A Dose of Realness: Recent Episodes
Carolynne "Queenie" Alexander
The TRUTH about business and life that no-one wants to tell you. We are NOT messing about.
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WELCOME to the brand new DOSE OF REALNESS SHOW!
Yes, this is a bonus edition of the Museletter and it’s a Podcast/Show.
This is the BIGGEST reason why we moved to Substack and I’m so happy we did.
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Why Business Coaching is never about BusinessAka why I'm moving away from "Business Coaching".
(Also... Piano Man is outside Casa Miramar accompanying me this evening... same as last night.
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TRANSCRIPT
Good evening. How's it going? Oh, I would show my face because you might have missed it. Give you a little insight to what I've been up to lately. So I went dark on social media last week to clear and I headspace and allow me to not be distracted but also not be on the social media treadmill that seems to get business owners. Quite flabbergasted. I've been talking to a couple of my I was gonna say companions, but that's not the right word. Um, colleagues, colleagues, can I have a colleague if I'm an entrepreneur anyway? Ah, friends in the industry, shall we say? And they've they're basically sick of social media. as well so I took some time away to reassess what I'm doing myself what I'm doing with my business, etc. And oh, by the way, I'm coming to you from my brand new apartment, castle Miramar. I've called it customer, even though I can't see the See here, but I can, we can pretend it's like two seconds. Um, anyway, the reason why I'm putting this video together is to explain just to give you a little bit of background to why I am stopping doing business coaching. And the main reason is, is because over the years that I've been doing business coaching, it has been full tap false advertising on my part. But it's been more about coming around to the idea that I'm a bit tired of entrepreneurs saying that they want strategy and tactics. When really, can we just cut through all of that b**t and realize That actually it's all about mindset. course it's all about mindset. Um, people come to me when they're massively overwhelmed with their business. And it's normally because their, their prices are too low. They're taking on too many clients, they haven't got the systems in place, they haven't got a team blah, blah, blah. My ninja skill is strategy, especially operations. So I get them back on their feet and working again, which is fantastic. Um, but we after about four or five weeks of doing this, it all comes down to them having the confidence to decide what they want and go for it. Or for example, being ruthless with it's not about the best word. And maybe Rosa says the good word ruthless with their tasks, getting rid of things that they don't really need in the business being ruthless about their time and their energy and the people that they let into their space. about their boundaries. And business tends to be the place where your worst fears in the world are played out. So if you are afraid of being seen, you're in a business where you're going to be seen. That's difficult if you have confidence issues. You've got to have the confidence to have a business you will get found out. imposter syndrome. Another one any fear that you think you have is going to be amplified when you decide to show up for the for your business. I've got a whole bunch of friends who are entrepreneurs I'm very, very fortunate to see behind the scenes of what they do and how their minds work. Not only clients, clients are a different kettle of fish altogether because I have permission to call them out on their b**t whereas friends are very much. “I don't know, I'm fine. I'm fine. I'm fine, I'm fine.” And then it actually takes me to be like, Can I have your permission to call you out? You're not fine. Can we? Can we have a chat about it? Would that be okay? So, it's never unsolicited advice with me. It's always Can I have your permission to call you out and you watch it? Um, so that's the main reason why I've stopped doing business coaching because people that are looking for business coaching tend to be the ones that think that they need more marketing or they need more leads or more sales, but they don't. They just need a kick up the backside from somebody that can hold space for them. And that is probably my other ninja skill. Holding space for people that are absolutely st scared to admit. The one thing that they're incredibly frightened of one thing that they are incredibly ashamed of.
I'm extroverts who are secret introverts that put on a massive front and said that they're fine and they're doing all of the things but really they're dying inside. One of them that is coming up lately is do I actually have what it takes to take this to XML money? Only you get to decide that and only you get to decide if your mission is big enough. So again, it's about deciding that you are an entrepreneur, you have got a big enough mission that you will either go for or die and get in on with it. So that's, that's a quick six minute video for you. explaining why I'm no longer doing business coaching. I'm going straight for mindset and successful coaching, performance, whatever it is that I'm going to call it. But know this, but if you're an entrepreneur, you have a business if you're a founder, if you're a CEO, If you're a leader, your weaknesses will be exposed during your time owning and running a business. And welcome. Welcome to the real world. Welcome to leadership. I would love to help you out. So stay tuned for a few more videos in the next couple of weeks all about fear, shame, confidence or lack of it. imposter syndrome not knowing where to start and being completely overwhelmed, things like that the juicy stuff, so let's just be honest with each other because I'm gonna be honest with you. And let's bypass the whole idea of any more marketing. I need more tactics, I need more strategy. I need a team bla bla bla bla bla just get down to the heart of it. You need somebody in your corner that's going to help you with your mindset for your business. I'd love to help set you in to find out what happens next. I'm Carolynne Alexander and I'm the founder of the advancement. There you go. That's me being open and vulnerable, because they just go first. Ciao.
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We're all about eating right but wouldn't it be great if we applied those high standards to sleep too? Here's how. and you can start right now. Put that coffee down ;)
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TRANSCRIPT:
Good morning. I've had some sleep!
I've not slept probably for about a week now. And yeah, I actually got some sleep last night. So I'm very, very happy and I'm feeling madly energized. And I wanted to put this thought in your mind today about the quality of your sleep.
I read this on Twitter the other day and I can't remember who wrote it. So if anybody has any idea, I don't frickin know. The thing is, we put so much energy and emphasis on eating well and exercising well and drinking water. And the thing that we also probably need to put the most importance on is our sleep quality. We go out for lavish meals or we cook a good steak or we drink our three or four litres of water every day.
Sleep is one of the things that we just don't do that with. Imagine if we got fill it sit quality sleep every single night. Just imagine how amazing you would feel when you woke up in the morning like I do, right?
If that doesn't hit home with you think about this.
You've been on a long walk or a hike or you've been to the gym, and you're absolutely parched. Your body is screaming at you for water. You know, you've sweat, you've used your muscles and you're aching. And then all of a sudden, “Oh, you know what, I'm going to have a glass of water” and that glass of water is the best-tasting thing that you've had all day.
Why don't we do that with sleep?
Why aren’t I listening to my body and thinking, you know what? It's absolutely parched. It desperately needs something.
And that thing is nine times out of 10 it needs a good night's sleep or a nap.
That's the thing that I'm learning while I'm living in Spain and naps are good.
So that's my thought for you this morning.
Good sleep starts during the day. Not last thing at night.
Regulate your caffeine intake. I tend to do this and I haven't been lately. This is probably why I've not been sleeping well. I normally have two cups of coffee a day. I've already had one, which you can probably tell and I'll have another one while I'm going to co-working this morning. And then that'll be it. I will not have any caffeine after about one or two o'clock because, if not, is just going to keep me awake because caffeine I think has a half-life of like six, seven hours or something.
So that means that you still got half the amount of caffeine in your body six, seven hours after you've drunk it. No wonder we're not sleeping right.
Make sure that you drink water about an hour before you go to bed and then have a little toilet break. Because if not, you're going to wake up in the middle of the night which is what what we happening when I was doing 75 Hard.
Go to bed at a regular time. And it's so tempting to be like, quite fancy a couple of beers tonight to might just go out for one or two and then it spirals into an all-nighter.
That's when it starts getting into the habit of staying up late and getting up late or blah, blah, blah. So yeah, three things there for you.
Drink very little caffeine and then regulate it after about one two o'clock in the afternoon. Find out what works for you. As make sure you have a glass of water before bed but not too close about your wake up. Go to bed at a regular time and try and wake up at a regular time as well.
So those are my three things this morning to hopefully get your sleep pattern in order and I'm off to go co-working and kick some ass and take over the world get back in the arena as they say right?
Ciao!
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Leadership is easier then you think. An experiment on using Medium’s blog to voice app.
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A rough and ready Minicast from Málaga 💃🏻
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Overachieving and wanting to change the world is great but what happens when you’re not feeling it? Listen to find out the tiny ways you’re living your purpose.
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A four and a bit minute Dose of Realness on why copying the gurus won’t get you where YOU want to go.
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