The Good Girl Podcast: Recent Episodes
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The Good Girl Podcast is a podcast that's redefining what it means to be good through uncomfortable truths about ourselves. I call those truths confessions. Through these confessions, The Good Girl Podcast has become a space of unabashed conversation that addresses some of the deepest and raw thoughts of the woman. It’s unapologetic talk about who we are.
I believe the world collectively is on a healing journey - a journey that includes addressing past traumas, developing a better sense of self, and simply becoming the highest and best expression of oneself. While being healed and whole is the epitome of living your best life - it comes with its set of challenges. Host and award-winning broadcast journalist, Cameo King, sits down with Danielle Moore, licensed mental health therapist of the Refresh Wellness Center and Uncouched Therapy to discuss what truly happens as you heal. They share how people, places, and things that were once familiar can become foreign and leave you alone.
This conversation was nothing I expected but everything we needed. writer, journalist, and host of the History of Being Black Podcast J Hall tweeted, "Most men say they desire peace in a relationship when in reality, they're really demanding order." This unfiltered perspective was expansive enough to make you laugh, think, and reconsider how Black love and are loved. Listen to the conversation with host Cameo King as they both challenge the concept of peace, masculinity, and the needs of Black men in relationships.
In one of the most transparent conversations on the Good Girl Podcast, a journalist and mother of two shares her journey to admitting she was an alcoholic. Paulette Parker candidly opens up about the ups and downs of using wine as a coping mechanism and how it brought her to "rock bottom."
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Yes! You read that correctly. CAMEO LYN DIANE SHANEKA KING (only one of those is my middle name ...LOL...but you FEEL me now, don't you?) was invited to be a guest on THEE Red Table Talk hosted by the Jada Pinkett Smith!
This Good Girl Podcast episode is all about what I got to say and didn't say and my behind-the-scenes experience while appearing on the national award-winning platform!
The name of the Red Table Talk episode is "How to Find and Keep a Healthy Relationship" with appearances from Devon Franklin, Stephan Speaks, Matthew Hussey, and Lewis Howes (and me 😄).
I bought my homegirl Reka Robinson of the Single You Podcast and radio veteran to help me get through all the details of my experience!
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No one ever truly prepared me for changes, evolution, and even the ending of cherished friendships. Friendships with people who've known my spirit and my heart at different phases of my life. Unfortunately, friendships ending is something that will inevitably continue to happen as we grow and evolve into the best version of ourselves.
Listen as host & award-winning journalist, Cameo King sits down with her bestie, Danielle Moore, mental health therapist of the Refresh Wellness Center, and UnCouched Therapy talk about the real reasons our friendships and relationships are ending, especially now.
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The idea of surrendering seems like something only the weak do, an indicator that I didn’t want it bad enough, or that I didn’t simply have what took to get to my goal. But that couldn't be further from the truth. Surrendering takes a deep-seated belief that first, my humanity will fail me and second there is something greater and more powerful backing me. Listen to the show opener with a confession on surrendering from award-winning journalist and The Good Girl Podcast host, Cameo King.
Cameo walks you through the delicate dance and tussle that happens right at the intersection of control & God, before the surrender.
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Motherhood is a hood that is not for the weak or faint of heart. It's hood that takes a person on a journey of self-awareness, sacrifice, and uncompromising love however it's a journey that most, if not all, are not prepared for. Many have questioned their sanity, purpose, and even wondered if they could "push the child back in the hole." This week's confession address the truth for many women regretting the process of motherhood but not the child. Show host & award-winning journalist, Cameo King sits down with her bestie, licensed mental health therapist of Refresh Wellness Center and UnCouched Therapy, Danielle Moore, and unpacks the confession, "If I would have known what I know now, motherhood would have never been on the table for me."
Parenthood challenges us in ways we never imagined. It challenges our integrity, character, and even the depths of our love. But what happens when we realize we aren't the parent we thought we would be or claim to be? Listen to this unearthing confession from Armond Carr, radio personality and founder & CEO of the Bay-Area based non-profit All Tied up. He candidly shares how he was at one point, a toxic father.
This is part 2 of the conversation "How you play a role in your own suffering." In part 1, host Cameo King along with The Boundaries Coach Reka, explore how we more oftentimes than not play a role in our suffering. Part 2 takes a deeper dive into the ways most of us have played a role in our own suffering, without even knowing it.
The consistent disappointments of failed relationships, lack of progress in your goals, and life just not happening the way you expect - can feel like suffering. It can feel like a dreadful experience that you are waiting to exit, with bated breath. In the Fall 22 season opener, host Cameo King along with The Boundaries Coach Reka, explore how we more oftentimes than not play a role in our suffering. They explore the top three ways most of us have played a role in our own suffering, without even knowing it.
This week’s confession is all about me:
It’s about my inability to consistently choose myself in ALL things. It means prioritizing my needs, my desires, and my goals in all things –
Now let's be clear, I’ve chosen myself before, in many instances, and continue to do so - but it's the "in all things" and "consistently" is the problem.
So this week, I share three reasons why I still continue to put myself second and how it's holding me back.
Support -
It's the one thing many go-getters, entrepreneurs, and quite frankly, people, expect from their loved ones. For those who profess love and care, it seems like a simple ask to "show up" when a person needs help in their business, career, or just life. Well, that expectation will leave you disappointed.
Listen to this live conversation with host, Cameo King and Tanesha Ash Shakoor, J.D. founder of Voices of Color at the National Professional Men's Network and the National Professional Women's Network Business Expo in Grand Rapids, MI as they answer why "no one is showing up for you."
It goes without saying that the birthing mother's health is foundational in determining the health of the child. What she eats, her emotional state, and her healthcare, all have an impact on the health of the child. But what about years or decades later? Does the mother/child relationship impact the child's health more than we know?
Listen as Dr. Shoyinka, Medical Director of the Ingham County Health Department, explores the ways genetics, specifically from mothers', play a role in our health outcomes as adults.
It seems like in the year 2022, with record-high food & gas prices, MAYBE the ending of the COVID pandemic, and the heightened awareness of America's soul, the success of society still rests in a women's ability to submit to men. (JOKE - laugh)
Yes, submission. It's an extremely controversial never-ending topic. A topic where most conversations surrounding submission are shallow, lack depth, and are one-sided.
In this week's podcast, host, Cameo King of The Good Girl Podcast , and Danielle Moore, licensed mental health therapist and chief practitioner at The Refresh Wellness Center share a perspective with a gutted truth about women who have lost or have a lot to lose in the name of "submission."
Beaches, Bikinis, & Bottomless Mimosas! Planning for the summer girls' trip has begun. We're already imagining the turn-up, the laughs, and the flirtatious outing with somebody's son. But have we forgotten one of the most important factors? Covid. While it seems we are moving toward the end of the 2-year pandemic, we may want to proceed with caution. Listen as we chat with Dr. Shoyinka, medical director of the Ingham County Health Department about whether it's safe for us to go outside for summer 22!
Ya’ll-
I know we are bout tired of this topic!
I am too! I am too!
My friends said, "I ain’t got a dog in this fight!" I do not! I fought tooth and nail whether or not I should say anything about it. And I lost the fight.
But hear me out, this is going to be short and I am intentional about only adding value. I share 3 (quick) points about what this says about you (and not them).
The way Denver Broncos quarterback, Russell Wilson, gushes over his wife Ciara is what dreams are made of! The unequivocal support, the loving her out loud, and his dedication to God - this is what many women desire in their partner. So what do we do - ask our sis, Ciara, "what was the prayer" in hopes that we could manifest the boo of our dreams.
But the truth is many women have been praying that prayer for decades and have yet to see any glimmer of hope. Reka, host of the Single You Podcast asked "What about all the unanswered prayers?" We had a very real conversation this past Monday on her podcast and decided to continue it here.
Our conversation holds no punches about the reality many women of faith face praying for a husband.
You can not celebrate Women’s History Month, without talking about this historical aspect of womanhood, hair for Black women.
Our hair tells a story of who we are before we say one word. It has been a political statement, a statement of freedom, defiance, survival, and maybe even nothing at all.
I hope today’s conversation, just like the subsequent conversations inspire you, heal you, and free you from any societal restrictions
We've heard from Dr. Dani who researched & published the findings of the psychological and emotional impact of hair on Black women
Also, celebrity hairstylist, Kristina The Glamtech, shared the impact of stylists have on Black women.
So today – we’re hearing from a swath of stylists who’s heard it all and know Black women well!
I sent out an anonymous survey to about 20 stylists to share the “things they wish their clients knew”
And honey chile they did not disappoint! Listen to the top 3!
Hair has always been a defining marker of Black womanhood throughout history. From braids to a silk press to a wig, hair artistically paints the picture of the hearts and minds of Black women, their role in society, and within the culture. In Part 2 of our series on Black Hair for Women's History Month, Cameo King sits down with artist, creative, and internationally known Detroit hairstylist, Kristina The Glamtech. With over 25 years of experience, Kristina shares about the unique & influential role stylists play in the lives of Black women.
Black hair tells the story of Black culture across generations and geography. It artistically paints the picture of the hearts and minds of Black women, their role in society, and within the culture. This month I wanted to pay homage to the long history of hair in the Black community and also the stylists who are on the front lines of our community. First up, Dr. Dani, who holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Forensic Psychology, is the author of Herstory of Hairstory In this conversation, she shares her research on the psychological impacts of hair on African American women.
From yoni eggs to kegels to smelling like vanilla and brown sugar- these are all the expectations and attempts at teaching vaginal care and maintaining vaginal health. Well, this week we are having a good and well-informed conversation about all the things your mother didn't tell you about your vagina with Dr. Janelle Howell, The Vagina Rehab Doctor. She breaks down myths about the vagina from odor to "tightness" and gives real answers for optimal vaginal health!
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Sit down with the creator and host of The Good Girl Podcast, Cameo King, for the very first podcast of the season. Cameo opens up in the rare form to share her confession on outgrowing friendships. She delves into the depth, the importance, and the vital role that friendships have played in her life but adds the reality that sometimes, many times if you are growing and evolving you will come to know the painstaking process of outgrowing some of your most trusted, ride or die friends.
We miss it.
We all miss it. Gathering, hanging out, and being in good company around the holidays and unfortunately, a year later, we are still asking if and how we can safely be with our family and friends.
In this week's show, we sit down for a real conversation with Ingham County Medical Director, Dr. Shoyinka.
We unpack the new options for fighting COVID-19 like the pill, the infusions, and the "intelligence" of COVID to determine and if or how we gather this holiday season.
For more information on COVID-19 vaccinations in the Ingham County area, head here: hd.ingham.org/coronavius or call 517-887-4517
If you are looking for vaccination locations near you, head to vaccines.gov
Mundane, routine, and boring are words I expect to hear from married couples who are struggling in their sex life. I even sometimes expect to hear the word, rare. But to know there are couples who sincerely love each other and sex is non-existent brings on a level of anguish.
This week's confession is the final installment of our marriage confession series. It deals with a man who is committed to his wife in a sexless marriage. Actor and pastor, Aqeel Ash-Shakoor shares in an unfiltered conversation the truth about sex and marriage. Using his decades of experience counseling couples, he unabashedly addresses some misnomers about commitment, responsibility, and sex in marriage.
Trust your intuition-
Trust your gut-
We hear those phrases all the time especially when it comes to questioning the faithfulness of a spouse. But could there be a time when our intuition is wrong? Can our gut be rooted in something else? in a lie? Well, this week's guest in our 3-week series on Marriage Confessions, Meg Watt says yes. Meg has experienced over 30 different healing modalities and heal from over 25 different traumas. Listen to her confession of how insecurities and past trauma created the perfect scenario to accuse her husband of cheating.
Marriage and babies - they say is the goal.
Marriage and babies - they say will make you whole.
But this week's confession says neither will fulfill your soul. (ya'll like my rhyme?)
Tiffany Norde, the author of More than a Wife, More than a Mom: 7 Steps to Restoring the Woman Within and an entrepreneur sits down with journalist and host, Cameo King, to dispel the myth that marriage should be a goal. Tiffany shares her truth about how resentment crept in because of societal expectations.
I get it.
I get why people quit.
Especially after you’ve been patient, been praying, been waiting, been working for years---
I’m not saying 2 or 3 years or even 5. I’m saying you’re coming up on a decade or maybe even surpassed a decade of working towards something.
I also understand more deeply when there is an eruption of celebration for lasting in business, friendships, or dreams coming to fruition.
Because it’s not always the beginning of a thing that speaks of its greatness but it’s the consistency, the growth, and longevity.
Because most of the time the victor has bruised, marred face – from getting back in the ring again, again, and again.
Listen as the host and journalist, Cameo King, share the true costs of following your dreams.
So you know we are all about uncomfortable truths right? Uncomfortable truths that get you to your highest and best expression of yourself -But are ya'll really ready for this truth?
Dating multiple people is a toxic approach.
I know, I know this may be a hard pill to swallow and may stop some of the perceived fun many of us are having dating --
Like calling Jamal when Jerome is being inconsistent or hitting up oh ye faithful Michael because he always responds and does exactly what you ask...
But this conversation with journalist and Good Girl Podcast host, Cameo King and her business bestie Danielle Moore, LCSW, licensed mental health therapist of the Refresh Wellness Center tells the entire story about what's really happening to our emotional wellness, our relationships goals, and personal goals when we date multiple people.
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We are getting older and our bodies are changing daily as we age. Especially as women in our mid to late 30s, the signs of aging become more and more apparent. We begin to see those unsightly, disrespectful chin hairs. We may notice our hips getting a little wider and even experience hot flashes. So, is there anything I should be doing when I begin to see those signs? What is really happening in my body as I edge closer and closer to menopause? Well, journalist & host, Cameo King sits down with Dr. Nike Shoyinka, MD, MPH, Medical Director of the Ingham County Health Department to discuss the realities of reproductive health for women in their 30s.
Whether you want to believe it or not, every single person from your confident best friend, to a red-bottom-wearing powerhouse executive, to Beyonce has insecurities. Having an insecurity in the western world is almost like a right of passage and it affects every area of our life --- love life, career aspirations, and mental health. But what exactly are we to do with these insecurities? Do we ignore them? Get them "fixed?" This week journalist & host, Cameo King, and licensed mental health therapist, Danielle Moore have a candid conversation about what it truly means to carry insecurities. They unpack the messiness, the projections, the manifestations of insecurities and also provide solutions to navigate the murky waters of "being enough."
I very much lived in a world of "follow the rules" to get what you want. In school, in the community, at church - it was all about following the rules and guidelines that were set up for me as Black girl. I saw it work for others, then I saw it work for myself. And this is where my journey of being "good girl" began. I begin to ascribe to the idea that as long as I did what I was told, expected by my teachers, society, the institutions, and the powers that be then I would get what I want.
FULL STOP---
That is a lie from the pit of hell. A lie that led me down a path of people-pleasing, dissatisfaction with life, and frustration. Listen to this week's season opener as I talk about why I and many others continue to lose at life even though we do everything "right."
Relationships can be challenging. Period. Great ones, bad ones, right ones, wrong ones. The truth is every single relationship will present its unique set of challenges that oftentimes force one person to examine their perspective, character, and even desires for companionship. But what's most interesting, is that there is a source or common thread that creates the problem in all of our relationships.
Allofum - familial, romantic, business, work -
You know what is it ?- It's you.
Yes, you, me, we, and our lack of accountability. Listen as licensed mental health therapist, Danielle Moore of the Refresh Wellness Center, and host, Cameo King explore lack of accountability can destroy some of the most solid and cherished relationships.
A lot of how we measure growth and success can easily be categorized as fickle because there isn't necessarily an across-the-board accurate measuring tool for true growth. We can't solely rely on the quantifying of money or adding a healthy relationship as growth because there is so much more to a person than money and relationships. For true growth, we must consider the human element of spirit, emotions, and character. This is why this week I'm sharing what I'm learning about true growth outside of the numbers and relationships.
This week I'm sharing something that I've been working on and working through. It's something that can easily keep anyone in bondage and has kept me from living my best life, and might I add, being in alignment with God --- that is a scarcity mentality.
Scarcity Mentality is the belief that resources are finite, that there is not enough to go around. This affects every part of our lives whether we know it or not, not just money but also opportunities that are available to us, seats at the proverbial table, customers, and relationships.
Listen to this week's confession about how this mentality affects how we experience and show up in life, relationships, in our purpose.
Join this invigorating and fruitful LIVE conversation in an effort to bridge the gap in communication and expectations between men & women when it comes to dating. Cameo King, Carla Thoma, Reka Robinson, J Hall, Kellen Brooks, and Emory Lawrence, examine the statement “while men are dating, women are looking for husbands.” We’ll answer how true or how false that statement is. Plus we’ll have a little fun The goal is to have a healthy fruitful dialogue with men and women about handling one another with care while dating and pursuing relationships.
There are some experiences that humble you, shift your perspective on the world, and open your eyes to another slice of God's character. I believe being a Black queer woman in a traditional faith setting, like the Christian church is one of them. This week, Rev. Erica Williams shares her journey that began at Black Baptist church in Saginaw, MI seeking "purity" and is now the founding pastor, as a Black queer woman, at Set It Off Ministries, an international, interfaith, intergenerational ministry that seeks to empower, educate, and emancipate poor and working-class communities around the world.
"Everything is not all orgasms and rainbows," said Goody Howard, the award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. Goody graces The Good Girl Podcast confessional with the topic of sex (obviously). She expands our thinking about what sex is and how we experience it in everyday life and in our bedrooms. In her words, "I can connect any and everything to the absence or presence of comprehensive sexuality education on this planet."
As millions of Americans are getting vaccinated and high temps become the norm, many individuals are excitedly anticipating the opportunity to break free from quarantine and live life to the fullest. But before we so quickly rush into the bliss of the summer and the expected end of the global pandemic, I want us to remember and hold tight to the lessons this unprecedented season taught us. Listen as Cameo and her homegirls, Reka, The Single Girls Life Coach, and Fly Carl, stylist, and author of The Fly Girl Guide share the most important lesson they've learned.
Letting go is one of the most difficult things I know to do. It doesn't matter if it's "letting go" of past hurt, a relationship, or how I hoped life would play out. I just not that simple. It's mostly challenging because not only am I addressing and healing from disappointment but I am forced to reimagine a different life without the people, places, and experiences that I thought would be with me for much longer. I am sharing my heart and my three-step process of letting go in hopes that it will inspire you as well as bring you along this journey with me.
Do you believe in a love that will stand against all odds? Do you believe that if you have found "the one" there is very little that can stand against the union of two people who are destined to be together. Well, whether your answer is yes, no, or even maybe I believe this confession will test your theory. Andrea P. Jackson, a self-titled trauma coach, shares how she married, divorced, and re-married her husband. Her confession tells a different story of how society defines love. Listen as she shares how real and true her love and marriage are.
The inner work of becoming a whole & healed individual is a continuous ever-evolving journey. It is a journey that requires folx to face their trauma, limitations, and weakness. When this work doesn't happen, it often reveals itself in our relationships, usually by way of projecting and blame-shifting. More specifically I've noticed men's insecurities, lack of substance, and misogyny rearing its ugly head by suggesting and even advising women to carry these issues. Listen to this week's podcast as Cameo King, The Good Girl Podcast host, and Danielle Moore, licensed mental health therapist of the Refresh Wellness Center, unpack the blatant and subtle ways women carry the weight of men's issues.
The process of unlearning our prescribed identity can be a challenging yet beautiful, painful and glorious, soul-seeking journey. It is a journey of evolution that many of us may take to find the deeper meaning out of life. This week, Emory Law, a burgeoning actor out of Los Angeles, decided to take us on his journey of evolving into a man. He shared that as a 40-year-old man, he is still searching for a path to manhood. He confesses that everything he was taught about "what a man should be" was a lie.
We have all encountered them. Some of us, have dated, been entangled, and heartbroken by them. Who are they? I am speaking of F-boys.
By definition, a F-boy is a person who manipulates, strings along, gas lights, and can be self-centered with the sole goal of getting what he wants no matters how much proverbial blood is on the floor.
This week, I had the grand opportunity to speak with a former F-boy and unpack his heart, mind, and perspective. I ask, the why, the how, and even the "how can you sleep at night with this type of behavior?"
Listen to the revelatory conversation of former and healed F-boy.
Alesia lives in sunny North Carolina running a full-service podcast management agency. Her journey of faith began at a young with an awe-inspiring story of the power of a church's compassion and grace. But as she grew older, the role of the church in her life shifted from freedom and love to controlling and dictating. In this week's podcast, Alesia's confession of growing up in a church that became a cult only adds to the growing narrative that many Western churches are not what they claim to be. Her story illuminates the fact that some churches are a grab at power and control and not the gospel of Jesus Christ. Listen to the telltale signs that you may be a part of a cult and not a church.
Salvation by definition is the preservation or deliverance from harm, ruin, or loss. For some reason, despite the concerted efforts of my mom & aunts, I attached my salvation to a man. I believed my ultimate and highest success and growth both emotionally and spiritually would only come in connection to a man. This is a very dangerous and unfortunate truth for a lot of women and individuals. In this week's podcast, I candidly share how this flawed notion affected my life and what I've done to change it.
The relationship between the Black community and the American health care system is riddled with distrust. The disparities in diagnosis, treatment, and experiences all continue to tell the same story of racism plaguing the lives of Black people even in the doctor's office. As the U.S begins its distribution of the COVID vaccine, it only makes sense that the Black community is hesitant, last in line, and simply deciding not to get vaccinated. Listen as I sit down with the Deputy Health Officer of the Ingham County Health Department, Debbie Edokpolo, and the Medical Director of the Ingham County Health Department, Nike Shoyinka as we have an honest conversation about the COVID vaccine.
One of the most consistently challenging thought processes I have yet to come to terms with is cognitive dissonance or duality. Duality is when there are two competing thoughts or opposing beliefs that are true. And ya'll, that space is rough, especially when faith and reality are very present! The last couple of months highlighted the areas of my life where duality created constant tension. So in my 2021 season opener, I share how I and many of us, have come face to face with duality and how it exists in our faith and relationships and what I've decided to do about it.
It's the end of the year and unfortunately, some of us are filled with pensive sadness because we are assessing our progress toward failed goals. Plenty of people, including myself, have been grinding day in and day out, and we still haven’t necessarily hit the bullseye when it comes to success in our lives.
So I'm sharing three principles to guide us as we are forced to face those unmet goals & plans from 2020.
The foundation of those principles is you cannot speed up God’s timing however grind culture will have you thinking differently.
Education is a vast, deep, and unending topic. It's something that affects every fiber of our being; where we live, what professions we choose, to even the evolution of humankind. So as we are ending the year that has caused, all systems, especially the educational system to pause and (hopefully) assess its weakness, it's only fitting that we have a conversation about the complex structure and those affected. Please listen to three perspectives of an educational entrepreneur with 20 years of experience, a student who's navigated the educational system, and a community organization that's re-engaging opportunity youth into the educational system.
There's no doubt in my mind that the year 2020 has been an absolute whirlwind filled with anxiety from national tensions to the tiring and revelatory fights for freedom. And because of this, many of us have collectively made the declaration to "Cancel 2020" or shared the sentiments of "I hate it here." While these popular phrases may sum up our disdain for the current state of affairs, I want to challenge us to change our perspective as we enter into the last few weeks of the year. Listen as both Cameo King, the Good Girl Podcast host, and Danielle Moore, regular contributor, and licensed mental health therapist discuss four crucial points that will challenge your perspective of 2020.
Recently dubbed a “modern-day history maker” by Essence Magazine, Courtney Smith confesses on The Good Girl Podcast that she didn't know who she was outside of her very accomplished life and long list of national and state awards. Courtney is currently the CEO of the Detroit Phoenix Center, a nonprofit that provides critical resources to homeless youth and young adults. Cortney's powerful confession takes us on a journey of the hard work of healing and laying aside ego to live an emotionally healthy and whole life.
Despite the increase in awareness, the scientific data, and the conversations that consistently show the importance of maintaining one's mental health, there is still a huge gap in how communities navigate mental illness. Because of this, I hope this week's confession from Nieisha Deed, mental health advocate and founder of Pure Spark, will provide some insight into that world. After living in silence for nearly a decade, Nieisha shares her truth on being diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
The past two days, I've done my best to ignore the most contentious battle of our lifetime, the presidential election. I believe for the right reason which is my mental health. The outcome of this election will determine the direction of the soul of our country, how we sincerely decide to begin to heal, and simply considering the millions of lives that are at stake. So this week, I somewhat kept in tow with focusing on our mental health and controlling what we can control. Licensed Mental Health Therapist, Danielle Moore, and host, Cameo King, share 4 specific approaches to take into the next 4 years, regardless of the outcome.
In one of the most important elections of our time, we often forget the human factor of elected officials. This week I'm sharing a conversation that's over a year old where I'm chatting with the State Representative, Kyra Bolden. What she shares is a gentle reminder that we never know the battle that someone is fighting.
For many of us, we are just now coming into the celebration and appreciation of our Blackness. This includes our dialect, our hair, our faith, and the entirety of our culture. But this revelation was decades in the making, and it is not coming easy. Many of us are still forced to fight against internalized oppression which is a result of centuries of racism. Unfortunately, it often shows up as anti-Blackness in the lives of Black people. Listen to this revealing confession with author and life coach, Tamika Thomas of "How Anti-Blackness showed in my life."
Imposter syndrome is when any person consistently doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments. It can sometimes show up as a voice telling you "you don't deserve to be here" or believing an accomplishment is a fraud. This week our confession comes from Lolita E. Walker, a certified life coach, author, TEDx speaker, who not only coaches folk through life transitions but she confesses that even with her experience and success, she experiences imposter syndrome.
One of the most pressing questions we are faced with, as this year comes to a close, is when will America "open back up?" And honestly, I believe the better question is will we be ready? Because believe it or not, COVID and racism have revealed the inequities and ineptitude of many of our systems. So I decided to sit down with the Ingham county health department in Lansing, Michigan's capital about the lessons learned and the new normal of health for Black & Brown residents.
If there is one thing we know about existing as humans, we know we are sexual beings. We are brought into this world by sex and we come into this world equip to create through sex. But despite this fact, there still seems to be a huge gap in our conversations, understanding, and approach about being members of both the faith community and being human. Well this week, Leslie Antonoff of Hautemommie and I, try to close that gap between loving Jesus and being sexual (a.k.a a human). #JudgeUsIfYouWAnt
In 2020 we’ve come face to face with uncertainty. Now, more than ever, we live and breathe uncertainty.
Because of that, it is important to be intentional about the way we do life for the remaining 3 months of the year.
The question I posed is “How can I get the most of out the rest of 2020? How can we walk in freedom and be healed? How can I live my best life if nothing is certain?
My answer: Mind your business!
Listen to the full show as I give three specific principles about how to “Mind Your Business in 2020.”
In this episode, I not only share my journey with minding my business (or not) but why the three principles are proven to be effective.
Black women have been at the center of many conversations for the past week. Everyone from Beyoncé, to the rappers, Meg the Stallion & Cardi B, to Kamala Harris. And it's been a lot!
And overall, what I've found is that we really don’t love free Black women like we claim we do.
But rather we love what free Black women can do for us.
I am defining a free Black woman is someone who is unapologetic in her evolution and shows up to the world as she deems fit specifically for her well being.
So this week, I am briefly sharing why America doesn’t love Black women, specifically free black women.
The church, for many, in the Black community is seen collectively as a place of refuge, safety, and freedom. It has been deemed an environment to collectively gather to worship, connect with the divine, and fellowship with other believers but that has only been a part of the experience for many Black women. The other part of being a part of a ministry is riddled with shame, microaggressions, and trauma that's very much connected to a relationship status or appearance. This week's confession comes from, our very own Danielle Moore, sharing her lived experience of being single, without children in the Black church.
Typically, Danielle & Cameo are active members of the "Mind Your Business" Ministries but this time around we struggled a bit and had to have a conversation around Jada's & Will's recent Red Table Talk.
It's only because amid all the fun, games, and discussions there were definitely crucial elements of the conversation that we didn't see being had, particularly trauma bonding and the power of a confession.
So this week, Danielle Moore, licensed mental health therapist of Refresh Wellness Center, and Cameo King, The Good Girl Podcast host, sit down and unpack just how powerful a confession can be in changing our lives and what we missed listening to the Red Table Talk.
Losing control has been a common theme in our lives over the past few months. Many of us have lost control of the things we once considered stable and unmovable, whether it was our jobs, the ability to move about freely, how we worship, and even the nature of our relationships. Now, control a foreign concept. So this week, S. LadyBug, a former scientist and now founder and leader of the Yarn Movement, shares a confession about the importance of our response when we lose control. She shares that how we respond is the most important factor in any situation that's out of our control.
Whether I knew it or not, at one point in my life, I believed my value as woman shifted because of what I could do for a man - whether it was to “upgrade him” “be his peace” or “hold it down.” And that was probably one thee most damaging beliefs I didn’t know I had. At one point, I honestly believed that I needed to be all the things that a man desired to be valuable. I even held that harmful standard for other women. So this week, I'm sharing how my role oppressive relationships harmed myself and harmed others.
It is ingrained into every fiber of our being that we as humans can control much of our life outcomes. If we work hard, we will get great results. If we eat well, our bodies will be healthy. If we plan for the worst, we will always be prepared. But if there is anything that the first 6 months of 2020 has taught us, it's that we have very little control over the flow of our lives. Listen as Kyona McGhee, founder of the McGhee law and the "Beyonce of Trademark Lawyers" details losing control in every part of life.
Breonna Taylor would have been 27 years today. She was killed 2 months ago when police broke down her apartment door and shot her 8 times. No charges have been filed in connection with her death. This, like too many other violent experiences of Black women have seemed to get lost in national conversations about police brutality and racism.
This week we ask, "Black women, who told us our lives didn't matter?" We attempt to address why it seems like the stories and lives of Black women are simply not a priority.
The death of George Floyd at the hands of 4 Minneapolis Police officers has sparked an uprising throughout the nation and world. It has left portions of the city of Minneapolis decimated as a message for a much-needed revolution.
It has also created trauma for Black people. Trauma that is taxing on our mental health. As a result, I'm sharing three ways to live in this historic moment and protect your peace. My mom also joins the conversation sharing some insight after living through the Detroit 1967 uprising.
On our journey, many of us have had to rediscover & redefine what genuine faith looks like. We've had to unlearn and then relearn the character of God. Be a part of this transparent LIVE conversation as we chat about the things we simply got absolutely wrong about womanhood & Christianity. Jennifer Lucy Tyler, Founder of Soul Circle Events and Saphina Carla, Blogger at Saphina Carla and future author, join Cameo King of The Good Girl Podcast for a live conversation about a failed faith and rediscovery of Christ that included tears, anger, seeking discipleship, and humility.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes infertility. Actually infertility could be before, after, or during a woman's lifespan and unfortunately, many women struggle in silence. This is why I am intentionally having this conversation around Mother's Day. I am chatting with the founder of the Broken Brown Egg, Regina Townsend, about the complex truth about infertility with Black women. In this chat, Regina shares what leads to private suffering, the fact that a child doesn't "cure" infertility, and why you don't ask women about their wombs.
"Christian Purity" has been the hallmark and foundation of many churches throughout western society. It is the idea that the success of a believer's faith is summed up in their performance and ability to "do good." But what happens when you perform well and do good but your goals, desires, and dreams are null and void or simply fall apart? This week's conversation focuses on just that - the failed faith of many women who believed, followed, and proclaimed that a form of purity (celibacy, modesty, going to church) would produce some type of extra blessing ( a husband, kids, and security)...but it didn't.
To build a solid foundation in any relationship, emotional intimacy and vulnerability are required. Those two ingredients that are vital to the beginnings of a deeply trusting relationship between two people. The global pandemic has created the perfect environment for those types of relationships to blossom and deeply. However, all Rona relationships are not created equal. This week, host, Cameo King, along with mental health therapist Danielle Moore, will give 4 advantages and disadvantages that will help you navigate these Rona relationships, protect your heart, and come out better on the other side.
The COVID-19 global pandemic has created an experience that is new to everyone. We are all experiencing the world, how we live our lives, and connect with loved ones differently because of the highly contagious virus.
Because this is new terrain for everyone simultaneously, there are some very unique things I've noticed that I believe is happening within humanity. It's the fact that the very foundation of our lives has been shaken and that our faith is being forced to shift.
Please listen as this will be a reminder that you are not alone and secondly, this global pandemic is new to everyone!
Welcome to the 2020 we never saw coming. Some of us haven’t settled in because we aren’t sure this is real. Cities are coming to a complete stop and social distancing is what we are all doing. This is too real, too present, and ever-changing to ignore. So what I decided to do is provide 3 ways of staying grounded during the Rona. This is meant to reconnect us to the things that really matter, temper our nerves, and refocus.
This week I am holding space for black girls and women because of a video that literally ripped my heart in two. It's a video of an Atlanta-based hairstylist encouraging a little Black girl named Ariyonna to love her beauty after the girl calls herself ugly. After listening to the deep and almost inconsolable cries of 4-year old Ariyonna, I knew instantly why her sobs of pain hit us the deepest part of our soul. It's because at least at one point in our lives, black girls have been called ugly explicitly and implicitly. In this week's podcast, I share why this feeling, that many black women have, is carried with us throughout our entire lives from childhood.
March is Women’s History month and I am being very intentional about having conversations that center and give a platform to women’s authentic experiences. This is the first in a series that will explore people, places and things that have not traditionally served women well. In this confession, I am inclusive of my community, church, and relationships. So listen up, as I share and challenge three familiar people, places, and things that can do better at serving black women well.
A pastor is typically a person who is characterized as a person with the utmost integrity, spiritual insight, and an encourager for the weary but never thin-skinned. Well, this is how Pastor Kellen Brooks of Pentecostal Temple Church of God In Christ in Inkster, MI described himself this week in our chat. Listen as the youngest pastor of the historic Inkster church shares his personal story of grace through humility.
Sex. It's an act that every human who comes into this world is equipped to perform. But for some reason, I, along with the majority of Americans have been ashamed and embarrassed to talk about it and express it openly as we see fit. So this week we are talking about our relationship with sex and celibacy as grown women. This week, both the host, Cameo King and licensed clinical therapist, Danielle Moore, share their most recent most embarrassing stories around being a sexual human.
At the intersection of feminism and faith is where you will find Candice Benbow. Candice is a theologian, writer, and feminist. Her work can be found in ESSENCE Magazine, Glamour Magazine, VICE, Shondaland and much more.
This week on The Good Girl Podcast, Candice share's her confession that unpacks the complex layers of a broken woman. It's the shame and the ugly healing process of being the other women.
Brittni "Bee" Brown is the award-winning principal publicist at the Bee Agency. Because of her work in the public relations field and with brand development Brittni was Named as a “Top 25 African American PR Millennials to Watch” by Huffington Post. This week she confessing that despite her status and success, 2019 was her worst year. She said, not only did her ego get the best of her, but she simply doesn't know what she's doing.
At just 26 years old, Mary Sheffield became the youngest person ever elected to Detroit City Council. The council president pro-tem represents Detroit’s District 5 that stretches across both the west and east sides of Detroit with over 98,000 people
Now in her 7th year with her innovative city ordinances under her belt and historic election, she says she is still learning and growing and the most challenging battle is within. Listen to her confession about struggling with worth while in office.
For a large part of my life I've followed and ascribed to the societal ideology "being good." I believed the benefits and blessings of "following the rules" almost to the detriment of my purpose. I also saw "all these hoes winning." So I observed for almost two years the practices and approaches of winning free women. In this chat, Cameo and Danielle address why the good girl theology will cause you to lose at life and how & why women are winning.
After 3 failed marriages and 5 and half years of self assessment, a vibrant 49 year old Mary Harris came to a stark conclusion about her relationships. She said that some of her treasured platonic relationships ruined some of her most intimate relationships. In this chat, she details how many of us fall into cycle of depending on the advice of others to guide and direct our romantic relationships which eventually leads them towards a path of destruction.
Happy Thanksgiving! This is a special edition of the Good Girl Podcast because it's Thanksgiving! Hindsight is 20/20 but when we are in midst of our complexities, it can be a beautiful prayer and testament to our humanity and divinity. We see our greatness and our flaws. So, this week, Cameo is sharing 3 personal issues she's working through. We all got work to do!
This week's show is extremely personal. It hits the very core of my being. It was one of my very first confessions. Perfectionism. For whatever reason I had come to love, applaud, and praise the social construct of perfection, this idea of "getting it right." I strive for the moment when I hit the bullseye, the mark of perfect, or 100% . But, praise GOD😭, that I have come learn that any life that's worth living is far from perfect and a matter of fact the pursuit of perfection is all vanity. Listen I share how perfectionism is vile, detestable, abhorrent construct that robs you of life.
In this week's podcast, author and Chicago native, T.N.King details how she lost herself to her job, status, money, and the obvious, a relationship. In her book, Stop Chasing False Idols and Awaken Your Inner Goddess, King invites every woman who has felt depleted, hopeless, or “not enough” to reconnect and uncover her true, divine self—known as her Inner Goddess. In our chat King exposes the “idols” women create in their minds and the lifestyles they use to distract themselves.
When we often think of marriage, we think of riding off into the sunset with our boo thang. We think we are better together. We may even think I now have a partner in crime for all of life's ups and downs. FULL STOP. That ain't the case shawty. This week, Tanesha Ash-Shakoor confesses that her expectations of wholeness in her marriage were rooted her emotional deficits and created bitterness and jealousy. Her transparency will free you and help you. Listen & learn.
No one is immune. It's like a kid in a candy store. I'm talking about women plus that man with potential. Many of us have dated a person who we knew, without a shadow of doubt, would become something great, if we just gave them time. But au contraire, in this confession session, we learn there is a deeper reason why women, especially, gravitate to those "project men." And it does not have to do with an unhealed or broken part of our spirit. Listen up!
This podcast is personal, uber personal, because I am 35 and I've noticed a significant shift in how I show up in my relationships as well as how others show up in their relationships with me. Danielle Moore, licensed clinical therapists of the Refresh Wellness Center walks me through the two top reasons how and why our friendships changes after 35.
This week we're taking DEEP dive into the world of parenting. Parenting can be one the most rewarding and challenging jobs known to man. And this week, our conversation with Yolanda Williams, Certified Positive Discipline and Host of the podcast Parenting Decolonized releasing on October 23rd, addresses many of discipline practices with black parenting that are doing more harm than good.
Every week we speak with a person who has a confession that highlights the messy part of figuring life out. Some confessions deal with taboo topics or illustrate the complexity of a single human experience. This week we chatted with Kenneth Hampton, a father, husband, a man a of faith who struggled with depression.
Fat people exist in our society. I have fat friends, family, loved-ones and coworkers. According to this week's guest, fat is descriptor. It is not an insult. This is what our conversation is about. Fluffy, curvy, or thick are words that have been used to placate the word fat. Listen as I chat, with Candice Fortman, Chief Operations and Engagement of Outlier Media, about our society's exhausting relationship with fat on women.
Many of us took hold of the Hot Girl Summer proclamation by Meg thee Stallion and ran with it...to our boat parties, rendezvous with the new boo (or 2), even declaring and living by the hook up lifestyle. And now that the season is changing and summer is officially over, the ripple effects of our hot girl summer lifestyle decisions are settling in and the high is wearing off. Sings Soul II Soul back to life, back to reality So as we always do here on the Good Girl Podcast, I am sharing some valuable lessons (and confessions) I learned from the "Hot Girl Summer."
Ya'll, this is that conversation! This week we had one of those conversations when you are yelling "Girl!" for a whole 60 seconds because you absolutely can not believe what you are hearing and what is transpiring. This is that conversation, the one that transcends a moment and touches your spirit! A conversation where you had expectations, a plan, and where excited about the result but God had other plans. Listen as celebrity hair stylist, Nikki Barnes, who's first celebrity client was Chris Brown and has been in the company of the likes of Oprah, Keri Hilson, & Tisha Campbell, begins to share her confession but the conversation takes a turn...
Often times when we hear about entrepreneurship, we only hear about the stories of triumph over impossible odds or the daily challenges to become a formidable leader. But this week we speak with Sonia Lewis, the Student Loan Doctor, who credits her entrepreneurial journey to literally saving her life. During the chat she shares there was a point in her life where she consistently slept for 2-3 hours a night. Listen as she shares how becoming the first woman and African American to own a student loan debt repayment company allowed her flourish with her medical condition.
Historically, the bondage and freedom of women's sexuality has hinged on a culture that was designed to solely benefit the desires and whims of men. One of the by-products of this culture was the lack of exploration of women's preference, pleasure, and freedom when it comes to sex. This week in our confession session we take on a small slice of the patriarchal pie by examining the use and implications of the word “hoe” on women - whether the word should be eradicated or the negative connotation challenged.
The hashtag #BlackGirlMagic has created a culture on and off social media of a steady yet strong celebration of black women being amazing and doing amazing things from creating culture shifting content to inserting their intellectual prowess. Black Girl Magic is something every woman is aspiring to be or is she? After being a part of a panel discussion with about 20 black and brown girls in an urban school district in Lansing, MI, myself and another panelist discover that there were adverse affects of the Black Girl Magic movement. Listen up as we have a confession session about the politics of Black Girl Magic movements for both teen girls and grown women.
In an ideal world, the relationship between a believer and a non-believer can be simple. As simple as, I respect your beliefs and you respect mine. But we know life is never ever that simple. In today's podcast we take a deep dive into a strained relationship between a religious mother and an atheist daughter. Our conversation winds down the road of religiosity, the role of a believer, and the two choices both the daughter and mother must face.
Every person on this planet will experience trauma in their lives whether it's navigating the loss of loved one, heart break, or a sudden unexpected shift in their environment. We will all come face to face with a new normal which will require a processing of emotions. But the reality is the American culture tends to be more reactive rather than proactive with our life changes. So during this mental health awareness month, contributor & licensed mental health therapist Danielle Moore breaks it all the way down why we need a therapist at every stage in our lives.
When a conversation hits, it just hits! This week's Confession Session is more like two friends catching up with Cameo & Donjia. New Jersey Native Donjia Wilson (like Kanye) tackles the oxymoron of being a worship leader in the proverbial "church" while also dealing head on with depression. This conversation runs the gamut of expectations of those in ministry, anger in our faith, the tension between faith communities and mental health therapists, and how Donjia did not use the traditional routes to manage her depression.
This week the beauty & brains maven & New Jersey native, Ijeoma Kola, tackles the beauty narrative as a black fashion blogger. In our confession session, she shares the reality of the double beauty body standard for black women and how it has effected her confidence even as an international blogger. Listen as Ijeoma & Cameo both share the truth in their body confidence issues plus hear how Ijeoma's "Every Body Style Challenge" is forcing bloggers to look at fashion for all with a new perspective.
Oh the expectations of what it means to exist as women in 2019! The societal standards of beauty at every waking moment for a woman are simply ridiculous. From body shape, to where hair should and shouldn't be to the color of my skin. This week, model & actress, Alicia Daniella discuss her recent bout with armpit hair & Willow Smith and how life in spot light has changed her perspective on plastic surgery and colorism.
This week's show starts with a 12am phone call from my mom about a recent podcast. My mother, a 60 plus no nonsense women, from the south, felt compelled to share her feelings with me about the podcast on women aging. She specifically pointed out that there is a difference between black women aging and white women aging. And I got an earful. So this week you'll hear Momma King's version of nuisances and depth of women aging.
This week on Good Girl Radio, we're talking about that one thing every single person will face, no matter their beliefs, values, work ethic, or morals. It's what begin to experience as soon as we exit the womb. Aging. We sat down with Leah Thorn, the founder of Older Women Rock, a movement to to raise awareness and explore issues facing women in our late-50s and 60s shares to talk about the harsh realities women face as they begin to grow past the half a century mark.
Every week, we curate conversations about women's experiences and this week I wanted to be very intentional about the conversations I held especially during #WomensHistoryMonth. I believe the topic of women in hop hop magnifies what it means to be a woman.
I had the privilege of having a conversation with two women who are Hip Hop- Piper Carter & Mahogany Jones.
Piper Carter is multi-disciplinarian multi-media activist an organizer. She is the founder of We Found Hip Hop and Creator of Dilla Youth Day. She is also the first black woman to shoot for hi-end publications such as French Vogue, British Elle.
Mahogany Jones is a lyricist, international music ambassador activist, 4 time undefeated champ on BET's 106 Park, and Detroit Ted Speaker.
Cameo & Danielle are at it again! In their monthly Good Girl Radio Confession Session where they chat about all things ratchet, holy, & culture. This week we learned that everything is actually the woman's fault. Listen as the founder of Good Girl Radio and her girlfraand (and licensed therapist) unabashedly chat about trauma snobs, sexual urges & entitlement and how this is clearly all our fault.
Grammy nominated American gospel singer Kierra Sheard is on Good Girl Radio this week sharing one of her many confessions. In this transparent chat, Kierra is nothing short of honest as she shares her struggles with drawing boundaries with sex, time, and space with a man she is deeply in love with.
During the chat she unapologetically checks herself and asks crucial the questions "Does my life match what I'm singing about?" and "Am I walking worthy of the calling?"
Imagine being forced to sit out on vacations, experiencing different cultures around the world, and even splurging on yourself for an entire because you don't have the money but rather mounds of debt. Not because you have closet full of clothes, not because you helped a family member in need or even previously splurge on an international trip but simply because you made a conscious decision to "help" the love of life, twice. This week's confession: "I financed not one but two boyfriends."
This week I'm sharing what exactly got to this wonderful place of yelling at God and what I have learned and am learning from my outbursts and bouts. Listen to beauty I found in my struggle...
Leaders from all walks of life from our churches to our public offices to our most trusted mentor all have dirty laundry. There is something that they have done, been a part of, or will do that has been flat-footed wrong. So why, oh why, do we hold our leaders to an unattainable standard? Why do we expect them to get it right (from birth) or cast them to the pit of hell? This week we try to understand millennials obsession with the perfect leader while we are yet sinking deep in our own mess.
Cameo: Every year, for the most part, I try my best. I try to work on my character, my relationships, and my career. This year, in particular, is a year of exponential growth. And with growth comes change. So in order to cultivate this exponential growth and change, I'm sharing the 3 of top things I will not tolerate year. 1) Being told what to do 2)Extra positive social media accounts 3) Self- assessing
It hadn’t even been 12 hours and I’d already saw posts discrediting her as a candidate...even the seemingly “I’m just throwing these facts out here” posts... This is why I am pissed because
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this idea of expecting perfection (from black women)
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one issue voting (There's so much more to any one person & their ability to govern an entire nation that can not be judged on one issue)
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It hadn't even been 12 hours!
This is the continued conversation of, "House of Secrets," where the Bordayo family reveals their dark past and exposes family secrets. In this intense and revealing conversation Ceci shares the layers of abuse, her struggle with her faith, and her transformation to forgiveness.
Listen as we turn the spotlight on family dysfunction and sexual abuse in the church."
Dysfunction comes in many forms and this story of the "picture perfect" family not only highlights that, but magnifies the need to face issues head on. Listen to the confession of singer and song writer CeCi Bordayo on journey of healing, forgiveness, and trusting God while being faced with incest, rape, and abuse under the guise of "good church-going family."
This conversation is about the utter disgusted and disdain we've witness for the lives black women which has been magnified after the air of the 3 part "Surviving R. Kelly" series. The series details testimony of the sex trafficking, rape, abuse of dozens of girls and women. Social media and private conversations have forced this week's conversation where we try to answer "why is so hard to believe the experience of a Black woman?"
A seemingly simple bad attitude has had its place in most of our lives, whether it is the result of a bad day or tough season . But how often do we connect our occasional outburst with past trauma or unmet needs as child. This week's confession deals exactly with that. A woman born & raised in New York shares how bad attitude was not only connected with failed childhood expectations but also created a losing season for her.
How on God's green earth did I reach 30-something years old without ever purchasing or using a condom? Well, I became serious about my walk with God in college, and committed, the best I could to this particular lifestyle. So at the maximum, the only people I would even begin thinking of any sexual activity would be serious long-term boyfriends, which are now, closer to 0 than 5. This is why we are here today: My first time using condom. It involves Kala, my new stylist, a project I'm working on, and well, God. Listen up:
The fun never stops when Cam & Dani get together! Twerkfest!!! Divine Revelation! Cackling! All in one conversation (maybe even a 90's rap)! This is the second installment of Cameo's & Danielle's monthly chats where you can eavesdrop on their nothing short of amazing conversation !
This week we learn:
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Just because someone loves does not mean they can handle you. We all have people who love us to life, want the best for us AND they simply don't have the capacity to handle our life experiences and what challenges are in front of us.
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Cameo's Mom plays no game. I don't even understand why this has to be stated as a point. It's like saying the sky is blue.
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Pay Me What You Owe Me! - You adverse life experiences OWE you wisdom, knowledge, and credentials.
The pain of marrying the wrong person is worse than your fear of not getting married before a certain age. These are the words of 36 year old women who's now on her second marriage. In this candid confession she shares the raw truth of what it was like marrying the wrong person, the pain, the signs, and the reconciliation.
I just hit my 35th year and for the first time ever, I woke up sad, very much in a ho-hum mood. This was extremely shocking to me as I have never experienced this, especially out of seemingly no where. But much to my dismay, there I was - in my feelings. Why?
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These Got Dang Ole expectations!
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I talk way too much (I guess this why I am in this profession! Ha!)
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It's all about and not about me at the same time.
Listen I share how these 3 life lessons that are changing my life!
Queen Mother Ebony Janice, self- titled black girl extraordinaire, confesses “I am, we are all trash. It is a reminder for me to keep the vilest version of myself at the tip of my memory.”
In this conversation she will reminds you of your humanity. How we are all merely walking on tight rope through life relying on grace, trying to make it, trying to figure it ou,t and some of time we suck at it, and its ok. But we gon’ be aight!
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Cookies vs. Masturbation IS THE SAME THING (Gotta listen to understand)
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Jesus was not a black woman 2018
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We’re trash & God loves us
We learned that while many individuals have sincere heart to see women live their best life, so times people just get it flat footed wrong.
This lesson comes at a cost. A cost of lived experience. A cost of applied practical advice that has failed, not once, not twice, not even three times, but too many times to count.
What we are talking about
- Cameo’s pissivity - Spell check tried to change that to passivity. I SAID WHAT I SAID
- God doesn’t love you more because you’re married.
- You think you know what’s best for me. You don’t.
We are at a pivotal point in this nation as we begin to truly examine the moral fiber in which something is judged to be right or wrong, specifically around sexual assault, sexual harassment, and the heinous crime rape. The Bill Cosby sentencing, Brett Kavanaugh hearings, and even the Nassar trial has forced the country to face the stories of survivors, the protection of the elite, and the reality of a blissful ignorance of a few. So how did we get here?
Join me as I explore this topic in transparent conversation with three men about what they have been taught, experienced, and learned about sexual assault.
I have always, I mean always, found peace and contentment in my solitude. I enjoyed it. I sought it out. I needed it. It allowed me to process thoughts, heal, and recenter. But this week my solitude was misplaced and I discovered was truly loneliness. Listen as I share how I discovered what I have dreaded becoming, lonely and what I learned in the process.
There are emotional issues we deal privately because we are often times embarrassed, ashamed or simply just don't know. This week's confession deals with anxiety head on, as Shanise Ollie, owner of Belle Rebel Boutique, brand builder, wife , mother, and minister shares her confession. She says she prayed, she fasted, and read and it didn't work.
It wasn't until a recently relationship that I realized that I still hated my ex. The hurt, emotional abuse, and defense mechanisms were showing up in current relationships. It wasn't until I "disarmed" that I realized I still had healing to do! Listen to my confession about how I realized, "I still hate my ex"
For the first time, I gave myself heart flutters. Yes, me, gave my own self heart flutters. This feeling I've only expected from an external source like a romantic interest, a pat on the back from the boss, a mentor supporting you, etc..but never myself. It was only in the moment of writing about myself that I discovered I should have been giving myself "heart flutters" all along. Listen as I share how I gave myself heart flutters, the 3 reasons why its soooo important to love on yourself, and why I was whispering in the park..LOL.
We hear a lot about “the list” or “non-negotiables” for your future life partner/husband. It's a list of 159 million characteristics you desire or require for your spouse to have. After my daily regular walk and talk with God, I was prompted with the question, "Cameo do you have a list for the type of wife you want to be?" Listen to this week's podcast, as I share the top 4 revelations of why having a listen for yourself is crucial!
Well, I've learn, too many times to count, that God is smarter than me. So I went with it and simply followed where my spirit was leading. Which was, my dad is still showing up in my romantic relationships...in an unhealthy way. In this confession I share: 1) How I discovered my own childhood trauma - who knew?!? 2) The truth about my role in my "unwanted" extremly intense short term relationships 2) How my Obedience played a role in someone else's healing
This past weekend my cousin celebrated her 29th birthday at an Air BnB in Ludington, MI. Oh the conversations we had! There was learning, laughing, and a few reality checks. What we talked about: - Us: Black Women what we accepted and culture vs the truth - Approaches to dating: The Roster vs. One Man at Time -Interracial dating
This is one of the most transparent, straight forward interviews this month. Nancy Reed, a mother of 3 and a regional account director for a pharmaceutical company thrives on a transparent relationship with her 3 beautiful children and a no judgements approach to life. Throughout her life Nancy has seen her fair share of foundational changes both in her family and personal life. #GoodGirlRadio #JudgeUsIfYouWant In this candid interview, she shares why the statement "Life changes and nothing stays the same" stands most true today than ever before. What we learned: CHANGE 1. Nancy's familial identity changed at the age of 23 2. Nancy's cultural identity changed at 23 3. Nancy is a grounded woman! #TakeNotes
She has been challenge self-doubt, low self-esteem, and even living someone else's dream. On this week's Good Girl Radio podcast, ReeJade Richmond, the business & legal strategist at Search for Her Existence and self titled, dialysis patient turned boss, shared candidly, despite her perceived success, that there was time she wasn't confident in who she was. Listen to the transparent, raw truth of her story to success. What we learned: 1. We all have a facade. We do not have it all together. 2. Everyone will not understand and support your journey. 3. You see and end product. You don't know the process.
I guess somewhere along the way from being a toddler to growing into a woman, I forgot that my mom was independent of her children. Take a listen to the unfiltered conversation between my mom and I about boundaries and "managing her." What I learned: 1. I really don't know my mom, like I thought I knew my mom 2. We made my mom fill incapable 3. My mother has so much more to give professionally, socially, and emotionally
The top three reasons (excuses) I hear about not seeing a mental therapist are 1) I don't need it 2)I can't afford 3) God got me. This conversation with mental health therapist Danielle Moore of the Refresh Wellness Center offers a perspective that may change that.
I was ready to risk it all and lay hands on two random humans (that's the best noun I can muster up right now). Gratefully, this instance of fighting, as a professional women, isn't an isolated incident. Basically, I'm not the only one :-D . Holly Daniels, a fellow professional woman, joins me in this conversation! She shares her story of fighting the good fight multiple times and why she will continue (well not a quickly).
Good Girl Radio has a new partnership with Capital Area Women's Lifestyle Magazine! Once a month have a intimate conversation with the Capital Area Women's Lifestyle Magazine cover girl. This month we are chatting with Ashlee Willis. She shares her the truth about her role as mother, wife, and business owner, the judgements, celebrations, ups and downs. Ashlee is the founder of Lansing Mosaic, which highlights small businesses and minority entrepreneurs in the Lansing area. She's also the owner of Michigan Premier Events which is a full service corporate event planning company.
This past week, my friend and I, had the awesome opportunity to travel through the Caribbean with our job (ETA)! We were feeling Ahh-mazing, with the wind in our hair and sun against our back, and looking great BUT we were reminded of the fact that - WE SINGLE YA'LL! Single & saved (hate that phrase!) We love God! And being real about your walk with God presents its challenges that are bodies don't necessarily agree with- WE CAN'T HAVE SEX! Listen to the unfiltered conversation about wanting, needing, and not having sex in St. Thomas.
We're back with the heart of Good Girl Radio- Confessions! We firmly believe every Good Girl has a confession and the only way to grow, heal, and move forward is by being honest with yourself or confessions. Listen to the Cameo's first confession of the year!
Three young women, one huge city, and nowhere near enough time. On Saturday, May 14th two cousins embarked on a four hour trip to Chicago to pick their baby cousin up from college and spend a night in the city, and boy did they have a time of it! From spontaneous shopping trips to an interesting evening out, this segment of Good Girl Radio explores from three unique standpoints what it means to be a sexual person, and reflects on the lessons learned in Chicago!
After having conversations with men all over this country, Dr. Sean Holland tells the raw truth of what men are experiencing while dating. These are men who are truly seeking a long term relationships. He shares exactly what’s going in a man’s head and heart while he’s single and searching. Ladies, ever wish you could just pry open his head and read his thoughts what’s going in his head? Guys, ever wonder if you’re alone in your concerns when searching for that one special woman? We’ll this conversation could be a start. Here’s what we are talking about
There's nothing like hearing the authentic voice of men when comes to dating. No games, no hesitancy, no guards up -- just the simple raw truth. This week, that's exactly what you'll hear. After talking with guys from all over the country, Pastor Sean Holland gives the unadulterated truth from the brothas who are searching for the love of their life. He's sharing the truths about what real men experience - the good, bad, and ugly - while searching for the real thing. This is part one of a four part series on what both men and women are experiencing on the dating the scene.
Do you identify with the label "bad b!tch?" Do you get an ego boost when someone refers to you in that manner? Do you aspire to be everything that comes along with being what mainstream media currently defines as a bad b!tch? We'll let me warn you, all that glitters isn't gold. If you don't know, the phrase bad b!tch has been redefined as a superwoman of sorts, a mythological woman that has it together on all levels from her household, to her business, to her emotions, to her sexuality - everything is always in check and on point. Now let's be clear, I'm not referring to the use of the word that's been used dehumanize woman. The manner in which artist Queen Latifah's rejects it's definition in the famed song U-N-I-T-Y where she laces the background with the question "who you calling a b!tch?" The use of b-word here is self-proclaiming, affirming, and even empowering by some measures. But is the term and all that comes along with it healthy? In part 2 of "The Implications of being labeled the Bad B!tch" we explore the real health concerns that a simple title brings to the modern day woman. Listen as Doc Bintu, licensed physician and founder of Heart Beats & Hip Hop, illustrates how a single label is connected to our social, emotional, and physical health.
What exactly is a bad bitch? Colloquially it’s a woman who is remarkably exceptional in every area of her life. She excels in the workplace, manages her home, is sexually appealing, and is revered in social circles for hard work ethic and accomplishments. I heard the phrase used to acknowledge the “greatness,” the prowess, the amazing conquering abilities of women of all types of walks of life from the hood to the White House. So how could a word that is used to uplift be so damaging? Because it is a myth. A bad bitch feeds the narrative of the mythological super woman specifically black woman that can do all things – hold her man down, bring home the bacon, make the bacon, be a sex kitten, and the list goes on. But the one thing that this mythological creature fails at maintaining is her health. This bad bitch and the women that aspire to be her are literally dying. Internal Health Physician & Hospitalist, Doc Bintu, of Heart Beats & Hip Hop shares the correlation of the aspiration of becoming a bad bitch has with a declining health of women who embrace & embody the term. Listen to our frank conversation as we journey through the history of the word bitch, how it evolved in hip hop culture, how women reclaimed the word, and now, how it effects our mental, emotional, and physical health.
For the most part, we agree that in order to lose weight the equation is simple: Eat right & exercise - consistently. Now this is barring any type of medical conditions that can prohibit weight loss - like perhaps a thyroid issue. But one important factor that many doctors, experts, or even women who have reached the goals of healthy lifestyle have failed to address, is an emotional wound that is often tied to the weight gain. Thus the weight loss is ultimately tied emotional healing . This week on Good Girl Radio, a women shares how she discovered why she continued incessantly struggling to lose weight year after year, program after program, and trainer after trainer. She says not until recently did she connect her struggle with an emotional wound. Listen as she confesses how her battle with weight loss goes much deeper than the physical.
Oh how we love the Facebook pictures of expecting couples! Everything from the extra pair of too cute booties to the first born wearing a "I'm going to be a big brother or sister" shirt or the classic man holds wife bare belly pic...but how much work really went into making that baby? Much to my dismay... A LOT! The mere fact that you are if reading this, is a miracle. Dr. Carole Kowalczyk of The Michigan Center for Fertility & Women's Health says there is only a 15% chance per month that a woman will get pregnant. That's a very small window. So what exactly goes into baby-making? Spoiler alert: It's not just we get married, have sex, badaboom badabing - then the woman's stomach grows for 9 months. For a lot of couples it's tough. Listen as we chat with Dr. Kowalczyk about the issues many couples have with conceiving - both men & women. It's not just a woman's issue. This conversation is only one out of many where we want to have a very conversation on the realities of conception for many couples. Listen as we discuss how you know when and if you're having fertility problems.
Being married to a man in the public's eye has its fair share of challenges. Challenges that some couples handle gracefully and others struggle until they find a sweet spot. But just as difficult and unique as those challenges may be, they can also produce a relationship so deep and so connected extraordinary love that only the heavens could separate the couple. In Part I of Extraordinary Love Dr. Sephira Shuttlesworth shares some of those very details of her self-described extraordinary love to the late civil rights icon Fred Shuttlesworth known as one the Big Three civil rights leaders that included Dr. Martin Luther King, Ralph Abernathy, and and Fred Shuttlesworth. In this intimate conversation, she dishes not only how she "caught the big fish" but also how she prepared herself for the man who was described as most feared man by southern racist by a 1961 documentary. She says, "God knows what you need when you need it." Even though graciously shared some of her newest revelations, even up until this morning, about her marriage ...I was still without a doubt nervous. I got sweaty, heart skipped a few beats, and voice quivered (you may hear it ...lol) but I must say it was worth it! Listen as she describes her extraordinary love with Fred Shuttlesworth. A man, 36 years her senior, who she says wanted her to prove her love.
There are very few people who intimidate me. Situations have intimidated me. Speaking engagements, without a doubt, have provided a healthy dose of intimidation. And definitely, career opportunities have knocked some fear in my nary hips. But people? nahhh. But oh contrar! During this show, that all changed. I've learned that people are people with a common need of love and God (one in the same). But when I met Dr. Sephira Shuttlesworth, my spirit was quieted, almost silenced, and I simply had no words. She had both and so much more- most overtly extraordinary black love. Dr. Shuttlesworth is spent the earlier part of her life creating history without even knowing it by desegregating her local elementary school in 1965 in Jackson, MS. She's also the wife to described in a 1961 CBS documentary as "the man most feared by Southern racists," Rev. Fred Shuttlesworth. The history books titled Rev. Shuttlesworth along with Dr. Martin Luther King, and Ralph Abernathy as the Big Three. In part I of this insightful, humbling, eye-opening conversation, Dr. Sephira Shuttlesworth says "God prepares us for what he has for us." She shares the realities and some intimate moments of her life with the civil rights icon Fred Shuttlesworth in what she described as an explosion and an extraordinary love.
I finally got to the point of describing the men's perspective as sexist. Straight up, no chaser...sexist. This only came after barely scratching the surface in Part 1 of this conversation on double standards. I wanted to confront why two men where adamantly defending a non productive societal lie that's destructive to relationships and humans in general - double standards. Specifically in this context it's whe idea of not allowing a woman the freedom to error and be human but rather holding her to the mistakes of her past. This clearly a struck chord.
Have you ever had that one friend that responded to a conversation with a comment that was so egregious comment about double standards you had go into prayer? Or the comment concerned you so much that paused and politely asked for clarification. And even after the clarification you chuckled, stopped, and said, "You're not serious, are you?" We'll that's how this conversation began. On a Saturday night, over garlic & BBQ chicken wings and a bean burger with four single folk at a table - two guys and two girls. There was the right perspective perspective both women at the table held and the perspective both the men held. The center of the conversation were double standards specifically was whether you would date someone with the same past as you.
On Part II of "I'm friends with the other woman" Keesha shares her remarkable story of becoming friends with the woman whom her husband had an affair with. In this conversation we learn the real raw process of forgiveness. Keesha details some of the contents of a letter the other woman wrote to her. Much to the dismay of many, Keesha says the letter was essential to the healing process. But before the healing began, many other characteristics rightfully reared their ugly head publicly - anger, frustration, hate, and animosity - just to name a few. She was not ashamed to let the world know how she felt! The angst toward the woman ran so deep that Keesha even says that she felt responsible for some of the medical issues the woman faced during her pregnancy. But after listening, learning, and laughing from this conversation, we know it's such a beautiful & freeing thing when we can forgive some of the most hurtful acts that leave the deepest emotional scars. It's beautiful because the act of forgiveness not only saves the offended from that sweet bitterness but it also heals. Through the continuation of the conversation in Part II: I'm friends with the other woman, we learn the real raw process of forgiveness.
Forgiveness can be one of thee most difficult things to do in life. It is lauded by many as the way to go or the righteous and noble task to undertake. But what happens when the offense is especially egregious or heinous? What happens when a scared bond is broken or covenant is shattered? Is forgiveness still warranted? Is the offended still required to take on the arduous and emotional lamenting process of forgiveness (yes it's a process)? We'll just imagine for a moment that your spouse cheated and for some reason or another you are asked to forgive the other woman. What do you do? That's what this conversation is about. One woman goes as far as becoming friends with "other woman." Yes, you read that correctly, friends. It's one thing to forgive your spouse in this situation but to extend a hand of fellowship to the other soul...that is nothing but God himself in human form! This is why we are so intrigued by this story. Last week, we reposted the couple's love story, He Cheated. She Stayed. Deeper In Love... revealing the raw truth of the effects of an affair but also how their love grew deeper. But it wasn't until after the show when Keesha, the wife, reveal she sent the other woman gifts and talks with her regularly. After we picked our lip up off the floor, we had to do a follow up! Listen as we chat with one woman who not only forgives her husband after infidelity but extends a hand in grace to become friends with the other woman.
In the final part of the 3-part series "He cheated. She stayed. Deeper in love, " I asked the couple a very straightforward question - how did cheating make their relationship better? Their answer was just as straightforward. They said, "we dropped the facade." In the conversation we learned that couple kept up a continuous facade to their family & friends that their marriage perfect but the fictitious smiles and gazes of love only added to their problems. The husband, DeMadison, was also forced to face the reality of the decision he made to cheat on his wife. He shares how he reconciled his decision with himself, his wife, and God. Through his candid conversation he takes us step by step in what had show, do, and be to repair the damage. Through this couple's love story, we learn what it truly means to be in a healthy committed realtionship. The couple even challenges those may be experiencing a similar situation to not only give everything you but also stand in the midst of the storm. Listen to part 3 of "He cheated. She stayed. Deeper in love," where two lovebirds both talk about the residue of cheating while in a committed relationship.
Usually cheating is the "out" for couples who make a vow & commitment to love until death do you part. Cheating is thee ultimate deal-breaker in the commitment and covenant both individuals gave before family, friends, and God. Cheating is the one thing that even the bible says "you are free to go." And obviously we are paraphrasing here. But for one couple, ending the marriage wasn't an option. In part 2 of "He cheated. She stayed. Deeper in Love." Keesha Fife explains why she decided to stay. In the very transparent conversation she opens up about the stages of anger, hurt, and constant forgiveness to get to her happily ever after. In the process, she was forced to accept her role in the affair. She says, "O, Girl that was a long road. I didn't look in that mirror at first. I threw some pots, pans, flowers...I wanted to jump on some skulls." If you were in the room during the conversation you would clearly see & feel that their love is stronger than ever. It's only in part 2 of this series where we learn the defining moment for the couple. We learn the exact question every couple should ask when they are faced with a decision in their relationship that can be life altering. So ladies and gents, get ready for part 2 of this intimate revealing conversation.
When two people make a conscious decision to be in a committed monogamous relationship, that commitment is grounded in the belief that the relationship grows and is sustained because the spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy. Therefore when that intimacy is breached, trust is broken, and the relationship suffers. That's why for the majority of couples , cheating is the deal breaker. Whether it's emotional or physical it's that one rule you simply don't break. This week we decided to resurrect this oldie but goodie 3- part series interview where a married couple had to face the reality of infidelity in their marriage. There are so many pieces of wisdom in this raw interview that individuals who want a relationship, are in a relationship, want to be married or are married can get their life! Through this unabashed conversation, we learned that there are many misconceptions about what it takes to be and maintain a healthy committed realtionship. Forgiveness, responsibility, acceptance, trust, patience, patience, patience, did we say patience? The love story of this couple is nothing short of amazing. As you'll soon hear, it did not come easy. The deepest part of their love story came after he cheated and she stayed. Listen to part one of the failure and success of one couple's love story.
"This is heavy." Those are the words of 30 something year old "Britney" while sharing the her confession. Britney went from being a 28 year old virgin dedicating her life to God to sleeping with two men in the same day. She says that one reason that contributed to what she describes as a downfall, was the nature of previous relationship, where she was never good enough. As we edited and listened to this interview we learned two very important things. 1) We will now welcome anonymous confessions. 2) There are several factors that push us & keep individuals in unhealthy relationships. Britney's story highlighted our need to feel wanted, our ability to silence the voice of God (some may call it conscious, gut, Holy Spirit), and the reality of consequences of our actions. Her confession is heavy. It did not end on a light note. It clearly illustrated the weight of our choices. Britney's confession can be a cautionary tale for some or a way to identify exactly what has happened or is happening to you emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Even with everything that has been said and done, as cliche as it may sound, It's not over. There is always beauty in our darkest places. Britney may have not found the beauty yet but it is there. It's the fact that her story will forewarn and speak to someone that they are not alone. Listen to Part II of Britney's Confession as she explains exactly how she transition from a virgin to two guys in the same day:
This week a woman, who we are calling Britney, confessed that she was a 28 year-old virgin who transitioned to sleeping with two men in the same day, in the morning and evening. Britney has always described herself as a woman who dedicated her life to God, through ministry , family, and her everyday actions but somewhere along the way things changed. In the candid interview Britney shares why she begin to subtly push back her boundaries of sex outside of marriage. She unabashedly describes the "situationships" as both the pleasure & fun and toll & nagging on her physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Grammy-Nominated music producer, Brandon Williams, details one the most difficult experiences in his life on part II of our conversation. Not only does he share two confessions but he describes how he made it through a difficult medical diagnosis. But don't let Brandon's seriousness fool you! He manages to get a few chuckles in and even challenges Cameo to sing!
Grammy nominated producer & Detroit native, Brandon Williams graces the airwaves of Good Girl Radio this week! Brandon has worked with a diversity of artist from gospel great Vickie Winans to rapper Jada Kiss to Janet Jackson and Erykah Badu, just to name a few. He is the protege of legendary producer Michael Powell (Anita Baker). In our very candid interview he shares about the failures of current R&B music but also about one of the darkest moments in his life.
In part II of American Masculinity and it's lies, we are delving further into the conversation from free film screening of The Mask You Live hosted by MSU's Women's Resource Center last week. Today we sit down with a 29 year old man, who during his collegiate career was emerged in the hyper-masculine culture as a Michigan State University athlete. Jeremy Orr reveals how "being a man" by America's standards actually hindered some of the best things in life.
Last week about 400 people packed in Michigan State University’s Kellogg Center Auditorium to for free screening of The Mask You Live In. It’s a film that explores American Masculinity. The films director argues society’s narrow definition of what it means to be a man is having a host of unintended consequences, ranging from substance abuse to violence to rape. As partner with MSU’s Women’s Resource Center, we wanted to take the conversation further. Listen as we chat with two of panelists in two-part series as they reveal the painful and even detrimental effects of the American definition of masculinity on their lives.
Part II: This week, a minister of one thee most historically traditional churches, opens up with his confession on the approach to homosexuality. He shares how God dealt with him and homophobia. In Part II of “I was homophobic”, he delves into the theology of the high profile case where a bakery refused to sell a cake to a homosexual couple.
Christians in mainstream media, by in large, have ignited the tension and fueled the fire of homophobia. Some may even say it is housed in the heart of Christians who supposedly profess the deepest truest love of Christ. This week, a minister of one thee most historically traditional churches, opens up with his confession on the approach to homosexuality. He shares how God dealt with him and homophobia.
After we've let go of pride, ego, and all that our parents warned us about, we can easily be consumed with bitterness after a breakup. We've given our all and nothing can salvage what we once thought was our everything. Listen to Part II of "I'm the Bitter Ex-Girlfriend." As one woman explains how she sifted though her bitterness to get to the heart of the matter.
Ex-girlfriend, a title that for many women, is a right of passage into womanhood. Often times it carries a load of lessons learned, discoveries of oneself, an unearthed soul, and regrettably bitterness. The bitterness that stems from a breakup usually leads to a path of stunted emotional growth and a false sense of emotional security. Listen as a dear friend of mine reveals her confession of being the bitter ex-girlfriend.
How does your ideal relationship function? Is it two separate lives co-existing growing to become one? Is it trusting one another to be the best person possible – sacrificial, unselfish, and serving? One woman contends a part of a healthy relationship is being dependent on one another. We ask the question “are you missing a deeper level of love in your relationship by being too independent ?” Listen as one of Good Girl Radio’s blog contributor’s defends her position of not wanting independence in her relationship.
For many women, the idea of being unattached and dependent to any person, thing, or entity is an ideal and coveted lifestyle. It is the the paradise of life! It sets you free from the very real disappointments, expectations, and frailty of human promises. It also inflates your ego! But for others, the idea of being an "independent woman" is a hinderance within a relationship and community, specifically communities of color. Listen as we explore one of Good Girl Radio's blog contributor's confession of "I really don't want independence."
The baby boomers are giving it to us! This is part II of "The top three things you should know before 2015 is over!" We asked women 50 and up to consider the current cultural & political climate and then dish out their best advice. For part II of this week's show, Good Girl Radio correspondent, AJ Weeks, gets personal with two sisters plus we hear Momma King remind us about "staying woke."
We are kicking off the Fall Season of 2015 by asking women baby boomers for their top three pieces of advice we need to know before 2015 is over! We asked them to consider the current cultural & political climate. For the first show Cameo King got the perspective of a representative of the church and judicial system. Listen as Elect Lady Dorothy Duncan of Southwest Third Ecclecastiacial Jurisdiction, about 20 church across Michigan, and District Court Judge Amy Ronayne Kraus gives their top advice before 2015 is over.
What mothers advise their children to do in public and private are two different things. More often than not, the advice given behind closed doors is the best and most life-altering advice. In Part 2 of "What my mom really tells me..." we are hearing the closed-door wisdom from mothers across the nation.
On Sunday, we will celebrate our mothers and motherly figures that have helped us navigate the rugged terrain of life. The words of wisdom, vow of protection, and nurturing care are by far the most recognizable attributes of our celebrated mothers. But we sometimes forget those very transparent moments that's a reminder of humanity and lived-experience of moms. Listen as Cameo King chats with her mother about top three surprising pieces of advice.
The unfortunate fact remains that it is still taboo to talk openly about the sexual health of women. No matter how hard we try, normalizing a woman's gynecological health seems far fetched and uncouth even in 2015 amongst grown women. So we are doing our part to have honest conversation about what goes in and out and everything in between. Listen to part 2 of the "The top questions you've always to ask your OBGYN," where Cameo King shares her experience as well as some questions from listeners. Comment Below!
For the most part, we know and understand the basics of the human anatomy. We understand when our bodies are operating as they should or when it may be a little off. But for some reason or another, we may be maybe more inclined to consult WebMD rather than an actual physician when it comes to vaginal health. Well this week we put in a little work for you and decided to ask a certified OB-GYN some of those embarrassing, tough, and sometimes uncomfortable questions.
The very essence of who people are rest in our friendships. Our friendships cultivate us, direct us, and define us. But what happens when there is a rift in our deepest friendships? Listen as one woman share's how a small crack in the foundation of true friendship developed in something much deeper.
Who our friends are and what a true friendship is can easily hold two drastically different definitions. Even more, discovering that fact can be a painful journey. This week on Good Girl Radio, a 34 year old woman shares how and why she's just now understanding what is means to be a friend.
On Sunday, the First Lady of the United States, Michelle Obama joined millions of Americans in celebrating black women at 2015 Black Girls Rock! Black Girls Rock! is an opportunity to uplift "black excellence and challenges narrow and archaic understandings of black art, black life, and black womanhood." As expected, FLOTUS' inspiring speech during 5th TV Broadcast reminding black girls that they are beautiful, came with criticism. Listen to part 1 and part 2 of this week's show, as we attempt to deal with the tension of unapologetically maintaining who you are when you're in the minority.
"No matter who you are, no matter where you come from, you are beautiful." Those are the encouraging words of Michelle Obama to the attendees of the 5th TV broadcast Black Girls Rock! Black Girls Rock! is an opportunity to uplift "black excellence and challenges narrow and archaic understandings of black art, black life, and black womanhood." Unfortunately there is tension around celebrating and maintaining one's identity as a black women. Listen as we attempt to parse out the tension and delve deeper into the topic of power, assimilation, and cultural identity.
We are ending the three part confession series- "If there was one thing I could change…" on high note. There are far too many choices, if given a second chance, we would change. This last woman we spoke to shared a universal truth that can be applicable to our lives. This truth will make the journey to finding ourselves and our purpose a little bit more fulfilling. Listen
couple This is part 2 in the three part confession series- "If there was one thing I could change…" This past weekend I had the opportunity to ask three women, "If there was one thing you could change in your life what would it be?" There responses were raw honesty. Listen to part two where a woman opens up about submission in a marriage.
In life, you will mess up (period). Error, mistakes, royal flubs are simply a part of living. If grace is present, it can be a part of learning as well. This week we'll hear from three women who are learning from their mistakes. I talked with each of them during Rhama Word House Ministries annual "A Spirit of Giving" conference in Lansing, MI. The conference goal is to birth deliverance from life's burdens. I had the opportunity to ask each woman, "If there was one thing you could change in your life what would it be?" This is the first in the series of three conversations.
Without a doubt, communication is the key to a healthy and successful relationship. Unfortunately in many romantic relationships, men are traditionally silent. But why ? Dr. Sean Holland of Epicenter of Worship and President of I am E2E, an organization equipping individuals to move to the next level, shares in detail the thoughts, needs, and desires of men when they are silent. Listen to Part 2 of "Are You Robbing the voice of Your Man?" and learn the heart rhythms of your man, husband, or boyfriend when he is silent.
A man's silence on the nature of his relationship can speak volumes. It has ripple effects crossing generations. However women, more often than not, are unapologetic in speaking on the greatness, perks, both ups & downs of being in committed relationship. This week we are having a conversation with Dr. Sean Holland, pastor of Epicenter of Worship and president of I am E2E, an organization that equips people to go to the next level. After a social media post erupts on this very topics, Dr. Holland shares with us why men feel silenced in their relationships. Listen as we peel back the layers of how a woman could possibly be robbing the voice of their man.
Listen to Part 2 of the Good Wife as Shanell Henry, Lansing mother of three, shares her confession of merely being a "good wife."
Good is basic, just enough, and slightly better than average. And it's understandable that after 18 years of marriage, one can make peace with "good." But listen as one woman confesses why her role as a "good" wife isn't good enough.
More often than not we get upset, tight-lipped, or "salty" when some of our closest friend offer a healthy dose of honesty. We initially may want to deny the truth but if we receive it, it will only help us grow. Listen to part 2 of "When Your Friends Call You Out..." where Cameo King sits down with one of her close friends who told the truth about her "issues."
After being solicited by a pastor to participate in an affair and offered by the pastor's wife to abort her unborn child, Kim Pratt reveals the depth of her hurt. Listen to part 2 of "I was hurt but never healed," as Kim shares what lengths she went to numb the pain.
Being hurt is a necessary "evil" in life. It happens to the best of us. How we heal from the hurt can determine the quality of future relationships and our lens in life. This week on Good Girl Radio, recording artist and lyricist, Kim Pratt, reveals how she was hurt in what many consider a safe-haven, the church. Listen as Kim shares her story of preaching healing, but never being healed herself.
Former State Representative of 68th House district of Michigan, Joan Bauer, shares her confession with us this week. Her decorated career as the Director of Volunteer Services for the Ingham Regional Medical Center, Lansing City Council person, teacher, and public servant has created a well-respected public persona of wise, smart, hardworking woman, but Joan confesses, she's at place, as a 64 year old woman, she didn't expect to be. Listen.
For some, loss is a life-altering setback. It stagnates us, changes our countenance, and may leave many of us depressed with very little hope. But Dr. Renee Canady, the CEO of Michigan Public Health Institute, has a different perspective on a major loss. Listen to how four major losses in her life propelled her to new levels in Part 2 of leveraging your losses.
Loss of a loved-one, relationship, career or even a beloved material possesion is usually preceded by unbearable pain- an emotion we would prefer not to experience again. But Dr. Renee Canady, the CEO of Michigan Public Health Institute, has a different perspective on a major loss. She chats with Cameo King about how the four major losses in her life propelled her to new levels.
We heard both sides of story, about whether the size of the engagement ring matters when it comes to loving your partner. What we heard actually surprised us! Listen as we finally put them both in each other shoes, and ask for their response, in the last of the 3-part series of "How much are you worth - the engagement ring?" It may restore your faith in love.
When it comes to making the decision to get down on one knee and ask the love of your life to commit until "death do you part" , there is a lot of pressure - pressure from family, pressure to develop the right proposal plan, and pressure to find the right ring. This week, we learned that the wrong cut, style, and clarity of ring could get you a confident no. Listen as one newly engaged man explains the role of the engagement ring in the relationship.
For some, it's "every girl's dream", to have the love of their life, humbly get down on one knee and utter those four live changing words "Will you marry me?" But what we discovered during a recent "Beauty shop" chat, what comes out that little black box can determine the answer. Listen from both a man's perspective as well as women's perspective about whether size matters in your engagement ring.
This is part 2 of Dr. Judi Brown Clarke's confession "I make no mistakes." She is an US Olympian, the Vice President of the Lansing City Council, diversity director of BEACON, a foundation that brings together biologists, computer scientists, and engineers and has worked in the academic field. Of all those accomplishments, she said she says she makes no mistakes, but most importantly she will wear the stupidest smile in her casket (with lipstick!). Listen to why.
Self-imposed limitations are the ideas and expectations we choose to follow that limit the entire person we are called to be. This week, we sat down with Dr. Judi Browne-Clarke, who by career choice, has not given into those limitations. Judi, represented the USA between 1983-1989 in the Olympics in Track & Field. She is the Vice President of the Lansing City Council. She is also the diversity director of BEACON, a foundation that brings together biologists, computer scientists, and engineers. With her myriad of diverse experiences, she has a bold confession about why she has succeeded thus far. Listen to why she says she makes no mistakes.
This is the final show in the 3 part series of silly, intellectual and even ratchet coversations with your girls. Good Girl Radio had four ladies in studio- a professor, elected official, stockbroker, and radio host - answering the questions that revealed a different side of them, their flaws. Cues Beyonce
This is part 2 of 3 of this week's show on good conversation with some of your best girlfriends. The conversation can be silly, intellectual and even ratchet. This time, all four ladies answer the question, "What is something you long for?" Listen to the responses of the professor, elected official, stockbroker, and a radio host!
There is nothing like a good no nonsense conversation with some of your best girlfriends. The conversation can be silly, intellectual and even ratchet. Listen in on the conversation between four girlfriends, a professor, an elected official, a stockbroker, and a radio host, as they answer three simple questions that reveal so much!