Single Over 30: Recent Episodes
Shana Schutte
On the Single Over 30 podcast, dating and relationship coach, Shana Schutte, will show you how to overcome the internal and external obstacles that are keeping you from tying the knot. And, she'll give you practical strategies to help you attract a trustworthy marriage-minded man so you don't waste your time in dead-end, going nowhere relationships. Shana didn't marry until she was in her forties; she knows what it's like to stand in your single shoes. Be encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible.
In this special interview on the Single Over 30 podcast, I have a great conversation with one of my old roommates, Monica, who married in her thirties and met her husband in a way that will blow your mind! My conversation with Monica is a reminder that all things are possible.
We also talk about dating anxiety, breaking up, self-sabotage, "putting yourself out there" even when you don't feel like it, and not seeing yourself as unwanted but valuable while you are single.
I know you'll be delighted with this special interview with Monica!
The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible!
💗 💗 💗
Your coach,
Shana
To set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session to find out if one of my coaching programs is a good fit for you, just click here to set up a time on my calendar.
Before I married, I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Sure‚” I typed. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife.
In today’s podcast, I share what I learned about this guy and I also share 23 questions you can ask yourself to identify if you are in an toxic relationship or if you meet a man how to tell if he could be abusive.
Hey there, Single Lady!
First Date Dilemmas. They happen all the time. Maybe he asks you out after the first date but then you never hear from him again.
He asks you out, you go out and have a good time, but then seems like he just wants to text you. He doesn’t move the ball down the field and ask you out again.
You want him to ask you out after the first date, but aren’t sure how to let him know without coming across as chasing.
Ooooh! This is going to be a great episode because I’m going to share 9 First Date Dilemmas like those that I just mentioned and share what to do about them.
You're going to love it!
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Episode #104: 6 Ways to Tell if a Man is Breadcrumbing You
Episode #10: The Only Two Questions You Need to Answer About a First Date
Many women I coach struggle with deep grief that their love story hasn't worked out the way they desire when they enter their late thirties and early forties. Maybe you can relate. (I certainly felt a lot of grief in my forties.)
It's disappointing when you feel love should happen in your life in a certain way by a certain time and it doesn't happen that way at all. And not only can it be disappointing, but it can fill soul shattering.
You thought things would go this way, then you wake up one morning and realize that the years have come and gone and your deepest dreams and desires for romance haven't been fulfilled—and you doubt they will be fulfilled now.
You think, “Too much time has passed. My vision of my fairy tale life has flown away with the ticking of the clock.”
The dream romance you thought you would have when you were young is replaced by the painful reality that finding him feels much more complicated than you could have ever imagined.
If you can relate to any of what I just shared, I want to encourage you!
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I am going to share how grieving the loss of your ideal love life can help you find true love. It really can! I experienced this myself and I know it's possible.
Be encouraged, awesome single lady!
The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible!
Learn more about my special, signature Finding Mr. Right program.
💗 💗 💗
Your Coach,
Shana
SingleOver30.net
When I was dating and I met a man I really liked, I often experienced a lot of fear. There was something in me that would get triggered and I would become very anxious.
I was confident and happy in the rest of my life, but enter Mr. Charming and poof! My confidence vanished and I was replaced by a fearful woman I hardly recognized.
Maybe you can relate. What do you do if you're afraid to date, afraid to love, or even if when a guy just looks at you and smiles that you go into a spin of "What ifs"?
Good news! I'm here to help you today with encouragement and practical advice on this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast.
If you'd like to take the next step to get help with your dating and relationship life to help you attract that trustworthy, marriage-minded man, I'd love to help!
When you sign up for my most affordable coaching membership, you'll get my "Finding Mr. Right" program that is worth $1200 for free--and you can cancel at any time!
Check it out here!
Around the time I turned 35, I started wondering, "Why am I still single?" I had no idea what would have possibly prevented me from meeting my Mister Right. What I didn't know was that I had some unhealthy dating patterns that were holding me back from engaging in healthy relationships. It was only after I married and started coaching single women that I realized how my dating choices kept me from healthy love.
If you've ever wondered why you haven't met a special guy, you might be able to relate to some points in this episode.
But before you listen, please hear me: this episode is not to blame you or make you beat yourself up. Every single thing that I talk about that keeps women single in this episode is something you can change. You are not irretrievably broken. There is nothing "wrong" with you so that you can't have a relationship. But just like it is with everything else in life, we can learn new skills.
And, just like I met a great guy who loves and adores me, I am confident that you can meet a great man too!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Hi there, Single Lady!
This is a "must listen" episode because the majority of the women I have worked with or coached say that they have encountered Red Flag Men. In this episode, I help you recognize red flags.
Have you ever ended a relationship, and then looked back over your shoulder and thought, "How did I miss those red flags?" If so, then this episode is for you, and if that hasn't happened to you and you want to avoid this unpleasant situation, then this episode is also for you.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Hey there, Single Lady! This is a fun episode and I know you're going to love it.
In this episode, my husband and I talk about:
- The difference between chasing and inviting a man to pursue you
- Why it's okay to go up to a man and start a conversation with him
- Different levels of physical affection
- Why men need to pursue women and women need to be pursued and
- How to get a man to ask you out on a date
Ooooh. . .this one's good!
The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
P.S. To find out if one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, you can set up a 15-minute Discovery Session with me here. I'd love to talk about how I can help you find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Have you ever felt as if you were in love with a man but then it turned out not to be love at all, or maybe even a toxic relationship, a complete mismatch? But it felt so right at the beginning.
This brings up the question: Was it love or was it limerance?
What is limerance? That's what we're going to talk about on this episode.
What it is, how to recognize it, how to keep from making poor relationship choices because of it, and how to tell the difference between limerance and love.
If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one customized coaching, please visit singleover30.net, click the "coaching" link in the menu at the top of the page, then choose a time from my calendar for a free, 30-minute breakthrough session. I look forward to talking with you soon!
I've been married for almost 9 years now. How time has flown! My husband and I have a good marriage and we're still going strong, for which I am thankful.
Recently, though, there was a discussion in a singles group online about marriage and it got me thinking about the myths single women often believe about marriage—and how those myths can hold even the best woman back from getting a great relationship.
So today, I’m going to share 8 of the most common myths about marriage--including sexual compatibility in marriage, soul mates, and how things in a good marriage should be easy and that marriage is really difficult.
I know you'll be encouraged!
Your Coach,
Shana
Hey there Single Lady!
The women I coach want to date MEN, guys who have their lives together and have grown up, men who know what it means to care for, cherish, and protect a woman. If you can relate . . . if you want to find mature men to date but you feel like all you are attracting is men who haven't yet grown up, then this episode is for you.
I hope you are encouraged!
If you want to find out of if the Single Over 30 Relationship School is a good fit for you, just set up a 15-minute Discovery Call with me. I'd be delighted to talk with you and share more.
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I interview special guest, Frank Martin, co-author of The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person.
During this special interview, Frank gives some awesome info on how to tell if a man is really interested, how to invite a man to clarify how he feels about you and the relationship, if it's okay for a woman to ask the man how he feels about her, and how to continue the conversation during the dating process so you can intentionally move toward the wedding altar.
He also shares a really fun--and juicy--story about how he "stole" his wife from a man she was engaged to.
You're going to love this episode! Thanks for tuning in!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Rejection. It's something no one wants to experience but everybody does. Because we ALL experience it, we all need to know how to successfully handle it.
Handling rejection successfully can mean the difference between moving forward to experience a loving, fulfilling relationship or not experiencing one due to developing unhealthy dating patterns after rejection. (I've been there!)
This Single Over 30 episode is PACKED with great info that you will definitely be able to put into use in your life--either for yourself--or it can be used to encourage a friend.
Take a listen. You'll be glad you did.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
💗 💗 💗
Your coach,
Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net
There's all kinds of advice out there about how long you should wait to become exclusive or "make it official."
Some people say you should date through the seasons. Some people say you should date for at least six months. Other people say that you shouldn't wait, that if it feels right, then you should just date exclusively right away. Because, if it feels right, then why not just go for it?
In today's episode, I answer the question, how long you should actually wait until you "make it official" and only date one another.
I know you're going to love it! To find out if one of my one-on-one coaching programs is a good fit for you, head on over to singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. https://www.singleover30.net/
I'm rooting for you!
The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible!
He's nice and maybe he even treats you like a queen, but he doesn't check off everything that's on your list. What should you do? You don't want to lose a great guy but you don't want to settle either.
In this episode, I'm sharing insights from an article that I authored that's all about "the list" and what to do about it.
I hope you are encouraged!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Hi, Single Lady!
First dates can feel awkward and uncomfortable. You can feel as if you're carrying the conversation. You can feel as if he is carrying the conversation. You can feel as if it's an interview. What are some things you can do to make first dates feel less awkward--and perhaps even enjoyable?
That's what this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast is all about. And, when you listen, I share how you can get my free download, 25 Great Conversation Starters.
I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Hey there, single lady!
On the Single Over 30 podcast, I share about a variety of internal--and external--dating strategies to help you find--and attract--a trustworthy marriage-minded man.
But there is ONE THING that you need to do before you do anything else if you're serious about tying the knot. I talk about that one thing on today's episode. It will help you set your direction and weed out the men who won't be good to you--or for you. Check it out!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Shana
He seems super interested--and you love his attention! Who wouldn't? It's nice when a man treats you like a queen. Is it possible, however, that a man seems super interested and he seems like Mister Right but he's Mister Wrong?
This is the question I answer in today's episode. If you have ever gotten involved with a man who turned out to be Mr. Wrong, this episode is for you!
I hope you are encouraged!
Your coach,
Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net
One question I hear from single women all the time is, "How do I meet more men?" They also ask, "Where are all the men?" In this episode, I share practical tips to help you meet more men and improve your opportunities to meet your special, trustworthy, marriage-minded guy.
To register for my free, live class, "How to Meet More Men: The #1 Thing You Need to Know to Avoid Mr. Wrong and Attract Mr. Right" just click here.
Hi there, Single Lady!
On this podcast we’re all about attracting trustworthy marriage minded men, but today I'm covering a topic that can be a part of dating. I certainly hope it's not part of your story, but if it does happen to you, I’ve got you covered.
I'm sharing how to break up with a man and how to do it so that you don’t experience regret.
There are right ways and wrong ways to break up. The wrong way will leave you with regret, wondering if you did the right thing--and maybe wondering if you treated the man the right way.
The right way will help you know that you did everything that you could and that you conducted yourself in a way that was honorable. This right way leads to peace and learning healthy communication for future your future relationship.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Check out my new, free training on how to find a quality man online who shares your values using my 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling.)
Hey there, Single Lady!
Whether you're typically an extroverted woman who loves the excitement of going out and meeting new people (and even a blind date and online dating doesn't scare you!) or an introvert who’d rather do a movie night at home alone than face the possibility of another date--it's common for single women to need to take a break from dating every now and then.
But maybe you're not sure if you need to take a break. All you know is that you're not as interested in dating like you were before. Is it time to do a "dating detox" before you jump out there again?
In this episode I share 5 ways to tell that it's time for you to take a break from trying to meet your Mister.
I hope you are encouraged!
Remember that the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
P.S. To learn how you can meet a quality man who shares your values using my proven, 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling) visit https://www.singleover30.net/him
Hey there, Single Lady!
Have you noticed how confusing it can be to tell if a man is marriage-minded so you don't waste your time?
Perhaps you have experienced what I did as I entered my thirties and forties as a never-married single woman . . .
I discovered that age has nothing to do with marital readiness.
Sure, men in their thirties and forties are often more established. They may have great careers, friends who are married with kids, and they may even be showing signs of aging. They seem like they should be ready to tie the knot.
But a wise woman knows that in our culture of casual dating and hook ups, broken hearts and men who have been burned, you need to know more than that he wants you to date him exclusively. If you want to say "I do" and become a Mrs., you need to know that the men you date are marriage-minded.
How can you discover this? In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share how to tell if he's thinking about his future, or just thinking about how he can get you to go out with him again on Friday without any consideration of what's ahead.
I hope you are encouraged!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
P.S. To learn how you can meet a quality, marriage-minded man who shares your values using my proven, 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling) visit singleover30.net/4-step
Hey there, Single Lady!
When Lori started coaching with me, she hadn't ever married or even had much real-life dating experience. She was in her fifties and wanted to find a committed relationship that would lead to marriage.
Through coaching she discovered the internal obstacles that were holding her back from finding love and she also implemented a dating strategy that helped her meet a wonderful man online--and then she happily tied the knot. She said she hasn't ever had the level of emotional intimacy before that she has with her new man. (Just love it!)
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, Lori shares about her journey from singleness to marriage to encourage you!
Love is possible at any age!
Your coach,
Shana
P.S. To apply for a free coaching Breakthrough Session with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" link at the top of the page.
Hi there, Single Lady!
In this episode, I've got something super special for you: We're doing another "Best of" episode for 2022!
If you didn't hear this popular episode this year, awesome! I'm honored to be able to share with you for the first time. If you have already heard it, no worries! I invite you to take a list a second time. You never know what might speak to you this time around.
I think you'll be super encouraged!
Happy New Year!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your Coach,
Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net
P.S. To apply for a free, 15-minute Discovery Session to find out if the Single Over 30 Relationship School or one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, just click here to set up a time on my calendar that works best for you. (No obligation to sign up.)
Hey there, Single Lady!
I love it when a year wraps up and a new year is around the corner. I love it because it gives me an opportunity to look back and celebrate all the blessings I have received.
Some of the blessings I am celebrating as 2022 comes to a close are the top episodes of this year. I'm not celebrating them to toot my own horn, but I am celebrating them because the top episodes from this year show me which topics spoke to you most--and that helps me serve you better!
In this episode, and in next week's episode, I'm sharing the top episodes of the year.
I think you're going to love this! (If you haven't ever heard it, awesome. And if you have, take a listen a second time! You never know what might speak to you this time around.)
The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net
P.S. To find out if you're a good candidate for the Single Over 30 Relationship School, which includes one-on-one coaching, click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session with me to learn more.
Oh boy! This Single Over 30 episode is all about a topic that I have personally experienced myself--and that many women I coach experience.
You meet a man and you like him but there is that ONE THING that you just can’t see yourself compromising on.
Still, you might be thinking, “If he would just change that ONE THING, then things would be great. We could have a great future together.” Or, he has that one thing and you’re wondering if you should accept it or hope that he will change--or try to get him to change.
Today in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, my husband, Clark, and I address those things that you shouldn’t hold out for a man to change because in the long run you are just going to end up unhappy, and perhaps even in a toxic relationship.
And we also talk about how to tell if he can--or will--change change something that just isn’t working for you–and it won’t work for the relationship.
To find out if you're a good candidate for coaching, send me an email at help@singleover30.net.
Many women I coach wonder why some men aren't interested in committing to marriage. There can be a lot of reasons–and it’s important to understand these reasons so you can identify that trustworthy marriage minded man.
Some of the reasons a man won't commit are legitimate, and when you understand what these reasons are, it can help you identify if a man is ready to tie the knot and if he would be a good mate.
So in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share a bunch-o reasons why some men won't commit to marriage. I know you'll find it helpful.
To find out if you're a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. You can schedule a free Breakthrough Session with me to learn more.
Hey there, Single Lady!
Welcome, welcome to another episode of the Single Over 30 podcast!
When I was single, I had a pattern I repeated several times: I allowed men into my life who weren't emotionally safe.
Why would I do such a thing? Well, there are lots of reasons, such as I didn't want to be judgmental, I didn't trust myself to make a good choice (because of a broken past relationship), and because I didn't know how to recognize a safe date.
If I did know how, I would have been more equipped to date well and avoid unproductive dating that wasn’t getting me anywhere close to the wedding altar. Plus that would have saved me tons of heartbreak.
Maybe you can relate. Be encouraged!
You don't have to shut down your heart out of self-protection or decide you'll never love again because you fear choosing the wrong mate. Instead, you can become equipped to choose well, and when you become equipped, you'll feel more empowered to make a good decision.
And that’s what we’re going to talk about on today’s episode when I give you 5 truths to help you recognize a safe date (and avoid Mr. Wrong). That’s the guy who will just break your heart and won’t be good to you or for you.
To learn if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, just click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session. I look forward to connecting soon!
You've just met a guy, and you're on your first or second date and you think maybe he could be someone special. He seems like he has a lot of the qualities that you are looking for, but during your date he does something that turns you off—and maybe even makes you a little afraid . . . he mentions his ex.
And maybe he doesn't just mention her, but he says some unpleasant things about her. Is this a red flag? I’m going to answer that question in this episode and give you some tips on what to do during your “he’s talking about her” date.
This episode is an extension of Episode 105: 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available.
In episode 105, I talked about how to tell if a man is emotionally available because that’s what many women want. And in this episode, we're going to talk about how to invite a man to become more emotionally available to you. My husband joins me to give us a little guidance. What a sport to join us again, right?
When I ask women, “What is the top trait that you want in a man?” many of them say they want a man who is emotionally available.
Maybe, like me, you’ve wondered, “What does that even mean?” Great question!
Emotional availability happens on a couple levels:
It happens on the readiness level, meaning he is available and ready--to give his heart away and commit to a specific woman. That’s one type of emotional availability.
The second type of emotional availability happens on the communication level meaning that he has the ability to share his feelings and emotions with you. Not that he would be like your best girlfriend, able to talk for hours about his feelings as MOST men are not wired this way, but that he can—when needed—connect with his feelings and when he feels safe, share his feelings with you.
Desiring a man who is emotionally available on both the readiness and communication levels is a good thing—as it’s important for the health of a long-term committed relationship.
Two people who cannot connect emotionally is just a relationship between two strangers, and that just isn’t any fun. Being able to connect emotionally is what makes a relationship juicy and life-giving, as we were all created to be seen.
So, good news! If you’re like many of the women I coach who are looking for an emotionally available man, this episode brings a whole lot of clarity to the issue of a man being emotionally available by sharing 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available.
There are many modern dating and relationship terms floating around out there: fleabagging, catch and release, cushioning, gaslighting, and benching, just to name a few.
Today, we’re going to focus on one that is a common dating behavior: breadcrumbing.
If you wonder if you’re being breadcrumbed, if you’re curious if breadcrumbing has ever happened to you or if you wonder how to recognize it, this is one of those empowering episodes that will help you learn how to attract a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and will help you weed out the men who are truly interested in you from the men who aren’t.
Today I’m going to share 6 signs that will help you tell when a man is breadcrumbing you.
This episode is one of those empowering ones.
In the recent months, I have worked with women to help them spot an online dating scam—or what some people call a “romance scam.”
According to the FTC, a romance scam, is “when a person gets tricked into believing they’re in a romantic relationship with someone they met online.”
In fact, their other half is a cybercriminal using a fake identity to gain enough of their victim’s trust to ask — or blackmail — them for money.
Sounds completely yucky, right? Who wants to put themselves in a position to even be scammed?
The good news is that no one and I mean no one has to be scammed when they are informed, and they know what to look for.
You can completely avoid these men online. The women I have coached who have met men online for serious relationships have done that very thing and no one has been duped.
In today’s episode, I’m going to tell you what to look for so that you can feel empowered and confident so you don’t have to be afraid of being scammed.
You meet a man online and you connect. The next thing you know, the conversation dies and he disappears.
Why does it always seem that you have a hard time keeping the conversation going? Why do men disappear and what can you do about it?
I’m going to answer those questions in today's episode.
. . .
If you'd like to learn more about my proven, 4-step strategy that I have used to help my clients attract quality men online who share their values (in 6 months or less without settling), just send me an email at help@singleover30.net and let me know you'd like more info. I'll set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Call with you to see if we both feel this strategy is a good fit for you.
Thanks for listening!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your Coach,
Shana
What do you do or say to a man when he says he just wants to hang out? Maybe you’ve been seeing one another exclusively, or you have been dating casually. Regardless, he says he’s not interested, but he wants to be your bud. What should you say to him?
I answer that question in today’s episode.
To find out if you are a good fit for one-on-one coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on the "coaching" link at the top of the page. I hope to talk to you soon!
I'm rooting for you!
Your coach,
Shana
The third date. Ahhh. . .this is when you might start to feel nervous because you have gone out with him once, twice, and now you’re starting to feel pressure. This is the third date! Maybe you feel as if you need to decide what “this is," where it’s going and how you feel.
In today’s Single Over 30 episode, I share what you should know by the end of the third date (whether it’s virtual or in-person) and I share what you don’t need to concern yourself with by the end of the third date.
Today’s episode will definitely take the pressure off as you get to know a man, I promise.
In this special episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I invited my husband to join me. He knows most things about me, but there are some things that he doesn't know about me, such as how my single life was before I married him when I was 46.
So in this episode, Clark and do "Fast 5" where he asks me 5 questions to help you learn how to attract a trustworthy marriage-minded man and avoid the mistakes I made when I was single that kept me stuck.
I hope you are encouraged!
Remember that the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible.
To find out if you are a good candidate for my Single Over 30 Relationship School or for 1x1 coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on "coaching" on the top menu.
If you sometimes feel as if men are difficult to understand, then this episode is definitely for you. Today, my husband, Clark, joins me to pull back the curtain about 9 myths about men.
Here are some of the myths that Clark is ready to clear up for you on today’s episode. Check it out!
1) Men don’t have body image issues like women.
2) Men don’t feel as deeply as women. Or, men aren’t emotional.
3) All men just care about sex.
4) Most men are commitment phobes.
5) Guys don't tell their friends everything.
6) Men don't like women to earn more than them.
7) Men are intimidated by women.
8) Men are turned off by paying for a first date.
9) Men don’t want to plan the first date.
To get your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" link on the top of the page.
Maybe you have said to yourself or to your friends, “I always overthink.” I hear this from women all the time and I have totally been there! And, without a doubt, overthinking can be difficult and emotionally painful.
The good news is that you really can do something about overthinking. You don’t have to feel as if you are held captive by your thoughts.
If you can relate, and if you find yourself going into a “mental spin” when it comes to dating and relationships, then today’s Single Over 30 episode is definitely for you because I’m going to share 14 ways to stop overthinking.
I know you’ll be encouraged!
Dating with children no matter their ages can be challenging, whether you have kids or a man you’re interested in has them, the decision to date after divorce or after the death of a spouse is definitely new and unfamiliar territory.
If you’re considering dating with kids, I want to address some common concerns and give you 13 practical tips that you can implement right away. These tips which are based on my personal experience of dating—and marrying—a man with five (yes, 5!) kids, and also based on what I have learned from experts who know all about blended families.
I hope you are encouraged!
To find out how you can work with me one-on-one, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. I look forward to talking with you.
Maybe you’re familiar with the old Neil Sedaka song from 1966 called “Breakin’ Up is Hard to Do.”
If you have ever gone through a breakup, you know Mr. Sedaka’s words are true. Breaking up is anything but easy. It’s not easy if you’re the one who did the breaking up, or if you were broken up with.
Even though breaking up isn’t easy, it can work for good—and for betterment of your future relationship—when you take time to reflect on what happened.
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share 16 questions to ask yourself after a breakup so that it grows you and makes you better, rather than robs from your future relationships.
Online dating can be frustrating at times. It can make you want to swear off online dating forever. Today, I want to give you some hope and encouragement by sharing 6 online dating mistakes that women make that prevent them from meeting a great guy online.
You want to avoid these errors so you don’t get discouraged and sabotage your online efforts.
I hope you’re encouraged!
You go out with a guy to dinner or for coffee. It comes time to pay and you’re conflicted. Should he pay, or should you?
And, what if you go out with him several times? Who pays then?
In today’s episode, my husband, Clark, joins me to demystify the question, “Who should pay for the first, second, or third date?”
And, we’ll talk about which one of us likes to eat kale. Exciting stuff! 8-)
Picture this: You’ve been connecting with a guy over text and things are going well and you’re hoping he’s going to move it to the next level by asking for a phone call, a date, or a video chat. But then. . . the whole thing just fizzles out.
In this episode, I am going to give you an awesome strategy that you can put into practice so that your conversations don’t just fall flat so you actually get the date.
Ah dating! It can feel so discouraging at times, right? You want a relationship but it isn’t happening the way you want or when you want and maybe there are even times it feels like it may never happen.
This can lead to a whole lot of discouragement.
And, I get it because I didn’t marry until my late 40s even though I wanted to marry much sooner.
Keeping the right attitude and mindset can help battle discouragement.
So, on today’s episode, I’m going to give you 4 Mindset Shifts (or perspectives) you can adopt to stay hopeful and positive while you’re putting yourself out there.
These are 4 Mindset Shifts to Overcome Dating Discouragement.
And, since we’re talking about staying hopeful, I’ve got something special for you to encourage you.
I’ve created 7 printable affirmations for you—one a day for 7 days that you can download and print out in color if you like and place somewhere to encourage yourself to remind yourself how awesome you are. Because you are! To get these printable affirmations, just head on over to singleover30.net/printable.
I often talk with women who say they're interested in a relationship, but they are afraid. They're afraid that they don't have what it takes to make a relationship work. They’re afraid they’re not ready to date . . . and they wonder if they can have a happy, healthy relationship.
If this describes you, you’re in the right place, friend, because today I am going to share questions you can ask yourself to identify your readiness to date.
I also have a freebie I want to share with you, it’s the “Ready to Date Checklist” and it contains 30 questions to help you ask yourself if you're ready to date. And it will give you a lot of food for thought about your motivations for dating to identify what you want in your dating life going forward.
To get that freebie, head on over to singleover30.net/checklist.
What do you do if you can’t ever seem feel emotionally safe and confident in dating relationships or even when you are just getting to know men or a particular man?
What do you do if you are often emotionally triggered and as a result you just shut down, quiet down, and pull away from men who might even be good guys?
How can you feel more emotionally safe, confident—and even loved in a special relationship or while dating?
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I answer these questions.
Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
I often speak with many wonderful single women who tell me they don't want to waste time in their dating life.
If you can relate, I get it.
After all, you're ready for a serious relationship that leads to commitment so you don't want to waste time with men and in relationships that aren't going to go anywhere. That totally makes sense.
However, I have an important questions for you. . .
Is it possible to waste time if you are adamant about not wasting time? In this episode, I share how this can absolutely happen--and it happens all the time with the women I coach, and how it happened to me too.
This is a definite listen if you want to purposeful in your dating and relationship life and you want to improve your opportunities to find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
In this episode, I share my story about my biggest romantic heartbreak, not to discourage you or make you feel sad, but to empower you and share why it's important to get over--and move past--the past.
My story reveals that there is no doubt the past can have power over the present, but only if we let it. Moving past the past can help pave the way for a happy, healthy relationship but not healing can get you all kinds of stuck. I've been there.
If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching with me and also receive a free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session, just visit this page, fill out a short form and then set up a time on my calendar to talk with me.
Women often tell me that they can't find anyone that they are attracted to, and that they can't find any men anywhere that they would be interested in dating.
In today's episode, I'm sharing one major reason that singles often don't meet one another and don't find anyone that they are attracted to. (This is something I did in my own life, so I get it.)
I hope you are encouraged!
If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for 1x1 coaching with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching tab on the top of the page.
Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I keep attracting men who won't be good to me or for me?" or "Why are Red Flag men drawn to me?"
If you answered yes, then this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast is for you! In it, I share 8 perspectives that can make even the best woman allow toxic, emotionally unavailable, or emotionally unhealthy men into her life.
This is a great episode because it's designed to help you see any dating blind spots that you might have.
I hope you are encouraged!
To set up your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session, visit singleover30.net and click on "Coaching" on the top menu. During your free session, I'll help you overcome your biggest dating and relationship obstacle at no charge.
I'm rooting for you!
Your coach,
Shana Schutte
One of the challenging things about dating and meeting men, is that it can be difficult at times to tell who is sincere about having a relationship with you and who isn't. And, it can be challenging to know which men are safe or unsafe, especially at the beginning of a relationship when you're just getting to know a man.
In today's episode, I share about one type of man who seems like he's Mister Right, but who could be Mister Wrong. And, I give you tools to decide if you should keep him around or cut him loose.
As you listen, remember that you are worthy of love, that you are worthy of being cherished--and that the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
If you'd like to find out if you're a good fit for one-on-one coaching with me, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com. If you'd like more free dating and relationship advice, visit singleover30.net. I look forward to helping you more on your dating and relationship journey!
I'm rooting for you!
Shana Schutte
Manipulation. . .it's not a pretty word. No one wants to be manipulated but there are times when we may not see that we're being manipulated in a romantic relationship because things get kind of confusing when you're interested in a man, right?
In this episode, I share 7 ways to tell if a man is manipulating you. Even if you're not in a relationship now, you definitely want to put the truths in this episode in your "dating toolbox" so that you can be more empowered when you meet men or get into a relationship with a man.
This isn't about bashing men; it's about being empowered so that you can recognize the men who won't be good to you or for you so you're ready for a man who will love and adore you.
Be encouraged! The dream you have to love and be loved is possible!
I'm rooting for you!
Shana
You're getting "out there" and you meet men who have been divorced. Maybe you even meet a man or two who are divorced, but they haven't been divorced long. How long should a man wait before dating so that you can feel confident about his readiness?
In this episode, my husband, Clark, and I answer the question, "How Long Should a Man Wait After Divorce to Date?"
I hope you are encouraged. To find out if one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" tab at the top of the page to set up a free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Shana
Hey there, Single Lady!
In the last two episodes, I’ve been sharing about attachment styles. Last week I discussed how to successfully date with an Anxious attachment style. This week, I’m talking about how to successfully date with an Avoidant attachment style.
If you are pretty sure you don’t have an Avoidant attachment style, this episode is still for you. Maybe you will meet a man who has this style and you will want to know how he operates in a romantic relationship.
And, if you do have the style, this episode will be especially helpful.
I hope you are encouraged!
To find out if you are a good candidate to work with me for one-on-one coaching, head on over to Shanaschutte.com and set up a free, no-obligation, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me.
I look forward to talking with you soon!
Dating when you feel anxious can feel very painful and difficult. You may feel confident and easy-going in other areas of life, but when it comes to dating you may panic.
If you struggle with an anxious attachment style, in this episode, I share practical strategies you can put into place to help you deal with your anxious attachment style. You can feel more confident! I hope you are encouraged!
To learn more about how you can coach one-on-one with me to help you find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com.
Have you ever been in a relationship or been interested in a man and you feel like you aren't yourself? Maybe you feel completely confident in every other area of your life but when it comes to love, you feel panicky.
Or, maybe you are excited about a relationship, but when things start to get more serious, that you pull away. Maybe you're uncomfortable with words or actions of affection.
It could be that your attachment style is playing into your love life more than you realize. In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share an overview of attachment styles so that you can understand more about why you are doing what you do when it comes to love.
If you'd like to talk with me about working one-on-one with you in a transformative coaching relationship, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com. And, to get more free, dating and relationship advice, visit singleover30.net.
It can be tough when you're interested in a man but you don't know where you stand.
Is he interested in being just friends?
Because he has pulled away a little, does he want to call it quits?
If he is calling you and asking you out but not telling you how he feels, what does it mean? Is he interested in just hanging out and being friends, or something more?
In today's episode, I help you solve these dating dilemmas by giving you 4 times that you need to have a Define the Relationship (DTR) Conversation so that you don't get stuck in an unproductive relationship that's not going to result in commitment. I hope you are encouraged!
If you're interested in learning more about how I can work with you and coach you one-on-one, head on over to shanaschuttecoaching.com.
Every woman I have ever coached has had questions about men. And why wouldn't this be true? Men can often seem difficult to understand. (Ever heard of that book, "Men Are From Mars. Women Are From Venus?")
Good news! In this episode, my husband and I demystify men and answer the top 4 questions I receive about the opposite sex. These answers about how guys will help you navigate the dating process with greater clarity and give you more confidence, too!
Enjoy! If you'd like to learn more about the Single Over 30 Relationship School, or how to apply to coach with me one-on-one, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com.
If you want to find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and get married, you may also have some opposing fears that push against your desire to tie the knot. Maybe you're afraid of choosing the wrong guy; maybe you're afraid of being smothered, losing your independence, or that marriage will just be too hard or difficult. If you "get" these commitment fears, then this episode is definitely for you. And, (yay!) my husband, Clark, joins me for this episode to give some wise nuggets from the man's perspective.
If you'd like to learn more about coaching with me, visit https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ It would be my honor to talk with you.
If you want to move past the pain of your relational past and you want to find a great relationship, then this Single Over 30 episode is for you. In it, I share 4 perspectives that can keep you stuck in the muck of your past and prevent you from moving forward. I also share a little of my own story about how I got stuck in the regret of a lost relationship.
I hope you are encouraged. To find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, just click here. I hope to talk to you soon!
In this special episode, I have a conversation with Annie, one of my coaching clients. She shares her journey of how she beat dating anxiety to meet a great, marriage-minded man online.
Hey there, Single Lady!
On today's episode I share an inspiring story from Annie, one of my one-on-one coaching clients. In this story, I reveal how Annie invited a man she was interested in to "take their relationship to the next level" -- and (best of all!) how his response revealed his level of intention and his interest.
If you aren't sure how to invite a man to move your relationship forward then this episode is for you.
Check it out!
To learn how you can work with me for one-on-one coaching like Annie did, visit https://shanaschuttecoaching.com/
Your Coach,
Shana
Are you tired of meeting men but then the relationship stalls, moves too quickly, guys ghost you, or you become disappointed because men aren't who you thought they were? If so, then today’s Single Over 30 episode is for you. In it, I’m going to help you avoid non-productive patterns so that you can find your Mister by explaining 5 important dating and relationship stages that you don’t want to skip over.
I'm rooting for you! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
What should you do if you feel really insecure in a relationship and you feel that you aren't worthy of a particular man, or maybe even just men in general? In today's episode, I share some guidelines about how to verbalize--and not verbalize--your insecurities. I hope you are encouraged! You deserve to be loved and loved well.
On today's Single Over 30 podcast, I'm sharing about the mistakes I made when I was single that kept me stuck in some unproductive dating patterns and 4 things you can do so you don't exceed the relational speed limit. I also talk about relationship stages and how understanding them can help you find a great guy who is interested in commitment.
On today's Single Over 30 podcast, I'm sharing super practical tips you can use while online dating to be more successful and improve your opportunities to find that trustworthy, marriage-minded man. Plus, I share about how you can register for my free, 5-day Online Dating Challenge that starts tonight, Feb. 22!
Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? You meet a man. He smiles at you. You stammer and stutter, look down and feel like you’re in junior high. A man shows interest, but you think he wouldn’t ever be interested in you, so you don’t give him a chance. You meet a man, you're not really interested, but you date him any way because dating someone who is truly interested feels scary.
If you have ever felt like you’re not enough, then this episode is for you. In it, I share practical tips you can put into practice today to start to feel more confident around men.
For more information on getting one-on-one coaching with me, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com
Having a special guest is always fun--and today's episode is especially fun because my husband is joining me to share his side of the story about how we met, and I share mine.
And, we share lessons we learned about dating and having a solid relationship during our relationship journey.
I hope you are encouraged!
For one-on-one coaching, visit ShanaSchutteCoaching.com
This special episode is for men. Okay guys. . .if you wonder how to pursue a woman with intention and how you can let her know that you'd like to get to know her with the possibility of more than just a friendship (without coming off as creepy or pushy), then this episode is for you.
I give specific words you can use to lead a woman in relationship with confidence.
Enjoy!
On today’s episode, I’m sharing a bunch-o reasons why men ghost women online. If you’ve ever experienced ghosting or you’re afraid it’s going to happen to you, then today is for you because it will help you understand that ghosting is not about you, so you don’t take it to heart.
Be encouraged! You are worth of being loved.
To learn more about how we can work together one-on-one and I can personally coach you, head on over to ShanaSchutteCoaching.com.
When you hear the word “ghosting,” does it make you want to vow to never online date again? I have five tips to share today in the first part of a two-part series that I'm calling “The Smart Woman's Guide to Ghosting.”
Today, I want to share how to get the right mindset about ghosting so you can think about it in liberating ways. Then, if it does happen to you, you won’t get discouraged. Here’s to more courage!
For free personal matchmaking, coaching, and more, visit Morethanmatching.com
Understanding men may seem complicated, but it isn’t impossible to understand men and their needs. On today’s show, my husband, Clark, joins me to share 3 things women need to know about men.
You don’t want to miss this one. You’ll get some practical tips to avoid some major mistakes that can discourage a man from pursuing you.
For a comphrensive service to help you find a committed relationship, check out Morethanmatching.com and for 1 on 1 coaching, head on over to Shanaschuttecoaching.com
Before I married, I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Sure‚” I typed. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife.
In today’s podcast, I share what I learned about this guy and I also share 23 questions you can ask yourself to identify if you are in an abusive relationship or if you meet a man how to tell if he could be abusive.
Also, be sure to check out More Than Matching, my program to help you find a special, committed relationship.
Do you ever feel stuck, like you can’t seem to get the love you want, can’t get past your internal fears, or can’t seem to find any good men anywhere--and you want the new year to be different for you?
In today’s episode, I am sharing a short little phrase with you that you can adopt that will literally change your entire perspective about what’s possible in your love life. And (good news!) it will also give you hope for the future.
Visit morethanmatching.com for my comprehensive program to help you find a special, committed relationship.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
What are the reasons that women rush into relationships? In today’s podcast, I share several reasons that women go too fast.
If you find yourself rushing in and then later regretting it, today is a reminder to slow down, friend. You—and your love life are worth it.
Remember to check out morethanmatching.com for my affordable, comprehensive service to help you find a special, committed relationship.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
You meet a man. You’re excited about him. He seems excited about you, or you’re hoping that he is. Then, he drops a bomb on you: “I have commitment issues.”
What does he mean by this and how should you respond?
That’s what today’s Single Over 30 podcast episode is all about.
Head on over to MoreThanMatching.com to find out more about myaffordable, comprehensive service to help you find a special, committed relationship.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
We've all heard a lot about boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. In today's episode I give you ideas on how to know when to set your boundaries and how to identify your boundaries, perhaps using some new perspectives that you've never considered.
If you haven't checked out More Than Matching yet, take a look at morethanmatching.com.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Shana
Dealing with rejection in a relationship can be difficult.
If you struggle with dealing with romantic rejection, today’s episode is for you. I’ll give you a few tips to help you move past rejection so that you can open your heart up to love again.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Just about every single I know struggles with some kind of regret. Maybe they regret giving up a particular special person; maybe they regret not dating a particular someone. Maybe they regret wasting years in non-productive dating patterns.
Even if your love story hasn’t turned out the way you want, and even if it doesn’t turn out the way that you always dreamed, I want to encourage you today that your story can still be really beautiful. You can get past regret.
Also, don't forget to check More Than Matching at morethanmatching.com
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
First conversations with a man can feel awkward, especially if you’re worried about what to say, or if the conversation is going to stall.
In today’s episode, I am going to share 4 tips with you that you can put into practice to feel more comfortable when you’re talking with men.
Also, don't forget to check out my new matchmaking program, More than Matching at www.MoreThanMatching.com
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
When I was single, I had a bad habit of staying in relationships that weren’t going anywhere. I call these dead-end relationships that will never end up at the altar, or cul-de-sac relationships that will just take you in circles.
I dated men I should have broken up with long before the relationship ended or shouldn’t have ever dated them in the first place.
If you can relate to what I just shared, or if you’re in a relationship and you’re wondering if you should stay or go, then you definitely want to check out today’s Single Over 30 podcast episode.
Remember that the dream you have to love—and be loved—is possible! I’m rooting for you!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Some time ago, I sent out an email and asked the women in my Single Over 30 community to share their greatest fears with me. I received many answers such as:
I fear never being loved for who I really am.
I fear being alone in my old age.
I fear I will never find anyone.
But the #1 fear was the fear of making a poor choice in a man. If you can relate, then this episode is for you.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Sign Up for my free class, "What Men Want in a Woman-What Women Want in a Man."
When you attend live, I'll share how you can get free matchmaking worth $5,000 and you'll also receive a free guide on 50 things you shouldn't say to the opposite sex.
Sign up here: www.singleover30.net/want
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Single women often tell me they’re frustrated and ask, “Why do I keep attracting the same type of guy?” or "Why do I keep falling in love with the wrong kind of men?" I answer that question right here in the Single Over 30 episode.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Remember, the dream you have to love and be loved is possible!
I'm rooting for you!
Shana
There is an addiction that men everywhere struggle with in our society. This addiction can destroy emotional and physical connection in marriage.
What should you do if you run across a man with this addiction? Should you support him or drop him? I answer that question in today’s Single Over 30 episode.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Registration is Open for my new class, What Men Want in a Woman - What Women Want in a Man. Visit singleover30.net/want to sign up! Registration closes soon!
Picture this: You meet a man. He’s awesome and seems like the perfect match—until he doesn’t. Things are going great in the relationship—until they’re not. What do you do when he seemed like an awesome guy but he seems like he changed into someone who is toxic and unhealthy? Do you hold out hoping he’ll change back into the man you wanted? Or do you do something different? That’s what this podcast episode is all about.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Have you ever met a man who seems very interested? Maybe he comes on strong and you’re excited that he’s interested. But then, out of the blue he pulls away, disappears, ignores you, or breaks up—and you are completely bewildered and heartbroken.
Why does this happen? In today’s Single Over 30 episode, I’m going to share one big reason why and what you can do about it.
Check out my Free Download, How Fast is Too Fast? www.singleover30.net/fast
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
If you start to get nervous when a relationship starts to get serious, when you’re just getting to know a guy, or at any point in the relationship, then this episode is for you. I’m going to share 4 tips to help you deal with dating anxiety.
Remember to check out my Free Safe to Love Worksheet at Singleover30.net
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
You’ve broken up with a man you’ve been seeing. Should you use the No Contact Rule with him? In this episode, I share what this rule is and also some very important questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide if you should use it with your ex or not.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Today’s Single Over 30 episode is for you if you want to avoid being miserable in a committed dating or marriage relationship, you want to improve your opportunities for your relationship to go the distance, and you want to make sure that you are happy and have more passion with your Mister.
Today, I’m going to share the #1 most important factor, according to research, that will get you all of these things.
And, good news! This #1 factor is something you can get in a relationship because it’s something that is completely in your control. It has to do with the kind of man that you choose. This is gonna be good.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
In today’s Single Over 30 episode, I’m going to share 3 things you shouldn’t say to a man, especially at the beginning of the relationship.
When women say these three things, they are often well-meaning, but relationships can be fragile, especially at the beginning, because two people don’t know one another well and there hasn’t been trust developed. A man doesn’t know your character, just like you don’t know his.
So, especially at the beginning of our relationship, you want to make sure that you don't say these things to a man, lest you sabotage a good relationship without realizing it.Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Hey there Single Lady!
I work with many women who feel their desires are denied, so they feel as if they won’t ever get what they want. I get it. It can be difficult to hold onto hope as you age. That said, there are a few important things to consider before calling it quits in a relationship. In this Episode of Single Over 30, I share one secret that can help you get the love you want!
Remember, the dream you have to love --and be loved--is possible!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Hey, there single lady! As an older single, I remember feeling at times as if all the good men were taken.
This week, I received another message from a woman who asked, where are the guys who are committed to honoring a woman, being a provider, and who believe in chivalry? Instead, all I seem to attract are men who are needy, weak men who don’t have their lives together and who are always leaning on others. There aren’t any strong men anywhere.
So, what do you do when you feel as if all you’re attracting are guys who aren’t the kind of men you’d like to marry, the men who are needy and for a lack of better terms, don’t seem like they have grown up?
In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I want to give you several tips if you can relate.
My husband, Clark and I also made a new video for you. It’s called, “4 Ways to Talk to Men to Get the Relationship You Want.” In it, we share 4 different common scenarios in which the words you use can help you become more attractive to men without losing your self-respect.
To watch this special video visit singleover30.net/talk.
Hey there Single Lady! One of the things that has come up with the onset of online dating is long distance dating. Many singles ask the question, “Should I long distance date or not?” and they have some concerns about it. So if you’re wondering, “Is this something I should do, or not?” I want to give you 4 tips that will help you decide if you should long distance date—or not—and a bonus tip.
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In this special episode of Single Over 30 my husband, Clark, joins me to talk about the best way to draw a man to you and one way that will push him away. Women push men away in this way all the time without even realizing it. You can avoid it, and become more attractive to men.
To learn more about how to become more attractive to men by how you talk to men, check out my new video "4 Ways to Talk to Men (to get the relationship you want)" by visiting singleover30.net/talk.
First dates can be nerve wracking, especially if you’re shy, if you have had some relationships that ended poorly, if you feel like you don’t know how to date (you’re just getting out there after a long dating sabbatical) or if you’re anxious about a date working out.
First dates can also be frustrating if they go poorly. After all, you’d really like to meet a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
In today’s episode, I am going to give you 5 positive actions you can take that will help when you're anxious about first dates, or if a first date goes badly so that dating doesn’t make you want to run the other direction.
Download my Safe to Love Worksheet, which includes 12 Questions to help you open your heart to a marriage-minded man, by visiting SingleOver30.net
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Dating and relationships can be fun—and sometimes confusing. Perhaps you’ve talked with a man a few times or gone out with him a few times and he isn’t meeting your needs. Maybe he’s not doing or saying something that you want him to.
How do you handle this? Should you mention it to him, or cut him loose?
I will answer that question today.
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I used to think a woman was attracted to a certain type of guy because she has particular preferences. She just happens to like someone tall, someone short, someone dark, someone blonde, someone thin, or someone husky.
But I never considered that the attractions we have—or the types of men a woman is attracted to—can say something deeper about what she feels she needs.
The type you’re attracted to can say something pretty significant about you. You’re going to find out what today and why it matters in a pretty big way in relation to the success of your dating and relationship life.
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Knowing when to become exclusive with a guy can be so confusing.
Some people will say that you should date for several months before becoming exclusive, or for six months. There are all types of time frames that you may have heard about how long you should know a man before becoming exclusive.
Other people say that they are exclusive from the beginning because they are loyal and how can you get to know someone if you aren’t exclusive from the beginning?
Others say that it doesn’t matter how long you know one another before you exclusively date if you just feel that it’s right, if the chemistry is good.
The correct answer isn’t any of these things. I share the answer on today's podcast.
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Attraction can be so confusing. How much should you be attracted? How long should you wait to feel attracted? Should you immediately be attracted? In today's episode, I share an email that I received from a woman who was grappling with all of the above--and I provide several practical tips to help you answer these questions so you can date with greater clarity.
Head on over to SingleOver30.net to get more free dating and relationship advice.
Sometimes women struggle with the fear of making a poor relationship choice. If you find yourself worrying that you're going to choose the wrong man, if you find yourself saying that your "picker is broken" or if the thought of committing makes you feel anxious because you don't trust yourself to make a good choice, then this episode is for you!
Check out SingleOver30.net for your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
If you want to find your Mister, this episode is for you! In it, I share the #1 Mindset to adopt to improve your opportunities to find the love you desire.
I also share a wonderful love story about a couple that committed to this mindset and now they are happily married!
For more free, dating and relationship advice, please visit singleover30.net.
In today's episode, I share one type of "relationship" that you should definitely avoid if you don't want to stall your efforts to meet a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and waste time.
Remember, the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Sometimes women wonder why men won’t commit. Sometimes it’s not because he’s scared. It’s not that he is afraid of making a mistake and getting divorced. It’s not that he’s afraid of rejection. Sometimes, it's for an entirely different reason that women don't think about.
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As you get older, dating can sometimes feel disappointing and/or overwhelming. In this episode, I share tips that can help you stay encouraged in your dating and single life.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Breakups and relationship disappointment can be so difficult, especially when you feel that you haven't gotten the closure that you want and need.
So, what do you do when the closure you want doesn't happen?
In today's episode, I share perspectives from my own story to encourage you and give you hope.
Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Have you ever felt tongue tied and awkward around men--especially men you think are attractive? Today, I'm going to give you one mindset shift that will help you feel more confident when you meet men that you think you might be in interested in.
If you haven't checked out the Single Over 30 website yet to get more free advice, you can do that here: SingleOver30.net.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
Before I married, I thought it was a given that I would marry and have kids. But when my forties rolled around, it hit me hard that I wasn't going to birth my own babies and that hurt--a lot. In today's episode, I talk about how I dealt with the pain of being childless and give you some tips on how you can deal with it too if it's part of your story.
I hope it's an encouragement for you today.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
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When women are in their twenties, they are often confident that they will meet a man who loves and adores them. Then, as the years roll by, they often lose that hope. I get it! I've been there.
Today I want to give you a bunch-o practical tips to help you improve your opportunities to meet that trustworthy, marriage-minded man who thinks you're the cat's meow over 40 (or even 30, 50, or 60.)
To learn more about my 1x1 coaching program, visit shanaschuttecoaching.com.
To snag my free download, "8 Ways to Invite a Man to Pursue You (without chasing him)" visit singleover30.net.
When I was single, I had a sense that there were some things I was doing that sabotaged my love life. In today's episode, I share how this happens, and I also share some very practical things you can do to stop the sabotage and experience the intimacy you want.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Visit shanaschuttecoaching.com to sign up for your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session.
Your coach,
Shana
Getting over a breakup or romantic disappointment can be difficult. In this episode, I share 3 things that you need to know so that you can move into a new relationship in a healthy way. I also share a story about my most painful breakup and how not doing the three things I mention in this episode caused me to get relationally stuck--for a very long time.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible.
Visit shanaschuttecoaching.com to grab your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me.
Maybe you've heard that hindsight is 20/20. I have certainly found that to be true in my life. In this episode, I share what I would have told my single self if I knew what I know now.
I hope you are encouraged!
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Shana
Modern dating can be so incredibly confusing, right? It's often difficult to know how to tell if a man is interested and how to let him know you're interested without coming off that you are chasing him. In today's episode, I talk about how to invite a man to pursue you without chasing him and I talk about why he needs to pursue you for his own well-being, and why you need for him to pursue you!
To sign up to get notified when my class, "What Men Want in a Woman--What Women Want in a Man" opens for registration, visit singleover30.net and click the yellow bar the top of the homepage.
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The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Every week I connect with women who are grieving how their love story has turned out. They are afraid they'll also be alone. In today's episode, I share my own love story of marrying at 46, and how even though your story may not turn out exactly like you imagined that love is still possible for and that you can be very happy.
Let’s imagine you have been seeing a man for a while. Things seem to be going well, and then all of a sudden he pulls away and you don’t hear from him as much. Maybe he doesn’t text back right away or he cancels a date. You sense that something may be wrong. Your fear kicks in. You’re not sure what to do. Here are some tips on what to do when a man pulls away.
Moving on after a breakup can be really difficult, but there are things you can do so that you don't get stuck in the past. In today's episode, I talk about strategy and also the internal, emotional work that will help you with the healing process. I'm rooting for you! Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Check out singleover30.net for more dating and relationship advice. Visit singleover30.net/challengewithshana to sign up for my 5-Day free, online dating challenge.
Have you ever feared being "too much"? You don't want to appear needy and clingy to a man, but you also don't want to appear closed or cold. How do you balance these two opposite perspectives--and what does needy and clingy look like? I'm going to share these answers with you today.
If you haven't signed up for my free, 5-day Online Dating Challenge yet, check it out at right heeeere!
Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
I'm rooting for you!
Shana
Contrary to what the movies say, sometimes the thought of commitment--even with a man you like--can feel scary! In today's episode, I share some ideas on what to do you if you feel anxious, panicky, or are just plain afraid to allow yourself to get in a relationship or to love a man.
Visit singleover30.net/challengewithshana to sign up for my free, 5-day online dating challenge!
It can be difficult to tell if you're in a toxic relationship when you're right in the middle of it. Today, I give you several ways to tell if a relationship is unhealthy, and I also talk about why we are often blind to these relationships. Be encouraged! You are worthy of being loved!
Your coach,
Shana
Do you find yourself falling quickly for men but you don’t know why? If so, today you’re in the right place. I’m going to reveal 10 dangerous reasons that women fall in love too fast so that you can stop dating non-productively and find your Mister.
Getting rejected can be one of the most painful things about dating and relationships. It can create insecurity, fear, and trepidation about every putting yourself out there again. How do you overcome romantic rejection so you move forward in hope and emotional health? In today's episode, I share some truths on how you can do that very thing.
Visit singleover30.net to get more free dating and relationship advice and to sign up for my free, 5-day online dating challenge!
Remember the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Your coach,
Shana
It can be really hard on the heart when you are interested in a man, and you feel like he's giving you mixed signals. How can you tell if he's really interested? Today, I share some tips with a Single Over 30 woman who is in this very predicament. Check it out!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
When a man you care about tells you that he wants to break up or that he needs space, it can hurt a lot. In this episode I share things you should--and shouldn't do--if you want to improve the opportunity for you to heal, and for him to come back. Check it out! Remember that that dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Modern dating can be filled with so much pressure---even from the first conversation or first date. Because we are often concerned about figuring out if a man is "the one" it can take all the fun out of just getting to know a guy. In this episode, I share the only 2 questions you need to answer about a first date so you feel more comfortable--and hopefully have more fun.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
If you're like most women, you would like the man you're going out with to plan your date--especially if it's the first one. How can you invite him to make plans without coming across as pushy or rude? In this episode, I give several practical ideas on exactly what to say to encourage him to step up to the plate with his planning.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Debra has gotten her heart broken by numerous men, so she reached out to me for help. She said she wanted coaching because she noticed a pattern in her dating life: she would meet a man, immediately fall for him, and then he would leave her. But why? I answer that question in today's episode, and I also answer the question why men won't pursue women. Check it out!
The dream that you have to love and be loved is possible!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
In today's episode I give some really solid reasons why you should go out with--or even date--the man who you really like, but who doesn't make you swoon. If you take me up on my challenge to date men who aren't your "type" at first glance, you might just end up living happily ever after.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
When a man is interested in you, but you're not into him, it can feel awkward to be honest--especially if you feel as if it's unkind to say no or you don't know which words to use. In today's show, I'll help you with feeling awkward or guilty and I'll give you the exact phrases you can use when he likes you but you're not interested.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Is he giving you mixed signals? Does he seem like he's interested, but then other times not so much? How long should you wait for him? In this episode I give you some straight talk that will help you decide what to do.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Have you ever experienced this scenario? You meet a man. He comes on strong. You're interested so you immediately start dating exclusively. But then things fizzle in the relationship and he breaks up with you. You feel like you are not enough and utterly rejectable and you say, "Men always leave me when they get to know me." Why does this happen and what can you do about it? Check out this episode to find out.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
If you want to become more attractive to a man--or men in general--then this podcast is for you. In it, I will share specific phrases you can use that will speak to his core needs. And (surprise!) I help you understand what those core needs are too. I'll also give you some tips on how to practice using these phrases if you're not seeing anyone right now.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Picture this: You just met a man. You like him so far but you've only gone out a couple times. What do you say when he asks, "Are you seeing anyone else?" especially when you're not ready to only see him but you don't want to discourage him either. In this episode, I've got he exact words you can use.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
Dating can be so confusing. In today's podcast, I share about 3 types of men that can come across your path and the best type of man that would make for a great mate.
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.
If you want to attract a trustworthy, marriage-minded man, you're in the right place. Dating and relationship coach, Shana Schutte, knows what it's like to stand in your single shoes because she was single into her forties. With Shana, you'll get practical dating and relationship advice, that will help you overcome the internal and external obstacles that are keeping you single. The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!
Interested in working with me and getting one-on-one personal coaching? Go to https://www.shanaschuttecoaching.com/ to schedule a free session with me and talk about how I can help you get a great relationship with a trustworthy, marriage-minded man.