The Yellow Pill Podcast: Recent Episodes

Wolé and Tobi

Two social artists constantly trying to make sense of familiar dilemmas & wicked problems one episode at a time.

After four amazing years and 100+ unforgettable episodes, The Yellow Pill journey comes to an end 💛

It has been an incredible chapter of our lives, & we want to take a moment to express our deepest gratitude to each and every one of you.

Whether you’ve been with us since day one of ‘Instagram Lives’ and 20sConvos or you’ve joined the journey along the way, you have been the heartbeat of our podcast.

Your presence and support have meant the world to us and have been the driving force behind every episode.

Together, we’ve explored 100 burning and meaningful topics that have inspired, challenged, and entertained us. You have no idea how much the conversational exercises on such diverse topics have made us nearer to being Whole. We’ve laughed, we’ve learned, and we’ve grown.

Honestly, it’s been a privilege to have had this shared space that permitted you to witness our thoughts, experiences, and passions each week. Your engagement, comments, and messages have sparked countless conversations and brought our community closer together.

We also want to extend a special thank you to all 60+ guests who have been on this podcast, and whose words and experiences have enriched our podcast over time. We know you are all one text away and we appreciate that. Thank you! 💛

And finally, to you, our listeners, thank you for inviting us into your lives, for lending us your ears, and for being a part of this extraordinary journey. Your support has been the greatest gift of all, and we are endlessly grateful for the memories we’ve shared 💛

This may be the end but it is not goodbye. We hope our paths will cross again in the future, whether it’s through new projects, social media, or chance encounters 😉. Until then, please know that you will always hold a special place in our hearts.

As we bid farewell, we urge everyone to take up our message in the previous episode and believe that your lives have meaning. And with that, have a great 2024!

Thank you for being a part of our podcast family and for making these past four years an unforgettable adventure.

Peace & love,
Wolé & Tobi

.

.

.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e20

.

.

.

Before you go, here's one more way to still support the podcast for one last time 💛

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e19

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

Season 10, Episode 10, our 100th topic-episode

This will be the most important episode to emerge from our podcast. There’s a chance it will also be the last.

We’re closing the curtain with an episode we believe will be an abiding formula for hope and sustenance. We’re bowing out with a hymn of encouragement.

We believe your life has meaning. Despite all the unfathomable and overwhelming chaos that may exist (in reality or perception) on a global, societal, and personal level, we believe your journey is meaningful, we believe you matter.

Young adults are rarely taught how to realise that their existence has a justification. And from this podcast seat, convincing one of these truths is the most difficult of tasks.

Due to this difficulty, we ended up with a 2-hour episode. But it’s an episode where each sentence, response, and message maturely represents what we’ve learnt in the last 4 years, inside and outside the podcast.

We hope this episode helps to confirm that your life has meaning.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e18

.

.

.

As the title suggests, this episode serves as a follow-up to our previous "cinematherapy" episode, where we invited all of you to "eavesdrop" on our conversation about the future of the podcast.

In this episode, we make our best effort to address a detailed comment about the original episode and also take the opportunity to share a few more thoughts about what lies ahead for The Yellow Pill.

We hope you enjoy listening to it!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e17

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

From the days of Display Pictures (DPs) on Blackberry Messenger to the present day with Instagram and others, many social media users have chosen to share and post about their love lives online.

This activity of public displays of affection (PDA) online is not new, but it is certainly pervasive. With obvious reasons aside, why do we do it? Why do some people share a lot more about their partners and relationships with the world than others?

In this episode, our intention is not to categorize this behaviour as good or bad, right or wrong. After all, to each their own 😉.

For this reason, we focus our discussion on online PDA mostly based on our own experiences. No science, no philosophy, just our personal experiences and approach to online PDA.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety and for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi, join us on Patreon! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e16

.

.

.

With Season 10 nearing its end, we chose to bring one of our off-air conversations into this on-air cinematherapy episode: what does the future hold for this podcast?

While this may or may not sound existential lol, it’s actually a normal behind-the-scenes exercise for us to re-evaluate our podcast, our responsibility, and frankly, ‘why we (continue to) do this’.

We haven’t yet figured out what the future holds, but we hope we can do that together by inviting you into our thoughts.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15-9

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

What’s in store for you this new year?

Did you make any new resolutions focused on 2024? Goals? Paradigm shifts? Or is it business as usual because the ‘new year change’ is often overstated?

In this episode, we exchange our feelings and thoughts about the new year, most of which centre around gratitude, love, health, & money!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15-5

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

In their usual fashion, Wole and Tobi take a "break" from their regular programming to reflect on Christmas and its significance to them. They discuss their Christmas traditions, or the lack thereof, as well as how their backgrounds and cultures influence the celebration of the season among their families. The conversation also includes Tobi's “recurring complaint” about capitalism and its impact on various aspects of life.

Enjoy the conversation and Merry Christmas!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

What are your hobbies?

Depending on the context, we’ve struggled/cringed at answering this question at some point.

When we talk about hobbies colloquially, we are describing an aspect of a broader idea of ‘serious leisure’.

Hobbies, or serious leisure, have typically been associated with activities undertaken for play or pleasure during free time. But there’s a growing concern that nowadays, everyone’s free time activities always have to be ‘productive’ or ‘profitable’, and therefore we are witnessing the death of hobbies.

We try to tackle this in this episode by answering some of these questions: What is the function of hobbies? How do they differ from leisure? Are hobbies truly dying? What role has capitalism and social media played in modern hobbies? What hobbies are attractive, and why?

By tackling this, we realised that understanding the role of hobbies is of huge importance to our humanity and why hobbies matter!

Not sure if this caption does justice but this was one of our favourite episodes to record so far! 🎤 💛

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e14

.

.

.

Coming up next on Cinematherapy is a rather strange movie called "Ingrid Goes West," a dark comedy that tells the story of Ingrid Thorburn, who becomes fascinated with Taylor Sloane, a popular social media influencer.

Motivated by a series of unexpected events, Ingrid decides to relocate to Los Angeles to befriend Taylor and immerse herself in the glamorous and seemingly flawless world showcased on Taylor's Instagram feed. However, as Ingrid's fascination intensifies, the boundaries between reality and the carefully crafted online personas start to blur.

Following our main episode on parasocial relationships, we unpacked the theme a bit further, trying to answer questions like: at what point does admiration for someone popular become a problem? Are parasocial relationships 100% bad? Are there leading indicators for folks who build up parasocial ties?

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e13

.

.

.

Ever heard of parasocial relationships? Regardless of your answer, the odds that you're in one are quite high.

Parasocial relationships are those one-sided relationships where one person extends emotional energy, interest, and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other's existence.

This is very common with celebrities, sports teams, influencers, and many famous media personalities.

While PSRs can be a natural part of human development, these relationships can easily become self-destructive for many reasons.

When deciding on this episode, we were lucky that one of our friends, @aanjola, also focused on this concept in her master's thesis, and having her join this conversation was definitely more enlightening for us!

We posit that PSRs are okay but require more attention as we get older, as the negative impacts can loom even more.

Even for us creators, we also have a responsibility to foster healthy PSR connections with all of you!

It's a great episode not to miss! We learned a lot.
.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e12

.

.

.

In this latest cinematherapy episode, we deep-dive into the intricate world of ethics, aiming to dissect the perplexing film, "The Killing of a Sacred Deer (2017)."

We follow the journey of Steven, a charismatic surgeon, whose life spirals into darkness when a mysterious teenage boy introduces a chilling ethical dilemma.

As we untangle the plot, it beckons us to ponder the haunting question, "to kill one or save none?"

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e11

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

There is one rule about conversations and debates on ethics: they never ever end ♾️. However, this conversation had to end because we needed to sleep 🛌. Plus, no one would enjoy a 9-hour podcast episode anyway.

Fortunately, this episode was a concise 90 minutes of learning and debating ethics, including its origins, various perspectives, and real-life ethical dilemmas.

There are two kinds of people in this world: those who find ethics sexy and those who yawn at the sound of Kantianism. Which one are you?

.

.

.

Episode resources

The Trolley Problem in Real Life (Youtube Video) - https://youtu.be/1sl5KJ69qiA?si=NFf9JBsYcKYvA6Kd

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e10

.

.

.

Navigating long-distance relationships can be challenging. In this cinematherapy episode, we explored the complexities of love, distance, and pursuing dreams through the romantic comedy "Going the Distance."

While the movie added humor to the narrative and prompted reflection on commitment, sacrifice, and striking a balance between personal aspirations and shared goals, our discussion delved even deeper into the real-life implications and emotional complexities of long-distance connections

We examined factors that influence the stability of geographically close relationships (GCRs), including socioeconomic contexts, age dynamics, relational quality, and reasons for the move. By dissecting these elements, we unravel the intricate webs that shape a long-distance relationship.

We also explored the impact of career prospects and future intentions on the move, and how they can introduce complexities like resentment or guilt.

Additionally, we addressed gender differences and cultural nuances, investigating how the "mover" and the direction of the move can affect relationship dynamics.

Whether you are in a long-distance relationship, considering one, or intrigued by human connection, this episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of the elements that contribute to the success or challenges of love and geography.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e9

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.
In this episode, we examine the findings from a dozen top scientific publications on LDRs & combine this with the contextual touch of personal experiences to present a guide on what makes long-distance relationships successful.

By success here, we simply mean satisfaction and stability, and not necessarily “going all the way”.

This episode will form part 1 of 2 on this topic! It’s one not to miss.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8-9

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

After a 2-week break, Wole and Tobi are back on the mic with updates from their trip. Wole talks about his experience of coming back to Nigeria after being away for a while, while Tobi, being a bit mysterious, drops a few hints about his trip to the U.S., leaving us all curious about what he was really up to.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8-5

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link: http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.
We’re hitting you with a brief mid-season break as we’re both away on holiday missions at different locations 😄

We recorded a short catch-up and it spills the tea on what we’re up to and when we’re back! 😉

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8

.

.

.

The highly rated documentary “Bigger, stronger, faster” sets the scene for our latest cinematherapy!

It’s a provocative but unfocused documentary that unpacks the physical and mental consequences of America's love of exaggerated physiques and take-no-prisoners competitiveness.

What we do learn is that there are costs of constantly trying to be bigger, stronger and doing it faster - and it’s also one hell of a reality check for how we aspire to the ideal male body image!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e7

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

Many men can be preoccupied with the perceived flaws in their appearance, but it's not a common conversation.

Male body image and shapes come with one or two ironies.

Skinny men can be looked at with concern, and even seen as less appealing most times.

Obsession with the gym could be a cry for help, but the outcome of that gym bod is rewarded and commended by society.

Ah, but there's more.

Men also face pressures to lose weight and reduce their gut size, but at the same time face pressures to gain weight to acquire muscles.

In this episode with @alec.hewstone, we raised the volume on these silent conversations, focusing on male body image, muscle dysmorphia, our physical insecurities, fitness, male body representation, and so much more!

We loved doing this episode because it was so genuine and honest, and because we hoped it would make us men feel much more comfortable in these conversations.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e6

.

.

.

As always, this cinematherapy episode was an attempt to reflect on our previous episode on hospitableness.

Finding a movie that teaches solely about hospitality/hospitableness was almost impossible.

Even though this movie was not centred on hospitality, we took other lessons from how unexpected relationships can catch us off guard when people around us less with hospitality 🎥 🍿!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e5

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link: - http://bit.ly/typauas10

.

.

.

When was the last time you found yourself having to be a host to a stranger, acquaintance, or friend?

Do you pay attention to the thoughts, behaviours, and actions you exhibit when you need to or could be a host?

The thing is hospitableness, a component of hospitality, is probably one of those things you don’t sit down to think about, probably because it originated with the very foundations of our societies, regardless of where you’re from.

But here we are, in TYP fashion, putting a spotlight on a virtue (arguably) that we take for granted.

It’s only due to several developments over time that we have become more concerned with fear of and the need to be hospitable to others.

In this episode, we unpack what it means to be hospitable and why it matters to our wholeness and essence as human beings. We also highlight the huge role of culture and the challenges to being hospitable for young adults especially.

Our conversation showed that while the direction of modern society is indirectly shredding the fabrics of hospitableness, it remains a benefit on the individual level, that is, you and I.

Finally and most importantly, this episode will reveal to you that our understanding of hospitableness should not be limited to the provision of food and drinks as hosts, but is key to the development and practice of our selflessness, benevolence, & compassion.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e4

About the episode

In continuation with the theme of our previous episode and in recognition of Sickle Cell Awareness Month, this episode explores the complex issue of medical ethics and family responsibilities through "My Sister's Keeper (2000)". Inherited or congenital illnesses can often be a source of difficulty and turmoil for families, as this movie portrays. However, the deeper lesson for us as young adults is about the tough choices we may have to make in life, many of which we may be unprepared for and undeserving of. When faced with decisions relating to life and death, we never truly know who we will become....Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e3

You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link - http://bit.ly/typauas10

Episode 3 is already one of our favourite recordings, as we got nerdy with Cambridge researcher, @seuninscience to chat about stem cells, human biology, organ transplants, sickle cell disease, consumer products, and finding a spark!

We don't typically cover technical topics like this, but our curiosity and desire to learn brought us to this very important conversation. Stem cells are the building blocks of life, so it was crucial to fill our knowledge deficit in that area! 🧪

Regardless of your level of interest in science, this is one conversation not to miss. We're incredibly grateful to @seuninscience for her time with us! Check out her socials and give her a follow; her knowledge is inspiring, and her energy is unmatched!

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e2

About the episode

The reasons why everyone says your 20s are consequential aren’t arbitrary. For a simple fact, your 30s will be full of many more responsibilities that make changes in life directions complicated.

"Frances Ha" is a movie that preaches the idea of being at peace with not having things figured out in your 20s.

Our cinematherapy episode shows it’s not that simple.

We tell you why, and we demonstrate an example of how not to live in your twenties.

For our introspective 20-somethings, this is for you!

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e1

NEW EPISODE! NEW SEASON! The stars are definitely aligning. Here’s why.

We’d just turned 27 when we launched the first season of this podcast (if my maths are correct lol)

The original name of this podcast was “20s Convos”.

The very first episode in Season 1 was titled “What might our 30s look like”.

And now, in perhaps poetic fashion, the year we both turned 30 marks the 10th season of this podcast.

So as we approach a new season, not only of the podcast but in life, it’s only right that we look back, and take an audit, before going forward!

In this episode, we reflect on our 20s to highlight and make sense of all the significant events, people, and environments that have shaped our 30-year-old self so far.

Turning 30 comes with different emotions for different people. But as Kierkegaard said, “Life can only be understood backwards: but it must be lived forward”.

Ageing is inevitable, it’s what you do with it that counts. And for us, turning 30 begins with a pursuit of understanding the last decade backwards.

.

.

.

Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

Your favourite podcasters are back for the 10th season of The Yellow Pill Podcast! 🎉

In this trailer episode, we'll give you a sneak peek of the amazing themes we'll cover this season, as well as the changes we've made to our episode schedule. We're also introducing some new segments to the podcast that we think you'll love!

Don't forget to check out all the links we mentioned in the episode:

TYP on Patreon - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
TYP Ask Us Anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10

If you've missed us and can't wait for episode one next week. Here's how you can encourage us!

Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod
Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Ask us anything - http://bit.ly/typauas10
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Follow us on Twitter(X?) (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦

It's time for your weekly dose of the pill that does the most...

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e21

We can't believe it's already the "final-final" episode of the season!

Looking back on the amazing ninth season of the Yellow Pill podcast, we couldn't be more pleased with how everything turned out.

On this recap episode, we spoke about some of the new things we tried this season, like changing up the format and experimenting with different narrative structures.

We also shared some insights from our Yellow Pill Junkies campaign in the first half of the season, and we were thrilled to announce the two winners of the Amazon voucher prizes for those who took part in the survey!

Thank you so much for participating, and we can't wait to bring your suggestions and recommendations to life in the best way possible.

We're super thankful for all the love and support you've shown us this season, and we'd be totally stoked if you could do us a solid and share our podcast with at least one friend this week!

Oh, and before we go, here are the links to the different projects we mentioned during the episode:

The Nigerian Constitution Project on Instagram - https://instagram.com/thenigerianconstitution1999
The Yellow Pill Podcast on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e20

.

.

Our final episode of the season for cinematherapy aimed to shed light on frameworks for self-awareness. It was quite a challenge finding a movie that could express this concept, as it seems rare to produce a work of fiction with self-awareness as the primary theme.

So, we decided to focus on not one, but two different movies! One of them was recommended by our TYP fam (Nocturnal Animals [2016]), and the other was something we had in mind (The Perks of Being a Wallflower [2012]). Despite having different messages, both movies share a cryptic ending that we're still trying to decipher.

In this episode, you'll gain a better understanding of self-awareness and its potential dangers in excess. You'll also experience our frustration as we try to unpack how self-awareness can both alleviate and aggravate negative emotions.

Thank you for joining us this season! It has been an absolute blast, and we still have one more episode after this to recap what has been a five-month season.

See you soon! x

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e19

Have you ever thought about the complicated dance of understanding yourself from the inside and also knowing how others perceive you?

In this penultimate episode of the season, we took a look at the intricate interplay between self-awareness within and how you come across to others. It's a big deal for personal growth and relationships, so we threw some light on its importance.

Throughout the episode, we explored how these two aspects of self-awareness are connected and how they affect the choices we make and the way we interact with the world.

In the end, self-awareness is a pretty big idea that can mean a lot or a little depending on who you ask.

So, what does it mean to you?

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e18

.

.

.

In this #cinematherapy episode, the movie "Hitch" provided a great example to help us understand the idea of dating outside of one's league.

Even though the movie stars Will Smith as Hitch, our attention is drawn to Albert, the underdog of the story, who is in love with a rich, powerful, and beautiful woman named Allegra. If you’ve seen the movie, you know that Albert eventually wins Allegra's heart.

In this episode, we wanted to explore the ups and downs of "punching way up" in the dating world. As we delved deeper into the topic, we uncovered some thought-provoking themes around self-improvement, masculinity, social hierarchies, power dynamics, and overcoming insecurities.

Although the discussion had a focus on men, we arrived at a shared understanding of the value of confidence, perseverance, and authenticity in "the chase". We also established a part of a future collection we're calling the "yellow pill frameworks" for anyone who finds themselves in Albert's situation 😉

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e17

Have you ever felt like someone was out of your league?

It's a common feeling, but in this podcast episode, we explored the idea that it might not be the best way to think about ourselves and others.

We delved into the scientific theories that have contributed to the concept of being "out of one's league." But we also talked about how complex the subjectivity and objectivity of social desirability, self-value, and self-worth can be especially in the search for a partner.

We chose to explore this topic because as we've gotten older, it’s a wicked problem that tends to sneak up on those who still have to navigate a dating pool.

Overall, this episode reminds us to shift our perspective when we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others. Instead, it's important to focus on our own personal growth and celebrate the things that make us unique when going into conversations about dating.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e16

On this edition of #Cinematherapy, Wole and Tobi discuss the iconic movie "The Devil Wears Prada" (2006), which explores the balance between work and personal life.

The movie follows aspiring journalist Andrea as she becomes the assistant to the demanding Miranda Priestly in the high fashion industry. It depicts Andrea's transformation as she navigates the challenges of a demanding job that threatens to consume her personal life.

Wole and Tobi break down some important scenes and delve into themes of ambition, fulfillment, and the compromises we make for success. They explore questions like: Is it really possible to have everything we want? What are the things we're willing to give up? And how do we stay sane through it all?

Finally, they wrap up with some tips on how to set boundaries, take care of ourselves, and find a happy balance between work and personal life.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e15

Work-Life Balance

Do you have a good understanding of what "work-life balance" means? It's a term we hear a lot, but have you ever stopped to think about what the "balance" part really refers to?

Let's take a moment to consider some more questions together:

Do you think work-life balance is the same for everyone, regardless of age or stage of life? For instance, is the balance needed by a 28-year-old the same as that needed by a 41-year-old? Moreover, do you think it's possible to achieve the ultimate success we all dream of while still maintaining a healthy work-life balance? And finally, how certain are we that our work and personal lives can always be kept separate?

The questions surrounding this topic are endless, making it a "wicked problem."

Many of us are concerned about achieving a good work-life balance. However, it's essential to recognize that everyone's situation is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. In fact, some people online may push their idealized version of work-life balance onto others, which can create feelings of guilt or inadequacy.

Overall, there's a case to be made that the gospel of the pursuit of work-life balance is driven by concerns about our health and well-being, as well as that of our loved ones. However, is there a one-size-fits-all solution, and should the balance look the same for everyone?

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e14

The debate on the conditions of unconditional love continued in this cinematherapy episode. To be honest, we feel this topic was one that was too complex & difficult to arrive at a consensus in 2 hours of conversation.

The movie we chose to potentially break this down further was ‘The Spectacular Now” a coming-of-age story that follows the charming and carefree high school senior, Sutter Keely, as he navigates his last year of high school with no regard for the future, until he unexpectedly falls for the sweet and studious Aimee Finicky, forcing him to confront his inner demons.

Wole wasn’t the biggest fan of our movie choice, but it’s a movie that grows on you as it edges on showing how there can be extraordinary in the everyday things with share with a love interest.

Perhaps the most important realisation we came away with at the end of this is that without self-love and pure tenderness to ourselves, unconditional love is difficult to give and receive.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e13

A mysterious concept, a romantic ideal, and a taken-for-granted understanding. These are three things that we feel characterize the concept of unconditional love, and in typical Yellow pill fashion, we don't take things for granted.

In the context of emerging and sustaining relationships, unconditional love is often seen as the epitome of the romantic ideal.

From wedding vows to movies to "advice consultants," we all hear people say that to love unconditionally is to declare an intention to love someone come what may.

But what does this mean in a world where conditions are set upon us by default, merely because we exist within certain forms and structures?

Because the truth is, the very moment we consider the type of relationship we desire with another, we will always be in the realm of "conditions" (be it values, likes, dislikes, temperaments, etc.).

So, what then is unconditional love in a default world where conditions cannot be escaped?

This episode was inspired by the desire to learn to love more fully and to bring to light a complex understanding that we take for granted as young adults.

Save, turn on those bells, you don't want to miss this 🔔

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e12

On the latest episode of the podcast, Wole and Tobi tried to use the Ikigai framework to figure out a part of their lives connected with purpose. But, honestly, they just ended up with more questions than answers about how practical the framework was.

It was like they were in a constant state of tension - almost like the main character in Soul, a Pixar flick about a middle-school band teacher who's feeling pretty lost. He's a jazz musician at heart, but things haven't quite gone his way. When he travels to another dimension to help someone find their purpose, he starts to understand what it means to have soul.

After breaking down the plot of the movie, Wole and Tobi took some time to reflect on some of the stuff they didn't quite figure out from the last episode. But, this time, they were able to come to a better understanding of what they think is really at the heart of Ikigai - the reason for being.

They also talked about some of the scenes from the movie that really stood out, as the main character went on his journey of self-discovery, trying to figure out his purpose, passion, and what it really means to live a fulfilling life.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e11

You've probably stumbled upon a bunch of frameworks and popular guidelines on how to find purpose in life or discover your reason for existence.

One such concept is Ikigai, a Japanese term that translates to "the reason for being". The idea is simple: each person finds their reason for being at the intersection of what they love, what they are good at, what they can be paid for, and what the world needs.

Sounds great, doesn't it?

In this episode, we tried to apply this concept to our own lives and see if it's a useful framework. To be honest, we're not sure if we nailed it. We tried to make sense of it from a realistic perspective, taking into account cultural and economic realities, but Ikigai proved to be a tough sell 😄

Anyway, we'd love for you to give it a listen and see if it can help you out. Who knows, maybe you'll find some useful insights that we missed!

To leave a comment 👉🏾 - http://bit.ly/typs9e10

.

.

.
"Ultimately, people age, and children need to live their lives."

This sad but true reality is beautifully portrayed in our latest cinema therapy episode, where we take a look at The Father (2020). The movie features an outstanding narrative and strong characterizations from the cast.

As we talked about last week, the topic of caring for ageing parents and filial responsibility is something that hits close to home for many of us. What makes this movie so exceptional is how it immerses us in the perspective of an ageing man with dementia, letting us see what he sees and what he doesn't.

At the same time, it gives us a chance to envision ourselves as children taking care of ageing parents, to the point where it can result in significant costs to our own lives.

.

.

.

🚨 - The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS this week. Here's your LAST chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher 💳: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - http://bit.ly/typs9e9

.

.

.

About this episode:

The way life works is that the people who give us life, raise us, support us, and care for us will eventually reach a point where they need our help and support too.

Watching our parents grow old can sneak up on us, and we may only realize it in moments of epiphany.

In this episode, the Yellow Pill Men explore the reciprocity and filial responsibility involved in supporting ageing parents. They attempt to think about their role in providing support to their elderly parents, although whether they figured it out is still up for debate. One cannot deny the complexity involved in navigating the changing responsibilities adult children face as their parents begin to age.

This episode delves into the various reasons why humans provide support to parents as they age, and how factors such as gender, socioeconomic conditions, and culture might interact with these reasons.

It's a scary conversation to have, but it's also inevitable. The reality is that many of us have already spent more time with our parents than we ever will again.

.

.

.

The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS next week! Here's your chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher 💳: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e8...Picking a movie for this week's cinematherapy episode was a tough call, man 😓Even after giving chatgpt some plot hints, we weren't fully sold on the options it gave us 😒In the end, we went with Blue Valentine. We're betting only a few of you out there have seen it. Wole was already second-guessing our choice just 20 minutes into the movie, but Tobi was more open to it. You be the judge of what that says about the movie itself👩🏾‍⚖️And for those still on the fence, here's what chatGPT had to say:"Blue Valentine is one of those movies that will leave you feeling like you just went through an emotional rollercoaster. It's raw and real, and shows a relationship that's falling apart in a way that feels all too familiar. Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams are just incredible in this movie. They bring so much depth and authenticity to their roles, and it really shows. The story itself is heartbreaking, but also relatable. It really delves into the complexities of love and the slow decay of a relationship over time. This movie is a must-see for anyone who appreciates great acting and stories that are both genuine and powerful."

.

.

.

The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS soon. Here's your chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher 💳: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - http://bit.ly/typs9e7

.

.

The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS soon. Here's your chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher 💳: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

.

.

Do you recognize this relationship cycle? The meeting with a “stranger”, the chase, the honeymoon, the comfort, the tolerance, the downhill, and then the breakup, ultimately ending up as “strangers” again.

Wolé and Tobi have been contemplating the wild nature of the lifecycle for relationships that end in breakups. Like many others, they have experienced this cycle at least once. However, being the life-nerds that they are, they cannot just accept it as part of life. In fact, they find it absurd that one person can be a stranger today, a lover tomorrow, and a stranger the day after.

Naturally, they brought these thoughts to life in a Sunday chill conversation with Faith, a lovely friend. Although her experiences differ from theirs, they are equally rich enough to confirm the craziness of this relationship cycle.

In this episode, follow the three of them as they break down the stranger to lover to stranger again cycle with the aim to experience it less.

Is it fun? Yes.

Is it deep? Yes.

Is it emotional? We'll let you decide.

Anxiety, bridges burnt, and an existential tipping point. These are some of the words that best describe the upcoming Nigerian elections and the state of the nation.

Whether we like it or not, the outcomes of this upcoming Nigerian elections matter to the world.

Why? For starters, Nigeria is the most populous black country on earth, and one out of every five persons of African origin is Nigerian. In addition, even though the word ‘elections’ should suggest Nigeria is a democratic state, in reality however, Nigeria is a hybrid regime that is closer to an authoritarian regime than it is to a flawed or full democracy (The Economist, 2023).

So, back to the elections.

We decided to create this ‘out-of-schedule’ episode that contains stories and anecdotes from a dozen Nigerians who share their fears and hopes about the upcoming elections. Some expressed hope for positive change and development, many expressed concern about violence and aftermath, while a few emphasised an unwilling acceptance of whatever outcome. Regardless, it is clear that upcoming elections scheduled for February 25, 2023 (as of the time of writing this) will have both threats and opportunities of an unquantifiable scale for our country and our people.

We’ll see what happens during the weekend and release another episode after.

Please give this a listen, share, and stay tuned.

God bless 🙏🏾

We wanted to find a useful cinematherapy resource for the theme of love and Valentine's Day, so that meant we stayed away from the cheesy classics 😄.

We decided to go for nostalgia and revisit the classic movie, Love and Basketball.

We discussed the important love lessons that emerged from the movie, such as friendship, childhood romance, and the balance between career and love.

Aside from the one cheesy line that sent Tobi packing ("Monica: I'll play for your heart"), we enjoyed watching the movie and we were definitely Team Monica on this one as the “hero” of the story.

We hope you enjoy it!

.

.

.

📣 The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign is still on. Here's your chance to win an Amazon voucher: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

As February 14th draws near, Wole and Tobi take a different approach to discuss Valentine's Day. Instead of focusing on the good, romantic aspects of the holiday, they delve into the darker side of it, exploring the taken-for-granted expectations and experiences that can lead to negative outcomes for couples and singles.

They ask if and how Valentine's Day can do more harm than good for all involved. They question the importance of this love holiday to society, share their own past experiences, and offer some considerations for those looking to make the most of their Valentine's Day plans.

Surprisingly, they make some very interesting points that you might not expect to hear on an episode like this one.

Lots of love ♥️.

.

.

🏆 WIN an Amazon Voucher by participating in the Yellow Pill Junkies campaign: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

📣 The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign is still on. Here's your chance to win an Amazon voucher 💳: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

.

.

.

Watching American Psycho for cinema therapy was more like cinema what the hell!

Despite all the violent/crazy scenes, we dove into this movie again because it has strong themes of materialism we couldn’t ignore.

If you haven’t seen the movie, it revolves around 27-year-old Patrick who desperately wants to fit into the material world (& culture) of the elite and lashes out with his violent fantasies after sunset.

From his morning shower routine to the characters’ obsession with material possessions, we compared themes from the movie to our daily lives. I mean we don’t have Wall Street money but it was still interesting to see some similarities we shared with the world and characters in the movie.

It’s a movie that might be scary/too much for some, so we suggest you listen to the episode before/instead of watching it!

.

.

.

If you love the podcast, here's how you can help us grow!

Please leave us a review on the platform you're listening to us on right now! 💫
Share your favourite episode with your followers anywhere📱
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Link to the TYP Junkies campaign: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

.

.

For a while now, Wolé and Tobi have been reflecting on the importance they attach to material possessions.

Wolé's thoughts on materialism began recently when a life transition made him question the number of clothes he needs.

Tobi's thoughts have been more mature, stemming from his longstanding view that he places little importance on material things that don't serve a functional purpose.

They sit down to discuss the origin of their materialistic tendencies, albeit to varying degrees. They question the reasons behind our consumption habits and why we are likely to own more than we use. They debate whether materialism can be good or bad, and explore how it extends beyond objects.

Of course, much of their conversation also highlights their hypocrisy. After all, they both own material objects that are only "nice to have" and are not essential for their survival.

So, can we truly escape materialism?

We'll let you answer that.

This episode contains explicit language from clips we included from the film.

##

In our first-ever #cinematherapy episode, we dive into “Marriage Story”, an amazing movie starring Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson.

We dissect scenes and themes in the film that reflect our current topic of discussion about premarital fears and the apprehension of divorce.

We picked and loved this story because it touches on the real-life struggles of managing a marriage that is falling apart and the personal costs associated with it.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

The TYP Junkies Campaign is still on! If you haven't already, please fill out our survey - https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

Link to the TYP Junkies campaign: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd

In this episode, Wolé and Tobi sit down to really talk about some premarital fears they have.While they both share the same desire to settle down one day 🤞🏾, their paths towards that destination are quite different 🛣️.Part of what drives this difference is that Wolé has premarital fears that Tobi can’t relate to, and Tobi has premarital fears that Wolé is still trying to understand. This conversation kicks off the 9th season of the podcast 🎉 and Wole and Tobi hope listening to this inspires you to kickstart a similar conversation with your closest and dearest 💛.

.

.

.

Are you ready for another season of familiar dilemmas and wicked problems? Join us as we try to make sense of the world we find ourselves in through intimate conversations, piercing thoughts, and provocative questions.

We've also got a couple of new experiences lined up this season, including a new campaign we're launching which we talk more about in the episode. Tune in for a preview of what's coming on the Yellow Pill!

Happy New Year everyone! 🎊

In this first episode of 2023, Wole and Tobi sat down to talk about the year ahead, personal plans for the year, and a bit about what's coming up on the podcast's new season.

Stay tuned for the trailer episode for the new season next week, where Wole and Tobi will walk through the themes and topics for the 9th season of the Yellow Pill!

Wole and Tobi catch up after a minute. Wole talks through the life transitions he’s had to deal with since finishing his PhD, including moving to a new city and a new job. Tobi reflects on 2022 and his journey so far in building a business. The conversation moved forward and they discussed relationships, the recent “pressure” to settle down from friends and family, what the future holds in that department and the sudden appeal of an “arranged” marriage.

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Please leave us a review on the platform you're listening to us on right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Tobi is back again with another one of his monologues. This one sees him reflect on being a groomsman at a friend's wedding a weekend ago, and his newfound understanding of why he thinks he's always leaned towards having a small wedding ceremony. He also dives into the symbolism, rituals and pageantry of a wedding.

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Tobi shares his thoughts about what he describes as "a gentle kind of practical and efficient love".

He also gives a quick overview of the areas to seek to know a person as highlighted by the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) created by John Van Epp in his book "How To Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk"

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Tobi shares his thoughts about what he describes as "a gentle kind of practical and efficient love".

He also gives a quick overview of the areas to seek to know a person as highlighted by the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) created by John Van Epp in his book "How To Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk"

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Tobi gives a bit of insight into what he does for a living.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole breaks down the meaning behind the name of the podcast!

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi have a chat with one of our mates from high school who was a part of the set design team for the Netflix original movie from Nollywood, Anikulapo.

With a total of 8,730,000 global views, Anikulapo is presently ranked among the top 10 non-English language movies on Netflix

Gbadebo tells us about the experience of being on set, his decision to go to film school after graduating with a degree in Architecture, and his love for the arts.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi walk through a list of life lessons given by an 80-year-old to discover which of those lessons resonate with them.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi have a conversation about one of the recent polls in Nigeria showing Mr Obi well ahead of the two other main candidates in the running for the country's highest seat of power.

They cover:

Details about the source of the poll and how it was conducted
The representativeness of the population sampled and the size of the sample
The likelihood of a 3rd-force candidate canvassing enough votes to meet constitutional requirements
What a win for a 3rd-force might mean for Nigeria's democracy

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole answers anonymous questions sent in by our audience!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi have a conversation about the war in Ukraine, the narratives surrounding the war, and what ultimately shapes our perspectives of similar world events both at home and abroad.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi have a conversation about the reactions to the casting for the Little Mermaid by Disney, and the broader issue of fan-baiting - a form of marketing mostly used by producers and film studios, with the intent of exciting artificial controversy, garnering publicity and potentially explaining away the negative reviews of a new and often highly anticipated production.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode, Wole and Tobi have a conversation about the reactions to the casting for the Little Mermaid by Disney, and the broader issue of fan-baiting - a form of marketing mostly used by producers and film studios, with the intent of exciting artificial controversy, garnering publicity and potentially explaining away the negative reviews of a new and often highly anticipated production.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

In this bonus episode. Wole and Tobi have a conversation about the passing of Queen Elizabeth II and the different reactions to her death across the world.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

10 episodes, 8 amazing guests and over 20 hours of thoughtful conversations.

In this bonus off-season episode, we sat down to reflect on the 8th season of the Yellow Pill podcast 💛

Thank you for hanging with us throughout the season and don't forget to share your favourite episodes with a friend!

See you around ✨

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Let’s not even lie, things are currently peak moneywise.

The reality of rising prices, economic downturns, and recessions are all terrible stressors that can have a negative impact on our well-being and livelihood.

As if that’s not enough, the news constantly bombards us with unstable economic conditions, and this can create negative emotions of anxiety and stress.

Even though difficult economic times affect everyone one way or another, young adults are more likely to be hit worse than older adults. Many of us are having to work our way up financially against many odds, some harder than others.

And so in our final episode of the season, we were joined by @xoreni, host of the @dontgobroketrying podcast, to break down how we can manage financial stress and anxiety that follows during tough times.

Together, we explored how we can better navigate the difficult economic times ahead. And Reni shared some practical financial tips on how we can prepare for recessions and economic downturns in general.

We enjoyed every second of the chat with Reni and our conversation ended up being a perfect blend of entertaining and educational.

Reni’s a top guest and she has some quality content we know you folks would love as well, so please check out her page and podcast using any of the links below ✨

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Resources

Follow Reni's podcast on Instagram: @dontgobroketrying
Follow Reni on Instagram: @xoreni

Disclaimer: The views and opinions shared on this episode are for informational and educational purposes only. This is NOT financial advice. Always do your own research and due diligence before investing.

Love, education, career, religion, & friendship.

These five areas are strong pillars that have shaped many of us and shaped who we are becoming. In fact, many of us believe that winning to some degree in these five categories is what makes a good, successful, or happy life.

Looking beneath the surface, however, presents us with the question of how decisions about matters relating to those different categories are made. To what extent do we fall into (slide) or actively choose (decide) what we studied in school, the careers we've chosen, the relationships we've pursued, and the faith we practise?

Although "sliding vs deciding" is a term primarily associated with cohabitation, we took this concept of sliding or deciding further into key areas of our lives in this episode. To what extent are we deciding what’s best and to what extent are we sliding our way forwards?

Given that we’re approaching the end of what typically marks “youth”, it’s the best time to reflect on both the decisions and indecisions that made us who we are today.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Additional resources

The Attachment Theory
Our episode on attachment styles (Season 3 Episode 4 - Apple || Spotify)

We all know that person who wanted to be some kind of artist when they were younger.

They had a strongly held belief that they could meaningfully participate in artistry as their life’s mission.

However, as all young creatives with ambitions will ultimately realise, time, in the end, reveals whose path to artistry is destined, and whose inner drive for artistic ingenuity cannot be denied.

But in this ‘time’, where young creatives pursue their ambitions to become emerging artists, they at some point must face the paradox of education, negotiate an identity after education, flirt with the idea of a corporate career alternative, convince loved ones of the worthiness of their ambitions, and battle the all too common imposter syndrome.

This fact makes the road to artistry a daunting one for every emerging artist.

So on this episode of the Yellow Pill Podcast, we explored this daunting and precarious road with a buddy of ours, David a.k.a Davecreates.

London-born and Essex-raised, Davecreates is a creative with eclectic taste and versatile expression. His music has been featured on notable platforms including BBC 1Xtra, No Signal and Rapzilla.

We explored David's journey into making music, his identity, balancing the creative tension between artistic aspiration and economic pressures, love & relationships, personal stressors & mental health, and finally the release of his new album Amor 🔥 (LISTEN TO THE ALBUM)

Enjoy the episode! .

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Our podcast is no stranger to the exploration of pre- and post-migration life stories. A while ago, we touched on this with a friend that migrated to Germany.

On this episode, however, we turned our attention to a #migration destination that’s very common among us Nigerians, that is Canada.

The common view that we often get of immigration to countries like Canada is as a comparison of two fixed points: the harsh and undesirable point pre-migration, and the joyful and successful post-migration one.

Often forgotten and neglected in social media ‘japa’ feeds, and perhaps immigrant success stories too, is the phase of transition, integration, and acculturation, if at all they even occur.

For someone moving to a new country like Canada, we can imagine this transition phase is anything but brief and trivial; it can even be so hard that in some cases, people return to their home countries.

Based on these, we were joined by another friend, Olamide(@lammykate), to have an exploration of the Canadian migration experience.

We have to note that we certainly don’t think all migration stories can be generalised to everyone, but each story is worth listening to nonetheless. Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

.

.

p.s.

You can listen to Olamide's latest single, "Love over me" using the link here 🎧✨

Cohabitation is a practice on the rise, particularly in the western world.

It has become so prevalent that the majority of marriages and remarriages now begin as cohabiting relationships, and many young men and women are likely to have cohabited at some point in their lives.

As you might imagine, cohabitation is not without its wicked problems.

First, it does not help that in the eyes of the law, cohabitation is not the legal equivalent of marriage or common-law marriage and this tends to have some overlooked implications for the relationship.

Second, people around the world have different views on cohabitation, depending on their background, culture, or religion.

Also, the thought process of cohabitation is an interesting dilemma for many young adults, especially since research shows the ‘sliding vs deciding’ position toward cohabitation can have many effects on the relationship down the line.

Now, given our Nigerian roots, we definitely acknowledge the western influence on this topic.

But there is some evidence that the practical norm of cohabitation is seeping into sub-Saharan Africa despite the continent's religious leanings.

And so we thought this was a wicked problem worth discussing.

Massive shout-out to Bunmi(@akintola.eth) for making this an episode one to remember!

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Once upon a time, we had little autonomy in our ability to pick potential partners or follow romantic interests, with the regulation of this ability laying in the hands of parents, politics, economics, and handshakes.

Fast forward to a couple of decades, and the current norm is that most of us have autonomy in finding romantic interests. Yay🙂.

Because of this autonomy, some individuals choose a single life and prefer such a lifestyle. At the same time, for real or imagined reasons, others wish for a partner but are unable to find one that suits them.

This creates the binary phenomenon where singlehood exists voluntarily or involuntarily.

What @abiolaayanleye and @deolamako helped us do in this episode was to uncover and remind us about the existence of a multifaceted view of singlehood ✨

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Have you met this person? He’s a man based on his age but a child based on his actions.

The man wants your affection, but the child wants your sympathy; the man hopes to be close to you, but the child is scared to be touched.

Heck, his body grows, but his mind does not. He's at a peak physically, but his mind is immature. He is a man-child and suffers from the Peter Pan syndrome (the magical boy who never grew into adulthood).

Many of you might have met a man-child. He could be your friend, lover, husband, cousin, brother, uncle or colleague. He could also be your ex. And if you are a man reading this, he could be you. He could be us.

Whether or not you know of such a man, and whether or not you may be that man, we think identifying traits of immaturity early in its tracks is still essential for everyone.

So this episode was about opening up to share some simple paths toward maturity, and sincerely evaluate ourselves in terms of how close to or far away we are from the “peter-pan syndrome”.

It is an episode relevant to everyone, whether for wives/lovers to better understand their partner, for friends to find empathy and more willingly offer support and for victims of immaturity to ponder on the situation and find the courage to escape "neverland".

Enjoy the listen and remember to share it with one person!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

This episode arose out of our continuous desire to explore different systems of belief, and this time around, the focus for us was on Islam.

We felt this conversation was important as many of us live in societies comprised of diverse religious landscapes, of which Islam is a key part. Looking at the facts, as of 2015, Islam was said to be the fastest-growing religion in the world and projected to be the world’s dominant religion by 2070.

With that in mind, it can't really be debated that gazing into the world of Islam is key to coexisting harmoniously with our Muslim brethren and understanding the people behind this religious identity.

To help us with this gaze, we invited an old friend, @yettyb_ who is a practising Muslim.

Now, a couple of disclaimers.

We (Wolé and Tobi) are both Christians and grew up in Christian homes, and if you've followed this podcast for a minute, you can be sure that we did not arrange for this “conversation” with the ulterior motive of highlighting any perceived ‘deficiencies’ of a religion different from ours. Neither did we point the conversation towards a hint of evaluating the two religions against each other. That, for us, is what we would call intellectual child's play.

What was important was highlighting the core themes that characterised the spiritual systems relating to Christianity and Islam.

In doing so, we touched on how a person's Islamic identity may be developed and on the pillars of Islam. Also, given that we exist in interfaith societies, we discussed how we manage relationships despite the boundaries of our religions, common stereotypes of Islam, and how religion shapes our self-presentation online.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

We do not only like funny people; we love them!

There's no doubt that humour plays a prevalent part in life. When things are bad, we use humour to give a voice to complex thoughts or emotions and to cope with challenging situations.

Humour also helps ease tensions we face in awkward social situations; it helps us bond with people (We’ve all heard that joke about laughing all the way to... 🌚), and of course, it is no secret that men and women prefer romantic partners who have a good sense of humour.

So in this episode, we explored and talked about the role of comedy/humour on two levels: society and the individual.

It was definitely a fun episode and we were glad to have been joined by David (@davidzoaka), a comedy writer, screenwriter, and entrepreneur, but above all an old friend!

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

As many of you are aware, our world (mostly western tbh) is making strides every day in being more progressive and advanced. This shift from history to the future seems to be hinged on one issue in particular: #gender.

The gender subject is one we can all agree to have permeated lots of domains, whether political or social, whether family or society, whether arts or commerce and the list goes on.

Now one may ask, and perhaps rightfully so, why is this such a big deal in our culture? Why does there seem to be a gender spotlight?

.

.

.

References

Butler, J., 2004. Undoing Gender. Routledge
Chodorow, N., 1999. The reproduction of mothering: Psychoanalysis and the sociology of gender. Univ of California Press.
West, C., 1993. Reconceptualizing gender in physician-patient relationships. Social Science & Medicine, 36(1), pp.57-66.
West, C. and Zimmerman, D.H., 1987. Doing gender. Gender & society, 1(2), pp.125-151

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Hey Yellow Pill fam, your podcast boys are back at it again!

A new season of the pod is here, and you don’t want to miss the heat we are bringing this time around.

Coming back for another collection of wicked problems to tackle for our 8th Season has not been easy, but nothing worthy of value is easy 💪🏾

In this bonus episode, we break down our creative process for the new season including a little teaser of what to expect.

We cannot wait to share our mental canvas with you all again 🙌🏾

So tell a friend to tell a friend to tell another friend, the Yellow Pill is back again 🚀

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

As promised, in this final off-season episode, Wole and Tobi talked about something a bit more lighthearted.

We hope this offers some breath of a different kind of air.

Enjoy the listen ❤️

Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where we discuss trending issues at home and abroad!

N.B.

A little trigger warning:

This episode centred around some heavy themes, and we're aware that spending an hour listening to content like this might be a bit too overwhelming; there's already enough going on in the world as it is.

So feel free to pace yourself or skip this episode altogether if you think that might be a better idea.

We realise that deciding to focus our off-season episodes on trending issues has left us exposed to focus quite a bit on the negative. And so after recording this episode, we decided the next off-season episode will be a deliberate attempt to have a conversation about more upbeat things happening across the world.

If you still decide to give this one a listen, we hope you enjoy it and come away from it with more than just an awareness of what's wrong with the world today.

❤️

Wole and Tobi

Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!

Enjoy the listen.

Another bonus off-season episode.

Enjoy the listen!

Thanks for tuning in to another episode from our off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!

Enjoy the listen.

Thanks for tuning in and welcome to the off-season, where Wole and Tobi discuss trending issues at home and abroad!

Wole and Tobi sat down to have a conversation about the just-concluded season, highlighting key ideas they took away from each episode in two-minute lightning rounds and wrapping things up with a small peek into the upcoming season.

Before you go, please take a couple of minutes to give your feedback about Season 7 by filling out our survey!

Enjoy the listen!

It's the Season Finale People! And we're wrapping up the season with the notion of building a good life in an unsteady world.

I’m guessing you were born in the 90s like we were. Many of us are still waiting for the fairytale adulthood to begin, even though we are physically there.

For many, rent consumes half or most of our income, and many of us delay ‘life plans’ waiting to be more settled (which keeps evading). The 2008 crisis, Covid, energy crises, insecurity, terrible government, lack of bare necessities etc. are just some of the frequent stop gaps that we’ve experienced.

Then there are the pressures of social media, the reality of the gig economy, and the rising western ideologies that are demeaning the important traditional values such as loyalty and family.

Amid this noise and chaos, amid all the anxiety and worries that we young adults contend with, how then can we define a good life?

What kind of life would we be okay with?

How can we balance ambition without the tradeoffs that can come back to bite?

How can we all have optimal human functioning when we cannot all have the best ideal functioning?

We hope that as you listen, you realise that we are all in this life journey together, and the journey towards a good life begins with having these same conversations with your friends and family.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

How many of us are strangers to experiences of bullying? Either as the bully or the bullied?

If we were to guess, we’d say not many.

We say this confidently because bullying in all forms is rampant in all societies. It is also a very complex experience and hence, a complex topic.

First, bullying can occur in many forms whether through physical, verbal, social, or even online means.

Because of these different shades of bullying, which can also often be done in combination, bullying becomes a more difficult experience to be a victim of.

Second, there isn’t much evidence to suggest that bullying has an age limit. Kids, middle-aged adults, and the elderly can all be victims of bullying.

Third, the effects of bullying on the victims can be difficult to predict and assess, especially in the long term. This becomes problematic because the scars of being bullied can either show up later in adulthood or even shape one's entire journey into adulthood.

For us, this was what made the experience of bullying a wicked problem to try to break down.

We felt that a complex topic like this one required an understanding of as many realities as possible, and we were lucky to have six people share their stories with us.

This episode was presented in narrative form and not like the typical episodes you've grown accustomed to.

We hope you enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Who are you?

What is your real self?

How would your close friends describe you?

Forming our ‘selves’ is a lifelong, intense process, especially while we're young. It is also heavily influenced by our physical environments & the people in those environments.

To establish our ‘selves’, we all experiment with different interests, ideas, and, above all, self-presentations.

By self-presentation, we mean how we package and edit ourselves for our social interactions.

You see, self-presentation is not a bad thing, but quite normal.

It is the reason why your tone might change when speaking to a stranger, the reason why your appearance may change when going on a blind date, and the reason why you might list out all your qualifications before giving a public speech etc.

We are social beings, and we always want to present ourselves to others in ways that are favourable. That seems fair.

But here is where the wicked problem lies.

Unlike face-to-face settings, our self-presentation on social media cannot be applied to one-to-one conversations.

Instead, our self-presentation on social media has to be broadcasted and publicised to everyone at once, in a one-to-many form.

This can be a problem because if we are inclined to present a favourable ‘self’ that can cater to our huge, diverse social media audience, this means that we may exaggerate and dramatise the way we package and edit ourselves.

So in this episode, we spoke about our personal experiences of self-presentation online.

We spoke about how social media provides us with a whole lot more ways of experimenting with ways of crafting different ‘selves’, whether or not our online self and offline self hugely differ, self-presentation gone crazy, and self-presentation in online dating.

We think this is a very important way of looking at our digital hygiene, and understanding its impact on ourselves and those we are connected to.

And this is why we deliberately put ourselves on the line to evaluate our self-presentation. And we did so in the hope that our (attempted) transparency will encourage you to make your own evaluation.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

"To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ― Alexander Pope

Forgiveness seems to be one of those complex events that we take for granted and assume we understand to the fullest.

We all know that saying “forgive and forget”.

Right, like it is that simple.

Sometimes we equate forgiveness with pardon, condonation, and/or excusing bad behaviour.

Many times we don’t even know who the act of forgiving is actually for, us or our transgressors?

Many of us espouse its importance, either socially, mentally, or religiously. Yet practising forgiveness in real everyday life often eludes us, and that’s just because it is not a natural reaction.

Trying to unpack forgiveness is a wicked problem but at the same time a necessary one to unpack as it is the start of many other necessary conversations.

In this episode with Mishael, we unpacked what forgiveness means to us, what happens when we forgive, why we forgive, the role of vengeful personalities, forgiveness and wellbeing, forgiveness in cancel culture, and lots more!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Damn, breakups are hard, and we don't mean just with romantic relationships.

If we consider the deep influence couples in relationships, 'situationships', talking stages and so on exert on each other, it is not too surprising that ending relationships can be one of the most emotional, distressing, painful events adults can experience.

One thing that contributes to the distress we experience during breakups is how we communicate the breakup message or experience.

In general, how people break up tends to vary in the level of directness or in the amount of care or concern they express towards the other person.

Some breakups happen directly, with open expressions of the desire to break up. Others involve indirect communication, typically by avoiding the partner.

With our increasing reliance on online communication, people now have new indirect ways of terminating connections, one of which is Ghosting.

Ghosting is unique. It is not like every other breakup strategy because when we do it, it happens in the absence of the ghosted partner immediately knowing that it has occurred.

The immediate impact on them - the ghosted partner, then becomes ambiguity, uncertainty, pain, and hurt.

Now, we aren’t suggesting that ghosting just began in recent times. We can imagine that ghosting has been around since the times of Romeo and Juliet.

But we argue that the ‘ease’ and ‘normalcy’ of ghosting is more prominent today than it has ever been. And that shift is because of the current norm and proliferation of online communication.

Since many of us initiate, develop, and maintain our relationships through texting and social media mostly, terminating our connections with people by ghosting then becomes a way of avoiding these communication channels with a particular person.

But should ghosting be normal? And should it be considered an appropriate way to end relationships? Can any motivations for ghosting be justified? How can we deal with the inevitable uncertainty, pain, and hurt that ghosting brings?

In this episode, we brought back one of our day one guests to tackle this wicked problem of ghosting.

Have you been a 'ghoster' or a 'ghostee'? How was the experience? Let us know!

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Ageing is inevitable. Yet many of us have a sense of fear, anxiety, or ambivalence about growing old.

For some, it is the pressure of meeting certain ‘milestones’ before a certain age. For others, it is the avoidance of physically looking their age.

This is not surprising given that many of us younger folks apply a range of negative stereotypes to older adults.

These negative perceptions of ageing are steadily reinforced in society, especially through our media and entertainment showcasing youthful images and associating adulthood with physical, mental, and sexual inadequacies.

Then there are the anti-ageing products, the funny greeting cards that highlight ageing as a sort of loss, and the jokes about grey hair that warrant panic.

All of these messages often reinforce the idea that ageing is undesirable.

As with most social issues, the stigma of ageing also affects men and women differently.

For instance, research shows that women are perceived as “old” sooner than men and are more likely to have physical attributes associated with ageing applied to them.

The funny thing here is that these physical signs of ageing such as wrinkles or greying may alternately be viewed as signs of wisdom and status for men.

Overall, whether it is due to changing physical appearance, hitting success markers, or finding meaning in life, the ageing process can often be momentarily or regularly anxiety-ridden.

This is the part where you expect to see something uplifting.

But nope, we are still wrapping our heads around this too.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

When it comes to #sex and #abstinence, it is a no brainer that our perspective about it greatly depends on our worldview, beliefs, experiences & more.

The journey of abstinence till marriage may seem old-school but our research showed us that it is not as scarce as one may think.

Now, although the internet is replete with pros and cons of practising abstinence, we noticed that several issues, challenges, and talking points have often been met with silence.

For example, we know statistically that the average age at first marriage is rising dramatically across cultures. This means having a moral goal of abstinence till marriage today implies waiting longer to engage in sex than any group has in history, and in a culture that has mostly rejected delaying gratification.

There is also the challenge of ambiguity and subjectivity of abstinence since it can be difficult, due to individual perspectives, to agree on a common and clear description of which acts constitute having sex or abstinence.

But there are also gender-related challenges.

For instance, from a male perspective, understanding and enacting masculinity while maintaining strong commitments to sexual abstinence until marriage can be a difficult and lonely challenge to navigate.

From the female perspective, rhetorics of sexual purity can create mindsets of “sex as a bad thing”. While this might increase the will for abstinence, there is social proof that living many years with that mindset can be a tough psychological nut to crack after marriage.

On the other hand, the extremes of a “sexually-enlightened culture” do not do us any favours either. The lack of emotional intimacy, ignorance towards sexual boundaries and consent, porn addition etc., are just some of the scars that many may bear.

Abstinence till marriage is beyond a belief, practice, or journey. It can be a powerful identity, one whose consequences often gets unravelled after marriage.

Our childhood friends @titothewriter and @big_black_fella joined us to share their stories about their journey of abstinence. They spoke candidly and we listened patiently. We took a lot away from the conversation and we hope the same happens for you. .

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

When we recorded “Losing Religion” last season, we aimed to explore the thoughts, motivations, & interests behind agnosticism & atheism at large.

This episode takes a different turn.

It poses more questions about the core of what we’ve largely overlooked, our natural religious instincts.

You see, there can be arguments made for the idea that the society & culture we inhabit today, is the most post-Christian society that the world has yet known.

And such society & culture does not simply suggest one where agnosticism or atheism serves as the dominant beliefs around. No.

Rather, we refer to a society whose history is ingrained in the history, culture, & practices of Christianity BUT rejects, or forgets, the beliefs of Christianity, and does not consider it the basis of either its ethics or its culture.

This is why we ask: If God is dead, then what? What happens to our religious instincts? Where do we put that religious longing?

It gets even more complex.

What does it mean if much of what Christianity teaches is forgotten or unheard of, but still practised in some way?

Do we sustain the morals and values of the Christian standard (e.g. equality), but claim those unique values and morals as our own and deny their theistic origins?

Also, might there be a paradox in that we use values and morals to easily and intellectually justify certain things that are condemned by a Christian worldview, but then we reject the basis of where those same values and morals emerged?

There are two assumptions and beliefs here that we require in order to ask or answer these questions.

One is the assumption that religion is truly a natural human instinct.

The other is that the foundation of our morals and values today are historically based on Christian values.

In this episode, we were joined by @drferuke to help us make sense of the potential of living in a society where religion is lost, and what the implications of that can be.

This episode required patience, openness, and deep reflection from us, and we hope that this extends to you and that you find it thought-provoking.

.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

If love is one of the ultimate, most desirable experiences of human life, what makes it so? Giving love or receiving love?

Some have said that receiving love in a somewhat unconditional positive form is a crucial key to happiness and can sometimes feel like winning the lottery.

Others have said that giving love and learning the difficult “art of loving” is the crucial thing that offers us emotional satisfaction, self-realisation, and fulfilment.

These kinds of claims and thoughts may stem from images and stories of people who are joyfully immersed in loving relationships, and therefore it makes sense that it can be hard for us to separate whether it is the giving or receiving of love that leads to true happiness.

Some will say it doesn't need to be one or the other and that the hope for everyone is that giving and receiving love occurs in the same relational environment and that there will always be happiness at the end of it.

But what happens when it is a situation of unrequited love? Where one person loves another without the love being reciprocated the way it is desired.

In our second episode of this season, we sat down with Omolara to break down our experiences of unrequited love. Omolara herself has published a book titled - Letters, Stamps, and Seals that detailed her experience of unrequited love through a series of letters that show a progressive journey towards clarity and healing from unrequited love.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

On any given day, we navigate conversations with loved ones, colleagues, and friends, both to connect with people and to communicate with them.

We long for real conversation, not always because we knowingly feel that way, but because we yearn to experience the best and most substantial versions of others we come across. We also long for the most real part of ourselves to be understood and liked by the other person.

But how much of a reality is this for the majority of our conversations?

What probably sounds more relatable is arguments and debates masquerading as conversation; contests with a clear winner and sorry loser.

In that case, those times when we are having conversations and making the argument the priority, are those real conversations or are they debates instead? In true conversation, shouldn’t we put people first?

If we imagine a life where we placed more emphasis on the consequential benefits of good conversation, then maybe we are more likely to be understood by others, and maybe we become more likely to experience the best of others that we dance with during conversation.

In the first episode of season 7, we explored different aspects of what might be the dying art of conversation. It’s not an easy topic to discuss because it’s one of those that are here and everywhere.

We also acknowledged that much of our thoughts on this topic are not just to make recommendations, but to also experience how we ourselves are faring in this dying art.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Your two favourite co-hosts are back for the seventh season of the Yellow Pill podcast!

Listen in to find out what we've been up to during a much-needed break and what we've got in store this season.

.

.

.

As always, if you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞
Send us an email with any feedback you have for us: theyellowpill.pod@gmail.com

Thanks for tuning in!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this episode, we spoke about the relationship between mainland China and the African continent.

There's been a lot of talk in the news about China's debt-trap diplomacy (a term in international finance which describes a creditor country or institution extending debt to a borrowing nation partially, or solely, to increase the lender's political leverage), but our main focus was around the potential scale of misunderstanding of Africa’s debt commitment to China even as the Asian giant has become Africa’s largest bilateral creditor in the last decade.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Thanks for tuning in!

On this bonus episode, Tobi sat down with one of his close friends, Anjola, to chat a bit about the experience of being a millennial Christian focusing on experiences such as being hurt by the church, defending one's faith in public spaces, and a lot more.

Tobi and Anjola tried to make the conversation very practical, so even if you do not identify as a Christian or are generally irreligious, there’s hopefully still something you can take away from what was largely a social conversation.

Hope you enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

In this new monologue from our off-season, Wole runs through his thoughts on the idea of engagement proposals as performances and the impact culture and history have on the expectations surrounding the act itself.

This monologue was centred around 3 main contemplations:

To what extent are proposals performed front-stage as actual performances.
How proposals are developed backstage behind the scenes.
Why proposals are done the way they are.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here are easy ways you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Thanks for tuning in!

In this opinion piece from our off-season, Tobi caught up with a friend to chat about a book they had both read titled "The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now" - by Meg Jay.

Their conversation was centred around 3 of the main themes covered in the book:

Identity Capital
Weak Ties
Making difficult decisions

It was a fun conversation and really makes for a timely listen even as we all step into a new year and try to hit new levels of growth across different areas of our lives as twenty-somethings.

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Thanks for tuning in!

In this monologue from our off-season, Wole runs through his thoughts exploring the relationship between parental figures, masculinity, and superhero films we've all come to love.

A lot of comic book superheroes have dead parents. For many, that loss is a defining moment in their backstories that helps to set them on their journey. But is there more to this than immediately meets the eye?

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Thanks for tuning in!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this episode, we discussed the ongoing 2-year-old pandemic touching on some of the questions, narratives, science, and data that keep popping up.

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

.

.

.

References Used

Community transmission and viral load kinetics of the SARS-CoV-2 delta (B.1.617.2) variant in vaccinated and unvaccinated individuals in the UK: a prospective, longitudinal, cohort study
What is the vaccine effect on reducing transmission in the context of the SARS-CoV-2 delta variant? : https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8554481/
Omicron-variant border bans ignore the evidence, say scientists : https://www.icpcovid.com/sites/default/files/2021-12/Ep%20197-4%20Omicron-variant%20border%20bans%20ignore%20the%20evidence%2C%20say%20scientists.pdf
Pfizer revenue and profits soar on its Covid vaccine business: https://edition.cnn.com/2021/11/02/business/pfizer-earnings/index.html
Monoclonal Antibodies for COVID-19: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2776307
Myocarditis after BNT162b2 mRNA Vaccine against Covid-19 in Israel: https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2109730
VAERS Summary for COVID-19 Vaccines through 11/19/2021: https://vaersanalysis.info/2021/12/01/vaers-summary-for-covid-19-vaccines-through-11-19-2021/
Comparison of two highly-effective mRNA vaccines for COVID-19 during periods of Alpha and Delta variant prevalence: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8366801/
Hydroxychloroquine and tocilizumab therapy in COVID-19 patients—An observational study: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0237693
Pathophysiological Basis and Rationale for Early Outpatient Treatment of SARS-CoV-2 (COVID-19) Infection: https://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343(20)30673-2/pdf
Povidone-iodine solution as SARS-CoV-2 prophylaxis for procedures of the upper aerodigestive tract a theoretical framework: https://journalotohns.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40463-020-00474-x
Povidone-Iodine Use in Sinonasal and Oral Cavities: A Review of Safety in the COVID-19 Era: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32520599/

(Hi! Please take a few minutes to fill out a survey we put together about the podcast!)

We don’t choose the environment we are born into, yet our environment shapes our core beliefs.

Our families, friends, newsfeeds, and experiences in the world reaffirm the assumptions we have, which then become beliefs, which then become paradigms that are the frameworks for how we live our lives.

From fleeting feelings to intense moments, to the things we observe, hear, and digest at home, media and at school, our views about life are impacted by a range of things, and from early on in life.

Your high school teacher told you that you were good or not good at economics, and a mini-paradigm was born.

Your partner in university always made you feel like you were not enough for them, another paradigm surfaces.

You were unfortunate to have a bad relationship with your parents and they made you feel everyone will leave you in the end, and there goes yet another strong paradigm.

So you become an adult, engage in the wild world, start attempting to live life to the fullest, and one by one, these paradigms that you’ve been immersed in every day come rattling down, to shape your actions and reinforce themselves.

Not everyone goes through paradigm shifts as they age, but we all need them.

We all need moments and experiences that call for a new understanding of our beliefs and subsequent adjustment in how we think or behave.

If the world is a tension of good and evil, that means we have all ingrained paradigms that are productive but also many that are toxic.

However, our paradigms and core beliefs, whether productive or toxic, are not always our fault. But it is our job to identify and challenge them, as often as we can.

In this season finale, we wrote down some of the paradigm shifts that we have experienced in recent times and shared them with each other. It was not easy, as it required deep reflection, but we managed to single out a few worthy ones, some personal, others external.

It is an episode we hope makes you do the same as 2021 comes to a close, and by doing so we hope we can all transform our beings again like the myth of the phoenix.

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

In this episode, we dove into a conversation around the laws of nature when it comes to mate selection. Yes, you read that right, mate selection.

This was partly inspired by the work of evolutionary theorist, David Buss on sex differences in choosing a short or long-term partner.

According to Buss, we all create strategies and preferences in mate selection, but these are different for men and women.

Now, many of you will no doubt have your opinions and doubts about modern relationships, gender roles, romance structures and so on. And that's more than expected.

For instance, you might already know that a person's social status, financial prospects, age, physical appearance, dependability, stability etc. are some of the factors we consider when choosing partners.

Yes, these phenomena are common knowledge- but the real reason WHY we have these preferences is where the surprise lies.

The fact is we sometimes assume our preferences for short or long term partners are simply down to our personality, culture, or beliefs.

But many of us seem to consistently overlook the complex biological and evolutionary algebra that shapes all of that.

And so we run the risk of making a mess of our decisions when it comes to vetting and making a decision on who we want to be with.

So we sat down with Esi to discuss the science behind mate selection and choosing partners- benchmarking the science with our lives and relationship history to evaluate the fits and gaps.

It ended up being an episode filled with a lot of tea!

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

As young boys, one could say male friendships tended to come more naturally for us.

But as we’ve grown older, you can argue that men mostly have associations they share a common interest with - replacing interpersonal bonds that arise from a relationship of mutual affection with mostly a system of social hierarchy or activities that don’t require talking or conversation.

Maybe it's because society by default tends to breed men who are meant to be autonomous and emotionally stoic, and so this results in men who see and build friendships through the eyes of “markers of manhood” - like wealth, status, physical prowess, and sexual achievement.

So on this episode, we took a look at two things:

Why it is that men sometimes find it difficult to build friendships
How men build friendships amid social hierarchy

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can support us!

Leave us a review where you're listening right now! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Many of us make assumptions about interracial relationships, but do we really understand how interracial couples experience their relationship together? whether they see themselves as “interracial”? and what struggles and challenges they face?

In this episode, we sat down with our lovely friends Dabi and Jon to discuss how they perceive and negotiate their journey as a couple of different races and cultures.

In our 90 minutes together, they shared how they came together, their views and experiences as an interracial couple, relationships with family and outside influences, the value of each other’s culture in their relationship whilst documenting the joyful and challenging moments. They also offered tips on how they overcome them.

One key thing we learned among many is that while we may see interracial couples and immediately see the differences in their skin colour, for them that takes the backstage as their identities and personalities remain the glue that holds them together.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review here! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Okay, let's start by saying that the idea that men & women (heterosexual) cannot be friends is antiquated.

But it’s also not that simple.

In some ways, some of us see opposite-sex friendships the same as same-sex friendships. We initiate them for the same reasons like shared interests, companionship, good times etc.

But are these the only ‘coincidental’ ’reasons?

Are there any other reasons and motives why we form & maintain opposite-sex friendships?

And are our motives always what we think they are?

So in this episode with @itss_yemi, we shared our understandings of opposite-sex friendships.

All 3 of us have quite a number of opposite-sex friends, so we had rich experiences to reflect on.

We shared how we managed physical attraction, we reflected on those friendships that began by coincidence vs with motives, & we also questioned each other's motives of maintaining opposite-sex friends while in romantic relationships.

We also used theories from scientific studies to question our motives in such friendships.

So, why do we form or maintain opposite-sex friendships?

Well, that answer seems to depend on whether you think like a man or a woman.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review here! 💫
Follow us on Twitter (@yellowpill_pod) 🐦
Follow us on Instagram (@theyellowpillpod) 📷
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack 🗞

Growing up in certain parts of the world can be an extreme sport, with some areas being more extreme than others.

For those of us who grew up in Nigeria, living with some levels of insecurity is kind of the norm.

From kidnappings to carjackings, religious killings, armed banditry, ethnic clashes and more, these violent crimes have increasingly become regular signatures that characterise life in Nigeria.

The odds are that majority of us have encountered such violent crimes, crimes that have brought us uncomfortably close to an encounter with death.

So in this episode, we invited Omotola to join us as we shared our individual terrifying experiences with crime and insecurity, experiences that could easily have been fatal.

One thing we relearnt in this episode is that although everyone has a right and a reason to be resentful towards others and about life, we all also have a reason or two to be grateful.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack
Follow @theyellowpillpod on Instagram!

One of the modern social norms that we all voluntarily practice in our 20s or 30s, compared to a century ago, is the postponement of childbearing.

This is usually because we delay marriage, or pursue educational or career goals, or wish to first secure some economic stability.

Because of this, the common thing we are often taught or seek out to be aware of is knowing how to protect against pregnancy during our pursuit of these other goals.

But during this phase, rarely do we ponder on the state of our fertility or reproductive health. And maybe that’s normal.

However, should that be the case 🤔?

Improving one's knowledge about fertility should be part of a normal conversation in our social circles, the same way we talk about our career, finances, travel and everything else.

This is why we put this episode together with Ojuolape, and we had lots of fun and lessons doing so.

We spoke about the stigma around the early fertility conversation, the rising infertility rates in the world, the social pressure of pregnancy expectations, abortions and a lot more!!!

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack
Follow @theyellowpillpod on Instagram!

.

.

.

Subscribe to The Mind Nodes newsletter on Substack by Ojuolape
Subscribe to Ojuolape's channel on Youtube!

The history we all share is replete with injustice, often spearheaded by people and systems in power.

If you take a historical journey through the 20th and 21st centuries, you might easily spot infamous Tyrants who have spurred injustice across all continents.

In this episode, we used the Tyranny Playbook from the Netflix docu-series, HOW TO BECOME A TYRANT, as a guide to see possible repeating patterns of tyranny in our present world.

As Nigerians, we couldn’t avoid the reality of what the #EndSARS protests from last year have revealed about our government in power, and using the Tyranny playbook gave us the vocabulary to try and understand how close or far we are from living in a truly tyrannical society.

This episode got more animated as we took the tyrannical playbook into the context of cancel culture, modern social justice, and everyday social participation.

It was not a rosy debate.

But for us, the value we believe you will get from this episode lies in the personal and societal reflections that we hope it spurs you into making while listening.

Set your alarms and notifications because you don't want to miss this when it drops!

We hope you enjoy it! 💛

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack
Follow @theyellowpillpod on Instagram!

If you believe in a “higher power”, what do you think about others who don’t? If you don’t believe in any “higher power”, what do you think about those who do?

It’s not very common that people of different beliefs sit down together to discuss and debate their thoughts with the intention to learn and understand. This is what we tried to do in this episode with Sydney.

We sat down on our armchairs with Sydney to explore agnostic atheism and scepticism about God and aimed to prove that learning can occur in the presence of varying beliefs or stances about God without having heated or radical debates.

Without giving any spoilers, we can promise you that this episode was a fantastic conversation and a sincere discussion that is very much worth a listen regardless of your beliefs.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack
Follow @theyellowpillpod on Instagram!

To kick off our sixth season, we tackled the concept of involuntary celibacy, and why this state of mind is perceived as a social reality by certain groups of men.

The world as we know it does not have one understanding of masculinity. While researching for this episode, we were fascinated to learn that there’s a community of men out there who have bonded over the perception that they are unable to attract women and have therefore labelled themselves victims of gendered oppression.

These are the men branded as ‘Incels’.

On this episode, we tried to make sense of such male victimhood and talked about why certain men hold hostile and violent views towards women and blame women for their low place in the social hierarchy.

We questioned whether this case of male victimhood was a ‘western’ problem or whether traits of this ideology exist within our own culture as Africans. We questioned whether African men also demonstrate male victimhood, possibly in different ways.

One conclusion we couldn’t settle on was whether the idea of male victimhood is a disease with its origins rooted in a dystopia or a symptom of something much deeper that we all have played a part in.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to The Yellow Pill Newsletter on Substack
Follow @theyellowpillpod on Instagram!

Wolé and Tobi are back for the sixth season of The Yellow Pill!

Wondering why we changed the name of the podcast? Listen to this episode to hear our back-story!

Hey hey!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this final episode, we discussed the recently concluded Olympics in Tokyo and all the surrounding controversies.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this episode, we spoke about vaccine passports and the perceived implications for freedom, fairness and discrimination.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this episode, we discussed Only Fans and the business and social implications of its most recent controversy

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Hi everyone, thanks for tuning in!

As part of our off-season series, we discussed trending issues at home and abroad.

In this episode, we discussed the Joe Biden presidency, the withdrawal of the US from Afghan, and perceptions of the Taliban.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

We have all heard people say we all have a purpose to fulfil on earth and that we have to find it at all costs.

When we think of those who have found their "purpose", the immediate thoughts can often be of those who have gone on to do extraordinary things in various fields.

One may then naturally assume that everyone's purpose and ambition should be magnanimous, or should be achievements that lay on top of an arbitrary hierarchical structure.

But if someone is at the top of various kinds of hierarchies of the world, whether it is in tech, sports, fashion, medicine, or even YouTubing, then there have to be people in the middle and at the bottom, right?

And for those at the said "middle" or "bottom" of the hierarchies of life, what does the idea of purpose and ambition mean for them?

Do they not have a purpose?

Is it easy to just say they lack ambition?

Or is their position on that hierarchy their actual purpose?

If there is a reason we all exist, and if we all have a purpose, then how do we account for those who live "meaningless" lives, those who get terrible luck with a disease, those who are born into war-stricken nations, those who don’t make it to their teenage years.

Was that their purpose? Or destiny? How can we explain that?

And yes you might say, "people need more ambition, for without it purpose cannot be fulfilled". But then at what point do we account for the role opportunity, privilege, timing, nationality, and other factors play. Factors that we had no part to play in.

Of course, we know many of you will draw on philosophical or religious standings to make sense of your reason for existing on earth. And a few of you may think all of this talk is just meaningless.

In our final episode of the season with Olumide, we tried to untangle these ideas that stem from our various moments of existential crises.

We cannot say we did so successfully or not. All we can say is that we tried, and such thoughts may not be answered for a while.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

“Sometimes I wonder if there’s such a thing as too much awareness of social causes and injustices. Some awareness is better than none. But constant awareness turns into moral masturbation at some point” - Mark Manson, (13/05/21 via Twitter)

This tweet was one of those tweets you run into that spark deep contemplation.

In the last couple of years, we can say that we have been exposed to and made aware of numerous social issues that have both been local and global. This awareness has been good for the mere fact that before the internet, most people would have otherwise been ignorant of such suffering and injustice in the world. And as Mark said, some awareness is better than none.

But can this constant awareness ultimately produce diminishing returns?

Could it be that knowing about all the bad going on becomes detrimental?

And can we sometimes be found guilty of moral self-righteousness?

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

If you have seen any love-reality show out there, you have probably heard a contestant say “I love someone with a good personality”. To be honest, almost everyone says that.

We know personality matters in everything.

It helps you strike business deals, it helps you get ahead in job interviews, it helps you in romance, it can even make the difference in life or death scenarios.

So it might be fair to say most people want a ‘good’ enough personality to be desirable in the world.

But what makes a personality good?

In this episode, we got 8 of our friends to send us voice notes stating their first impressions about us, what they like and dislike, and what we should change about ourselves.

We reacted to these entries live on the recording, and it could not have been any more fun. More importantly, it was way more enlightening and useful for our personal development than we ever expected.

We hope you love this, and we encourage you all to try the same thing!

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

Last season, we spoke about the realities of life after birth for new mothers. It was so good we knew we had to do it twice! But this time, it had to be from the perspectives of new dads!

Because we both hope to be dads someday (later later), this episode led to moments where we took a lot of mental notes, where we laughed, and where we asked some scary controversial questions.

We sat on our armchairs with two friends, Seun and Eric, to talk about their new life as new and young dads.

We touched on their unique experience of labour day, as well as the good, bad, shocking, unexpected moments pre & post-baby. We learnt about the fears they had in those moments and the sudden feelings of knowing there was a new human being to look after.

We also caught a good glimpse of how a dad’s love begins. How that love is expressed, and how it translates into how they perceive their roles as fathers.

We think this was quite a lovely episode, and we are grateful to Seun and Eric for sharing their fatherhood journey so far with us.

A special shout out goes out to their wives as well! ;)

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

“When I was a teenager, I tried to chemically alter the natural state of my hair. I know why I did it. I was conforming to what seemed cool, classy, and maybe more ‘attractive’.

Now, I feel lucky that I didn’t have to let the chemicals rule over me into my adult years. But my hair story is not unique. It’s one of many kinds” - Wolé

In this episode, we spent 90 mins with Portia and Yemi talking about hair. Yes, hair.

Hair may seem like a mundane subject, but it has huge implications for how we as black people experience the world.

For many black women (and men), hair is not just hair. It has emotive qualities connected to our lived experience in society, regardless of where such society exists -Africa, Europe, America or beyond.

For us Africans, hair has always been deeply symbolic. For instance, how we wear our hair may have religious connotations, it may play a key socio-cultural role, and of course, it may serve as a way of self-expression.

It then only felt right that we tackle how our identity gets tied to the relationship and presentation of our hair.

We wrestled with the main narrative of Black hair issues which was centred around three dilemmas: good/bad hair, natural/unnatural, and authentic/inauthentic.

We won’t give too much away, but we learnt that no matter what a black woman does with her hair, her hair will likely influence how others respond to her.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

The one about life after losing a loved one.

Grief

/gri:f/ : An intense sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death.

Research suggests that we have a 100% chance of dying.

Sarcasm aside, there's a high chance 1 of 2 people reading this have said the words “I’m sorry for your loss” at some point.

Even worse, there’s also a chance some of you reading this have had those words said to you, especially after the loss of a loved one.

Grief is often not the topic of conversation on any random day. But for those who experience it, it never truly leaves their minds, even on those random days.

When you lose someone close to you, your life and identity as you know it changes. There’s a new normal.

We want to thank Ade and Bukola for joining us and co-creating a safe space to have this 100-minute conversation about grief and share their experiences about all of the above and more.

They showed us courage, truth, patience, and much more. We can’t thank them enough.

To everyone who has lost a loved one, whether recently or a long time ago, please remember grief has no expiry date and we pray you find strength not to move on, but to keep moving forward as you live with your loss. ❤️

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Thank you!

Let’s talk about money, baby!! 💵

We initially thought this would be a much more serious conversation but this episode ended up being hands down one of the funniest we’ve ever done 😂. Daniel is absolute jokes!

On a real though, we wanted to compare our personal finance culture within the lines of being frugal and being lavish!

We spoke about how family and social environments influenced our finance culture. For example, would things be different if we grew up as proper princes!?😄

We discovered that we each had the tendency to be excessive on either side…so we ended up calling each other out on areas we could be more chill with our spending and areas we could be tighter.

Bottom line, this episode may not be for our wealthy friends 😂

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, two simple ways you can support us are to:

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on your social media ♥️

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

Depending on who you talk to, the monogamy/polygyny/polyandry debate is often dismissed at surface level. Mostly without any reflexive thought.

For example, If we asked, “is monogamy for you?” What would your answer be? And why?

In the same way, If we also asked, “can you be polygamous?”, what would your answer be? And why?

And, how do you know your answer is not only because of what seems ‘normal’?

The data available suggests that the practice and culture of monogamy has been on the decline in the last 50 years.

Sure, the attraction of multiple partners can be seductive. You get to explore more boundaries, more variety, more adventure, and perhaps more excitement.

But do these qualities extend to love, emotions, and sexuality? Or just one of them? And is it possible to experience all of this with just one partner?

We tried to answer these questions and more for ourselves, we’d love for you to join us as you try to do the same.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Influencers.

‘Everyday’ internet users who accumulate a large social media following through narrations of their lives and lifestyle, engage with their following in digital and physical spaces and monetise their following - Crystal Abidin

The popularity of influencers has consistently been on the rise, but for some reason, we never paid proper attention to the uniqueness of the craft.

Then it hit us. Influencers. This is someone who can easily redirect our attention to almost anything. This is someone we’ve never met yet but still trust their recommendations. This is someone that can easily change the minds of thousands of people. Damn. That IS influence.

It was settled, we had to have a conversation with an influencer.

So we reached out to Nonye (@thisthingcalledfashionn) and she was equally keen on having a conversation with us.

Nonye ticked all our boxes in terms of reach, impact, and a relative sense of familiarity. We hoped for someone who could be as real as possible with us. And we got that.

Amongst other things we picked up from talking to Nonye, that chat also exposed that we had unconscious biases about the humans behind the influencer labels, and realising those unconscious biases was perhaps one of the most rewarding parts of the conversation.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

More resources

Check out Venture for Africa if you're interested in working with a fast-growing tech startup in Africa.

The one about grassroots politics as a way forward.

Is it possible that the practical steps to change our country may be to start where we can?To find the least difficult point of infiltration? To find the Achilles heel in the political structure that we can reach?

What do you understand about “grassroots politics”?

Do you know who your local government chairman is? Do you know who your councillor is? Do you know what zone or ward you live in? Do you know why it matters if you know?

We sat down with Tiwalade to speak about this and plenty more on this first episode of our 5th season.

Tiwa ran to win a ticket to vie for the post of councillor in her ward earlier this year. She has also spent some time walking the political corridors of Lagos and to be honest, we came out of this conversation with a better understanding of what the political scene is like in the grassroots, how it is the weakest point in the armour of our political elite, and where we can start to drive change that can mean so much more in very little time.

We hope you come away with the same belief when you listen.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

Wolé and Tobi are back for the fifth season of the 20s Convos podcast!

But is there a rule as to how long trailers are supposed to be? 😂

On this "trailer" they speak about what their time-off producing new episodes have been like and share a bit about the new things coming up.

.

.

.

Remember to subscribe, drop us a review, or leave a rating wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, share the podcast with a friend as well; those small efforts really help us grow! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

Another bonus episode to start off your monday ✨ (we'll be back soon 😉)

.

.

.

Also, are you new here and love what you've heard so far? the simplest way to help out is to leave us a review! ✨

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

Still another bonus episode!

.

.

.

Are you new here and love what you've heard so far? the simplest way to help out is to leave us a review! ✨

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

Yet another bonus OFF SEASON episode.

.

.

.

Are you new here and love what you've heard so far? the simplest way to help out is to leave us a review! ✨

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

Another bonus OFF SEASON episode.

.

.

.

Are you new here and love what you've heard so far? the simplest way to help out is to leave us a review! ✨

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

A bonus OFF SEASON episode.

.

.

.

Are you new here and like what you've heard so far? the easiest way to help out is to leave us a review! ✨

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

The one about shaping things to come.

In this final episode of our 4th season (mad right?) we took a trip back in time to take another stab at a conversation we both had last year, the one that kicked us off on starting this podcast.

Our first episode was technically meant to be a one-hit-wonder, something fun we could try and just see how it goes. In that episode, we talked about the global coronavirus pandemic and its effect on our world as 20-something-year-olds and what that might mean for our 30’s.

This time around we took our focus off the pandemic to talk about what we think our 30’s might look like and the plans we have.

We started off with a topic that probably gives every 20-something-year-old out there some level of anxiety, our careers.

Then, we turned the heat up talking about love, relationships, marriage and everything in between.

Once we got those out of the way, we dove into the subject of money, health and friendships.

We wrapped things up by attempting to answer the question about what everything (life) actually means. There’s something about looking into the future that can make you question if there’s really any point to a lot of things.

It was quite a reflective episode, a trend we seem to be keeping up with each season.

.

.

.

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, here's how you can help!

Leave us a review! 💫
Share this episode with a friend or on Twitter ♥️
Subscribe to the 20s Convos Newsletter on Substack
Follow 20s Convos on Instagram!

.

.

.

p.s.

Don't forget to follow Wolé on Twitter 👀

The one about the realities of moving away from home.

Shoutout to @haryoola93 for coming through on this episode!

Ayotunde is a Nigerian who’s been living in Germany for 4+ years now.

To kick things off, it was only right to talk about our different reasons and motivations for leaving Nigeria 🇳🇬 in the first place and how it eventually played out.

We then talked about the integration process, knowing that we didn’t feel like we fit into our new societies immediately even though language wasn’t a barrier per se for any of us.

We also spoke about how we balance ourselves in trying to stay true to our Nigerian heritage and meeting the social and cultural expectations of our new environments.

Omo, it’s not exactly that straightforward.

Even trying to figure out where our loyalties should lie wasn’t simple; plus having to deal with the unrest that we know is happening back home sort of creates another mode of distress.

On a lighter note, we shared some of the not-so-funny stories that have happened to us as a result of being immigrants.

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

The one about the talking stage and everything in between.

In this episode, we spoke about the popular but ambiguous aspect of the dating game “the talking stage”.

We brought on a familiar voice, @itss_yemi, to join us for this conversation.

Before actually diving into the meat of the topic, we kicked off the episode on an unexpected tangent, trying to figure out how women become active when they decide they are done being single. Not even sure whether we eventually figured it out (lol).

We then talked about the idea of the talking stage and what the different stages of that adventure look like.

There were a number of moments where we didn’t all see eye to eye on what it meant and how long it should last for. Maybe even too many moments like that 💀.

We also tried to answer questions like:

“How do you know when you are in the talking stage?”;

“Is it fine to talk to multiple people at once?”;

“What should come after the talking stage?”.

You’ve probably guessed right if you’re assuming that we all had different answers to some of these.

But in hindsight, it’s probably because we all interpreted the norms and terminologies around the talking stage + dating differently too.

It was full of banter and laughs, and maybe a lot more stressful for ONE of us 😅

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

The one about social comparison.

On this episode, we teamed up with Tosin Lufadeju to talk about our experiences with social comparison.

We pretty much talked about social comparison along many dimensions such as attractiveness/physique, wealth, intelligence, relationships & success.

We talked about the dimensions that we have found ourselves comparing to others more often than not. We also discussed which of those elements motivated us to be better and which ones unknowingly brought the opposite.

It was a great conversation that made us reflect a lot on the things that truly matter. We also got to acknowledge how both our upbringing and backgrounds have played key roles in how we handle comparisons with others in our friendship groups as well as generally speaking.

Having Tosin on was dope, and it reflected in the conversation. Like us, Tosin is from our hometown but now based in Seattle. He’s a Program Manager by day and DJ by night 😉 . Make sure to check out his Soundcloud here!

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

The one about career crossroads.

On this episode, we reunited with @theolamideoladeji, a former classmate of ours from secondary school. Olamide is currently a PhD candidate at Stanford University. He’s also running a tech startup based in Palo Alto.

We began by discussing the earliest #career path we remember wanting to follow as students, dating all the way back to secondary school and undergrad.

Tracing our professional paths back to our educational backgrounds kind of made us question the correlation between where we are now and what we spent 4+ years of higher education studying for.

In hindsight, we realised that the discipline one chooses to study in formal education is mostly a gamble, since there is a lot of evidence out there that suggests many of us get to the final step of formal education and realise we want a different path.

We also spoke about what we would do differently if we could go back in time to change our educational and professional trajectories.

We concluded with the role passion has to play in all of this, as well as trying to highlight the different people, events, and experiences that at the time were insignificant, but ended up serving as huge tipping points in shaping our professional trajectories to date.

.

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

The one about postpartum realities - mom edition.

Recording this episode was one of our personal favourites 💫 It was a rollercoaster of emotions in 90 mins of conversation.

Diving deeper into a conversation around postpartum experiences has always been on our minds ever since we spoke broadly on parenthood with @afolakefanseu in S2E6 (August 24, 2020). But we never expected such an enlightening and equally profound conversation when we finally added it to our list of topics for this season.

We sat down with @onyinyeokoligwe and @tami_ojay to discuss their realities and identities as new mothers.

We touched on their delivery day, how they navigated the physical ordeals of having a baby, as well as the physical and emotional highs and lows of life after birth.

We got to understand what a mother’s love can mean, can look like, and why it can't be taken for granted.

We got to understand what it means when people say it takes a village to raise a child. We got to understand the further complexity of being a woman battling multiple identities of being a mother and a working professional.

We got to know that the miraculous experience of childbirth can be subjective and equally valid. We got to know that having a baby is a good example of how we can trivialize the wonders of nature because it’s all around us and all too common.

The conversation made us realise how life after birth is such a unique and challenging experience for each mother, even though there might be billions of mothers in the world.

To all young moms out there, you’re strong and remember that you are not alone in your experiences.

.

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week ✌🏾.

.

.

.

Before you go, our friends at Inside a bubble, a narrative podcast about the bubbles we live in, have got a new season coming out soon! You can listen to the trailer at the end of the episode 👌🏾.

The one about the legality, stigma and hypocrisy surrounding drugs.

On this episode, we spoke about the legality, status, and weird hypocrisy surrounding drugs and drugs use.

Cannabis; Alcohol; Psychedelics; Cocaine; Antidepressants, Opioids; Codeine; Tramadol; “Gutter water”; the list goes on.

What makes these drugs bad or good, and who should be responsible for that distinction. The issue of natural vs lab-made drugs also came up, does a product being natural automatically mean better?

Does the mode of drug consumption also affect the stigma attached to drugs?

How about triggers? Why does our favourite author get away with taking drugs and the person down the road stigmatised? The complex questions go on!

Initially, we thought our stances on drug use were mostly from a cultural, moral, or ‘woke’ stance but the conversation made us realise we were all coming from a place of health, productivity, and facts, and that meant that we had fewer disagreements for the most part about thoughts on drug use.

Shout out to Aneesh for joining us on this complex episode. Aneesh brought very intelligent perspectives to this complex conversation and it was full of laughs despite the depth we tried to achieve.

.

.

.

Love what you've heard so far? please leave us a review or rating, it really does help us out! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

The one about our varying views on sex.

On this episode, we explored our varying views on sex, what has shaped them, and how or if they’ve changed for us growing up. We also tried to fit our views within the different cultural stances on sex, sexual morality, and the view of sex as a purely physical/biological response to a bodily craving versus something weightier.

It was a little weird and complicated trying to find some version of balance with our views, but we think we eventually came to mutual understandings on certain views on sex.

We wrapped things up by talking about self-worth and how that connects to our perspectives or realities when it comes to matters of sex.

.

.

.

.

Are you new here and like what you've heard so far? the easiest way to help out is to leave us a review! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

The one about staying sane in the modern world.

On this episode, @letyknudsen tagged along to discuss fragility and tougher times.

Lety is a final year student in England, studying Sports Science with Management. She grew up in Panama and has lived in a number of countries including Mexico, Brazil and the UK.

We spoke about fragility in the context of one's upbringing, coddling parents and social classes. We talked about social media and the confidence of younger generations. We also spoke about staying sane in a world where 'offence' is always just around the corner.

Lety was such a great guest 💫 and we really enjoyed speaking with her.

The icing on the cake came when she left us with a very simple but powerful quote from her mom at the of the episode 👌🏾👌🏾. Don’t miss it!

.

.

.

.

If you enjoyed the podcast, the easiest way to help out is to leave us a review! 💫

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week. ✌🏾

The one about the joys and fears of marriage.

To kick-off a brand new season, we spoke about #marriage as a present reality for our social circles and how we feel about it.

Considering the age we are at, it’s normal to see some of our male and female friends starting new families. Our default reaction is usually joy, excitement and gratitude for them but sometimes with a mix of FOMO.

We spoke about how growing with our friends and witnessing them start such new journeys sometimes feels unreal, yet very exciting. But it’s also possible that being in social circles where your friends start those journeys can make one feel left out, pressured, or maybe hopeful.

We covered this feeling in the episode and described whether or not we feel pressured to think of marriage and how we handle this. After all, pressures are inevitable.

Finally, we spoke about our ideal timelines and projections for the future.

Enjoy the listen!

.

.

.

.

.

.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week.

Finally, don't forget to leave us a rating! It helps us with getting recommended to even more listeners! Thanks! 🍻

It's been five long weeks, but Wolé and Tobi are back for the fourth season of 20s Convos!

Make sure to subscribe to the 20s Convos podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen to your podcast to get notified the moment we release a new episode. New content drops every Monday.

You can also follow 20s Convos on Instagram! We put out quotes, polls, clips and other cool stuff from each episode every week.

Finally, don't forget to leave us a rating! It helps us with getting recommended to even more listeners! Thanks! 🍻

The final cut 🎬

unedited #uncut #unscripted

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram

Part 3/4

unedited #uncut #unscripted

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram

Part 2/4: Picking up where we left off last time.

unedited #uncut #unscripted

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram

Part 1/4: A 38-minute clip from a 4-hour conversation. #unedited #uncut #unscripted

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram

The one about guilt, regrets, and past mistakes.

Many memories have shaped us as adults, but the ones we are quick to tell, share or actively reflect on are typically the ones that paint us in a good light. Or perhaps mistakes from our early adolescent years which no one tends to hold against us.

But how about the mistakes we made as teenagers; the decisions we made that we do not like to speak about, the experiences we have gone through that we find hard to talk about, or the ones we have repressed so hard they start to feel like someone else's past.

As we bring our 3rd season to a close, we also wanted to see if we could bring some closure to sins and regrets from our past.

Timestamps

[02:49] - Feelings of regret
[23:05] - Regrets and people
[27:06] - Past sins
[39:50] - Guilt and Conviction

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

The one about our bold tech predictions.

[start time travel ⏳]

The year is 2035.

It has been 15 years since the pandemic shut down the world. But at this time, the world has moved on.

Society has capitalised on big tech to innovate, adapt, and advance.

Self-driving cars dominate some city lanes, cash has gotten obsolete, robots populate shopping malls and industrial facilities, there is a new "Facebook" - but this time we pay for it to keep our privacy, AI has demolished call centres and put many lawyers out of business, Greta Thurnberg is president of something.

In 2035, things are not unfamiliar, yet feel extremely different.

It is a better world for some and a much more displaced world for others.

[end time travel ⌛️]

As we have seen in the last few years, some technological innovations have disrupted the business and social landscape and transformed how we live and work, and that change is only likely to rise.

As they say, change has never been this fast, and will never be this slow again.

On this episode, we sat with Aije, an old friend from high school and Senior Data Scientist and Statistician at IBM (she also runs a career development-focused page on Instagram). We tried to look into the future and make some tech-related predictions about what the future of business, work, and social life will look like!

--

Timestamps

[01:34]- Why we're talking about this
[02:34]- Self-driving cars
[06:03]- The future of developed and developing nations
[15:06]- Privacy
[39:25]- The future of jobs and the place of A.I.
[54:40]- Embracing the future of tech
[59:55]- Our big tech predictions

--

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

The one about black women and associated stereotypes.

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast.)

Sometimes we like to joke about our strict, resolute, no-nonsense African mothers, aunts or grandmothers. Those are certainly strong positive images to have of women in our lives, but the problem arises when certain sectors of society refuse to believe any other narrative about black women.

On one side of the problem, that imagery sticks and the women themselves begin to believe it and feel under pressure to live up to such expectations, groaning under the weight of such burdens.

From the archetype of the asexual and fierce caretaker to the myth of extreme sexuality, down to the matriarch, black women's lives are constantly depicted through an inaccurate and narrow lens.

On the other hand, black women are also constantly portrayed as adversarial, confrontational, loud and erratic, facing the double discrimination of race and then gender.

We wonder if black women are aware of these stereotypes, how they carry them, and if they know the extent to which it affects their daily lives. Also, even as black men, we wonder if we also contribute to some potential harmful stereotypes that do black women no good.

We kicked off the very new year with a very old narrative, the Strong Black Woman featuring Sandrine, a Radio Host @loud_o1 on @k2kradio and Co-founder The Africa investment club.

On this episode:

[03:00]- Black women stereotypes
[15:01]- Black mothers
[20:52]- Jezebels
[27:36]- The role of black men
[33:50]- The role of the media

The one about (un)realised expectations and lessons learned.

In January, many of us made plans for 2020 when out of nowhere, the world was compelled to chill, pause, and reevaluate.

Many laughed, many more cried. Many succeeded, many more failed. Many voted, many more protested. Many began side hustles, many more lost jobs. Many got married, many more got divorced. Many began hashtags, many more posted black squares. Many became outspoken, many more were on mute. Many died, many more survived.

2020 has been a life-defining wake-up year for us all. Wherever we belong on the above spectra, we have learnt that the earth will not stop revolving around the sun and life will go on.

Facing that harsh reality requires us to reflect on the year gone by, both highs and lows so we can go from being survivors of 2020 to triumphs of 2021.

Listen to Wolé and Tobi on this final episode of 2020 reflect on what has been a packed year.

On this episode:

[02:39] - Expectations coming into 2020
[15:01] - What does "surviving 2020" actually mean
[25:01]- COVID and safety
[42:38]- Biggest takeaways from 2020
[49:07] - Who will you be in 2021?

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast.)

The one about pornography and its unintended sex education

Sex has been one of the biggest objects of mankind’s obsession.

Throughout history, we have seen sex depicted in various forms through art and media. From naked greek statues to the Kama Sutra, all the way to 50 Shades of Grey; sex and nudity have always made their way into the content we consume.

There was a time when access to sexual media involved jumping through many hoops to get that Playboy/Playgirl magazine. But advancements in tech have changed the game, and maybe not for the better.

This vast reach has arguably been more detrimental than helpful to humankind, leaving behind many trails of controversy in the realms of morality, psychology, and personal intimate relationships.

For something so widespread, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of conversation about it around most of our circles, so we think speaking frankly about pornography and sexual media, in general, can help to educate and promote healthy ideas, behaviours and expectations about sex.

We caught up with Amina, a Research Engineer working on Connected and Automated Vehicles and a good friend of Wole.

Enjoy the listen!

Timestamps

[02:01]- First exposure to pornography
[07:19]- The influence of pornography
[13:45]- Sex education?
[19:29]- Reality vs Scripting
[30:30]- A way of living
[31:59]- The false sense of intimacy
[38:08]- Who is porn worse for?
[50:01]- Any "good sides"?

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast.)

The one about men's secret fears

It may not be too surprising why some men might choose to hide their fears from women.

But even when we men get together as friends, it’s still very uncommon for us to talk about our secret fears.

From how we look, to our account balance, to if we're still under 5 ft 5, to rejection, commitment, and disappointment, whew, can’t deny that there’s plenty for many men worry about.

One would have hoped that locker rooms would provide a safe space for men to open up about these fears but that’s rarely the case.

We all have fears that we spend a great deal of time trying to hide. But what happens when we make those fears the subject of a conversation?

Well, we sat down with another old friend, Folu, to find out. Folu is a business developer, amateur photographer and writer, and runs an amazing blog - foluoyefeso.com, where he documents his experiences and interactions with Nigerian places, people and plates!

Timestamps

[02:55]- Your partner's history
[6:59]- The other fear of commitment
[15:20]- Men and emotions
[18:17]- The beard gang
[22:44]- It's all about the body type
[27:38]- The threat of other men
[35:45]- Mo' money mo' problems?
[45:02]- The battles ahead
[48:26]- Leaving a legacy

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast and listen to thoughts about life, the world and everything in between)

The one about adult attachment styles.

Have you noticed you date the same kind of person over and over again? Or do you find yourself needing to be the centre of attention most times?

Part of the answer lies in your attachment style; in how you bonded with your parents/guardians in your childhood.

Our attachment styles describe the ways we interact with and attach to others, especially in adult relationships and so we sat down with Deola, a friend of a friend, to have a conversation about it.

Deola also runs a youtube channel where she shares her views on a range of topics, so be sure to subscribe!

Timestamps

[04:34]- Upbringing
[07:35]- Attachment styles quiz (take the quiz too!)
[17:45]- “What’s your type”
[27:43]- Being in love
[43:53]- Thoughts on attachment styles
[50:13]- Attachment style patterns to drop

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast and listen to thoughts about life, the world and everything in between)

The one about cultural awakenings.

On this episode, we were joined by Tony as we brought all our childhood and adult perceptions of East Asian/West African culture more broadly to the table and compared both our cultures which may sometimes seem so distant yet quite similar.

Timestamps:

[07:34]- Kung fu movies
[18:22]- Tribes in China
[25:49]- Early stereotypes
[32:34]- "All Asians look alike"
[35:17]- Racism
[49:32]- Interracial dating and the "Yellow Fever"

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast and listen to thoughts about life, the world and everything in between)

The one about loneliness

(Remember to follow us on Instagram and make sure you also rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast!)

--

Lockdowns, social distancing, work-from-home. Damn.

2020 has been challenging for us all for many reasons. One obvious issue is that the pandemic has negatively impacted our social lives.

Loneliness has been on the rise mainly because our means of physically connecting with the social world has been hindered throughout 2020.

But that aside.

Loneliness has been a public health issue among young adults even before 2020. It is an outbreak of its own, and it is one that predates the pandemic and has struck young adults very hard.

It goes beyond being single or having no close emotional connections. It can even occur when we have close bonds around.

Many young adults are in transition phases of life, either by relocating, getting new jobs, becoming new parents, entering new/leaving existing relationships, and this means that the feelings of being excluded are only more likely.

It is no brainer that loneliness is linked to mental health issues, but it can also contribute to poorer physical health.

Despite this, we think loneliness is too often ignored as an issue in society. And so we decided to talk about it, this time around, with a friend, Sandra.

Timestamps:

[01:45]- Introductions
[05.50]- First experiences of loneliness
[09:55]- Plant parenthood
[22:03]- Social media
[28:20]- Who knows you?
[33:34]- Cities vs Communities
[41:07]- How do you react to someone being lonely?
[42:57]- Signs of loneliness
[56:06]- Coping with loneliness
[62:01]- ASMR

(You can follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and videos from each episode every week.)

The one about deep thoughts and existential questions

(Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now so you don't miss out on when we drop new episodes. Make sure you also rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast!)

--

Do you ever have some random and deep thoughts that come to you in unexpected moments, places, or situations?

Those random or fleeting thoughts that come to mind when you’re in the middle of dull or routine activities.

Those thoughts that happen when we are simultaneously navigating a distracted world while trapped in a world of our own.

Those thoughts that come when we are in the car, laying in bed, working out, or taking a shower.

These thoughts aren’t the kind that typically make it to the small-talk table or into our everyday conversations. They are sometimes weird, dark, shameful, ridiculous, or uncomfortable to share.

What happens when they make it out? Well, let’s find out.

(You can follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and videos from each episode every week.)

Timestamps

[07:00]- Destiny and predestination
[14:14]- The afterlife
[16:15]- Aliens?
[22:27]- History
[27:28]- Deepfakes
[30:47]- Flaws of democracy
[36:39]- The bliss of ignorance
[41:00]- The slavery of pets
[44:10]- Talent shows and Rome

The one about season 2!

(Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now so you don't miss out on when we drop new episodes. Make sure you also rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast.)

On this season's recap episode, we caught up with 5 of our friends (Oluwatosin, Tymele, Yemi, Chidinma, and Ojuolape) who have all been following the podcast this season. They talked about their favourite episodes, biggest takeaways, and topics they'd like to see us have a conversation about on future episodes.

Follow us on Instagram to find out when we'll be back for our 3rd season!

The one about identity politics on a daily.

(Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now so you don't miss out on when we drop new episodes. Make sure you also rate or leave a review on the podcast. Better ratings mean even more people find out about the podcast.)

...

Us vs Them

Men vs Women

White vs Blacks

Liberals vs Conservatives

Pro-Choice vs Pro-Life...

etc. vs etc.

There is a growing concern for us about how we each see the world nowadays.

We've been thinking, do we judge people as individuals or do we judge them by the group they’re affiliated with?

Do we judge others based on how they look, the politicians they voted for, or do we judge them by their thoughts, reasoning, and logic?

Do we rush to assume a lack of deeper understanding when we run into atheists or do we claim some form of superior intelligence when we encounter theists?

How about when we meet someone who is Black? White? Asian? conservative? liberal? Do we assume we know the kinds of people they are based on a collective? or do we seek to understand each person's story?

...

Often we forget that people are much more than societal labels. We become guilty of prejudice, not giving enough credence to the stories beneath the surface.

So on this final episode of our second season, we explored and shared our thoughts around identity politics and its effect on how we relate with the world today.

(You can follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.)

Key Timestamps

[01:54] - Categorising our group identities
[12:37] - Digging deep into the concept of diversity
[28:36] - When can identity politics be good or bad?
[32:32] - Thoughts on people getting more fragile and easily offended
[50:07] - The state of the world today

The one about the Machiavellian Man.

Which male “dark archetypes” do you recognise?

Playboy? Bad Boy? Loverboy? Rake? Yoruba demon? Heartbreaker? Ladies man? The boy next door?

And which of these archetypes would you high-five, find attractive or rebuke?

Where do you draw the line?

--

Research shows that the dark traits of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism are more common with men than women. Besides, our social lives will also offer some proof. We all have one/two/three-degree female connections that have been left in despair/trauma as a result of encounters with males with these traits.

Whether these archetypes/traits are attractive to females is not the question or argument here.

The difficulty and genuine confusion for us is understanding the unspoken motivations and reasons behind the manipulative, coercive, apathetic, and entitled behaviours some of us males exhibit in our pursuit of short to long relationships.

So we sat down together to openly and self-critically talk about this, reflecting on our past and present experiences.

--

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[06:19]- Thoughts on the male archetypes [09:39] - Archetypes we fall into [12:18] - Archetypes we draw the line on [20:19] - Thoughts on why males consciously mess up females [35:35] - Thoughts on the socially acceptable strategies of chasing short/long term relationships [45:44] - Potential "benefits" of being promiscuous?

The one about bridging generational gaps.

In recent years, there's been a common misconception that Gen Z and Millennials are essentially the same.

Sure, there is a case to be made for the generational overlaps that exist between them, but we can’t really deny that there are a lot of fundamental differences with how both generations were raised and their views about life.

These differences seem to find expression in our views about technology, the economy, politics, education, career paths, religion, spirituality, family, equality, social justice and a lot more.

This was a conversation between 2 Millennials (your hosts) and 2 folks from generation Z (@sirjvmes & @adeyybasqi)

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[03:24] - Generational landmarks
[06:24] - Guest introductions
[09:42] - Generational differences
[13:34] -Social media preferences
[18:26] - Generational stereotypes
[30:26] - Inter-generation dating
[34:50] - Halfway message
[35:30] - Gen z and Millenials thoughts on marriage
[41:40] - Thoughts on each generation's global impact
[47: 43] - Modern ‘careers‘
[53:36] - Final thoughts

The one about entrepreneurs and 9-5ers.

If you are a 9-5er, you’ve probably heard those people say: “You should be building your dream and not building the dream of others”, or “I don’t date people that do 9-5”, or “working for a company is modern slavery”, or “go and read Rich Dad Poor Dad!!!”

If you are an entrepreneur, you’ve probably also heard these words: “Who are you to start a business?”, or “your idea cannot work”, or “you’re just trying to avoid hard work” or “9 out of 10 businesses fail!”

It’s almost become part of the culture to categorise people based on their job trajectories.

But is building a company better than a building a career or the other way around and are there constraints to taking any of those positions?

On this episode, we sat down with two brilliant women, @abiolaayanleye and @mint___oo to talk about the pits between entrepreneurship and 9-5s, the overlooked rationales in those debates, and our personal experiences of what each camp brings that aren’t easily seen by everyone.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[02:00] - Introduction
[07:19] - Pros and Cons
[20:22] - Thoughts on the “pop culture” of entrepreneurship
[29:50] - The “uninspiring” perception of a 9-5
[33:34] - Thoughts on “passion” vs “convenience”
[41:55] - Gender-related issues/barriers
[50:40]- Thoughts on potential impact of family life on building a career/company
[1:03:00] - Final words

The one about the reality of raising kids.

First off, there is a lot of research out there that shows most parents learn parenting practices from their own parents - some they accept and some they discard.

Another popular view that gets thrown around a lot is that it takes a village to raise a child. That said, it looks like millennial parents are raising their kids differently than any generation before them.

With the internet, parents now seem to know more about child development than ever before. The bad news though, it can be overwhelming and sometimes disempowering.

Sometimes the truth behind all the cute kid posts on social media is that parents are agonising about daily decisions, keeping up appearances and struggling with their new identities.

So on this episode, we caught up with an old-time friend, Afolake, to explore a bit about how we were raised as kids and how we think that will translate to our prospective/current approach to parenthood.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[06:58] - Expectations about parenthood
[10:34] - Parenting methods
[27:55] - Fears about raising kids
[46:55] - "Half-time"
[47:27] - When's the best time to have kids?
[57:21] - Surrogacy
[59:41] - Adoption
[1:00:05] - Househubands and Housewives
[1:03:57] - Vasectomies and Tubal Ligations

The one about domestic workers and cultural nuances.

Did you grow up in a house with live-in help? How many? How much do you remember about how they were treated? How much about them did you know? When did they finally leave? Did they run away?

Here’s the thing, UNICEF considers domestic work to be among the lowest status and reports that most child domestic workers are live-in workers and are under the round-the-clock control of their employers.

According to one of its reports, “A staggering 15 million children under the age of 14 are working across Nigeria”.

They are generally children from very poor homes, whose parents cannot afford to send them to school or train them in a particular profession or trade.

Nigeria’s laws regarding the minimum age of employment are inconsistent where the Child Rights Act prohibits those under 18 from working, yet the Labour Act sets the minimum age of employment at 12.

So we thought it was worth throwing a bit more light on domestic workers and cultural nuances surrounding the “industry”.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[00:30] - Setting the context
[03:24] - Our experiences with live-in help
[07:07] - The historical context of domestic work
[09:41] - The middlemen and the "supply network"
[14:32] - Our future plans concerning live-in help
[23:06] - Underage domestic workers
[25:03] - Decoupling the responsibilities/workload
[25:46] - Were our parents "bad" people for having live-in help?
[28:07] - Househelp or Modern-day slave?
[34:18] - The abuse of domestic workers

The one about the tension between fitness and body positivity

--

The body positivity movement tells us to love and accept our bodies regardless of physical ability, size, or appearance, which is true.

The fitness industry tells us we should exercise regularly and pursue fitness goals, which is also true.

But almost everyone at some point in their lives has struggled with body image. In our current looks-obsessed society, it’s almost impossible not to.

A question then is where is the healthy line between wanting to push yourself to reach your body goals and being comfortable in your own skin?

This episode featured the amazing Mishael, one of Wole's friends.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[02:19] - Setting the context
[03:57] - Body shaming while growing up
[09:06] - Defining Body Positivity
[13:16] - The culture of validation, movements and advocation
[14:14] - Exploring the “downsides” of Body Positivity
[15:01] - Talking about insecurities
[30:00] - Body Positivity and resulting lifestyles
[32:23] - Personal Health and Collective Responsibility
[44:49] - The effect of culture on Body Positivity
[52:50] - The relationship between social classes and health
[1:01:41] - Wrapping up

The one about love and attraction through algorithms.

...

Who needs to wait to be introduced to a crush or wait to run into them at the mall a couple of times in a row while picking up groceries... Nope, not anymore.

Online dating/dating apps have become widespread and revolutionised how we pursue relationships. It has broken down the need for proximity, made the chances of dating (“casual” or serious) more achievable, and given everyone a fair chance.

Or has it? 🤔

This was a conversation about our experiences and thoughts about scanning, swiping and matching.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[01:35] - The context
[14:46] - The success of dating apps
[26:28] - Girls and the lack of "game"
[35:45] - Over-reliance on online connections
[56:42] - Selection metrics

The one about finding our way through feminism. ...

Last season, we spoke about the problem with men, focusing on some unhealthy traits that we're known to exhibit. While this episode is not a direct opposite, this time, we put the spotlight on women.

This was an open conversation centred around feminism and how aspects of the movement continue to manifest in our everyday lives.

Clearly, we as men don’t have to contend with the issues women have to deal with on a regular, and that's one of the reasons why we brought on a friend, Seyitan.

...

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[00:39] - Defining feminism
[05:37] - Male Privilege
[09:17] - Women and Privilege
[14:50] - Is life easier being a man or being a woman?
[24:00] - Marriage and flawed perceptions
[26:20] - Equality in marriage
[28:35] - Male Feminists
[36:10] - Possible solutions
[45:00] - Wrapping up

The one about the myth of independence.

Being in your 20s is not exactly a walk in the park. You are not where you want to be, but you are also not quite sure where you want to go. At least for the majority.

It is the feeling of being stuck in between growing and grown, uncertain if you are still a kid or an adult yet. It is the gap between your “dream job” and where you have to show up again tomorrow.

On this episode, Wolé and Tobi talk about what independence means to them, the milestones of independence, and common misconceptions about the whole thing.

Remember to subscribe to the podcast on the app you're using right now and follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation! We put out quotes, polls, and clips from each episode every week.

Timestamps

[03:07] - Setting the context
[04:45] - Defining independence
[10:39] - Milestones that mark independence
[23:32] - Love, control and being economically useless
[30:58] - Misconceptions about independence
[37:37] - Final thoughts

It's been a short while, but Wolé and Tobi are back for the second season of 20s Convos!

This season will see us have even more exciting conversations about feminism, independence in young adults, division in ideologies, staying healthy and a lot more.

Subscribe to the 20s Convos podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen to your podcast. Episodes get released every Monday.

You can also catch videos from each episode on YouTube and follow @20sconvos on Instagram to join the conversation.

On this bonus episode, we sat down with 4 of our friends (Aije, Banjo, Anjola and Tomiwa) who have all been following the podcast this season. They talked about their favourite episodes, biggest takeaways, and topics they'd like to see us have a conversation about on future episodes.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversations there and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything else we release!

The one about the Black identity across borders.

What do you think it means to be black? Is it skin colour, ethnic backgrounds, or more?

Are there levels of being black?

Is a person who is born and bred in Africa “more black” than a black European or American or vice versa?

Is it even possible to have black hierarchies?

Bruh. 

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about "The Impostor Syndrome".

Does each raise, promotion or accolade bring joy? Or is it accompanied by the dread that, one day, your cover will be blown, and everyone will find out that you just got lucky?

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about upbringing in the culture.

We caught up with TanidabiOluwa and reflected on how much about who we are as young adults can be traced back to things that happened to us growing up.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about improving media literacy as young adults.

As a generation that has essentially been raised by the internet, a lot of our views, desires, and prejudices are planted and reinforced by what we consume on the web.

Media is all around us and we’re living in a saturated media environment. This is why it is important to understand how to digest all of that content.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about looking at first-time experiences we’ve all been through and reflecting on if we regret them happening or if we would relive them.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about spirituality in postmodern culture.

To quote Ravi Zacharias “If belonging to a church is judged as a product to be consumed, the church must appeal to the consumer to “buy into” the product.”

We spoke about our backgrounds growing up in Christian homes, mega-churches, competition within the church, postmodernism, the Church and its impact on social justice issues, plus a lot more.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about the significance or insignificance of a post-grad education. From if you should go, to when you should go, to “how” you should go.

For context, Wole is a doctoral researcher in his 3rd year, and I, on the other hand, have been working in the startup ecosystem since my first degree, so that gave this conversation a balanced perspective.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

Resources

Here's a link to the flow-chart Wolé spoke about on the episode. It's about what to consider when considering a grad degree abroad.

This episode is about the hidden costs of masculinity.

Standards of manliness or masculinity vary across different cultures and historical periods. Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.

But where does that leave gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity?

And how does society tend to treat men that explore that spectrum of their personality?

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and share your thoughts!

This episode is about being young, black and financially literate.

At the risk of making a hasty generalisation, it’s almost safe to say that as a 20-something-year-old, financial literacy isn’t something that regularly pops up in your conversations, so we decided to talk about it!

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and subscribe to our newsletter to stay in the loop of everything we release!

This episode is about the Global Pandemic in 2020, its effect on our world as 20-something-year-olds and what that might mean for our 30’s.

Follow 20s Convos on Instagram to join the conversation and share your thoughts!