Shirene Gentry: Identity Unveiled: Recent Episodes
Shirene Gentry
Who am I? Who are you?I sifted through the paperwork of my adopted family of origin to discover who I REALLY am - the circumstantial clues that my biological father was the last reigning king of Persia. The deeper theme throughout the diaries, letters, and scrapbooks revealed that my family and I were all living in the wrong identities and handling life disappointments in ways that prevented true freedom. My book’s questions and podcast will allow the reader and listener to understand who YOU really are - a daughter of THE King of Kings!
You are not your struggle!
Unfortunately, no one is immune from life's hardships. They come in many shapes and sizes on a continuum of having a bad day on one end of the spectrum to devastating tragedy and loss on the other end of the spectrum.
What do you do about it? This podcast offers Scripture, solutions, and strategies for moving forward.
IDENTITY.
BACKSTORY.
CHANGE THE STORY.
FOR HIS GLORY.
You are BECOMING.
Perfection is never the goal, but we tend to live as though it is. You can become a better version of yourself in areas of your body, your mind, your relationships, and your faith journey.
The culprit to all of this is social media and comparison.
Take back your life and make step by step improvements for a better YOU in 2024!
IDENTITY.
BACKSTORY.
CHANGE THE STORY.
FOR HIS GLORY.
Anxiety is currently the number one mental health disorder in the United States. There ARE daily lifestyle actions that can combat anxiety/stress so a person can live with confidence!
This podcast does not take the place of professional, medical, or pastoral care, but is a valuable resource in providing daily actions to calm the chaos.
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- Drink water, exercise more, stay active
- Wear white pants after Labor Day
- Walk and lift weights
- Pray while you're walking and driving
- Simplify your life and live from your strengths and your values
- Delete drama and avoid gossip
- Spend time with friends who energize you
- Try something new
- Don't send the message to your kids that their grades are their identity
- Upgrade your wardrobe with some versatile pieces
- Incorporate gratitude every single day
- Love your adult children with all 5 love languages
- Your legacy is now, not when you're gone
- Take pride in your appearance
- Feel sunshine on your face
- Don't believe every thought you have
- Laugh and laugh at yourself
- Life isn't black and white; there's a lot of gray
- Learn to listen and empathize; be teachable and humble
- Don't shelter your kids from disappointment; these are the stepping stones that help them prepare for life
- Don't judge, even if you've been down the same road
- Date your spouse
- Be the initiator when conflict arises and don't allow it to crush a relationship
- Being a peacemaker is not avoiding conflict
- Do the right thing
- Apologize and own your mistakes; don't rationalize and blame
- Get a pet
- Listen to uplifting music
- Write thank you notes
- Do the hard work for a better you
- Decide that your hard times won't be wasted; have a positive takeaway from a negative experience
- Not everyone will like you and vice versa
- You never get time back; live accordingly and mindfully
- Manage your stress
- You don't need to please everyone
- Know your spiritual gifts; live from your strengths, learn and grow from your weaknesses
- Say no
- Sometimes it's not about you, it's about the other person
- Seek God with your whole heart and hold nothing back
- Manage your anger productively
- Get an integrative medical doctor to address all your health concerns
- Find a very close inner group of confidantes
- Don't vent on social media; realize it's partial reality
- Display photos that make you smile
- Don't let your calendar get in the way of connection
- When you know your true identity, you have nothing to prove
- After you realize #46, you can do your best
- Take action steps toward your dream
- Share your personal life story of redemption
- Let your kids follow their own life path and be their best cheerleader; love them unconditionally
- Be thankful you live in this country
- Stop trying to impress others
- Learn to communicate well
- It's never too late
- Take care of your teeth and your smile
- Get a makeover, an updo, and eyelashes for a special occasion
- Make sure your belief system is grounded in scriptural Truth
- Connect the dots between your life events and who God is in your story
- Gaze at the clouds
- Use fine china and silver when your adult children come home
Are you confused by the current news about depression? There's hope!
If current information suggestions that not all depression is a result of a chemical imbalance, then what do you do?
This podcast offers suggestions along the biological, psychological, social, and spiritual framework for moving out of depression.
Practical action steps can make you gain confidence and hope, rather than hopelessness!
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What does the status of your friend group look like now that you are middle-aged?
What do we do with friendships when life seasons change? What happens to change a friendship? How do we handle it? How do we find new friends?
This podcast will help you explore the quality and quantity of your girl friendships!
Some of you may be struggling this weekend. The mother - child relationship is complicated.
This podcast offers hope and encouragement to mothers, grandmothers, and women of all ages with life coaching questions and tools discussing the following:
- Attachment
- Beliefs
- Change
- Differentiation
- Examine
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Your identity and spiritual gifts work in tandem for you define and distinguish your responsibilities and activities in your church and community.
Do you feel as though you haven't become plugged in to your local church? Knowing your spiritual gifts can offer avenues for your role.
Do you look to see what others are doing and then wonder if you can do the same? Looking to others is a "no win" scenario; it only matters what you do with your gifts.
Do you become burned out and unmotivated in the roles you do have? Defining your spiritual gifts may lead you from one aspect of ministry to another.
This podcast is for you!
Are you already feeling defeated and weary from unmet goals and resolutions?
This podcast is for you!
Listen to these simple, life tools that will move you forward with increments of change. Not only will you discover it's doable, it's also sustainable.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I hate the word 'resolutions'! It's old, trite, and overused. With that being said, I love to reframe the concept by conceptualizing a better version of myself.
This podcast gives specific details on how to do just that!
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My broken baby Jesus gave me valuable takeaways this Christmas season.
May these thoughts and inspiration give you hope as you move forward into the New Year.
How do you know if what you are feeling is true guilt or false guilt?
This short podcast distinguishes between the two, and you will be able to use this information not only for the holiday season, but from this point forward.
A life coaching tool is also included.
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Got Sleep?
Why do you need sleep during the holiday season and every night? This podcast explains why you need it for your body, your mind, and your perspective.
Simple cognitive strategies and life coaching behaviors to promote great quality sleep before you go to bed.
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Crockpot Kale for Christmas!
Need a delicious and healthy dish that you can fix and leave? Here it is!
This recipe will become a welcome addition for holidays or everyday.
EZEKIEL 11
Do you "feel" like God has abandoned you? Do you "think" He has deserted you?
This podcast, through the message of this chapter, will share a powerful promise for which you to cling regardless of your circumstance this holiday season.
Blessings and Hope!
Got hope in the kitchen? You will with this recipe!
These easy to make pecan squares are delicious and can be frozen for future use.
Here's the recipe:
2 cups all purpose flour
1/2 cup powdered sugar
1 cup butter, unsalted and melted
1 can sweetened condensed milk
1 large egg
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 package almond brickle, toffee bits
1 cup chopped pecans
Preheat oven to 350. Combine flour and powdered sugar in a medium bowl. Pour in butter and mix well. Press mixture evenly into a greased 9x13 pan. Prick dough with a fork and bake for 15 minutes. Combine sweetened condensed milk, egg, vanilla, toffee bits, and pecans. Pour over prepared crust. Bake for 20 minutes. Cool and cut into squares. Can be frozen!
The holidays can be a stressful time. Many times we never examine our list or check it twice!
This podcast gives suggestions for reducing stress that will benefit your body, mind, relationships, and faith.
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REMEMBERING YOUR LOVED ONE
It's a major life stressor if you have experienced the loss of a loved one in this calendar year. How do you remember them?
This short podcast gives options for remembering old traditions and incorporating new traditions.
This is not an all inclusive list, but it will assist you in process of remembering them well.
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GRIEF AT CHRISTMAS.
The holidays can be very hard if you have experienced loss.
What's normal? What isn't normal?
This podcast shares several important concepts about grief as you navigate the holiday season.
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Fear.
We fear those things which are either rational or irrational. Fear affects our minds and our bodies in negative ways.
This podcast shares how to handle our fears in more productive ways while incorporating concepts from the Christmas story as written in Luke 1.
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FOOD FOR THOUGHT!
Do you struggle with food during the holiday season? We all do!
Here are a handful of tips as you gather between now and the end of the year.
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Has negativity gotten the best of you? How do you begin to eliminate negativity? The good news is that it is possible to decrease negative thinking.
Why be thankful? Is there anythingthat suggests we should be? Yes! Science tells us there
are physical and emotional benefits to listing at least 3 things each day that we can be thankful for.
This podcast share how to decrease negative thinking while, at the same time, increasing thankfulness.
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Dreading the holiday gatherings?
This podcast is for you! Nine quick tips for learning how to communicate effectively, break negative relationship patterns, and move to a healthier emotional place with the people in your life.
Veterans Day 2021.
Are you emotional today? I am. If not for a U.S. Army colonel who adopted me as his own, I never would have been in this country.
In reading the citation he earned for his silver star during World War II, I share traits that you and I can develop as we "lead" others, personally and professionally.
Here are the points:
- Don't seek recognition
- Risk over resistance
- Serve in secret
- Lifting without "lording"
- Lead without legalism
- Undaunted courage
How do we take those life battles and reframe them?
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Happy Mentoring Day!
Are you a mentor? What are the qualities that make a good mentor?
This podcast shares what a healthy mentoring relationship IS NOT and what it IS.
The mentoring paradigm that I share is the following:
- Problem
- Process
- Perspective
- Poses Questions
- Permission
- Prayer
Become a better version of who you are by not only being mentored, but also mentoring. Ideally, generational relationships formed with someone older as well as younger.
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- What is life coaching?
- How is it different from counseling?
- What is the role of a life coach?
- What is required as a client?
- How does life coaching affect my life story?
All of these questions are answered! You always have options for getting to a better place in your life. Never quit. Never give up. Find a support network who can walk with you through life's unexpected journey.
What are some of the differences, values, and cultural expectations between the Baby Boomer generation and the Millennial generation?
You will want to listen to this honest and unscripted conversation between my oldest son and me!
Perhaps it will give you some insight and truthful takeaways to give you hope as you move forward, whether you're a parent, grandparent, or a millennial.
Are you grieving the loss of a spouse, friend, job, health, opportunity, time, or even the loss of self? Perhaps you've had a recent health diagnosis that is unsettling?
Regardless of whatever it is you're going through, these life coaching points will provide easy, daily exercises for you to move forwardeach day.
Life can be so very difficult and challenging. Navigating how to maneuver the unexpected can catch you off guard.
These questions and exercises will assist you as you process this life or lifestyle change.
Remember:
You are not defined by this!
Your worth is not determined by this!
You have the ability to choose your response to this situation which, in turn, if chosen wisely, will be the very impetus that propels you forward.
Never give up hope!
Are you wondering how quickly you arrived at this stage in life? I get it. I'm right there with you!
Using the "biopsychosociospiritual" counseling model, this podcast offers life coaching questions and thoughts to ponder for living your best life in mid-life!
Regardless of how you've arrived at this point, you can learn to live with intentionality with your physical health, emotional health, relationships, and spiritual walk with God, the King of Kings.
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When have you needed a friend during a time of stress or duress? What qualities did this person have?
This podcast offers what I call The Rule of 7 - 7 qualities that we look for in a true friend when we are unsettled and even devastated.
These seven points can also be learning opportunities for each of us to implement in our current friendships. Furthermore, our impact on our friendships is the legacy we leave.
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What do you do with your memories? Your milestones? Your significant life events, both positive and negative?
Depending how we interpret what happens in our lives can be a crucial turning point in our ability to move forward with hope, worth, and value!
Yes, even negative events - if not interpreted correctly - can greatly impact our ability to walk in our God-given identity!
Learn how to create a "Milestone Map" of your life and use the information to reframe how you view many events up to the present time.
When you reframe your experiences, you renew your mind and restore your heart.
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Have you ever thought about what you think about? This is not a trick question! What you think about is crucial to your God-given identity!
Every single day, we each live from beliefs - conscious and unconscious - which are never questioned. The crux of the matter is that our thoughts either work for us or against us. Knowing the difference between what is actually true is crucial in walking confidently through life's daily experiences or hardships.
This podcast will jumpstart you on the right path! Four concepts will start you thinking about your internal dialogue and emotional health.
Why would you wait another day?
We are a lonely American culture.
How can we not only have friends but be a friend?
This podcast shares the levels of friendship as well as the levels of proper self disclosure. There are different types of people that journey with us - personal and professional - during life's seasons of change.
Listen now to improve improve and enrich the friendships in your life!
What does Easter have to do with identity?
Everything! I explore the spiritual and metaphorical significance of the temple veil that was torn with the spiritual "veils" as mentioned in 2 Corinthians 3:16.
In this Easter podcast, I discuss how either blame or shame "veil" our lives from walking in the God-given identity that provides freedom.
Problem [Pain]
Predicament [Shame / Blame]
Process
Promise
Listen now, and let this Easter be a spiritual milestone event that will give you freedom and a resurrected, new life!
Working from home? Stressed to the hilt?
Haven't figured it out....yet?
Losing your mind with how to handle your work? Parenting? Having your spouse work from home too?
This podcast is for you!
Forgiveness.
What is forgiveness? What is it not? Does forgiveness mean reconciliation? Does forgiveness mean trusting? How does lack of forgiveness affect our body, mind, and relationships?
I answer all of these questions and break down this topic into easy to understand concepts.
Most importantly, I explain why forgiveness is directly tied to walking in your God-given identity.
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Statistics are staggering. What are the solutions?
In this podcast, I address your DNA - your genetic identity - and the bigger concepts that play into decisions for any kind of plastic surgery, minimal procedure, or reconstruction.
What's real? What's perception? And how do you come to a solution for body image and any kind of procedure?
Listen now for my questions to ponder as well as solutions to overall health of your body and your mind!
What is confidence? Where does it come from? How do you get it?
This podcast focuses on the systems that shape your level of confidence - low or high - as well as life coaching tips for moving out of your comfort zone when life presents challenges. Growth zones grow your confidence in ways that comfort zones never will!
When you know your God-given identity, it gives you the ability to grow and know you have what it takes to move forward in life in any aspect of life, regardless of challenges.
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Has 2020 left you confused without clarity?
This podcast is for you!
This original life coaching assessment will guide you through four categories of consideration:
- Pay
- Progress
- Passions
- Purpose
When you live with clarity, your schedule is streamlined!
The Christmas story in Luke reveals these themes:
- Deeply Troubled
- Denial
- Deliverance
- Decision
As you go through troubling times, never forget the power of your decisions while you navigate the circumstances you didn't ask for.
We are promised that regardless of outcome, God will deliver you and be responsible for how this circumstance is used in your life story to offer hope to others.
Are you in a situation you didn't ask for?
Luke 1 shares four themes between Mary's conversation with the angel:
- Deeply Troubled
- Denial
- Deliverance
- Decision
We, too, need to be reminded that our present circumstances will not last, that God will bring us through them.
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Have you found yourself in a potentially life-changing, life-stopping situation that you did not create?
I share the deeper themes of Luke 1 that are applicable in our own lives:
- Deeply Troubled
- Denial
- Deliverance
- Decision
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Are you currently in a situation you didn't ask for?
So was Mary, and she had done nothing wrong.
Whether you find yourself in a situation you didn't ask for, or if you know of someone who is, here are life coaching tips and scriptural lessons from the Christmas story.
This week's podcasts will be divided into four sections:
- Deeply Troubled
- Denial
- Deliverance
- Decision
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Need a Christmas treat that's easy to make, bake, and take?
You will be a hit with this Oreo Biscotti recipe!
Recipe included!
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Although there may be conflicting evidence as to the origin and length of the journey for the wise men, the one fact remains that they DID have a long journey.
Don't we, too? Life tends to take us through our own "desert".
Here are the questions to ponder and the lessons to glean from their journey...and ours.
God bless you if you are on an unexpected journey right now. May this podcast encourage you!
Aren't you tired of hearing the clichés of 'New Year's Resolutions' and 'What are my goals'? Yes, me too! Let's reframe it with a better question.
In this podcast I discuss the counseling and scriptural concepts that overlap and delve deeply into our core being and then ask life coaching questions for you to take the next step toward growth.
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Need an easy and crazy good recipe for the holidays?
Here it is: Vanessa's Chocolate Chip Pie
I promise it will become a favorite!
Also included are life coaching tips for putting up boundaries for self-control.
Yes, there is HOPE!
Do you have Christmas chores you simply don't enjoy? Be honest!
Here are two easy life coaching tips to get you started (and finished!).
Why wait for the New Year?
Start your strength training now!
In this podcast, I share the following:
1. What (your personal backstory for fitness)
2. Why?
3. How?
4. Why Not?
These are easy, simple steps for you to start now, especially during the holiday season!
We have a new kitten. An imperfect kitten, that is. But the lesson I've learned about God's love to us - albeit through the life of this furry animal - is worth sharing during the holidays.
May the message of Christmas be heard in a new and fresh way.
Enjoy!
How does anyone deal with life stressors, either major or minor? What are the better ways to cope? What are ineffective ways of coping?
This podcast shares the three main components to stress management, and the realistic ways you can incorporate them into your daily life!
This podcast isn't just for this year....it's for you to use from this point forward!
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Have you experienced the loss of a loved one in the last year or two?
This podcast offers helpful advice to give you hope this holiday season. Although it's not an all inclusive list, it will help you navigate and challenge your beliefs and self expectations.
Listen now and please share with friends and family!
This podcast offers seven tips for knowing how to respond to others' loss during the holiday season.
Although this is not an inclusive list, this podcast shares easy ways to respond to others in their emotional pain.
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Are you trying to maintain control with good self care this holiday season? In eating? Purchasing food? Staying away from tempting foods? Exercise?
This short podcast will share the power of numbers as a great tool and guide for self care to carry you into the New Year!
Lose the guilt; keep the pattern!
Do you feel as though you are in an impossible situation? Have your plans been shattered?
The message of Mary, Jesus' mother, speaks to these very challenges. May her song of hope be yours as you prepare your heart and mind this holiday season.
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What are you serving up today? Perhaps this day looks very different than any Thanksgiving you've had in the past.
This podcast will share cognitive life tools for you to savor the day.
Included is my homemade recipe for mushroom gravy. It's not low calorie, but when you only make it once a year, it's worth it!
Choose to be thankful.
Got sleep?
This podcast offers sleep and cognitive strategies to help you take mindful steps preparing for a healthy night of rest.
Not only will these strategies help you navigate the holiday season, use them year round to create habits for overall health and wellbeing!
Why is water so important to body and brain health? This short podcast tells you why it's crucial for good self-care.
Also included are tips for drinking before eating, flying, and exercising!
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Need communication tips this year for family gatherings? This podcast gives simple advice on strategies for diffusing and discussing hot topics as well as life coaching questions for consideration! Make a memory, not a mess.
Attached please find my recipe for sweet potato casserole!
All of us communicate. The crucial question is this: Do we communicate well?
Especially in today's cultural climate, learning to hear and listen to others is a vital part of emotional connection.
I present life coaching tools and questions for you to think of your current ability to communicate well and determine what kind of positive change you can make. We always have room to grow and improve.
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Just because someone is in a leadership position does not mean they are actually a good leader.
Position does not mean proficiency.
Able does not mean capable.
Control does not mean competency.
Decision does not mean decency.
How does someone lead well? What do we look for when they don't fall well?
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This podcast is for you regardless of the age of your child(ren)! From toddler, to middle school, to teen, to adult, the temptation is to hover and be over involved has created more anxiety in families and parental relationships than ever before.
This podcast provides definitions, questions, and a scriptural basis for consideration.
Lastly, questions are explored that can assist in you making change today that will be beneficial into the future.
How do you act (out) on your disappointments? If you don't interpret your disappointment correctly (last episode), you may "attach" to whatever or whomever you believe gives you worth and value.
Take realistic steps in changing your pattern!
What happens in our lives and to our identity when disappointments detonate? How is it that some disappointments dissipate while others mushroom into every facet of your being affecting your daily existence or your identity?
Listen now for life coaching tools to help you navigate these life stressors!
What is stress? Are there different kinds of stress? How do you manage it? Learn these life tools for managing stress. Listen now!
Where is God? What does the answer to that question have to do with identity? Are our spiritual and psychological lives intertwined?
I discuss the following:
- Approaches: Varying views as to whether or not these two concepts are related
- Awry: How our feelings and thoughts get off track during formative years
- Application: What action steps are needed to get our (mis)beliefs on track
Answers to these questions are in this episode!
How do you gain a healthy perspective when it comes to food? Is your relationship with food a constant battle? Are you tired of diets? This podcast is for you!
As a daughter or son of the King of Kings, we need to honor our physical beings with our daily care. Concepts I discuss are include our spiritual responsibility to healthy self care as well as personal backstories that attribute to our present relationship with food.
The goal of this podcast is to motivate you to move! Your identity and your ability to make exercise a lifestyle choice are intertwined. Three tools are given for you to consider or reconsider this important aspect of self care: Assessment; Backstory and Beliefs; Change and Choice.
How do you define freedom?
True liberty comes from an inalienable identity. Consider the Who [backstory], What [change the story], and What For [for his glory] in your personal story of freedom.
Your heart matters!
The message of this podcast is relevant, while your age is irrelevant. Whether you're a teen or a mature woman, this message of hope is for you.
At the core of your identity is the battle for your heart! Your impact and your relationships. Be encouraged. With God guiding you every step of the way, your heart can be made new again, and you have no idea what God plans to do with it!
Let fashion be the “crowning” touch to your unique body, style, and lifestyle! Backstory, beliefs, and benefits in dressing your best!
Are you living from the heart or simply going through the motions of living? What are the warning signs? Insight and knowledge are the starting points for change!
Are you ready? It’s time for your Identity to be Unveiled. You are a daughter of the King of Kings.
We are discontent. What is the first step in destroying this deadly mindset? Gratitude.
Comparison is costly. We live with a “not enough” mindset. Social Comparison Theory helps us dissect this concept.
Who you are - from the structure of your DNA to every detail that falls within the scope of your lifespan - has not been missed by your Creator. God knows everything that occurs within the “dash” of your dates of entry and exit.
Do you know your genetic heritage? Are you a byproduct of “nature” or “nurture”? Acceptance of self and others is crucial to well-being.