Midlife Confidence: Recent Episodes
Vauna Davis
No need for a midlife crisis – it’s time for your midlife quest! Now is the perfect time to enjoy more peace and purpose in your life. Join life coach Vauna Davis to discover how to get past those thoughts and feelings getting in the way of the life you want. Because a beautiful life comes from a beautiful mind. Get your mind, body, and spirit working together to make that dream a reality. Vauna has lots of experience to share about loving life in the middle as a wife, mom of 4 grown children, entrepreneur, life coach, and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. What's possible for you? Let’s find out together! New episodes every 2 weeks. Learn more at midlifeconfidencecoach.com.
Are you constantly feeling like you don’t have enough time or you’re wasting time? You might have a condition called time insecurity. Listen and see if you have these symptoms so you can recognize why you’re suffering. You’ll learn to diagnose the signs of time scarcity and time guilt.
Show notes:
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
Understanding your story about time is the beginning of a healthier new relationship with it. Here are 11 questions about your time story to explore:
1. What do I think about time?
2. Do I feel like I have enough time?
3. Why don’t I have enough time?
4. What have I tried to do to manage my time? How has that worked for me?
5. What 3 emotions do I feel about time?
6. What do I think about myself and how I use my time?
7. Do I believe I’ve used my time well? When did I or didn’t I?
8. What are the best things I’ve done with my time?
9. What do I regret most about how I’ve used my time so far?
10. What do I really want to do with my time but don’t do yet?
11. What are the most rewarding things I could do with the rest of my time on earth?
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
What if we could stop fighting with time and finally use it for what is was created for? Time management & productivity training can only get us so far. To truly feel at peace with time, you have to go to a deeper level – your relationship with time. God created time and gave us all of it we need to do what we’re here to do. Once you get your time beliefs right, then managing your time is the final skill to using your time on earth well. This is the first episode in a series exploring how to create the best mindset around time.
Show Notes
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
We all have quiet phases, when we feel the need to retreat from being so busy and think about how to rebalance our lives. It may feel indulgent, but it’s important! I’m going through a quiet phase myself – maybe you’ll relate to some of this too.
In this episode:
- We have many doorways to use to shift our emotional state
- Our mind, our body, and our spirit all need some re-alignment at times
- Just a few degrees off will cause us to miss our destination
Links:
- Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Matter Of a Few Degrees, April 2008 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
- The Fresh 20 meal plans
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
Mike and I are celebrating 39 years together, so we’re sharing a little of the reality of marriage in midlife. We’ve all heard lots of marriage advice, but by this point we take it with a grain of salt! We’re not a perfect example of marriage by any means, but we’re sharing what our experience is like now. Maybe you’ll relate to some of this too.
In this episode:
- Learning to listen only to hear what is true for the other person
- Letting each other just be who they are
- Don’t play the other person’s game
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
Being a parent of adult children is a sacred responsibility - and a challenge! But unlike all the wonderful support we had while raising young kids, there are very few people helping us figure this out. My guest, Pamela Henkelman, is here to change that. She helps Christian moms navigate their changing roles with their adult children through intimacy with God. Join us for a conversation about surrendering our adult children, watching our kids go through hard times, letting married children cleave to their spouse, and the new experience of being an in-law. It all comes with this stage of parenting - and we do best by learning to let go and let God.
In this episode:
- Let’s normalize times when our kids are wrestling with faith
- What to do when you regret your parenting missteps in the past
- Pamela’s own journey of discovering her life purpose
Guest Bio:Pamela Henkelman is an enthusiastic encourager with a passion to speak, write, and coach. She believes all of life flows from our loving union with God. She helps Christian moms navigate their changing roles with their adult children through intimacy with God.
Pamela’s favorite way to connect with her readers is through her monthly Mid-life Motherhood 101 letter and her bi-weekly blogs. If you’d like to receive some love in your inbox, hop on over to her website.
Grab her free guide, Five Ways to Support your Adult Child.
Pamela’s Instagram @phenkelman
Links:
The Midlife Purpose Project Course – Bloom in that purposeful life that’s been calling to you!
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
This visualization was first shared in Episode 71. I’m reposting is here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reminder to de-stress. Sometimes we let pressure build because we aren’t aware of it until we’re ready to explode. What if we had something to remind us to release the stress before it makes us miserable? Take a break with the Reset Meditation and imagine what it could be like to continually recover and reset to a state of well-being and peace.
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
We’re kind of like an Instant Pot – pressure builds up, and we need to release it regularly so we don’t explode into outbursts, illness, and breakdowns. What are your pressure release practices that allow stress and tension to release continually, and keep you out of the danger zone? The first thing is to be aware that stress is growing, and then take time to release it and reset.
In this episode:
- In midlife, we deserve extra attention, extra care and extra time to recover from stress.
- What is the tension trying to tell us?
- The Reset Meditation (also published as a bonus).
Links:
6 Things You Need To Recover From Every Day, Benjamin Hardy, PHD
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
By midlife we have a lifetime of experience and insight - it's the perfect time to pause, recognize what is working and integrate it into our life. The first step is to slow down all the consuming for now. What if you already know what you need to know? What if you already know enough? We can integrate what we already have and use it to contribute something only we can do.
In this episode:
- Keep the treasure, toss the trash
- Less consuming, more producing
- The Soup Story - an analogy for midlife integration
Links:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life. The visualization is also published as a bonus stand-alone meditation – The Movie Meditation [Bonus for 69]
Show notes:
- 5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy, Amaya Pryce
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
This visualization was first shared in Episode 69. I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reassuring perspective on your life.
When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life.
Show Notes
- 5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy, Amaya Pryce
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
- Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
One of the most basic principles of living a more peaceful life is understanding what is - and what isn’t - in our control. As a teacher, Michael Ann gets opportunities to practice this every day. In part 2 of coaching with Michael Ann, she shares how the coaching experience has already helped her feel more at ease, more herself, and more in charge of how she responds. She’s finding that taking charge of her thoughts and feelings in the classroom allows her actions to come naturally from a place of love. Best of all in a few weeks she went from feeling so overwhelmed and discouraged to feeling lighter and sensing the possibility of things getting better. Join us and see how you can lighten up by letting go of control. You can hear part 1 in episode 65, Redefining What Works with Michael Ann.
Show notes:
Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
Vauna’s website – Join my email list here
Email vauna@vaunadavis.com
Learn 1 practical thing you can do to help your children build an identity that serves them well and builds your relationship at the same time! This is good for children of any age from 0-99 – we never grow out of this need. So listen in to learn more about how you can spend a little time that will reap exponential rewards for a lifetime.
This is part 2 of 2 episodes with LaMonte Wilcox and McKelle Wilcox – be sure to listen to episode 66, Release Your Adult Children from Painful Patterns.
In this episode:
- Kids are here to teach us that life can be fun
- Our brain is a success machine
- Our children want to know WHY we love and respect them
Show notes:
- Fulfill Life Yourself Website
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
If you have grown-up children - or children of any age - what would you be willing to do to help them live their best, most rewarding life? For sure we would sacrifice immense amounts of time, energy, and resources. Even better, what if it wasn’t that hard? My guests today, Lamonte Wilcox and his daughter McKelle Wilcox, raise the possibility that releasing ourselves from the patterns we picked up when we were young can allow our children (even adult children!) to live free from the limiting patterns we passed down. Join us for part 1 of 2 episodes of this promising conversation about unraveling generational patterns and healing ourselves and our families in the process.
In this episode:
- We all developed patterns passed down in our families
- The way that you release them from it, is you first become released yourself
- It’s not about coaching or teaching our kids but showing them our new self
Show notes:
- Fulfill Life Yourself Website
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Join my friend Michael Ann and I today as we do some coaching on a big challenge she’s facing. She’s a seasoned teacher who is having an unexpected and bewildering teaching experience this year. You’ll hear how Michael Ann slows down and starts coming up with some really great insights as she redefines what it means to connect with her students. We’ve all faced similar feelings of loss and disconnection through a move, getting settled in a new job or having kids leave home – any changes in our life that leave us feeling disoriented for a while. When things that used to work, don’t work so well anymore. It’s a good time to ask ourselves some deep questions about what will work now.
In this episode:
- Giving ourselves some space and compassion in new situations
- Questioning the assumptions our brain offers to us
- Deciding how we want to feel in a situation
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
We all have insights that come to us about how we can experience life better, and times when we envision achieving a goal so clearly. We're so excited about it! Then our life and our mind are so busy that we forget and lose touch with it. That radiant light dims, that clarity gets fuzzy. And then your life just doesn't reach the level that seemed so clear and possible in the moment. It doesn’t have to be that way! I’ll walk you through my system for keeping those powerful insights top of mind where they can actually keep me motivated and guide my life.
In this episode:
- Creating your own Compass
- What’s in my Compass – what do you want in yours?
- You don’t have to do this perfectly to get big results from it
Show notes:
- The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose by Chris Attwood and Janet Attwood
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Most of us in midlife have experienced trauma at some time in our lives. My guest today, Stephanie Olson, shares her story of childhood trauma. It led to some rough years in young adulthood until she found her way back to herself with God’s help. Now she is living a purposeful life by using her painful experiences to reach out to help others. Midlife is a good time for us to consider if past trauma is holding us back today, and if we’re ready to heal it.
In this episode:
- Making peace with our age
- Stephanie’s work and how it has been evolving over time
- We may not realize we’ve experienced trauma when we compare our experience to others
Links:
- Reach Stephanie: Stephanie@stephanieolson.com
- Stephanieolson.com
- Set Me Free Project
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
How do you know if you received an answer to prayer and did the right thing? If you’ve ever thought that following God’s guidance means that everything should work out smoothly and then felt confused when it didn’t, I’ve got a couple of stories from my own life to share with you. I think about answers to prayer differently now, in a way that gives much more space for our real human experience along the way. And it allows for God to provide something even more meaningful than what we asked for.
In this episode:
- Sometimes in midlife we've had some prayer experiences that leave us a little faith-scarred.
- What I learned from two very different moving experiences
- Not making assumptions about what a prayer means
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Sometimes we need to hear from another woman in midlife the we can relate to - how she has come to feel more confident now than ever by knowing who she is and what she loves, and to find meaning in life. So welcome to my friend and guest Rebecca Welling, who shares what she loves about being in midlife now. Her journey took her through raising 5 children (including triplets), taking 10 years to finish her degree, dealing with the sudden silence of an empty nest, and finding fulfillment in becoming a Medicare expert (yes, all kinds of work can be fulfilling!) Stay with us and you’ll hear some astonishing triplet stories at the end.
In this episode:
- Empty Nest Syndrome: Losing our identity as a busy mom
- Helping our daughters find themselves earlier than we did
- Work can be a place to find meaning in becoming an expert and mentoring others
- Holding on to God as faith develops through a lifetime
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Have you ever felt guilty because you wanted to do something with your life that doesn’t fit what you think is an approved, worthy purpose - like building schools in South America or making quilts for refugees? If so, you’re suffering from purpose guilt. So listen in! Let’s release that shame and let you get on with creating a meaningful life by doing what you really want to do.
In this episode:
- Purpose guilt come from what we’re thinking is approved and worthy
- A meaningful purpose doesn’t have to be volunteering for a humanitarian cause
- The 3 elements a purpose needs to have
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Have you ever struggled to know if or when you should stop doing something or end something? That’s what’s happening for me this week, so listen in to hear how it’s going. The truth is that living a meaningful life unfolds one step at a time, and sometimes knowing when to stop something is just as important as knowing when to start. We might need to direct our energy into the one thing we want to make progress on.
In this episode:
- Being drawn in too many directions reduces the progress we make in any of them
- The fear and judgment of being labelled a quitter
- The end of the Reach 10 era
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
How would it feel to be in alignment in your life? What if your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions were all lined up and going in the same direction to reach your goals? I’ve gained some insight about life alignment from – surprise! – getting my teeth straightened up. Let’s talk about the value of incremental progress, commitment to the process, and vision for the final result.
In this episode:
- Recognizing when you’re out of alignment and might need some professional help
- Trusting your ability to change and grow
- Discomfort is evidence of progress
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
As we seek deep meaning and purpose at this time in our life, spiritual imagination is a practice that can help you envision your most fulfilling and powerful life. In my experience spiritual imagination can change our reality by actually shifting our thoughts and feelings, leading us to take action and create the results we want. So come along with me for a belief walk …
In this episode:
- An intentional vision that helps me honor and trust my grown-up kids journeys
- Inviting God to co-create our life with us, through spiritual imagination
- We might as well imagine the best possible outcome since the future is all a story anyway
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Do you keep a report card in your head? One that usually shows that you got a C- or unsatisfactory in some life skill or personal quality or something? Who wrote that report card, and why are you still using it to judge yourself? Now that we’re grownups, we get to decide what success looks like for us and let go of comparing ourselves to others. In this coaching session with Emily, you’ll hear how she is learning to create her own report card for what she wants out of her education as she returns to school for a Master’s degree - after 20 years as a full-time mom. (3 of 3 with Emily)
In this episode:
- How coaching has influenced her for the past 2 years
- How it could be good for her children to see her return to school
- Respecting your own gifts
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
What you really want when you wish you had more money, is actually a certain feeling that you think more money would give you. That’s the main point of today’s coaching session with my awesome friend Emily. It turns out that one of the reasons she wants to get a degree and become a therapist is to have her own money to spend without guilt. We dive in to why it's more powerful if she creates that feeling of freedom and independence now instead of waiting. So if you have expectations and wishes around money, this is for you! (2 of 3 with Emily)
In this episode:
- We all have a relationship with money
- If we’ve trained our brain to worry about money it will keep doing it even if we get more money – until we intentionally change that pattern
- Keys of a healthy money relationship in marriage
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
For mothers, when the time comes to create some more space in your life for your own growth and goals, it creates a new – and sometimes uncomfortable – dynamic with your children. Finding the balance between meeting their needs and your own can be tricky! Mom guilt can create self-doubt unless you’re aware and intentional about what’s best for everyone involved. Listen in to this coaching session with Emily, a mom of 7 who is starting an educational journey to become a therapist. (1 of 3 with Emily)
In this episode:
- Choosing to not go on a guilt trip
- Giving yourself permission to meet your needs
- Being an example to your family of pursuing your interests and caring for your family too
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Sometimes in midlife we can come down with a condition called purpose anxiety! It’s when we stress over figuring out what our mission should be and how to make it happen. What if designing your destiny could be more fun? Listen in to hear about how you can make living a purposeful life simpler and easier by engaging in small micro-missions.
In this episode:
- What is purpose anxiety and why do we get it?
- Examples of micro-missions
- Both volunteer and for-profit work can be life-changing and valuable
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
We’ve all been confused and overwhelmed before by projects or situations that seem complicated with a lot of things to figure out, and a lot of things to do. In this coaching session with my guest client, Bonnie, we talk about ways to tame the overwhelm step-by-step just like a dot-to-dot puzzle. Not only that, but we dismantle her old painful story about how hard her project is and rewrite a new story that is more reassuring and energizing. Bonnie has some great insight of her own to share with you too. So don’t miss this conversation because you’re going to learn something about motivating yourself for sure. So when you’re overwhelmed … just start with dot number one. (3 of 3 with Bonnie)
In this episode:
- Bonnie’s most painful thought that kept creating overwhelm
- Getting clarity on a big decision about continuing to keep working in a contract position or not
Show notes:
- Bonnie's websiteWorks for Her
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
While a to-do list is helpful to manage the actions you take, a belief plan goes even deeper. It helps you feel the way you need to feel in order to do what you want to do. It’s a living guide that grows with you and builds your confidence and motivation. You’ll hear how gathering powerful thoughts and saving them in a belief plan will help Bonnie with her goals. When self-doubt is slowing you down … build a better belief system to rev up your progress. (2 of 3 with Bonnie.)
In this episode:
- Awareness of tension in your body and how that affects your mind
- Why Bonnie is better for her audience than Harvard professors
- Your unseen dream team
Show notes:Bonnie's website Works for Her
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Listen to some real-life coaching with my guest client Bonnie Porter as she gains confidence to share her experience as a career coach by creating a course for women. Some of her thoughts about her age and all the things that need to be done have slowed her progress. We talk about how to see herself as in the top 1% of people in her stage of life and how to be kinder to herself. When you feel your age is a drawback … see your experience as an asset.
In this episode:
- 3 questions to ask yourself to get out of limiting beliefs about your age
- Maybe we have a big advantage because our brains weren’t raised on screens!
- The “Warning: I Shall Wear Purple” poem!
Show notes:
- Bonnie's website Works for Her
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Purpose is integrating who you are with what you do. So the key to living a purposeful life is not just finding something you are passionate about – it’s also essential know who you are, so you understand what your role can be in that passion. Yet often in midlife women feel that they’ve lost themselves. Now is the perfect time to reenvision who you are and who you want to be so you can step into that personal legacy.
In this episode:
- 7 reasons why a clear sense of your identity can help you step into your destiny
- Signs you’re disconnected from yourself
- The Beach Meditation for Embracing Your Future
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
This visualization was first shared in Episode 49. I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need hope that everything works out for you in the future. Let's take a walk on the beach.
Being overwhelmed doesn’t just happen to us – we create this feeling with our own thoughts. This is good news, because it means we can also get out of this state with the power of our thoughts. In today’s coaching session with my guest client, Chris, we dive into practical ways for her to stop feeling overwhelmed by all she wants to do around the house. Our brains are innately wired toward thinking about everything at once when tackling a project or problem, but this isn't always effective! It serves us better to focus on the smallest next step. (3 of 3 episodes with Chris.)
In this episode:
- Micro-actions and micro-decisions create energy and momentum
- Enjoying the process not just the outcome
- The story of my son’s Kindergarten teacher training the kids to build habits before teaching the ABCs
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Most of us are afraid we'll make the wrong decision. In this coaching session with my guest client, Chris, she revealed how her fear of regret is keeping her paralyzed by indecision. You'll learn 5 ways we can confidently decide on our next step instead! If you want to feel better about making decisions, this is for you. (2 of 3 episodes with Chris.)
In this episode:
- The wrong decision is obvious
- You can decide not to regret your decisions
- Build confidence that you can handle regret
Show notes:
- Vauna’s Instagram @vaunadavis
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
If there are emotions that you don’t like to feel and are avoiding, then you’re missing out on the healing release of those feelings. This visualization was first shared in Episode 46, and I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reminder that all our feelings have value and deserve attention. So let’s take a break together and honor our divinely created emotions.
We all have some home project that we aren’t getting done! You’ll relate to this coaching session with my guest client, Chris. She’s wanted to organize and decorate her house for years, but she’s been stuck not making the progress she’d like. As we talk about why that might be, it becomes clear that emotional obstacles are keeping her from getting motivated. We finish this episode with a visualization that will help you with emotional awareness. (1 of 3 episodes with Chris.)
In this episode:
- Using the CTFAR model to understand Chris’s fears
- Chris’s 2 big obstacles: Decision regret and overwhelm
- The Puppy Emotions Meditation
Show notes:
- Vauna's Instagram
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Have you ever felt like it’s too late to start something new and meaningful now? Listen to Kristen Jenson’s story and you won’t think that any more! When Kristen saw a need that wasn’t being met, she wrote 2 books for kids on a social issue. They became Amazon best-sellers and have been translated into 7 languages. This was a completely new thing for her, and she started it when she was past 50! Now she’s helped hundreds of thousands of children around the world. Now that’s a project with purpose.
Kristen Jenson is the author of the Good Picture Bad Pictures series of books and founder of Protect Young Minds.
In this episode:
- Kristen’s story of seeing a need and writing the books.
- Take it one step at a time.
- It’s worth it to take time to do your best work.
Links:
- Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids
- Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds
- Protect Young Minds website
- Protect Young Minds Facebook
- Instagram: @protectyoungminds
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Women over 40 have so much to offer because of our life experience, but sometimes we're still trying to find our authentic voice and have the courage to speak up both in personal relationships and in public. Let's talk about how you can find your voice at any age. Speak up for yourself, trust yourself, and be authentic about who you are. How will you start nurturing your own one-of-a-kind voice?
In this episode:
- Do you feel worthy to speak?
- You have a voice. Your voice is powerful, and it needs to be heard.
- Speaking up gives others permission to do the same.
- 3 keys to finding your voice:
- Love your authentic self
- Speak your truth
- Share your message
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
The best asset we have to make a contribution and live a purposeful life is our own mind. We have so many options for learning new things now! But it can also feel like a big decision because of the time and money commitment, as well as fears about being able to succeed when we’re a little farther on in life. Here are some good questions to ask yourself as you consider your options. Investing in yourself is always a wise use of time!
In this episode:
- What are you hoping to feel as a result of this education?
- What do you want to be able to do that you can’t do now?
- Why do you want to be able to do that? How can it serve your purpose?
Links:
- Senior Citizens Can Go to College for Free or Cheap in All 50 States
- 23 Killer Sites for Free Online Education Anyone Can Use
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Creativity is a form of growing and self-expression. We learn more about who we are, what we love, and what we're capable of through being creative. Art of any kind changes us in the process of creating it. My guest, Brad Teare, is an accomplished landscape artist who believes that the creative process is also a way to transcend grief and loss in life. Listen in to learn why creativity can be an integral, fulfilling aspect of living your purpose in midlife.
In this episode:
- We all have deep desires to create.
- It’s never too late to bring more creative pursuits into your life.
- Creativity can take many forms - from artistic expression to problem solving.
- Creativity is intelligence having fun.
Links:
Brad's Instagram: @bradteare
Debra Teare's artwork
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Midlife Confidence Coach website
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
If we say yes to anything that doesn’t help us make progress on our goals, our values and our purpose in life, then we are giving away the time and energy we could be using on the things that matter. Thinking through what is worth your time is the first step. Then we need to be bold enough to say no to two persuasive people – other people that we care about, and to ourselves. Saying no to yourself is being brutally honest about what you’re doing with your time and if it’s in your best interest to keep doing it. When you feel like you can’t find time to make progress on things that are deeply important to you … learn how to say no to the people and projects that are overtaking your time.
In this episode:
- What is working fantastically well for you?
- Clean slate life planning
- Your “NO” repertoire
Links:
- Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
A midlife crisis is actually a time crisis. Some of the most limiting thoughts we have in this life stage are “I'm behind,” “I wasted time,” and “It's too late.” But don’t worry! God built in extra time for you to go through all the setbacks you’ve experienced and still fulfill your purpose. In this episode, discover new ways to think about your time journey that will bring you peace, energy, and motivation. You’re right on track!
In this episode:
- We can’t surprise God.
- All that mess was not diversion. It was preparation.
- We create the experience we have with time through the thoughts we have about time.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Continuing on from episode 38 about our purpose in as parents of adult children. A powerful practice that changes how you feel about your children and how you show up as a parent is being able to envision a future when it all works out for them. We can trust that even the challenges in their lives are leading them to a bright future. Along with that, if our life is centered on our children then we will be on a roller coaster of emotion depending on what they are doing. We can serve them better by being centered on our own emotional stability, personal growth and connection with God. When you’re wondering how to support your grown up kids… imagining their best future can be just what they need.
In this episode:
- Surrendering what we can’t control
- Imagining the dramatic highlight reel of your children’s lives
- Our children want to see from our example that growing older is rewarding too.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
If you’re a parent, then caring for your kids has been an important and sometimes consuming purpose in your life. Once they've reached the status of adults, our challenge is to figure out that paradox of how to be connected and supportive and at the same time let go of judgment and control. In part 1 of this discussion, learn what unconditional love is, and why we can offer influence - but not impose it. When you’re wondering how to support your grown up kids … taking a step back can be just what they need.
Links:
- The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children by Stormie Omartian
- Rescuing Wayward Children by Larry Barkdull
- Joseph Grenny – article on influence
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Our biggest challenges often lead to finding a deeply purposeful way to serve others. That’s definitely true for my guest, my very own sister Trina Limpert. She’s achieved a remarkable 25-year career in tech while being a working mom, getting through a divorce, navigating a new marriage and blended family – oh, and throw in a recession and major health scare, too! Now she helps women transition into valuable tech careers through a journey of self-discovery. You’ll love hearing Trina’s inspiring experience discovering her life mission. You can read more in her bio below. [Purpose series 4]
Links:
- RizeNext website
- Instagram:
- @rizenext
- @trinaceleste
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Trina's bio:
Trina Limpert is Senior Director, CX Consulting at Oracle. In her prior role as President of Women@eBay, Trina lead diversity and inclusion
initiatives across eBay. She received the Women Tech Council Impact Award in 2015, finalist Women Tech Council awards 2017, recognized by National Women in IT awards for RizeNext as finalist for “Diversity Program of the Year”, and recently selected as one of Utah Business Magazine’s “30 Women to Watch.”
In 2018 Trina founded RizeNext, a technical and professional development company to consult companies on how to best engage their diverse workforce in order to deliver growth & profitability success. Her personal mission for the last twenty-five years has been to create
awareness of the benefits for women in technology careers. In 2020 the Tech-Moms program launched in Utah in partnerships with Utah Valley University and Weber State University to assist women in re-entering the workforce or transitioning their careers into higher paying and
flexible technology roles.
Her career spans 25 years in high tech in Utah, including time as a Network Engineer at Novell, Technical Sales at Oracle and Senior Product & Technology Management at eBay and as Senior Director of CX Consulting at Oracle. Trina currently serves on the Women’s Success Center Board of Advisors at Utah Valley University, Board of Advisors for Weber State University School of Engineering, Applied Science and Technology, and National Advisory Committee for Weber State University.
Trina holds an Associates of Science in Computer Science from Weber State University, Bachelors in Business and Information Systems from the University of Phoenix, Executive MBA from the University of Utah and Certificate in Driving Corporate Performance from Harvard
University.
Trina is an active outdoors woman and enjoys her time dirt biking, weight lifting, snowboarding and hiking. She loves traveling and spending time doing all these things with her incredible husband Andrew and their eight children.
What feels incomplete, unfinished and unfulfilled to you? Let’s talk about those open loops in your life and how to be sure you close them up! When you integrate all the parts of your life with your purpose, you’ll be ready to steer away from regret and toward satisfaction and pride in a life well-lived. When loose ends make you feel unfinished and incomplete ... tie them up with intentional action. [Purpose series 3]
In this episode:
7 Questions
- How could I complete or make progress on things I started but haven’t finished yet?
- How could I experience some things I feel like I’ve missed out on?
- How could I develop a personal quality that I haven’t mastered yet?
- How could I learn a skill that I don’t know yet?
- How could I heal a relationship that is weak or broken?
- How could I deepen my spiritual life where it feels shallow?
- How could I integrate all the different pieces of my life experience so far and bring them into a powerful purpose?
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Let’s talk! Get in touch with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
A life well-lived starts with a meaningful purpose. Let’s start with a foundational purpose – your deepest, highest desire. You’ll know you’ve found it when it feels like if you made progress on it, your whole life would be worthwhile and everything would be ok. Next, getting clear on your unique values can guide how you show up in life. [Purpose Series 2]
In this episode:
- Why you don’t have to worry about finding your specific divinely-created destiny.
- Deep purpose can come through serving many or serving just a few.
- We can build on things we’re already doing, and add some new things, as we fulfill our purpose.
Links:
- Higher Awareness Purpose Statements
- Steve Pavlina, List of Values
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
- Midlife Confidence Coach website
Midlife is often a time for reconsidering what we’re spending our precious time on. Having a meaningful purpose in your life is transformative, especially when it involves helping others. But what is it that we’re really seeking when we’re longing to find our purpose? When we get down to it, there’s something we want to feel. Clearly defining what that is can help us choose the right dreams and stay the course instead of burning out or losing interest. [Purpose Series 1]
In this episode:
- 7 human psychological needs that we can fill through living a purposeful life -
- Certainty, variety, love & connection, significance, agency, contribution, and growth.
- We’re in charge of making sure our needs our met and that we experience the emotions we want while serving our life mission.
Links:
- Organizations in the Safeguard Alliance with resources to help families:
- Protect Young Minds, Better Screen Time, Parents Aware, White Ribbon Week, Parents Who Fight, Be Broken Ministries, We Stand Guard, Fight the New Drug, Wired Human, Hopeful Mom, Reach 10, National Center on Sexual Exploitation
- Michael F. Steger - Here’s How to Find Meaning in Your Midlife Crisis
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram.
- Let's talk! Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you feel stuck and can't move on because you aren’t making a decision ... free yourself with a choice. In midlife there are big decisions to be made. But we can get stalled by four thoughts that stop us from making choices. Learn some ways to get through these blocks and get on with your decisions!
In this episode:
- The wrong choices are obvious
- How you know you made the right decision
- You don’t need to know everything, you know enough to decide
- If you did know, what would the answer be?
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
What does it mean to love and care for our mind, body, and spirit in midlife? While age and time affect our mind and body, our spirit is eternal and limitless. It expands as we give it care and attention. If we have a desire to connect with the divine Creator and sense the meaning of life, honoring our spirituality is the way. When you sense your mind and body slowing down … it’s a good time for your infinite spirit to take the lead.
In this episode:
- What is spirituality, religion, and the spirit part of our being?
- How age and time affect our mind, body, and spirit
- Mindfulness – quieting our mind and calming our body – are one way to grow spiritually
Links:
- Psychology Today, Are Older People Wiser?
- The Power of Stillness – Mindful Living for Latter-day Saints by Ty Mansfield and Jacob Hess
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
One of the best things you can do for your marriage is to be responsible for your own emotions and not give another human being the job of making you feel happy or secure. My husband Mike and I are celebrating 38 years of marriage this month! Listen in on some of our journey to a better marriage. Life coaching has had a unexpectedly big impact on our relationship. When you show up willing to learn to be best person you can be, it can't help but elevate the marriage.
In this episode:
- The (subconscious) marriage manual
- Something is wrong: feeling things should be different
- Expectations can get in the way
- Moving beyond doing things our way or letting another person do it their way without drama
- How being coached and putting mindset skills to work changed our experience of marriage
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Set up a call with me.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re constantly in other’s people’s heads trying to control what they think of you … step back into your own head and make it a safe place for yourself. It starts with realizing that realizing that how other people respond to you tells you about them, not about you. We can decide to like our reasons for what we do, be ok with other people being wrong about us, and focus on connecting with others instead of impressing them.
Links:
- Tara Mohr, Playing Big
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Time decisions are one of the most important skills we learn in life. God set us up on purpose! Because we can’t do everything we want to, we’re forced to choose. Our choices show what we love and create who we become.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
What if 2020 was just a warm-up for legendary times to come? If you don’t think you can take any more, let’s get ready so you’re confident that you can rise to meet any challenge that comes. I learned some things from a river rafting adventure that totally apply to the high, deep, and fast times we’re in now. It all starts with zipping up your life jacket. When you're not sure you can handle more uncertainty ... be so ready that you know you'll get through anything.
In this episode:
- Our river rafting tale
- Trading in fear for power, love, and a sound mind
- How to be ready to show up as the hero, not the victim
Links:
- 2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
- Choosing Clarity by Kimberly Giles
- Insight Timer App
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you doubt that you’ll really do what you decided to do … learn to honor commitments to yourself. You know what feels great? Knowing that you will do what you planned to do for yourself! Self-trust is fundamental to feeling good about yourself and your life.
In this episode
- Self-trust is more important than the immediate goal!
- Start with small steps that are so easy you can’t fail
- We’re terrified to disappoint someone else and yet we disappoint ourselves all the time
- Underneath is the relationship with have with ourselves
Show notes
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re in a midlife slump … get clear on what you need for a 5-star life. How did you think your life would be when you got to this point? Your values have changed through life experiences, so now is a good time to reenvision the life you want now. What do you want to start, stop, and continue?
In this episode:
- 5 signs of a midlife slump
- 5 elements of a 5-star life
- Your keeper list
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Christmas is a time to be together with loved ones … sometimes that isn’t easy or possible now, like this year during a pandemic. Join me as I think back on a couple of sweet memories that make the miracle of Christmas even more precious. A future reunion with our loved ones is certain because of the birth of Christ.
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Set up a call with me.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re discouraged about things you haven’t finished yet … learn to love the process. Having things you haven’t finished feels terrible - because your brain is designed to nag you until you get it done. Of course finishing things when we can is a solution, but it’s just as important to lean in and accept that life is always unfinished business. It’s all about loving the process as much as the completed goal!
In this episode:
- Even God is never finished with His work!
- See the process as the purpose
- Who we are becoming along the way is more important than the completed goal
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When an emotional storm is brewing … let it pass through and clear out. “Processing emotions” is a buzzword, but what does it really mean? How do you do it, and what’s the end goal? Accepting and allowing emotions is a basic but powerful skill that can be learned and practiced as often as needed. The opposite is resisting emotions which causes its own problems. We can find peace in the reality that life is an emotional journey.
In this episode:
- The 4 main dysfunctional results of resisting emotions
- The 4 steps to processing emotions
- How to know when you’ve done enough processing
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Set up a call with me.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you don’t know why you aren’t getting things done … stop and uncover what’s derailing you.
In midlife, we’re all wondering why we aren’t doing the things we say we want to at times. Here are 15 questions to ask yourself to understand what’s getting in the way. You have real reasons that make perfect sense when you understand them.
In this episode:
- 15 questions to dig deeper into your motivation struggles
- Knowing what’s going on is the first step to restoring the motivation you want to have!
- Pay attention to what your lack of action is trying to tell you
Links:
- List: 15 Questions to Understand Your Motivation Blocks
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re ready to close out this year and start fresh … understand what you deeply desire to have, do, and be. Think how great it will feel to start the next year off with a simple and powerful list of the things you really want to create in your life. Your desires are calling out to be made real! You can start with something you want to have, something you want to do, and something you want to be.
In this episode:
- Make New Year’s decisions instead of resolutions
- The value of wanting to have things
- The key role of emotions in our goals
- 3 steps to getting started now with your top desires
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re waiting for the universe to let you know you’re worthy … take the wand and grant yourself confidence. Confidence is a powerful emotion that can help us take action and create the things we want in our lives. Especially when we stop chasing evidence to show us we can be confident, and just decide to be confident now. It’s so much easier to get things done from confidence than from self-doubt!
In this episode:
- Confidence comes from thoughts
- Recognize and appreciate the things you’re already confident in now
- 4 tips for building confidence
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When your mind and your heart are spinning … rest in the sweetness of peace. Good news, the world doesn’t need to calm down and you don’t have to get your life together before you can be at peace. We can learn how to feel it and hold on to it more often. So put that heavy load down and take a rest in peace even in a messy and uncontrollable life.
The US Presidential election and the country’s response to it are creating a lot of uncertainty for us now. No matter who wins or what happens after, we still have the power over the experience we want in our lives. If you aren’t happy about where we’re headed, the ultimate act of defiance is to live well anyway.
In this episode:
- What is always in your control
- Getting out of threat and into opportunity
- Switching from worst case scenario to best case scenario
- Thrive through anything with spiritual creation – imagining the details of how you want to show up stronger in hard times
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
Pandemics, civil unrest and elections don’t mean that your personal stuff gets to take a break for awhile. That’s why emotional resilience is so critical. Building resilience is essential for your own journey – how you want to show up in extraordinary times – and because of the influence you have. People are looking to you for reassurance in tough times!
In this episode:
- We've already increased our emotional capabilities through life experience
- A story of a seed’s journey
- 3 tracks of personal growth
- Our emotional education and updating it now – a midlife relight
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When your usual schedule is disrupted … stay grounded and peaceful even in disorder. In midlife you’re pretty sure to have times when you’re off-schedule and can’t run your life as usual. Trips, visiting family, and holidays are just a few things that come up. While we love these events, we can also get disoriented and lose energy when we can’t keep our usual routines. Here’s 5 ideas for staying grounded and enjoying the time.
In this episode:
- My wonderful messy road trip with my daughter and 3 young grandchildren
- Balancing our needs for certainty and variety
- Letting go of expectations - and more ideas that help
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When parental regret is shadowing you – envision a bright future for your children. Every parent is guaranteed to have some things they wish they had done better. As our children grow up, we might think some of their challenges are our fault because of our mistakes. But our kids can thrive not only in spite of our failings but because of them! Here are two ideas to help you move past regret.
In this episode:
- One of my regrets with one of my sons
- Sometimes we provide our kids exactly what they need: hard times and opposition
- We can go to the future when it all works out
- Imagine your children so bright and powerful in the future
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you think your past should have been different … reimagine a legendary story. You know all those things in the past that you feel like went wrong in some way? You’re right, that was hard. Now you can choose to see yourself as a hero who made it through hard times and came out stronger and wiser. That’s much more powerful than constantly thinking things should have been different.
In this episode:
- God can take every single thing that happened and turn it to our higher good
- How to take charge and reframe your past stories
- My start-up story
- Questioning our conclusions
- Create your own epic highlight reel
Links:
Helen Jane Long Identity Album
Show notes:Let's connect on Instagram!
Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you think your past tells you who you are … change the story and meet your best self. If we have created limiting beliefs about who we are based on past experiences, it’s time to clean those up and create stories that help us show up as who we want to be now. You have superpowers to bring to the world.
In this episode:
- 3 ways the past gets in our way now
- An imaginary story of a ranch woman and the mysterious garden of the past
- My shy story and how I got to a new story of my superpower
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When your spiritual light is low … rekindle your divine glow. Spiritual confidence is assurance that you and God are working together to co-create your highest self. As we grow into being able to seek inner spiritual radiance we feel more peaceful, clear, warm, light, open, and expansive.
In this episode:
- Faith as an intelligent, powerful force we can plug in to
- A story of God’s grace
- A morning celebration routine that cultivates spiritual energy for the day
- How can we relax into God?
Links:
- When You Have the Spirit vs. When You Don’t Have the Spirit
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When your body is dragging … get motivated to refuel your energy with food, rest, and exercise. Ready for an energy makeover? You already know food, rest, and exercise are the answer to a healthy lifestyle and more energy, but whenever we want to do something better our mind has a habit of getting in our way! Let’s talk about not only what to do, but how to get our most motivating thoughts on board.
In this episode:
- Facts + thoughts = powerful new habits.
- Some facts about exercise, food, and sleep that can inspire us to live a healthy lifestyle.
- Since our bodies have changed, it’s a good time to experiment with the kind of food, sleep, and exercise that will work for us.
- My unexpected results going 100% vegan.
- The 4 things that I know help me sleep better (so far.)
Links:
- Kenneth Soares YouTube Deep Sleep Meditations (also on the Insight Timer meditation app for free)
- Food Rules: An Eater's Manual by Michael Pollan
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re mentally drained … revive your energy level by understanding how your thoughts create your feelings, getting out of “Have To” energy, and tapping into other people’s energy. Low mental energy isn’t something that just happens to us, it’s a result that we created with our thoughts and feelings. That means we can recharge our energy with some new thoughts if we want to! Here’s a few ideas for how to create a more energizing mindset.
In this episode:
- The process of how our thoughts create our feelings and results.
- We don’t have to do anything – how to get into “Want To” energy.
- Spend time with higher energy people in real life or online. Try on other people’s thoughts and see how they can energize you.
Links:
- Brooke Castillo, The Life Coach School Podcast
- Tam Kieves, Thriving Through Uncertainty
- Kenneth Soares YouTube Deep Sleep Meditations (also on the Insight Timer meditation app for free)
- Pres. Russel M. Nelson, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Revelation for the Church, Revelation for Our Lives
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re mentally exhausted … recharge your energy level by finding your why, sparking momentum, and resetting your mindset.
We need mental energy to accomplish what we want and create the life we dream of. But strong emotions and decisions can drain that energy and leave us feeling depleted. Learn some practical ways to amp up your mental energy level. This is the first in a series about mental, physical, and spiritual energy. Let’s get out of those energy dips and get going!
In this episode:
- Things that cause mental fatigue
- Find your why – what would do you want to do with more energy?
- Spark momentum – get started on the next step in projects, celebrate your accomplishments, start your day off right, or do some cleaning!
- Reset your mindset – interrupt the thoughts that are draining your energy.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you get stuck trying to manage everyone’s emotions … let them have the human experience they came for. Do you have the illusion that you can and should control how others feel? Or maybe you hold back your thoughts because others won’t like them? We all do this sometimes. When we’re always trying to make others feel better, we unintentionally don’t allow them to express their true emotions - and we don’t share our authentic selves either. Learn what true unconditional love is and how it can be better for everyone in the relationship.
In this episode
- Holding back the truth to protect others – helpful or harmful?
- The problems of resisting emotions: self-judgment, escaping, emotional outbursts, and blaming.
- Roles in relationships: parent, child, or adult
- Unconditional love is telling the truth, allowing others to feel the way they want about it, and loving them anyway.
Show notes
- I'm on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re wondering who you are now that the kids are grown up … find joy in finally having time to finish your own growing up!
Are your kids growing up or already in adulthood? When raising young kids, a lot of your identity and value came from caring for your family. When that stage is over, it can be a challenge to reimagine a new purpose for life. In parenting your job was to get them started and then let them take over – now you get to spend more time working on your own growth. It’s time to invest in yourself and finish growing up the way you want to!
In this episode:
- The good and bad of having kids grow up
- Managing regret and mommy guilt
- The power of coaching
Four questions to help you finish your own growing up:
- What have I missed out on?
- What feels unfinished?
- Where do I feel stuck?
- What makes me feel bubbly?
What will try and stop you? Getting past guilt, lack of self-worth, and feeling like it’s too late.
Show notes:
Let's connect on Instagram!
Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
We’re designed to move, and we’re healthier and happier when we do. But sometimes our thoughts get in the way - especially as we notice signs of getting older. You can be aware and change them up so you have the inner motivation to take care of your body. The most important part is to create the right identity and focus more on building a habit than on the immediate results. Then the benefits will definitely come in time.
In this episode:
- Stop the compare and despair trap with your own past self.
- A story of what’s possible - Joan McDonald, 73 year-old fitness buff.
- Be willing to adapt workouts to where you are now – no judgment.
- The habit is more important than the activity.
- Overcoming your own resistance.
- We’re improving the mind, body, and spirit that we get to live with forever.
Links:
- Syndey Cummings Workouts on YouTube
- Joan MacDonald @trainwithjoan Instagram Youtube
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
Shownotes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When the world is falling apart … know you have what it takes to keep it all together. We’ve had lots of unexpected chaos in just a few months already. Let's talk about uncertainty, even though you're probably feeling much better now than you were at the beginning of all this. Guess what? We’ll face surprising, unexpected and even threatening conditions again and again. So we might as well get good at it.
In this episode
- Wondering – is this the beginning of the global upheaval and disasters predicted in the scriptures?
- What is uncertain about the future, and what we can choose to be certain about.
- Knowing how to process emotions helps us not be so afraid of the emotions that come with challenging world conditions.
- Surfing as an analogy for managing uncontrollable situations.
- Deciding who we want to be in a crisis.
- Three intentional thoughts to switch for thoughts that create fear.
Show notes
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com
When you’re bored, restless, and discontented with life as it is … understand you’re starting a normal midlife developmental stage. Just like babies and teens go through natural developmental stages, so do adults! Unfortunately sometimes that stage is called a midlife crisis! It’s designed to motivate you to keep making progress. We don’t want to push those feelings away, instead we can listen to them and hear what they’re trying to tell us.
In this episode:
- What do you think is causing your feelings of your life not being quite enough right now?
- What is a midlife crisis? It includes wondering “Am I on the right track?”
- My experience of restlessness and discontent, then discovering a surprising direction to take.
- My own statement of belief regarding personal revelation and answers to prayer.
- Lean in to this phase and expect good things to come of it!
Show notes:
· Let's connect on Instagram!
· Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
When you think you should be farther along by now … realize you’re almost there! We’re so good at compare and despair – looking around at everyone else and thinking we’re behind. Let’s question that! You’ve already done a lot of valuable living. You aren’t starting from scratch. All the things you’ve done count. You’re so close!
In this episode:
- What do you think you should have figured out by now?
- The Unexpected Race story
- Getting past limiting thoughts like “I’m so behind” and “I wasted time.”
- 3 powerful thoughts:
- I’m so close
- Everything that didn’t work is leading me to what will
- I’m coming from behind for the big win!
Show notes:
· Let's connect on Instagram!
· Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
When you're yearning for something else but don't know what it is … set out on your midlife quest. Give yourself permission to discover what that missing piece is. It can be a wonderful journey if we aren’t in a hurry and demand all the answers now. Sometimes we need to go in a room and turn on the light to see what’s there, then decide if we want to stay or not!
In this episode:
- The Missing Key story
- 3 questions that rise up in middle years of nearly every woman’s life:
- Who am I now, and who do I want to become?
- What is my unique mission?
- What is possible for me? Can I feel more fulfilled by achieving my potential?
- My first steps exploring what I wanted in midlife.
- If you’ve been feeling like something is wrong with you or your life, deciding that you’re on a quest instead of in a crisis changes everything.
- Watch for unexpected treasures as you take your journey.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
When you realize you’re in a midlife growth stage … cultivate your confidence. Do you feel like something is trying to happen in your life? Midlife is a time of change and opportunity for growth. On this first episode, get started being aware of what midlife is trying to tell you. Let’s gather a tribe of powerful, wise women who are ready to thrive in challenging times!
In this episode:
- Introducing the host - a little about me and my midlife journey.
- Why midlife is a stage more than an age.
- What keeps women stuck in confusion in the middle of life.
- Why confidence is an all-purpose emotion that can make everything better.
Show notes:
- Let's connect on Instagram!
- Schedule a free discovery call with Vauna.
- Email vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com