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Self Psychology - Marcos Quinones, LMSW
Self Psychology Video Podcast is a weekly 15 minute video where I discuss one of life's common disturbances (frustration in relationships, depression in relationships, jealousy, etc). Then, I apply the techniques of REBT to help in resolving the issue. One of the benefits of REBT is that it can be practiced by anyone, in everyday life. What I do in this podcast is touch on a technique that you can incorporate into your tool chest of self-help strategies. In future episodes, I will discuss advanced techniques such as guided visual imagery, use of coping statements, and assertiveness techniques. I will also go into the importance of unconditional self acceptance. Please send me an email with your thoughts, mquinones@nyu.edu. Marcos A. Quinones, LMSW
Unconditionally accept yourself, do not globally rate yourself, and your problems will seem like situations to be delt with.
Focusing on your senses (hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, feeling) is a first step in identifying thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
In this video I discuss the benefits and technique of separating yourself from your thoughts, emotions and behaviors so that you can have more control over them.
Couples 4 focuses on some of the reasons couples stay together in a relationship that does not work, and acceptance of staying or leaving it.
Couples 3 focuses on determining if your relationship is healthy or not, does your relationship have trust and respect? If not then what do you do?.
Couples 2 focuses on maintaining the relationship by understanding the purpose of romance, a technique to communicate better and value of sex in a relationship.
This is part 1 of a 4 part series where I discuss the basics of engaging each other and how to deal with rejection so that you can put yourself out there more and increase your chances of meeting that special someone.
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Using the ABC's of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy can help you control any unhealthy negative emotion.
During the Winter months many of our friends and family become depressed. In this video I go over 5 steps in helping a loved one overcome a depressive episode.
Dating is as easy as 1, 2, 3. In this video I go over how you can maximize your opportunities in rational dating in 3 simple steps.
This video identifies the steps in the therapeutic process. Find a therapist that focuses on change or follow these steps in your self help process.
Creating logs for behaviors you wish to extinguish like smoking, drinking, shopping, food, etc helps you see patterns and days and times where you can cut back on the behavior.
Many people diagnosed with HIV/AIDS live a satisfying life. Other, however catastrophize, depress themselves, and make themselves anxious. As difficult as this is, it is important to keep in mind that we have a choice on how we wish to feel.
Have you ever considered your problem having a social root? Think about your depression, anxiety or substance abuse, and consider how your social deficits keep these problems present in your life.
In this video, I go over the 2 sides of the brain and their functions and roles in emotions and logic. Then, I go over ways to build communication between the two sides.
One you have determined that you have a problem or situation that you want to change, then the next step is setting goals and objectives.
The stages of change is a visual tool that can be used to help motivate change. In this video I go over the 5 stages.
When thinking of suicide it's important to accept the thoughts and emotions, then look at how you may be catastrafizing the situation, look for support from friends and family, and look at the possibilities the future holds.
Here, I look at common thoughts and emotions that people have when contemplating separation and divorce and ways to manage them.
Sometimes we experience an emotion that distracts us from the underlying problem. Ask yourself, What if I didn't have this emotion, how would my life be?
In this video, I go over 3 breathing exercises you can master to reduce anxiety and panic attacks.
There are 3 things that normaly define peoples meaning; a loved one, a job/deed, and the potential to achieve whatever you desire.
This is part 2 of the series on unconditional self acceptance. Here, I speak about importance of believing in yourself to overcome any adversity and the benefits of self - efficacy.
This is part 1 of a two part series on Self-Concept and Self-Efficacy; two fundamental ideas necessary to fight off unhealthy negative emotions.
Aid and help workers often burn out and suffer from secondary trauma upon hearing difficult stories day in - day out. It's important to identify the trauma and treat it.
In this video I discuss how we allow losses to stress out our bodys through depression and anxiety, and how to avoid this stress.
In this video I review the 2 things you need to believe in yourself, and help constructing confident statements from insecurities.
In this video I go over the 2 essential things to gaining self security; trust that self security will help you overcome your disturbance and trusting that you will work hard to gain that self security.
In this video I outline our plans for moving this project forward, and speak a bit about insecurities.
In this video I go over 9 techniques people with addictions can use to help themselves overcome the addiction.
It is a good idea to have a plan when tring to stop an addiction. The stages of change model helps structure the process and motivate the individual move accross stages and stop her addiction.
Sometimes we hold Anger, Resentment, and Sadness because someone did us wrong. We are the ones that are suffering and can stop disturbing ourselves by holding them accountable and forgiving.
Shyness starts in early age with rejection, and gets reinforced throughout a persons life. Just as the individual learned this behavior, he or she can unlearn it and learn to be more social.
Paranoia comes under fear, fear comes under anxiety, and where there is anxiety, there is fear of something bad happening in the future...
Homosexuality can be looked at from the view of a person who is homosexual, and from a person who doesn't agree with homosexuality. Each disturb themselves differently, and here we look at both.
n Process 2 we go over techniques how people can get from the intellectual to the emotional. If you know something is right for you, how can you feel it so that you can actually do it.
In Process 1 we go over the basics of the importance of going from an intellectual understanding to making it emotional so you can actually make change.
n this society, we focus a lot on age; how some people are "too old," or "too young" to behave a certain way. In this video I go over how we don't have to accept these messages given to us by others.
Being aware of what we are thinking, doing, and feeling, gives us a distinct advantage to managing our behaviors and emotions. I go over the benefits of mindfulness in every day life.
Anger is an emotion that we all experience at one time or another in our lives because we think others "should" behave one way or another, and when they don't, it becomes an injustice to us.
20-Somethings suffer from a distinct confusion about what they "should" be doing in their lives, and what others percieve and expect of them.
Couples meet, have sex, and possibly design a life together. In this video I discuss why many relationships so well and others don't work out.
Parents disturb themselves because their children are not behaving the way they "should" behave. Also, they disturb themselves because of what others think of them.
Just as men can have sexual dysfunction, women can have it as well. I look at this disorder from a mental health point of view, not a medical point of view.
Men sometimes suffer from sexual dysfunction, which can be a debilitating condition that feeds on itself. Once a man suffers from this, the fear can keep him from performing.
Grief can be healthy or complicated. In this video I go over how people sometimes continue to grieve for extended periods of time, and its self defeating behaviors.
Psychotherapy is now more widely accepted. In this video, I try to close the gap stigma has created between people who need help and those who get it.
Hope is a definition, just as many of the other messages we tell ourselves. However, hope is a rational thought that causes healthy emotions.
During the holidays, we disturb ourselves thinking about people we lost in the past. We can also choose to think enjoyably about the holidays and those we share it with
In order to feel the emotion of Guilt, you need two ingredients; believing you did something wrong and thinking you are a bad person for doing that wrong thing.
In this video, I cover the different ways that we disturb ourselves over relationships. Specifically related to the different anxieties about how others "should" behave.
This is the second part of the two part series on happiness and how to achieve it reguardless of our present situations.
In this video I talk about ways we can make ourselves happy reguardless what is going on in our lives.
Periodically, I like to go over the ABC's of rational living so that we don't lose focus on the basic technique to stopping ourselves from disturbing ourselves.
Often, we blame others for 'giving' us anxiety, when in fact it is us who make ourselves anxious over how others behave.
Jealousy can be an unhealthy negative emotion, and it can be a low level healthy concern. It serves the you best to keep jealousy as a concern so that the emotion doesn't get in the way of a rational reaction.
In continuation with the relationship series, in this video I speak about how people depress themselves because of the messages they tell themselves about others. For example, 'no one loves me.'
People often disturb themselves over relationships. Since we are social creatures, we live our lives within relationships. Partners, bothers, sisters, mother and father can all do things that trigger us to disturb ourselves.
In this video / audio, I discuss the purpose of this video / audio series. I also go over the basics of REBT, and how the techniques are used to help people disturb themselves less.