The Relationship Minute: Recent Episodes
The Editing Suite
The Relationship Minute is your wake-up call, guiding you along a path to deeper more satisfying relationships with the people in your life. Each episode takes on a different aspect of human relationships and challenges you to change your perspective or even a behavior.
It's amazing what a change this weekly 60 seconds will make in you life.
Trusting that things will unfold as they should is a tall order and a necessary life skill.
Perception is your reality, but the person you're in conflict with has their perception too.
Being absorbed in our thoughts can give the saboteur within permission to reinforce false beliefs we may hold about ourselves.
At the end of the day are you depleted to the point where you have little left to share with those you love?
Where are your defenses getting in the way of you creating the kind of relationship you want?
We need friends who we can discuss our relationship with. A good friend will be objective and not be judgmental of your partner.
Understanding the conditions under which you and your partner can enjoy clear communication.
We need to resist the temptation to judge others for the work we believe they need to do. Instead, we must remain focused on our own work.
We have different "styles" of decision-making. It's helpful to understand your decision-making style as well as that or your partner's.
The choice to move away from something difficult or painful will yield very different results than the choice to move to something positive.
In this frantic world it's human nature to be consumed with regretting the past or worrying about the future. It takes intention to be here now.
Guilt can give us clues about how we may want to live our lives differently going forward.
Are you always wanting more in your life. If you were to take stock of what's going well in your life, would you still feel that you're missing out?
A simple concept that often not easy to execute on. Here I give you another perspective that will get you in motion.
Are you focused on what you get from your relationship, or do you consider what you bring to your relationship?
What are you missing, mis-hearing, mis-taking, mis-representing, mis-understanding in your relationship?
In our modern world, seeking balance is laudable but illusive. A better approach is to stay in the moment, pay attention and act on the feedback life is giving us.
The changes you've been waiting for in others may actually lie with changes you need to make.
Confronted with choices can often get us stuck. Here I talk about the importance to move through the decision making process as difficult as it can be.
In a supportive relationship we often bring out the best in the person we're in relationship with. In our relationship with ourselves, that isn't always true. In fact, often the opposite is true. Here are some tips in being more supportive of yourself.
We often get wrapped up in expectations around changes in our partner's behavior. Much more effective to focus on what you can change in your own behavior.
How to share your discoveries around personal and relationship growth with your male partner.
Writing can bring back your objectivity. With that, you're both better equipped to talk constructively.
How self-compassion is an important prerequisite in how you treat the others you care about.
It's not so much how often you're in conflict with your partner, it's more a case of how you come back together after conflict.
Have you written off portions of your life because they didn't end as you had hoped? Here's a new perspective.
Needing to be liked can be in conflict with who we really are. Hear how it can impact your life.
If you're zoomed in closely on a problem, you may have a challenge gaining a broader perspective.
You can never go back, but the personal growth you experience with loss will propel you forward.
We all want the people close to us to change in some way. We're more likely to make change within ourselves, however, and that can lead to great enrichment in our relationships.
We live in a world where we can access things before we've earned the money to pay for them. The choices we make around money can have a strong impact on our sense of well being.
Have you ever demanded an apology and got it? This Relationship Minute offers a different perspective.
Using absolute language to describe a person's behavior ends up generalizing, and that ends up painting an inaccurate picture of the person. A picture that puts them on the defensive, creating distance.
Our world is in a constant state of flux. Our work as human beings is to accept that all things shall pass.
There's a reason for the old saying: "The road to hell is paved with good intentions", Lean how you can make different choices and enjoy different outcomes. All in 60 seconds.