On The Shores: Recent Episodes
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This is a podcast where we have 1-2 Hour discussions & interviews with people and learn about what it means to be human. A show meant to inspire people to look further and deeper into their own selves, “On the Shores” is about what it means to suffer, hurt, rise-up, learn, and grow while being delightfully, beautifully, imperfectly, human. We cover everything from dating to living mindfully, love, confidence, art, history, science, and more.
Cause and Creation - go listen!
The long road to our creative collaboration
Going with your gut
The value of release
Joseph Pearlan academy
“I am one who” - as the character
The Actor Genius Machine
The value of conversations and “workshopping”
IMDB Pro
Honesty & Vulnerability and self-love & trust
Playing “at” the character vs playing THE character
How Sara has the writers experiences in it
The 5 Love Languages- actions/touch/service
What is the audience thinking?
Off balance filming
Meeting people where they are at
“You can doing better” feeling, accepting them as they are, not at the end of their journey
Big Screen screenings rock
Great collaborations are easy if you let them be
How to film big with small gear and crew
and much, much more.
We follow up with Chris on the last episode where Paul clarified his faith
Does following Jesus abandoning people who don’t meet the clique/look/need for the moment?
What is actual ministry vs the “show”
What does it mean to actually follow Jesus, Christians?
What does it mean to be a LEADER in a church/religion/spiritual movement
Where in the Bible does it say a priest/pastor is supposed to be a “celebrity?”
How Do We Support People in Difficult Jobs?
Police
Teachers
Veterans / soliders
Where are the support structures here for these people
Social Media “power of anonymity”
The meaning of true love
What should we really lean on?
Better Communications between people in relationships, especially emotional ones (starts at minute 35)
It’s better when we are together
communicate. Collaborate, graduate. CO= together
Be honest when a relationship is new, where do I see this going?,
Where am I ok with it going? Am I ready for this?
Leverage the nature of the relationship to make it more inclusive (mutual respect)
Dealing with the child within
Tangent- can anything be read to be sexy/soothing?
-Sleep stories/sexy voices
-The Tall Ship in Boston
-The North End in Boston is amazing, especially when watching a soccer championship
Active listening
“You haven’t heard me!”
Engaging with their soul
You fully understand what is being said and why they said it
So you can constructively respond
Collaboration results for all
You have to WANT & WILL to listen otherwise you never will actually hear them / decisiveness results
Ask questions, learn about them
Not projecting onto others
We can’t read minds
Aligning words and actions (starts at 1 hour in)
Some people are good at one or the other but not necessarily both
Maintaining a healthy/positive masculine feminine energy balance
Acknowledging the differences between the sexes & energies
Dean Lewis from Australia knows love songs!
Apparently I look like Jason Stratham!
A New COJE Group Restaurant is coming to Boston Seaport!
Hot White Pants
I can rock hot white pants, why don’t you?
Confidence and the pressure on women
What was the actual most popular size for women in the eyes of men?
Confidence is everything
Love yourself, you are a lot more special than you think
Your physical posture can mentally affect you
BONUS Sleep / Meditation Story from Paul at 1 hour 37 Minutes
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In this episode without Chris Paul talks about a number of subjects including clarifying faith versus religion, the problem with Hillsong, redemption, doing good onto others, what's wrong with Canada, communication, and much much more. As we discover what it means to be imperfectly human.
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Religion vs faith
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Hillsong
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Doing good onto others
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Canada
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USA
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EffectiveCommunication
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Coach Corey Wayne & being centered
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Apple’s Spatial Audio
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COVID and Vaccinations
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What will you do when you pee on the floor?
Cause and Creation podcast - go listen!
We discuss our upcoming project and the script- written by a man. Oops
What makes a strong female lead?
Making a three dimensional person vs a trope
What makes a strong female character - is she just tough? Is vulnerability part of her strength?
Why are writers sometimes lazy?
What is basic human needs and instincts - Our upcoming film
What does being human really mean? Are we animals?
Does art need to be feel good to be entertaining? NO!
The Wrestler - SEE IT!
“Blessed” - Janelle’s film she produced <—
Be creatively fulfilled - it helps in all area of your life
Living your purpose
Finding your true audience
How do we change the perception of women in film, how do we not take the easy way out
Actors - don’t judge your character
We can be better, smarter in the scripts that we write, the stories to make them not lazy
Every film doesn’t have to be Sharknado (sorry)
What is a Bond girl?
Lets connect the higher thinking with our animal basicness
How do we celebrate (and write characters about) a fully fleshed out human being?
Women run the world!
Is there value in straight-up entertainment?
How to we bridge being humans who want pretty things to being high thinking evolved beings in our art?
Wow there’s a lot in this one! Just listen.
What is dating?
Different kinds of LOVE as the Greeks said: Eros (romantic/sexual), Philia (brotherly/sisterly), Agape (unconditional, chosen)
You need the right chemistry and patience
Don’t be a simp with your “love” - it is not love, it is sad
Faith vs Good Works.. in dating
Be honest with your intentions - with others and yourself
The swim lanes
No game playing
Be the gravity you want to attract
Don’t ignore the red flags
How do you date multiple people
A relationship is still a relation
BE bold!
Dating vs building relationships
Adding to your life, vs needing someone
Don’t throw pearls to swine
Dating should be fun!
Coach Corey Wayne
Is there “building potential”?
Figure your shit out
Treat people as you want to be treated!
Taking it easy
Is talking about booze bad?
Appreciating life/living/fellowship
Paul returns to discuss what it means to really live mindfully.
The story of making love to a Hershey’s Miniature Chocolate
When planning is needed and when it becomes too much
What it means to be mindful
How we build a foundation to live on by truly living and experiencing life to the fullest
We are what we allow ourselves to live
Meditation techniques
Re-training your brain
What it means to your life to be truly mindful
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Paul and Chris are back talking about gut feelings… when to trust them, and when to really think.
Nadezhda Vasilyevna Popova - Night Bombers WW2
Trust Your Gut vs Listening to the Holy Spirit… they are related but different
If we trust our gut, are we even thinking?
Trusting your experience - jumping the chasm from feeling to fact
Knowing the limit of your knowledge - paranoia, anxiety, wishful thinking
What to do when you don’t know have knowledge but you still have a feeling - the gut check
Gut feeling in relationships
The person who says nothing before or after the date
“Who wounded you” - why are they so into you?
Being valued and the outgrowth of that
Your gut is a counselor
Your gut is not enough in and of itself
Our society is leaning towards feelings and not facts… bridge the gap
Embrace facts - they are your friends, and help them tune your gut
True love is given without the need of receipt
Hillsong brief discussion part 2
What exactly is faith??
Beers of the week:
Urban Lumberjack - Bolton Landing
Wachusett Blueberry
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The thin line between confidence and false pride/ego You are prepared, know what you are preparing for, and have a goal - correct mental state Ego is false confidence vs respect for the challenge/person/team/yourself Ego is lazy, not building the skill set, or doing the work
Forming a strong assurance in someone’s (your own) ability/value
How do you obtain and truly live confidence
The importance of humility in confidence, which allows you to see… pride focuses on yourself only
Example: Dwayne Johnson - The Rock, Tom Brady
Understand and diagnose reality - don’t lie to yourself
Run your race, don’t let them/others drive you
Utilize energy and valuable input of others that have things value to learn, grow - build your foundation - it’s additive to your foundation, not innately foundational
True confidence brings peace despite adulation of others or haters
True confidence is peace in the journey
Having confidence in the journey - it is beautiful and necessary, even if not always in our terms
Leaning on God - “using God as a crutch”
Everyone has a crutch, it’s ok
Taking time to acknowledge pain but then continuing to grow and learn from failures
Spreading love and helping others with what you’ve learned is confidence
Confidence is quiet, it is strength - restrained
Put it all together = confidence
Beers of the week: Harpoon - Boarding Pass IPA Goose Island - Burbon County Stout
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Chris is back as we discuss the fragility of people and how we should perhaps look higher vs at others for our worth and value.
Chris is back!
One year later covid still lingers
But vaccines are rolling, and Paul talks about his experience with one.
Returning to in person learning in schools
Red Flag Dating Stories
The fall of Ravi Zaccahrias RZIM Ministries
Belief vs evidence - Christian apologetics
Hillsong East Coast - failings
Celebrity vs pastoral leadership
Subjective truth vs facts
We live by our own subjective perceptions
We want to look up to someone and something
The Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Living abundantly
How can we give to and bless others?
Be sober and alert and never fail to look within, or to follow others blindly
Don’t let pride take control
The GOAT!! Tom Brady
Future shows: Science, history, sports
In this somewhat meandering but still enjoyable episode Paul talks about the stories he’s heard and also some of his own experiences. We get real and authentic and ask what it means to treat others how you want to be treated … and to recognize that growth isn’t always easy
I talk about …
- What does true love mean? Agape “love”
- How the first step in finding a partner comes from you finding yourself
- Learning how to run your own race so that you attract the right energy … and project it
- Knowing you’re not alone and loss and the ugliness of love is also quite universal
- An acknowledgement in the impact of parenting and how you grew up and were formed
- Avoiding transactional people who just want something on you to feel better about themselves - the “love bombers”
- Thinking about having faith in love, and what true love really means. And where it really comes from.
John Paul and Chris as we get a little spiritual and deep regarding how to overcome adversity in today’s tough world.
WARNING - There is some Christian content, but have an open mind - we address everyone. :)
Love love love is all you need…
Links (use Google, sorry!)
Beer!
Treehouse - Orange Julius IPA
PumpKING - Southern Tier - NY
Lord Hobo - Doom Sauce (10/10) Rasperry Milkshake IPA, Boom Sauce IPA
The Aurora Brewing Co near central NY - strawberries & cream milkshake IPA
Evil Twin Brewery / Dorchester Brewery (MA) - teaming up because of COVID - “Irish-ish Coffee Stout” 9/10
Shipyard in Maine - Pumpkinhead
Trillium Brewery - PM Vanilla Dawn
Turtle Swamp Brewery - JP Porter, Orange Line, Fine Sour
Food!
Jaliscos in East Boston- Mexican
Mama Maria - North End, Boston
Rosetti’s, Boston North Shore
All of Chinatown, Boston
Mariel, Ruka, Lolita, Yvonnes - COJE Group - Boston
Vejigantges - Amazing Puerto Rican food - South End Boston, MA 02118
El Embajador Restaurant - JP
Santana’s Cafe - Brazilian - Everett MA (Coxinha - shredded chicken + deep fried dough)
Casa Blanca Cafe - Moroccan Bakery - Revere MA
BONUS - COFFEE!
Fazenda Roasters- Dedham MA - Expresso Midnight Blue (robust, deeper), Espresso Blue (citus, acidic, a little lighter) “The college student of expresso”
Stumptown Roasters
Thought of the week - help one another, we don’t know what people are going through!
Next episode - how to face adversity
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Chris rejoins Paul as we discuss Coronavirus and the future of the world. We talk the latest tech like the amazing Flight Simulator 2020.
Coronavirus is front and center as we talk about the impact on many industries especially restaurants, tourism, aviation and how to move forward… and what the greater lessons are here from this experience
We discuss some of the best breweries as Chris makes a 3 hour trip to one in Central MA, to the amazement of Paul. We talk about the future of the show and all kinds of other things as we tee up the great Food and Beer Episode of 2020. Yaaaaas!
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Paul takes a moment to reflect on the life and legacy of a mentor and true friend. And what honoring that legacy possibly means for us all.
Join Paul and Chris as we discuss the genesis of this podcast, what the purpose of it is. We discuss why we do what we do, learning from mistakes, and what it means to have confidence in hope in this new weird world.
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