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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about resistance.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about what being against things does to your vibration.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. If you’ve been craving more clarity in your Law of Attraction practice… if you sometimes find yourself second-guessing, overthinking, or over-efforting your way through manifesting… well, I’ve created something just for you.
Clarity Classes are here.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about what you’ve been missing if you haven’t signed up for Vibe Notes.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about popping out of alignment.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
ResourcesYour Vibrational Set Point: Understanding the the Energy Behind What You Attract
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
4 things to do when you pop out of alignment
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about keeping up with the Joneses.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
ResourcesYour Vibrational Set Point: Understanding the the Energy Behind What You Attract
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
4 things to do when you pop out of alignment
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about why manifesting isn’t something you hustle—and what to do instead.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about the 17-second rule.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
ResourcesYour Vibrational Set Point: Understanding the the Energy Behind What You Attract
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
4 things to do when you pop out of alignment
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about clutter.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
ResourcesYour Vibrational Set Point: Understanding the the Energy Behind What You Attract
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
4 things to do when you pop out of alignment
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to chat about a common manifesting block.
I intend for LoA Coffee Chats to be casual, alignment-rich conversations over a virtual up of coffee.
So pull up a chair, pour your favorite brew, and join me for thoughtful reflections on living intentionally, raising your vibration, and embracing the Law of Attraction in everyday life.
Whether you’re deep in your LoA journey or just starting out, there’s always room at the table.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what my post-vacation vibration.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happened when I returned from a fabulous trip to Stockholm and Oslo
- What was really missing when I returned home
- The importance of checking in with contrast
- The state of allowing that comes when you realize you are always on your way to something more
- The post-vacation space I’m living in right now that changed my vibration
Quotable
“You’re always always, always going to be on your way to something more—always. And when you relax and accept that and stop beating up on yourself for not being someplace that you’re not and instead starting embracing where you are while you keep your eye and where you’re going—now life becomes really really really fun.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the real reason behind a feeling of shortage.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why shortage of time or money is not your real problem
- What a feeling of competition or limitation of resources means about your alignment
- Why Abraham says there is no lack
- What you will feel anytime you are focused on shortage
- How abundance comes to you through your vibrational payments
Quotable
“Shortage of time is not your problem. Shortage of money is not your problem. Shortage of connection to the Energy that creates worlds is at the heart of all sensations of shortage that you are experiencing.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how you could be allowing others to undermine your point of attraction.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A slippery slope you might find yourself on when it comes to deliberate creation
- Something I used to do all the time before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction
- The “yes, but” many of us want to say when it comes to our happiness
- What Abraham ants you to tell everyone
Quotable
“I am the only one responsible for how I feel.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the all-too-common manifesting block of a vibrational gap.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What I have found one of the most challenging and liberating things about Law of Attraction
- Why postponing how you want to feel is bad for manifesting
- The often big vibrational gap that exists for some around abundance
- Why offering a vibration that matches what-is only gets you more of what-is
- What you want to practice until you own the frequency of
Quotable
“You are the one who has to meet what you want at the vibration where it is at…” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how to use the guidance of negative emotion.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Perhaps a new way to think about—and use—negative emotion
- Why the particular negative emotion you’re experiencing doesn’t really matter
- A personal example of pivoting
- What your emotions have to do with your relationship with your own desire
- What to say to yourself when you feel any low-vibe emotion
Quotable
“Every negative emotion, no matter how strong or mild it is, means you are pointed in the opposite direction of what you are wanting.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the path of least resistance.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why being in perpetual problem-solving mode is not the path of least resistance
- A few questions about love you might not have considered
- How planning for the future can lower your point of attraction
- What is always available to you no matter what else is going on in your life
Quotable
“You didn’t come here to fix things that are broken, or to know things you don’t know. You came because life on the path of least resistance is a delicious state of being. And you are in love with life, and you are in love with you, and you are in love with being in love with life.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how focusing on the timing of what you want could actually be delaying your manifestation.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why focusing on the timing of what you want could be missing the larger leverage you have
- What often comes along when you focus on the timing of your desired manifestation
- What my client’s focus on her upcoming birthday did to her vibration
- How being very aware of where you are can block what you want
- What the Universe knows about what you want
Quotable
“It doesn’t take time it just takes alignment.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Many of us—at least sometimes—make many other things primary before alignment.
We make our To Do list primary. We make pleasing others primary. We may keeping up with the Joneses primary. We make what other people are doing or not doing primary. We make all kinds of circumstances and conditions primary before our alignment.
“Let your alignment be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary. And not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that down.” —Abraham
Let’s shine a light on this key wisdom, this wise advice.
“Let your alignment be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary.”
Abraham really doesn’t offer us any wiggle room about alignment. Abraham doesn’t say make alignment first and foremost with a little asterisk—except for these situations, these circumstances.
Nope. Let your alignment be first and foremost. No matter what. 24/7. 365 days a year. Oh—Leap Year—366 days. At all times.
At work, at home, on vacation. When your spouse is doing whatever your spouse is doing, regardless of your relationship status, and the state of your finances. Let your alignment be first and foremost. When it’s raining and when your favorite pair of jeans no longer fit. When your child brings home a less than stellar report card and when you oversleep. Let your alignment be first and foremost. When the service is slow and the diagnosis comes. When your mother-in-law criticizes your parenting and when your boss moves up the deadline.
On any given day, no matter what is going on around you, let your alignment be first and foremost.
This means prioritizing the way you feel. It means making feeling good your #1 priority.* It means choosing to think in ways that allow you to feel good. * It means taking your attention off unwanted and putting it on wanted. * It means appreciating rather than complaining. * It means choosing to find the relief of better-feeling thoughts and moving up the emotional scale.
Law of Attraction is never judging you for being out of alignment, judging you for your misalignment, for putting any number of other things ahead of your alignment.
While Law of Attraction isn’t judging, LoA can only respond to the vibration you’re offering. And so when you are not in alignment—when you have put other things ahead of your own alignment—Law of Attraction can only respond accordingly.
This is why Abraham is saying to let your alignment be first and foremost.
I’ve noticed many of us do this selectively, myself included.We have moments—pockets of time, perhaps even streaks of days—where we do, indeed, make our alignment first and foremost. We feel really dialed into our Law of Attraction practice.
And then life happens.
Circumstances and conditions unfold and occur in our lives. As always, some of those are wanted and some are unwanted. And suddenly or slowly…our alignment is no longer primary.
I had a client the other day say recently she got so busy at work and in her home life, and alignment went out the window. She said, I was too busy to be in alignment.
“When you find alignment, the conditions will not matter.” —Abraham
It is precisely in those moments when you realize you are misaligned or you are headed at least in the direction of misalignment—in those moments when you have not made your alignment primary—it is in those moments when you really want to reconnect with this LoA touchstone: “Let your alignment be first and foremost.”
Pause in those moments and notice you are at the crossroads: Alignment that way, misalignment the other way.If you go that way, you’re making your alignment primary. If you head in the other direction, you are letting circumstances and conditions be primary.
When the latter happens, it will not ultimately be a journey that you want to go on.
On the other hand, if you let your alignment be first and foremost and everything else be secondary, “not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience.
That’s a pretty grand promise, isn’t it? And yet, it’s the very promise of Law of Attraction.
“There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that down.”
Joyful equals alignment. Of course, so do any other high vibe emotions like empowerment, freedom and love, like appreciation, passion and happiness, like positive expectation and optimism.
Any emotion that feels good equals alignment.
“Alignment is leverage.” —Abraham
Alignment is the pathway, the ticket, the price you pay to both the joyous journey and having everything you ever imagined flow effortlessly into your experience.
One of my favorite quotes about alignment is this: “It doesn’t take time it just takes alignment.” —Abraham
So often when we are not getting what we want, when our desires are slow to manifest, it’s so helpful to realize or remember that manifesting what you want is not about time—how long it will take, how many days, weeks, months, years…instead, it’s about alignment.
“Every day more wonderful things are showing up in your experience. And your effort factor is becoming less and less while your alignment factor is becoming more and more.” —Abraham
I invite you to think about what you have been making primary.This self assessment is not intended to be harsh or take yourself to task. You can gently, lovingly consider what you’ve been making primary.
I know there are times if you were to ask me, Jennifer, have you made alignment primary today?, my answer would be, No I haven’t.
It was my intention… But it’s not how I actually showed up. I did not make alignment primary. I am not even sure it was secondary.
When I realize this, I don’t beat myself up. Beating yourself up just adds to the compromised vibration you’ve been offering when alignment is not primary.
I simply see the realization that alignment has not been primary as guidance. My intention is to make my alignment first and foremost. And to practice this on a daily basis.
I don’t do it perfectly, that’s for sure, but when I realize I’m off track— that I’ve been putting circumstances and conditions, no matter what they are—ahead of my own alignment, I do a reset. I re-orient in the direction of alignment; I head in the direction of alignment.
What about you? Will you let your alignment be first and foremost?
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about alignment as leverage.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What Abraham says to make primary and why there’s no wiggle room about it
- What to remember in relation to Law of Attraction not judging you
- What to do when you’re at the crossroads of alignment and misalignment
- How to get more wonderful things to show up in your life experience
Quotable
“Let your alignment (with Well-Being) be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary. And not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that down.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Let’s start with this: Confusion is an emotion that serves no purpose.
What you attract from the vibration of confusion is not what you want.
And when you allow confusion to linger, it creates momentum. A confused, unclear-in-your-mind, I-can’t-decide, I-don’t-know emotional state takes on a life of its own.
I’ll put it another way: When you indulge in confusion, you add to your confusion.Repeatedly saying I don’t know what I want or thinking I don’t know how to get what I want is not helpful in getting you to clarity.
Just as the solution is at a different vibration than the problem, so it is for clarity and confusion. You don’t have access to clarity when you are vibrating at confusion.
“… confusion is you not in sync with your Inner Being…” —Abraham
I want to talk about four types of confusion I commonly encounter with my coaching clients, and look at each type through the lens of Law of Attraction. I want to help you recognize where you might be offering the vibration of confusion—and, more importantly, how you can move toward clarity.
Here are four common types of confusion:
- I don’t know what I want.
- I don’t know how to get what I want.
- I know what I want, but contradict it.
- I don’t have what I want, and make that mean something has gone wrong.
Personally, the second one—I don’t know how to get what I want—used to be a big one for me. That was my go-to type of confusion before my obsession with Law of Attraction.
What about you? Which type of confusion is familiar?
Now take a moment and consider how you feel when you experience confusion.
- You don’t feel good when you don’t know what you want.
- You don’t feel good when you don’t know how to get what you want.
- You don’t feel good when you know what you want but then negate having it.
- And you certainly don’t feel good when you don’t have what you want and make that mean something has gone wrong and you are off track.
My point: Confusion does not feel good.Let’s ground this in Law of Attraction 101: How you feel is your point of attraction.
When you vibrate confusion, you attract circumstances and conditions that match up. You attract more uncertainty, more doubt. More on the same muddled frequency.
Bottom line: You do not want confusion to be your point of attraction. You do not want to attract circumstances and conditions, people and things that are a match to confusion.
Confusion is a poor point of attraction and feels lousy.
Clarity, on the other hand, feels really good and is an ideal point of attraction.Clarity is a whole other energy than confusion.
“Clarity is alignment. Clarity is a clear impulse of where to go. Clarity is trusting the path. Clarity is not standing in a wobbly place. Clarity is that momentum that has no resistance, and when you’re in that place of clarity, the feeling what to do next is right there.” —Abraham
Imagine a time when you experienced clarity.
When you have clarity, when you are certain, when you are free of doubt, when you have an inner knowing, you feel good. You feel energized. You feel in the downstream flow of that clarity.
I probably don’t need to spend a lot of time making a case for clarity over confusion. I don’t think any of us is walking around saying, Oh I really want to be confused. I love living in a state of confusion.
Of course not. But…too many of us are willing—or at least we have been—to offer a vibration of confusion. Too many of us are willing to accept confusion as a normal, natural state.
But it’s not natural. Clarity is what’s natural. Your connection to clarity is natural. And so if you are in a state of confusion, it is because you are disallowing the clarity that is natural to you.
“It is good to feel good. Clarity is your natural state of being.” —Abraham
Let’s dive a little deeper into the four common types of confusion. Starting with: I don’t know what I want.
- Alma is struggling to decide about making a career change. She says, I don’t know if I have what it takes to start over.
- Jada can’t decide if she’s in the right relationship. She says, I don’t know if this is the person I’m meant to be with.
You may have a vision board with crystal clear desires reflected on it…or you may not know exactly what it is you are wanting to manifest. Perhaps there is an area of your life where you are vibrating at confusion rather than clarity.
Now, sometimes the so-called confusion of I don’t know what I want is really masking a knowing accompanied by a whole lot of doubt and a slew of limiting beliefs. It has become easier to say I don’t know what I want rather than I know exactly what I want, but am afraid I don’t have what it takes to create it.
You might want to check in with any confusion you’ve been experiencing along the lines of I don’t know what I want and make sure it’s not I do know, but I’m filled with doubt and disbelief.
If you really don’t know what you want, I’ve found it very helpful to let the Universe know that you want to know. You can say, very simply: I want to know what I want.
Then start paying attention. Watch what starts to show up, what is revealed, what becomes clear. Start noticing and appreciating the clarity.
Even if you don’t know the particulars of what you want—yet—you do know how you want to feel. So that’s a beautiful place to start.
“Keep your focus on how you want to feel and let the Universe fill in the details.” —Abraham
I’ll bet if I asked you how you want to feel, you would have complete and utter clarity. So start there. And as you focus on aligning with those desired feelings, the Universe will fill in the details.
You can also start with what you don’t want.
“Always, when you know what you don’t want, that’s when the rocket of desire is born of what you do want.” —Abraham
And so each time, as you know what you don’t want, remember what that really means. Don’t lose sight of the gift available to you when you know what you don’t want. Because in that moment there is no confusion, only clarity. The clarity of what you do want.
Let’s move on to the second type of confusion: I don’t know how to get what I want.
I want you to hear this loud and clear: Focusing on how when you don’t know how causes confusion.
“When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there’s usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you’re going to get it. When you pose questions you don’t have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.” —Abraham
That contradictory vibration is confusion.
Your job is not to figure out how. That’s a relief, right?! Because right away you can move away from confusion and toward clarity if it’s not your job to figure out how to get what you want.
Instead, your job is to be in vibrational alignment with your desire.
- Your job is to get in alignment and take inspired action.
- Your job is to listen to your intuition and be open to what the Universe is flowing to you.
Your job is to manage your mind, tend to your point of attraction, find the feeling-place of what you want, and allow it to unfold.
You can be curious about the how, but don’t put your emphasis there.
“Focus on the essence of what you want. This opens the path to clarity. If you can find general clarity, LoA will bring you specific clarity.” —Abraham
If you have been in a state of confusion because you’ve been focused on how, I encourage you to release the resistance of that vibration.
Embrace what you want, and be absolutely OK with not knowing how—not knowing the exact steps and process. Stay in the what and why—what you want and why you want it. That’s where you’ll find the Universe working its magic.
Let’s move on to the third type of confusion is: I know what I want, but contradict it.
Here’s what many of us do. We start out thinking or talking about what we are wanting. We might even get some momentum and clarity in that direction, which feels so good.
But then what do we do?
We negate what we want with “but”. We doubt ourselves. Our limiting beliefs come into play.
We introduce confusion in our vibration with “but”. Here are some examples:
- I want a healthy relationship, but I don’t know if he will ever change.
- I really want a long-term partner, but all my past relationships have been short-lived.
- I want to meet someone, but it’s hard where I live.
I want this, but that.
What follows “but” negates your desire with all the reasons it won’t happen or can’t happen. What follows “but” contradicts your desire by shifting your focus in opposition to what you want.
- When you know what you want and focus there, there is clarity.
- When you contradict what you want, there is confusion.
“When you don’t have contradiction in your thoughts, you have clarity.” —Abraham
Clarity is lost when you contradict your own desire—when you think about what you want and then negate it with doubt and disbelief.
“Clarity means attention to something without contradicting it.” —Abraham
This means you can have clarity right now, right this instant, if you give your attention to what you want and don’t contradict what you want with what you don’t want.
The minute you veer your focus off the path of what is wanted, you start contradicting your desire. And when you do this, you introduce confusion into the mix.
Clarity, which is the opposite of confusion, is when you give your attention to something purely.
Every time you shift your focus and attention from what you want to what you don’t want, you are splitting the flow of your energy.
I really want to emphasize: Contradicting your own desire results in all kinds of confusion in the vibration you offer. It’s as if you’re doing a two-step dance, I want this, but it’s not possible. I want that, but it won’t happen. I want this, but doubt. I want that, but don’t believe.
The only way the Universe can respond to your mixed vibration is with a mixed bag of manifestations.
“When you no longer split your flow of energy with contradictory thoughts, you will know your power.” —Abraham
Because, believe me, there is power in clarity.
And now to the fourth type of confusion: I don’t have what I want, and make that mean something has gone wrong.
“Don’t let any place that you are standing frighten you. All it is, is a byproduct of some Energy alignment, which only gives you stronger clarity about what you want — and, most importantly, greater sensitivity about whether you’re in a receiving mode or locked off of it.” —Abraham
When you look around and what you want has not yet manifested—you are single and want to be in a relationship, you are renting and want to own a home, you are working at a job you don’t like and want a fulfilling job you love, you are looking at a pile of bills and want financial abundance—when where you are standing is not where you want to be, Abraham says that is offering you even stronger clarity about what you want.
Most of us experience contrast in a much more emotionally charged way. We let the place we are standing frighten us or disappoint us or anger us or frustrate us or overwhelm us.
But Abraham is saying there is so much clarity in that moment of contrast—if you choose to turn toward the clarity.
Where you are standing is just the byproduct of Energy alignment. Period. Period. Period.
We so often complicate it and make it mean a thousand other things. So let me say it again: Where you are standing is the byproduct, the side effect, the consequence of Energy alignment.
What if you look at where you are standing simply as feedback about whether you are in receiving mode?
- Nothing has gone wrong, you’re just getting feedback.
- You’re not off track, you’re just getting feedback.
When you don’t have what you want and you make that mean you are off track or something has gone wrong, you’re not understanding the value of contrast.
“When you understand the value of contrast, then you don’t leave your Inner Being who always understands the value of contrast. So then contrast doesn’t feel like negative emotion, it doesn’t feel like defeat—it feels like opportunity. It doesn’t feel like confusion, it feels like clarity. It doesn’t feel like something’s gone wrong, it feels like everything is going right.” —Abraham
When you haven’t yet manifested what you want, don’t make that feel like confusion. Make that feel like clarity.
Because the contrast you are experiencing is clarifying your preferences and helping you launch rockets of desire. The contrast is helping you focus, which is crucial for clarity.
“What if your own Inner Being is guiding you to contrast for the benefit of the clarity it will bring?” —Abraham
Isn’t that an uplifting way to look at contrast? Wherever you are standing right now in relation to what you want, nothing has gone wrong and you aren’t off track.
I encourage you to lean into clarity rather than confusion. Nothing you want is along the pathway of confusion. Align your energy with clarity. Clarity will take you where you want to go.
As you focus on aligning your energy with what you do want, when you close the vibrational gap between where you are now standing and what you are wanting to manifest, when you fully get in receiving mode—boom!—what you want manifests in your life experience.
“You want to be in this body so that the life that surrounds you can inspire within you an individual focus of what your interest is so that you take from the chaos of All That Is some feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.” —Abraham
Notice Abraham acknowledges the “chaos of All That Is”. Meaning there is endless variety to life and people who think this way and that way and do things this way and that way. Which means there are so many ways you can think and feel and act.
There is confusion in that chaos.
And you will feel confusion in the midst of the chaos of All That Is if you don’t focus on what feels good to you. The way out of confusion, the way to steer clear of confusion is the individual focus Abraham describes.
Let the great variety of life inspire within you an individual focus of what your interest is so you can tap into the feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.
So often we want to complicate this. We want to say that’s not the pathway from confusion to clarity. That it won’t work or is selfish. That is must be more complicated than that or harder.
But it’s really not.
I want you to move with ease from confusion to clarity.In fact, I don’t want you to just be free of confusion. I want you to be full of clarity.
Let the contrast of life inspire a focus within you. And as always with Law of Attraction, let your emotions guide you to clarity. It’s time to tap into that feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.
“Clarity is the manifestation of alignment. Clarity is a wonderful feeling, the result of a lot of momentum with no resistance.” —Abraham
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why minding your own business is lowering your point of attraction. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- One of the things I love about Law of Attraction
- An area of opportunity for improving my point of attraction that recently surfaced
- What causes confusion and chatter in your vibration
- What Abraham says is your only business
Quotable
“The secret of the Universe really is minding your own business. What we mean by that is: Don’t get so involved in the desires or beliefs of others that you cause confusion or chatter in your own vibration and compromise your own alignment.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a fascinating way to look at why you might not be getting what you want.To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What your emotions are always an indicator of
- Why observing with your physical senses can gunk of manifesting
- What is possible when you are willing to offer the vibration before the manifestation
- The ideal pecking order regarding your physical senses
- Why I find it encouraging to understand when I’m observing post-manifestation
Quotable
“If you are observing with your emotions, if you are observing vibration, now you are observing pre-manifestation. And therefore, you have control of what manifests. But if you are observing with your physical senses, you are observing post-manifestation.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how letting go of the oars is the way to everything you want. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- An important question to ask yourself in relation to the current of life
- What it means if there’s an area of life where you are efforting and trying really hard to make things happen
- Why turning your boat around is not the answer
- Why Abraham says you could be grouchy and ill-tempered
- Two phrases I use to help me remember to let go of oars
Quotable
“Most people are rowing against the current of life. Instead of turning the boat around, all they need to do is let go of the oars.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction, I would have proudly said I could spot a problem from a mile away. I would have said that problem-solving was one of my talents, something I was really good at.
I was always on the lookout for problems and I thought this was a good thing because I was so skilled at solving them.
I now know through the lens of Law of Attraction that my identity as a master problem solver simply meant I was living in the frequency of problems. I was actually attracting problems to me.
Yes, problems to be solved, but problems nonetheless.
Since my re-discovery of Law of Attraction, I have such a different outlook and attitude about problems. I no longer identify as a master problem solver.
Quite simply, I am not interested in problems.
These days, I have taken to heart this from Abraham:
“We want you to get 100% out of the problem-solving mode, because the problem-solving mode is always the blocking mode, it’s always the resistant mode. The problem-solving mode always clouds your receptivity, and your receptivity is the only thing that you’re reaching for.” —Abraham
Wow! There’s no gray here.
Problem-solving mode always blocks, always clouds receptivity, is always the resistant mode.Now, how can that be? When so many of us have been running around encountering problems, focusing on them, and solving at least some of them. Or at least spending a lot of time and energy trying to solve them.
Abraham is not saying that you can’t solve problems. You can. You have. You will again.
The point here is that being in problem-solving mode blocks, resists, being in receiving mode.
So the pre-LoA version of me did, indeed, solve problems, but it was a very manual and efforting way to live. The much more ease-filled and magical way to live is by being in receiving mode and aligning with solutions, aligning vibrationally with your desires.
“The connection is what’s important. Not solving that problem. If you can sustain the connection for a little while, the problem will evaporate.” —Abraham
This is because “the problem and the solution are two very different frequencies. So as long as you are still focused upon the problem, you are disallowing the solution.” —Abraham
“The realization that something is not as you want it to be is an important first step, but once you have identified that, the faster you are able to turn your attention in the direction of a solution, the better, because a continuing exploration of the problem will prevent you from finding the solution. The problem is a different vibrational frequency than the solution—and all thoughts (or vibrations) are affected by (or managed by) the Law of Attraction.” —Abraham
So when a problem comes on your radar. That’s ok. Nothing has gone wrong.But what you want to do rather than focusing on the problem, talking about the problem, trying to solve the problem, you want to get off the problem frequency altogether. You want your radar to shift to the solution, to what is wanted, to what you do desire.
“You cannot notice what-is and complain about it, and be a vibrational match to the solution. When you were living the problem, you were asking for the solution, and Source said yes immediately. So, there’s never a reason for you to be wallowing around in a problem for more than about a second. You can get so good at this that before you’re even aware that the problem has gotten started, you’ve already got the solution underway.” —Abraham
I definitely used to wallow around in the problem.
At the time, I certainly wouldn’t have characterized it this way. I thought you had to think about the problem to solve the problem. You would have found me talking about the problem in an attempt to solve the problem. I would mull that problem over, chew on it, maybe ruminate a little…
So yes, I definitely wallowed around in problems for way more than a second.
Now I can see that identifying the problem is just this very temporary jumping off point.These days when a problem surfaces in my life, I immediately and very consciously think about wanting to be in vibrational alignment with the solution.
Think about it this way: Any problem that you have is simultaneously launching a rocket of desire for what you do want, for the solution. And that desire—your desire—has been vibrationally created. When you asked, Source said yes.
Abraham is saying to be a vibrational match to that solution means to turn your attention and your thoughts in that direction. You want to be offering a vibration that aligns with the solution, not the problem.
Again, problem and solution are two very different frequencies.
“Be less intensely focused on the problem or the question, and feel more anticipation of the solution and the answer.” —Abraham
You may not know exactly what the solution is. And you don’t need to know. In other words, you may not know the precise package that the Universe will deliver your solution in.
But you definitely know how you want to feel. You know the feeling of that solution, of that solved problem. To be in receptivity for that solution, in other words, to be in receiving mode, means to feel that way now. Which is going to be some flavor of feeling good.
Problems don’t feel good.So if you’re experiencing negative emotion, you are likely still focused on the problem. Still vibrationally aligned with the problem.
“The only way to solve a problem is to look toward the solution. And when you are looking in the direction of the solution, you always feel an improvement in your emotions.” —Abraham
That’s how you can tell if you’re attention in on the problem or the solution—by how you feel.
“Every subject is really two subjects, with what is wanted on one end of the stick, and the absence of what is wanted on the other end. Sometimes you are a perfect vibrational match to the unwanted end of the stick, but you don’t realize it because it feels normal to you. And that is only because it is more usual for you to talk about the problem rather than the solution.” —Abraham
The first time I encountered this quote, it was such a wake up call for me.
Because I realized it was more than usual for me to talk about the problem rather than the solution. Part of my master problem-solving behavior was that I could talk somewhat endlessly about the nature of the problem, looking at it from all sides, considering it from every angle.
I say this with a lot of self compassion because I didn’t know any better.
These days I understand that I want to be a vibrational match to what is wanted. I want that to be the norm.
I’m sure that’s what you want to.
Ask yourself: Does it feel normal to talk about the problem?Does it feel normal to you to talk about what you don’t want and what you don’t like? Is it more usual for you to talk about the problem rather than the solution?
“A lot of people wake up in a problem-solving mode, but they’re still focused on the problem. When you wake up in a solution-discovery mode, life becomes an adventure.” —Abraham
I would encourage you to think about your relationship to problems and problem-solving. Have you also considered yourself a master problem solver? Do you wake up in problem-solving mode?
One of the core tenets of Law of Attraction is to look for what you want to see. If you are on the lookout for problems, you will find problems.
Now here’s the thing. I live in the real world too. I know that problems exist. You know that problems exist.Law of Attraction isn’t saying that problems don’t exist. But to use LoA to your advantage, you want to shift your mindset from problem-solving mode to solution-discovery mode.
“Don’t try to clear out clogged pipes. Just lay new pipes.” —Abraham
Isn’t that a fun way to look at it?
Yes, you may encounter clogged pipes. That’s contrast, a natural and inevitable part of life. There’s no need to unclog those pipes. Simply lay some new ones!
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why you want to get 100% out of the problem-solving mode.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why my outlook on being a problem solver completely changed when I rediscovered Law of Attraction
- How to make problems evaporate
- What you want to do immediately upon identifying a problem
- What an improvement in your emotions is a sign of
- Why you don’t want to be like so many who wake up in problem-solving mode
Quotable
“We want you to get 100% out of the problem-solving mode, because the problem-solving mode is always the blocking mode, it’s always the resistant mode. The problem-solving mode always clouds your receptivity, and your receptivity is the only thing that you’re reaching for.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a simple piece of LoA advice—and the difference between knowing about it and actually practicing it. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Something I’ve noticed from years of coaching clients through the lens of Law of Attraction
- The grand promise of LoA about your current reality versus your future
- What Abraham says you must stop spending so much time doing
- An opportunity you have to move from knowing to practicing
- Why your job is not get rid of unwanted
- How to no longer perpetuate your current reality
Quotable
“You can get to where you want to be from wherever you are—but you must stop spending so much time noticing and talking about what you do not like about where you are.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a way to think about cravings through the lens of Law of Attraction.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A quote about cravings that came into my awareness at just the right time
- Where clarity can always be found
- My personal stance on the bad wrap that cravings get
- Why the vibration of your craving matters
- An important opportunity for discernment that will take your LoA practice up a notch
Quotable
“Cravings are going to occur to you. So here’s the rule of thumb about eating, or about investing in the stock market, or about anything else: If the impulse comes from a joyous thought that feels good, follow it. If the impulse comes from an uncomfortable thought that felt bad, don’t follow it.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why it’s not a good idea vibrationally to encourage or join in complaining. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why it could be useful to your LoA practice to think about recent conversations with friends
- A question about bonding over complaining to ask and answer
- What complaining does vibrationally to the person complaining and often the person listening
- Two ways to slow momentum of unwanted things in your life—and what that has to do with complaining
- An intention I want to share regarding what you want to hold your tongue about
Quotable
“It is really not a good idea to encourage your friends to complain about things to you. There is no value in assisting anyone to describe, in detail, their unhappy experiences.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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“You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health, have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it. Those who speak most of poverty, have it. It is Law. It can be no other way… The way you feel is your point of attraction, and so, the Law of Attraction is most understood when you see yourself as a magnet getting more and more of the way you feel. When you feel lonely, you attract more loneliness. When you feel poor, you attract more poverty. When you feel sick, you attract more sickness. When you feel unhappy, you attract more unhappiness. When you feel healthy and vital and alive and prosperous—you attract more of all of those things.” —Abraham
I believe we all have an opportunity to apply this principle. Either apply it for the very first time in our lives or apply it in a deeper way in our everyday life.
Because this principal applies to every facet of life. The Law of Attraction principle at work here is the same whether we’re talking about your finances or your health, your relationships or your career.
So let’s start here: “You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health, have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it. Those who speak most of poverty, have it. It is Law. It can be no other way…
Why? What’s at work here? What is this saying about how Law of Attraction works?
“You create with your every thought. By the Universal Law of Attraction (that which is like into itself is drawn), you are attracting the essence of whatever you are giving your attention to—wanted or unwanted.” —Abraham
Or another way to say it:
“Anything you give your attention to becomes bigger. So the harder you push against what you do not want…the more vibration is activated within you about it and the less likely it is to go away.” —Abraham
Bottom line: You get more and more of what you focus on. You get more and more of what matches the vibration you are offering. And the vibration you are offering is coming from what you’re giving your attention to.
When someone talks of poverty or sickness or loneliness, they are not doing so from a high vibration. Those words or thoughts of poverty and sickness and loneliness come with a low vibration, perhaps worry or despair, powerlessness or depression, unworthiness or discouragement or fear.
The point is: You are attracting the essence of what you give your attention to.So whether your attention is reflected by thoughts in your head or words you speak aloud, you are attracting the essence of what you are focusing on, thinking about, talking about.
I have a friend who has a thread of scarcity that runs through nearly every conversation-scarcity of money, time, resources, well-being, peace, clarity. There is a continual focus on what is unwanted—all these various forms of scarcity. As Abraham says, my friend is a magnet getting more and more of the way she feels—more and more opportunities to experience the feeling of scarcity.
“Your prosperity consciousness is not dependent on money; your flow of money is dependent upon your prosperity consciousness.” —Louise Hay
But my friend might say—or you might be thinking—but what if it’s true? What if I have an overdrawn bank account? What if I’m not feeling great in my body? What if I’m single and don’t want to be?
“Sometimes you justify giving your attention to something because it is true. But just because it is true is not a good reason because anything that anyone gives attention to becomes true. A better question is, ‘Do I want to experience it?’” —Abraham
If you let this land, if you embrace this, if you start practicing it in your day-to-day life, it will be life changing. It’s not about whether it’s true, it’s: Do you want to experience it?
I’m sure we would all agree that we don’t want to experience unwanted things in our lives. And yet, why are we giving attention to them in our minds?* Why are we thinking about what we don’t want? * Why are we complaining about what we don’t want? * Why are we focusing our thoughts and words on unwanted?
“Take your attention away from it and it will no longer exist as a vibrational factor in your experience.” —Abraham
It really is that simple, that straightforward.
Now, this doesn’t mean the overdrawn bank account instantly disappears. However, when you take your attention away from it, it no longer exists in your vibration. And when you do this with some consistency, over time, the reality that shows up for you will reflect the change in your vibration.
“I move from poverty thinking to prosperity thinking and my finances reflect this change.” —Louise Hay
You can exchange those words—prosperity and poverty. The same is true if you were to say: I move from thinking about my aches and pains to thinking of well-being and my physical health reflects this change.
“You cannot be in a steady feeling of poverty and allow abundance. Those two vibrations don’t go together. You’ve got to find the vibration of abundance. Humans often say, ‘How can I find the vibration of abundance when I’m standing in a vacuum where no abundance exists?’ And we say: You’ve got to use the power of your mind. You’ve got to find a way to offer a vibration that matches abundance before abundance can flow into your experience. You have to feel the way you want to live. In other words, you’ve got to be happy, even in the absence of what you want. And in time, what you desire will come.” —Abraham
If you want prosperity, talking about poverty is not a vibrational match.If you are feeling poor right now, then you are not feeling the way you want to live.
“Abundance is not something we acquire. It’s something we tune into.” —Wayne Dyer
Tuning into abundance means offering a high vibration, as in feeling good.
“Abundance begins with feeling abundant. Many people think they’ll feel good once they have money in the bank. But the truth is that they’ll have that money once they feel good”. —Gabby Bernstein
This is because by feeling good—and thereby offering a high vibration—Law of Attraction responds accordingly. What you are matched with will be of a similar high vibration.
This sums it up nicely from Jack Canfield who says: “The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for what you do have, you will feel rich, and you will attract more abundance into your life. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will send out a message of lack and you will attract more lack into your life.”
So what about you: Are you speaking of prosperity or poverty? In other words, are you thinking about wanted or unwanted?
“When you think a thought and it makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s a clue. The discomfort that you were feeling is the clue that you’re constructing something that is not beneficial to you. Just distract yourself from it and it will go away. It has to. Law of Attraction says that nothing stays without your attention. Love attraction says nothing comes without your attention. Don’t you love knowing that?” —Abraham
This is an invitation to shift. To withdraw your attention—and your words—from unwanted.
Start noticing. Check in with yourself on a regular basis.
You could even set a reminder on your phone to ping you every now and again if you’re into that sort of thing. The check-in would simply be: Am I focused right now on wanted or unwanted?
It’s always one or the other.
“When you withdraw your attention from those things that are not pleasing, and you put your attention upon those things that are pleasing, those pleasing things begin to become more abundant; and those not pleasing things become more rare. Until, eventually, those not pleasing things cannot be part of your experience because you will have eliminated your attraction factor from your vibration. What you think and what you get always matches.” —Abraham
Of course, you want more of the pleasing things!
Your attention is how you are going to allow them into your life experience.
“The key is to not give anything that you do not want much of your attention. As soon as you realize it doesn’t feel good, do your very best to turn your attention someplace else.” —Abraham
Talking about unwanted, thinking about unwanted, complaining about unwanted—all that will come with negative emotion.
So take a two-fold approach: Check in with yourself on a regular basis with the question: Am I focusing on wanted or unwanted? Also notice how you feel and pay attention to how you feel. Because when you feel negative emotion, you will undoubtedly be focused on unwanted.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how you are a magnet getting more of the way you feel.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What you create with every thought
- Why pushing against things is lousy for your point of attraction
- What Louise Hay says your flow of money is dependent on
- A really useful question to put in your LoA toolkit about “the truth”
- What happens when you take your attention away from something
- How to find the vibration of abundance when you are surrounded by lack
Quotable
“You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health, have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it. Those who speak most of poverty, have it. It is Law. It can be no other way… The way you feel is your point of attraction, and so, the Law of Attraction is most understood when you see yourself as a magnet getting more and more of the way you feel. When you feel lonely, you attract more loneliness. When you feel poor, you attract more poverty. When you feel sick, you attract more sickness. When you feel unhappy, you attract more unhappiness. When you feel healthy and vital and alive and prosperous—you attract more of all of those things.”
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why all your power is in your choice of thought. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A question about your relationship to a piece of key LoA wisdom
- What many of my clients tell me has sidetracked them and compromised their point of attraction
- An example of how focusing on action can take someone to the bottom of the emotional scale
- How Louise Hay says to control your life
- What your life is really a sum total of
Quotable
“Your choices of action may be limited—but your choices of thought are not.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what happens when you keep taking score about where your business, body, or relationship is. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The tendency many of us have when we want an improvement in our lives
- What allowing has to do with the new and improved conditions we seek
- The way Abraham recommends to offer a changed vibration
- What you create more of when you keep taking score
- Two pathways forward when you want an improvement in your life
Quotable
“The best way to accomplish an improved environment is to focus upon the best things about where you currently are until you flood your own vibrational patterns of thought with appreciation, and in that changed vibration, you can then allow the new-and-improved conditions and circumstances to come into your experience. Look for good things about where you are, and in your state of appreciation, you lift all self-imposed limitations (and all limitations are self-imposed) and you free yourself for the receiving of wonderful things.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about whether you prioritize energy or action—and why it matters to manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- My own experience with prioritizing action over energy alignment
- What efforting is an indication of
- The LoA advice that might feel radical and even uncomfortable
- What Abraham says about waking up in the morning in clarity
- Why embracing a new relationship either energy is thought work
- Three specific ways to cultivate energy alignment
Quotable
“Take the time to line up the Energy first, and action becomes inconsequential. If you don’t take the time to line up the Energy, if you don’t find the feeling place of what you’re looking for, not enough action in the world will make any difference.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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What if I were to say that you are always at the crossroads; you are always at a point at which a crucial decision is going to be made, and that crucial decision will have far-reaching consequences.
Wow, that sounds pretty important, doesn’t it?
A couple years into my LoA journey, I started really embracing this idea of being at the crossroads—moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day. And for me, one the easiest way to conceptualize and really understand this crossroad I’m at is to imagine signposts.
So imagine you are literally at a crossroad—one road ventures to the right and the other road ventures to the left. Each road has a sign signaling what you’re going to encounter, where you’re going to end up.
And the signposts read: Optimism—that way. Pessimism—the other way.
You are the crossroads—right now—of optimism or pessimism.Optimism is mindset of hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.
Pessimism is also a mindset, a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; pessimism is a lack of hope or confidence in the future.
You are always headed in one direction or the other with your thoughts. Every thought has a quality of either optimism or pessimism to it.
- When I think about calling the utility company to sort out an error with my bill, my thoughts about this call reflect either optimism or pessimism.
- When you and your spouse have a big conversation about your finances, your thoughts reflect either optimism or pessimism.
- When you wake up in the morning, your mindset is either in the direction of optimism or pessimism.
Optimism is #5 on the emotional scale. It’s a high vibe emotion that attracts and creates circumstance and conditions that are a vibrational match.
Optimism is an exceptional vibration from which to attract what pleases you.
“There are all kinds of ways for things to come to you, but you have to be ready, to be ready, to be ready. There are so many opportunities that are missed because your pessimism makes you miss them. And your optimism makes you find them.” —Abraham
Opportunities are always there. The Universe is abundant.
But when you are in a mindset of pessimism, when you are believing the worst will happen, when you are steeling yourself for the disappointment to come, for things not working out, for not getting what you want—when you are in that energy of pessimism, you miss the opportunities. You don’t notice the opening, you don’t connect the dots, you have your head down and simply don’t see the golden opportunity.
The Universe doesn’t reward pessimism. Not because you’re being punished if you’re pessimistic, but because of how Law of Attraction works—like attracts like. You cannot attract what you want from the energy of pessimism.
The lack of hope and confidence that is pessimism only attracts more circumstances and conditions that match the outlook of negativity, doom and the gloom, doubt.
I know you don’t want to live circumstances and conditions that reflect negativity and doubt and doom and gloom. No one does!Well, the only way then is to not offer that energy as your vibration.
When you are standing at the crossroads of optimism and pessimism, it matters which road you go down with your thoughts. It’s going to matter in terms of how you feel. Optimism feels good. Pessimism doesn’t.
And then, of course, it matters in terms of what you manifest.
- Optimism is a vibration that attracts people and events, situations and things of a like energy.
- Pessimism is also a vibration, one that attracts circumstances and conditions of a similar frequency.
“There’s an expression in the physical environment that you use to entertain each other (it doesn’t serve you very well) that says, ‘I worry that I’ll go down to the dock, and that my ship will have already come and gone. I’ll miss my boat.’ And we say, another boat, another boat, another boat. You have no idea how many boats are coming to your dock. It’s a steady stream, and it doesn’t matter how many of them you’ve missed. The only thing that matters is what you are doing right now in your vibration. And you can tell what you’re doing right now in your vibration by the way you feel.” —Abraham
I love this for so many reasons. I often have that little mantra going in my head: Another boat, another boat, there’s always another boat.
This also really emphasizes that it doesn’t matter how you’ve been in the past. Perhaps you’ve been an all-out pessimist. You’re mindset has been rooted in the glass being half empty. But it doesn’t matter how you’ve been.
And it doesn’t matter what’s shown up to this point in your life experience. It doesn’t matter if there have been missed opportunities. It doesn’t matter how many proverbial boats you’ve missed up to this point in your life.
What matters is what you do right now with your vibration. This is a new moment. Not even just a new day, but a new present moment, right here, right now.
Optimism, and that wonderful companion feeling of positive expectation, is what you want to choose.And it is a choice. You have the choice of thought. You are at the crossroads right now of Optimism and Pessimism and you get to choose which of those roads you’ll go down with your next thought, and your next.
“The Universe has to give you what you expect and always does, but you have to train yourself into positive expectation.” —Abraham
Let’s be reminded of the very definition of pessimism which is a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen. That is, of course, the very opposite of positive expectation.
Thoughts become things. Like attracts like.
Do you want to live a life experience that reflects positive expectation or do you want to live a life experience that reflects the worst that could happen?
It seems a silly question because no one is going to raise their hand for that second option. Oh, yes please give me a life experience that reflects my worst fears, my greatest worries, my strongest lack of confidence and belief in the future.
No one intentionally chooses that, and yet many of us do choose to think the pessimistic thought rather than the optimistic one. We choose the worry of what will or won’t happen rather than the positive expectation and excited anticipation for what’s coming.
“The Universe is abundant with everything that you want. It’s not testing you. It’s benevolently providing for you. But you are the orchestrater. You are the definer, and you do it through your joyous anticipation. If there is an emotion that you are wanting to foster that would serve you very, very well, it is positive expectation. It is excited anticipation.” —Abraham
So let me ask you: What is the feeling place of your expectations?It’s a juicy question and it tells you so much about your manifesting practice. It reveals so much about what is showing up for you.
There is a feeling place to your expectations. What you expect—good or bad, wanted or unwanted—what you expect causes you to feel.
- When you expect something good and wanted, you feel some flavor of good.
- When you expect something bad and unwanted, you feel some flavor of bad.
Your feeling is your vibration, to which Law of Attraction responds.
What is the feeling place of your expectations? Are you expecting what you want? Are you expecting good things? Are you expecting abundance and well-being and joy?
Or are you expecting the worst? Are you expecting to be disappointed because you don’t get what you want? Are you expecting the other shoe to drop? Are you expecting your boat to have already left the dock?
“We’re asking you to trust in the Well-being. In optimism there is magic. In pessimism there is nothing. In positive expectation there is thrill and success. In pessimism or awareness of what is not wanted, there is nothing. What you’re wanting to do is redefine your relationship with the Stream.” —Abraham
I’ve offered one way you may be able to redefine or refine your relationship with the Stream—and that is this concept of being at the crossroads.That with every thought you choose to think you can head down the road of optimism and all the wonderful places that leads—or you can head down the road of pessimism, and that will certainly take you somewhere, but it will not be pleasing to you.
The good news is, as Abraham reminds us: “As you gradually train your own thoughts into those of positive expectation, as you align with thoughts of worthiness and Well-Being, as you align with your true power by seeking good-feeling thoughts—you will no longer offer resistance to your own abundance.” —Abraham
Choose optimism. Choose to think the optimistic thought. Start practicing. You won’t be perfect, and you don’t have to be. Simply keep choosing to orient yourself and your thoughts in the direction of optimism and positive expectation.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the vibrational relationship between optimism and opportunities.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
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- An easy way to conceptualize the crossroads you are always at
- Why optimism is such an exceptional vibration for attracting what you want
- Why Abraham says makes you miss an opportunity
- What the lack of confidence in the future attracts
- What you want to remember about the steady stream of boats coming to your dock
- An emotion that you can foster that will serve you very well
Quotable
“There are all kinds of ways for things to come to you, but you have to be ready, to be ready, to be ready. There are so many opportunities that are missed because your pessimism makes you miss them. And your optimism makes you find them.”
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why your words and actions can get in the way of manifesting what you want. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What some of us get wrong when it comes to how manifesting works
- Why it’s useful to check in with yourself about how you’ve been feeling
- The reason I like the phrase “vibrational calling”
- The reason positive-sounding affirmation sometimes don’t work
- Why the Universe isn’t punishing you—or rewarding you
Quotable
“Law of Attraction says, ‘That which is like unto itself is drawn.’ Vibrations are always matched. So, as you experience the contrast which inspires the new desire, this new desire, whether it is a strong one or a soft one, is summoning unto itself proportionately. And as it summons, it is always answered. It is the basis of our Universe: When it is asked, it is always given. Humans think they are asking with their words, or even with their action—and sometimes you are—but the Universe is not responding to your words or your action. The Universe is responding to your vibrational calling.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about your vibrational relationship to goals. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A little bit about my previous relationships with goals and goal setting
- What I realized about the life I was living that was compromising my point of attraction
- Why Abraham says your life is not in that time of retirement
- How the LoA approach to goals is radically different than traditional goal setting
- My one and only big life goal these days
Quotable
“Your life is right now! It’s not later! It’s not in that time of retirement. It’s not when the lover gets here. It’s not when you’ve moved into the new house. It’s not when you get the better job. Your life is right now. It will always be right now. You might as well decide to start enjoying your life right now, because it’s not ever going to get better than right now, until it gets better right now!” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about two reasons you could be disallowing a happy life. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why allowing circumstances to dictate how you feel gets in the way of your own happiness
- What it can mean vibrationally when you over-focus on reaching a goal
- The reality you are attracting and creating from your belief about a happy life
- Why being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are
- What to do if only one good thing happens for you today
Quotable
“A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don’t allow the happy moment, because they’re so busy trying to get a happy life.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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I love my Law of Attraction practice.
I love the shifts in my perception. I love finding alignment and re-finding it when I pop out. I love understanding an LoA concept in a new way, a deeper way that then leads to actually applying it in my real life—living it.
Quite simply: I love the deepening of my LoA practice.
And, it might surprise you to hear me say I also love when I notice that I’m dialed back into a pre-LoA version of myself, an old vibrational pattern or habit.
Now why would I love this?
Well, because I’m not into perfection these days. I don’t “do” Law of Attraction perfectly. And that is absolutely OK with me.
I appreciate noticing a step back into an old version of myself because it lets me know how truly far I’ve come. And…it’s certainly a chance—a golden opportunity—to practice Law of Attraction.
I sometimes feel like I’m playing a game. And it’s game I can’t lose.The object of the game is simply to have fun, to enjoy playing. And so it doesn’t matter two steps forward, one step back. As long as I’m having fun along the way. As long as I’m finding joy along the journey.
I am light about my LoA practice even as Law of Attraction is absolutely front and center in my life, in my every day lived life.
I’m light about it. I don’t take myself to task with my LoA practice. I don’t beat myself up when I’m out of alignment.
I’ve truly embodied Gabby Bernstein’s advice to forgive myself fast.
And then re-find the alignment, lightly, with ease, with curiosity about what has unfolded, with an eager willingness to learn the lessons, connect the dots, deepen my LoA practice.
And so when I realize that I’m dialed back into an old energy, a pre-LoA version of myself with those old vibrational patterns or habits, I really do smile and say, Oh goody. What’s going on here? What’s that you’re doing with your vibration, Jennifer? Hmmm… Oh, remember when you used to do that all the time because you didn’t know? Well, now you know. Isn’t that wonderful? So now you know…and what now?
Let me share an example of dialing back into an old vibrational pattern.I’ve said before on this podcast the pre-LoA version of me was what I call a “reliable narrator.” If you asked me about my day, I was would give you a full run-down. I would give you the facts. The good, the bad, the ugly.
Back then I thought telling the “whole” story” was a good thing. I shouldn’t just tell you what went right about my day, I should also share what went wrong. I should tell you everything, include all of it.
If I went to a new restaurant, I would be a reliable narrator and tell you all the things I liked and I would tell you all the things I didn’t like. I’d give it to you straight. Tell you the facts.
I simply wasn’t discerning about what I focused on, what I thought about, what I talked about. I was going to give you what I thought was an accurate accounting, the whole story, the pros and cons, the facts, the full picture.
Since my rediscovery of Law of Attraction and my obsession with all things LoA, this is an area of my life—a way of being—that has radically changed for me.Thoroughly changed, fundamentally changed. Totally changed.
Because back then my being a reliable narrator meant my vibration was all over the place. The vibration I offered to which Law of Attraction responded was incredibly mixed.
This meant I was certainly not a deliberate creator. I couldn’t be. I couldn’t be because I was offering a vibration that reflected my total lack of discernment, my utter willingness to focus on all of it.
Somewhere early in my LoA journey I came across this wisdom from Abraham and it was a light bulb moment.
“Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before your eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.” —Abraham
This concept was so eye-opening for me when I first encountered it—and it continues to be to this day.
Because I can find myself at times slipping back into factual documentary mode—what I call my reliable narrator.
My reliable narrator doesn’t choose a focus with intention. Instead, my reliable narrator includes it all.
The focus is on wanted and unwanted, what I like and dislike, what I appreciate and what I don’t appreciate. And my reliable narrator loves a very long list of pros and cons, as if to say, Let’s look at this situation and call it a problem and then let’s make a lengthy list of pros and cons. What a way to offer an all-over-the-place vibration!
Bottom line: An all-over-the-place vibration simply does not allow you to be a deliberate creator.
Early in my LoA journey, I realized I needed—wanted—a different way of focusing.I wanted to start telling a better-feeling story. I wanted to only tell a good-feeling story.
I waved a gentle goodbye to my reliable narrator and made the decision—a very high vibe decision full of positive expectation—that I would no longer tell my story, no longer approach life, like it is a factual documentary.
I very much wanted to align with the uplifting, fanciful, magical story. Because not only would that story be so fun to tell, to think about, to talk about—it would also attract conditions and circumstances of a similar frequency.
Saying goodbye to my reliable narrator allowed me to improve my point of attraction.
These days, when my reliable narrator shows up, knocking at the door, wanting in, I recognize it is an invitation to focus. To embrace this mantra: “Today, no matter where I go, no matter what I am doing, and no matter who I am doing it with—it is my dominant intent to look for what I am wanting to see.” —Abraham
I can be a reliable narrator or I can look for what I want to see.
Both these ways of showing up come with a vibration. Only the latter one—the intentional focuser one, the selective sifter one, the tell-a-better-feeling-story one—only that one offers a vibration that will yield circumstances and conditions that are pleasing to me.
There is a two-fold takeaway.The first is about what to do when you find yourself slipping back into your pre-LoA ways. When you notice you are not practicing something you know about how Law of Attraction works.
I’ve shared an example of this for me slipping back into my reliable narrator mode, but there are lots of ways a person could slip into pre-LoA versions of themselves.
When this happens—if it happens—I’m encouraging you to choose to be light about it. Don’t make it so serious.
I’ve had so many clients over the years who spend time and energy beating themselves up for getting off track with their LoA practice. It’s a waste of time and is only going to prevent an improved point of attraction.
So forgive yourself fast. Be light about it. Have fun playing the game.
It’s the journey that matters, so even when you’ve gotten off track, when you’ve seemingly forgotten everything you know about how LoA works, when you’re not putting into practice what you know, OK.
Start where you are.
Try to appreciate where you’re at. Yes, you heard me—appreciate. Because appreciation will release the resistance, and then you can head toward alignment, you can reconnect with your LoA practice, perhaps deepen it, you can learn from the unfolding, connect the dots and feel good all along the way.
When the pre-LoA version of me shows up, I’m definitely going to show her to the door. But I’m going to do it with a smile on my face, lightly, with curiosity about why she’s come knocking. I’m going to appreciate how far I’ve come as I gently, lightly see her to the door.
The second takeaway is about facing the facts.
“Many around you want to point out “reality” to you. They say, ‘Face the facts. Look at what-is.’ And we say to you, if you are able to see only what-is, then, by Law of Attraction, you will create only more of what-is… You must be able to put your thoughts beyond what-is in order to attract something different or something more.” —Abraham
This is the LoA skill, the day-to-day, moment-to moment practice of Law of Attraction.
Put your thoughts beyond what-is. Focus beyond what-is.
- Don’t face the facts if the facts are not what you want to live.
- Don’t be a reliable narrator including everything in your vibration.
- Toss out your list of pros and cons. It’s nothing more than a list of mixed energy.
Instead, focus on what you want. Focus on what you like. Tell the best-feeling story that you can.
“If you let your self awareness be about your mood, rather than be fact based, the facts will change.” —Abraham
That’s how Law of Attraction works.
If you want to live different facts, new facts, if you want to live a new reality, then put your focus there now. Allow your thoughts to be about what is wanted regardless of what-is.
Tell a better-feeling story so that you feel good. Your good feeling will let you know with certainty what you are attracting.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why facing the facts can compromise your point of attraction.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How I feel when I slip back into pre-LoA vibrational patterns
- The advice I’ve taken to heart about self-forgiveness
- What my former way of being a reliable narrator meant about my point of attraction
- What Abrahams says about pros and cons
- A reason to appreciate when you’ve gotten off track with your LoA practice
- How to get the facts to change
Quotable
“Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before your eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.”
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how to get the Universe to respond differently to you. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The stagnant energy of thinking I just can’t catch a break
- The reason your story will stay the same if your vibration stays the same
- What the Universe does when you reach for the thought that feels better
- Why it’s important to realize your language is simply a reflection of your thoughts
- A useful distinction about trying to monitor your thoughts—and what to do instead
Quotable
“When you reach for the thought that feels better, the Universe is now responding differently to you because of that effort. And so, the things that follow you get better and better, too. So it gets easier to reach for the thought that feels better, because you are on ever-increasing, improving platforms that feel better.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about your relationship to what-is—and what it has to do with manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why it’s important to look at your relationship to what-is
- The dance I’ve experienced with an LoA concept that originally seemed counterintuitive to me
- The vibrational gap many of my clients have struggled with
- How dissatisfaction with what-is keeps you out of receiving mode
- A possible reason you haven’t been able to create a new reality
- A mantra in my LoA toolkit that has helped me immensely
Quotable
“The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But, if you don’t feel really good on your way to there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the first thing you want to do when you launch a rocket of desire. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The first thing you want to do when you launch a rocket of desire
- The problem with negative emotion when it comes to manifesting
- The relationship many of us have with taking action that can gunk up manifesting
- The reason Abraham says action is inconsequential
- How you can allow the Universe to conspire with you
Quotable
“Make a decision of what you want, give your attention there, find the feeling place of it—and you’re there instantly. There is no reason for you to suffer or struggle your way to or through anything.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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The other day a client came to a coaching session saying she disagreed with a quote from Abraham. And she wanted that to be the focus of our session.
I’m never interested vibrationally or otherwise in trying to talk anyone into believing a certain way or liking and embracing a particular bit of wisdom from Abraham.
At the same time, I always appreciate the opportunity to co-create around Law of Attraction and share our perspectives and experiences. It certainly expands my awareness and my thinking to explore with others how various aspects of Law of Attraction are landing for them.
So here’s the Abraham quote my client shared: “You’re never in the wrong place. But sometimes you’re in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.”
Hmmm…
How do you feel about that? Do you believe you’re never in the wrong place? But that you could simply be looking at things in the “wrong” way?
Do you like this quote? Does it resonate?
Or are you more like my client —at least initially—who said: I am in the wrong place. I’m in the wrong career, with the wrong employer, doing the wrong kind of work. Sure, I can focus on positive aspects about where I am, but I’m still in the wrong place. And I’m so frustrated trying to see it differently.
Again, the goal for me was not to convince my client to see things differently, but to look at the intent and the application of that quote—that wisdom—through the lens of Law of Attraction.
Here’s the thing: I very much subscribe to the notion to take what you can use and leave the rest.Sometimes that means taking everything because it’s all useful to you. You might feel that way about a particular episode of this podcast.
Other times, you may find only a sliver of something useful and need to leave the rest. Again, that could be an episode of Love Your Life where there was only one little nugget to takeaway, one you felt would be useful to you in your living of Law of Attraction.
It’s all good. Take what can use and leave the rest. Be light about it.
My client was not being light about it. She readily—somewhat laughingly—owned this.
As my client and I explored further, we got to the crux of what she was thinking: She was annoyed with the idea of the silver lining.That every experience needs to be seen as positive. That she has to work to find positive aspects in a slew of unwanted aspects of a situation.
So she was feeling a lot of friction.
And that is the key, the signal, the wake-up call. Feeling friction—which is a flavor of negative emotion—is letting you know that you are looking at something in a way that is different from how your Inner Being is looking at it.
Negative emotion is always a sign you are mis-creating. So it’s important to pay attention.
Love the Abraham quote or really dislike or even disagree with the quote, this is an opportunity—a golden opportunity—to practice Law of Attraction. And one way we practice LoA is to notice and pay attention when we feel negative emotion.
And then to do something about it. As in, when you feel negative emotion, you have two choices—you can reach for the relief of better-feeling thoughts or you can take your attention off the subject altogether.
There is no benefit to you vibrationally in pushing against anything and there’s nothing to be gained by choosing to think thoughts that cause you to feel negative emotion.So if my client doesn’t like this bit of wisdom from Abraham, if my client doesn’t want to believe there’s always a silver lining in every situation, OK. That’s so totally fine.
Move on. Move on with your thoughts so that you move on and up the emotional scale with your feelings.
Now, all that being said, I do think there is value in upping your skill of being able to focus on positive aspects. In my mind, it’s an essential LoA skill to have in your toolkit.
The reason being is the vibration you offer is on the only one Law of Attraction can respond to. And the only way to offer your vibration on purpose is to be able to choose what you focus on as well as the meaning you give to circumstances and conditions.
If you choose to focus on absolutely everything—the good, bad, and ugly, your vibration will be all over the place. Law of Attraction will respond accordingly. And you will receive a mixed bag of manifestations—some of what you want, some of what you don’t.
At the same time, if the meaning you give what’s going on in your life makes you feel bad, then that negative emotion is the vibration you are offering to which Law of Attraction is responding.
You certainly don’t have to find a silver lining in every situation, but you want to be aware that what you focus on and the meaning you assign to the circumstances of your life matter very much when it comes to manifesting, to what’s showing up, to what you will attract.
“We cannot overemphasize the value in looking for positive aspects and focusing upon more of things wanted, because everything that comes to you is dependent upon that very simple premise: You get more and more of what you are thinking about—whether you want it or not.” —Abraham
My client continued to unpack what was going on for her.
She realized she had been feeling friction because she “knew” that she was supposed to be looking at her work situation in a positive light. And yet she wasn’t feeling it. She was annoyed with herself for not, as she said, “getting a handle on it” and frustrated with this LoA principle that she’s not in the wrong place, just looking at things wrong. And so she’s “doing LoA wrong’. Which is then causing her to feel even worse.
All this angst is unnecessary. It’s optional.
And it’s only creating more momentum in the wrong vibrational direction.
Let’s go back to that quote my client was feeling friction about: “You’re never in the wrong place. But sometimes you’re in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.” —Abraham
I told her, Forget about this quote. Let’s move on from what Abraham has said. I want to hear what you have to say.I asked her what she wanted to believe that would feel better to her. Notice there are two things there: What do you want to believe? And what would feel better?
We want to find the intersection of those two.
A belief you want to embrace that feels better to you. In other words, a thought you will choose to think that allows you to feel better.
My client was initially a little stumped. She had been so rooted in her upset about her career situation and everyone—including Abraham—seemingly telling her You just need to look at it differently. She was familiar with feeling bad about work and used to feeling upset with herself about the whole situation.
So her initial go-to thoughts and feelings were just more of the same.
Eventually she landed here, saying:
I want to believe you can be in the wrong place. Because that feels true to me right now. And I want to believe the right thing to do is to leave and change careers, not to look at things differently. Not to make a list of positive aspects. I’m not in the right place looking at things in the wrong way. I’m in the wrong place and it’s driving me crazy trying to see it differently.
I can’t even really describe to you the shift in my client’s energy, in her vibration, when she said this. She went from sounding so deflated and confused and as if there was just a lot of noise in her head keeping her stuck in a loop to this crystal clear clarity. This very empowered-sounding, clear, full of conviction.
However you would describe it, there is no doubt she moved up the emotional scale with this thought that she had just shared.
I think it took by her surprise. She even said, Wow, where did that come from?
Maybe this is about looking for positive aspects. Because there is immense value in that. But this is also about the essential LoA practice of choosing thoughts that feel good.
Regardless of what those thoughts are. Regardless of some quote from Abraham. Regardless of what your friends might be telling you or what conventional wisdom would say. Regardless of the party line on social media is or even what you hear me say on this podcast.
You’re only in the wrong place, so to speak, if you continue to indulge in thoughts that feel bad to you when you think them.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what to do if looking for the silver lining in a situation is actually making you feel worse.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happened when a client disagreed with wisdom from Abraham
- An invitation to take what you can use and leave the rest
- The wake-up call of negative emotion
- How looking for the silver lining could lower rather than raise your vibration
- The important intersection between what you want to believe and what would feel good to you
Quotable
“You’re never in the wrong place. But sometimes you’re in the right place looking at things in the wrong way.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about an often overlooked way to release resistance. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Two stories of resistance that share a similar strategy to release
- What Abraham says is the only thing standing between you and what you want
- Why no longer fighting where you are helps with manifesting
- What indicates resistance versus allowance
- The belief I’ve embraced about what making peace does not mean
Quotable
“Make an effort to make peace with where you are. There’s something about no longer fighting where you are that causes you to release resistance and then the stream can carry you.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about whether you are creating your point of attraction on purpose or by default.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why you want to prepare the atmosphere around you for manifesting
- An important distinction about how you are offering your point of attraction
- Why complaining compromises your point of attraction
- Why being right about all the ways your boss is wrong makes you the wrong kind of magnet
- The good news about not being stuck with your current point of attraction
- What you have to care about if you want to be intentional about your point of attraction
Quotable
“Have you accomplished your point of attraction deliberately or by default? Have you prepared the climate or atmosphere around you by deliberately meditating; by quieting your mind; by looking for thoughts that feel good; by making lists of things that please you? Or is your point of attraction a knee-jerk response to something someone else said; or to something you are observing around you? What is the reason for your point of attraction? Why are you thinking the thoughts that you are thinking? Are you doing it on purpose? Or are you doing it by default?” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why contrast is your best friend—and how to avoid treating contrast like an enemy.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How sometimes I get contrast entangled with resistance
- Why trying to stop contrast is misguided
- What desire and contrast have to do with each other
- A very common mis-use of contrast
- An affirmation to embrace about contrast and Well-being
- An invitation to think about your own relationships with contrast
Quotable
“You cannot stop contrast, therefore, you cannot stop inspiration of new, of better, of improved, of more, of expansion or of evolution. You cannot stop it.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Imagine we are sitting together, perhaps at a cafe or in a park. Maybe you’ve got a nice coffee or tea in hand. And we’re having a lovely conversation.
And now imagine I ask you: What is your intention?
You’d probably ask, What do mean? My intention for what? About what?
You’d probably want more clarity about the question. Fair enough.
So I ask you with curiosity, just simply: What is your intention for today?
Now, perhaps this all starts to feel like a trick question. And maybe you don’t have an explicit intention for today.
And because you know I’m into Law of Attraction, perhaps you’re try to frame your answer in an LoA context. Or maybe you just tell me what’s on your schedule for the day—what you plan to get done. Your intention is to do your expense reports for work and go to the gym and pick up the birthday gift for your cousin.
Many of us have intentions on our radar at the start of a new year. For some there has been a shift from making New Year’s resolutions to setting intentions.
I’ve had a number of clients share with me that those intentions they set at the beginning of the year have now faded away. Gotten lost in the shuffle of everyday life.So they didn’t really start today with an intention beyond going to work, feeding the kids, running the errands, attending the meeting, walking the dog.
The day unfolds. Some things go smoothly, others don’t. There is some of what is wanted and there is also some of what is unwanted in the mix. It’s just an ordinary day.
There are moments that feel good and there is also negative emotion. Like I said, just an ordinary day.
Without explicit intention, there is this quality to the day that makes how you feel dependent on how things go.
- If things go smoothly, you feel good.
- If things don’t go smoothly, you feel some flavor of bad.
In other words, without intention it can be easy to let circumstances dictate how you feel, where you are on the emotional scale.
Letting circumstances dictate how you feel is a no-no when it comes to Law of Attraction.By a no-no, I mean, it’s simply not good for deliberate creation.
Abraham says very simply: “Let your intention be: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life.”
Now notice this intention has nothing to do with the specifics of what’s on your calendar or what in particular is going to unfold for you today. It doesn’t matter what season of life you’re in or what situations are going on for you right now.
It’s the most beautifully functional and useful intention because it’s all-encompassing, ever-present. It’s always going to apply. To every person. To all situations. All the time.
Your life may look very different from mine. And mine from the next person. But we can all be guided by this intention: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life.This intention can always apply no matter what is going on in your life, no matter what your past has been, no matter what your desires are. You can intend to experience ease and flow—about work and relationships, about health and money, about all the subjects in your life.
This intention always, always applies.
Ok, so it applies, but why is this intention useful when it comes to Law of Attraction? What’s the payoff of living this intention?
Well, it’s all about the creative energy of those two juicy words—ease and flow. Because ease and flow are the shining stars when it comes to attracting, to manifesting.
“Soon you will stand in knowing amusement that all of this was always there within your reach, but in your resistant state of attraction, you were not yet able to experience it…but then, it came—not because of your struggle but because of your ease.” —Abraham
The manifestations you desire come into your life experience when you allow them. Ease is a pathway to allowing. “It came—not because of your struggle but because of your ease.”
The opposite of ease, struggle, is energy that blocks manifesting.The more you struggle to get what you want—the abundance you want, the relationship you want, the goals you want to achieve and shiny pennies you want to acquire—the more you struggle to get what you want, the more you disallow what you want.
Bottom line: The energy of struggle blocks manifestations.
Ease is the pathway to what you want. Struggle is not.
“Everything is unfolding perfectly, and as you relax and find ease in your attitude of trust knowing that well-being is your birthright, amazing things will happen.” —Abraham
This is why living by the intention of ease on all subjects in your life is so beneficial, is what allows Law of Attraction to work to your advantage.Here’s an example of this concept: When your boss sets a new, more immediate deadline for the project that you’re already behind on, your knee-jerk reaction might be that’s impossible, it’s so unfair, it can’t be done. You dig into the energy of the problem of the deadline and perhaps the problem that is your boss.
You believe it will be hard to meet the new deadline.
“When you believe something is hard, the Universe demonstrates the difficulty. When you believe something is easy, the Universe demonstrates the ease.” —Abraham
What I’m describing in that knee-jerk reaction is the energy of struggle, of resistance.It is letting circumstances—the boss moving up the deadline—dictate how you feel—which is angry and overwhelmed and worried.
But what if your intention is: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life?
If you want ease and flow, if your intention is ease and flow, that automatically turns you energetically, vibrationally in a different direction.
The moment you tap into your intention of ease and flow, you start orienting to the solution rather than the problem. Your intention of ease and flow put you on the pathway of support from the Universe. Support you can start to notice and feel.
Ease and flow feel good. Struggle doesn’t feel good.That probably sounds super obvious, but it’s worth emphasizing because when your intention is ease and flow, you are also saying, It is my intention to feel good.
And Law of Attraction 101: How you feel that is the vibration you are offering to which Law of Attraction is responding. And so feeling good is your super power to attracting what you want. To allowing the manifestations you desire.
“Not going with the flow is at the heart of every negative emotion you feel. When one stops fighting the current and lets the force turn them around and push them downstream, they will feel relief.” —Abraham
I think this idea is so eye-opening—that at the heart of every negative emotion is some element of not going with the flow. I’ve started when I experience negative emotion, to sometimes explicitly check in with myself and ask, How am I not going with the flow right now?
It’s uncanny how it proves to be true. No matter what the negative emotion—disappointment, worry, frustration, impatience, doubt, anger—whatever the negative emotion I’m experiencing, I can connect the dots and see how it relates to some aspect of me not going with the flow.
“You are extensions of Source Energy. And when you allow that pure Source Energy to flow through you, you are so bright and beautiful; your timing is good; and you feel vital and alive in your body. And as others, see you, they wonder what your magic is. But it only seems like magic because it is experienced by so few. It isn’t magic. It is available to everyone. But you must allow your alignment.” —Abraham
You must allow your alignment. Another way to say this is you must allow yourself to feel good.And if you always or even often allow circumstances to dictate how you feel, then that is not really allowing yourself to feel good.
But when your intention is ease and flow, when your intention is to feel good, then you will choose thoughts that allow your alignment. Regardless of what else is going on in your life.
“We want to show you how to go with the flow. Which means nothing more than finding vibrational harmony with your own desire, and letting the Universal Energy that your desire is summoning to it flow to it though you. It is optimum creative experience.” —Abraham
Will you embrace this simple, yet of-so-powerful intention: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life.These words have become a sort of mantra in my head: ease and flow, ease and flow.
Do I perfectly live my intention of ease and flow? Certainly not! But I love the north star of this intention. It always holds the possibility of orienting me, of guiding me, of supporting me.
The same is true for you.
“It’s a matter of enjoying your own experience, enjoying the flow that happens and not getting too far out ahead of it and trying to make it into something right away. Enjoy it as it flows—enjoy it as it flows until it’s just second nature for it to flow, flow, flow, flow, flow until your just tuned-in, tapped-in, turned-on all the time.” —Abraham
So say it with me: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a useful intention to help you maintain your vibrational alignment.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What can happen as the day unfolds when you don’t live by intention
- A useful intention that can apply no matter what is going on in your life
- What the energy of struggle has to do with manifesting
- What is at the heart of every negative emotion you feel
- Why it’s so important to allow yourself to feel good
Quotable
“Let your intention be: I want ease and flow on all subjects in my life.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how efforting and productivity can mess with your vibration. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What Abraham says is the most productive thing you can do
- A seemingly common experience of letting an alignment practice fall by the wayside
- The downside of trying to create through action
- Why what you believe about ease and flow is important for manifesting
- The power in relaxing rather than offering effort
- A wake-up call if you’ve been validating your existence with hard work
- The path your Inner Being is guiding you toward
- Why you might want to reduce your workload by 30%
Quotable
“You cannot struggle your way to what you want. It has got to be easy.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the low vibe of doubt and how it gunks up manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why it’s important to notice if you feel good about what you want to manifest
- What doubt is a sign of
- A recent experience I had with doubt and why it was a wake-up call
- What doubt and enthusiasm have to do with the timing of your manifestation
- What I invite you to question when you experience doubt
Quotable
“When you want something that you believe, it feels good. But when you have a desire that you doubt, then that desire does not feel good because the vibrational content of your desire and the vibrational content of your belief does not match. Negative emotion is simply present when you are thinking in opposition to your own desire.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the flawed premise of expecting a happy ending at the end of an unhappy journey. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How you could be unintentionally defying Law of Attraction
- Why the way you are feeling along the way is so important
- How pre-paving is more than simply how you want a situation to unfold
- The three ways you are pre-paving your future experiences right now
- Why you want to pay the price of happiness
Quotable
“You can never have a happy ending at the end of an unhappy journey; it just doesn’t work out that way. The way you’re feeling, along the way, is the way you’re continuing to pre-pave your journey, and it’s the way it’s going to continue to turn out until you do something about the way you are feeling.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Every now and again I feel like my awareness and understanding of Law of Attraction expands in a really noticeable way. In a way that has an immediate and practical application in my life.
That’s one of the reasons I think my love affair with LoA continues. There is always more to learn, to know, and then there are these moments where I “get it” in a new way because I’m truly living it.
Perhaps you’ve had that same experience.
You can know and know and know, but it’s when you start living it—whatever the LoA principle is—it’s when you start actually living it, practically applying it in your daily life—that’s when the clouds part and the sun shines and there’s just this amazing feeling of Oh, so that’s how it works.
I had a recent example of this I want to share. And it has to do with the LoA concept of wanted and unwanted. Of every subject really being two subjects—what you want and what you don’t want.
This is not a new concept for me. It’s one that’s been on my radar since my very early days of rediscovering Law of Attraction.
In fact, one of my all-time favorite Abraham quotes is this:
“Every subject is really two subjects, with what is wanted on one end of the stick, and the absence of what is wanted on the other end. Sometimes you are a perfect vibrational match to the unwanted end of the stick but you don’t realize it because it feels normal to you. And that is only because it is more usual for you to talk about the problem rather than the solution.” —Abraham
I love the stick analogy because it makes it so easy to understand what’s going on.This idea that every subject—finances, health, your relationship, etc—every subject is really two subjects. And you are always activating one end of the stick or the other—depending on what your focus is.
Think of it this way: You’re out walking and you pick up a stick. You can’t pick up that stick without picking up both ends.
In LoA terms, on one end of that stick is wanted and on the other end is unwanted. Both ends exist. Wanted and unwanted always co-exist. The question is: Which will you activate with your thoughts, your focus, your attention?
The stick analogy has helped so many of my clients understand what they are a vibrational match to—what is wanted or what is unwanted.
Back to my recent example of a practical application for an LoA concept.
“Once you’ve decided that you want something, the opposite of it is going to be very much a part of your awareness too.” —Abraham
That’s the concept. That’s it! It’s not fancy. Perhaps doesn’t feel all that earth shattering.
OK, yeah, when you want something new, have some new rocket of desire you’ve launched, you’ll also become more aware of the opposite—as in the absence of what you want. Becoming aware of the opposite can show up as thoughts like: I don’t have it. Where is it? What if I don’t get it?
Recently I launched a rocket of desire, and I did immediately become very aware of the opposite of what I wanted. Very aware.And when you are very aware of the opposite of what you want, that means the opposite is vibrationally active. That means the opposite—as in the opposite of what I want, as in unwanted—is vibrationally active and attracting.
This is not good for manifesting.
It’s at the very moment when you have a desire that you are at a crossroads. Will you focus on what you want? Or will you focus on the lack or absence of what you want?
Because that choice of focus is going to be all-important as to what comes next. To what you attract, what you create.
If I don’t have a desire for ice cream, I’m not noticing the plethora or the dearth of open ice cream parlors in December.I could walk by a dozen places, open, not open, and I wouldn’t even really notice. Because until I have the desire—I really want an ice cream cone or I’m really trying to avoid the temptation of ice cream—it’s only when I launch that desire that the opposite will become very much a part of my awareness.
If I’m wanting an ice cream cone, I’m now noticing that every ice cream shop seems to be closed in December. In other words, the opposite of my desire is going to be very much a part of my awareness.
On the other hand, if I’m trying to avoid eating ice cream and don’t want to be tempted—so that’s my desire—now I’m noticing the opposite: It would seem there is an ice cream parlor on every corner and they are all open and offering specials.
While my ice cream example might seem silly, imagine the vibrational consequences as this plays out for all your desires.
Every single time you launch a rocket of desire, the lack or absence of what you want is now part of your awareness as well.So here’s what was going on for me.
Over the past several weeks I’ve felt some stirrings, some questions really, about what’s next for me work-wise. About my podcast. About coaching. About what I want to create next—or not.
The stirrings and questions launched a rocket of desire for me that was about clarity.
I don’t have a particular goal in mind or something I’m wanting to achieve. I simply want clarity.
Well, clarity is a desire. Perhaps not the kind of desire where you can go to the store and hand over your credit card to make a purchase, but clarity is very much a desire.
And the moment I launched a rocket of desire for clarity about my work, was the exact moment the opposite because very much a part of my awareness too.The opposite as in confusion. Right? Confusion is the opposite of clarity.
So I have a desire for clarity, and the opposite—confusion—is now seemingly everywhere. Suddenly there were even more questions without answers. More—well, it could be this or it could be that or I could do this thing or stop doing that thing…but I don’t know because I don’t have clarity.
Now, this isn’t a bad thing. All this confusion. And it’s not unexpected. It doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong. It doesn’t mean I need to force to figure things out or effort with a bunch of action.
The appearance of confusion on the scene is simply how Law of Attraction works.
“For every pleasing thing, there is an unpleasing counterpart, for within every particle of the Universe is that which is wanted as well as the lack of that which is wanted.” —Abraham
The only reason I’m noticing the confusion is because I have a desire for clarity. Now, this doesn’t mean my desire for clarity is a bad thing. It doesn’t mean I should stop wanting what I want.
What’s going on here is simply the path to manifesting. When you have a desire, you will then become aware of the lack or absence of what you want.
I had a desire for clarity. I immediately became aware of the lack of clarity, the absence of clarity.
And so given that this is how Law of Attraction, what are you to do?
Well, here’s the key: Focus.Intentional focus. Choosing focus. Stay focused on what is wanted rather than on unwanted.
In my case, as the confusion came in, came to my awareness…as I had more and more questions to which I did not have the answers…I chose to stay focused.
I want clarity, so I will look for clarity. I will celebrate any form or flavor of clarity. I will notice where there is clarity, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, and I will bask in it.
I will stay on the side of what is wanted with my thoughts. I will not entertain confused thoughts. I will not continue to repeatedly ask a question for which I don’t have the answer. I will not linger in confusion and create momentum in that direction.
Instead, I will tune the confusion out of my frequency.
“It is not your job to get rid of unwanted. It is your job to tune it out of your frequency.” —Abraham
So it’s not my job to get rid of all confusion. The world doesn’t need to be a place where there is no confusion.
I simply have to tune it out of my frequency. Which can easily be done by staying on the side of clarity.
I can be clear that I want clarity! I can be appreciative for any clarity I do have. I can ask questions with curiosity, trusting the Universe to unfold and reveal, without activating the unwanted of confusion.
One of my clients shared her experience of this LoA concept.She and her partner had been long-time renters and had never really had any other desire. Then they moved to a different part of the country, and for the first time had the desire to buy a home.
As soon as they had this desire, the couple started hearing all these stories about the difficulty of finding a house, how lengthy the process would be, how much they would need to compromise. They started noticing all these homes outside their desired price range.
Their overarching desire is to find a home easily that they love and feel good about purchasing, and to enjoy the process. To have fun on the journey to being home owners.
Again, the LoA principle holds true: “Once you’ve decided that you want something, the opposite of it is going to be very much a part of your awareness too.” —Abraham
My client and her partner had a choice to make. They can’t shield themselves from this truth about the opposite of their desire coming into their awareness. But they can choose their focus. They can be intentional about what they expect.
“Expectation is a focus with a vibration that permits the receiving of what you’re focused upon. And you expect things—both wanted and unwanted.” —Abraham
And so will they expect a fun and easy home buying journey? In other words, expect what is wanted. Or will they expect an arduous and exacting experience as they try to buy a home?
The practical application of all this for me is two-fold.First, it’s very reassuring to realize that whenever I have a desire, the opposite is going to be part of my awareness too.
I find the predictability and inevitability of that to be reassuring. I know it’s going to happen, so no need to think the sky is falling or I’m not doing LoA right, or that I need to effort my way to get what I want.
So that’s the first practical application: I know what to expect when I have a new desire.
Second, I really embrace that with every desire I’m at the crossroads. Wanted—that way. Unwanted—the other way.
And I will go down one of those paths depending upon my focus. Depending on the thoughts I choose to think and what I give my attention to.
“When you focus upon an unwanted aspect of something in an effort to push it away from you, it only comes closer, because you get what you give your attention to whether it is something that you want or not. It is up to you to focus upon and attract what is wanted.” —Abraham
It is up to you, when you have a desire, to be easy—relaxed even—about the awareness of the opposite. And then to choose to activate what it is wanted.
“If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of whatever you want, you will attract more of the lack.” —Abraham
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what is inevitable whenever you have a new desire.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A recent experience I had with unwanted
- Why the stick analogy is so useful in understanding Law of Attraction
- What happens the moment you have a new desire
- A silly example about ice cream—but one that has real vibrational consequences
- Why confusion was inevitable when I wanted clarity
- Why it’s not your job to get rid of unwanted
- A two-fold practical application for manifesting when you have a desire
Quotable
“Once you’ve decided that you want something, the opposite of it is going to be very much a part of your awareness too.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about whether you could be thinking too much about what you want to manifest. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Whether thinking too much or too little about your desire is an issue when it comes to manifesting
- What many of us do immediately after launching a rocket of desire
- What fixating on what you want can be a sign of
- Why you don’t get LoA bonus points for how many hours a day you spend thinking about your desire
- How to easily have clarity about whether you are thinking too little or too much about what you want
Quotable
“’Could I think too little about my desire, for it to manifest?’ Actually, no, because as the contrast launches the desire, and then you do not offer any opposing thought, then you’re letting it in, and it will manifest. Many of our physical friends really believe that they must find a desire and then hold tenaciously to it. And we say, you do not need to do that. Let the variety of your life keep balance in your life. You just concentrate more on holding yourself in the good-feeling place where you’re letting it in.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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I suppose it’s natural when we have a desire for something to then immediately wonder, When will I get it? How long will it take? Hey Universe, what’s the timeframe to manifest what I want?
When we ask these questions, most of us are thinking in terms of time. How many days, weeks, months will it take?
- Can I get the promotion at work by the end of the year?
- Will we be in our new house by the holidays?
- How many more months will I be single?
We think in terms of time and we create project plans and deadlines for our desires. We look at the calendar and hope we’ll have it by X date.
Many of us—maybe even most of us—don’t think about vibration and resistance as the answer to how long it will take to manifest what we want.What I hope to do is shift the focus from time—days, weeks, months, years—to what is truly at the core of manifesting: which is vibration and resistance.
Rather than giving the Universe deadlines—I’d like to find my partner before the holidays—and rather than focusing on time—How many months will it take?, we would be better served to focus our attention on vibration and resistance.
“When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, “It takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.” —Abraham
This is such an important distinction about how manifestation works.
Thinking in terms of time is rather old school. It’s the manual way of going about trying to get what you want, trying to make what you want happen.
But that’s now using Law of Attraction to your advantage.And so Abraham is saying, Sure it could take a long long time, but it could also take no time at all. Because it’s not about time. It’s about resistance. And more to the point, it’s about allowing. It’s about whether you are allowing or resisting your desire.
And when I say resisting your desire, you might think, Why would I do that? I want what I want. I am not resisting my desire.
But when you think thoughts that contradict your desire, you are resisting. Thoughts like:
- I’m not sure it will happen.
- I don’t know if I can get what I want.
- Am I worthy?
- Is it too late?
These are examples of the tip of the iceberg when it comes to contradicting your desire. When you think thoughts about what you want that cause you to feel negative emotion instead of excited anticipation, that is contradicting your desire. That’s resistance.
Someone can have the desire for abundance. But then her go-to thought on this subject is, I’ve just never been good with money. That’s resistance.
When you think about what you want to manifest, if you are feeling any flavor of negative emotion, that’s resistance. Plain and simple.We sometimes like to dress it up with I’m just being realistic or I don’t want to get my hopes up and then be disappointed.
Well, if you are being “realistic”, then all you can manifest is more of what-is. And if you don’t want to get your hopes up and be disappointed, then disappointment is your vibration to which Law of Attraction responds, and you get a life experience where you feel disappointment.
- When you think about what you want, and then have doubts it will manifest, that’s resistance.
- When you think about what you want, and are frustrated it hasn’t yet happened, that’s resistance.
- When you think about what you want, and have this nagging question about deserving it, that’s resistance.
On the flip side, when you think about what you want and feel any flavor of positive emotion, like excitement and optimism and positive expectation, that’s allowing.
Manifesting what you want takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance.That’s why indulging in negative emotion about what you want is not benign. Your negative emotion is a creative force; it’s a sign you are mis-creating.
When I have a desire for something, I know with absolute certainty any thought I have about what I want that causes me to feel negative emotion means I’ve got resistance, and that resistance is gunking up manifesting.
When I feel excitement about what I want, positive expectation and anticipation, when I have an inner knowing, a certainty it’s coming, when I feel eagerness for what I want and appreciation in advance of it manifesting, then I know I’ve got it! I’m in a state of allowing.
Which means I am in state to receive what it is I desire rather than in a state of resistance.
Bottom line: Resistance prevents receiving.
“The amount of time it takes you to get from where you are to where you want to be, is only the amount of time it takes you to change the vibration within you. Instant manifestation could be yours if you could instantly change the vibration.” —Abraham
What often happens when you have a desire for something you want to manifest and you immediately start thinking, When will I get what I want? and look at the calendar and create these deadlines in your mind for when it has to happen—all of that often causes negative emotion. It creates impatience about what you are wanting.
And it simply has you looking over there at the calendar instead of where you would be better off focused, which is on your vibration. How are you feeling about what you want?
Sure, you want it. But are you feeling excited about receiving it or worried you won’t get it? Are you so appreciating the unfolding of your desire or are you impatiently tapping your foot and thinking, Why is it taking so long?
“The only manifestation that matters is the way you feel. And when you get control of that one, you’ve got control of every other manifestation.” —Abraham
This is so important to understand and embrace and practice.
The only manifestation that matters is the way you feel.That’s because the way you feel is going to create and attract what manifests. Everything that manifests—that shows up in your physical reality—is coming from how you feel, from the vibration you offer.
When you get control of the first manifestation—as in, the way you feel, then you have control of every other manifestation. When you offer your vibration on purpose, you are a deliberate creator. You are able to manifest what you want with ease.
I know you want what you want. And your desire is a beautiful thing.
But we have to be clear about the feeling being the first manifestation. And so when you feel friction in your vibration because you’re focused on the timing of what you want, that first manifestation of feeling has already gone awry.
Often we look around and notice the absence of what we want and feel negative emotion.* You look at your bank statement and notice the absence of the money you desire. * You wake up and dread going to work feeling the absence of the fulfilling job you want. * You are out and about and notice all the couples and feel the absence of the relationship you desire.
This is so common to observe what-is, which is lacking at this moment what it is we want. And so we focus on the lack or absence of what we want and we feel bad. We feel negative emotion.
“If you are observing with your emotions, if you are observing vibration, now you are observing pre-manifestation. And therefore, you have control of what manifests. But if you are observing with your physical senses, you are observing post-manifestation.” —Abraham
Abraham says: “…the less resistance there is, then the less delay between the idea of the thought, and the receiving of it.”
That’s what we all want, right? We want less delay between launching the rocket of desire and receiving our desired manifestation.
Could it really take 30 years to manifest what you want?
The short answer: Yes. I suppose it could.
And…it could be a week, it could be tomorrow afternoon.
The bottom line: Manifesting takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance.
“Negative emotion is your indicator of resistance, while positive emotion is your indicator of allowance.” —Abraham
One easy way to know whether you are resisting or allowing is to notice how you feel.When you think about what you want, how do you feel? When you talk about what you are wanting, how do you feel?
It is countless the number of times a client has been sharing her desire and the conversation is peppered with negative thoughts she’s having.
- Pessimistic thoughts about her ability to have what she wants.
- Frustrated and impatient thoughts about why it’s taking so long
- Overwhelmed thoughts about all she needs to do to get what she wants.
- Disappointed thoughts it hasn’t already happened.
- Doubt-filled and discouraged thoughts about whether it will ever manifest.
- Jealous thoughts because others already have what she wants.
- Unworthy thoughts about being deserving.
You get the idea.
Thoughts causing any flavor of negative emotion are a sign of resistance, which means you are not allowing the receiving of what you want.
“Pure desire is always accompanied by positive emotion.” —Abraham
This is an invitation to shift how you think about how long it will take to get what you want.Rather than thinking in terms of the calendar and days, weeks, and months, I invite you to think about your desire through the lens of allowing versus resistance.
Consider your desire and whether your thoughts and words about what you want fill you with positive emotion—that’s allowing—or whether when you think or speak about what you want, you are feeling negative emotion—that’s resistance.
Put away the calendar and observe your emotions, notice your vibration.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how long it takes for something to manifest.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why “How many more months will I be single?” Is the wrong question.
- Why giving the Universe deadlines misses the point about how manifesting works
- How you could be resisting your desire without realizing it
- Why indulging in negative emotion about what you want is not benign
- What Abraham says is the only manifestation that matters
- What to do instead of thinking in terms of days, weeks, and months for your desire to manifest
Quotable
“When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, “It takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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There are so many ways to understand Law of Attraction. Great explanations, analogies, quotes. Just when I think I really “get” LoA, I read or hear something—perhaps even something I’d read or heard before—and yet it lands in a new way. My understanding is deepened or expanded. Other times I actively seek all those great […]
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why your future need not be limited by your past.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- When the past does and does not have a bearing on today
- Why remembering something from the past can lower your present point of attraction
- What you need to let go of if you want to create a new future
- Two guidelines for ensuring you are not limiting your present with your past
Quotable
“Sometimes in order to be happy in the present moment you have to be willing to give up all hope for a better past.” —Robert Holden
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why the vibrational journey “over there” matters so much when it comes to manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why the grass can’t be greener somewhere else when you are offering a low vibration
- What happened when I moved all over the city looking for happy
- How to easily know what kind of magnet you are
- What to do before you quit or leave
- What to focus on when there are 99 things you don’t like about your job
Quotable
“If you leave a place because you don’t like it, the next place won’t be any better.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about two common types of worry—both of which attract the essence of the very thing you are worried about. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why it’s not external things but rather your thoughts causing worry
- How naming the type of worrying I’m doing has helped me
- The two-step dance that is incredibly bad for manifesting
- What happens when you stay in the pure positive emotion of desire
- Why worry is a mis-use of your imagination
Quotable
“When man can wish without worrying, every desire will be instantly fulfilled.” —Florence Scovel Shinn
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how your imagination can be a super power when it comes to manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why this is a wakeup call if you’ve thought dreaming is a waste of time
- What I would say to someone who tells me she’s no good at visualizing
- Why today I hold imagination in an elevated position
- The door that opens when you imagine what you want already exists
- What happens when you visualize your worries and fears
- The two-fold benefit when you imagine the best-case scenario
- Why your undivided attention what-is prevents a new reality
Quotable
“Whatever we fix our thoughts upon or steadily focus our imagination upon, that is what we attract.” —Claude M. Bristol
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Step 3 of manifesting is Receive. To allow your desire to manifest, you have to be in receiving mode. The simplest way to think about this is to feel now how you’ll feel then.
If you desire a loving, committed relationship, how will you feel when that manifests? To be in receiving mode is to feel that way now—even before the loving, committed relationship manifests into your physical reality.
Receiving mode is all about achieving the vibrational essence of your desire. In other words, vibrating in your here and now in a way that aligns with your desire.
Many of us tend to do just the opposite. Until we get what we want, we are not vibrating in alignment with our desire.Here’s an example: You want abundance in your life; you want peace of mind about all things money-related. You want ease around your finances. You want financial freedom.
The vibration of your desire is: Abundance, peace, ease, and freedom. To be in receiving mode for what you want means to feel abundance, peace, ease, and freedom now. To feel now how you’ll feel when what you want manifests.
But instead your vibration is one of struggle. You are feeling lack and scarcity. Your vibration reflects worry and fear.
This means there’s a vibrational gap—and quite a significant one—between the vibration you are offering right now and the vibration of your desire. And when there is such a vibrational gap, what you want simply cannot manifests.
This is why aligning with the vibration of your desire, as in, getting in receiving mode, is so vital for manifesting.
“Achieve, first, the vibrational essence of your desire—and then, through the crack of least resistance the manifestation will be delivered… work on the essence of the feeling of freedom; work on the essence of the feeling of empowerment— work on the essence of the feeling of Well-Being…” —Abraham
Work on the essence of the feeling you are after.
Now the question you might be asking is, How? How do I do that? How do I achieve the vibrational essence of my desire—before it manifests?
Abraham offers two ways for achieving the vibrational essence of your desire.Here they are:
“You can imagine it already having happened and pretend what it will feel like when it is that way. Or, you can look for things in your life that are already like that and beat the drum of that until they play a higher percentage of time in the vibrational signal that you are emanating.” —Abraham
Let’s explore these two possibilities in more detail.
Starting with: “You can imagine it already having happened and pretend what it will feel like when it is that way.”
So to achieve the vibrational essence of your desire—also known as receiving mode—you can imagine your desire has manifested. You can use your imagination to feel now how you’ll feel then.
Let me share an example of this.
One of my clients realized most of her friendships from her younger days had fallen away and were no longer a meaningful part of her life. Then she accepted a new job that meant moving across country where she didn’t know anyone. This launched a desire for creating new friendships, as an adult and in her new city.
To achieve the vibrational essence of her desire, she considered why she wanted to develop new friendships and how it would feel when this desire manifested.
- She imagined the fun she would have spending time with like-minded people.
- She imagined the connection she would feel and sense of belonging.
- She imagined her appreciation of togetherness and companionship.
- She imagined the joy of shared experiences and making memories with her friends.
- She imagined a feeling of security that there would be someone to call at 2 in the morning in an emergency—and that she would have friends in her life who would count on her as their 2 a.m. person.
My client’s imagination was rich in detail as she described and found the feeling place of her desire.Now, keep in mind, her desire had not yet manifested in her physical reality. She had only just arrived in this new city where she didn’t know anyone except the handful of people she’d met at the office.
My client has a deep understanding of how Law of Attraction works. She knows achieving the vibrational essence of her desire is what allows the desire to manifest.
And that one way to do this is simply to “imagine it already having happened and pretend what it will feel like when it is that way.”
This first option for achieving the vibrational essence of a desire is available to everyone. You have the ability to imagine. You have the ability to pretend what it will feel like when you manifest what you desire.
Sometimes clients characterize this process as a challenging.
For instance, a client shared when she looked at the vision board she’d created reflecting all her desires, she still had difficulty imagining how it would feel when all that she wants has manifested.
She said, I just don’t seem to be very good good at imagining how it will feel. I immediately start thinking thoughts about when and how rather than imagining how it will feel.
Let me emphasize: We all have imagination available to us.You may be more accustomed to indulging when and how thoughts that can leave you feeling frustration and doubt, rather than tapping into your imagination, but that can change.
Before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction, I was much more focused on whatever was right in front of me and way less about imagination. Today it’s the absolute reverse.
I think of imagination as like a muscle.
You may not be used to using your imagination. Your imagination muscle may be almost non-existent from lack of use.
But if you start using your imagination—when you start using your imagination to experience what it will feel like when your desire manifests—you will build your imagination muscle. You will get better and better at being able to get in receiving mode through nothing more than the power of your own creative, resourceful imagination.
Isn’t that cool to know?
It’s so empowering to realize nothing needs to change in your external world for you to get in receiving mode for what you want.All you have to do is tap into your imagination and pretend—and you can and will achieve the vibrational essence of your desire. And that is when, through the crack of least resistance, your desired manifestation will be delivered.
Let’s move on to the second option for achieving the vibrational essence of your desire: “You can look for things in your life that are already like that and beat the drum of that until they play a higher percentage of time in the vibrational signal that you are emanating.”
I love connecting the dots that comes with this second option.
Here’s what Abraham means. Let’s say you are wanting the promotion at work that will come with an increase in pay and projects you’re enthusiastic about working on.
You are excited about the idea of this new chapter in your career. It will feel empowering to get the new promotion with the new title and salary and opportunities. You’ll feel pride in your achievement and real passion for the work you’ll be doing.
In other words, when your desire manifests, you’ll feel empowerment and excitement; you’ll feel pride and passion.
Those emotions are the vibrational essence of your desire.To achieve the vibration essence of your desire, you want to look around your life as it is today, pre-promotion, and look for things in your life that are already along the same frequency of empowerment and excitement, pride and passion.
- Where else in your life do you feel empowered?
- Where else in your life are you feeling excitement about opportunity?
- How is pride already an emotion you are experiencing in your life?
- Where do you already feel passion?
The idea is to look for ways in which you are already feeling these emotions—already aligned with the vibration of empowerment, excitement, pride, and passion.
Because if you are feeling empowerment in another area of your life—even one that has nothing to do with your career—that offers an opportunity to “beat the drum”—as in notice and appreciate, as in amplify and attract more of the same essence into your life.
When you beat the drum of these desired emotions—wherever they show up in your life—those emotions start to play a greater roll in the vibration you are offering.
See how that works?
If you offer the vibration of empowerment, excitement, pride and passion more of the time, it closes the vibrational gap between you and your desire. Which means it accelerates and allows the manifestation.
You are always in vibrational alignment with something. Sometimes that something is wanted. Sometimes that something is unwanted.
“It makes no difference whether you want the specifics of it or not; it is the vibrational essence of the subject of your attention that is attracted. That which you really, really want, you get —and that which you really, really do not want, you get.” —Abraham
What have you been achieving the vibrational essence of? What you want or what you don’t want?
“Noticing how things are turning out for you is one very clear way of understanding which vibrational requests you are emanating, because you always get the essence of what you are thinking about, whether you want it or not.” —Abraham
For instance, if scenarios start showing up in my life where I’m experiencing friction and frustration, then I know I’ve been achieving the vibrational essence of friction and frustration. Of course, that’s not what I intend, but that is how Law of Attraction works.
Get in receiving mode for what you want.
“You’ve got to find vibrational essence of where you’re going and that must become dominant in your vibration before it can begin showing up for you.” —Abraham
Find the vibrational essence of where you’re going. Feel now how you’ll feel when what you want manifests. That is how you make Law of Attraction work to your advantage.
I invite you to make use of the two ways to achieve the vibrational essence of your desire.* Use your imagination to pretend what it will feel like * Beat the drum of things already in your life that feel that way
Of course, you don’t need to pick only one of these ways. Both are powerful tools for manifesting that you can have in your LoA toolkit.
Do your part in allowing what you want to manifest—and use these tools. Enjoy the creative power you have in readily and easily achieving the vibrational essence of your desire.
“You create the vibrational atmosphere which equals your vibrational point of attraction, and then, the Law of Attraction matches you with things like you.” —Abraham
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about two ways to get in receiving mode by achieving the vibrational essence of your desire.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happens when there’s a vibrational gap between you and your desire
- What you have to do before your desire is delivered through the crack of least resistance
- What your imagination has to do with manifesting
- How to improve the vibrational signal you are emanating
- Two ways to achieve the vibrational essence of your desire
Quotable
“Achieve, first, the vibrational essence of your desire—and then, through the crack of least resistance the manifestation will be delivered… work on the essence of the feeling of freedom; work on the essence of the feeling of empowerment— work on the essence of the feeling of Well-Being… And how do you do that? You can imagine it already having happened and pretend what it will feel like when it is that way. Or, you can look for things in your life that are already like that and beat the drum of that until they play a higher percentage of time in the vibrational signal that you are emanating.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why talking yourself out of your feeling response is bad for manifesting. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why Abraham says following your initial knee-jerk response might be a good thing
- An example of ignoring a feeling response about joining a book club
- The way many of us overrule our feeling response with shoulds and have tos
- The specific opportunity you have about noticing when you talk yourself out of how you feel
Quotable
“Sometimes you walk into things, that, if you were paying attention, vibrationally, you would know right from the beginning that it wasn’t what you are wanting. In most cases, your initial knee-jerk response was a pretty good indicator of how it was going to turn out later. The things that give most of you the most grief are those things that initially you had a feeling response about, but then you talked yourself out of it for one reason or another.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the two simple statements about beliefs that have been life changing for me. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why your beliefs are everything when it comes to being a deliberate creator
- A variety of differing perspectives about beliefs—at least one of which I’m hoping creates an aha moment for you
- What happens when you think, I’m always robbing Peter to pay Paul
- Why waiting for the raise before you believe in abundance is flawed
- The tell-tale sign of a belief problem
- Why your mind is like a piece of paper that’s been folded
- The ceiling many of us hit about what we allow into our lives
Quotable
“Be careful how you interpret the world: it is like that.” —Erich Heller
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about your vibration at the start of your day—and why it matters. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What many of us squander when we first wake up in the morning
- Why Abraham encourages us to push the reset button
- The freedom you have—but may not be exercising
- What 98% of your thoughts may be about
- Why embracing you are the creator of your mood is key to manifesting
- What the the sign in my Mom’s house says about deliberate creation
- The new habit you may want to cultivate
Quotable
“Often you begin your day much as you ended the day before. But if we were standing in your physical shoes we would acknowledge the fresh new day! ‘I can push the reset button. I have complete control over my point of attraction today! I will look for things that feel good today!’” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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The other day a client shared how frustrated she is that her spouse won’t take her advice about how to handle a situation at work. Her spouse keeps talking about and worrying about the situation, and my client keeps offering advice and directives, usually preceded by, Here’s what you should do…
And yet the situation remains. The spouse continues to complain and worry. And my client, Carmen, is feeling negative emotion.
She originally blamed her negative emotion on the fact that her spouse wasn’t taking her advice. However, as we explored what was going on through the lens of Law of Attraction, my client landed on this: I’m trying to control and it doesn’t feel very good.
Now here’s the thing: Carmen had dealt with a very similar work situation earlier in her career. She felt well versed to share her considerable expertise and what had worked for her. Carmen’s intentions were good—she truly wanted to help her spouse feel better and improve things at work.
But somewhere in the unfolding, Carmen had crossed the line from guiding by example to control. The former would have felt fine—good even. The latter was feeling anything but fine. My client was feeling the friction of control.
Guidance versus control. There is a significant vibrational difference between these two energies.
“If you guide through anything other than your own example, it crosses over into the category of control. If you say, ‘This is what I’ve found that works for me, try it if you like.’ That’s guidance. If you say, ‘This is what I’ve found works for me, and if you don’t follow it, you’re in trouble,’ that’s control.” —Abraham
Here’s the bottom line: Control doesn’t feel good to the person doing the controlling or the person on the receiving end of that energy. In other words, when you are controlling, you don’t feel good—and the person you are controlling doesn’t feel good.
When you are being controlling, how you feel depends on the other person doing what you think they should do. Your alignment is conditional on them doing what you want them to do or what you think is best.
This is precisely why many of us feel friction when we give advice, and the person on the receiving end does not take our advice.
Have you experienced this? You give your girlfriend advice about some situation in her life that she’s troubled by, she doesn’t take your advice, and now you are some flavor of upset.
Being controlling simply doesn’t feel good.At the same time, the person on the receiving end of this behavior doesn’t feel good either because someone trying to exert control simply doesn’t feel good.
Freedom is at the top of the emotional scale. The feeling of being controlled is the opposite of freedom.
In short, control is not a high vibe energy. For the person controlling or the one being controlled.
Of course, many of us who are being controlling don’t necessarily own this characterization of our behavior. We don’t want to think of ourselves as being controlling.
We say, No, I’m just being helpful, just offering advice. I’m making a suggestion. I only want what’s best for the other person. (The subtext, of course, is: And I know what’s best for you).
When you think you know what’s best for someone else, that’s control, not guidance.This idea—I know what’s best for you—is decidedly low vibe. And it cuts both ways.
- When someone else thinks they know what’s best for you, but somehow you don’t, that’s low vibe.
- And when you think you know what’s best for someone else—your spouse, kid, best friend, neighbor—it robs them of their own agency, the autonomy of their own journey, the wisdom of their own intuition.
I’ll say it again: Thinking you know what’s best for someone else is low vibe.
Every now and again, I get some pushback about this concept from a coaching client.Especially parents in relation to their kids. But often too with partners in a relationship. And then sometimes the knowing what’s best for others extends far beyond personal relationships to knowing what’s best for the neighborhood or the country or the world at large.
When I say there’s sometimes pushback, what I mean is someone sort of digging in to the belief, But I really do know what’s best. But my way really would be better. I really do know what will work, will solve the problem, is best for the other person.
100% of the time when you dig into the belief that control is OK—in whatever form that takes for you—your own vibration is compromised.
When your vibration is one of control, you will encounter many opportunities to be controlling.Like attracts like. So you will encounter one situation after another where you know what’s best— if you can just get others to see that and do what you want.
And your own vibration, you own ability to feel good, will become dependent on whether you can get all these situations to unfold and resolve in the way you think is best.
Which is simply not going to happen. Seeding situations with the energy of control is bound to yield negative emotion.
I like to think of control as being on one end of the continuum and then way down at the opposite end is guidance.And I am always somewhere on that continuum with my thoughts and words and actions.
The same is true for you. You are always somewhere on that continuum. Your thoughts and words and actions are either in the direction of control or in the direction of guidance. A useful question you can ask: Is my vibration oriented toward control or toward guidance?
Which might have you wondering: What does guidance look like? What do I even mean by guidance—especially as vibrationally distinct from control?
Guidance can mean different things, can look different ways. Here are a few examples:* When you share your experience with someone with no expectation other than they will do what’s right for them—that’s guidance. * When you show up in the world and model unconditional alignment—so, alignment without conditions—that’s guidance. * When you ask great questions, like What do you want to do? instead of telling the person what she should do—that’s guidance. * When someone asks you for advice and you encourage her to follow her own intuition—that’s guidance. * When you see others as resourceful and whole, and then think and speak and act from that belief—that’s guidance.
Just to be clear: When you share your experience with someone, that’s neutral. But your intention and what follows is either guidance or control.
For instance, when you get friction in your own vibration because someone isn’t following your advice, isn’t doing what you would do, isn’t paying attention to your suggestion, that’s not guidance. That’s control.
Are you about guidance or about control?Do you say, This is what I’ve found works for me, try it if you like? and then walk away, let it go? By walk away I mean freely offer your example, but have no vested interest in what the other person does other than wanting them to do what they want to do.
This is what I’ve found works for me, try it if you like, and also trust your own inner knowing, do what you want to do, know that there are no wrong decisions—only decisions you don’t align with.
Are you about the guidance of This is what I’ve found works for me, try it if you like…or do you say, This is what I’ve found works for me, and you must do the same or else?
Now, I doubt any of us is truly saying you must do the same or else in those exact words, but we convey this message all the same in more subtle ways.
I have your answers. I know what’s best. Do what I suggest so I can feel good that you take my advice.
Again, freedom is at the top of the emotional scale.
We are freedom-loving beings.
It does not feel good to control or be controlled. Control and freedom couldn’t be further apart vibrationally.This is an invitation to shift your energy from control to guidance.
- Happily share your example…and expect and want others to do what’s best for them.
- Show up in the world and model unconditional alignment.
- Ask others what they want and want to do rather than telling them what you think they should want or do.
- Encourage others to follow their own intuition.
- Don’t jump into offer advice and try to fix things. See others as resourceful and whole and as you know they want to be.
You are always somewhere on that continuum of control on one end and guidance on the other.
Head toward guidance. Hang out in the vibration of guidance.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the vibrational difference between guidance and control.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why you feel friction when someone doesn’t take your advice
- Why control doesn’t feel good
- What many of us say we’re doing rather than characterize our behavior as controlling
- Why thinking you know what’s best for someone else is low vibe
- How you could—without meaning to—be robbing someone of their own agency
- What guidance (versus control) looks like
Quotable
“If you guide through anything other than your own example, it crosses over into the category of control. If you say, ‘This is what I’ve found that works for me, try it if you like.’ That’s guidance. If you say, ‘This is what I’ve found works for me, and if you don’t follow it, you’re in trouble,’ that’s control.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why chewing on a problem only attracts more problems into your life experience. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why being a master problem solver is not such a good thing
- The reason the problem and the solution are not really two sides of the same coin
- Why pointing at something you don’t want is a guarantee to keeping it
- What you want to be instead of a problem solver
- The easiest way to get a problem to disappear
- Why there’s never a reason to wallow around in a problem for more than about a second
- An easy question to ask to know if you are oriented toward the problem or the solution
Quotable
“Be less intensely focused on the problem or the question, and feel more anticipation of the solution and the answer.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what the glass being half full has to do with happiness. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What many of us are doing that makes happiness a gamble
- What research has shown the best way to be happy is
- Why waiting to see what the day holds is a bad idea when it comes to your happiness
- How a person can make herself happy or miserable regardless of what is happening “outside”
- Why you don’t have to fight for happiness
- The simple advice to just be happy in any way you can
Quotable
“Happiness is a choice I make.” —Gabby Bernstein
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about seven things lowering your point of attraction—and what you want to do instead. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why I’m even focused on negative rather than positive things
- What happens when you think feelingly of the mistakes of the past
- What seeking approval has to do with your own intuition
- The unhelpful emotion you may be doing a dance with
- Why it’s not enough to be forgiving of others
- The question I would ask if you tell me that it’s just hard for you to say no
Quotable
“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.” —Caroline Myss
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Let’s start with this juicy question: Are you wearing struggle like a badge of honor?
Oh my goodness! The pre-LoA version of me absolutely wore struggle like a badge of honor. Efforting and striving were my MO.
I had struggle and success all mixed together, as if you couldn’t have the success without the struggle.
And the badge of honor part? Well, when I look back on that version of me, I can see I was sort of martyrdom proud of my struggle. Hey, look at me, look how busy I am. Look how hard I hustle. Look at everything I put on my To Do list. Look at everything I get done in a day.
When I rediscovered Law of Attraction a few years ago, I immediately bumped up against the very flawed premise of how I had been living. Because if you know anything at all about Law of Attraction, it’s a joy-filled philosophy, not a struggle-filled one.Many Abraham quotes have stopped me in my tracks over the years, but the one I’m about to share with you caused my jaw to drop and my eyes to widen the first time I heard it.
I felt the words were speaking directly to me. Perhaps you’ll feel the same.
Here it is. Abraham says:
“Most people have a hard time delegating, or even wanting to delegate, because you have been justifying your existence through your hard work, and you equate success with struggle; you equate results with struggle.
And so, you sort of wear your struggle like a badge of honor.
And all of that is opposite of allowing the Well-being. The only thing that ever matters in success or achievement is your achieving the things that you want to achieve.
So if you are setting standards and you’re feeling uncomfortable about the standards that you’ve set, tweak the standards back a little bit. Ratchet it back a notch.
Give yourself a break. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Lighten up. Be easier. Go slower. Take it easy. Have more fun. Love yourself more. Laugh more. Appreciate more.”
Now, we can’t really get to the part about going slower and taking it easy and having more fun—none of that will truly land—until we embrace the first part.
And I have to admit, that first part actually stung a bit the first time I heard it.
“Most people have a hard time delegating, or even wanting to delegate, because you have been justifying your existence through your hard work”
Oh… Ouch.
But…Yes.
I had never once considered that I was justifying my existence through my hard work, but the moment that frame came into view, I knew there was truth in it.* I’m so busy, therefore I am. * I’m productive, so I’m worthy. * I’m getting all this stuff done. I matter.
Suddenly I could see that I had, indeed, been justifying my existence through hard work.
I had been equating success with struggle and I had been equating results with struggle.
Somehow if there wasn’t some struggle involved, I wasn’t working hard enough or trying hard enough. There was this underlying belief that only struggle would take me where I wanted to go.
Granted, I wouldn’t have said these exact words, I have to struggle to succeed. Instead, I might have talked about work ethic or said entrepreneurs just have to hustle to make it (by the way, I no longer believe that).
While I might not have said the words—I have to struggle to succeed or struggling is the only way to get results—but the way I was living, the way I was showing up in my life, the way I was working—all reflected struggle.
I spared no effort, I exerted, I was always striving.
I understood hustle and hard work, I lived in the energy of buckle down and get it done. I took myself to task big time if I procrastinated. My standards were sky high. My To Do list was long.
I was living in the energy of struggle to try to make what I wanted happen. I believed struggle was simply the price you paid for getting the results you wanted.
And I’ll say it again: I was justifying my existence through hard work.
Back then, Abraham’s advice to take it easy and have fun would most definitely have been foreign concepts.
That’s how it used to be for me. Does any of that sound familiar to you? Have you been justifying your existence through your hard work, and as Abraham says, wearing your struggle like a badge of honor?
The badge of honor part is so interesting to me. When we wear something as a badge of honor, it’s because we are proud of it, right?So to wear struggle as a badge of honor means we must in some way be proud of all that struggle. How can that be?
What is there to be proud of when it comes to struggling? Most of us would say struggle is not a good thing, not ideal, not wanted.
Why then are we wearing struggle like a badge of honor? The only way I can figure it is we are, indeed, justifying our existence.
I’ve noticed this struggle-badge-of-honor often shows up when people get together and have a sort of unintended contest as to who is busiest, who has the most to do, who is juggling the most plates in the air.
Have you noticed those conversations? Or been a part of one?
Or when someone asks, How are you?, is your answer some variation of Oh my gosh, I’m so busy. Followed by rattling off all that you’ve been doing or all that you need to do as evidence of your worthiness.
Bottom line: All of that is opposite of allowing the Well-being.
If you are wearing struggle like a badge of honor—in whatever form it takes for you—that is the opposite of allowing the Well-being.
Struggle and Well-being are not on the same frequency. You can’t struggle your way to Well-being. And you can interpret Well-being broadly—as in you can’t struggle your way to Well-being, to abundance, to success.
Abraham goes on to say: “The only thing that ever matters in success or achievement is your achieving the things that you want to achieve. So if you are setting standards and you’re feeling uncomfortable about the standards that you’ve set, tweak the standards back a little bit. Ratchet it back a notch.”
Too many of us act as if we have zero agency in the standards we are struggling to live up to.We’re believing this is just what I have to do to get ahead, to get promoted, to buy a house, to reach my fitness goals. This is just what it takes to be a good parent or improve myself or reach my goals. This is the standard if I want success.
Law of Attraction 101: Your beliefs become your reality. Deciding to believe it takes struggle to succeed is self fulfilling.
You can just as easily believe what Abraham is suggesting—that if the standards you’ve set feel like too much, tweak them back a little bit, ratchet it back a notch.
For many of my clients, the initial reaction to this advice is, What?! What a minute—lower my standards? Do less? Delegate more? The mere suggestion of tweaking their standards or delegating brings up so much resistance.
Their standards are not bringing them joy. Refusing to delegate is causing them to struggle. But the initial reaction is, Oh no, I can’t. I mustn’t.I can’t lower my standards. I can’t delegate. I have to do everything and do it all perfectly. I can do it better than someone else would. I’m the only one who can do it right.
- Do you really have to celebrate the holidays to a Norman Rockwell-Martha Stewart perfectionist standard? Are your high standards more important than your enjoyment?
- Are you really the only one who can clean the bathroom or do the laundry the right way—as in to the particular standard you’ve come up with?
The bottom line is many of us, upon hearing the advice to lower our standards, dig in to defend our standards, dig in with all the reasons—aka excuses—why we just can’t delegate.
And so we continue to justify our existence with all that hard work.But Abraham doesn’t just encourage you to tweak your standards a little bit and delegate. That’s really just the beginning.
Things get really juicy and life changing with what comes next: “Give yourself a break. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Lighten up. Be easier. Go slower. Take it easy.”
Through the lens of Law of Attraction, you are always either allowing or disallowing. You are headed downstream or upstream.
- When you lighten up and go slower, when you take it easy, you are turning downstream and getting in the flow of allowing.
- When you have more fun, love yourself more, laugh more, and appreciate more, you are raising your vibration.
You are shifting away from the energy of struggle and vibrationally aligning with all that you want to manifest.
It’s time to stop justifying your existence through your hard work. It’s time to stop wearing struggle like a badge of honor. Let me share two real-world actions to help you do just that.First, tweak your standards back a little bit—or even a lot.
So really consider: What is a standard in your life that you can—and will—tweak? What standard can you ratchet back a notch?
One of my clients was living by a standard she hadn’t even realized she’d set for herself. It seemed good, in theory. It seemed life enhancing and rewarding. Her standard was to read at least 30 books a year.
Again, in theory that sounds great. Reading surely is a good thing, right? Think of all she’ll learn or be entertained by with those 30 books.
But here’s the thing: Her standard of reading 30 books a year was stressing her out. It had turned her great love of reading into another To Do, another goal to monitor and track, another task to tick off a list.
Her personal standard of 30 books a year was causing her to feel negative emotion.
I have a hard and fast rule about my standards. If my standards cause me to feel negative emotion, it is time to change that standard. Period.
This applies to a standard I came up with all on my own as well as societal standards I’ve internalized. If the standard allows me to feel good, it’s a keeper. If a standard causes me to feel bad, it’s time to ratchet it back a notch.
A second real-world action you can take is to delegate.
Delegating isn’t just for business owners or managers with a team or even confined only to a work environment. Delegation is available to all of us, no matter what we do for a living or whether we are married or have kids.
You can outsource meal planning or grocery shopping. You can delegate home repairs and household chores. Those are both examples of delegating.
You can delegate running your errands to companies like TaskRabbit. It’s a way to delegate taking packages to the post office, pick up a prescription, drop off your dry cleaning, hanging lights for the holiday.
- I’ve had clients who delegate house cleaning to a cleaning service.
- I’ve had clients delegate house cleaning to their spouse or their kids.
- I’ve had clients delegate house cleaning to it’s not getting done right now or it’s getting done, but to a lower standard.
These clients went from the struggle energy of Oh-I-have-to-do-everything to wait-a-minute, I don’t want to keep struggling, I don’t want to keep justifying my existence by doing everything.
Some of these clients marvel at how much they now delegate and how easily it comes to them.
One of my favorite kinds of delegation is to delegate something I used to do to the I’m-simply-not-going-to-do-that-anymore heap. That’s not how we usually think of delegating, but I like the freedom I feel in realizing I can delegate certain things to nope, not doing that anymore.
So let me ask: What can you delegate? Who can you delegate to?
If you want to shift away from the vibration of struggle, if you want to stop justifying your existence by your hard work, if you want to stop wearing struggle as a badge of honor, tweak a standard and delegate. And then enjoy what happens when Law of Attraction responds to the raise in your vibration.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the vibrational remedy to the struggle of busyness, productivity, and getting stuff done.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happened when I bumped up against the flawed premise that had success and struggle all mixed together
- What Abraham says most people have a hard time doing
- The words that stung even as I recognized the truth of them
- A common way the struggle-badge-of-honor shows up that might sound familiar
- Why you might want to pay attention to your answer when someone asks, How are you?
- What’s going on vibrationally when your high standards are more important than your enjoyment
- Two real-world actions to help you take off struggle as a badge of honor
Quotable
“Most people have a hard time delegating, or even wanting to delegate, because you have been justifying your existence through your hard work, and you equate success with struggle; you equate results with struggle. And so, you sort of wear your struggle like a badge of honor. And all of that is opposite of allowing the Well-being. The only thing that ever matters in success or achievement is your achieving the things that you want to achieve. So if you are setting standards and you’re feeling uncomfortable about the standards that you’ve set, tweak the standards back a little bit. Ratchet it back a notch. Give yourself a break. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Lighten up. Be easier. Go slower. Take it easy. Have more fun. Love yourself more. Laugh more. Appreciate more.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about making the decision to be happy so you can attract what you want. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A powerful counter to Someday Syndrome when it comes to happiness
- Some seemingly simplistic advice that is utterly true and incredibly useful
- What skipping has to do with my old belief that I need to be productive all the time
- The gift LoA has given me when it comes being easy
- Why there’s only one way to dig into the past if you want to be happy today
- The choice you have in every moment that gives you absolute and utter control
Quotable
“I’m going to be happy. I’m going to skip. I’m going to be glad. I’m going to smile a lot. I’m going to be easy. I’m going to count my blessings. I’m going to look for reasons to feel good. I’m going to dig up positive things from the past. I’m going to look for positive things where I stand. I’m going to look for positive things in the future. It is my natural state to be a happy person. It’s natural for me to love and to laugh. This is what is most natural for me. I am a happy person!” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why being aware of how you feel is essential to manifesting—and what to do when you realize you’re feeling bad. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The formula you probably already know about using LoA to your advantage
- The reason being aware of how your feel is so important
- Why you can be super specific or very general about how you feel
- What happens when you hang out in the middle of the emotional scale
- What your attention to social media posts could be doing to your vibration
- The two options you always have when you feel negative emotion
- A personal example of friction I was creating with my thoughts
Quotable
“The Universe is not punishing you or blessing you. The Universe is responding to the vibrational attitude that you are emitting.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the way to make your future better and better is to make the best of right now. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Words that might rub you the wrong way—and a different way to see them
- Why focusing on what-is doesn’t create the future you want
- What Abraham says is the fastest way to an improved situation
- A two-fold invitation for training your point of attraction and getting what you want
Quotable
“Make the best of it. When you make the best of whatever you’re focused upon, your future will be better than your now. If each moment you’re making the best of what-is, no matter what it is, you make the best of it; make the best of it; make the best of it—your future just gets better and better and better, and better.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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My story is about freedom and cooking, which might sound like a strange combination, but it will all make sense shortly.
And while this is my personal story, there is definitely a practical application for you, which we’ll get to in just a bit.
So let’s start with the feeling of freedom.Freedom is #1 on the emotional scale. It’s a high vibe emotion that feels so very good.
Think about where in your own life you experience a feeling of freedom—and where perhaps you don’t. I’m hoping you have experienced how good freedom feels, and I’m sure you probably also know what it’s like to experience the opposite of freedom—as in constriction, restraint, limitation.
While you and I may experience the emotion of freedom differently, I’m sure we would both agree freedom feels good.
So what does this have to do with cooking?Well, to explain that we need to go back to the beginning of the pandemic, which where I live in Michigan, USA was March 2020. It was March 24th, 2020 when all residents of Michigan were subject to a “stay home, stay safe” Executive Order by our governor.
This, of course, drastically changed daily life.
Hans and I are so appreciative to live in Ann Arbor, which has an abundance of fantastic restaurants. Before the pandemic, we’d been used to dining out several times a week. And so cooking, at that time, had been to supplement our very regular routine of eating out.
All that changed with the shelter in place order, and it looked as if cooking would become the norm.
At the same time we were no longer dining out in restaurants, Hans was suddenly working from home. Whereas before he’d been at his office five days a week—so never home for breakfast or lunch—now he was now working from home, and so that was even more meals to consider!
Stick with me here, I’m telling you the backstory to get to what this has to do with freedom!
So…sheltering in place had begun.
Almost immediately I realized all this cooking—and everything that goes with it—the decision making about what to fix and purchasing and prepping—all this did not feel like freedom to me.
Quite the opposite! I was feeling friction and overwhelm simply at the thought of everything all this cooking would entail. It felt like the absolute opposite of freedom.
Well, friction and overwhelm are negative emotions I don’t want to hang out in, so…that’s where Home Chef comes into my story.If you’re unfamiliar with Home Chef, it’s one of the meal kit home delivery options. You sign up, pick your meals, and a box is delivered weekly.
I hadn’t even heard of Home Chef, but as soon as I had identified the “problem” of cooking, I aligned vibrationally with the solution I desired—something that would feel easy and do-able. I wanted a solution that felt supportive.
And as the Universe has a way of doing, Home Chef almost immediately came on my radar. It was the answer to my question, What on earth are we going to eat? It was the solution to my problem.
While Home Chef still meant a version of cooking, all the fresh ingredients were provided and pre-portioned. It was so quick and easy to pick out meals we would enjoy for the coming week.
Bottom line: Home Chef made cooking super simple and quite delicious.* We enjoyed Hot Honey Salmon with zucchini and tomatoes and Sweet Chili Ginger Pork and Broccoli Stir-Fry with green onions. * We dined on Tuscan-Style Pork Chops with scampi cauliflower and Smoked Gouda Chicken with garlic butter green beans. * Moo Shu Pork Lettuce Cups with crispy onions was a favorite!
We were soon enjoying four Home Chef meals every week. Hans and I would take turns being the Home Chef. The meals were delicious and it really felt like we were dining out even as we continued to shelter in place.
I found freedom in Home Chef.* I found freedom in not having to think about what to make and shop for ingredients. * I found freedom in following a recipe and enjoying everything already being portioned. * I found freedom in all the variety and the ease of preparing a delicious meal.
I found freedom and it felt very good indeed!
This freedom went on for hundreds of meals. 470 to be exact. Yes, that’s right—470!
I so enjoyed the freedom found in Home Chef and not cooking from scratch.
And then…after 2+ years, something changed.Somewhat as a surprise to me, the freedom dried up. I no longer felt freedom from Home Chef.
Lo and behold, I suddenly wanted to cook. From scratch.
I wanted to discover recipes and buy the ingredients and chop and peel and slice and dice and measure. All the things that had felt like freedom before with Home Chef because I didn’t have to do them now felt like freedom in getting to do them.
Interesting, right?
First there was freedom found in not cooking and getting Home Chef and then apparently there would be freedom found in cooking and not getting Home Chef.I’m too far along in my LoA journey not to pay attention to how I feel.
So I followed my alignment and cancelled Home Chef. While I felt so appreciative for the freedom I had found in Home Chef, I happily closed my account to follow this current version of freedom.
For now, I am finding freedom in cooking.
My story goes to show it is never the action—cook, don’t cook.I found freedom in not cooking and now am finding freedom in cooking. It’s not about the action. It’s the thoughts about the action.
So let me be clear: When the pandemic began along with sheltering in place, I could have cooked three meals a day, every day, and done the thought work to get in alignment around that action. I admit, it would have taken some work to get in alignment, but it was possible.
What flowed, however, was following the path of least resistance at the time, which was discovering Home Chef and aligning with home delivery of the meal kits.
Back then I delegated my problem to the Universe and like magic, but really it’s just Law of Attraction at work, the Universe pointed me in the right direction.
But sometimes a solution is not always the solution.We have to be open to following what feels good now, and now, and now—because what feels good can change over time. We have to trust alignment is always the answer, not a particular action we take or decision we make once.
Since my obsession with all things Law of Attraction I’ve become very used to following what feels good. So it was easy to follow the high vibe emotion of freedom. Even though the action I took changed according to where freedom was leading me.
I was following what feels good, not following the decision to cook or not cook. Not following the decision to get Home Chef or not.
Cooking and Home Chef are actions. I always want to choose the emotion first. Find the freedom first. Then take whatever action or non-action goes along with it. Not the other way around.In addition to following what feels good, I want to emphasize another core aspect of LoA that’s showing up in my story. And that is: Actions can feel good and actions can feel bad. But it’s never truly about the action. It’s your thoughts about the action.
My story is a perfect example of this. Cooking is the action. I can cook and feel bad. I can cook and feel good. So it’s not the action itself. It’s the meaning I’m giving it. It’s the thoughts I’m thinking.
- I can cook and feel like I have to, it’s a lot of work, it’s overwhelming.
- I can cook and feel like I get to, it’s fun and creative, and relaxing.
It’s my thoughts making the action feel like freedom or constraint. It’s my thoughts that cause cooking to feel fun or frustrating.
I think this brings up an interesting point.Some actions are just so fun and aligned from the outset. It’s easy to feel good and choose the path of that action.
Other actions might not feel so fun and aligned from the outset.
And so, if we are going to do them, it’s important to do the thought work necessary to get in alignment around that action. In other words, not to take the action begrudgingly or with a bunch of friction in our vibration, but to get our thoughts in a place that allows us to feel good about the action.
In either case, alignment is always the answer. Because when you are in alignment, Law of Attraction delivers circumstances and conditions that are of a vibrational match. And that is what you want.
I had fun sharing my Home Chef experience with you, but this isn’t really about cooking or meal kits. It’s not really even about freedom. Or at least not specifically.
The real takeaway here is to follow what feels good.And to be flexible and open about that changing over time. What feels good today might not tomorrow. And vice versa.
As always, follow what feels good. Don’t assume what feels good today will feel good tomorrow. Which means pay attention to how you feel. Have the courage to follow your alignment and what feels good.
And remember: It’s not the action that is causing you to feel positive emotion or negative emotion. It’s your thoughts about the action.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what freedom has to do with cooking…and not cooking—and why it matters to you.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A personal LoA story that starts during the pandemic
- Why the exact same action can feel good or feel bad
- How the Universe delivers solutions to our problems when we align with the solution
- What I did when the feeling of freedom dried up
- Why thought work is important before you take action
Quotable
“Your Inner Being is always guiding you toward what you wanting.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the importance of focus when it comes to manifesting—and how paying attention to what you don’t want holds you back. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The reason focusing on debt causes scarcity to grow
- Areas of your life to consider when it comes to what you’ve been focusing on
- The simple way to think about getting rid of unwanted
- What your emotional attention has to do with what you’re attracting
- Why it’s OK to notice some aspect of your life experience that you don’t like—and then what to do next
Quotable
“Most people are thinking about what they don’t want, and they’re wondering why it shows up over and over again.” —John Assaraf
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how you could be inadvertently delaying or blocking the change you want—and what to do about it. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A common cause of prolonging a situation you don’t want
- A core LoA principle that is easy to gloss over and not truly apply
- Why the distinction between observing and imagining is critical to manifesting
- How the current conditions of your workplace can play a role in creating a vibrational pattern
- A personal example of wanting a change in my life and how I went about it
- Two all-important questions to explore about evidence and observation
Quotable
“In order for things to change, you have to see them as you want them to be rather than continuing to observe them as they are.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why getting mired in contrast leads to needless struggling and suffering. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The reason many of us are suffering and struggling needlessly
- What is totally unnecessary in order to give birth to a desire
- A classic example of exacerbating contrast with struggle
- Two ways I’ve noticed we can get mired in contrast
- Three helpful reminders when it comes to how you experience contrast
Quotable
“It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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Years ago I heard a quote from Louise Hay that stopped me in my tracks—her words sparked one of those lightbulb moments.
Here’s what Louise said:
“You’ve been criticizing yourself forever and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” —Louise Hay
Does that land for you, too? Have you been criticizing yourself forever?
- Criticizing how you look or where you are in your career.
- Criticizing past decisions or how you are with money
- Criticizing what you say and do.
- Criticizing your too muchness or not enoughness.
Have you seemingly forever been finding fault and disapproving of yourself?And has it worked?
Has criticizing yourself for not being organized made your organized? Has criticizing yourself for not meditating every day made you a daily meditator? Has criticizing yourself for how you look or dress actually worked?
While I don’t know the details of your self-criticism—because it’s different for all of us—I do know how self-criticism makes a person feel, which is some flavor of negative emotion.
When you find fault with yourself, you don’t high vibe. When you disapprove of how you look or act or talk or walk—when you disapprove of yourself—you do not feel good.
When you criticize yourself, your flavor of negative emotion might be disappointment or frustration or anger. When you criticize yourself, perhaps you feel the emotion of insecurity or unworthiness.
I’m sure we would all agree, none of those emotions you experience when you criticize yourself feel good. They are all bad-feeling emotions.
When you criticize yourself and feel negative emotion, that negative emotion is your vibration.In other words, the vibration you are offering—to which Law of Attraction responds—is disappointment or frustration, insecurity or unworthiness.
As we follow where that leads, what do you imagine you attract from a vibration of disappointment in yourself? More to feel disappointed about. What do you suppose you attract from a vibration of insecurity? More to feel insecure about.
So let me sum all that up: When you criticize yourself, you feel negative emotion. When you feel negative emotion, you attract more into your life experience that matches that negative vibration.
Like I said, criticizing yourself is bad for manifesting.So let’s turn our attention to all that self-criticism that is causing you to feel bad.
I want you to think about aspects of yourself you would like to be different. Aspects that you have been criticizing.
- You may want to stop procrastinating or be more patient.
- You may want to stick to a budget or be more assertive.
- You may want to regularly use your gym membership or be a better listener.
Those are all perfectly beautiful desires.
The way to what you want, however, is not through the low vibe path of criticism. Instead, the way to what you want is through the high vibe pathway of approving of yourself.
Many think they have to criticize themselves to change.That the only way they will change is to be hard on themselves, to take themselves to task, to feel bad about themselves in the false belief this will spark the growth or change they are wanting.
And so they criticize themselves.
Through the lens of Law of Attraction, this is an incredibly flawed approach. Why?
Because you don’t berate yourself to better feelings. You don’t motivate yourself through dislike and blame and reproach.
Finding fault with yourself feels bad and will only attract circumstances and conditions that match the essence of that vibration.
Let me say it another way: If you disapprove of yourself, you will attract more into your life that’s on that same energetic level—so, in other words, more to disapprove of.Maybe the focus of that disapproval will continue to be yourself or perhaps you will notice more and more in your life, in your relationships, in other people that are of that same essence of disapproval.
If you are criticizing yourself—regardless of the focus of that criticism—you are attracting more of the same vibration.
Another way to say it: Criticism begets more to criticize.
I do not criticize myself anymore.Does that mean I’m perfect? Of course not! Does that mean there aren’t aspects of myself where I would like to change and grow? No, it doesn’t.
And yet, I do not—will not—criticize myself.
When I notice an aspect of myself I would like to be different, I fully focus on the different I am wanting. I shift my focus from unwanted to wanted. Rather than have a flaw-fault-criticism perspective, I choose a perspective that is about my desire for growth and change.
That might not seem like a big difference, but it is vibrationally.
If I have flaw-fault-criticism perspective, I’m going to feel negative emotion. On the other hand, If I have a desire for something new about myself and in my life, then my desire feels good. I feel positive expectation and enthusiasm. I feel excitement and hope and empowerment.
When I’m looking at myself through the lens of acceptance and appreciation, I’m feeling positive emotion. And it is from that good-feeling state that I can attract and create the change I desire.
Here’s an example: I sometimes get irritated when service is slow. Could be service in a restaurant, customer service on the phone, service in a retail shop.
Rather than focus on the unwanted about myself—I get annoyed when service is slow—I focus on what is wanted. Which is my desire is to be unconditionally aligned. As in, to not have conditions on my alignment.
- When service is fast and efficient, I am happy.
- When service is slow and inefficient, I am unhappy.
That is conditional alignment. That is relying on conditions to be happy, to feel good.
My desire is not to focus on this unwanted aspect of myself and criticize and find fault with myself.Which might sound like: I’m so impatient. I get irritated so easily. I should be better than this. Why am I so uptight about slow service?
And so the internal dialogue of self-criticism begins.
But I know I’m not going to create the change I want from the low vibe of criticizing myself. Beating myself up for my impatience and irritation will only attract more that aligns with the vibration of impatience and irritation.
In those moment, rather than believing self-criticism is the only option, I consciously, intentionally, deliberately choose to believe approving of myself is the way forward to everything I want.
After all, self-criticism is not self-love. And love is the highest vibration there is.My internal dialogue when I approve of myself sounds like this: I love that I want to be unconditionally aligned. I really appreciate wanting to show up differently when external circumstances are not as I would prefer. I love feeling empowered to choose how I think about this situation, which, of course, will determine how I feel. I’m a work in progress and always will be and that’s more than OK. In fact, it’s the whole point of being an ever-growing, ever-expanding being.
Take stock of where you are on this. Do you believe: I can only change x,y, or z about myself if I criticize myself? Are you thinking: It is by finding fault with myself that I will be better or different?
Is that what you believe?
Remember what Louise said: “You’ve been criticizing yourself forever and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
This is a paradigm shift for many of us.If you’ve been believing the way to self-improvement or the changes you want to make in your life is through criticizing yourself, then a mindset shift is called for.
If you’ve been believing the way to change is by being hard on yourself and feeling bad about yourself, then this is a whole new approach.
It’s really very simple. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.
What does approving of yourself mean?
- It means encouraging yourself and focusing on things you like about yourself.
- It means acceptance of yourself exactly as you are even as you have desires to grow and change.
- It means focusing on positive aspects and appreciating yourself.
You can make it really simple by seeing these as two pathways going in very different directions.
At any given moment, you are standing at the crossroads. Are you going down the path of criticizing yourself? Or will you choose to go down the path of approving of yourself?
I love Louise’s simply advice to try the later and see what happens. See what kind of magic starts happening in your life when you live in the energy of approving of yourself.
It’s this simple: Criticizing yourself feels bad. And feeling bad is bad for manifesting.
Approving of yourself feels very good, indeed. And feeling good is oh-os-good for manifesting.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why self-criticism is so bad for manifesting.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The Louise Hay quote that stopped me in my tracks and has lead to a whole lot more self-love
- Why criticizing yourself or not being organized doesn’t make you more organized
- Why aspects about yourself you’ve been criticizing are really beautiful desires.
- The mindset shift you want to make if you’ve been believing being hard on yourself is how to change
- Why at any given moment you’re standing at the crossroads of criticizing yourself or approving of yourself
Quotable
“You’ve been criticizing yourself forever and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” —Louise Hay
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why I don’t make resolutions in the traditional sense—and the LoA principle that guides me instead. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The vibrational cost of making and keeping a resolution that involves efforting and uninspired action
- Why wanting to be the best version of yourself is a desire, just like any other desire you might have
- The big red flag when it comes to resolutions
- Why I say resolutions are neutral—make them or don’t
- Why you can’t be a deliberate creator when you second guess yourself
- The kind of journey you will have when you follow your bliss
Quotable
“Nobody else knows your reason for being. You do. Your bliss guides you to it. When you follow your bliss, when you follow your path to joy, your conversation is of joy, your feelings are of joy — you’re right on the path of that which you intended when you came forth into this physical body.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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I’m going to talk about how to get what you want. But let’s start with the reason you haven’t already gotten what you want.
Abraham says: “The reason you have not already gotten what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire. That is the only reason—ever!”
In other words, your current vibration does not match the vibration of what you want.
It’s really this simple: You can’t get what you want in the future unless you align vibrationally with that desire in the present.
This is Law of Attraction 101: Like attracts like.You attract what you are in vibrational harmony with.
So if you want the loving relationship, the thriving business, the healthy body, then you have to align vibrationally with your desire here and now.
But the problem for many of us is we are waiting until we get the shiny or have the experience we want before we feel a certain way.
We are waiting for the outcome to manifest and then we’ll vibrationally line up.
- When my Etsy shop is successful, I’ll experience positive expectation.
- When I get the raise, I’ll feel secure.
- When I finally retire, I’ll experience freedom.
- When my health improves, I’ll feel empowered.
But the Law of Attraction doesn’t work that way.
We are waiting until x, y, or z happens before we feel the way we want to feel. That means we are not in vibrational alignment NOW with the thing that we want.
In his brilliant book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Joe Dispenza challenges us to be quantum creators. Here’s what he has to say:
“The new model of reality challenges us, as quantum creators, to change something within us—in mind and body, in our thoughts and feelings—before we can experience the physical evidence with our senses. Can you give thanks and feel the elevated emotions associated with a desired event before it occurs? Can you imagine that reality so completely that you begin to be in that future life now? In terms of quantum creating, can you give thanks for something that exists as a potential in the quantum field but has not yet happened in your reality? If so, you are moving from cause and effect (waiting for something outside of you to make a change inside of you) to causing an effect (changing something inside of you to produce an effect outside of you).” —Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
That, my friends, is aligning with the vibration of what you desire!
So let’s start at the beginning. What do I mean by vibration?
You are constantly giving off vibrations based on what you think and feel.
“What you think about activates a vibration within you.” —Abraham
- When you think X, you feel empowered and optimistic.
- When you think Y, you feel disappointed and worried.
What you’re thinking and giving your attention to causes a vibration within you. And the Universe responds to this vibration.
Abraham says: “The Universe doesn’t hear what you are saying. It feels the vibration you are offering.”
This is so important because we can say all the right words, but if our emotions don’t match up, then it’s our emotions the Universe is responding to.
“The only thing that matters is what you are doing right now in your vibration. And you can tell what you are doing right now by the way you feel.” —Abraham
So when you think about that raise you want or the perfect relationship you’d like to have, how do you feel?
- Do you want the raise, but doubt you’ll get it?
- Do you want the relationship, but feel lonely?
The Universe is responding to your doubt and to your loneliness—because that’s the vibration you’re giving off.
So it’s not enough to desire something—the raise, the relationship.You have to align with the vibration of what you want as if you already have it.
That means getting very clear about how you’ll feel when you get the raise—and then feeling that way now. Perhaps you think getting the raise will enable you to feel empowered and optimistic. OK, so feel that way now—even before the raise manifests.
Same is true for the relationship. How will you feel when you’re in the relationship? Not lonely, which is the vibration the Universe is currently responding to. No, you’ll feel love and appreciation. So it’s important to align with those feelings now.
“You cannot let your vibrational offering come only in response to what-is and then ever change what-is. You must find a way of feeling the excitement or satisfaction of your currently unrealized dreams before those dreams can become your reality. Find a way to deliberately imagine a scenario for the purpose of offering a vibration and for the purpose of the Law of Attraction matching your vibration with a real-life manifestation. … When you ask for the manifestation prior to the vibration, you ask the impossible. When you are willing to offer the vibration before the manifestation—all things are possible. It is Law.” —Abraham
Based on your current vibration, what are you attracting into your life?
For instance, “Feelings of love, joy, passion, exhilaration, fun, interest… are indications of your vibrational match to Well-Being.” —Abraham
That makes sense, right? When you’re feeling love and joy and fun, of course you’re a vibrational match to Well-Being.
Abraham says: “I like knowing that my vibration equals my point of attraction, and that I can change my point of attraction simply by shifting my vibration.”
Always keep that in mind: Your vibration equals your point of attraction. Your vibration is based on the emotions you’re experiencing. And those emotions are caused by your thoughts and what you’re giving your attention to.
But let’s suppose you’re not feeling love and joy, fun and interest.
- What’s your point of attraction when you’re feeling anxious, worried, and confused?
- Or when you’re feeling hurt and angry and resentful?
- What is your point of attraction when you feel frustrated, overwhelmed and stressed out?
”You cannot feel poor (and vibrate poor) and thrive. Abundance cannot find you unless you offer a vibration of abundance.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness
Which means whatever you are looking for cannot find you unless you are offering a vibration that’s in alignment with what you want.
That’s true no matter what it is you are wanting—more money, greater freedom, better relationships. You have to tune yourself to the vibrational frequency of your desire—now, before it manifests. Because that’s the very thing required for it to manifest.
The things we want—our desires, solutions to our problems, answers to our questions—these all manifest when we are in vibrational harmony with them. When we’re vibrating at the same frequency.
“When you find the emotion of it, you have nailed the vibration of it.” —Abraham
When you can find and feel the emotion of what it is you want, you will have aligned with the vibration of it.
Whatever it is you desire—whether it be an experience you want to have, a shiny penny you want to acquire, or a state of being you want to embody—your aim is to go ahead and feel NOW how you’ll feel when you get what you want.
Abraham says: ”If you want to effect substantial change in your life experience, you have to offer substantially different vibrations, which means you must think thoughts that feel different as you think them.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness
Or as Joe Dispenza says: “You have to feel as though whatever you want is in your reality at this very moment. Thus, your body (which only understands feelings) must be convinced that it has the emotional quotient of the future experience, happening to you now.” —Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
Clients have asked me if this is about acting as if.So act as if you already have the promotion or act as if you’re already at your ideal body weight.
But what I’m talking about is different than acting as if.
First and foremost, what I’m suggesting is feeling as if. Feeling as if you already have the promotion. Feeling as if you’re already at your ideal body weight.
And remember: Your thoughts cause your feelings, so I’m also suggesting you think on purpose. Because if you think on purpose that will give you control of your vibration.
“Every thought that you think has its own vibrational frequency.” —Abraham
And so when you’re offering your thoughts and feelings on purpose, with intention, then you WILL act as if. And it will happen naturally. But it’s the thoughts and feelings that come first, before any actions.
So many of us are used to efforting our way to what we want. And sometimes all that efforting has been in a misguided attempt to act as if.
I want your actions toward what you want to come after you have managed your thoughts and feelings. Because then you will take inspired, intuitive action. You won’t be efforting and struggling to go upstream to get what you want.
I love this from Abraham: “So, think as long as it’s fun, and try as long as it’s easy. And speak as long as it feels good. Otherwise, take a nap.”
Because when you care about the vibration you’re offering, you want fun and easy. You want to feel good.
And sometimes, when you simply aren’t able to tap into fun and easy and feeling good, then a nap is a fantastic option. Because it lets you take a break, and then hopefully when you wake up, you can now offer a vibration that attracts what you really want.
I want you to have everything you want.To that end, I want you to put yourself in a vibrational place of receiving all that you are asking for. It’s time to align with the vibration of what you want.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about five useful LoA slogans you can apply in your daily life. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why asking what you’re giving can be eye-opening about what you’re attracting
- The two consequences of a thought that doesn’t feel good
- A nuance about action and alignment that’s been helpful on my own LoA journey
- The slogan I use to remind myself to focus on step three of manifesting
- What you will experience if you continue to think thoughts about lack
Quotable
“Life is very simple. What I give out comes back to me. Today I choose to give love. Love is all there is!” —Louise Hay
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what is often the simplest explanation for why something you want is slow to manifest. To access this episode, join LYL Premium.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why Abraham says what you believe about anything is extremely important
- How before my obsession with LoA my beliefs operated in the background
- What a chronic pattern of thought about money has to do with what-is, what has been, and what’s coming
- The reason I shake my head at my former belief about hard work
- What the evidence around you has to do with your beliefs
- The simplest way to thinking about beliefs—and take them off the pedestal
Quotable
“A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, and you have the ability—if you try even a little bit—to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story, to achieve a different vibration, to change your point of attraction.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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I’m going to cut to the chase and tell you the LoA thing I do every single day.
Without fail, every day, I reach for the relief of better-feeling thoughts. Or as Abraham says: “Right now I’m going to find the best-feeling thought that I can. I am going to reach for more relief, more relief, more relief.”
Are you surprised or not surprised that reaching for the best-feeling thought is the LoA thing I do daily?
Well, it should come as no surprise because that is really at the crux of making Law of Attraction work for you.
- If you are very low on the emotional scale, let’s say at fear or insecurity, reaching for relief is the answer.
- If you are in the middle of the emotional scale feeling frustration or impatience, reaching for relief is the answer.
- And even if you are feeling eagerness or positive expectation, so at the top of the emotional scale, the way to milk that moment of high vibration is to continue finding the best-feeling thought that you can.
Why is this important? Why do you want to reach for relief?
On the one hand, simply because relief is going to feel like…well, relief! Relief is going to feel better. And feeling better is going to feel good.
The other reason you want to reach for relief is Law of Attraction responds to your vibration.* When you feel insecurity, LoA responds to your vibration of insecurity. * When you feel frustration, LoA responds to your vibration of frustration.
And by responds, I mean matches you with circumstances and conditions that are of the essence of whatever vibration you are offering.
Let’s follow that thread.
When you feel frustration, that’s your vibrational point of attraction. Law of Attraction comes along and delivers circumstances and conditions, people and events, situations and things that match the essence of frustration.
In other words, you will have more in your life experience to give you an opportunity to continue feeling frustration.
You receive what you give vibrationally. Giving frustration with your vibration means you’ll receive the essence of frustration in your life experience.
Obviously not what any of us wants!
And so when you are feeling frustration, as in you are thinking thoughts that are causing a feeling of frustration in you, that’s when you want to notice the negative emotion and reach for relief.
If you don’t want to attract circumstances and conditions that are of the essence of whatever negative emotion you are feeling, then you want to reach for relief.It’s really that straightforward.
Negative emotion is always a signal. And it’s a signal you are mis-creating. Which means negative emotion is an opportunity to reach for relief.
The way that you do this is really quite simple. We often overcomplicate what it means to feel better. We often confuse what needs to happen, as in we think circumstances must change in order to feel better.
Abraham says: “…we want you to find relief in the power of your changing of focus and not need the relief to depend on circumstances changing.”
Just think about the creative power you have when you embrace this core tenet of LoA. Find relief in the power of changing your focus and changing your thoughts rather than depending on external circumstances to change in order to feel relief.
The way forward when you feel negative emotion is not complicated. I encourage you to embrace Abraham’s simple and straightforward guidance: “Right now I’m going to find the best-feeling thought that I can. I am going to reach for more relief, more relief, more relief.”
Find the best-feeling thought that you can.I love the grace of this advice. It doesn’t say you have to choose a single perfect thought to feel better. It doesn’t say find the thought that takes you immediately to joy on the emotional scale.
Simply find the best-feeling thought that you can.
“Always head toward the next best feeling thought you can find from where you are.” —Abraham
Again, there’s a lot of grace being offered with this wisdom.
Let me shine a light on the part about from where you are.From where you are right now. Whatever circumstances and conditions are your current life experience. From where you are on the emotional scale.
- If you are feeling powerlessness, #22 of 22 on the emotional scale, start there.
- If you are feeling anger at #17 on the emotional scale, start there.
- If some really unwanted thing is happening in your life, start from where you are.
It really is the only way. From where you are is really the only place you can start. And then from where you are, head toward the next best-feeling thought you can find, and then the next.
One of the reasons this is such good advice is when you are feeling powerlessness at the very bottom of the emotional scale, you don’t have access to thoughts of empowerment, which is in the #1 spot on the scale. And so you won’t find thoughts of empowerment from where you are.
That’s not bad news though.
It simply means as you head toward the next best-feeling thought, you can incrementally move up the emotional scale. As you head toward the next best-feeling thought, and then the next, and then the next, you will gain access to new and different thoughts through this process of relief.
As your vibration raises, even ever so slightly, from that new vantage point you have access to more relief with the next thought, and more relief with the next thought, and so on.
“If you are able to find even the smallest feeling of relief in a deliberately chosen thought, the gentle path toward your solution will begin.” —Abraham
Some days, feeling good is so easy.I start the day feeling good and all throughout the day circumstances and conditions line up with my good-feeling thoughts. It’s like all the lights are green and the sun is shining just for me.
I milk those moments and days by appreciating them so very much and by really, really noticing all the delight and wonder. Like I said, it’s easy to feel good on days like those.
While you might not say I’m seeking relief on those kinds of days, I am still finding the best-feeling thought that I can.
And then there are other kinds of days.Days where circumstances and conditions are not wanted and I’m using those external things to be out of alignment. Another way to say that: There are days when I’m looking at what are neutral circumstances and thinking thoughts about them that cause me to feel negative emotion.
And when that happens, here’s what I do. First things first: I notice the negative emotion. If you aren’t paying attention to how you feel, it’s very difficult to really leverage Law of Attraction.
So I notice I’m feeling negative emotion. I know that it is my thoughts causing my feelings. Which means my next thought is where I have power. It’s my next thought that can give me relief or can continue to add momentum to the negative emotion I’m experiencing.
It is with my next thought—and then the next and the next—that I can head in the direction of relief.
“Get hooked on asking: ‘Which thought feels better?’ Let the feeling of relief become what is most important to you.” —Abraham
That is why this is the LoA thing I do every day.Feeling good is my #1 priority. I am indeed hooked on asking myself, “Which thoughts feels better? And now which thought feels better?” And so on.
“Don’t seek healing, just seek relief. Don’t seek improvement, just seek relief. Don’t seek solution, just seek relief.” —Abraham
Embrace and practice the essential LoA skill of finding the best-feeling thought you can.
Reach for relief. Then more relief and more relief.
Say this to yourself: I want relief. Relief can and will come with a new and different thought. What thought would give me relief?
“The feeling of relief, that is the name of the game.” —Abraham
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the question I’m hooked on asking that is part of my daily LoA practice.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why relief is at the crux of making LoA work for you
- What you receive when you give frustration with your vibration
- Why negative emotion is always a signal and an opportunity
- The grace offered when you simply start where you are
- What happens when you find even the smallest feeling of relief
Quotable
“Right now I’m going to find the best-feeling thought that I can. I am going to reach for more relief, more relief, more relief.” —Abraham
ResourcesManifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
31 Days of LoA: The Abundance Series
How to Use the Emotional Scale
31 Days of LoA: Tweak Your Vibration
Love Your Life + Law of Attraction Index
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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I think we love inspirational quotes because they remind us of who we want to be—and who we really are. They shine a light on what really matters and cut through the noise of what doesn’t. Here are 10 sensational Law of Attraction quotes to help you take your Law of Attraction practice up a […]
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how long it takes for what you want to manifest. To access this episode, join LYL Premium. This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn… How the timeframes you have for your desires could be working against you […]
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a vibrational pattern of going from resistance to rest to resistance that disallows what you want. To access this episode, join LYL Premium. This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn… Common forms of resistance you may be […]
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The Universe will the do the heavy lifting of manifesting for you. You don’t need to make things happen or try really hard and force what you want to manifest. That’s not your job. Always keep in mind that what you desire has been vibrationally created. That’s the essence of Step 2 of manifesting. What […]
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how to ensure the things that follow you get better and better. This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn… How you can allow the Universe to do the heavy lifting of manifesting What happens when you reach […]
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One of the core tenets of Law of Attraction is this: Circumstances are neutral. Circumstances are not good or bad, they are neutral. It is your thoughts about a circumstance that cause your feelings, whether that be positive emotion or negative emotion. For instance, not getting the raise is the neutral circumstance. Your thought about […]
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about a strategy to help you be a more deliberate creator if you’ve been pushing against the LoA tenet that circumstances are neutral.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happens when you divide circumstances into columns of good and bad
- The exhausting and ineffective endeavor too many of us are involved in
- Why pushing against the neutrality of circumstances only adds to negative momentum
- The reason offering your vibration on purpose should always be your true objective
- A simply strategy to bypass arguing with how LoA works and instead simply make it work for you
Quotable
“As you show yourself that you can feel good regardless of the condition, now, in your alignment, the condition must change.” —Abraham
Resources LYL #096: Be careful what you make circumstances mean
LYL #067: Are you only happy when circumstances are right?
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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It’s amazing how often we look for evidence of the very thing we don’t want.
You say…
- My boss is such a micromanager. And then you look for all the ways your boss micromanages.
- My husband is not a very good listener and constantly interrupts. And then you are on high alert for this behavior.
- My mother-in-law gives unsolicited advice about everything. And then you catalog all the ways this is true.
These are all things you don’t want: A micromanaging boss, an interrupting spouse, an advice-giving mother-in-law. And yet you are looking for evidence of all these unwanted things.
When you look for evidence of what you don’t like and don’t want, you will find it. And you will attract more of it. And you will resist and disallow the very thing you do want. This is because looking for the wrong kind of evidence prevents you from being in receiving mode. In other words, looking for the wrong kind of evidence blocks what you want.
Consider how you might feel if you are sitting with your mother-in-law, anticipating her next piece of unsolicited advice. As you sit there negatively expecting what you do not want, how do you imagine you might feel? You won’t feel high vibe, that’s for sure!
No, you’ll feel some flavor of negative emotion. You’ll be in the energy of irritation and complaint, in the energy of anger and annoyance. Those emotions—that negative emotion—is a clear sign you are not in receiving mode for anything wanted.
Negative emotion simply never puts you in receiving mode. Negative emotions means you are disallowing rather than allowing.
Recently I asked one of my clients to tell me what it would mean to be in receiving mode for what she wants. In other words, how would it feel? She described feeling light and supported.
That sounds wonderful, right?
Receiving mode for what my clients wants is feeling light and supported.
- How can she get in receiving mode for what she wants even before its manifestation in her physical experience?
- How can she feel now how she’ll feel then?
This is where looking for the right kind of evidence comes in.
I worked with my client to look for evidence of being supported by others, being supported by the Universe, be supported by her community.
The key is to look for and notice evidence of what she is wanting. Because looking for and noticing that kind of evidence—the right kind of evidence—closes the vibrational gap, which puts her in receiving mode and allows what she wants to manifest.
Consider what’s happening, instead, if my client is looking for what she doesn’t want, as in looking for evidence that she is not supported. That would be the wrong kind of evidence.
Now here’s the thing, if she starts looking in the direction of not being supported, she will find evidence. There will be examples, and those examples will make her feel lousy.
Cataloging all the ways she is not supported will not feel good.
Looking for the wrong kind of evidence results in feeling bad. Let me emphasize that because it’s so important: Looking for the wrong kind of evidence causes negative emotion.
The reason looking for the wrong kind of evidence is so problematic is that your attention to unwanted cannot defy the Law of Attraction.
“If your life has caused you to ask for an improved situation—no matter what it is—and you are no longer offering chronic thought-Vibrations that are opposite of your desire, your desire must come to you. But you cannot continue to keep alive within you Vibrational patterns of what you do not want, and receive what you do want. That defies the Law of Attraction.” —Abraham
Another way to say this: When you look for the wrong kind of evidence, as in when your attention is on unwanted, you cannot receive what is wanted.
Back to my client for a moment: If she looks for the wrong kind of evidence, of being unsupported, she will feel negative emotion. And that negative emotion signals she’s not in receiving mode for what she wants.
Her life has caused her to ask for an improved situation.
Looking for the right kind of evidence is what can and will put her in receiving mode. In her case, looking for any and all evidence of being supported—by others, by the Universe, by her community—is what will allow her to receive.
Here’s the all-important question: Are you looking for the right kind of evidence or are you looking for the wrong kind of evidence? Have you been looking for evidence of what is wanted? Or have you been looking for evidence of what is unwanted?
Again, I think many of us are doing the latter without really realizing we’re doing it.
Here are a couple approaches I’ve found to be helpful in looking for the right kind of evidence. You don’t have to choose only one of these, you can do both.
The first is to look for any and all signs that you are on the path to your manifestation.
Essentially, this is looking for evidence of the unfolding of your manifestation. Look for signs.
Notice all the signs that what you want is unfolding. This is a classic example of looking for what you want to see.
Be intentional about the story you tell about what you see around you.
When you look for signs of what you want, when you look for what you want to see, by Law of Attraction you will start seeing it.
The second approach to looking for the right kind of evidence is about step 3 of manifesting, which is Receive.
To be in receiving mode is to feel now how you’ll feel when what you want manifests. So look for evidence that you are in receiving mode.
Here’s an example: If you will feel empowered when your desire of the promotion manifests, look for evidence of this feeling of empowerment now. If you will feel freedom when you have the money, look for evidence of feeling freedom now.
Remember: Looking for the right kind of evidence aligns you with your desire, whereas looking for the wrong kind of evidence blocks and disallows what you want.
Let’s go back to the examples I gave at the outset of the episode. * If you don’t want a micromanaging boss, stop looking for evidence that you have a micromanaging boss. Start looking for evidence of the kind of boss you do want. * If you don’t want an interrupting husband, stop cataloging this behavior. Start looking for positive aspects. * If you don’t want a mother-in-law who doles out advice you didn’t ask for, stop focusing on this aspect of her. Start looking for evidence of what you do want.
Look for the right kind of evidence. Notice the signs of your unfolding manifestation. Look for evidence of being in receiving mode for what you want.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about why looking for the wrong kind of evidence is really bad for manifesting.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happens when you look for evidence of what you don’t want
- The reason looking for the wrong kind of evidence is so problematic
- Why some of us ask for an improved life situation, but then block receiving
- A tip about noticing all the signs that what you want is unfolding
Quotable
“If your life has caused you to ask for an improved situation—no matter what it is—and you are no longer offering chronic thought-Vibrations that are opposite of your desire, your desire must come to you. But you cannot continue to keep alive within you Vibrational patterns of what you do not want, and receive what you do want. That defies the Law of Attraction.” —Abraham
Resources Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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Awhile back I created a bonus episode of Love Your Life called Five things on my Law of Attraction checklist. Here are the five things:
- Is feeling good your #1 priority?
- Are you telling a good-feeling story?
- When you feel negative emotion, do you reach for better-feeling thoughts?
- Are you appreciating?
- Are you enjoying the journey?
Today I want to share real-life examples of my LoA checklist in action. Because while a checklist can be useful for clarity, it’s putting the list into action that makes a difference when it comes to manifesting. That’s where the proverbial rubber meets the road.
Now, when I say checklist, at one time I really did have these written down. Today, after practicing these five things on a daily basis, I don’t really need a physical list. But if it would help you, at least in the beginning, by all means I encourage you to write these down and create a handy checklist for yourself.
Let’s dive in! I’m going to shine a light on three of those items on my checklist, and share a story about how each one showed up in real life.
Oh, and in case you’re wondering, these aren’t in any particular order. Meaning #1 is not more important for manifesting than #5. All five guidelines reflect core LoA skills.
#1 on my LoA checklist: Feeling good is my #1 priority. Before Law of Attraction it was easy for me to forget to feel good, which sounds funny now when I say it. Two things were going on back then.
First, I relied largely on circumstances to feel good.
- If things were the way I wanted them to be, I felt good.
- If things were not the way I wanted them to be, I felt bad.
Because of this, needless to say, feeling good was a bit of a crapshoot depending on external circumstances lining up the way I wanted.
Second, back then I simply didn’t make feeling good a priority. Sure, I suppose I wanted to feel good, but I put a lot of things higher on the list, such as getting things done and pleasing others.
Today all that is very different because feeling good is my #1 priority. I mean that literally, not as a nice-sounding slogan that has nothing to do with real life.
The most important thing to me at any given moment and on any given day is to feel good. Here’s why this is my #1 priority: First and foremost, because it feels good to feel good! And because I know Law of Attraction is always responding to the vibration I’m offering.
If I’m offering a low vibration, that attracts low vibe conditions and circumstances, low vibe people and events, low vibe situations and things. Feeling good, on the other hand, is matching me with a high vibe life experience, which, of course, is what we all prefer.
So here’s how this one from my checklist showed up in real life. The other day I had plans to record a couple episodes of this show. I was really excited to share the content I’d outlined. With Hans and I both working from home these days, I had a lovely window of quiet because he was out for a bike ride.
So the episodes were ready to record. I had the apartment to myself, which would be nice and quiet. My mic, headphones, and laptop were all set up to go. I had a piping hot coffee fixed just the way I like it.
It was all green lights and go time. And then.…when I sat down to begin…I didn’t feel like it. There’s no big story behind what was going on. I simply didn’t feel like it.
If feeling good is my #1 priority, and it is, then recording those episodes was a no-go.
That might not sound like a big deal, but the pre-LoA version of me would have recorded anyway.
The old version of me would have pushed through. The old version of me would have been all about practicality and efficiency: Hans is out and now is the time that makes sense to record.
I would have stuck to whatever my planner said designating do this on this day. Who cares how you feel? You wrote it down last week to do today, so just do it.
I would have forced myself into taking action that wasn’t aligned. Heck, back then I really didn’t even know what aligned action was!
All that is to say I was not guided in that moment by practicality or previously made plans. I wasn’t guided by being efficient or getting things done. Nope. I was simply guided by #1 on my LoA checklist: Feeling good is my #1 priority.
In case you’re curious, feeling good that morning turned out to be knitting on a pair of wool socks, enjoying that piping hot coffee, and listening to a Big Band orchestra from the 40’s.
And, also, in case you’re curious, the podcast episodes did, indeed, get recorded a few days later when doing so was the absolute inspired action and fun from start to finish.
Moving on to #3 on my LoA checklist: When I feel negative emotion, reach for better-feeling thoughts. I absolutely live and breathe this one! Seriously, reaching for better-feeling thoughts is something I do daily.
Now, why is that?
My life is pretty fantastic. My list of positive aspects and what I appreciate about my life is exceedingly long. So why would I be reaching for better-feeling thoughts on a daily basis?
Because that is what is attracting the fantastic life I experience. Reaching for the relief of better-feeling thoughts so I can feel good makes me a magnet for the good that I attract.
Here’s the thing: I am simply not willing to indulge in thoughts that cause me to feel bad.
When a thought pops into my head seemingly out of nowhere that causes negative emotion, I reach for the relief of a better-feeling thought. And when something happens that is unwanted, I reach for the relief of better-feeling thoughts.
Remember: Feeling good is my #1 priority. Well, one of the ways I get there is thanks to #3 on my LoA checklist: When I feel negative emotion, I reach for better-feeling thoughts.
Of course, this doesn’t mean I’m always successful. I am not high vibe 100% of the time. But my intention is to be happy. And I know the pathway to that feeling is by managing my mind, by choosing thoughts that feel better, by thinking thoughts that feel good.
It’s kind of weird to say this one is even on a checklist in the sense that it’s so second nature. These days reaching for better-feeling thoughts is something I do on autopilot.
Earlier in my LoA journey, though, that was not the case, and so this did act a bit more like a checklist item.
I think that’s the point of a checklist as I’m describing it. A checklist is helpful in actually practicing an LoA technique until it becomes second nature. Until a time when you simply embody the practice rather than need to rely on a reminder to remember to do it.
As I said, I’m doing reaching for better-feeling thoughts every day, and for the most part it’s pretty much on autopilot. My signal, always, is negative emotion. When I feel any flavor of bad, that’s my head’s up.
Here’s an example. The other day negative emotion came in the form of worry. A family member had received unwanted health news. My initial thought in response to that news caused me to feel worry.
Worry is #14 of 22 on the emotional scale, so definitely not a feel-good emotion.
Worry is also one of those emotions, I think, that if you don’t pay attention and redirect your thinking, you easily can get into a real downward spiral. That’s been my experience anyway with worry.
Negative emotion was my signal to reach for the relief of thoughts that feel better to me.
Now this rarely means one thought and I’m done, I’m feeling good! Usually it’s an iterative process, meaning I reach for a thought, and check in to see how it feels: Any relief? Feel better? Feel worse? Try another thought. Check in. Any relief?
I keep doing that until there is relief. Until I feel better.
In my example about my relative’s unwanted health news, after a dozen or so thoughts, I was able to get to hopefulness, which is #6 on the emotional scale.
By the way, whenever I share the numbers for different emotions, the specific numbers, of course, are not the point. It’s just to say by trying different thoughts, I was able to go from worry to hopefulness. To move from #14 up to #6, so definitely a lift in vibration.
Hopefulness obviously feels way better than worry. And hopefulness is a much improved point of attraction.
Let’s move on to #4 on my LoA checklist: Appreciate. Before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction I would say I was a grateful person. Back then, though, my appreciation was sometimes rooted more in a routine—like writing things I appreciate in my journal—rather than a consistent way of showing up in the world.
Today, #4 on my checklist is a reminder that appreciation is always the way. Always, all day, every day.
Here’s how this checklist item recently showed up: Our dishwasher stopped working. I’m not a big fan of doing dishes by hand—it’s not my preference, and we use our dishwasher every single day. Now, I realize a broken dishwasher is a decidedly First World Problem. Nonetheless, the dishwasher not working was unwanted, for sure.
Beyond the dishwasher itself not working, there was what would need to happen in order to resolve the issue—contacting our property manager, setting up a time for maintenance, removing everything under the sink to give access to the plumbing, etc.
The previous version of me would only have looked at the non-working dishwasher as an inconvenience and a problem that needed to be fixed. Truth be told, the old me would very likely have offered a vibration of irritation and annoyance. At the very least there would have been friction in my vibration.
These days, though, by leaning into #4 on my LoA checklist, I focused on appreciation from the outset. Meaning even as I was realizing the dishes aren’t getting clean, and there’s a strange noise, and the dishwasher is not working, I’m asking myself, Are you appreciating?
Now before that makes me sound like Pollyanna—Oh, yay, the dishwasher is broken!—let me be clear. A working dishwasher is wanted; a non-working dishwasher is unwanted.
I simply know appreciation is a feel-good energy that is wonderful to experience, and is also great for manifesting with ease. And so I appreciated.
- I appreciated our friendly property manager answering the phone on seemingly the first ring.
- I appreciated being able to schedule a maintenance call for exactly the day and time that was convenient for me.
- I appreciated Erik, the head of maintenance, coming fully prepared to troubleshoot and being in such good hands as he brought all his professional know-how.
- I appreciated the ease with which he efficiently ruled out various things that could be causing the problem.
- I appreciated him coming to a quick and confident decision that no fix was actually possible, and the solution would be a new dishwasher.
- I appreciated our stellar property manager approving the purchase and getting an order placed.
- And I appreciated the easy installation of a brand new dishwasher two days later!
That’s right! The energy of appreciation manifested the brand new dishwasher, installed and working, a short two days later. That is the magical energy of appreciation at work!
Use my LoA checklist! Add to it or create one of your own! The point, of course, is to remember to practice what you know about Law of Attraction.
That’s where a checklist can be really helpful. Something truly magical happens when you shift from simply knowing things about LoA to actually embodying them.
Let’s recap my checklist:
- Is feeling good your #1 priority?
- Are you telling a good-feeling story?
- When you feel negative emotion, do you reach for better-feeling thoughts?
- Are you appreciating?
- Are you enjoying the journey?
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about real-life examples of my LoA checklist in action.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Five things that help me practice LoA on a daily basis
- Why it used to be easy for me to forget to feel good
- The reason I ditched practicality and efficiency the other day for knitting a pair of socks
- The downward spiral worry can easily lead to if you don’t use this core LoA technique
- What a dishwasher that stopped working was my cue to do—and the seemingly magical thing that happened when I did it
- The real point of any kind of checklist for LoA tools and techniques
Quotable
“It’s not luck, it’s alignment. You’re not lucky, you’re aligned.” —Abraham
Resources Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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What’s guiding me when it comes to alignment these days is two-fold.
First, say yes to what’s in alignment, and say no to what’s not. Sounds pretty simple, right?
I think of this guideline as being a gatekeeper of sorts when it comes to alignment. If from the get-go I make decisions through the lens of alignment, there will be a lot less that ends up in my life experience that is misaligned.
Here’s a recent example from my life.
A wonderful client of mine is starting her own podcast. I’m sure it’s going to be fantastic, and wish her so much joy on her journey of creating her show. She extended a warm invitation to have me on the show as a guest. I would talk about Law of Attraction as well as my coaching services and the courses I offer. It was a lovely invitation.
When I checked in with myself for my aligned answer, it was an easy no thank you. My intuitive, aligned answer was no.
That’s an example of making a decision through the lens of alignment. Rather than through the filter of pleasing others, or what would be “good for my business”, or what others are doing, etc. Making a decision through the lens of alignment is also not getting out a piece of paper to brainstorm pros and cons to figure out should I or I should I not?
Alignment is the beautiful intersection of what feels good and what I want to do. Now here’s the thing, if I had said yes to the podcast guest invitation, I could most certainly have gotten into alignment with that action. I could have aligned my thoughts so that I felt positive emotion as I prepared for being on the show and then actually appeared on the show.
Meaning, I could have chosen thoughts that felt good to me about the experience. I could have reached for better-feeling or good-feeling thoughts throughout and aligned with being a guest on the show.
But since the original decision was not in alignment, I would need to do some work to be in alignment with what unfolded. This is an important point: I could have gotten in alignment with being on the show, but would have needed to do thought work to get there.
I would have expended energy to reach for thoughts about the experience so I could feel good, so I could be in alignment.
Now, this would certainly not be an impossible task. Or even a particularly Herculean effort. But it would be an effort, nonetheless.
Ideally, I would prefer not to expend my energy aligning with decisions that I wasn’t aligned with in the first place. What about you? Is that how you want to use your energy—working to get in alignment with things you said yes to even as you wanted to say no, or vice versa?
This is about saying yes to things that are in alignment for you. And it’s also about staying in alignment with your nos.
Here’s what I mean. Let’s say you say no to hosting the family gathering or no to the volunteer commitment. At the time you said no, you were in alignment with your decision. Then your thoughts begin the shift from alignment to misalignment.
I often hear someone say they were in alignment with their initial decision, but then second guessing or factoring in the opinions—real or imagined—of others, lead them into misalignment.
These thoughts could be in the form of a should. Maybe I should have said yes. These thoughts could be ones that cause you to feel guilt. Your sister-in-law questions your decision, you start to second-guess, and feel guilty about saying no.
- Say yes to hosting the family gathering because it’s in alignment for you and stay in alignment with your yes.
- Say no to hosting the family gathering because it’s not in alignment for you and stay in alignment with your no.
Staying in alignment with your yeses and nos is about choosing to think thoughts that support and align with your decisions.
This first guideline—say yes to what’s in alignment, say no to what’s not—truly is a gatekeeper that keeps out the need for spending energy trying to align with things you didn’t want to do in the first place.
This brings me to the second guideline: Get in alignment with whatever you are doing. In my example, if I’d said yes to the guest appearance, even though it would not have been an aligned yes, I could have gotten in alignment.
If you’ve got stuff on your To Do list and calendar that you would rather have said no to, this isn’t about throwing up your hands and just accepting being misaligned. No matter the situation or task, the commitment or obligation, alignment is possible.
This is because alignment isn’t dependent upon the circumstance or situation; alignment is coming from your thoughts.
It is your thoughts that cause your feelings. It is your thoughts about the situation that cause you to feel positive emotion or negative emotion, alignment or misalignment.
“If you deliberately bring yourself into alignment, circumstances go well for you. It’s all based on what you are doing with your vibration.” —Abraham
Bottom line: You can choose thoughts that take you in the direction of alignment about whatever it is that you’re doing or that’s going on around you. Regardless of your original yes or no, and whether your answer or decision was originally in alignment, you can choose thoughts that get you in alignment with what’s going on.
One of the examples I often use to illustrated this is my taxes. From my earliest days as an entrepreneur, I was in a state of misalignment about my taxes.
What I mean by that is the action of prepping any and all tax-related paperwork and preparing for meeting with my accountant was just absolutely fraught with friction. I procrastinated and felt guilty. I was frustrated with myself.
Year after year I would promise myself to do it differently and then feel disappointed in myself for it always being pretty much the same bogged down, irritating, low vibe experience.
Now, let’s keep in mind I could have just made the decision to outsource every aspect and action related to my taxes and been in alignment that way. But that’s not the decision I made, year after year.
Instead, I made the decision to say yes to prepping things myself and then was totally misaligned with actually carrying out that decision. All my action and inaction was from the energy of misalignment.
This clearly was my opportunity for living the second guideline: Get in alignment with whatever you are doing.
Nothing has changed about what’s externally required to successfully do my taxes. But what has changed is my commitment to alignment.
I am simply no longer willing to do something mired in misalignment. Which means managing my mind and doing the thought work necessarily to align with the decision I’ve made to do the prep work for my taxes.
If you’ve always loved doing your taxes or have always happily turned this over to someone else, don’t get too caught up in the specific example. This is not really about taxes at all.
It’s about alignment. It’s about me saying yes to doing this tax prep and then aligning with that yes by thinking thoughts that allow me to feel good before, during, and after the entire experience.
In fact, I recently had this experience of pulling together all the various documentation and data for my personal and business taxes. Here are the emotions I experienced throughout: Empowerment, appreciation, positive expectation. In other words, it was a high vibe experience.
What’s super revealing about that example is nothing is different externally from when I hated doing my taxes to how I feel today. Nothing external is different. Same math, same documents.
But what is fundamentally and drastically different is what’s going on internally. My internal world has changed so my outer experience is different.
What’s different is the thoughts I think on purpose. What’s difference in my commitment to be in alignment. What’s different is choosing thoughts that allow me to feel good during the experience.
That is an example of getting in alignment with whatever I’m doing, including my taxes.
What if you were to start with the premise that alignment is always available? This doesn’t mean you will always be in alignment. But if you start with the belief alignment is always available, then it’s simply a matter of heading in that direction.
“It’s not about action…it’s about vibrational alignment.” —Abraham
It’s not about whether you say yes to baking cookies for the bake sale or you say no. The action of baking the cookies or the inaction of not baking the cookies is not what matters.
What matters is your vibrational alignment.
Be aligned with the decisions you make and the actions you take. Because then you feel good, which is wonderful in and of itself. And, Law of Attraction responds to your good feeling, delivering a life experience that matches your vibrational alignment.
- Are you saying yes to what’s in alignment, and no to what’s not?
- Are you getting in alignment for whatever you are doing?
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what’s guiding me when it comes to alignment these days.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The guideline about alignment that works as a gatekeeper
- A real-life example of using this guideline to make a decision
- My preference about not expending energy
- The reason it’s important to stay in alignment with your nos
- Why the answer is not accepting misalignment when you have stuff on your To Do list you don’t want to do
- How I went from bogged down to empowered about doing my taxes
- The belief about alignment that will serve you very well
Quotable
“If you deliberately bring yourself into alignment, circumstances go well for you. It’s all based on what you are doing with your vibration.” —Abraham
Resources Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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You may already be familiar with the LoA concept that any subject is really two subjects. This concept can be so useful in helping you understand what’s bringing a desire to you versus holding a desire away from you.
I’m going to focus on money as the primary example. Know, though, that what holds true on the subject of money holds true on any and all other subjects. In other words, the same Law of Attraction principle holds true for the subject of your health or the subject of your marriage or the subject of your career.
I’m going to kick us off with a classic Abraham quote:
“The subject of money is really two subjects: (1) money, plenty of money, and (2) absence of money, not nearly enough money. Often people assume that because they are speaking the words ‘I want more money,’ they are speaking positively about money. When you are feeling fear or discomfort as you speak, you are not speaking of the subject of money, you are speaking of the subject of not enough money. And the difference is very important, because the first statement brings money and the second holds it away.” —Abraham
This is golden! This is why we are getting what we’re getting in terms of manifesting. This core LoA principle explains so much about why something can manifest quickly and easily…and why something else never seems to manifest.
There are 4 aspects I want to shine a light on—all in the interest of helping you manifest what you want with greater ease.
Let’s start at the beginning: “The subject of money is really two subjects: (1) money, plenty of money, and (2) absence of money, not nearly enough money.” On every subject is what is wanted—that’s #1 plenty of money, and the lack or absence of what is wanted—that’s #2, not nearly enough money.
Again, money is just one example illustrating this concept that is true for all the areas of your life.
So the subject of your relationship is really two subjects: The relationship you want and the absence of the relationship you want.
On the subject of your health, again it is two subjects: What is wanted and the absence of what is wanted.
Often we don’t really differentiate how we are thinking about or how we are talking about a subject. We seem to assume that we’re focused on the wanted aspect of the subject anytime we’re thinking or talking about it, but that is often simply not the case.
The takeaway here is simply to start noticing. Start asking yourself: On this subject, that is really two subjects, where’s my focus? Are my thoughts and words about what is wanted on this subject? Or are my thoughts and words about what is unwanted?
This brings me to this next part where Abraham says: “Often people assume that because they are speaking the words ‘I want more money,’ they are speaking positively about money.” The thought or statement I want more money is neither positive nor negative, in and of itself. I could be saying I want more money and because I am certain that more money is coming, I feel good. I feel positive expectation.
But, I could also be saying, I want more money and am uncertain if the money will come, how it will come, when it will come. If I’m feeling uncertain that more money is coming, I feel bad. I feel worry.
It’s not the words I want more money that matter. Just as it’s not the words I want a happier relationship or I want a better job that matter.
The caution here is not to assume that because you are saying I want this or I want that, that you are speaking positively on that subject. Maybe you are and maybe you are not.
The next part of the quote is: “When you are feeling fear or discomfort as you speak, you are not speaking of the subject of money, you are speaking of the subject of not enough money.” Did you catch that super important part?
It matters how you feel when you say the words or think the thought. It matters how you feel because how you feel is the vibration you are offering to which Law of Attraction is responding.
If I say I want more money, but am feeling doubt about more money coming into my life, then doubt is my vibration. If I’m feeling doubt, or any other negative emotion, that vibration is an indication I’m really focused on the absence or lack of what I want.
The subject of money is really two subjects and I’m focused on the absence of money, not nearly enough money side.
- When you focus purely on what you want, you feel good. You feel some flavor of positive emotion.
- When you focus on the lack or absence of what you want, you feel bad. You feel some flavor of negative emotion.
This means you can always know which side of a subject you are activating by how you feel. If you notice how you are feeling, you can understand whether you are focused on what you want or the lack or absence of what you want, whether you are focused on plenty of money or not enough money.
The last line of the quote is about this difference in feeling. Abraham says: “And the difference is very important, because the first statement brings money and the second holds it away.” The first statement is speaking of what is wanted and brings money. The second statement is speaking of the lack or absence of what is wanted and holds money away.
The difference in allowing what you want or resisting what you want is how you feel. The difference isn’t how positive sounding the words are.
- It is the feeling that tells you whether you are headed in the direction of wanted or in the direction of unwanted.
- It is the feeling that tells you whether you are allowing and aligning with what you want or resisting and blocking what you want.
For every subject there is and for every desire you have, there are two sides—what is wanted and what is unwanted. Take the subject of your finances. That is the subject about which you are thinking.
One one side are thoughts about what is wanted, such as abundance, a feeling of more than enough, of money flowing in, of ease around all things money-related. Those are all wanted and those thoughts make you feel good.
Then, on the other side is unwanted. Scarcity is on the other side of the finances subject. Scarcity thoughts like, There’s not enough. Money is hard to come by. I can’t afford that. Worry about all things money-related is the unwanted side of the finances subject.
Every subject is really two subjects, which means both sides of wanted and unwanted are always there. But, and this is such an important “but”, you always have a choice which side of the subject you focus on and activate with your thoughts.
Are you thinking thoughts of what is wanted? Or are you thinking thoughts of what is unwanted?
- Wanted thoughts make you feel good. Thereby offering a feel good vibration to which Law of Attraction responds.
- Unwanted thoughts make you feel bad. Thereby offering a feel bad vibration to which Law of Attraction responds.
Remember: * Every subject is two subjects, what is wanted and the lack of what is wanted. * Don’t assume you are speaking positively about what you want simply because you say I want…whatever it is you are wanting. * If you feel negative emotion you are focused on unwanted rather than wanted. * How you feel indicates whether you are in receiving mode, and only positive emotion allows you to receive what you are asking for.
“When you experience fear about not having enough money, you emanate a vibration that prevents you from receiving what you are asking for. Even though you have been asking for prosperity and stability the fear you are feeling is your indicator that you cannot, right now, let what you want in. As long as you continue to think the thoughts that are causing the fear, the things you want cannot show up in your life. You’ve got to accomplish the feeling first.” —Abraham
Accomplish the feeling first. That’s the key to being in receiving mode and allowing what you want. That’s the key to manifesting.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the two subjects of money and why the distinction is so important to manifesting abundance.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- A key LoA concept that can help you understand what’s bringing a desire to you or holding a desire away from you
- What happens when you don’t differentiate how you are talking about money
- Why the phrase I want money is neither positive or negative
- An easy way to know if you are focusing purely on what you want
- Why fear about not having enough money prevents you from receiving abundance
Quotable
“The subject of money is really two subjects: (1) money, plenty of money, and (2) absence of money, not nearly enough money. Often people assume that because they are speaking the words ‘I want more money,’ they are speaking positively about money. When you are feeling fear or discomfort as you speak, you are not speaking of the subject of money, you are speaking of the subject of not enough money. And the difference is very important, because the first statement brings money and the second holds it away.” —Abraham
Resources Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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This post is about how I run a downstream business. I’m going to share examples from my coaching practice and business about what I mean by downstream.
I want you to look for Law of Attraction behind the examples. Because that’s really the point: To see how daily decisions can be made and actions taken through the lens of LoA.
Whether you own your own business or work for someone else or are retired, whether you are a corporate executive, a stay-at-home mom, or a part-time employee, we all can benefit by embodying Law of Attraction in all aspects of our lives. I’ve been coaching full-time since 2010.
There is a definite divide in my business that I describe as Before Law of Attraction and Living Law of Attraction. There is such a difference in terms of how my business feels, the ease with which I work, and the external success I’ve experienced using traditional metrics of success like revenue and clients.
I would describe the first several years of my business this way: Hustle and grind, try hard, work more, look around to see what others are doing and do that, fill To Do lists with shoulds and have tos.
Can you say upstream?
Back then, even though I loved coaching, I didn’t really love how I’d set up my business or how I coached or even what I coached people about, which was largely focused on setting goals and taking massive action to achieve them.
When I discovered Law of Attraction in 2017, it started to seep and then spill into every aspect of my life, including how I work. To the point where my very definition of success changed…to joy.
“Let your standard of success be your achievement of joy. For in the finding of joy, you are finding vibrational alignment with the resources of the Universe.” —Abraham
Believe me when I say my previous standard of success in my business had little, if anything, to do with joy!
Of course, with this new definition of success, a lot has changed in my coaching practice. To sum it up very simply, I would say I’ve gone from an upstream business to a downstream business.
Just to connect the dots, I imagine upstream is always taking us away from joy while downstream is flowing with and toward joy.
While I’m using my coaching practice to illustrate the LoA concept of upstream/downstream, the point is not what I do in my work, but what we are all doing in our lives. Are you going upstream or downstream? Here’s a snapshot of how I would describe my downstream business of today:
- I love co-creating with clients from all over the world; they are truly amazing women and it’s a delight to be on the LoA journey with them. I don’t really have words to express how much I love these coaching conversations.
- I work from home and have immense flexibility and margin in my life. Until recently I coached three days a week. Because what is downstream continues to flow and evolve, I recently shifted to coaching two days a week.
- I have a portable career that feels like freedom. I can coach and run my business from anywhere. I can block out travel weeks to the farm where I grew up or for relaxing Staycations at home.
- I have chosen to coach by phone simply because that’s my preference. I appreciate that I get to wear whatever I want to work. Clients schedule coaching sessions online, which offers convenience and ease for everyone.
- I have very low overhead which feels like freedom. My Manifest with Ease course and how-to guide called thoughts: an LoA pattern generate revenue each month, which is empowering.
- I’m a prolific content creator. I post to my blog weekly—so that’s 52 posts a year. I’ve published over 200 podcast episodes with a weekly release every Monday since I launched the show in January 2018. I deliver LoA to the inboxes of thousands each month with my newsletter. All that creation is downstream.
- With over half a million active shows on Apple, this podcast that you’re listening to right now consistently ranks in the top 200 in the U.S., and is often a top 100 show in the UK. That to me is the external evidence of creating from downstream energy.
- I get to try new things whenever I want, like the super successful coaching pop-up I did in 2021 and offering exclusive content to patrons, which is an exciting newish adventure I’m on.
When I think about it, not much in my business is the same between the pre-LoA version to living Law of Attraction, from upstream to downstream. The clients I attract and the content of coaching sessions are different, my work schedule and how I work are entirely different, the ease with which I create and what I offer are different.
Most of all, though, the way I feel is so incredibly different!
Downstream feels way different—and way better—than upstream. I know my coaching practice and my overall business are a success because I do achieve joy. It’s really this simple: The more I go downstream in my work, the more I experience finding vibrational alignment with the resources of the Universe.
“Let go of the oars…everything you want is downstream.” —Abraham
I said at the outset while I’m using the example of my downstream business, my coaching practice is not the real focus. The real focus is the downstream part. Because what Abraham is saying—“Let go of the oars…everything you want is downstream”—is true for all of us, all the time, about everything.
Everything you want in work and in life is downstream. In relationships and with regard to abundance, everything you want is downstream. You only have to let go of the oars.
I’m going to share five tips to guide you in letting go of the oars. To illustrate these tips, I’ll share examples that connect the dots between Law of Attraction and the decisions and actions I’ve been taking in my business to go downstream.
Here’s the first tip for letting go of the oars and heading downstream: Alignment before action.
“Hard work is not the path to Well-Being. Feeling good is the path to Well-Being. You don’t create through action; you create through vibration. And then, your vibration calls action from you.” —Abraham
Too many of us are used to taking action we don’t want to take, that we don’t enjoy. We are taking action that we are not in alignment with.
Taking action that is not aligned is upstream. Every single time.
The beautiful thing about alignment before action is you can, indeed, get in alignment for any action. And you can get in alignment for not taking any action at all. It’s not the action itself that matters. It’s the alignment.
As an example, I get in alignment before taking any action related to Love Your Life. That means when I’m going to outline an upcoming episode, I get in alignment. If I’m going to record an episode, alignment comes first.
And if for some reason I’m not able to get in alignment, then I don’t take action.
Here’s another example of alignment before action. A couple years ago I was excited about an LoA-themed daily meditation book I was writing. It was inspired. It was flowing. I was excited about it. And I had gotten quite a bit written.
Then one day I sat down to continue, and the flow stopped. I wasn’t in alignment with action. Next day, same thing. I was no longer in alignment with writing that book.
Now, I could have continued taking the action of working on that book. But the downstream flow had stopped, which meant if I continued working on it, the action would be upstream.
I trust everything I want is downstream. When the book in the form I had envisioned it was no longer flowing, I knew not to force anything. I knew not to take action that wasn’t aligned, so I stopped.
I put the book aside and didn’t give it another thought. That is living this concept of alignment before action.
What about you? Are you upstream or downstream when it comes to alignment before action?
The next tip for letting go of the oars and heading downstream: Follow your joy. There’s a little tailpiece on this one and that is: Not what others are doing. So to let go of the oars and head downstream, follow your joy, not what others are doing.
Because often times when we follow what others are doing—simply because others are doing XY or Z—we are heading upstream.
Awhile back I made the decision to get off Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Pinterest, and Twitter. Why? Simply because those interactions were not joyful to me. Letting go of the oars meant letting go of social media.
- If I had followed what others were doing, I would have made a different decision.
- If I had made the decision others said “would be good for my business”, I would still be on all those social media platforms.
Know this: I’m not for or against social media. That’s not the point. What I’m saying is I followed my joy not what others were doing.
My joy is the downstream pathway for for me. Your joy is the downstream pathway for you. Regardless what others are doing.
A similar scenario is when a client tells me she’s on the dating apps because she “has to be”, but she’s really not happy trying to find a partner that way. There’s a lot of friction rather than joy in using the apps.
Following her joy would be getting off the dating apps. Downstream would mean embracing that joy will be the pathway to finding the partner she wants.
Of course, another person may feel high vibe about being on the dating apps, in which case she is following her joy and the being on the apps is the downstream choice for her.
So again, it’s not about the dating apps being the thing or not the thing. It’s about following your own personal joy.
Here’s one more example of letting go of the oars and heading downstream in relation to following joy.
After my obsession with all things Law of Attraction, I made the decision to switch from coaching packages to schedule-as-you-want coaching because that’s what felt like freedom to me. Freedom and joy are both in the #1 spot on the emotional scale, meaning they are the same high vibrational frequency.
Making the decision to get rid of coaching packages—even as it seems the vast majority of coaches have them—was the downstream decision for me.
- Schedule-as-you-want coaching feels like freedom and joy to me, so downstream.
- Packages and obligations and ongoing commitments feel upstream.
It makes sense to me now why my pre-LoA business was so friction-filled. I was often headed upstream because I was following what others were doing.
What about you? Are you headed upstream because you’re following what others are doing or are you headed downstream because you’re following your joy.
The next tip for heading downstream: Please yourself. One of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is: What do I want to do?
Many of us never ask this question. Or we ask it, but don’t honor the answer. Instead, we start factoring in what others want or what others think.
“The greatest thing you can give yourself is freedom from what others think.” —Abraham
Don’t say yes simply to please others. Say yes to what’s in alignment for you. Say yes to what you want. Say yes to please yourself.
Saying yes to what’s in alignment for you and no to what’s not in alignment for you is guaranteed to take you downstream.
I get lots of requests in my coaching practice and business. Requests to coach on weekends. Requests for sponsorships or collaborations. Requests for video coaching sessions or for me to do an episode on a particular topic or for someone to be a guest on my show.
I am always open and curious about any request that comes my way.
I meet the request where I am today, based on what I want today. Meaning, I don’t assume because I’ve always declined guests on the show that I always will. But for today, that’s not what I want. And so the answer is a gracious, no thank you.
If I simply did what others wanted, that would be upstream.
My coaching hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays are pleasing to me. Could I get more clients if I extended my hours or coached on weekends? Probably. But if doing so compromises my vibration, that would then have consequences for the ease with which I can manifest.
If you are living with a lot of shoulds and have-tos, then you are not pleasing yourself and you are going upstream. If you are saying yes to every request that comes your way without checking in to see what you want, then you are headed upstream.
So what about it? Are you headed upstream pleasing others or downstream pleasing yourself? Are you asking and honoring the simple question: What do I want to do?
The next tip for letting go of the oars and heading downstream: Go where it’s easy.
“Everything that we want is downstream…and you don’t even have to turn the boat and paddle downstream, just let go of the oars, the current will carry you.” —Abraham
Even though the show is in the Top 200 of podcasts—and that’s out of some half million active shows on Apple—I will only continue to do the show if it’s fun. In other words, if doing the show is downstream, I’m all in. if the day ever comes that it’s upstream, I will happily call it a day.
Right now the podcast is where it’s easy, so that’s where I go.
Here’s another example of going where it’s easy. I mentioned in a previous episode podcast experts recommend if you don’t have access to a professional recording studio, the best sound quality would be to record in your clothes closet.
That may, indeed, be downstream for some, but it’s definitely not for me. Downstream for me is recording at my writing desk looking out over downtown Ann Arbor. I would find it very upstream to head to the closet to record these episodes. So I go where it’s easy.
Here’s another example: Over the years I’ve had many requests for conducting coaching calls via Zoom or FaceTime or some other video platform. In fact, back in the early days of my coaching business, I said yes to these requests. But it was never high vibe. It has never been my preferred way of coaching.
Once I discovered Law of Attraction and began to understood this concept of upstream versus downstream, saying no to these requests became the obvious choice for me. Saying no, for me, is going where it’s easy.
Of course, I fully understand and respect someone who wants a coach who is available via video conferencing may bypass me to work with someone else. For that person, going where it’s easy may very well be that other coach who loves video coaching sessions.
What about you? Where do you have an opportunity to go where it’s easy?
Here’s the final tip for letting go of the oars and heading downstream: Be in receiving mode. I want the milestones and achievements and destinations I reach in my business to feel good. And the only way to ensure that’s the case is for the journey of my business to feel good. For the day in and day out to feel good.
“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” —Abraham
I want to feel appreciation and freedom and ease and positive expectation and empowerment. I like to be engaged in what I’m doing and feel enthusiastic about it.
What I’m describing as being in receiving mode, of course, feels good. Appreciation and freedom and empowerment are feel-good emotions.
The pre-LoA version of me was willing to sacrifice feeling good as I hustled and overworked to try to get where I wanted to go. Hustle and overwork do not feel good. Hustle and overwork are not receiving mode.
These days I live by this from Abraham: “Nothing needs to be fixed. Everything is unfolding perfectly. So when you stand in your now accepting that all is well, then from that vibration you become surrounded by more and more evidence that all is well.” —Abraham
The more time I spend heading downstream, the more times I let go of the oars, the more often I’m in receiving mode, I am surrounded by more and more evidence that all is well.
“Trying harder makes the resistance more. It’s letting of of the oars that makes it less. It’s trusting the process. It’s trusting the stream. It’s trusting that you have an Inner Being that is calling you toward it.” —Abraham
Here’s a recap of the five tips I shared: * Alignment before action * Follow your joy. * Please yourself. * Go where it’s easy * Be in receiving mode.
Where do you have an opportunity to let go of the oars? Remember: Everything you want is downstream. Will you drop the oars? Will you head downstream?
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how I run a downstream business—and why this episode applies to you even if you’re not a business owner.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How my definition of success shifted from focusing only on external metrics
- How going downstream recently meant a change in my coaching hours
- Why my business feels so different now than before I discovered Law of Attraction
- Five tips for letting go of the oars
- What it means to really trust that everything you want is downstream
- What joy has to do with social media
- The simple question you may not be asking along with the answer you may not be honoring
- What my decision about Zoom has to do with going where it’s easy
- How to become surrounded by more and more evidence that all is well
Quotable
“Let go of the oars…everything you want is downstream.” —Abraham
Resources Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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The timing of a manifestation is a frequent coaching topic with my clients.
Why is it taking so long? When will I get what I want?
“Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you. Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are. But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order. And if you will relax and begin saying, ‘Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,’ that is the perfect vibrational stance.” —Abraham
Does this offer you a new way to look at the timing and unfolding of what you want? Let’s break it down and see how this wisdom can be applied in a practical way to your life. Beginning with… “Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you.”
Before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction, I was always trying to make things happen according to my timelines and deadlines. I want X by the end of the month. I want Y by the end of the year.
Usually these timelines and deadlines were not high vibe. Instead, they were stressful. They created tension and impatience. These timelines and deadlines often meant I postponed feeling good.
There is so much relief to be found in trusting the timing of the Universe. The Universe knows the perfect timing for what you want. Often we simply cannot see this from our limited vantage point.
“The Universe knows the perfect timing for all those things you want…and will find, through the crack of least resistance, the best way to deliver it to you.” —Abraham
Would you feel a lift in your vibration if you were to trust the timing of the Universe?
Abraham goes on to say… “Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are.”
Are you very aware of where you are? As in…
- I’m very aware of the stack of bills.
- I’m very aware of my relationship status.
- I’m very aware I’m in the old job that I want to leave.
- I’m very aware I’m unhappy with body.
When you are very aware of where you are, your focus is on what-is. This means the vibration you are offering reflects what-is rather than matches the vibration of your desire. Which means you are not in receiving mode.
Let’s take a specific example of being very aware of where you are.
I work with a number of entrepreneurial clients. Let’s say one wants to grow her business. She wants to increase her reach. She wants to expand her offerings. She wants more in her business—more money, more clients, more impact.
Her desire is a beautiful thing. And yet, my client is very aware of where she is currently.
Her thoughts are more about the current state of her business and her current reach and her current revenues than on what she wants. Because she is very aware of where she currently is, her vibration is frustration, impatience, sometimes worry, at times insecurity.
Consider what circumstances and conditions are a vibrational match to frustration and impatience, worry and insecurity. Because my client is very aware of where she is, she’s not vibrationally aligned with her desire and not letting what she wants happen.
What about you? Are you focused on what-is to such an extent that you are vibrationally unaligned with what you actually want to manifest? So far we’ve talked about “Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you. Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are.”
Abraham then says: But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order.
This is a doozy for many of us. As in, many of us simply do not believe this. We do not trust that things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order.
- Well, then why is my marriage still the way it is?
- Why hasn’t the new house manifested?
- Why is it taking so long to get pregnant?
- Why do I get job interviews, but not offers?
Sometimes, perhaps even often, the way the Universe lines things up for us doesn’t make sense as those things are happening, as they are unfolding.
We can’t understand why this is happening or that isn’t happening. We don’t understand why things are taking “so long”.
We live—and therefore create and attract—from this energy of things not happening as fast as they should, in the order they should, in the way they should. Let me put that another way. Abraham is saying “all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order.” The opposite of this is things are not happening as they should be happening. Things are not unfolding in the right way or at the right time.
Notice the significant vibrational gap between these two beliefs:
- Things are happening in perfect order
- The right things are not happening or not happening in the right order
Both beliefs have a vibration, but boy are they different! The first belief—things are happening in perfect order—is downstream and reflects flow and allowing. The second belief—the right things are not happening or not happening in the right order—is upstream and reflects friction and resistance.
In your heart you know you want to create and attract from a downstream vibration, but how are you actually showing up vibrationally?
- Are you in a state of allowing or a state of resisting?
- Are you living in a state of flow or friction?
Abraham goes on to say: “And if you will relax and begin saying, ‘Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,’ that is the perfect vibrational stance.”
There’s a word at the beginning that’s easy to overlook—and that word is “relax”. The reason that one little word is so important is the energy of relaxing is the energy of allowing. Relax is downstream. Relax is flow. It’s ease vs. stress. It’s calm versus anxious.
When you relax, you invite and align with expansion—which means you align with possibility. In contrast, when you are stressed and anxious and feeling low vibe, that energy absolutely constricts what is possible.
“The timing of manifestation depends on how much practice you give to feeling good versus the time you practice feeling bad. Say to yourself, ‘I’m on the path, it will reveal itself to me at the perfect time.’” —Abraham
And so from the delicious energy of downstream ease, you say, “Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding.” Let me pause before going on to the very juicy bit that follows.
- When you say and think and believe everything in its perfect time, you are able to enjoy the journey you are on right now.
- When you say and think and believe everything is unfolding, you can appreciate the journey you are on to where you want to go.
You’re not stressed and tense until you get to the destination of the promotion or raise, the new house or baby, the relationship or perfect body. You are not head’s down, nose to the grindstone, feeling gunky, impatient, not happy until some future goal has been achieved or shiny penny acquired.
Instead, this is about trusting the timing, feeling the support of the Universe, and actually appreciating the unfolding. That, my friends, is a delightful energy to create and attract from.
Which brings us to the jewel in the crown: “‘And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,’ that is the perfect vibrational stance.”
Satisfaction with what-is and eagerness for more is an LoA slogan I often use to guide me. I appreciate being reminded to tap into this energy, this perfect vibrational stance.
When you can enjoy where you are now, even as you have desires that have not yet manifested, when you can enjoy where you are today, even as there are goals you want to achieve and shiny pennies you want to acquire, that is the optimum point of attraction. How have you been thinking about the timing of your manifestations? Would you feel relief in the belief things have not yet manifested simply because the timing isn’t yet perfect?
Would you feel a lift in your vibration if you were to shift your focus away from what-is?
What if you were to relax? Relax in your life. Relax in relation to your desires. Relaxing is a wonderful energy for attracting what you want. It’s the downstream energy of allowing.
And as you relax, you can say to yourself, “Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding.”
Last but certainly not least, will you tap into the energy of one of the best LoA slogans ever: Satisfaction with what-is and eagerness for more. Enjoy where you are now in relationship to where you’re going. This is the perfect create stance—in other words, the perfect point of attraction.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the timing of what you want.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How I used to be all about timelines and deadlines when it came to what I wanted
- What being very aware of a stack of bills has to do with manifesting
- What’s really going on when we don’t understand why things are taking so long
- The vibrational gap between two different beliefs about things happening in perfect order
- Why relaxing is so important to manifesting
- A useful LoA slogan to help you remember the perfect creative stance
Quotable
“Some things you’re not letting happen right now because the timing isn’t perfect for you. Some you’re not letting happen because you are very aware of where you are. But all things, as they are happening, are happening in perfect order. And if you will relax and begin saying, ‘Everything in its perfect time. Everything is unfolding. And I’m enjoying where I am now, in relationship to where I’m going. Content where I am, and eager for more,’ that is the perfect vibrational stance.” —Abraham
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Too often we compromise the vibration we are offering because we are worried about others or wanting something different for them.
- You worry about the toll stress at work is taking on your husband.
- You want things to be better for your sister and get upset when she doesn’t follow your advice about how to improve her marriage.
- You micromanage your kids because you feel anxious about their choices.
- You think your best friend would be better off if she stopped spending so freely and your judgment about her spending isn’t feeling good to you.
These are examples of throwing off your own vibration because of a focus on someone else. Of actually getting out of alignment under the guise of wanting alignment for someone else. That’s pretty mixed up, right?
Yet we often do just that. We compromise our own alignment by wanting others to show up differently, by thinking we know what’s best for someone else.
“Trust that they’re making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work. And just teach through the power of your example.” —Abraham
With those two simple sentences, Abraham has offered us a pathway to vibrational freedom. Are you trusting and teaching?
Let’s start with trusting. “Trust that they’re making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work.”
I have a little saying I bring to mind to remind me of this.
When I start thinking I know what’s best for someone else—maybe a work situation Hans is dealing with or a health situation of a family member—when I I start thinking I know what the other person should be doing, how they should be showing up, the action they should take, what they should be thinking or feeling… Whenever I go down that path with my thoughts, I remind myself: Everyone is on their own journey.
What this signals for me is to take my focus off their business and tend to my own alignment. Because invariably what happens when I’m thinking I know what’s best for them, my own alignment gets wonky. As in, I am no longer in a state of alignment.
Instead, I’m feeling worried about their situation. Or irritated they’re slow to take my advice. I’m feeling frustrated things aren’t different. Or afraid about an outcome. I’m feeling angry this still isn’t resolved. Or sad about the situation.
Can you see how I’ve left my own alignment if I am feeling worry or irritation, if I’m feeling frustration or anger or fear or sadness? I’m not in alignment!
I’m using the other person’s life journey as a reason to lose my own alignment, which means Law of Attraction is now responding to the low vibe I’m offering. I’m creating in my own experience, and so when I’m worried about someone else, worry is the vibration I’m offering. Of course, worry isn’t helping the other person and it’s actually hurting me in the sense that now LoA will respond in my life with circumstances and conditions, people and events, situations and things that match my vibration of worry.
Not only am I not helping the other person with my worry thoughts, but I’m modeling misalignment. Hey, here’s out to be out of alignment—put your nose into other people’s business, think you know what’s best for them, forget they are on their own journey, feel some flavor of bad. Boom! Welcome to misalignment!
When you trust others are making their lives work in the way they are making their lives work, when you trust they are on their own journey, you release all that friction and resistance from your own vibration. When you have this perspective on others you offer and exude a kind of grace.
Moving on to teaching, Abraham says: “And just teach through the power of your example.” Now, let’s be clear about what this really means.
This isn’t about teaching others the specifics of how they should show up in their lives. It’s not sharing your unwritten manual on how to have a good marriage or how to eat or dress or behave. It isn’t about teaching others how they need to think or feel or behave.
This is about the power of your example of alignment.
“You want to teach through the clarity of your example. You want to teach through the clarity of your own alignment….You want to demonstrate the Law of Attraction’s response to your consistent offering.” —Abraham
Here’s how I think about teaching through the power of your example. This is not about doling out unsolicited—or even solicited advice—to others. It’s not about telling others what they should and shouldn’t be doing. It’s not putting your nose in the business of others.
Instead, teaching through the power of your example is about showing up in your life in such a way that you model alignment, you model a focus on positive aspects and a deep appreciation practice, you model the importance of feeling good and reaching for better-feeling thoughts, you model an understanding that circumstances are neutral and your commitment to deliberate creation.
When you model all this, you will also be demonstrating the Law of Attraction’s response to your consistent offering of alignment. In other words, you will be modeling how to manifest what is wanted with ease.
Let me say that in a slightly different way: You are teaching through the power of your example. I don’t mean your example of what kind of car to drive or how to vote. I don’t mean your example of how to dress or raise your kids. I don’t mean your example of morality or good behavior.
What I mean—and this is everything—is to teach through the power of your example of alignment. * You being in alignment is a powerful example of the Law of Attraction at work. * You being in alignment is a powerful example of how to choose thoughts that feel good when you think them. * You being in alignment is a powerful example of prioritizing feeling good.
This is not about preaching to others that LoA is the way to live.
“Since words don’t teach you will be teaching through the clarity of your example.” —Abraham
Sure, if someone is interested in knowing how you’re getting what you’re getting, why you so often seem to be feeling good, why you choose to see the glass half full, then by all means when they ask, share your story.
But this is not about leading with your story. It’s not about leading with the energy of I’m going to teach others because I want them to have this too. No, it’s about teaching through the power of your example of alignment.
Lead with your alignment. Model alignment. Show up for your life in alignment.
Show up at work in alignment. Show up at the family reunion in alignment. Show up running errands in alignment. Show up at the doctor appointment in alignment. Show up in your conversations in alignment.
Are you trusting and teaching? * Are you trusting others are making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work? * Are you teaching through the power of your example of alignment?
I imagine most of us answer these two questions knowing we have an opportunity.
Do you an opportunity to embrace Everyone is on their own journey. What would be the payoff for your own vibration? What would this mean in terms of advice-giving and focusing on what others are doing?
Do you have an opportunity to teach through the power of your example of alignment? What would this opportunity offer you in terms of prioritizing and emphasizing and strengthening your own alignment?
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about trusting and teaching as we look at these concepts through the lens of Law of Attraction.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- How you could be compromising your own vibration because of your focus on others
- A two-fold pathway to vibrational freedom
- The mantra I remind myself of whenever I start thinking I know what someone else should be doing
- The reason worrying about someone else doesn’t help them—and actually hurts you
- Why you can put away your unwritten manual for how others need to think and feel and behave
- What it really means to teach through power of your example
- Two questions that will likely offer you an opportunity
Quotable
“Trust that they’re making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work. And just teach through the power of your example.” —Abraham
Resources
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Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires
Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness
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Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
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We live in an attraction-based Universe.
- You don’t say yes with your words.
- You don’t say yes with what you want.
Instead, you say yes with your attention.
So here’s what I want to ask: Are you paying attention to what you want? Or…are you paying attention to what you don’t want?
“This is an attraction-based Universe. You cannot say no. You are always saying, ‘Yes please, yes please, yes please,’ with your attention.” —Abraham
Many of us seem to forget this at times.
We forget the power of our focus. We forget the creative power of what we give our attention to. We forget we are living in an attraction-based Universe, and that wherever and whatever we are giving our attention to is saying, yes please.
And when we forget, we inadvertently include what we don’t want in our vibration.
“When you give your attention to something that you desire and you say yes to it, you are including it in your vibration. But when you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration. When you give no attention to it, you do not include it, but you cannot exclude anything that you are giving your attention to, because your attention to it includes it in your vibration, every time without exception.” —Abraham
- If you look at something and say yes to it, you include it in your vibration.
- If you look at something and say no to it, you include it in your vibration.
It’s not the yes or the no that matter. It’s not the words, I want this or I don’t want this, that matter. It is simply your attention making the difference when it comes to manifesting. It is only by not giving attention that you exclude anything from your vibration. Let that land.
- When you pay attention to your mother-in-laws’ criticism, you include it in your vibration.
- When you don’t pay attention to your mother-in-law’s criticism, you exclude it from your vibration.
I’ll say it again: “When you give no attention to it, you do not include it.” Yet how often do you keep your attention on something you do not want?
I used to fill journals by writing about situations I did not want. I guess at the time I thought writing about something unwanted was helping me process or helping me solve problems or clarify what I did want.
Looking back though, through the lens of Law of Attraction, I now clearly see I was only including what I did not want in my vibration. It was unintentional, for sure, but that’s what I was doing.
What about you? Are you paying attention to what you don’t want? Are you complaining about it? Do you find your thoughts continually returning to that situation you don’t like? If you are looking at or talking about or thinking about something you do not want, you are, indeed, including it in your vibration. And since you are including it in your vibration, it is a component of your point of attraction.
Let’s follow where this leads. When you include what you don’t want in your vibration, which makes it part of your point of attraction, you can only attract the essence of what you do not want.
“If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of whatever you want, you will attract more of the lack.” —Abraham
Are you focused on what you want or the lack of what you want?
- If you are paying attention to positive aspects about your partner, you are focused on what you want.
- If you are paying attention to negative aspects about your partner, you are focused on the lack of what you want.
Your focus is creating. Your focus is attracting. When you focus on what you like and appreciate, you attract more of that essence. When you focus on what you don’t like and don’t want, you attract more of that essence.
When you experience something you don’t like or don’t want, the unwanted offers clarity about what is wanted. That clarity is a good thing. It launches a rocket of desire.
However, once you know what is wanted, focus there, put your attention there, talk about that, think about that.
Say yes to what is wanted with your attention, with your conversation, with your journaling, with your thinking. Say yes to what you want.
Again, we live in an attraction-based Universe. Your attention—to anything—is saying yes to it. This is why focusing on the problem is only going to get you more of the essence of the problem. That’s not what you intend, but that is, indeed, what is happening.
Your attention to the problem includes the problem in your vibration. Now, of course that’s not what you are wanting. When you focus on the problem at work or with your spouse or about the kids, you do so in a misguided attempt to solve the problem.
Nonetheless, your attention to the problem only attracts more that matches up with the essence of the problem. Bottom line: Your attention to the problem is saying ‘Yes please’ to the problem. Yikes, right?!
You can tell you’re focused on the problem because it doesn’t feel good. When you think thoughts about the problem, you feel negative emotion.
“The only thing that matters is what you are doing right now in your vibration. And you can tell what you are doing in your vibration right now by the way you feel.” —Abraham
When your attention is on the solution, then the solution is in your vibration—which, of course, is what you want. When your attention is on what is wanted, then what is wanted is in your vibration and part of your point of attraction.
You can certainly acknowledge what you don’t like about your current situation. But then pivot to what the contrast has clarified you do want.
Here’s an example: Let’s say you feel undervalued at work, even disrespected at times by your boss and colleagues. That’s the current situation.
And now imagine you are talking with a friend about work, telling her you want your next job to be different. That sounds like a great start because it’s a shift from unwanted to wanted.
But then you put your attention right back on what you don’t want—thereby including what you don’t want in your vibration. As you continue to share examples with your friend of being undervalued and disrespected at work, you put your attention squarely on unwanted.
Let’s look at this conversation with your girlfriend through the lens of Law of Attraction: You are looking at something you do not want, saying no to it, and yet absolutely including the very thing you don’t want in your vibration.
You might be scratching your head and asking, What’s the alternative? What am I supposed to do instead?
“You can’t focus upon something that bothers you and something that doesn’t bother you at the same time, and in the moment you withdraw your attention from what’s bothering you, your vibration is going to rise.” —Abraham
So this is about shifting your focus. About shifting your focus from something that bothers you to something that doesn’t bother you.
Shifting your focus from unwanted to wanted might sound like this: I really look forward to being in a job where I am excited about the contribution I’m making. Where my boss and colleagues appreciate me and value what I bring to the table. I’m looking forward to a working relationship that feels empowering.
Your desire is born from the contrast, meaning the unwanted has clarified the wanted. And now you are best served by giving your attention to what is wanted, and only what is wanted.
When you give your attention to what you want, that means you are saying yes to what is wanted, you are including what is wanted in your vibration, and this attraction-based Universe will deliver your desire.
“Get so fixated on what you want, that you drown out any vibration or reverberation that has anything to do with what you do not want.” —Abraham
Are you fixated on what you want? Meaning, is that where your focus is? Is that what you’re thinking about?
To help with this, I often ask myself these two simple questions. * What am I paying attention to? * Is it something I want?
Paying attention takes different forms. It’s what you’re thinking about on your drive to work or what you’re thinking about as you fall asleep at night. It’s what you talk about with your spouse and what you write about in your journal.
What are you paying attention to?
Start noticing. Start being an observer of where your focus goes.
- Oh, I’m paying attention to the increase in my insurance premium.
- Oh, I’m paying attention to my boss giving me a positive feedback in the meeting.
Next, is what you’re paying attention to what you want? In other words, is the focus of your attention something wanted or unwanted?
I encourage you to keep it simple: Wanted or unwanted? Remember: When you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration.
So it doesn’t matter that you don’t want the increase in your premium. If that’s what you are paying attention to, if that’s what you’re focused on—that unwanted thing—then unwanted is included in your vibration.
“Never mind what is. Imagine it the way you want it to be so that your vibration is a match to your desire.” —Abraham
Those two simple questions—What am I paying attention to? Is it something I want?— tell you everything you need to know about the vibration you are offering at this moment.
- When you’re focused on something wanted, that serves you very well.
- When you are focused on something unwanted, you will not be pleased with what you attract.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about how you might be unintentionally including what you don’t want in your vibration.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What happens when we forget the creative power of what we give our attention to
- Why it’s not the words I want this or I don’t want this that matter
- The unintentional consequence to writing in your journal about situations you don’t like
- Why focusing on the problem gets you more of the essence of the problem
- What Abraham says is the only thing that matters right now
- An example of pivoting to what is wanted when you feel undervalued at work
- Two simple questions you can ask to clean up your vibration and improve your point of attraction
Quotable
“When you give your attention to something that you desire and you say yes to it, you are including it in your vibration. But when you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration. When you give no attention to it, you do not include it, but you cannot exclude anything that you are giving your attention to, because your attention to it includes it in your vibration, every time without exception.” —Abraham
Resources
Get the transcript
BONUS Episodes of Love Your Life + Law of Attraction
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
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Recently I’ve noticed a specific kind of friction in the vibration of a few of my clients. The friction is coming from a belief that someone in their lives needs to do things differently.
Here’s an example: One client thinks co-creating with her spouse would be so much easier if he would shift away from thoughts of lack. She believes her spouse needs to think and behave differently in relation to abundance. When he changes his outlook and behavior, she will feel more positive and optimistic.
Another client believes her sister would be better off if she were to downsize and sell her large house. My client believes the house and overhead are the source of her sister’s overwhelm and stress. She is certain selling is what makes sense and that her her sister would feel better if she would only listen to and follow her advice.
In both examples, my clients believe the way they can feel better is through a change in the behavior of someone else. And this is leading to the friction of control in their vibrations.
“It is easy to understand how you would come to the conclusion that your path to feeling good is through influencing or controlling the behavior of others. But as you attempt to control them (through influence or coercion), you discover that not only can you not contain them—but your attention to them brings more like them into your experience. You simply cannot get to where you want to be by controlling or eliminating the unwanted.” —Abraham
Have you been acting as if the path to feeling good is through influencing others? Through controlling the behavior of others?
Most of us probably want to say, No, no! I’m not a controlling person. I don’t coerce others!
And yet when we really reflect on these concepts of influence and control—and even coercion—some of us realize that is absolutely part of our vibration.
Here are two ways control often shows up. * I know what’s best for someone. * Someone needs to behave differently.
I know what’s best for someone can be insidious because on the surface it can seem like a good thing. You might say:
- I want what’s best for her. She should leave her husband.
- I just want what’s best for him, and he needs to stand up to his boss.
Notice the difference between thinking you know what’s best for someone versus knowing and trusting they are on their own journey. You might think you have their best interests at heart in both cases, but these are very different vibrationally.
Let’s be clear: When you think I know what’s best for her, the subtext is and she doesn’t. I know what’s best for him, but he doesn’t.
When you think you know what’s best for someone else, it’s disempowering. It’s co-opting their life experience and trying to shape it within the context of your life experience.
When you think you know what’s best for someone else, it’s anti-freedom for that person. It’s also anti-freedom for you because you’re using the fact that they’re not doing what you think is best as a reason to be out of alignment.
On the other hand, having someone’s best interests at heart and knowing they are on their own journey is empowering. It’s loving. It’s freedom.
When you truly want what’s best for someone else, that means you see that person as resourceful and whole. You see that person as you know they want to be. When you truly want what’s best for someone else, what if you were to simply send them love?
There is so much freedom to be found—and such an elevation of your own vibration—when you truly embrace that you do not know what’s best for others. When you attend to your side of the street and choose to put your attention on the only thing you truly have control over, which is the thoughts you choose to think.
Instead of thinking you know what’s best for someone else, what if you were to truly embrace that you are the thinker of your thoughts, which create your reality—and the other person is the thinker of her thoughts, creating her reality?
Moving on to the second way the energy of control often shows up, and that is by thinking, They need to behave differently. And the subtext here is so I can feel good. As in, He needs to behave differently so I can feel good.
This is a non-starter because circumstances are neutral. All of them. This includes every person in your life. Every person is a neutral circumstance, and by extension their behavior is a neutral circumstance.
What this means, through the lens of Law of attraction, is it is your thoughts about their behavior that cause you to feel negative emotion. In other words, it is not their behavior in and of itself, it is your thoughts about their behavior.
Here’s an example. One of my clients shared that it is so frustrating when her husband balks at spending money on their house renovation.
What she really means is: My thoughts about my husband’s preference not to spend the money is causing me to feel frustrated. In short: My thoughts are causing me to feel frustrated.
Bottom line: Her husband’s behavior, her husband’s preference, her husband’s relationship with money—all are neutral circumstances.
Some of us want to have it both ways. Yes, on the hand you believe in LoA and understand that circumstances are neutral, but…—and that but is the signal—but if he would only change his behavior it would be so much easier to feel good.
Sure, of course it would. When everyone around us is showing up in a way that delights us, it’s easy to feel fantastic.
But when someone is showing up in a way that doesn’t delight you, that is an opportunity to elevate your practice of Law of Attraction. That is the moment to truly practice the core LoA concept that circumstances are neutral.
This means you will not use anyone else and what they are doing or not doing as a reason not to feel good. You will not make feeling good contingent upon controlling their behavior.
“True freedom comes to you when you need not one other person to be one other way in order for you to feel good.” —Abraham
Wow. That’s a really mind-expanding statement, isn’t it?
Have you been experiencing this kind of freedom? Who in your life have you been needing to show up differently in order to feel good? Where have you been depriving yourself this feeling of true freedom by trying to control others—whether because you think you know what’s best for them or because you want them to behave differently so you can feel good?
Both types of control disconnect you from the true freedom that comes when you don’t use others as the excuse for not feeling good.
You always attract more of what you are giving vibrationally. Consider what you are attracting when you try to control others. Attempting to control others is a vibration that only attracts more to be controlled.
The shift I invite you to make is from controlling others to controlling the vibration you offer, to which Law of Attraction responds.
“You cannot control anything except the way you feel. Trying to limit anybody about anything defies the Laws of the Universe. It cannot be done. You cannot control others, but you can control, and create, your own reality.” —Abraham
So the choice is: Control the way you feel by choosing thoughts that feel good or attempting to control others.
The latter might seem effective in dribs and drabs, but it’s an illusion. Trying to control externals—people and circumstances—versus controlling internally by choosing your thoughts is a losing proposition.
“By paying attention to the way you feel, and then choosing thoughts that feel the very best, you are managing your own vibration, which means you are controlling your own point of attraction, which means you are creating your own reality. It’s such a wonderful thing to realize that you can create your own reality without sticking your nose in everybody else’s, and that the less attention you give to everybody else’s reality, the purer your vibration is going to be—and the more you are going to be pleased with what comes to you.” —Abraham
There’s the super simple formula so absolutely core to Law of Attraction: Pay attention to the way you feel and choose thoughts that feel good to you. This is the way you create the reality you want. Not by going through life attempting to control others.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what happens when you try to create your reality by controlling others rather than controlling your own vibration.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- The misguided conclusion many of us have come to about how to feel good
- Two common ways control shows up
- The vibrational difference between thinking you know what’s best for someone versus trusting they are on their own journey
- The opportunity you have when someone in your life isn’t showing up the way you would prefer
- How Abraham says true freedom comes to you
- Why it’s so important to remember the only thing you can control
Quotable
“It is easy to understand how you would come to the conclusion that your path to feeling good is through influencing or controlling the behavior of others. But as you attempt to control them (through influence or coercion), you discover that not only can you not contain them—but your attention to them brings more like them into your experience. You simply cannot get to where you want to be by controlling or eliminating the unwanted.” —Abraham
Resources
Get the transcript
BONUS Episodes of Love Your Life + Law of Attraction
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That’s the feeling of your hands in the clay.” —Abraham
Oh, that’s juicy, isn’t it?
Are you one of the people Abraham is describing? Are you a member of the “no happier people on this planet”?
We can probably all benefit from a gentle reminder on how to join this group. I know I certainly can use a reminder now and again.
While it’s really not complicated, so often we do complicate how to be happy. So let’s break it down.
The first part is decide that you want something. That’s easy, right? The contrast of your life experience is always clarifying what you want, what you like, what you want more of.
Contrast is always helping you launch new rockets of desire.
I think it’s interesting Abraham uses the word “decide”—as in decide that you want something. I like how active that is. How the act of deciding you want something means you are an active participant in creation.
For some of my clients, deciding that they want something is a bold new vibration. For instance, in the past, she might have watered down her desire. I really want X, but I don’t think I can get X, so I’ll settle for Y. That’s not deciding you want something. It’s settling. That is talking yourself out of wanting what you want..
Other clients used to pretend they didn’t want what they wanted. Almost as if to boldly want something would somehow jinx it, but maybe she could sneak up on her desire. I’d better not let on what I really want for fear it doesn’t happen and then I’m disappointed and everyone knows I didn’t get the job or the guy or the raise or whatever.
Do you see how downplaying what you want for fear of not getting it means you are attracting from the energy of not getting it? Of course, that’s going to be very bad for manifesting what you want.
Decide that you want something. Be bold in that decision. As Abraham says, “Desire is the beginning of all new Creation.”
Next, after you’ve decided you want something, is to define what you want. Now, at first glance you may think these are the same—deciding that you want something and defining what you want. But there is an important distinction that I think is where many of us get tripped up when it comes to manifesting with ease.
Defining what you want is best understood as defining how you want to feel. At the heart of every desire is the desire to feel good.
Everything you desire is because you think you will feel better in the having of it. You think you’ll feel better when your business takes off, when your partner proposes, when you buy the bigger house.
The very moment I’m aware that I have a new desire, I want clarity about how I will feel when that desire manifests. Because it is that feeling I’m really after.
Defining what you want is defining how you want to feel. It’s getting at the essence of your desire. Too often we chase the package of something in such a way that has us totally disconnected from the feeling of what we want.
Here’s an example. Abby wants her boyfriend to propose. She says, When we’re engaged I’m going to feel so much more secure. I will be optimistic and excited about our future together.
If Abby were to define what she is wanting—what she is really wanting—it is to feel secure with her partner and optimistic and excited about the future. That’s the essence of her desire.
Abby has decided the package that comes in is a proposal from her boyfriend. And, of course, it’s absolutely wonderful for Abby to want what she wants.
But here’s the thing: By not defining what she wants in terms of how she wants to feel, Abby is going to have trouble manifesting.
She’s going to have trouble getting her hands in the clay because of the vibrational gap between how she’s feeling, which is insecure and worried about the future, and how she wants to feel, which is secure and optimistic and excited about the future.
This vibrational gap is the segue to what comes next for getting your hands in the clay. You’ll recall Abraham says: “to get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation.”
To get your hands in the clay, you decide that you want something, you define what you want, and then you get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation.
The pre-LoA me used to totally miss the mark on this one. I did not get hold of the feeling of what I wanted before I got what I wanted. Quite the contrary. I was always waiting until I got what I wanted to feel the feeling.
- As in, when I get a certain number of clients, I’ll feel successful. But in the meantime, I don’t feel successful.
- Or when there’s a certain amount of money in the bank, then I’ll feel secure. But in the meantime, I feel anxious or worried.
This is the vibrational gap Abby is experiencing. If she were to get hold of the feeling of what she wants even before its manifestation, she would feel secure now, she would feel optimistic and excited about the future now.
“We want you to savor the manifestation of the emotion. If you can enjoy the manifestation of the emotion, you’ll move fast to the manifestation of what you want.” —Abraham
Savor the manifestation of the emotion. I so love that phrase! In other words, feel now how you’ll feel then. Feel now how you’ll feel when you get what you want. Don’t wait to feel good. Don’t wait to feel how you want to feel. Don’t postpone joy.
Your emotion is the first manifestation. Imagine the difference in what you manifest into your physical reality when the first manifestation is positive emotion versus negative emotion. I’ll say it again: Your emotion is the first manifestation.
“The manifestation of the stuff follows precisely the manifestation of the emotion. That’s why we want so much for you to make the manifestation of emotion, not just your main event, the only event that you’re focused upon.” —Abraham
This has probably been the most significant shift for me personally since my obsession with all things Law of Attraction. I am absolutely committed to making the manifestation of emotion the only event on which I’m focused.
Time and time again I’ve experienced when I savor and truly enjoy the manifestation of the emotion, then my desire comes to me—and comes fast. But if get caught up in the I’ll be happy when X, Y, or Z manifests, then X, Y, or Z simply does not appear in my physical reality.
In other words, when you delay feeling how you want to feel, when you delay feeling good until you get what you want, you don’t get what you want.
Abraham puts it very simply, so there can be no misunderstanding on this point: “The manifestation of the stuff follows precisely the manifestation of the emotion.”
I invite you to ask yourself: Are you getting hold of the feeling of what you want even before its manifestation? If you’ve mastered this, bravo! And if you’re still a work in progress, that’s ok. It means you have an amazing opportunity to manifest with greater ease.
To be one of the happy people, so far you’ve decided that you want something, you’ve defined what you want, you’ve gotten hold of the feeling of your desire even before it manifests, and now Abraham says to “joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold.”
“Joyously” is the key to what’s happening at this stage of manifesting. Notice Abraham doesn’t say worry as you watch the unfolding of what you want. Or complain about the timing as you watch the unfolding. Or feel doubtful. No, of course not.
This is about enjoying the unfolding. Here again, my pre-LoA experience was so different from what’s being described. It’s back to I’ll be happy when I get what I want, but in the meantime I’ll feel impatient or anxious or discouraged or some other vibration that is most decidedly not joy.
Are you enjoying the unfolding of what you want? Don’t gloss past this question because it truly is a game changer when it comes to being a deliberate creator.
Think about your desire. And now answer the question: Are you joyously watching the unfolding as piece by piece by piece it begins to unfold?
You might be saying, No, I am not joyously watching anything because nothing is unfolding. That’s the problem. What I want isn’t manifesting, and I’m not enjoying that at all.
If that describes your energy, then you’ve put the proverbial cart before the horse. Tapping into joy allows the manifestation. Tapping into joy is what allows your desire to manifest into your physical reality.
Here’s the thing: It’s only by finding the feeling place of what you want that what you want will manifest. Too many of us do not feel all that great as we wait for what we want. In fact, it is the waiting that is part of the issue. When you are waiting on what you want to be happy, then you are postponing the joy
What if you were to change this energy of waiting? What if instead you were to delight in noticing the signs of your desire unfolding?
“The entire Universe is conspiring to give you everything that you want.” —Abraham
What if you were to start to notice every positive aspect, every serendipitous happening, every sign the Universe is supporting you and taking you along the path to your desire?
Get your hands in the clay of creating. Be one of the happy people. * Decide you want something. Be bold in your decision. * Define what you want. Be clear on the essence—the feeling—of what you’re wanting. * Get hold of the feeling of it. Feel now how you’ll feel then. * Joyously watch the unfolding. Enjoy the journey to what you want.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about what it means to have your hands in the clay and being a deliberate creator.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- What those who Abraham describes as “no happier people on this planet” are doing
- Why deciding you want something could be a bold new vibration
- What downplaying what you want for fear of not getting it attracts
- What I do the moment I’m aware that I have a new desire
- The vibrational gap common for many of us when we don’t savor the manifestation of emotion
- What comes before the manifestation of the stuff
Quotable
“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That’s the feeling of your hands in the clay.” —Abraham
Resources
Get the transcript
Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires
BONUS Episodes of Love Your Life + Law of Attraction
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
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I’m often asked about my own alignment practice, as in: What do you do each day to get in alignment, Jennifer?
My answer is always some version of this: I’m very dedicated about getting in alignment, but not beholden to a specific routine. In other words, my focus is on feeling good rather than on doing a set of specific things to get there.
Lots of different things have proven helpful to getting me in alignment. But I know what worked yesterday might not be the same thing that works today, so I’m flexible. I trust if I ask myself, What would feel good now? there will always be an answer.
While that answer may change day to day or from one week or month to the next, there will always be some kind of answer. Being flexible rather than rigid about what will boost your alignment is a great energy to actually finding and following your alignment.
All that is to say that I receive a daily quote in my inbox from Abraham. Perhaps you are signed up for those too.
Here’s the thing, even when it comes to Abraham, some days reading the quote is in alignment for me and some days it’s not. I don’t have to go to my inbox and read the quote. I’m not beholden to reading them every day. I certainly don’t beat myself up if I go for some period of time not looking at any of them.
My point is, these daily insights from Abraham are delivered to my inbox, and when it’s in alignment for me, I read and absorb them.
The wisdom I’m about to share is from one such quote. When it landed in my inbox, and it was in alignment to open and read and percolate, the wisdom resonated. The quote is about attention and about vibration and about the super important connection between the two.
Of course, the day I read this quote it was just what I needed to percolate on at that moment in my day and at that moment in my life experience. I suppose that’s why it was in alignment and why it resonated so deeply.
It brings to mind that expression about when the student is ready, the teacher appears. As the student, I was ready to pay more attention to where and what I was giving my attention, and so the teacher appeared with a little wisdom to guide me forward.
“Have you heard the expression, “We’re either growing or we’re dying.”? Well, what they’re saying is, “You can’t stand still.” We are either giving our attention to where we’re going or we’re giving attention to where we’ve been or we’re giving our attention to where we are, but in any case, wherever we’re giving our attention is our vibration, and the Universe is matching it.” —Abraham
Where you’re going is your future. Where you’ve been is your past. Where you are is your present.
You are always giving your attention in one of those directions. * You’re thinking about the upcoming trip in a few days to your in-laws. * You’re thinking about the meeting at work last week that didn’t go well. * You’re thinking about your kids bickering in the other room.
Future, past, present. Your attention is in one of these directions.
Now the important thing to remember is you can only create in your present moment. Because it’s only ever in this present moment that you are offering your vibration.
But here’s the thing: You can be focused on the past in this present moment. You can be focused on the future in this present moment. Which means the past and the future can be very much alive in the vibration you offer.
Now, this isn’t necessarily a negative. If you are remembering that trip you took to Paris and how romantic it was and the delicious food you enjoyed and the amazing experience of it all—well, then your attention to the past is creating a delightful vibration in your present moment.
But let’s imagine something a bit different.
Perhaps you are thinking about some aspect of your past and feeling intense regret and sadness. This means regret and sadness are the vibration you are offering in your present moment. Which means regret and sadness are the vibration to which Law of Attraction is responding.
Your attention to the past is happening now. Just as your attention to the future is happening now.
For instance, let’s say you’re thinking about an upcoming trip to visit the in-laws, and you are frustrated the trip is for an entire week instead of a shorter amount of time and irritated with yourself for not being in alignment about it. So you are paying attention to the future in such a way that your vibration today—at this moment—is one of frustration and irritation.
Let’s be clear: The Universe is always matching your vibration. This means you will be matched with circumstances and conditions, people and events, situations and things that are on the frequency of frustration and irritation. While you are thinking about the future, you are attracting in your present moment.
This takes us back to what the quote says: You can’t stand still.
Because your attention is always focused somewhere. And you are always creating and attracting based on what you are giving your attention to. Because Law of Attraction is always responding to your vibration.
And so, as we’ve just seen, your focus might be on your past, on your future, or on your present. Those are certainly ways that we all focus.
I find asking from a place of curiosity, Jennifer, are you paying attention to your past, present, or future? can be a useful lens to bring awareness to where I’m putting my attention. Asking this question using the lens of past, present, future can get me off autopilot and help me really notice what I’m paying attention to—and whether what I’m paying attention to serves me and the vibration I want to cultivate.
Of course, there are other lenses, if you will, to become aware of what you are giving your attention to.
- For instance, are you giving your attention to what you want or what you don’t want?
- Are you giving your attention to what you like or what you don’t like?
- Are you giving your attention to something that has you complaining or something that has you appreciating?
You are always giving your attention to something. And whatever that something is, you are feeling either positive emotion or negative emotion. * If you are feeling positive emotion, you are positively attracting. * If you feel negative emotion you are mis-creating and negatively attracting.
We’ve likely all had the experience of focusing on something that upsets us—whether it be something your spouse said, your kid did, or what happened at work. And what do we often do? We continue to focus on it, talk about it, pay attention to it.
We give our continuing attention to the thing that upsets us.
Complaining and rehashing are prime examples of this.
- When you complain about your boss, you are paying attention to things you don’t like.
- When you rehash what happened at the family get-together two years ago, you are paying attention to things you don’t appreciate.
In both cases, what you don’t like and don’t appreciate is what’s active in your vibration. Because your attention is, indeed, your vibration.
The day the Abraham quote landed in my inbox, I had one of those light bulb moments where I had such a clear knowing that I am the chooser of what I focus on. My attention is up to me and only me. While I already knew this, in that moment my knowledge crystalized into something more powerful and practical. I can only be a deliberate creator by being deliberate about what I give my attention to.
Likewise, you can only be a truly deliberate creator by taking care when it comes to what you pay attention to and what you don’t, what you choose to focus on and what you choose not to focus on.
Wherever you are giving your attention is your vibration, and the Universe is matching it.
I encourage you to bring greater awareness to where you are placing your attention, to what you are giving your attention to. Start noticing. * Are you giving your attention to something that feels good? * Or are you giving your attention to something that feels bad?
It’s can be empowering to notice whether you are giving your attention to your past, your future, or to your present. And then to notice whether whatever you’re giving your attention to—past, future, or present—feels good or bad to you.
Likewise, noticing whether you are paying attention to like and want versus don’t like and don’t want tells you everything you need to know about the vibration you offering.
Bringing awareness to what you’re doing with your attention and truly embracing that you always have a choice when it comes to your focus and attention is empowering.
You can be a more deliberate creator by being intentional about your attention. This means what you focus on and what you don’t, what you give your attention to and what you choose not to give your attention to.
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Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the super important relationship between what you pay attention to and your vibration.
This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…
- Why ‘What would feel good now?’ is a magical questions when it comes to alignment
- The well-timed wisdom in my inbox that has helped me pay more attention to what I give my attention
- What “You can’t stand still” has to do with your past, your present, and your future
- Why complaining and rehashing ensure your vibration is negatively attracting
- How noticing what you pay attention to is empowering and makes you a more deliberate creator
Quotable
“Have you heard the expression, “We’re either growing or we’re dying.”? Well, what they’re saying is, “You can’t stand still.” We are either giving our attention to where we’re going or we’re giving attention to where we’ve been or we’re giving our attention to where we are, but in any case, wherever we’re giving our attention is our vibration, and the Universe is matching it.” —Abraham
Resources
Get the transcript
The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham
Daily Quotes from Abraham
Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires
BONUS Episodes of Love Your Life + Law of Attraction
Manifest with Ease: Law of Attraction Simplified
thoughts: an LoA pattern
Law of Attraction Reading List
Buy Me a Coffee
Resources may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.
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