Psychologist Reacts: Recent Episodes
Danilo Tesi
On "Psychologist Reacts", we discuss current events or media trends & look at them through the lens of psychology. More than fact-checking and recapping what is being said, this podcast will try and figure out why events unfold the way they do. Besides including psychological facts whenever it's possible, I'll also share my unfiltered thoughts & simply have fun while recording the episodes. I'm your host Danilo Tesi, a psychologist and certified coach & I look forward to creating some fun content for you!
In this episode, we'll be discussing ChatGPT and artificial intelligence based on large language models & how they might impact our lives now and in the future.
- What is ChatGPT?
- How does it work?
- What can it do?
- What can it not do (yet)?
- How will our lives with new A.I. look like?
- The good, the bad, the dystopian
List of references mentioned
- Hard Fork Podcast
- Article in the New York Times
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the internet's most asked questions about humans or human behavior.
- Why do humans cry?
- Why do humans kiss?
- Why do people cheat?
- Why do people cut themselves?
- Why do people lie?
- Why do men watch porn?
- Why do gay men sound different?
- Why do gay men get HIV / monkeypox?
- Why do men like lesbians?
- Why do butch lesbians dress like men?
List of referenced episodes
- https://psychologistreacts.buzzsprout.com/1698694/9912530-let-s-talk-about-porn
- https://psychologistreacts.buzzsprout.com/1698694/8498789-why-do-people-cheat
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the rise of populism and fascism around the globe. Why is it happening and what can we do to prevent it from escalating?
- What’s happening where?
- Why is it happening? 3 hypotheses.
- What can we do to prevent it from escalating?
List of references
- Book about populism
- Wikipedia on forgetting
- Article about Social Amnesia
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In this episode, we'll be discussing narcissism.
- How to spot a narcissist?
- How do different psychological streams look at Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?
- The internet’s most FAQ
- What you can do if you have a narcissistic boss or partner
List of references
- https://dictionary.apa.org/narcissistic-personality-disorder
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In this episode, we'll be discussing how worklife is different for gay people and what we can all do to make things better!
- Tough childhood memories
- How the world changed when I moved to the city
- My difficulties when entering the commercial professional world
- How changing jobs is still a triggering experience for me
- A conversation with a white straight male business leader that led to an a-ha moment
- What we can do to make worklife easier and more accessible for marginalized people
List of references
- Eoisode about compulsory heterosexuality on the Bad Behavior Podcast
- The Velvet Rage by Alan Down on Amazon
- The OECD on “Why quotas work for gender equality”
- Click here to find unconscious bias trainings
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In this episode, we'll be discussing happiness and ways to achieve happiness.
- What different generations thought will make them happy
- What research has to say about it
- How much money is enough
- What makes people feel truly happy
- How to live longer
List of references
- https://www.consumerismcommentary.com/millennials-want-to-be-rich-more-than-anything/
- https://morningconsult.com/form/gen-z-report-download/
- https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2016976118
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI
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In this episode, we'll be discussing love.
- General observations about Netflix’s “Love is blind”
- Core topics that struck me as odd
- How I think bout these odd topics in real life
List of references
- Love is blind on Netflix
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the war in Ukraine which started on February 24th, 2022. Specifically, we’ll look at assumptions about Vladimir Putin’s personality and psychological state that led to this disastrous escalation.
- Political and historical topics to research which I can’t cover in this podcast
- Discussing three main hypotheses
- Putin living in a state of delusion and what that means for the world
- Putin’s narcissism and how it might have led to the current situation
- The war as an escalated mid-life crisis of a man without moral compass
List of references
- https://www.nytimes.com/column/the-daily
- https://theintelligence.economist.com/
- https://www.economist.com/podcasts/2022/03/02/sanctioning-behaviour-can-financial-weapons-work-against-russia
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the development of the anti-vax movement and why some people might disregard data, scientific research, and facts.
- A little retrospective on part 1 of this mini-series
- Has anything changed?
- The psychology of an anti-scientific attitude
- Why changing your mind can cause a huge social dilemma
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In this episode, we'll be discussing we discuss three topics I have great difficulty with:
- Seeing growth as the only way to make progress in your career
- Why growth is not the right measure for everyone
- My suggested alternatives
- Being busy as a flex
- Why do people perpetuate this unhealthy attitude?
- How reality and psyche clash here
- Passive-aggressive behavior
- Why being openly angry and assertive are difficult
- How finding your “no” can make the world a better place ;-)
List of references
- Today, it’s just my brain
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In this episode, we'll be discussing porn. More specifically why people watch it and what effects it has on them and their relationships.
TOPICS & QUESTIONS:
- What is porn?
- Why do people watch or consume porn?
- Does porn have an impact on individuals and if so, how exactly?
- Does porn have an impact on the quality of relationships? If so, what does that impact look like?
List of references
- Why Do People Watch Porn? An Evolutionary Perspective on the Reasons for Pornography Consumption
- Merriam Webster definition
- How Porn Affects Relationships
- How Pornography Use Affects Couples Sexual Health
- Is pornography addictive?
- Overexposed and Under-Prepared: The Effects of Early Exposure to Sexual Content
- What Viewing Pornography Does to Your Brain
- Is porn harmful? The evidence, the myths and the unknowns
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In this AMA episode, we'll be discussing three questions that I got asked by listeners:
- How to deal with criticism without it lowering your self-esteem?
- How does a person’s childhood impact who they are as an adult?
- How to deal with family or people that are in High Control Groups/Cults
List of references
- 25 signs you’re in a High Control Group
- Checklist of Cult Characteristics
- Wikipedia
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In this episode, we'll be discussing online dating with apps like Tinder, Grindr, and others.
TOPICS & QUESTIONS
- How things have changed over the last years?
- Some interesting stats
- The bright side of online dating
- The dark side of online dating
- What you can do if things start to get complicated
List of references
- Medium article about the psychology of online dating
- Article on awarenesscenter.com
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Squid Game (E5-9).
Core questions:
- Are humans inherently good or bad?
- What does money or the lack thereof bring out in us?
- How much is a human life worth and how much are you willing to do to keep your own?
- Concluding thoughts about the first season of Squid Game from a psychological perspective
List of references
- https://www.netflix.com/title/81040344
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Squid Game (E1-4).
- Which human traits, needs, and desires does the series showcase in episodes 1-4?
- Why is the series interesting to look at from a psychological viewpoint?
- General thoughts
List of references
- https://www.netflix.com/title/81040344
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the latest Facebook whistleblower scandal.
- What did whistleblower Frances Haugen reveal?
- What does this scandal tell us about human psychology?
- Can everyone become a reckless monster if the circumstances are right?
- Can an individual employee initiate real change in a company?
- What science and research have to say about conscience, obedience, and inhumane behavior.
List of references
- Facebook Whistleblower Frances Haugen: The 60 Minutes Interview
- https://dictionary.apa.org/conscience
- https://dictionary.apa.org/antisocial-personality-disorder
- Social Psychology: The Milgram Experiment(s)
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In this episode, we'll be discussing social media, beauty filters, and their effect on our self-esteem, confidence, and mental well-being. Core questions:
- Did the rise of social media have an impact on our self-confidence?
- Do people think about their appearance more nowadays?
- Do people undergo more cosmetic surgeries and procedures because of social media?
- What do scientists have to say about the topic? Does using social media interfere with our mental well-being?
- What can you do to stay happy and confident as a user of social media?
List of references
- Study/Review 1: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2056305120912488
- Study/Review 2: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1461444819888720
- BBC overview article: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190311-how-social-media-affects-body-image
- New Yorker: https://www.newyorker.com/culture/decade-in-review/the-age-of-instagram-face
- Huff Post: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/plastic-surgery-social-media_l_5cdc1b9fe4b0437438c4fbea
- APA Dictionary for constructs & definitions: https://dictionary.apa.org/
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In this episode, we'll be discussing K-Pop and why it’s so popular around the globe. These are the topics we’ll be touching upon:
- My connection to K-Pop
- The incredible popularity of K-Pop & the real magnitude of this phenomenon
- What the Korean government has to do with the global rise of K-Pop
- Facts and objective reasons that make K-Pop so successful
- Psychological reasons for the support and love K-Pop bands & Idols get
List of references
Musical references from different K-Pop waves
- Big Bang - Bang Bang Bang
- BTS
- EXO - Tempo
- Blackpink - ddu du ddu du
- Baekhyun - Candy
- NCT - kick it
Good articles to read
- https://www.washingtonpost.com/arts-entertainment/interactive/2021/kpop-bts-youtube-twitter-blackpink/
- https://www.90daykorean.com/what-is-kpop/
- https://www.tripzilla.com/korean-government-k-pop/110010
- https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/zjgv6v4
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In this episode, I’ll be answering questions that were submitted to me by listeners. These are the topics:
- How to keep up your energy and enthusiasm for new projects?
- How much emotional support should you give to others before referring them to a professional?
- How to deal with loss and failure?
- Is self-diagnosing dangerous?
- What’s the secret to successful relationships?
- How to find one’s true calling and passion in life?
List of references
- The Plus Delta Podcast by Jerome and Brian
- The Chatabox Podcast by Elliot and Jack
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Anxiety & Depression as well as ways of dealing with them. From self-help to professional support.
- How the pandemic exacerbated symptoms of anxiety and depression in many of us
- What is anxiety?
- What to do if you need professional help?
- What possibilities of self-help are there?
- What is depression?
- What to do if you need professional help?
- How to take care of your mental health?
List of references
- https://dictionary.apa.org/anxiety
- https://dictionary.apa.org/anxiety-disorder
- https://dictionary.apa.org/social-phobia
- https://dictionary.apa.org/generalized-anxiety-disorder
- https://dictionary.apa.org/depressive-disorders
- https://dictionary.apa.org/major-depressive-disorder
- https://dictionary.apa.org/dysthymic-disorder
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWloIAQpMcQ
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Anti-Vaxxers. I’ll first be reacting to common phrases and assumptions I hear anti-vaxxers speak about. Later, I’ll be looking at the situation through the lens of psychology.
- An analogy that says it all for me
- Freedom vs. egocentrism - What is the anti-vax attitude really about?
- Opinions vs. facts - How they get dangerously mixed-up among anti-vaxxers
- Taking personal decisions in a globalized world - Can you be an anti-vaxxer and shop at H&M?
- Not trusting the government - A common attitude among anti-vaxxers. Can it keep up with reality?
- Global pandemic vs. egocentric response
List of references
- Wikipedia on forgetting
- Article about Social Amnesia
- Article about the diffusion of responsibility
- Confirmation bias on Wikipedia
- Populism - the book
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Cancel Culture.
- My initial thoughts on cancel culture: does privilege play a role here?
- Is canceling a person or a company the right way to go? If so when?
- Examples of people who got canceled and how they’re different
- What about discourse? Isn’t that the better way to go?
- How cancel culture makes real change difficult
- Are there alternatives?
- Are these alternatives accessible for everybody?
List of references
- Wikipedia article on cancel culture here
- Article about cancel culture on VOX here
- Article about cancel culture by the New York Post here
- Article by the TIME here
- Article by the BBC here
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In this episode, we'll be discussing homophobia in football.
- What is homophobia?
- Why are there no openly gay football players in any of Europe’s most prestigious clubs?
- Internalized homophobia or homophobic fans and facilitators - what’s the real issue here?
- Why would anyone even care?
- Why do players and fans go out of their way to express their homophobic views?
- What does homophobia say about the homophobe?
- How does education play a role here?
- Are all homophobes dumb?
List of references
- Schaduwspits podcast https://www.nporadio1.nl/podcasts/de-schaduwspits
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia
- New Study Links Homophobia with Homosexual Arousal
- Orban / Hungary https://www.reuters.com/world/europe/leaders-16-eu-states-call-block-fight-lgbti-discrimination-2021-06-24/
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In this episode, we'll be discussing how to choose a therapist or a coach.
- We all can use a bit of help sometimes
- What’s the difference between a psychologist and a coach?
- What are coaches good at?
- What are coaches typically less good at?
- Are all therapists the same?
- Psychoanalysis, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapy
- Which form of therapy is good for whom?
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In this episode, we'll be discussing toxic positivity or why you don’t need to be happy all the time.
- What’s toxic positivity vs. real positivity
- The reality of emotions
- Why suppression will swing right back at you
- How to become a better person and friend ;-)
List of references
- Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
- Anderson et al study (Defense Mechanisms: Neuroscience Meets Psychoanalysis)
-
goodvibesonly
- Toxic positivity article
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In this episode, I’m talking to Michael Dale Kimmel about open relationships.
Michael has been a therapist since 1971 and a relationship therapist for many of his professional years. Having helped many couples and especially gay couples over the last decades, he really knows all the ins and outs of open relationships.
This is part two of a mini-series about monogamy, infidelity, cheating, and possible alternatives to traditional relationships. If you haven’t listened to episode one of this series, search my channel for an episode called “Why do people cheat” and listen to that episode first. That’ll give you the full picture.
More about Michael
Born in North Western Ohio, Michael is now running his own therapeutic practice in San Diego, California. After a colorful period in Europe and Egypt, he moved back to the States where he earned a Master’s Degree in Developmental Psychology while interning for “Sesame Street” in New York City.
Michael has since earned additional degrees and certifications in Clinical Social Work, Personnel and Group Development, Somatic Relational Psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems, and Bioenergetic Analysis.
A true inspiration when it comes to lifelong learning!
Next to his therapeutic work, Michael has published a book called “The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage” which offers all couples an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can use to create, adjust and structure their relationship/marriage. Since its publication in 2017, the book has frequently been on Amazon’s List of “Best-Selling Relationship Books”. Here’s the link for you to order this book.
Michael Dale Kimmel is currently working on his next book called “A Gay Man’s Guide to aging well”. Subscribe to Michael’s newsletter to be notified as soon as the book is published. Here’s the link to subscribe.
Last but definitely not least: Michael offers psychotherapy, counseling, and coaching via Zoom. For you individually or you and your partner, depending on what you need right now.
And one of the upsides of the pandemic is that Zoom makes it possible for you to be Michael’s client from wherever you are. As long as you’re willing to meet him during California time business hours. All of Michael’s contacts are on his website lifebeyondtherapy.com.
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In this episode, we'll be discussing the question: Why do people cheat?.
- The romantic dream of eternal love
- What is monogamy?
- What is cheating and how simple is this question really?
- How many people cheat?
- Why being cheated on can be such a dramatic event
- Why do people cheat and what is it really about?
List of references
- Monogamy on Wikipedia
- Monogamy on Merriam Webster
- 8 main reasons why people cheat
- BBC Future study on infidelity
- Esther Perel - The state of affairs: rethinking infidelity
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In this episode, we'll be discussing NFTs.
- What are NFTs?
- Why did they cause such a buzz?
- Why are people weirded out by the concept?
- Why are we so attached to our things?
- The psychology of owning objects
- Is technology going to change our view of ownership & status?
- Will status be a digital construct soon?
List of references
- Endowment Effect (Wiki)
- Metastudy endowment effect
- Article about NFTs on Paris Hilton’s website
- Article about Beeple’s phenomenal $69M artwork sale
- Article about Social Signaling
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Imposter Syndrome and what to do if you never feel good enough.
- Is Imposter Syndrome actually a problem?
- What options of dealing with it by yourself are there?
- What can a coach do for you?
- How do you know that you should see a therapist for this?
- Are there alternatives to dealing with Imposter Syndrome?
List of references
- none this time
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Reality TV.
Questions we’ll try to answer:
- Which Reality TV formats do my friends on Instagram watch and why?
- Why is there so much Reality TV to begin with?
- How do people answer survey questions about why they watch Reality TV?
- Is there a deeper reason as to why we watch Reality TV?
List of references
- 2017 study by Statista (Reasons for watching Reality TV USA)
- Cost per type of TV production (The Observer)
- Wish Fulfillment (Wikipedia)
- Social Comparison Theory by Festinger (1954)
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In this episode, we'll be discussing deepfakes.
Questions we’ll try to answer:
- What are deepfakes?
- Can they become dangerous?
- How can we trust what we see?
- What is trust?
- How do humans trust other humans and institutions?
- How does trust need to change to stay up to speed with technology?
- Who’s responsible for the consequences of AI technology such as deepfakes?
- What does the future hold for us?
This episode features an amazing guest: Abdo Hassan is a Creative Technologist and Data practitioner interested in the intersection between tech, society, equality, and sustainability.
A quote from Abdo’s Medium blog: “My full-time job obliges me to think about how the technological and the human intersect. In my worlds, the technological is anthropological.”
Find Abdo on Twitter & Instagram @abdoRepublic
List of references
- Video for more technical information
- “Who can you trust” by Rachel Botsman
- The Guardian - Article about Deepfakes
- Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development
- Bowlby’s Attachment Theory
Abdo Hassan’s references:
- Web of Trust
- Russian firm with an AI designer
- Bots and Wikipedia
- Article co-written by a Neural Network
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In this episode, we'll be discussing #freebritney.
Inspired by the New York Times documentary “Framing Britney”, we take a look at Britney Spears’ evolution and that of her fans from a psychological perspective:
- General comments on the documentary
- What the “self” and anger might have to do with why things happened the way they did
- Why people are part of groups
- Why people become stans & part of fandoms (when there are many other causes to care about)
List of references
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self
- https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/ageing-and-society/article/abs/construction-and-deconstruction-of-self-in-alzheimers-disease/874203D10B5B87CAF174CCA4E2F2CF30
- https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3885303/
- https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30661243/
- https://dictionary.apa.org/self
- https://ourworldindata.org/mental-health
- https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022399900001744
- https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/zjgv6v4
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In this episode, we'll be discussing Gender Reveals:
- What they are
- Why they are simplifying reality
- What gender, sex, sex assignment, gender identity, and sexual orientation actually are
- Why the gender binary causes issues in our society
- Why people still celebrate gender reveals
- Why people get defensive when their views on gender get challenged
Guest Speaker
Remco Boxelaar (they/them). Founder of Corporate Queer. A company striving for a world in which everyone can be authentic.
Connect with Remco on LinkedIn and follow Corporate Queer on Instagram.
List of references
- She/He/They/Me by Robyn Ryle
- Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon
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In this episode, we'll be discussing QAnon.
- What it is
- How social media algorithms play a role here
- What populism has to do with it
- Why our unconscious confirmation bias is important to look at
- Why certain people might be susceptible to QAnon and other conspiracy theories
- What we can do to keep ourselves and our beloved ones in check
List of references
- BBC article
- NY Times Article
- Confirmation bias on Wikipedia
- Populism - the book
- Rabbit Hole Podcast (NY Times)
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