Counseling On Demand: Recent Episodes
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Don't have the time to see a therapist? Just looking for some quick advice from a mental health professional? Counseling On Demand is like having your own private therapist, when and where you need it. Hosted by Dr. Fred Riley, each episode of Counseling On Demand breaks down complex issues and helps make sense of the problems that many of us face on a regular basis like depression, anxiety, PTSD, bipolar disorder, pornography addiction and substance dependence. Over the years, Dr. Riley earned his nickname "The Best Damn Therapist" from his patients. But don't take their word for it, find out for yourself.
Resistance is generally used in a positive sense, and of course, can be a good thing. But it can also hold you back from getting yourself to where you want to be mentally.
Likewise, confrontation usually carries a negative sense. We tend to want to avoid confrontation right? But what if confronting our resistance is the best way to get better?
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We love to people watch, especially at the mall. Or at the store. Or at The Fair.. Or at a dance recital.
Let's face it, people can be fun to watch
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In fact, they can be a GREAT thing! With modern technology we can reach out to friends and family, read the news, even listen to podcasts (wink wink!)
But you can also use various apps on your phone to get your mental health both checked and treated. Today Dr. Fred shares some various mental health apps you can use
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Today we're looking at some examples of "what were THEY thinking" from the internet. Now we know the internet has an abundance of these sort of things, so Dr. Fred has picked a couple of examples to share with us so that we can look at our own little quirks and see that we're not alone.
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Friends are the ones who are there for us, and we like to be there for them. Not all of us are therapists, but that's not always the kind of help our friends need. Here's some tips on how to help our friends when they need it, and how to communicate with our friends when we need help from them!
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Your marriage needs nourishment just like a tree does. If it goes without, it dies, becomes brittle and nothing more than a plain old stick. Today Fred goes over the many similarities between a tree and your relationship, and how you can use this comparison to strengthen your own marriage.
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Of course, those with military experience are very likely to have various levels of PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but those four scary letters can be a result of your everyday life too.
Today Fred takes on PTSD and how to deal with triggers and responses when the past creeps back into the present.
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It's hard to face the fact that people in the world are going to judge us. Sometiems unfairly, sometimes harshly, and on the rare occasion, justly.
How to handle being judged.. That's a tough one. How do we make ourselves feel as confident with others opinions as we portray. It's easy to say that it doesn't bother us. But it does, and it's not fair.
Here are some tips on how to handle judgement.
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Everyone faces tragedy differently. I'm not just talking about loss here, the term tragedy could mean a lot of different things. A change in job or relationship, and illness, or sustaining a major injury also go int he same category. How we deal with tragedy depends on who were are, and it's never as simple as "getting over it" or "moving on"
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Our producer, Jon has a problem. He CONSTANTLY misplaces things. Is this normal? Turns out, yes it is! In fact men are more likely to misplace things than women. It's science. We'll discuss in this week's WHAT WAS I THINKING WEDNESDAY!
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Now more than ever we see attractive people who just have everything together. Rockstars, movie icons, and now thanks to social media, our own friends, families, and neighbors.
But how much of them are we seeing? More often than you think, the people you see as put together and seem to "have it all" are dealing with insecurity, anxiety, and even depression. Just like us!
Could that make them.. gasp. Normal!?
Let's discuss on today's episode!
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Dr. Fred falls victim to an online video that was just to good to be true! How often does that happen to you? If not a video, a picture that's been photoshopped. Maybe a news article that looks to be from an official source. Things have evolved in the ol' rumor mill so today we'll discuss some of the funny things we see.
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In fact, let's talk about the MIDDLE, middle child... There are a lot of things said about kids in the middle. Some of them true, others not so much.
So let's discuss! Some of the things that make the middle children among us so great are also some of the things that make being a middle child so challenging.
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We've all been wronged at some point. How long should we wait before automatically forgiving someone? I'm talking about those times when someone straight up blasts you and walks away without giving you an apology.
It's good to forgive and forget, but we're all human and sometimes that's difficult.
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You know how it is, you buy something that requires "some assembly". You look at the instructions and then throw them away. Even though it's likely you'll need them later, you still toss them in the trash!
Also, ever notice that when people pick up salad tongs the first thing they do is clink them together a few times before using them? What's up with that?
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The self-proclaimed "King Of All Media" has recently become more open about his mental health, and his use of therapy to help himself feel more comfortable. It's hard to imagine a guy that makes more than $100,000,000 a year feeling bad about himself right? But his battles with anxiety, compulsive disorder, and depression are all spelled out.
Utah Radio Personality, Jon Smith joins Fred for a talk about life in the public eye, and what happens when your fans don't want to move on from your past success.
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Every so often something in our world changes. We lose a job, a loved one, get divorced.. When something like this happens in our life we tend to classify our world as before and after.
But what about IN BETWEEN? Let's talk about how we get from before to after. How do we figure out who we are once "before" is no longer "now".
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What Was I Thinking Wednesday! The day we look at some of our mistakes, and decisions that may not reflect us at our best... Today, it's themed around "Dont touch that"
Whatever it is.. Wet paint, caution, hot!.. Sometimes we all want to touch whatever it is the sign is telling us not to.
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Stress. We all have it. For some of us, even seeing the word "stress" stresses us out.
We all handle stress differently and this week Dr. Fred Riley takes some time to help us identify, manage, and even reduce our daily stress. For some of us, we may even realize that not all stress is a bad thing!
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Continuing our conversation from earlier this week about grief, loss, and all the possible ways of dealing and overcoming the stress and emotions that come with it. Let's learn to heal, and deal with our grief.
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Let's face it, sometimes we make mistakes. But what about when we make those same mistakes over and over. What about those times when we know it's a mistake but we do it anyway?
Even those times when we're completing a project, or performing a task where we KNOW it should be done a certain way, but we decided to take a different route..
What are we thinking?!
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It's something we'll all deal with at some point. Grief.
How do we deal with grief? We've heard of the stages of loss, but are those accurate? Are they the same for everyone? Today Fred Riley takes on the fear of loss, and how to deal with grief in part one of this weeks topic.
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It's time to give ourselves a break, as well as a pat on the back. We're all getting better, and better each and every day. Don't believe us? Well, here's seven (or is it eight?) ways that you rock!
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Why is it that some people will hold loyalty to a person, team, or thought even after they're proven wrong? Is it more important to us to be loyal than correct?
Is it group thinking? Mob mentality? What are we thinking?
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It seems that school shootings are becoming more common. But it's not just shootings, bullying, suicide, depression, and anxiety are all very much a problem for our kids. How can we deal with these high profile situations better when they come across our screens and headlines? What resources do our students have when it comes to dealing with these issues?
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Recently, a guy. We'll call him "Jon" was working as a wedding DJ. Something he's done professionally for over two decades. But this time, he was DJing a wedding for a family that had by coincidence invited some high school friends of Jon. What happened when these friends told him he should play a song that was highly inappropriate for the setting? Well, let's just say it left him wondering "What was I thinking?"
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Many of us do, and may not even know it. A "zombie parasite" is that person that makes it all about them. They take and take, and give nothing back. Just like an actual parasite, they can be tricky. They can change their surroundings to help them grow and even take over their host. Unfortunately for some, the zombie parasite turns out to be a close friend, or even a family member. Today Dr. Riley will help us identify potential parasites in our lives, and help us with ways to deal with them.
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We all have at least one friend or family member that you don't discuss certain topics with. But what about our friends that we want to engage or debate certain things with? How do we keep ourselves civil and polite when important matters come up in conversation? Dr. Fred Riley helps navigate the muddy water between the issues and the relationship.
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We've all heard that we should be bold, different, stand out! Yet, it's in our nature to follow the group. Today Dr. Fred Riley explains group behavior and even shares his own experience with following the crowd.
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Recently it's all about something called the "MOMO Challenge". A challenge that supposedly pops up in kids videos on Youtube and tells our kids to do dangerous things. Turns out much of what we heard was an overreaction. But was it a hoax? Not exactly. MOMO is just another example of chain letters and ghost stories that we all grew up with. Only now this is much more serious thanks to the internet. So was it real? Yes. And no.
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Today we discuss the tradition of moving. In this case, specifically moving Fred's office furniture from one side of town to the other. With a slight pause to retrieve a couch that flew out of the truck on the freeway. Why didn't you tie it down Fred? What were you thinking?!
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Ever feel like your friends and neighbors are more put together than you because of social media? Well, you're not alone! In fact, it's likely they feel the same about you. After all, it's not like you post unflattering images of your life online. Today Fred Riley tells us how to separate fiction from reality when sharing in your friend's adventures online.
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Let's say a neighbor approaches you and is accusing you of ripping them off. They're angry. They're yelling, screaming. Possibly even threatening to retaliate. What is the proper response? Obviously there is a misunderstanding of some sort, but how do you de-escalate this situation while not compromising your own integrity? Drank Riley has that and more in this edition of Counseling On Demand.
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Some parents think what was I thinking even getting into this job. Fred was thinking about hard parenting and fatherhood can be. The dad jokes are strong in this episode. Fred talks about his personal transition from dad jokes to magic tricks.
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No matter how old you are, or where you are in life. Chances are you've had those moments where you question your own worth. This episode, Dr. Frank gives us tips on how to find your smile, no matter how long it's been since these doubts first entered your life. Then helps us return to the point where we knew how much value we have.
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We all have them. Even children as young as a year old. Research about devices like tablets and phones has finally started to come out so we can finally start understanding the impact they can have on adults and children. Parents know, getting a child on a device to listen can be nearly impossible. We also talk about studies that look at a link between depression and devices. Enjoy the content? Give us a rating and review.
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Human rating is the extent to which we compare ourselves to other people. Our talents, abilities, possessions, all get rated against other people. On the positive side, human rating can motivate us to do better. But it can also really weigh us down.
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Individuals with depression are good pretenders. They become masters at flying under the radar and hiding their depression.
Maybe this describes you or someone in your life.
People think of sadness when they think of depression. Yes, that's part of it, but there are other symptoms as well. Lack of interest in things, trouble sleeping, fatigue, poor appetite, excessive worry. Do you find yourself "what iffing"? Speculating on the bad things that might happen? Do you have other self- defeating thoughts?
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You've been in a restaurant and noticed your spouse totally disconnected. Maybe you've seen people that should be connected, but they're totally not. Their face is down in a device.
Letting a device interrupt a moment sends a message of rejection.
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Here are a few things you can do with your spouse as a booster shot for emotional intimacy.
Everyone's relationship is in a different place and this may be an uncomfortable place to go, but this podcast is about change.
Emotional intimacy are feelings that are shared toward each other. Shared experiences bring us together and helps us think about each other more. These experiences can be both happy and sad, but they help keep us together.
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Fred is using the metaphor of imagining yourself as a house for his lesson on keeping arguments out of the bedroom. It is important to have a place that you can rely on as a safe base. This can save so many fights and arguments in marriages or relationships.
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It's called re-fueling and it is essential to being successful and happy. Re-fueling is a break from your normal and taking a break is OK. Re-fueling can mean different things based on your personality type. Introverts and extroverts have very different ways of re-fueling.
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Fred is telling the story about one his clients who he call antsy pants in hopes he can help listeners understand anxiety better. But don't worry this anxiety story has a happy ending. It ends with peace and freedom.
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Most husbands out there have plenty of what was I thinking moments, even if they won't admit it. Life is all about relationships and relationships are messy and we all make mistakes. This what was I thinking Wednesday will make you laugh.
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Last week we hit you with husbands edition of what was I thinking Wednesday. Now it's time for wife edition. Fred is worried he may lose some followers today so maybe what was he thinking?
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You always hear of couples going therapy when things start going downhill, but you should consider having counseling before marriage. Fred talks about the couples he sees that have gone through counseling before getting married. He also talks about divorce rates for couples who seek therapy before getting married.
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The twelve step program for addiction has been widely used for a long time. Fred thinks the twelve step program needs to be changed. The twelve step program is used by Alcoholics Anonymous. Fred thinks the twelve steps teach people that they are nothing without support.
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We are back with "what was I thinking Wednesday." This week we are talking about thank yous, favorite things and group behavior. Fred shares his own stories of what was I thinking? If you have any stories of what was I thinking share them with us, we would love to talk about them.
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What do you do when you get to the point of "good enough"? Well, most people won't ever get there. It's best to think of it in terms of how can I feel better when you already feel good. Fred has a story about chickens and eagles to make the concept of perception easier to understand.
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Fred learns a lot from his clients. Here is a story about a woman who is suicidal almost every week. She always asks Fred if she is normal. But what is normal? Fred uses this example to talk about how important is to know and understand your own needs so you can meet them.
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We are doing something new. It's called what was I thinking Wednesday. Fred is kicking things off by talking about his own "what was I thinking Wednesday." We all have moments where we think "what was I thinking," share them with us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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We are taught that we are dams. We have to take a lot of pressure from life and it is our responsibility to manage the flow of the pressure. For our purposes the dam metaphor represents holding back. The first question you must ask if if you are dam that has been built to carry all of life's pressures. Fred gives an exercise to help you balance life's pressures and perfect your damn.
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Today we are talking about an experience Fred is having with someone who is experiencing relationship trauma. Most us have experienced trauma and all of us have had various types of relationships. Fred talks about what we can learn from this person experiencing relationship trauma.
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Mistakes happen and when they do apologies should happen. Fred is teaching you how to apologize. When you apologize it is called repairing. It is important that within your apology you commit to change a behavior. An apology does not require you to feel shame.
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The mind can attend to four major events at a time. It doesn't have an endless ability to pay attention so it selects the most significant or most important. When we try to go to sleep, our mind is worried about losing those things and can have trouble settling down. Imagine you're in charge of the flight tower at the airport. Imagine your task list is airplanes. You can only attend to so many planes.
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One of the best things for any relationship is self-awareness. That's absolutely key. Don't worry so much about being aware of your spouse or partner, it's easy to point the finger. Be aware of yourself. Relationships are about commitment. We're always evaluating our commitment. Self-awareness helps you be aware of your real level of commitment. That level of commitment can change. It can get stronger as you get closer. It can also wane.
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Our bad habits can become like anchors in our life. They can feel good and important to us, but they actually interfere with our ability to move forward. Fred Riley likes to use animals as a way to explain concepts. There is a village in Africa that reveres the baboon. For a few weeks out of the year, they bring fruit into the middle of the village to serve the baboons. The baboons get to feast.
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Fred notices a lot of teenagers are misdiagnosed because families blame the problems on the teenager rather than the teen being a symptom of a problem. Sometimes you have to fix the system rather than all of the parts.
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It's that time of the year to start making New Years resolutions. First off, your resolutions have to be realistic and purposeful. Why are you making that New Years resolution? Is it really important to you? Fred talks about how our brains react to New Years Resolutions.
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Why aren't young boys getting enough access to mental health care? Fred sees this all the time. We are talking about the barriers that impact boys getting the correct mental health care. Suicide rates in teenage boys are going up here is why and how we can help.
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Abuse can be a sensitive subject. But we are talking about how go from being and abuse survivor to an abuse thriver. We are even moving towards conquering abuse. Fred tells some stories. Find Fred on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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It is wrong to compare yourself, your life or your problems to others. Your experience is your own. Fred tells the story of a woman who's husband has a condition where his mental state regresses in age. It is common for people to think that this woman is a saint, but Fred uses this to tell you how she really gets through each day.
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The best gift you can give yourself for Christmas has to come from asking yourself a question. Fred gives a simple exercise to help you give yourself the best gift. Christmas can be hard because of the gifts we are supposed to give. Be in finances, family or mental health.
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We are talking about human hibernation, season effective disorder and how this time of year can impact you. Fred calls it feeling frumpy. Everything you've heard about sun light, fish oil and vitamin D may not be all the way correct. Fred gives tools to help tackle the winter blues.
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We are talking about relationships and the different levels of commitment. Most people crave a certain level of commitment. One of Fred's patients, a couple, spurred this conversation. With commitment comes risk, that is why these conversations can be challenging. Feeling nervous or scared is normal. Fred give you an activity to help. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Family traditions come up a lot during the holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas. We are talking about how to get through the holidays while also maintaining a healthy relationship because it can prove to be tough between in-laws, friends and deciding where to spend your time. Just remember, it's not about love.
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A lot of people come to Fred thinking their spouse is a narcissist. You need to be careful about diagnosing others with narcissistic traits. It is not as black and white as it may seem. We are digging deep in narcissism today because it is a big topic that requires a lot of explaining.
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Suicide is something that is being talked about more and in society. Suicide numbers around the world on climbing and Fred is concerned. Suicide numbers are now impacting life-span numbers. It seems like with medical advancements life span should be growing. But mental health care hasn't caught up.
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Today we are introducing you to a new way to reduce anxiety. The introduction will be brief, but important. It is called Rational Emotive Therapy. When should you use it? When you are in a rational place. Think calm. Why? It helps reinforce your own problem solving ability, not that of a friend, family member or stranger. The best part? The solutions are yours, so you know it is one you can accomplish and stay consistent with. Fred teaches you the ABCs of Rational Emotive Therapy, to make it doable for anyone.
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Trust. And old value that still causes issues for some people. In this episode we are talking about some thoughts when it comes to trust. Trust is needed in every relationship, whether it is business or personal. Most people think trust is all or nothing, but that can be discouraging. Here are some tips on improving your ability to trust and in turn create healthy relationships. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Coming into adulthood and and forming your own identity can be a tough time, full of uncertainty. This is normal as new opinions form. People understand how they feel and their opinions so when that is in question it can be unsettling. First, know that it is okay for you identity to grow and change. You can get in touch with Fred Riley at gettingback2life.com.
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During our lifetime some us may be diagnosed with a mental health issue. This is episode is a very important reminder that you are not your diagnoses. There is a certain comfort that comes with a label but it is important not to let it hold you back.
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Today we are talking about tomorrow, Thanksgiving Day. We are talking about managing family relationships on Thanksgiving. Because we all have those one or two family members who are tough to be in the same room with for too long. Fred gives some easy tools that can help you enjoy your day despite certain family members.
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We are talking about two things Fred found in the news this week. One about a boy running away and the other accused of killing his mom, whom police are calling a sociopath, but it's important not to just go straight to the easy answer. Fred says these issues, for both boys, stem from a larger problem. He says we are missing out on important information. LINKS: https://nyp.st/2AWgrae , https://bit.ly/2AX0fWo
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Most of the advice you receive or read is full of coping mechanisms. It is important to be realistic when thinking about the coping mechanisms you choose. Not all of them are going to work for you and most of them are too simple to get to the root of a problem. They are too simple.
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The frequency of mass shootings has gone up drastically. How do we cope? The reality is that they are not going away. It is an epidemic. Everyone has ideas on how to solve the problem, but we are talking about how to cope. It's time to start thinking about what to do for yourself and your family.
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We do a lot of things because we are supposed to not because we actually want to. Supposed to's ruin authenticity. When someone is depressed they are doing things because they are supposed to which leaves people feeling like they failed. When you try to be enough, you never really know what enough is so you will never get there.
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Learning how to compromise can benefit many of aspects of your life. Especially your relationships. You have needs that need to be met, so do others. Always having your needs met requires compromise from you and your partner. Compromise is contagious but it has to start somewhere.
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We are focusing on name calling in relationships and in parenting. A lot of time when someone calls you a name it is because they are hurting or have been hurt. Relationships make us vulnerable and that is why name calling can be so damaging. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Empty nesting can sneak up on you. Some people fear it because they will be stuck with their partner. Most people don't know how to prepare for an empty nest, so here's some tips on how to get ready.
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Separating from your partner is a big decision and should be an intellectual choice, but most of the time it is an emotional decision. Divorce is a personal decision, but a lot of times people let the influence of others dictate their final choice. Follow us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Social anxiety is a lot more common than you think. It it important recognize social anxiety before you can fix it. Did you know both introverts and extroverts can experience social anxiety? Follow us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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The feeling of failure and falling short can really shake a persons confidence and become a factor in anxiety and depression. A tool therapist use to help patience is to manage your own expectations of yourself. Motivation speakers can sometimes do more harm than good. Realism is better.
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Today we are talking about pack behavior and how a lot of actions are influenced through your animal instincts. Group behavior is not peer pressure in someone telling you do something outright. A lot of times you may not even know you are engaging in group behavior. Scary, right? Find Fred online at gettingback2life.com.
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Friendships can be incredibly important but also incredibly challenging depending on your age and where you live. Social media has added a whole other layer to friendship. Think of finding friends like doing job interviews. The number one thing when making friends is having things in common. Letting go of self judgment is important as well. Be open to making friends but also be picky when choosing the people you spend time with.
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Fred hates Halloween, but everyone loves it. This inspired today's episode. We are raised to think different is weird, but it's not. Differences are what make us unique. Think along the lines of, "what do I think?" rather than, "what should I think." It can be very uncomfortable to share an unpopular opinion. That can come from the way we raised. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Anxiety can often be the underlying cause of depression, OCD, PTSD and more. Today we are talking about anticipatory anxiety. Anxiety when you know something is coming and it makes you anxious. Using habits as a coping mechanism can help solve this anxiety. The key is thinking ahead rather than worrying ahead. Find us online at gettingback2life.com.
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Last week we talked about princess syndrome and now we are flipping it and talking about men that may be too attached to their mother. Fred talks about what mothers do to create these problems for their kids in future relationships and how you can solve some of the problems if they are present in your relationship. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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A lot of people come into therapy having already diagnosed themselves or a loved one. Most people diagnose themselves with what they want people to see while they diagnose a loved one out of convenience. Maybe they just don't want to deal with the ups and downs of normal emotion. Fred breaks down why diagnosing yourself can be problematic. Follow us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Surprise, the way you parent has long term impact on your kids. We are talking about "princess syndrome" today. Some of you may not want to hear this and that means you may be a princess. Competitive fathers can cause their daughters to become princesses but that can set them up for tough relationships later on in life. Find us online at gettingback2life.com.
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We are taking a different approach to all news you have been hearing about Christine Ford and Brett Kavanaugh. We are talking about the hardship of re-living your trauma, sexual or not. Fred explains that people who come forward about assault and are not believed end up in therapy. Follow Fred on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Change is something we all have a little bit or or a lot of a problem with this comes from our need and want to predict and know what is coming. When something doesn't fit our knowledge base it can be nerve racking. Animals, like humans are also impacted by change, it is a normal response. Some individuals really rely on consistency and when the consistency goes away feelings of anxiety can rise. A lot of this comes from your brain's automatic response. It helps to think of the brains response as evidence rather than a problem. Find Fred online here.
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Parenting is hard. And it may be becoming more difficult. It can require a lot of team work and planning. Some children are good at creating marital discord in order to get what they want. They get their parents into an argument so then the child gets to go do whatever they want. It starts with being aware that a child's behavior can impact your relationship. Sometimes couples start to blame their partner for their child's problem. This is the wrong way. Telling your spouse how to parent is insulting. Find Fred here online.
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Unconditional positive regard, that's the tool we are giving you today. Think of it as a version of giving someone the benefit of the doubt. But in this version you are aware of the things that bother you, but you also learn to understand why certain behaviors happen so you can be more forgiving and understand why they bother you. Sometimes they do these problem behaviors to protect themselves. Find Fred online here.
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Laughter is good for you. And laughing at yourself can be even better. Some of the benefits include self expression, forgiveness and even the benefit of not making the mistake twice if you learn from the mistakes you do make. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Fred shares a story of his life where he went through some anxiety and self doubt that you can hopefully learn from and maybe laugh a little. Because who hasn't been here, right? An embarrassing moment can really help you learn about yourself and your ability to handle certain situations. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Wanda Barzee, one of the individuals convicted in the kidnapping of Elizabeth Smart, was recently released from prison. We talk about the impact this can have on Elizabeth and people close or even far from the story.This release could cause triggers in people who have otherwise overcome their post traumatic stress injury. Follow us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or as Fred calls it, Post Traumatic Stress Injury, impacts the lives of people all over the globe. PTSD can be healed when it is thought of like an injury to the brain. We are talking about ways to thrive, not just survive after trauma.
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Today we are talking about Hurricane Florence. At the time we recorded this episode is the first day the storm made landfall. Hurricanes can cause severe trauma for those near the storm. It is important to take care of your mental health, even during natural disasters. Fred gives things you may not have thought of that you can do to help those who are impacted by the trauma. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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We are talking about two different ways to approach stress and the world around us. They are approach and avoidance. Fred gives listeners two tasks. Do you avoid it? Or approach it? These tasks will help you approach social standards that can cause stress. Breaking social norms can be very hard for some people. We are trying to help with that. Find us on Instagram @rileycounseling.
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