The Anxious Love Coach: Recent Episodes
Natalie Kennedy
Here we talk relationship anxiety, ROCD, and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your man.
End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss
In this episode, I bring one of my dearest friends and mentors, Stefi Preiss, to discuss a practice that helped me step out of relationship anxiety and commit to my partner (now husband and daddy to my baby!) with my whole heart. We discuss what a polarity looks like, how it can create healing in ourselves, our families, and ultimately — the world (especially in this heatedly escalating political environment).
We'll be co-teaching this practice in our upcoming 6-week series for women, Tension of Opposites, starting July 10th.
Discounts are available to Both Feet In students and Patrons
Hi podcast listener!
I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy.
This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast.
Work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1
Join me on Patreon (special discounts + a monthly support call where you can ask me anything and source the community for help): patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Tension of Opposites - my next 6 week series for wishy-washy women ready to claim sovereignty in their lives and know themselves more fully - July 10 - https://anxiouslovecoachschool.teachable.com/p/tension-of-opposites
A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn’t. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can’t possibly cover in one episode!
Links:
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner.
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you’re addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to reignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom. Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass
- Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
- Email List - Stay in touch As thanks for subscribing, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
- Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
How does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship. In this episode, I lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either case, if you are wondering this question, it is likely there is some unconsciousness that needs addressing.
US Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)
Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass
- Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
- Email List - Stay in touch
As thanks for subscribing, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. * Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you! Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually.
I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;)
To enroll, use this link: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
My most "meta" episode yet...
If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?
Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Questions - Me in your back pocket
Ask me anything on Wisio
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Questions - Me in your back pocket
Ask me anything on Wisio
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.
Email List - Stay in touch
I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Questions - Me in your back pocket
Ask me anything on Wisio
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace
Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community
Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
Links mentioned:
Enroll in Luci Lampe’s programs HERE: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej
After years of having doubts in my (then) 4-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving.
Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here.
Questions - Me in your back pocket Ask me anything on Wisio
Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here.
Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. Become a patron here.
In this episode: * I'm going on maternity leave. Please send me your favorite episodes — I'll be re-purposing them over the next 6 months. * A story about a viral reel that was grossly misinterpreted by both men and women, and how it was intended to be received — as well as how and why the misinterpretation didn't faze me like it would have in the past (due to judgment towards my relationship/partner) * What you're actually worried about (it's not about your partner) * How to drop the fear of judgment for good
Black Friday Sale on ALL courses until 12/9 - get 50% off! Click here to view my course list. Both Feet In is my most popular one. Use the code BLACKFRIDAY24 for 50% off all my courses. Next Patreon call: Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST/12pm EST. Become a Patron here for $5-9/month. Cancel anytime. Subscribe to my email list to keep in touch ☺️ You'll receive my free relationship anxiety meditation. Love, Nat
Today's episode was unscripted, and I shared some hard thoughts and feelings I've been having about the podcast, and where I'd like to take this podcast moving forward. I also shared some perspective shifts women in relationships with men could make, that would enable them to have more harmony with the good men in their lives. I have a workshop coming up next Sunday called Yin Language: a 2-hour dissection for women on how to communicate with men in ways they understand. Sorry I waited to the last minute to tell you. I've been feeling hesitant to speak about it on the podcast lately and I shared why in this episode. You can join 125+ women for the workshop, and the recording will be sent out to all registrants afterwards whether you attended live or not. Register for Yin Language here. Other mentions: Next Patreon community call December 14th 9am PST - click here to join Btw Wisio (my "pick my brain" service) is hosting a sale. Ask me anything and get 10% off using the code "THANKS24" Amazon book list with Queen's Code Books mentioned in this episode:
The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong
The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
Magnetic Femininity by Ali Douzet
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This episode is for you if you perceive your partner doesn't care about you, or things in your relationship that you want them to care about— OR if your partner perceives YOU don't care. Either way, you'll have some new tools to work with to have better conversations! Btw— happy 100th episode! Thanks for supporting this podcast. You guys are great. Links mentioned: Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to help you snap out of ruminating. Get that here. 1:1 Mentorship Promo - Me in your back pocket I'm offering a 1:1 promo through the month of November. 1-month intensive mentorship with 4 90-minute sessions, WhatsApp support, and my signature course Both Feet In. Get that here. Both Feet In - Get help at your own pace Get my signature program to help you pull your other foot out the door in your relationship, open your heart, and make a decision you feel proud of either way — all in your own time. PDFs, audio/video recordings, and support from other students. Get that here. Patreon - Join my community Lastly, if you love my work, please consider sponsoring me on Patreon! I appreciate it so much. I offer discounts, some exclusive content, and a monthly community support call on Zoom where you can ask me anything, for $5-9/month, cancel anytime. By the time you hear this, my November call will have already passed (but you can watch in retrospect), but our next one will be Saturday, December 14th at 9am PST. Become a patron here.
Storytime: this episode reveals the moment my whole life turned around and I chose my partner, and what I believe it takes to access a place inside of yourself where making that kind of decision naturally happens with ease and even a sense of relief. Join me for Anxious to Spacious October 24th - November 30th: 6 weeks to open your heart and transform relationship anxiety into profound love Both Feet In Self Study I also mentioned Stefi. Here is her website and offerings: www.alpenhafen.at Ask me anything on Wisio
I'd love to give you a better understanding of intuition in this episode. This is the MOST common question I receive... and before I give you the answer, I'd like to point out some issues with the question itself. You'll learn: * What intuition is and isn't * The false dichotomy you might accidentally be pigeonholing yourself into * The limitations of only doing somatic work and meditation for relationship anxiety * How to use your anxiety to communicate better
Join me on October 24th for my last womens' group for a while, Anxious to Spacious. You'll learn: - Consciousness Exercise, a practice that snapped me out of overthinking my relationship and massively upgraded my communication skills * How to process stagnant, old emotions clouding your ability to access clear thinking and intuition * How to use Consciousness Exercise to articulate your problems to your partner in a way that inspires them to want to help you rather than blame you, withdraw, and/or deflect
Sign up for Anxious to Spacious here. Prefer not to do a group, but go at your own pace? Do my self-study course, Both Feet In. Other links: * Ask me anything on Wisio * Come to my monthly community support call for $5-$9/month HERE * Podcast Ep 81: May I tell you about my miscarriage?
Ever felt anxious or embarrassed by your socially awkward partner? You're not alone and not crazy. I've got you. Here's a mental shift you can make to have more peace, and also some actionable steps you can take to support your partner in becoming more of a social butterfly. Links: * Next call (with my husband Preston!) on Patreon: October 6th at 9am PST. Questions open October 3. Become a patron HERE * Anxious to Spacious, my women's group, starts October 24th. Register HERE
Does your partner tune you out, or get defensive and withdrawn when you try to get vulnerable with them? Check you're not accidentally repelling them by doing this one thing. If you prefer to watch the IG live you can do so here
This goes for any women in relationships with men, or yin people in relations with yang people. If you find yourself feeling "off" in your relationship, it might not be you're in the wrong relationship but playing the wrong role. Here's how to flip it! Consciousness Exercise Series starts October 1st. Register here. ^ You will also need to buy course materials: my signature online course with 9 lectures, Both Feet In. If you don't have that already purchase it here. Next Patreon community support call: Sunday, October 6th at 9am PST (btw, my husband Preston will be joining me so you can pick his brain!) Join here for $5-9/month and access discounts, exclusive content, and my monthly call where you can ask me anything. Cancel anytime. Other mentions: Send me a Wisio
I'm sharing something a relationship coach shared with me that really shook me up and convinced me to step up in my relationship and quit committing to the story I was powerless to do anything about my anxiety. It may be hard for some of you to hear, but for some it may be empowering. Love is not always pleasant and nurturing-sounding. That said, there is no advice that is one-size-fits-all, so take what you need and discard what you don't.
Links:
How I broke free from relationship anxiety - episode 1
How I Broke Free from Relationship Anxiety: Revisited - episode 57
Both Feet In: Self Study Course (open to all) and Upcoming BFI Series on October 1st (open to women only— I don't have enough demand for a men's group)
Patreon: Get support in my monthly community call, view archives of past calls, and get exclusive posts and discounts! Next community call September 13th at 9am PST.
Scientific, biological, and spiritual reasons why you might feel disconnected from your partner before and during your period. I speak both to women experiencing this, and men who might want to know how to respond to this! I would like to reasure you that this dynamic is NOT a problem -- it is merely a symptom of one, and I'd like you to think much bigger at the internal imbalances at play so that you can enjoy one another all cycle long. If you get PMS, PMDD, anxiety, OCD, breakup urges strongest during your second half... this episode was MADE for you. Nat's Amazon book recomendations My previous episode of Anxious Love Coach on the menstral cycle Both Feet In: Self Study Course and upcoming 2-month BFI group series starting October 1st Patreon: next community support call September 13th at 9am PST. Bring your questions! Cancel anytime. $5-$9 a month. Join here.
In the past I've touched on this as an incompatibility, but as usual — I think it's more nuanced than that, and there are a few things you might do to try to get on the same page before you either hang up your desires or call it quits.
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After a few-months long hiatus, I’m happy to share what I’ve been up to: settling down and starting a new life. In this episode, I share some of my own humbling realities and observations of trying to conceive. Do with them what you want. I hope you find them both reassuring and illuminating.
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This episode is a recording of an impromptu Instagram Live I did last week. If you can see this pattern in yourself, you can also find freedom!
Work with me:
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- Ask me anything on Wisio and I'll make you a custom video in response within 7 days.
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
My most "meta" episode yet...
If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage?
Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode.
**Upcoming: Sex Anxiety Clinic with Shayna Hiller - A virtual masterclass to awaken pleasure, and release shame and dread in the bedroom: March 14, 2024 at 2pm PST/5pm EST. Register here.
Ask me anything on Wisio: www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
4:55 - Falling for the illusion of your partner
13:00 - Finding a partner that challenges your unconsciousness
16:35 - Two ways to improve your sex life
22:55 - Our sex anxiety clinic
If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you! I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, who is also a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. Her name is Shayna Hiller. In this episode, we will discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex especially if it's gotten stale in the bedroom. You're not alone; No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!
Register for the Sex Anxiety Clinic: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sexanxietyclinic
To apply for Shayna's retreat and/or training: www.embodiedwisdomretreat.com or Shayna's website www.shaynahiller.com
Next ALC Patreon community call: Saturday, March 2nd at 9am PST/12pm EST: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach.com
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Shayna Hiller @Shaynahiller
Time Stamps:
6:52 Shayna’s long-term celibacy in her twenties
12:43 Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts
19:51 Inspiring your partner to be their best selves
26:34 Deciding that you don’t like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having
30:21 How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom
37:10 Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life
38:30 Scheduling sex
46:15 What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner
1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST
1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure
1:14:43 Shayna’s Embodied Wisdom Retreat
An underrated skill in the path of overcoming relationship anxiety: reclaiming softness, befriending anxiety, and learning to trust and follow glimmers of joy. This episode was so tender and beautiful it made me weepy. I am very grateful to present to you this episode with Jessica Fawn, yoga and tantra teacher. We spoke about seeing anxiety as a profound messenger for healing, and learning to nurture it— and what that can look like in the context of partnership.
Also, I will be joining her Temple membership, so see you there 🙂
Temple is Jessica Fawn's online school for women's softness & sensuality. Memberships start at 15$ per month. Doors open March 25-28th.
The daily schedule includes goddess tantra, art therapy, archetypal work, moon rituals, sensual dance, and self-love cultivation.
To read more about Temple: www.intothetemple.com/temple-school
Special gift for Anxious Love Coach Podcast listeners: receive 10% OFF on all plans: use the coupon code SISTERLOVE
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Jessica Fawn @jessicafawn_
Time Stamps:
4:00 - Jessica’s journey through anxiety and depression
8:40 - The power of embracing your anxiety
15:20 - What does “softness” mean in the feminine context?
19:00 - Working with a dysregulated nervous system from an embodiment perspective
30:45 - Jessica’s Temple program
If you've experienced profound healing and liberation from relationship anxiety, you may have felt the desire to pass this transformation on to others. If that's you, you're going to want to give this a listen and hear what it's like to be on the other side as a practitioner, and what it takes to hold outstanding healing space for others. Also, my dearest friend is hosting the first practitioner program of its kind that I've seen. I highly endorse this and recommend you join.
Wisio (my "Ask Nat" service): www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach - use the code LOVE2024 for 10% off through 2/20/24
Patreon: www.patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach - Next group meditation + coaching call Saturday, March 2nd 9am PST/12pm EST
For the practitioner program:
Waitlist link: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/practitioner-training
You can also email Chelsea - chelsea@healingembodied.com
Upcoming free event for those interested: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/hangout
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Chelsea Joy Horton @Healingembodied
Time Stamps:
8:00 Chelsea and Natalie’s paths into relationship anxiety and embodiment work
12:05 Downsides of working in the world of therapy
18:30 How Chelsea’s current work differs from traditional therapy
38:15 Creating a “human first” business
45:00 Chelsea’s practitioner training program
Two things are true: 1) I am unqualified to speak on ERP and OCD and 2) I am sharing my thoughts about ERP for those that still want to hear them even though I am unqualified.
What is ERP (Exposure & Response Prevention)? How helpful is it for those with relationship anxiety? What are its strengths and limitations? In this episode, I'll share my thoughts on this treatment.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is Sunday, February 11th at 8am PST/11am EST.
https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
5:04 What is ERP (exposure response therapy)?
9:34 The dangers of disassociating
13:00 What is polarity work?
20:00 Compassionate self-inquiry
My beloved Aunt Diane sent me some tips and I don't gatekeep. Listen up!
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
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Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Hey! I'm testing out a new mic, so bear with me. 😉
If you tend to compare your partner to other people in real life or online, this episode is for you! I used to struggle with this a lot, but these tools have become second nature to me now and both my husband and I are much happier and more in love than ever.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
3:50 Grieving the lives that you were unable to live
4:40 Tips to stop comparing your relationship to those of others
13:40 Both Feet In - Abridged
So many clients of mine feel ashamed when they experience a crush while in partnership. It’s a highly charged, delicate topic! You’re not alone, and you’re not a bad partner. If you’ve experienced this, I’d like to give you some tools to navigate it ethically while also honoring your humanness. I’ll be covering 5 tips to get you from freaking out, to getting under the surface of your crush, to using it to enhance your relationship with yourself and maybe even your loved one.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged starting January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
3:50 Allowing the fantasy of the crush
5:30 What happens in your mind is private
6:40 Who we perceive ourselves to be in the fantasy
9:15 Grieving your unlived lives
12:10 Working with the tension between opposites
15:20 Acknowledging what is going right in your relationship
Trigger warning: this episode is a story. It is chock-full of triggers, pain, grief, mentions of death, blood, and gore. If you've experienced miscarriage and there are some sore spots and tenderness, I might wait until you've gotten enough support to grieve before listening to this. In this episode, I share a recent loss, and how I've coped with it through ritual, embodiment, and dark humor. I'll also share the incredible things it taught me about love, loss, and letting go...
This may not be a "relationship anxiety" episode, but for those of you who are willing to traverse with me to a darker, messier place, I'm hopeful you'll gain metaphorical, transferable lessons on self-trust from a story where I go deeper than I've ever been able to go before... you may find it applies to you deeply still if you have ever loved.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged staring January 19th: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
8:15 - Finding out that I was pregnant
13:15 - Dealing with my miscarriage
30:04 - Surrendering to and trusting the universe in the midst of fear
48:00 - My feelings after the miscarriage
1:00:01 - Gratitude as a response to adversity
I entered my relationship "knowing" Preston was the one... but then, years in, I stopped knowing anymore! In this episode, I speak to the younger version of myself that was struggling horribly with relationship anxiety. Some of you are in this place and I want to remind you that A) you're not alone, and B) you don't need to suffer with this forever. There are tools to give you clarity and support you with your doubts and fears.
Join me for Both Feet In - Abridged: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-abridged
If you need immediate support, write me a Wisio. I'll make you a 7-10 minute custom video response. Here: https://wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
We will be bumping up to 2 calls a month on Patreon when we hit 250 patrons — one for Q&A and one for meditation practice! Our next call is January 21st at 11am PST. Join here: https://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
P.S. Thanks so much for your support after my last episode... I am feeling much better. I plan to speak on my experience more in a separate episode. But for now... I'm so grateful for my life and want to keep going.
Also, I tried to make a shorter episode and failed 😄 OH WELL
Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
In this episode, I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.
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Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
4:15 Relationship anxiety as a spiritual calling
7:25 If you want to be comfortable with anxiety, you must be comfortable with loss and feeling “naked”
16:00 The myth of “when you know, you’ll know”
29:00 Being free of anxiety means you just say “yes'“ to what is
30:25 How to be with disappointment
38:15 Both Feet In - Abridged
Are you feeling an intense urge to break up right before Thanksgiving or winter break? You're not alone. It's actually very common! In this episode, I outline some common reasons behind holiday break-up urges and what you can do instead.
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Who we are: Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Time Stamps:
3:00 Breaking up and coming back to my partner during the holidays
7:40 How the holidays can bring up difficult feelings about your relationship
13:00 Wanting control over your life
19:40 What to do when you have breakup urges during the holidays
28:04 Earlybird discount for the upcoming Both Feet In coaching program
If you:
-are with someone struggling with relationship anxiety/ROCD and want to do your part...
-were broken up with because of someone's RA...
-are struggling with RA, but want to see what your partner's "work" is...
-want to look at your RA from an outsider's perspective...
... then this episode is for you!
Links:
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Irvine Oct 29 10am PST
NEXT PATREON CALL:
Nov 5 @ 11am PST Exclusive content + monthly coaching (my husband is jumping on at 150 patrons and we are SO CLOSE.)
Time Stamps:
4:26 Being the most attracted to my partner when he was more selfish
7:51 Your partner’s relationship anxiety is not your fault/this person is wounded and trying to resolve their issues through you
12:40 Tools for a person whose partner has relationship anxiety
15:14 Keep focusing on yourself
20:00 Become ok with them leaving
24:10 Let control and let your partner be without trying to fix them
28:15 There is always the option to leave
31:12 You can still stay out of their inner process while still staying in the relationship
36:50 Don’t try to control your ex-partner if they break up with you by telling them they have relationship anxiety
39:23 My upcoming Both Feet In program in January
In this episode, my friend and other relationship anxiety practitioner, Chelsea Horton over at Healing Embodied, and I share our counter-cultural relationship beliefs that have served us well and brought us deep peace in our long-term partnerships.
This episode was recorded as a joint effort - meaning it showed up on both our podcasts, and there is no formal host. Enjoy 🙂
Links:
Ask me anything and receive a 10 min video response:
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Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Join my Patreon! We host monthly meetings on Zoom
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
7:00 Taking a non-entitled perspective on relationships
12:00 Creating a culture of gratitude in your relationship
14:30 #1 saying thank you to your partner even if you deserve what he/she gives
16:00 #2 I receive what I am given (say yes to what is
25:05 #3 I don’t need my partner to have similar interests to me in order to be happy
40:15 #4 I “settled” and I am deeply fulfilled (redefine what settling means to you)
46:55 #5 Trying to make my partner what I think they should be is not love, it is control
50:55 #6 I am 100% responsible for my own aliveness and pleasure
1:01:00 #7 I am okay with my partner not being perfect and fully evolved
I really should have titled this, "10 ways Natalie is controlling." Ha! I hope you enjoy this episode. If you want to practice trusting your partner more, I give you 10 examples of ways to do this based on mistakes I've made. Listen to this episode, save your energy and breath and grant yourself relational/marital peace.
Links:
Wisio is hosting a sale! Ask me anything for 10% off: Code: FALL23
https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
2:45 Thinking of my unsolicited feedback as helpful
5:00 The difference between letting go of control and tolerating disrespect
7:56 Trying to control my partner’s bedtime and waking time
16:06 Policing my partner’s food choices
18:01 Coaching my partner when we are out having fun
20:01 Undoing what my partner does and redoing it
21:40 Sending my partner relationship advice
24:00 Making sure that my partner did what his mother asked of him
25:20 Telling my partner how to act towards his friends
26:45 Controlling how my partner cooks
29:00 Trying to have my partner open up and have a deep conversation against his will
31:55 Trying to get my partner to be more present with me
39:30 Hosting a mindful movement class in Orange County
In this episode, I share how the lack of sisterhood/brotherhood/community can contribute to relationship anxiety and dissatisfaction, and how to cultivate it.
Links:
Ask me a question:
https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Next Patreon group coaching call at Oct 8th, 11am PST/2pm EST
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
5:00 Losing the passion in your relationship
8:10 The importance of a brotherhood and sisterhood
11:00 Attempts to fill the relationship void with outside sources
15:59 Unworthiness wounds and how they prevent us from accepting love
17:30 Your man will never understand what it’s like to be a woman and you will never understand what it’s like to be a man
20:30 How a lack of sisterhood can lead to nitpicking
24:30 The Anxious Love Coach Patreon
In this episode, I share a simple question that will help you ground yourself in reality, and actually move forward with life, if you're stuck on the fence over your relationship.
Links:
Ask me a question:
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Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Next Patreon group coaching call - September 20th @ 9am:
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
2:48 Wanting to control or change my partner in order to continue in the relationship
3:58 Disclaimers about abusive relationships
7:56 Dealing with resentment in your relationship by “being on the fence”
9:45 Reasons we feel like we need to be in control of our partners
10:25 What to do when you’re on the fence
13:05 A question you can ask yourself if you’re on the fence
In this episode, I talk about the curvature of expectations held in marriage/partnership over the centuries, and how in this day and age, it is beneficial, in some ways, to lower your expectations. I also address the "alpha male" and "high value man" conversation, and why we ought to be cautious and discerning about it. If you wish your partner was more spiritual or brought home more money, this episode will bring you some perspective, and how lowering your expectations will paradoxically open you up to receive MORE than you ever dreamed of in your partnership.
Links:
Also, it’s my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31:
Conscious Communication Course:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days
Ask me a question:
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Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls:
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Time Stamps:
3:00 Being happy with a loving, nonabusive, stable partner
5:25 Having both masculine and feminine sides to yourself
7:23 Ways I would “test” my partner in the past
16:00 Wanting your partner to “be more masculine”
18:12 The dangers of seeing your relationship as a competition
25:25 My thoughts on the new Barbie film
32:00 Social messages telling us to be extraordinary
33:23 Holding a desire for the life that you want vs. having expectations of your partner
36:50 The feminine will always want more
39:45 Don’t compare your nuanced relationship to a polarizing fantasy
What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with?
It's common knowledge (especially if you listen to my podcast often) that "perfect" isn't a realistic standard to search for when choosing a long-term partner. While your choice of partner is one of the most important choices you'll ever make, it doesn't mean you're settling if you chose "good enough." The question is, where is the line between "good enough" and "settling?" In this episode, I didn't necessarily draw that line for you, but gave you some different things to think about. I am hopeful that it will bring you some clarity and material for discussing with your partner when deciding whether or not to move forward.
[I recorded this on a hot delirium of a day with no AC. I went on a tangent a couple of times. Forgive me!... or maybe you'll love them. Lol.]
Links:
Also, it’s my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31 until August 31:
Conscious Communication Course:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
Both Feet In Relationship Anxiety Course:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
Quit Comparing Your Relationship Challenge:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days
Ask me a question:
https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Evoke his Devotion 1 on 1 program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/evoke-his-devotion-1-on-1-program
Overhaul, my 1 on 1 relationship anxiety program:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/overhaul-1-on-1-program
Join my Patreon here for more content and live monthly calls:
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
1:45 Good enough versus perfect
4:00 Wanting contradictory things out of our partner
9:00 Having a “boring”/socially awkward partner
12:03 Going through different seasons of your life with your partner
16:12 Dating in your 20s vs your 30s+
19:34 Looks are important but the men who want to build a life with you will look for substance
21:00 Not knowing what you want in your 20s
24:18 Questions to ask yourself if you’re trying to figure out if your partner is “good enough” to settle down with
32:45 Women often mature more quickly than men
37:19 Dealing with incompatibilities
43:40 Being lead in your relationship in a nonabusive context
In this episode, I share how polarizing, black-and-white content on social media is pinning people against each other. I will also admit that I fell prey to this and started a fight with my husband before recording this episode. I also share what I learned from it and how I plan to do better.
Links:
Also, it’s my birthday! Take 31% off all my courses with the code BIRTHDAY31:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/quit-comparing-your-relationship-in-7-days
https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie-program
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
6:50 The fights that my husband and I have had
10:25 Some of the messages I’ve received about men from social media
15:59 The fight that we had today
22:45 How your pain can activate your partner’s pain
24:00 The importance of taking space when needed during arguments
31:50 The overwhelming fear of getting the short end of the stick in relationships
34:00 Nuanced content does not get attention on social media
36:55 Keeping the assumption that your partner loves you more than anything
41:00 Learning how to better have arguments
It's my pleasure to bring on Alex Bishop, a registered counsellor and IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapist, onto the podcast today. Alex has struggled with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety, and disorganized attachment, and can speak deeply on the experience of pushing a partner away.
In this episode, we discuss his story with overcoming ROCD, how parts work relates to relationship anxiety, the IFS model for overcoming doubts, fears, and "the ick" associated with ROCD, and some of the limitations of ERP therapy for overcoming ROCD specifically.
If you have been feeling stuck, this episode will be SO validating for you, and can help you get on the path to free yourself from the overwhelming shame and anxiety!
Find Alex over at @forloveweheal on Instagram.
Links:
- PATREON CALL w/ live Q+A: August 3rd at 10AM PST https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Time Stamps:
3:00 - Alex’s experience with ROCD
16:42 - The importance of knowing your patterns when you have relationship anxiety
19:00 - How Alex used parts work/CBT
23:00 - How psychedelics can help with relationship anxiety
26:12 - Creating aliveness for yourself in your relationship
31:00 -Therapeutic routes to help with ROCD
42:50 - The causes of attraction obsessions
56:10 - Having different experiences that we label the same thing
57:50 - The limitation of ERP: Exposure and Response Prevention
I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you’re in a toxic or abusive relationship. But that begs the question for many: how does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? In this episode, I’m going to lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious intent, and more. I am also hopeful that you will get more clarity on your situation, because in either case, if you are wondering this question, it is likely there is some unconsciousness that needs addressing.
Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Watch Your Language Masterclass: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass
- Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach CODE: summer23 for 10% off
- Conscious Communication Course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunication
Time Stamps:
9:30 My definition of abuse in a relationship
15:35 My definition of codependency in a relationship
18:01 Not trusting your partner to their own devices
20:32 Manipulating your partner in order to change them
27:50 Things in a relationship that are uncomfortable but not abusive
33:01 Is my partner gaslighting me?
34:35 What happens when you start to get happy in your relationship?
40:05 The power of saying more with less
If you’ve been preoccupied with thoughts about your ex, or are comparing your relationship to your ex, or are even grieving the un-pursued romance of a crush outside your partnership, you’re normal– and this episode is for you. In this episode, I share what these thoughts are really about (hint: it’s not the ex), and share how to use the crush-mirror to bring ourselves back onto our own papers into wholeness. I also share a vulnerable story of how I have done this for myself.
Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
- Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
- Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
Time Stamps:
5:45 Seeking out chaos when we are with a stable, level-headed partner
10:00 A story about a crush I’ve thought about for over 10 years
19:50 Finding parts from your crush/ex that are missing in yourself
23:00 The ego would love to see someone who is unavailable become available
25:45 The dangers of putting the responsibility for your aliveness on another person
29:25 How a spiritual practice can help with anxiety
Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you’ve been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you’re longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it’s going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.
Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
- Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
- Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
Time Stamps:
4:15 Feeling like your partner is the cause of your numbness
11:05 Triggers are caused by pain that is already there
12:12 Reasons why you might be feeling numbness
22:30 Being overwhelmed by stimulation and how that creates numbness
23:40 “What get’s loud when you get quiet?”
25:40 Self-care tips to deal with numbness
36:10 Prioritizing self care when dealing with anxiety
38:15 Resensitization exercise
Whether you never got to be single because you met your partner young, you’ve been in a string of back-to-back relationships, or you’re longing for the freedom that supposedly comes with the single life, this episode is for you. Yes, you can absolutely feel freedom in a relationship, but it’s going to take radical responsibility on your part for your joy and aliveness. Tune in to discover how.
Links:
- Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
- Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
- Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
- Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
Time Stamps:
2:10 Never having the opportunity to be single
4:10 Leaving your relationship to discover yourself
7:25 Self-care after a breakup
11:00 Ways to feel single in your relationship
14:48 Not being able to hook up with other people while in a relationship
19:10 Taking responsibility for your aliveness in a relationship
It's easy to focus on our partners and neglect our own “inner relationship.” In this episode, my friend Luci Lampe and I discuss the balance between our masculine and feminine sides - yin and yang - for a better partnership. We also talk about aspects of the feminine archetypes that live within all of us that are often shamed and exiled – like the “slut” and the “crazy bitch”-- and how to love and utilize these parts in ways that serve us, so we can be more authentic, free, and full of aliveness.
Links:
Enroll in Wild Eros here:
https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej
Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Wisio:
https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Apply to work with me 1:1:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
Time Stamps:
5:33 What is masculine/feminine union, and why is it important?
18:30 Collaborating in our masculine and feminine strengths
22:25 Toxic contexts for polarity
27:30 Getting sideswept by other potential partners when you are in crisis
29:00 The difference between dumping your emotions on someone and revealing your heart
31:00 The three exiled parts of the feminine: the slut, the witch and the crazy bitch
38:30 Properly integrating the exiled parts of the feminine
44:34 Being attuned to your body: a key to self trust
48:50 Coming into union with the masculine
In this episode, I share the costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you’re addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.
Links:
Both Feet In: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
Patreon - next call May 15: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach
Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach
Apply to work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie
2:28 Why do we seek assurance when we have relationship anxiety?
7:50 The hidden costs of assurance seeking
12:35 How assurance-seeking can make your partner seem less attractive to you
16:50 The importance of standing on your own two feet in terms of self-trust
20:00 The danger of becoming addicted to certainty
28:30 Healthier alternatives to assurance seeking
33:27 - Your partner is in their own process, they cannot come to your rescue
In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest hidden myths I see in society: that commitment = lack of freedom. If you struggle with commitment, I will share with you some reasons why you might be struggling, as well as some shifts that have helped me become more confident in committing with my whole heart and building a life I love and deserve.
- If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me “RETREAT” to natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com and I will send you information.
- PATREON: http://patreon.com/anxiouslovecoach
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Join Both Feet In here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course
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3:28 Why my partner found it hard to commit at first
7:00 I did pick a partner who was serious about me
8:45 Wanting to move forward for societal reasons
10:35 Moving forward will not change your relationship issues
11:45 Common fears about commitment
13:25 How judging others can lead to fears of certain outcomes in your relationship
16:19 The stakes of never committing
19:00 The importance of having a vision for your own life
20:00 The benefits of wanting what you have while still desiring what you don’t have
22:50 My desire to create a legacy for myself
25:55 Cleanin up your side of the street
28:20 Regardless of how we feel, we know we have a life to build together
30:50 None of us are missing out
32:24 How making a commitment can grant you more freedom
35:15 You don’t need to have the certainty to proceed
In this episode, I chat with a dear friend of mine and coach, Sarah Yudkin, who has been inhabiting the relationship anxiety space with me for years! In this episode, we address the following:
What is “the right” relationship and is that even the question we should be asking ourselves?
What it means to make an aligned decision
How does one discern whether or not a relationship is worth investing more time into?
Find Sarah over at www.instagram.com/youloveandyoulearn
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If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You’re not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I believe it can be done with some determination, patience, and humility. This episode can help you trust your partner (and your decisions) more, restore intimacy and closeness, and start moving you in the direction of the relationship you desire.
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5:42- Keeping your eyes on your paper and cleaning up your side of the street
6:30 -Feeling like you picked the wrong partner
10:00 - The three things I thought I could do to change my partner
16:30 - My desire for my partner to change
19:05 - Moving into the future and making empowering changes for yourself
20:25 - Your partner will not change if you try to change them
21:43 - Developing self-trust by overcoming adversity
23:00 - Imagine your inner controller who wants to control everything
24:00 - What are you afraid would happen if you stopped trying to control your partner?
26:00 - Some of the different methods of control that we use to control our partners
36:19 - The power of letting your partner make clean up their own messes
43:04 - “I will criticize my partner when I have stopped doing XYZ”
45:50 - The difference between wanting to delight you and not disappointing you
50:35 - Starting the Anxious Love Coach Patreon Fam
57:30 - Email me for more info on my Austria retreats in June and September
In this episode, I talk about the trap of “more is better” embedded in the honeymoon/vacation expectation and how that played out in our own honeymoon. It is my hope you can avoid this trap on your vacations!
If you want to attend my retreats in June or September, email me “RETREAT” at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com
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- 4:33 - Looking for the extraordinary during vacations/honeymoons
- 8:28 - The more we sit in our wanting, the more there wanting we develop
- 9:30 - A quote on the desire for a more “conscious partner”
- 12:00 - The trap of having
- 15:10 - My honeymoon experience
- 20:00 - The importance of having separate lives in your partnership
- 25:40 - Seeking extraordinary experiences and how it affects your nervous system
- 27:40 - The note that I wrote to myself (and also all of you) during my honeymoon
- 32:20 - My Austria retreats on June 12-18 and September 4-10
- 35:07 - Ask me a question on Wisio
- 39:00 - Work with me one on one
This a fun episode for you – full of metaphors and nuanced relationship advice. Enjoy!
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This episode is for those of you new to the podcast but haven’t heard my story, as well as for those of you who DO know my story, but might not know the new context around it since I’ve started Anxious Love Coach. I’ve learned a lot since running this business – and some of my perspectives have shifted over the last year that impact the messaging you may have heard from me earlier on.
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In this episode, Luci Lampe, a sex and relationship coach (who I’ve worked with personally) hops on the ALC podcast to share the 5 stages of relationship evolution. As you listen, get curious in which stage you and your partner might be in. Relationship anxiety falls into one of these categories, but overcoming relationship anxiety isn’t the end of the journey! It’s just the beginning. I hope this episode will give you insights into the long haul of the relationship journey.
You can enroll in Luci’s programs through my affiliate link here:
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Our obsession with authenticity is putting the responsibility of discerning “reality” vs. “not-reality” on creators – when this is not where our focus should be, as consumers. In this episode, I talk about how I think consumers’ obsession with authenticity has gone too far – and if we could change the conversation around authenticity, we would have less FOMO and “shoulds” and be a heck of a lot happier.
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Register for Quit Comparing Your Relationship in 7 days: A Telegram Challenge: February 8-14, 2023
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One of many reasons we may feel anxious in relationship: we’re actually feeling resentful and not communicating our needs and boundaries at all, or effectively! In this episode, I break down what boundaries are as well as what they aren’t, some perspective shifts for recovering people-pleasers, and ways to communicate your boundaries in ways that will feel like sacred gifts.
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In this episode, I talk about ‘Fear of Missing Out’ (FOMO) in partnership. In a society of (seeming) unlimited choices + constant comparison, it’s no wonder there are so many wandering eyes and anxious minds, wondering if we got the short end of the stick. I talk about a few strategies you can use to feel more confident in your decision, break the fantasy spell, and be able to more easily focus on the gift of your relationship right in front of your face.
“Emotions” like anxiety and depression are often cover emotions for deeper emotions like grief and anger – and working through our resistance to these emotions so we can arrive at our “core” emotions can help us access our calm, compassionate self. In this episode, I bring on emotions educator Hilary Jacobs Hendel, author of “It’s Not Always Depression,” to give you tangible tools for working through anxiety and depression to have a richer emotional experience.
Although we may be entering a new year, this season is still about death and endings, and if we’re resistant to that, we may experience more anxiety than usual. In this episode, I speak to how death and endings are an important piece to the conversation when we are moving out of anxiety and into a rich inner experience.
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You guys– I’m absolutely HONORED to be having Somatic Sex Educator and author, Dr. Betty Martin, on the podcast today, to be dissecting giving and receiving today. Her book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, has completely shifted how I look at my own patterns of giving and receiving in partnership, as well as expanded my intimacy skills with myself and other. A big component of self-trust in partnership is being able to articulate our desires, fears, boundaries, and to confront our belief systems on worthiness. All of which will be covered in this episode. Enjoy!
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In this episode, I cover what causes jealousy in partnership, why it isn’t something to get rid of, and how to transform it into a gift rather than a hindrance to your relationship.
BOTH FEET IN: AUSTRIA – email me. I dropped my email in the episode. :-)
You guys. I finally bought on my BEST FRIEND of 6 years, Kate Kali, a hypnotherapist and body language expert, whose work and mine are having overlap these days! EEK! In this episode, we will give you some strategies to increase attraction, captivate your partner, and add aliveness in your partnership… JUST by changing your body language. It’s a FASCINATING episode that will totally change your life. Enjoy!
Spoilers in this one :) We're talking about the unconscious, toxic patterns and problematic beliefs that appeared in moments between Nancy + Bartise, Matt + Colleen, Raven + SK and Xanab + Cole (!! ).
In this episode, I bring on one of my best friends and also colleagues sharing the relationship anxiety space to discuss the #1 question we both get asked in this field of work: Is it “just” relationship anxiety or are there legitimate problems in my relationship?
We share why this is the wrong question to be asking yourself – and what you should be asking instead. We hope to bring you a lot of clarity and nuanced ways to look at this! With all our love… we may trigger you a bit!
Follow Chelsea on Instagram HERE: @healing.embodied
Links:
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A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn’t. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can’t possibly cover in one episode!
Links:
Register for TRIGGERED TO TRUTH (5 week group program for unpacking triggers in relationship): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/triggeredtotruth
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Register for ALIVENESS FROM WITHIN (5-day women’s retreat in California): https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within
Do you find that no matter how much you learn about your relationship anxiety, listen to podcasts, read books or try to 'do the work you still feel triggered by your partner? In this episode, my amazing co-coach Sheridan and I discuss how your nervous system affects your thoughts, emotions and actions in a relationship and how to use your triggers to help you find more peace and connection in your partnership.
We also discuss our new program: Triggered To Truth - a 5-week container to unpack your triggers in relationships, feel safe loving and being loved, and drop your unconscious relational patterns. Led by Sheridan, it's our first program open for men, women and gender non-binary. We are SO excited. Learn more at www.anxiouslovecoach.com/triggeredtotruth
And, if you’re ready to join me this November 8-13th in California for Aliveness from Within… ENROLL HERE: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within
In this podcast, Sheridan (ALC's wonderful co-coach) discusses the following:
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Why reality TV (such as Love Is Blind, Married At First Sight, The Ultimatum, 90 day Fiance) based around relationships trigger you
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The truth about the contestant's emotional experience that we aren't often told.
- A 3 step process for moving through your triggers.
We'll be sharing more information on how to work through these triggers over the next few months - make sure you're subscribed to the podcast and follow us on IG @anxiouslovecoach
In this episode, I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.
Have you ever picked a fight with your partner after a Netflix binge? Has a show ever sent you down a spiral of doubts about your own relationship?
In this podcast, Sheridan (our amazing co-coach here at ALC) reviews the show How I Met Your Mother and how it might be triggering to you.
What has been helpful/triggering for you about How I Met Your Mother or other shows? Sheridan will be doing at least one or two more of these so podcast DM us over on Instagram @anxiouslovecoach your suggestions/comments.
In this dark, hysterical episode, my BFF/fellow relationship anxiety alchemist (and dance/movement therapist) Chelsea Joy Horton and I share the shadow side of nitpicking and the pleasure we might derive out of it if we were to become more conscious about it. Get ready to (maybe) get triggered and laugh your ass off as we discuss our outrageous fantasies that we get off to in real life. Definitely DON'T go follow Chelsea over at @healing.embodied on Instagram or www.healingembodied.com. It's terrible and full of wisdom you definitely don't want. And definitely DON'T go subscribe to her new podcast either. Also if you loved this episode you will definitely hate my upcoming womens' retreat in California that is open for enrollment here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within...
I’M BACK! I’ve gone through some huge transitions: got married, packed up and headed back abroad, and had a giant polarizing flip of dynamics in my relationship. In this episode, I catch you up AND share how important polarity is in your relationship in order to feel attraction. We’re just getting started.
To join me in California Nov 8-13th for my women's retreat, Aliveness from Within, register here:
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I am thrilled to welcome a dear friend, mentor, and previous guest of mine — Luci Lampe. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually.
I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;)
To enroll, use this link: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej
I just returned from a women's sensuality retreat in Costa Rica and re-discovered my love for my own femininity, women, and sisterhood. There are elements of this podcast that I think would be enormously helpful for women in relationships with men who experience HOCD, or homosexuality OCD. Enjoy, this was super juicy and fun and grounding to share.
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Join my Aunt Diane and I on this podcast recorded from IG live. When I was experiencing relationship anxiety and compulsively seeking reassurance... this was the woman I called constantly until I felt comfortable enough to trust myself through this work. We had great fun with your questions and howled like hyenas. Enjoy and thanks for tuning in!
Are you more anxious about your relationship right before your period? In this episode, we will address the menstrual cycle from a more holistic lens, and how to leverage each phase you're in to maximize the potential for you to connect with yourself and your partner.
Ah... my favorite dark rabbit hole... "Am I making a mistake?"
If you question every decision you make, period, your relationship will fall under that line of scrutiny too. In this episode, I address how this line of thinking (not just in your relationship, but in life too!) can be useful... until it isn't.
In this episode, my co-coach Sheridan and I explore the role of grief in unpacking anxiety within healthy, loving, flawed partnerships. It is so important to not take every thought at face value, but to dig deeper!
This episode has been needed for SO long! I'm aware that I most often speak to people who identify as women that are in relationships with people who identify as men. In this episode, I speak to why and also share ways to expand the conversation since I don't think the experience is exactly the same for all genders across the board! Please share your thoughts and experiences!
The most common question I ever get asked gets answered in THIS podcast with one of my closest friends, Chelsea Horton, who is a fellow relationship anxiety specialist herself. Enjoy!
If you love this podcast, please consider leaving a review! Every month, I choose a review and post it in my Instagram stories -- and that person can DM me a question of their choice and I will respond with a 1-2 minute voice note via Instagram.
FINALLY, the episode so many of you have been asking for! Long-distance relationships take relationship anxiety to a whole new level. If you're wondering how to navigate relationship anxiety while in a long-distance relationship, this episode is for you. From basic fundamental rules of thumb to the nitty gritty details... we covered a LOT and I know this will be so validating and of service to so many of you.
Work with Sheridan and me by finding us on www.anxiouslovecoach.com
While I think it's so useful to normalize dips in attraction, that's only half the puzzle in satisfying long-term relationships! True empowerment comes from knowing how to shift sluggish, disempowering dynamics into self-aware, humble, inspiring ones. Tune in to learn how to do this. This was a complete game-changer in my relationship.
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If you’ve ever found yourself confessing your intrusive thoughts to your partner in order to feel better, you’re not alone! However, you might be doing more harm to yourself and to your relationship than good. In this episode, I offer a compassionate view on where the urge to confess comes from, along with some reframes of how to stop it so that you can trust yourself and relieve your partner from the burden of having to rescue you from your discomfort.
If you’re ready to join our programs, visit www.anxiouslovecoach.com
This is a raw and real voice text I recorded on my walk. I discuss the challenges/uncertainties of being a relationship coach.
This episode includes my thoughts on this work, why uncertainty and doubt are absolute critical pieces to being open-minded, curious, and humble, and how it would be dangerous and disempowering to try and get rid of them. This felt delicious to record— enjoy.
If you want to work with me, head to www.anxiouslovecoach.com.
Today, I chat with my dear friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about how to utilize conflict in a relationship that is expansive and actually enhancing and -- dare I say -- enjoyable? Conflict is intended to be challenging but it doesn't have to feel like pulling teeth if we are able to own our shadows with confidence. If you struggle with relationship anxiety, we can often create meaning that isn't actually there, and it's so important to be able to own this fully in order to create resolve within ourselves and within our challenges in relationships.
If this content resonates with you, please leave an honest review for us on Apple Podcasts! We are going to start choosing one review monthly and offering a personal free video response to a question of that person's choice on Instagram.
I'm overjoyed and humbled to bring on someone hugely impactful in my life. Shayna Hiller is a yoga and tantric arts teacher living in Venice Beach, California. Shayna has also been a business coach for me in the past and is one of the reasons I developed the confidence to share my truth today.
Amazingly, our paths have crossed again -- particularly in the field of women's sensuality and empowerment. If you have a womb, and struggle to connect with your femininity, creativity, and/or sexuality, or tend to have a hard time getting "turned on" in the bedroom, this episode is DEFINITELY for you!
I often observe people struggling with relationship anxiety attempt to focus on the good components of the relationship as a way to make themselves feel more good and certain around the relationship and feel less doubt. While gratitude practices in and of themselves are wonderful, there is a shadow side to it that can prevent you from having the breakthrough to feel truly grateful and at ease around your wonderful partnership. In this IG live, I share how gratitude practices can actually prevent you from accessing gratitude and what you can do instead. If this content resonates with you, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts! We are going to start choosing one review monthly and offering a personal free video response to a question of that person's choice on Instagram.
This podcast episode was recorded on Instagram live after I was inspired by a conversation with a client, where she and I discussed the worst places to find relationship advice and why -- and where to find good relationship advice instead.
Great news! Relationship Anxiety Alchemist, our flagship self-study course on dismantling relationship anxiety and moving towards presence, gratitude, and trust, is finally available on our website!
Have you formed an alliance with society/family/friends or with your partner? In this episode, Chelsea Horton, Relationship Anxiety Specialist and dance therapist, joins me on IG live as we explain what's really happening when we feel embarrassed by our partner's imperfections in public. We also share what you can do to feel more at ease around this, and increase the likelihood of your partner showing up in a way you feel proud of and confident around.
Please excuse the imperfect sound quality -- this was recorded on a phone!
I’m so thrilled to introduce Sheridan Ruth to our community at Anxious Love Coach. She is a fantastic yoga therapist, meditation teacher, and embodiment coach with her own experience with relationship anxiety. We’ve brought her on as a co-coach to support us in our client outreach and working in our deeply immersive and transformative programs. In this episode, we’ll be talking triggers: what happens inside us when we get triggered by a certain message around relationships, steps to navigate them, as well as what life looks like on the other side when you use triggers as opportunities to expand and heal. We hope you enjoy this episode!
I'm honored to bring my aunt, Diane Sigala, onto Anxious Love Coach today. In the throes of relationship anxiety, my aunt was a regular phone call I made to help me understand relationships (and men!) better. This is a delicious and sweet episode where I ask her to share the things that were helpful to me back in the darker days. I know you'll love this episode so much. Pull up a cup of tea and light a candle!
If your partner is going through a dark phase and isn't able to be your rock, it's challenging to maintain an erotic connection or spark. If you're in the thick of this, there's hope-- and you're going to want to listen to this raw deep dive with my dear friend Luci Lampe.
Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, sexual empowerment & mindset coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress, lifestyle & fitness model, 3X author, and entrepreneur. Her writing has been featured on the Huffington Post, Forbes, Entrepreneur.com, CBS, and Fox.
After a 6+ year hiatus from the music industry, birthing two more little humans, overcoming an autoimmune disorder, and surviving hell as a family through her husband’s 2-year disability and depression, Luci returns with a bold, unapologetic message of freedom and courage.
This is a juicy one and very humbling. In this episode, I chat with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about the difference between autonomy-respecting boundaries and manipulative boundaries, how to know if you're showing up with an agenda in your boundary-setting, and what to do instead to create a culture of autonomy and safety in your relationship.
Have you ever been disgusted by your partner being cute with you? This episode might not be for everyone -- but if you and your partner adore cute things and sometimes you start wishing things got more "intellectual" or "adult-like", I've put a lot of thought into this topic to give you some perspective on why this might be the case and what you can focus on to shift things to a deeper place in your relationship.
This one comes deep from personal, local, and recent experience from my heart. When we are feeling starved in multiple aspects of our lives, it's common to look to our partners to fill in the gaps. In this episode, I make a point to help you identify why you might be projecting your emotional hunger into your relationship, what to do instead, and also a special tip at the end on requesting your needs to be met.
When your partner is operating at what we might call a "low vibe," it's only natural our attraction will wane for the time being. We might take the lack of attraction we feel in that circumstance at face value and panic about whether we're in the right relationship! In this episode, I jump on TikTok Live (@anxiouslovecoach) to share where to re-route your attention and how to restore feelings after re-connecting with yourself first.
Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you!
There is one thing that so many people with relationship anxiety struggle to give themselves... and in this episode, I cover exactly that while hopping live in my exclusive Facebook group, The Anxious Love Coach Collective -- link to join in the show notes. HAPPY HOLIDAYS, and I hope this podcast has been helpful for you.
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I tried to break up multiple times with both my long-term partners of whom I experienced ROCD with -- and a hard majority of those "pull-aways" happened around the holidays. Back then the timing seemed so random, but I see today something much deeper was going on and that this emotional inner turmoil was actually a pattern in hindsight. In this episode, I share how the holidays can exacerbate relationship anxiety and what you can do about it.
A common theme with relationship anxiety is the fierce struggle for reconciliation between wanting to be independent and dependent. Tune in with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical coach with an eye for mental health, as we dive into the truth about peoples' relationships to independence and how it can be a trauma response that blocks us from experiencing intimacy and connection.
You’re not attracted to a partner you control — and controlling behavior is a common way to avoid feeling “out of control.” However, it’s a huge contributor to feelings of dissatisfaction and disgust in relationship and ROCD. In this episode, I cover how to identify when we’re stepping into controlling behaviors, how to have compassion for ourselves when this happens, why this doesn’t serve you or the partnership, and what to do instead.
In a culture of cancellation that tells you to leave when you're not feeling it, the perspective to stay and do a deep dive into yourself instead of dropping out of the relationship, may be a controversial one. In this episode we normalize falling out of love, while also giving you 10 steps to restore your faith in the partnership.
In this episode, I interview one of my incredible coaching and meditation clients, Shannon, who came to me struggling with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety. She shares what her awakening process looked like without the fluff, and the new wisdom she has acquired. She also gives warm encouragement and suggestions for those who are in the swamp of ROCD right now. You can find the video up on my Youtube channel.
One of my biggest fears in the past was that I'd be perceived as a narcissist. I resorted to frequent people-pleasing so people could think I was "good" in order to try and prevent this. Problem is, it led me to being more resentful and self-centered anyway around people I loved (including my partner). People tell you "if you worry you're a narcissist, you aren't one" but there's more to it than that. If you ever worry you're a narcissist and would like to get relief from this worry, this episode is for you!
When I was in the thick of Relationship Anxiety, comments like:
- "maybe you should leave"
- "maybe he's just not the right person for you"
- "you're young, maybe you just need to explore"
were enough to send me into a gut-wrenching spiral of anxiety. In this episode, I get to the root of why this is so painful and also how you can respond.
When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner.
In this episode, I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom.
We're talking what to do if your relationship anxiety causes you to be attracted to someone else! "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you truly loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second." I dissected this popular quote (which is loaded) by Johnny Depp over on Instagram live and give you strategies for pulling out of the fantasy and reconnecting with your partner.
After years of having doubts in my (now) 8-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving.