Wisdom with Friends: Recent Episodes
Wisdom with Friends
Life is complicated. Dave and Phil, two middle-aged dads and lifelong friends, try to break it down by sharing their life experiences as friends, fathers, and husbands. They've been through highs and lows and continue to grow, and together they share their wisdom with friends.
Oh, and the stuff we say here is totally us. Our past, current and future employers aren't part of it. If you want to hear about our day jobs you know where to find that.
Phil, Dave, and special guest Brian Kelly discuss the topic of divorce. Growing up as a child of it, going through it, and lessons learned from it.
In this episode, Phil and Dave look back at gaming with friends. How those experiences moved from single player to current day, where being able to play together is just expected in video games.
In this episode, Phil and Dave reminisce about the earliest Massively Multiplayer Online Games from the late 90s, and how much the genre continued to impact their lives through the 2000s.
Ultima Online - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultima_Online
Everquest (modern) - https://everquest.com
Everquest (classic community) - https://www.project1999.com/
Anarchy Online - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anarchy_Online
Dark Age of Camelot - https://darkageofcamelot.com/
City of Heroes - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/City_of_Heroes
Warhammer Online - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warhammer_Online:_Age_of_Reckoning
World of Warcraft Classic - https://worldofwarcraft.com/en-us/wowclassic
In this episode, Phil and Dave look at the entire timeline of video game consoles in the United States and their experiences using each of them.
Console Release Timeline: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Video_game_console
Console Prices (inflation adjusted): https://www.reddit.com/r/gaming/comments/92djek/console_prices_adjusted_for_inflation/
https://www.ign.com/articles/2016/10/04/comparing-the-price-of-every-game-console-with-inflation
1983 Video Game Crash: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Video_game_crash_of_1983
Consoles and Emulation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Texas_Instruments_TI-99/4A
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parsec_(video_game)
https://www.polygon.com/2018/2/7/16934180/super-nt-review-super-nintendo-snes-analogue
https://www.tomsguide.com/us/snes-classic-vs-super-nt,review-5145.html
https://www.analogue.co/
In this episode, Dave and Phil discuss growing older, how it's changed them as human beings, and what they find most important in their lives day to day now.
In this episode, Dave and Phil took some time to discuss the pandemic and the effect it has had on their personal and professional lives. They share their unique perspectives, Phil as an NYC commuter and Dave as a traveler who works from home when he's not on the road. They also discuss the impact on friends and family and other insights they've gained through this experience, trying to make the best of this challenging situation.
In this episode, we reminisce about our childhoods and discuss the differences between kids today and kids in the 80's. We tell stories about being latch-key-kids, sleepovers, and hitting the arcades. We also share some lessons on things we learned from our parents and ways we've changed our own parenting approach.
What we have learned about Careers:
It is easier to give career advice then to follow it for yourself.
Don't put your career in someone else's hands. Create a plan, and make it clear what your goals are.
Many jobs over your life; one career.
Money isn't everything in your career. While it helps, doing something you have passion for can change everything.
Work and life harmony means that sometimes your job will take away your personal time but at other times you are grabbing it back. It will never be in balance.
The best thing you can ever invest in is yourself. Always be learning.
What we've learned about goals: - Life is a marathon, not a sprint. - In order to achieve your goals, start big then work your way backwards to what's achievable, no matter how small, today. A 10 year plan gets broken into yearly plans, then broken down to monthly goals, broken down into day by day what you need to be doing. - Track your goals! Use a journal or spreadsheet. Dave has an entire Excel workbook of goals for life, health, career, even video games. - As human beings, we need to feel daily progress towards something. Tracking your goals and making progress on them will do more than just change where you are in life. It will help you feel happier about life's journey. - Small progress, over large periods of time, add up to huge changes. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, and be better, no matter how small the change. Over time you will see huge improvements.
What we've learned about fitness: - Need to make it a lifestyle, be consistent. - Every 24 hours is your battleground. Don’t worry about tomorrow. - Start with small, reachable goals. Start now! - Access to Fitness information, use YouTube and Reddit. - Track Fitness goals and stats with mobile apps. - Increase your lifespan through diet, sleep and exercise. - Journey never ends. A lifetime of learning: cardio, general health, strength training, flexibility, and more. Learn about your body and where you can take it.
Dave’s Fitness Journey: - 38” waist to 32” waist - XL shirt to M shirt - 34% bodyfat to 20% bodyfat
Before - July 2014, 40 years old, 208 lbs - http://bit.ly/davestart
5 years later – July 2019, 45 years old, 158 lbs - http://bit.ly/daveafter
Jump to:
- Fitness growing up – 3 mins 30 secs
- Dave’s fifty-pound weight loss journey - 5 mins 45 secs
- What, why, and apps to track your fitness – 13 mins 35 secs
- Understanding calories and weight loss/gain – 20 mins 41 secs
- Living longer through fit lifestyle – 29 mins 45 secs
- Lessons learned, where to start – 38 mins 25 secs
Links:
MyFitnessPal – to track calories - iOS – https://apps.apple.com/us/app/myfitnesspal/id341232718 - Google Play – https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.myfitnesspal.android
Zero – to track fasting - iOS – https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zero-fasting-tracker/id1168348542 - Google Play – https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zerofasting.zero
5x5 StrongLifts – to track weightlifting - iOS - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/stronglifts-5x5-weight-lifting/id488580022 - Google Play - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.stronglifts.app
Reddit Fitness Info - http://reddit.com/r/fitness - fitness wiki, workout plans - http://reddit.com/r/progresspics - motivational posts, people’s progress
Fit to Fat and Back Documentary by Paul “PJ” James – 2009 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ew7g7AqGqzo
Dave Book Recommendation: Younger Next Year: A Guide to Living Like 50 Until You're 80 and Beyond - http://amazon.com/Younger-Next-Year-Living-Beyond/dp/0761134239
Why bodybuilding at age 93 is a great idea: Charles Eugster at TEDx Zurich - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGgoCm1hofM
Phil Book Recommendation: The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage - https://www.amazon.com/Second-Rule-Transform-Confidence-Everyday/dp/1682612384
Jeff Cavaliere Athleane-X YouTube Channel – Putting Science Back in Strength - https://www.youtube.com/user/JDCav24/featured
A Free Total Daily Energy Expenditure (TDEE) Calculator - https://tdeecalculator.net/
What we've learned about change:
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Personal change requires commitment
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Relationships change over time
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Time management is crucial to managing change and accomplishing goals
Jump to:
Podcast Equipment - 1:58 mins
Weight Training – 5:30 mins
How Change Has Guided Our Careers – 12:15 mins
Some Ways the World Has Changed – 19:47 mins
Change In Relationships Over Time - 22:45 mins
Failure - 29 mins
Personal Change As We Face Our Mortality - 31:20 mins
Tips to Handle Time Management - 33:08 mins
Learning - 44:40 mins
Recent Lessons Learned – 51:15 mins
What we've learned about friendship:
- Invest in people, this means with your actual time
- Fill the need in others, even when they don't see it
- Get together and focus on what excites you
Jump to:
Social Media - 1:50 mins
Lost Memories - 9 mins
Being Geek in the 90's - 11 mins
Becoming a Parent - 16 mins
Gamer Friends - 20:34 mins
Respect vs Reciprocity 25 mins
Friendships Focus Areas - 33:20 mins
Keep a Positive Circle of Friends - 40:52 mins
Redefining Success - 48:04 mins
Additional Links:
The Chris Metzen Interview by Scott Johnson - https://soundcloud.com/scott-johnson-27/the-chris-metzen-interview