curation of book content on social media, particularly noting the interesting and fun nonfiction titles. Olivia mentions "Strictly No Elephants" by Lisa Mantchev as a moving book promoting kindness and inclusivity.
• 13:14: Olivia also recommends books by Tom Percival for addressing social and emotional health in an accessible manner and discuss the importance of picture books in conveying social-emotional learning to young children.
• 14:38: Adina then inquiries about Olivia's favorite books about books or libraries, referencing "So You Want to Build a Library." Olivia shares her love for "The Book Hog" by Greg Pizzoli, a touching story about a character who hoards books until discovering the joy of reading at the library.
• 16:33: Olivia emphasizes the importance of doing things together at the library and participating in events, such as story times. She encourages caregivers to bring their children even if they may not seem interested at first, underlining the value of the shared experience for child development and caregiver-child relationships.
• 17:23: Olivia refers to a study from the '90s about the positive impacts of families eating meals together, stating that shared activities, even seemingly simple ones, contribute significantly to family happiness.

Key Points:

1. Families should actively engage with their local library, exploring programs and resources offered.
2. Picture books play a vital role in teaching social-emotional skills, with recommended titles including "Chrysanthemum" and "Strictly No Elephants."
3. Quality family time, such as eating together, has significant positive impacts on well-being and should be prioritized.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "I think picture books are just the purest, most wonderful form of art that exists." - Olivia
• "The simple act of being together, being with other caregivers and children, is so valuable to their development and the caregiver-child relationship." - Olivia
• "Come to the library, do things together. If you want to make the library part of that, come to our events, come to Storytime. The act of being together is so valuable to them and their development." - Olivia

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.instagram.com/just.add.glitter/
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• https://www.instagram.com/oliviathelibrarian/?hl=en

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The Two Minute Secret To Staying in Love, 12/08/2023

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Heidi Poelman. Heidi is an author of books such as "Women in Science Who Changed the World.” She holds degrees in communication from Brigham Young University and Wake Forest University, and has dedicated her time to writing, serving with a non-profit in Africa, and managing vacation rentals.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:00: Christopher introduces Heidi's book, "The Two-Minute Secret for Staying in Love," and discusses the honeymoon stage in relationships. Heidi elaborates on the initial chemistry in relationships, mentioning that researchers suggest this phase lasts about two years.
• 03:24: Christopher addresses the challenges in marriages and divorces, leading to a discussion on researcher John Gottman's insights. Heidi talks about bids for attention and their significance in predicting the success of a relationship.
• 06:02: Heidi introduces the concept of a "space between" in relationships, where actions either create connections or remove them.
• 7:20: Heidi outlines three areas for intentional skills and habits for building strong relationships: thoughts, words, and deeds. She emphasizes the power of positive thoughts about one's spouse, providing an example of giving the benefit of the doubt in thoughts.
• 8:50: Heidi discusses the impact of words in relationships, emphasizing the need for positivity. Christopher and Heidi explore the importance of balancing necessary dialogues with positive affirmations in words.
• 10:05: Christopher and Heidi discuss the positive impact of kind thoughts leading to kind words and actions. They emphasize the ease and effectiveness of expressing affection through simple acts like sending a text.
• 12:11: Christopher connects the concept of the two-minute secret to building a strong foundation in a relationship over time through repeated, conscious efforts.
• 13:38: Heidi highlights the importance of validation, quick forgiveness, and timely apologies in managing conflicts. She shares a personal experience of using the technique of summarizing each other's perspectives during an argument to enhance understanding and problem-solving.
• 14:51: Christopher and Heidi discuss the misconception of trying to "win" in a relationship and emphasize the importance of prioritizing the relationship over individual victories.
• 16:19: Heidi talks about not sweating the small stuff in relationships and shares the importance of finding humour in minor inconveniences. She suggests embracing imperfections, laughing about them, and creating a culture of kindness and service.
• 18:17: Heidi suggests asking your partner, "How do you feel loved?" as a powerful way to understand their unique needs and preferences.

Key Points:

1. Two-Minute secret for staying in love concept involves small, intentional actions in thoughts, words, and deeds, emphasizing the importance of conscious effort in relationships.
2. Acknowledging and engaging with your partner's attempts to connect can contribute to a healthier relationship.
3. Focusing on positive thoughts about your partner, using kind words, and performing thoughtful actions are foundational elements for maintaining a strong and lasting connection.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "In marriage, if you win, you lose. We shouldn't be trying to make our point to prove why we're right. We should be saying I'm going to let the relationship win." - Heidi Pullman
• "A powerful thing we can do is ask our spouse, 'How do you feel loved?' Having a culture of asking questions and seeking to understand each other is pretty powerful." - Heidi Pullman
• "Conscious, repeated effort over time makes a difference. It's not meant to say that being in love is easy, but that conscious effort over time can create a positive impact." - Heidi Pullman

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• https://www.heidipoelman.com/

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On today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Christal Manders a librarian and reading intervention specialist. Christal discusses how libraries and books offer exposure to new ideas, lifestyles, and the essence of a fulfilling life. She says Books are lauded for their role in broadening perspectives and fostering growth, compassion, and curiosity.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:10 Christal believes her identity is shaped by her supportive network of family and friends, which helps her be her best self.
• 03:46 Christal shares her fondness for nonfiction, drawing insights from historical accounts to improve current living and understanding.
• 04:49 Christal emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself in books from an early age, using texts as a mirror for self and others.
• 05:20 Christal describes her approach to finding the right book for someone, considering their interests and reading non-verbal cues like body language. She explains how she observes children's body language to understand their emotions and needs, choosing books that can support or uplift them.
• 07:43 Christal further elaborates on the importance of educators being attuned to their students' non-verbal communication to shape their day positively.
• 08:24 Christal discusses transitioning from classroom teaching to focusing on her role as a reading intervention specialist during the pandemic. She expresses her passion for getting kids excited about reading and seeing their potential through literature.
• 09:28 Carla queries about the impact of Christal's work on the family system of which Christal emphasizes the collaborative triangle of education, involving the educator, student, and family, and the importance of open communication in this dynamic.
• 11:20 Carla celebrates the potential for transformative experiences through reading and inquiries about Christal's book selection process for the library and classrooms.
• 12:09 Christal believes in the power of knowledge to combat fear and promote a better world through positive representation of different life experiences. She encourages continued reading and exploration for both children and adults.

Key Points:

1. Christal emphasizes that libraries play a crucial role in exposing individuals to new ideas and lifestyles, which can lead to personal growth, compassion, and curiosity.
2. As a reading intervention specialist, Christal focuses on igniting a passion for reading in children.
3. Christal underscores the importance of a collaborative educational triangle consisting of educators, students, and families, facilitating open communication and combined efforts towards educational goals.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "A book is a mirror and window rolled into one, reflecting who we are and revealing the endless possibilities of who we can become." - Christal
• "Nonfiction isn't just facts; it's a treasure trove of historical insights that help us navigate the present and envision a better future.”- Christal
• "Libraries aren't just about books; they're gateways to new worlds, offering a tapestry of ideas that can broaden minds and enrich lives." - Christal

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.instagram.com/just.add.glitter/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Rachel Grahan about mindfulness for the new Year.

Rachel is an author and personal growth facilitator and through her brand, Rachel provides unique self-discovery tools, offering guided journals, meditations, online courses, and in-person workshops. Her approach helps individuals find clarity and inner answers. Rachel is also the author of "Nine Months of Wonder," a guide for expectant mothers.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:00 Rachel simplifies mindfulness as an "observant pause", emphasizing waking up to the present moment to fully appreciate it. She talks about her brand, tools for self-awareness, and mentions her free email course called "attuned".
• 03:03 Rachel dives deeper into self-awareness, discussing the significance of recognizing feelings, judgments, and emotions. She highlights the importance of understanding the underlying message of every emotion.
• 04:33 Mindfulness is about pausing to reflect on experiences and emotions to derive learnings from them, says Christopher. He emphasizes that it's about understanding what can be learned from current experiences.
• 05:09 Rachel introduces her four guiding words: Pause, Listen, Act, Become and describes how pausing allows for listening and understanding, leading to informed actions and eventually becoming a truer version of oneself.
• 06:23 Rachel asks reflective questions about addressing feelings of resentment and disappointment, urging one to understand their roots and find ways to feel better. She also talks about different emotions like frustration, annoyance, happiness, and excitement as pieces of information that guide our actions.
• 08:00 Christopher reflects on the broader context on a conflict in the car where his one daughter reacts strongly, and he reprimands her and asks Rachel for advice on how he could have better connected and responded in the situation.
• 09:35 Rachel touches on the influence of our upbringing and the need to reassess whether certain beliefs still hold true in the present day.
• 10:50 Christopher discusses the connection between mindfulness and gratitude, asking Rachel for her perspective on how the two concepts relate to each other.
• 11:28 Rachel reflects on her early 20s when she was more focused on the negatives and the things she didn't have and talks about the framework she created to identify which parts of her life needed improvement for her to be happier.
• 12:54 Rachel emphasizes the importance of being mindful of the present and finding gratitude in current moments. She shares personal examples of things she's grateful for, from pomegranate season to a new shampoo she loves.
• 14:19 Rachel describes the guided questions in her journal that help identify what her soul is craving and elaborates on how the journal informs her of areas in her life that need attention.
• 15:45 In the current societal context, with prevailing negativity, Christopher emphasizes the importance of practicing gratitude daily. He believes that gratitude can make a positive impact not only on an individual but also on the family, society, and the world.
• 16:13 Rachel introduces the tagline of "vessel," emphasizing the concept of a gratitude journal to "fill your own cup." She also stresses the importance of individuals recognizing and appreciating the abundance in their lives without waiting for external events or circumstances.
• 17:16 Rachel discusses her books: "Beauty Collected" which offers a means to connect with children through mindfulness, and "Nine Months of Wonder" centred around mindfulness during pregnancy.
• 18:05 Rachel suggests that even a single moment of pause and deep breath during the day can lead to a significant increase in awareness.

Key Points:

1. Rachel promotes mindfulness as an "observant pause" and provides tools for self-discovery.
2. The discussion highlights the link between mindfulness and gratitude, with Rachel introducing her gratitude journal, "vessel."
3. Rachel's books emphasize mindfulness with children and during pregnancy, underscoring the power of momentary awareness.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Mindfulness is simply an 'observant pause', waking up to fully appreciate the present." - Rachel
• "Gratitude is about recognizing the abundance in our lives without waiting for external events." - Rachel
• "Pause, Listen, Act, Become - four guiding words to lead us to our true selves." - Rachel
• "Even a single moment of pause can be a quantum leap in awareness." – Rachel

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• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachelgarahan/
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On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Mary Potter Kenyon. She holds a BA in psychology from the University of Northern Iowa and is a therapeutic art coach and certified grief counselor trained under renowned grief expert David Kessler. Mary is also an author of six books, including "Expressive Writing for Healing," "Refined by Fire," and "Called to Be Creative." She conducts workshops on creativity, finding hope and healing in grief, and expressive writing.

Episode Highlights

• 01:56: Mary started journaling after her first husband passed away in March 2012 and has filled over 20 journals since then.
• 02:31: Christopher expresses curiosity about the significance of journaling, especially for those who may have started journaling as children with entries like "Dear Diary." He asks Mary to share the science behind journaling, its importance for personal development, and ways to develop the habit.
• 02:43: Mary reminisces about having a little diary with a lock and key when she was 12 but mentions that she got rid of it as she grew up.
• 02:58: Mary mentions the concept of expressive writing for healing, which is not about passing something down but rather a tool for personal healing.
• 04:42: The discussion highlights the therapeutic benefits of journaling and how it has been found to be effective in numerous studies and scenarios, making it a valuable tool for individuals facing a range of challenges and emotions.
• 06:05: Mary addresses common hurdles that people face when starting a journaling practice and she advices on how to begin and what to write about.
• 08:59: Journaling might not be a daily practice for everyone. It's okay to journal on weekends, once a week, or even less frequently, as long as it fits into your routine and serves as a beneficial outlet for your thoughts and emotions.
• 10:45: Christopher discusses the various journaling methods he has tried, from hardcover lined journals to leather-bound art paper journals to simple composition notebooks.
• 11:41: Christopher and Mary discusses whether using technology for journaling is a good or bad thing and explores the convenience and potential drawbacks of digital journaling apps.
• 13:19: Some people may prefer typing due to comfort or practical reasons, such as arthritis or illegible handwriting. Mary acknowledges that digital journaling can be a valid and accessible option.
• 15:02: Mary discusses the therapeutic and reflective benefits of journaling, even during periods of joy and contentment in life.
• 17:22: Mary discusses the value of reading and preserving personal journals for future generations.
• 18:06: Mary shares her own experience of reading her mother's letters from the 1960s, which offer a glimpse into her mother's life as a mother raising ten children. She highlights how journals and letters can reveal a person's growth, struggles, and the different facets of their life beyond their roles as parents.
• 19:36: Mary and encourages listeners to consider starting their own journaling practice in the coming year, emphasizing that journaling is a low-cost and accessible way to document their experiences and emotions.

3 Key Points

1. Mary encourages the idea that journaling should be a freeing and expressive practice that suits your unique style and preferences. The key is to make it a personal space where you can process your thoughts, emotions, and experiences without worrying about judgment or rules.
2. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to journaling. It's about finding the time and style that work best for you and making it a meaningful and consistent practice in your life.
3. Mary and Christopher underscores the therapeutic and historical significance of journaling as a tool for personal growth and self-reflection.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Journaling is not a new practice it is historical documents that often exist because people kept journals or diaries. It's a way of preserving history.” – Mary
• “There are no rules in journaling. You don't have to worry about neat handwriting, perfect spelling, or adhering to specific guidelines. It's a personal space for your thoughts and feelings, and it's okay if it's messy.” – Mary
• Journaling can help individuals process their thoughts and emotions, whether they are going through difficult times or experiencing moments of gratitude and growth.” - Mary

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• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Emily Lauren Dick to discuss about body positivity for the new year.

Emily is a dynamic creative marketer and author of "Body Positive: A Guide to Loving Your Body." An ardent speaker and activist, Emily is deeply passionate about body image, women's issues, and dismantling shame. She's an advocate for ethical marketing and empowers individuals to fully embrace their authentic selves. Her insightful work has graced platforms like Glamour, Today's Parent, and Scary Mommy.

Episode Highlights

• 01:25 Christopher opens the discussion with Emily on her extensive work in the field of body positivity, especially as we enter a new year. They touch upon the common trend of setting physical goals like losing weight, seeking health and strength, and asks for her recommendation on the topic and ponders on the reasons behind society's obsession with physical goals.
• 01:50 Emily discusses the importance of shifting from the "new year, new you" mentality to focusing on a happy, balanced life. Highlights the significance of joyful movement and a balanced diet that's both enjoyable and nourishing.
• 02:28 Emily introduces the concept of "fat phobia" prevalent in society and defines "fat phobic" as the fear, hatred, or discrimination against fat bodies.
• 03:34 Emily recognizes that not everyone has the privilege of being in good health due to various reasons, including illnesses that might be out of one's control.
• 04:12 Christopher expands the query by seeking insight into the media's intentions and tactics regarding the portrayal and perception of body images.
• 06:16 Emily emphasis on the importance of brands not only promoting body inclusivity but also ensuring that their products cater to diverse body types. She notes that while Aerie showcases diverse body types in marketing, they do not have a vast size range in their products.
• 07:06 Christopher asks Emily for her recommendation to focus on positive ideas and practices concerning body image and awareness for the upcoming year.
• 08:59 Emily recommends engaging with communities that offer support, reading inspirational books, and consuming media (movies, podcasts) that have a positive impact on one's mental well-being.
• 09:42 Christopher notes the phrase "comparison is often the thief of happiness." He acknowledges the challenge that media and advertising present, as they often promote comparison between individuals.
• 10:20 Emily recommends comparing oneself only to previous versions of oneself to gauge personal progress. She says we are not the same as we were in the past, and it's essential to recognize our growth.
• 10:45 Emily suggests practical techniques, like starting a gratitude list, to help individuals reflect on their progress and accomplishments.

3 Key Points

1. Emily discusses how some products marketed under the pretence of promoting health can be harmful. Emphasizes the importance of promoting inclusivity and reducing societal pressures to fit a certain body type.
2. Emily encourages people to pursue both physical and non-physical activities that they are passionate about. She suggests engaging in activities that are enjoyable and make one feel good, emphasizing "joyful movement.
3. The conversation addresses the media's role in promoting thin ideals and inducing comparisons.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The promotion of thin ideals continues because it's a successful strategy.” - Emily
• "Shift from the 'new year, new you' mentality to focusing on a happy, balanced life." - Emily Lauren Dick
• "Joyful movement and a balanced diet are key to loving your body." - Emily Lauren Dick
• "Comparison is often the thief of happiness." - Christopher Robbins
• "Compare only to previous versions of oneself to recognize personal growth." - Emily Lauren Dick

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Emily Lauren Dick
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Denise Marek about managing goals and expectations for the New Year, especially tailored for the ever-busy, overworked mothers.

Denise is internationally recognized worry management expert. Creator of the "Calm Methodology," Denise imparts strategies globally to combat stress and worry. She's penned the book "Calm for Moms Worry Less in Four Simple Steps" and runs an online program titled "Calm Online". Residing in Ontario, Canada, Denise is a mother to two and a grandmother to four.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:12 Denise emphasizes the importance of reflecting on the past year, listing down successes, challenges, and stressors. Advocates for jotting down everything without filtering.
• 03:02 Denise describes the first step in goal setting as identifying the problem one wishes to address or solve in the upcoming year. She introduces the concept of "mining the gold" which means digging deep to find one's true goals amidst doubts and frustrations.
• 03:37 Denise discusses two types of goals: those that free us from problems or challenges, and those that pull us towards something desirable.
• 04:20 Denise distinguishes between goals that move one away from problems versus goals that move one towards specific aspirations. She points out the weight loss industry as a prevalent example and how many set weight loss goals during New Year's.
• 05:22 Christopher introduces the topic of setting realistic and achievable goals and emphasises the challenges faced when enthusiasm meets setbacks, leading many to abandon their goals. He seeks guidance on setting goals that are both realistic and achievable.
• 07:05 Denise addresses the misconception of being "too late" to pursue certain goals, sharing her own experience of going back to college. She references a book called "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker, drawing an analogy between circus elephants' training and human self-limiting beliefs.
• 08:23 Denise emphasizes the importance of challenging the self-fulfilling prophecy of "I can't" and encourages revisiting past unachieved goals and trying again.
• 09:50 Denise shares four questions to navigate around self-imposed roadblocks, aimed at transforming a negative mindset to a solution-driven one.
• 10:41 Christopher brings up two memorable quotes that have influenced his perspective on determination and taking action and underscores the importance of determination in achieving our goals. He enquiries about methods to reduce stress, especially considering the challenges of the upcoming year.
• 12:08 Denise mentions the correlation between physical disorganization and mental disorganization. She suggests a principle: "I'm only going to keep what I need, use, or love." She discusses the common worries that hinder decluttering. People often hesitate because of the "I might need it someday" thought.
• 13:45 Instead of pondering on "what if I need it someday," Denise recommends asking "when is the last time I actually used it?" Experts believe if you haven't used an item in 12-18 months, it's likely not essential.
• 15:17 Christopher discusses the importance of accountability in reaching goals and asks for guidance on how to maintain self-accountability and reach one's objectives.
• 17:09 Denise stresses the importance of careful selection when choosing accountability partners and for those without immediate support systems, Denise suggests looking into apps, Facebook groups, and other communities of like-minded individuals to find support and encouragement.
• 18:51 Christopher reflects on the significance of acknowledging small achievements and milestones during the journey towards reaching a larger goal. Encourages focusing on small wins for motivation.
• 19:46 Denise emphasizes the significance of celebrating small victories. Encourages self-recognition and taking before-and-after photos to visualize progress. She advises on creating a structured plan for organization.
• 20:05 Denise suggests aligning celebrations with self-care and proposes the idea of getting a massage as a reward instead of indulging in alcohol, explaining that even small amounts of alcohol can affect sleep and overall well-being the following day.

Key Points:

1. Denise advises on the significance of reflecting on past successes, challenges, and stressors. Writing everything down candidly is beneficial.
2. Denise introduces two categories of goals: those that help individuals escape challenges and those that draw them towards something desirable.
3. Christopher and Denise discuss the crucial role of accountability in achieving goals and the significance of acknowledging and celebrating small achievements.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Reflecting on the past year is crucial; jot down every success, challenge, and stressor without filtering." - Denise Marek
• "In goal setting, 'mine the gold': dig deep to find true goals amidst doubts and frustrations." - Denise Marek
• "Don't be hindered by the 'I might need it someday' mindset. If you haven't used it in 12-18 months, it's likely not essential." - Denise Marek

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In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Ashley Marie Mireles-Guerrero introduces the Familius team and provides listeners with exciting insights into what to expect in 2024 from both the podcast and the Familius publishing company. The episode features various team members, including Christina from the accounting department, Carlos, the in-house designer and administrator, Brooke, the editorial director, Shae, the blog editor, and the marketing team represented by Adina, Erica, and McKay. Together in this special end-of-the-year episode they share a bit about traditions. Tune in to learn more about the Familius team and their plans for the future.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:41: A favorite episode is highlighted, featuring Devin Mevis, an educator and artist, titled "Adding Creativity to Your Daily Routine." The episode focused on how families can integrate creativity into their daily lives.
• 02:04: The concept of "process art" is discussed, which encourages children to engage in art without specific instructions, instead exploring and creating with available materials.
• 03:24: Emily Liebel's concept of "Micro Adventures" is highlighted. These are simple, nature-based activities with a specific goal, often prepared by reading related literature and involving games or projects.
• 04:46: Another favorite episode discussed is "From Summer Freedom to School Screens," focusing on the increasing integration of screens and technology in education. The episode addressed the challenges and opportunities this shift presents for parents and children.
• 07:26: Paul Mandelstein's book, "World's Best Dad During and After Divorce," is mentioned, emphasizing its focus on helping fathers navigate post-divorce parenting.
• 08:39: A behind-the-scenes moment is shared about the process of finding illustrators for two upcoming books, "Call Your Mother" and "Robots Don't Make You Go to Bed” and the conversation shifts to the podcast's affiliation with a book publishing company.
• 10:50: Another book, "How Does Our Food Grow?" is discussed. It's a collaborative effort with the UN Organization Kitchen Connection, aimed at educating children about fruits, vegetables, and gardening.
• 11:56: A memorable moment from the book's launch in New York is shared. The impact of the book on young readers, particularly two girls who read it at the event, is highlighted, emphasizing the book's influence in fostering a mindful attitude towards our planet.
• 12:41: The podcast transitions to discussing holiday traditions. A favorite holiday tradition involving leaving out cookies and eggnog for Santa is shared, along with a unique twist of mixing eggnog with chocolate milk.
• 15:31: A tradition of celebrating Christmas on Christmas Eve is shared, which is common in Hispanic or Mexican cultures. Tamales are highlighted as a favorite holiday food, along with enjoying "Die Hard" as a Christmas movie.
• 18:32: A family tradition involving multicultural food nights leading up to Christmas is shared. The speaker's family, with roots in the United Kingdom, Spain, Korea, and India, celebrates each culture through special meals and activities.
• 21:32: The conversation shifts to New Year's superstitions and traditions and a tradition of wearing certain colors on New Year's for different wishes, such as wealth or health, is shared.
• 23:56: A unique New Year's tradition of a polar plunge in the family pool at midnight is described. This test of courage also includes a reward of $10 for the person who can stay in the freezing water the longest, ensuring they don't start the new year with an empty wallet.
• 25:06: A tradition involving cheers with sparkling cider on New Year's Eve is discussed, emphasizing the importance of this ritual for good luck in the coming year.
• 29:22: The discussion continues with a playful comment on considering macarons as a meal and a Girl Scout troop leader shares her New Year's resolution to get certified for overnight camping to fulfil her troop's wish for a camping trip.
• 31:44: The conversation shifts to upcoming books for 2024. Speakers share their excitement for various titles, including "100 Words for Little Utahns," and another book about spicy food.
• 34:10: A picture book titled "The Blue Canoe" is highlighted which explores the relationship between a mother and daughter, with the mother expecting a new baby, and uses metaphorical visual storytelling to convey the mother's love.
• 35:25: Another upcoming book, "Nine Months of Wonder," a guided journal for expecting mothers, is discussed. The journal focuses on the mother's experiences during pregnancy, capturing hopes, dreams, and the support system around her.
• 37:42: "Raising Tiny Humans" is mentioned as an anticipated book, especially for parents of toddlers, offering fun and practical advice.
• 39:17: The book "Three Kings Day" is brought up, notable for being one of the first books to be released in English and Spanish simultaneously by the publisher.
• 40:09: The discussion shifts to ways of giving back to communities outside the traditional holiday season. Suggestions include donating books to libraries or organizations, participating in small acts of service, and contributing to literacy initiatives like the Imagination Library.
• 44:06: The importance of involving children in charitable activities is emphasized. Speakers encourage finding meaningful ways to give time and resources, and to involve children in these activities, such as packing bags for food pantries or resources for people in need.
• 45:48: The conversation shifts to recognizing team members for their exceptional work. Shoutouts are given to various team members for their contributions, including McKay for starting a YouTube Kids channel and being innovative in social media.
• 47:08: Ashley is acknowledged for her role as the backbone of the company, being a knowledgeable marketing leader, and for her familiarity with many platforms, authors, and writing her own books.
• 49:47: Ashley expresses gratitude for the accolades and gives a shoutout to Christina for quickly learning and efficiently handling an outdated accounting system.
• 50:58: Brooke, the editorial director, is commended for her crucial role in the book creation process, starting from the initial scripts, highlighting the long process some books undergo before publication. Recognition is also given to Shae for her excellent work with the blog and newsletter, and to Carlos for his responsiveness in providing needed files to the marketing team.

3 Key Points:

1. The podcast featured episodes emphasizing creativity in family routines, like "Adding Creativity to Your Daily Routine" by Devin Mevis, focusing on process art for children. Another episode, "From Summer Freedom to School Screens," discussed the integration of screens in education, exploring the balance between technology and learning.
2. The podcast highlighted various family traditions, including multicultural food nights, celebrating Christmas Eve, and unique New Year's customs like a polar plunge. Personal New Year's resolutions shared by the speakers included enhancing culinary skills, being less controlling, and exploring new cuisines.
3. Speakers shared their excitement for upcoming books like "The Blue Canoe" and "Nine Months of Wonder." The segment concluded with team members expressing gratitude and appreciation for each other's contributions, particularly acknowledging Ashley for her versatile role in the company and successfully managing numerous responsibilities.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Process art encourages kids to explore and create without specific instructions, unlocking their creativity in everyday life."
• "Micro Adventures: Simple, nature-based activities with a specific goal, enhancing family bonding and connecting with nature."
• "The Blue Canoe: A picture book that beautifully explores the relationship changes between a mother and daughter when expecting a new baby, using metaphorical storytelling."
• "Giving back isn't just for the holiday season. Small acts like donating books or volunteering time can make a big difference in your community year-round."

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Sarah Smith; a distinguished district librarian from California's Central Valley about books and the current book banning trend within the United States.

Having served as a high school librarian and English teacher, Sarah's passion now extends to professionally reviewing manga and graphic novels for esteemed publications like Booklist and School Library Journal. she has penned articles for California English and Diamond Bookshelf, enhancing our understanding of the written word. Her voice has enriched podcasts such as School Librarians United and The Literacy Advocate, and her expertise has been showcased at conferences hosted by the American Library Association and the School Library Journal Summit.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:58 Christopher opens the dialogue with a reflection on the current state of book banning and censorship in the United States, emphasizing its unprecedented scale and acknowledges the need to balance the protection of our right to read with parental concerns over potentially objectionable content.
• 02:34 Statistics reveal a significant rise in challenged titles in libraries, with a shift towards collective challenges on multiple books rather than individual titles.
• 04:22 Sarah describes the issue of book banning as a significant element in a wider cultural conflict, particularly as a means to challenge public education. She notes that the pandemic, by bringing school into the home, gave some parents a closer look at educational content, which has spurred a pushback against certain materials.
• 05:27 Sarah reveals a startling statistic from a recent study showing that a majority of the book challenges can be traced back to a relatively small number of individuals, suggesting the influence of a vocal minority rather than a widespread movement.
• 07:38 Christopher seeks Sarah’s insight on how parents can address concerns about content their children are exposed to in school libraries.
• 09:06 Sarah touches on regional differences in content appropriateness, particularly within California's diverse political landscape. She discusses the challenges librarians face in ensuring age-appropriate content and the reliance on various tools and resources to assist in book selection.
• 10:49 The goal of reconsiderations process is to approach concerns objectively and fairly, without succumbing to emotional or biased judgments, says Sarah.
• 11:56 Christopher clarifies the objective criteria in place for parents to submit concerns about content and the inclusive review process involving various community members.
• 13:19 Christopher discusses the variability of policies across districts and states, and the importance for parents to be informed about their school’s specific policies.
• 13:35 Sarah advises parents to check school board policies on their school's website, typically found under the instruction section, to understand the policy regarding book challenges.
• 14:26 Sarah emphasizes the importance of civility when parents address concerns with schools, suggesting that a polite approach is more effective.
• 16:34 Sarah introduces the idea of parents discussing content limitations directly with libraries, potentially preventing the need for book removals. She shares a personal anecdote about respecting a parent's request to restrict specific genres for their child and notes that this is a right parents have.
• 18:51 Christopher also discusses cultural literacy, encouraging exposure to a broad range of literature, music, and film to enrich children’s understanding of the human experience.
• 20:10 On constitutional aspect, Christopher questions how current cultural conflicts and legislation align with the freedom of speech and the freedom to read as guaranteed by the First Amendment.
• 21:27 Sara mentions guidance issued by the California District Attorney in June, reminding schools of their obligation to follow due process when considering the removal of books, underlining potential consequences for failing to do so.
• 22:46 Christopher inquiries about historical precedents for comic censorship, leading to a discussion on the Comics Code Authority established in response to accusations that comics were contributing to juvenile delinquency.
• 23:40 Sara explains the self-regulatory measures of the comics industry to avoid Congressional censorship and how the 1980s saw a shift with publishers choosing to ignore the Comics Code to produce content for mature audiences.
• 25:54 Sarah stresses the diligence that goes into selecting books for libraries, pointing out that professional reviews are a resource for librarians and can be a tool for parents as well. She mentions that professional reviews are available for parents to check if a book is age-appropriate and suggests that these resources can also guide parental choices.
• 28:16 Christopher discusses the importance of trade publications in the library collection development process and their availability on platforms like Amazon.

Key Points:

1. Christopher and Sarah explore the concerning trend of book banning in the U.S., discussing the need to find a balance between protecting the freedom to read and addressing parental concerns over certain educational content.
2. Sarah offers insights on the book selection process in libraries, emphasizing the role of professional reviews and trade publications to ensure age-appropriateness, and suggests that direct communication between parents and libraries can pre-emptively address content concerns.
3. The conversation also addresses the constitutional implications of book banning, historical censorship in comics, and the importance of cultural literacy, underscoring the significance of due process and civility in the discourse around library content and book challenges.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Unprecedented scale of book banning in the U.S. calls for a balance between our right to read and addressing parental content concerns." - Christopher Robbins
• "A vocal minority, not a widespread movement, often drives the rise in book challenges." - Sarah Smith
• "Civility and direct communication with libraries can address content concerns more effectively than book removals." - Sarah Smith
• "Cultural literacy is enriched by exposure to a broad range of literature, music, and film." - Christopher Robbins

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman will discuss the topic of "Attitude of Gratitude" with Richard Eyre, who is one-half of the renowned author duo, Richard and Linda Eyre.

With a writing career spanning four decades, the Eyers are New York Times #1 best-selling authors who have appeared on major national talk shows, including Oprah and Today. Their books, which emphasize family and relationships, have been translated into multiple languages and have garnered them opportunities to lecture in over fifty countries.

Episode Highlights

• 02:31: Richard mentions his experience writing for well-known publishers such as Simon and Schuster, Random House, McGraw Hill, Penguin, and Golden Books. He expresses personal dissatisfaction with the bureaucracy of some major publishers.
• 03:17: Richard expresses a desire for a publishing partner rather than just a publisher due to the inconsistent treatment they received based on the success of their books.
• 04:20: Richard provides a brief history of the book on gratitude, mentioning its original title as "The Thankful Heart" and describing it as a comprehensive exploration of the philosophy of gratitude.
• 04:51: Around 30 years ago, Richard's family started sending Thanksgiving cards instead of Christmas cards. Richard would write a poem about gratitude to be included in these cards.
• 05:44: Richard introduces a book called "Thankful Heart" which later was condensed into a gratitude journal called "Daily Thanks." The "Daily Thanks" gratitude journal has a section for each month, starting in November and each month has a different theme or focus for gratitude.
• 06:12: Richard shares a quote from the book which emphasizes that gratitude is essentially a form of happiness that we can control.
• 08:18: Richard speaks about the evolving nature of gratitude, and how the journal has different perspectives for each month. He shares his personal experience with the journal and describes how January in the journal is about becoming more aware of one's senses and writing about new sensations each day.
• 10:13: Richard stresses the importance of self-care, especially for mothers who tend to neglect their own well-being while taking care of others. He shares a personal anecdote about advising a stressed woman with young children to keep a gratitude journal.
• 12:16: Richard discusses the challenges of staying positive during tough times and the importance of gratitude in shedding a positive light on life. He emphasizes that even amidst challenging days, finding just one thing to be grateful for can shift the perspective to a more positive one.
• 13:21: Richard discusses the different approaches people take to gratitude journaling, mentioning that many choose to practice it at night, reflecting on their day. He shares the perspective of those who practice it in the morning to set a positive tone for the day.
• 14:59: Adina agrees with Richard's points, highlighting the challenge of finding a starting point and carving out time for gratitude in one's daily routine.
• 15:43: Richard talks about his experience of transitioning from sending Christmas cards to sending Thanksgiving cards and emphasizes the innate ability of children to express gratitude and how they can teach adults to be more appreciative.
• 17:09: Richard reflects on the beauty of late autumn in Park City, UT and shares a poem from the Gratitude Journal for the month of November. The poem beautifully captures the essence of gratitude and reflection during the autumn season, leading up to Thanksgiving.
• 18:25: Adina speaks about the importance of being mindful and grateful amidst daily responsibilities and highlights the idea of sharing and how it affects perspective.
• 20:13: Richard links gratitude to Christmas and explains a family tradition: giving gifts on Christmas Eve focuses on gratitude, while Christmas morning is about receiving from Santa Claus.
• 21:57: Christmas can be used as an opportunity to teach gratitude. Richard recounts how his family used to write thank-you letters to Santa Claus the day after Christmas.
• 22:42: Richard stresses the importance of gratitude. Suggests sitting down with children before gift-giving occasions to teach them the value of being grateful to make both the gift giver and the receiver feel happy.
• 24:43: Adina narrates an incident where they donated toys to an empty donation box, which was a special moment of realization and gratification for both the adults and the kids in her family.
• 25:24: Richard discusses the profound connection between gratitude and generosity, emphasizing that the two are inseparably linked and explores the contrast between gratitude and an entitlement attitude highlighting how developing gratitude in children naturally leads to developing generosity.

Key Points:

1. Richard Eyre emphasizes the "Attitude of Gratitude" through practices like sending Thanksgiving cards and gratitude journaling.
2. Richard believes gratitude is a controllable form of happiness and stresses its importance for well-being.
3. Richard highlights the connection between gratitude and generosity and suggests ways to nurture these values in children.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Gratitude is essentially a form of happiness that we can control." - Richard Eyre
• "Even amidst challenging days, finding just one thing to be grateful for can shift the perspective to a more positive one." - Richard Eyre
• "The profound connection between gratitude and generosity shows that developing gratitude in children naturally leads to developing generosity." - Richard Eyre
• "Amidst daily responsibilities, it's crucial to be mindful and grateful; it affects our entire perspective on life." - Adina Oberman

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Diana Lundin and Pets, 10/25/2023

On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Diana Lundin discussing holiday photography with your pets. Diana, who transitioned from a career as a TV producer, reporter, and website editor, rediscovered her passion for photography, particularly in the pet genre. She is the author of the popular gift book "Dog vs. Ice Cream," capturing the humorous expressions of over 400 dogs indulging in ice cream. Starting in 2014, Diana initiated ice cream socials for dogs, a delightful trend that gained traction in Los Angeles. Beyond conventional pet photos, Diana showcases her composite art talents on "The Secret World of Pets" website, where she places pets in imaginative, fantastical worlds.

Episode Highlights

• 02:32: Diana shares that it's not too difficult to include a dog in a family photo with a professional photographer. She emphasizes the importance of speed and timing, using noise to get the dog's attention, and making sure the family also focuses on the camera.
• 03:41: Diana mentions potential distractions and how to overcome them, including using a person behind the photographer to get the dog's attention. She also talks about the advantage of phone cameras with progression features to find the perfect frame in a sequence of shots.
• 04:30: Adina queries about the use of treats or props for photo sessions, mentioning her own food-motivated dog. She also discusses the importance of patience when photographing pets.
• 05:35: Diana describes her collection of various hunting calls like those of wild boar, rabbits, and owls. She demonstrates how she uses squeakers near her camera to grab the pet's attention briefly. If noise or toys don't work, she then resorts to using treats.
• 06:52: Diana mentions peanut butter as a fun treat to get amusing facial expressions from dogs, especially the "ice cream look".
• 07:58: Adina appreciates Diana's approach to understanding both the pet and the family during a photoshoot and discuss about holiday accessories and props for pets.
• 09:18: Adina and Diana showcase various holiday-themed props including reindeer ears, an elf hat, and a Hanukkah bow tie. Diana talks about the props she uses, including a red Buffalo and the importance of making sure pets are comfortable with the props.
• 11:03: Diana talks about collaborating with a then-upcoming ice cream truck for humans during the dog ice cream socials. She also describes the exciting atmosphere during the event, with people inviting their friends to join the fun at the pet store.
• 12:06: Diana talks about starting dog ice cream socials in her yard in 2014. She mentions a viral video about a dog named Cooper at McDonald's which inspired her. Diana finds it equally entertaining when dogs dislike the ice cream. Their expressions are human-like, showcasing a range of emotions.
• 14:23: Dogs' reactions to the ice cream vary from loving it to hating it, making for a comedic experience, says Diana. Owners enjoy seeing their pets in such a unique scenario, especially captured in professional photographs.
• 15:01: Diana talks about her aim to create dramatic photos that help in dog adoption. She expresses her passion to serve animal welfare and looks for collaborative projects.
• 17:21: Adina praises Diana's efforts in blending her passion for photography with her love for animals to serve a greater cause. Adina asks about recent highlights since her book "Dogs vs. Ice Cream".
• 19:26: Diana shares her experience of photographing dog and cat toys, creating still life with them, and the creative satisfaction it brought her. Diana also talks about dog toys that she photographs and mentions feedback from her mentor about color schemes.
• 20:33: Diana talks about her role as a judge in an international pet photography competition and expresses how much she learned from judging the competition and her gratitude for the experience.
• 21:58: Diana elaborates on the demanding process of critiquing and mentions that there were 2200 entries, each receiving two pieces of critique from the judges. She shares her approach to critiquing – offering a compliment, followed by constructive feedback, and then another compliment.
• 22:26: Adina points out the underappreciated intricacies of pet photography and compares the challenges of photographing pets to inanimate objects like fruit. She touches on the intricacies and challenges of pet photography, highlighting the difference between photographing animals vs. still objects.

3 Key Points

1. Diana stresses the importance of speed, timing, and using various distractions like noises, squeakers, and treats to capture the pet's attention. She also uses props to enhance photos and emphasizes ensuring the comfort of the pets while using them.
2. Diana initiated dog ice cream socials in 2014, inspired by a viral video. The events, where dogs react to ice cream, offer a mix of humorous and human-like expressions captured in professional photographs, adding a comedic touch to her portfolio.
3. Beyond just photography, Diana's passion also aligns with animal welfare. She aims to create dramatic photos to aid dog adoption and has also been involved in judging international pet photography competitions, offering constructive feedback to participants.

Tweetable Quotes

• "It's not too difficult to include a dog in a family photo with a professional photographer." - Diana Lundin
• "Dogs' reactions to the ice cream vary from loving it to hating it, making for a comedic experience." - Diana Lundin
• "Diana's aim is to create dramatic photos that help in dog adoption, blending her passion for photography with love for animals to serve a greater cause."
• "The underappreciated intricacies of pet photography highlight the difference between photographing animals vs. still objects." - Adina Oberman

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Jason Goldstein about Hanukkah and holiday hosting. Jason Goldstein is a chiropractor by day and a food Blogger by night for his culinary blog, shop Happy. Jason shares his love of easy comfort food recipes, showcasing rich flavors, inventive ideas, and unique cooking tips and advice. He was a finalist on the next Food Network Star season 14 and finished in the top ten in Rachel Raye's cookbook contest. His recipes have been featured on The Chew and the Kitchen, and he has appeared on Good Morning America living in New York City in Hamptons. Jason enjoys testing recipes on his husband Tom's and grabbing French fries by the handful.

Episode Highlights

• 01:46 Jason emphasizes the importance of minimizing effort in holiday hosting. He recommends a combination of homemade and store-bought appetizers. He shares his love for puff pastry appetizers, highlighting how they can be prepared a day ahead for convenience.
• 02:39 For the main meal, Jason suggests making it yourself but delegating the responsibility of bringing wine and desserts to guests. This not only shares the load but also helps cut down on expenses and dishwashing.
• 03:47 Jason's second favorite dish for Hanukkah is brisket made in a slow cooker. This method not only saves oven space but also simplifies the cooking process. The brisket simmers all day, resulting in a tender and delicious main dish that seems effort-intensive but is easy to prepare.
• 04:29 Jason declares himself to be on team applesauce but acknowledges the strong divide between sour cream and applesauce enthusiasts. He emphasizes the importance of having both condiments available at the table.
• 04:50 Adina expresses appreciation for the idea of making a sheet pan potato latka instead of individual ones. She comments on the tediousness of shredding potatoes and onions for preparation.
• 05:18 Jason touches upon dietary preferences, recommending vegan cheese for those following stricter dietary laws. He talks about the simplicity of the dish using shredded potatoes, grated onion, and cheese, emphasizing the ease of preparation and baking.
• 07:21 Jason describes the brisket's final texture as melt-in-the-mouth, resulting from slow cooking that breaks down the fat and connective tissues. Jason fondly mentions that brisket pairs perfectly with potato pancakes.
• 08:00 Jason explains the traditional significance of frying foods during Hanukkah, referencing the eight days the oil miraculously burned.
• 09:33 Adina appreciates Jason's ideas and highlights how Hanukkah is a fun holiday, especially for kids. She asks if he uses a deep fryer for the frying process.
• 09:44: Jason confirms that one can use a deep fryer or simply a pan filled with oil. He also gives a tip to avoid overcrowding the pan while frying, as it can reduce the oil's temperature, leading to uneven cooking.
• 11:29 Jason shares a personal anecdote from his wedding where he had a large table dedicated to various versions of "pigs in a blanket" — underscoring his love for the dish and its significance to him.
• 12:17 Adina talks about attending a party where the pigs in a blanket had everything bagel seasoning on the puff pastry, adding a unique flavor.
• 14:10 Jason emphasizes the importance of being a part of the party and not getting too stressed out. Advises sticking to familiar recipes and prepping in advance. He also recommends having a variety of dishes like salmon for those who don't eat beef. Mentions the idea of a sheet pan salmon.
• 15:21 Jason suggests that if you're not into cooking, make one dish and have others bring dishes. Recommends people bring dishes from their childhood for a touch of nostalgia.
• 16:02 Adina talks about the comfort guests feel with familiar flavors and the importance of childhood flavors during the holidays.

3 Key Points

1. Jason Goldstein emphasizes the importance of minimizing effort in holiday hosting. He shares his love for puff pastry appetizers, highlighting how they can be prepared a day ahead.
2. Jason recommends brisket made in a slow cooker for Hanukkah. The method simplifies the cooking process, resulting in a tender dish.
3. Jason touches upon dietary preferences, recommending vegan cheese. He explains the dish's simplicity using shredded potatoes, grated onion, and cheese.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Minimize holiday hosting effort with a mix of homemade and store-bought appetizers. Puff pastry delights can be prepped a day ahead!" - Jason
• "For a melt-in-the-mouth Hanukkah delight, try brisket in a slow cooker. Effortless yet tastes like hours in the kitchen!" - Jason
• "Whether you're #TeamApplesauce or #TeamSourCream, ensure both are at the Hanukkah table. Harmony in condiments, harmony in life!" - Jason
• "Not into cooking? No worries. Host with one dish and let guests bring nostalgic flavors from their childhood. A holiday feast everyone cherishes!" - Jason

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Bri DeRosa about books, particularly what to do for holiday meals and those recipes that we want to make and how to have that be a wonderful experience.

DeRosa is a freelance writer and communications consultant with expertise in creative and dramatic writing, arts education, and service learning. Bri has over a decade of experience in program development for non-profits and small businesses and has been the content manager at the Family Dinner Project since 2014. Additionally, Bri has contributed to three cookbooks and actively engages in family dinner practices with her husband and two teenage sons.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:02 DeRosa explains that the Family Dinner Project is a non-profit program under Massachusetts General Hospital Psychiatry, highlighting the benefits of family meals and noting the gap between potential benefits and actual family meal practices.
• 03:07 As the holidays approach, Christopher discusses the stress associated with traditional family gatherings and queries about alternatives to meeting at a grandparent's house.
• 05:37 DeRosa points out that research suggests the quality of interaction at family meals is more important than frequency and shares tips on how to make holiday gatherings more meaningful and stress-free.
• 06:58 DeRosa encourages sharing the stories behind traditional dishes to create a richer family experience and suggests activities like a family photo caption contest and storytelling prompts to engage everyone and make the holiday special.
• 07:51 Christopher introduces the concept of an heirloom dinner, encouraging the exploration of family stories and histories related to traditional foods. He also introduces the topic of handling difficult conversations at dinner, such as politics or religion, that can create division.
• 09:08 DeRosa continues to offer creative ideas for family engagement, like drawing family trees on paper tablecloths and playing trivia games to learn about each other in a fun setting.
• 10:52 DeRosa mentions the idea of a 'politics jar' where individuals can contribute a quarter each time they mention a hot-button topic, encouraging redirection to other conversations.
• 11:27 DeRosa provides solutions for surprise tensions at the dinner table, such as taking breaks, focusing on gratitude, and steering conversations towards positive subjects. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining boundaries and redirecting negative discussions.
• 13:28 DeRosa advises coordinating with hosts to create a quiet, safe space for neurodivergent children and to establish clear expectations for both the child and other family members regarding food and seating arrangements.
• 15:10 Setting expectations with the neurodivergent child is also stressed, says DeRosa. She suggests bringing familiar foods for the neurodivergent child to avoid pressure and make them feel at ease during meals.
• 15:57 Christopher talks about the challenges of having children with soy allergies and the importance of being aware of dietary restrictions during family gatherings.
• 16:22 DeRosa shares that she may host a varying number of guests and talks about the family tradition of making a New York-style crumb cake and stuffing with a special ingredient from her mother and grandmother.
• 17:53 Christopher describes his Thanksgiving routine of brining a turkey and making garlic raspberry mashed potatoes with parmesan, a fresh garden salad with avocados and blue cheese, and fresh rolls with homemade jam.
• 18:55 DeRosa discusses her Thanksgiving menu, noting adaptations for a neurodivergent family member, like garlic mashed potatoes without Parmesan and a kale salad with dates and pumpkin seeds.

Key Points:

1. DeRosa underlines the value of family meals for various aspects of well-being and identifies the disconnect between the potential benefits and the reality of family dining habits.
2. Strategies for inclusive and stress-free holiday gatherings are discussed, including managing sensitive topics and enhancing the experience through storytelling and family history exploration.
3. Practical advice is offered on how to accommodate neurodivergent family members at gatherings, such as setting clear expectations, providing safe spaces, and respecting dietary restrictions.

Tweetable quotes:

• "Bridging the gap between the benefits of family meals and actual practices is key for healthier, happier families." - DeRosa
• "Holiday meals are about stories, not just recipes. Share the history behind the dishes to enrich your family experience." - DeRosa
• "For neurodivergent family members, comfort during meals comes from clear expectations and familiar foods." - DeRosa
• "Garlic mashed potatoes and a fresh garden salad with avocados and blue cheese - holiday cooking is as much about tradition as it is about taste." - Christopher

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Maria Sansone. She is a well-known broadcaster with a genuine and authentic approach to her work. She is currently the host of NBC 10 Boston's premier lifestyle show, "The Hub," and is also the host of the Edward R. Murrow award-winning "Mom to Mom with Maria Sansone" TV show and podcast.

Episode Highlights

• 02.16: Christopher, expresses curiosity about Maria Sansone's Slam Dunk contest, sparking a conversation about her early achievements and broadcasting career.
• 2.30: Maria describes how she was a basketball enthusiast but was always the shortest person in the league. She also explains that the Slam Dunk contest she participated in wasn't standard because they lowered the rim to accommodate her 5-foot-1 height.
• 03.14: Maria describes her unique dunk, putting the ball between her legs, around her back, hanging on the rim, and running around the gym with her tongue out, which garnered a wild response from the crowd.
• 03.44: Maria explains that a local reporter from her hometown (Erie, PA) interviewed her after the event and was surprised at her knowledge of basketball, leading to her appearances on local news segments.
• 06.42: Maria expresses her satisfaction in knowing that her book is helping people simplify their dinner preparation and make it an enjoyable experience.
• 07.10: Christopher then transitions to discussing hosting for the holidays and asks Maria how to approach creating a simple menu for holiday gatherings without feeling stressed about the cooking.
• 08.06: Maria mentions that for Thanksgiving, the menu doesn't have to change dramatically each year. She recommends focusing on a few well-prepared sides so that everyone can enjoy all elements of the meal, including the turkey.
• 08.51: Maria encourages hosts to have a plan, write it down, and do their shopping ahead of time to alleviate the overwhelming aspects of hosting, allowing them to enjoy the holiday with their guests.
• 09.55: Christopher introduces the topic of involving guests in holiday preparations and questions whether it's acceptable to ask them for help.
• 11.02: Maria shares examples of tasks she delegates, such as dessert, children's activities, paper plates and napkins, and setting up cocktails. She believes that guests often want to help, so when they ask what they can bring, it's a great opportunity to give them specific tasks.
• 13.54: Maria agrees and reinforces that being present and enjoying the company of one's guests is the primary goal of hosting.
• 14.06: Christopher appreciates Maria bringing up the topic of paper plates. He discusses how some people may feel concerned about not having the finest China and reassures that it's perfectly okay to use paper plates.
• 15.07: Maria concludes by noting that guests primarily focus on the quality of the food and the enjoyment of the event, rather than the type of tableware used. She notes the environmental concerns with paper plates but highlights their convenience for large events where having enough traditional plates may not be feasible.
• 16.19: Maria shares that her family enjoys talent shows as a post-dinner activity, where family members showcase their talents, making for memorable and entertaining moments.
• 17.58: Maria encourages the listeners not to be too hard on themselves and not to strive for perfection, as the moments that deviate from the script often lead to cherished memories.
• 19.45: Maria adds that after the event, she strings up the notes as part of her fall decor, serving as a reminder of the things they are thankful for throughout the season.
• 20.04: Christopher expresses gratitude for Maria's wonderful ideas and emphasizes the significance of gratitude in enhancing the holiday experience.

3 Key Points

1. Maria announces her new book titled "Ohh, What's for Dinner? No Fuss Weeknight Recipes," a compilation of her favorite entrees. The book offers efficient recipes suitable for busy weeknights, making it easier for people to put a satisfying meal on the table.
2. Maria encourages putting family and friends to work, whether it's making cocktails, overseeing shoe removal, or handling other tasks. Delegating responsibilities and strategically arranging food and drinks can make hosting a more enjoyable experience for both the host and guests.
3. Maria highlights a special Thanksgiving tradition to make people feel comfortable and encourage gratitude. She provides small sheets of paper for guests to anonymously write down something they're thankful for during appetizers.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Delegating not only eases the burden on the host but also makes guests feel good about contributing.” - Maria
• “If the hosts are having fun and are relaxed, it tends to make the entire gathering more enjoyable.” - Maria

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Michael Hempseed, Director of Frontiers of Hope, a specialist mental health service about how to help our children deal with anxiety and stress during the holidays. He is the co-author of the book “Calming Your Child: De-escalating Tantrums, Anxiety, Aggression, and Other Challenging Behaviors.”

Michael is also the author of “Being a True Hero: Understanding and Preventing Suicide in Your Community”. He has spoken to Frontera, New Zealand, Post fire and Emergency New Zealand and many others. Michael gained an honors degree in psychology from the University of Canterbury in 2008 and he has had the opportunity to speak at a TED event in 2016.

Episode Highlights

• 01:53: Michael discusses the increasing trend of very young children displaying heightened anxiety. Many are so anxious they cannot attend school.
• 02:37: Michael highlights the ripple effect of a child's anxiety on their family. He shares an anecdote of parents needing to take six months off work to care for their severely anxious child, underlining the significant impact on the entire family.
• 03:18: Christopher inquiries about the topic of sensory issues in children, as mentioned in the book "Calming Your Child". He seeks clarity on what sensory issues entail and emphasizes the importance of understanding and recognizing them in children.
• 04:10: Michael emphasizes that sensory issues aren't limited to just sounds but affect all senses. He shares statistics from his mental health service, noting a significant number of individuals with moderate to severe sensory issues, especially among young children.
• 05:02: Christopher emphasizes the intensity of her daughter’s discomfort, using the word "excruciating" to describe her experience. He notes the challenge it poses for her to stay calm given her heightened perception of sound.
• 06:42: Michael stresses that children don't act out without a reason, but rather are dealing with overwhelming emotions they can't express properly and this overwhelming feeling in children can manifest as aggressive behaviours like punching or yelling.
• 07:51: Christopher introduces the idea of perspective and how individuals perceive the world differently. He emphasizes that when people, especially children, act out, it's a form of communication.
• 08:28: Michael discusses the challenge of sensory issues. Many who experience them believe it's a normal part of life since they've always felt that way. He stresses the importance of patience and effort in understanding and working through these challenges.
• 08:55: Christopher queries why upcoming holiday season time of the year can be particularly stressful for families, especially those with children.
• 09:21: Michael addresses interpersonal stress, particularly when families gather, mentioning scenarios where certain relatives may not get along.
• 10:10: Christopher discusses the importance of finding ways to make the holidays less stressful and seeks professional advice and tips on managing holiday stress.
• 11:20: Michael talks about how volunteering can help young people gain perspective and feel a sense of purpose. He suggests taking children to visit the elderly. He also provides guidance on how to initiate conversation, emphasizing the mutual benefits.
• 12:26: Michael discusses the importance of sleep, mentioning it is a long chapter in his book. He talks about the negative effects of sleep deprivation. He relates sleep deprivation to mood and behaviour in both adults and children.
• 14:10: Michael highlights that not every sign of stress or behavioural issue necessitates counselling. Encourages trying alternative solutions like volunteering before resorting to counselling.
• 15:39: Michael notes that if a child's behaviour is affecting the family's lifestyle, like avoiding social events, it might be time to seek help. He emphasizes the importance of observing not just the intensity but the recurrence of problematic behaviours.
• 16:05: Christopher poses a question about when to consider professional help and seeks advice for parents to help their children in the upcoming year.
• 17:15: Michael discusses the benefits of free play for children. He mentions that it helps children develop problem-solving skills and improve social interaction.
• 18:42: Michael differentiates between forcing someone to practice an instrument and allowing them to enjoy it. He shares a study about Nobel Prize winners in the sciences having artistic and musical hobbies. Points out the value of art and music in enhancing cognitive abilities.
• 19:07: Christopher shares his belief that adults are usually grateful for having learned an instrument and often regret if they quit playing.
• 19:24: Michael discusses studies that indicate a surge in the amount of homework kids have today. He mentions the overburdening of young children and the need to reintroduce the concept of fun in learning.
• 20:10: Christopher shares a possibly apocryphal story from World War 2 about Winston Churchill emphasizing the importance of art even in dire times.

3 Key Points

1. Michael discusses the increasing trend of very young children displaying heightened anxiety, with many being so anxious they cannot attend school.
2. Christopher speaks about the intensity of his daughter's discomfort due to sensory issues, highlighting that many behavioral problems are reactions from individuals feeling overwhelmed by sensory stimuli rather than intentional acts of rebellion.
3. Michael emphasizes the significance of sleep, discussing its impact on mood and behavior in both adults and children, and relates sleep deprivation to various negative effects.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Merely living in the era of COVID has deeply impacted individuals regardless of personal sentiments.” - Michael
• “Many behavioral problems aren't intentional acts of rebellion but are reactions from individuals feeling overwhelmed and distressed by sensory stimuli.” - Michael
• "Children don't act out without a reason, but rather are dealing with overwhelming emotions they can't express properly." - Michael
• "Not every sign of stress or behavioral issue necessitates counseling. Encourages trying alternative solutions like volunteering before resorting to counseling." - Michael

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On today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Emily Liebel, about her role on the website “Run Wild, My Child”. Emily shares her passion for children's books and the importance of encouraging kids to read. She emphasizes her dual enthusiasm for outdoor activities and reading, highlighting how she has combined the two for children. The discussion emphasizes the significance of talking about the book and its content during the walk, reinforcing the connection between literature and nature.

Episode Highlights

• 02:04: Emily reveals an interesting detail that she and her two brothers are named after notable literary figures. Emily is named after the renowned poet, Emily Dickinson.
• 02:17: Books and literature played a significant role in Emily's childhood. It was not just about reading but also bonding over the stories, lessons, and experiences from the literature they consumed. This formed an integral part of their quality family time.
• 03:00: Carla asks Emily about the role of books in her childhood, specifically if they had bedtime stories or how books were integrated into their daily routine.
• 04:49: Emily emphasizes the beauty of books related to the outdoors and the profound impact they can have on children. She shares her experiences of combining outdoor activities with reading to children, highlighting how one complements the other.
• 05:18: Emily recommends a beautifully illustrated book, Robert Frost's poem "The Road Not Taken," and describes how she uses it as a prelude to outdoor activities to enrich the experience for her kids.
• 07:24: The website “Run Wild, My Child”, aims to help parents who are looking to get their kids more involved in outdoor activities. It offers various suggestions, ranging from craft ideas to book recommendations, with the goal of reducing screen time and encouraging kids to play outside.
• 08:33: Emily expresses her love for writing for the website, sharing her passion for using books as a tool to inspire outdoor activities for children. She is in the process of writing another piece focusing on books for the colder seasons like fall and winter.
• 09:30: Carla accepts that through sources of inspiration like "Run Wild My Child", parents can easily find new ideas and paths to explore with their kids, without the stress of having to come up with them on their own.
• 10:52: For micro adventure, Emily explains a simple activity of observing and collecting different leaves during the fall, noting the changes in colours. The goal is to appreciate the beauty of changing seasons and nature.
• 11:49: Carla delves into the idea that these activities can be customized based on the individual's available time. A more extended adventure could involve a long drive, while a short one might be a quick stroll in the neighbourhood.
• 12:35: Emily emphasizes that books like "Sunday fun day" encompass a wide range of outdoor activities. They offer crafts, games, and "I spy" type challenges alongside recipes suitable for outdoor cooking. She brings attention to another series of books that are divided by season. These books provide a multitude of recipes, crafts, and activities for each season.
• 13:35: Carla shifts the topic to a more poignant issue: how families can use books and outdoor experiences to initiate conversations on matters such as eco-anxiety and environmental care.
• 14:53: Emily also has a personal favourite on eco-anxiety: a community garden-themed counting book. This beautifully illustrated book showcases various community members collaborating to nurture a shared garden.
• 15:37: Carla believes that books provide an avenue for children to channel their anxieties and learn that positive change is possible. They promote a stronger bond with nature, teaching the importance of caring for and utilizing outdoor spaces for the collective good.
• 16:00: Emily emphasizes the vast range of topics books cover and the ease of finding them either through personal online searches or by visiting local establishments. She suggests consulting with local librarians as they stay updated with recent publications and have first-hand knowledge of the books available in their collection. They can thus quickly recommend relevant titles.
• 17:30: Emily stresses the importance of reflection by comparing personal experiences with those of characters in books. This helps children process their emotions and learn from their adventures.
• 18:02: Emily asserts that books can catalyse a child's imagination, turning their reading experiences into real-life adventures, enhancing both their creativity and pleasure.

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3 Key Points

1. Emily Liebel emphasizes the harmonious blend of outdoor activities and reading for children. Through books like Robert Frost's "The Road Not Taken," children are introduced to nature in a literary context, allowing them to experience the outdoors through the lens of literature.
2. The conversation sheds light on how books can be powerful tools in initiating discussions on environmental issues like eco-anxiety. Emily's recommendation, a community garden-themed counting book, demonstrates how literature can foster a sense of community and highlight collaborative efforts to care for the environment.
3. Emily accentuates the transformative power of books in sparking a child's imagination. By reading and reflecting, children are not only enhancing their creativity but also turning their literary experiences into tangible, real-world adventures.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Books are not just about reading; they're about bonding over stories, lessons, and experiences.” - Emily
• "Nature and literature go hand-in-hand. 'The Road Not Taken' by Robert Frost is more than just a poem; it's a prelude to outdoor adventures.” - Emily
• "Run Wild, My Child' is a beacon for parents looking to combine the beauty of nature and the power of literature. Less screen time, more green time!" - Emily
• "Books are gateways, transforming reading experiences into real-life adventures, sparking creativity and joy in young minds.” - Emily

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On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Adina Oberman. She is a former preschool teacher and over 15 years, she has helped families through the ups and downs of early childhood. Adina is the creator of “Big Books for Little Hands”, a valuable resource for parents and educators seeking the best books to navigate the challenges of life with kids to the best books for navigating the challenges of life with kids.

Episode Highlights

• 01.40: Adina mentions the importance of food in Jewish holidays, emphasizing that eating together is a significant part of the celebration.
• 03.40: Sukkot is a holiday during which people build temporary huts outside their homes. This holiday is a celebration, often associated with the harvest season, where communal meals are held in these temporary huts.
• 04:15: Simchat holiday is a celebration of reading the Torah, the Old Testament, from beginning to end over the course of a year. Simchat Torah is a joyful holiday filled with festivities, including lots of eating and family fun.
• 05.52: Christopher notes that Yom Kippur is a solemn holiday and it's a specific time when people can reflect on any offenses they may have committed against their family, friends, God, and the world around them.
• 07.15: Adina emphasizes that seeking forgiveness tradition is beautiful because it helps prevent small transgressions from accumulating within family relationships. It allows people to come full circle, make amends, and start fresh, fostering reconciliation and positive relationships.
• 09:25: Christopher asks Adina to describe the foods and recipes that are typically included in celebratory Jewish meals.
• 10.21: In Jewish celebrations food varies from house to house and my family but during Rosh Hashanah, there are several symbolic foods like apples dipped in honey, braided bread, and Matzo ball soup and brisket.
• 11.52: Adina suggests that food is an excellent way to engage children in cultural traditions. Parents can involve their kids by either preparing food together or sitting down to eat and explaining the significance of the dishes being served to help children feel connected to their heritage and understand the reasons behind the holiday customs.
• 12.16: Adina recommends reading books about Jewish holidays to children. These books can be a valuable resource in making abstract concepts more understandable and relatable to young minds.
• 16.06: Adina suggests seeking out a local Jewish Community Centre, which can be found in many states across the United States. JCCs typically offer a wide range of programming for all ages and levels of observance which allows families to participate in meaningful ways within the Jewish community and helps build a strong Jewish identity for their children.

3 Key Points

1. There are several Jewish holidays during this season, starting with Rosh Hashanah, which is the Jewish New Year, says Adina. She explains that Rosh Hashanah is a time for celebration, renewal, reflection, and a focus on making the upcoming year better.
2. Adina explains that Rosh Hashanah is a joyful holiday and is a time of renewal and rebirth, similar to the way January 1st is celebrated as the New Year in the secular calendar. During Rosh Hashanah, people often engage in the custom of dipping apples into honey, symbolizing the desire for a sweet and prosperous year ahead.
3. PJ Library serves as a practical and accessible way for parents and caregivers to introduce their children to Jewish traditions and strengthen their connection to their cultural heritage, says Adina.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Simchat holiday follows Sukkot in the Jewish calendar and is marked by lively and spirited celebrations within the Jewish community.” - Adina Oberman
• “You can say "Happy New Year" to anyone celebrating Rosh Hashanah but in general for any Jewish holiday, you can use the phrase "Chag Sameach," which means "Happy Holiday." This is a versatile greeting suitable for various Jewish celebrations.” - Adina Oberman

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On today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Katie Plunkett, a fourth-grade classroom teacher and entrepreneur. This episode provides valuable information to help families improve their communication and emotional well-being.

Episode Highlights

• 01:19: Dr. Carla Marie Manley asks Katie Plunkett to share more about herself and what makes her unique. Katie explains that she is a full-time fourth-grade classroom teacher and expresses her love for teaching.
• 02:06: Katie explains that she benefited from many self-help resources designed for adults but couldn't find similar content suitable for kids.
• 02:25: Katie highlights the scarcity of mental health professionals in schools and the privilege of having access to them.
• 03:04: Katie defined social-emotional learning as explicitly teaching social skills to children in the classroom and providing them with the language to express their emotions. This helps them engage in conversations about their feelings, work through their emotions, and understand that what they're experiencing is normal.
• 04:53: Social-emotional learning involves helping children understand and manage their evolving emotions and social interactions as they grow and develop their identities.
• 06:22: Dr. Carla and Katie demonstrated how social-emotional learning can be implemented through interactive and engaging activities that help children develop problem-solving and interpersonal skills.
• 07:15: Katie shares examples that illustrate how simple activities can foster emotional awareness and communication skills in children, helping them navigate their emotions and social interactions effectively.
• 08:17: Dr. Carla highlights the challenges some parents may face when trying to engage their children in social-emotional learning activities at home.
• 09:20: The discussion highlights the effectiveness of using picture books as a tool for initiating conversations about emotions and social interactions with children.
• 09:27: In this segment of the podcast, Dr. Carla emphasized the accessibility of using picture books to teach social-emotional learning concepts to children of various ages, from young children to teenagers.
• 11:50: Dr. Carla and Katie highlight the importance of emotional awareness and the role it plays in effective communication. It sets the stage for discussing practical tips to enhance children's communication skills.
• 12:40: Katie highlights the significance of setting a positive example and actively engaging in meaningful conversations with children to foster their communication skills.
• 13:08: Dr. Carla and Katie discuss effective communication with children, particularly the importance of asking open-ended questions to encourage meaningful conversation.
• 16:03: Katie shares her perspective on children's mental health, considering the challenges and negativity often associated with it.
• 20:04: Dr. Carla emphasized the long-term payoffs, including improved communication and social-emotional development.

3 Key Points

1. Dr. Carla and Katie emphasize the importance of using effective questioning techniques to encourage children to share their thoughts and experiences more openly, ultimately fostering better communication between parents and children.
2. Dr. Carla and Katie talk about the importance of limiting screen time for children and the benefits of doing so.
3. Katie talks about her upcoming book, scheduled to be released late next summer or early fall, which will focus on effective communication with children and integrating social-emotional skills into conversations.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Children learn not only from the information they're presented but also from the behavior and actions of adults.” - Katie Plunkett
• “In today's busy world, families may not have the time to delve into extensive reading or research. Therefore, they aim to provide quick and actionable solutions that can be easily implemented by parents and caregivers.” - Katie Plunkett
• “Open-ended questions are key to getting more meaningful responses from children.” - Katie Plunkett

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On today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Kira Bender, a pediatric occupational therapist. The podcast explores various aspects of family, love, and relationships. Dr. Manley and Kira will discuss Kira's work and the role of an occupational therapist in the upcoming conversation.

Episode Highlights

• 01:06: Kira, the pediatric occupational therapist, and guest, provides insights into her background and role. She mentions that she is both a pediatric occupational therapist and a mother of a four-year-old child, emphasizing how these two aspects of her life are closely intertwined.
• 01:58: Kira explains the nature of pediatric occupational therapy and her specific approach to it.
• 02:24: Kira describes her current role as an outpatient occupational therapist based in Los Angeles, working for the Center for Connection, led by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson.
• 03:12: For children, their most important occupation is being a student and a family member, in addition to taking care of themselves. This underlines the holistic nature of pediatric occupational therapy, where the focus is on helping children thrive in all aspects of their lives.
• 04:47: Dr. Carla Manley explores the concept of attunement in the context of working with children, particularly in relation to Kira Bender's approach to pediatric occupational therapy.
• 05:30: Kira delves into the concept of attunement and its role in helping children, especially those with self-regulation challenges.
• 06:26: Kira emphasizes that a child won't learn to self-soothe if they are left to navigate distressing moments entirely on their own. Instead, repeated exposure to co-regulation is essential for a child to develop the skill of self-soothing.
• 08:04: Dr. Carla discusses scenarios where co-regulation is needed, such as when a child is having a temper tantrum. She points out that screaming at the child or leaving them is the opposite of co-regulation because it doesn't involve attuning to the child's needs.
• 10:30: Dr. Carla reinforces the idea that perfection is not the goal in parenting or caregiving, and it's natural for adults to have their own emotions and challenges when dealing with upset children.
• 11:30: Kira discusses the second step for parents or caregivers in co-regulating with a child who is experiencing intense emotions, especially when dealing with neurodivergent children.
• 13:24: Kira emphasizes that the tone, touch, body heat, and rhythm of the caregiver's actions are crucial in co-regulation. She points out that with infants, caregivers instinctively use their voice and soothing actions even when the child cannot understand words. It's about creating a calming and reassuring atmosphere.
• 15:10: Dr. Manley acknowledges that attunement is an art that requires effort, unlike using more conventional parenting methods like timeouts or one-size-fits-all approaches for multiple children.
• 17:18: Dr. Manley highlights the significant payoff of parenting in this way, emphasizing that investing in teaching children to self-soothe, regulate their emotions, and understand themselves at an early age can result in emotionally mature and competent individuals.
• 19:28: Kira explains that she is passionate about using books as tools for building social-emotional skills in young children. She shares her experience of presenting to the Los Angeles Public Library's team of children's librarians on this topic.
• 21:33: Kira emphasizes the importance of helping children understand their body cues, such as a fast-beating heart, a hot face, or shallow breathing, as clues to their emotional state. She believes that children need to learn these cues to identify when they might need to use strategies like asking for help from an adult or taking a break.
• 23:09: Kira uses books as co-regulation tools during emotional moments with her son and in her preschool group.
• 26:02: Storybook detectives is a strategy used when a child is regulated and ready to engage with a story.
• 28:12: Kira highlights that children often relate to characters in stories and can learn valuable lessons by diving deeper into the character's experiences.

3 Key Points

1. Kira explains that attunement involves not only understanding what's happening for the child but also helping guide them through specific moments. Many of the children she works with struggle with self-regulation, which is a natural part of child development.
2. Dr. Carla Manley discusses the common misconception that mirroring a child's emotions by stating what they are feeling might not always work, especially if the child denies their feelings. She agrees with Kira's emphasis on the importance of non-verbal cues and empathy.
3. Kira and Carla discuss the importance of using books to teach social-emotional skills to children of all ages and the positive impact it can have on their emotional well-being.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The goal of occupational therapy is to enable children to perform the activities they want and need to do in life, which extends beyond traditional job-related occupations. It encompasses essential life activities such as self-care, dressing, feeding, and play.” – Kira
• “Understanding the physiological process behind co-regulation can help parents be more empathetic to themselves and their children.” – Kira
• “By imparting emotional regulation and coping skills to children, they can navigate the world with more flexibility and resilience as they grow older.” – Kira
• “Books can help children connect with their bodies on a deeper level and foster a love for learning about themselves and the world around them.” – Kira

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Dr. Lauren Cook, a therapist who specializes in helping millennials and Gen Z clients deal with anxiety. Christopher shares that Dr. Cook not only professionally understands these generations' struggles with anxiety but also personally relates to them as a millennial who experiences anxiety herself.

The episode discusses Dr. Cook's book, "Generation Anxiety," which provides actionable steps to help young adults navigate anxiety. The book draws on psychological research and diverse client experiences to illustrate various manifestations of anxiety. It aims to help readers gain insight into their own stressors and effectively manage anxiety.

Episode Highlights

• 02:00: The episode features Dr. Cook, who specializes in addressing anxiety among millennials and Gen Z, and it acknowledges the widespread issue of anxiety, with over 40 million Americans currently experiencing some form of anxiety.
• 02:51: Dr. Cook explains that there is indeed a rise in both the number of people experiencing anxiety and the intensity of their symptoms. She attributes this to several factors, including the constant inundation of social media, which is a relatively new phenomenon, and the increasing sense of isolation, often referred to as the "loneliness epidemic."
• 03:37: Dr. Cook also highlights an interesting aspect of anxiety, where the more one seeks to control it, the more out of control it can become. She mentions that avoidance is another common aspect of anxiety, where individuals may start avoiding certain aspects of their life or situations due to their anxiety.
• 04:14: Christopher shares a valuable perspective from their teachings, emphasizing that we don't have control over everything but rather have influence. This perspective encourages finding ways to influence the situation positively.
• 06:20: When people isolate themselves and only interact with a small circle of family and friends, they can become more distrustful and disconnected from others.
• 07:18: Dr. Cook also mentions the common stereotype about Gen Z struggling with voicemails, which she believes is a reflection of a larger issue related to social skills and interaction. She advocates for building social skills to enhance communication and connection among all generations.
• 08:14: Dr. Cook explains the concept of choosing values induction over pain reduction in the context of anxiety. She notes that anxiety often stems from the desire to avoid discomfort and pain, and this avoidance can lead to people missing out on important aspects of life.
• 10:35; Dr. Cook expresses her enthusiasm for discussing the power of gratitude, citing years of research in positive psychology that highlights the positive impact of gratitude on both brain health and overall physical health.
• 10:42: The concept of "5 daily gratitude" likely refers to a practice of identifying and expressing gratitude for five things each day. This practice is often recommended as a way to shift focus away from negative thinking and promote a more positive and optimistic outlook on life.
• 12:29: Christopher shares his personal experience with practicing gratitude during yoga and meditation. He mentions how he expresses gratitude for simple things like trees, breath, and the sounds of birds during his practice.
• 13:37: Dr. Cook explains that these two generations have grown up in an era where there is a significant focus on appearance. She points out that millennials experienced a period when plastic surgery and brands like Abercrombie and Fitch were popular, which had a substantial impact on young adults' self-image.
• 14:09: "What if your appearance was the least interesting thing about you?" Dr. Cook suggests that this question can be a powerful way to prompt self-reflection and encourage individuals to reconsider where they invest their time, energy, and focus.
• 16:26: Dr. Cook introduces the concept of "empowered acceptance." This practice involves accepting yourself and your current situation while taking active steps to improve your well-being.
• 17:25: Dr. Cook also highlights that it's okay to experience anxiety and that the goal isn't necessarily to make anxiety disappear but to learn how to live with it while still leading fulfilling lives.

3 Key Points

1. Dr. Cook talks about the importance of teaching children to interact with people outside of their immediate family and encourages parents to expose their children to a broader community.
2. Dr. Cook encourages practicing mindfulness and taking moments to reflect on what has gone well in the past 24 hours, even in small ways. She suggests that this practice can have a significant impact on shifting the energy within a family unit.
3. Alongside acceptance, Dr. Cook encourages individuals to take empowered action to address the problems and challenges they face. Being proactive and engaged in finding solutions, both on a personal and societal level, can help alleviate anxiety.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Anxiety, is like a wave that spikes when we reach its peak, and my goal is to help people ride through the wave and realize that they can endure and survive through moments of discomfort.” - Dr. Cook
• “By understanding one's values, individuals can become more willing to endure the discomfort that may come with pursuing a meaningful life.” - Dr. Cook
• “Many young adults she works with often rate their stress about body image at a 7 or 8 on a scale of 1 to 10, indicating that body image occupies a significant amount of their mental energy and attention.” - Dr. Cook

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Erika Sargent. She is the founder of Multicultural Parenting, an organization that helps parents raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. She graduated from Brigham Young University to BA in communications. Today they are discussing specific ways that parents can incorporate more culture into their homes and family’s upbringing.

Episode Highlights

• 01:51: Multicultural parenting is an online community that works to help families raise their children with a better understanding and appreciation of their cultural heritage. It includes a blend of interviews, resources, actionable item steps and personal experiences from multicultural parents.
• 04:41: When Erika was looking for resources to help with multicultural parenting, she found a lack of general multicultural parenting resources. While there were options for specific cultural backgrounds, she wanted to create a broader platform that would provide support and resources for families with diverse cultural backgrounds, hence the creation of multicultural parenting.
• 05:04: Erika highlights that there are abundant resources for raising bilingual children but limited guidance for families seeking to incorporate multiple cultural backgrounds into their parenting approach.
• 06:24: Erika emphasizes the importance of providing parents with simple and actionable steps to connect their children with their cultural backgrounds.
• 07:01: Christopher acknowledges the significance of multicultural parenting and Erika's work and ask about practical steps that parents can take to celebrate their culture with their children.
• 08:23: Incorporating everyday living like music, TV programs or games and cooking like preparing recipes with cultural backgrounds or family cookbooks in everyday activities into family life can help parents celebrate their culture with their children in a natural and meaningful way says Erika.
• 10:25: Erika recommends using public libraries as a valuable resource. They offer a wide range of books, including picture books and nonfiction books, that can help parents teach their children about their cultural history.
• 11:34: Christopher mentions that many children in their area speak Spanish, and Erika confirms that dual immersion programs, where children are taught in bilingual classrooms, are growing in popularity across the United States.
• 13:13: Erika highlights the joy of being a multicultural parent, as it provides an opportunity not only to pass on cultural traditions but also to continually learn new things and deepen one's own cultural understanding.
• 13:54: Erika introduces the concept of "participate" as the last pillar in their discussion. This pillar encourages people to step out of their comfort zones and become actively involved in their community's cultural aspects.
• 15:05: Christopher summarizes the three pillars of their discussion: "Educate, celebrate, participate." These pillars provide a comprehensive framework for parents and families to enrich their understanding and appreciation of their multicultural backgrounds and the broader cultural diversity within their communities.
• 15:41: Erika emphasizes that parents can expand their horizons without necessarily having to travel to different countries. Many events, such as festivals and museum exhibits, provide opportunities to experience diverse cultures without the need for expensive travel.
• 17:17: Erika highlights the importance of utilizing family members as valuable resources.

3 Key Points

1. Erika's talks about the importance of utilizing resources like libraries and culturally diverse books to make learning about one's cultural heritage an enjoyable and engaging experience for children.
2. Erika and Christopher underscores the significance of both formal education programs and cultural traditions in helping children appreciate and understand their multicultural heritage.
3. Erika and Christopher provides valuable insights and practical tips for parents to engage with their children's multicultural backgrounds and foster a deeper appreciation for diversity through celebration, education, and active participation in their communities.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Multicultural parenting is built on three pillars, celebrate, educate, participate. These three pillars form the foundation of multicultural parenting, making it a valuable resource for families looking to embrace and pass on their cultural heritage to the next generation.” – Erika
• “Familius Publishing offers multicultural picture books, such as "My Name Is Cool" and "The Proudest Color." They have recently released a book that explores a diverse family dynamic called "My House and My Family." These books provide an engaging way for children to learn about different cultures and family dynamics.” – Erika
• “Multicultural parenting is not about rigidly following a checklist but rather providing options and ideas that parents can adapt to their family's needs. It's about incorporating what works best for your family, considering your time constraints and personal circumstances.” - Erika

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Hillary Waller, Director of Education and Programming and a psychotherapist at the Postpartum Stress Center. She offers individual and group therapy services, manages training and education programs, and leads educational in-services at the center.

Episode Highlights

• 01:21: Hillary Waller's interest in parent-child relationships led her to pursue a Master's degree in counseling psychology with a specialization in marriage and family therapy. She now conducts specialized training sessions for organizations seeking expertise in the treatment of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
• 02:07: Christopher and Hillary’s discussion topic revolves around the increasing prevalence of anxiety and depression among today's children, which is described as almost reaching epidemic proportions.
• 03:55: Hillary encourages parents to reach out to therapists and professionals who can offer insights into what is normal behavior and what may be a cause for concern. She suggests that when a parent's instinct tells them something isn't right, that should be considered a red flag, prompting them to seek help and guidance from qualified professionals.
• 05:00: Being closely connected with their child allows parents to recognize when something deviates from the norm and may require further attention or investigation.
• 05:27: Christopher emphasizes the importance of being present with our children and getting to know them well enough to recognize when something is an outlier or deviates from their usual behavior.
• 06:30: Hillary acknowledges the developmental stage of teenagers, who simultaneously desire their parents' involvement and support while also seeking independence and privacy. She emphasizes the need to strike a balance between respecting their independence and understanding when to intervene when necessary.
• 08:11: Christopher shares a personal experience of seeking therapy with their young son and realizing that therapy was not just for the child but also for the parents. They then ask if using phrases like "well-being" might be more appropriate than saying "mental health."
• 10:25: Hillary highlights the significance of parents learning self-regulation strategies so they can effectively communicate with their children about their feelings. By providing children with language to express their emotions, parents help them develop emotional intelligence.
• 13:19: Hillary suggests that if a parent already has their own therapist, they can initiate a conversation about their child's mental health with them.
• 14:30: In response to the host's question about common denominators or triggers for children's mental health issues, Hillary Waller acknowledges that it's a complex question because there are numerous factors that contribute to children experiencing anxiety and depression.
• 16:32: Hillary Waller emphasizes the importance of physical presence and eye contact when sitting with children and teenagers to discuss their feelings and challenges. She mentions that when people are overwhelmed and stressed, their bodies often feel tense, which is closely related to anxiety.
• 17:20: Being present and making eye contact with your child, regardless of their age, can have a positive and calming effect.
• 18:21: The love parents have for their child is the most important and powerful tool they have in helping their child through difficult times.

3 Key Points

1. Christopher and Hillary discuss the issue of the stigma associated with mental illness, anxiety, and depression. They acknowledge that there might be generational factors or societal influences contributing to this stigma.
2. Hillary suggests that using the terminology of "emotional health" can be less stigmatized than "mental health." She encourages open conversations about feelings and emotional well-being from a very young age, regardless of the child's age, to create a more accepting and supportive environment for discussing these issues.
3. Hillary Waller suggests that using books can be a great way to initiate conversations about mental well-being with children.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Parents particularly new mothers, should trust their instincts and learn how to find answers about their children's well-being.” - Hillary Waller
• “While there is a wealth of content available, it's important to limit the number of resources to avoid feeling overwhelmed.” - Hillary Waller
• “Life can be challenging, and it's essential to help children and teens learn how to navigate and work through these challenges.” - Hillary Waller

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Jessica Speer. She is an award-winning author known for her books "Not Really Friends," "Middle School Safety Goggles Advised," and the newly released "The Phone Book," which are interactive books aimed at preteens and teens. These books entertain while addressing important topics, blending humor, science, stories, and insights to help young readers navigate challenges during adolescence.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:14: Jessica shares the challenges of children using devices more frequently or differently than they did during the summer.
• 02:45: Jessica gives her advice by suggesting practical steps for families to prepare for the school year transition.
• 04:28: Jessica emphasizes the importance of encouraging healthy communication between children and their teachers when it comes to using technology.
• 05:20: Digital literacy is a crucial new form of literacy, given that so much information is now presented on screens. With the rise of digital communication, it's challenging for kids to discern what is true and what is not, and even the emotional nuances in messages can be lost.
• 05:46: To help children become more media literate, Jessica suggests a gradual process that starts with teaching them how to assess the credibility of information.
• 06:21: In today's parenting landscape, a significant aspect involves guiding kids to be safe online, promoting good digital citizenship, and fostering literacy.
• 06:39: With the power that devices provide, children can communicate through texts and messages either positively and kindly or in a harmful way.
• 06:57: By teaching kids about their digital influence and encouraging them to make positive choices online, parents can help mold their children into responsible and empathetic digital citizens.
• 07:39: Digital social interactions can be even trickier than in-person interactions due to the absence of nonverbal cues and the involvement of more people in online conversations.
• 08:46: Family tech agreements are widely available online, but they can vary in content. Parents need to review a few options and choose one that best suits their family's dynamics and values. However, the tech agreement is just the starting point.
• 10:33: Jessica provides valuable guidance on how to handle situations where things may not be going well about technology use and its impact on various aspects of a child's life.
• 15:03: Jessica highlights the importance of helping kids create healthy habits around screen time.

3 Key Highlights

1. Jessica discusses how her book "The Phone Book" helps both adult and younger readers understand media literacy in the context of phones, screens, and the internet.
2. Jessica explains how it is crucial to identify specific areas or times in the house where screens are not allowed.
3. Jessica highlights her approach to "The Phone Book," emphasizing its aim to facilitate important conversations with kids about their phone usage. While the book is written for preteens and early teens, she encourages parents to read it as well to engage in discussions about topics such as stranger danger, digital literacy, digital footprints, and reputation.

Tweetable Quotes

• "In elementary school where children might be encountering devices for the first time or using them more extensively for assignments and testing." - Jessica Speer
• "If a child is having trouble with a device or encountering challenges, they should feel empowered to communicate their issues to their teacher so that they can receive the necessary support." - Jessica Speer
• "By creating a calm and understanding atmosphere, parents can address challenges related to technology use without creating unnecessary tension or conflict. The focus should be on finding solutions together and supporting the child's overall well-being and success." - Jessica Speer

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In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Cynthia Hope. She is the author of the book "My House, My Family." She discusses her background, including her family and faith, and mentions that she grew up with parents who had an open home. This episode highlights the interactive and enjoyable aspects of reading with children and Hope's dedication to fostering language development and a love for reading from a young age.

Episode Highlights

• 01:04: Hope talks about her background and mentions that her family and faith strongly influence her identity. She dedicates her book to her parents, Reverend Glen, and Betty Keenan, who played a significant role in her life. She highlights how her parents opened their home and hearts to many children, fostering and adopting them. Additionally, her parents built a camp for inner-city children and teenagers, creating a sense of family and community for them.
• 02:13: Hope discusses her parents' work in both an inner-city church and a camp they built, which posed different challenges. She emphasizes the importance of adapting to the circumstance’s life presents and making the best of them.
• 03:18: Hope talks about the various children who became a part of her family through fostering and adoption.
• 05:03: Hope explains the essence of what's inside her book, "My House, My Family." She emphasizes the importance of every child and parent feeling loved and accepted within their family structure, regardless of race, origin, or community.
• 07:39: Carla underscores the importance of showcasing diverse family structures and experiences through literature, allowing readers to connect with and appreciate the richness of different family narratives.
• 09:35: Hope mentions that parents, therapists, and psychologists have shared their experiences of people picking up the book, even in waiting rooms. This indicates that the book's message is resonating and connecting with a wide range of individuals.
• 10:26: Hope expresses her surprise and delight that parents are finding a personal connection to her book. She believes that the book offers comfort and a sense of togetherness for parents as well.
• 11:53: Hope and Carla discuss the joyful and meaningful experiences that books like Hope's can create for families.
• 13:57: Hope emphasizes the diversity of family dynamics and practices depicted in the book, as well as the overarching message of love, acceptance, and togetherness that unites all families.
• 15:31: Hope's book is suitable for children aged 2 to 10 and is a picture book. It's designed to be a quick read, taking less than 5 minutes before bedtime, but also offers opportunities for engagement with children through the bird spotting activity and the discussion questions.
• 16:27: Carla praises the way Hope's book employs the "show, don't tell" approach to demonstrate loving behaviors and actions rather than just instructing them.
• 17:58: Drawing from her own experiences, Hope shares a story about her adopted daughter from Burma. She recalls an incident where her daughter squatted down in the middle of a mall to rest, explaining that it was a behavior she learned from her own culture.
• 18:19: Hope highlights the need for cultural sensitivity, active listening, and embracing children's individuality as important elements of creating an inclusive and loving family environment.
• 19:10: When it comes to children, whether they are biological or come into the family through other means, the key is to listen to them, understand what makes them tick, and avoid pushing one's own agenda onto them.
• 21:05: Carla highlights the importance of family, love, understanding, and inclusivity, as well as the impact that literature and storytelling can have on fostering positive values and relationships within families.

3 Key Points

1. Hope talks about her book's inclusivity and its potential impact on various aspects of society, from families and caregivers to educators and medical professionals, all working together to promote a wholesome sense of family unity.
2. Dr. Carla Marie Manley highlights the importance of the values emphasized in Hope's book and how they contribute to fostering love, acceptance, and kindness within families.
3. Hope's story underscores the value of actively listening, observing, and understanding each child's unique perspective and experiences as a fundamental aspect of fostering love and acceptance within families.

Tweetable Quotes

• "My House, My Family," is dedicated to families who aim to ensure their children don't feel marginalized due to differences like being deaf. – Hope
• "If parents end up reading the book for their children for 25 nights in a row because it becomes a favorite, the book still retains its charm and evokes beautiful memories as children fall asleep." – Hope
• "Pause, listen, and understand what's going on in a child's world instead of imposing one's own ideals and schedules onto them." - Hope

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks with guest Donna Tetreault. She is a national TV parenting journalist, seen on NBC News, The Today Show, Dr. Phil, The Doctors, and The Talk on CBS. She is also seen regularly in Los Angeles on KCBS/KCAL, NBC's California Live, KTLA, and Spectrum News One. The episode focuses on discussing how to support children as they return to school.

Episode Highlights

• 00:59: Donna's work has been featured on prominent shows such as the Today Show, The Talk, The Doctors, and Dr. Phil. She has also written for prestigious institutions like Harvard's Graduate School of Education, U.S. News & World Report, parents.com, Your Teen magazine, and Thrive Global.
• 02:17: Donna and Christopher discuss, the dynamics and challenges of the back-to-school transition for families.
• 02:40: Donna and Christopher delve into the array of emotions that parents and children may feel at the start of the school year, ranging from excitement to anxiety, and the various levels of preparedness.
• 03:00: Donna suggests that heading back to school is an opportune time to introduce a family meeting.
• 05:59: Christopher acknowledges the value of being a supportive presence behind the child, helping them reach their goals and fostering their independence.
• 07:50: Donna shares the role of friendships in education and offers practical guidance for parents on supporting their children's social interactions and relationships at school.
• 08:48: Moving on to teenagers, Donna emphasizes the importance of teenagers' involvement in school activities like athletics, clubs, and the arts to help build bonds with peers.
• 09:20: Christopher shares a practical tip for parents to get to know their child's friends by inviting them over and being welcoming, even opening the refrigerator to offer food.
• 10:33: Donna shares her experience of creating vision boards with their own children since they were little and how the process has evolved.
• 11:43: Donna and Christopher discuss the challenge of balancing academics and extracurricular activities.
• 13:40: Monday nights are always reserved for a family night in their household. During this time, they engage in activities like making pizza, playing games, and having conversations. This dedicated family time helps foster connections and maintain a healthy balance between various aspects of life.
• 15:05: The conversation touches on the idea of learning and growing from experiences, embracing failures, and trusting in the process of self-discovery and decision-making.
• 17:50: Donna provides valuable advice and perspectives for parents on supporting their children's growth, education, and well-being, emphasizing trust, open communication, and fostering a balanced and supportive environment.

3 Key Points

1. Donna highlights the importance of family communication and involvement in supporting students' success in school.
2. Donna and Christopher offer practical strategies for parents to support their children's social interactions and friendships at different stages of their education.
3. Donna emphasizes the concept of balance and effective ways parents can guide their children to achieve both academic success and well-rounded development through extracurricular activities.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Kids with friends in school tend to perform better academically." – Donna
• "Parents help their children prioritize their school responsibilities while also engaging in extracurricular activities they enjoy. The goal is to ensure that technology doesn't interfere with these pursuits." – Donna
• Allowing parents to trust their kids in this academic journey their own journey, that there are going to be failures. There's going to be successes and those failures matter, and we have to allow them to fail and just trust." - Donna

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, Co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks with guest Kristine Pack. She is a YouTuber known for her YouTube channel "Family Fun Pack." The podcast aims to explore various aspects of family, love, and relationships. Christine discusses her YouTube channel and her experiences as a mother. The conversation focuses on her role in her family and her online presence.

Episode Highlights

• 01:34: Kristine shares how she manages the challenges of raising seven kids in the modern world.
• 01:52: Kristine explains that managing her seven children involves several strategies. She emphasizes the importance of having a schedule, although she notes that the schedule isn't overly strict. As long as she accomplishes what needs to be done on a daily basis for everyone, she's satisfied.
• 03:20: Dr. Carla Marie Manley expresses admiration for Kristine's courage to go on a month-long road trip with her family.
• 04:02: Managing Kristine's YouTube channel is a substantial commitment for everyone in her family, akin to a full-time job.
• 06:35: Kristine used to suffer from migraines but hasn't experienced one in years, which she attributes to her regular exercise regimen.
• 07:39: Kristine shares her YouTube journey. She explains that it all began in 2011 with a video she made for her mother-in-law, capturing their twins going to bed. At that time, she used YouTube to share the video as it was the most convenient option.
• 09:40: Given her losses, Christine decided to use YouTube as a backup for her videos. She began uploading videos to the platform, realizing that they wouldn't be deleted as she had feared. Encouraged by this, she uploaded several videos without any editing since she didn't know how to edit at the time.
• 11:12: Kristine attributes the popularity to a combination of their family dynamic, the timing of the uploads, and the fact that vlogging wasn't as common then as it is now.
• 12:14: Kristine also reflects on how her approach to YouTube has changed. Initially, they didn't use ads on their videos because she found it rude, but they eventually embraced ads as a way to sustain their channel financially.
• 13:02: Kristine explains her perspective on finding fun in everyday life and how she portrays her family on their YouTube channel.
• 15:59: In today's world, many kids are exposed to adult concepts at a very young age, and she emphasizes the importance of allowing children to just be kids and enjoy their childhood without unnecessary exposure to adult issues.
• 20:16: Reading is not only educational but also provides opportunities for learning and growth, says Kristine.
• 23:07: Kristine prefers her children to use devices in common family spaces like the living room rather than isolating themselves with their devices.
• 23:43: Kristine explains that she is very mindful and observant when it comes to her children's device usage.
• 26:21: Kristine emphasizes the importance of being cautious about the games and platforms they use, avoiding any interaction with strangers, and promptly reporting any suspicious behavior.

3 Key Points

1. In her pursuit of self-care, Kristine joined a fitness class and later hired a personal trainer to help her on her journey. Even though her busy schedule and frequent travels make it challenging, she remains committed to training when she's home.
2. Kristine talks about the unpredictable nature of technology and the challenges of preserving meaningful memories in a digital age.
3. Kristine talks about meditation and yoga books for kids, which can promote mindfulness and mental well-being from a young age.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Self-care isn't selfish but rather beneficial for the entire family system." - Kristine Pack
• "YouTube videos have gone from us uploading random stuff that's not edited to being a little bit edited to let's do challenges." - Kristine Pack
• "Focusing on good moments, like spending time together, doing household chores, and enjoying family life, is important for their viewers and helps create a positive atmosphere on their channel." - Kristine Pack
• "Children's books can be amazing sources of valuable lessons and insights for both children and parents." - Kristine Pack
• "Reading plays a significant role in her family's life, especially because they homeschool most of their children." - Kristine Pack

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On this episode of the "Helping Families be Happy Podcast," host, Christopher Robbins husband and father of nine, residing in the Central Valley of California talks to Brooke Jordan, who is introduced as having a BA in English and editing from Brigham Young University.

She has 10 years of experience in the publishing industry and currently serves as the editorial director at Familius. Brooke Jordan is also a prolific author with over 20 books to her credit, including the "Lit for Little Hand" series, "I Dig Bathtime," and "How Does Our Food Grow." She has worked in collaboration with the United Nations Organization Kitchen Connection. Additionally, she is an award-winning editor and book designer.

This episode promises to be an insightful discussion about instilling healthy food habits in children and understanding the broader implications of food choices on individuals and the environment.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:05: Christopher Robbins and Brooke Jordan explore the topic of where our food comes from and how to help children understand and appreciate the journey from farm to plate.
• 01:39: Brooke Jordan is the author of the book "How Does Our Food Grow?" The book delves into various angles of exploring how food is produced and its connection to fitness and health.
• 02:58: Brooke explains the natural collaboration between her book, "How Does Our Food Grow?" and Kitchen Connection, which is a part of the United Nations.
• 04:32: The podcast episode discusses the importance of exposing children to a wide variety of flavors early on to reduce picky eating tendencies as they grow.
• 04:58: Christopher Robbins, shares his experience of moving from Utah to California and being surprised that oranges can be picked directly from trees.
• 05:56: Brooke shares an anecdote about the surprise of picking oranges from trees in California and highlights how such experiences can spark curiosity in children.
• 07:02: Brooke Jordan emphasizes the importance of teaching children about the global food system and how various foods are transported from different regions to provide the diversity of options people love.
• 08:50: Brooke highlights the interactive and experiential approach of teaching children about food origins, encouraging them to become curious and informed about the sources of the food they consume.
• 10:50: Brooke Jordan explains her parenting philosophy of not categorizing foods as "good" or "bad" but focusing on the impact of different foods on the body. Instead of labeling foods as healthy or unhealthy, she emphasizes teaching children what each food does in their bodies.
• 12:00: By teaching children about the specific benefits of various foods, Brooke aims to empower them to make informed choices without feeling guilty about occasional indulgences.
• 13:55: Brooke points out that beans when paired with rice, create a complete protein, which has significant implications for addressing global hunger problems.
• 15:04: Brooke discusses the importance of choosing a more plant-based diet, even if not fully vegetarian, as it requires less water compared to livestock farming.
• 16:05: Brooke emphasizes the importance of approaching environmental issues and food choices with children in a positive and empowering manner.

3 Key Highlights

1. This episode provides valuable insights into fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation of agriculture and the sources of our food.
2. Brooke talks about the significance of exploring different foods and fostering an appreciation for the global food system and the diverse ways in which food is grown and transported.
3. Brooke explains the critical role of legumes and plant-based foods in sustainable agriculture and the significant impact these food choices can have on our planet's well-being.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Certain fruits and vegetables can be picked directly from trees, such as apples and oranges. However, other foods involve consuming different parts of the plant, which may not be immediately visible. For instance, broccoli and cauliflower are eaten for their flowers and potatoes and sweet potatoes are grown underground.” – Brooke
• “Various foods require different conditions to thrive. Some foods need more water, others more sunlight, and some require more energy overall to cultivate. These nuances provide an opportunity for engaging conversations with children, starting with the basic understanding of how certain fruits and vegetables grow and building upon that knowledge to explore their specific requirements for growth.” – Brooke
• “By understanding the impact of different foods on their bodies, children can make well-informed decisions and develop a healthier approach to eating.” - Brooke

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In today's episode, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a clinical psychologist and author from Sonoma County, California, talks to Raun Melmed Caroline Larsen, who have co-authored the book "Marvin's Monster Diary 5: ADHD Self-Esteem Blues." The episode promises to be an incredible discussion about the power of books, ADHD, self-esteem, and finding ways to brighten up amidst challenges. Listeners can look forward to gaining valuable insights and information about supporting families and individuals dealing with ADHD and related issues.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:06: Caroline describes herself as an editor and web accessibility specialist currently residing in Utah. She expresses her passion for books and writing, especially the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series, which she co-authored with Dr. Raun Melmed.
• 02:01: The book holds significant personal meaning for Caroline, as the topic of self-esteem hits close to home. She mentions that working on this book has been a joyful experience, and she hopes that it makes a positive difference for children. The book's aim is to teach kids valuable tools for understanding and managing their emotions and behaviors.
• 02:35: As a developmental pediatrician, Raun's daily iinteracts dailyhildren facing various challenges, such as anxiety, poor self-esteem, and ADHD.
• 03:23: Raun emphasizes the importance of self-esteem, stating that it is a significant and essential issue for everyone, including parents who wish for their children to have good self-esteem.
• 04:13: Raun acknowledges that while bibliotherapy, or self-help therapy through books, is only a part of the overall treatment for any individual, the books are appropriately specific, especially when addressing self-esteem issues in typical children and those with ADHD, who often face significant challenges.
• 06:54: Having ADHD is not solely about being hyperactive; the key factor is the harm and dysfunction it causes in various aspects of a child's life. One of the most significant challenges for children with ADHD is the associated difficulties with self-esteem.
• 08:16: As per Raun both parents and children play a role in changing and improving self-esteem.
• 09:12: A certain level of perfectionism can contribute to success, he also points out that chronic perfectionism can become problematic when it starts affecting other aspects of the child's life, such as their socialization with peers.
• 10:04: Individuals with low self-esteem may exhibit tendencies toward violence, bullying, or being bullied, while those with positive self-esteem tend to have better interactions with others and overall better outcomes in life.
• 12:05: Having structure in a child's routine can be a way to promote optimal anxiety. Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance.
• 13:54: Self-esteem is greatly influenced by self-talk, and it's crucial for parents to recognize when their child uses negative self-talk and correct it.
• 16:20: Parents should put their children in situations where they can struggle a little bit but have the potential to overcome obstacles and achieve success. It's essential to find a balance between providing challenges and ensuring that the goals are realistic and attainable.
• 17:43: Parents should recognize and encourage their children's strengths and talents. Focusing on their strengths can boost their confidence and sense of accomplishment.
• 18:28: Parents should pay attention to their child's self-talk and intervene when they hear negative self-statements. By redirecting negative self-talk to more positive and supportive language, parents can help improve their child's self-esteem.
• 18:53: Instead of using generic phrases like "good job" or "nice work," be specific in your praise. Acknowledge the particular effort or accomplishment of the child.
• 20:02: Raun talks about the concept of "Family Self-Esteem Builder," an activity instigated by Marvin's grandma in the book.
• 22:44: Raun mentions other tools and activities from the book, such as the "Anti-Negativity Elixir," family coat of arms, and other practical approaches to help children learn about their strengths and boost their self-esteem. He encourages parents to try these tools, even though they might seem unconventional at first, as they can have a significant impact on a child's self-esteem and confidence.
• 24:04: Caroline mentions that some individuals may have had a good childhood but still struggle with self-esteem and mental health due to the stress and pressures of life.
• 26:07: Social media can play a role in affecting self-esteem, not necessarily because of the platform itself, but more so how individuals perceive and compare themselves to others.
• 29:51: Caroline mentions that children today face unique challenges, including awareness of safety concerns, like active shooter drills in schools, and exposure to political and social divisions.
• 32:01: Raun and Caroline emphasize the importance of being positive role models for children and instilling hope in them. They encourage parents to remain optimistic, address stress in healthy ways, and believe in the potential for positive change, even amidst the challenges of the modern world.

3 Key Points:

1. Raun discusses the effectiveness of the "Marvin's Monster Diary" series as a form of bibliotherapy for children, particularly focusing on self-esteem and typical problems that kids, including those with ADHD, may face.
2. Raun discusses the impact of chronic perfectionism on a child's well-being and socialization.
3. While many discussions about self-esteem and mental health often focus on childhood trauma or challenging relationships, Caroline points out that external stressors and the fast-paced nature of modern life can also contribute

Tweetable Quotes:

• "The characters in the series encounter challenges, and they practice the skills that the authors aim to impart to the readers. As the story progresses, the characters improve their behaviors, make more friends, and have happier families, demonstrating the positive impact of learning and growth." – Raun
• "Self-esteem is the capacity to feel good and comfortable with oneself. Children with good self-esteem have confidence in their worth, abilities, and self-respect. They can approach problems with self-assurance and handle their own experiences positively. When kids take on challenges and succeed, it greatly enhances their self-esteem." – Raun
• "It's important for parents to identify when their children have difficulty feeling sure of themselves or handling mistakes, as these may be signs of self-esteem issues." – Raun
• "Providing a schedule and setting expectations can help strike the right balance for optimal performance. They also emphasize the importance of having conversations with kindness and understanding to support the child's growth and well-being." - Caroline

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California is going to talk to Robin Hall. She has written a book called "The Littlest Weaver." Robin describes herself as someone who enjoys creating and has a variety of creative outlets such as writing, quilting, and basket making.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:39: Carla asks Robin about her basket weaving skills. Robin explains that she started weaving baskets in 2016 when she took a class at the Community Center with a kind woman named Susan.
• 04:00: Robin discusses her favorite color, green, and her experience living in a less green environment.
• 04:18: Carla asks about the connection between green and Robin's book, "The Loose Weaver.
• 05:10: Robin explains how the Tohoku tsunami and earthquake in Japan inspired her to write the story of a man who moved away from the sea to heal.
• 06:30: Robin shares details of her book, "The Littlest Weaver," and displays a spread with beautiful illustrations of the Appalachian area.
• 07:49: Carla discusses the 10 habits of happy families and asks how Robin's book fits into those habits.
• 08:23: Robin emphasizes on the themes of healing, small acts of kindness, and the power of art in her book.
• 09:31: Robin shares how she hopes her book will inspire families to create together and plans to create videos demonstrating weaving techniques.
• 12:02: Robin envisions her book as a source of joy and recognition of sadness, helping families move towards joy and unity while appreciating each other's presence.
• 13:00: Robin expresses the desire for carpets that children can create themselves, introducing the idea of a coloring page for creating their own carpets.
• 13:19: Carla admits the fear of acknowledging grief and emphasizes the importance of experiencing joy during the grieving process. They mention that joy and grief can coexist and that moments of joy can be found even while mourning.
• 14:18: Carla mentions that grief can extend beyond the loss of a human being, including the loss of pets or relationships.
• 16:15: Robin highlights the significance of persistence and following one's passion in any field or role.

3 Key Points:

1. Robin briefly introduces her book and reads a short passage from the introduction.
2. Carla discusses the connection between creativity and healing and asks about the potential use of the book for families in need of healing.
3. Robin discovered the story of 'The Little Sweeper' after the Tohoku tsunami and earthquake in Japan in 2011, a tragic event that touched the lives of many.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Taking pottery courses and engaging in repetitive activities like knitting calms me down and bring me joy." - Robin Hall

• "I love exploring different patterns and tools in pottery, it's a soothing and creative process." - Robin Hall

• "Creating baskets and other handmade items has become my passion, filling my basement with a variety of beautiful creations." - Robin Hall

• "I absolutely adore the color green; it's my favorite color and I find it incredibly soothing." - Robin Hall
• "Living in a green environment is essential to me, as I felt a bit out of place in the dry, desert-like surroundings of 29 Palms." - Robin Hall
• "The book highlights the resilience and courage of a father who returns to his devastated home, showcasing the strength of the human spirit." - Robin Hall

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California is going to talk to Louise Sattler, a content creator dedicated to spreading fun and joy for families and children, particularly those with special needs and talents.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:22 - Louise compares herself to Gumby, emphasizing her flexibility, curiosity, and constant learning. She mentions her belief in being a lifelong learner and her generous nature.
• 04:12 - Carla acknowledges the beautiful charts and resources provided by Louise including sign expressions in English and Spanish, as well as important words and a bookmark.
• 08:02: Carla and Louise discuss the importance of communication cards for first responders, parents, and kids.
• 08:58: Carla mentions the foundational values of healthy families and asks how Louise's work contributes to family happiness.
• 09:28: Louise acknowledges that their work as a psychologist is not always about delivering happy news, as they often have to inform parents about difficulties their children may be facing, such as autism. However, Louise finds satisfaction in providing parents with resources, connections, and support during challenging times.
• 10:57: Louise expresses how providing solace to parents going through difficult times brings them comfort. She mentions her personal experience as both a parent and a professional, highlighting the challenges she faced with her own child's reading difficulties.
• 11:35: Carla commends Louise for naturally addressing the silver lining in their work, which involves providing tools and resources to families.
• 12:22: Louise emphasizes the importance of teamwork and collaboration in supporting families and children. She mentions relying on a team of experts and professionals to provide comprehensive support for parents and children going through challenges.
• 14:08: Louise suggests referring to children with special needs as having "unique challenges" or "unique talents" instead of disabilities. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and celebrating the different lenses through which individuals perceive the world.
• 14:32 - Carla shares a personal anecdote about their sister with Marfan syndrome, highlighting her exceptional intelligence, creativity, and stamina. She emphasizes the value of focusing on individuals' unique talents and what they bring to the world.
• 15:22: Louise discusses the importance of resilience and acknowledges the grieving process that parents may go through when their expectations for parenting differ from their reality. She emphasizes the need for professionals to understand and support parents during this process.
• 16:01: Louise encourages professionals to acknowledge and support parents through the grieving process that may arise from having a child with special needs.
• 17:03: Resilience is not about being Teflon or unaffected by challenges but rather accepting the circumstances and finding a way to move forward.
• 18:47: Having realistic expectations is important; Louise mentions how some people struggle with small everyday challenges, hindering their resilience.
• 19:23: Louise shares an example of someone becoming overly upset about getting the wrong shopping cart, emphasizing the need to move on from small inconveniences.
• 22:39: The learning tools, the literacy levels, and the care that is taken towards early young child literacy as well as the young adults, there are so many great books.
• 23:11: There are so many great books for parents and grandparents. As per Louise, a good book is one that she reads, and she is willing to stay past her bedtime to still be reading on the adult level.

3 Key Points:

1. Louise talks about her dedication to supporting children with disabilities and unique challenges, emphasizing the importance of seeing the world through different lenses and being inclusive.
2. Louise highlights the importance of pulling oneself up and moving forward with grace and dignity, without dwelling on the past.
3. Louise loves reviewing books, puzzles, games and traveling. She talks about picking out authors writing these children's books on levels that are very interesting to both parents and child.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "Resilience is not about being Teflon; it's about accepting what life throws at you and finding the strength to move forward." - Louise
• "Support from others can be the fuel that helps us build resilience in the face of challenges." - Louise
• "Sometimes the smallest things can feel monumental, hindering our ability to bounce back. Realistic expectations are key to fostering resilience." - Louise
• "Don't let minor inconveniences become volcanic eruptions. Keep your focus on what truly matters." - Louise
• "Resilience is not about avoiding pain; it's about facing it with grace and dignity and finding the courage to move forward." – Louise
• "There are a lot of books that I think are great for professionals as well, on topics like ADHD and autism." - Louise

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Jessica Speer. She is an award-winning author known for her book "BFF or NRF? Not really friends: A Girl's Guide to Happy Friendships." Her books incorporate interactive elements and tackle social-emotional topics for preteens and teens. Jessica also has a forthcoming book called "The Phone: Stay Safe, be Smart and Make the World Better with That Powerful Device in Your Hand."

Episode Highlights:

• 02:24: Christopher Robbins mentions his wife, who is a teacher. He explains that when she enters the classroom, all the kids have their phones with earbuds in. She is unsure whether they are paying attention, playing games, watching videos, etc.
• 02: Jessica shares that she started writing the book when her kids were preteens. She enjoys researching and exploring the experiences of kids and adolescents. Phones and technology have become prominent aspect of their lives.
• 03:50: Jessica focuses on writing directly to kids because she believes they are intelligent and prefer information in their language.
• 04:05: Jessica discusses the lack of clear guidelines and the need for families to navigate the challenges of introducing smartphones to children.
• 04:33: Christopher shares their family's rule of not getting a phone until college but acknowledges the current frustration of their son.
• 05:10: Jessica talks about the importance of self-control, maturity, and understanding how children use phones differently.
• 05:36: Jessica expresses surprise at the extent of what is still unknown about the impact of phones on kids. She mentions the recent advisory from the US Surgeon General regarding social media and mental health.
• 07:25: Jessica emphasizes the need for more research, guidelines, and support for families in navigating this challenge. She suggests open conversations, staying informed, and making rules that align with the family's values.
• 09:05: Jessica recommends taking time to think, considering the child's developmental stage and safety, and exploring alternative options like simplified communication devices.
• 09:53: Jessica encourages open conversations with children and emphasizes the importance of understanding their desires and concerns. She suggests discussing the available choices and incorporating knowledge about risks and safety.
• 10:01: Consider different options based on what the child truly wants and conclude by emphasizing the importance of ongoing dialogue and staying informed.
• 10:39: Jessica highlights the importance of ongoing dialogue and honest conversations with children regarding smartphones and their impact.
• 11:45: Christopher expresses interest in how the book helps navigate the issue of distinguishing truth from fiction online.
• 13:53: Jessica mentions sites like factchecker.com and discusses the importance of teaching kids how to identify reliable information.
• 14:18: Jessica emphasizes the need to educate kids about false information for profit.
• 14:57: Jessica introduces the topic of algorithms and their influence on information consumption, mentioning how they can lead to rabbit holes and addictive content.
• 16:01: Kids should be aware of how algorithms work and be proactive in choosing positive content to counteract the negative impact of rabbit holes.
• 16:39: Jessica shares a study called "Change Your Feed" which explores how kids can modify their algorithmic experience by deliberately choosing different content.
• 17:15: Christopher recalls his experience with early texting and learning the meaning of "LOL."
• 17:44: Christopher asks about slang terms used in text messaging and the chapter dedicated to text slang in the book.
• 20:25: Jessica emphasizes the power children have in using technology as a force for good and making the world a better place.

3 Key Highlights

1. Jessica shares how she decided to write a book that speaks directly to kids and also highlights the deeper, darker side of technology that we kind of learn over time.
2. Jessica highlights the ongoing lack of conclusive evidence regarding phones and the differences in guidelines and laws across countries.
3. Jessica explains the concept of FOMO (fear of missing out) and FOJI (fear of joining in) and how they can affect teenagers in the digital realm.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Kids are so smart and really like to hear this information directly, so I thought I'm going to try to write a book that speaks directly to them, kind of in their language." - Jessica
• "Phones offer awesome positive stuff, but we also need to address the deeper, darker side of technology that we learn over time." - Jessica
• "During the pandemic, as we got sucked into our phones, it was the perfect time for me to research and understand the evolving landscape of kids and technology." – Jessica
• "Teenagers can potentially manipulate algorithms for fun and amusement." - Christopher

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Paul Mandelstein. He is a pioneer in personal communication technologies and has been involved in publishing books related to family planning, comparative religion, and community lifestyle. He has also published reference books on emerging telecommunications technologies and is known for publishing the first "Dummies" guide. Additionally, Paul has authored illustrated folk tales focused on equality, freedom, and personal empowerment. As a divorced father with four children and four grandchildren, Paul brings his expertise to discuss the challenging role of being a dad after a divorce.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:02: Christopher shares his personal experience of his parent's divorce when he was five years old and acknowledges that he may not have fully understood the challenges his father faced in maintaining a relationship with him due to the distance between them.
• 02:23: Christopher mentions that Paul has written a book titled "The World's Best Dad During and After a Divorce: A Guide to Co-parenting for Divorced Dads," published by Families. Christopher asks Paul about the genesis of the book and why this topic is important to him.
• 03:33: Paul explains that when he visited bookstores and found a wall of information for women but nothing for men regarding divorce and fatherhood.
• 06:03: Paul talks about the early stages of separation and divorce, there is often anger, hurt, and negative emotions. He introduces 10 basic rules, starting with the importance of being nice, which may sound simple but can be challenging given the circumstances.
• 06:30: Paul also introduces the concept of the "24-hour rule," where hot-button issues are addressed after taking a pause and considering the decision instead of immediately agreeing to avoid stress.
• 08:06, Paul introduces the concept of taking 24 hours before making hot-button decisions. He advises giving oneself time to think and reflect on the choices that will shape the future.
• 10:06, Paul discusses the practice of meditation, suggesting that sitting down for a few minutes and allowing thoughts to arise without attaching to them can be beneficial. He emphasizes the importance of establishing clear boundaries with the ex-spouse.
• 13:20, Paul mentions the importance of open-hearted listening, allowing the other person to express their complaints without feeling the need to defend oneself. This approach can foster better communication and potentially lead to resolution.
• 15:46, Paul emphasizes the importance of consistently being there for the children, even if the frequency of visits may be less frequent due to the divorce. By maintaining a consistent presence, children can feel a sense of stability and security.
• 16:48: Paul highlights the significance of holidays and events in the context of divorce and remarriage. He explains that children may have multiple parents and extended family members to consider during these occasions, which can lead to complexities in scheduling and participation.
• 17:29, Paul advises not to overly stress about the smaller details and to focus on the bigger issues, such as legal custody and maintaining a positive relationship with the children and the ex-spouse.
• 18:52: Paul talks about the importance of integrity, keeping promises, and being a reliable presence in the children's lives.

3 Key Highlights

1. Paul shares that he came up with some rules regarding divorce and co-parenting. One of the main focuses is ending the conflict between spouses. He notes that while the book is primarily for men, it can also apply to women.
2. Being mindful and finding ways to agree, even if it's unfamiliar, can contribute to a cooperative atmosphere. Paul reminds fathers to prioritize being the best father they can be and to put their children's well-being first, even when dealing with personal hurt and anger.
3. Paul emphasizes the importance of recognizing and appreciating the significant amount of work and effort that goes into parenting, particularly when it comes to daily tasks like taking children to school, preparing meals, attending sports and activities, etc.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Whether you're with your kids every day or across the country due to divorce, your input still matters." - Paul Mangosteen
• "I believe that the family is extended, even in divorce. It's about continuing the relationship and building a new extended family." - Paul Mandelstein
• "Collaboration with the ex-spouse is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce. It's the only way to build a positive and supportive environment for your children." - Paul Mandelstein
• "Fathers play a vital role in a child's life, no matter the circumstances. Their presence and influence matter, whether near or far." - Paul Mandelstein
• "Positive collaborative divorce or co-parenting requires embracing cooperation, open communication, and putting the well-being of the children first." - Paul Mandelstein

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Kate Bast. She is a TikTok content creator, who now lives in California with her husband and toddler. Kate brings to life some of the best parent hacks and many activities as she navigates the wild ride of parenting. Kate is the author of The Familius Book 115 Hacks and Hactivities for Parents. The book was released spring of 2023, and today we are exploring how to help survive as parents.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:31: As per Christopher, it is wonderful to have an expert in managing and working with our many humans.
• 01:39: Kate has almost a million followers on TikTok, where she helps them to simplify the day, make it more fun, make it more organized, and many different things.
• 02:03: Kate shares her ordeal as a new mom and how she started documenting ways to make parents' days easier.
• 02:55: Kate talks about Ice Castle painting, where you take a sandcastle mold, fill it with water, put in your freezer and then when you need 20-30 minutes of a little bit of peace, and you give some paint and paint branches and kids paint the ice castle.
• 05:07: Kate has nine children and has explored the toddler years multiple times.
• 05:37: Kate shares how kids always gravitate to the things you wouldn't expect them to.
• 06:09: Kate shares how they use wipes to play little games with the kids.
• 07:37: Kate says you need little hacks in your back pocket which you can pull out when necessary.
• 08:07: As per Kate we are right around the corner from lots and lots of beach days is there are a few things you can do to make a beach day go better because these days can either go one or two ways.
• 10:23: If you have baby powder and you take that baby powder and you shake it on your feet, all the water dries up.
• 13:25: A lot that Kate is seeing on the Internet is talked about on social media, and there is a big gap with the support needed too, for those other years.
• 15:23: It seems very extra to do all these things, that actually can make your day so much easier, says Kate.

3 Key Highlights

1. Kate shares different kinds of creative games that one can give their child to play.
2. Kate shares some favorite hacks that can help parents make their day go a little smoother.
3. As a parent have a positive attitude. Travel a lot with your kids and try to be really positive, says Kate.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I was at home with a six-month-old at the very beginning of the pandemic and we were struggling to get through the day." – Kate
• "If you keep your pots and pans at the bottom level, then they can spend all day playing with those pots and pans." - Kate
• "We would go to the beach no matter what happens, you get that sand on your feet and on your ankles as you're walking back to the car. Even after you have rinsed off, you still get back the car, and you have sand on you." - Kate
• "A little bit of preparation goes a long way in helping everybody's day in the house go better." - Christopher

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, is going to talk to Leah Day. She has worked as a clinical social worker for over 25 years. She has helped 1000 individuals and families in a variety of settings and parent support groups on extended wilderness expeditions for youth at risk and in private practice.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:49: Recently Leah had chosen to switch careers, and in May of 2021 She opened the lighthouse bikes.
• 01:12: Leah and her husband are the parents of four children and when she has free time, you can often find her hiking mountains, cross country, skiing, skating, or canoeing with some variation of this pack accompanied by their two dogs at home.
• 01:32: Leah and her husband have always believed that the outdoors and adventure, as well as connecting with others in the global community, can have life-altering effects on people for bicycle rides across the United States.
• 01:58: Leah has logged over 10,000 miles touring and feels this may be just the beginning. She has written for Adventure Cycling magazine, spoken on several podcasts, appeared on NPR's Marketplace, kept a running blog called Bike Mum with over 68,000 views, and written a book called Changing Gears all, focusing on the importance of adventure.
• 03:30: Leah talks about the book that she wrote, called Changing Gears, which tells the story of her desire to connect with her son.
• 05:38: While talking about teenage kids, Leah shares her best approach to managing them.
• 05:55: Leah wanted his son to do something he could feel really proud of. He wanted him to be able to brag a little bit and say, "I did this, and I feel really good about it."
• 06:47: It's hard to get teenagers to agree to anything, Leah shares her experience and how she convinced him to take up biking.
• 07:18: Leah's son relished the opportunity to get out of school for three months and to see the world for three months and not to sort of wear the same pace to the school doors every day, which was becoming difficult for him.
• 09:06: Leah talks about the moments in the road when she really needed Oakley. That really changed their relationship in a pivotal way.
• 11:07: One of the beauties of being out there for so long is there is nothing else to do, says Leah.
• 13:00: When Leah finished the biking adventure, he promised that he would go on an adventure once a year for five years, not like months long, but at least for a week or two.
• 14:26: Leah writes about big adventures and little adventures often related to just people, so they are not just adventure stories. They are sort of introspective about how adventure affects me and the people around me, so that's called bike mom.

3 Key Highlights

1. Leah shares how her son's confidence sort of had a lot of hard knocks because when you are constantly not quite meeting the standard, it's hard for you.
2. Leah shares how she motivated her son to go on a biking trip and how the trip changed their relationship in a positive way.
3. As teenagers, kids really need to be proud of themselves. And today there are just constant comparisons and social media makes it so intense. They can see a million people doing a million things and it's easy for teenagers, to opt-out and to just not get as engaged in things because somebody else is already doing it.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Leah loves sharing her love of cycling with others. She finds it great fun to help others discover the world around them, as well as the world inside them." - Christopher
• "If I did something short term, it wouldn't stir up the pot as much as it needed to be stirred up." - Leah
• "I would read to him for a while, and then we both had our own books, so we would read together." - Leah
• "We read Winter People, which is about the native people of Maine." - Leah

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Ofelia Gonzales, a wife, mother of three children, lover of life, family people and communicator by heart. She joined the team of the local community-based organization Children Services Network, CSN in 2002 as a community organizer, where she focused on grassroots organizing campaigns and efforts to empower families in low-income communities and provide children with school readiness opportunities. Ofelia finds great pleasure in building connections, linking families to services that help meet everyday needs, and representing an organization that focuses on assisting parents to raise happy, healthy children. Today they will discuss quality childcare, the information that aligns with its familiar habits like learn together, love together, give together and read together.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:24: As per Ofelia at Central Valley Children's Services Network, their mission is to improve the quality of care for children of the Central Valley, but it's a principle that goes everywhere.
• 03:07: Even if the child is possibly not in a childcare center, maybe they're in a licensed care home or with relatives or neighbors, we want to know what type of care our child is receiving, says Ofelia.
• 04:34: When we speak quality childcare, we want to go above and beyond. We want to make sure that there are programs that are really tying into helping the child transition into the early care and education to them, says Ofelia.
• 05:15: As per Christopher milestones development and milestones help are a few terms, help us understand what some of those might be.
• 05:54: When we say children learn through play, they absolutely do. Sing the song of colors with them, show them a picture book of animals, and they will learn what animals are.
• 01: Early literacy is a tremendous component of the longest programs that we've had here at Children Services network, because not only are we modeling early literacy, but we are modeling positive parent-child interaction, says Ofelia.
• 08:56: What certifications do you have, have you done any training, what are the discipline policies, these are the things that oftentimes providers don't have to do, but if they're doing it, then they want to do their best to implement quality childcare.
• 09:16: An infant needs different care than possibly its toddler or a school-age child.
• 10:15: When we are working families, we know sometimes we just need the best, but we need to keep in mind the little points that could make a difference in the type of care that our children are receiving.
• 11:02: It's easy to feel guilty and say I am not spending enough time with my child, but we have to keep in mind we can spend the whole day at home and if we are just on our phones and not pay attention to children or not doing quality investment of your time then it's nothing.
• 13:08: You don't have to invest so much money, find something like a recycled paper that you're probably going to toss out, crumble it up into a little ball play, catch 5 minutes in the living room with that and. kids love it, and you are spending that quality time with them.

3 Key Highlights

1. When we are thinking about quality childcare, or when we might be working and we might need to take our child to someplace for the day, what questions should we be asking when we're doing that?
2. Make observations when you go out for childcare. Check how childcare providers interact with children. How does the provider interact with a parent? Because that also tells you something.
3. Ofelia shares the top things that come to mind that we as parents, we as teachers, and professional childcare need to be doing to help this rising generation.

Tweetable Quotes

• "If you are looking for childcare, no matter who's going to be watching your child, if you have to go to work, if you have to go to school, you want to know that your child is in a safe place and child is receiving the most optimal care possible." - Ofelia
• "Quality childcare is going above and beyond the basic licensing requirement." - Ofelia
• "Quality always surpasses the quantity of the time that we're with our children." - Ofelia

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a practicing clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California talks to Emily Edlynn. Today she will be talking about her fabulous new book Autonomy, supportive parenting, reducing parental burnout, and raising competent and confident children.

Episode Highlights

• 01:11: Emily grew up in Southern California and was always a big reader and also always loved working with children.
• 02:57: Emily has noticed in a lot of parenting books recently; this idea of autonomy is becoming more and more part of the dialogue.
• 03:32: Autonomy-supportive parenting is using practices to help our child develop a strong sense of self and a sense of mastery and competence.
• 04:22: The other way that Emily approached the book differently than a lot of parenting material is that they really wanted to center the parenting experience as much as the child's experience.
• 05:37: When parents describe greater autonomy levels, they are doing more autonomy support practices.
• 07:12: Parenting doesn't mean you drop the child in the sandbox and say see you 5 hours from now.
• 08:38: As parents, we are really the first experience of relatedness.
• 10:03: Emily explains how her book helps families.
• 10:40: Emily explains how her book is trying to empower parents.
• 11:24: When people are feeling more confident when parents are feeling understood and empowered and confident, they are passing that on to their children and their children can absorb that same positive emotion and then the relationships are stronger.
• 11:50: Emily's book considers parents, caregivers, grandparents, and whoever is pitching in on the caregiving duties from all backgrounds and walks of life and different needs and actually meets them where they are.
• 13:27: It will be helpful for parents to realize that you are not just throwing them into something without giving them a chance to do some examination of the situation.
• 15:14: To all the other parents living in this modern era of parenting, it's important for all of us to do some self-evaluation.
• 18:04: Emily gives several scenarios as to how one should avoid controlling their kid. Controlling ends up being more punitive, and that means the child's not learning.
• 19:46: Kids' ideas for consequences that have been very appropriate. And once they came up with the consequence, it was so much easier to enforce because it was their idea.
• 21:33: A very trust-based relationship that has elements of friendship. It can turn into a more mature friendship over time.

3 Key Points

1. Emily explains the self-determination theory. Autonomy is one of the three components of this theory.
2. Emily talks about the importance of creating a sense of belonging, safety, and community within the family.
3. Very loving, well-intentioned parents are becoming more controlling with their children and that is undermining the autonomy child.

Tweetable Quotes

• "We need to make time and space and prioritize our own sense of autonomy so that we can better practice that for our children." - Emily Edlynn
• "A child learning that they have skills, and they can trust themselves in their emotional life. Their social life, their academic life, all across their areas of functioning. It's building that strong sense of self, which is very different." - Emily Edlynn
• "The book does cover toddlers, school age, children, teenagers. So, I would say you can just flip to the part that you need for now in your parenting season, but I try and use a lot of very different examples and scripts for a template." - Emily Edlynn
• "Everyone loves a good quiz, so I modified scientifically validated questionnaires that are used throughout the literature and have everyone do a self-assessment of how controlling am I versus how autonomy-supportive am I." - Emily Edlynn

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius Instagram Twitter Facebook
• Emily Edlynn Instagram
• https://www.emilyedlynnphd.com/
• Pre-Order the Book: HERE

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Adina Oberman, talks to Shaun Thompson. He is a former world surfing champion and has been described as one of the greatest and most influential surfers of all time. Shaun is also a world-renowned leadership, mentor, entrepreneur, environmentalist and best-selling author. He's the co-author of the current best seller - The Surfer and the Sage: A Guide to Survive and Ride Life's Waves. Today they are going to talk about their Jewish identities and give listeners a greater appreciation and understanding for Jewish history and life.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:11: Shaun explains why May is Jewish Heritage Month and what his role is and how does he identify faith.
• 02:28 Shaun shares how Judaism plays a big part in his life.
• 04:47: Shaun explains what Shema Yisrael is. It is about oneness and about identifying and shouting out your faith.
• 05:31: While talking about the oneness of a relationship Shaun says even though we might worship differently, we will have the humanity to believe and to understand that there is an entity that is all powerful.
• 09:05: There are many ways to find hope again, but your faith in your religion is a helpful path.
• 09:45: Every single somewhere in the world, you have the arch, which is the repository for the sacred scroll for the Torah.
• 11:03: Shaun shares about his life's ordeal and how he has given up surfing.
• 13:54: Adina talks about the Jewish concept of tikkun olam, which means to repair the world.
• 15:33: Break out a sheet of paper and put a timer on for 15 minutes and mark 12 lines every line, beginning with our will. This is a way to find your purpose.
• 16:53: When you put our will in front of something, it's not like "I will" is about the future. It's about creating change.
• 17:50: People have this realization that we are not on this single-minded pursuit for success and wealth, we want to help other people too.
• 20:32: Finding a way back to faith in God and faith in themselves is something that you are doing through the work that you do.
• 21:13: As per Adina, in your work and in your life. Mensch is definitely a great compliment.
• 22:56: Shaun shares how they reconnect as a family and this notion of connecting means it's unbelievably important.
• 23:55: Every line begins with our well-open-source code. Anyone can use it. It's 15 minutes, then you stand up, and you read your code to the assembled group, whether it's your family, friends, or colleagues.

3 Key Highlights

1. Known also as the Five Books of Moses, the Torah is one of the three main divisions of the Hebrew Bible and also the most sacred, for according to tradition, it was written down by Moses at divine dictation.
2. Shaun shares how he had given up surfing and what motivated him to restart it again.
3. As per Shaun, there is a lot of common sense in many religions, and we are much more connected than we think.

Tweetable Quotes

• "No matter what religion you are, prayers are dialogue that you have with your God, and it's really, you know, when things go sideways, things get bad, know that that pray can help you." - Shaun Thompson
• "Your identity and your faith really impact your outlook on life and how you live your life in the world." - Shaun Thompson
• "People are really beautiful words of commitment. They find the best vision of themselves, and they express that and commit to that." - Shaun Thompson
• "We are looking forward. So that's 1/2 of the meaning and purpose of life is we are even better at the other half that." - Shaun Thompson
• "Mensch is someone who's good. When someone calls you a Mensch, that's about the greatest compliment that you can receive." - Adina

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius Publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California is going to talk to Karen Kleiman. She is a well-known international maternal mental health expert with over 35 years of experience. As an advocate and author of several groundbreaking books on postpartum depression and anxiety, her work has been featured on the internet and within the mental health community.

Episode Highlights:

• 00:49: For decades in 1980, Karen founded the Postpartum Stress Center. A treatment and training facility for prenatal and postpartum depression and anxiety in 2022, she founded the Care and Climate Training Center LLC, which is dedicated to the advancement of clinical expertise and therapeutic strategies for the treatment of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
• 02:23: Christopher shares his story and how he learned from his wife that after the birth of one of his children, she went in a deep depression.
• 04:59: Karen met two women who told stories of not feeling good after they had had their baby some 50 years prior and not telling anybody and sitting alone in the darkness with their shame, pain, sadness, and grief.
• 06:17: Karen highlights how people are now talking about postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum psychosis.
• 07:06: Karen shares how can we help our closest family members.
• 08:04: There are normal hormonal changes and sleep deprivation and all few other things that contribute to a mom's moodiness.
• 09:26: Karen talks about the speech bubble of new moms where she communicates, that she hasn't slept for two days. She hasn't had a shower.
• 11:10: Karen talks about the hashtag that they had started. It's hard to be vulnerable when you are a new mom. It's hard to say out loud when you are taking care of an infant.
• 13:00: What's guiding a new mom's responses are not just the relationship or the cultural expectations. What's guiding this is your own expectations and that often gets in the way no matter what you say she wants to be a good mom.
• 16:18: Karen talks about the disconnect when super wonderful, attentive husbands are not able to quite get there with their wives.
• 17:28: For a new mom. don't try to fix anything, just be there and by doing that it helps.
• 19:23: All new moms cry, but what we want to pay attention to, for example, is how much are you crying? How many times during the day are you crying?
• 20:11: If postpartum depression symptoms are interfering with your ability to get through the day, then you need more support, says Karen.
• 22:49: It's ok to not feel good and be a great mom and good moms do have scary thoughts, and we aren't worried about the scary thoughts.

3 Key Highlights

1. Karen explains how it is that women are suffering, not discussing about it and pretending to be, ok?
2. Karen explains how the word postpartum depression means different things to different people, but it's a real thing.
3. Karen explains how the hardest thing about the feelings associated with postpartum depression is that they don't feel like symptoms.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I felt very sad to know that my wife had been struggling with depression after one of our children because I never knew." – Christopher
• "I hope we are creating safe places for women who learn to go to places where they will be heard and safe." - Karen
• "We don't want moms to have to diagnose themselves, but we do want to call attention to the fact that there are people who could help her figure out if what she's feeling is ok or not." - Karen
• "What postpartum women will tell you is it's just not that simple to say I need help." - Karen
• "I heard someone say to me once they say whenever you meet someone, imagine that it when meet people imagine that at least 50% of them have something really difficult going on their life is that and that estimate is probably really low." - Karen

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a practicing clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California talks to Justin Black who will talk about his book Redefining Normal: How to Foster Kids Beat the Odds and Discovered Healing Happiness, and Love. Among other things. Justin is an author, serial entrepreneur, and husband.

Episode Highlights

• 01.40: As authors of Redefining Normal we talked about how generational trauma has impacted so much of our lives for our grandparents and for our parents and had a large impact on our life, says Justin.
• 03:27: It takes intentionality to combat something that is not beneficial for us mentally, spiritually, or physically when are sad and habits that were passed down to us by parents or who are around us that influence over us.
• 06:31: If you walk into a room and there is like a terrible smell, when you first hit you like, these smells terrible. But if you sit in that room for days or for weeks and you sit for months, you don't even smell anything anymore, says Justin.
• 06:45: As per Justin people have exercised a lot of unhealthy practices and habits from the generation of domestic violence and drug abuse and really relied on unhealthy habits and substances to really heal us or kind of put a band-aid on the things that they dealt with that were hard in our life.
• 08.38: Justin had so many amazing mentors and people who were successful around him. In a group home Justin was able to see other successful black men around him and it really changed his perspective.
• 10:19 Justin talks about his book Redefining Normal: How to Foster Kids Beat the Odds and Discovered Healing Happiness, and Love.
• 11:05: If a person only sees and experiences so much in their life then a lot of times, they are subjected to living that out, says Justin.
• 12:48: We continue to tell our family stories and our lives as testimonies on how we can be intentional about breaking generational trauma and barriers, says Justin.
• 14:23: One of the things that Justin wanted to build on with his young family is trying to make sure our environment is always fun and engaging, no matter the circumstances or situation. We're always engaging.
• 14:50: Create an environment where we can be open, honest, and loving to each other and have fun. Work on being there for each other as much as we can because you want to be intentional about just nurturing the relationships, creating the atmosphere of playfulness and engagement, says Justin.
• 19:49: As per Justin when it comes to mental and emotional stress, he and his partner try to do less pushing and less approaches of empathy, because these things are so serious.
• 21:30: Justin wants to just encourage leaders to love and how love and leadership are interconnected, and can't be separated. You can't love without leadership, and you can't be a leader without love.

3 Key Points

1. Justin's foster experiences weren't necessarily always positive and in fact highly destructive in some ways but his support group, including his church, really gave him guideposts to help him change his life.
2. In his book, Justin says that if you are going for foster care or in circumstances in life that you seemingly are out of control, even if it's just the 1% that you can't control, it can make an impact on how can you do the best with that and how that makes a drastic difference in your life and your future outcomes.
3. Love is about service and not just only receiving. Love is about action and not only feeling and being super intentional around the ideas of love and how we can be super intentional about giving and receiving love.

Tweetable Quotes

• "We are super intentional on how we can build a healthy foundation so we can produce healthy food for our children and those around us." - Justin
• "We always have choices in life as we can go down a path of least resistance and being our worst selves or something had happened to us that helps us go down a path where we become our best selves." – Carla
• "Internal locus of control means that wherever I end up in life, the things that I do, I won't blame, or I won't say that my life circumstances will result in other people's actions or won't be other people's fault. It will be on me for my success and my stability." - Justin
• "I don't think we understand how much of our identity come from two people coming together and deciding to have a child." - Justin

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius.com
• https://www.re-definingnormal.com/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host, Ashley Marie Mireles, Director of Sales and Marketing for Families Publishing, author, and DEI leader. Today Ashley is going to talk to Heidi Poelman, author of Women in Science Who Changed the World and other Courageous People books.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:02: Today Ashley and Heidi are going to discuss the creation of women in science teaching the world.
• 01:46: Science is so interesting and so fun, and we have kind of an issue in our country where a lot of the times we give girls the message that science and mathematics and technology are more masculine subjects, more subjects for boys, says Heidi.
• 03:01: Heidi talks about a few amazing women that she came across while doing research for her book.
• 03:50: Heidi mentions Janaki Amal, who is an Indian scientist who did a lot to create a plant that could grow sugar in India because, before that time, they couldn't.
• 04:00: Wang Zhenyi learned more about lunar eclipses and what a cool girl at the time, people thought that lunar eclipses were the cause of angry gods, but she thought otherwise. She learned that the moon, the earth, and the sun all interacted to create something.
• 05:06: As per Heidi it is really upsetting to see some of the very strong and knowledgeable women getting noticed.
• 07:01: Heidi talks about her inspiration and from where she gets it.
• 07:33: Heidi talks about the first female president of the New York Cancer Society, and she was also the 1st woman and only African American on the board.
• 08:30: One of the big takeaways that we are getting from here is that children and just people, in general, need good examples to look up as long as you have someone inspiring you or you have something inspiring you, you can keep moving forward.
• 09:12: As part of the series, the first book that Heidi wrote was just a book about a few people that she loved and looked up to who did courageous things, and who wanted to make a difference in the world.
• 11:04: Heidi shares how she loves quotes and she also shares a quote that she wrote before the podcast.
• 12:25: Heidi explains why she mentioned Marie Curie in her book.
• 13:43: Heidi's goal is to teach young girls about perseverance and curiosity and just wonder and discovery and problem-solving, and just remind them that the things that they do make a difference and that even one person can be part of making the world a better place.

3 Key Points:

1. Heidi shares why in her book she has featured women that aren't normally featured in kids' books, women from around the world, and women who maybe people haven't heard of before.
2. Heidi shares how she wanted to inspire young girls from a very early age.
3. Heidi talks about her series of books and the idea behind writing those.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "It's not necessarily the names and the facts, but this idea that curiosity and questions and problem-solving are all these really great values that we want to show to these young girls. How many times we talk to our little girls about, hey, let's go outside and just study bugs, or have you ever asked hey, do you know that there was a woman behind sending the first man to orbit the earth in space?" – Heidi
• "Jane Wright was fairly young she saw that cancer was a problem, and so she set her mind on doing something. So she just started researching. She decided that she wanted to be a doctor." - Heidi
• "I worked on a book about animals, famous animals who have made a difference and just had fun stories." – Heid
• "It's an important and fun time to work with young kids and to tell them stories of real heroes and not just knowing their names and what they did, but knowing what we can learn from them." - Heidi

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius.com
• Heidi Poelman
• Ashley Marie Mireles: LinkedIn
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly is going to talk to Terry Whalin. He will be talking with us about many things, including his new book proposals that sell.

Episode Highlights:

• 01:01: Terry loves books and loves publishing and that's something he started at a very young age.
• 02:58: Terry shares how the book "Jesus Be A revolutionary" changed his whole view in life.
• 04:10: Terry shares how he joined Wycliffe Bible Translators out of college, and he spent 17 years with them.
• 04:33: Terry explains how he had a genuine love and relationship with God that he didn't have, and so that's why he needed to get a Bible and begin to sing those songs and go that direction in his life as well.
• 05:08: In Terry's publishing life. He has written biographies on people like Billy Graham and Chuck Colson and John Perkins and Louise Pilau, and people like that.
• 05:24: Terry has co-authored books with more than a dozen people over the years, so books have really driven a lot of his life.
• 06:14: Terry had written about 50 books for traditional publishers, but he had never worked inside a publishing company before.
• 06:23: About 15-16 years ago, Terry was hired as the acquisition's editor at David C Cook in Colorado Springs and it gave him a look inside publishing that he had never seen before.
• 07:31: Terry wrote book proposals that sold originally in 2004, just as a frustrated editor because he wasn't getting the kind of submissions from authors that he really needed then.
• 09:12: As far as who the audience is, what they are going to do to sell the book, all those kinds of things, you can't just write a book.
• 10:05: There are over 4500 new books that are published every day. A publishing plan will help you not to get lost in 4500 books per day. It will help you float to the top rather than sink to.
• 11:23: If you have a plan, execute your plan, then that's where you are going to find your readers out there and really help people with the stuff you are putting in your books.
• 12:12: Terry has published more than a dozen children's books, and he knows that that's a very important area to people as parents read those books.
• 14:04: Terry shares how he benefitted from reading books to his children.
• 15:48: Terry wants to encourage authors to envision where their book is in the bookstore.

3 Key Points:

1. Terry explains how to get a book launched or why their favorite book was launched.
2. Terry shares how publishing has changed a lot since 2004.
3. Terry's mission is to store enjoyment by helping authors be successful, and he is one of the reasons every book needs a book proposal out there.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "One of the things that really drives me day in, and day out is the fact that books can change people's lives." – Terry
• "I can think of many times in my life when the right book came across my path and gave me sometimes, I wanted, sometimes I not so much wanted, i.e.; a wakeup call." - Terry
• "We go to the library or the bookstore and come back with a whole bunch of books and read them over and over to our kids." - Terry

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• Helping Families Be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius.com
• Terry Whalin
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, a practicing clinical psychologist, Wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County, California talks to Megan Alms. She will be talking with us about her upcoming book Creature From the Woods.

Episode Highlights

• 01:44: Megan talks about her freelance journey and what motivated her to write a picture book.
• 03:00: Megan shares how her sister inspired her to write the book Creature From the Woods.
• 03:30: Megan shares how she gravitated toward being a big sister and being part of her imaginary world.
• 06:50: Megan's big message through her book is a focus on unconditional love. It's a fun little book to read and go through all the rhymes and act out all the motions.
• 07:58: The deer fawn taking timid steps was really this adult figure in Megan's life watching her take chances and take and learn these new things, and the owl was curious and wanted to learn new things.
• 09:06: The book talks about emotional intelligence and relationship building. Just reading through it can help bring back childhood memories.
• 10:57: Carla recalls her reading experience with her parents. She has memories of laughing; her parents used to read, and they tripped over their words a little bit and they would just laugh and laugh.
• 11:48: Megan talks about tenderness and wanting to cling to childhood moments.
• 13:29: Sometimes quietness gives you a chance to sit and think and commit to memories.
• 14:21: When we read to a child, we are giving that gift of tenderness to the child and to ourselves, says Meghan.
• 17:10: Meghan shares how knowing the characters of the kid's show brings them together as a family.
• 19:07: Reading together shows love in several different ways, all at the same time.

3 Key Points

1. As per Megan, her book is something that kids can look back on once they have grown up and seen various messages and fully understand.
2. Meghan explains how she focuses on unconditional love and helps readers to relive memories.
3. For kids and for families, it is important to find those love languages, the things that make them feel loved, and know what things make them come alive because you don't have to have all the same hobbies. But there is something about genuinely caring about a passion or a way of loving each other.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I started getting all of these ideas for all of the different fun things that I enjoyed reading when I was that age and things that I wanted to share with my sister because at the time she was a toddler, and she loved pretending she loved to pretend to be different animals." - Megan Alms
• "Your parents created that piece of reading together from very early on in your life." - Carla Marie

Resources Mentioned

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Noah benShea, one of North America's most respected and beloved poet philosophers. He has the Pulitzer Prize-nominated and internationally best-selling author of 29 books translated into 18 languages, embraced around the world. Today they will discuss the duality of despair and hope from his most recent book - The Surfer and the Sage: A Guide to Surviving and Ride Life's Waves.

Episode Highlights

• 02:15: Life is a great party to which you have been invited. Now you have to decide what you want to wear to the party. The first thing to remember is that you get to choose not only from your clothing wardrobe but also from your emotional wardrobe.
• 02:58: Despair and hope are options that each has in each of their moments. Being filled with despair is not necessarily a flaw.
• 03:19: Those in the military remind us that hope is not a plan, and they are right. But from hope, a move to the positive can be planned.
• 03:40: Despair is not designer clothing more is it meant to be worn every day. However hope is a superhero cloak that on the tough days and even on the easy days, can shield you from despair.
• 06:30: Faith is saying things unseen, hope is hoping to see things unseen.
• 08:27: There are so many things, and we want to move towards hope.
• 10:28: As per Noah there is nothing more challenging for us in this lifetime to come to because Aristotle said that honesty is important to all wisdom.
• 11:45: We are all alone, but we are all alone together when we recognize our own aloneness, we recognize empathetically our aloneness, our brother and sister.
• 12:50: Remind other people that you hope the best for them and that the best for you will be arriving.
• 14:47: Noah suggests passing vulnerability to children this way your children will recognize that the strongest person in their life is not absent from vulnerability.
• 16:16: We are not seeking to solve all problems, but just help people explore ways to improve their lives, and help their families be happy, says Christopher.

3 Key Points

1. Noah gives several real-life examples that give insights into hope and despair.
2. One of the areas where we fall victim to despair is when our ego is in despair, says Noah.
3. Noah talks about mental illness and the importance of seeking medical help in case feeling depressed.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I know there are people for many years I was asked to be a national philosopher, dealing with people in the field of addiction, and one of the things I would remind people that to some people dope is the is the only hope."- Noah benShea
• "I was thinking about hope versus faith the other day and somebody I think framed it for me and they framed it in a religious sense." - Christopher Robbins
• "For me, there has been no more profoundly despairing time in my life, and perhaps for those lists they were observing than when you wake up in." - Noah benShea
• "I don't think there's anything more challenging for us in this lifetime to come to because Aristotle said that honesty is important to all wisdom." - Christopher Robbins

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• Familius: Instagram
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley is a practicing clinical psychologist, wellness advocate, and author based in Sonoma County. Today she is talking to Heather Aronda, of the Family Arcade.

Episode Highlights

• 01:11: Heather is blessed with a total of eight children.
• 03:33: Heather is The Family Arcade on Instagram and she has a whopping 131,000 followers.
• 04:59: Heather shares how she started the YouTube channel and then later shifted to Instagram.
• 07:06: Heather shares how she gets a sense of completion that one never gets in the most beautiful way when raising children.
• 08:16: Heather loves Instagram and YouTube. The world she has created it is very exciting. She loves what she can do without the written work.
• 09:51: Heather explains how post-COVID she prompted her children to take up virtual classes.
• 11:38: Heather talks about the bedtime routine that she follows with her kids.
• 13:26: Heather shares how she starts a story and then another kid adds to it, and the one on the bottom bunk might list for something that comes next.
• 14:43: Heather shares how long it takes her to put eight children to bed.
• 15:40: Sometimes kids need to let go and the best way to do that is with the story, regardless of what their day was like.
• 16:22: When it comes to new stories, Heather's children play a big part.
• 20:48: Heather shares how she wants the videos to be about her family, regardless of who has the camera, who is recording.
• 21:38: What makes really excellent families is when everybody is working to support each other and the couple, the team are really cohesive and supportive of each other.

3 Key Points

1. Carla and Heather discuss the importance of reading books to kids.
2. Heather talks about the bedtime stories that she dramatically reads to her children.
3. Heather shares how her work helps families be happy.

Tweetable Quotes

• "It's better to fight sadness with good news." - Heather Aronda
• "I decided to go with Instagram because well, it's instant and we have a lot of kids we are busy. If you want fast, quick gratification, you know to fill in the gaps and it still made the kids happy and it made me happy, and I enjoy editing so much." - Heather Aronda
• "All my children have their own song, something I fabricated." - Heather Aronda
• "As part of the winding down process, it really feels like you just incorporate it into a natural ritual that here this is the time the lights are low and let's kind of just get into the space of letting go of the day and moving into the night so we can wait for tomorrow." - Heather Aronda

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Familius: Instagram Facebook Shop
• The Family Arcade: Instagram
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Shaun Tomson.

Episode Highlights

• 01:49: Shaun talks about his book and the 18 chapter that it contains. They are based on the duality of what he experiences in life and how to move from the negative to the positive.
• 03:18: There is a synthesis between religion and kind of a secular perspective in terms of it's a foundation on which we build our lives and foundation on which we build our world.
• 04:51: As per Shaun it is faith that keeps us in the direction of where we want to go.
• 06:09: Life that bends inside us, gives us hope, meaning, reason and optimism.
• 08:55: Shaun shares the heartbreaking story of losing his son and how he coped with the grief.
• 10:40: Look for help from friends, rekindle those relationships, look from help for professional people and religious people and look for science and helping nature just work in nature.
• 11:32: Christopher had many conversations with psychologist authors and it's a common denominator that they say that those people with whom they are counseling and working with those who can accept the reality of where they are right now are able to move forward and those who cannot accept it, they continue to stay in place.
• 13:05: You put more pressure on yourself and eventually you get caught in this despair and anxiety and you just stop spinning downwards and it's not dissimilar when you can't accept reality and you get caught in this cycle of conjecture, you get open cycle.
• 16:16: Help others find the beauty in the world, find the signs that God exists and loves, and then things will continue.

3 Key Points

1. Shaun explains how we come from different religions, but underneath we are the same in terms of how we relate to that one God or to that energy that we believe controls the world and is responsible for the world staying on its exes.
2. There is a very powerful and inspirational story in the book about how Shaun lost and then regained his faith.
3. Shaun explains how forgiveness is essential to cope with one's grief.

Tweetable Quotes

• "It's a book of perspective, not prescription." - Shaun
• "I can think about faith from a religious point of view, also can think of it from a secular point of view." – Christopher
• "I think back to my athletic days as a competitor, and it's not really aligned with grief. It is aligned with what can happen when you are an athlete." – Christopher
• "Whatever your sport may be, do that and then help others, whatever that might be mentoring, teaching and doing with our projects, getting involved with the NGO that might do something, and do you create inspirational project that is in memory of the of the person you lost." - Shaun

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks to Noah benShea, one of North America's most respected and beloved poet philosophers. He has the Pulitzer Prize-nominated and internationally best-selling author of 29 books translated into 18 languages, embraced around the world. Today they will discuss the duality of anxiety and calm from his most recent book, The Surfer and the Sage, how to survive and ride life waves that he co-wrote with World Champion Surfer Sean.

Episode Highlights

• 01.54. Noah explains what is anxiety and calm?
• 02.30: If you think that you are going to find any plus in life without a minus or any minus in life for which you cannot find a plus.
• 02.58: Anxiety is the most common passport people use when they express how they are feeling now.
• 04.07: Think of anxiety as a balancing poll that will keep you upright on your life board as you witness waves that can threaten to topple you.
• 04.39: Calm is a word that has been idealized in every religion and teaching across time. Finding that quiet, safe place inside of you is about as good as it gets in life.
• 05.10: Choose calm when it calms your spirit, but do not choose calm when it robs you of the wild ride you want to remember for the rest of your life.
• 06.42: You have to decide what you are going to accept from your mind so that you have be able to step outside and realize you don't want to put your mind's thoughts in the driver's seat.
• 09.19: It is an ancient tradition, that in breath there is calm.
• 09.27: If you know someone who's going through an anxiety attack. One of the most common manifestations of it is you will witness them being unable to breathe.
• 11.13: Conspiring usually means people planning a robbery, but it really means people breathing together.
• 13.01: Noah talks about the 478 technique of breathing and how it works.

3 Key Points

1. What people seldom realize is that anxiety is not necessarily negative.
2. Don't give anxiety too much of your attention because anxiety isn't a boost, but a caution and anxiety won't improve your future.
3. Noah talks about the ancient connection of breathing techniques and how it is mentioned in the bible as well.

Tweetable Quotes

• "It was clear to us that we had to write on any topic on the duality of it, because life seems to be coming and going at the same time." - Noah
• "The word anxious can by itself make you feel anxious." - Christopher
• "I remind people that the issue of being shamed by anxiety because you are so taught and tense about what is happening is a reminder that it is not an act of character to beat yourself up because you did something wrong." – Noah
• "I have a reminder when I say my prayers in the morning, I say to God I take your breath and I return your breath." - Noah

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Jason Goldstein. He is the author and creator of Chop Happy, a fantastic blog. He specializes in delicious and simple comfort dishes that showcase rich flavors, inventive ideas, and unique cooking tips and advice. Jason is the author of the Happy Sandwich, scrumptious sandwiches to make you smile. Today they are going to explore how to save money, do fewer dishes, and save time in the kitchen.

Episode Highlights

• 03.44: As per Jason, when it comes to efficient kitchen management time is usually the most important. No matter what you do, no matter where you are, everyone wants some more free time or time for themself.
• 04.30: Jason shares how one can cook pasta in a slow cooker.
• 06.24: Jason shares how sheet pan saves dishes and how one can make a whole meal on a sheet pan.
• 07.27: Jason reveals how he keeps the meats and veggies separate in a sheet pan.
• 09.05: Doubling recipes save time shares, Jason.
• 10.02: Budget is important for everybody and as per Jason people overspend anyway, regardless of inflation and stuff.
• 10.30: Frozen vegetables are frozen at the peak of their freshness. So you are actually getting the same nutritional value and stuff for less price and it's already prepared for you
• 11.02: There are a lot of ways to save time. As per Jason see your pantry and use your frozen and canned items.
• 13.17 If you have bacon leftover and you use it for a recipe for breakfast, you can actually freeze it again and just take it out and use it, says Jason.
• 14.21: Jason shares how one can cook the perfect pizza.
• 16.00: Jason talks about cooking hacks that will help people in their kitchen, save time, have fewer dishes, and save money.

3 Key Points

1. Jason shares how the slow cooker is a great piece of equipment that can help you to save time.
2. Food is good money, food is expensive, and inflation has really hit people's pocketbooks. Jason shares his idea for saving money and how people can avoid overspending on food.
3. Jason talks about the difference between frozen and non-frozen food and how much nutritional value each holds.

Tweetable Quotes

• "What you can do is after you get the kids to bed, you're getting ready to watch whatever shows on Netflix you want, you drop things into the slow cooker, put it in the fridge. And right before you go to work, you start your day. Just turn it on take it out of the fridge and turn on that slow cooker and it will cook dinner for you, so you don't have to spend a lot of time doing stuff throughout the day to make dinner happen." - Jason
• "If you are trying to roast meatballs and veggies with all those hacks on TikTok where you get the crispiest potatoes and you smash those potatoes, just take like the tin foil and make like a little section in the middle so it doesn't get there." - Jason
• "I actually love to double my recipes whenever I make, so if I am making a meatloaf with potatoes, I will actually use sushi pans and I will turn the oven to convection. So that the air circulates on everything and everything cooks evenly. And I will make two of them so that this way you one I will eat for the week or make sandwiches out of them or whatever it is we need to do. And the other one, I will wrap and freeze it and then I will just defrost it, so I have dinner another time for me." - Jason

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, talks with Rebecca Greene. She will be talking about her new book, one and done. Rebecca shares how does her work and her book in particular help families be happy.

Episode Highlights

• 1.50: Rebecca loves her job as a therapist, and she has been working with clients. One of the things she has realized was that only-child families don't have a lot of resources just dedicated to them.
• 03.10: When Rebecca noticed the lack of guides for only child families, it made me realize that there was a wonderful opportunity to write a how-to parenting guide self-help book specifically tailored for only child families.
• 04.47: Rebecca discusses the blessings and challenges in raising an only child.
• 05.24: In today's society, most of the time both parents working outside of the home, or if it's a single parent family with that parent working outside of the home, time and energy are in short supply these days. So many parents make the decision to have one child because they feel that they can best raise a child when they get all of their time and energy rather than diluting it amongst multiple children.
• 05.55: Some families make their decision to have one child based on finances makes sense. They decide that they can live their best life if they have one child that they put all of their financial resources toward.
• 07.01: Rebecca talks about socializing issues faced by a single child.
• 08.20: One of the stereotypes of only children is that they are always lonely, says Rebecca.
• 09.37: In case of a single child parents can feel obligated to play with their child 24/7, like all the time which can cause burnout in the parents and many times parents, especially if they work from home or working full time, they just don't have a lot of time and energy left over to necessarily spend hours after work playing with their child.
• 11.20: It has been shown research wise that only children are very successful academically and, in their career, and that has been attributed to the fact that parents spend so much time one-on-one with their child.
• 12.18: Many only children excel academically in school. They go on to excel and become leaders in their career field. Especially because they have had so much practice being leaders at home and many times with their friends only children have been shown to have very high levels of self-confidence and self-esteem.
• 13.10: It is a very widely held stereotype about only children, that only children are always spoiled, that they can't share with other kids, that their social skills are not as good as children, growing up in families with siblings, but that actually are stereotypes, says Rebecca.
• 14.18: Parents can be very mindful when raising only child to make sure they have a realistic view of wants versus needs and to make sure that they have a balance in their life, so they get some of what they want.
• 17.43: Rebecca's book is written for both families who are one and done by choice, and also for families who are one and done not by choice.
• 19.26: Rebecca interviewed families from the UK, Australia, France, Japan, a variety of different countries, because she wanted to include what it's like to raise an only child in other countries

3 Key Points

1. Rebecca's book is not meant to help parents make the decision to have one child it is when readers start the book, they have already made that decision. It is a step-by-step parenting guide to help parents.
2. Rebecca shares how many only children really nurture their creative sides because they are very resourceful.
3. Rebecca explains how it can be challenging to have a smaller family than one would have otherwise preferred.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I myself is an only child and I am raising an only child and my perspective as a parent and as an only child myself and as a therapist who works with families who have only children and are experiencing different issues related to that, it all made me realize that there should be more books dedicated to the topic of raising only children." - Rebecca
• "I have experienced what it feels like to be left out socially because we have one child and there wouldn't be a friend for the child that my son would like to hang out. So, it that can be really, really distressing." - Rebecca
• "When kids get some of the things that they want and many of the things that they need, that's a healthy balance. What becomes an unhealthy balance is when kids get everything, they need plus everything they want all the time." - Rebecca

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Shaun Tomson. Shaun is a former world surfing champion and has been described as one of the greatest and most influential surfers of all time. He is an inductee in the US Jewish and South African sports halls of fame. Today they are going to talk about despair and hope from his most recent book - The Surfer and the Sage: A Guide to Survive and Ride Life's Waves.

Episode Highlights

• 02.20: The book is a way to help people to move from a place of darkness to light to move from despair to hope to move to be anxious to calm, says Shaun.
• 03.07: Shaun's father, was an Olympic hopeful from South Africa in the 1948 Olympics and he had a tragic accident while surfing off the coast. Shaun shares his father's story and how that changed the course of his life and helped him understand the duality of despair and hope.
• 05.04: Shaun's earliest memory of his dad was taking him to swim and surf. He had taught him how to surf and swim about 100 yards away from where he had this terrible attack that destroyed his swimming career.
• 06.46: Shaun shares how his father loved to help young athletes. He took joy in helping people.
• 10.40: There are a number of ways you can get through grief, darkness, and despair, says Shaun.
• 10.50: Connecting with nature, reconnecting with your faith and helping others are some of the ways to recover from grief or loss.
• 13.20: A little gesture of kindness, you never know how it can be given at the right moment for someone that really, really, really needs it, says Shaun.
• 16.50: Christopher shares how we can get through trouble. He says it is when we forget ourselves and we go, and we are in the service of other people.

3 Key Points

1. Shaun shares how his father positively impacted so many lives, hundreds and hundreds of lives on the beach in South Africa, helping young people realize their dreams.
2. Shaun narrates how he won the biggest swimming contest in the world.
3. Christopher and Shaun discuss how helping people can actually help you in return.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I think my dad was this wonderful example to me as a young boy of just being optimistic and hopeful and not dwelling on the negative." – Shaun
• "My dad never dwelled on the shark attack. He wasn't a depressed guy. He was always upbeat. He was always optimistic." – Shaun
• "We create hope by also creating working to create hope and other people." - Christopher

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Devon Meves. She is a curriculum consultant and educational content creator with master's in education and teaching and curriculum and BSR education. Throughout her career, Devon has focused on two things, education, and creativity. She is the founder of ureadyteddy.

Episode Highlights

• 2.10: Today Christopher and Devon are going to discuss how families can include more creativity and learning in their lives.
• 03.25: Devon talks about process art. She explains it is the opposite of what we are used to thinking. Process art is the opposite of traditional art. The final product is very open-ended because of that it promotes more creativity than the traditional product art.
• 05.28: Process art promotes confidence and self-esteem related to art.
• 06.36: We have so many books that we have explored about creativity. There is one by Mary Potter Kenyon where she has written to create, and she says that little children know how to be creative. It's just they create everything about them. They want to play, experiment, build. They said that we start to lose this as we get older.
• 07.59: Learning together is one of the best ways to really bond with their kids.
• 08.48: Devon explains what open ended play is.
• 09.35: Open-ended play is getting back to the basics and letting kids use their imaginations to play in whatever way they choose to play.
• 11.45: Open ended play involves a lot of problem-solving skills, critical thinking skills, and a lot of other 21st century skills like really being independent and flexible.
• 12.36: Devon shares how through open ended play children are developing problem solving skills because they are encountering challenges.
• 13.39: If instead of doing these step-by-step intricate crafts or play setups, you take a step back, you can give children the materials and see what they do with them. See how they create art with these materials or see how they play with these materials, it's a lot easier to incorporate these things than an adult might think, says Devon.
• 16.00: One example of an open-ended play activity that Devon really like to do is taking toy cars, toy trains, things like that outside. Children normally play with them inside on a track, and we take them outside and by changing that context they really have to think more creatively.

3 Key Points

1. Devon shares how both adult and children can benefit from process art.
2. open-ended play is when your goal is to creativity and just imagination.
3. Devon shares some examples of how she thinks families can be better at incorporating process art and open-ended play as they work with their children.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I think a lot of us grew up either feeling like we were good at art, or we were bad at art. And if we were good at art, we probably liked the class if we thought we were bad at art we probably felt a little frustrated or stressed out in our class, and when we take away that expectation of what the final product looks like and allow these kids to just experiment freely, there's no right or wrong answers." - Devon
• "Adults can benefit from experimenting with materials and making discoveries alongside with their kids, which is kind of a fun, kind of fun bonding experience because they are learning something together." – Devon
• "Whatever you believe you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." - Christopher

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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks to Kelly Bennett. She has been writing professionally for more than 30 years both fiction and nonfiction. Her award-winning picture books included Not Norman a Goldfish Story, Vampire Baby, Your Daddy Was Just Like You and The House That Ruth Built celebrate all that goes into being a kid, families, friends, pets, fun and games.

Episode Highlights

• 2.00: Today Christopher and Kelly are going to discuss baseball and the history of the original Yankee Stadium and the opening game between the Yankees and Red Sox.
• 03.20: The Yankees are the team that made baseball the phenomenon it is today. Around the 90’s it was America's sport at the time.
• 04.20: Kelly shares how her grandfather was into baseball. Her grandfather was a semi-pro ballplayer. Later she and her brother started playing, now her kids also play baseball.
• 05.02: There is geometry in baseball, the statistics are just beyond belief in baseball. Kind of gives us an idea of why baseball has been such a fascinating sport for the American public for well over 100 years.
• 05.54: Baseball is the one game where anything can happen. Anything that ball can go anywhere. It can be hit, or it cannot be hit.
• 06.31: This April celebrates the 100-year anniversary of the original Yankee Stadium opening,
• 08.25: Kelly shares how Babe Ruth changed the game of baseball. People started hearing about Babe Ruth hitting and they started coming to the games just to see if he would hit it. And even when he struck out, they loved it because he put so much into it that he'd spin around beyond. He was a total hand, so it was more about the showman. Because of that, the stadium was built.
• 09.17: Kelly shares what made Babe Ruth such an iconic figure that transcended time.
• 11.24: Kelly shares what made her so interested in researching this opening day game and the history behind it. Her book includes the fans, the hawkers, the details of the stadium, and the players.
• 12.58: Families have these habits that we believe help families be happy. One is Play Together and one learns together. Kelly’s book falls within those.
• 15.14: Playing ball is not about your gender, it's not about your physicality. It's about anybody who can play actual catch, starting with your toddler.
• 17.07: Kelly shares one story that she loves about Babe Ruth.
• 19.02: The house that Ruth built comes out in April 2023, the 100-year anniversary of the first game played between the Red Sox and the Yankees on April 1923.

3 Key Points

1. Kelly shares why she is so interested in baseball and what is her history with baseball.
2. Kelly explains how Babe Ruth was able to draw all by himself, triple and five times and 10 times the fans that any other stadium, including the archrivals, then New York Giants, was drawing.
3. Kelly shares how she thinks the family could benefit from and how they could use the house that Ruth built to play and learn besides just reading the story.

Tweetable Quotes

• “We love baseball, but you got to hate somebody, whoever you are playing against. I guess that's the way it goes.” - Kelly
• “Anybody can play baseball. It's easy to get. All you need is a ball and a bat, and you can start playing baseball.” - Kelly
• In Kelley’s book, there are sidebars that have facts of baseball historically. You can bring together your intergenerationally. Because kids today have no idea what the world was like 100 years ago.” – Kelly
• “Football is very controversial right now. You need a ball that's a certain shape you need to feel there's the plays are really much more set. Basketball, you need a hoop. Baseball, all you need is two people, or one person throw it up in the air they catch.” - Kelley
• “A lot of people think Babe Ruth was an orphan. He wasn't an orphan. However, when he was seven years old, his parents put him into a boy's school for incorrigible children, for orphans and some put there by the state. In his case, he was put there by his family.” - Kelly

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• Pre-order now: https://www.familius.com/book/the-house-that-ruth-built/
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley talks with Eileen, who is also known as Eileen the Storyteller. She will be talking about her beautiful work on YouTub. As an expert, Eileen will be sharing about the time she spends with children, and feedback she gets from parents about life-changing results from her storytelling.

Episode Highlights

• 1.28: Eileen is going to open up about all of life's vicissitudes and give feelings a language and strategies for moving forward because it's not always about happily ever after. It's also about the grit and the resilience and the oath that it takes to power through the not-so-happily-ever-after moments.
• 3.13: The power of messages that we hear from parents and educators get reflected in us and that really puts the fuel in our tank, and we feel very much like we are on a mission to bring something to kids that they need, says Eileen.
• 4.05 Eileen reads picture books for children, and she does it with her cast of puppet characters. The kids see themselves in these puppet kids and it adds the element of further deeper connection.
• 06.36: We could all learn a lot from reading more children's books, like how to play nice. And it's deep, It's not childlike. It's complex.
• 08.23: Eileen loves helping families be happy through talking to really brilliant creative people like Carla who have found a way, especially with parents being so busy.
• 12.14: Eileen talks about the color and energy of the imagination that she helps foster in children's lives.
• 13.02: Being kind is not for the weak. It takes a lot of courage. To have a big open heart and to be kind and to be loving because they may not feel like it sometimes to the same scary. But we have to fight our fears when we know that we are able.
• 17.30: Eileen shares how children tend to gravitate toward what their psyche needs.
• 19.27: Funny is Eileen's absolute favorite thing, followed closely behind by magical books that do things that you don't expect.
• 21.49: Storytelling is as old as humanity, and that's what unites us to one another, to past generations, to the future, to ourselves, and to each other. That's the window for everything.

3 Key Points

1. Eileen shares how she picks and selects children's books for reading. How over the last eight years Eileen and her husband have really gotten to know what children respond to?
2. Eileen shares some instances where her storytelling has positively impacted people's lives.
3. Eileen talks about her inspiration to start her own channel.

Tweetable Quotes

• "I bring the books to life in a very theatrical way because the drama of life does connect and is contained in all children's books. You can see all the world's truths are in them." - Eileen
• "I always make sure that whatever we read is super fun and funny. And I do seek out books that have zero nutritional value but just enjoyable, fun, repairing time to make sure that the love of reading is just brewing." - Eileen
• "We do need to keep things magical. I don't think we should ever lose that." - Eileen
• "The more I delve deep into being a storyteller, the more I live in that world and the more comfortable I am being an adult who is completely open-hearted and fearless." – Eileen
• "Life is hard whether the kid is in a perfectly adjusted, beautiful home or a wreckage of a situation." - Eileen

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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley talks to June Smalls. She will be talking about her upcoming book, "Hear Them Roar: 14 endangered animals from around the world". June shares how we do so many things naturally and can do more of them that mimic the animal world which would be really good for us.

Episode Highlights

• 2.02: June talks about her love for reading and writing books at an early age. She got serious about sharing her work with the world back in 2013. That is when she joined the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators and started looking for critique groups.
• 3.11: June talks about the book written by her - She Leads, that's part of a series. Then there is - He Leads which is about the mountain gorilla and then the follow-up book that will be out in the fall - They lead, which is about the Gray Wolf Pack. So, we have different leaders and different family structures throughout the animal kingdom.
• 05.14: June talks about her upcoming book and the research that she did and all challenges she faced.
• 07.15: June makes the sound of a baby rhinoceros. She shares how they make they make little, tiny sounds that should be coming out of a much smaller animal.
• 08.15: June and Carla talk about poaching and how rhinos are endangered because of it.
• 10.16: The best thing when we look at animal families is that we see that there is no one way to be a perfect family. And there are some animals that are solitary that are only with their parents for the first couple of years when they're growing and then they are solitary.
• 12.18: June shares how as a family, there are so many different ways to be a family and to help each other.
• 13.19: As per Carla, we often forget in today's busy world, the importance of playing together.
• 16.46: Childhood and families, sometimes they are messy, sometimes it's not always perfect, says June.
• 17.21: June shares how reading a book together is a way to bond and a way to open and spark conversations.
• 19.51: The good thing about nonfiction animal books, is we are going to mention that there is birth, which is beautiful, and there is death, which is hard, and there are struggles those animals don't always eat every day, and sometimes that can open a conversation about different animals.
• 22.56: June talks about flying foxes and how they are endangered. They are megabats, but they are so important because they are just like butterflies and honeybees because they pollinate, they eat fruits, and they eat the nectar out of the flowers.

3 Key Points

1. June explains how she sees books about families, animal families, extinct animals, and all of that as a package. How can the book make families happier? How does this impact families?
2. There is the capacity for us to not only see different ways of doing things through the animal world but realizing we can incorporate those into our own lives in beneficial ways because sometimes it does take more than a single mom or a mom and dad or a single dad to raise a child.
3. June shares some of the key lessons that she can offer to her listeners about the importance of reading for family, togetherness, family happiness, and having parent, child caregiver, and child reading together.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Some animals are so rare that even though we have had them in captivity, we don't have any recorded sounds for them." - June
• "There are so many elements when we look at the animal world where they are working together while being part of a family, and it sounds like that makes these animals much happier." - Carla
• "I would rather help support a child to be a B student who is happy and well-rounded than an A student who is stressed and anxious and unhappy." - June
• "If you are afraid of bats, look up the flying fox eating a banana, then you will never be afraid of bats again." - June

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On today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, talks with Peter Limata, who will be talking about story time. Peter discusses what happens in story time with Mr. Limata, and why is it so important? During story time, the whole idea is just to connect with books, introduce students and parents alike. The books that they are reading are not only for funny laughs, but they are books that deal with serious issues.

Episode Highlights

• 1.30: Peter has taught first grade students the longest. He has also taught 2nd and 4th grade students. He then worked with after school programs at the first two years, after that moved to the US.
• 03.00: Peter explains how family-oriented country Zambia is. He shares instances, experiences and quotes that best describes Zambia.
• 04.30: As per Peter, in US you become independent at an earlier age. There is more output and opportunities for employment and earning a living on your own.
• 06.21: As per Dr. Carla, Zambia is doing a very good job of really creating a sense of family no matter where you are.
• 7.56: Peter shares how he gets his inspiration from his mom who was an educator.
• 9.44: Peter explains how being an administrator, allows you to see the bigger picture. He says that the people in the classrooms, the people that are working with the children, we need their input we need their voices, and we can't just be as administrators or as people.
• 11.40: Peter has live experience of the classroom, so he brings all of that to the administration or somebody who has only ever been administrator may not have that vantage point, says Carla.
• 13.48: Peter shares how he enjoyed narrating stories to kids and what led him to launch story time in Facebook and YouTube.
• 17.47: Carla mentions the beauties of picture books. She says the words can be used or they cannot be used, and you can create your own story and then talk.
• 20.05: Peter shares how he has received positive feedback from families and how story time has helped people during the pandemic.
• 24.42: As adults engage in a true, genuine apology not only are we looking at the child and modeling for them, but children watch as we apologize to other adults. And so, a true genuine apology also offers us the room to grow and do it differently to move forward, says Carla.
• 26.21: When we are gentle, we can never underestimate the power for children and adults to be gentle. We can say almost anything no matter how pointed a message that it needs to be. But we can say it with kindness and gentleness, says Carla.
• 28.30: Let kids be kids, many times we try to have kids see the world through our lens, says Peter.

3 Key Points

1. Peter talks about his experience as an educator and administrator. He shares how the two are different.
2. Peter talks about story time and how he makes or help families be happy through the power of story.
3. Storytime is meant to support reading for kids and of course families reading together but also helping them have those conversations, says Peter.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Today it's on your friend, tomorrow it's on you and usually it refers to something that is, some of your friend is struggling, don't laugh at them help them because you never know when your time comes on.” – Peter Limata
• “I am in this role because of the influences that I had from my mom who was an educator.” - Peter Limata
• “Decision makers make decisions in a vacuum. We need to bring in the people we need. And that's what has helped me just leaving the class last year and being an administrator now.” - Peter Limata
• “When I started storytime, I started it looking for a way to connect with my kids.” - Peter Limata
• “I really have embraced it in, in a way that I never would have imagined. But it came about because as I was putting out content for story time, how do I reach more people, more kids, and so my idea was just to put out stuff. And then I started thinking, well, I have these events page on my Facebook that I will put up, but then I needed a way of highlighting those telling people what's coming next.” - Peter Limata
• “Apologies are a gift, so some people definitely steer clear of them, but I see them as a real bonus to everyone.” - Carla
• “You can wire your brain whatever way you want to wire your brain. It can become part of who you are.” - Carla

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Peter: Instagram | Website
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On today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, talks with Christine Babinec, who will be talking about her new book “Want a Hug? Consent and Boundaries for Kids”. Christine shares her views on when a boundary crossing has occurred. She answers the questions: How do we help a child? How do we empower them to come forward without shame, embarrassment, and guilt no matter how minor or major that boundary crossing is?

Episode Highlights

• 1.20: Christine’s practice is about combining prevention work and treatment within a social justice scope, and she is trying to figure out how can we prevent abuse and harm from happening in the world. How can we effectively treat it and make sure that we are bringing marginalized people and hearing the voices of the people who have been hurt?
• 4.55: As adults, sometimes we see a child and know the child needs an answer and sometimes the answer or explanation becomes very cerebral and wordy. But the children's books can be so perfect in giving us the simple, concise language that children can understand and process, says Carla.
• 9.57: When you see your child not want to be hugged just have a lighthearted general conversation to get a beat and a read on what your kid is comfortable with in general because a lot of times we assume kids are soft and cuddly, but some of them just aren't and they don't like to have that foisted on them.
• 11.13: We often don't talk to kids about how you can show kindness and love and generosity and affection without physical contact, says Christine.
• 12.21: Carla believes in talking to the relatives in advance saying. She is working on boundaries at home. So, if the little one is showing signs of having strong boundaries, please applaud them and respect that they're learning how to take that with them through life.
• 14.49: Christine also encourages grown-ups to not apologize when their child doesn't want to give a hug or cuddle because this may communicate to the child that they might have done something wrong, or it gives them a mixed message.
• 17.28: One of the things that Christine have made addressed in the book is that a lot of kids are very afraid that they are going to get in trouble because that's what perpetrators do when they convince the child that they have done something wrong.
• 19.40: Sometimes it's later that you realize, that happened and that shouldn't have happened or didn't feel right and then children and adults tend to feel guilty for not having stopped it right then and there, says Carla.
• 21.14: There could be a power differential even between a much larger child and a much smaller child in the same grade, Christine.
• 23.20: In slippery slopes, there is not a clear demarcation of when the hug turned into something that was much more inappropriate. Christine shares her views on how she would coach parents to help themselves or maybe forgive themselves and help them explain to their child.
• 24.40: We want to live in a world where we teach our kids that they are grown-ups and that they can trust, and that the world is a safe place. But then we also have to talk to them about certain realities.
• 27.34: Your instinct could be crystal clear on a lot of different things. But when you have complex emotions and complex relationships involved, this is where Christine worries that people will blame themselves that she should have had an instinct.
• 28.56: If your instinct comes up, pay attention to it and notice it. If you override your instinct or didn't get an instinct on and something happens, never blame yourself.
• 30.27: Christine’s book is to set the foundation for healthy boundaries, learning about consent in naturalistic, developmentally appropriate ways that are fun and engaging and stuff that child is already doing now.

3 Key Points

1. When we have conversations with kids and the material is approachable everything changes. It sets the foundation to have more complicated conversations later, and it opens the developmentally appropriate ways for them, says Christine.
2. We want to empower kids to say no, but we have to remember kids are not responsible for protecting themselves, says Christine.
3. Silence is not consent. Persuasion is not consent. Consent is only present when it's freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic and specific, says Christine.

Tweetable Quotes

• “We do all great work to set the foundation for consent and boundaries, and then we don't explicitly talk about it in terms of bodies and relationships.” – Christine
• “The developmentally appropriate way is so critical because if we are either speaking beneath the child's level or over a child's level, we're missing an opportunity for attunement.” - Carla
• “Consent and boundaries are the foundations of all healthy relationships is my favorite line. But upon reflection, my favorite line from the book is, it's not my fault.” – Christine
• “70s and 80s were all about stranger danger because we don't like to think about the fact that often when abuse happens, it's from someone we know.” – Christine

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• https://www.christinebabineclpc.com/
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly is going to talk to Charlotte Offsay. She will be talking about her work with Instagram and her literacy platform.

Episode Highlights

• 1.33: Instagram is a wonderful space and community where people share the books that they are interested in, the books that they are reading, and she makes recommendations based on the books that her children and she loves.
• 2.05: Books are a fabulous way to enter a conversation with a child and discuss what's going on in their minds and enter naturally into a conversation.
• 4.35: As per Carla, we still have picture books as adults, and we just call them photography books and images share so much.
• 5.19: Carla explains as an Instagram influencer why does she think it's important to read together for family happiness?
• 6.30: On emotional level, reading together brings calmness and tranquility to the end of our day. It can definitely lead to lots of giggles and fun and silliness too, says Charlotte.
• 8.16: Being immersed in the kid-lit world, Charlotte gets to see so many of the new books coming out and it gets to meet the wonderful authors that she works and writes and interacts with.
• 9.47: Through the picture books Charlotte got a window into what else is going on around the world like traditions or cultures she and her children both got to experience that together.
• 10.43: Reading and interacting and looking at a book offers a way to explore curiosity and see it in a different light and slow down.
• 12.44: When you find a piece in a book that you can identify with and say that person is like me, it's one of the most precious parts of reading, says Carla.
• 14.08: Charlotte is lucky to get books sent to her by fabulous publishers, and she just absolutely loves getting a stack of new picture books and pouring over them and getting excited to share them with her kids and with people who she has gotten to know online.
• 16.02: There are the small everyday moments that also need to be celebrated and recognized, says Charlotte.
• 18.15: There are so many different types of books out there and there is something for everyone and that can be a such a wonderful experience for everyone, says Charlotte.

3 Key Points

1. Picture books are meant to be read a loud and meant to be shared in a special way and they offer a unique connection, says Charlotte.
2. Every child wants and needs to see and deserves to see themselves reflected in the pages of a book, says Charlotte.
3. Charlotte's next book A Grandma's Magic is a lyrical ode to the magic of the relationship and all that a grandma brings into our lives through the small moments.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Young children need literacy and books, and books offer windows and mirrors and discussion points."- Charlotte
• "The more that you read, the more you're going to teach and share and open up a young child's world." – Charlotte
• "From skin color to eye color to body size to pets, it's so wonderful to see someone who's life mirrors yours." – Carla
• "I tend to write about the things in my life that consume me, whether that's my children or me and what's going on with them." - – Charlotte

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• http://charlotteoffsay.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/picturebookrecommendations/?hl=en
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks with Susan Holt Simpson. Today they are going to talk about how to help children learn to love reading. Susan also shares tips to inculcate reading into a child's life.

Episode Highlights

• 03.30: Susan Holt Simpson is a freelance writer living in Northern Kentucky. She volunteers as a reading coach with the Kentucky one-to-one children's literacy program. Her jittery spotted dog inspired her to write and teach your dog to read.
• 2.46: Susan is going to share her insights on teaching children how to read. She gives a few hints for early reading and what parents need. How early should parents start?
• 3.12: As per Susan children can learn to recognize somebody's reading even before they are born.
• 04.02: As per Susan, parents can begin reading, during pregnancy and that can have an impact.
• 04.48: It is easy to just read aloud, even during feeding times, to get out those board books that you got at your baby shower and just read them to your children while they are feeding, while they are in their highchair, even during bath time putting on audiobook, especially of Mother Goose of rich rhyme and textured stories and books is good.
• 06.02: Buying a book is not the only way to put together a library for your kids. You can also opt for secondhand resale for charity. Just searching through those resale thrift stores will have children's books for very reasonable prices.
• 08.40: Susan talks about her love to go to libraries and wander around books. Special books are often set on top of the library shelves by the librarians because they see the value in some of these books too.
• 09.56: You can experience that New York Times has the same wonderful journals that provide great lists that you can experience if you are trying to build a beginning library.
• 10.45: Susan prefers to buy real books for her kids and grandkids. Whenever she gets a chance.
• 12.02: Susan Shares that to spike the interest of elementary students, make sure that they are reading and the book that they are presented with is tailored to their interest.
• 14.02: Instead of choosing books that start with their activity interest, present a book that has something that will lead you to an activity that everybody will enjoy and that will inspire more reading.
• 15.08: Launchpad books are books that are going to launch your little guy into an interest-based activity.
• 17.00: Christopher talks about how he and his wife have opened the world of reading to their children.

3 Key Points

1. Susan shares her thoughts on whether one should build a library for their children as they grow from newborns to toddlers to early readers to chapter readers and so on.
2. Susan shares tips about what to do in order to help children reengage or continue their love of learning during elementary years when their world is expanding.
3. Susan shares how she encourages people to be really natural with the way that they present reading to their children.

Tweetable Quotes

• "We can expose children to books, wherever they are, whatever they are doing." - Christopher
• "I am a book buyer, I love going to bookstores that is an important part of the way that we acquire books for our kids and now for our grandkids to make sure that we are buying those really good quality, beautiful books that will be treasured." - Susan
• "I do look at lists online, there are a lot of people with lists. But you know, what I like to do is I love to go to the library and just kind of wander around those beautiful books.
• "So many of our children are now reading on any device that they happen to have." - Christopher
• "You can encourage anyone to read in, regardless of what medium that they like." – Susan
• "Rather than be too concerned about their expanding universe complement their expanding universe with books that align with their expanded universe." - Susan

Resources Mentioned

• Susan's Book
• https://susanholtsimpson.com/
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks with guest Rebecca Fox Starr, an author, writer, Blogger, speaker, and mental health advocate. She created her internationally read blog "Mommy Ever After" in 2010 following the birth of her first child when she became pregnant with her second child in 2013. Rebecca suffered from prenatal anxiety and depression and subsequent severe postpartum depression. She decided to document her journey in real time in an effort to help others.

Episode Highlights

• 1.07: Rebecca writes candidly about her life as a mother, survivor, advocate, singer-songwriter, dance partier, and studded shoe collector. Her story has been featured in the New York Times, Huffington Post, on ABC News, and all forms of media across the world.
• 03.43: Maternal mental health is just mental health feelings, emotions, and diagnosis. But for mothers, for those who are trying to conceive, pregnant or have children.
• 04.45: Rebecca talks about motherhood and what drove her to start her first blog.
• 05.07: Rebecca shares how she tackles postpartum depression post giving birth to her second child.
• 06.58: For Rebecca writing was the greatest therapy. When feeling down, nervous, depressed, she used writing as a medium to get out of it.
• 08.24: As treacherous as the landscape of social media can be, there is also something that is amazing about the exposure, because now people are used to sharing things about their lives and it's become easier, sometimes even attractive, or desirable, says Rebecca.
• 08.56: As per Rebecca, because people are talking more and connecting more because we are all so much more connected through social media.
• 11.26: Rebecca shares how motherhood is the greatest joy in the world, but it is also the hardest phase.
• 12.05: As per Rebecca, everyone has negative feelings, and just like it's in her book, negative feelings come. We don't have to pretend that they don't exist. We need to be resilient and know that we are sad or lonely or scared. But just like storms, they these feelings pass.
• 14.02: For moms in particular, 25% of moms or 30% of moms are diagnosed with a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder.
• 15.46: Rebecca talks about the therapeutic way of positive thinking and how it can help to get over anxiety and depression.
• 17.21: For someone with depression validation is important, says Rebecca.
• 18.45: As per Rebecca, support is the key to success, and she has done a lot of research on postpartum depression screening and diagnosis. She is not a clinician, but she has done a lot of research and written academic books on this.
• 20.11: A lot of times people who are going through especially a parental mood and anxiety disorder, postpartum depression, they are thinking that they should feel better or that they are bad parent for feeling the way that they do.
• 21.10: Christopher has found out that saying how can I help you is not as helpful as just helping.
• 21.46: Rebecca shares for those who are in the book world, what does she hopes that the publishing industry in the book industry can do to help improve mental health awareness?

3 Key Points

1. Rebecca shares how writing has helped her to crawl out of her depression post giving birth to her second child. Writing is how she connects with people, so finding people to connect with was incredibly healing.
2. Rebecca talks about her book, Mommy Ever After, how does that relate to mental health and why was that book important for her to write?
3. To use business terms, somebody who reaches out to a friend once a week, the return on investment is so great. You have a 30% less chance to experience depression or to sink down into a deeper depression and just by being checked in on, says Rebecca.

Tweetable Quotes

• "In 2013-2014 people didn't talk about mental health the same way that they do now. Not as openly, not as compassionately." – Rebecca
• "Sharing about postpartum depression has been, as I said, the greatest. Pivot and ultimately gift in my life." - Rebecca
• "Actually, starting to write was the most healing thing that I did. And over the course of the next several years, as I crawled out of that hole of anxiety and depression, I knew that if I got that feeling, feeling down, feeling nervous, feeling depressed, writing was the greatest therapy." - Rebecca
• "When I started writing about postpartum depression, my first two books were academic texts. There was not a big list of books on postpartum depression and. There is no book on trying to expand your family after postpartum depression, so I wrote it because there was nothing there." – Rebecca
• "For me, Mommy ever after, is this whimsical book with the most gorgeous illustrations." -Rebecca
• "We encourage our audience, if anyone is experiencing acute anxiety or debilitating depression, to make sure that they get proper professional medical care to help them as they navigate this one of these life challenges." - Christopher

Resources Mentioned

• Rebecca's Book
• www.mommyeverafter.com
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rebeccafoxstarr/?hl=en
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In today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California, talks Brianne DeRosa, MFA, is the Content Manager for The Family Dinner Project. As a freelance writer and consultant to nonprofit organizations, she has spent over a decade working in communications, program development and creative initiatives. Brianne has the opportunity to practice her family dinner skills every day with her husband and two young sons. Today they are going to explore how to improve family dinner and why that is so important in today's busy world.

Episode Highlights

• • 1.02: Brianne talks about changes in family dinners pre and post covid. As per her, pre covid, majority of families, majority of parents would say particularly that family dinner was important, that they wanted to have family dinner and 80% of teenagers would say that they wished they could eat dinner with their parents more often.
  • 03.13: During pre-covid fewer than 30% of families were making it to the table together on any kind of regular basis, which was concerning.
  • 03.56: During Covid, what Brianne found was kind of interesting; they did some research with their friends at making caring common, which is part of the graduate Harvard Graduate School of Education and what the research uncovered was that during the first year of the pandemic, when there were a lot of lockdowns and people were home more family dinner is improved, so more than 50% of respondents said not only were they having dinner much more frequently, but their dinners were more enjoyable.
  • 04.30: During Covid, kids were feeling more empowered to cook and be a part of the family dinner experience, and that made everybody feel good.
  • 06.52: The family dinner project is a nonprofit program of mass General Hospital psychiatry Academy and as per Brianne it is based on the principle of looking at the decades and decades and decades of deep scientific research that has proven that family dinner is an important part of life, an important available daily intervention.
  • 07.54: As per Brianne young kids in particular who eat with their families develop storytelling, sequencing and vocabulary skills even greater than if they were simply read to.
  • 08.33: There are a whole host of benefits for adults that are now coming to light through new research where older adults who eat with someone else, whether that is a family member or a friend, if they have regular shared meal interactions with people, they have better mental health. Their loneliness decreases, which is a huge public health crisis for older, older adults is loneliness that decreases, their nutrition increases.

• 09.23: Brianne shares how does the family dinner project, help people inculcate family dinner into their lifestyle?

• 11.12: Bri shares how they are working with experts at mass general to create a whole youth sports and family dinner section of their website specifically targeted to those challenges. They also have a new initiative called the Welcoming Table that they have been working on with a variety of experts that specifically targeted towards the challenges that come with having family members who are on the autism spectrum or have ADHD or have feeding challenges, sensory challenges, if those are barriers to any family meals, they are also targeting towards that.

• 14.30: In many households, if not most, there is one person who is basically responsible for the planning, shopping, cooking and cleanup. A lot of time it's a female head of household, kind of singular person who has the whole mantle of responsibility. And one of the things that makes family dinner feel so scary and onerous is there isn't that division of labor, that opportunity to cook together, that opportunity to have people help clean up or even just to help meal plan and shop.
• 18.19: The Family Dinner Project's goal is if you could help a family overcome their family dinner challenges, if you could inspire a family to have more dinners together, they wanted that thing that you could hand to them and say look here is how you do it.
• 21.11: Sometimes parents are able to get together with their kids for a few minutes between school and sports practice. If you take that moment to have some apple slices and cheese and talk, then you have done a family meal, says Brianne.
• 23.10: Anytime that you are sharing food, fun, and conversation in any format with anybody who's important to you, that can confer some of the same benefits as what we think of as this kind of Norman Rockwell dinner experience, says Brianne.
• 25.40: As per Brianne one of the most undervalued things about family dinner is that opportunity that it presents for people to just unwind and laugh together and have a good time.

3 Key Points

1. Brianne explains what is the family dinner project and why is this so meaningful and so important?
2. Brianne talks about the family dinner book that they have introduced. As per her there are all these different challenges in the book that that they are trying to help solve through presenting the stories of real families who have managed it. What has their challenge been? How have they overcome it? They have smart strategies. Real people have really good ideas.
3. As per Brianna its ok to have a split shift dinner as long as everyone has someone to eat and interact with, that's a family meal.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Having somebody else in the house will help you with dinner might actually make you feel better about dinner." - Brianne
• "Family dinner is a relatively accessible intervention for most people, it's something that they could potentially do. But it's not simple and so the family dinner project, we always say that the research exists to tell us why dinner is important, but we exist to help you with the how." - Brianne
• "I would say to that family and to every other family out there, one thing to remember is we're the family dinner project. But it doesn't have to be dinner, it's any opportunity where you can connect meaningfully and purposefully around food, fun and conversation so it can be a family breakfast." - Brianne

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• https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/|Instagram|
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On today's episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly talks with guest Stephanie Campisi. She will be talking with us about her wonderful new book, Quacks Like a Duck.

Episode Highlights

• 1.41: Opportunity presented itself, so Stephanie moved to the US from Australia in 2014 and she has been having a wonderful time.
• 1.51: Throughout her travels, Stephanie has been collecting interesting stories and overheads and snippets and turning them into books.
• 2.07: Stephanie has lived in quite a few states in the US and has traveled almost half of now and working on the rest.
• 3.53: Reading and writing are how Stephanie makes sense of the world, and she thinks it's so true for so many people even if you are not necessarily an author, but you write letters or things like that.
• 5.15: Stephanie looks at the recurring motives that shine through because she has several books out through Familius and tends to be loved together, laugh together, and play together.
• 7.33: Stephanie's perspective has been really interesting in Australia and being an Australian and what that identity is now that she is elsewhere.
• 8.35: Stephanie has been taking Vegemite to the US schools and having brave souls try it and it's always hilarious. They eat Vegemite to keep their vitamins up.
• 11.10: The essence of relationship is when we can take a topic and start dissecting it whether it is about books or some little curiosities, says Carla.
• 12.11: Stephanie mostly travels around the schools in rural Eastern Tennessee and in a lot of cases she is the first author that the kids have met and so it's wonderful.
• 13.40: There has been a little bit of time in the making quacks, but Stephanie does have a book in the work that hopefully will be on shelves and is absolutely inspired by her son who is three years old.
• 15.15: When Stephanie came from another country and made a new home in America, that belonging, and acceptance were a big piece for her. She shares if her books somehow create more of a sense of belonging and acceptance in her life or not.
• 17.35: When Stephanie came to the US, it was kind of like a single-swim situation.
• 19.41: Social-emotional learning helps kids learn how to get along with each other and make friends, create healthy relationship dynamics, and learn to exist alongside each other in the world.
• 20.12: Quacks like a duck is a brand-new release and it's not actually about a duck. It is about Petunia the platypus who shows up at her very first party in the US, says Stephanie.
• 22.10: Sometimes we want to label everything. We want to put something in a box so that we are comfortable knowing what this is, says Carla.
• 26.22: Books are really safe way to explore little things with children, particularly if you are with a trusted adult who can help you work through them.
• 27.18: In Quacks Like a Duck, we have petunia going to her party but that applies in so many different situations where you're the new person in an unfamiliar situation and that can apply to kids in so many different experiences throughout their lives, says Stephanie.
• 29.00: Stephanie feels picture books give us permission to be kids again and feel like that is one of the joys of being a picture book author.

3 Key Points

1. Stephanie talks about her journey and what motivated her to become an author.
2. You feel yourself and what you are meant to be at Familius and that's why we gravitated towards Familius. The energy at Familius is very loving, very inclusive, and very family oriented, says Stephanie.
3. Different people can approach the same book, but nobody is ever going to approach it in the same way. We are in different moods when we are reading the book, says Stephanie.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Your reading and writing passion helps you bring components to life, in your body, in your mind and spirit." - Carla
• "It is really beautiful that there is some energy that brings people to Familius because that energy is like let's create books that help make the world a better place." – Carla
• "Once you get outside the familiar bubble of comfort, you have a different lens to see and understand everything." - Stephanie
• "Social-emotional learning lens is authenticity for how to embrace your truth, know who you are, stand in your truth, and not need to dress up. You can just be yourself." - Carla
• "When we are connecting with the child, we are also connecting to lost or thirsty parts of ourselves, and their books work in a way that more the 500 pages book can't do." - Carla

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Stephanie Campisi: Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robbins, Co-founder of Familius Publishing (A Husband, Father, Author, Fisherman, Backpacker, and Aspirational Musician based in the Central Valley of California) talks with guest Dr. Ben Bernstein (A veteran Psychologist, Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author, and a Performance Coach for Academy Award, Tony Award and Pulitzer Prize winners. His client lists include CEOs, Dentists, Athletes, Attorneys, Physicians, Business Executives, Opera Singers, and Actors). You can reach Dr. Bernstein at his website -- https://www.drbyourbest.com/. Today Dr. Bernstein talks about the ways to improve our mental health.

Episode Highlights

• 01:40 – Dr. Bernstein is the Founder and Artistic Director of the ‘Singer’s Gym’, a nonprofit training workshop for professional singers that have vitality, spontaneity, and connection in their work.
• 04:00 - Dr. Bernstein says that he is deeply a person of prayer and a man of religious practice, but you don't have to have a religion to have a spirit, because everyone has a spirit.
• 05:40 - There's a reason that all the sages and saints for 1000s of years have been talking about the breath because it's a real vital connection from vitality.
• 08:00 - A very healthy thing to do for your mental health is to appreciate somebody in your life daily. Appreciating means expressing gratitude to someone in your life and then expressing gratitude to them.
• 10:00 - Dr. Ben heard a philosopher on the radio say once, “We're built to be givers, not takers”.
• 12:00 - You wouldn't even be here today if it was purely negative. There always is a positive side, we were not created thinking we are a loser.
• 14:00 – Christopher summarizes what all Dr. Bernstein spoke about during the episode.
• 16:25 - Dr. Ben says that we do have different kinds of mental conditions that are diagnosable, however, in his practice, and in his life he has dealt with so many of these, even in the most difficult circumstances through love.

Three Key Points

1. Mental health is one part of our overall health, however, Dr. Bernstein uses three-legged stool which is body, mind, and spirit. When we talk about mental health, we seem to be focusing only on the mind but we are also a body and a spirit. When all three legs are equally strong, our mental health becomes equally strong too. Mental health also depends upon our physical, and spiritual health. Dr. Bernstein says that wherever we construe spirit, he views it as a motivating force. So, Dr. Ben speaks a little bit about the health of each of the three facts. The most important is to help your mind through your body is to get connected through your body to the world.
2. Dr. Bernstein mentions that he has a radical view about the definition of mental health which is that mental disturbance unless it's a genetic or a brain disorder, it's always a disturbance of some kind of love. We're meant as human beings to give to each other to prove our love to give. When we pull away from that, we're often in a state of fear or anger. As a result, we cut ourselves off from the connection that we all have and we all need from each other.
3. It's all about positive connection, the more connected your body is, and the more connected you are to others, to nature, or the more you appreciate people, the more mental health you will have.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The thing you missed is that 3 of those books were published by Familius.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “October is a Mental Health Awareness Month.” - Christopher Robbins
• “When you hold your breath, the message that your brain is getting is that you're dying.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “Ground yourself right now, grounding means feeling the chair support, you feeling the floor support, we really get out of touch.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “The spirit connection in the spirit has two parts to it.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “Appreciation we know from lots of research has a lot to do with mental health, so that's one thing I would recommend.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “Looking at your thoughts about yourself is really super important.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein
• “I think we're all here to serve one another.” - Dr. Ben Bernstein

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On today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manley, talks with Lindsey McDivitt about her enchanting and fabulous new book – “Christmas Fairies for Ouma”. This book shares Christmas joy and celebrates the love between a grandparent and a grandchild.

Episode Highlights

• 01:35 – Lindsey says that this is her first fiction book however previously she was a healthcare professional where she worked with stroke survivors and their families to provide education and support.
• 03:45 – “Christmas Fairies for Ouma” is all about loving, kindness, connection, long distance, and the importance of really embracing our loved ones.
• 06:00 - For Lindsey, spending Christmases far away from loved ones resonates so much with her that in this holiday season it is time to reach out as real letters are so precious.
• 10:30 – Lindsey recalls how they used to celebrate Christmas in South Africa stating they used to sit around the Christmas holiday dinner table while two people used to pull on the paper crackers. Then she also reminisces how everybody had to wear those paper crowns at the table and they all looked ridiculous.
• 11:30 – Dr. Carla asks Lindsey about what they ate on Christmas day in South Africa.
• 15:34 – “You’re making me think of another way to communicate with grandparents is the old thing of sending thank you cards right after Christmas.”, says Dr. Carla.
• 17:00 – Dr. Carla tells Lindsey to give the listeners an idea of other than the back matter what is inside of “Christmas Fairies for Ouma” looks like.
• 18:25 - The grandmother in this story has a personality, mainly through the art illustrations.
• 20:30 – Lindsey says that we should, especially at Christmas time not just be talking about the message of kindness but sitting together the adult and a child, and reading a picture book is such a loving engrossing activity on its own.
• 21:00 - This book more than qualifies as a most precious book for parents, aunts, uncles, grandmas, and grandpas.
• 22:00 – Dr. Carla says, talking about the power storybooks definitely when you have someone in your life who has suffered from a stroke just sitting down and reading with them, or receiving a card in the mail, makes all the difference in stroke recovery.
• 23:44 – Dr. Carla states that she was listening to a podcast the other day where the millennial generation is already feeling the pressure of aging and they're all 30 years old.

Three Key Points

1. Lindsey says that nowadays long-distance grandparents have a lot more tools like video and telephone calls but they never had any of that. They just had letters and occasional visits so that bond is so strong. The target audience for this book is around ages four to eight. Lindsey thinks it will reach a broader audience because she knows that many of her friends are new grandparents and they're all very taken with the story whether they live close to their grandchildren or live far away. During Christmas, this message of kindness, reaching out, and connecting with loved ones is important.
2. One part of this book that most people don't realize is there's also a learning aspect apart from learning the power of kindness. The book is based partially in South Africa where Lindsey’s grandparents were and some talks a little bit about South Africa and the way Christmas is celebrated there. Since South Africa is in the southern hemisphere, so it's Christmas in the middle of summer. it's quite different from where she spent most of her growing-up years and snowy Minnesota. So the book just juxtaposes those two parts of the world and those two seasons.
3. Although this is a picture book for a very young age, it gives a little bit of information about how South Africa has changed and transitioned from a very racist apartheid society where the racists were kept separate by the white government, and how that changed after President Nelson Mandela became the first democratically elected president by all races back in 1994.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I was in healthcare for a long time but started writing children's books about 10 years ago.” - Lindsey McDivitt
• “So many people could benefit from more support around stroke because it is a life-changing situation.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manley
• “Even though I only saw my grandparents about every three years, I remain close to them, thanks to letters.” - Lindsey McDivitt
• “I don't know if it's the same in your area but our blue mailboxes in Sonoma County have all but disappeared, they've taken them off of streets, corners, downtown, and sidewalks.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manley
• “I'm going to share some information about South African celebrations.” - Lindsey McDivitt
• “Even though it's middle of summer, at least my family would still have a hot meal like roast beef, potatoes, and big Christmas pudding like the steamed pudding.” - Lindsey McDivitt
• “Whether or not we received a gift from somebody what a perfect opportunity to send a card, especially a handmade one that says thanks for being in my life.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manley
• “To see the title of Christmas fairies for Omen comes from the actual card has fairies on it, and it goes all the way across the world.” - Lindsey McDivitt
• “It hardly matters what the book is exactly, but I know that as adults at Christmas time, we want to read cozy Christmas tales.” - Lindsey McDivitt

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Lindsey McDivitt: Website Instagram Twitter
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Matthew Winner, a Head Podcaster for A Kids Book Company where he leads the company in creating a podcast network dedicated to helping kids. They talk about his journey as a kid and what it takes in the circumstance to repair the harm that was caused to him

Episode Highlights

• 01:40 – Matthew says he is a great fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT and loves that he can reflect and see where he was in his childhood and applies it to where he is now.
• 04:00 – Dr. Carla says that they are not blaming or shaming anyone, they are simply saying, there are things that you can do in your life to ensure yourself or your family are happier.
• 05:15 - The breakthrough for Matthew was a book that his therapist introduced to called Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson.
• 07:00 - The beauty of attachment is that we can create secure attachment. We can create it no matter how old we are.
• 10:40 – Matthew mentions that wherever we are, in our life journey, it's liberating to say that the class was doing the best they could, just that they didn't know better.
• 12:40 – Dr. Carla asks Matthew to explain ‘Restorative Justice’ to the listeners.
• 15:20 - Restorative Justice work is to repair the harm so that we can look at the action that happened and say that it was wrong, but the individual is not a good or bad person. They are a person who committed this action while being aware of it.
• 17:10 – Dr. Carla tells Matthew that he mirrors what he said, he looks at the harm done, no blame, no shame but he addresses the person injured so that they can come from a place of empowerment and cure for the long-term.
• 19:20 – Matthew thinks that there's a lot of value there to healing together for them to say, that both the persons that were harmed and the person that is responsible for the harm can both be hurting and both need to heal.
• 21:24 - When Matthew takes that thing that he practices with Dr. Cara and applies it to talk to his parents or wife or kids or colleagues. He can start breaking down the fear or resistance around them because he has already got a notch on his belt from doing it in therapy.
• 22:39 - If we're practicing healthy loving skills in a safe family, then we can go out and practice them, at school, in friendships, or at work too.
• 25:30 – Matthew thinks that the reason why he has been working with children for so long is that it is incredibly humbling where he just learns and learns. They are exceptional at exposing his insecurities.
• 27:40 - A way we protect ourselves is by pushing others away, fighting, and by trying to make sure that no one causes us further harm.
• 29:40 – Matthew reveals that their kids’ podcasts have a podcast on emotions in coalition with young children and their grownups in part about destigmatizing therapy but also about allowing ourselves to feel big emotions.
• 31:00 - The work that they do in their Kids Co. is they say kids are ready and they make things for kids to talk about, says Matthew.
• 32:00 – Matthew mentions that the fact that he can see adults trying to protect him in his life, is what draws him to different hosts about the different podcasts that we have.
• 34:10 – Matthew suggests empowering children by giving them the language that they understand. If this is the word for that thing, then explain it to them, but don't call it something else. That is a piece of currency that they'll use to navigate the world, so deny them that tool.
• 35:55 – Dr. Carla does love all of the principles that Matthew has been bringing about on how to empower children and see them as unique individuals who are innately wise.
• 36:50 – Matthew says all the adults that maybe weren't there for him, how would they have ever known that 30 years later he would be an adult that could be here for him?
• 38:30 – Matthew wants to make sure that we all agree to learn together and to take on that position of learner.

Three Key Points

1. Matthew says that this indigenous practice of repairing harm, where harm was caused not seeking to punish but seeking to acknowledge that we are part of a community and as a community, we all need to be able to move forward together so being able to ask what it takes in this circumstance to repair the harm that was caused for Matthew. Between that repairing harm and working hard to see the best in people, to be able to love his parents and say, they were doing the best. They could and love them in a different way now and say he needs them to continue to do the best that they can and Matthew also will try to do the best that he can.
2. In the classroom community, they all become much more self-aware, as well as class aware that they are an ecosystem that they are all feeding off one another. Similarly, in the justice system, all of us in this community/society are just part of a fishbowl we're all part of a singular ecosystem that affects everything. We must recognize that we siblings can heal each other and also that it can go upward that my kids can heal me, making sure that I am communicating with them.
3. Dr. Carla says that when we look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, first and foremost comes Safety. We want to be safe, and we want to be loved because we are truly and deeply loved in the most beautiful sense of the word. We know we are safe because someone who truly loves us might make mistakes, but they won't purposefully harm us.
4. Let's talk about sexual abuse from the age of five because around two to five children by the age of 5 or 10 will have an experience with it and the number is huge. So instead, why wouldn’t we talk about this? Matthew states that he was a victim of sexual abuse, and it took him up to the age of 36 to be able to through therapy and notify authorities. It was past time, there was nothing that the state of Pennsylvania could do at that point.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I think that I've really pushed up against this notion that our parents did the best they could.” - Matthew Winner
• “We didn't have parents who knew anything about attachment. They didn't know how to create secure attachment.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I'm not judging any of the pupil’s choices, it's just realizing that sometimes in life we don't do our best.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You can't change other people; you can only change yourself.” - Matthew Winner
• “You said one of my favorite words Fishbowl and another favorite, which is Ecosystem, right?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Children are exceptional in exposing our shortcomings, and our sensitivities.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “We have a kids’ podcast about current events and about big topics like school shootings and racism and things like that and all of it.” - Matthew Winner
• “I have come to understand that there's no way in my childhood that I wasn't communicating to my parents my needs.” - Matthew Winner
• “Don't talk down to your children, talk up to your children. It is such a beautiful statement.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robins,

Co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks with guest Ashley Marie Mireles, the Director of Sales and Marketing at Familius Publishing, working to help families be happy through the books she writes, and sells. They are discussing Hispanic Heritage Month.

Episode Highlights

• 01:56 – Christopher enquires about Hispanic Heritage Month and why it exists.
• 03:32 – Ashley says, it is called Hispanic Heritage Month, but it is 30 days from September 15 to October 15.
• 05:56 – The goal is to make the language more inclusive. So, in these spaces, they will use an ‘e’ instead of an ‘o’ or an ‘a’ when they want to be more inclusive, says Ashley.
• 07:41 – Ashley gives a couple of examples of those of Hispanic descent who have contributed to the nation.
• 09:10 – With this theme, they are aiming to be focused on the people who have made a difference in the US community and are going to make a difference in the future from Hispanic backgrounds, mentions Ashley.
• 11:22 - If you are somebody who is a part of the Hispanic Heritage just learn about your own family or your ancestors, states Ashley.
• 13:30 – Ashley mentions her book “Proud to be Latino”.
• 15:03 - Appropriation happens when one is characterizing a culture or using things that are sacred to the culture as an aesthetic rather than appreciating it for what it is, says Ashley.
• 16:50 – Ashley recommends some Familius titles that can help us celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month.

Three Key Points

1. Ashely shares that Hispanic Heritage Month is started as a national week observance. So, it was then Hispanic Heritage Week, which was started by Lyndon B. Johnson in 1968. There was a lot of talk in Congress about making this a month-long celebration, and it was officially turned into a month-long celebration in 1988 under the Reagan administration. It goes from September 15 to October 15, it is originally with a weekly observance that started on the 15th which is national Independence Day to a lot of Latin American countries. The goal was to celebrate the Hispanic Heritage in the US and all the contributions that people from Hispanic culture have made to our country. So, now it is a month-long celebration and they pick a theme every year, there are a lot of different celebrations that the national government will put together as well as other organizations.
2. Ashely says, this year's theme is Unidos: Inclusivity for a Stronger Nation. The theme this year also aims to teach people how to be more inclusive with each other, not just within the community, but also outside of it. It focuses on the melting pot aspect of the United States and shows how people of Hispanic Descent have made important contributions to the US.
3. Ashley highlights that the biggest thing to remember when you are celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month or any of these Heritage-themed months is to do your research to find out the history and the intention behind it and ensure that you are celebrating not appropriating.

Tweetable Quotes

• “It's called Hispanic Heritage Month because they are focused on celebrating folks from Spanish-speaking Heritage.” - Ashley Marie Mireles
• “If you're not somebody who is of Hispanic Heritage, learn about it.” - Ashley Marie Mireles
• “If you're not of Hispanic descent, it's easy to assume that somebody of Hispanic culture is going to be exactly like somebody else.” - Ashley Marie Mireles
• “It's important for people to remember and not just kind of paint everyone with the same brush.” - Ashley Marie Mireles
• “Appreciation goes into knowing what you're truly celebrating.” - Ashley Marie Mireles
• “Remember that there's somebody from Cuba is going to have a very different culture and practices than somebody who is from Mexico.” - Ashley Marie Mireles

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Ashley Marie Mireles: Instagram LinkedIn
• FamilySearch.org
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Author Linda Cutting who talks about Adoption and her book – ‘A is for Always’.

Episode Highlights

• 01:21 – Linda was professionally a Concert Pianist for many years and wrote a memoir in 1997, which was published by HarperCollins.
• 03:10 – Dr. Carla asks that in terms of adoption and how it impacted Linda and her children's lives, what are some of the biggest gifts for her and her children?
• 05:40 – Linda says that she tried to address some of the harder and more challenging aspects of adoption in this book – ‘A is for Adoption’.
• 07:05 - There are many issues with exploring adoption, it's been a wonderful way for Linda to have her family, especially after she had two pregnancies and miscarried. She then adopted as she knew kids in the world needed families.
• 09:30 - Whether it's an adoptive family or, a DNA family, nobody wants to be left out. We all want to feel safe, loved, and secure.
• 11:40 - One of the things that I was very serious about addressing was the difficulties that each of my kids had about adoption in school.
• 13:20 – Linda mentions that America has one of the most mixed race, mixed ethnic groups, cultures, and populations of any country on Earth which gives the message of inclusiveness.
• 16:00 - Linda refers to one of the scenes from a Chinese film where the father explains to her adopted daughter through a metaphor of a tree that has two families and they're both very important families and both are real.
• 17:50 - The other important aspect of adoption Linda thinks is to talk to your kids about and it can be painful but they need to hear it from you is the identical letter K.
• 21:10 - Fortunately, we now live in a world where we are far more inclusive and we are far more willing to talk about things that we didn't talk about 20 years ago.
• 22:10 – Linda tells where listeners can reach her, they can find the book on the Familius Publishing Website or the Workman Website or Amazon, and your local independent bookstores.

Key Points

1. Linda says she is very grateful to her children’s birth parents because they gave them life but she thinks the truth is that every adoption begins with loss. So eventually she realized that the bringing up of birth parents brought up the loss, and that's probably why they didn't want to hear it quite as much because they don't want to be reminded of that. Linda thinks one of the reasons she has brought this topic up so much is because one of the problems with adoption has been the secrecy around it and a sense of shame. She didn't want that to be part of her kids’ story or their lives. So in this book – ‘A is for Always’, Linda is trying to promote openness and conversations with adoptive parents and their kids.
2. Dr. Carla says that the reason you need to pick up this book is that the illustrations are so beautiful, as well as the energy of the text, which is very loving and welcoming. Whether you're reading it to a newborn, an infant, a five-year-old, to a 10-year-old it would really carry a lot of love and meaning.

Tweetable Quotes

• “We adopted him as a newborn in the States and our daughter's 17 and we adopted her as a one-year-old in China.” - Linda Cutting
• “I didn't want my kids to feel ashamed about questions they might have. So, Q was for questions you may want to shout.” - Linda Cutting
• “Transparency and curiosity, those sound like very good places to be in any parenting but particularly in adoptive parenting.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “My daughter really wants animal illustrations so any child can relate.” - Linda Cutting
• “Makes sense that your book is doing so well because ‘A is for Always’ will resonate with the family that wants to really say we are inclusive.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Inclusivity is so important in an overall way not just for adoptive families, but for all of us. Invite and include others in our lives.” - Linda Cutting
• “It is about connection and it's about growing together.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast: Apple
• Familius Publishing: Website Workman Website LinkedIn Instagram Facebook

• Linda Cutting: Website Twitter Instagram

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robins, Co-founder of Familius Publishing (A Husband, Father, Author, Fisherman, Backpacker, and Aspirational Musician based in the Central Valley of California) talks with guest John Schlimm, Harvard Trained Educator, Artist, Advocates, International Award-Winning Author about what would Gen Z do, and what we can learn from this magnificent and inspiring Generation?

Episode Highlights

• 01:17 – Christopher introduces John and shares about his work toward Gen Z. John is an author of Children's Picture Book (The Star jumped over the moon) and the upcoming (What Would Gen Z Do?)
• 03:00 – Christopher enquires from John about who is it that defines or decides that certain years become a certain type of generation, and what that even means.
• 05:05 – John discusses the stereotypes about Gen Z.
• 07:22 – John reveals that what he has learned from Gen Z is to always be the first one to initiate conversation. Oftentimes we as Non-Gen Z adults have to take that first step and ask the first question, initiate that conversation.
• 09:40 – John recognizes how open and courageous Gen Z was, unlike any other generation to be sharing their mental health challenges and struggles.
• 11:50 – Although Gen Zs are open and courageous and tell us anything we want to know about their mental health or their thoughts on it. But as a generation, they do have the highest suicide rate in history, states John.
• 13:09 - There's a lot more learning and understanding that we need to address, states Christopher.
• 15:10 – John shares that Gen Z has taught him about gaming and gamers, this stereotype that they have had since the PacMan days of the lazy kid sitting in a dark basement maybe someone even in their 20s and 30s sitting in mom and dad's basement just playing video games all day letting their brain and life waste away is not accurate.
• 17:18 – Christopher says, there's so much to embrace about new generations and their innovation.
• 19:17 – John has started encouraging Gen Zs to put a section on their resumes, if they're active gamers, especially if they are in competition and are winning competitions.
• 21: 40 – John encourages Non-Gen Z adults to ask Gen Zs about their tattoos.
• 23:00 – What needs to happen with education, discusses John.
• 27:10 - If we don't deliver then as educators, Gen Zers are already turning to YouTube and other sources to teach themselves, mentions John.
• 29:00 – One of the funniest parts about Gen Z and certainly something unexpected was when they started telling him how much they love the 1980s culture of movies, music, fashion, etc.
• 30:28 - It is nice of a stereotype as it is because they're looking at us through the lens of the music, movies, big hair, fashion, and the neon, says John.
• 33:49 – Christopher asks John that every chapter in his book ends with two questions, one for the reader to ask themselves and one for the reader to ask Gen Zers. He asks, why it was important to him to do that for every chapter.
• 35:15 - This book in many ways is for parents, teachers, employers, and people who are working with this wonderful generation on an everyday basis, says Christopher.
• 37:00 – John gives an example of an activity that is helpful for us to engage in with Gen Z and Y.

Three Key Points

1. John says his number one piece of advice when it comes to Gen Z is if we want to know something, just ask them. One of the ad-raps that Gen Z give is that they seem so quiet and introspect or introverted and that's when they come off as being maybe a little bit aloof or rude in social settings. So, what he has learned after talking to 1000s of Gen Zers now across the country is that it's not that they don't have anything to say, but again, and again, they tell him that many of them have social anxiety.
2. John says - the more skill-based we can make every facet of education, it’s better. Especially for Gen Z as they want to learn skills. So, the traditional model of lecture, homework, test, and repeat, just doesn't cut it for them anymore. That's not to say that we have to do away with that model completely. There is still a place where lecturers are needed. Homework for sure is needed but if we as academic culture, and academic society, those of us who are in the academic world can take a look at every class we teach, and transition as much of it as possible to be in a skill-based model that's going to better serve our students and give them what they need.
3. John explains the reason for having two questions in every chapter of his book. He wanted this to be interactive on different levels, not only as a way for the reader to get to know Gen Zers better, but he also in that process wanted the reader to get to know themselves a little better and to check in with themselves and ask themselves the questions about how do I perceive my mental health? So, it became a great opportunity with those two questions at the end of each chapter for the reader to check in with themselves about the topic at hand, but also then to ask Gen Zers because again, he’s all about facilitating better communication between Gen Zers, and the rest of the world. So, he thought that those two questions allowed that to happen and gave some guidance and even sort of permission to the reader to engage in a better line of communication with themselves and with Gen Z.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The age range of Gen Z years is 10 to 25.” – John Schlimm
• “Mental health part of Gen Z is what initially drew me to these young people.” - John Schlimm
• “They've pulled me more into the realm of mental health advocacy.” - John Schlimm
• “I went to the source rather than trying to make up answers in my head or rely on stereotypes.” - John Schlimm
• “But for Generation Z, first of all, gaming has become a bona fide sport.” - John Schlimm
• “The US military are now actively recruiting gamers to come work for them.” - John Schlimm
• “One of the things I learned early on from Gen Z as well as they are taking the art of the attack to a whole new level of sentiment and storytelling.” - John Schlimm
• “As an artist and a storyteller, I'm fascinated by tattoos.” - John Schlimm
• “It's all about at the end of the day having fun and connection.” - John Schlimm

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• John Schlimm: Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Apurva Shrivasta about her life as a Book Reviewer.

Episode Highlights

• 01:38 – Apurva is a UX Designer by profession, and works for a Credit Card Company. Other than that, she’s also a book reviewer on Instagram.
• 03:13 – Apurva’s professional work is very similar to what one does in their day-to-day life and in motherhood.
• 05:09 – Just being their (Children) biggest cheerleaders is all about parenting and all these intricacies of reaching the child, states Apurva.
• 07:17 – Apurva’s children believe in the power of reading, and she’s so fascinated to see this valuable trait naturally emerge in her family, highlights Apurva.
• 09:23 – Dr. Carla about Apurva, no matter the child's age when she's reading with them, she has created sort of a bubble or cocoon in her own world where the two of them are exploring whatever's in the book together. She’s on an adventure in her own world.
• 11:10 - It does take a lot, not just cognitive energy but also emotional energy to tune into a child that way, says Dr. Carla.
• 13:25 – Dr. Carla enquires about how can toddlers learn problem-solving.
• 14:38 - It's very important to see how our kids react to certain things, and how do they carry themselves with confidence because that's important, says Apurva.
• 16:49 – Apurva highlights that just being in that moment present with them and not thinking about anything else and giving that undivided attention is important.
• 18:10 - Just being there with the kids is the most important thing without the intervention of technology, says Apurva.
• 20:34 - Kids have a brain where they can wander. So, why not be a model for them to display what the world is like and how it is so beautiful, states Apurva.
• 22:00 – Apurva shares her opinion on which book is better in certain age ranges.
• 23:20 – Apurva wrote a book which is, about how does a child’s brain works?
• 25:00 – They do like a lot of Montessori education for both her daughters.

Three Key Points

1. Apurva highlights - reading in itself creates that bonding and it's really important. We can really like read aloud or let them (Children) read on their own if they are a little elder, but when we're reading with them, we're creating our own world. It's significantly benefitted our child's brain and ours as well and we can see that wire but then it goes from our child to our brain and then naturally it prepares them for their academic success.
2. Apurva says - reading is one way where we express our affection and gratitude. We're given the opportunity that we can read it to them. It's like we should be really grateful for that and keep developing that habit little by little, even if it is like five minutes, 10 minutes. She thinks it's more than enough and when we see that smile on their face when we're together and not busy in our phones or doing other things and ignoring them, it's blissful.
3. Apurva shares what makes a really great children's book - first the story the characters that we bring in, what is the story depicting and also the ups and down. There's not a story that wouldn't have a down and then how do they shine up and brings out the moral out of that. So, all those milestones are really important in a story.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Being the child's advocate or cheerleader, is really important.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The more books, the better it is.” – Apurva Shrivasta
• “You are creating your own world when you're reading with a child.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “You can get creative with reading.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “It is joyful, but sometimes it is tiring.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “5 to 10 minutes of reading can make a difference in a child's life.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “Integrate practical life along with that. I think that's really important.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “Empathy and compassion are a theme that we really put more emphasis on.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “We also encourage a lot of unstructured day time too.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “That bond between your children and yourself, you wouldn't even know how far along that can go.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “A child who grows up with tuned parents, generally have really good self-confidence, high self-esteem.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Just imagine, there is no fear in imagining things.” - Apurva Shrivasta
• “What a strong power to have the gift of imagination and to pass that on to your children.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robins, Co-founder of Familius Publishing (A Husband, Father, Author, Fisherman, Backpacker, and Aspirational Musician based in the Central Valley of California) talks with guest Denise Marek (An internationally known Worry Management Expert and the creator of the CALM Methodology for worry-free-living. Besides, she is a Lecturer, Consultant, Writer, and Author of several books including CALM which is coming out on November 2022). Today Denise is talking about how to help mothers be calmer using the four-step process.

Episode Highlights

• 01:40 – Denise has been awarded the Toastmasters International Accredited Speaker award for professionalism, outstanding achievement, and public speaking. She was the first woman in Ontario to ever receive this honor.
• 04:00 - When you learn how to stop worrying, it's going to allow your parenting experience to be more present happier, and less stressed.
• 05:50 - If you're looking deeper into the CALM, the C stands for Challenging your assumptions, because most of the time we're worrying, or assuming that something we don't want to happen might happen, says Denise.
• 08:00 – Denise states there's nothing wrong with making assumptions, however, the trouble is when you make negative assumptions, that's when you can start worrying.
• 10:00 – The second step is to ask yourself, will it matter a year from now? Most of the things we spend our time worrying about are really insignificant in the grand scheme of things.
• 12:00 - A lot of worries are when you're thinking, and there's something very important to do. Take action to control the things that you can control and one of the things you can control is self-care strategies.
• 14:00 – Denise talks about mastering your mind by catching and correcting throwaway words.
• 16:10 - Sometimes you have to acknowledge that you are exhausted and there is a time and place to talk.
• 19:20 - It's important to let go of the things that you can't control. We can learn to control our responses to the things that are happening.
• 21:25 – You should not feel guilty if you're not doing your best, if you are not doing things appropriately, and are not productive.
• 23:30 – Denise mentions that when you're feeling worried, it takes away some of your enjoyment. So, do what you can to learn how to stop worrying now and if you feel like you can't do it for you and do it for your kids.

Three Key Points

1. It is important to learn how to stop worrying, because it's going to allow your parenting experience to be more pleasant, happier and less stressed. It is inappropriate if we're worried and thinking about things that could go wrong in the future. Once you have the tools to stop worrying, then you can share that poem with your children so that then when they grow up, they're will too learn to worry less and then it will pass it down for a generation. So, it really is a generational blessing to learn how to stop worrying as a mom.
2. Most of the time when we're worrying, we're putting ourselves in the future, all of the things that could go wrong, but in the present, everything's okay. So, in the present, remind yourself that all is well right now. That's just the way our bodies work, if you were actually in danger, your body sets you into motion, your brain will just jump to take you into action. When you're just imagining remind yourself, I'm safe right now.
3. We need to be on the lookout on the things that we automatically say to ourselves like, I can't do it or this isn't going right, etc. We need to pay attention to the words that we're speaking out because our minds will believe on these more. The things that we hear ourselves say, then the things we hear anyone else saying.

Tweetable Quotes

• “It's called CALM, and it's an Acronym, help us to understand what it means.” - Christopher Robins
• “There are some steps that you need to take to protect yourself, protect your family to protect your wealth, and that sort of thing.” - Denise Marek
• “Let's talk about the first one that I even mentioned in terms of all of those wave questions.” - Christopher Robins
• “When your environment is messy, or when your environment is unorganized, your brain sometimes can feel unorganized too.” - Denise Marek
• “I'm just talking about being careful that that becomes a habit.” - Denise Marek
• “My dad used to say do your best and forget the rest.” - Denise Marek
• “I have nine children and I can tell you that they've all come prepackaged, and we've done our best to teach and train them.” - Christopher Robins
• “Denise's book CALM for Moms comes out in November 2022, and visit her blog at www.denisemarec.com.” - Christopher Robins

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Ali Jensen (Founder/Author and a military spouse and mom of three kids) about her very busy career, motherhood, and her two books one of which is ‘Perfect for This Skin You're In’.

Episode Highlights

• 02:10 – Ali says that she grew up in the corporate world and worked in human capital consulting for a long time. She is very passionate about well-being.
• 03:45 – Ali loves military life for so many reasons, as per her it’s an amazing community.
• 06:10 – Ali and her son spend a lot of the time together but as an author, she feels the book world has been interesting in terms of growing together, reading together, and talking together.
• 08:25 – Dr. Carla asks about Ali’s secret to creating a happy, and healthy family as well as her recommendations as a mom of three little ones and husband in the Air Force.
• 10:45 – Dr. Carla refers to what Ali said about emotional intelligence, modeling healthy emotions, and letting your kids see that it's okay to cry, and it's okay to have conflicting emotions.
• 12:45 - You become proud of yourself for trying something new, and if it doesn't work, that's fine.
• 14:45 – Ali says that when they wake up they have cheesy eggs, avocado, and toast in the morning.
• 16:50 – Dr. Carla asks Ali to share one of her secrets to motherhood and life success.
• 19:00 – They talk about Ali’s new book – ‘Perfect for This Skin You're In’’. Dr. Carla says she likes the title of the book so much.
• 21:00 - We all have gifts within, so be yourself and let yourself shine but also be accepting and we're only better together.
• 24:40 – Ali says that she is glad that she keeps it alive because if she asked her husband questions then he finally says, please, no more questions.
• 26:30 - If we bring it down to that one baby step at a time, one piece at a time, it's easy to forget.

Three Key Points

1. Ali says that even if it's 30 minutes of getting outside in nature that helps them be happy and she thinks if she is happier it kind of sets the tone. So they try every day to get outside and make sure they're playing using creativity exercises. They definitely love sweets too but Ali’s daughter eats a ton of sweets and then she doesn’t feel good. So Ali thinks their main secret is their growth mindset and it is really tough. Also, they move so often, while they were moving in their last assignment in Colorado her daughters saw Ali crying and felt really sad. Ali thinks just being like a human and letting them know that you have all the emotions too. Ali is like you can be sad and cry and also be very excited for the next adventure and moving to a new country and exploring.
2. We are in a world where we think that fear and anxiety are always bad when in fact sometimes having just the right amount of fear, and anxiety reflects that there's a close opportunity ahead. This is just a sign that we're growing and we're able to expand because we do get a little too comfortable in life where we're not expanding anymore.
3. Dr. Carla thinks that curiosity is stout in many ways to judgments when we open up and we become curious and ask questions somehow and also her line of work. She doesn’t want to be a judgmental psychotherapist or author. When we open up and start asking questions and stay in that place of objectivity and beautiful childlike curiosity, we find so much on the other side. We find that we can act in a really vulnerable way in true ways.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I just love you talk about what makes you happy as a family.” – Ali Jensen
• “I have been either on the floor for meals or air mattresses, so that can be tough.” - Ali Jensen
• “My first book ‘Anything I Dream’ was inspired by my first daughter.” - Ali Jensen
• “Absolutely what a role model you are, not only do you have the flexibility and being able to adapt to your ever-changing world, but also creativity is clear that you're radiating light for them to see creativity and action.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I appreciate everything that you said and shared right there.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I think COVID made a lot of people reflect on you know, what do I want to do?” - Ali Jensen
• “We all mess up, we're human, but like what can I learn from it and how can I do better next time?” - Ali Jensen
• “It sounds as if you take your role as mom very seriously in a fun way.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Please tell about the genesis of the book and how it can be used to make women and moms and people, in general, feel good about who they are.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It sounds like a really exquisite book and I really appreciate what you were just saying about listening.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I think if you just focus on one thing.” - Ali Jensen

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guests Ale and Coco. They talk about how they use Instagram and the world of social media to help empower children, families, women, and everybody.

Episode Highlights

• 01:22 – Ale introduces herself and says having the internet for her has been this wonderful way of sharing things that she’s thinking with everyone and starting conversations, critical thinking, and picture books because that's what she’s really passionate about.
• 03:53 – Ale thinks that there's a lot to be said about how families are changing when they see picture books evolve over time.
• 05:03 – Coco introduces herself and says that she does a lot professionally. She talks about the theory-to-practice aspect of AR Education which is anti-bias, and anti-racist education.
• 07:30 - The whole idea of Librarian Fight Club is that she wants other people to start conversations as well, not just have it to herself, states Ale.
• 10:00 – Ale states that children's books are a reflection of society in general.
• 12:39 – Coco says that picture books provide a very specific structure for the reader and the caregiver who might be a little bit unfamiliar with the topic that they're trying to address.
• 14:23 – Dr. Carla says, if one helps their child develop critical thinking, all that they’re asking or suggesting is that they teach the child how to ponder and assess what they hear, what they read, and what they see so that they can look at it from different perspectives.
• 16:00 – Coco explains how we can use that mirror picture book to facilitate critical thinking.
• 17:35 – We need to pick up the book, and have a goal in mind of what we want to do with this book, or have the goal in mind before we pick the book, and then come up with two or three questions that we can plant.
• 19:25 – Ale mentions that she and Coco were fundamentally a little bit opposite in their approaches to life.
• 21:00 – Dr. Carla says that those who like to be preparing things, go with Coco's approach, and for those who like to fly by the seat of their pants listen to what Ale is saying.
• 24:19 - Children should be allowed to be the expert of whatever they're talking about.
• 26:16 –Coco and Ale are doing great work in allowing adults to come and give their voices but also teaching children at the same time almost in a parallel way, mentions Dr. Carla.
• 28:33 - It's important that young people are given the space to not only state their opinions, but also to see examples of adults in their lives, says Coco.
• 30:20 – Ale says that if we're disagreeing with someone on the internet, we can engage with them, but we should try and engage with them as we would with a colleague or a peer.
• 32:57 – Dr. Carla says, we should give a child the chance from a very young age to learn.
• 34:05 – Coco says, her mission aligns very similar to Ale’s where she wants families (biological or chosen) to be able to use books as resources to open up lines of communication and be able to find a space and a vocabulary for the things that may be going on inside of a tiny human.

Three Key Points

1. Ale mentions - it's important that we have spaces where people who have totally different ideas on things like books can talk and it's okay to not agree in the space. She does feel like one of her pet peeves with social media is that we all kind of exist in these Echo Chambers, like a bubble. We follow everybody who agrees with everything we say all of the time, and then every so often we get this weird reminder like a glimpse into this above all the people who are completely different, and every single opinion they have is different. There's never this time when we can come together and talk about something that is incredibly volatile.
2. Coco explains - critical thinking or when we hear folks talk about critical thinking skills or development, they're talking about the ability as a human to stop and think about for a moment of fact. So, for instance, critical thinking can look a whole bunch of different ways. It could be us reading a newspaper headline that somebody shared on Instagram and being like, hold on a second. It's the ability to look at a piece of information and think about it from all angles, it is a good skill for any human to have. It's definitely a big goal to help kids develop those skills.
3. Dr. Carla says - social media ways and technology have made us a little more separate from each other and Ale and Coco have initiated such a beautiful movement. They both are engaged in helping people to come together through books and reading as well as by having healthy dialogues. Dialogue doesn't mean we need to agree, it means we can be absolutely opposing horses and still be respectful.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Picture books are just so important for families to start conversations to build literacy.” – Ale
• “My passion really lies in helping educators.” – Coco
• “Taking the theoretical concept, giving it real life flavor so we can put it to use in our lives.” – Dr. Carla
• “It's okay to have differences. In fact, we learn when we have differences.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It's impossible to engage in critical thinking with children in families anywhere if you're not willing to accept the possibility that you could be wrong.” – Ale
• “We don't get as much engagement whereas the open-ended question invites at least one full sentence.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You shouldn't be barraging a child with too many questions during a reading because it breaks up the narrative.” – Ale
• “I pick up books that I think look good, and I don't pre-read them. I read them for the first time with my kids.” – Ale
• “I don't see a lot of value in yes/no questions unless I'm checking for comprehension.” – Ale
• “One of the things that as parents we should be thinking of is how our behavior online is creating safer, unsafe spaces.” – Ale
• “We can have our opinions and still be respectful of somebody else's.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I try to empower people to question what they're reading home with their kids.” – Ale
• “The more I know me and understand me, the more I'll contribute to a healthy happy family healthy happy world.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
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• Ale: Instagram Website Podcast
• Coco: Instagram Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Jessica Speer, an author focused on helping kids and families thrive. She talks about her new book ‘Middle School Safety Goggles Advised’. This is a deep dive into the middle school experience in a way that's fun, but also honest and filled with the voices of students.

Episode Highlight

• 01:07 – Dr. Carla says that she loves Jessica’s subject matter because it's all about kids, all about helping children and their parents.
• 03:22 – Jessica mentions that she spent a lot of time in seventh-grade classrooms because she really wanted to understand what is it like to be a middle-schooler today.
• 05:00 - It's not about blaming, shaming, should or shouldn't, it’s about waiting, slowing down, taking a look at what works for us, and what would create a healthy positive outcome, states Jessica.
• 07:02 – Dr. Carla states about Jessica’s book that the book helps prevent some of the things from happening. We can’t control everything but this book gives really solid tips and tools for self-awareness.
• 09:04 - It was a joy to work with kids and Jessica added as much as she could. She included a lot of their insights and wisdom in this book because kids have a ton and that makes it so real.
• 11: 35 – Dr. Carla enquires when we look at the book - ‘Middle School Safety Goggles Advised’, how is this book going to help make families happier?
• 14:23 – Jessica says, being in the classroom was so fun, and she loves getting to know the kids over the course of the year.
• 16:12 - Dr. Carla enquires from Jessica about what would she say to the parents who say, “What stress our child possibly could have as they are provided with food, clothing, shelter, and all of these luxury items?”
• 18:01 – Jessica shares, what parents can do to mitigate some of that stress in each of those three areas.
• 20:15 - People think middle schoolers need seven or eight hours of sleep, but as per research it is around 10-12 hours instead.
• 22:04 – Dr. Carla says, she is a firm believer in phone technology out of the bedroom and it's important for parents to have the same rules.
• 24:00 – If we do notice overtime that they're struggling more than they should be maybe not wanting to go to school and starting to complain and using gigs and things like that, that might be a time where we do need to step in and get some extra help.
• 25:38 – Dr. Carla enquires from Jessica if a parent notices that something's wrong and suspects that a child's being bullied, what would she say to such parent, and how does a parent proceed?
• 27:08 – Jessica states that kids need to lead the charge as to how we're going to fix it and how we're going to create this change.
• 29:20 – Jessica mentions they’ve done a great job of bullying awareness in this book.
• 31:00 - In all these situations, as parents staying as calm and grounded as possible and trying to get as much information and understanding as we can be a great place to start, mentions Jessica.
• 33:22 – Dr. Carla says that for a parent, it really helps them understand a little bit more what today's struggles are like, for that middle schooler.
• 36:00 - Jessica says, it was fun to write those and they're really thought-provoking for kids and adults.

Three Key Points

1. Jessica says about the book that it's kind of a gentle but fun way to help kids, think through common but difficult situations. So yeah, it's got beautiful illustrations that she’s super excited about, she thinks it's going to be a fun read for kids and a read that will help parents get their head back in the middle school game, what middle school was really like. This book will quickly bring them right back into their middle school years.
2. Jessica explains how this book is going to make families happier from the parent’s perspective, it's helpful to get their head in that space when their kids are about to enter or are in middle school, and then for kids, just the chance to kind of learn and grow and know that there are resources out there and there are resources within themselves and they've got choices. So, it's written in a way like they're reading what their friend might be telling them because there are tons of stories and quotes from peers.
3. Dr. Carla says - another one of the pieces that she really loves about Jessica’s book is that educators can read it and can take a lot of insights from the book. Parents can read it, better understand their children and have a better idea of how to help their middle school years. Not be perfect, nothing's perfect, but be healthy and fun.

Tweetable Quotes

• “This book is super interactive, filled with humor and fun and stories.” - Jessica Speer

• “The best insights I heard kids which I incorporated in the book is ‘choose your own ending story.” - Jessica Speer

• “It just gives a sneak preview into middle school for kids entering or like right in the thick of it.” - Jessica Speer

• “If they read it, they will tap into the tricky part of middle school.” - Jessica Speer
• “Some of the best insights I got when I had little slips of paper and just asked a simple question.” - Jessica Speer
• “The trickiest things that they named were, the social media is tricky” - Jessica Speer
• “There are three different kinds of stress.” - Jessica Speer
• “Parents can do a lot taking the pressure off that academic stress.” - Jessica Speer
• “We need to get those stress levels back down to a healthy level.” - Jessica Speer
• “It's okay to let go of activities.” - Jessica Speer
• “The kids I was talking to they were pretty clear they were not getting enough sleep.” - Jessica Speer
• “As humans sometimes have to learn how to deal with mean people, how to stand up for ourselves, how to not take things personally, and how to just move on.” - Jessica Speer
• “It's important for parents to understand that difference too because we don't want to go off the handle if it's not a situation of bullying.” - Jessica Speer
• “We all are on these journeys to figure out, what are our strengths, what are our weaknesses, where are opportunities to grow.” - Jessica Speer

Resources Mentioned

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• Jessica Speer: Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly (A practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California) talks with guest Dara Owen (A Filmmaker, Musician, Writer, and Comedian). Dara talks about how he uses his creative talent including many of them to help families to be happy. Also, he talks about how he dealt with depression for decades from the time he was a young child, till he was a teenager.

Episode Highlights

• 01:48 – Dara says, he has always been an artist, even though he didn't acknowledge it when he was growing up, because it wasn't something that was openly supported in his household as a profession.
• 03:57 - When Dara was six years old, they moved to Cork city.
• 05:00 – Dara explains how he came to the US.
• 07: 10 – Dara mentions that he has never regretted moving to the US.
• 10:08 – Dara says, he is prone to depression, and he can't just get depressed with everything else that he was doing. He tried other jobs, and he just thought he has to try to at least express this creativity whether it becomes a profession or not.
• 12:56 – Dara ended up working in the creative arts and got into a college in Australia. He studied for four years at Melbourne University.
• 14:09 - During the period when Dara was studying, he started doing stand-up comedy, and that opened up the professional world for him.
• 16:07 - Dr. Carla says about Dara that if he had taken a linear path of being a Dentist then how much more difficult it would be for him.
• 19:19 - If Dara had found his true calling there, possibly never would have left that place, and then he would have missed out on so many experiences, says Dara.
• 21:22 - People who don’t suffer from depression, are blessed in his opinion and lucky in many ways. They don't understand what depression is, states Dara.
• 23:41 – Dara says, it was recommended by a teacher of him or a Headmaster at a certain school to his mother that he should seek professional help.
• 25:03 – Dara’s mother said, thinking about what's best for him and his future to get on with it. He didn't know that until he was an adult and going through other bugs of depression and talking to his mother about it.
• 27:07 – Dara says, his Catholic education was maybe what brought him to that place.
• 30:27 – Dara says, being an entertainer helped a lot because being forced to get up in front of people, when he had professional engagements and express himself, helped get it out of him.
• 33:20 - When one suffers from depression, it’s a lifelong thing, one is never cured. One just learns to deal with it better as time goes on, says Dara.
• 34: 37 – Dr. Carla says there are still so many people who believe that depression is something to be gotten over that why don't you just be happy?
• 36:33 - Each time we go through a phase of depression, it can last up to maybe three or four months, says Dara.
• 38:00 - Sometimes depression comes out of nowhere and they suddenly start thinking we’re fine, states Dara.
• 40:46 – Dara states that he doesn't think his dad would mind him speaking about this because they're being so open and suffered terribly from depression.
• 43:30 - It feels better at the moment, then the next day it's back and the negative self-talk is back to self-soothing of that type is not the solution, says Dr. Carla.
• 45:34 – Dara says that he is probably mild manic depressive but controllable.
• 47:25 – Dr. Carla has so much respect for what Dara has shared. It is so much information and the heart he has imparted.
• 49:44 – Dr. Carla asks Dara to share a bit about filmmaking and how that gives him joy.
• 53:32 – Dara mentions that this comedy and his other films too, could be watched by families. There's nothing in there that somebody might be restricted.
• 55:58 – Dara shares, that they were all making a connection at that point, and he and Dr. Carla had never met but they connected to those comments.
• 57:24 – Being with that person in their pain at that moment and being present is the best thing that anybody can ever do, says Dara.
• 59:46 - It's the friends, it's the family, and it's the connection that is the most important.
• 62:30 – Dara says, during depression one’s face and whole being is so heavy. He described it to somebody one time as mercury in one’s veins.
• 66:04 -Dr. Carla states, that depression is a much-shortened space of what one lives with.
• 68:06 - Life is better each year because he understands it more, states Dara
• 70:36 – Thankfully in this country, we are advanced enough in the medical field and in the mental health field enough to know that help is available, says Dara
• 72:09 – Dr. Carla asks Dara to share two or three titbits that he'd like to give to our listeners today.
• 74:50 - We all have those commitments that we need to do, and we may not have that choice right now, says Dara.
• 76:43 – Dara has learned that setting those goals however small, is important to our sense of well-being and our sense of fulfillment and happiness.
• 78:20 – Dara mentions that he very quickly found that there is no joy in sharing the same material night after night.
• 80:06 – That moment made Dara understand why rich people say, wealth doesn't bring you happiness.
• 82:42 - When Dara was going through depression and he couldn't work, then one of his friends said he doesn’t have to achieve anything. He needs to congratulate himself for getting out of bed in the morning.
• 84:21 - Anything that gives us purpose is an achievement, states Dara
• 86:58 - We're all playing our parts, to the degree at which we’re being guided by our desires, says Dara.
• 89:40 - All of us are in a situation that's not as good as what somebody else has, but better than what somebody else has, states Dara.
• 90:19 – Dara states that as long as it's bringing us fulfillment and we're moving forward that's what's important.
• 92:36 – Dara wrote his childhood, wild horses in Irish childhood and his journey growing up in Ireland, depression, and those challenges.

Three Key Points

1. Dara says - the stigma that is in our society, and also the stigma that we carry ourselves as people who suffer from depression. The only way we're going to mitigate that is just to share and to say, look, we're people too.
2. Dr. Carla highlights about Dara that it has gotten better year-by-year, not because he has ignored it, not because he has solved it over with substances, but because he faced it, he has paid attention to it and he learned through hard work, how to manage it.
3. Dr. Carla shares - if one is suffering from depression, anxiety, mental health issues or not, they need to get in their way. They’re doing small things which can feel like a very big thing like getting out of bed, that’s good, that is right for them, that is a success for them. When we all contribute in our ways to the best that we can to that moment or that day, then we are going to do good things and wonderful things. We don't need to do great things, we can do small things with great love and when we do small things with great love, that is incredible, that is everything. Doing small things every day to the best of our ability that is living with love.

Tweetable Quotes

• “If I were to follow a different path, it would be intended with the path that I've chosen.” - Dara Owen
• “When it hit me as a teen. I thought that I would never ever get through it.” - Dara Owen
• “He said, if he gets help now if he gets psychiatric help, it will be on his permanent record.” - Dara Owen
• “Growing up in the Catholic Church, we are taught that suicide is the worst sin of all.” - Dara Owen
• “If you murder somebody, you can repent and find everything. If you take your own life, there's no repentance.” - Dara Owen
• “I went through another depression when I was working in London.” - Dara Owen
• “By the end of the show, not always but a lot of the times I would feel like Oh, my God, I'm cured.” - Dara Owen
• “One in four people suffer from a form of depression.” - Dara Owen
• “I certainly would not be as creative as I am without depression.” - Dara Owen
• “Depression is walking around with a 100-pound weight on your shoulders and not knowing why it's there and not being able to get it off.” – Dr. Carla Manly
• “I get a thrill from writing something that makes me laugh.” - Dara Owen
• “A great thing about being a writer is, you can guide the conversation.” - Dara Owen
• “It is a connection with other people that can help us through that.” - Dara Owen
• “The actual connection that I get with the people that I'm working on the set is, payment enough for the work.” - Dara Owen
• “Comedy has so many healing powers of its own.” - Dr. Carla Manly
• “The bouts of depression get shorter and less frequent as I get older. And I've learned to deal with it.” - Dara Owen
• “Anybody who's going through depression or any kind of challenge like that. Know that it's not forever.” - Dara Owen
• “There's always better choices than the worst choices.” - Dara Owen

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Dara Owen: Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Donna Tetreault. They discuss her new book “The CASTLE Method”, a life-changing, and relationship-changing book. This book helps in understanding all these concepts of self-parenting.

Episode Highlights

• 01:45 – Donna shares that she has been in this child area for a long time with a little bit of a stint in just general assignment reporting.
• 03:10 – Dr. Carla asks Donna, why compassion is important in a family?
• 05:00 – Dr. Carla enquires that how can we show compassion to the child?
• 07:50 - We need to have the acceptance of that child and who they are and not judge and not then turn that into something else that changes who this person is, says Donna.
• 09:37 – Dr. Carla highlights that when we remove that shaming vocabulary, the child is abler to prosper.
• 11:06 - We don't want to be doing the shaming because we don't learn when we shame, states Dr. Carla
• 13:35 – We need to log into emotional security. Donna doesn't think as parents we’re necessarily trained or taught how to provide emotional security to our children.
• 15:24 – Donna talks about SEL (Social Emotional Learning).
• 16:28 - It's about this emotional security that's built in early on and that also leads us to better mental health and well-being, says Donna.
• 17:38 - Trust is something that we have to build into ourselves as parents, and then also allow ourselves to trust our children, mentions Donna
• 19:10 – Donna says, if something comes up, trust what you're thinking and believing and then go to the education part of it and educate yourself on it.
• 20:05 - What happens when parents break the child's trust, or when the child breaks the parent’s trust? How do we handle that in ‘The CASTLE Method’? Dr. Carla enquires
• 22:24 - When we do something that takes the trust away from our child, we need to say we're sorry, highlights Donna.
• 25:00 – Donna says, she has to be curious and ask a lot of questions to find out the exact reason why something happening in the story or what's going on.
• 27:07 – We need to start teaching our kids self-love early on.
• 29:58 – Donna mentions they’re trying to hyper-focus on the ability to allow the child to be proud on his own.
• 31:42 – Another part of expectations is to promote positivity inside the family and the parents.
• 33: 33 - We can cultivate and create more joy but it's also okay for us to have times where joy isn't present, states Dr. Carla.
• 35:00 – Dr. Carla enquires about how can we use ‘The CASTLE Method’ to make families be happier?
• 39:52 - We are compassionate, and accepting, we are creating security, we create trust, and we have love and solid expectations. Expectations that are good, says Dr. Carla.
• 41:00 – Donna wants to teach young children that we need to be able to forgive our parents and understand and have compassion for them in where they were and how they were parenting.

Three Key Points

1. Donna shares that ‘The CASTLE Method’ is an acronym that's used as a metaphor to build the castle or the family of your dreams. Not the perfect family. But the best version of your unique family. And so, CASTLE stands for Compassion, Acceptance, Security, Trust, Love, Expectations, plus Education and all of these are foundational principles to build that sound foundation for your family.
2. Donna highlights - that acceptance is about accepting the individual, the child for who they are inside, who they are supposed to be in their lives and not trying to steer their lives, but allowing them to unfold as they should and following them on their path accepting their path.
3. Donna explains, that what she’s trying to do with her new Book ‘The CASTLE Method’ is, we're together, how are we going to grow each other together to build out the best mom and dad, the best kids, the best family, to the best of our ability, our unique family because no family looks the same. So, it's just about trying to get the family to be the best version of itself.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Empathy is being able to put yourself in somebody else's shoes, but compassion takes it a step further in that you are working to alleviate the suffering of another”. Donna Tetreault
• “When we have this compassionate mindset and we practice it, we're really bringing out the best in our family.” - Donna Tetreault
• “We need to accept a child for who they are in every way.” - Donna Tetreault
• “Acceptance is not only the antithesis of rejection, but it also means that we're not shaming and judging.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Our brains don't learn when we're shamed.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “One strategy that I use throughout the book and inside of this security chapter is emotional security.” - Donna Tetreault
• “We really need to practice this emotional security.” - Donna Tetreault
• “If they don't have the empathy or compassion in their leadership, they won't be good leaders.” - Donna Tetreault
• “Don't ever do something for a child that he can do for himself.” - Donna Tetreault
• “I know my kid and I want to help my kid be the best version of himself. So, I'm going to trust him.” - Donna Tetreault
• “If you are a teacher, and you're not following what you're doing as a teacher, you're not going to have any buy-in with the child.” - Donna Tetreault
• “We teach our children self-esteem, and self-esteem is super important.” - Donna Tetreault
• “Self-responsibility also builds self-love.” - Donna Tetreault

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Mifflin Lowe (Writer and Musician) about his book – ‘The Cuddle Book’, the power of Cuddling. He says it's about cuddling and he’d like to call this year -the year of the cuddle.

Episode Highlights

• 01:40 – ‘The Cuddle Book’ is good for kids up to the age of five, says Mifflin.
• 04:00 – Mifflin tells about a poem that he has written to the publisher - Familius.
• 06:00 – Dr. Carla says that the power of a hug or a cuddle is worth a million words.
• 08:10 – Dr. Carla tells Mifflin, “You are the musician, you are the singer, and you are the author so there's nothing to compare with you.”
• 11:30 – It’s the truth that for all of us no matter our age, when life feels tough and rough, the cuddles are truly magical. It feels so soothing and comforting to the body, mind, and spirit right before kids go to sleep.
• 13:50 – Mifflin talks about how this book brings families together making them happier.
• 16:10 - As a writer, there's nothing better than having kids react to your work and one of the greatest things that I've always enjoyed about being a writer and a musician for children is seeing them draw pictures.
• 19:05 – Dr. Carla thinks that the books like ‘The Cuddle Book’ can help families be more joyful, more connected, happier, and more positive in the long run.
• 21:30 - Mifflin mentions that if you ever want to take a picture of you and your children cuddling then send it to his email and they will share it with the rest of the world.

Three Key Points

1. ‘The Cuddle Book’ brings up these pieces in this world today where so many people are feeling alone and isolated, and COVID has kept us a little bit more in hibernation mode. It is important to remember that our need for contact or cuddles is such a primitive instinct that makes us feel better emotionally, mentally, and physically.
2. The hug, feel and warmth relax kids, it makes them feel happy and composed. Bedtime books are a big deal, it soothes and relaxes kids and helps them go to sleep. They go to sleep in the arms of love. It just sets the stage for then waking up feeling absolutely rest rested at peace and excited for the next day.
3. Mifflin’s book can inspire parents to help their children interact with the book. Not only can they listen to or read it, but also they can interact with it. By then making their poems or their drawings. The power of a story like this is to inspire creativity and healthy interactions.

Tweetable Quotes

• “That was like a grand slam for me because that's the most fulfilling thing an author can hope for.” - Mifflin Lowe
• “I want to read one little piece of your book, it's just it's so yummy.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I'm trying to get the kid to like, get into what's good about cuddling and what they feel when they do.” - Mifflin Lowe
• “I would love it if you would share as much of it as you'd like to.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I think it's a great thing to establish the habit of reading a book right away with the child as they understand the importance of togetherness, and embrace it.” - Mifflin Lowe

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based chats with guests Dame Sue Bagshaw and Michael Hempseed. They discuss their book ‘Calming Your Child: De-escalating tantrums, anxiety, aggression, and other challenging behaviors.

Episode Highlights

• 01:12 – Dr. Carla asks Dame Sue how does one earn the title of Dame?
• 03:04 – Dr. Carla mentions that this book is a handful for a lot of parents and caregivers out there who are looking at their children and saying “Oh, my goodness, what do I do, or how do I call my child?
• 04:16 – Dr. Carla enquires, when Mom walks into the store, little Billy starts having an intense tantrum right there at the store, what’s a mom to do rather than pick him up and run back out to the car?
• 06:17 – Michael says, we need to look a little deeper at what's causing this behavior.
• 08:07 – People can also have the opposite where they don't perceive so much information, we call it ‘Under Sensitivity’. A lot of these children tend to be quite clumsy.
• 10:00 – Dame says it's probably more to do with how the brain processes the information that's coming in from the ears or the eyes or the smell or the bits of skin.
• 12:39 – Dr. Carla highlights, that we look at things like school shootings, even if a child was not in that classroom, of course, they may ultimately have PTSD.
• 13:12 – Injury not only comes from verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse but also an experience of being terrified or the experience of being frightened, states Dame.
• 15:07 – Michael says, sometimes we underestimate the impact that children may have watching traumatic things on the news.
• 18:39 – Dr. Carla enquires from Dame, what are one or two practical tips that a parent could get in their hands and heart around?
• 20:15 – Dame states that anything that helps brain growth for children is important.
• 23:10 – What would he say about a parent who suspects that maybe a sensory issue is at work or would want to know more? Asks Dr. Carla.
• 25: 00 - It's about slowing down to find out what's going on underneath, rather than assuming that my child is a monster or my child is trying to get attention or my child is a drama queen, says Dr. Carla.
• 27:08 – Dr. Carla points out that our children, their brains need lots of sleep, but they're not getting very much sleep.
• 29:30 – Dame says, ensure that we have a bit of everything and not too much of anything.
• 31:05 – Dr. Carla imagines that food is a big part of an underestimated part of behavioral issues.
• 33:03 – Michael mentions that in the book, they offer approximately 40 or 50 different strategies because every child is different. But it's so important to know that there are things that can be done.

Three Key Points

1. Michael shares the key in his book that is helping families be happy together - a lot of families are getting torn apart by children’s serious behavioral issues. We often know that having a child with behavioral difficulties can put severe stress on a marriage. Many children with behavioral issues don't sleep very well at night. They can wake up with nightmares, or they can wake up screaming. We know that when people are tired or when people are sleep deprived, that's when Healthy Families don't have fun.
2. Dame shares the tips - the first is eating together is important. If one gets that habit right from the start when they're little and then keeps it going through teenage times that’s so helpful. The other tip is, if one has got more than one child, try and spend some time alone with each child. The number of bad behaviors that accrue from jealousy. Spending some individual time with each child is important.
3. Michael highlights how parents can know more about sensory issues – they can go down a formal diagnosis route, but other times it's quite easy to pick up. If they see a child that's putting their hands over their ears around loud noises, that could be an indicator. Another really clear indicator is, that if children either hit against a wall or on a desk repeatedly, it's often a really good indicator that they've got sensory issues. So sometimes they don't necessarily need a formal diagnosis, and then once they are aware of that, they can start to make changes. It's recognizing what is going on and not just thinking this child's difficult for the sake of it.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I think with children, we must try and fit from their point of view.” - Dame Sue Bagshaw
• “The way that we perceive the world is not the way that everyone else perceives the world.” - Michael Hempseed
• “People can also have the opposite where they don't perceive so much information, we call it as under sensitivity.” - Michael Hempseed
• Some children on the autism spectrum like their skin brushed with a hairbrush or special brushes because it feels very good and very soothing.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Teachers are reporting more students with sensory issues in the past, and in some cases, it could be a response from a pandemic.” - Michael Hempseed
• “Any person in any situation can experience PTSD if they feel overwhelmed, terrified, out of control by a stimulating event or overstimulating event.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Injuries are what is upsetting the brain processes.” - Dame Sue Bagshaw
• “It's really important not to let children watch the news.” - Dame Sue Bagshaw
• “It was found that the people that watched that repeatedly on TV reported higher levels of distress, and pain.” - Michael Hempseed
• “We sometimes forget that the brain soaks things in especially at night.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Families that eat together are happy.” - Dame Sue Bagshaw
• “Just around the table together, even if it's only for 5 or 10 minutes every day.” - Dame Sue Bagshaw
• “It's been discovered that core sleep is a significant risk for suicide.” - Michael Hempseed
• “Stay away from those sugary sodas and have some water.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Antonio Sacre, an American Author, Solo Performer, and Storyteller. Antonio speaks about his book ‘My Name is Cool’. This book is about what it is like to be in between two cultures and languages, and how do we celebrate and survive that. This book teaches children to be proud of their heritage and the things that make them different. This is inspired by Antonio’s personal history growing up as a Cuban-Irish-American.

Episode Highlights

• 01:00 – Antonio mentions, that his father comes from Cuba and his mom is an Irish American, so on his Cuban side of the family, they have all of these nicknames. He is called various names by different people.
• 04:12 – Antonio was in between two cultures and was never quite sure, how and where did he fit in there.
• 06:10 – One summer when Antonio was a kid, he went through every single novel and read them twice and from there began his deep love affair with books.
• 08:56 – We are those people who are in between cultures, languages, and parents, states Antonio.
• 10:20 – For years, Antonio has been making a living by telling stories to children in classrooms, libraries, and festivals.
• 12:02 – There are two women from the Familius group that are helping him with the book coming out next year and one of them is from Korea, and he wrote it specifically thinking of families who speak Spanish.
• 14:30 – This book tells us about what we do and how we do it when somebody is different from us.
• 16:10 - Antonio wants kids to go home and investigate, why they have that middle name? Why were they named after for whom with they named after?
• 18:34 - If you're embarrassed by your nickname and you don't want to share it, you don't have to, says Antonio.
• 23:02 – There's something fun in that other language, says Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 25:45 – Antonio has been working with teachers on a district level, how they can use the power of storytelling, and oral tradition to help their kids learn reading and writing.
• 28:00 – Parents should talk to their kids about who they know, there are 100 people in their family that their kids don't know about, mentions Antonio.
• 31:36 – Antonio is trying to remind parents of this simple thing that is just such a huge part of who we are as humans.
• 33:09 – Dr. Carla says she believes that so much healing takes place when we actively listen.
• 35:07 - These stories of our power or the power of our ancestors are fought can be formative, says Antonio.
• 37:50 – Talking with children about the hard things is helping them grow.
• 39:06 – We can't prepare our kids for every scenario, says Antonio
• 41:57 – Antonio suggests to all the parents who have adolescent kids that right now, they must be feeling like they have the worst kid in the world but they're not.
• 44:09 - If you're in trouble right now find a mentor, says the Antonio.
• 46:01 – Dr. Carla states that we all need mentors because if we don't have mentors, we struggle unnecessarily. Also, if we don't have mentors, we don't learn.

Three Key Points

1. Antonio is the reader that then led to the writer and he is also that person who lives in that blended world of two cultures. So, he has that to offer.
2. Antonio is writing for one specific audience member that little girl whose parent comes from Mexico and the other comes from Germany. And she's having the same thing he had. And then obviously, he hopes that it reaches the universal. There are a lot of kids who are going to feel different ways and he wants them to be proud of how they feel.
3. We do want to protect our children and the little ones in our lives, but we also want them to know that they have the power to move forward in life despite the obstacles that come our way.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Years later, from all those years of reading and years of the journal, journal keeping, I now can say that I am a writer.” - Antonio Sacre
• “I want kids and families as they're reading that book out loud to be laughing for sure.’ – Antonio Sacre
• “There were kids who would make fun of my dad in a way that was funny.” – Antonio Sacre
• “It's very hard for someone who doesn't speak the language to be able to speak the language in a way that sounds good to the language speaker.” – Antonio Sacre
• “Well, tell me about you or tell me how I pronounce your name or how do you prefer to be addressed, right?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I was named after my dad who was named after his dad who was named after his dad, so you can see it's the Cubans.” - Antonio Sacre
• “I'm named after a man I never met. I'll never meet who was my dad's best friend whom he never saw again.’ – Antonio Sacre
• “Well, it's cool, and we are all cool. Despite our differences because of our differences. If we take the time to slow down, we are all pretty darn cool people.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You bring classrooms and assemblies the gift of laughter and heart and connection and understanding through the power of a name.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If stories don't always have happy endings, we can use them as learning opportunities.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “One of the biggest gifts we can give as parents are to show you know here are the boundaries.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If we don't have mentors in our lives, then we stop evolving and transforming.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “A podcast can be a mentor, a best friend who has wisdom in an area could be a mentor somebody a co-worker or a partner.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robbins talks to Shaun Tomson, a former World Surfing Champion, who has been described as one of the greatest and most influential surfers of all time. Shaun is also a world-renowned leader, mentor, entrepreneur, environmentalist, and best-selling author. Today they’re going to explore principles of decimal living from his most recent book, The Surfer and The Sage.

Episode Highlights

• 02:20 – Christopher asks Shaun to tell a little bit about his background, how he got into surfing and the World Championships.
• 04:15 – Shaun talks about his father who was South Africa’s top swimmer and used to go to the Olympics. He became a world champion in many events around the world.
• 07:42 - There's a way to activate positive decision-making in this magic universe through the stroke of Science and Leadership, says Shaun.
• 10:02 - This book – ‘The Surfer and The Sage’ is a continuation of philosophy that addresses the eighteen relentless, breaking waves of life, from loss and aging to relationships and depression, and guides you to transformation.
• 12:30 – Christopher wonders and enquires that as a Surfer and as an Environmentalist what has the ocean taught Shaun.
• 15:50 - Shaun mentions that his parents have had so much impact on him that it has been a source of service, a source of inspiration, and it's been the way he became the world champion.
• 17:00 - What have you learned in writing the book that can help the family deal with the anxiety that perhaps some are experiencing today? Asks Christopher.
• 19:20 - This book is a common book that will take you through some of the stories and philosophical interpretations of the story.
• 21:20 – Christopher was so fascinated as he was reading about forgiveness, humility, and courage in the book. Every chapter amongst the 18 chapters is focused on life are opposites.
• 25:30 - Was there a moment in writing this book where you learned something you had an aha moment something you hadn't realized before? Enquires Christopher.
• 27:50 – Christopher states that he loves that quote by Gupta from the book – “Whatever you can believe you can begin. Boldness has genius, power, and magic so that it connects with anyone."

Three Key Points

1. While everyone runs something different, we have defined this compulsion that we want to be better today than yesterday, and we want to be better tomorrow than we are today. The underline is, that we'll help others to be better which means to help others to be part of a wider community.
2. ‘The Surfer and The Sage’ is not a list of rules to follow that guarantee success, health, or wealth, but rather a collection of advice from two guides who have traveled far and wide and suffered deeply, but still look forward to tomorrow with faith and hope.
3. This is not just a book that talks about this concept of hope and this concept of optimism. This is a book that talks about faith, and darkness. It talks about forgiveness, but at the same time, it also talks about guilt. It talks about optimism, but it talks about pessimism as well. So we have to see these aspects in order to make a positive step forward.

Tweetable Quotes

• “My primary mission is to help the world be a better place by making lives better.” - Shaun Tomson
• “After I retired from the church, I ended up working for Sony which worked for Patagonia for a couple of years, that was a wonderful brand.” - Shaun Tomson
• “The ocean has taught me so much about the basic principles of life.” - Shaun Tomson
• “At the beginning of the book, you say this world is too often, too broken for too many.” - Christopher Robbins
• “So the principal words have been stress, anxiety, depression, and disconnection.” - Shaun Tomson
• “You have to face the bitter too in order to know the sweet” - Christopher Robbins
• “That's the whole point that Familias assisted families, be happy individuals, families, whatever type of family you have.” - Christopher Robbins
• “I started with a statement that words have the power to change our mindset, and our lives.” - Shaun Tomson

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Pam Lobley who is talking with us about her book – ‘Why Can't We Just Play’.

Episode Highlights

• 01:15 – Pam is a writer, she started her career in sketch comedy, so everything she does or writes, she approaches it from a comedic standpoint.
• 03:35 – When Pam’s son was in fifth grade he said that he never had time to just play. Play for him was like having a friend over, goofing around in the backyard, making their own games, and going to a playground without any parents’ rules.
• 05:45 - Pam feels so lucky that she took the chance and slowed down, for me as a parent, it was the risk because I was doing something I wasn't sure was right.
• 07:20 - It's hard to be a parent and that was hard. Kids fought a lot like siblings and especially when they only had each other to play with, or it rained a lot.
• 09:15 – Dr. Carla asks if it is possible that this would only work for a stay-at-home mom?
• 11:05 - We're always comparing ourselves to other parents and we're always comparing our kids to other kids, which is so ridiculous, but it's very hard not to do.
• 13:00 – Dr. Carla enquires from Pam that for somebody who wants to be able to let their child play, other than the low expectations what are some key steps they can follow?
• 14:50 - There are times to step in when somebody's bullying, being super toxic, or anything like that. But other than that, that’s where we learn to negotiate.
• 17:20 – Pam says that the young kids instead of being on phone all the time, enjoy being loud and messy in the backyard or climbing all over the playground, or just pretending whatever they want with their friends.
• 19:10 - We often forget as parents, that kids as much as they might push back against structure and routine. As far as family rules go we need them for the kid’s sanity and for the parent’s mental health.
• 20:50 - Some people say minors need to play or my kids should be in academics. They're on the fast track to an Ivy League school who cares about play?
• 22:30 – We can learn great life lessons from watching our children play, and then sleep as they have no sleep issues.
• 24:00 – Pam suggests to the parents that they need to consider their children as they are. Parents shouldn’t be comparing their kids with others.
• 26:15 - Research shows us that happiness peaks when you get to that point of success when you have enough to pay your bills, or enough to have health insurance. After that, it can start dipping because external success is not as important as the beauty of internal success and the joys of big things like play.
• 28:20 - Pam thinks giving your child as much time to play will position them to be healthier and maybe better learners when they hit high school age.
• 30:30 – Young people today don't want to try in case they fail because they feel too much pressure to succeed all the time.

Three Key Points

1. Pam says you can build in this type of autonomous, independent, and free play for your kids. For instance, let's say you do need to have a daycare or a camp for your child. Look for the one with the least amount of structure, the most amount of fun, and low expectations. The whole idea is that we're supposed to be improving our children all the time is so exhausting. So it's okay to just be Spider-Man all summer long. That's a perfectly acceptable thing for an eight-year-old.
2. One of the steps parents can follow is to kids have an afternoon or several hours every week that is their own. The other step would be that when your child is playing with other children, resist the urge to step in and make it right because then the kids don't learn how to do it themselves, just pretend not to notice.
3. A few experts see that play for children is the best education they can have. They've done so many tests about how free play, autonomous, and self-directed play increase their creativity, resilience, and ability to think things through self-awareness. It's different when kids are teenagers because that's different but for kids under 13, play is the best.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I got the idea for this book because I felt like there wasn't a way in our kids’ lives.” - Pam Lobley
• “That happened in the spring and I decided that we would have no summer activity.” - Pam Lobley
• “Over the summer before I realized I did the right thing.”
• “They did drive me crazy, I'm not going to lie.” - Pam Lobley
• “The book I tried to be is funny, so there are a lot of funny stories in the book.” - Pam Lobley
• “I have to say it is the first time in my life I have ever heard parents say set low expectations.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Social media makes it so much easier to get immersed in that world of what I call toxic comparison, yet that is the antithesis of healthy parenting.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “What about the kid who says I want to be on my phone all day?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If you want a hockey-achieving kid, it's probably the best thing that you could do for them at that age.” - Pam Lobley
• “I think it's really important to see to see your child for who they really are.” - Pam Lobley
• “The big learning lesson is to let the children play, let them learn and grow. Figure out their path as they're growing.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Failure is a fairly recent interpretation of the word and that it used to mean to simply arrive at a different destination.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The book ‘Why Can't We Just Play’ is available wherever books are sold, it's in Audio Book and on the eBook format.” - Pam Lobley

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robins, co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks with guest Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County.

They discuss a challenging subject for all parents, i.e. how to deal with the anger, fear, sadness, and other associated issues involving Texas School Shooting, and other tragedies that families are witnessing and experiencing.

Episode Highlights

• 01:44 – Christopher enquires from Dr. Carla that there are parents who are dealing with anger, fear, and sadness in the wake of the many recent shootings.
• 03:37 - Dr. Carla says, parents, work on their feelings so they’re not overwhelming their children with unprocessed emotions.
• 06:05 – Dr. Carla states, don't pressure the child, create the opportunity to talk.
• 08:07 - If you have a child who wants a lot of space, pay attention that the child is safe in their safe space, mentions Dr. Carla
• 10:15 - The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and ultimately acceptance.
• 12:45 - It's okay as a parent, and caregiver that let me check in with a therapist on that or let me go Google it, says Dr. Carla
• 14:02 – Christopher asks Dr. Carla, how can she help us as parents, as to, what we need to do?
• 16:50 - We need to use our resources, internal and external, to work on being able to care for ourselves so that we can be the rock for our little ones or big ones.
• 19:51 – Dr. Carla points out that we should allow ourselves and our children to express themselves in creative ways.
• 20:56 – Dr. Carla tells that when we see the dramatic type of news footage, then as adults we think about what's happening with the children.
• 22:52 – Christopher enquires, what do we say when our children say why did this happen or why did that man do that?
• 26:40 – Dr. Carla explains how can we make our children safe.
• 30:32 – Christopher enquires if there are some resource books that Dr. Carla would recommend which might help parents deal with such situations.
• 32:22 – Dr. Carla says, there are definitely good books that talk about self-care on the Familius website.

Three Key Points

1. There are other resources for children, you don't have to be the only resource. You can pick up a book on trauma, a children's book, and read it to the child so that you don't have to know it all. Then maybe as you read, you're able to process some of what's going on for you.
2. Christopher mentions how we can make our children safe. We can really watch our communities, we can be a part of the schools and keep an eye on what's happening in the schools, volunteer in the schools, do mental health awareness campaigns in our school, get it on our radar, and depending on our child's level, on their radar. So, they feel safe and come to us.
3. It's important for parents to know that whatever they're feeling, the stress and strain and being pulled in two or three directions, what should they do, that's normal. Talk to someone about it, process it and then make the very best decision you can for your situation and move forward.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Process your experience, so that anything you're not processing does not leak out onto your child.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Be available to talk, don't force a talk, but welcome and chat with your child.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Telling a child don't feel your feelings makes them feel criticized, makes them want to close down rather than allowing them to feel their feelings.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Sitting down and making eye contact is one of the best gifts you can give your child.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The first step in being a parent and caregiver, you matter.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Your kids and you, need as much routine as consistency as possible.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Q&A session is one of the ways we build awareness and connection.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You can learn to be confident enough to say I don't know and that's okay.” – Christopher Robbins

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Jessica Lancaster who shares about her work as an Actor, Social Media Guru, Producer, and Waitress.

Episode Highlights

• 01:38 – Jessica says, she waited tables now for 20 years and she doesn't actually need to do it financially anymore.
• 03:51 – It's important for people with phones to keep them away while they eat.
• 05:30 – Jessica wishes she could have had more family meals; so many wonderful things can happen around the dinner table.
• 07:10 – Dr. Carla asks Jessica about her life as an Instagram Goddess.
• 09:05 - Instagram is a great way to unite mothers. Those are the groups and communities of support and connection that can be found only through Instagram.
• 11:35 – If the post doesn't make sense of what they're doing or what they're trying to say, Jessica guides them to a better target market of quote selling.
• 13:30 – Jessica mentions that everybody is doing cool stuff like the artsy design but now what's working is just authentic feeling in the moment.
• 15:38 - It's important to shop local and support these women and these moms specifically as the money's going right into their children.
• 17:40 - The movie making and producing came out of necessity to play good roles, mentions Jessica.
• 19:43 – Jessica says, she grew up in an interesting family where her mom was married four times, and her dad was married three times.
• 21:00 – Jessica talks about what the Screen Actors Guild (SAG) means.
• 24:40 – Good acting is that they want something different than you want, and that's what makes the scene explode, says Jessica.
• 25:15 – Dr. Carla states, that as a parent, and partner you are seeing the other and you're responding to them whereas, in acting, you are reacting to create contrast.
• 27:50 - The scene has the contrast, but in life, one should get what they want.
• 29:38 – Jessica says, when there is a contrast, it's an easy solution.
• 31:25 - One piece of advice that sticks with Jessica is don't give up on having to be right.
• 33:18 – Jessica shares, that something shifted in her and she learned that it didn't feel good to be in an argument, and she’s not going to do that anymore.
• 34:50 – If you're looking for a good movie, Jessica has got movies like ‘The Holy Fail’, and ‘Choosing Signs’ on Amazon.
• 36:10 – Dr. Carla says, we need more films about love, comedy, and lightheartedness.

Three Key Points

1. Dr. Carla Highlights - one of the things she loves about Familius Publishing is that they have a grassroots way of working where they honor moms, and families and are heavily focused on that. She’s a believer that the more we support our kids, the more we support our family, the family’s authenticity, genuineness, caring for the planet, and the happier we all are going to be in the long run.
2. Children don't know enough to make life easy so the parents have to come in. Unfortunately for many people, they don't know how they weren't given lessons, they didn't have role models on how to be in a relationship. So, the work that is involved for people is getting to a place within themselves and their relationships.
3. Dr. Carla mentions - it is about showing the world what it looks like to radiate love. Not radiate I am right, or I am better. You are bad, but to radiate love, because that's what Jessica does it's one of the things she specializes in naturally as she radiates love.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I tell people at my tables I'm like, if possible, please don't have your cell phones out.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “If you're talking and communicating, you're not just eating the food. You're enjoying the food.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “You'll go to someone's page and they have like 100,000 followers and 17 likes, that feels inauthentic to me.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “The more authentic you are, the more successful your page will be.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “There is less than 1% of SAG actors are making a living acting.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “The SAG makes sure that I get the residuals from that TV show I did or same with CSI or whatever.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “It sounds as if being a producer might not be or as an actor might not be as glamorous as people think there's a lot going on behind the scenes.” – Dr. Carla Carie Manly
• “TV and film would be very boring if everybody got a long period.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “People want to be seen and validated. So, the lesson of the day is to avoid the contrast in your relationships.” - Dr. Carla Carie Manly
• “I teach reflective listening, mirroring all of those things and being able to not engage in dichotomous thinking, where I'm right, you're wrong. - Dr. Carla Carie Manly
• “Just be good to one another.” - Jessica Lancaster
• “I think to me, that's the best kind of film is where the actors radiate love.” - Dr. Carla Carie Manly

Resources Mentioned

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• Jessica Lancaster: Instagram
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Mary Potter Kenyon (A Certified Grief Educator, Public Speaker, and an Author) who talks about her book ‘Called to be Creative - A Guide to Reigniting Your Creativity’. Mary shares how creativity helps you and your families to be happy.

Episode Highlights

• 02:50 – Dr. Carla asks Mary about her former work, and what she has been doing before she moved to this segment of writing a book – ‘Called to be Creative’.
• 05:00 – Mary talks about her book ‘Mary and Me’ which was about a friendship fuelled by 30 years of handwritten letters.
• 06:40 – Mary says even though she grew up in poverty, her mom was the person that she saw was making their poverty-stricken house a home.
• 09:00 – Mary also interviewed various people that she saw as creative, like a yoga teacher, a painter, etc.
• 12:00 - One of the studies that fascinated Mary was how adulthood takes a creative genius right out of us.
• 13:05 - What would you say is the reason there's that incredible drop-off in creativity? Asks Dr. Carla.
• 15:11 – Dr. Carla asks about a few pointers on how readers can bring creativity into their lives, the lives of their children, and the lives of their partners.
• 16:57 – Mary recommends to start making a list of those things that you love doing, and then making a list of things that you would do if time or money was no hindrance to you.
• 20:00 - One of the things Mary did to reflect the value of learning together was to start a creativity group at her local library, get together, and just try something different every month. She says her book is built to do that.
• 22:00 - Science shows that if you are being creative and using your natural creativity, you are going to the doctor less, there's less anxiety and there is less stress.
• 25:35 - When we find that passion, and you can hear it in other people's voices pointed out that they would love to see you doing this more because you just come alive when you're doing that.
• 27:-35 - Give yourself once a month date to check off the list of those things because if your grand pull yourself into too many directions and think well I started trade is a fair trade, you can feel overwhelmed.

Three Key Points

1. Mary thinks we all have it in us to be creative. What happens to that very creative little child, that we become an adult who can't fit creativity into their lives? So there's a little bit of science in the book - ‘Called to be Creative’ as Mary delved into the research and discovered that science is behind it, that we are designed to be creative.
2. Creativity can be what you are born with the gift, you might not think of as creativity it could be that you have a natural knack for relating to children or you have this empathy that you are a good listener that can be you can use that creatively in your job and life. A lot of people rediscovered their natural creativity during the beginning of the pandemic, doing something that they hadn't done for years like playing games with their children or getting outside and coloring with chalk on the sidewalks.
3. The main point of Mary’s book is to play. Put some play into your life as an adult. Allow yourself the time for creativity. Don't look at it as something that you have to save for leisure time, or you're going to be waiting a long time because there's not a lot of leisure time built into our busy lives. We have to have that in our lives as adults.

Tweetable Quotes

• “It would be a very sad state of affairs if grief was the only source of your creativity.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “So, that very first inkling that I might be writing about creativity was planted in 2011.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “I caught on to creativity in the form of writing all those years.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “There's a little bit of science in –‘Called to be Creative.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “So, with that background, tell me a little bit about some of the science.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The world is telling us that creativity doesn't make you money.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “First of all, we have to stop thinking of creativity as something that is chosen for you.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “Another thing that we have to do is look for childhood.” - Mary Potter Kenyon
• “Sometimes we need that energy of a tribe that kind of gets the creativity going energized.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Passion can ignite so many beautiful parts of the self.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I would say make a list and take you out on a date once a month. Give yourself 12 months to try these different things.” - Mary Potter Kenyon

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• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
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• Mary Potter Kenyon Website Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robins, Co-founder of Familius publishing, husband, father of nine, author, fisherman, backpacker, and aspirational musician based in the Central Valley of California talks with guest Noah BenShea, North America’s most respected and beloved Poet/Philosophers, Pulitzer Prize-nominated, and international Best-Selling author of 28 books translated into 18 languages. They explore the principles of successful living from Noah’s most recent book – The Surfer and the Sage: A Guide to Survive and Ride Life's Waves co-authored with world champion surfer - Shaun Tomson.

Episode Highlights

• 01:37 – Christopher says, it's interesting to think that a real champion Surfer Co-authored a book with a world-famous Poet.
• 03:50 – Poetry in many regards is the business of putting a frame around a moment around a witness that you give to a moment that might otherwise pass unnoticed, unknown, says Noah
• 05:38 – Noah shares, what he learned about life through his experience with Shaun, and the parallels that exist with the ocean and with waves in the surfing.
• 08:10 – Shaun spends more time in the water than he spends typing, and Noah spends more time typing than being on a surfboard, says Noah.
• 12:02 – Christopher reads a section of the book – “When there are storms overhead, drop down into your mind ocean and ride the waves under your waves, the calm in your storm is the calm within you, your calm is calmly waiting, your calm is not at a distance from you unless you are at a distance from you.”
• 14:45 – Noah says, finding that calm inside of you is first recognizing that if you're in a state of turmoil. The turmoil is yours, and the disquiet is yours.
• 16:20 - Your working life is who you are and how you conduct yourself with you, says Noah.
• 18:42 – Noah mentions, that life is a gift, and prayer is a thank-you note. Write thank-you notes, and send those thank-you notes out.
• 20:02 – Noah states, that the only company that we can be assured of on that journey is ourselves.
• 22:35 – Before Noah gets to his prayers during his meditation is that he imagines that he is a prequel to himself.
• 24:55 – Noah’s feeling is that each of us is a time machine, and in our memory, we can go backward in time. In our imagination, we can go forward in time, but the only place you can steer your time machine is in the now.
• 26:55 - In working with Shaun there were times in a story that he would tell about loss, but he wanted to be wise enough to be silent, states Noah

Three Key Points

1. One of the real strengths of this book is that at the very cost of anything else both Shaun and Noah wanted to bring honesty and candor. Just two straight-ahead guys who are a little further down the trail than a lot of other people in life perhaps, and bring that to it. So, to Shaun the ocean of the idea of a wave rising or waves falling, catching a wave or missing your wave, or the idea that you’re not a drop in the sea, you are all the drops in the sea in a philosophic sense was very easy and a comfortable fit for him. While they both spoke about doing this book, Shaun was the one who decided that he (Guest) would be the sage in this book.
2. You're not in charge, what you are in charge of is you. What the world delivers to your doorstep each morning isn't your responsibility, your responsibility is your reaction to it, and it's calming to the soul. When you realize that your sole responsibility is who you are and how you conduct yourself. That's the only thing you're in charge of for the moment and in the moment. Your working life is not what you do, but who you are and that's in the book. So, our work in life is oftentimes making us self-important.
3. In the same way, as we leave the woods behind, we leave the boat behind, and we leave the river behind. We wander through where we are in that moment, and the only company that you can be assured of on that journey is yourself. So, it would be wise to be good company to that company on that journey. Our ability to be good company with others is premised on our ability to be good company with ourselves.

Tweetable Quotes

• “A poet's work is not always writing poetry but discovering poetry and putting the appropriate silence on both sides of it.” - Noah BenShea
• “Feelings are like tides, they come and go, and not to get too attached to your feelings or don't confuse how you feel with who you are.” - Noah BenShea
• “All courage happens on a private scale on a private stage.” - Noah BenShea
• “You can't like others if you don't like yourself, you can't love others if you don't love yourself.” - Noah BenShea
• “People don't do things to you; they do things for them.” - Noah BenShea
• “Self-pity is the worst way to discover self.” - Noah BenShea
• “The two great days in a person's life are - the day they are born and the day they know why they're born.” - Noah BenShea

Resources Mentioned

• The Surfer and the Sage Book
• Noah BSenShea: Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Tamara Girardi, a full-time English Professor for Community College, and an author who writes picture books and young adult fiction. On today’s podcast, Tamara is talking about her book ‘Why, Daddy? Why?’

Episode Highlights

• 01:50 – Dr. Carla asks what led Tamara to write the book ‘Why, Daddy? Why?’
• 04:15 – Tamara thinks that socialization comes from peers, from parents, and maybe from teachers, and overtime questions are not as celebrated as they once were.
• 06:20 - It's interesting to see how Gabriela (Tamara’s third child) has transitioned to taking the information that she's hearing and summarizing it into a cohesive answer, says Tamara.
• 08:32 – Tamara mentions that this story is a one-on-one story between the cub and the daddy.
• 10:13 - When Tamara had another child since then she thinks love grows and multiplies. There's no limit to love, but there is a limit to being patient.
• 12:00 - When you're reading with your child, it's not that you're reading but other unhealthy habits can be addressed as well through that one experience.
• 14:00 – Tamara hopes that people that get the book will read it many times as their children grow and with multiple children at different ages.
• 16:15 - Each one of Tamara’s children had different board books that were sort of the signature book when they were at that age, and reading them now is very nostalgic.
• 18:00 - Writing picture books were special, Tamara started writing picture books at a difficult time not only in her writing career but in her life as well.
• 20:00 - As a parent, we think a lot about our children, and we talk about them especially when they have difficulty with other friends, or if they're feeling that someone wasn't kind to them.

Three Key Points

1. Tamara says that ‘Why, Daddy? Why?’ story was inspired by her third child Gabriela when she was about three years old. As a Professor Tamara noticed that her college students were often hesitant to ask questions, however, it was fascinating to see how her three-year-old asked her 100 questions a day and was very unapologetic about it. This started to make her wonder about that progression. Also, she realized that questions are one of the most wonderful ways of learning about life.
2. The story in the book is about the closeness and connection that can come from questioning and having somebody respond to you in a healthy and loving way. The most beautiful part about this book is that it is setting the stage for children to learn that this is how you can ask a question, and get a response in a healthy way. The story is also teaching parents that this is the kind of dynamic that is helpful and healthy for children because it is such a busy world and we sometimes forget the importance of slowing down to be patient with children in our lives.
3. Kids start to learn a little bit multi-dimensionally and let's say one of the questions in the book is – “Why do you wear a watch?” Then the dad answers – “So I know when it's time to give you a bubble bath.” But obviously, there are many reasons that dad wears a watch, it's not that one reason. So it's special for kids to start thinking multi-dimensionally in that way that it's not everything, it’s just like the singular connections. But there are these different elements just like the 10 habits.

Tweetable Quotes

• “My house is a little bit beautiful and chaotic at the same time which a lot of families out there can relate to.”– Tamara Girardi
• “I think just asking the question was something I started thinking about.” - Tamara Girardi
• “So, there is an art to asking a question.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The book is a board book, and the main characters are a Daddy Bear and his little cub.” - Tamara Girardi
• “That's what I work on every day, its being as present and as patient as possible.” - Tamara Girardi
• “You're helping the child feel loved and seen and doing it also in a playful way.” - Tamara Girardi
• “Books present the opportunity for conversation and interaction that allows us to see from other people's perspectives.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “There are questions in the book that came from three-year-old Gabriela” - Tamara Girardi
• “Sometimes we can't do a whole lot, but when we are powered by love and the loving, supportive people around us, we can do magnificent things.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
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• Tamara Girardi Website Instagram Twitter Facebook
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Emily Lauren Dick who talks about her book Body Positive: A Guide to Loving Your Body. In her book, she is motivating women to love themselves no matter what body they exist. This book tells us about how diverse beauty looks.

Episode Highlights

• 00:55 – It is the most beautiful book, a substantial book, and wonderful for the ears, the eyes, the mind, and the heart, says Dr. Carla.
• 02:06 – Emily thinks she doesn’t know anyone who has not suffered from body image issues. So, that was her inspiration for writing the book.
• 04:55 – Dr. Carla enquires, how do these body images make women and men feel insecure?
• 06:41 - People that are put on this pedestal and in the media, even they don't look like themselves today, there's even mechanics in the video that create people, states Emily.
• 08:05 – Dr. Carla talks about a recent study which says when females were shown photos of larger women, their preference for thin bodies decreased. However, when they were shown images of thin women, they preferred thinness.
• 10:04 - We talk about mental health, illnesses, and disease, but we don't talk about how big an issue this is in society.
• 11:30 – Dr. Carla shares that a very wise person told her recently, that advertising in today's realm is based on getting to people's insecurities. They want us to be insecure because if we feel insecure, we will buy this and that.
• 13:15 – Emily highlights, we are so confused as people and as a society because we've been taught that when our bodies feel bad or our insides feel bad that we're the problem not to look at how the inner body works.
• 14:21 - When you permit yourself you will naturally be drawn to eating a balance of foods because you're listening to your body.
• 17:30 – Emily gets a lot of feedback about this book as so many parents and moms have bought this for themselves as well as for their children so they can show them what diverse beauty looks like.
• 19:19 – Dr. Carla says, the photographs are exquisite in which Emily has shown women in their beautiful, exquisite imperfection, which is how we are as humans.
• 21:23 – The women revealing the imperfection that we are taught to hide and that's just so touching, says Dr. Carla
• 24:06 – Emily states, that she can't wait to see what the world will look like when the focus is not on women's appearance.

Three Key Points

1. When Emily went to university and learned about the male gaze and sociology and all these different feminist perspectives sort of the world we live in. She was inspired to make this information accessible to people, especially young girls and women who didn't have the same experience that she did. She had that aha moment in the university and realized why we have body image issues. There are so many things that we can do to challenge the way the world views women's bodies today.
2. The more we see people that look like us, the better we will feel about ourselves and our bodies and that’s why so many companies that have adopted this body-positive sort of marketing platform for their advertising and have been so successful because we are dying to see people who look like us in clothing in the media in online so we want it because it makes us feel good.
3. This is a healing book for so many. It's a book that brings us together and makes us feel like we're not alone. One of the things that this diet culture does is makes us feel like we're the only ones in the world that feel negatively about our bodies and that we're the only ones who have stretch marks or fat or acne and all these things and when we come together and realize we're all going through this together, that is so healing.

Tweetable Quotes

• “The male gaze is objectification; it is seeing a woman and viewing her as an object and we as women view ourselves through that same lens.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “It is extremely harmful to the way we see ourselves. Women are taught that their priority is to be beautiful.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “When we feel our bodies are wrong, we feel like we're wrong as people.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “You create an ideal person and they don't exist.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “The people who are killing us because they're feeding or creating or recirculating this idea that fineness is the ultimate goal of life.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “Sometimes it's just a matter of listening to our physical bodies.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “Forget the mirror that's in the bathroom, but also the mirror of society and say I want to feel good in my body.” - Emily Lauren Dick
• “Sometimes you need to rest your body on the couch and sometimes you need to go out for a walk because that's what feels good.” - Emily Lauren Dick

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
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• Emily Lauren Dick: Website Instagram
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guests Sabrina Moyle and Eunice Moyle (Founder Sisters of the company - ‘Hello! Lucky’) about their book ‘I Believe in You’. They also talk about their company ‘Hello! Lucky’.

Episode Highlights

• 01:20 – Sabrina and Eunice are sisters and they grew up in Asia. Their mom was born in China and raised in Taiwan and their dad worked for the US government as a Diplomat.
• 03:00 – Sabrina refers to the book she read by Educator Barbara Coloroso - ‘The Kids Are Worth It’, where she deeply felt resonated with the messages in the book.
• 05:15 – ‘I Believe in You’ is about having Faith and Trust that no matter what, your child is going to be okay.
• 07:20 – These life lessons are a lifelong process and this is something that continues until adulthood.
• 08:30 – Dr. Carla states that the fifth and sixth principles reminded her of attachment and how important it is to have a child have anyone in his life know they are a priority.
• 10:16 – Eunice mentions that one of her parenting mantras is to always tell kids the truth even if they are asking the weirdest question.
• 12:20 - Parenting is indeed one of the hardest jobs ever made so Sabrina and Eunice are helping support joy in a parent's life to be joyful parents without taking away the truth, says Dr. Carla.
• 14:25 - There's such tremendous joy that can come with this process if we allow ourselves to learn from our children as well, says Sabrina.

Three Key Points

1. The book – ‘I Believe in You’ is about building the resilience and the self-sufficiency of children. It gives out six important messages in the context of raising your child – No matter what, I have faith in you, I trust you, I know you can handle this, you are listened to, you are cared for and you are very important to me.
2. It is so important that if kids ask questions then respond to them with an age-appropriate answer with honesty and truth, this is all we can do as parents. Be direct, be kind, and be honest in the answers you give to kids.
3. No doubt parenting is one of the hardest jobs and is incredibly challenging, but it is also an important opportunity for transformation. Use parenting to transform yourself into a better human being so that you can model that for your child. What's beautiful about being a parent is you're having to teach all of the basics of being a good human being from first principles to someone who hasn't learned them before.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Eunice and I started our company ‘Hello! Lucky’, which is a greeting card company, originally and now it is a Design Studio.” - Sabrina Moyle
• “The book ‘I Believe in You’ was inspired by the educator Barbara Coloroso.” - Sabrina Moyle
• “Let’s talk about the six concepts/principles, that are so critical in the context of raising Children.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Children need to know that they are a priority.” - Sabrina Moyle
• “I'm very sort of organic parenting style, Serena does a lot of reading and likes thinking and I kind of, go with the flow.” - Eunice Moyle
• “Parenting can be hard like it's not a joke. It's like one of the hardest jobs I've ever had.” - Eunice Moyle

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Sabrina Moyle and Eunice Moyle Website Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Libby Kiszner who will be talking about her book ‘Dear Libby’. In her book she makes us discover the author within. Libby guides you to tap into your creativity, hone your strengths and create a book that resonates with readers. Whether you’re a first-time author or a seasoned publisher, acquire the tools you need to.

Episode Highlights

• 01:20 – Libby shares that she lives in Jerusalem, Israel. She grew up in Brooklyn, then lived in Montreal for seven years, and then came to Israel, so she has been traveling, wandering, and exploring the world.
• 03:10 – Dr. Carla asks Libby to tell more about her book - ‘Dear Libby’.
• 05:15 - Different circumstances require different answers the same person asking the same question in a different situation might need to have a different answer, says Libby.
• 07:55 – Dr. Carla states that the best we could do is to try to when we do try answer or something to offer sound and sage advice or insights as possible.
• 09:08 - One of the reasons Libby loves children's books so much is because you can learn so much from them because of the purity.
• 11:15 - As children, we might think we could find a way to make it better for everyone, says Libby.
• 13:10 - Part of our journey is learning how to transform our pain and fears into joy, and doing it mindfully, states Dr. Carla.
• 15:30 – Libby highlights that not everybody knows how to do that, or what would be the perfect way to comfort us in any given moment. But there is someone in us who knows how to comfort you to comfort yourself.
• 17:00 - The last chapter refers to keeping growing because connecting with others helps us grow.
• 19:10 – Libby says, self-expression is a gift that we all have, and she learned to express herself from a very young age.
• 20:30 – Dr. Carla mentions whether it's cooking, gardening, writing, or singing, whatever it is when families make space for that you've made space for your children in that way.
• 23:10 - Libby believes that what makes a happy family whether we have one, nine, or twenty children is the calm, comforting presence of a nurturing parent.
• 25:25 – “I believe that everyone has transformational power of words within them.” says Libby.

Three Key Points

1. There's so much pain in the world and everybody's struggling with their challenges and difficulties. In a way when people read these painful stories they feel not alone but on the other hand, I think they're dealing with so much already. So why add to that why not bring more light stories, more happy stories, or positive stories?
2. Libby mentions that as an adult, we get to realize that suffering, pain, joy, and hope they're all part of life. It's all that makes us living beings have a human experience where we grow from the pain we come out the other side with joy.
3. Libby narrates ‘Chapter-6’ of the book where you connect with others and also by expressing yourself and finding the vehicle through which you love to express yourself. Some people love to express themselves through them. Other people like to express themselves through painting but by expressing yourself you find your kindred spirits

Tweetable Quotes

• “I had three in Canada and five in Israel.”– Libby Kiszner
• “There can be many answers and many options.” - Libby Kiszner
• “Life is uncertain answers are sometimes a little uncertain, so let's just explore.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I was seven years old when I found the first book I read.” - Libby Kiszner
• “Some people say writing is so joyful, and other people will say writing is so hard.” - Libby Kiszner
• “How does that book tell us to take us on a walk into certain parts of your book, which I won't reveal because I think it's so fascinating.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The ‘Dear Libby’ book came out of 15 years of listening to questions.” - Libby Kiszner
• “When you express yourself you're like singing a song, you're in harmony with another person.” - Libby Kiszner
• “What a beautiful way of expressing it and I also love what you were talking about writing.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Everyone can allow who they are to come through and whatever style wants to come through.” - Libby Kiszner
• “I can see how grounded, centered, and serene you are.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Christopher Robbins talks with Guest Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California. Dr. Carla discusses her book ‘Aging Joyfully’. This book provides an important and meaningful window into womanhood for those approaching 50 and beyond. She also talks about the issues in the book that are not gender-specific.

Episode Highlights

• 01:00 – Christopher mentions that Dr. Carla focuses on helping others achieve joy and balance from the inside out. She is the author of multiple books.
• 02:05 – ‘Aging Joyfully’ - is one of those books that people of every gender can benefit from.
• 04:00 – Christopher asks, what are the unexpected delights of aging that Dr. Carla is referring to?
• 06:40 – The Gen ‘Z’ & millennials seem to be far more willing to embrace self-discovery, mindfulness, intentional learning, and growing, which Dr. Carla is thrilled about.
• 10:34 – Dr. Carla believes that our chronological age is just a number.
• 12:30 – Christopher enquires how can we without remorse look back on our own mistakes and experiences while still looking forward to this unknown future?
• 13:50 - It's about learning from that experience, vowing not to do it again to yourself and to somebody who may have hurt making amends and moving forward, states Dr. Carla.
• 15:16 – If you're not able to forgive, it's about doing that work to see where is that lack of forgiveness coming from.
• 17;40 – Dr. Carla says if you are the person who was fortunate enough to have healthy behavior modeled for you, then those life lessons can be pulled upon and used for the rest of your life.
• 18:22 – “Why did you choose to work joyfully and what does that mean for you?” asks Christopher.
• 22:02 - If we learn how to attend to our joy which is one of the gifts that can come with the least amount of time we have as we get older.
• 24:28 – Christopher enquires from Dr. Carla that when she talks about wisdom and grace, what does that mean in terms of aging?
• 26:12 - We must cultivate our wisdom to see the impact we have on ourselves.
• 28:22 – Christopher asks about the women in our lives and what advice would Dr. Carla have for them as they interact with men.
• 30:40 – If somebody that we love is not taking care of themselves and we’re afraid of their health because they're over drinking, overeating, using substances, or that sort of thing then instead of criticizing your partner, partner up with them.
• 32:55 – Dr. Carla mentions, the author of the book ‘Fatherhood’ said, every man should want therapy in his marriage. Therapy is a must in every relationship in every marriage.
• 34:25 – As a Therapist, Dr. Carla personally takes it as a great privilege when people bring their issues to her and want to work on them.
• 35:01 - If you go and spend your money on a new car, or a new computer, that's only going to give you temporary pleasure why not spend some money on some good therapy and increase your joy.

Three Key Points

1. ‘Aging Joyfully’ is one of those books that people of every gender can benefit from and truly women because we start having aging concerns, unfortunately, as early as our, women of every age can learn a lot from the book. She believes that people of every gender because our issues are so much the same.
2. According to Carla - it’s nice to have enough money to have a roof over our heads and to feel safe and have clothes that are comfy and all of that but most of the time we get distracted by it and we get distracted by society and we forget to attend to our joy.
3. We have lost our wisdom. We are so in the pursuit of intelligence and facts and capturing more that we are on the verge of losing our sacred planet. Many intelligent people have the very little capability within their relationships with their relationship to their divine and to caring for the planet that gives us life, that’s not wisdom.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I believe that almost every issue in the book, including things like incontinence, and sexuality, are something that is not gender-specific. - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “No matter what age we are in life, we face physiological and mental issues that aren't gender-specific.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• "I work with people of all ages and it's one of my great joys and a privilege that people let me into the most intimate places of their lives, places they don't share with their best friends or their partners or anyone else.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “We realize, oh my goodness, I'm just beginning to get to know who I am.”- Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Do learn more about who you are and who you want to be.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Chronological age, I think is simply a number, just like a scale weight is a number, and it’s meaningless.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If I'm carrying resentment, it's harmful to me, it's harmful to you, the person I'm in a relationship with, and if I'm presenting myself am stuck in what I did wrong in the past. It’s only causing me anxiety, stress, and depression.”- Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It seems like so much of what we learn as children is applicable for the rest of our lives.” – Christopher Robbins
• “The parents saying don't steal and the parents stealing or the parents saying don't use drugs, but the parents’ using drugs. So, all of that conflict.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If we cannot see the abundance around us the abundance of nature, the abundance of sky and water and all those things, then it becomes a circle of anxiety and depression.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Wisdom is about knowing what is best, right? So, I can have the intelligence to create the world's most wonderful vehicle. But it takes true wisdom to be able to say, how will this help the planet?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “If I have a message for men about ‘Aging Joyfully’, I didn't care if you're 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or beyond. Therapy is not a curse, it is a blessing.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It's not that it's a curse to be in therapy, it's a blessing. It takes great courage to go into therapy, and a great deal of work and perseverance.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Gabe Jensen (Author-illustrator of his book ‘NEVERWOOF - The Dog That Never Barked). Gabe gives some insights about his book and takes us through the journey of publishing this book.

Episode Highlights

• 01:10 – Gabe says this is his debut book, and it's something that he has been working on now for approximately 30 years trying to become published.
• 02:00 – At the age of 19 Gabe wrote a story which was about little creatures that are responsible for night happening.
• 04:10 – ‘NEVERWOOF’ is such a good dog, and he never barks. Gabe says anyone who has a dog can appreciate a dog who doesn't bark a lot.
• 05:25 – Dr. Carla mentions, the upside/downside to the story is that NEVERWOOF is very calm, grounded, and impeccable, and yet, he might have to step out of that calm space to do something good to protect his people.
• 06:30 – The general message of this book is so beautiful. NEVERWOOF figures out a way to stay true to itself, while still helping his family as well as his house.
• 09:30 – An important part of the message in this book is to say that you're going to try things on that don't feel right but that is okay, reveals Gabe.
• 11:10 – Gabe is trying to carve out a little niche of a more classic, and very simplistic style with just two colors. He is hoping kids will respond and connect with the book.
• 13:15 - When we see a simple message as we're reading to a child, we know they are getting it on some level, no matter the age, and we are getting that reassurance, says Dr. Carla.
• 15:20 – Gabe refers to the gatekeepers while publishing the book - that for better or worse, even if the story fails and doesn't get published, he feels he is in integrity with himself.
• 17:30 – Gabe’s father has been a big inspiration for him as he is a Science Fiction Writer. He was fairly well known.
• 19:40 – Dr. Carla asks Gabe to give about three or four takeaways for the listeners.
• 21:05 - If you're interested in creative pursuits, explore those even if you don't feel like you're an expert in any of them, stresses Gabe.
• 23:00 - If you love the work that you're doing, keep focusing on that and let that push you through a lot of the negativity that you might find.

Three Key Points

1. In this book, NEVERWOOF hears a fire engine go by; he follows the fire engine and saves a baby. But all the time he keeps this behavior of calm about him until one night when his family home gets invaded by a robber named Stinky Sue. Now he has to decide what to do. Is he going to stay true to himself?
2. Gabe thinks that kids, and even adults, on the one hand sometimes struggle to be true to who we feel we are but at the same time, especially those kids and adults that may be shy, but they constantly feel the pressure to be kind of get over that. The key is to figure out a way to stay true to that part of yourself that may make you more of a quiet person, but at the same time, you can find your voice in a way that's true to you.
3. Part of the reason that Gabe is so excited to publish this book is that he is looking forward to having the chance to read to kids of the age that this is designed for, which is four to six. It can be challenging sometimes when you're trying to publish a kid's book because most of the gatekeepers are adults including the Editors, Agents, Art Directors, and others. It can be hard sometimes to not lose track of the fact that you're writing for kids.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I tried to publish my first book when I was 19 years old.”– Gabe Jensen
• “I did several board games and logic games.” - Gabe Jensen
• “We're talking about ‘NEVERWOOF’ being an introvert and a very self-reflective introvert.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I had to keep looking for where I could find my place in that environment staying true to self.” - Gabe Jensen
• “That is a big message of the book as figuring out how to tell what the right path is?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I also designed the art to match the simplicity of what I feel that messages.” - Gabe Jensen
• “I remember as a kid, seeing books that were incredibly simple.” - Gabe Jensen
• “I have to fight against that impulse of writing to the market or writing to these gatekeepers.” - Gabe Jensen
• “If people get pleased, while you're staying in touch with yourself, wonderful, but to lose yourself to please other people doesn't go out very well.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It's okay to speak a little bit of our false voice as you're trying to find your true voice.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It's very important to be persistent especially if you're trying to do something difficult, like publishing a book.” - Gabe Jensen

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Guest, Dr. Laurie Hollman. She discusses her book ‘Playing with Baby’. This book guides using attuned interactions with your baby to create a strong parent-child bond. In each chapter, there are month-by-month play options and the research behind them.

Episode Highlights

• 01:10 - Dr. Laurie says she is a Psychoanalyst, and she has worked with infants through older adults. But what prompted this book was when she became an Infant-Parent Psychotherapist.
• 02:33 – Dr. Laurie initially wrote only parenting books. The first book was called ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in your Child's Behavior’ but the narcissism book was by chance.
• 04:32 – Dr. Carla enquires if parents who are in tune with their babies can help them not grow up to be narcissists.
• 06:41 – Dr. Laurie states that the focus of this book is on the baby's mind rather than physical milestones.
• 08:30 – The book focuses on parent-child collaboration and problem-solving. It's about understanding the meaning of a child's behavior.
• 10:01 – Dr. Laurie is teaching mothers how to observe their baby so they can see what's the message the infant is giving to the mother and then they will know how to respond.
• 10:37 – Dr. Carla enquires what would Dr. Laurie encourage parents to do to help support more attunement to their child and revel in the child's milestones?
• 11:44 – There's new research coming out on how the development of an infant in the first year has been impacted by the COVID restrictions, states Dr. Laurie.
• 13:19 – Dr. Laurie points out, she has tried to share with mothers that when you get back in the car or on the subway, however, you got to your pediatrician. Take off that mask and deal with that baby because she will have missed you and have got confused.
• 15:00 – Infants learn by seeing and they only see the eyes but their audio works. So, the baby in utero learns the voice of the mother. So, when a baby is born, they already know that sound so that it stays consistent even with a mask on so that's just reassuring, highlights Dr. Laurie.
• 17:25 – Dr. Carla mentions that we adults like it when our significant others make eye contact with us and how much more important that is for a newborn child who was relying on his mom and dad for everything.
• 19:10 – The research indicates further that both right and left-handed mothers hold their babies on the left side of their bodies to comfort their infants.
• 20:50 - A fantastic finding from first it said infants are motivated to identify patterns, footers, and sequences.
• 23:10 – Dr. Carla says, it's survival of our species that they need to be able to predict some amount of outcome and that we now have research that reassures us that yes, these little beings are there are some ways to train us our day.
• 25:56 - Once their (baby) eyes reach the target they look back at you because they want your feedback. See if they've isolated the right target, mentions Laurie
• 27:24 – Baby’s gaze is going to alternate between his choice of target, which might be a toy, and your face until he sees that you have joined his attention, states Laurie
• 30:55 - We are accustomed to seeing mobiles, even advertisements hanging in the middle of the crib. That's not where they belong because that's not where your baby's first going to look.
• 32:48 – Dr. Laurie shares some illustrations from the book.
• 34:06 – Baby is learning something called ‘Object Constancy’, which means that when an object is out of view, an object is out of view, it still exists.
• 36:00 – Dr. Laurie shares an illustration from her book of a seven-month-old baby named Samantha which is about Parent Psychotherapy Sessions.
• 41:38 – Dr. Laurie uses this example because mothers are people and mothers have mothers and things are going to interfere in your lives with playing with your baby and how you manage them is very important.
• 42:20 – Kazz is becoming an attentive mother even when her family situation is challenging, due to her own mother's emotional illness.
• 43:50 – Think about your baby's vision. A baby's line of sight or vision is most clearly focused at the distance of a person holding them.
• 45:06 - We have the mistaken belief that our babies learn to read when she's not that she remembers what pictures are all about.
• 47:03 – Dr. Carla points out, whatever we say be a good or not so good becomes part of who we are. When we're interacting with baby, whatever we say, or do babies imitate it.

Three Key Points

1. The key message in the book is, from birth, infants live in a two-person world and as per 50 years old research, babies were considered to be entirely symbiotic with their mother. We learned that they certainly depend on their mother and they need to be nursed or bed, but they do have minds of their own. It’s a two-person world from the start, and that's a kind of exciting thing to share.
2. If a mother, father, or primary caregiver is depressed then that is a very serious problem for a baby. You need another caretaker there as well who is going to fill in that gap where the baby is going to have trouble learning.
3. You'll find that each chapter is a different month. So, each chapter will give a lot of information about how the research is easily understood and it will optimize your play choices.

Tweetable Quotes

• “People feel like I took the clinical concept and made it very accessible to many readers. And that was my aim.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “If you're a mommy listening or reading this interview, they will choose you over others with their gazes.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “I can just see when you have a baby in your arms and mommy or daddy looking down at baby that attunement that you get from that gaze that locked Love Field gaze is where the child feels seen and safe. I love that.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Recognition is the way the baby learns what's going on, and the way they relate to you and mothers at home don't wear masks. So that solves that problem since the kids go out, everybody has a mask on that's completely contrary to what an infant how do they learn” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “I saw her then with her mask off and I studied her, I just said you need to stay right there for a minute. I need to take in who you are.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “It's found that the right orbital frontal cortex and Vaccae area right behind your eyes sockets moderates the mother's abilities to understand for infants emotional choose and respond to their senses.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The mother is as biologically programmed from her pregnancy to want to play with her baby in the first few days.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “Mothers pointing her finger out their forefinger at the baby will follow her line of vision.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “Play does not equal toys. Play is about the interaction; play is interacting with the baby.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I have to tell you the red neon was very purposeful because babies like red, yellow, black and white.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “We're so attuned to rapid activity that we forget babies need to think and take their time so we need to be patient and wait.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “You can use anything you pick and put it under a blanket ticket app and your baby will want to do that over and over and over again” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “We know that Kazz is going to be worried about her mother. But even so, it doesn't distract her too much from focusing on Samantha.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “How important that is to be compassionate with yourself and your situation. So, then you can also be compassionate in your interactions with your little one.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Babies love novelty. So, if they see the same picture over and over, like with cardboard picture books, they may start to resent just so showing something else and they pick right up.” - Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “Babies learn from us very quickly by imitation. So, it's just wonderful to realize again no toys needed.” – Dr. Laurie Hollman
• “When interacting with a baby or even when you don't think you're interacting with baby, how important it is for us to model kindness, love compassion, our patients slowing down and being attuned.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Gina Sadilek, who will be talking about the importance of sensory play, her Etsy Shop, ‘A Magical Minute’ and her Instagram @amagicalminute.

Episode Highlights

• 01:30 – Dr. Carla asks if Gina’s two daughters have anything to do with how she started ‘A Magical Minute’.
• 02:47 – Gina says that they sold somewhere around 600 kits that they've made, so it's been quite a whirlwind.
• 05:10 – Gina reveals that she has been talking to some physical therapists and they were telling her how useful it would be in physical therapy for improving people who have had strokes or something like that.
• 07:10 – Dr. Carla enquires Gina about her mom’s favorite kit.
• 09:10 – Gina has got around 2800 Instagram subscribers and most of them are Moms.
• 11:00 – The guest talks about the importance of sensory play and the way she leaves that sensory play in with the books.
• 14:20 - It's been quite an interesting journey because due to COVID Gina couldn’t send her daughter to preschool when she was three, and now it is so nice to see how she socializes with other kids.
• 16:10 – Gina had a very hard time when Isabel was a newborn. She says she is not a baby person so that was hard for her.
• 18:10 – They eat almost all meals together as a family and that's been good for their kids to be sitting around the table and talking. They don't do any devices during dinner time and mealtime which is so important.
• 20:45 – Dr. Carla requests Gina to share maybe one or two kernels of wisdom with the listeners.
• 21:00 – Gina shares that it is so important to introduce different sensory bases or tactile things to your kids, and then also just the concept of reading to your children.

Three Key Points

1. All the kits have play dough in them that Gina’s mom makes by hand and then they include different kinds of little bits and bobs in there for the kids to play with. The construction kit includes construction cars, little signs that have railroad crossing on them, some rocks, and others.
2. Gina states that she has been so lucky to connect with amazing women and moms out on the Instagram platform and it's been an interesting process. She got into replay setup with both of her daughters like introducing different textures, water play, and all of that.
3. Dr. Carla mentions that a beautiful part about intentional parenting is that natural enjoyment that comes up because you love your kids and enjoy being with them.

Tweetable Quotes

• “You partnered with your mom, tell me a little bit about how that happened.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “But my daughter ended up loving the construction kits.” - Gina Sadilek
• “What a fun toy it would be to join with your child or grandchild in using your using your kids.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Now, a little bit more about your Instagram account.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “She's made a lot of great friends and she loves being there.” - Gina Sadilek
• “Yeah, babies stuff was just not for me.” - Gina Sadilek
• “We're very lucky and blessed that we're all able to sit down at the table together and eat dinner.” - Gina Sadilek

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• A Magical Minute Instagram Website
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In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Kim Harms, an Author, Freelance Editor, and Speaker about her upcoming book ‘Life Reconstructed: Navigating the World of Mastectomies and Breast Reconstruction. In this book, Kim shares an honest roadmap every breast cancer fighter needs on her journey to recovery.

Episode Highlights

• 01:38 – Kim says her first book ‘Life Reconstructed’ is the book that came out of her breast cancer experience.
• 02:48 – There's a chapter that refers to the interviews with people, how cancer affected their lives, states Kim.
• 04:50 - In this book, Kim has shared how Corey (her husband) and she got through the cancer journey. She also talks about how she dealt with the physical pain and with the people who say hurtful things.
• 06:01 – Kim suggests how to communicate better with your husband during this tough time.
• 08:09 - You probably need to let that partner know how you're feeling that is too much and that you need a break.
• 10:06 – Kim shares that her oldest one is not very talkative.
• 12:27 - It was definitely a process of healing and growing together as a family, says Kim.
• 14:37 - Your book will be a good guide a good best friend to have in their purse or their knapsack, says Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 18:16 – When we’re going through this think about, what we can do when we get to the other side that would be just kind of celebrating, getting through this together.
• 20:05 – Kim shares, they give away free mastectomy pillows at their website. So, if someone going through cancer and needs pillows after surgery, they give you support.

Three Key Points

1. This book would help to understand the person who is going through cancer and how they are dealing with it. What exactly is a mastectomy or what does that mean when you say flat reconstruction, that kind of information to help them understand the medical side, but then there's also a lot of emotional side to it like how can we help this person? How can we understand what she's going through?
2. Kim shares, one can get tested for a gene and if they have a certain mutation, then their chances of breast cancer are extremely high.
3. If we are going through a hard thing like this, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and stressed out and not want to go through it and just feel those emotions. Don't try to be superwoman. Go through just one day at a time.

Tweetable Quotes

• “My book is like reconstructive the subtitle is navigating the world of mastectomy and breast reconstruction.” – Kim Harms
• “When your stress is high like that, and you're going through something so painful, relationships are affected.” – Kim Harms
• “I also share the experience of many other women that I interviewed during the process.” – Kim Harms
• “We didn't realize what was causing the friction.” – Kim Harms
• “Being together with your family through this difficult time. Not only gave them the gift of compassion but also really craved a lot of healing.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “We went on a backpacking trip which we've done a few times but with our boys and it ended up being this crazy trip.” – Kim Harms

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Christopher Robbins, Founder of ‘Familius Publishing’. He is talking about the 10 Habits of Happy Family. He also shares tips to those struggling families who are missing all these elements of being a happy family.

Episode Highlights

• 01:53 – Dr. Carla enquires, where the 10 Habits come from?
• 03:47 – Christopher shares, they started to frame this around these 10 habits and it was nine at first.
• 04:47 – The 10th habit is about giving because giving as a family will strengthen that family when they look outside of themselves, says Christopher.
• 07:37 – Dr. Carla asks Christopher about his views on people who are struggling to find that time to sit down at the family dinner table and connect.
• 09:22 - All you listeners out there who might have not had a family dinner in a while such sage advice. Start small pick one day one meal and make that filled with love and joy, says Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• 11:06 – Christopher states, it's all about the time that you can give to another person to show your interest in that person.
• 13:05 – We don't need any healthier habits here but consistency is such an important part of showing love, says the host.
• 19:29 – Dr. Carla says when we're connecting with someone if we don't understand them, that alone can be so connective.
• 22:06 – Christopher mentions that healing is more than just a band-aid.
• 23:33 – There are so many people who are discouraged, who have anxiety in some form or another, and we can't say to a depressed person, don't be depressed, mentions Christopher
• 25:49 – When we show our love, not just say we love you but show we love you it's just the best thing in the world for the part of the body, mind, and soul.
• 27:38 – When we forgive, we heal that is truth. So, if we want to heal together, learn to forgive each other and move on.
• 30:14 – Christopher says, no matter what it was working, there were lessons taught and opportunities to talk and to learn and to trust and to love.
• 32:33 – The host states that when we join with a child in sweeping the floor or folding the clothes or picking up their room and making it a game and making it fun, we accomplish the same task, but we accomplish it with joy and connection.

Three Key Points

1. Christopher highlights, no one habit is better than another and they don't even prioritize these. The 10 habits are - eat together, heal together, laugh together, learn together, love together, play together, read together, talk together, work together, and give together.
2. It is really about creating intentional habits that make us healthier human beings and thus supporting a healthy family.
3. We need to do our best slowly but surely to make some of these habits come to life in our homes.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Depression and anxiety tend to be reduced when we volunteer when we give.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “My recommendation is to start slow, pick one day a week that you say as a fan” - Christopher Robbins
• “Eat, laugh, and talk that provides you with recipes, games and conversation starters.” - Christopher Robbins
• “You can show love to your family by also making sure that there are consistent fouls that are helpful.” - Christopher Robbins
• “Consistency does bring that peace of safety and safety builds trust.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “We have a great book called ‘The Big Book of Family Games; this book has no technology allowed.” – Christopher Robbins
• “Sometimes just by showing the interest builds that trust that then allows them to start sharing with you.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• ‘When people start sharing with you, their problems, their challenges, they're not necessarily asking you to solve them for them.” - Christopher Robbins
• “Forgiveness asks us to let go keep a good boundary maybe set a new boundary, but to let go of the resentment, let go of the pain.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Take advantage of the opportunities that exist in the world and marine life is not just to be endured, supposed to be enjoyed was to our best to enjoy it.” - Christopher Robbins

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Podcast Editing
• Christopher Robbins: Website

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Feeling and Naming Your Feelings with Rebecca Fox Starr

In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Rebecca Fox Starr about her book ‘Mommy Ever After’, and all about her journey of becoming an author.

Episode Highlights

• 02:30 – Dr. Carla asks the guest about one or two pieces of the hard work that make Rebecca who she is.
• 04:48 – Rebecca says that after the birth of her son in 2013, she had severe postpartum depression and it came out of nowhere.
• 07:20 – Dr. Carla enquires what is the most magical piece about the book - 'Mommy Ever After' that's different from the other books that Rebecca wrote.
• 10:10 – It is a story about a mother and her daughter as they go through the stages of life, and experience all different emotions, specifically, some of the tough emotions.
• 14:10 - The holistic approach (mind, body, and spirit approach) is so important, says Dr. Carla.
• 17:10 - What is your favorite part about the way the illustrations speak, asks Dr. Carla.
• 19:10 – Rebecca states that it's very hard to choose her favorite illustrations from the book because every page is just exquisite to her.
• 20:50 – Rebecca suggests that whatever feelings you may feel instead of judging them bring them in, welcome them, sit with them, and let them go.

Three Key Points

1. Rebecca started to write in real-time about her struggle with postpartum depression on her blog and that changed the trajectory of her life. She opened up about the heart stuff and subsequently wrote two books that are academic books on perinatal mood, anxiety disorders, and maternal mental health. Writing 'Mommy Ever After' has been such a dream realized; it is something magical for Rebecca.
2. Dr. Carla mentions that this book helps check the child and parent, both as a team learn about emotions being good, that all of these emotions are so important to be able to feel and express in healthy ways.
3. Rebecca emphasizes that sometimes feelings don't have names. It's very hard to name these feelings, but it does not make them any less intense or valid. She has tried to instill in her children that they can say I'm not feeling well. If they say I'm not feeling well, she might ask them, physically or emotionally. If they say emotionally, she takes it just as seriously as any physical ailment.

Tweetable Quotes

• "Your story is just so beautiful meeting the boy down the street around the corner." - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• "Mommy Ever After - the phrase came about when I became a mom in 2010, I was the first of my friends to have a baby." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "Being a mother, being a mom, it's another layer in life altogether." - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• "First of all, I can't take credit for the visual representations in this book." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "I love the message that goes throughout the book of being in touch with your emotions." - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• "I appreciate that you were able to glean that because that's what my intention is." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "I have so many favorite images but I'll give you two." - Rebecca Fox Starr
• "What a powerful book, it's a gorgeous book." - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• "Beautiful and I agree with you, everything starts and ends with love." - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Instagram Twitter
• Rebecca Foxstarr Website Instagram LinkedIn Twitter
• Podcast Editing

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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Randel McGee, a Ventriloquist, Storyteller, Illustrator, and an Author. He shares his upcoming book ‘Zhang Heng’. This book tells the story of Zhang Heng and how he created the first seismometer in ancient China.

Episode Highlights

• 01:22 – Randel shares, this is his first picture book for young audiences.
• 02:35 – It’s about the story of Zhang Heng who was the actual inventor/creator and created this earthquake detector device.
• 03:40 – Dr. Carla enquires, how accurate was the earthquake detector?
• 04:14 – Randel shares, the age range for his book would be from 6 to 12. He has illustrated it to look like a Chinese Shadow Play.
• 06:26 – The host asks, can you tell us a little bit about what happened in his life that makes him a meaningful character other than being the creator of this wonderful device?
• 08:02 – Randel states, Zhang was highly favoured of the emperor, which unfortunately caused a little bit of jealousy among the other members of the court.
• 09:44 - Some scenes portray a humorous side to the story and he too has been very impressed with the familiarise ideals that they want to promote, says Randel.
• 11:47 – Dr. Carla asks that when Randel looks at what has made him, who he is and what he is proudest of in life?
• 13:23 – It sounds like you also carry that energy i.e. perseverance, dedication, fortitude, indomitable spirit, into your relationship with your wife and your family to make it what it is, asks Dr. Carla.
• 14:10 – Dr. Carla mentions that sometimes we gravitate toward an entity that has familiar energy to us.
• 16:07 – Randel states, publishers thought it was a story that was worth telling, too.
• 17:03 – He came up with an interesting presentation because earthquakes in California are a big subject in the schools of studies, mentions Randel.

Three Key Points

1. This book is about the story of Zhang Hang, who lived almost 2000 years ago in China. He was assigned by the emperor to create some way of detecting where and when an earthquake hit, so he created this device which was able to show which direction the earthquake came from and when it hit.
2. Dr. Carla shares that this book is a wonderful inspiration for people of all ages not only from the scientific level but also from a creative level. Being inspired by a dream and then taking us into the world of creativity and the way that tiny shadow puppets are done. It sounds beautiful.
3. Randel highlights that this story is not only good for science, history, and culture but also to discuss what it takes to persevere to keep going when people are against you and yet you have something good to give to the world.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I took a little artistic license and added a dream sequence but everything else is a true story.” – Randel McGee
• “It's a book that can be read together through the generations and talked about.’ – Randel McGee
• “It's coming out just before the Chinese New Year’s so it will be I think, a special edition, too.” – Randel McGee
• “He refined an odometer that would count the distance that they would travel and he was able to create different devices to chart the movement of the stars and the planets.” – Randel McGee
• “The fact that the emperor liked him too much made him a threat to the people didn't feel quite as loved, sounds like family dynamics.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “My greatest accomplishment is my relationship with my wife and family.” - Randel McGee
• “It seems like maybe you gravitated toward that character towards that person, Zhang Heng.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The book was inspired by a program I had been commissioned to produce on earthquakes.” – Randel McGee

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Randel McGee: Website
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In today’s episode of “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with John Schlimm, a writer, an artist, an advocate, and an educator speaks about his upcoming book ‘The Star Jumped over the Moon’. This book tells readers about how they are the star that jumped over the moon. John tells listeners the purpose of life. It’s figuring out what it is that makes us different and unique.

Episode Highlights

• 01:58 – John shares, several years back a publicist once had asked him for PR materials to summarize who he is in one sentence, which is a challenge for anyone.
• 03:26 – Dr. Carla enquires, where does the star jump over the moon come from?
• 04:02 - John mentions, it's that apple tree that was very much rooted upon an old field of green that inspired this story.
• 06:24 – John worked very hard to make sure that the story of ‘The Star Jumped over the Moon’ is timeless.
• 08:40 – John has recently fallen in love with the genre of a zine. They're a collection of writings, artwork, and activities that different groups would put together very simply on a photocopier.
• 10:23 – The guest loves to create as many different entry points as he can for the participants to come in.
• 14:30 – The cover of the activity zine to ‘The Star Jumped over the Moon’ when people download it, they will see that it’s created by ‘John Schlimm’ and there's a blank line where he wants his collaborators to write their names.
• 16:00 – John sees kids today as the imagination generation because he believes that kids today have more tools and pathways for exploring and cultivating than any generation before.
• 18:11 – Imagination is one constant gift that from the beginning of time that has consistently allowed human beings to leap over any challenges, states John.
• 20:00 – The greatest gift that Gen Z has already given to the world is within the realm of mental health.
• 22:21 – You're talking about the imagination, that if there is a way forward, it will be through the imagination and the heart, says Dr. Carla.
• 24:02 – John states, he has encouraged older adults to just sit down and have a conversation with these young people (Gen Z).
• 27:04 – We hope we look at each other with acceptance, and a sense of uplifting, supporting, and moving forward focusing on our similarities rather than on any negative differences.
• 28:00 – The greatest villain right now in the story of the imagination generation is mental health, mentions John.
• 30:38 - Not only let the kids have fun but have fun alongside them because we adults in so many ways have forgotten how to have fun, says the guest.
• 34:41 – Dr. Carla points out that those themes are no charge, you can go download, play, laugh, and explore to your heart's content.

Three Key Points

1. The main message that John hopes all readers will walk away with at the end is that they are the ‘Star That Jumped over the Moon’; he wants each reader to come to this book and find themselves in the story of this star. This star who on a chilly morning, woke up in a nest on a branch inside that old apple tree, didn't know how he got there, didn't know where he came from and didn't understand what his purpose was.
2. John wants especially those young people to walk away, embracing their imagination, their creativity, their dreams, and figuring out what it is that makes them different and unique because each of us is unique in our ways.
3. No matter where or how we were born in this world, our imagination is something that is constant and can take us anywhere we want to go. John hopes that with this book and with the activity zine he also created the imagination generation activities that seem to be a companion to that concept.

Tweetable Quotes

• “A dear friend of mine once told me, every story has its time to be told.” – John Schlimm
• “It was important for me, especially as an educator to create a series of resources that could be downloaded for free by parents, teachers, and librarians or by anyone who works or lives with children…..” - John Schlimm
• “This is a story that I think whether it's children who are reading it, or having it read to them, or the adults who are doing the reading, everyone's going to walk away finding a piece of themselves in this star.” – John Schlimm
• “I created a companion activities theme that takes the reader through different activities to help them connect and understand how they are that star that jumped over the moon.” – John Schlimm
• “I love that you're providing resources so that a book like this can take somebody into a deeper space.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I wanted the zine to have that wonderful old school feeling.” – John Schlimm
• “It's okay to show those flaws and to be vulnerable.’ – John Schlimm
• “You might even see a smudge of a fingerprint in there, as it gets kind of messy when you're working with markers and all of that.” – John Schlimm
• “The energy that I get from your work is there's a lot of love, play, learning, working together, talking, and healing all of those beautiful elements that allow us to grow as human beings.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “That is such a true educator and artist in you and collaborator, you allow someone to co-author with you, so beautiful.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The imagination is so critical for the success of our species, right?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I'm a huge number one fan of Gen Z and have spent the last several years in the classroom with them.” – John Schlimm
• “One of the greatest gifts that they have given to the world is they were the first generation to not see black or white.” – John Schlimm
• “Every generation has given gifts, but I do believe that the imagination is the one that kids today are going to be able to give to the world in a way that is just going to blow our minds.” – John Schlimm
• “I'm so grateful to Gen Z that they are helping to clear a pathway for the imagination generation kids today.” – John Schlimm
• “When we have good mental health, strong mental health, we inherently have a more balanced life.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “One of the things I love to do most to have fun is climbing trees.’ – John Schlimm
• ‘Your differences don't make you bad, they're nothing to hide.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You are the star who jumped over the moon.’ - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• John Schlimm: Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn Website
• Podcast Editing

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In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Hannah Lee, a Content Creator and an Instagram Marketer about the power of social media as a resource for parents. She also talks about how she helps other moms who work from home by marketing their small businesses.

Episode Highlights

• 02:15 - Hannah was isolated at home so she tried to join a local Facebook support group. However, she was kicked out of the group within two weeks because she mentioned a comment about ‘Sleep Training’ on a post made by an exhausted desperate mother.
• 03:45 – Hannah’s Instagram page is an intentionally created safe, positive community for stay-at-home moms.
• 06:45 – Dr. Carla states that it is so inspirational that instead of going and curling up in a dark hole, Hannah chose to be courageous, and started her way of connecting with people.
• 08:30 – Through the Instagram page and other groups they started sharing different ideas and tricks of creating support for the community and helping other moms in need.
• 10:40 – So many people who've been put in unexpected situations recently, like working moms, but are also watching their child at home.
• 13:20 – Dr. Carla asks about Hannah’s favorite content creation.
• 16:00 – Hannah does some marketing for the small businesses run by moms.
• 18:15 – To be able to review books for the publishing houses is a dream come true for Hannah as she has always been a book lover.
• 19:30 – Dr. Carla asks Hannah if she remembers her favorite book as a child if she had one.
• 21:40 – Hannah reminds parents that parenting was already hard and now we are pandemic parenting, and it's become even harder.

Three Key Points

1. Hannah thinks that there's a need in the world for something to help mothers build community, and that’s how her Instagram page and the Content Creator in her were born. This page is called ‘Survival of The-Stay-At-Home-Mom’ because it was born out of this difficult struggle to find support.
2. In addition to the entire wonderful expert resources on Instagram, Hannah discovered many fabulous small businesses and handmade toys by small businesses. She is now connected with brand representatives for a handful of small businesses, toymakers, and small businesses run by moms, and they are now her friends.
3. Books and Sensory Play are a way to engage kids with the world in a safe way at home. You can travel the world in a book, you can provide kids with some slime, play dough, or rice bins that let them get their hands in there and touch everything.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I'm a former Teacher and Nanny but I had no idea what the transition to motherhood would be like.”– Hannah Lee
• “I found this app called ‘Peanut’, which is a dating app, but it's for mothers finding communities, which is cool.” - Hannah Lee
• “Do you stay awake at night thinking about what to create next?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “You are reaching 3000 formally isolated individuals who now have someone to turn to.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I am finding so many inspirational people on Instagram, I am following Occupational Therapists, Parenting Specialists, and Nutritionists.” - Hannah Lee
• “They're engaged and are having a fabulous time and it’s simple and easy.” - Hannah Lee
• “So, I also have a very strong passion for Sensory Play.” - Hannah Lee
• “I am a book lover; I always used to sleep with mountains of books as a child.” - Hannah Lee
• “Books and Sensory Play has been therapy for our family.” - Hannah Lee
• “The community is such a lifesaving gift isn't it?” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Hannah Lee Instagram
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In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Leah C. Day, An Author, Outdoor Adventurer, and a Social Worker. She talks about her book ‘Changing Gears’ which stresses finding out what is going to bring you the most strength and joy and going for it despite being uncomfortable.

Episode Highlights

• 02:05 – Dr. Carla asks if Leah’s book is a tale about bringing three aspects of her life into one.
• 03:30 - Leah and her 16-year-old son biked across the country together and learned some real-life lessons along the way.
• 05:45 – There were times when Leah’s son – Oakley, did get angry because he's impulsive.
• 08:25 – Dr. Carla enquires about the most difficult and the most joyful moment of the journey.
• 10:38 - It was in that moment of joy Oakley was having a huge growth experience, and there was no quitting.
• 13:00 - Leah felt extreme joy that Oakley was taking care of her and becoming a man. He was turning to her and saying that he’s going to take care of her at this last moment.
• 15:15 - It wasn't a made-up task but was really working and playing together, says Leah.
• 17:30 - We know which states to go to if we want to sleep under fire trucks, states Dr. Carla.
• 19:00 – Leah talks about a few of her favorite acts of kindness during the journey.
• 21:35 – “Is there one particular part of you that grew more than other parts?” asks Dr. Carla.
• 23:20 – Leah believes that things that can appear to be your greatest challenge are an invitation to find your greatest strength, and to gain your biggest triumph.
• 25:44 – Leah and Oakley have a bike store called ‘Lighthouse Bikes’.

Three Key Points

1. The book ‘Changing Gears’ is about raising an unusual child as well as travelling across the country. It's not just a memoir of a biking expedition but it's about how there is no one correct way to raise a child as you have to identify what works best for each individual.
2. Leah and her son - Oakley had divided their work into different tasks. Every night, no matter what, he would put up the tent while Leah cooked dinner. Hence, they relied on each other, and this gave him a huge sense of responsibility which is so important for teenagers.
3. If you are value-driven and decide that family's important, you do what you have to do for your family. Put that on top, and it's going to lead you where you need to go.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I have two biological children and two adopted children.”– Leah C. Day
• “That makes so much sense because every child is unique.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “The most difficult moments ended up being the most joyful moments.” - Leah C. Day
• “The fear and the joy were inextricably intertwined, aren't they?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Oh, that is a beautiful metaphor for a transformation in a child that he was able to shift from being behind you to leading you.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I'm telling you the whole town came into that little cafe.” - Leah C. Day
• “Kindness was just astounding everywhere we went.” - Leah C. Day
• “All I can do is sit here in awe at your courage and your strength.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Maybe that's the big thing, to be uncomfortable” - Leah C. Day
• “Follow your bliss and move through those fears.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Remember her book – ‘Changing Gears’ will be out in May 2022.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Leah C. Day Blog Email
• Lighthouse Bikes Website
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In today’s episode of the “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Deborah Kesten, M.P.H. author of Whole Person Integrative Eating. Deborah is an international nutrition researcher, and medical and health writer, with a specialty in preventing and reversing obesity and heart disease.

Episode Highlights

• 1:09 – Deborah shares how Whole Person Integrative Eating came to be and why eating from the heart is important.
• 4:42 – Deborah shares how the new way of overeating can be reversed without dieting through her Whole Person Integrative Eating method. This dietary lifestyle can also help people avoid rollercoaster dieting.
• 12:13 – Dr. Carla recaps the overeating styles and their antidotes. Both Dr. Carla and Deborah discuss why appreciating food and its origins is vital.
• 14:37 – Deborah explains why eating in an appealing atmosphere is important. Both aesthetics and a positive emotional atmosphere matter. Dr. Carla inquires about eating in front of the television.
• 16:17 – Deborah explains why it isn’t possible to say which of the antidotes are most important or which overeating styles are most harmful. She explains the holistic nature of WPIE.
• 18:50 – Dr. Carla asks what Deborah would say to someone who is struggling with body image issues.
• 21:04 – What and how did we eat for 1,000s of years, food was one of life’s greatest pleasures, says Deborah.
• 27:50 – Dr. Carla asks how media pressure has impacted people’s self-image and eating styles.
• 30:19 – Deborah discusses what she learned from Dr. Chopra about diet and ancient food wisdom.
• 33:10 – Dr. Carla talks about the toxic cycle of comparison. We’re not all built to look the same, says Carla.
• 35:08 – Observing and knowing people is more important than comparing and judging. Deborah reminds us that kindness is the most important part of a person.
• 38:21 – “Kindness doesn’t stop at giving someone a hug, kindness is from the inside out.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• 42:10 – Deborah explains why eating to balance mind and body is better than any diet.

Three Key Points

1. The book ‘Whole Person Integrative Eating’ gives readers the tools to correct their overeating habits and create a heal their bodies and minds.
2. The food you eat is only part of the equation. The way you eat and the environment you eat in also play a role in healthy eating and mindful living.
3. Ancient food wisdom holds the key to a healthy relationship with food. Cooking with love and kindness are important. Eat in a way to balance mind and body.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I define Whole Person Integrative Eating as a dietary lifestyle, a way of life.”– Deborah Kesten
• “I describe WPIE as ancient food wisdom meets modern nutritional science.” – Deborah Kesten
• “Eat with others in a pleasant atmosphere both aesthetically and emotionally.” – Deborah Kesten
• “Appreciate food and its origins from the heart.” – Deborah Kesten
• “To relate to food as a social and sensual ceremonial pleasure, and let your weight fall where it’s meant to be.” – Deborah Kesten
• “I’m so appreciative of everything you’re saying because you’re making it easy for people.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Slow down and make food less of a task and more of a joy.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “We’re not all built to look the same.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “Do you want to live your life, the precious gift of your life, thinking about your body?” – Deborah Kesten
• “The biggest gift we can give to ourselves is to observe ourselves and see if we are being kind to ourselves and others.” – Deborah Kesten
• “When you live from that place of kindness you find that you tend to eat in kinder ways.” – Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Deborah Kesten Website

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In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Noa Baum, Writer, storyteller, Author, and Coach, about her book ‘A Land Twice Promised’. Noa discusses the power of storytelling that helps people bridge the differences and also reveals how she started doing workshops.

Episode Highlights

• 02:00: The guest, Noa, introduces herself and says that she grew up in Jerusalem, Israel and she was an actress there.
• 04:00 – Noa took the workshop with two prominent storytellers at her first National Storytelling Network Conference. The workshop was titled ‘The Importance of Telling Difficult Stories.’
• 06:30 – Noa talks about how she began telling personal stories.
• 08:30 – Noa took the conversations with her Palestinian friend and started recording them and this is how she created a one-woman show called ‘A Land Twice Promised’, where she tells personal stories of mothers that echo the contradicting national narratives of Israeli people.
• 10:20 – Dr. Carla enquires about the title of the book – ‘A Land Twice Promised’.
• 12:30 – Noa’s book – ‘A Land Twice Promised’ embraces the core values of Familiar Publishing that allows people to work together through their differences, to come to a commonplace, and to heal together, says Dr. Carla.
• 15:10 - Dr. Carla asks Noa if she could share a few snippets from her book for the listeners that might give a list or the energy of her storytelling.
• 17:00 – Noa reads through the excerpt from the opening of her book for the listeners.
• 20:00 – Dr. Carla praises Noa saying that her book reflects that she is a wonderful storyteller at the same time it talks about transformation, unity, change, and the power of love and listening.
• 22:45 - We definitely can create a lot of peace not just within ourselves and within the other person but throughout the world because everything we do tends to make waves in one way or another, mentions Dr. Carla.

Three Key Points

1. Noa realized from the responses that her story is not about mom's meeting on the playground, it's not even about Israelis and Palestinians but her story is about the power of storytelling, and the power of listening to the story of other people where their stories are so different and difficult.
2. When Noa realized that this is the power of storytelling that helps the bridges, she started doing a lot of workshops. She still does workshops where she uses the power of stories in many different applications to help, people bridge the differences.
3. The book is a journey into how do we change from a rigid place to a place that can embrace more complexity and paradox. It is also the story of Noa’s life journey of the transformative relationship of this story had on her relationship with her mother. So it's a lot about the values of healing because she had to tell her mother’s story.

Tweetable Quotes

• “I grew up in Jerusalem in Israel and I always wanted to be an actress.”– Noa Baum
• “So that trust did not build overnight.” - Noa Baum
• “It echoes the idea that people feel that the land was promised for them and they have proof, we all have a lot of proof.” - Noa Baum
• “As you were describing it, your friendship, there was plenty of laughter and play and love involved.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “As I started writing the book, I realized, well, how did I get there?” - Noa Baum
• “It sounds like that's a huge part of the energy of your book.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I don't remember much of what that Palestinian man said.” - Noa Baum
• “Let me just add that it's not easy.” - Noa Baum

Resources Mentioned

• Helping Families be Happy Podcast Apple
• Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website LinkedIn Twitter Instagram
• Noa Baum Website Facebook Twitter LinkedIn
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In today’s episode of “Helping Families be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with Bailey Hurley, a Friendship Coach, a Writer, and a Speaker about her upcoming book ‘Together is a Beautiful Place’. The book talks about all the barriers that keep you away from togetherness and what you can do to make sure that you are fighting back against it.

Episode Highlights

• 02:40: Bailey says besides being a Coach, Writer, and Speaker, she is mostly a mom.
• 04:40 - Some women who approached Bailey were in a serious situation, or some hurt words that had been shared.
• 06:30 – Bailey gives tips to a new mom who is feeling isolated and has no one to connect to.
• 08:25 - For every person who's feeling alone and isolated there's somebody probably within steps of you, who is feeling the same, says Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 10:50 – Nostalgic Friendships are unhealthy friendships that we cling to because we feel like they stood next to us on our wedding day.
• 13:05 - Guilt certainly does keep people doing things that might not be the healthiest for them, mentions Dr. Carla Marie Manly.
• 15:10 - Being a genuine and trustworthy friend doesn't mean that mistakes aren't made.
• 16:46 - Dr. Carla Marie Manly points out that it's so important to have quality than quantity friendships.
• 19:20 - When you have a healthy friendship, you're teaching your kids what healthy friendships look like.

Three Key Points

1. Bailey states that whether you are a new mom or an older person, you need to be a little bit proactive about those friendships where you just leave a conversation that felt a connection with someone and hope that you should catch up soon, but there's no contact number taken. Moms have the flexibility to carry on friendships, maybe in the workday to get to catch up with a friend.
2. There's some research out there that these vague relationships are just as harmful as having no relationship at all because you're in this constant state of wondering, are we friends or not?
3. Bailey’s book ‘Together is a Beautiful Place’ will be out in April and you can pre-order it now. The book is all about acknowledging the loneliness that we feel. Instead of allowing loneliness to kind of make you an outsider, you can choose to fight for togetherness. It's those safe friends that allow you to grow into who you're meant to be.

Tweetable Quotes

• “Reading is such a wonderful way to connect.”– Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “I always like to check in and say like, how's it going?” - Bailey Hurley
• “Be the first one to say, hey, I'm looking for friends and interested in getting together with you.” - Bailey Hurley
• “I like to call those friendships, nostalgic friendships.” - Bailey Hurley
• “It's not a healthy place to constantly sitting in and wondering what's going on.” - Bailey Hurley
• “Your book is out in April of 2022, I'm absolutely thrilled and so excited.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly
• “When you are becoming a good friend to your peers, you're also modeling good friendship to your kiddos.” - Bailey Hurley