Relentless Forward Progress with Mike Ubaldini: Recent Episodes
Mike Ubaldini
Yes, I am a proud father, of two inspiring daughters. There are so many of us that can share stories of how our children have made us so fulfilled. This is one of those stories and I am going to get right out of the way and share it with you all! The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Hard to grasp that Thanksgiving is in a few days and the holiday season is upon us. For you, is this a time to speed into the new year or take time to reflect, before2024 is upon us?
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
No long intro to type up and share – just going to get right into the episode about doing things we sometimes don’t want to do and why it is critical at certain parts of our journey.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The title of todays episode comes from the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck.If you are not familiar with her, she has studied the differences between the growth & fixed mindset; essentially how we can change from one to the other. This particular part of the book had talked about sustaining and practicing change, growth and improving vs. there being a “silver bullet” or that “one big thing” that makes the difference.
Have some firsthand examples that were pretty funny too 😊! At least from my perspective.
Carol Dweck’s TED Talk: Carol Dweck: The power of believing that you can improve | TED Talk
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
“The most precious gift you can give someone is the gift of your time and attention.” – Nicky Gumble (I think??)
It has been a while since our last visit here so pulling together some thoughts of our experiences and things on my mind over that time. There is no real format or order, just my story of amazing people throughout our journey.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
How do you typically start your day? What gets you going or what may keep you going throughout? These are 7 statements that I was introduced to by Andy Andrews’ book, The Traveler’s Gift. These are what we are digging into today. The Buck Stops Here Seek Wisdom, Be a Servant to Others Be a Person of Action Have a Decided Heart Choose to Be Happy Great Today with a Forgiving Spirit Persist without Exception
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Simple intro – today’s episode inspired by: From John C. Maxwell’s Leadership Gold Ten Characteristics of a Growth Environment: Others are ahead of you. You are continually challenged. Your focus is forward. The atmosphere is affirming. You are often out of your comfort zone. You wake up excited. Failure is not your enemy. Others are growing. People desire change. Growth is modeled and expected. The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Today’s episode fell into place nicely. I’ve been needing some change. I am speaking for Robin too since this is something we’ve been talking about for a long time. Full transparency – we’ve let our nutritional commitments lack over the last several months. Yeah – we’ve done our quarterly cleanses and did well with them but as soon as they were over, and this has felt like for 18 months, we’d go back to old behaviors. We’ve known what to do but our will, and our desire, weren’t strong enough to keep us on that track. Well, when you make a commitment to do some scary shit – that tends to change behaviors……or it better 😊. Today we dig into that, and it is perfectly centered around this quote by David O. McKay below: “The greatest battles of life are fought out in the silent chambers of the soul.” The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
As I am wrapping up Thinking for a Change by John C. Maxwell, I came across another couple parts that I am compelled to share. I guess these last few episodes have become a book review 😊. No worries, I believe all these lessons are great to pass along to see if and where they may resonate. This particular section is a quote by Thane Yost: “The will to win is worthless if you do not have the will to prepare.” I read this and my mind went to ultra-trail marathon’s/running and training - or “preparing” for them. Having the “will to prepare” for a race I don’t think had ever entered my mind. It was just the thing I felt I must do if I wanted to complete an ultramarathon. Having the “will” to train wasn’t a concept for me, I just ran. However, in a race, I’ve felt and thought about that will to continue, to keep moving forward, like life! There is something, that why, passion, purpose – however we want to classify it, that keeps us moving forward, no matter how much pain we may be in or how much hardship we are facing, there is that will. But the will to prepare/train? Not a feeling – conscientiously at least. Yes, during training periods, or preparing for a life mission, we deal with the same struggles and pain caves that surface in an ultramarathon. Yes, there are days we don’t want to get up and do the things we must do and honor our commitments. But we do – there is that will to prepare. For me however, it is the race – that why I guess, rather than a will – is it the same thing??? The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mik
Last week I started reading Thinking for a Change, by John C. Maxwell. This one excerpt got me thinking a bit and it is the topic for today’s episode; let’s dive right in: “The younger you are, the more likely you will give your attention to many things. That’s good because if you’re young you’re still getting to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses.” The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
There have been a couple thoughts going through my mind on the topic of relationships over the last few weeks. This morning, as my wife celebrate 21 years being married, I felt compelled to talk about that, and relationships as a whole. Today’s episode goes on that journey. The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
The title of today’s episode comes from several weeks back, as I was gathering some thoughts for another Journal Journey. It has been some time since I put one of those out & will get back to that shortly. As I was reviewing my journal at that time, the quotes below resonated with me but I wanted to do them in a spoken, rather than written, forum. That is where we get things started today and the quotes our just below! Let’s dig in. “It is hard to help people when you judge them.” – Tony R “Nothing is worthwhile w/o taking risks.” Denzel “What are you settling for and what are you capable of?” – unknown “Every failed experiment is one step closer to a breakthrough.” – unknown The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Recently started rereading Stephen Covey’s, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It has been several years since I dove into this one and not sure what compelled me to pick it up again, but I guess the timing of the messages I’ve been receiving were in line. The nuggets below are certainly resonated with considering many of the concerning things happening throughout our country. Much of these circumstances, and that within my own personal life, keep me repeating this same characteristic in my head, saying it to myself, and in conversations with others!! “We need more personal accountability.” Hence the topic of today’s messages, “It Is You.” In today’s episode, we talk about the above thoughts and a few of these nuggets from the book. “Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We have the initiative & responsibility to make things happen.” What “things” are we allowing to control us? We get to “proactively choose” this! Are we “reacting” to our circumstances or “choosing to proactively respond” to them? The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Sharing some final thoughts and nuggets from Never Finished by David Goggins. Today’s episode is less about “performance” and more about the work and effort we get to put into ourselves each day. No too much on the intro but here are the quotes that resonated with me……thanks for tuning in! “Pride in my performance:” “Not half-assing” “Incremental progress is still progress.” “One step is all that is required to take the next one.” The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Recently started reading Never Finished by David Goggins. My wife bought it for me as a Christmas present and I tore right into it. Today’s episode goes into the particular excerpt below and how it directly resonated with my past and my continuing pursuit of being that better version of myself. “I was carrying a boulder as big as the world on my back just trying to get to the other side of the darkness that was chasing me down. I was terrified that if I stopped getting better, if I gave myself a break from any of it, all my insecurities and innate laziness would get the drop on me again.” “Anytime I felt physically exhausted or mentally zapped I pictured my 24-year-old self glaring at me with a big smile on his face a smile that said, ‘I’m still here loser I am who you really are and I’m not going anywhere.’” “I looked at each day as an opportunity to mine the negativity that had colonized my brain, and became fascinated by the power of the mind, and how we can work for us and against us.” The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Over the holiday break I was reading Steve Magness’ book, Do Hard Things. In one chapter, he referenced Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. Both great books and linked in the notes here. The nugget that resonated with me by Viktor Frankl was how he described finding fulfillment as “creating, experiencing, and suffering.” Those that read Man’s Search for Meaning, knows that Mr. Frankl had accomplished all three. As we embark on 2023 those words got me reflecting on last year and looking into who I would like to become in twelve months. That’s what we did into on this episode. The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
Last week I had the good fortune to attend a leadership webinar. Most of the content shared didn’t resonate much with me. Like most of these events, books, or other opportunities to learn and grow, I always get one nugget that I walk away with. This one was from Ed Mylett. He was talking about personal growth and how as we transition how that provides us the chance to guide others. Today’s episode digs into that and some other great nuggets from the linked Tom Bilyeu podcast here! The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
This is a mash up of different experiences and observations over the last few weeks. The words, which I wrote down as a reminder for what to discuss on this week’s episode and didn’t intend to be the title – works out well. Enjoy – the last few weeks, although not ideal, turned out to be pretty awesome in most aspects! The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI. Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here? The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place. Bryan & Mike
This topic has come up over the years, being in a position to train our kids to leave the house and become great adults. My wife and I set that process in motion, as a vision we wanted to realize, many years ago. First however, I needed to set the tone, by become a better adult myself. That was the initial step in working to be a better husband, father, and human being.
Listening to the below Gary Vaynerchuk video last week, reminded me again on how that all started, with accountability. This episode discusses that and a great zoo reference from the link 😊. Enjoy the ride!
Stop Complaining! You're COMPLETELY In Control of Your LIFE! - Gary Vaynerchuk Motivation - YouTube
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
RFP Podcast Episode #268 – Ultra Dad Session #76: Stupid Courage
Saw this imaged included with today’s podcast earlier and had to talk about it. Summarizes much of what I experienced with the race last week, and like ultramarathons, provides another metaphor for life. Not big introduction, time to settle in and hopefully grab a nugget or two?
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
“Are we here to achieve or experience?” “Are we here to be good or authentic?” “Are we here to build for tomorrow or dig into today?” “Are we here to save for a perfect future or to fuel a flawed but loving present?” “Just what is the nature of our work once awake?”
These are compelling questions that were shared in Mark Nepo’s book, The Exquisite Risk: Daring to live an Authentic Life and the topics for discussion on today’s podcast.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Heard this question asked of someone last week and got me thinking:
“When did you realize you made it?”
What does that really mean, thought? I also thought do we ever truly make it, because in my mind, that “finish line” continues to keep moving! This and some other updates, nuggets, and pieces of humor on this episode.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
No big intro for today’s episode. We are going to get right to it.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Typically, I put out a race wrap up in the form of a blog but wasn’t driven to write this one, so we are doing it in a podcast. Much gratitude to my wife Robin for being around for the first third of the race and with some inspiring words of wisdom around the midpoint with a phone call & text 😊. Also, much thanks to Aravaipa Running (Jangover Night Runs - Aravaipa Running), who continues to put on great events and finds the best volunteers and staff – appreciate you all. A fist pump and hug to James & Sean for a good time spent together for some miles, some not ideal, but a few laughs and great company. Hope you enjoy the story & more to come at the end of next month!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Pretty epic pictures taken from a run this past Saturday morning. The first on is the moon setting! That’s right, the moon setting and part of the inspiration for today’s topic. The other came from a mentoring conversation I had with another athlete getting ready to do their first event and from this video and quotes below:
The Participant: Understanding the 100 mile distance - https://youtu.be/8gzc6ta6bVw
Dylan Harris - “Are you interested in running 100 miles or committed to it?” “Find a way to get it done, get myself to a place that I haven’t been before, a place that holds the unknows and see if I quit or keep moving forward.”
“Once you decide to run 100 miles you are not in charge anymore. The people in charge are your former self and your future self. So during the race when it gets really hard and you don’t want to keep going, you don’t want to eat, or basically life is awful, just remember your former self decided to do this and your future self wants you to do this, so let those two be the guides.” – Eric Senseman
Sure – it may be centered on ultrarunning but these are metaphors for life and lessons that can be used for any type of endeavor – any mission where we try to test our limits and see what we are made of.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
RFP Podcast Episode #262 – Ultra Dad Session #70: Unexpected Troubles
The pictures included with this episode were taken 4 days apart from one another on opposite ends of the coast. One in the Arizona desert the other on the Gulf Coast of Florida. When I looked after recently taken the last one, I thought about change, and how fast it can happen. How quickly we can be driven to pivot and how the unexpected can great situations that are not ideal.
There is a great quote by Mark Twain that I read, almost each day, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”
Today’s episode discusses, at least from my perspective and what I am beginning to become acutely aware of, is it seems that when we don’t plan and circumstances that are not ideal come up, we tend to navigate them much smoother, calmer, and better. This, verses spending so much time thinking about, planning and yes, worrying about how to handle a situation that in all reality, never happens!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another solo session this week and appreciate y’all for the patience. Thanks to all for the continued support. We are just settling back in from taking our eldest, Isabella, to college. It was an exciting, at times emotional, fun, and growing experience, for all of us. It was also a bit exhausting putting 3400 miles on the car and driving for 24 hours, twice. There were nuggets that surfaced, laughs that were had, and memories created as we continue to march forward on our journeys. Now Isabella gets to do it and design who she wants to become. Hope y’all enjoy the ride.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another solo session this week and appreciate y’all for the patience. Thanks to all for the continued support. This weeks episode was inspired again by, Happy Mind, Happy Life: The New Science of Mental Well-Being by Rangan Chatterjee.
It was also driven by our family coming off of a vacation last week and the adjustment getting back to reality. I’ve struggle in the past with going from such a high and great experiences with vaca digging into life and responsibilities. I had thought about how great things were and the, “I was at the beach at this time last week,” thoughts as I was banging away at sales calls or in meetings. What I learned from the book is that we have the gift, each day, to take little daily vacations! Hopefully today’s episode helps you find your daily breakaway and you also are blessed with taking much more time away with family and friends!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another solo session this week and grateful to get back-to-back ones out. Thanks to all for the continued support. This weeks episode was inspired by another book, Happy Mind, Happy Life: The New Science of Mental Well-Being by Rangan Chatterjee.
A few nuggets to list here that drove me to put this out and we go into some of the weeds with a little dash of our perspective.
“Content – being at peace with life and decisions.” “Control – being able to make meaningful decisions. Not being overwhelmed.” “Alignment – are who you want to be and who you are actually being the same?”
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Today’s episode is another solo mission and a compilation of from several resources over the last couple of weeks. Don’t really need to put too much into this outline, the show notes below and title above sum it quite well. Enjoy folks and have a great 4th of July weekend! John Maxwell’s Go for Gold: Amazon.com: Go for Gold: Inspiration to Increase Your Leadership Impact eBook : Maxwell, John C.: Kindle Store “The only true measure of success is the ratio between what we might have been and what we have become. Success comes as a result of growing our potential” “Potential is God’s gift to us and what we do with it is our gift to Him.” “We have limitless potential, yet too few ever try to reach it.” “We can do anything, but we can’t do everything.” “Many people let everyone around them decide their agenda in life. As a result, they never really dedicate themselves to their purpose in life.”
Surround Yourself With People That Push You To Be Better (leadershipfirst.net) “Surround yourself with people that push you to be better. Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions, especially during these unprecedented times. According to Mark Twain, small people always do that, but the greats make you feel that you, too, can become great.” “Being around like-minded people will help you reach your goals and, in the process, allow you to become extraordinary.”
From Impact Theory Podcast: Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu: The 5 Habits BILLIONAIRES Run Daily! (Try This To Change Your Life) | Tom Bilyeu on Apple Podcasts “Who you are today is awesome & how you exist right now but this version of you isn’t sufficient next year.” - Ed Mylett “Be crazy driven on becoming that next version of yourself.” – Tom Bilyeu “So stoked on who I am today. So desperate to get better & so hungry to know why I am inadequate today.” - Tom Bilyeu “I want more peace, gratitude, kindness, love, growth, progress, fulfillment, joy & satisfaction.” – Ed Mylett
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Growing up, and maybe even at times today, we all want to belong; be a part of something. We all want to love, be loved, and be accepted. When we get it, do you ever feel like we’ve earned it? We work to get somewhere and be someone and when it comes to fruition, is it questioned? Ego can be powerful, so can doubt. A great nugget from Stephen Lau in The Wisdom of Letting Go:
“An inflated ego does not solve your life problems it only increases them with more attachments. Emotion’s dependence on things, people and thoughts that make you reluctant to let go” The Wisdom of Letting Go by Stephen Lau
Today we dig into these topics and some thoughts on how to keep moving forward, even when these feelings surface.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The last few weeks have been amazingly wild, wacky, fun, full of loved ones, experiences, and a lot of work. Unfortunately, priorities shifted as you can probably tell considering it has been about 3 weeks since we’ve produced any content. This Sunday provided me with an opportunity to review some of my thoughts and notes over that time. Although, today’s podcast is a solo session, Bryan was certainly part of the inspiration here, along with many, many others – including Isabella, Alaina, Robin and a few other family and loved ones.
The basis for this today is perspective and controlling the present – which is truly the only moment in time we do have to control, as said by Thich Nhat Hanh, “The present moment is the only time which we have dominion.”
Enjoy some reflections, thoughts, and what has been running through my mind the last couple of weeks.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
These last couple of years have provided for unknown circumstances and created opportunities for us to be flexible, to pivot, and adjust to the unexpected. This impromptu, surprising RFP Ultra Dad’s session is brought to you by Covid…..unfortunately Bryan was chased down but since he had some more downtime we were able to get together. It was more catching up, talking about how Covid has impacted him and going back to how we’ve all been working through it. Fortunately, we have been spared and have just been inconvenienced! We also talked about the new house and home improvement plans, ultra-marathon race wrap-up, some exciting plans for a little AZ/PA part-time living, and with-it being Sunday afternoon, some libations.
During today’s recording Bryan was enjoying a New Trail Brewing Modern West Coast IPA from Williamsport, PA and Mike, again going with the Mother Road’s Tower Station IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We had a good week with two recently, but it is a solo go with Mike today. It has been said we can have upwards to 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day. How often are we letting those thoughts control us? Most of the time. How often do we get to control our thoughts? I don’t think we have that power. Thoughts pass and most of those 60k-80k, whatever that number may be, never land. But the ones that do are those that can paralyze us. What can we do? Today’s episode gets some full transparency and emotion, but it is just one perspective that there isn’t one quick fix for things and we must stop searching for that answer; it is a process, that I am learning needs to be peaceful, patient, and consistently making forward progress.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
That is right – Bryan and I pulled it off and got in another podcast in less than a week. Yes, we were, as he put it, “scatterbrained,” and I believe we may have been a bit burnt out from the week. With both of us having to put time in on Saturday too, we did our best. At these moments however, we have to take advantage of whatever time we both have open to hit record. So we appreciate the continued love and support, and will ask forgiveness (and maybe sympathy 😊) as we put some nuggets out there. This show was more of a catch up but interesting stories shared around agriculture and farm knowledge, the moistness that is the northeast in summer, long lines to get dance recital tickets and the gratitude of being able to buy beer on Sunday mornings 😊. Sit back and enjoy folks, and speaking of beer……..
Bryan tried an Imagination for Reality IPA from a new local spot in Scott Township PA – Last Minute Brewing. He picked up that tasty brew on the way from work one day. Mike, wasn’t has creative but also grabbed a nice, hot weather thirst quencher on the way home, a solid PBR – Pabst Blue Ribbon! Don’t judge – it’s been in the 90’s here in Phoenix 😊!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here! How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
After several months both Bryan and I made it happen. It was however not without technical difficulties. No video this go around but we were able to get a podcast launched are grateful to be able to share it with you all. Yesterday afternoon/evening we caught up from adventures over the last few months and discussed homeownership, Abington Heights Wrestling history, Mike Tyson and maybe, just maybe through in a nugget or two of wisdom……we hope! Apologize ahead of time for the drop in silence. We were going to edit it out but left in the raw material for some more laughs with Mike talking to himself. 😊
Yes, during todays recording we did have some beverages, two of our favorites too! Bryan enjoyed Troegs Perpetual IPA & Mike had Mother Road Tower Station IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
A couple months ago I read Lou Holtz’ Autobiography, Wins, Losses, and Lesson: An Autobiography. There is one comment talking about the differences in players from today’s generation and those he coached years ago. He indicated that now it is more about rights and privileges rather than obligations and responsibilities. That is our subject today, another solo, and working on getting the team back together but hopefully, in the meantime, we can still pass along some lessons ourselves.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Stumbled on this podcast a few weeks back and do apologize for the delay in getting another show back out to you all. We’ve referenced and spoke about Tom Bilyeu’s podcast, The Impact Theory. This one linked below with Benjamin Hardy hit me right at a critical point in making a decision.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/impact-theory-with-tom-bilyeu/id1191775648?i=1000554086451
The most profound nugget I received. “It is easier to take a clear path to a lesser goal.”
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Over the weekend I was reminded of the book by Sharon Lechter & Dr. Greg Reid, Three Feet from Gold. There wasn’t something particular about the book, but I did recall the main point of not giving up; or as the title states, “keep digging.” Like most of the blog and podcast topics, they are typically about struggles and events along our personal journeys that we feel are relatable to many out there. Below we share one of the great nuggets from the book.
“Want to know the secret to success? “Good judgement.” “Want to know where you get good judgement from?” “Experience.” “Know where we get experience from?” “Bad judgement.”
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
“We all have dungeons but so many are afraid to talk about them.” – David Goggins
Over the years I’ve learned firsthand, through much failure, but also from being brave, that sharing my insecurities and vulnerabilities can be incredibly satisfying and cleansing. It can also provide another person with the permission to do the same, resulting in relentless forward progress. We dig into these a bit today – unfortunately another solo, but still working on teaming back up. Thanks to all for the continued love and support.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We tried to pull a joint Ultra Dad podcast together this week but impromptu soccer tournaments and more wrestling on the schedule tied us up. Much love and apologies and our hope is that calendars will crack a bit in the coming weeks to hear both of us again! Soon 😊. For today, it is just Mike and I guess we can say this may be another bit of a book review like last time around. The title of today’s episode is another quote, this one from Dean Karnazes’ book A Runners High. This book had some special meaning to me, and I wanted to share some of the more moving quotes, listed below, and what we will talk about in today’s episode. “I don’t run to live longer I run to live fuller.” ……” It may be killing me, but it is on my terms, I am doing what I love, there is no finer meaning to be found in life.” “How do you respond when the tide turns against you?” …….” without war we do not know if we are cowards or heroes.” “It’s a cleansing of the soul.” “Life is cruel, wonderful, unfair, miraculous, and unbearable. It is all these things at once but what mattered most is that we are together, that we stick through it all. We are doing our best we could with the cards we are dealt, but always together, faithful forever. Nothing matters more.”
Just some coffee and water for today’s recording, early morning out here in AZ 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The full quote from the title above is from Jay Glazer and reads, “adversity is a gift. You find out who you are!”
Some of the audience may know the name, Jay Glazer, those that do watch the NFL. He is one of the analysts, commentators on Fox’ NFL Weekend Shows. What I learned, from listening to him on the Tom Bilyeu, Impact Theory Podcast, is that he is much more.
Yes, this is yet another solo adventure this week. I am beginning to miss my co-host, Mr. Bryan Shane. It is okay though, we had the chance opportunity to catch up over this past weekend on a phone call so glad to hear things are progressing forward, as we want them to, for both the families 😊. I encourage you to take a listen to the Tom Bilyeu/Jay Glazer podcast linked above, because it is a great listen and discusses much of Mr. Glazer’s battle with anxiety. But his quote above about adversity is what we dig into today. Once again, a shorter episode than usual but still wanted to share something with you all there. Thanks for the continued love and support and the RFP Ultra Dad’s will be back at you soon.
Once again, no cocktails just some fine H2O😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another solo adventure this week. The weekdays had been challenging for us to both connect and now the weekends are getting tough 😊. Hopefully this weekend coming up we can make it happen??? Touched on the topic of “showing up” several weeks ago and today we dig into it deeper. It is a big part of growth and moving forward, maybe the initial part, but there are several other important pieces that are crucial in moving us forward. Once again, a shorter episode than usual but still wanted to share something with you all there. Thanks for the continued love and support and the RFP Ultra Dad’s will be back at you soon.
Once again, no cocktails just some fine H2O😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The next week or so may be difficult for us to both be on a show with schedules and commitments. Next time we will have some good news to share but this week it is a solo adventure. Speaking of adventures, you ever not get started on one because of something? Fear, anxiety, doubt or that perception of, “I just don’t think I am ready yet!” A few weeks ago I came across this quote by Brad Stulberg.
“You don’t need to feel good to get going – you need to get going to give yourself a shot of feeling good.”
That nugget got me thinking of those days where I just don’t feel like getting things going. Well, that is what we are digging into today. Shorter episode than usual but still wanted to share something with you all there. Thanks for the continued love and support and the RFP Ultra Dad’s will be back at you soon.
Once again, no cocktails with it being a Monday morning but the coffee was filled😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another Sunday morning edition of the RFP Ultra Dad podcast. Didn’t intend to dig into this topic but, as we all continue to relentelessly move forward in life, we are faced, each day with decisions to make. Many times those choices are difficult and we tend to disappoint others along the way. Today’s episode dives into that topic, with some laughter, and a couple other situations around marriage, partnerships, weather and life!
Once again, no cocktails with it being a Sunday morning but we did enjoy some good coffee 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
ultradads #LFRF #hardchoices #stoplooking #letgooftheplan
A special Sunday edition of the podcast this week, celebrating our 50th Ultra Dad episode. Nothing special or profound, but always good to catch up and chat. Today we touch on skiing and reminiscing about Montage Mountain many years ago. We did into some Covid discussing, navigating this new variant, pausing activities, and being adaptable. We talked about expensive fruit, global warming, and how we would like to get better in 2022 by not holding on, slowing down, and getting more into resetting.
No cocktails this time around with it being a Sunday morning but we did enjoy some good coffee 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
It has been a wild and wacky year for the Ultra Dad Podcast. Just like life, and as we discussed during this last session of 2021, it had its peaks and valleys. However, just like life again, we kept moving forward, left foot right foot, and had some additional, year end stories to share. We went down a few rabbit holes but feel we had a nugget or two to offer up as we close the books on 2021. From all of us at the RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast, we wish you a fantastic, safe, and wonderful new year and a wild and wacky 2022!
We both had some happy hour cocktails to enjoy during today’s recording. Bryan went with a local PA brew from Lancaster Brewing, their Winter Warmer Ale. Mike, battling some Covid symptoms and waiting on test results, enjoyed a Tito’s Vodka and Peach Bubly mix 😊! Little bit of a twist there to wrap up the year.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
It has been over a month since we both got together for Ultra Dad podcast so apologies for all those that tune in. Today, a Sunday morning edition, we got caught up with stories, life, and some funny moments. Maybe a nugget or two but mostly just some perspective around the holiday season, high school soccer, wrestling, and drama 😊, of course weather, beer and just lighthearted moments to help bypass some silliness.
Since it was early AZ time Mike had some coffee and water. Bryan, just back from a run enjoyed a Troegs Grand Cacao Chocolate Stout.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Solo edition with just Mike and a bit of a turn from Friday thoughts to Monday thoughts. Bryan and I have been challenged to synch up calendars the last few weeks so decided to go about it alone, with the hopes he and I are back it, maybe end of this week. Today is just some things that have been rattling around my noggin and areas we are all growing from. We’ve seen a lot of things over the last few weeks, throughout the country, world, and in our own families. Wanted to share some thoughts and hopefully provide you all with some nuggets to do what we do best, that is keep moving forward.
No beverages today since it is mid-morning as I launch this so we will be back at sharing some beers, hopefully later in the week.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Back to back Friday nights and this one was all about the girls. The Shane twins, Cora & Taylor, were front and center for a pre-race conversation about their 5k tomorrow. The event is part of the Girl’s on the Run program they are a part of, which is a nationwide non-profit organization to help with physical and mental health development. You can find more about the organization in the link below:
https://www.girlsontherun.org/
Weather came up, as always and it is going to be a chilly 26* for their run tomorrow……brrrrrrr! Some PSU Football and a few little life lessons – “Stop, Breath, Think!” The girlies brought it tonight and hope you all enjoy this one.
Rinse and repeat from last week on the beverage side, Mike with just water and Bryan again, going big with Troegs’ Mad Elf!!!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This may have been the first time we recorded a session on a Friday night. May be wrong but it was a fun show and maybe you’ll get a nugget or two out of it. We talked about some insecurities and areas we should all be working on and be aware of, compassion, kindness, and perspective. We discussed “the dash,” and it has nothing to do with running, more who we are becoming. We spent some good time on a favorite book and documentary of ours.
The book is Cross Country: A 3,700 Mile Run to Explore Unseen America!
The YouTube Documentary: Transamericana with Ricky Gates running 3700 miles across America!
If you need some perspective, a runner not, maybe something to read and/or watch?
Of course, we talked about weather, new baby Shane, Isabella becoming an adult turning 18, and – how the stores are still not listening to us by keeping the Christmas holiday decorations out of site until Thanksgiving. Which leads us too…….
Little switch from last week with Mike having the sparking water but Bryan going big with Troegs’ Mad Elf – just in time for Halloween!!!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Two weeks in a row; we are on a roll!! We hit on a number of topics leading off with a story of a 47-year-old man playing a kickball game thinking he is 27 😊. We also learn what not to do with Himalayan sea-salt and sparking water and take you on a geography lesson of NEPA and the wonderfully named towns that we grew up around!! But yes, we feel there are a couple of nuggets to capture from today’s show and we are grateful to you all that continue to spend time with us.
No beers today for Bryan as he works to change things up a bit (watch the ginger sparkling water and sea-salt). Mike was sort of on the same boat hitting up PBR! 😊
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
It has been a few weeks and we are happy to be back at it, looking at each other’s mugs via video podcast, and sharing some nuggets. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and hopefully you are all waiting in anticipation for each of these long awaiting episodes to come out. We kid, maybe not 😊, but we are grateful for all you out there and apologize for the delays – as the title says, and as we do experience, sometimes we are “stuck in a tub of butter.” We do get things started on our roles, and our wives’ being reversed over the last few years, touch on feelings of guilt and progressing patiently, and of course, a little trip down memory lane with some Abington Heights Wrestling talk.
No beers today for Mike since he is coming of a wedding weekend for Frank & Kelsey (Congratulations again you two 😊!) Bryan went back to college days with some Yuengling Black & Tan.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Solo go at it today, like back in the beginning but missed my partner. We will get to it and we are thankful for your forgiveness and understanding. Just some thoughts, reflections, heading into the weekend. Keep moving forward folks.
No beers today because the recording was before 8am and it is a school day 😊!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
ultradads #LFRF #.0001%Progress #keepmovingforward #DFQ
We were able to get back to video on this episode and are excited for everyone to seeing our lovely faces 😊. This is the 2nd recording in a row we actually discuss a topic, rather than just catching up. However, we did do some of that as well, discussing the weather, Yellowstone coming back in November, Penn State football, wrestling, and of course………beer!
The topic, highlighted a bit up top, goes into what we are born with vs. what we can develop through, hard work. What can we create and master by investing time and effort into our crafts. It also gets deep with a discussion around being born with inspiration and motivation? All this was driven by a deep quote by Nietzsche, ”Craftsmen do not talk about giftedness, inborn talents. They allow themselves times for the journey, taking more pleasure in making the little, secondary things well than in the effect of a dazzling while.”
Speaking of beer, Bryan went an easier route with some Coors Banquet Beer, that’s right, good all Yellow Jackets! Mike stayed simple as well with an Athletic Brewing Run Wild IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Once again technology got the best of us and we were not able to shot video. Back to the audio which may provide a nice break again from our mugs 😊. We did spend some time catching up on a big week with birthdays, 1st day of school, 1st soccer games, carpet installs, a fender bender and a metric ton of Manning’s Ice Cream. All that said though, we did have a topic to discuss, and it was around heroes and how we all have the ability to be one!
Can we be a hero and not be inspiring? Tough question and we dig into it.
Unfortunately Mike’s day got sideways and needed to finish up some work after recording so he stuck with good old water. Bryan was fortunate and took advantage with some tasty Hop Valley Mango & Stash out of Eugene, OR.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
As mentioned, no video this week due to technical (operator error) difficulties. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We went back to the earlier days of the RFP Ultra Dad podcast and skipped the video today. Truth be told, we had some trouble getting the recording to play nice and during the audio recording aliens attacked the Phoenix headquarters. No worries, we made it through with the help of Sigourney Weaver, a children’s movie reference to WALL-E, and two moments of reliving Saturday morning cartoons with Wile E. Coyote and Foghorn Leghorn. Like I said, we went a bit sideways catching up on life, discussing business, and ultrarunning and how both sport, and businesses over the last 18 months have had to pivot and adapt. We dug into technology a bit and how, although it may help in making our lives easier, is it also helping to create a society that is softer? We dipped into concerts, rock and roll, some good bands, and poison ivy. We shared some beverage and some laughs and as always, hope we can provide a smile or two to all of you!
This week we both got back at it with Bryan tipping back some Samuel Adams Wicky Hazy Juicy IPA. Mike finished up the last of his east coast beers, sadly enjoying the remnants of Troegs Perpetual IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
As mentioned, no video this week due to technical (operator error) difficulties. You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We have been fortunate to have some wonderful partners in our lives to be on this journey with. Bryan, and his wife Cindy, just celebrated their 15-year anniversary this past weekend, so we figured maybe a good topic would be to share what Cindy has meant to him, and Robin to me. These two ladies have certainly made us better throughout the years and it would be an interesting rabbit hole to go down talking about what if? I don’t either one of us would know where we would be without them so a big thank you to our better halves – you both make us want to be better each day.
Bryan treated his taste buds to a Williamsport, PA beer from New Trail Brewing Company’s Hazy IPA. Mike, coming off a weekend celebrating his nephew’s bachelor party, was hydrating with some water and a Mango Bubly 😊 The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We ask for forgiveness again. It has been a couple of weeks since our last episode, so we appreciate the patience. As you know, we are just like y’all and navigating this crazy, wild, wacky ride call life and sometimes it gets hectic. Fortunately we have a Monday pick me up show for you and we hope to bring out some laughs. Nothing too profound in here but a few, simple messages to hopefully help you keep moving forward through another Monday.
You know it has been hectic, or maybe it was just because we both had fun weekends, but neither Bryan nor Mike was sipping on some tasty suds this week. We will get back to our beer recommendations next show 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
There have been numerous events happening that have created inconsistencies and situations that have not been ideal through the first half of this year. When we look at the big picture of where we are headed, or where we may be stuck, it can be overwhelming. This may even lead to feelings of inadequacies and insufficiencies. Things we’ve been experiencing and am sure many of you can relate. This episode covers many of these items, starting with not having a main topic to discuss. We first caught up on things over the last week, took another verbal tour through the Abington’s of NEPA, and gave a shout out to a few hot dog stands in PA & IA 😊. Of course we had laughs but also dug deep into the topic at hand, shared some vulnerabilities, shared some of the benefits of delayed gratification, being outside in nature, getting moving first thing in the AM, and value of making progress and “crossing that bridge when we come to it.”
During today’s podcast, Bryan enjoyed some Long Trail Green Blaze IPA. Mike, after a great birthday weekend, felt the need to take a break from beer and chose an Athletic Brewing non-alcoholic Run Wild IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
After 6500+ miles trapsing across country the Ubaldini’s are back @ RFP/UD headquarters in Phoenix, and we are back at another episode of the Ultra Dad’s podcast. Today we talk about ownership and accountability. Are they the same, different, interchangeable, related? We dig into them all, catch up on life a bit, talk about the weather, and have a few laughs. Sit back, enjoy, and maybe grab a beer for the ride.
“Someone can hold us accountable. Taking ownership means we are holding ourselves accountable.” - Unknown
During today’s podcast, Bryan enjoyed a New Belgium Voodoo Ranger out of CO. Mike, although he left PA, brought back some from one of his top three, Troegs Perpetual IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
It has been a couple of weeks considering schedules, travel, and the start of summer. We are going to do our best over the next several weeks to get episodes out but may take a break every now and again. Whatever happens know that we love and appreciate those that continue to tune in and reach out. Today’s episode we went a few different directions but believe we tied it together pretty decent. Don’t get us wrong, it is “messy” but life is and that what makes it exciting. Reminded of a great quote by Scott Jurek……
“Perspective is both humbling and inspiring.”
During today’s podcast, Bryan tossed back a good one, Sierra Nevada’s Hazy Little Thing. Mike, being in PA kept it local with Media, PA’s Sterling Pig Brewery’s The Snuffler IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This week catching up was held in check at the beginning and we revisited some housekeeping items for next weeks episode (hint: Father’s Day Special 😊!!!). We did get into some good discussion around continuous improvement and working to be better than yesterday. We did have some guest appearances from Cora, Taylor, Bella, and maybe a shot of Bear & definitely his bark is heard!! There was some deepness to parts of it but overall it was more about our stories, what we are learning, and how we all work very hard to be just a small fraction better each day. When it comes down to it, “when we come to the end, do we live up to the chart God had in mind for us, or do we go far beyond what God even believed he was creating?” – David Goggins
During today’s podcast, Bryan got Mike visibly disappointed (you can watch on the video) as he enjoyed another favorite of both of ours, Troegs Field Study IPA. Mike kept the string of clean living going with H2O on today’s session but did grab some non-alcoholic Athletic Brewing’s Run Wild IPA; a great substitute with full flavor!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Like last week we hit record and just let things fly in this episode. We did try to throw in a nugget or two around how we all can adapt to the chaos that is our journey. We also touch on how priorities tend to rise to the top of the list when, well they become a priority!! We then get into stories about growing up in Northeastern PA, visiting old places and missing those that are gone, and memories from the trails.
These last two episodes have run longer than we anticipated. That is what happens when good company gets together, to connect, share, laugh, and love. Keeping it simple as we navigate these journeys.
During today’s podcast, Bryan enjoyed a favorite of both of ours, going back to the first Death Race in 2012, sipping on a Long Trail VT IPA. Mike is working on some clean living and made it through today’s session – until next week 😊 LFRF!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Forgive the delay in getting back to the Ultra Dad Podcast but one of us has moved across the country and we are both navigating life. It is a journey that is sometimes fun, sometimes not ideal, often inconvenient but certainly and opportunity to grow and learn. Having each other, our family’s, and you all to share it with makes it all worth it. Last week we got online and did have a raw, vulnerable, discussion. However, we never did hit record and it was just what we both needed at the right time. Today however, we hit record and spent time catching up, hanging out, and just enjoying each other, and your company. We share some updates, stories, and maybe, just maybe we get a little piece of wisdom from it.
As we head into this long, Memorial Day weekend, we’d like to thank all of you out there for the love and support, and pay tribute to all those heroes we’ve lost, those that continue to fight for our freedom, and the so many that will come later.
We did enjoy some tasty beverages tonight but kept it real simple. Bryan had a traditional, PA Yuengling Lager and Mike enjoyed a PBR Tall Boy.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
It has been a while since we had a quest and with Bryan recuperating from his last haul back east, figured we’d get a long-time friend on the show to share his story. It was back in 1999 that Doug and I started working together as two of 1st salespeople at this young company. He was recently married, and I was jumping into essentially my first job. Over 22 years he has become a great mentor, role model, fellow beer connoisseur, and most important, great friend and ultra-dad. We dig into his passion for beer, sales, family, OCR racing and being a husband and father. We are grateful to have him on to share his story and journey over the years.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Today is another solo adventure since Bryan is on his 3rd and final leg back east. Safe travels brother! We plan to be back at the video sessions next week. In the meantime however, I did want to share this message and let you know that I will be having a guest this Thursday, another Ultra Dad to share some stories. Hope you all tune in.
Today’s show was inspired by another podcast I listened to a few weeks ago with Jay Shetty & Will Smith. You can hear the full episode via the link below: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021?i=1000517713511
Did want to specifically focus on the “filling in the gaps with growth” topic though. This is something I find myself doing a lot and today’s quick show talks about it in some detail.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We join you for another video addition the today’s episode and you can follow the links below to watch. Or, if we are too scary for ya, you can always give a listen via the other avenues. Being patience and staying consistent in today’s world of distractions, chaos, and interruption is challenging. Letting go of ego and being comfortable where you can be a time for growth and learning. Today’s episode digs into some of these areas and stories on what we are, have, and will face as we continue to trust the process and…..stay in our lanes.
Bryan was back to his CO roots enjoying a Tommy Knocker Brewery Blood Orange. Mike went with an old favorite brewer but a newer offering from Stone Brewing, Exotic Destinations IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We are embracing technology and leveraging the tools to our advantage to bring you Ultra Dad’s face to face. Our audience may wish we were never able to figure this out but with the help of GoToMeeting and getting ourselves a little uncomfortable Ultra Dad’s has gone live with our ugly mugs for you all to see. Our hope is we don’t lose listeners – I guess you can still listen but can also watch us via this link. Will also add it below with the other links moving forward.
https://transcripts.gotomeeting.com/?utm_source=recordingReadyNotification&utm_medium=email#/s/ebabc0c5377a323075c37ff509f591dae67fd052121ca13bdb56c7b29ffb91a9
Today’s episode was to be just a dry run to test this out, but we decided to hit record and chose to publish it. There may be a nugget thrown it there, but it was just two Ultra Dad’s catching up on things and telling some stories.
We are putting this week’s episode out a day early and over a lunch time beer. Bryan rubbed it in Mike’s face a bit by tipping back Troegs Perpetual IPA while Mike enjoyed the good old Mother Road’s Tower Station.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
You can view the live recording of today’s episode via GoToMeeting Link HERE:
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Another solo adventure this week with Bryan on trip 2 of 3 back east. All good, he was heading out of NE and into IA when we last spoke; Timber keeping him company. Was inspired to share some thoughts on a recent All Pro Dad article I read earlier this week & linked below:
https://www.allprodad.com/3-embrace-our-weaknesses-kids/
How easy is it to admit our weakness? I am sure we can all rattled several things off which we are good at but how about things we suck at? What are we afraid of? There is a great quote that has been credited to many folks out there:
“Bravery is not being fearless. True courage is being afraid and doing it anyway.”
These points and a few more topics are what we dig into today. Hope you enjoy this one and plan so have some uncertainty and change next week when we are both back together!
Since Bryan was not drinking today, that whole driving back east thing; Mike chose to go non-alcoholic with Athletic Brewing Co.’s Free Wave Hazy IPA. Surprisingly tasty without the buzz 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This was a fun one. We got caught up on things, had a couple early laughs, got an update on the Shane migration back east, and discussed some USA Wrestling Olympic stuff. Exciting times but we circled the wagons, so to speak, on how to practice not falling apart when things go to pieces. Some good belly laughs during today’s episode folks so sit back and enjoy. Words of caution, thee may have been some PA slang that came out 😊!
Speaking of enjoying, during today’s show, Bryan gulped down Eddyline Brewing’s Summer in the Citra, while Mike went with the solid Sierra Nevada Pale Ale. A slight difference from the Big Little Thing Double IPA he may have been drinking at a soccer game last weekend 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We started off on topic but then went to how managing through an injury is like navigating through life. Solid communication, awareness, and knowing when to and when not to listen to that inner voice can be key. We also touch on some tactics around meditation, and just simply breathing to help us better respond to the opportunities for growth that can surface during our process.
Since it is in the mid 90’s in AZ the IPA’s didn’t sound ideal so Mike when with an old reliable, PBR Tall Boys. Bryan, up in CO where the temps are 40* cooler, chose a different approach, Oskar Blues G’Knight Imperial Red IPA. At a whopping 8.7% we are glad we held this together for an hour 😊.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This week we had to make up for some lost time. We were reunited after a week and recapped Bryan’s first of three trips back east as he, Cindy, Tanner, Taylor & Cora continue to make progress on their move back to NEPA (that’s Northeastern PA 😊). We go from some fun travel stories into a deeper discussion on if things are getting easier, or more difficult, to be parents. We even revisit AAA Triptik’s and MapQuest directions before ending on a few laughs.
I guess we either missed each other and needed some higher octane to deal with one another 😊. Mike thought he had some big boy pants on with Clown Shoes Galactica West Coast Style IPA @ 8%. However, Bryan showed up with Sierra Nevada’s Big Little Thing Imperial IPA. It’s all good – he did drive across country & flew back to CO in the last week!
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This is a solo adventure this week since Bryan is likely somewhere in western PA making his way toward our hometown of Clarks Summit, PA. You can revisit last weeks RFP/UD’s episode for details on that journey, however I am sure we will be revisiting it over the next several months. This week we still wanted to get something out so you just have me, Mike, and no beers today – be back to that next week as well!
For those of you that have been visiting the blog, you will have heard me speak of Dan Harris’ book, “10% Happier…..” I have been pushing a lot of nuggets from it lately and today’s episode is on the same lines. We dig into being aware and/or mindful, what he means, personally, and the thoughts of progress.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We must ask for forgiveness again for missing out on last week. Things have gotten away from us a bit with some monster changes occurring. Over the last few months, we’ve insinuated a few things coming down the road. Both co-hosts, not only have taken the jump into new professional endeavors but we have one packing things up and moving back across country. This will make cross country move number 5 between the two of us. Wild and wacky stuff. In today’s episode, Bryan shares what he and the Shane family are beginning to embark on and some funny stories about big moves and big changes. The next few months will be touch and go with episodes as we both adjust to new careers and one with new surroundings. We are going to work hard to share the journeys along the way. We can’t promise an show each week but we can promise good stories, some good beer, much love and laughter, and likely a nugget or two to digest. We are grateful for our awesome supports and look forward to these next steps forward.
After a week away we reunited for some good stories and good beer. Bryan enjoyed a “local” brew in Elevation Brewery’s First Cast IPA. Mike hit up a CA staple in Firestone Walker Brewery’s Mind Haze.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye out for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
What is happiness?
Last week Bryan came across this YouTube, Joe Rogan clip – “How to be truly happy?”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNIHL-6l7b0&feature=youtu.be
After we watched we both thought it would be great to dissect a bit. A number of great nuggets to dive into and we did just that. Couple things we pulled out in addition to what we discuss: Seek lessons and difficult tasks. Camaraderie Love Family Friendship Struggle Testing Yourself Learning
“Most men lead lives out of quiet desperation.” Henry David Thoreau
Prior to recording during the process of making dinner, Bryan enjoyed an old reliable, Sierra Nevada Pale Ale. During the show he went non-alcoholic with Athletic Brewing’s Run Wild IPA. Mike stayed true to AZ and nabbed another Mother Road, what he believes is new but maybe not, the enjoyable Limited Visibility Hazy IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye open for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We tried something new this week and tagged along the RFP Blog’s “Journal Journey” and attempted, as Bryan put it, “random journal grabs.” We let the pages flip, stopped randomly on a day from our journal logs and hit record. It was a fun pass at it and we have the feeling it will continue in the future. This episode we stopped on January 12, 2018 and went into these topics (unfortunately none had an author noted, sorry ☹):
“Really think about those moments in life that really give you joy and build more of them into your life.” “What is the point of going after something that is reasonable?” “The gap between reality and the dream is the work.” “If you can’t absorb failure you won’t embrace success.”
Much fun was had by us and hopefully you get a sense of the humor. If not, at least you pull a nugget or two out of it 😊!
During today’s recording, Bryan again enjoyed an Arrogant Bastard Ale, out of Escondido, CA, with some debate around the relationship with Stone Brewing!! Mike took a stab at something new and wasn’t disappointed with the Albuquerque, NM La Cumbre Brewing’s Elevated IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye open for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We have to ask forgiveness for missing lasts weeks episode. It was a week that was not ideal for our schedules and when one was available the other was not. So, sorry if you missed us but maybe that is our ego’s talking and no one really missed us that much 😊. This week we tried to remember what we wanted to talk about last week and after a few senior moments we remember. It was from a Dax Sheppard podcast with Adam Grant! Today we dig into the topic of “Wonderlust – desire to be in a constant state of wonder.” Additionally, we tackle the concepts of “maximizers & satisfiers,” and being content, at peace, and “living with anything.” We end up with discussing what does it mean to really “make it?”
We went all over the dial and come the conclusion again that life is so much better when experienced with the one’s you love – no matter what those experiences may be.
During today’s recording, Bryan again enjoyed a Fort Collins, CO favorite in New Belgium’s Voodoo Ranger Imperial IPA. Mike stayed local to AZ with a Four Peaks Brewing Co.’s Hazy IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye open for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Growing up and still today, we probably come across the saying, “listen more than you talk; that is why you have two ears and one mouth.” What about when what you are listening to is your own self-defeating thoughts? Self-doubt, questioning your self-worth, wondering if you are enough – can stop you dead in your tracks! We can get incredibly attached to what we perceive to be our identity and when we are stripped down, what are the thoughts that go through our heads?
How do we combat that? Hit Pause! Step back and breath! Self-assess and create that self-awareness! Maybe just stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself! These are the topics we dive into tonight during the episode. Don’t worry though, we have some laughs and a potential misunderstanding of what it means to be “sitting in the bathroom” during recording 😊!
Today’s topic was inspired a book we both read called, “The Untethered Soul: A Journey Beyond Yourself.” A great read and wonderful nuggets on how to ask yourself those tough questions.
During today’s recording, Bryan again enjoyed another Bend, OR favorite (one of Mike’s Top 5 breweries), 10 Barrel Brewing Co.’s Joe IPA. Mike reverted to a Fort Collins, CO staple, Odell Brewing Co.’s tried & true IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye open for the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
No, please don’t read that the wrong way, Bryan and I did not do the podcast today topless 😊!! Although, a possible topic during the summer months if we are able to get together? We went back & forth on few thoughts, made no final decision & decided to see where today’s Ultra Dad episode would go when we hit record. Hopefully, we didn’t disappoint, you have a few laughs, and grab a nugget or tow. We start off, of course, with our beers of choice and go deep in a couple unchartered areas. Here are some highlights: Dog’s drinking beer and high on weed Spirituality Death Introverts vs. Extroverts Connection Stages of Life How others view you? “Book of Novocain” – numbing ourselves
And closing it out with…….. “How do you feel about yourself when you are by yourself?” – Tom Bilyeu
During today’s recording, Bryan enjoyed an Bend, OR favorite brewery Deschutes, sipping on their Obsidian Stout. Mike also went west coast but with an old reliable, Stone IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
If we are talking all things Ultra, I guess being mentally tough should be a topic. Well, tonight’s episode dug deep into our thoughts around mental toughness, how do you get there, and characteristics that can contribute. Just like anything, if you want to get good at it, you have to work at it. It takes practice and being stubborn may help too. This was a fun one for us and something that is close to our hearts so hope you enjoy.
“Dad, I didn’t want to do it but I did it anyway.”
During today’s recording, back to our normal happy hour time, Bryan enjoyed an eastern US favorite Founders Centennial IPA. Mike stayed local to Tempe, AZ with Huss Brewing’s Hopaloosa Hazy IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The first show of 2021 continued the trend from 2020 by going to many places – the unknown, the uncertain, and staying true to topic – doing so with relentless forward progress. The intent was to discuss the topic:
“Have you ever practiced how it feels to fear?” – Well, we got into a great conversation and went deep there but also tackled cold plunges and how that is a metaphor for fear, failure, and battling the unknown. A few points to summarize what we pondered: Uncertainty No Guarantees of Success Overcoming Weaknesses Be Better than Yesterday Being on the Edge Why get better? - - - BECAUSE I CAN! Inspirational Side Effects Continuous Improvement
And we close this out with an incredible quote – “Not everyday is gameday but everyday counts!”
During today’s recording, back to our normal happy hour time, Bryan enjoyed a favorite of both of ours & fitting as well, Snake River’s Earned It Hazy IPA. Mike tried something new from a favorite brewer in Flagstaff, AZ, Mother Road’s Daily Driver IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We took a week off for the Christmas Holiday (you are welcome by the way 😊) but are back at it for a year in reflection. 2020 was unique to say the least but there are many “rainbows” that we were able to find. Our hope is that as we all look back on this past year, we can find some silver lining, some moment or some piece of happiness, hope, love, joy, and progress. We have all found ways to be more creative, to pivot, to adjust, and adapt to a wild & wacky year. We believe that in some way, we found a way to make at least, one great choice this year.
Thanks to Timber and Bear for their contributions to this week’s episode and for Tanner’s modeling shot – Find Your Rainbow.
BTW – Keep an eye out for Bryan’s first pass at his modeling career. Pictures soon to be posted 😊.
We want to thank you all for tuning this year, keeping us company, and for all the love & support. We are excited to see where 2021 takes us and at the very least, Bryan and I will continue to share our stories, give up some laughs, and have a few beers.
Happy New Year all – Much Love!!! – Bryan & Mike
It was an earlier than usual session today, so Bryan had a bit of joe with some PBR Hard Coffee. Mike just went for some of the good stuff – Coronado Brewing Co’s Weekend Vibes IPA.
The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond. Please visit us at www.tottaz.com.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Yesterday in the blog we shared a Brene’ Brown podcast where she interviewed Tim Ferriss & Dax Shepard. We were both inspired by the content, inspired by the vulnerability, and bent over from some of the many laughs. So we decided to still some of the questions Brene’ asked the guys……Thanks again to Brene’, Dax, & Tim (we don’t know them 😊) for inspiring us to share some of our insecurities and stories from some of the same questions.
Link to podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unlocking-us-with-bren%C3%A9-brown/id1494350511?i=1000502558786
This is what we tackle: “What is your sliding door moment?” “A hard habit/practice that is worth it?” “Your bumper sticker saying?” “Regrets?”
It is the holiday season and we certainly are enjoying some tasty brews. This week Bryan enjoyed a Left Hand Brewery Peanut Butter Milk Stout & I sipped on a tasty Stone Enjoy By 01.01.21 Unfiltered IPA.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Father! Friend! Teacher! Coach! Guide! It is fine line and takes “balance” to manage it all. It is even more challenging to let go. Being clutch can be defined as doing something well, being excellent or efficient, constantly juggling, being able to adapt and change….often. It is hard work and there are times we fail daily. Our kids create so many opportunities for us to be clutch parents, in today’s episode we share our mistakes and a few fun thought 😊.
After a week on the lamb we were both back on the beer train. Bryan enjoyed went to a local staple, and Ultra Dad Favorite (wink, wink) South Park Brewery’s Open Range IPA. I went east coast with a Southern Tier Old Man Winter.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We pulled today’s episode from some content offered by many; a quote from many but I originally heard it from Joshua Medcalf & the Train2BClutch Mental Training & Leadership seminar.
“If you have the right skill sets you can rebuild.”
We went a bit deep on this but still had some laughs and fun, along with some technical difficulties. The topics ranged from the victim vs. victor mentality, building houses, growth, persistency, lots of awareness, & battling that in and out of the comfort zone.
Little change, Bryan enjoyed a PBR Extra – that’s right “EXTRA” with 6.5% ALC/VOL. I was a bit jealous since I had some tea and water. Yeah, figured it was the time to take a break leading up to the holidays. It was a good run & be back soon 😊.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We didn’t know how this would all come together. Bryan and I were face to face for our first in person Ultra Dad’s podcast. Since we are low tech and low budget, we did this via the Anchor app on a speaker phone. Kudos to Anchor for the sound quality and ease (btw – happy to discuss sponsorships 😊). We wanted to keep this free flowing and completely authentic, peaking into our Thanksgivings together, and our lives together – which we love to do. We had most of the crew come onto the microphone (speakerphone) today and are so very grateful we can pull this off. Our hope is the sound quality works, and you can grasp a few nuggets. The kiddos did great and we think the puppers behaved for the most part.
During this FACE TO FACE live session, we started off with some OHSO Distillery Jalapeno/Tower Vodka Bloody Mary’s. Through the halfway point we dug into some Eddyline Epic Day Double IPA.
“Drag it through the garden.” – Cindy Shane “Even in the bad & ugly times there is good.” – Cindy Shane
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
ultradads #LFRF #benice #awareness #nocottagecheese #bloodymarybar
How'd we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This was a topic we’ve wanted to hit on for a few weeks so excited to share it with you all. We dig deep into mindset and how it can create wealth and legacy for the future. Can mindset be the foundation for wealth and your legacy?
We touch on great video by Carol Dweck on developing a growth mindset and share some tools we practice. https://youtu.be/hiiEeMN7vbQ
We also dive into some money stuff, puppy stuff, and our ideas around “left foot right foot.”
During recording, Bryan stayed consistent with the wintery weather up in Fairplay sipping on Great Divide Hibernation & I went to a trusted IPA born in the Phoenix area, Four Peaks Brewery’s Hop Knot IPA.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
To start off, Happy Veteran’s Day to all those service folks out there. We are so very grateful for your sacrifices. Today’s episode Bryan and I dig into that topic that can be good, bad, sometimes ugly, but always interesting. We go to thoughts from growing up and are perspective from then to know and how being parents’ factor into the discussion. We have some laughs and share how things shift from extrinsic competition to intrinsic as we’ve grown throughout the years.
During this earlier than normal recording, Bryan reverted back to some New Belgium Accumulation White Ale (it is cold and snowy in Fairplay 😊) while I toasted back a Huss Brewing Copper State IPA.
Keep an eye open for the new Ultra Dad’s Instagram account coming soon #ultra_dads.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Due to some inconvenient circumstances we had to push this week’s episode out to a Friday night happy hour. It still worked out great. We pop up on our soap boxes to discuss the immediacy and push for the holiday season (since September) but also enjoy some of the benefits (holiday beer & movie quotes 😊). We dive into some political conversations, slowing things down, the kiddos, not waiting for someday, and as always, moving forward relentlessly.
“As we move forward, we will, we will, become closer!
Yeah – we shared some “rushing the holiday” grievances but we also enjoyed the beers of the season. During the episode, Bryan sipped on some Christmas Ale from Breckenridge Brewery & I enjoyed the long time seasonal favorite, Celebration Ale by Sierra Nevada.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We turned off the filters and just let this one rip with no editing. You will hear dogs barking, beers cans being popped, and some technical issues…..who knew Anchor only allowed you to go 2 hours. We don’t think about time when we jump into these, but the conversation just flowed and Colin, Bryan, and I just talked – and oh did we enjoy the conversation. We discuss parenting, coaching, wrestling, NEPA, reflecting, and as we try all the time, relentless forward progress. We tried, as the podcast’s title says, share some nuggets on how we are just figuring this out and working to be the best dad’s we can. We were grateful to have Colin join us for his wisdom, humor, and vulnerability. So sit back, grab your favorite drink and enjoy the ride.
“I’ll crack your butt the other way.” – Mr. Benson 😊
If you want to see what Colin is up to these days – check out his business’ website: http://www.twotyresdesign.com/
During the show, Colin enjoyed some fine H2O while Bryan tasted New Belgium’s Accumulation White IPA & I imbibed on Oskar Blues’ Can-O-Bliss IPA.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
To start out we will ask for some forgiveness; right around minute 16:30 through 17:15 there is a delay because of some technical difficulties (aka – we are low budget 😊), so excuse us. Bryan and I are unfiltered and don’t want to mess with the authenticity of our podcasts. Full transparency, I worked on the edit and it didn’t turn out well – but hey, the rest of the show was top notch 😊!! This weeks Ultra Dad’s episode goes into the stories we had from the Aravaipa Running’s “Be Moved” virtual event for Breast Cancer Awareness. Bryan and talk about our experiences, challenges, takeaways, some funny moments and what we learned.
A big thank you to our wives’ and children for the selfless support they continue to provide us when we conduct these nonsensical journeys; to Aravaipa for putting the event together, and to all those that reached out for support and kind words while we were putting it on. A special note to all those ladies out there that have, are going through, and may have to battle breast cancer, we love you, keep moving forward, keep fighting – LFRF!
Because of some schedule challenges this week we conducted the Ultra Dad podcast in the morning so we had coffee, water, and some electrolyte fluids flowing so no beers this week……..although we were tempted 😊.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
ultradads #bemoved #behumbled #othersideofcomfort #LFRF #selflessservice #createdinconvenience
It didn’t take us long to transition to weekly Ultra Dad’s podcasts. We will see how these goes with our schedules but hope to get these out each week moving forward. This week we preview an upcoming charity event we are participating in virtually. It being October and breast cancer awareness month, Aravaipa Running is putting on the “Be Moved” Virtual Race. We go into what prompted us to sign up and our plan going into things starting this weekend.
https://www.aravaiparunning.com/be-moved/
Bryan also gives us a wrap up on his first season coaching cross country for the South Park Middle Schoolers. Tune in for that because it was quite special, I had goose bumps from his story. Always a good thing to have a little Bryan Shane sprinkled into your life 😊.
We did this while enjoying SKA Brewing’s Citrus IPA & Coors Brewing’s Banquet Beer (aka – The Yellow Jacket). So sit back, grab a cold one, and enjoy the journey.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
We had the great fortunate to have our moms involved in our lives and still do to this day. For that we are grateful. We wouldn’t be where we are or who we are without them. Today’s episode of Ultra Dad’s is in tribute to them, Debbie Shane, and Marlene Ubaldini. We’ve all known each other for over 30 years, and it has been a journey. Today we dig into some of that, their perspectives of parenting, marriage, qualities and what it is like raising two knuckleheads like Bryan & I. Sit back and crack a tasty cold one – it was a fun ride.
During this episode we happily and proudly enjoyed some White Claw Black Cherry (Mom Ubaldini 😊), Breckenridge Brewing Oatmeal Stout (Bryan) & some Dogfish Head Punkin Ale (Mike).
“Moving all the heartbeats.” – Deb Shane
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
This is a question I’ve asked myself and several other people in the last year. Most recently, I’ve been able to ask the guest of the podcast this same question and the answers are striking similar. Today we discuss those answers and challenge the audience to think about it as well.
This one was a fun ride and we hope you guys enjoy listening as much as we enjoyed recording. We wanted to talk about the concept of treating family like a team, which I think we did well at, that went to beers, parenting, fatherhood, marriage a bit, current social landscapes, and tied it back to the family topic, & of course beer. It was a good show and we are grateful to have you tune in!
During this episode we happily and proudly enjoyed some Oskar Blues Can-O-Bliss Hazy & Stone Tangerine Express Hazy IPA
“How do you spell love? Time!!”
Today’s episode we are grateful to be joined by Brian Holt. Brian and I attended Drexel University together and were both very involved with our fraternity, Sigma Alpha Epsilon while there. Today we catch up a bit and also dive into his story. We touch on topics about political and societal division, parenting, and ways to possibly create peaceful change in our country.
Really enjoyed catching up with Brian and appreciate him jumping on the show.
The outdoors, whether you’ve been enjoying is ever since you were a kid, or are just getting into it as a wise adult 😊, has been proven to provide healing qualities. In this installment of Ultra Dad’s we talk about what the outdoors have done for us over the years. Healing Freedom Cleansing Connection Contribution Brotherhood
We also talk about how our love for the outdoors has provided opportunities to give back to a number of different communities and causes.
During this episode we happily and proudly enjoyed some Stone Tiki Escape IPA & Stone Enter Night Pilsner.
If you see Bryan Shane out there before Saturday, make sure to wish his cross country team and him all the best in their first meet of the season.
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
Today’s episode we are grateful to be joined by John LeCroix, Owner & Race Director of the Human Potential Running Series. John also created and co-hosts the Ultra Stories Podcast.
https://humanpotentialrunning.com/
https://humanpotentialrunning.com/ultra-stories/
We got into his journey of life, running, ultra-marathon’s, being a business owner, being vulnerable, lessons learned and a quick stop around professional wrestling 😊. One interesting nugget, back in 2004 John created a documentary on Peak Bagging. This was at the ripe age of 22 living in New Hampshire. The name of the project is “48” and linked below via YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RyXJ3QtnTOY
Two similar but different journeys! Family Youth Sports Summit Wrestling Astros Evolving While Wrestling Unmotivated vs. Laziness
We happily and proudly enjoyed some Coors Banquet Beers in support of the Wildland Firefighters. They strong men and women are out there working their tails off to save and protect our favorite natural areas that are being devasted by the wildfires happening in here in the west. If you enjoy drinking a beer or two, please help in supporting these fine folks & pick up a couple!
How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
Bryan & Mike
The title of today’s episode is something we say often in our family. I actually did a search in my manuscript/journal and the phrase shows up 62 times. Guess I do reference it a lot 😊. But there is a purpose and I believe that is one of the best traits we can have, to keep moving forward. It has helped me out so many times on my journey; hopefully, it does the same for you!
It is the basis, foundation for today’s episode as we dig deeper into the following:
Why get better? Pushing limits! Being a clutch parent!
“How’d we get here?
The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created. Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020. There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out. Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life. Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊. All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings. We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years. So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.
-Bryan & Mike
“Through exertion comes enlightenment.”
You may have been asked at one point – “What is that one thing that lead to your success/failure?” No real intro or summary here, we are going to get into directly because……….
Can it be just one thing?
Today we welcome back, for the 2nd time 😊, Bryan Shane to discuss his Climb for the Cure event and our attempt at the Silverheels 100 (+ ish) ultramarathon. Grab a tasty beverage of your choice and sit back. We tend to tell quite the story 😊.
As we role through July, we inch ever closer to the start of the next school year. Us out here in AZ are looking at starting things up in 3 weeks, and yes, the logistics continue to evolve. It is uncertain, unclear, and in many cases, stressful. But it is an opportunity for change and a chance to reinvent how our children can learn and develop?
Let’s dive in shall we?
Getting back into the swing of things and was provided with another great All Pro Dad article about what they should know before they go to college. This was poignant for me since we have a daughter heading into her junior year and another her freshmen. These are all great points, however, I do believe these are lessons we can all remember, no matter what age we may be at. There are times I need to be reminded of some; we all do; hopefully today’s episode helps with that.
The last 24 hours have provided me with some time to review, reflect, and now respond to some things that I noticed. Some good, some bad, some heartwarming, some heart wrenching. I’ve had several conversations with my family, close, dear friends, partners, work colleagues, and some strangers, discussing the world we live in as we approach the 4th of July holiday weekend……. Independence Day.
There were 3 particular videos I came across and I have shared them below, because, that is what is the basis for today’s podcast. Take a watch, listen to the podcast, hear the words in both, and determine your own thoughts. Yes, that is still the great thing about this country, and this world we live in, we have the ability to have our OWN, INDEPENDENT, THOUGHTS!!
Raheem Babalola
https://www.facebook.com/100000280026585/videos/3263700166982619/
OneRepublic
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4W_n9VhvEbs
Lee Greenwood
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5bfsQPWiITs&feature=youtu.be
Today’s episode is a Hodge podge of thoughts, observations, and reflection spoken from the heart. My initial intent was to discuss our country being divided but was inspired but something else. This morning I began reading Out There: A Story of Ultra Recovery by David Clark. Yes, it talks about ultramarathons, which is near and dear to me, but more compelling his battle with demons, struggle, and addiction. I think deep down inside, we all want to be better human beings. However, it can be argued that we, as a culture, have lost much of our human decency.
This excerpt from the book, made me think about why I run in these races, and some drivers. Wanting to be able to push yourself beyond what you believe is attainable, all while battling demons, doesn’t that help the effort in become better?
David writes, “The elite athletes in mainstream sports tend to compete to find out “Who is the better person.” The ultra-world consists of mostly of runners who push themselves to the brink of failure in an effort to measure the depth of their own strength. They seek to find “What kind of person am I?”
This is what we dig into today – What kind of person do we want to be and what decisions are we making to get there?
We’ve talked on the show about those chance meetings. Times when you meet that random person and there is an immediate connection. Back in December of 2018, volunteering at an ultramarathon aid station, one of these “chance meetings” turned into an incredible journey. I was fortunate to get a front row seat to it. What started as a day helping people get through their own personal challenges on the trail continues today with a friendship that I am grateful to be blessed to have. Today’s episode highlights Jeff Beck’s 2019 journey into the world of ultra-trail running and his transformation along the way.
For those in the market for a new pair of running shoes, Jeff writes shoe reviews at https://www.roadtrailrun.com/.
Additionally, we reference Aravaipa Running a few times and have enjoyed many of their races out here in AZ. If you are looking to a desert trail run, highly recommend https://www.aravaiparunning.com/
Believe this may be the second podcast in the last few weeks inspired buy an All Pro Dad article. This one was “The 5 Best Things About the Teenage Years.” Being a father of two teenage daughters, this immediately got my attention. Today’s episode touches on a few of these areas but one in particular; the influence older teenagers can have on their siblings……..or can they? Enjoy!
On this podcast and throughout the blog, I’ve said often, that person sitting next to you has a story to tell. Almost 2 years ago, sitting in the Denver airport, Anthony Silva and I happened to be next to each other grabbing dinner at one of the bars. We were taking in an NFL game (I think it was Steelers?) and we started chatting. Initially it was about football then it went into life. Since then, I’ve been fortunate to have him as a friend, advisor, and guide. Today however, we dig into his journey through childhood challenges, learning disabilities, belief, and becoming lovable. It was a “gift” to have him join me today and am privileged to share.
He did share one of the resources that helped him earlier on and I linked it below:
Landmark Forum Worldwide
“Anger is a very draining motivator.” – Anthony Silva
Received this All Pro Dad Article last week titled, “What I’d do differently if today were my last day.” Not something we want to think about each day, or that often for that matter. However, I’ve dug into it a time or two. The items listed in the article, especially those first two, I believe are what we all would want to do; spend as much time with loved ones as possible. I agree and have some other thoughts that we go into in today’s episode.
We’ve talked a ton about vulnerability on this podcast and in the blog. I had thought we did a podcast on the topic, but I did a search, and nope, no podcast or blog article posted that had it titled. So, being inspired by this Twitter post by Brene’ Brown and video buy former All Blacks Coach Sir Stephen Hansen, today we dig into being vulnerable; what it has taught me, and how it may be useful during current times.
Some incredibly powerful nuggets by Mr. Hansen: “We don’t give those that are struggling permission to say they are struggling.” “We think we have to hide that we are struggling and as a result it bottles up.” “Allow them to be vulnerable. It takes a lot to be vulnerable and how people react to your vulnerability is going to allow you to do it again or shut you down.”
It is hard do believe I’ve known AJ Enfield for over 15 years. We first met, when he was a teenager and I was a new father of two little baby girls when our families began vacationing in San Diego each summer. Over that time, we’ve had many deep and sometimes ridiculous, but funny conversations; most of the time over a tasty beverage. My family has been incredibly blessed to be able to call the entire Enfield clan family; that is what they are, and I’ve been fortunate over the years to have them all as guides in my journey. Today’s episode features AJ, his story, and lessons learned that we can all use.
We visit he and his cousin’s coffee company/podcast journey, Inkledeux & invite you to visit their site below to follow and get some goods 😊!
https://inkledeux.com/
“You are a good person. You are supposed to be good to others.”
The topic for this week’s episode is interesting considering our circumstances. What conveniences and pleasures have been missing lately and what new things are necessary now that are inconvenient that we would like to change? Also, with our situation and more time, what have we been missing for years that we can begin to inject into our lives? We dig deeper into these and a few other topics today.
We had such a good time having our first guest, my wife Robin Ubaldini, a couple episodes ago, we decided to do it again. Hopefully we can make this a pattern. Today’s special guest and I go way back, over 30 years, and it has been a long, strange, wonderful adventure. Bryan Shane, being almost 5 years my younger, and I basically grew up together. He was the younger brother I never had 😊, along with other brothers, Chris, Jeff, and Kevin. There are a number of topics that come out today and it promises to be a fun ride. We will also talk about Bryan’s upcoming fundraising event, Climb for A Cure, to help raise money and awareness for the AIM at Melanoma Foundation. We provided a link below to learn more about the effort and cause. For those willing and able to donate, we would all be very grateful. https://support.aimatmelanoma.org/fundraiser/2721517
You can get your Climb for A Cure merchandise here too with proceeds going to help the fight.
https://www.sweetteastitches.com/climbforacure
“Enlightenment through exertion.”
“Step towards it & take a closer look.”
Seen and heard a lot of division around our country and our world the last few weeks. We live in a free society and are entitled to our opinions. But in reality, what do some of those opinions matter in the grand scheme of things. For example, it doesn’t matter how these current circumstances came about now. It doesn’t matter, what you feel is being done about it; good or bad. It doesn’t matter who is in a leadership position globally, within your country, state, or town. It doesn’t matter because what’s done is done. The question, what are we doing to create our culture? Today’s episode digs into that deeper.
After about 6 months of committing to start having guests on RFP, we actually did it & a big thank you to my wife Robin. Robin has been a teacher for over 20 years and considering the circumstances, and the fact we have a lot of time together now 😊, we are bringing you her interview. This is our first attempt have having a guest on the RFP Podcast so may still be working out some kinks, but this was done without rehearsal or and prep. Hope her thoughts help those teachers out there and all of us as we adjust to our current environment.
We are a world of disruption and uncertainty, but we can do our part to turn it around. In the last week, I’ve seen proof of people effecting change. That change has been apparent in culture, society, behaviors, routines, and mindset. Today’s episode is likely to go in many directions; I say this because I have not recorded it as of this writing. Let’s see where we go & what we can collectively do to change this around.
Much has changed over the last week, months, several months with the impact of the Coronavirus. The amount of uncertainty we are feeling on a global scale has not been experienced since the 1918 Spanish Flu pandemic. It is certainly unprecedented times for our current culture. My belief is that we will figure this out, like we do, in times like this. Today’s episode goes into some thoughts, observations, and just some simple perspective to hopefully help.
“We are in a moment of great transformation.” – Julie Piatt
Another one of those situations where there was a discussion, which presented and opportunity to grow, and a couple days later some type of feedback from the Universe. You may think that is hocus pocus, but this All Pro Dad article will serve as some perspective; it did with me. Last week my wife and I had a conversation about change & today, this article punched me in the gut. Today’s episode shares that story.
“Trying to change someone is futile. You don’t hold that much power.” – Andrew Linder
I am currently rereading Hustle by Joshua Medcalf. He and his team at Train to be Clutch have been integral in helping in my transformation over the years. They have served as mentors, coaches, and guides along the way during certain moments. Today, while reading Hustle, I came across the above question, “what would you do if you couldn’t win?” This episode digs deep into that and more about T2BC.
“Who do you want to become?” – Joshua Medcalf
Pulled this nugget out of Wayne Dyer’s book, I Can See Clearly, a few months back.
“Are you doing this out of love or fear? Are you seeing the dread or the journey?”
It came into play yesterday during a great conversation with our youngest daughter, Alaina, about an upcoming soccer tournament. In today’s RFP episode we share that story and a little nugget.
It is coming toward the tail-end of February and that means the start of baseball’s Spring Training. Living in AZ we are in the heart of the excitement and are fortunate to take in a couple games. This time of year in AZ the weather is fantastic, 70’s during the day, sunshine and fantastic afternoons taking in a game and a couple of ice cold suds 😊! As the MLB season starts ups however, the talk is not so much on the upcoming season but the “SCANDAL” that has been uncovered. I used caps and parenthesis for effect. 😊 Today’s episode we are going to change gears, have some fun, and talk about America’s Pastime.
Today’s episode is focused mostly on partnerships within a relationship with our significant others. However, I’ve been in situations where the 100%-100% discussion has come up in business settings as well. I think it is universal in any type of interaction or collaboration. This topic was inspired by a podcast I listened to between Tim Ferris, his podcast, & Brene’ Brown. I do like her spin on it, but we dig deeper into what I mean.
In my 45 years I can say that I’ve been fortunate to experience quite a bit. Some good, some challenging. Much of it I wasn’t ready for. Today’s episode we talk about that and this quote from Marie Forleo that inspired it:
“You never feel ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.” – MF
We all heard the news on Sunday of the tragic helicopter accident that claimed the lives of 9 people in Southern California. Over the last two days I reflected on this, felt sadness, confusion, and yes, asked why a few times. As a father of a 13-year-old girl, I’ve felt many moments of being in that situation. If you know the story, I think you can understand that to a degree. Today’s episode is about that accident and that thoughts that have been swirling in my head. We at RFP offering prayers to the families and those impacted by this.
“Give yourself space and grace to suck.” – Marie Forleo
Pretty interesting topic, right? The older, or wiser I should say, we get the more graceful we become at failure? Or, is it that we become more accepting of it because it has happened so often to us on our journey? Failing is inevitable and WILL happen. It is unavoidable; unless you live in a bubble and take no risks!! 😊 Today we dig into the topic of graceful failure; and how we can do it vs. going down in a ball of flames 😊.
“Failure is an event, not a characteristic.”
Since the beginning of the new year we’ve been on a path to further creating the life we want to live. Part of that involves some exciting change, sacrifice, risk, and soul searching. It also has me evaluating fear and failure. However, I have tremendous support and belief from my family and others, and, so fortunate to have messages from those I don’t know surfacing each day. Today’s episode goes into what has been helping me and what is it that YOU should maybe be chasing.
“If you have the opportunity to creating a standout day vs. one that will merely bleed into the others, I will often choose the former.” – Billy Yang
As we roll into 2020, I wanted to outline a few nuggets from 2019 and share some thoughts and ideas for 2020. A new decade beginning, and we are excited to see where this new year and new decade takes us. Today’s episode goes into those memorable moments from the past year and what challenges we are looking to tackle next year.
Wanted to put out one last message before we celebrate the holidays and wind down 2019. Nothing major, no deep thoughts, just thanks, gratitude, love, kindness, and peace. We all appreciate the support and love you guys continue to share. Thank you for your support. Go out and enjoy this time with your family, friends, loved ones and step back, breath, be calm, find joy and peace.
Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and incredible New Year.
Wrapping up a book right now call Finding Ultra by Rich Roll. Definitely worth the read whether you are an ultra-endurance athlete or not; just some fantastic lessons. This episode closes in on a quote from the book, from his wife, Julie Roll, “So if that was it would you be satisfied with the way you’d pursued your life?” She is asking Rich about his process throughout his life after a bad bicycle crash. Today we did deeper into that and the lessons to take away.
The last few days I have found myself calmer and in a more peaceful state. My sense it has much to do with the race this past Saturday, which I talked about yesterday in a blog post. There are many factors that can attribute to my current state but this morning, while going on my first run since the race, I listened to this Lewis Howes Podcast with Mel Robbins. Her message and quote below provided some further clarity that will make up today’s episode on the RFP Podcast.
“Success is one thing but what does it mean to be satisfied.” – Mel Robbins
There is a great quote from Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Why this came into my head this morning while meditating I have no idea but did get me thinking about this recent training block leading up to tomorrows race, making plans, setting expectations, and this week changing fast. We get into during this edition of the RFP Podcast.
Wanted to take this time in today’s episode to just share my heart. Communicate what we are thankful for, what we are grateful for & encourage us all to slow down, take a breath, and create some down time for you, your family, and your loved ones.
Did I get your attention? 😊 This is a quote I heard today on the Lewis Howes’ podcast with Neil DeGrasse Tyson. Definitely encourage the listen. His point was around if we are hurting our kids by not embracing that chaos. Today’s RFP podcast talks about this in more details and shares some of our experiences as well.
Been hearing a lot about “leaning into” things lately and wanted to use today’s episode to dig deeper into that concept. Simple intro! Quick overview! Let’s get to it!
Maybe a rant, maybe just things that are on my mind, events and moments over the last week, and a big salute to our Veterans. After 2 weeks of travel and sharing, I am back home noticing happenings in the desert. Today I share them with you in this episode of the RFP Podcast!
On the heels of my daughter’s 16th birthday yesterday I think this is a great topic to discuss on today’s episode. I came across this great quote a couple of weeks ago.
“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” – Pablo Picasso
So much truth today. Having children, at least from this side, gets those artistic juices flowing. Being and adult, sometimes, stifles them.
Showing up each day and honoring your commits is something that I believe is very important in maintaining relentless forward progress. Last week I was asked by two separate people about this topic. Those conversations were around changing behaviors, creating & eliminating habits, and staying true to YOUR standards. Today’s episode goes into some details on those conversations and thoughts.
The more I open my eyes these days, and truthfully, the more open and accepting I get too, the more I see some extraordinary things occurring. I have met many people that are impressed easily and others that you have to shake them to see if they are actually awake and witnessing the same moment. In my 45 years on this planet, I’ve gotten to see, and more importantly, be aware of some great moments. In today’s podcast I share some of those with you all with the purpose, hopefully, to have us all step back each day to witness some of these extraordinary experiences unfolding all around us.
“What does clutch look like?” – Lucas Jadin
I’ve mentioned my journal before. It is a big, 5-subject notebook, yes, I still write in one 😊, that I put my thoughts, actions, progress, and notes in throughout the day and review them once a week, typically on Saturday. I reflect on the progress I made, the things I did well, joyful moments, and of course, my challenges and how I grew through them. Inside this journal, usually at the subject dividers, you know those tan/manila colored things that separate the subjects, I have a bunch of print out, other notes, quotes, and documents that have memorable stories, or pieces of wisdom that I’ve kept over the years. I review these papers once a quarter, roughly, give or take. While traveling this week, I finished a book I was reading and didn’t bring a new one to start. So, I decided to revisit these pieces of wisdom so to speak, and did I get some nuggets. Received a number of ideas for blog articles, podcasts, and things to share. Once specific note was the quote above by Lucas Jadin. I was fortunate to have Lucas as a coach and mentor 2 years ago, and we still connect every now and again to gain some guidance. Next to the quote, on the piece a paper from one of our sessions, was “What does being a clutch dad look like.” I remember that conversation we had, and I remember writing that down. At that time, and now, being a clutch husband, father, and human being are critical to me. Now, as my daughters are in their teenage years, being a clutch father, is an incredibly high priority. Today’s impromptu podcast shares my thoughts on this topic.
You can find out more about Lucas, Joshua Medcalf, and Jamie Gilbert – all coaches and three people that have had a great impact on my growth the last few years at http://www.t2bc.com/.
“It’s not about being better than anyone else. It’s about being better than what you use to be.” – Wayne Dyer
Last week we talked about complacency. This week I feel like we should talk about progress. I was fortunate to come across a Wayne Dyer podcast over the weekend and was blessed by the quote above to offer some perspective. Today’s episode shares it with you.
“When you are overfed, it’s hard to stay hungry.” – Gary Vaynerchuk I heard this quote last week on a video from Gary Vee. That same day, in the same instance, I heard another video of Denzel Washington talking about “not having a plan to fall back on,” because he wants to fall forward. Same day and same time, again, a story about Sylvester Stallone when he was first getting Rocky off the ground, his wife begging him to get a job because they were broke, not wanting to because he felt that would “steal my hunger and dream.” Today’s episode, as you can probably tell, is about where we are complacent.
Been harping on this book, Brene’ Brown’s, “Gifts of Imperfection,” over the last week or so. I mentioned in a blog last week that I went back and reread it because I need to figure out why I felt I was “falling out of love with myself.” 😊 Sounds weird but it was a stage I was at during that moment. When I was finishing up the book, I came across this quote: “What’s the greater risk? Letting go of what people think or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am? Today’s episode we dig into this one. Hope you enjoy the ride.
The excerpt below is from Tim Ferriss’ book, “Tribe of Mentors.” It was from his interview with Sam Harris. If you don’t know either of these guys, Google them, they are worth knowing 😊. I am sharing this because I experience this very often. Perfect example, last week I spoke with a dear loved one that was struggling, in a valley, and questioning where it was all leading. My hope, I believe since I’ve gotten feedback, is that my messages were helpful in helping climb out of that low point. For me, that was fulfilling and gave me great love to be able to provide service to others. However, two weeks ago, I was in the exact same spot and, although I knew what to do and what to say to myself, it was much more difficult to “hear” my message. Today’s episode goes into this story and the continuing journey. “On one level, wisdom is nothing more than the ability to take your own advice. It’s actually very easy to give good advice. It’s actually very hard to follow the advice you know is good……. If someone came to me with my list of problems, I would be able to sort that person out very easily.”
Today marks 18 years since that tragic day, September 11, 2001. We’ve seen all the memorial services, remembrances on social media and TV, and many have shared a prayer, and likely a tear, reflecting back on that day. My plan was to share something else today, but, after sharing a moment with my daughters last night about 9/11, I decided to this was today’s episode would be about. “If we learn nothing else from this tragedy, we learn that life is short and there is no time for hate.” – Sandy Dahl
Being involved in our children’s lives is critical. Can we be too involved? Sure, we can, and we have all seen it; parents driving and pushing our kids to be the best they can be. Whether that is in school, music, theater, dance, or sports. My wife and I can relate, since we have two kids in sports and us too, were both athletes, still are to a degree 😊. Today’s episode goes into our experiences, what we’ve seen, and lessoned we are learning along the way. “Few things are as meaningful as being a part of your kid’s childhood.” – Robin Sharm
Over the last few years I have tried a number of different rituals and practices to improve my sleep and recovery. Today’s episode goes through a number of strategies that have worked, and some that have not. As I have gotten older (wiser 😊) I am beginning to accept and appreciate rest and recovery. We tend to push ourselves to limits, to the point of breakdown. Rather than be proud and letting our ego take over, we must listen to our bodies and help them heal appropriately.
How often are we asked the above question during a week? I really dislike this question because, does it really matter what we do? Not to sound mean but, do we really care what each other does? I believe, at least from this perspective, it is more important to understand who we are? That is what we are talking about in this episode. After reading this great article from All Pro Dad, I changed direction on today’s podcast. “Is what you love the most going to last, or can it be taken away? And if and when it goes away, what will you be left with?” – All Pro Dad
The quote above is by Siri Lindley, a world champion triathlete & coach. I heard he mention this during a Tony Robbins podcast (linked) I listened to earlier this week. I loved that quote and it prompted an idea for this episode, the quote below was what really gave me the idea to hit publish on this one. “The biggest fear I’ve had was accepting me.” Today’s show goes into Siri’s wisdom and my struggles with this same battle.
We are back at it, hopefully fulltime, and putting out podcasts. We had a fabulous July and our vacation time was great. Now we settle back into life, responsibilities, commitments and growth. As school begins and work commitments heat up, plus the other ventures we have our minds set on, there is no time for that vacation hangover. However, it exists, and I know others have felt it recently too. This episode we talk about that, some things that have worked for us, and just some thoughts that have helped us keep moving forward.
It has been about 3 weeks since I last put out a podcast considering our vacation. I tried to put out some updates of our travels but did take a break from the podcast. We have a week home before we hit the road again so wanted to drop this one. In today’s episode, coinciding with my 45th birthday we talk about gratitude, blessings, the USWNT, and what’s happening. “This is my charge to everyone: We have to be better. We have to love more, hate less. We gotta listen more and talk less. We gotta know that this is everybody’s responsibility…it’s our responsibility to make this world a better place.” – Meghan Rapione
RFP Podcast Episode #134 – The Adventure Begins! Like many around the country, and world really, summer brings time for vacation, travel, and fun in the sun for some. Later this week marks the start of our family’s summer adventure. We will all spend some time on vacation together, and the girls will get a good couple of weeks hanging with friends back east. Robin and I will also get some of our own time away just the two of us. We are very fortunate to be able to take this time together as a family, and as the last few entries mentioned, we are not going to take it for granted. Over the next few weeks we plan to certainly slow down, step back, let go, let God, and unplug. Not sure how many podcasts or blog posts we will put out but will want to document and share our journey. Today’s episode kicks it all off. Have a great summer everyone and safe travels 😊!
Talked a bit lately in the podcast and in the blog about slowing things down and taking a step back. Well, today we actually have it as the topic and go into some details on the areas of life we are working on, how we are doing it, and the approach. “I am a slow walker, but I never walk back.” – Abraham Lincoln
Is what you are doing today what you believe you are meant to do? It is okay if not. There are portions of my life that I know I am doing what I am supposed to be doing. Other parts of my life, not so much. Most of us I think are in that boat and I believe we are aware of what we should be doing and working on it. There are some that are content and comfortable with where they are; again, that is okay. However, I know today that there is something bigger coming in my life; something more fulfilling and something more meaningful. Today’s episode goes into more detail on this and hopefully encourages some thoughts and reflection. “Our minds are not shaped by our conditions, but by our decisions.” – Tony Robbins
We all tend to put up walls and not let others into our circle. I became vastly aware of this a few weeks ago during a conversation with my oldest daughter. Yes, we are all different and have different passions, drivers, and priorities. What is incredibly important to my 15-year-old daughter may not be to me. That is okay, however as a parent, I know I have to be better in understanding what is important to my kids, and really, why it is important. Just because we are older than our kids doesn’t mean we are always wiser than them!! Today’s episode digs into that a bit. “Pleasure is terrifying because it breaks down the boundaries between people. Embracing passion means living with fear.” – Erica Long
Coming off of Memorial Day Weekend I want to thank all the past, current, and future generations of men and women that continue to stand up, be brave, and protect our great country. Thank You & God Bless You All! This past holiday weekend was wonderful us (thanks to those courageous men and women!!) but a little different thank the last 11 years. Today’s episode we talk about the differences and other thoughts on change! “Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.” – Theodore Roosevelt
In the last 10 months I have been able to see firsthand, a tremendous amount of growth in both my daughters, but specifically, at least for this podcast, within Alaina. Also, amazing growth in the soccer team she was fortunate to play for this past season. It concluded this past weekend in Flagstaff, AZ, and what a wonderful story it was!!! Today I share it with you!
Noticed something interesting in baseball over the last several weeks. Have always been a fan of the sport and my passion for it ebbed and flowed. Lately something has got me drawn to it so I am following it a bit more than in recent years. Today’s episode, we take a different route, loosen things up a bit, and talk about America’s Pastime.
This week I am traveling to the east coast; specifically, NYC and Philly. Fortunately, I am able to visit Plymouth Meeting, PA, where Robin, the girls, and I spent the last 11 years before moving to AZ. Part of this business trip is allowing me to visit long time friends, family really, and take some time in our “east coast home.” Today’s episode talks about the visit, and what coming back home rekindles.
The last couple weeks I have been writing and also added a podcast about trusting our training. I have thought a bit about, or should I say questioned, if what I was doing in certain situations was the right thing or the wrong thing. This morning, I came across an article by Lucas Jadin, a Train 2B Clutch coach and mentor that has worked with me in the past. Article here: https://mailchi.mp/traintobeclutch/tweaks-in-the-dungeon?e=f2a22bb25c The overall article was compelling for me but what hit me hardest was this: “How many times do we lose trust in our ourselves?” We dig into that in today’s episode. “We build ourselves up so much to believe we are a big deal it causes fear & anxiety when we do not live up to it.” - unknown
Almost every day I get a new Ted Talk deliver to my inbox. Most of the time I see the topic and just hit delete. There are sometimes where the title catches my attention and I take a listen. A few weeks ago, this one by Thomas Curran Perfectionism caught my attention. We talked about this in the podcast and written in the blog about my challenges. Lately, for the last few weeks, I have been thinking a lot about potential, perfectionism, and battling insecurities. Well, I think and fight them every day but some days I am more aware than others. This Ted Talk and the title above, “Self-Compassion,” which came from Mr. Curran’s talk caught my attention. In today’s episode I share my thoughts and journey around this topic. “Celebrate the joys and beauties of imperfection.” – Thomas Curran
The journey we all go on is filled with ups and downs, different cycles, finding what works, and figuring the ride out. Each of our journeys are different. And, I believe, each of our answers to the question above is different. What is your answer? It has been a great last few days for us with visitors from loved ones back east and a great Easter with our AZ family. Today’s episode shares our moments from the long weekend and what we, or at least, I, see as a rich life. “To be rich is not what we own or what you have in your bank account. It is what you have in your heart.” – unknow
That one Sunday in April when Spring is beginning to show its face, flowers are starting to bloom, and the Masters is on its final day. There had been so many years where I would tune in just to see Tiger Woods walking down that 18th. That experience was recreated this past weekend as Tiger won his 5th Masters Tournament and first major golf tournament in 11 years. It was really fun to watch; exciting and somewhat emotional. But, was it the greatest comeback ever? Today’s episode touches on this and what it means from my perspective. Tiger’s Return To Glory
As recent as about two years ago, I was having challenges and struggles in my professional career. So much so that I was wondering what my worth was, if I was incompetent, or if I was just lost. Those feelings are gone today, and I am still doing the same thing, professionally, I was doing at those darker moments. Today’s episode talks about those times and where I went to grow through those circumstances. “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
Over the years I have worked, and continue to do things, to help me become better; a better husband, father, and human being. Like everyone and like with most things, there are good days and days that I struggle. I want to be better because I believe there is more that I CAN. But, is there more that I want? Is there more that I need? Today’s episode digs into that and more of what I learned from. “If you don’t know how to be happy with what you have you will never be happy with more.” – Rick Warren
Lines at the drive through? Mobile ordering at Starbucks? Going through drive through vs. getting out of car & going in? Have we lost connection? Are we always in a hurry? What’s the rush? 😊 Today’s episode we have a little fun with some things we’ve noticed!
Let’s face it, we get angry, frustrated and aggravated at times. It happens to me often, especially when people don’t know how to drive 😉!!! Usually though, that anger is short-lived. Are there ever times when we hold a grudge for a long time or find it difficult to let go of whatever may have caused that frustrated feeling and anger? I heard a story at church a couple of weeks ago and it had me reflect on recent times I have been angry or frustrated. What caused it and how did I react? In today’s episode I share that story and thoughts with you.
Meditation has been very important to me over the last 3-4 years of my transformation. I once believe that anyone who meditated was weird, “out there,” or “a bit off.” Well, I guess I am now one of those folks. They call mediation a practice for a reason; it is not easy, it takes time and patience to master (if you can ever and I am far away from it) but the results, even when you are just starting, can be, well, transformational. In today’s episode I share how I got started, the challenges I face meditating, and the benefits I’ve experienced from it.
How much time do we spend trying to please others? I work to spend time to better myself each day, investing in me. However, I know my mind is constantly thinking about happiness of my family. Are they experiencing joy and fulfillment? Are they happy? It is a delicate balance and I know I forget to ensure I am investing in my standards to get to where I want to go. After a conversation with my family this weekend, we all shared about how we are fighting to meet expectations others and how that is clouding our efforts toward our own. Today we talk about this further and share some helpful thoughts.
I have shared my man crush on Andy Andrews before, but he just puts out such great content I try to work into my life. Over the last couple of weeks, I have shared struggles with being a husband and father. I hope I continue to share the effort and work I am putting in to be better at both each day. That is why this podcast and blog are out there – to share the “stuff” we deal with as a family, how we work through it, the good and bad, and hopefully, give you all something to use or to avoid! Overall, we try to be better each day, to be the adults we want our children to be. I heard that quote from Andy Andrews in a podcast a couple of weeks ago and something even more powerful in todays. In this episode of the RFP podcast we reflect on these topics and thoughts.
Listened to this Lewis Howe’s podcast with Devon Still earlier in the week, and grateful that I did. Devon Still played football for Penn State and some of you know that I am a big fan of PSU Wrestling and Football. Devon Still was at PSU during the Jerry Sandusky scandal and he was actually a senior and captain of the team during that time. Being a fan, it was interesting to hear is perspective. However, what captivated me, and at moments almost brought me to tears, was him sharing the story about his daughter, Leah, and her battle with cancer, at 4 years-old. It was incredibly moving and powerful. In this episode, we share how some lessons I learned from listening to Devon and Lewis helped me through a tough moment this week. “It is okay to not be okay.” – Devon Still
Started reading Carol Dweck’s “Mindset” last week and stumbled upon this quote; “Test scores and measures of achievement tell you where a student is, but they don’t tell you where a student can end up.” It stopped me and had me thinking about this deeply. How often do we 1. Give up on kids, parents, each other, because the perception that we are not good enough, smart enough, fast enough, etc.? 2. How often to we push each other to be better when we should be just meeting each other where we are at? Today’s episode talks more about this and other stories.
& Valleys Our entire life is filled with highs and lows. Throughout the process we try to manage those moments the best we can; not to get overzealous in either situation. Sometimes it is very difficult to not let our emotions get the best of us; having perspective, seeing things from a different set of eyes, will help. Today’s episode we dig into this a little more. “The path out of the valley appears when you choose to see things differently.” Spencer Johnson, M.D.
“Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; & choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.” – Brene’ Brown, “Rising Strong” This is a quote I came across while reading “Rising Strong,” by Brene’ Brown over the last two weeks. I wrote it down and wanted to come back to it and discuss it in a podcast. I know there are times when I choose what is comfortable, rather than what is what I should do!! It happens and, I believe it is okay. As long as that doesn’t become habitual. Today’s episode digs into more.
Was going down a wormhole listening to YouTube videos and came across this Tom Bilyeu Impact Theory with Dr. Shefali about becoming a better parent. I had never heard of Dr. Shefali but thought the topic was in my wheel house, so I gave it a listen. You should definitely give it a listen because she is incredibly transparent, shares much of her imperfections as a mom and a human being, and is wonderfully relatable as a mother; but me, as a father, my head was shaking often. Today’s episode goes into the video and my thoughts around it. “Life is the eternal dance between knowing and not knowing.” – Dr. Shefali
There are times, during dark moments we feel lost and alone. Most of those times we figure out that 1) things are not as bad as they seem to be, 2) this won’t last forever, 3) there are others that have dealt with this same circumstance. I believe we all come to our senses, most of the time, during these moments and that propels us to grow through it. I was reminded of this while mentoring someone through a tough business launch a few weeks ago and felt it was a good topic for today’s episode. “If you can’t be happy with where you are you probably won’t get to where you want to go.” – Joel Osteen
Touched on this a little yesterday in the blog but had a couple of thoughts come to me this morning. I had a meeting that I arrived early for and was reading Brene’ Brown’s book, “Rising Strong.” Yesterday I was a bit hard on myself and feeling guilty. I went about 25 days with booze and eating a mostly plant based diet, adding in chicken, turkey, and fish for some added protein. I was feeling really clear and clean for almost 4 weeks. After a weekend filled with friends being in town, the Waste Management Phoenix Open, my wife’s birthday, and a Super Bowl Party – well, the no booze and plant-based eating went right out the window 2 days. Typically, when I go off the rails a bit, enjoy some of the great thing’s life has to offer (food and beer and fun), I tend to beat myself up a bit. I shared this many times, talked about it, and always work my way out of the funk after a day. I know, it is silly, but it is also a part of life that we all deal with at points. This morning, Robin and I had a great conversation and, I think we both set each other up for a great day; I felt better after speaking with her and sharing some vulnerabilities. While reading the book, I felt compelled to write Robin a text to let her know some thoughts. “I’m waiting for my meeting to start reading Brene’ Brown’s book & of course she is talking about vulnerability. Over that last few years I think I’ve gotten good at sharing my vulnerabilities. That may be good or bad in your eyes sometimes 😬😬. But I do think it inspires others to be courageous. It has helped me realize that I am not perfect & others have seen that giving them permission to make mistakes. It results in us stretching ourselves, going beyond our limits & getting comfortable knowing we are human & make mistakes. My challenge is remembering this & forgiving myself. Sorry for the long text but figured I’d share. Luv u 😘” In today’s episode we go a little bit more on the topic and hopefully inspire others to be vulnerable. “As we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
Today is my extraordinary wife’s birthday. We’ve celebrated 18 of these together over the years. Some have been big and others, small. All of them, have been meaningful, special, and for me, incredibly gratifying. She is my best friend, she ground’s me, and she is one of the three reasons I am here today. This episode recognizes her for all she has done, continues to do, and will do. Love you Robin and Happy Birthday. Here is to so many more!!
Few weeks ago I listened to a Lewis Howes’ podcast, linked here, about how we let our emotions, sometimes rule us. The guest was Jason Wilson and he shared an example of this. Although I get his message, I didn’t agree with the lesson. Today’s episode goes into that and a bit more about how we can work to not let our emotions control us.
Last week I listened to this Human Potential Running Series Ultra Stories podcast. It was with a 30+ year veteran ultramarathoner, Marshall Ulrich. There was a phrase he mentioned when talking about one of his events where he had “no option to failure.” This got me thinking about the phrase above, “failure is not an option.” As I reflected on this statement I came up with a few stories and thoughts that I wanted to share with you. This episode talks about my perspective on this phrase and digs deeper into a lesson I’ve learned.
“Anything that happens to be today is in my best interest. It is an opportunity to for me to learn and grow.” - Joshua Medcalf I shared this quote a couple of weeks ago while talking about the “why’s” we ask when dealing with the circumstances that come into our lives. Having two teenage daughters, life is usually exciting, unpredictable, and yes, sometimes a bit scary. Yesterday was one of those scary days with both our daughters after a trip to the emergency room. Fortunately, all is well now, and we all had some great lessons we’ve learned and things we need to practice. Today’s episode dives into it.
Most of the time we go through each day not realizing how our actions can impact our future. Some try to make it through today, others try to grow through it, and there a many that struggle just finding something to eat or somewhere to sleep. But do we realize how privileged we are just to be where we are, right now? Today’s episodes talk about the small chance that we were created and how are decisions today have long-term effects. “Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind. You have been created in order to make a difference. You have within you the power to change the world.” – Andy Andrews, “The Butterfly Effect”
“Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” – Charles Caleb Colton A few podcasts ago I did a book review of “Burn Your Goals” by Joshua Medcalf and Jamie Gilbert. Last week I came across a chapter titled “Stealing.” It is not what you think, and I found it quite interesting and very, very relatable. I’ve mentioned before, almost everything I share is something I have learned from many before me, incorporated it into my life, practiced it, and, whether it worked or didn’t for me, passed it on to you for you to decide if it will benefit. Today’s episode talks more about “Stealing” and how it helped me. “Everything we do is a training ground for who we want to become.” – Jamie Gilbert
I put the title in quotes with a question mark because I a not sure if finding balance is truly realistic. At least for me, life is always, somewhat, chaotic. That is not a bad thing either because I believe we are constantly stretching ourselves further and further outside of our comfort zone, so we can keep growing. Today’s episode goes into this with a story and some thoughts to follow. “We are either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis, or headed into a crisis.” – Andy Andrews
I know I take for granted many of the freedoms that are offered to us in this country and the world we live in. We are privileged, and I know I need to be better at appreciating these great fortunes. As 2018 ended, the word “freedom” rang in my mind a lot and today’s episode talk more about those thoughts. “Instead of trying to make your life perfect, give yourself freedom to make it an adventure, and go ever upward.” – Drew Houston
As we kickoff 2019 I felt it a good time to touch on the topic of goal setting, or not!! 😊 There are so many around the world that have already started their 2019 resolutions and have outlined their goals for the new year. Today’s episode talks about what I learned from Joshua and Jamie and a completely different approach to what we’ve all been taught was the “right” thing to do. “Every person on earth is inherently worth the same: Infinitely Priceless.” – Joshua Medcalf “Anything that happens to me today is in my best interest. It’s an opportunity to learn and grow.” – Joshua Medcalf
We end 2018 with a question and some encouragement to get out there and work to become the best version of yourself in 2019. Are you fulfilled with where you are or is there more growth in your future? In the last RFP Podcast of 2018, we chat a bit about these items and more. Happy New Year everyone and thank you so much for the love and support.
Most of my life I’ve been a planner, putting things in my calendar to remember, and marking down those “important” actions I want to make sure get done. I found out this past weekend, that sometimes, when you let life unfold, when you let go, the “important” stuff tends to work itself out! This episode I share that experience and hopefully some helpful thoughts. “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.” - unknown
“Your difference in 5 years will be the books you read & the people you meet.” This is a quote that I’ve heard many times from various resources over the years. Prior me starting this journey, reading and, meeting new people, where not too high on my lists. “I don’t have time to read,” and, “I have enough friends,” were misguided thoughts and phrases that I used. Today’s episode talks about how books and connections have changed my life over the last decade.
In the last 7-10 days this thought, or maybe topic, entered my head first from a podcast, then from something I was reading, then from my own process as well. It is about is what we are doing ever enough and what are we okay with. I guess that might be two thoughts but in today’s episode we break it down a bit and, hopefully, get you all thinking?
Friday Fun! Toenails – Are they necessary? This may be an odd topic, and it will be about ultrarunning, it may even be a bit gross, but I believe toenails are useless and todays episode I tell you why. Have some fun with it and forgive me for the unpleasantness 😊.
Prior to going on this journey, a decade ago, I’ve always though your attitude drove everything. Good or bad it would dictate your day, your week, your life. However, I don’t think I really understood how powerful it can be, and, our ability to determine it. Where does it come from? Your mindset, conditioning, beliefs, standards, teachings? Today’s episode, we dig into this more. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelo
Not much to preview on this one other so I will just say we all are exceptional in some way. We just must find a way to help each other see it. “Stop looking for that quantum leap.” – Jeff Olson
Not much to preview on this one other so I will just say we all are exceptional in some way. We just must find a way to help each other see it. “Stop looking for that quantum leap.” – Jeff Olson
The time between Thanksgiving & the Christmas/Hanukkah Season Welcome everyone to that festive time of year where so many of us begin to lose our minds. We are stressed out with shopping, spending, sharing, loving, cooking, and everything else that we “need” to get done to make “this holiday season special.” I was thinking about this topic today and, as it happens so often, I was given perspective by a Tony Robbins Podcast about a great book I read recently, Untethered Soul. This one may go all over the place so hopefully you can follow along and grab a nugget or two. “It is not the boulders that get in our way, the pebbles are the ones that really screw us up.” – Tony Robbins
Share Something Marvelous with Your Kids - There are some rare moments that I get to have some down time with my daughters, individually, where we are not running around. This gives me the opportunity to see what’s happening in their lives, one on one, and just listen to what they are experiencing. Today’s episode shares some of those thoughts, a quick story, and a laugh or two.
According to liveandlovework.com, being intentional is “you are purposeful in word and action. It means you live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling to you. It means you make thoughtful choices in your life. Being intentional means you actively interact and engage with your life.” Simply said, this is today’s episode.
What do you do when no one is watching? What do you do when they are? When I was growing up, I imagined, that no matter where I was, what I was doing, my dad knew what I was up to. That conditioned me to try to be nice, kind, respectful, and do the right thing. It worked, for the most part (right dad 😊); I did have my fare share of mistakes!! But, as I grew older, it did teach me to do the right things, even when someone isn’t watching, or you don’t feel like someone is. Today’s episode we dig deeper into this and, the opposite, when we are watching!! “The true test of a man's character is what he does when no one is watching.” – John Wooden
I drafted some thoughts on a book I just started reading, “Strong Fathers Strong Daughters,” by Meg Meeker, M.D. Today – I am going to just add them in this section and I am going to share my heart. Possibly an extension of blog from yesterday, about kids, this one specifically about daughters. “Strong Fathers Strong Daughters” by Meg Meeker, M.D. – Story about this girl that had a good freshman year in college but her sophomore year became a bit of a wild child, drinking too much, partying too much, so much so she got thrown out of school and had to take her things and as Dr. Meeker says, “her disappointments and go back to live w/ her parents.” When she arrived at home, she got an unexpected reaction from her father, he asked, “Are you okay?” – this is how Dr. Meeker tells the story of the experience from the daughter’s side: “I knew he loved me. Sure, he was proud of me, but that was always on the periphery of our relationship. He didn’t let his disappointment or anger ever supersede his love.”
I’ve mentioned before that I use the Headspace app to guide me in my meditation each day. A few weeks ago, there was a question asked, during a mediation, “what is the most important thing in your life right now?” I felt that this was a good topic to have as a podcast and today’s episode digs into it. “Live life without hesitation.” - #5secondrule by Mel Robbins
Friday Fun with what gives me anxiety!!! Running an ultramarathon, or any race for that matter, can give you some anxiety. The sheer distance, how your body will react, where your mind will be, how things will go. Many things can cause you stress leading into the race, and, during!! Today’s episode, I share with you what gets me. Brace yourself for some transparency, more than you probably will like, but, if anything, hopefully you will have a laugh! “Never trust a fart during an ultramarathon.” - many
A couple of weeks ago I put out a podcast entitled “Fear vs. Courage.” I think we mainly think of displays of courage in large circumstances, not our daily life. Last week I began reading Mel Robbin’s “5 Second Rule” and one chapter talked about those small instances, each day, we all display courage. I don’t believe we give ourselves enough credit for how much courage we all have in us. Each day, everyone of us, in some fashion, mostly in small instances, display courage that impacts us, and others, far into the future. Today’s episode we share some of those thoughts. “Courage is forged in pain. Pain that is denied or ignored becomes fear or hate” – Brene’ Brown
This will be the final podcast/blog post before the race. Will be getting back to it, likely mid-next week after some rest and recover 😊, with a race wrap-up, and some other fun stuff to share. Two days before we toe that line and wanted to express some final thoughts and reflection. Thanks for being with us for this journey and looking forward to Saturday/Sunday. Whatever the outcome, there will be a great story to tell!!! “Good judgement comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgement.” – Mark Twain
Race week - How do you train for that? We are only a few days out from the Javelina Jundred, my second 100-mile ultra-marathon. This one, again in AZ, is a bit different since, I now live here so it makes that portion of the journey much easier. However, running 100 miles is still, well, running 100 miles. This week I am going to share the process leading up to this point and what my mind is going through, in this episode, and in the blog posts throughout the week. Hope you all enjoy, even those that have no interest in running……ever 😊!!!
There is a good portion of the material that I share that I am fortunate enough to come across and learn from others. I am grateful for their courage to share their insecurities, and that has provided me the inspiration to share mine. This wisdom, if you well, or education, comes from conversations with mentors and connect with others, but also comes from books, articles, publications, and yes, podcasts, as well as YouTube videos and the like. There have been many that shared with me, when asked, “what is it that you listen that keeps you going?” So, after being asked recently, I thought it might be useful to share mine. I’ve listed them below and we certainly talk about them in more detail in this episode. Dr. Wayne Dyer Podcast Lewis Howes School of Greatness Billy Yang Podcast Ultrarunnerpodcast.com The Tony Robbins Podcast The GaryVee Experience Andy Andrews Podcast Trail Runner Nation Ultra Stories by Human Potential Impact Theory – YouTube Dailyvee – YouTube
This morning I had the great fortune of meeting with a group of young adults that are looking to be mentored. As I reflected on such a wonderful experience, I thought about all the people that have helped me get to this point, specifically mentors. This episode discusses some of the one’s I’ve had and how I found them. “I’ve learned a lot from mentors who were instrumental in shaping me, and I want to share what I’ve learned.” — Herbie Hancock
There is something to say about getting up before everything else and getting a start on your day. There is peace, quiet; a calmness when you are the only one up and about. I think it sets a tone for the day and puts us in the right mindset for what is to come. Today’s episode talks more about this and some ideas. “Get YOURSELF done before the distractions of the world take over.” - unknown
Several weeks ago I listened to an Impact Theory episode with Alex Banayan (linked) and really liked what he had to say about shame, doubt, courage and fear. Thought it was connected to what Brene’ Brown has shared in her books. After listening I went and bought his book “The Third Door” and finished reading that a couple of weeks ago. The topic of fear and courage form the podcast and book resonated with me and that is what we are talking about in today’s podcast. “Shame – the second you speak something out loud it doesn’t have power over you anymore.” – Alex Banayan
Last week I read another “All Pro Dad” article by Tony Dungy, former NFL Football coach, titled “Are you tough.” I encourage you to read it because the title doesn’t represent where the story goes and I believe that was on purpose. This got me thinking about the meaning of toughness and how I’ve discussed it with my daughters. Today’s episode discusses that and other thoughts around what “being tough” means to me.
The last week I’ve been thinking a lot about others in my life and many that I want to help. Who is it that I want to reach and how can I connect with them. This episode shares my heart on the audience I want to be able to impact and help; the ones I want to share the journey of life with. “Appreciate where you are.” – Billy Yang “Be present and accept whatever comes your way.” – Timothy Olsen
The things we want! Had an idea of a blog post come to my mind last week from a conversation I had with my wife on what it is I want to do. I started writing it on Friday but still need to put some work into it. While meditating this morning I thought more about that “want” word and reflected on things that I set out to get and never did, how has that impacted me. Today’s episode talks a bit about that. “Remember not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” Dalai Lama
Have spoken on this topic often and shared my thoughts on it. It is something I believe in but, many times, it is very challenging to “be in love” all the time. This morning I read an article by James Clear titled, “How to Stay Focused When You Get Board Working Toward Your Goals.” The last paragraph about this love, maybe hate, relationship got me thinking and today’s episode shares those thoughts. “If you can get through the things you hate doing greatness will be on the other side.” – David Goggins
Wrote down a note a few weeks back for a podcast episode to discuss some interesting feelings I’ve had with traveling in and out of Phoenix and how it felt vs. my 11 years in Philly. That gave me the idea, since we’ve been in Phoenix for 2 months now, to provide you all with some observations. Today’s episode goes into some of those things I’ve seen, some laughs, and some thoughts. “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.” – Wayne Dyer
It has been a week since my last podcast due to travel and some down time so this one is a bit longer than usual. The last several days I got to live through some amazing experiences. From spending time with great friends and loved ones, meeting some great human beings, driving through beautiful areas of the western U.S., and learning, first hand, from my two daughters how incredible kids can be if we let them create their moments. Today’s episode, one that I went into with a little different approach, talks about what I lived, learned, and loved the last 4 days or so. “The more we continue to push through the more cluttered we get.” – Lucas Jadin
RFP Podcast Episode #72 – “Just today” I heard the above phrase in a Wayne Dyer podcast. He was talking about his battle with alcoholism and how he quite drinking by just saying, “I am not going to drink today.” He ended up staying sober for over 20+ years until his death. How many times do we set out on journey are forget that it is about each step we take and not the destination we are going to. It can be with drinking, starting an exercise program, starting a business, finding a partner in life, whatever the case. We set our sights on what is off in the distance rather than what is right in front of us. This episode talks about my battle with this and how these words have resonated with me so much in the last several days. “God, grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Serenity Prayer
RFP Podcast Episode #71 – The Most Wonderful Time of Year! For so many years, Saturdays in the fall were my day to just sit on the couch, or at my nearest watering hole, and sip some suds, eat some food that isn’t all that great for me, and enjoy my favorite game. Penn State is my college football team and, at the very least, that is my main choice, but love watching the game in general. Really doesn’t matter who is playing. Life gets in the way and those “days” spent in front of the TV watching games has dwindled down to hours, sometimes I am just refreshing scores on my phone. However, as we head in to Labor Day 2018, our family has nothing happening tomorrow, so we are ALL basking in the glory of NCAA Football. Today’s episode is just about fun.
When it is not your day? Typically, I put a blog post out there for my post race wrap up. This time I decided to do a podcast so you can hear my voice and lessons learned when you have a day, when in reality, you are not at your best. The time since late Saturday night has been a struggle, but something, I believe, had to happen. And, coincidentally, I received this in my email today, a very relevant, and very timely All Pro Dad. Hope you enjoy this one, it meant a lot to me. https://www.allprodad.com/the-5-biggest-fears-of-men/ “Failure doesn’t define you; it is just something we all experience on the journey.”
Yesterday, our Mastermind Group got together on our usual biweekly call to update each other on our growth, discuss our challenges, and see how we can lift each other up and beyond our struggles. As typically the case, it was a great call, with love, gratitude, transparency, and, in some cases, toughness. That is why we have all grown so much over the last 2-3 years. As a follow on to our call, one member of our group (thanks Brian Janes) shared with us this wonderful excerpt from his daily meditation and I am sharing it with you on today’s episode. “I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me. For some of us, the idea that we were responsible for other people’s feeling had its roots in childhood and was established by members of our nuclear family. We may have been told that we made our mother or father miserable, leading directly to the idea that we were al
Walking the Edge Just yesterday I finished reading “The Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer. It was a very good book, quick read actually, and offered some excellent nuggets. One specifically caught my attention, so much so that I wrote it down and wanted to launch a podcast about it. Today’s episode shares a metaphor on life about how we feel when we get close to that edge. “Ultimately, if you protect yourself perfectly, you will never grow.” – Michael Singer, “The Untethered Soul.”
I do believe I shared this video in the past – “Ten Thousand Hours.” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWEF5Ie89ug
This episode will dig deep into how we tend to have this misconception on what it takes to create the life we want to live. Those looking in from the outside see what is sexy and fun, but they don’t see the dirty hard work and the struggle to overcome so much. There are so many mentors I’ve been fortunate to learn from that got me to overlook the results and focus on the daily practice of being better (thank you guys at http://www.t2bc.com/).
“Make the world that put you here happy that it put you here.” - unknown
Got this title from something a brave and wonderful member (Thanks Patty!!!) from my Mastermind group said during our call this past week. She was basically referring to us, human beings, and that we all want to be loved and feel that we are contributing. How great is that and how true is that? I am struggling to remember the exact context that she mentioned it, but I wrote it down once I heard it and felt to talk about it in today’s episode. Enjoy & love to you all.
“Success is not a function of the size of your title but the richness of your contribution.” – Robin S. Sharma
During my run today, the thoughts about what we’ve experienced the last several months came to mind. How, certain parts of this journey, this move to AZ, felt natural, right and uncomfortable. The moments leading up to the move, there was many natural feelings. Since we got out here, things have not felt natural, but it feels right. We know it is right and we know, staying in PA, was not going to be right, it would have become too comfortable. This episode talks about that and the decision to make things unnatural.
“How would the person I want to be think about what I am about to do?” - unknown
This week I started reading Brene’ Brown’s book, “Braving Wilderness.” It is about how we try work so hard to try to fit in and “belong.” I am learning, more and more, as I continue to go through this journey of life that the Universe provides us with guidance and answers. There were messages that I received, just in the first chapter of this book already, that gave me wisdom to share with my youngest daughter Alaina. This episode shares that moment as we continue our transition out west.
“Don’t think you can be brave with your life and your work and never disappoint anyone. It doesn’t work that way.” – Oprah Winfrey
Today, Robin and I finally get to see our girls after 3.5 weeks away. We feel it was a good opportunity for them to spend time with their friends back east, say their goodbyes, for now, and enjoy their summer before hitting the ground running next week. It also provided Robin and I the ability to get the house ready and have them come right into their new home. Today’s episode we talk about that process, feelings, emotions, and the next step.
“You’re off to great places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting so…..get on your way! ‘ Dr. Seus
Back from the hiatus and spinning many plates in the air.
It has been 3 weeks since the last episode, so we are going to fill this one with updates, progress, setbacks, and all the other fun stuff that we experienced on this journey. Most of it was fun, we grew a lot, and continue to relentlessly move forward.
“Don’t quit on a bad day.” - unknown
As of this moment, we are no longer residents of PA; or of anywhere for that matter. The movers came on Thursday, we closed on our PA house Friday, and are down the NJ shore for a few days as a family, to get some R&R before we make the trek across the country. Today’s episode, and probably a few more over the next couple weeks, will be about this journey. I am not sure how much time I will get to publish stuff but did want to get this out before the 4th of July holiday. Enjoy the time, our journey, and the nuggets.
Heard this question asked today on Impact Theory and wanted to talk about it a bit in this episode. “What are the questions you will ask yourself about your life at the end of your life?” – Brendon Burchard
As my family and I set out to move to AZ in the next few days, there are so many thoughts and emotions running through my mind. Even with all that going on in my mind, I know, we know, deep down it is what we are supposed to do, at this time, where we are in our lives. Whatever the outcome, where ever this journey takes us, when my time comes, I won’t be asking, “what if we moved back to Phoenix.” We are doing it.
“What are the things you will regret that you didn’t do?” – Jay Shetty
Came across this article earlier this week from Brendan Leonard on semi-rad.com.
https://semi-rad.com/2018/06/what-happens-when-you-leave-cell-service-behind/
How much are we plugged in? How distracted are we? How tied into our devices can we be? This episode talks a bit about unplugging and taking time each day for you!!
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes……. including you.” – Anne Lamott
Lately I have been hearing much debate between talent and hard work. The word skill is often thrown in there as well. I believe, in some way, they are all directly related but it all starts with the work. In today’s episode I share my thoughts on what I’ve experienced on the subjects.
“Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” – Tim Notke
As parents, and I think, particularly, fathers of daughters, we want to protect our children, keep them safe, and try to limit their mistakes. However, are we doing them a disservice? We love our kids so much we don’t want to see the fail, to hurt, or to be disappointed. However, this is the path they must go down. They must experience disappointment, failure, and fear; facing and overcoming each of them. This episode talks more about that and letting them go on their own journey.
“To love them at the highest level is to allow them to suffer.” – James Lawrence
While listened to a Lewis Howes podcast recently with Jesse Itzler I was reminded of these two, I think somewhat related, characteristics of a meaningful life. There are so many different ways of defining success and whether your life has meaning. I believe these are two important things to factor in and to practice. Today’s RFP Podcast touches on both a bit.
Is what you are doing proving lasting fulfillment? Are you factoring in time for yourself daily?
A few months back I was told that picking up and moving my family to Arizona, at this stage of our lives, wasn’t practical. It took a lot for me not to preach to this person about my reasons, what it means to us as a family, and about chasing a dream. Once again, meditation help me and those, “three deep breaths,” moved me to empathy as I excused myself from the conversation. Two weeks ago, I came across this Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu & Bedros Keuilian video that reminded me of that conversation. Today’s podcast shares my thoughts and heart on the topic.
Impact Theory YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0z2Kio2xlGI
“I believe impracticality is the principal element of a fulfilling life.” – Brendan Leonard
This is a saying we have in our family and it is spoken often. Historically, I’ve always been one to plan in order to avoid the unexpected. The more I transform and grow, more importantly, the more I let go and let God, the more I have faith that, we will figure it out. Today’s episode goes into our approach to this and how it came to be.
“Everything is figureoutable.” – Marie Forleo
Had to stop and get gas earlier this week on my way to my office. While doing so I figured I would grab a cup of coffee. Gas station coffee!!! Needless to say, I’ve had better. That got me thinking about coffee, gas station coffee, and I couldn’t ever recall me having a good cup of coffee from a gas station. Not that I am a coffee aficionado or anything but did think it would be a fun topic for a podcast.
“This gas station coffee tastes like I’m broke.” – unknown…. & funny
We are consistently seeing so many tragedies happening at schools across the country. We aren’t even half way through 2018 and I believe I’ve read where there have been 21 school shootings. It is tragic, sad, and disheartening to be in our world having to have conversations with our children about these topics. However, that is reality and we must provide our children with the wisdom to mentally handle these situations. Today’s episode goes into some thoughts on this and a story I had with my daughters on this topic.
“Talk with your children and you will hear their voice. Walk with them through life and you will feel their heart.” – Geoff Reese
When I started this journey of sharing my story, my insecurities, and being vulnerable in January of 2017, I had no idea how it would change my life. I also didn’t understand how it might effect change in others. Today’s episode touches on this and my next project coming soon.
“as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same” – Marianne Williamson
Baby diapers to pads & liners. Dudes having daughters!!!!
While in the grocery store today a thought came to me, as strange as it may seem to folks out there, but I do have a warped mind 😊; “damn we buy a lot of pads.” For those that may not be familiar, these are feminine products :O!! We’ve come a long way since those earlier days. That is the reality when you live with 3 women or at least one woman and 2 teenager daughters. So, to celebrate “Funday Sunday” – I am publishing this podcast to share my story and make some folks smiles.
Earlier this week I came across this Mel Robbins YouTube video while running. (see link below)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Lz0VOltZKA
She talks about her 5 second rule & actually wrote a book about it. It changed her life and helped her create a habit of taking action each morning. For quite some time I’ve used three deep breaths and practice it each day. Having two daughters gives me the ability to work on it with them too. When they are dealing with the stress and pressures of life or they are getting emotional, take 3 deep breaths. Today’s episode discusses a bit about that and how it has worked for us.
“You are one decision away from a totally different life.” – Mel Robbins
Daughter’s, Boyfriends, 1st Kisses, & “The Talk!!!”
Not sure if how we spent Mother’s Day celebrating my wife Robin but the conversation took an interesting turn at brunch. However, it was a heartwarming, emotional experience for me and feel that I was able to connect, as a father, to my daughters, while having a discussion around the physical aspects of relationships and what goes along with it. This episodes digs a bit into that conversation and how, as a dad, I uncomfortably toed that line 😊…..
“A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.” – unknown
There are moments that I cringe a bit when young kids, my girls ages, tell me about their heroes. Lebron James, Tom Brady, Tiger Woods, or even Steve Jobs. Don’t get me wrong, I think each of these individuals, and so many others in business, sport, academics, etc. have done great things and possess wonderful qualities that we can certainly emulate and tried to use in our lives. But I have a hard time putting them into the “hero” category. Today’s episode talks about my thoughts on this and my heroes over time, because I think they can change
“I think a hero is any person really intent on making this a better place for all people.” - Maya Angelou
The seasons of our life change. Our priorities change, depending on what our mission is at that point in time. For us, one of our highest priorities is our move out west. Not something that happens all that often so it is impacting what we perceive to be our typical habits. Sometimes it is tough to stay true to those “typical habits” when other, new priorities change. That is okay, not one thing last forever, and you will be able to go back to the other “seasons.” Forgive yourself. Realize priorities change, seasons, change, life changes and we just need to keep relentless forward progress toward being the best versions of ourselves.
“In order to say yes to your priorities, you have to be willing to say no to something else.” - unknown
Each day presents us with challenges and we truly never know what is going to come across us in our routines. Having two daughters (14 & 12) with all the things happening in today’s world and wanting to protect them, we can run ourselves ragged thinking about the nonsense. I believe fears will be present no matter what but we can process those fears; they are not reality. My biggest fear is something happening to those that I love. However, gratitude and appreciation for what I do have, the moments I can create with them, those are precious and few. Let’s do a better job of slowing down and be present with those loved ones. Today’s episode goes into it a bit more.
“Fear of the unknown will create regret. Faith in the process will create results.” - unknown
We get use to our routines? Whether that is preparing for a race, a test, a new job, a new relationship. Our habits and commitments change based on what our blueprint is for life. And those blueprints changes based upon the different phases of your life. And those phase change, daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. Based on those phases, what should your life look like? Where are you headed? What are your short-term and long-term visions/missions? Your life is going to look different based on where you are going today and when you get there tomorrow. When we set certain expectations for ourselves, and those expectations aren’t lived up to, is there disappointment? Is that how you want your life to look like?
“Trade expectations for appreciation.” - Tony Robbins
For most of my life I have portrayed stories that were not necessarily always, “my true story.” I exaggerated, stretched the truth, and downright lied. Most of the time it was to try to impress someone, pretend to be something I am not, to avoid trouble, or to not face failure or fear. I believe the last one, facing failure or fear, is the real root cause of why we avoid being true. In this social media filled world we try to present all the best things that are happening to us and share the world how great our lives are. However, and I speak this from experience, the more I’ve shared my true stories, my insecurities, failures, and fears, the more I’ve expressed my vulnerabilities, the more connection I find with others.
Are we truly being real to others? Are we truly being real to ourselves?
“Owning our story can be hard but not as nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.” Brene’ Brown
What are we doing with our “delayed time?”
Gary Vaynerchuk shared a nugget that caught my attention recently. He said, “When you are put into an inconvenient circumstance, how do you maximize that moment?” That made me think about the times, where I am feeling put out, standing in line for a coffee and I am running rate!!! Rather than use the time to be grateful and productive, I complain that it is taking too long!! That can be a moment where we can just slow down and breath, to have gratitude. Today’s episode talks a little about some things to do and how to use those short inconveniences to grow a bit!!
“Be in a hurry to learn, no in a hurry to get validation.” – Evan Williams
Each day we are blessed with the opportunity to engage with many people. Going to the store, gym, your office, or whatever it is that we do daily, we come across other human beings. Many times, we have our heads in our screens, going through life with blinders on, missing a chance to connect. But sometimes, when we look up, smile, say hi, we just might change someone’s day; someone’s life. In today’s episode we talk a bit about this!!!
“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; this is to have succeeded.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
The title I got from a TedX talk I watched last week by Stephen Duneier (link here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQMbvJNRpLE) It focused on exactly what it sounds like, marginal improvements over time, small changes, consistently, over time, can get you to where you want to go. I spent much of my life so connected to wanting the “big win” and wasn’t aware that it took consistent effort and work over time, relentless forward progress, to be better.
Often when I am reading, listening to a podcast or speaking with someone, they say something that speaks directly to me. Whether it is an issue they are dealing with, an obstacle they’ve overcome, or a recent hill they just climbed. I believe that we all want to understand others and be understood ourselves. In today’s podcast I share a cool little story of someone, whom I’ve never met, I related to on two different occurrences.
Great Nuggets from Sam Harris in two of Tim Ferriss’ Books: “Tribe of Mentors” – “Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I complain to my wife about it. After listening patiently for about 30 seconds, she generally tells me to STFU. Then I meditate or work out.” “Tools of Titans” – “On one level, wisdom is nothing more than the ability to take your own advice. It’s actually very easy to give good advice. It is very hard to follow the advice that you know is good…..If someone came to me with my list of problems, I would be able to sort that person out very easily.”
Who are we to share our story publicly?
Heard this question last week while on vacation and got me thinking about how often we can get stuck. We tend to be hesitant in sharing our story because of what others would think? Because of perceived judgement of others and of us. I’ve thought about this in the past about what gave me the right to share my story. In this episode we talk a bit about this and how to become more courageous.
“If you are not being criticized you are probably not doing anything exceptional.” - Neil Straus
I have been blessed to have an amazing wife, and two, very, very special children. These three people make up my desire to keep moving forward. As parents, we hope that the lessons we try and teach our kids sink in and help them, at least some of the time, overcome troubles and challenges. My heart was moved yesterday when my 11 year-old daughter, Alaina, showed true grit and perseverance. This RFP episode shares that moment. – “I realized that the outcome is not the outcome. What we think of as endpoints to a goal are really just forks in the road that is endlessly forking. In the big picture of our life we really don’t know whether a particular success or failure is actually helping our hurting us.” - Neil Strauss
Our kids are amazing. We must let them be creative and determine, for themselves, who they truly want to be.
“You create your moment.” - unknown
Are we truly testing ourselves each day? Are we creating the lives we want to live? I know there are times that I avoid taking risks because of that fear of uncertainty. We tend to want things easier, comfortable, and secure. However, are we really serving ourselves? Are we going out, testing ourselves, challenging ourselves and truly experience this wonderful life we have? What new thing can we try today? “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty & well-preserved body; rather to skid broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out & loudly proclaiming, ‘wow, what a ride!” – Hunter S. Thompson
“Today is a good day to die.” – Crazy Horse
Heard this quote above during a podcast and got me thinking. I Googled it and found this definition that pulled on my heart a bit. “A belief that one should never live a moment of one's life with any regrets, or tasks left undone. Which would make today as good a day as any to die.” - yourdictionary.com Are we living each day to our fullest potential? What regrets are we living with?
Product Endorsement – Darn Tough Socks
https://darntough.com
This is my first product endorsement podcast that I’ve shared and in all honesty, I can’t remember a product in the resent past that I’ve just completely loved!!! Darn Tough Socks is that product and I share the story how I came across them, use them, and benefits. This is the actual style I have - https://darntough.com/collections/mens-hike-trek/products/boot-sock-full-cushion-1?variant=30180817799. Three pairs right now and still growing!!!!
“Marriage” – Happy Anniversary Robin😊!!!
I’ve shared this before, never thought I would get married or have kids. Hard to believe 16 years later, my wife Robin, still puts up with me and my antics. However, over those 16 years my wife has given me the will and drive to be a better human being. Finding true love is difficult, keeping it and maintaining a fulfilling marriage is very challenging. Today’s episode, in honor of our anniversary, talks about some the challenges we’ve experienced and principles that have helped us over time. “Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength and soul can be a true master. For this reason, mastery demands all of a person.” – Albert Einstein
Remember our heroes! Thank you all for your service!
Over the last several years I have been fortunate enough to be a part of a group called Active Heroes/Carry the Fallen. They are a national foundation to support veteran suicide. A good friend of mine, Brian Poliafico, started the Philadelphia/South Jersey chapter and I’ve been grateful to take part of many of those events. I’ve done those event in honor of David Michael Collins. His story and more information on Carry the Fallen is linked below.
It doesn’t have to be Veterans Day or Memorial Day to honor our heroes. Today’s episode is in honor of David and his brothers.
“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:13
Back in the fall I published a blog, “A Few Things That Helped Me Start” – November 16th. I was inspired that day by listening to a few principles Jim Rohn had lived his life by. That prompted me to write the seven things, I believe, helped make a direct impact in my life and helped begin this journey. I mentioned in that blog, I am no master of any of these. They are principles I still believe in and still practice each day. Some days are good, some are not, but I keep showing up and working at them. Today’s episode outlines them.
“It’s not about what you expect from life but what life expects from you.” – Viktor Frankl
I waste a lot of time thinking about what might be coming up next, focusing on things that may or may not happen in the future. That takes away from our ability to be present in the moment; what is happening now, right in front of our face. How much time do we lose? What moments to we miss? How much time can we not get back? These are some things that we talked about & experienced ourselves over the weekend and this episodes talk about them.
“Control what you can control and everything beyond that, accept it and work with it.” – unknown
RFP Podcast Episode #29 – “Easier said than done.”
I catch myself saying this phrase more often than I’d like when speaking and working with others. Of course, something is easier said than the actual action of doing it!!! I Googled the saying and it brought back these two results that we dig into a bit deeper in this episode.
- “be more easily talked about than put into practice” – Google Dictionary
- “said when something seems like a good idea but would be difficult to do” – Cambridge English Dictionary
Reading these got me thinking and discussing the topic. Do we unconscientiously defeat ourselves from taking action toward a task before even getting started just by the thought that it might be difficult?
What perceived thoughts are preventing you from taking that first step?
“Don’t overestimate the world and don’t underestimate yourself. You are better than you think!!” - unknown
RFP Podcast Episode #28 – Honoring others!
I believe I touched on this last week, how and each time we open social media or turn on the news we come across drama, tragedy, negativity. However, sometimes and it should be the rule rather than the exception, we hear about true kindness, love, and generosity. I was made aware of one such story by my wife, that took place last night in her home state (see link below). This is the type of news that should be the norm.
http://www.espn.com/video/clip?id=22581611 – “Bohannon honors Street's Iowa record by missing free throw” “The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is.” – Jim Carrey
RFP Podcast Episode #27 – A book review. “Tribe of Mentors” – by Timothy Ferriss
Cracked this book last week and only 14% into it (according to my Kindle) and it has been mind opening. I go into some outline on the basis of the book but today’s section I read, one that covered questions answered by Mike Maples, really struck my heart and soul. Timothy asked Mike, “What advice would you give to a smart, driven collect student about to enter the ‘real world.”? Here is Mike’s answer. “Life will go faster than you know. It will be tempting to live a life that impresses others. But this is the wrong path. The right path is to know that life is short, every day is a gift, and you have certain gifts. Happiness is about understanding that the gift of life should be honored every day by offering your gifts to the world. Don’t let yourself define what matters by the dogma of other people’s thoughts. And even more important, don’t let the thoughts of self-doubt and chattering self-criticism in
RFP Podcast Episode #26 – I wanted to tell the world a different story. My true story.
In 2017 I decided to start a blog and a podcast. Why? I wanted to share what I’ve learned through the last few years. My failures, my growth, my vulnerabilities, my insecurities, the help I got, and how I figured things out. I felt that this stuff could come of use to others facing similar battles. I wanted to serve and get my message out. Most of my life I was selfish. I wanted to be selfless. I screwed up, a lot, royally. I hurt many, broke hearts, and created a deep dark place for myself. Over time, I climbed out, learned from so many others, & work my ass off for my wife and kids so I can continue to grow and be better each day. I want to share that journey with others; the good and bad because I think it can help with those in similar stages of life. I believe this is a gift that God gave me to share & I am grateful to do so. I really like the life I am living and the person I am
RFP Podcast Episode #25 – Giving up lists for Lent!
How many of us out there have our to-do lists? How many of us are held captive to these? I am, and have been, for a long time, guided by these. Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly!! I have lists for my lists and it seems they just get longer and more things added to them. In this episode we talk about getting uncomfortable and giving up those lists.
“You only lose what you cling to.” – Buddha
RFP Podcast Episode #24 – Creating your life?
This episode is a follow on to my blog post from yesterday. After quite some time our vision of moving back to Arizona has become a reality. It was something my wife and I knew would happen, “someday,” many years from now, but we chose to make it a reality. The process to this point hasn’t been easy and we still have much of the journey to go, but the ride has been exciting and the opportunities for our family are endless.
“Progress comes when you feel the uncertainty and take action anyway.” – Tony Robbins
RFP Podcast Episode #23 – Habits! Commitments! Back at them!!!!!
This last week has been wonderful, emotional, hectic and disruptive. We’ve shared an experience together with family, friends, and strangers too. Yes, I am talking about the Philadelphia Eagles winning the Super Bowl. This might not mean much to many out there but it did to our family, our community, and our state. So, the past week we celebrated. This caused disruption in my habits and commitments as I noted in the last podcast. However, I am back at them today, like there was never that break. Today’s RFP episode talks about that a bit more. As I was catching up on emails and reading I came across these two-relevant links from James Clear that I believe reflects on some great things to study and practice to help create methods to form good habits, and stay consistent with them even after there is disruption in your life.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GECcjrYHH8w&__s=pjov2t7ps81bkqbvppbi
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RFP Podcast Episode #22 – Trading guilt for forgiveness?
What do you do when you have those days that you feel you are not living up to your standards? Those moments you may feel you are not being the best version of yourself? Are you your biggest critic? Do you have trouble forgiving yourself, moving on, & letting go? In this episode we talk about some of those moments I’ve experienced this week and how I am practicing embracing them.
“Just because it isn’t a priority today doesn’t mean it won’t be tomorrow.” – unknown
RFP Podcast Episode #21 – Changing things up a bit. Having fun. What do you notice?
No wisdom in this episode, no growth or content. Just sharing something I noticed last week to be a bit goofy and have a little fun. Want to start incorporating a bit more stuff like this to capture more of my life and the fun side of things. There are moments of growth in laughter and sometimes a smile can change someone’s day or life. Have fun with it.
“Be the reason someone smiles today.” - unknown
RFP Podcast Episode #20 – As a parent, sometimes our help may hurt?
Parents always want to help our children. We want to guide them, fix their problems, and help the disappointment go away. However, sometimes, when we try to fix the problem, we in effect, make the situation worse. It is not easy to let things go and leave it to our children to embrace the situation and handle it. Our kids are resilient and it is tough to have them grow through situations. We hate to see them go through pain but there are moments of growth and learning, that they need to experience, that we as parents need to let them. I had an experience with this yesterday and shared it in this episode.
“Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the criti
RFP Podcast Episode #19 – How do you define success?
How often do we hear “she is so success, she’s made a ton of money?” We’ve been conditioned, as a society, to view success as how much money, power, and fame others have. We get caught up with how “they” define success and that distracts us from coming up with our own definition. We’ve heard this before, we are all born with greatness within us and it us up to us to choose what that means. We talk a bit more about that in this episode.
“The success of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” – Bob Marley
RFP Podcast Episode #18 – Are you working on yourself?
In As a Man Thinketh, James Allen has a great quote, “men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves.” How often do we ask why and wish things could be different in our lives? We constantly compare what we have or don’t have to what others do have. Do you ever hope things in your life are different? We see all these great things in the media and that you “need” to have them now. But do we? How would having these great things improve our lives?
The real question is what are we doing, each day to be better? How are we looking to improve ourselves? We start making changes within and that which is outside of us will change. This episode gets into a little more about that.
“If you are moved by what others think there is a deficiency in what you think of yourself.” – Ed Mylett
RFP Podcast Episode #18 – Are you working on yourself?
In As a Man Thinketh, James Allen has a great quote, “men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves.” How often do we ask why and wish things could be different in our lives? We constantly compare what we have or don’t have to what others do have. Do you ever hope things in your life are different? We see all these great things in the media and that you “need” to have them now. But do we? How would having these great things improve our lives?
The real question is what are we doing, each day to be better? How are we looking to improve ourselves? We start making changes within and that which is outside of us will change. This episode gets into a little more about that.
“If you are moved by what others think there is a deficiency in what you think of yourself.” – Ed Mylett
RFP Podcast Episode #17 – Are you content?
This word makes me think. When we are content, we are grateful for what we have, where we are, and where we are going. However, when we are content, is that preventing us from growing, becoming better, and working to be the best version of ourselves? The past seven days this word showed up in a podcast and conversation and I reflect on it in this episode of Relentless Forward Progress.
"Don't let life let you forget why you started." - Inky Johnson
RFP Podcast Episode #16 - Is your routine off?
We’ve discussed the topic before and none of us are perfect and to try to live to that standard is futile. However, we are capable of constant growth and improvement. In our family, we work to live by the 80-20 rule!! Eighty percent of the time we work hard to honor our commitments, live up to the standards and principles we set for ourselves, and enjoy the process of becoming better each day. The other 20% we enjoy life; whatever that might mean us at that time. We touch on that a little in this episode.
RFP Podcast #15 – Having trouble getting started?
We are an intelligent race and we know, for the most part, what the right things to do are. For many of us, we know what we must do to get to where we want to go. Then how come we are reluctant to do those things? Are we afraid? Are we looking at the long road ahead? Is it just too hard??? Recently I had some of those moments starting up training again and share some of those nuggets here.
I also came across this great article from James Clear earlier this week that goes into detail about getting things started. https://jamesclear.com/professionals-and-amateurs
These are some great excerpts. “The ability to show up every day, stay consistent & do the work, especially when you don’t feel like it, is so valuable it is literally all you need to become better 99% of the time.” “When I do the things I must do to get better I get better.” There have been a lot of sets that I haven't felt like finishing,
RFP Podcast #14 – Prepare your kids to leave the house!!
Came across this article this morning from allprodad.com.
http://www.allprodad.com/5-ways-to-prepare-your-kids-for-life/
We work hard to try to prepare our children to leave the house. This link goes into some detail on that and the podcast digs a bit deeper on the topic.
“Act as if you do matter, because you do.” – Dr. Henry Cloud
What blueprint are you trying to live by?
We spend a lot of time trying to control the outcome of a situation. We try to live each day according to a specific blueprint or set of expectations. In reality life doesn’t operate that way or care about the blueprint. Things come into our life each day that are meant to drive us off course. How are we going to react to them? Are we going to let those circumstances control us or will be control that which is within our control?
“Stop wanting more than what you’ve already been given.” - unknown
RFP Podcast Episode #12 – “Who do we want to be in 2018?”
As we put a bow on 2017 and begin 2018 let’s think about what comfort zones do we want to move beyond. What risks and what uncertainty do we need to face to be the person we want to be at the end of the year? Remember to let go of the outcome and focus on the process and commitments every day.
“All that I want is what I can see and what I can see is right in front of me.” Matthew McConaughey
“Are you operating out of Love or Fear?”
We spend our time either operating out of fear or love. Those moments where we have doubt, hesitation, skepticism – that is fear. When we have gratitude, appreciation, kindness – that is love. Love is when we grow. Over the last two weeks I experienced moments of both, along with obstacles put in my bath as I work to grow each day. Those obstacles presented themselves in the form of “the enemy.” We will get into that and a few other topics in this episode.
“Fulfillment and joy are on the other side of the things we hate doing.” – David Goggins
RFP Podcast Episode #10 - “How do we judge others?” It has been said that we make a determination of someone within the first 15 seconds we meet them. How often have we missed out on meaningful, life-changing relationships because we judged someone by the way they look, what they said, how they shook her hand, or the engagement in the 1st 15 seconds? Are we losing out on some great relationships?
As we move into the last few weeks of 2017 we start to begin looking at what we want to have as our New Year’s resolutions. We typically start off in January with great intentions but life tends to happen and get in the way and by mid-February those resolutions are no longer existing. A few years ago, we started shifting our focus on goals & resolutions to daily commitments and habits we can create. In this episode, we discuss “Keystone Habits” and what we can do to change our shoulds to musts and identify those commitments that create the necessary habits to make us better in 2018.
In this episode, we talk about a couple of great experiences from the last week where another man shared his concerns, struggles, and insecurities with me and I did the same with another. I’ve been fortunate to be married to my best friend for almost 16 years and I’ve shared with her most of my insecurities and vulnerabilities. She has been an awesome resource for me and will continue to do so. However, there are times when I am looking for a different perspective; one from another male, to hear stories and experiences from them & how they may have handled similar challenges. I believe this is a great area for growth and improvement for us as men. We should feel comfortable and safe sharing our insecurities and vulnerabilities with one another because it is very likely we have experienced, are experiencing are going to be experiencing similar situations down the road.
Do we see our relationships with one another as a priority? Most people want to be heard & loved. We are focusing on the value we, as human beings, have in each other. It has been a challenging 7-10 days for us & we have been presented with many opportunities for growth as a family. This got me thinking about some past journal entries & thoughts that I wanted to share. Notice the similarities in the opinions of these 4 great authors. Dr. Henry Cloud - “People want to connect, create & grow.” Dr. Wayne Dyer - “People are more important than things.” Bob Goff - “Most want love, purpose, connection.” Brene’ Brown - “People want to connect, be loved & have a sense of belonging.”
“How do we react to our circumstances?”
It is very hard to control the circumstances and thoughts in our lives. Both come and go and many times we are wondering where they came from? Most of us human beings out there wait until those circumstances become intolerable before we realize a change needs to be made. For me it was being broke, depressed, completely defeated and having suicidal thoughts. We react to those circumstances and thoughts in different ways. Fear, anger, insecurity vs. love, appreciation, gratitude. Most of my life it was the former but the more vulnerable, courageous, and truthful I became the more aware I was of the fact that these are just thoughts. I can’t control them or the circumstances but I can prevent them from controlling me. Having a mission is key and being aware if your reactions are in line with that mission is very helpful in choosing love, appreciation, and gratitude over fear, anger, uncertainty & doubt.
“Stress happens
This episode of the RFP podcasts reflects on things we learned & reflected on over the Thanksgiving break. Human beings, each other, are the biggest assets we have. We spend a lot of time hiding behind masks to prove our worth to others when we are already worthy.
There is so much to be grateful for & this time of year we become more aware of that message. In this episode we talk a bit about that & how important it is to find that belief in ourselves.
As a father or parent in general, we want to be there for our kids & many times fix there problems. We hate to see them disappointed or let down. However, are we doing them a disservice if we are always solving their problems for them?
In this episode of the Relentless Forward Progress we talk about getting to this point & launching the podcast. It took many moments of getting uncomfortable until it became comfortable being vulnerable.