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Dr Rachel Morris
The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.
Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.
It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.
Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.
Every doctor and high-achieving professional knows what it feels like to lie awake with a brain that refuses to stop - replaying a decision made that afternoon, running tomorrow's list at midnight, scanning ahead for what might go wrong. Our ingrained programming tells us that more thinking keeps us safe and keeps things running. But there is a cost to that, and our analytical brains (the very thing that makes us good at our jobs) may be the reason we can't rest.
In this conversation with Giles Croft, former NHS surgeon and coach, we explore what happens when the brain's analytical, planning, threat-scanning part takes over completely - and what your right brain already knows how to do that most of us have never been properly introduced to.
We cover:
- The difference between left-brain and right-brain consciousness, and why doctors and high achievers are trained to default to the analytical mode
- Giles's own experience of a TIA - and what the temporary loss of his left brain revealed about the default state that sits underneath all the thinking
- Why "just stop overthinking" is advice that doesn't reach the actual problem
- How the brain "pre-lives" the future, and why this feels like vigilance but functions like anxiety
- What it actually feels like to step out of left-brain dominance - and the small, practical ways to do it
- Why our default state is not stress - it only feels that way because we've been away from calm for a long time
This episode is for you if you lie awake replaying a conversation with a colleague, a patient or a client; if you find yourself planning three weeks ahead on a Sunday evening, or even on holiday, your mind is running its usual commentary. What we discuss may help you understand what is really beneath all that noise, and whether the calm you're looking for has been there the whole time.
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About Giles Croft:
Giles is a former NHS surgeon and coach who works with individuals and organisations on the human experience of work. His firsthand encounter with a transient ischaemic attack gave him a unique, embodied understanding of how the brain's different modes of consciousness shape our wellbeing. He helps people understand how they are experiencing the world - and who they really are. Find Giles at https://www.gilespcroft.com/.
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Boundaries aren't walls. They're fences. A wall keeps everyone out. A fence has a gate, and it's yours to open or close, if you're willing to hold it when someone pushes.
That idea comes from this conversation with Dr Sarah Coope, recorded for the Your Coaching Journey podcast. Sarah talks about her own route into coaching, what twenty years of coaching doctors has taught her about self-worth, and why so many of us try to fix things that were never ours to fix.
In this episode:
- How a magazine advert led Sarah to her first coaching session, and the moment she realised she had different values to the people around her
- "Fruit stapling" — Sarah's analogy for behaviour change that skips the real work underneath
- Why boundaries are fences, not walls, and what actually gets in the way of holding them
- The difference between being a rescuer and being a coach, and what it costs doctors to be the former
- Why Sarah tells every doctor thinking about a coaching qualification: "it starts with you"
Sarah Coope is a former GP, leadership coach and mediator who leads the training behind the podcast. Helen Leathers is a Coach, Trainer and Facilitator for Your Coaching Journey - an organisation providing transformational coaching training for doctors. Find out more about their upcoming courses here and use the code FROGSPAWN to get 20% off a live coaching course.
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There is one belief that keeps high achievers stuck in burnout long after they should be recovering - the belief that burning out means they failed.
This is a live panel discussion from the Burnout Free Working Conference — an unscripted conversation about what burnout recovery actually requires, why the self-blame makes it impossible to start, and the single reframe that changes how you see every struggling colleague, including yourself.
We cover:
- Why burnout is not a personal failing — and what the evidence actually says about where it starts
- The clinical difference between burnout and depression, and why the label matters less than most people think
- Why asking struggling colleagues to "reach out" puts the burden in exactly the wrong place - and what "reaching in" looks like instead
- The shift from "difficult colleague" to "colleague in difficulty" - and why that single reframe changes how you respond
- What the fear of saying no looks like versus what actually happens when you do
- Why bearing witness, without trying to fix, is itself a genuine intervention
- What burnout recovery actually requires — and why it can't start until the self-blame does
This episode is for you if…
You're a high achiever in a high-stakes role who has started to wonder whether the exhaustion you're carrying is something more than tiredness - or whether the reason you can't seem to recover is that somewhere, underneath the fatigue, you've decided the burnout was your fault. This conversation will give you permission to put down the belief that you’ve been carrying, and the language to start again.
About Dr Richard Duggins
Dr Richard Duggins is a consultant psychiatrist in medical psychotherapy and the author of Burnout Free Working. He has spent his career working with clinicians and high achievers in burnout - exploring not just the exhaustion, but the shame and self-blame that makes recovery so much harder. Get Richard’s book here: Burnout-Free Working: Your Expert Guide to Thriving in a Stressful Workplace.
About Dr Chris Turner
Dr Chris Turner is an emergency medicine consultant, co-founder of Civility Saves Lives, and a TEDx speaker whose work on culture, behaviour, and psychological safety in healthcare has reached hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Learn more about Chris’s work with Civility Saves Lives here: https://www.civilitysaveslives.com/
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Am I Stressed, Overwhelmed... or Burning Out?
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There's something most leaders do - we avoid the conversation that needs to be had. We care too much about the wrong things: how the other person will react, whether it will make things awkward, whether we'll be the one blamed if they go off sick. Our ingrained programming tells us that keeping the peace is the same as keeping the relationship, but it isn't.
In this episode, Joe Weston is back for round two to explain why conflict avoidance - the silence, the corridor moaning, the feedback we give and immediately want to apologise for - is itself a form of conflict. And what it actually sounds like to hold someone accountable without becoming someone you don't like.
We cover:
- Why avoiding difficult conversations feels kind but functions as a form of conflict
- The difference between confrontation (which can deepen a relationship) and conflict (which breaks one)
- How to hold someone accountable without triggering their fight-flight-freeze response
- Why focusing on behaviour — not the person — changes everything, and exactly what to say instead
- The "difficult middle bit": what to do when someone gets defensive, and you want to back down
- Why doctors, nurses, vets, and other professionals already have the skills for hard conversations — just not yet with their colleagues
- How small, intentional acts of relationship-building change the culture around accountability over time
This episode is for you if... you're a senior manager, doctor, nurse, vet, dentist, or any high-achieving leader who has rehearsed the conversation in your head, convinced yourself it wasn't the right moment, and watched the problem get worse instead. You know something needs to be said. You just haven't found the version of yourself that can say it yet. This episode may help.
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Am I Stressed, Overwhelmed... or Burning Out?
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A doctor emailed me recently, she's been in medicine for 25 years, and the question she asked was one I've heard in a hundred different ways: "Am I a snowflake?"
She felt a great deal of shame about finding things hard - something I see time and time again in high achievers. Like the feeling that not coping is proof of something wrong with you. A character flaw. A sign you've gone soft.
But the data tells a different story. In a survey we did of over 600 health and social care professionals, nearly one in three worried about whether they or their team would cope with rising workloads. One in three. That's not a snowflake problem - that's a system problem.
In this Quick Dip, I unpack why the shame about not coping is often more damaging than not coping itself. Why our ingrained programming tells us that we have to cope with everything, all the time, to feel good enough. And why protecting the appearance of coping - keeping the show on the road at all costs - will cost you more than any boundary ever could.
We cover:
• The "Am I a Snowflake?" question and what it really means
• Why not coping is a sign of an empty tank, not a character flaw
• The Superhero Delusion and how it keeps you trapped
• Biscuit Boundaries and the Responsibility Trap
• Why shame thrives when you believe you're the only one struggling
• The stress curve and what it reveals about your limits
• Why conflict feels more frightening than burnout for high achievers
• The two stories of not coping - and which one costs you more
This episode is for you if you've ever wondered whether you're the weak one. If you've been holding it together at work while feeling like you're falling apart underneath. If you've told yourself you just need to be more resilient, push harder, cope better - and it isn't working. You are not a snowflake. You never were.
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When Aoife O'Brien is close to burnout, she doesn't want to stop. She wants to do more. One more task. One more thing to get through before she can stop. She says that's how she knows now - not the exhaustion, not the breaking point, but the acceleration. If you recognise that feeling, this conversation names what's actually happening. Not to add to your list. To give you a cleaner way to read what your own system is telling you.
We cover:
- Why the urge to do more work is a signal, not a coping strategy
- Imposter syndrome as a systemic trap - the beliefs you're swimming in so completely you don't know they're there
- The difference between burnout symptoms and burnout drivers
- What happens when a leader decides to go home on time - and what that single act does to the people around them
- How to start reading what your system is actually telling you
This episode is for you if you've been telling yourself you're coping fine - and some part of you knows that story is getting harder to believe. If you're a high achiever in a demanding role who has always mistaken acceleration for resilience. If you've never stopped to ask what the urge to just keep going is actually telling you.
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You may have been counting down to summer all year, telling yourself that you just need to survive until your next holiday. You may have been looking forward to taking a pause and getting a chance to finally breathe.
But when you get to your holiday, instead of feeling rested, you feel more exhausted, more overwhelmed, and more behind. And somewhere underneath the busyness, you might be thinking: what's wrong with me? Everyone else seems fine.
Nothing is wrong with you - you just fell into the summer Urgency Trap - one of the seven Overwhelm Amplifiers that keeps high achievers stuck in the Responsibility Trap.
In this episode, we break down exactly why summer increases pressure instead of relieving it, why you end up covering everyone else's work while your own recovery gets sacrificed, and the one practical shift that changes everything: time-blocking your rest as if it were as important as your most urgent patient or client.
We cover:
- The Urgency Trap: how "urgent but not important" tasks hijack your recovery
- The long-term fix (the Responsibility Trap) vs. the quick fix you can start today
- How to time-block rest, recovery, and buffer slots into your diary - and treat them as non-negotiable
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If you've always felt like everyone else got an unwritten handbook about how to behave at work - and you've had to figure it out yourself, one interaction at a time - this episode is for you.
This week, Rachel’s in conversation with Kirstie Pickles: vet, autistic ADHD professional, and EDI advocate. Kirstie was diagnosed as an adult - after years of masking in a high-stakes clinical role, performing competence while running on empty underneath.
We talk about:
- What masking really costs - not just after one hard day, but across a career
- Neurodivergent burnout: why it is different from regular burnout, and why the usual advice doesn't work
- The shame of late diagnosis - and what it means to finally have a name for it
- What colleagues and leaders can do to make workplaces work for everyone
You don't need a diagnosis to recognise yourself here. A lot of us in high-achieving, high-pressure roles have neurodivergent traits we have never had a name for. We just learned to mask through it.
Our ingrained programming tells us to keep performing, keep adapting, keep looking like we're coping fine. But that performance has a cost - and it will affect your next decision, and the one after that.
Different is not defective.
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Burnout in high stress jobs isn't always about doing too much; sometimes it's about a belief you were never taught to question.
You finished your day, finished (most) of your tasks, and you still can't switch off. Most people assume that's a workload problem, but the reason people in demanding roles like medicine can't genuinely rest isn't about how much they've done - it's about what they've been conditioned to believe about rest itself
In this episode, Rachel introduces the Superhero Delusion: the conviction that the rules about rest apply to other people. Not to you. She explores how that belief was built, why burnout recovery starts with understanding rest differently, and what sustainable work actually requires.
We cover:
- Why you can't switch off - and why workload isn't the real reason
- The Superhero Delusion: the conviction that the rules about rest apply to other people, not you
- How the belief that rest has to be earned gets installed - and who installed it
- What sustainable work actually requires (and it isn't more discipline)
This episode is for you if you're the person who has to be on even when you're officially off. Who takes annual leave and spends the first two days mentally finishing the handover. Who lies awake replaying the list of things that didn't get done - and is still asking whether any amount of done would ever feel like enough.
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Getting a complaint from a colleague is one of the most destabilising things that can happen to a high-achieving leader. Not because of the process, but because of what it makes you ask about yourself.
In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Pallavi Bradshaw, Medical Director at the MPS, to talk about something that doesn't get named nearly enough: a complaint from a colleague isn't a patient or client complaint. It feels very different and can be devastating if our ingrained programming tells us that we have to please everyone all the time to feel good enough. And so unless you start to frame it differently, it will affect your next decision, and the one after that.
This conversation genuinely produced an a-ha moment for me. It may change how you carry the next time it happens.
We cover:
- Why colleague complaints feel categorically different - and why that makes complete sense
- The question underneath the complaint that drives so many decisions afterwards
- What Dr Bradshaw has learned about supporting doctors through formal grievances at the MPS
- How to stop a complaint from becoming something you carry permanently
This episode is for you if you're the person who had to have the conversation nobody else would. Who had to make the call that someone disagreed with. Who lies awake replaying a decision you had to make - and is still asking what it says about you.
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Imposter syndrome is something we often don’t talk about openly, and the standard advice - build your confidence, reframe your thinking, remember your achievements – rarely addresses the real cause.
In this Quick Dip, Rachel shares a piece of feedback she received years ago that still stings and uses it to unpick what imposter syndrome really is: it’s not a confidence gap, it’s not a skills deficit, but something much more personal.
She talks about why working on your confidence alone will never be enough, what's actually driving that voice that says you're about to be found out, and the one thing that actually shifts it.
Key Takeaways
- Imposter syndrome isn't always about competence or confidence - it can be the system gaslighting you, impossible self-imposed standards, or just the very human experience of feeling not good enough.
- A 2025 meta-analysis found that 62% of healthcare professionals experience imposter syndrome - this is a profession-wide pattern, not a personal failing.
- What actually moves the needle is saying it out loud to someone who responds with empathy and recognition.
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If you constantly find yourself picking up tasks that nobody else will do, staying late to cover gaps, or slowly absorbing more and more without anyone asking you to - this episode is going to name exactly what's happening.
Occupational psychologist Leanne Elliott joins Rachel to unpack why over-responsibility isn't a personality flaw; it's what happens when you don’t have absolute clarity on what tasks are definitely part of your role – and, more crucially, what tasks aren’t.
They explore why conscientious professionals in under-resourced settings are most at risk, how the 'if I don't do it, who will?' question keeps people stuck, and what you can actually do this week to start auditing what belongs on your plate and what doesn't.
Key Takeaways
- Role clarity is a recognised psychosocial risk factor, and when it's absent, taking on extra work feels like the only option, even when it's pushing you towards burnout.
- A simple daily audit - writing down tasks that drained you, that weren't in your role, or that you did out of fear rather than responsibility – can give you the data to have important but calmer and less personal conversations with your team about your roles.
- Rest and recovery are not the same thing. Knowing your recovery activities and protecting time for them is a skill, not a luxury.
Resources Mentioned:
- The Twenty Questions: How do I know if I’m a workaholic?
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You know something needs to change, but you just have no idea what, how, or where to begin, and your lack of a plan may be starting to feel like failure.
In this Quick Dip, Rachel unpacks why the belief that you need everything mapped out before you're allowed to move is the very thing keeping you stuck, and introduces the AB-Z method: a simple framework that replaces the impossible task of knowing your whole future with a far more manageable one.
This episode is about how to craft your work, not how to leave your job completely or blow everything up, but how to get a genuine say in the shape of your working life - one honest step at a time.
Key Takeaways
- You don't need the whole career plan - you need A, a sense of Z, and B - the very next step.
- Z is not a job title. It's how you want to be: internally, and with the people you love.
- Recovering from burnout is not the same as arriving at Z. The absence of burnout is a step, not a destination.
- Comparing your Z to someone else's is one of the most reliable ways to stay stuck.
- Crafting your work and career can happen alongside your current role, not instead of it - and it can start at any grade, any stage.
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If you have ever ended a clinical day exhausted not from the medicine itself but from the weight of everybody else's feelings, this episode might hit home.
Josh Connolly, resilience coach and author of ‘It's Them Not You’, joins me to explore why many healthcare professionals take on so much of the emotional load for everyone - and how that pattern almost always began long before medical school.
Key Takeaways
- People-pleasing at work usually has roots in family roles from childhood. The 'high achiever', the 'mascot' and the 'scapegoat' all carry those patterns into adult professional life.
- Holding space for someone is not the same as absorbing their emotions. The moment you start feeling what they feel, you have crossed a boundary - and your ability to help them actually decreases.
- When you are about to say yes under pressure, ask: 'Who have I become right now?' If the answer is your childlike self desperately seeking approval, that is the moment to pause.
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Resources mentioned:
- It's Them, Not You: How to Break Free From Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story by Josh Connolly
- The Shapes Academy
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If you’ve ever thought to yourself ‘if I don’t do it, no one will’ this episode is for you. You tell yourself something important will go wrong if you don't do it all - but what if that's not what's actually driving your decisions?
In this Quick Dip, Rachel suggests something uncomfortable: that the decisions running your workload might less to do with patient safety than they are to do with who you believe yourself to be.
Because the question 'if I don't do it, who else will?' is often not about the risk of harm to patients, customers or colleagues – but more about the question ‘who am I if I don’t?’.
And learning to spot the difference between the two will give you back some choice over your workload.
Resources Mentioned
- The Shapes Academy
- You Are Not a Frog: The Over-Responsibility Trap series
- Part 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on You
- Part 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a Question
- Part 3: How to Stop Feeling Guilty When It’s Impossible to Do Your Job
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You're working hard, doing excellent clinical work, and genuinely trying to make things better for your patients - so why does it feel like no one's listening? So many healthcare professionals hit a wall where their ideas get talked over, their proposals stall, and their careers plateau, even when their track record is strong.
In this episode, Rachel is joined by Sam Pearce and Sally Powell, co-founders of Impactful Women, to talk about political intelligence - what it actually is, why it feels uncomfortable at first, and how building the right relationships strategically (and with integrity) is the real skill that gets things done in the NHS and beyond.
Key Takeaways
- Your career is your responsibility - waiting for someone to notice you or advocate for you is the most common career trap there is.
- Influence is relational, not hierarchical. The person who has been in the department 15 years with no senior title can have more sway than the clinical director.
- Decisions get made before the meeting. Building relationships and having conversations in advance isn't manipulation - it's how things actually work, and others are already doing it.
Resources Mentioned
- Diary of a CEO podcast
- Impactful Women website
- Impactful Women on LinkedIn
- Free resource: 10% Braver
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Every day in healthcare, a meeting ends, and a problem that was never formally handed to anyone lands on the person who cares most - you.
If you've ever walked out of a room carrying something that somehow became yours without anyone asking, this Quick Dip Episode gives that experience a name, explains exactly why it keeps happening to people like you, and gives you the language to start pushing back on it.
Listen to other episodes in the Over-Responsibility Trap series:
- Part 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on You
- Part 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a Question
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How many times this week have you thought, "I just don't have a choice"? About your rota, your inbox, the extra patient squeezed in at the end of clinic? That thought feels true, and it can feel like a fact... But what if it’s actually a story, and that story is costing you your peace of mind?
In this episode, Rachel sits down with Robbie Swale, coach, author of ‘The Power to Choose’, and creator of the 12 Minute Method, to dig into why reclaiming a sense of agency and choice matters so deeply for your wellbeing. Together, they explore how small shifts in language and perception can move you from feeling like life is happening to you to feeling like you are actually living it on purpose.
Key Takeaways
- Switching "I have to" to "I choose to" is not just a mindset trick. It activates a different part of your nervous system and genuinely changes how you experience pressure.
- You almost certainly have more options than you can currently see. Curiosity, not certainty, is what opens them up.
- The 12 Minute Method proves that tiny, consistent actions compound. One lunchtime walk a week adds up to 50 walks over a year, and that matters.
- Feeling stuck is usually a sign you have not yet had the conversation, asked the question, or taken the step you already know you need to take.
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🐸 The Power to Choose: Finding Calm and Connection in a Complex World by Robbie Swale
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Have you ever had someone ask for “a quick bit of help”… and somehow ended up owning the entire task?
In caring professions, requests for help can feel less like requests and more like responsibilities landing on us. We’re trained to notice problems, fix things and support colleagues - which means it can feel incredibly uncomfortable to say no.
In this Quick Dip episode, Rachel explores the moment when a simple request triggers our helping reflex, and why so many capable professionals end up carrying work that was never meant to be theirs.
Learning to pause before automatically saying yes can help you support colleagues without becoming the automatic carrier of responsibility for everyone and everything.
Key ideas discussed in this episode
- Why requests for help often feel like obligations
- The “helping reflex” in caring professions
- How small requests can quietly become your responsibility
- The difference between caring about something and carrying it
- Why saying yes when you don’t have capacity can lead to resentment
- How awareness helps you respond to requests more intentionally
Resources mentioned:
- The Shapes Academy
- Brené Brown — “Clear is kind”
- Passing the Naughty Monkey Back with Dr Amit Sharma
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The founder of the National Association of Sessional GPs on whether the grass is always greener, and the changes you can make in your career without feeling like a frog forced to jump out of the pan.
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Have you ever looked at a task on your plate and wondered when it became your responsibility?
Nobody asked you to do it. Nobody assigned it to you. But somehow it landed on you, and now you're carrying it.
In this Quick Dip, Rachel explores the responsibility trap - the pattern where capable and conscientious professionals automatically pick up unclaimed problems. Over time, these responsibilities accumulate, increasing your workload, emotional labour, and ultimately contributing to burnout.
This episode explores why responsible people are particularly vulnerable to this trap and how being more deliberate about what you choose to carry can protect both your energy and your professional identity.
Resources mentioned
- Dr Sarah Coope’s LinkedIn article on the “silence gap”
- FrogFest Virtual: The Doubt Busters - a half-day online symposium for doctors and senior healthcare professionals happening on 3 June 2026.
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Mindset shifts to help you explore difficult feelings and find solutions without falling into rescuer mode or getting overwhelmed.
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There’s more on your plate than you realise, and most likely you’re trying to cram 25 hours of work into a 24 hour day, not counting sleep and time away from work. Here’s some practical advice to help you see what’s on your plate, and what you need to sacrifice.
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What does it mean for a doctor to be “good”? Can you be “good” and still take care of yourself? And how can we rescue ourselves from the trap of thinking that asking for support is somehow a moral failing?
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Practical questions from a clinical psychologist to help you assess whether you’re in a harmful work environment, or one that doesn’t align with your values or strengths.
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Practical techniques to help you respond when someone makes demands on your time, from an expert in mediation and team coaching.
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How to reframe impossible choices into doable decisions, using a tried-and-tested framework and a simple power mantra.
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How to recognise and avoid “chronic niceness”, regulate your nervous system, and confront people in a way that deepens – and doesn’t damage – relationships.
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Stress doesn’t always come from work, or from things we traditionally think of ass stressful. As 2026 begins, here are three questinos you can ask yourself to see what it’s time to stop doing.
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When shame becomes toxic, we can end up in a spiral that’s difficult to escape. This quick dip offers a chance to break free of that spiral, remember that we’re human, and remind ourselves we’re doing our best.
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When it comes to work, what we seek can often shift in mid-life, from recognition and status towards meaningful contribution and purpose. What do you do if you’r at that crossroads in your career?
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Women are conditioned to be the emotional shock absorbers for men, and to carry the emotional load of a relationship or a family, on top of their duties at work.
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Burnout is not your fault, and it’s not inevitable. The choices you make will shape how you survive in a toxic system, and they don’t involve victim-blaming.
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Small, actionable steps you can take to reframe self-care as necessary care, and equip yourself to avoid burnout rather than waiting for someone else to tell you it’s OK.
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Here’s what to say when someone asks you to overextend yourself, but you’re afraid of what they’ll think if you say no.
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Normal responses to abnormal working conditions don’t mean you’re broken – they mean you’re human, and you’re dealing with a lot. Here’s some useful, actionable coping strategies that go above and beyond acknowledging when it’s OK to not be OK.
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When we’re in conflict, our inner Rottweiler can surface – a protective mechanism that can escalate tensions rather than soothe them. But this quick dip offers a simple framework to keep that dog on a lead so you can survive disagreement or criticism without lashing out.
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If you’re overwhelmed at work, jumping out of the frying pan might seem like the only option. But there are things you can try today… you just have to commit to the life and career you deserve.
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Burnout happens when work stress and home pressures overrun our support structures. When we understand this balance, we can take steps to address burnout before we reach breaking point.
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Stress is created from the mind, not from the outside world. If that’s true, how can we stop listening to the unhelpful stories our minds tell us?
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Why we need to sleep, why REM isn’t the whole picture, and what to do when anxiety keeps you awake at night.
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When that afternoon slump hits or you’re at the end of a long shift, what can you reach for instead of the biscuits in the cupboard or the cake in the staff room?
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Essential reading to help you learn more about your brain and the brains of those around you, do less, and make decisions from a place of clarity.
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Are you borrowing energy from your life outside of work, just so you can cope with everything on your plate? If so, it’s time to stop, and rebalance your energy so you don’t burn out or lose connection with the people and things you love.
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Dr George Wright offers ways to tackle blue-on-blue complaints, and how to avoid going for the nuclear option if you have an issue with a colleague.
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How to shift your locus of control and create sustainable change without burning out.
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The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, but if you’re thinking about making a career change, understanding your values, strengths, and unique operating style can help you design a more fulfilling path.
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Four ways in which the “badge of busyness” you wear could be contributing to your burnout, how to reframe busy or over-scheduled, and how you can delegate without feeling like you’re just passing the buck.
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Explore the consequences of binary thinking, why it’s damaging, and how we can reframe all-or-nothing statements so we can take care of ourselves and others.
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Five diagnostic tools you can use to determine whether you’re burning out, and the practical actions you can take to try and prevent it.
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If you’re contemplating a change within or away from medicine, is starting your own business really all it’s cracked up to be?
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What should you do if you suspect you might be neurodivergent? What’s the difference between neurodivergence and neurodiversity? And how can we support everyone to play to their strengths without feeling like we’re making allowances?
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If you struggle to keep on top of certain activities or you find a rigid schedule too constricting, you might be neurodivergent. And there are plenty of places you can turn to for support, and practical systems you can implement to thrive as a doctor.
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The key to beating burnout is not more wellbeing webinars; it’s giving you agency and autonomy over your time. Here’s how you can start to take back control.
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Kindness builds trust in teams, and teams that trust each-other work more smoothly. When mistakes happen, they’re addressed from a place of positivity, not blame. Here’s what kindness is, and why it’s not just about being “nice”.
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Committing to behaviour change is one thing. Making it stick when life gets in the way or others’ needs conflict with yours is another matter. Alasdair Cant returns to explain how to keep going when change is tough.
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What are your goals for the new year, and how do you plan to meet them? This conversation with former Paralympian Dr Kim Daybell will help you focus on what’s important, so you can have a happier, healthier, and more productive 2025.
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How starting with 5 minutes of exercise a day helped a doctor go from liver disease to competing for his country in triathlons – and what small changes you can make now that will compound to improve your long-term quality of life.
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We often feel guilty for things out of our control. But why should we feel guilty about things we aren’t responsible for?
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When we see choices or behaviours as simply “right” or “wrong”, we end up making decisions based on fear and judgement. But there’s an easier approach, and it’s 800 years old.
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How novels, poetry, or a gripping film can help us lighten the emotional load, discuss difficult feelings, and allow us to become more resilient.
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Decision fatigue and fear of uncertainty can lead us to feeling stuck, unable to move forwards. In this episode, Dr Claire Plumbly returns with practical guidance on making decisions from a place of stability.
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When’s the last time you stopped and asked yourself what you truly want, or whether what you’re doing right now is right for you?
In this quick dip, Rachel offers a series of questions you can ask yourself to help you find those “hell yeah!” opportunities, and avoid the “hell no!” obligations.
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Challenges and failures help teach problem-solving and emotional regulation. So how can we as parents promote independence while still being a source of safety for our kids?
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When everything feels urgent – or when other colleagues’ “urgent” stuff lands on your desk – it can feel impossible to get your other important work done. So how can you manage your time so that you can do the stuff that really matters? The stuff that isn’t just urgent, but is important to you and your practice?
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Are you doing what you’re really meant for? If you’re not sure, how can you find out? And if you’re not where you think you should be, how can you find work that better fits your purpose?
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When’s the last time you complained at someone for something they “should” have done, only to feel bad about it later? We all do it, and it’s usually because a core need isn’t being met. This quick dip will help you identify those needs so you can take steps to meet them.
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You can ignore the stone in your shoe for a few steps, but after a while it becomes unbearable and potentially harmful. The same is true of those nagging thoughts and doubts we have about work.
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Are the things you do to blow off steam really helping you, or are you bringing aspects of your work life into your hobbies?
This is a remix of episode 188, edited to highlight the most impactful points and key takeaways.
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What can you do to quiet the inner critic voice that tells you you’re not good enough, or there’s more you could have done?
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How can we create a safer environment where upsetting behaviour can be challenged? Co-founder of the Civility Saves Lives explains.
This is a replay of episode 192, edited to highlight the most impactful points and key takeaways.
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Balancing personal life with a busy medical career is especially tough for women. But there is a way to craft a fulfilling career and have a family.
This episode is in partnership with the Physician Mums UK Facebook Group.
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How can we thrive in a healthcare system that’s overstretched and under-resourced? What is within our control to change? Is it the system, or how we operate in it? And what can we do differently, given all the usual advice around “resilience”?
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Rachel digs through her Facebook comments to address some of the challenging feedback she’s received across 230 episodes.
Burnout: 9 mistakes healthcare professionals make and what to do instead
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Is everything OK within your team? Would anyone speak up if it wasn’t? If your team is quietly getting on while important stuff is getting missed, it might be because there isn’t enough healthy conflict.
This quick dip will help you create a safe space for conflict so that issues can be raised without it getting personal.
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The ways we deal with difficult situations at work and tricky relationships in general is massively influenced by our childhood. Discover what role attachment styles play in how we handle stress, and learn what practical steps you can take to avoid burnout.
Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before it Manages You – Claire’s book
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When you start comparing what you have with others, you wrap your identity in what you do for work, or when someone judges you unfairly, there are some simple things you can do to feel better.
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How can we help ourselves and the people we lead to work more closely together, and speak up when there’s a problem, rather than merely just “cope” with it?
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If a situation’s not quite right or it feels like you’re in flux and you don’t know what to do, here are three simple things you can try today.
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Forgiveness is one of the most effective ways to begin healing from trauma. It doesn’t mean letting people off the hook, but finally being able to put down that heavy mental baggage.
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When we notice the warning signs of burnout, we can end up either doing things that don’t help in the long-term, or we ignore the problem. Here are some of the most common mistakes people make when they feel like they’re burning out, and how to avoid them.
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Research shows that loneliness could be as detrimental to our health as cancer, and it’s not an issue affecting older people, but those in their teens and 20s. This episode offers practical steps to help you create more healthy, high-quality connections in your life.
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Get more control over your time by clearly defining and enforcing your personal boundaries. Discover why it feels like people overstep them, and what to do when that happens.
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When someone on your team isn't pulling their weight, it's not only demoralising for the rest of the team, but detrimental to the person in question. If performance management isn’t put into practice, workplaces can become toxic, which can hamper performance and lower job satisfaction.
High-functioning teams enable everyone to speak up, challenge each-other, and share their mistakes and learning. And it all starts with giving feedback.
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If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break?
Links* How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169 * How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171 * Download your THRIVE Week Planner * Download your Overwhelm SOS guide
Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effectively.
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More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
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- What to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects – Episode 97, with Dr Joanna Bircher
- How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75, with Annie Hanekom
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Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints.
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- How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte Housden
- Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209, with Dr Sarah Goulding
- How to Have More Impact with Less Effort – Episode 159
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Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.
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- The Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s book
- How to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri Stevenson
- How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones
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If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”
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- How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob Bell
- How to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
- How to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina Scull
- Finding Your North Star – Episode 208
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It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.
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Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.
Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money.
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Listen to this episode to* Learn how our narratives about money can influence our actions and happiness, and how changing these narratives can free up creative energy. * Understand how to disentangle our sense of self from our relationship with money, leading to a life that flows more naturally. * Discover how acknowledging that money has no inherent power can shift our perspectives and affect our personal and professional development.
Episode highlights* [00:02:57] Our response to money * [00:05:47] Money stories on a global level * [00:09:25] Our individual money stories * [00:13:20] The "lack-of-funding" problem within the NHS * [00:16:29] The "time is money" story * [00:19:31] Excavating your own money stories * [00:21:52] Projections of money meaning * [00:25:22] Selfishness and self-image * [00:31:53] Healing unhelpful money stories * [00:34:22] Tackling our projections head-on * [00:43:25] Dealing with money conflicts * [00:48:02] Money as an expression of appreciation * [00:51:20] Every big change begins with a big lie * [00:54:57] Agnes' top tips
About the guestAgnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives.
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Resources Watch the video version on YouTube * How to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career – Episode 142, with Dr Tommy Perkins * Defining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire Kaye * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD. * Agnes’ CUmoney course * Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group
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What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?
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When we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.
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We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from it
In this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for.
Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.
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Listen to this episode to* Handle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support you * Find friends who can give you an unbiased perspective * Pinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutions
Episode highlights* [00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues * [00:04:50] Our colleagues are human * [00:11:38] You're all in the same boat * [00:14:24] Knowing what you want * [00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas * [00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled * [00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong path
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * Download your free Overwhelm SOS guide * Finding Your North Star – Episode 208 * Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it – Episode 177 * Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils –Episode 56 * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.
This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.
She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.
This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive.
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Listen to this episode to* Learn about the efforts being made to address the gender pay gap in medicine and the progress that has been made so far * Understand the concept of the authority gap and its impact on women in various fields * Gain insights into the importance of supporting and empowering women in the workplace and taking collective action to challenge cultural norms and inequalities
Episode highlights* [00:05:23] Follow-up on the gender pay gap report * [00:08:12] Addressing sexual misconduct in medicine * [00:09:56] Expectations of women in medicine * [00:14:17] The authority gap * [00:16:33] Finding allies * [00:20:42] Systemic failures leading to women not being heard * [00:24:08] Everyday misconduct * [00:26:27] Jane's story * [00:30:07] The benefits of a non-linear career * [00:37:09] The importance of authenticity and kindness * [00:37:51] Sponsorship over mentoring * [00:38:35] Maternal guilt * [00:42:28] A letter to Jane's younger self
About the guestProfessor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Join the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK) * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Be a Professional Woman – Episode 41 with Dame Jane Dacre * The Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine – Episode 158, with Professor Chloe Orkin and Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram * How to Be a (Happy) Working Parent – Episode 121 with Corrina Gordon Barnes * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * Medical Women Talking – Jane’s podcast
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Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.
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But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).
Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.
But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.
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Listen to this episode to* Learn about the three core conditions for effective conversation * Understand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationships * Discover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflicts
Episode highlights* [00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean * [00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work * [00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people * [00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset * [00:22:10] Saying what you really mean * [00:27:27] Identifying your emotions * [00:31:01] When to ask for help * [00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback * [00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback * [00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant * [00:48:53] Lasy's top tips
About the guestLasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones * How to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour – Episode 192 with Dr Chris Turner * What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180 with Tom Dillon * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success.
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It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us.
Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.
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Listen to this episode to* Stop starting with goals and focus on your desires and needs * Learn about the four elements of your North Star and how they can guide you * Understand the problem with outcome-based goals and why process goals are more effective
Episode highlights* [00:01:31] Stop starting with goals * [00:03:27] The four elements of your North Star * [00:05:13] Figure out your "why" * [00:06:01] Making space for your needs * [00:08:30] THRIVE Week Planner * [00:13:09] The problem with outcome-based goals
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209 * Finding Your North Star – Episode 208 * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other option but to stay put. These “shoulds” can come from societal expectations or the idea that you’ve put so much into your job already that it would be silly – or even irresponsible – to quit now.
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These myths and pressures keep us feeling stuck, and prevent us from exploring alternative possibilities within or outside of our current field.
This week, Rachel is joined by Dr Sarah Goulding, who breaks open those myths, and shows how we can uncover new possibilities. It all starts by recognising we’re not defined solely by our roles, and embracing the idea that it's okay to change and to pursue work that aligns with our strengths and passions.
Sarah also has a set of self-coaching questions that can help us discover what we’re going to do with our “one wild and precious life”.
Listen to this episode to* Discover how to find a way of working that doesn't harm your well-being and allows you to be passionate and energetic in and out of work * Explore the myths and societal pressures that keep us feeling trapped in our current careers and learn how to break free from them * Gain valuable insights into the importance of reflecting on your skills and experiences to uncover new career possibilities within or outside of medicine
Episode highlights* [00:03:17] The job-for-life fallacy * [00:07:53] Toxic expectations of gratitude * [00:09:57] Availability bias and the sunk cost fallacy * [00:15:41] Reinventing yourself * [00:18:05] When's the right time to make a change? * [00:20:55] Satisfaction outside of work * [00:21:20] Your one wild and precious life * [00:26:14] 2,000 weeks left * [00:27:46] Taking imperfect action * [00:31:16] Career crafting * [00:33:26] Self-coaching questions * [00:38:42] Crafting your joyful career path * [00:45:36] The "I will be happy when..." myth * [00:47:10] Sarah's top tips
About the guestSarah is a Career Coach for Doctors, passionate about the power of finding your place to thrive. She has 7 jobs, including GP; educator; mentor; and Head of Development at the Joyful Doctor.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * Why We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’ – Episode 112, with Dr Sarah Goulding * Finding Your North Star – Episode 208 * Bringing Your Best Self to Work – Episode 67, with Dr Sarah Goulding * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can overlook the bigger stuff – and it’s possible that our current career trajectory might not take us there.
That’s why we need to find and then follow our North Star. Finding it starts with prioritising four fundamental needs: feeling fully human, deep connections, meaning and purpose, and growth and learning. By aligning our goals with these needs, we can find true fulfilment.
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In this quick dip episode, Rachel outlines how we can understand what makes us feel alive, cultivate meaningful relationships and activities, and embrace continuous growth in all aspects of our lives.
If we carry on putting achievement ahead of our own needs – especially if we’re doing so to please someone else – we may end up feeling empty and unsatisfied.
But by tapping into those four fundamental needs, we’ll find ourselves on a path to a more fulfilling and balanced life.
Listen to this episode to* Discover the four fundamental needs for true fulfilment in life * Learn practical steps to align your goals with these fundamental needs * Understand the consequences of prioritising achievement over fundamental needs and how it can impact your well-being
Episode highlights* [00:03:48] What are you aiming for? * [00:06:06] The first core need: physical wellbeing * [00:06:51] The second core need: Connection * [00:08:00] The third core need: Meaning and purpose * [00:08:43] The fourth core need: Learning and growth * [00:09:42] The fifth element: A need to achieve * [00:10:57] Your north star * [00:12:07] Self-awareness * [00:14:49] How do you need to live? * [00:16:30] Don't get pulled south
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * Defining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire Kaye * How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196, with Charlotte Housden * How to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life – Episode 94, with Dr Richard Pile * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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We all experience moments of feeling stuck. Sometimes we have the motivation, but something’s in our way. On other days the simplest things can feel like pushing a boulder up a hill. Now matter how competent we know we are, that feeling of inertia can wreak havoc on our self-confidence. If we’re going to get unstuck and move forwards, we first need to find out what’s blocking us.
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The solution is to take a conscious leadership approach. This means shifting our mindset and becoming more aware of our reactions and thought patterns. By recognising when we’re “below the line” and stuck in victim mode, we can consciously shift “above the line” and take control of our actions and reactions.
This week, Rachel is joined by executive coach and conscious leadership expert, Nicola Rylett-Jones. Nicola offers practical steps you can take today to embody the role of a conscious leader – even if you don’t consider yourself as having a leadership position.
Living below the line makes us feel frustrated, demotivated, and without the ability to make progress. It can also make us less effective leaders and colleagues, more prone to agitation. But by becoming more aware of our triggers, we can work better together with less effort.
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Listen to this episode to* Learn practical steps to overcome feelings of being stuck and gain control of your actions and reactions. * Discover how to shift your mindset and become more aware of your reactions and thought patterns. * Find out how to embody the role of a conscious leader, even if you don't consider yourself in a leadership position.
Episode highlights* [00:04:19] How we demotivate ourselves * [00:09:38] Conscious leadership * [00:14:58] Becoming unstuck * [00:29:16] Getting a different perspective * [00:34:00] Worrying * [00:36:16] Tackling anxiety around complaints * [00:38:44] It's time to take action * [00:46:17] Guilt as a motivator * [00:57:18] Nicola's top tips
About the guestNicola Rylett-Jones is a senior leader who has held both regional and national Director roles with some of the UK’s most prestigious organisations. She is currently a Trustee and Deputy Chair of the Institute of Leadership, executive coach and relationship manager for the Welsh Government’s Accelerated Growth Program, and chair of two leading marketing organisations.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * Passing the Naughty Monkey Back – Episode 65, with Dr Amit Sharma * How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75 with Annie Hanekom * Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck – Episode 95 with Annie Hanekom * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD. * Apply for Nicola’s Conscious Female Leadership programme * Nicola’s Inspirante Business Book Club * Leadership Development – The Institute of Leadership
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If you were in a life-or-death scenario and the only path out was over hot coals, would you take it? Of course. But when it comes to situations that are making us uncomfortable or even miserable, we seldom want to experience that discomfort to get to what we know will be better for us.
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In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores the importance of considering the long-term impact of our work, and offers a single question you can ask yourself right now, to discover what you really want to do with your one wild and precious life.
If you’re on a burning platform or in a situation that could get worse, you can make a change – even if it's a small one. Any change can help you break free from the status quo.
Listen to this episode to* Discover the importance of considering the long-term impact of your work on your well-being, mindset, character, and relationships * Learn practical steps to recognise short-term discomfort, assess risks and benefits, seek external perspectives, and take action towards positive change * Understand what happens if you ignore the impact of your work, and how to create a fulfilling work life by addressing this problem
Episode highlights* [00:02:12] Walking across hot sand * [00:04:20] The burning platform * [00:06:46] What is your work doing to your mind, your character, and your relationships? * [00:08:14] Should I stay or should I go? * [00:09:19] Where to go for guidance * [00:10:07] Taking action
Resources THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123 with Georgina Scull * How to Say F*k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters) – Episode 130 with Jon C Parkin * Should I Stay or Should I Go? – Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-Barnes * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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If you’re in a job where you use your brain a lot, it can be easy to feel disconnected from your body and emotions. This in turn can lead to a lack of self-awareness and even difficulty in expressing yourself. That lack of awareness changes how we outwardly express ourselves, even in ways we’re not aware of.
But by becoming consciously connected with our body, we can get a bit more control over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and over how others see us.
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This week, Rachel is joined by coach and trainer Helen Leathers, who shows us how our posture, our movements, even the way we dress, can affect not only our mood, but how we’re perceived at work. She also shares a practical exercise that can help us cultivate stillness, so we appear more confident and open.
It’s natural for those of us in cerebral jobs to see the body as just a vessel for the brain. But if we disconnect for too long, we can find it harder to tap into, understand, and express difficult feelings like stress and overwhelm.
But there are simple things you can do to reconnect with your body, to literally shake off those negative feelings, and to “fake it ‘til you become it”.
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Listen to this episode to* Learn practical steps to cultivate self-awareness and express yourself more effectively * Discover how becoming consciously connected with your body and emotions can lead to positive changes in your life * Understand the practical applications of embodiment, and separate it from the pseudoscience
Episode highlights* [00:04:50] Consciously connecting body and mind * [00:13:28] How posture and movement affects how we're perceived * [00:16:34] Fake it 'til you become it * [00:17:41] How we dress is a signal to our body * [00:19:52] Embodiment and overwhelm * [00:28:08] Acknowledging where feelings sit in our body * [00:32:37] Shake it off * [00:38:58] Does it matter where in your body you feel something? * [00:43:35] Helen's embodiment tips
About the guestHelen Leathers is a transformational coach with expertise in helping people use their body to access thoughts and emotions. She helps women who feel lost or overwhelmed to find their way in life again, and teaches doctors coaching and communication skills.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * Tiny Habits, Big Changes – Episode 2, with Dr Katherine Hickman * What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180, with Tom Dillon * Doctors’ Transformational Coaching Diploma – Use the code FROGSPAWN for an exclusive discount * Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
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We all experience shame from time to time, but when it becomes toxic, we can end up in a shame spiral from which it's difficult to escape. When we’re called out on something about which we feel shameful, it can make us defensive. And so often, no-one can punish us as harshly as we punish ourselves.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her strategy to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindset; by sharing our shame, taking some perspective, and seeking support from others. She unpacks her SHAME model that was inspired by a recent spiral, which is a simple five-step framework for working through the sensations of shame and finding a way to be kinder to ourselves.
Shame doesn’t make us better people – it only makes us harder on ourselves and leads to us being defensive. So this episode offers a chance to break free of that spiral, remember that we’re human, and remind ourselves we’re doing our best.
Listen to this episode to* Discover how shame can impact our internal mindset and contribute to burnout * Learn about the complex nature of shame and how it shows up * Explore strategies and techniques to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindset
Episode highlights* [00:02:09] What's on your pop bottle label? * [00:03:14] When our actions clash with our values * [00:07:30] What our ingrained stories tell us * [00:13:20] Share your shame * [00:14:35] Hang outwith useless friends * [00:15:37] Awe * [00:16:42] Multiple identities * [00:19:17] Empathy and understanding
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version on YouTube * How Do You Say No When Someone Might Die? – Episode 193 * Why Can’t I Say No? – Episode 163 * How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout – 152 with Sandy Miles * How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim – Episode 92 with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting * Tara Brach leads a Guided Meditation: The Practice of RAIN * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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When we’re presented with a difficult problem, naturally we use logic and reasoning to solve it. But some problems – like stress and burnout – can’t be solved with logic alone.
The left hemisphere is the area of the brain focused on tasks, logic, and problem-solving. But the right hemisphere deals with relationships, connections, and new perspectives. It’s also visual and metaphorical, so it can help us see problems in a different way. So our right brain can help us live more easily with problems that can’t be solved by the left.
This week, executive coach Yda Bouvier explains how introducing visuals can activate our right brain and give us new perspectives and insights, which can help us understand complex issues, improve problem-solving, and enhance our connection with others.
Over-relying on our left brain can leave us struggling with complex relationships, focusing too much on threats, and making it harder to adapt. But by incorporating more visuals and movement, we can tap into the power of our right brain and unlock new insights and possibilities.
Listen to this episode to* Learn how using the right brain can help us manage high-stress jobs * Discover how visuals, metaphor, and movement can activate the right brain and give us new perspectives * Understand the role of the right brain in problem-solving, intuition, and dealing with complex situations
Episode highlights* [00:02:55] The right brain * [00:05:28] Left brain vs right brain * [00:08:41] Yda's journey * [00:10:47] Are we usingrelying too much on our left brain? * [00:15:08] The impact of switching to right-brain thinking * [00:18:02] How does the right brain help solve wicked problems? * [00:22:40] The left brain and the ego * [00:25:27] Making practical use of the right brain * [00:30:22] Left and right brains in relation * [00:32:52] The power of metaphor and images in communication * [00:44:05] Exercise: What to do with a big problem
About the guestYda Bouvier is an executive coach with 15 years of experience helping individuals and teams navigate challenges and develop their potential. Yda has a background in strategy consulting and holds a degree in physics. She is the author of the book "Leading with the Right Brain" and is passionate about incorporating right-brain thinking into problem-solving and decision-making processes.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Watch the video version * How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About – Episode 106, with Dr Caroline Walker * How to Feel Happy, Calm, and Connected – Episode 170,Dr Giles P Croft with * Leading with the Right Brain – Yda’s book * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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So you’ve got a problem, maybe a relationship issue at work or difficulties managing your workload. You’ve talked it with friends, but the solution won’t present itself. Often the problem isn't that we lack solutions, but rather that we haven't fully understood what the problem is in the first place.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her three-step model to help you identify and address the real problem you’re facing. It involves recognising we have choices, embracing our human needs and limitations, and thinking differently.
If we keep doing what we've always done, we'll continue getting the same results. But changing our mindset can give us confidence and the ability to approach situations from a fresh perspective.
Listen to this episode to* Discover how to identify and solve the underlying problems that are driving you mad and hindering your progress * Learn why focusing on resilience alone might not address the real issues causing stress and underperformance * Explore a practical model that will help you make the right choices, embrace your human needs, and think differently to achieve better outcomes
Episode highlights* [00:01:15] What's the real problem? * [00:03:21] Making the right choices * [00:04:28] Be human * [00:05:01] Think differently * [00:05:22] Putting the three Cs into practice * [00:09:31] What language are you using? * [00:11:21] The Shapes Toolkit
Resources* Watch the video * THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Be REALLY Productive… Without Losing the Plot – Episode 190 with Graham Allcott * How to Know if You’re Being “Resilience Victim Blamed” – Episode 145 * How to Say No and Deal with Pushback – Episode 1252 with Annie Hanekom * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Faced with a difficult situation, we often ask the question “should I stay or should I go?” It could be about work, a relationship, or something more personal. We all face this question at various times in our life, and it can be overwhelming to make a choice when we’re scared of the unknown.
This week, we’re revisiting a discussion with Corrina Gordon-Barnes, about how to tackle the decision-making process. Instead of relying on traditional methods like pros and cons lists or seeking advice from others, Corrina suggests a different approach, which involves noticing the difference between facts and thoughts, and recognising when we have the power to leave rather than simply tough it out.
When we keep ourselves trapped in the limbo of indecision, when we’re neither fully committed nor able to make a decisive choice, this can leave us frustrated and angry. Those frustrations can boil over into our home and work lives, or make an uncomfortable situation even worse.
But by taking a moment to reflect on our current situation, we can start the process of questioning and gaining clarity, therefore revealing the choices we do have.
Listen to this episode to* Learn how to make difficult decisions when facing a dilemma of staying or leaving a situation, whether it's work, relationships, or friendships * Understand the importance of questioning your thoughts and beliefs that may be causing stress and hindering decision-making * Discover a fresh perspective on decision-making and a simple technique to gain clarity and make informed choices
Episode highlights* [00:04:13] The importance of belonging * [00:06:42] Making a difficult decision * [00:13:31] Separating fact from thought * [00:16:26] Counteracting the "That's just the way it is" story * [00:21:57] Questioning your stories * [00:28:58] Acceptance * [00:33:05] Shoulds * [00:35:36] You have a choice * [00:44:33] What are the consequences of not doing what we "ought"? * [00:49:03] Corrina's top 3 tips
About the guestDr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Download the Zone of Power handout * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to take control of your thoughts – Episode 32, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * The Work of Byron Katie
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If you have a high-stakes job like medicine, shame can show up in unexpected and unwelcome places. Doctors have incredibly high societal expectations, with constant pressure to be invulnerable. It’s time to challenge these unrealistic expectations and foster an environment that supports doctors in their vulnerability.
This week, we’re featuring one of our most popular and impactful episodes from 2023 to help you identify and combat shame. In this episode, Dr Sandy Miles discusses the impact of shame on doctors and how we can address it by changing the toxic stories we tell ourselves.
We all make mistakes, but shame keeps us from being objective and fair, leading us feeling like we’re inherently bad or wrong. Finding ways to be kinder and more supportive to ourselves will help not only our wellbeing, but will brighten the lives of those closest to us.
Listen to this episode to* Discover the powerful impact shame has on us, and how our wellbeing and professional identity can be affected * Explore the different ways we respond to shame * Learn how to create a healthier and more supportive environment
Episode highlights* [00:04:37] What is shame? * [00:11:56] How identities are tied to shame * [00:15:16] How people respond to shame * [00:17:40] How to respond to shame * [00:26:43] Shame and perfectionism in healthcare * [00:31:31] How to overcome maladaptive perfectionism * [00:34:22] Fostering a growth mindset * [00:36:44] How to combat shame * [00:47:01] Where to find help * [00:48:40] Sandy's top tips for deadling with shame
About the guestSandy Miles is a practising GP and a medical educator. She is also the co-founder of Acacia Retreat, holding bi-annual retreats for doctors feeling overwhelmed. Passionate to help fellow medical professionals, Sandy has written several research articles about shame and maladaptive behaviours in the medical industry — such as perfectionism in healthcare workers.
Sandy gained her Bachelor of Medicine from the University of London and then earned her Master of Science in Medical Humanities from King’s College London.
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Resources THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:* * How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim – Episode 92, with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting * This is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor, by Adam Kay * Books and videos from Brene Brown * Shame and Medicine * Shame in Medicine: The Lost Forest, a 10-part documentary podcast produced by the Nocturnists * Shame and Medicine * Mindset: Changing the Way You Think to Fulfil Your Potential, by Carol Dweck * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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The Christmas season can be a time of stress and disappointment, especially when our expectations don't match up with reality. We can find ourselves dealing with difficult family members, feeling overwhelmed with work and family obligations, or experiencing a general sense of dissatisfaction.But there’s plenty we can do to make the festive period more enjoyable and less overwhelming.
This week, we’re revisiting a previous conversation on the podcast, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes. In her chat with Rachel, you’ll learn how to turn expected disappointments into a game of bingo, set realistic expectations, and exercise some self-compassion.
By taking proactive steps, we can create a more positive and fulfilling Christmas experience.
Listen to this episode to* Learn strategies to cope with the expectations and negative experiences that come with the holiday season * Discover the concept of playing "Christmas Bingo" to approach disappointments with humour and acceptance * Gain insights on how to navigate triggering situations and avoid falling into familiar patterns of conflict
Episode highlights* [00:03:59] Christmas disappointments * [00:09:02] Christmas Bingo * [00:13:30] What you can do to avoid disappointent * [00:16:19] Playing out the old dances * [00:21:33] Your zone of power * [00:27:15] Lowering your expectations * [00:39:20] Self-compassion in the face of disappointment * [00:43:39] Hunt the Pony * [00:44:51] Handling regret * [00:49:22] Corrina's top 3 tips
About the guestDr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Should I Stay or Should I Go? – Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-Barnes * How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88 with Rob Bell * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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If you're like most people, you'll have experienced moments when your confidence wavers, leaving you unsure of yourself and holding back from reaching your full potential. But what if there was a way to increase your confidence and make a greater impact in your personal and professional life?
This week, Dr Claire Kaye joins Rachel to explore the power of confidence and how it influences our lives. They dive into the common challenges we face when it comes to confidence, whether it's feeling underconfident, lacking self-belief, or dealing with the negative self-talk that holds us back.
But this episode isn't just about identifying the problem – it's about finding practical solutions. Claire and Rachel discuss strategies to boost your confidence in a genuine and authentic way, helping you navigate through life's uncertainties and excel in various areas. They emphasise the importance of knowing yourself, understanding your values, and embracing vulnerability as a pathway to personal growth and success.
If you're tired of letting self-doubt hold you back, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips to help you increase your confidence, impact, and overall fulfilment.
Listen to this episode to* Learn practical strategies to boost your confidence and make a greater impact in your personal and professional life. * Explore common challenges related to confidence, like feeling underconfident, lacking self-belief, and dealing with negative self-talk. * Discover how to be more confident in an authentic and genuine way, without resorting to acting or disingenuous behaviour.
Episode highlights* [00:03:16] Confidence and positive outcomes * [00:07:28] What a severe lack of confidence can do * [00:10:12] What is confidence? * [00:15:55] What makes people lose their confidence * [00:21:39] Building your confidence * [00:24:44] Fear of failure * [00:30:33] How environment affects confidence * [00:34:01] Comparison * [00:40:14] Tackling your inner critic * [00:49:43] Claire's 10 top tips for building confidence * [00:52:03] Where to find Claire
About the guestDr Claire Kaye, an executive career coach who specialises in career development and perimenopause and menopause in the workplace. She works with women who are experiencing symptoms of the menopause and helps them find ways to thrive while maintaining their careers and personal lives.
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Resources* Download your copy of the Stress Curve graph * THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Deal With Your Inner Critic – Episode 197 * The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well) – Episode 117, with Dr Claire Kaye * How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob Bell * VIA Character Strengths Survey * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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We can learn how to say no to other people, but often don’t say no to ourselves or to our inner critic who’s always telling us we can do more or be better. We become our own worst enemy when it comes to setting boundaries and prioritising our own needs. This is why we need self-compassion, and to overcome the toxic self-talk that often fuels our negative self-talk.
In this quick dip, Rachel will help you name the critical voice and acknowledge its presence, explore the underlying triggers and needs that contribute to self-criticism, and treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend.
When we pay too much attention to our inner critic, we risk feeling more stressed, putting strain on our relationships, and overall negatively impacting our wellbeing. So it’s time to challenge that negative self-talk and replace it with compassionate. No only will it benefit you, but it’ll benefit those close to you, too.
Listen to this episode to* Discover the impact of toxic self-talk and how it affects our relationships and self-perception. * Explore the importance of self-compassion and its role in enhancing relationships and personal growth. * Gain practical tips and techniques for dealing with your inner critic and cultivating self-kindness.
Episode highlights* [00:01:52] Toxic self-talk * [00:04:11] Self-compassion * [00:04:57] Shame * [00:05:57] Boss bitch * [00:09:12] When our amygdala goes too far * [00:10:04] Motivating with the stick, not the carrot
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum – Episode 174, with With Corrina Gordon-Barnes * How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte Housden * The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well) – Episode 117, with Dr Claire Kaye * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Do you find yourself trapped by the expectations and pressures of what you think you “should” be doing? Is there a voice in your head, berating you for not living up to their standards? If so, you might be experiencing the tyranny of the shoulds.
You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed or uncertain. But it turns out that hearing others' stories can help you realise that your struggles are common. Also, if you rely on others for feedback it’s important to know whom to ask and when, so you don’t end up with an over-eager cheerleader or someone who’ll burst your bubble before its time.
In this episode, Charlotte Housden discusses her research on successfully navigating change and how we can escape that nagging, finger-wagging presence we all have from time to time.
That voice of doubt and fear can trap us in a cycle of unhappiness and unfulfilment. It might mean we miss out on opportunities for growth, personal development, and finding true satisfaction in our lives and careers. But by remembering that you are not your thoughts, you can start to free yourself from the tyranny of the shoulds.
Listen to this episode to* Gain insights from interviews with 108 people in 27 countries on successfully navigating change in life. * Understand the importance of hearing others' stories, and how it can make you feel less alone. * Get the resources you nee to facilitate and sustain change.
Episode highlights* [00:06:50] The importance of knowing you're not alone * [00:09:27] Stories and consequences of change * [00:11:14] How to give feedback * [00:17:15] Delaying gratification on a new project * [00:18:59] What to do when you feel you need to change everything at once * [00:23:46] Job crafting * [00:25:51] The shift in the psychological contract * [00:29:10] The tyranny of the shoulds * [00:33:39] Midroll * [00:36:12] The three musts * [00:37:39] You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather * [00:40:32] You are not your thoughts * [00:43:42] What most medical students aren't taught about their own thoughts * [00:47:51] What doctors need to make it to the top * [00:50:11] The key to greater productivity * [00:52:50] Charlotte's top tips
About the guestCharlotte is a chartered coaching psychologist helping individuals to navigate their organisations and careers. She has interviewed 108 people in 27 countries identifying how they successfully navigate change and is the author of Swim Jump Fly: A Guide to Changing Your Life.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180, with Tom Dillon * How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim – Episode 92, with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting * Job Crafting for Happiness – Episode 144, with Kirsten Armit, Dr Colin Lindsay, and Dr Daljit Hothi * Swim Jump Fly: A Guide to Changing Your Life – Charlotte’s book * Charlotte’s Tyranny of the Shoulds podcast * The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living, by Russ Harris * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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If your job is demanding, jou've probably wondered at some point if you're burning out. The constant stress and pressure in health and social care especially can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. But ignoring the signs of burnout can have serious consequences, affecting not only our performance but our wellbeing and our relationships too.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel introduces the Stress Curve and how it can help you recognise if you're nearing burnout. She explains the different stages of the curve and provide practical steps you can take to prevent burnout and perform at your best. It's about finding what works for you and making small changes that add up a big impact.
Listen to this episode to* Recognise the signs of burnout and its consequences, so you can prioritise your wellbeing and relationships. * Learn from real-life experiences and to prevent burnout, tailored to the unique challenges faced by people in healthcare. * Discover the stress curve model as a tool to assess your current position and make small, impactful changes to improve your wellbeing and performance.
Episode highlights* [00:01:43] Check your battery level * [00:02:43] Symptoms of burnout * [00:03:47] The stress curve * [00:05:59] Not enough pressure to perform * [00:07:29] Dropping off peak performance * [00:08:26] Early signs of burnout * [00:09:18] Take a snapshop [MIDROLL] * [00:10:26] Where are you on the stress curve? * [00:13:01] What factors are contributing to how you feel? * [00:13:32] What are your early warning signs? * [00:15:38] What small steps can you take? * [00:17:14] Stay in your zone of power
Resources* Download a copy of the graph * Watch the video to see the graph * THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout – Episode 188 with Nick Petrie * Embrace Your Capacity, Not Your Limits – Episode 176 with Dr Sarah Coope * Is it ‘Normal’ Not to Cope? – Episode 143 * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * Yerkes–Dodson law
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Managing your energy can be a challenge at the best of times. But if you’re a highly sensitive person, you might be more prone to burning out due to your unique traits and the demands of your work.
Being highly sensitive doesn’t mean being touchy, but having a high degree of empathy and a particular way of processing sensory input. That means it might take longer to recover from a tricky situation like a conflict with a colleague, or witnessing something traumatic at work.
The key to managing energy as a highly sensitive person is to understand and embrace your sensitivity, and put strategies in place to protect and replenish your energy.
This week, Rachel talks with Dr Becki Taylor-Smith, an anaesthetist and coach who specialises in helping highly sensitive individuals discover their superpowers.
Around 1 in 5 people has high sensitivity. With this higher degree of empathy often comes the need to help people, which is why there may be many more people in medicine who identify as highly sensitive.
People who identify as highly sensitive make great leaders, but can be reluctant to step forward. So without support or strategies in place to help them harness their abilities, teams can miss out on the unique abilities they have.
But by setting small boundaries and incorporating self-care activities into their daily lives, highly sensitive people can be supported and encouraged to thrive in their own careers, and lead others.
Listen to this episode to* Learn how to manage your energy effectively as a highly sensitive person in high-stress jobs. * Discover strategies to prevent burnout and overwhelm while still making a unique difference. * Understand the traits of highly sensitive people and how to embrace them as a superpower in leadership and teamwork.
Episode highlights* [00:04:22] Traits of highly sensitive people * [00:09:10] How to tell if you're a highly sensitive person * [00:11:07] When being highly sensitive can be a superpower * [00:14:08] Highly sensitive people as leaders * [00:20:58] The ABCs of managing your energy * [00:27:38] How to protect yourself and your energy * [00:32:12] Avoiding burnout due to sensory overload * [00:35:37] How to support highly sensitive people * [00:39:26] Becki's top tips
About the guestDr Becki is an anaesthetist and coach supporting sensitive professionals caring for people and the planet to rediscover their joy and make their difference without burning out.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Thrive in a High-Stress Job When You’re Neurodivergent – Episode 179 with Matthew Bellringer * Are Your Tiny Traumas Building Up to Burnout? – Episode 182, with Dr Claire Plumbly * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * Download Becki’s free guide to using your sensitivity as a superpower * The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Survive and Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, by Elaine Aron
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Saying no and setting boundaries are core to avoiding burnout. But if saying no might put a patient at harm – or worse – what can you do?
In this quick dip episode, Rachel explains the concept of core and flex boundaries along with core and flex consequences. Core boundaries are non-negotiables that we always enforce, rather than preferences we’d like to enforce but can be flexible around.Key to this approach is also recognising the short- and long-term consequences of saying no.
By not setting boundaries or saying no when we need to, we risk damaging our relationships and neglecting our own needs. This can lead to regret, unfulfilled goals, and negative effects on other people who rely on us. But by setting rigid and flexible boundaries, we can get closer to a healthy work-life balance, and keep our priorities and commitments in tact.
Listen to this episode to* Discover how to set boundaries and say no in challenging situations, ie when someone's life might be at stake. * Understand the concept of core and flex boundaries and how they can help in decision-making. * Learn about the short-term and long-term consequences of setting boundaries and saying no, and the importance of considering them when making decisions.
Episode highlights* [00:03:43] Introducing core and flex boundaries * [00:04:55] Core boundaries * [00:06:21] Flex boundaries * [00:09:26] What happens when core boundaries are in conflict * [00:11:34] Short-term consequences * [00:12:34] Long-term consequences * [00:15:59] Core and flex consequences * [00:17:59] Hierarchy of boundaries * [00:19:40] Putting this into practice
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169 * How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171 * The Problem with Boundaries – Episode 161 * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Interactions between team members can have a big impact on performance and outcomes. Disrespect and hostility can create a threatening environment and hinder collaboration and productivity. In a medical setting, it could literally be a life-or-death situation.
The Civility Saves Lives movement aims to raise awareness about the importance of behaviour and promote a culture of civility. By showing respect and support towards each-other, teams can enhance their performance, deliver better outcomes, and provide a healthier and kinder path towards personal growth.
In this episode, Dr Chris Turner, co-founder of the Civility Saves Lives movement, demonstrates how we can create an environment where civility is valued, information is freely shared, and everyone feels empowered to contribute. By taking the time to show respect – and to address disrespect without offering judgement – we can make a positive difference in the workplace and improve outcomes for teams and patients.
Listen to this episode to* Understand the importance of civility and its role in improving team performance and patient outcomes. * Learn about the effects of incivility on individuals and their ability to think and perform under high-pressure situations. * Find out about the origins of the Civility Saves Lives movement, and its impact on behaviour in healthcare.
Episode highlights* [00:01:32] Meeting Chris * [00:02:21] Civility Saves Lives * [00:10:50] The minimum unit of performance is the team * [00:13:32] Setting an environment for people to speak * [00:16:25] What happens when we're scared of being wrong * [00:23:40] How hostile behaviour impacts teams * [00:25:45] How rudeness affects trust * [00:27:22] We don't go to work to be unpleasant * [00:31:21] Knowing that someone's got you * [00:35:15] How to give feedback * [00:49:44] Curiosity's role when giving difficult feedback * [00:55:08] How to avoid the drama triangle * [00:59:09] Understanding cultural context * [01:01:52] Accepting uninvited criticism * [01:04:23] How to take difficult feedback * [01:06:15] The act of saying sorry * [01:09:39] Chris' top tips
About the guestChris is a consultant in emergency medicine at the University Hospital of Coventry and Warwickshire. He co-founded Civility Saves Lives with Joe Farmer, a grassroots organisation dedicated to raising awareness of the impact of behaviour on performance.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75, with Annie Hanekom * How to Have Crucial Conversations – Episode 85, with Dr Ed Pooley * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * When Rudeness in Teams Turns Deadly – Chris’ talk at TEDxExeter * The Decline in Task Performance After Witnessing Rudeness is Moderated by Emotional Empathy - A Pilot Study, by Gadi Gilam * Zero Degrees of Empathy: A New Theory of Human Cruelty and Kindness, by Simon Baron-Cohen * Medical Student Perceptions and Experiences of Incivility: a Qualitative Study, by Louise Griffin and Anna Baverstock * Promoting Professionalism by Sharing a Cup of Coffee * The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success, by Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Klemp * Radical Candor: Fully Revised and Updated Edition: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean, by Kim Scott
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When someone else sets boundaries, do you feel able to do the same, or do you resent their ability to say no? Often, our anger towards others' boundaries comes from our own unmet needs and desires, and what presents itself as resentment is actually envy.
Guilt, shame, and fear often prevent us from expressing our own needs, which just compounds those negative emotions. Without shifting our mindset, we can end up adopting a victim mindset and feeling even more trapped.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel describes how we can identify our underlying needs, find ways to express them, and take small, practical steps towards getting what we want, even if it feels unattainable.
Listen to this episode to* Learn how to navigate boundaries and handle feelings of resentment when others say no to you. * Understand the difference between anger and envy, and how envy can reveal what you truly want. * Pick up strategies for identifying your own needs, expressing them to others, and finding ways to meet them.
Episode highlights* [00:02:12] Envy * [00:05:47] What is your underlying need? * [00:06:43] What happens when we make ourselves the victim * [00:07:55] Questions to ask yourself * [00:08:54] What is stopping you from meeting your needs? * [00:10:01] If you could wave a magic wand * [00:11:40] Expressing your needs to others
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Why Can’t I Say No – Episode 163 * How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong – Episode 179 * How to Say No and Deal with Pushback – Episode 125, with Annie Hanekom * Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené Brown * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Productivity and time management are difficult at the best of times. But when your job directly affects people’s lives, it can be tricky to make time to get organised, so that we have control over our days, and our inbox isn’t overflowing.
What we need is to manage our attention and make space for what matters. In this episode, Rachel is joined by productivity expert Graham Allcott. Graham shares ways we can prioritise and delegate tasks, make dedicated time for deep work, and get on top of our todo list rather than feel crushed by it.
Cluttered inboxes and disorganised days can lead to more stress, which can impact your work as well as your coworkers’. So listen to this episode for actionable strategies that will help you start each day with more focus, and less overwhelm.
Listen to this episode to* Improve your productivity without striving for perfection. * Manage your attention and prioritise tasks, especially in high-stress jobs. * Learn how to implement a weekly review to stay organised and in control.
Episode highlights* [00:04:38] How to Stop Messing About on Your Phone * [00:06:52] Managing attention for people in high-stress jobs * [00:08:12] Introducing the second brain * [00:08:54] Structuring your day * [00:11:25] Making space for what matters * [00:13:42] Weekly review * [00:15:32] The second brain in more detail * [00:18:20] What app should I download? * [00:19:40] Inbox Zero * [00:23:53] Good messaging hygiene for teams * [00:26:02] How psychological safety can help when your team is stuck * [00:27:59] Team dynamics around timings and deadlines * [00:29:31] More email etiquette * [00:31:44] CORD model * [00:35:35] The end of your todo list * [00:38:29] Graham's three tips
About the guestGraham is the author of the best-selling book How to Be a Productivity Ninja, and the founder of Think Productive, a company that helps teams and individuals get a better handle on their time. Graham also hosts the Beyond Busy podcast and writes a newsletter to help busy people rev up for the week ahead.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Think Differently About Your To-Do List – Episode 153 * How Safe Do You Feel at Work? – Episode 70 with Scott Chambers * How to be a Productivity Ninja – Graham’s first book * Inbox Zero – the original method by Merlin Mann * The CORD productivity model * Graham’s Rev Up for the Week email newsletter * Beyond Busy – Graham’s podcast * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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We’ve all had weeks where our schedules are packed tightly and there’s no time for ourselves, leaving us exhausted and overwhelmed. The problem is we often make commitments for our future selves without thinking about what might be on their plate in the future.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel uncovers ways we can make space for the the big and important things in our lives, set rules and boundaries to prevent over-committing, and creating space to cope with challenging times ahead.
Not everything that comes out of the blue is a bad thing. But when we over-book ourselves and neglect our own needs, we risk leaving ourselves unable to really enjoy the fun things that unexpectedly come our way, or cope with the tricky things.
Try taking a moment to consider what your future self will thank you for. This will help you say no to those extra commitments, and practice more self-compassion.
Listen to this episode to* Learn how to stop over-scheduling so you can create space for yourself and avoid burnout. * Understand the importance of setting boundaries and making rules for yourself to prioritise your wellbeing. * Discover a form of self-compassion in advance.
Episode highlights* [00:01:19] A piece of long-term homework * [00:02:06] Looking backwards * [00:03:01] Writing a letter from your future self * [00:03:43] Fear of missing out * [00:06:34] Looking after our future self * [00:08:22] What rules would your future self like you to understand? * [00:09:12] When were you overstretched? * [00:11:30] Make some space for what's coming up * [00:12:02] Putting self-compassion into practice
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Think Differently About Your To-Do List – Episode 153 * How the Enneagram System Works * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Do you give yourself permission to rest? If you’re like many people in caring professions, you worry that taking time out to look after yourself means not spending that time helping others. That thinking may have got you to your position now, but is it serving you, or is it time to update your operating system?
The problem with rest is that we often confuse it with inaction. But rest from work doesn’t have to mean rest from activity. As this week’s guest, Nick Petrie discovered, for high achievers, rest could be going to the gym or Argentinian tango. Nick’s research shows that the way to beat burnout is not to stop doing things altogether, but to find things you love to do, but that are entirely outside of your sphere of work.
Choosing what you do outside of work needs to be done with care, however. If you’re used to working in a fast-paced and competitive environment, a gym where everyone’s visibly pushing themselves to beat their neighbour might not give you the release you need.
But engaging in activities or hobbies that give you a complete break from work and allow you to reconnect with your body and emotions could be instrumental in preventing burnout.
Listen to this episode to1. Discover surprising factors that contribute to burnout. 2. Hear examples from high-performing people about the patterns and correlations of burnout across different fields. 3. Find out how people successfully manage burnout by finding activities that let them switch off and recharge.
Episode highlights* [00:04:41] Correlations of burnout * [00:15:23] Opposite worlds * [00:22:46] The risk of finding a world not opposite enough * [00:26:22] Six types of opposite world * [00:28:47] More correlations of burnout * [00:32:31] Sharing in others' experiences * [00:36:07] Creating mechanisms for yourself * [00:38:11] The burnout curve * [00:41:35] Allostatic overload * [00:43:25] Three degrees of burn * [00:46:08] Catching the warning signs in yourself and others * [00:49:11] Nick's top tips
About the guestNick Petrie is a researcher and speaker on leadership, resilience and burnout prevention. Nick helps organisations prepare for the future by creating solutions that help leaders be more adaptable, resilient and strategic. He holds a Masters degree from Harvard University and is the author of the book Work Without Stress: Building Resilience for Long Term Success.
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Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set Boundaries – Episode 181 * How to Avoid Burnout on Repeat – Episode 160 * The Truth About Burnout – Episode 25 * Nick’s LinkedIn posts on burnout * What does “allostatic load” mean for your health? * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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We all get stressed or overwhelmed with our daily responsibilities from time to time. But we’re not always good at telling them apart. And this is important, because the way out of overwhelm is different form the way out of stress.
Stress is caused when the demands on us outweigh the resources we feel we have to cope. Overwhelm happens when high amounts of stress make us feel like we can't cope with our lives' demands. The way out of overwhelm is non-doing, resting, and letting our nervous system settle down.
Prolonged stress and overwhelm can lead to burnout, which just puts more stress on our nervous system, and makes it harder for us to function. In this quick dip, Rachel offers practical advice to help you take care of yourself, recognise overwhelm, and give yourself the time you need to rest.
Listen to this episode1. To learn the difference between stress and overwhelm 2. To discover the benefits of non-doing and how it can help you overcome overwhelm 3. For practical tips on reducing overwhelm in the future
Episode highlights [00:03:19] Mindful play * [00:05:03] The F*k it mindset * [00:06:58] What will future me thank me for? (midroll) * [00:08:16] Permission to stop
Resources THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * How to Say F*k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed – Episode 130 with John C Parkin * The Perils of Perfectionism – Episode 22 with Nicky Odgers * What to Do When You are Overwhelmed – Episode 132 with Gerrie Hawes * How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75 with Annie Hanekom * Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené Brown * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Confronting anxiety is easier said than done. It’s hard enough with adults, but with children it’s even more tough. Anxiety keeps us safe, but often we over-predict that something bad will happen and under-predict our ability to cope. The key is to learn how to manage anxiety before it becomes a problem.
This week’s guest is educational psychologist Nicky Odgers. She specialises in working with kids who are feeling anxious about attending school. A lot of what she helps kids with applies to adults – things like mapping thoughts and emotions to physical sensations, replacing negative thoughts with more realistic ones, and practicing techniques to help us relax.
Anxiety can interfere with our lives and become a problem if it goes unaddressed. Naturally we want to avoid things that cause us anxiety, but this stops us from learning that we can cope and that the terrible thing we fear may never happen.
Listen to this episode to1. Learn about anxiety in children and teenagers, and how it can manifest as school avoidance 2. Gain insight into how anxiety affects adults, including healthcare professionals, and how to manage it effectively 3. Understand the thought patterns, physical sensations, and behaviours associated with anxiety, and how to address them to prevent avoidance and build coping skills
Episode highlights* [00:03:46] Epidemic of anxiety * [00:09:21] Anxiety as pathology * [00:14:00] Thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and behaviours * [00:20:54] Safety behaviours * [00:23:26] When is it right to step in and offer help * [00:29:18] Anxiety in healthcare * [00:31:47] How to persuade someone their fears are unfounded * [00:34:35] Mind-reading * [00:41:03] Teaching people to solve problems * [00:45:14] Worry time and worry monsters * [00:47:14] Distracting yourself from worry * [00:48:24] Helpful safety behaviour * [00:49:52] Helping anxious people * [00:52:48] Neurodiversity and autism * [00:55:58] Nicky's tips for managing anxiety
About the guestNicky Odgers is an educational psychologist with a particular interest in school anxiety. She helps parents and schools to support children and young people to feel less anxious about attending school, to better manage their emotions, to develop their confidence, to initiate and sustain positive relationships and be more successful in their learning.
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Resources THRIVE Weekly Planner * Episode 22: The Perils of Perfectionism * Episode 181: Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set Boundaries * School Anxiety Support for Parents – Facebook group * Nicky’s information and resource for parents and schools about school anxiety and EBSA * Download Nicky's free handout for children, young people, and parents * Starving the Anxiety Gremlin for Children Aged 5-9, by Kate Collins-Donnelly * My Anxiety Handbook: Getting Back on Track, by Sue Knowles, Bridie Gallagher, and Phoebe McEwen * Books by Poppy O’Neill * What to Do When You Worry Too Much, by Dawn Huebner PhD * Helping Your Child with Fears and Worries, by Cathy Creswell and Lucy Willetts * Get Your Sht Together, by Sarah Knight * The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k, by Sarah Knight * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Do you find yourself thinking "it will be better tomorrow", or believing things will improve in a few months' time “when x happens”?
In this quick dip episode, Rachel reveals how waiting for outside events to occur leads to more problems – because even when tomorrow comes, we’re still the same person facing the same challenges as we were yesterday.
This mindset can lead us to looking for partial solutions which ultimately keep us from solving our bigger problems. But by focusing on our zone of power, we can reclaim agency over the things we can change, instead of waiting on events we can’t control.
If we don’t try and take control, we can end up in a continued cycle of waiting for tomorrow to come. This leads to more stress, burnout, and exhaustion becoming the norm. But when we’re in our zone of power, we’ll find it much easier to deal with what today and tomorrow has in store.
Listen to this episode to1. Challenge your "it’ll be better tomorrow" mindset 2. Learn practical strategies for creating urgency and focusing on your zone of power 3. Know when to wait and see, and when to take action
Episode highlights* [00:02:18] Making it better now * [00:03:13] Going down the vortext of busiyness * [00:04:20] Urgency to change * [00:05:59] What is the burning platform? * [00:07:26] Be in your zone of power * [00:08:25] If I could wave a magic wand * [00:09:36] Ignore things for a period * [00:10:38] Watchful waiting * [00:12:01] Take action
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180, with Tom Dillon * How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong – Episode 179
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One way or another, menopause affects everyone at some point. If you’re not experiencing symptoms yourself, you almost certainly know or work with someone who is. That’s why understanding its effects and being able to offer support and compassion is so important.
Women going through menopause can experience a wide range of physical, psychological, and hormonal symptoms. These symptoms often go unnoticed or ignored, which can impact confidence and increase anxiety. Lack of confidence or temporary difficulty in making decisions can lead to organisations losing talented, experienced women who thought they were experiencing cognitive decline. By perpetuating the stigma and embarrassment around menopause, we prevent women from seeking help and support.
But there are resources and solutions available to help women manage their symptoms and continue to thrive at work - and Dr Claire Kaye joins us this week to talk through what we can all do.
It starts with becoming more aware of the symptoms of menopause and recognising when they’re affecting us or our colleagues.
If you’re looking for support with menopause, lifestyle changes like sleep hygiene, exercise, and nutrition can help. There are also medications available, but coaching can have a huge impact.
We can educate ourselves and others about the symptoms and resources available, and seek out support from in-house Menopause Ambassadors, as well as support groups. If you’re experiencing menopause or perimenopause, coaching and medical support is available.
Listen to this episode to* Understand more about the physical and mental symptoms of menopause, and how they can affect people's work and personal lives. * Learn about the importance of awareness, education, and support for people going through menopause, especially in the workplace. * Discover resources and strategies for managing menopause symptoms, including lifestyle changes, medication, coaching, and group support.
Episode highlights* [00:03:14] What is the menopause * [00:12:18] What can women do to help themselves? * [00:18:35] Caring for yourself * [00:30:12] Is it a midlife crisis? * [00:32:14] What we tell kids about the menopause * [00:33:49] Invisibility * [00:37:19] Claire's tips * [00:45:46] Rachel's tips
About the guestDr Claire Kaye, an executive career coach who specialises in career development and perimenopause and menopause in the workplace. She works with women who are experiencing symptoms of the menopause and helps them find ways to thrive while maintaining their careers and personal lives.
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Resources* Balance: free menopause and perimenopause symptom tracker app * THRIVE Weekly Planner * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Episode 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well) * Episode 124: How to Change When Change is Scary * Episode 107: Defining Your Own Success in Life * Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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So many of us are caught up in a vortex of busyness. We end up working harder and harder without doing anything that re-energises us, all because we feel like we have no other choice.
As healthcare professionals, we feel like rest is a reward for good behaviour, but it's a basic human need, and a professional responsibility. Why? Because rest makes us better at our job, and – frankly – we deserve it.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores ways we can give ourselves permission to rest and remind ourselves that it's not something we need to earn. When we give ourselves that space, our wellbeing and productivity will improve.
Nobody else is going to give us the time or permission, so we need to do this for ourselves. It will inevitably come with some guilt, but we can acknowledge that, then put our own wellbeing first and make it a professional priority.
Listen to this episode to* Learn about rest and how it affects our brains * Understand the different zones that we operate from, and how they impact our performance * Get tips on how to prioritise rest and make time for it in your daily life
Episode highlights* [00:02:22] What happens when we rest * [00:04:34] Threat zone, drive zone, and rest zone * [00:06:04] If we fail to rest * [00:07:18] Why we find it so hard to rest * [00:08:30] Giving ourselves permission * [00:11:23] Summary
Resources* THRIVE Weekly Planner * Rachel’s previous Facebook Lives: * What puts you into the corner? * What to do if you get ambushed in a meeting * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis – Episode 167
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For people in caring professions, trauma can be something we experience on a regular basis. an event doesn’t have to be earth-shattering to be traumatic, and if we let those “little T” traumas build up over time without addressing them, we can find ourselves in a constant sate of fight, flight, or freeze.
When stress and trauma accumulate over time, we can minimise what triggers us and downplay our experience. Each time we do, we deplete our battery, pushing it from the green zone of calm and energy, to the amber zone of fight-or-flight, and if we’re not careful, into the red zone where accessing empathy and compassion – and even good decision-making – is much harder. This is often when burnout appears to come “out of nowhere”.
But there are ways we can disrupt the burnout pattern, and tap into our nervous system to help us in those moments when we’re triggered.
Listen to this episode to* Understand the impact of “little T” traumas on our nervous system and how they can accumulate over time * Learn about the importance of recognising and prioritising self-care * Hear practical tips on how to recharge and avoid burnout
Episode highlights* [00:03:49] Big T and little T traumas * [00:06:35] Impact on the nervous system * [00:08:51] Normalising stress and overworking * [00:09:58] Giving ourselves space * [00:11:04] How housekeeping can help with our stress response * [00:14:27] Saying no to avoid burnout * [00:15:20] Functional levels of IQ * [00:17:15] Where is your battery level? * [00:20:34] Burnout and trauma * [00:25:05] Defining boundaries * [00:28:33] Emails * [00:30:33] Minimising trauma * [00:32:46] Self-help strategies * [00:38:08] The red zone * [00:42:11] Finding safety * [00:43:39] Claire's top tips
About the guestDr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist specialising in trauma, anxiety and burnout. Alongside her online therapy practice she creates engaging short-form videos on improving your mental health. She regularly runs online workshops for overcoming stress, procrastination and unhealthy boundaries.
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Resources* The Inner Consultation: How to Develop an Effective and Intuitive Consulting Style, by Roger Neighbor * Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation, by Anne Helen Petersen * Burnout: Solve Your Stress Cycle, by Emily and Amelia Nagoski * Huberman Lab
We’re not just service providers – we’re carers and helpers. This can make it hard to set boundaries and prioritise our workload. What we need is air cover.
By working together with your colleagues, you can create agreements about what to say yes and no to, and hold each-other accountable.
And you can also seek out peers outside of work, so you can share your dilemmas and feel less alone. If we keep silently struggling with saying no or setting boundaries, we can start feeling burnout, which can affect our judgement.
In this quick dip, Rachel explains how we can get some protection at work, and ask our peers outside of work for support.
Listen to this episode to* Understand the concept of air cover and how it can help with setting boundaries and prioritising workload * Learn about how shared accountability and informal networks can help give us air cover * Get actionable steps for finding and using air cover to make saying no easier
Episode highlights* [00:02:16] We're trying to solve the wrong problem * [00:03:49] What happens when we want to say "no" * [00:06:36] Legal air cover * [00:06:58] Finding air cover in accountability * [00:09:03] Air cover from informal networks * [00:12:12] How air cover helps to cope with fear * [00:12:44] Air cover against complaints * [00:14:41] Action points
Resources* More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Episode 161: The Problem with Boundaries * Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback * THRIVE Weekly Planner * Sign up to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Do you ever feel like you're just not being heard? Or like you’re under pressure and no one understands how much you’re juggling? Especially in high-stress careers, few of us have the chance to truly be listened to – and coaching can help with that.
Coaching isn’t therapy or listening to someone else’s advice. It's about exploring solutions yourself, with guidance. Coaching gives you permission to take a tricky situation and ask "If this were different, what would I notice?".
Coaching allows you to “think to the end of your thoughts”, with someone who listens and asks really effective questions.
Better still, by adopting a coaching mindset, you can help your teams solve problems using the skills and knowledge they already have.
If you’ve felt burnt out, ignored or resentful, help is at hand. This week, transformational coach, trainer, and author Tom Dillon joins Rachel to explore how different coaching approaches can help you reclaim your agency, think more clearly, and act positively.
Listen to this episode to1. Learn about the benefits of coaching, including how it can transform your life and provide a space for thinking and exploration 2. Understand how coaching differs from therapy and mentoring, and why coaching is a valuable tool for healthcare professionals 3. Discover different coaching approaches, like the person-centred and solution-focused approaches, and how they can be used to help you generate options and make your own decisions
Episode highlights* [00:02:46] What haas coaching ever done for us? * [00:05:30] Coaching vs therapy * [00:07:12] The power of being listened to * [00:10:51] Hearing back what you've just said * [00:12:43] The person-centred approach to coaching * [00:14:29] Are doctors good listeners? * [00:16:27] The solution-focused approach to coaching * [00:23:57] When negative beliefs prevent us from imagining solutions * [00:29:42] Cognitive behavioural approach * [00:31:50] Somatic approach to coaching * [00:34:09] Neuroscience approach * [00:39:48] Gestalt coaching approach * [00:45:17] Coaching "the uncoachable" * [00:48:25] Taking a coaching approach * [00:53:00] Work with Tom * [00:53:21] Your Coaching Journey
Resources* Your Coaching Journey – Use the code FROGSPAWN for a 20% discount on Tom’s course * Connect with Tom via LinkedIn * Free coaching provided by the NHS * Episode 163 – Why Can’t I Say No * Episode 67 – Bringing Your Best Self to Work, with Dr Sarah Goulding * Episode 63 – How to Survive Even When Times are Tough, with Dr Caroline Walker * Dr Jill Bolte Taylor – The 90 second life cycle of an emotion
Have you ever had to do something you didn't want to do? Maybe it was a task at work, a favour for a friend, or a chore at home. It can be frustrating and draining when it seems we have no say in our actions. It can make us feel powerless and stressed out. And that's not good for our work quality or our well-being.
But is that true? Do we really have no choice at all?
In this Quick Dip, we share how to use power language to set boundaries and take back control of your life. Keeping your work and life balance in check can be hard when you feel like your freedom is taken away. You will learn seven simple words to help you regain autonomy.
Learn how to set boundaries through your language. If you want to know how to regain control of situations that drain you out, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:1. Find out what it means to give over connecting. 2. Discover the importance of autonomy in motivation. 3. Learn the seven words that will help you take back autonomy.
Episode Highlights* [00:37] Connecting with People Who Drain You * [03:05] Taking Back Autonomy * [04:55] The End Goal * [05:24] Even If * [07:42] Causing Inconvenience * [08:30] Power Language
Resources Drive* by Daniel H Pink * More episodes of You Are Not a Frog: * Episode 74: Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley * Episode 153: Think Differently About Your To-Do List * Episode 161: The Problem with Boundaries * THRIVE Weekly Planner * Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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In the words of today’s podcast guest, “Everyone can benefit from neurodiversity”. But how much do you understand about the way it impacts you and your colleagues?
Neurodiversity can be a real strength in high-stress roles like medicine. Different ways of thinking can allow us to cope with high pressure situations, handle complex information, and perform brilliantly in ways that others couldn’t.
But it also offers us challenges, both when it comes to managing our own needs but also in supporting those around us. A great example is “masking”, where people try to hide elements of themselves in order to “fit in” with those around them. It takes a huge amount of energy, and can take a significant toll on our mental and physical wellbeing.
You might have a diagnosis of something like ADHD, ASD, or dyslexia, or know a colleague or family member who does. But even if you don’t, all of us benefit from understanding more about different ways of thinking and seeing the world, and knowing how to support each other better using our unique strengths and talents.
In this conversation, we hear from neurodivergence coach and facilitator Matthew Bellringer who unpacks the terminology in a brilliantly clear way. He shares how you can make the most of the advantages of neurodivergence in you and your team, as well as dealing more effectively with the challenges it brings so we can support each other better.
Listen to the episode if you want to1. Understand the terminology of neurodiversity and how it can benefit individuals, society, and organisations 2. Learn about the unique strengths and challenges that come with neurodivergence, and how to capitalise on those strengths while mitigating the costs 3. Discover how masking and camouflaging can take a toll on the mental and physical wellbeing of neurodivergent individuals, and how to work towards expressing oneself and one's experiences
Episode highlights* [00:03:25] Neurodiversity and neurodivergence * [00:06:59] Twice-exceptional people * [00:10:55] Neurodivergence and empathy * [00:12:32] Superpowers vs mutant powers * [00:15:51] Hyperempathy * [00:18:42] Masking * [00:21:13] Themes that show up for neurodivergent people * [00:27:20] Neurodivergence, health, and lifestyle * [00:30:07] Addiction and compulsion * [00:33:00] Helpful coping mechanisms * [00:35:10] When your zone of genius is outside of your role * [00:38:00] How neurotypical people can help the neurodivergent * [00:41:23] Get curious about your needs * [00:42:32] Neurodivergence and leadership * [00:43:22] Advocating for yourself * [00:44:27] Seeking diagnosis and support
About the guestMatthew Bellringer helps people with neurodivergent traits to develop their strengths and deal more effectively with the costs. In his work, he frequently encounters frustration and anxiety as common experiences for neurodivergent people in high-stress jobs.
Links* Connect with Matthew via LinkedIn * Curious Being - Matthew’s community for unconventional people who want to make the world a better place * Work with Matthew * Delightful Dissent – Matthew’s podcast exploring assumptions
It's a fact of life that we can't please everyone. That's why one of the hardest things to do is say no and try to keep everyone happy with our decisions. Even if it's against our will, we try to give a piece of ourselves to everyone. The thing is, that takes a toll on us until resentment builds up in our hearts. So, how do you expect pushback while staying firm with your decisions?
In this Quick Dip, we explore the topic of pushback, how it affects our emotions, and why we should expect it. We lay down tips on removing guilt from receiving pushback and handling other people's reactions. It's one thing to expect pushback but another to deal with it. The first step is to accept the fact that there's somebody that will always oppose your views and decisions.
Stand your ground firmly but compassionately. If you want to know how to expect and deal with pushback, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn the power of expecting pushback.
- Find out how resentment builds up and its consequences.
- Discover the best ways to deal with pushback.
Episode Highlights
[00:29] On Pushback
[02:26] Expecting Pushback
[03:39] How Resentment Builds Up
[04:35] Expecting Feedback
[05:07] How to Deal with Pushback
[07:34] Hunting for the Grain of Truth
[10:32] Setting Boundaries and Expecting Pushback
Resources
- Think Again by Adam Grant
- More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback with Annie Hanekom
- Episode 161: The Problem with Boundaries
- Episode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack
- Beat stress at work with our Zone of Power Bitesize Pack!
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High-stress and high-performance professions like healthcare often push people beyond their limits. When this happens, stress and burnout are often the unfortunate consequences.
In this episode, Dr Sarah Coope joins us to discuss how to avoid burnout by embracing your capacity. She delves into finding your optimal stretching point for each of your limited resources. Sarah also examines the nature of our fear of saying no. And we explore the consequences and benefits of managing and maintaining your capacity.
If you find yourself stretched too thin, then this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand your limits and capacity.
- Discover how to shift your mindset and avoid burnout.
- Learn how to embrace your guilt.
Episode Highlights
[10:30] Shifting Your Mindset to Embrace Your Capacity
[19:30] Saying No to Avoid Overstretching Yourself
[28:30] Identify Your Optimal Stretching Point
[38:30] Managing Emotions and Language Usage
[44:20] How to Deal with the Guilt From Saying No
Resources
- Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal
- Connect with Sarah on LinkedIn | Twitter
- Episode 99: How to Deal with Criticism When You’ve Reached Your Limit
- Episode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack
- Episode 171: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2
- Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No Toolkit
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
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You have brilliant ideas and solutions that can make a difference in your work. But how do you get others on board with them? It can be hard to convince others when they have different views and opinions. The thing is, you can’t change someone’s mind without knowing where they are coming from and what matters to them. You have to face it with confidence, grace, patience, and, sometimes, acceptance.
In this quick dip episode, we talk about how you can influence anyone by understanding yourself and them. We then discuss the impact of focusing on your zone of power and the importance of conflict and disagreement.
Find out how to tackle any challenge with skill and insight. If you want to know how to influence others gracefully, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out what things are inside and outside your zone of power.
- Learn how not to get stressed when influencing people.
- Discover why you can’t control influencing someone.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] Circle of Influence
[02:30] What You Have Control Over in Influencing
[03:09] The Zone of Power
[04:35] Focus on Action
[06:51] What is Behind Conflict?
[07:51] How to Influence People
[10:55] Focusing on Your Zone of Power
Resources
- The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fableby Patrick Lencioni
- More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- Episode 23: How to do conflict well with Jane Gunn
- Episode 122: How to be Happy at Work with Sarah Metcalfe
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On this episode of You Are Not a Frog, our guest, Corrina Gordon-Barnes, joins us to discuss the challenges working mothers face in traditional family units. The conversation sheds light on the value of self-compassion, learning to navigate negative emotions, and striking a balance between work and family life. This episode is for everyone involved in parenting, not just mothers. It’s not just women who experience mum guilt!
For a new perspective on mum guilt and actionable advice for a healthy balance between career and family life, don't miss out on this invaluable conversation with our guest, Karina Gordon.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Recognise and navigate feelings of shame and mum guilt in your parenting journey.
- Discover the role of self-compassion and reparenting in achieving a balanced life.
- Understand the impact of societal norms and social media on our emotional state as parents.
Episode Highlights
[03:39] The Challenges of Motherhood and Mum Guilt
[07:50] The Impact of Perfectionism and Shame in Parenting
[12:06] Challenges and Mum Guilt in Parenting
[21:08] Understanding Shame and Overcoming Negative Emotions
[29:57] Challenges and Strategies for Working Moms
[40:56] Coping with Guilt and Shame in the Work-Life Balance Struggle
[48:16] Top Tips for Overcoming Mum Guilt and Shame
Resources
- Solve for Happy by Mo Gawdat
- Connect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn
- Want to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes:
- Episode 121: How to Be a Happy Working Parent
- Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot
- Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts
- We’re releasing a FREE mini-series this May and June about how healthcare teams can set better boundaries and love their work! Check it out here:
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Disappointing ourselves and others is an awful feeling highlighted by guilt and shame. It can often lead us to act out regretfully as we attempt to mask it. Out of fear of its consequences, we resort to tiptoeing around others. This is most common in the medical field, where people tend to prioritise the needs of other people before their own. It could be why you may have difficulties saying no to people.
In this quick dip episode, I will dive into how you can deal with disappointment. Learn to understand your needs and take action. Understand it's okay if you can't do everything or please everyone.
If you’re a doctor struggling with stress because you are afraid to disappoint yourself and others, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:1. Discover the source of your disappointment. 2. Learn how to overcome your fears by saying no. 3. Explore the benefits of prioritizing your needs above others.
Episode Highlights[00:00] The Fear of Disappointing Others
[02:08] Sources of Disappointment
[7:14] Consequences of Self-Disappointment
[11:01] Prioritize Yourself and Your Needs
Resources:* Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No Toolkit * Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. * Join our free Masterclass for Leaders in Healthcare on June 20, 2023: "Know Your Limits, Claim Your No”
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Does it feel like you're in a toxic work environment and can't get out? Too many doctors — both in the UK and elsewhere — find themselves in a whirlwind of work. There's always more to do, and you don't want to imagine the consequences of what happens if you fail. There seems like there's no way out, but the truth is, you always have a choice.
In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Dr Dike Drummond and I dive into a topic that affects many industries but is particularly prevalent in healthcare — surviving and thriving in a toxic work environment without burning out.
If you’re a doctor stuck in the whirlwind of your toxic work environment, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:1. Learn what you can change in a toxic work environment. 2. Discover ways to improve how your career serves you. 3. Find out how doctors can care for themselves and why that helps them do their job better.
Episode Highlights[00:00] Doctors as Coal Mine Canaries
[13:41] How Profit Creates a Toxic Work Environment
[23:34] How Doctor Training Creates a Toxic Work Environment
[30:49] You Always Have a Choice
[40:02] Change or Leave Your Toxic Work Environment
[52:13] Bureaucracies Always Add More Work
[54:48] Drummond and Morris’ Three Top Tips
Resources* Sign up for our free webinar on June 20th Free Masterclass For Leaders In Healthcare with Dr Rachel Morris * Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit! * Visit The Happy MD * Listen to the Physicians on Purpose Podcast * Get Dike’s books * Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com * Shapes Toolkit Training * THRIVE Weekly Planner * Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Life can seem full of threats and stresses we face daily. As high-stress professionals, these types of situations are a part of daily life. All of this can place a great mental load on our brains and trigger our amygdala to not always respond in the best way.
That's why it's important to learn how we can reduce these threats and manage our stress. The question now is how can we do this?
Picking up where we left off, this quick dip episode dives into the last four factors of the SCARF Model. We learn more about tips and techniques that can help minimise threats and improves our response. Reward yourself and develop habits that can help you feel certain, in control, and supported even amidst all the stress.
Learn how to better manage your stress and respond to difficult situations. Avoid an amygdala hijack when you listen to this episode!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:1. Find out what 'C,' 'A,' 'R' and 'F' stands for in the SCARF Model. 2. Discover how being friends with everyone can lead to less stress and a better work life. 3. Listen and learn how you can apply the SCARF Model in your work and personal life.
Episode Highlights[00:44] What ‘C’ Stands For in SCARF
[03:20] The ‘A’ in SCARF Model
[04:34] The Power You Hold
[06:26] The ‘R’ Stands For…
[07:31] Everyone is a Friend
[09:41] The ‘F’ in SCARF
[10:55] Applying the SCARF Model
[12:35] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack With Help
Resources* You Are Not A Frog Episode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 * Learn about the SCARF Model by David Rock * Learn more about your Zone of Power * Book a call and reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com * Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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Our conditioning has trained us to rely on the egocentric left brain. We often overthink things, even when we have no control over them. But what if we didn't have to accept that this is simply how our brains work?
This week, Dr Giles P Croft joins us to discuss his experience of having a TIA that caused his left brain to stop functioning properly. Giles shares what it’s like to access his right brain freely without any worry in mind. We discuss how our thinking left brain often gets in the way of us staying in the present moment. We also lay down simple ways to get reacquainted with our right brain.
Don’t miss this episode and gain wisdom on how to be happy, calm, and connected.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn how the left brain has evolved to dominate our thinking.
- Discover how the left and right brain consciousness works.
- Find out simple steps to get more connected with your right brain.
Episode Highlights
[03:44] Giles’s Background and Experiencing a TIA
[10:17] How He Was Feeling the Entire Time
[12:16] We Allow the Left Brain to Dominate
[16:00] The Divided Brain
[19:34] The Power of Now
[23:38] Become Aware of Our Thoughts
[30:17] How the Right and Left Brain Works
[32:34] Tips on How to Get from the Left to the Right Brain
[39:21] Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
[44:10] Facing Stress and Challenges
[50:57] Giles’ Top Three Tips
Resources
- Connect with Giles: Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | YouTube | Twitter
- Wellbeing Wednesdays: Website | Apple Podcasts
- Two Brain Facts
- Jill Bolte Taylor: My stroke of insight
- The Divided Brain
- Whole Brain Living by Jill Bolte Taylor
- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
- Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson
- The Power of Regretby Daniel H. Pink
- More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
- Ep46: Default to happy
- Ep105: The Simplest Way To Beat Stress and Work Happier
- Epi130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters)
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up here to get the episode workbook and CPD form downloads.
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Criticism and feedback are fundamental to growing as an individual and professional. However, often, our brain perceives such conflicts as a threat. The amygdala acts upon this and kicks in our survival instincts. As a result, we check out and shut down to protect ourselves.
How do we avoid acting from this place of fear and focus on working toward developing ourselves?
In this quick dip episode, we uncover the overarching principle of the amygdala. We discuss how to avoid an amygdala hijack and how not to operate from our threat zone. We have a choice around how we perceive and respond to triggers. We introduce the first principle of the SCARF Model and how to get over it.
Learn how to minimise threats for yourself and others. If you want to know how to avoid an amygdala hijack, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn why avoiding amygdala hijack increases performance and happiness.
- Discover the idea of Civility Saves Lives.
- Discover the 'S' in the SCARF model.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack
[02:55] Civility Saves Lives
[04:16] You Have a Choice
[07:37] The ‘S’ in SCARF Model
[08:38] Becoming Aware of How You Display Status
[10:05] Getting Over Status
[10:51] Being in a Higher Status
Resources
- You Are Not A Frog Ep 167: Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis
- Civility Saves Lives
- Learn about the SCARF Model by David Rock
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
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This week, Jo Watkins, co-founder of The HOW People, joins us to explore entrepreneurial possibilities for doctors without leaving their day jobs. We talk about what holds us back from pursuing a business idea and how you can get started on this journey. We also discuss honing the transferable skills you already have to discover what you'd like to try.
If you want to start doing something different in your life and career, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover your 'why' in life and business.
- Understand why you learn most by failing.
- Recognise and hone your transferable skills as a professional and entrepreneur.
Episode Highlights
[04:50] The Beginning of Jo’s Entrepreneurial Career
[07:56] Worrying about the Unknown in Business
[10:56] Honing the Skills Within
[14:21] What Hinders Our Transferable Skills
[17:41] Think about Your Why
[20:00] Learning by Failing
[25:21] Jo’s ‘Why’
[30:32] Putting Boundaries in Place for Your Business
[33:51] How to Manage the Reality of Running a Business
[38:33] Getting Advice from People Who Have Done It Before
[42:37] Unrecognised Transferable Skills of People in High-Stress Jobs
[47:26] Making Time for Exploration
[49:53] Jo’s Top Three Tips
Resources
- Connect with Jo Watkins: Website | Instagram | Email | LinkedIn
- Book a 4D Coaching and Mentoring session with Jo.
- Help inspire the next generation of awesome humans with The HOW People.
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As a medical professional, facing high-stress situations every day might make you think you can handle anything. But the truth is, decisiveness isn't always what you want when things go wrong. Not every crisis is the same. Sometimes, the best course of action is to take a step back and come back to the crisis later.
In this quick dip episode, we uncover why we become terrible in a crisis, even as healthcare professionals. We explore how we typically react to stressful situations and their consequences. Then, we discuss strategies to ensure you've left the stress zone before you handle your crisis. It all begins with self-awareness and self-apprehension.
Before anything, it's crucial to take a pause. If you want to know how to develop good crisis management skills for yourself and others, this episode is for you.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover why being in our stress zone makes us terrible at dealing with crises.
- Learn the best course of action when you're backed into the corner.
- Find out how to make your own amygdala hijack rescue pack.
Episode Highlights
[00:29] Dealing with Crises as a Healthcare Professional
[02:42] Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis
[03:25] Four Choices When You are Backed into the Corner
[04:39] The Amygdala’s Job
[06:19] You are Responsible for Your Reaction to a Crisis
[08:23] How to Deal with Being Backed into a Corner
[10:56] Knowing What’s Urgent and What’s Not
[12:16] Get Out of Your Stress Zone
[16:44] Investigating the Stories in Your Head
[18:20] Making Your Own Amygdala Hijack Rescue Pack
Resources
- Episode 157: The Power of Pressing Pause
- How to Say No Toolkit
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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How often do you answer honestly when asked are you ok? Many people often say I’m’re ok even when you really aren’t. In truth, we aren’t ok. In today’s world, you’re faced with high-stress jobs, societal pressure and the uncertainty of the new normal. As we come out of the recent crisis, changed and unsure of who we are, it’s harder than ever to be ok.
You have to recognize and accept when you’re not ok. In this episode, James Spice joins us for a conversation about what it means to be a human being who isn’t really ok. He asks the real questions that can help us become more aware of who we are and how we really feel. With his simple tools and strategies, you can learn to cope with not being ok and find out who you are after you’ve drastically changed from before.
If you’re ready to accept that you’re not ok, you can learn what to do next when you tune in to this episode of Your Are Not a Frog
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the impact of the recent crisis you and the world have gone through.
- Discover the new you in the new normal with the help of some great guide questions.
- Find out the next steps to take towards being ok.
Episode Highlights
[02:51] How the World Makes It Difficult to Be Ok
[07:25] Who Are You In the New Normal?
[13:37] It’s True, People Aren’t Ok.
[16:16] The Rule of Thirds
[20:31] Deciding What To Do To Be Ok
[26:13] Recognising Your Values and Emotions
[31:55] Shifting Into The New Normal
[37:22] Living With Intention
[40:47] How The Past Crisis Changed People
[46:09] Taking the Steps To Be Ok
[52:09] James’ Three Top Tips
Resources
- Men Are from Mars; Women Are from Venus by John Gray
- Myer-Briggs Type Indicator
- Insights Discovery
- Connect with James Spice: LinkedIn | Website | Email
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Shapes Toolkit Training
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Do you ever feel like someone else is running your life? Do you find yourself just following a set of instructions in everything you do? Without realising it, we often permit other people to control our lives. It's like living a life we don't enjoy on autopilot without questioning it The thing is, it's not too late to design your own flight plan. You have the power to take control and lead the life you want to live.
In this quick dip episode, we highlight the importance of designing our own flight plan. We explain why working happier with your best interest in mind is the true key to success. You only have one life, and it is fully yours. Don’t let others take control of your happiness and success. Follow what it is that your heart truly wants.
If you want to design your flight plan and start taking control of your life, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Uncover why working harder doesn’t lead to happiness.
- Know what it’s like to take control of your time and your work.
- Learn how to design your flight plan.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] Your Flight Plan
[02:45] How Do You Want to Live?
[04:03] Happiness Leads to Success
[05:33] How to Become Happy in Your Journey
[08:28] Take Control of Your Life, Work and Time
[10:55] Getting Close to Your Ideal Life
Resources
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Can you keep cool when you receive a complaint about your work?
Complaints are part and parcel of every profession. No matter how common they may be and how hard you work to avoid them, the anxiety that you’ll get one is always there. It’s even more nerve-wracking if you work in healthcare. Often, complaints come with threats of referral to a professional regulator. All of a sudden, your career might be on the line.
This week, Dr Annalene Weston of Dental Protection Australia joins us to discuss how to stop taking complaints personally. We talk about the thought process that comes with patient complaints and discuss strategies on how to depersonalise and best deal with them.
If you want to know the mindset shift that will change how you deal with complaints., listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn the root of practitioners’ fear of receiving a complaint.
- Find out how you can shift your mindset around getting complaints.
- Discover the value of support when dealing with complaints inside and outside your control.
Episode Highlights
[04:41] Getting More Complaints in Healthcare
[10:19] Getting Affected by Complaints Even When You’re Not at Fault
[13:39] Fear of Complaint
[18:42] Mindset Shift around Getting a Complaint
[25:15] Understanding It from the Patient’s Point of View
[34:21] Being Right vs Being Good in a Relationship
[38:49] Dealing with Things Outside Your Control
[43:20] Getting Struck Off
[45:36] What Helps When Dealing with Complaints
[53:42] How to Depersonalise Complaints
[57:57] Annalene’s Top Three Tips in Dealing with Complaints
[1:01:04] Forgive Yourself
Resources
- Dental Protection Australia
- Connect with Dr Annalene Weston: LinkedIn | Twitter
- Episode 78: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep1: Preparing to Fail Well with Drs Sarah Coope, Annalene Weston and Sheila Bloomer
- Episode 80: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep2: What to Do When You Make a Mistake with Drs Clare Devlin and Dr John Powell
- Episode 82: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep3: Surviving the Process with Drs Jessica Harland, Caroline Walker, and Heidi Mounsey
- Frederik Imbo: How not to take things personally | TED Talk
- Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher and William Ury
- Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit
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Too often, we say yes to every request and every demand, even when it's not what we want. It's not about people-pleasing. It's about your values. But ask yourself, is it worth it? Is sacrificing your peace and well-being a worthy cost of validating your internal dialogue?
In a world that applauds the grind, learning to say no will keep you grounded. Setting boundaries helps you care for yourself. When you care for yourself, you can look after others to the best of your ability.
In this quick dip episode, we uncover the root of the problem of our struggle with saying no. We flesh out the people-pleasing tendencies and internal shame around setting boundaries. Your value does not equate to how hard you work and how much you give yourself to other people. Set yourself free from the internal stories and scripts you’re telling yourself. Once you do, you can get clear on what truly matters.
If you want to know how to start saying yes to yourself, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Uncover the two myths about people pleasing.
- Discover the heart of why we struggle to set boundaries and say no
- Learn strategies that will help you start saying no without guilt and shame.
Episode Highlights
[00:00] On People Pleasing
[00:58] Why We Struggle to Say No
[04:31] Feeling Shame in Setting Boundaries
[07:05] How to Start Saying No
[10:55] Your Value
Resources
- Episode 152: How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout
- Enneagram Personality Test
- Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit
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How do you make decisions? Is it from a deep place of knowing and intuition? Or is it merely out of fear?
Making big decisions (or even small ones) can understandably be stressful and anxiety-inducing. But being stuck in fear-based thinking is a prescription for misery - and for living a life doing stuff you don’t actually want to do.
This week, Henri Stevenson, Executive Coach and Shapes trainer, joins us to discuss how to stop making decisions based on fear and anxiety. We break down how many of us fall into this pattern and then share simple strategies to get our egos out of the way and base our thinking on freedom and love.
If you want to stop making decisions based on fear and live in alignment with what you REALLY want, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how to tell the difference between decisions made from intuition versus fear.
- Learn how to stop making decisions purely through fear of complaints or criticisms.
- Find out why being self-indulgent is anything ‘but’.
Episode Highlights
[05:41] Henri’s Journey to Finding a Different Operating System
[10:40] What Ego Is
[14:18] Why We Pay More Attention to Fear-Based Thoughts
[19:11] Investing in Your Self-Growth
[25:05] The Bottom Line of Self-Indulgence
[36:52] How to Decide From a Better Mental Place
[38:18] How to Get Over a Fear Hump
[39:44] Techniques to Overcome Fear
[43:33] What to Do When You’re Completely Overwhelmed
[48:33] Practising Self-Compassion
[49:53] Henri’s Top Three Tips
Resources
- Connect with Henri Stevenson: Website | LinkedIn
- Episode 126: Using Nature to Answer Your Big Questions With Henri Stevenson
- My Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD
- Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit
- Find out more about how you can come to our 2023 Off Air Off Grid Retreat!
- Sign up for Henri's one-day Nourish Retreat happening in PAUS. Cambridgeshire on the 29th of June 2023!
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We need boundaries. In fact, you might have already set some of your own. But ask yourself: how often do you let those boundaries crumble?
It’s not unusual for professionals in high-stakes industries to give in to other people’s demands, even if it means losing the boundaries they set. That’s not healthy — so why do we do it?
In this Quick Dip, we explore the challenges doctors and other professionals face when trying to enforce their boundaries. The problem isn’t in knowing when to say no or what boundaries to put up. We delve into various real-life scenarios and discuss how power language can help reinforce boundaries effectively.
Stay tuned to this episode if you want to know the problem with boundaries and how to overcome it.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the importance of power language.
- Learn how to embrace consequences and regain control.
- Discover how the amygdala can undermine your boundaries.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] Boundaries for High-Stress Professionals
[02:42] The Consequences of Boundaries
[03:55] Embracing Consequences and Regaining Control
[05:49] The Amygdala and its Role in Boundary Setting
[08:46] Problems that Crumbling Boundaries Cause
[09:15] Boundaries are Set for Good Reasons
[10:19] Being in Control
[11:28] Know Why You’re Setting the Boundary
[12:27] Power Language
[14:12] Bearing the Consequences
[16:17] Boundaries Have a Reason
Resources
- Just Say No Toolkit
- We Can Do Hard Things Podcast with Glennon Doyle
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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No one wants to burn out. When you experience burnout, you might find yourself thinking much more slowly and your productivity drops. Many high-stress professionals often feel guilty and ashamed for struggling with burnout. Unfortunately, the demanding and high-stress environment these days makes burnout much more likely to happen again and again. So what can you do to avoid experiencing burnout in the future?
In this episode, Dr Claire Ashley joins us for a conversation about the very real issue of burnout. We talk about what happens in our brains during burnout. She dives into the 12 stages of burnout and how we can use to recognize when we’re starting to burn out. Find out what you can do so that you can go back to work and how you can change things so you’re healthier and less likely to burn out all over again.
If you want to avoid burnout from repeating, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out how guilt and shame can become weapons that lead you to burn out.
- Understand the twelve stages of burnout and recognize if you’re experiencing burnout these days.
- Learn great tips to prevent burnout in the first place and make sure it never happens again.
Episode Highlights
[03:38] Claire’s Experience with Burnout
[05:12] Why Burnout Happens
[09:21] Guilt and Shame as Weapons Against You
[19:58] How Burnout Affects Work
[24:22] Breaking Out of the Burnout Cycle
[27:40] The Twelve Stages of Burnout
[31:29] Burnout Treatment and Prevention
[35:32] Seeking Help
[39:25] The Change You Can Control
[48:44] Top Tips From Claire and Rachel
Resources
- Associations of physician burnout with career engagement and quality of patient care: a systematic review and meta-analysis
- Tara Brach on Real But Not True: Freeing Ourselves from Harmful Beliefs
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 112: Why We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’ with Dr Sarah Goulding
- Laura Hyde Foundation
- Connect with Claire: Instagram | Website | Do Yourself No Harm
- Join Claire’s Facebook group, The Burnout Doctor
- Check out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management Conference for Rachel’s panel discussion on job crafting.
- Register for the free upcoming training,If I Don’t Do It, No One Will: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Limits for Leaders Who Do It All on March 27.
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What criteria do you use when prioritising the tasks on your to-do list? Do you just put them in the order you get them? Maybe you pick the ones that seem the most urgent?
Here’s an alternative: do the ones that are the easiest first. Not everything worth doing needs to be difficult!
In this quick dip episode, we talk about the reality of our limits. In a high-stress job, getting everything done in one day is nearly impossible. And that's okay! What's important is putting your focus where you can be most effective. You may have heard of the urgent-important matrix for prioritising, but we're taking it up a notch using the impact-effort matrix. We will teach you how to define the impact you want to create and acknowledge the reality of the effort needed to make that impact.
Stay tuned to this episode if you want to know how prioritising your life might require completely different criteria from what you thought.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn why prioritising your tasks based on impact and effort can help you be more effective.
- Discover how to direct your focus towards things that are easier to do.
- Understand that you have limited time and energy. Don't waste them on things that won't make you happy or don't make much of an impact.
Episode Highlights
[00:30] Know Your Limits so You Can Focus
[03:41] What to Focus On
[05:30] Define Your Impact
[08:30] The Reality of Effort
[09:48] The Effort Impact Matrix
[10:57] #1 High Impact and High Effort Tasks
[12:41] #2 High Impact and Low Effort Tasks
[13:18] #3 & #4 Low Impact and High Effort Tasks
[14:08] Rethink Your Prioritising
Resources
- Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown
- Here are a couple of You’re Not a Frog podcast episodes to check out:
- Episode 106: How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About with Caroline Walker
- Episode 129: How to Cope with Trauma on the Frontline with Dr Caroline Walker
- Episode 153: Think Differently About Your To-Do List
- Episode 156: How to Change Your Life in 12 Minutes Per Week
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Professor Chloe Orkin & Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram of the Medical Women's Federation join us in this episode to discuss sexism in medicine. We share first-hand experiences and explore why it remains a glaring issue today. We then discuss some strategies for action and what we can do to improve things.
If you want to know what the glass ceiling, glass cliff, and glass slippers are and how to avoid them, listen to our entire conversation in this You Are Not a Frog episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- How does sexism manifest in the medical world?
- Learn the barriers to progress for medical women.
- Discover what we could do on an organisational and individual level to advocate for equality.
Episode Highlights
[04:01] Sexism in Society
[06:48] Medical Women's Federation
[08:18] The Growth of Representation of Women in Medicine
[10:22] Working in a Male-Dominated Hierarchy
[15:33] On Speaking Up
[17:44] Barriers to Progress for Women
[23:06] Why Women Don’t Apply
[25:38] Women’s Household and Professional Roles
[31:10] What We Could Do on an Organisational and Personal Level
[38:02] How to Deal with Blatant Sexism
[44:01] The Work the Medical Women’s Federation Does
[45:11] Chloe and Nuthana’s Top Three Tips
Resources
- Medical Women’s Federation
- The Medical Women Podcast
- British HIV Association
- Connect with Professor Chloe Orkin: Email | Twitter
- Connect with Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram: Twitter
- Register for the free upcoming training,If I Don’t Do It, No One Will: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Limits for Leaders Who Do It All, on March 27.
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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When you're dealing with a stressful situation, your first instinct might be to act immediately to solve it. Unfortunately, acting immediately often means you don't think your actions through. Acting rashly can worsen the situation, making it even more stressful. Fortunately, there's a better way to respond to stress. All you have to do is take a few seconds to press the pause button.
In this quick dip episode of You Are Not a Frog, you'll discover the power of pressing pause in the middle of a stressful time. Rachel shares some of her own difficult experiences and how pausing could've helped her react better. She talks about how our brains can respond to stress and what we can do to ground ourselves and go back to rational human thinking. Face stressful situations as the person you want to be when you use the power of pressing pause.
Discover how pausing can help you deal with stress when you take a moment to pause with us and tune into this quick dip episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how much time you need to pause and deal with stress.
- Learn how you can ground yourself back into your parasympathetic nervous system.
- Find out what the four Ps are and how you can use them to make a plan to pause.
Episode Highlights
[00:36] Backed Into the Stress Zone
[05:22] Taking Seconds to Hours to Press Pause
[07:53] Getting Back Into Your Parasympathetic Nervous System
[10:11] Getting Enough Pause Time
[12:09] The Four Ps Plan
Resources
- Dr Jill Bolte Taylor Ted Talk
- Print or save a Pause Button to help you pause when facing stressful situations.
- Use our You Are Not a Frog CPD Reflection Forms to make your pause plan
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For high-stress professionals like us, one of the biggest obstacles to making a change in our lives or pursuing our great ideas is time. You might feel overwhelmed by the change you want to make or afraid of what other people would say. It's your choice not to let these reasons stop you from changing your life.
Robbie Swale changed his life by using 12 minutes of his week. He joins us in this conversation to discuss an amazing realisation he had: you can achieve so much by taking a little bit of your time. He discusses the challenges of nurturing your great ideas and how to overcome those obstacles. Robbie also dives into the four phases of creating something new and the importance of starting.
Don't let your great ideas go to waste. Learn how to change your life in 12 minutes when you tune in to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out the main excuses your mind can come up with and learn how you can overcome them.
- Discover how small and steady can help you win the race and achieve great things.
- You have more time than you think — enough time to start changing your life this week!
Episode Highlights
[03:15] Robbie's Journey of Great Ideas
[08:42] Doing the Same Thing, Differently
[12:13] Great Ideas VS Criticism
[17:31] The Power of the Tortoise
[25:59] Practice Makes Better Relationships
[29:30] Breaking Down Career Change
[33:41] Keep Going
[36:50] Managing Time for High-Stress Professionals
[39:21] Getting Started
[41:51] Executing Your Great Ideas: Just Start
[45:20] Robbie's Top Three Tips to Start Changing Your Life
Resources
- Check out the Shapes Toolkit for training tips to help manage stress and overwhelm.
- 12-Minute Method Series by Robbie Swale
- Book 1: How to Start When You're Stuck
- Book 2: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give Up
- Book 3: How to Create the Conditions For Great Work
- Book 4: How to Share What You've Made
- Smart Passive Income Podcast with Pat Flynn
- Seth Godin
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 154: How to Fix Your Broken Meetings
- The Tim Ferriss Show
- Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
- Big Magicby Elizabeth Gilbert
- Magic Lessons Podcast with Elizabeth Gilbert
- The Coach's Journey Podcast with Robbie Swale
- The 12-Minute Method Podcast with Robbie Swale
- Robbie's writing blog
- Connect with Robbie: Website | LinkedIn | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | Youtube | Email
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As healthcare professionals, we know what we need to do for our physical and mental well-being. So why aren’t we doing it?
Often, the first thing we give up when we get busier is something that makes our lives happier. We've normalised giving up our basic needs to make room for productivity. No one bats an eye at it anymore. But is living your one shot at life like this really worth it at the end of the day?
In this quick dip episode, we talk about the one thing you can do right now for your well-being. The biggest barrier to well-being is not knowledge; it’s setting aside time to do it. It will feel uncomfortable, but we don’t have to give up the thing that makes us happy to make room for busyness. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself burned out before you realise what’s happening.
If you want to know how to start prioritising your well-being as you get busier in life, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand how not to fall into the bottom of the vortex of busyness.
- Learn the five (or eight!) ways to well-being.
- Start doing the one thing you need for your well-being.
Episode Highlights
[00:33] The Biggest Barrier to Health and Fitness
[02:03] Vortex of Busyness
[04:03] Stress and Burnout
[05:05] Ways to Well-Being
[06:22] The Three Types of Life
[08:19] The ONE Thing You Can Do Right Now for Your Well-Being
Resources
- 5 Steps to Mental Wellbeing
- TED Talk: The new era of positive psychology | Martin Seligman
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.
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Whether we like it or not, meetings are essential in running an organisation. But when was the last time you attended a meeting without feeling bored? Meetings are supposed to help us get work done more effectively. It's an opportunity for us to raise issues and make important decisions. But despite their importance, very few of them are done well. How, then, can we transform our meetings from bad and boring to helpful and interesting?
Dr Carrie Goucher joins us in this episode to discuss the basics of a good meeting. She also explains how to disagree with other people in meetings while maintaining good relationships. Then, we lay down simple and practical actions making meetings shorter, more productive, and better.
If you want to know how to start running engaging and effective meetings, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn how to plan meetings beyond just hygiene factors.
- Discover how to engage and encourage people to speak their minds during meetings.
- Find out the best way to run an effective meeting.
Episode Highlights
[04:16] How Carrie Got into Meetings
[06:07] Planning Beyond Hygiene Factors
[09:57] Carrie’s PhD in Meetings
[15:02] How to Encourage People to Speak Up
[21:42] Addressing Hierarchy
[24:58] Disagreeing without Criticising
[29:13] ‘Yes, but…’
[34:04] How to Run a Meeting
[38:53] The Four Quadrants of a Meeting Documentation
[42:17] How to Run a Meeting with Time Constraints
[45:11] How to Share Information in an Engaging Way
[48:56] Carrie’s Top Three Tips for Running Good Meetings at Work
Resources
- Take an off-grid You’re Not a Frog retreat with us this coming May. Get a special discount when you book before February 10th.
- Get 25% OFF of FewerFasterBolder’s Meeting Leaders E-Course!
- FewerFasterBolder's Free Resources to download
- For people changing meetings across a whole department or organisation - listeners can express interest for Meeting Pioneers cohort from March 2023 here
- Download FewerFasterBolder’s Invitation Template and Capture Canvas here for FREE!
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Connect with Carrie: FewerFasterBolder | LinkedIn
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Do you constantly feel guilty about unfinished tasks at the end of the day? Do you keep finding yourself wanting to improve how you manage your time?
Your to-do list is not a fixed and immovable bucket. It’s a river of opportunities that you have a choice and control over. How would you choose what things to fish out of this river wisely?
In this quick dip episode, we discuss shifting our mindset about our to-do list from a bucket to a river. We only have a limited amount of time in the world. Instead of trying to do the impossible of managing our time, we need to start learning how to manage the opportunities we take. We have the power to choose what we take out of that river. So think differently about what you want to pull out, and choose wisely.
If you want to know how to think differently about your to-do list, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand why it’s impossible to manage time.
- Learn why you should think differently about your bucket list.
- Start applying the Four F’s Method in your life.
Episode Highlights
[00:29] Four Thousand Weeks
[02:37] Think Differently About Your To-Do List
[03:55] The Problem with Thinking of Your To-Do List as a Bucket
[06:21] Shifting Your Mindset About To-Do Lists
[07:26] How to Choose What to Pick Up Out of the River
[08:06] Four F’s Method
[15:31] Choosing Wisely
Resources
- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortalsby Oliver Burkeman
- OLIVER BURKEMAN: 4000 weeks…it’s all we got in this lifetime, folks! From the Wild with Sarah Wilson Podcast
- Books by Marshall Goldsmith
- Episode 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life with John C. Parkin
- Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. Parkin
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.
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Why is it that doctors work themselves to the point of burnout and stress and making themselves sick? In a system that seems to demand perfectionism in healthcare workers, medical professionals aim for impossibly high standards. What happens when they can't meet the standards they set for themselves?
Dr Sandy Miles joins us in this episode to explore the concept of shame and how we respond to it. She also explains why shame breeds perfectionism in healthcare workers. After explaining the concept of shame, we also share practical, actionable tips to overcome shame and have a healthier response to it.
If you want to know how shame fosters perfectionism in healthcare workers, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- What exactly is shame, and how does it manifest in our daily lives?
- Learn common responses to shame and how to overcome it healthily.
- Understand why shame causes perfectionism in healthcare workers.
Episode Highlights
[03:31] Introducing Sandy
[05:21] Defining Shame
[12:28] How Identities Are Tied to Shame
[15:39] 3 Ways People Respond to Shame
[18:07] How to Respond to Shame
[27:19] Shame and Perfectionism in Healthcare Workers
[32:17] How to Overcome Maladaptive Perfectionism
[36:49] What You Can Do Today
[44:51] Recognize What You Can Control
[47:35] Sandy’s Advice
Resources
- Take an off-grid You’re Not a Frog retreat with us this coming May. Get a special discount when you book before February 10th.
- Can’t make it in May? Dr Sandy recommends the Acacia Retreat in September.
- You're Not a Frog Episode 92: How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie Sweeting
- This is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor by Adam Kay
- Books and videos from Brene Brown
- Shame and Medicine
- Shame in Medicine: The Lost Forest, a 10-part documentary podcast produced by The Nocturnists
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Connect with Sandy: Twitter | LinkedIn | Email (sandy.miles2@nhs.net)
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Everyone praises those who work hard — so it’s not unusual for people to think that it’s good to push your limits and do as much as you can.
But what’s the best thing to do when you’re tired and exhausted? Should you see how far you can go, or take a break?
In this short episode, we discuss embracing our limits as a choice. With so many things out of control, we need to discern when to take a rest because work will never stop for us. We also discuss how you can start to recognise warning signs. Remember, people don’t go from okay to complete burnout overnight, it’s a long process.
If you want to know how to embrace your limits and live a happier life, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Why do we need to embrace our limits and take a break more often?
- How can we recognise our limits and take action before burnout forces us to stop?
- Understand that we don’t need to feel guilt and shame about our limits.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] Learn to Embrace Your Limits
[02:27] You Always Have a Choice
[03:18] How to Recognise Our Limits and Take a Break
[07:18] The Guilt Around Rest
[09:21] Learn to Recognise Warning Signs
[12:30] How to Embrace Your Limits
Resources
- Join us for a 3-day Off Air-Off Grid thinking retreat on the 2nd - 5th May 2023
- Episode 88: How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.
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Convince change to happen.
You've got great ideas for change. It's just a matter of putting these plans into motion. However, change needs to be something where everyone works together. You can't just tell someone to do this or that. Because of this, change can be a challenge. But don't let this discourage you! With the right message and space for a conversation, you can convince the people around you to make change happen.
In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Toby Moore joins us for a conversation about communicating ideas and convincing people to change. We dive into creating a message that connects with people. You'll find that sharing what you want, why you want it, and how you'll do it can become a call to action. Discover how you can put your great ideas into motion through conversation and a better communication strategy.
Don’t stop your ideas from changing the world! Tune in to this episode to find out more about convincing your audience.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the importance of structuring your what, why, and how to create a convincing message
- Find the language that helps your audience understand, believe, and connect with you.
- Learn how you can have a call to conversation with your audience.
Episode Highlights
[03:15] Change for People
[06:40] Elements of a Better Communication Strategy
[11:13] Starting With Your What and Why
[16:43] Connecting Your Reasons
[19:28] Understand, Believe and Take Action
[24:19] Using Lived Experiences as a Better Communication Strategy
[27:49] The Importance of Structuring Your Message
[34:01] Overcoming Objections
[40:36] Top Three Tips to Encourage Change
Resources
- Start With Why by Simon Sinek
- MAKE IT: How to Work with Clarity, Confidence and Creativity by Toby Moore
- Sign up now and join our free online Anti-Challenge Challenge this January!
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.
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How have you been living your life so far?
Most of us have worked hard all our lives to be successful. Whilst hard work is commendable, it can start to define your life. Instead, how about we try to work happier so that we can find fulfillment in everything we do.
In this quick dip episode, Rachel talks about what to do when working harder isn’t working anymore. She explains why working harder is actually counterproductive and why it can fail us. Rachel also shares simple but powerful tips to flip your mindset and adopt a healthy work ethic. Work hard at your job, but work twice as hard in looking after yourself. That is how you can create a life worth living.
If you want to know how to work happier instead of harder, tune in to this episode!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover why working hard is failing you instead of leading you to success.
- Learn why you should write a ‘to be’ list instead of a ‘to do’ list
- Understand the importance of embracing your limits.
Episode Highlights
[02:53] Working Hard in High-Stress Jobs
[04:15] Why Working Harder is Failing Us
[06:55] Guilt from Not Working Harder
[10:44] Focus on Working Happier, Not Working Harder
[12:16] Flipping the Mindset
[13:11] ‘To Do’ List vs ‘To Be’ List
[16:29] Recognise Your Limits
Resources
- This Is Going to Hurt (TV Series 2022)
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- Check out more You Are Not a Frog episodes about how to say ‘no’ and prioritise powerfully here:
- Episode 54: How to work more flexibly, without the stress
- Episode 105: The Simplest Way to Beat Stress and Work Happier
- Episode 109: Is It Possible To Have Fun At Work?
- Episode 122: How to be Happy at Work
- Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback
- Episode 134: How to Tell People What They Don’t Want to Hear
- Episode 135: How to Escape the Urgency Trap
- Episode 141: You Choose
- Episode 145: How to Know if You’re Being ‘Resilience Victim Blamed’
- Join You are Not a Frog’s January Anti-Challenge!
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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The stress and worry we felt during the pandemic didn’t disappear in 2022. As medical practitioners, having a myriad of problems and uncertainties on our plate has simply become part of the job. But after over a hundred episodes, our conversations here at You Are Not A Frog have shown that we can make choices that help us to cope with and even overcome stress, anxiety and worry.
So let’s wrap up another fantastic year by rediscovering the best bits of our podcast episodes on stress and worry. We revisit our favourite conversations on breaking the anxiety cycle, doubts and fears, and the power of ‘f**k it’.
Happy Holidays, dear listeners! Let’s end this year and start 2023 right by learning how to beat burnout and work happier.
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Listen to the most talked-about YNAF episodes.
- Rediscover tips and tricks for living a healthier and happier life.
- Recount simple techniques for dealing with work-related burnout.
Episode Highlights
[02:01] Episode 119: Dealing with Stress and Worry
[04:10] GROW
[09:23] Breaking the Anxiety Cycle
[12:21] Episode 106: Worrying Is Not Caring
[15:30] Learn to Let Go
[18:14] Episode 105: Don’t Believe All Your Thoughts
[23:53] When Your Doubts and Fears are Valid
[28:14] The Default State
[31:59] Finding Calmness
[33:14] Episode 130: The Power of “F**k It’
[37:08] Thinking Is the Problem
[41:42] Release All Attachments
Resources
- Join our January 2023 Anti-Challenge. Sign up here!
- Check out the full interviews of the episodes we featured today!
- Episode 119: How To Improve Your Mental Health In 10 Minutes
- Episode 106: How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About
- Episode 105: The Simplest Way to Beat Stress and Work Happier
- Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters)
- 10 Minutes to Better Mental Health by Lee David and Debbie Brewin
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Shapes Toolkit
- Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.
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As trained medical professionals, we are confident about our technical skills and our ability to work harder than most professions. But are we truly confident and happy about our lives and careers? Every day is a whirlwind at our workplace, and we need to learn how to build confidence, take a step back and be compassionate to ourselves.
Every day, we can learn something new. Not just about the technical aspects of our work, but also about ourselves, our emotions, and well-being.
In this episode of ‘You Are Not a Frog’, Rachel brings you this year’s best bits of the podcast on self-confidence and creating a life you’ll never regret. We look back on people pleasing, taking criticism, imposter syndrome, and self-coaching!
Don’t miss this episode and step into 2023 with an improved mindset on confidence!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how to gain confidence at work and listen to constructive criticism.
- Learn how to redefine your beliefs and be more honest with yourself to find peace and happiness.
- Go on a self-development journey through self-coaching.
Episode Highlights
[02:02] Episode 110: How to Stop People-Pleasing
[08:01] How to Build Confidence and Take Criticism
[10:16] Episode 112: Rethinking Imposter Syndrome
[13:46] How to Accept Growth and Imperfection
[19:51] A New Definition of Imposter Syndrome
[21:05] Episode 115: How to Find Peace and Happiness
[33:11] How to Be Honest
[35:55] Episode 117: How to Build Confidence Through Self-Coaching
[41:48] Stop Being Confused
[43:13] Episode 123: How to Live Without Regrets
Resources
- Join our January 2023 anti-challenge! Every day, we're going to share a simple activity to make your life less challenging. Sign up here!
- Check out the full interviews of the episodes we featured today!
- Episode 110: How To Stop People Pleasing And Absorbing Other People’s Angst
- Episode 112: Why We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’
- Episode 115: How To Find Peace And Happiness, Even In A Life You Haven’t Chosen
- Episode 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do It Well)
- Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Do you look forward to Christmas holidays or other family celebrations only to be disappointed that reality is not what you had hoped it would be? Or has life not worked out as expected, and you're struggling with regrets and disappointment? How do we deal with feeling disappointed, especially with the upcoming holidays?
In this 2022 Christmas Special of You Are Not A Frog, executive coach and relationship expert Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to explain several approaches to dealing with life's disappointments. She builds on her years of experience as an executive coach and relationship expert to share the value of self-compassion and give simple tools we can use to turn disappointment into a learning experience.
If you’re perpetually being disappointed every holiday season, this episode might be for you!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn the value of self-compassion to overcome being disappointed.
- Find out why bad experiences can actually be good motivators.
- Get practical tips on how to handle disappointment (and other negative emotions!)
Episode Highlights
[06:02] Disappointed During Holidays
[17:43] Practising Your ‘Scripts’ and ‘Dances’
[20:59] The Power of Requests
[29:38] Handle Expectations, Prevent Being Disappointed
[35:34] Embracing Feeling Disappointed and Negative Emotions
[40:43] Finding Self-Compassion
[44:56] The Value of Regret
[51:19] Top Three Tips to Handle Being Disappointed
Resources
- Find out more about our next Off Grid retreat.
- Get access to webinars designed for leaders in health and social care fields to help their teams deal with stress, overwhelm and heavy workloads here.
- Download our FREE 'How to retreat when you can't go on retreat recipes'
- Listen to Corrina’s previous episodes:
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
- How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell
- The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel Pink
- Learn more about Corrina’s work on her website.
- Connect with Corrina on her LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram.
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What is your first thought when you think of the word ‘resilience’? For many professionals and organisations, this means becoming superhuman — someone who can do anything despite the stress, heavy workload, and emotions. Not only is this perspective wrong, but it’s also impossible!
We’re all human. So why do we expect perfection?
In this episode, Rachel dives into the concept of resilience victim blaming and how you’re led to think it’s your fault when you can’t perform superhuman standards. Resilience is about choices and shifting how you respond to situations. You have a choice, even if you don’t think so now. In fact, you may even need to make tough decisions for the sake of your well-being.
If you want to know how to become more resilient and prioritise choices for your welfare, stay tuned to this episode.
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the true meaning of resilience.
- Discover how to thrive in your workplace and take back control of your life.
- Overcome learned helplessness by choosing for yourself.
Episode Highlights
[00:29] How Time Affects Well-Being
[03:39] You Can’t Wait Around for Systemic Change
[04:52] How to Thrive in the Workplace
[07:00] The Choice to Overcome Learned Helplessness
[11:06] How to Prioritise
Resources
- Lost to the NHS: a mixed methods study of why GPs leave practice early in England
- The Chimp Paradox by Dr Steve Peters
- Check these You’re Not A Frog episodes that cover time management and prioritisation:
- Episode 69: Make Time for What Matters
- Episode 74: Managing your Time in a System Which Sucks
- Episode 93: How to Delegate, Do It, or Drop It
- Episode 115: How To Find Peace And Happiness, Even In A Life You Haven’t Chosen
- Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets
- Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback
- Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters)
- Episode 138: How to Balance Life and Work
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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How do you feel about your job? Do you enjoy all aspects of your work? Do you sometimes wish you could make it better? The demands in healthcare make it almost impossible to remove the constant pressure surrounding the job. What follows risks burnout. But with the right combination of resources, support, and an innovative mindset, employees can craft jobs in ways that will make them feel happier at work.
In this panel discussion episode of You Are Not a Frog, we ask Kirsten Armit, Dr Colin Lindsay, and Dr Daljit Hothi at the FMLM International Healthcare Leadership Conference 2022 to speak about how to craft jobs to suit employees better. We discuss the evidence-based actions and changes you can take to fine-tune your job. Plus, we share simple actions organisations need to do to help others do the same.
If you want to find out what job crafting means, stay tuned to this episode and learn how it can help you feel more positive about your work!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn about the Job Demands-Resources Theory.
- Discover how job crafting helps employees avoid burnout and feel better at work.
- Find out how to craft jobs at an individual and systemic level.
Episode Highlights
[05:38] Job Demands-Resources Theory
[09:00] What Work Engagement Means
[12:35] The Impact of Investing in People's Jobs
[16:21] What is Job Crafting?
[20:56] How to Implement Job Crafting
[26:23] Job Crafting Supports Employee Well-Being and Productivity
[33:53] How Leaders Can Help their Teams with Job Crafting
[37:08] Job Crafting at a Systemic Level
[42:06] What to Do When there are Limited Resources Available
[45:01] Top Three Tips to Promote Job Crafting at Work
Resources
- FMLM International Healthcare Leadership Conference 2022
- Get in touch and download our brochure here.
- Episode 131: What To Do If You’re Stressed AND Bored
- Connect with Kirsten: LinkedIn
- Connect with Dr Colin: LinkedIn
- Connect with Dr Daljit: LinkedIn
- Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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We often think stress and burnout are normal. However, anyone who has experienced extreme pressure can tell you that too much stress is bad for our health and performance. Our physiological reactions to stress are normal. Despite this, we continue to blame ourselves if we cannot cope with it.
In this quick tip episode, Rachel shares how doctors and other individuals in demanding jobs see stress as ‘normal’ and how it impacts our health. When you’re burning out, stop blaming yourself and start being compassionate. If you want to know how to cope with stress and burnout in the normal and human way, stay tuned to this episode.
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how we get ‘normal’ wrong.
- Understand how stress and burnout affect us.
- Learn how to cope with stress and burnout the normal way.
Episode Highlights
[00:30] The Current State of Healthcare Professionals
[02:52] Stress and Burnout: Common But Not Normal
[07:40] How We Usually Respond to Stress and Burnout
[13:43] What Is Normal?
Resources
- Physician Burnout - Who Will Save Us? by Dr Dyke Drummond
- Are You Too Stressed to Be Productive? Or Not Stressed Enough? By Harvard Business Review
- Downloadable Stress Curve Worksheet
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Many professionals in high-stress careers can find themselves working long hours every day and not growing wealthier. No matter how much you do or how many hours you add, you find yourself trapped in a cycle of work and finances. Getting out of this trap is difficult when you don't know the financial decisions you need to make. You'll find practical steps on controlling your finances so that they don't control you: earn more and spend less.
Dr Tommy Perkins joins us for a conversation about money and career. He answers your questions about what you can do to stay financially stable. We talk about why people make unusual financial decisions and what motivates a person to spend. He also gives insightful tips and tricks to save and set aside money for your wealth and financial safety.
Find out how to make the financial decisions you need in your life without worrying about money when you tune in to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover the greatest influence on your financial decisions.
- Find out how you can grow your wealth with Tommy’s saving tips and tricks.
- Learn how you stay financially safe even when facing difficult times.
Episode Highlights[00:45] Why We Choose To Spend
[05:22] Tommy’s Experience With Debt
[12:33] Emotional Money
[19:14] Tips and Tricks for Saving
[23:48] Financial Emergency Buffer
[28:30] Balanced Decision Making
[32:42] Spend Safely and Wisely
[36:17] Breaking Out of The Work-Money Trap
Resources
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 50: Freeing Yourself From the Money Trap
- Learn more about how you balance your career and financial decisions at Medics Money and get a copy of their ebook.
- Medics Money Podcast on iTunes, Spotify, and Google Podcasts
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Do you sometimes find yourself thinking that you don’t have a choice? Your circumstances and obligations seem to prevent you from taking any course of action except for one. But the thing is, we always have a choice. We choose all the time. Life is made up not of the big choices we have to make but of the little, compounding choices we make on a daily basis. So what choice will you make today? You choose.
In this You Are Not a Frog Quick Dip, Rachel delves into choice. She shares the one thing healthcare professionals get wrong about choice and why we find its concept difficult. She discusses the concept of the Zone of Power and how it can help us assess what's in and out of our control in making choices. At the end of the day, we only have one wild and precious life — it's your choice how to spend it.
If you want to know how to begin making choices with unclouded acceptance, tune in to this episode!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover what it means to live a wild and precious life.
- Learn how to get out of the victim mentality that we don’t have a choice.
- Understand the concept of the Zone of Power.
Episode Highlights
[00:29] You Choose!
[01:36] Making Choices
[04:17] Living a Wild and Precious Life
[06:14] What Healthcare Professional Get Wrong about Choice
[07:34] Recognising Your Zone of Power
[09:02] Choice and Losses
[09:36] Embracing Serenity
[10:44] Why We Find the Concept of Choice Difficult
[12:56] Regrets of the Dying
[14:33] Zone of Power Exercise
Resources
- You Choose! by Nick Sharratt and Pippa Goodhart
- The Summer Day by Mary Oliver
- The Choice by Edith Eger
- Loss and Gain by John Henry Newman
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina Scull
- Regrets of the Dying by Georgina Scull
- Stay within your zone of power through the Zone of Power handout.
- Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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We're all guilty of eating our feelings from time to time. It can happen to anyone for any reason — a bad day at work, a stressful time at home, a plan falling short. We start emotional eating because eating is an inherently satisfying activity—and it must be! You feel good when you eat things you like. However, the problem arises when this is our only coping mechanism for dealing with difficult situations. Learning how to stop emotional eating can help us break or prevent unhealthy eating habits.
In this episode, Keri Williams and Dr Matthea Rentea talked about the causes of emotional hunger and how it affects our mood and hormones. They also discussed their inspiring weight loss journey and explained why diets don't always work. Finally, they imparted tried-and-true advice on how to stop emotional eating.
Don't miss out on this episode if you're looking for the most practical ways to manage binge eating and experience consistent weight loss!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover a critical step on how to stop emotional eating.
- Find out why stress drastically increases weight gain.
- Learn simple steps to eat and feel better.
Episode Highlights
- [06:43] Issues with Returning to Work
- [10:18] The Benefits of Being Off Work
- [14:14] How to Regain Confidence
- [19:17] What to Do When You’re Back to Work
- [21:41] Sharing Your Situation
- [26:46] Acknowledge Your Skills
- [31:33] Nipping Stress and Burnout in the Bud
- [35:27] How to Avoid and Prevent Burnout
- [42:15] Top Tips for Going Back to Work
Resources
- Sign up for our FREE webinar 'How to cope when a doctor dies by suicide'. FREE webinar for doctors
- Sustainable Weight Loss: The School of Sustainable Weight Loss. You Are Not a Frog is proud to be an affiliate of the school, meaning we receive a small commission if you sign up through our link and you also get a 10% discount! We’re thrilled to be supporting Keri and Matthea in this important work.
- Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Connect with Keri: Website | Instagram | Linktree | Youtube
- Connect with Matthea: Email | Instagram | Linktree
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Learning to manage your emotions is a crucial skill. No matter the situation, letting your emotions get the best of you doesn't typically end well. However, that doesn't mean we should shut our feelings down. Instead, it's best to identify and analyse them first, then take action.
In this quick episode of You Are Not A Frog, I discuss difficult, negative emotions and how to handle them. We tackle what these emotions are and understand why we get them. I will also give tips on discerning whether you need to act or can safely ignore them.
If you're struggling to manage overwhelming negative emotions, this episode is for you.
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand negative emotions and why you feel them.
- Know how to deal with guilt.
- Learn when to act on your negative emotions and when to ignore them.
Episode Highlights
- [01:46] The Price We Pay
- [03:12] Pain as Warning Bells
- [04:46] Not All Negative Emotions Warrant Action
- [08:04] Dealing With Guilt
- [09:24] Understanding Negative Emotions
- [10:46] Discerning When to Act or Ignore Negative Emotions
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- The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris
- Connect with Rachel: LinkedIn | Twitter | Email
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Does having a healthy work-life balance seem so unattainable that you’ve given up trying to acheive it? Work takes up most of our time, leaving only spare time for our other commitments. Maybe you have tried doing everything at once, only to end up resentful. This may be because you’re aiming for the impossible.
Dr. Claire Kaye joins us in this episode to discuss why we should never aim for work-life balance, and why you should aim for life balance. We talk about the importance of prioritizing your needs and the things that give you joy. We also teach you practical ways to cope with burnout and create balance in all aspects of your life — career, socials, family, well-being, and hobbies.
If you want to know how to get the life balance you need (and desire), stay tuned to this episode.
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out why achieving a perfect work-life balance will always fail.
- Learn how to do a life audit to work out your priorities.
- Get useful tips to cope with burnout and overwhelming situations.
Episode Highlights
[03:58] Life Balance
[07:51] Different Definitions of ‘Balance’
[11:50] Building Your Priority List
[18:36] Find What Gives You Joy
[22:05] Managing Your Energy
[23:13] Work-Life Equation
[27:45] Prioritize Yourself
[30:53] Coping With Burnout or ‘Unbalanced Life’
[34:48] Doing Reality Checks
[40:35] Helping Others ‘Get Unstuck’
[42:46] Top Tips for Life Balance
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- Get access to webinars to help your team deal with workload and beat feelings of stress and overwhelm designed for leaders in health and social care here.
- Listen to previous episodes with Claire:
- How To Change When Change is Scary
- The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)
- Defining Your Own Success in Life
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Learn more about Claire’s work on her website.
- Connect with Claire on her Instagram, Facebook, and email.
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Rachel gives a quick tip on facing shark music in this short episode of You Are Not a Frog. She shares her experiences of anticipating the worst-case scenario. She talks about why we hear 'shark music' in the first place and shares two quick steps you can take to stop it. It's time to stop assuming the worst and enjoy your life without shark music playing in the background.
Tune in to this episode to hear Rachel’s quick tips on expecting the best and getting rid of your negative assumptions — the imaginary sharks!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn where shark music can come from and what might trigger it for you.
- Understand why we assume the worst in different situations.
- Find out how you can beat the shark music by assuming the best.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] What It Means to Hear Shark Music
[04:35] Assumptions of Sharks
[07:42] Assuming the Best
[09:06] Triggers of Shark Music
[10:52] Stopping the Shark Music
Resources
- Jaws theme song by John Williams
- Jaws (1975)
- Download our free Overwhelm SOS toolkit
- Feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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In this episode, Angela Deutschmann joins us to talk about how to experience joy despite the challenges of the healthcare profession. Being in a high-stress job can make you mistake happiness about external things with internal joy.
Angela talks about how to reprogram your unconscious mind and find joy and satisfaction in your everyday life. She also discusses the difference between caring for and carrying other people's suffering.
If you want to rekindle your joy within and learn how to become joyful whatever the circumstance is, then listen to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out the difference between happiness and joy.
- Discover tools that will help you care without carrying.
- Learn how to reprogramme the stories you’ve created in your unconscious mind.
Episode Highlights
[05:51] Angela’s Work around Joy
[07:56] The Difference Between Happiness and Joy
[11:27] Finding Joy in Adversity
[12:52] Caring vs Carrying
[15:03] Tools to Help You Care without Carrying
[19:18] Working on the Programming of Your Mind
[23:21] The Most Common Programmings People Have
[25:18] Coping with Reprogramming Your Defence Mechanism
[28:55] The Danger of Blame
[30:43] The Process of Reprogramming
[39:14] Creating a New Reality
[43:23] Where the Analytical Part Comes in
[49:27] How Long Reprogramming Takes
[53:27] How to Choose Joy over Suffering
Resources
- Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit
- Get a copy of the Overwhelm Buster Toolkit
- The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha
- Collections of Meditations by Joe Dispenza
- Enneagram Personality Profiling Tool
- Connect with Angela on her website, Instagram, or LinkedIn
- Subscribe to The Joy Studio and visit their Facebook page.
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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In this episode, Angela Deutschmann joins us to talk about how to experience joy despite the challenges of the healthcare profession. Being in a high-stress job can make you mistake happiness about external things with internal joy.
Angela talks about how to reprogram your unconscious mind and find joy and satisfaction in your everyday life. She also discusses the difference between caring for and carrying out other people's suffering.
If you want to rekindle your joy within and learn how to become joyful whatever the circumstance is, then listen to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out the difference between happiness and joy.
- Discover tools that will help you care without carrying.
- Learn how to reprogramme the stories you’ve created in your unconscious mind.
Episode Highlights
[05:51] Angela’s Work around Joy
[07:56] The Difference Between Happiness and Joy
[11:27] Finding Joy in Adversity
[12:52] Caring vs Carrying
[15:03] Tools to Help You Care without Carrying
[19:18] Working on the Programming of Your Mind
[23:21] The Most Common Programmings People Have
[25:18] Coping with Reprogramming Your Defence Mechanism
[28:55] The Danger of Blame
[30:43] The Process of Reprogramming
[39:14] Creating a New Reality
[43:23] Where the Analytical Part Comes in
[49:27] How Long Reprogramming Takes
[53:27] How to Choose Joy over Suffering
Resources
- Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit
- Get a copy of the Overwhelm Buster Toolkit
- The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha
- Collections of Meditations by Joe Dispenza
- Enneagram Personality Profiling Tool
- Connect with Angela on her website, Instagram, or LinkedIn
- Subscribe to The Joy Studio and visit their Facebook page.
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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In this short episode, Rachel talks about becoming more productive in life and work by escaping the urgency trap. She discusses the principles of the Urgent-Important Matrix and how it can help us assess the urgency and importance level tasks. She then shares how to begin doing gradual deep work towards a bigger goal.
If you want to know how to escape the urgency trap and become more productive in life and work, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
1. Learn about the concept of the urgency trap.
2. Identify tasks you should focus on using the Urgent-Important Matrix.
3. Find out the power of doing deep work.
Resources
- Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit
- Deep Work by Cal Newport
- Feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
Episode Highlights
[00:40] On ‘Managing’ Time
[02:13] Urgent-Important Matrix
[03:57] Urgency Trap
[06:27] Navigating the Urgency Trap
[08:57] The Power of Deep Work
[10:41] Doing Deep Work
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In this episode, Jane Gunn joins us once again to share her advice on how you can say no. Most people don’t want to hear rejection. Jane talks about what you can do to avoid triggering others with what you say. Avoid a cycle of conflict by taking your time to respond and not react. She also discusses the many fears you might have as a professional saying no. Learn to set your boundaries and maintain them when you know how to say no.
If you’re worried about how your refusal or rejection might cause conflict, then listen to this episode and learn to say no.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the importance of a clear and thought-out message when you are saying no.
- Learn how you can create a psychologically safe environment where you can say no without fear of judgement.
- Find out what you can do when someone isn’t happy with your refusal.
Episode Highlights
[05:42] Hearing Both Sides
[09:26] Strong Perceptions
[15:18] Problem-solving Process
[20:32] The Principle of Self-Determination
[24:16] Clearly Saying No
[30:37] Standing By Your Values and Virtues
[35:57] Opening Up Conversations
[41:25] Psychologically Safe Environments
[48:09] Responding to Unhappy Reactions
[50:45] Making Asking Easier
[01:01:29] Jane and Rachels’ Top Tips
Resources
- Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit
- Listen to more episodes from the You’re Not A Frog Podcast:
- Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina Scull
- Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. Parkins
- Other You Are Not a Frog episodes with Jane Gunn
- Episode 23: How to Do Conflict Well with Jane Gunn
- Episode 37: How to Manage Conflict During COVID with Jane Gunn
- Episode 96: How to Deal With Difficult Meetings with Jane Gunn
- Regrets of the Dying by Georgina Scull
- Fck It by John Parkin
- Connect with Jane on her website or through her email.
- Learn more about Jane’s 6-week course about mediation
- Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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In this episode, Rachel talks about how you can distinguish the tigers in your life and better understand why we respond to them in the first place. She shares the four common immediate responses and how they often put us in a mindset for bad decisions. Whenever we meet a threat or irritation, we need to step back and ask, "is it a tiger?"
If you would like a quick tip on staying calm in the face of irritations and make better decisions even in the heat of staring down a tiger, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the three types of threats that affect us — and which one is the tiger.
- Learn to distinguish what matters and understand our core boundaries.
- Discover how you can make better decisions independent of your reaction to tigers.
Episode Highlights
[00:28] What are Tigers?
[03:35] The Three Types of Threats
[05:45] How Tigers Affect Us
[07:23] How to Distinguish Tigers
[10:40] Which Tigers Matter?
[11:48] Key Takeaways
Resources
- Listen to more episodes from the You’re Not A Frog Podcast:
- Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. Parkins
- Episode 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life. With John C. Parkin
- Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit
- Feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
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Gerrie Hawes joins us in this episode to discuss the suffocating feeling of being overwhelmed, but also how to deal with it. She shares why it's important to enjoy work and how you can take control of your happiness to do so.
Learn from Gerrie what you can do when you realize you are overwhelmed. She shares how you can create a happier and more optimistic workplace for your team.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want to learn what you can do to feel better, tune in to this episode that’s just for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand why it’s alright to pursue your happiness.
- Follow Gerrie's step-by-step instructions on how you can overcome feeling overwhelmed.
- Learn how optimism can bring about a happier work day.
Episode Highlights
[04:50] Overwhelming Work
[07:02] Letting Yourself Enjoy Work
[10:45] Feeling Overwhelmed
[20:31] The Big Picture: Aiming For Happiness
[28:43] Moving Towards Happiness
[32:17] How You Can Start Becoming Better
[37:14] Delaying and Delegating
[45:24] Recap and Final Tips from Gerrie
Resources
- Feeling overwhelmed right now? Download our Overwhelm Buster Toolkit here.
- Get a copy of the Virtual Fatigue Buster Toolkit
- Feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode
- Connect with Gerrie Hawes on LinkedIn
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Are you facing a challenge at the moment, or feeling like you could do with some guidance when it comes to choosing your direction? Then our final Summer replay is for you. Discover the power of self-coaching, including the framework and questions to guide you on your self-coaching journey.
Episode 117
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- The Self-Coaching Workbook by Dr Karen Castille
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
- YANAF Ep 62: Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen Castille
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Ever feel like everyone around you is a highly-skilled, super competent professional - and you’re just winging it? Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. Listen to today’s replay to find out why calling it “imposter syndrome” isn’t always helpful - and what you can do instead.
Episode 112
Podcast links
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Check Dr Sarah’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:
Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work
Read about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey
Grab a copy of The 6-Minute Success Journal
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Are you feeling frustrated, resentful or fed up with work - but not sure if you want to break up with your career entirely? In this replay, Dr Pauline Morris shares how to cultivate a healthier relationship with your work, starting by understanding what you really want and need from your work.
Episode 91
Podcast links
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Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.
Ten Coping Strategies for Physicians by Dr Pauline Morris
Learn more about Dr Pauline’s programs: Doctors Caring for Doctors
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In the second of our Summer replays, join Corrina Gordon-Barnes to learn how to make better decisions by taking a different perspective; the key to creating more fulfilling relationships; and how to stay in your “Zone of Power” when it comes to the big decisions in life.
Episode 89
Podcast links
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Check Corrina’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:
E32: How to take control of your thoughts with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
The Work of Byron Katie
Stay within your zone of power through the Zone of Power handout.
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We’re kicking off our summer replay series with Dr Richard Pile, and his take on how to reconnect with your meaning and purpose in life. In this conversation, he shares why finding fulfillment can play a critical part in your well-being - and shares a brilliant framework to help you work out your own purpose.
Episode 94
Podcast links
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Books to help you find your purpose:
- Fit For Purpose by Dr Richard Pile
- Drive by Daniel H. Pink
- The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer
Ikigai Tribe
Wellbeing For Real Life Podcast with Dr Richard Pile
Connect with Richard: Twitter | YouTube | Website
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We all know the overwhelm that comes from working in healthcare. But we often overlook the toxic combination that is stress and boredom. This happens when we choose to play it safe and instead ditch things that challenge us.
Growth and development are keys to a thriving and well-lived life. When we enable ourselves to learn and grow, only then can we become happier, more successful, and more fulfilled.
In this episode, Rachel discusses how to address and navigate the toxic combination of stress and boredom in the workplace. She talks about the role of learning in living a self-actualised life. Rachel also shares some recommendations you might find helpful for learning.
If you want to learn how to make learning a habit in your life, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out the consequences of indulging in the toxic combination of stress and boredom.
- Learn ways to fit growth and development into your schedule.
- Discover the impact of prioritising self-development on your well-being.
Episode Highlights
[03:03] The Toxic Combination of Stress and Boredom
[08:17] Throwing Learning Out of the Window
[18:53] #1: Follow Your Interests and Develop Your Strengths
[21:25] #2: Work Out What You Need Right Now
[21:29] #3: Look at Ways of Learning that Also Hit the Five Ways to Well-being
[24:34] #4: Determine How You Learn Best
[27:26] #5: Find Ways to Use Your Right Brain
[32:15] How to Find Time for Learning
Resources
- FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide
- Five ways to mental wellbeing
- Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt
- Effortless by Greg McKeown
- The Shardlake Series by C.J. Samson
- Hilary Mantel’s books
- Martin Seligman: The new era of positive psychology
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Healthcare professionals and people in demanding careers often accept stress as a way of life. However, unchecked stress will someday lead to burnout and create more problems for everyone involved.
Our bold solution to this relentless problem is to start becoming obsessed with relaxation! We all know we need to calm down and relax, but how many of us actually do it?
John C. Parkin joins us today and encourages us to say 'f**k it' more in our lives! Not everything is important, and sometimes we try too hard to live up to society's excessive expectations. John shares how overcoming stress and setting boundaries often results in overthinking and feelings of guilt.
Let’s learn to finally prioritise relaxation in our lives and see how much better we become through it.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover the power of saying ‘f**k it’.
- Learn how to say ‘f**k it’ — even in situations that matter.
- Understand the importance of relaxation and why it should be a daily priority.
Episode Highlights
[05:07] How John Discovered the Power of ‘F**k It’
[09:23] You Can’t Solve Stress with Thinking
[14:14] How to Practise ‘F**k It’
[16:07] How to Say ‘F**k It’ When It’s Hard
[26:22] The First Step of ‘F**k It’
[31:57] The Obstacle to Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Stress
[35:06] How to Start Relaxing
[41:52] How Relaxation Can Help You
[50:08] The Power of Affirmations
[59:13] John’s Top 3 Tips for Relaxation
Resources
- Sign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!
- Find out how to ‘Relax Very Quickly’ for FREE
- You Are Not A Frog Ep 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life with John C. Parkin
- Connect with John: The Fuck It Life | LinkedIn | Twitter | Email
- Fk It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way by John C. Parkin
- All the books in the Fk It series
- Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor: Book | TED Talk
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Have you seen stuff at work that has affected you deeply? Do you sometimes wonder if keeping calm and carrying on as usual is possibly not the best thing to do?
Working on the frontline comes at the expense of many things, physically, mentally, and emotionally. However, this should not be the case. We need to take time and be kind to ourselves in these situations before we could go out and do our jobs.
Dr Caroline Walker joins us again in this episode to discuss how trauma affects healthcare professionals working on the frontline. We talk about some steps we can take to help ourselves and each other process traumatic situations in healthy ways.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out what things cause a trauma response in us.
- Learn the difference between a normal acute trauma stress response and PTSD.
- Discover the three things you should do immediately following any traumatic event.
Episode Highlights
[05:31] The Inherent Trauma in the Field of Healthcare
[10:05] Trauma in the Professional vs Personal Life
[12:08] Normal Trauma Response
[14:58] Coping with Repeated Trauma
[17:15] Recognising Trauma
[21:49] Trauma Processing
[22:56] Normal Stress Response vs Acute Stress Reaction vs PTSD
[24:50] How Trauma Is Treated
[27:01] Other Reactions from Traumatic Events
[28:26] Tips on Dealing with Traumatic Situations at the Time and After
[32:42] The Role of Team Debriefing
[35:04] Connecting with Your Normal Support Network
[38:57] How to Give Yourself Permission to Thrive
[41:06] Caroline’s Top Three Tips for Coping with Trauma
Resources
- Sign up for our Permission to Thrive FREE WEBINAR to learn how to thrive at work, even in a demanding job!
- Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership
- Resilient Team Academy
- Connect with Caroline: The Joyful Doctor | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn
- This is Going to Hurt Series
- This is Going to Hurt by Adam Kay
- 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
- TED Talk: Oliver Burkeman: How to stop fighting against time.
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While taking time away from work, you may realize that your career path is not what you wanted it to be. You might find that many things need to change in order for you to pursue your ideal life. Fortunately, returning to work can be your opportunity to make changes in your life. Have the intention to take the steps to avoid burnout and live out your ideal life.
In this episode, Dr. Katya Miles and Rachel continue their talk about what you can do after returning from a break at work. You might find that with proper planning and intention, your return is just what you need to start making some changes. From self-care to checking in, you can take this opportunity to live your ideal life and career.
If you want to find out more about planning a working life you want, listen to this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how planning and being intentional can keep you on track to your ideal life and career.
- Learn how self-care doesn’t benefit only you, but the people around you as well.
- Discover the opportunities that your time away, and your return, can create for you.
Episode Highlights
[04:58] Planning Ahead
[10:35] What You “Should” Do
[12:43] Self-Care for Others
[16:50] Opportunities In Returning to Work
[20:15] Little Changes
[23:15] Career and Life Check-Ins
[28:25] Incomparable Lives
Resources
- Learn to beat stress and work happier with the Shapes Toolkit. Learn to use the toolkit with your team by joining the Resilient Team Academy.
- Sign up and use the THRIVE Weekly Planner to plan out your ideal working weeks.
- Find out more about Rachel’s business Wild Monday.
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina Scull
- The Summer Day by Mary Oliver
- Connect and learn more about Dr. Katya Miles
- The Working Well Doctor
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When major issues occur in your life, it’s often necessary to take a break and deal with them, and of course there’s also the other reasons we take significant time off work - maternity or parental leave, taking a sabbatical or taking a career break.
Whatever the reason for being off work, being off for a prolonged period can lead to a loss of confidence and anxiety when you are finally able to return, which may cause you to worry that you’re just going to slip back to where you were….
In this episode, the first in our series about ‘What to do after burnout’, Rachel talks with Dr Katya Miles about how to return to work after a long absence and how to thrive again. They explore the fears and doubts people often face and how to overcome them.
You’ll learn Katya’s tips on how to regain confidence and prevent burnout happening all over again.
If you want to find out how to thrive in your work again, this episode is for you!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn the common struggles with returning to work.
- Find out how to overcome these fears and regain your confidence.
- Discover ways to prevent stress and burnout from reoccurring.
Episode Highlights
- [06:43] Issues with Returning to Work
- [10:18] The Benefits of Being Off Work
- [14:14] How to Regain Confidence
- [19:17] What to Do When You’re Back to Work
- [21:41] Sharing Your Situation
- [26:46] Acknowledge Your Skills
- [31:33] Nipping Stress and Burnout in the Bud
- [35:27] How to Avoid and Prevent Burnout
- [42:15] Top Tips for Going Back to Work
Resources
- Shapes Toolkit
- Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy
- More episodes on burnout:
- Ep 25 - The Truth about Burnout
- Ep 64 - What to Do When You're Out of Fuel
- Ep 83 - The Ups and Downs of Being a Man-Frog
- More episodes with Katya:
- Ep 72 - Working well - from anywhere!
- Ep 79 - How to Give Yourself Permission to Thrive
- Connect with Katya: Email | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter
- Join Katya’s Newsletter - Thrive Well News.
- Register for the Burnout Remedy Course
- The Working Well Doctor
- Yerkes-Dodson Stress Response Curve
- SuppoRTT
- Practitioner Health
- Sleep Diplomat
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Many of us spend most of our days within the four walls of our home and workplace. With everything we have to do, it seems challenging to set aside a few minutes out of our indoor spaces. But when you find the time to connect with nature, you might discover new perspectives and insights into your life.
Henri Stevenson joins us to talk about the ways connecting with nature can shift our thinking and open up new solutions. We discuss the differences in our thoughts and feelings when we're in nature versus within artificial walls. She shares her stories of finding metaphors for life situations reflected in nature and what she learned from them. Henri reminds us that sometimes, the solutions to our problems may show up in quiet spaces when we take a few moments to connect with nature.
Curious about how to take time to learn and connect with nature? Learn how and much more when you tune into this episode!
3 Reasons to Listen:
- Find out the importance of taking some time to relax and take your thoughts on a walk.
- Learn to connect with nature in a way that fits your life (even if you only have 5 minutes!).
- Discover different perspectives on your life with the help of nature.
Episode Highlights
- [05:33] How Henri Learned to Connect With Nature
- [08:41] Stepping Out of the House and Office
- [09:48] Bringing Your Thoughts Into Nature
- [14:40] Life Lessons From Nature
- [17:09] The Seasons of Life and Nature
- [19:28] Finding Meanings
- [22:34] Learning in Relaxation
- [25:50] The Outside VS Office Perspective
- [28:45] Where to Connect with Nature
- [31:29] Setting Aside Time for Walk
- [36:54] A Long Retreat Into Nature
- [41:26] Henri’s Final Advice
Resources
- Henri is also running a one-day thinking nature retreat in Hertfordshire this July.
- Join us in connecting with nature during our September Retreat. Reserve your place here.
- Beat stress and work happier with the Shapes Toolkit. Use the toolkit with your team by joining the Resilient Team Academy.
- Find out more about Henri Stevenson on her website
- Wanderful: Human Navigation for a Complex World by David Pearl
- Podcast Street Wisdom by David Pearl
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 15 with John C. Parkin talking about his book, Fk It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way
- Grounded: How Connection With Nature Can Improve Our Mental and Physical Well Being by Dr Ruth Allen
- Birds songs from the RSPB Nature Reserve
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 117 with Dr Claire Kaye on self-coaching
- Green and Blue Spaces and Mental Health, a study by the World Health Organization
- Find walking routes on the Ramblers Association website
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 94 with
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In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Annie Hanekom guides you through how to say no and deal with the inevitable pushback. She shares the importance of language — are you using pain language or power language? We’ll also be discussing how to employ power language to set boundaries and how to use your values to get over the pain of saying no.
If you also struggle with saying no and dealing with pushback, tune in to this episode to know how you can set boundaries, enforce them and make your work life happier!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand why saying ‘no’ is a kindness — even if people are put out by it.
- Discover the difference between pain and power language.
- Learn how to set your boundaries and deal with pushback.
Episode Highlights
- [06:02] The Universal Challenge of Saying No
- [09:52] Benefits of Saying No
- [11:24] Why We Struggle with Saying No
- [16:24] Using the Pause
- [23:47] Practical Prioritisation
- [31:59] The Power of Language
- [40:00] How to Deal with Pushback
- [48:58] Top Tips on How to Say No
Resources
- Sign up for our FREE webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback.
- Resilient Team Academy
- Connect with Annie: LinkedIn | Email
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Change can definitely be scary. However, it doesn’t always have to be a difficult and terrifying experience. Dr Claire Kaye is back on the podcast to talk about change. Whether you dislike change or thrive on it, her insights and enlightening tips will help you make the most of the changes in your life.
Are you undergoing a difficult change right now? Learn more about how to change when change is absolutely scary in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out why your approach to change, whether you hate it or love it, can define your experiences.
- Discover opportunities and gifts from experiencing change.
- Learn how you can persevere through and embrace changes in your life, no matter how impossible it seems.
Episode Highlights
[06:00] How to Approach Change
[07:42] Enforced VS Created Change
[10:45] How to Face Barriers in Change
[14:03] The Process of How to Change
[19:16] Going Through the Five Stages
[22:13] Leading Change
[26:32] Coping With Change: Finding Opportunities
[28:50] The Consequences of Staying Still
[32:25] How to Change: The Starting Line
[47:13] Claire’s Top Tips on How to Change
[49:24] Making Space for Changes
Resources
- Sign up for our free Video training series about how to say no and set boundaries
- Sign up for our free Webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback
- 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do It Well)
- Ep 107: Define Your Own Success In Life
- Ep 71: Create a Career You’ll Love
- Ep 123: How to Live with No Regrets
- Regrets of the Dying: book and podcast by Georgina Scull
- Stages of Grief
- Positive Intelligence (PQ)
- The Iceberg is Melting by John Kotter
- Essentialismand Effortless by Greg McKeown
- Connect with Dr Claire Kaye: Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Website | Email
- Self-coaching toolkit
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Do you truly know what it means to live a life without regrets? Too often, we get stuck chasing dreams that aren't even our own or don't take action to improve our lives because we're hoping for something better.
If you only had a year left to live, would you really be spending it at the office?
Georgina Scull joins us in this episode to talk about what she learned from writing the book, Regrets of the Dying: Stories and Wisdom That Remind Us How to Live. She shares the three common regrets of people dying: not being able to make other people happy, living up to other people’s expectations, and trying to rewrite history. We walk you through practical steps you can use to reflect on your inner desires and live a meaningful life.
If you want to know how to live a life without regrets, stay tuned to this episode.
Episode Highlights
- [05:30] The Story Behind Regrets of the Dying
- [10:04] How Georgina Changed Herself
- [15:33] The Need for Change
- [17:31] Learning from Others
- [22:28] Three Common Regrets
- [28:03] Living for Yourself
- [30:55] Sorting Out Priorities
- [40:04] You’re in Charge
- [46:57] Three Lessons from the Book
- [50:42] Getting Out of a Rut
Resources:C
- Sign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritising, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.
- Connect with Georgina: LinkedIn | Twitter
- Regrets of the Dying by Georgina Scull
- Want to have a taste of the book before purchasing it? Listen to Georgina’s podcast, Regrets of the Dying.
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Joining us to talk about finding happiness in your workplace is Sarah Metcalfe. The founder of Happiness Coffee Consulting shares the importance of being happy at work to reduce workplace stress and perform better. She gives her top tips on simple things you can do to pursue happiness and share it with others. In a high-stress job like medicine, choose happiness and spread it.
If you want to learn more about how and why we should be happy at work, tune in to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Get to know the positive effects of happiness and positivity in the workplace.
- Learn how results and relationships can help you be happy at work.
- Find out how you can be a leader who leads your team with happiness.
Episode Highlights
[05:18] Happiness in Purpose
[08:16] Searching for Happiness at Work
[13:49] The Difference Between Well-being and Happiness
[16:39] Finding Happy Times
[23:00] The Happiness Effect
[29:41] Reflecting Happiness
[35:43] Leading With Happiness
[42:58] Choosing to Be Happy
[49:53] Toxic Bosses
[51:58] Sarah’s Top Three Tips for Happiness in the Workplace
Resources
- Sign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritizing, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.
- More about Shawn Achor
- Professor Jochen Menges Ted Talk on overwork and burnout
- Adam Grant's Ted Talk on languishing
- NHS Trust Study on Happiness and Health Outcomes
- Broaden and Build Theory of Barbara Fredrickson
- The (Un)Happy Planet Index by Nic Marks
- Grab a copy of Sarah’s Happiness at Work Cheat Sheet to create a happier and more successful organisation.
- Contact Sarah on LinkedIn | email
- Learn more about Happy Coffee Consulting on their website
- Sign up and get the You Are Not a Frog downloadable CPD reflection form
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In this episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to discuss the common struggles of working parents and the things we need to unlearn. She shares how to take radical responsibility as a parent and delegate responsibilities from housework to emotional load. We also teach you how to stay in your zone of genius and accept help when you need it. It’s time to live a life you love and enjoy, even amidst all your responsibilities!
If you’re struggling to balance work and parenting, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn how to let go of unhealthy thoughts and behaviours like parenting guilt, rescuer tendencies, and gender normative expectations.
- Discover the importance of delegating housework and the family’s emotional load.
- Understand how staying in your zone of genius can make you happier.
Episode Highlights
[04:55] Introducing Corrina
[07:54] Struggles of Working Parents
[13:04] Differences in Becoming a Parent
[16:03] How to Manage Parenting Guilt
[19:04] Balancing Responsibilities
[26:28] Delegating at Home
[30:42] The Dangers of Being a Rescuer
[35:30] Why You Need to Have a Coach Mindset
[38:35] How to Have an Easier Life as a Working Parent
[40:35] Why It’s Important to Stay in Your Zone of Genius
[45:37] Corrina’s Top 3 Tips
Resources
- Take part in our survey all about saying no.
- Connect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn
- Want to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes:
- Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot
- Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts
- The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Are you sick of spending all day in front of your screen? While it is convenient to conduct online meetings, it can also feel tiring not meeting people face to face. But love them or hate them, online meetings are here to stay. We need to find ways to make them work.
John Monks joins us to discuss designing better online meetings and interactions. We discuss how to create online meetings that energise and infuse rather than demotivate. We also teach you why simple exercises on limits and boundaries in these interactions can improve problem solving and creativity.
If you want to know how to make the most out of online meetings, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn tips for engaging people in online meetings.
- Discover tips and exercises for making every minute of online workshops valuable.
- Understand the future of work meetings.
Episode Highlights
[06:24] Online Meetings as a Norm
[09:06] How John Began Improving Virtual Meetings
[13:19] Recalibrating Curve’s Course about Facilitating Online
[16:14] Different Forms of Online Meetings
[20:19] Tips on Engaging People in Online Meetings
[25:38] The Difficulty in Achieving Equal Participation
[28:29] Making Every Minute Valuable
[31:35] Setting Constraints
[35:41] Failsafe Exercises for Engaging Interactions
[38:27] Exercises for Solving Problems and Issues
[41:46] Meeting Approach and Format
[47:55] Making the Most Out of Breakout Rooms
[52:11] Online versus In-Person
[56:52] Diversity and Inclusivity in an Online Work Setup
[59:53] John's Top Three Tips for Getting Better Online Interactions
Resources
- .PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy for your organisation.
- Curve
- Closer Apart by John Monks and Lizzie Shupak
- Slack
- Social Physics by Alex Pentland
- Download a FREE COPY of Curve’s Remote Workshop Planning Canvas here!
- TED Talk: David Grady: How to save the world (or at least yourself) from bad meetings
- Learn more about Karim Benammar’s works here
- Miro
- MURAL
- Harvard Business Review Podcast
- Connect with John: LinkedIn
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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What do you tend to do when you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts or stress? Most of us want to "fix" negative emotions – but this approach usually makes it worse! Dealing with negative emotions isn't always about fixing them; sometimes, acknowledging and recognising them is enough. Handling your mental health matters isn't always a long, drawn-out process. Our guest for this episode shares how you can start managing negative thoughts and feelings — in as little as 10 minutes!
Dr Lee David joins us to discuss practical tools for managing our negative emotions healthily. She shares the GROW model, which anyone can perform in just 10 minutes. We also talk about how labelling your experience through words and images can help organise your thoughts. Lee also shares how to be actively compassionate towards ourselves. Your mental health matters; working on your mental and emotional health for a few minutes daily can do wonders.
If you want to know how to manage and address your mental health matters, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn why trying to fix negative emotions is counterproductive.
- Discover how to manage your mental health matters in as little as 10 minutes.
- Understand the importance of self-compassion and taking action-based compassion.
Episode Highlights
[05:15] Introducing Dr Lee’s Book
[08:32] How Does Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Work?
[10:49] How to Deal with Negative Thoughts
[15:23] Why You Can’t Fix Negative Thoughts
[21:21] Observe and Label Experiences
[28:04] Recognising Your Wise Self
[35:41] How to Apply the GROW Model
[41:58] How to Help Children
[48:26] How to Be Kind to Yourself
[52:19] Lee’s Top Tips
Resources
- We’re opening our Resilient Team Academy this June. Register here to support your teams for resilience, well-being, and productivity without burning themselves out.
- PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more here.
- 10 Minutes to Better Mental Health by Lee David and Debbie Brewin
- The Chimp Paradox by Dr Steve Peters
- Dare to Lead Podcast with Brené Brown
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
- Connect with Dr Lee: Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Email (lee.david@10minutecbt.co.uk)
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Every workplace has a hierarchy. Whether you are a trainee, a colleague, or a boss (or all three!), the hierarchy can influence everything from everyday working practices to relational dynamics. However, sometimes, it can feel much harder communicating upwards than down. Factors like fear and under-confidence can lead you to speak up less and be more hesitant to discuss issues. But building trust, and putting your voice out there will benefit your team as well as you.
Today, we have two guests on You are Not a Frog: Dr Claire Edwin and Dr Keerthini Muthuswamy. They talk about their experiences working within a hierarchical system as junior doctors and share what they have found to be essential if you want to build trust and foster good relationships with your seniors, your juniors, and your peers.
If you want to know how you can build trust and influence your workplace, and manage upwards and sideways this episode is just for you!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out why a hierarchy can be both a help and a hindrance.
- Overcome the barriers set down by hierarchies to influence your workplace for the better.
- Learn how to approach conversations and which questions you can ask to build trust and good relationships with your colleagues.
Episode Highlights
- [04:56] The Impact of a Title
- [07:08] The Impact of a Hierarchy
- [09:58] The “I’m Just a Trainee” Mentality
- [14:46] Build Trust and Influence
- [18:24] The Real Problem
- [27:46] Asking and Conversing
- [36:21] What Creates Good Working Relationships
- [43:57] Relationships and Influence
- [46:12] Kit and Claire’s Top Three Tips for Managing Horizontally
- [48:01] Rachel’s Top Tips for Managing Upwards and Sideways
Resources
- Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy this June. Find a community of leaders and help your team thrive.
- Check out the Shapes Toolkit for resources that can help you thrive in your workplace.
- You are Not a Frog Episode 102: Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word.
- Learn more about Red Whale Lead, Manage, Thrive! Courses
- Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving Inby Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce Patton
- Influence Without Authority by Allan Cohen and David Bradford
- Learn more about the Cohen and Bradford Influence Model
- Keerthini Muthuswamy: Twitter | email | Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management
- Claire Edwin: Twitter | email | LinkedIn | Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management
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Some problems are a breeze to solve, but others can leave you dithering for ages. Ignore them for too long, and they’ll catch up, but face them without planning, and you won’t progress. However, what you may not realise is that can find the solution within yourself.
In this episode, Rachel talks with Claire Kaye about self-coaching. They explore the framework and questions to guide you on your self-coaching journey. You’ll learn Claire’s tips on gaining confidence, control, and success in every aspect of your life.
If you want to learn how self-coaching can empower you in your life and career and how to do it successfully, this episode is for you!
3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn the right questions to ask yourself when practising self-coaching.
- Discover how to assess your emotions and what to do when you’re stuck.
- Learn how to solve problems with the 3 R’s.
Episode Highlights
- [05:10] Self-Coaching for Career Development
- [08:01] How to Change Your Approach to Work
- [11:18] The Definition of Coaching
- [16:09] Asking Questions and Reflecting
- [27:13] Solving Problems with the 3 R’s
- [30:48] Staying in Your Zone of Power
- [33:34] Silent Coaching Exercise
- [41:29] What to Do When You’re Stuck
- [51:54] Some Resources
- [54:05] Claire’s Top Three Tips
Resources
- Sign up here for a free self-coaching toolkit!
- Connect with Claire: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Twitter
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
- YANAF Ep 62: Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen Castille
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This week, Steve Pratt joins us to discover the benefits of mindfulness. We talk about how mindfulness is used to be able to live happier and less anxious. We also teach you how you can develop mindfulness practices and incorporate them into your life.
Resources
- Sign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leaders
- Listen to a previous episode on mindfulness with Graham Lee
- Try out the Headspace app
- Get the book by Mark Williams Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World
[5:46] Steve’s Experiences
- Steve has been a GP appraiser for 35 years, both as a managing partner and now a mentor for other GPs on the fellowship scheme.
- He spent 25 years teaching evidence-based medicine.
[9:34] How To Be Less Stressed And Burnt Out
- Mindfulness is not just about becoming more resilient, although it is part of resilience courses.
- Tune in to learn more about how to be less stressed or less burnt out in the full episode!
[17:02] The Skill Of Noticing
- The act of noticing the chatter is the work. All you have to do is bring your attention to something specific.
- Mindfulness is noticing that something is happening but choosing to remain direct.
[19:11] Choosing Where To Focus Your Attention
- It’s up to you to choose where to focus your attention.
- Train yourself to recognize what's going on in your body.
[25:59] How Mindfulness Practice Changes Your Behaviour
- Mindfulness gives you the skill to quickly get better information from your body.
- Eventually, you'll react differently to stressful situations.
[35:12] Stress Equals Resources Minus Demands
- Steve believes that we should do things that work and have evidence backing them up.
- Mindfulness practice has strong evidence behind it. It's not "woo-woo".
[42:54] Mindfulness Practice In Daily Living
- You can practice mindfulness at any time, such as when brushing your teeth or while driving to work.
- Instead of taking 20 minutes to scroll through social media, you can spend it in meditation.
- You can try out other mindfulness skills if you don’t develop a formal practice.
- Steve recommends doing a formal MBSR course. For now, listen to the full episode to try out a three-part breathing space!
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Do you ever find yourself questioning whether you’re on the right path? Or maybe you’re struggling to find meaning in what you do? So many of us feel like we are stuck in a neverending climb in our careers. Whenever you get to a point like this, it may be time to re-assess and reprioritise your life.
When faced with unwanted events, go back to your ‘why’ to discover how you can change your circumstance or perspective.
Dr Maddy Du Mont joins us in this episode to discuss how her COVID-19 experience changed her life away from clinical practice. Although difficult at first, her reprioritisation made her feel free and at peace. She shares questions that will help you find clarity on your priorities.
Change doesn’t require a life-changing event, nor does it have to turn your life upside down. It be can just simply changing your mindset and feeling at peace with your decisions.
If you want to know how to find peace and happiness in your life, stay tuned to this episode.
Resources
- Connect with Maddy: Website
- Get in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022
- Learn Brooke Castillo’s Self Coaching Model. You can also learn more by listening to her podcast, The Life Coach School.
- Take these free assessments over at Values in Action. You can also profile your personality with 16 Personalities.
- You can find Brene Brown’s various books here.
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
Episode Highlights
[04:17] How Maddy Coaches People
[06:53] How COVID-19 Affected Maddy
[12:37] How Weakness and Illnesses are Connected
[18:04] We Need to Be Honest With Ourselves
[23:13] What Drives You?
[28:56] How to Prioritise
[32:29] How Priorities Guide Decisions
[36:54] Finding the Truth in Your Story
[38:11] Change Doesn’t Always Require Difficult Events
[42:00] Change Doesn’t Need to be Drastic
[43:35] Maddy’s Tips
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Doctors and healthcare professionals are so busy that they would rather do other things than spend hours working on their appraisals. However, appraisals are a vital part of your medical career. This process allows you to reflect on your past experiences and figure out how to move forward.
Dr Susi Caesar joins us to talk about how you can elevate and enjoy your professional life with annual appraisals. She shares the purpose of appraisals and how they can help you choose the best way forward in your career and personal life. Dr Susi also gives her top tips on what you can do to make this process more meaningful.
If you want to know more about appraisals and how you can benefit from them, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the purpose of appraisals and why you need to take part in it.
- Get tips on how you can make a good appraisal.
- Find out how your appraiser can help you identify problems, solve them and plan for the future.
Resources
- Get a FREE CPD Reflection Form when you sign up!
- Are you a doctor who enjoys teaching, training and coaching? Send a message to hello@youarenotafrog.com to join our team of doctors for our resilience program.
- Find more about appraisals and revalidation with the GMC and NHS
- Register for the RCGP Conference 2022
- Research by Sarah Marwick in 2017 about red flags of doctors in need of support
- Time to Think by Nancy Klein
- Top Tips to Make the Most Out of Your Appraisal by Dr Susi Caesar
- Contact Dr Susi Caesar via email or on LinkedIn
Episode Highlights
[05:55] About Appraisals
[11:45] The Misunderstanding About Appraisals
[14:25] How to be a Critical Friend
[19:46] The Importance of Communication Skills
[24:49] Efficient Documentation
[33:57] Catching Red Flags
[39:52] Burnout Among Doctors
[42:51] Dr Susi’s Tips for a Good Appraisal
[48:55] Choosing Your Appraiser
[51:24] Dr Susi’s Final Tips for the Episode
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Dr Ed Pooley joins us in this episode to discuss what we should do when we see inappropriate behaviour like badmouthing. He shares how we can manage difficult conversations with the intent of helping others. We also discuss the importance of recognising triggers through the SCARF model.
Resources
- Get in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few openings left for Spring 2022
- Learn more about Dr Ed Pooley on the Ten Minute Medicine website and Facebook.
- Join the FB Group about difficult conversations in medicine.
- David Bradford and Carole Robin wrote the book https://connectandrelate.com/, inspired by their legendary Stanford Business School course Interpersonal Dynamics.
- Dive deeper into the SCARF model with The Handbook of NeuroLeadership by Dr David Rock
- Hero on a Mission by Donald Miller.
- Looking for advice on a dilemma? Email us at hello@you'renotafrog.com.
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
Episode Highlights
[04:16] Why Tough Conversations are Tough
- Even if you know what the right thing to do is, it’s often still difficult to manage a tough conversation.
- We often already know what to do but don't know how to do it.
- Reporting these behaviours is inappropriate and rooted in your sense of right or wrong.
[11:41] How to Confront Difficult Conversations
- We make excuses to avoid addressing issues and difficult conversations.
- There’s always a reason for people’s behaviour.
- Remember that it’s not about being right or wrong.
[19:16] Helping Others and Assume Good Intentions
- Assuming the reasons behind people's actions can push them further away.
- Instead of judging people, learn to ask if they’re struggling.
- When you confront someone, don’t assume that their actions are done with ill intent.
[23:41] Recognising the Chimp State
- It’s hard to have difficult conversations when people are in their chimp state.
- Recognise your own responses so you can see them in others too.
- Your actions may trigger other people’s chimp states.
- The SCARF model explains triggers, and stands for status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.
[31:49] Value People’s Autonomy
- Autonomy is related to people’s control over their environment or position.
- Frame your intentions into a request.
- Be neutral, clear, and non-confrontational.
[37:03] Be Fair
- Find out whether your feeling of unfairness is grounded in reality.
- Don't fall into over-generalisation of beliefs.
- Give others autonomy by asking how the situation can be made fairer instead.
[42:25] Dr Ed’s Tips
- Start with connection, then information, and lastly, action.
- Having challenging conversations will make you a better communicator.
- Leadership success is based more on emotional intelligence.
- Be aware of triggers.
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Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. However, downplaying our accomplishments and skills might lead to negative self-talk. That's not to say questioning yourself is completely bad — sometimes it can spur you to improve!
Resources
- Sign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leaders.
- Listen to Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work with Dr Sarah Goulding
- Read about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey
- Know more about Brené Brown
- Connect with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
- Grab a copy of The 6-Minute Success Journal
- Check out Sarah’s website
- Follow Sarah on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.
Episode Highlights
[03:46] The Imposter Syndrome
- Many people today use the phrase 'imposter syndrome' without much thought.
- Impostor syndrome can make you feel like a fraud.
[08:37] Take a Break
- Professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to be harsh on themselves.
[11:03] Imposter Syndrome and Gaslighting
- Find out why someone supposedly has imposter syndrome — it may be a more significant problem than you expect.
- The problem may be systemic.
- Telling someone that they may be experiencing imposter syndrome can be a form of gaslighting.
[13:47] How Self-Doubt Can Help You
- Self-doubt is healthy when you associate it with a growth mindset.
- We are human — expect mistakes. We can, however, grow and change.
[21:14] Spotting Unhelpful Thoughts
- No one has everything figured out.
- Examine your thoughts and decide to be kinder to yourself.
- It's crucial to share your thoughts with others and reflect.
[24:59] Leadership and Vulnerability
- It's helpful for leaders to reveal their vulnerabilities.
- Leave a job when your unique abilities and talents aren't a good fit.
[31:36] The Need For Supervision
- Medical professionals have access to many coaching programs, but rarely use them.
- Coaching programs do not tell you what to do; they encourage you to determine what is most important to you.
[35:45] Self-Compassion
- Imagine yourself speaking to a loved one. Consider what you would say to them if they were in a similar situation.
- You are worthy of self-compassion.
[39:39] Change The Way You Think
- Consider the higher purpose of what you're doing instead of thinking you're not good enough.
- Everyone is capable of improving themselves through training.
- Success also means celebrating small wins.
[44:38] Sarah’s Top Three Tips
- Examine the source of your self-doubt.
- Share your thoughts with others.
- Practice self-compassion.
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Do you find yourself stuck in a pattern of aggressive conversations in certain situations? Do you ever wonder why those conversations trigger you? It can be hard to understand what's happening when we're feeling in what he calls a ‘red state’. Identifying the feeling is the first step in mindfulness practice; we need to recognise our red emotional states to move away from them.
Graham Lee joins us in this episode to discuss our emotional states and apply simple mindfulness techniques to get out of a red state and into a green one. Most conflicts are rooted in unmet needs. When we admit those needs, we can instantly change relationship dynamics! Graham also shares insights on what to do during stressful situations where your emotions cloud your judgement and thinking.
If you want to use mindfulness practice to be more aware of your emotions even during difficult situations, then stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how we can categorise our emotional states to be more effective in our conversations without triggers.
- Learn how to shift from a red state to a green state through mindfulness practices.
- Understand how our secondary and primary emotions relate to unmet needs.
Resources
- Connect with Graham: LinkedIn I The Awareness Partnership
- Looking for relationship therapy? Check out books by Harville Hendrix
- Breakthrough Conversations for Coaches, Consultants, and Leaders by Graham Lee
- Help your team cope better to feel calmer and work happier with https://www.shapestoolkit.com/. We are now open for Summer 2022 and Autumn 2022 bookings! We also have a few slots left for Spring 2022.
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
Episode Highlights
[05:22] Introducing Graham
[10:08] How Can Emotional Awareness Change Conversations
[15:15] Mindfulness Practices Even During Stress
[23:45] How to View Emotions and Our Needs
[29:14] The Importance of Acknowledgement
[32:53] Practical Techniques
[36:03] Be the Observer
[39:11] Observe First Before Anything Else
[44:42] Graham’s Tips
[52:37] What to Do When Someone Else is Red
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Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray join us to discuss how our core beliefs shape the way we respond to situations. When taken too far, empathy and helping people can be a big cause of stress. In addition, we also talk about we can learn to reframe and reassess their core beliefs.
If you want to know how to help people without absorbing their emotions, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the connection between people-pleasing and stress triggers.
- Discover how to care less about what others think, so you can do a better job and feel fulfilled.
- Learn techniques like shadow work and develop a beginner’s mind for a happier life.
Resources
- Connect with Dr Karen: LinkedIn I Twitter
- Connect with Chrissie: LinkedIn I Bell Lane Physiotherapy
- Develop resilience with Resilient Practice! You can also follow them on Facebook and Twitter.
- How to Rise: A Complete Resilience Manual by Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray
- Episode 10: What We're Talking About When We Talk About Compassion Fatigue With Rachel Otzelberger
- Registration for Summer 2022 is now open at the Shapes Toolkit. There are also a few slots left for Spring 2022.
- Get your free THRIVE Weekly Planner!
Episode Highlights
[05:29] What’s Happening in the Healthcare Industry?
[07:42] How Core Beliefs Affect Us
[09:34] What Really Causes Stress
[12:34] How We Develop People Pleasing
[15:42] How to Respond to Complaints
[19:33] Stop Absorbing People’s Emotions
[25:36] How to Turn Empathy to Compassion
[29:24] Link Between Triggers and Shadow Work
[31:57] How to Know What You Need to Work on
[33:54] Develop a Beginner’s Mind
[36:02] How to be Free from Triggers
[42:27] How to Do Inner Work
[45:29] Chrissie and Karen’s Tips
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When was the last time you had fun at work?
Dr Kathryn Owler joins us in this episode to discuss the importance of having a fun mindset at work. She shares her fascinating research on the characteristics and traits of people who enjoy their current jobs. We dissect the common themes these people have in finding success in their careers.
If you want to start adopting the mindset people who have fun at work have, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn what it means to have fun at work.
- Discover the mindset and the things people who have fun at work do.
- Find out how you can attain a ‘lighthearted sense of enjoyment’ in your work life.
Episode Highlights
- [05:07] Kathryn’s early work experience
- [06:55] Feeling Stuck and Unhappy
- [08:51] On Having Fun at Work
- [15:14] Taking Fun into Any Workplace
- [17:27] Secrets to Having Fun at Work
- [20:00] Taking Action
- [22:55] Kathryn’s Definition of Fun
- [24:52] Being in the Flow
- [27:28] The Notions of ‘Joy’ and ‘Fun’
- [29:36] Connection and Fun at Work
- [35:31] Being Successful While Enjoying Yourself
- [38:31] Changing Your Mindset and Taking Action
- [44:11] Kathryn’s Coaching Experience
- [46:52] Kathryn’s Top Three Tips
Resources
- Get in touch and book a slot with us for live programme courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Summer and Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022.
- Connect with Dr Kathryn Owler: LinkedIn | The Happiness at Work Coach
- Get a FREE copy of The Happiness at Work Coach’s The Three Simple Steps to Enjoying Any Job here!
- Get access to the THRIVE Weekly Planner!
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Dr Ed Pooley and Dr Hussain Gandhi join us to discuss critical management skills they wish they had learned at med school. We also talked about how you can develop these practices now.
Resources
- Eisenhower Matrix and Ike App
- Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt
- Dr Ed Pooley’s Ten Minute Medicine website, Facebook and FB Group
- Dr Hussain Gandhi’s Linkedin
- eGPlearning's website, Facebook and Youtube
- THRIVE Planner: https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/thrive-planner
Episode Highlights
[04:25] About Dr Ed and Dr Gandhi
- Dr Ed Pooley is a communications trainer.
- Dr Hussain Gandhi is a GP partner trainer, PCN clinical director, and owner of eGPlearning.
[05:54] What Gandhi Wished He Knew in Med School
- Learn to say no.
- Delegate and prioritize.
[07:56] Ed’s Top Med Career Tips
- Your job doesn’t define who you are.
- Build habits that stick.
[10:02] Why It’s Hard to Say No
- People in healthcare often say yes.
- Saying yes is easier than 'no'.
- You end up putting other people's needs first.
[16:08] How to Say No
- Shift your mindset from ‘you won’t’ to ‘you can’t'.
- When you say no, discuss why and alternative options.
- Give yourself time to think.
[19:32] Learn How to Delegate
- Understand what you need to do and what others can do.
- Group less urgent tasks. Do them all at once.
- Have systems and processes that everyone knows.
[24:28] Lacking The Power to Delegate
- Share with your organization the difficulty to delegate.
- Take control of what you can.
- Sit down and break down the task.
[28:04] Giving Yourself Permission
- The hierarchy can be limiting.
- The medical education system makes it challenging to separate school and work.
- It's crucial to speak up and breach the hierarchy.
[37:12] Ed and Gandhi’s Final Advice
- Argue with a child. Say no without saying the word 'no'.
- Use the Eisenhower Matrix. Ask someone else to do the same and compare lists.
- Ask yourself whether or not what you’re doing contributes to your goals.
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We all have our own take on what success looks like. Throughout our careers, we’ve conditioned ourselves to work extra hard to get to where we want to be, but many professionals who have reached high levels of success seem to be unhappy. Is this really what success looks like?
There is no one definition for success. We’re all different — from our talents and skills down to the priorities we have and the trajectory of our careers. You have the freedom to define success on your own.
In this episode, Dr Claire Kaye joins us to talk about the importance of honesty and clarity in defining our own success. We may think that achieving certain goals will make us happy, but evidence shows us it’s the other way around. It’s only when we’re happy that we can be successful. We also discuss how to overcome common barriers to our happiness and success such as fear, guilt, and uncertainty.
If you want to know how to live a happier and more successful life, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how to redefine success on your own terms
- Find out how you can prioritise your own happiness
- Learn about the common blocks we have around change, and how you can alter your mindset.
Resources
- Connect with Dr Claire Kaye: LinkedIn | Website | Facebook | Instagram
- We are now working with GP fellowship programs, trainers, and groups to help people feel happier! Bookings are now open for Autumn 2022 and a few slots are left for Spring 2022.
- You're Not A Frog Episode 71: Create a Career You’ll Love with Dr Claire Kaye
- You're Not A Frog Episode 88: How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell
- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
- The Happy Secret to Better Work by Shawn Achor
- The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
- Get access to the THRIVE Weekly Planner to design your ideal working week!
Episode Highlights
[04:39] How Does Dr Claire Define Success?
[09:33] Success and Passion
[12:12] Why It’s Important to Find Happiness First
[16:11] It’s Not About the Goal
[23:16] How to Plan Your Success
[28:57] How to Stay on Your Plan
[32:11] Common Blocks Towards Success
[36:27] Change Your Mindset
[37:47] Change is Not Failure
[44:59] What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed
[48:26] Find Clarity
[51:59] Dr Claire’s Top Three Tips
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In this episode of YANAF, we’re talking about worry and anxiety, particularly rational worry and anxiety. You know the phrases, don’t worry, it’ll probably never happen, or ‘It’s not like anyone’s going to die!’ – well what do we do when bad things may well happen, or people’s lives and livelihoods are genuinely at risk? How do we stop ourselves from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety then?
To explore this, we’re joined by Psychiatrist and therapist Dr. Caroline Walker to talk about how to stop ourselves from feeling overwhelmed with worry even in the midst of worrying times. Even though we might not be able to control what’s going on in the world, or even just our families or workplaces right now, one thing we do have more control over is how we deal with ourselves when we start feeling anxious or dwelling on unhelpful thoughts (even if they may be very rational). We can also stay focused on the present where everything is OK now.
We talk about how worry can be helpful when it spurs us into action but when it’s overplayed can cause us distress and actually make the bad things MORE likely to happen as we can’t think straight or perform as well when we are in our sympathetic fight flight or freeze zones. We share some simple techniques you can use to reduce your anxiety which you can use anywhere EVEN in difficult times.
So listen to this episode if you want to find out:
- Why do we need to be ‘more gazelle’
- Which emotions your anxiety may be masking and why this matters AND
- How to get yourself out of the vicious cycle of rumination and worry
Resources
- Permission to Thrive Membership
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 15: Eff-It Living with John C. Parkin
- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
- The Joyful Doctor
- Caroline Walker’s email
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In this episode, Dr Giles P. Croft joins us to discuss how stress starts with our thoughts and emotions. He talks about how the mind works and its tendency to create narratives and predictions that stress us out. We also delve into the importance of allowing ourselves to calm down and letting go of the things we can’t control.
Episode Highlights
[05:20] Past YANAF Episodes with Giles
[06:46] Where Does Stress Start?
[14:00] How People Work the Same Way
[18:58] What to Do About Valid Fears and Thoughts
[24:35] Our Default State
[28:44] How to Calm Down
[32:03] Context Changes Our Thoughts
[35:31] What Thoughts Do We Ignore or Listen to?
[42:13] Stress Less
[52:34] Practical Tips from Giles
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Podcast Links
- Sign up for our FREE webinar on Learn how to thrive at work, even in a demanding job on January 19, 2022 at 8 PM UK time!
- YANAF Ep 46: Default to Happy
- YANAF Ep 55: The One About Alcohol
- Sign up for our FREE Permission to Thrive webinar!
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
- The Master and His Emissary by Iain McGilchrist
- Psychology Has It Backwards Podcast
- Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky
- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
- Learn how to stress less with Giles’ free 4-step process!
- Connect with Giles: Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | Youtube | Twitter
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Holidays and celebrations often come with their own set of obstacles and difficulties. Our idea of a perfect holiday never happens because our own assumptions and unrealistic expectations get in the way and lead to an environment filled with conflict.
In this special Christmas episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes shows us the groundwork for setting a peaceful and successful holiday season while navigating difficult relationships with relatives or colleagues.
She guides us through taking off the expectation of a perfect holiday with our family and facing reality in ourselves and others. Corrina talks about the ways you can act within your zone of power to resolve conflict. She also walks us through what we can do during difficult gatherings and how to shift routine actions to create different outcomes.
It’s the season for countless gatherings and reunions. Tune in to improve your strained relationships with relatives and co-workers through empathy and letting go of past assumptions.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn how to make people meet your wants and needs without resorting to manipulation.
- Discover how to reframe your assumptions and biases about yourself and other people.
- Find out how to recognise when you’re being difficult and what you can do to resolve the conflict.
Resources
- Check out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
- Get in touch by sending an email: hello@youarenotafrog.com
- Connect with Corrina Gordon-Barnes: Website | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn
- Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy by Mo Gawdat: Amazon | Website
- Check out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors
- Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks, and workshops
- Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group:
- Rachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/
- Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorris
- Rachel’s email: rachel@wildmonday.co.uk
Episode Highlights
[05:42] Corrina’s Background
[07:18] Celebrating the Holiday with Difficult Family Members
[09:54] Facing Reality Without Lowering Your Expectations
[13:57] Dealing with Teenagers and Tablets over Christmas
[16:01] How to De-escalate Uncomfortable Conversations
[19:31] What to Do When Their Answer Is No
[21:21] How to Keep Your Boundaries
[23:34] Expecting the Pushback and Having Empathy Without Being Patronising
[29:10] Dealing with Difficult Work Relationships
[37:54] Confirmation Bias in Relatives and Work Colleagues
[39:35] Approach Others by Letting Go of the Past
[42:33] What You Need to Do If You’re the Difficult Person
[46:37] Live with Your Experience of Yourself and Making Allowances
[51:09] Shift the Dance and Change Your Perspective
[52:18] Tips to Deal with Difficult Relatives and Colleagues
[53:06] Rachel’s Takeaways
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We’ve got a lot to handle in the medical field — irate patients, pressure to succeed, and who knows what else? But sometimes, the problem is the system itself. We can’t allow ourselves to grow comfortable in a toxic environment. Look around and see where you can create a change for the better.
In this episode, Dr Abdullah Albeyatti talks about improving your life and career by making changes and taking risks. He also explains why settling for what is familiar could be slowly ruining your life and how you can avoid this situation. Finally, he shares his top three tips to become a changemaker in your field.
If you want to start doing things to create a change and take more risks, then this episode is for you!
3 Reasons to Listen to This Episode
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Learn when you need to stay or leave your chosen career
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Discover why taking risks can make you happier
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Uncover Dr Abdullah’s top three tips to create a change
Resources
- Permission to Thrive CPD membership
- Connect with Dr Abdullah - LinkedIn | Instagram
- Medicalchain and myclinic.com
- Our Iceberg is Melting by Dr John Kotter and Holger Rathgeber
- Download the Thrive Week Planner
Episode Highlights
[6:20] How Abdullah Overcomes Challenges
[7:42] The Biggest Barriers
[9:59] Why People Hate Change
[12:16] The Feeling of Failing
[16:33] Try and Realise
[19:48] Bringing in the Lean-Agile Mindset to Doctors
[24:18] On Limitations and Failure
[28:25] How Abdullah Maintains His Tenacity
[30:34] Knowing What Battles to Pick
[33:06] On Where to Start
[39:48] Enjoy the Journey
[47:36] Pursue What You Love
[49:10] Three Tips to Create a Change
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In today’s high-stress work environment, you may feel like a frog in boiling water. The pan has heated up so slowly that you didn’t notice the feeling of stress and overwhelm becoming the norm. You may feel that it is impossible to survive AND thrive in your work.
Frogs generally have only two options — stay and be boiled alive or jump out of the pan. Fortunately, you are not a frog. You have many more options, choices, and control than you think.
Learn to master your destiny and create a change so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!
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Drs Claire Edwin, Sally Ross, and Taj Hassan join us to discuss how we can manage and deal with our failures more effectively. We explore the idea that rather than doing something wrong, failure is an opportunity to really grow and learn both as individuals, as leaders and as organisations. In any situation, it’s important to remember that we’re all human. It’s okay to be honest with ourselves and each other about our mistakes - after all, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness.
If you want to know how to change your mindset around failure, stay tuned to this episode.
**Episode Highlights
[04:49] About our Guests**
- Dr Claire Edwin works at the National Medical Director Clinical Fellows and NHS England in the faculty of medical leadership and management.
- Dr Taj, a previous president of the Royal College of Emergency Medicine, is currently involved in international work in Pakistan.
- Dr Sally Ross has extensive experience in military and various leadership training events.
[07:20] What are Micro Failures?
- Micro failures are often small things you miss that you think don’t have a consequence.
- No one can operate perfectly all the time.
[10:16] How Sally Views Failure
- When things go wrong, embrace it as an opportunity to learn.
- Sally shares that her military training helped her develop the trait of failing fast.
[12:40] High Expectations and Failure for Medical Professionals
- There are higher expectations and demands for medical professionals.
- It’s okay to not be perfect all the time.
[15:33] How Leaders Should Handle Mistakes
- Basic errors come in different forms that usually arise in the heat of the moment.
- Failure to build consensus, communicate, and engage could ripple down to more serious errors.
[21:45] Importance of Honesty, Trust, and Consistency
- As a leader, understanding how mistakes were made in forming a conclusion is important.
- Being honest about your failures isn’t about talking about them everyday.
[24:35] Why We Judge Ourselves Based on Our Failures
- Being a perfectionist can make our judgements harsher.
- Due to underfunding, medical practitioners are pushed to explain why their patients need to wait.
[29:35] Toxic Trio Leading to Failure
- Failures are often brought about by lack of prioritisation, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.
[31:12] The Danger of People-Pleasing
- Sally addressed an issue at her workplace that might have painted her as a ‘bad guy’.
[34:17] Cultivating Healthy Work Cultures
- Taj practises zero tolerance for people being rude to his staff members.
- Being upfront to impolite patients is his way to avoid any escalation.
[37:52] Facilitating Learning from Failure
- When people fail, they should have the chance to express it.
Resources
- Learn more about ENLIGHTENme which aims to build a strategy to support an emergency care strategy and leadership development for low resource countries
- Connect with Dr Claire: Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management
- Connect with Dr Sally: Spire Healthcare | Wessex Facilitation
- Connect with Dr Taj: Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management.
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Sheela Hobden joins us to discuss how we can harness the power of checklists to create a routine! When people fail to reach their goals, they often just stop trying or feel a lot of shame. Be realistic and learn to encourage yourself by taking on a range of targets instead of one. Sheela also recommends creating identity-based goals to ensure that you keep building your new identity even after completing certain milestones. Start small, and eventually, you’ll see these good habits stick!
If you want to know how to create helpful habits to change your life, stay tuned to this episode.
Episode Highlights
[04:31] Why Routine is Important
- Our brain loves routine because of its certainty.
- The model notes that when our routines change, there will be a threat response.
[08:24] Free Your Mind with Checklists
- Don’t underestimate checklists.
- Your brain can think of a few things all at the same time.
[13:54] Build a Habit through Routines
- The more you practice your routine, the more it becomes a habit.
- Anchor a new habit on something else you’re already doing.
[20:00] Don’t Underestimate Small Changes
- Create significant changes in your life with small changes every day.
- Create a range of targets instead of just one goal.
[23:14] Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Routine?
- Remember that the things you choose to do are ingrained in what you want in life.
- Simple actions can lead to contentment and happiness.
[26:46] Time, Generosity, and Purpose
- When you keep yourself too open to choices, you can become paralysed.
- Be kind to your future self and plan the best choices for them.
[32:34] Create Good Routines at Work
- Emails and notifications are common distractions at work.
- Don’t tackle a challenging task when you don’t have the energy for it.
[37:42] The How and Why Behind Tasks
- Working out the hows of a task helps you identify ways to make it easier.
Resources
- Connect with Sheela: Bluegreen Coaching I Facebook I Twitter I Youtube I LinkedIn I Email
- You’re Not a Frog Podcast Episode 45: Rest. The Final Frontier with Sheela Hobden
- Mood Meter
- Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt
- You can also check out Michael Hyatt’s free course here!
- Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg PhD
- Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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Dr Nik Kendrew unravels why we experience overwhelming guilt when bad things happen to us. He also shares some tips, techniques, and resources to cope with difficult times and circumstances. Apart from this, Nik talks about the significance of scheduling our entire day to do important things. Finally, he discusses why setting boundaries is necessary to maintain our sense of self.
If you want to learn how to stop feeling guilty when uncontrollable things happen to you, then stay tuned to this episode!
Episode Highlights
[6:10] About the Boggle Docs
- Nik hosts the Boggle Docs. He gets to invite guests and talk about popular TV shows or movies portraying medical issues.
[9:43] Dr Nik, the 100th Episode’s Guest
- Nik was invited over for the 100th episode because he was the podcast's first guest.
[13:16] Nik’s Heart Problem
- On his way to work, Nik suddenly had difficulty in breathing and experienced terrible chest pain. A paramedic immediately came to his aid and found he was experiencing Atrial Fibrillation.
[16:56] After the Incident
- Nik just felt awful for letting people down even though they told him to rest.
- Guilt means feeling sorry for something we did or did not do.
[18:31] The Feeling of Guilt Among Doctors
- Nik felt guilty for things he could control.
- What you feel during stressful situations is a normal physiological response.
[19:41] Give Yourself a Break
- If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to do, you feel responsible for the people who are left to pick up the pieces.
[20:51] Gaslighting in Health Care Service
- The health care service is already on its knees before the pandemic.
- When COVID-19 happened, primary care had to change drastically.
[23:43] How To Cope With Stress and Pressure
- When times are tough, it helps to take it one step at a time and keep going.
[27:03] Why Stay In the Present
- Staying in the present teaches that there is calm within you.
[29:04] Substitute Stress for Happiness
- Others say they’ll only be happy if they get to complete their goals.
- However, there will always be something in our lives that will be unfinished.
[29:55] Why Achieving Your Goals Would Not Make You Happy
- We are preparing ourselves for failure by setting unachievable goals.
[34:08] Focus On What’s Important
- When you block off time to do something, it takes away stress because you know there’s a plan.
[39:27] Set Your Boundaries
- When you are in stressful situations, focus on things you can change.
- Listen to your body. It will enforce its limits.
Resources
- Check out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors.
- Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks and workshops.
- Sign up here for more free resources.
- Join the Shapes Collective FB group.
- Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy!
- Are you interested in joining our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!
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Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits.
If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.
Episode Highlights
[04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the Pandemic
- There was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.
[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVID
- Dr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.
[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility
[13:03] Setting Boundaries around Responsibilities
- We need to make peace with our limits.
[17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ing
- We often take criticism personally because it targets our deepest insecurities.
[20:26] Hippocratic Oath Shaming
- Overdoing your duties circles back to the saviour-rescuer.
[22:29] Our Core Self-Beliefs
- Awareness allows us to introspect about the roots and rationale behind our self-beliefs.
[25:29] Being in the Victim Mode
- We often try to control too much of what we can’t control.
[27:08] On the Dangers of Resilience
- Resilience training is about learning what you can do for yourself.
[28:21] Getting Out of the Victim Mentality
- We always have a choice, but every choice has unique consequences.
[31:00] On Self-Sabotage
- Stay in your zone of power and leave the rest of the things you have no control over.
[33:23] Tips on Saying ‘No’
- Give yourself a pause before deciding to say 'Yes' to something.
[37:09] Say ‘No’ to the Task, Not the Person
- Set a boundary, but remain connected by saying ‘Yes’ to the person.
[38:19] What Leaders Could Have Done Differently
- Tell teams that it’s okay to set boundaries and to look after themselves.
[42:38] Having a Sense of Pace and Balance
- Recognise that the journey is a marathon, not a sprint.
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Dr Naren Senthil Nathan joins us to talk about what makes it hard for people to talk about their feelings. He shares that the first step is acknowledging your problems and knowing that there is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you know people who are struggling, remember that they need to feel comfortable with talking about their struggles first.
Episode Highlights
[04:52] The State of Mental Health Today
- Mental health is not widely discussed and is still considered taboo in many cultures.
[08:12] Why People Find it Hard to Ask for Help
- Many people are not taught to express and talk to people about their feelings.
[10:01] What Happens When People Suppress Their Issues
- Suppression of issues can affect relationships and lead to unsafe practices at work.
[12:54] Gender Differences When Asking for Help
- Unfortunately, many men today are not open and don’t talk about their problems and mental health matters.
[17:49] Why Men are More Vulnerable
- Men don’t open up because of pride and fear.
[23:52] How to Practice Vulnerability
- Opening up to others can lead to reciprocity and form tribes, where you support each other.
[29:08] How to Help Others
- Keep engaging with others and let them know it’s okay to talk.
[33:31] Signs to Look Out For
- Learning to spot signs of distress starts with knowing people’s baseline behaviours.
[36:31] How to Help Others With Mental Health Matters Outside of Professional Help
- Create safe environments for them to feel comfortable about sharing feelings.
[39:13] Naren’s Top Three Tips For Encouraging Vulnerability
- Acknowledge that you have an issue, and do not beat yourself up about it.
- Remember that it’s okay to ask for help.
- Learn to open up with others about your feelings.
[40:07] Where to Get Help
- Loads of services are available for free in the UK. For example, GP-S is a free service by GPs for GPs.
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Dr Joanna Bircher talks about essential leadership skills and the impact of our personalities, motivations, and strengths on our teams. She explains why you need to act like a leader even if you think you are not one, and gives brilliant advice on becoming more self-aware.
Episode Highlights
[05:54] You Are a Leader, Even if You Don’t Think You Are
- Even if you're a trainee in a company, you have an impact on your team.
[08:56] Joanna’s Leadership Journey
- Leadership is not about knowing everything. It’s about exploring new ideas together with your team.
- A leader listens, collaborates, and makes good decisions.
[14:00] How to Recognise Collaboration
- As a leader, it is your job to bring out others' opinions during discussions.
[15:21] How to Develop Self-Awareness
- You can build a much better team if you focus on your strengths and those of your members.
- We must develop our strengths rather than our weaknesses.
[22:26] Finding Your Strengths
- Being self-aware means that you recognise the good and bad effects of your strengths.
- Remember that the brighter you shine, the more shadow you cast.
[26:41] The Dilemma of Hierarchy
- No matter what kind of leader you are, power imbalance will always be there.
- When people are silent in meetings, the problem is often with your method, not with the people in the room.
[35:51] The Importance of Knowing Your Team’s Personality Profile
- Your team’s strengths and motivations affect their job satisfaction and joy in work.
[38:41] Developing Active Listening
- Real listening isn’t just about waiting for your turn to talk.
[40:58] Being Genuinely Curious
- It’s better if you actively engage with people and help them come up with an answer on their own.
[42:35] Joanna’s Top 3 Tips to Be a Better Leader
- Genuinely believe that you're not the person with the best idea.
- Learn how to listen and continue to practise it.
- Everybody in the room with you has their own ideas.
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In this episode, we hear from the expert in conflict management and mediation, Jane Gunn. She discusses important tips to keep in mind in order to host great meetings. Jane also shares some practical conflict management tips and how to make decisions that you and your team agree on.
Episode Highlights
[04:14] Why You Avoid Conflict
- You may be afraid of your emotions or unconfident to navigate difficult conversations.
[05:26] The Skill of Conflict Management
- There are four ways to deal with conflict: fight, flight, freeze, or appease.
[08:03] Conflict Management Within Teams
- Conflict is necessary. Some teams have too much, whereas others have too little.
[09:46] The Power of Resolution Rethinking in Conflict Management
- Nemawashi is a process of digging deep into issues to determine their impact on all sides.
[12:22] The Importance of Consultations in Conflict Management
- Consulting in conflict management others allows people to feel heard.
[15:51] Uncovering Concerns
- A concern can be addressed during the meeting or through a personal follow-up with the concerned individual.
[17:04] Framing a Meeting
- Set rules and expectations for the flow of the meeting.
[18:44] The Elephant in the Room
- An anonymous poll can help people overcome the fear of speaking up.
[23:30] Uncovering Conflict and Conflict Management in a Meeting
- Be clear on your criteria for making decisions within your team to avoid others from deciding based on their own viewpoint.
[26:52] What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You
- Intuitive feelings serve to remind you to take the time to think rather than rushing a decision.
[32:21] Hosting a Meeting Like a Dinner Party
- Try to make it both fun and functional.
[38:44] Your Role as a Participant in Meetings and Conflict Management
- As a participant, you can use this structure: listen, don’t interrupt, and reflect back.
[45:04] Our Responsibility as Professionals
- We have a responsibility to run effective meetings.
[46:30] Top Three Tips for Making Meetings Better
- Think about the meeting as a dinner party, make the meeting fun and functional, and find ways to let everybody have a voice and participate.
[47:29] The Power of Resolutionary Thinking
- The course focuses on creating a better understanding of how we can manage change, crisis and conflict.
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Annie Hanekom joins us to share the three important conversations you need to have — with yourself and with others — to help you get unstuck. We discuss the importance of having meaningful conversations and the weight it carries on your mindset and wellbeing.
Episode Highlights
[03:23] The Importance of Meaningful Conversations
- The conversation is the relationship and thus carries a lot of weight.
[06:43] What People Are Going Through Now
- There seems to be a lag in people’s behaviours because of exhaustion.
- Physical fatigue can be fixed by rest, whereas depletion needs social connection.
[11:56] What’s In Your Control?
- If you start focusing on the things you can control, that zone of power grows and helps you feel empowered.
[18:41] The Power of Focusing on What You Can Control
- Focus on what you can really control and trust in the process.
[20:26] Where Is Your Focus?
- Are the things you’re focusing on driving you towards the things that really matter?
[23:34] The Danger of Being Addicted to Busyness
- Being busy does make people feel good about themselves, but only temporarily.
- It could easily lead to burnout and severe fatigue.
[28:23] Focusing on the Long-Term
- How you achieve things might look different if you focus on your zone of power.
[31:13] Thinking Partnerships
- Thinking partnerships is where you have meaningful conversations with a partner.
- These allow you to uncover a sustainable, useful solution to your conundrum.
[36:10] What Story Are You Telling?
- By starting conversations with ‘The story I’m telling myself…’, you begin to address the fact that the story may not be true.
[40:52] Determining Your Intentions
- Dig deeper into your intentions and reflect on what you want to achieve in your conversation.
[44:09] Annie’s Three Top Tips
- Pause and catch yourself.
- Pay attention to your intentions.
- Focus on the long-term possibilities.
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Dr Richard Pile and Rachel do a deep dive into what it means to have a meaningful, purpose-driven life. We also explore the concept of ikigai and how you can use this to determine your purpose, so that you can enjoy your work more and ultimately unlock your potential to live life to its fullest.
Episode Highlights
[05:51] Is Purpose a Given for Doctors?
- Everyone, including doctors, can benefit from thinking about their reason for being.
- When your purpose is tied to your job, your profession can become all-consuming.
[10:04] Defining Purpose
- Purpose has layers, including your values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and what matters to you.
[12:35] The Consequences of Lack of Purpose
- Not contemplating your meaning and purpose can affect your health and wellbeing.
[16:00] Are Meaningful Relationships Part of Your Purpose?
- Only focusing inward hampers you from unlocking your full potential.
- Purpose alone isn’t good enough; you need to have balance.
[19:06] The Current GP Situation
- General practice has never been busier than it is now.
- The best thing a GP can do to care for their patients is to first take care of themselves.
[21:03] How to Avoid Overwhelm
- Reflect on the balance in your life and make sure it's sustainable for years to come.
[22:29] Reconnecting with Your Meaning and Purpose through Ikigai
- ‘Ikigai’ is a Japanese term meaning reason for being.
- It looks at purpose as the intersection of four circles: what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs.
[29:43] Give Yourself Time
- The starting point in finding your purpose is giving yourself time to think about it.
[36:08] Exploring Ikigai
- The Japanese conceptualisation of ikigai doesn’t focus much on career.
- If you’ve got a purpose and meaning, you’re better able to cope with life's struggles.
[38:43] Spirituality and Space
- Fragmenting our physical, mental, and spiritual aspects always ends badly.
[44:24] Richard’s Top Three Tips
- Give yourself time to take stock.
- Reflect on the ikigai concept.
- Determine your next steps after reflecting.
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Anna Dearmon Kornick teaches us strategies for managing time and determining when to delegate. She also explains why time management is heart management. When you get clear on your vision, goals, and values, you can do more of what matters to you.
Episode Highlights
[08:48] How to Have More Control in Your Day
- Mentally walking through your day allows you to anticipate problems in advance and come up with solutions.
- When you know your schedule, you can also give your breaks a purpose.
[13:02] How to Manage Admin Time
- The most effective meetings have agendas and a step-by-step flow.
[15:26] Creating an Agenda Checklist for Admin Time
- Creating the sequence of tasks in your agenda mostly depends on personal preference.
- One thing that might help is the time management technique called ‘Eat that frog,’ where you start your day by doing the toughest or most important task.
- You can also try the 15-minute rule.
[19:03] Set Expectations with Your Agenda
- Set expectations with others who may want to steal your attention during admin time.
- Admin time needs to be protected to serve its purpose.
[20:54] Combating Distractions
- We have been conditioned to respond anytime someone reaches out.
- To combat this, have a notepad to write down the ‘shiny things’ that derail your focus.
[24:37] The Importance of Delegation
- Understand the process required to complete a task and give the person what they need to succeed.
- The best way to delegate is to capture the steps into a workflow.
[28:58] Creating a Workflow
- Use language that the person you delegated will understand.
- Make sure there are no gaps and room for assumptions.
[32:23] Learning Period in Delegation
- Mistakes will be made when you delegate.
- Think of the worst thing that could happen in your workflow. Then, come up with a safety net for the person to take on the task.
[34:43] Delegating Outside Work
- What home and personal activities you can outsource to get your time back?
[39:13] Determining What to Keep and What to Delegate
- Zero in the activities falling in your zone of genius.
[43:40] Spending More Time in Your Zone of Genius
- Think hard about what things you should be delegating.
- This passion and proficiency lens opens up awareness about how you spend and how you want to spend your time.
[45:52] Top Three Tips
- Create a vision for the future and the life you want.
- Set goals.
- Articulate core values.
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In this episode, Dr Caraline Wright and Dr Lizzie Sweeting discuss the second victim phenomenon. They explain why patient safety incidents are occupational hazards and how they can affect healthcare providers. Finally, they share tips on how to avoid second victimhood and how to provide support.
Episode Highlights
[04:31] What is a Second Victim?
- A second victim is a healthcare provider who becomes traumatised due to an unanticipated adverse patient event.
[05:33] How Patient Safety Relates to Second Victimhood
- Up to 50% of healthcare system staff can be second victims.
- They can experience a range of effects, from acute stress to suicidal ideation.
[06:59] Determining Second Victimhood
- The shame and guilt from a patient safety incident differ from the distress and fatigue from normal workplace pressures.
[10:17] Caraline’s Experience with Second Victimhood
- She oversaw a man with a long history of depression and alcoholism.
- He got better, so she reduced the frequency of his appointments.
- Shortly after, he patient committed suicide.
- Over the next 6-12 months, she struggled with trauma, avoidance, guilt, and anxiety.
[14:37] Post-Second Victimhood
- Second victims tend to shift to a defensive practice or leave the career altogether.
- Shame also hinders them from sharing their experience.
[21:52] How to React to Patient Safety Incidents
- Know that patient safety incidents are occupational hazards.
- Organisations must provide quick and appropriate responses.
[28:44] How to Support Second Victims
- Listen with fascination. Just let them talk and explain, even if you’ve not felt like that yourself.
- Let them know that lots of people feel the same way.
[34:06] Lizzie and Caraline’s Message About Second Victimhood
- Don’t be afraid to share your story, as it can be valuable to others.
- Having one another to talk things through can be helpful.
[35:59] The Impact of COVID-19 on Second Victimhood
- Working remotely has caused us to become removed from one another, as we can’t create connections as well.
- However, with effort, we can still create spaces online.
[38:07] Caraline and Lizzie’s Top Three Tips
- Know that second victimhood exists.
- Have a support system.
- Be kind to yourself and your colleagues.
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In this episode, Dr Pauline Morris shares common pitfalls that create unsustainable work habits. She also explains why staying in your comfort zone can be detrimental to your performance. Finally, we learn about self-care.
Episode Highlights
[02:55] Top Career Concerns From Doctors
- Many doctors think that they aren't in a work environment conducive to growth.
- Others are starting to rethink their careers in medicine.
[05:32] Career Counselling in Medicine
- Most physicians are told to separate their personal lives from their professional ones.
- This mindset pushes people to ignore their preferences and personality traits when choosing career paths.
[09:53] Problems with Work-Life Balance
- Doctors tend to have altruistic personalities and adopt a "patient first" perspective.
[14:12] Three Common Issues
- Many doctors don't know what makes them happy and motivated to work.
- They tend to be perfectionists.
- The medical community looks down on career path changes.
[17:53] Staying in Your Comfort Zone
- Doctors usually prefer to stay in their comfort zones because they know the expectations.
- They are also concerned with the comfort of their loved ones and the people around them.
[21:28] Don’t Be a Passenger in Your Own Life
- You can change your circumstances, with deliberate action.
[25:09] Career Counselling Tip: Introspect
- What do you enjoy? What are your strengths and values?
[31:15] Career Counselling Tip: Cut Back on Perfectionism
- You can't do everything perfectly; you don’t need to.
[36:01] Career Counselling Advice on Working with Your Strengths
- Get the perspective of other people to help you understand yourself.
- A career counsellor can improve your career satisfaction.
[40:59] Diversifying Your Career
- Understand why you diversify.
[44:55] Pauline's Top Three Tips
- Know yourself, invest in yourself, and take time to align who you are and what you want to do.
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This week, Dr Edward Pooley teaches us how to respond when colleagues make inappropriate comments about others. He gives us concrete steps to prepare ourselves to speak up when the situation requires.
Episode Highlights
[05:05] Finding Yourself in an Uncomfortable Conversation
- These conversations usually fall under three categories.
- The first two are more permissible, while the third is more serious.
[09:01] Letting Off Stream vs Something More Serious
- If it’s the latter, advise them carefully to have a word with the person in question.
- If the line jumps to criticism on protected characteristics, speak up firmly.
[12:17] Speak Up Using Ed’s Four-Step Confrontation Process
- Ed’s stepwise approach allows you to avoid triggering shame and defensiveness when you speak up.
[14:35] Hearing Someone Complain About Another Person
- Encourage them to think about the person in question’s point of view.
[18:02] The Consequences of Constant Backbiting in the Workplace
- You’ll assume that when you make a mistake, others will talk about you too.
[20:44] When It’s Just Flat Out Bitching
- Think about whether there will be a negative outcome if this communication persists.
- If what they’re doing has a direct impact on your work environment, speak up.
[24:17] Encouraging a Negative Colleague
- Ask yourself: Are they able to do their responsibilities with their viewpoint?
- It’s about engaging that person to do what they need to do because it’s valuable to them.
[29:20] The Importance of a Critic
- Some people see all the possible flaws and pitfalls of an idea.
- This trait isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
- Critical people lend organisations a different perspective.
[31:57] Some Strategies to Help You Speak Up
- Have a series and sequence of phrases you can go to.
- Make your presence known.
- Ask them to clarify what they mean.
[35:13] Thinking It’s Not Your Place to Speak Up
- It’s your place to speak up.
- If you don’t, you can get implicated when the subject files a formal complaint.
[38:58] Some Helpful Resources and Ed’s One Great Tip
- The first thing you need to do is to speak up. How you’re going to say it can come later.
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Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to share how to better relationships and take control and stay in your zone of power. She explains how to make a good decision by questioning your thoughts and assumptions.
Highlights
[04:42] Corrina’s Coaching Journey
- For 16 years, Corrina has been coaching and helping people find what they wanted to do.
- Our amygdala doesn’t just function as a threat detection system; it also seeks connection and belonging.
- Because we want to fit in, we sometimes do things we don’t want to do or stay in toxic relationships.
[09:07] How to Better Relationships
- First, be compassionate with anybody caught in the dilemma of choosing between staying or leaving.
- Corrina also discourages asking others about their opinion.
- Instead of listing pros and cons, list down all your judgments or complaints about the thing you're thinking of leaving. Then, make another list of all of your fears about leaving.
[18:53] Staying in Your Zone of Power
- Rather than denying reality, it's more empowering to accept it as it is and to focus on what you can control.
- What's in your zone of power often takes vulnerability and courage.
[24:00] Questioning Thoughts
- First, have compassion for your predicament. Then list your reasons, complaints and fears about the situation.
- With more varying evidence, you would understand your problem from a more multidimensional perspective and learn how to better relationships.
[29:22] About Acceptance and Why People Stay
- People tend to remain in their jobs or romantic relationships when they've learned to accept and stay in their zone of power.
- The things that are ours to do require courage, and the things that are other people's involve acceptance.
[44:30] Making Choices in our Zone of Power
- When you stay firm in your zone of power, you stay authentic and truthful to yourself.
- Think of a courageous conversation or action that you can do to reframe the problem at hand.
[51:32] Top 3 Tips for Deciding Whether to Stay or Leave
- First, be compassionate with yourself that you’re in that difficult position.
- Second, list your complaints and fears, then recognise that they're thoughts that aren't unquestionable.
- Lastly, verify your thoughts, and identify the things you can do that are within your zone of power. These include acceptance and having the courage to make changes.
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Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.
These episodes are some of my personal favourites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.
This week….The one about alcohol with Dr Giles P Croft. In it we discuss a book I read last summer (by a pool in Italy!) all about the toxic effects of alcohol and why almost every story we tell ourselves about why we need it is, in fact, wrong.
That said, I’ve still been enjoying the odd glass of fizz (or two) on my hols (this year sadly confined to the UK). But it’s good to stop and reflect on why many of us feel the need to drink to excess and to discuss how it is possible to cut down our drinking, or stop altogether - without missing it (and that’s the great part!)
Listen to this episode here if you’d like to get a fresh perspective on alcohol and what it really does for you.
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This week…. Productivity hacks for a calm, effective life with Dr Gandalf. Many of you will know Ghandi from his fabulous eGP Learning podblast and he’s full of useful advice and simple time hacks that you can put into action right now. In this episode he shares his top time saving tips and looks at how we start to take control of our time.
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Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.
These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.
This week….How to be an adult with Ebonie Allard. I LOVE this episode with podcaster and master coach Ebonie. She’s got a very different take on life and offers a new perspective about how to be more you (even as an adult!). We’re talking about understanding ourselves more so that we can really thrive in life, ditching the expectations of others, and fully owning our choices in life.
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Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.
These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.
This week… Treat others how THEY would like to be treated with Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour. We had great fun recording this podcast - looking at how we’re all very different and respond in totally different ways. We may think we’re being helpful to others but if we assume that other people think just like us, we often get things very wrong and end up putting our foot in it!
In this episode, we look at the different social styles people may have and the importance of treating people according to THEIR personal style - not ours! This will help our relationships no end - both inside and outside work. Listen to it here
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Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.
These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.
This week….how to do conflict well, with Jane Gunn. This episode really changed the way I think about disagreement and interpersonal conflict. We’re all capable of having difficult conversations with patients and clients so why do we find it so hard to do it with each other?
In this episode, Jane offers some fantastically helpful insights into conflict and offers some top tips about how to start to have these conversations - and stop conflict escalating into a nightmare situation.
Listen to this episode here if you know that there are some issues that you have been sweeping under the carpet that you know you really need to address…
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Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.
These episodes are some of my personal favourites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.
This week… Eff it living. This was one of the very first YANAF episodes I recorded. I’m talking with John C. Parkin about his life mantra - the clue is in the title! Whilst it might seem to be a bit dismissive, this philosophy is based on some ancient principles which might just help ease some of the stress and anxiety we experience. And it certainly helped me on holiday when my family were driving me mad…..find out more by listening to the episode here.
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This week, Rob Bell, Speaker and New York Times Bestselling Author joins us to discuss the perils of the saviour complex and why we try to keep on hustling, even when we’re miserable.
Highlights
[04:40] What Rob Has Been Up to During The Pandemic
- Rob started to do things on Zoom and discovered new ways of doing things.
[07:25] The Apocalypse
- The word ‘apocalypse’ is often associated with disasters or ‘the end of time’.
- But it’s actually an old Greek word that means ‘revealing’ or ‘disclosure’ of what is.
[9:50] Working Within the System
- Being part of a system can influence how you see the world.
[11:13] Second Naivete
- This is the ability to see something as if you’ve never seen it.
- It is also similar to being childlike, which is different from being childish.
[12:45] The Two Columns of Systems
- One column is for what can be talked about. The other is for what can’t be talked about.
[14:48] Death by Letting Go
- Letting go of the saviour complex entails a good kind of “death”.
[20:21] Saviour vs. Helping Energy
- There’s a difference between saviour energy and helping energy. The former bears a heaviness at the soul level.
[26:19] Dealing With Anger
- When you’re being attacked with anger, the first thing to do is to feel your emotions.
- Rob invites us to adopt trans-rationalism.
[42:39] Impulse Vs. Form
- Impulses are things that make you feel alive when you do them.
- These can take different forms.
[47:17] Feeling Happier and Being Part of Something Bigger Than Yourself
- Sometimes you can’t help a broken system from within.
- You may have to leave and build from the outside.
[56:06] South Star
- The North star includes things and people that inspire you.
- The South star signifies frustration, anger, and exasperation over some things.
[1:00:35] Rob’s Tips to Let Go of the Saviour Complex
- Make peace with your limits.
- Set up your life with integrity and be present in what you’re doing.
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- RobCast Episodes mentioned
- Ep 276: Apocalyptic Hope
- Ep 303: South Star
- Rob’s books:
- Everything is Spiritual
- How to Be Here
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Drs Sarah Coope, George Wright, Samanta White, and Andrew Tressider join us in this episode to discuss how you can adjust your perspective about complaints and how to deal with them. We also tackle unfair or malicious complaints and how you can cope with them.
Episode Highlights
[07:07] How to Respond When Someone Wishes to Make a Complaint
- Thank patients for the feedback.
- Some patients may only be looking for acknowledgment.
[12:59] Should You Display Your Complaints Policy?
- Displaying your complaints policies helps patients.
[15:50] How to Handle Complaints When They’re Unfair
- Build rapport. The conversation follows after.
- Let facts speak for themselves. Avoid being defensive.
[19:51] Learning to Not be Defensive
- Hear the whole story.
- Acknowledge, Apologise, Ask, Answer, and Act.
[26:59] Calming Down During Intense Situations
- Plant your feet.
- Get your spine comfortable
[29:49] How to Handle Malicious Complaints
- Share your burden.
- Ask what the client wants to accomplish.
[35:36] The Five Agreements from Toltec Wisdom
- Be impeccable with your words.
- Take nothing personally.
- Make no assumptions.
- Always do your best.
- Be skeptical, but listen.
[37:40] How to Depersonalise Problems
- Have someone support you.
- Identify the source of your complaint.
[44:49] Emotional Occupational Hazards in Healthcare
- Time plays a significant role.
- Be kind to yourself.
[50:18] How to Handle Complaints during the Pandemic
- Be straightforward.
- Discuss handling pandemic-related complaints.
[59:47] Supervising Trainees Dealing with Their First Complaints
- Create a safe space for trainees.
- Be in the right time and space when talking to complainants.
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- E78: Preparing to Fail Well
- E80: What to Do When You Make a Mistake
- E82: Surviving the Process
- E84: Creating a Workplace Where It’s OK to Fail
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Dr James Costello joins us in this episode to talk about gaslighting, relational abuse and the insidious ways that organisations and individuals can undermine us.
Highlights
[07:36] Dr James’s Background
- James worked as a workplace counsellor in an occupational health unit of a large hospital in Bristol.
- He became a trade union caseworker, trying to advocate for change in organisations.
[09:24] Defining Relational Abuse
- We use relationships to manipulate, coerce and be punitive and damage people.
- Emotional aggression or abuse captures microaggressions in the workplace.
[12:15] The Corruption Complex
- The corruption complex is the misuse of authority and power for the personal gain or benefit of the group or the clique.
[13:45] Challenging Organisational Power
- Organisations as a whole can sometimes be the bully in the workplace. Challenging it has to be done as a collective.
[15:10] Examples of Relational Abuse
[21:49] Bullying in the Workplace
- Often, people are not aware of the impact of their behaviour on others.
- There can be a lot of shame associated with being a bully and being the target.
[27:06] Effective Performance Management
- Deescalation of the issue is key.
- Spend a lot of time understanding where they are coming from and offer informal support.
[34:11] On Gaslighting as Bullying in the Workplace
- Gaslighting is undermining the sense of self-awareness that a person has and their capacity to trust in themselves.
- Don’t remain isolated and get help from those you trust.
[41:05] On Emotional Labour
- Work now is more relational.
- Medical professionals need to exert huge amounts of emotional labour as you treat your patients, particularly if they’re scared.
[43:40] Key Takeaways
- Common factors work in creating a therapeutic change in someone.
- The common factors are the things common to a relationship that create a safe space for somebody to flourish and develop.
[48:59] Top Three Tips if You Experience Relational Abuse or Bullying in the Workplace
- Check out your experience with a trusted colleague or friend and triangulate.
- You need to make contact (HR, trade union, caseworker or even somebody who understands the context of what’s going on).
- Look after yourself.
- Do not bring the issue home; find somewhere to blow off steam.
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Dr Edward Pooley joins us again to teach us how to communicate well. He discusses the three strands of communication and explains how to be aware of them. We also share frameworks to help you navigate difficult conversations.
Highlights
[05:58] Three Strands of Communication
- It’s not only what you say, but also the emotion and identity.
- Try not to start talks when you’re irritated or frustrated.
- Think of how your conversation will make the other person feel about themselves.
[09:49] About Ranting
- A rant is a one-way method of communication.
- Your message may be correct, but the other person won’t receive it well.
- Instead of laying blame, ask them about their observations of the situation.
[12:49] Giving Better Feedback
- When systems no longer work, it’s crucial to implement change.
- Instead of pointing out what’s wrong, suggest solutions for improvement.
[16:17] Risks of Depersonalisation
- Depersonalising can get the message across, but leave emotion behind.
- You may not offend other people, but you may also not convince them.
- Pair depersonalisation with emotion to deliver authentic communication to your team.
[21:00] Expressing Your Emotions
- Use “I” statements to express how you feel.
- Your thoughts aren't emotions. Tap into your feelings and express them.
[21:56] The CORBS Model
- Make your feedback clear, owned, regular, balanced, and specific.
[24:35] Difficult Conversations
- The term ‘feedback’ tends to put people on high alert. Reframe it to a ‘conversation.’
- We tend to adjust to soften the blow to avoid upsetting other people.
- Practise ‘and’ statements to avoid wobbling during difficult conversations.
[28:10] Learning Conversations
- You may have a skewed perspective. Seek to understand the bigger picture.
[32:54] Communication in Healthcare
- We often assume we are good communicators unless told otherwise.
- If you assume you’re a good communicator, you won’t seek improvement.
[34:07] Having Difficult Conversations
- You can become a good communicator and handle difficult conversations with ease.
- Frameworks help you navigate these conversations.
[41:25] Tips on Dealing with Conflict and Being a Good Communicator
- Find a way to communicate issues to prevent them from becoming bigger.
- Be aware of the bigger picture.
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Prof Susan Fairley and Dr Jane Sturgess join us in this episode to discuss how to create a workplace where you can handle difficult conversations and not shy away from failure.
Episode Highlights
[07:07] The Workplace and the Individual
- There should be a system at work that allows other people to challenge someone who is not doing the right thing.
[10:08] Improving the System on an Organisational Level
- There needs to be an expectation of making communication easier and more respectful.
[14:22] Get Juniors to Speak Up
- Calling each other by first names reduces the hierarchy between colleagues.
[19:22] Having Difficult Conversations and Reducing Defensiveness
- Sometimes, the kind thing to do is to have a difficult conversation with a colleague.
- When a leader doesn't listen up, the members will not be able to speak up.
[22:57] How to Face Difficult Conversations for Leaders
- Remove the emotion and listen to the content.
- Seek coaching and psychological supervision.
[26:47] Helping a Person Receive Feedback
- H3: head, heart and hand.
- POIPS: permission, observed, impact, pause and solutions.
- Advocacy-inquiry: understanding the other person’s opinion before intervening with your own perspective.
[32:17] Incident Reporting
- Institutions that report incidents have lower risk and better safety outcomes.
[39:27] Good Practices in Speaking Up and Providing Feedback
- Staff that feel valued, engaged, safe and empowered to speak up and have difficult conversations directly correlates with patient mortality.
[42:24] Addressing Issues Around Incident Reporting
- The first issue is not recognising a problem as significant enough to need reporting.
- The second issue is it takes time to write an incident report.
[47:14] Building Trust
- Every gesture and action we take speaks volume.
[51:41] How to Start Speaking Up
- Having a coach, clinical supervision and mentor is powerful.
- Unless you practise something, you won’t get good at it.
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- E78: Preparing to Fail Well
- E80: What to Do When You Make a Mistake
- E82: Surviving the Process
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Joining us in this episode is Dr. Chris Hewitt who also uses the metaphor of a man-frog in coaching professionals to have a better work-life balance. Chris talks about why we find it so hard to recognize burnout. He also shares his top tips and practical strategies to address work dissatisfaction.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover different solutions for when you feel like a man-frog in a pan of slowly boiling water.
- Find out why it’s so tricky to recognise burnout.
- Chris shares his top tips to help a man-frog to improve their work situation.
Resources
- Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
- The Joyful Doctor
- Other You Are Not A Frog Episodes:
- Episode 74 - Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley
- Episode 75 - How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People with Annie Hanekom
- Connect with Chris on LinkedIn to know more about his Project Man-Frog!
- Time to Think: Listening to Ignite the Human Mind by Nancy Kline
- Coach Yourself to Success by Tom Preston
- Trusted Coach Directory: Coaching Directory
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Drs Jessica Harland, Heidi Mounsey and Caroline Walker join us in this episode to discuss how to survive the process of receiving and going through a complaint.
Episode Highlights
[11:12] Why Don’t We Talk About Complaints?
- So much of a health professional’s self-esteem is based on their career.
[13:47] How People Feel When They Make a Mistake at Work
- Doctors often feel guilt, shame, anger and frustration.
[16:42] How to Cope When You Make a Mistake at Work
- Openly share and talk about complaints.
[19:17] Miscommunication and Complaints
- Many complaints are a result of miscommunication.
[21:39] Differences in Handling Complaints
- It's easier to handle an objectively written complaint about systems and processes.
[27:09] The Importance of Perspective
- It helps to depersonalise the complaint.
[33:30] How to Look After Yourself
- Take a break to help you cope.
- Keep an eye on the basics.
[37:12] Stop Fixating on Mistakes
- Be kinder to yourself.
[42:47] Practical Advice for Through a Complaint
[48:22] Three Tips for Surviving While Going Through a Complaint
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- NHS Practitioner Health
- COVID 19 Supporting Doctors Series with Dr Caroline Walker:
- E27: On stress and anxiety
- E28: Dealing with sadness, anger and grief
- E30: Moral injury hurts
- E33: On expectations
- E36: COVID fatigue
- E43: COVID boredom
- E63: How to survive tough times
- Complaints and How to Survive Them Series:
- E78: Preparing to Fail Well
- E80: What to Do When You Make a Mistake
- Jess: Website | Twitter
- Caroline: The Joyful Doctor | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn
- Heidi: Medical Protection
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Steve Andrews joins us to share the five important questions that will help you check in with your colleagues, rather than check up on them. Through these five questions, leaders can find out how their people really are, help them to solve their own problems and communicate empathy and support.
[05:00] Rebuilding the NHS after the COVID Crisis
- Steve likens the recent COVID crisis to circumstances after the Second World War.
- Listening to the workforce and taking care of their psychological well-being is essential.
[08:28] Why Compassionate Leadership Is Important
- Fear generates particular knee-jerk reactions and anxieties where people are quick to make decisions.
- When you start to explore the art of medicine, you will be concerned with how you can collaborate with colleagues and other teams.
[12:08] Stopping the Command/Control Leadership Model from Coming Back
- Evidence shows that compassionate leadership worked well during the COVID pandemic.
- Steve hopes that this becomes the driver to make compassionate leadership the norm.
[13:24] Checking Up vs Checking In
- Checking up means that you’re asking someone if they’ve done a particular task.
- Meanwhile, checking in means that you’re asking about the well-being of the person.
[17:42] The 5 Questions of Compassionate Leadership
- Question number 1: How are you doing?
- Question number 2: How is your team doing?
- Question number 3: How are your colleagues doing?
- Question number 4: How can you help them?
- Question number 5: How do I serve you?
[29:52] Results from Asking the Five Questions
- Steve shares that other hospitals in the UK picked up the five questions.
- Eventually, they became a training program.
- These questions emphasise connection, coaching, listening, and serving.
[33:09] Who Can Use the Five Questions?
- Steve uses these questions to start conversations with people.
- The questions became a movement instead of just a tool.
[36:12] Making a Difference with PTSD
- Steve has a portfolio of personal messages and gratitudes for using the five questions.
- People find value in using the 5 questions to form connections.
[39:08] Tips on Using the 5 Questions
- Know that you’ve asked a fundamental question.
- Don’t give yourself tasks that are too big.
- Give yourself time.
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Do you live in fear that you’ll make a mistake at work? When it does happen, do you find it hard to cope and move forwards?
Doctors and other professionals are also human — making mistakes is normal. Knowing this, however, doesn’t take away the stress that comes with going through a complaint or investigation. Since we know that we’re bound to make a mistake at work, what matters is how we respond to them. To maintain our well-being throughout our career, it’s crucial to know how to handle mistakes.
In this episode, Drs Clare Devlin and John Powell join us to discuss the proper way of responding to professional mistakes. We talk about why doctors have a hard time whenever they make a mistake at work. Clare and John also share valuable advice on minimising negative consequences and getting a good outcome for you and your patient.
If you want to learn a roadmap for what you should do you make a mistake at work, then tune in to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn why many doctors don’t know how to respond when they make a mistake at work.
- Find out how to combat defensiveness and effectively communicate with a patient after a complaint.
- Clare and John share their top tips on what to do when you make a mistake at work.
Episode Highlights
[06:55] What Happens When Doctors Make a Mistake at Work
[11:03] The Dos and Don’ts
[16:36] How to Communicate with Your Patient
[24:10] About Defensiveness
[30:59] Getting Good Outcomes
[36:59] The Lack of Education About Handling Mistakes
[41:05] The Best Time to Seek Support
[49:43] Top Tips on What to Do When You Make a Mistake at Work
Resources
- Sign up for our Permission to Thrive CPD membership!
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 78 - Complaints and How to Survive Them Series 1: Preparing to Fail Well with Drs Sarah Coope, Annalene Weston and Sheila Bloomer
- Get legal, mental, and emotional support if you’re a member of Medical Protection or Dental Protection.
- Visit General Medical Council UK’s website for guidance and other medical resources.
- Reach out to Clare through Medical Protection
- Connect with John: LinkedIn
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This week, Dr Katya Miles returns to talk to us about spotting burnout and giving yourself permission to thrive.
Episode Highlights
[05:53] Overcoming Perfectionism
- We need to embrace learning through making mistakes.
- We often beat ourselves up even if nobody else knows the right thing to do.
[11:37] Factors That Lead to Burnout
- Many professionals in high-stress jobs think that stress is normal even if it’s not.
- Learn your personal red flags.
[16:29] Warning Signs of Burnout
- We stop doing healthy habits.
- We turn to unhealthy coping responses.
- Be mindful of the reasons behind our unhealthy practices.
- Having accountability helps in embedding healthy practices in our lives.
[23:43] Why It’s Difficult to Give Ourselves Permission to Thrive
- If your identity is so linked with your job, self-care is more difficult.
- We don’t reflect enough on the fact that we are all finite resources.
[33:34] Give Yourself Permission to Thrive
- Have honest conversations about your struggles.
- Reflect by journaling, creative pursuits, or being in nature.
- Think about the consequences if you don’t give yourself permission to thrive.
[38:51] Drive Zone, Threat Zone and Soothe Zone
- We spend most of our time in the threat or drive zone.
- Resting improves cognitive performance and overall well-being.
[41:32] Katya’s Top Tips
- Give yourself permission to thrive.
- Try to deliver on what you need at the moment.
- Develop the habit of looking after yourself.
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- Medworld interview
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- Atomic Habits by James Clear
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A complaint or investigation is one of the most stressful things you can experience as a healthcare professional, and this is true no matter what sort of job you do. However, we can’t live and work in fear of complaints and we should certainly not beat ourselves up when we make a mistake (and we will do). There are better ways to handle these situations.
Drs Sarah Coope, Annalene Weston, and Sheila Bloomer join us in this first episode in a new series on ‘Complaints and How to Survive Them’ created in partnership with Medical Protection and Dental Protection, to talk about coaching doctors and dentists through complaints made against them. We also talk about the perfectionist mindset and how changing our perspective towards failure can help us and those around us.
If you want to know how to deal better with complaints made against doctors and other professionals in high-stress jobs, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are 3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out the difference between a fixed and a growth mindset.
- Know how reframing some of our negative self-talk can help us when we fail.
- Discover the one phrase we should have learned in our training that might save us from false expectations.
Episode Highlights
[07:47] Why We Deal with Complaints Badly
- Many don't have the mental-emotional capacity to deal with having hurt someone else.
- Medical professionals are used to success but not failure.
[15:53] Being Kind to Ourselves as Practitioners
- Medical culture teaches its trainees and professionals that they come second to patients.
- Practitioners are not as kind to themselves as they need or deserve to be.
[17:44] Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset
- The fixed mindset makes a person feel being a failure is their identity.
- The growth mindset takes failure as a learning opportunity.
[24:23] Having High Expectations and Being Perfect
- We are uncomfortable with making mistakes and have unrealistic expectations.
- Reassure practitioners that they are not the only ones making mistakes.
- Be kind to yourself.
[27:45] Having a Mentor
- Mentors can help you understand the 'why' of a clinical mistake.
[30:54] Imposter Syndrome
- Some dental practitioners don't want other people to see their work.
[34:14] Getting Out of the Perfectionist Mindset
- Identify the mindset of someone going through a complaint.
- Spend some time asking them about their thoughts behind their feelings.
- Reframe someone's perspective to step back and start building confidence.
[40:32] Top Tips
- Accept that mistakes and difficult situations will happen.
- Be willing to grow from mistakes.
- Speak to somebody early on.
- Trainees need to accept they will make mistakes. Some of them will be serious, and that is okay.
Resources
- Join our Permission to Thrive CPD Membership for doctors.
- Medical Protection Society
- Dental Protection Australia
- The Power of Believing You Can Improve, a TED talk by Carol Dweck
- Connect with Sarah
- Connect with Annalene
- Contact Sheila here.
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Dr Andrew Tresidder joins us to talk about denial, displacement and other ways medical practitioners and other professionals in high stress jobs neglect themselves.
Episode Highlights
[04:46] Burnout Among Health Practitioners
- Medical and health professionals don't understand health as a holistic concept.
- The health industry workload gets heavier every year.
[07:23] Neglect Syndrome
- 'Fine' means being fearful, insecure, neurotic, and emotionally imbalanced.
- Most people's first response to psychological needs is denial.
- All effects are avoidable.
[10:05] The Pillars of Well-Being
- Well-being has five pillars: a social connection, taking notice, being active, learning, and giving.
- Andrew shares a sixth pillar: receiving.
- A relationship is about being energised or calmed by others.
[13:03] What Stress Can Lead To
- Stress can lead to exhaustion and increased adrenaline.
- Practitioners need to know this isn't mental illness but exhaustion.
- Neglect makes people work harder to compensate.
[15:39] Factors of Neglect
- It's easy to say that we need to manage our well-being.
- If we overwork ourselves, our performance gets worse.
- Improving well-being requires changing the workplace environment.
[20:11] Why Resistance Exists
- Doctors and health practitioners often sacrifice themselves to help others.
- Health professionals are still human.
[22:58] Insight Deficit
- Insight deficit occurs when you think you're invincible.
- Exhaustion is normalised.
[26:17] How to Gain Better Health
- Medical education should include health and burnout avoidance.
- The sympathetic state activates our fight or flight response.
- The parasympathetic state is rest.
[33:50] Rest Is Imperative
- Decompression from the alarm phase is difficult.
- Create a habit of rest and permit yourself to relax.
- Before helping others, help yourself first.
[40:50] Andrew's Tips for Health and Well-Being
- Value quiet time, reflect on your values and take care of yourself.
- Preempt neglect to avoid burnout.
- Learn to ask for help and do it early.
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- Health and Self Care: Inner Balance for an Effective Life by Dr Andrew Tresidder
- The Somerset Emotional Wellbeing Podcast
- Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 56
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 64
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 68
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Dr. Hussain Gandhi, or Dr. Gandalf of eGPlearning, joins us in this episode. He is a GP, PCN director, and host of the eGP Learning Podblast that shares deep dives into health tech for primary care. He shares his tech and time hacks for hybrid working to survive and thrive in the new virtual environment.
If you want to find out how to improve your hybrid working experience, then tune in to this episode!
[07:40] Dr. Gandalf’s Top Three Hacks for Hybrid Working
- Use a password locker to safe-keep all your different combinations
- Booking online meetings save time and effort.
- Be sure to move around when you have loads of meetings. Don’t sit all day long.
[24:11] The Key to Good Lighting and Audio During Meetings
- Good lighting makes you look engaged and keeps you awake. It’s best to use natural lighting.
- Use a headset or good audio so noises like high pitches or whines will not interrupt others.
- Use a post-it with a note ‘look here’ for your cameras.
[29:30] How to Use Keyboard Shortcuts for Meetings
- Learn how to mute, unmute, raise your hand, on/off your camera during meetings.
- If you’re the host, learn the keyboard shortcuts such as ‘mute all’.
[31:45] What Are Hybrid Meetings?
- Hybrid meetings combine online meetings and face-to-face meetings at the same time.
[42:25] The Ideal Number of People in Chat Rooms
- The best number is six people, whether face-to-face or online.
[46:11] On Breakout Rooms and Things He Would Change
- Establish ground rules from the start.
- Breakout rooms are challenging for hybrid meetings.
[48:56] Last Bits of Advice on Hybrid Working
- Have some time for yourself to refresh and rest
- Establish boundaries
- Have space between your virtual self, work-self and home-self.
Resources
- Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy for Busy Leaders.
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 16 - Productivity Hacks for a Calm and Effective Life with Dr Gandalf
- Connect with Dr Hussain Ghandi: Twitter | LinkedIn
- eGPlearning: Website | YouTube | Podcast | Twitter
- Three simple steps to not take a bad day home (The Third Space), a TEDx talk by Dr Adam Fraser
- Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt
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In this episode, Annie Hanekom chats with Rachel about how we need to step out of the drama triangle to have a better and healthier relationship with our colleagues.
Episode Highlights
[04:28] Enneagram Type 2 or The Rescuer
* In its simplest form, an Enneagram is a profiling tool.
[06:09] The Rescuer in Its Truest Form
* Type 2s or The Rescuers are motivated by the need to feel accepted, loved and included.
[08:24] What Becomes Problematic in Being a Type 2
* Helping for too long might form resentment and impatience.
* Inherent in the term ‘The Rescuer’ is a sense of superiority for those who do the rescuing and inferiority to those who are being rescued.
[12:00] Understanding the Drama Triangle
* The whole drama triangle and sliding between the roles of rescuer, victim, and persecutor is a confusing slippery slope.
* Our behaviour is a reaction to the kind of role we assume or assigned to us.
[18:39] How to Recognise the Role You’re Taking
* Create pauses in your day-to-day schedule to give yourself some ‘me time’.
* You’re giving yourself a new sense of clarity.
[24:04] Pausing and Taking Control
* When we’re busy, we fall into the default of assuming these roles.
* When we find peace in our minds, we can take control of what’s taking place.
[27:36] Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle
* Acknowledge the role you’re assuming in the drama triangle.
* Look for other options and shift the roles.
[27:36] Taking the Coaching Approach
* You’re helping the person sort out their problems and not taking their problems as your own.
[33:27] Language and Shifting Roles
* We can change our roles for the better with the language that we use.
* Using power language can empower you and puts you in a position of choice.
[41:29] Shifting the Mindset in Tricky Situations
* Taking a pause will be helpful in tricky situations.
* Refrain from assessing and doing a deep reflection when we are unhappy because it won’t do well.
[45:19] Getting into That Coach Role
* They’ll form a habit of asking themselves about their options rather than taking the role of the victim.
[50:40] Annie’s Tips to Get Out of the Drama Triangle
* Acknowledge what you’re going through. Give yourself time to process things.
* Don’t beat yourself up.
* Watch your language.
* Before you give advice, ask the other person what they think.
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Dr Ed Pooley joins us to share his take on time management techniques for busy individuals.
Episode Highlights
[05:38] The Importance of Maturity and Exploration in Medicine
- Entering medicine later in life can give you more experience under your belt.
- Ed also thinks it’s important to explore different processes outside of medicine.
- He examines what processes work and applies these in his practice of medicine.
[10:33] How to Manage Competing Demands
- Reflect on three types of demands: value demands, internal failure demands and external failure demands.
[18:11] Time Management Techniques on a System Level
- Personal time management techniques are essential not enough. You also need to have a systems approach.
- Recognise the system you work in and make adjustments for better results.
[21:46] Quick Ways to Address Internal Failure Demands
- GP setting: move from siloed working to outcome-based working.
- Meetings: do most of the work beforehand and use the meeting to discuss key points.
- Don’t use meetings as a proxy for team cohesion.
[26:00] Time Management Techniques for the Workplace
- Allow yourself to rest from working during your free time.
- You can see what each person needs to make their day better in terms of time management. By doing so, you’re able to work in a happier environment.
[30:43] On Affecting Change as a Doctor
- Being in medicine becomes your identity. And so, when we struggle with things like time management, it becomes an identity threat.
- Instead of complaining about someone’s work, approach them and discuss the problem.
[35:05] Improving Workplace Communication
- Make SMART objectives SMARTER.
- The additional E stands for emotion. The R stands for rationale and review.
[41:44] How to Voice Out Your Concerns
- Instead of criticising, ask exploratory questions.
[46:29] Ed’s Top 3 Time Management Techniques
- Think of the time before thinking about the task.
- If you’re struggling with completing tasks, break them down into task management, attention management, knowledge management, and system management.
- You have four options: do it, delegate it, defer it or delete it.
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We're having a short break over Easter but I wanted to share one of our earlier episodes with you again. This was recorded and released long before the COVID pandemic but I think it's never been more relevant than now.
In this episode (originally released on 12th November 2019), Rachel is joined by Agnes Otzelberger, a trainer, research and activist with a special interest in what happens when we tire of ‘doing good’.
We chat about what can happen to carers, healthcare staff and humanitarian workers when they become overwhelmed and burnt out by the magnitude of the needs and the suffering of the people they are dealing with on a day to day basis. We discuss how the symptoms affect us and ultimately can make us disillusioned and can end up with us leaving our job or becoming ill.
This has traditionally been known as ‘compassion fatigue’ but the surprising thing is that neuroscience has shown that compassion fatigue doesn’t actually exist – what we end up suffering from is ‘empathic burnout’ or ‘fatigue’. When we hear other people suffering, the empathy area of our brain is activated – the same bit of the brain that experiences physical pain.
Fascinating research has shown that whether we suffer from empathic fatigue or not depends on which part of our brain we are using to process the things we see and hear. Buddhist monks who are able to access the ‘compassion’ area of the brain through the ‘empathy’ area in response to suffering seem to be immune from empathic fatigue.
Agnes shares the research and reading she has been doing around this topic, discusses the treatments and strategies to prevent it, and shares some simple tips and methods for avoiding empathic fatigue and protecting us from its toxic effect.
This podcast is a must for those who have ever felt that their compassion has just run out…
Podcast linksDownload our free Virtual Fatigue Buster Toolkit
www.thegoodjungle.org Agnes’s website
Blog on compassion fatigue https://www.thegoodjungle.org/blog/2019/4/9/burning-out-for-people-and-planet-4-dangerous-self-care-myths
How Can I Help, Ram Dass and Paul Gorman
Standing at the edge, Joan Halifax
RAIN meditations at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/
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The Good Jungle Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/thegoodjungle/
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Do you feel lonely and isolated at work? Do you feel as if you have no one with whom to share your issues? Are you looking for your tribe—your community of like-minded individuals?
We sometimes separate our professional lives from our personal lives and are totally different people at home. It can be challenging to share your concerns with colleagues but there’s value in sharing vulnerability. Building friendships and having peer support at work is also beneficial to our performance and overall well-being. During this time of limited social interactions, having a strong and supportive work community may keep us from feeling alone. Beyond this, sharing your vulnerabilities creates a culture of acceptance and support.
Dr. Nazia Haider and Dr. Katherine Hickman join us on this episode to discuss the importance of a work community. We talk about the inspiring stories from the online community they created, the Physicians Mums Group UK (PMGUK). Nazia and Katherine also share their tips on how to increase connections and find your own tribe at work.
If you want to know how to create a network of supportive colleagues and feel more connected, then tune into this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Hear the inspiring stories from the Physician Mums Group UK online community.
- Learn about how to get support and find your own community of peers online or offline.
- Find out Nazia and Katherine’s top tips on how to increase connection, kindness and support in your life.
Resources
- Check out our Permission to Thrive membership so we can help you thrive at work and in life!
- You Are Not a Frog Episode 2 - Tiny habits, big changes, with Dr. Katherine Hickman
- To join PMGUK, check their admin page.
- Physician Mums Group UK Website
- Resilient GP Facebook group
- Frontline Counselling - Trauma Informed Counselling
- Contact Naz or Katherine at pmguk.org@gmail.com
- Connect with Nazia: LinkedIn
- Connect with Katherine: Twitter | LinkedIn
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**Have you ever wondered why you feel so exhausted even if you’ve just been at home all day?
If your someone who works from home a lot more than ever before, feeling tired is completely understandable. Before the pandemic, ‘work’ and ‘home’ didn’t often go together. But now, working well from home is expected of us.**
However, it’s difficult to fulfill that expectation without wearing ourselves out. That’s why it’s important to create healthy boundaries between our work and home life. By doing this, working well from home might just get a bit easier.
In this episode, Dr Katya Miles joins us to discuss how to work well from home by creating healthy boundaries. She shares how to be more productive by using the third space hack and taking breaks. Katya also talks about how to be more active and better connect with people in the workplace.
If you want to learn about working well from home and achieving a better work-life balance, then tune in to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out Katya’s top tips for working well from home.
- Discover what the ‘third space’ is and how you can recreate it in your own homes.
- Learn about the importance of taking breaks and being more physically active.
Resources
- Contact us to find out more about the Shapes Toolkit resilience training for late spring and summer 2021!
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 57 - Exercise Is Fertiliser for Your Brain with Michael Ledzion
- Connect with Katya: Email | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn
- The Working Well Doctor
- How to Work Well from Home
- Get Katya’s FREE How to Work Well from Home ebook!
- Three simple steps to not take a bad day home, a TEDx Talk by Dr Adam Fraser
- The Fitness Marshall on YouTube
- The Fitness Marshall’s 4-minute Poker Face Dance Workout
- Health and Safety Executive guides for display screen equipment
- WHO | Social determinants of mental health 2014
- WorkLife with Adam Grant
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This week, Dr Claire Kaye joins us to discuss how we can find the career we love. We share tips and talk about networking, diversifying and overcoming career challenges.
Episode Highlights
[04:16] Claire's Career Journey on How to Find a Career You Love
- As a GP trainee, Claire knew that she didn't want to be doing clinics nine times a week.
- Claire went on to other areas of education. Listen to the full episode to learn more about Claire's thoughts on taking opportunities and putting yourself out there.
[9:25] Following Your Interest vs Your Passion
- Knowing where your interests lie open up doors.
- Work out which of your skills gives you joy or motivation. Then, find a career that provides both.
[13:36] Networking
- When you're contacting people, ask for advice.
- Networking is a conversation or a chat, not an interview.
- It's important to stay motivated when connecting with others. Sometimes, you don't get a good lead.
[18:33] More Tips on Connecting with People
- Find out who the person is and see if you can establish a connection.
- Think of the conversation as having a chat with a friend.
- People appreciate being listened to and to reflect on stuff.
[20:30] More Tips on How to Find a Career You Love
- To know how to find a career you love, start with the little things.
- Take any opportunity as they come.
- Watch people that inspire and motivate you. Try to emulate that.
- You can't become an expert without practice.
[23:34] The 'Yes, But' Block
- We all have a 'yes, but' block.
- What's important is getting out there and getting better.
- Don't be afraid of making mistakes. You learn a lot from failing.
[28:04] On Transferable Skills
- You don't know how to find a career you love because you may feel like you have no transferable skills.
- Doing something different with your current role expands your horizons.
- The answer to how to find a career you love simply lies with doing what you love.
[37:01] Final Thoughts and Top Tips
- To answer how to find a career you love, Claire restated the three R's: reflect, reinvent, rebuild.
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- How to Get a Job You Love by John Lees
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- A Reflection of Interests vs Passion by Jeffrey Poulos on LinkedIn
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This week, Scott Chambers joins us to talk about psychological safety in teams.
Episode Highlights
[11:29] What Does Low Psychological Safety Look Like?
- Difficulty collaborating is because of low psychological safety.
- People in low safety environments can exhibit unresponsiveness.
- We always want to be heard, but we don’t always listen.
[14:52] How to Improve Team Dynamics
- We need to create a space that acknowledges the instinct to be defensive.
- Then, help people go beyond this initial reaction.
- At the heart of a safe environment is the assumption of positive intent.
[16:38] Assume Positive Intent
- Our body naturally identifies threats, but it can misidentify helpful things.
- Practice seeing positive intent in others.
- It helps if teams work as a group to resolve disputes.
[22:10] Trust and Psychological Safety
- Trust exists between two entities based on individual relationships.
- Psychological safety, on the other hand, is a systematic relationship.
[28:44] What to Do as a Leader
- If you feel you’re surrounded by yes-men, step back and invite ideas.
- As a leader, your job is to ask good questions and genuinely listen.
- Develop your listening skills by summarising what you hear.
[32:41] What to Do as a Team Member
- If you’re a team member, you can change the culture with vulnerability.
- Vulnerability means admitting your mistakes to solve them.
[37:05] Change the Culture
- The more people can freely admit and laugh at their mistakes, the better your team performance will be.
- Change the culture and make vulnerability a habit.
[40:41] Does Safety Decrease with Hierarchy?
- Seniors and bosses hold power even if they don’t realise it.
- Leaders need to be more welcoming of people and their feelings.
[42:56] Safety Is Not Comfort
- Psychological safety is not comfort.
- What you want is a safe and uncomfortable environment.
- It’s only while we’re uncomfortable when we can trigger the vulnerability.
[44:36] Scott’s Top Tips
- Catch yourself whenever you feel defensive or afraid to speak up.
- Lead with vulnerability.
- Seek positive intent.
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Do you feel like you’re constantly chasing your tail in everything you do? Have you ever felt like you’d be more productive and successful if you just had more time? With so much on our plates, it seems like the only option is to sacrifice quality time with our loved ones and for ourselves. But if you’re stressed and overwhelmed, fret not! There are ways to find the time, feel calmer, and present not only at work but also at home.
This week, Liz O'Riordan joins us to share productivity life hacks. These have helped her transform how she approaches work. Now, Liz can spend quality time with her family and enjoy life. In this episode, she teaches us how we too can achieve this.
If you want to learn some new life hacks, beat burnout and work happier, then tune in to this episode!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn a simple technique to get you off your phone and to spend quality time with your family instead.
- Discover how you can reduce your stress and the overwhelming feeling that comes with an overflowing inbox.
- Find out why you need to focus on a daily highlight before you do anything else.
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Frogs generally have only two options — stay and be boiled alive or jump out of the pan. Fortunately, you are not a frog. You have many more options, choices and control than you think.
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This week, Richard Jamieson joins us to discuss how using breathing techniques can help you de-stress and keep calm.
Episode Highlights
[05:14] The Accessibility Of Breathwork
- Practising meditation and mindfulness helps cope with stress.
- They’re accessible to everyone.
[08:09] What Does Breathing Do To The Body?
- When we take control of our breath, we can decrease our stress and agitation.
[14:59] Breathing Techniques
- The first step is to bring awareness to the breath.
- Wondering what to look for when observing your breathing? Tune in to the episode to learn more.
[17:48] Long-Term View For Breathing
- The ideal breath is around five and a half seconds on the inhale and exhale respectively.
- Devote some minutes of your day to developing breathing techniques.
[19:11] Breathing Rate And Heart Rate Variability
- We also need to look at heart rate variability.
- Low heart rate variability means an accumulation of stress.
- We can increase heart rate variability through slower and coherent breathing.
[22:23] Finding Balance
- Chronic stress can create a pattern of holding our breath or breathing too quickly.
- Practising proper breathing techniques allows us to find the right carbon dioxide and oxygen levels in our bodies.
- We can balance our body’s needs.
[29:19] Beating Stress
- When you feel like you’re breathing too fast, try using your fingers to count off your inhales and exhales.
- To calm yourself down, exhale longer than your inhale.
- To activate yourself, inhale longer than your exhale.
[34:26] Holotropic Breathwork
- This induces an altered state of consciousness in a dark room with evocative music.
- For Richard, this kind of breathwork is a psychological detox.
[43:25] Summary Of Breathing Tips
- Remember ART: awareness, regulation, and transformation.
- Bring awareness to your breath.
- Regulate yourself through coherent breathing.
- Explore different breathing techniques.
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Dr Sarah Goulding joins me to discuss how you can bring your best self to work without leaving bits of you behind.
Episode Highlights
[05:54] Sarah’s Story
- Sarah is a careers coach, a GP, an appraiser and a trainer.
- She had always wanted to have a portfolio, but she slowly started to burn out as she gathered roles over time.
- When Sarah resigned from her partnership, she rediscovered her passion for medical education and supporting other doctors.
[13:02] Why It’s So Hard to Recognise Burnout
- In medicine, there is a groupthink of glorifying tiredness.
- This can be hard to notice when it has been ingrained in your worldview.
- Burnout can occur from factors outside work.
- Strike a balance between professional values and personal values.
[20:18] How Sarah’s Values Misaligned
- Sarah’s job as a GP partner didn’t allow her to connect with her patients as much as she wanted to.
[23:21] How to Create a Workplace That Fits You
- Assess your career to see if it fits your personal values.
- Talk to someone external to you.
- Your values, priorities, or work can change.
[30:21] How to Find Your Core Strengths
- Use various tools and books to determine your strengths and reasons for doing what you do.
- People have different strength profiles.
- Have a full understanding of your options.
- Measuring yourself by your accomplishments is too narrow a metric.
- Listen to the full episode to learn more about discovering your core strengths.
[44:08] Three Tips for Professionals at Work
- If you're on the edge of burnout, then phone a friend, someone not like yourself.
- Ask yourself: When were you last fulfilled or happy?
- Look at your life as an external observer, and compare your professional and personal values.
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- Simon Sinek: How great leaders inspire action | TED Talk
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Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee discusses how we need to get back to basics to make sure we're supporting ourselves and others in these uncertain times.
Episode Highlights
[05:01] What We Have To Be Positive About In 2021
- The vaccination program rollout is something to be excited about.
- Amrita is also hopeful about Joe Biden’s presidency.
- She concentrates by minimizing peripheral noise.
[07:30] Importance of Embracing Negative Emotions
- Emotions are not binary.
- Negative emotions sometimes have lessons to offer.
- Allowing yourself to feel the moment can fill you with some hope for the future.
[14:32] How to Hold On to Positivity
- Recognize that the emotions we’re feeling are different from what we experience in a pandemic-free world.
- Get back to basics.
- Think about the things you can control.
[19:14] Going Back to Basics
- Determine the coping strategies that helped you.
- Understand that this, too, shall pass.
- We are all facing the same pandemic, but we experience it differently.
[26:04] Building a Positive Mindset
- Practice optimum support by communicating your love languages.
- Engage in positively-based psychological processes like gratitude, journaling, connecting with others, and learning.
- Move away from toxic things.
[42:27] Top Tips to Get Through the Next Few Weeks
- Connect with yourself, and communicate it to those around you.
- Don’t be scared of your negative emotions.
- Look forward to things.
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Dr Amit Sharma joins to discuss the effects of taking on too many of other people’s burdens and how you can prevent them from weighing you down.
Episode Highlights
[05:28] What Is A Naughty Monkey?
- Naughty monkeys are burdens that clients carry.
- These burdens sometimes stay and weigh down on professionals like doctors and lawyers.
[08:58] What Happens If You Don’t Give The Naughty Monkeys Back?
- We become drained and burdened.
- We end up developing a cycle wherein patients unburden their issues, and they weigh us down.
[10:59] What Really Burdens Us
- We are burdened by ownership and responsibilities.
- Our client’s naughty monkeys are not for us to own or take away.
- Stay professional and set a boundary.
[18:16] What Do We Do When We Fear Complaints?
- Complaints may lead to us overly taking responsibility because we want to please and be liked.
[22:23] How to Take Off the Role of the Rescuer
- If we can’t give the victim a solution for their problem, we are put into the persecutor role and receive complaints.
- Understanding the consultation and dynamics at play help us unpack and change the way we consult.
[24:36] How to Spot If You Are in a Rescuer Role
- Signs of being a rescuer include struggling with managing your workload and personal dissatisfaction with work.
[29:59] The Cost of Saying Yes to Everything
- Patients are not empowered to manage their health.
- It can cost you your colleagues, other clinicians and your patients.
[34:16] The Superhero Complex
- The hero complex is using prescriptions to solve people’s problems.
- Medication creates dependency.
[40:59] How To Hand Back Naughty Monkeys
- Understand the actual issues during the consultation.
- Make it clear that you and the patient are in a partnership.
- Seek the perspective of someone outside work or with a different personality.
- Seek other avenues of support
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- E27: On pandemic stress and anxiety
- E36: On COVID fatigue
- E63: How to Survive Even When Times are Tough
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This week, Dr Jess Harvey joins me to share her experience with burnout. We also discuss how you can take care of yourself and top tips for burnt out professionals.
Episode Highlights
[04:02] Jess’s Story
- Jess gets injured or something goes wrong with her body when she’s stressed.
- By the end of her medical school, she developed an eating disorder.
- Because of her condition, Jess couldn’t run anymore.
- Running is her coping mechanism. Being unable to run got to her, so she started eating again.
- During GP training, she caught a rare eye infection and missed 2 months of work.
[12:22] The Importance of Rest and Recuperation
- Jess became a partner in 2017, and her responsibilities increased. She had a stress fracture in her foot and had to wear crutches for four weeks.
- After a case with a young girl, Jess started to second-guess herself. She also kept everything inside to avoid being a burden.
- Jess realised she was burnt out, likening herself to a bucket of water full of holes.
- Rest is essential for the body.
[25:13] What to Do When You’re Burnt Out
- There’s a stigma around stress where people think they should have coped better.
- Burnout allowed Jess to check in with herself.
- Think about how you feel physically. Do you have enough energy?
- If you’re not sleeping well, what is keeping you awake? What can you do about it?
- Look at your stress levels.
[30:54] How Micro Doses of Stress Pile Up
- Small doses of stress can eventually become too much.
- Our stress and lifestyle choices all pile up.
- We should accept that we are fallible as humans.
[38:47] Changing How We Deal with Ourselves
- If you’re tired, don’t force yourself to keep going.
- We spend a lot of energy at work making sure our colleagues are fine.
- But we never look at ourselves, so we struggle even more.
- You are your most precious resource.
[45:20] Top 3 Tips for Professionals
- Be vulnerable.
- Check in with yourself.
- Be kind to yourself.
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- Leah Gilbert Performance + Wellbeing
- Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee
- More Than a Woman by Caitlin Moran
- Connect with Dr Jess Harvey: Email | Instagram.
- Find out more about the Permission to Thrive CPD club for doctors.
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This week, Dr Caroline Walker joins us on another episode of the COVID-19 Supporting Doctors series to share key strategies you need to learn to keep going through the crisis.
Episode Highlights
[00:56] Our Prospects in 2021
- Everyone is excited to leave 2020 behind.
- COVID-19 is still present despite the promise of vaccines.
- We are experiencing an acute stress response due to scary, threatening or difficult situations.
[04:28] Pacing Ourselves
- People are too tired to keep going.
- We need to pace ourselves.
- It may be hard to take some time off, but we have to look after ourselves.
[07:33] Self-Care Basics
- Start with the simplest things.
- Drink water.
- Eat, sleep and rest well.
- Do deep breathing exercises.
- Your self-care methods should be sustainable for your lifestyle.
[11:46] Importance of Breaks and Boundaries
- Limit your social media exposure.
- Don’t worry about missing the news.
- Learn to set boundaries.
[16:10] Learning to Prioritise
- Set your emails or phones off at certain times.
- Learn to do your tasks in batches.
[20:07] Staying Connected
- Talk and catch up with people who are important to you.
- Check on your team regularly.
[24:50] Planning and Setting Goals
- You need to plan and design your life.
- Permit yourself to pursue things that are important to you.
- Ask yourself questions to guide you towards your goals
[31:18] Culture of Rushing
- Caroline recommends the concept of underscheduling.
- It’s normal to be overbooked, but it is not sustainable nor healthy.
- When we keep rushing, we lose so much joy and meaning in our life.
[36:28] Strategies to Keep You Going Forward
- Stay alive and survive, especially during these times.
- Breathe slowly.
- Stay connected with others.
- Stay within your zone of power.
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- Make Time by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky
- 5 minute team check-in and COVID team wellbeing toolkit
- Essentialism by Greg McKeown
- eGPlearning
- Headspace
- Calm
- The Joyful Doctor COVID-19 Resources. Visit Caroline's site for her socials!
- Permission to Thrive CPD club for doctors
- YANAF COVID-19 Supporting Doctors Series with Dr Caroline Walker: E27, E28, E30, E33,
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Have you ever felt stuck and wish you knew what to do next? Many people with high-stress jobs find themselves with competing priorities and too much to think about and do. You may have considered getting a coach, but what if you don’t have the time and resources? When you want to find clarity and be more happy and successful, know that you can actually do it yourself through self-coaching!
Dr. Karen Castille joins me in this episode to discuss her book on self-coaching. She shares powerful questions to ask yourself which will jumpstart your self-coaching journey. She also talks about the importance of developing this vital skill and crafting powerful life questions. Before we close the show, Karen gives her top tips for self-coaching.
Don’t miss this episode if you want to learn how you can find clarity and achieve success through self-coaching!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Learn how self-coaching works and how you can fit it into your weekly schedule.
- Discover the power of crafting your own life questions.
- Find out why getting advice from other people often doesn’t work
Resources
- The Self-Coaching Workbook by Dr Karen Castille
- Find out more about the Permission to Thrive CPD club for doctors here
- Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt
- Zen Tennis by Dr Joseph Parent
- The Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallway
- The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier
- You Are Not A Frog Episode 54 with Dr Surina Chibber
- Karen’s website
- Connect with Karen: Twitter | Email | Email
Implementing change in the NHS: Effects of clinical leadership on performance improvement, Karen’s DBA thesis
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You Are Not A Frog regular Nik Kendrew joins me to discuss the concept of happiness. We also talk about perfectionism and fear. At the end of the show, Nik and I give our top tips to being happier by living in the present.
Episode Highlights
[6:04] Learnings from The Midnight Library
- With everything that happened, we get reflective and think about how things could be different.
- Accept and appreciate what you have.
- Happiness is the things that give you meaning, purpose, and satisfaction.
[12:52] Height and Depth of Happiness
- Height of happiness refers to your peak or happy experiences.
- Depth of happiness is about the things we put around us, like our deep connections and life purpose.
[21:27] Where is Happiness Dependent On?
- Happiness depends on your resilience, coping mechanisms, belief, meaning, and purpose.
- Negative experiences have a profoundly positive effect on our lives.
[26:06] Nik’s Passion for Media
- There is no guarantee Nik would have been happy if he got the presenter job.
- He loves where he is now. Nik is involved in every stage of the production process.
[30:01] Perfectionism and Getting Things Done
- Fear can hold us back. People use perfectionism to cover up their fears.
- Waiting for something to happen won’t get you anywhere.
[31:43] How to Create a Good Mindset Without Going Through a Crisis
- Be kind.
- Don’t give up on your dreams.
- Live in the present.
- Appreciate the little things.
[37:18] Top Tips to Live Life in the Present
- Have some space for yourself and share it with others.
- Don’t waste your time on things you don’t want to do.
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- You Are Not A Frog Ep. 17
- You Are Not A Frog Ep. 49
- The Midnight Libraryby Matt Haig
- Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig
- Happier by Tal Ben Shahar
- Happy, directed by Roko Belic
- Boggled Docs podcast
- Nik’s Twitter
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Dr Sonali Kinra joins us in this episode to discuss why people leave their jobs and how to prevent it from happening. We talk about the importance of culture in the workplace and its role in creating an environment that makes people want to stay.
Episode Highlights
[05:12] Why Good People Leave
- The GMC report ‘Caring for Doctors, Caring for Patients’ discusses the ABC of well-being - autonomy, belonging and competence.
- Attrition happens at transition periods.
[07:48] What Culture Is and How to Create One in Stressful Jobs
- A good workplace culture includes good communication, engagement, transparency and a feeling that we are in it together. It makes a job doable.
- Support your colleagues.
[12:08] How Culture Helps in Coping with Workload
- Culture impacts how the workload is shared.
- Communicate your struggles to find an effective or efficient way to do things.
[18:12] Sonali’s Advice to Keep People in Their Jobs
- Her top advice is to cultivate a friendly and inclusive culture.
- Create ways for people to access coaching.
- Look into broadening your horizons to attract people into the profession.
[26:08] Strength Finding and Job Crafting
- Look into your strengths as individuals and as a team.
- Make the job fit the person and not the other way around.
- Be inclusive.
[37:44] Top Tips for Organisations and Professionals
- For organizations: Communicate, be transparent, and don’t leave anyone behind.
- For individuals: Consider coaching to talk about your career.
- Ask the organization about building a job around you.
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- You Are Not A Frog Ep. 53 with Dr Abubakar Mohammad & Dr Aigbokhai Ohiwerei
- Caring for Doctors, Caring for Patients by Professor Michael West and Dame Denise Coia
- The Coach in the Operating Room by Atul Gawande
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Social media is known for its benefits in creating and maintaining connections. It’s also designed to provide us with information—often too conveniently—in just one click. Because of this, it's only natural that we keep on using it, without realizing we're glued to our screens longer than we ought - or want - to be.
In this episode, Dr. James Thambyrajah joins us to talk about social media's subtle yet profound effect on our daily lives. We discuss the perils of being unaware of how our online decisions are influenced and James shares his insights on how we can improve how we stay informed and inform others.
Tune in to this episode if you want to learn more about how to go beyond your digital echo chamber.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how social media affects our online decision-making processes.
- Learn how screen time impacts your mental health and well-being.
- Identify some tips on how to solve this social dilemma.
Resources
- 'Skin Lesions: What’s the Diagnosis?' by Dr. James Thambyrajah
- The Social Dilemma on Netflix
- Indestructible: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal
- Dad Tired Podcast Episode: Developing A Tech Plan For Your Family by Jerrad Lopes featuring Arlene Pellicane
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Bullying doesn’t just happen in the schoolyard — it can happen anywhere, even in the workplace. Workplace bullying and harassment can adversely affect an employee's health, career and performance. Overcoming bullying should never be the victim’s burden; thus, knowing how to support victims may alleviate the situation.
In this episode, Rachel chat’s with Dr Adam Harrison, a general practitioner, medical leader, and barrister, shares his experience as a victim of bullying and how he conquered his fear of bullies . He also talks about the ‘bystander effect’ and how you can support victims of workplace bullying to combat this issue.
Tune in to the full episode to understand workplace bullying and the ways to overcome it.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Find out how humiliation and bullying affect the professionals who experience it
- Discover how to be resilient in the face of workplace bullying.
- Learn how to settle cases of workplace bullying.
Resources
- The Real Price of Incivility by Chris Whitehead
- The Price of Incivility by Christine Porath and Christine Pearson
- Google’s Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute
- The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni
- Dealing with—or Reporting—“Unacceptable” Behavior by Mary Rowe, Linda Wilcox and Howard Gadlin
Episode Highlights
Bullying in the Medical Field
- Adam shares stories about a medical student being humiliated by a consultant and his own experience being bullied.
- He has a list of eight things that stuck with him after that experience.
- Traditional medical training may be the problem because historically, it has been based on behaviours that can be seen as bullying.
Adam’s 3 Tips to Combat Workplace Bullying and Harassment
- Try to de-personalize the situation.
- Find support within the team.
- Learn to become more assertive and influential so that you can confront your bully and persuade them to stop.
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This week, Michael Ledzion joins us to discuss the cognitive benefits of exercising. We talk about how you can start making small changes in your routine that count in massive ways.
Highlights
[04:28] Introducing Michael
- His social enterprise, Sports for Schools, arranges athlete visits to schools.
- They inspire children to be resilient and engage in physical activity.
[06:39] Making Exercise Fun for Kids
- Most children don’t do enough physical activity because we don’t give them space to do it.
- To get your kids to exercise, he recommends inviting their friends along.
[10:13] Activity and Productivity
- When you do physical activity, you produce brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF).
- It is like having fertiliser for the brain because the growth factor grows cells.
[14:22] Exercise and Creativity
- Creativity is key to memory.
- Memory strength is a function of repetition, intensity and a strong connection between neurons.
- BDNF helps in connecting neurons together.
[17:28] Aerobic Fitness
- Research suggests that aerobic fitness is the most valuable routine.
- Moderate to vigorous exercise has the most significant effect on BDNF production.
[22:08] Why We Don’t See the Importance of Physical Activity
- Michael believes the school system has made a mess of physical education by having targets and exams.
- The focus on exams has resulted in a lack of education about the benefits of movement.
[26:27] Advice for People Who Work Long Hours
- Build a routine.
- Start small.
- Plan your week.
- Delegate to free up time for exercise.
[33:56] Advice for Employees
- If you want to perform better at your job, be more physically active.
- Several studies show that physically fit people earn 20% more.
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What could be harming you when it comes to spending time with very nice people? Why does this week’s guest stick a picture of a chimp to her computer monitor? And what is the question we should ask ourselves before we say yes to an invitation?
This week’s episode is a retrospective on what the first lockdown and subsequent ways of living and working have taught us about the importance of connection.
With working practices limiting direct contact with other people as part of the COVID crisis, finding ways to connect with your colleagues may need a little inventive thinking, Jo and Rachel offer some great tips on this.
The key to getting these strong connections is finding common ground, offering feedback, self disclosure and vulnerability.
A good friend at work can really help you see things differently when you are overloaded with stress and your inner chimp is likely to escape - take a listen to understand how Jo uses the chimp metaphor in a very real sense as a flag to her colleagues!
Not all connections are equal, some can drain your energy more than you realise.
Our connections are categorised into one of 4 groups, our VIPs give us energy, whilst Very Nice People (VNPs) tend not to reflect that energy back to us.
Making sure you find enough time with the right people is really important. And that may mean learning to say no to some invitations. Jo offers some great advice here including to ask yourself; if you say yes to this, what are you saying no to?
Top tips on maintaining better connections:
In work:
- Have connection at the forefront of your mind. Change your route, plan a coffee break, keep your door open.
- Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, people will trust you more.
In life:
- Take a look at who your VIPs are and make sure you’re spending enough time with them.
Our Stop Start Continue checklist can help you assess how strong your connections are (amongst other things)- you can download your copy of the checklist here.
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Dr Giles P Croft is back to chat with Rachel about his experiences of an unplanned (but surprisingly great) year of sobriety following a revolutionary read he was recommended. You might remember Giles from episode 46, where he talked about how as humans, we naturally default to happiness.
Well, one of our other defaults can lead us to distractions when our thinking is crowded or overwhelming, and yes - you guessed it, alcohol is one of the biggest tools people in high stress jobs use to self soothe and take our thinking offline.
We’ve been raised with images and impressions that alcohol is a cure-all - bad day? Alcohol! Something to celebrate? Alcohol! End of the day? Alcohol!
No wonder we don’t always pay conscious attention to alcohol’s impact on our lives.
The book that created such huge paradigm shifts around alcohol for first Giles and then Rachel is This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. A myth busting, non-judgmental (and sometimes humorous) look at alcohol in modern life.
Giles explores some of the ways we can learn to listen to ourselves when we might normally and instinctively turn to alcohol. Switching off our thinking isn’t something we’re used to doing, but reaching for a drink as a tool to switch it off is much more ingrained in us.
Discovering the power and capability you have within yourself when you learn this art can be an enlightening experience - as Giles testifies!
If you feel that alcohol is causing problems in your life, then please get help. There are services listed in the resources below.
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In this week’s episode, Rachel and Dr Surina Chibber share what they have learnt from years of flexible working to help you become more successful and less stressed (and guilt ridden) in your approach to this style of work.
Surina is a portfolio GP and co-founder of My Locum Manager which specifically helps GPs manage the tasks that come with flexible working more easily.
There are a lot of reasons people choose to explore flexible working, from embarking on parenthood to career diversification. Surina reminds us flexible working can be great, but will increase stress as a result if you’re not prepared.
Working across a number of roles may require you to take on additional tasks such as marketing, tax returns, administration or professional training.
Where your working week may start to overwhelm you, it can be really useful to write a ‘to-be’ list instead of a ‘to-do’ list to check that what you’re doing corresponds with your life desires and values.
Surina reminds us to be in the moment instead of focusing on “I’ll be happy when…”
Sometimes your time spent doing what you love creates a return on investment that you didn’t expect. Remember, the journey is the reward.
By looking at what it is you want to achieve from flexible working, you can plan your time and resources to work towards this successfully and happily. One of the best things both Rachel and Surina advocate is getting a coach or mentor (or several!) to learn from and guide you to success.
Their top tips are:
Surina:
- Understand what you enjoy.
- Set boundaries over what is your work time and what your working week looks like.
- Surround yourself with people who are doing different things in their space, learn from them.
Rachel:
- Get the help that you need and pay for it if neccesary!
- Ditch the guilt.
- Do fewer things but better.
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This year, the issue of racial discrimination is forefront in our minds. It exists in every profession and every walk of life. It exists in ways we don’t always realise. It has raised many questions. It has created a sense of discomfort. And it isn’t going away.
The subject of racism comes shrouded in societal shame. It’s time to shake off that shame and ask a few questions - or let You Are Not A Frog’s Dr Rachel Morris and Dr Abubakar Mohammad, GP and Wessex RCGP Executive board member ask them for you. This week they’re joined by their guest, Dr Aigbokhai Ohiwerei, a GP in Fareham and Whitely.
They ask; what’s in a name, what is racism, how do I speak up with confidence when I see injustice and why have people found speaking up so hard?
Abu and Aigbokhai share how these issues have affected them and some of their colleagues and give some great examples of how combatting racism doesn’t have to be combative. It is in fact, more about choosing to speak up or through the right channels when you see or hear an injustice.
The team offer some great ways to challenge and question:
- Can you write your name for me to help me pronounce it correctly to patients?
- When you say (example “You’re a foreigner though!”), what do you mean by that?
- When you hear someone misappropriate a term, or use a stereotype - gently explain how that is inferred as a racist statement (we all have done this without being aware - let’s help each other!)
- If you don’t feel comfortable talking, write an email or speak to someone who can share your voice.
Personal and societal change are big subjects and may make us uncomfortable with what we’ve witnessed previously or left unchallenged BUT the greatest thing we can do is listen from these experiences and learn how to make our practices, businesses and workplaces happier, harmonious and more equal.
As a final thought and a direct quote, “It’s more powerful when you are in a position of privilege to speak up.” If you’re in a position of privilege, imagine just how much positive change you have the power to invoke.
If you want to hear the further two episode in this series of three episodes commissioned by Wessex RCGP Faculty, please visit their website
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The week’s episode is a special one as the Frog celebrates a year of podcasting! So this episode turns the table as YANAF regular, Dr Nik Kendrew, puts the spotlight on Rachel. They talk about everything from what this experience has taught Rachel, to the power of ‘F**k It’, how Nik’s inner chimp attacks in the supermarket & one guest’s squeaky bum time!
Rachel wanted to share the conversations, ideas & experiences she encountered through her work with a wider audience to help more people than she was reaching through her courses.
Through the podcast she’s enjoyed learning as much from her guests as you have, from conflict management to equality in the workplace it’s been an eye opening year of conversations.
For a podcast series that’s dedicated to helping doctors, healthcare professionals & executives in high stress jobs. Nik notes that as well as being very busy, some of these jobs can be very lonely places & Rachel’s been really pleased to hear how many people have fed back the recurring phrase “it makes me feel like I’m not alone”.
It’s perhaps no surprise that the most popular episode this year has been on COVID fatigue with Dr Caroline Walker. During the COVID crisis, this podcast has been a great way to reach out to and connect with people when stress, loneliness, fear & uncertainty have been prevalent across all sections of society and industry.
Sharing stories is often one of the most helpful things for all of us to feel less alone in moments of difficulty or uncertainty. Nik shares a really poignant example of how sharing our stories can help others and save lives.
So as a sign off to a great year of episodes, Rachel is inviting you to help shape future Frog episodes. What would you like to hear more about and what more can we do to help you realise that you are not a frog? You can get in touch using the links below.
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This week Rachel is joined once more by Dr Caroline Walker, otherwise known as The Joyful Doctor to look at what on earth has happened over the past 6 months and what we can anticipate in the coming months.
It’s fair to say that we’re currently in an adjustment phase, learning how to work and live to the current rules, anticipating changes to these rules and processing this seismic shift from how our lives used to operate.
We’re seeing burnout from overwork, anxiety over the uncertain future and a general sense of grief and loss.
It’s common for people to vent their anger towards those they feel safe with.
We’re being asked to do more than ever and we need a plan to manage this. Consider the example of a professional footballer. If they were asked to play for 3 hours instead of 90 minutes what would they do? Devise a break plan, factor in more nutrition, add more to their team and so on. When we have extra pressure applied, what are we doing to make sure we can cope?
There are things that will be out of your control right now, so Rachel and Caroline give a reminder about the ‘Zone of Power’ and how this powerful tool can bring you a sense of calm and empowerment.
One ultimate top tip from Rachel and Caroline; Learn to leave things unfinished.
This sounds unlikely but they present a good argument for its benefits.
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When we’re starting out in our careers, there’s a lot to remember, to consider and a lot that we’re not prepared for. For doctors, dentists, lawyers and many other high stress professional jobs, we’ve undertaken years of training and yet, we’re (mostly) unequipped to deal with how to manage the money we start making once we qualify .
Joining Rachel in this week’s episode is Dr Tommy Perkins, as well as being a GP Partner, and father, Tommy is one half of Medics Money. Medics Money is an organisation specifically aimed at helping doctors make better decisions with their finances. It’s run by Tommy and Dr Ed Cantelo who is not only a doctor but a qualified accountant.
When Tommy left medical school he carried with him £85,000 of student debt - what a way to start your career! With no understanding of how to manage finances, this debt was a big burden but it also inspired Tommy to look at how to manage finances, manage tax, and how to use his money to work for him and pay down his debt.
Money and happiness, much like money and tax, do not exist in a linear relationship. Learning about the relationship between money and tax is something you can be taught, understanding the relationship between money and happiness is something you can only find by understanding your own values, and what’s important for your own happiness.
A great way to get this understanding and start to take control is by preparing a PDP (Personal Development Plan) for your finances, much like you would write a PDP for your professional life.
When you’re writing your PDP, don’t think of it as just about money, but consider what your priorities in life are so that you can put plans in place that will make you feel good, like Tommy’s debt pay back plan. We can avoid facing up to our financial situation, but it feels good to have a plan that puts you back in control.
Tommy’s two most important suggestions are
- Work you can maximise your income; for example by sorting out your tax code, tax reimbursements, child benefit, etc.
- Minimise your expenditure.
Tommy’s top tips are:
- Get financial advice from specialists in your profession.
- Do a budget!
- Make a financial PDP.
- Create an emergency fund.
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Do you sometimes sacrifice your health and happiness for work? Are you unsure of why you do it, or what you can do?
It’s a surprisingly common trait amongst doctors and other busy professionals to believe that you’re indispensable. In truth, we know that whilst what we do is important, if we don’t look after ourselves and take time out when we’re unwell, we’ll be out of action for much longer.
This week Rachel is joined by You Are Not A Frog regular, Nik Kendrew. Last time Nik joined us, we discussed a book that has helped him in his professional life as a GP, trainer and partner as well as his personal life. Nik’s back this week to talk about another brilliant book and to share what insights and learnings he’s gained from it.
Between this and Nik’s previous guest appearance on YANAF, he’s had some personal battles to deal with, including an emergency trip to hospital just as he was due to start a shift as duty doctor (yes, the ambulance took him away in front of the waiting patients!).
This was a serious moment for Nik, yet whilst he was in Resus, he found himself texting his future appointments, offering reassurance that he’d definitely be there. Fortunately, the health professionals got tough with Nick and instructed a 2 week rest period.
Nik’s condition is now well managed and he’s even back to some of the physical activities he enjoyed previously, but there has been a big paradigm shift for him along the way.
Rachel and Nik explore why we, particularly as professionals, deny our health concerns and what advice we’d offer a friend who found themselves in a similar situation to Nik.
The book Jog On, by Bella Mackie transformed Nik’s personal and professional outlook along his recovery journey. Bella’s story takes us from her marital breakdown and peak of sustained anxiety to a place of personal happiness by discovering exercise.
Nik had to return to some uncomfortable memories with this book, but also some great successes as well as making a big mental shift - that exercise is something to be enjoyed, not doggedly pursued for ‘personal bests’!
In finding what you enjoy, you’re more likely to gain huge mental health rewards and stick at this as part of your regular self care routine. It’s really important to be aware that the image of the ‘super-fit’ doesn’t always mean happiness. Happiness comes from doing what you enjoy, and if you can find a regular (and even mindful) form of exercise you’ll gain an improved state of mind.
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We may be returning to something of a more normal working life, but there is still a lot of change ahead of us and we face continuing challenges both in our day to day work and leading our teams.
Some of our greatest challenges exist around communication - with teams that may be split between being able to meet in person and those working remotely, communicating with your team where there may be uncertainty and the lack of creative thinking that often can occur in team meetings where you can quickly get ‘group think’.
Joining Rachel this week are not one, but three guests - her ‘go-to’ gang, or as she describes them - her ‘wise guys’!
We talk about how we and our teams have responded during the different stages of the crisis and reflect on what this has taught us.
Ultimately, the key to looking out for and after your teams is to communicate, communicate, communicate.
Our top tips are:
- Find new and creative ways to communicate.
- Remember to look forwards, not just review the past.
- Informal chats for mentoring can be transformative, whether you lead that person or not.
- Run a Stop Start Continue on your remote working strategy.
It’s really important to look after yourself too, don’t discount the value in finding your own mentor. Your team is likely to have some great problem solvers, reach out to them when you need inspiration. And finally, remember that it won’t be like this forever - even if at times we feel stuck and can’t see an end to this.
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Just before lockdown, Rachel recorded this episode that specifically deals with helping individuals and teams manage those difficult conversations that arise during change, conflict and crisis. And it’s fair to say that as we continue, or return to work in our changed world, these conversations have become crucially important
Rachel talks with Beccie D'Cunha, founder of Courage Lab, about the conversations that we avoid and the conversations we really need to have with our colleagues, teams and managers. They can be described as difficult conversations, but we can redefine them as courageous conversations - because ultimately it takes courage for both parties to listen and be heard.
Beccie helps leaders and teams to have these conversations. Where there is conflict around performance, difficulty with change or challenges with strengths or differences, she mediates and gives people the tools they need to bring about healthy dialogue that leads to resolution.
Beccie’s top three tips to having courageous conversations are:
- Do your prep. Work out what you want to get out of the conversation? What are the pros and cons of having the talk?
- Take the risk to be honest and vulnerable with your feelings.
- After we’ve shared, be prepared to hear the response, and listen out for how the listener is feeling as well.
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In our first podcast back after the summer break, Rachel talks with Dr Giles P Croft about his take on how to beat stress and burnout. Giles is a psychology graduate and former NHS surgeon who stepped aside from clinical practice for a decade to explore a number of career paths, including health informatics, cycling journalism, public speaking and high street retail with his wife.
He is now back in the healing profession, tackling the root cause of chronic mental stress and its many harmful effects by helping clients reconnect to their natural, inbuilt state of health. He lives and works in the Brecon Beacons National Park with his wife and 6 year old daughter.
As human beings, we are designed to default to a setting which is at peace and happy. The problem is that so often our thinking gets in the way of this, causing feelings which make us feel that something is dreadfully wrong.
Whilst feelings can be a useful indicator light to what’s going on with our thinking – they are rarely ‘ the absolute truth’ .Giles believes that if we can just stop trying to ‘do stuff’ to make ourselves feel better, and just leave ourselves to default to our innate factory settings, and live in the present, we will feel- and think much better, and our stress will disappear.
We chat about how to avoid secondary suffering by layering unhelpful thoughts on top of events and talk about the ‘soft flute of intuition’ which will help tell us what we really need in any given moment.
Giles’s top 3 tips are:
- Ask yourself ‘where are my feelings coming from right now?’
- Look at your hands regularly to stay in the present moment. The present is all there is
- Go back and listen to the podcast again – change comes through insight
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Sheela Hobden, Professional Certified Coach, wellbeing expert and fellow Shapes Toolkit facilitator. We talk about why rest isn’t just important for wellbeing, but important for productivity and creativity too.
As doctors and other professionals, we can think that rest is just for other people, that we are superhuman and that we just need to keep going until we have just finished…. (fill in the blank). The reality is that our work is never done and if we wait until a convenient break in our schedule to rest and recharge then we’ll never take a break.
We discuss tips and strategies for planning short and longer breaks and Sheela shares with us her top summer 2020 holiday survival tips:
Take time out (clear your physical space of work clutter, use voicemail and out of office)
- Go tourist – rediscover where you live with new eyes
- Catch some rays – make the most of the early mornings and light evenings
- Have a plan B (for when rain or other stuff stops play)
- Go funny – laughing is ALWAYS good for you
- Connect with other (a staple on this show!)
We’ve put together a summer survival toolkit full of hints and tips from our favourite wellbeing experts, GPs, leadership specialists and coaches. You can download it here.
You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/stop-start-continue
We’re taking a dose of our own medicine and are going to take August off (we need it!). So do check out our back catalogue of podcasts over the summer – there are some gems there! A good summer listen would be How to be an Adult, or Eff it Living ). Thank you SO MUCH for your support over the last year – the podcast has been a great success and we couldn’t have done it without you! We’ll be back on 1st September.
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Rest: Why you get more done when you work less by Alex Soojung-Kimm Pang
Positive Psychology in the Pandemic – a 60 second lecture from Martin Seligman
We Will Get Through This Michael Bungay Stanier podcast
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Shani Langdon, a Clinical Psychologist specialising in mindfulness-based approaches. In this episode we discuss Acceptance and Commitment therapy a powerful way to deal with emotions and move forwards in our lives.
Shani is an ACT practitioner and we discuss the three stages, firstly how we can choose to fuse with our thoughts and fully integrate and identify with them or choose to let them go, secondly how we can help ourselves accept the feelings that may be there without trying to change anything. Finally, acting consistently with our values allows us to take action rather than just stewing in our own thoughts.
We chat about the importance of approaching thoughts and feelings with curiosity rather like David Attenborough examining a new species of insect, and how mindfulness techniques can help with this, help us feel grounded and also help increase our self-compassion.
Finally, we discuss Russ Harris’s (author of The Happiness Trap) FACE COVID principles developed during the COVID crisis that help us to focus on what’s in our control, acknowledge our thoughts and feelings and open ourselves up to committed action.
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Shani’s website which has a resources page with links to support on offer during the COVID crisis, and details of upcoming courses which she runs with Elinor Brown is:
www.beinghumantogether.co.uk
Find Shani on LinedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shani-langdon-a656a1107/
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Russ Harris' website with details of his FACE COVID offerings (on the home page), books, courses and other resources:
https://www.actmindfully.com.au
The ACBS website for lots more information about ACT:
https://contextualscience.org/
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In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.
This is the sixth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.
In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors and other professionals working on the frontline keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.
In this episode we discuss COVID boredom – yes it’s a thing and yes, it’s possible to be totally bored even while busy. We talk about the factors that are increasing our boredom and think about what we can do to avoid making drastic and rash changes that won’t help.
To combat boredom, we need to connect more to our meaning and purpose in life. Getting busier and busier won’t help, sometimes we need to dig down deeper and stay in the present moment rather than just distracting ourselves with less than helpful coping strategies.
Changing things up a bit – even just changing your environment or what you eat every day can be helpful. We all need to grow and develop so finding something that offers a challenge can be the best way to beat boredom, be it learning a new skill, taking a course or just doing something outside our comfort zone.
Our top tips are:
Caroline:
- Connect to your meaning
- Connect to your purpose
Rachel:
- Stay in your zone of power – work out what you have control over
- Keep learning and challenging yourself
- Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater!
Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
Contact Caroline – caroline@joyfuldoctor.com Twitter @joyful_doctor
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie, GP and Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course presenter. We chat about lockdown, what’s we’ve hated about it, how it’s affected us but also the things that we’ve learned about ourselves, our families and our work.
Many of us have found we’ve had more time and space as activities have been cancelled, many of us have found that we have no time and space at all (depending on our home circumstances) but it’s fair to say that most of us have struggled with the lack of contact with people. We discuss how this lack of informal interaction can erode relationships with work colleagues as we’ve lost the small check ins which mean we can trust each other more and sort out small issues with minimal fuss.
We talk through the Stop Start Continue model where we learn lessons from what’s gone on and plan how we’re going to do things differently.
Jamie’s top 3 tips are
- Take stop start continue seriously and invest time in thinking about it
- Write it down
- Collaborate – talk it through with friends and colleagues.
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The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry John Mark Comer Book
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dame Jane Dacre, Ex-President of the Royal College of Physicians, Consultant Rheumatologist, Author of the Gender Pay Gap in Medicine Report and President of the MPS
We talk about the gender pay gap, why it has happened and what effect this has on us. Being a professional woman in medicine (and other professions) is easier than it used to be but there’s still a lot of inequality in the system.
We talk about the societal expectations that there are on women and the micro and macro changes that people can make both in their own lives and in the system. Changing the system makes it better for EVERYONE. As doctors and professionals, we’re not necessarily expected or trained to change the system, but we need to look up and operate at a higher level. Jane talks about the need to stand back and think about how we can all do things in a better way.
‘Isn’t it time you became a full-time skiver rather than a part-time matryr’. This was said to Jane when she was training, and it had a huge effect on her. This prompted her to make changes in her life. We chat about how we can be patronised by all sorts of people (including John Humphries!) and how to respond by calling it out with zero tolerance.
Jane’s top tips are
- Be assertive without being strident or aggressive
- Hang on in there – it will all be alright in the end
- If you don’t make mistakes you don’t learn.
- Find a non-confrontational way to fix systems that are unhelpful
- Recognise change happens slowly
- Encourage women to step up
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Podcast links
Gender pay gap in medicine interim report
Follow Jane on Twitter @DacreJane
You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here
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View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Gary Hughes, author of the book Leadership in Practice, blogger, educator and facilitator who is a Practice Manager by day.
We chat about how leadership in the COVID-19 crisis has had to adapt, and the different roles that a leader has had to take. Whether you are leading an organisation, a small team or even just working in a group of colleagues, compassion, kindness and clarity has never been more important.
We talk about the three phases of the response to any crisis – the preparation period, the active period and the recovery period. People’s behaviours can be very different through the three phases varying from kindness and support to disillusionment, fatigue and let’s face it, some plain old bad behaviour!
Setting clear boundaries, and knowing a clear vision for yourself, your team and your organisation is key. There is also a need to be fair and lead by example.
Gary’s top tips for leading through into the recovery phase are:
- Get clarity on where you are heading – and communicate this to the team
- Reflect what you want to stop, start and continue (get our stop/start/continue checklist tool here insert link)
- Work out what else you need for the journey ahead – learning? Skills? Resources?
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Sign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here
https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2q
Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit
Find Gary on LinkedIn
Check out his latest blog here https://www.linkedin.com/posts/gary-hughes-b9070625_leading-the-recovery-from-a-crisis-weve-activity-6680877420448489472-CVhW
The BPS Psychological Needs of Healthcare Staff as a Result of the Coronavirus Pandemic article and resources
View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme - https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
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In this episode, Rachel chats with Annie Hanekom, Leadership and Team Facilitator and Coach and Certified Enneagram Practitioner
We chat about the Enneagram – an ancient way of understanding ourselves, our personality and our responses to others. This has been a very powerful way that people have understood themselves and others over hundreds of years which has enjoyed a resurgence recently. We discuss why it can be such a powerful tool for self-awareness and chat about the insights it can bring – on a really deep level.
Health warning! Remember – the enneagram is a lens of looking at the world. No model is absolutely true but models can be helpful!
We talk about the 9 different enneagram types and how each type may be responding in the Coronavirus crisis. We explore the key areas for development and what the opportunities are now for each type to live life in a fuller and more meaningful way.
Annie’s top tips to get more self-aware are:
- Take the time to notice what your instant reaction to something is...interrogate what’s really going on.
- Ask, is this the most useful thing I could do?
- Then ask, what’s a better way to respond?
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube
Sign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here - https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2q
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Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit
Connect with Annie on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-hanekom-99591b/
Contact Annie Annie@proteus.training
Integrative 9 Enneagram info
Podcast The Road Back to You – all about the different Enneagram types. https://www.theroadbacktoyou.com/podcast
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Something a little different this week -we’re going back to an interview that was recorded just before the COVID crisis hit us.
In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ebonie Allard, an award-winning life and business coach, author of Misfit to Maven: The Story of AARCH to AAHH and host of the popular podcast ‘Adulting with Ebonie’
We chat about how to live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside which includes taking just the right amount of responsibility for yourself and for others. We discuss the control problems that people in high stakes, high stress jobs often have – either taking too much control or not enough control and think about the core values that will help us to filter all our decisions and determine what our success is in life.
Once you know what your core values are, it becomes much easier to decide what to say ‘yes’ and what to say ‘no’ to.
Ebonie’s three top pieces of advice are:
- Become curious about stuff in your life – without judgement
- Get clear on what you actually want. What are your needs? What are your desires?
- Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). What’s your next best option if Plan A doesn’t look like it’s going to work…?
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Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here
Listen to Rachel’s interview on ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ here https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/
Here’s Ebonie’s podcast https://adultingwithebonie.com
Find out about Ebonie’s work here https://ebonieallard.com
Follow Ebonie on twitter
Misfit to Maven: The story of AAGH to AAHH book
View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme - https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-forms
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This week Rachel is thrilled to welcome back Jane Gunn – lawyer, mediator and expert in conflict resolution who has been known as the Corporate Peacemaker. This episode is for you if the thought of addressing a difficult issue with one of your colleagues send you running for the hills…
When the Coronavirus crisis first hit, we collectively started to behave a bit better – give each other a break and make allowances but as time has gone on, our old ways of behaving coupled with anxiety, uncertainty and stress may well have made old issues raise their ugly head (a bit like Christmas with the relatives which has gone on a bit too long!).
In this episode, Rachel and Jane talk about why this has started to happen and discuss what can happen if conflict is left to fester. Often conflict which hasn’t been addressed escalates quickly and Jane shares the ladder of escalation steps which help to explain what’s going on. We talk about how you get off this ladder with simple techniques for having important conversations, the importance of listening and of really trying to dig down into the real issue.
We chat about the importance of having an easy to follow process in an organisation that doesn’t rely on grievances but instead empowers people to have these conversations early and how modelling vulnerability as a leader can make this possible.
Jane’s top tips for managing conflict are:
- Take the time to write down what you want to say and what you really want before you have the conversation
- Listen to and be honest with yourself and others
- Try to de-escalate as much as possible (make a molehill out of a mountain!)
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Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit
Contact Jane at jane@janegunn.co.uk
http://www.janegunn.co.uk
You can access Jane’s 10-part video series from my renowned “Solved By Midnight” programme’ here http://janegunn.co.uk/managing-conflict-in-times-of-change-challenge-crisis/
Civility Save Lives TED Talk Dr Chris Turner - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RUIhjwCDO0
View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/support-your-team-webinar
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme - https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/
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In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.
This is the fifth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.
In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors and other professionals working on the frontline keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.
In this episode we discuss COVID fatigue, how many of us seem to be more tired than we would expect – even though we’re going to bed at a reasonable hour and may have more opportunity than usual for rest. This fatigue is caused by many factors which include our background anxiety and stress, the fact that it’s harder to interact regularly with those people who re-energise us and also the fact that doing things virtually can be completely draining.
We chat about strategies to look after ourselves, our families and colleagues and discuss practical things you can do which will make a difference.
Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
Contact Caroline – caroline@joyfuldoctor.com Twitter @joyful_doctor
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkit
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here.
Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group
Shapes for Doctors Website http://www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website http://shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/podcast-CPD-forms
For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts
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In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee, a portfolio GP with a special interest in occupational health, a Next Gen GP lead and the RCGP First5 Wellbeing lead as well as mother to two small children.
We talk about the power of positivity and how this works during difficult times such as those we are experiencing right now. Ami is undertaking a Masters in Positive Psychology and we discuss some of the positive psychology principles and research around how this can help us.
Keeping a list of things we are grateful for, creating an album of meaningful photos and reflecting on why they are meaningful are two ways in which we can increase our positivity – which the helps to re-wire our brains.
We discuss the importance of accepting what we can and can’t control, the importance of autonomy and purpose in our lives and chat about the small and practical changes we can all make to increase these elements in our work and home life.
Ami’s top tips:
- Plan positivity
- Do team check-ins regularly
- Remember the basic stuff – it’s OK to laugh.
Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Access the free Shapes Webinar ‘How to support your team through the COVID crisis without trying to fix it for everyone’ here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/support-your-team-webinar
Watch Ami and Rachel’s FMLM webinar on wellbeing here https://www.fmlm.ac.uk/resources/webinar-maintaining-your-wellbeing-through-covid-19
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk
Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here.
Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here.
Follow Ami on twitter @YourwellbeingDr
Here’s her website https://yourwellbeing.doctor/
Get in touch with her Amrita@yourwellbeing.doctor
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/777257999463566/
Shapes for Doctors Website http://www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website http://shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/
The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
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This week Rachel chats with Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour A self confessed neuroscience nerd, Gitanjali is on a mission to liberate our brains. As The Possiblist Coach she increases her client's resilience, confidence and impact; liberating them from overthinking so they are empowered to see what's possible. She is also the Founder of the leadership development company, High Definition You. If you’d like to see the slide on social styles then why don’t you watch this episode on YouTube? (insert link)
In the COVID crisis you may be trying to be kind and make allowances for people, but it’s hard! We chat about how we can all act in stressful situations – becoming an ‘uber’ version of, if we’re honest, not always our best selves.
Gita uses the social styles model to talk through a simple way of thinking about how we behave and respond to others in our teams and families. Some of us assert our opinion more easily than others and some of us are able to control how we express things and are perhaps more task focussed than others. This shows up in how we interact – and crucially how people clash under pressure.
We discuss the different styles and chat about how we can change our own behaviour to get the best out of people.
Gita’s top tips are:
- Be kind to yourself
- Create some time to reflect on yourself and how you are experienced?
- Seek out some feedback from others about how you are experienced by them
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You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here (where you can also see the social styles slide)
Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here
Website: http://highdefinitionyou.com
For personal self coaching tips go to: http://highdefinitionyou.com/videos
To be the first to know about what's coming up next from Gitanjali go to: http://highdefinitionyou.com/waitlist
Gita is launching a brand new group coaching programme – find it here
https://highdefinitionyou.com/80daysregister/
To get weekly top tips and inspiration go to: https://highdefinitionyou.com/yesplease/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linkinwithgitanjali/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gitanjali_hdyou/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/highdefinitionyou/
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
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In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.
This is the fourth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.
In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.
In this episode, we talk about the unrealistic expectations we have of ourselves right now. Perhaps we think we should be doing more to help? Improving ourselves? Doing that CPD we’ve never got round to doing? Spring cleaning the house or making our garden perfect? Yet many of us are finding that we’re just not able to do all this right now and our productivity seems to be lower than we’d like.
This is OK.
We need to adjust our expectations of ourselves (rather than ‘lower’ them)
As doctors, we are so often driven by our need to ‘do’ and our need to help. We judge our worth by what we’ve achieved and so when we feel uncomfortable emotions such as anxiety or sadness we turn quickly to action to ‘fix’ the problem.
Caroline and Rachel chat about the need for self-compassion and about how to recognise the emotions we are feeling. We discuss the vital question we need to ask ourselves ‘What do I need right now’ and also chat about how we can find it hard to receive help and compassion from others.
Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
Contact Caroline – caroline@joyfuldoctor.com Twitter @joyful_doctor
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here
Podcast links
Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group
The Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com
Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website www.shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/
The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and
Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
In this episode, Rachel is joined by Corrina Gordon Barnes, a Certified Professional Coactive Coach (CPCC), facilitator of The Work and trained teacher.
We chat about how, during the coronavirus crisis, some of our thoughts and ways of thinking can be causing us needless suffering. Corrina has discovered a practice called ‘The Work’ which has been transformational in her life and now uses this approach to help people question their thoughts and limit the suffering that they may be experiencing as a result.
So often in our lives we are plagued by thoughts of ‘it shouldn’t be this way’, ‘it’s not fair’, ‘they should do this or that’. Corrina explains why arguing with reality is never successful and talks us through the simple yet profound process that can free us from these anxious thoughts.
Corrina is facing the loss of her grandmother and we use the work to talk through this scenario; she also shares how this process has helped her to come to terms with the loss of her baby son Alfie over the last couple of years.
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Podcast links
Find out more about Corrina’s work here https://corrinagordonbarnes.com
Here’s Byron Katie’s website all about The Work https://thework.com
BMA Wellbeing Service https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles
Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk
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In this episode, Rachel is joined again by Dr Katherine Hickman, GP, mentor and Tiny Habits Coach and Respiratory Lead in Yorkshire.
In the midst of the COVID crisis, many of us are glued to the latest news, constantly on Facebook or WhatsApp replying to colleagues, friends and family and, to be, honest, some of it isn’t that helpful in terms of keeping well, reducing our stress and staying calm through the crisis.
We talk about how to use the Tiny Habits behavioural change approach to help us to limit the amount of time we spend consuming news and social media and to stop us automatically checking our phones whenever we have a break in our work, or if our attention is wandering.
To change a habit, we need to start small and make it easy. We discuss some quick wins such as growing a tree on your phone, activating the Facebook timer and also turning off all your notifications and putting your social media apps all together in a folder a long way from your home screen.
If you want to know more about the Tiny Habits approach, then do check out Episode 2 of You Are Not A Frog, where Katherine shares even more about this approach.
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here
Podcast links
Tiny habits: The small changes that change everything BJ Fogg book
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
https://www.katherinehickmancoaching.com/about
Follow Katherine on twitter @kchickman
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles
Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk
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Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker, The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors & host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.
This is the third in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.
In these difficult times, Caroline & Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game, stay focussed & resilient.
In this episode, we talk about moral injury - the distress we feel when our actions (or lack of them) violate our moral or ethical code. Doctors are already being asked to work in ways that are alien to them and may feel quite wrong. We have been trained to care for the patient in front of us, and it becomes hard when we have to make difficult decisions which have a huge impact.
We chat about the sorts of moral injury that frontline workers may experience, the role of ethical guidance and individual decision making and discuss the sorts of symptoms you may experience if you are suffering from moral injury.
Connecting with others, having regular check-ins, not neglecting the basics in caring for yourselves and your teams are ways to help prepare for what may come. If you are suffering, speaking to other people, making sure you don’t do this alone and getting the professional support and advice you need early will help.
Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
Contact Caroline – caroline@joyfuldoctor.com Twitter @joyful_doctor
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here
You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here
Podcast links
24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group
The Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com
Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website www.shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/
The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
For more episodes, check out You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
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In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Jonathan Griffiths, a portfolio GP from Nantwich who is also a blogger, a TEDx Speaker and Primary Care Adviser to the STP.
In this episode, we talk about Jonathan’s experience of losing his young son to a rare haematological condition and his journey of a slow recovery following this huge loss. We chat about the need to be kind to yourself, know your limits and boundaries and how to return to work when the time comes.
We talk about how we can apply the lessons Jonathan learnt during that time to our experiences in the Coronavirus crisis and we discuss the enormous power of exercise in helping us cope with stress, anxiety and a whole other range of emotions.
Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here
You can watch the podcast on YouTube here
Podcast links
Read Jonathan’s blog www.drjongriffiths.wordpress.com
His TEDx talk is at https://youtu.be/-BfcvI49GCw
Twitter @drjongriffiths
Connect with him on linkedIn http://linkedin.com/in/jonathan-griffiths-13623473
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group
Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join my Facebook group The Shapes Collective here
Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk
Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)
In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.
This is the second in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.
In these difficult times, we're working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.
In this episode, we talk about the sadness and sense of loss that we are all feeling at the moment. Grief brings with it many different emotions and reactions – from shock and denial through to extreme sadness and anger. Many of us are experiencing a lot of these emotions right now and IT’S OK AND NORMAL to feel like this.
When we suppress our emotions for too long it can be bad for us. We discuss how to release the emotions in a healthy way which doesn’t catch anyone in the crossfire and how accepting what we are feeling and making allowances for others to feel that way too is crucial in times like these. Our top tips are:
Caroline
- Feel the emotion
- Vent your anger healthily and safely
- Share your sadness with others – we’re in this together
Rachel
- Give yourself time and space to allow yourself to experience the emotions and let them settle.
- Make room for joy in your life – even when it’s hard out there
- Make extra allowances for yourself and others
Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
Contact Rachel – rachel@wildmonday.co.uk Twitter - @DrRachel Morris
Contact Caroline – caroline@joyfuldoctor.com Twitter @joyful_doctor
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Podcast links
Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group
The Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com
Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk
Tea and empathy Facebook group
The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris
BMA Wellbeing Service
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
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In this special episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast. This is the first in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: How to manage our stress and anxiety through the crisis.
In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.
In this episode, we talk about the huge amount of anxiety that doctors are experiencing right now and recognise that this is normal. We chat about the different sorts of threat that we are all experiencing and how we can make things worse for ourselves if we get into particular patterns of thinking.
We discuss some of the ways in which we can proactively manage our anxiety and stress, and suggest tips and techniques which will make a practical difference wherever we work.
Finally we share some books, resources and website which we think will be useful. This is an ongoing project so we’d love to hear what would be helpful to you. Please contact us if you have any comments or suggestions or have any useful resources to share, or just want to say hello!
Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.
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Watch the video on YouTube https://youtu.be/j2LQEpJPfcM
The Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com
Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.com
You Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk
The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris
The Power of Vulnerability TED Talk by Brenee Brown
BMA Wellbeing Service
The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme for Confidence, Success and Happiness by Prof Steve Peters
Calm app
Headspace app
Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Williams and Danny Penman
The NHS Practitioner Health Programme
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Richard Husseiny, an ex-olympic strength and conditioning coach and the founder of the conscious life collective, an alternative framework for wellbeing.
We chat about his experiences working with Olympic athletes and the techniques they use to control their stress before the big event. Mild stress helps our performance to increase but pretty quickly our performance peaks, too much stress and our performance starts to dip. Activating the parasympathetic nervous system through simple actions such as breathing exercises can be incredibly helpful for bringing us back into a high-performance state.
We talk about the concept of flow – the extraordinary state where time may stand still or speed up, we have adequate challenge and are being stretched and we are totally absorbed in what we do. This is linked with wellbeing protective factors – learning a new skill is a great way to get into flow. If you experience flow regularly then life satisfaction goes up and things are much better.
We discuss strategies to get into flow more regularly and Richard gives his top 3 tips to stay resilient and manage stress. These are:
1) Access breathing techniques
2) Focus on your deep work without interruption
3) Work out what is it that you actually WANT to do and eliminate the non-virtuous guilt
Podcast linksSign up for the Beat Stress and Thrive online course and community here
https://www.husseinyperformance.com
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Bounce by Matthew Syed
The Breathing App Edward Stern
When the body says no: The cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabriel Mate
https://www.flowgenomeproject.com
https://powerspeedendurance.com
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In this episode, Rachel talks about the worrying statistics about burnout and exhaustion in doctors and discusses some of the reasons why burnout is on the increase.
There are some uncomfortable truths about burnout
- Doctors are not immune – in fact perfectionist tendencies and increased engagement with their jobs make them more prone to burnout
- In the ICD 11 codes, the WHO have newly classified Burnout Syndrome as caused by a toxic workplace culture and unmanaged stress
- No-one else is going to take control for you – you have to make changes yourself
Rachel talks about strategies to prevent stress and presents a crucial mindset shift that is needed in order to beat burnout. Getting mastery of our jobs and the tools we need to stay resilient is the first step. We also need to get a supportive community around us to challenge us and help us to think issues through.
Finally, we need autonomy in our work life, and the ability to take control over our wellbeing, our stress and our time. Time is a big issue - we often feel we don’t have enough time to do everything that is required of us, let alone find time to plan how we will make changes, so Rachel provides a helpful tool – the Thrive Week Planner which you can download to help plan what a good working week looks like in which you can thrive.
We’d love you to join the Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe Rachel’s brand new online course and membership community for doctors under pressure which will help you to do all of this. This special offer is for a limited time only – the community is open for new members until 17th March 2020 (if you have missed this offer, sign up to the mailing list to be the first to know about future course and community intakes and events). Find out more details about the Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe here
Podcast links
https://www.gmc-uk.org/-/media/documents/caring-for-doctors-caring-for-patients_pdf-80706341.pdf
https://bjgp.org/content/bjgp/69/684/e507.full.pdf
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown
The online course and membership community Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Laurence McCahill, co-founder of the Happy Startup School, an alternative business school and thriving community of entrepreneurs that put happiness before profits.
We chat about the importance of knowing what we really want before setting vision and goals. What would life be like if we designed how we want to live and then created careers that work around this?
We discuss how to create your ideal working week. Download my free ‘Thrive Week’ tool in the podcast links below. By getting real about how much time we are spending on certain things and making some difficult decisions that will help us feel less overloaded. One of the questions we should ask ourselves whenever we are exploring a new opportunity or asked to take on new work is ‘at what cost?’ – and remember to measure this not just in monetary terms but in terms of energy, enjoyment and fulfilment.
Podcast links
Download our free Thrive Week tool to help you design your ideal week.
http://www.thehappystartupschool.com
Contact Laurence at laurence@happystartup.co
The online course and membership community Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Jane Gunn, a ex-lawyer, mediator, trainer and expert in resolving conflict in the workplace. Jane is known as the ‘Corporate Peacemaker’ and works with GPs, doctors and professionals in other organisations and partnerships.
We talk about why we delay or deny conflict and the problems that we can cause when we sweep stuff under the carpet for fear of addressing issues. We discuss how it’s useful to have a ‘conflict resolution’ strategy hard baked into the organisation or the partnership agreement so that things are addressed quickly without having to go through HR, so that there is an obvious process that can be followed.
Often conflict escalates because we don’t take the time to listen to the other person and really understand where they are coming from. Jane talks about a simple process to help us bring up an issue – say how you feel, explain the potential impact …then shut up and listen! When we truly understand where the other person is coming from, often the solution becomes obvious and we can move forwards. Knowing what the conflict is really about and what need the outcome to be is also helpful.
Podcast links
Good to Great by Jim Collins
Getting to Yes by Fisher and Ury
The 5 Dysfunctions of a team: A leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni
Here is the link to Jane’s website www.janegunn.co.uk and mini video series www.janegunn.co.uk/solved-by-midnight/
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Nicky Odgers, an Educational Psychologist, an ex-teacher and one of her go-to people for practical and sound advice!
We chat about how a fixed mindset can impact us, from increasing perfectionism to a fear of failure which can paralyse us, stop us from giving our best at work and can be incredibly stressful. We chat about how this fixed mindset may have come about – particularly if you grew up in the 80’s or 90’s, and we discuss how we can foster a healthier growth mindset in ourselves and others.
Whilst no-one wants to be criticized or to fail, this is where real growth occurs for us and we talk about how to take failure as ‘feedback’ and why, if you’re not failing at something regularly, you might not be developing at all.
Podcast links
Carol Dweck TED talk
Mindset: Change the way you think to fulfil your potential - a book by Carol Dweck
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In this ‘Ask the Frog’ episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Riaz Jetha, Dr Jamie Wyllie and Dr Jo Scrivens, some of the Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course authors and presenters.
We chat about how the pressures of our duty doctor days can turn us from rational human beings into monsters, where our inner chimp is let loose and we end up behaving in a manner which surprises even us.
We discuss simple techniques to help manage our chimps and our behaviour and talk about how important it is to give ourselves space, to show compassion to ourselves and others – treating people as human beings rather than just another demand on our time.
Connecting with others during the day, taking regular breaks and seeing what small things we can re-order in our work can help, as well as recognising that managing our own emotions is part and parcel of being a healthcare professional.
Podcast links
The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness
Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box, the Arbinger Institute
Dr Riaz Jetha on LinkedIn
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ruth Cocksedge a Practitioner Psychologist who started her career as a mental health nurse. She practices in Cambridge and has a particular interest in EMDR for PTSD and creative writing as a way to improve mental health and wellbeing.
We chat about EMDR and how it can help with PTSD, and discuss some antidotes to anxiety and stress such as mindfulness and self-compassion. So much of how we feel is a result of our own self-talk and learning to be kind to ourselves and treat ourselves how we would treat our best friend will help alleviate anxiety.
We discuss how Ruth discovered creative writing as a way to good mental wellbeing and her journey into teaching creative writing for wellbeing. Learning and playing is one of the ways to wellbeing and anything which helps us get into flow and express what we are thinking and feeling can be extremely powerful in relieving feelings of stress and anxiety.
Ruth’s top tips:
1) Be kind to yourself
2) Recognise you are human
3) Treat yourself how you would treat your best friend
Extra info:
Ruth plans to run a Creative Writing for Well-being group for six weeks in the Spring. This will run on a Saturday morning or an evening for 2 hours in Cambridge, start date to be confirmed. Course aim: to improve the well-being of participants by giving them opportunities to write creatively and develop their ability to express themselves in writing, for enjoyment, personal development and to tell their stories.
Do email Ruth for more information and to express an interest.
Podcast links
Mindfulness meditations from Jon Kabat-Zinn https://www.mindfulnesscds.com
Breaking and mending by Joanna Cannon https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Mending-doctors-stories-compassion/dp/1788160576/
Find out more about Ruth http://www.cambridgecbt.com/our-therapists/ruth-cocksedge/
Contact Ruth ruth.cocksedge@icloud.com
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Tara Humphrey, Founder and CEO of THC
Primary Care and host of the podcast ‘The Business of Healthcare with Tara
Humphrey’
We chat about the main mistakes GPs and other professionals make when trying to
run a business, either trying to do everything themselves or not paying enough
attention to the business side of things. Even if we don’t run a practice, many of us
are self-employed and are running ourselves as a business!
Time is often our limiting factor and there just isn’t enough time to get everything
done that we need to. This can be profoundly frustrating and lead to all kinds of
stress. Tara chats about the need for strategic planning both in our own lives and for
our businesses and partnerships and how setting goals not just for the day but the
next 90 days can be vital. We also discuss how getting help can be a life-saver, be it
admin support or coaching to help you set priorities.
Tara’s top tips:
1) Write down your priorities for the next 90 days
2) Plan your day before you start work
3) Block off time to do things that refuel you
4) Ask for help when you can
Podcast links
Contact Tara tara@thcprimarycare.co.uk
Tara’s website can be found here: https://www.thcprimarycare.co.uk/
Here is the link to all Tara’s Business of Healthcare Podcast episodes:
http://thebusinessofhealthcare.libsyn.com/
Find THC on twitter: @THCPrimarycare
And linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tarahumphreythc/
Read our blog where we share leadership insights on how to improve the delivery of your
projects: https://www.thcprimarycare.co.uk/blog
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Essentialism by Greg McKeown https://www.amazon.co.uk/Essentialism-Disciplined-
Pursuit-Greg-McKeown/dp/0753555166
Eat that Frog https://www.amazon.co.uk/Eat-That-Frog-Important-Things/dp/1444765426
Amy Porterfield podcast on boundaries https://www.amyporterfield.com/2020/01/296/
The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Boy-Mole-Fox-Horse/dp/1529105102
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie for another Ask the Frog episode
We chat about what happens when work starts to seep into every aspect of our lives. How to create a ‘third space’ between work and home so that we get ourselves out of work mode to be fully present in parent / partner / friend mode.
We think about what we can do to stop ourselves obsessing about unfinished work and how perhaps the ‘inbox to zero’ mindset can be unhelpful when this just might not be possible.
Finally, we talk about how taking control over aspects of our time such as doing our best work at our best time and scheduling in work catch up time that is under our control just might help us to feel freer and get a better quality of life at home.
Podcast links
https://ideas.ted.com/never-take-a-bad-work-day-home-again-using-these-3-steps/
The pomodoro technique https://francescocirillo.com/pages/pomodoro-technique
Starving the Anxiety Gremlin book
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In this episode, Rachel is joined again by Dr Nik Kendrew, self-confessed self-help bookaholic to chat about books and apps that have made an impact on their lives recently.
We chat about how reading self-help books sometimes gets a bad press and how we, personally get an immense amount of value from them. Amongst other recommendations, Nik talks about ‘The Little Book of Resilience’ by Matthew Johnstone and the effect that this book has had on him, from understanding how we all put on a ‘show face’ to taking hold of the principle that ‘It’s OK to not feel OK’.
We also talk about the enormous pressure that GPs are under and the importance of looking after yourself, seeking help where necessary and identifying some of those thoughts we believe are facts but are, in fact, just thoughts after all.
Podcast links
The Little Book of Resilience, Matthew Johnstone
Headspace App
https://drchatterjee.com/blog/category/podcast/
Stress Proof: The ultimate guide to living a stress free life Dr Mithu Stonroni
Follow Nik on Twitter @nikkendrew
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Hussain Ghandi aka Dr Gandalf, GP, PCN Director, creator of eGPLearning and host of the popular eGPLearning Podblast
We chat about how to be more efficient and effective by making those tiny, incremental changes which, when added up will save us a whole heap of time. We delve into Ghandi’s daily routine to find out how he can fit so much in and discuss simple productivity hacks that GPs, doctors and people in other busy jobs can use – no tech needed!
Ghandi shares his top 3 tips for GPs: Do the biggest and most unpleasant tasks first, batch up your tasks so that you do the same things at the same time and – the quickest and easiest to do – turn off your notifications! This helps you to avoid the trap of multitasking (or attention diversion as it’s otherwise known).
Podcast links
https://egplearning.co.uk
Dr Rachel Morris video interview about resilience on the eGPLearning podblast
Follow Ghandi on twitter @drgandalf52 @egplearning
https://hbr.org/2019/11/how-remote-workers-make-work-friends
https://calendly.com
https://todo.microsoft.com/tasks/
Ike to do app
The Miracle Morning: The 6 habits that will transform your life before 8am book
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by John C Parkin, author of the bestselling Fk It: The ultimate spiritual way, to talk about the powerful philosophy behind the Fk It mentality, and how using it can make our lives better.
We chat about how the phrase F**k it is so powerful as it helps us form a bridge from our left brain to our right brain to access the very powerful, creative aspects of brains – the part of ourselves which lives in the present and helps us to truly relax. We discuss the concept that one of the reasons why we feel so stressed is that we attach too much meaning to too many things (what other people think of us being a prime example). When we relax, others relax and we get better outcomes in both work and life.
We discuss how the F**k It principle might help busy doctors even with things that matter very much and how a bit of self-coaching (anabolic coaching – you heard it here first!) can help us to get some perspective, work out what really makes a difference in life, move forwards and take action to overcome stress and overload.
Podcast links
https://www.thefuckitlife.com
Follow John on twitter @thefuckitlife
F**k It: The ultimate spiritual way book
The Effect of Swearing of Strength and Power Performance, Keele University
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie co-author and presenter of the Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course.
This is an ‘Ask the Frog’ episode where we chat about a question that we are often asked by GPs – how do I influence someone who is set in their ways, resistant to change and autocratic? We discuss the need to get on the same branch as them, to recognise what their thoughts and feelings are and ultimately, understand what their needs are.
We discuss what it is to be a partner (not just in the legal sense of the word) which includes creating a shared purpose, the right to say no, joint accountability and absolute honesty – something that, if we are honest, very few of us really achieve. We talk about ways to improve relationships in the team and the fact that only thing we have full control of is ourselves.
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The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Patrick Lencioni
Stewardship: Choosing Service Over Self-Interest, Peter Block
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr James Thambyrajah, a portfolio GP and the outgoing South West Thames Faculty RCGP First5 lead.
We chat about how James approaches his work, and the difference in outlook between newly qualified GPs and those of us who are in their mid or late career.
We talk about healthy ways to approach our work and the importance of maintaining a good life – work balance, making time for what is important.
Mental health problems and burnout are also prevalent in First5 GPs and we talk about how a supportive peer group can help in dealing with the stress. We discuss how work can become bearable when we have good connections at work and how we can build these connections even in the midst of a busy schedule.
Since recording this podcast, James and his wife have had a new baby – congratulations James!
Podcast links:
Follow James on twitter @JThambyrajah
RCGP First 5 https://www.rcgp.org.uk/first5
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jo Scrivens, Portfolio GP, Cambridgeshire LMC member and Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course co-presenter.
We chat about what happened when her Mother died following a diagnosis of cancer. Jo speaks about how this affected her, how she coped with going through the diagnosis and treatment process with her family and how she managed her family and work whilst this was all going on.
We talk about the relief she felt when a Macmillan nurse told Jo she would treat her as a relative and not a doctor, and discuss how important it is to be able to be in the role of a friend or relative and not a member of the medical profession when you are coping with losing a loved one.
Jo shares some of the books and other resources that have helped her and shares some insights she gained about herself and the dying process.
Podcast links
Thinking Out Loud: Love, Grief and Being Mum and Dad, Rio Ferdinand
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy, Sheryl Sandberg
Resilient Grieving, Lucy Hone
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In this episode, Rachel is joined once again by Dr Liz O’Riordan, the ‘Breast Surgeon with Breast Cancer’, TEDx speaker, author, blogger, triathlete and all round superstar who has been nominated for ‘Woman of the Year’. She is also an BMA Award-winning co-author of ‘The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take control’.
We chat about the many books in the F**k it genre of books, particularly the ones by Liz’s favourite author Sarah Knight. We chat about how these books have been so helpful as they highlight how we all waste a whole load of time and energy caring what other people think of us and worrying about the wrong things, which in turn wastes emotional energy and doesn’t contribute to our happiness at all.
We discuss how to change your mindset so that you can let go of the things you really can’t control and chat about how once you’ve let go of your attachments to certain things, it becomes a lot easier to move through life lightly and with less stress.
*Please note that as you can imagine, this episode contains some swearing.
Podcast links
http://liz.oriordan.co.uk
https://twitter.com/Liz_ORiordan
The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take control
The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k, Sarah Knight
Calm the F**k Down, Sarah Knight
F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way, John C. Parkin
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Agnes Otzelberger, a trainer, research and activist with a special interest in what happens when we tire of ‘doing good’.
We chat about what can happen to carers, healthcare staff and humanitarian workers when they become overwhelmed and burnt out by the magnitude of the needs and the suffering of the people they are dealing with on a day to day basis. We discuss how the symptoms affect us and ultimately can make us disillusioned and can end up with us leaving our job or becoming ill.
This has traditionally been known as ‘compassion fatigue’ but the surprising thing is that neuroscience has shown that compassion fatigue doesn’t actually exist – what we end up suffering from is ‘empathic burnout’ or ‘fatigue’. When we hear other people suffering, the empathy area of our brain is activated – the same bit of the brain that experiences physical pain.
Fascinating research has shown that whether we suffer from empathic fatigue or not depends on which part of our brain we are using to process the things we see and hear. Buddhist monks who are able to access the ‘compassion’ area of the brain through the ‘empathy’ area in response to suffering seem to be immune from empathic fatigue.
Agnes shares the research and reading she has been doing around this topic, discusses the treatments and strategies to prevent it, and shares some simple tips and methods for avoiding empathic fatigue and protecting us from its toxic effect.
This podcast is a must for those who have ever felt that their compassion has just run out…
Podcast links
www.thegoodjungle.org Agnes’s website
Blog on compassion fatigue https://www.thegoodjungle.org/blog/2019/4/9/burning-out-for-people-and-planet-4-dangerous-self-care-myths
How Can I Help, Ram Dass and Paul Gorman
Standing at the edge, Joan Halifax
RAIN meditations at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/
Contact Agnes hello@thegoodjungle.org
The Good Jungle Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/thegoodjungle/
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ben Gowland, Director of Ockham Healthcare and host of The General Practice Podcast.
We chat about why changes work or fail - it’s often dependent how we do the change rather than what we are trying to change, so how we make changes is a really important part of how we run our practices.
We talk about the best approach to change and discuss how John Kotter’s book suggests starting with a focus on the problem, helping colleagues to see the reason that the change is needed and creating a sense of urgency. We discuss why GPs can so often neglect to see the need for change and talk about how to create a common narrative around what needs to change.
Podcast links
The General Practice Podcast
https://ockham.healthcare
Follow Ben on twitter @BenXGowland
Our Iceberg is melting – John Kotter
The Model For Improvement https://improvement.nhs.uk/documents/2142/plan-do-study-act.pdf
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Haidar Al-Hakim, the Third Eye Doctor, Podcaster, Speaker, Opthalmologist and author of the book Physician on Fire.
We chat about emotions and vulnerability, are they helpful or not, and why we sometimes find it so difficult to understand what we really need, and who we really are. We discuss the importance of finding someone who really gets you, who you can talk things over with and some strategies to get back to ourselves.
*Caution, this episode contains some strong language
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https://www.thethirdeyedoctor.co.uk
Physician on Fire book
Surgical Spirit Podcast
https://www.thenarrativeinitiative.com/about-us
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Katie Bramall-Stainer, CEO of Cambridgeshire LMC, GPC and BMA Council member and one of Pulse’s Power 50 GPs.
We chat about her journey as an activist in helping make GPs lives better and discuss how things can go wrong so quickly when we try to be too nice and too helpful.
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Cambridgeshire LMC
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Rosanna Hunt a Psychologist who works with NHS Horizons.
We chat about how their team absence rates were far too high, so they decided to try to improve the wellbeing of their team using 30-day sprints and quality improvement processes. They did one small action at a time and measured the effect. They reduced sickness rates from 15% to just 3%.
The results were surprising, and we discuss the small changes you can make within your team to get the same results.
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Rosanna’s NHS Horizons blog
The Warwick-Edinburgh Mental Wellbeing Scales
15 seconds 30 minutes QI intitiative
Follow Rosanna on twitter @rosielhunt
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Adam Harrison, Portfolio GP, Vice Chair Notts LMC and dual-qualified Medical Barrister
We chat about his career journey, how he diversified and found a varied and fulfilling career. We talk about the importance of networking, as many of the jobs we have done weren’t advertised. We talk about how to find these jobs using tools such as LinkedIn and good old-fashioned email and phone calls.
Finally, we discuss the power of coaching and how this can transform your career and outlook on life.
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Notts LMC Portfolio Plus https://www.nottinghamshirelmc.co.uk/gp-workforce/resource/gp-portfolio-plus/
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dradamharrison/
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by award-winning Dr Liz O’Riordan, the ‘Breast Surgeon with Breast Cancer’, TEDx speaker, author, blogger, triathlete and all-round superstar who has been nominated for ‘Woman of the Year’.
We chat about what it’s like to receive a devastating diagnosis as a doctor and how hard it can be to be a patient. We talk about our own unrealistic expectations and knowing your own limits. We also chat about how our expectations of ourselves are very different if we have to take time off for other health-related reasons such as stress or depression.
Liz shares how she coped when things got really tough and gives some great, practical advice.
Since this podcast has been recorded, Liz has been awarded first prize at the BMA Medical book awards for her book co-authored with Trisha Greenhalgh ‘The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer’. Congratulations Liz!
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The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take control
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Katherine Hickman, GP working in Bradford, Respiratory Lead and Tiny Habits® Coach. Katherine has been through her own episode of stress and burnout and we talk about how she got through and changed her life by using the ‘tiny habits’ technique.
We explore about how these tiny habits can produce huge changes and talk through how you can start to use this technique to help make changes in everyday life, and even at work.
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https://twitter.com/kchickman
BJ Fogg Tiny Habits® TED talk
About Katherine
The Pomodoro technique
The forest app
https://www.headspace.com
Katherine’s coaching page
5 day free online coaching
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In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Surina Chibber, Portfolio GP, Red Whale GP Update Presenter and co-Founder of mylocummanager.com who was named as one of Pulse Magazine’s ‘Rising Stars’ last year. We talk about how the journey Surina has been on from locum GP to the founder of tech company, what she’s learned along the way, and the surprising truth that sometimes we find our passions as a result of following our interests, not following our passions. We chat about how to develop your skills in other areas and how GPs can make their lives easier and their jobs more fulfilling.
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https://mylocummanager.com
https://www.gp-update.co.uk/courses
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For this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Nik Kendrew GP Partner, Red Whale GP Update presenter and GP media guru.
We chat about what happens when we get ill and discuss why is it that we are so slow to recognise when we shouldn’t be at work? Why do we find it so hard to take time off and why do we find it so hard to admit when we’re not really coping?
Follow Nik at @nikkendrew
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This is going to hurt: Adam Kay
Red Whale GP Update Courses
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