The Victory>The Struggle: Recent Episodes
jessica newsome
Life has been hectic and during these times in my life, I see how important it is to stick close to God. But God is often silent in these times of transition. This is when we are extremely susceptible to fall.
In this episode, Jessica expounds on her last podcast, “While we wait”.
She discusses the crossroads we all face in the waiting. God desires us to say, “yes” to change. Change is the barrier between staying stuck and breakthrough.
In this episode, we discuss how to wait with purpose. God has a purpose for every part of our lives. Even the undesirable parts.
I’m back!! So within the last 10 months, I’ve gotten married, had a beautiful babygirl and became a step-mother of 3. In this episode, we discuss how life isn’t perfect just because we obtain our heart’s desires. It’s up to us to learn the lessons God is trying to teach us so that we can not only receive our blessings, but maintain them.
Join Jessica as she discusses her transition from singleness into dating and finally married life. She will answer your big questions regarding sex and desire for the opposite sex and desire for women.
Side Story: My amazing podcast studio engineer closed his studio last week. So I’ve been actively looking for a new studio to record. This is the first place I checked out..and I was less than thrilled. But the Holy Spirit told me to record here for today. As I was speaking, my message took a … Continue reading Episode 149: Making room for the Holy Spirit to thrive within us. →
Kim and I have been friends for over 10 years. She has helped me along my journey and shares her valuable insight into the various situations we encounter leaving the LGBTQ to follow Jesus.
Selecting those whom you hold yourself accountable is a crucial part of our walk with Christ. Choose wisely.
I don’t know about you, but I have been the queen of cutting negative people out of my life. Yet we can’t always do this. Some people are family that we HAVE to be in close proximity too. Others we work with. We cannot always cut people out of our lives. So how do we … Continue reading Episode 135: Dealing with difficult people →
We can feel like we’ve overcome certain struggles in our life, and we may have. But new seasons can bring about not only new struggles, but revive old struggles as well.
Why are you even following God? Many individuals “Why” just isn’t good enough. Some truly follow God out of fear or duty. This type of allegiance creates followers who truly don’t understand the love and grace of God. In theory they may, but when it comes to practical application of receiving God’s love and grace…they … Continue reading Episode 128: Is your “Why” good enough? →
In this episode I have with me, my good friend Marco. Marco and I have created a close friendship over the past few years while being in mostly opposite sides of the spectrum regarding political and LGBTQ beliefs. Marco self identifies as a Pansexual male who practices spirituality. Join us as we discuss how healthy … Continue reading Episode 126: Friendship across the divide →
Feeling stuck? Struggle with thinking that God loves others and is there for others more than you? Join Jessica in this episode as she discusses how to rest in/have patience as God comes through. If you enjoy this podcast, please leave a comment, subscribe and give us a 5 star rating. Consider partnering with this … Continue reading Episode 125: Don’t downplay the Holy Spirit →
Many of us speak negatively into our situations without even realizing it. We are negative about the outcomes of future events or even if God will come through for us. This is an area that strongly needs to be addressed. Not only is there power in the words we speak, our brain literally changes as … Continue reading Episode 124: The power of your words →
In episode 123, I share with you the times in which I felt like giving up and how I withstood the attacks of the enemy. If you struggle with this in your Christian walk, join us. Also, if you like this Podcast, please rate, subscribe and leave a glowing review.
Episode 112: “The process of sanctification” discusses the frustration of continuously sinning and feeling the guilt that comes along with it. Many people think that after salvation or deliverance their struggle with sin will vanish completely or at least mostly. So when sin emerges and becomes overwhelming, we often feel like we are undeserving of … Continue reading Episode 122: The process of sanctification →
Sometimes we (exLGBTQ) get frustrated when someone asks, “Are you gay?”. We wonder what vibes we’re giving off to make someone ask that. Or, we know already and are frustrated that people look at our outer appearance and presume to determine our sexual identity. In today’s episode, we discuss the matters of the heart and … Continue reading Episode 121: Giving off the vibes →
Let me pray for you and encourage you in your prayer life. Do you struggle with how to pray? What to pray? Let’s spend time in prayer together.
This weekend I had the privilege to speak at Freedom March which was held in Newton, N.C. at Christ Alive Church. Freedom March is a diverse group of former LGBTQ individuals sharing their testimonies and celebrating freedom in Christ. Join me in this episode as I talk about the commonalities that we as former LGBTQ … Continue reading Episode 118: Surrender →
Have you ever been told that you can’t serve at at a church because of your sexuality? Let’s discuss why this issue is so prominent in the church.
Follow Jessica on Instagram @jessica_newsome_ to join in on exclusive content. We asked you to submit via IG, your questions for todays Q&A. Your questions: In the Christian faith, can you be gay and just not have gay sex? How do you actively love people that you also disagree with theologically? What exactly does Love … Continue reading Instagram Q&A →
Many of us are walking in depression, hurt, regret and shame. While putting on a facade that everything is alright when it isn’t is what many of us do. Let’s begin to check the thoughts that go through our mind.
What we desire most in life can be an array of things. That perfect job with great pay, that perfect relationship, children, etc. But other times it’s something more complex. We may desire to restore a past relationship with someone whom God is telling us to distance ourselves from. What we are often left with … Continue reading Episode 84: Trusting God to know the desires of your heart- How to let God meet our emotional needs →
The hurt and pain of life as we cry out to God for help yet see no change in sight is excruciating. Where is God in the midst of the heartache and chaos? This is one of the most sought after questions I receive. While my answer is always the same, not many people want … Continue reading Episode 83: Being sifted & pruned for greater →
Those who find themselves in vicious cycles often struggle with letting go. We often blame God for the bad things that happen in our lives when our choices were significant players.
Why do we continue to desire things that hurt us? It may not be substance abuse or an abusive relationship. Rather, it is often the thing that seems harmless that God tries to separate us from. Why? God knows the harm that we face even if we don’t. He knows what’s best even when we … Continue reading Episode 80: All that glitters isn’t gold →
Many struggle with thoughts that plague our minds and hearts such as, “Why am I here? & Why did God create me? The depression, anxiety, worry and fear that many have, comes along with the consistent pursuance of purpose when we are searching for it outside of the God of the Bible.
Have you ever had a dream that was way to real and you wondered if it really happened? Or maybe a dream where you think God was trying to tell you something but you were unsure if it was from God or not? Some of the dreams we have that people are too scared to … Continue reading Episode 76: Discerning 3 types of dreams →
How do you deal with Christians that are super judgy? Many people would rather be around non Christians because they find acceptance as they unpack their beliefs, thoughts and feelings. We as Christians often go through phases where we think we know it all, but actually know nothing, followed up by the “I know nothing” … Continue reading Episode 73: Don’t be a judgy Christian →
I have found a few major common threads as I have spoken with people across the world who struggle with homosexuality. 1. People feel condemnation over what they’ve done2. Shame over what they desire3. Hopelessness about their ability to move forward
In times of trouble, heartache and disappointments, the emend seems to speak the loudest. Reminders of how things are never going to get better and we will never be enough begin to invade our thought life. How do we combat these thoughts? Let’s talk about it.
Taking a question from a viewer, let’s discuss the hesitancy of dating someone who was formerly LGBTQ. Many individuals wonder if marriage will be enough for someone who used to be gay, or, will they eventually go back into the LGBTQ lifestyle.
Walking into the New Year holds so many expectations. The desire for things to get better and see a dream fulfilled. God will never give us what we can’t carry. All blessings from God come with some type of weight or burden. Marriage, new jobs and financial endeavors all come with their disclaimers. Have you … Continue reading Episode 64: The baggage that holds you back →
I speak with many who have never been in a same-sex relationship but struggle with the strong desire to do so. Battling the desire for years yet never being able to fully walk away from the nagging thought, “What if..”. How does one truly move past something they think embodies who they are and into … Continue reading Episode 63: I haven’t dabbled in homosexuality, but I want to! →
Wonder why God may not be showing up? Let’s discuss how spirituality and feelings may be the thief that guides us away from good things.
Can individuals who disagree on the topic of homosexuality coexist in healthy friendships and relationships?
Why do we find ourselves struggling so much in our walk with God? So often we find that unanswered dreams, petitions, and goals plague us years later and drain us of hope for the future. Let’s discuss what oftentimes causes this frustrating halt in our lives.
This has been a journey. Not all of it is glitz and glamor. There has been many tears, frustration and loneliness. But I wouldn’t change any of it for the world.
They say, “Seasons don’t last always”. But what do you do when things never seem to get better? How do you hold on to God when He is blessing everyone except you? Or intervening in everyone’s situation, except you?
Striving in our own might to obtain God’s destiny for ourselves often causes us to come up short. We not only need the supernatural power of God in order to reap the harvest God has declared over our lives, but we need those valley moments.
So often our faith gets beat up and knocked down. We face challenges of the flesh that persists to drag us back to the sin that we so desperately want to despise. Let’s begin to fight like the men and women God created us to be.
Let’s explore how Judas went from disciple to betrayer. If we are honest, we can find ourselves in Judas’ shoes and trapped in the stronghold of sin if we are not careful. In this podcast episode, I will discuss how to make sure you don’t get bound in the Judas effect.
Have you ever felt beat down by your emotions? Helpless over your situation? I have. Let’s talk about how to flip the script and allow the power of our words to positively change our situation.
I have often thought that God takes things away because I am not always an honor roll student when it comes to my Christian walk. But in a dream God gave me, He showed me the true culprit behind many lost blessings.
Proverbs 24:16 tells us that the righteous fall seven times but get back up again while the wicked stumble in times of calamity. Have you ever felt like you were at times righteous and wicked at other times? Let’s talk about it.
In a world where we compare ourselves to others & are driven by quick accomplishments, Christian’s tend to struggle with patiently waiting. Waiting for the addiction to cease, promises to be fulfilled & internal battles to no longer badger our hearts & minds. What if the Valleys of hardship are actually our pathways to peace? … Continue reading Episode 50: How long does it take for breakthrough to come.. →
Sometimes it seems as though walking with God is more difficult than we’d expect. What is the purpose of the difficult seasons.
As God was molding me and renewing my mind, I always wondered if going back to my old environment would be a problem. Lust was always and issue and black women were my kryptonite. If God placed me back into this type of environment (I had relocated to an area with minimal African American’s), would … Continue reading Episode 39: Overcoming your kryptonite →
What do you do when God does not answer your prayer? How do you stand firm in your faith when others are healed and you are not? Bethany discusses her physical health journey and how God showed up in the most unlikely scenario.
Are you growing in your Christian faith? Breakthrough oftentimes requires work on our side. Note: The last second of the clip was cut short. Computer issues. My bad.
Ever feel like God abandoned you during hard times? It is hard to feel like God surrounds you with His love in troubled times. But just as He guided and loved the Israelites in their disobedience, He loves and relentlessly pursues after you in your worst seasons.http://www.loveatthecross.com
Uncovering the thought process of those who believe that God cannot deliver a person from homosexuality so that person must live a celibate Christian life as a homosexual.http://www.loveatthecross.com
If you don’t know God, you can’t understand how He takes away sin. God is love & a healer of broken hearts. But you will only understand His process of manifesting these things by developing a relationship with Him.http://www.loveatthecross.com
It is hard to trust God when we don’t see a clear path paved ahead of us. How do we trust in God when it seems as though the route He’s guiding us through is anything but easy. In this episode, Jessica explains how trusting in God is anything but glamorous, yet, the end results … Continue reading Episode 19: Trusting God when there is no clarity →
How do we rationalize faith with one’s struggle with mental illness? http://www.loveatthecross.com
What do you believe about yourself that God does not say about you? Your belief systems will keep you trapped if they are not God’s belief systems. http://www.loveatthecross.com
Why is there such a struggle with transformation? When the Bible says that with God all things are possible, why do we see see so many Christians helpless in the fight against the enemy. http://www.loveatthecross.com
Note: I misspoke. I said that the enemy wanted to attack Jesus when He didn’t have glory. I meant when Jesus didn’t have the following of a crowd.
What happens when we don’t allow God to work on those critical areas in our lives? Do the blessings stop? Does He turn away from us if we continue to disobey Him? http://www.loveatthecross.com
Have you ever struggled with SSA thoughts and tried everything in your power to get rid of them? At times, does your flesh win? Your impure thoughts are not your own. The enemy whispers in a persons ear things that go against the Word of God. http://www.loveatthecross.com
Why is it that some people seem to be further along than me? What are they doing differently? These are common questions many have. But let’s not fall into the comparison trap.http://www.loveatthecross.com
Maybe this is your greatest fear or you are excited and hopeful. Whatever your thoughts may be, stepping into the dating scene can be a wonderful experience when ready for it.
With so many voices using the Bible to justify or disapprove homosexuality, How do you know which voice is the accurate?http://www.loveatthecross.com
How do you tell your heart to stop loving who it loves? How do you walk away? http://www.loveatthecross.com
God desires to reach us wherever we are in life. There is no problem to big or life so lost that Jesus can’t restore & redeem.