Freed 2 Love Podcast: Recent Episodes
Stephanie McNeal
Once upon a time there was an angry woman. Every day she was scrutinized, ridiculed, harassed, and dismissed because of her emotional pain. One day she discovered that she wasn’t really angry but hurt, misunderstood, falsely depicted, and stereotyped. Because of this, she gave off false impressions, and the men in her life were left with the wrong ideas, they mistrusted her and were aggravated. As a result, her children and her family suffered until the woman was finally freed to love. Freed to love God. Freed to love herself. Freed to love her family and everyone else. She is able to obtain her freedom by simply embracing truth and simply letting go. Put simply - Freed to Forgive!Learning how to let it go. “It” could be a plethora of things - trauma, unforgiveness, blame, victimhood, etc. The freed part is about letting go of what is not yours and reclaiming your new! This is what the Freed 2 Love Podcast is about. The overarching goal is to promote understanding between men and women, facilitating reconciliation by harnessing the power of the woman’s influence. By discussing previously taboo topics and secret subjects such as infidelity, mental and emotional abuse, power, control and other topics that affect our mental and emotional health, we will identify and expose possible roots and entry points of issues that dramatically affect our communities. The aim is to destroy stereotypes and promote understanding and compassion. Each episode will explore the complexities of life in America. The hope is to help women realize their power and encourage them to use that power to heal their communities. We will address the woman holistically including ways to strengthen your body, spirit, and soul. When women are able to break free from these hindrances/encumbrances, you will be freed to love and be whole. Breaking free is the goal to create awareness and provide a vehicle for listeners to see yourselves. Every person will have their own journey and every podcast is a catalyst for you to speak your truth and tell your story.
In this episode, you will learn the following :
- Healing Process: Antoinette emphasizes the importance of taking the healing process one step at a time, much like writing a book. She compares the process of grief to writing a book, where one chapter, one paragraph, or even one sentence is written at a time. By breaking it down, it becomes more manageable and less overwhelming.
- Redefining Identity: Antoinette advises widows to maintain their individual identity even within a marriage. She shares that having separate interests and hobbies outside of the relationship can help immensely during the grieving process. This separation enables a widow to maintain their sense of self and makes it easier to transition into life after the loss of a spouse.
- Financial Preparedness: Antoinette emphasizes the importance of financial preparedness for both spouses. She shares her experience of having financial conversations with her husband and knowing the specifics of their finances. This knowledge helped her navigate her financial situation after her husband's passing. She also encourages having life insurance as a crucial aspect of financial planning to provide stability and support during difficult times.
Can you imagine losing the love of your life and finding the strength to not only heal but also inspire others with your journey? That's precisely what Antoinette Gaynor has done. Weathering the storm of loss, the unexpected passing of her beloved husband, Antoinette found herself on a path of healing and self-care that was guided by her faith, art, and writing. As a minister and artist, her journey post-loss is a beacon of resilience and personal growth, offering hope and strength to anyone dealing with a similar ordeal.
Antoinette's wisdom doesn't stop there. Imagine being able to maintain your individual identity, even within a relationship. She shares the importance of having a hobby that can serve as an outlet in the healing journey. Delving into the realm of financial knowledge, Antoinette puts emphasis on the significance of life insurance. Navigating life as a single woman post-loss, she shares her insights, turning her personal experience into valuable lessons for us all.
Have you ever thought about how art could be a therapeutic outlet? Antoinette takes us through her artistic journey, giving us an insight into how her work has served as an emotional release. By sharing her story, she has created a platform where we connect with her on a deeper level through her book chapter in The Journey to Love Again titled A Widow's View. Her art, book and coloring sheets are not just products but are an extension of her resilience, faith and human spirit. Antoinette's journey is a testament to the strength that lies within us all. Let her story inspire you to find your own path of resilience and growth.
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In this episode, you will learn the following :
- Discover the liberating effect of embracing vulnerability and sharing personal experiences.
- Uncover the journey to sobriety and the role of faith in overcoming hardships.
- Learn the significance of accountability and openness during the healing process.
- Explore the concept of breaking generational patterns and embracing forgiveness.
- Gain insights into parenting grown-up children and the obstacles that come along.
Can you recall a time in your life where you felt utterly defeated? I sat down with the incredibly courageous Melissa Bonacci, who shared her powerful story of overcoming alcoholism and embracing a life of sobriety. Melissa's journey is a testament to the transformative power of self-love, resilience, and hope, as well as the vital importance of sharing our stories with others so that we may find connection and healing in our imperfections.
Melissa doesn't hold back as she discusses her tumultuous childhood, marked by her parents' struggles with addiction, and how her faithful grandparents provided solace. We dive deep into her own destructive behaviors, such as alcohol abuse and teenage motherhood, and uncover the turning point in her life when she reached out to God for a transformation. Her inspiring faith and resilience will leave you in awe.
We also tackle the importance of vulnerability in overcoming addiction, delving into the role faith played in Melissa's recovery. Through her compelling testimony, we come to understand the healing power of sharing our stories and the connections that can be made through our vulnerabilities. Don't miss out on this emotional and inspiring conversation with Melissa Bonacci, where we explore the journey towards sobriety, redemption, and the power of love.
TRANSCRIPT
00:00:00 Stephanie Hey y'all. It is so good to be back. I have missed y'all. I really, I lost my voice for a while, but I'm back, and I think that you are going to really enjoy this conversation that I had. It is a passionate and captivating interview that I had with Melissa Bonacci, and she opens up about her courageous journey of overcoming alcoholism and embracing a life of sobriety. We go deep. We delve into the transformative power of sharing your story. We talk about the impact of her relationships with herself, with her past, with her children, and we also talk about personal growth. And she advises others facing similar struggles on how they can break free. So tune in for this powerful conversation on self-love, resilience, and hope.
00:01:10 Stephanie Hey y'all, and welcome to the Free to Love podcast, the space where you share your stories and your truth. A safe place where you can be heard, celebrated, and have real conversations that act as a catalyst for courage, strength and growth, so you can break through your past and live a life of freedom. Now, I used to believe that once you forgive and let go, you have arrived. But when I got there, I discovered that that is just a part of the journey. So join us each week as we explore what being free to love means so that you can be free to love God, free to love yourself, and then free to love everyone else.
00:02:00 Stephanie Telling your story may be one of the most powerful medicines on earth. Each one of us is constantly unfolding narrative. You are the hero in a novel that no one else except for you can write. And yet so many of you leave your stories untold, your songs unsung, your emotions unresolved. And when this happens, you wind up feeling lonely and sad, di
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On a special Father's Day episode, I take a moment to honor my dad and his profound impact on my life. But what does the number 11 have to do with it? Join me as we explore its significance and how it has played a vital role in my journey, despite some negative associations.
As we honor our fathers, we also discuss the essential aspect of leaving a personal legacy and how it can help you live a life of freedom. Get ready to be inspired and empowered with a storytelling tool that can transform your stories from pain to empowerment. Tune in to hear real conversations that act as a catalyst for courage, strength, and growth, and let's discover together what being freed to love truly means - how it allows you to be freed to love God, freed to love yourself, and ultimately, freed to love everyone else.
Don't miss this heartfelt and empowering episode!
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Have you ever had a moment where a simple social media post triggered a powerful realization about yourself? That's exactly what happened to me while writing a Mother's Day post and through this vulnerability, I discovered the impact of unhealed pain on my success. Join me in this heartfelt episode as we explore the concept of triggers as indicator lights for unhealed pain in our lives and how childhood experiences can be a source of these triggers.
It's time we take ownership of our healing process by questioning what we can learn from our triggers instead of asking 'why.' Together, let's recognize and accept ourselves as anointed and successful individuals, breaking free from self-destructive behaviors and finding the courage to grow. But how can we overcome these negative habits and self-destructive behaviors?
One of the most effective ways to break free is by utilizing powerful tools, such as my Freed to Love Masterclass. This transformative experience can help you gain the tools and mindset to break free from limiting beliefs, embrace personal growth, and achieve success.
So, are you ready to embark on this journey towards freedom and self-acceptance? Visit freedtolove.com/class and take the first step towards living a life of freedom today.
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This is one of my most vulnerable episodes ever. I let you in on what's been going on with me and how I am P.R.E.S.S.ing forward!
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Eavesdrop in on this candid conversation of our new segment - Iron Sharpens Iron as my friend Angela and I discuss her view of how to be a wise wife.
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How to NOT loose yourself in marriage or a relationship
- The trophy wife ~ do you want to be one?
- How to keep your man's attention
- That dirty word ~ submission ~ one woman's practice
- Learn how to manage your relationship
- Much, much more!
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Master connector and bridge builder lifts the culture to create opportunities for introverts and black people in her local area. The most positive person I know, Jorgie with her magnetic personality shares how she transitioned from selling Jesus (as a PK) to bringing in major contracts for the clients she serves. She also talks about her book The Journey to Love Again ~ An Anthology of Resilience and her chapter "Freed From the Silence".
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How you can interact in settings as an introvert
- How an extrovert can connect with an introvert
- How an African American person can stay positive even in the climate in America today.
- The importance of self care and continuous personal development
- The courage to speak out instead of remaining silent to resolve conflict in relationships
- Ways for staying positive always
Bio:Jorgie Franks is a CBLC (Certified Breakthrough Life Coach). The area Jorgie helps clients breakthrough is in Consultative Business Development Coaching.
Her one on one coaching provides valuable insights to take business to the next stage of development and achieve real results!
Jorgie Franks has been in sales and leadership for over 20 years which includes, territory management, cold calls, call center, knocking on doors, retail sales, and sales management. Jorgie worked with companies, churches, and the local chamber of commerce. She now serves minority and introverted business owners to help them live their purpose and increase their sales. Jorgie is the owner of Jorgie Inc. The hospitality director at Bayside Community Church Riverview Campus, and Director of Business Development for BEST Employment. She has a vast experience as a Speaker and Motivator
You can find Jorgie at https://jorgieinc.com
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It has been 475 days since I dropped a new episode on this podcast. Alot has happened and today's episode is a look back on where we were and where we are headed!
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- What is happening when you are frustrated
- Crossroads of your life
- How a job can help you clarify and feel your purpose
- How Godly counsel and coaching can Propel your purpose and clarity
- How transitions can make or break your destiny
- Where forgiveness fits in
- Crystallize your purpose
- Business models
Bio:Stephanie McNeal is a certified relationship educator, licensed in Identity and Destiny, former Women’s Ministry Leader, Podcast Host, Speaker and Author. For over 10 years, she was known as a Forgiveness Coach, but when she fully embraced her call, she is a Minister of Reconciliation. She helps divorcées and people bouncing back from heartbreak to heal by telling their stories.
Newly single and empty neXter, she is the Mommy of 4 young adult children who all were/are scholarship collegiate athletes and she is so excited to be a first time Grand Mommy this Spring!
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How to deal with the guilt of abortion and the assurance that the first time you asked God for forgiveness, you received it.
- How unforgiveness affects you physically.
- How talking about "it" and not keeping silent actually frees you and keeping secrets tortures you.
- The importance of community, mentors, guidance and intentionality and how you know you are free.
Guest Bio:After thirteen years of dealing with the shame of life post-abortion, Latoya Mathews is on a mission to help other women who are ready to break free from shame, guilt, and regret of their past lives. Latoya is a beacon of hope and serves boldly as she unravels the pieces of pain for women and leads them to wholeness and freedom.
She desires for women to experience the same healing, hope, and forgiveness that she encountered after her most traumatic seasons. Latoya is a gifted Author who birthed her book, "Discovery." is a thirty-one-day devotional for women.
She is also the founder of Woman, You Are Free Retreat and featured on major podcasts and publications. Latoya desires to bring healing to women from all over the world.
She knows that rediscovery was a process that she wished she didn’t have to go through alone. For this reason, she has created her mentorship program where she will coach women in their healing journey. The number one thing she wanted after her abortion was to find value in herself again. Latoya has discovered that value in herself and is excited to share more of her journey along the way. She has been married over thirteen years now and has a twelve-year old daughter.
Connect With Latoya:Website - www.latoyamathews.com
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Facebook - www.facebook.com/thelatoyamathews
PLEASE NOTE: In the middle of the recording, there was a little distortion in the audio, but it is very temporary.
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode: - How we walk around as adults with childhood trauma from the 10 year-old version of ourselves, but now we are adults.
- Generational curse, generational trauma or familiar spirit?
- How to use your pain and suffering as fuel for your purpose, creative endeavors and transforming it to power for your life. Bio:Reba Rice-Portwood is a mother of a child in Heaven, grandmother of an earthly child, but most importantly a Woman of God. Reba is a published author of a children's affirmation book, a poet and an absolute dynamic motivational speaker. Reba has a Master's degree in Educational/Community Counseling, a Bachelors degree in Juvenile justice and an associates degree in Law enforcement.
Ms. Portwood is a Licensed Mental Health professional and love doing work in the mental health field as she advocates for grieving mothers and fights hard for suicide prevention and intervention. She believes it is past the time of us being a seed - it is time to grow. Reba Rice-Portwoods Book on Amazon:Amazing Beautiful Child
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:Join Stephanie as she discusses the ultimate in self-care - forgiving YOURSELF. This is an issue that plagues a lot of people. When we forgive ourselves, we no longer have negative thoughts, feelings or actions towards ourselves. It paves the way for success and freedom like nothing else.
Stephanie also shares - 7 Signs You Have Not Forgiven Yourself
Host Bio:Stephanie McNeal is a certified relationship educator, licensed in Identity and Destiny and former Women’s Ministry Leader. And for nearly 9 years, she’s been known as a Forgiveness Coach who identifies as Christian. But, none of those credentials mattered because one day, she was confronted with the truth and realized that although forgiveness was on her lips, it wasn’t in her heart. It was her ministry, but it wasn’t her mastery until she changed her mindset.
Today, she is an author of her soon to be released memoir Freed 2 Love - How Forgiveness Can Heal You From Broken Pieces to Master Peace, speaker and podcast host of The Freed 2 Love Podcast and teaches her powerful mindset shift - P.R.E.S.S. (acronym for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication). This powerful mindset shift empowers women to walk out their own forgiveness lifestyle daily. This translates in their lives to peace, freedom and success.
Resources Mentioned:
The Mindset of Freedom - freed2love.com/freegift
Passport to Freedom Journal - freed2love.com/products **Connect With Stephanie:
Web: freed2love.com
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How to no longer hold on to and release the baggage of the past.
- How to stop numbing emotions and how its easier to forgive.
- See how others grew in the process, but the biggest was reconnecting with self.
- How to grieve the life that will never be.
- How one woman initially thought she had no issues with unforgiveness and discovered that she did.
- How to stop focusing on the offender and let go of the desire to be repaid for what they did.
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- The awesome responsibility of freedom and living free.
- How forgiveness and sales collide - the often overlooked leadership trait.
- How unforgiveness inhibits your productivity at work.
- The practical aspects of living a forgiveness lifestyle.
- How completing hard assignments is a set up for elevation.
- Much, much more!
Guest Bio:Jorgie Franks has been in sales and leadership for over 20 years collecting experience in territory management, cold calls, call center, knocking on doors, retail sales, and sales management. She makes it her passion to dig for the details, understand all the dynamics of your present situation, and never stops formulating better practices for your organization to use. Just a phone call, taking out a few minutes of your time, can go a long way in laying the foundation you need to experience tangible sales growth.
Jorgie has worked with companies like Samsung, Coca-Cola, Microsoft, BARBIZON Modeling, Jared The Galleria of Jewelry, and Victoria Secret.
From these experiences, she has developed a sales model beneficial to all sized businesses that she shares with her clients to ignite their lead development and increase their successful sales closings.
Jorgie is the owner of Jorgie Inc. JFB Consulting is a subsidiary of (dba) Jorgie Inc. Jorgie serves as president of Kiwanis Club of Greater Brandon and loves attending church at Lakewood Community Church of God.
Connect With Jorgie:
Web: jorgieinc.com
Email: hello@jorgieinc.com
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- What legacies are you passing along to your children?
- How to be free and authentically show up in life and love.
- What forgiveness is and how unforgiveness bonds you with the offender.
- Women can’t be angry.
- Things that stop you from forgiving and trusting yourself.
- How lying to yourself is hurting you.
- How your childhood affects your choices today.
- The steps you need to take to forgive today.
Host Bio:Stephanie McNeal is a certified relationship educator, licensed in Identity and Destiny and former Women’s Ministry Leader. And for nearly 9 years, she’s been known as a Forgiveness Coach who identifies as Christian. But, none of those credentials mattered because one day, she was confronted with the truth and realized that although forgiveness was on her lips, it wasn’t in her heart. It was her ministry, but it wasn’t her mastery until she changed her mindset.
Today, she is an author of her soon to be released memoir Freed 2 Love - How Forgiveness Can Heal You From Broken Pieces to Master Peace, speaker and podcast host of The Freed 2 Love Podcast and teaches her powerful mindset shift - P.R.E.S.S. (acronym for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication). This powerful mindset shift empowers women to walk out their own forgiveness lifestyle daily. This translates in their lives to peace, freedom and success.
Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How common the code of silence that says 'what happens in this house, stays in this house' is.
- Christians don't have the same psychological support that others do.
- How we really are all the same.
- Differences between victims and survivors.
- Ways in which forgiveness can hurt and heal.
Guest Bio:
Susanne Smetana is a Christian postpartum and bereavement doula with a Masters in Theological Studies from Concordia University. After years of advocating for sexual assault survivors to receive more support in institutions like universities and churches, she wrote her thesis on entitled “Forgiving and Wounding: A Theological Exploration on Forgiveness and Sexual Violence.” She believes in breaking the cycle of trauma for a healthier future in our families, communities, and churches.
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- How people in leadership are one way in public and someone entirely different behind closed doors.
- The position that some churches take on as being against or anti-therapy.
- How mental illness is frequently mistaken for demonic possession or influence.
- Challenging the old adage that people say they are 'working on their issues' by praying and in reality they are being lazy. Prayer is not a magic wand and God is not our genie.
- Benefits that some people get out of unforgiveness.
Guest Bio:Dr. Malaika Brown believes that no matter what life experiences you have encountered, you can heal and eventually be whole. Adversity is a part of life, but our response is what we can control. A native of Southern California, Dr. Malaika is a clinician specializing in traumatology and minority mental health, with a goal of helping all those who had survived the worst life has to throw at them. She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in interdisciplinary studies, a Master of Science in general psychology and a Doctorate in clinical psychology. She also holds three seminary degrees: a Bachelor of Arts in Christian Education, a Master of Arts in Sacred Music and a Doctorate in Theology with an emphasis in Christian Education Administration. Her love for helping others expands beyond clinical work. She is an associate professor of psychology at numerous southern California colleges, bringing her passion for the field into the classroom. Dr. Malaika is also a social justice advocate and antiracist, who desires to do her part to rid the world of injustice. She champions for minorities understanding the journey personally. She also volunteers her time through one of her two organizations, Your Beautiful Mind, Inc., a nonprofit organization dedicated to educating on mental health and connecting people with free and low-cost mental health services; and The Black Consciousness Collective, Inc., a nonprofit advocating for and empowering the black collective. She is also a proud member of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc., another organization committed to the community and service.
Dr. Malaika is a sought-after speaker and motivator. You can catch Dr. Malaika on one of her two podcasts, Transforming Your Life with Dr. Malaika, a mental health and wellness show, or Malaika Uncensored, a social issues and current events show. Both can be found on Apple Podcasts or wherever podcasts are found. She is the author of three books, with the most recent release, Free Indeed: A 30-Day Guide on the Journey to Forgiveness, available for purchase on her website www.malaikambrown.com/store.
**Connect With Dr. Malaika Brown:
Web: malaikambrown.com
Email: malaikabrownphd@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drmalaikaspeaks
Instagram: drmalaikaspeaks
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Malaika Uncensored Podcast: Malaika Uncensored Podcast on Spotify
Transforming Your Life with Dr. Malaika Podcast: Transforming Your Life with Dr. Malaika Podcast on Spotify
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Things You'll Takeaway In This Episode:
- What you think you want to do versus what you are called to do.
- What can happen when you meet the man of your dreams, but you lose yourself.
- How to build resilience as Dr Vernell shares how she went from living in a five bedroom five bath house to a three-bedroom two-bath apartment and the added pressure of having more than $1.1 million dollars of debt with zero assets and negative net worth.
- The difference between believing in God versus knowing God.
- How to rebuild your identity in Christ.
Guest Bio:Dr. Vernell is a passionate, purpose-driven woman of God who understands first-hand what it means to be a single mother after experiencing an unwanted and unexpected divorce and the added pressure of having more than 1.1 million dollars of debt with zero assets and negative net worth. Dr. Vernell is a published author of From Pain to Purpose, a sought-after speaker, writer, purpose clarity coach, and academic scholar.
In her book, From Pain to Purpose, Dr. Vernell shares her story of transformation, self-discovery, self-realization, resiliency, and discovering her God-led purpose as she battled with emotional turmoil, limiting beliefs, financial difficulties, and in the end, an abundance of joy. From Pain to Purpose is about revelation, reclamation, and how God used her painful divorce to propel her towards becoming her best version.
Connect With Dr. Vernell Deslonde:
Website: https://drvernell.com/
Instagram: @iamdrvernell
Courses: https://drvernell.com/courses
Listen in as I talk to Danita Lynne. Danita Lynne is a transformational coach, author of The Other Side of Unforgiveness, speaker and encourager. She grew up an only child to parents of the silent generation and her mother taught her to always look her best. She shares her very transparent story of one of the lowest moments when she discovered her husband’s infidelity and confronted him at another woman’s house. She also shares her process of forgiving him and the tender moment they shared at his fathers funeral.
After her faith was shaken to the core, Danita Lynne shows us how she made a plan and followed the steps to forgive. She says we believe God to fix this (our marriages), but instead she admonishes us to BELIEVE GOD and surrender. You will want to listen all the way to the end where we share how to break down a stronghold so you can use it to break free too!
Danita Lynne
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Listen in as I talk to Dr. LaTanya Moore who was raised by a single mom in North Carolina. Since she was in the eighth grade, she knew she wanted to be a therapist as a social worker who helped to care for her brother planted a seed in her heart. She believes that the soul, mind, spirit and body go together and she works with others to help them to strengthen their relationship with God.
Dr. Moore didn't know that she needed forgiveness until she was in graduate school. As a part of the requirements to become a therapist, she had to get a therapist. She had no idea that she had any issues with her dad who was not present much in her upbringing. However, through therapy, she discovered that she was harboring unforgiveness. It was only after she began to talk about it that she realized that she had been numbing her feelings. And just as a song by Aliyah talks about writing a four-page letter, she wrote a four-page letter to her dad who was behind bars. This became the catalyst for them repairing their relationship.
Being that she did not grow up with a father, she felt like she couldn't trust her Heavenly Father. She always prided herself on being independent and one day she asked God to show her herself. He showed her how she manufactured things for herself instead of submitting to Him. She discovered that living faith by someone else's faith won't cut it. Now God has transformed her life to the point that her desire is to carry the presence of God and help others to do the same.
Dr. LaTanya Moore
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- https://www.facebook.com/drlatanyamoore
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Listen in on this real and raw conversation I had with Denise Ford, founder of Ford Christian Academy, Camp Summer Quest, and Academic Support Services. Married for 36 years, she and her husband raised their 10 children in St. Petersburg, Florida. This Mom homeschooled her children who grew up to be engineers, architects, NBA players, entrepreneurs among other careers. She believes that if you give children the skill set, they have what they need to be successful.
In this conversation, Denise confronts 'western Christianity' and she calls out racism as being white supremacy. Denise grew up in an affluent home in which love was nurtured and education was paramount. Its from this vantage point that she raised her children although her present experience was from that of one income.
Denise passionately discusses the George Floyd incident and calls out former friends who did not support BLM or empowering disadvantaged people. She encourages us to not give up until we take our last breath and ends the interview with a powerful prayer asking God to heal our land.
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In this week's episode, I am talking to Crystal Daye. Crystal helps women of faith to maximize their impact by becoming authors and building profitable brands. Hailing from Kingston Jamaica, she is a Minister, International Certified Christian Life Coach, Inspirational Speaker, Award-Winning 2 times Best- Selling Author, Dynamic Entrepreneur, Mother and an all-around Jesus girl which is the power and passion that drives her life and has caused her to have a strong desire to see other women live life on purpose and experience all God has for them.
Growing up in the ghettos and sometimes violent streets of Kingston, Crystal was the oldest child in her family. Although she grew up in a loving home that valued education, that did not shield Crystal from promiscuity, sexual abuse and abortion.
Crystal very transparently shares her struggles to forgive herself following an abortion. "Whatever you hide, guilt grows" and she recognized that her unforgiveness towards herself was hindering her calling. However, after having her heart broken by two different men, she was able to receive the Love of God through Jesus Christ and let go of the guilt and shame caused by sexual abuse and abortion. Now, she shares her calling and her story to help uplift others.
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Listen in as I speak to Denise Taylor, author, speaker, corporate professional and Founder of The First Wives Club which exists to develop a community for wives to be able to be supported and connect. She was watching her talented beautiful, professionally proven, strong friends struggle in their marriages. She soon came to the realization that there was a need for authentic support . So, she decided to first open her home to a circle of married women to simply connect and the response was favorable. Presently, the reach is both nationwide and internationally.
Married for 26 years to her college sweetheart and growing up in Dayton, OH, Denise flirted with sex and drugs because of the pain she felt after sexual abuse, being teased about her dark skin color and craving the attention of both of her parents. She shares how those things affected her and how she transformed all those obstacles to ultimately forgive her offender.
She triumphantly shares one of her favorite quotes, "My baggage is not designer bags" and despite her many professional achievements, they all pale in comparison to her role as Chuck Taylor’s wife and Chanise and Ciera Taylor’s mom. The Taylors reside in Charlotte, NC.
Listen and enjoy the story of Lisa Kirk, aka, Lisa Sunshine as she epitomizes grace shown to a mother who also was a trigger for her. She is a southern girl to the core, a creative, speaker, author and most importantly, a Hope dealer. She’s endured many of life’s punches that have knocked her flat on her face. She has overcome childhood abuse, poverty, teen pregnancy, domestic violence, homelessness and the loss of her 17 year old son, Kalen, in 2016. Her purpose in life is to help people get out of their funk and ignite a fire in their soul!
She shares the fact that forgiveness has levels to it and how learning your triggers can help you manage relationships in a healthy way. How therapy helped her and how she gained wisdom in how to help and encourage the powerful corporate woman who looks good on the outside, but very broken on the inside.
She also cautions how 'sweeping things under the rug' and 'keeping things on the back burner' will delay our healing, but also our happiness and fulfillment in life. And also how family can mean so many things to different people especially in instances of abuse.
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Join me in this very transparent story of me speaking my truth as I utilize my P.R.E.S.S. mindset (Submission) of The Mindset of Freedom. It is a mindset that you need to adopt to live a lifestyle of freedom through forgiveness. I share how God prompted me to cease communication with a dear male friend for no apparent (to me) reason and how I processed that decision.
I share how my story relates to Abraham's story of obedience and trusting God, the only one who is completely trustworthy. I also share the steps to grieve and make peace with obeying God when you don't know the reason.
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The first interview of Season 4 is fire! Listen in as I speak to Jennifer Bell, a former elementary school principal who always told herself that when the joy of what she was doing was gone, she’ll do something else. One day, in her school’s parking lot she cried because she didn’t want to go into the building. She was tired of being exhausted physically, mentally, and emotionally and having no time freedom. Giving the BEST of herself to her job, and family getting the leftovers. SOMETHING HAD TO CHANGE…and it did! She chose FAITH over FEAR, resigned from her job and started focusing on creating options. Now she is a podcast host, speaker and servant of women.
Jennifer authentically and transparently shares her story of breaking a 40-year silence and secret that literally has mushroomed her life and she is poised to finally become all that God wants her to be.
She shares that although she grew up in a two-parent household and raised in the church - something happened in her childhood that silenced her and made her feel unseen.
This story is for any woman, but particularly Christian women, who have been told all their lives that they just need to put it under the blood and pray about it, all the while masking pain and suffering from the shame of what happened.
She also shares that even though she had the loving support of her husband, her life didn't change until she was watching the R Kelly documentary and it finally convinced her that she needed help.
It helped her realize that even with her background of being a school administrator, all those titles did not heal her. She also discovered how holding her secret negatively affected her relationship with her children. She realized that she had to forgive not just with her lips, but from her heart. God, through therapy, did surgery on her from the inside and allowed her to heal so that she could get beauty for her ashes. Now she shows up how God sees her.
Jennifer’s story will give you courage to heal so that you can tell your story and be all that God has for you too!
You're invited to get a free copy of my mini book titled The Mindset of Freedom in which you can allow God to help you make your mindset shift. Go to freed2love.com/minibook to get your copy.
Forgiveness is a daily conscious choice - you’re worth it!
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I am so excited to be baaaaack! Pandemic what!? I'm energized and refocused on the exciting things that have happened since last season and what God has in store not only for me personally, but my decision to take everything off the table EXCEPT the big dreams.
And I want that for you too!
Begin to shift your mind by grabbing your free copy of my new mini book The Mindset of Freedom, which will help you position your heart to have peace, eliminate worry and reframe your thoughts and feelings so you will go from merely surviving to thriving. Get it at www.freed2love.com/minibook.
After a sabbatical, The Freed 2 Love Podcast is coming back for Season 4! But before we launch, we wanted to offer a look back at 2020.
Here are some of the highlights:
- Desirae King started us out by telling us to F-those people
- How important your Yes is and raggedy brokenness
- Breakthroughs
- Empty chair experience
- My why
- The Souls of Black People
- That and more...
Keturah Rosato is a mental health practitioner, faith based women’s empowerment expert, and founder of Momentum Woman, a movement that helps women discover and activate their potential so they can create a beautiful life from the inside out.
At the core of our rich conversation was the fact that racism and its affects on a person has to do with identity. She also has a very insightful definition of racism and has a unique perspective on the topic as she is married to a white man.
She also explains how she was the first person to be racist against herself and how we can avoid putting ourselves in difficult positions in terms of race.
Hear her answer to my question when I ask her if her attraction to white men have anything to do with her upbringing in St. Lucia.
Listen in as I chat with 21-year-old Jael Kerandi, a senior majoring in finance and marketing at the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis, the city that caught the attention of the world when protesters took to the streets to demand justice for George Floyd who was killed by police on May 25 — approximately 15 minutes away from the University of Minnesota’s campus.
I first learned about Jael's letter on Instagram via her roommate. The demand for action in 24 hours is what caught my eye. Jael wrote a passionate letter to university president Joan Gabel calling for the university to completely terminate its relationship with Minneapolis Police Department.
“The Minneapolis Police Department has repeatedly demonstrated with their actions that Black bodies are expendable to them,” Kerandi wrote. “This is a norm that we have been desensitized to due to its frequency. Black people have been killed by the Minneapolis Police Department at 13.2 times the rate of white people. It is disgusting and it is unacceptable. A part of the Twin Cities campus is embedded within the confines of Minneapolis and students often are under the jurisdiction of the Minneapolis Police Department, a dubious status for any person of color. MPD has continually shown disregard for the welfare and rights of people of color on our campus.” She signed the letter, “With deep loss, disgust, and exhaustion, Jael Kerandi, a Black woman. The Undergraduate Student Body President.”
Kerandi gave Gabel and the university 24 hours to respond to her request. The next day, Gabel responded with a letter of her own—saying the University of Minnesota would stop contracting with MPD for support during large campus events or for specialized services.
This swift action, in my opinion is what I believe reignited the Black Lives Matter movement and its spread across the world. This was definitely different and people took notice because we could not deny or ignore any longer since we were all sheltering-at-home and watching.
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"It's been a long time comin', but I know, I know, a change gon come"
I wept bitterly after reading the Facebook post of Lauren Parlette. (https://www.facebook.com/8911483/posts/10102920406254340/?extid=v4pbEwnetTjN9GwM&d=n)
For years, as a Christian, I’d been hurt by some white Christians. I could never understand why and how I was treated differently because I was taught that as far as identity is concerned, you are Christian first and your racial identity second.
Well, I came to EXPERIENCE that that is true EXCEPT when you’re black. It hurt deeply because I know that way is not acceptable in Gods eyes.
My white sister in Christ, Lauren Nicole Parlette healed a part of my heart by her words in her post. HEALED ME!
They are words that I’ve said. Things I’ve thought. Issues I’ve grappled with. Confusion that I’ve experienced, she articulated.
There is a reason Lauren feels the way she does and the point of view she has. Listen in to discover.
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Influencer, actor, writer, director, Landon Moss was born in Alaska and now lives in LA. The trajectory of his life changed when he left Coastal Carolina and leaving his full ride football scholarship to pursue his dreams in entertainment. Moss is known for his comedy skits on Vine and his various collaborations. Following graduation from film school, the sky is the limit. After the racial unrest and in his search for meaning he and his big sister Lauren launched a podcast called Southern Mosspitality. Not only is Landon Moss all of that he is also my godson.
Learn the concerns that millennials are thinking about following the racial unrest. There is a big opportunity because so many of them are unsure and looking for answers. Some of the questions are about:
- White God
- Christian slave owners
- Where Christians stand
- How they are questioning everything they've been taught
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This episode is for you if you've ever:
- Been passed over or looked over for a promotion
- Been told that you need to 'tone down' who you are
- Been told you are too aggressive
- Your ideas are dismissed, but others say in essence the same thing and they are applauded
- Felt like they are trying to 'put you in your place'
Listen in as I talk to Cathrine James, a seasoned professional with more than 25 years of experience. She holds a B.A. in Business with an emphasis on small businesses and entrepreneurship. Cathrine is a Success Coach, a Trauma Informed Coach and Certified John Maxwell team member whose company, Sensational Living Training & Development is changing lives.
Her proven system for breakthrough is helping women and organizations accomplish their goals. Known for her ability to bring clarity, Cathrine is passionate about helping motivated women and organizations identify obstacles, develop and implement courses of action to enhance self, leadership, communication and revenue.
Cathrine is a prolific and dynamic motivational, inspirational and compassionately disruptive speaker who empowers and emboldens audiences like none other. She has been featured on television shows, been featured on multiple radio shows and recently named by K.I.S.H Magazine as one of the Top 10 Most Influential Trendsetters. She is the Author of the number one Best Seller, The Sensational Woman.
Three of Cathrine’s greatest gifts from God include her husband of 26 years and their two adult children.
Further, she explains her take on Post Traumatic Slave Disorder which suggests that the trauma was transferred in our DNA and why African Americans health disparities may not be what we consume in our bellies, but what we consume in our minds and souls.
She admonishes us that we must not be afraid to allow things to change and just as slavery had negative effects on us, white supremacy has had negative effects on white people. Lastly, she shares that we must forgive to live from a whole space otherwise it leaves a hole in your heart.
Listen in as we go from Black Power of the 70s to Black Lives Matter of 2020 as Mrs. Barbara Sorey-Love, self proclaimed historian of her family, shares the importance of remembering our history and the stories passed down from generations. She also mentions some other subtle racist words and off hand comments and the importance of having loving parents which helped her to combat the hate of racism.
She shares the resurgence of racism in 2020 being played out with the lost cemeteries and how modern buildings and construction were built on top of them and what is being doing now.
An eye opening moment in the episode was when I was moved to compassion and nearly tears as Barbara described how Donald Trump was treated as a child and the trauma that he suffered. And we need to pray for the reporters and media on the front line.
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Season 3 ~ Conversations About Racism and Religion continues as I talk to Shae Bynes who is a passionate storyteller, bridge builder, and strategist who ignites and equips leaders to be catalysts for transformation in their spheres of influence. Shae co-founded the Kingdom Driven Entrepreneur movement in 2012 and her most popular book Grace Over Grind: How Grace Will Take Your Business Where Grinding Can’t is shifting the way people live, work, and engage the world around them.
Shae's work was influential in me starting this podcast in January 2019. During this episode some of the things we talk about are how one can care deeply about black babies inside the womb without despising a focus and work for black lives outside of the womb, her definition of mental myopia which is seeing people and situations through an “all or nothing” lens instead of Heaven’s (Kingdom) lens and her latest work surrounding #KingdomOverEverything and how God has uniquely positioned her to make an impact for racial reconciliation.
Join me as I talk with Amos Johnson Jr, PhD who leads and pastors the Church for Entrepreneurs in our Season 3 series - Conversations About Racism and Religion. One of the most intriguing points that he makes is that the "Church" created racism and the Church is going to have to provide the solution. One of the longest episodes so far, but so rich in concepts and thoughts. To summarize the major points in this episode, we talked about:
- What it will take for National Forgiveness of racism
- Forgiveness is one-sided
- Church reconciliation
- White Christians and the American flag
- The American dichotomy
- An explanation of Donald Trump
And so many more nuggets as he encourages us to stop being surprised by racism and what Black people need to do to achieve prosperity and what is holding up that prosperity.
Amos Johnson Jr, PhD leads and pastors Church for Entrepreneurs. God has given him a calling to help believers succeed at their calling. He believes a fulfilled life comes from clearly knowing what God has called you to do and doing it. Church for Entrepreneurs is a church without walls that equips believers across the world to succeed at their God-given entrepreneurial calling by teaching them the Word of God from an entrepreneurial perspective, providing them with godly counsel along their entrepreneurial journey, and praying for their success.
In the Season 3 Opening Episode, I kickoff it off with my take on race, race relations, racism, Christianity, The Church and what is at stake in America and more specifically what's at stake for Black people. I feel like The Souls of Black People are in jeopardy right now and I discuss my reasons for my position.
I talk about my own personal experiences with racism, how I grew up and how my parents shaped my thinking. I also discuss my deliverance from prejudice by watching a television Pastor and my struggles and experiences with white Christians.I make a case for why forgiveness needs to be a part of the conversation and 4 Steps that need to be taken for reconciliation. Throw in the points and positions of white Christians as it relates to Donald Trump, the "greatness" of America paradox of with its corruption and slavery and I believe that you will be challenged and encouraged so you can keep your sanity and stay the course for your life.
Season 3 of The Freed 2 Love Podcast is ALL ABOUT RACE, RACE RELATIONS, RACISM, CHRISTIANITY AND THE CHURCH. I’ve titled this season - Conversations about Racism and Religion. It is the intersection of race and religion and the goal this season is to impact the macro by changing the micro. What I mean by this is I want to change the world by changing people - one conversation at a time.
Some of you are new to my podcast, so I want to share with you what it is all about. The Freed 2 Love Podcast is a place where women share their stories and their truth. Its a safe space where they can be heard, celebrated and have real conversations that act as a catalyst for courage, strength and growth so they can break through their past and live a life of freedom through forgiveness.
Previous seasons have tackled uncomfortable conversations about adultery and sexual abuse. And this season is no different. We are covering the very hot topic of Race this season, but the angle is a little different. I am a Forgiveness Coach and I help women go from heartbreak to happy so they grow as women and have the POWER AND PASSION to be freed to love, however, in this season, I’m being called to expand to hear stories from both men and women. And to talk about the taboo subject of FORGIVENESS, RACISM AND RECONCILIATION.
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Welcome to Season 3 of The Freed 2 Love Podcast. This season is ALL ABOUT RACE, RACE RELATIONS, RACISM, CHRISTIANITY AND THE CHURCH. I’ve titled this season - Conversations about Racism and Religion. It is the intersection of race and religion and the goal this season is to impact the macro by changing the micro. What I mean by this is I want to change the world by changing people - one conversation at a time.
Previous seasons have tackled uncomfortable conversations about adultery and sexual abuse. And this season is no different. We are covering the very hot topic of Race this season, but the angle is a little different. You see, I am a Forgiveness Coach and I help women go from heartbreak to happy so they grow as women and have the POWER AND PASSION to be freed to love, however, in this season, I’m being called to expand to hear stories from both men and women. And to talk about the taboo subject of FORGIVENESS, RACISM AND RECONCILIATION.
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If you are divorced, separated or ever experienced betrayal - this episode is for YOU! Listen in as I discuss a failure in which I had a bad disagreement with my ex and the hard truth I had to face about myself and the beautiful lesson God taught me.
I share 5 Qualities of Emotionally Mature people and share how you can live outside the blessing of God by this one behavior. I also talk about how you could be blocking someone elses breakthrough and how you can get in alignment to be a receptor of blessing rather than a repellent.
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Today on the podcast, you will get a front row seat to an impromptu live coaching session with my partner in healing Zaneta Ellison. Listen in as a conversation turned in to a coachable moment as Zaneta dispels my distorted thinking during a moment in which I’d been triggered into grief.
Grief and triggers happen at the most unexpected time, but it is a part of healing.
Listen in as I start out expressing my desire for revenge and Zaneta shares that I need to express compassion instead. We discuss the realities of a broken marriage, shattered expectations, the importance of love languages and what happens when two people don’t change and operate out of brokenness.
I always keep it real, but this is the realist I’ve been on the podcast. We end the session by Zaneta inviting me to participate in an “empty chair” exercise.
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Join Zaneta Ellison and I as we have a lively discussion in which we debrief Monique Perkins Story of childhood sexual abuse and trauma that is a theme throughout her life, however, she emerges as a trophy of God's grace and is now launching a Blog that deal with matters of the heart among other things. You will enjoy the healthy disagreement that Zaneta and I had as we discuss whether or not complete healing possible.
Book mentioned:
Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health by Dr. Caroline Leaf
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Monique Perkins is a warrior Lion Queen. Her life demonstrates resilience, power, love and the strength to overcome. Surviving a lifetime of sexual abuse that started at 7 years old and continued through her marriage, she was able to break through by the power of God and a loving Spiritual Father and Mother.
Her healing is primed for a major breakthrough as she soon is to meet with one of her abusers who quite possibly may be living his last days. This abuser, who silenced her through his abuse, is now silenced as he cannot speak. Listen in to this powerful story of triumph.
Listen in as Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Zaneta Ellison and I debrief Naiza Ariceli's story. Naiza tells of how she became intimately familiar with trauma and stress early on in life. Through body movement and therapy she has found new life after childhood sexual abuse and divorce.
To reach Zaneta Ellison, please visit her website www. newvisionbehavioralhealth.com. To schedule time to chat with Stephanie click talk2stephanie.com.
Listen in as Naiza Ariceli tells her story of how she became intimately familiar with trauma and stress early on in life. As a lifelong proponent and student of body movement, she found herself coming alive after childhood sexual abuse and divorce.
She learned that going backwards helped her move forward with the discovery of trauma-informed yoga, Pilates and functional movement training. This combination of physical movement alongside mental health therapy was the solid foundation from which she was able to release, heal and recover.
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Join Licensed Mental Health Therapist Zaneta Ellison and I as we celebrate what a healed life looks like. You will be encouraged and uplifted as we break down Desirae King's story.
I mentioned a FREE resource, Relationship Red Flags, in this episode. Click HERE to access it free.
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Desirae King is a motivational speaker, author, teacher, life coach, and mentor. Her life story reads like a blockbuster movie - full of abandonment and heartache. It is the type of drama that could only be experienced from growing up on the unforgiving streets of Cleveland, Ohio. Out of her own personal pain a dynamic spiritual awakening was born, and Desirae realized her God-given gift of encouraging captivated audiences. Her oratory skills have a transformational effect and she brings all of that energy to this interview.
She tells the story of her life as a little girl who learned at an early age what it feels like to be forgotten and abused but later grows up to be inspire many with her talks.
In this episode, she reads an excerpt of her book "Dysfunction is the New Normal" dramatically detailing the events surrounding her sexual assault. She later shares how 20 years had passed since the incident and the offender was still taking up residence in her head. She exclaims that you have to F these people and its not the word you think. Her word is forgiveness.
She is now on a crusade to help teens 'disable their labels' so they can fulfill their purpose and destiny. You can find her at desiraeinspires.com.
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Listen in as my partner in healing, Zaneta Ellison and I debrief the very powerful, transparent and triumphant story of Chivon Cowart, a sexual abuse thriver and now innovative, diverse and creative Social Worker. Chivon's area of specialization is trauma. She shares her story of how she overcame childhood sexual abuse and now she is paying by helping little girls and women who suffered the way she did.
Mentioned in this Episode
2 Corinthians 1:4
He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
James 2:17
Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
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Colossians 1:16
...for through him God created everything in the heavenly realms and on earth. He made the things we can see and the things we can’t see— such as thrones, kingdoms, rulers, and authorities in the unseen world. Everything was created through him and for him.
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This very powerful, transparent and triumphant story of Chivon Cowart, a sexual abuse thriver and now innovative, diverse and creative Social Worker whose area of specialization is trauma will encourage you whether you've had this type of experience or not. She shares her story of how she overcame the worse time in her life and now she is paying it forward by not only earning her associates, bachelors and masters degrees, but she is now helping little girls and women who suffered the way she did.
She overcame this dark experience in her life by forgiving her offender because she said realized that she 'kept giving him the happiness and joy she deserved'. Along her journey of healing she also questioned God and He responded with something so powerful that it gave her the strength to do what she does today.
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Sometimes when people think of prayer, they think it’s way more than it has to be. They think it is this big elaborate speech in a particular place at a particular time. Not necessarily. Prayer is as simple as having a conversation with God. Its purpose is to develop a relationship with Him. I also share a method of prayer that will help you to pray when you don't have the words to do so.
Even if you mentally assent to the fact that “yes” submission is a good thing and began to think about the word submission you may discover that submission is a form of protection. You submit to all kinds of things all day every day.
Over the years I’ve been fascinated with that word. I’ve studied it. I’ve read books about it. I’ve listened to teachings and tapes about it.
Still, I didn’t do it.
Listen in as I come to terms with the word and maybe you will too.
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I continue my series talking about my foundational principle of P.R.E.S.S. which is a message impressed upon me from God. P.R.E.S.S. stands for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication. It is a call to action and a call for action when you are about to snap or give up, but you know you are destined to move forward.
I am specifically talking about endurance as it relates to the ride or die culture of today's society. I explore when to endure and when not to endure.
Join me in this episode as I chat with my very dear friend Lt Col Leslie Braggs who is a Physicians Assistant in the United States Army, a combat veteran of 27 years of service, mother of 3 and a newlywed. She is also an ordained minister and the Founder of the Issues of Life International Women’s Ministry. This ministry is dedicated to spreading the Gospel of Jesus Christ through loving actions. It is her mission to empower women worldwide to overcome their issues and experience a victorious and virtuous life through the applications of the teachings of Jesus.
In this candid conversation, we explore how it isn't wise to try to get over one relationship by starting another one which is a strategy that so many people use.
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In this episode, I discuss 10 Ways to Build Resilience in your life. Resilience is your ability to bounce back after difficulty.
After having suffered three major losses in 2019 - a divorce finalized in March, my spiritual mother passing away in May and my own mother passing away in June, I am glad to have my spiritual practice of P.R.E.S.S. in my toolbox. P.R.E.S.S. stands for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication and is a call to action and a call for action when you want to give up, give in or give out.
I have found it to be critical in living a lifestyle of forgiveness. Practicing this on a continual basis has not only caused me to bounce back, but I am thriving and happy and experiencing the joy of The Lord!
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Perseverance separates the winners from the losers in not only sports but life. Continuing to explore my foundational principle of P.R.E.S.S., in this episode I am discussing perseverance. I am answering the question of what makes some people able to keep pressing to completion to the end while others habitually give up, quit or don't follow through.
Research has proved that the game changer is dopamine. Dopamine, a neurotransmitter, is the fuel that keeps people motivated to persevere and achieve a goal. It plays a major role in the motivational component of reward-motivated behavior.
Creating a steady flow of dopamine is primary to creating a habit of perseverance. And it is not something reserved for a few--it is available to you!
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Listen as Stephanie shares how and why forgiveness is possible for Brandt Jean, brother of Botham Jean, an unarmed Dallas man who was fatally killed by former Dallas police officer, Amber Guyger who was sentenced to 10 years in prison. It has set off a national debate on forgiveness, race and justice in America.
Stephanie explains that “Forgiveness is not about the offender, but about the offended. When you forgive someone, you set yourself free. You allow the channel for healing and freedom to flow freely. It can be very therapeutic.”
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Join Stephanie as she introduces her foundational principle - P.R.E.S.S. which stands for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication. It is a call to action and for action to yourself designed to equip you with the tools you need on the inside to achieve goals, gain clarity and tackle lifes’ obstacles.
It is important to P.R.E.S.S. to have a:
- Forgiveness Mindset
- Success
- Goal
- Live life
Stephanie also introduces the concept of a forgiveness mindset and its importance. A forgiveness mindset enables you to release toxic thoughts of anger, resentment, bitterness, shame, grief, regret, guilt, and hate. It disentangles you from the source of the issue, removing the negative energy from toxic thinking.
For the next 5 episodes, she will explore each principle in the concept.
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Join Zaneta and I as we share a very candid conversation about grief, forgiveness and healing. I share some of my struggles of being a Forgiveness Coach and my struggles with forgiveness. We also discuss what it takes to forgive and live a lifestyle of freedom and how you can tell if you have forgiven.
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We often think about grief, pain and loss as something you want to avoid at all costs. This is true. However, you as a person in this human experience cannot avoid suffering or pain. In this episode, I share my personal journey of grief and forgiveness following 3 major losses for me this year. The finality of my divorce, my Spiritual Mothers death and the death of my dear Mama.
I share a transparent moment in which I reveal the fact that I, as a Forgiveness Coach, had not forgiven my ex-husband.
I also share the beauty of forgiveness and the blessings it brings not only to your life, but to your future life.
I mentioned the upcoming launch of the Freed 2 Love Bootcamp. Learn more by going to freed2loveme.com.
Listen in as we discuss what happened after Episode 14 where we discussed how God validated my purpose by involving me in the last moments in my Mama's life on this earth. If you've ever doubted God's intricate and specific involvement in your life, this can encourage you.
Listen in to hear the breakdown of my personal story by Licensed Mental Health Therapist, Zaneta Ellison. In the recording she talks about how I learned to keep secrets at the age of 5, what rage is actually about and how divorce isn't just a couples issue - its a community issue.
She highlights how I can be a pitbull when it comes to unforgiveness and how God actually uses our weaknesses for the benefit of others. In the end, she shares that God wants us to love freely so we can be Free to Love!
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After interviewing a few people, finally, I'm the one being interviewed. Listen in as my dear friend and former journalist, Nicole Hutcheson interviews me. I share my story of the ups, downs and triumphs of life. You get a glimpse of the passion behind my drive to see every person being healed and whole - body, spirit and soul.
In this episode we breakdown Tray Kearney's Story of the It's Healing Time and #nosidechicking Movement. She is a Healthy Love Coach, Two time Author, Speaker and Certified Life Coach. As she puts it, “she deals with matters of the heart”. She has a talk show - Coffee With T that broadcasts regularly.
Listen as we talk about the dangers of hiding secrets and why you should not depend on friends when you are in trouble or have hardships. We also talk about generational patterns and triggers and how your children may be 'catching' what you're doing, but not necessarily what you are saying.
I share some truth bombs as I reveal some residue that I need to clear. Another eye opening moment was when we encouraged parents who've made mistakes to 'take your journey off of your children's backs' as Tray articulated it.
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This episode is being broadcasted posthumously with Mrs. Laura Randolph whom I affectionately call Honey Gramm and she is also my Spiritual Mother. Listen in as she drops wisdom on:
- Living in harmony with your husband
- Her best advice for working mothers
- Her encouragement for single mothers
- How to discern true friends
- When to follow your husband and when not to
- The consequences of a a wife's actions
And many more. She also discusses the importance of knowing God for yourself and having daily quiet time. You don't want to miss this journey of a Woman who walked faithfully with God.
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Have you ever felt unqualified to do what you know you are called to do? Have you ever felt like you have too many flaws to move forward with what you know your heart is saying? If you've ever been ashamed of your past, this episode can free you!
Listen in as we talk about overcoming your past so you can invite healing, truth, authenticity, transparency, health, wholeness, purpose and ultimately significance.
Tray Kearney is an Author, Entrepreneur, Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and the creator and host of the Woman to Woman Show. Her most important title is “Woman of God.” Several years ago Tray decided to share her story of heartache and pain. This included infidelity and she does not deny that she has been the offender.
One of her favorite lines is “I am not judging you, I used to be you.” (referring to sidechicks) As she healed, she grew. Now her mission is to help women through the steps of healing through conferences, radio, blogs, television and coaching. She hosts an open platform that addresses women who have been hurt from many issues, but the biggest topic is being hurt as a result of infidelity and how to snatch back your life.
In this episode, Tray not only has two a ha moments of her own, she shares that she is not mad at sidechicks. (as some on the surface followers may believe). She explains that when you grow up in dysfunction, you get confused about what is normal. Further, self-awareness causes you to be accountable. You are who you are based on your choices. And, you know if you are growing if you are changing.
Tray also talks about how when a mother commits adultery, it affects the children. One of the lessons that infidelity taught her is the importance of honesty and transparency especially with her children. The fact that she has had those hard conversations, her son can have his own journey because she took her journey off his back.
You can connect with Tray at traykearney.com.
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Join Zaneta Ellison, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Stephanie McNeal, Forgiveness Catalyst as we break down Kiera's Story "Perfect Family No More". Kiera is a 23-year-old millennial who is working hard to live her best life.
In this episode we talk about the steps to minimize divorce trauma for children, compulsive self-reliance and emotional regulation. We discuss how children are 'silent audiences' when turmoil occurs in a marriage especially when parents think children don't know what is going on.
Listen in as Zaneta encourages us to be authentic and transparent because hiding, pushing down or denying our feelings can make us have low self esteem and/or depression. We discovered that the truth can hurt, but ultimately it heals. Also, that it is important that children maintain boundaries within their own lives and be careful not to own their parents problems.
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Listen in as you hear the story of Kiera a kind, sweet, millennial who is wiser than her age. She shares her story of how she felt as she experienced her parents infidelity and had to put on a positive face. She also felt pressure to be perfect in order to keep peace. She talks about how being in sports kept her on the right track - focused and moving forward as she navigated and lived through her parents divorce. During the interview, she experiences an aha moment and realizes how she is beginning the same pattern as her mother.
Listen to our new segment - Thoughts Renewed - which is designed to inspire you to think about your own story and use it as a catalyst for advancing your life. In this episode, we break down Diann’s story and patterns of secrets, deception, unhealthy relationships, poor communication, traumatic processing and other historical wounds.
Our patterns speak louder than our words and we look at learned behavior of anger. If anger is a learned behavior, this episode will help you see, be aware and unlearn these unhelpful behaviors.
We offer tips on how to learn more healthy ways to express anger. You will also hear how Zaneta coached me on the episode and broke down the message I received from my Mother suppressing her anger.
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Part 3 is the conclusion of Diann's Story is where she shares how infidelity crept in to her own marriage, what she is learning about herself and the impact its had on her life. She shares how the patterns that she experienced in her childhood was carried over in to her marriage. Listen in and as you hear her story, think about your own.
Its never too late to start again and when I launched this podcast in January, I was in the middle of a lot, however, I had no idea the impact that it would have on me. There are a lot of details but majorly I purchased a new home and was displaced (and feeling homeless) for the entire month of February while renovations (that I managed by myself) was going on. Then MOVING in to our new home and finalizing my divorce. To hear the rest of my start again, hit play!
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Part 2 of this very personal and intimate interview with Diann who continues her story of the ways that infidelity was introduced to her in her childhood. She transitions into adulthood and her own marriage and how unfortunately, infidelity seeps in to her own marriage.
This very personal and intimate interview with Diann a woman who describes herself as an encourager of youth and young adults to seek after and achieve their highest potential. Inside the podcast, Diann shares her story of how the sting of infidelity has been woven throughout her life from her early childhood and carried to and through her marriage.
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The Freed 2 Love Podcast is where women share their stories and their truth - where they can be heard, celebrated and have real conversations that act as a catalyst for courage, strength and growth so they can break through their past and live a life of freedom through forgiveness.
The podcast has been germinating for 4 years and finally is here. In this first episode Host Stephanie McNeal discusses the meaning behind the foundational principle of her call to action and call for action P.R.E.S.S. and why it is important to P.R.E.S.S. in difficulties and in life.
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