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Ever wonder why you get so angry over little things? It turns out, anger is just a signal. It’s a sign that something deeper is being threatened – your need for safety, connection, or feeling empowered.
Join us as Joël breaks down the real reasons behind your anger. Learn how to listen to that “dashboard light” instead of ignoring it, and turn it into a powerful tool for understanding yourself better and improving your leadership.
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Got a great thoughts or idea but struggle to put it on paper?
In this episode, Joël talks to Kim, an artist and equine therapy advocate, who faces the challenge of translating years of experience into a tangible curriculum. She grapples with self-doubt and financial concerns, questioning how to dedicate time to this project when income generation is tied to immediate art sales. The conversation explores practical solutions, including AI-powered content creation and the importance of taking imperfect action.
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Do you feel held back by what others might think? This episode dives into the pervasive fear of man, a snare that keeps so many from stepping into their true potential. Discover how to break free from seeking approval and embrace the liberating power of living according to your calling.
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Ever feel like you’re a high-functioning procrastinator? You get things done, but always at the last minute, causing stress?
Join Joël as he chats with Darren, a screenwriter, about his journey with procrastination and perfectionism. We explore why it’s so hard to start, even when you love the work, and how to finally cross that finish line.
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Are you waiting for the “perfect” moment to chase your dreams? Idealism can be a beautiful vision, but when it becomes an impossible standard, it can destroy the very things you long for. Discover how to break free from the grip of perfectionism and step into God’s calling, even when life is messy.
Chapter Summary:
00:00 Idealism vs. Reality
02:58 Idealism Destroys Community
07:22 Vision vs. Idealism
10:12 Let Your Idealism Die
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Feeling stuck and getting in your own way? The biggest obstacle isn’t external. It’s in your mindset. Learn how to face the fears that keep you from your potential.
This week, Joël talks to James about wrestling with fear, self-doubt, and the surprising fear of success. Discover the emotional toll of self-imposed limits and the hope for moving past them.
00:00 Getting Out of My Own Way
02:52 Fear of Success and Family Legacy
06:32 Defining Success and Contentment
10:09 Self-Worth and Perfectionism
15:45 Overcoming Past Failures and Defense Mode
20:50 Trusting God’s Plan and Values
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This week, Joël talks to Bill. He built a thriving handyman business, but the success came at the cost of his passion. Feeling drained and alone, he’s questioning how to reignite his drive without jeopardizing his family and finances. This episode delves into his struggle with burnout and the potential for a new chapter, working alongside his capable daughter.
Contents
00:00 Lost Motivation, Successful Business
01:24 Work-Life Balance and Values
03:10 Shifting Roles and Physical Strain
05:53 Working with Daughter Ella
09:44 Daughter’s Potential and Mindset Shift
12:42 Transitioning the Business
16:27 Redefining Purpose and Legacy
20:15 Rest and Renewed Motivation
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Ever wondered if God could use your past mistakes, even the big ones, for good?
This week Joël talked to Rosalinda about how to turn her story into a message of redemption for others. We dive deep into her story of radical change, healing, and finding a mission in what she once saw as her greatest failure.
Get ready for some real talk about faith, sin, and how God turns everything around for His glory.
00:00 Introduction: Turning Failure Into Mission
01:36 Divine Calling and Vision
05:03 Biblical Marriage and Personal Testimony
07:35 A War for the Soul: Finding God’s Love
11:13 Societal Influence and Spiritual Awakening
14:14 Confronting the Past and Embracing Jesus
16:21 Sharing the Message: Writing and Trusting God
21:26 Marriage Problems and Forgiveness
24:36 Crafting Your Story and Message
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This week Joël talked with Jason, a successful cabinet maker, who feels pressure to expand his business. But with a demanding role on the city council, family commitments, and a rigorous personal wellness routine, he questioned the true meaning of success. Is growth always the right answer? 🤔
Chapter Summary:
00:00 Business Growth vs. Life Balance
04:05 Time as Your Most Important Asset
06:11 Daily Commitments and Time Allocation
11:28 The Pareto Principle and Business Efficiency
16:13 Delegation and Hiring Challenges
20:50 Intentional Growth Limits and Values
26:01 Defining Success and Future Steps
If you want to book your own coaching call with Joël, visit http://joelmalm.com/coaching to book your spot.
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Wanting to start over and get it right? You’re not alone.
We’re diving into what it’s like to rebuild your life from scratch and deal with those nagging feelings of being behind.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re self-sabotaging or struggling with imposter syndrome, especially after a big life change like moving your family, this conversation is for you. Joël and Joe talk about reframing your mind to a new way of seeing your life and future.
00:00 Stuck in Self-Sabotage
03:41 New Beginnings, Old Struggles
07:41 Overcoming Passive Leadership
12:28 Redefining Success and Goals
16:06 Embracing a New Foundation
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Discover how to build a thriving coaching program from the ground up.
Stacey shares her journey of developing “Mirror Love,” a program for women seeking self-love and empowerment. Learn essential steps for launching your coaching business. This episode provides a clear roadmap for aspiring coaches. Learn how to define your niche, create compelling course content, and strategize your launch. Stacey and Joel discuss the importance of a strong framework and practical steps to build your coaching program.
00:00 Stacy’s Coaching Program: Mirror Love
04:03 Identifying the Target Audience
06:12 The Marketing Pitch and Sales Fractals
10:27 Book vs. Coaching: Community Value
14:52 Developing a Coaching Framework
17:19 Stacy’s Seven Steps to Self-Love
22:21 Pricing and Proof of Concept
Ready to launch your own coaching program? Visit joelmalm.com/coaching to share your story and get personalized guidance.
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When Austin was asked to deliver a eulogy for his father, he faced a profound challenge: how to honor his dad while remaining true to his faith, given he’d never heard his father confess Christ. In this episode Joël and his guest, Austin, explore the delicate balance between love, honesty, and faith.
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Ever feel like you have to say something, but you’re terrified of messing it up? We’re diving deep into what happens when your gift for truth-telling feels more like a burden. Join us as we unpack how to share what you see without causing harm.
Learn to navigate that inner conflict when speaking out feels risky but staying silent feels disobedient. It’s a tough spot, but you’re not alone!
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In this episode, Joël talks about the two stages of faith: the first half focused on receiving blessings and the second half on deeper trust. He shares insights from his new book, “Hiking the Clouds,” exploring spiritual growth beyond initial awakenings. Learn how to mature in your faith journey.
In this episode, he talks about:
- The difference between the first and second halves of faith.
- How to move beyond a transactional relationship with God.
- The importance of surrender and humility in spiritual maturity.
- Developing a quiet confidence that transcends certainty.
00:00 Introduction to Hiking the Clouds
01:22 First Half of Faith: Jacob’s Story
03:40 Second Half of Faith: Deeper Surrender
06:16 Maturity Through Stages of Faith
08:18 Quiet Confidence and Perpetual Ascent
Ready to deepen your spiritual walk? Purchase “Hiking the Clouds” today and continue your journey of mature faith!
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Joël and Rick discuss the complex topic of divorce and remarriage within a Christian context, examining scripture and the meaning of “hardness of heart.” They challenge traditional views, offering perspectives on God’s grace and the journey of spiritual growth through relationships. This conversation navigates the messiness of life with biblical insights. (They even talk about how God is divorced.)
In This Episode:
00:00 Is Divorce a Sin?
02:00 Matthew 19 and Hard Hearts
05:30 Remarriage and Sexual Immorality
07:37 Internalizing the Law and Marriage’s Value
09:22 God, Divorce, and Redemption
12:26 Perpetual Sin and Complexities
15:24 Marriage Advice and Unequal Yokes
18:07 Grace, Forgiveness, and Maturity
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Ever wonder how to stay positive as you age and keep hope for the next generation? Joel and his dad, Rick, dive into generational differences. They discuss avoiding bitterness and trusting God’s plan for youth. Join them as they compare today’s world to the 60s and 70s. Learn why the church sometimes misses new spiritual moves. Discover how to raise passionate disciples.
00:00 Bitter vs. Enjoyable People
04:24 Generational Bitterness and Hope
07:22 Recognizing God’s New Moves
11:59 Spiritual Warfare and Trust
16:20 Wrapping Up: A Thousand Subscribers!
What are your thoughts on generational differences and hope for the future? Drop a comment below! Don’t forget to subscribe for more conversations! #NextGen #ChristianPerspective #PodcastDiscussion #FaithTalk #LifeLessons
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What does Christian maturity really mean? We’re talking real life faith, self-righteousness, and those frustrating moments when Bible knowledge doesn’t equal love. Let’s get honest about spiritual growth.
Join Joël Malm and Rick Malm as they discuss a viral clip that sparked intense Christian backlash. They share raw insights on dealing with arrogance, the Dunning-Kruger effect in faith, and the true meaning of allowing God’s word to pierce your soul. It’s a candid look at growth, humility, and the patience needed on your spiritual journey.
00:00 Changing Podcast Format & Work-Life Balance
03:10 Critiques on Biblical Knowledge vs. Maturity
07:56 The Dangers of Externalizing Faith
12:08 Seminary’s Impact and Dealing with Arrogance
15:46 Possessing Your Soul: A Lifelong Journey
19:16 Patience and Growth in Faith
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Explore the evolving dynamics of mentorship with Joel and Rick Malm as they dissect a Zen proverb and biblical wisdom to uncover whether we ever outgrow our mentors, or if the relationship simply transforms. They discuss aging, wisdom, and the essential role of the Holy Spirit in guiding life decisions.
In This Episode:
00:00 Outgrowing Mentors: A Zen Proverb
04:03 Growth, Crystallized Intelligence, and Trust
08:24 The Need for Wise Counsel
12:50 Surpassing Mentors and Humility
Key Takeaways:
Examine the Zen proverb: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears; when the student is truly ready, the teacher disappears.”
Understand the biblical perspective from Luke 6:40 on mentorship and becoming like the teacher.
Recognize the shift from relying on external mentors to trusting the Holy Spirit for guidance.
Appreciate the crystallized intelligence and wisdom that comes with age and experience.
* Maintain humility and openness to counsel, regardless of experience level.
Resources Mentioned:
Luke 6:40: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%206%3A40&version=ESV
ESV Bible: https://www.esv.org/
Hiking the Clouds (book): http://hikingtheclouds.com
Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/books/strength-to-strength/
* The Chosen: https://watch.thechosen.tv/
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What does “perfect love” really look like? 🤔 We’re unpacking the concept of agape from 2 Peter!
Join us as we chat about ascending in faith, the role of the church, and opportunities to love.
00:00 Hiking the Clouds: Agape
03:33 Churches and Their Callings
09:03 Humility and Knowing God
12:50 The Complexity of God’s Love
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Can you REALLY love your brothers in Christ? 🤔 Joël & Rick get real about expectations, “egocentric love,” & the journey to something deeper.
They dive into the “Hiking the Clouds” book, exploring:
- Why loving fellow Christians can be tough
- The role of self-awareness
- Why you might be a narcissist (lol)
- The importance of community
In this episode:
00:00 Brotherly Love vs. Agape
03:43 Shattering Illusions for True Love
08:10 Detachment: Loving Without Need
13:07 Community and True Compassion
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What is a "godly" person? Joël and Rick Malm into the complexities of godliness as they continue their journey through the first draft of Joël's book, “Hiking the Clouds.” They explore the balance between rational understanding and embracing the mystery of faith, challenging conventional Western Christian perspectives. In
This Episode:
00:00 Welcome Back and Book Updates
01:00 The Challenge of Self-Control
02:00 Understanding Godliness
03:30 Embracing Paradoxes in Faith
05:00 The Mystery of God
08:00 The Journey of Letting Go
10:00 The Second Half of Faith
12:00 Rattling Theological Cages
14:00 Navigating Uncertainty in Faith
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Joël and Rick delve into the concept of endurance in faith, inspired by Joël’s upcoming book, “Hiking the Clouds.” They explore how perseverance through times of God's silence leads to mature faith, discussing personal anecdotes and biblical perspectives on navigating spiritual challenges.
In This Episode:
00:00 Welcome Back!
01:30 The Journey of Endurance
03:30 Facing Spiritual Abandonment
05:30 The Reality of Suffering
07:30 Trusting God in Darkness
10:00 The Role of Emotional Suffering
12:30 The Illusion of Control
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Join Joël and Rick Malm as they delve into Joël's new book, “Hiking the Clouds,” exploring the concept of self-control as a waypoint on the journey of faith. They discuss the importance of self-awareness as a precursor to self-control, highlighting the need to address root causes rather than merely surface-level behaviors. This insightful conversation uses relatable stories and scriptural insights to illuminate the path towards spiritual maturity.
In This Episode:
00:08 Introduction to Hiking the Clouds
01:40 Understanding Self-Control
03:56 The Hike Analogy
06:00 The Root of Self-Control
09:40 The Role of the Soul
12:12 Navigating Self-Awareness and Self-Improvement
14:00 The Dark Side of Self-Perception
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Joel and Rick Malm delve into Chapter 3 of Joel’s book, “Hiking the Clouds,” exploring the complexities of spiritual growth and the role of knowledge in faith. They discuss how knowledge, while crucial, shouldn’t overshadow love and genuine transformation, highlighting the dangers of pride and self-righteousness that can arise from excessive knowledge. The episode offers practical insights into balancing biblical understanding with a humble heart, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and pursuing a genuine relationship with God.
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction to Hiking the Clouds
01:19 Understanding Faith
02:09 The Role of Knowledge in Faith
05:01 The Challenge of Biblical Knowledge
07:00 The Dangers of Knowledge Without Love
09:41 The Heart of the Matter
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Joël and Rick continue their discussion of Joël's new book -- Hiking the Clouds --about the stages of faith. Starting with the importance of a strict moral code and obedience as a foundation for all other stages on the journey of awareness.
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In this brief episode, Joël and Rick talk about the floods that impacted their area.
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In this episode Joël and Rick delve into the concept of faith as a journey, using the metaphor of mountain climbing. They discuss the stages of faith, highlighting the importance of spiritual awareness and the tension between comfort and growth. Listeners gain actionable insights on navigating the challenges of faith and developing a deeper relationship with God.
In This Episode:
00:00 Welcome Back to Malm Podcast
01:00 Understanding Maturity in Faith
02:30 The Concept of Waypoints
04:20 The Two Halves of Faith
06:40 Redefining Faith
09:00 The Role of Personal Experience
12:00 Tensions in Life’s Questions
16:00 Growth Through Discomfort
19:00 The Journey of Faith
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Joël and Rick discuss Joël’s new book, “Hiking the Clouds: The Seven Waypoints of Mature Faith,” exploring the stages of spiritual growth. They challenge the idea of unwavering certainty in faith, emphasizing the importance of love and unconditional trust in God, even amidst uncertainty and doubt. The conversation delves into the Dunning-Kruger effect and the progressive nature of faith, offering a reflective, rather than prescriptive, approach to spiritual maturity.
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction to the Journey
01:00 The Quest for Maturity
02:30 Stages of Spiritual Growth
04:00 Understanding Faith and Certainty
08:00 Walking in the Clouds
10:30 The Nature of Spiritual Growth
13:00 Reflections on Job and Unconditional Love
16:00 A Reflective Journey
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Join Joël and Rick as they unpack the weighty topic of suffering, sharing personal stories and insightful reflections. From the consequences of past mistakes to the pain inflicted by others, they explore the delicate balance between necessary trials that shape us and unnecessary struggles we can avoid. Discover a powerful framework to discern the source of your pain and choose a response that leads to growth, not despair.
Chapter Summary:
00:00 Introduction to Suffering
01:20 Understanding Necessary Suffering
03:17 Consequences of Choices
04:30 Suffering from Others’ Decisions
06:57 Aligning with Principles
09:01 Financial and Physical Suffering
11:01 The Role of the Law
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Join Joël and Rick, as they unpack the often-confusing topic of suffering. This episode offers a thoughtful exploration of biblical teachings, personal experiences, and practical wisdom for navigating life’s inevitable challenges. Discover how to distinguish between necessary trials that refine your character and self-created pain that hinders your growth.
00:00 Introduction
01:18 Understanding Suffering
03:05 Self-Reflection and Accountability
04:36 Misinterpretations of Prosperity
06:05 The Role of Necessary Suffering
09:00 Learning Through Temptation
12:11 The Nature of Control in Suffering
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This episode delves into the transformative power of suffering, exploring biblical perspectives from 1 Peter, James, and 2 Corinthians. Joël and Rick discuss how suffering builds resilience and prepares us for the responsibilities and rewards of reigning with Christ in eternity, challenging the common misconception of a passive afterlife. They explore the concept of “filling up what is lacking” in Christ’s afflictions, and unpack the idea that heaven involves active participation and service rather than passive bliss.
In This Episode: 00:00
Introduction to the Mountain of Suffering
01:40 The Purpose of Suffering
04:04 Heaven: More Than Just a Destination
06:31 Suffering as a Path to Strength
09:16 The Role of Suffering in Spiritual Growth
12:10 Fulfilling Christ’s Suffering
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Books Referenced
Connecting the Dots: What God is Doing When Life Doesn't Make Sense Link: https://amzn.to/43cpb8h
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Kids are a handful! Their minds are quick and they love exploring. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how much responsibility does a parent have to keep their kids engaged and entertained?
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Messed up your relationship with your kids? Feeling the weight of past mistakes? This podcast offers powerful advice on repairing broken family bonds.
Learn practical steps for sincere apologies and the importance of forgiveness in family reconciliation. Gain insights into rebuilding trust and navigating complex family dynamics.
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges
01:14 The Power of Apology
03:53 Addressing Past Mistakes
06:19 The Journey of Forgiveness
08:44 The Burden of Unforgiveness
10:50 Understanding the Apology Process
12:12 Navigating Misunderstandings
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Joël and Rick delve into the multifaceted roles of grandparents, exploring the joys and challenges of grandparenting in modern families. We discuss the evolving dynamics of family relationships, the importance of generational influence, and the responsibilities of grandparents when stepping in to assist with childcare. The discussion also touches upon the impact of cultural shifts and biblical perspectives on grandparent involvement.
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction to Parenting and Grandparenting
01:01 The Role of a Grandparent
03:46 Cultural Perspectives on Grandparenting
05:51 Generational Influence and Wisdom
09:36 Trust Issues Between Parents and Grandparents
12:01 Navigating Difficult Situations
15:31 The Reality of Family Dynamics
Key Takeaways:
- Identify the evolving role of grandparents in contemporary society.
- Assess the responsibilities and limits of grandparents in childcare.
- Understand the significance of multi-generational family influence.
- Respect parental boundaries regarding childcare decisions.
- Balance the ideal with the realities of family life.
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Joël (son) and Rick (father) dive into the challenges of parenting, focusing on the importance of prioritizing a child’s heart over outward behavior. They discuss their parenting approaches, emphasizing grace, understanding, and the long-term impact of nurturing a child’s inner character. Listeners will gain practical insights into distinguishing between childish misbehavior and true rebellion, and how to apply this wisdom in various leadership contexts.
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges
01:11 The Default Answer: Yes
02:25 Parenting to the Heart
04:25 Expecting Mistakes and Misbehavior
06:01 Childish Irresponsibility vs. Rebellion
08:49 Observing Heart Conditions
11:56 The Importance of Focus
14:01 Encouraging Positive Behavior
Key Takeaways:
- Prioritize understanding a child’s heart over focusing solely on outward behavior.
- Assume childish irresponsibility over rebellion initially, reserving stronger responses for persistent misbehavior.
- Learn to differentiate between innocent mistakes and deliberate rebellion in children and employees.
- Apply the “yes” default approach to requests, maintaining boundaries while fostering trust and connection.
- Focus on character traits like kindness, diligence, and faithfulness, rather than solely on outward appearances or grades.
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This episode delves into the complexities of parenting and the long-term impact of different parenting styles on the parent-child relationship. Joël and Rick discuss whether prioritizing friendship early on hinders respect and authority, ultimately affecting the love and connection later in life. They explore the biblical concept of fearing the Lord and its role in healthy parenting and the importance of consequences versus grace in child development.
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction to Mountains and Parenting
01:20 The Balance of Friendship and Authority
03:50 Understanding Love and Respect
06:30 Consequences and Discipline
09:45 The Role of Grace in Parenting
12:00 Regaining Control in Parenting
Key Takeaways:
- Examine the balance: Understand the delicate balance between authority and friendship in parenting.
- Prioritize respect: Establish respect before expecting love from your children.
- Discipline with intention: Use consequences to teach responsibility rather than relying solely on grace, which children may misinterpret.
- Embrace healthy legalism: Acknowledge the role of boundaries and structure in early childhood development.
- Learn about consequences: Recognize the biblical perspective on discipline and its role in fostering a loving parent-child relationship.
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Why are we regularly attracted to people who have a completely different take on life? But then often find that difference being the reason for much of our conflict? Joël and Rick talk about the complexities of relationships, particularly the dynamic between people with differing personalities.
They illustrate this with the analogy of magnets: sometimes opposites attract, and other times they repel. This leads to a discussion of how God may design this dynamic to foster growth and change within individuals. A key example is Joël's daughter who, with her spontaneous nature, complements her father’s more cautious personality.
The podcast emphasizes the importance of valuing differing perspectives in relationships. The speakers use the example of a coin, highlighting that each person sees only one side at a time, and the only way to get the full picture is to embrace the other person’s view. This concept extends to conflict resolution, where recognizing that both sides may be right creates a more thorough understanding. The speakers illustrate this with an anecdote about their daughter’s approach to life, contrasting it with their own.
A significant portion of the podcast addresses the challenges of raising a child whose personality differs significantly from the parents’. The speakers discuss the delicate balance between guiding the child’s development and avoiding the suppression of their unique characteristics. They highlight the importance of addressing issues promptly, with love and patience, to prevent resentment. The father shares his anxieties and struggles with this aspect of parenting, while also emphasizing the value of appreciating his daughter’s distinct strengths.
Joël and Rick strongly emphasize the importance of addressing conflict early and constructively. This prevents resentment and allows for healthier growth. They stress that recognizing and valuing differing perspectives is crucial for successful conflict resolution. The analogy of “iron sharpening iron” is used to illustrate how friction, though initially uncomfortable, ultimately leads to refinement and growth in both individuals involved. This applies to both spousal and parent-child relationships.
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00:00 Welcome to the Podcast Join Joel and his dad, Rick, as they kick off another episode in their series about relationships. They set the stage for a lively discussion on the dynamics of opposites attracting in relationships.
00:48 The Nature of Opposites Attracting Rick introduces the concept of opposites attracting, sharing his observations and personal anecdotes about how differences in personality can lead to conflict. They explore the idea that these conflicts can be beneficial for growth.
03:00 Understanding Compatibility in Relationships The conversation shifts to the importance of compatibility and how some couples thrive without conflict due to similar personalities. Rick shares insights on how exposure to different traits can foster personal growth.
04:50 Strengths and Weaknesses in Relationships Joel and Rick discuss how opposites can complement each other, highlighting the balance between spontaneity and steadiness in relationships. They reflect on personal experiences to illustrate the dynamics of differing personalities.
07:00 The Value of Different Perspectives The duo dives into the significance of valuing each other’s perspectives in a relationship, using the metaphor of a quarter to explain how different views can lead to a more comprehensive understanding. They emphasize the importance of communication and openness.
09:28 Parenting Opposite Personalities Joel seeks advice from Rick on parenting a child whose personality starkly contrasts his ow
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Conflict is a natural part of two people trying to get along. But if we run from it, it can lead to all sorts of negative consequences. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to handle conflict with grace by figuring out exactly what the issue is, expressing emotions properly, and recognizing what the motivation is of the person you're in conflict with.
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Conflict is a natural part of two people trying to get along. But if we run from it, it can lead to all sorts of negative consequences. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to handle conflict with grace by figuring out exactly what the issue is, first.
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On Rick and Jana Malm's 50th wedding anniversary, Joël talks to his dad about tips for keeping your marriage strong for the long haul.
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It's easy to feel behind in life. But what if late bloomers have the greatest advantage? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of late bloomers.
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In spite of all our connectedness, people have never been more lonely. Sometimes loneliness is a function of the season we're in, but sometimes it's because we've isolated ourselves. Joël and Rick talk about how to walk through lonely seasons with wisdom.
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Often times emotions and perspectives on life are based on seasons. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to identity seasonal patterns in your life.
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Life happens in seasons and there are some seasons that feel like starting over. It can feel like you've failed. But what if starting over is part of God's plan. Joël and Rick talk about keeping perspective on starting over.
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We all need friends, but it seems to be really hard to make deep friendships after age 30. Joël and Rick talk about the challenges of making lasting friendships. #fyp #friendship #friendshipgoals #foryou
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Christians are called to be in the world but not of it. So how exactly do we live in the world without its negative influence having an impact on us? How do we help our kids do that? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the subtle nuances of keeping yourself from being impacted by negative influence.
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When you love someone, you want the best for them. Often times, we can see clearly areas people need to change, but when it comes to relationships helping someone change can be a challenge. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to help those you love change.
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Feelings of rejection can have a major impact on us. Some peoples' greatest fear is being rejected by those they love and value. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with rejection.
Books we talked about: The Ins & Out of Rejection by Charles Solomon: https://amzn.to/3PMei6D
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There are going to be times in life when you just aren't "feeling it." How do you stay motivated? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to find motivation in every season of life.
Books we talked about:
1. From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life by Arthur Brooks: https://amzn.to/3WTNC8f
2. The Creative Act by Rick Rubin: https://amzn.to/4h34LnZ
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Vision is a word people like to throw around, but does everyone need one? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of having vision for your life, even if it doesn't seem very big.
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Go big or go home, right? What if that mindset is actually what's keeping you from big things... Joël and Rick talk about different projects they've started that began small but turned big over time.
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The Apostle Paul says we were created for good works which were prepared by God for us to do (Eph. 2:10) -- so how do you figure out exactly what those works are? Do we have all have the same calling or do some people have a specific call? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the tricky task of finding your calling.
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As 2025 gets started, lots of us have some goals for where we want to go. But what if there's a step that's even more important than goal-setting. Joël and Rick talk about having vision for your future and where you want to go.
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Lots of things in life are up for grabs if you'll just have the courage to ask. Jesus even encourages us to ask our Heavenly Father (Matthew 7:7-11). So why do we struggle to ask sometimes? And how do we know if we're asking according to God's will? Joël and Rick talk about this (and more).
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Do we ever get to a point where a job is "below" us? How do you know when it's time to stop doing something and let someone else pay their dues? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what "paying your dues" looks like.
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We've all heard a miraculous story of someone being delivered from a habit or addiction. We're happy for those folks, but what about those of us who have to struggle for our entire lives to beat something. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the blessings of not being immediately delivered from patterns, hangups, and habits.
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What if defeat is the path to victory? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of being defeated in the path to victory.
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There have been loads of pastor scandals lately. There is forgiveness for sin, but how quickly should someone be allowed to be back in a leadership position after they violated a sacred trust? #pastor #scandal #ministry
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If we aren't careful --over time-- our faith can become a bit comfortable and even boring. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to keep your faith from losing its edge.
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Deep inside many of us feel like we aren't quite living up to what we could be. But what are we supposed to do? Often times, we're waiting on God to do what we can't do, but in the meantime it can feel like you're dying inside. Joël and Rick talk about what it looks like to give God all your potential.
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Christians tend to have their own lingo and there are certain things we say in church that would just sound weird if said in conversation. Why do we do this? Is it limiting our ability to speak to others about Christ? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to avoid the trap of falling into talking about God in ways that are out of sync with normal human communication.
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Would God ever call you to do something that hurts your family? How do you know for sure that God has spoken? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what to do when God asks you to do something that could hurt those you love.
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In this episode, Joël talks to his dad (Rick) about what he's learned over the last 70 years of life.
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Society seems to swing on a pendulum of one extreme to another. Politically, religiously. In the episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to stay balanced when the world wants to push you to extremes.
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Ask and you shall receive. That’s what Jesus said. But why is it so hard for many of us to ask? Joël and Rick talk about how and why we should ask big.
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In this episode, Joël and Rick prepare to be burned at the stake, as they answer a listener question: Can people who never hear about Jesus be saved? It's a controversial question that has caused much heater debate over the years....
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There’s lots in the Bible about how to respond to horrible leaders. But where’s the line? What if your boss is asking you to do something unethical? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to stay faithful when you work for a horrible boss.
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In this episode, Joël and Rick answer a listener's question: Besides Bible reading and prayer, what's one spiritual discipline to add to your daily routine? Joël and Rick give their answers to what they think is best, in their humble opinion, of course!
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Sin, faith, and reality -- how do they all fit together? In this episode, Joël talks to his dad, Rick, about his new book concept that he's still working out in his head (but might be heresy....) :)
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King Solomon had a lot to say about fools. And most of us know at least one person who seems determined to make foolish decisions. So, what do you do with those people? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the challenges of dealing with foolish people in our lives.
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Fasting is hard. But throughout history people have fasted for health and spiritual reasons. Is it possible there are some untapped benefits that come with this discipline? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of fasting.
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In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how much of scripture is for everyone and how much was specific to certain groups... and dive into some deep theological waters.
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Solomon says, "A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold." (Pr. 22:1) But these days, it seems like shameless and despicable have people who are willing to defend them -- and they're rich. And some good people get a horrible name in public. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about whether Solomon's words still hold true for today
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We've all been taught about the importance of accountability, but how many financial, moral, and ethical scandals have happened with people who were being held "accountable." Joël and Rick talk about what makes accountability really work.
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Chesterton once said, "“Men do not differ much about what things they will call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.” In every decision, there's an reality that we may be overlooking some evil in the name of choosing the lesser evil. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to choose your evil wisely.
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King Solomon warned us to, "Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter." (Pr. 24:11) Does this mean there are times Christians should speak up rhetorically about political issues? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about a Christian response to political rhetoric.
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Once you've accepted Christ gift of salvation, can you lose your salvation? Can you walk away from it? In this episode Joël and Rick answer a listener question about losing your salvation (and probably lose some listeners in the process :)
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Music is art and with all art there's lots of ambiguity. So when it comes to worship music, is it dangerous to sing songs that aren't super accurate or directly from the Bible? In this episode, Joël and Rick respond to a listener's question about worship music.
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We sing about it, we talk about it, but what exactly is God's goodness? Is it when he does what we want him to? Is it something we can fully see in this life? In this episode, Joël and Rick respond to a profound question from a listener.
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It's the stuff nobody sees that brings the results everyone wants. If you stay consistent with discipline--even when no one is looking-- sooner or later you'll see results. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to develop a pattern that allows you to be consistent. #consistency #keepitlight
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Boundaries are a popular concept these days. But many people misuse the concept and actually find themselves isolated and alone. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what healthy, godly boundaries can look like. #boundaries #keepitlight #joelmalm #healthyboundaries #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawarness
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Christians are called to deny ourselves and follow Jesus. But that doesn't mean we're to ignore who he made us and what is driving us. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to be more self-aware.
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Most of us are so overwhelmed in our time, money, and energy that we have literally no space for anything else. But what if the greatest act of faith is making space for God to bring good things to your life. Making margin is an act of courage and faith.
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One of the greatest challenges in life is figuring out what to take responsibility for. Sometimes we take responsibility for things that aren't really our problem. Other times we avoid taking on something only we can care for. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know what's yours and what isn't to take on.
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Life is full of distractions and most of us are running away from what we don't want, rather than toward what we do want. You can run from something in any direction, but you can only run toward something in one direction. Son and Father, Joël and Rick talk about how to make sure you're focused on the right things in life.
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We all make sacrifices for what we value most. In fact, what we're willing to sacrifice for shows what we really value. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to make sure you don't regret the sacrifices you make.
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In this episode, Joël and Rick start talking about Joël's new book Keep It Light : The Freedom of Priorities in Life, Work, and Love about how to make sure we're only carrying what we need in life.
You can get the book here: https://amzn.to/4ddaiqe
Yes, Joël and Rick decided to talk about the crazy situation at the men's conference that went haywire in Missouri.
In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of handing our work on to our sons and daughters.
We're told to not forsake the assembling of ourselves together. (Hebrews 10:25) But does that always mean being in church? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what church actually offers.
As Christians, we're called to give, but what if you're giving to a church or ministry you don't trust? Is it bad stewardship to give if you don't trust how the money is being used? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about giving wisely.
The Bible talks about the danger of idleness. But what's the difference between being idle and resting? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to avoid idleness, but not be a busybody.
We all have a set of lenses and hearing aids we use to interpret the world. But sometimes those filters are tainted and give us a wrong perspective on our experiences. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know if you're seeing the world wrong.
You can't love someone unconditionally until you don't need anything they give you. Which is why love can't be driven by guilt. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to figure out right motives in love.
Jesus should be at the center of all Christians do, right? So where does self-awareness come into play in the Christian life? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to distinguish between self-awareness and self-focus.
If you look at the world for what it really is, it's hard to not get cynical-- or at least skeptical. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to avoid cynicism while still being wise and discerning.
We are always called to forgive those who hurt us. But Jesus also talks about the importance of seeking reconciliation. So do you do when reconciliation just isn't possible or safe?
Kids make some really bad decisions. But our reaction to the decision can make the difference between breaking or strengthening the relationship. In the episode, Joël and Rick talk about godly responses to poor choices.
Excuses. Kids have an incredible ability to create them. And sometimes they're valid. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with kids' excuses and offer some tips for using wisdom is dealing with adult excuses too.
The world seems to want to expose our kids to all sorts of adult themes as early as possible -- all in the name of making them more tolerant. But there are some thing that kids' minds just aren't ready for. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how much to protect our kids and what to expose them to.
Kids require lots of sacrifice, but they also need to learn how to sacrifice their desires for the bigger picture. In this episode, Joël and Rick about what sacrifices are the right sacrifices for our kids.
In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what it takes to pass your faith on to your kids.
We all have at least one person in our lives we just don't understand -- the way they think, what they enjoy. When you have a kid who is completely different than you it can be difficult to figure out how to lead them with wisdom. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to nurture unique children.
It used to be the TV that our parents said was rotting our brain. But now, screens abound. Lots of problems are arising over screen time --overstimulating kids or causing them to lose sleep. In this episode, Joel and Rick, talk about how to use wisdom when it comes to screen time, for ourselves and our kids.
Winning builds confidence, right? But losing builds character. So, just how much should we let our kids win? Should we beat them at games just to show them how to lose gracefully. Is putting them in situations where they're going to lose good for them? In this episode, Rick and Joël talk about the fine art of teaching our kids how to win and lose.
Lots of parents today are really concerned for their children. This isn't the world we grew up in and there's so much that's threatening our kids today. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about some keys to being a wise parent in the middle of all this chaos.
It would be nice if we could live up to all the Bible asks of us, but we don't. So, often we have to settle for the realities of life while still looking to the ideal. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to manage idealism.
How do you know if you're heard from God? Should everyone hear from God? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the nuances of hearing God's voice.
Feeling discouraged, depressed, or disillusioned lately? Joël has a theory about why. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how the fallout from the pandemic is just beginning.
"If you send your kids to Caesar for an education, don't be surprised if they come back as Romans." - Voddie Baucham
Today's public schools aren't the schools we went to growing up. In fact, government schools seem to be the greatest sources of corruption today. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why they're obsessed with Christian education as the hope for our kids' education.
The famous verse in Hosea says, "My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge." But in our world of instant access to knowledge, is being ignorant about something still an excuse? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the limits and power of knowledge.
Healthy things grow. But we've all met people who seem stuck in their growth. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why people stagnate and how they can get going again.
Can you fix my husband? No, but we'll talk in this episode about what you can do to pull the greatness out of your husband.
The command is clear: Honor your father and mother. But what if they're crazy or manipulative or destructive? in this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to honor parents who don't seem to deserve it.
Is being called to be all things to all people a path to compromise? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what Paul probably meant by doing whatever it takes to lead people to Christ.
We've all had an experience where we say, "I don't ever want that again." But if you're running from something you aren't necessarily running to something. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the dangers of running away, rather than to, something.
Whether it was the homeschooling movement, Bill Gothard, or I Kissed Dating Goodbye, lots of people feel like their Christian Fundamentalist upbringing in the 80s/90s did them more harm than good. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what's right and wrong about fundamentalism.
Is faith always asking God for more? Seems to be the message we get more often than not. But what if faith means lowering your expectations at times? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about faith as expecting less.
The Apostle Peter tells us to "defend the faith," but also follows it up with some clear instructions. But if God is so big and amazing, does he really need to be defended? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about whether God needs to be defended.
Figuring out just how much we're responsible for our lives required wisdom and nuance. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know what you can handle and what to leave to God.
It's been said that at the heart of every great truth is great paradox. But is that a dangerous way to think? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the complexity of navigating truth.
In this episode, Rick talks about the most encouraging thing he sees happening in the world right now.
There are some truths we just aren't ready for. Fortunately, life (and God) have a way of preparing us to receive truth-- if we'll stay humble and open. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how truth unfolds throughout our lives.
"Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft." (1 Sam. 15:23) What on earth does this mean? Could you be accidentally practicing witchcraft and not know it? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what this strange verse means for our walk with God.
We're living longer than ever. Consequently, many from the Boomer generation have stayed in positions of leadership longer than ever -- leaving no space for Gen Xers. Rick (a Boomer) and Joël (an Xer) talk about this phenomena and what it means for the church.
How many humongous Christian projects that were gonna change the world--costing loads of money and resources-- came to nothing or only had minimal impact? Most of them it seems. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why God doesn't seem to be bothered by wasteful projects.
Rick and Joël were just gonna talk about pastor's kids leaving the faith, but we realized these issues are faced by all kids who leave the faith.
We've all been told to persevere in hard times. But sometimes, you just have to give up and let it die. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know it's time to let something come to an end.
We're all called to be ministers of the gospel. But somewhere along the way, people started getting paid to work at churches, creating a confusing mix between business and ministry. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the challenges of balancing business and ministry.
Leadership can be tiring and even boring at times. In this episodes, Joël and Rick talk about what causes boredom in leadership, how to spot boredom, and what to do about it.
It's pretty clear when someone's education and knowledge has led to arrogance. But what about arrogance that comes from lack of education or limited perspective? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the danger of the two extremes of arrogance based in knowledge.
Men tend to go where they feel respected and competent. If they don't feel that at home, they're prone to stay at work. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about a man's responsibility to be at home with their family.
With the increase in mass shootings at churches, many pastors have begun forming security teams. Is this biblical? What about Jesus' call to not resist an evil person? In the episode Joël and Rick wrestle with the church's responsibility to protect congregants while obeying Jesus' commands to turn the other cheek.
God wants holiness, no doubt. But, does he also want happiness from his followers? Are the two mutually exclusive? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about God's call to holiness but also his call to happiness and how they might not be as incompatible as they seem.
What if God wants to work through the desires in your heart-- even the wild ones that seem selfish? In this episode, Joël talks to Mike Navolio (a guy he featured in his book Connecting the Dots) about what God can do through you if you'll just follow his leading wherever he sends you. More about Mike at: https://www.cleanwaterclimb.net
Everything that has happened to you has prepared you for your greatest days. In this final installment of Connecting the Dots, Joël and Rick talking about how God has prepared you with a problem to solve and message to share.
If you haven't changed your mind on anything in years, there's a good chance you aren't learning anything new or maybe you've been ignoring the facts. In this episode, Joël and Rick continue their discussion of Connecting the Dots and talk about how life helps change our perspective on God and ourselves.
Seasons always change. Struggles come and go. But learning how to process each season is an art we have to learn if we want to get the most from every season. In this episode, Joël and Rick continue their discussion of Connecting the Dots and talk about how to bring closure to a season.
In every great story we love, after a series of challenges, the hero has to face a decisive battle. They emerge from that battle changed. In this episode, Joël and Rick continue their discussion of Connecting the Dots and talk about how to thrive when God gets silent and life seems most difficult.
"An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered." - Chesterton. When life gets crazy we have a choice to make about how we'll look at the situation. Seeing it as an adventure can be a game changer. In this episode, Joël and Rick continue their discussion about Joël's new book Connecting the Dots.
In every great story the hero comes to a point when they have to fully commit to the journey in front of them. But making that decision can be difficult. In this episode, Joël and Rick continue their conversation about Joël's new book Connecting the Dots and now to know when it's time to go all in.
In every great story, a guide appears to help the hero on their journey. The adventure of faith is no different. Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to be in our guide when we need insight. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to recognize God's voice on the journey and the 3.5 ways God tends to speak to us.
Fear, anxiety, worry, concern. Call it want you want, we all struggle with forms of fear that can keep us from moving forward into all God has for us. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to identify and face off with fear.
Life happens in seasons and every season tends to start with change. How we respond to that change will determine how we handle the season we're in. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to recognize a turning point in life and what to do when seasons change.
What if everything that has happened to you has prepared you for your greatest work? What if God's work in your life looks more like a circle than a straight line? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about Connecting the Dots, a book about how to find meaning and purpose in all that has happened to you.
Most of think of resolutions as being something for the New Year. But it's also important to bring some resolution -- wrapping up-- to the year that is ending. In this special message, Joël talks about how to end strong in 2022 and make sure you don't miss all it had to teach you.
Christmas is a time of comfort and joy, but at any given moment in history you could look around and see everything but comfort and joy. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about God's tendency to do his greatest work in the struggle and darkness of life.
In mid-November, Joël got diagnosed with melanoma. The following weeks were a wild ride. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about some of the confusing circumstances around the experience and what was learned.
Let's be honest, some churches died a long time ago and are hanging on by life support. Often, attempts at revitalization lead to division, hurt, and chaos. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about when revitalization works and when it's time to just let a church die.
Are leadership boards Biblical? Many a church, ministry, or organization have been destroyed by board-led decisions. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the value and the downfall of boards.
The original story of how Thanksgiving started holds lots of deep truths that can get lost as people "rewrite" history. In this episode, Joël and Rick revisit the message of the first Thanksgiving.
If someone is succeeding it's clearly the blessing of God, right? Maybe... or maybe it's something else. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the backstory behind success and how to know if you are truly "successful" or just a result of connections and charisma.
Often times, we fail to invest in relationships around us because we may not see a long-term benefit. But what if we need a perspective shift on this? If you've moved a lot or have lots of people coming in and out of your life this episode is for you.
The world has gone insane. Much of that insanity is downright evil. We all grieve evil and its effects, but is it OK to mock that evil? Is it Biblical to make fun of or use satire to bring the evil to light? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the correct response to the evil we see around us.
Should you listen to a pastor or leader who isn't exemplifying the kind of life you want to live? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about qualifications for ministry and how to know whether a spiritual leader should be listened to.
Timing is everything. And there tends to be a lot of waiting involved in how God works. That waiting can feel miserable. But sometimes waiting looks like working your tail off in the meantime. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to wait on the Lord's timing while still making the most of every moment.
We're born helpless. Depending on our environment we quickly develop mindsets about what we can and can't control. But sometimes those mindsets are wrong. In the episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to overcome learned helplessness.
Lots of people get into helping professions because of a traumatic experience in their life. But too often, they end up hurting others because they haven't truly healed. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to identify a dangerous healer and when to know you're healed and ready to help others.
"There is no problem that won't improve if you ignore it long enough." Rick has given some great advice over the years, but that line is among his worst advice. But, sometimes taking the bull by the horns will just create more trouble than it's worth. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to manage conflict well and when to know it's not worth a fight.
When you choose to make a courageous decision a safer option will nearly always appear -- something that promises more security or assurance. How you respond to that safer option will often determine whether you live a life of fulfillment or regret. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the risks of taking the safer option.
Truth is often offensive. But as Christ-followers we are called to speak the truth in love. So how do you speak truth that will inevitably offend? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what it looks like to speak offensive truths in a loving way.
If God calls us to perfection (Matt. 5:48) then shouldn't perfectionism be a good thing? Too often perfectionism actually keeps us from pursuing what God has for us and can become a source of pride. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know when your perfectionism is out of control.
We all want a sense of fulfillment and purpose in our lives. Some people seem to be on a constant quest for it and never seem to find it. But what if fulfillment is to be found in a place we never thought it could be. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to find true fulfillment in life.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for your spiritual and mental well-being is to get out of your current environment. But sometimes, a change of scenery won’t do anything because we are the problem. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about when to know it’s time to change your environment and when it’s just time to change you.
Healthy things grow. Which means they often need to be transplanted into environments that allow them to flourish. If you are growing spiritually, there's a good chance you may outgrow those around you at some point -- in your church, your relationships, maybe even your spouse. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what to do when you feel you've outgrown your current environment.
Why do some people seem to be so chill and calm while others are perpetually discontent and tormented? Is it nature or nurture? Can you unlearn feeling unhappy and tormented? In this episode, Joël (a tormented personality) and Rick (a chill personality) compare notes on why some people seem to have it harder than others when it comes to contentment.
Nobody likes the thought of growing old, but what what if aging is a path to God's grace in our lives. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the blessings and benefits of getting older.
Serving others is a Christian virtue. But when it gets out of balance, it can become exhausting and lead to burn out. In the episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know if you may be suffering from a Messiah Complex.
When God makes a judgement, he's serious. But is it possible to change God's mind once he's made a decision? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about some passages in the Bible that seem to indicate you can change God's mind.
A huge number of pastors are leaving their jobs at churches and taking traditional jobs. Is this a bad thing? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the challenges pastors face and when to know it's time to leave ministry.
Everyone has pain. So we all share a similar experience. But everyone's pain is different. It's human nature to believe our pain is unique and believe no one understands it. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to open yourself up to help from others.
We all come to a point when we feel tired and apathetic -- we all get burned out. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to identify burnout and what to do when you realize you are burnt out.
Everyone loves beginnings. But King Solomon said it's better to focus on the end, rather than the beginning. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why it's important to focus on the end of a matter.
Another pastor scandal. Another round of people leaving the faith. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why a pastor scandal isn't a legitimate excuse for someone to walk away from the faith.
Lots of people are questioning what they believe these days about God, church, etc. In this episode, Joêl and Rick talk about how to know if your questions are a sign that your faith is growing cold
We love our kids and want to keep them safe. But what happens when we keep them TOO safe? Is that even a thing? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the dangers of overprotective parenting.
We've all met someone who is so "spiritual" it's annoying. They're weird, awkward, and can often be very condescending. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what's driving these people and how to deal with them.
Contrary to popular belief, Jesus probably wasn't a carpenter. But he was certainly a blue collar worker. Is it possible that his blue collar job is what prepared him for his great spiritual insight? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the value of value collar work in spiritual growth.
Deep inside we all feel there's more in us that we have to offer and express -- talents we aren't using, skills that lie dormant. Whether you're at the top of your game or have hit rock bottom, we all know we've got more in us than what we're living right now. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what to do when you've got more in you.
There have been lots of studies about how people change. Change is a slow process. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the processes that lead people to change.
Life is constant change. But most of us only like change on our terms. A lot of us make plans for our lives and get frustrated and angry because the plan isn’t working like you wanted or hoped for. in this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the importance of constant course correction in life and being willing to change to thrive.
It's uncomfortable to think that someone who deceive us or lie to us, but it happens. Too many people are led into dangerous waters because they believe everything. in this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to make sure you aren't naive.
It's the most wonderful time of the year. But it can also become the craziest time of the year if we aren't intentional. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to get the most meaning from Christmas.
We've all seen marriages that are headed for divorce. But what about those marriages that seem to explode out of (seemingly) nowhere. Things seemed to be great, then the marriage just falls apart. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what causes marriages to explode.
Most of us have been taught that loyalty is important. And it is -- most of the time. But there are times that misguided loyalty can lead to some major problems in our family, churches, or country. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the right time to be disloyal.
Every leaders is flawed, because every leader is a human. But there are some leaders who are particularly harmful. Even still, God can use them. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to use wisdom to identify leaders we should avoid and not learn from.
For most of us, something inside us is terrified of what people will think of us. But sometimes God calls us to do things that may bring negative feedback from others. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how break free from the tyranny of other peoples' opinions.
Our world values “experts.” But throughout history, the people who truly changed it weren’t the experts – more often than not, they were unqualified people who stepped out and tried new things. Joël and Rick talk about how to respond when you feel unqualified and unprepared for what you are called to do.
The world is changing -- fast. Something within us tends to long for the past when things were easier and simpler. But were they really? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to honor the past, but not get caught up in false beliefs about how great things used to be.
It's natural to want more. And sometimes a little more really can improve things. But sometimes, it can ruin them as well. In the episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know when you have enough.
Jesus said we need to have faith like a child, but what exactly does that mean? Does it mean ignoring reality or science? Does it mean being naive or childish? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what childlike faith looks like in our world.
Education is important, but just how much does it dictate your ability to succeed in life? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the limits of education.
Life happens in seasons. Sometimes we let things continue way past their season should have come to an end. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know when to end something and how to do it well.
We live in a world of distractions. There's always something more interesting "out there" than what's happening around us. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the fine art of being present.
If we are honest, we all have times when we have doubts about what we believe? Does this mean our faith is faltering? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with doubts about your faith.
You've heard of the unchurched. But what about the overchurched. Is it possible to be too "churched"? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how much church is enough.
Let's be honest: Some Christians are a horrible example to the world. Should those Christians who don't act very "christian" be disciplined by the church? If they are really bad, should they be kicked out? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the challenge of church discipline.
Life is full of disappointment and for Christians the disappointment can be of epic proportions. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with being disappointed by God.
We want to believe that we are rational, thoughtful individuals. But the facts are quite the opposite. At our core we are emotional beings. in this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to lead well with your emotions.
EVerybody's got problems. But should every problem be confronted head on? Rick says no. Joël says yes. In the episode they'll discuss how to know when it's time to run.
Remember the Sabbath... It's a command. But what does that command look like under the new covenant with Jesus? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the power of sabbath and what it can look like in your life.
In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about whether God allows trials to test us or whether trials are just part of life?
Feeling stuck? Maybe you are... or maybe you are just waiting. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know the difference.
The meek will inherit the earth... But what exactly is meekness. It is always playing defense and being passive? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about when it's time to play offense.
Are we born as blank slates and created by our environment? Are we hardwired to be a certain way? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about what makes you, you -- nature or nurture?
Is it delusional to believe that everything is going to turn out good in the end? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to have hope that this is heading somewhere good.
An interview with Pastor Tom Lane of Gateway Church about his book Tested and Approved. http://tomlanebooks.com
Lots of people claim they've heard from God. But how exactly does God speak? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the different ways God communicates with us.
Sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past. But sometimes the past needs to be dealt with. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about when it's time to deal with the past.
There's a popular cliche that has been floating around for years- Everything happens for a reason. But does it, really? in this episode, Joël and Rick talk about why stuff happens.
Life is full of challenges. But does it have to be? Is there something to taking the path of least resistance? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about whether life actually needs to be hard.
Does opposition mean we are on track? Or does it mean we are off track? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with opposition correctly.
We all want to find meaning and purpose in our lives, but often times what we are doing doesn't feel like our calling. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to find your calling.
Should you always be persistent or is there a moment to give up? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about when to know it's time to give up/
Christmas comes with mixed feelings for most people. Being around family, difficult memories, and sadness are pretty common challenges for many. In this episode Rick and Joel talk about how to make the most of Christmas.
Been hurt by the church? Welcome to the club. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to respond when the church lets you down.
It's nice to think everything happens for a reason, but is that actually true? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about their thoughts on this idea.
In this episode, Joël and Rick reflect on what they've learned about writing and give some practical tips to help you write your own book.
Thanksgiving didn't start from a place of abundance. It started from a place of lack and need. In this episode, we'll look at the real story of Thanksgiving and what it has to teach us about gratitude in the middle of struggle.
We all have creativity in us. So how do you pull it out of yourself and others? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to encourage creativity in your world.
This is a replay of our most popular podcast. God wants to make his will clear for your life. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to know you are on the right track.
We all want clarity. We want to know what steps to take next. But often, God seems to lead us into confusion and uncertainty. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about the power of staying the course, even when you don't have clarity.
In this live episode with a studio audience Joël and Rick talk about some key challenges parents face in leading their children -- young and old.
Pastors are people too. They have ups and downs, biases and struggles. In they episode, Joël and Rick talk about some of the secrets you may have never known about pastors.
There is ultimate truth. But it's not always obvious. It has to be sought out. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to seek out truth.
We live in a time when everything has been politicized. Plus, it's an election year. How do you keep from getting sucked into making everything about a political side? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to stay above the fray.
If you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far, walk with others. We aren't made to walk alone. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the challenges and benefits of walking with others in community.
Our world is filled with noise. Even if you find a few moments of peace and quiet, it's hard to calm the noise in your head. Enter solitude. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about some disciplines that can help you find peace even in the middle of chaos.
If everything has the same value, nothing has value. Sometimes good things have to be dropped to give our best to the best things. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to balance values and put what's most important first.
We all have negative things happen to us. We can hold on to them and let them control us, or we can let them go and find really freedom. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to let go of the bad (and the good) to live life in freedom.
Freedom and growth come with responsibility. But taking responsibility can be a moving target. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to know what is your responsibility and what isn't.
We've all experienced disappointment. For some it leads to fear and anger. Others turn it to their advantage. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to deal with disappointment in a healthy way.
We all feel fear in different ways -- apathy, indecision, worry, and feelings of impending doom. But fear doesn't have to ruin your life. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to face your fear and overcome it.
When we get angry at something happening to us, it's always because of something happening inside us. Anger is a sign that we need to pay attention to our emotions. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how you can get anger working for you, instead of against you.
With the right perspective you can get through pretty much any challenge. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to keep a big perspective.
In this episode, Joël talks with his mother about how to keep from passing fear on to our kids.
Deep inside us there's a desire to do something significant. But often times, we feel limited or blocked in being able to accomplish those bigger things. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about what to do when you feel like you still have more to give.
We've all had that one horrible boss. It can make miserable. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to survive and thrive under bad leadership.
Our words have power -- for good or bad. But just how much power do they have? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to use your words for good.
Joël and Rick talk about their very different takes on how to stay focused and do your work in a world of chaos.
We've all met the health nuts who are obsessed with diets, exercise and food. How healthy is it to be obsessed with this stuff? In this episode, Joël and Rick talk to their special guest, Charis Malm, about some basics for getting healthy.
We need community. Christians are called to gather together regularly. What about when you can't gather together in person... is online church an acceptable alternative to actually getting together? in this episode, Joël and Rick talk about the upsides and downside of online church.
So you're married and you start to realize you and your spouse are completely incompatible... What do you do now? In this episode Joël interviews his parents Rick and Jana about what to do if you and your spouse are completely different.
Maturity is something we should aspire to -- spiritually and emotionally. But the next step after maturity is rottenness! How do you avoid turning rotten? And how do you know if you are actually mature? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about what real maturity looks like.
Seasons change. When they do, it may mean it's time to find a new church. There's a wrong way and a right way to leave a church. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to know it's time to change and how to make sure you change churches well.
Often times, we have to wait on God's time. Other times God is waiting on us to act. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how to make most of the waiting time between where you are and where you want to be and when to act.
The United States grants freedom of speech to everyone. But is it always wise to speak your mind? Are there times you should just be quiet? In this episode Joël and Rick look at when you should, and shouldn't, speak your mind.
Comfort is not the goal of life. In fact, comfort can actually keep you from moving forward and becoming all you can be. In this episode, Joël and Rick talk about how discomfort can be actually be a gift.
No one likes criticism, but what if criticism is necessary to become all you can be. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to handle criticism well and use it to your advantage.
We are all human. We all make mistakes --even the experts. Are there some experts you can trust completely? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about when you should trust the experts and when you shouldn't.
We live in a world of distractions -- phones, advertisements, and perpetual noise. Everyone wants our attention. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to stay focused on those we love, and not check out, in a world where everyone is calling for our attention.
Wen you have two really good (or bad) options, but you have to decide -- what should you do? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about what it looks like to turn decision-making over to the power that is deep inside you.
We've all got limits on our resources. But limits can be the source of our greatest levels creativity. In this episode Joël and Rick talk about how to turn what feels like a limit into a source of inspiration.
Deep inside we all want to find what we are on earth to do. We want a sense of purpose and calling. But sometimes it feels elusive. Joël and Rick talk about how to find your true calling in life.
There's a lot of pressure we face as adults. Pressures of parenting, seeking approval, and lots of other things society says we need to be or do. Joël and Rick talk about how to not fall into the trap of adult peer pressure.
Speaking in tongues, healing, what's the deal with all that? Is that something we still believe in? In this episode Joël and Rick continue their discussion of the different spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible.
There are several lists of spiritual gifts in the Bible. Some people get confused as to what's what. In this episode Joël and Rick will talk about how to discover your gifts and what they mean.
We hear lots of stories of people rising about because they got an education, but there are also lots of stories who never had an official education but still succeeded? In this episode Joël and Rick will talk about the importance of education.
In the West we value individualism and the "self-made" man or woman. But Christianity calls us to walk in community. So where's the line between walking your path and walking with others? In this episode Joël and Rick talk about where individualism fits into the Christian walk.
Jesus said he came to fulfill the law, so is tithing still something we should practice? Is it mandatory? What should our attitude be toward giving ten percent to the church? Should the church be the only place we tithe? In this episode Joël and Rick unpack what the Bible seems to say about tithing in our day and age.
Do people really get what they have coming? Is karma a Christian concept? What about grace? In this episode Joel and Rick talk about the reality of reaping and sowing in our every day lives.
We all have an idea of what success looks like. John James seemed to have arrived when the Newsboys went big. We'll hear his story and his take on what success really looks like.
We've all got experiences that we'd just assume forget -- the relationship that went south, the financial disaster. But what if you saw failure from a different angle. What if the failure was actually preparation? in this epidode Joel and Rick talk about their experiences with epic failures and what they learned in the process.
If you ever have responsibility for anything or anyone, at some point, you'll have to make an unpopular decision that will cause you grief and get lots of pushback. In this episode Joel and Rick talk about when to hold your ground and when to back down.
We've all got an idea about what we want. We've all got a vision. The challenge is how to get there. In this episode Joel and Rick talk about what vision looks like and how to pursue it.
Does God have one will for your life? Can it change? Can you mess it up? In this episode Joel and Rick offer some unique thoughts on God's will for your life.